Establishing a Marriage Relationship

God has repeatedly addressed the significance of honoring the marriage relationship and especially the sexual relationship within it.

Hebrews 13:4

4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Here are some ways to strengthen the commitment to your relationship:

Wait till you have established a marriage relationship to be sexually intimate. This concept comes from a couple of areas, one is the significance God’s Word places on sexual faithfulness in marriage as well as sexual morality in general, and the other the science behind what happens in our brains as we unite sexually regardless of marital commitment. Whether you’ve chosen to wait or not, it is helpful to consider what an established marriage relationship entails. Many couples may be married legally, but not addressed most or any of the following:

Established Marriage Relationship

You’ve developed a friendship of mutual respect, interest, and admiration.

You have committed to be faithful to one another, before God and loved ones

You know each other well enough to discuss your feelings about sexuality, pleasure in sex and sexual hurts or trauma either has experienced that may affect your sex life.

*If you grew up in an abusive or emotionally and physically unaffectionate home—bonding and attachment was likely impaired. It may take more patience and affection in your relationship to establish a secure bond and enjoy sexual intimacy. Take heart, in a mutually respectful relationship, you can achieve this, with patience and further guidance in recovery, when needed.

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