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How to go about leaving Dh? Please help ASAP

I believe Dh is cheating. I know I need to leave but don't want to screw myself or him (I do still care about him). We own a house together, we have a son together but out bank accounts are separate. I work but only part time (and there is no full time available). I doubt he will leave willing because his name is on the house but he knows I don't have anywhere I could go right away. I just don't know how all this works.

Just me, but I wouldn't do anything right now. If you have nowhere to go, you don't have many options. Put a plan into place first so you do have options and aren't jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Well I could afford a place of my own just not here. Also the house is under my name. My name is primary and he is secondary since her bought it before we were married

Quoting coolmommy2x:

Just me, but I wouldn't do anything right now. If you have nowhere to go, you don't have many options. Put a plan into place first so you do have options and aren't jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Just me, but I wouldn't do anything right now. If you have nowhere to go, you don't have many options. Put a plan into place first so you do have options and aren't jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

According to your original post the emails are enough to say he has cheating intentions and if hes actually acted on them is one thing, confront with evidence or suffer in silence because still caring for someone that cheats on you is NOT a good example for your son. If he accuses you or snooping you can say its his fault for being dishonest and making you feel suspicious. Also i agree with the dont have sex with him part from a previous poster, same thing happened to my MIL, she has herpes now,

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