Plight of an innocent girl who had beautiful dreams.

Is responsibility about clearing debts that arise due to unnecessary dowry system? Is responsibility about creating debts more than you can handle? Is responsibility about creating debts and then showing off using borrowed money? The rich and elite are better off because they show off using their own money. But what is the average class doing? Borrowing and showing off more than their capacity. Ultimately a new couple enters their life with debts. Their family life is shattered. At a young age to enjoy their married life, they are being pushed into the well of debts and frustration. How many more girls going to bear this suffering? How many more fathers going to live apart from their babies when they actually don’t have to? How long till people realize this fact? How long till people conduct a wedding peacefully and happily? Think about it

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Wickedness of social traditions

Plight of an innocent girl who had beautiful dreams.

A young girl in her wedding age. Out of the blue, she happened to fall in love. She could not be blamed as the guy was so handsome and true to his character. Both of them approached their parents
with the firm belief that there would not be any repercussion’s as they believed both families to be at a similar level in terms of social, finance and traditional custom’s. However it was a hit
below the belt when things did not work out as expected. But the couple happened to have full faith in their divine love and god almighty and 2 year’s time they successfully convinced their parents
and got married. The young girl was full of fear entering a new home but soon she realized she was at home away from home. Loving in-laws and her wonderful husband. She was thankful to god. But
soon her dreams were to fall apart.

She soon happened to realize all the family s financial burden was to be fulfilled by her husband. An established working professional with great social service mind. This was her father in law.
However he failed to manage finance. He never bothered about money. The girl realized her husband is working hard for an opportunity abroad. It disheartened her a little as they were not able
to go for a honeymoon due to his working commitment. However she supported him fully and she too got into working mode so that he can send money home and they can live on her earnings for the time
being.

All happened to go well when her husband got an opportunity to the UK. Excitement filled her but suddenly she backed down. She felt her husband could save more if she stayed back. But she too
happened to go. Love and excitement filled the air. The excitement however seemed to drain off as the financial stress started to pour in. To her dismay she realized her husband was sending home
all the money leaving back just what is required for their living till the next payment. This was disturbing as she felt it wise that her husband d keep aside something for them. But she felt it’s
a son s responsibility and she does not have the right to interfere. Things went by.

The news came filled with happiness. Her sister in law was getting married. The couple could not go for financial reasons and also in fear of job security as things were uncertain at her husband’s
office. However the sorrow again was followed by the good news. The girl was pregnant. She was just overjoyed. She dreamed high for her coming baby. She was in thrill of having to experience the
best of healthcare. Again she was dismayed to know that her husband had to clear the debts of his sister s wedding and they were under financial constrain.

Nevertheless, she happily flew down to India. She gave birth to beautiful boy. She expected her husband to fly down to be with her as any wife would want. But she was unlucky. She cried into the
nights being unable to share the joy with her husband. Her expectations rose again as she was to go back to UK. She was thrilled and excited. Her hormones started playing their part. A year had
gone by very emotionally for her.

She landed in the airport only to find her husband did not even bother to take a leave next day to help her out and the baby. He had completely changed. He showed no more love. He was only
performing his duties as a husband and father. He was no more living it. It shattered her and she was completely broke.

There were no more talking, sharing, physical relations or anything between them. She felt completely neglected and isolated in a foreign place. Soon serious fights sprouted between them. She could
not understand what had happened. She tried her maximum to think from his side. But she was at a loss.

Soon she realized the truth. Her husband was a victim of financial burden. His family just created more and more debts. He was running 24 *7 finding ways to lessen them. 30 lakhs in 3 years’ time
he sent home. But “hocus pocus”. Debts and needs still running. She realized her husband was having credit debts in UK too. He was rolling money. She understood the pressure and tension within him.
She started to hate the social system in India

The only reason her husband was suffering was the social custom of dowry. His sister was given a large dowry of gold money and car. Including the wedding expense all amounted to 45 lakhs.

For what purpose was this done? For the sake of social status? Why do people want to show off when they don’t have the means? Why are they burdening themselves with more than they can handle?
Creating debts and expecting it to be fulfilled by your offspring.. Then and now..? Why does a parent want their son to break his back trying to cover the debts? Debt should be created
understanding one’s capacity and not above one’s capacity.

Her husband suggested she move back to India as he cannot cover his debts with family there. She was even more disappointed now. A year passed in UK without a good relationship with her husband.
There was no love to be shown. Her husband never showed compassion neither accepted it from her as his mind did not have feelings anymore. He was only focused on work, money, debts. She sadly moved
to India. The thought of a father having to live apart from his son even though he had a well-paid job and could afford his family in the UK just made her sick.

On reaching India she felt even more bitter to hear her in laws say they pray their son get a better job. She realized they never will understand their own son’s burden as they would never had made
such a statement. Here they sat thinking its ok because it’s his responsibility.

Is responsibility about clearing debts that arise due to unnecessary dowry system? Is responsibility about creating debts more than you can handle? Is responsibility about creating debts and then
showing off using borrowed money? The rich and elite are better off because they show off using their own money. But what is the average class doing? Borrowing and showing off more than their
capacity. Ultimately a new couple enters their life with debts. Their family life is shattered. At a young age to enjoy their married life, they are being pushed into the well of debts and
frustration. How many more girls going to bear this suffering? How many more fathers going to live apart from their babies when they actually don’t have to? How long till people realize this fact?
How long till people conduct a wedding peacefully and happily? Think about it.