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Let's face it, many of us still need to shed the holiday pounds and are in between sizes. So what's your personal protocol on being between sizes? OkC daters always complain about members who don't look much like their photos in real life.

I'm about 10 pounds away from where my most recent photos are. I'm a 5'2 female and visually, losing 10 pounds is comparable to taller females 5'6 and up losing 20 pounds. I'm not a fan of documenting my various stages of chunk, so I don't see updating new photos as an option. The question is, should I proceed with meeting people or wait until I'm a bit smaller? I'm looking for new friends and not just dates.

Ten pounds? If a guy's going to make a fuss over ten pounds he's a fucking douchebag and you're better off leaving that shit be. Any dude worth talking to isn't going to care about something like ten pounds.

I pretty much expect that your pictures show you in better light, tucking your tummy, angled to look best, etc. No one cares about 10-20 pounds. Everyone expects that you look a little better in the pictures than in real life. What people complain about is when you show an average 120lb 5'2" body on the profile then show up to the date at 200lbs. Or have pictures of a 25 year old and a 50 year old shows up to the date. Everyone understands that there are small fluctuations and no reasonable person will care. Basically as long as it's not a gross misrepresentation you have nothing to worry about. As far as you've described, no one will notice or care.

10 pounds isn't anything to worry about. I went on a date with a girl who was 75lbs heavier than any photo she had in her profile AND she seemed to not be aware of this discrepancy. Don't spend anytime thinking about this. Leave your profile as is and keep moving forward.

I might add that since you're also looking for friends, weight shouldn't matter.

In terms of dating, when a girl shows up on a date not looking like she did in her photos, I naturally grant her leeway. But, if it's apparent that she's gained a lot of weight since the photo then it really undermines the trust I have in my date to begin with. What else is she covering up or lying about? Or is she just not perceptive enough to know she doesn't look like she did in her photos anymore?

Either way, there is a simple solution. Tell the guy before you meet up that you've put on a few holiday pounds. Make it a joke. Chances are the guy probably has, too. Then you have something in common and can joke about it, and it builds trust and rapport with him. He'll respect you more for being upfront. =)