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Were the mothers who spank their children spanked when they were little?

I was a bit of a problem child and got my butt whooped...but I thank my mom for that every day now! I am a respectable adult and a great mother. I only spank as a last resort because I do believe she took out aggression on us kids at times, but other than that she did a great job with discipline. To this day I will never talk back to authority or disrespect my parents.

Yes. But I remember only being spanked three or four times my entire life. Same with both of my siblings.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 1:44 PM on Sep. 3, 2009

probably

Answer by
Anonymous
at 1:46 PM on Sep. 3, 2009

yes, wasn't always the best child when it came to listening. Don't discipline out of anger though, that is not good.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 1:46 PM on Sep. 3, 2009

Yes, I think they are unable to stop the cycle of violence or lack the tools to implement more effective discipline methods. Somebody who wasn't speanked, was respected will hardly think that spanking is okay.

Thank you for the honest responses. Psychology books say that the cycle never ends. I guess the Books are correct. OP

Answer by
Anonymous
at 1:51 PM on Sep. 3, 2009

I was spanked...mainly as a last resort. I was never abused nor beaten...no marks or bruises. I do spank my children as well. They do not get a spanking for every thing they get in trouble for, only for pretty serious things. I'd say they get a spanking once or twice a year.

And bebita, we utilize a variety of discipline methods in our home, and spaking does happen to be one of them. However I would surely not say that it was violence when used as it should be.