Swinger dating site rejects; no validations for the dishonest!

Finding other couples to swing with can sometimes seem quite challenging. Swing clubs are a great way to meet other swingers but not everyone lives close enough to a club for this to be a viable option. For those who would like to find other swingers close to where they live, the internet offers many sites which are useful for swingers.

Swinger dating sites are a great tool for swingers. You sign up for a membership and it offers so much information that is helpful for both current swingers and for people looking to swing. The membership is not expensive but it is costly enough to prevent curiosity seekers from prying.

After signing up you are prompted to post photos of yourself and fill out a basic questionnaire. This will help other swingers to get to know more about you. This part of the process is very important. While it is normal to look through your photo albums to find the best possible pictures of yourself, make sure the pictures actually looks like you today. If the picture was not taken in the past few months, don’t post it. People don’t care what you used to look like, nor do they care that at a certain angle your photo makes you look 20 pounds thinner. They simply want to know what you really look like.

Once you have posted your new swinger profile, you are ready to start looking at other couple’s profiles. Perhaps you would like to try speed dating or look for a local public or private party in your area. For those who would like to try a swing club, most offer directories and reviews of clubs all across the US and Canada. The forums are a good resource to ask questions and get more information about swinging. Hopefully, you will be able to find what you are looking for by using this online site (or sites).

If finding other swingers on dating sites is so easy, why do people have difficulties when meeting others in person? It almost always comes back to the same reason: their pictures do not look like them. This is such a common problem that many swingers actually write on their profile that they prefer couples who do not look like their photos to please not contact them. Some profiles are less polite about it and they write things like: If you show up and you don’t look like your photos, we will leave.

It might seem harsh and even shallow for couples to be so adamant about people posting current photos, but we know first hand that people are serious about this problem. They are not afraid to walk away when someone misrepresents who they are.

We were in a swing club recently and witnessed a couple enter the club. They looked around and a couple sitting towards the back of the club waved to them. They looked at each other and slowly made their way over to the couple who had waved to them. You could tell by the look on their faces that something was wrong. They introduced themselves and sat down. The woman was very gracious and was talking to the couple but the man was looking all around the club and ignoring them. The two couples were very different. The couple who entered the club was probably in their late 40s to early 50s. The couple who waved them over were at least 10 to 15 years older than them. The younger couple was in good shape and dressed very chic, while the older couple was neither. The older couple was both overweight and not quite fashion-forward.

We watched them for a few minutes and left for the dance floor. Not long after, the younger couple appeared on the dance floor. When we went back to our seats, they followed us and sat down next to us. The man excused himself to go and pick up their drinks, which they left sitting on a table with the older couple they had met earlier. The woman explained that they had met them online and sure enough, their pictures were completely misleading. She pulled out her phone and showed us the pictures the older couple has on their profile. Not only did I question if the pictures were even of this couple but they claimed to be in their late 40s, which is absolutely impossible.

This is a perfect example of why posting old photos or shaving years off of your age does not work. Sure, it makes for a great profile and perhaps maybe people will contact you, but what happens when you have to meet someone in person?

I initially felt sorry for the older couple as they looked disappointed and rejected. When I said something, the couple who sat down with us pointed out that they were the ones who were disappointed and annoyed. They had changed their plans to accommodate this couple and it was a complete waste of their time. Had they known what this couple really looked like, and known their true age, they would have known they were not compatible and would not have wasted their time meeting them. They felt the other couple was wrong for pretending to be something they are not.

What inspires couples to create such misleading profiles? Is it possible that they think they look like their old photos? Do they not notice the extra 20 pounds they have gained since they took that picture? Perhaps they are simply afraid that nobody will contact them if they are completely honest. Maybe, they think that at least this way, couples will meet them and they will have a chance to win them over with their bright smiles and quick wit. It is possible,

Whatever the reason for this, it is wrong. The whole point in posting photos and filling out profiles is to try to find couples who are a good match for each other. Just because you are attracted to certain couples, it does not mean they will be attracted to you. If your profile is honest, your chances of a successful rendezvous is much higher than if you are dishonest. Swinging should be fun! If you approach it in a positive honest way, it will be!

Here is a list of some swinger dating sites to check out ( in no particular order):