I worried about taking English 110 class. I don’t have the talent on writing(because I never had writing work. I plagiarized from internet when I was high school student.), and I am not native speaker. I delayed to take the class as much as possible. However, Professor Alvarez’s class was easier than I guessed. I could follow the class, and understand what I learned. There’s ONLY THREE PAPERS. It’s INCREDIBLE. I recommanded the class to my friend, but it closed before she registered.

There’s two negative points on English 110 class. “Writing three times about my childhood” and “revising to be verbs” were hardest of all.

However, there’s a lot of positive points, and I enjoyed the class. I learned how to write a paper. I stop to blush at reading loud. This experience may help over my academic terms.

Social class divides into five groups by amounts of earning. Middle class, working class, and poor capture most part of society. Three classes show how different amounts of earning and parents’ childhood influence on their child rearing. Middle-class parents decide their children have a lot of activities so they can learn institutional knowledge. Middle-class children feel comfortable staying with adults. Working-class and poor parents “allow[ed] their children to grow” (31). They feel comfortable playing with peers. My working-class family showed how natural growth influenced on the relationship between my sister, my cousins, and me, and how oldest child’s child rearing influenced younger children.

SECTION 1: Myself and Natural Growth

Definition of Natural Growth and Concerned Cultivation

The environment around a person influenced forming the perspective of child rearing of the person. Therefore, All parents have different idea of child rearing, but it seems to divide into two groups. One group of children has many activities, and one group has no or few activities, and spend most leisure time with peers. “Middle-class children often are treated as a project to be developed, working-class and poor children are given boundaries for their behavior and then allowed to grow” (67). Annette Lareau researched eighty-eight families how children grew, and how the method affected on children’s lives. She found middle class and working class and poor parents used different methods on their child rearing. Middle-class children raised as concerned cultivation as hectic pace. Middle-class parents decided what their children would learn, and children take over four activities a week. They grew as their parents want to become. Working-class and poor parents allowed that children enjoyed freely their leisure time. Unlike middle-class children, they have no or few activities. They decided what they would learn, and what to do instead of activities. Concerned cultivation and natural growth generally use on child rearing.

Money and Natural Growth: How Money Influence on Child Rearing

Middle class means they earn more than their expenses. Middle-class parents invest extra money in their children’s education. Working class and poor feel poverty and always earn less than they use. Working-class and poor parents allow their children have activities if the activities don’t require a lotof money. Different amount of earning also influences on child rearing.

Working-class and poor families had many more worries about basic issues: how to endure food shortages, get children to doctors despite a lack of reliable transportation, purchase clothing, and manage other life necessities. (249)

Joining new activity sometimes needs a lot of money excluding activity fee. They pay transportation, and buy uniform based on the type of activities. Parents concern about children’s activities after paying fed, clothing, and shelter. Working-class and poor parents always worried about money, and usually feel poverty. Working-class and poor parents “despite[d] tremendous economic strain” (4). It made working-class and poor children usually have the activities that don’t require a lot of money as bible study while middle-class children have activities that required out-of-state trips as soccer team. Therefore, middle-class children have more oppotunities to learn than working-class and poor children. My family is working-class family. My father and grandmother wanted me to learn art and computer. Two activities fees had to pay monthly. I had two activities for a while, but my parents could not pay the monthly fees. My parents decided to quit art activity because it required buying art matters.

In meaning of natural growth, working-class children stayed with family and kinship while middle-class children had activities. My family started to live together with my aunt’s family after my uncle died. She had three children, and I assisted my aunt taking care of her babies. I always spent my leisure time with my sister and three cousins. We never lived apart until I came to the USA. In the accomplishment of natural growth, first child behaved as an adult.

In the accomplishment of natural growth, children experience long stretches of leisure time, child-initiated play, clear boundaries between adults and children, and daily interactions with kin. Working-class and poor children, despite tremendous economic strain, often have more “childlike” lives, with autonomy from adults and control over their extended leisure time. (3-4)

Based on Lareau’s research, working-class and poor children played with peers and family. My family is working-class family. My parents and my aunt worked long time, and they could not take care of us. My sister and I helped my aunt and played with three cousins before my aunt started to work. She worked after my cousins could walk and talk. I had to exist as an adult while my parents and my aunt worked. I prepared lunch and dinner, cleaned up dishes, clothing, and house. I felt my sister and my cousins as my daughter. “In the accomplishment of natural growth”, working-class and poor parents had to work a lot of time for minimum wages to solve “tremendous economic strain”. It made children had less activities and stayed more time at home. Absence of adults made “boundaries between adults and children” because they talked not enough to understand each other. But relationship between siblings and kinships became stronger.

third child from left is me. I looked like a ugly doll.

Section II

My mother and I: How Parents’ Childhood Affects Child Rearing.

My mother also had childhood. Her mother ran away at her age 14, then she became independent with her two younger sisters after one year. She and her sisters had a strong relationship. She paid her sisters’ tuition fees, and took care from childhood to their marriage. She felt she had to become their mother, so they could not feel empty seat of mother. I never saw her childhood. However, it influenced indirectly my childhood.

In the McAllister family, as in other poor and working-class families, a parent’s key responsibility lies in providing important physical care for children, offering clothing and shelter, teaching the difference between right and working, and providing comfort. In all of this, language plays an important, practical role. Unlike, Ms. Williams, Ms. McAllister does not continuously attempt to enrich Harold’s vocabulary, cultivate his verbal(or physical) talents, cajole him, or attempt to persuade him to act in particular ways.(139)

Working-class and poor parents always worried about money. They supplied fed, clothing, and shelter, and tried to provide comfort. All children got compulsory education. However, they thought extra learning as high vocabulary and developing their talents was children’s responsibility. Standard of moral depended on their theory For example, some parents teach hitting back when a child hit him/her. Some parents teach to refrain and don’t hit because revenge also is crime. No one tough her which was right and wrong. Likewise, parents affected on their children with or without realizing. My mother developed her theory by herself and helped to develop her sisters’ selves. She thought better characteristic more important than better education. If a person had good brains and use your idea on crime, then she/he ruined other people’s lives and the country as serial murders. Her idea made me less desire on education, and made sacrifice myself for my sister as she did for my aunts. I did all household chores instead of doing homework and studying because I thought it was more important than education. Parents’ effect was handled from generation to generation as a family motto.

my mother and second twin cousin 2010

My Sister and I: Playing With Sibling

Working-class and poor children played with their siblings more than middle-class children did. They had a stronger relationship than middle-class children had with their siblings. Staying a lot of time with siblings had positive and negative effects. “One consequence of this is that Harold, despite occasional tiffs, is much nicer to his sister (and his cousins) that the siblings we observed in middle-class homes” (159). Working-class and poor children spent most leisure time with their siblings, therefore some troubles occurred. My sister remembered we fought hardly more than we played together. Sometimes we punched each other and smashed one door of my cedar chest. We had been reconciled easily, because we shared every time until I came to the USA. We ate together, went together wherever we went. She said, “I learned good things from you[I, her older sister]. I felt comfortable to do something with you than staying alone.” Positive effect of natural growth made to have a strong relationship whit siblings and kinships.

my sister and I. i guessed i was around 3 years old. (I started to wear on glasses when i was 2 years old.)

Working-class children stayed with their siblings and kinship. Therefore, child rearing of first child influence other children’s child rearing. I, first child took care of my younger sister, and three cousins. I felt that I had to do household chores more than studying. I always watched cartoon, and used computer when I had done all the household chores. My bad habit affected on them as my mother’s childhood affected me.

Unlike for Garrett and Alexander, who have at least four activities a week, for Little Billy, baseball is his only organized activity outside of school during the entire year. Down the road, a white working-class girl, Wendy Driver, also spends the evening with her girl cousins, as they watch as video and eat popcorn, crowded together on the living room floor. (2)

Staying with siblings and kinships also had negative effect. No one pointed out their flaws including not studying. They had less desire on education than middle-class children. My cousins are 9 to 10 years younger than me. They spent more time with me than their mother. I picked them up from the kindergarten after my school ended. We ate dinner, and allowed them to watch TV while I did household chores. They never saw I studied. I researched my three cousins at age 10 to 11. They thought sleeping late and using computer long time were fine because older sisters and older cousins [I, and my sisters] also did. People learn bad things easier than good things. My sister and my cousins followed my habits.

– they are twins. black shirt is first, and blus shirt is second.

In my words, natural growth defined staying with family and cousins. Older children influenced younger children as their parents influenced them. It could have positive and negative effects. Working-class and poor children had strong relationship with siblings and kinships. They influenced bad habits more than good habits. If working-class and poor parents have more interested on their children’s education, then negative effect can disappear.

Choi, Minji, 18 years old, entered college at 2010. Her height is between 170cm~175cm. Her weight is around 60kg.

I interviewed her through Korean social networking, Cyworld on May 17. She answered on May 20.I asked four questions. First question was memories of childhood. Second question was how do you think about your childhood. Third question was good and bad things about natural growth. Fourth question was how I influenced her.

Cho, Soolim, Cho Yelim. they are twins and 11 years old. Their height is over 140cm.

Cho, Jungyun. Younger brother of twins. He is 10 years old.

I also interviewed them through Korean social networking, Cyworld on May 17. They answered after 15 hours. First question was what do they do after school and weekend. Second question was how my sister and I affected them. Third question was who affected most during their lives. Fourth question was how did they think about concerned cultivation and natural growth, and which one was better.

People decided to study abroad for getting high education and experiences. In South Korea, high school students spend 20 hours a day schooling including doing homework and studying. I came the USA because I didn’t want to study all day. I didn’t have a clear dream at the time, but I wanted to give everyone pleasure by my work. When people heard my dream, they estimated I would become a designer. I also thought to become a designer and there existed many different types of design. I could not decide my future until I entered college.
In South Korea, students participated in one department such as accounting department, beautification department, and others. I participated in the accounting department. There were four members at my department. I had good talent to finance. I collected 2 dollars from classmates every month. Other members and I discussed how to use the fee. When other departments spent money to buy school matter like color papers, they gave us receipt, and we paid as a company worked I worked as an accountant in my class for one year.
I entered as a freshmen into Flushing High School. All Korean must joined the Korean Club. I participated as a member for three years. We voted executive members for next year at the end of second semester. I was admitted into a general affair to decide what activities do we have during one year, but the accountant wanted to change position because he didn’t have talent on accounting. Therefore, I experienced accounting work again. We maintained the Korean Club by money from previous executive members. I recorded ledger balance, and handled the finance of the club. I decided how much money we used for a party as how many soda and chip we bought, and what kind of food we served.
I did volunteer at YWCA for after-school class of elementary school and summer camp of Pre-Kindergarten class. There were one teacher, and other volunteers, and around ten students. I helped with their homework during after-school class, and played with Pre-K at class, swimming pool, and park. I started to work from middle of senior year of high school and I work the bakery now. It’s my fourth workplace. During three years work, I met a lot of people between ages 10 to 70. I work with seven Spanish people, and three Korean bakers, manager, and 4 employees. From my activities I have learned that good communication skill is important as financial knowledge. A bank teller deals with many kinds of people. I learn how to deal with conflict between people, how to behave to young and old people, and how to explain about goods.
In South Korea, all 8th grade students take an aptitude test. it said that I had talent on accounting, and a bank teller, accountant, other jobs which related account were good for me. Therefore, I decided to study accounting. I wanted to learn art however, it needed a lot of money excluding tuition fee. Therefore I decided to major in accounting without confusion. I always regretted taking accounting class, and blamed my situation. I estimated to be an accountant after graduating college. My life seemed to go the way that I didn’t want. I found my dream by chance. I use HSBC. I always transact with Korean tellers. She helped me sincerely. I impressed her help and realized there existed more way to make people feel happy except making beautiful things. I decided to become a bank teller
I study accounting and planned to double major in finance. Both majors help me to understand the bank system in the future. However, I also work 8 hours a day during weekday. The work disturbs my study schedule. I can not take afternoon and evening classes. If there was no class on mornings or weekends, then I gave up taking the class. I maintain myself to pay tuition fees and other expenses. I can not choose school or work.
Everyone go to college because other people go. If I don’t go to college, then I will move back from competition. Spring semester has done almost, vacation will start. I plan to take quick book class during vacation for step forward to my career. I also do volunteer at Korean organization to experience office work. Vacation is short enough to accomplish big goal. However, it is long enough to experience new affair. I will keep working hard.

People decided to study abroad for getting high education and experiences. In South Korea, high school students spend 20 hours for schooling. I came the USA because I didn’t want to study all day. I didn’t have a clear dream at the time, but I wanted to give everyone pleasure by my work. When people heard my dream, they estimated I would become a designer. I also thought to become a designer and there existed many different types of design. I could not decide my future until I entered college.
In South Korea, students participated one department; account department, beautification department, and other. I participated the account department. There were four members at my department. I had good talent to finance. I collected 2 dollars from classmates every month. Other members and I discussed how to use the fee. When other department spent money to buy school matter as color papers, they gave us receipt, and we paid as a company worked I worked as an accountant of my class for one year.
I entered freshmen of Flushing High School. All Korean must joined Korean Club. I participated as a member for three years. We voted executive members for next year at the end of second semester. I was admitted a general affair who decide what activities do we have during one year, but accountant wanted to change position because he didn’t have talent on accounting. Therefore, I experienced accounting work again. We maintained Korean Club by money from previous executive members and I worked as babysitter one time. I recorded ledger balance, and handled the finance of the club. I decided how much money we used for a party as how many soda and chip we bought, and what kind of food we served.
I did volunteer at YWCA for after-school class of elementary school and summer camp of Pre-K class. There were one teacher, other volunteers, and around ten students. I helped their homework while after-school class, and played with Pre-K at class, swimming pool, and park. I started to work from mid of senior year of high school and I work the bakery now. It’s my fourth workplace. During 3 years work, I met a lot of people between ages late of 10 to 70. I work with 7 Spanish people, and 3 Korean baker, manager, and 4 employees. This two activities seemed not have connection with my goal. I think good communication skill is important as financial knowledge. A bank teller deals with many kinds of people. I learn how to deal with conflict between people, how to behave to young and old people, and how to explain about goods. The experience doesn’t estimate.
In South Korea, all 8th grade students take an aptitude test. it said that I had talent on account, and bank teller, accountant, other jobs which related account were good for me. Therefore, I abstract decided to study accounting. I wanted to learn art however, it needed a lot of money excluding tuition fee. Therefore I decided to major in accounting without confusion. I always regretted to take accounting class, and blamed my situation. I estimated to be an accountant after graduating college. My life seemed to go the way that I didn’t want. I found my dream by chance. I use HSBC. I always contact with Korean teller. She helped me sincerely. I impressed her help and realized there existed more way to make people feel happy except making beautiful things. I decided to become a bank teller
I study accounting, and planned to double major finance. Both majors help me to understand bank system in the future. However, I also work 8 hours a day during weekday. The work disturbed to take good class. I could not take afternoon and evening class. If there was no class on morning or weekend, then I gave taking the class up. I maintain myself to pay tuition fee and other expenses. I can not choose school or work.
Spring semester has done almost, vacation will start. I plan to take quick book class during vacation for step forward to my career. I also do volunteer at Korean organization to experience office work. Vacation is short enough to accomplish big goal. However, it is long enough to experience new affair. I will keep working hard.

Asian communities were increasing dramatically during several years. White people felt they were minority, and were discrminated by Asian. Tthere were too much Asian stores,and they didn’t write English on their signs.

Flushing citizens demonstrated against Asian communities in front of Key Food which places at Roosevelt Ave and Bwone St. They argued there were 10 Asian supermarkets in 1 mile, and only one American supermarket, Key Food. However, Key Food will change to Chinese supermarket. They wanted to protect Key Food.

Key Food must keep! it is biggest American supermarket in 1 mile. if it close, i could it pizza and hashed potato at home. New York is best city for immigrants. They accept undocumented immigrants can work and get education. Asian have to consider about Flushing citizens.

In China, A 82 years-old woman has 4m long hair. She never cut and shampooed her hair. Its weight was 3kg. She wined her hair around her waist during working. She said, she hurted when she tried to cut her hair and it moved while she slept. However, she was very healthy. She did household chores and helped farming.

Hyemin Choi
Professor Steven Alvarez
English 110
30 April 2010
My Mother and I Have Connection Through Natural Growth :
How Parents’ Childhood Affect on Their Child Rearing
My mother has two older brothers and two younger sisters. Her parents made a living by agriculture. Her school closed once a year that all students could help in the busy farming season. No organization existed around her house. She and her friend played at playground or stream closed by school. Women had more work to do than me before industrialization. They did all house works, took care of children, and farming work while men did farming work and took care of farm animal. Her mother ran away from home at her age 14. After one year, she became independent with her sisters; 5 and 7 years younger than her. Her father took care of her brothers, and leaved her sisters on her hand. She seemed like mother than older sister to her sisters. She trained her sisters until training school, and they became nurse while she worked at factory. Her childhood influenced her perspective; have great characteristic more important than great education on child rearing.
Annette Lareau divided the ways of child rearing into two terms. Middle-class children appear “concerted cultivation” that their parents making certain that children have certain experiences, in institutional settings to help them develop their skills, to benefit themselves in the future.(2) Working-class and poor children appear “natural growth” that more time to choose their own activities, grow up independently, beyond adult supervision, and produces less institutional advantages.(3) Parents’ view on education, and their finance, and their time management influence how their children grow and what they advance.
Korean government didn’t have nice welfare system at that time, and my family could not get any service from government. My father started to work at another city, and my mother also decided to work again before my age one. My mother and my aunt have a strong relationship, so she wanted they stayed with me during her working hours. My grandmother raised me until my first aunt graduated high school and I started to walk. My first aunt took care of me until my mother came back home.My mother’s aunt lived next to my house. She has six children who are 1 to 15 years older than me. I stayed with my aunts or her cousins. A stream existed in front of my house. Sometimes, I caught fish or had fun in the stream with them.
When I asked her “how did your childhood affect your child rearing?” She answered for the first time, “I didn’t raise you, you grew with your aunt, and I worked.” I could not refute her opinion because I had more memories with my aunts and her cousins than memories with my mother. Working-class and poor parents have to decided staying with their children or working for better lives. According to Lareau,
They do not pressure adults to cater to their wishes. A significant consequence of working-class and poor parents’ view of their children’s social lives as not particularly important and their children’s acceptance of that perspective is that the children are not trained to see themselves as special and worthy of being catered to in daily life. (83)
When I interviewed my mother, she was flustered about how to answer the questions. I never asked to help my assignment. First, she refused because I knew all of her background. She wanted to me to write what I knew without interview. I asked several time more, then she said, “I want you to grow as positive person and not have tender feeling.” Her “significant consequence” ordered to have better characteristic than better education. Her “perspective” of child rearing made me to have less desire to education. “A significant consequence of working-class and poor parents’ view of their children’s social lives” appears during their experiences. It shows while taking, and it has great effect on children’s “perspective” on “daily life”.
Parents’ existences have great effect on child rearing. Likewise, my mother’s childhood influenced my childhood. She never commanded to be as mother of my sister and cousins. She took care of her sister like mother did, therefore I felt I had to take care of my sister and cousins when my mother and my aunt didn’t exist at home. I tried to do house work as much as I could, and took care of them instead of studying. I didn’t do my homework, but my mother didn’t check and punish me. Sometimes, teachers punished, but it was not hard.
All class parents “pay close attention to their children’s education.” (198). All class parents have interest on their children’s education, but they showed it differently. Middle-class and working-class and poor parents have different perspective on children’s education. Middle class children raise on “concerted cultivation” while working-class and poor children grew on “natural growth.” Lareau said,
Still, social class seemed to make a difference in how parents, primarily mothers, managed children’s complaints about institutions. Middle class mothers were often very interventionist, assertively intervening in situations. Sometimes parents were successful, and sometimes they were not. But in the process, they directly taught their children how to “not take no for an answer” and to put pressure on persons in positions of power in institutions to accommodate their needs. (163)
Parents’ behaviors become primarily resource when their children become adults and parents. Their perspective of education sometime success or sometimes fail. Their children adopt it if they think it make them better education. Middle-class children show “sense of entitlement” that means parents monitor daily interactions and activities of children and producing prepared children for institutions. (6) Middle-class mother seemed like an “interventionist”. They wanted to participate on children’s education and give many opportunities to learn something that they can not learn from school. Working-class and poor children show “sense of constraint” that means children can not freely do what they want, limited liberties, bound by necessity as opposed to luxury, accepting the given limitations(7). Their parents believed education is responsibility of teacher, They have fear to give wrong knowledge to their children. Ms Driver, a working-class mother said, “the fear these parents have that they might come and take your kids away is real.” (199) Level of education of working-class and poor parents are lower than middle class parents, therefore they have less knowledge on “school-related matters.”(198) Therefore middle-class parents will “accommodate” what children need for better education, and can answer children’s questions. When I went to elementary school, I had an assignment to make a mobile. My mother and my sister helped me to cut straws, and to connect by strings. When I asked how to pronounce an English word, she shifted the answer to my aunt. She tried to help physical activities as art work, but she could not help me on school matter.
According to Lareau’s research, working-class and poor children spent more time with family and kinship, then middle class. Ironically, they talk with their parents less than middle class. My mother became independent at her age 15. She started to handle the finance after independence. I stayed next to her when she recorded household ledger. She always worried about money. People have different amounts of experiences, and opportunities during their lives. The amount of parents’ capital predicted children’s future experience. When babies learn their native language, then their parents teach simple vocabulary and how to make sentences. However, if they want to learn other language, then they need to have instructor who teach the language. Lareau citied,
In the theoretical language of Pierre Bourdieu, both Black and white middle-class parents, and mothers in particular, routinely scanned the horizon for opportunities to activate their cultural capital and social capital on behalf of their children. (180)
Middle-class parents endeavor to gather a lot of information about education to use all their social net working. They concerned to find better activities. Cultural capital means what people get when they were born as family, kinship, native language, and cultural background and it contains “dominant set of cultural repertoiries” that generally accepted guidelines on how parents should raise their kids based on expert opinions. (4) Social capital means every relationship except cultural capital. It seems like “transmission of differential advantage” which means different forms of rearing reproduce different advantages that can be useful in different situations. (5) For example, schooling is “dominant set of cultural repertoiries”, and after-school activities and studying abroad are “transmission of differential advantage” Middle-class parents have greater social capital than working-class and poor parents, and they use it wildly. They share information about which organization has good activities. Middle-class children get high value education from their parents’ social net working. My family moved to the city few years before I entered elementary school. I had one after –school activity that learned math, history, science, and Korean when I entered elementary school. My family lived the countryside before moving to the city, and we had never been the city. My mother worked at clothing factory. She had restricted social net working in her work place. When she decided my activities, she concerned about distance from home rather than what benefit they gave to my education. I had two more activities after quit first activities. Three activities placed less than 15 minutes walking from home.
Middle class, working class, poor or concerted cultivation and natural growth can become standard to divined people into groups, but people can not estimate a person’s value based on the information because people get different impression from same experience.. Children adopt good things and reject bad things from their childhood experiences. They may raise their children on better condition as I get higher education than my parents. My mother grew without existence of her mother. Sometime, she seemed to confuse mother’s role. I was mentally independence from my mother because I felt that I had to stronger than my peers. I soothed my cousins for missing their mother. I had to take care of myself, my sister, and my three cousins. The experience helped when I adapt myself to new environment. If my mother raised me strong, I would go back to Korean when I had homesick or blamed my family to make me support myself. Rarely, hard environment works better than protecting by other people.

I interview my mother, Sun, Haengok. she was 44 years olds. her height was 5’5″,and her weight around 65kg. She sold some goods on the streets. She lived with my younger sisther,her mother, ans sister’s family(she and her three kids), her boyfriend and his daugther in three-story house.

She lived at South Korean. We talked on the phone twice from 9Am to 9:10Am(10Pm to 10:10pm for Korean time). She always answered my phone during doing household chores. My sister and my cousins watched TV. Her voice was very loud, My sister yelled at my mother to talk quickly. She hung up the phone for doing chores.

Mother’s Childhood
My mother has two older brothers and two younger sisters. She were from farmer’s family, She usually helped house works and sometimes helped farm works. She became independent with her two sisters from her father after her mother disappeared at her age 15. Her youngest sister was 8 years old. She became as mother. She took care of them every parts of living until they married.

How did her childhood affect to raise me?
My sight
She grew perfectly as natural growth. She raised me as she grew. Sometimes she talked about her childhood. After living with aunt’s family, I felt to take care of my cousins as my mother took care of my aunts. I spent all my time with my sister and cousins after school.

My mother’s sight
I have tender feelings. Sometimes, it affected negatively. For example, I took care of someone without taking care myself. I had harm to give my property as time and money. I don’t want my children have tender feeling. I want them to be little selfish. She(Hyemin) grew as I wanted but she seemed to change herself after living with my sister’s family. She started taking care her sister and cousins too much. She looked like to think herself as their second mother.

activities
I had one activity that learned math, history, science, and English. My mother thought playing with peers was better than staying alone at home. I never asked extra learning. My sister had over two activities at a time unlike me. She wanted to learn everything. She learned ballet, Chinese characters, something else, My sister had all activities that she wanted.

Family Time
Childhood
Mother did house work. Sometimes I helped her or watched TV with my cousins. My sister used computer
Now
Mother did house work. My cousins did whatever they wanted (played with their siblings, watched TV, or used computer). My sister used computer
Talk
Childhood
I was talkative. I often talked, and my mother and sister listened. I usually talked about entertainer’s scandals, and what my sister and I did during weekday.
Now
I talked with my mother no more than 15 minutes a week. I asked what happened to my family. My sister entered college this year. My mother and sister talked about her college life and her future.

Grew as a Babysitter : How Different Social Classes Affect Child-Rearing According to Unequal Childhoods by Annette Lareau
In Unequal Childhoods, Annette Lareau researched eighty-eight families on how different classes affect parents’ involvement in children-rearing, and how parents and children think and act differently about children’s after-school program. She especially concerned with children ages nine to ten. She compared and examined twelve families separated into three groups; middle-class, working-class, and poor. She also suggested two terms of child-rearing. The first, “concerned cultivation” gets defined as when the parent actively fosters and assesses child’s the talents, opinions, and skills. Second, “natural growth” gets defined as when a parent cares for child and allows child to grow” (31). Different classes experiences according to Lareau affect differently child-rearing.
My family lived with my mother’s younger sister’s family during my ages eight to ten. She has three children: two girls who are twins and nine years younger than me, and one boy. I, the oldest child helped my aunt after school instead of going to activities. I changed three babies’ diapers, sung lullabies, and played with my younger sister and three cousins. When I spent time alone, I watched TV and read cartoon books. Sometimes, I helped with some house work. I didn’t have any after-school activities in those days. I believed that I grew up “natural growth”.
My father worked far away from home, therefore my father and other family members lived separately. My mother decided everything about our child-rearing. My mother came from a farmer’s family. She raised my sister and I in the same manner as she grew “natural growth”. She always said a person who doesn’t’ study and has good-hearted better than a person who studies well and behaves bad.
Family gets defined as the smallest factor of society. Young children live dependently on their parents and follow their parents’ opinion, therefore parents’ theories and their behavior impact to great extent children’s thought, language use, and religion. Based on Unequal Childhoods, parents have different ideas about the method of child-rearing. Middle-class children raised as “concerted cultivation”. They usually have four to five formal activities. Middle-class have formal and institutional activities, and an adult conducting their activities. Working-class and poor children have one to two or no activities, and spend most of their time with siblings or kin. Working-class and poor children usually spend time dong informal activities such as playing with peers and members of their families. The children of the two different classes have different experiences. Those influence to their future lives in different ways. “Parents’ social class position predicts children’s school success and thus their ultimate life chances” (27). Middle-class parents choose their children’s activities. They have out of state activities, and parents accompany them on their trips. Working-class or poor children make up their own activities and play with peers. They go to activities by themselves. They learn different skills. Middle-class children always stay with adults (parents or instructors). They only feel comfortable doing something with adult supervision. They learn to work on teams, shake hands with strangers, make eye contact, and as adults they learn “travel out of state or work on an adult-led team[s] with formal, and established rules” (67). Ironically, children who have more activities have less opportunity for “face-to-face interaction with members of their own family” (39). Other siblings also have too many activities, and parents accompany with a sibling who has activity at the time. Working-class and poor children feel comfortable with peers more than adults, the contrary to middle-class children. They learn “how to be members of peer groups and manage leisure time” (67). They have a strong relationship with family and kin, but have more independence from parents. Working-class and poor children have fewer opportunities to meet a person who will become their role model, and chances to meet adult are limited. Therefore, they receive greater influence from parents than middle-class children do because working-class and poor children meet only school teachers and their parents while middle-class children meet adults from different activities. Positive and negative effects of different economic classes exercise a far-reaching influence when the children make decisions for their futures.
My family stands on working-class. My father started to work far away from home after I was born. My mother also started to work when we moved to the city. My sister and I had one after-school program because no one stayed with us until my mother came back home from work. My sister and I took part in an after-school program and out-of-city trips from school. (In Korea, every grade has two trips in spring and fall.) After we started living my aunt’s family, we stayed at home without participation in any program until we separated. My mother came back home later in order to make more money as my sister and I grew up. My family didn’t have enough time to talk about ourselves, and I never asked for anything extra because we needed the money for more important matter.
Some people earn more wages than they spend. Some people earn less or receive help from government, such as food stamps. Middle-class white-collar workers receive greater than minimum wage. Working-class blue-collar people work full-time for minimum wages including unskilled and semiskilled laborers. The poor work part-time or don’t work at all, and make a living by depending on social programs. Different classes earn different amounts of money. Middle-class parents have more resources, and therefore can relax more. Upper-class parents spend more time with their children than working-class and the poor.
Common economic position in the society, defined in terms of social class membership is closely tied to differences in the cultural logic of child-rearing. (31)
Common economic position means what people work for living. Working-class or poor parents work lot of time, but they receive minimum wages per time, therefore they don’t have time and enough money for concerning children’s leisure time and activities. When they choose children’s after school activity, they pay attention to the fees. Also, working-class and poor parents have less interest on children’s talents, as Katie Brindle’s family who introduced from Unequal Childhoods and depend on government. Some parents’ think that it isn’t parent’s responsibility because their wages and help from the government cover only living expenses. White-collar workers earn over living expenses, therefore they can pay for private education expenses for their children on for a soccer team or piano lesson. Higher economic position earns more money in short time. People concern other elements as education after resolving the basic elements; food, clothing, and shelter. Different classes earn different amounts of money, therefore they pay attention to different elements of life.
When I entered elementary school, I had private tutoring in Korean because I had a problem with spelling. However, I had a more serious problem than spelling. I never knew it was a problem until my boyfriend told me. I usually skipped nouns when I spoke Korean. Korean grammar is more flexible than English. Skipping nouns is usually not a problem. My boyfriend said he could not understand what I talked about and whom. Also, I confused my adjectives. Over half of Koreans confuse the use of adjective. I lived with my family before I came to the USA, and I talked with them over ten years. However, they never mentioned problems with my language use.
Not all people who were born in the USA speak fluent in English. Children who grow up “concerted cultivation” have more opportunities to talk directly with adults. By comparison, children who grow up “natural growth” usually talk only with peers. They develop different language skills. Parents’ language influences how children develop grammar and verbal skills. The middle-class have more time to talk than working-class and poor. Middle-class families have time to talk about children. Working-class and poor families have limited contact between parents and children, and they don’t pay attention perfectly while they talk with family. They rarely have eye contact while they talk, and they usually do multiple things during talking such as watching TV or eating meals. Lareu works that
Words are part and parcel of the human experience. Yet there are important variations in the social patterns of speech. Some researchers, notably Shirley Brice Heath, have found that parents differ in whether they threat young children (who cannot yet talk) as potential conversation partners. (102)
Children hear their parents’ voice first after birth. Parents’ accent and language usage influence embryos. During a person’s life, he or she talks with family most of all people. Parents affect the development language usage. In middle-class families, children jump naturally into parents’ conversations in an “attempt to assert their own view” (118). They have arguments about adult statements and make negotiations between parents and themselves. Parents help to develop of children’s grammar and verbal skills. Also the middleclass, parents never talk about money in front of children. They never say “too expensive.” Middle-class families also don’t yell at children when they do sometimes wrong. Unlike, the middle-class, the working-class and poor have less opportunities in negotiate with adults, and don’t revolve around extended verbal discussions. They rarely ask questions or challenge adults. They use short and simple language. Children frequently discuss dream of having money based on TV commercials or newspaper advertisements. Parents show their anger differently. Working-class and poor parents get angry easily and yell at children. This affects children’s methods of speech. If parents often yell at children, they will become attackable or intimidated.
Middle-class parents prepare their children to become middle class. Working-class and poor parents try to raise their children to live better lives. A Korean self-improvement book, Everything of Women’s Life Can Be Changed in Their Twenties by Nam Insuk claims that parents teach their children to become like them without realizing it. (24) Middle-class children become middle-class. Working-class and poor children become working class and poor because they learn to live in this from their parents. Of course, there exists exception as Garrett’s parents. I’m from working-class family. However, I am receiving higher education than my parents’ levels of education. I will try to make myself to become middle-class citizen using benefit of both “concerned cultivation” and “natural growth”.

Work citied

Annette Lareau, unequal childhoods, University of California Press, 2003. Print
Nam Insuk, Everything of Women’s Life Can Be Changed in Their Twenties, Random House Korea, 2006, Print

the Korean book has Korean and English title on its book cover. I didnt translate it

Poeple have a naked party in New Orleans.
when females take off theri tops or whatever they do sexually behavior people throw plastic bead necklaces.
I can not understand why people enjoy the party.
Why female show their breasts to get the plastic bead necklaces? They don’t help to be better lives.
There’s no benefit except making job in China.

In China, teenagers choose working instead of studying.
They work almost 20hours for $62 per month.
owner earn $1.5million while emplyees earn $744.
Ironically, emplyees say wage should be increased, and owner says it it enough for them.

owner set rule.
when they did something wront they get punishment.
owner never try to make better environment.

It shows problem of China government.

The government is developed dramatically, and gap between rich and poor increasd teriibly.