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Just want to say, thank you for being so outspoken on the MiM blog. I’m sorry I can’t join in right now because, a) I get the sense my perspective is not appreciated on that site, and b) I’m applying to residency right now, so I’m trying to keep a lower internet profile. I am SO TIRED of the narrative that you are a selfish woman if you don’t pour 100% of your time and energy into raising your kids. I love my daughter dearly, but I also love what I do. She’s doing great with our current arrangement, and I don’t see why I should have to sacrifice any of it at this point. I’m also tired of the “I’m sooooo busy” and the “I feel soooooo guilty all the time” narratives that are so popular these days. Why can’t we say that we are busy but happy? Or that we like the work-life balance we have, which (in my case) happens to involve working 60 hours per week and spending time with my kid in the evenings and on weekends. Or that we are proud of our own career achievements as well as the achievements of our children. I sometimes feel like this perspective is effectively silenced, even on what is supposed to be a progressive, pro-working woman blog like MiM, and it’s really quite disheartening. It’s so sad to me that it’s become taboo to call oneself a feminist.

Anyway, sorry for the really long comment — I would have written an email instead, but I couldn’t find one on your blog. Have a great weekend!

p.p.s. That post sparked one of our Deliberately Controversial Posts. It’ll go up on Wednesday though with the holiday I’m not sure if anybody will be free enough to discuss. (If #2 gets her what looks to be an awesome tiny purple fist post done I’ll probably swap it out for that, but we’ll see.)

Wow, I hadn’t seen that Suzanne Bianchi died. I literally consult Changing Rhythms of American Family Life at least once per week. I never got to interview her. I’d asked, but never got through — not sure if she’d been ill for a while. I read one of her journal articles a few years ago and it was one of her statistics on the reality of how mothers and children spend their time that was the initial insight that led me to write 168 Hours. Wow. I should write about this…