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Mother’s Day for Women Who Are Not Mothers

I am in my late 30s and I am not a mother. Many beautiful, amazing, successful women I know are also not mothers for various reasons. Some of us hope to be moms one day, some of us are very happy without children, and some of us are not sure about motherhood. Some are actively trying to become a mom but they have fertility issues and the gods have not decided that it’s time.

For those of us who are not mothers, Mother’s Day can just be another day or it may be really difficult and painful or it might just be annoying: Why don’t we have a day to celebrate our contributions to the world and receive a brunch discount?

If you’re having a tough go of it, consider the possibility of turning this day upside down. It may be easier said than done, especially if life without a child is not a choice and you feel a void. Women are more than our children though. We have value beyond the human babies we may or may not produce. We birth an infinite number of beautiful, magical, important things in this world. Consider treating this day as an opportunity to honor other parts of your creative self and nourish your yin (feminine energy). Here are three ideas:

Express your creativity—cook, paint, sculpt, write, dance, play music, or just consciously and with awareness BE yourself in the world— however loudly or quietly you are comfortable with. Generate with intention today.

Be sexy. Whether you have a partner or not, buy yourself some lingerie or a special toy, run errands commando-style, dance naked in your living room, share a fantasy with a lover—whatever activates your pleasure center.

Sleep late and have a lazy morning. This is something people with children in the house are generally not able to do. Take advantage of your ability to wake up whenever the f*k you want. Find ways to relax and even revel in your bed. Make it luxurious.