For starters, I am new to Findoms.com—well, I am new to the Findom scene altogether. Quite frankly, I am not ashamed to admit that. It is one of the reasons that prompted me to write this blog post. I’d like to first and foremost thank everyone who has been so welcome, kind, and helpful since I have joined. It really has made the beginning of this journey much easier and more enjoyable.

As you can tell from the title, I was living in a vanilla world—cue Aqua’s Barbie Girl—and I was struggling. Mentally, emotionally, and physically. I was in and out of relationships, all with Alphas males—gag—and I was not finding any excitement in my life. I was living in a drought. Then one day, while aimlessly swiping left on Tinder, I received a match with a guy whom I swiped right on a few days prior. Turns out, he was on Tinder for his friend, we’ll call him “Joe”, and Joe is a sub who was looking for a Financial Dominatrix. When the friend explained this to me, I had no idea what Financial Domination was, let alone what it all entailed. Naturally, I Googled the term, and one article after another, I became enthralled. What intrigued me wasn’t the monetary exchange, although that was a glistening catch, I was mainly intrigued that these beautiful, strong women had the confidence and wherewithal to simply make a man grovel at his knees and bend at her every will. Many of you Dommes on here probably don’t understand why that is so fascinating to me, but here is why I think it is to me.

I have dreamt and wished of having half the confidence that many of you ladies posses, but I have realized since joining this site, and chatting with all walks of people, that I do have that confidence—and I am more than worthy to be worshiped like the Goddess I am. That doesn’t mean that I am going to sink my teeth into every sub that passes by. It means that I know now that my body is a temple, my time is of an essence, and NO MAN will disrespect either of those things.

I know there are different types of submissives, and I want to learn about each one. I want to learn what makes their brain, dick, and kinks tick, and then I want to use it as a weapon. It’s exhilarating knowing that I have that power, and this whole time, it’s been buried and waiting to come out.