Don’t let the title put you off, the challenge was how to write this without sounding depressive or pessimistic , I hope that it’s neither, more of an observational article, one that makes you think and feel more positive about life. That, there’s someone out there, who is experiencing life in a similar way to you.

I guess I can say I am the authority on this subject as I was a lost soul for the longest while and it seems I am destined to meet similar people. People who are experiencing things that I went through.

It’s not long ago that I realised that I belonged to this category, you see like many others I was in denial, I was reading and searching. I was looking for someone, something to provide me with an answer, to tell me where to locate my ultimate fulfilment. This never ending search has taught me a lot in life and maybe part of being lost was good for me. So that I would to go out and look for the answers then one day I could look back and truly understand and share some of the lessons and knowledge with others.

What is a Lost Soul?

Lost souls come in all guises; they can be married or single, rich or poor, without differentiation of either colour or creed. What they all have in common is that they are all waiting for something , for someone outside of themselves to come and rescue them, just as I once did. Some are not even aware of this waiting; they are too busy filling their lives with activities and busyness to feel the emptiness.

Some will be “happily married” have a family but all will know deep in their soul that there’s still something missing. Some will be rich beyond anyone’s wildest dreams but will still feel a crater of dark emptiness. Some will be single and will think that a man/woman will come along and fill this void. Others will look to their children, to their friends and family to provide the answers. What they will all do however is try and avoid time to themselves, time to think about the missing link, time to feel and time to contemplate.

The modern way of life completely is suited to this avoidance, one wakes up , goes to work , meets friends, goes to the gym, shopping , every minute of every day is filled with activity. We complain that we don’t have time to ourselves but many of us actively avoid having time to ourselves, some may deny this and say they do make time for myself. People make time to watch television, to read a book , to spend time with their kids etc, however how many of us truly stop and go within ourselves. Sit by ourselves and just be? Yes ,I know what you are you are going to say: there’s no time to do that! Well we make time for everything else that’s important in our lives, we brush our teeth, we go to work every day, we go to the shops to buy a lottery ticket, but we cannot seem to invest time to reflect. Too many of us have handed over our happiness to other people or to material objects. Too many of us think that talking to friends will make us feel better , being in a relationship will make us feel better, buying nice things will make us feel better, going on holiday will make us feel better, anything but ourselves will make us feel better, but at the end of the day all of this is fleeting and one day we might have to stop and see ourselves, truly get to know who we are , what we are here to do and truly accept ourselves.

Whatever your beliefs we are here for a reason and if you are not following your chosen path then something inside you will always be nudging you. This force is trying to put you onto the right path.

Have you ever been on a journey and a part of you knows you are going the wrong way but you just want to go ahead and see what’s in front of you so you can get your bearings. By the time you get there, you end up so far away from where you were actually trying to go and you get to the point where you just want to give up. Well I guess life can be like that too, you can be on the wrong path for so long that it would take twice as long to get back on track wouldn’t it be better just to give up?

Well you can give up but I believe the lesson will have to be learnt one day, if not in this lifetime, then the next.

We all have to get from A to B ,how we get there is very individual and we shouldn’t all be following the same path . Where we go astray is when we take somebody else’s road map and follow it blindly, we don’t listen to that niggling voice inside ourselves that tell us that we might be going the wrong way. That we need to stop and take stock, to realise that we are not sheep, just following the herd. You may think if everyone is taking the same road must be the right way? . If we hear anything different, we try to drown it out with accumulating more things, designer hand bags, fast cars, the latest gadget, a new boyfriend/girlfriend anything to stop the voice, hearing that voice would prove difficult, that would mean that you would ultimately come face to face with your demons!

However one day we must face our demons when you choose to do it, its up to you, it maybe in this lifetime the next or even in several lifetimes. We are here to learn something, something of a profound nature something to take us forward on this journey and that does mean to you have to be brave , you have to go forth and slay the demons. The demon could be the very thing you believe makes you happy, it could be your Porsche, it could be a bottle of wine that seems to make you feel better or a bar of chocolate; whatever it is that stopping you seeing who you truly are. Ultimately if you peel away your layers, deep down you will see that you are a child of god/the creator (whoever you believe in) and inside you is the perfect truth , the brightest light, the most profound love and purity you will ever feel. Inside you lies the ultimate happiness, one that cannot be found in all the riches in the world, so go ahead be brave and just look inside yourself you never know what you might find, you might even like what you see?