Why Needing To Love Yourself Before Finding Love Is Actually Bullsh*t

I was almost 20 years old, had never been kissed or on a date, let alone in a relationship.

I began asking those around me what was wrong with me. Why didn’t guys like me?

After 10 years of dealing with my own demons and self-esteem issues, I had this major epiphany that I was funny, cute and smart, practically the whole package.

Yet, I've still never had a guy be seriously interested in me.

I knew I was young and this seemed like a first-world problem, but when you’ve spent almost a quarter of your life alone, you start to wonder.

My family and friends all said the same things you’re supposed to tell your single friends, like, “Guys are intimidated by you,” “You don’t need a man to be happy” and my personal favorite, “You need to love yourself first before anybody else can love you.”

I always hated that saying.

Firs off, nobody had known what I had gone through, including the years of hating what I saw in the mirror and crying myself to sleep every night over things I had no control.

Secondly, it was bullsh*t.

As a baby, you’re taught you are loved and you’re taught to love.

We are told all human beings should be treated with respect and are deserving of love.

This is why the golden rule is to treat others the way you want to be treated.