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I like OKC and PoF about equally really. I like the way OKC is set up to see compatibility percentages, even if it doesn't always matter. I liked PoF because more people know about it and I like their profile setup for it's own reasons.

I met my current boyfriend in real life at a party/get together. We met as friends and hit it off pretty instantly. We're both pretty jaded so we actually hadn't planned to date... two weeks after meeting we went to a concert 'as friends' but by the end of it we were definitely interested in each other. We talked about our dating life over fusion tacos and how we both had OKC and he went to look up my sn... when he found it... there was already a star favoriting me.

What Girls Said 21

Im on POF. But its the same men on all the dating sites just looking to have a friend with benefit type of relationship. Im not looking for a relationship, I just get on there for convo here and there. a lot of men on these dating sites have gfs and wives and just looking for something on the side. I generally can tell within a few days if a guy is married or have a girlfriend

Badoo, @snowboarder720.I have Used this Dating Site for nearly 7 years now, and although I had Met a Man on FaceBook, and had Traveled out to Egypt to Marry him, Now that We are Estranged, I continue to Utilize Badoo, for Dates, Sometimes Mates.Good luck and Great question and "You're Welcome."xx

I've been using POF. Getting attention is kind of hit or miss. I send out messages but rarely get replies. I find people are more receptive to replying to your messages if you both selected each other on meet me.

I've used OKC in the past, and haven't had much luck on there. I haven't tried Tinder. I would like to try match or e harmony but I have heard it's not worth it.

I'm eager to see everyone's replies as I need some new avenues to meet people.

I met my boyfriend two years ago on OKCupid. I really don't understand the stigma with online dating. I've seen pople get snooty when you decide to sit next to them on the damned train, they're so unfriendly.

I'm not saying one or the other is better, but shaming online dating is like slut shaming: what's the fucking point besides sounding like some spurned prick?

@thissiteisforpervs Also pepole do both speed dating and online but for some of us speed dating is too far away it would probly be much more effective if it was near buy though but its not it requires traveling?

I think online dating has a stereotypical thinking of not being old fashioned. It's a little more comfortable just... randomly meeting someone in person than having to go to a computer to talk with everybody.

I would not recommend Plenty of Fish, because unlike Tinder ugly guys can message you all day every day and you usually have to read all their messages so it stops showing you notifications. It's super annoying if you don't want unattractive guys messaging you everyday!

Lol or you can just ignore them! But that's definitely a positive part of Tinder, I agree. The only downfall is that most of the men on Tinder don't go very deep and are usually corrupted perverts just looking to get one in. Pass.

Ugh OkCupid is the worst. I've never had so many creepy/rude/dick pick messages in my LIFE. It was terrible. POF gave me better results, people seemed more normal there. Even Tinder was better than OKC. As long as you state that you're not looking for a hookup.

I've had the same experience with OKC! I don't know why either! So Tinder really can be used as a dating resource and not just a hook up place? I have been wary to try it because I want a relationship and hooking up is just not my thing.

@Darkfairie17 Glad I'm not the only one! Well tinder can be a lot of that, but if you specifically put "NOT interested in hookups" then those guys mostly stay away. Then if you stick to your guns it actually works well! I've met a few good ones!

Thanks for the reply! I might have to try Tinder. I find POF to not be that great anymore. I used to have lots of luck, and at least have a few conversations. But now people don't even respond to any messages. It's very disappointing :(

@thissiteisforpervs Yeah that is true too, but id like to think that trusting a person is good enough, i know people do what they want regardless, but if i were to not trust them and worry about it all the time then thats just wasted energy

met ex. husband from match from years ago. he was instantly attracted. share lots of common interest. eventually got married. back then, people wrote letters, everyone was looking for a match for serious relationships. went back and forth with long letters. then met and it was over lol... started to see ea. other daily. tried POF. years after marriage broke up... well.. what a world of difference. its all about hook ups and other negative aspects of dating. last guy was decent. we chatted and met up a week later. date almost 2 years. was seriuos but didn't work out.

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What Guys Said 38

I've been using Coffee Meets Bagel to a good amount of success. About to have my third date with a girl from there. I've used other sites too including Match, tinder, pof, and okcupid. Okcupid has my favorite interface but since it is a well known free site, there is a much larger range of people on it which can be either a good or bad thing. In my cases, mostly bad haha. Also, just wanted to add that it is important to not put all your options in online dating. Allow yourself to meet people in real life the natural way and use online dating in addition to help your search.

I have this problem too. I just don't have a full-length mirror where I am right now. I have only 1 full body pic but it's a clear picture of my body and I suck at taking photos. I don't hang with many people who take photos. So it's frustrating. I've had a few guys comment saying they thought I was super self-conscious because I didn't have a bunch of photos of me out and about. Well when I am out and about I am busy and not really focussed on snapping pics of everything I do. Not every has friends they can get to take pics of them.

Tried all of the free ones plus bumble, tinder, and badoo. No luck what so ever accept an almost date who originally said yes but changed her mind at the last minute and strung me along for another two weeks before i got tired and asked her what she wanted in a guy and she got all defensive so i broke contact. Pretty much a miracle needs to happen for me to get a girlfriend.

I tried everything short of arranged marriage and mail order bride. Both of which i will never do.

So you're off to a bad start. You're 25 years young. Life is short, enjoy your freedom while it lasts. With the attitude of 'a miracle', I wouldn't want to go out with you either. Grow some confidence and learn to be persistent. Ladies dig that.

I'm not really active on any dating sites... I have some apps installed but not really using them. I tried out POF and OkCupid but there are barely any people in my region using it. Lovoo, Badoo or Tinder are better

@Darkfairie17 It's nice because it sends you matches automatically and you don't have to go through dozens to find them. The downside is that you're limited to only those matches. It's also nice because it eases you into communication... You send canned questions first, then needs/can't stands, then open ended questions, then open communication. The gradual process works better for me.

That sounds like it would be helpful! I feel like a mad interviewer on POF, always asking questions and getting short close ended responses :( It makes it tiring when I'm trying to get to know someone and they aren't trying to get to know me back. But then say they want to meet up. So confusing!

@Darkfairie17 People like that aren't worth wasting time on. I hate getting responses like that as well and eventually will lose interest. I know some people that would rather just jump to the meeting, I would rather get to know someone before meeting them, that way you already have an idea of commonalities and things to talk about.

I totally agree with you. I would much rather get to know them a bit before we meet. I know that might seem like a waste of time to some. But part of the reason I do this is security. I'm meeting a stranger, I would like to at least know a little bit about them before meeting. I could randomly meet people blind without knowing anything about them. But I feel a bit more comfortable knowing something about them first. Plus after talking back and forth you get an idea as to how they are. It helps you weed through those people who don't really give you much to talk about.

lol online dating only works for the 5% of men women find attractive enough and for any woman... after she rejects the first 6-7000 insisting SHE shouldn't settle while guys that dare to do so are shallow pigs