An Energy Perspective on Children with Autism [Class Recording]

Some of the topics we covered in this conversation…

Why English isn’t their first language, and what IS their first language.

What is the difference between an Empath and a child with Autism?

Do these kids pick their parents?

How to shift the focus from “problem” to “possibility”.

What are they really doing when they are stimming (flapping or repetitive behavior).

Why do they push our buttons so much?

Suggestions on potty training and body awareness.

What we can do with OUR energy to help them in stressful situations.

How to talk to kids when they are not being safe.

What to do when you’re stressed or frustrated.

What’s might be going on when you don’t feel connected to your newborn baby. [1:22]

Why so many kids are choosing to come in right now.

Here is the in-depth conversation…

Ashley: 00:00:01
Welcome, welcome everyone. This is a specialty evening and this is um, a video call and some of you listen to the audio only, but this is an energy perspective on children with Autism. So I’m super, super excited. I mean I’m excited about a lot of things in life but this is something that’s really near to my heart and it’s been a deep calling for very, very long time and what I really bring to you within this call is questions to provoke your awareness and I’m going to share a bunch of stories with you to illustrate what’s possible with these children and adults. Some of the emails that I received prior to actually showing up here with you, this evening, where people who are really curious about adults with Aspergers, which is not a term that’s used anymore but we still know what it means.

Ashley: 00:00:59
You know, it was a thing. So when we refer to Aspergers, it’s kind of like know an adults on the autism spectrum who is her son who has social challenges, you know, interacting socially. But probably did well in school and excel tremendously in one area or more. They’re usually very smart people, but the social interactions really challenging. So we’ll see what questions actually pop up. There some questions that were sent in from emails, I’m going to address those as well. And this is truly a live interaction with me. I would love for those of you who are here to feel free to ask your questions. Um, you know, as we sort of warm up, maybe you will all feel a little bit more comfortable jumping in and asking questions and you know, I also could talk the whole time, so don’t let me do that.

Ashley: 00:01:56
You’re interested in that. Really making himself happy to address what you’re curious about. And truly, you know, I’m not really sure what you guys are curious about. I have had a very huge level of curiosity for a very long time, you know, at least maybe more than 20 years or something like that. I’ve been so fascinated and I had seen the evolution of these children with the label of being on the autism spectrum. I’ve seen them evolve from children who typically were self-abusive and flapping constantly, sort of a little bit more obvious, you know, what was, what was going on inside of their nervous system to now you know, a lot of children you would know that they’re on the spectrum and it’s because these beautiful beings are placing themselves in our world all over, and they’re all around us and the growing in speed.

Ashley: 00:02:53
And so, and when I say in speed, I mean they’re dynamically entering our world right now and the ratio of people who are not, you know, we’ll, we’ll call it, um, neurotypical verses on the autism spectrum is the save it in the next 10 years. It could be one to one. I don’t know if that’s actually true or not. It feels like when I say that, and I think it’s a beautiful thing. Oftentimes being on the autism spectrum does come with a lot of challenges. And so let’s talk about that because I’m not gonna lie. I’m not going to say it’s always an easy road. It’s, it’s tough for the parents often, even with a lot of tools that can be really emotional, really challenging and you know, it’s right, but it’s so, so beautiful. These beings, um, you know, we’re all beings, right? So I’m not saying they’re like these, you know, magical creatures and we’re not, they have capacities that we don’t know and one of the things I have found is that I have been called out from parents, you know, people who’ve known me, people who’ve worked with me and then people who just hear about it from word of mouth and I go to their homes and I support them or parents.

Ashley: 00:04:13
It’s just, it’s like this energy of these children are like, hey parent, reach out to Ashley, talk to her. And so then I like, all right, I’ll come to your home or I’ll speak with you or we’ll have a call. And it’s just basically I am doing the possibilities of these children and I’m hearing how gifted these parents are, you know, to be chosen. And I believe that all children choose their parents. A lot of parents, a lot of social workers, a lot of occupational therapists will say to me, you know, I’m not really sure if I’m equipped to handle this child and I always know in my heart that that child chose that person just like I know anytime I get called to your home or to work in the family or my child, make friends with a child who knew his is an extreme on the spectrum or something like, I know that those children are super deliberate.

Ashley: 00:05:08
I mean don’t let them fool you that they’re not super capable and that they’re not deliberate and know exactly what they’re doing and they’re also masterful leaders. And I see that in a hurtful way because they manipulation. It’s such a trigger word for so many people. Right. But to me it’s, it’s literally, let’s just, instead of using the word manipulation that they can energy, it can move energy if you change things. And so, you know, whether they do it with laying on the floor and screaming tantrum meltdown where you know, a week of being completely unregulated or whether they do it with, you know, that, that amazing, brilliant honesty where they have no filter and they say something to someone and you didn’t really want to be there, but now you go energy shifts to get the situation to change. And so my approach to speaking with you, because this is where I want to speak with you this evening, is to really look at what’s possible and I want to look at to get at least children and I want to turn the conversation with how do we fix the problem?

Ashley: 00:06:24
What’s the solution to the problem? To want to look at, look at these amazing capacities like saying that these behaviors and the challenges that we’re facing, how can we address it from a space of looking at how amazing it is and nurture it in a way that they can use those things that are perceived challenges to their benefit. Um, I have heard this thing and I’m not really sure how to word it differently, so it’s not so harsh, but it just makes so much sense to me. It’s like, you know, so many times people will look at how these children just not getting it, you know, they’re not responding to the things for the therapy is the communication. It just not responding. They’re not getting it and we’re trying so hard and we’re working so hard, but they have their own language. They have their own way of being and they’re trying so hard to fit into our world.

Ashley: 00:07:22
And so someone said, you know, if you saw, I obviously speak English, like minimal grief, very little English, right? No Chinese. If you walk up to a man who only speaks Chinese and you keep speaking to him in English and you’re expecting to get it and you’re just raise your voice and you’re like, come on, like I am telling you so clearly how many different ways to you. Who is the stupid one, right? You’re not meeting them where they are. You’re expecting them to learn this entire other language. That’s not their primary language by the way, children on the autism spectrum, their primary language is energy primary for sure. And that’s, you know, this conversation is to help all of you open up to being able to have greater awareness about their primary way of communication and bring them into your world. So I might think how awkward you are and only speak to them the way they functioned because yes, their inner world and yes, they may, you know, be able to do some things in society and you know, function in your family or you know, if you’re a therapist or who are, you know, there, there are a lot of things to get them to understand how the norm is.

Ashley: 00:08:48
But if we really want to get through to them, it’s about learning to speak the language of energy and understanding truly magical space that they live in and that, that capacity that they have that is not always acknowledged. So with that, I would really love for any of you to hype up and um, I would love to hear, you know, specifically what’s bringing you here. You know, our view are you, I’m a therapist on you chancellor, you know, are you an occupational therapist? I guess I said, you know, what, what’s bringing here your grandparents or you literally just curious and I would love to hear and I’m going to read the chart at the same time so you please go ahead and write to me if you can’t verbally speak. So go ahead. I’m listening. Who’s the brave one?

Yaiyr: 00:09:50
Can we just say, well, I have a son, he’s three years and eight months old and he has been exhibiting the symptoms of autism. Um, we. So I have not taken him for an official evaluation because in maybe we can talk about this to get more open minded than I feel the mainstream approach is and so I am a little bit concerned as to what they will want to do versus what I prefer to do. And so I am a mother and I and I have been looking into the terms from a health perspective more so than a mental perspective. So, um, you know, diet is the first thing. Monday we changed his diet, we remove like fried foods because we did use the word came down from like 85 to 50 just by switching the Diet. And so I’m very much into the whole like alternative medicine approach and dietary approach.

Yaiyr: 00:11:12
We’re trying other AH, image about this, but we’re trying other natural ways of just making his system like his immune system, like be able to work properly. So from that aspect I’m all for it. But I also don’t want him to be labeled with something and have people try to push me into doing things I’m not comfortable with. So that’s mainly the reason why I still have not taking him anywhere for like an unofficial evaluation and also because I want to know for these energetic perspective on it. Like I know that there’s more to it than meets the eye it. And this is what we’re here, which is not ever going to be discussed in a pediatrician’s office.

Yaiyr: 00:12:04
And so, um, so yeah, I’m here because of my son and I want to learn how I can interact with him in a way where I’m not a kind of like constraining him more, you know, like I want to support his full self expression and his growth. I do want to be oppressive or try to fit him into like a box just so that he can do in society. So it’s definitely a lot of work with myself because of how I was spurred off and you know, um, and, but how to best do this in a way where I’m not bypassing discipline because that’s also important and there are certain things that he does need to learn. Like he needs to get potty trained. And so, you know this too because I had one of my main concerns right now because I can’t take him to childcare care without having met that step. But he’s not there yet. And so, you know, like my whole life. And I think that’s my thing is like how can I support him without me sacrificing the workability of my life just because I have a two year old who has special needs.

Ashley: 00:13:18
Yeah, absolutely. Thank you so much for sharing all of that. And the other thing that just came to mind is that a lot of parents will start to get, um, d do you specifically or do you feel like your energy’s speeding up by being around your child? I’m like, my energies work connects you process things really fast. Like, do you want fast information?

Ashley: 00:14:07
These kids, they don’t always appear to be functioning really quickly, but they process information that led light speed and they’re super, super, super fast inside. And oftentimes they’ll get really frustrated because they’ve already told you, but they want you to hear it. You didn’t get it after five times that they told you, but they didn’t tell you in your language. You just totally miss that. You can try to explain anything, so the reason I bring this up is because this thing just popped into my head where a lot of parents will start getting really like the, the, the primary parent who is

Ashley: 00:14:45
the primary caretaker for the child, but oftentimes one parent and and oftentimes it’s the is like that, you know, person who’s really, really I’m into supporting that child and doing all the research and getting all the information and understanding their childhood. It’s not always both. Sometimes it is, but my point is what happens is often that one person who’s that great supporter that’s like, you know, driving things into a new directions for the child, they start functioning really fast inside and they get frustrated with the other spouse and I learned that a lot of times it’s not actually that they’re frustrated with the other spouse because their spouse isn’t speedy, is there and so they’re actually frustrated because they’re picking. They’re impacting their child who’s functioning so fast and their child is frustrated that people aren’t picking up on things as quickly as they’re giving them.

Ashley: 00:15:43
And so you start getting frustrated with people, but it’s actually you impacting their speed. You’re not getting it fast enough, you’re not fast enough, you’re not getting it. And it’s just so fascinating as a person for any of us adults that are working, we’re not taught this type of class in person before and now I’ve had adults who were siblings. One sister was taking care of for like a 30, 40 year old sister with. I’m on the spectrum. I think that he had asperger’s. I think she was maybe a little bit more severe on the spectrum. The point was like she would be functioning in it with her sister and so the people around him who didn’t function fast enough to get frustrated when students. I’m planting the seed of this verse that goes for sister and it can happen in a marriage. It can happen like you know, if you’re working in a clinical setting to.

Ashley: 00:16:42
So anyway, I would love to discuss the potty training because that, that body awareness for children’s and especially on this is a completely different thing. Not Have the same relationship with their body that we do. But I sort of feel like, me personally, I just want to share this with you because I’ve been so immersed in this and worked with so many people who are on the spectrum, young adults, I feel like I function like it now because I’m also an a highly sensitive person. If I get so immersed in the world of that heightened sensitivity, that empathy and on the spectrum, I don’t just look at them and try to understand it. I feel like I’m, I’m, I’m saying like a lot of what I’m explaining to you guys tonight is also like I feel like I’m in it to. You wouldn’t know by looking at your insides. My nervous. The way that I process information has been from a very, very, very different. And so I wonder if any of you who are around people on the spectrum for long periods of time, if would have to know or are others like that.

Yaiyr: 00:18:06
OK. And do you know, one thing I also want to ask is how do I manage myself in the sense that as a highly sensitive person, I short circuit, like after at a time I am the primary caretaker and it’s just my mother and I, but she supports me to a certain extent. But I am the person in charge and one my mom is like, I’m done. It’s all on me even though I’m energetically exhausted in my room for patience and tolerance and being able to is gone because I’m just like, I’m about to burst because I’m over loaded with stuff. And so it’s harder for me to communicate with him. Like you say, you know, and it’s obviously easier to get frustrated with. We’re not understanding each other and you’re just throwing a temper tantrum and I just want to go somewhere and maybe like half or like even.

Yaiyr: 00:19:13
Yeah, I mean like I’ve had times I don’t really drink that much but sometimes I’m like man, I really could use a drink right now. But like I’m like, I’m shaking physically shaking because I am over the top or how much, like not right now, but sometimes like with my son and so I had to do like the whole breathing exercises just to be able to do with it because you know, like I have my son and I’m doing a phd in science and I have to have my lab at some point, like all these things and then it gets to a point where I don’t feel that I’m being effective dealing with him because I can’t, I couldn’t even function myself.

Ashley: 00:19:52
Thank you for that. So I want to address that and I actually think that what you just brought up is something that I think everything you just brought up is going to be beneficial and supportive to everybody. That’s just how these things work. Like anything that you bring to this is going to be a support to everybody. So please know that there’s no stupid questions. I kind of feel like I don’t need to say that, but I want to say that to all of you. I love questions. I love who you bring up. What’s going on? And I welcome it. So speaking up and talking about what’s going on is giving me energetic information to know where to go. So I’m going to address those things and I just also want to keep the space open for a moment. Just anybody else want to pipe up and say, you know, their relationship, you know, that brought them here. Um, any, anything right off the bat.

Ashley: 00:20:48
Oh my gosh. Which will going to go over and hour. I’ll try not to, but there’s so much to cover. If anybody else.

Dianne: 00:20:58
Well, um, my name is Dianne and I and my son is. He was diagnosed. I’m at school when he started preaching. It’s like a mild autism. He was having a hard time like with the speech. Sure. Yeah. So I started taking him to a speech therapist outside of school. Yeah. Also occupational therapy that has been helping him a lot, but now that worries me is the value eats really mad and he tends to eat the same foods and I try and introduce them to new foods, but he doesn’t want it straight to me very much. I try and like do my breathing exercises like funny and I’ve even noticed that he has a very low immune system and it gets.

Dianne: 00:22:15
So, I don’t know at this point the, the therapists, um, the speech therapist was telling me that, you know, I could try and helping him by, for example, we try the banana. He doesn’t like bananas so I wouldn’t be taking her nanny’s house and she taught me how to like kinda introduce him to the banana. One way is like I’m putting in the miles and it did help, but it just, I did it so many times that, um, I just figured it out. They didn’t like the bananas. Well, the thing is I have a tight schedule with my kids from school. They have different hours that time to actually go home, sit down with all my family, eats you out. It’s just, um, it’s crazy.

Ashley: 00:23:23
While we’re on food that I’m. One of the things you, you all can look at with food, with kids on the spectrum is a texture based and if you notice that they’re really addicted to potato chips, which I hear a lot. Um, it might be because they get so much feedback, it gets much information from that and they don’t get as much information from a banana because it’s soft and blah, and they’re not getting all of that input that they require. Um, so want to sort of start to look at like what other crunchy foods like dry cereal that’s like fortified with some healthy stuff where like, you know, uh, you know, dried fruits and vegetables and things that you could make whatever. It’s not, this isn’t so much like me trying to say like what nutritional ways to go, but you really want to start to become aware of it.

Ashley: 00:24:21
They’re only having three different things. Like for instance, I’ll have a lot of times the like French fries, chicken nuggets, right? Like I see this a lot and they all have that feedback, that crunch, you know, that texture, a lot of texture for their mouth to receive. And so, you know, if, if they’re really, really requiring a lot of oral soothing, you know, like a of popsicles or something like that, then you want to look at, you know, asking them. So this is a big part of what I’d really like to get across to everyone, is to start actually asking your child questions regularly throughout the day because the question is empowering and the conclusion is disempowering. So let’s say you’re in a situation, um, you know, either one of you, uh, both of you actually spoke about food, um, you want to look at, first of all, ask me a question that’s actually a question.

Ashley: 00:25:19
So for all of you, a lot of times we’ll say, what do you want for dinner that actually implies that you’re assuming that they are hungry but they want sued. A true question from curiosity would be more like, would you like, are you hungry? There’s no assumption or judgment in that question. And that’s what we want to get to. Who really want to start formulating questions to these children who know they have awareness. We were acknowledging, and I’m not saying you’re not acknowledging and I’m saying we can, we can get so much more awareness from them by asking the questions in a way that’s based in curiosity, not in conclusion. So say like that he doesn’t like I’m a banana, he might look the, the next week they move on. Right. So it’s kind of like. All right, so what is your body require? What type of food?

Ashley: 00:26:19
What type of nutrition, um, for all of you out there? One other thing big based on nutritional awareness. Um, I really don’t think it’s Wacky, but I’m just going to say it’s really. Well I don’t think it’s too crazy, but this is like super novel for me. Um, I will actually, this started when I was pregnant when I was pregnant would go into a whole foods and I would actually ask maybe what nutrition do you require from me? And I would pull in all the nutrition from everywhere in the store that the baby required. I would ask the ADB, do you require any nutrition? What do you require? There are so many herbal supplements in on him. Vegetables and you don’t even go in there and just suck it all in. You don’t need to make bigger. Just sort of like giving a visual. This is all in my head and I wasn’t talking out loud to myself.

Ashley: 00:27:21
I was just having a telepathic conversation with my baby who is not yet born and I was like, what would be supportive of your body and your being and I just, with my mind, I just imagined like energy pulling through all the food and it wasn’t defeated the food. I was just receiving gifts from the foods and the supplements and the herbs and do this. But your children take them to the grocery store and you go to Gnc or uh, you know, some sort of supplement place or whatever. You don’t even have to go in there are so powerful and potent. You could do it from the car like miles away, seriously, really seriously. Um, and just say, does your body require any nutrition? But it’s not receiving probably going to get a yes. And then you say, OK, there’s a story on the street called this, which you don’t actually need to say, but it might make you feel like it’s actually happening.

Ashley: 00:28:17
If you’re saying this in your head to try and just say, OK, pull everything you require and that’s it probably before you finish the sentence already it and you will actually see that they start shifting and changing in their energy level and you know, maybe the color of their skin was jaundice because they’re so depleted of certain things or are iron is low because they’re not actually eating real food. They want everything processed or something. Um, from the space that I’m approaching, um, all of you, I don’t have a point of view about what diet is the best for shuttering. What I’m aware of is that you need to ask your child. My child was very clear that he wanted to be again very quick and he was like, that’s it. Now my child’s almost five and he’s never asked me, never asked for eggs, never asked for cheese.

Ashley: 00:29:16
And my husband’s not the again. So it’s around them all the time. So the awareness tell constantly that I got while I was pregnant from my child. So it was just asking him, how do you want me to eat? You know, what are you required? Are you getting everything you need? It was so clear that van was the way to go for this child and now that he’s out, he’s been around for all these years. It’s so clear what that message was appropriate. I’m also willing to allow him to have me if he so chooses. It’s like, OK, so at this moment, this is what you’re choosing, what are you going to choose next week? And that is about not being a new conclusion. That’s being in in question. So it’s like, OK, at this moment right now, this is what you’re choosing to eat. Is that working for your body?

Ashley: 00:30:03
If you get a no, then it’s like, OK, what would work for your body? What things can I buy for you? Can I take you to a store like in literally shop the aisles with you and we play hot, cold, you know, and like they don’t. It could just be like a game where you know, you’re not even really asking them to do it out loud. Like you can literally go down the aisles and just feeling your body like, I’m, I’m, I feel really light, I feel really light, and if I keep moving forward, suddenly feel happy and that light, this is an awareness that you’re onto something that is supportive of your child, that lightness, this universe of responding by best are in the right place. Like you might get a lightness and the vegetables and happiness in the cookie section. Maybe your child requires a lot of sugar. And one of the things I’ve done and I’ve seen a lot of people do, is when they get out at the judgment that sugar’s bad, their kid has it. They don’t have a need to resist against the parent’s point of view any longer and they’re over it. You don’t want constant sugar anymore because the parent doesn’t have a point of view that they need to resist against. Does that make sense?

Ashley: 00:31:13
Um, a lot of times these children are facilitators for us in a really big way. And so when you’re meeting resistance with your child, you might want to start with what are the facilitating? And we’d like, for instance, when I met my son was a baby, I was like above biggest Germaphobe ever. Like, but I got up from my mom, you know, like it’s familial. I learned huge Germaphobe, like wash your hands constantly and you know, don’t let them crawl around and play mats with other kids. It was just crazy. Like literally I felt like my child is gonna end up in hospital if they like touch their mouth after they touch the mat. Yes, it was the first child and I still only have one right now, but like I had to get over it. And so of course he’s like, I want to touch this, that I just want to play with dirt.

Ashley: 00:32:08
And we had to get over it because I realized the more I resisted it, harder to the spinner, resistant. And so when I got over my Germaphobia he no longer touch things and touched his mouth. He was like, oh, like there’s nothing to like facilitated my mom to become more comfortable with this slide, let it go. Moving on to something else I’m going to work on with her. So it’s something, it’s something to just become aware of if you’re meeting a lot of resistance with something like even potty training, like I’ll talk about potty training now, but let’s say that there’s a tremendous amount of resistance. What is sometimes kind of look at, you know, do I have a really big need for this to work and they’re, my child’s trying to get me out of the plan that I have. They want to break my plan because they have an idea that there’s a different plan, a different daycare, the different school, a different way of doing it.

Ashley: 00:33:06
Something like what’s the message in this? What’s this resistance about? And so I encourage you not to ask your child why questions that is not normal, right? Like you feel if you want to keep asking you to child-like questions. Um, a lot of times children on the autistic spectrum don’t go through that phase of asking why, why, why, why, why is this guy, why are the dogs doing this? Why, why? And sometimes we, as parents are like, oh my gosh, they miss the developmental theories, but it’s because they energetically ask the questions in their head because all the information they need and they didn’t mean to say it out loud. I was waiting for them to ask the question, but they like speech therapists. But why would he say this out loud? Why would they ask you? Like I just asked the duck, duck gave me the answer and that’s really how they’re functioning.

Ashley: 00:34:03
And so, um, I’m going to go back to the pilot training again in a second because that’s just one angle. I also want to acknowledge that, like I said earlier on this call that children or primary language, especially kids on the spectrum. And for those of you who know nothing about children on the spectrum, that’s a very kind way of saying it. Instead of calling a child autistic, um, it’s very kind to say I’m a child with autism or a child on the spectrum, just like a person who is deaf, you would say that they’re hearing impaired, you know? Um, there’s just like different little things and they keep changing at the moment. This is the most appropriate claimant receivable way to say it. So just, you know, that’s a very kind way of saying things. So, um, bear first language is energy. So if any of you are working with babies, I’m a cool thing I did when my child was baby baby baby.

Ashley: 00:35:07
He wanted to be held all the time, like never wanted to be put down. He did like, you know, input that needed to be pretty much only with me like everybody else who was like, you had the hackers know, honest story. So what I would do is let’s say he fell asleep, merits, I put him down, he was probably going to start crying because he wants to help. Started walking around and I would ask them questions. So I would say if I put you down now leads to asleep. If I put you down now to stay asleep and they gotta know, I kept asking if I put you down now you stay asleep and I got a yes for you, go to sleep. So I acknowledged from the earliest moments because I was doing this for me before I had a kid, so my experience was now you know, roses by any means, but like I’m saying, I use these tools right from the very start and had a lot more ease and a lot more awareness about the potency that these children have.

Ashley: 00:36:12
And I asked the questions and so please, please, please, I feel this energy coming up from so many of you. Don’t go back and wish you would have done that. Look at how cool you. How aware are you? How amazing are you for showing up now? This is the time. It wasn’t the time. Then now is the time and you here, I just got the shelf like head to toe because they’re amazing. And like I said in the email that I sent you today, I literally was moved to tears when I saw how many people were interested in having this conversation because he’s incredible. Beautiful. Children are so misunderstood and they’re so capable and they have such incredible capacities and we just don’t know it. So I truly just want to open up the possibilities and I know I’m in the comments here. Um, yes, as you know, she’s really here so that she can learn about what else is possible with the autism spectrum disorder of labels that gets, what lessons they can bring to us. And I love that.

Ashley: 00:37:21
And then truly that too. It’s about asking question and giving our children the space to show us what’s possible and how they can shift and change things now. OK. So when I tell you this story is, is a healthier. That’s how I respond. Well, when I hear people tell stories, that’s what really hits home for me. And I remember those afterward. So, um, that’s why I tell a lot of stories so that afterwards you can remember sort of, you know, how I approached the lesson or the option. So, um, I was on a plane, then my child is really young and um, he had been flying really well. I was by myself and I was flying back from New York with him and he was like really unruly, really out of whack. And I just looked down at him after a while, I didn’t like immediately think of this, but after a little while and looked at him and I would say being right now, like this is not my child, you know, yelling and a so it’s six months old. And I said, who are you being now? Mind you, it’s not a conclusion. I didn’t say you’re not being you are you? I just literally was like, who are you? And a calm came over my child from the question because it put him in a place where you had to wonder.

Ashley: 00:38:53
And then I followed up by saying, are you being you or someone else? Now I’m in between people. So this is telepathically and you all to do it and you know, I know that if it’s new to you you might wonder like. Exactly structurally, how do I talk about briefly speak with the child. A lot of it is like, how do you get up from a chair? You just do like for me to tell you what muscles to use to set up from a chair. It’s like making it way too complicated. It’s like you just do like, you just literally, I think at your child and they’ll give you an awareness or you know, the, the students that you’re working with, if you’re a teacher or you know, the client that you’re working with, if you know you’re a therapist or something. So this applies to everybody.

Ashley: 00:39:45
If you know you’re with an adult who’s like acting cray cray. You as you say in your head like who are you being like, I’ll say it out loud because I’m totally cool with being weird. I’ll say it out loud and I’ll say like, you being right now, this is not how I’m used to like, are you being someone else right now? I need to get them to shift. It takes them out of that path of literally being someone else. So what happened with me in that situation was my child, even the awareness that there was a kid in the back of the plane was really having a hard time and he was not just impacting on who’s trying to take it on and process it and help them. And I said, OK, I get what you’re doing. That no judgement, it’s really tough for me, but you’re doing that.

Ashley: 00:40:28
Is that working for you? Use a note. And so I said, OK, what would it be like if you were the new piece? The rest of the trip? Smiles. So this is a conversation. You can have a, you know anyone, right? Like, but it’s so, so, so much. I have this conversation with children on the spectrum because they’re light lightspeed. You ask the question and get an awareness sometimes if you ask out loud and your child is verbal will say, I don’t know, like I have a friend who I’m constantly giving her suggestions of questions to ask their child and she’s like, he just says I don’t know and I don’t know and nobody knows anything. We’re not getting anywhere to come over. And I’m like, don’t ask them out loud because he’s programmed to like look for a structure, like a put the, an actual answer.

Ashley: 00:41:33
When you’re asking questions, you’re not looking for an answer you’re looking for. I suppose the difference between an answer and an awareness isn’t awareness as a lot of possibilities. I think, you know, are you being, does that work for you? It’s like, oh, I could do this or do that. It gives me choices by was asking the question like, who are you being an I, I’m looking for like I’m being joe in the back. Like it’s like cleaning them into an answer that if they can’t get that answer right away, they shut off and they’re like, I don’t know. I don’t know. You want to ask a question from curiosity without the need for the answer because you’re really looking for awareness, for energy, for response. And so, um, I just gave you that story just to illustrate that these kids are also, I’m so empathic and Laurie sent in a really cool question and she said, you know, what is the difference between an empath and a child or a person on the autism spectrum disorder? And are they the same thing? And truly the answer to that, the awareness is that, um, and pass her. OK, so, so people on the autism spectrum all impacts.

Ashley: 00:42:50
But um, paths are not all on the autism spectrum. Simply put, right? That’s it. I’ve never met the person on the autism spectrum that didn’t have 20 feet in all directions.

Ashley: 00:43:10
I’m sorry, 20 miles. That’s 20 feet. Twenty miles guys. It used to be not as wide, but now it’s really, really wide. So one of the things you also want to recognize is that when you’re with these children or adults or a really highly aware, right? But let’s say your Wifi, like I’ve spent my life working on my awareness to my awareness is like I like putting it in the galaxies, right? Like as far out as possible and I don’t want it to be tight. I want it to be like always like that, right? I want to just get awareness in spiritual mode. I want to be looking just at one place and looking at everything that’s. They always function. It’s mine starts to get tight and I’m around a person on the autism spectrum. There’s a discomfort for them because mine was so tight. So I’ve heard in this conversation that we’re having tonight that response, you’re or tired and I get it and that’s so true.

Ashley: 00:44:15
You’re allowed to be right. You’re allowed to be any way that you want to be and stress can’t live in expanded space. Anxiety, depression, can’t live and expanded space, so if you feel yourself starting to contract in feeling like your world is posing in like your options are looking bad, you know I can’t even see what’s right in front of me because I’m so overwhelmed. I’m shutting down. That’s going to be super uncomfortable for them, but not even to mention that it’s uncomfortable for you and the first thing you want to do is expand that energy out at least 20 miles in every direction so you can at least give them a sense of comfort that they are not trying to pull it out for you by doing things that are actually going to annoy you because of the state you’re in. Instead of being helpful to feel yourself, feel the walls closing in your fried, your fractured.

Ashley: 00:45:15
You can’t think of anything to do, to be helpful at this vomit first, expand your energy out in all directions at least 20 miles in every direction. And for those of you who have never expanded your energy out, I have a, um, in a youtube video, um, but it’s about, I fully walk you through the process of expanding your energy out. If you need that, some of you might be like easy peasy. I could just do it like that’s it, like just adds to think it. And it is, it is expanded. Um, so that to potty trainer something that I think is really, really fascinating about these children as they really do help out with their bodies a lot. And one of the primary things is it 8:50 hives sign. That’s another thing. Being on the spectrum, you have very little awareness of time and space dimension.

Ashley: 00:46:14
You lose, you know, a lot of times these I’m going to potty train, um, the timeline, uh, I need to do. So probably the hardest thing from us because the morning routine, getting out the door, right? Like, that’s, it’s so challenging often. And what’s required to actually change it is to give them a full heck share. These kids have so much trouble functioning. If you give them one step at a time, they would get so frustrated and it won’t work. What will work is if you literally like a movie, you send them a movie up, they’re going to get out of bed to use the party. We’re going to go to the couch, we’re going to watch some TV, we’re going to change our clothes that first, and then we’re gonna. Walk over to the front door, put her shoes on, get in the car, go to school or get on the bus and go to school or whatever it is.

Ashley: 00:47:18
You know, a lot of times if you’re supporting a family that needs help in that morning routine where the bedtime routine or something, you have to send the entire picture. I don’t mean the whole day mean that like beginning to transition because that whole transitional element, the timeline, the staccato notes on it, like, OK, we’re just gonna. Focus on changing your clothes, were just going to focus on getting food. You’re going to pull your hair out and if you’re not brilliant, don’t even listen to what I’m saying that. But for other things in life, you know when it’s hard to make a transition, there’s a lot of, if you’re not familiar with it, a court storyboarding is really, really helpful because kids, I’m not spectrum from pictures. They do I think in pictures too. So it’s a little bit easy for me to send pictures or to understand that bought, know Temple Grandin, those movies called temporary Temple Grandin.

Ashley: 00:48:15
is an incredibly high functioning. Well I shouldn’t say she is a high functioning adults on the spectrum and she is a four runner in educating the world about autism spectrum disorder and she’s considered, um, have asperger’s. Um, and I would love to share so much about her with you, but the thing that I’m going to share with you is just that you say to her force, she will recall the Google search. You put force in Google. It’s going to show you all the pictures of horses. And so she would hear you say course and she’ll think of all the times and all the pictures that have referenced a horse in her head all at once. So sometimes when you see a child, cause he may be willing to do that Rolodex of images in their head and so some of them might be uncomfortable and some of them might be great and you might want to just sort of help them understand this is what I’m talking to you about and show them a picture.

Ashley: 00:49:16
And sometimes before you go to a location, show them a picture. This is where we’re going because sometimes they don’t want to get in the car to go to that thing and you have to sort of show them this is where we’re going. Is this desirable for you? And if it’s not, it’s somewhere I really want to go. How can we make this work so that we can go, you know, what, what kind of compromise can we come to an agreement on so that we can do this? Because it would make me really happy. And I know you don’t really want to do it, so where can we go after that would really make you happy? So there’s a lot of compromise that’s really possible. You just have to recognize that in order for you to have yours and not like a Tantrum, there’s a lot of sort of little extra things you need to recognize that, how they function and a lot of like, I need to show them the whole picture of what actually gonna come home afterward because you might have thought that you’re going to leave and never come back.

Ashley: 00:50:08
You know, like truly that’s a possibility. Um, so with poetry training, a lot of times they don’t connect with their body very well. Like they are literally, I’m still integrating into their body. And so the energetic body, the being of his children is often, I’m the most uncomfortable time is one to three years old. And you know, any of you who have met a child who is in that one to three year period, life is often, maybe not always, but it’s, it’s uncomfortable and their body is overstimulated, uncomfortable. It’s hard to be in it. And sometimes when they’re unregulated and they’re bouncing off the walls and literally I’m like, they might be bouncing into the wall to get input to help them feel their body so that they can get back into it because they can’t feel it. So you actually want to ask them, hey, where is your body?

Ashley: 00:51:07
Where is your being raped before the toilet that they get connected with that physicality for a moment and say, OK, do you feel that your body, you know, like, Hey, can we get it out? Like really like these conversations need to happen. Do you think like, Oh, you just, you feel it and then you want to go. But no, they might not actually connect those feelings with their body. They might think they’re hungry, the wires can get very disconnected. So you really want to look at your bottle and then ask them to touch it. Like it’s right here. And then you’re like, OK great. So can you feel peaceful? And they may say yes or no, but you want to have this conversation. Like you would obviously be doing kind of a Kid Royce, right? Like, I have to do that, um, but, but like sort of like you would with a person who is fully verbal and fully capable, even though it might not seem like they are. So how about full on conversation, like an adult conversation, you know, with your gentle voice, um, but maybe more than you think that they can receive and ask yourself, how can I say this in a way that they can receive it? I do that with my husband, wanted to do something for me. How can I say this in a way he can receive it so I can. It works with everyone.

Ashley: 00:52:30
Tips and tricks for life. Um, the body thing. I was bringing my son to your play date with a child who hits and punches, you know, and, and one time it kicked by hitting the head. And I was like, I took a whole year off from seeing this kid because I was like, I don’t want to be near this. Like, that’s ridiculous, you know. But the thing is like that child is out of his body. He had not an awareness and we are, his body was. And he was thrashing and wishing out, lashing out for his own reasons, and at the moment I was so angry, but he was doing something to my child that I didn’t really look at the full situation. So I finally said, Gustavo pleading and I, before we got to the Cva, I pulled over and I said to my child, I was like, OK, I want to ask you a question.

Ashley: 00:53:25
A lot of this is like, I’ll say it and are always higher response. Like I’m just asking. And the awareness might not even be verbal. So I still have this, this conversation with my son. I was like, OK, um, we’re going to go have this play date with this child. Um, what do you know if he’s in his body or out today? He was like, he’s out there. Was like, OK cool. So are you in your body or are you out of your body? Who’s like, I’m in my bed. And I was like, OK, so what should we do right now to help this other kid get in his body? And like my kid, simple like I’m just going to go over there and tell them, here’s jerk are asking, where’s your body? Like don’t you know, discount that that’s possible. That’s possible. Like these kids can buy.

Ashley: 00:54:14
Locate. Like tonight I’m here, I’m at my parents house because some of you said like, I can’t be to colleague. That’s still keep tapping in to my childhood. Wow. That looks really fun. I liked that energy. I want to be there. That happened to me a lot, especially when he was younger. Every time I got on the phone people literally who’s so quiet and then it would just get crazy and I’m like, ah, like I can’t have any phone calls. And then I realized the energy at the contribution and leaving have helped enough. I started asking questions like, what is this? How can we change this, you know, like from access consciousness. I do need to give a shout out to access consciousness. I take it a lot of training from that modality. And so, you know, I started asking him, would you like to play a part of my business?

Ashley: 00:55:11
Yes. Awesome. Would you like to contribute to this phone call? Did what happen was he started to like sit on my lap for the first few moments of the phone call silently and then he was like over it when, how we said earlier in the call, it’s like they don’t have something to resist against anymore. They’re like over it. He would just try to facilitate you into like letting go of your points of view you barriers in your conclusions. I was like, phone calls need to be professional and like not noise in the background and I need to have total silence. Whole Bunch of beautiful points of view I had. Right. So they’re gone now.

Ashley: 00:55:50
So tonight I came over here to my parents house and I was like, Hey, would you like to be part of the law? Not Physically, but do you want to energetically drained me? And he’s like, that’s like cool. So like they’ll show up and contribute in his own way. So I allowed him to be a part of it and now like when they leave because they’re like OK, buy before. It was like awful when I left. So when I included in my, in my world, when I invited into my world and I acknowledge that he had something to contribute and I allowed it and received it. So really, really cool, cool things is that these kids are capable of. I mean, one other thing I wanted to say about kids on the spectrum is that they’re not left-brained or right-brained, their full brain. And so they don’t compartmentalize or structure their thoughts and their beliefs and their way that they view things like we do.

Ashley: 00:56:53
And so, um, I think I used to be very right-brain, creative outside of the box thinker and like numbers and um, you know, techie stuff was like, not even an option, but there’s something about the world that I immersed myself in which you guys are immersing yourself in. Where I’m now whole-brain I am. I can code websites that spur a thought that was, was not in the realm of possibilities I bought. But like when you, when you are not stopping yourself or stopping your children from anything being possible, you think this is how a function, this is how I am, do it. If it’s not like what official lab or possible for you, what is the frustrations you have with your child, the lack of patients, like what effects you been someone else, but when, if that’s what you think you should be or would it?

Ashley: 00:57:55
That’s the old patterning and the reference point that you have from the people that you’ve surrounded yourself with or or you literally just because of your life path and where you were raised. That’s who’s been around you. I mean, I’m. One of the biggest things is kids do is they increase our patients, so sure. I mean I’ve seen so many people open up their capacity for patients and what does that. That’s allowance and so really what you want to look at is when you’re getting short, when you’re getting frustrated fast, first, who am I being that is really being me, this bodily? Do I really want to be someone else right now or do I want to be frustration was something that someone brought up earlier. Frustration is always a lack of information. Frustration is like you want to start asking yourself, what information do I require care?

Ashley: 00:58:51
Who or what has that information that I require and how quickly can I get it? So it might be reaching out to someone who might be looking at the Internet, the asking your child a question, right? So, frustration, don’t stop there. Ask a question. Let’s say that they’re not eating and you look at that and you’re like, wow, what’s this about your stomach? Or Hey, um, did you see someone eating this? And it was, it made them for awhile. Um, what, what is it about this situation that I’m not aware of? What can you share with me? And again, this doesn’t have to be verbal. This can be you asking questions out loud and I’m, the awareness is received by you and maybe you don’t get what you receive right away. But eventually though, so fairs, problem situations, challenges, asking questions, what’s going on here that I’m not yet aware of? What do I not acknowledge? How can I be more in allowance of the situation? I can figure out how to make it work to our advantage. So that make sense? Everybody.

Yaiyr: 01:00:10
He’s here, but I can like verbally communicated with him yet. Um, and so when I take him out he spends a lot of the time in the house and I wish I could take him out more, but when I take him out, if I let go of his hand for a second, if will run in any direction, which is obviously not saved. Super Typical. Sorry. Yeah. So I have to keep him with like a hardness all the time, but it is very constraining for him because I can run my a task. I mean I probably should but the thing is I’m, so I’m, when I tried to take him out, like I get all stressed out because he’s first is running in every direction that he wants to grab everything that’s in the ground like you were talking about and to a certain degree of Germaphobic. But you know, to another degree it’s like well I don’t want you grabbing like cigarette butts and wrong and like all these things that you just shouldn’t, you know, like 30 stern, but everything else that’s in there or like, you know, rent ants, that’s not a good idea. Or you know, something along those lines. Like, we have scorpions here too, and so I’m concerned about your safety. I’m not trying to like, you know,

Ashley: 01:01:30
concept of safety. That’s like a really weird reality that at home and that’s really hard for them to understand. I’m seeing a couple like blanket statements like, so what do you want to do is, um, you know, I’ve seen a lot of kids do really well with social stories. Even visual social stories like picture after picture after picture of what you expect. Like if you see, like you said, he’s two right? Really sure if that’s the time for it yet it might be like, two and half three when that starts out Polish. Anybody on this call know when those social stories began? I guess maybe anytime it’s visual input.

Yaiyr: 01:02:18
Well he’s, he’s, two and nine months

Ashley: 01:02:22
Okay, so it might be good now, but as I’m saying this out loud, I’m thinking something else might be more appropriate for you. Um, when you want to do is you want to have a conversation again, you know, first, before I even say about the conversation, first I want to acknowledge, I think I’d like to ask you, is it, is it actually true that he’s not listening?

Yaiyr: 01:02:50
I think he understands, but he chooses not to do understanding and obeying and doing what you asked for from listening. I think he does understand and doesn’t obey.

Ashley: 01:03:05
Yeah, that’s fair. That’s totally possible. But I, I do think that there is a very broad sweeping thing I hear from people that they don’t hear us looking at us. What I have seen time and time again is a lot of these children are super kinesthetic and they need to have something in their hand to process what they’re hearing and so they might literally have so much trouble looking at you and hearing you that we want to sort of recognize is it actually a kindness to my child to not say, listen, look at me because it’s actually making them do it in a way that works for you.

Ashley: 01:03:51
What if they could better hear you. If they weren’t looking at you and they were touching something, I’ve seen this a lot. Um, so it’s something to just acknowledge or just, you know, maybe not acknowledge, but to kind of play with like, um, one other thing I’ve seen is that one of the things you want to sort of stay away from is you want to stay away from saying I’m focus. A lot of parents do this. A lot of parents will say, focus, focus on me talking to you. Right? And so it seems harmless, but the thing that you’re doing is, like I had said earlier, these children have spherical awareness. So you’re asking them to fight off all their awareness and only will get you. So the alternative is to say, I recognize that you are aware of the Bumblebee flying outside, the tiniest little elements of what’s going on in the fluttering wings and you know, how many carpet hairs there are.

Ashley: 01:04:55
And I acknowledged that the light is writing your eyes and there’s a lot of stuff going on. And can we have a conversation at the same time please. I also really like it if you could receive what I’m saying, so it’s like I acknowledge that you’re really, really aware and can also be here with me and this allows kids to want to show up and communicate and talk and listen because they’re like, Whoa, I don’t have to cut off my awareness. Cool. Like, because as much as we say multitasking is not possible, they will always. They’re super multitaskers and that’s OK. I’m in. The more we say that they can’t and where they’re going to try to prove to us that they can’t. So yeah, he’s probably listening and it’s like Whoa. Just approach it a different way and see if things change and when he doesn’t do what you ask them to do, basically you want to look at them and you don’t have to look at him.

Ashley: 01:06:02
But I usually do like look at the child and say, um, so the way that I communicated that to you, didn’t work. I’m trying to get you to stay by my side and not run which. And then send the picture . How can I better say that in words or with my energy to that. Like what do you need from me so that I know it might be like the child says, you know, I need way more intensity from, you are not going to take me seriously. Like you’ve got to like get intense or like you’re too intense and it shut down and they can’t hear what you’re saying because it’s more than I can process at the moment. The thing is touching objects on the ground is again, it’s inflammation. So it’s like I’m touching all the rocks and all the dirt because it’s input, it’s energetic information and it’s like, this was sort of like psychokinesis you can like feel and know the past, present and future of an object.

Ashley: 01:07:06
Like they get like all of that from touching stuff, but they get so much information sometimes when kids rock where they, you know, they’re flicking their fingers, it’s because they’re getting such an abundance of information that they’re trying to focus their energy on one thing to shut out how much information they’re receiving. So again, I would, I would love for you to look at possibly not stop them from stimming, stimming, right? Streaming things like, you know, um, you know, drinking coffee or you know, just things, you know, we can all think of different things. They just look different than one acceptable behaviors and what you want to do is you want to look more at like how can I allow him to do the stim or show him a different way of doing the stem so that it’s more acceptable, not as obvious and he’s still or she’s still or this person, um, you know, really gets what they require of focusing their energy to shut out stuff that maybe they need the sound canceling earphones or something like that where you just really want to look at how can we approach this in a different way so that it works for them.

Ashley: 01:08:21
How can they speak their language? What are they requiring from me at the moment that I can facilitate for them so that we can get what I need because it is like you need them to be safe.

Ashley: 01:08:34
And so it’s like, how can we communicate so that we can get this end result that I’m looking for? What do you require so that this happens. And whatever works right now, a lot of kids on the spectrum, it won’t be what works in a month. Yeah. It’s really. So I’ve already kept you over. I would really like to. I’m gonna open up. Anyone who’s muted in case you feel like you can’t. Well I think somebody purposely muted because you probably are background noise. Um, does anyone want to speak up or say anything? I can, I can stay on a little longer. I would so love to hear from anybody else who wants to ask a question or anything about his background or it was because I knew that shy peeps. Cool. Such a list of things that I really wanted to just and graph. Um, can I, can I go like five more minutes? Is everybody cool with that? Just jump off if you have to. Um, but there’s just a, just a couple quick things that I think could really be a contribution contribution to you based on the energy that you guys have brought here. Love you guys.

Ashley: 01:09:57
What’s happening a lot with these children is and adults and I’m pass is are being taught by those around you that your awareness is a feeling, and so what happens is we say, I’m feeling overwhelmed, feeling sad, I’m feeling mad, I’m feeling dumb. I’m fueling whatever. What happens is by the laws of the universe, when you state that, whether it’s in your head or whether it’s you know out loud, if you say I’m feeling blank, you by the laws of the universe have to process that emotion through your body and just figuring out how to handle it and how to process it out and be done with it. That can take a long time and 99 percent of the time it’s not even yours process all this stuff through body site. So the way to hit it, because that’s what I would really love to share with you, is ways to put it so that you can see things coming and shit so that you can have a smoother path.

Ashley: 01:11:15
Instead of it being like, I’m constantly dealing with issues, I’m constantly reacting to challenges. OK, so the thing is you want to start recognizing that I am perceiving overwhelm, overwhelm, right is an abundance of information all around you. There’s always overwhelmed all around us. There’s always inflammation everywhere. There’s inflammation, just you know good. We’re in a crowded place with lots of loud people. That information overload, overstimulation for these kids is not making it up. This is not just in their head. You can help them. Now, I don’t care if they’re in your room or if they’re 80 years old. This is something that’s really helpful to them. You want to, you want to share with them instead of stealing it like it’s yours. Every time we’d become aware of information, you know there’s 20 people over here who are depressed and smiling when I’m feeling depressed because I’m impacting them right soon as I say afterwards across my body and said, you want to say I’m perceiving a lot of depression.

Ashley: 01:12:24
I’m perceiving a lot of sadness. What I want to do with this, do I want to process it myself or do I want to acknowledge it? The people or the energy of the space around me is a lower frequency than that. I’d like to function from just that slight shift of I’m perceiving, which is an external versus feeling which is internal. This make sense guys. See how monumental that one tool could be in changing your life and in your child’s life and I’m saying like babies immediately or wherever they are right now and share this with football. Allow the awareness not to become a feeling unless it’s yours and most of the time it’s not even yours. I went to a conference a couple months ago and I left exit business conference. It was like an entrepreneur’s business tampons. I left feeling like I wanted to quit my business and I was like, I don’t know if this is working.

Ashley: 01:13:27
I’ve shared this on another telecall. Some of you may have already heard this, but it was really weird. So I’m really passionate about my business and I love my business. I love what I do. I love being of service to all of you. I love it. Like came away from the training instead of feeling of excitement. I left feeling like, I’m not sure if this is for me. I think that might be done. I think in my closeup shot I was like, does this belong to me? Am I being me? And he’s like, no, I am perceiving that. I picked up a whole bunch of stuff that wasn’t mine and it really feels like me and I went into feelings that I had to process it. And what do you now like? Um, I don’t know, five months ago that person who led that business workshop just closed for business

Ashley: 01:14:17
and I was inside her head. I didn’t even mean to. She wasn’t acting like she didn’t like her business. She was acting like she loved it, but she just came out with all the information about how she was like, I felt empty. It wasn’t enjoying it. I had to close it down and I was like, oh my gosh, Empath! So, if you’re parent, you know, you are a parent, the social worker, caretaker, any of those things and you have haggy stuff going on. Immense frustration. I’m feeling immense, overwhelmed. I can’t do this. I don’t know what to do. Any of those things playing in your head. What if it was your neighbor? What if it was someone else? What if it didn’t have to belong to you? What did they started perceiving that stuff? Instead of feeling it and allowing yourself to recognize that you’ve got this.

Ashley: 01:14:17
You’re amazing, and they chose YOU, and by the way, even if you aren’t the parents of these children that you’re fascinated with, they such as because you don’t have their lives. Even if you just sort of know them, they chose to bring you in. So I am amazed by all of you. I’m so grateful that you showed up. I’m so grateful that you’re interested in still good for that. You’re curious. I lab that you allow for you to share some stories and that didn’t laugh me off stage that you stuck with me. Thank you so much. Um, does anybody want to say anything before I finish up?

Ashley: 01:15:52
Thanks a lot. Fresher. Amazing. I don’t know. I just really appreciate you. For some reason we’re here and I needed to hear all this was aware of a couple of things, but sometimes I need to be reminded. I appreciate it. Thank you. And this has been interesting how the questions that other people ask actually hit home for you. Did you notice how energy type of colleague this for people who are interested in energy perspective, there’s always that commonality that everybody’s here because we all have similar interests and similar situations, similar curiosities. So, um, even the people who are listening to the replay, they’re going to say, and that’s exactly what I needed to hear. They’re asking those questions and do brave.

Leah: 01:16:55
So actually this is Leah. My camera doesn’t work, but what else is new? That’s OK. Um, I’ve been in and out as I, I was multitasking. I just want to thank you for bringing this to us. What I did get to hear and what I’m going to hear when I listen to the whole thing and I’m very excited to just be in possession of this information so that I can look at them more realistically. So perhaps, I can better relate to a niece or nephew or the neighbor’s kid, whatever, as well as the work I do in helping people as a personal coach, you know, maybe bring some new ideas for them, their lives they’ve been struggling with autism spectrum themselves or if they know someone. So I just really appreciate you sharing all of us groundbreaking information

Ashley: 01:18:11
And please, you know, please feel free to tweak these things that I’m sharing with you and implement them into your business and implement them into your home life and implement them into relationships.

Ashley: 01:18:20
I’m glad that you brought that up because we’re all, we’re all here on this call, on this, you know, for a different reason. Y’all have sort of a different purpose out there. And I want you to know that I support you and using this information to go out there and change the world because I think so many of you have a calling, like I do, to make an impact. So I hope that I can be of service to you to be having a bigger impact in the world. So thank you for being here.

Yaiyr: 01:18:52
Thank you for saying that too. I was going to ask you if it was okay to share this information.

Ashley: 01:18:58
Absolutely. Um, and I also would suggest that you listen to this video or audio, whatever version two, minimum of three times because you’re going to hear something different every time for sure. I do that too with classes I take and things.

Ashley: 01:19:16
I listened to it multiple times and I get something fresh and new every time and it’s because you open up your capacity to receive more every time you go through it. And I’m sure you’re not surprised. There’s a lot of energetic stuff going on that’s not seen and not obvious, you know, these kids are here working with us right now even though it’s not obvious they’re here, you know, kind of like lifting up this call, this video to really help us get to the point and get to the information that will really help them so that we can all have more ease in their lives.

Yaiyr: 01:19:52
Just have one more quick question. Is there a reason why behind these symptoms of these spectrum? See the muscle condition, but like energetically speaking, I’m spiritually speaking like these group of kids or people are souls are coming in and it’s becoming increasingly more abundant, and so is there like a specific reason behind this?

Ashley: 01:20:26
So yes, we’re here to create a different future that’s like the simplest answer. And then just to go a little bit deeper into it. These children literally measurably have a different nervous system. They have a different energy field. A lot of them have never been on earth before and if they have it hasn’t been for like a hundred years, are much longer. Actually. I interviewed Suzy Miller and I’m putting that interview out on my podcast really soon, so go look for that and she found it awesome, is awesome and she helps children to integrate their spirit into their being in where they’re being into their body and their spirit into their body and some don’t fully integrate.

Ashley: 01:21:15
It’s too uncomfortable because it’s such a dense body for such a, a high vibrational light being that sometimes when your child is first born and they’re really. This is a non-technical term term like I’m uncomfortable out of body, constant upset, everything is overstimulating life breathing at the world touch. Everything is just too much. That’s because they are maybe starting to integrate on the happens at all yet and so everything is so disconnected, but the input is just tremendously too much. So from what I’ve learned and from what I’ve experienced, the being the. Sometimes it takes three years, sometimes it takes a lifetime, sometimes it happens within the first six months. If the child and you don’t feel connected to your child, oftentimes it’s because they’d been, hasn’t entered the body at the same. And so you’re like, this spot has gotten as, maybe I should be connected, but it’s like they’re being in it yet.

Ashley: 01:22:24
Why is it showing up like this? It’s because we’re in a tiny planet where the beings can be much more high vibrational and can bring in a capacity to shift our consciousness into a much higher level. And so we have the space and so, um, it’s very uncomfortable for such a no density light being to be in such a dense body. And so they’re higher frequency, higher capacity, higher changeability, like they look at you when something shifts within, you know, their eyes, just their eyes, their soul is just shifting, unlocking you just by being present with them. And it is the time within the evolution of a world that is opened up, the capacity for them to be here. So why is it so challenging for them in these findings? Why is it presenting? Presenting itself that way is because there are these light beings more light than ever before trying to integrate into these dense physical bodies and it’s uncomfortable.

Ashley: 01:23:31
And that’s sort of, I think what you’re getting at, sort of like, is it so uncomfortable? Why are they and some truly choose to not fully integrate into the body and never fully bring their. Being into their physicality. And so that’s a choice they make and it’s just too uncomfortable to unbearable. They don’t think they can make it through that. And so you know, that something that you know, complete usually that would meet with their completely non-verbal. Sometimes it’s um, you know, very wheelchair bound, not super functional, but in their brain, if you were speaking, not bring in their energy, if you’re speaking with them telepathically, their speed here, locking things, they’re creating friends, you know, down the street and you just don’t know all this is happening. So their capacities are there, no matter how integrated they are. But the integration process of the being into the body is super uncomfortable and they’re higher frequency, light beings then ever before. And it’s cool seeing so many more committed because it’s unlocking all of us.

Ashley: 01:24:46
Yeah, I didn’t give you a light answer. They’re good. I’m so glad. I’m so, so grateful that you all are here. And um, please, please, please let me know what you thought. Um, any further follow up questions. If you want more, let me know. Um, you know, mull it over, sleep on it and then I would love to hear from you. That would be such a gift to me to hear what’s going on and how it shifted your worlds. I would love that. So not all of you being leaders and for runners in this because they’re amazing. And with that, I will stop this recording and, um, you can look for an email from me soon. Muwah!! Goodnight.

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Ashley Stamatinos is a five-time #1bestselling author with over 10 years of experience helping Highly Sensitive People. She has also been referred to as the Empath Expert because of her extensive work helping people to stop living in survival mode, and step into thriving in all areas of life.