Bride's email to wedding guest over her cash gift is enough to take back all congratulations

Weddings are expensive — and not just for the bride and groom. As a guest of the happy couple you need to budget for travel, an outfit (fancy hat optional), spending money and, of course, the wedding gift. Deciding how much to spend on the gift can be tricky but isn't it the thought that counts?

Um, not always. It's depressing but some newlyweds will be majorly pissed off if you don't push the boat out when shopping for their wedding gift. And then there are some who actually call out guests for not being generous enough.

One wedding guest shared her experience of this on Mumsnet after the bride — a former colleague — said she was unhappy to receive a cash gift of £100. The guest, an anonymous poster known as Puzzledandpissedoff and believed to be from the U.K., asked fellow Mumsnetters for advice after she received an email from the bride reading, "We were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received."

"For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this," she wrote, explaining that her "position" probably referred to a recent inheritance she had received. The woman received over a thousand responses within three days, with many people suggesting she cancel the cheque altogether.

She said the cheque had already been cashed and later revealed she had replied to the bride's email with one sentence: "I assume this was some sort of mistake?" Several days later she returned to the forum with an update — still no response from the bride.

Sometimes silence speaks volumes. Here's hoping this particular couple have realised that what's important about a wedding is the celebration of love in front of your closest family and friends and not the figure on the cheque inside the Congratulations card. It shouldn't matter if someone gifts you £10, £50 or £2,000. And if you think it does you're a jerk of the highest order.