and now i want to get more, i have five button in one fader rack i want them to work with my sends when i use delays and other efx (i want to turn of signal send ) with a push on the button any ideas to do this setup?

and i got a head phone amp that used to sit where the faders are but the cables are cut and it wasent used in this desk shuld i take the signal out from the back on the mixer ??

here is some pictures of the studio under redpulse my site is soon up and running (and my studio i hope)

Tape machine remote switches are typically "momentary" action, sort of like a doorbell button. IOW, you have to hold them down for the contact to be completed.

To do audio switching without a bunch of extra circuitry, the switches need to be "latching" "push-on/push-off". Also, for balanced audio lines, each switch needs to have two poles, as in a DPDT switch.