Hi, Ambe Rose I am so sorry to hear about this. This is probably one of the most upsetting things I have read on here and my thoughts go out to you. I have no idea what you are going through but I can give you some advice on how you could try and take the first few steps on getting better. Hope that is ok?

When my Nan died my mum was obviously very upset about it, but it was more expected because she was old. Just to be safe she went to the doctors and told them that she was struggling a bit with her death and some bitch at work was making her feel even worse, yes there are some people who are very horrible, but she got her karma anyway so..

The doctor said to see how she felt and then to come back if she needed more help. The help they had was normal counseling and also bereavement counseling. She didn’t end up going, but I know people who have found it helpful. Obviously, I would explain what the circumstances are to the doctor so they can have counseling to suit what is best for you. They will have to take into consideration that you will have different feeling about the death than other people that have family’s members who have died due to other issues, e.g., old age or illness, etc.

If you understand what I mean? The other thing I would suggest is to surround yourself with the best people you can right now. You don’t need selfish people around you at the moment. Involve yourself with people you trust so you can open up to them, there is nothing worse than telling a friend something and knowing that they are likely to tell someone else. An example of this is a friends dad had cancer. She told another person and me that she considered her friend, she didn’t want everyone to know. I stuck to my world and helped her all I could but kept what she told me as a secret until she was ready to tell everyone.

However, the same can’t be said for the other friend she told. She told everyone a d gossiped about the dad having cancer. We became aware of this when People she hadn’t told began to message her saying they were sorry to hear about her dad. My friend obviously knew that I haven’t told anyone so she knew who had. I had a go at her and told her that she shouldn’t go around gossiping about people’s issues. She didn’t seem to understand what I meant and didn’t get how she was wrong.

Some people seem to think it’s fine to gossip, but it is not so careful who you tell. The friend said she was upset about it and that’s why she told people and that is why she told people, which is rubbish. So please spend time with your good friends if you can. Hope this helps. xx