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“Often the negative consequences, such as resentment and
an over-developed sense of responsibility, are linked to other
issues and problems,” warns Garber. For instance, teens might
begin to exhibit negative behaviors because they feel their own
needs are not being met.
Garland remarks, “The balance between childcare respon-
sibilities and activities associated with adolescent development
(e.g., social events, dating, free time) may be one potential chal-
lenge.” She finds that social experiences help teens learn skills
that enable them to navigate situations as adults. Parents should
also be acutely aware of their teen’s feelings and talk things out
if their teen is feeling lonely or overwhelmed.
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Since resentment of the younger sibling can be an issue,
Garber instructs, “While there is no foolproof guarantee for pre-
venting sibling resentment, it is helpful for parents to make sure
their teen has structured time that is strictly for him. Ideally,
teens should be able to allocate time in their schedule for both
school and social obligations. This will help them feel cared
for and valued. Additionally, teens will have the opportunity to
mature socially, so the peer disconnect that many responsible
caretaker teens experience (and later resent) will be limited.”
Garland suggests that parents consider community resourc-
es as possible alternatives to ease their teen’s responsibility lev-
el, such as support groups and churches. Another idea is to work
out childcare swaps where families take turns with childcare.
“Some cities offer free or low-cost after-school and weekend
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