In my case I needed to select the device first, otherwise no menu appears
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the ReverendFeb 11 at 19:15

Wow, is this still the best way to do this? It seems like an "iOS devices" preference pane in System Preferences next to the other hardware pref. panes would be a much more intuitive way to handle this.
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Nathan LucyFeb 17 at 17:03

Because really, doesn't his answer answers the question, "Where is the one place on my Mac where I control which application opens after my iPhone is connected?"?
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Nathan LucyFeb 17 at 17:04