actually i didn't experience such situations but i believe that changing a friendship to love or vice versa are both difficult ,well sometimes when things don'n work uot between agirl and a boy and they break up in a very respectful and peaceful way they become friends naturally since they know each other and respect each other but making relationship to love i think from the beginning they were in love with each other but the feelings were misunderstood...and i think this case maybe rare

phucauto3 wrote:Do you think that It's very difficlut to transform a close friendship into love. And vice verse, It's difficult too to translate a love in to friendship!!

For me friendship and love is the same....

So I talk only about love... and for me love is thinking about the other person in a way that you try to achieve things that will only be good for that person... and that means not working to achieve your wishes, it means working to achieve what is good for the person you love... and not what is good for your ego...

Do you mean love a relationship with sex ?

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1- I don't know why do you see diferent... do you mean a realationship with sex when you write "love" ?

2- It's not the same loving someone than being in love... Being in love is a sickness, you don't see reality, you only see what do you wish to happen, you see the other person as you wish he/she to be... That's not love!!! it includes the word love, but it's a really different thing.

3- He, he... just the definition of the word

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friendship can determine easily But love..
many times, you want have sex relation with a person,even the stranger. It isn't love..
when I was at high school, in my class, there were some couple,
but when they split up, they haven't been friend now...

phucauto3 wrote:Do you think that It's very difficlut to transform a close friendship into love. And vice verse, It's difficult too to translate a love in to friendship!!

For me friendship and love is the same....

So I talk only about love... and for me love is thinking about the other person in a way that you try to achieve things that will only be good for that person... and that means not working to achieve your wishes, it means working to achieve what is good for the person you love... and not what is good for your ego...

Do you mean love a relationship with sex ?

I think that love is to love each other.
I think that friendship is to trust each other.
You should not have a relation with sex without love.
I think that friendship has no sex.
so,I think that friendship and love is not the same.

kira wrote:I think that love is to love each other. I think that friendship is to trust each other.You should not have a relation with sex without love.I think that friendship has no sex.so,I think that friendship and love is not the same.

so you don't love your friends?
i think it's not that easy, the limits are confused...

I experienced this case. I loved my close friend, but when we parted, we couldn't be the friends as before. It's difficult to talk naturally and I feel there is a hole between us. I feel a little sad whenever our friends remind last memories.

However, I realized that if you loved your close friend, you would have a partner who understands you and in front of him/her, you can show yourself free. And you can feel your affection is tighter than you are friends.

phucauto3 wrote:Do you think that It's very difficlut to transform a close friendship into love. And vice verse, It's difficult too to translate a love in to friendship!!

I think transforming a close friendship into love can happen more than from love into friendship. When they are close friends, they would be understand each other thoroughly and they are sympathise with their manner deeply. So they can lead to love quickly, easily. On the other hand, after falling in love with each other but it doesn't has a good ending. It can cause the bad feeling inside them. Hardly can they meet and talking together

I think the love that was born out of friendship is stronger and more probable to survive longer but then again what would happen when the love ends and once friends would start to hate each other and the whole beautiful friendship would be ruined... so in my opinon let friends be just friends and lovers be lovers..

I really share the same idea like Illusion, Let friendships be itself, and the same to love. I've seen so many good friendships turn out to be love, I must say that sweet love, then like Illusion said, once ended, the relationship seems to be a diaster. There are barely guys sensitive enough and mentally healthy enough to get by the situation. Ok, take me for an instance. I had had a good friend, we often talked and for sure I say we understood each other like the way we understand ourselves. Gradually, something hard-to-understand growing up in our minds. I even could not do anything if I would not meet her everyday... then, both of us admited to each other that we loved each other... then you guys know ? So many understand-each-other-well did a bad job. I just did not know why the breakup became of our relationship., no many quarrels, things just happened softly and now... you know ? nothing left to be "cured"...

However, personally, I somewhat agree with the idea that Friendship may be a firm base on which we set a "great" love. You know, To be loved and to love each other, to be lovers to each other, the first factor to be counted is mutual understanding. To be a good friends mean that you may understand each other, know pros and cons of each other..

Anyway, Love is such a restive "form".. I myself really appreciate love grows in a natural way.. gradually yet firmly...

If you range the relationship then: "you just know"--> "friend"--> "closed friend"-->"lover". So love is ultimate relationship between two people (of course in different sex - we are not talking about other kind of love ). That the reason you can "upgrade" your relationship from "closed friend" to "love", but difficult to do vice-verse. Nobody want to "downgrade" their relationship.