AND you have realized that you don't *need* anyone really other than yourself.

case in point: a guy whom i briefly saw, i wouldn't even say date...back in 2004...was the first guy i connected with after my ex-h left in 2001. well i fell head over heels, stupidly so because when i met him i knew he wouldn't be local and i hung on to this "dream". oh how he played me like a fiddle. I even flew half way across the US to meet up with him only for him to basically leave me for most of my stay.

so anyhow, flash forward to now, he emails me out of the blue and says hi, hope you and your family are well. i respond by saying we are good and hope your family is well too. he then proceeds to tell me he'll be in my town in December and puts his phone number under his name.

this dude i think was married and i never knew. i was just stupid and very low self estem then.

so i'm not responding.

after i re-read what i just wrote, i must sound cynical, negative and harsh. maybe that's another side effect of being over 40 and single in what seems like an eternity...but this guy really took my head for a spin, so i'm not about to go for another spin. and the funny part is he probably thinks i'm still the same naÔve girl he met 8 years ago. live and learn.

I love this ... Being over forty is perfect!
I have thought on occasion that all the time I wasted being with X I wish I could go back and be younger etc ... No Way! I embrace my forties and beyond with so much more then I ever had before!