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My Mom Takes Roman Catholic Leaders to Task

My mother is amazing. She's had my back from the second I came out to her – and long before that.

When she heard that the leaders of our Roman Catholic Church had spent $2 million on anti-gay marriage ballot campaigns in this election, she wrote a letter to the top Catholic bishop in the U.S., sticking up for people like me. I think it's a message he desperately needs to hear.

I've been going to Catholic mass almost every week since I was a little girl. My aunts and uncles are nuns and priests. My husband was a member of the Knights of Columbus. We raised our kids in our parish community and sent them to Catholic schools. Catholicism is more than just a belief for me – it's a deep seed of my identity.

And it has always taught me that God made us all, and loves us all the same. The same way I try to love all my kids. That's why, when my incredible son told me he was gay, it didn't change my love for him one bit.

He's always my child.

That's why I was outraged to learn that the leadership of our Church just spent $2 million on anti-gay marriage ballot campaigns. Think of all the positive things that $2 million could have accomplished. Think of the hungry fed, the sick comforted, the homeless sheltered. Instead you chose to use parishioners' donations like mine to divide and discriminate.

Catholicism teaches us to love one another – not to attack our sons and daughters for simply wanting to make lifelong commitments and start families. You won't have to ever marry a same-sex couple, but it makes no sense to deny them the right to be married under the law. And your parishioners aren't going to stand for it much longer.

I think it's time we all got on the right side of history. I hope you do, too.