Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

I want to have a physical relationship again.

raped 6 yrs ago...haven't been physical with anyone since then. When I get to know a guy..I wait awhile before telling them "my story", I hope that they like me enough by then to understand. I haven't met a guy that hasn't bolted from the uncomfortable subject matter, beleive me its not discussed over dinner on the first date. I like any phyiscal contact at all. In fact when it comes to yearly exams..I usually will take versed, a (sedative)prior to the exam. The only time I feel comfortable with physical contact, sex, hugging, holding, etc. you get the idea is when I'm dreaming. After everything I have been through, I deserve to be taken care of for once...understood, held, hugged, and made love to, even if it takes awhile for me to get to that point. I know that for some of you the advice would be to start self gratification...but my attacker kind of ruined that for me...I don't feel comfortable even with those acts if you will of self kindness. Please...I'm really tired of living this way...Please just tell me that there is a guy that will help me get to something similar to the way my life use to be. I want to feel human again. If you guys have any insight at all..PLEASE let me know!!!

I am so sorry for your ordeal of 6 years ago..I can't even imagine the trauma you have endured. I give you a WORLD of credit to be here and looking for advice though. That in &amp; of itself says something. Maybe you wouldn't have reached out 6 months or a year ago but here you are now. Reaching out. That has to be a good sign, no? You HAVE endured. You're here to get advice/help which is fantastic. On your page it sounds like you've been trying to &quot;white-knuckle&quot; your way back to normalcy and while that may work for a very very very select few in most instances I would think that professional guidance would be of great benefit, right? Have you considered talking to a therapist? Sometimes you have to go through 2 or 3 before you really connect with someone.
You absolutely DO deserve to be taken care of for once. There are definately guyS out there who would help you and remember they are (like myself) ultimately ignorant and naive as to how to proceed. Kinda like putting me out onto a cricket field and the hurler sending in the first pitch. Now what? Not exactly fair to me either! Anyone worth his salt that wants to develop a relationship with you MANDATE that you go to conselling together - I know I would. Maybe you need him to be supremely submissive where you are 100% in control. I don't know - I'm just guessing. But see, that's the point. A vet isn't going to give you very good advice! I can tell you how to spay a dog but go get some real advice by someone trained in these matters. I wish you the very best! :)

i agree....and i am soo sorry that you went through that, god be with you. I can understand your want for someone who has patience and understanding. I have to say that your best bet for someone who is caring and understanding of how you feel and the rate you want to move would be someone who has experienced it through someone close to them... a brother or good friend of a female who was, he will have the insight most men don't and from that the patience to work with you. However i don't know how you find that...maybe through a support post for victims? I really hope that you do find the happiness you seek and let me say that the men who do run, they do not deserve you.

I have also had some past issues including abuse as a child and a past rape. With time I was able to actually enjoy a relationship. I do believe that time can heal. Lately I have developed problems following the death of some friends ( I think depression may be the culprit) but up until then, everything was really good and I believe that once again time will heal. I put the abuse and the rape behind me and realized that the person that I am now with has nothing to do with that and would never want to hurt me. He helped me with a lot of my hangups (like being ashamed of my body which was not at all bad). There is someone out there for you that will treat you well and help you get thru your pain. He will find you.

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