Atheist in hiding - Atheist Nexus2016-12-09T16:04:54Zhttp://atheistnexus.org/forum/topics/atheist-in-hiding?feed=yes&xn_auth=noDISCLAIMER: I don't know crap…tag:atheistnexus.org,2011-07-31:2182797:Comment:14772872011-07-31T01:21:25.184ZDavid Anamhttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/DavidAnam
<p>DISCLAIMER: I don't know crap about parenting, take my words at your own risk.</p>
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<p>If religion were hot sauce, my parents would be the extra mild kind. How they decided to raise us was to not talk too much about what they believe, but say "some people believe this, some people believe that." I don't recall them ever talking about how they felt about it or even showing a preference. I would think this could work in your situation, where you and your wife avoid making any…</p>
<p>DISCLAIMER: I don't know crap about parenting, take my words at your own risk.</p>
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<p>If religion were hot sauce, my parents would be the extra mild kind. How they decided to raise us was to not talk too much about what they believe, but say "some people believe this, some people believe that." I don't recall them ever talking about how they felt about it or even showing a preference. I would think this could work in your situation, where you and your wife avoid making any statements yourself, but simply state clearly what other people believe, and suggest that your children think about the possibilities themselves.</p>
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<p>However, far more importantly than how you approach your children is that you and your wife fully understand each other. While I wouldn't normally tell someone to come out if they're not ready, when children enter the situation I personally think that is a signal that it's time to spill the beans whether you're ready or not. The longer you wait to tell her, the harder it is going to be and the less time you will have to discuss it together and come up with a solution that works for both of you.</p>