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Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Needless to say, and I am in no way seeking sympathy, but the last couple of months have been a difficult journey and a priceless treasure. Tonight after months of pain, and weeks of severe suffering, my Mother was ushered into the arms of her heavenly Father. I will forever remember her childlike smile of the last few weeks, our silly humor at Daddy's expense and the laughter we shared. Those memories far out weigh the burden of watching her slowly suffer as she slipped from her earthly home to her heavenly mansion. My sadness is only that we will have no more of those priceless moments, just the instant replay that will forever be in my heart. As a daughter, there is no greater joy than to comfort and care for the one who gave me life at the end of her life. For those who have not had the experience, let me say there is nothing quite like it. I am at peace as I know whom she believed and have total confidence that her life is just beginning to blossom. Like most Mothers and daughters we had our moments of intense fellowship and more come to Jesus meetings than I care to dwell on. Forever the Mother, there were times when I felt I couldn't live up to her expectations and at times I know I failed her miserably. Somehow I knew she would settle those scores in her final goodbye. Last night as I lay in her room wide eyed and bushy tailed I thought to myself.... "She isn't going to let you see her pass." I'll admit that I have always envied those who told stories of their loved ones passing while giving vivid descriptions of what lie on the other side. Some how I knew that Mom would wait until I walked out of the room and slip away behind my back in a final "gotcha" moment. A daughter knows her Mother, and true to form, I turned my back for a moment and she took the opportunity to slip away just out of my eye sight. She always did have to have the last word and in her passing she made no exception and honestly I wouldn't expect her to. She did forget one little seemingly minuscule fact, and that's that I have a blog and she doesn't! Whose your Momma now? You ask how I could use humor at such a reverent time? Because I'm my Mother's daughter and she is the one who gave me the ornery streak that's a mile wide. She also gave me a firm foundation of faith and the a strong assurance that life is but a vapor.... Oh and taught me to never miss the chance to get the last word in. Love you forever Mom and I'll meet you on the other side.

I'm huddled in the bed trying to find some warmth while waiting for Mom to trade in her earthly garments for her heavenly home. With every steady breath, Mom ticks the minutes away. There is every indication that death is just hours away, but those hours can sometimes feel like eternity. When I came home, Daddy looked exhausted. He sleeps in the room with Mom and wakes with every change in breathing and every little sound. I knew his exhaustion had reached its limit when he took me up on my offer to sleep in Mom's room so he could get some rest. Personally I believe death gets a bad rap. We tend to fight death and insulate ourselves, when in reality death on earth is just the beginning of life eternal without the tears and pain. I once heard it described as shedding a tattered overcoat for a eternal garment. What woman doesn't want a new outfit? Looking back I believe Mom has been caught between heaven and earth for the last few months. A few months ago she swore Dad swapped houses while she was at the beauty shop. Her story remained the same over the months. The house was exactly like the old one, just in a different location. Could her spirit have known what her flesh did not? Although death is hard to watch, beauty can come from the ashes of death. Mom has been happier the last few months than she has been in years. Is it possible that the closer we get to heaven, the things that hold us down and hold us back begin to fade? Does the bitter pettiness of earth fade as our eternal home begins to materialize before our spiritual eyes? Perhaps the glazed unfocused eyes of the dying aren't unfocused at all; perhaps at that moment their eyes are intensely fixated on what should have been their focus all along, if life didn't get in their way and block their heavenly view that now on deaths door seems in perfect focus.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Sunday I went for a walk
late in the afternoon when the shadows were long and the breeze was light. I didn’t
have the expectations my walk usually brings. I just needed an escape and some
fresh air. Saturday had been a particularly difficult day. My Aunt had spent
the night at Mom’s, allowing me the opportunity to spend the night in my own
bed. When I came into the house Saturday morning, she whispered to me that
Momma wasn’t doing well, she wasn’t talking. I walked into Mom’s room and lay
down by her. She gave me her million watt smile but didn’t try to talk. We lay
facing each other for several minutes before she croaked out…. “I…. Love…. You….”
I tried hard to keep smiling, but found tears broke through the dam instead.
When she saw me crying, she frowned and stared beyond me to a place those who
have their feet firmly planted in this world cannot see. I wondered aloud what
she saw, but got no answer. As strong as I’ve tried to be, in that moment I was
scared she would take her last breath before my kids got there or my brother
arrived. I sat with her until they arrived and watched her eyes light up as each
one walked into the room. She smiled and managed short greetings, but mainly
she just stared. During the afternoon we had episodes that have become the norm
for Dad and me. It was difficult for them to witness and I could see the
helplessness on their faces as she struggled and as Dad and I worked to take
care of her. Saturday was a beautiful
day and I sat on the porch as each one took time to say what might be their
final goodbyes. When the last guest
left, I felt completely depleted and anxious about what Sunday would bring.
Perhaps by divine design, Sunday was quiet, so I took the opportunity to slip
away for a brief walk as she napped. As I got out of the car I was greeted by
Soxy the wonder dog. She smiled at me (yes, dogs do smile) as I hit the trail. My
heart wasn’t in rhythm with my feet, so my feet slowed to the rhythm of my
heart. The walk was more of a meandering through the woods than a walk.
I didn’t actually want to be there, I didn’t want to be anywhere, I wanted a
deep hole I could bury myself in, until the world passed me by and life
returned to normal. When I got to the end of the trail on my first lap, Soxy
waited at the end. It has become her habit to let me make the first lap by
myself, then she joins me on the others. The minute she pounced onto the trail,
I smiled. There are several reasons I love having Soxy walk with me.The main reason is because for a long time
she wouldn’t walk with me. She would walk with the guys, she would walk if one
of the guys walked with me and once she walked when a girlfriend walked with
me, but she wouldn’t walk with me alone. It wasn’t until the bitter cold set in
and I still wanted to walk, when she decided it was me or no one. I’m okay at being the last one picked, in fact
I’m quite used to it. I didn’t know for sure if she was going to join me until
I felt the cold tip of her wet nose as my arms swung back with my gait. Soxy
has a system to her walks. During the first part of the trail she walks at my
heel, or rather on my heel. Once we reach a certain part of the trail, things
become fun. She bounces and prances ahead of me then turns and waits until I
catch up. She’ll look over her shoulder as if she is telling me to hurry up;
she wants to check something out. Sunday she waited a lot. I love watching her
explore different trails and watching her ears as she cocks her head to listen when
she hears something rustling in the distance. But mainly I love to watch her
prance and bounce and yes, sometimes skip. When Soxy runs ahead, regardless of
how long the shadows of my day have been, Soxy and her happy feet make me smile.In a flicker of time all of the burdens seem
a little less heavy and the clouds a little less dark when Soxy says… “Let’s
Go!”

Thursday, January 16, 2014

I watch my Dad and ask myself…. “Why didn’t I inherit that
gene?!” He is meticulous, I am not, actually that should be read as… I AM NOT!
And, he is the Energizer Bunny on steroids…. I AM NOT! The man never slows down….
NEVER! Whatever he does, he strives to do it better and faster than anyone. He
was a manager of Safeway for years in Tulsa
and the assistant manager of Homeland when they moved here. He could out check,
out sack and out stock all of the employees combined. When I was growing up, he
worked endless hours. Mom would occasionally take him lunch or dinner and
literally stand over him in the back room to make sure he slowed down long
enough to eat. The one thing I did inherit from him (besides his ADD) is his
ability to inhale a meal in 2.5 seconds flat… We both will finish our meals
before anyone else has their silverware unwrapped. The older I’ve gotten, the
more laid back I’ve become; not him. Sunday while Mom was napping, I was just
sitting around reading my Kindle and to his credit, he did try to make himself
be still, he’s just an utter failure at it. Now keep in mind that I’m not
blogging anything I haven’t confessed to him so hang on to your Sunday best….
He was getting on my last nerve. He fidgeted, grunted and groaned, he was in
and out of the recliner so much I thought he was going to wear the gears out. I
thought “Good Lord, he needs to bring it down a notch.” One morning during
breakfast he mentioned he was on his 8th,8th! Cup of coffee. No wonder he stays wound up. So,
the other

morning after a particularly bad night, I walked through the kitchen,
picked up the Xanax bottle (I warned you to hang onto your hat), opened up his
thermos and dropped it in. Every time I walked through the kitchen, I would
shake the thermos so he wouldn’t see little blue flakes floating around his
cup. When I left for work, I had a little smirk and thought to myself… “I’ll
fix his knickers.” Ha! When I came home for lunch, he was whizzing through the
house like an Oklahoma
tornado. I sat by Mom’s side as we watched him fly in and out of the room. I
asked Mom…. “How’s Dad been today?” She smiled that sweet little 3 year old
smile she has now, and kind of cocked her head and said…. “He’s been pretty
good. Why? Did you have a talk with him?” I laughed then whispered in her ear
my devious action. She snickered as she promised not to tell our little secret.
About that time he broke out in disjointed vocal expression in the kitchen. Mom
looked at me and said… “What is that?” (she has been so funny lately). I told
her it was Daddy’s attempt at singing. I called out and asked him if we needed
to call EMT crew again. Trust me with my Mom and I together he hasn’t got a
chance. LOL! I asked him if how much coffee he had that morning and he told me
he had drank the whole thermos. Dangit! The Xanax didn’t even take the edge off
his energy. I looked at Mom and told her next time I’d try two. Hey! Don’t
judge me. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

In January 2000, my Father-in-law passed away from cancer.
At the time, my husband and I had three children at home; both worked high
stress jobs and were in the middle of kitchen demolition. At one time I
remember my kitchen sink in plywood, being held up by bar stools. I could see
through some of the hardwood floor that had been damaged, into the basement
below. Our appliances had been moved to the living room where our Christmas tree
was toppled and lay hopelessly out of reach. Every surface of our house had
several coatings of plaster dust, sheetrock dust, saw dust, on top of the
normal every day dust. My Father-in-law refused to allow Hospice to come, so we
staggered our times between work, lunch and dinner and always remained on call
if he needed anything in between our visits. Although the whole thing is a
distant memory, the feeling of being on auto-pilot came back to me the other
day as I fought to maintain some semblance of normalcy without much success. I
thought to myself… “How on earth did we manage?” Then I remembered mechanically
going through the motions day after day after day. As tough as it was, it is a
time that has been locked away in a treasure chest of my soul. I’ll never
regret one daily “chore”, or one harried moment of those last days. They were a
gift granted by the one who hung the stars. After his funeral, I remember wondering…. “How
on earth do people get through things without a close network of friends?”
Maintaining relationships is difficult. Regardless of how much you love
someone, (husband, wife or friend), every relationship takes work and there are
times, Like after my head injury, when I’ve had to make myself not walk away
from everything and every body; It-was-so-much-work! God knows I’ve got my
quirks just like everyone does (if you don’t know you’ve got quirks, you’ve
probably got more than most), but thank
goodness, my friends and family stuck it out, loved me unconditionally through
those time. You don’t realize how important your friends are, until you’re at
the end of your rope. I believe God allows us to have dark times, not only so
we’ll learn to lean on him, but also so we’ll shuck our foolish pride and allow
ourselves to lean on others. I know it
may sound strange, but it hasn’t been easy to say yes to someone who wants to
bring food, or help in some way. It would bother me more if I wasn’t so tired
and if I didn’t know how tired Daddy is behind his smile. It’s made me be more
determined to be a better friend and to get out of my comfort zone more often,
because if I feel like this with such a great network of friends, I can’t
imagine how someone who doesn’t have that must feel. I’m feeling pretty blessed
by my Others right now, thank God I didn’t decide they were too much work!

Monday, January 13, 2014

Generally Mondays aren’t perfect, and today would be no exception. The day loomed before me with ominous dread, but I was determined to remain hopeful. When I unlocked my office door, the red tulips, laced with white I received Thursday had opened up over the weekend and greeted me with a pleasant hello. It’s hard not to muster up a smile when facing a picture perfect petal. The fact that I wasn’t in the office on Friday, thereby causing them to wilt is a moot point.

Saturday, January 11, 2014

Thursday morning started out much like every other morning this week. I kissed Mom and Dad goodbye and headed for the office. Around 9:30 I received a call from Daddy saying that Mom had fallen. As sick as she is, she still has a stubborn streak a mile wide. She can barely walk, but turn your back for 2 seconds and she is up and running. This time her little rebel trip didn't turn out well. Exactly 1 minute and 8 seconds later I was standing in the hallway, seeing Mom positioned awkardly between the bathroom and hallway. I was frozen in place with absoluetly no idea as to what to do or how to help. Dad had called 911 and minutes later the little hallway was filled with firemen and EMT people assessing the situation. Little did I know this was the beginning of a very bad day. I answered questions, provided documents while the EMTs determined the best way to get her up and to her bed. The fall hurt, but at the time we didn't believe it had injured her beyond what she was already suffering. They finally got her back to her bed and I ushered them out of the house with much gratitude and thanks. The first order of business was to get Mom cleaned up and comfortable. I went into the kitchen to get her medication and poured me up a glass of water while I was at it. Then I went into my room to change into my caregiving clothes. I reached into my suitcase for a pair of my yoga pants and noticed a strange bitterness on my tongue. I stopped and replayed my last steps.... I had poured Mom's medicine into my hand, gotten a glass of water, but did I give Mom her medication? I poked my head around the corner and asked Dad if I had given Mom her medicine. Dad said.... "No, I just asked her if you handed it to her and she said you didn't." alrighty then, in my confusion and haste apparently I tossed back her pain and anxiety medication without realizing it! I put on my caregiving clothes, got her more medicine and began helping Dad get her settled. When she was tucked in tight and cozy, I changed clothes and went back to work where I informed both of my bosses, that I was working under the influence of medication that was not prescribed for me. Oddly enough, neither of them seemed surprised by my mishap, as they live with Jackie mishaps 5 days a week. Having a Jackie moment every now and then is the only thing that keeps our department from being a continual snooze fest. I worked through lunch with a nice peaceful feeling you get when combining pain meds with anxiety meds. I left the office @ 2 to get Mom ready to see her doctor. While trying to dress her, I quickly found that we weren't going anywhere, at least not in my car. Every time we moved her, she cried out in pain. It was hard to determine where or what the new pain was, but it made it impossible for the two of us to move her as usual. We called 911 again. As often as she falls, I assumed a team of EMTs had been assigned to our address. It just makes sense to me that there should be a frequent caller perk, but I found there isn't. Unfortunately, a shift change had taken place between call 1 and call 2, so all of the questions and information had to be asked and answered again. Small houses aren't designed for lots of EMT people and their equipment. After rearranging the house, she was put in the ambulance with me close behind. We arrived at the ER at 3:30. I may not have a lot of positive attributes, but one I do have is patience with medical workers. After working in a medical office for 9 years, I understand that medical people are human just like the rest of us. Around 6 hours later, my peaceful easy feeling, as well as my patience with all people in general had just about reached it's maximum capacity. CT scans showed no fractures, therefore the hospital had no reason to admit her into care. In spite of the fact that she could not get up, even with aide, they were going to send her home.... By ambulance! The medical staff was saved by divine intervention and the fact that I had mistakenly taken my Mom's medication; I promise, that and sheer exhaustion is the only thing that kept me from a volcanic explosion. Dad and I are trying to find our rythmn again and Monday morning I'll set about the task of tackling the medical professionals again.... Until then, this is my life.

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Today Mom goes back to the doctor. I'm hoping they have the pathology report back, but I fear all we'll get is her staples taken out (insert frowny face here). As I got ready for worked this morning, I stood in Momma's room and chatted with Mom and Dad. Daddy had indulged in several cups of coffee and could "Thread a sewing machine with it running" (his words not mine). He was peppering Mom with questions ("You want to put your pants on? You want to eat something?") which only irritates her after a while because she doesn't drink several cups of coffee. Honestly the man has more energy that should be legal. I asked him if he would put some of the potato soup I made in a container so I could take it for lunch. He scurried off to the kitchen happy to have been given a task. He asked if I needed a spoon and after a little thought (I couldn't remember if we have plastic spoons at work) I told him yes. I kissed both of them goodbye, told them I would pick them up this afternoon to go to the doctor and headed out the door. On the way to work I thought about that spoon. I'm terrible about bringing containers and stuff home. Dad's ubber conscientious so I began the mental mantra telling myself to "bring the spoon home with you... bring the spoon home with you". Getting the spoon and container home would take this constant mantra, as well as several stickie notes, an alert on my computer as well as an alert on my phone. I should have just left the spoon at home. When I got to work I took my lunch out of the bag so I could place it in the fridge. I looked at the spoon and realized it was one of the old spoons.... Like their spare set. He didn't send me an old spoon by accident, he sent it because he knows me so well. That in itself will give me the determination I need to get the spoon back to him ASAP. LOL!

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

When I think of New Year’s Day, I think of laughter, fun and the great expectation of what wonders await me in the coming year. This year New Year’s wasn’t approached with my usual anticipation, but rather dread of the foreboding unknown. I never actually considered skipping the usual tradition, but I wasn’t looking forward to it as I usually do.My friends encouraged me it would be a good day and my friends were right. As usual, the day was spent

playing games, telling jokes, lot of laughter and love. I had the opportunity to get a baby love fix with some sweet chubby kisses and even a dirty diaper change. Regardless of what 2014 holds, I know for certain it will be filled with God’s grace and His supreme ability to strengthen me as well of those I hold dear.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

I’m a little behind on my 2013 posts. I’ve been a little
distracted lately, but I think with this one, I’ll be all caught up. Last year
we began a new tradition with our friends; we went Christmas caroling. We had
such a good time we decided to make it an annual event. I LOVE CHRISTMAS CAROLS
(okay, I’ll stop shouting now), but I do love them, especially Dean Martin. I
wanted to start listening to them in October, but I decided I would make myself
wait until after Thanksgiving, then I walked into some co-workers office before
Thanksgiving and they were listening to them so I just couldn’t help but to jump
on the Christmas Carol bandwagon. If you asked me to name a favorite serious
Christmas Carol, I couldn’t do it because there are so many great ones. When I
was in high school choir, Carol of the Bells was one of my favorites. I loved
it because it had so many parts that crossed over each other, that it was like
weaving a intricate tapestry. Mrs. Rose, the choir director, was so poised and
beautiful. I remember watching her hands as she directed the song, bringing
certain groups in and out, up and down as it would crescendo to a beautiful end.
We had to stay on our toes and watch her every move to have it come out right,
but it did, and oh boy was it a fun song to sing. The way we our caroling is,
each person picks a Christmas Carol and picks who they want to surprise with
caroling. Last year, my song was “I Want
a Hippopotamus for Christmas”, which I love, love, love!!!! It’s a fun song and
it makes me happy, so that’s the song I chose this year too. I know Christmas
week is a busy week for everyone. We had some that couldn’t be with us because
they were having Christmas early. We had some that wanted to skip caroling because
they were stressed, or had to wrap, or a had hundred other things calling out
for attention right before Christmas. But, like good friends do, we
collectively guilted them with a million
text messages, until they were succumbed by peer pressure (peer pressure isn’t
always a bad thing). While we were
waiting for everyone to show up (or cave in as the case may be), I had to
endure peer pressure of my own. SOME people don’t think “I Want a Hippopotamus
for Christmas” as a Christmas Caroling worthy song. I beg to differ, oh yes I do, and stood my
ground because dang it, I wanted to do a happy fun song! Hey, I was dealing
with my own little package of Christmas stress, just like everyone else and
when I’m stressed, nothing makes it better than a laugh or a smile. The main
complaint was we butchered the song because not everyone knows it (or loves it)
as well as I do. Okay granted, many were unfamiliar with it last year because
it was our first time to carol, and maybe we do butcher it a little, but no
worse than we butcher “Silent Night” which we could sing in our sleep. It’s not
like we’re especially gifted in the singing department. We have a couple who can
sing, but to my knowledge, none of us have albums out there or people clamoring
at our door to open for Mariah Carey. We’re just a motley crew of friends who
want to spread some Christmas cheer and if we have a good time doing it, all
the better and nothing screams good time like “I Want a Hippopotamus for
Christmas”! Our stop was at my parent’s house. I helped Dad get Mom out to the
porch then joined the group. They all whispered for me to start us off, but tears
were streaming down my cheeks…. “Don’t cry, don’t cry” I told myself over and
over, but I couldn’t stop it and I certainly couldn’t start us off because even
my speaking voice sounds like a pipsqueak when I’m crying. Finally, someone saw
I couldn’t do it, and began the happy tune for me. I never got the tears to
stop, but I’ll never forget the sight of them standing there watching our
motley crew butcher “I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas”.

Monday, January 6, 2014

New Year’s Eve was my Mom’s 78 birthday. Like many who have birthdays right around the holidays, her birthday can get lost in the holiday shuffle. This year everyone went above and beyond to make sure it was a birthday to remember. My Aunts and Uncle and Cousin from Allen, came for a little visit and a pizza party. The plan was to party like it was 1999, but none of them knew what that meant, so we partied like it was 2013 and pretended orthopedic shoes were in style. I got off work just in time to take a walk, pick up a birthday cake and order some pizzas. When I went to the store to get a cake, my choices were limited to say the least. They had two cakes that were not frozen; one was a Happy New Year’s cake and the other a Duck Dynasty cake. I just couldn’t see Mom with a Duck

Red Aunt

Dynasty cake complete with three bearded men on it. I selected a blank cake that was frozen and had them write… “Happy Birthday Beautiful”.When I got home, I was hurrying around trying to get everything together (including myself), I needed a quick way to thaw the frozen cake without melting it.I knew the oven would melt the icing so the only thing I could think of was…. The dryer. I ran to the basement, put the shoe shelf in the dryer and placed the cake on it. I thought about the plastic cover for about 2.5 seconds before deciding to leave it one because wanted to thaw it, not dry it out even more than a store bought cake tends to be anyway. I turned the dryer on, ran upstairs to change. When I was ready, I went to the dryer and looked inside. The cake was intact, but the cover was not. The cover had shriveled up like a shrinky dink (way back in the day), taking some of the pretty border with it. I took the cake upstairs and pondered over how to fix it. The border that had stuck to the cover was in pretty good shape, so I got a knife and

carefully scraped the border off and put it back on the cake. The cake looked like a finger or two had gotten a good taste of the icing, but that’s totally normal for any cake has been in my hands, so nothing would seem amiss.We feasted on pizza (like it was a roast beasta) and dryer cake. My “Red Aunt”, a name she earned many moons ago when she could still float like a butterfly and sting like a red aunt if you sprayed flocking all over the upstairs bedroom, was ready to get the show on the road because she didn’t want to be out past dark. I asked her if she turned into a pumpkin at dark and she just laughed at me the way she always has (except when her upstairs bedroom got sprayed with a can of flocking).Before everyone left, I got a family photo of this precious birthday memory.

It was a weekend of firsts. Saturday I walked into my
parents home to find my Daddy with his hands completely full of Mom. Both my
parents are 78 years old and Daddy is the energizer bunny. By 8 a.m., he has
had 8 cups of coffee. His energy reminds me so much of my oldest son’s energy.
Even when they are sitting perfectly still, there is an aura of energy that penetrates
from the core of their being. Maybe I should drink 8 cups of coffee before 8 a.m...
I rushed into Mom’s room to help Dad move her. He told me what a rough night it
had been. I looked him straight in the eyes and told him he would have no more
rough nights alone. Saturday I packed my bags, bid my dogs’ good bye and moved around
the corner into my parent’s house. Leaving
home was harder than I expected, I suppose it brought the magnitude of the
situation closer to home…. Literally. I had done so well up to that point. I’ve
had my melting moments, but for the most part I’ve “maintained” a trick one of
my good friends taught me. Saturday night I sobbed as I packed my car. I sobbed
for Mom, I sobbed for Dad, and I sobbed for myself. We agreed the sleeping
schedule would be for me to sleep with Mom on the nights I don’t have to go to
work the next day, with Daddy taking the nights I do have to work. I’m in the
bedroom next to her so a quick knock will bring help to whoever has night duty.
My brother got to visit Saturday. It was so sweet watching him lie with her
tell her how much he loved her. She enjoyed the visit and slept well Saturday
night. Sunday morning Dad and I were able to get her up and to the table for
two bites of breakfast. When we got her back to bed she was exhausted and began
to have the worst pain she has had since the night of the surgery. We finally
got her pain under control and she slept all day and through most of the
night.Dad slept with her last night and
they were both awake this morning while I got ready for work. I primped in the
mirror hanging on her door so we could chat. Finally I was dressed, had my high
heel boots on and was ready to head out the door when I heard Dad’s call for
help….. Duty was calling (both at work and at home) but my first priority was
lying on the bed. Dad and I have become like a well trained ice skating couple.
It’s amazing how quickly you learn tricks of the trade when push comes to
shove. Every day we learn a new trick to make the flow a little easier and
every day things change which means we keep learning new tricks. I’m the one in
charge of getting Mom up off the bed. Dad has a bad back, so I put my arms
under moms and tell her to hug tight, then on the count of three I lift and she
helps as much as she can. Murphy’s Law indicates that being straight up 8, this
wasn’t going to be a quick change and it certainly wasn’t. As I held Mom like a
baby, patting her back and trying to make her laugh, Dad did the dirty
business. I thought to myself…. “I’ve been here before, except the ones I held
in my arms then, was much smaller and didn’t have the sense of humor Mom still
has.” Finally everything was as it
should be and as Dad tidied up the room I tucked Mom back in bed. I told her I’d
see her for a few minutes on my lunch hour and kissed her goodbye. I grabbed my
purse and headed for the door when I noticed someone through the frosted glass
in the door, trying to get in. I opened the door and barely recognized one of
my best friends bundled up in a hoodie holding me a cup of coffee through the
crack in the door. Before I had a chance to say hi, she put the coffee in my
hand and said… “When you’re bogged down
in ugly, remember the beautiful.” We walked to the car, I was a little so
shocked at the sweet gesture, I couldn’t say anything except thanks and I love
you. She repeated it again and then said…. “I’m
going to keep reminding you of the beautiful things while you’re going through
this.” I smiled through the tears, got in my car with my perfect cup of
coffee, just the way I like it and headed to work. Who knew a perfect cup of
coffee could be so beautiful during the most difficult of times?It’s not the big and flashy acts of love or eloquent
words wisdom that give me strength; It’s the tiniest act, the slightest notion
that someone understands that the journey I’m on cannot be fixed or changed,
but can be made bearable by the knowledge that there are better days ahead. The
skies will not remain dark forever… Some day soon the clouds will break and the
sun (Son) will shine again. Until then, I’m thankful for the prayers of others,
encouraging words and a perfect cup of coffee. Life is good, friends are
better.

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About Me

Life is a roller coaster of emotions..... At least for this girl. If I feel it, more than likely you'll know it. I LOVE surprises and detest disappointment. Since life is filled with both, I've learned to roll with it. I suffered a mild traumatic brain injury in 2010. The journey back to being me has been a long lonely journey. Life keeps changing and I keep changing with it.