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Where do you live, mama? I'm in the US. The hospital that my boys were at tried to push this on me and I flat out refused. I found the suggestion intrusive and unnecessary. They see their pediatrician every two weeks for a weigh in. They'll be a month old (39 weeks adjusted) on the 29th. Unless you want it, I believe you can refuse this.

Hope your LO's are doing great and that you're adjusting to twin Mom life well! I'm struggling a bit with being tired, but I'll live

Where do you live, mama? I'm in the US. The hospital that my boys were at...

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09/27/2017

Where do you live, mama? I'm in the US. The hospital that my boys were at tried to push this on me and I flat out refused. I found the suggestion intrusive and unnecessary. They see their pediatrician every two weeks for a weigh in. They'll be a month old (39 weeks adjusted) on the 29th. Unless you want it, I believe you can refuse this.

Hope your LO's are doing great and that you're adjusting to twin Mom life well! I'm struggling a bit with being tired, but I'll live

Right I'm the same struggling with tiredness wish I could get more sleep but your totally right I'll live lol , but how did you refuse I'm a young Ftm and kinda don't know certain things and I was really uncomfortable when they first told me I had to attend to this, once they come out this once can i refuse after that ...

Right I'm the same struggling with tiredness wish I could get more sleep ...

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09/27/2017

Right I'm the same struggling with tiredness wish I could get more sleep but your totally right I'll live lol , but how did you refuse I'm a young Ftm and kinda don't know certain things and I was really uncomfortable when they first told me I had to attend to this, once they come out this once can i refuse after that ...

You've got this. It's hard, and especially so being a FTM (first time mom) and young but as women we were made to do this! Basically when they asked me about the home health care nurse coming out I was like yeaaaah no I'm good lol. I've learned with social services, you can just say no even if you're young or don't have your "ducks in a row". Don't let anyone make you feel like you need to be monitored because of your age or circumstances. As long as you're getting LO's to the pediatrician on time and don't feel like you need any supervision, I would just decline the option.

I'm 32 and a FTM, but their biggest thing with me was that I'm a recovering addict. I'm very open about this with my drs, as I used to pill shop. I've been clean for over 2 years before getting pregnant. A doctor in the nicu took it upon herself to accuse me of possibly using while I was pregnant. They tested babies cord tissue and everything. OF COURSE all came back negative, but then they still tried to suggest the home nurse after discharge. Truthfully I was like F YOU people and your judgmental BS, I'm fully capable of taking care of my kids!

Be confident, mama. Lean on your support system too! If they push the issue let them come out for one and decline the rest. Or if they make you continue for some reason (I don't see how or why they would), have it be on your and LO's schedule, not theirs.

Is we discharge within 48 hours (not the NICU) we get to have a home health nurse stop at our house. It was 2 days after discharge and I loved it. She was there for two hours, weighed LO, did a billiribin check, and answered all sorts of questions I had. I'm not sure what the NICU protocol is for your hospital.

I'm sure they are just offering extra support to make sure you and baby are okay. I didn't have anything after my first baby but I was in the hospital 5 days. With this one a nurse called us to check on everything. This second time I was there fewer than 48 hours with a c section. Which I didn't know was possible. She asked me questions about pain management, if I had enough help at home, how my older child was dealing with the new baby, and how the baby was eating and eliminating.

This is something they just generally offer to every mom in my state. We generally decline but take the information just in case we do need it. They can be a huge help especially for FTM's because you can get baby weighed, ask questions and be ensured that baby is doing well without a doctors visit or leaving the house.

If you don't want it just decline. They can't require it unless you're in some sort of trouble with CPS and it's part of the requirements to keep custody.

I had NICU babies and they had a program where a nurse came out but it wasn't twice a week it was less frequent like every other month. I actually found it helpful because she helped me determine that my daughter was getting a flat head. They take more time than at a doctors office. I would not want twice a week but I did like the periodic checks personally.

Thank you all of you where very helpful , but she came today and gave me the option for them to keep coming once a week or make it this once and I just went with the once a week , I think I just kinda over reacted because I didn't no what to expect

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