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enDo you agree with this ASK AMY Response?http://instinctmagazine.com/post/do-you-agree-ask-amy-response
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<p>Sibling rivalry. Is it present in every family? Is it more prevalent in families with gay and straight siblings? </p>
<p>What about favoritism shown by the parents for one sibling over another in regard to financial assistance? I've had multiple conversations with a very good single gay friend of mine about his view of his parents' uneven generosity / financial favoritism in regard to him and his straight married sister and mother of his two nieces. His scenario is very similar to a recent Q and A in the ASK AMY section of the <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/ask-amy-folks-uneven-generosity-to-siss-family-makes-gay-sib-wonder/2015/07/21/a35a8392-2c97-11e5-bd33-395c05608059_story.html">Washington Post</a>.</p>
<p>Here's a letter from HURT describing her side of the uneven parental support / generosity.</p>
<blockquote><p>DEAR AMY: All our lives my parents have made sure my sister and I were treated equally when it came to gifts and money. That continued into our post-college early adulthood — sometimes Mom would give me money because she went shopping with my sister and bought her clothes or things for the house.</p>
<p>I find myself feeling hurt because my parents are now lavishing money on my sister’s family and no longer treat us equally. My folks help them with household expenses (my sister and her husband decided to work part time when the kids were born), pay for private school tuition, the kids’ clothes, lessons, after-school activities and vacations.</p>
<p>Mom and Dad have bought two new cars for them and have set aside money for the kids’ college expenses. In the meantime, my partner and I work more than 60 hours every week in demanding careers and live on the money we make.</p>
<p>I know that my parents’ hard-earned money is theirs to do with as they please, but I feel hurt that my partner and I do not benefit from their generosity.</p>
<p>I find it hard to believe that it’s because I’m gay, since they have always been supportive of me, but I am beginning to wonder.</p>
<p>I hate that this is beginning to affect how I feel about my parents and my sister. But I cannot seem to talk myself out of feeling that my sister and her husband have no reason to support themselves because Mom and Dad take care of all their expenses.</p>
<p>How can I have a conversation with my parents about this? I love them but hate this growing feeling of resentment. Or am I totally off base with my feelings? -- Hurt - <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/ask-amy-folks-uneven-generosity-to-siss-family-makes-gay-sib-wonder/2015/07/21/a35a8392-2c97-11e5-bd33-395c05608059_story.html">washingtonpost.com</a></p>
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<p>Is HURT being selfish or does she have a point?</p>
<blockquote><p>DEAR HURT: Your feelings are your feelings, and you get to have them.</p>
<p>I agree with your instinct to communicate with your parents about this. They might assume that their largesse is directed toward the grandchildren and so they might not see this as affecting you. This inequity isn’t because you are gay, but because you are childless.</p>
<p>Start by thanking them. Tell them you are aware that they have worked hard for their money and it is their right to spend it any way they want, but that their lopsided generosity has started to affect your relationship with your sister.</p>
<p>Don’t ask them to do anything differently — but do tell them how you feel. They may respond that they don’t give you more because you are simply more capable and less needy/greedy than your sibling. However, you should also prepare yourself for the possibility that this may create stress, pressure or resentment from them. - <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/ask-amy-folks-uneven-generosity-to-siss-family-makes-gay-sib-wonder/2015/07/21/a35a8392-2c97-11e5-bd33-395c05608059_story.html">washingtonpost.com</a></p>
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<p>Do you agree with AMY that HURT should speak up or would it just muddle the family dynamics?</p>
<p>Have you had something similar occur in your family?</p>
<p>If so, how did you handle your feelings?</p>
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</div></div></div>Sun, 02 Aug 2015 19:28:19 +0000Adam Dupuis7529 at http://instinctmagazine.comIs This The Sexiest Shave Ever?http://instinctmagazine.com/post/sexiest-shave-ever
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/shave.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="341" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/shave.jpg?itok=LvsLLUBb" width="650" /></a> ​<span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Is this the sexiest shave ever?</span></p>
<p>Our friends at <a href="http://www.newnownext.com/the-sexiest-shave-youve-ever-seen/08/2015/">New Now Next</a> tipped us off to this 2012 short film from fashion filmmaker Bart Hess, in which a sexy swimmer gets an extremely close shave. The film, via NOWNESS, is begging you to take a closer look!</p>
<p>Watch!</p>
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<p>From<a href="https://www.nowness.com/story/swimmer-shaved"> </a><a href="https://www.nowness.com/story/swimmer-shaved">NOWNESS</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>The seductive curves of a toned figure are slowly unveiled by the ultimate seamless shave in designer, animator and photographer Bart Hess’s sleek new film. Inspired by the aerodynamic forms of swimmers currently battling it out in the Olympic pool, Hess was aided by a pair of human shavers manipulating a two-meter long blade in turning a mechanical act of grooming into a strangely hypnotic performance. “What is important to me in my work is a sense of estranging,” admits Hess, who added the white bar in post-production to compound the uncanny feel of the film. “I want to show the spectator an image that may not be recognizable right away.” </p>
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<p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/shave2.png" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="317" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/shave2.png?itok=NBzFz3VH" width="610" /></a> ​</p>
<p>(H/T:<a href="https://www.nowness.com/story/swimmer-shaved"> Nowness</a>/<a href="http://www.newnownext.com/the-sexiest-shave-youve-ever-seen/08/2015/"> NNNext</a>)</p>
</div></div></div>Sun, 02 Aug 2015 18:06:01 +0000Nigel Campbell7528 at http://instinctmagazine.comRoland Emmerich On The Struggle To Get 'Stonewall' Movie Madehttp://instinctmagazine.com/post/roland-emmerich-struggle-get-stonewall-movie-made
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/stonewall%20movie%20still.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="432" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/stonewall%20movie%20still.jpg?itok=3pSdHc_I" width="650" /></a> ​<span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Check out the poster for director Roland Emmerich's feature film, </span><em style="line-height: 1.6em;">Stonewall</em><span style="line-height: 1.6em;">, centered around the 1969 riots at the Stonewall Inn in the fight for LGBT rights! </span></p>
<p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/Stonewall%20poster.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="963" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/02/Stonewall%20poster.jpg?itok=lClaS_03" width="650" /></a> ​<span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Speaking on the struggle to get<em> Stonewall</em> made, Emmerich </span><a href="http://www.vulture.com/2015/07/roland-emmerich-on-gay-rights-drama-stonewall.html?" style="line-height: 1.6em;">tells Vulture</a><span style="line-height: 1.6em;">:</span></p>
<blockquote><p>"It was an uphill battle, but we finally did it," said Emmerich, who was only able to get <em>Stonewall </em>made after he moved production from New York to Montreal — "We wanted to do it in New York on location, and that failed miserably because it was so expensive" — and slashed the budget to a meager fraction of what he typically can command on his bigger films.</p>
<p>The ensemble nature of <em>Stonewall </em>also proved to be a hurdle for Emmerich. "If you can cast a central character with one or two famous actors, you have a good chance to get the movie financed, but in my case, I knew there was not really one central character in the Stonewall riots," said the director. And while the film has a nominal point-of-view character in Danny (Jeremy Irvine), a young gay man kicked out of his family home who finds refuge with the street kids who congregate at the Stonewall Inn — all of whom face ongoing harassment that finally comes to a head during the riots — Emmerich insists that the diverse crowd that fought back at Stonewall won't simply be reduced to just one young, blond hunk. "I think we represented it very well," he said. "We have drag queens, lesbians, we have everything in the film because we wanted to portray a broader image of what 'gay' means."</p>
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<p>Look for <em>Stonewall</em> in theaters on September 25. </p>
</div></div></div>Sun, 02 Aug 2015 17:28:26 +0000Nigel Campbell7527 at http://instinctmagazine.comShirtless, British Accent, and a Thick Milkshake. I'm Sold. http://instinctmagazine.com/post/shirtless-british-accent-and-thick-milkshake-im-sold
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<p>Nope, not a good dancer at all. Lip syncer? Pretty good. But there's always the tactic to go shirtless to get our votes. </p>
<p>On a recent episode of Spike's Lip Sync Battle, Gregg Sulkin from MTV's <em>Faking It </em>decides to try and bring all the boys to the yard with Kelis's hit <em>Milkshake</em>.</p>
<p>Like I said, no points for his dancing, but we will give him props for committing to getting shirtless and milky. With a load of ice cream in his hair and one in his crotch, it's a cross between the uber famous "There's Something About Mary" scene and a wet dream.</p>
<p>Have a good Saturday. </p>
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</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 21:26:14 +0000Adam Dupuis7526 at http://instinctmagazine.com“I’m in Miami Beach with my new husband. God is good”http://instinctmagazine.com/post/%E2%80%9Ci%E2%80%99m-miami-beach-my-new-husband-god-good%E2%80%9D
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/RevJuan-515x420.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-medium" height="265" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/medium/public/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/RevJuan-515x420.jpg?itok=ujoI3UwV" width="325" /></a></p>
<p>I have suspected that some of my Catholic Priests from my childhood were gay, but it really didn't matter to me. They were who they were and they chose the profession they chose. I wouldn't have been thrown for a loop if any of them had flew out of the closet. But what if your religious leader was in a "traditional" marriage? That would be a little faith altering, dontcha think?</p>
<blockquote><div>A church congregation in Queens, New York was utterly shocked by the confessions of their priest, in the person of Rev. Juan Andres Quevedo-Bosch, 59, who mounted the church podium to announce his homosexual status. He also shockingly revealed he would be divorcing his wife [73] and marrying a younger male lover.</div>
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<a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/11811479_134230390248024_4518500141653822117_n.jpg" rel="gallery-all" title="Juan Andres Quevedo-Bosch Facebook Profile pic as of July 29, 2015"><img align="right" alt="" class="caption image-medium" height="325" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/medium/public/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/11811479_134230390248024_4518500141653822117_n.jpg?itok=_X9DBabH" style="margin-left:5px;" title="Juan Andres Quevedo-Bosch Facebook Profile pic as of July 29, 2015" width="325" /></a> On a Facebook post this week, the Cuban-born prelate announced that he got married in a Los Angeles church.</div>
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<p> <em>“I’m in Miami Beach with my new husband. God is good,”</em> he wrote in a caption of a picture on the beach.</p></div>
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This revelation has reportedly affected the numerical size of the church as parishioners have opted for other churches within the vicinity. This was revealed to the New York post by an unnamed elderly woman. In her words:</div>
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<em>“Most of the people aren’t coming anymore,” </em></div>
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<div><em>“Because he’s homosexual, people have stopped coming.”</em></div>
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<div>In the same vain, some church members have also stood up in support of the priest who has opted to resign.
<p> <em>“I am aware that there have been concerns regarding my divorce and subsequent remarriage and have been in touch with my bishop and my congregation about them". -<a href="http://www.tori.ng/news/5560/priest-announces-his-gay-status-during-church-serv.html"> tori.ng</a></em> </p></div>
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<div>Juan Andres Quevedo-Bosch has stated that he will keep his personal life more separate from his professional life, but is there a separation from those two when you are a religious leader? As a religious leader, do you not lead by example? Isn't your life the church and the church your life? </div>
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<div>And his church is an Episcopal congregation in Queens, a faith that does accept same sex marriages as a whole, but may choose to not allow the ceremonies to perform within their local church walls. We will need to keep an eye on the health of his congregation to see if they will come over to their faith's majority. </div>
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<div>That was a different coming out story wasn't it! We do wish Juan Andres Quevedo-Bosch and his new partner in life all the best for their future together.</div>
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</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 20:09:15 +0000Adam Dupuis7525 at http://instinctmagazine.comKevin Hart Tries (& Fails) To Explain His "Fear Of A Gay Son" Jokehttp://instinctmagazine.com/post/kevin-hart-tries-fails-explain-his-fear-gay-son-joke
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/kevin%20hart%20joke.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="285" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/kevin%20hart%20joke.jpg?itok=1v6ghFgA" width="500" /></a> ​</p>
<p>We're not sure Kevin Hart gets it. </p>
<p>In an<a href="http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/features/kevin-harts-funny-business-cover-story-20150729?page=9"> interview with <em>Rolling Stone</em></a>, Hart attempts to explain part of his stand-up act highlighted in his 2010 special <em>Seriously Funny</em>, in which he addresses his fear about having a gay son. </p>
<p>We don't think he hits the mark. </p>
<blockquote><p>Describing his sensibility in interviews, he's said things like "I'm not a political guy" and "What you have to learn to do is to give people what they want — people love a broad comedy." There is one prominent exception to this. In 2010's <em>Seriously Funny</em>, he tells the audience, "One of my biggest fears is my son growing up and being gay. That's a fear. Keep in mind, I'm not homophobic. . . . Be happy. Do what you want to do. But me, as a heterosexual male, if I can prevent my son from being gay, I will." This leads into vignettes in which Hart reacts to imagined signs of Hendrix's blossoming homosexuality with interjections of "Stop, that's gay!" Discussing this bit today, Hart says, "It's about my fear. I'm thinking about what I did as a dad, did I do something wrong, and if I did, what was it? Not that I'm not gonna love my son or think about him any differently. The funny thing within that joke is it's me getting mad at my son because of my own insecurities — I panicked. It has nothing to do with him, it's about me. That's the difference between bringing a joke across that's well thought-out and saying something just to ruffle feathers." Even so, he adds, "I wouldn't tell that joke today, because when I said it, the times weren't as sensitive as they are now. I think we love to make big deals out of things that aren't necessarily big deals, because we can. These things become public spectacles. So why set yourself up for failure?"</p>
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<p>While we'd love to take this as Hart saying he won't make gay jokes in the future, we're hoping someone will enlighten him a bit on his "well thought-out" joke. Beyond the fact that there's nothing wrong with being gay, there's also nothing Hart could do as a father to cause it. (Surprise! It's not about you.)</p>
<p>But, yes, please don't set yourself up for failure in these "sensitive" times, Kevin. </p>
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<p>(H/T: <a href="http://www.queerty.com/kevin-hart-still-doesnt-want-a-gay-son-20150801?utm_campaign=wp-to-twitter&amp;utm_medium=twitter&amp;utm_source=twitter">Queerty</a>)</p>
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</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 19:47:55 +0000Nigel Campbell7524 at http://instinctmagazine.comRE: HIV ... Are We Failing Gay Men in America?http://instinctmagazine.com/post/re-hiv-are-we-failing-gay-men-america
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/Screen%20Shot%202015-08-01%20at%203.17.57%20PM.png" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-medium" height="219" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/medium/public/images/blog_posts/Adam%20Dupuis/2015/08/01/Screen%20Shot%202015-08-01%20at%203.17.57%20PM.png?itok=q2V4i4mK" width="325" /></a></p>
<p>A recent article on <a href="http://www.hivequal.org/hiv-equal-online/7-ways-we-are-failing-gay-men-in-america?slide=1">www.hivequal.com</a> has us all thinking, have we put our health on the back burner? Has our fight for other aspects of LGBT concerns overshadowed the battle for our health? Are we focusing on love, money, and rights before living a healthy life?</p>
<p>Here are some excerpts from Tyler Curry's piece found in <a href="http://www.hivequal.org/hiv-equal-online/7-ways-we-are-failing-gay-men-in-america?slide=1">HIV Equal Online:</a></p>
<blockquote><p>A <a href="http://www.natap.org/2015/IAS/IAS_42.htm">new research analysis</a> organized by the Strategic Multisite Initiative for the Identification, Linkage and Engagement in Care of HIV infected youth (SMILE) reported that young people ages 13 to 24 now account for a quarter of new HIV infections, with only seven percent of youth in the study reaching undetectable viral levels after diagnosis. This number, which is far below the national undetectable average of 30 percent, gives insight as to why HIV infection is up <a href="http://www.advocate.com/health/2014/07/22/shocking-increase-hiv-infection-rate-among-young-gay-bi-men">132.5 percent</a> among young gay men in the same age range.</p>
<p> This inconvenient stain on the gay rights report card demonstrates a glaring omission in our advocacy work. While we have been teaching young gay men the importance of business, family and law, sexual health has been all but omitted from the curriculum.</p>
<p> In honor of the seven percent, here are seven ways we are failing young gay men in America.</p>
<h2>1. Same-sex safe-sex Education. What's that?</h2>
<p>Since sex education materials often assume that a student is heterosexual, there is no such thing as <a href="https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/lgbt/news/2013/06/21/67411/lgbt-inclusive-sex-education-means-healthier-youth-and-safer-schools/">same-sex education</a> in the public school system, and there is also little political momentum to include it. ...</p>
<h2>2. Do as we say, not as we do.</h2>
<p>Wherever there is media content on HIV, there are a group of older men who chastise young people for not “knowing better.” Since many of these young men where born at the same time or after the first protease inhibitor was released to treat HIV, we can hardly expect them to just “know.” ...</p>
<h2>3. HIV-related content must only be for HIV-positive people.</h2>
<p>Save for the PrEP advocates, it can often seem as if the only people who are concerned with safer sex are people who are already HIV-positive. ...</p>
<h2>4. "They just don't care if they get it."</h2>
<p>There is an annoying but persistent sentiment that older generations have about younger gay men and their relationship with HIV. It is that young gay men know about their risks, they just don’t care if they catch it or not. But how could they know about said risks if they have never been educated on them? ...</p>
<h2>5. Half-baked safer-sex messaging.</h2>
<p>Safe sex messaging still has a major presence in the gay community, but it can often be so vague that it barely makes an impact. Slogans like “know your status” and “get tested” are great, but they fail to connect with the young guy who receives an HIV-positive result. ...</p>
<h2>6. Becoming our parents when it comes to PrEP.</h2>
<p>When HIV first began to spread in the 80s, the last thing a young gay man needed was a lesson in morality. Yet that is exactly what the gay community got. There was a general public undertone of “that’s what you get” that permeated HIV messaging until it began to pop up in the heterosexual population. Today, something similar is happening with the HIV prevention pill known as PrEP, except the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/06/17/is-prep-a-good-way-to-fight-hiv-infections">lesson in morality</a> is often coming from within the gay community itself. ...</p>
<h2>7. Leaving the fight too soon.</h2>
<p>I think we can all agree that the fight for marriage equality was way more fun than the fight against HIV. So after the medication improved and people could live if they really wanted to, gay rights shifted from the right to live to the right to live happily ever after. ... </p>
<p>- <a href="http://www.hivequal.org/hiv-equal-online/7-ways-we-are-failing-gay-men-in-america?slide=1">www.hivequal.org</a></p>
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<p>As mentioned, these are excerpts from Curry's piece, but they should make us think. I do recommend going back to his full article at <a href="http://www.hivequal.org/hiv-equal-online/7-ways-we-are-failing-gay-men-in-america?slide=1">HIV Equal Online</a> and read his full opinion.</p>
<p>Was the fight for marriage easier to be a part of? The light at the end of that tunnel has to be closer than the end of HIV. We pick our battles too often on which one is easier to win, easier to make headway, the one that will be the quickest. Will we pick the next fight to focus on based on those parameters as well? </p>
<p>Do you think we have lessened our focus on HIV? Are we failing Gay Men in America?</p>
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</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 19:20:52 +0000Adam Dupuis7523 at http://instinctmagazine.comTom Cruise Naked Sculpture Artist: "I Spent Like a Month Sculpting That Penis"http://instinctmagazine.com/post/tom-cruise-naked-sculpture-artist-i-spent-month-sculpting-penis
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/tom%20cruise%20bafta.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="395" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/tom%20cruise%20bafta.jpg?itok=NRNqfZlk" width="594" /></a> ​<span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Those interested in worshiping at the altar of Tom Cruise are in luck! Artist Daniel Edwards has sculpted a piece called "The Shroud of Scientology," which features a nude Tom Cruise holding a cross. </span></p>
<p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/tom%20cruise%20sculpture.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="366" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/tom%20cruise%20sculpture.jpg?itok=qQPl2rXp" width="650" /></a> ​</p>
<p>From <em><a href="http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/tom-cruise-nude-scientology-artist-812386?utm_source=twitter">The Hollywood Reporter</a></em>:</p>
<blockquote><p>"It's not a send-up," Edwards says in a conversation with <em>The Hollywood Reporter</em>. "I feel it's more complicated than that."</p>
<p>By stripping Cruise of his clothes and having him hold a cross, Edwards says, he's not trying to mock the actor; he's trying to depict the obscure nature of religion. "I don't feel that the Shroud is something so black and white. I see it as something mysterious, definitely not as something so clear-cut," says Edwards. "Religion is always mysterious."</p>
<p>...</p>
<p>Describing his process, Edwards says he "sculpted" the Tom Cruise image using a 3-d computer model, which he then printed in 2-d on poplin, a fabric used for religious shrouds since the 15th century. "I spent like a month sculpting that penis," Edwards says, laughing. "That requires a certain zaniness — a kind of obsession, definitely."</p>
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<p>We're sure there was painstaking attention to detail. </p>
<p>For those looking to make a pilgrimage you can check out Edwards' "Pop-Up Church of Scientology" exhibit at the Corey Allen Contemporary Art gallery, located near the church of Scientology's headquarters in Clearwater, Florida beginning August 8.</p>
</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 18:32:17 +0000Nigel Campbell7522 at http://instinctmagazine.com'Queer As Folk' Star Hal Sparks Has Been Hitting The Gym & He's Showing Off The Resultshttp://instinctmagazine.com/post/queer-folk-star-hal-sparks-has-been-hitting-gym-hes-showing-results
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/hal%20sparks%20crop.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="293" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/hal%20sparks%20crop.jpg?itok=pN0fXzPo" width="573" /></a> ​</p>
<p><span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Here's one for all the </span><em style="line-height: 1.6em;">Queer As Folk</em><span style="line-height: 1.6em;"> fans still penning erotic fan fiction!</span></p>
<p>Hal Sparks has clearly been hitting the gym and we definitely appreciate the results!</p>
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<p style=" margin:8px 0 0 0; padding:0 4px;"><a href="https://instagram.com/p/5ikXC9gXpl/" style=" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;" target="_top">Progress photo: thanks to @Tradfit for getting me on the path and keeping me there. Brooks you are my brutha</a></p>
<p style=" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;">A photo posted by Hal Sparks (@halsparks) on <time datetime="2015-07-25T01:08:23+00:00" style=" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;">Jul 24, 2015 at 6:08pm PDT</time></p>
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<script async="" defer="defer" src="//platform.instagram.com/en_US/embeds.js"></script><p>Could we get that <em>QAF</em> reunion now, please??</p>
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<p>(H/T: <a href="http://www.newnownext.com/hal-sparks-got-swole-terry-miller-suns-out-buns-out-a-full-house-reunion-celebrity-instagram/08/2015/">NNNext</a>)</p>
</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 18:07:36 +0000Nigel Campbell7521 at http://instinctmagazine.comJeffery Self Is Cara Delevingne In Parody Interview Videohttp://instinctmagazine.com/post/jeffery-self-cara-delevingne-parody-interview-video
<div class="field field-name-field-tags field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"></div></div><div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" property="content:encoded"><p><a class="colorbox colorbox-insert-image" href="http://instinctmagazine.com/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/jeffery%20self%20cara%20crop.jpg" rel="gallery-all"><img alt="" class="caption image-large" height="371" src="/sites/instinctmagazine.com/files/styles/large/public/images/blog_posts/Nigel%20Campbell/2015/08/01/jeffery%20self%20cara%20crop.jpg?itok=xinWOVaw" width="650" /></a> ​<span style="line-height: 1.6em;">Cara </span>Delevingne's<span style="line-height: 1.6em;"> </span><a href="http://instinctmagazine.com/post/morning-show-interview-actress-cara-delevingne-gets-so-uncomfortable-they-pull-her-air" style="line-height: 1.6em;">super uncomfortable<em> Good Day Sacramento </em>interview</a><span style="line-height: 1.6em;"> made the rounds this week, but we think Jeffery Self's parody video tells the real story. (Plus the resemblance is rather uncanny, no??)</span></p>
<p>Check it out!!</p>
<p><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="337" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ULX6rhxpIMk" width="600"></iframe></p>
</div></div></div>Sat, 01 Aug 2015 17:36:40 +0000Nigel Campbell7520 at http://instinctmagazine.com