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What are the chances of getting HIV by genital rubbing and then condom use since we already have HSV2?

So recently I decided to try having a FWB, really a one time fling, a little over one month ago. He also has HSV 2 genitally and that's all that I know of, well what he told me. Long story short, I'm concerned that by both of us having HSV, we're more at risk of contracting HIV. Three times as likely I believe. I'm not sure how many people he’s been with since his diagnosis and it's really getting to me. I thought of that before we had sex, but I tried to push that out of my mind. As long as we’re being safe, I would be okay right? So, the day of... We kissed and then proceeded to remove clothing, where we began to start rubbing our genitals against one another. It got to a point where the tip of his penis was right outside the opening of my vagina for a second, nearly pushing through. I panicked a little and told him to stop and use a condom. We had sex, and in between, he gave me oral a couple times. So that was that. We kissed, he gave me oral and had sex in our one and only session. My concern is the few seconds of genital to genital rubbing and close penetration. Would I be at risk for HIV transmission? He didn’t actually insert his penis into my vagina, but it was really close to doing so. Imagine pressing on a balloon with your index finger and not popping it. Weird example, but I think that's the only way I can describe it. I've tried asking him about it (before and after) and like most people, he got offend that I even asked. So that was a fail. I've also tried to research all of this with no luck since we have HSV2.

Posted on Jun 23, 2019

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Posted on Jul 21, 2019

Anonymous

Generally, statistics associate different STDs with HIV. That means people that had / have had unprotected sex are likely to "catch" several STDs during the same time they had sexual intercourse (these does not mean causality). Plain and simple, get tested because, reading from your question, it seems you are unsure about your partner's health. If he did not have HIV by the time you two had sex (and you have not had unprotected sex ever since) you don't have HIV. The issue here, is that don not seem very sure about your FWB. As the counselor here said it is important you get tested for HIV (and other STDs).