One more question, do you ESFJs do a lot of introverted activities like reading? My mom's always been a bookworm. But at the same time, she likes being involved in competitive group sports and games.

Another point of interest... it seems SFJ guys are -very- different from SFJ girls... or do y'all disagree?

I do love reading, i just need to tear myself off the computer to actually read them though. I enjoy playing games online like Bejeweled, Luxor and Tetris as it is my time, although i will be competing against others, i do it when i am ready.

I am not sure if i know any SFJ guys.

“I made you take time to look at what I saw and when you took time to really notice my flower, you hung all your associations with flowers on my flower and you write about my flower as if I think and see what you think and see—and I don't.”
― Georgia O'Keeffe

Second of all, this is probably not representative of all ESFJs but I know several of them and they loooove to have parties/get togethers that they host themselves. All the time. They love to have lots of people around them. The more the merrier. They seem happiest when this is occurring. As an ISFJ, I like to have get togethers occasionally because I like to bring people together to celebrate (esp holidays, special events) but I'm at my happiest state everyday around just 1 or 2 people or alone. I crave this after being around lots of people. Also from my observations ESFJs seem to be more socially curious than ISFJs. Meaning the ESFJ is more inclined to test the waters of different social situations just to see what they are about, but more than likely won't stick around in any situation that's too "weird". The ISFJ, OTOH, will do less testing of the waters. The ESFJ is braver than the ISFJ.

One more question, do you ESFJs do a lot of introverted activities like reading? My mom's always been a bookworm. But at the same time, she likes being involved in competitive group sports and games.

Sorry to bring this topic back up, but I haven't been on here in awhile and just now saw this question.

I am not much of a reader anymore, but I used to read quite a bit. I definitely do require some quiet time away from the rest of the world on a fairly regular basis. Usually I satisfy that by taking a long bubble bath while reading or by snuggling up alone to watch a movie and eat a snack.

I think the reason for this is that I have to have some time that I feel is "me" time. It's hard to explain without sounding arrogant, but I feel like much of my time is spent living for everyone else around me. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm sacrificing for other people all the time, but that I am almost always thinking first and foremost about the people around me and how I am affecting them. My little bit of alone time is the time I get away to do nothing but just relax, forget about everyone else, and just "pamper" myself, so to speak. Perhaps ask your mom what it is that appeals to her about having her alone time and you will find that the answer is actually reflective of the ESFJ personality even though it appears to be introverted.

Si, Fe equal Fi & Ti

"I had a bag of Fritos, they were Texas grilled Fritos. These Fritos had grill marks on them. They remind me of summer, when we used to fire up the barbeque and throw down some Fritos. I can still see my dad with the apron on. Better flip that Frito, dad, you know how I like it." -Mitch Hedberg

Thanks guys.. that was really helpful. And Rachelpina: Awesome point... I think that about helps me verify my mom is an ESFJ. My ISFJ friend takes -forever- to get out of a funk, and nothing I do seems to help. But whenever I provide like... a few encouraging words to my mom, she seems to really appreciate them and visibly cheers up.

Edit: Oops... I meant ESFJ not ENFJ

I have an inner monologue that sounds strikingly similar to something off Animal Planet.

Thanks guys.. that was really helpful. And Rachelpina: Awesome point... I think that about helps me verify my mom is an ENFJ. My ISFJ friend takes -forever- to get out of a funk, and nothing I do seems to help. But whenever I provide like... a few encouraging words to my mom, she seems to really appreciate them and visibly cheers up.

Minor things tend to roll off me, but major things can really put me into a funk. I am prone to depression. You won't really see me throwing a fit because there is no soy milk left, but being jerked around at work or having a relationship go really bad or something gets to me.

Minor things tend to roll off me, but major things can really put me into a funk. I am prone to depression. You won't really see me throwing a fit because there is no soy milk left, but being jerked around at work or having a relationship go really bad or something gets to me.

Yeah, I think my mom is the same way, she just doesn't always want to express it to me because she wants to protect me. She really is one of the strongest people I know. These past few years, she's been through a LOT, but she keeps going. When the going gets tough, she get's tougher. There's moments when she breaks down... Like when two of my siblings wrongly accuse her of things and are unsupportive of her (Even though that's the least of her problems, it's like the straw that broke the camel's back). Again, all she needs is a few words of encouragement from me, and she just keeps going. ESFJ or ISFJ or whatever she is... you SFJs can really surprise people with your strength sometimes.

I have an inner monologue that sounds strikingly similar to something off Animal Planet.

Yeah, I think my mom is the same way, she just doesn't always want to express it to me because she wants to protect me. She really is one of the strongest people I know. These past few years, she's been through a LOT, but she keeps going. When the going gets tough, she get's tougher. There's moments when she breaks down... Like when two of my siblings wrongly accuse her of things and are unsupportive of her (Even though that's the least of her problems, it's like the straw that broke the camel's back). Again, all she needs is a few words of encouragement from me, and she just keeps going. ESFJ or ISFJ or whatever she is... you SFJs can really surprise people with your strength sometimes.

Yes, I agree with this. I still can't figure out ISFJ-boyfriend, which is probably a good thing... surely keeping my interest.

Yeah... I can't tell you how long it took to type one of my best guy friends that was an ISFJ. He was damn impossible and wouldn't give me a lot of feedback. I'd show him ISTJ, ISTP, INTP, etc. profiles... and he'd be like "Eh... kinda. Not really. I think I'm extroverted maybe." But once I finaalllyy figured out he was an ISFJ (They act all macho! I never guessed an F at the beginning!), he took one look at the profile and said: ".... Okay, yep."

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Sweetest post ever. :

I have an inner monologue that sounds strikingly similar to something off Animal Planet.