Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 12:30:59 GMT -5

There's a time when that sounds appealing, then there's a time when it sounds like a pain.

No roommate is ever what they say they are in add, that they are in real life.

I think before you get a roommate you should meet with them first, over lunch...maybe even several times, after all you will be sharing roof together.

When you are someones roommate or someone becomes your roommate, there's a lot of trust involved.In college, or college towns, having a roommate or being some ones roommate is almost second nature and expected.

But in none collegiate enviornments or communities, the whole roommate thing can or tends, to take on different dynamics.

With many facing hard economic times, I think this topic is worth exploring...the pros and cons of living with a roommate...

Is it better to live alone and struggle economically, or is it better to have half the rent paid by roommate, yet put up with misery?

Lot's more to follow...and many angles to explore.

People want roommates for different reasons...

We'll also explore how different adds are worded, and why they're worded that way.Good adds, bad adds, and red flag adds...stay tuned...

Post by X factor on Aug 17, 2013 9:41:42 GMT -5

Their rules seem more strict than living in a Catholic Boarding house...but that can be good.

After all, it's a room you want, a safe place to bed down at night.

And the fact these two want to run you're credit and background, shows they are 'business' when it comes to living arrangements...

To bad there's no 'test' run...when moving in with others...

It's like you sign agreement, then just move in...what if 3 hours later you're fighting?

That's why it's wise to first get to know people before you just move in...go out to dinner, or some other event...Get to know who you're about to move in with, it could save you both issues down the road...

I mean unless the black guy shows up wearing a tie and suit, and displaying Harvard graduate degree, it can be difficult to over come the negative dislike and stereotypes many have of younger black males.

Even other blacks who run 'for rent' adds, secretly hope a Justin Bieber type responds to add...

You know, some clean cut guy or gal, someone who you feel you've grown up watching on TV...someone who doesn't impulsively scare you or make you 'wonder'...

A wholesome pop culture safe type...(of course this is all based on perception).

If you show up looking like Justin Beiber, people are like 'Hell ya you can move in, I'll even cut your first months rent in half'...

But if you show up as a male of color, particularly a AA male...this is the only image they will see

You could be dressed nicely, speak decent, don't matter...this is the image they will conjure up in their mind of you.

I mean it saddens me that someone has to let others know they're Asian, black and white (mixed).To be in that phase where you're not established enough to sign lease, don't earn enough to buy home...but just kind of stuck in that in between time of youth and getting it together.

But now days, unless you have it together, and high enough income, and stability with job, proof of employment, there's really not many places you can live, other than someone allowing you to live with them in roommate situation.

Here's a Veteran who needs a home, room, that the system doesn't see fit to give them, so instead must sub lease or do the roommate thing...or it could be by choice. They are a student, but no age is given.