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I watch porn, and feel bad cuz I would be pissed if I found out husband watches it

Melaniebabynumber4 wrote:

Being pregnant a lot of the times I don't want to have sex until I watch some porn and then I turn into a sexual being and want to try all kinds of poses with hubby and surprise him with things like happy ending massage and such which he absolutely loves. I do feel bad tho because I know he would never approve, just like I wouldn't approve him watching porn.

If it's something that you know he wouldn't approve of and you wouldn't approve of if roles were reversed, then you shouldn't be doing it in my opinion. Sit him down and discuss it with him, he may surprise you and not mind. You could always suggest you watch it together before sex instead of it being something you do on your own and then feel bad about.

My husband and I recently started watching porn together (he's on antidepressants now and needs something extra in order to ejaculate) but we only do it in his days off of work. I would talk to your SO instead of stressing about it. If it's not something you've discussed before then neither of you know each other's boundaries. Maybe you'll enjoy watching it together.

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kmhowell15

You shouldn't be watching if it is something you would be mad at him about and you know he would be mad if he found out. Maybe talk to him and see if he would like to watch with you.

Try reading an erotic novel if you think your husband would be comfortable with that?

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jumpjunkie

Why do people get so uptight about porn? Unless it's out of control or a preference over your partner, I don't see an issue. But, if you're doing something you'd be mad at him for doing, you need to stop.

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julybabyohio

Could it be trust issues? maybe you trust yourself that you won't have wandering eyes/thoughts, but that it might make your husband have them?

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aprillundrigan

I agree m4dinne try to talk to him ask him how he feels about watching with you! I also feel hurt if my husband watch it but I don't mind watching myself! Hypocrite I no but i don't mind us doing so together maybe trying to discuss with him that you are interested in watching it together and see what he thinks?

Yes I know! I feel like such a hypocrite! I know 100% it's not because I think he will wander...maybe I should just ask

him if he will watch it with me.

I think the train behind me not liking the idea of him watching is that the woman there look pretty much perfect and I would feel out of place..even tho I'm not overweight or anything but still..,you know?

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Melaniebabynumber4

*reason lol not train

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alyssa_ross

youre pregnant you get a pass with everything LOL JK!

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My_twoboys

You know, my partner told me that most guys don't even look at the girls. They don't look at the "people" and their "perfect bodies" .. Their too busy getting off by watching people have sex. It makes sense you know.. I just want to use my partner and I as an example... I'm a fit girl (well was, currently 36 weeks pregnant haha) .. My partner couldn't keep his hands off me, but I never wanted sex because I had no drive since having my son (now 4) .. So porn became something I was ok with. I wasn't offended because the girls looked better than me, because I was confident in myself and I knew my partner still thought I was "sexy".. Now at 36 weeks pregnant and not feeling so "sexy" my partner still can't keep his hands off me. I give him more sex then before I was pregnant but he still watches porn because some days... I'd just rather sleep or cuddle. Porn is just porn... They use it to get off then that's it..

Trust me on this please - the men aren't staring at the porn actresses and thinking about a lack of cellulite or stretch marks. They are watching (ahem) the center of the action.

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sandilovee

Try surprising him like watch a porn parody with a good story line. My husband never really looks at the people but he says he gets turned one because I'm watching it with him. It's always good to try new things in the bedroom. And I'm pretty sure that when you guys are going at it your husband isn't looking at your thigh going "omg look at the cellulite on her leg".

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KatiaXoXo

I guarantee if u brought it up, he'd be totally down watching it together

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