How to Forgive a Friend Who Betrayed You – The Right Way!

You are really deeply hurt by your friend’s betrayal but you sincerely want to forget everything and move forward with your friendship, despite the painful experience, right?

And you want to to know how to forgive a friend who betrayed you so that you can heal the wound and the pain, they caused you and overcome it once and for all, isn’t it?

Well, as they say, a friend’s betrayal is one of the hardest things to bear, but for a willing and determined heart it is possible.

And I will be helping you learn how to do this in the best way possible, okay?

Sweet! In fact, let’s get into it right away. 🙂

My View on Friendship

When it comes to truefriendship, one of the strongest pillars that make it last long, with pure respect and love, is trust. And when it is betrayed, it feels like everything is lost.

But it’s actually not.

This is simply because it is only ONE of the pillars, not the ONLY pillar.

This means that it is still possible to save the friendship if the friend who betrayed you regrets what they did and ask for forgiveness, or if you don’t want to spend too much of your energy on holding grudges and being resentful.

Forgiving people is actually far easier than staying angry with them, and also has a lot of peace of mind to offer.

And to be able to forgive completely, you only need to know how to let go of the pain of betrayal, and learn own to build the trait of forgiveness within you.

Doing this will not only help you overcome the current pain, but also equip you properly for any other friend who might want to cross that same river again.

But, as you become a forgiving person and learn to forgive the friend and anyone who hurts you, be it a husband, wife in a marriage, or in a relationship, you also have to be careful that they don’t take you granted, and keep lying to you.

Be wise, learn to forgive as it is essential, but also be on guard against those who would take advantage of your supposed sweetness.

Now, to help you know how to build up the trait of forgiveness in you and also get to release the pain, there is a forgiveness system I will be telling you of that helps greatly with this, which I came to really admire, and which I know you are also going to find quite useful.

My Preferred System for Forgiveness

The system I have seen to be quite efficient with helping you through the past pains and helping you grow in forgiveness the proper way is called TheChoiceofForgiveness.

It has great resources that address these two aspects very well, and that is why I really like it.

The simplicity and effectiveness with which it handles this subject is just amazing.

Personally, I have not seen any other system measure up to the quality work done by the Choice of Forgiveness.

8 Comments

It’s really interesting your post. I didn’t know there even was a CD to helping you forgive others. Definitely, you make a pleasure to yourself by achieving peace of mind and don’t feel like any resentment for anyone. I think that your advice and these books are perfect for those who really consider important for them the relationship they live into but usually, people tend to keep resentment… This is something I will recommend to my sister since she has a friend who really hurt her and have never forgiven her and herself too. Thanks

One of my best friends has been betrayed by his coworker, which happen to be his best friend. For three months, he couldn’t speak anymore, and he lost a lot of his hair. He got really depressed! He went to a psychologist to cure his depression, and luckily he succeeded. Now he feels much better, but I don’t think he has forgiven him. If he really wants to go forward in life, he must get over it and let it go completely! I’ll show him this article. I am sure he will find it very useful.

Great lesson and a great site, and thank you kindly for sharing it with us all. Forgiveness is something that is very difficult to do, and very divine. It takes far more courage to forgive than not to forget. But one must not forget.

Being forgiving is one thing, being a doormat to be walked all over is another,

One must forgive wisely and not let off lightly in my humble opinion. The choice is forgiveness is something I must surely look into. Thanks.

I am also with you on that. You should forgive the mistake completely but never forget the lesson you took from it.

I think it is all about being a modest person.

Don’t be too lost in anger and bitterness that you won’t forgive others but then again don’t be too merciful and timid that you give others the chance to toy around with your emotions and not take you seriously.

If a friend betrays you, I don’t think that you can call them a friend anyone. I doubt I would give them the opportunity to continue to lie to me. I think hat once a person shows you who they are, then you better believe it. True colors are true colors. That being said you do have to forgive in order to move on properly.

I agree with you someone who hurts you once will most probably hurt you again. And there is need to protect yourself from them.

But then I tend to think that not all the hurt you will get from all your friends will be intentional. There are times when you friend will betray you without knowing it. And I think in such cases there is need to forgive them and move on still friends.

I think it all boils down to listening to the reason the friend has for the betrayal and then evaluating if it is really reasonable. If it is not, then I think you should try to distant yourself from them.