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Transform Parenting Styles – Measures taken to embrace new ideas It’s been forever since we posted about David, and this is a result of our decision to transform how we saw parenthood. Specifically parent hood of David. The decision to transform was easy, actually beginning to transform our parenting styles was much more difficult. This post is about what that looks like for us, for David and for our family. Readers may remember that David came home in January of this year. During the last months of his stay in the care facility, we heard repeatedly that they had cured him. An adjective that we frequently heard was how he is. Beginning in November of last year, mom and I began discussing how we could adapt our parenting to David’s needs. Because honestly, what is hugely important to mom and I, has no bearing to David and his life. Those

I talk regularly about David’s mental health. Flaws isn’t a good word for the way he is, or why he is the way he is. Even though most days I am flummoxed by what to do with his behaviors, his mind has value. Every mind has value. Why? With David, it is the simple things. When he wants to be helpful, regardless of the reason, you can’t find a better helper. If one of the pets is upset, he calms them down. He can calm pets for other people, especially cats, including one that is especially standoffish to anyone except her owner. He has a wicked sense of humor. He can hear conversations from 30 feet away, even if they don’t concern him. He is a voracious reader. A technology wizard. Every mind has value, there is a purpose for everything that is in the world. Sometimes we wonder at

Had our meeting to start ramping up therapies for David. It went well. Always a bit of trepidation at the first meeting with a new team member, but I think that this will be a positive addition to David’s team. David was very well behaved this morning, frequently dodged topics that made him uncomfortable, but that is normal for any teen. Coming Monday we have an appointment with a new psychologist, this afternoon I should get a referral to a therapist for me, and we are moving forward. What matters is that we get David and the family the services that are needed. I will go to the end of the earth if necessary to make that happen. Trying to move past the denial of services, but find myself struggling with the idea that some unknown entity who only looks at pieces of paper can determine the fate of our