Social Question

Drunken confession, do you keep it, or expose it?

Let’s say for instance you know of a couple that has a strained marriage at best, during a function (party, mixer, BBQ, etc.) after the female half of the couple has had a few too many she drops a bomb on you that you did not care to know; she was having affairs. Not only that as much as you try to cleave yourself from the conversation by moseying off, even tacitly telling her it is none of your business, she insist on telling you how great the sex was and how the ”lovers” were so much better than her husband. If you know him but he is not a real close friend would you tell him, or stuff it in your mental round file? Would you share it with your partner after you left the event or got back home? If she did not remember she blabbed it to you, would you let her know all she said to you?

Frankly it sounds to me like she was trying to pick up on you.
I’d say nothing about it to the husband. I wouldn’t go out of my way to talk to her about it either, unless you see her again casually – and not drunk – and she seems to need to talk to someone about it.

Don’t get involved. Chances are, he knows already if she is blabbing to acquaintances while drunk at social functions, and he isn’t doing anything about it for his own reasons, perhaps. You won’t be the first or the last she tells. She wants him to know. She wants to end the marriage, but is too much of a bitch-ass coward to do it. They have their own reasons.

Same situation, slight difference. I was at a party with a lot of work people. One of them got roaring drunk – I had to drive him home. On the way home he was spewing all sorts of nasty stuff about lots of people at the company (including the CEO – he reports directly to the CEO) and said that if he didn’t get his way, he would just up and quit.

He was an ugly drunk, just slurring and repeating and the whole works.

I didn’t say anything to anyone, and he (the drunk) didn’t bring it up the next day. My guess is that he didn’t even realize what he was saying.

I agree with @cazzie – if she’s blabbing about it he’ll find out soon enough. None of my business. I wouldn’t tell anyone, not the husband, not even my own SO. It goes in the mental round file and I’ll probably forget about it myself after a couple of days.

It really wouldn’t worry me either way. I’d let them confess and move on. It would get more difficult if it were a close friend. I mean, a couple I knew. Then again, adults are in control of their own lives. Or are supposed to be.