Swinger Couples Confessions: Introducing A Swinger Couple, Volume 2

Rick: I had a kidney stone, ended up in the hospital, and had to get X-ray. The tech that X-rayed my kidney stone so happened to be Christi. I started hitting on her while I was in pain, drugged out on morphine. I asked her, if she was married, she said no, I asked if she was in a relationship, she said no, and then I said, “I fly airplanes, do you mind me taking you flying.” Then I told her to call me, she didn’t call.

Christi: He gave his business card. I was worried that there were rules against dating patience. So I was going around the hospital asking all the other nurses if there were rules against that. They said no.

Rick: She never called. I was on drugs, so I only remembered her first name. So I called the hospital and tracked here down. I got a hold of her, and I told her, I may have been on drugs, but I am sober now, and I actually want to take you out.

Christi: I told him I had exams, but we chat all week and we pretty much fell in love over the phone.

Rick: I remember my friends asking me where I was that day I had the surgery. I told them I was at the hospital and but it was the best day ever because I may have gotten a hot date out of it.

Do you have kids?

Christi: I have a son that is 26.

How did you get started and who introduced the idea?

Rick: I brought up swinging. After many years of being together, Christi admitted to liking girls. We would have conversations about meeting a girl and hooking up, at a bar. So I started researching, and found out about swinging. I found dating sites, articles about swinging and it sounded like something we would be interested in. We knew right away that that is what we were into. We did not know what it was, but it seemed for us.

Christi: I was nervous. More so for the other couples, not knowing what their reaction would be and how we would approach them.

Rick: I was very comfortable with her being with another girl. But I was kind of nervous about me being with another girl. I was more doing the research to make Christi happy; it was not so much about me.

Christi: I was the outgoing wild one. The idea of threesomes, group sex all of those things were vey fascinating to me.

Rick: I just wanted to make her happy. I had no idea what that was going to include. But ever since we got married.

Tell me about your first experience?

Rick: We went to a friend’s house, with the intention that we might try to do something. Had dinner, drinks, we started flirting with the other couple, started asking questions. They were not swingers. But we have spoken about swinging together in conversations before. We all got naked and went into the hot tub. Everyone went to his or her own corner of the hot tub and I started asking questions. I asked if they were interested in swinging. The conversations were going good. So I came out and asked the other girl “are you into girls.” She said, “no, only if my husband wanted me to.” That was a big turnoff for us, and we went home, losing interest in doing anything with them.

Why was that a turnoff?

Christi: Because for me, I would only have fun doing it, if it was something she really wanted to do, and not because she was forced to.

Rick: We got together again a couple weeks after for drinks with the same couple. The wife admitted to us that she was into girls but believed that the truth would scare us off. A couple months later they were our first experience. It was mostly the two girls playing together. Us guys got blowjobs from each other’s wife and I think we both enjoyed it very much.

Was there any jealousy during?

Christi: No, no jealousy. We were pretty comfortable. We communicated for months about it before it happened. We were very well and prepared, and definitely ready.

How was the aftermath?

Rick: We spoke about what we liked, and how did it feel to be with someone else.

How was it being with another girl?

Christi: I enjoyed it thoroughly. I realized after about the second time playing with a girl that I am truly bisexual.

Did you talk about it afterwards?

Rick: We talk a lot after every experience.

Christi: I told Rick about all the things that the other guy did that felt good and what didn’t.

Rick: I thought immediately, I have to learn how to do that, and it has made our sex life even better.

So Rick, you didn’t get jealous at the idea of another man possibly pleasing Christi more than you?

Rick: No. Not at all. It was great. She was being pleasured and that makes me happy, and I got to learn a few more things about pleasing my wife.

Have you had any major or minor conflicts in your relationship due to you being in the lifestyle?

Rick: We mostly disagree on couples to play with. Nothing else really. There may not be mutual attraction for all parties involved when we meet a couple. So sometimes there are disagreements there.

Christi: I had one evening of jealousy. We were at a party. We were both roaming and meeting people at the party. He found someone that he was really into and it made me feel uncomfortable. I was not having a great time. I was not mad at him, but mad at the fact he was having fun and I wasn’t. I shared that with him.

Rick: I guess there have been a few situations where I felt that the other guy was getting the better end of the deal. As I was not as attracted to his wife as he is to mine.

How long has it been now since your first time?

We have been in it for two years.

Would you being swingers have made your relationship stronger?

Rick: We had a very strong relationship before. We are happy people. We have a lot more fun together now as we can share and explore our fantasies and do it together as a couple.

Does anyone in your family know about your lifestyle?

Rick: No. No one in our family. Friends know. They don’t judge us.

Christi: Some of my co-workers know we go to Hedonism Resort, which is a clothing optional resort that a lot of swingers go to. We have never experienced anything negative from friends and family.

How did they react when you told them about the resort you frequent?

They didn’t really know much about it so didn’t make a big deal. I am sure some of them have gone ahead and done their research, but they haven’t asked any questions.

Does your son know?

Christi: No

Do you think it will affect them in anyway?

Christi: I would be honest with him if asked. I think he would be surprised, but I think he would be ok. I don’t think he would judge me for it. We do not see the need to volunteer the information.

What advice would you give to a new couple wanting to experience the lifestyle for the first time?

Christi: Honesty and communication. Do not take one for the team. Be honest about the things you are interested in.

Rick: For me I really tell people, it’s not about the sex, it is about the people. Sex is apart of it, but we love being around people who are open-minded. They are just happier and we enjoy that.