We don't actually know who the guy is, and the photos of him aren't exactly crystal clear, but that didn't stop several outlets from claiming him to be Kristen's former director and affair-haver Rupert Sanders and declaring disaster. Other places are saying he's just a valet driver (perhaps with an unfortunate resemblance) and there was no contact with Sanders, so there might be no need to be pointing fingers here. Move along, folks.

But that's the problem, isn't it? Even if it's totally innocent (and I think or at least hope it is), it's a harsh reminder of the ripple effect that cheating can have, and why it might be so hard to move past even if you want to forgive the person. There's a certain level of suspicion that always follows a cheater. And even if their significant other has found a way past it, that doesn't mean the rest of the world has. Sure, the average former cheater doesn't have paparazzi trailing their ever move, but that doesn't mean they'd be without scrutiny. Distrusting family and friends would be keeping an eye out for any shady behavior, and you can bet they'd be reporting back. And when you're cautiously rebuilding trust, it can't be fun to have any kind of doubt thrust in your face.

Oof. Hopefully Rob is feeling secure enough to brush this one off, but I'm glad I'm not in either of their shoes right now.

Would you be extra cautious of monitoring the behavior of someone who cheated on a friend in the past? What do you make of the pictures of Kristen and the mystery guy?