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“Some of us have great runways already built for us. If you have one, take off. But if you don’t have one, realize it is your responsibility to grab a shovel and build one for yourself and for those who will follow after you.”

– Amelia Earhart

Dear Michael Sam

I don’t know you personally but I hope this letter reaches you because I believe it’s the message you are meant to hear.

Sometimes in life we fail to see the great opportunities inherent in our struggles. I know football is what you love but have you ever considered that the struggle you face is not about the game of football but an overall greater purpose awaiting you in the game of life.

Michael here are the 5 steps to realizing your purpose and making a true difference.

Turn your anger and frustration into a passion to make a difference

Michael you are a trailblazer and like others before you the path is laden with struggle and unforeseen circumstances outside of your control. How you handle those situations will determine if others choose to follow in your footsteps or stay regulated to the darkness of their fears. I know you are frustrated that your NFL dreams did not come to fruition the way you planned. Turn that emotion into a passion for paving the way for those to come. Jackie Robinson had to make tremendous sacrifices understanding that in his hands laid the fate of all those who would or “would not” come after him.

Apologize for passively outing other pro athletes

I understand you may have felt abandoned by athletes who chose to stay quiet instead of showing outright support. These other athletes placed not only their trust but their livelihood in your hands and as frustrated as it was feeling that they were not there to stand when you needed them to- you as a leader were given the gift of their trust. You needed to appreciate that trust, to be the leader they could depend on and believe in. They needed to know that you truly had their best interest at heart even at a high cost to yourself.

If you had done this they would have given you a respect and trust that money simply cannot buy and in due time you would have been able to bring people together to do things they otherwise would not have. They may not have openly come out but they may have openly expressed support that could change the fate for those to come, and that my friend is a big win. Apologize profusely behind the scenes to them personally and issue a blanket apology publicly. Let everyone know you have seen the wrong of your ways and allowed your frustration to get the best of you. Promise those athletes individually and the young players you impacted that you will do everything your power to be worthy of the trust and respect that was given to you.

Be the leader you needed

Remember a time when as a young man coming to grips with not only being gay but having to confront that reality as an athelete. Think about who you needed and who you became in order to help you through that. Many kids don’t have that person, that leader, that motivation to continue forward in the face of all the struggles they will face. Be the leader they need and you had or wish you had. Michael that person will change the world for the better.

Publicly set the vision for the future

Publicly set the vision for the future as you would like to see it for gay athletes in sports. We all need a vision without it the scriptures say that the people will perish, not only the people but their hopes and dreams as well. Set a vision that will inspire and move others, gay and otherwise. In the end what you’re looking to achieve goes beyond sexual preference and gender, it is about a kid that has a dream and believes they matter and that they can be something in this life…who are we to take that away from them.

Touch the People

Get to where people need you. Be a great voice and testament to the power of standing up for what you believe in. Your life serves a greater purpose Michael than just the game of football. Get out to the schools, the colleges, speak and be a liaison if not in the NFL then in College to help players and students on both sides of the issue. Help those athletes and students across college campuses who are gay and straight in how to deal with whatever issues you had to deal with. Michael what you can bring to the table for countless people is invaluable and you have a visible platform to do it from. You literally have the power to save lives.

Finish what you started, this is the biggest game you will ever play in and the purpose you choose to pursue will determine how you played the game. At the end of the day you can be a Hall of Famer on the greatest playing field ever…life.

Recently I was conversing with God through my prayers and thoughts. I was asking God for a miracle to help me through many of the challenges in my life. I said to God, the only way for me to overcome these many overwhelming obstacles is for a miracle of some sort to happen. Everyday I found myself asking God for a miracle I just did not see any other way through it all. One day I happened to be sitting down by the television while the movie Bruce Almighty was on.

I’m not sure if you are familiar with the movie but in it Jim Carey or Bruce asks Morgan Freeman or God for a miracle. Bruce wants to change his life, he feels like things have not been going his way and for some reason all of the odds are against him. Being a movie of course something miraculous happens in response to Bruce’s prayer. Morgan Freeman as God shows up and grants Bruce the powers of God and he becomes “Bruce Almighty” with the powers to do whatever he wants. Of course Bruce uses this newly gifted power to get the job he wants, to right all the wrongs of his life and to “make all the crooked places straight”.

Eventually though Bruce comes to find that having this power is not so easy. Bruce neglects all of the important things in life including, the people around him, the woman who loves him and he forgets to take the time to care about others. In the end, all the things that Bruce truly cared about, all of the blessings that were right there in front of him were lost.

He meets up with God again and Bruce says, I just wanted a miracle. God says to Bruce, miracles happen every day, when you see a single mother finding a way to get her kids to school and sports on time, that’s a miracle. You don’t need me for a miracle Bruce you are the miracle. You can be the miracle by going out there and using your God-given gifts to touch others and enlighten their lives. He says that it’s not about what you want specifically but about the gifts I have given you and how you can use those to tap into other people to make a difference and change the world.

At that part I kind of laughed and chuckled to myself, looked up to the sky and said okay God I get it, I get what you’re saying to me. You are saying that I’m here asking for a miracle and you have instilled we with all of these great gifts that I can use to make a difference to touch others and show them that they too have the gift of a miracle inside them. Yes maybe things have not gone my way, maybe I have not gotten the things that I want but you are telling me there are even greater things in store for me if I am willing to go this path.

God I believe you are telling me that by tapping into other people and making a difference within them, by caring I can be a hero touching the lives of others. All God was asking from Bruce was for him to simply be himself and that is more than enough. You are saying that if I a willing to realize this truth then all of the things I have been working for are right here within me. So God I guess the challenge is instead of asking for a miracle it’s time for me to go out there and be the miracle.

My Friends just like God Believes in you, I believe in you. I believe in all the great things you can do and be. I believe that together we can make a difference in this world. We can be bright lights and show others the way. I believe that tomorrow can be even better than today. There is a land that has been promised to us and that land is not out there somewhere it is here within us. The miracle you are looking for is already within you. You are the miracle. Just by refusing to quit, refusing to stop, refusing to lose, refusing to give into the circumstances at hand no matter what you have to go through, that is a miracle.

So my friends go be the miracle, be who God made you to be. God needs you to light the way for other people just like God spoke to me through that movie saying Dom you be the miracle, you go out there and make the difference, show them the way. If you want things to change you go change them. If you don’t want to go through this anymore you rise up and you decide not to go through it. Take the path that has been set before you and make a difference. Be someone who will ignite the miracle waiting inside of others-