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Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I mind it very much. I bear no resemblance whatsoever to a female. I don't look like one. I don't sound like one. I don't wear makeup like one. I don't dress like one.

Nothing misogynistic about it. I have nothing against females. I don't hate them let alone dislike them. I just don't want to be called one. As mentioned above, it does nothing more than promote a stereotype to which I do not ascribe.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I do not conceive of myself as a woman in any way. I do not like being called girl. Lots of gay guys do it and if it's friends just teasing me, it doesn't bother me as much, but when guys I don't know as well do it I'm always cringing really hard behind my fake smile. I definitely don't like it. I'm sure there's people who feel no harm in it but I can't help but think of using female terminology for ourselves as kind of step backwards.. rather than being gay men we're identifying more like straight women. Whether that is intentional or unintentional.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I don't offend easily, but I don't like it myself. I remarked in another thread that I had a high school Latin teacher, Father Gilbert, who insisted on being called Mother Gilbert and being referred to in the feminine.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I usually don't mind too much and actually I called my str8 guy friends gurl all the time lol but only because they called me fag all the time lol. I don't get offended easily and I know that they are not really meant what they say.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

LOL...I worked in a gay bar for 20 years...so no...I don't mind being called girl. I actually kinda miss it...the only person who says that to me now is a drag queen I have known for more years than most of you have been alive

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

Originally Posted by Stoowii

But isn't someone giving their opinion on the thread in turn giving an opinion as well? A bit hypocritical if you ask me.

I think when people enter a discussion just to basically say they think the people bothering to discuss it are ridiculous is being passive aggressive and rude. And you're frequently part of that crowd.

"Because *I* don't care about this issue... y'all are stupid for caring about it" is basically what's being said.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

Originally Posted by xbuzzerx

I think when people enter a discussion just to basically say they think the people bothering to discuss it are ridiculous is being passive aggressive and rude. And you're frequently part of that crowd.

"Because *I* don't care about this issue... y'all are stupid for caring about it" is basically what's being said.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

Originally Posted by CupidBoy

Hew else?

Anyway I can't be bothered with people that don't have basic comprehension skills.

My point is that someone getting upset over being called 'girl' is just silly, anyone who is secure in their masculinity won't get upset, that's just a fact my opinion. Everyone is entitled to their opinion of course, the world takes all kinds.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I don't like it at all. It just sounds stupid. I am however somewhat suprised that the paragons of political correctness on this forum basically say "if you're offended, tough!!"
If someone refers to me as "gurl" or any of that crap, I'll just say "I don't like it and I'd appreciate it if you'd stop".
If it happens a second time I'll tell you "knock it off".
If it happens a third time I won't say anything...I'll just punch you in the face!!! NOT because "gurl" is so offensive, but because I asked you to stop, and you didn't.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

MOVING IMAGE: A green-skinned, side-winged gargoyle slowly reaches onto the table, picks up the final card, shows it to the camera - the king of clubs - and places it on the pile of clubs. He then leans back with his hands behind his head and a self-satisfied smirk.
Lex

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

Originally Posted by G-Lexington

MOVING IMAGE: A green-skinned, side-winged gargoyle slowly reaches onto the table, picks up the final card, shows it to the camera - the king of clubs - and places it on the pile of clubs. He then leans back with his hands behind his head and a self-satisfied smirk.
Lex

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

There was only one friend that I had to correct and tell her "Don't call me girl! It's highly degrading and insulting to me." I only had to say it once. To some guys, they laugh at it and think it's cute when someone calls them girl. I've struggled enough with the sexuality issue that I don't like it and won't tolerate it.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

I can't help but wonder how many people who take offense at being called "girl" have "no fems" on their profiles on hook-up sites. Seriously, WTF? If I could ban just word from our vocabulary it would be that. It offends me, and I even consider myself straight-acting.

Re: Do You Mind Being Called 'Girl' ?

Originally Posted by Vitamin

I can't help but wonder how many people who take offense at being called "girl" have "no fems" on their profiles on hook-up sites. Seriously, WTF? If I could ban just word from our vocabulary it would be that. It offends me, and I even consider myself straight-acting.