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Monday, December 3, 2012

Mondays with Martha

We're in the Holiday Season. It's a wonderful time of the year. Enjoy yourself and stay positive. Love may be just around the corner. But if it's taking a little longer, Don't settle! In the meantime, have fun being single.

Martha

5 Reasons You’re Doing a Really Good Job Dating

Here
are some great things about dating: Amazing first kisses and hearing
the ‘text received’ noise and seeing it is actually is from your crush.

Here are some hard things about dating: Being stood up, feeling
frustrated that you haven’t met someone in a while and not having a
steady significant other to take to a wedding.In case the cons of dating are outweighing the pros for you right now
(and it is a cycle), here is some encouragement that you’re doing a
great job. If this doesn’t work, then may we refer you to a calming manatee?1You’re not worried about the ‘what ifs.’

What if you had gone on a third date with that guy you were lukewarm
on? What if you had gone to that party instead of staying in to read a
book? The answers do not matter. You’re asking questions like, Should I
text this guy I met at yoga? And, Should I switch to all-natural
shampoo?2You know what you want–even if you aren’t getting it.

People are going to judge you no matter what your answer is to, ‘Do
you want a boyfriend?’ Don’t let them. You’ll never reach your goal if
you don’t know what it is.3You’re keeping an open mind.

No defeatist proclamations about there being no good single people
left and how you’re going to die alone. Just because the last date
didn’t work out, doesn’t mean the next one won’t. You’re going to put on
your cute dress and go out on that first date, even if you’re dreading
it just a tiny bit.4You’re doing a pretty good job getting over your ex

Sometimes, in the middle of your day, you’ll just stop in your tracks
and a memory of him will come flooding back. Something kind he said or
something terrible he did, it doesn’t matter. He’s kind of haunting you
but you’re still looking forward.5You are not your dating life

Your highest highs and lowest lows seem to all have to do with
romance but you’re a lot more than what’s going on in that one
department of your life. You have friends you go out with, you really
love this new band and you just started a new project at work. All
together it doesn’t seem so bad after all.by Nikki Metzgar