Did He Suddenly Stop Calling? 4 Reasons Guys Fall Off the Grid (or as We Like to Say, Go to "the Planet")

You’re smitten with a wonderful, attentive man. Until out of nowhere, he is nowhere to be found. No calls, no texts, no nothing. He’s fallen off the grid (or Glamour staffer Brooke likes to say, he's "gone to the planet"). You know, the planet where there are no phones and all men are unavailable until their spacecrafts return to Earth.

You just keep on doing you, OK?

In all seriousness, it’s easy to take the blame when your phone suddenly stops lighting up. We’ve all had that He’s Just Not That Into You moment, where we’ve convinced ourselves we just weren’t sexy, suave, or smart enough to ensnare our dream dude after all. But the truth is that when guys go rogue, it usually has nothing to do with us at all. In fact, here are four very real, very common, you-bear-no-blame reasons guys fall off the grid:

1. It was Draft Day—or some other sporting event that we could care less about but that means everything to him and his friends. Understand that on any given day LeBron James can completely ruin your budding relationship.

2. He’s getting bad advice from people who believe in rules. You know, rules like, “If you see her on Tuesday, you can’t call until Friday or you’ll seem like a desperate loser.” Guys get this advice from other guys, of course, and often it’s dead wrong—but they’ll wait a requisite time regardless. (In this case, feel free to let him know you like your follow-ups like he likes his car: fast and reliable.)

3. He’s nervous. Men get the same flustered feelings we do when we’re crazy about someone, and sometimes that means he’ll find excuses not to call, even though he wants to—he just doesn’t want to sound dumb when he does. Give these sweet, tongue-tied boys a break.

4. He’s just a jerk. Plain and simple, sometimes—despite all our best efforts to avoid bad boys—we still fall for a bad seed. If that’s the case, thank your lucky stars you dodged this particular bullet sooner than later and move on to a more responsive man. What do you do when a guy you're seeing goes MIA?