Around last October I met this chick at a party, she had just moved to the area from out of state when she broke up with her boyfriend of 8 years, We hung out a few times, I got a few handjobs as she said she didn't want to do more because she was worried about getting attached and really didn't want to be in another relationship at the moment. Anyway after hanging out once every week or two for a bit she basically told me she was going to be super busy with work over the holidays (she works in the jewelry industy) and wasn't going to be able to hang out.

Obviously, if she really wanted to make time to see me she would have. I texted her sparingly here and there over two months and she never responded. Finally about three weeks ago I texted her what was up? Why did she stop responding and to just give me an honest answer. She said she was busy and asked if i would like to get drinks the next night. The next night we hang out, have a good time. Some make out but she didn't want to hook up. She says she just wants to be 'friends' like but she says it like she is telling herself it, not really me. She just wants a casual thing. As in shes making out with me, but she is saying to herself "we are just friend" kiss kiss kiss..A week later we went out for my birthday and she met up and we went back to her place. I spent the night and we hooked up in the AM. Actually she ended up blowing me after I got my dick about half way down her V-hole and she made me take it out because she said "I feel like a slut, I don't do this sort of thing" ..

I leave her place and we text a bit and ask her if she wants to hang out this week. She says she is busy all week and wants to take a rain check for next week.

A few days later and I see her facebook and she is at game with some guy. I look at her wall and this guy has posted stuff on her wall many times alluding to times they hung out recently etc..

My guess is she is seeing this dude? Maybe casually? I don't know.

How should I proceed from here? Should I ask her about it? Pretend I know nothing?

Obviously she was way, way out of line. You were completely justified in your behavior. By the way that she reacted when you said it was over between you two, and the fact that she refused to delete the video - I am 100% convinced that she is power tripping. She enjoys having power over you, and enjoys seeing you threaten her with breaking up since she does not give a shit about you emotionally. You need to realize that this woman is not emotionally invested in you in the same way you are to her. She knows that having those videos gives her additional power over your behavior and knows that if shit hits the fan one day, she can use those against you (possibly forwarding them to the wrong people).

You need to understand that she is power tripping much like an unruly child, and you need to stop treating her like she has any worth. This is one of those few cases that I would advise you to take revenge. A good old fashioned vendetta to put her ass back in line.

This is what I would do to take the power out of her hands and into mine, step by step;

1. Realize that she doesn't have the feelings you have. Simply put, she is taking advantage of your emotions and your persona. The common reaction to this is anger, feel free to put on your favorite Sepultura song before moving to step two.

2. Calm down.

3. Buy this: http://www.spyville.com/button-camera.html and install in a short sleeve polo or similar hidden camera for the bedroom.

4. Take contact like you have done in the past to say you are sorry and want to take her out to dinner. Make sure she drinks like a mule.

5. Take one, cameras rolling, have sex.

The next morning, you will have changed. You now do not give a single fuck about her, it or them. Dump her and go on with your life. If that footage of you ever shows up anywhere, her ass will show up in a theater near you, on IMAX.

Hey bro, so it's coming up to 3 weeks now of no contact. you think I should just maintain no contact and wait for her to contact me first?

BTW- I saw a pic of her going clubbing having fun on her friend's facebook wall. not sure why but that kinda bothered me.

Have known this girl for probably 9 months. We're always pretty flirty and have lots of fun when we go out in groups. I have always been interested, but always blew it off as just friends. Her friend comes up to me the other day and says I need to take the girl out on a date because she likes me, but is scared to ask me. I asked her on Thursday to go out this upcoming week for dinner, which she agrees to. Since then its been suuuuper awkward, like she is holding back completely. We went out last night with a group and it wasn't how it was before I asked her. We are going out this week for the dinner, is she just nervous? I am confused.

I don’t have a GF now but when I did, my ex didn’t like to go down on me. In the future, if I ever have a relationship with a girl and same thing happens, how can I persuade her to give me a blow job without sounding like a pig?

I don’t have a GF now but when I did, my ex didn’t like to go down on me. In the future, if I ever have a relationship with a girl and same thing happens, how can I persuade her to give me a blow job without sounding like a pig?

Oral is a pretty standard part of sex. (Your ex is one of the few exceptions on the prude end of the spectrum, -definitely not the norm.)

You're not "a pig" for wanting it, so get rid of the mindset that you're somehow an asshole if you expect it to happen along with sexy time....

When you're screwing around, once your cock's in her hand, simply say, "I want you to suck me." (Not asking, -just saying what you want.)

Alternatively, if all clothes are off, just take hold of her & put her in the 69 position with you and it will happen.

Around last October I met this chick at a party, she had just moved to the area from out of state when she broke up with her boyfriend of 8 years, We hung out a few times, I got a few handjobs as she said she didn't want to do more because she was worried about getting attached and really didn't want to be in another relationship at the moment. Anyway after hanging out once every week or two for a bit she basically told me she was going to be super busy with work over the holidays (she works in the jewelry industy) and wasn't going to be able to hang out.

Obviously, if she really wanted to make time to see me she would have. I texted her sparingly here and there over two months and she never responded. Finally about three weeks ago I texted her what was up? Why did she stop responding and to just give me an honest answer. She said she was busy and asked if i would like to get drinks the next night. The next night we hang out, have a good time. Some make out but she didn't want to hook up. She says she just wants to be 'friends' like but she says it like she is telling herself it, not really me. She just wants a casual thing. As in shes making out with me, but she is saying to herself "we are just friend" kiss kiss kiss..A week later we went out for my birthday and she met up and we went back to her place. I spent the night and we hooked up in the AM. Actually she ended up blowing me after I got my dick about half way down her V-hole and she made me take it out because she said "I feel like a slut, I don't do this sort of thing" ..

I leave her place and we text a bit and ask her if she wants to hang out this week. She says she is busy all week and wants to take a rain check for next week.

A few days later and I see her facebook and she is at game with some guy. I look at her wall and this guy has posted stuff on her wall many times alluding to times they hung out recently etc..

My guess is she is seeing this dude? Maybe casually? I don't know.

How should I proceed from here? Should I ask her about it? Pretend I know nothing?

Give me your words of advice oh wise one..

My fellow collegue in the arts of Diogenes,

You did some things wrong, and I will try to adress them for you in a black on white manner.

You asked her out way too many times. If you look in chapter 7 in the Holy TPD book of conquering women thou will find this rule: "Thou shall not ask her out more than twice if she declines."

Much more importantly however, I think you got a false impression of what she is looking for, and therefore gave off the wrong vibe. Maybe you thought she was looking for something serious and you tried to give a more serious impression upon her. This could be the reason that she backed off. Maybe she is into bad boys? Maybe she is looking for something who will choke her with a pillow while doing it doggy

This is hard to know. There are two solutions;

A: You try to analyze her initially and pick up signals, then adjust your behaviour to what she wants (without becoming needing or treating her like a princess).

B: You act confident, nonchalant, and give no signals whatsoever that you are looking for anything serious. You are confident as a single man, and you could die as a single man while being happy as shit, drinking Jamesons, shooting guns and kicking kangaroos in the nuts. This type of person is immensely attractive for women because he is in fact, hard to get. If you find it hard to "become" this type of person, fake it til you make it. What you think, you shall become.

I would advise you to take route B, as it is my personal preference, it's easier, less upkeep, and you will have a constant rotation of 2-6 women.

With all of this said and reading your last questions. If you take my advice to heart this is the proper mindset and answer for your questions:

Q: My guess is she is seeing this dude? Maybe casually? I don't know.

A: Who gives a flying donkey dick? There are literally millions of women around you. Do not think like that at all, what she does is of no concern for you because she isn't worth jack shit until she makes herselves worthy to you.

Q: How should I proceed from here? Should I ask her about it? Pretend I know nothing?

A: You will proceed by living your life as a happy man with every door in the world open to you, that includes women. You simply do not care if she is seeing someone, she is worth nothing to you.

Obviously she was way, way out of line. You were completely justified in your behavior. By the way that she reacted when you said it was over between you two, and the fact that she refused to delete the video - I am 100% convinced that she is power tripping. She enjoys having power over you, and enjoys seeing you threaten her with breaking up since she does not give a shit about you emotionally. You need to realize that this woman is not emotionally invested in you in the same way you are to her. She knows that having those videos gives her additional power over your behavior and knows that if shit hits the fan one day, she can use those against you (possibly forwarding them to the wrong people).

You need to understand that she is power tripping much like an unruly child, and you need to stop treating her like she has any worth. This is one of those few cases that I would advise you to take revenge. A good old fashioned vendetta to put her ass back in line.

This is what I would do to take the power out of her hands and into mine, step by step;

1. Realize that she doesn't have the feelings you have. Simply put, she is taking advantage of your emotions and your persona. The common reaction to this is anger, feel free to put on your favorite Sepultura song before moving to step two.

2. Calm down.

3. Buy this: http://www.spyville.com/button-camera.html and install in a short sleeve polo or similar hidden camera for the bedroom.

4. Take contact like you have done in the past to say you are sorry and want to take her out to dinner. Make sure she drinks like a mule.

5. Take one, cameras rolling, have sex.

The next morning, you will have changed. You now do not give a single fuck about her, it or them. Dump her and go on with your life. If that footage of you ever shows up anywhere, her ass will show up in a theater near you, on IMAX.

Hey bro, so it's coming up to 3 weeks now of no contact. you think I should just maintain no contact and wait for her to contact me first?

BTW- I saw a pic of her going clubbing having fun on her friend's facebook wall. not sure why but that kinda bothered me.

My friend,

I truly find it amazing that you are keeping count on how many weeks there has been. It bothered you because she is still worth something to you, this is an illusion.

Try to think out of the box, take her out of the equation and go live your life. Go out and have fun everyday, in some manner. When you achieve the mindset, the women will follow. It's like a damn aura.

Wake up tomorrow, go take a swim or hit the gym, take a walk, sit somewhere with plenty of beautiful women and read a book, be completely comfortable. Make eye contact with people, smile, all these things will start to develop you as a person. And when you surround yourself with beautiful women in everyday settings, it just blows any ex girlfriends out of your mind like a blunderbuss. Also this makes you comfortable for future dates.

MMApostle - Have known this girl for probably 9 months. We're always pretty flirty and have lots of fun when we go out in groups. I have always been interested, but always blew it off as just friends. Her friend comes up to me the other day and says I need to take the girl out on a date because she likes me, but is scared to ask me. I asked her on Thursday to go out this upcoming week for dinner, which she agrees to. Since then its been suuuuper awkward, like she is holding back completely. We went out last night with a group and it wasn't how it was before I asked her. We are going out this week for the dinner, is she just nervous? I am confused.

I think you were behaving a little too gentlemanly for her tastes. Simple solution; Call her, tell her the dinner is off but you'd love to take her out bowling, playing pool, riding a canoe, go to a bathhouse, whatever that isn't formal. Avoid candle light dinners or going to the movies, too cliché and easy places to get socially awkard. Bars are also great as the alcohol makes people relax and open up.

That will make her lighten up a bit and relax a lot more. This will ease things for you.

I don’t have a GF now but when I did, my ex didn’t like to go down on me. In the future, if I ever have a relationship with a girl and same thing happens, how can I persuade her to give me a blow job without sounding like a pig?

There are some girls out there who are prudes and some who don't want to do it because they are semi-feminist and see it as demeaning. If she is hesitant of doing it, the chances of her actually doing it WELL is zilch. Personally if the sex isn't great, I don't waste my time. Sex is important to me and blowsjobs are essential.

Also, never, ever, push down her head. Let her kiss you on the neck, tell her to go further down, she will get it and you won't sound like a pig. If she says the standard "I don't usually do this type of thing", you respond with "Neither do I, it's exciting!"

Let things unfold from there, most likely you will get what you want, if you don't, cut her off nicely.

Went out to the bar Thursday night and ended up seeing this girl I go to school with as well as work with during our clinical hours and who I actually really like. We get a long great and everything. So Thursday night we end up getting pretty drunk, she invites me back to her place where we have sex that night and the next morning. No awkward silence or anything like that. It's a great morning where I give her a rub down for like an hour and I even go down on her for quite a bit.

Friday and Saturday at clinical we talk a little bit but nothing serious and I ask her what she was up to over the weekend where she just says "drinking". I leave it at that and see her late Saturday night where she is clearly intoxicated and again I just talk to her with a little and then she leaves the bar.

I see this girl every day and would really like another chance at her.

I don’t have a GF now but when I did, my ex didn’t like to go down on me. In the future, if I ever have a relationship with a girl and same thing happens, how can I persuade her to give me a blow job without sounding like a pig?

There are some girls out there who are prudes and some who don't want to do it because they are semi-feminist and see it as demeaning. If she is hesitant of doing it, the chances of her actually doing it WELL is zilch. Personally if the sex isn't great, I don't waste my time. Sex is important to me and blowsjobs are essential.

Also, never, ever, push down her head. Let her kiss you on the neck, tell her to go further down, she will get it and you won't sound like a pig. If she says the standard "I don't usually do this type of thing", you respond with "Neither do I, it's exciting!"

Let things unfold from there, most likely you will get what you want, if you don't, cut her off nicely.

Went out to the bar Thursday night and ended up seeing this girl I go to school with as well as work with during our clinical hours and who I actually really like. We get a long great and everything. So Thursday night we end up getting pretty drunk, she invites me back to her place where we have sex that night and the next morning. No awkward silence or anything like that. It's a great morning where I give her a rub down for like an hour and I even go down on her for quite a bit.

Friday and Saturday at clinical we talk a little bit but nothing serious and I ask her what she was up to over the weekend where she just says "drinking". I leave it at that and see her late Saturday night where she is clearly intoxicated and again I just talk to her with a little and then she leaves the bar.

I see this girl every day and would really like another chance at her.

How should I approach this?

From your post it is very clear that she is just looking for casual one night stands. She got drunk, slept with you, showed no signs of remorse the day after and seems to be out drinking regularly.

If you want to make her your fuck buddy, which is your best chance at any type of relationship with her at the moment, your mindset is key. Don't show any signs of emotion other than complete male dominance, look her in the eyes, be direct, don't say please etc. I have no understanding as of why you gave her a one hour rub down and even went down on her. It's a give and take thing, unless a woman was doing headspins and handstands during sex, I wouldn't do such a thing.

In the worst case scenario, you showed her that you are immensely grateful for her having sex with you. It should be the other way around.

Do not fall in love with this woman, be direct, bold, and wear a condom.

Loydchristmas -
Hey Persian can you recommend a few books? Basically just girl and relationship type stuff.

Not really.

I don't read any books on how to attract women and such, I have read "The Game" and some other one for entertainment solely in the past.

The only way to learn is to go out there and get comfortable talking to women, getting that confidence, and ultimately, how to see signs and react approprietly. There will be times when you make a fool out of yourself, you might come off as awkard, you will get shot down again and again. It is through failing that you will learn.

Theory is good, but it is immensely overvalued, go out there and fail until you see the pitfalls before they happen.

If you can't figure out your situation with some particular woman, post in here and i'll help you out.

How do you handle questions such as "Are you seeing other girls?" "When is the last time you had sex?" "Are you looking for a relationship?"

These are the questions I have been fielding recently. Are you open and honest that you have a rotation going or are you secretive?

These are common questions to make you reveal who you are inside and how other women see you. She wants to know if you are desirable to other women.

I like to give flighty answers with a touch of teasing if appropriate and possible.

Q: "Are you seeing other girls?"Answer 1: "I might be." (flighty)Answer 2. "Plenty." (bold)Answer 3. "I see girls all the time, I saw FOUR at the grocery store today..." (Teasing)

"When is the last time you had sex"?

Answer 1: "1997, just before I got castrated" (flighty)Answer 2. "When did you have your last period"? (bold)Answer 3. "You mean with a...human?" (teasing)

"Are you looking for a relationship"?

This one has a standard answer: "I'm not looking for anything, I just flow with the go and take things as they come". You want to show her that you are comfortable standing on your own two legs but you are open to anything that might happen.

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