Persistence is the key to crack every kind of tough nut. Moreover, while loving someone even when they don't give a second thought to you is particularly difficult and painful, it is not impossible. To keep trying while still being ignored will hurt, but if your intentions are good and your love is pure, the feelings of your heart genuine, how can they resist?

Steps

1

Take the first step. Yes, your pride will take a beating. Don't be "why should I do this? Why care for someone who hates me? I've got better stuff to do." Of course, you have better stuff to do, better places to be but you wouldn't be reading this article if you didn't want to make peace with that family member. So you have to just do it. Mentally prepare yourself for the ordeal and expect to feel pain from rejections likely to follow. By preparing your mind to bear the situations to come, you are at least ready and therefore likely to be more resilient.

2

Take the initiative to greet them. Do this with a smile. This is important. Make a resolve to be good, no matter what the circumstances that member seeks to create around you. Emerge the better person in any argument they start. Make sure to let them know there is no hostility on your part.

3

Find out why they don't like you.Their hatred must stem from some cause, right? Do some asking around. Then after you find out, resolve the matter with them. Clear out misunderstandings.

It can help to remember that this isn't about you even though the person will often do their best to make it seem it is. Negativity is usually a projection of something that isn't right within the person projecting it.

4

Keep up your good behaviour in front of them at all times. Persistence in this is more helpful in the case of elders. Praise them in front of others and compliment them time to time but, of course, don't overdo the flattery.

5

Do these steps. Don't falter. It will only be a matter of time until they come around and are at least respectful. After all, they're human, so your willingness to continue making an effort to be pleasant and to understand them will hit a chord.

6

Keep such persons in your prayers or meditations. Always think well of them. Thoughts are energies that exist and can travel from one mind to another; moreover our body language and actions speak louder than words. Good intentions are always able to pierce through the morass of negativity. Thinking positive will bring about happier days rather than thinking gloomy and morose thoughts.

Tips

Warnings

In some cases, you may be dealing with a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath personality. In this case, the person is an arch manipulator and no matter what you do, any appearance of fawning or neediness feeds into their power play. You must be strong enough to think "too bad, this person does not confirm my sense of self worth", then leave them be. Stay factual, distantly nice and calm around such persons, at all times.

Don't be severely disappointed if it doesn't work. Some relationships are broken beyond repair because one party doesn't want it to heal. Find solace in the fact that you did your best. Let a few tears fall and let it pass.