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Once you use your charms and flirting techniques to obtain her phone number you will feel like a king of the world. This is not the end of your journey and the next big step will be to call her and set up a date. Guys, pay attention to this part particularly, since at this stage most of you could mess up. Imagine, just going through all the trouble to get her phone number and at the end just waste the chance by making a bad impression over the phone.

The seduction game can drastically change while engaging a phone conversation with a girl. The environment at this point is completely different than if you would be talking to her in real. The first thing, she cannot see you and you can only rely on your verbal abilities to get her in the mood. Second thing, she maybe forgot who you are so you need to remind her where you met and how. If you don’t think you will know exactly what to say and how to make an easy and successful flow of the conversation, here are a few useful tips to help you out.

Two successful phone seduction strategies

– “Make her laugh”. The first barrier will be to engage a successful phone conversation without letting her know that you are nervous, which is easily done just by using humor. At the start you need to be able to get her mood up and get her to LAUGH. If this happens, she won’t hang up the phone on you and the course of the conversation will go to your favor and you’ll most likely be able to set up the first date. The objective of this game is to keep her entertained long enough so you could tell her all you have on your mind.

– “The Strategy of a Cliffhanger”. The second barrier is connected to the genuine interest. If she seems to be bored with the conversation, be sure that you won’t be able to set up a date and spend time with her. You could let the conversation flow to the direction of a story that will have an open ending, all in the purpose of making her wish she sees you. Curiosity is the key, and it might even happen that she initiates the date if she gets curious enough. Do it slick and like a pro and leave the finale for the end. Girl’s curiosity could be provoked easily, so keep this in mind and use it as an advantage.

Your eyes are a very important asset in the whole dating and pick up game. Ever hear a girl say “he has nice eyes” and then you look at the guy she’s admiring and his eyes don’t look like anything special.

It’s because he knows how to use his eyes to communicate confidence and sensuality. Something that took me years to figure out. You can be sensual without being sexual. There are a ton of things you can do to build attraction and every dating coach has their own opinions as well as their own field-tested results. Most will agree that your body language, how close / far away you are from her, your eyes, your vocal projection, how and when you touch her, sense of humour, confidence, etc. are all necessary ingredients for building attraction.

You are going to use your eyes to build SOME level of interest. Then you’re going to use them to build attraction. Interest, then attraction….got it? If you’re not used to looking a girl straight in the eye without making a weird face or without turning away, then it’s something you can overcome by practising. How do you practice?

Simply start making more eye contact. It helps if you bring a buddy or a female friend to walk a few feet away from you so they can see your facial expression when you do make eye contact. Their feedback will be invaluable. Here’s the biggest lesson about eye contact:

Looking a woman in the eye and holding it longer than normal communicates to her that you are confident. It tells her you are not an average guy. An average guy looks a hot girl in the eye and then looks down at the floor or he looks away. Let’s take this deeper.

Her internal biological and psychological mechanisms that CREATE or DESTROY attraction go into motion. Without even thinking about it on a conscious level she already begins to get that “ewwww” feeling.

All you’re doing from across the room, café, bowling alley, gas station, night club, bar, wherever…is communicating that “hey, I’m a great catch, I’m confident, and I’m not an average guy.”

Women, especially cute ones, get approaches by TONS of men who suck up to them and say stupid things, so by simply holding your eye contact a little longer than normal you’re telling her that there’s a small chances you are one of those guys.

There are dozens of ways to use your eyes to BUILD the attraction after you have generated initial interest. Here’s one that I used recently at a night club. I saw a group of girls at the bar getting drinks. One of the brunettes turned around to see what was going on (hot girls tend to do that) and our eyes met. We lock, 3 seconds later we both look away.

Brunette becomes intrigued and turns around again pretending to look at other people but then her eyes land on me again. To her surprise I’m still standing there, drink in my hand, and catch her gaze again. This time I take a few steps closer to her though not walking directly toward her. I’m walking more to the group to her left.

As I’m walking toward her I caress her face with eyes and let out a small smirk. I’ve read / heard some pick up artists say to never, every smile or smirk at a woman, and I could NOT disagree more. There’s a time and place for just about everything.

She smirks back. Not an ear-to-ear grin, but a smirk. Like most hot girls, this girl knew how to pace. By the time she has turned 18 years old, a hot girl has had far MORE social interactions than your typical 18 year old male.

When was the last time you had 25 to 50 females approach you in one week? One weekend? It’s not easy being a good-looking female, which is why many of them resort to being bitchy when you first approach them. I actually LIKE it when a hot babe is bitchy to me because I know she’s mistaking me for the wrong guy.

Sometimes just staying there and talking like everything’s normal does the trick.
Sometimes just saying “hey, it’s ok, relax…my bark is worse than my bite.” Back to the bar girl.

I was not at this night club to pick up. I was there with my date to dance and listen to the DJs bring the house down, but I love to flirt, especially with my eyes. So I walked by the brunette and then continued walking. This is non-neediness at it’s best. I was at the club to have a good time, not to get digits or get somewhere with any one girl.

About an hour later I bumped into her group again and decided to caress her face again with my eyes. We were about 5 inches apart, talk about creating sexual tension (a good thing in this case). She then smacks my shoulder and walks off.That smack on my shoulder was her way of telling me:

“You flirt with me with your eyes and then you don’t step up and talk to me?”

The thing is, if you’re confident you don’t give a crap on what some cute young thing thinks about you. You really don’t. So her little smack on my shoulder….I loved it man. I get smacked a lot by cute girls, I think I drive them crazy sometimes. I’m just out to have a good time. Girls GET that vibe and are drawn to it.

Remember girls can SENSE when you’re needy or WANT something from them. The hotter they are the more they will assume that you WANT them. By the way you talk, the way you move, and the way you use your eyes you can communicate to them that “there’s always another girl”…..without having to say it. It will come with practice.

So, I followed her, tapped her firmly on the shoulder, grabbed her hand, twirled her around, let her go, and then walked back to my group of friends (my date had disappeared to the bathroom). My friend told me the look on her face was “priceless”…it could have been a Mastercard commercial.

Pick up is a skill. Flirting is a skill. Just like learning tennis, how to write calligraphy, or learning a new language…it’s a real skill and it takes practice. Once you ACCEPT this fact you take away a lot of stress and self-doubt.

Then you can focus more on your goals and not so much on the PROCESS. You’ve got to practice, reject rejection, and learn to use your eyes, then you go in and make the approach, IF you want to. That’s the great thing about working on your skill set, you can opt to approach, or not. You can opt to get her phone number or simply have a great interaction with a girl and then walk away.

I do it all the time. My friends constantly tell me “dude, you should have asked for her number.”

My response is always the same:

“I chose not to.”

When you can get a date anytime you want, it no longer becomes a NECESSITY. Once you get to this level of personal development is when you know you’ve gotten rid of your neediness…..

I know you guys are going to ask me this question so I’m going to answer it right now:

“Do I have to get eye contact to talk to a girl?”

No.

You do NOT need it. It’s great if you get it, but I’ve done some of my best work by just walking up to a girl and just start talking.

Holding your eye contact is just one of the few things you can start doing RIGHT now to begin having better results with the female population. So start having fun with this. Start experimenting with your eye contact. Who knows, you just might make a new friend.

First dates are almost always awkward. And guess what guys? It is TOTALLY your fault…

Rather than heading into a first date “blindly” you need to take responsibility for making the experience as fun and unique as possible. Don’t leave it to the woman to make it exciting. That is not very alpha at all. Here are some awesome questions to ask a woman on a first date.

“So what are you doing to change the world?”

The problem with most first dates is that they turn into interviews. This is where all those boring questions like “why did you go to school?” come up.

Rather than asking the same old questions, add some spice by asking them a DIFFERENT way. For example, this question is just a more creative way of asking what she does for a living. It seems a lot more thought inspiring doesn’t it?

“What is your favorite childhood memory?”

I don’t really know why, but women go on forever when you ask them this question. SO if you have a short attention span, you may want to leave this one in the bag.

Questions like these show that you have a real interest in her as an actual person (rather than just a piece of sexy meat).

“Which woman on Sex and the City are you most like?”

This is a great way to introduce the topic of TV shows and movies into the conversation. You can really have a lot of fun with this one. If she says she doesn’t watch Sex and the City, you can always tease her about the fact that she may be the only woman in the universe who doesn’t watch it.

They say that Mr. Perfect doesn’t exist. And the more you read and hear, the more convinced you are that he really doesn’t exist, that all men fall short of expectations in one area or another, and eventually you settle for someone who is not exactly your ideal match, thus settling for a mediocre relationship with a mediocre man who on top of that plays mind games, disappears on you, stops calling you, cheats on you and dumps you after you’ve invested your emotions in this dysfunctional man.

“Is this the right way to go about dating?”

At the same time I receive lots of e-mails from women who have found their ideal, their Prince Charming.

So, what can YOU do differently to achieve the kind of love and relationship you deserve? What can YOU do to change your luck at dating and finally find the man who is everything you’ve ever dreamed about?

You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what?

Okay. It’s not enough that this girl likes you back. She has apparently made it clear that she also digs you and finds you sweet and is willing to go out on dates with you at last. And then, here you are, wanting her so bad.
You want her to be completely glued and hooked on you for entirely. The going-on-your-knees and professing-your-undying-love may back fire or just won’t work. So take these little tips to get your girl hooked. And make her yours forever!

Do not be available 24/7. You heard that right. Though you do want to be accessible to her every whim all the time, this would make her feel that you’re being obsessive and might be stalking her. Do not call or text all day (unless she does). This will make you look desperate. Instead, be cool. Ask her on a date, text her sometimes just to let her know you’re thinking of her. Drooling is not an option.

Make her feel special. When a girl finally says she likes you, do not be so comfortable by it. Keep being thoughtful. Continue saying sweet things to her and let her feel secure and cared for. Girls are suckers for romantic guys.

Constantly remind her that she’s extraordinary. It might be during a usual conversation, or you can blurt it out every once in a while. Like guys, girls would like to pump up their egos and this will absolutely make her glued on you.Be a good listener. Girls love to whine and talk all day. Listen and offer an advice. She may take it or leave it but believe me, she will totally appreciate you being involved.

Do not forget yourself. By putting extra effort on how you look, dress and move, this will add up to your charisma and make a girl swoon, reminding herself how lucky she is to have you. But remember: be yourself. Nothing beats it when you show your true colors.

Let me say right off the bat: stop wasting your time going after men that won’t appreciate you. If you have to be something other than who you really are then he is not worth it. If you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you then there are certain ways to do this, let’s take a look at a few:

When he really likes you he will show it by spending quality time with you. If you are with someone that is not giving you the quality time that you deserve than that is not a good sign.

Another sign that he really likes you is judged by the affection he shows you. I am not talking about wanting to go to bed but I am talking about public displays of affection; hugging, kissing, sweet nothings, etc …

In my opinion, the best way how to tell if a guy likes you is to ask him. It may seem like an obvious statement but you would be surprised at how many guys are straight up and willing to tell you how he really feels. So, just go ahead and ask him.

Does he make eye contact with you? When a guy likes you he will look you right in the eye but that is one of the first things to do when he does not.

If he really does like you he will also be willing to help you out with the little things. For example: He will help you wash dishes, pick up your trash and throw it out, do little favors, it really comes down to little acts of kindness.

If you are looking to discover whether or not he really likes you then there are some ways to figure this out. In the end, if he is not good to you and does not appreciate you for who you are then go find someone else.
As the old saying goes, “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”

There is so much competition on the online dating sites that many women will resort to blatant lying or even posting really outdated photographs. This isn’t surely a great way of building a profile. Be honest about who you are and keeping changing your photos on the website as part of your dating profile. At least those that interact with you aren’t under false pretenses.

These are some specific profile tips that you could use to make sure that you meet interesting people.

Don’t be negative in your thoughts and actions on the dating profile.

Nobody wants to date a whiner or someone full of negativity.

So the first and foremost thing for you to do is to edit all the negative phrases that you have put on your profile. Be positive and you will see the difference that it makes to your dating circuit and social quotient.

Just a simple line that says, “I have heard that online dating is a great way to make friends” will definitely have more people rooting for you rather than the other way round. Instead sample these negative lines “to be honest, I have heard that online dating isn’t always rosy, so I hope I meet the right person”. Well the person isn’t quite sure of what they want.

Please edit all comments that begin with “I hate…” or ‘the last guy that I dated was a moron” and such comments. Nobody wants to be associated with a woman that has negative emotions and comments.

Be unique on your dating profile.

The way that you will get more hits on your profile is to be different that the rest. Be unique on your dating profile and this is the only way that you will get to meet interesting people.

If you write something like this on your profile, “I am a fun loving person, who likes to meet people and love to go out for movies and hamburgers”… Then there are a million other people who would have written the same thing. If you are keen on attracting the opposite sex with this kind of general statements, on your profile, then best of luck to you.

Use clever words that are more descriptive that show off a bit of your adventurous side and yet keep some things mysterious on your dating profile. Men like to unravel mysteries. If you were to read like an open book, then there is no fun for a man to go chasing after you.

Your profile should be such that it should be a magnet for the type of people that you would also be interested in. dating profile is about getting the right kind of responses. Use descriptions to narrow down your search.

Say something to the effect of ” I like a clean shaven interesting man between 30-35 years that can hold a fun conversation in a car going at 150 miles” on your dating profile. Well you have said quite a bit about you. Yu have said that you are adventurous, are looking for a great conversation and would like men to be within a certain age group and of course you like men that take care about the way they look.

Use these tips on your dating profile to get what you are looking for.