Becoming Nobody to be Somebody

I live like everything I do is the right thing to do. I don't doubt my actions or the decisions I make.

This is real self-confidence. ​

Self-confidence is just acknowledging what is and giving up on what is not regarding who you really are.

It's getting rid of all the unessential bullshit that says you aren't enough.

​You gain real confidence when you break the chains of your mind, when you push yourself from the boundaries you have accepted from everyone else.

The thing is, there are no boundaries. No rules. No laws. Absolutely nothing at all.​

​Only by finding out who you really are, you do discover what it takes to be nothing at all.

They say the mind is everything. But everything is only what is. You also better learn what is-not.

Most people have ideas about themselves. "I am this kind of a person." Then they try to stay congruent with that idea.

The more you define yourself with ideas and concepts, the less you will be who you actually are. When you are defining yourself with external concepts, you are all the others, not you.

Almost everyone I see, is chasing something that is the opposite of who they are.

For a long time, I chased an image of myself too. I thought I needed to be something to be me.

When Gautama Buddha, or other ancient masters used the word "desire", they meant nothing but chasing yourself.

Chasing an external image of who you think you are.

This is one of the most misunderstood concepts of all time. Why? Because the real thing became nothing but a concept once someone started interpreting it.

Gautama Buddha's entire life's work was to create a system that relieves people from their suffering.

The result was Buddhism, which is exactly the opposite of what buddha preached.

Moreover, things won't make any sense to most people until they are forced to give up everything they ever thought they were supposed to be.

Why is everyone chasing the opposite of who they are?

When you were small and weak, you were most sensitive to all of the bullshit of the world.

Make no mistake, everything is bullshit and lies, and at best, everything is only true enough. The mind can only grasp what the mind can grasp, and that's not much.

When you were a kid, the stronger forces shaped you into the image they thought you were supposed to be.​

Almost no one treats kids as kids; instead they treat them as something they think kids should be.

Parents want their kids to become decent human beings, instead of just letting them grow. Many parents actually think that is their duty: to create machines that are programmed to be proper citizens.

Teaching is all bullshit. Being an example isn't.

The parents and the culture you lived in didn't let you be who you really were. You had many flaws, many holes and you weren't good enough to be the rascal kid you were.

Nowadays, it's worse than ever. It's no longer enough for them to try to mentally shape kids into something they want them to be, but in these days they try to change them biologically as well, using the ADHD medication.

Fundamentally, everything is mental control, including the biological.

If you were born a man, you were ashamed of being the masculine force of the world. If you were born a woman, you were boxed to fit the cultural definitions of what it means to be a woman.

You were even ashamed of being a human. You are destroying the nature, they say.

But most fundamentally, you were ashamed to be just yourself. ​Or maybe you weren't, because the truth is not everyone is sick. But almost everyone is.

Shaming is the ultimate strategy of control. "Don't be that, be this", "Don't do that, do this." Someone is always executing his or her personal power over someone.

Shaming is putting your consciousness into chains. Mental control is as bad as physical control; you are being forced to be in the control of someone else.

Many say no one can hurt you without your consent... but that's bullshit too.

When you are 100% dependent on someone and honestly believe that is all you have, like when you were a kid, anyone could hurt you, regardless of your consent.

When you gain power, both physical and mental, you finally gain the ability to say: "NO."​

When you become both physically and mentally strong, it's time to cut off all the unessential bullshit you were forced to eat when you were a kid. ​And all of us are carrying at least something.

People don't realize it's impossible to be anyone other than who they already are, and as a result, the shaming will merely create a fictional character of doubt who needs to chase his own self.

If you were to stop chasing, you would be complete. You would be perfect. You would have the complete self-confidence in yourself.

A traitor of his own soul is the person who is afraid to do what he is afraid of doing, when deep down, he knows he needs to do it.

​Fear creates a life where the person is chasing something that is not even possible to get by default.

You cannot chase yourself, can you? You can only chase something that is outside of you, something you aren't.

You can chase masculinity, femininity, success, titles, acceptance from women/men or many forms of self-importance - but ​you cannot chase your own face. You cannot chase yourself.