It's a strong title but there is an element of truth in it. Sexual anxiety for men is the death of sex and it's all created in the mind. Let me explain.

Just imagine for a moment you are getting romantic and intimate with your partner. It looks like things are leading to sex. Your heart starts to race not from being aroused but from panic. The panic leads to anxious thoughts. What if I can't get perform, ejaculate too soon, or get can't an erection or maintain it.

Your attention, connection and focus is no longer on your sexual partner - but on your own thoughts and what your penis doing. This may feel like it's helping you. But it's not.

The mind and body connection

The mind and body connection is an important part of sex. If you don't know how to use it to your benefit it will let you down again and again. Imagine there is a line that runs from your mind to your penis. The anxious thoughts sends a direct message to your penis. Your penis responds to these thoughts and panic by ejaculation too soon or losing your erection.

How to keep sex alive

To keep sex alive it's vital you know how to work with mind and body connection - without this knowledge you will simply keep repeating this pattern over and over again.

Here are six tips to keep sex alive:

Focus on what you want (fun, enjoyable sex) rather than what you don't want (early ejaculation, anxiety or erection issues.

Focus on your connection with your partner rather than your sexual performance.

Don't let sexual anxiety be the elephant in the room - talk to your partner openly and honestly (for some men this can be a real challenge as they are embarrassed and ashamed by it)

Take a few deep and gentle breathes. Relax the body and shift your awareness to your partner.

Remember most men at some point experiences sexual anxiety, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction

Look after yourself. Reduce stress levels. Drink less. Eat healthy.

Create a strong and healthy relationship between your mind and body connection.

Linda Connors

To find out more how Linda can help you to keep your sex life alive, build strong mind and body connections and find solutions to your sexual problems please call +44 (0) 753 4321 3557 or visit﻿sexual anxiety for men﻿.