Demanding DH

I've always been miss independent, and enjoyed working. But once DD arrived in Jan., DH and I agreed that it just made more sense to stay home with her than to pay a great deal for a stranger to watch our baby. But the minute I quit work, DH stopped hanging around us-coming home from work at around 3am every night when he gets off at 4pm. He gets very angry when I ask what he's doing or mention that he should consider spending more time with DD and I. He also demands that all of his laundry be done at all times, the house be clean, and breakfast, lunch, and dinner to be ready when and if he decides to show up. The times that he is home, he is either sleeping (12 or more hours) or on his phone playing games and texting friends. Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this, or has any advice? Sometimes I feel like DD and I would be better off without him.

I've always been miss independent, and enjoyed working. But once DD arrived in Jan., DH and I agreed that it just made more sense to stay home with her than to pay a great deal for a stranger to watch our baby. But the minute I quit work, DH stopped hanging around us-coming home from work at around 3am every night when he gets off at 4pm. He gets very angry when I ask what he's doing or mention that he should consider spending more time with DD and I. He also demands that all of his laundry be done at all times, the house be clean, and breakfast, lunch, and dinner to be ready when and if he decides to show up. The times that he is home, he is either sleeping (12 or more hours) or on his phone playing games and texting friends. Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this, or has any advice? Sometimes I feel like DD and I would be better off without him.

Totally unacceptable!!! I would not stick around and deal with that. I totally understand needing to having a life outside your family, but that should be a night out once or twice a month and maybe a couple quick texts a day. Some families can handle more, some less. You need to talk to DH and let him know this situation isn't working. Tell him exactly what you aren't happy with, come up with a compromise that you both can handle, and if he doesn't stick to it, leave. Go stay with someone for a week or so and start looking for a job (or inquire about going back to your old one) so he knows you're serious. If he wants his family intact he'll let you know, if he'd rather make his friends and social life a priority, you deserve someone better!

Totally unacceptable!!! I would not stick around and deal with that. I totally understand needing to having a life outside your family, but that should be a night out once or twice a month and maybe a couple quick texts a day. Some families can handle more, some less. You need to talk to DH and let him know this situation isn't working. Tell him exactly what you aren't happy with, come up with a compromise that you both can handle, and if he doesn't stick to it, leave. Go stay with someone for a week or so and start looking for a job (or inquire about going back to your old one) so he knows you're serious. If he wants his family intact he'll let you know, if he'd rather make his friends and social life a priority, you deserve someone better!

My DH sucks almost as bad as yours does. I constantly try to decide if I would like my life more as it is now (getting to be a SAHM to my LO) or leaving him (but then I would have to work all the time and not see LO barely at all in order to afford life on my own). Who knows....

My DH sucks almost as bad as yours does. I constantly try to decide if I would like my life more as it is now (getting to be a SAHM to my LO) or leaving him (but then I would have to work all the time and not see LO barely at all in order to afford life on my own). Who knows....

I know how you feel about him
spending time. I feel like even when he is home he's not. Like physically he's there but his mind is elsewhere. He is always on that damn phone. I want to break it in half sometimes LOL. I don't care of he plays video games for a bit or computer time for an hour or so but when he's just always on his phone and making a big deal when I ask him to help out around the house. It's so annoying. I'm sorry I don't have much words of wisdom.

I know how you feel about him
spending time. I feel like even when he is home he's not. Like physically he's there but his mind is elsewhere. He is always on that damn phone. I want to break it in half sometimes LOL. I don't care of he plays video games for a bit or computer time for an hour or so but when he's just always on his phone and making a big deal when I ask him to help out around the house. It's so annoying. I'm sorry I don't have much words of wisdom.

I feel ya girl. Tried unplugging his phone once, so that it would be dead, but it didn't last long. He brought the charger in the living room. Men...ugh! Although I hate the fact that others are dealing with very similar feelings, it's a bit comforting to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way.

I feel ya girl. Tried unplugging his phone once, so that it would be dead, but it didn't last long. He brought the charger in the living room. Men...ugh! Although I hate the fact that others are dealing with very similar feelings, it's a bit comforting to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way.

Mine once remarked on supper (having it to much or something) I quit cooking for him for 3 weeks ... He never mentioned it again lol. That was 6 years ago. Maybe just don't ... Let him get mad and give him a card for a maid, laundry and some takeout menus... And perhaps a bill for child care. U teach him how to treat u. Figure out how much out Time is ok (for both of you)... Counseling is amazing resource as well nice to have a voice of reason amongst craziness. Good luck to u!

Mine once remarked on supper (having it to much or something) I quit cooking for him for 3 weeks ... He never mentioned it again lol. That was 6 years ago. Maybe just don't ... Let him get mad and give him a card for a maid, laundry and some takeout menus... And perhaps a bill for child care. U teach him how to treat u. Figure out how much out Time is ok (for both of you)... Counseling is amazing resource as well nice to have a voice of reason amongst craziness. Good luck to u!

I hope this doesn't come out wrong, but people treat you how you allow them to treat you, and that type of behavior is unacceptable. You don't want your daughter growing up thinking that is how a man is supposed to treat a woman, do you?

I hope this doesn't come out wrong, but people treat you how you allow them to treat you, and that type of behavior is unacceptable. You don't want your daughter growing up thinking that is how a man is supposed to treat a woman, do you?

His behavior doesn't have any excuses. One question though. How old is he? If under 30, your answer is immaturity. Forgive me but women at almost any age as soon as they become moms they tend to grow up. Men/boys don't.

His behavior doesn't have any excuses. One question though. How old is he? If under 30, your answer is immaturity. Forgive me but women at almost any age as soon as they become moms they tend to grow up. Men/boys don't.

I think what u should do is leave take your DD start looking for a job. U don't need a man to treat u like crap. After all u gave him a perfect gift. What ppl don't think is that we who stay at home don't do anything but watch TV talk on the phone n sleep. But we watch the kids, do laundry, make n take kids to Dr's visits clean & on top of that make dinner!! The only difference is that we don't get a pay check. I'm thinking is that he feels u NEED him n u can't do anything w/out him and some men feel like now there I'm charge cause their the only ones who make money! U don't need that. Do ur thing and trust me u will feel so much better about yourself. Gl n let me know what happens

I think what u should do is leave take your DD start looking for a job. U don't need a man to treat u like crap. After all u gave him a perfect gift. What ppl don't think is that we who stay at home don't do anything but watch TV talk on the phone n sleep. But we watch the kids, do laundry, make n take kids to Dr's visits clean & on top of that make dinner!! The only difference is that we don't get a pay check. I'm thinking is that he feels u NEED him n u can't do anything w/out him and some men feel like now there I'm charge cause their the only ones who make money! U don't need that. Do ur thing and trust me u will feel so much better about yourself. Gl n let me know what happens

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