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​We are being asked once again, right now, to take a look at things that we had set up earlier in our lives, that are still ongoing, that do not serve us.

This might be family and relationship—for many of you, this is where the hammer is going to hit the nail, soundly on the head. Take a look at your family, your relationships, and ask yourself: “Is this serving me?” Not serving the small me, of ego/personality/fear. But the big me, which is your soul essence.

Is this serving me? If you are in a relationship filled with toxicity, blame, fear—and certainly, if you are in a relationship that is abusive in any way—it’s time to Let Go, and Say No.

If your current challenges aren’t in family relationships, but are around other relationships, such as business, career, groups, associations, friendships, and other relationships such as these, the question is the same: “Is this serving me?”

Not the ego you. Not the you that has goals and ambitions and so forth.

You as Soul.

Now,... when we ask this question, “is this serving me,” the key is to be very clear about your answer. For about 80% of you right now, with the energy as it is, I’d guess the answer is going to be.... NO.

No, this relationship is not serving me.No, this association is not serving me.No, this friendship is not serving me.

And when you know this clearly... and you will know it resoundingly, in your heart and soul and gut, the idea is to Let Go and Say No... and... wait for it...:) To do this without fault or blame.

To let go of relationships that are not serving you, and to do so without creating anger, a need to find fault, a need to pin blame.

To just understand that change is the way of the Universe... and that sometimes, we grow out of things when we least expect it...or others grow out of us... or whatever it is. No anger. No fault. No blame. Simply holding boundary, and releasing in compassion.

Take a look today, at what is bothering you, what is stressing you, what is in conflict. And then, meditate on whether the above applies...

Well if the person is an in law you cannot very well let go. Especially if there are grandchildren involved.
I will extra white light myself and not accept any of there negativity.

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Kim

6/20/2016 11:06:37 am

I work in family law and suffice to say I witness people on a daily basis that do not want to let go of the toxicity of a dead relationship. Instead of cutting away the old growth and allowing the "new" to bud forth they wallow about in the muck of their own refusal to "let go" and lash out in negativity and at the cost of their pocketbook.

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Sara

6/20/2016 02:49:17 pm

Thank you, Kim. Very good points.

Sara

6/20/2016 02:50:59 pm

Thank you for writing, Linda.

Actually, you can let go energetically.

No one is here to be abused by another.

You might look at my course Heal Your Family Karma, as this speaks quite a bit about how to deal with family relationships, inlaw relationships etc that are toxic. I can't put a link here, but it's on the website.

Do you have a ritual or practice you would recommend for being able to release old relationships once you have identified that they are no longer working for you? I know you have a practice of cord cutting, but a relationship feels more complex and I would like to do something that signals to the universe or the divine that I am ready for a new reality .

They both contain information on good, easy, non-painful ways to release old relationships. Cord cutting is a good first step. I would also work with the guides, and allow them to do the energetic work. Finally, I would do a very complete ritual (whatever that means to you is correct) with the guides, in which you fully release the relationship.

Today, Summer Solstice, is a beautiful time to do this work.

And of course, once the intention is complete, then the action must be to not be involved with that person further: in thought, deed, memory, etc. To become free, and to move forward.