(18-01-2015 08:30 PM)GingerJack Wrote: I found this thread, and I really regret it. I understand a need to vent, but this...

Not only is this pointing to a 13 year old boy and saying that his lack of emotional contact due to a mental illness he cannot control is driving the mother insane, but the implication that autism causes divorce. Why do we need to put more fuel on the fire for people to point to when they say people with autism are a problem? And you can't just say that it's the autism and pretend that the person is separate. They are together. This is like going up to someone who can't walk and say that you hate them being paraplegic because it causes you so much problems. How do you think they feel? What if your son read this? You do realize that he's going to develop and be able to understand this right? Autism isn't like being crippled, you learn to cope and adapt, just like any mental illness. You have to teach him that even though he doesn't want to, sometimes he has to do things he doesn't want to. That's what my mom did to me, and I'm doing a lot of things in my life, more than what most who aren't on the spectrum are.

Teaching proper coping skills is also key, teach him how to deal with his emotions when they bottle up. How to direct it in a positive manner. He's smart, you just got show him where to look. He's already trying to imitate the TV shows he watch, show him smarter shows and he'll pick up on them eventually.

And what gives you the right to lecture Moms on how to raise her son and how she should or shouldn't feel?

I'm sure raising anyone with a neurological disorder is very hard and can be very frustrating at times. That's not saying she doesn't love her son, that's just her being real and expression that sometimes she gets frustrated.

If you can't understand why someone would be frustrated occasionally given that situation than you haven't been through it and so shouldn't lecture other people on how they should and shouldn't go through it.

Oh, and fuck you.

Fucking well said mate. As a kid with autism, I confirm you nailed it.

That said, anyone on the outside looking in cannot possibly understand, especially if they don't have kids themselves. I just look at comments like this as misguided.

"I don't mind being wrong...it's a time I get to learn something new..."

Me.

N.B: I routinely make edits to posts to correct grammar or spelling, or to restate a point more clearly. I only notify edits if they materially change meaning.