Real advice from real people

“My guy doesn’t want to have sex with me”

The guy I have been seeing for the last few months is hesitant to want to have sex yet, which I am very much okay with. The last thing I would want to do is have someone take things faster than they are comfortable with. We are both in our mid 20’s, and have both had multiple sexual partners before each other.

My concerns come from his reason for not wanting to have sex yet. When we discuss it, I hear a lot of “you deserve better than to jump right into sex” and “we often don’t see each other due to my schedule and it’s not fair of me to expect you to give it up on my schedule”. We have talked about how I’m very interested in going ahead and having sex, and that those wants are based on my own pleasure not his.

I hope someone can shed some of their own insights into this situation.

If not that, then you may have different sex drives, he might be asexual, or have a medical issue. You do need to get to the bottom of it though or move on. In the long run it will cause you pain if you don’t. You won’t feel attractive and start getting depressed if you stay.