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Connecting Interfaith Families to Jewish Life in Greater Cleveland by providing programs and opportunities for interfaith families to experience Judaism in a variety of venues, meet other interfaith families, and to connect to other Jewish organizations that may serve their needs.

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One Interfaith Mother's View

By Susan Katz Miller

Why does there need to be support for interfaith families that is independent of any religious institution? Jewish institutions have made dramatic strides in the last decade in opening doors to interfaith families. And for this, interfaith families are thankful. But the truth is, there are still families who are geographically isolated in places where no synagogue is reaching out to them. There are still families that have been hurt and excluded so many times that they are unwilling, at least at first, to trust outreach from a Jewish institution. There are still families that bridle the minute they feel they are being persuaded, rather than being allowed to form a religious identity on their own time and in their own way.

And there are families, whether you agree with them or not, who would rather educate their children about two religions, than deprive them of deep knowledge of their Jewish (or Christian) roots. For instance, my children are "one quarter" Jewish, and the "wrong quarter" at that, because they have only a grandfather who is Jewish. But I refuse to raise them in ignorance of Judaism--they dress up for Purim, plant trees on Tu B'Shevat, and are learning Hebrew. I even have the chutzpah to claim that in choosing to educate them about both of their family religions, I am making a "Jewish choice," as compared to the more logical choice to raise them as Christians.

The Dovetail Institute for Interfaith Family Resources is the only national, independent organization that supports all interfaith families engaged in the struggle to find a pathway. As Dovetail's website explains: "No one path is right for everyone, whether in Catholic interfaith marriages, Protestant and Jewish intermarriage, or some other interfaith marriage situation. We are here to help you make the choices that are right for you and implement them drawing on the experiences and advice of all the clergy and intermarried lay couples who contribute to our resources."

Most religious institutions have given Dovetail a wide berth, fearing that Dovetail is somehow encouraging a "mixing" of religions. But in recent years, a growing number of individuals are seeing beyond this fear. I sense a heartening shift towards understanding the need for the sort of completely non-judgmental support for interfaith families that Dovetail provides. Dovetail board members and conference speakers have included many rabbis and people in the Jewish outreach movement who appreciate the need for this independent support. That will be true at the upcoming Dovetail national conference August 6-8 in Berkeley.

What is the risk of engaging in Dovetail's mission to support all interfaith families? It is interesting to note that Dovetail was founded by Joan Hawxhurst, a Protestant married to a Jew, after an uncomfortable experience in a synagogue group for interfaith couples. She felt she was "steered firmly, if surreptitiously, toward the decision to create a Jewish home," and she felt "excluded and faintly disrespected." A decade later, in what she describes as a "beautiful irony," Hawxhurst and her husband have joined a congregation and are raising their children as Jews, in a Jewish home. But she gives at least partial credit to Dovetail for this decision. She writes, "Within the supportive Dovetail community, we were able to explore the possibilities, talk about the tough issues, and come to our own mutually acceptable solution. To me, that is the essence of Dovetail: Our mission is not to decide right or wrong, not to steer couples toward any particular decision, but to provide couples with the tools and information they need to make their own best choice."

Derived from the Greek word for "assembly," a Jewish house of prayer. Synagogue refers to both the room where prayer services are held and the building where it occurs. In Yiddish, "shul." Reform synagogues are often called "temple."A Yiddish word meaning audacity, for good or for bad; commonly used to imply something was gutsy. Derived from the Hebrew word for "insolence." A language of West Semitic origins, culturally considered to be the language of the Jewish people. Ancient or Classical Hebrew is the language of Jewish prayer or study. Modern Hebrew was developed in the late-19th and early 20th centuries as a revival language; today it is spoken by most Israelis. Hebrew for "lots," referring to the lots cast by Haman, the story's antagonist, to determine the date on which to kill the Jewish people. It's a spring holiday commemorating the Jewish people's triumph. The story is told through the biblical Book of Esther; the namesake heroine, a Jewish woman, marries the Persian king. Their interfaith relationship is central to the story.

Susan Katz Miller, a former Newsweek reporter, is writing a book on raising interfaith children with Judaism and Christianity.