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Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

I am a bisexual woman. I was just asking because I saw the question on yahoo, and it have been on my mind since. And would make more sense if bisexual men, and gay guys are more likely to date each other.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Hi Medusa! Welcome!

I would say none! LOL, kidding, but actually, it depends, if it was just for fooling around, I would say both would have no problem getting the bi guy, but for a serious commitment I don't know, I do know a lot of women that would never get into a relation with a bi guy because they would never stop wondering about if they would be enough for him... As for the men... It depends, most of the gay guys that I know wouldn't, since they think exactly what rolyo85 said above "closeted gay guy", and I serious doubt any of those guys would put the neck on the line because most of us already had the experiment where the guy in the end picked the girl, just like in the movies. I don't know if I would pick a bi guy, honestly, I guess I would always fear being left for the girl, but it always depend of the situation...

So, I would say women, because in the end I believe they are more brave (and sometimes insane) in love than men.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by weinerslav

Hi Medusa! Welcome!

I would say none! LOL, kidding, but actually, it depends, if it was just for fooling around, I would say both would have no problem getting the bi guy, but for a serious commitment I don't know, I do know a lot of women that would never get into a relation with a bi guy because they would never stop wondering about if they would be enough for him... As for the men... It depends, most of the gay guys that I know wouldn't, since they think exactly what rolyo85 said above "closeted gay guy", and I serious doubt any of those guys would put the neck on the line because most of us already had the experiment where the guy in the end picked the girl, just like in the movies. I don't know if I would pick a bi guy, honestly, I guess I would always fear being left for the girl, but it always depend of the situation...

So, I would say women, because in the end I believe they are more brave (and sometimes insane) in love than men.

Actually I think women are too afraid of bisexual men.Even some bisexual women are afraid of bisexual men.lol. So,me personally I think Gay men are more bold,plus I heard it was a turn on for gay men.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Personally a Kinsey 4/5, I say to me, the orientation of the guy doesn't matter. As long as he loves me, that is all that matters. However, I've thought about it and sometimes I think if he leaves me for a woman I would be devastated. Then again, it just means that he doesn't love me anymore. So yeah, I don't mind Bisexual guys.

"... You think the only people who are people
Are the people who look and think like you ..." - Colours of the Wind by Vanessa Williams

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Actually I think women are too afraid of bisexual men.Even some bisexual women are afraid of bisexual men.lol. So,me personally I think Gay men are more bold,plus I heard it was a turn on for gay men.

LOL, maybe you're right, it may be a turn on, but I think that it is just for the fun part.

Yes, women are more afraid of bisexual men, I have a friend that once told me she would be devastated if her boyfriend left her for a man because she would assume that it would be because of her! She is incredibly feminine and beautiful so it really seems silly to listen someone saying that when she is such a perfect woman, but I made the question to other friends and they all thought the same. Even so, most women when love don't let go easily, at least that's the impression I have.

I figured out I was gay because my best friend, when I was 18, started having feelings for me, and I realized that something was happening there and that I also had really strong feelings for him, well a few months later e left me for a girl, he was such a sweet guy and tried to keep being friends but, naturally, that was just impossible for me... So you see the problem, I feel it was the first and last bi guy for me, even if I could consider someone else if it is someone worthy of my trust but, even so! There are stories like this one everywhere, if you want a serious commitment the perspective that it may happen is really scary! But well if it is just for fun, bring them on! LOL

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by umjreon88

sometimes I think if he leaves me for a woman I would be devastated. Then again, it just means that he doesn't love me anymore.

That made perfect sense, I never thought about it that way but it is exactly like that, maybe it really doesn't matter if you have to face competition from both sexes, in the end, if he loves you, he loves you!

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by weinerslav

LOL, maybe you're right, it may be a turn on, but I think that it is just for the fun part.

Yes, women are more afraid of bisexual men, I have a friend that once told me she would be devastated if her boyfriend left her for a man because she would assume that it would be because of her! She is incredibly feminine and beautiful so it really seems silly to listen someone saying that when she is such a perfect woman, but I made the question to other friends and they all thought the same. Even so, most women when love don't let go easily, at least that's the impression I have.

I figured out I was gay because my best friend, when I was 18, started having feelings for me, and I realized that something was happening there and that I also had really strong feelings for him, well a few months later e left me for a girl, he was such a sweet guy and tried to keep being friends but, naturally, that was just impossible for me... So you see the problem, I feel it was the first and last bi guy for me, even if I could consider someone else if it is someone worthy of my trust but, even so! There are stories like this one everywhere, if you want a serious commitment the perspective that it may happen is really scary! But well if it is just for fun, bring them on! LOL

Did y'all declare yourselves in a relationship? or were you just fuck buddies? And yes us women does feel like it's our fault that a man cheats on us.It's even more crumbling, and horrific if we find out he has been screwing a man.I bet that feeling is awful.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Medusa

Did y'all declare yourselves in a relationship? or were you just fuck buddies? And yes us women does feel like it's our fault that a man cheats on us.It's even more crumbling, and horrific if we find out he has been screwing a man.I bet that feeling is awful.

I don't remember calling it a relation, but it was really more than just sex, we where close friends, and getting closer physically made everything more profound, I thing we where trying to figure what was the meaning of all that, I could deal with it, he couldn't, that's life. In this situation I think it was never about stop loving, it was more about being splitted and not wanting to face the real world as a gay man, that's why I never had thought before about what umjreon88 said, if it is someone that knows himself well, maybe it doesn't matter at all, if he loves you, he will stay...

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

I think probably gay men because bisexuals make themselves available but as someone who has had bad experiences with them I wouldn't do it again.

They are fine with the sex but the commitment or being with a gay guy troubles them. They seem to have far more "guilt" and selfloathing then "out" gay men. When the going gets tough or you want to move the relationship on then they often shrivel back into the closet or take the easy option and get with a straight woman which society expects.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Personally I think women. The bi guy that had a fling with 2 years ago now ended up dating one of my close female friend. I told her about our "encounter" and she doesn't seem too bothered by it. She just says as long as he loves her than they are ok. Hmmm.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Scealle

Personally I think women. The bi guy that had a fling with 2 years ago now ended up dating one of my close female friend. I told her about our "encounter" and she doesn't seem too bothered by it. She just says as long as he loves her than they are ok. Hmmm.

Was she desperate to have a man? Did she have low self esteem? I find out that one of the many reasons why a woman would a date bisexual man is because she does not think highly of herself, or have very low self esteem.They feel like as long as any man loves me,it's better than no man at all. Is your friend fat?

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Hellax24

Double Post.

I love scratching that itch that those women can't do and knowing a BI Guy needs that fix is very hot.

CXXX

Well damn no wonder why there's so many bi men in relationships with gay men.Y'all some freaks.lol. But yeah you are right.As a woman there are certain things I will not do, or cannot do in the bedroom.Well at least until I meet the right man,that I am comfortable with.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

I don't really care, since i'm not so judgmental about the fluidity of someone's sexuality - I find that gay men want to "change" a curious guy or straight guy, but when he's honest about liking both, he's treated like he's only good for a good time. In short, people suck.

In this instance, you're right - women are more likely to seriously date a bi man. Judging by the responses, they're the only ones willing to give the person a shot, not just the sexual preference.

"Thereís death on the horizon,and Iíll run to behold your sacrifice..."

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT)

Answering this question on behalf of black people, I can say without any uncertainty...Gay Men.

Hey,are we the only two black people here? I did think it's weird that reading responses, until you reminded me that majority of this forum may be white.And you are absolutely correct.Black women will not date a bisexual man.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by TheFallenAsexual

What I find hilarious in this situation is that every gay man with a broken heart will come forward with their stories about how an old love left them for a woman. I guess if he left them for another man, all that heartache would suddenly turn into rainbows and kittens.

LOL, good point, but I think most of the guys/girls that faced that situation feel they where played, that's why most of the time they demonize bi guys, the cause may be mostly the "closeted gay guy" syndrome, because bisexuality is not very well understand by many people.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

But out of the ones who are, gay black men and white straight women are the most open-minded.

And black women can't stand the thought of dating a bisexual man.

And many straight women will date a bisexual man if they are fat and desperate.

And many gay men will only use bisexual men for sex only because they get off on him not being fully gay but don't think he'll commit to men.

GIIIRRRRRLLL. YOU ARE SILLY.Just reading your two posts had me laughing.But on a serious note.I do not understand why gay men get upset when, they have sex with a bisexual guy, or a man that's "straight", and that said guy does not want them, in any relationship at all. They go after straight men (well some of them) give the straight guy what he wants,try to convince the straight guy to be with him or change his sexual attraction to women,but then get pissed off when he doesn't.What type of sense does that make? Can any of you lovely gay men answer this for?

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Medusa

Was she desperate to have a man? Did she have low self esteem? I find out that one of the many reasons why a woman would a date bisexual man is because she does not think highly of herself, or have very low self esteem.They feel like as long as any man loves me,it's better than no man at all. Is your friend fat?

Well yeah she is kinda desperate to a certain extent. Yeah I'd say her self confidence and esteem seems a bit low. You get the next part quite right. I don't think she's fat ( I have take pics with her in the show yourself thread you can look it up to see that) but she always complain to us that she's fat and not pretty. In fact i think she's one of the pretty girls in her class. It's also odd that she mention there are a few guys (str8) that are interested in her previously. Yet somehow she ended up with the guy that I used to had a fling with. Small world ain't it.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by weinerslav

LOL, good point, but I think most of the guys/girls that faced that situation feel they where played, that's why most of the time they demonize bi guys, the cause may be mostly the "closeted gay guy" syndrome, because bisexuality is not very well understand by many people.

Also keep in mind that,some of these people know from the get go what they are dealing with.So why would they do they think they can change them with sex?People cannot fault all bisexual guys, when some gay guys are just as much at fault here.Why force someone to be with you?

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Scealle

Well yeah she is kinda desperate to a certain extent. Yeah I'd say her self confidence and esteem seems a bit low. You get the next part quite right. I don't think she's fat ( I have take pics with her in the show yourself thread you can look it up to see that) but she always complain to us that she's fat and not pretty. In fact i think she's one of the pretty girls in her class. It's also odd that she mention there are a few guys (str8) that are interested in her previously. Yet somehow she ended up with the guy that I used to had a fling with. Small world ain't it.

Awww poor baby.I knew she had type of self love issues, when you mention her.And also tell her how you feel.Tell her it's not right,that she's banging your ex boyfriend or fuck buddy or whoever he was to you.And tell her she's beautiful, and that you LOVE her.Maybe then that will make her feel better.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Medusa

Awww poor baby.I knew she had type of self love issues, when you mention her.And also tell her how you feel.Tell her it's not right,that she's banging your ex boyfriend or fuck buddy or whoever he was to you.And tell her she's beautiful, and that you LOVE her.Maybe then that will make her feel better.

Yeah. Oddly enough most of my female friends had self love issues even though most of them are pretty. We Have already clarify the situation with her about it, she's ok with it now. Funny how the first time her bi bf mentioned me to her, he told her I was a freak and the one who initiated the whole "encounter" when in fact he was the one who started non stop groping me for a few weeks. And when I actually start having feelings for him, he chickened out.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Huntneo(PT)

I get the sense some people are trying to clown in a round about way. Human beings can be really complex in the way they view others...and sexual orientation further complicates matters. Don't shoot the messenger, I'm just telling you guys what I've seen/witnessed, heard, and read. Sorry if it seems as if I'm pigeonholing a group, but the truth is the truth.

Thank You.It does seem like people are trying to clown,but you are speaking nothing but the truth, my fine sir.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Having experienced this first hand, I would say sexually, bisexual men would prefer a guy. In a relationship, I would say a woman. I say that on the basis that my first love was a bi guy who went off with a woman and married her and had kids. I dunno if he went back in the closet with his sexuality but it's sort of the reason why I have basically shunned bi men.

Each person is different so you have to take it on a case-by-case basis.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

Originally Posted by Medusa

I am a bisexual woman. I was just asking because I saw the question on yahoo, and it have been on my mind since. And would make more sense if bisexual men, and gay guys are more likely to date each other.

I am a bisexual man - there are so many issues with bisexuality. I love both sexes - not that complicated - even more, I love the person...

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

I'd date a bi guy if he were into me and I into him. I think men do have that tendency to date bi guys more. A lot of the women I know have a problem with bi guys whether they think it makes them less masculine or whatever. And plenty of women I know get jealous pretty easily. but I can only speak of the people I know.

Originally Posted by Saybrooke

I was at the gym once, and this woman was on the elliptical next to me, making motorcycle noises.

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

I've only met like one guy I thought was TRULY bi, the others were either closeted gay guys, or they just enjoyed sex with men. To be honest, I would date one, as long as their hot, and they treat me nice. What's the problem?

Re: Gay Men Vs. Women:Whose most likely to date a Bisexual Man?

^Being left for a woman is worse than being left for a man, apparently. And the reverse is true for women, I guess?

Of course, no one notices the part that matters more is that they were left... it has to be quantified by something.

True on both accounts. And to be honest (and God forbid I would ever be in this situation)I would much whether have a boyfriend leave me for another woman.Him leaving me for another man would honestly make me feel worthless, and like used up sex toy.Also bamboozled that I was stupid enough to be with someone that was nothing but an imaginary person.

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And yeah. A lot of Black girls wont date a bi guy. Homosexuality is so weird in the Black community. Its not that big of an issue in my family, maybe because my parents arent Christian.

Id like to say that I would try and date a bi guy. Never really thought about it.

Hey girl HEY! And if that's you in your avatars let me just say, you are very pretty. Anyways you are correct that homosexuality is very weird in the black community,especially regrading to black males.And you know whats so damn ironic? The black community will be more likely to accept, and show love to gay men, then they will a bisexual man.Or maybe that's just the circles in run in