The 5 Top Giveaway Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

So your ex is gone – and he left you with a broken heart. Then, to add the horrible cherry to this already terrible sundae – he’s already started another relationship.

How could he be ready for something new so quickly? He can’t have moved on that fast.

The common wisdom here says he’s in a “rebound relationship” – and it’s common because it’s usually correct. And that’s good news for you, because rebound relationships sometimes mean your ex wants to get back together with you.

But if you’re not convinced, and you want to know the top signs that he’s in a rebound relationship and not something real, you’ll find all the answers here.

Even though at first blush it might seem like he’s found something real – he’s putting in an effort in his new relationship, the girl he’s with seems totally different from you, and he “seems” over the moon – there are some telltale signs that will give away the truth.

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The point of this article is to stop you from driving yourself crazy trying to analyze every little thing he does to try to figure out whether he’s left you behind or whether he’s just trying to get over you, or whether your ex secretly still loves you.

Even though your instincts might be telling you he’s moved on and left you behind, these clues will let you know that he’s not as over you as he appears, and this new “real” relationship might be just another rebound (and you’ll be able to get your ex back a lot more easily than you might think…)

Rebound Relationship Sign #1: How Quickly Did He Get Into A New Relationship?

This is the quickest sign that he’s in a rebound relationship and not something real.

If it’s only been a week or two and he’s already jumped headfirst into a new relationship – chances are it’s a rebound relationship. Nobody moves on and finds someone new that quickly.

(Of course, if he cheated on you with another woman and started dating her right after you broke up, it might be more serious than a rebound.)

Other than that situation, the easy rule of thumb is that the longer he waited, the less likely it is to be a rebound relationship. It’s more likely to be real if he waited a few months before dating again, as opposed to a few days or weeks.

Everyone works differently – and some people might be totally comfortable jumping into a brand new relationship right after ending an old one, so this sign isn’t a 100% guarantee one way or the other.

Take it in conjunction with the next signs to find out the truth.

Rebound Relationship Sign #2: How Long Has His New Relationship Lasted?

This is a sign you can use to narrow down the probability that your ex is in a rebound relationship very quickly.

Simply put? The longer they’ve been dating someone new, the less likely it is that it’s a rebound.

If they’ve only been in their new relationship for a few weeks, it’s way more likely that it’s a rebound relationship. Conversely, if they’ve been dating this new person for 8 months or longer, it’s much more likely that it’s real, and not a rebound.

Note that it’s way more likely that it’s a rebound if the relationship is new, not that it definitely is a rebound. You can’t tell for certain if it’s a rebound relationship if they’ve only been dating for a few weeks, but you can tell with a very high probability that the new relationship is serious if they’ve been dating for a year or more.

Rebound Relationship Sign #3: Who Did He Go For?

One huge sign to look for to tell if he’s in a rebound relationship is the woman he started dating right after you.

If she’s absolutely nothing like you – that’s a big sign that it’s a rebound relationship rather than anything serious.

Why would he pick someone that’s the opposite of you? The answer lies in a common human behavior: overcompensation.

You know how when someone is secretly insecure, they act over the top arrogant on the outside to cover it up? Or, when a guy buys a huge expensive car, it’s sometimes to compensate for something else he wishes was huge? (wink wink)

The same mechanism is at play here. Your ex is overcompensating for the pain of your breakup by deciding to date the exact opposite of you. Obviously, if things with you didn’t work out, it’s because he should be dating your opposite, right?

Wrong. Just like other forms of overcompensation, this eventually comes around to sabotage him, and he winds up unhappier than he was before.

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Rebound Relationship Sign #4: How Fast Is His New Relationship Moving?

This is a huge sign to look for – it gives you a ton of information about whether your ex is in a rebound relationship or not.

Here’s the sign: if it seems like your ex is moving super-fast in their new relationship, it’s a strong sign that their new relationship is a rebound.

This might seem backwards at first. After all, if things are getting serious very quickly in your ex’s new relationship, doesn’t that mean that things are real?

Counter-intuitively, it actually means the opposite. Let’s look at why.

It’s helpful now to look at the reasons why people get into rebound relationships. The point of a rebound relationship is to get over the pain of your last failed relationship, and to try to replace the comfort, intimacy, and happiness that you lost when your last relationship fell apart.

When you’re in a good relationship, it leaves you feeling more confident, happier, and generally way better than when you’re single. However, when a relationship ends, all of a sudden that source of intimacy, happiness, and contentment disappears from your life.

This leaves a yawning black hole in the center of your emotional well-being. You’ve suddenly lost the support of your partner, something that your mind and your emotions has taken for granted while it was there.

When this happens, it creates horrible emotional turmoil and unhappiness. (Obviously, this isn’t a complicated statement: break up feel really really bad).

For a lot of guys, facing the pain of the breakup is too much. They emotionally “panic” and look for any way to stop feeling the pain of loss of intimacy and support as soon as possible.

So what do they do? They get into a rebound relationship, of course!

What does this have to do with the speed their new relationship progresses? Everything.

As your ex settles into his new rebound relationship, it’s going to lessen the pain of the breakup. The immediate need for connection and support will be met.

However, when he’s alone, he’s still going to feel the lack of connection that he had with you. The new relationship won’t give him everything that his past relationship did, and that’s going to cause him emotional pain.

After all, the intimacy in a relationship of 3 weeks could never compare to the intimacy in a relationship of 3 years.

So when he feels that lack of connection and intimacy, he works to manufacture it in the new relationship. That means that instead of letting the relationship take its natural course, he pushes it forward, moving faster than he normally would and escalating the relationship more quickly.

This is why when you see your ex get into a relationship that’s moving really fast after you breakup, it’s a great sign that it’s a rebound, and not something more real.

Rebound Relationship Sign #5: How Is He Acting Towards You?

One of the easiest ways to tell if your ex’s new relationship is real or rebound is to watch how he acts towards you.

If he’s rubbing it in your face, or otherwise making his new relationship about you (rather than about his new partner), then it’s a huge, extremely glaring sign that it’s a rebound relationship.

After all, if he’s going to the trouble of rubbing his new relationship in your face, he’s obviously not over you. And if he’s not over you, why is he getting into a new relationship?

Because it’s a rebound.

If he’s going out of his way to make sure you know how happy he is and how well his new relationship is going, that’s a huge sign that it’s a rebound relationship that’s being staged for your benefit (or against your benefit, as the case may be).

However, if he’s hiding the new relationship from you, and going to an effort to make sure you don’t find out about it, that generally means one of two things.

The first option is that he wants to make sure you don’t find out so that if things don’t work out with the new woman he still has a chance with you. This would point towards it being a rebound relationship, and not something real.

However, if you’ve had drama filled fights and crazy things happen between you in the past, he might be hiding his new relationship to avoid that same drama.

Basically, take a look at what happened between you during the breakup, and whether anything crazy happened (like either of you stalking each other, or acting crazy, causing drama, or whatever).

If it was a pretty mild breakup, and neither of you has ever acted like the stereotypical “crazy” ex before – then his hiding it could mean that it’s a rebound, and he wants to get back together with you in the future.

But if it was a crazy, blowout, nasty breakup, with drama filled craziness on either side, then he’s probably just hoping to avoid future drama, and it’s probably not a rebound.

So Either Way, What Should You Do?

It will give you the best possible chance at getting him back, regardless of whether he’s in a rebound relationship or not.

One important thing to remember is that if he’s in a rebound relationship, even if he doesn’t wind up staying with her every day that he’s not with you it becomes less and less likely that you’ll get back together. That’s because his feelings for you will fade every day you’re apart, until your chances with him become zero. If you want him back, you need to take action right now to make him see you as “the one” and desperately beg you to get back together with him, and to do that you need this secret formula that gets your ex back in your arms for good. Don’t wait until it’s too late discover it now: Do You Want Your Ex Back? Use This To Get Them Back…

And if you’ve got any questions about rebound relationships, leave them below – I’d love to answer.

what if he got back together with a girl he dated before me and while idk what happened last time they dated but they’ve been together this time since October and he’s already found a jewelry store and picked a ring they both like? also, just over a month before they got together we were still skyping and doing intimate and sexual things over skype even though we broke up back in may. when we are together we still do things that drive each other crazy but when he mentions his gf I get crazy jealous. (also, my ex-friend sabotaged the relationship cause she hates it when other people are happy or when things aren’t going her way). I want him back but I know that if he’s happy then I don’t want to ruin that for him. I honestly don’t have a clue about what to do and one of my friends who also knows him says she’ll tell him the truth next week if I don’t. I need help. this guy was the love of my life and my life has felt empty ever since. I barely smile or laugh or anything. he was the only guy who treated me right out of all the guys I’ve dated and I still love him but I know that I either have to find a way to let him go or hope that he comes back to me. the only difference that I know of as of now between me and his new gf is that she is a girly girl and I’m a mix of a tomboy and a girly girl. I could really use some advice. please help.

Hi, my name is Jennifer and me and my partner broke up 2 months ago after being together for 4 yrs. I had went approximately 24 days without talking to him last month and things seemed like they might of started to come around maybe a little. But all of a sudden now he has started seeing someone else about 2 weeks ago and telling me that we’re never getting back together and that the last going off in our relationship he didnt have romantic feelings for me. He had put pictures on social media of the two of them together captioning it as being completely renewed along with poems that he has written and posted for her. So I have went back into no contact cause I really dont know what else to do. I want more then anything to have him back. Is this relationship a rebound? Im really at a lose here, Please help :(

Hi! I was in a relationship for almost three years with this guy I loved very much. He was always so insecure with our relationship and acted childish throughout He would walk away because of stupid things and then eventually come back. I am pretty sure each time he left he would go to a new woman. I know for a fact twice. This last time we were working on getting back together but I soon found out that he was communicating with another girl We weren’t officially back together at the time just working on it. I called him out in it and he is now seeing her. Seems the relationship is moving pretty quickly with him staying at her place nightly leaving his two daughters home alone all the time I haven’t had contact with him for a couple of weeks. Any suggestions as to what you think or how I should proceed?? Thank you. Heartbroken to say the least. :(

So my fiance and i split about 5 weeks ago after 2 years. It was more me i guess i was sick of him working and helping others or out with friends with any free time he had after work. It was nothing more then i was depressed and overwhelmed with 4 children one is his and ill mention im also almost 4 months pregnant with his 2nd. He was never around till late hours never making time for us or helping out. He felt as though he worked he shouldnt be expected to do anything else with the kids or help around the house. This wasnt always his behaviour it was just becoming more routine for him. And now after 3 weeks into the break up he is now head over heels for someone else of which she is also out of a very fresh long term relationship. I am currently living in our home with the children due to being on bedrest and i have no other options or a job to support us. But he is really hurting me not being here during this time and spends all his time with her including staying at her house nightly. Everything i asked him to do for us like make time for us spend time with us ect… He is now doing for her like he is over compensating something. he always worked long hours even before we were together and now he is barely working to make sure she has his time. Also during the first week and the week after they were talking and hooking up she was still talking to her long term ex and had meet with him and went out while ignoring his text or calls. She of course said it wasnt like that. She also has no kids and lives with her parents i just dont see how she could even be interested in him considering the children and me being pregnant. Their relationship is moving so fast with conversations of how they can get through anything together blah blah blah… Although he has always taken care of us financially he just isnt interested in the kids anymore due to her freedom to do as she pleases with no limits and it like he want the same for himself. But obviously that will not be an option for him im the one with the kids and keeping them while he is out doing these things. Once this kid arrives and im able to work and move we have agreed to joint custody whick means he will have to take care of them. Is this a rebound relationship i dont know how to take this after all we have done and our problems were fixable issues with no trust or cheating issues. But yet he still has to look through her phone because of her past already… I do very lil contact with him even when he is trying to tell me about work or something i dont text or call unless its about the kids or we need something in the home. Is that relationship going to last??? Should i go ahead and realize im going to be on my own and have to labor and birth a child alone among other health issues during this pregnancy. What is going on?

Bfriend and I were together 15 yrs . Calls me up one night tells me he slept with someone else . I said seriously after 15 yrs u sleep with someone else . I am very hurt and very heart broken about this . We were so close that we squeaked or so i thought Needless to say that was like a month ago . He secretly calls me and secretly comes to visit me all the time so what am I suppose to think ? He tells me if he gets caught that she will kick him to the curb so I said gd I hope u get caught lol . And he tells me he loves me . So is this rebound or for real ?

Isn’t it very likely that he already knew that girl before the break up?!
Me and my ex have been together for 8 months and only 2 weeks after we broke up in a very bad way he’s flaunting his new relationship all over social media, whereas it took him like 3 months in our relationship before he first posted anything with us two.

I mean who makes their relationship official within a few days?! seems pretty unlikely.

I’m devastated now cause in the end I won’t ever find out what really happened, and therefore I can’t get closure.

Me and my girlfriend knew eachother for the longest since 2015 we dated in 2016 and stayed together for over a year and a half. we got a place together and everything, had many posts of us just living our dream then she went on a trip to oklahoma for a week. I was fine with that then after more than a week she changes her status to single and says shes moving on out there when she texted my mom. she thought it would be easier for both of us. we then was back together and the next day she said she needed help. me and the mom drove on my workday all the way to oklahoma to pick her up. on the ride back about an hour back into town she dumps me on the road. she grabs some things and heads back out to oklahoma. after two weeks pass she comes back. sees i been messaging a girl and just goes berserk and tries to kill herself ect. keeps blaming me for everything and i never cheated in my life. I told her she needed mental help cause i was worried after that incident and now skipping to this time in day she hates my guts keeps blaming me for everything even though she quit her job and left me paying for the new place alone. lost friends and family over her. and shes in a new relationship. so is it a rebound or am i just suppose to die single and never truly loved???

I have been in a relationship since September with this guy. At first we got on really well then we had a few disagreements. Finally on Feb 11th I got belongings from his house and went back home. He hasn’t tried to get back with me and if he did text, he says the relationship is over. I heard he went on holiday yesterday but I don’t know with I do know he’s gone to Spain and his ex had a place in Spain. He’s blocked my phone but I can still get through via email. I feel so let down and upset. I am gutted .

Im trying to follow the 5 steps towards getting him back, but I’m worried his new girl isn’t a rebound! We were together for over 5 years and he broke up with me due to miscommunication issues and just loss of the spark that kept us together for so long. I still love him truly and have tried to move on by seeing other guys, which just makes me realize more and more that the connection I had with him was like no other. We have been broken up for a little over 3 months now and for the first two we remained in contact. Before finding this article, I broke off all contact with him for about 3 weeks and then finally reached out to him a couple days ago on christmas to wish him happy holidays, in which he responded very friendly. I noticed this past holiday he keeps posting pictures of a girl who resembles me. We have very similar features… which worries me. He seems to be showing all the other signs that it is a rebound besides that she looks just like me! That part truly is haunting me. I am starting to feel more confident and better about accepting our breakup but this has made me feel right back to where I began. He is a very private person and never in the seven years I’ve known him does he post his private life on social media. In the 5 years we were together he hardly posted about me, so it seems odd to me that after a month or two of being with this girl ( who looks like me????) that he posts a picture or two of her a day…. Am i reading too much into this? seems like maybe he is trying to rub it in my face since we are still friends on social media. Since I broke contact within 3 weeks (prior to finding these steps), I will work on myself and continue the no contact rule for another 4 weeks. Hopefully this gives me more time to feel confident again and accept the end of the relationship before I reach out to him again. Is there any reassurance about this mystery girl? This is what is holding me back and making me fearful!

Omg your story is really similar to mine! My ex boyfriend of 5 years texted me 2 weeks before he moved on with this girl that he still love me. We broke up for 2 months and we were still in contact before he knew this girl. Is not even a month and both of them are already in a official relationship. He met her parents, always there for family events and both of them always post live video of each other daily and he even declared to everyone that she’s the love of his life and gonna marry her. It took us years and he did everything for her in a month! I was so devastated cause I still love him! And Im not sure how to get him back cause he blocked me and they seem happy and inseperable now ):

My ex and I were together for 2 years, and then he broke up with me he said he doesn’t feel the same for me anymore. It’s a month now since the breakup. He is asking my bestfriend for advices about getting a new girl out for a coffee, but also telling that he doesn’t want to go too fast because he just ended things with me. We really had a special bond, and we shared really a lot common interests. And I was always there for him when he was happy or sad. We were talking about our future, and actually we always had something to talk about. I hoped I will feel better after a month of separation. But I feel even worse, and I really want to get back with him.

My husband of 15 yrs beautiful memories. He was married before with 2 teenage girls and then divorced..He has desserted me his 2nd wife now 8mths without consultation after i confronted him about a dating site. This lady is nothing like me. I am a model for route 66 and am very attractive with a vgsoh and personality. This lady is small fat and forgive me quite ugly in her attitude and demeanour and sense of loose clothing. She is the same age as me 60yrs and he is 65. He met her on line 8mths ago and obviously a rebound. But he rebounded to me. This lady is a grandmother from 70 miles away from where he is living in our orig home and has baggage and family of her own who stop with them some nights and 2 dogs. He was never fond of animals esp in the home. Recently he has started sharing photos on facebook with my friends and some associates i have recently met on line. How does he know my associates names? And why after so long is he digging my nose in it. Ringing my friends and telling them about this beautiful young lady he has met. They tell him not beautiful and not young. Recently brought her to my church and sat were we always sat and received communion. But he was later told not to come back. I am now going through a tricky divorce but he will not supply any documents of his large income of £72.000 per annum. He does not look happy. I think he is having a breakdown. Very arrogant and totally ignores me. No communication now for 3mths. The divorce will cost at least £30.000. The lady he is with who is a widow with family must have money to compensate his bills. Just like when i married i owned my own home which i invested into marriage of £172.000 and had a good job. I still love him can someone out there please help. I was a devoted caring loving jovial wife. People are shocked. We have no children but had a lovely quiet life with plenty hols. This lady has baggage. He stays pt with her then she stays pt with him
Do you think he will stick this relationship. He looks stressed out. I think they are also drinking a lot. She is an expensive drinker. He was never a big drinker like myself. How does he stick this?? Please help me. I still love him

My ex bf and i were together for almost 4 years. After he started a new school he was very busy. A week ago i saw a chat between him and a girl and they were flirting. I got so mad, he told me his feelings were gone. He said he was still there for me wheb i needed him. But instead of answering my messages, he ignored me and blocked me on everything . For 4 days i haven’t heard from him. But that girl who was flirting with him contacted me and said i had to back off and she was calling me bad things and that i needed help. A few days ago my friend told me they were together… My heart broke and was in so much pain. But after reading this i can’t believe its real. I hope he will come back, i miss him so much

My bf and I went out for almost 4 yrs, but I found out he was sexting with another girl and I broke it off. He went to therapy for over a month, while writing me letters that he loved me and wanted me back. During that time I did not speak to him, and the times I did I was probably very mean. After like 6 wks I felt less upset, so I decided to talk and take him back. He then changed everything. He told me he did not want to be my bf, did not want to date anyone, and did not want to be in a relationship. A week later he told me he wanted to be “Exclusive”, where he would not talk or see anyone else, I could not talk or see anyone else, but we were NOT girlfriend /boyfriend, or a couple. He had started snapchatting another girl, and told me they had been flirting, but since we switched to the “Exclusive” label he claims he has not talked to her. The problem is that he does not text me, tries to spend time with me, or even says hi to me at the cafeteria. But when we’re alone, he’s all over me. I would not mind the “Exclusive” arrangement if he was nice to me, but I’m not going to hook up with him and then be dumped all over again. What do you think of this “exclusive ” arrangement he suggested? Is he trying to build the relationship again, or is he just trying to buy time to make up his mind on who to choose. I’m not really sure he really stopped talking to the other girl. One of my friends wants to let the other girl know that my ex asked me to be exclusive, because he feels that she does not know the truth. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

I dated a doctor who was divorced slowly we started talking and I fell in love with him. We decided to get married and due to some family reasons he broke up with me and started dating new girl I am still in love with him and not able to move on and forget him.. it’s been 5months now I still miss him every single second .. what should I do????please help me

Me and my X. We been separated for a long time as far as i know i never used any rebound,Before i get into new relationship but still end up unhappiness its not because of me its because of my current relationship….anyway one day. I thought of X when one of our mutual friend ask me and she mention my X name… and because they were friends in facebook she mention me that my X is in relationship now and the girl also has same necklace i used to have when we used to be in relationship. Not only that they have a baby girl which name after me, im confused and rethink and looked back? Any ideas?

It’s difficult. This article is obviously not my case, but it is whatever. I was the one he rebounded with, because his Ex he was with for 5 years before he dated me. We only dated a week, and it’s been almost 2 months since he got back with his ex. It’s extremely painful to deal with it because I still deeply love him. When we first broke up, I was convinced he was The One because he matched almost every single bullet point I wanted in a partner. Knowing that there is someone else in this world that makes him happier is extremely painful and frustrating.

Yeah, yeah, I am a polyamourous, bisexual male who dated another male, but who cares? All relationships work the same regardless of sexuality or beliefs in monogamy. No matter what happens, I know that my ex will always be in my heart, because I truly loved him.

Mine broke up with me and was talking to a so called friend before that. Now he’s with her and moving her into the apartment we spent time and money into move into. So now my son and I are moving out..and of course his ex wife and new gf are helping in trying to find me a place…plus he’s pissed off because I’m taking what I bought for the place with my money. Shoving his new girl in my face when he can orthe ex too…not sure if I would really want him back when his ex wife is involved with any relationship he has.

honestly, I was the person who didn’t show there partner appreciation my ex. I missed his birthday and valentines day. I was to focused on how perfect I should be on school and competing family problems that i didn’t get chance to understand him. I did not make time for him…… when I decided and told myself I’m going to make the best times with him it was to late. It was mutual, both agree that we don’t have time for each other…. I did something that I would never do. I snapped chatted him and told I need closure so he talked to me in person. I asked him what if I got therapy because of what I’ve been through in the past has effected my relationships. also, learn how to drive because him knowing my past I’m scared to drive. just to spend time with him….. what hurt was he said its been 3 weeks and he’s over me. we dated only 5months not long First i cried, then i looked at him and said i feel better. i just got sick being sad. i finally told him the truth why i was taking my anger out on him. i told him I still have feelings for him that i wish would go away. he told me hes proud me and told me to feel free to talk to him and he wont be jerk to me…sadly right now i cant talk to him because i cant live in a world where i revolve around him. i just need to creat my own world and meet new people. foucus on making myself better. maybe i can be friends with but it wont happen anytime soon. i still miss and still hurts but the realtioship helped realize. what i need. i also learned that we are all so blind from pain that its actually beautiful because it shapes us to be the person we are so suppose to be. iys okay to get stupid in love and hurt.

My ex and I broke up 6 months ago after being together for 2 years. We are in our early 50’s. His reason for the break up was that he couldn’t give me what I wanted, but never explained what was it he thought I wanted. Since then we’ve seen each other casually twice and it’s been very amicable. I just found out he’s seeing someone the complete opposite of me. I’m Latina, curvy, long black hair, this woman is Anglo, blond, skinny and tall. When I asked him about her he was very defensive and told me it was all BS. He asked me not to send him any more messages with this type of drama. Before this we were starting to talk a little more every time and I even thought we were going to fix it. But he hasn’t said anything to me since our last message, it’s been a week. I truly thought he cared about me. He always made sure I landed safely from my business trips, he made sure I was home safely. He went on a vacation with all his buddies and texted me every day during the trip 3/4 times a day. I felt he was really into me. Then I said as I was leaving him one night that it was crazy we’ve been together for 2 years, a week later he texted me that he was stepping back and letting me go find what I was looking for. Good luck. He thinks we are wanting 2 different things. And that was it. He has not explained anything else to me. I love him and I think he cared too, but I am not sure. I Don’t even know if we can have a second chance. Any advice?

Me and my boyfriend were together for 2 and a half years before he very suddenly eneded it 2 months ago. I wasnt expecting it as we were very happy and he very quickly went from just wanting space, to a break, to a breakup, to im moving on and i dont see us ever getting back together, weve met up a few times since the break up and its been nice just catching up and stuff (theres been no arguments during the breakup) his reasons for the breakup was just hes in a bad place (not enjoying work etc) and doesnt think we’re benefiting eachother at the moment and he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship now, the classic ‘its not you its me’ and at first I believed him but recently ive had this gut feeling he met someone else and thats why he eneded it and this someone elae being someone hes known since primary school and the dated in year nine. They work close to eachother so often meet up for drinks after work And this is why I got a gut feeling. Today he snapchatted a photo of a photo of them two from when they were young, a photo ive never seen before and felt sick to my stomach as I almost felt like it confirmed my gut feeling (hes probably at her house when they found it) not sure if im being paranoid but obviously feeling extremely hurt and lost right now

So my ex girlfreind of 3.5 years. Is now in a new relationship. She wrote me a letter telling me she is setting me free. After reading it I gave it back to her saying that I did not accept it . We have been split for about 10 months now . But because of where we work. I see her at least once every 2 weeks sometimes more . Her face lights up when sees me and always ask me for a hug and they are pretty great. She also told me one night over coffee that she was in a new relationship. She cried so much when she told me this . But she also told me how she missed so many things about me . And misses making love to me . In the past 2 weeks we have seen each other almost every couple days. We have hugged immensely. She has even lied on top of me kissing me and then things start getting hot. To the point that it gets stopped because she says she does not want me to think she is that type of cheating woman . She has never stopped telling me she loved me . The last 2 weeKS feels like the intensity of our love for each other has grown even deeper . She was in an emotional state when we were together as she ended her last relationship and we were together right after . Her ex has made it extremely hard on her and so goes the emotional roller coaster . She has also told me that the other guy sure doesn t kiss like me . These are things I don t want to here . She has told me that she does not love him . And also that she is working on herself . Because of this break up. We both have learned lots and have grown to a different level of inner peace . The break up was actually a good thing . When she set me free . I never got mad. I was calm and told her that she needed to do what she needed to be happy . Her response to mine was that . She never thought I d say anything like that . She has also told me how she sees me in a very different light in a very big way. As we both have changed for the better . Anyways,my mind heart and soul are like in limbo. I was doing very well before she sort of pop in 3 weeks ago . I m trying to go back on the path . I was on and let her be . Any takers on advise. Sometimes it s good to here a perspective from someone you Don t know . Thanks and Megwich .

Okay so me and my ex were together for two and a half years. We just broke up a month ago and we are trying to co-parent our two year old son. He is now in a new relationship with an old ex. There were together 5 or 6 years ago. He hid it but I found out. He says he soesnt want to be with me and that I am annoying. Our whole relationship we supported eachother and were like bestfriends. Now he is being a dick towards me. We both cheated under different terms so we mutually agreed to break up. Hes my sons father and I want to fix things so that we can be a family again, but he wont budge. He told me that I was annoying .

My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years. He had been with a few other girls prior to us but they all just wanted him for sex. With us we were each others first real relationship. Well just days after we broke up he started seeing a new girl who is the total opposite of me. What’s worse is she’s still legally married but in the process of a divorce. She’s also his typical bigger girl when he told me he prefers smaller girls. But bigger girls have always gravitated towards him probably since he’s big too. Is it possible to get him back. All the signs read he is in a rebound and its obvious he’s not happy

I was with my ex for 15 years. We had a problems and he moved out . We continued to being exclusive for about 6 month. Then i get a message saying we need to talk. It turned out he had been with a woman half his age. She works with him and is bi-sexual. They have been together for a year now. What does this say. I still love him and forgave him long ago. Up until then he i would never have believed he would do this too me. Could it be a rebound or possibly a midlife crisis?

It could be either although if they’ve been together a year I suspect it may be neither. Mine did the exact same thing after 14 years. He was her boss and she’s half his age. To be fair our relationship was on the rocks anyway but instead of discussing it and trying to fix things for our childrens sake he cheated and lied about it. Truth is no matter what the reason he is not worth it. Concentrate on moving forward without him and in time you will be far happier than you were when you were together.

Hi, My boyfriend broke up 10 days back. He did not call/text me for 7 days. He broke up without stating the reason. Yes we did have had fights going on between us for about a month. We were in a long distance relationship (7 months) but have been in a relationship for 3.3 years.I called him on the 8th day and apologized( happily..Not sounding needy) and tried to convince him for a next shot for the relationship.He said you should be aware of the fact that we are no longer in a relationship so whatever you want say, say it as a friend. I said even you had asked for many chances in the past so I also deserve this one atleast. But he did not listen and cut my call. The very next day, he called 6 times as I was busy and couldn’t attend the call. When I talked to him, he complained about me not attending the phone. And talked general stuff. Asked me about how I was and mentioned that he likes a girl now at his new place. He said I was not able to control. He also asked are we still friends…I ignored and drifted the topic to something else. But after that I have not received any msg or call from him. Is he serious about the girl or is irt a rebound ? He is not ready to talk about our break up with any of our mutual friends too and also has not said about the new girl. This girl is completely opposite of me.

My ex broke up with me about 3 years ago when he moved away. He said he planned on staying/living at this new place for the rest of his life, but recently my friends (who I met through him) told me that he is now planning on moving back to his hometown near me. I’m nervous because I’m not sure how my feelings really are. I mean, I care about him and I don’t want to see him with someone new if he does move back, but I also would feel extremely cautious about ever getting back with him. He has not dated anyone else seriously since we broke up. Sometimes I wonder if he thinks he made a mistake or if he’s just taking his sweet time because he’s always telling our friends how much he wants a wife and kids and all that and they tell him he COULD have had that with me, but I don’t know how he responds to that. On one hand I would feel uncomfortable around him if he gets a new gf, but on the other hand I’m scared that if I were to take him back (if that’s what he *thinks* he wants) I’d be afraid of having my heart broken again. He has a pattern of moving from state to state every few years and I’m afraid it would happen again if he got bored or felt our relationship failing again. Do you think he hasn’t been in a serious relationship since we broke up because he’s not over me or because of some other reason? He’s been in several relationships throughout his life, but this has been quite a long period for him to be single, so it’s seems different that he hasn’t been in another serious relationship since we ended. I’ve been having a mild anxiety attack all week thinking what life around my friends will be like if he moves back whether he finds a new gf here or not. I don’t want it to be awkward, but I wouldn’t want to make it look like I hate him by avoiding the awkwardness. I also have not been in serious relationship since we broke up, mostly because I was hoping to get back together, but those feelings have faded over the last 3 years being apart and having almost no contact. I saw him for the first time in 2 years last month and we barely said hello to each other, so I’m not sure how he’s feeling. I know he misses his home here and friends, but I was asked not to come to my friends’ NYE party because he would be there and he didn’t want any awkwardness. I think we both really don’t know what to say to each other. I just keep praying he changes his mind and wants to stay where he is because I don’t want things to change and be weird or awkward because HE can’t commit to anything, even a job!

ME LEFT MY EX 5 MONTHS AGO AND DURING THE XMAS PERIOD WE SAW TALKED ALOT AND GOT INTIMATE WE TALK EVERDAY BUT I WAS SO SUPPRISE TO SEE HIM UPLOAD A GIRLS PIX ON FACEBOOK AND WHEN WE TALKED ABOUT IT HE SAID HE DID THAT TO KNOW HOW PEOPLE WILL REACT CAN I BELIVE THAT? BUT NOW WE VERY CLOSE THAN BEFORE AND HE SAID IF HE WANTS TO MARRY IT WILL BE ME CAN I BLIVE THAT? I LOVE HIM SO MUCH I KNOW I LEFT HIM THE FIRST TIME BECAUSE I THOUGHT HE NEVER LOVE ME BUT I SERIOULY WANT HIM BACK AFTER SEEING THAT PICTURE HE UPLOADED ON FACEBOOK WHAT DO I DO?

So my ex and I have been broken up for 3 weeks now, we were together for 9 months officially and on and off the last four years. It was an argument that turned into a break up one night, him being the one to bring it to that, but then the last 3 weeks he’s tried opening conversations, asking me to pick up my things but won’t let me do it when he isn’t home, won’t leave my stuff outside so I can just grab it, and has been dragging it out. I haven’t been contacting him at all because I felt betrayed, and he has gotten upset over that multiple times, telling me I don’t care about him because I haven’t called or asked how he is or anything, that I never cared about him and it’s sad realizing how fake I am because of it. He called two nights ago telling me he wants to talk when I come to pick up my things, that he still loves me that he’s been doing horrible etc etc, but then the conversation started going south because I wasn’t exactly being friendly so he started lashing out, told me he was talking to some chick, and of course how much better she is than me and all that garbage so I hung up on him, he sent a not so nice text and when I didn’t reply he called me back and his voice was low and cracky so I could tell he was on the verge of crying, and again the conversation headed south because I wasn’t saying things he wanted to hear, I wasn’t asking for him back, I wasn’t cowering down saying I’m miserable without him like he wanted to hear, and that’s when he began talking about this new girl trying to rub it in my face how great she is and all these comments like he was trying to get a rise out of me and make me feel jealous and upset. During the conversation he made a comment about some guy who comments on my posts and I asked how he even knew about it because he’s deleted off my facebook and he said he knows I deleted him but he checks up on me, so he’s been basically stalking my profile, he checks my instagram, he follows me on Snapchat and literally every time I post something he checks it. So in my head I’m wondering if this new girl is so great why does he care so much about what I’m doing. The girl also lives in LA and he lives in riverside and doesn’t have a car right now so I don’t even think they’ve hung out more than once. To me it seems like he’s upset I didn’t contact him afterwards, I didn’t ask for him back, and Still haven’t, so he’s throwing some girl in my face to try to make me feel bad and think he’s moved on, in less than 3 weeks so I believe if it’s anything at all it’s a rebound, but wanted to see what someone else’s opinion was outside my friends and family.

Me and my ex was together for 15 years off and on. He is possessive, jealous, and manipulate. He started dating someone the first week we broke up. He is never home and he stop calling and texting after a certain time. But he still text an call me to be with him. I’m thinking he may already knew her and was cheating on me.

Me and my ex broke up almost 3 weeks ago. The funniest thing is that he started dating someone else 2 days after we broke up. The most hurtful part is that he’s dating my friend. (Close friend ) and I was very angry at him for that. But I do miss him and I’m not sure what to do. I mean he’s with someone else now. Please help

Mine did this. He and the new belle are both actors here in LA and he started posting obviously staged, posed pictures of them drifting along in third person holding hands gazing at each other, captioning all the photos “so good to have (new girl) back in my life”, and such, lol… I emailed him telling him “treat her better than you did me” and cut the cable and walked off! Going on a date with a gorgeous new guy tonight… skaterboy… looks a lot like the ex… but is SANE.

I laugh at these photos and wonder a) who the photographer is and b) what that first conversation between them and the ex must sound like: “Hey, uh, will you take pics of me and this girl together? We’ll be holding hands and kissing, etc”… who has photographers take pictures of such private moments, lol? New boy and I certainly won’t. I also wonder c) how stupid new girl must be to have agreed to “hey, brand new bae, let’s pose for some pictures holding hands together”… that has rebound ALL OVER IT, ha :D

hi so me and my gf of 6years broke up 3months ago and apparently she already is with someone new after 4-6wks post breakup. they had been going out a lot and on adventures together. which we didnt do when we were newly dating. she seems very intimate with this new person and it saddens me to see her put so much effort and being so happy with someone she just met. back when we were newly dating she started off shy and not aggressive in personal but now she is different. i dont know. sometimes i think this might be a rebound, but sometimes i think maybe its real. can you give me insights?

My ex jus broke up with me after an almost 4 years relationship. Due to my work stress and financial problems as well as family problems, i was edgy for the past few months and threw tantrums at him, getting over sensitive and paranoid at small little things. He then broke up with me. I was told by a friend that about few weeks from our break up, he is going out with a girl and they are in the buddy stage. She had also gone to his house so i assume they already have sex. Is this consider a rebound relationship

when we broke up my ex boyfriend of 14 years. one of the things he told when I ask if he’s seeing someone else? He said there’s someone he’s interested in, but he hasn’t been out on dates or anything. I ask him how long he knows this person? He said about 2 years. another time I ask him again about this person, he just waved his hands and said he doesn’t know what it is, it probably a rebound, I don’t know. even though we’re not together, I keep thinking about this person, I’m still hoping he’ll change his mind and come back. I don’t know what to think,we have a child together so we have to communicate. I don’t talk to him other wise and when he comes to see her he would touch me playfully and I would do the same. we laugh and sometimes talk about when we just met. I don’t know what to think, because according to him one of the main reason we broke up, he said his feelings changed, but I sincerely believe that there’s still something between us. can you help me out here?

I’m 3 weeks into a breakup and my ex is already heavily involved with a new woman. We were together 12 yrs. I was getting by ok after the breakup until he felt compelled to phone me to tell me he was dating and already intimate. It hurts so bad. I know it’s a rebound but still wonder if it more likely to fail because of that. I think some rebounds relationships do work out.

All signs point to a rebound. It’s been 7 months I find out today he just married her. Guess he is happy after all or will it fall apart? Either way I’m still immensely broken, but love him enough to wish him all the happiness in the world.

My ex was with me for almost a year.he’s a moslem n am a christian..hes family wanted him to get agalfriend of the same religion n tribe.he started acting weird n then I found out he had started dating a gal of his same religion n same tribe..that very day he sent mi a message that he’s decieded to move on with her n he wished mi the best.. I tried to fight for him n then chilled it.. He posted the gals pic..with a status “the heart wants what it wants.. Then he blocked me. I v not contacted him for a month now but two weeks back he unblocked mi n put a status available. I v his galfriends number. But of late I think they r having fights..cause shez always posting weird urging status and profile pictures on her watsup..I miss him..can I try to get him back or I just move on.

My ex is in a new relationship which shows classical signs of a rebound relationship. My question is that it’s been a whole year since the break up and she has been with no one else since. Could rebounds happen after a year of a breakup?

My ex and were together for 6yrs…he broke up with me in March…2 months later he posted some pics on Facebook with this chick calling her his new wife…I said what the hell…I asked him was he talking to her and he said no he didn’t cheat…but she lives in GA…and he said he wants to marry her…all of our friends are like what’s wrong with him…he keeps rubbing it in my face..she broke up with him on FB.I don’t know if they are back together or not.but he was asking a friend if I was seeing anyone and then he says he can’t be my friend cause I will want a relationship who told him that…what are your thoughts.

6 years and a son, we were having issues over the fact that he wouldn’t stop talking to a girl, they’d been talking for almost 2 months before we separated (he would always say he’d stop talking to her). within two weeks of the separation, they were already messing around. it’s been two months since the separation.