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Topic: Co-workers Rudeness (Read 11172 times)

My daughter used the complete silence tactic today but I think it mostly because she was dumbstruck.

Background:In Jan of 2008, my daughter delivered her little girl at 18 weeks. Unfortunately little Gabriella was too early to live at birth. Since then they have tried unsuccessfully to get pregnant. Until now! She is 8 weeks pregnant!!! End BG

Daughter has been really sick, ended up in the ER last week with dehydration. The doctor is very concerned because she is losing weight. While at work today ( she is a pre-school teacher) her boss was asking how she was feeling and when her due date was. Her co-teacher looked at them both and said " I wouldn't be worrying too much about due date until you're sure this one is going to stick" My daughter said they both looked at her, didnt say a word, then turned back to their conversation. The co-teacher walked out of the room.

(She's lucky I live a few states away. I don't think I would have kept silent)

Wow. What a breathtakingly ugly thing to say..... That's just shocking. Hopefully somebody pulled her aside a little later and told her that was a horrible thing to say and she owes your daughter a huge apology. Huge, with groveling. Or, at the very least, she'd best keep her mouth shut if that's all the better she can come up with.

I can't believe someone would say something so cruel to another person! I wouldn't even know how to respond. Silence was probably the best response. Since the boss was there, I hope she will take the co-teacher aside and talk to her about sensitivity and thinking before *she speaks. IMO someone who is working with small children and their parents should have more tact and sensitivity.

I hope things turn out well for your daughter.

* I am assuming these people are all females because of the pregancy discussion and the fact they are pre-school teachers. That might be an interesting assumption on my part.

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"Carry out a random act of kindness, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." Princess Diana

I *hope* that what she really meant to say was: "I remember you have lost a child and I really feel for you. I do hope that this pregnancy will work out better."and that she just phrased it in an awfully clumsy way.

I also hope that she realised, afterwards, that it was really not a good idea to bring this up and especially not in such a blunt and hurtful way, and that she learns from it.

There's always hope. But, by golly, if I had been in your daughter's shoes, I would have had such trouble not to smack her right in the face or yell at her.

What a horrible thing to say. I hope that she didn't mean it as it came out. Sometimes people mean to say something and it comes out totally wrong. I think your daughter handled it gracefully. Hopefully it made the coworker think about how she phrased her statement.