Good relationships are hard to find, yet it turns out they can be just as hard to keep. The grass isn’t always greener.

Let’s face it, when someone special makes a grand entrance into our lives, we instantly put our best foot forward. For some crazy and unexplained reason, romantic attraction can turn even the laziest of us into infatuated over-achievers. People choose to date and voluntarily jump through all the hoops involved simply because they want to. Eventually, all of us crave a relationship when we actually find the person we know is worth it. If you are currently in a steady relationship, congratulations. But allow me to ask the one question that everyone’s been thinking: Is it really happily ever after from here on out? Was obtaining that relationship truly the hardest part, or have you found that it’s really not all smooth sailing from that point on?

The fact is that once people acquire something they want, they shift their focus to whatever is new, neglecting the attention needed to hold onto their original acquisition. In short, we don’t value each other as much as we once did. Now that we’ve successfully “gotten the girl” or “landed the guy,” suddenly there’s nothing left to worry about anymore. Therefore, what’s the point of trying? Can’t we just take it easy and let things take care of themselves? But here’s the thing: We’re cheating ourselves and taking others for granted. We’re tricking ourselves into believing that just because we have a relationship, it’s automatically a secure one. But that’s not truth talking – just our own laziness.

If you are truly willing to put effort into pursuing someone, you should be willing to put in just as much effort when it comes to keeping them. Romance is said to hold many “ugly truths” as well as many beautiful ones. However, perhaps the most powerful truth yet is that within our relationships, we have to try just as hard every day as we did the day before. Today’s world shows that modern relationships are extremely vulnerable in the face of time, change, and pressure. It may be a hard reality to face, but undoubtedly it proves to be a worthwhile one to accept if you are serious about the one you care for.

Here is a short video on how to maintain your relationships.

But what if the burden seems too much for you to carry? Then don’t try. Please, don’t. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting commitment or feeling unprepared to make sacrifices for another person. Just do a favor to yourself and admit it, openly. That way you can be fair to yourself, and better yet, you can be fair to those you get involved with. Every person can have the chance to enjoy a meaningful relationship; it just takes the right person, time and place. So don’t rush or feel obligated. If you know that you are not the type to work hard in a relationship, then hold off on pursuing one.

The bottom line is, never assume that somebody already knows you love them. Continually find new ways of saying, and more importantly showing, just how much they mean to you. By no means should we continually force ourselves to bend over backwards in the unrealistic hope of pleasing others both day and night; yet at some point we have to recognize that we can’t coast through our commitments and expect our relationships to survive on their own. That is equally unrealistic. Just as the saying goes, you get what you give, and however much you are willing to receive should determine just how much you should be prepared to give.

If you’re not sure about whether or not to give up on your current relationship, get some additional outside advice here.

Remember, “Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than positively boring.”

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Diane

4 Comments

Wow, what an amazing post. I feel that individual and couples of all ages need to sit down and read this. It is true that relationships are hard to keep and anyone with experience will tell you that. Love this post and continue to syndicate it as much as possible.

Diane Andersen
on August 1, 2015 at 5:30 pm

Hi Ameli, I agree. People of all ages have forgotten how to work on relationships. We need to drop the technology and get back to the good old days… lol Thanks for your comment.

Great post Diane. Sadly things keep going downhill… I personally gave up long time ago ahahha but once again, being in a relationship is not a priority for me, specially as I look around and everyone I know seems so unhappy in their marriages and relationships.
Someday I will give it a try tho ahaha
Emma

Diane Andersen
on August 5, 2015 at 9:30 am

Emma, I can totally relate. I have not been involved for many years now, and like you that is by choice. I have too many other things in my life I need to achieve or fix before I would consider a relationship. You are so right, too many people do not try to fix what they have and just let it fall apart, bit by bit, and then declare “How Did This Happen” “Why Me, What Did I Do Wrong?” When the time is right, you will know… Hugs