Feeling like a failure

Do these leaps and growth spurts have anyone else feeling like a true failure?! I know the stages pass but I honestly feel like I’m going to lose my shit at times.

Takes hours to calm him down sometimes and even then it’s only for a short period of like 20 minutes and we’re back at it again. I’m so incredibly jealous at times that my husband gets to go to work and escape the newborn life for 8 hours. That feeling also makes me feel guilty. I’m just ready for easier times, when he can actually respond to me, when he can sit up on his own and we can interact, when he’s not just inconsolable for no reason!!!

Please tell me if you’re going through this because I’m really in need of some solidarity...baby is 5 weeks as of today and according to the leap app, we are in the middle of a storm cloud

Comments (6)

Yes. I feel you. I got approved for 3 months of fmla and hubby only had 2 weeks. Even tho he's super helpful it's not the same being with baby 24 hours. I love my little one so much but I can get overwhelmed to with all the crying and no sleep. I take care of little one through out the night since he has to work and I'm jealous of his sleep. 😭

I remember feeling this way with my first. You’re definitely not alone in this!

First, take a deep breath and arrange with your husband to carve out some time to yourself in the evening. It’s super important to take care of you too. Perhaps unwind with a long warm bath, candles, and glass of wine.

Most babies go through a fussy stage that peaks at 6 weeks and gets better by 12 weeks. It’s because their bodies and inhibitory responses are still developing. I know it’s challenging to do when LO (little one) is fussy but try to enjoy this stage because it goes by so fast. Take lots of pictures because you might miss this stage when you look back in a few years. It will be over before you know it and your baby will be a lot easier and happier.

I know it’s frustrating when nothing seems to soothe your baby. Know that it’s not you. You’re not a failure. You’re a wonderful mama and your baby loves you.

Yes. I feel you. I got approved for 3 months of fmla and hubby only had 2 wee...

Posted
11/02/2018

Yes. I feel you. I got approved for 3 months of fmla and hubby only had 2 weeks. Even tho he's super helpful it's not the same being with baby 24 hours. I love my little one so much but I can get overwhelmed to with all the crying and no sleep. I take care of little one through out the night since he has to work and I'm jealous of his sleep. 😭

I’m just so happy it’s friday so I can have a break tonight!!! I also give DH (dear husband) a lot of sleep hours because he has a pretty vital position at work and if he can’t function it’s no good. It just always feels better knowing I’m not alone

I remember feeling this way with my first. You’re definitely not alone in t...

Posted
11/02/2018

I remember feeling this way with my first. You’re definitely not alone in this!

First, take a deep breath and arrange with your husband to carve out some time to yourself in the evening. It’s super important to take care of you too. Perhaps unwind with a long warm bath, candles, and glass of wine.

Most babies go through a fussy stage that peaks at 6 weeks and gets better by 12 weeks. It’s because their bodies and inhibitory responses are still developing. I know it’s challenging to do when LO is fussy but try to enjoy this stage because it goes by so fast. Take lots of pictures because you might miss this stage when you look back in a few years. It will be over before you know it and your baby will be a lot easier and happier.

I know it’s frustrating when nothing seems to soothe your baby. Know that it’s not you. You’re not a failure. You’re a wonderful mama and your baby loves you.

Thank you so much. I know this time will pass and I’m so sure I’ll miss it one day!! But for now my sanity is going out the window! I love seeing him grow and learn and I’m so anxiously waiting on a smile to make it better.

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