I think you really have to be open minded about what makes a good date.Remember, both parties are probably going to be nervous, won't be themselves and not as relaxed as they could be. I'm always into dinner and.... meaning selecting an activity both parties would enjoy doing that promotes discussion. A friend of mine went to a rodeo on his first date since he liked rodeos and his date was a cowboy. It all was cool.

The first date should be in an atmosphere where you can talk to each other (no loud clubs). Ask plenty of questions about the guy and don't monopolize the conversation. Mentally fall in love with the guy and be yourself. Try not to impress him with materialism or your education. I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date.

A date is a meeting of equals. Don't be intimidated because you think he is so charming, successful and handsome. Obviously, he sees some of those traits in you or he wouldn't be wasting his time on a date.

Be yourself and don't try to do anything you wouldn't usually do in order to impress him. Make sure you have good conversation and don't play stupid games like downplaying your attraction or interest in the other guy (I fucking hate games haha).

As far as the actual date, doing something outside of the typical dinner and a movie date is good, even if its dinner or drinks then a walk around the park. Oh and don't try to do too much on the first date - only kiss if the mood is right and leave it at that.

If he's in control of it (from my single dating days), then I just relaxed and enjoyed what happened. And praised everything at every step. After all, I am being treated, gratitude is required.

If I was in charge... WELL! I cannot help myself, it would be (and was) spectacular. I'm always over the top.

I plan everything like a military operation, even drop by to rehearse it with the staff a few days before, nothing left to chance. The table at the restaurant pre-selected, the servers, everything.

And if possible I've pre-paid, the meal Prix Fixe, so we avoid the awkwardness of a check being presented. And when we get up to leave, if he asks me: "Did we get the check? I reply: "It was all pre-paid."

You think THAT doesn't knock his socks off? It still impresses my partner, and I've played that on him too many times to recall.

?I would say (in response to that statement) that a date is seeing if there is an interest in the possibility of coming to a balance between the two people. People are never equal, but each person has the ability to build a relationship and make it thrive under the right circumstances (when they see there's a desire [passion] or benefit [social]).

What works for me is NOT to go to a movie. You can't talk and get to know each other there. Instead, mix it up and do other more active things. Here are a few that work:

* Have dinner someplace quiet, with a good ambiance - where you can look across the table to each other and talk.

* Go someplace where you can move - walk - run - do something active. See each other in action.

* My b.f. and I met at an airport, had dinner, then went climbing up a lot of steps - him behind me - so he could check out my ass and thighs (I had cargo shorts on). He remembers this, he says - because it gave him a total view of what he was going to get - - later).

* After your activity part of the date, you can sit down and cool off - and talk some more. You'll both be happy because you shared the exertion and activity. It puts endorphins into the mix. You'll have a glow going that will make him want you.

?I would say (in response to that statement) that a date is seeing if there is an interest in the possibility of coming to a balance between the two people. People are never equal, but each person has the ability to build a relationship and make it thrive under the right circumstances (when they see there's a desire [passion] or benefit [social]).

If he's in control of it (from my single dating days), then I just relaxed and enjoyed what happened. And praised everything at every step. After all, I am being treated, gratitude is required.

If I was in charge... WELL! I cannot help myself, it would be (and was) spectacular. I'm always over the top.

I plan everything like a military operation, even drop by to rehearse it with the staff a few days before, nothing left to chance. The table at the restaurant pre-selected, the servers, everything.

And if possible I've pre-paid, the meal Prix Fixe, so we avoid the awkwardness of a check being presented. And when we get up to leave, if he asks me: "Did we get the check? I reply: "It was all pre-paid."

You think THAT doesn't knock his socks off? It still impresses my partner, and I've played that on him too many times to recall.

If he's in control of it (from my single dating days), then I just relaxed and enjoyed what happened. And praised everything at every step. After all, I am being treated, gratitude is required.

If I was in charge... WELL! I cannot help myself, it would be (and was) spectacular. I'm always over the top.

I plan everything like a military operation, even drop by to rehearse it with the staff a few days before, nothing left to chance. The table at the restaurant pre-selected, the servers, everything.

And if possible I've pre-paid, the meal Prix Fixe, so we avoid the awkwardness of a check being presented. And when we get up to leave, if he asks me: "Did we get the check? I reply: "It was all pre-paid."

You think THAT doesn't knock his socks off? It still impresses my partner, and I've played that on him too many times to recall.

If you wanna blow a first date away, it's really rather easy.

Sorry, but for a first date that is way too far over the top.

Read my response to his post. At least his is still "down to earth" - literally speaking.

Art_Deco saidI plan everything like a military operation, even drop by to rehearse it with the staff a few days before, nothing left to chance. The table at the restaurant pre-selected, the servers, everything.

And if possible I've pre-paid, the meal Prix Fixe, so we avoid the awkwardness of a check being presented. And when we get up to leave, if he asks me: "Did we get the check? I reply: "It was all pre-paid."

You think THAT doesn't knock his socks off? It still impresses my partner, and I've played that on him too many times to recall.

If you wanna blow a first date away, it's really rather easy.

Wow. This is astounding to me. Sorry, but if a guy went all out and did this for me on just a first date, I'd feel smothered and uncomfortable - - as though he so desperately wanted to impress me. It's over the top - too much - I never see this kind of thing - anywhere I've been - US, Europe - anywhere. I wouldn't want any guy to try SO hard to make a hit with me.