How do ENFJs communicate?

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

What are ENFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

What are ENFJs like as parents?

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Denys says...

Myers-Briggs is not a 'truth' test. There is no such thing as a good of bad personality type. It doesn't measure or predict behaviour. There are different psychometric assessments that achieve that.

If people lack clarity about their preferences it will show as lower scores on Type characteristics. This can be the result of working in a work environment or organisation where the dominant Type is different from our own personality Type. Our job may require us to develop skills that would not be our natural preference. And it is possible to develop those skills to a high level. But, under pressure these skills may cause us to feel more stressed than if we play to our natural strengths.

Sadly, over 80% of people are in jobs that they don't really enjoy. Myers-Briggs is a great way to review, reflect, abd discover how we may best achieve our personal potential in a career and personal relationships.

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RICKY RICARDO (not verified) says...

2 years 11 months ago

Well, hello ENFJ mates!! This New Era revolution really has the potential for changing the world into more positive, productive, and fruitful communities by collaborating together. Kind regards to all from Mexico City.

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1 year 12 months ago

I have been fortunate to have been allowed to be myself in the jobs that I had. I was always the one everyone came to with problems and I was always the one who reached out to help them. I didn't have a degree. But I was a counselor and spiritual adviser in one of my jobs. If you stay true to your goal, you have many opportunities to help the world. Everyone you met is there for a reason and just tune in and learn all you can and teach all you can also.

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Allan-Dexter Racca (not verified) says...

8 months 2 weeks ago

Those individuals should be your fuel. Prove them wrong. Failure, rejection, and doubt are some motivational tactics of getting to where you want to be. It's tough to hear but proving them wrong feels so much better.

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Juliet Henderson (not verified) says...

8 months 2 weeks ago

Les Brown says don't worry about the how. Worrying about the how will make you waste precious time. Jump and grow your wings on the way down. Listen to him on YouTube and follow him on FB. It will change your life.

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1 year 2 months ago

I agree with almost all of it!! Amazing! But one thing, I love computers and programming... and it says that ENFJ's rarely go into fields as such. Is this wrong, or do I just see computing as "furthering humanity."

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1 year 1 month ago

Hi, I just thought I'd say hello because I used to be in computing and am now an interior designer. Whilst in computing I worked my way up to be a senior manager which I suppose shows I'm driven to be a catalyst for human growth and to implement my vision. I loved computing because I worked for large companies and had a team of many people, who of course I could help develop their own careers (that's the teacher in me). There's loads of human interaction within computing because you have to understand the business needs in order to cut code and you're developing a product that will ultimately help improve people's lives. I'm fortunate that computing is heavily used within interior design so I have the best of both worlds. Wishing you loads of fun creating new code that will help me and the rest of the world live a smarter, faster and more creative life.

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3 years 4 months ago

Of course I don't know you! But here are my thoughts: If you can find a business/company that you are able to authentically support and feel that it provides an adequate, flourishing, creative work environment you could be very happy doing that... but if you feel an extremely strong pull toward teaching, you should not ignore that feeling. Maybe talk to friends who have gone done either path / go on forums online if you can to explore what people who have had some diverse experiences have to say about the respective spheres, teaching or maybe advertising/marketing/start-up's - and this could range from internships to years of experience. I think it could help to understand more to help create a clearer vision for yourself
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3 years 4 weeks ago

I don't see a date on this thread so I am not sure where you are in your life. The easiest way to look at this is that the name "the teacher" does not indicate someone must be in the education industry. If you decide to go into business, you may want to look for roles that allow you to lead and develop a group of people towards a come goal. You can be "the teacher" in every part of your life, as you probably already notice. Occupation is irrelevant as long as you bring your complete self and have the ability to do so into your work setting. I assume that's why Truity will outline some sample careers for the personality type. Those roles will allow you to cover most areas of your personality.
I really enjoyed this personality test and think that it helps you to best apply your talents wherever you are, and helps to give direction if you are not yet sure where you'd like to go.
Best of luck,
from a fellow ENFJ

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2 years 6 months ago

This is pretty close to my story. I didn't know what I wanted to do until I was a Junior in high school. I was stuck between two professions: owning a daycare or becoming a teacher. I went to college set on getting a degree in teaching and changed my mind at the last second during orientation. So I started college aiming for a business degree to own my own daycare in the future. The first semester I was SO unhappy and decided I wanted to change my major immediately to Early Childhood Education. Now I'm in my senior year and about to start teaching 2nd grade and I don't have any second guesses. Annie is right, follow your gut feeling! No regrets... :D

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2 years 5 months ago

I just took this test on a whim because my son did it for a class at school. It described me to a T. High school student, you can major in business, but I bet you find yourself in a teaching role someday. It is in your core.

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jd says...

1 year 2 months ago

ENFJ's are often scientists, don't worry! The N is often interpreted as creatives, artistic etc. but it is also about big ideas, conceptual abstract thinking, curiosity, all things that make for great scientists and mathematicians!

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7 months 1 week ago

I took the test on Humanmetric's site, and two of the career choices suggested for an ENFJ were Science (technical), Computer Science, and Software Engineering. The other suggestions were Counseling, Psychology, Social Work, Education, Management, Fashion Merchandising, and Politics.