The Best Marriage Advice Ever Received

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In January I took to social media and asked married women to share their favorite date night ideas. That turned into an epic post of over 50 date ideas! I had so much fun reading through everything and putting the post together, they I decided to do something similar but with marriage advice.

Titus 2:3-5 says “Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” We are supposed to not only share and encourage other wives but we are to really learn from each as well.

To give us an opportunity to learn from each other, I took to Facebook and asked around in various groups that I am a part of and I got a ton of great submissions for the best marriage advice married women have ever received. I’ve managed to narrow it down to 20 awesome pieces of advice that I am so excited for you to check out.

Before we get to the 20+ pieces of advice, I thought I’d share a piece of my own. Seth and I have been married for almost four years now and that may not be long but we have done a ton in those four years, namely we had two kids and bought our own home. We’ve had good times and we’ve had serious lows but we’ve almost managed to overcome those moments when we could have given up because of 2 key reasons:1 - We have an amazing support system of friends and mentors who are always cheering for us.2 - We both love Jesus and trust that God will be there for us.

Put those two items in place and you’ll be on the path to success.

The Best Marriage Advice Ever Received

From 20 married women just like you!

#1 "Make each other a top priority, especially in the early years. Everything else can wait. Build a foundation of putting each other first, and your marriage will grow on that." - Abbey, Small Town Soul

#2 "When things get hard (and even so if things are great), always look up! Meaning depend humbly on the Lord in all circumstances- He is sovereign, good, and works all things for His glory!" - Jessica, Duly Noted, Ink

#3 "...never bad mouth or talk negative about your spouse to someone else. 15 years later it is hands down the best advice I received and we've stuck to it!" - Maddie, The Whimsy One

#4 "A man I greatly admire said he and his wife "made 60 years plus of marriage and one of our secrets was NOT trying to solve all of our difference before we went to bed. Sometimes, we just agreed to drop it...and we did." I think this may be some of the best marriage advice I have ever gotten." - Laurisa, Total Addiction

#6 "To take relationship and marriage advice from the divorced, those who have been married more than once and serial daters, with a pinch of salt - Alena Kate, The Darling Academy

#7 "When you fight and disagree, view you and your spouse as on the same team. Decide how you are going to overcome the issue together. When you are a team you cannot "win" if your spouse "loses". - Jessica, Harnessing Happy

#8 "Sleep on it. 'Don't go to bed angry' does not always apply. Sometimes you need to shut and keep yourselves from saying something stupid in an exhausted state of mind. Lay down in the bed you share and just sleep on it. Wars aren't won in a day and not all problems have a 24 hour solution." - Payton, A Hopeful Happenstance

#9 "Learn each other's love languages because everyone gives and receives love differently. How I receive love is completely opposite from how Shane receives it. So when I want to show love I have to remember it has nothing to do with how I would want to be shown love. His languages are words of affirmation and acts of kindness. So although my first instinct is to hug or give a gift I have to stop and think...What would he appreciate?? It has made a huge difference understanding this." - Caity M.

#10 "I'm not even sure who gave the advice anymore but it was basically one word. COMPROMISE. And by compromise it was said that marriage is not a 50/50 deal. Sometimes it's 60/40, sometimes it's 20/80 and sometimes it 70/30. But know where your strengths and weaknesses as a couple lie and you will both be giving 100% towards your marriage in the end."- Tracey D.

#11 "An older married couple was asked one time if divorce was ever an option ... her answer "divorce no, murder yes"!! It always makes me laugh remembering that answer!" - Karen W.

#12 "When you argue and one person wins, you both lose. Don't try to beat the other person or always be right." - Natalie, A Tiny Traveler Blog

#13 "Don't go to bed angry! Eph. 4:6. We've been up til 3 in the morning before we worked it out, but it was worth it!" - Carolyn V.

#19 "We talk about everything and in fighting fair, we choose to be slow with our words (take breaks if necessary), no name calling/condescending and to watch our non verbals (eye rolling, etc). If you communicate you will have conflict at some point so it's important to have a standard in place before you even reach that point." - Cara, The Cozy Home Custom

#20 "Put your marriage time ahead of most everything else-kids, work, etc. Make marriage time, times of intimacy, times of talking...make it HAPPEN. Put it second, following only Jesus." - Lauren, Bellows in the Berkshires

What is the best marriage advice YOU have ever received? Comment below for the rest of us to learn from it as well!