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Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

I just read this. Condolences YSR.

"There is nothing more unequal than the equal treatment of unequal people.." - Thomas Jefferson..........that is exactly what is fucked up about today's society, takers want to be treated the same as producers and that is bullshit my friend.

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Yeah, it's your dad after all. Sorry for the thread hijack there a while back.
I see a lot of death. A lot on my watch. I do a lot of hospice/palliative care.

After a while, you see patterns of behavior in families. I'm no longer surprised at the fucked up things people do. In fact, I'm pleasantly surprised when families largely behave and do the right thing for everyone involved.

The worst cunts are the family members who haven't seen Mom or Dad in years. There's guilt and baggage, so it's next to impossible to get them to do what's best for the patient and not what's best for them.

There's those that see a payday and get really attentive the last few weeks/months. That's fun, especially when the power of attorney for health care isn't the same person as the caregiver/family member. Oh boy.

I've seen people kept alive just so folks (family members) can continue to get a payday. It's pretty common, actually. Well into the time of pain and suffering.

I've seen doctors (Especially oncologists) keep folks alive with transfusions and antibiotics just so they can inject poison into a dying person to create new billable charges. No shit. seen it with my own eyes. Heard it happens, but didn't think anyone I knew would actually do it. They usually call in their friends so they can bill too. "called a few consults for you." Gee thanks. Guess that 98 year old on the ventilator and pressors really needs a nephrologist.

And before you fuckers claim it's about me and money, know this. Once someone signs onto hospice, I as the primary doctor no longer get paid. yeah, I can bill and put in some special code, but I tried once and never got paid and the last thing I'd want is the survivors to get a bill after their loved one dies. I end up doing it gratis.

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Special rings of hell for them Simon.

I've gotten pretty used to losing family members myself.

My biggest shock was how the nursing home responded to us all being there together around my Mom.
They said most die alone there and were amazed how our family stayed even though she was no longer there mentally.

My Father's passing had some minor drama and I have to say that Santana was very good moral support through that...
...as well as saving us paperwork headaches and thousands on the logistics of bringing his body home.

I don't blame folks for being people but, it can be annoying how some carry on.
I just try to stay focused on who is out processing at the time as it is their time after all.

"Unforgiveness and bitterness are the poisons we drink believing it will kill someone else." ~ Unknown

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Sorry for your loss,

They buried Dad so fast in February we could not get to the funeral if we wanted
to. The bitch that Dad married a little over a year ago took everything, all his
money his new car and 1/3 of the house. And they were married just long enough
that she gets his Rail Road retirement. She even had a new will that stuck us
kids with the funeral expenses.

We'll never go back to VA., they are all back there screwing each other for what
ever they can steal and sale from Dad's house. Dad was the only reason that
we went down to visit, so we are done now with them all.

Sorry for your loss YSR, hope you make it through the weekend. Take care.

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Originally Posted by simon520

Yeah, it's your dad after all. Sorry for the thread hijack there a while back.
I see a lot of death. A lot on my watch. I do a lot of hospice/palliative care.

After a while, you see patterns of behavior in families. I'm no longer surprised at the fucked up things people do. In fact, I'm pleasantly surprised when families largely behave and do the right thing for everyone involved.

The worst cunts are the family members who haven't seen Mom or Dad in years. There's guilt and baggage, so it's next to impossible to get them to do what's best for the patient and not what's best for them.

There's those that see a payday and get really attentive the last few weeks/months. That's fun, especially when the power of attorney for health care isn't the same person as the caregiver/family member. Oh boy.

Makes me so glad that when my parents passed my brothers and I were able to get through it all without any trouble. My Mom was the last to go and my brother that lived near by was great, he took care of her and the house. After she passed we were all executors of the estate and had an equal share. My oldest brother and I signed the executor rights to my brother that lived near by and he took care of all the estate stuff, no drama.

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Christ, when my step-father (whom I dearly loved and was extremely close to) passed away, my sister came out of the woodwork and did everything she could to get me removed as the executor of his estate. She was bugging the lawyers so much, they informed me they were tired of her stupid shit, too.

She's a fucking nutcase... but she has a good daughter who has maintained a relationship with me even though she's gotten nothing but the worst lies and misinformation about me from her stupid mother. Even she realizes her mother is a fool.

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

When the wife's parents died, the shit storm started. All they had was their house, so it was to be sold and divided among the six children. Four were cool, two weren't.
It was such a trivial amount, it wasn't even worth worrying about. Everyone eventually they each got their tiny cut, around $2,000.00 each!
Tow them were bitching about two thousand fucking dollars! Imagine if it was real money!

Re: How's my idiot brother doing?

Your brother looks like me. Fuck I'm fat.
He could have heebed it up a bit though. T-shirt and a yarmulke... tsk tsk.
Jewish funerals are pretty good. THey're a bit "in-your-face, your mom's fucking dead, here shovel some dirt on her corpse" graphic, but at least the message gets through. Dust to dust. Good folks, them Jooz.