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I just got a wedding invitation for a friend of my husband's, and a couple of the requests on it have rubbed a few people the wrong way.

For example, they put in a note that says "In lieu of household items, plese send or gift funds to help the lovely couple reach their dream of a parisian honeymoon". Almost everyone going to the wedding is a bit perturbed by that.

Also, they've said some food and drink will be provided, but guests are also expected to bring dishes. I have never been to a wedding where you're supposed to bring food. That also is rubbing a lot of people the wrong way, like you're only invited if you bring food and money.

IDK...what do you ladies think? I'm curious to see some opinions of people who don't know them, just outside perspective.

Hell yes that's rude, they have the gall to ask for money for their honeymoon, AND for everyone to bring a dish?????? If it were me, I would mail them an empty brand new dish and not go to the wedding.

I think the first request is fine. It's no different than a request for charitable donations instead of flowers when someone dies.

The second is harder to judge...If they're poor but still want to share their special day with friends and family, then I guess a potluck sort of reception isn't completely off the wall. I wouldn't do it, but...I don't know.

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