Amen. I never really crushed on anyone in high school except for one girl. She started talking to me randomly and was really nice out of nowhere. After a while of this we pass each other in the halls and after I pass I hear her ask her friend if she thought I was cute. Her friend said nah but she said that she did. The next day she asked me about some HW or something and touched my forearm, I played football and ran track and lifted so I was in good shape then, alas pudgy me now, and she was like "oh wow," we had school uniforms and my button up covered my arms, but I think I'll always remember that. The next day when she got off her bus I was nearby and she called out "hey" and waved. I waved back. Her ex bf was like 15 feet behind me. I realized that later. My friends gave me so much shit. That day on a bus down to the lower school she showed me a pic of her and her exbf kissing at the homecoming dance that happened the week before that I hadn't gone to. For a while I thought it was a dick move but idk nowadays I think that she wanted to make it clear that we wouldn't happen. But then why had she been so friendly for the few months before? Idk. High school is a tangle and besides highjinks in WoW and LoL, that was one of the more interesting times for me in HS. Idk your comment reminded me of that

You know maybe. I think the whole business was strange but even still I kinda sorta look back on that memory and her fondly? Even with how embarrassing and kinda mean she was. Idk. But yea sometimes girls are on another level than us it's crazy

That strange ambiguity where you want it to be true but your best attempts at looking at things rationally are utterly inconclusive...definitely high school XD

I've also got a "that one high school crush" story. Our last names were adjacent alphabetically, so we wound up getting placed together at various events. First time I saw her she was behind me in crutches at an induction ceremony sophomore year, but I didn't really notice her aside from that. Junior year the class is silently taking notes and she shyly says she likes my smile from across the room (her friend says it louder for her). Later she started hugging me from behind; I'd always just stand there. She'd say things like it was okay that I didn't have a license, because she'd take care of picking up the kids. For a while our physics teacher would put us in the same groups. I was loving it all, full blown limerence, but I did my best not to let on. From the story so far you'd think I was some stud and she was the nerdy one, but nope. She was pretty and popular, a star on the volleyball team, and I was the brown smart kid who played no sports (unless you count the tennis bench). XD

Eventually, the back hugs died out. One day I see her making out with this tall blonde guy who was built (as my FB stalking revealed). Her friend was a bandmate and would talk her up to me, but one day her friend says we wouldn't be a good match, and that I needed someone smart (RIP my crush XD).

Yet at some point the hugs came back, if a bit less frequently. One day in Spanish she said I had a nice voice. Apparently my Spanish teacher agreed XD I met her mom when we were lined up alphabetically for the senior award ceremony. I'd never seen her before but she knew who I was, and said she'd heard a lot about me. And when we were lined up for graduation, one of her other friends said we looked good together. She even gave me one of those full body waves from across the street the day of our new student convocation at university.

All that probably isn't even half the memories I have of her XD The first time I told a friend about my feelings for her, my whole body was shaking. I've never experienced something like that before or since. I sent her some cringeworthy (in hindsight) FB messages end of high school/start of college, the last of which was asking her to meet up, to which she never responded. That was still like 5 years ago though, and we're both past college at this point. Sometimes I think about telling her how I felt, admitting that after so long seems kinda creepy to me XD

Eh, that's the thing. I'm not really looking to date. I'd tell her more just to get it out there so it's not something I'm hiding. But on the flipside, I wonder if there's any point to that, or if I'd just be doing it to rekindle those fantasies that I have no intention of following through on.

Damn, this hits close to home. I’ve got a similar story but not high school more recently. And I’m struggling to get past it but the fact that you still remember it from 5 years ago has me worried for my situation. So much regret and wishing I could get it out of my head.

I mean, I still definitely remember it, and I can relive the feelings, but that's still not the same as currently having the crush. It's not like I find myself pining for her or having intrusive thoughts about her. That ended sometime during freshman year of college for me. The place was so big we didn't really run into each other.

I still think about telling her just to get it out there and maybe repay the "flattery debt" to a degree. But from my end I know there's no relationship in the cards. My personal beliefs are probably on the conservative end, i.e. no dating. So if there's something I regret, it's not being more direct with her. I know that personally I like answers better than mystery.

It definitely helped when I managed to tell another crush from university that I liked her. That way I at least proved to myself that I was capable of saying it. I probably wasn't back in high school.

Sometimes if you fight it, it persists more XD It's okay to like a girl my dude, and there's no shame if she doesn't like you back or if you couldn't work up the courage to tell her. It's like a stage of life every guy has to go through at some point. At a biological level we're probably designed to be the initiators most of the time, and that's a role that takes some growing into.

And my personal beliefs are probably on the conservative end. I still think about telling her just to get it out there and maybe repay the "flattery debt" to a degree. But from my end I know there's no relationship in the cards. So if there's something I regret, it's not being more direct with her, rather than leaving her in the mystery of silence. I know that personally I like answers better than mystery.

Sometimes if you fight it, it persists more XD It's okay to like a girl my dude, and there's no shame if she doesn't like you back or if you couldn't work up the courage to tell her. It's like a stage of life every guy has to go through at some point. At a biological level we're probably designed to be the initiators most of the time, but that's a role that takes some growing into.

Curious, when referring to appearance of a woman they find attractive, is cute interchangable with hot, beautiful or sexy for men?

For women cute is a more modern way of saying we find a guy kinds hot, or at least really attractive. However, I've noticed I've never been called cute, ever. I get called beautiful, or sexy a lot more often. The closest I've gotten to cute is 'very pretty.' However, I'm nearly 5'7, with a particular body type, so I wonder if that's reserved for shorter women with petite proportions?

For women cut is a more modern way of saying we find a guy kinds hot, or at least really attractive. However, I've noticed I've never been called cute, ever. I get called beautiful, or sexy a lot more often. The closest I've gotten to cute is 'very pretty.'However, I'm nearly 5'7, with a particular body type, so I wonder if that's reserved for shorter women with petite proportions?

Hmm, I see what you mean. Personally, I find all women cute. And I do use the word pretty interchangeably with hot/beautiful/sexy, i think cute encapsulated all of that in a much more innocent presentation. But I don’t reserve it for any one type of woman. All women and all body types are cute, at least in my eyes.

Maybe if it's a puppy or not something from a member of the opposite sex (or even same sex if the girl is also bisexual). If a guy does it says something nice in a heart warming way I'll say that's really nice of them to say!

Hmmm that's a tough question to answer. Part of the reason it gives me butterflies is it's unexpected! For me, the reasoning behind butterflies actually varies from person to person. When my boyfriend does something to show me he thinks of me when I'm not around, like bring me a TY stuffed kitten he got from a gas station while he was in the field working, it gives me butterflies. A guy I used to hang out with who was a big tough guy would give me butterflies when he would be protective or concerned for me. Another guy who is really smart when he tells me I'm smarter than he is (and means it) haha!

Well your input doesn’t matter because you’re not a girl and you’re giving opinions on what girls mean when they say.

I don’t mean to be rude, but I’m a male nurse and am around a shit ton of females. When girls say someone is cute they really mean, they think they’re relationship worthy or they think that they’re attractive. Cute is a safe way of saying they’re interested. Girls most of the time aren’t straight up and have to play it safe. Cute is the way they play it safe

Again don’t mean to be rude, but you’re dead wrong. Again I’m dead wrong with certain girls too. People are different and mean different things when they say different things too

I mean it's all in the tone/context. I rarely ever confess to a guy I'm admiring, "you're cute" to their face, but I do use it as a honest description for attractiveness... But also if I see something incredibly endearing in front of me, I might blurt out a higher pitched "cute"...

I mean it's all in the tone/context. I rarely ever confess to a guy I'm admiring, "you're cute" to their face, but I do use it for as a honest description... But also if I see something incredibly endearing in front of me, I might blurt out a higher pitched "cute"...

I compliment everyone who I find handsome or beautiful, ıts good to appreciate beauty and flatter people. It doesnt necessarily mean anything but the person just complimented you only complimented you. Just take it, smile and thank.

I actually hate it. It's devastating to be in your mid 20s and be called cute instead of anything like handsome, hot, attractive. It's like the compliment version of "you're like a brother to me." I get it a lot because I'm short.

Telling a guy I think he’s cute is my way of telling him he’s attractive. I would describe the 6’4 guy I crushed on and then the 5’3 guy I crushed on after the Dutch guy the same way, cute. Tried calling a guy handsome he responded with thanks grandma. So I’m sticking with cute!

Girl here, I'm 25, my SO is 21. When I first told him he's cute, his instant reaction was suprised and happy. But then he quickly asked me to confirm if I thought he was baby cute or attractive cute. 😅

My SO is straight forward to me about this, saying he wants me to think he's handsome and attractive, not baby cute. :3 He is both ways, but I occasionally find him baby cute and I tell him that as little as I can. I know saying "baby cute" too much would upset him.

Oh i do haha. Sorry, i didn’t word what i meant quite right. I always ask her and she will reply with 你很帅, 但你是我的宝贝 which basically means you’re handsome but you’re also my baby, i usually laugh it off as i don’t mind though

Oh i do haha. Sorry, i didn’t word what i meant quite right. I always ask her she will reply 你很帅, 但你是我的宝贝 which basically means you’re handsome but you’re also my baby, i usually laugh it off as i don’t mind though

I know how he feels. I'm pretty self-conscious and think people can generally only find me cute the way you find a child cute, so while I love being called cute if it's the majority of compliments I instead end up more insecure because I question if they also think the same about me. I swear, when my girlfriend seems particularly attracted to me I get shocked, every time. "You're my girlfriend... and you find me attractive? physically? sexually?" and then queue awkward giggling.

I say "Aww, well thank you! That really made my day." Because it really would, I want people to think I'm cute.

I have come up with a strategy of talking to people that seems effective: if I think something nice about someone, I say it to them with no hesitation. Seems to make my day-to-day conversations generally pleasant.

This. This is such a good way of appearing nice and cute to other people. Just say good things to them whenever you feel like it (don't lie for that purpose tho, and don't overdo it). You'll really make their day and you'll feel good about yourself for being a reason someone is smiling. Positive life attitude. Everytime I realize that I like someone's outfit/haircut/laughter/whatever or I missed them/liked spending time with them/etc I just tell them that. Remember that people can't read your mind and they all like validation and approval from others, so talking directly about your feelings improves your relationship with them :)

I love him but he has zero experience with girls, he has never had an interest until recently. He started at a new school and actually has friends he likes. It’s like a new person. The best part is I have known the girls mom since I was a kid, she and my brother are close friends, so that was awkward the next time I spoke with the mom.

When I receive a compliment I will be like "nawh, awh, naawh. Really? Awh, thank you. You are cute too". Or something like that. This is when my girlfriend compliments me, not some stranger. While saying this, I shrug my shoulders up to my ears and make weird hand gestures. I am a bodybuilder with tattoos. So I could imagine that it looks funny.

I didn’t used to ever get called cute except by adults until about a year ago. That’s when one of my coworkers kept calling me cute. It made me feel super good, and honestly the first time I just stood there confused. After I got used to it I’d pose as weirdly as I possibly could, pitch up my voice and say “thank you” in what was essentially a sexy Alvin and the chipmunks voice.

It actually happened three times this year so far. Not used to it in the least. I mostly just smile while clearly internally screaming and surprised for a few seconds before regaining composure and letting out something like : fuck yeah I am, thank you. In a tone that makes them laugh.

Last time this happened I just smirked, it was when i was talking to a couple of people from my major. One of them was the girl that was stalking my Facebook. I made a joke about something and she said to the girls from this group “he’s such a cutie”. I was a bit surprised to hear this, but I didn’t react much, as I’ve written above.

I'd like to say that when a girl says you're cute, it doesn't automatically mean you're friendzoned or that she doesn't think you're hot and attractive. She can think you're all of the above as well 😉 (Ps. Trust me I'm a girl)

This just happened to me the other day with a girl I've started seeing. Were laying in my bed and she told me I'm really cute. That's so foreign to me seeing as I'm 25 and practically never get complemented like that. I just said you're really cute too. Gonna be feeling that high for a while

Prepare myself for the sales pitch of whatever product she is trying to move. Of course, I won’t fall for her dubious tactics. I’m not that shallow. I am a person who’s strength of will runs deep. Just as deep as the clean you will get with Ajax, the super strong bathroom cleaner, now available scented lemon or vanilla.

Story. One time I met this woman, she approached me randomly and we started talking. It got quiet for a little bit, and I guess I was staring at her and she asked why I was staring at her. told her “because you are pretty.” She smiled and said i was pretty too and also said no one has ever told her she was pretty before. This made me blush and smile and look away. Fast forward. A new girl in my life, whom liked, told me I was cute. (I just learned she was pregnant from another dude) I just looked at her and looked away with no changes in feelings or expression. So I guess it’s all about the situation?

I had this happen at work and I just froze, I've never really gone through the scenario in my head so I didn't really have a plan... I blushed pretty hard and mumbled some stuff and got away pretty quickly since I didn't know what to do

I usually say thank you and compliment them back. But the only ones that compliment me are my gma, ma, girlfriend, and a friend from NA. 4 of 5 are expected. I could look like a pugs asshole and those 4 would it.

That shit would probably make my whole year. A week ago one of my best friends said that my haircut “is actually decent” and I’m still thinking about it and I probably won’t change it for a long time tbh. We never get compliments so having even a simple one is treasured for a long time

I always smile and say thank you. But then I reassure her that I’m not cute or good looking whatsoever. I’m too short, stupid and ugly to be considered cute. And being an Asian guy also doesn’t help me in the looks department. I’m just better off dead. I hate my stupid life.

This isn’t exactly a girl calling me cute, but I once was in a drive thru and the girl handing me my food said I had pretty eyes. I thanked her and then sat in my car for the next few minutes wondering if that really just happened.

I've gotten pretty dismissive about it tbh. I still notice women acting interested/checking me out but lately I've gotten this feeling that I don't deserve it because I moved back to the States and have been living with family for a year. I'm terrified that this is my life now but I don't have the energy/willpower to fix it. Don't fall into the same trap that I have lads.

Not that I feel I'm ugly or anything, but I usually freeze up and don't know what to say, or try to steer the conversation somewhere else. Receiving compliments in general usual results in uncomfortable thoughts/feelings since it's so rare.

I get it a lot- but it grates on me because for a long time I was the "younger brother oh so cute-" type around women. Now when they say "cute," even if we just hooked up, I can't seem to shake that feeling, so I hate getting called 'cute.' I keep hoping that someday I'll be "handsome."