Bachelorcontestant SelmaAlameri is one of the most beautiful contestants in the history of the show. She is also one of the most "private." She told Bachelor Sean Lowe that if he wants a kiss, she is going to have to be his "one and only." Using her mother as an excuse, Alameri's "traditional" values sure do seem alluring to a born-again virgin like Sean.

But I call BS. Seriously.

This is the oldest trick in the Bachelor book and one many girls have tried to pull off. The hotter you are, the more you can make yourself stand out by NOT giving up the bod quickly. To a guy like Sean, it's completely alluring. After all, he loves religion, right? See below:

Of course, Sean is too dumb to know he is falling for the oldest female trick. Act all innocent and precious in order to make him fall for you. They don't call them "the rules" for nothing.

My husband once dated a woman who would spend her Saturday nights having premarital sex, drinking underage, smoking pot, and doing God knows what else and then would wake up Sunday morning crying about missing church.

You can't have it both ways. You can't prance around in a bikini on national TV, date a man so publicly, and then proclaim your innocence and virtue. It's just so obvious.

This is a common female thing in general. This emotional dishonesty. And it's never clear whether the women are doing it for the man's benefit or doing it because they believe it.

I have to believe, though, that on some level, Selma believes it. And yet, she poses in bikinis. What a joke.

We can't have it both ways. We can't be both the virgin AND the whore and both labels kind of suck anyway. If Selma wants to kiss Sean, she should. Or not. But either way, let's not pretend to be something we aren't just to get a man.