Sexual assault in modern society.

(Inspired by documentary: “Liberated: a new sexual revolution”)

How is it possible that an unconscious woman is being raped in a gang bang on a public beach in plain daylight, and NOBODY seems to think there is something wrong with this?!?!

We live in a rape culture, where sexual assault is normalized, because of the way boys are taught to be men and girls are taught to be women. Who is to blame? Is it society that raised these people? Is it pop culture that sets an awful example? Is it the sexual aggressive men? Is it the attention seeking women?

There is so much confusion on how to express our sexuality in our secularized society. People still seem to be breaking free from an oppressive religious standard, not realizing that the rebel seeking freedom is still a prisoner. What we call our “sexual revolution” is so fucking limited and we desperately need a NEW SEXUAL NARRATIVE.

The documentary shows that men too are trapped in what is expected of them and in actually believing that assaulting and abusing women’s bodies for their pleasure is normal and EXPECTED. The men are under a lot of pressure from their “friends” to fuck as many women as they can.

And the women themselves are also taught to think this is normal. It’s just the way it is! Men grabbing them and ripping their clothes off and drugging them to use their bodies for sex is “normal”?!

They have been taught to not care, not feel anything, to be casual and not have any emotional attachment to the person they are physically so close to.

But let’s not be fooled: the girls go along with it and actually seem to “enjoy” it, because their value is depending on how much men ‘want’ them. So therefore, in this culture, for a woman, having a man grab and assault her, actually makes her feel more valuable and wanted as a woman. Therefore the assault might actually turn her on! How SICK is this?!

As women are being asked if they feel SAFE here, they respond laughing: “NOOOO of course not!!!”

or:

“A man just grabbed me and started sucking my breast and .. you know.. there was nothing I could do about it…so I just let him have his way”. Her friend confirming with a big smile: “no there was really nothing she could do about it .. so …hahaha”

How is this supposed to be FUNNY?!

And so, in this documentary, women get up on the stage VOLUNTARILY half-naked, shaking their ass and stripping their bodies, desperately seeking the attention and recognition they crave.

They are being peer-pressured into taking off more clothes, showing their titties. If she does, the men are calling her a slut! If she doesn’t she is a bitch.

By now this might sound to you like a total cliche and the SPRING BREAKS this documentary is about, is an extreme example of what is happening, but this kind of behavior is happening everywhere all the time!

No wonder so many people (men and women) are somehow moved by the #metoo movement. It’s not a sentimental exaggeration, it’s a serious problem in our society.

A problem that doesn’t really have one group of people to blame. A problem that goes way beyond calling men the aggressive predators and women the poor victims. A problem that isn’t only caused by pop culture, but for sure is influenced by it. But WHY did pop culture become like this?

We are part of a sexual revolution that has started many many years ago and is only evolving into more and more pseudo-freedom. When you are peer-pressured into doing things you don’t really want, how can you call this freedom or a revolution? It is a cultural PRISON!!! Why the fuck has it become NORMAL to numb themselves with alcohol and have random sex with strangers they pick up at a bar? Why has it become normal people have become incapable of emotional connection? Why is my 12 year old friend explaining to me that it is normal and okay to use somebody for sex without any emotions or feelings if you both feel like just satisfying a physical sexual need? Should this concern us?

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I am so looking forward for the Summerfestival of Love that is happening in two weeks, to study these complex dynamics in depth with Marc Mordechai Gafni, so we can participate in creating a NEW SEXUAL NARRATIVE that is so desperately needed in this world!

There are only a few places left, but you can also check out my daily livestreams in my Sexy Soul Tribe facebook group, where I will be sharing my new insights with you (PM me for more info).

Let’s start a TRUE sexual revolution, in which we are free to fully enjoy our sexual power beyond shame in any way, shape or form that we truly desire (including orgies, bisexuality, polyamory, monogamy, celibacy or whatever!). Let us enjoy our sexual power beyond shame, because shame is probably the main reason we rebel and act out in the first place!

But let it be a revolution that actually honors the immense power our sexuality holds: a power to DESTROY or to CREATE. A power not to be taken lightly. A power to be initiated into, so we can consciously use it, instead of abusing our own power and therefore ourselves.

Let us use our sexual power consciously and with full integrity, respect and honesty to the other human being we are sharing that intimate connection with in that very moment.

Let’s create a sexual standard that celebrates all the true YESes and honors every NO in any given moment. A standard that encourages a sexuality that holds the knowledge of the sacred union of masculinity and femininity and honors the fact that we need both energies for ourselves, our relationships and our society to thrive.