It’s not always about being right or being great. Sometimes life challenges our thoughts and it’s about learning a different perspective, acknowledging that another can be right, and that there are multiple ways to be great.

But if you aren’t the first, that doesn’t mean you lose. The opportunity is still there for you to forgive in your own time.

Forgetting is not always possible, or in our best interest to you. Take the time to think about your situation. What do you value about the relationship? How will apologizing affect it? How will forgiving the other person, or yourself, help you mentally and emotionally?

And finally, will forgetting about it help you? Maybe it’s a best friend and forgive & forget is what you live by to keep your friendship strong. But maybe it’s a toxic relationship, and though they’ve apologized and you’ve forgiven, you need to remember to distance yourself from them.