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OT Work Stress (sorrry long vent)

Ok I have to vent a little hear. I'm so stressed out at work things are crazy here. I have a really high stress job working for the state. To top that off we are WAY understaffed right now. I've seen us worse but I wasn't prego and hormonal at the time. Anyway I'm all ready struggling not to drown in an ocean of "to do" stuff. When today I get an e-mail from my supervisor (who I think has finally snapped) it is addressed to me and one other co-worker and says that talking to us is completely useless and we are like talking to "dag gone brickwalls". It was in huge bold letters. Well I was completely clueless. I couldn't think of anything he had talked to me about recently. I'm a worrier so I start wondering what I've forgot to do so I call the other girl she is as clueless as me. We do two similar yet very different jobs so we couldn't find a common link. After getting this pissy e-mail we call him to ask just what we have done. He tells both of us he isn't going to tell us what it is we will just have to figure it out on our own. WTF? I mean he is our supervisor that is what he flippin gets paid to do!!!!

So she come to my office and we are going through worst case stuff trying to figure out just what in the world has warranted this craziness I mean it must be something huge right cause that e-mail was uncalled for in itself. Finally he storms down to my office where we both are and starts going nuts that we don't listen, and we have to follow rules. Turns out he was mad because we had parked in the top parking lot instead of the lower lot where we are supposed to. Parking this whole freaking tantrum was over parking. I know I should have parked down there but climbing the stairs right now makes it hard to breathe. I'm always short of breath while prego and then I get nauseous. I tried to explain but he rolled his eyes and kept pitching fits. We ended up getting into a major argument because I told him I thought he was being over dramatic and making a huge deal out of somethings that truthfully facing our office's current problems is really a minor issues. Well I ended up crying for over an hour I was so angry (this is just the tip of the crazy iceberg, or maybe it's my last straw I'm not sure yet). My husband called me shortly after this and if furious cause I'm prego and he doesn't think I need this crap from my boss (who he doesn't like because my boss has made me cry several times before). Now my hubby swears he is going to have a talk with my boss which I told him he can't do because it will only make things worse. Needless to say it's been a VERY stressful day at work. I'm supposed to go on vacation this weekend but need my boss to approve Friday off so we can leave (all my family is going and I will have no one to watch the baby if he doesn't and we will have to leave early). He has put off giving me the final ok and now with him mad I'm afriad he won't let me. So prayers would be great because if he doens't let me off work I"m afraid my hubby really will have that conversation with him.

Oh man do I feel for you. It seems to me that the was your boss is treating you is wrong...like borderline breaking the law wrong. I don't know what to say other than I feel real bad and I hope you get your day off.

why not start looking for another job? im sorry your going through this he sounds like hes got bigger issues and is taking it out on the 2 of you! can you go to the top boss? or is he as high as you can get? to maybe be able to park where you do? im sorry though and i hope things can get better for you

When the boss has cooled down a bit(like tomorrow) try to talk to him about the parking situation...explain that you parked there for medical reasons(yes pregnancy is considered medical) and if he still gives you a hard time, at your next appt, explain the shortness of breath to the dr to see if he/she can give you a medical note for the boss/company so that you can have special permission to have closer parking. As for the email, he sounds like he's got a screw loose, and I would save a copy of that email if I were you. Does your job have a human resources worker or anything? I would report the incident to them(with a copy of the email) if you do, if not, I'd ask to speak with his superior, because that whole thing was not only unnecessary, but unprofessional, and a supervisor is not supposed to act in such a manner. There is a time, place and manner to discuss things, and his actions were uncalled for. I hope you can get the day off for Friday.

I have thought of looking for another job (actually I'm getting ready to go back to school for a completly diffrent profession). The only problem with that is in my field this is one of the top paying jobs. I make good money I just have a lot of stress. Normally I look over my boss's weird days but today I was just so mad. He did end up approving my day off. It wouldn't really do a lot of good to go to his boss. She thinks he hung the moon and can do no wrong and he would just retaliate and make my life miserable. I know I have seen it. Right now we get along for the most part so it really isn't worth it to complain when he will most likley be over it by tomorrow. I just plan to get a doctor's note. Thanks for letting me vent though today was rough

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