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What I do with my kids is none of YOUR business.

I was watching my friends son, and he told me he smoked pot when he was 6, he is now 9. I asked his mother if this was true and she responded with 'what I do with my kids is none of your business'. So I explained to her it becomes my business when he is saying this in MY house in front of MY 3yo. She claims she did not enable the pot smoking, and I believe her but it still has me dumbfounded why she would tell me it's none of my business if she didn't enable it.

Well...in my case it is actually my business. Quite literally. I am a social worker. Any child who ingests illegal chemicals or harmful substances - that is considered abuse. I am obligated by law to report it to the appropriate authorities. How those responding agencies act is up to them. But no, I can't ignore it. Friend, family member, or patient...information like that is not for me to ignore. And honestly, I don't know of any friend I keep who would find it amusing or acceptable to let a child smoke or be around pot while it is being smoked. Any adult who tells me defensively to mind my own business knows straight up what comes next. I tell them. And then whatever happens happens.

Well, I think that she was being defensive, maybe she knew it happened ( who knows by who) and she is embarrssed by it! BUT you have ever right to say something not justb/c it is in your house, but b/c it concerns a minor!