Tag - Love

While chatting the other day I was reminded that the common thread we share
in this Planet is "relationships". Our capability to refine, understand and
maintain a variety of relationships makes us superior to animals who also share
this human-like trait.

I think such a group (in fact, I think schools should also do this) should
teach about relationships. About what things make a good and successful
relationship; vs what things should be considered warning signs of a bad
relationship. I know this would be controversial, but I think it's
important to tell young people all of this stuff. Not all of them will
have had good examples of adult relationships to learn from. Once you've
been in a few relationships, you generally have a good idea of what works for
you. I think the following are important:

* Your partner makes you laugh
* Your partner can make you smile even when you're
really grumpy or upset (even if the smile is only for a few moments)
* You look forward to seeing your partner at the end
of the day
* You feel confident sharing bad news with your
partner
* You feel safe when (gently) criticising your
partner's behaviour (nobody is perfect, sometimes they will mess up)
* You feel safe when being criticised by your
partner
* Your partner stands up for you against negative
comments from their friends or family and asks the offending party to refrain
from such.
* Your partner never insults you, and never
criticises you in front anyone else, and neither you, them.
* Violence of any form is not part of the
relationship.
* You are never afraid *of* your partner.

All of these should be true most of the time. Most of these should be
true all of the time. Even in a bad week, you don't want more than 2 of
these to be false at any one time.

Wow...... That kind of sums it up right there with respect, love and trust
forming the foundation for the best relationship ever!