It Is What It Is: Find a tribe who shares your vibe with SocialMama

Lisa Sugarman More Content Now

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Jul 2, 2018 at 12:06 PMJul 2, 2018 at 12:06 PM

We all need people. Itís just a basic fact of life. We all need to feel connected, in some meaningful way, with the people around us. But in my opinion, no one needs that connection more than a mom. Because being a mom in todayís world is tricky business. Super-tricky business.

Weíre all so hyper-focused on raising our kids and managing our day-to-day that most of us barely have time to shower, let alone seek out new mom friends. But thatís exactly what most of us want and need to help us navigate the muddy ó sometimes isolating ó waters of motherhood. The problem is, who the hell has time to go out searching for new mom friends? Not me when mine were still young, thatís for damn sure.

I mean, I was that mom home on maternity leave staring at the same four walls every day, wishing I could connect with other new moms who lived around me. But it just wasnít that simple. It involved getting out and joining groups and cultivating relationships and siphoning through the people who didnít share my vibe. And thatís time-consuming stuff, especially with little kids in tow.

Because most moms are buried so deep in our day-to-day routine with our kids, that all the other stuff we used to do ó like socialize and put on makeup and read actual books ó just gets pushed off to the side.

Iíve also been that mom who moved to a brand-new city with young kids and a husband who travelled, who was desperate to find new mom friends. Because, you know, loneliness. But again, it meant investing time and energy to connect with other moms in my community and facing that fear of not being embraced by anyone. Cause when itís just you and your newborn or toddler or little kid every day trying to find your way in a new community without a support system to fall back on, itís intimidating. And I know, Iíve been that mom.

And I was also the stay-at-home mom looking to expand my network of other stay-at-home moms to collaborate with and share experiences. Because it can be a long, lonely day without other people to engage with and help stimulate your brain. But growing those relationships doesnít happen overnight. Or at least it didnít when I was a new mom almost 20 years ago.

Flash forward to the spring of 2018, when I stumbled on a new app for moms called SocialMama that does all the heavy lifting for you. Itís a new and totally free app that helps moms expand their professional, social, and personal circles so we can enrich each otherís lives through connection and inspiration. Totally in my sweet spot.

Think of it like a dating app for moms. SocialMama generates Mama Matches using our own unique likes and hobbies and preferences. And because todayís moms donít define ourselves solely by what our kids do, SocialMama helps us do way more than just find mom friends ó it helps us build our network of mom resources by connecting us with other moms right in our own area and MentorMamas ó specially curated moms who are experts in their field. And as a parenting author, I saw huge value in moms being able to use other moms for mentorship, inspiration, and support. Again, right in my sweet spot.

Thanks to SocialMama, moms can organically match with other moms based on our common interests and unique needs and lifestyle. We can chat and get to know each other and share life stories without it being a huge time suck. In other words, itís changing the way moms everywhere are meeting and connecting with and finding our tribe.

And even though I soooo wish something like this existed 15 years ago when my girls were little, it doesnít matter that my kids are grown because, once a mom, always a mom. Now I get to use it to help me connect with other empty-nester moms like me.

Because letís face it, building quality relationships is complicated, time-consuming, and sometimes pretty awkward. But it doesnít have to be. With SocialMama, itís as easy as downloading the app in the Apple Store, setting up your profile, and then letting SocialMamaís geo-location software connect you with other moms who share your vibe right in your area.

So now, growing our mom community is really only a click away. Just go to www.socialmama.us and get started building your tribe today. Your people are waiting for you.ó Lisa Sugarman lives just north of Boston, Massachusetts. Read and discuss all her columns at lisasugarman.com. Or, find them on LittleThings.com, Hot Moms Club, BeingAMom.life, GrownandFlown.com, More Content Now, and Care.com. She is also the author of LIFE: It Is What It Is and Untying Parent Anxiety: 18 Myths That Have You in KnotsóAnd How to Get Free available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and at select bookstores.

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