This movie is actually going to be three with ‘The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby: Him’, ‘The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby: Her’, and then the final one one ‘The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby: Them’. It is pretty damn cool as each movie shares some of the same scenes/ characters and then fills in what wasn’t covered in the first two by having it all come together for ‘Them’.

Two caveats though:
1) The version I saw was the original two movie format and I have read a few reviews saying the condensed final version is not as good as the separate films
2) It is a difficult, non-linear movie. One of those really honest films about a relationships struggle after horrific events and their aftermath so it is super depressing.

James McAvoy is terrific in this movie. I liked the ‘Him’ version more than the ‘Her’ version. One final thing, Bill Harder and Viola Davis turn in excellent supporting work. Harder is the real surprise for me after seeing this movie.

This is the “Them” version. As I understand it, Harvey Weinstein pushed for the “Them” version and will be releasing that version widely in theaters, and the “Him” and “Her” versions will be released on a smaller scale. I’m actually really interested in seeing all three films, because I think it’s a really interesting way to tell a film story. So hopefully all three versions will be released near me!

Can I just say how DISAPPOINTED I am in the Supreme Court ruling today? Women are deemed second class citizens whose medical options can be determined by her employer. Lest women start getting these crazy ideas about equality, someone has to keep them in check, right?

That doesn’t even go into the fact that the SCOTUS made a decision about a medication on false premises (it doesn’t prevent implantation, it prevents ovulation).

The whole point of a corporation is to separate the company from the person. A company does not have religious beliefs. This is an outrageous decision, allowing people the protections of incorporation, but treating them like individuals when it’s convenient. Stupid, dangerous precedent.

This decision was so disappointing. Too much management of people’s personal lives by corporations…especially women’s personal lives/bodies. A health insurance policy provides insurance…covers medical expenses – the employer who contracts for a standard insurance policy for its employees isn’t normally involved in nit-picking decisions about which services/medications are offered – those are part of a standard offering. Except, it seems, when it comes to questions of managing mental health services or women’s rights to manage care of their own bodies…then everyone wants to grab control of the lives of perfect strangers.

It baffles me :

a) Why health insurance has to be linked to one’s employer. Yes, it’s easy to handle to the tax treatment through payroll deductions, and it’s great if employers want to offer it as a benefit, but I don’t understand why EMPLOYER-HEALTH INSURANCE has gotten shackled together in the US healthcare system

b) Why it’s anyone’s business besides a woman and her doctors what treatment/medications are appropriate, she has access to.

I wish I could say that I was shocked, but nothing this court does is shocking. Its the same court that rolled back the Voting Rights Act. They said that it was no longer needed. In an age where people of color are removed from voting rolls in whole swaths just for being POC, the Voting Rights Act is still needed. When people are told they aren’t eligible to vote, even when they are, the Voting Rights Act is still needed.

Looking at the pictures of the owners of each of these businesses, I’m struck by the fact that they are flanked by a lot of children. A LOT. My rights should trump religious and business rules as well as their owners beliefs. I have my own set of values that I follow, just as they do.

Apropos of nothing, does anyone else scroll through the crazy days and nights blind reveals and look at the answers first to see if you even want to be bothered finding out what the questions were? I’ll see Kim K, for example, and then I’ll think, who cares? Next.

The movie that Minnie Driver was in – Return to Zero – made a huge splash in the baby loss community. One of my favorite parts (okay, weird word to use) is the credits, when they list the names of babies who passed away. What a beautiful tribute in a world where many people are afraid to say your dead child’s name.

While I wasn’t a fan of a subplot, I thought many of the depictions of grief were true to life – the rage, the hollow-eyed stare, enduring oblivious questions from those who don’t know your baby didn’t make it. And the title – it’s exactly how I feel. I’m back at zero.

I hope if people are curious that they’ll check out the movie. I believe it will run on a Lifetime again. Kudos to Minnie Driver for participating in a movie about such a difficult topic – and thank you for posting it in the links.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I haven’t heard of the movie, but many of my friends have unfortunately dealth with such a loss. Your post makes me think I should watch the film to better understand what they have been through.

There is an excellent book about losing a baby that i read a few years ago. It actually brought me to tears. “An exact replica of a figment of my imagination” by Elizabeth McCracken. it’s a compelling read even if you’ve never lost a child.