Mad at what mother in law wants to be called.. advice please

So this may sound silly but I am getting really pissed at my mother in law. I love her to death, she is more a mother to me than my own mother. I am like the only daughter she has cause she has a total of 6 boys; so before this we have gotten along great!

When she came over last week and the topic of what our child is going to call her came up. She feels she is to young to be called grandma. I made the suggestions of nana, meme, mema and acouple others. she doesn't like nana cause it is to close to how a kid says banana. she doesn't like meme cause it sound concetive. she deosn't like mema cause she says to many people have mema's. She wants to be called Momma Donna. um i'm sorry.. .no! I'm momma. My friends, family, co-workers, and my HUSBAND calls me Momma and it kinda fits. I like momma better than mommy anyway. She thinks I need to just be called mommy and let her be momma. I asked her where that came from and she said that my husband used to call his grandma momma boo. However his grandma raised him a big portion of his life. But that isn't going to be the case in this situation. I just don't know what to do! Help please.†

I feel so bad cause I am really angry about this. any thoughts or suggestions?

I¬†would¬†just say "lets see what the LO calls you... kids are so creative and come up with some great names on their own. And then it'll be personalized and really meant for you with love!" lol

My oldest cousin called our grandparents Mammie because he couldn't pronounce 'grammie' and it stuck. 25 years later my youngest cousins called her that. And he dubbed our grandfather 'poppy' which also stuck.

You can refer to them as your LOs grandparents. I don't think with the right tone or attitude that it's cold or impersonal and leaves the gateway open for something to really pop out at both of you.

YOU are the Momma, it should be what you are comfortable with.¬† My mom refused to be called grandma, so my sister chose Nana (like the sound a horse makes)¬† now my children call her that as well.¬† If she doesn't like what you pick then tell her that she needs to come up with something that isn't momma or mommy,¬† that you approve of.¬†

You may need to just put your foot down and tell her no. ¬†And what's up with her thinking that Meme sounds conceited when she is conceited herself in thinking she's too young to be called Grandma??? ¬†Gimme a break!

You may want to hit up the Dealing witht the In Laws and Family of Origin board. ¬†Make sure you're wearing your big girl panties if ¬†you do, though. ¬†:)

Oh no! Lol! I don't think you are being silly at all. Um, I would have major prolems with that myself. However me and mil do not get along. But that is my personal opinion, she needs to find a different name for herself. This sounds ridiculous to me but...would you or her be offended by MoMo? Its close to mamma but not the same and it doent sound like a grandma.

Put your foot down.¬† Tell her, "I am the only one that this child will call Mom, Mama, Mommy, or anything that sounds like that.¬† You can pick a different name, or we can pick one for you when LO is old enough."¬† Stay firm.¬†

Oh goodness...I went through the same thing with my MIL.¬† First she didn't want to be grandma because of the same reasons...so she decided on meme.¬† As Lily got older she said grandma was fine but Lily had a hard time saying it so it sounded like momma.¬† My MIL would always encourage it and DH and I would continue to say grandma.¬† It irritated me so much for the same reasons...I am her MOM.¬† But then again she barely ever even wishes me a happy mother's day or seems to respect me as a mom.¬†

She also always called Lily, Lala which drove me up a wall too but that's another thread....

I'd let your LO figure out what to call her. I don't know what my parents refered to my dad's mom as to me, but one day I decided I wanted to call her Mamou and have ever since...she's just not to know what it really means at this point. At the time, I had created (or so I thought) the word, but apparently it has a meaning in Greek (Baboon). I had never heard the word before I started using it and never knew it had a meaning till I was in high school.

I call my mom's mom (aka grandmom) "Mommom"¬† Not MOM MOM but like 'Mum Mum'.¬† Have you put that nickname to her?¬† And I agree with 'agoodrichgirl' about seeing what the LO calls her.¬† They come up with the best nicknames.