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Im 14. How do I tell my boyfriend I'm having a baby!? And I need to know the process..

Im 14 years old. Yes young, but I here for help, not judging. But I really need this help. I know for a fact I am pregnant. I went to the doctors and to Planned Parenthood. Im nervous and terrified. I have no idea how to tell my parents OR my boyfriend. Im so scared and I need some help and I was wondering if anybody could explain this pregnancy and birth process to me.?

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How you have you're baby will be based on several things. They will ask you how you would like to have you're baby. Natural or by C-section. They give you a option but I do want to let you know that when you have a baby it don't always go like you want it to, but the objective is to get you're baby out safely as possible. Natural is a vaginal birth, and a C-section is where they have to go in and make a small opening in the lower part of you're stomach and take the baby that way. From what I heard C-section is less painful while giving birth but it takes longer to recover, but Natural you can get pain meds to help with the pain cause you will feel you're contractions, if you get the pain meds the pushing you should not really feel, and recovery is faster. However in my case I want to have them naturally so I can have the experience, but with me having twins they might have to give me a C-section, it all depends on what happens when I get to the hospital and weather or not I have comp.

I'm 21 and pregnant with twins. My boyfriend is 26. When I took the test and it came up positive I just went to him and told him that I had something to tell him and I showed him the pregnancy test. Just don't come across harsh to him, tell him that you would like to talk to him about something. Timing is everything, make sure that you don't do it around anyone. If the two of you have to go to a private place to where you feel more comfortable then feel free to do so. The more comfortable you feel, I'm sure he will too. If you feel a little nervous then he might too. However for the pregnancy every pregnancy is different. This is actually my first pregnancy, and I ended up with twins. Not what I expected but I'm happy. Make sure you eat healthy and do all the things you're doctor tells you. If you have any questions don't be scared to ask him/or her. That's what they are there for.

hey my dear its really unfortunate that you are so young ,the thing about today we are more equip with technology that could help by giving you information about pregnancy and birth and even ways as to how to raise a baby, BUT being a young mom myself I realised no amount of global info can really prepare you for your own experience , firstly knowing from experience becoming pregnant is a blessing n being able to carry a baby to term and they healthy is what we women are designed to do its like we were created for it , one thing you should do is sit down and discuss it with your boyfriend and remember this is YOUR CHOICE don't be pressured into a decision you feel isn't right, long bout your decision and be mature and have a talk with your parents DONT hide this from them you will always b there no matter what, whatever decision you make know things will work out and you should remain strong . keep well

Watch the business of being born. It's a documentary that was so popular with mothers that they went on to make a few more episodes going over all the different procedures you can go through for child birth. I believe it's available on Netflix if you have that.

I had my first at 18, no meds what so ever. I did a lot of research before I made my decision. Where I live going to the hospital means they put you on pitocin, want it or not. You should look into that in your area and see what the standard procedure is. Pit is a synthetic hormone that makes contractions much worse than they would naturally be, so labor is unbearable. Naturally your body won't do it harder than you can handle. With pit you must get an epidural to handle the pain. An epidural on it's own will make it harder for your body to contract like it should to give birth, so it often comes with pitocin. Both of them combined put more pressure on the baby than should be and can send it into distress. It also doubles your chances of needing an emergency c-section. Labor takes hours, if something is going wrong your midwife will notice the signs so you have plenty of time to go to the hospital. Now I'm pregnant with our third baby and we're having it naturally again, at home.

Every pregnancy and birth is different. your best bet is to speak to your own doctor about it.
There is no easy way to tell your parents, or your boyfriend, but unless it will put your safety at risk, you need to do it soon, because going through a pregnancy is so much easier with support.

I got pregnant with my first on accident at fifteen and had her at sixteen. It is terrifying but I don't have any regrets. I'm twenty now almost twenty one and have a six month old. If you are still in school do not drop out. I didn't and am glad I didn't. It was hard but worth it. Utilize all help you can. Wic food stamps parents as teachers. Everything until you and your boyfriend can get on your feet and be on your own. Sit them down and tell them. Tell them b what you decided and how you know it's probably not what they planned but all you need now is support. You have obviously done your research or are starting to do tell them what you have learned. It's scary I know but do not give up on any of your dreams. You can still reach v them!!!

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