Well hi there everyone. Let me introduce myself to those of you who won't know me. I'm Melly and I'm an admin here and one of the resident bad asses. I'm writing today because I'm noticing a worrying trend. I'm seeing a lot of people boasting about knowing the one true way.

Let me tell you right now, there is no true way. It does not exist. The wonders about life and BDSM and CG/l or whatever you call it is that we can make it whatever we want in our relationships. We can chose and chop and adapt it to fit us. I don't care if as part of your relationship rituals you rub you partners cock three times and play the Hokey Cokey before bed. What I care about here is that your over the age of 18, if you have a partner they are over 18, you follow the rules, you be yourself and that your Safe, Sane and Consensual. SSC is the only part of all BDSM practises I expect everyone to follow.

Your all great, amazing people and don't let others restrict who you are. Know here we accept everyone and you will be respected. This is meant to be a safe haven for people in this lifestyle and will continue to be so.

queenjellybean 💋, PrincessCupcake25, CharlieFPG and 63 others like this

Honestly it's incredible "the one true way" exists in most subcultures. I've seen so much of it regarding trans people, gay people, disabilities etc. Whatever community you're in you really need to stfu about it, it can be incredibly damaging and alienates people.

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This made me very happy to read...i used to lurk on this site a lot and felt like i never adhered to the 'true' little standards (therefore never joined until recently), and finally i just figured hey screw it, there isn't a right or wrong way to go about it, as long as both parties are down. Anyways, thanks again for making this post, it was much needed!

True, there is no one way, but we do favor the one that works for us.
So, what's wrong with stating my position AS MY postion?
I know it is my subjective joy.
It may work for nobody outside of my ddlg relationship.