Friday, January 21, 2011

The Significant Other Blogfest!!!

Talli Roland and DL Hammons have really out done themselves this round with The significant other blog fest(make sure to check out the other entrants!). They were smart to ask us to ask someone special in our live's to share the light on what it's like to be married/related to a writer.

I'm so glad that my husband said yes. He's amazing, and this is why I love him.

The @$#% My Wife Says…

“You know how I told you…” This is the opening to a conversation that my wife is going to have with herself, that I am going to be privileged to listen to for the next 20 minutes. It doesn’t matter if I was present for the last idea she had, all that matters is we are deviating or building from the last conversation she had with a character in her head. These 20 minutes are a glimpse into her mind. This is when I am glad that I speak her language, “Jen”.

“Oh, nothing, I just had an idea…” Jen’s response to me when I ask what she is thinking when she looks like she is a thousand miles away. The next 15 minutes are spent in a monologue (occasional pauses for my “uh-huh” or “yeah” while she catches her breath) telling me about an idea as it is still growing. It’s a little (not a little, it is) all over the place. I usually get lost in the middle but she’ll get me caught up by the end. She goes from deep in thought to overly excited in matter of minutes.

“Sorry, I talked so much…” she ends nearly every conversation over 15 minutes this way. What she doesn’t know, even when I tell her, is I really enjoyed hearing what is going on in her mind. The conversations, and thoughts she has in her head aren’t a part of my life until she lets me in. The crazy dreams, the constant writing down of ideas, the emotional roller coaster I get all that, so I’m glad to be a part of the inner workings as well.

Lucky gal to have a man who not only puts up with your writerliness, but even enjoys it! It's such a great boon to any writer when family is not only tolerate, but, even more important, supportive and encouraging.

This is true love. I used to leave my diary around, hoping my (ex)husband would be interested enough to want to know my thoughts. He certainly didn't want any part of them in real life, perhaps in print he would take a glance. No such luck. Thus, the 'ex.'

Jen, nice to hear from your guy. And how great he's so supportive. I wonder what my husband would do if I talked about my book thoughts that long. Though maybe I have, but I'm clueless about it. I know I've done it about school stuff.

That is SO me! My poor husband asks me all the time what I'm thinking and I"m always like, "about a book." He now knows that it's one of MINE, not someone else's and it's my favorite thing in the world when he lets me talk it all out.