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We are 2 days away from our Silver Anniversary.Wow it has been an adventure. With lots of surprises

Not all of them good ones. We made lots of promises that day. We have stayed together through the highs and lows. The laughter and the tears. We have had adventures and travelled far. We have been stretched and compressed. We still have dreams and goals to reach.

We are still working on communication. We have just put together our first vision statement for us as a couple (will share that another time). We both believe romance is a special sparkle in each others eye. We have along way to grow but our love is strong and alive. I am hoping for another 25 years to enjoy this crazy little thing called love.

The Song

Your My Best Friend

I admit I have a soft spot for the music from the band Queen. The musicality and the way words from their songs have stuck with me when most others don’t; proves it.

This song for me essentially sums up a lot of what I consider to be at the heart of romance. So listen to the song and read the words. By the way they John & Veronica have just celebrated 38 years married.

The Words

Ooh you make me liveWhatever this world can give to meIt’s you you’re all I seeOoh you make me live now honeyOoh you make me live

Ooh you’re the best friend that I ever hadI’ve been with you such a long timeYou’re my sunshine and I want you to knowThat my feelings are trueI really love you

Oh you’re my best friend

Ooh you make me live

Ooh I’ve been wandering roundBut I still come back to youIn rain or shineYou’ve stood by me girlI’m happy at homeYou’re my best friend

Ooh you make me liveWhenever this world is cruel to meI got you to help me forgiveOoh you make me live now honeyOoh you make me live

You’re the first oneWhen things turn out badYou know I’ll never be lonelyYou’re my only oneAnd I love the thingsI really love the things that you doOoh you’re my best friend

Ooh you make me live

I’m happy at homeYou’re my best friendOh you’re my best friendOoh you make me liveYou’re my best friend

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I start my blog these days by saying it has been a while. I have been very busy working and then working some more. I realise that in the busyness of life I have let the romance element slip. After a little while of no special attention to my mate or from him. I find by love meter running pretty low. The irritating habits that we all have are amplified and I hear more negative comments slipping into our conversations.

If I ignore the warning signs that our relationship is going sour, it could walk out the door. Sadness, hurt and regret then replaces what was once a beautiful thing. I have seen several friends marriages end in the divorce courts recently. They are friends who live far away from me geographically. These divorces really floored me as they appeared strong and had at least 20 years in the tank.

When my life was less cluttered with work commitments. I would spend time with friends who were struggling or stressing about their relationships. I found in supporting them that most often it was the little things that count. I counselled from experience because my first marriage (8 years) did not survive and I learnt a lot by that failure. Current marriage is in its 22nd year.

If you have just stumbled upon this blog. Dig around in the archives and you will find many tips to ignite romance and keep the love alive. We all have a different vision of what romance is. Here are the starting points for romance.

take time to find out what your mate loves and share that passion with them.

complement them often.

organise together time with no interruptions.

find out what is important to them and validate & respect that. eg. I dislike clutter and mess. My mate doesn’t really notice it. He tries to be tidier and I am happier when he makes the effort.

Perfect time to treat your lady like she is special. Maybe she is not a mother but don’t let that stop you showing your appreciation. She might be a mother to pet or fun Aunty or even just a future Mum. Just find time to be extra nice to her.

Our family love pancakes and we all have different toppings we like. Have fun make interesting shapes or smiley faces or try some of the the more grown up recipes below.

It’s been a while since I posted. Just really busy with life and work.

One of my past times is reading. I have an Ipad these days and download a lot of free books.

You might imagine that I read romance novels but that is not the case. Never have and only time I have read them is when someone gives me one or there is nothing else. I also don’t read woman’s magazines. My fiction of choice is Sci-fi or Fantasy. There’s plenty of romance in those books for me.

Some how I had downloaded an ebook that was definitely a romance. So I will credit this quote to the author. Surprisingly the author is male as they don’t usually create romantic fiction.

When You Went Away

by Michael Baron

“I never stopped trying to show off for Maureen. I mean, when we first started dating, I always wanted to prove to her that there was no other man in the world she could be happy with. The songs , the food, the dates, the back rubs, all of it. But even after I won her I refused to let up. I wanted her to be a hundred percent certain at all times that she made the right decision.

She got the message

I know she got the message. But I still needed to keep delivering it.”

That in a nutshell is what this blog is all about. Keep delivering the love, don’t let up and never take it for granted.

The Woman & The Lawyer

A lawyer got married to a woman who had previously been married 12 times. On their wedding night, they settled into the bridal suite at their hotel. The bride said to her new groom, “Please, promise to be gentle. I am still a virgin.”

This puzzled the groom, since after 12 marriages, he thought that at least one of her husbands would have been able to perform. He asked his new bride to explain the phenomenon.

She responded, “My first husband was a Sales Representative who spent the entire marriage telling me, in grandiose terms, how great it was going to be.”

“My second husband was from Software Services: he was never quite sure how it was supposed to function, but he promised he would send me documentation.”

“My third husband was from Field Services and repeatedly said that everything was diagnostically OK, but couldn’t get the system up.”

“My fourth husband was from Educational Services, and you know the old saying – ‘Those who CAN, DO; those who can’t, teach’.”

“My fifth husband was from the Telemarketing Department. He knew he had the order, but he wasn’t quite sure when he was going to be able to deliver.”

“My sixth husband was an Engineer. He told me that he understood the basic process but needed three years to research, implement, and design a new state-of-the-art method.”

“My seventh husband was from Finance and Administration. He knew how, but he just wasn’t sure whether it was his job or not.”

“My eighth husband was from Standards and Regulations, and he told me that he met the minimum standards but regulations weren’t clear on how to do it.”

“My ninth husband was a Marketing Manager. Even though he had the product, he just wasn’t sure how to position it.”

“My tenth husband was a psychiatrist. All he ever wanted to do was talk about it.”

“My eleventh husband was a gynecologist, and all he ever wanted to do was look at it.”

“My twelfth husband was a stamp collector, and all he ever wanted to do was . . . God I miss him! So now I’ve married you, and I’m really excited.”

“Why is that,” asked the lawyer. “Well, it should be obvious. You’re a lawyer. I just know I’m going to get screwed this time!”