Introduction

What happens when we have breathed our last
breath and finally die? Some think there is
nothing, a permanent unconsciousness, the end.
The opposite is true: the time after physical
death is an extraordinary time and represents the
opportunity of a lifetime for us, as souls, to
evolve and grow spiritually.

Much has been written about life after death
in the popular books on the near-death
experience. To summarize, at the time of death,
people leave their physical bodies behind, and
most, but not all, pass through a dark tunnel and
are met on "the other side" by the
bright light of a very special transcendent
spiritual being and family and friends who have
passed on before them.

Those souls that do not cross over are
stranded in our world without a body. For the
past twenty years, I have worked with clients to
clear their homes and offices of these discarnate
humans or entities, and to help those lonely
souls, at the same time. After passing over
thousands of discarnate entities, I have come to
an intimate understanding of the afterlife,
spirit world, that few other people have
experienced. The ultimate test of an individual
is not just how he or she responds to adversity
in life, but how we meet and master the challenge
of death. The time leading up to death is a
stressful one for the dying person and their
family as well. The situation is aggravated by
many doctors who, intent upon doing their jobs,
work to extend the lives of people without taking
into account the emotional cost in loss of
dignity for all concerned.

Crossing Over is written for everyone
who would not only like to die with dignity, but
would also like to know exactly what to expect
and do after they have died. We can never know
exactly what dying is like, but that is not a
reason to study and contemplate the end to our
own physical existence and not only do what we
can to live the best life, but prepare for the
possibility of a spiritual experience worth
training for.

Crossing Over has the following
purposes:

Help people be less afraid of death and live
life more fully on a day-by-day basis;

Make people aware that a space can hold more
than it appears;

Educate people about the presence of entities
and let them know there is a way to escape from
the grips of any entities that may be adversely
affecting them; and

Provide the vital information people need to
meet death positively and cross over successfully
and blissfully.

A letter I received from a client may give you
an idea of what I do and why I feel it is
important to share my knowledge through this home
page.

"It seemed common knowledge to me that
there are people who are sensitive to lots of
things in this world, both seen and unseen. When
a close friend suggested we ask Chuck to dowse
our newly bought property for water, I thought it
a good idea.

"Sitting casually at the dinner table,
Chuck quietly focused on the map of our land and
in time began drawing lines indicating water.
From there he asked if we'd like him to check for
ley lines and for the presence of any entities
mistakenly still there. I watched and I thought
about what he'd asked.

"It was from his question that I began
learning that evening about the concept of
entities attaching themselves to unsuspecting
folks, unsuspecting folks like me. I was
intrigued to hear that within this philosophy
one's health could be negatively affected by
these misplaced attachments. For four years I had
been dealing with one health challenge after
another. My situation had become frustrating and
at times I bordered on feeling hopeless. I rarely
admitted to anyone how depressed I was becoming
about my diminishing health. Having tried many
routes, including alternative medicines, it was
only natural that I asked Chuck if he thought he
might be able to help me through his learned
techniques.

"From this point on, everything shifted
for me that evening. I was able to tune in with
Chuck and a very special synergy took place for
me. Immediately I saw my 'blue crystalline
lights' around Chuck's head (I began to see these
while I was pregnant with my son some twenty
years ago. They have often appeared to me when
people shared their truths with me, and always
resonate happiness. I'm not aware of having any
control as to when I see them. It is more that
they make their presence known on their own terms
which is fine with me.) It tickled me that my
blue lights would come. It indicated trust to me.
Time seemed to take on a different dimension. As
he talked I found myself in a dream I had just
before my first husband's death. In it, I was
walking in the woods and coming upon the spring,
the headwater, the source of a deep water. As a
movie, it reeled footage as Chuck was focusing
his energy and doing his techniques.

"As we continued to quietly talk, I was
asked about objects that I had around me. I
remember telling about the uncomfortable sense I
had regarding our home. I felt that something was
'out.' Somehow, we got to the delight I had in
going to garage sales, and that I'd purchased
unusual things, such as 100 Pre-Columbian
artifacts. Chuck zeroed in on this like a laser.
From this information, he ascertained that there
were four entities who'd attached to me and were
affecting me negatively.

"In a matter of minutes, he had them pass
over, clearing me from their clutches. I
experienced an immediate lifting and sense of
being lightened. It was remarkable and
significant. Since that night, other than a very
brief period of feeling some discomfort, I have
felt great. My energy was renewed, my pain
disappeared and my depression lifted. I'm once
again my optimistic, energetic self! I feel
renewed to do all the things I've wanted to do
and engaged with a full and happy life."

What Happens When You Die?

When a person dies, their spirit or soul
leaves the physical body. For most people, dying
is a smooth process of changing from one plane of
existence to another. As the physical body stops
operating, your soul or the nonphysical essence
of who you are leaves the body. You can look back
and see your body and the room and any people
around your body. You can hear and see them, but
they can't see or hear you. Then, you pass
through a dark tunnel, like a cave with the
sounds of rushing wind. You emerge from the
tunnel into a space where you are met by friends
and family who passed on before you, as well as a
spiritual being of brilliant light and pure love.

There has been some inspiring research into
this process by a number of doctors who have
studied the accounts of people who have had near
death experiences. You can read about this in
Raymond Moody's book Life After Life (The
Investigation of a Phenomenon - Survival of
Bodily Death). Another excellent book
is Closer to the Light - Learning from the
Near Death Experiences of Children by
Melvin Morse, M.D.

Sometimes, for one reason or another, usually
ignorance of the process, a person gets
disoriented or cannot make this transition,
ending up lost between our world and the next. In
this case, they may become attached to a familiar
place such as the house they lived in or even the
place where they died. In the later case, it
seems that these souls often remain in the area
where they died if they had a quick or violent
death in an accident, battle, etc. Very often,
these entities will become attached to a water
line or spring, drawing energy or just a feeling
of attachment from it. Once attached, the entity
may become almost dormant, like in hibernation.
Or they may be somewhat active and have subtle,
yet perceptible effects on the people and space
around them, usually in a negative sense, from
our point of view.

Rather than seeking the Fountain of Youth, we
can best serve humanity by crossing over when our
time has come. Progress is served by each new
generation's striving to prove itself and to
create a better world.

In Western society, we all assume that death
is something to abhor and avoid, at all costs.
But, the lifetime of our soul is beyond measure.
We are born and die many times as part of the
evolution of our soul. Our body is the temporary
receptacle of our unit consciousness for our
brief time on Earth. Our consciousness is not a
function of our bodies, rather our bodies are a
function of our consciousness.

Life is something to be cherished, but death
is not to be feared or avoided. At the end of our
lives, we hold onto life when we should let go.
Death is a beautiful experience, leading to a
place of love and light. We should not be filled
with fear when our time has come. We should hope
for ars moriendi, a beautiful and conscious dying
experience.

I predict that within the next ten years, the
time for crossing over will be a blessed and
spiritual event for the whole family. Just as
athletes prepare for a competition, we will
prepare our minds and souls for death, dying
while meditating and consciously leaving our
bodies for the afterlife and the incredible
potential it holds for our souls.

Preparing for Death

Dying should not be a secret, a sickness or
something to be afraid of. It is the most
important time in our life and should be prepared
for, discussed and studied. Just as women's
attitude towards birthing has changed from
"put me under until it's over" to a
significant spiritual experience and time of
personal transformation, as a society, we are
headed towards a fundamental change in our
attitudes towards death.

As Americans, we seek to improve our material
productivity and measure success by our
explorations and experiences in the world.
Tibetans, on the other hand, have historically
emphasized spiritual productivity and
understanding the inner experience. Intuitively,
many of us have come to understand the vital
importance of understanding our inner self and
the source of our perceptions, feelings, and
emotions.

Preparing for death includes study and the
gathering of information (e.g., what to expect),
developing imagination and the ability to
assimilate the experience of the afterlife,
practicing right and ethical thoughts and
behaviors (e.g., love, generosity, tolerance),
living a life that has meaning, and most
importantly, meditation, developing the ability
to fully experience and take advantage of the
extraordinary moment of life without a physical
body.

The Invisible Population:
Human and Nonhuman Entities

What happens to those unprepared for crossing
over and who, for a variety of reasons, don't
pass through the tunnel and are stranded without
a physical body? They can see, but cannot be
seen. They can hear, but can't be heard. Simply
put, they become invisible coinhabitants of our
homes, offices and public spaces. True voyeurs,
their invisible presence affects all they come
into contact with.

Discarnate humans are not the only
inhabitants of this in-between world. There are
also non human entities (evil spirits) that are
not only frightening, but harmful to those they
are around.

I was once invited to the home of a newspaper
reporter. She and her husband travel the world,
visiting ancient places and collecting artifacts
from them that they bring back as souvenirs.
Artifacts from these places can be anchors for
entities. In this case, as soon as I entered the
house I immediately felt many entities all
around. Asked to perform my passing over and
clearing process verbally, out loud, I cleared
the home of over 50 human and nonhuman entities.
Afterward, it was remarked that this process was
the simplest ceremony or ritual they had ever
experienced.

Stranded discarnate human entities have a
detrimental effect on both the physical and
mental health of those they chose to "live
with." This becomes most evident when the
entities are removed. For example, after clearing
one man's house of 50 entities, I received a call
from him asking why he had so much energy and
couldn't sleep.

For a moment, imagine yourself, or people you
know who have died, marooned in this netherland.
What would you do? What would they do? Let's
suppose a diseased acquaintance nursed a grudge
against you. What if they decided to invisibly
harass you? Would it bother you? Would you
notice? Probably, not consciously. But, I have
had many clients who have "known" of
the human entity around them once I told them of
their presence.

There are many, too many, human entities that
do not belong here. They often "attach"
themselves to places or people. The result is
that energy is literally sucked from their
unknowing human victims, with physical, mental
and spiritual consequences for all concerned.
There are also non human entities sharing our
world. The demons mentioned in the book,
Embraced By The Light, are real. While
they are few, they are evil, dangerous and of
"the dark side." They, too, do not
belong here.

What the Living Can Learn
From the Dead

There is a lot we can learn about the death
experience and from the phenomena of entities.
For example, life support systems are a form of
cruel punishment. A woman I knew was hit by a car
and sustained major injuries to her head and
body. She went into a coma and never came out. I
visited her at the hospital to ascertain her
condition and bring her what love and energy I
could. I found her soul separated from her
battered body, in a dark place. She was curled
into the fetal position, afraid and alone. Her
poor soul was still linked by a thin thread of
life to her greatly damaged body, a body she
could not stay in because of the pain, not to
mention the constant flow of people and their
depressing conversations about her condition.

This was a very sad situation in many ways.
Hooked up to a life support system, her physical
death was on hold. I will never forget her bliss,
the smile of joy just as she entered the tunnel,
when the life support system was finally turned
off and she was allowed to die.

If you are ever in the position of having a
loved one on life support when they body is
extensively damaged or ill, remember that the
person you love may be held back and suffering.
Death is a liberation of the physical body. It
will happen to all of us. A week more of care to
extend life may actually be a week more of hell
to the person you love. That's why everyone
should have a living will. A living will is a
directive to physicians and is a legal directive
to not artifically prolong life in the case of a
terminal condition (i.e., an incurable condition
caused by injury, disease, or illness, which,
regardless of the application of life-sustaining
procedures, would, within reasonable medical
judgment, produce death, and where the
application of life-sustaining procedures would
serve only to postpone artifically the moment of
death).

The line between life and death is a thin one.
We would be doing a service to the dying if we
let loved ones in a coma die sooner, naturally,
rather than later.

Many people, when in need of help or guidance,
ask their departed spouse or family for help.
Speaking for those "on the other side,"
this is not right. In general, the departed are
in no position to help us. Rather, they need our
help in the form of directed loving energy to
their work and service. Send and direct love and
energy to your departed loved ones because our
love energy is multiplied a hundred times in
their world.

What We Need to Change About
Death Customs

As this section was being written, an
acquaintance happened to read it and she related
her experience of being in shock after sustaining
burns over 70 percent of her body. Caregivers
assumed her critical condition made her unaware
of her surroundings. On the contrary, she
explained, she had acute awareness of everything
going on around her. In her hospital room, her
family and doctors discussed the fact that she
might not live. She was not treated as though was
were conscious. In spite of great pain, she had
no question that she was going to make it. She
says now that she never understood the
preoccupation of others with life and death
issues. "Why did they not ask me?"
Intuitively, she said she was very aware of their
projected anxieties and she knew who was
"lying" when they said everything was
"okay." "In hospitals, often
caregivers have more panic than you," she
said. "Tell your fears directly to the
person who is ill. Do not hide it."

She was very depressed in the hospital. When
she finally left the hospital to go home against
medical advice, she cried with joy, even though
still in intense pain. "The hospital is not
an ill person's place," she said. "You
belong at home. Personal choices are important.
The food, the house preparation, the familiar
people are all part of where you belong. The
hospital's schedules and routines are often
counter to the healing process."

Clearly, we need a new level of awareness of
those nearing and approaching death. In the past,
most people died at home. Today, 80 percent of
Americans die in hospitals, alone, and out of
view. We sequester the dying in a clinical
sterile environment in the name of specialized
facilities and doctors. And people die alone and
hidden from the world and families.

Doctors, in their quest to solve "The
Riddle" of disease, at times convince
patients to undergo therapeutic measures to
extend life when the patient should be allowed a
gracious way to die with family and loved ones.
We need to be cognizant of the fact that many of
us have been brought up in awe of doctors and
wish to please them, and certainly don't want to
offend or anger them. Too much emphasis is put on
the art of saving life rather than on the art of
dying. Dying is not sectarian or religious; it is
a universal spiritual experience.

Some doctors exert their authority to control
how long and when you or your loved one will be
allowed to die. Oncologists, cancer doctors, are
among the worst offenders. This control is
actually a choice which belongs with the
individual and their family. I support doctors
for striving to solve The Riddle, make the
diagnosis and design and carry out a successful
cure. The Hippocrates Oath dictates their goal.
Their love of medicine is good, it is their job.
But at the time of death, you need to detach from
this guiding principle of "more life at any
cost." Do not lay yourself at the feet of
the doctor. Look to your own, or your loved one's
own best interests near the time of death. Do not
let your doctor convince you to undergo a new
test or therapy at the point when reason and
intuition says, "let go."

The doctor's job is to think, how can I save
this person from dying? They are criticized by
other doctors if they appear negligent about
saving a person's life. Doctors don't want to
"give up." Your job is to think, how do
I want to die? How can I make my death as easy
and as conscious and aware as possible?

On the positive side, doctors can be guides
and provide essential valuable information. The
best one is your family doctor who understands
you and the dying process. But, your own research
is important. Study your disease so that you can
understand when to live and when to let death
come.

How to Die

The Geo Group advocates death with dignity and
in the best way possible, at peace with yourself,
your family and God. A death where we die knowing
we have lived a life well.

At life's end, improve the quality of your
mind's ability to concentrate and sense the
subtle rather than desperately seeking procedures
to prevent death. After death, our
"senses" and consciousness are many
times more sensitive without the burden and
"filtering" of a physical body. The
practice of meditation and other techniques to
understand the inner self bring a sense of
familiarity that is invaluable when we are
without our bodies and all we have is our psyche
and soul.

The time immediately after death is incredibly
important. 99.99 percent of people cross over
without even being aware that there is a richness
of experience and potential for soul growth that
is beyond words. This is explained in detail in
The Tibetan Book of the Dead. The ultimate
purpose of the soul is self realization and
liberation, the merging of the our individual
consciousness with Supreme Consciousness. To
progress along this path starts with the
conscious decision to apply oneself to this end.

From my experiences with The Dead, what I have
learned to appreciate most of all is life itself.
Life is so precious. There are some things, for
our soul's evolution, that can only be done in
human physical form. Because life passes so
quickly and because it can end, by accident or
disease, at any time, there is no time to lose in
living life to its fullest. And, when the time
comes, to celebrate the crossing over of a loved
one.