The Perfect Affair, what do you think?

I've been reading this article and wondering what other people think about it? Although this isn't a fail-safe method, if you could have an affair with absolute 100% guarantee you would never get found out or upset your family. Would you?

I think they're both vile having an affair with their friends spouse and pretending to be just friends as a cover.

A secret affair where neither of you have met the others spouse and have no contact with their lives ever, is one thing. This is different, it is the worst form of betrayal and I hope they both get caught.

again, having just posted on a similar thread, it is just bizarre that people dont think their partners notice a change in the relationship. it isnt about 'getting away with it' ie no proof. I finally got my dh to admit he has spent the last five years fucking around, but i've spent that time driving myself insane and becoming extremely anxious and neglecting myself. not being able to prove something and not knowing something are not the same thing. just be honest, have an open marriage, free them from their vows as well. my dh's behaviour has ruined my health. its v sad.

There's one thing having one drunken mistake, then having an affair with the intention of leaving your spouse, then actively cheating with no intention of leaving your spouse (and then the cheek of doing it with someone your spouse knows and speaks to, that to me is the absolute lowest).

I couldn't be bothered - what's the actual point. All that deception and being duplicitous just for a shag twice a month when, as she admitted, she's got a perfectly good sex life with her husband. The whole thing sounded vacuous and rather boring and I really didn't like that she 'pretended' to be 'friends' with her lover's wife to keep people off the scent - ugh! What happened to the sisterhood?. Wouldn't work for me at all - I'm too honest.

I'd honestly be too lazy for an affair. Im so comfortable in my relationship and don't have to worry about being completely shaven everyday etc. To have an affair would stress me out and I'd feel so guilty too! Even if there was no way my partner would find out I'd feel so guilty, I'd feel like shit if he had an affair so I wouldn't do it back!

If you're unhappy enough to cheat, you're unhappy enough to leave. I think people who are unfaithful are repulsive, actually physically disgusting. To betray the level of trust, respect and intimacy that spouses have for one another is a sign of pure selfishness. And if those things don't exist anymore due to the actions of the other spouse, as I said, the options are leave or rebuild, not engage in some sordid, grubby lie.

The level of arrogant, deliberate, manipulative duplicity you mention- pretending to be friends with the betrayed spouse- borders on the sociopathic.