Thursday, 26 April 2012

Are 'we' done packing? ~ Steph

Are we done packing yet?

The great thing about marriage is that it’s all about ‘we’ and
not all about me. We’ve all heard the
expression “There’s no ‘I’ in team”.
Some reply and say, “Yeah, but there’s an ‘m’ and an ‘e’ to spell me!” Well, there is an ‘I’ in marriage but maybe
there shouldn’t be. Marrage. Sounds bad.
If we take out the ‘me’ to make a ‘we’ we get… Warrage!
That’s worse! DOES NOT WORK! That sounds too much like what I’m trying to
advocate against! :-)

When it’s about we, there should be support, love,
understanding. Not belittling, arguing
and dishonouring. People are often so
quick to try to place blame. I’m
confused when someone looks in and sees dishwasher full of clean plates and
asks “Who forgot to empty the dishwasher?”
Obviously, ‘we’ ALL did! Why don’t
we just pitch in and get the job done?

The ‘we’ thing works great.
Like on a weekday night, Sara will look in the cupboard and notice there
are no juice boxes for lunches. “Steph,
there are no juice boxes left. We really
should get some”. I gamely take my keys
and head out the door. I come back 15
minutes later. “Look hon, ‘we’ went and
got some juice boxes!”

One of the best pieces of marital wisdom I ever heard was
about a decade ago from my then single 20 year old cousin. He said, “The problem with a lot of marriages
is that too many couples forget that they are on the same team”. My cousin is since happily married and the
proud papa of a beautiful little boy through adoption.

So, are ‘we’ done packing?
Nearly! Now don’t get specific
and ask how much packing each of us has done!
I did bring some things into Li Lin’s room hoping they would find their
way into a suitcase. There are several
full suitcases in the main hallway, waiting to be carried out to the car in a
few days. I’m not exactly sure how they
all got there, but somehow, ‘we’ are nearly completely packed. Let’s hope that ‘we’ did not forget to pack our
toothbrushes!

1 comment:

Hey Sara! Just got caught up on your blog, which I LOVE by the way. You write just like you talk! R,L&H are so grown up! Wow! Where does time go? So excited to follow your journey to China to embrace little LL! Will be praying for you all next week, dv. Susanne