Parenting time schedule

Stefanie - posted on 12/23/2009
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My husband and his ex have had difficulties coming to an agreement on what is best for their daughter when it comes to a parenting time schedule. They both have their daughter 50%. She is 3 and goes to school M-Th mornings. I am looking for parenting time schedules that you have found successful. Thanks.

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Kelly - posted on 12/29/2009

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My step children have try alot of different schedules. They did the thursday to sunday with us and sunday to thursday with their mom, they have try just day days with us and the rest with their mom. We have finally got them on week with us and a week with their mom, that is the nices schedule we have found. The other schedules we found were just to many transfers for the kids everytime they got use to one home they had to move agian now they have time to relax before moving agian. My kids are 6, 10, and 12 and have been on the new schedule for a year and a half. I don't know if that would work for a child so young with no other sibbling to help with the transfers but you may want to try it. I also know someone that did Monday to thursday with one parent then thursday to saturday with the other parent and every other sunday with each parent.

My SD is with us 50% of the time. Ever since the new parenting plan she has flourished. She is 4 by the way.She is with BM monday and tuesday, then with us wendsday and thursday, then with her mom friday, saturday, and sunday. Next week is flipped so and we have her the opposite days so next monday and tuesday she will be with us and we will have her for a three day weekend. This is nice because the weekends are split evenly and that's when we have the most fun. Holidays are split too.SD has a better bond with BM and her step dad now that they get more weekends with her. In the past we had the majority of the weekends and SD's time with BM was less meaningful.

I have not had to deal with this since our daughter's bm lives so far away from us, but it seems to me that Jessica's idea would work well, especially if the two families live close together and both are within a reasonable distance to the school. I think it's really good to have your sd for both week days and weekends, since you could plan a variety of activities and neither one of you will miss out on anything (either school related stuff or weekend fun).

You could do one parent Sunday night to Thursday drop off at school, and the other parent Thursday pick up from school to Sunday night. If you want, every month, you could switch off so that one parent is not always on weekends, or dealing with school...

My stepson just turned 4 and is in school also (in a different county). His bio mom has him through the week and we have him friday-sunday evening. We used to have him every other weekend but we then decided every weekend. The only problem is when we plan things like going out of town (which is hardly ever) the bio mom seemed to get mad over it. I guess that's to be expected but it's annoying regardless. Especially when the bio mom has every single weekend to herself. Hope everything works out with the scheduling=)