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Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania

Recovery From
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias, Part 4

The major false belief that causes the most
pain for many people is the belief that you can control
how important people in your life feel about you and
treat you. The behavior and resulting pain coming from
this belief is often the underlying cause of addictive
behavior.

In Part 1 of
this series of articles, I defined substance and process
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias, and described the four major false beliefs
that underlie most Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias:

1. I can’t handle
my pain.2. I am unworthy and unlovable.3. Others
are my source of love.4. I can have control over how
others feel about me and treat me.

Part 2 was
about the first of these beliefs – learning how to
handle pain. Part 3 addressed the second and third
beliefs – “I am unworthy and unlovable” and “Others are
my source of love.” This section, Part 4, explores the
fourth belief, “I can have control over how others feel
about me and treat me.”

If I had to choose one
false belief that causes the most pain for most people,
it would be the belief that we can control how important
people in our lives feel, think and behave.

In my
work with individuals and couples dealing with addictive
behavior, I encounter this belief and the many
ramifications of it over and over. It seems very
difficult for most people to accept the truth about
their lack of control over others. The pain,
frustration, loneliness and aloneness that result from
not accepting your lack of control may be the underlying
cause of your Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias.

Take a moment right now
to reflect about what you think and do that is a direct
result of this belief.

• Do you judge/shame
yourself to try to get yourself to act “right” so that
others will like you? If you do, you are operating from
the false belief that you can control how others feel
about you by how you act. You are also operating from
the false belief that self-judgment will work to control
your own behavior. Judging and shaming yourself can lead
to addictive behavior to avoid the resulting pain.

• Do you act “loving” to others with the hope that
others will act loving to you? If you do, you are
operating from the false belief that your behavior
controls others’ behavior. It is wonderful to be loving
to others because you feel good when you are loving, but
when you have an agenda attached of being loved back,
then your “loving” is manipulative – you are giving
to get. The hurt you feel when others don’t love you
back can lead to addictive behavior.

• Do you get
angry, judgmental and critical of others? If you do,
then you are operating from the false belief that anger
and judgment will have control over how others feel
about you and treat you. You can certainly intimidate
others into complying with your demands as long as they
are willing to do so, but you cannot control how they
feel about you. And they will comply only as long as
they do. At some point they might leave, so ultimately
you have no control over them. Your resulting stress may
lead to addictive behavior.

• Do you give
yourself up, going along with what another wants of you,
such as making love when you don’t want to, or spending
time in ways that you don’t want to? If you do, then you
are operating from the false belief that giving yourself
up will have control over how another feels about you
and treats you. A loss of a sense of self can lead to
addictive behavior.

• Do you withdraw from
another or resist another’s requests? If you do, you are
operating from the false belief that you can
change/control another’s behavior toward you by
punishing them through withholding love. The deadness of
withdrawal can lead to addictive behavior.

In
important relationships, most people do some or all of
the above behaviors, resulting from the false belief
that you can control how others feel, think and act.

If you really accepted the truth of your lack of
control over others, what would you do differently? If
you deeply, totally, completely accepted the truth of
your lack of control over others feelings and behavior,
you would be left with what you CAN control – yourself.

I have seen over and over that people finally take
loving care of themselves only when they fully accept
the truth of their lack of control over others. It is
truly amazing the rapid progress the people I work with
make when they finally accept this truth.

Shifting out of this one false belief and into the truth
will go a long way toward healing your Addiction,
Dipsomania & Methomanias.

Recovery From
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias, Part 5

In this final part of a 5-part series on
recovery from Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias, I address the way out of
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias. Learn the powerful 6-Step Inner Bonding
process that, when practiced, will heal Addiction,
Dipsomania & Methomanias.

In Part 1 of this series of articles, I
defined substance and process Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomanias, and described
the four major false beliefs that underlie most
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias:

1. I can’t handle my pain.2. I am
unworthy and unlovable.3. Others are my source of
love.4. I can have control over how others feel
about me and treat me.

In Parts 2,3 and 4, I
explored in depth each of these false beliefs and how
they contribute to addictive behavior. In this final
part of this series, I address the way out of
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias.

Recovery from
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomanias is based on
two major shifts in your thinking and behavior:

• Learning to access your personal
spiritual Guidance so that you can fill yourself with
the unconditional love and compassion of Spirit rather
than turning to addictions to fill the emptiness and
take away the pain.

As long as getting love and
avoiding pain is your highest priority, you will not be
able to recover from your Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomanias. When you decide
that being loving to yourself and others is your highest
priority, you are on your way to healing from your
addictive behavior.

If your intent is to get love and avoid
pain in order to feel safe, you will continue to resort
to addictive behaviors as a way of having control over
getting love and avoiding pain.

When your intent
is to be on the spiritual path of evolving in love and
fully manifesting yourself, then you will bring the
following Six-Step Inner Bonding® process into your life
throughout the day.

1. You will stay tuned into
your feelings throughout the day so that you know the
minute you feel anything other than peace and joy. You
will be present within your body to your feelings just
as you would be present to the feelings of a baby.

2. You will immediately move into a compassionate
intention to learn about what you are thinking or doing
that is causing your distress – your anger, fear,
anxiety, depression, hurt, guilt, shame, stress,
emptiness, aloneness, loneliness, and so on. You will
become a loving Adult by opening to your spiritual
Guidance – the wise and loving presence that is always
here for you - allowing that love and wisdom to come
into your heart.

3. You will explore with your
Inner Child – your feeling self – about what you are
thinking, doing, or believing that is causing the
distress. You will discover your false beliefs and your
resulting unloving behavior that are causing your pain.

4. You will open to learning with your spiritual
Guidance, asking “What is the truth about these
beliefs?” and “What is the loving action?” You will
allow the answers to these questions to come when they
will, not trying to control the process.

5. You
will take the loving action you are guided to take,
which can take many different forms – from lovingly
holding your Inner Child, to getting more exercise and
eating better, to speaking your truth or moving into
compassion with someone else.

6. You will
evaluate your actions to see how you feel now. If you
are not feeling better, you will seek another loving
action until you feel peaceful within.

If you do
these steps each time you feel any distress instead of
turning to your habitual Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomanias, you will gradually
move beyond addictive behavior.

You always have
these two choices regarding your intent – to control or
to learn. You – only you - are in charge of which of
these you choose. If you do not consciously choose the
intent to learn about loving yourself, you will
unconsciously and automatically choose to try to have
control over getting love and avoiding pain through your
addictive behavior.

Choosing the intent to learn
about loving yourself and practicing Inner Bonding®
throughout the day is a powerful path to becoming
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania-free.

Addiction,
Dipsomania & Methomania And
Recovery

Several emotional or psychological reasons may drive you
into taking drugs. At times it is mere curiosity that
propels you to develop an Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomania to drugs over time.
Drug Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania refers to the compulsive use of
psychoactive drugs to such a level at which the user of
drugs has no other way out and continues to use it.

Though Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania to drugs like opium have been
common since historical times it is in recent times that
the problem has been exacerbated significantly. Thi...

Several emotional or psychological reasons may drive you
into taking drugs. At times it is mere curiosity that
propels you to develop an Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomania to drugs over time.
Drug Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania refers to the compulsive use of
psychoactive drugs to such a level at which the user of
drugs has no other way out and continues to use it.

Though Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania to drugs like opium have been
common since historical times it is in recent times that
the problem has been exacerbated significantly. This is
mainly due to the cultivation of plants yielding drugs,
advancements in biochemistry and improvements in means
of getting access to drugs. The introduction of purified
forms of active biological agents and the synthesis of
new substances like methamphetamine has made drugs more
widespread. Clinically, the word ‘Addiction, Dipsomania
& Methomania’ has been
replaced by the word ‘dependency’ in relation to drugs.

It may be noted that not all persons are equally
prone to Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania. Some
persons are psychologically or genetically more
predisposed to drug Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania

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Again, some kinds of drugs get the better of some
particular types of persons more easily. Similarly, the
manner of treatment and method of recovery from
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania vary widely according to the types of drugs,
amount of drugs, duration of drug Addiction, Dipsomania
& Methomania, medical
complications and social necessities of the patient.

There is the 12-step program among the many recovery
methods. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous
are prominent examples included herein. These are
popularly used for a variety of Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomanias concerning
the individual addicted and the family of the
individual. Then there are the substance-abuse
rehabilitation centers that frequently offer a
residential treatment program for the seriously addicted
and strive to isolate the drug addicts from other drug
users and drug dealers.

The cognitive-behavior
therapy, rational-emotive theory or other types of
psychological behavior modification methods are employed
in the treatment of drug Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomania. Replacement drugs
like methadone are also used. This methadone is in
itself a drug but in order to reduce dependency on
stronger drugs like opium it proves helpful. Acupuncture
is also a treatment of choice that helps alleviate drug
Addiction, Dipsomania & Methomania symptoms.

Carrying out the suitable
treatment from the various treatments available can
bring about recovery from drug Addiction, Dipsomania &
Methomania. The object is
to somehow bring about abstinence from the various
addictive substances called drugs.