• attempt to turn feelings of abandonment into a color and shape to interview.

• in interviews, look for characters demonstrating extremes of idealization and devaluation.

• attempt to access self-aspects that have a more stable sense of self.

• attempt to access self-aspects that are not impulsive.

• interview personifications of the feelings associated with suicidal behavior

• deal with emotional instability by interviewing it

• interview any feelings of emptiness

• interview anger

• interview dissociated self-aspects.

• interview the fear underlying paranoia – turn it into a color, shape…

Dependent Personality Disorder

• has difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others.

• needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life.

• has difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear of loss of support or approval.

• has difficulty initiating projects or doing things on his or her own because of a lack of self-confidence in judgment or abilities rather than a lack of motivation or energy.

• goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant

• feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for himself or herself.

• urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends.

• is unrealistically preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of himself or herself.

Dependent Personality Disorder and IDL

• approach interviewing as a way to help the client make everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others.

• approach interviewing as a way to help the client assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life.

• use experience of the support and approval of high scoring self-aspects as a way to overcome fear of expressing disagreement with others.

• use self-aspects scoring high in self-confidence to help in learning to initiate projects or doing things on his or her own.

• experiencing internal nurturance and support reduces the need to go to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others.

• experiencing self-aspects that care and are always there is intended to counteract feelings of discomfort or helplessness when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for himself or herself.

• the experience of internal support from internal self-aspects is intended to reduce the need to urgently seek another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends.

• is less likely to fear being left alone or loneliness.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

• have a grandiose sense of self-importance. They exaggerate achievements and talents and expect to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.

• believe that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions.

• require excessive admiration.

• have a sense of entitlement. They make unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations.

• are interpersonally exploitative. They take advantage of others to achieve their own ends.

• lack empathy. They are unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

• are often envious of others or believes that others are envious of them.

• lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

Narcissistic Personality Disorder and IDL

• Getting in touch with self-aspects that are autonomous is a great threat to the need for control behind their grandiose sense of self-importance.

• Your first responsibility is to avoid falling into the drama triangle. If you are successful they are unlikely to want to have anything to do with you because you can’t be manipulated.

• Beware confusing their charm, charisma, and sociability for empathy.

• Beware confusing their confidence with strength.

• Beware of believing that if you only say the right words that they will return your kindness or realize that they are as wonderful as you think they are.

Paranoid Personality Disorder

• They suspect, without sufficient basis, that others are exploiting, harming, or deceiving them.

• They are preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trustworthiness of friends or associates.

• They are reluctant to confide in others because of groundless fears that the information will be used maliciously against them.

• They read hidden threatening or demeaning meanings into benign remarks or events

• They persistently bear grudges. They are unforgiving of insults, injuries, or perceived slights.

• They perceive attacks on their character or reputation that are not apparent to others and are quick to react angrily or to counterattack.

• They have recurrent unjustified suspicions regarding the fidelity of their spouse or sexual partner.

Paranoid Personality Disorder and IDL

• IF you manage to get them into role, the object is to put them in touch with self-aspects that are not exploiting, harming, or deceiving them.

• Interview the personifications of doubts about the loyalty or trustworthiness of friends or associates.

• Since they are reluctant to confide in others because of groundless fears that the information will be used maliciously against them, encourage them to confide in self-aspects.

• When they read hidden threatening or demeaning meanings into benign remarks or events, attempt to ask high scoring Sangha members what they make of those interpretations.

• They persistently bear grudges. They are unforgiving of insults, injuries, or perceived slights. Therefore the goal is to help them experience that how they view others is how they are viewing the part of themselves they represent.

• When they perceive attacks on their character or reputation that are not apparent to others and are quick to react angrily or to counterattack, interview their anger, if possible-it probably won’t be.

• Interview their fear when they have recurrent unjustified suspicions regarding the fidelity of their spouse or sexual partner.

Schizoid Personality Disorder

• neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family

• almost always chooses solitary activities

• has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person

• takes pleasure in few, if any, activities

• lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives

• appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others

• shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened emotions

Schizoid Personality Disorder and IDL

• If they show any interest, interview the feeling of being interested.

• Interview isolation.

• if any pleasure is demonstrated in something, interview it.

• The goal is to develop internal friends and confidants.

Schizotypal Personality Disorder

• ideas of reference (excluding delusions of reference)

• odd beliefs or magical thinking that influence behavior. In children and adolescents, bizarre fantasies or preoccupations.

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