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God’s interruptions serve a purpose and are a teaching tool in His hands. For a second after receiving devastating news our world crashes. We experience the crushing weight of fear gripping our heart and squeezing the breath from our body. The heart breaks into a million little pieces. Reality is that our world has forever changed and life as we know it will never be the same. Reality is too much to bear. Tears and questions light up our mind and we search for answers. The answers are not ones we want to hear. The desire to look to God and surrender the interruption to Him flashes through our mind, but fear has us in it’s grip and holds us back from relinquishing what has consumed and wrecked our peace. Finally, we face the reality and the lack of choices we have in the interruption. The truth of reality is that in this world we often have no control over the interruptions that invade our life. God is our only hope. Desire for a greater faith in Him fills our soul and we seek a miracle that only He has the power to perform. We look to Him for peace and His love calms us as He encircles us with His arms. God is in the struggle, in the midst of the fear and doubt, offering us His peace as the storm swirls around us shaking and interrupting the world we know. Nothing we have experienced has ever struck the cord of anxiety and fear and the loss we feel in our soul today as we look into an uncertain future. Fear and doubt whispers to us in the interruption of our world. Refuse to listen to the lies that invade our thoughts seeking to steal joy, peace, love and faith in God as they assail our mind. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) Faith in God is the expectation that He will show up and that He is interested in giving us the best He has to offer. Trust in the miraculous love of God, release the hands holding onto what is comfortable and familiar, let go, and let God take over the healing process. Watch as He works in the life of the one we desire a miracle. Our faith believes that God is on our side, every day, all the time. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-8 (ESV) God often surprises us with interruptions and we need to leave room for His surprises and His miracles. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I...

Good morning to you! Today it is raining in North Carolina. If you are like me, you are looking forward to Springtime when flowers bloom, trees turn green and daylight savings time begins. The freshness of Spring creates renewed energy within with the promise of beautiful things to come. Green grass, landscaped lawns, the smell of lilac blooming, and Carolina blue skies filled with white fluffy clouds and sunshine fills my heart with thankfulness and gratitude. I never cease to be amazed at the beautiful world God created for our enjoyment as I look forward to Spring on March 20th. Enjoy your day as we grab our coffee, hustle off to work and school looking forward to returning home in the evening. Brenda...

Change starts in our mind. What we think determines how we feel and how we feel influences how we act. The uncertainty of how to implement and accomplish that one desire in our life holds us back and every day we desire to live differently. We meander through the days of procrastination failing to implement change. If only it would happen magically with no effort on our part. God does not work that way. What do you desire to change? Change starts in your mind and that one thing you need to change lingers in your mind and refuses to go away. What is it? 1. Attitude 2. Weight – lose those extra pounds. 3. Develop the habit of a daily devotional and prayer time. 4. Set the alarm and start the day earlier to prevent frustration of being late. 5. Be kinder to those around you. 6. Spend more time with family. 7. Eat at home instead of eating out four or five times a week. 8. Be more conservative in your spending habits. 9. Plan family getaways several times a year. 10. Attend church on a regular basis. 11. Volunteer at your church or school. 12. Be available for dates with your spouse. 13. Plan meals to make family time a pleasant experience. 14. Take a class. 15. Join a gym. 16. Turn the television off and spend the evening with your family. 17. Find a new job. 18. Discover a new hobby. 19. Learn to play an instrument. 20. Enroll in a book club. Are you ready to take the first step and move forward? The choice is yours. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things; Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:6-8 NIN In the hope of Christ, Brenda Luther thirteenonecoaching.com...

Things to Think About 1. Take supply of what is really critical in your life. How would you invest your time on the off chance that you had six months to live? How would you consider you relationship in an unexpected way? 2. Acknowledge trade off and endure the steady contrasts. Most content couples figure out how to live with huge contrasts about cash, in-laws, excursions, family errands, and so forth. Recognizing the contrasts between you doesn’t need to mean you concur with them. 3. Distinguish and separate your dissatisfactions. Disappointments originate from numerous sources, work, youngsters, school and so forth. Dissatisfactions can originate from the present and the past. Abstain from dumping dissatisfactions on your spouse that have a place some where else. Things to Do 4. Find your spouse doing something right. Search for spouse practices that are satisfying, and compliment your spouse when he or she does them. 5. Shock your spouse with astuteness. Utilize your knowledge of your spouse to satisfy him or her out of the blue. Permit your spouse to find your insightfulness by her or himself. Do not get angry if your spouse misses your effort. 6. Cut out “couple time” that your spouse will appreciate. Our occupied lives frequently fill up with errands and daily tasks. Take time to spend with your partner. Deal with Tense Moments 7. Before responding indignantly, count to ten. This old maxim really helps. Talk your point, however without outrage. Each expression of negative feelings takes five declarations of positive feelings to recapture a position of neutral feelings. 8. Arrange an alternative spot to talk about antagonistic issues. Moving from your standard area of contentions to an alternate room can move your contradictions enough to decrease negative sentiments and present new thoughts. 9. Take a time out. At the point when issues get heated, pleasantly declare a twenty-moment time out and after that come back with a cool tone and the aim to trade off. 10. When you know you have made a mistake, apologize. Few of us live with a spouse without committing a few errors. Concede your issue, say you’re sorry, and investigate methods for maintaining a strategic distance from the error later on. Listen with Your Heart 11. Give solutions and support. Feeling connected is a strong desire in a relationship. Numerous spouses look to soothe the disappointments of day by day life by imparting them to a spouse. Truly listening cultivates togetherness. Listen first. In the event that an answer jumps out at you say, “When you are prepared, dear, I have an answer that may be useful to you.” When your spouse is prepared, she or he will be more open to your thought. 12. Profoundly listen to your spouse. On an issue that is critical to your spouse, rehash your spouse’s words so he or she knows you are truly tuning in. Keep this up and when your spouse is done, say the three most difficult words in a relationship, “Is there more?” Continue listening...

The accompanying tips will help you achieve a personal growth mindset: 1. Quit justifying everything You don’t have to justify everything that you do. When you embrace another hobby or side interest, your loved ones will ask you for what valid reason you have done it. Keep in mind that you don’t have to offer any defense other than ‘because I want to!’ 2. Engage new individuals Search out and have discussions with individuals, and gatherings, whom you may not have invested time with beforehand. Approach these discussions with a receptive outlook and you will learn new things and have your own particular perspectives tested. This will help to spruce up your life and fortify your imagination. 3. Allow yourself to dream Each new escapade, or accomplishment, starts with a fantasy. Allow yourself to dream. Don’t put confinements on these fantasies. Your fantasies are a piece of your innovative self. In the event that you grasp them, you will open new open doors for self-development. When you recognize these opportunities, try them out. 4. Understand that you will never try your hardest Regardless of what you do, there will always be open doors for improvement. There are always chances to gain from your encounters and utilize the criticism to make strides. Consequently, you can never try your hardest however you can do the best that you can at any given moment, with the information and ability you have around. When you understand and acknowledge this, you understand that the judgements of others are superfluous. You can take comfort that you did the best you could around them and resolve to gain from the experience so you may improve. 5. Concentrate on the experience as opposed to the finished result There may be activities which you have avoided because you felt that you would not be any great at them. Ask yourself ‘Does it truly make a difference in the event that I am bad at it?’ The answer is ‘No’. You don’t have to be great at it, on the off chance that you appreciate it. You are not searching for a record deal or a professional sports contract. You are essentially searching for entertainment only. In the event that you concentrate on the experience instead of the deciding result, you will have a ton more fun and you may, unwittingly, discover something which you are really great at. 6. Attempt one new thing daily In the event that you focus on attempting one new thing consistently, you will have attempted 365 new things in one year. The shots of discovering something you like, appreciate or are great at are much higher. More importantly, you will rapidly build up a self-improvement mentality where you see challenges as opposed to issues, and you are unafraid to attempt new things. A self-awareness mentality allows you to tackle new difficulties, seeing only opportunities for fun and learning. There may be tough times ahead however when you have the right mentality, you are stronger. You accept that things will...

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Brenda Luther is a Professional Christian Life Coach with an Advanced Certificate in Christian Life Coaching and a Diploma in Christian Life Coaching. She is also a member of the Life Care Team at The Summit Church in Kernersville, NC and a member of AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors).