Effect vs Affect : How Do We Impact Others

We can improve our impact on others by understanding the motivations that drive people to behave in different ways.

You behave in exactly the same way with two different people. One of them sees you as honest, the other as gullible (or, maybe, determined and ruthless; rigorous and inflexible). Why does this happen? And, more importantly, what can you do about it?

“Things are not as they are but as we are,” observed Anais Nin. We each have different ways of looking at the world and these determine how we perceive events and people. If we understand the way someone else looks at things (and us), we can adapt the way we behave to have greater impact. Of course we don’t have to, but it’s nice to have the choice.

Here’s are important details to keep in consideration that will help us see how we can have the effect that we want, by understanding the motivational drivers someone is using to interpret the world around them.

Understanding :More often than we realize, we find it hard to understand in any intuitive way the feelings other people are having when we’re feeling something different.

Appreciation: Showing appreciation for someone or something is very important because you should express thankfulness for awesome people and awesome things in your life. Having much appreciation means that you do not take people, nor things for granted because doing so causes you to miss out on the greatness that is in your presence.

Acknowledge: We all crave to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Whether I say that to individuals, groups or large audiences, heads nod in the affirmative. Appreciation is a key ingredient for a thriving life and once you practice it on people you will surely affect them positively.

Recognition: Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your emotions, understand what they’re telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. Be open to not only sort out your emotions but also other’s emotions. Care.