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Question

Hi Sarita,

If a passionate sensitive person has no outlet for passion, as in, having a partner no matter how hard one tries, why do blocks to a satisfying full passionate relationship keep happening, leaving that passionate sensitive person isolated and frustrated, on a rock so to speak?

Love George

Answer

Hello George,

Usually such a situation will arise if there are self limiting beliefs which are ruling your life from the subconscious. It is good to have healing sessions with someone who is gifted in doing regression work, particularly within the arena of relationships. It could be, for example, that you were hurt in a previous relationship, and deep down, there is a belief which says, “Relationships are dangerous. I may get hurt again.” Your conscious mind may be thinking that you really want a relationship, but your subconscious may be putting out a strong message that actually you distrust women. Women are highly intuitive, and can read what is in the aura without even knowing that they are doing that. So you may be saying, “I want to get close to you,” and they may be hearing, “but not too close because I don’t want to get hurt again.” I recommend my friend Soham who is a Hawaiian Huna priestess, for this work.

A basic law of existence is that you receive exactly that which you have put out as a command to existence. For more details on this subject, you can see my webinar on the Great Law of Magic and you could also read the book, Cosmic Ordering. It is important that we become conscious as to the commands we are putting out. A support for this process is to have a Soul Mate session with my friend Siobhan. She will help you to call towards you, that person who best suits your inner picture of what you would like to manifest in a relationship.

People have asked me so often to help them find a Tantric partner, that finally I asked my friend Kavida if she could make a Tantric dating site. Her site is called Sensual Spirit. In Tantra groups, I often see people coming to a singles group who would like to find a suitable partner. On some occasions, the person in question may have something in their aura which drives people away. As they dive into Tantra and begin clearing out old baggage, and discovering how to access their natural joy and love, they become suddenly attractive, and people start moving towards them. Over the years, I have watched in amazement as wallflowers become the centre of attention in a room full of people. In my Tantra work, I have been living on a steady diet of miracles, seeing people on the verge of divorce find love again, or people who cannot find a lover, meeting their soul mate. Sometimes, it is a relatively slow process. Perhaps the person needs to come and do three, four or five groups before the miracle happens. For others, it may happen the first time. It seems to have something to do with how willing the person is in exposing their vulnerability and moving into the meditations and exercises with full totality.

And of course, the number one question that has to be asked is: do you love yourself? If you love yourself, you automatically become much more attractive to others. If you are disgusted by yourself, then this disgust will appear in your aura like a grey cloud, and people will feel disgusted by you. It really is that simple. Love yourself, and you become lovable. If someone does not love themselves, then they will approach the other like a beggar. (“I don’t love myself, but I hope you will fill up my empty begging bowl and make me happy.”) What is needed, is to love yourself so much that you become an emperor or empress of love. You are so full of love, that sharing love with another becomes an overflowing phenomenon. And when two overflowing beings meet, you have a huge river of love, which becomes a blessing to you and your partner and also to others.

Mahasatvaa Ma Ananda Sarita

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