This post is kinda serious. I thought that since we have so many veterans coming back from multiple wars I would give you a glimpse in the mind.

I talked to my friend a former Marine who I respect. Here is what he said:

“I used to be important. I was responsible for the welfare of people who depended on a force for protection.

Politics and public opinion mattered not. I just know when I saw a leveled town and a kid with a huge scar from an explosion or people just blowing up it was more than I could ever imagine was possible for humans to do.

Having been to war I can say it is something horrible and something beautiful. When I came back they gave me a GI Bill to go to school. I thought is this the ticker tape homecoming for me? Of course that to is bullshit.

War is war and I went for the sake of finding out what it meant.

Well now being a bit older than the college kids I do not know how to really make friends but I do know that life is good.

The war is where the true heroes die and the rest of us come back to life in America.

Don’t tell me thanks. Please don’t tell me thanks.

Just share ideas with me and do not look at me as a veteran.

It was a stepping stone to new thought.

Post war blues don’t get to me I won’t let it because I was a Marine and a good man”

America told us to be the breadwinners, get a job and then get married.

Now that we are post-recession that American dream has left us (But folks it was a mirage anyways)

But this article is about confidence for men.

Confidence for a man has nothing to do with your socioeconomic status, your education, your amount of lovers or any other bullshit that commercials make you feel you need.

Confidence is based on knowing that you are calm under any circumstance. It is knowing that if shit goes down you are the man people look to. Now it should never be that extreme but as a man carrying yourself in that matter makes you uber special.

It is easy to be confident when everything is going great but when you are tested like a public school student true confidence will always emerge victorious.

I can tell you to join clubs, volunteer organizations, get sent overseas to fight a war or all of that good stuff but

truly confidence is always within.

Hold your head up high.

People only perceive you as you present yourself.

Lesson: Walk like a prince, talk like a prince and by golly you are a prince!

I as well as others tend to make that simple mistake of speaking to a woman as though

they are so distinctly different than us. (And yes we are all aware of biological differences)

But what I simply mean is to look at the situation as though the woman you find interesting is just like you.

She may not be able to quote Sheldon Cooper from the Big Bang but nonetheless she is just like you.

The problem is that when you look at the situation as though she is a woman you do her and yourself an injustice.

You do weird things just like I do weird things when you look at it this way.

For example- Changing your voice dramatically sounding like cookie monster with an elmo face, behaving so out of the ordinary that you come across as phony, or being way to invested in her reactions in what should be a simple interaction.

Do not be her jester. No woman wants to be with a clown (Unless of course she has a clown fetish)

So how do you open a conversation, well there are two parts:

(1) Saying hello with accompaniment of a smile is so warming that any Ice Queen should melt. Now a good majority of the time she will pretend you do not exist but do it and go on with your life.

(2)Now comment on something of which she possesses upon her but nothing which brings attention to her physical features. Why you say? (A) it can come off as creepy (B) Now she might think you just want ass (which you do but….) Now you get extra points by knowing something about what she has I mean seriously you can google anything and learn about it some what. It shows that you are cultured.

It is simple it is so simple we fail to do it. It is only because of self-doubt. But remember you really honestly do not know where this woman’s mind is at when you approach her.

It isn’t your fault if she does not reciprocate either.

It all boils down to sincerity and a general interest in others. It won’t be about talking to a woman but

exchanging ideas with an equal. This way no matter what it is a win-win situation for you.

BAZINGA

Lesson: Every situation is different when opening a conversation but nobody can resist a warm smile and a hello. From this point everything will flow with some practice. Understood?