In getting permission to do something, you are the one who needs to both give and accept the idea that you can do whatever you want. We are not saying you should abdicate your responsibilities to do your heart's desires. We are saying where there is a will there is a way. This is door number three, the one above the stairs to the left. Go up and open it. No monsters will jump out to hurt you. Yes, it is the unknown, but you can handle it.