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amicable

Whenever I told people that we were separating, the overwhelming response was, “OMG what happened? You guys were SUCH A GREAT COUPLE!” The assumption was that there had to be “something” that “broke us up”. But the truth was, after over 20 years, whether we wanted it or not, our paths had diverged. It was the clearest moment when I knew that it was over. I wanted something. He didn't want it. There was a passive power struggle (we were both peace-keepers). And the realization hit me that we actually wanted different things in life now. Our children were nearly grown-up. Twenty-two years ago, we wanted the same things in life. And perhaps our paths had started separating years before. But we weren't willing to look at it because we both believed strongly in the institution of marriage. It was normal to have ups and downs, right? We were taught [...]