My So-Called Sex Life

Are the Good Ole Days Over?

A few posts back someone slammed me for using the world "feminism" in regards to marriage. The exact quote was from Doktor Evil and he (or she - I don't want to be stereotypical on top of slamming butch femi-nazis) wrote: "There's nothing UNfeminist about finding glee in man's 'Cars... motors...big tree trunks to blow to smithereens with my manly ax. Kapow! Dude - look at the chips fly!' And could you do us a favor? Don't mention feminism if you think feminists are just a bunch of bitchy harpies that only exist to squelch a man's masculinity. Thanks."

I'd like to clear the record by stating that I certainly don't think feminist are a bunch of whiny broads trying to squelch men.

I do, however, see a real divide in our culture these days - at least in the society I run in. It seems if women accommodate their husbands, they are blasted by some women as being subservient. If they demand too much, they are seen as being bitchy.

I don't know what the answer is, other than each person must do what is right for their own relationships. Based on the high rate of divorces these days, however, it does seem like something has to give.

Back in the "good ole days" people were so busy putting food on the table, there wasn't a lot of worry about how people felt. A man had his role providing the money, and the woman had her role taking care of the children. While this obviously wasn't ideal for all parties, it did maintain a fairly steady balance on the home front.

There are exceptions to all of it. Some of you might have had grandparents that were solid as granite, but Grandpa was a major gambler. Perhaps Grandma was miserable and stayed with Grandpa for financial reasons (or he was hung like the milk cart horse), all the while screaming at her children and causing all sorts of emotional abuse. Obviously that was not a great situation.

But the problem today, it seems, is that people have raised the bar to some pretty unrealistic standards. "I will only be happy if my husband does x y and z..." ... "My wife isn't as cute as she was ten years ago... I deserve so much more..."

Do you really? Do you really deserve so much more? And what exactly is that? A spouse with a better paycheck? A better physique? Someone who doesn't'have the mother from hell or a bad case of acne? Where is the fine line between not putting up with true dysfunction, and at the same time, creating your own dysfunction by having unrealistic expectations of marriage?

This topic will be Contined on Friday!

Meanwhile, I can't wait for Rex to get home from New Jersey. Perhaps I'll meet him at the door in my best East Coast accent with nothing but a pair of stilettos.

More likely I'll be found drooling in a heap on our unmade bed. But the first scenario sounds much more exciting.

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