My Screed for the Day

So, I tend to take fits and starts with social network sites. Some of them are more kinky, some of them are more vanilla. Sometimes I spend time on them regularly, sometimes I set them aside and pretty much ignore them for a few weeks, then check back.

So I’ve been doing that over the last couple of days, and because I’ve been ON the site recently, I always get a new batch of emails from people.

Well, from men. Women almost never write me on those sites, which is fine, given that I’m pretty straight now.

So, I went through three sites this weekend and in every one of them, there’s basically the same message:

“I’ve contacted you before and you never respond so I guess you’re not interested. I’m a nice guy, really, give me a chance, I think you’re pretty/hot/beautiful/a babe.”

This reminds me of a great bit from Parks and Recreation, which I have blogged about before:

The guy is calling his ex-girlfriend and says, “April, this is Andy…Dwyer. This is like the 200th time I’ve called and you never call back, so I just wanted to say if you’re trying to tell me something, I don’t know what it is, because you won’t call me back.”

Really, I am not being cryptic here.

If I didn’t respond multiple times, there’s a reason.

It’s not me playing some kind of chase-me game, just hoping you’ll pursue me. While a certain amount of flirtatious pursuit can be engaging, it is only so if there’s some response.

Otherwise it’s just kind of creepy.

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Ms Constance has been actively involved in the BDSM/Leather community since the mid-1990’s. She is the Founder of the Louisville Munch as well as its hostess for ten years, from 1997 to 2007, and was christened as “Louisville’s First Lady” by her community. As a member of various BDSM/Leather organizations, she has been nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year as well as regional awards, and has been nominated with her slave, drew, for Pantheon Couple of the Year. She serves as Special Events Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance. She produces the Bluegrass Leather Pride Contest, sending contestants to Great Lakes Leather Weekend, and was Presenters Committee Chair for Leather Leadership Conference 2010 Great Lakes/Ontario. She has produced and judged Leather events and contests, been instrumental in the organization and creation of various groups and clubs, advised and encouraged other communities and endeavors, and produced a performance by a BDSM comedian. Groups around the country use her writings in information and introductory packets, and she is an occasional columnist as well. She and slave drew hold the titles of Great Lakes Master and slave 2003.