I was looking forward to my four year anniversary with my now ex-boyfriend.I was looking forward to law school and really pumped to perform well.I was anxious to move, and excited to meet new people.I was envisioning where I would be right now...how proud I would be of myself.

There are numerous problems with thinking about where I was a year ago - all stemming from what happened in between then and now. The real gist of it is that I am not proud of myself at all, from more than just my performance in law school. I once was told that law students - former and current - carried scars with them from this whole experience, but I always brushed off those comments thinking that I knew how tough it was to work hard in school. I didn't realize that what those people meant goes deeper than working yourself to the bone. Sure, it all stems from law school. But the problems caused by law school, for me at least, are not contained within the walls of law school.

Ultimately, as my recent blogs indicate, I feel like a piece of shit. I will start with the first problem - the end of my long term relationship. I was the hugest proponent of thinking I could make my relationship work even though we would be in two different cities, and even though I would be working my ass off and not have much spare time, and even though nearly everyone told me I should not expect to make this relationship work while I was in law school. I was in love, I had spent nearly four years with the guy, and it was not as though we would be across the continent from one another. We'd only be hours away by car. I thought our relationship could withstand that. And to be completely honest, I thought that I would be the glue holding our relationship together, because I had done it before. I was cheated on by Long Term guy about 3 years ago, almost to the day. That means it was two years into our relationship. He didn't tell me for a looong time afterward, and my reaction to his confession was to hold him and tell him I understood why it happened, that I was hurt, but that I wanted to be there for him. When he told me he cheated, he told me for the sole purpose of breaking up with me. It was his reason. I wasn't ready - so I forced him to stay with me, our relationship grew a lot closer, and we stayed together. I thought we worked past it together then, but to be honest, I don't really know if that is true. I don't want to relive all of that, because it was a horrible experience, but the point was (although maybe it was lost) that I kept us together. Therefore I thought I could make it work during law school.

WRONG. I gave up once I moved and started law school. I know exactly why I gave up - I gave up for the possibility that there may be someone else out there. When I got to law school, my self esteem was low (it's always been low). I thought my ex was the best I could do. I wasn't particularly attracted to him like I thought I should be, but I absolutely loved him for who he was. There were things I didn't like about him, but I dealt with them and chalked it up to love not being what it's made out to be in movies. When I started law school, I was asked out on more dates than ever in my life (and let me tell you, it wasn't very many dates). I was flustered and thought that maybe I was selling myself short. I realized I wanted to have fun and party with my new friends, that I didn't want any responsibility (like having to report back to a boyfriend). He became a chore to me. I ended it.

I am not proud of how I came to that decision. When people whom I normally considered out of my league became interested in me, it went straight to my head. I reasoned with myself that this was the time to try something new; that now was the last time I could break up with a long term boyfriend and have the result be better. The hand dealt to me at this time was good.

That decision led to a series of poor decisions - Bobble-head guy, Stalker guy, and Creepster - just to name a few. [Bobble head guy presents a problem to this day. :( ]

I think now that if I had just stayed with the long term guy...I'd be in a better place. I'd have a support system locked in, and something I could depend upon. I would have a system in place to deal with all of the stress law school brings. I would have someone to celebrate my victories with, and someone to cry over my defeats to. But then again, I still desire something more than what I had with the long-term...I am only afraid that now that will never happen. Mostly, however, I am not proud of what I did to him. I forced him to go through something probably worse than what I went through after he cheated on me. I did to him what I thought I wasn't capable of - and I didn't cheat to do it. I just made a selfish decision. That is what I'm downright ashamed of. (Some of this is even evidenced by old posts from the fall of 08...).

This all sprung from me thinking of where I was a year from now...next post I will write about how disappointed I am in myself for my performance on the academic front. The moral of the story for all of this is that I am not pleasing the person I used to be before law school started, and that is really getting to me right now. It makes me wonder why I am doing this at all. As much as I love studying law, weaving law into neat little persuasive packages for my benefit, writing about law, and arguing over the details...at what expense am I pursuing this?

I do promise some funny stories on Bobble-head, Stalker, and Creepster...so stay tuned. Afterall, I must find something humorous in all of this in order for it to be worthwhile.

Thank you all for your kind words! Wow. I've been feeling like a real non-winner lately, and I took a short reprieve from the blog to come back to all of your wonderful comments. So - seriously - thank you. I actually logged on tonight to blog about how I am not going to blog anymore, but now I think I've changed my mind.

....and I would like to cancel my moment of happiness upon checking my ranking. Hmm. I am in the top 50%.

Good grief. My grades did take a nose dive. Sucks.

I am so aggravated right now. Sometimes life just can't give a person a break.

I feel like an old piece of gum on the bottom of someone's shoe. And that someone just stepped in dog crap.

About Me

I'm jumping on the bandwagon to blog about my experiences during law school, and I don't anticipate I will ever write anything inspiring or even good, I do anticipate drama. So please, read all about my moody musings of life, love, and law school.