Little Ways To Be More Self Confident

I've always suffered with self confidence issues, from looks to personality, I've grown up worrying about things like 'am I ugly?' 'I wish I was smarter' 'I wish i was prettier' 'why can't i be like them'

Now that I'm 20, I am still un confident in some areas of myself, but over the past couple of months, I have become more confident. I am not sure if this is what growing up is all about, or maybe trying to be more positive, there are many girls and boys on social media, putting themselves down, I think it's sad we live in a world where we feel we need to be perfect to 'fit in' and we shouldn't feel like that because we are all beautiful and unique & being ourselves means embracing every part of us - the stretch marks, blemishes and others.

It's Not All About Looks: Sometimes, I can be quite vain, wanting to look 'perfect'. When you're a blogger,its easy pick out all your flaws when looking at the recent selfies you've taken and other pictures you've found on your facebook or camera roll. Sometimes you have to step back and think 'hey it's not all about looks.' It's better to be kind, funny, loving, and fun than be a perfect 'Barbie'. Honestly, people in your life, want to hang around with fun people not perfect people. People dig personalities much more than looks, and if they don't, maybe you should leave them behind.

Things Aren't Always What They Seem: It's so easy to go on Instagram/YouTube/Blogs and compare yourself with people. You go on the Daily Mail or any other tabloid and look at celebrities and think 'why don't i look like that?' In reality, celebrities have so much help, they have daily make up artists, stylists, nutritionists, whilst do me and you have that? Last time I checked, I didn't. So if we had all this help, we'd look a million dollars too. So don't beat yourself up. Secondly, everything is so air brushed and edited these days, that the girls in magazines, don't even look like the girls in magazines most of the time. I keep seeing things about people editing their photos for Instagram? Like don't get me wrong, filters, and editing the saturation are part of the fun but airbrushing too? That's too much. Remember this next time you're scrolling through Instagram or any other social media platform.

Think Positive: If you're having a bad day, think positive rather than negative. Think about what you have got going for you, not what you don't like. You may not like your thighs, but everyone loves your eyes, or your hair. You may not have the best grades but you're really clever and bright in your own individual way. You may think you have nothing going for you, but this isn't the case. Ask someone close to you, what they like about you and you may just be surprised. And remind yourself when you are sitting at your makeup table or looking in the bathroom mirror, you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are awesome. you are your amazingly unique self.

Get Things In Perspective: Sometimes when I am having a moment about my body, imperfections and the other things i may not like, I look at the bigger picture. I think sometimes you have to think, ' right I am alive, I have loving family and friends, I am healthy, this is more important.' There is more to life than looks. People like you for you, and usually that's cause of your personality not cause of what you look like

Don't Compare Yourself: Comparing yourself is so easy to do, it's probably the first thing we do when looking at someones instagram page or blog but such a dangerous thing to do. I'm not gonna lie I do it all the time. One way I try to get over this is to remember we are all unique. We should be different to one another, not the same. Whilst it's cool to get inspiration from people such as style/hair beauty, remember that the world doesn't need a load of photo copies. Be you. Be unique. As said by Steve Furtick: 'The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel'

Do Something About It: When I was constantly unhappy with the the kind of person i am with a mental illness and hearing impairment, I decided to stop moaning about it and do something. I knew that I wasn't happy and this wasn't going to change. Whilst I do have wobbly days, I feel a lot happier with myself If something is making you deeply unhappy then its okay to change things, but please always do it for you and no one else. If a boy/girl has said something about you, then try to ignore it, never change yourself for someone else, do it for you.

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Simone/UK/Creative Writing and Journalism Student/Wannabe Disney Princess/ Unicorn Enthusiast/ Mental Health Fighter Welcome to my little space on the internet! The BeautifulxImperfections Journal is a lifestyle/personal blog where I share my musings, ramblings and everything in between of a 20 - something, hearing impaired girl trying to navigate through life.