Five secret signs you’re a narcissist (and it’s bad news if you think most people like you)

Top life coach and personal development expert Carole Anne Rice has revealed the top 5 signs that someone is a narcissist

By Sophie Bronstein

25th May 2018, 6:21 pm

Updated: 26th May 2018, 4:51 pm

TOP life coach Carole Anne Rice has revealed the warning signs to look out for in your own behaviour - in order to recognise if you are a narcissist.

The personal development expert, who is renowned as one of the UK's leading life coaches, has released a video on YouTube that highlights how quick we are to label others' narcissistic behaviour - and not so quick to recognise our own.

Carole suggests 5 signs that you can look out for in your own life that identify whether you are guilty of narcissistic behaviour.

1. NO SELF AWARENESS

"If you’ve been told you’re unaware of yourself before, chances are you’re a
narcissist." says Carole. "Being genuinely bewildered as to why people don’t want to hang out with you and don’t return your calls, means you should look at yourself from a different point of view."

2. THINKING YOU'RE THE BEST

Carole explains; "There’s no shame in being proud of your accomplishments. But if you love everything you do and believe everything you say is correct over others’ views, you have a problem. Being number one in your own fan club doesn’t count – other people have to like and respect you, too."

"Assuming that everyone cares is a huge mistake. In reality, most people don’t care about who you are and what you’ve done unless they have a reason to. If you can’t tell by the unenthused looks on people’s faces while you’re boring them with your stories, people aren’t always interested. If you assume absolutely everybody is fascinated by you and everyone you meet is your willing audience, you’re a narcissist."

4. IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU

"Newsflash: other people exist!" warns Carole. "Talking about yourself all the time is not only boring for others, but it makes you seem like the most conceited person in the room. A good conversation is a two-way street. You can’t always have the attention shining on you and have the focus on how amazing you think you are. Starting every sentence with ‘I’ is terrible and a sure sign that you have narcissistic tendencies."

5. CHANGING THE SUBJECT

"We’ve all dealt with that person who brings themselves back into the conversation, even if it has nothing to do with them. It’s incredibly frustrating and makes you want to avoid them at all future social occasions. If you always have to bring the attention back to you, you’re a narcissist. Nobody cares that you think John’s holiday wasn’t as much fun as the one you had in 2003. You’re just not relevant to the conversation."