Should i feel quilty for asking for help

Tina - posted on 02/09/2010
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ok heres my story i am a married mom of two a boy 13 and daughter 11 they do stay home when my husband and i work and while they are home i ask that they pick up after themselves and will ask that they clean the house ie dishes vacuming is this wrong?????? sometimes i ask for bigger jobs to be done such as cleaning the bathroom or doing some laundry but they always give me a hard time about it or they only do part of the job or not a good job at all this makes me feel quilty that if i was still home i could just do it but my kids go without nothing because of both my husband and i work and i spend the first 10 years at home with my childern

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Samantha - posted on 02/10/2010

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A few chores never killed me, despite how I may have complained they would when my mom assigned them to me.The incentive was that Mom would set aside money for me for something in particular I wanted. Diffrent chores were worth different amounts, but no money was set aside for a poorly done job. Plus, too much complaining on my part meant I would still have to do the chore, with no money set aside. That system was in place from the time I was 5 or 6, and though it may have taken a long time to get some of the items, it was worth it just for the lessons in responsibility, and the excitement of knowing that "I" was paying for what I wanted. Really good if your kids are always wanting something expensive, like a new video game or console, etc.

I think it's a great idea. My son is only 5 and I have him do some chores or help me pick up the house. He doesn't like it most of the time and I explain to him that this is his house too and he should be helping out. Plus I think this will teach them responsibility. Maybe throw in a incentive like if u guys do your chores we'll do a activity they like to do.

1- a 13 & 11 year old are going to rebel against anything you want them to do, whether you're at home or not. 2-Think of it as delegation; when you're a manager at work, you delegate the workload as needed (and being a working mom, you need it!). 3-Don't feel guilty. You're doing the right thing. Andrea's right--they do need responsibility!

I know when I was that age I always had a list of chores to be completed before I could go anywhere. I din't like it at the time, but I think it is definitly a good thing. It teaches responsibility. Everyone in the family needs to help each other out that is part of being a family.

I know when I was that age I always had a list of chores to be completed before I could go anywhere. I din't like it at the time, but I think it is definitly a good thing. It teaches responsibility. Everyone in the family needs to help each other out that is part of being a family.