Pastor I need your help. My fiancťe and I have a sexual relationship. Weíve had it now for 2 years. We are committed to each other and donít sleep around. He is the first guy Iíve been involved with sexually. We believe weíll get married and vowed to love each other always. We couldnít get married because we didnít have any money- we are both studying.

I am really confused. Is it really sin? And if it is- how can I stop it now? I believe that if we had to break our commitment to each other and not get married, then it would become sin, because then it would be like getting divorced. We see ourselves as already married because we believe in Godís eyes we are.

As you can see, Iím far from ready to accept that it is sin and let it go. But if it is then I know, no matter how hard it is going to be, I will have to change things! How do I deal with this? Iím praying like Iíve never prayed in all my life

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My reply:--
In any event you cannot live your life over again. You know that you are not doing the will of God or you wouldnít have written me. I cannot bless what God has prohibited. Your courtship should have been a time of deepening your friendship. Now sex has complicated the matter.

This will be a big test for you. You are at a crossroads. The Holy Spirit is speaking to your heart calling you to repent. You donít need Godís guidance- he has already revealed his will to you. You must now pray for strength to obey what you know to be right. You will never regret obeying. God and seeking first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness. There are always regrets that come as a result of disobedience. I will be praying for you.

Note: Praise God the couple got victory!

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