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This blog is driven by submissions from users of their pictures, experiences and stories. Submissions are a huge help to others who may be going through the same struggles. To make a submission, e-mail clare@labiaproject.com

All submissions are treated with the strictest discretion and confidence, and your name will never be published on the site.

I’m 25 and I have had large labia since puberty. I had them before I ever became sexually active. My sister’s were smaller and it freaked me out at first. Thick or long labia are totally normal and common. I know I know you can’t go around asking your buddies about their pussy lips. Ask your OBGYN the next time you visit the doctor for a pap smear. She/he will assure you that she/he sees big labia every single day. I’m so sick of seeing girls concerned about this. Big lips are lovely, natural and totally normal and common. Lots of women have big lips! Here are some pics of mine that I wanted to share.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and pictures 🙂 I couldn’t agree with you more – large labia are indeed lovely, natural, normal and much more common than most people think. In fact, more than 75% of the women who completed the Innie vs Outtie Vagina Poll have an outie vagina.

I’ve been extremely uncomfortable with my labia since I was probably like 13, you know that age where some girls are sexually active but some weren’t. I wasnt. Partly because I wasn’t ready but mostly because I was so embarrassed about my labia. I kept reading about it and I found this blog when i was 14 and it gave me a little comfort but I still felt like I would be made fun of bc ya know. They’re immature boys. Which is what happened my first time. Fast forward to now, I’m 18 and have been with the same guy since I was 15 and he loves everything about me, makes me feel like I’m perfect even when he knows I’m uncomfortable with myself but working on it. So ladies there are real men out there who will love you regardless of your body. You should never feel embarrassed of the way you were made! It’s not “roast beef” and it doesn’t mean you’ve had to much sex or you’re loose. It’s just the way we are. And we’re perfect!

One vagina flap is bigger than the other, and I mean alooooooot bigger! Its gross and I’m so self conscious, will it go away on its own?

Thank you for getting in contact. What you are referring to is referred to as asymmetry of the labia minora (when one side of the labia minora is larger than the other). It is a relatively common phenomenon.

In answer to your question, while a woman’s labia can undergo changes throughout her lifetime, labia asymmetry is unlikely to go away over time.

If it is not causing you any unmanageable physical discomfort, there is nothing to be done from a medical perspective. If you have unmanageable physical discomfort, you may wish to discuss your options with your gynecologist who can refer you to another medical professional if necessary. I would not advise seeing a plastic surgeon first, as many plastic surgeons unnecessarily recommend labiaplasty surgery for cosmetic rather than medical reasons.

I’m a sophomore in highschool and I’ve had a long labia for as long as I can remember. I’ve always felt very uncomfortable with myself. Because of this I’ve turned down many sexual experiences, I feel like I’m missing out. I’m scared to show anyone my vagina because guys my age are immature. They think vaginas are supposed to look like those on pornhub. Anyways your not alone.

Many guys your age are immature and don’t know that most vaginas don’t look like porn star vaginas.

A big reason for this is a lack of education – in sex-ed, young people are not taught about the fact that vaginas are not all alike, and the differences are completely normal.

You should only get into an intimate relationship with a guy when you’re ready to do so. It should be with a guy who is genuinely into you for the right reasons, and who is mature and sensitive enough not to pass judgment.

I receive many e-mails and messages asking whether it is normal to have an innie vagina or an outie vagina, and asking how common innies and outies are. I have decided to put an Innie vs Outie Vagina Poll up to find out what percentage of the visitors of the Labia Project have innies and outies. Please vote in the poll by selecting the answer that applies to you, and clicking “Vote”. To view the results of the poll, click “Results”.

Hey girls, I’m 20 almost 21 and I have the same problem with big labia as many of you, sometimes it even hurts when I walk! Have no fears though, I used to dread getting even remotely intimate with someone for fear of being put down for being different. But I have since found guys either don’t care or actuality lile it. My long term boyfriend can’t get enough of it! I used to be terrified when someone wanted to try and go down on me, but my bf really helped me to see I am beautiful and he supports me in my on going thought as to whether or not to do the reduction surgery. Keep calm girls, we are our biggest critics, so what you find to he a major flaw in your opinion, I can guarantee its no where near as a big of an issue to others as you initially thought!!

Thank you for your lovely submission and your words of encouragement for other women on this site.

I am 28 and have wanted labiaplasty for as long as I can remember. I know , I know, variation in labia size, shape and color are normal! But I can’t help to totally hate my labia anyway… even after years of trying to love them. I find myself being repulsed when I look at my vulva and wanting to cut off all that hanging skin with scissors. I’m honestly so tired of feeling this way about my body! It breaks my heart that I just can’t love myself and get over it!

Thank you for being brave enough to share your insecurities.

It is clear that you have educated yourself regarding what is normal when it comes to labia variation. The good news is that half the battle is won already as you are aware that logically and objectively, there is nothing abnormal about your labia.

The other half of the battle is not going to be easy – it will involve dealing with your subjective insecurities and ultimately embracing your vulva as it is: normal, healthy and beautiful in its uniqueness.

I suggest that you read this post by Coach Jane. She describes an excellent technique for confronting and getting over your insecurities by using a mirror and a few minutes of privacy per day.

I’m 24 years old. Thank you so much for the work you do in boosting women’s confidence, it really does make a big difference to people like myself. Here are some of my large labia pictures to share with other women on the site.

Thank you for your words of encouragement and for your lovely submission 🙂