If we were having coffee right now, I’d start with “How have you been doing? And how is your family? I hear you’ve been through a rough patch lately. Don’t you worry, my friend. I’ve been keeping you in my prayers.”

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you how the summer brings me so much happiness. As you know, I am not a winter person. At all. The heat and the sun and the breeze is a welcome change to the bitter cold, the 3 foot snow drifts, and icy roads.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d happily tell you, with maybe a hint of sadness, how I quit my job because I realized that I made a mistake in getting the job. I’d elaborate on that with how disappointed I feel in myself for not heeding my husbands advice and getting the job anyway. But, it’s done now. I am back at home taking care of my husband and my children.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you of our most recent camping weekend at the lake. A few of the kids bought their own kayaks (kid size) and do surprisingly well on them. The weekend was fun, but it was windy. We decided to cut our camping weekend short one day.

And of course, if we were having coffee right now, I’d have to tell you about my oldest son’s relationship. She’s a very sweet girl and I like her a lot, but they are so young. They remind me of my relationship with his dad when we were that age. To be honest, it also makes me sad because I know he’s growing up and I’m not ready for that.

If were were having coffee right now, I’d also tell you that this next school year I won’t be home-schooling anymore. We decided to put the kids into private school so now I will have more time to focus on the two youngest ones.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you all about my days. It seems that although I’d have much to say, it all seems like it would be so insignificant to someone else.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you of someone that died recently that I knew many years ago and how sad it is to me because he was only 40. He also has a wife and two teenage children. Death doesn’t make me sad, it’s the thought of who the loss is really going to affect. It is just so sad to me.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you of my anniversary, nine years we’ve been married. What a life we’ve lived over these years. Nothing extravagant, but he sure has made me happy and we have created a beautiful family, but you know that already.

Mostly, if we were having coffee right now, I’d want to know all about how you’re doing. I’d ask a million questions, I’m sure. And I would listen to each detail as if it’s the difference between life and death.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d probably end the visit with, “I’m sure glad you stopped by. I have missed you, my friend. It’s been fun catching up. I hope that we are able to get together again soon.