While contemplating my next move with Jon B, I’m realizing that aside from him being cute and seemingly good on paper, we really don’t have that much in common or at least nothing else that I can tell because he doesn’t talk about much. Sure, we both enjoy eating and indulging in cocktails, but other than that I only know that he’s hustling to expand his business, takes a lot of naps and feels slighted that his daughter isn’t too interested in his Skyping calls. That’s it – just the surface and superficial stuff. So as I’m telling a friend about his latest radio silent act like, she silence me the most perfect suggestion: “You need…

The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no debt and only one child and was just as eager as myself to find someone special and settle down. That same man was also a self-centered, controlling, condescending asshole who believed he was the crème de la crème and couldn’t understand why or how any woman could reject him. But like the others he’d complained…

For the love of God, why are there so many men with roommates in Los Angeles???? I haven’t even begun to share the details about the guy I’m supposed to be dating “exclusively” because I don’t think it’s a good idea for me to have agreed to that, and so soon. So in my moment of doubt (and being a tad bit trifling), I went ahead and signed up on another dating site. You know, to poke around a little bit a see if I stumbled on someone who has it a little more together. And guess what happened today? I exchanged numbers with a guy who seemed interesting enough. …

EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night, he sends me a text asking if we are now dating exclusively. I don’t respond and in the morning will use the excuse that I’d fallen asleep. We’ve had two outings together and the first didn’t leave a very favorable impression. Hell, I haven’t even had a chance to share what went wrong with that…

Rule #1 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. Rule #2 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. If only there was a manual for how to successfully carry on with this type of thing. Too bad I never thought to read 10 Simple Rules to Maintaining a Successful Sex Buddy Relationship. Here’s my deal. In an effort to minimize my slut factor throughout the years, I have kept the company of two male “companions” whose sole purpose in my life was to dick me down. No drama, no dating, no regular telephone calls and no questioning of each other’s dealings or actions in anyway.…

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I’m addicted to him. I realize this addiction after my latest encounter with Papi just a while ago, and while we have been at the sexual affair for almost 20 years, the unthinkable seems to be happening. It just keeps getting better and this feeling is what frightens me the most. Incredibly sensual and the chemistry is always intense. The kind of interactions that most people will never experience in a life time. We continue to explore and no take each other’s bodies to another level. So tonight, it was my turn to be the dominant as I talked and nanny instructed him through each and every touch, kiss and…

“So um hypothetically speaking, let’s say you and I keep doing this right here you know and after about three months we’re in a really cool place. Does that mean you’ll eventually close out your dating account or do we have that conversation when you feel like you’re ready?” Blank stare. “I’m ready, you know what I’m saying because you are the type of woman who is on my level, is over the clubbing, you’re a good parent and think the same way as I do. So um are you ready to take this to the next level?” Fool, what level and why are you talking like you’re with the homies on…

“Finally, I have met my soul mate. He is a true lover of the Lord, engages me in deep and thought-provoking conversations and compliments me constantly. Never have I had a man tell me how beautiful I am several times a day, not even my ex-husband and I can’t recall the last time I have ever felt so wanted by a man. Sure, he’s got a few minor things to work out but I’m not worried about any of that.” Isn’t this lovely? This was a conversation I had a few weeks ago with a co-worker who’s in her 50’s y as she gushed about how much in love she…

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I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some time since the process of deleting of a dating profile has occurred for a good reason because normally the antics of men simply drive me to the point of sheer disgust and hopelessness and slowly, the dismantling begins. The amount of time I pop on the site to read messages slows down and my response…

How many of you can relate to that title? One simple word that basically means you are involved in one of those situations that really should NOT exist.You’re dealing with a man or woman, but there is no commitment, no relationship exists. He or she is more than a friend, but more significant than a friends with benefits. The two of you have a real connection, strong feelings and passion. Yet still, you’re undefined and technically unattached to each other. It’s funny how many people, especially men seem to think that a commitment is all about a title when it is so much more. So instead of moving on to something new there are…

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It’s always hard to let someone know there’s something major missing in the likeness department when they are really nice, because no one wants to get their feelings hurt for I’ve been trying to decide how to handle this situation with Showtime. There hasn’t been much shared about him here since our initial meet-up and the planning of our first date but we’ve actually seen each other several times since. There always seems to be some issue when it comes to dating, right? For me, it’s either been the player who wants to have his cake and eat it, me and three other women too, the life changer with no…

“Damn Carmen, it sounds like you are further ahead with things than he is, so I’m not saying get rid of him altogether but you may need to just pedal slower and allow him time to catch up. Then on the other hand, he’s acting like a man and telling you what you want to hear because if he’s realized you are that good of a woman, he’s not going to want to let go. That’s the reality of the game. I think you need to cut out the benefits so he doesn’t have his cake and eat it too because the way I see it is this – a…

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The type of man I’m looking for probably doesn’t exist. At least not yet, so it’s time for me to release myself from online dating again. I’m not sure why it has taken me so long as the women around me have been been canceling their accounts left and right. Me being o ye faithful had even tried to encourage one friend to hold out until the new year, now understands. Before you ask what happened I’ll say nothing in particular. There are so many undesirable characteristics being shown in the dating world, that both men AND women are guilty of presenting, I can definitely see why the online dating…