Topic: How do you deal with your anger? (Read 861 times)

Sometimes people can say things that really gets to me, but there's a place and time for everything... life's to short so i don't take on much. I'm not saying i don't get angry...everybody does. I prefer to hold in my anger and let it out when its appropriate. sometimes you say things that you really don't mean and have to regret it, so i try my best to keep my mouth shut in certain situations.

I'm generally a very happy person, and I've become so much more patient with others over the past couple years. (This is mainly because of problems involving my middle sister and parents that I have no control over.) I've grown to realize that I can't lash out at people because I feel angry or hurt from issues they have no control over. And I've also realized that everyone gets angry and upset with everybody, it's human nature.Even though I've always naturally been a non-combative person (raise the roof for Sagittarians!!), I do occasionally get upset to the point where I don't want to talk or deal with anyone, even if they're my best friend and have no idea that I'm upset and/or why. What I tend to do is just shut the door, turn off my phone, sit in silence on the way home from work, walk through a mall or park before I go home, etc. and not talk to anyone until I return to my normal state of happiness. I'll even tell my friends and family that I'm feeling grouchy or angry, or that I need some alone time, and I don't think it's best to talk or do anything until I feel better.If it's something that I absolutely need to get out of my head and off my chest, I'll call up one of my two best friends and vent out my anger with them. And if they're not available, I'll call up one of my grandmothers and talk to them.

I find that these two ways (the former more than the latter) really help me to cope with any anger I feel at any time. And of course, who can deny a nice long nap if there's time??

I totally agree...i think its better you have alone time that way we won't have any regrets on hurting others feelings. talking about it really do help...i've done it many times and it helped to ease my anger.

Anger is a natural emotion, and our Creator gave it to us for a reason. The Bible says to be angry and sin not. I don't like being talked down to like I'm stupid. Or my words taken and twisted to mean something totally different than what was actually being said. That will get me angry. I don't like injustice of any kind against someone who can't defend themselves. No matter who they are. Don't come against my family or your asking for trouble. Back me in a corner and I'll come out fighting.

Other than that, I'm pretty happy with life. Time for some Ice cream!!

Whenever I get angry at someone, I try to walk away and give us both time to calm down and control ourselves. When we are angry, we all tend to say or do things that we don't really mean. Anger and temper can take control of you. I think in most situations it benefits everyone to just walk away and talk about things later. The outcome is usually a lot better this way.

I have noticed that getting the frustration out during a nice intense workout gets the stress of being anger conquered.Lashing back never seems to help.Keeping it in is not healthy at all.A few different stations at the gym, and I seem to forget about it.

I generally keep it in, but after time it builds up. My husband was being us reasonable about our money situation. He decided to quit working and become a landloard, which I thought would be easier on him but he is always having to fix somthing with those places. The renters don't pay on time always late and they don't have their trash, electric, or water and we have to carry them every single month. We don't have any money to pay the renters bills, in order for everything to stay on it has to be paid, including the morgage on the rentals, it got so bad we lost our own home and had to move from a four bedroom two story house which my son built (with help)to my design and moved into the rental unit that was a one bedroom trailor. So I got angry and got in a 4x4 truck and drove it over all his hobby cars, and I ruined the 4x4 as well. During this time I was under going stress for a surgery I was having because the first time the doctor nicked my intestines and I needed time to heal now I was going back in to revert the clostomy bag an remove the hurnea tha I had. I was just so tired of everything and I am supose to enjoy retirment and I was not. (I can't believe I did that but I did) thats the angeriest I have ever been.