Tired of the lies

I usually do not post anything contrary, but today I have such combat fatigue that I need to express this...when one lies about his/her situation which includes attempting, being raped, dying, the death of a loved one, it is stealing from well meaning ppl who are here to support others with unconditional regard...today two such situations have arisen and it has exhausted me...I try within each interaction (and yes, even interactions where a member confronts/attempts to insult me because I am staff) to find compassion...I am having problems finding this for the two ppl who were found to have built an entire world evoking the compassion of others on lies...it does not matter who this is...it is just wrong...I feel violated by someone taking my time, energy and compassion full well knowing NOTHING s/he said was the truth...sorry, but I am tired...wishing everyone better times and please contact me if you would like to discuss more effective ways to gain support...J

"“I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable." Maya Angelou quotes (American Poet, b.1928)

It is hard not to feel for everyone I think the ones who are faking their illness are in need of some kind of support as well they are needing attention not being got in their real life. It does hurt though the worry the pain I understand and hope you can distant yourself somehow so you are not pulled under with it.
take care. I have learned the hard way to distant myself now

I know all too well where you are coming from Jackie, and it is so difficult to vest oneself in another so completely to find they have done nothing other than toy with your emotions and play with your mind. It leaves you both mentally and physically exhausted. The question then becomes how does one take care of themselves and still be able to share the same level of compassion and support that they are compelled from within to give. I wish you to know that I am thankful for the person you are and the insight you have and so readily share. It saddens me to know people take advantage of others in this way.

I know on many occasions (and I do not use the term many lightly) you have provided hours at a time over days, weeks and months of support to those who, after much time has passed has been found they have been less than honest. And I know how much you are having difficulties right now and I am sorry this has happened to you again. You always make time out of your busy schedule to come to check on the baby ( ) and often refuse to leave if there is someone in dire need and I know on many occasions you have left in the middle of important meetings and gone without sleep just to provide support for the needy.

Just wanted to say thanks for everything you've done in the past and everything you will continue to do in the future and I know how hard it is to be kind to yourself when there is so much in life that is rubbing you up the wrong way all the time, it's something I strive to do too but it helps to have the friends we do to fall back on

Just wanted to say, as one of those that you have stopped and tried to help many times along my journey here, hun you are so apperciated by many others besides myself. The work is tiring , the hours relentless and long and the pay is the absolute worse (lol). But it takes a very special kind of individual to do what you do. Thank you J!!!!