A.Levesque #29 - Good People Are Good, And Bad People, Well...

I am Ashley Levesque.
I am on a mission to help people grow and change the way they think, so they too can find happiness.

One of the best things you can do is surround yourself with people who are good. Let me define this for you, in my personal opinion...

Good people are those who have a set of values to start with.
They never compromise their beliefs to be popular, or to go with the crowds.
They are honest (always, not just when it is easy).
They do what is just, not just what they believe is right.
They stand up for themselves.
They stand up for others who cannot stand up for themselves.
They realize that problems can not be fixed in a day, but know that progress takes place every single day.
They are not judging you but listening to you.

I have always considered myself a GOOD person. When you think about yourself, you are likely thinking the same thing I used to.

Now let's be realistic, everyone steals their first cigarette from their mama. We spend our teenage years lying and manipulating our parents. Being BAD was kind of appealing. If this is not something that resonates, I am so happy for you. But if you were like me, I watched people I knew and associated with that were not good people. I followed them like sheep. I made bad decisions and hung out with the wrong crowd. These people are everywhere and in every facet of life.

Then I joined the Air Force.

The very first thing you are taught is your core values.Integrity First, Service before Self, and Excellence in All We Do.
These core values are beaten into your head day in and day out.

Do you know what integrity is?
According to dictionary.com, Integrity is the adherence to moral and ethical principles, soundness of moral character and honesty. I learned at this moment in my life if I was going to be something different I was going to have to change myself.

I decided from this point on I was going to change. Honesty, Service, and Excellence were what I wanted to be and I saw the immediate effects of making such a dramatic change in my life. This is where my tipping point took place.

This is when I started holding myself accountable. I started changing my behavior a little at a time (because this is actually the hardest part), and the changes took place. It did not happen overnight, but this is where it started. I started seeing the people I had associated with disappear out of my life because I started expecting more from myself and everyone around me.

Over time of making choices based on my true belief system of being a good person, my whole life was completely different in a matter of 5 years, 10 years, and who knows where my life will take me. I am surrounded by loving people who work together for common goals of happiness. Every day things happen that show me real happiness.

You have a choice every day to be a good person. It is a decision that you make.

I love the song Luke Bryan - Most People Are Good. If you start believing that people are good, you will find the people that are good. If you expect certain behavior, then the people who are not good in your life will begin to disappear. Happiness is possible, but not if your values are not in alignment with things that create happiness.

These people can be your spouse, parent, friends, family, co-workers, and even people who do not even know you personally. I have found that so many people know what I expect from people who are around me that it deters bad people from associating themselves with me.

From my personal experience once you start expecting a certain behavior, and start cutting out the people who do not adhere to your standard you will find yourself happier and happier every single day.

It's all about accountability for yourself and others.
You have to be GOOD, and you have to expect people to be GOOD.

If you think someone could benefit from hearing this, please share it. Every day, I am flooded with people who say that they like to read what I am writing. I've had people call, message, and stop me just to let me know what they think about my writing. I love sharing, I love helping, and I think that we can all make a difference by helping everyone get happy.

I have spent so much of my life being miserable. I have watched people I love and look up to also being miserable most of their lives. I watch and listen to social media and the television. It is so miserable.

I found a way to be happy.
I watched people very close to me find a way to be happy.
Now I want to show you that you can be happy too. IT IS POSSIBLE.

Comments

I love this so much. This is what I try to tell the girls over and over, surround yourself with good people and the people that are not good you do not want to be part of your life!!! I just wish it didn't make us feel lonely when you feel like there is no one left to be around 😕 And you meet someone good and they up and move away 😜

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