A girl I know who runs a gaming website and happens to be into things like conventions has the creepiest comments every time she posts anything. It's very cringey and I'm shocked at the amount of guys who have no shame. Every picture is "oh, beautiful like always" and "wow you look gorgeous".

The girl is attractive, but these guys are just so boned up about a girl being into games that they jump all over every pic to try to get noticed. It's weird, I've talked to her about it and she just says yea its part of the job. She has to put up with these weirdos to keep making money with her site.

Thats actually nicely done. But I've done revealing cosplays before, and I never got mad at people staring, its just nature and I accepted that. Now if anyone crossed a line yeah screw that but you can't be upset if people look with revealing costumes.

I'm as straight as an arrow, but if I saw someone dressed like that in public my first reaction wouldn't be to stare and drool it would be to avoid looking as hard as possible. I feel embarrassed just looking at people like that. I could never go to a strip club.

That was how I operated all through college. Some how I got the idea that some girls wanted men to be looking at them, or it was just assumed that I should, so I felt like I just wouldn't give them the satisfaction.

Yeah, I do the same thing. It's not a tactic to make them think anything about themselves or me, I just don't want to be "that guy". There are settings where looking at girls and making eye contact is appropriate, but the gym isn't one of those places.

There's nothing wrong with looking, and you shouldn't feel like there is. I can guarantee, if you're hot, a majority of those girls are checking you out too.

The difference is just check them out, but don't stare/constantly look over. Just get your look in, and let it be, just like they do. Don't e afraid to look, just don't stare and you're fine. Plenty of girls enjoy it, just like you would most likely enjoy catching a girl checking you out quickly. It's only weird/creepy if you make it that way.

What the fuck did you just fucking say about her, you little rape apologist? I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in Social Justice 101, and I’ve been involved in numerous secret raids on r/creepshots, and I have over 300 confirmed instances of saying "check your privilege". I am trained in being overly offended and I’m the top SRSer in the entire social justice blogosphere. You are nothing to me but just another shitlord. I will call you a neckbeard with persistence the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, cis-sexist pig. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of differently-abled, ethnic, transqueer womyn across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the AC360 investigation, *aggot. The investigation that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your erotic subreddit. You’re fucking privileged, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can complain about you in over seven hundred ways, and that’s just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in arguing with shitlords, but I have access to the entire arsenal of Jezebel.com and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your privileged bigotry off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little “sexist” comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn’t, you didn’t, and now you’re paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will passive-aggressively type fury all over you and you will drown in it. You’re fucking dead, cis scum.

I hate the ignorant stormfront supporters as much as the next person, but I like /pol/ because everybody can voice their opinions, popular or not, without getting downvoted to to the bottom of the page like /r/politics.

I disagree with most of the stuff on there but it is the epitome of free speech.

It's not even internet culture, although it's certainly on the internet. 'Privilege' is the idea that some people are treated better by society than others, and so they don't appreciate the problems faced by people who are discriminated against. It's a valid concept, but it gets misused a lot.

Telling someone to 'check their privilege' (when used non-sarcastically) is essentially saying to someone that since they're talking to someone who is oppressed, they need to defer to that person because otherwise they're participating in the oppression. Essentially, if you're not X, they don't even want to hear you talk about issues relating to X unless it's just to agree completely.

Obviously that mainly just pisses people off rather than instilling empathy and respect for the situation other people are in.

Privilege is also a nearly meaningless concept when applied to individuals. Large demographics (men, white people, etc) generally have it easier than others, but any white man does not automatically have it easier than any given black woman, for example. Telling a single person to check their privilege rarely means shit other than "I can't think of a real argument, you're wrong because you're wrong!"

Putting it in terms of 'having it easy' is kind of misleading. Better to think of it as 'Shit I don't have to deal with', because face it, there are things you do have to deal with because of who you are in society, and there are things that you don't.

Fact is, you care about the shit that you're forced to deal with, it's very real and you are not happy about it. The shit other people have to deal with is the same way to them. Claiming they're exaggerating it, or that it's not actually real at all, or even that they should be happy about it? That's just bullshit. Don't be that asshole who thinks that just because something doesn't affect you, that it isn't a problem for all the folks who aren't you and have a different perspective on the issue.

No no no that's not what I meant at all! Everyone goes through their own shit and everyone's struggles are valid. I was trying to put across that (as an example), just because someone is white and white people are more privileged doesn't mean they have never faced hardship. I totally agree with you.

Of course white people face hardships, everyone does. But, sometimes, being white confers advantages as opposed to another race. Denial of the existence of that advantage is white privilege. A white person isn't perma-privileged or constantly privileged, but when there is an issue where people of two different races react or are treated differently because of how culture views those races and the more privileged person (in this case white) dismisses these differences because they haven't experienced them, then it's an example of privilege that should be pointed out.

You're right, there are certain areas where traditional underprivileged people have certain kinds of privilege, say women in custody proceedings. Privilege is also culturally bound. A white man may be privileged in Western society, but in another society, he loses those privileges, usually, because he is now part of a minority and under represented.

What the fuck? She's not even complaining. She's clearly answering someone's question and then made a joke trying to describe what it was like. That's it. She doesn't seem upset or angry at all. Why is everyone so aggressive?

Because she dressed up as one of the most sexist representations in comic books and then talks about how "creepy" it was that people were staring. She knows what the fuck she was dressing up as. It's like a stripper being annoyed that creepy dudes look at her.

I'm guessing it was something along the lines of "sure I'll be half naked, but I probably wont be the only one. I should be able to handle a few stares" but actually got "I must be bleeding to death or on fire, based on how people are looking at me"

edit: I'm saying she KNEW she would get stares, but probably didn't expect it to be as bad as it was, or didn't think it would be as awkward as it was. she isn't complaining, she's telling what it felt like to get stared at.

Regardless of the question that was answered, that doesn't change the fact that she went to the con dressed like that. There's no way you can't expect being stared at with a costume like that. Why do the stares have to be creepy? Is she trying to say no one was checking out her costume, but instead her body? Then she paints the people looking at her as fatasses eating cookies? Oh yeah, totally rational comment she left there.

But that's my point, we don't really know what she's saying. It's literally just a comment describing how people were looking at her. So I don't understand the animosity that's going on here, that's all I'm saying.

No. The comment is clearly meant to be insulting and derogatory. "Ha ha look at all these fatty losers, craving me like they're craving the last cookie in the jar". She can dress however the fuck she wants, but going to a con dressed in a costume that really stands out, and then insulting people for looking at her and making fun of them, that's definitely not cool.

What part of describing the people she knew she was going to be mostly naked in front of as fat starving office workers undeserving of the cookie they're coveting doesn't sound completely condescending to you?

How dare she feel uncomfortable and then share her feelings. Even if it was expected she can still feel that way. It's not like she said anything with 1/10th of the aggression and anger in these comments.

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It's a really good costume, but you can't go to a convention where at least half the people there have never seen a naked woman in real life and expect nobody to pay you any mind.

She described feeling like a cookie in a room full of fat women, which doesn't sound like too desirable of a feeling. I'm not saying it's right, because frankly she can dress however the hell she wants, but if she wanted to avoid that feeling, frankly, wearing practically nothing to a room full of sexually frustrated guys is not the way to do it. That would be like a stripper or a bikini model saying, "Everyone was just creepily staring at me..." Well... yeah, what did you expect?

Umm I don't think it's like that... Or do you think that no one should look at this girl without her approval when she dressed like that FOR a convention on purpose...? If she didn't want to be seen by some "creepy" poeple (who I think might involve some nerds who attend cons) then she maybe should've chosen a different place to showcase her dress.

Seriously, I look where I want. If you walk into a convention full of nerds--many of whom have likely never seen a scantily-clad woman up close--wearing next to nothing and expect to be treated as if you were wearing a smock, you're gonna have a bad time.

I think complaining about stares/looks when on purpose dressing up for a show/con is overreacting and plain stupid. Like going on stage with a group of people to perfom I don't know dance moves and complaining when someone intensively looked at you... And defending her seems really white-knightey "I would NEVER stare a half naked girl or a girl in any costume for that matter!11"... Like, would your opinion differ if she was wearing a full cover costume like uhh tranformer costume or a pokemon fursuit and then she'd say she got "creepy looks" (which I think just honestly were normal looks, smiles, a bit longer looks, etc. not really someone brething heavily right behind her and drooling while sweating over her hair)?

it's "cringe-worthy" because she rejected OP once and now he's using reddit to get back at her. don't you get how embarrassing this is for the girl, making a comment on her facebook photo about her experience at comic con?

so it's cringeworthy because of personal drama? she had to think it would be at least somewhat embarrassing, after all she is more than half naked in a public place, but I think she's just saying "yeah, I got a lot of stares, which I expected, but it's still annoying for people to act like they've never looked at naked chicks on the internet before"

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Hate to break it to you... As a fellow woman, I don't think she minds the attention.
Staring is human nature anyway. Creepy comments are over the limit, but if you're gonna stand out by being almost naked...

Yeah, there's quite a difference between a single girl (or guy for that matter) checking you out once in a while and a bunch of bros/gals staring and smiling at you just because they would definitely tap that. Maybe that wouldn't make you (or your friends; since you're saying "most people" I guess you count your friends in this) uncomfortable, but I know a few persons that would lose their shit.

Sounds like your own personal insecurity rather than anyone else's problem. Looking or staring when there is no expectation of privacy in a public place is not encroaching on your rights. It is, your problem.

Hey I know that Daredevil. He's in this video with me. They both seem cool enough, this was just a terrible analogy to use because its WAY to self praising on an act that was incredibly attention seeking to begin with. Thats what happens when "geek culture" just becomes regular culture to everybody else.

That's it, I'm done with this subreddit. It was good for a few laughs but in the month or so I've occasionally visited the quality posts have completely disappeared and have been replaced with dumb little kids and hot girls bitching which the neckbeards just can't understand.