Be The Star You Truly Are!

Have you ever used words about yourself that merited having the bell ring at Madison Square Garden and having the crown for “Champ Self Beater Upper” put up on your head? I have! Have you ever thought words about yourself that could put you in jail if you said them out loud to someone else? I have! “Stupid! I’ll kill you if you ever, ever eat your guests’ left over cheesecake again! You idiot!” Have you ever said anything remotely like that to yourself? Or have you ever just sat their silent as words like these flow through you: “You’re hopeless. You always quit before you win! You did it again.” I’ve done that too.

I’ll admit that I hardly use words or express ideas like this about myself these days. Writing ““Find Your min-Qs(?)* Reveal the Slim, Strong, Sexy Star You Truly Are! at Age 50, 60, 70, and Beyond” has helped me greatly. I spend some time in the book talking about self-talk. I believe that when we’re trying to achieve anything, it doesn’t serve us to beat ourselves up. However, just as “overeating” foods that aren’t our optimum, usually comes from old habits we acquired before we realized we were acquiring them – “Negative Self-Talk” becomes a habit in our lives too.

I’m going to make an assertion that I haven’t yet tested, but find is true for myself.While I agree with the blogs and articles I’ve read that assert that I should find out where the source of my saying each negative thing came from and that I should tell my self these words aren’t true and that I should write down etc., etc, etc. I’ve discovered that – for myself, at least – acknowledging I said them an=d then NOT beating myself up for having said them – helps the habit fall away. Saying “Oh hi! It’s you again!” to the bad words and quickly turn around and start doing your task or project again the way you’d planned to before you kicked yourself in the butt. . In fact, when I start the project again without beating myself up for having beat myself up, I usually get a giggle thinking about what I said.

I’ve gotten four major benefits from saying bad things about myself to myself (and even to others!)

Since I’ve been paying attention to my saying nasty words about myself to myself, I’m noticing each time I do it more quickly– and now I’m not even beating myself up for having said the words or holding the thoughts. This has actually led to my hardly saying these things to myself anymore. ‘Well, hardly ever!” (To quote “The Captain Of the Pinafore” by “Gilbert & Sullivan”)

When I think about what I said, I tend to giggle at myself and that stimulates me to succeed.

I realize that it might be good for me to redesign the task I’ve ‘failed” at, in a way that makes it easier for me to accomplish. Remember my words about REVISING. If the finest plays have revisions before we see them on Broadway, We can allow ourselves to REVISE our fitness mini-Qs!

I’m beginning to learn – Yay team! – I DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!

Say this out loud with me: I DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT! If you’re reading this blog and even considering tsking steps to rejuvenate and/or get in you optimum shape, etc. you probably have a little of “wanting to be perfect” in your male-up. I agree, it’s good to go for the best. Enjoying life – i.e., LOVING YOURSELF helps you have the best!

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Depending where you live you’ll notice the weather beginning to cool off. If you live in a cool climate you’re probably aware of the benefits of layering your clothing to achieve extra warmth. The “fashion” of the past several seasons has shown a lot of layering as part of the theme of many designers. Layering is a “natural” for people whose style is “Natural”. These people most often (not always) have what we’d call autumnal coloring. They look best in the darker warm toned shades of colors. They can also wear lighter hues too when the hues have a more subdued and warm tone. If you don’t fall in the “Natural” style category you can still find layering schemes and other schemes for warmth that can work for you. If you’re in or can get to New York City give me a call at 212-779-4956 and we can arrange a private appointment. Go www.bobbiehorowitz.com for my services, etc. You’ll get my old site today. The site is being redone and the new site should be upright after Thanksgiving.

NOTE: For everyone, especially if you’re less trim than you’d wish, there are wonderful silk tee shirts and liners and socks that add practically zero bulk to your look and can go under sweaters, vests, etc.

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I’m sure you’re well aware of it. The Holiday Season is upon us! I always love the tinsel and lights and fun. I also LOVE just thinking about the opening notes of Tchaikovsky’s Nutcracker! If you live in the NY area or are visiting the city think of an alternative Nutcracker this year – perhaps, NUTCRACKER RATED R! It does have adult themes. That said, it’s been warming my heart as well as giving ma a giggle for five years now. It’s inexpensive at only $25 on Mondays –Wednesdays and $30 Thursdays-Saturdays. It sold out at Theatre For The New City last year, even on the night of the blizzard. I attended that night and I saw them have to bring extra seats into the Johnson Theatre, which sat 140 with the large stage this show needs. This year it’s moved up to The Theater District to the Chernuchin Theatre at American Theatre of Actors (314 West 54th Street) and plays from December 9th – 31st. If you’d like to learn more about it click: http://www.nutcrackerratedr.com/

NEWS

My new book: "Find Your mini-Qs(?) Reveal The Slim, Strong, Sexy Star You Truly Are! at Age 50, 60, 70, and Beyond" is available on my site: www.bobbiehorowitz.com Click on Author
(You’ll find out what a mini-Q is when you read the book!)
I put various systems together and fitted them all to my lifestyle. I don’t feel as though I’m doing extra work and I’m having fun with each step each day. I help you design YOUR OWN path that fits right into YOUR lifestyle.
I choose to avoid any past terminology with “diet” or "system", etc that our brain wants to fight. You can read about why I do this in the book! You can have FUN and get into YOUR optimum shape.
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Remember - you can read my weekly "Say YES To You!" column on www.HereWomenTalk.com.

BOBBIE’S BIO

Bobbie began her theatrical career as an actress, studying with Stella Adler, Lee Strasberg and Gene Frankel. She appeared in over thirty NYC productions in theaters such as: Playwright’s Horizon’s, AMAS Rep., Hudson Guild, The Gene Frankel Theater, TNC, All Souls’ Players, and the Jean Cocteau Repertory. She also appeared in regional theater and summer stock, working with Jose Ferrer, Katherine Houghton and others.

Bobbie founded and served as Co-Executive/Artistic Director (1999-2006) of The Times Square Group, a not for profit, arts-in-education company, bringing arts education to students in New York City public high and junior high schools. The schools served ranged from arts focused schools to special schools for troubled students.

A half of the comic musical writing/performing team Horowitz & Spector, she won a MAC Award (Manhattan Association of Cabarets & Clubs) for their show, Whatever Happened To the Kids From Brooklyn? Their songs have received NY Daily News, Billboard and ASCAP awards and have been played on theatrical musical country radio stations. The pair can be seen on You Tube. Tony winner, Chuck Cooper recorded their song, Together America”
. Bobbie now writes for cabaret performers and is writing a musical. She wrote a musical, The S.C.R.A.P. Workshop with John Meyer and was asked to write a special tribute the top earner of Isagenix. She performed the song at the Mandalay Bay Resort in Las Vegas.

She was Executive Producer of Drama Desk Awards 1999 & 2000 and Associate Producer in 2001. Bernadette Peters, Bebe Neuwirth and Lily Tomlin were the hosts respectively. As a commercial theater producer she presented, The Betrayal of Nora Blake, at The Jermyn Street Theatre in London, where it’s sold-out, extended production earned rave reviews and later at The Cuillo Centre for the Arts in West Palm Beach, where it was voted 'Best Musical” by The Palm Beach Post. In past years she produced Angel Street, A Black Girl Talks To God, Victims of Duty and The Great American Backstage Musical off and off-off Broadway.

Bobbie produced major events, among them the first annual Soap Opera Day Celebration along with Mayor’s Koch’s Office of Film, Television and Broadcasting, Ruth Warrick’s Confessions of Phoebe Tyler Book-Launch with guest Ruby Keeler, the Mr. Bill in Space Book-Launch for Real-Good Productions and a Salute to Viveca Lindfors. She co-produced the Farewell To Bowie Kuhn event, which included speakers Howard Cosell, Sonny Werblin and President Emeritus Gerald Ford for The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.

As an Image Consultant, Bobbie serves private clients and has given seminars at Queens College, NYU School of Film & Television, The NY State School of Industrial & Labor Relations, T. Schreiber Studio, the Learning Annex, trade conventions at The Javitz Center, for corporations and, most recently through The Network. Her article MAXIMPACT was published in the AICI news, She co-wrote the presentation for an Escada fashion tour and was quoted in Seventeen Magazine. Her new book, Find Your Mini Qs: Reveal the Star You Truly Are at 50,60,70 & Beyond! will be in print summer 2010 and her book You’re Looking At A Winner is being updated. She was VP-Education of the Tri-State Chapter of The Association of Image Consultants, International from 1991-1993.

Bobbie was educated in the NYC Public School system, at The New York State School of Industrial & Labor Relations at Cornell University (Class Marshall) and at Teachers’ College, Columbia University.