Alcohol + No erection

Okay, so the past few nights I've been having sex with a new girl, but things have been kind of rough. The first night I was drunk, not too drunk, but drunk enough to the point where I was unable to cum. My stamina is usually pretty long to begin with, so when I'm intoxicated it's even worse.

The second night, I found myself losing an erection during sex. She had to give me head in between sex twice and finally I was able to cum.

Tonight, the third night, I didn't plan on drinking. I wanted to stay sober for several reasons. First and foremost I wanted to be able to have good sex. I'm legitimately interested in this girl, and drunk sex isn't the best way to express it. However, tonight I had around 12-15 shots of tequila and multiple beers. Even after a blowjob I wasn't able to get fully aroused and, in turn, I wasn't able to get fully erect to be able to penetrate her.

I feel terrible. I know it's my own fault for drinking too much, but have any of you experienced this? I feel incredible self-conscious at the moment. She was also dead sober, I promise to make it up to her tomorrow yet I'm worried I'll have the same problem.

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Okay, so the past few nights I've been having sex with a new girl, but things have been kind of rough. The first night I was drunk, not too drunk, but drunk enough to the point where I was unable to cum. My stamina is usually pretty long to begin with, so when I'm intoxicated it's even worse.

The second night, I found myself losing an erection during sex. She had to give me head in between sex twice and finally I was able to cum.

Tonight, the third night, I didn't plan on drinking. I wanted to stay sober for several reasons. First and foremost I wanted to be able to have good sex. I'm legitimately interested in this girl, and drunk sex isn't the best way to express it. This is true. However, tonight I had around 12-15 shots of tequila and multiple beers. Even after a blowjob I wasn't able to get fully aroused and, in turn, I wasn't able to get fully erect to be able to penetrate her. Are you perhaps not really interested in her or does she make you nervous and thats why you are drinking way too much.

I feel terrible. I know it's my own fault for drinking too much, Yes, it is. but have any of you experienced this? I feel incredible self-conscious at the moment. She was also dead sober, I promised to make it up to her tomorrow yet I'm worried I'll have the same problem.

I hate to be a bitch but you have a drinking problem. I base this on the fact that the only man who ever chose alcohol over sex with me was a raging alcoholic. You're probably a nice guy, but you need to nip this in the bud before it destroys your life.

The relationship i've been in for the last 8 months started with many evenings where we'd drunk a bottle of vodka between us. I'm 43 and hadn't had reason to find out if I could still get it up after that much drink for 10+ years. I amazed myself but then she is a wondrefully sexy woman.... That said, I did at times lose my erection and usually had problems cumming. All much better now sex is rarely mixed with much alcohol and nice to be told "if anything you are even more rampant now than you were when we met"

too much alcohol kills my libido. when i'm really drunk (not like after a few beers, but after a lot of vodka), it would be impossible for me to have sex of any kind. i couldn't get it up, i couldn't function enough to take an active role in things, and i most certainly could not cum. give me too much liquor, it'd be best to just let me sleep.

When I was a younger man and I would drink before or during a date, the alcohol seemed to dull my senses enough that I could last a long time. It did not affect the firmness of my erection. But you will find as you get older alcohol can affect the libido and the erections will not be as firm and can sometimes kill the erection. This is from a couple of beers and not a bottle of anything alcoholic. So I don't drink at all when it is time for a date. Not being able to get a erection can be a relationship killer. Believe me she will take it personally.