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Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Getting Enough

Okay, he asked you to
lock his cock in a cage. He said your were in charge of, not only his
orgasms, but all your sexual activity. He said you could tease him
whenever, wherever, and however you wanted. He told you that he would
be willing to do more of the chores around the house. He told you it
would make him more attentive to your sexual needs. So what happened?
He seems to want more sex, or sexual attention, than he ever did
before.

Admit it ladies, he is
doing more for you than ever before, isn't he? So what's the problem?
Greed! He seems to want more sexual attention than he ever did
before. What did you expect? Did you think that just because you
locked him up and agreed to take charge that his normal male sex
drive would some how magically disappear? That's right, I said
“Normal.”

Let's look at this
problem logically and see what we can do to relieve all the pressure
he has been putting on you to step up his teasing. First of all, you
need to realize that all men were designed differently than women.
Even if you are one of those who want a great deal of sex, chances
are he still wants more than you. Women were designed to want sex at
those times when they can get pregnant. Face it ladies, it's the way
we were built. Men, on the other hand, were built to be ready to
impregnate us whenever we are ready. That means, in order for them to
be ready when we are, they have to be ready all the time. So you see,
it's normal for them to be greedy.

Now that we have that
settled, what can we, as women in charge, do about it? The answer is
simple. Nothing. Well, not exactly, but instead of giving them all
the sex they want, it now falls upon us to redirect that energy. To
focus their sexual drive in another direction. Ask your self this
(and be honest), are you really getting all the sexual attention you
want? Are you getting foot and back massages whenever you want? Are
you getting all the orgasms you want? Are you getting all the oral
sex and intercourse you want? Are all the chores you want him to do
getting done?

If the answer to any of
these questions is “No,” who's to blame? In order to satisfy your
partner's sexual desires, there is more you can do besides, fondling
his cock all the time. He wants to serve you. He wants you to tell
him how to do that. The problem is, do you know how to do that while
satisfying his sexual needs? If you want him to wash the dishes, are
you making it a “sexual” thing that he is doing for you? When you
ask him to run to the store for you, are you making that a “sexual”
thing?

My point is, he doesn't
want “more” sexual attention. He's always wanted as much as he
can get. It is up to you to make sure that even the smallest task is,
in some way, sexual for him. Try telling him that if he will run to
the store (do the dishes, or whatever you want him to do), you will
give him some teasing at bed time. Or maybe, tell him to insert a
small butt-plug before he performs the task. Another way might be to
fondle his cock and balls for a few minutes (just enough to get him
hard) while you tell him what you want him to do.

Another method might be
to paddle him (or give some other punishment) if he fails to do what
you ask. Many men will respond positively to discipline and/or
punishment. You might even try spanking him before you tell
him what you want him to do. Many men enjoy a little physical
incentive.

Finally, are you using
him for your own pleasure as much as you could be? One method of
teasing a man in chastity, is to have him sexually please you. He
will get aroused. Denying him relief afterwords, is an excellent way
to prolong his “agony.”

Every man is different,
but I have found most men who enjoy chastity, especially those who
asked for it, really don't want to cum that often. Most of them
fantasize about being denied an orgasm far longer than you might
suspect. If you tease him until he begs to cum, and then allow it
every time, you are not giving him what he really wants. If he has
indicated that he would like to “try” longer periods of chastity
(or denial), I suggest you give it to him.

If your partner has
fantasies of long term denial, you should, by all means, make him
wait longer between orgasms (his, not yours!). Don't tell him how
long you are going to deny him, simply do it. If he asks when or if
he can cum, tell him you have not decided, but that asking you about
it just might make it longer. This should have a positive effect. If
you have been giving him an orgasm every couple of weeks, or even
once a month, try doubling the time between orgasms. By all means,
DON'T tell him what you are doing. The more he doesn't know the more
anticipation will build within him.

Trust me, if he seems
greedy, you are not getting as much sexual attention as you should
be. So go and get it!