Do Women Respond Well To Pressure?

six years of nothing?

Janine and her guy were together six years, huh? As the great bard once wrote, something's rotten in the state of Denmark. At the end of one year, the woman knows whether or not the guy's a keeper. And if he's not willing to commit, then something's wrong. A woman hanging around a guy for six years with nothing happening is a big red flag . There's a problem with either Janine or her ex.

And, by the way, it's never good to make a "big deal out of things." As my cousin "Fast Eddie" Love advises, "Relax, man. When it comes to women, there is no such thing as a big deal." Like I said, you did fine — until things broke your way. Then it was straight downhill for you, Clarence.

you moved way too fast

Asking Janine out immediately after she broke up with her guy was a huge mistake. You should have let her come down from the aftershocks first. You went in way too quickly, pal.

Instead, you should have continued just playing with her at work and waited for her to ask you out. The fact that she was hesitant confirms it.

Your biggest shortcoming in the entire enterprise, Clarence, is that you never gained a beachhead. Unlike the Americans on D-day, you got knocked back into the water and never achieved a solid foothold with this babe, and you must have that in order to achieve anything.

now you're chasing her

Now you're left trying to plug a hole in a ship that's leaking. Your best course of action at this point is to continue having a good time with Janine at work, but don't bring up the ex-boyfriend and don't bring up dating. And be sure to always make her chase you , and initiate the conversation and physical contact. With time, you might get lucky and she'll get rid of the other bum forever.

Wanting a commitment before the time is right can only lead to a mess. Like most guys, you used pressure. And romantic love doesn't respond properly to pressure.

So yes, she's thinking about her ex, and she's also thinking about you — she's leading two turkeys around by the nose. And don't delude yourself, Clarence; the reason Janine's having a hard time letting go of the past is because she still has high Interest Level in this ex of hers.

want her back? withdraw

If you want to raise her Interest Level back to where it was, withdraw, just like the Russians did during World War II. They pulled back, pulled back, pulled back, and the good old German army got caught in the snow.

Let Janine keep coming after you until her supply lines are stretched to the limit. Then she'll be finished. That's General Love's strategy here.

So let Janine go to the ex for comfort all she wants. We're not here to "comfort" the woman. We're not here to make her a better person or get her into heaven. We're trying to get her to fall in love with us and stay with us — that's the only reason we're here. We couldn't give a damn what the other guy does.

The way you're going to apply pressure is by withdrawing.

Remember guys; once they start talking about old boyfriends, it's time to disappear.