Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Little Kids, Little Problems...

...big kids, big problems. I've heard this phrase many times over the years, but never have I understood it more than I do now.

I guess it's not so much "problems", as it is dilemmas and hurdles. Courtney got into the school she has always wanted to go to, and while she is enjoying the classes and the challenges they bring, she's having a difficult time connecting with anyone. She has a few forces working against her: she's a transfer student and lives off campus, she's not at school 4 days a week (she commutes home to her job) and the biggest of all - she doesn't drink or go out partying. Understandably, college kids test their new found freedoms, and usually go wild. Courtney is not that type and she can't understand how most kids stay out all night and sleep in all day, sometimes cutting classes. While she didn't seem surprised at this situation at Hofstra, where anyone is admitted, she didn't expect the same from the more difficult Fordham. It's not for the lack of trying either, because she has already joined numerous clubs. What better way to meet people who are interested in the same things as you than by joining film and communication clubs. Despite all her efforts, she's finding that she's definitely the odd man out.

This is also the time of year I will begin looking at colleges with Brandon. The realization that he will not be home next September is beginning to sink in. Courtney tells me constantly that if Brandon goes away to school, she will commute because she knows I cannot get Mike into bed on my own. I tell her that it's not an option, but she refuses to listen. I don't say anything anymore, because who knows what tomorrow will bring, let alone next year. I have taken a few days off to take Brandon to visit some schools he's interested in: Seton Hall, Rutgers and Stonybrook. He likes Syracuse, but that's too far for me to go, so we did the virtual tour. He may also check out Scranton. All this needs to be done ASAP, since his college apps. are due into his college advisor by mid-October.

Courtney has been driving for 2 years and Brandon has finished his driving classes and can take his road test any day now. I can't begin to list all the times it would have saved me SO MUCH had we had another car. Over the summer there were so many times Courtney could have done things for me while I was working. She also got a job, is GREAT, but I had to run her back and forth. Now Brandon is looking for a job and he will need to get around. If we could somehow afford a car, then there's the insurance and gas. Kids have survived without cars for time and again, now mine will have to survive the same.

Where does time go? I remember being up with them at night when they were teething, now I find myself waiting up for them to get home. Little kids, little problems..... Life's little dilemmas...dealing with them by myself, sad of what Mike has missed.

TODAY IS WORLD ALZHEIMER'S DAY. LET'S NOT FORGET THOSE WHO CAN'T REMEMBER.

About Me

My husband Mike was diagnosed at the age of 36 with Young Onset Alzheimer's Disease. For almost 11 years, my children & I took care of Mike at home - until he passed away on February 28, 2012 at the age of 47. When Mike was first diagnosed, he gave me "permission" to place him in a nursing home, but I chose not to do that. With the help of my children, family &aides, I kept the promise to myself that I would keep him home until the "end". I began this blog about 5 years ago to keep family and friends updated on Mike's condition as he weathered some difficult health issues and hospitalizations. During the process, it became a method for me to vent about issues that directly effected us as a family caring for someone with AD. Nothing along this journey has been easy & I will continue to advocate & be the voice for all those patients who have been silenced by Alzheimer's Disease. NO ONE SURVIVES ALZHEIMER'S, the disease does not discriminate and I will do all I can to make a difference. My faith has been my strength and we have been blessed with MANY angels along the way.
Mike will always be my hero!