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Topic: The Basics of Good Hosting -- Dinner (Read 29507 times)

1. Invite guests at least a week in advance so they can plan accordingly.2. Keep any allergies, religious rules, and/or medical issues in mind when planning the menu.3. Serve a dish you have prepared successfully before. Now is not the time to experiment unless you are a foodservice professional. 4. Choose a dish that requires minimum attention once it meets the heat so that you spend as little time in the kitchen as possible.5. Be concious of portion control when shopping for groceries and drinks. Purchase bags of ice if your freezer doesn't make enough at once.6. Do as much food preparation as possible in advance. You should not be cleaning, trimming, chopping, marinating, or mixing as your guests begin arriving.7. Begin serving appetizers and drinks after putting away the first guests' coats.8. With a few major exceptions (e.g., Super Bowl Sunday) a moratorium should be called on computer use or television during the gathering. Background music, however, is usually desirable.9. Enjoy your guests!

10 Serve the meal on time (if a meal was indicated) if your hosting through meal time you must serve a meal

11 Provide a variety, some dishes should be meat free, some cheese free ,some vegetable free and some wheat free(serving just one casserole is allowed but should be announced). There should be a choice of non alcoholic beverages. Diet and regular soda's, milk, water , coffee/tea , water and one or two juices.

12 Do not use any ingredient in everything. Just because you can incorporate spinach into every component of every course doesn't mean you should.

Edited to clarify Apologies I was rushed and didn't phrase that well ....

I was thinking this ......... coffee or tea , water then one sweet drink (soda or juice or iced tea) and one not sweet/low sugar drink (diet soda or milk or iced tea) but if I used iced tea as the sweet and not sweet I'd add one non-caffeinated choice.

So for an 8 person party I'd end up with coffee , juice, water ,add your own sugar/sweeter iced tea.

Or I'd have coffee, water , regular/diet soda and juice , but I'd only buy 1or 2 liters of the diet and 1 liter of the juice based on past experience and 24 ish servings of the regular soda if it was a dry party. I'd wouldn't have 16-24 servings of each.

May I add to be sure to put out a new roll of toilet paper, a new bar of soap or a filled soap dispenser, and plenty of clean handtowels in the freshly cleaned bathroom? One of my pet peeves as a guest is an unprepared powder room.

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14. Close up any animals in a spare bedroom - they'd probably be more comfortable in there anyway (I say this as an animal lover. But animals and crowds and littleblack dresses can be a recipe for disaster)

15. Be psychologically prepared for adapting. Guest accidentally turns the oven on "self clean" while your beef wellington is cooking? Well, pizza on fancy plates can be nice too.

- Make your guests aware of any travel or parking issues, such as road construction in your area, or assigned spaces for your building. Provide a phone number and answer your phone on the day of the event.

- I know the host is not required to give out party details beforehand, but I think a head's up as to the size and scope of the event is nice. It's especially helpful to the shy or socially anxious to know what we're going to be walking into.

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I would edit number 5 to say that a good host should be aware that guests may take more than what they expected, so they should attempt to have enough for guests to have seconds if possible. (I might not offer extra steaks, but I probably would have one or two extra chicken breasts for really hungry guests.)

16. Recognize that all of these rules are subject to change depending on your party.

Some examples from my own experience: If you've got close friends, it's just fine to offer something new with the understanding that it may not turn out well. (We have guests on whom I regularly test dishes to see if it's something that's interesting but not great or something to include in our regular lineup of dishes to make.)

Or if your friends are aware that you don't normally have soda in the house, it's perfectly okay to not offer it at dinners. (I often do not offer anything but water, coffee, or tea to guests.)

Or if you tell people in advance, you can serve only one dish. I've served just hearty veggie-heavy soups/stews with crusty bread as the meal -- but I always tell this to guests in advance.

I'd like to just note on 11that sodas may not be necessary depending on your culture/group. I know here in Germany, if I provide water (both sparkling and regular), a couple of juices, coffee and tea and possibly milk, everyone is happy. I keep buying sodas and no one drinks them unless one of the guests is a kid

Does good hosting require such a large number of choices? I always see water as a default--if you are thirsty and don't like the other choices, you can always have a glass of water. And nearly every home is able to provide a glass of water.

So, since I have tea and coffee available all the time, I would probably buy one kind of soda, because I don't drink it myself and don't want it hanging around forever after the party/dinner. If I had juice in the fridge, I'd offer that, but I wouldn't go out of my way to buy it for the occasion. If I'm having just one or two people over and I know one of them always drinks a specific drink, say Diet Pepsi, I'll try to get some of that.

I guess my concern is that I'm not a restaurant. I don't have room for all these choices in my small kitchen. I don't have room to store the unused drinks. Is it really bad hosting to have water, coffee, tea and perhaps one other choice?

12. Serve meal at the stated time-if that has to change, notify your guests. Don't keep them sitting around waiting, even for late guests.13. Try to steer conversation away from really sensitive or inappropriate topics that you know will make guests uncomfortable.14. Make sure everyone has been introduced to everyone else.15. Keep relationships in mind when setting up seating arrangements-if the party is formal, social units need to not sit together; otherwise, allow them to do so but don't allow anyone to be left out of conversation. Keep incompatible guests apart from each other and be prepared to have guests who refuse to abide by your rules or behave criminally escorted away-by police if necessary.16. Don't let anyone dominate conversation or let conversation die out; if they do, help get it restarted.

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re3: You can even say, unless you are a good cook. I have personally come to the spot where I can make dishes I never tried before when I am hosting dinner, as long as I know what it has to look/taste like when finished.

May I add to be sure to put out a new roll of toilet paper, a new bar of soap or a filled soap dispenser, and plenty of clean handtowels in the freshly cleaned bathroom? One of my pet peeves as a guest is an unprepared powder room.

This can not be emphasised enough.I hate this as a guest myself, and I have to admit, that I ran out myself last summer when I had 30 people over Luckily it is only a 5 minute round trip to the night store, but still.

Does good hosting require such a large number of choices? I always see water as a default--if you are thirsty and don't like the other choices, you can always have a glass of water. And nearly every home is able to provide a glass of water.

So, since I have tea and coffee available all the time, I would probably buy one kind of soda, because I don't drink it myself and don't want it hanging around forever after the party/dinner. If I had juice in the fridge, I'd offer that, but I wouldn't go out of my way to buy it for the occasion. If I'm having just one or two people over and I know one of them always drinks a specific drink, say Diet Pepsi, I'll try to get some of that.

I guess my concern is that I'm not a restaurant. I don't have room for all these choices in my small kitchen. I don't have room to store the unused drinks. Is it really bad hosting to have water, coffee, tea and perhaps one other choice?

Apologies I was rushed and didn't phrase that well ....

I was thinking this .........So coffee or tea , water then one sweet drink (soda or juice or iced tea) and one not sweet/low sugar drink (diet soda or milk or iced tea) but if I used iced tea as the sweet and not sweet I'd add one non-caffeinated choice.

So for an 8 person party I'd end up with coffee , juice, water ,add your own sugar/sweeter iced tea.

Or I'd have coffee, water , regular/diet soda and juice , but I'd only buy 1or 2 liters of the diet and 1 liter of the juice based on past experience and 24 ish servings of the regular soda if it was a dry party. I'd wouldn't have 16-24 servings of each.

15. Be psychologically prepared for adapting. Guest accidentally turns the oven on "self clean" while your beef wellington is cooking? Well, pizza on fancy plates can be nice too.

POD. In GENERAL be flexible. yes it's your house, your rules. but sometimes a little bit of flexibility (assuming that your guest is not purposely being toxic) will go a loooong way. For example, when I plan a meal, I plan all aspects of the meal so that they go together. and sometimes a guest will show up with bread, or cake, or dessert or something - and i would be well within my rights to say "lovely! we'll enjoy this on tuesday" and put it away (and i have done that on ocassion), but often it wouldn't kill me to just serve 'their' dessert alongside or instead of mine. (again, not saying you have to, but if your dear old aunt brings her signature jelly roll, then why not?)