Who would have ever thought that completing marathons and triathlons would be easier than having a baby....

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Doggy Style, In the Shower,Missionary Position?

I have learned that when having twins inevitably the question of how this miraculous event came to be is one of the first questions that people have. Here's the scene: I say, "I'm having twins." The other person says, "Do twins run in your family?" I say, "Not really." They say, "Are they ivf twins?" I say, "Yes, they are. (Here's the part I would like to add but don't) "By the way how were your children conceived? I've always wondered if you guys did it doggy style, in the shower, or perhaps the famous missionary position? Since we are talking about the intricate details of how our children were conceived and since you just asked me a personal question, I didn't think you would mind sharing about your conception story."

People are just so clueless, but I think if I followed up with the above statement it would put it into perspective of how they just asked a very personal question. Here is my actual response to do twins run in your family. "Not really, these are medically assisted twins." Usually there are no follow up questions after that. I am not ashamed or embarrassed that we did ivf, but it would be nice if people could just say congratulations and not worry about how the twins got there. If it was a singleton, there would be no questions asked.

I have been so blessed this pregnancy so far. I am now 15 weeks and in a little over a week we will find out the sex of the twinkies. I can't wait!

I am planning to just say "That's private and we don't want to share." Our important family members know the real truth at this point, and anyone else who asks is just being nosy and invasive. Sorry you have to deal with that! Can't wait to hear about your gender scan!

About Me

I am 32 years old and have been trying to have a baby for almost two years. My husband (35) and I have been married for ten years. Neither one of us have any real issues that point to why having a baby isn't working. I call this a marathon because that's what it feels like and I am am a runner. The analogy of a marathon seems appropriate because a marathon takes lots of steady patience and pacing, and that's what this feels like. I have to look for the positive in all of this and remind myself of how running guy and I's relationship has grown, how I have met some awesome friends,and the fact that we had a great vacation in Vegas. All of those things were because of this infertility marathon we are running. I also find great peace in knowing that God is in control, and He has a plan for my life. We are getting ready to start on IVF #4 at CCRM in Colorado. In running terms CCRM would be considered to be the Boston Marathon (the best of the best). It is scary and exciting because we are now at the best place in the country, so if it doesn't work this time what do we do?