The change in routine. It's hard for me to go from total independence and self-sufficiency to having someone else in the house with their own agenda again. I also went crazy before he got home with trying to do a huge landscaping project alone. Luckily the quarry messed up my stone order and I had to cool my jets. Having him home to help finish it was a good opportunity for us to work as a team again, and he felt good about getting to participate since he enjoys doing that kind of work. In short, most of the friction comes from trying too hard and from losing a degree of independence. It also helped to let him take the lead on whether he needed downtime or wanted to do something fun for him to decompress.

The change in routine. It's hard for me to go from total independence and self-sufficiency to having someone else in the house with their own agenda again. I also went crazy before he got home with trying to do a huge landscaping project alone. Luckily the quarry messed up my stone order and I had to cool my jets. Having him home to help finish it was a good opportunity for us to work as a team again, and he felt good about getting to participate since he enjoys doing that kind of work. In short, most of the friction comes from trying too hard and from losing a degree of independence. It also helped to let him take the lead on whether he needed downtime or wanted to do something fun for him to decompress.

Hardest part after a deployment is getting back into the norm I mean you guys can think you were on the same page but then you learn so much you didn't know and then dealing with your spouse used to deployment life and can't quiet adjust back fast especially if they were in the go so much. I say talk frequently when they are home like at least once a week where you two actually sit and talk about stuff also ask how work is because that's all they really know since that's all they do find activities you know they loved before joining or even during and just go do it also give them as much attention as they need because most of the time they are used to none and love it :)

Hardest part after a deployment is getting back into the norm I mean you guys can think you were on the same page but then you learn so much you didn't know and then dealing with your spouse used to deployment life and can't quiet adjust back fast especially if they were in the go so much. I say talk frequently when they are home like at least once a week where you two actually sit and talk about stuff also ask how work is because that's all they really know since that's all they do find activities you know they loved before joining or even during and just go do it also give them as much attention as they need because most of the time they are used to none and love it :)

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