Whenever (w-h-e-n-e-v-e-r) we think that there’s something wrong with you, them, or me, we make the mistake of attacking identity.

If you assert (out loud or to yourself) that I am wrong, I will get defensive and you will similarly react to my reaction. The same reactions happen, oddly, when we think we ourselves are wrong. These reactions delay, distract, and derail us on our way to success.

Though our behavior perhaps was ineffective or damaging, you, them, and I are not the problem.