Advice 1: How to be a friend of the guy

Found this sad situation: a guy likes a girl and she did not. More precisely, she is very good to the young man, she liked his company, she willingly accepts help from him, consults with him, trusts his secrets. In short, this guy is for her – a close friend, but no more. A man asks: how to stop playing the role of "good girlfriend" and become the guy girls in the full sense of the word.

Instruction

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The situation is difficult, especially if you are shy and sensitive. Education and character do not allow you to open up and all kinds of hints to the girl why-that persistently do not reach. In this case, it is better to overcome shyness and openly admit his feelings for her. Because any certainty is better than ignorance, and the hints can not get a very long time. Because boys and girls have different perceptions of the same words, behavior. She really may or may not notice or incorrectly interpret the effort of a young man.

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If you can't decide, you should resort to the help of common friends. The girl hears something like, "Well, how can you be so blind? After all, he's got a big crush on you, do not notice!", can really see and understand that this young man clearly had stayed in the eternal friends.

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The same can be done in a more subtle, veiled form. For example, suppose that the same mutual friend (orfriend) praise you with the girl. Probably will be the same for that. With the indispensable addition of: "Oh, and lucky the girl who's in love with him!"

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You can resort to a risky, but effective, way to gain the girl's jealousy. Because a woman understands that she sooner or later it will be necessary to create a family. While the guy (at least, with her) did not show interest in other women, the thought: "And will he be a good husband and father?" could simply not come to mind. As soon as such interest would be shown, she can instinctively rouse: what is this, why would he care about another when I'm around!

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Another risky but effective method is to temporarily disappear from the life of a girl. A plausible pretext for this to find easy. She got used to the fact that you are always there for her, you can talk about everything, complain, ask for advice, help. Now let's compare: as has been well with you and as it became uncomfortable, uncomfortable without you.

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Well, if the girl is frankly given to understand that you are not her type, what she values you as friend, simply does not perceive as a man – this should be put up. After all, "love can not be"!

Advice 2: How to become a good guy

There is a perception that girls like "bad boys". However, this stereotype has long been obsolete, and the last time for relationships girls prefer to choose a good and reliable guys.

Instruction

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If you want to become a good guy in order to please their parents, just start to do good deeds. Do some study, find yourself a useful hobby, for example, you can enroll in the volleyball section, or any other sport. Come back home on time. Try to show attention and care towards their parents. Concern yourself about their day, ask about how they feel and if they need any help. Spend more time at home. Enjoy mom and clear the dishes after dinner. If you are going to behave that way, believe me, parents will be delighted to tell all my friends about what a good boy they raised.

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If you're trying to please not only parents but also his girlfriend, you can become a good guy for her. For this you just need to take care of her, to show her attention and respect. Give her flowers, go on dates, come home. The girls came up with a list of what I have to do a good man, namely, he should be able to listen, to know when to shut up, to be able to speak properly, to be able to find a new topic of conversation when the star has exhausted itself, to be able to guess the desires of his beloved and execute them. In addition, they believe that a man must always protect his mate, to be able to stand up for themselves and clearly Express their thoughts and properly explain exactly what he wants in one time or another from his girlfriend.

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In addition to simple rules of conduct, you must fully support the image of a good guy, completing the image of the correct clothing. Good guys do not prefer sneakers and track suit, jeans, shirts, pants, sweaters, elegant and clean shoes. Try to always look neat and tidy, to behave correctly, and then all the others will consider you as a good guy.

Advice 3: Stay with guy friends

Romance, unfortunately, often end in serious conversation at the end of which signal to leave. Guys rarely seek to maintain friendly relations with the girl they can't have sex – such is their nature. Therefore, work to redefine the relationship to another plane needs to take the girl.

Instruction

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Rate possible between you friendship. If your relationship was based only on passion and sex, after a breakup you are unlikely to become friends - most likely, after a few passionate "recurrence" relations you will finally quarrel. But if your relationship was friendly, sincere and open – you have a chance to remain friends.

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In parting, behave properly, decently and culturally. Don't insult the guy, don't try to hurt him or throw a tantrum. Restrain yourself, even if you have something to say. Sorry guy, it is important to maintain friendships, tell him he's great, but you better leave.

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If the initiator of the gap became your lover, do not try to begin to sort things out – the guys really do not like. Accusations and claims you only bring him out of himself and eventually't miss your chance to get a good friend. Want to speak – do it alone or write a letter which then needs to be destroyed.

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Do not attempt to use the friendship to restore relations. Whoever was the initiator of the breakup, the first step is to make the guy. But if you feel that ex-boyfriend only wants sex, you better give up, otherwise you will feel used.

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Began to chat amiably, avoid situations and words that may have a stimulating effect. If you want to just be friends, sexual touch in a relationship you to anything. Do not meet, especially the first time, alone. Chat in a cafe, in the company of mutual friends, etc. Control your emotions and thoughts – you should not allow yourself to think about your ex-boyfriend as a sexual partner. These thoughts your subconscious mind will be given by gestures and facial expressions, and your friend on a subconscious level they "read" them.

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Respect his privacy and don't let ex-boyfriend to intervene in your. If you will fail this test, then you have every chance to keep the friendship for long.

Advice 4: Friendship sex is not a hindrance, or what if you accidentally slept with your best friend

You know almost from the cradle, you often saw him in his underwear, but always treated as a brother, and then suddenly this... it doesn't matter how you ended up in the same bed. Most importantly, how to keep old friendships. Look at a guy on the other hand will help a few tips.

Friendship between a man and a woman sooner or later ends up with one of the parties wants more than an evening heart-to-hearts on the phone. First of all, you should understand: was there sex accidental result of alcoholic party or have some of you woke up feeling stronger than friendship. Think about it, perhaps the time has come to move the relationship to a new level.

Love born out of friendship, has a lot of advantages: not have to meet the parents - his mom has long considered you a daughter, you guy already know the habits and shortcomings of each other and are not afraid to behave naturally at the meeting. Your sexual impulse may be cause to re-look at each other and plunge into the world of mutual courtship and reverent visits. However, there are also disadvantages: you are aware of all his past sexual exploits and ex-girlfriends.

Have the courage and discernment to not panic and not run out of bed in an unknown direction. In any case, you need to have a serious conversation on the topic: "What is it and what to do next?" If you both still have for each other nothing but gentle affection, you can try to translate everything into a joke and forget about the incident.

However, psychologists argue that the sex does not happen friendly. Knowing each other sexually, you will not be able to look at the person without physical interest (especially if the sex brought a lot of positive impressions). Periodically repeat sexual experiment, remaining friends, or declare themselves a pair – you decide two.

Advice 5: How to stop fighting with a guy

In each pair sooner or later there are disagreements. If time does not solve all problems, misunderstandings will escalate into a fight. Not every relationship is able to withstand frequent quarrels.

Instruction

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If you care about your boyfriend, then you need to learn to prioritize. Provided that you need this man, you need to take it for what it is. Each of us have weaknesses. If you are confident in your feelings, the weaknesses of your spouse will not become a reason for quarrel.

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In extreme cases, you will find out all the details. Is always more effective communication in the form of a dialogue than mutual accusations. When identifying problems immediately offer solutions. Discuss them. Be sure to find the compromise that suits you both.

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If necessary, set certain rules which you stick to. Do not break them to avoid conflicts.

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Learn the habits of each other. Understand that changing habits is very difficult. Not worth breaking a well-established character, because you love a person like that. If you value the relationship, you probably will meet each other at some points.

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Not crevices on each other. Everyone is a bad mood. Learn how to get rid of negative emotions, without compromising the composure of a loved one. As relaxing activities that you arrange a romantic evening, listen to your favorite music.

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A good way to understand the motives of your guy is to put yourself in his place. Imagine how he feels, what he wants. You different, so your opinion may differ. It is very important to want to understand each other, then many problems will resolve themselves.

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Do not try to influence the kid tantrums. Your you are unlikely to achieve, and the relationship will spoil. Constant tantrums will not stand no man. Learn to Express the desires of other, more peaceful ways. Motivate their requests using logical formulations.

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