by helping you to cut through the mental clutter and busyness that can get in the way of being fully present with your lover

by enabling you to relax into the intimacy, something that is often stressed in tantric sex

by helping you bring more conscious awareness to what’s happening, on every level

by helping you stay connected with your inner experience, especially on an energy level, while connecting at the same time with your beloved

by slowing things down and enhancing the senses

by helping you stay connected with and grounded in your body at times when wounding or conditioning triggered by the intimacy might take you out of and away from your body

by helping you become less oriented towards the ‘goal’ of orgasm, less focused on an end point and thus more in touch with the process, the journey.

Try this mindfulness practice:

If one or other of you is struggling with a busy mind or the distraction of the 101 things that need doing, have a go at a body scan together. One of you can take the lead and talk you through the body, from head to foot or vice versa. As you both direct your attention, your awareness to each area of the body in turn, you might like to focus more than usual on intimate parts, on all the sensations you’re both aware of as you slowly move around the body.

Talking through a body scan in this way will give you both an opportunity to connect with your bodies, your inner experience, letting go of the busyness of the day and relaxing into the moment. You are arriving more fully in the here and now, ready to be as fully present as you are able with your lover. Enjoy!