The Life Listener

Who are the people to whom you go to for advice? Not to the hard, practical ones who can tell you exactly what to do, but to the listeners; that is, the kindest, least censorious, least bossy people you know. It is because by pouring out your problem, you then know what to do about it yourself.Brenda Ueland The Art of Listening

The Art of Listening ﻿Today more than ever we are in need of someone to listen to us. Do you realize that listening is the basis of all professional help that is available. If you go to the doctor, they have to listen closely to what you are telling them before they can diagnose your health issues. If you go to a lawyer, they have to listen to your story before they will take your case. If you go to a religious person of faith, they are going to listen to what you have to say, so that they can offer you spiritual healing.

Years ago we had bigger and closer connections to our families and communities to share the situations of our stories. Today with the higher level of demands and stress on everyone, we feel like no one has the time to listen to our fears, worries, struggles because they have too many of their own.

Unfortunately we have become disconnected to each other despite all the modern gadgets that connect us to an overwhelming bigger world.

In our fast paced world, often there is no one to encourage our dreams, share our accomplishments and give us an honest opinion. We fear the judgement of others and are afraid of looking vulnerable in the eyes of our family, friends and coworkers. We suffer trying to keep everything inside and we beat ourselves up because we think no one will understand. Our troubles are often based on limiting beliefs, self image issues and the inability to really listen to one and another.

A Mentor is a life listener who does not judge your story. They allow you to speak out your feelings in a private non-judgemental conversation. They have studied the Art of Listening because of their own need to understand human nature though the life long study of health and wellness, psychology, spirituality, possibilities, energy, mentoring and empowerment coaching. Understanding women means that we have to encompass every aspect of a woman’s life, her physical, emotional, and mental health, her financial situation, her relationships and her belief patterns.

Sometimes times we don't need the standard professional services; instead we just need someone to listen to our struggles, help us to feel better, remind us to take better care of ourselves, offer us clarity, direction, honesty and encouragement. I believe that listening is what is most needed by all of us. It is something so basic, that we often take it for granted. We all have a yearning and need to be heard and understood so that we can move forward in life. Talking through your situation with someone, allows you to unburden the heaviness of your inner dialogue and often lessens the emotional hurt, relieves the stress and helps you find your way to a solution. ​ My goal is to help women to understand themselves by letting go of the parts of their story that have held them back. "You cannot heal in silence for an untold story never mends."

"The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”~Stephen King