Monogamy Redefined

COLT (Left) We met in 2010 on Twitter. His picture was cute, so I started chatting with him. I was doing an appearance at View Bar. That’s what I do a lot—travel to bars and strip down to underwear and dance. I said, “Why don’t you come and say, Hi? ” I never do that.

PORTER I got there right at the beginning. I said, “Hey,” and he was like, “Do I know you?” I was, like, “Bitch, you told me to come here.” And then he remembered. We went into the basement and proceeded to make out. He had a scene the next day, so we couldn’t have sex. The next time we saw each other was at a convention the following month, and that’s when I knew I liked him. When I had to leave, I was bummed I was going back to New York and he was going to San Francisco. I didn’t know when I would see him again. I tweeted that I wanted to move. And he responded that his roommate had moved out. The next month, I moved in with him. But there was this guy there he was dating that he met the day before I met him. I was like, Damn.

COLT I didn’t know that he had those intentions! I couldn’t have sex with a roommate. That’s a good policy! But every time we’d go out of town and do appearances together, we would have sex the entire time.

PORTER We’d go home and act like it didn’t happen. A couple of months later, he broke up with the guy, and I was secretly, like, Yes! At Folsom, we hooked up with this couple together.

COLT It was romantic, it really was. We had anonymous strangers abusing us, but we were having an intimate moment. Then, we went to HustlaBall in Berlin, and that’s when we really started to like each other. The heterosexual view of being faithful is so outdated. We don’t have to have sex only with each other to be faithful. I’m completely faithful to him, emotionally and with my heart. I can still get gang-banged and want to go back home to him.

PORTER We didn’t want monogamy. We knew that wouldn’t work. We’re both horny all of the time. We have rules. We don’t hook up with someone if we’re in the same city without the other one being involved. But if he’s out of town, I’ll hook up with someone. I’ll call and be like, “Is that OK?” We’re honest and communicate.