Advice please ladies!

Hi ive been with my husband for 7 years but have only been married a year! We have a 5 yr old son and a 10mth old daughter! We recently decided to play a trick on one of my friends by my husband texting her on her bday being a little but flirty but it went to far to the point they were telling eachother what they were going to do to eachother! Over the last two days she has known who he is (my hubby) and she still wants him to text her! The stuff they are saying to eachother is very dirty an im wondering what i should do? I feel like its partly my fault but my hubby and friend have carried on with the flirting and she has been asking him to go around to hers!

Hi ive been with my husband for 7 years but have only been married a year! We have a 5 yr old son and a 10mth old daughter! We recently decided to play a trick on one of my friends by my husband texting her on her bday being a little but flirty but it went to far to the point they were telling eachother what they were going to do to eachother! Over the last two days she has known who he is (my hubby) and she still wants him to text her! The stuff they are saying to eachother is very dirty an im wondering what i should do? I feel like its partly my fault but my hubby and friend have carried on with the flirting and she has been asking him to go around to hers!

Have you explained to your friend that it was a joke to begin with and that it makes you uncomfortable that it is continuing? It's good you've confronted your husband about it but I advise you to confront her and stop it now. What seems harmless now could definitely back fire later.

Have you explained to your friend that it was a joke to begin with and that it makes you uncomfortable that it is continuing? It's good you've confronted your husband about it but I advise you to confront her and stop it now. What seems harmless now could definitely back fire later.

I would definitely ask DH to stop. Confidence boost or not, it's going too far. Plus, a confidence boost should not be an extended over and over again thing. I am also a little shocked and mad for you that your friend knows it is your husband, yet continues to talk like that to him! Especially if she has no idea it was a joke. I'd think twice about leaving her alone with your DH! All in all, ask DH to stop. Out of respect, he should explain to your friend that it was a joke, it's now going too far, game over.

I would definitely ask DH to stop. Confidence boost or not, it's going too far. Plus, a confidence boost should not be an extended over and over again thing. I am also a little shocked and mad for you that your friend knows it is your husband, yet continues to talk like that to him! Especially if she has no idea it was a joke. I'd think twice about leaving her alone with your DH! All in all, ask DH to stop. Out of respect, he should explain to your friend that it was a joke, it's now going too far, game over.

You need to put a stop to it now.. His confidence boost should come from you.. Your friend doesn't seem to care about your friendship if she still continues to text and flirt knowing its your husband.. Be careful cause it happens all the time where friends end up taking husbands away.. Keep them away from each other cause if the text were sexual they might get caught up in a moment where there's no self control.. Hope all works out for the best.. Pranks can take a turn for the worst so be careful..

You need to put a stop to it now.. His confidence boost should come from you.. Your friend doesn't seem to care about your friendship if she still continues to text and flirt knowing its your husband.. Be careful cause it happens all the time where friends end up taking husbands away.. Keep them away from each other cause if the text were sexual they might get caught up in a moment where there's no self control.. Hope all works out for the best.. Pranks can take a turn for the worst so be careful..

Totally disrespectful and inappropriate. Honestly is was not the smartest idea in the first place even as a joke. DH should not need his confidence boost by anyone but you- he's acting like a high school kid. Your friend is undermining your friendship. If it was my friend I'd go off on her. I'd also seriously reconsider our friendship being that she has no respect for you at all. The little high school thrill they're getting out of it is partially because of the temptation because they know it's wrong. To me that says that there is a very low threshold for it to actually happen. You better give them both a reality check and fast.

Totally disrespectful and inappropriate. Honestly is was not the smartest idea in the first place even as a joke. DH should not need his confidence boost by anyone but you- he's acting like a high school kid. Your friend is undermining your friendship. If it was my friend I'd go off on her. I'd also seriously reconsider our friendship being that she has no respect for you at all. The little high school thrill they're getting out of it is partially because of the temptation because they know it's wrong. To me that says that there is a very low threshold for it to actually happen. You better give them both a reality check and fast.

So she thinks it's behind your back?!?!? That's 100 times shadier!! Tell him to knock it off and tell her you know what's she's been up to and that if you ever see her again you will lose your foot in her a$$. Time to end that friendship. She's a backstabbing wanna be home wrecker and he's a jacka$$.

So she thinks it's behind your back?!?!? That's 100 times shadier!! Tell him to knock it off and tell her you know what's she's been up to and that if you ever see her again you will lose your foot in her a$$. Time to end that friendship. She's a backstabbing wanna be home wrecker and he's a jacka$$.

Just reading that gave me a sick feeling- if he's willing to go along with it (and enjoy the "confidence boost") with you KNOWING about it, what would he do that you wouldn't know about?? I'd tell him it needs to stop here and now and be honest with your "friend" about the joke and cut ties here with her. She's really not your friend if she's willing to text your husband like that behind your back. I would hope any of my friends would come immediately to me if anything like that happened, not encourage it. I suggest finding yourself a different friend and maybe a marriage counselor.

Just reading that gave me a sick feeling- if he's willing to go along with it (and enjoy the "confidence boost") with you KNOWING about it, what would he do that you wouldn't know about?? I'd tell him it needs to stop here and now and be honest with your "friend" about the joke and cut ties here with her. She's really not your friend if she's willing to text your husband like that behind your back. I would hope any of my friends would come immediately to me if anything like that happened, not encourage it. I suggest finding yourself a different friend and maybe a marriage counselor.

He doesnt seem to think hes in the wrong! Shes been messaging him while he was in work today but for some strange reason hes deleted the texts and i no this is (TMI) but we were gettin into sex earlier and he stopped me and said he couldnt get hard :s which has never ever happened before!!!

He doesnt seem to think hes in the wrong! Shes been messaging him while he was in work today but for some strange reason hes deleted the texts and i no this is (TMI) but we were gettin into sex earlier and he stopped me and said he couldnt get hard :s which has never ever happened before!!!

I'd pick up the phone right now and call her. Tell her you know what's been going on and it better stop. No more. Like I said before, I'd go off on her. Then I'd tell him unless he wants to start pricing divorce attorneys he better knock it off. Sounds like some damage is always done unfortunately and as pp said marriage counciling may be a good idea. I can believe your friend. She has some damn nerve and you really need to call her bluff. If one of my friends texted my hubby something like that there would be hell to pay.

I'd pick up the phone right now and call her. Tell her you know what's been going on and it better stop. No more. Like I said before, I'd go off on her. Then I'd tell him unless he wants to start pricing divorce attorneys he better knock it off. Sounds like some damage is always done unfortunately and as pp said marriage counciling may be a good idea. I can believe your friend. She has some damn nerve and you really need to call her bluff. If one of my friends texted my hubby something like that there would be hell to pay.

Wow I would really tell him to cut it out.. He's hiding something that's why he deleted the text.. She's not your friend.. Call her and tell her you know and she might reveal what has happened between them.. He not getting hard ummmm sounds like he's having thoughts about your friend and don't want to ruin his fantasies by having sex with you.. Sorry I'm so direct but if you don't want to end up in a divorce you need to handle this situation immediately..

Wow I would really tell him to cut it out.. He's hiding something that's why he deleted the text.. She's not your friend.. Call her and tell her you know and she might reveal what has happened between them.. He not getting hard ummmm sounds like he's having thoughts about your friend and don't want to ruin his fantasies by having sex with you.. Sorry I'm so direct but if you don't want to end up in a divorce you need to handle this situation immediately..

I don't think I need to say how unwise and foolish this 'joke' was. My advice is to be open an honest immediately. The time for playing these games are over. You should tell your friend that you know, it started off as a joke and has gone too far. You should also tell her that her trust and friendship is now broken (I'm assuming it is). I would then tell your husband that he needs to stop immediately and how this makes you feel. If he's deleting messages from her, then he probably knows he's being completely inappropriate. I would also suggest marriage counseling as your trust and faith in him is probably broken and that is not healthy in a marriage. Best of luck to you. Praying your marriage comes out stronger some how.

I don't think I need to say how unwise and foolish this 'joke' was. My advice is to be open an honest immediately. The time for playing these games are over. You should tell your friend that you know, it started off as a joke and has gone too far. You should also tell her that her trust and friendship is now broken (I'm assuming it is). I would then tell your husband that he needs to stop immediately and how this makes you feel. If he's deleting messages from her, then he probably knows he's being completely inappropriate. I would also suggest marriage counseling as your trust and faith in him is probably broken and that is not healthy in a marriage. Best of luck to you. Praying your marriage comes out stronger some how.

Use his phone to text her yourself. Explain that it was a bday joke and it went to far. Tell her you know about all of it and it has lost it's humor. Make sure she knows the text is from you. Then leave it there for your husband to find next time he goes to text her. Give it a day or two then delete her number from his phone.

Use his phone to text her yourself. Explain that it was a bday joke and it went to far. Tell her you know about all of it and it has lost it's humor. Make sure she knows the text is from you. Then leave it there for your husband to find next time he goes to text her. Give it a day or two then delete her number from his phone.

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