How to Make Every Long-Distance Relationship Work

How to Make Every Long-Distance Relationship Work

One of my biggest passions is to travel the world in order to experience the most amazing dating adventures that you can think of. Of course I always try to avoid falling in love because the last thing that I want is to end up in a long-distance relationship.

However, during my last three months travel adventure all around Asia I met a girl who was simply too amazing to not fall in love with her. I tried to keep the feelings away and I tried to convince myself that entering a relationship is the stupidest thing I could possibly do. Guess what, I failed completely.

The more time I spent with her, the more I fell in love with her. If I am really honest she is the most amazing girl I have ever met in my entire life. Everything could be so perfect if she wouldn’t live thousands of kilometers away from me.

A few days before my flight back to Europe I had to decide whether or not I wanted to continue our relationship or not. That was about 7 months ago and I am still together with her.

If I would say that long-distance relationships are the most romantic thing on this earth I would lie. They completely suck. However, there are a few easy ways to make them work and if you meet a girl who is worth it, you should do everything that is in your power to make it work.

Every Skype Conversation is a Date

When it comes to maintaining a long-distance relationship modern technology makes it extremely easy for you. Thanks to programs like Skype you can see each other, even if you live thousands of kilometers apart.

Unfortunately, most people in long-distance relationships regard the time they spend on skype not as valuable as the time they would spend with a person in real life. This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

In order to maintain your relationship you have to regard your Skype conversations as real dates. Don’t just sit there in the ugliest sweatpants and stare in the camera as if you wouldn’t give a damn.

Dress up for her, welcome her with a smile and take your time to talk about everything that is going on in your life. That’s how you transform a normal Skype call into an exciting date.

Stick to the Schedule

Let’s say you and your girlfriend promised each other to skype every day. You come back to your country and the first week this works great. However, after one week you want to see a football match during the time you usually skype.

You text her and ask her if it’s okay if you could postpone your skype date. She is okay with it. Two days later a friend of yours wants to come over. You ask her again and she is okay with it. A few days later you ask her again because you want to go to the gym. This time she doesn’t text back.

You should never take a relationship for granted and especially when you are in a long-distance relationship this is absolutely deadly. Do yourself a favor and stick to the schedule. If you don’t do that you will lose her faster than you think.

Regular Visits

It doesn’t matter if the girl you are together with lives on the other side of the planet. You have to visit her regularly in order to maintain a relationship. Maybe you can visit each other every month, maybe just every six months.

The time between the visits is not that important, at least in my experience. What is important is that you visit each other regularly and that you have something to look forward to.

The three months in between a visit are way more beautiful when you have the goal of seeing each other in the back of your mind.

Plan Ahead

Let’s imagine you are in the same situation as I am at the moment and your girlfriend lives far away from you. You waited for three months until you can finally visit her again. You want to surprise her and tell her two days before that you will come.

Unfortunately, she has to work the whole two weeks of your stay.

Spontaneity is great but when it comes to maintaining long-distance relationships it can backfire. Please make sure that both of you are available before you book your flight. Sitting alone in a hotel room while you are visiting your girlfriend is not the idea scenario.

Don’t Listen to the Naysayers

“The distance is too long. This will never work out.”

This is the most common sentence that I have heard whenever I told someone that I am together with a woman who lives thousands of kilometers away from me.

Is the distance really too long? If you are really honest the distance doesn’t matter at all. The determining factor that a relationship works is not whether you live hundreds or thousands of kilometers away from each other. It is also irrelevant if you see each other ten times a year or only three times.

The only thing that matters is that you don’t absorb all those negative opinions from people around you who don’t believe in you. You and your girlfriend are the only two persons you should listen to. It will work as long as both of you believe in the relationship.

Author Bio:

My name is Sebastian and you can read more from me here. My vision is to inspire, motivate and support men all over the world during their journey towards becoming global seducers. Once you got rid of your fears, learned how to seduce women and had unforgettable adventures with amazing girls all around the globe, I can confidently say that I have done a good job that I am extremely proud of.

About Anthony

As a motivational speaker, singles and relationship coach, internet marketer and an author, Anthony Adeokun offers individual and group couches. He has written many relationship articles and books. He also has special blog for MEN at Come Show Love, where he discuss real men’s issues. You can hook him up on Facebook Fan Page, Twitter, Google Plus. You can also Get his daily update.