men's view of bf

hi men, my husband and I expecting baby #2. & though I didnt breastfeed with our son, im set on doing it for this baby. my husband's only reason for objecting is he thinks my boobs will be 'deformed' after having a baby nurse on them. I think he is being ridiculous. and we plan on me getting a boob job n the future, so even if they do change, so what. and I have to say, pregnancy changes boobs...not breastfeesding. mine sure dont look the same after having our son. is it just him or is this a fear most men have about bf??

hi men, my husband and I expecting baby #2. & though I didnt breastfeed with our son, im set on doing it for this baby. my husband's only reason for objecting is he thinks my boobs will be 'deformed' after having a baby nurse on them. I think he is being ridiculous. and we plan on me getting a boob job n the future, so even if they do change, so what. and I have to say, pregnancy changes boobs...not breastfeesding. mine sure dont look the same after having our son. is it just him or is this a fear most men have about bf??

Are you ever afraid of friends or family sexualizing your wife's breast when she feeds? I really enjoyed BFing DS but DF was afraid of anyone seeing the 'goods', I am very discreet and most people never knew I was even BFing, but he is still unhappy with me feeding in public but I really don't want to bring a pump everywhere. Was there anything that helped if you did?

Are you ever afraid of friends or family sexualizing your wife's breast when she feeds? I really enjoyed BFing DS but DF was afraid of anyone seeing the 'goods', I am very discreet and most people never knew I was even BFing, but he is still unhappy with me feeding in public but I really don't want to bring a pump everywhere. Was there anything that helped if you did?

Of course people will sexualise your breasts out in public - that's human nature, and if your partner can't deal with that, then you need to speak to him and explain how time consuming the pump is - a frank chat that the boobs are still his and a reminder that BF is the most natural thing in the world may suffice

Of course people will sexualise your breasts out in public - that's human nature, and if your partner can't deal with that, then you need to speak to him and explain how time consuming the pump is - a frank chat that the boobs are still his and a reminder that BF is the most natural thing in the world may suffice

Go to Wal Mart (or whatever store you prefer that sells fabric) and buy a yard of cloth. Sew the edges. When it's feeding time, cover up your boobage and baby once the kid is latched on.

Ta-da!

You've got boobs. You're already sexualized by lots of dudes (and some ladies). If you're BF'ing, they're gonna get bigger, so a bit more noticed. *shrugs* Just carry a blanket, keep 'em covered, and you won't have an issue.

Hope that helps! :D

Go to Wal Mart (or whatever store you prefer that sells fabric) and buy a yard of cloth. Sew the edges. When it's feeding time, cover up your boobage and baby once the kid is latched on.

Ta-da!

You've got boobs. You're already sexualized by lots of dudes (and some ladies). If you're BF'ing, they're gonna get bigger, so a bit more noticed. *shrugs* Just carry a blanket, keep 'em covered, and you won't have an issue.

Breastfeeding is the most normal and beautiful thing in the world, and I'm so thankful that my wife has been able to feed both our girls in that way. I've never been worried about her boobs being "deformed" - that's one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. What has happened is my wife went from a small B cup to a full C cup. Thank you, breastfeeding!!! And he shouldn't be worried about people "sexualizing" your breastfeeding. Some people might, but what difference does it really make? Your close friends and family won't. Finally, have y'all looked at how expensive formula is? Breastfeeding is MUCH easier on your checking account balance. As a professional tight wad, that was probably my favorite thing about breastfeeding...

Breastfeeding is the most normal and beautiful thing in the world, and I'm so thankful that my wife has been able to feed both our girls in that way. I've never been worried about her boobs being "deformed" - that's one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. What has happened is my wife went from a small B cup to a full C cup. Thank you, breastfeeding!!! And he shouldn't be worried about people "sexualizing" your breastfeeding. Some people might, but what difference does it really make? Your close friends and family won't. Finally, have y'all looked at how expensive formula is? Breastfeeding is MUCH easier on your checking account balance. As a professional tight wad, that was probably my favorite thing about breastfeeding...

My wife is all guns blazing going to try BF. She took the BF classes (one of which I had to go with her for). She said the classes helped a lot. She learned so much that she had no idea about.

I'm not worried about any kind of deformity, honestly this is the first time I've even heard that one. I am looking forward to them getting huge :)

BF is soooooooo much better for the baby then formula that I just plan to support her however I can so that BF will be successful. Gotta put the babies needs before your husbands need to keep the "girls" pretty.

My wife is all guns blazing going to try BF. She took the BF classes (one of which I had to go with her for). She said the classes helped a lot. She learned so much that she had no idea about.

I'm not worried about any kind of deformity, honestly this is the first time I've even heard that one. I am looking forward to them getting huge :)

BF is soooooooo much better for the baby then formula that I just plan to support her however I can so that BF will be successful. Gotta put the babies needs before your husbands need to keep the "girls" pretty.

my husband is well aware of the benefits health and financial wise. we arent worried about the cost of formula bc we qualify for WIC, but id rather BF for my own health and the babies. I honestly think he's just using this as an excuse bc he is afraid of it. its new to both of us and have never been around anyone who has. do you think the doc or a class could help him be comfortable?

my husband is well aware of the benefits health and financial wise. we arent worried about the cost of formula bc we qualify for WIC, but id rather BF for my own health and the babies. I honestly think he's just using this as an excuse bc he is afraid of it. its new to both of us and have never been around anyone who has. do you think the doc or a class could help him be comfortable?

Class would help ALOT... the class I went to with my wife was 50% men/woman... the instructor sent the dads out and each group (men vs. woman) had to come up with a list of the pros and cons of breastfeeding, it was funny to see some of them, not to mention it was a fun class altogether

Class would help ALOT... the class I went to with my wife was 50% men/woman... the instructor sent the dads out and each group (men vs. woman) had to come up with a list of the pros and cons of breastfeeding, it was funny to see some of them, not to mention it was a fun class altogether

Thanks you guys! I have had the discussion with him several times and he understands how much it means to me and his bank account lol. We always took a cover before so he is almost okay with it now. Hopefully he will become more comfortable as time goes by lol we have till April to find out.

Thanks you guys! I have had the discussion with him several times and he understands how much it means to me and his bank account lol. We always took a cover before so he is almost okay with it now. Hopefully he will become more comfortable as time goes by lol we have till April to find out.

the boob job is planned for about 2 or 3 years from now. when I finish school and start working. (so I can pay myself) & you dont habe to be 'poor' to qualify for WIC. my husband is military and I am a sahm. in my state, with a family of soon to be 4, one paycheck does qualify us for WIC. saving and having a PLAN to get a boob job, which I feel I deserve after going through 2 pregnancys and having my body change drastically b4 the age of 24, is not a horrible thing. you dont always no someone's story. so next time, try not to be so judgemental.. thanks.

the boob job is planned for about 2 or 3 years from now. when I finish school and start working. (so I can pay myself) & you dont habe to be 'poor' to qualify for WIC. my husband is military and I am a sahm. in my state, with a family of soon to be 4, one paycheck does qualify us for WIC. saving and having a PLAN to get a boob job, which I feel I deserve after going through 2 pregnancys and having my body change drastically b4 the age of 24, is not a horrible thing. you dont always no someone's story. so next time, try not to be so judgemental.. thanks.

He doesn't want you to breastfeed bc someone might see your breasts for the 2 secs it takes to get the baby latched on and justifies it bc you don't have to worry about the cost of formula because you qualify for WIC? Seriously? That to me is an asinine statement. If you can't afford formula without depending on state programs for help it seems to me that the answer would be breastfeeding. You're a woman. You're already sexualized. That's hardly a reason not to feed your child if you're capable. At this point breastfeeding is completely mainstream, unlike in the 50's, so I doubt very much anyone is going to be shocked by a woman feeding her baby. They make shawls and wraps so it can be done discreetly in public. Pregnancy changes your body. If you're planning plastic surgery in your future it makes absolutely no difference what it does to your breasts. I have implants myself, if you go to a good doctor they can fix just about anything (not that you will necessarily need to be "fixed". I know lots of people who breastfed and had perfect breasts before and after). If those are his only reasons I'd definitely suggest taking a class. They will not only explain the benefits, but they will also tell him how he can help and be involved. It may help immensely to see and hear from other people and Dads about their experiences and how they felt about it.

He doesn't want you to breastfeed bc someone might see your breasts for the 2 secs it takes to get the baby latched on and justifies it bc you don't have to worry about the cost of formula because you qualify for WIC? Seriously? That to me is an asinine statement. If you can't afford formula without depending on state programs for help it seems to me that the answer would be breastfeeding. You're a woman. You're already sexualized. That's hardly a reason not to feed your child if you're capable. At this point breastfeeding is completely mainstream, unlike in the 50's, so I doubt very much anyone is going to be shocked by a woman feeding her baby. They make shawls and wraps so it can be done discreetly in public. Pregnancy changes your body. If you're planning plastic surgery in your future it makes absolutely no difference what it does to your breasts. I have implants myself, if you go to a good doctor they can fix just about anything (not that you will necessarily need to be "fixed". I know lots of people who breastfed and had perfect breasts before and after). If those are his only reasons I'd definitely suggest taking a class. They will not only explain the benefits, but they will also tell him how he can help and be involved. It may help immensely to see and hear from other people and Dads about their experiences and how they felt about it.

he has never mentioned anything about worrying wether someone see's me breastfeeding. the only statement he has made about not wanting me to, is he feels it will drastically alter the way my boobs look. and I know he is just uneducated about it, and most likely feels they are more for sexual purposes. he just needs to be educated..as do I. .... and the boobs will come, just not right away.... and as far as being able to afford formula, we could swing it. but then have no extra money to save, no money to enjoy ourselves every once in awhile. I dont set the WIC income guidelines, but there is no reason we shouldnt be able to use it if we qualify. even if breastfeeding I will still be on it. they offer lactation consultants, pumps if needed and healthy food for myself. thats what its there for, to help women, infant and children who qualify.

he has never mentioned anything about worrying wether someone see's me breastfeeding. the only statement he has made about not wanting me to, is he feels it will drastically alter the way my boobs look. and I know he is just uneducated about it, and most likely feels they are more for sexual purposes. he just needs to be educated..as do I. .... and the boobs will come, just not right away.... and as far as being able to afford formula, we could swing it. but then have no extra money to save, no money to enjoy ourselves every once in awhile. I dont set the WIC income guidelines, but there is no reason we shouldnt be able to use it if we qualify. even if breastfeeding I will still be on it. they offer lactation consultants, pumps if needed and healthy food for myself. thats what its there for, to help women, infant and children who qualify.

Sorry it's my DF who is afraid of others sexualizing not Brittany. I asked on this thread so I wouldn't have to start a new one. I'm sorry again. I have WIC as well but I am trying to find a way to get off of it. I hate people thinking less of me for it. I always have to explain why we have Internet and an iPod. DF has to have Internet for work and the iPod is just old and we would never make more than $60 for it since it's outdated. Again I'm really sorry for the confusion.

Sorry it's my DF who is afraid of others sexualizing not Brittany. I asked on this thread so I wouldn't have to start a new one. I'm sorry again. I have WIC as well but I am trying to find a way to get off of it. I hate people thinking less of me for it. I always have to explain why we have Internet and an iPod. DF has to have Internet for work and the iPod is just old and we would never make more than $60 for it since it's outdated. Again I'm really sorry for the confusion.

you should not be ashamed or embarrased for having WIC. there is a reason you qualify for it. I hate people assume WIC means 'poor'. I was on it with my 1st preg and did have to get used to it. but now, I do not care :) I have a new car, smart phone, Mac Computer, but what others dont know is the phone was a gift, the computer was.charged with a credit card (made payments for a year) & we traded.in two cars to have just one.. people judge so quickly. as long as you know thats all that matters :)

you should not be ashamed or embarrased for having WIC. there is a reason you qualify for it. I hate people assume WIC means 'poor'. I was on it with my 1st preg and did have to get used to it. but now, I do not care :) I have a new car, smart phone, Mac Computer, but what others dont know is the phone was a gift, the computer was.charged with a credit card (made payments for a year) & we traded.in two cars to have just one.. people judge so quickly. as long as you know thats all that matters :)

I have nothing to add on the BF issue -- we used formula -- but a second the post about not worrying about being on WIC. It is there for a reason. And based on a quick google search, about 53% of infants in the country use WIC. Odds are, half the people here with infants are getting it.

I have nothing to add on the BF issue -- we used formula -- but a second the post about not worrying about being on WIC. It is there for a reason. And based on a quick google search, about 53% of infants in the country use WIC. Odds are, half the people here with infants are getting it.

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