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Any one out there have an adult child move back home with 2 children?

I need some help! My adult daughter has moved back home with her 2 small children - going through a divorce
and she is very depressed. We agreed to let them move back home, but we are all in a fairly small house and we
are all feeling the pressure. Any suggestions? Moving at this time is out of the question and an addition to the
house is also not possible. Anyone have any suggestions or ideas to make this all work?

Mine did with her two kids AND her husband. It was not fun to try and fit everyone in. We do have a largish house but I have alot of kids so not really. Just try and make as much room as you can, and be there for her. I had the two kids in her room and we got a large bed for them so they could sleep together.

we moved back in with my parents to help save money! they have a finished basement with a bed room and full bath so we live down there! we are able to have our own space away from everyone! if there is some way to help her have her own space?? sorry its hard mixing families! we are moving soon so it will b nice to get away from my parents for a while! i love them but sometimes they drive me crazy!

Set up some boundries. What you expect, how you'll help, what help you expect from them. Get your daughter out and doing something. She has too much time to be thinking about it. Also maybe seeing some legal help as to what to do next. Has she filed first for custody of children? She better. Have grace with each other. If you feel angry or overwhelmed, step outside for a breather. Set times for eachother. Times you need to have the house alone with your husband. Its important you still have some normality to your life. If there are things you don't want her to do. Sit down and figure it out together while you are calm. Remember, even though she is your daughter, she is still a woman too with children of her own. Wait & let her come to you for support. Listen & love on her. She's hurting. May need to meed with a group of others going through divorce too...hope this helps

Also, have a room or time that is your own. And allow her to have somewhere she can go for a hour. The same for the kids. Letting all of you agree where the best place to play, what times the TV is available, what chores everyone will do together. Like making Saturday a cleaning day. After they get done cleaning, making waffles or chocolate chip pancakes. (Something fun for the reward) You can make a chart so everyone knows what is expected. Switch it around each week so there is variety. Have a fun night, a quiet night, a its your choice night, etc... making it fun instead of stressful for everyone! Hope these ideas help...

I would give her some house rules pick up after your self an kids bed time at curfew at blah blah blah but help her get on her feet with a job and things she cant be mooping around the house she has to get her mind to positive things like being independent mother and being happy :)