Being Gentle Vs Being Generous – Which Helps You More?

Exploring your sexuality is hard work. Exploring your authenticity is hard work. Both of these things kick up our fears an insecurities and I bet more than once you’ve heard a little voice in your head asking am I too much? Will I ever met someone who wants me as I am? Am I doing this whole thing wrong? And the on top of those doubts we might give ourselves a double whammy by shaming our fears, telling ourselves that we shouldn’t be afraid of rejection or fearful that we can’t hack getting to the root of ourselves, or the worst: If I was better, I wouldn’t be feeling this

And so we preach self care, and going slowly, and being gentle with ourselves. But do we risk going too far with that message? I’ve got more to say on that: