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Saturday, 26 November 2016

There are so
many excellent women writers in our region we thought we would look at some of
the new books they have published this year in a series of short blogs.You never know you might just find that unexpected
Christmas read…

Our first is
a hugely timely collection of essays – The
Mother in Psychoanalysis And Beyond, Matricide and maternal subjectivity, co-edited
by Rosalind Mayo and Christina Moutsou. It is vigorously academic exploring our
relationship to the maternal through psychoanalysis, philosophy, culture and
art, as well as politics and gender and profoundly touching, as half the book
is the reflective, lived experience of women on being mothered and mothering.It is a handbook to understand the
contradictions of motherhood, the conflict between the dreams of motherhood and
reality.

The book
grew out of a series of seminars on the maternal open to psychotherapists and
members of the public, held at the Philadelphia Association in London. An institution
founded by R.D. Laing in 1965 to challenge established ways of thinking.It became clear through the meetings that
there was an enormous chasm between the idealisation and reality of motherhood
– there was so much that was unsaid.This book breaks that silence.

It examines
the myths that illustrate ‘…the conflicts and dilemmas of our collective
relationship with the Mother,’ as Christina Moutsou outlined at the book
launch. Athena who leaps fully formed from the brow of Zeus after he has raped and
swallowed her mother, a daughter born of matricide, and Persephone stolen to
the underworld, while Demeter roams in winter, the forgotten, stripped out
older mother. But it also unfolds the political landscape, the failure of
feminism to support motherhood in the past, the undermining of motherhood, the
perpetuation of impossible zeal.

Contributing
their voices are writer and journalist Melissa Benn, feminist theorist Amber
Jacobs and conceptual artist Eti Wade as well as eminent psychotherapists
Alison Davies, Kate Gilbert, Jane Haynes and Lucy King, not to mention the
editors who have both contributed to and shaped this brave and honest book.

To be a
mother is at once the most intimate, profound and universal of our experiences.
Our own mothering cannot be separated from our own experience of being
mothered. It is the most ambiguous and ambivalent of relationships as well as
the most enriching. The mother relationship can render us paper-thin,
vulnerable, exposed to slipstreams of uncertainty, separation, betrayal and
loss, aching to fulfil the impossible idealisation and fantasies of the mother
in our society. This is a rich, moving
book of courage, a handbook to understanding.

Routledge,
London and New York, 2017

Review by Belona Greenwood, founder and co-organiser of
Words and Women. A former journalist she took an
MA in Scriptwriting at the University of East Anglia and writes plays for
adults and children, produced and performed both regionally and nationally.
She is co-director of Chalk Circle Theatre Company. In 2009 she was a
winner of the Decibel Penguin Prize for Life Writing, and she has won an
Escalator award to write a book of creative non-fiction. She teaches adults and
children.