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You need to specify a day. "Hey, would you like to go out Wednesday, the 28th?"

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My schedule is flexible, have days off every Friday and Saturday.But I won't see her anytime soon. So how can I ask via phone? A call? Text message? And asking for this weekend, would today or tomorrow be too short notice?

I'll do that, unfortunately I had just asked her if she's free for this weekend. Would it seem like a desperate move to give her a specific date like the this Saturday, the 24th or the 31st even though I already asked?

She said she's not sure, she also said that on Fridays her niece comes over to spend time. I didn't really give her a chance to say anything after that because i had to leave, so i just told her to let me know.Oh and im 18 in my last year if that will make a difference.

Yeah, you didn't really handle that one very well. Because now you're in a position where you're not sure whether she's busy, or doesn't want to go out with you. This is why I suggested you pin her to a specific day. Then you left it up to her to call you back, something that again, now you're not sure if when she doesn't reply back, does that indicate a lack of interest or she forgot. Now you're not sure whether to call her again because you're scared of being bothersome. Can you see why being passive about it is a bad tactic?

So now you have to punt. I would say you let this weekend slide. If she doesn't call you back I'd talk to her about this time next week and say "Sorry last weekend didn't work out, would you like to go out Saturday?" Then if you still get a noncommittal from her, it's likely she's not interested. If she offers a different date if she's busy, or accepts, then she's interested.

normally i wouldn't do that, but i had asked her out before and she had said yes, but it got cancelled last minute and i offered to plan for a different day to which she said yes. the two times after that either me or her was busy. but she always said that she wants to go out on a date and that she is interested , but she's just busy. maybe i have bad timing.

Like ask her out today for the 31st. A week and a half instead of a few days. But honestly if she's not found time for you and you've been asking her out 3-4 times, I would start to get the idea she's not into you.