Signs of an Aloof Woman

By: Colby Phillips

The beginning of a relationship is about sending and picking up on signals. As relationship chemistry develops, partners learn to read each other's moods, thoughts and desires. If you have recently begun a relationship with a woman and are wondering whether you are compatible or whether she might be too detached to make the kind of emotional connection you are seeking, there should be plenty of signs for you to read along the way.

Mismanaged Priorities

A woman who is emotionally committed to a new relationship makes it a priority to balance the need to get to know her partner with her other commitments and obligations. Conversely, a woman who constantly puts a relationship behind other priorities is showing signs of being aloof. The signal she is sending shows her inability and unwillingness to make an emotional connection that requires sacrifice and commitment.

Emotional Detachment and Coldness

Aloofness is characterized by detachment and coldness, and its antithesis is warmth, kindness and sensitivity. A woman who is aloof lacks deep emotional intuition, seems uncomfortable with physical intimacy, appears awkward and inhospitable toward others and shows little interest in expressions of romantic love.

Disconnection and Abstract Thinking

Abstract, hyperlogical thinking and a tendency to observe rather than participate are traits often found among scientists, programmers and engineers. Some people mistake these traits as being aloof. However, being in a relationship with a woman of this personality type may sometimes take on the flavor of research, focusing on ideas rather than spontaneous experiences. While some people love to focus on ideas, others don't; so it is important to know yourself and know what you want in a relationship.

Stuck in the Past

Burdensome ties to past obligations and relationships, an outmoded sense of self or an unwillingness to accept current reality are signs of an aloof personality. Such types are often unable to risk real emotional connection because of past emotional injuries or a misguided sense of obligation to relationships that never really ended. A woman with this personality type may seem constantly distracted, fixated on telling stories about the past or emotionally guarded.