I was inside a roofed beach house that had an open wall facing the water. I was lying down on a towel dressed in a swimsuit with sunglasses. There were a couple men standing on a deck outside the beach house. An old, quirky man wearing a Hawaiian shirt and beach hat was about to take a photo of me exposed in my swimsuit. The man next to him said I wouldn’t let him take a photo of me in my swimsuit. I laid down instead of sat up so my body or face wouldn’t be in full view in the photo. I don’t know why I was thinking I wasn’t as concerned about having the photo taken (because I would be concerned in waking life). I saw the man in the Hawaiian shirt with his camera walk to a male doctor in back of the beach house who was romantically interested in me in the recent past. They were friends. Then, the dream might have changed to me having my own medical practice on the top floor of the same building he worked in. I was being careful not to bump into him in the building.

Would I like to be a doctor like he’s a doctor? Yes. I don’t know if that’s what the dream is about. Am I interested in this doctor? No.

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Becky,
I am working on your dream and have the most of the images and actions interpreted. I need to analyze it more to determine what the primary message is and will have that Monday. What I have come up with thus far has more to do with sheltering inner vulnerabilities or emotional issues that need conscious attention and healing. The dream seems to be pointing to this in detail. What is not clear is what the issues may be. It may have to do with perceptions you have of a male or men and may be related to past experiences. is there anything about this particular male doctor that you reject/dislike? Often known people in a dream possess traits or qualities you identify with in either a positive or negative way. Is there other males in your past {photo} that would fit with that? It may take other dreams to get to the source of the rejected aspects related to males and issues of vulnerabilities within your psyche. The dream is dealing with deeper issues than just the doctor you consciously know and have rejected.

He's controlling or makes sarcastic comments to control you. I am afraid of a man controlling me. I don't want that. I'm also not physically attracted to him. The only thing I can think that we may have in common is he's picky and I'm picky like a perfectionist. In fact, I was wondering why he liked me since I have shown my pickiness at times, but maybe he can relate to that.

I also didn't like how he talked about lower class of people. He'd say "We" as in he and I are better than others. Something I didn't disclose to him is that I'm in the lower class of people or not as successful as him professionally because I'm poor. I don't know if he would no longer like me if he knew that.

Becky,
The issues of control. When was the earliest time you began to have these feelings. Was your father the controlling type? Or a past relationship when you were younger? This doctor may be a man you reject because of his attitude but the deeper issues may be related to early or early life experiences {a usual thing in all our lives}. The dream language, "inside a roofed beach house' can be interpreted as sheltering an emotional issue. I;'ve not yet finished my interpretation of all the images and actions but I will post what I have so you can inspect them. I am beginning to sense a pattern related to vulnerabilities and unyielding masculine aspects {inner aspects as well as possible actual male relationships}. I'll provide a final analysis tomorrow. If you have other comments please post them. The more I know the more I can provide about your personal experiences {with what little I know from a posted dream I normally can only provide an outline of the emotional energies and not specific personal experiences.

Dream Title: Photo
-reflections from your past that denote who you are in the present {emotionally}

Dream
-inside a roofed beach house-sheltering an emotional issue
-open wall facing the water-need for conscious recognition of unconscious aspects
-lying down in towel dressed in swimsuit with sunglasses-being blind and submitting to vulnerabilities
-were a couple of men standing on a deck outside beach house-a need to confront assertive/conflicting masculine experiences/aspects
-old, quirky man wearing Hawaiian shirt/beach hat-unconscious unyielding masculine aspects
-take of a photo of me exposed in swimsuit-exposing perceptions of vulnerabilities
-man next to him-masculine aspects related to known male
-said I wouldn't let him take a photo of me in swimsuit-inner masculine aspects not allowed to conscious view of vulnerabilities
-laid down instead of sat up-submitting and substituting
-so body or face wouldn't be in full view of photo-not aware reflections of conscious identity/self worth
-wasn't concerned about having photo taken-consciously believing there would be anxieties from past experiences

Anonymous,
There it is. Your desire to be in control of your life stems from childhood and experiences and influences from the environment you grew up. What drives is the unconscious energies related to your childhood. This is all so common, we all are products of early life experiences and influences. It was once thought that infants and toddlers were born with a blank slate and had little capacity to learn. Now we know {scientifically} that even in the earliest years of life {even in the womb} the psyche picks up on its surrounding environment and stores it for future reference. The early life experiences become motivators for personality and personal attitudes throughout life. Unless the negative aspects are realized and resolved, they take control of conscious actions and unconsciously drive the person. As much common sense as it is anything. Especially since we do now know that the infant's psyche is capable of learning more in this stage of life than perhaps any other. This is from raisingchildren.net- Child Development: The First Five Years

The first five years of a child’s life are critical for development. The experiences children have in these years help shape the adults they will become. More than anything else, your relationship with your child shapes the way your child learns and develops.

Then there is Jung's archetypes. Just as all living things come with a set guide of instructions in life, so too do all humans. The turtle knows from instinctive drive to go directly to the water upon hatching. The new born infant's first inclination is to be held at the mother's breast for nourishment and security. Archetypes generally serve as composites or standardized templates of what a certain role or identity is or, conversely, should be. When this is not provided the unconscious energies that come with birth begin to sense an imbalance of what is natural. It is to the determent of the growth of the child when these expected experiences in conscious life are withheld or non-existent. The psyche begins life with a negative presence and remains that way until a resolution is found and provided. For you the father who was over whelming controlling is a motivator for your actions in adult life. Different psyches can react differently from to the same stimuli but in every instance the influences of early life becomes controlling agents for later life actions. Not a strange concept once you understand the human psyche{ology}.

I'll comment more either later today or tomorrow {have another dream to analyze}.

I don't know why I would have this dream about the doctor now. I haven't seen him recently. Does this dream have anything to do with my desire to become a doctor since I have been thinking more about it lately.

Becky,
Any experience that possesses more than normal emotional energies and presents some type of inner conflict is capable of being a topic in your dreams. I don't believe this dream is primarily about this doctor as it is about inner masculine issues. The experience with this doctor stimulated past unresolved emotions that need your attention. The issue of controlling men is the primary theme from the dream.

As for your question about being a doctor. If it is an emotional issue {thinking about something you truly desire would be an emotional issue} it will come up at sometime in your dreams until the issue is resolved. It could be your desire to be a doctor but believing it was impossible because of the length of time it takes to do so restricts your ability could play into the equation. If it is a great desire, one the soul desires, that makes it even more of an emotional issue. We all have 'epic' desires that go to the core of our creative and spiritual self. Mine is working and analyzing dreams {I have always been interested in psychology but never took action about it until I was 42 and began my journey in study/learning Jungian psyche}. Being a topic of thought alone is enough to make it a subject in your dreams but not as the primary topic but as a resource related to your past relationship with this male doctor and the issue of control.

One other aspect of the dream, one that seems to be related to your desires of becoming a doctor but still addressing the need for inner healing {related to the issue of controlling males/masculine-anima aspects}. The dream ends with a 'stipulation'. The dream language, "Then, the dream might have changed to me having my own medical practice on the top floor of the same building he worked in" points to changes within you. Your own medical practice on the surface would seem to be about being a doctor and could be addressing needed changes in attitude to do so {overcoming the obstacle of time to become a doctor}. But I still see this as a part of the message about inner healing. Your own medical practice would be your need to heal yourself. What you can not do is "not to bump into him in the building". That would be statement of fact in your opinion about this particular doctor. But the building is symbolic of your physical and mental self and would point to the need to not let the issue of controlling masculine aspects get in your way of healing {as well as actually becoming a doctor}. Dreams contain literal representations of actual waking life people and experiences. But the primary language is symbolic and metaphorical. You have to go to the symbolic representation to understand the true message of any dream. The literal representations are a part of the dream message but the underlying emotional energies are related to those issues as well as the deeper issues represented by the symbolic meaning/application. In your Dream Submission for you mention having contact with plastic surgeons which would suggest you have had deep thoughts on the subject of becoming a doctor. The dream message is two fold {as are all dreams}. Your negative opinion of this doctor may have played into your desire of becoming a doctor. Secondly this doctor would represent the inner issues of controlling men {as was the early life experience with your 'overwhelmingly' controlling father which is the foundations your psyche carries the rest of your life}. The experience with this doctor illustrates the early life experience and because you have again begun to think about becoming a doctor your dream would take of the matter pointing to all the issues and experiences in your contemplating in becoming a doctor.