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Well if you're happy with her, and you both are doing fine money wise then you're in good shape and don't have the dilemma I have. I make enough money, I don't need my girl to be rich, I really value intelligence, personality, and beauty in a girl. I just want a girl with a good balance of the three. For the many women I have dated there is always one thing missing. With the dentist she has half the beauty and the other two.

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Originally Posted by DylloS

it's hard to get over the looks if you're not into it but just remember at our ages it's harder and harder to find hot chicks and we really need to start looking at the whole person. My situation is a little different. Very pretty girl, amazing personality, but will never be rich. Much like me. I think as men we're more concerned with looks than money though.

Agreed, so far from all women I have dated it seems a woman will have two of the three (intelligence, personality, and beauty). It's hard finding that almost complete person. Everyone has flaws but one needs to find a woman where her flaws don't bother one much.

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Originally Posted by mcr_driver

It's that whole you can have 2/3 things or 80/20 rule in a person. He may value her looks a bit more while some value the personality. Also considering his maturity and stage of development in his life.

As an example I have dated a bunch of average girls outside of high school/college looking for more long term value's and stability, in some respects a bad decision. Now at my age I want someone more attractive while finding those value's, not an easy task. But for me the looks isn't the deal breaker it would be the personality traits I've always wanted for long term stability.

I'm not good with my heart, I'm more of a rational person. I wish if I can follow my heart. I'm thinking long term and what's gonna happen.

I can't look at men in the health and fitness thread. I'm sure you're a very handsome man, but my gay list is all filled up now. I'm sorry!

However hot you are, a woman isn't an accessory to be added to yourself like a watch or necklace. You should need her because you want her, not want her because you need her.

She sounds amazing, and from my perspective, if she'd have you, you're luckier than you know. But, there's something about her, beyond her looks, that isn't connecting with you...that's fair play to act on. Her looks...give me a break. At 50, she'll shine.

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You have a good sense of humor. Let me know when your gay list has a spot available. lol

I take this girl seriously, I do care about her. I mentioned my concerns about her. But it's very confusing, sometimes I feel like I should go and make her mine, other times I feel it's best for both of us to break up. Like I said, everything feels good about the relationship but it does not feel 100%. I think I might be just afraid of commitment and making up excuses. Whatever it's I don't know.

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Originally Posted by dmax

zoo,

I can't look at men in the health and fitness thread. I'm sure you're a very handsome man, but my gay list is all filled up now. I'm sorry!

However hot you are, a woman isn't an accessory to be added to yourself like a watch or necklace. You should need her because you want her, not want her because you need her.

She sounds amazing, and from my perspective, if she'd have you, you're luckier than you know. But, there's something about her, beyond her looks, that isn't connecting with you...that's fair play to act on. Her looks...give me a break. At 50, she'll shine.

Looks must win over personality because my relationships all lasted over 3 years.

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Originally Posted by 325iGirl03

Oh dmax, you're amazing.

Seriously, listen to him. He knows his stuff!

Girl, imagine how many years you might get if you weren't that way? That said, as you can see, guys with it all together are far and few between.

I conduct a seminar over the summer for b--chy women, trying to help them get their minds right. It's a tough program but I bet you could handle it.

Day one, you all will clean my motor, if you know what I mean. If it's not cleaned right, that's day two also. Day three is usually spent doing an exercise I call 'installing the sway bar end link'; usually that's a big hit.

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I'm so depressed. No one wants to come see me. :(
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