Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

supporters not getting it???

ermmmm well not sure how to put this down into word but how do help people around you(like my family,boyfriend ect.) to help understand me?

like hmmm, well my boyfriend asked me to finaly talk about what happened as a kid last night because with me trying to say it in therapy its making me push my boyfriend away and so he demanded that he knew so he could help out because he wasnt going to let me push him away anymore. so like,i emailed him telling him because i cant say it out loud and then he came around after to speak to me- or speak at me while i curled up and hid in the corner not talking, i couldnt bare look him in the eye knowing he knew.
i got to upset and needed to self harm so went off to the "loo" and self harmed with a shaver blade i found in there. i kept it hidden then just as he was going he noticed blood running down my hand looked at me and said "sarah what have u done???!" i dunno why but i tried to lie and even though it was blantly clear i still said id done nothing and he made me show him. he got angry with, whether he was upset or what i dont know but he couldnt understand that i done it because he made me talk about something that sends me into turmoil ever second i think about it, and he just didnt get what 5 years abuse done to me emotionaly and mentaly, he doesnt get it.

how to i get him to understand depression and delf harm ect? he has known since the begining im depressed and self harm ect. just i dont get how i get him to understand this depression?
are there any websites any one can sugguest or resources or anything????
sorry for my waffle and thank you.

I am sure there are plenty of sites he can look at.. The is one of the hardest things I have found is trying to get others to understand what it is we go through.. Good luck and if you find an answer let me know.. My fiance will never understand me or why I am not into the closeness he would like from me.

I don't think anyone can understand unless they have experienced it.
The best they can do is try to understand and listen while accepting that this is the way you are for now and encouraging you to find all the help you can get to get well.

He will never be able to fully understand, but he can certainly try. You can help him do this by explaining to him how you feel when you are depressed, and what you feel when you self harm and when you get the urge to self harm. He won't get it, but at least he will know what is going on. Ask him to try to always keep in mind that he does not know or understand so that he doesn't get so frustrated about the way you act sometimes. Ask him to please believe the things you tell him about depression and self harm, and to try not to look at and deduce the issues through a outsiders lens (his own). I think that is always the biggest issue with the people we love - they are trying to understand our feelings in the context of reality, and often do not realize that our feelings and the things we do are at times not capable of being understand in &quot;reality&quot;

I am just guessing but he probably hasn't experienced any type of real mental illness has he? I have lost some so-called friends over their lack of understanding. They said things like &quot;Just get over it&quot;, &quot;Think Positive&quot;, &quot;Everything will turn out for the best&quot; You feel like being a jerk and say something like, &quot;well it's all just that simple, shit thanks man now I'm cured&quot;. They're just trying to help most of the time when they say these things, but they truelu don't understand. There is an interesting billboard I saw while driving. It read, &quot;DEPRESSION...YOU WOULDN'T SAY JUST GET OVER IT IF IT WERE CANCER&quot;. Maybe mention that quote to him.

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