Sex has always been enjoyable for me, with or without condoms. I enjoy bare sex with my wife, and use condoms with swinging partners.

There are many factors that determine compatibility when reviewing potential play partners. And, just because someone is not a match for sex does not mean we can't be friends. I wear a "party hat" and we choose to be with others who do also. There are some forum regulars who play bare that I admire and lust after.

Those who choose to play bareback, I hope they fully understand the additional risk they are taking. Some people think they can avoid STDs by being "selective." Some swingers incorrectly believe that if they avoid certain races or bi-men they will be safe. And while you may think you know someone, there was a swinging couple out in the mid-west, where the man, a military officer, had sex with dozens of women after he found out he was HIV-positive.

Having worked in the health care field, I'm aware that many people have STDs and don't even know it. Left untreated, they can be spread to others and may become more difficult to treat. Untreated STDs can also cause permanent heath consequences.

I do hope that all swingers, regardless of condom use, get regular STD testing and would share any positive result with their play partners.

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Hi easland,

Do you get tested for herpes? A high proportion of swingers probably have herpes. Here’s a quote from the CDC:

“Nationwide, 16.2%, or about one out of six, people 14 to 49 years of age have genital HSV-2 infection.”

Would you quit the lifestyle if you found you had herpes?

BTW, I have herpes

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@SheLikesGurls: Thanks very much for your answer to the post from the single female newbie. If she calls sex without a condom "raw banging" she does not know too much about sexual pleasures yet. We prefer sex w/o a rubber but only with COUPLES we have known for a while and feel very comfortable with. Contrary to her unfounded statement, we DO get tested and believe us, if they ever found an STD in us, we would leave the lifestyle In my humble opinion, the newbie's post was uncalled for and just plain dumb.... Looking at her profile, what would she say if we start ranting about BBWs?

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Going bare is very intense, intimate and very passionate, particularly when pumping my seed into a hot wife. I've done this with couples that I play with on a regular basis. I love cumming in a woman's pussy. However, barebacking should only be done with people that you trust and who are not overly promiscuous.

While I enjoy the intimacy associated with barebacking, the majority of my sexual encounters are with condoms. Sex with condoms is still fun and are a necessity when getting to know a couple well.

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luv welcome to the forums

Banging everybody raw is just plain nasty. PLUS, for those who say that bareback AND get tested...Would you stop fucking raw if you found out you had something??? Probably NOT b/c sexual gratification is most important to you huh! and if you said you had a disease, who would want to fuck you bare?!

Ok, May I ask you why you would think that just because a couple barebacks that they would intentionally spread something if they were tested and found to have some std / disease? If YOU had a disease would you tell people?Would you continue to play? Would people want to fuck you ?More importantly, if you are not a swinger than why are you here, just to rag on people that are different than you?

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Another potential benefit:

The Darwin Award

:)

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what is the benefit of going bare"

In the lifestyle...only feeling and being less constrictive on the penis, thus causing issues with erections. Other than that, the other benefit is putting yourself at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. With us its glove up or play with someone else.

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So if it feels good, do it? I'm not sure that's how we should live our lives or what we should teach our children...

I've passed up on numerous occasions doing things that would have felt good in the moment, but I knew I'd be better off in the long run to decline.

In school I studied instead of goofing off or partying and that resulted in me getting a good job and becoming financially secure.

It may feel good at the time to skip my daily workout, or have a dessert every meal, but because I often do what I don't feel like doing, I have done well in sports and have stayed at the same weight I was in college.

My wife and I use condoms with play partners and regularly get the most advanced STD testing available. Though we know there are still risks, we have the piece of mind that we are protecting our health and the health of our play partners.

I have used condoms all my life, even when many women said they had protection. I have avoided unplanned pregnancies and STDs. My wife is the only woman with whom I have gone bare. Sex is always enjoyable with or without condoms.

When tested, a significant percentage of swingers are found to have STDs. A study done in the Netherlands showed that the percentage of swingers having an STD is significantly higher than prostitutes. There have been several cases that resulted in legal action taken, where people had swinger sex, even though they knew that had an STD, including HIV.

Many people have STDs and don't know it. I'm sure that the most of the people in these threads who bareback and say they have remained "clean" have not been tested.

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We just fuck/play bare//

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Some allergies are with the chem they put in the package so they can stay on store shelfs along time, as with me it ISN'T the latex...We have tried EVERY brand and NO go...Jo

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