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Isn't the Knot for people getting married and not for people who are already married?

Did it occur to you that most of the people on here who are married might be a better source of wedding planning advice than people who have not gotten married yet? Would you ask for medical advice from someone who has never been to med school?

Plus, I tried to remove the question in hope to dissolve this discussion, but apparently you guys get some type of enjoyment by keeping this going, don't you have something better to do, like attend some meetings with your husbands or something.

LOL, H and I plan all of our meetings for Saturdays between 1-4pm, because meetings at any other time are invalid.

Also, you probably need to back away from the internet if you think the advice you were given here was in any way mean, snarky, or rude. You got a ton of advice, but clearly everyone is confused what the purpose of your post was, since you were dissatisfied with every single answer.

Isn't the Knot for people getting married and not for people who are already married?

The Knot provides great advice for those getting married, but it doesn't mean you have to abandon ship once you are a Mrs. I like to think of it like surgery ... you wouldn't want the newbie doing your surgery, so why would you want advice from people who have never been married?

Dear OP,Every wedding is different because every couple is different. They have different ideas, traditions, and their families do, too. The question you originally asked has no answer. Your FI goes to as many appointments as he needs/wants to attend.

All speshul snowflakes are alike. They all think that the rules of etiquette do not apply to them, and that it is perfectly OK to post a question on the Knot and then try to delete it (which is not possible). This idea is a mistake, and you called attention to your post when you tried to delete it.

The Knot is here to give good, unbiased, experienced advice to people planning weddings or vow renewals. It is not a platform for speshul snowflakes to have tantrums when posters disagree with them.

For the record, my FI has been very involved with planning. He's asked to go to every appointment, he picked napkin colors ans table runner colors, and what types of crystal. To some men a wedding is just as important, so don't suggest weddings aren't something men dream about.

Also, I think you sound incredibly childish and maybe you should ask for parental consent before you internet.

Naturally, I came for the fresh title. DDs are an opiate that lure me in.

I was bored and confused by the DD and its first couple of follow ups, but OP's trolly quips did at least provide a hint of amusement. I don't think I'd recommend her to a friend, though.

Asking if TK was supposed to be for engaged or marrieds kept her from advancing to a unique and interesting level.

ETA: Seriously, OP, I don't understand your question, either. There is no list of meetings or events the grooms "typically" attend. Some grooms care, and some don't. Some want to attend tastings and meetings with florists to discuss centerpieces, and some don't. My husband just wanted me to run things by him. Do you like this kind of food? What do you think of these invitations? What flavor cake do you want? Beyond that, I did everything myself. If your groom has said he'll attend whatever you want him to, then just ask him to go to whatever you want him to go to. Simple.

What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

Naturally, I came for the fresh title. DDs are an opiate that lure me in.

I was bored and confused by the DD and its first couple of follow ups, but OP's trolly quips did at least provide a hint of amusement. I don't think I'd recommend her to a friend, though.

Asking if TK was supposed to be for engaged or marrieds kept her from advancing to a unique and interesting level.

ETA: Seriously, OP, I don't understand your question, either. There is no list of meetings or events the grooms "typically" attend. Some grooms care, and some don't. Some want to attend tastings and meetings with florists to discuss centerpieces, and some don't. My husband just wanted me to run things by him. Do you like this kind of food? What do you think of these invitations? What flavor cake do you want? Beyond that, I did everything myself. If your groom has said he'll attend whatever you want him to, then just ask him to go to whatever you want him to go to. Simple.

My FI requested to go to every meeting including the florist. I'm planning everything (as I'm more organised) but it's his wedding too and wants to approve all decisions. Obviously. Particularly as he's picking up half the bill!