They see a girl that they like and immediately make the assumption that this girl most certainly has a boyfriend. She is way too attractive to be single. The shy guy allows himself to think in this way until he talks himself out of actually approaching her.

He tries to make himself feel better by telling himself that it would have been pointless anyway because the girl is taken.

However, somewhere in the back of his mind, he knows that the real reason why he didn’t approach this girl was because of fear. He may not want to admit it to himself but he is simply afraid that if he were to approach her, she would simply turn him down.

He can’t bear to think of how that would make him feel, so he plays it safe. If all he did was to simply look at you, he hasn’t committed to anything. He hasn’t taken any kind of risk. He can essentially fill in the blanks as far as what he is fantasizing about.

He may see the both of you doing romantic things together in his fantasies. He can let those fantasies take him away for a moment. He gets lost in them.

When he comes back to reality he feels that it would be better for him to maintain a fantasy about you than to take the chance of getting turned down by you.

There are also some guys who keep looking at you because you may remind them of someone. You may actually remind them of a past love or romantic interest. In those moments that they are looking at you, they may be reminiscing about that person.

Their thoughts may be positive due to fond memories of this person or they may be negative.

They may begin to wonder what that person is doing now. They may even question how they behaved and whether they lost out on an opportunity with this person in their past. In essence, your presence is triggering memories that may be causing profound emotions in them.

As they get deeper into their recollection of this person, they continue looking at you. They may not even necessarily realize that they have been looking at you for quite a while because they may be lost in thought.

51 thoughts on “Why Would A Guy Keep Looking At You?”

Hey well i go to work placement on fridays and i pretty much always see the guy i like and he keeps glancing at me like when even.im not looking i know he is. But he dosnt approach me could be shy but so am i any help!! Does he like me? Hes always there like 3 desks away in front of me. I dont know him personally

You would have to observe the rest of his body language in order to determine if he truly likes you.

If you notice that he tends to move his body in your general direction when you are there, that can be a body language sign that he likes you.

If you notice that he starts fiddling with something in his work space i.e. a pen, piece of paper, stapler while still stealing glances in your direction, that can be a body language sign that he likes you.

If you notice that he adjusts his shirt collar, adjusts his sleeves or starts straightening out his shirt as he looks in your direction, he is preening, which could mean that he is interested.

These are just some other body language cues you can use to help you determine if he truly likes you.

Thanks i noticed him staring and glancing at me alot like 5 times and im sure hes not assuming some old memories :/ cuz the previous girl he liked was 2 years ago so he mustve got over it. anyways i notived everytime he comes through the doors he always noticed and looks at me first……ALWAYS..and then he proceed to the desk infront me and steal glance and even stare at me when i dont look which happen 3 days straight. He stared at me when i didnt look and i catch him look at me he quickly looks away and i look corner of my eye but with turniing my head and see he still looking and staring at me. he cant fidget because he has his laptop he types on everythime i see him come :p haha… nice escape and yday i notived when it was brk my friend was there and so was he like 5 seats away facing me his legs body facing me..maybe he knows my mate ..Oh wai8 he does lol he seen me with her so i think he kneew his whole body turned to me i coudlnt look at all toooooooo shy :3 uhh gosh he had his laptop on his lap typing when he really can do it on a desk :v haah maybe to steal glances then he went away after 15 min maybe thought that i would make a move?? That was like last week before we broke up for easter holidays fell for him then so can you please say if he does possibly have a crush on me or lke me? because i notived him look at me non stop 6 times and gettin caught alot haha i thiught it was jus casual until he keept doing it everytime he sees me so theni feel for himm thinking he might to

how do you think i should approach his because everytime i see him he brings his laptop and put head phones in so i cant really approach :/ and do you think its a good idea if i let my mates tel him i like him and if he saays yes then i tel my mate to say i tell her for you she feels the same…. .. You means hes like DEAD SHHY xD i remember he fancied my mate last asked her number straight away without signs just literally straight 2 years ago btw and all of a sudden hes shy around me?! That quick he chnaged…..oh really u thinkk he likes me xD im so happyyyyyyyy

HI
can you give me a possible explanation as to why would a very shy guy wear headphones and go on his laptop and steal glances me when he knows he likes me maybe. isit because he wants to aviod me approaching him? or wants me to see me but find and escape?

And he was a 2 desks away infront of me and when i said to my libarian ‘ why does he have a laptop when he can go on computers’ i said that intetionally and he ltterally looked at me straight????!! even having headphones in :/

hi
Do you think he likes me whats the difference between attraction and liking someone and which one is better. I get guys saying im ”fit” and that im really physically attractive is it that type of attraction? and if so i dont wear much skinny jeans :p so i dont see how thats attractive. also people say i have a very cheery bubbly personality so maybe thats also a plus :/ haha

I am curious to know why does my crush just continously look at stare but do nothing. I know hes shy but does that mean he possibly likes or is attracted to me. I never encountered a guy like who would look loads of tines. Is he making his mind up or does like but trying to gather the guts to talk to me.

Maybe because at that time he sees me im by the labarian at the desk so maybe thats why hr cant approach. But then i wad also with my mate then his whole bodu was pointing towards me with his laptop on his lap but i didnt look because i was dead nervous. And his feet was facinh to me that was only 1 because hr sat in such a front table where.i can see him straight maybe he moved so he can take sercet glances/

Hi im a bitt confused i see him every friday and today he didnt even come plus it was raining heavy,, did he give up on me or is ill or buzy i dont evem know his name yet i was going to say hi today but he didnt arrive.

I hope he comes next weeek i did smile at him befotr the 2 week easter break . So i dont know :/

Hope he does come oh and what do you think how will he respond to my hi and smile because i remeber last time i did he didnt even react at all. but then continously look and stare at me. which is unusual.
Hope he will respond because i only see him every friday because of my work experice i only have 6 weeks left basically 6 days ( Friday)
:((

Hi i saw him today and because i missed him last week i saw him today and i walked paast him and was told that he smiled. obvs i didnt see and i came back he was there and he looked at me once and i caught him he looked away ASAP. im happy made my day tbh haha, also he keept coming n going like 4 times with like 10-16 mins. as he went i some how had the courage to say HI but i was quiet i think he just walked past and realised he had headphones in hah.

HAHA yes true that hey he didnt come yesterday on friday and i found out his name and added him on facebook but its been pending for more than a week and i seen that he rarely post things like his pp was uploaded around march i think.

Did he not come yesterday because he wanted me to miss him second time now and yes i know his timetable my libarian showed me she is so sweet i work exp with her but i dont want to go to sneak outside his class alone its awkwards and my mates all pretty much are buzy o have bf so im kind of stuck myself sadly.

Update ! Sadly he didnt come past 2 weeks even though he was in for some reason. Today i saw him as usual he did glance and look at me i try to.smile he looks away so fast thats its hard to give him a smile :/ so then i went infront of him as he was packing stuff away and he usually comez at 10:36 but he came today at 10:12 maybe to make up for it?

Anyways so as he was walking i was about to turn n smile he didnt walk past me he walked past me leaving a huge amount of space so i dont see hin?…maybe hes shy ?haha uhh.

You mean curious as in how i am like and how would it be like to be with him?
Ohh okay thank you and i did get his number through a computer?my libarain allowed me but i called and it said unallocated number? Whay does that mean. Any suggestions.?
I try smile but he looks away -,- uh

Hi update
You know you said hes intresested etc showsall the sign i texted hey last week he only saw it? I wondee what hes thinkong why isnt he replying? I mean he looks at me alot around me alott in free time?!

Hey there . I’m concerned about this guy. I have known him since I was 10. We started hanging out more 4 years ago. We have been on several vacations together . This summer we went on a cruise , before the cruise we saw my friend. She grilled him if he’s dating anyone … “ I haven’t found the right person” he told her.. he told me not to cock block him on the cruise… I didn’t. He never showed any interest in anyone. We hang out a lot, he sends me texts every day and sends me selfies on snap chat. I came out to him… and he tells me he would never judge me and no one knows me like he knows me. This weekend we met his friend at a bar… she’s all over him , they’re drinking… I’m DD. I’m watching the band playing and I catch him looking at me most the night . Do I call him out on it or wait for him to make a move?

I have this guy I work with. I got hired before him, so when he started training I’d help him out if he had questions. We usually work in the same general area. But from time to time we work different places in the store. Sometimes he will randomly be close to me or comes and finds me if he has a question. I catch him staring at me quite often. Most of the time he will smile and and just keep staring. But sometimes he looks away before I look back.

Awesome, thank you so much Luke! I watch all your YouTube videos. And he does sound like a classic shy guy. I try to always smile back at him. And if I’m not busy and we are in the same area I talk to him a little. About non job related stuff. But sometimes I blank on topics to talk about.

Hi, ,well there’s a boy and when I entered in that place(it wasn’t for the first time)he started staring and even when I catch him he keeps looking into my eyes ,he didn’t look away he just looked at me until I look away,and it was strange because his friend was talking to him and showing him some papers and his body was like he was looking into the papers but his head was looking at me and he was nodding his head because his friend was explaining him sth and while he was looking at me he noded😐It didn’t happen just once,about 3,4times he did this he keeps staring at me even when I catch him staring at me what does it really mean?!!actually I did sth wrong to some one else and I think he knew that is it because of my acts toward that person that it made her looked at me?or it was because sth else?

And he was always serious when he did that,no laughing,no movement,no blinking eyes,and then in another room he was standing near the door (actually he saw me before that I was there)he was standing.i was with his father walking to another room next to the room he stands and he looked at me and I looked at him while I was walking into the room next to his ,and just his eyes moved,not body no hand not even his face,he always when I catch him staring he keeps staring and I don’t want to go and ask him why because I’m too selfish!