Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

never ending cycle

i have self harmed since i was 14, and am now 42, i have countless scars, and have had one to many stitches and infections in my life, i havechildren and a partner, but i`m still using self harm as a means just to survive, i am a mess, not just pyschically but mentally as well. i have tried countless avoidance techniques, and coping skills, does anyone out there feel that self harm is a permanent issue, does it get you down?, as anyone got any working ways of dealing with self harm, i would appreciate any replys no matter what, thanks.......

It's not a permanent issue. Well, to an extent it is. Just like alcohol, or any addiction, it will be in your thoughts, perhaps daily for the rest of your life. That doesn't mean you have to make the act. You can read through older posts. Do some work for yourself, write down the tips that seem they'll work best for you and keep that list handy at all times, make multiples incase you loose one or want one in the car and in the bathroom. Wrap up whatever tool you use in a list. If you like the knife drawer, put a red sticker on it to make you stop and think before you go again.

You are what you think. Seriously. So if you think it's permanent, it will be, for you. For me, I know I can beat it, and I do every day almost. If I slip up, I work on forgiving myself. Nobody can do the work for you, nobody can help you if you don't help yourself. And you CAN help yourself, you're the most powerful person in your life and if you commit yourself completely to sanity and health, you'll achieve it. Takes a lot of determination and patience, but it can be done, I promise you that.

I don't think its a permanent issue its just something we got use to doing when we needed it. Now you just have to find something that can help you the same way. I been cutting since i was 13 and I am now 19. Its hard to stop when its all you known but you can do it. Try finding something that you like to do with your family and partner like walks and games =). try writing why you feel like Self harming and ask your self is it really worth it. Sometimes we think it is when it isn't. Or you can start Drawing how you feel ((even if your not the best drawer I do it)) it helps. Or try cooking a nice dinner keep your mind busy. I really think you should start writing about what is bothering you and making you want to self harm see if it helps. ALSO I am here if you ever need to vent I wont judge at all. I hope this helped!!

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