Serious lack of balls

I have no balls to when it comes to calling a girl and asking her on a date...

I met this girl earlier this semester at a party and have ran into her a bunch of times since then. In the beginning I wasn't really attracted to her but now I think I am. I am pretty sure she at least used to like me... she asked me for my number instead of me asking for hers, and when I first met some of her friends they were like "I've heard a lot about you from Sarah."

So, now finals are finishing up and everyone's going back home. I last ran into this girl at a party last week. We barely talked there, but I was a bit drunk and having too much fun with my friends really. I sent her a message on myspace to see when she's going home and suggesting we hang out before she leaves, but I need to call her obviously some time and make final arrangements. I'm just the biggest pussy though when it comes to calling girls.

Seriously, today I kept putting off calling this girl and now, instead of being with this girl tonight I'm thinking about how big of a vagina I am. All day today in my mind I'm like "I'll call her at 3," then 3 rolls around "I'll call her at 4," then 4 rolls around, "I'll call her at 5," etc...

I'm the same way. Usually I'll look at the girls number in my cell phone thinking about what I'm gonna say and just really being a puss about it. I end up just pushing the call button and thinking its ringing so I can't hang up now.

There isnt much we can do to help you. I remember being nervous and what not and your personal self has to do it yourself. Mentally though what have you got to lose? Some self-esteem for 30 seconds? I personally feel like I lose more by knowing for the rest of my dieing life that I quit on myself when I had a chance...

Just do it. I often get cold feet before calling a girl, but it all goes away when she answers. I have no idea why, but my nervousness about it peaks just when the phone is ringing but instantly goes away as soon as she picks up.

It takes a lot of the pressure off if you tell her (and yourself) that you're going to be doing X, and you just thought you'd call to see if she'd like to come along. Even better if it's some casual, mundane activity like christmas shopping. Mentally, that's a lot easier to deal with than "I would like to formally ask you whether or not you would be interested in being my date on friday night at 7pm."

I have no balls to when it comes to calling a girl and asking her on a date...

I met this girl earlier this semester at a party and have ran into her a bunch of times since then. In the beginning I wasn't really attracted to her but now I think I am. I am pretty sure she at least used to like me... she asked me for my number instead of me asking for hers, and when I first met some of her friends they were like "I've heard a lot about you from Sarah."

So, now finals are finishing up and everyone's going back home. I last ran into this girl at a party last week. We barely talked there, but I was a bit drunk and having too much fun with my friends really. I sent her a message on myspace to see when she's going home and suggesting we hang out before she leaves, but I need to call her obviously some time and make final arrangements. I'm just the biggest pussy though when it comes to calling girls.

Seriously, today I kept putting off calling this girl and now, instead of being with this girl tonight I'm thinking about how big of a vagina I am. All day today in my mind I'm like "I'll call her at 3," then 3 rolls around "I'll call her at 4," then 4 rolls around, "I'll call her at 5," etc...

What the fuck is wrong with me?!

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i only read the first line of your post and thought: If you don't have the balls to CALL her, how the fuck will you ever make a move on her while on the date... just fuckin call her stop being a pussy.

"Hey, What's up. i haven't talked to you in so long. Mike's was so fun that time etc. we should chill sometime!" blah blah...

There are many people in this world that have difficulty in calling and talking to someone they are attracted to...this is not unusual. If you are nervous about it, then use a different mode of communication.........such as emails.

With emails you can take your time to properly communicate exactly what it is you want to say to her. Thus, ask her for her email address. You can do this by simply saying..."Hey, I've got a good (joke, picture, story...whatever) I want to send to you...what's your email address?"

Just don't tell her on your very first email that you have a big chubby for her and then ask her if she swallows? Save that for the second one....

take it from me... DO IT you'll never know what will happen... let me walk you through it this one time... be a MAN

call her and be like this.... hey whats up, she'll be like not much or whatever and be like... i called you to tell you that im taking you out tonight, to __________ , tell her what to wear, and be like also its imparitive for you to bring something that is small but important to you.... make that shit mysterious, she'll be really eager to find out what is going on. when she shows up with the important thing, just be like wow i can't believe you brought that i was just kidding, and have that as a running joke the rest of the night.... just man up and do it