Monthly Archive for: ‘January, 2011’

These three deadly silent killers are not counted in the $300 million:

Soul frustration – “I’m not being or expressing who I really am.”Role frustration – “I’m not doing what I value, or I’m not valuing what I do.”Goal frustration – “I’m not where I think I should or ought to be.”

You won’t see these frustrations listed anywhere in a medical journal, a health periodical or a physician’s desk reference. You probably have not heard of them. Yet, it’s likely you are afflicted with one or more of these.

Frustration is a raging epidemic that eats away at us from the inside out.

Do you have soul, role or goal frustration?

Most of us have at least one frustration.
Many of us have two.
Some of us have all three.

Your high performance mind, body and spirit are compromised by soul, role and goal frustration. You cannot be your best, do your best, or get the best if you are afflicted with one or more of these frustrations.

How do you eliminate SOUL, ROLE and GOAL frustration?

First you recognize it.
You make the unconscious conscious.
You become aware of SOUL, ROLE and GOAL frustration.

Second you acknowledge it.
You identify which one or more frustrations you have.
You measure your stress, subjectively and/or objectively.

Third you remedy it.
You shift attention and reorder your value hierarchy.
You find better balance where you are tilting to the extreme.
You improve clarity in all three dimensions of SOUL, ROLE and GOAL.

You do your soul setting and role setting before you do your goal setting.

Recognition is simple.
Remedy is not.

It requires you to embrace a new value model that elevates soul and role above goal.

You transcend unconscious incompetence:
I don’t know what it is and I don’t know that I have it.

You move to conscious incompetence:
I know what it is and that I have it but I don’t know what to do about it.

You become consciously competent:
I know what I have and how to remedy it.

Our existing model of success contributes to these frustrations.

It puts:

Goal first – GO… the farther the better.
Role next – DO… whatever it takes to get goal.
Soul last – BE… if any time left over after going and doing.

The old game of success is based on a GOAL, ROLE, SOUL value model.

It elevates GOAL, the lowest value, above and ahead of ROLE and SOUL, the higher values.

Our fundamental model of success is upside down.

We put GOAL ACHIEVEMENT above ROLE SATISFACTION and SOUL FULFILLMENT.

Here’s an old game success mantra:

“Successful people do what unsuccessful won’t do.”

This mantra places accomplishment and achievement as the highest values, even if the price you pay is to do what you despise. It equates success with doing “whatever it takes” to achieve the goal.

This doubles the stress. It creates:

Goal frustration- you are not yet where you “think you ought” to be.

Role frustration- you are not doing what you like, what you are good at, what you know in your heart calls you, because you “have to do what you have to do” to accomplish the goal.

If you also have soul frustration, you feel like no matter how hard you work, how much you do or how far you go, you are simply “not good enough” yet.

YOU are your biggest critic.

You subordinate your soul and relinquish your role to achieve your goal.

GOAL is a zero-sum game:
It’s goal or no goal, success or failure.

The notion we should “do whatever it takes” to get GOAL, even at the expense of enjoying ROLE and nurturing SOUL is old game thinking.

To “sell your soul” and “sacrifice your role” just to “reach a goal” goes against your nature. It causes killer stress that moves your body into a state of tense dis-ease.

When you subordinate your soul and role to a goal, you invert the natural hierarchy of value.

This value collision creates frustration and stress that disease the mind, body and spirit.

Is it really success if you spend your precious moments of life ignoring your natural talent to put time and attention into attaining a goal you think is valuable?

Is it a winning trade off to sacrifice what you want to do, like to do or love to do (ROLE) to seek a “concept” of some future payoff (GOAL)?

We spend so much time in future GOAL that we have trouble BEING and DOING in the present.

Being is life.
Doing happens now.
Going is somewhere in the future.

We invert the true value of life when we give up the present for the future.

When we trade SOUL and ROLE for GOAL, we exchange the higher here and now for the lower someday maybe. If that someday maybe doesn’t come, we have given up the REAL NOW for an imagined later.

Unwittingly, unknowingly, unintentionally (or not), too many self-help motivators and personal development mantras fuel soul, role and goal frustration. They perpetuate the success model of goal above role and soul.

A NEW Value Hierarchy…
The Remedy for Soul, Role and Goal Frustration

Millions of people who built their success on the sand of GOAL instead of the bedrock of SOUL and ROLE are now suffering. They embraced getting, going and having as the formula for success.

What happens when the getting, going and having stop?

What happens to your SOUL (self worth) and your ROLE (self-confidence) when your GOAL (net worth) is wiped out?

SOUL is who you are, the immeasurable intrinsic value of your life.
ROLE is what you do, the expression of your talent in a livelihood.
GOAL is where you go, the journey toward a better lifestyle.

Life. Livelihood. Lifestyle.
SOUL. ROLE. GOAL.

You can continue to value GOAL (lifestyle) above ROLE (livelihood) and SOUL (life), or you can choose to shift your attention to the higher values of life.

To better adapt, be more adept.
This New Year, play a NEW Game.

First, set your SOUL.
Be who you are.
Express yourself. Don’t hold back.
Love yourself regardless of what you do or how far you go.

Next, set your ROLE.
Do what you like and what you’re good at.
Play roles that resonate with you, that bring the best YOU to the game.
Enjoy roles you like even if you don’t make money at them.
Then, set your GOAL.
Go where you want.
Find your True North.
Whether or not you get there, enjoy the journey.

Play for the love of the game.

Pay attention to SOUL.
Put more value on ROLE.
Set your GOAL in the context of SOUL and ROLE.

Whether or not you get GOAL, enrich your SOUL and enliven your ROLE.

SOUL.
ROLE.
GOAL.

Play the NEW Game of Success.

Happy New Year!
Fill it with plenty of plenty of what matters most.

You’re a player.
I’ll meet you on the field.

Mitch – CEO, Chief Encouragement Officer
The NEW Game of Success™

P/S ~~ INVITATION ~~

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