talk about a huge mistake- i recently was completely enamored of a guy from a nearby Ivy who seemed perfect- valedictorian, frat boy, jock...we had sex on the first date. i DEFINITELY got the "puppy dog eyes". good way to put it.

i didn't think it was a big deal because we both wanted it and we would cuddle in bed for hours afterwards...he brought me to his frat's cocktail party...

only to find out a month later that he had been seeing other people. when i asked him about it, he said he thought i was a whore from day one and hoped he taught me a lesson about how to behave with guys!

Tell him you were only interested in his ....... and not in him acting like one

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talk about a huge mistake- i recently was completely enamored of a guy from a nearby Ivy who seemed perfect- valedictorian, frat boy, jock...we had sex on the first date. i DEFINITELY got the "puppy dog eyes". good way to put it.

i didn't think it was a big deal because we both wanted it and we would cuddle in bed for hours afterwards...he brought me to his frat's cocktail party...

only to find out a month later that he had been seeing other people. when i asked him about it, he said he thought i was a whore from day one and hoped he taught me a lesson about how to behave with guys!

Ivy leauge guy, most of them act this way. At least all the ones I have met or have done this to my friends in the past. I'm sry to hear he did that to you.

And Green, no worries, and thanks ^_^

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I wouldn't have sex with someone on a first date that I could see myself having a potential relationship with. It was several months of dating before my current partner and I had sex for the first time.

If its just a good time and you dont see anything serious forming and the attraction is there then I don't see anything wrong with a roll in the hay.

You've just described why you should NOT have sex with someone, not why you should.

yea sex on the first date, is just a BAD idea. You don't want to risk your life for sex..with a stranger! I've done this once, and it ended up being a 3 year relationship.. for me it worked out, but i'd NEVER do that again!

Lol...I have met men that I considered having sex with on the first date....mainly because I was NOT interested in seeing him again

Hahahah, i couldnt agree more. I think sometimes if someone is so hot to us...why not.... i have played good girl and not gone "there" and never heard from them again...now i figure, forget it...if i am using safer sex techniques...why not scratch that itch (as someone else put it, lol, i loved it)...and sometimes you still hear from them, then you get to perfect technique

i also have to say, every time i read this title of this thread all i can think of is "PLEASE!"

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Until I turned 35, I must have been seeing the wrong kinds of women, cause I never had sex on the first date (and well, technically, I'm not dating now since 'Friends with Benefits' isnt dating). I put 6 yrs of my life into a relationship that went nowhere (no sex, not even 'heavy petting'). Throughout my 20s, I would have been among those that said 'Waiting to have sex is good'. Now that I'm older, I'm more 'Eh, sex on the first date couldn't be worse than 6 yrs of celibacy'. Life is too short.

'Course, I must be the odd fellow out cause even having sex with someone, I still form something of an emotional bond. Not really a 'no-strings attached' sort of fella.

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