“You have demonstrated the classic case of a marital abuser,” said Etelson, who cited a slew of physical and verbal violence that Marilyn has alleged against her husband in police reports back to 1997.

Referring to what Carter allegedly called Marilyn before beating her in 2008, Etelson said, “She’s not a ‘dumb project bitch.’ When are you going to wake up?”

“Someday, you both will thank me,” Etelson told the couple as he additionally sentenced Carter, 45, to one year of probation and 52 domestic-violence classes for his attempted-assault conviction.

Under the sentence, the disgraced TV journalist cannot go near Marilyn unless he is prescribed medication by a psychiatrist able to assure the judge that Carter is well enough to see her.

The couple can communicate by phone.

Etelson also gave Carter a photocopy of a New York magazine article about Matt Damon that cited the actor’s views on honesty and humility. The judge noted that Carter had egotistically dropped the names of politician-friends during prior court proceedings, and bragged to cops about being written up in The New York Times.

“You are equal to everyone,” Etelson said. “Try some humility and honesty — it goes a long way.”

And the judge gave Marilyn a sticker bearing the words “Attitude Makes the Difference,” which he said she should place on her bathroom mirror for Dominic when he ultimately returns to their Pomona, NY, home.

The sentence was yet another shame for Carter, who for years interviewed the biggest political luminaries in the city and state on his NY1 cable show. The Time Warner cable network recently let his contract expire without re-signing him.

“I’m sorry to my wife for not being a better husband,” Carter tearfully told Etelson.

“I beg for mercy. This has torn our family apart. I don’t have a job and we are going to lose our house.”

Carter cited his tough upbringing, which included horrific abuse by his mentally ill mom, and being raised by relatives, a story he told at length in a memoir, “No Momma’s Boy.”

Marilyn, a 52-year-old college administrator, was dry-eyed as she told Etelson, “I can’t express how this family has suffered for the past few months.

“I think he’s been punished more than enough.”

Dominic’s lawyer, Julia Kuan, called the sentence a “miscarriage of justice,” and said she would ask an appellate court to stay the sentence today.