Reconciliation?
I don't know that reconciliation would have occurred to me. Brutality
and wickedness wound so deeply, my gut response is that somebody just
should kill the bad guys. The problem, of course, is that justice alone
doesn't heal.

It's been more than 15 years since the Rwandan genocide.
It's not over, but there are some good things happening there. Some
assistance efforts are changing their world.
We're so fortunate to have folks who are willing to pour out their own
lives to help others.

Some things are too painful to look at directly. You almost feel you have to skirt the edges of it for awhile until you screw up the courage to face it head on. This is difficult stuff; you might not want to read the rest of this unless you've got a moment to deal with it.

Marilyn and I heard about the bloodshed in Rwanda in the early 90's when missionaries we knew started showing up from there, arriving stateside where we lived in Illinois. They were told to leave the Rwanda by the state department and others as things got worse. They told us stories about the violence, but it was a long way away, and our lives were already full enough of our own difficulties.

Later as things got worse, we heard more, almost too horrible to consider. We felt like we were being bludgeoned by the news. Finally, "...in 1994, extremist Hutu militia known as the interahamwe, along
with other soldiers (government sanctioned), slaughtered approximately 1 million Tutsis and
moderate Hutus, using machetes, hoes, and nail-studded clubs. During the
course of the 100-day genocide, the world did nothing as those caught
up in the frenzy killed their neighbors and even members of their own
families." (NYT report)

Hundreds of thousands of children were orphaned. Hundreds of thousands of women and girls were systematically raped, often after they had been forced to witness the murder of their families, "so that you will die of sadness," they were told.

"During the genocide, rape was also used as a deliberate tool of “ethnic
cleansing.” The total number of women affected remains unclear, but an
approximation based on the number of resulting pregnancies suggests a
number ranging from 250,000 to 500,000 rapes." (WV report)

Rape victims are often abandoned by their husbands and ostracized from the community. It's not over when the criminal leaves; the devastation persists.

War, bloodshed, horror. More than 2 million refugees fled to neighboring countries (mainly
Tanzania and the DRC) in fear of retaliation. Nearly all public systems
and health services in the country collapsed.

The genocide left thousands of households with no adult. The abode of children, they spend their energies taking care of each other and watching each other die. Their parent's generation was massacred. Diseases and especially HIV have made the aftermath even more difficult.

The 1994 genocide dismantled the emotional stability of the country,
instilled fear and mistrust among community members, and led to a sudden
breakdown in the traditional social organization of the people,
exposing many widows and orphans to neglect and isolation.

Compared to the lasting
attention given to the crisis in Kosovo by Western governments and
media, there was a conspicuous foreign disengagement from the genocide
in Rwanda. Four months before the massacres began, the commander of the
United Nations mission in Rwanda warned U.N. leaders of the threat
posed by Hutu extremists. That warning was rejected by the U.N.

For three months,
the interhamwe militias massacred entire villages of Tutsi and moderate
Hutu - on average 5000 people every day. By mid-July, almost one tenth
of the people in the small but densely-populated nation had been slain. (Estimates of the total lives taken range from 500,000 initially to 800,000, then to about 1,000,000 including the reprisal massacres.)

Even after the killing
began, many western governments sought to downplay the scope of the
bloodshed. Despite the mounting evidence of ethnic warfare, the Clinton
Administration went so far as to direct its spokesmen to avoid
describing the massacres as genocide.

In the wake of the
killings, over two million
had been forced to flee. Rwandan jails are now packed with 125,000
prisoners, almost all of them ethnic Hutu, charged with murder, rape and
other crimes arising from the militia's actions.

The Rwandan government, hailed for ending the genocide in '94, is now unveiled in a UN report as the instigator and executor of mass murders of Hutu refugees in the neighboring DRC.

There are hundreds of photos available of the bodies strewn in the villages, blood-soaked clothes, and more that I can't describe. I thought about adding them to this article, but I can barely stand to look at them and consider the lives of the folks who died so senselessly.

The violence that
children were exposed to or engaged in is a unique and traumatic problem
for Rwanda. A recent Unicef study found that 96% of children
interviewed in Rwanda had witnessed the massacres and 80% of the
children had lost at least one family member.

After '94, the government set up Camp Gitagata as a confinement/reeducation center for children of their holocaust. One child, "Kubusimana was a Gitagata detainee for
several years, imprisoned on of killing of a 10-year-old boy during the
massacres, when Kubusimana was only 6 or 7. Interhamwe militia members
reportedly brought the 10-year-old boy to Kubusimana's house, telling
him to kill the older boy." (NYT report)

"The level of trauma among children is unprecedented," Chauvin said.

But the numbers fail to
convey how the children are - on a daily basis -- coping with the
violence of the genocide, largely without any external support.

"They had some assistance
in some areas and certainly the government gave them assistance, but
it's never enough given the number of children and what the government
was dealing with post genocide," McBride said. "The problems from the
genocide do not end with the aid and the assistance that comes in the
immediate aftermath in one or two years."

It's not over. Today, the same sort of violence persists and has spread into neighboring Congo communities.

The following organizations are providing assistance to the children of Rwanda.