I just turned 30 and now can't really envision a scenario of me getting married any time soon. Which is a far cry from how I was the previous decade. Dated a girl for 3 years in college and was convinced we were getting married after graduation and that fell apart badly. And my last gf was about as wife material as it gets and I let that one slip away and still not real sure what happened. The college one ended bad, the last one, not so much that still kinda stings. And even tho there were some before those ones and in between them, those are the two that I look back and have trouble seeing myself even being close to that marriage mindset again. I'm quickly becoming the last of my single friends, and all their girls just can't figure that out (one of my good friends openly talks about how his fiance wants me lol) but it's hard to explain to them.

So it's nice to see in this thread that there's really not a right or wrong age or anything. But socially I'm definitely heading in the wrong direction lol

DudeMan2766 wrote:I'm quickly becoming the last of my single friends, and all their girls just can't figure that out (one of my good friends openly talks about how his fiance wants me lol) but it's hard to explain to them.

Perhaps you just need to have a more "open" mind regarding "relationships" and start exploring all options available.

DudeMan2766 wrote:I'm quickly becoming the last of my single friends, and all their girls just can't figure that out (one of my good friends openly talks about how his fiance wants me lol) but it's hard to explain to them.

Perhaps you just need to have a more "open" mind regarding "relationships" and start exploring all options available.

Are you suggesting hooking up with my friends girls? A: not that many of them are that attractive and B: I dont want what my friends got so to speak.

DudeMan2766 wrote:I'm quickly becoming the last of my single friends, and all their girls just can't figure that out (one of my good friends openly talks about how his fiance wants me lol) but it's hard to explain to them.

Perhaps you just need to have a more "open" mind regarding "relationships" and start exploring all options available.

Are you suggesting hooking up with my friends girls? A: not that many of them are that attractive and B: I dont want what my friends got so to speak.

As demonstrated by a friend of my brother-in-law's, who we call "Random Jim"- it's a short 10 year trip from 30 year old single friend your buddies tell you their wives want to 40 year old creepy hanger-on who gets invited to buddy's kids' birthday parties because they feel bad for him.

DudeMan2766 wrote:I'm quickly becoming the last of my single friends, and all their girls just can't figure that out (one of my good friends openly talks about how his fiance wants me lol) but it's hard to explain to them.

Perhaps you just need to have a more "open" mind regarding "relationships" and start exploring all options available.

Are you suggesting hooking up with my friends girls? A: not that many of them are that attractive and B: I dont want what my friends got so to speak.

As demonstrated by a friend of my brother-in-law's, who we call "Random Jim"- it's a short 10 year trip from 30 year old single friend your buddies tell you their wives want to 40 year old creepy hanger-on who gets invited to buddy's kids' birthday parties because they feel bad for him.

Just sayin'.

Haha So I would just be "Random Dude?" I hope I'm not headed that way. I still have a number of single/unmarried friends to go out with so either its normal or we just all suck.

I was with the same girl for 6 years and it didn't work out. I think i touched on this in a topic i made long ago.

Anyways, i made the mistake of staying with someone for a very long time and now that it didn't work out i'm left all alone. I'm 26, with a very good career and i like to think i'm in good shape, but i can't even get a sniff from the opposite sex. I'm just too entrenched with my career and work overall. I rarely have time to go out and all my friends are either engaged or married now.

I know this sounds grim but i do truly think i will be alone forever and since i'm the one who was foolish enough to put myself in this position, i'm at peace with that fact. I sure hope i'm wrong but at least i felt what it was like to be on love once in my life, and for that, i am thankful.

I guess I am naive, but I was kind of blown away to realize how common the "open relationship" thing is. Perhaps it is just more common in graduate students? Anyway, I still remember the first time I was at a party (already a rare occurrence) when I was accosted by someone from that team. It took me a very long time to realize what was going on and by then my face was so red you could have started a fire with it. I got the hell out of there with my girlfriend at the time. If that wasn't embarrassing enough, I had to explain to my girlfriend (also naive) what happened several times and what "in an open relationship" status on facebook really means. Then she gave me the "oh, you liked it" treatment. It felt like a Seinfeld episode. Not that there's anything wrong with that...