Accentuate the positive

Recent research by marital researcher John Gottman PhD found that having a more favorable ratio of positive interactions between couples will increase relationship satisfaction. People who focus on having positive interactions with a spouse will have better relationships. It almost takes twenty positive events to undo one negative interaction.

Couples can help to improve relationship connections by intentionally focusing on positive interactions. Sometimes this will include:

1. Holding a positive memory in your mind of a good time you had together.

2. Taking time to initiate a positive interaction-especially during stressful times.

3. Focusing on the positive characteristics and traits of your spouse/or partner during a tough interaction.