10 Starter Sex Toys You'll Want To Use With Your Partner

Even if you and your partner talk about every single thing and are as close as two humans can be, it can *still* be weird to bring up the sex toy conversation. Mostly because it feels like confronting a part of your sexuality that's normally very private. But don't worry, because in all likelihood, your partner wants to have this conversation, too, and no one ever got dumped for asking about sex toys.

To make things a bit easier, here are some simple, not weird-to-bring-up sex toys you can use with a partner.

1. An Adjustable Vibe With An App

This little guy from We-Vibe works great for incorporating into sex IRL, but because it can be controlled by an app, it's also great for couples who live far apart. And! Because everyone's bod is different, the ability to adjust the vibe's C-shaped arms is *crucial*. Some other fun features: This vibe is waterproof, and like most modern toys, is rechargeable with a USB—meaning no batteries are required.

2. A Very Fancy Cock Ring

If you were to compare sex toys to cars, Lelo would be like the BMW of vibrators. Or some other fancy car. You get it. This ring from Lelo is silky smooth, sleek, and hardly looks like a toy, if you're feeling hesitant to bring something super phallic into the bedroom right off the bat.

3. Some Silky Tie Restraints

So maybe you watched one of the Fifty Shades movies, or maybe you're ready to upgrade the DIY ties you've already been using at home. These ribbons—which come in red and black—are silky and soft, and are a ~fancy~ yet ~affordable~ option if restraint is something you're into, or are thinking about being into.

4. A Leather Dildo Harness

To use a strap-on, you need... something to attach the strap-on to. Enter this leather harness. There's a lot going on here, so let's break it down: It's a g-string, so it basically doubles as lingerie; there are adjustable buckles on the hips, so you can get a good fit; and Pleasure Chest says the low dildo placement on this particular harness means extra pressure on the wearer's clit. A win-win-win.

5. A Simple, Palm-Sized Clit Vibrator

Just like the pilot says in the event of a plane crash: You've got to take care of yourself before taking care of others. That means when you're first bringing sex toys into the mix, you need a reliable vibrator your partner will be comfortable holding and using with you. Look no further than this silky smooth number from Je Joue. It's got different speeds and rhythms you can try out together, plus an ergonomically pleasing design. Totally beginner-friendly.

6. A Vibrating Cock Ring

Vibrating cock rings are great because they're basically a hands-free vibrator for you during sex, plus it gives him a little jolt too. The Je Joue Mio isn't your average cock ring. It's super easy to use, it looks a lot more chill than other cock rings, and you can choose your speed and strength levels, which is basically the perfect recipe for customized partner sex.

7. A Feather Tickler

There's nothing more low-key beginner sexy than a feather tickler. It's basically like an adult version of those spider head massagers at the mall. The sensations are really subtle but also really powerful. Plus, it's just pretty.

9. A Partner-Controlled Vibrator

This penetrative vibrator makes it really easy for your partner, who may or may not have experience using one before. They just squeeze the toy, and the vibrator copies the pressure and pattern of your squeezing, repeating it as long as you like. Squeeze again and it gets harder. Even super-inexperienced people can't go wrong.

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