The Authentic Man Podcast Serieshttp://tori-ufondu.com
Wed, 13 Dec 2017 11:57:50 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.1Tori Ufondu, Mindset Breakthrough Coach is well-known for championing self-awareness and lasting change through intensive, uniquely supportive sessions. <br />
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Listen here for honest, open and insightful discussions and interviews on success, fulfilment, authenticity, business, careers, spirituality and being the best man you can. <br />
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009: Mark Greenehttp://tori-ufondu.com/mark-greene/
Mon, 14 Mar 2016 19:26:15 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=3879http://tori-ufondu.com/mark-greene/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/mark-greene/feed/0<p>Mark Greene is the Executive Editor of the Good Men Project and author of the new book, <span style="color: #000000;"><i>Remaking Manhood</i></span>, a collection of articles on American culture, relationships, family and parenting. Mark’s work has a strong focus on masculinity… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/mark-greene/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Mark Greene is the Executive Editor of the Good Men Project and author of the new book, Remaking Manhood, a collection of articles on American culture, relationships, family and parenting. Mark’s work has a strong focus on masculinity… Read the rest
Skype interview 14.3.16

]]>Tori Ufonduclean21:25008: Bob Burghttp://tori-ufondu.com/bob-burg/
Thu, 09 Apr 2015 10:54:52 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=2359http://tori-ufondu.com/bob-burg/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/bob-burg/feed/0<p>Bob Burg is a sought-after speaker at corporate conferences and for entrepreneurial events. He regularly addresses audiences ranging in size from 50 to 16,000 – sharing the platform with notables including today’s top thought leaders,… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/bob-burg/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Bob Burg is a sought-after speaker at corporate conferences and for entrepreneurial events. He regularly addresses audiences ranging in size from 50 to 16,000 – sharing the platform with notables including today’s top thought leaders,… Read the rest
Although for years he was best known for his book Endless Referrals, over the past few years it’s his business parable, The Go-Giver (coauthored with John David Mann) that has captured the heart and imagination of his readers.

Skype interview 09.4.15

]]>Tori Ufonduclean25:23007: Ted Coinéhttp://tori-ufondu.com/ted-coine/
Mon, 02 Feb 2015 17:21:50 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=2240http://tori-ufondu.com/ted-coine/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/ted-coine/feed/0<p><strong>Ted Coiné </strong>is one of the most influential business experts on the Web, top-ranked by Forbes and Huffington Post for his leadership, customer experience, and social media influence. A keynote speaker, author of A World Gone Social, three-time… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/ted-coine/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Ted Coiné is one of the most influential business experts on the Web, top-ranked by Forbes and Huffington Post for his leadership, customer experience, and social media influence. A keynote speaker, author of A World Gone Social, three-time… Read the restPart 1: Ted Coiné is one of the most influential business experts on the Web, top-ranked by Forbes and Huffington Post for his leadership, customer experience, and social media influence. A keynote speaker, author of A World Gone Social, three-time CEO and Chairman and Founder of SwitchandShift.com. Ted is now Chief Relationship Officer for meddle.it, the next generation of blogging.Tori Ufonduclean24:14006: Rich Simmondshttp://tori-ufondu.com/rich-simmonds/
Mon, 12 Jan 2015 09:46:29 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=1997http://tori-ufondu.com/rich-simmonds/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/rich-simmonds/feed/0<p class="p2"><b>Rich Simmonds, </b>is described as a rule breaker and change maker, voted by Forbes as a top 10 social influencer in Africa and a top 100 influencer in the world. He’s a global specialist in social communication, strategic social interventions,… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/rich-simmonds/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Rich Simmonds, is described as a rule breaker and change maker, voted by Forbes as a top 10 social influencer in Africa and a top 100 influencer in the world. He’s a global specialist in social communication, strategic social interventions,… Read the restRich Simmonds, is described as a rule breaker and change maker, voted by Forbes as a top 10 social influencer in Africa and a top 100 influencer in the world. He's a global specialist in social communication, strategic social interventions, very proud father of two teenage sons and passionate about creating meaningful social change.Tori Ufonduclean22:45005: Cameron Conawayhttp://tori-ufondu.com/cameron-conaway/
Thu, 11 Dec 2014 14:45:52 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=1976http://tori-ufondu.com/cameron-conaway/#commentshttp://tori-ufondu.com/cameron-conaway/feed/2<p><strong>Cameron Conaway,</strong> also known as the Warrior Poet, is a former MMA fighter, an award-winning poet and the 2014 Emerging Writer-in-Residence at Penn State Altoona. While serving as the Poet-in-Residence at the Mahidol Oxford Tropical Medicine… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/cameron-conaway/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Cameron Conaway, also known as the Warrior Poet, is a former MMA fighter, an award-winning poet and the 2014 Emerging Writer-in-Residence at Penn State Altoona. While serving as the Poet-in-Residence at the Mahidol Oxford Tropical Medicine… Read the restCameron Conaway, also known as the Warrior Poet, is a former MMA fighter, an award-winning poet and the 2014 Emerging Writer-in-Residence at Penn State Altoona. While serving as the Poet-in-Residence at the Mahidol Oxford Tropical Medicine Research Unit in Thailand, Conaway wrote Malaria, Poems, the first full-length book of contemporary poetry about malaria’s impact on the world. He’s a Rotary International End Polio Now “HistoryMaker” and a former Executive Editor at The Good Men Project. He currently serves on the Editorial Board at Slavery Today.Tori Ufonduclean31:59004: Preston Smileshttp://tori-ufondu.com/preston-smiles/
Sat, 16 Aug 2014 10:18:45 +0000http://tori-ufondu.com/?p=1815http://tori-ufondu.com/preston-smiles/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/preston-smiles/feed/0<p><strong>Preston Smiles</strong> is a motivational speaker, writer and co-founder of The Love Mob.</p>
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<audio class="wp-audio-shortcode" id="audio-1815-15" preload="none" style="width: 100%;" controls="controls"><source type="audio/mpeg" src="http://tori-ufondu.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Preston-Smiles-Final.mp3?_=15" /><a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Preston-Smiles-Final.mp3">http://tori-ufondu.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Preston-Smiles-Final.mp3</a></audio>… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/preston-smiles/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a>Preston Smiles is a motivational speaker, writer and co-founder of The Love Mob. Skype interview 13.08.14 Audio http://tori-ufondu.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Preston-Smiles-Final.mp3… Read the rest
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What for you is the difference between success and fulfilment?
Preston: Hmmm, they go hand in hand for me. So, the best way I can answer that question is, when I’m in alignment with my true nature – which is love, which is peace, which is joy, which is unity – when I’m in alignment with that, everything is a success and everything feels like I’m fulfilled. So, those things go hand in hand for me.
When you look in the mirror what do you see?
Preston: When I look in the mirror I see a king. I see spirit, I see made in the image and likeness of God. I see a beautiful, perfect being living in its imperfections.

Sun or the Moon?
Preston: Both. The answer is both. Which one do I play in more? The Sun – I’m a morning baby. So I really love, early mornings and I really love surfing.
–How early are we talking, 7am?
Preston: Yeah like 5 or 6.
-Wow, that is early
Preston: It is, it is – although I went the other day, no the day before yesterday, I went on a night hike, and I wandered off into – basically some wilderness and I was sitting there with a couple friends, and we were in pitch blackness and it was a Super-moon. So the moon’s out, it’s gigantic, and then all of a sudden we hear howling, and all of these – like a hundred coyotes were hunting, and they were communicating with each other from across the canyon – and it was this magical experience – we left ‘cos we didn’t want to get eaten by a hundred coyotes, but it was a beautiful experience and I’m going to do it again.
-Wow, and where was that?
Preston: This was at Griffith Park in Los Angeles, California.

Can you give me one moment in your life, that if you absolutely had to, you would live over and over again?
Preston: If I absolutely had to – woah, that’s an absolutely fantastic question. I’ve never in my life been asked that, in that way. There was a moment, when I was travelling a couple years ago through Panama, where I was hiking through the jungle. I was about an hour in and it was raining, but it was sunny and it’s jungle so you could barely see to the sun but it was raining, I had mud up to my knees, and I got to this clearing, right where I was going to go surfing and I looked – and all I saw was a sea of green, moving up and down like a wave across the jungle. And I couldn’t… I wiped my eyes and I was like, what am I seeing? And as I focused in a little more I realised that I was looking at like one trillion leafcutter ants moving from one house to another. So it was like literally the floor – just imagine the entire ground was moving, it was like a sea of green – trillions of ants – moving their house – in the middle of the jungle, and I was the only person there to see it. And it just blew me away that, that this was my life, that this kid – you know basically born in Compton California – is now in the jungle about to go surfing, looking at millions of leafcutter ants, while it’s raining and sunny, and he’s in the jungle. I would live that over again.

What’s your definition of Manhood?
Preston: My definition of manhood is, being able to dance between the masculine and the feminine when necessary.

How important is your work to who you are as an individual?
Mark: I think it’s huge, I think if you think about our identities, our identities are very important to us and a large chunk of our identity is composed of what we spend our time doing everyday. And, I think if you’re in a job or work that you’re not completely aligned with, that doesn’t align with your values or that you don’t enjoy, that you’re not passionate about or that you don’t feel strongly about – that is reflected in your identity, that’s reflected in how you feel about yourself. I mean if you think about it, if you’re spending 50% of your waking hours doing something that you don’t believe in and that you don’t feel good about then that’s you know, essentially 50% or a large chunk of your identity that you don’t feel good about. So, I think it’s huge and it’s a very fundamental thing for men to evaluate in themselves, you know, beyond just getting the pay cheque or whatever.

If in 10 years time, you could see one difference in yourself, what would it be?
Mark: Something I’d like to change in myself in the next ten years – well, I’m still – I’m 30 so, one big thing for me, and this is something that I, it’s something that I’m just starting, and I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this but I would like to be calmer in ten years. I’ve spent a lot of time feeling like I always need to accomplish something else, that I need to travel to more places, make more money and do these amazing things and have more friends and it’s – I feel myself slowly letting go of that and I feel like you know, by the time I’m 40 or so I would like to just be very comfortable and calm with who I am and what my life is and not feel like I need to constantly add stuff to it all the time.

Fill in the blanks… If I didn’t have _____ life so far would have been a lot harder.
Mark: If I didn’t have the willingness to fail, then life ironically would have be much harder.
-Have you failed at a lot of things?
Mark: Oh yah! The interview’s not long enough for that!

One thing you will never compromise on?
Mark: My dignity and my self-respect

If you could hold one person’s hand, between both of yours – perhaps someone you’ve met or someone you haven’t – and send them an abundant amount of thanks simply for being who they are, who would it be?
Mark: I would actually say my father. Although it’s interesting because it’s – he’s been a good example in some ways but I’ve always had a very strained relationship with him and I think that strained relationship has been very educational. Not just from ways I look up to him and good examples he can set, but also in ways that I don’t want to become and I don’t want to be. Dealing with that conflict and dealing with that struggle – and he tries so hard but like it just doesn’t, it just doesn’t click. So I would like to honour that. Because you know, it’s an imperfect relationship and it probably always will be but it’s made me who I am.

What percentage of your friends have seen you at both your emotional lowest and highest?
Mark: I would say about – I’m thinking about you know, close friends or like good friends not just casual friends – I would say 50% maybe.
-That’s quite high.
Mark: I think if you had asked me this 6 or 7 y...]]>Tori Ufonduclean002: Gary Wardhttp://tori-ufondu.com/gary-ward/
Tue, 20 May 2014 09:15:32 +0000http://the-authentic-man.com/?p=1329http://tori-ufondu.com/gary-ward/#respondhttp://tori-ufondu.com/gary-ward/feed/0<p><strong>Gary Ward</strong> began his career at Dalgety Spillers Management rising to Divisional Management Accountant before leaving to join the Granada group. From Group Accounting Manager he became Finance Director of the Motorway Services and hospitality… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/gary-ward/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Gary Ward began his career at Dalgety Spillers Management rising to Divisional Management Accountant before leaving to join the Granada group. From Group Accounting Manager he became Finance Director of the Motorway Services and hospitality… Read the rest
Skype Interview 14.05.14

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What do you think is the difference between a successful career and a successful life?
Gary: From a family perspective, I’ve always been able to say, that’s work, that’s family. And obviously in the early days ‘that’ was a partner, it became a wife and then a family. So all the way through my early twenties into my early thirties, I didn’t have a family but I had a wife, and therefore family/friends/socialising was a different thing to work and I was able to very quickly identify what was work and what was family and continue that – and do continue that – all the way through my life. I’m not saying that work doesn’t impinge on the family and at some stage if you want to be successful – you know there was a time when putting in the hours was what it took but that was a long time ago – having said that, to be successful in what you do, you do have to put the hours in. Something will come up, you know? You’ll be getting on with something and if you are focused – you see I have this ability to focus, I have the ability to switch off which is great, thank goodness for that – but I have this ability to focus and if I focus, I go, I get on with it and I go for it. Now that’s sometimes, and doing that you can get carried away, you can let time run away with you, but I have on the whole known when to stop and say ‘oh, enough, I’ve got to get out of here, I’ve got another life, there’s another part of me apart from work’. Now some have said that I’m a workaholic, but I’m not, I’m not. I just like to get – I want to get the job done. I am someone that will say ‘Right, I’m gonna do this to 110% of my ability’ and therefore I’m gonna get on with it. Because of my focus, I am able to cut to the chase, and I can say ‘hang on, that’s not relevant, that’s relevant, we’ve got to sort that out’ and look ahead, I’ve always been able to plan ahead and think ‘well if that’s where we’re heading, this is what we’ve gotta do.’ But in terms of your question, you know coming back to that, I think it boils down to just knowing what the difference is and that’s very important. Otherwise you go mad, you lose it, you go mad, you think what?? I know a lot of people that are still working all the hours, and they’re in senior jobs. I mean these people – If I’d have stayed doing the job that I was doing, I would have been FD of a major organisation, corporate organisation. That would have been my path, but maybe we’ll get onto that later, I didn’t want to end up there, I chose a different path – but those people that are doing the job now really have given up a lot of their family life, I know they have, I know them. They really do work all the way through a weekend, they never clock off, they’re always on call. You know, they may be being paid £350K a year and all the perks and status that goes with it, but they don’t have a family life, they really have, as far as I’m concerned just lost it, you know? And if that’s what’s happening to people out there, then you have to sit back and say ‘Is this me?’ It might be! And then that’s fine, it’s okay. But it’s not me.]]>Tori Ufonduclean001: Brad Burtonhttp://tori-ufondu.com/brad-burton/
Thu, 24 Apr 2014 07:13:53 +0000http://the-authentic-man.com/?p=1185http://tori-ufondu.com/brad-burton/#commentshttp://tori-ufondu.com/brad-burton/feed/7<p><strong>Brad Burton</strong> is the founder and MD of a business networking company that runs 5,000+ events every year in the UK alone. Noted for his ‘take me as I am, or not at all’ approach, he’s also written the highest rated and reviewed business books… <a href="http://tori-ufondu.com/brad-burton/" class="read-more">Read the rest</a></p>Brad Burton is the founder and MD of a business networking company that runs 5,000+ events every year in the UK alone. Noted for his ‘take me as I am, or not at all’ approach, he’s also written the highest rated and reviewed business books… Read the rest
Skype interview 21.4.14

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What do you think is the difference between a successful career and a successful life?
Brad: I think they’re one in the same, this is what I’ve realised. In life, this whole myth about the work life balance, that you work and you close your laptop at 5 0’clock and then you go and do this – you know, I think this is an out and out myth. If I wanna work at 3 0’clock in the morning I will do, if I wanna play computer games until 3 o’clock in the afternoon I will do. That to me is the secret of success and the fact that I can go to my kid’s sports days and I don’t have to ask anyone’s opinion as to whether I can go do this or that. The success I have now is the ability to do what I want when I want, a business that sustains a life rather than a life that sustains a business, which is what most people end up doing, they end up with this wonderfully successful business at the expense of their own personal life.

What’s the main difference between you now and the you 10 years ago?
Brad: Ten years ago, if you’d have asked me what my life was about, what my goals were about, I wanted a ten bedroom mansion, I wanted an Olympic size swimming pool, an apache gunship with hellfire rockets. But now, I think my goal is to do what I want, when I want. It’s fundamentally less about stuff, it was always about stuff, my barometer of success was always about stuff, based on the car I’ve got, on having granite kitchen surfaces, or just shit. But now that focus is about me doing what I want when I want and that’s what true life is about. I think I’ve moved away from stuff and now it’s more about my legacy, what I’m creating, what positive I’m doing. My motivation is to make a positive difference and I seem to be doing that now with my speaking and my books and what have you, so I think that’s what it is, making a positive difference and if you make some money on the way and you create a life that you want then you’ve cracked it, and that’s what’s happened now. So rather than it all being about money and ‘I want business success, a Porsche’, now it’s ‘yes I want success, but I’m not prepared for it to be at any cost’. There’s a personal price to pay for success and I think I’ve paid that price. I was ill a couple of years ago, I realised then that actually what’s important in life isn’t the material things, isn’t stuff, it’s health and relationships, and actually wealth is so far down the pecking order. So that’s the difference I think, so if you consider you’re captain of a ship and over on your left here is an island of health and relationships and on your right is an island with wealth, which one would you full-speed ahead towards? Because 10 years ago I was full-speed ahead towards business success and wealth at the expense of my health and personal relationships. I think I’ve got that balance now, I’ve cracked it on that front.

Fill in the blanks: If I didn’t have _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ life so far would have been a lot harder.
Brad: Tenacity. If I didn’t have tenacity. And I’ll tell you what, the other thing, business naivety. That’s carried me beautifully, this almost unwavering self belief that actually has been misguided at times, has carried me. Sometimes that’s all you’ve got in life, unwavering self belief or misguided belief that you’re destined for greatness,]]>Tori Ufonduclean38:15