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Ok so I’ll go to like a club, meet some girls, ask for numbers, and they give them to me. Not all the time of course, but often they won't pick up or return a message. Just wondering why they would give me their numbers in the first place? Their real numbers because I can tell by the voice mails. Why not just tell me when I ask for it, "no thanks I’m not interested" or something? It would save me time and I wouldn’t mind at all.

as for the not answering part, in hindsite they may not even remember you all that well, maybe it was a spur of the moment thing, i once had a girl tell me that she had a boyfriend and made a mistake giving me her number, i'm like alright...

dont sweat it bro, keep working the line

ohh, and btw, work on your game so that you dont ask for numbers, they offer it to you. (unless they are the really really really shy type, but then, would you really want a girl like that?)

Maybe their too drunk to remember they gave their number out? Beats me. I know if i met a guy out in public, whether be in a club, a store, on the street, whatever, i would only give my number if i was interested in getting to know them. Only way i would give a fake number if he won't take no for an answer.

It sucks when someone is not interested back but think of it this way, there's plenty of other fishys in the sea to pick from. If one doesn't bite, there's always another.

Thanks for the advice. Actually girls have offered me their numbers before. I usually don't call them tho because I find when this happens their usually drunk and I feel their only offering up their numbers because of their current state of mind and I don’t want to take advantage of girls who are drunk. Sounds kinda strange huh. Maybe I should call them? I mean they would be sober the next day to answer my call anyway right.

And I try to judge the situation. I don’t ask girls who are really drunk for their numbers. I even turn down those let’s leave together invitations. I guess I do it mostly cause I would prefer a girl to actually be interested in me. I talk about this all the time with my friend and she thinks this behaviour of mine is really wierd lol

If you get the voice mail leave a really fun message. I'm assuming you were fun, funny, exciting when you met them right? In the moment they liked you. But then the next day that moment is gone. You need to restart it. Play off of what you were joking about the night before. Imagine if you were teasing a girl at a club about being, I don't know, a princess, and she was into the joke. Leave a message like "My majesty bla bla bla..." That's a little lame. You know what I mean.

Then some give the number to blow you off. Whatever. It is a crapshoot. Always call. And do what I suggest. Interested or not they rarely pick up. Do what I suggest and she if you get more returns.

they give you their number cos they dont want to be rude. seriously, you wouldnt believe how many women are concerned with seeming like that. i know women who have slept with guys cos they didnt want to be rude!

and then, when you actually ring, and they dont want to talk to you, they come across as...

rude.

of course every one's different, but that's why a lot of guys ended up with my number!

You guys don't realize the conditioning us women get when it comes to manners and speaking up with men. You also don't realize that a woman's life experience is ALWAYS colored, to some degree, by the men in her life that have had a temper problem or have scared her to some degree with their strength. Or simply the power a man has in a social, work or personal relationship. That male strength is the key to why we do this thing with our phone numbers (in my opinion only of course!).

I say all this to make you think of it this way: women will just give in and give you a number (not always hers) just to avoid flat out and directly telling a guy NO. We give in and do it because of our past experiences with men. Men getting angry. Men turning rude and nasty on us if we reject them. Men acting as if they have the RIGHT to our number. Etc. etc.

There are many reasons for this and I think if you look at it from the view of us at 30, and the sheer number of times we've had interactions with men and how ugly some of those interactions turned, then you just might get a better understanding of why we give in and give you a number.

If we give it to you then you won't be rude to us, insult us or continue to bug us if your attention is unwanted. It's easier than saying NO YOU CAN'T HAVE MY NUMBER.

Ok so I’ll go to like a club, meet some girls, ask for numbers, and they give them to me. Not all the time of course, but often they won't pick up or return a message. Just wondering why they would give me their numbers in the first place? Their real numbers because I can tell by the voice mails. Why not just tell me when I ask for it, "no thanks I’m not interested" or something? It would save me time and I wouldn’t mind at all.

They are too polite to say "no, I don't want you to call me" but are afraid if they give you a fake number they'll have to run into you again someday and explain it. So they give it out and screen it. At least that's what my friends do.