I know it's a bad, but I have a hard time letting the little things go. If Drew leaves his dirty laundry on the floor after I've asked him multiple times to put it in the hamper, I'll nag him until he picks it up. Or, I'll put it in the hamper myself and remind him multiple times throughout the night that he needs to be more responsible. After the sixth of seventh "reminder," he'll usually get angry enough to "fight" back...mission accomplished! I don't actually enjoy fighting, but whenever something escalates to a legitimate fight, I think Drew realizes how upset it makes me. Then he'll actually make an effort in the future to pick up his dirty laundry, leave the house on time so he won't get a grossly expensive ticket or show up to an event on time instead of 15 minutes late—just to name a few reasons we recently fought.

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Are you the one who instigates the fights with your guy? What do you typically argue about, and do you ever give up and let him win, or do you fight to the finish?__