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I'd like to not announce that my daughter definitely does not have a crush on a boy. And that getting up an hour early does not mean anything, he is just a friend. Even though if you look up DD12 in the dictionary you see a picture of a night owl.

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MovingUpward♂ 14866Member # 14866

Posted: 8:10 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014

Good luck with that

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lieshurt♀ 14003Member # 14003

Posted: 8:25 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014

A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.

If someone keeps stabbing you in the back, then quit handing them the knife.

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Kajem♀ 36134Member # 36134

Posted: 9:36 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014

I've been through 4 DD and crushes. I want to know how daddy is handling it!

XH was out of the house by the time my kids started crushing on boys, so I missed out on a dad's reaction.

Now the important question..... Is he cute?

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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wannabenormal♀ 19772Member # 19772

Posted: 11:34 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014

My DD14 has a BF.

Now they've never been on a date, they've never talked on the phone...I'm not sure they even exchange words at school! They text and so 'are BF/GF' (I talked to his parents and we're all okay with this...it's really pretty much nothing; we check phones, no icky stuff. They are actually quite boring! LOL!).

Sheesh, when I was 14, me and BF passed 'do you like me?' me notes between class & will you be at roller rink Friday type stuff. LOL!

What do we know? To them, we love to do laundry, gripe about chores and makes meals. What could we possibly 'get' about real life stuff like non-crushes?!

She is a freshman in HS and this year a senior was walking her to class and asked her to a dance. She finally told him, "look, I really don't like you like that." He cried.

She's always kind to everyone she was just nervous and didn't know how to handle it so when she got home and told me about it she cried because she hurt his feelings.

Ah, high school.....I don't miss you at all.

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

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tushnurse♀ 21101Member # 21101

Posted: 2:30 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014

OH Boy.

My DD is 14 and a freshman, and still thinks most boys are stupid. But recently has started commenting on actors that are "cute" or "hot". She also has mentioned an upper classman that is in her choir that she thinks is pretty cute.

She tells me she doesn't have time for that stuff. She is too busy being a good friend and making good grades. We will see......

Now DS, oh geezo.....He is LURRVE. When she breaks up with him it is going to be a disaster.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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Mama_of_3_Kids♀ 26651Member # 26651

Posted: 8:05 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014

We have a sneaking suspicion that DS13 has a "not a crush" and possibly a "not my girlfriend" OY!

Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's

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Lucky2HaveMe♀ 13333Member # 13333

Posted: 8:22 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014

Reminds me when my dd was about that age she told me she had a bf. I asked "What does that mean? Do you eat lunch together?" Her resonse...