And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?

Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username:1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.

These first ones are mainly designed with a straight guy in mind. As covered in the roundup link of bad username ideas, avoid anything sexxxxy here. The sex comes later; you can’t frontload it in a username.

You WILL get laid eventually if you come off as a human and not a sexbot troll douchebag. Life is short and there are waaaay too many dudes online you’re competing with; you’ve got to find a way to stand out a bit more than this.

1998 is usually not compelling enough for the competitive ecosystem of online dating.

Pinot Grizzly – Maybe : Sounds playful with subtle word play; indicates that this user likes wine and has that Northwest-scruffy vibe (you know, like a bit too much stuff from Filson and a few days’ of stubble). : Could possibly signify “bear,” which is a slang term in the gay community for guys who are a bit hairier/less effeminate.it reflects that we have wildly different interests.I also tend to steer clear of ones that include their astrological sign. In those cases, I might not avoid them just based on what’s in their profile.I’ve had ever so many users come to me with usernames that either convey something totally off (wrong gender, for example) or just failed to help them stand out and shine.Your username, coupled with your profile picture, is the MOST visible thing in search results.

Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe; in China, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.