Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People

Harness the power of your emotions as you gain insight into why you react so strongly to the difficult people in your life. You may have come from a dysfunctional family, work for or with dysfunctional people, or live in a dysfunctional household. But you do not have to be dysfunctional! Learn how to stop playing the victim and start living as the victor. Living Successfully With Screwed-Up People shows you how.

Stop Overreacting: Effective Strategies for Calming Your Emotions

When you are criticized or rejected, do you have a tendency to lash out or withdraw entirely? Both types of kneejerk reactions can have lasting and unintended consequences, affecting our friendships, careers, families, and romantic relationships. The truth is, overreacting hurts us as much as it hurts the people around us. You may see overreacting as an unchangeable part of your personality, but in reality, this tendency, like any other, can be unlearned.

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People: Over 325 Ready-to-Use Words and Phrases for Working with Challenging Personalities

It’s not the work that’s so hard - it’s the people. The micromanaging control freak. The boss who takes credit for everything. The coworker who regularly strolls in late and takes leisurely breaks.There’s no escaping problematic personalities. And there’s no point fighting or letting tensions simmer. Instead, learn to build positive, productive relationships with everyone in your workplace - and put your career on an unstoppable upward trajectory.

How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons

Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world-renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, provides you with realistic, simple, proven techniques that will significantly reduce your stress levels and help you react effectively, whether the circumstances are professional or personal.

Mind Games: Emotionally Manipulative Tactics Partners Use to Control Relationships and Force the Upper Hand

Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner? Are you unhappy in your relationship, but can't bear to pull yourself away from it? Do you feel inadequate and sometimes deserving of the treatment you get? Recognize that your partner is your manipulator and abuser - don't allow them to force the upper hand. Mind Games uncovers a host of underhanded, sneaky, and malicious emotional manipulation tactics that manipulators and abusers use to beat you down and control you.

When you listen to Difficult People: Foolproof Methods - Dealing with Difficult People, Mean People and Workplace Bullying, you'll learn about the various types of difficult behavior you can encounter, and how to deal with the people that act this way. You'll discover essential survival steps for identifying and dealing with bullying.

In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People

Dr. George K. Simon knows how people push your buttons: your children---especially teens---are experts at it, as is your mate. A coworker may quietly undermine your efforts while professing to be helpful, or your boss may prey on your weaknesses. Manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it.

The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage

How to enrich your life and destroy doubt in five seconds. Throughout your life, you've had parents, coaches, teachers, friends, and mentors who have pushed you to be better than your excuses and bigger than your fears. What if the secret to having the confidence and courage to enrich your life and work is simply knowing how to push yourself?

Assertiveness: How to Stand Up for Yourself and Still Win the Respect of Others

This book shows you how to be a more confident, assertive individual. It teaches you the necessary skills to be decisive and in control of your life. With the information in this guide, you will learn to improve your relationships, move your career forward, and earn the respect of your friends, family, spouse, co-workers, and even your boss.

Do you tend to struggle in personal or professional relationships? Do you find it difficult preventing others from walking all over you? Or do you simply feel that people don't treat you with enough respect? If so, then it is likely that you have trouble establishing functional boundaries with the people in your life. This book will inform the listener of the basis of boundary setting, through visiting their past, healing it, and finally moving beyond. It will demonstrate how to develop emotionally by improving self-esteem, which is a necessity for a healthy personality.

How ADHD Affects Home Organization: Understanding the Role of the 8 Key Executive Functions of the Mind

Do you walk in a room to organize and find yourself paralyzed and overwhelmed? Do you find yourself spending money on organizing solutions that don't work? Organizing isn't easy. And having ADHD doesn't make it any easier. But it doesn't have to be impossible.

Rising Above a Toxic Workplace: Taking Care of Yourself in an Unhealthy Environment

In Rising Above a Toxic Workplace, you'll learn how to endure, cope, or quit if necessary. Drawing from authentic - sometimes horrific - real-life stories, authors Gary Chapman, Paul White, and Harold Myra blend their expertise to give you practical guidance, empowering insight, and realistic hope. You'll discover: how workplaces can become unhealthy and how to avoid getting wounded; what drives toxic leaders and why they are so damaging to those around them.

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do

Sometimes the big and small decisions in life seem overwhelming. How do you know what choices to make about your career, kids, and relationships? Even when you make good decisions, how do you avoid temptation along the way?

Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

Millions of people, both men and women, can become involved in relationships with manipulators, people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. These "toxic" relationships erode self-esteem and make life miserable for the victim.

You Can't Text a Tough Conversation: #RealCommunicationNeeded

As our use of technology has increased, our communication skills have decreased. We text when we should talk. We tweet firings and breakups. Technology creates the illusion of being in touch, but we lose the deeper meaning conveyed by body language, facial expression, and tone of voice. What we need are real, face-to-face conversations. Have we lost that art?

Terrified of making bad decisions and missing great opportunities? Do you question your judgment and doubt your intuition? Your brain is like any other muscle: it needs training to improve. Nobody is born with flawless critical thinking and judgment skills. These skills usually require systematic practice, but you can shortcut the learning curve by learning and mastering the methods of the best thinkers, psychologists, and high achievers.

Why You're Stuck: Your Guide to Finding Freedom from Any of Life's Challenges

Are you pissed off that life didn't come with an instruction manual? Do you find yourself struggling to figure out what you really want in life? Or do you know exactly what you want, but can't ever get it because you're trapped by fears, unwanted thoughts, and unshakeable habits?

Are you successful in certain areas, but still feel like something is missing in your relationships, finances, physical health, or overall happiness? Here's help.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

People with borderline or narcissistic personality disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling - in the extreme.

Publisher's Summary

You don't have to be controlled by difficult people! Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just “fix” that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase audio book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people’s craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people - and stay sane while doing it. There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life - starting today!

Sadly, before purchasing this book, I only read the synopsis and the first few reviews. Had I done my homework and read more of the reviews, I would have seen the one that pointed out that this book has a strong religious component to it. <br/><br/>Had I seen that, I would have saved my money.<br/><br/>The author's reading is done well (hence the 3 stars for performance), however the content and it's emphasis on God, the Bible and matters of Faith were not for me.

Has People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys turned you off from other books in this genre?

No, however I will be more careful to read ALL of the reviews before purchasing next time.

What three words best describe Mike Bechtle’s voice?

Personable, clear, emotive

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys?

this book has greatly helped me to understand that we are all a little crazy and when we think that somebody else is driving us knotty we need to remember that we also may be driving other people nutty as well. But what I got from this book overall is that the methods that Mike uses has been able to help me already over these past few weeks. I amiable to see situations very differently and I am very grateful for all that I have learned. This will be an excellent tool for somebody who generally is very positive but who lives around crazy people or who works with them. I was also able to learn a lot about myself as well and where it is that I fall short. I do not expect this extra gift from the book but I certainly got it. I am very grateful.

This audio book was highly suggested by a friend who said "I must listen to it" I was very disappointed in the content. The religious overtones were excessive and the stories and quotes that were in the book were barely relevant to how to prevent people from driving you crazy. He also kept numbering things like "17 steps" for this "5 steps" for that. The whole book just reminded me of a motivational speaker throwing out anecdotes and quotes and stating the obvious in hopes that something sticks.

If you could sum up People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys in three words, what would they be?

I enjoyed this book and there was some useful life advice in it. Its about the right length for this type of book as you can get a bit overloaded with do's and don'ts. He makes lots of analogies which I quite like but if you don't i suspect they'd get a bit annoying.

What was your reaction to the ending? (No spoilers please!)

The narration was pretty good but then its his own book so it should be. If I had to be critical then the religious references got on my nerves as non believer I felt it lost some credibility there, also the term "crazy people" was used excessively. I got sick of it.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Overall - worth a listen.

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