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Tuesday, 2 February 2016

This Is Wrong!

I saw this Meme and totally disagree with it!...Giving a man money is a woman's choice,because yours turned out bad doesnt mean you have to advice someone else not to do so....It is a personal decision done out of love and received in love......

If however you agree with this Meme,then shame on all the women who have opened shop on a mans wallet...A woman is not a woman if she has to also depend on a man's wallet to get by...Get up and work and stop taking it for granted that because you give him booty,he owes you anything...BIG LONG HISS!

I personally don't see anything wrong in doing dat. My man don't ask me for money but when I notice that d money is not flowing in the way it used to be a take some responsibility and pay some bills without him knowing.

I have never believed in this. I believe in supporting when I can and also expect to be supported in return. But what I most definitely don't hold on to is d hope that he'd end up marrying me just cos I've helped out in what little way I could.

Women will rush to tell u not to give ur boyfriend money except he's ur husband but then tell u that u should desert a boyfriend that doesn't support u financially.

If God forbid anything happens and my boyfriend needs my help financially tomorrow, God knows I won't think twice before doing it if I can afford it. Afterall, it's rub my back, I rub urs and he's done a great job in rubbing my back.

But on d other hand, if u have a stingy boyfriend, someone that has but won't give, abeg if he ever needs ur help, fold ur legs and pretend to be a mermaid.

Why would my man keep asking me for money? What happened to his own?I can get he needs my assistance one time but not every time. I ain't gonna be with no broke ass who needs my money every time.I make my money, make yours nigga.

I don't agree with the meme either. When u love someone as in true love no be all this kpako love. Giving comes from the heart and it doesn't matter who the giver or reciever is so far as its going to improve and better the persons life.

Stella a woman's money is like a ritual money, nothing good comes out of it, just insults and humiliation. I rather go borrowing than ask a woman for money, and I pray to God not to be in that situation.

It is wrong to give a man money all the time. The woman is only a pillar of support, the neck. The man is the head and the provider for the family. If he has an issue, or in a financial mess and his wife can help, it is a different ball game entirely. A true man will not stay put in such a situation, he won't be comfortable sitting back while his wife provides. He will make frantic effort to get back to providing for his family. Only lazy men do that and that is what I think this meme is all about that.Never give a leach money. They will only use and suck you dry like orange.

Yes av given my ex money to travel out till date he didn't return d money back! Instead went off to marry someone elseNo big deal!Dat isn't stopping me from helping my spouse! My friend married now to her long time bf 4 7yrs! Was d one helping her man, feeding him, he was even living with her, friends insulted her, said d guy would leave her wen he becomes rich!Today dey are happily married wit 2 kids, living large! D hubby kiss d floor she works on! Treat are with respect! Gives her d best!So it didn't work for u doesn't mean it won't work 4 others!

giving a man money is d choice of d woman. d money is not mine so who ever you want to give is also your choice. for me I will give but will check it well under accur banker first before it turn to be d more you see d less you understand.

Well for me I don't know where I stand yet so am gonnaa just say its a marra of choice..I gave my 1st boyfriend back then my university admission fee for him to travel abroad and after 2 years my dear member of bvn,he told me point blank am too low for his level*hahhahha*na so I see am..I learnt my lesson in a hard way but that wouldn't make me discourage others from helping cos not eveyone is an ingrate like my ex..its a marra of CHOICE

SDK... I love you more for this post, all those lazy girls who think it's by giving head and booty.. Wake up and be a real supportive woman to your man or else he will dump you if he sees the likes of DJ cuppy or the Adenuga's girls.

SDK... I love you more for this post, all those lazy girls who think it's by giving head and booty.. Wake up and be a real supportive woman to your man or else he will dump you if he sees the likes of DJ cuppy or the Adenuga's girls.

Stella i disagree with you on this. The memo is absolutely CORRECT.I remember given 1 idiot i called my boy friend money back in school days,cos he complained of being in a tight corner.The ekwensu went and spent my hard earned money on another girl,the worst is that he told the babe that am the 1 that is begging him with money.So the girl called me to heap insults on me that am chasing her guy.Imagine?? Tony, May God change my mind from cursing you shaa cos it haf do! Unfortunately, i can't stop

When I date a girl n she tells me she can't take a man out or buy things for a man Cus it is not a woman's responsibility, I just laugh at her n say in my mind, I'm just with you for the mean time. Not because i wanna be dependent on her no, but because she can't make a good wife for me tomorrow if she can't give me money or buy me things.

Wow, coming from Stella, this is highly commendable. Most women are self centered, and play the gender card only when it favors them. What is. Good for the goose is also good for the gander. Linda Eze, take note...hahahahhahahah

I don't see anything wrong in giving a man money as long as he gives you too. It's a two way thing. Why be stingy to him when he isn't to you? If he can't go to you in his time of need then you're not a good gf or wife

I agree with Stella. I will support my man any time any day. Most Nigerian ladies believe once a man f*ck's them he owes them marriage, gifts etc. Don't y'all enjoy the f*ck??!! is he not giving you the D*ck too?? I beg make uni park well jor. When y'all will be collecting the D and be speaking in tongue. *hiss* We women need the D just like men need the P.

A real man won't keep asking his woman for money. I don't see anything wrong in assisting him once in a while if he's financially down especially when I know he's not stingy. If he's a stingy guy, na to lock up nau. He should go and work biko.

Kemi, dont mind Stella dellavega, u did nothing wrong, he did. You are not disgracing anyone. Let it not stop u from helping ur future bf or hubby out wen he needs it. Any compensation for lending a helping hand is from God.

what actually irritates me is when an individual who claims to "Be in love" gives their spouse(or lover) some cash,and when the going becomes bad;He/she starts recalling how they gave you money to do this,that blah blah blah etc..

like seriously you do something for someone you are in A relationship with,and you keep counting them??

To me,That is the utmost height of childishness..

Whatever tho!! This is actually none of my bizness..

I think Men should just respect themselves,keep working hard and just take care of their finances..

The only money I gave a man I was dating in school was 2k, he didn't beg for it just that I felt like contributing something na. My friend knows me very well aka gum hand for boys but I can buy gift anytime I see something he likes provided I can comfortably afford it. But in terms of giving money, I dnt n will never support it unless you know he is contributing something meanwhile in your life or family.

True talk jare, women are helpmates to their spouse(it depends on the kind of spouse sha),if you see things are dry and u in a position to help,pls do. Some men will even refund u when he's back on his feet.

Before I opened the post. I was ready to insult whoever made this do. Upon reading it, the verb 'keep giving' shows thee writer is talking about continuous giving. Mostly men who don't work, so yea I agree. I'd assist my husband when the chips are down

@Trinity say whaaaat!Why call others stupid cos they don't share same sch of thought with you?So in your mind now a good man (in your words) is one who 'keeps asking for money'? Really? He Can't get on his feet and look for a Job?is he handicapped?My dear i can see your definition of a good man.hold yours very tight and keep him well. Trust me,you won't have a contender.Smh

I dont see anything wrong in giving a man your money but its a very daunting task for me to do, i just can't part with my money for a man. I dont have any reason tho and NO,i am not stingy. Even birthday gifts and the likes, i use his money to get him gifts, no time...

And the lazy men on the will be like,yeah Stella you are correct....for where?give a man money my foot,which kain nonsense be that one naa,Stella na so them teach you or its because you found yourself in the same situation as the breadwinner of your home,that's why you're supporting this, don't expect us to agree with you just because you said so.# if you like don't enable my comment,I've noticed you filter messages, you only post the ones that favours your ass and some you don't enable,it shouldn't be like that.

It's already a hobby that is why he 'keeps' asking. Leave stella to be boosting some lazy idiots 'moral'.Some will end up showing her comment to their wife and others their gf. Women with low self esteem dat all they live for is 'man matter' be licking her ass. Namsense!

I dont support giving him everytime especially when he turns you into his ATM. I respect men that find it difficult to ask a lady for money, lemme use my discretion to know u need money and I will glady want to help.

When women stop having the 'I supported him and so must marry me' mentality, they'd know aiding a man financially isn't a big deal. I did so much for my ex, he married someone else. Today someone else is doing so much for me sans asking for anything in return, That's just how life works. And yes, I can give my man cash if it came to it, fortunately for me, he would never accept it.#edopride lol.

I be man for prick and mouth.Go find job! Go and work!! Stop looking for women that will be feeding you day and night. What manner of dog licked out shame from your eyes?The likes of dj cuppy and the adenuga's don't come for your type. Lazy ass gold digging bastards. They go for 'REAL MEN'.

@Lara i think we are twins. I use his money to buy gifts only on birthdays. I don't give in vals or xmas. If a man knowing that i earn good money asks for a monetary favour, i will simply break up with him. I aint got time for rubbish

@ eka thank u for understanding! I am a good giver and I woud continue to give! Hubby, friend enemy self! As long as I can afford It.@ stella, my dear mnt disgracing anybody! U just disgraced urself! Mind u, he is married to a lawyer, and dat lady don't give a hoot about him, he have been begging for years now! Cus he isn't happy in his home. Sometimes u like a fool but little du u know what God have in stock for u.

stella you are so stupid with your comments sometimes andu just need to think before talking....are u so shallow minded tothink that the meme means nevergive man money? some men are gigolos, some are lazy and are not ready to be responsible but allow their wives do everything.some will be out of jobs but cos their wives are working they will not make an effort to look for a job and will keep collecting money form their wives.....you are the one who stays here supporting girls not to marry a broke arse yet u come here talking rubbish..no sane woman who has a hard working man will refuse to give him money when he is in need, but when a man is lazy then no money for him

abegii stello, na true talk , when you too give man money sometimes dem go turn you to office , a man is suppose to learn from his young time how to be the head of the house and cater for his family , not turning a woman to your grace point , most of them are eventually turning out lazy... ive been dere and am not being judgmental out of experience but on the reAL SENSE MOST MEN WILL JUST TURN YOU TO OFFICE

You are right. I pray hubby wakes up from his lazy slumber and start providing for his family, and stop depending on my #30,000 salary. I am tired of taking care of myself when am married. I hate the temptation I am being exposed to cos he doesn't care how I get the money and even encourages me to play men and collect their money without sleeping with them. That is the leach of a man I have.

Shantelle, but it's ok for a lady to always asks? It's the same you that will scream equal rights and opportunity for women.. anyhow sha, I don't blame the ladies supporting the meme, it's your African(nigerian) mentality at work!

Most of You girls get disappointed by men you have helped most times because you can't even help your own family or a female friend but you keep spending on a man and his family hoping for marriage,most times you will be disappointed but God will make a way for true givers

So oluwakemi, he is bn begging u for years for what exactly??to come back and marry him because according to u he isn't happy in his home...says who??? Keep deluding urself. Oya go and become his side chic and give free fuck on top ur money he travelled with. Fish brain!

@MzAnon.. thank u dear. There's a caveat to it Stella. If he keeps asking then he's not a man. Very self explanatory. No one is saying that a woman cannot or should not assist her man financially. Simply put, say no to gigolos.

I remember when I was in Uni. My then boyfriend will collect all my provisions and pocket money. This is someone that hardly gives me birthday gifts. I was so naive. Oloriburuku Oloshi. Stingy bastard.

The last time I checked the writer dint say giving a man money is wrong but said if a man kips "asking"a woman for money then he is not a man which is very correct..ok look at it when a woman who is being referred to as a weaker vessel asks a man for money consistently,she being tagged dependent,shamefull,lazy and all other names.now the man Whoz been referred to as "strongest" keeps asking a lady for money consistently and you say there's nothing wrong with it..i put it to everyone that the writer is 100% right..i can give a man money but not when he keeps asking consistently.