What Matters Most

Saturday, 4 June 2016

I don't know about you, but I am one of those people that finds it difficult to make friends or gets annoyed when people aren't as loyal as myself is. I've had plenty of experience in both of these situations - so does every other person, even if you don't think they have. Many people... Everyone has built up walls to prevent themselves any emotional harm and most of the time it works, but then again, isn't it these walls that are hurting more?

Finding friends is a difficult task, keeping them is even harder. Being able to find somebody with a personality which compliments yours is a challenge, we may think we know some people when we really we don't. It's not because of us, it's because they've built up their own walls or they have their own personal reasons. I've found out that I don't get along as well with people my own age, I get along with people older than me, purely because I prefer to have more mature conversations - that's nobody else fault, and that isn't going to prevent me being friends with people my own age. You have to explore who is out there and what type of people you get on best with otherwise you're going to be unhappy for a while. Sometimes you can find that friendship that will last for life.

People come and go in life, some people are here to stay. there's always going to be a reason as to why they're in or out of your life. One thing that jeopardises most friendships is trust and loyalty. If someone betrays us, our fondness of them decreases rapidly. You may give them several chances, one or two too many - but in the end, once someone has broken your trust with them, that trust is virtually impossible to rebuild. I find that the main thing which spoils friendships is loyalty. One person gives too much appreciation towards the friendship and the other doesn't reciprocate this persons loyalty. People get most angry about this as it's extremely frustrating; to give one person something and they don't give a sh*t, really wears friendships down as does it wear the loyal person too. Friendships are based off of trust and loyalty, it's the key to everything.

Jumping to conclusions about why someone is acting a certain way, or just calling a friendship off because of something like not being loyal enough or breaking your trust is not the way to deal with things however. Have a chat to your friend about how you're feeling and if their is a reason behind their actions...you never know, they might really need someone.

Because of how people have treated us in the past we have all built up some type of wall. By doing this, we're not only preventing ourselves, but other people too in finding new friendships. Remember to show people who you really are because that's what matters most.