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I was reading some blogs today and came across a couple talking about their new marriage life and their whole jaha, katb ktab, and wedding experience… (congratulations to everyone)

Nowadays the jaha goes to the bride to be’s house to ask for her hand and are certain that their request wont be denied.. It would be either that the bride and groom have known each other for sometime and have arranged for the whole thing or it could be the old traditional way and yet both families approve this marriage and have all this jaha for tradition purposes..

Thinking of that reminded me of a story that I heard a while ago.. A guy I know was seeing a girl for more than three years, they were so cute together.. both their familes are aware of the relationship and yet nothing official was between them.. She kept aksing him to have his parents visit hers for at least fat7a and he kept stalling her..

She kept waiting for him even though she heard about his flirtation with other girls.. It was not until she caught him traveling with another girl and staying with her in the same room that she decided she cannot handle it anymore..

She couldnt believe that after all this time he would do that to her.. she was there for him all along and held on to him despite all the fights with her parents… As much as she wanted it but she did not think that a ring or a piece of paper is the only thing that will make a man faithful.. she thought that he was her guy and she was his no matter what.. but this she couldnt handle..

After all the “we told you so” she decided to run away and try to forget all about him but he was smarter than that.. he prepared a plan with her friends, followed her and surprised her by proposing to her in the middle of the nile.. and of course what crazy girl would say no to such romance..

After a couple of months she realized that she was not able to forgive him and that things can never go back to the way they were espeically after she found out that he was still cheating on her and yet she decided to say nothing.. she found out that she still has to nag to make him bring his family for a jaha and that he was not that serious about getting serious.. and yet she was finally able to make him do it..

They set a date and prepared for everything, the number of people from his side and from her side, who is going to ask for her hand and who is going to give it.. she bought a beautiful dress and spent her day at the hair dresser.. very big shot people, his father, uncles and brothers arrived at 05:00 pm and her uncles and family members where their to welcome them.. after they got them the coffee they started the long speech about marriage and honor and all boring things they say before asking for what they want.. they finally got to the point were they asked for her hand and prepared themselves to drink the coffee, and to their shock the answer was NO.. yep she informed her father 15 minutes before the jaha that she does not want to marry a cheater..

6 months later she got engaged to another guy and is preparing for her wedding now…

Maybe its only me but the idea of applying for a visa frustrates me, especially if i want to visit an Arab country..

I can understand all the procedures and documents that are requested to apply for a Eurpoean country or to the States just because we are Arabs or Muslims but I prefer applying for their visas much more than applying for an Arabic one..

I applied for one last year through Emirates Airlines, they asked me for a several thousands Jds check to make sure that I will come back and they informed me that I need a Mu7ram (a close male relative preferably a husband, a sibling, a father, or an uncle) to go with me… Mu7ram to go to Dubai??!!! I need a mu7ram and an insurance check while all the Russian prostitues take their visas upon their arrival in the airport??!!!

Come on… All nationalities have privileges in their countries AND in the Arab countries except for Arabs!!! Nowadays we do not need to apply for other nationalitys’ passports to be treated well in their countries, we need it to be treated well in the Arab countries..

Even in our own country, I wanted to reserve a couple of rooms at the Dead Sea and the guy asked me if any of us have a different nationality passport and when I asked for the reason he said that this way we will get the rooms for a less price.. other nationalities pay less than we do in OUR OWN COUNTRY!!!

So before we ask for privileges and our rights from the outside world we should ask for it from our own…

I have 2 sisters and one brother, my brother is 21 and my sisters are 24 and 15.. the first 2 are angels, not complete angels but compared to the youngest they definately are..

None of us was that rude and that indifferent.. she is driving us all crazy and my mother keeps telling me to handle her as she lost hope..

When our home phone rings at 08:00 am we know that its her school calling for something that she did… her grades are bad, she has the worst best friend ever, and she answers her teachers and her parents back which we never did..

And still all of the above might be forgiven if she did not lie to me.. I can forgive anything except lying.. I have tried everything with her, being her friend, being nice to her and trying to understand her, grounding her, and nothing is helping… everytime I take her mobile from her, her friends give her another one, I have taken almost 5 mobiles from her till now.. She keeps saying that she is going somewhere and then she goes somewhere else.. my mother, brother and father caught her and yet she does not care.. she treates us as if we are crazy and that she is not doing anything wrong.. and what drives me even more crazy she is that after I have a huge fight with her she comes to me asking me to drop her at her friends house as if nothing happened!!! and the worst thing is that I think she has a boyfriend!! Man she is only 15!!!! what can I do…

I was able to handle her behavior at school at least, I met with her principal and we both are trying from our sides to control her.. so far its not bad..

But my parents are very sad.. and so am I.. I know that teenagers are teenagers and she will grow out of it but I cant just sit back until she does..

Did you ever feel that you dont know what you are doing and that you dont know if you are on the right path?

My major is Computer Information Systems, but I did not work in that field, and I dont think I want to go back to it.. My first job was in Events Management, I enjoyed it a lot but it was very tiring and with all do respect to the people who work in that field, I but I do not consider it a career, or I might say its not the career that I want for myself..

I then switched to Marketing.. I really liked it.. I knew nothing about it but my bosses helped me and guided me until I became a Senior Marketing Officer..

The thing is that I am not that happy right now.. I feel lost.. I dont believe that I have learned everything there is and yet I think that I have stopped learning new things a long time ago..

I work at a Marketing Consulting agency and not a Marketing department in a certain company which has a lot of privilages.. With every Client I learn more about each’s field.. Medical Labs, Cosmetics, Banking, Aviation,…. different field with each Client.. But in return I dont feel that I am giving them the best service… I dont believe that I am adding enough value..

By the end of each year we work on a full marketing plan for the following year, we set our objectives, target, mediums, and budget, and then we present and dicuss the plan with the Client and wait for their approval..

We usually never get it.. Most people do not work depending on a fixed plan, they do it spontaneously.. We receive approvals on things that are not within our budget and most of the ideas that we suggested get neglected.. this frustrates me.. are we not providing them with enough ideas? are we not doing our homework?

I end up working on the Client’s ideas and be the middle person between him and the vendors.. Meaning a secretary or at least a Junior can do it.. When I tell my boss about it he says that we do our best but this is what the Client wants..

I am not sure if the problem is from our side or from the Clients’ side.. I think both.. I think we are not giving them enough creative ideas and that the Client’s may not be ready for set annual strategies..

I do believe that I need to learn more about marketing strategies and creative but doable ideas, and every time I tell my boss about it he says look for the courses that you want and I will pay for it.. I never found what I need..

My boss does not see the problem but I do, and its frustrating me.. I feel that I do not know what I am doing anymore and I dont know what to do..

I was watching a movie the other day about a girl who breaks up with her boyfriend due to pressure from her family and finds that the only way to forget him is to leave the country and work abroad..

From my own experience I knew that no matter how far or how long she traveled everything will come back to her the minute she comes back.. I thought this will help me once…

When I knew that my relationship is finally over after 5 years, I thought that the only way I can get over it is to leave the county… and that’s what I did.. I left to the other side of the world and stayed there for months..

After some time of working, shopping, dancing and having fun with new friends I thought I was really over it and it was time for me to go home… I was wrong..

The minute I saw Amman from the sky I remembered him, the minute I inhaled its air I remembered him, the minute I drove in its streets I knew I was lying to myself.. I was not over him..

Time made me realize that its better to stay and fight it.. fight it till you are over it and do not run away.. you need to walk the streets that you two used to walk together and understand that this will never happen again, you need to keep your mobile open understanding that he does know your number and he can call you but he wont, you need to hear his name from the people who are in common between you and not react, this and only this is what did it for me.. running away didnt..

This is something that I learned and I use in my life in general.. Running away does not help, it does not let the problem go away, it just hides it until you come back..