How to Care for Yourself Before You Start Dating Again

Authored by
Mike Page

Posted
Wednesday, November 21, 2018 - 6:02am

The dating world is a challenging one. Some are looking for true love, some are looking for just a bit of fun, some fall in love at the wrong time, and others are lucky enough to meet the right person at the right time. For every success story there are dozens of failures, and yet we all put ourselves out there for a chance of our very own happily ever after.

The only thing you need to remember when you are on this quest is not to give up. Not after the painful heartbreak or the failed relationship you thought was going to be your forever. There are billions of people out there, but first, you need to follow this guide on how to take care of yourself so that when you do start dating again, you will be at your best:

Firstly, Improve Yourself

Getting over a breakup is challenging, but time does heal all wounds. You can use whatever method you need to, whether that is to stay away from the dating sphere or rush out and find someone new as soon as possible. While you are heartbroken, however, it is important to know that even if you met the next love of your life, the relationship could still not pan out. That is why you really do need to focus on bettering yourself and working on becoming independent again so that you will be ready for a relationship.

Secondly, Meet People Platonically

By picking up new hobbies and getting out there, you will naturally meet new people. Make new friends, grow your friendship circles, and keep your options open. There are so many ways you can meet people in real life, and getting out there using those methods will help you gain your confidence, move past your old heartbreak, and even have a meet-cute with your next SO.

Thirdly, Work on Improving Your Flirting Skills

Though being your best self will certainly help you attract potential suitors, it will never hurt to brush up on your flirting skills. A breakup can severely hurt your confidence in this area, and learning what signs to look for and some common dos and don’ts will go a long way. For example, watching out for signs a woman is attracted to you sexually is a great place to start. This way you can work off their interest and keep things casual, but exciting. You don’t want to be too eager or too hard to get, instead test the waters just as they are.

If you go in thinking a relationship will fix all of your shortcomings and make you into a new man, think again. There is a reason why so many successful relationships occur when the parties involved weren’t looking. Being desperate for a relationship will, more often than not, result in you choosing the wrong match. Work on yourself until you are happy being single, learn a few new flirting skills along the way, and only then will you have a clear enough mind to really know when someone is right for you.