Neovagina Gone Wrong Makes MTF Suicidal: Felt “Blinded by Promises”

In my last post, I discussed the harm caused by concealing reports of surgical complications. That discussion was in the abstract – what follows is a story of how this works in the real world.

Here is a heartbreaking story of an MTF who felt “blinded by promises.” They “thought that SRS would be that last little mile. A ticket to a normal life as a woman.” What they received was blood, discharge, scar tissue, and a neovagina that looks far from authentic. The full story is below. This is sourced from Reddit with the username redacted for privacy. They expressed suicidal thoughts as of the time of that post. I’m not sure if they’re still alive right now.

It’s hard to read this story and not feel some empathy for the person who wrote it. This is why NVD continues to exist, despite all the attempts to bury these stories. (By the way, I read on Reddit that they’ve already contacted my hosting provider with complaints – and my hosting provider told them to get lost!)

As you read this story, bear in mind that this individual was “blinded by promises” because activists do whatever they can to silence stories of complications.

This is extremely sad. I hope this person gets/got some therapy. He was clearly suffering from psychological/emotional issues before the surgery; surgery made them worse. I can totally understand how he’d feel trapped in his body and in the life he’d created.

Bleeding more than three years later is rare. Even for a surgery as complex and intensive as GRS. Brassard is a surgeon who has hit or miss results. When he performs a successful surgery, it’s successful but when he fucks up, he fucks up badly. That’s why you want a surgeon with consistent results. Chettawut and Suporn are surgeons who take 6 hours to perform the surgery, with eye for detail. I had my GRS with Chettawut and I never had any of the problems the person in your post describes. It’s sad what they had to endure and I hope better times are coming for them.

Brassard patient here who had major complications. None of them were his fault, nor were they my fault. I actually believe they were the nurses who “took care” of me. They’re so desensitized to bleeding and things that when I was told I had wound separation, they said no big deal and told me to ice the area while I was bleeding a lot. I looked at what happened and I was horrified, and yet they told me it would be fine (it was, 8-12 weeks later after it healed by secondary intention). Meanwhile I was so depressed in the recovery house because they couldn’t explain to me why they couldn’t close it up, mainly due to the language barrier, and they don’t have mental health staff on site, so a (very nice) nurse was basically talking me down from wanting to hurt myself. I’m now 8 months post-op and I look back at my recovery as one of the worst times in my life. It was extremely traumatic. However, I’m also still extremely happy with my results now that I’m past that time in my life. It’s healed now and the only issue I have is a bit of scar tissue, and obviously my scars. Yes, Brassard can be hit or miss in some scenarios, but I was also the only one in my group of 8 others getting it done that actually had major complications, so i don’t know. The horror stories online are usually played up with him. It was MUCH MUCH worse back in the 90s and before when it was Menard doing them, AKA the “Butcher of Montreal”.

Brassard does have good results. He is a skilled surgeon, I do not dispute that. Brassard performs speedy sex reassignment surgeries and that’s what his complications are mostly related to. He does a complete full depth SRS in 2,5 hours and he does a zero depth SRS in 1,5 hours. Brassard does a simple penile inversion. His cosmetic results are not great because he only creates the labia majora during the first surgery, not the labia minora. If you want a more realistic looking vulva you will need a secondary labiaplasty. Brassard still performs SRS surgery like the surgeons in the 90’s used to do with their two step method. First step was creating depth and the clitoris and labia major. Second surgery six months later was to create labia minor and a clitoral hood and other small refinements to make the vulva look more natural. Nowadays skilled surgeons generally can give you a very cosmetically pleasing result in only 1 surgery because the techniques are more refined. They can do skin grafts and they can use laparoscopic methods to make the prominence of the scars less easier to detect. Doctor Christine McGinn and doctor Marci Bowers are the most famous GRS surgeons in the USA. Both create anatomically correct vulvas and vaginas in one surgery. They take about 4,5 hours to perform the surgery. They guarantee sensation. A lot also depends on how your body heals, what material you have to work with and how you take your after regimen into consideration. It’s important to dilate and douche regularly during the first year. After that aftercare becomes less intensive. Starting from year three all scars will slowly fade away and your nerves will continue to reconnect. Most post-op trans women have orgasmic ability. Horror stories are rare exceptions. Most GRS surgeries turn out excellent with a few refinements and some healing time. The photos posted on this hate propaganda website are pictures from immediately after surgery or where the patient had a rare complication. These are not representative of the average GRS result. It’s just that TERFs can’t process that trans women are indeed women.

No neo ‘vagina’ will ever look or feel like a REAL vagina. To say so is delusional and results in destroying lives like the man above. Horror stories are ‘rare’ because men like you censor them. You don’t like to hear the truth that your surgical site will never be a vagina. Vaginas self-clean, have rugae and can stretch. Neo ‘vaginas’ must be dilated to keep open because they are a wound, cannot clean themselves and are a host to millions of disgusting bacteria including e. coli.

As someone who has worked with your particular hosting provider before, I have HIGH doubts that they’re shrugging off reports of abuse. That’s 1) irresponsible and 2) quite literally against their terms of service. Do you have proof of that?

How can these men be so ignorant about the reality of surgery? No major surgery will ever leave a pain free, natural looking result, and they can take a year to fully recover. “Blinded by promises” doesn’t cover it.