(Closed) Introduction, might be in a LDR soon

Just posting to introduce myself as I may need some support in the near future. My SO and I have been together for just over a year and a half now, are both in our early 30s and have our immediate future fairly planned out. I’ve been promised a ring before the end of the year, we’re going to move in together at the end of October when his current house share ends, marriage at the end of 2013 or beginning of 2014, and due to our ages TTC shortly after marriage to start our family.

Well best laid plans and all that, fairly out of the blue I’ve been approached with an opportunity to apply for an amazing job. I’m in a good, well paid job now, but this new job would be the start of a career I’ve dreamt of since I was a little girl. Only problem is it’s a good couple of hours away from SO, and due to where it is it will be impossible for us to live somewhere inbetween and both commute (due to the time it would take to travel during rush hour and also the expense). My SO is completely behind me going for the job and very supportive, he’s always said I should find my dream job and then he’ll find a new job to follow me (he works in IT so much easier for him to relocate to a specific place than me with my specialised career goals). I know I should feel really excited about this job opportunity, but I just feel sad that it would mean moving away from SO and trashing all our immediate dreams of moving in together and being able to put away money towards buying a house.

So there we go, no questions really yet, just wanted to say hello and write down what I was feeling. It may all come to nothing anyway and I know part of it is just me being a bit scared of change. I know we’ll make the best of whatever happens.

Welcome! I think it speaks volumes about your relationship that your SO is so supportive of you and your career! Sounds like the relationship is strong and solid enough to survive a short term hold on immediate plans! Good luck!

LDR are hard that is for sure.. I started off being in one and then was successful in relocating to where he was, however after a year of being blisfully happy together Fiance was laid off and has had to move across the country for a job 🙁 so we are now once again in a LDR and it feels even harder this time around after living together!..

But it is great that your SO is behind your decision to go after your career and at least being only that far apart you will still be able to see each other more often than having to fly anywhere…Skype/phone and email ALL become your very best friends but I have always said that we have learned way more about each other by being in a LDR than if we had been in the same place.