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I Rated My Marriage a 2 Out of 10

… 1 was “awful” and a 10 was “awesome.” From today’s FamilyLife Today interview (part 1 of 3) with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine:

Bob:Nina Roesner remembers a defining moment in her marriage.

Nina:We were sitting around at small group, one night, and we were talking about our marriages. We’d been studying marriage; and somebody came up with this bright idea to rate our marriages, on a scale of one to ten. My heart starts to pound; and I was just going, “I don’t want to do this!”

They came around the room, and they get to me. I said, “I’ll take a pass.” Of course, everybody was just really interested in my response, at that point. They pressed me for an answer; and I said, “I’m going to give it a two.” That was a really bad, bad number. Jim looked at me; and I don’t think I’ve ever seen him look as hurt as he did, at that moment.

Bob:This is FamilyLife Today for Monday, January 13th. Our host is the President of FamilyLife®, Dennis Rainey, and I’m Bob Lepine. We’ll hear from Nina Roesner how God got her attention, that night at small group, and what she did about it. Stay tuned.

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We’re warming up to starting The Respect Dare, right here online with you, as you journey through the book. I was going to start this week, but then I realized that these brief interviews with FamilyLife Ministries are today, tomorrow and Wednesday. They provide a good foundation for our journey.

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Glad you are here – hope you’ll join us in the journey by subscribing to the blog. We’ll start digging into the dares next week, but for now, we are laying the ground work, preparing our hearts.

Let us know what you think about the interview, and feel free to invite friends to journey with us.

4 thoughts on “I Rated My Marriage a 2 Out of 10”

I am sorry for what has happened to you all. It is sad that we women oftentimes forgive our husbands after they cheat, but many we see that it is not the same for our men. Would this be evidence of men having big egos or something else hindering their ability to not be revengeful?
I may be wrong. 🙂

Last year on this date I would have told you my marriage is at least a 7 if not an 8 or 9.. Fast forward a few weeks to Superbowl Sunday 2013 and my world crumbled. My husband confessed that something that happend in our marriage a few years ago he could not shake. (I suspected this change of heart was due to him meeting someone that at the time felt innocent but in retrospect was not). The months that followed were filled with hurt, rejection, anger.. the gammit.. In my pain and fueled by alcohol I made the WORST mistake ever.. I slept with another man. Which in turn drove my husband into this other woman’s arms to the point where he tells me he cares for her and while he does love me, is no longer IN LOVE with me.. talk about hurt!
SO today, we have been to limited counseling sessions with very little change. I would say my marriage is 1 or 2 now. I am working on me.. showing respect though I very rarely receive love. God is definately not letting this lesson go the easy route! I know in retrospect there are issue in my marriage from the past that I do not want in my future. I am hopeful and prayerful that God’s promise will be fulfilled soon.. that my marriage will be made anew and filled with all the love hope and support I long for from my partner.

Tiff –
I’m so sorry to hear this news. It IS a hard time for you, and I know you are paving the road with tears as you work on yourself. I am so sorry for the anguish you are enduring as you walk this difficult road. You are not alone, however, and we are privileged to struggle, walk, and pray alongside you as you journey. I’m glad you are allowing God to make everything new – He is not just the God of reconciliation, but the God of transformation, and He is creating your testimony. Don’t give up. Don’t quit. I’m glad you have hope – putting it in your Lord is absolutely the right thing, as He is always perfect, and always loving, even when we don’t see it.
Glad you are here.
Love to you,
~Nina