Daddy Swap

Dear Yeti,
I recently found out that I am three months pregnant. The problem is that my boyfriend and I have only been dating for two months. I wish this all wasn't happening because we really do love each other and I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him, so is there a way I can make him think the baby is his? I know he will be the best father for the child. Do you think this will work?

Expecting

Dear Expecting,
Yeah, that should work flawlessly, I’m sure, because there is nothing men like to hear more after a two month courtship than “Honey, I’m pregnant with your child.” Yes, that was all sarcasm but I’m asking you, to take a step back and observe the delusion that you have created. This may be a reasonable solution in what ever trailer-park you are writing from but let me say this as clearly as possible, “no you can’t choose yo baby daddy.” Rather you can, you just have to do it before conception. Just because you’re in a good place right now with this new guy doesn’t mean that the baby bomb is going to make things easier. It’s actually more likely to cause a great deal of change in your relationship. This will happen regardless if it’s his child or not. Once you can objectively look at this situation I think you will start to understand what you must do.

First off I assume this idea of motherhood is a new concept for you. You’re probably confused and undoubtedly scared. It should start sinking in that you are growing a new life inside of you and that this little one is your responsibility (along with the genetic father). Try seeing this whole “daddy swap” idea through the baby’s eyes. No child wants to be born into a deceptive mess like you are talking about creating. So this should be your first red light.

Just because you think you have the power to rewind the tape and change who fathered your child doesn’t make it the right thing to do. Most of all, the delusion that this will make your life easier is both selfish and incorrect. If you follow through on this it will backfire on you and will only serve to alienate both the genetic father, the make-believe father, and the child, leaving you all alone. Is this really what you want to happen? Do you really want your life to turn into an episode on the Tyra Banks show?

It should become clear to you now that telling your former lover about his baby and breaking the news to your now boyfriend is the easiest way to go. It will be hard in the beginning, but things will get easier with time and the trust you build with both men will be your reward. Evolution of the modern family is growing without boundaries. Don’t sell yourself short by doing what is easier now and worrying about it for the rest of your life. You will soon be busy with raising your child and these difficulties will seem small in comparison.

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It’s always more difficult to tell the truth – at first. But if you don’t, then you will worry for the rest of your life and deceive your child as well as both men. Choose short-term pain for long-term gain rather than the reverse. The truth really will set you free.

I am a mother, and I had a child,shes 2 years old now but nothing will come easily everything comes with obstacles such as having to bring forth a child !
i suggest 1st off you need to focus alone on that baby, tho you may feel your hormones increasing and that also requires you to have sex. you probably dont know or believe what i’m telling you but if your are having sex during pregnany and it’s not that father of the child , the child already knows by the fluids that its not her own father, not only will she know but she can see through the belly because the tissues are very thin, it’s like seeing the sun with your eyes closed, meaning you cant see the sun but you can definitely see the reddish orangish glow. Children are like angles and god has blessed you with an angel and you may not know the father but you should definitly find out who he is , worst case senario he is a jerk but you have no right to keep ur child away from him. please dont be inconsiderate and evil and build up hatred in your heart because ur baby feels everything your feeling keep a positive mind and eat healthy .trust me its better off dealing with ur pregnany alone than get ur head filled with confussion over men , if you have the child please dont get an ABORTION OR ADOPTION, you will be sinning greatly, i may sound like a relious person but im really now i’ve just come to know truth through hard abstacles i’ve faced , so pleaseeeeeee dont trick urself and ur baby’s life to come , i dont know what kind of family u come from NO DISRESPECT but the morals you pass on to ur child are going to last a lifetime
i’m sure you wouldn’t like ur mom for keeping you away from knowing ur dad
i personaly knew my dad but didnt grow up with him but i sometimes feel like i’ve missed out on things i cant even recall feeling empty, i love my mom but she did not think for her kids future ,as much as woman are bitter with men dont let another child grow up wondering her or his father. NO OTHER MAN WILL BE THE FATHER !!! if he’s good with you OKAY but no matter how nice he pretends to be he will not be a replacement for the child’s father. it may sound harsh but it’s not easy raising a child on your own so and if things dont worked out with ur boyfriend and if ur mad at him , you can not rely on him to do anything for ur child or expect him to . AS FAR AS LIENG TOHOM ABOUT THE CHILD BEING HIS , SORRY TO SAY BUT THAT IS EVIL TO THAT MAX!
AND IF HE FINDS OUT UR GOING TO BE DISGUISTED OF YOURSELF AND not even enjoy your pregnany, this is a very sensitive time of your life where you make or break it for yourself and your child , keep strangers out of your life , ELIMINATE THEM naturally you have your child you will be sooooooooo happy that alll of ur sorrows will disappear, when you kiss your baby there will not be any joy greater than that , to seee ur baby smile in their sleep you will capture that in ur heart . please dont worry ur already 2 months preg so everything will be okay for the next summer get lots of sun for vitamin d.
i know i sound old but i’m only 21 years old and had my child at age 17 i’ve learned alot since but i also regret chasing after men
women think with their heart but men think with their dick
so you may love this man ” ” it;ll only fade away within time.

EVERYTHING I’VE TOLD YOU IS WITH LOVE AND CARE OF MY HEART
I’M IN CLASS RIGHT NOW AT SCHOOL LOL LOLL OL

I think lying to someone you say you love is the perfect way to begin a relationship, especially about who’s baby it is. Since you would lie about something so important all the small stuff will be a breeze. You can lie about anything if you lie about who the father is.

ok look the daddy swap bad idea haen to me when i was young didnt like the hole thing became a real bad kid.calling the man i thought was my fther by another name and then blamed my mother and fother brakeing up on myself. Pleasedont put your child tough wat i had been though im still tryin to fnd out who my father is, Oh and if you two are in love it wouldnt matter if the baby is not his he would love it anyway. thats what my step father did love me tillthe end.

okayyy ummm i think u should stay with him and work everything out so he and u can take care of that baby so it will be easier for you and him and if dont think it aint his baby then go take a text and they will tell u if that is his baby but i hope everything works out but u should stay with him and work things out and thats good yall love each other thats good.. but yall should talk bout this and work it out…

i think running away from things isnt the answer. you are running from reality. the child ISNT his. living a lie will only make things worse. yeah, in the beginning things might work out, but one day, you argue, and then you, in rage, spill the beans. at that moment your life will fall apart.
dont live a lie, tell the truth, we are humand, we make mistakes, but IF he loves you, thant wont matter. it doesnt meen he wont feel cross, or sad, but love´s stonger than anything else.

I just stumbled across this artical by mistake but couldn’t just leave the page without commenting.
You don’t have the right to trick a guy into a responsibility like this. He may not want to be a Dad but may feel trapped to just going along with it because it’s the ‘right’ thing to do.
I say shame on you for even devising a plan this wicked. You got yourself into this pickle and you should be honest to the fella and get yourself out without forcing a possible unwanted fatherhood.

hi :)… I don’t think you should tell your boyfriend that the baby is his if it isn’t. If he really loves you then hopefully he will accept it and love it when the time comes for the baby to be born. Hopefully he will ACCEPT it BEFORE that, and hopefully when that time comes it won’t just be him accepting it, hopefully it will be him being greatful for this child and adoring it. I don’t believe that a child needs a father. my mom raised me and my six siblings, and i am fine with that. I do know my father, and i don’t see him by my own choice. People who say that no man but the biological father can play the part of a father may be right, but after all it doesn’t take much to be a BIOLOGICAL FATHER. All it takes is a bit of sperm. I think that it is being a DAD or a DADDY that really counts for something:) and i DON’T think that you have to be the biological father to play that part. That said i do think you should give your child a chance to know the biological father. One the other hand, if he is abbusive or something bad then i don’t think you should, but as they grow older i think they should have the chance if they wan’t to know them, but as they get older. PLEASE DON’T GET AN ABORTION. if you don’t feel you can handle the baby or don’t want it then please give it up for adoption. (not saying that is the case, but if it is). I hope everything works out well for you and your baby, and also your baby’s DADDY whoever that may be:) stay safe, and be strong. God Bless you

“…if he really loves you he should understand.” Oh please. Whether he loves her or not, I hope he’d understand…and then wish her a good life before moving on. Turn it around, If she really loves him why would she even consider deceiving him…or even if she didn’t “really love him” for that matter. Character still counts even for those who chose to believe otherwise. Even if it was his child, this relationship is still barely in the dating stage, and marriage is pretty tough under the best of circumstances. This has disaster written all over it.

I suppose the concept of not sleeping around is just too old fashioned. However, there a rumor out that WE NOW KNOW WHAT CAUSEES PREGNANCY, and that IT CAN BE EASILY PREVENTED! So, after the whole character thing let’s add really stupid (both father and mother) to the equation …but especially the mother. Men play at love to get sex. Women play at sex to get love. Like it or not, ladies, your gender bears the consequences AND therefore the greater responsibility for not getting pregnant. If for no other reason, self preservation. So, wise up, plan ahead or don’t whine when the enevitable happens.

Hi
i am very happy to read your suggestion to the women who was in kind of trouble , all the things which you told is cent percent correct. but i got only one thing to tell you dear. you might have suffered badly because of mens.
but believe me there are 100 thousand of mens who think with there heart. even i am a men ,i am about 26 now, but i never ever had sex with any girl, because i am a religious man, and i will do it with one else it is for my life partner only, because she is the only one who got the right to do so.
know tell me what do you have with you today.nothing, you lost your virginity and no one is there to be wit you.
i just want to tell you only one thing my dear, please don’t let any one else to play with you or wit your feelings.i strongly feel that you are very independent and got lots of wisdom, you have real time experience. you are too young you got heaps of things to do in your life. so be careful in your life.
i wish you will be successful in every part of life, and inshallaha you will be living all your life with happyiness

my opinion is that you have been together for two months? you sound young i think you should tell the boyfriend the truth if he really loves you he will except the fact you are caring another mans baby, if not then my other option would be to abort the fetus.. there are tooo many single mothers in the world right now living off welfare, do you really want that? if you dont have help with the child what are you going to do? the child will suffer for your mistakes.. i dont know if you will have help with the baby or if your alone on this? but think about it..i am 20 yrs old with two kids from the same father i live off welfare, i have no money for my children and their dad is married with another baby on the way..i have no help with my children no day care so i can work…everyone says dont abort it that is evil.. well for listening to them look where me and my children are my kids are suffering are any of those who said “dont abort it” here to feed my children? or clothe my children? no i am by myself with them suffering so dont listen to any one who says abortion is evil… fuck that. if you cant provide for the baby then that is the option.or if he wants to be the father marry him and have a good life. take care.

Who gave YOU the right to sentence someone to death, huh? Who gave you the right to say someone isn’t “emotionally stable” enough to keep the baby?

Not only do YOU not have the right or choice, but the mother has a DUTY to that baby! You can’t decide that simply because something isn’t efficient or easy enough for you, you can get rid of it! Just because you’re bigger, you’ve had time to grow, your mother decided to keep you, DOESNT MEAN you have ANY RIGHT to kill or tell someone else, who is a total stranger, to kill their child. And their first child at that.

To Expecting- You’ve already made a choice, so there isn’t any point in me trying to convince you. Either you’ve made the right choice, or one of the many wrong choices. Which ever you chose, I hope you did it with love.

Don’t lie to this guy. You’ve dated him 2 months and you love him and you just KNOW he is going to ba a wondeful father? You don’t know anything in 2 months.
And if you’re seriously considering deceaving this guy and telling him the baby is his, then he is way better off without you, so cut him lose. Don’t be a lying deceaving phoney person. Tell him the truth, and let him decide if he wants to stay with you. He might choose to stay, and the 2 of you can lie to the kid that he is the father, and 20 years later if the truth comes out, you can tell the kid that “yes, we lied to you, but you were raised in a home with 2 parents that loved you”.
The alternative is to lie to the boyfriend, and that way 20 years later when the truth comes out, they will both hate you for lying, and your kid will think “i was raised by some schmuck who is so stupid, he didn’t know that his girlfriend of 2 months is 3 months pregnant.

Dont do that if he finds out u lied u will be in deep stuff.Plus u might hurt him very bad.tell him the truth ome out with it.Its not good to keep ur secrets away from ur lover.If he is truly the right guy he will understand.Its not cheating.He will always be the father if he is the right one.

i think that you should just tell your boyfriend whats going on and i also think that most off these comments are to harsh and mean… it sad how people in this world can be so spitefull…i think the advise given is right but put in a very mean way when your just looking for help.. never lie because it will come back on you that is true.

You without a doubt are not emotional mature enough to give birth to another human. With thoughts like this one in your mind. You have two options… 1) You get an abortion or … 2) you put this baby up for adoption. Then don’t get pregnent again until you have matured first for your sake and most of all for th e childs sake. On another note 3 months is not enough time to know if you “love” someone.

I know this isn’t all too constructive, but people like you are amazing! I don’t want to lose the guy you have been dating for 2 months?!?! He isn’t the father?! You aren’t a hoe, you aren’t loose, you are just stupid. These are the biggest charges that can be levied against you. Luckily for you there are people out there with a head and keep their legs closed long enough to establish a healthy emotional state before they run into problems like this. Obviously you are not falling in that category. I do want to wish you good luck for the next 18 years, and maybe when you look back you will be happy you went through all this, but you will realize a 5 dollar box of condoms or a free trip to planned parenthood for birth control (lets not even get into YOUR CHOICE of abortion) could have saved all this time and effort, and you could have been in control of you life right now. Good luck

Well all you are looking for is approval for your deception. Be mature and own up to it, you sleep around , you got preggers so dont decieve the new guy. I,d dump you in a blink you are nothing but a deceptive slut

Im tired that everybody wants to be fornicating and having sex before marriage and want no responsability whatsoever come what may a disease or baby to all women stop sleeping around making us look like sluts.hopping from one man to another if u vould controle your hormones u wouldnt be in this situation.
Respect yourself and be respected.

A fuuny thing called birth control what about a funny thing called abstinence…. Or that doesnt cross your minds. Justwanna spreasd the legs ride the rollercoaster for 5minutes scrwaming hooooohaaaaaa. And when the ride ends what? Do you feel proud od yorself or just plain filthy.

A fuuny thing called birth control what about a funny thing called abstinence…. Or that doesnt cross your minds. Justwanna spreasd the legs ride the rollercoaster for 5minutes scrwaming hooooohaaaaaa. And when the ride ends what? Do you feel proud od yorself or just plain filthy.
Today its a baby…… And next rime you come across something else dont cry. Youre a big girl you know the consequences deal with it. With ure biyfriend or by yourself. Grow up and xlose your legs.

You people are funny. Most people dont have the option to futher theyre education beyond highschool… And you go on and piss itoff because you cantcontrol your hormones and want to have sex. Throwing away opportunities of becoming miore than just teen parents….. Ure idiots u wasted ur youth your best days to sex… And ended missing yor best teen years and not having yourdream jobs… Were these 5 mi utes in the backseat of a rat filled car wofth it…? Ex docgors, lawyefs, or businessman….. So smart.

You people are funny. Most people dont have the option to futher theyre education beyond highschool… And you go on and piss itoff because you cantcontrol your hormones and want to have sex. Throwing away opportunities of becoming miore than just teen parents….. Ure idiots u wasted ur youth your best days to sex… And ended missing yor best teen years and not having yourdream jobs… Were these 5 mi utes in the backseat of a rat filled car wofth it…? Ex docgors, lawyefs, or businessman….. So smart.
Most of you ure parents shouldnt have wasted money on youreducation since all u did in school was have sex. I bet u dont even know how much 2plus
2 is

You are not the only one that all this happened to.
I met my husband in American Singles Dec 24th hanged out and in 4 days I say he moved in with me.I felt like he was the right one.
3 months later I found out im pregnant. This was a shock to me because the only thing i was thinking was”what the heck am i doing he is going to leave me with a baby and i still havent finish my career.
well guess what I had a baby girl in January 2009 and got married Feb 9 2009.
We are happy and no one can take us apart..

No No No,you cant let him think he is the father of this baby and the baby to think this is his/her father,its not fair to either,not only that,could you live with this lie for the rest of your life,what happens when it comes out of the closet,you’ll break both their hearts and more than likely lose your partner.You have to be honest with your partner and let him make the decision of either staying with you and raising this child as his, although one day when the time is right to tell the child his not the real father but he loves him/her as his own,or go your seperate ways,or adoption/abortion…you have to think very carefully because this could ruin not only your life but others.

You have to truthful. you need medical information from the genetic father. If you know who he is, he needs to be informed. DO NOT LIE! It wont work. the lies would continue to build until you had decieved him do badly there wont be any going back. you also needs the biological fat6hers medical information in case anything god fobid should ever happen anf the cild became ill with something genetic. if you dont know who the dad is own up, start calling. get a dna test, and dont lie to man you love. Right now you havent done anything wrong. you haven made wise decisions, but you haven started the cycle yntil the lyinh begins. If he chooses to stay with you youll still have that option, when he find outhis lefe is fabricated….hes going to hate you foe what you did.

my girl friend just lied to me bout a unborn kid that i thought was mine. when i thought it was mine i was so happy, that it was like my life was not a mistake. i love her even more. i would did any thing to make her feel good, when i find out that it wnt mine it made me sick to see her fucking face, the sound of her voice still piss me off when it hear it.
and now she is with a dude who beats her and make her feel like shit. i think that what a lying slut get.
you cnt date any one base on false intell or bullshit.
the dude could be nuts and flip out

I would not be so quick to pass judgment on a young girl. Possibly her decisionmaking was not incredibly sound. But if she wants to lie to her boyfriend she should go the jennifer lopez route and just tell him she was inseminated.

Otherwise, just be honest. Things with you and such and such did’nt work out and you were not aware of the situation until recently. Truth is, even if hes cool about things when you tell him, he might not be cool about it later. Also, he might not be cool even if it is his baby, so you might want to keep that in mind as well. I think at this point you need to look at it as YOUR baby since you will be the one required to do all the work from this point forward. This is immediately affecting YOUR life and your health, not either of theirs – So just try to keep things in perspective.

your just a hoe. you shouldnt have gotten knocked upo by a different man that your dating. thats low if you ask me. fucking whore. i hope you feel bad. i hope both your boyfriend and your son hate you for the rest of your life for the stupid shit like this that you pulled.
and be careful about posting this kinda stuff on the internet cause if it gets in the wrong hands your fucked financially and emotionally

n this situation u should not lie to ur life partner and u should adofe the way of reality and dont break ur hope.
told him reality ,if he love u really then he will never lose ur company and spring life with u forever with happiness.

Tell them both. I dunno what you had w/ the one before. Its hard. But most of all give the natural father a chance (given he is not abusive or an addict.) A the very least tell him what your intentions are and allow hime to take part in his childs life I was never given that second chance. It was 20 some odd years before i saw my daughter again.

Dear woman,
It’s not anybody’s business if you are an “honorable lady” (I hope this expression has not become just another cultural “anachronism” to you), or you are sleeping around, and changing your boyfriends on the last Friday of every month… looking for a good fit… But let me tell you the obvious: the ONLY way to treat a GOOD MAN is to tell him the TRUTH….
I will agree with Yeti — trailer park misfits may never understand the concept of
dignity and respect… But I hope you are different!
However, if you lived to this day and did not get it yet, well, maybe you should consider a “brain swap”… In any case, If you don’t tell him the truth — you do not deserve a GOOD MAN. Yes, you may cheat your way into a comfortable marriage, but one day you will lose both your man and your child. And that would hurt, but on a grand scale it will be fare — since, obviously, the words “honor” and “respect” may not be part of your vocabulary…
Be truthful, and, yes, you may lose your “comfortable date”, and become a single mom. But who knows, a better man may be just around the corner for you… I am a guy — and I don’t see anything wrong about marrying a girl with a child…
Too bad you did not have a good father — the option of lying to a good man would have never crept into your mind then…

May strength, mercy and wisdom be upon you always…
And may your child grow healthy and happy.

And maybe one day we will pass each other on the street. And I will turn my head to take a better look at the woman with the child that looked familiar. For some unknown reason you will turn your head too. Our eyes will meet… you would smile awkwardly. But your smile will ignite a fire in my heart, for I will recognize the woman I have been looking for…

We all are childs of the highest GOD…
Baby is A GREATEST miracle from the HIGHEST…
Every baby has a father…
REAL father…,
you cannot swat anything, because this will be a sin…,
do not think about this EVER..,

let me start off by saying congrats….now if this guy really loves you then hell understand and stick with you through it all…but if you tell him and he runs…..well then it wasnt meant to be and you and your baby are better off without him…..but please just dont tell him that its his cause when it comes down to it and he finds out hell be hurt

If your new boyfriend is inclined to be jealous or possessive, the relationship will probably end sooner rather than later. If he does not at all care about your previous sexual relations, and he likes the idea of becoming a father so soon, it may work.

i don`t know your age, but if you are under 28 think before put a child in the world without a father..i believe none of them going to assume responsibility for this baby, he will accept given child support, or be forced too, which is nothing compared with all the love a child need from a dad. why you did this to yourself? there is so many way to prevent it, and not only this, now you are dating another guy and you are not protecting yourself again? my god, what kind women are you?

when i found out that my daughter might not be mines it pushed me off the edge and i began in a downward sprial expiermenting with drugs. I was told that when a guy is around his (kid) alot. the baby will take on facial featuers of him.Weather that is true or not my buddy has two kids. One of whom is not his and hes been there sience the beginning and both kids are a spitting image of him.

First of all Do Not lie. If you aren’t seeing a good doctor go to your health department and give that precious life within you a healthy start! Don’t smoke, do drugs, drink caffeine, or colas. Drink plenty of water and eat as many vegetables in the raw as possible, preferably organic to avoid toxins. Give the baby a good start in life. My children are the most important career position I ever held. Being a mother is a great honor but you must not start this child’s life with a lie. Everyone deserces the truth including your baby. I never saw or knew my real father. I had an awesome step father that loved me as his own. He knew I wasn’t his but I did not know he wasn’t my real father until I was nine. It nearly broke my heart and ruined our relationship. We both deserved to know the truth. I loved my mother but she should never had withheld the truth from me. Your new boyfriend deserves to know the truth and the real father does as well. The new boyfriend will have to be a very big man to hear this news, as well as the babys real father. If your new lover truly loves you perhaps he will stay, but don’t look for him to be happy saddled with your mistakes. Not many men want to start a relationship out with news of a pregnancy. Tests would prove ligitimacy so don’t even go that route! Everyone will hate you if you lie. Believe me you can make it on your own. I worked and reared four children basically by myself without welfare or food stamps when their father walked away from us. I pray your famiily will stick by you and be there for you through all this. Once you hold your baby you will know the greatest love on earth, besides knowing the Lord. Hold onto God, stand by your child over all men friends, and everything will be possible through God. God Bless you and the baby. The sooner you tell everyone involved in this triangle the better.

First let me say that I wish you the best in your motherhood… I am a man and can not even imagine what it must be like for you but having fathered 7 children I have seen that a woman is truely connected to the Universe , especially when pregnant. Man comes from woman and so a woman may encomás all that a man is yet by comparison a man will always fall way short of what a woman can be. Don’t let our patriarchal modern societies make you forget what you are. You don’t need a man so don’t be afraid of losing one. Also, lying to your partner and intending to deceive him in a way that will affect him fundamentally when he discovers the truth is not the best way of forging an intimate connection. You say you are in Love and that this man will be a great father yet you have been with him for only 8 weeks! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha….. aren’t human beings just great at not seeing the big picture. Don’t think that Im laughing at you… and Im certainly not making mun of your vulnerability or your emotions. I am a stranger to you but if I was in front of you now I would like to meet you in your eyes so that you recognise me and remember your self.. then I could smile and know that you have rediscovered your strengh and your divinity. Focus on your baby and the truth. By deceiving yourt boyfriend you will also end up lying to your child.

By the way… did you know that if a dog has a litter by a bitch that already has young puppies the male will often bite the heads of the babies that aren’t his….

I think the best and wise thing to do is to be truthful. Your child comes first than a man. If you happen to lose this man that you have been dating only for two weeks then so be it. Your child is more importanant at this point. if you tell the truth you will see that your life would be at ease in the future.

Hi Yeti i have been trying to get pregnant but my husband doesn’t want to have a kid because he cheated on me with someone else the other women ended up pregnant is it fair for me to get pregnant with out him knowing even if he doent want another kid and I do?

I noticed that this post is almost a year after the fact which means the choice that you had to face has already come to pass as your baby has been born. I am 35 years old with a 17 year old. She came to be in my life when I was in fact 17 years old and yes, I married her mother. But, I don’t in anyway advocate marriage based on simply concieving a child. Life is hard enough raising a child or children. Complicating that life with a relationship based on someone else’s moral, ethical or religious beliefs would be an unnecessary burdon to both you and your child. My wife and I were together for 8 years before we got married. We waited until we knew beyond any doubt that we were ready for that comitment. The only thing worse for a child than growing up between 2 homes is living trapped in one were its parents fight and argue constantly and clearly feel trapped instead of loved. I wsh all the best for you and your son/daughter. And I hope things worked out for you. If they did not just keep in mind there is someone for you and you will find that person. Until that day comes hold strong and love that child more than life itself and everything will work out for you.
Godbless.

really you modern generation are really so innocent. felling Blessed as a Muslim. and 25 still virgin for my future wife. tell your bf to marry you and if he can’t the science can prove he is the Father of that baby.

So how’s Your family now, hope fine and blessed ? Did you still go to college? How did your parents handle the news when they heard you were to be a father at 17 . Did they react to the situation with care and love or anger…please id love to know the full story in details…I’m an aspiring writer tho and I’m looking for a good story and your story seems like one the world is going to love