When I was about 10 years old, my father and I sat at the kitchen table and drew a family chart with a chewed and nubby old #2 pencil and a sheet of notebook paper. I still have that paper, yellowed and creased. It was the start of a life long hobby and one of the greatest gifts my father gave me.
I study the Allen family of Wake County, NC, the Davis family of Granville County, NC, the Stancil and Johnson families of Johnston County, NC and all their collateral lines.

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September 26, 2016

More questions than answers

How it is that I got one answer but it led me to about 1000 new questions? Is that crazy?

I received news of my mom's blood type. The news is bad. She doesn't match.

Mom = O+Dad = O-Potential Baby = O

Uh oh.

Carla = A+

It's not possible for two O parents to produce an A child. Unless they're mutants, which they aren't. This means one or both of my parents are not my biological parents. Now, everyone keeps reminding me what an awesome childhood I had, so what does it matter, blah, blah, blah.

Seriously?

Yes, I had a great childhood and as I keep saying, I will love my parents until the end of time.

But.

Can you imagine what it might be like to discover in mid-life that the one constant you would have forever is now a mystery?

I've lived a great life, but like all lives it's not been without it's bumps. All the usual stuff, such as crazy teenagers, divorce, cancer. Now this. Now I discover my parents are UNKNOWN.

I don't come from the type of people who have unknown parents. But...guess what? I do!

One of the following 4 things will become my new constant:

1) NPE. Non-parental event. (Is that a cold term for the matter or what?)2) Adoption (birth certificate faked, family member got in the "family way", etc)3) Switched at birth (these words still make my head spin)4) Sperm donor. Really? In 1959?

So I'm seriously chasing the DNA matches to see where they lead me. One in particular is intriguing...a FIRST cousin. Problem is he has a fairly common name but heck he is a FIRST cousin AND is of Jewish descent. So I'm bugging total strangers to help me with a mystery that isn't even theirs.

Just call me the "BULLDOG". Cause that's what I'm gonna be until I get some answers!

1 comment:

My FIL was adopted by the aunt of the man with whom my FIL's mother eloped during WWII. Unfortunately, the mother was still married to the blood line father. Three children went to two different families. No adoption papers can be found, but enough relatives were still alive to give clues. Eventually, we named the blood mother and father, and I'm working on those lines.

So sad you discover this, but go now to all relatives still living to query them on all aspects. Good luck!