Schmetails Okay, I know “schmetails” isn’t a real word…but I wanted to send you something this week to make sure you turn that “to-do” list into a “to-done” list. I heard this quote when I spoke in Boise, Idaho earlier this month. Similar to “done is better than perfect,” it’s been helping me out a…

I was a 17 year old high school junior when it first happened. The darkness of the morning was present and still. I was sick with a fever, ear infection, sinus infection, and severely dehydrated as I had not been able to digest any food in days. I found out a former classmate had committed…

I don’t know about you, but it seems like there’s so much noise going around lately. Good, bad, or indifferent…it just seems like there’s a lot of stuff, doesn’t it? There are obligations, RSVP’s, work, graduations, goals, projects, side hustles, commitments, responsibilities…and the list goes on. I’ve been feeling it lately, too. So last week, I…

You all know I love my Instagram proverbs. I recently scrolled across a quote from Novelist Anne Lamott’s April 2017 TED Talk: Lamott is a speaker, activist, and faith based supporter of all things good. This quote came at a time in my life where I was at an interesting intersection between results and work….

If you’re breathing anywhere near social media, you’ve probably heard these quotes before: “Make more moves and less announcements” “Real G’s move in silence” “Lions never lose sleep over the opinion of sheep” Now, these are all great Instagram Proverbs – I’ve been quoted saying some myself. However, what do you do when you find…

My sister uttered these words to me one time, “Vannesia, self care is the best care.” Now I don’t recall the context of the conversation, but I remember when she said it, I responded with the snaps of approval…you know the ones. You see, my sister has been studying Psychology for over 10 years, most…

Have you ever felt like this guy right here? It’s funny how we think of balance as even scales or a perfectly proportioned pie. I mean, you can’t really blame us. We’ve been institutionalized to think that balance is something to strive for. From balance sheets in finance to balancing physical check books back in…

What if I told you that everything you’ve experienced in your life was 100% necessary for you – would you believe it? My birthday is tomorrow (I’m accepting all gifts, greetings, lunches, dinners, cakes, clothes and money without shame – let me know if you need to know my sizes!). Birthdays always breed a time…

I once had a co-worker, turned older brother, who would stalk my Instagram page. Although we were close in age, he was at a totally different stage in life. Married with two children, he always referenced what I did on the weekend as a foot loose and fancy free twenty something. Now, don’t get me…

I have a hate-hate relationship with the stair master…yes, I said it. I hate it and (judging how I feel when I climb off that treacherous machine) it surely hates me. If I don’t have time to take a class at the gym, I usually do a 30-45 minute mashup between the treadmill, the elliptical,…