This is a long and heavy video! We’ll go over what makes a person toxic, why we’re attracted to toxic people, how to tell if someone is toxic, and how to remove the relationship from your life. I’ll also give a quick primer on trauma and betrayal bonds and explain the difference between a toxic person and an abuser.

Throughout this video, I reference Patrick Carnes and his book, “The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships.” It’s available on Amazon!

Do you have any toxic people in your life? How does their toxicity manifest? What do you plan to do about it? Let me know in the comments.

Toxic people can be difficult to get away from, especially if they’re abusive. I know that my words can’t stop a betrayal bond from happening — in fact, I myself have been in many situations where people try to help and I can’t or won’t listen. That’s how strong these trauma bonds are. So please be gentle with yourself. This is a long, winding, and arduous process. You’re doing great.

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Thanks for watching my video about how to spot and remove toxic people from your life. I’ll see you on Thursday for a video about mental illness and language.