The true story of a girl who grew up and got everything she really wanted

7.30.2012

Welcoming Jane

I'm not sure where to start this story, because it's beginning is hard to define, which is exactly why it turned out the way it did.

On the morning of July 26th we had plans to meet up with Nicole and her children at a man made little lake in Cedar Hills. We packed a lunch and headed out. Due to car trouble, they couldn't meet us so we ended up packing up and heading over to visit them. My boys love their cousins and it was a very pleasant visit for me too. I wasn't feeling any contractions, but sometime in the afternoon the baby felt significantly lower in my hips. I didn't think too much of it, but I do always get a little excited when it feels like things are progressing.

We went home and I got Adam down for a nap. The other boys were watching a movie and I wondered if resting might help to get some contractions going. I did rest, but nothing.

At seven we had a Relief Society activity. It was all about pampering and relaxing and I got a foot soak, a massage, some great make-up tips, some homemade sugar scrubs and lotions, and the final class was on relaxing breathing techniques. My friend Randi (who is also pregnant) and couldn't stop yawning=). Even though we left late, I made Randi go for a walk with me. We went a few times earlier this summer, but it's been forever and I was hoping maybe a walk would help kick start some serious contractions. We went for a good walk, 2 miles with lots of hills, but nothing. We got home a little after 10.

Kevin and I watched an old episode of Numb3rs on netflicks and had some ice cream. During about the last 15 minutes of the show I had 2 pretty good contractions. They were not much more than others I've had in the past few weeks, but they felt a little stronger. I was really hot, so after the show I went out and sat on the back steps. I saw a shooting star and wondered if it was a sign=) Kevin joined me and we decided to read our nightly conference talk outside because it felt so nice out there. Toward the end of reading, I had a contraction that made it difficult for me to read out loud. When I stood up, I had another rough one. I'm guessing it was probably about 11:15 or so at this point. We went inside and cleaned up a few things before heading upstairs.

I had 2 more contractions and decided it was time to call Rebecca. It was hard to know what to tell her because I hadn't been really timing the contractions, and they hadn't been steady. She said she'd load up her car and that we should call her in 15 minutes to let her know if she should come or go to bed and wait. We hung up and Kevin started getting the birthing tub blown up. 2 minutes later another contraction came on strong. My water broke. It was 11:37. Kevin called Rebecca back and told her that my water broke. When that happened with Adam (the only other time it has broken on its own), I was already at a 10. She said she'd come as fast as she could.

From here, it was all a little crazy. Kevin focused on getting the tub blown up and filled while I focused on...I don't know, survival I guess=) My contractions were intense with very little time in between. I spent some time laying on my bed, some time in the bathroom, some time just walking around, some time kneeling by my bed. My friend Amber had shown me a position she uses during labor and it totally saved me. For the worst parts I'd call Kevin in to help push on my back. It was really helpful. He'd tell me how great I was doing, and it was
nice to hear even though I knew it is the obligation of husbands to say
such things in moments such as these. When the contraction died down a
bit, he'd go back to to getting the tub filled. It seemed to take
forever.

It was just after midnight and I was in the bathroom when I realized that the baby was coming any minute. I was in the middle of a very hard contraction, and it was all I could do to get up and move to the tub, which by this time had about 6 inches of water in it. I said something like "this baby is coming right now", climbed in and within seconds, there she was. It was 12:04 on July 27th. She slid out with one little push. I scooped her up and started rubbing her back. She started crying and I felt relieved. I told Kevin to call Rebecca and find out what we should do. She said just hold her skin to skin and keep her warm and make sure we don't pull on the cord. She would be there soon. Little Jane started nursing almost right away and was looking around. It felt unreal that she was there in my arms, that the pain was over, that this little girl was mine.

Kevin
added bucket after bucket of warm water to the tub and brought a towel
to put around Jane. He did such a great job taking care of us until
Rebecca arrived. She arrived about 15 minutes later. Due to
construction on the freeway, she was stuck going 30 for miles and
miles. She looked Jane over and declared her perfect. She delivered
the placenta and Kevin cut the cord. I didn't have any tearing and all
was well with me too. I was able to hold and feed Jane for over an
hour, then Rebecca did a thorough check up with her. She was 6 pounds,
10 ounces, 19.5 inches. Everything was normal and good.

The sky was amazing on the morning of her birth:

Rebecca left at about 3:30 and Jane slept and slept. I woke up every hour or so, making sure she was still alright. It felt strange that such a new little fragile baby was left in our care. She just slept peacefully. It seemed miraculous that a few hours ago she had never breathed air, and now here she was, in her bed, breathing peacefully.

In the morning, as the boys started to wake up, we called my friend Amy who is an amazing photographer. We wanted her to capture the first few moments of our new family all together. I'm still in awe of the gift she gave us:

Welcome to the family Jane Elizabeth! We are so thrilled to have you!

We've been so well taken care of by our friends and family, I'm blown away by their goodness.

I just wanted to add...

Before this pregnancy, I never would have considered a home birth. I felt a lot of peace about the choice this time and moved forward with it. I'm not the sort of tough person who does hard things on purpose, so this was uncharacteristic of me. Even I couldn't put my finger on why I felt so okay with it.

But had I not planned a home birth, Jane would probably been born in our van. We're about 25 minutes from our hospital, and I can't imagine that I would have been able to get someone to be home with the boys and made it in time. It just wouldn't have been possible. I'm so grateful that although it didn't go exactly as planned, it was a wonderful experience. I am so blessed.

19 comments:

Incredible! Totally and wonderfully incredible! What a story. And just how you wanted it...while the boys were sleeping. Sounds like you delivered your daughter by yourself! What a birth story. So good you wrote it all down for Jane to read IN AWE someday. And those PICTURES.....oh my want captures Amy got. She got the real deal.

We can't wait to see Jane! I'm so proud of you Natalie for your poise and strength through the delivery and of Kevin for looking after you so well. What a joy to welcome this beautiful little daughter.

I don't even know you, but I stumbled upon your birth story through a facebook link. It sounds amazing. I have had three children, but it has never been this quick for me! It could be because mine come out around 9 pounds! Catching your own baby must be a trip. Little Jane is beautiful, you have every reason to be so thrilled. I also love that she was born on my son's birthday! Congratulations! Enjoy your little girl.

Welcome to the world little Jane!!! What an amazing and perfect story- you and Kevin never cease to amaze me. And what a priceless gift those pictures are- the first few hours of life, at home, surrounded by your loves- no wires, nothing beeping, just the happy hum of your family = perfection :)

About Me

I'm Natalie :) I started this blog 8 years ago when life was harder, but simpler. We had 3 little boys at the time and have since added 2 more boys, then a girl, then another boy (and a cat and a dog) to the mix. Lately I'm finding that memories are quick to leave my brain. Through this blog I hope to chronicle these crazy, hard, precious years so I can relive them in my old age. :)