I don't have the guts to make it clear that I'm not interested in a guy. It's hard to say, "I'm not attracted to you because..."

If I don't like the guy at all, then I just ignore his calls until he gets the message. If I like the guy as a friend, then it gets tricky. I've had "friends" who tried to kiss me and I turned my face away. After that, they usually understand that I'm not interested sexually, although some guys can be persistent.

I've met a handful of people off the internet (even 14 years ago before it was cool/acceptable). My safety has never been compromised, even though there was no ID trade.

First, you need to spend some online time with the person. You can get a good feeling for someone that way. If they creep you out online, they will likely creep you out MORE in person.Second, spend some time on the phone. That's a good way to get to know someone a bit better.And finally, it is best for first meetings to take place in public.

I'd just like to take this opportunity to remind you how I feel about you. You are just so great, smart, funny, romantic, thoughtful, trustworthy, and exciting. And if you're not wealthy yet, you certainly deserve to be, given how great you are!

Your admirer and/or stalker,

NYF

Ah, finally, my very own stalker. I've waited so long for this moment.

A guy that is "trying too hard" is a guy that is constantly telling us right from the early stages of knowing him, just how great, smart, funny, romantic, thoughtful, trustworthy, wealthy and/or exciting he is and why we should be thoroughly impressed that he has bestowed his attentions upon us. Along with that little bit of "shopping channel" style urgency... 'better snap me up before some other woman does.'