Understanding Divorce

There comes a time when people exchange beautiful vows. For some it is out of pressure from other sources. There are some that did not want to get married at all. They just do it because it feels safe and is expected of them from the society. They make the assumption that people want them to get married. It ends up being a lovely wedding but not a lovely marriage. And this is okay. Below is what kids need to be told about divorce.

It is essential to know that people don’t always fall in love with someone who is potential. Many people don’t reach their potential. This is because of choices they make or inability. Potential is something that is limiting. You check out what is presented at that time. This is what the rest of the world sees. This is a mistake that most people make with their ex boyfriends at least once. You viewed them as having the potential and are everything you wanted in life. You admired the way they talked, walked and after some time it became just another story.

However, marriage can be tough even if it’s healthy and functional. The both of you might be doing everything right but you expect to meet rough patches. It is vital for your kids to know that divorce does not indicate you are doing wrong. There are couples who encounter abuse. There also could be miscommunication. It could also be because of irreconcilable differences. Divorce has to be based on legitimate grounds. There are times when parents just have to do what they got to do and stop beating themselves up. There is no point in regretting about everything because at some point this person brought you much joy.

It is important to acknowledge the fact that divorce can be devastating. However, staying in a marriage for the sake of your kids or other potential reasons can make one live in resentment, fear and failure of enjoying your life. You can go for couple counseling which has helped many couples. However, for some divorce is left as the only alternative.

Couples are allowed to change their minds and do what is best for them. In a world that can be stubborn, everyone is free to make their own choices. Kids need to know that their parents are not failures in case things don’t work out. Divorce just like change is always not smooth. However, staying in a marriage that is not fulfilling can be dangerous. All you will keep thinking about is your freedom and how happy you could be if you had moved on. This is what can hurt the most which can be toxic.