eye contact

i finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!

biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!

biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!

biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!

I like what the poster is saying, but I think it's important to deconstruct what he reports. He waited until the other person said hello after SUSTAINED attention. The pair knew that there was sustained interest prior to either making a move. When I came out in 1979, sustained attention was in very short supply. I frequently made eye contact and was in bed within 30 minutes with a guy. I was 22 and that was then. And within an hour, both of us were on to our next interest. It was not conducive to developing ongoing relationships.

If one is interested in a quality connection, how does one make it? In this instance, they saw each other over several months. The answer to the question "Why didn't I do this ages ago? is simple. Because neither party was ready until one acted. I've been reading some heterosexual literature on flirting that may translate (written by women) to gay men. In my experience, gay men tend to show interest not at all or completely. Flirting is a way of taking small risks to see if someone is interested as well as a way of having fun with lots of people for whom you have no sexual or romantic interest.

I'm 54 and my market power is waining, but I am finding flirting to be fun. I just started trying and I am making mistakes, but I am also making eye contact, joking non-verbally, and making small connections. I 'm not sure what the next step is, but no one taught be any of this.