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There is a BIG difference between a momentarily difficult partner and a chronically difficult partner. Difficult people have bad days, weeks, or moments that are related to stress and life events. Sometimes, a bad mood or temporary hormone imbalance makes that difference. A chronically difficult partner, though, is often–if not always–difficult. You walk on eggshells…

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Please meet my dear friend Dr. Rhoberta Shaler who is highly health aware and a master at navigating people through relationship dynamics like no other I know and from a very unique and empowering perspective. She is especially gifted at working with spouses, partners, exes and colleagues of relentlessly difficult people. You can see her accomplishments at http://forrelationshiphelp.com.

I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.

I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.

Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.

I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.

I have set some boundries –…

V.Eastern Europe

Dr. Shaler, you have just described my previous life!!! I was married to a hijackal for almost 20 years and left 10 years ago. It has taken me 10 years to recover, but I did. Where were you 10 years ago??? I so hope you can help others who feel trapped and crazy as I did. Thank you!

Christa DavisYoutube viewer

I found Dr. Shaler to be very knowledgeable with many solutions to relationship challenges.

Sal

I’m so relieved. I’ve been to several [sic:counselors] who sided with my crazy-making partner. Finally, someone who gets it, knows the feeling, sees the problem, and has helped me take positive steps.

Cindi

Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.

Bill

I thought of you many times over the last period of time.

I want to express my thank you to you as you helped me very much in a period of time that was difficult for me and when I had no knowledge nor methods to overcome them alone.

Further more, I’ve read some of your books and conversations with you stimulated wonderful work on myself, which is ongoing.

Thank you so much.

T.T. Switzerland

Thanks to you, I saw a pattern and realized I was being manipulated. After a very abusive day yesterday I ended the relationship. Thank you for the strength my friend.

FB Group member

My partner offered me your video.. however, i am mind boggled that it is her that is the Hijackal.. it all makes sense to me right now.. i always knew that she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and i am always to blame.. and eventually i started to believe her as i love her .. Oh my god! your video is incredible and enlightening.. i feel secure again within myself.

FB Group member

I love you Rhoberta Shaler; you have given me such power, inner strength, wisdom and invaluable insights. Thank you!