What Men Want From A Mistress

Trending News: Here's How Men Describe Their Ideal Mistress

Why Is This Important?

Because if you’re going to skirt prostitution laws, you may as well be picky about it.

Long Story Short

Sugar daddy site SeekingArrangement mined a bunch of data to determine what the men on their site look for in a mistress. No surprises here — the ideal mistress is young, hot and single.

Long Story

In all but a handful of places, prostitution (that is, exchanging money for sex) is illegal. To avoid running afoul of the law as well as the general seediness that surrounds the industry, some men looking to pay for sex seek out so-called “sugar daddy” arrangements — instead of paying a woman for sex, you simply finance the lifestyle of a woman (who happens to have sex with you).

That’s the premise behind SeekingArrangement.com, but perhaps unsurprisingly men looking for an “arrangement” are often philanderers as well: About 40% of the men on their site are married. After analyzing search term data from 468,000 such men, the site was able to determine the “ideal mistress,” and it’s exactly what you’d expect.

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She’s young(ish), educated and single. She’s most likely blonde and white, but she could be Asian too. She works out, doesn’t smoke but likes to have a drink or two. In other words, she’s the perfect companion, with the notable exception of being single. I guess men are nothing if not predictable.

Interestingly, other keywords reveal the reason behind the men’s infidelity. The top search terms include “energetic,” “sensual” and “open minded,” which I’m guessing are all things these guys’ wives aren’t, or at least aren’t anymore. SeekingArrangement mentioned in a media alert that men often cite dissatisfaction as a reason for cheating, and the keyword searches seem to indicate that men are looking for an arrangement with plenty of excitement and vitality. There’s also apparently a threshold for how much men are willing to pay for an arrangement: $5,000, considered “moderate” by SeekingArrangement.

While it’s easy to see how the prospect of earning $60k per year for screwing an older man a couple of times a month would be attractive to some women, obviously this website is reprehensible. Don’t run around on your wife (obviously), but if you insist upon doing so, for Christ’s sake man don’t pay for the privilege. While I suppose I can sort of appreciate these guys’ misguided sense of benevolence, it’s still paying for sex. Just look at porn or something if your lady’s being that stingy.

Own The Conversation

Ask The Big Question: Are these “arrangements” actually legal?

Disrupt Your Feed: If you’re to the point where you’re considering paying $5k per month to have someone on the side, maybe you should just get a divorce.

Drop This Fact: 25% of husbands admit to having sex with someone other than their spouse.