“BLADDER problems, ANAL problems, VAGINITIES, and PROSTATE, and PENIS problems all come under the same area. They stem from distorted beliefs about our bodies and the correctness of their functions……

I ask clients with sexual problems to begin to relate to their rectum, penis or vagina with a sense of love and appreciation for their function and their beauty. If you are beginning to cringe or get irate as you read this, ask yourself why. Who told you to deny any part of your body? Certainly not God. Our sexual organs were created as the most pleasurable part of our body to give pleasure. To deny this is to create pain and punishment. Sex is not only okay, it is glorious and wonderful. It is as normal for us to have sex as it is for us to breathe or eat.” Louise L. Hay YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE

WHAT IS SEXUALITY ANYWAYS?

We’ve experienced big changes in the way we relate to our sexuality. We are and haven been in the midst of breaking old rules that have been governing our sexual truth for decades. We are rejoining and healing old wounds that have told us over and over again that sex equates with sin. Sex is all about giving and receiving, it’s about emotional energy, money, living space and creativity.

“In the Bible, sexual intercourse is called having “knowledge’ of another. We all have a deep desire to be fully known, not just emotionally or mentally, but also physically. The body rejoices when it feels truly touched, recognized, and celebrated, and it grieves when we condemn it to remain forever unknown or unacknowledged.” Jalaja Bonheim

In its most ecstatic sense, sexuality is linked to our creativity, co-creativity and empowerment. It can release energy for projects at work, artistic ventures, sports, decision-making, writing and living creatively. Sexuality keeps you flexible, fluid and sensitive to your health, you needs, your relationships with other people and your marriage to your Self. Sexuality has to do with our emotions, communication, creativity, the good and the bad, as well as setting boundaries and of love/hate, as well as suffering and of birth and death.

“The second chakra is about friendliness, creativity, sexuality, and emotions and intuition. The second chakra governs people’s sense of self-worth, their confidence in their own creativity and their ability to relate to others in an open and friendly way. It’s influenced by how emotions were expressed or repressed in your family during your childhood.” Joy Gardner ~ COLORS AND CRYSTALS, A journey through the chakras

Sexual energy is where the life-force pours into existence. When the electrical charge increases, our inner light brightens….sex isn’t just a high-voltage of energy, it is an undeniably, powerful, pleasurable and a healthy way of turning on.

THE SEXUAL GENITAL AREA – SECOND CHAKRA

In the lower abdominal area, we find the sexual genital area—the ovaries in women and the testes in men. Both the ovaries and the testes are located in the sacral area or 2nd chakra—the place of emotions and sexuality—in fact your entire sexuality is located in this part of the body. Your 2nd chakra contains your attitude about sexuality, your sexual attractiveness, what makes you attractive, if you believe money makes you attractive or that success makes you attractive—and—that you have to or need to accomplish something creatively in order to feel good about yourself sexually. If you really believe this to be true, then you are losing large amounts of power and energy from your abdominal and sexual area—which includes the prostate.

“This [sacral] chakra is centered in the sexual organs and lower back region. While the power inherent in the first chakra is part of a tribal family, or group energy, the energy in the second focuses on your individual ability to manage the power of sexuality, money, influence or control over other people, competition and self-defense…….

This is the “fight or flight” chakra that is another manifestation of your survival instincts. It is also the center of your body that thrives on creativity and your need to give birth, either literally or figuratively, to creative projects. But if birth is associated with this chakra, so is literal and figurative abortion. When creative projects or activities in which you are involved cannot be completed, their premature death represents an energy abortion. Given this perspective, men as well as women should recognize that they have abortions. Many of the men I have read who were coping with prostate cancer had their creative projects “aborted” in midstream. Caroline Myss

In Part 1 of the Prostate the last paragraph read…..“It is in this part of the body [sexual area/2nd chakra] that we fear losing control and fear of losing our power. These fears could manifest as chronic pain in the lower back and in the pelvic area, arthritic conditions, prostate cancer, impotency and bladder problems. Problems with the prostate can also be associated with financial difficulties or losses and the fear of losing control of our sense of security and independence. There has been a tremendous increase in prostate cancer in the last 30 years, because we have unknowingly, unconsciously, connected the energies of sexuality and power with money.”

“I’ve been spinning my wheels for years– rushing around trying to start businesses, etc, doing everything under the sun to ‘become successful’–only I was using other people’s definition of success, and not my own. I was spending hours upon hours of my day doing things I didn’t really care about, for people I’d rather not even be with, trying to live up to their expectations of me.

Recently, I came to a realization about my own perceptions towards salary and career. Somewhere along the line, I picked up the notion that if you advance too far and get paid too much eventually, you will create problems for yourself.”

The above quote came directly from a gentleman who is, at the moment, in remission from prostate cancer. Frank (not his real name) was very open and honest about his relentless and frustrating search for success and security. “I’ve spent a good part of my life, constantly striving to achieve more and more….I’ve looked for success, influence, money and position in the hopes I’d be accepted, approved and loved by others. I can tell you right now, it didn’t work.”

“Suffering is a natural by-product of a distorted sense of self. When we identify with portions of our being and with circumstances, people, things and ideas outside us, we are ripe for suffering. And to the extent our self-image is intimately identified with an object or event (be it an idea, person, or thing), we are more likely to suffer.” THE TWELVE STAGES of HEALING, Donald M. Epstein, D.C.

Frank, now 59 years old, was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the age of 52. In 2001 he separated from his wife, who apparently complained ‘he was so busy with his work, he never had time to spend with her. Confused and deeply hurt, Frank really thought he was doing it all for her, he tried to make amends but the more he approached her, the further she withdrew from him. Frank left his home guilt-ridden.

“Guilt is the demon of the second chakra because it curtails the free flow of movement, largely by taking the pleasure out of it. If I feel guilty about what I am doing, I do not fully enjoy it. I cannot fully sense the experience as one part of me is frozen off, restricting or trying to control what I am doing…….We might say that guilt is the prison guard that keeps the shadow caged, keeping it from coming into the light of consciousness. As a result, the caged shadow becomes even more insistent and the prison guard must tighten his control.” EASTERN BODY WESTERN MIND, by Anodea Judith

Guilt has a way of contradicting everything you feel and think. Whenever you suddenly get an exciting thought or idea to do something for you, guilt will rush up and tell you why you can’t do it. And then, after it’s stopped you from doing what you wanted to do, guilt will rush in again and say ‘why didn’t you do it?!? Guilt always tells you that you should be doing better than you are. It convinces you that you don’t have what it takes to pursue your dreams and that your dreams are inappropriate anyway. Guilt as mentioned above, is the demon of the 2nd chakra. It can drain so much energy from your prostate and lower back, that to keep these areas nourished, the body has to look for and steal energy from other cells and tissue.

“According to Louise Hay in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, prostate problems are likely connected to mental fears that weaken one’s sense of their own masculinity. An enlarged prostate can also be related to “giving up” or sexual pressure and guilt. Prostate cancer, as with all cancers, relates to longstanding resentment, or a dark secret or grief literally eating away at oneself.” http://www.proliberty.com/observer/20050104.htm

Frank did everything he could to keep himself from being emotionally hurt again. He kept himself distracted and busy to avoid getting involved in another relationship. What he didn’t realize was that a relationship would be the greatest source of emotional healing for him. The 2nd chakra is one of our most vulnerable areas and the home of some of our deepest fears (loneliness, betrayal, abuse, abandonement….). The guilt and pain that he was avoiding was exactly what Frank needed to focus on to heal and let go and find in time a loving relationship. And he did. Frank met a lovely woman over the internet and they have both lived together for over 5 years and shared their most intimate pasts (good and bad) with each other.

If you are unhappy with yourself and with what you are doing in life, you will reflect that dissatisfaction to those you care for and love the most. Then you’ll start thinking and believing that the relationship itself is the reason you’re so unhappy. So much true love is lost because people believe they are no longer free when they are in a relationship. In fact, the first thing we seem to do when love enters our lives is to place rules upon it and chains around it. But when two people love and trust each other and remain free and independent individuals, they reflect their personal satisfaction back to each other – and the love thrives. This is also true of relationships with our children, relatives, and friends, and especially with our significant other.

“There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and the most successful ones are between people who regard themselves as individual, independent entities, rather than someone else’s appendage.” Sally Brompton

ADDICTIONS AFFECT THE PROSTATE

Addictions come in many forms, they aren’t just physical….addictions represent desires, attachments, demands, expectations, emotional programming and anything that causes you to live in the past, rather than the here and now. Addictions disempower you by making you worried, anxious, resentful, uptight, afraid, angry, bored, and any other obsessive thought pattern that prevent you from taking responsibility for your life.

“Through this energy center (2nd chakra) you are attached to your addictions, regardless of whether they are drugs, work, or other habits. Having to be first in line or needing to have the last word in a discussion or debate with someone is a form of addiction as surely as alcoholism or overeating. Addiction is the act of giving away your power to a substance that in turn controls you, a type of second-chakra tug-of-war.” Sacred Contracts, Caroline Myss

Some addicts are so restless they’re unable to relax and enjoy life. They’ve developed an addiction to needing activity, of needing problems to solve and things to do all day long. They’ve become so preoccupied with the search for success and security that, without realizing it, they’ve sacrificed their health and their peace of mind.

“An addiction is the attempt to find fulfillment in something outside of ourselves, as the ability to fill that need from within is lacking. Addiction may be to food, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, sex and so on. Whatever it might be, it is a means of filling the emptiness, the hopelessness, the meaninglessness of life that is like a deep hole inside, demanding satisfaction. This is an issue of our relationship to ourselves; of resentment and anger at the world for not filling our desires’ of not being able to really love ourselves and to face our inadequacies and aloneness fearlessly.” THE BODYMIND WORKBOOK Deb Shapiro

How do we heal our addictions? By being aware of them, by being aware of where our thoughts keep going. When we discover our thoughts wondering back to the past or forward to the future, we have the choice of bringing our awareness back to the present, to the now, to this very moment. Living in the moment dissolves your restlessness, your intense likes and dislikes, and your attachments and fears. Living in the moment is having the courage to live consciously and with awareness.

“Acceptance means living in reality rather than in ideals, fantasies and projections, and have our wishes and our dreams cloud over our view. If we accept that we are unhappy, we enter the path that leads us through that happiness and out of it. If we do not accept and acknowledge what we have to feel grateful for, we cut ourselves off from our joy, from God, or Soul, or the Self, or that aspect of Energy that is the Highest—whichever name we give to it.” SOUL THERAPY by Joy Manne

INSECURITIES, LOSS OF WORK /OR FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES CAN DIRECTLY AFFECT THE PROSTATE

“Think of the most threatening situation you have felt in the last day or two. Are you about to lose your job? Is the person for whom you feel the most love paying more attention to someone else other than you? Do you have unpaid bills that you cannot take care of? Do you have a pain that could be cancer? Now these problems either have solutions—or they don’t. Either you can do something here and now about them—or you can’t. If you can do something here and now about them, then do it—even if it’s just a first step. It saps your energy to be worried or anxious about a problem. Do what you can do—but don’t be addicted to the results or you will create more worry for yourself. If you can’t do anything about a problem here and now, then why make yourself uncomfortable and drain your energy by worrying it? It is part of the here and nowness of your life. That’s what is—here and now. Worry, anxiety or other unpleasant emotions are absolutely unnecessary—and simply lowers your insight and the effectiveness of your actions. Ken Keyes, Jr. Handbook to Higher Consciousness.

“Most men have put their entire life into their work. To cross the line into retirement, become idle, leave one’s job or give up a passion is extremely difficult. Etienne is employed by the local town hall. He says to himself: “It’s not a very prestigious job.” But he is also the conductor of the town band and puts his entire soul into this hobby. He can’t count the hours he’s spent at parades, concerts, and rehearsals. He gives all his free time to the band, which has caused some family problems along the way, but the people in his town like him. Etienne has status.

One day, the mayor and his new team decide to put someone else in charge of the band. They tell Etienne without beating out the bush, adding, “You’ll always be welcome in the band.” A few weeks later, Etienne comes to see me because of the lumbago, lower abdominal pain and pain in his left leg. “I need to go to the toilet all the time—I have to get up several times a night.” A scan reveals benign hypertrophy of the prostate, a logical consequence of the loss he experienced.” UNDERSTANDING THE MESSAGES OF YOUR BODY Jean-Pierre Barral D.O.

Many of us look outside ourselves for appreciation, encouragement and self-esteem—we look to others to mirror our value back to us, to keep us energized and in top form. One of the ways we give ourselves and our energy away is in trying to be everything to everybody…one of the most crippling things we can do to ourselves is to let an outside source make us feel useful and loved.

Many of us have worked for years at the same job and plan to continue until retirement. We’ve put the belief that once we retire, the company will continue paying us a pension—a form of payment for all our years of service. Then without notice, the company you’ve worked for suddenly closes its doors and you’ve lost not only your job but your well-deserved pension. The trauma of believing this company would take care of you is felt as a form of violation and betrayal. You’re in your 50’s now and unable to find another job.

“So this person had invested his energy was let go at the age of 50 some, couldn’t find another job, the trauma that millions of people are finding themselves in and the consequences that they are feeling violated and betrayed and the trauma is hitting them in the prostate system. There is a tremendous increase in prostate cancer. Because this is where violations of that level hit. Why? Because we have connected the energetics of sexuality, power and money” Caroline Myss