All the bright places

You know the feeling when you start reading some book and you think that it’s going to have a happy end (at least you hope so)? Well, that’s great, isn’t it?

And do you know the feeling when you cry your eyes out in the end of the book because it is just too sad? That happened to me. I can’t remember when was the last time i cried trough like last 5 chapters of the book. It really sucks, but it makes you do something, like it made me.

I just finished reading it today, and it made me write about it.

You all know book The Fault In Our Stars, right? We all cried while we were reading a book or watching a movie because it’s a love story where one dies at the end because of illness. This book i read has story which is similar to that.

The story about a girl who learns to live from a boy who wants to die.

Finch meets Violet on top of a school bell tower, where he intends to jump and kill himself but ends up saving Violet from killing herself. And that’s where their story begins.

I don’t wanna give any spoilers because you NEED to read the whole book, but in the end Finch is killing himself, and it shows another problem of our community.

He feels lonely, rejected, like he does not belong to his society, he is problematic because other schoolmates made him like that by their mocking and underestimation, but when he met Violet he felt like he belonged somewhere for once in life – he belonged to HER.

But wait, i don’t want to tell you the whole story. I said: YOU NEED TO READ THE BOOK.

I want to talk about a large number of suicides that are committed and how young people suffer and go through hard stuff in their heads just because they do not have appropriate person to talk to, just like Finch. His family didn’t even visit his room every once in a while, his father treated him like garbage, his peers called him weird, so what’s left for him?

In this world too many adults still see bullying as “just part of being a kid”.

THAT’S A SERIOUS PROBLEM PEOPLE.

The statistics on bullying and suicide are alarming:

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.

Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University

A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying

10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above

According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying

Don’t you think that is sad? A lot? Unnecessary?

Yeah, i think so too.

This world should have much more people who are right for teens and willing to help them, world should pay attention on youth because young people are future. And what will this world do if number of suicides between young people becomes larger?

Finch had his own psychologists, but he didn’t want him to know all of his feelings. He often lied to him and told him that everything was fine, that he was fine. But in reality, it wasn’t. He was used to rejection by other people and he didn’t feel the need of talking.

One day, he had ran away from home, and few weeks after that he drowned looking for the bottom of the Blue Hole (you’ll know what i’m talking about when you read it). And the worst of all, Violet finds him dead there, and the whole scene is just too hard for imagining. That’s the reason i cried so much. As a matter of fact i’m still crying. I can’t accept the fact that he’s gone, that he left his family, his Violet who loved him. I just can’t. I connected with this book so much that i read it in one breath. I was a ghost among them in all of their adventures, i was enjoying with them. I was pretty sure that they were going to have happy end. But life is so cruel. He thought that no one is going to be sad or to even notice when he’s gone, but he made a mistake. The whole school was sad, all teachers, students, his parents, all that he knew were sad. He was remembered as a Weird Finch, and they all cried after him.

I cannot stop thinking about people who committed suicide. I just feel need to make them important somehow. They deserve it. This book absolutely changed my view of the world. I want to let all the people who have this kind of thoughts know that THEY ARE NOT ALONE.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

YOU SHOULD ALWAYS LOOK FOR HELP AND YOU SHOULDN’T THINK THAT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR THIS WORLD. YOU ARE.

AND DO NOT BE ASHAMED IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM, IT’S NOT SHAME.

Thing that made me cry even harder is that at the end of the book there is a page with all numbers, emails and addresses of all mental health clinics in my country, and above all that,there was a big title: REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Situation that inspired Jennifer Niven to write this beautiful book, this masterpiece, was just the situation Violet was in. She found a person that she loved so much dead one day, and she went trough hard trauma, and i’m glad that she took all of the strength she needed to create this book. I think she’s going to change a lot of lives, like she changed mine.