A bondage-loving New Jersey pol unleashed a barrage of kinky e-mails to his lobbyist gal pal — and at the same time griped that she was a “vicious and cold” head case who made him “fearful” for his safety, court documents obtained by The Post reveal.

Democratic Assemblyman Joe Cryan, who is being touted as the party’s next state chairman, complained to the court that a “patently fanatical” Karen Golding began stalking him in 2001, records show.

Yet — as The Post exclusively reported yesterday — Cryan in 2004 and 2005 was begging Golding for spankings and oral sex, and graphically discussed their intimate hookups in more than 150 X-rated e-mails he sent to her.

New Jersey Attorney General Jeff Chiesa yesterday ordered a review of the tortured history of the Cryan-Golding case, a senior state official said.

Cryan had Golding arrested in February 2006, saying she’d threatened and harassed him, his family members and two female friends.

“Mr. Cryan . . . believes the defendant began to stalk him after his divorce in 2001,” an April 12, 2006, affidavit filed by prosecutor Gregg Mueller stated. Cryan claimed Golding had “a fixation” and needed “psychiatric care.”

Golding later pleaded guilty and said her behavior was sparked by the breakup of her relationship with Cryan, which he claims never existed.

In a February 2009 filing, Mueller — who reports to Chiesa — said Golding “has never been able to supply any credible evidence” of a relationship.