No *******

I have a little question for you guys. If you were used to ******* everyday or whenever you felt like it but then you got into a relationship with a Master or Mistress and they never let you come do you think it would be hard for you? I mean like having to go 1-2 months without ******* at all. Having no sexual pleasure at all. Would you think it was fair to be asked to do that with no training first?

This is hard but you can do it. By denying you *** it makes you more sensitive and makes your ****** more intense when she does allow it. If it is concerning you approach her on your knees head down and ask for permission to make a request. Then ask her if there is a way for you to "earn" a cumsession. Be humble and accept whatever answer she gives you

It's not fair. You should reconsider your options. That's not any type of training, it's a cruel torture for your masters benifit. You should examine your contract, and if you don't have one, you are dealing with a novice or someone who just likes to be cruel.

Its not fair at all. Going cold turkey on anything is never fair. There should always be a process to anything you have to ween yourself away from. Sub or slave something like this should be negotiated. But then again I have never been one to believe that even in a M/s relationship that the slave has no rights or can't disagree with something. And a Dom/Master should always be willing to listen to what their partner has to say.

Something as large as what you've described should be talked about. And your Master should realize what a huge thing this is for you and support you while doing it. Not just say STOP doing it and that's the final word. Its unrealistic and I think its unhealthy for you. True, you don't need to come everyday to live, but mentally its something you've done for a long time now. Forcing you to stop and you thinking about it constantly is going to make you loose focus in other ways.. possibly loosing focus on other tasks he puts you too. Then he won't be happy with that.. or you. I only see this causing more trouble in time. Where if he cared and took the time now to help you gradually ween your way away from it, both of you would be happier in the long run.

I would be climbing the walls! 1 - 2 months is a long time to have no sexual pleasure, but I suppose it would teach restraint and show commitment! Perhaps you could discuss with your Dom/Domme a shorter time period to start, so he/she can assess how you do, what you can handle, and what your thoughts/reactions are?

I don't think one needs training before attempting ****** control.... it's sort of do or die ;-) In my case, I'd probably die but I'd never forget it ;-)

It can also be guilt as to why someone would not ********** until 18...so when someone says they don't ********** due to their "morality" I feel kinda bad for them because there is nothing wrong with having an ******.

I have a friend whose boyfriend was told growing up if he touched himself ghosts would haunt him. (I'm serious).Too bad we often associate self pleasure with shame.

I mean its more epistemic than that. It's not ghosts chase me or haunt me. It's not self-pleasure creates shame. It's alright to see human merely in terms of animal instincts in that manner self pleasure is not shame. You are correct. It's about seeing the human as having certain capacities that other animals do not that makes self pleasure ******* whatever you want to throw in there questionable in a certain epistemic framework. Simplicity is a good thing i know, but my mind never has been quiet enough to not think out what it means to be human.