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Lou has written …

Several Manuals: Outplacement for Executives, Training for HR Managers and How to Succeed as an HR Consultant. In addition she has authored and facilitated several training programs: WE Company, Wellness = Wholeness, Change, Teambuilding, Customer Service, Conflict Resolution and the Art of Using the Whole Brain. She is certified in the Ned Herrmann Brain Dominance assessment tool. Her interpersonal skills are intuitive, empathic, encouraging and challenging.

First of all, one must know themselves inside and out. Some of the following questions will help you know yourself better and perhaps give you some new ideas of who you really are.

What do you believe?

How should subordinates be treated?

Are they equals?

Is there a democracy?

Can your subordinates make mistakes without humiliation?

Are you leading by being a Servant leader?

What do you want your leadership look like?

Is your door open

Where is your office?

Do your employees feel valued? Or are they fearful?

How will your style enhance or clash with the culture of your company

So you have an open door and communication is valued.

The culture dictates closed doors.

What will you do?

How will you deal with your supervisor?

How much pressure are you willing to be put under?

The company culture matches your style.

Your supervisor doesn’t.

What choices are you forced to make?

What are you willing to sacrifice of yourself?

Principals?

Virtues?

Jobs are valuable and not as easy to come by these days, so one is perplexed what to do. Ideally the best possible solution is to find a position with a company that best aligns with you. But when that doesn’t happen and you accept a position with an opposing culture. One may need help to co-exist without giving up too much of oneself. You may need a coach to help sort policies and procedures to help you thrive in an uncharted and an unlikely company that you have landed in. (Complimentary consultation,)

Tolerations are things that bug us, sap our energy and could be eliminated!

Tasks that we haven’t completed, relationships that cause friction, expectations of others that we don’t have to meet but can’t drop, behavior of others that irritate or impede our progress or comfort.

As much as 80% of our lives involve carrying tolerations around.

Tolerations are holes in our success cup, draining our energy.

In draining you—they make you feel less attractive to yourself.

They even create deeper problems, involving our self-esteem.

Tolerations often represent compromises you have made to keep peace or

to avoid confrontations.

When you tolerate these conditions, you and your work become mediocre and creativity is dumped.

When you stop, you’ll be happier, more fun, won’t be busy tending to “ego-bruises.”

How to know about your progress:

You don’t let yourself near situations that will cause problems for you. You catch yourself before you get there.

Take pride in standing up for yourself.

You go farther than usual to correct or improve things.

You develop confidence to speak up and change things.

Draining people walk away from you—they know you don’t tolerate them.

Realize what tolerations do and why you have so many.

Tolerations are brakes on your personal development.

We hook up with tolerations in order to feel more secure, especially in key relationships.

Tolerations require energy and hold down our potentials.

Resolve to grant yourself more freedom.

Make list of 25 things you are tolerating in your life

Write them down. Let your eyes see them.

How did they come about?

Include all categories.

Identify the benefits of having and maintaining your toleration.

Most people don’t like them but they are working for you in some way-helping you avoid issues or to procrastinate.

It’s important to recognize and admit, just how your tolerations are paying off for you.

Study the list and identify the hard and soft costs of those tolerations.

Decide whether it’s worth it for you to evolve into a tolerations-free zone.

Basically, it’s an internal change or shift. Tolerations become no longer acceptable to you, so you identify and eliminate them

Helps you learn eliminate them before they can become long-standing habits.

Pick the costliest toleration on your list and eliminate it completely.

Create a situation in which it will never come up again.

Tell close people about this new approach.

Let them know you aspire to be toleration free. Tell them what has become “not-O.K.” with you.

Find a friend, coach or therapist to support you.

Work on reducing your list on a consistent basis and feel the gain in personal energy as you cross them off the list.

10. Make some important infrastructure and goal changes to support your progress.

TOLERATION LIST

Is your career, or your company in the funk. Maybe I can help you! Coaching is about forward movement. A coach helps clients discover their purpose and goals and then establish steps to achieve them. The coaching relationship is confidential, safe and empowering.

Lou Cator has been coaching corporate and individual clients for many years. She has participated as an expert executive coach on television and radio programs, as well as written pieces for popular magazines and the business and trade press.

The training and background in this field have led her to believe that effective coaching needs to take into account the whole corporation or person and their context, not just focus on isolated occurrences. Successful coaching means helping corporations or personal understand conditions better and identify real (or perceived) barriers to progress.