The 2012 election was an open door for the GOP to lead America back to its roots in faith and morality, and the Republicans were AWOL, says Dr. James Dobson, founder of Family Talk and a brand new political outreach arm called Family Talk Action.

I waited throughout the campaign for Mitt Romney to declare himself, to at least identify with the moral issues that are before us. He would not touch them, Dobson said on a two-part radio program in which Penny Nance, head of Concerned Women for America, joined.

But your comments about and to those you disagree with reveal a nasty and judgmental character. You aren’t going to persuade anyone with your attitude. You will be dismissed as an arbitrary and contemptuous crank convinced of your own rectitude.

Excellent suggestions! My SIL related an incident she had with my nephew when he was about five. They had gone to the grocery store and he wanted a cookie at the bakery. She got it for him but said he could have after they got home and he had lunch first. Well, he was STEAMED! He complained and whined and even told the cashier how unfair it was that he couldn't eat his cookie, now! My SIL told him calmly again that he could have it after lunch but he wouldn't stop and was at the screaming stage by the time they were heading to the car. So she said, "If you don't stop right now, I'm throwing the cookie away.". He, of course, challenged her by continuing his fit and she walked with him to the garbage can and threw his cookie away. He was shocked, but he stopped his tantrum and, guess what, she didn't have that problem with him again.

When I used to teach elementary school, from the first day I went over the rules for the classroom. We discussed each rule, why it was a good rule and what the consequences would be for breaking the rule. Every class had the few who would challenge my authority, but I showed them that I meant what I said, and there were no second chances - the punishment was meted out as we discussed. It wasn't paddling, BTW. I would usually have to be hard on them for about two weeks - not letting any slip by - but that was all it took. They knew the rules and knew I would enforce them fairly. The rest of the year went smoothly and I rarely had discipline problems. All the other teachers would ask me how I got my class to be so well-behaved.

I think what children today are missing out on because of the need for both parents to work to support the family is that they end up being raised by their teachers or other caregivers who do not have the experience, education or temperament - much less the authority - to train each child up in the ways best suited to each one. They have to go with a one-size-fits-all strategy and it's why we have so much of a problem in public schools. I taught in a private Christian school - they couldn't pay me enough to teach in public ones today! If kids do not learn respect for authority at home, they will seldom learn it anywhere else.

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posted on 11/18/2012 1:48:32 PM PST
by boatbums
(God is ready to assume full responsibility for the life wholly yielded to Him.)

>> “...he is a psychologist, first, which is about as respectable as an actor in a traveling troupe” <<

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This is one of those times where I have to agree with you fully. Jungian psychology is about as anti-biblical as you can get. It totally denies the spirit nature of men, making all things secular in nature.

I felt horrible about it every time (maybe about 10 X) that I did it. I don’t like it, and that doesn’t make me a hypocrite. I smoked cigarettes while in college, don’t now, don’t recommend it and that doesn’t make me a hypocrite either.

well she may have craved some attention since she was one of five and you know how kids are, if they crave attention they will take positive or settle for negative. He could have got her quieted down, but obviously you and I have different approaches. I don’t think it was a safety issue, like a horse being aggressive.

My parents set the guidelines and I KNEW they would be enforced and I KNEW how.

If I chose to disobey, the consequences were MY choice. I never felt they were being mean, or unfair, of unkind, or whatever else you wish to charge them with when they followed through. I knew it was my own stupid fault for challenging them.

The only times I resented discipline, and not just spankings but ANY kind of discipline, was when I didn’t do it and they either wouldn’t listen to me or believe me.

Other than that, I got what I was fairly warned was coming.

Kids aren’t stupid. They can tell the difference. Discipline, even spankings, aren’t resented when they are deserved. And there were times I’d have RATHER had the spanking over other forms of discipline.

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posted on 11/18/2012 2:36:55 PM PST
by metmom
(For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore & do not submit again to a yoke of slavery)

That is a revelation, either of James Dobson, or what some people are willing to believe based on dubious sources: do you have some actual documentation that he is a Mason?

Masonry is definitely not Christian, yet one is not a mere moralist because they preach Christian morality as part of the Christian message, and Dobson’s affirmation of the evangelical gospel made quite manifest over many years.

I used to listen to the Focus on the Family radio program every day. The Gospel was always clear and straightforward and the advice given was Biblical and extremely helpful in MANY areas. Those who criticize James Dobson with unfounded accusations either have never heard him or read his books or they disagree with a point or two and trash the entire ministry over it. He is a good and Godly man who loves his family and the families of all Americans.

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posted on 11/18/2012 4:03:49 PM PST
by boatbums
(God is ready to assume full responsibility for the life wholly yielded to Him.)

I officially ride the fence, how’s that for an emphatic maybe. Here’s what I said once I learned about what she was doing.

Well, quite frankly I hadnt heard your own story and I can understand the concern of the monsters.

If God is truly moving you to total nonviolence then God will also bless it. BUT  I think its too easy to paint others somewhat different styles as monstrous. The touchstone of balance in chastising children is Ephesians 6:4  fathers, do not exasperate (or provoke to rage) your children, lest they lose heart. The idea is not to get them to fear YOU personally, but to fear your specific displeasure at their misbehavior, if sweet reason is not enough to reach them. If the reaction is to burst into blind rage then you may have overdone it and you should moderate.

So I thoroughly ride the fence on this one.

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posted on 11/18/2012 6:01:05 PM PST
by HiTech RedNeck
(How long before all this "fairness" kills everybody, even the poor it was supposed to help???)

Spanking is necessary sometimes, but is not the only answer all the time. It’s not a one size fits all solution.

Sometimes it’s a last resort, sometimes other discipline works better. It varies from child to child, and even from situation to situation and age to age with the same child.

Too bad that those who do use spanking when necessary are broad brushed as using only it all the time without restraint, thus portraying us as essentially child abusers. Especially when we are compared to them. It’s not hard to miss the implication.

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posted on 11/18/2012 9:44:51 PM PST
by metmom
(For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore & do not submit again to a yoke of slavery)

DM, you are mistaking me. And you aren't seeing that you and I agree on MUCH more than you give me credit for. I HAVE repudiated the RNC as an organization, and excoriate phone solicitors from the RNC every time they call - I think I even made one cry~! I have a whole toy cash till filled with toy money to send them with a note: "Fake money for fake conservatives."

I ONLY support individual candidates who unapologetically champion whole conservatism and who have a proven track record of staunch conservatism; most of whom identify as Republican.

A candidate can identify as Republican without adopting the pernicious value system of the party establishment. That's all I'm saying.

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posted on 11/19/2012 8:16:14 AM PST
by fwdude
( You cannot compromise with that which you must defeat.)

Man, you both assume and project much. I do not make any living out of anything even slightly psychologically related.

You are however glaringly unaware that prior to the appearance of Sigmund Freud there was an older line of, yes, Christian psychology. Dr. Freud literally hijacked that and secularized it, which is the basis of the travesty we see all too often today. There was also a respected line of medicine called “alienism” — not the study of space aliens, silly, but of understanding the mentally ill, with the purpose of counseling them towards better normalcy or at least better coping. It’s now known as “abnormal psychology.” And to have an abnormal, you need to have a normal. From which the following applies.

As with navigating geography, one does not need a perfect map in order to be useful. And yes, personalities and minds both normal and abnormal have been mapped, to useful purpose.

If it were up to you we’d still be chaining the insane.

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posted on 11/19/2012 11:37:36 AM PST
by HiTech RedNeck
(How long before all this "fairness" kills everybody, even the poor it was supposed to help???)

The way I saw the discussion was the you were coming at me with practical reasoning and I was responding with ideological reasoning.

I fully understand that we share much more in common than not. The underlying fact remains the same for both of us - the GOP-E has lost its way and no longer represents its conservative base, nor does it care. To that end, we need to stop any and all donations to the RNC and send them to a quick death so that the Tea Party can step up.

And, yes, I do undertsnad that we agree on these things, albeit from slightly different directions. The end result is that we will both arrive at the same destination.

...[Christians] contradict their professing belief in biblical authority by looking elsewhere for solutions to solving lifes problems, primarily by turning to so-called authorities or expertsand particularly to psychologists. This is a tragic mistake because Gods Word is sufficient: According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue (2 Peter:1:3). The Word of God is the Manufacturers Handbook, with instructions for humanity regarding all things that pertain to life and godliness. What exactly are the all things? Certainly everything that pertains to or involves moral issues and anything that is sin relatedeither how to avoid it or how to repent of it. Clinical psychology cannot deal with sinalthough most if not all of the issues for which people turn to psychotherapists are due to sin. The outcome of seeking psychotherapeutic help is always destructive for the faith of the believer for what should be obvious reasons.

Psychological counseling is an anti-biblical replacement program for the Manufacturers Handbook. Its essential doctrine is that self, which is declared to be innately good, is the key to solving all of lifes problems. Therefore, foundationally, it stands in direct opposition to the Scriptures, which declare that self, i.e., man, is innately sinful (Jeremiah:17:9).

Your desperate defense of clinical psychology is a tragic example of how ingrained this false "science" has become in the modern mind, even in Christian thought.

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posted on 11/19/2012 12:30:00 PM PST
by fwdude
( You cannot compromise with that which you must defeat.)

You err greatly to aver, with ad-hominem attacks packed in (”desperate”), that there can be no practice of clinical psychology that walks hand in hand with a classical Christian understanding of sin and righteousness. You err extremely greatly. But the people who practice in this manner, pay the likes of you no mind, other than to pray daily for you.

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posted on 11/19/2012 12:34:57 PM PST
by HiTech RedNeck
(How long before all this "fairness" kills everybody, even the poor it was supposed to help???)

You have set up a straw man and masterfully bashed it. In the meantime, people who suffer from mental illness and were not healed by a traditional church format by bigots such as you, have been helped to better sanity by the application of psychological Christian understanding that, in fact, predated Sigmund Freud.

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posted on 11/19/2012 12:38:46 PM PST
by HiTech RedNeck
(How long before all this "fairness" kills everybody, even the poor it was supposed to help???)

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