Send me email updates about messages I've received on the site and the latest news from The CafeMom Team.
By signing up, you certify that you are female and accept the Terms of Service and have read the
Privacy Policy.

So.... Would love some opinions on this....

Here it goes, my current husband five months ago left me for my homewrecking best friend. I feel I should add that he left when my son was 8m old. I also should add that he cheated for pretty much the entire first year of our marriage with his ex when my daughter was 3m old. We have been married four years, last week he decided to tell me he wanted to come home, he misses me and misses his family. I am normally the person to say screw him blah blah... but as a stay at home mom, life was easier with him around. I have not let him come back, I told him I would consider it, I really just dont know what to do. I have many fears, and rightfully so. I however want my family back. I am just so lost.

**** Thank you to the people who weren't total assholes and gave real constructive advice, you are all right. It was just one of those things where the heart and mind wouldnt agree, i still have love for him and that is the issue, my mind knows he will probably never change. He needs some serious psychological help. Its been so heart breaking... I am a really forgiving person because its how i was raised. Naysayers can say whatever they want but i only took him back because i loved him still and truely believed it was in the best interest of my family, we went to marriage counseling and i gave it my all. I didn't get married to be divorced four years later and i was always taught that you dont give up in marriage for any reason. My cousin cheated on his wife and they are happier married now after counseling then they were before he cheated, it is possible. Maybe not with my husband but it is. I know i should hate him, i should be angry but that doesnt benifit my children or myself. I am going through with the divorce though, so as i said thank you people who gave REAL advice and wernt just jerks.

Send me email updates about messages I've received on the site and the latest news from The CafeMom Team.
By signing up, you certify that you are female and accept the Terms of Service and have read the
Privacy Policy.