Exploring Gender Identity

Post Transition Grief continued

by Sequoia Elisabeth on December 8, 2009

In continuing our discussion of transition grief, any situation can create grief, pain or resistance, but actual harm is our perception of what is expected and not from the actual event. Say you touch the red hot stove, your mind knows that this will burn you and then it produces the burn experience. This phenomenon has been proven by various groups of researchers and is pretty amazing when you think about it.

Noticing how you feel in each moment of your life is important. It is a good idea to do a mental inventory of your day before going to bed or at any point in the day so that you can be grateful for that which you enjoyed and for the things you did not enjoy. Even if you did not enjoy an experience you can simply accept it as another experience and release it because it no longer serves you. It is sort of like choosing apples at the market. We pick one up, look closely at it, feel it, smell it and simply keep the ones we want putting the others back.

As I mentioned before there is a simple method of dealing with the issues as they arise in our lives. It is important to develop this attitude before they arise so that it is automatic. Some doctors may call this a coping mechanism, I simply know that this works because I have used it many times. It has become a way of life for me. Here is what you do each and every time you have an experience, simply say to yourself, YES.

Yes, I accept this event, experience, situation, because I know that I am meant to be here or I would not be here! YES, YES, YES! In the process of having the faith to say yes no matter what, we are released from any harmful effects the event may have otherwise created. You see it is our attitude and belief about what happens to us that determines the outcome. All sorts of things are going to happen, that is the nature of transition, just remember that good and bad are up to you to decide and even if you decide that it is bad, painful or a disaster be thankful for the experience and choose to never go through that again. Let go of the experience in the process of choosing who you are, and stay focused on your desires while forgetting the rest! Our lives can truly be Heaven on earth if we decide that is what we desire. So open your eyes and your heart and see the beauty this awesome world has to offer.