Nov. 20, 2016 – Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

If I have freedom in my life,And in my soul am free,Angels alone that soar aboveEnjoy such liberty.— Richard Lovelace

When a cow decides to stop nursing her calf, she isn’t rejecting it. She knows it’s time for the calf to be on its own. Although the calf might feel rejected and puzzled at first, it soon adapts to its new independence and freedom.

When we feel rejected, it’s useful to remember that whatever has caused us to feel this way might have nothing to do with us. It might be a reflection of what’s happening with someone else, or just the end of a natural stage in life, as with the calf.

When we understand that others’ actions toward us come from their own feelings, and that we don’t cause their feelings any more than they control ours, we can free ourselves from a little bit of fear and self-hate. We can see what seems to be rejection as an open door, with our freedom on the other side.