I'm glad you added that edit - think most of us are speaking from the viewpoint of actual penetrative sex. Adding on foreplay etc means it's usually at least 30 mins from start to finish, as far as I'm concerned.

Added a second edit because the article actually mentions that it's focus is mainly on penetrative sex. Missed that the first time I read it.

Originally Posted by Venara

*edit#2* Seems like the article did only mean the actual act. Either way, I stand by what I said. Personally, I'm usually satisfied with 15-20 minutes for the whole deal. I guess it depends on if you like lots of foreplay or not.

I'm not too sure how well the article applies to gay people (I'm gay). I have no idea what's a "good" time for a heterosexual couple to have penetrative sex, so I'm not going to comment on that and leave my thoughts as they are

I've always tried to at least make it 20-30minutes, so it's surprising to me that people are having such short sessions. Not that I'm artificially extending it just for the sake of length, but it's too fun to end so quickly. Are you guys just doing one position?

20-30 minutes of actual sex? Or including foreplay? If it's the former... I'm not sure whether to be jealous or feel sorry for you to be honest XD

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Jesus, 13 minutes, I don't think I'll ever be able to finish in 13 minutes.

Seems like much longer than that and you're gonna be going "christ, I'm ready to go to do something else." Even only fifteen minutes for the pre-game show and another fifteen for the game itself, that's half an hour. Dunno about you but I'd be getting bored nine times out of ten, wouldn't be surprised if she was too.

I also do landscaping on weekends with some mexican kid that I "hired". He's real good because he's 100% obedient to me and does everything I say while never complaining. He knows that I am the man in the relationship and is completely submissive towards me as he should be.

personally i don't care too much about foreplay or long cuddle sessions afterwards. I used to believe i would like it more, but turns out i'm kind of a stereotypical "wham bam thank you mam" kinda guy For some reason in don't even feel much like sex at all last 2 years or so, just now and then (read, once a month or so...) is fine by me... perhaps i should have my hormone lvls checked, i'm only 33y old, so prolly a bit 'weird' that i'm not that interested in sex lately? Dunno... i just find it overrrated and it seems the fantasy is always better than reality (in b4: "Then you must be doin it wrong!" :roll

From my experiences, the bulk of the time is just the foreplay like most people have said, about 10-15 minutes of the sex, and then anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 hours of time with the person afterward.

Originally Posted by Proberly

Oh would you now? It truly is amazing how many heroic people we have wasting their time on internet.

To guys saying that they would be unable to finis within 13, you are doing something wrong.
To everyone who times their sex-sessions, stop doing that and focus on the plessure. Sex is not about prestige but rather an act of love or a way to be plessured. If both partners feel saticfied after the actual act it was long enough, may it be 3 minutes or 20, if someone feels that they didn't realy achive what they could have, then it was to short.
Puttng a timelmit on sex is like saying "a steak tastes the best if devoured in 2 minutes and 26 secconds", it just depends to much on the situation.

foreplay can vary in length, but i'd tend to agree with the length of the actual sex, i used to think the longer the better, and i've been known to go for over an hour, but i was young and didn't really know what i was doing . . .

with my gf we know what each other likes, so we can do that, until we're both satisfied, sometimes it will be longer and slower, sometimes faster, there are many variables, but i'd tend to agree with 7-13 mins roughly =)

I like sex that lasts a bit longer, I usually don't really feel satisfied until 15 minutes minimum, anything between 15 and 20 is amazing for me. 7 minutes is ridiculously short and people should really try and experiment with new things.

personally i don't care too much about foreplay or long cuddle sessions afterwards. I used to believe i would like it more, but turns out i'm kind of a stereotypical "wham bam thank you mam" kinda guy For some reason in don't even feel much like sex at all last 2 years or so, just now and then (read, once a month or so...) is fine by me... perhaps i should have my hormone lvls checked, i'm only 33y old, so prolly a bit 'weird' that i'm not that interested in sex lately? Dunno... i just find it overrrated and it seems the fantasy is always better than reality (in b4: "Then you must be doin it wrong!" :roll

Supposed to be a sign of low testosterone. Whether that's an actual problem or not... hell if I know. I'm about the same way. To paraphrase Louis C.K., if I pussy runs into me I'll fuck it, but otherwise... meh, whatever.

It results in a very stress-free and simple life. If someone's gonna tell me that it's due to low testosterone and that that's a bad thing... man, having a low-stress life is pretty awesome.

I also do landscaping on weekends with some mexican kid that I "hired". He's real good because he's 100% obedient to me and does everything I say while never complaining. He knows that I am the man in the relationship and is completely submissive towards me as he should be.

I agree with the length and am actually quite relieved to hear that it is actually the norm, as my -erm- "Games of Checkers" with my wife last about that long. Foreplay varies, sometimes they are short, sometimes they are longer, after all, we are married for almost 12 years now and this means we kinda know what to do where for maximum effect, though that also varies.
But no matter how long, I think as long as both are satisfied with it, it's fine. Even if its a "Quick, kids are having their bath!" kind of thing.

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Are we talking only penetration time and is it in one go, in multiple goes ? If multiple goes, are the pauses counted out, how are position switches counted ?

30 minutes in one go seems rather unreasonable to me, maybe if she is not very tight (sorry, not trying to go for cheap shots here) or the guy isn't really into it.

I know someone will jump at me with their "I do it 70 times a week, 50 minutes each time" boasting, but as someone already pointed out: I think foreplay and mutual pleasure are much more important than an artificial time limit, maybe that should be included in the poll.

Are we talking only penetration time and is it in one go, in multiple goes ? If multiple goes, are the pauses counted out, how are position switches counted ?

30 minutes in one go seems rather unreasonable to me, maybe if she is not very tight (sorry, not trying to go for cheap shots here) or the guy isn't really into it.

I know someone will jump at me with their "I do it 70 times a week, 50 minutes each time" boasting, but as someone already pointed out: I think foreplay and mutual pleasure are much more important than an artificial time limit, maybe that should be included in the poll.

I'm reasonably sure the article is referring to one act of penetrative sex, and not including foreplay (at least, that's how I'm interpreting it).