Comments on: Taking The Leadhttp://apracticalwedding.com/2013/02/life-lessons-from-kate-winslet/
Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage.Sun, 02 Aug 2015 20:05:00 -0700hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.3By: KBhttp://apracticalwedding.com/2013/02/life-lessons-from-kate-winslet/#comment-152447
Tue, 26 Feb 2013 22:54:46 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-152447That scene ALWAYS without fail makes me cry. Every. Single. Time. It’s a brilliant piece of acting and storytelling.
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Fri, 08 Feb 2013 21:21:08 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148882I think what I like best about “Love Actually” is that it shows love in all of its stages and facets – sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, sometimes we find it in unexpected places. It glosses over things sure, but it shows life’s ebbs and flows.

After all this talk about Love Actually and The Holiday, I think I know what I’ll be doing this weekend…..

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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 21:29:57 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148214I love this post so much – I’ve been thinking about it all day. I’m recovering from a wannabe-romcom situation – years after breaking up with an ex for various reasons we hook up in a super romantic nostalgic situation. He comes to visit me, I go to visit him, we’re talking all the time – I’m imagining the big gestures, the babies we’ll have, the fact that it’s taken so long to come to this moment of togetherness and how much more special it will now be because we’ve come back together through hardship and can now really appreciate the people we’ve become. He’s just thinking about sex. So no romcom ending. When I cry about it I think about all those films where love conquers all, where they get together in the end against all odds, where both people realise that the other person is worth fighting for. It’s hard not to get bitter and wonder why other people seem to be getting the happy endings and I’m not.

So not living a romcom does indeed suck, but I suppose I realise that when it’s right it’s often just right with no second guessing. When I think back on my story now (and the many other stories I could tell you from my 20s) I see them almost from a birds-eye viewpoint – thinking “of course it wasn’t right, of course he wasn’t right”. As Kate says in the Holiday, eventually: “you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.” I hope you come to feel the same.

P.S. So happy to see a post on here that is realistic about the single life but holding hope for future joys. I read this site because it reminds me that love is out there, however APW folk celebrate it. I know this hasn’t got many comments – but it really struck a chord with me. I hope that for those of you who are married/getting there this post will remind you all of what it was like to be single and finding things tough – maybe pick up the phone to a single friend who you know is spending the weekend alone and see how they’re doing. I know, however much I love talking to my married/soon to be married friend about their plans I always love when they return the favour and ask how I’m doing (minus boyfriend, minus children etc)

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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 18:34:25 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148172So I was thinking about this post last night and I think it’s a great one even though it didn’t generate the comments that some do around here. The line from The Holiday really resonated with me as well, but I wonder if the thing of it is, movies are only a few hours long, and our lives last for years. So there are times when we’re the leading lady, and times when we’re the best friend, and it’s all about recognizing when our moment to step up and take the lead is? Those people who expect to be the leading lady at all times, they can be horrible, and that’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself. Even the leading lady’s got a montage of bad jobs, or bad dates, or nights on the couch with a pint of ben & jerry’s, before whatever her motivating event is causes her to decide it’s time to do something and make her life happen the way she wants it to.
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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:59:57 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148102“It’s very likely that if I had met my husband at 25, 30 or 33 I would have had an appreciation for him. I would not have been ready to give of myself in a serious commitment, I would not have been brave enough to be vulnerable.”

YUP. I met my fiance in a very RomCom way (blind date to ex-boyfriend’s wedding weekend), but we didn’t get together until 5 years and many random non-RomCom path crossings afterwards. We both had a lot of self-fulfillment to accomplish before we were ready to be vulnerable enough to really love.

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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 07:16:19 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148079Oh falling for the boy that just won’t see you as something other than his best friend. So. been. there.
It is hard. It took lots of pain and tears and time to realize it was never gonna happen. I could have waited forever and it could not have happened. And I also see now how we were not as perfect for each other as I thought.
I remember one night, after crying my eyes out, praying, deciding to let him go… and shortly after I met future husband and everything just clicked.
]]>By: Amandahttp://apracticalwedding.com/2013/02/life-lessons-from-kate-winslet/#comment-148078
Tue, 05 Feb 2013 07:12:23 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148078Yes I also loved the Aurelia part of the story. So sweet, and like One more Sara I ended up moving to a foreign country for love, learning the language, assimilating.
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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 03:41:31 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148056oh, thank goodness it’s not just me
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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 02:44:05 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148048thanks and I was except less crazy.
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Tue, 05 Feb 2013 01:45:39 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2013/01/playing-the-best-friend-in-my-own-movie-life-is-not-a-rom-com/#comment-148036hope. :)
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