(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm really worried about this - I can't even use tampons because they're so painful, what am I going to be like when I lose my virginity?? I hate the fact that sex is probably going to be ruined for me by pain lol

It was the same for me, and it's not true to say 'sex was ruined'...I mean, it was very very painful, but then I was with someone I trusted and loved so it was still special..in a painful kinda way. It won't hurt forever, don't worry.

(Original post by cat_meiow)
How can u lose ur virginity to a dildo i presume?

You got me on sth I hate to hear from others and now I've done it myself.

I meant that's how I got 'broken into', broke the hymen, widened myself... You get the idea. Losing your virginity is what happens during real sex imo. I apologise, wasn't thinking. I'm a virgin and that's the end of it.

Me too (well not a real one but you get the idea), but like I corrected myself up there I didn't "lose my virginity" as such, I just broke my hymen (bled) and opened myself up a little by doing it more often.

Don't worry about it too much. Like a lot of people are saying you need to be 'loosened' up a bit with fingering etc, and make sure when you do try to have sex that you are ready and turned on. Use some extra lube like KY Jelly if necessary and make sure the guy takes his time and that you are comfortable with him. If it makes you feel better sometimes even I have trouble getting it in sometimes when the time isn't right and I'm not a virgin and I've had a baby! It's a common problem. But you are making it worse by worrying about it. Forget about having sex for now, just have fun with your boyfriend and exploring each other when you are ready it will happen. My first time didn't even hurt that much and the discomfort I did experience was because I was tense, but as soon as I relaxed it was nice!

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm really worried about this - I can't even use tampons because they're so painful, what am I going to be like when I lose my virginity?? I hate the fact that sex is probably going to be ruined for me by pain lol

when i first used tampons, i started with the regular size. it was abit uncomfortable but i got used to it
and like, then i moved up two sizes, so now im superr :L ahaa. lol, and it doesnt hurt me no more, i cant hardly feel it. just make sure you put it up far enough. applicator ones are easier and better

i got scared when i used tampons at first, because it hurt. but i promise you itll get better