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a little dating advice for the ladies

1) Your hair gets a little grey. (And by “a little grey,” I mean that some mornings your pillow looks like you had a vigorous, yet respectful, threesome with Anderson Cooper and Paula Deen.)

2) You gain a bit of wisdom about relationships.

I have a relationship theory. I actually have a few, but for the sake of saving some blog fodder for future posts, I am going to tell you one.

“A lot of people start out looking for the wrong type of person.”

These are often the same people who keep wondering why their relationships never last.

I’ve done it. I’ve gotten involved with women who were TERRIBLE fits for me. And I did it while simultaneously writing on my blog about an “ideal” girl who actually would have been a great fit for me. (And is!)

For the sake of this post, I’m mainly going to focus on SOME women looking for the wrong types of guys. Mostly because the majority of my readers are women. (But partially because I figured I could make more jokes this way.)

Over the years I have had a lot of female friends asks for advice on guys.

My standard, only half-kidding, replies are:

Avoid dating men who own more than five pairs of shoes in warm locales or six in cold.
Avoid dating men who shave anywhere below the neck. (Ron Swanson agrees!)
Avoid dating men who own an iron!

But sometimes I want to just ask if they really think the guy they’re describing seems like a good fit to them. It is often the same thing when I read blog posts about what single women are looking for in a man.

Date someone who is a good fit for you, not your favourite “type.”

I don’t understand some of the things on their lists:

Financial ambition. Having a high-paying job doesn’t necessarily equal being ambitious. Just like how having little money doesn’t show a lack of ambition. Maybe he’s a starving artist, or works for a non-profit. And those hyper-driven business types are the guys that you complain about to your friends at happy hour because, “All he does is work!”

Men with fashion sense. Really? Who cares? And do you really want to share closet space?

I’m totally against people saying they have a “type” unless their “type” is a living, breathing, conscious human who likes them. There is always an exception (or two or two hundred) to the rules you set. It’s like a horoscope or fortune cookie for your future – any situation and person can fit in a broad set of rules so open it up and enjoy.

Ummm…couldn’t love this more! I feel the longer I wait & years I put behind me, the more and more I know the actual traits that would be best suited for me. I no longer curse the years passing but rather welcome them and the clarity they bring. Amazing Post, Sir!

This post is exactly what I’ve been saying. In my culture, my parents try and filter through all of the guys that aren’t a good fit for me and find the ones that are! It saves so much time and effort from wasting your time dating guys who are just not good for you! Yeah, I’m talking about arranged marriages, but i don’t think there’s any harm if providing option of potential fits? About me personally i’m really young in my early 20’s and I’ve never dated, but i often see alot of my friends dating guys who are just not respecting them! And when i tell me about my lifestyle, they just cant imagine marrying a guy who your parents choose.