How to deal with those people from irritating me if I see them daily?

User's Question

I don't want to talk and to interact with one of my friend in collage. He alway teases me, and pass bad comments. What to do?

23Oct

Doctors Answer

Oct 23, 2015 04:40 PM

You may have a certain self-talk around these people - 'they must be good people / not annoying and if they are ideal it is absolutely terrible'. Making such absolute self-talk statements means stronger emotional reactions. You have also look for such self-talk and dispute it, and instead you have to replace it with thoughts like 'It is uncomfortable if they are so and so but not unbearable and I can deal with it'. The old thought needs to be questioned about its usefulness. Where is it written that people should be good or not annoying, and so on? Slowly replace it with the new thought. Our conselors would love to help you with this.