Sex Q&A: How Can I Tell If She's Faking an Orgasm?

Q.

I’m getting the feeling that my wife isn’t as “satisfied” as she’s letting on. How can I tell if she’s faking the big O?

A.

Generally, women who fake it put on some sort of performance, à la porn. This means a lot of loud moaning and thrusting, all of which have very little to do with a genuine orgasm. Many women don’t make a whole lot of noise during the actual orgasm. So if she’s a screamer, she might just be a screaming phony. How can you tell if it’s real? Well, usually women need to go into a state of deep relaxation to orgasm (and also require persistent clitoral stimulation). With this comes a consistent rhythm as well as a pulling upwards with her vagina as sexual tension develops. Then, when she actually does have an orgasm, you’ll likely feel a pulsing of the vaginal walls, and her clitoris will be extremely sensitive to the touch. Many women have trouble achieving orgasm through vaginal sex, so if you suspect she’s faking to spare your feelings, talk to her and find out what works for her.