WHAT THEY SAID BLOGSex(uality), Gender, Kink, and Relationshipsthrough an Intersectional Lens

Although The Dating game was first aired in 1965 and continued onto the 80’s, the show was revived so many times throughout the years, most people know the concept of the show.There would be one bachelorette/bachelor and three potential dates.​In the original version of the show, as described on wikipedia:Generally the bachelorette would ask questions written in advance on cards to each of the three hidden bachelors. The same question could be asked to multiple bachelors. This continued until time ran out. The bachelorette would make her choice based solely on the answers to her questions. Occasionally, the contestant was a bachelor who would ask questions to three bachelorettes. Certain kinds of questions were “off-limits”, such as name, age, occupation, and income.​The show highlighted heterosexual, majority white folks, looking for a connection. But what if…?What if there was a dating/love/sex connection game show for us GenderQueers? GQ’s seeking GQ’s, GQ’s seeking trans, gay, lesbian, hetero, bi, queer and then some. Gender Queers of all abilities, shape sizes, cultures and colors.​As GenderQueer, gender non-confirming, gender fluid and non-binary folks, seeking connection can be challenging when you can’t, won’t or desire not to subscribe to the gender binary. How does a person who flows from femme to masculine to androgynous create the perfect profile to entice and not scare off potential love interests? How do you explain that, dating you, can be dangerous, but that your worth it? Society at large can’t or won’t wrap their minds around a gender or sexuality that is moveable. How we look, love, fuck, touch and are in the world, can change at any time, it’s just too confusing for folks.What if we had this show? What if you actually had the agency, openness and opportunity to say what you want, who you are and be unapologetic. What would you ask for? Wouldn’t it be amazing to have a game or let’s dream here, live in a world that was open to and expected these shifts of beauty and ownership.What if? Hmmm?

Imagine you as the bache, (either both or neither a bachelorette or bachelor), what would you want? What would your questions be to weed out this perfect date? If you could ask for what you want and not have to explain yourself, worry about violence, being seen in your truest form(s), loved, or treated with respect, what would it be?