Remind him how hot he is.

Men have self-esteem issues too. “I’m not vain, but sometimes I need affirmations about my appearance. I always tell my girlfriend she’s beautiful, but she never returns the favor,” says Daniel, 29. “I don’t need to hear ‘I love you’ more, but a ‘You look handsome’ would be great.”

Lend a hand.

No, not that way (although he probably wouldn’t turn that down). We’re talking about using your hands for back scratching, shoulder rubbing and any other massaging techniques you can think of.

Make a grand gesture.

We women aren’t the only ones craving a little romance. “The coolest thing a girl has ever done was send me flowers. I was on a business trip for a week, and when I got to the room, they were waiting for me with a nice note,” says Darrel, 41. “I have no idea how she did it! But it’s 15 years later and I still haven’t forgotten it.”

Take charge.

Sometimes guys want to feel like the ones being dominated. “I really wish a woman would push my back against the wall, straddle me and then grind to climax,” says Michael, 29.

Relinquish control of the remote.

“I wish my girlfriend would learn to enjoy Sports Center so I don’t have to watch the damn Kardashians anymore,” says Corey, 23.

Pick up the tab.

“I wish she would treat me to a nice meal at a fancy restaurant,” says Wagner, 27. Men like to be wined and dined too, ladies.

Make some noise.

When you’re between the sheets, moan, breathe heavily, maybe even scream. “We want to feel like we’re doing a good job, and there’s nothing worse than someone who seems bored,” says Chad, 22. “We want to think we’re rocking your world and that you’re enjoying rocking ours.”

Plan the date for us.

Sick of the What Do You Want to Do game? So is he. “She always puts pressure on me to come up with great dates. I wish she would organize stuff for us to do once in a while,” says Mark, 25. “Take me out for a change!”

Give him oral sex.

Well, here’s a shocker: “You can never give enough blow jobs,” says Stefan, 24. For the record, just about every guy we talked to agreed.

Listen. No, really.

More than one man complained that women hear only what they want to hear during fights. “Be more understanding. A lot of times women don’t see things from a male perspective,” says Saeed, 35.

Go outside your comfort zone.

So you like foreign films and he likes fishing? Indulge him every once in a while. “I wish she were more outdoorsy! I love to go out and be active; she always wants to stay inside,” says Ryan, 22. Remember, this advice works for your sex life, too!