Attention high school girls: please don’t fall in love with a boy because that is an excellent way to get abused. Just give blowjobs instead.

Hook-up culture is STILL getting all the proper lady writers in a tizzy, and it seems like the blame for this sad state of affairs has not been laid squarely enough. It really looks an awful lot like a whole bunch of ladies are just sluts, but then again maybe the whole thing is a figment of everyone’s imagination?

Hanna Roisin at least takes a stab at trying to understand what it all means, and remarkably, she suggests that “people” have a fraught relationship with sex in general.

Maybe it means that people don’t take sex as seriously as they used to. Maybe it means women are less afraid of it than they used to be. Maybe it means that young people have learned to incorporate sex into their definition of friendship. Maybe it means sex isn’t so loaded, and doesn’t put you on a path to marriage or a real relationship anymore.

Well, Hannah clearly needs to be spending more time with her fellow Double XXbloggers, because hook-up culture is far more than just “sex”, my pretty. Hook-up culture is actually a very clever strategy designed to allow vulnerable young women the opportunity to escape the inevitable abuse that comes with having a relationship with an icky, violent, cootie-ridden BOY.

Yuck.

Boys.

First they infect you with their childish crudeness, then they beat the hell out of you because once you admit you like a boy, everyone knows it’s punching bag city from there on out.

Right?

According to Amanda Hess, that’s exactly the risk young women run when they think in terms of anything OTHER than fly-by blowjobs after gym class.

Women in their teens and 20s still face an elevated risk of abuse and assault. But confining their relationships to casual sexts instead of jumping into intense relationships could actually help girls avoid violence from their partners now and later in life.

Hess, who apparently has a sliver of conscience left when it comes to perpetuating deeply hateful stereotypes against boys in particular, admits that rape and domestic violence in the population at large are declining at precipitous rates.

…when it comes to real crimes, modern American relationships have actually become a lot less “extreme” in recent decades. Incidents of rape have declined by as much as 85 percent since the 1970s (and when they do happen, victims are more likely to report the crime). Domestic violence incidents have also dropped precipitously since the ‘90s.

But those menacing boys tipping from adolescence into fully realized adult manhood still scare the bejeebus out of her. Even though women can and will chuck a few head shots themselves, and plenty won’t hesitate to settle their disagreements with a little bloodshed, Amanda is still deeply concerned the poor duckies might find themselves trapped in an abusive relationship with an intimate partner.

During the past two ­and-a-half decades, official statistics suggest that female delinquency has undergone substantial changes compared with male delinquency. Between 1980 and 2005, arrests of girls increased nationwide, while arrests of boys decreased (Federal Bureau of Investigation, 2006)

What’s a girl to do? Well, concentrate on school, of course. Give yourself alternatives to endless beatings at the hands of your teenage Romeo! What Juliet needs to do is shift the balance of power into HER corner.

…intimate partner violence also drops “as women’s alternatives outside their relationships improve,” they found. As women secure higher educations and increase their earning potential, they’re “able to achieve self-sufficiency in the long-run.” When “battered women can support themselves, they are both more likely to leave and have more power within their relationships if they stay.”

And see how brilliantly hook-up culture fits into that?

Sexting is not “something that creates a very secure relationship,” child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman tells Lauer. Kids tell her that “hook up culture makes it so they can get a competitive edge in college and high school. They’re not worried about the relationship. They’re focused on school and the things that matter to them.”

And what things matter to kids, anyways? According to her own article, it’s not the pleasures of random sex with people you barely know.

…boys “often expressed a desire for a deeper connection with girls, but felt confused about how to make it happen.”

…when the boy sent her another message telling her that “he liked her,” she became “intrigued” by the possibility of a real relationship with him.

Let’s keep in mind that these are HIGH SCHOOL boys and girls we are talking about. Despite their own stated interests in actually exploring intimate, connected, meaningful, emotional relationships with one another – something BOTH boys and girls aspire to – Hess and her ilk continue to insist that boys really ARE predators, and girls really ARE prey. No matter how ardently, or clumsily the aspiration for a deeper connection is expressed, girls need to always keep in mind that BOYS ARE DANGEROUS.

A disgusting text from a boy is bad, but a serious commitment with the sender could be a lot more dangerous.

Some young ladies, of course, are simply not going to buy into the myth that a relationship with a boy is pretty much asking to be regularly back-handed, and the name we have for those girls is STUPID. No matter. We’ll do our best to help them choose the least rotten apple!

First up, try and avoid the 50% of young men who volunteer and give back to their communities. I mean, sure, philanthropy is nice and all that, but when boys volunteer they still have to be all BOY about it, taking on physically demanding and challenging activities, and helping people younger than themselves learn about fair play and rules and winning and losing and all that sort of nonsense.

Boys were more likely to undertake physical activities such as environmental cleanup or working with younger children in sports, while girls were more likely to help the homeless and other needy people or to work with arts groups.

Boys are just practicing for the inevitable moment they will get to overpower and abuse the girls silly enough to think they are, oh, lovely, caring human beings. Don’t buy the lie, ladies!

Stay away from all those boys involved in extracurricular activities, especially sports and student governance, which lead to high self-esteem and the development of leadership qualities! High self-esteem in boys can only mean they feel free to beat the crap out of their girlfriends. Predator/prey, remember?

A considerable difference was observed between males and females in athletics and sports team participation in both school- and community-based activities. School-based extracurricular activities were appraised as most beneficial to the development of self-esteem and leadership role development.

And for heaven’s sake, steer way clear of those young entrepreneurial men who are increasingly one of the driving forces of innovation and development, not just in the modern economies, but around the world! Ladies have good reasons not to dirty their pretty mitts with tough and scrabble, live or die BUSINESS.

In other words, in contrast to young men, young women are less likely to see opportunities, have a higher fear of failure and therefore, less likely to engage in entrepreneurship.

Those boys are just trying to get money and power so they can abuse their girlfriends.

Teenage boys: more likely to get involved with their communities and schools, volunteer with children, create meaningful business ventures and do the dirty work we need as a culture to survive.

Data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor statistics for all workers suggests that male workers are much more at risk than female. In 2009, 93 percent of the workers in America who died in the job were men.

• Also in July, 17-year-old plumber Benjamin Graham died in Albany, Georgia after being electrocuted while working under a home on a water pipe.

• In August, 16-year-old Damon Springer of Osgood, Ohio was struck by a bobcat frontend loader while working with his father in a family tree service company. Springer’s father did not see the boy and accidentally backed into him, crushing him.

• In September, 17-year-old Stephen N. Tiller was killed when crushed by a garbage truck while working for a family-owned sanitation company. Tiller was riding in the front of a front-loading garbage truck when the truck hit some bumps and sent the boy and another worker flying in front of the truck, which then ran him over.

• In October, 16-year-old Armando Ramirez died in Lamont, California after inhaling hydrogen sulfide in a drainage tunnel at Community Recycling and Resource recycling company

Amanda Hess is rather audacious to draw an analogy between prey and predator in her writing. Does she honestly think that some of us, especially the mothers of sons, won’t see the truth? These grown women who sit in air-conditioned offices with their high heels and manicures, chastising their younger counterparts not to trust or love young men are the predators.

And both young men and women are the prey.

When a grown women who presumably has a modicum of sense and humanity and understanding tells young women that random blowjobs are a good idea because hey, at least you will avoid being abused by that evil boy, it’s time to question who is speaking in our culture, and what damage is being done.

The TODAY show panel talks about that like it’s a bad thing, but “real relationships” don’t erase the potential for abuse; in some cases, they leave girls more vulnerable to repeat offenders.

The repeat offender here isn’t the hapless boy sending poorly worded texts to a girl he likes. The repeat offender is Amanda herself. The need to spin stories ever more crassly, to point blank treat young women as if they are stupid and young men as if they are monsters is telling in itself.

The cracks are beginning to show. The rhetoric of hate is becoming so amplified, it can only lead to one outcome: revolution.

The sadness of the women’s movement is that they don’t allow the necessity of love. See, I don’t personally trust any revolution where love is not allowed.

If girls or young women were to actually have a relationship with a boy or young man, she might realize that most guys are perfectly decent and they might start to actually like them.

And if that happens, then where would the feminists be? No, this must be avoided at all costs…

Jim

Problem is you get to a point as a man that you are so disgusted by women that you don’t lower yourself down to even want a blowjob. Why if we’re not labeled as players then we’re monsters. And when men reject women on the basis of sex, women are good for what then?

We’re way past the point where women can be seen as reliable in the relationship game. Literally turning men away in ever increasing numbers while calling for more legal ramifications against them is not going to have the opposite effect of trying to get them in line. It’s not the abusers or the PUA’s women should really be concerned with. It’s the former go getters that turn into MGTOW’s and Galts that are dropping out and/or taking advantage of the same system that was designed to marginalize them in the first place that they should be really looking at. Surfer dude living off the system while not giving a damn and scoring with women because he can get away with it is something to aspire to. Because as a guy with zilch to lose, women give him a pass. Think about it.

What awful people these feminists are. It’s one thing to attack adults, but to do such damage to children is monstrous.

RedPillOverdose

To some degree the hook up culture should be renamed the hooker culture. Many of these young tarts, many of them start as young as 13-14, are doing just what they learned from their feminist mothers and feminist teaching and have put their own spin on it. Blow job skills + vagina = empowerment and a way to use disposable boys for money and favors. Anal sex has become more common tool among teen tramps because of pregnancy risk. I doubt these little flowers see boys as much as a threat but more like a walking wallet of sorts, something/someone disposable to extract goods and services until he is no longer needed and then they “friend zone” him and move on to the next resourceful meat stick. They even have a term called sport fucking and take pride in breaking hearts and keeping boys in their “friend zone”. These little tramps are also smart enough to know the legal system protects them from any responsibilities or from any accountability and can use that system for revenge or to remove a boy when he is no longer needed and will not go away on his own. All they have to do is cry rape/abuse and poof, boy gone. I have three nephews in school now and I do worry for them as the education system has been utterly feminized and outright hostile to boys. One good thing is a lot of these younger males are getting wise to all this feminist bullshit and figuring much of this garbage out early on as opposed to many of their uncles and fathers who have been railroaded by feminist court systems. Perhaps there will come a day when some of these young men will reach the age where they can enter the political arena and take this feminist shit on from the source. One can hope anyway.

RedPillOverdose

I also agree with Jim about MGTOW, and men are picking up on it. If it is one thing men have done for millennia it is adapt to our environment however shitty it may be. I left the minefield loaded relationship game years ago, long before I ever heard of anything like MGTOW. I figured out I was much happier living my life for myself, spending my money on my own life, and now not only have a lucrative career in the power equipment industry but also a part time music career too. Everything I have is paid for, I owe nothing and I am not going to even contemplate setting myself up for losing it over the epic failure of marriage. I don’t have some nagging ass woman bitching at me every time I buy a new instrument with my hard earned cash because it took from her shoes and handbags fund. The thing I like most about MGTOW and why it turns feminuts into Linda Blair from the exorcist is that it renders every bullshit tactic the feminist harpy’s have completely inert and useless.

Exfernal

There are some “dangerous” men out there. Dangerous under quite specific conditions:

High testosterone, maternal tobacco smoking during pregnancy, poor material living standards, dropping out of school, and low IQ can also trigger violent behavior in men with the low-activity alleles (which are overwhelmingly the 3R allele).

In individuals with the low activity MAOA gene, when faced with social exclusion or ostracism showed higher levels of aggression than individuals with the high activity MAOA gene. Low activity MAO-A could significantly predict aggressive behaviour in a high provocation situation, but was less associated with aggression in a low provocation situation. Individuals with the low activity variant of the MAOA gene were just as likely as participants with the high activity variant to retaliate when the loss was small. However, they were more likely to retaliate and with greater force when the loss was large.

Hmm, what about women…

Exfernal

DNA methylation at CpG sites, in general, makes the gene in question less active. So:

Studies have linked methylation of the MAOA gene with nicotine and alcohol dependence in women. A second MAOA VNTR promoter, P2, influences epigenetic methylation in women only and interacts with having experienced child abuse to influence antisocial personality disorder symptoms, also only in women. Epigenetic methylation of MAOA in men is very low and with little variability compared to women. It also has a much higher heritability in men than women.

Knowing all that, why not pick a barfly for a spouse?

Exfernal

Conclusion: if epinephrine and norepinephrine buildup lead a person toward aggressive (epinephrine) and/or fearful/panic (norepinephrine) responses, then the preference for a company of more level-headed individuals seems a better choice.

The need to spin stories ever more crassly, to point blank treat young women as if they are stupid and young men as if they are monsters is telling in itself. The cracks are beginning to show. The rhetoric of hate is becoming so amplified, it can only lead to one outcome: revolution.

Yes. This.

As you correctly note, JB, the incidence of rape and “domestic violence” (by men) has been falling steadily and continue to do so. Which is why the feminists are desperately trying to drive the whole “rape culture” and “men are violent brutes” themes as hard as they are. They can’t win if they admit that rape and violence are dwindling, since they need a climate of fear to sell their message (and collect money).

Most feminists–especially Manjaw Mandy–talk about inter-sexual relations as if nothing has changed since the 60s. They may occasionally give scant mention to how feminism has “improved” women’s lives but will then jump right back into the narrative that any criticism of feminism is just one small step removed from literally chaining women, barefoot and pregnant, to the kitchen where they will be routinely raped and beaten.

And, again quite correctly noted, the more extreme the rhetoric becomes in defiance of reality, the more you’ll know that feminists are being driven by rank fear. The fear of their own irrelevance…

Modern Drummer

I hate it when feminist women give men and boys motives they don’t have,but I do like blowjobs.
I wonder what it’s like to get a BJ from a Latin hooker…where’s Spaniard?

Eric

Any thoughts on how this position relates to the feminist excoriation of nice guys? (At least the nice guys who dare articulate their upset about modern women’s sex-intimacy and relationship choices, such as those advocated today by feminists.)

Men are supposed to suck. Violent, stupid brutes looking for a fuck and nothing else. Women use that as justification for total self-absorption. It’s all about ME, because why would it be about you?

You suck.

Nice guys are direct evidence that women are living a lie. That everything they believe about men is wrong. So they seek out total bastards, who offer confirmation that the lies are true.

And I make a distinction between genuinely nice, decent men, and boot-licking sycophants, whom no one likes because have some goddamn pride!

Nice men let women know that MEN aren’t the problem: women are.

Dire Badger

“Someday, Cameron is going to marry the first girl he ever has sex with, and she’s going to make his life a living hell…. because you cannot respect someone who kisses your ass.”
-F. Bueller

Uncalledfor

Nice guys are direct evidence that women are living a lie.

You have buried the lede a bit here, as this is (IMO) the key to the whole thing.

Nice men let women know that MEN aren’t the problem: women are.

A huge fraction of the energy of feminists, as well as that of less militant women, goes into denial and avoidance of this most basic of facts: Men are available in many types; if you’re being abused, it’s because you chose the abusive type over the (better?) alternative.

Even a tiny amount of browsing will reveal how quickly — instantaneously, actually — feminists will completely abandon anything like logic or discourse and resort 100% to snark, denial, ad hominem, and other assorted fallacies, as soon as the “nice guys” subject is raised. It appears to drive them instantly crazy on contact, like nothing else does; and to me that is a strong indication that this is the fulcrum of their weak spot, the place that they cannot dare to look at straight-on without suffering total collapse.

Really, it might be worth a post.

BTW, though, I don’t agree with your idea of cause and effect here:

So they seek out total bastards, who offer confirmation that the lies are true.

I don’t think it’s nearly that complicated. The substantial number of women who do seek out bastards — maybe a majority of women, if not then certainly a large minority — do so mainly because that’s what they find viscerally, reflexively, subconsciously sexually attractive. Why this might be the case, has been much debated; but I would hope that you, JB, could shed some unique light on the question.

Eric

“this is the fulcrum of their weak spot”

I disagree. It’s not a weak spot. Fixing, isolating, and breaking nice guys is just a component of their Marxist strategy.

It’s consistent with Alinsky’s rules for radicals, Mao on revolution, and other Marxist strategic and tactical texts that MUST be 101 reading for MRAs, complementarians like JB, and all Manosphere activists.

When you’re a revolutionary looking to switch out the system, not just a particular bad ruler, the good ruler and good officials are actually the more important obstacle. The bad ruler and corrupt officials are useful to the revolutionary and can be saved to the end for the final symbolic ritual decapitation that ushers in the commencement to the new world. The good ruler and good officials who give credit to the system must be destroyed ASAP.

The nice guys – the good ‘beta provider’ monogamous men who would be good husbands to women and good fathers to their children – are the more important obstacle that feminists must destroy with alacrity because nice guys give credit to the enemy gender relations model.

Feminists can use abusive men to advance the feminist case on the merits. Tactically, nice guys must be broken another way. But no worries, Marxists have a tried-and-true app for that that’s working effectively now against nice guys. It’s not a weak spot at all. It’s a feature of the Marxist method.

Eric

Makes sense.

Feminists aren’t actually attempting to correct abuses within traditional gender relations. Rather, using the Marxist method, they’re attempting a wholesale replacement with a different gender relations model, regardless of the abuses ushered in with their replacement gender relations model.

The greater threat to their mission isn’t the male abusers; in fact, the male abusers are useful to them. The greater threat to the feminist mission is the good ethical conscientious men who would do their best to make traditional man-women dyadic relationships work and treat women well.

It’s like that old warhorse of an office copy machine. As long as it works, we’re stuck with it. But if it breaks, the office can buy a new one. So that incentive leads those who want a new copy machine to do what to it?

Feminists aren’t trying to fix or correct gender relations. They’re trying to poison and break gender relations, so they can be replaced with the feminist model. On either side of the dyad, feminists are poisoning women and breaking men.

Well you know what? The whole thing is falling down. Relationships that is. Soon all women will just have one of those card readers on their smartphones so they can charge by the hour. It will all become prostitution eventually.

But of course I see through Amanda’s backstabbing plan. She wants young girls to forego relationships with young men…so she can have them all to herself.

Aye.

I am having trouble *ahem* swallowing the concept of giving blow jobs as a means to avoiding relationships. I mean… Why? Why not just avoid relationships and minimize bruising the back of your throat?

I mean, I gave a few misguided blow jobs along the way, but never, not once, did I ever think to myself, as I did it, “Gee, this sure is a lot better than a positive and mutually caring intimate relationship!”

Master Beta

“Why not just avoid relationships and minimize bruising the back of your throat?”

You wouldn’t bruise the back of your throat with me sweetheart ;p

Feminism Is A Lie

I’m not usually one for censorship, but sometimes I wish all of these sex-positive femisluts would shut up forever. Maybe on one hand, having their vile, hateful and unhealthy message become even more evident to everyone is a good thing, but I’m getting real sick of their shit.

Dire Badger

I think we should conscript them all into the military.
seriously, women avoid the draft because they are emergency population replacement. angry lesbian sluts are not part of population replacement. Put ’em to work. I bet they’d be real popular with the arabs.

Andy

I actually recently stopped volunteering in a community group because it was being run by a woman who assumed all men who volunteer are just trying to weasel their way towards sex with women or children. She’d use the example of priests and pedophiles.
So she’d have all the men out the back doing the hard work while the women were out front basking in the glory.
The end of my tether came when, in one of the few times we mere males were permitted to mix with the rest of society, an older member of a parent organization was having a dig at men for not volunteering more. He turned to me and asked why I’d chosen to start helping out and what had I been doing since high school.
I politely pointed out that I’d been in the organization for years and his inability to notice me was as much a testament to his blindness of young men as it was to the fact that we were always placed out of sight.
Ever notice how at fast food places it’s mostly girls at the counter and boys are in the kitchen or cleaning up all whilst being yelled at by said girls?
That was my experience with volunteer organizations and you couldn’t pay me to go back to being treated like that!
Want more men in voluntary organizations? Start by respecting those who ARE there instead of insinuating ulterior motives.
Last time I heard the club was now mostly women, but perhaps the people telling me that didn’t really notice the men who’d been sent away to do heavy lifting.

Celes

In my high school there was a class where apparently my friend was the only virgin left.. She was 15. Not only that, but at least one of the girls in that class had participated in orgies. I was 16 or 17 at the time she told me and I felt absolutely disgusted. I was no virgin, but that just felt insane.