Real Housewives of New Jersey

Oh Real Housewives of New Jersey. I just don't know what to do with you. Like ever. Last night Melissa Gorga was officially accused of cheating by a former BFF who now doesn't like her. And since this is RHONJ some heavy betrayal was involved. Does anyone like Melissa in NJ? What did this girl do to make so many enemies? Did she give a lot of people unwanted sprinkle cookies?

Anyway, there was also talk of a retreat. I need a retreat from this show – am I invited?

Things begin with Wallpaper Wakile having a meeting of the minds in her brand new test kitchen. She's got her mixer all set up in one corner and the entire vast remainder of the industrial kitchen sits unused and empty. Pretty soon Kathy is going to start moving her bed, her dresser, all her clothes, etc in because if there's one things she's realized about ol' test kitchen – it's a great retreat from Richie. And one long overdue.

And speaking of retreats from hubbies, here comes Caroline Manzo. Is Al in the same country as her anymore? Caroline, Jacqueline Laurita, and Rosie the Rampager are meeting to talk about Rosie's big meet-n-drink with Teresa Giudice. Rosie reveals that the pounding on the table severely bruised the cartilage in her hand. Rosie needs serious help. Gross.

The Real Housewives of New Jersey cast has come a long way since their arrival on the reality TV scene back in 2009. You know, back when they were still dressing like NJ housewives and not pageant contestants. For some, the style transformation has been a positive thing and for others..not so much.

Tonight Teresa attempts to prove she's the bigger cannoli by planning a retreat to rebuild her family and end the Gorgadice bickering. Hopefully she can keep her Milania Weave on long enough to avoid any fireworks. We know it's all made for TV drama but it will be nice to see an end to all the fighting!

Comparing Melissa's looks from the first season she signed on up until the current season – do you think her style stayed the same? Or has it morphed into something completely different? I can definitely pick out which photos are from earlier in her reality TV career.

Whether she's trying out the latest in Australian outback gear or hitting the red carpet (often smooching up a storm with husband Rich), Kathy has fun with her style and doesn't take herself too seriously.

We've rounded up a few dozen of Kathy's fashion hits and misses since she joined the show back in Season 3, so take a look at the gallery below!

Among the various Gorga family feuds, Teresa's father is also at odds with Kathy Wakile's mother and they have been for years! This week Teresa and Rosie Pierri sat down to try and iron out differences and be a family again. Our source gives us an EXCLUSIVE back story about the Gorga family feuds, both Original Flavor (old school) and Reality TV Flavor (New School starring Poison and Teresa!).

Apparently part of Teresa's parent's drama with Kathy centers around her decision to join RHONJ despite the family issues. "Teresa's parents were against Melissa [Gorga], Joe, and Kathy joining the show. Why? Because of all the family drama. Who would want their family drama on TV? So, yes, Teresa's father holds a grudge against Kathy and her family as well as their own son and his wife."

It seems like Teresa Giudice and Melissa Gorga are constantly in the media for feuding or cookbooks or club promotions, so today we thought we'd send some love to Real Housewives of New Jersey'sKathy Wakile. Granted, it's not as exciting or dramatic as anything her co-stars are usually stirring up, but sometimes we need a little calm in our lives, right?

Speaking to Parade, Kathy dishes on life with the Bravo cameras and how she's tried to maintain balance with her family, her new business opportunities, and the all encompassing world of reality television.

Kathy has tried hard to make sure her kids don't listen to the haters, saying, “Sometimes it gets to you when people feel they are entitled to negatively judge you based on what they see on TV. My husband and I always discuss these things with our kids and try to reinforce what they know to be true about our family and not respond to ‘critics’ who don’t know the whole story. At the end of the day, we are each others foundation and stability, and that will never change. Our mantra is: ‘Don’t let other people’s perception change your reality.’”