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Ajay Menghani
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It's an honor to kill people in the name of honor.

It's an honor to kill people in the name of Honor Killing.

An honor killing or honour killing is the homicide of a member of a family or social group by other members, due to the perpetrators' belief that the victim has brought shame or dishonor upon the family or community, usually for reasons such as refusing to enter an arranged marriage, being in a relationship that is disapproved by their relatives, having sex outside marriage, becoming the victim of rape, dressing in ways which are deemed inappropriate, or engaging in homosexual relations.

The bodies of Sunita Devi (L), 21, and her partner Jasbir Singh, 22, lie on the ground after they were killed by villagers in an “honour killing” in Ballah village in the northern Indian state of Haryana May 9, 2008. Growing economic opportunities for young people and lower castes in Haryana have made “love marriages” more common, experts say, and the violent repression of them has risen in tandem as upper caste Jat men fight to hold on to power, status and property. Picture taken May 9, 2008. INDIA-HONOURKILLING/ REUTERS/Stringer

Methods of killing include stoning, stabbing, beating, burning, beheading, hanging, throat slashing, lethal acid attacks, shooting and strangulation.[20] The murders are sometimes performed in public to warn the other women within the community of possible consequences of engaging in what is seen as illicit behavior.

The origin of honor killings and the control of women is evidenced throughout history in the culture and tradition of many regions. The Roman law of pater familias gave complete control to the men of the family over both their children and wives. Under these laws, the lives of children and wives were at the discretion of the men in their family. Ancient Roman Law also justified honor killings by stating that women found guilty of adultery could be killed by their husbands. Among the Ching dynasty in China, fathers and husbands had the right to kill females deemed to have dishonoured them

A young newlywed couple in northeastern Pakistan died a horrible death
at the hands of the bride's family in the latest honor killing in the
nation. The couple, identified as Sajjad Ahmed, 26, and Muawia Bibi, 18, were
married by a Pakistani court on June 18 against the wishes of the Bibi
family,the bride's father and uncles lured the couple back to the village of
Satrah in Punjab province, where Ahsanullah said the pair were tied up
and then decapitated.
In Pakistan, 869 women were victims of honor killings in year 2013

Several other stories are there more worse than that, where the victims are get tortured brutally and murdered.

The United Nations Population Fund reported 5,000 honour killings per
year in 2000. However, these figures are disputed and there has not been
any subsequent global estimate.

There are currently around 1000 honour killings per year in India alone,
and these occur across all the major faiths of the region, including
Hindus and Sikhs. Crimes against women motivated to maintain or restore
‘honour’ can be found in a variety of cultures and historical periods; a
law that allowed for ‘honour’ killing was part of the Italian penal
code right up until 1980. While in the current period, ‘honour’ killings
are mostly associated with the Middle East and other countries such as
Pakistan and Afghanistan, this may not reflect reality as similar crimes
may be being committed elsewhere but are not yet recognised as
‘honour’-related.

Common expectations associated with ‘honour’ are that:

Women must guard their virginity and not develop relationships with persons outside the approved group;

Women must aquiesce to the demands of their family, particularly with regard to the arrangement of marriage;

Women should not air their problems outside the family; this includes reporting spousal violence to the authorities;

Women should not initiate divorce, and should not seek to gain custody of their children.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Rapeis a type ofsexual assaultusually involvingsexual
intercourse, which is initiated by one or more
persons against another person without that person'sconsent. The act may be carried out by physical force,coercion, abuse of authority or with a person who is incapable of
valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the
legalage of
consent. The term is most
often defined incriminal law.

Rape is a violent act, and most commonly committed by a male
upon a female. However, some cases of rape have been reported in which a woman
has raped a man. Rape also may occur between members of the same sex. This is
more prevalent in situations where access to the opposite sex is restricted
(such as prisons, military settings, and single-sex schools).

Those who face some form of discrimination are
believed to be at higher risk of sexual assault. This increased vulnerability
can assume various forms. For example, those with disabilities or limited
language skills have a decreased ability to call for help; prostitutes or
convicted prisoners have decreased credibility.

Source : http://health.nytimes.com

Types of Rape :

There are
several types of rape, generally categorized by reference to the situation in
which it occurs, the sex or characteristics of the victim, and/or the sex or
characteristics of the perpetrator. Different types of rape include but are not
limited to:date rape,gang
rape, marital rape,incestual rape,child
sexual abuse,prison
rape, acquaintance rape,war rapeandstatutory
rape.

The typical rape victim is a 16-24 year-old woman. Anyone,
however -- man or woman, adult or child -- can be the victim of rape. Most
commonly, the assailant is a 25-44 year-old man who plans his attack. He
usually chooses a woman of the same race. Nearly half the time, the victim
knowsthe rapist at least casually, from working or living near him. Alcohol is
involved in more than 1 out of 3 rapes.

Over 50% of rapes occur in the victim's home. The rapist breaks
into the victim's home or gains access under false pretenses, such as asking to
use the phone or posing as a repairman or salesman.

1 in 6 women have experienced an
attempted or completed rape in their lifetime

15 % of sexual assault and rape
victims are under age 12

Approximately 68% of rape victims
knew their assailant. 28% of victims are raped by husbands or boyfriends,
35% by acquaintances, and 5% by other relatives. 29% of female victims
reported that the offender was a stranger

More than 50% of all rape/sexual
assault incidents were reported by victims to have occurred within 1 mile
of their home or at their home

About 3% of American men – or 1
in 33 – have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime

2.78 million men in the U.S. havebeen victims of sexual assault or rape

17.7 million American Women have
been victims of attempted or completed rape

93 % of juvenile sexual assault
victims knew their attacker

Sexual assault is one of the most
underreported crimes, with 60 % still being left unreported.

In 2007:

In Alabama, 1,408 rapes were
reported

An average of 4 rapes per day

In 72 % of the rapes, the victim
and offender knew or were related to each other

22.5 years was the average age of
a victim

19 % of rapes occurred on a
Saturday and 18 % on a Sunday

28.0 was the average age of an
offender

76 % of victims reported no other
injuries from the rape and 52 % submitted to a medical exam

Reference : http://www.lighthousehelp.org

Common consequences experienced by
Rape victims include.

·Vaginal or Anal bleeding or infection

·Hypoactivesexual desire disorder

·Vaginitis

·Dyspareunia, Vaginismus

·Chronic Pelvic pain

·Urinary infections

·Pregnancy

Suicide

Childhood and adulthood victims of rape are more
likely to attempt or commit suicide.The
association remains, even after controlling for sex, age, education, symptoms
of post-traumatic stress disorder and the presence of psychiatric disorders. The
experience of being raped can lead to suicidal behavior as early as
adolescence. In Ethiopia, 6% of raped schoolgirls reported having attempted
suicide. They also feel embarrassed to talk about what had happened to them.A study of adolescents in Brazil found
prior sexual abuseto be a
leading factor predicting several health risk behaviors, including suicidal
thoughts and attempts

Monday, March 5, 2012

Ablood donationoccurs when a personvoluntarilyhasblooddrawn and used fortransfusionsor made into medications by a process calledfractionation.

Blood donationis one of the noblest works. But, in spite of the
various reasons, for donating blood and encouraging others to do it. Need of
the hour is to make peopleaware about the facts and myths regarding blood donation.
So that people can contribute by without any fear or doubt. Many organizations organize
blood donation camps but they get only few participants, this is a pitiable
condition. There are too many myths associated with this noble cause that
should be completely eradicated as soon as possible.

Blood Facts

Blood
is the life-maintaining fluid that circulates through the body's heart,
arteries, veins and capillaries.

"I
will have low blood" - If you are okayed to donate by the doctor you will
still have surplus blood after the donation.

"I
can't take alcohol..." - You can on the next day.

"It
will be painful while donating" - No, you will not feel any pain.

"I
will feel dizzy and may faint" - You will not faint or feel uncomfortable
after donating blood.

"I
may get AIDS!" - No! Make sure disposable syringes are used and all
measures are taken to keep you germ free.

"My
blood is common. I don't think there will be demand for it" - That is why
the demand for your type is greater than for rare types.

Here is some useful information about Blood donation:

1.Universal Donor:O- (negative) group

2.Universal Receiver:AB+( positive) group

3.Life of Blood Storage:

§Whole Blood : 35 Days

§RBC: 42 Days

§RDP: 5 Days

§FFP and Cryo: 1Year

Myths And Facts About Blood Donation

Myths

1.Blood donation leads toweakness.

2.Government hospitalsprohibit bloodfrom private Blood Banks.

3.Blood Bankis acommercial and profit making activity.

4.Women and girlscannot donate blood.

Facts

1.Blood donationnever leads to weaknessit moreover brings in new energy.

2.According to the NOC issued by the Government of India,government hospitals can take blood from any licensed Blood Bank.

3.Blood Bank is completely ano profit, no loss service.

4.Any healthy person, weighing more than 45 kgs. and in the age group of 18 to 60 can donate bloodirrespective of their gender.

MYTH: You don’t need me. You have plenty of donors.

FACT:Patients need you! Only about 5% of the eligible population takes the time to donate blood. Blood can not be manufactured in the laboratory. The only source for this lifesaving resource is volunteer blood donors. Approximately 32,000 units are used each day in the U.S.

MYTH: I don’t have time to donate blood.

FACT:Donating blood only takes approximately an hour of your time. The majority of that time is spent filling out a medical questionnaire and checking vital signs. The actual donation process takes about 10 minutes.

MYTH: I can’t give blood because I’m afraid of needles.

FACT:Most people do feel a bit of nervousness about blood donation. Most also say after their donation that they’re sorry they waited so long. Blood donation is a momentary discomfort for the donor that can provide a lifetime of a difference for the patient.

MYTH:When there is a requirement, blood can be manufactured.

FACT:Blood is not something that can be manufactured. It can only come from healthy human beings.

MYTH:Blood donation can tell if one is HIV positive.

FACT:HIV antibodies can take months to develop after infection with the virus. Those recently infected may have a negative test result and yet be able to infect others. It is better not to donate blood if at risk of getting HIV or other infections.

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MYTH: I can’t give blood because I have epilepsy or seizures.

FACT:Epilepsy or seizures do not disqualify you from
donating as long as you have had no seizures for one year.

MYTH:I can’t donate because I’m anemic.

FACT:Your hemoglobin (iron) level
will be checked prior to donating blood. As long as levels are normal on the
day of donation, you may give.

MYTH:I can’t give blood because I had a flu shot.

FACT:In fact, you may donate blood the same day you
receive the vaccination.

MYTH: Being a vegetarian, means that the blood does not have
enough iron and cannot be donated.

FACT:Vegetarians can donate blood. The iron needed is
taken from body stores and once a balanced diet is maintained is replaced after
donation. This usually normally takes a month or so.

MYTH: Blood lasts forever.

FACT:Red blood cells have a shelf life of only 42 days under refrigeration. Platelets last only 5 days. Every day the SouthTexasBlood & TissueCenter must collect 500 units of blood.

MYTH: People with tattoos and piercings can not be blood donors.

FACT:Donors who have recently received a tattoo may be accepted, provided the procedure was done at a licensed facility in Texas. Donors must provide the name of the licensed business and the city in Texas where the business is located.

MYTH: I can’t give blood because I have seasonal allergies.

FACT:Allergies, even those that need to be controlled by medication, will not prevent you from donating blood.

MYTH:Health deteriorates after donating blood.

FACT:If you are healthy prior to donation, your recovery is complete in a day or two. It is advised to rest a while after donating. Drinking enough liquids replaces the lost fluid within a couple of hours. The body produces new cells faster after a donation. All the RBCs are replaced within 3-4 days and WBCs within 3 weeks.

MYTH:you cannot take part in sports or other physical activities after donating blood.

FACT:Giving blood does not interfere with ability to perform physically. Advice to avoid heavy lifting or strenuous workouts for the rest of the day is given after the donation. You can get back on track the next day.

MYTH: I can’t give blood because I have high blood pressure.

FACT:As long as your blood pressure is below 180 systolic (first number) and 100 diastolic (second number) at the time of your donation, you may give blood. Furthermore, medications that you may be taking for high blood pressure do not disqualify you from donating.

MYTH: All medications and antibiotics defer you from donating blood.

FACT:Taking medications is NOT an automatic deferral. Most are perfectly acceptable. Since there are many different medications, the easiest thing to do is call the Center to ask. Anyone who is currently taking antibiotics for an infection will be deferred until 24 hours after the last dose. Donors unsure of the medication used will be deferred for a 28 day period.

MYTH: HIV or other infections can be contracted from donating blood.

FACT:A clear procedure exists for taking blood from each donor. Sterility is maintained at all steps. A sterile, new needle is used for each donation and is then properly discarded. Use of sterile equipment and technique limits the chance of infection.

MYTH:Age is a deterrent to blood donation.

FACT:Anyone up to the age of 60 who is fit and healthy can give blood.

MYTH:Heavy people are healthier and have more blood to give.

FACT:Being overweight makes people less healthy. Overweight people do not have more blood.

MYTH: I can’t give blood because I have high cholesterol.

FACT:A high cholesterol level does not disqualify you from donating–even if medication is used to control it. In fact, when you donate blood with CBCO you will get a FREE cholesterol screening!

MYTH:I can’t give blood because I had cancer.

FACT:While some types of cancer may disqualify you from donating, there are many circumstances under which you may donate blood after an appropriate waiting period. Please contact CBCO for more information.

MYTH: Diabetics can not donate blood.

FACT:Type II diabetics (non-insulin dependent) are eligible to donate blood provided the diabetes is controlled by diet and/or oral antidiabetic drugs. Diabetics taking injectable insulin may donate blood if they are stabilized and have not changed their insulin dosage within 2 weeks of donating.