Stay at home mom seclusion

Raegan - posted on 12/01/2013
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Hello all! I am 21 years old with an amazing 11 month old son. I have been struggling lately with even wanting to get out of bed. My husband is on 24 hour call 7 days a week working in the oilfield so I am alone more often than not. Even when my husband is home he spends that time outside working on his truck. I was going to school, however due to my husband recently getting laid off and having to change jobs I can not afford to go right now. I couldnt anyways as I do not have a babysitter and all of the daycares are full (my son has been on the waiting lists since before he was born). I live in a very remote location, my husbands family farm that has been in his family for 5 generations, it is a 40 minute drive to the nearest town so I am very alone and secluded. I love being able to be home with my son, however, the lack of social interaction with any person other than my son is making me sad ALL the time. When I try and talk to my husband about it he tells me to 'quit acting like that, its not that bad'. He doesnt understand because he has friends who come hunt and he gets to get out of the house because of work (not the exactly having a good time, but he is not constantly alone). I have no friends now that I have moved here, and its hard for me to justify a trip when I dont really need anything. I normally go to town once a week for groceries and I get a sonic drink but thats it. I feel like I am stuck in life and unable to go anywhere. I would love to go back to school so I can start working but with no one to provide childcare it is very difficult for me to imagine how I would be able to. What did all you other moms do when you were stuck in a rut?

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Raegan - posted on 12/01/2013

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No I do not have any family or friends around which is another reason I am going crazy. Ive tried looking into mommy and me programs at the ymca in town but they are slightly expensive. Ive been so isolated I havent been able to go anywhere to even attempt to make friends

You don't have any relatives or friends nearby that could watch your son so you can go to school for a couple of days? You need a break and need to get out the house! You need social interaction with an adult for your own mental health! You have to make sure you're healthy to be a good mom and this is necessary! I too feel alone at times. My husband works so much and I'm always at home with my endless job of mother and wife. I need a break myself. So I might have the grandparents watch this kids next weekend and we'll go out. See if you can find a friend to babysit for you. YOU MUST GIVE YOURSELF SOME ATTENTION!