Sir, my father is a 64 year old retired govt. Officer. A false women has filed 4 cases againest my father to get money and even the court is taking her help. My family is in a very big problem. That women is harrassing us. Sir plz help me pls help. My phone no. Is 7599123067

sir please help me… i am from tripura….. i am suffer by a girl who mentally presure me day by day….. we are relationship by 5 years….. but now a days i am facing problem… she always therting me….. she alwys spek wth me slang language………i am suffer a lot……. now you advise me wht i do?

Hi Sir,
I am satheeshkumar.Ch working as software consultant in Bangalore.I belongs to andhra pradesh.Sir, I’m facing a serious problem.Sir, I got married on Feb 6th 2017.My wife name is Roopa she is also software engineer in hyderabad.Second week after marriage i saw her gmail.Past 6 years she was in love with some guy.I asked her about it in front of her parents.She told the entire story and cried like anything and her parents touched my feet and begged to take her with me.She and her parents promised me that it will not happen in future.So i believed on them and deleted the entire gmail Account.I’m not taken any back-up of her mails and photos.after that She went to hyderabad for work and started playing games with me.She told me that she don’t want to come to bangalore. Every time she threatening me that she will commit suicide.I tried say about to her father,He is recklessly saying and scolding me.He is saying that just leave my daughter and pay back the money.I told to my mother about it.My mother conveyed her about the marriage relation and asked her to start new life in Bangalore.Finally she agreed to come to bangalore on April 20th,2017.Every time she and her father threatening me like we will file a case on all of our family members,if i asked roopa to do household works.Every time she is saying that i’m not interested to do the job,so i want to leave the job.I conveyed her that just wait for 2 to 3 years once we had kids then u leave the job.In between all these she is Secretly calling to her father and complaining him that i’m drinking every day and beating her every day.So many days she is Complaining like that and No one asked me about it.I don’t know whats going on when i went to office.She is complaining about to every one of her relatives and nobody called and asked about the drinking and beating.Recently i asked her why your not going to office,she is answered arrogantly then i call her father about it.Then he is reversely scolding on me using bad word and threatening me that he will file a case on me and my parents.In bangalore we are staying alone.Mybrother and sister both married and they are also staying in Bangalore.My mother is govt.teacher and living in Our native place.But only once they visited our house.Now her father threatening that he will approach the police and Mahila Mandal people and put a case on me and my family members.I asked roopa about the cases and about my drinking and beating issue.She replied me in an arrogant way.She is saying that i’m having illegal relationship with my mother and with brother wife also.They are mother’s to me.She tried to put false allegation on me and she want to live the house.So many times she tried to go out in middle of the night and i asked her why you’re doing all these she is saying that she don’t want to staying bangalore and work.I tried to make her comfort in all the ways.Every day she is fighting with me.25th July,2017 when i went to office she packed all her belongs and left the house.while she is going my owner asked her where ur going with all your luggage,She told owner that she is going to her cousins house.I don’t know of her cousins in Bangalore.In the evening i came to know about it and tried to call her father but his phone switch off.Then i called to her father’s younger brother,He is also questioning me that what u did to her.i tried explain everything to him but he is not interested to listen and reversely saying that i have to search her and bring her to their house.i searched 3 day and finally put missing complaint in police station and next day morning her uncle call to my brother and said that she is just reached their house.Now her father and all relative threatening me that they will see my end and file police complaint on all of our family members.My father died when i’m at 8 years old.I don’t have any influence.My mother is heart patient and she is crying like anything on this issue.I don’t know what to do now.Past 6 months i’m suffering with her.I’m harassed mentally by her and by her father and her relatives.Please give me what to do know.i’m fed up with her and her family.Her father is threatening me like anything.Please help me to get out of this.Please please.If anything happens i have to go for suicide.that is the only option.I loved her so i’m taken any back up of her mails messages and photos.Everything i deleted to make her comfort.Now she did all these things.If anything happens to me,she and her father and her relatives are responsible.He threaten me that he will kill me and do second marriage to her.I’m staying alone in Bangalore.I don’t know what to do.Please help me out of this.Please.I’m begging you sir.If you have free time please let me know i will call regarding this
I’m expect reply from you as soon as possible.
Thanks&regards,
Ch.satheesh kumar
Ph.9494356420
Ph:7338554266

my bhabi has left to home without any information, and she file to fake dowry case against my father and brother, yet 11 yrs marriage has to done and two children one of 10 yrs and other one is 5 yrs old . in that case what should we do

respected sir.i m in a great trouble.i m exploiting by my wife and her family.i need ur help and want to save life of myself and my family. i m in West Delhi, My id is malkeet_1979@rediffmail.com, 9911424309 plz save us and guide. they have filled a case in women cell and all with fraud allegations. Kindly reply with your suggestions on my above id or on phone on very urgent basis. regards.

Hello Everyone,
#MukeshPandey an IAS officer of Bihar has committed suicide because of his wife. He must be an intelligent men who respects our law. But still he is not able to save his family. Then how come an average man can save him from this biased laws. Every human being must be treated equally and no innocent should be punished. But every victim must get the justice. Please raise your voice against injustice.

some women’s are mis-useing the law. and indian laws are mostly in ladies favour, so….they are doing it easily. i’m also standing in this trauble situation right now. And nothing been decided…what should i do…???

I got married on Feb 18 20017 after June 2017 my wife went home for her parental house on a request from her family member to look after her ill Mather for 1 week but till today she is not returning back to my house, after few days of she left my home my Mother fall into an accident ,despite my several request she did not returned back to my home, rather spreading false rumours about me and my family. We had several phone call with parents on this issue but her parents are using all wrong language also threaten us that they will take the law in their hand.

Keep those recordings in memory card. Ensure records are directly saved to memory card. Some mobile can store records in mobile memory some mobile can store directly to memory card. Keep research in Internet for existing laws which are misused by wives. Keep your cool. Try to handle the situation with very careful manner.

Hi Sirs,
I’m facing very serious problem with my wife and her family members.I got married on 6th February 2017.She is working in IT consultant.After one week of my marriage,i came to know that she is having affair with some one.I saw all emails ,messages to her parents.They told me that we will take care of it and they deleted all emails and messages.Now she is not interest to stay with me and putting false allegation on me.Her parents also threatening me that they will file a false against me and my family.They have high influence in society.Recently she left the house and went to some where for 3 days.i called their parents no response and saying that i did something to her.I filed a missing complaint in Police station ,then she went to her father’s younger brother house and her uncle called to me and said that take back the complaint.I did it.Now their threatening me and my family.I don’t know anything to do.I’m a software employee.they are threatening me like anything,they file false police complaint against me and my family etc..Please save me from this situation.Sir please save my parents.I facing pressure like anything.please help me out this.

sir myself & my aged parents are victim of 498A after the death of my brother, due to my brother wife please suggest a solution, my father”s sister has promoted her to file complaint me & amy aged parents. so pls kindly suggest me a solution to come out of this.

respected sir.i m in a great trouble.i m exploiting by my wife and her family.i need ur help and join also this group.i want to join ur group to save m and my family. i m in moradabad up.plz give m ur group add in moradabad or near moradabad up

I an Sachin from Nerul Navi Mumbai, My wife left my home 4 months back with my 10 months baby, without informing me. Me, my dad, our relatives called her and her dad. There is no positive response from there end. There is no initiative/calls from her side. I need advice on it.

I am an men, are harassing and mentally & physically insulting by women(wife) and her family members, put false FIR and false cases against me and our full family. In INDIA, by the name of equal right of human, men has no right at all, not even get legal justice.

Please help me , My name is ashish kumar . I leave in narela delhi 110040. I got married 22 jan 2017 and after that i harrest by my wife . She tell me she don’t like me and she love other people her affear . She dont wanna to marriage with me but her parents force her to got married. Now she torture me aboused me ,harrest mentaly and physicaly. She blame me fake case . She fight with me all day now she is her home and try to do fake case . I can’t known well english soory and please help me.she is from aherka at jind in Haryana.

This initiative and thousand other initiatives which are now active for mens rights must spread across the country. Laws cannot be one sided. Marriage has become a game of fraud in terms of property and finance. Men are being cheated just for the sake of money. Many men are being framed in wrong cases of a serious nature. Its time to stop this injustice.

My wife and her family is harassing me and my family member from last one year, She always insult us and my family member and pressurize to put the false dowry case and threatens us each and every time. Recently because of recession in IT Sector I don’t have Job, so she left me and I am not able to fulfill her wishes. I have to also feed my dependent Parents and a brother and sister. I am helpless. Please suggest what to do.

Frequent arrangement of Brides’ marriage with an intention to squeeze money from Grooms as an alimony is a crime like that of dowry system :
It is a general practice of Brides ’parents in Indian culture to make an arrangement of marriage of their daughter with their selected groom and send her matrimonial home for enjoying conjugal life. But in some cases it is observed that after a few months of sensual conjugal life they give advice to their daughter to return back to her parental home giving some allegation of false and fabricated story of ill-treatment against groom and or /his parents and file a matrimonial suit of alimony/ maintenance. There after they make an amicable settlement with grooms /groom’s father for dissolution of marriage after charging huge amount of money as alimony and giving some words of consolation . After one /or two/ or three years they play the same game and frequently charge huge amount of alimony as compensation in each and every cases from second /third /or fourth husband because their such act would automatically make them eligible to allow the bride for 2nd , 3rd or 4th marriage. This type of malfeasance work of bride /brides’family is a crime like that of dowry system. Judges should be more cautious while they are passing the judgment of matrimonial suit and if possible matrimonial law must be amended in order to protect the grooms’ life giving penal servitude to bride /brides’ father responsible for such crime. Dowry system in our society is an of fence/crime and there is a low of penalty for this but the brides who most often squeeze money from grooms by using their fraudulent intention , how the law would punish them protecting the naïve grooms from the notorious hands of brides? Every groom should be more cautious so that their hard earned money cannot be snatched away by a cruel woman who comes to your life as a disguised wife, ——(SUDIPTO DE(42A/7/1, R N DAS ROAD KOLKATA -700031 DHAKURIA WEST BENGAL).
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We are facing similar problem from girls side from last one and half years. Now since last couple of months there is no communication between us. However, we are afraid when we will file contested divorce case, they will try for extortion.

All this goes because of special privileges given to girls side in law. There should be equal right for complaints, compensation & living expenses payment for both, if girl goes to her home and not returning back to husband home. Both side must have rights independently to move forward their life, by marrying any other person without any interference if other party or law, if both parties do not have any communication for more than one year not filed any case against each other.

Organizations like yours must represent this point to Govt. I would be joining hands in such movement.

Women empowerment is necessary but what about those women who are doing criminal acts, mental cruelty, extortion etc in the shelter of such programmes.

Please advise how to deal with such people in such scenario & how one can come out without losing his hard earned money & valuable time in such rubbish things.

This is Vinayaka NR and my number is 8904721792. I am here to inform you that i have been harassed mentally from my wife/her mother/her mama a lot from the time of my marriage. I am pure innocent. all the times they have made a wrong allegations on me and i was been in police station due to they are high influenced people. I mean to say police station receives call from Manjula manasa and HR dept head. Even thought cops know that i am innocent they are helpless and they will take actions on me. If there is any panchaits in police station they will prepare what exact dram to do be done and they starts the simply crying, seeing that police suspect me and beat me up even though i am innocent.

Actually happening between me and my wife, she will take every thing to extreme level even though i tolerate everything. finally we end up with the fight. she beats me when i am sleeping and when i woke fight starts. She behaves like a physio and starts complain all the wrong allegations on me. I don’t know how blind our system is. non of the authorities will seriously enquirer this on my wife. they just take their wrong statements and again mentally harass me .

Her Mom and her mama are the key for this. They keep my child as hostage with the help of my wife to make me accept what ever they say. Due to all these me and my wife are never been together more then 30 days, from past 6 years in total we may have been together not more than 200 days. I have spent on them lacks of money what ever i have earned and also i have taken lot of money as lone because to satisfy them. till date their hunger is not yet finished. I did the admition for for my baby in Davangere last year, but my wife never let my baby to go for school i think you can understand how difficult days i have faced. 5 days back i paid the full fees(around 50K) for a new academic year. this time again the same story is repeating I have lost all my money to them till date.

My wife and my Mother in law and mother in law’s brother are provoking me to extreme levels to committing suicide. due to loop holes in law we lost our prestige every where. I just want to sign off from this life. I have a lovely daughter i am very sorry for her. and i wish “non of my money or property or my daughter should go under my wife. Hey have been experts in doing this.they have did the same to mother in law’s yealder sister. and my father in law’s sister to capture wealth. They will openly say all these statements in front of me. Her Mother and mama both will estimate what wealth they will capture from me. All of her family members are involved in this activities. We were totally unknown about this before. Please don’t leave those culprits (my wife/ Her mom/ Her Mama/Her sister). I was never in freedom from 6 years. My father/ Mother and sister are very innocent respectful persons and lovely persons and those culprits are trying to spoil their image in society. Please i request the law firm to create the laws for equality not in faviour of woman this world has changed. you don’t not have a single answer, If i question you “why”. and you cannot either solve the issues when it is raised. I am the one who is been targeted again and again.

Sir I am in big trouble a woman aged 45 years threatens me to file rape case against me as she is having affair with my father aged 70 years.if I says against this she always threatens me.my mother died two years ago.

Sir my name is Ravi. I am a resident of muzaffar nagar. Sir my brother got married last year in May. Sir the girl he was married to she was marreid to him against her will probably and had an affair with a boy of her native place. She often fought with my brother and threatened us with dowry laws and police FIR. We ried with her nuissance but after six months of marriage she left our home and returned to her parents after sometime we got a call from her father about ending the marriage. And asking us for money. When we refused her father lodged an FIR claiming domestoc violence, dowry and named me, my mother, my father, brother in gangrape of her daughter.
I am in depression and on medication from a psychitrist.
What can we do as all of us are under threat of arrest right now. Please reply quickly as we are on the verge of mental breakdown.

Sir pls help me i married in 19 jan2009 my wife was asking divorce from me actually she is in afair with others. I have some mobile chat in which she is talking him and too much used bad word. I need divorce but now she case filled me 125 et
Pls pls help me

I m latest victim of false DV act case by my wife. But I have decided to fight rather than to give up. And want to unite oll my brothers suffering from same. And unitedly fight for oll of us. And would like to join association to help myself and others.

My name is Amitav Paul and I am a resident of Kolkata. I am married in 2008 and we have a kid about 4yrs old. Since I got married, my wife has always harassed me for one thing or other. I used to stay in delhi along with her after marriage for 6 yrs but due to my job loss n fathers demise, I relocated to Kolkata. But I’m unemployed now and my wife harass me mentally n physically all the time,even when I had a job n now. She wants everything for herself. My mom is 66yrs old and everyday the problem prevails for me n my mom.. I don’t have any audio or video recordings to support coz its very difficult to do at the time of the quarrel. Please help how do I solve this issue as she gets provoked by her sister n a cousin sister.

First of all join the local Men’s right group in your city. From now on start collecting each and every evidence of your wife’s cruel behaviour. Dont give in to her demands and handle everything calmly. Collect photographs as evidence which shows that she is happy with you. Make a diary/word doc and start writing the entire sequence of events from or before marriage till date, this will helo you in remebering things. Try to keep an eye on your wife’s for any suspiciouns. If she leaves home than inform the police immediately and file an NC. Dont panic and follow men’s rights association

Hello sir
I get married on 25nov2016.
From the next day of marriage,my wife start spoiling the house environment.the relations with other family members also not good or adjustable. She also had a relationship with her bf.
too many dispute between us now day by day i feel this relationship a burden. I tried my best for making married life good and happy.
In my parents i have only my mother. But i am unable to make her happy just due to my wife nature.
I want to separate from her.
But she is not ready for divorce and even not ready to change her negative attitude towers me and my family.
Her family member or my laws also supporting her negative attitude. Withing this 6 months of my marriage i feel like hell.
I feel very uncomfortable about the security of my family she and my law can do anything.
What and how can i do
Kindly suggest me.

My name is Taufique Alam I am resident of ranchi Jharkhand, i am married in 2007 i have 2 kids elder one is of 8 years & 5 years old
my wife belongs to a crimnal family they started theartening within 3 month after mairrage to lodge FIR against me and my family for dowry
my wife has always harassed me But I’m unemployed now and my wife and their family harass me mentally n physically all the time,even when I had a job n now. She wants everything for herself. i am living seperatly in my parents home . I don’t have any audio or video recordings to support coz its very difficult now after 10 years of marrige she and their family lodged a FIR in police station against me and my 2 younger sistes my mom and Dad . Please help how do I solve this issue
plz do help 9031767586

HI
I got married in October 2014 in Bokaro Jharkhand. I belong to Bihar but currently I am working in Bangalore. My wife has filed a false complainant dowry case against me under 498a and 3/4 DP act .She has also filed a maintenance case under section 125 CrPc in bokaro district court. she stayed with me just for two months and from last 2 and 1/2 years she is residing with her parents. we blessed with one baby girl. She does not want to stay with me because I got diabetes and she is asking for monthly maintenance though I have not divorced her yet. Court ask her to come with me but she does not want so finally family court ask her to do one time settlement. In 498a case matter is still with Jharkhand high court because in lower court I didn’t get the bail so I applied it in high court. High court has neither gave me bail nor rejected it yet instead of that they put up the next hearing date in 3rd week of November and also they have ordered for ad interim maintenance till November. In 498a case she has complained that I was torturing her mentally and physically and also I was not providing her cloth, food and medical treatment. she also complained that I asked her for dowry of 5 lakh rupees. During our marriage I have not taken single rupee from there parent as dowry which is accepted by her brother during deposition but he said that still my parent has given three lakh rupees in dowry. Bokaro court gave cognizance against me based on the deposition of her brother and father although it is private complaint case and she mentioned that everything happened in Bangalore which is out of jurisdiction of bokaro court but still the cognizance was against me. Please help me and suggest me how to deal so that I can get the bail because High court simply dragging the time. I filed for bail in high court in month of feb 2017 and after that hearing was on july now they have put up this in month of November. High court judge simply wasting time and trying for reconciliation which will not successful because my wife does not want to stay with me.Also please let me know how much time it will take to get anticipatory bail. Please provide me your contact number if anyone is in Jharkhand.

Dear Sir
I’ll go straight, I married to a girl under court marriage on May 2015 and after few days I came to know that she had earlier husband also. As time gradually goes she started showing her color, she started talking continuously in phone with some guy, whenever me and my parents told to stop such act she threatened for the police and will accuse us for domestic violence. One day I saw her phone sms from her previous husband saying “why you went away i miss you”. I told her you are now my wife and you should stop previous relationship. Thereafter she started talking hiding sometimes backyard sometimes in bathroom.
We called meeting with local village mahila samiti, they all supported us but advice us to give her a chance.
After that she behaved nicely for a week then again she started the same. This time when my mom scolded her she called the police at home, but policeman advised us to settle home dispute at home only.
One day she went missing whole day and we filed missing report in local police station. Next afternoon she came at our house, my parents stopped her at the gate asking where was she whole night ? She went and came with policeman, saying we are torturing her and not let her go inside. Police this time also advised the same to let her stay in home otherwise we are forced to lodge a complaint.
We seeing no option, again let her to stay at our home. Now she is continuously talking in front of us so that we will do something, we started ignoring her, I also left her my room and now we are living separately in same home.
I told her once if you want to go with other than please go but she replied why will I go unless I’ll take some money from you. My mom also warns several times if you want to stay than stop talking in phone, but she is threatening to lodge a complain.
This January 15th she was very ill and we hospitalized her first in civil hospital then to a private hospital, except my father we all donated blood for her operation, she is fine now and we thought she will now be a good daughter in law, but again she started the same phone play.
In this condition Please advise how to respond, I need divorce from her but don’t want to lose property for such shameless lady.

sir my name is nagaraj m from davangere Karnataka, at 2015 I got love marriage am an hindhu she is Christian , because of my problem she helped me giving his gold about 45grams when I was in need but her parents started tourchring me day by day and dey brought me to Hubli . I started working in Hubli monthly I was paying bit of amount from my salary even she was working but she was not giving me her salary she was giving to her parents but where ever I go to work my father in law coming and asking about me he was following me , where ever I leave that job he will come to my home and starts irritating me in front of other peoples and he was using abusing words both after n mother in laws , because of this problem I totally died but from last three months even my wife started tourchring me and they are asking me for divorce , please help me out in this situation , m totally died , now I decided to make suicide I left this last option , my wife was good only but listing to her parents she started doing like this,, please help me out from this problem ,, my contact number 919743414503

Hello sir. I just want to talk about a guy name vikas.her wife torcher her alot .She didn’t give her food.Abuse him like hell.I think if they both have problems then with mutual understanding they can sort it out.but his wife is using abusing language on regular basis.As she don’t have fmly or home.so she threat her husband that she will seize property.that guy is not able to work.he is in tense..Plz plzzz help sir.or suggest something.or take action against that lady..She is not able to let him live..He will suicide one day if the problem continues..Plzz talk to me at 9718646398

Hello sir
My self mihir my brother got married on 3 march 2014.
Before marriage they love each other. Both decided they ran away from house. When girl father came to know that his girl ran with my brother. He came to our house and requested to my father please accept
My child as a daughter in law. If this is not happen then I lose my respect in front of society and nobody will marry my second daughter. My father agreed. Then both marriage happened on 3 march 2014. All the marriage expenditure done by my father. After 1 week of marriage she started blackmailing to my family that I filed dowry, mentally and physically torture case against you if u not fulfil my demand. She demanded money every team for her father her brother if u will not fulfil my demand then she run away from our house.never CE back again and she filed all cases against me and my family. Can u tell me what we do. Now a days we totally helpless plz sir/madam help me we will never do marriage again in this life plz help me

Sir me ashish I am very much in problem of male domestic voilance. My wife treat me like a hit ball. Every time she use to abuse me. I am working as manager in some company and she is also a educate lady. But she is very horrible while dealing with me. I avoide her cause I don’t want to get my house full of noise but enough I am really in trouble where I can get support toward this. How we can have one counseling session what would my course of action toward this.
I am really very tired of this daily tourcher I need support. I try my self to suside but I have ownership of my two kids that’s my kid and my mom.

Sir/Mam
Please help me out I am from Lucknow
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Call me if u got right person on this number not lady
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Respected Members,
At first I would appreciate your effort to prevent the misuse of sec.498.Now a days it is very big problem or next to impossible for a Gentle married man to survive against the misuse of sec. 498 and face the society.
I am a Government service man.I am from West Bengal, Kolkata
I am married.My wife is very frickle-minded.She always try to dominate me and give me meny kind of psychological torture without any cause.She always threateing me by saying that if I and my parents can’t down my head in front of her legs for all perpous she will go for complain to police station against me and give me the case 498. In that case I lost my job also.For that reason My parents and myself allways going through a mental pressure and we are giving our everything for maintaining her wishes.and day by day it is really impossible to maintain for us.
Sir ,please give some idea. I want precaution against that false 498.
One of my frind told me I create a general dairy to my local police station mentioned fully that false 498 against me. Then If my wife give false 498 against me that general dairy wil go for my favor.
Sir is that idea of general dairy working? Please give some more strong legal idea.
Sir my english writing is not so good. Sorry for that.

Dear Sir,
I am Pankaj Kumar Goel I got married on 30/11/1995 with Shweta who belong to very rich family and the marriage was very normal as per the standard. After marriage we provided her all the facility and all the things were working fine but after some time her behave drastically changed and she has spoiled my family and always threat me . we are very normal people and never got involved in any legal issues but after the marriage our life become a hell she does not allow to leave peacefully. Hardly any day goes without noise. currently I am leaving seperate from my family but her behaviour still not good. She misbehave with me and quarrled with me she insists to me beat her, So that she can show this to whole colony. I am in big trouble kindly provide me any solution. how to get rid of this trouble.
she always ask to sale my house and only 50% pay me . mere baccho ko bhi mere khilaf kar rakha hai.
Uske papa bolte hai meri beti apke maa baap ki seva nahi karege , ye bolti hai ki bacche bhi apki seva nahi karenge or wo khud bhi nahi me kha jaau bolo. my contact num 8860277807

Hi,
My name is XXXXXX,I have completed my B.tech in 2009 from Karimnagar dist,Andhrapradesh()present Telangana) where i met my Wife and propoosed her for mrraige,later i conveyed my parents they argreed for marraige without knowing to thier parents there brother have managed to do it has arranged marriage,where my parents and I instited not to do so that,but there brothers don’t have confident upon there parents and hided this information with the girl family.i told to postpone the marriage for 1 year,as i was earning very less.wwre it would be very diffcult to manage in banaglore.but her parents never conveyed and we got marraige in 2009 with both side elders blessing.
I know before marraige also she was very rude and arrogant but i thought it will be fine after marraige.
we were very happy for some time untill her parents visted banaglore,later quarrale started saying that your mom told this your mom told this.I was able to manage my parents where they convied a lot.
Before marraige she was listining to my parents but after marraige her attitude got changed a lot.
I shidted to Hyderabad on job chnage where there was an understandng between us and her saying that she will dtop working once i get settle.later she started denying and stayed in banaglore for almost 1 years.
Difference started.
she shifted to hyderabad in year 2011 and we started staying together in hyderabad.
Every dasara festival she started stopping me to go to my hometown and we started going to there hometown.
first two year i left to her beacuse every women has such homesick,later it got habitted to her which i felt bad.
I told it’s better to my home town as iam he only son for them.she started denying later i left to her.
she satarted quarreling with my mom every time,which i couldn’t recognised it.
my parents visted to hyderabd just 2-3 times in an year.
when her parents come to hyderabad she was to be very good and decent,but when parents visted hyderabad she started behvaing in a different manner.

their parents always conveniced me saying taht she has childish behaviour once she get concieved she will be ok.
we started looking for family plan were we were failing everytime just becuase of her health issue.

I meet with lamost 5-6 doctors they told it will take time.
But after someyears she started blcaking that i will give an complaint and write an letter to police that iam harrsing her.
i though it’s her follishness and left to her.
Later after some time my parents came to hyderabad where i told them about her behaviour to them,My parents called theier parents and conveyed the same and took my wife to thier home town.
now they started saying that we wil not sendher back,i tried to call her n no of time she didn’t reply,she started ingoring me.
and started staying in hostel and working in XXX company.
My Uncle who was working thier tried to talk to her n nof time where she told she need some more time to come back.
One fine morning i got an call from Women PS saying that she has filed an compaliant satting that dowry harrasement.
Later me and parents went to Women PS in Karimnagar and we have come to mutual understanding and their was some rules which was written which was forcelyy been made aggred by me.
after returning back she started behaving in different manner.
i tried to conviened her for some days thought that her childissh behavoiur.
later one day she left to her home town saying that iam going to my home town.
Later i got an call from my brother in law(My parent side) saying that my wife grandfather got expiered.
I was very sad to her,but she never toldme anything even my fatherin law also not intimated me anything,after 5 days she came back.
again after 2 days she started quarreling that i will go to my home town,i denied for that.
even though she left.she came back fter 3 days.
As she was not good to me i convyed her saying that by doing this we willnot be happy atall.
be good and happy with me which she wasn’t i told if she is going to continue this then it will be better she can leave.
one fine evening she left the house with her belonging,i conveyed the same to his father and Women’s CI.they haven’t todk any action when i visted Women police sation for lodging an complaint.
later treied to reach her and message her she never repied,which clearly shows she is not interested in Marraige.
I have applied for Divourse at my home town,she she haven’t attended a single hearing.
Due to this Telangana and Andhra Judges issue judge got transferred and my case was lagging tillnow.
Later in year 2015 dec she lodged an complaint in Women PS ,they have filed an case and one fine day they visted hyderabad and took me to the Policsstation,where in inPolice station they have asked me 25k bride to solve this issue,i deined and complaint to SP.
he has just ocnsidered my complaint only on police people aksing on bride not the earlier case atall.
after soem days i have surrender my slff in court and got conditional bail.
Case is still going on till now where she is not attending any hearing either dowry case/Divourse case.
one fine day we heard from somewhere saying that she left to Aboard,i was been shocked becuase her passport was with me.
our elders tried to reach them lot of time but still no response from them,let meknow how can i proceed futher.
Do Police accepts my complaint about her fault Passport.

I belong to Lucknow, UP and currently I am working in the United States. I got married on January 20th 2016 and I was tricked into a scam. The girl who I got married to is unscrupulous and cruel. She has been constantly blackmailing me and trying to extort money by misusing the Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code. She has already filed false cases against me and my old parents (65+).

The police has not filed our FIR and my parents are going through a lot of pain and hardships. Please guide me.

i got married in the month of feb 2016 my wife was pragenent after completing 15 days she had cald me and told me i am pragenent
i told dont lie she said doctor also not confirmed yet they will confirm me after completing 2 months then after 2 months she said yes confirmed i asked her how it is possible then she cald her sister and brother in law they came and loudly shouted in my house
i asked them not to shout then they have told she is pregentnt beceause of you only next time dont tell its not yours or tell me now itself i will take her to my house i know what to do then we afraid we said not to take her anywhere after 2 days of this incident in the midnight she started crying then we took her to near by hospital we have told doctor she is pragent she is having a stomac pain
then told i am not specilised for this case you take different hospital then we took to different hospital they have given some injection and then we came back to home then she said in the morning she was misscarriage then after 2 days she told me still she is having bleeding so i have to go to doctor i told her to go with my mam she said no in my native we have family doctor we will show there only we told her to shoe here only she did not agree for this then we said ok then she stayed for 15 days she came started blaming you only took to hospital you gave medicine to make misscarriage i said if you want you go and give police station give a omplent they will check every thing she did not tell anything then after this incident i have started sleeping saparetly
then her sister cald me why you are slleping sapratly what is less in her ( beauty , sexual interest ) every thing she has then why are you sleeping alone i said i m not feeling not well i want sleep alone dont disturb me then after this my cald and told every day he drink and come and beat and he use all badwords to me and mam when her sister cald i have told her i am a human i am not a animal to use bad words then she said she tells me you are shouting beating every day you are telling you are not doing anything whom to belive and if dont do althsoe why she is telling what she is mad or what i said you check with her
then again her sister sent me msgs in whtas app for one hour i did not reply anything she used all badwords realeted to my family
then i though to go out and make sucide then i cald my friend he took me to there village and befor this i had wrote all details in my death note and i left all my phone is my office then my brother came to my office he saw the leter and he went to poice station made complent and after that they have given complient against me and my family then i came back afetr 4 days then i went to station i have explained everything then they said its all coman in life they warned them not to do again then have sent both family to house then again they have started doing the same please help me ph-9740960203/9742425750

My name is mohit gupta i am from meerut ,uttar pradesh.i m victim of 498A and i have been continuously been tortured by my wife in many ways .she pulled me many times to the police and so many times,threaten by other people.she is fighting for no reasons.even i started living seperately with her but still the drama was same.she is even torturing my 7 months new born baby girl .her family is supporting her in a wrong manner .police is working as worker of my wife .its so horrible situation i dont know what to do ?
May be there could be happen anything disastrous.she says she will send my mom to jail and i dont want this to let happen please help me out???
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these cases are soo common these days. I myself faced similar situation for last 2 years. Please hire some private investigator, they are the only ones who can pull you out from this mess.

In my case wife was having extra marital affair with her college time boyfriend and disappeared all of sudden taking both my kids. I inquired entire case myself keeping police with me but every single investigation was done by me only.

Time is changing fast so trust Indian Law. You just try and stay calm even in tense situations this will help you fight back and give you powers to react instantly. As far police is concerned, ask them to appoint Investigation Officer so that he can look for facts.

I am pradeep kumar I got married on 2/12/2009 with preeti who belong to very poor family and the marriage was very normal as per the standard. After marriage we provided her all the facility and all the things were working fine but after some time her behave drastically changed and she has spoiled my family and always threat me to file 498a we are very normal people and never got involved in any legal issues but after the marriage our life become a hell she does not allow to leave peacefully. Hardly any day goes without noise. currently I am leaving seperate from my family but her behaviour still not good. She misbehave with me and quarrled with me she insists to me beat her, So that she can show this to whole colony. I am in big trouble kindly provide me any solution. how to get rid of this trouble.

Sir, My Name is Ravindra S. Rathore living in Ahmedabad and facing lot of problems from my wife in regards to life threat, she tried to eat 10 to 15. Tablets ( Painkillers or any other pills), she gives me threat by drinking harpic … She always abuse my mom and sister without any reason and speak non stop continually for hours and hours … I tried to stop her but the conditions are getting worst.
Please help me where i can go and take the legal support.

Its been 3 years since I have seen or heard my son’s voice. I had dropped my wife and son to Delhi Airport on 14/05/13. She reached Ranchi where she was picked up by her father and driver. She called my mother to tell that she has reached and then again she called on my mother’s cell phone after reaching Bokaro. She did not reply to my SMS or didn’t allow me or my mother to speak to my son. After two days we found out that passports, pan cards and locker keys are missing. We went to the bank in Panchkula to find out that locker had been operated on 13/05/13 (12:50PM). we got the proof for this activity only recently and haven’t yet deposited the same in court since the case is on argument.
It was an arranged marriage and we did not know anyone related to them. 7 years of our marriage and no one from her home had ever visited us(parents, brothers). I used to call them sometimes but they never responded or spoke much. in 2012 she and her younger brother (based in Kolkatta) had made me buy land near Kolkatta. The whole amount was paid by me and my mother (through Bank transfer). We never got to see those papers as well.
Later on, after a coule of days, on 21/05/13, we realized that there is something wrong and contacted an advocate, our family friend, who suggested us to file a RCR and Child custody immediately. We did the same. In July 2013, 498a was filed against me and my parents at Bokaro. We got bail in that case from Jharkhand High Court. The cases (RCR and child custody) got transferred to Bokaro from Panchkula by Supreme Court in 2013 November. In Decemeber 2013, she filed for divorce on the basis of cruelty and me having an affair. Child custody case, which I had filed in Panchkula,dismissed due to non appearance of either party. apparently, Panchkula court did not get transfer orders from Supreme Court and the papers for transfer were submitted to the court much later by myself and by that time, due to non-appearance of either party, the court had dismissed the case. Anyhow, dismissed case was transferred to Bokaro Family Court, where I have re-admitted the case in February 2016.
Jharkhand High Court has called the opposite party to justify the 498a case, but they haven’t appeared before the judge/court. Order to appear was sent to them in Decemeber 2015. Family court had ordered me to pay an interim maintenance of 2000Rs to the woman (who is working in a hospital in Bokaro- papers of her working have been submitted in Family court) and Rs.2000 for my son. The court had also ordered the woman to open a bank account and share the same with me, which they haven’t done.
Till now court has not granted me visiting rights to my son. In the meantime, she has submitted some Psychiatric medical certificate (from Bokaro general Hospital) stating that I used to abuse my son and because of that he is under medication /treatment from BGH and I should be kept away from him.
I somehow came to know where my son is studying and went to his school to meet his teacher, who told me that he is normal and studying well.
What I want to know is can people like my ex-wife and her family be punished through law?how long will it take?will I get my son’s custody? is there some or someone that I can contact who can help me in meeting my son?
Court procedure is so slow that in three years all I have seen is judges being continuously transferred.

Hello,
I was married in may2011 and i have one child.my wife has affair with another man which I came to know after 15 days of marriage but she said this is no more and I agree.But she always created problems in home on small issues and me and my family try to take blame on us so that try is peace in house. My wifes boyfriend also is married now. In march 2014 my wife went to his home and not come back, then me and my family go to their house and after so much requesting she is ready.Then in September 2014 I got a phone call from that boys wife that her husband had left her and this is all due to my wife.When I asked her about this she said this she is telling lie and started blaming me that to expl;oit her I am using that girl.She started blackmailing me that she will put my family behind bars.
After that in november when i tell all this to my and her family her family take her with her and started blackimg us.They have socially expoit me by telling to everybody that I drinks and not able to bear her load.
we and her family had meeting between some mediators and my family is ready for fair deal what they have spend ready to give, but they are not ready.After some days they came to their relative home nearby us and call one of ours known and said they can give 1 crore and we will leave them.We came to know this they have done before also, as my wife have got her marriage fixed once but they came to know about her character before the marriage.
In december 2015 we came to know that they have filed several flase cases on us.I have consulted many lawerys.Some say to file false cases, some say to fight the cases.What should I do in this condition..
Then in december 2015 I came to know that she had filed

My wife Himani Bhardwaj is torturing me and aging parents when she was at my parental home for 2.5 years since the day we got married on 5 Oct 2013 in a arranged marriage. I had to leave job as i was a NRI and worked in International Airlines for 6.5 years. In two months of marriage i had to quit job and stay in India to safegaurd my property money and assets which she was lending out of home. She was continuously torturing me to give all prpperties i bought in her hometown and her parents also blackmailed me to give all properties to her else she will leave me.the would allways say that if I give property to her then I love her which I denied. I said my everything is her however i would not transfer all in her name .Getting clear undrstanding that she married me as I was NRI I safegaurded my family by returning to India and protect my 73 & 65 years aged parents from torture they too faced as I was there son. However she forced me to leave my parents. I denied it as all my koneybhad been spent on her and marriage and biying properties near her parental home and making a 3 story house which is incomplete. Soon after 9 months of getting married we had a daughter and my wife after a 2-3 week of her birth without informing me took my daughter away from me and started asking for property and money and made the transfer of land a final condition if I want to see my daughter . I was in torture again as I love my daughter Nayeli Aakrita Bhardwaj a lots. She belongs to family not financially good and I being NRI was a big gap and the greed for money and property was quite evident by now as I was not allowed to meet my daughter too. I had period of just a month to be with my daughter however I realised she should be with her mother and I left my daughter with mother and had tonstay far form my family . After 2.5 months of residing with her parents and no proper care of my daughter she had to run from her parents home and she asked to Jon me back however by that time hshe withbher parents had filed a false 498a 34 and 337 case on me and my parents . my parents had to continuously go to police station who are very simple people and she would otirtire then with her mother that they will put all of is in jail if we do not agree to all her demands. I provided every amenity to her and all she asked except property and but releasing my daughter is safe and ensuring a good life for her and daughter she returned after few hearings the case was compromised and finished when she had returned to me . buy hunger for property being primary notice she allways demanded property and money and I provided her all but not full rights of my properties. She toiruted everybody in my house for her I’ll intentions. But I knew I am in a typical money extortion racket. I am a MBA and BHM and my wife is diploma in Nursing and 10+2 she is 10 years younger to me . I am 38 now and she is 28 years old. She filed for and case of false 498 a and other left me and family shattered and deeply tortured. And further similar demands from her even after 2.5 months stay with her parents made us very tense. She luve d 1.5 years with me and on 24 April 2016 she left for her parents house and i knew she is up to some more nasty actions. I went to police and I formed about torture. My parents also gave statements in police and informed all. However she never gave a day without torture in these one and half years from 5 Oct 2016 from time she rejoined me till this week on 24 April 2016. She was called to police station where she made many false remarks which were telling again to similar dowry cases and Domestic Violence cases and othersm I consulted advocates and they realised that I have many police complaints where she had left my house and was later brought to my house by police when she would go out with strangers 100 kms away from house and when we would tell police to help us. Many times her sisters and relatives would come to my house and shout in public and try to take her away and try to take my daughter away. However she gave all in writing and informed police that she was forced to put false cases against us and her parents are poor and wat my money through these false cases. I every time kept police and law in picture as I knew I am never safe as she will allways threten me that she will commit suicide and die if I don’t listen to her demands. She has never committed any attempts for that and when I asked legal advocatesghey said if someone says so without committing it it is a crime and torture to us .And I kept police informed too that I am being blackmailed at name of false dowrt cases and Suicide threats and I am in immense tortire and my parents are very old and they are unsafe.I realised my parents may not live long at this age if she continues to torture us and I moved to New location and my parents also wanted me to stay away however I can’t deny accommodation to my wife so I took rented accommodation in new place where I started a small work of photography and started searching for jobs. However she is not coming to me and my parents house she can’t go as they had denied entry to both of us in there own house and told us to live where ever we wnwt to live. She after my information to Police about leaving my home on 24 Oct 2016 2 days back of writing this comment now said in writing that she has taken my daughter without permission and she is withbher parents and she will stay there for 15 to 30 days. However her comments in writing are that she is being tortured by me and my family and she feels like she will commit suicide and she is not allowed to go to her parents. However the fact is her parents never called dher for 1 year since she rejoined me as they couldn’t blackmail.me and extory money. However she lied. That we didn’t allow her to go to them and take her outside . hower she has joined us for more than 20 tripsgo paraglyding WORLD cup in vir to shinla to delhi and many others and many oeopke hace wtnessed it. She even gace in writing that my daugher and her are her family are in danger from me and lied that she needs police protection. I and and my parents separately hae asked for protection of life from 11 peopke she is related to and who hve been torturing and blackmailing us. Inhad to leave my job and my property from abroad and Kullu manaku naggar and it’s worth crores of RS. And she wants it with help of these false cases. I have to live far from my constructed 3 story house in Kullu Manali Naggar. This all problem is rooted to property acquisition. However I won’t letghos blackmailing sustain and I will take all.legal help and won’t give up to I’ll demands of my wife and her family . I am waiting for more false cases and I will fight back as I am not going to take mor elf his torture. However she has taken my daughter away again this time without my consent and I told police that daughter is unsafe. And even my wife doesn’t seems unsafe if I don’t give oroerotes to her or her parents. But I can’t give all my hard earned money in properties to her or anyone her parents says. I will fight for my rights. Indian law does not support we men as much a women but let me be the exception like few others I won’t stand this tortirement and these false cases I am waiting for her next FIR and her next attack and I will defendgo my best. I jeedgo associate with Men Rights Association and contribute to the unfair laws and be a volunteer in this social protection cause. I need advise too. My most money have been spent and my properties are lying useless as I can’t even go there as my life is in threat there as local gundas are with her parents side. I have all leagal rights and registration. Of my porperty however I can’t stay safe so I ma now in New Delhi trying to be safe and work to earn my livelihood. This tortirement will continue but I will not give up to the I’ll demands of my wife and her family even though I can’t stay far from my daughter and parents. But my fight is long and I am true and sincere to my self and God and I do not consider law and cunning people above God. I will fight for right cause and using my true incidentd and even being a Man I will fight a law favouring Women. Please guide me how to meet your authoritoes in Himachal And in New Delhi any contacts or call I can expect other than provided here in website or if you guys can call me

I am Nithin. I got married to Sindhu on 2013. My marriage life was good till 2 and half years. Few compatibility issues was there between my father and wife. She used to fight with me always, now from last 6 months, she left with me. She made physical fight with me and left me.

Now she is telling i have to leave my parents and make separate home below her parents home. My parents should never come to that new home and her parents will be staying with us. I should not ask her salary and i should give my full salary to her and collect one or two thousand from her for my parents medicines, on humanity basis.

If i am not ready to agree for above conditions, i have to give 30 lacks for mutual divorce it seems. or she will be filing false 498A and mental and physical harassment case to my entire family members

She is black mailing me and harassing me of the above things. I am not getting what to do only. I am one and only one son, i cant leave my parents on road. 30 lacks also i cant pay, i need at-least 10 years to earn that much money

Dear Shivani ,
I read your your post and feel to painful , No need to fear these people bcz there is no provision that dowry act file before marrige . If they will file the case automatic it will be crash .
Thanks
AJAY KUMAR

Dear Team,
My wife and her parents are tourchering to me and my family since so long. Now she is not living with me and her parents are supporting her and asking Rs.20 lakhs and a flat which costs Rs.50 lakhs specifically in her name. We got married in January 2013 and immediately after marriage they started asking something new everyday and one day when she got pregnant they told me if a girl child will take birth I will not bear and you have to take care of the girl child I.e. My wife said these words she also said I can take care of only baby boy not girl and I request god that please bless us with a baby boy so that a child can get his mothers love also. Even after taking a baby boy birth she continuously started demanding to go her parents home and whenever she goes there she never came back on 1-2 days. She always stays there for 15-20 days minimum and also every night her mother calls on her mobile and takes daily report and she even didn’t called on my phone single time. Now she is staying away with her parents from me from last 1 year and when I went there to take her back to my home she and her parents always refused. They said if you can give us 20 lakhs and take a flat of costs at least 50 lakhs on her daughters name then only she will come back otherwise forget her. I asked her and her parents please permit me to meet my child then they always refused. My parents kept her in my home as their own daughter but she never understood the love of my parents. I always love my wife and child from the bottom of my heart. Even I m also getting week and dropping my health everyday due to this tension. I also request you to please make a decisive solution to make my family happy again like before. I want to take her back to my home and I love her very much. I always find conclusion that her parents are supporting her and not let her come to me again because they need money or there could be some other reason also for which I m not sure. Please help me its being too long I met with my wife and child. I think these women’s are taking the favour of laws made in our country supporting them. They think they can do anything using these laws favouring them.
Thanks
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Hoping for the earliest solution from your side.

Dear Team,
My wife and her parents are tourchering to me and my family since so long. Now she is not living with me and her parents are supporting her and asking Rs.20 lakhs and a flat which costs Rs.50 lakhs specifically in her name. We got married in January 2013 and immediately after marriage they started asking something new everyday and one day when she got pregnant they told me if a girl child will take birth I will not bear and you have to take care of the girl child I.e. My wife said these words she also said I can take care of only baby boy not girl and I request god that please bless us with a baby boy so that a child can get his mothers love also. Even after taking a baby boy birth she continuously started demanding to go her parents home and whenever she goes there she never came back on 1-2 days. She always stays there for 15-20 days minimum and also every night her mother calls on her mobile and takes daily report and she even didn’t called on my phone single time. Now she is staying away with her parents from me from last 1 year and when I went there to take her back to my home she and her parents always refused. They said if you can give us 20 lakhs and take a flat of costs at least 50 lakhs on her daughters name then only she will come back otherwise forget her. I asked her and her parents please permit me to meet my child then they always refused. My parents kept her in my home as their own daughter but she never understood the love of my parents. I always love my wife and child from the bottom of my heart. Even I m also getting week and dropping my health everyday due to this tension. I also request you to please make a decisive solution to make my family happy again like before. I want to take her back to my home and I love her very much. I always find conclusion that her parents are supporting her and not let her come to me again because they need money or there could be some other reason also for which I m not sure. Please help me its being too long I met with my wife and child.
Thanks
9891724059
Hoping for the earliest solution from your side.

Hello sir,
Myself Neeraj Gupta, r/o Delhi. I am going through a seperation with my wife since last 3 years. We’ve been going through the mediation center since then and 31/01/2013 this was ordered and settled between both the parties that: –
1. Both the parties would be living in the same floor.
2. Husband will pay a total amount of 3500 to the wife for baby Khushi’s expense and from 1st of march onwards he will continue to pay Rs 5000. which i continued to pay regularly.
3. It was agreed between both the parties that the maternal uncle of the wife would visit the place once in a month but has to accompany with his wife Mrs. Kirti John. Since he was the ne i caught him with my wife in our bedroom in informal condition.
4. It was agreed that both the parties will not interfere in their daily lifestyle of each other.
5. It was agreed that both the parties will not threaten each other in future.
6. 1/3 electricity bill would be paid by the husband.
7. Everything was signed under no pressure in front of the mediator.

After this an application was filed in another mediation center by the wife, on 11/02/2013, stating that the agreement was done in pressure by the mediator.

After this in the month of april on 08/04/2013 it was agreed as follows: –
1. It was agreed that the husband will pay the entire amount of the expence of the baby (Khushi) for her education.
2. It was also agreed that from the month of sept. 2013 onwards the husband will start paying 7500 towards the education expense of the minor daughter khushi.
3. both the partied agreed to live peacefully in the same house and will give respect to each other and their families as normal.
4. Both the parties agreed that they will not file any complaint against each other with respect to present dispute.

After this a new application was logged by the wife after she left the home on 24/12/2014 on her own and filed another application in the mediation center on 23/04/2015. I did stopped the monthly allowance since she was not following the settlement made in the mediation center and moved out of the premises with the daughter. She was working as a school teacher at that time and i was not working when she left.

On 01/10/2015 final orders of the mediation center was done in Tis Hazari court stating that: –
1. It is agreed between both the parties that both the parties mutually agree to take mutual concent divorce U/S 13 (B)(1.) and 13 (B)(2) of HMA and have agreed that the parties shall move the First motion of divorce petition U/S 13(B)(!) before the competent district court by the end of 30/10/2015 and after making the statement before the court. The parties have agreed to move the second otion divorce petition for mutual concent U/S 13(B)(2) after the expiry of mandatory period of six months from the order of first motion of divorce petition.
2. It was agreed between the parties that the parties undertake to sign the necessary papers for filing the petition with affidavit etc and shall remain present on both the occasions i.e first motion and second motion before the competent court.
3. It was mutually agreed between both the parties that the custody of the minor child Baby Khushi shall always remain with the party no.1/Wife and the send party/ Husband shall not claim the custody/visitation right of the child in future from party 1/wife and party 1/wife undertake to take the responsibility of the minor daughter regarding her education, health, maintanance, marriage etc at her own cost of the mother hereby undertake that she shall not do anything against the interest of minor daughter at any time,
4. it was mutually agreed that the party 2/husband will pay a total amount of Rs 15,00,000 fifteen lakh as for interm and final maintenance of past , present and future to the party 1/ wife and minor child. Husband shall make the payment in form of FDR in the name of minor child. On first motion 50% of the amount would be paid and the rest would be paid on the second motion.
5. It was also agreed that the husband will also pay the loan amount which he took from the society on his mother-in-law’s name from ashirwad society based in Rohini.
6. It is agreed between the parties that both of them have settled all thier disputes against each other arising out the marriage and it is undertaken by them that they shall not file any case or complaint against each other before any forum in future.
7.It is agreed that both the parties shall bear their own epenses for filing petition for divorce by mutual consent. It is further agreed that they shall cooperate with each other in filing the as above motioned petition.
8. Both the parties have agreed to withdraw all the civil/criminal case/application/complainant’s pending before any court/authority in case any such complaint/proceeding are found remaining in process the same shall be treated as withdraw in sake of the present settlement between the parties.
9. Both the parties have agreed that in future neither of the party shall file any civil/criminal case pertaining to the marriage or to their movalble or immovable property/properties.
10.0 it is also settled between the parties that they shall not give any cause of any complaint to each other and desist themselves from causing any harassment in any form.
11. all the above terms and conditions arrived at between the parites out to their own free will and without any coercion or any pressure from the other.

Now the situation is that even after the date was provided by the mediation center and even on contacting in the month of december about the case to be filed, the party 2/wife told that her exams are coming for B.eD and she would not be in town till the month of april 2016, eventhough she was in delhi itself and just kept on lingering the matter and kept on delaying it.

Now the situation is that through some sources I came to know that they want to file a case in the court starting from the scratch and want to disobey the settlement and might want to harass me mentally and physically.

I want to know what next to be done to keep them on the settlement.

The reason of all this happening was that I caught my wife with her maternal uncle in a unwanted situation in my own bedroom for which obviously i don’t have a proof since i was not prepared.

Please help me as in what to do as they are planning to file a case and want to re-open the case and want to harass me mentally.

It’s just me and my mom in the family, My father is no more with us and that girl(Wife) might harm my mom or me in any manner. May be by filing a false case under 498.

My wife who has left me since 90 days is harassing me for alimony.She has already filed a 498a complaint.
She was ill mentally as well as she had diseases related to gynaecology since her puberty. But even after knowing all these her parents has married a sick girl to me.
After marriage I have suffered a lot mentally as well as physically.
She is well learned but doesn’t like going to job.She doesn’t discharge the duties of a spouse-doing homemakers job.
She and her parents were harassing me regularly.I was holding a responsible job in a Bank as Branch Manager.
I was always keen about fatherhood. But because of her PCOD condition, she is not able to conceive. She had two miscarriages.She bled profusely during her miscarriage.She is lucky to be alive because I had taken good care of her , nourishing her when she was ill.
There are plenty more misdeeds done by her.I am the only person who has taken care of her.By taking care of her I have lost my job.I am jobless now since 18 months.I am not able to find a job because of my age.
I am from Bangalore staying with my aged parents. I am facing mental agony because of her.Kindly help.

Iam from chennai in my college days i have registered marriage a girl and divorces 1year back in her family everyone knows she lives in his family as same me also there is nthiing happen in between us. we got registered but my family nobody know im got married so for after that there misunderstanding happens always and at last we got divorced as mutual constant and we have the papaer.

I have the doubt if i have marriage a other girl without telling this truth if go to registered again in that paper they mentioned as second marriage or first marrige

Respected Sir/Mam,
I & MY FAMILY IN TROUBLE DUE TO MY WIFE FILED THE DOWRY CASE. SOME PEOPLE SUPPORT TO MY WIFE FOR MONEY.
PLS. HELP ME & ANY CONTACT OF PUNJAB -CITY-ZIRA, distt.ferozpur
WITH REGARDS.pin code.142047
PLZ PLZ HELP ME MY NO-9464444964
LUCKY BAJAJ

Sir myself Jagmohan residing in village Narai Dakhvapure in Pratapgarh District of Uttar Pradesh. My son Praveen kumar age 26 working with Indian Railway as ASSISTANT LOCO PILOT posted in Gwalior Rly Station in MP, since 2014. Last year he got married with a 24 year old girl Sonal of H 48/1 Nehru Nagar III Ghaziabad in Up.

Marriage ceremony held at Railway Guest House in Allahabad on 24th January 2015, Praveen’s wife Sonal came to my house just after the marriage ceremony on 25 Jan. 2015. And She lived in my House till 26th Feb. 2015. Due to Holy Festival She went to her father’s home Ghaziabad on 26th Febuary 2015.
After that, She (Sonal) switched off her mobile Phone forever went to underground with her father, brother and cousin Manoj. changing their rented ghaziabad house. I tried to contact them frequently but could’t. After one year completion In January she files a case in family court Ghaziabad complaining the harassment and against my family and son Praveen. And Now she claiming the half-salary of my son. And also threathening a FIR of Dowry against my family. And Also demanding 20 Lakhs to stoping court procedure against us.

Sir I work in a private company. My earning is 8000/ per month. We are innocent, Sending this letter I request you to please do posssible help.
Thanking You
Yours Sincerely
Jag mohan

Respected Sir
Sir myself Jagmohan residing in village Narai Dakhvapure in Pratapgarh District of Uttar Pradesh. My son Praveen kumar age 26 working with Indian Railway as ASSISTANT LOCO PILOT posted in Gwalior Rly Station in MP, since 2014. Last year he got married with a 24 year old girl Sonal of H 48/1 Nehru Nagar III Ghaziabad in Up.

Marriage ceremony held at Railway Guest House in Allahabad on 24th January 2015, Praveen’s wife Sonal came to my house just after the marriage ceremony on 25 Jan. 2015. And She lived in my House till 26th Feb. 2015. Due to Holy Festival She went to her father’s home Ghaziabad on 26th Febuary 2015.

After that, She (Sonal) switched off her mobile Phone forever went to underground with her father, brother and cousin Manoj. changing their rented ghaziabad house. I tried to contact them frequently but could’t. After one year completion In January she files a case in family court Ghaziabad complaining the harassment and against my family and son Praveen. And Now she claiming the half-salary of my son. And also threathening a FIR of Dowry against my family. And Also demanding 20 Lakhs to stoping court procedure against us.

Sir I work in a private company. My earning is 8000/ per month. We are innocent, Sending this letter I request you to please do posssible help.
Thanking You
Yours Sincerely
Jag mohan

Dear Sir
i am nana jadhav from nashik maharashtra india
i have got married at 17/11/2014 before my marriage my wife doesn’t complaint about my look (i am little dark)after one week she suddenly started saying that”i don’t like you
she live with me only for 2 months in those two monthes she continually harass me and my family she got pregnant and going for pregnancy she pregnant in eight month she don’t want my babe and so careless about the child she get some pills to do this and my amateur baby was die at 27/11/15 after her pregnancy 2month later i was going to take her home along with my mother and sister she refused to come with me and abused me and my mother and sister ,she is continuing threaten us that she make all my life spoil because she is girl
she took all my jewellery wrath rupees of 150000
all expenses of my marriage was done by me in 6 lacks
she doesn’t live with me and complaint in ‘mahela surakssha sal’ in jalgoan
now she threaten me that she is going to kill me from here bother and father
i have all the evidence and proof all her phone recording
please help me
Thanking you
CONT 9156563857

Hello sir .. i am from mumbai..its v long story to write just wish to meet u once for help if possible..
I am harassed by my wife.. i came to know about your ngo today when i surfed internet.. sir i m hararassed by my wife a lot.. i desparetly in need of help.. can u pl him me sir..sir i m v much tired of fighting for my rights although i have ample of clear proofs my papers r not read by anyone.. i am being denied for justice. In such circumstances i only wish to die..i really need u to pull my family out of my wifes harrassment.. pl help me if possible my number 09819943694..

My name is pradeep, I am from Hyderabad. I got married in Apr 2009, now there is a divorce under mutual consent is going on in district sessions court, warangal, TS.

My story starts from when I was in UK as a student. I met my wife in internet n became friends. She said she is looking for a boy to get married. I said I had a girl friend in India. All of a sudden, one day she says that she told her parents about our relationship and wants me to get married to her. She told me bad about my girlfriend and made me to break up with her. Some how she managed to gr8 attached to her on phone and I came to India in Sept 2008 n got engaged to her.

When I met her, she used to be on ph always. When I ask, she says she is sending msg to her father or her office colleagues . I thought it was true n got engaged to her n went back to Ireland. Once when I saw her telephone bills in her email I saw that she was always calling n sending messages to one number even when I was beside her. I found that it was her boy friend. I said I want to break the engagement n cancel the wedding.

She cried n pleaded me becaouse her father is a heart patient n they informed everyone about the marriage n everything is ready n if I cancel the wedding, their family will die cos of me.

I told her to mmarry her bf but she didn’t because he is from a different religion. I came to India cancelling my studies n visa.

She begged n I played for the wedding. Even few days before wedding in April 2009, she was in contact with that guy but still married me. After two days of marriage, she sent an email to her boy friend saying that she is ready to runaway n marry him. When I found the email accidentally in the computer, she begged n asked to forgive. I sent her to get parents. Her father was a very good man n he begged us n said he will die if everyone knows about this as he also got a heart stroke. I felt sad n agreed to continue the marriage.

After few months I again found pics of her with another guy which were before her boyfriend. She said that guy used her n ditched her. I felt like dying n sent her home as I came to know that she was with this guy in a living relationship for a Longview time before marriage.

She tried to commit suicide at her parents place n again her father begged me to forgive her n again I took her back.

We started leading a normal life n we had a daughter in 2011. I thought she forgot everything n living normally.

Many times she used to be on ph but I ignored that she must have changed as she is a mother now. But recently in May 2015 I caught her red handed chatting dirty with a new boy friend. I felt like crying n sent her to her mother as her father passed away in Dec 2014. Her mother scolded her in front of me but after 2 days when I called her mother thinking that she might have said goodwords to my wife but I was shocked that her mother started shouting at me saying that I always beat my wif. When I asked to speak to my wife, she said she went to hug to go to office leaving my daughter with her.

I took my elders to bring my wife n daughter home but they say that me n my mom had harrased n they r not ready to send my wife n daughter back. I somehow managed to bring them back.

In just one months time, she slowly deleted all the proofs of her affairs n created a situation that I have an affair with my office colleague. She then took all her belongings including our car which we bought together n also took my daughter n went to their home. When I called her, she said she is never going to come back n got everything ready for filing harrasment and dowry cases on me n my mother n my elder brother n two elder sisters. They ‘re all govt employees.

She said she wants to take revenge for telling everyone about her affairs to everyone by putting me and my family in jail. Then she ssaid that she will spare us if I agree for divorce under mutual consent. As I was scared I signed n first hearing is over.

The problem here is I still love my wife even she hates me n I can’t live without my daughter. I haven’t seen my daughter for the last 7months.

I want my daughter back. Because of all this, I started disliking my wife but I am not able to forget my daughter. She is 4 years old. The problem is they r not even seending my daughter to school fearing that I will goto schooll n meet her.my wife is happily in enjoying n going to office in hyd n my daughter is suffering as she is with my mother in law in warangal.

I want my daughter by any means. I tried to go to see my daughter but they are hiding her from me n as there no men in their house, I am not able to goto their house as they are harrasing that if I go to their house, they will file a nuisance case. Please help in getting my daughter back. I beg u sir. Pls help me.

Dear Sir,
​
i am working as senior level engineer in a good company,
I got married on March-06*​ 2011​, it was an arranged marriage,
out of last ​~​5-years, my wife has stayed more than 4+ years at her parent’s house,
she came in between for 3-4 months, became pregnant and i became a father to a baby boy on july-24,2015,

I will say 3-things,

1. I am in bangalore for last 5-years, ​completely alone, ​brutally struggling​ and mentally tortured​
, i want to see my kid, but, i can not Last 5-years all alone i have been working, i am a shy person,

2. my parents are very very selfish, they know the issue, but ​not ​
even once they bother to call to find how i am and what i have eaten, they worry that if this ​issue ​
continues, how can good proposals come for my younger brother,

3. ​on the 21st day celebration, my wife insulted me at her house, ​
last year sept i approached an advocate, i have spent Rs 40,000​*​
till now, i do not know what those advocates have done, but, they have not even sent a notice, reason : today is court holiday, judge is out tomorrow, judge has not come to court, ​he is verifying OJS paper​s like this .. ​

​Now, i would tell you to stay completely alone for 5-years in Orissa, stay many days without talking to anybody
t​hen you will know what is the definition​ patience, 5years is not a good time​ ?
​
​i have slept countless days in empty stomach,
how long i will get brutally tortured ​like this ​and why ?
​My wife and her family would continue exploiting and black-mailing like this.

My wife is a psychiatric patient, which i got to know on 4th night itself, but i could not ​disclose to anybody,
​my wife got pregnant within 2-months of our marriage, but, she forcefully did abortion, she forced saying that she did not enjoy much and does not want to become old soon, Her grandma was a psychic patient, who committed suicide, ​

​If neither our Law nor our system can help, then our LAW and judiciary system also provide some clause for
committing suicide. ​

Actually I got threatening from women cell that a fir has been registered againSt me n my father mother for 498a . Is it possible without any enquiry I have been guilty for 498a and fit registered I went to women cell once and they said girl can do anything

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‌Hi, my name is ganesh. My wife is torturing me and my mother n now my 2years daughter is been torture. I have many people as a proof who can tell dat how my wife has torture me n my mother. I even tried to stay away from my mother in a rent house. Bt d neighbour who was staying next to r rented place told me dat since 4 months dat pls don’t leave ur daughter with ur wife alone. Because dat neighbour has seen my daughter in hunger situation and getting beaten up. She even told lots of thing abt her cruel behavior against my two years daughter n how she is cheating on me . So again v have to come back n stay with my mother. Bt again she started torturing us n started abusing in front of my daughter. Even she tried to complaint abt me n my mother torturing her. Bt cops always caught her for lying. Even cops know abt my wife behaviour bt can’t help coz of law. Since three months she has taken away my daughter. Frankly speaking sir, me not lying. My daughter is attached to my mother and me. Coz we have never shouted or beaten up my daughter. Sir der r lots of things which my wife had done on me my mother and my daughter. We always say dat being a mom will never do such thing dat would hurt her own daughter. Bt my wife has hurt my daughter in such way dat even u wld get shock. I have full proof for dat n even cops know abt it. N hav lots of recording n msg dat wld prove her culprit. Sir please sir save my daughter. My neighbor who is 7 years old will tell you how she use to hit my 2yr daughter for no reason. Pls pls sir help me and my daughter. My wife own relative n der neighbors will tell you about my wife behaviour n dey themselves suggest us, pls take child custody first. Pls help my daughter.

I found that my wife filed a 498a case against me and my family members. I never received any notice from any court. Later on I found that the case is disposed as withdrawn. It is a false case and she is doing this to harass me and my family. The case was withdrawn after 2 months.

My question is: Can a 498a case be withdrawn without the husband’s consent?

I am Parsoon Maheshwari and I have got married six months back. It was arranged marriage. My wife had affair before and after marriage with same boyfriend. I saw her chats and messages both where it’s cleared that she having the date with him and in chats you can see lots of sexual and personal chat which is very awkward. I have stop several of times including called her parents and discussed this matter. They have ensure me to it will not happen again but she won’t stop the chatting till she left my home. 23rd October she left my home and back to Bikaner home town. She packed all the jewellery (both sides), all necessary document, clothes, etc. without shown to us. I and my dad both have left the house early morning for office meeting.

She was packed her bags with her father and Bua both. Her parents was came around 10:30am and they have left the house in one hour 11:40am. Her train departure timing was late night 11:30pm from Sarai Hoyallah station. My mom insist to stay and let’s celebrate my birthday in evening but they denied and moved quickly.

After she left we came to know that all jewelry she has packed without our intimidation. We try to call her but her no was not reachable and after some time she picked our phone and she told us i am forgot to tell you.

After few days i came to know her doing lots of plan to destroy my social life and personal life both. So I had discuss with my lawyer these all thing and they suggest to send the divorce notice before her doing FIR or etc. I have send my notice 30th October and she has received it 10th November and after 23rd November she has file the FIR (498A/406/ 323) in Bikaner Women Police station against of me and my family (Mom, Dad, Sister and brother in law). My sister and brother in law they are stay in Rohtak and she is predgent from last eight months. My Mon is heart patient and Dad is BP Patient.

I went to Bikaner last week for my counselling and now they asked to bring her all stuff as per the attached list. Which is fake and give us only for trouble and harassment. I already told to SHO that whatever items we have, we will ready to give it you but jewelry and 10Lakhs rupees (Which I have received in my account) for wedding arrangements. It won’t be possible to give you back as jewelry she already have it and Money it’s already spend in wedding arrangements. I will show you the bills also.

Kindly help me out from this situation. They are treating me and asked 50 lakhs rupees for settlement otherwise ready for jail with family.

Am prasanna from chennai.I loved and got married with both parents permission on April 2013.After 2 months of marriage my wife is not staying in home 25 days she ll go to her home and 5 days she ll come to me.I have advised her lot of times but she dint obey me.the same year I got son.she given birth.And last year 2014 june month I met with a major accident and lost one eye vission.For tat one month she was with me after tat she fought with my family and went to her home.I have called her so many times but her father said my daughter said she dont want to live with blind SC community person.We ll divorce u and marry her to someone and leave the child in hostel.Am so depressed and frustrated.when ever I go to see my son they ll say he is not here.And her father came to beat me by saying hey u bloody blind SC community Already I went to jail for 3 to 4 times.Ill finish of u and go then in a second ill come out because I have money.I got affraid and ran off.On my sons birthday too they dint show me.He said womens law is on our side police also told not to show kid to u.I went to police station to complaint but no one is taking my complaint.They said already ur wife gave complaint that u drank and went to her home and fought.For that I said if I drunk means how I go and rescue and giv relief to the peoples.what they mentioned in complaint is false.For tat the police threatend me ill file FIR on u.U right and giv wat am saying but I got afraid and wrote tat I wont go to their home to see my son.Am suffering a lot please help me…

Hi Sir, My brother in law has been threatened from his wife and family stating will kill him & his mother. If he does not do what they ask for. They have lodged a complaint against him saying has an illegal relationship with an other female and have assaulted him. also have taken him to police station and have lodged a petty case against him. When we tried to lodge a complaint against them the police are not taking the complaint. Also they are providing information about us to his wife. she is coming to our home and harassing us.
Now my brother-in-law is hiding as they are searching for and torturing him day by day. Please let me know what needs to be done.

i got married 10 years back and have 2 boy kids from my marriage. My wife got into affair with her past boyfriend and ran away with him in April this year taking both my kids. she returned in June to her parents house and kids are with me.

She wants divorce from me only on one condition that she need both kids with her. Kids dont want to stay with her at any cost. My inlaws discountinued any contact with me for past 3 months and not saying anything. i still believe she is in contact with that person and stay with him some days during week.

This case is recorded in Police Station still i think if i file sepertion case in court she will start blaming me for domestic volience. This is most common way of defending her move. so dont know how to defend myself any my family (parents and my kids)

Also eversince she is back i did everything to make her come back just because of kids because as per me kids needs both mother and father to groom in life. i helped her getting new job i did councelling myself but no use. that person she is having affair and her parents influence her a lot.

Sir, I have been married for over 3 years. My wife left my place and started staying with her mother 2 years ago. My mother in law filed police complaint against me in February this year. Since than the police call me every month in the name of enquiry. Police has already recorded my statement and other persons. almost one year has passed, the police is registering FIR against me and also they are not closing the case. They call me every month and just harass me.

I am resident of UP and I work in Maharashtra. My wife works in UP. My inlaws are saying that I must leave job and come back sit idle at home, my parents must transfer all the property in my wife’s name and they are asking for guarantees also.

My wife & his family is harassing me for no reason. I have a 2 year old kid.
this is my 2nd marriage & the girl who got married to me there family lied to us that she is educated & she is working as an Quality team leader in a big multi national company. Later realised that she was not even 10th pass & her past background was she was working in a garment industry as an labour . after marriage she wanted to immediately wanted to conceive & wanted to have a child. Later realised that her family was forcing me to send her to her home town. Unable to tolerate there request sent her when she was 5 months pregnant.
now after 11 moths she came back home not even 6 moths demanded she wants to see her parents again. Took her there she came back after 2 months. She now again demands that she want see her parents again. when refused she fights with me. blames unnecessaryly screams loudly so neighbours should hear. she is blaming that i am waste & i do not take care of her.

Sir from the time of marriage its 2 years I have spent more than 10lakhs for her demand & her lavishness.

When I try to stop her by screaming she tells me that i will fix you in case that yuo & my 70year old parents will all suffer. Although she is illetrate but her family who are all a group of 420s are supporting her for thiss act.

Please help I have my daughter whos life will spoil because of her. law is always on side of women.
Plase help me. I cant see my 2 year old daughter life spoil because of that women & her family
.

Myself Dhiraj Dodia. frm mumbai Kandivali..mob..9892140407…i marrige before 5 yrs past its was an arrange marriage…my wife is frm Navsari Gujarat…after my marriage within 6 months i got separate my frm joint familys..because my wife told me..everyday she was harrestion me …after i got two babies one boy & girl..then suddly i got brain tumar i operated twice for that..one at private hospital & second time at kem hospital…after that my wife sold our flat & ran away to his parents house..and all money she tooked …i dnt hve any job to several my parents are looking after me..my wife is not ready to keep me …where i go now even she never allow to see my kids…pls help me ….no police nobody is helping me i m alone pls sombody help help me i dnt want money pls help me to stay with childrens….

In 20june14 I present divorce case in ujjain in basis of violence and in 4year marriage life no sex she done by me. and she received Tamil on 3rd July14 at my house and don’t go her father house guna there after 5july14 his brother go to SDM cort and say I house arrest his sister,and also go to Polish station and wrote F.I.R. against me and my mother who stay in morena. My wife only 29day stay in my home 3years. Continue she live. With her brother. Now what I do every month I pay him 6000 rupees case in cort trayaal she say in cort that we are not in sex hole life

My marriage was an arrange marriage. After a decade & lot of suffering, I came to know that my wife, just marry me to have a legal child but not to stay with me. Just after a child, she is trying to prove me wrong as many as ways possible. She made a big group of people who can do any evil act. Being alone, she looted me like anything. She always threaten me for the laws in favour of women and associations of women in India. She neither want to live together nor want to take divorce. She used to abuse me and fight like wild animal but now my inner core shaking me to reply and raise the voice after a decade of suffering. That I bear because of future of a child. Could you please suggest me the ways out.

My wife, just married me to have a legal child but not to stay with me. Just after a child, she is trying to prove me wrong as many as ways possible. She made a big group of people who can do any evil act. Being alone, she looted me like anything. She always threaten me for the laws in favour of women and associations of women in India. She neither want to live together nor want to take divorce. She used to abuse me and fight like wild animal but now my inner core shaking me to reply and raise the voice after a decade of suffering. That I bear because of future of a child. Could you please suggest me the ways out.

Sir, my marriage has been around six years old. My wife,khyati sharma is mentally sick woman, she shouts a lot at unexpectedly and many times she had left me around twenty times or more she has left me and came back. I am fed up of her, now due to such situations I am very depressed,I have a son of five years_, now I want to get separate but she and her mother are saying whole life we will not leave you, her mother geeeta Sharma tortures me a lot and talks I’m such shouting manner as if she is some criminal or loafers family, i continuously harrased by saaas geeeeta Sharma and many times I decide that I should commit suicide,, I am ready to give 10000per month but she is telling I want leaveee you would not leave you and sirr, she will harass me in same manner,, now I am really depressed what should I do plssss pllss help me

Sir pls help me i married in 4feb 2013 my wife was asking divorce from me actually she is in afair with others. I have some mobile recording in which she is talking him and too much used bad word. Afther 40days i divored her but now she case filled against me 498,504,505 etc.
Pls pls help me

Hi,
My brother is working in Japan for almost 6 yrs now and his family is in india (wife+2kids) Its been more than 13yrs since they got married . initially his family was staying with my parents but since last 4 yrs they (sis-in-law & kids) started living seperately having very less contact with my parents (only my parents contact because of kids that too once in a blue moon).
My brother used to come to india once in 1.5 yrs but he continiously send the money to her (bad part he do not have any bank mode he give money to somebody visiting india then that person pay the money to her, so probably less or not proof to claim he used to send money).
Now it is very appreant that she will file any case against any member of my family including me ( I am staying with my family in other city only once in three month goes to my native place to visit that too for week or so.)
Could you please highlight some points that we should prepare of if any such bad happen in future and the vary cases that she could file in above said circumstances.

Dear Sir
I am Nikhil from Ghaziabad sir i had got married on January, 2009 and i have two boy kids after married of my father in law and sister in laws with her family harassing & thread me. and my wife every month go to her and after 7 to 10 days she was come to my home without any information her father was come & he was with my wife and after three month both are come back and thread me filing the case against you. we are thinking after some time all fine but my father in law & my wife with her sister continue thread me.

my wife and her sister are publicity against me in my locality and relatives, i fight with my wife but actually she was fight me and many time many items through me and injury on my eves, forehead, face & back. but i am not filing the case against my wife because bad publicity in my works and city.

sir i was try to talk my mother in law to solve the problem but she was very ruatly speak me. you are wrong my daughter is right.

Dear Sir
I am Nikhil from Ghaziabad sir i had got married on January, 2009 and i have two boy kids after married of my father in law and sister in laws with her family harassing & thread me. and my wife every month go to her and after 7 to 10 days she was come to my home without any information her father was come & he was with my wife and after three month both are come back and thread me filing the case against you. we are thinking after some time all fine but my father in law & my wife with her sister continue thread me.

my wife and her sister are publicity against me in my locality and relatives, i fight with my wife but actually she was fight me and many time many items through me and injury on my eves, forehead, face & back. but i am not filing the case against my wife because bad publicity in my works and city.

sir i was try to talk my mother in law to solve the problem but she was very ruatly speak me. you are wrong my daughter is right.

pls help me i married in 4feb 2013 my wife was asking divorce from me actually she is in afair with others. I have some mobile recording in which she is talking him and too much used bad word. Afther 40days i divored her but now she case filled against me 498,504,505 etc.
Pls pls help me

My wife filled false domestic violence against me and my family. In my family we are 3 mom , dad, and me. I have 3 sisters all 3 married. This is my second marriage and same for my wife. She already got the life time maintenance Rs 200000/- (2 lakh) from her first husband now again she want me to pay her Rs 200000/- for life time maintenance.

Pls advice if there is any way that I can save myself ? Or I can get any strong help ?

I m 49 years man from Chandigarh. I m suffering from ulcerative colitis and glaucoma and my has deserted me. I am living alone. No one to take care of me. I’m in govt. Job and my wife wants to grab money from me and does not want to live with me . She is living in a 3BHK flat gifted by her parents. Her parents and brother do not listen to me. Please help me.

GOOD EVENING SIR THIS IS SUDHAKAR YADAV FROM HYD SIR I HAD GOT MARRIED ON 2010 AND IM HAVING 2 FEMALE KIDS AFTER THE MARRIAGE OF ONE MONTH MY WIFE AND THEIR IN LAWS STARTED HARSSING ME IN THIS WAY MY WIFE EVERY MONTH 15 DAYS WITH ME AND 15 DAYS WITH HER IN LAWS THIS HAS HAPPENED FOR THE PERIOD OF ONE AND HALF YEAR THEN AFTER THE BIRTH OF MY FIRST DAUGHTER THEY HARSSEMENT HAS BECOME CRULITY IN BETWEEN OUR COMMUNITY PEOPLE CAME AND THEY SOLVED THE PROBLEM I WAS HAPPY FOR THE PERIOD OF 7 MONTHS HERE THE MAIN PROBLEM STARTED AGAIN I WAS BLESSED WITH ANOTHER DAUGHTER ON 2 FEB 2013 FROM THAT DATE THEY HAVE NOT ALLOW ME AND MY PARENTS TO SEE MY DAUGHTER AT THE TIME OF DELIVERY ONLY I HAVE NOT SEEN MY DAUGHTER FACE AT ALL THEY HAVE CUT ALL MEANS OF COMMUNICATION AFTER 3 MONTHS WHEN I WENT TO SEE MY KIDS WITH THE PERMISSION OF MY WIFE I BROUGHT MY ELDER DAUGHTER SAYING IM TAKING HER AND GET BACK TOU AFTER 2 DAYS IMMEDITALY THEY BROUGHT WOMEN POLICE SAYING THAT HE HAS KIDNEEP THE CHILD I AND MY PARENTS WENT TO THE POLICE STATION WITHOUT FILLING THE FIR REPORT MY FATHERIN LAW AND MY WIFE TAKEN A WRITTEN AGREEMENT IN FRONT OF CI MADAM WITHIN 7 DAYS IHAVE TO DEPOSIT 3 LAKHS TO THEM FROM THERE I HAD APPROCH TO THE COMMUNITY PEOPLR FOR 3 THREE TIMES BUT MY WIFE AND MY FATHERIN LAW KEPT ONE CONDITION THAT THEY WANT THE CERTIFICATE THAT IM MENTELLY FIT OR NOT THEN ONLY SHE WILL COME TO ME I HAVE AGREED AND GONE FOR TEST I GOT A POSITIVE REPORT AFTER THE TWO MONTHS OF THIS ACTIVITY MY FATHER IN LAW DRAGGED ME TO FAMILY COURT ON OCT 2013 BETWEEN THE MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING OF BOTH THE LAWYERS ON AUGST 2014 INCLUDING THE COMMUNITY PEOPLE I BROUGHT MY WIFE AND CHILDRENS WITH THE CONDITION THAT LEAVE SAPERTLY THIS LAWYERS AND COMMUNITY PEOPLE HAVE DIVIDED ME WITH MY PARENTS ON AUGST 2014 SHE CAME TO ME I WAS LEAVING HAPPILY WITH MY WIFE AND WITH MY TWO KIDS ON MAY 2015 I CAME TO KNOW THAT SHE IS SUFFERING FROM TB DISEASE FROM THE CHILDHOOD WHEN SHE DIAGONESED HER NECK GOT SWELLING SHE UNABLE TO EAT OR DRINK ANY THING THE DOCTOR ADVICE TO ME THAT SHE IS BADLY SUFFERING FROM TB DISEASE BETTER U AND TWO KIDS STAY AWAY FROM HER BECAUSE IT IS A COMMUNICABLE DISEASE I WAS STARTED HER TREATMENT AT THE SAME TIME I WAS INFORMED TO HER PARENTS THE SAME BUT THEY HAVE CAME TO SEE HER DAUGHTER AFTER ONE WEEK OF INTIMATION AND STARTED FIGHTING WITH ME AND MY PARENTS BECAUSE OF ME HER DAUGHTER GOT THIS DISEASE THEY ARE BLAMMING ME MY PARENTS HAVE DIGONISED ME ALL THE TEST HAVE INCLUDING THE HIV TEST ALSO I IGOT THE REPORTS THAT EVERY THING IS NORMAL WITH THE HELP OF COMMUNITYPEOPLE I HAVE SENT BACK HER TO HIS FATHER HOUSE WITH THE SPAN OF TWO AND HALF MONTH THEY ARE SAYING THAT THE DISEASE HAS GOT CRUED I SAID NO THE TREATMENT IS FOR NINE MONTHS STRICKLY TAKE CARE OF UR DAUGHTER ON THAT DAY 29 JUNE THEY HAVE FILLED A CRIMINAL CASE 498 ANOTHER CASE ON ME AND MY FATHER AND MY MOTHER THE POLICE PEOPLE ALSO TELLING THE SAME WAY SHE IS PERFICTLY ALL RIGHT WHY UR LEAVING I GOT UNDERSTOOD THAT THEY GOT BRIBED AND THERE R SUPPORTING HER WHEN I ASKED FOR THE MEDICAL CERTIFICATE THE WOMEN POLICE ARE HARRISING ME LIKE ANYTHING THEY HAVE FILLRD THE CASE IN THE COURT SIR PLZ GIVE ME THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO FIGHT WITH THIS PEOPLE SIR HOW CAN I AND MY PARENTS CAN BE SAVED.

GOOD EVENING SIR THIS IS SUDHAKAR YADAV FROM HYD SIR I HAD GOT MARRIED ON 2010 AND IM HAVING 2 FEMALE KIDS AFTER THE MARRIAGE OF ONE MONTH MY WIFE AND THEIR IN LAWS STARTED HARSSING ME IN THIS WAY MY WIFE EVERY MONTH 15 DAYS WITH ME AND 15 DAYS WITH HER IN LAWS THIS HAS HAPPENED FOR THE PERIOD OF ONE AND HALF YEAR THEN AFTER THE BIRTH OF MY FIRST DAUGHTER THEY HARSSEMENT HAS BECOME CRULITY IN BETWEEN OUR COMMUNITY PEOPLE CAME AND THEY SOLVED THE PROBLEM I WAS HAPPY FOR THE PERIOD OF 7 MONTHS HERE THE MAIN PROBLEM STARTED AGAIN I WAS BLESSED WITH ANOTHER DAUGHTER ON 2 FEB 2013 FROM THAT DATE THEY HAVE NOT ALLOW ME AND MY PARENTS TO SEE MY DAUGHTER AT THE TIME OF DELIVERY ONLY I HAVE NOT SEEN MY DAUGHTER FACE AT ALL THEY HAVE CUT ALL MEANS OF COMMUNICATION AFTER 3 MONTHS WHEN I WENT TO SEE MY KIDS WITH THE PERMISSION OF MY WIFE I BROUGHT MY ELDER SISTER SAYING IM TAKING HER AND GET BACK TOU AFTER 2 DAYS IMMEDITALY THEY BROUGHT WOMEN POLICE SAYING THAT HE HAS KIDNEEP THE CHILD I AND PARENTS WENT TO THE POLICE STATION WITHOUT FILLING THE FIR REPORT MY FATHERIN LAW AND MY WIFE TAKEN A WRITTEN AGREEMENT IN FRONT OF CI MADAM WITHIN 7 DAY IHAVE TO DEPOSIT 3 LAKHS TO THEM FROM THERE I HAD APPROCH TO THE COMMUNITY PEOPLR FOR 3 THREE TIMES BUT MY WIFE AND MY FATHERIN LAW KEPT ONE CONDITION THAT THEY WANT THE CERTIFICATE THAT IM MENTELLY DISHONERD THEN ONLY SHE WILL COME TO ME I HAVE AGREED AND GONE FOR TEST I GOT A POSITIVE REPORT AFTER THE TWO MONTHS OF THIS ACTIVITY MY FATHER IN LAW DRAGGED ME TO FAMILY COURT ON OCT 2013 BETWEEN THE MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING OF BOTH THE LAWYERS ON AUGST 2014 INCLUDING THE COMMUNITY PEOPLE I BROUGHT MY WIFE AND CHILDREN WITH THE CONDITION THAT LEAVE SAPERTLY THIS LAWYERS AND COMMUNITY PEOPLR HAVE DIVIDED ME WITH MY PARENTS ON AUGST 2014 SHE CAME TO ME I WAS LEAVING HAPPILY WITH MY WIFE AND WITH MY TWO KIDS ON MAY 2015 I CAME TO KNOW THAT SHE IS SUFFERING FROM TB DISEASE FROM THE CHILDHOOD WHEN SHE DIAGONESED HER NECK GOT SWELLING SHE UNABLE TO EAT OR DRINK ANY THING THE DOCTOR ADVICE TO ME THAT SHE IS BADLY SUFFERING FROM TB DISEASE BETTER U AND TWO KIDS STAY AWAY FROM HER BECAUSE IT IS A COMMUNICABLE DISEASE I WAS STARTED HER TREATMENT AT THE SAME TIME I WAS INFORMED TO HER PARENTS THE SAME BUT THEY HAVE CAME TO SEE HER DAUGHTER AFTER ONE WEEK AND STARTED FIGHTING WITH ME AND MY PARENTS BECAUSE OF ME HER DAUGHTER GOT THIS DISEASE WITH THE HELP OF COMMUNITY I HAVE SENT BACK HER TO HIS FATHER HOUSE WITH THE SPAN OF TWO AND HALF MONTH THEY ARE SAYING THAT THE DISEASE HAS GOT CRUED I SAID NO THE TREATMENT IS FOR NINE MONTHS STRICKLY TAKE CARE OF UR DAUGHTER ON THAT DAY 29 JUNE THEY HAVE FILLED A CRIMINAL CASE 498 ANOTHER CASE ON ME AND MY FATHER AND MY MOTHER THE POLICE PEOPLE ALSO TELLING THE SAME WAY SHE IS PERFICTLY ALL RIGHT WHY UR LEAVING I GOT UNDERSTOOD THAT THEY GOT BRIBED AND THERE R SUPPORTING HER WHEN I ASKED FOR THE MEDICAL CERTIFICATE THE WOMEN POLICE ARE HARRISING ME LIKE ANYTHING THEY HAVE FILLRD THE CASE IN THE COURT SIR PLZ GIVE ME THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO FIGHT WITH THIS PEOPLE IM AN MEDICAL SALES REPRESANTIVE SIR HOW CAN I AND MY PARENTS CAN BE SAVED.

His Bhabhi out of no where picked up a fight with my ailing friend and started abusing him. When I just intervened she shouted exposing her clevage to me ..”Abhi Police ko Call Karke bolungi ki tune mujhey harass kiya …. ”

Quite a shocker for me…. coz few minuted back she was asking me to about a recipe. In fact 2-3 days back she came and told me mujhey bhi mummyji jaisa kurta chahiye !

Whenever I am at my best freinds’ place she enters room unannounced !

Few years back when she was pregnant she has threatened her in-laws “Police ko call karungio phir Main chat se kud jaungi. Tab pata chalega !” I knew about this incident so I wanted to file a case against her – for my defence.

ONE OF MY UNCLE HAS GOT MARRIED 2 YRS ago…. when he went to see my AUNT for marriage, she appeared normal to my uncle…. then they got married….their life was going smoothly but after 2 months she started to behave abnormally and got mental attack……..then my uncle realized that she is mental patient and is under medication for the same. her parents didn’t inform my uncle about this before marriage. now her parents are threatening my uncle to keep his mouth shut….else they will lodge complaint against him under 498……my uncle is from NAGPUR (M.S.) and he is 33yrs old and dont want this relation anymore….. plz suggest solution…..

I m an old state govt retired person of 60 yrs n my sick wife is of 53 yrs living on our pension.My son got married since 6 month n we were living together.Both my son n doughter in laws r working n now living separetly n we old couple is left alone. Though my son does not want his in-law threaned him n us n forcd my son to live separetely n threatened us n son, otherwise they will lodge false torture case in police.They r still now also mentaly torturing my son .As old couple we r undone n helpless.My son is in fear n mentaly schoked.

I live in Australia for over 12 years but my parents live in delhi. Got married to gagandeep kaur through newspaper and got married in 2010. Wife moved to austrlia in 2010. As I have been married before we told them to have a simple wedding, but they mentioned its their first one had a normal wedding. We mentioned to them that we do not want anything as god has given us everything. Straight after wedding as it takes time to get a visa my wife moved back to her parents place saying she wants to learn English. After moving to Australia we had a child next year in 2012. My in laws came to australia for which I sponsored them and my went back to India for 6 months with them. During the entire 6 months she never went to live with my parents Saying if they want to see the child they should come to chandigarh. Came back and went back too india after 6 months for 6 months saying her parents want to play with the child. Same thing happened didn’t visit my parents place. I went to india for getting a treatment but avoiding living with me saying she doesnt like my parents. Came back to Australia after 6 months and went again for 6 months to india with my son, never v insisting my parents place. I sponsored her brother to come to Australia for studies. My parents were visiting me at that time in Australia. Had an argument and they were forced to leave early. The brother never wanted to work. I got him a job 4 times still didnt want to work even though only used to go to college 2 days a week. I asked him to leave refused saying its his sisters house and he wont go. It started getting violent and I made a complaint to the police but didn’t make a statement as it will spoil his career. whenever arguments used to happen him and his sister ie my wife used to beat me up together. I even requested her parents to make their leave the house but every time I asked they refused. They even got me convicted of domestic violence with brother becoming the witness. I left the house still paying the mortgage bought with my fathers help even though I wasn’t living there. Now her parents have lodged a case of dowry on my parents, sisters and brother and are demanding Rs 25 lakh with jewelry in india saying its their right as they spent that money in india. They also want similar amount of money in Australia which is going to come fron sale of property which I purchased with my fathers help saying its her right. both my sisters are married and my brother is married as well. How can my parents, sister and brother harass her for dowry when she has never lived with them and my sisters have never seen my child. I have even tried to pacify the situation by apologizing as rather then pushing things and playing the blame game as I want my wife and child back.

I want to join this association as I feel various women protection laws are practically killing men,s career future and whole family.One of them is 498 , where women are utilizing this law only to earn a lumpsum one time money and to satisfy their sexual needs by other means. I need to report a recent incident that happened last night to one of my neighbors who is a Engineer just like me and after marrying , the wife wants him to leave the job and stay with her at her house.. It is not possible for a man to leave his job , career .Denied this issue she had done 498….Kindly send me details about how to join this group. I am from Kolkata.

Please I am seeing this thing here and there where boys are being thrashed by their lovely wife . Infact these are all murderers.

IT HAS BEEN 3YEARS SINCE MY WIFE LEFT ME AFTER JUST STAYING FOR 1 MONTH WITH ME .SHE FILED A FALSE DOWRY HARASSMENT CASE 2YEARS BACK ON ME AND MY FAMILY AFTER REPEATEDLY ASKING AND THREATENING ME TO STAY WITH HER AT HER HOME LEAVING ALONE MY PARENTS .RECENTLY AFTER ALL THESE SHE CALLED ME AND ASKED ME TO GET HER TO MY HOME.BUT I DONT WANT THIS RELATION ANYMORE AFTER SO MUCH OF MENTAL HARASSMENT TO ME AND MY FAMILY.HOW CAN I GET DIVORCE FROM HER.

Its been 6 months of marriage and my wife liew into fits of uncontrollable temper on slightest provocation leading to arguments and making me impossible to live with her… She is moody, picking up fight over petty issues and often threatens to commit suicide. I’m going thru mental trauma as dnt knw for what reason she will get angry and harm herself. I want to get out of this relation but I knw that if something happens to her then our Indian laws will not spare me… I want to stay separate from her and provide her maintenance but cannot take care of her… Please suggest as what I can do in this regards

I think its a god who opened an organisation like this and i want to announce this to all the married and unmarried men who strive for there lives and dying day to day for their lives by there illiterate, irresponsible and cheated wife and her parents. sorry to say this because i also in same position.

I was married in the month of Jun 2014 and life was smooth for 2 months and after 2 months my wife got conceived we went for check up with my in-laws and my wife on the same day my wife and my in-laws started the problem and her parents take my wife to there house and not letting her to come to my home and made her brain wash and created unnecessary reason for not sending her to my house. She and her family members have disappointed my parents and me. My parents look after my wife as like a daughter but she compared my mother like a prostitute and my father got heart attack and was admitted in hospital and he was in ICU for 3 days and he recovered and finally my wife and her family members want me to come alone from my family, i am ready but as of now my wife is conceive so some one has to take care but they are not in situation to understand what i am coming to say and they expect me to come to there home and see her daughter but there parents are not sending there daughter to my house, so please please i beg you to give solution. please call if any one can help me out – 98402-89469

Dear sir,
My name is amit, i got married 2 years before and i have 1 year old daughter also. My wife forcing me to pay menoy for her family, she has already takken a lot and now threatening me if i will not give money then she will make feke complaint against me, please suggest.

I got married on 15.08.2014. its been only six months and i have been going through tremendous stress in my life because of this marriage.
I come from lower middle class background and this is an arranged marriage, she comes from we to do family. the girl could not adjust in our family and i had a fight with my mother and father there was a false case of theft filed on my parents and that has put my family in serious trouble. i even had to move out to my family and take a separate apartment all these has put me in financial difficulties my wife is pregnant from this date she been living with their parents in KARIMNAGAR (10.10.2014). i am not been treated with respect my in-laws and every time they threaten me that they will file a case if I don’t do the things that they want me to do, i have evidence of the threats I am receiving . On 03.03.2015 when I am at my office they came without informing me (the girl and her parents) they broken to the house and took all the jewelry, the neibours are witness. I am unable to vear humiliation and mental tension they are putting me through I am financially weak and i have loans to repay. I need legal help to come out of this difficult situation my in-laws are interfering in my day to day life and they are not allowing me to lead a peaceful life.

Hi Sir,
My name is Venkat working in Software Company, Uppal as ASSISTANT MANAGER
S Day morning 10AM my wife reported in UPPAL PS on me harassment 498, I attended PS afternoon 12PM and SI started counseling both of us… Just because my wife wanted to file a case on me with her false allegations
SI beated me 20 times with rubber on my hands and kept me in Lockup for 4 hoursBy evening 7:30 we returned home by compromising with my wife

No FIR was filed and was beaten up by Police with the false allegations on me…

Am not able to bear this insult and planning to commit suscide… Saw ur website and would like to bring to ur notice…

Dear Venkat, Please contact the nearest chapter. Very sad to hear your ordeal. Millions of Men are facing such ordeal, and we are fighting for that. What the SI did was totally illegal. Please take down the SI name, and give a written complaint to the senior officers. He has no right to physically abuse you. You should also complain to the Human Rights Commission of your state.

Per your advise I contacted State Human Rights Commission… They want me to file an official complaint with DSP/SP before reachingcommission. I approached DCP office on Sunday which is a holiday and was asked to visit the office on Monday 3PM.

Iam vijayakumar from chennai working in railways. Recently for me spinal surgery done in my back. After that only i know the real face of my wife maduma who works in dell IT in chennai. Im totally upset and lost my life by my wife. I have some of proofs that my wife is having affairs with some of his workmates. So pls help me to live my life in my way sir.

I am writing with regards to some marital issues between me and my wife. I am writing to find an amicable solution, leading to peace and harmony in our family. I will be grateful if you can please guide me how to tackle with the situation accordingly after reviewing some of my past experiences:

1. Since the start of our marriage almost 13 years ago, my wife used to have compatibility issues with my mother, as when I used to leave for work, my wife used to remain alone away in her own room.

2. She used to say always that her mother was a sufferer in her in laws and there is no one to take care of her. She said that everyone from her mother’s side, especially from in laws were against her and her mother. She said that even her father was also not her mother’s side and was concerned about his mother only. My wife use to complain that her mother said that she will not get any share in property from her in laws.

3. My mother in law and my wife had no confidence in her husband and her father and said that he had no interest in material things like property and cash etc and is just busy in preaching God. My wife said that her grandmother and her daughters had done some black magic on my father due to which he didn’t want to have any share in ancestral property.

4. After few years of our marriage we moved abroad and my wife started her studies there. We took loan for her studies. I was working full time there and requested my wife to look for some suitable opportunity to work part time as it is difficult to survive abroad with single persons earning. On this she started threatening me that she will leave me or kill herself. So I stopped saying anything to her. I requested her mother and told her to make her understand that she should start working to cover her loan money. Her mother clearly told me to forget about the money. After completion of her study she got 2 years work permit to explore an opportunity related to her course I.e. MA in education(special educational needs) but she didn’t work.

4. After some time I had an accident at work due to which I had a foot injury for which I am still under treatment after almost 5 years. After the accident doctor told me that you need to be on bed rest for at least 3 months. So as there was no source of earning at that time, I requested my wife to find a job and start working. On hearing this she got irritated, left me alone and left house.

5. Due to foot injury after an accident at work my orthopedic surgeon has recommended a foot surgery for my foot. After the surgery I am needed to have at least 3-6 months bed rest. So for this I requested my mother In law to make my wife understand that she should start working to help me. On hearing this my mother in law said that I should not ask her to work as according to her my injury is not recoverable.

6. My mother in law is calling my mother and asking if she is selling all our property and telling to leave some for us. I don’t know why she is interested in our property.

7. After some time we had our daughter abroad where my mother came to take care of her delivery and baby. My wife used to be always irritated and arrogant with my mother. My mother stayed with us for few months and came back to India. After completing her studies my wife used to work on weekends in local market for a local artificial jewellery shop and some hours a months in nursery.

8. Every second day she used to curse my family and used to say that her parents are poor and after some time used to threaten me that she would leave the house. After her several attempts to leave house and after her threats I informed about this matter to her father’s real sister, who was staying in same city. Her aunt said that my wife is not interested in listening to her and had compatibility issues with her. After that my wife use to threaten me that she will see me as I had disclosed this matter to her aunt.

9. After few years of struggle abroad the foreign government rejected to extend our work permit as my wife could not find a suitable job for her. As she entered that country as student, our visa could have been extended only if she would have worked full time in a qualified field.

10. During this period I lost my father and my mother was alone back home. We came back home. She is having compatibility issues with me and my mother. She always thinks as if me and my mother are making plans against her. Sometime she has allegations like I and my mother are sitting like boyfriend girlfriend. Then as she is always concerned about her mother only, sometimes when I tell her to stay with her mother for a day or two, she puts allegations like you son and your mother go on dates, when I take my daughter for fun rides and to shopping mall with my mother.

11. Once she took all jewellery from her side and our side for a night but eventually kept all in her mother’s bank locker for months. After few months when I asked her and got a separate bank locker in her and my name, she brought it and kept it in that locker. After few days she went alone to bank and changed the lock of locker. She is so unsecured about jewellery that although banker locker being in my and her name she says your mother can still open it.

12. Every now and then if we don’t listen to her she shouts, screams and threaten us. When she is fighting she locks door and when we try to open it she says that we are trying to hit and beat her.

13. After all this we tried to settle all this amicably and respectfully with her family and relatives but she and her mother and her mother’s brother say she is at no fault. After listening this she has started threatening us of divorce. In her family her father’s sisters are divorcee. Her one cousin sister is divorcee. Her other cousin sister is living with a married man. She is always talking against her relatives including her mother’s brothers and their sons and daughter in laws in front of me and then is talking against us in front of them. She is using all of us.

14. For the past few months she is instigating all her and our relatives. Recently I came to know that she is trying to be in touch with my friend who is divorcee and has been asking his mobile no.

15. To put pressure she is shouting and hitting my 4.5 years daughter and saying things like see your mother last time in front of daughter.

16. She was always rude and arrogant with me and had no relation with me, before my daughter and used to blame me for not having a baby.

17. She is always threatening me that being a lady everyone is going to listen to her and trust her and that she is going to get money and my daughter if I don’t listen to her or tell anything.

18. Now she is putting fake allegations against me, my mother and my relatives to everyone, using what’s app and phone and whenever I request her to stop all this, she is shouting and swearing at me and threatening me to leave me along with our daughter. She is in touch with someone late night whenever I am asleep. She is immediately deleting all what’s app and telephone data after using. Public ally she is posing to be very polite person, who has always been a victim, be it before marriage or even after marriage.

I will be grateful if you can please guide me to resolve this matter amicably and peacefully as I am concerned about peace and harmony in family and about my daughter’s future and health because these things are having negative impact on her growth.

Harassed husbands are a sad and silent reality!
Rupam Jain,TNN | Sep 13, 2014, 06.24PM IST
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Men too can be victims of a bad marriage! Sympathy and the benefit of doubt is not something that’s granted to these men who allege being on the wrong side of Section 498A, which according to them doesn’t give much room for any explanations once they’re slapped with dowry harassment. Could this actually have contributed to the high number of married men who take their own lives? According to the recent National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) report, the number of married men committing suicide is actually higher than that of married women. While, women ending their lives due to marital harassment, is well played out in the media, and by several NGO voices, the marginally higher number of married men who have taken their lives is seldom heard. The NCRB report has it that 70.8% of the suicide victims are married males while 66.6% are married females. Hyderabad Times meets with some of these harassed husbands to hear their side of the story …

Navin*, an engineer, who had been working in the US, was picked up from the Shamshabad airport last year on his return to the city. He was then taken to the Women’s Crime Cell. He got a bail, but the nightmare is far from over. He is charged under Section 498A and has been fighting for the custody of his six-and-a-half-year-old daughter for the past one-and-a-half-year now.

It was in 2007 that Navin got married and took his wife to the US. “We were very happy. Our daughter was born within a year. She completed us. We had a honeymoon period of three years,” says Navin.

Ask him what went wrong then, and he takes a pause before saying, “Recession hit and I my job became my priority, after which came my daughter and then my wife. Gradually, we began having arguments as I wasn’t able to spend much time with her. Then, on impulse, I told her ‘Don’t bother me and go back to India’. I realised the next day that I had made a mistake and told her to forget everything and go back to being like earlier. But she was adamant to leave. So I let her. The day she left with my daughter, I didn’t even have the courage to drop them off to the airport. I knew I was losing my daughter and I was shattered. It’s then that I thought of ending my life… Had it not been for my mother, who flew down immediately to be with me, I wouldn’t have been alive.”

Arguments apart, Navin did not in his wildest nightmare think that his wife would press charges of dowry harassment and domestic violence on him. “She had hit me with a pan once, but I never ran to cops saying my wife beat me. These charges are false. She has been brainwashed and has been explained the power of Section 498A and that’s what she has filed against me. But, what affected me the most is that she also accused my family and they were arrested… I began blaming myself for everything that happened.”

Men are looked upon as the abuser, never as the abused

This ‘blame thyself’ is essentially what triggers suicidal tendencies in men, says Sudhakar*. “The National Crime Record Bureau shows that more and more married men are committing suicide. I can tell you that the numbers will be much higher because there are many who never speak up about the abuse and the trauma they go through in a marriage. Our society does not give men the liberty of being called the ‘abused’. We are always looked upon as the ‘abuser’. And herein lies the problem. When a woman walks into a police station accusing her man of domestic violence, it’s very easy to accept that the woman has been wronged. Nobody would believe if a man said the same,” explains Sudhakar.

I lost my job because of the charges pressed against me

Thirty-year-old Sudhakar was looking for a homely girl when he met Nandita. It was a match arranged by his parents. Before tying the knot in May last year, Sudhakar and Nandita dated each other for seven months and everything looked ‘made in heaven’ till the day of the wedding. “Just when the ceremony was over, I got to know that Nandita was not from my caste or religion, whereas my family and I were made to believe that they were. I kept shut. My dad is a heart patient and I didn’t want to disclose this to him. Later that night, Nandita told me herself that she didn’t belong to my religion. I was still patient. It was okay. But eventually, she walked out of the house with her father, taking away all the jewellery that we had gifted her in marriage. I tried to call her back home, but she didn’t budge. This continued till June. Then, in October, she lodged a complaint with the police saying I am impotent and that my family and I have harassed her. She pressed charges under Section 498A, 420 and 506. It was I who was cheated into marriage, and not the other way round. But my family and I were picked up on a Friday and kept behind bars for two days. I was shattered. She is demanding `1 crore for settlement and a divorce. The trauma didn’t end there. In November, when I went back to work, I was told I am no longer employed since I was embroiled in a ‘498A case’. Since

November last year, I have been jobless. All I do is make innumerable rounds of the police station as they keep calling me. Sometimes, I feel like ending it all… Was marriage a sin I committed? Did I make a mistake?” asks Sudhakar.

Men in age group 24-40 most harassed

It’s not surprising then that the number of married committing suicide is on the rise. And to raise awareness for the same in the city, members of the Save Indian Family Group (Hyderabad Chapter) have been trying to reach out to people.

According to the NCRB report, social and economic causes have led most of the males to commit suicides, whereas emotional and personal causes have mainly driven females to end their lives. “I am not surprised at all,” says a member of the Save Indian Family Group (Hyderabad) that helps in reaching out to married men in distress. “We get at least five calls from men every week telling us how their marriage is not working out and how traumatised they are, owing to which they feel like ending their lives. These are men mostly in the age group of 24-40; sometimes, even 50.”

Among those who came to our office to meet us was Kishan*, who had been married for 13 years before he was thrown out of his house in the year 2007 and accused under Section 498A. He keeps silent while Navin tells us, “He has two grown-up children, but doesn’t know anything about them. And you know what? He would have been the vice president of a company, but in the background check, they found out that he has a harassment case on him, and so they rejected him. He is also jobless.”

It is not a ‘manly’ thing to ask for help

We ask Dr Sona Kakkar, who specializes in marital therapy, if she has seen more married men walking in to her clinic with marriage problems. “Yes, there has been a considerable increase in the number of married men coming in the past year or so. They have similar issues of incompatibility, just like women do. The difference is — women usually speak out and seek help, whereas men keep bottling things up because they think it’s not a ‘manly’ thing to ask for help. And hence, men are more prone to taking drastic steps when they feel nothing in their life is going right. Marriage is a big thing in our society and when that fails, it affects men as much as it affects women. In fact, reports suggest that men try their best to keep their wives happy, because they think that’s the way to a happy life, but when their efforts are met with criticism or no appreciation, they feel rejected. That’s when incompatibility issues arise and they don’t know who to talk to. I have had many married men come to me with such problems. I think married men committing suicides is a neglected area — there is a need to address this!”

I tried reaching Mr. Kamal from UP but his number is switched off. My brother has got married recently and is a victim of wife abuse. He has been dragged to the local police station on false allegations. He is keen to take divorce but our system unfortunately favors women only. Please connect me with someone who can guide us in all the legal matters related to it. I can be reached on 9810897376. Appreciate your response asap.

I am Amit Anand, living in dehradun, and i am very upset by the behavior of my wife, and how she misuse the laws against me.

Don’t know the reason why she do it, a small conflict takes me to police station, women’s helpline or court for divorce.

She just cant stop doing things that makes me weak.

Please help me regarding this matter. In the five years of marriage, not a single day goes well. She forced me to not to meet my son from last one year and hardly met him last three years. My carrier ends. Don’t know when she will stop doing this.

SIR,
I am of 23 age. my career is just begins and I am working in Chandigarh which is 290+ kms far away from my house. one of my relative cousin brother wife has reported a fake case against me that I have done some nonsense with her. on ,16/10/2014 11am she has reported in police station that rahul have forced me etc. at that time I was in my office and I have CCTV footage of that day and even my boss have given in written that I was in office. I have all proofs against that women. she have done this report second time. so plz suggest me what is security of innocent men’s. police also coming in my house. can you suggest me which type of action I can take on that women for my security for future.

Hello Paramaguru, Are you from Pune ? If yes, please attend weekly meeting. You can join us there. If you are from other place. You can connect with us, via the various means. We are working on allowing membership to Out of Station people.

Wife is working on permanant basis. and she has license of registered pharmacist. Suggest me how can i get information from food and drug office of her illegal work thats harmful for public. Main office of fda in mumbai. Please guide me.