Broke NC because of a bad car accident.Advice.

So I have been NC with a girl whom I talked to on and off for the past 2 years. This past year I was friend zoned but still her FWB. Went no contact on and off 2 months ago and now she is in a relationship with another guy. Last night, I was in a horrible car accident in which the car I was in hit a hill at 55mph and flipped. I had a cut up arm and a concussion. The passenger in the car with me was my Ex's roommate. So she calls her up and my Ex and her new boyfriend drive up to the scene. Then my Ex comes over to me to make sure I am ok said yea and limped away to the ambulance where I was checked out by the medics and my roommate drove me home.

I visited her last night when her and her guy were hanging out. I asked her to talk and I appoligized for the jerk I have been to her these two years. I told her that I couldn't forgive myself if I died in that car accident and the last conversation me and her had, was a fight. She told me that she cares about me and just wants me to be happy. She said that she "loves me, but it's in another way." She told me that she couldn't live the same again if I would of died. We talked about our past and how different things would of been if we meet now instead of two years ago (I was away at school, she was living at home). She said that she wants us to get to a point where I can hang out with her and her boyfriend without it being awkward. I told her I couldn't see myself doing that. (Seeing this dude having a better shot at her heart than I did would just kill me you guys.)

She told me our relationship ended from a number of things, mostly "We just got boring, we just got too comfortable with each other" and she said "If we did go out now rather than before, it might of been different."

I told her that i owe it to myself, her, and my friends and family to turn my shyt around and get back to being the fun lovable guy everyone knew me as back when we were dating.

So what gives gentleman? She said we should go see a movie sometime but "It's strictly platonic". Also her and this new guy were all over each other after we talked.

Do I have a chance at getting her back? Her eyes were watery when we talked and I KNOW there has to be a part of her I can still win over. How do I do all this with another dude already there?

Re: Broke NC because of a bad car accident.Advice.

My suggestion? Stay NC and become the fun-loving guy you were, just like you said. Take a rain check on the movie.

She has a new guy now, and no one can change that except her, to be honest. You can't control her actions, but you can control yours. So work on yourself, meet other women, and try to get your mind off of her.

You've done yourself a favor by going NC, stick to it. I'm in a somewhat similar position right now myself. The only difference is that you actually got a chance to get back on good terms with each other. Leave it at that, and if you still want her down the road, your chances will be better than they are right now. Stick to the path.

Re: Broke NC because of a bad car accident.Advice.

I agree with Sterling in that stay on the path of NC and leave your ex and new guy alone. Emotions are running high with you and her right now due to the terrible accident which is common in these type of situations. Seek out a new girl who have the qualities that you are looking for in a girlfriend, and be the fun loving person that you were before. If it should workout that you and your ex get back together fine if not at least you will have regained your confidence, realized your mistakes from the previous relationship and be a better person for it.

Re: Broke NC because of a bad car accident.Advice.

Yea I agree with you both. No contact has opened my eyes a lot of my situation with her. The only hurdle still hard to get over is the "would of, could of, should ofs". If she would of told me that she thought we were too comfortable when we dated, I would of upped my game ten fold, but that's the past and I can't change it nor lift my leg up high enough to kick myself in the ass.

She is a big movie buff, me and her both are. Last time I invited her to see a movie about a month ago she secretly told her roommate (my good friend). "Why is he asking me to the movies, he knows damn well that is the way to my heart lol"

IDK. I she her really wanting to try with this new guy. I just hope down the road she misses us and no longer wants him. Time is gonna suck but hopefully it flies.

I mean her new dude only saw 3 min of all of the Harry Potter movies for god sake. Me and her can almost quote all of them.

I am gonna cut back on the drinking and going out, also plan on getting a gym membership and just bought a puppy last week so I think im heading in the right direction thus far lol.