He promised to marry me, He said we will get married, He said I’m the only one for him and said he would propose to me…
He said he loves me and will marry me but didn’t pop the question! Yen yen yen!!
I know… stop crying.. unfortunately what you are looking for “sympathy” isn’t here, as I’m not in the business of sympathizing with people, meet your therapist for that.

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I chose this topic due to some certain reasons best known to me and also because we’ve seen men turn many Nigerian ladies to Lords of the rings.. where they decorate them with beautiful engagement rings and years gone down the lane, the man reneges on his promise to Marry the lady.. It can pain ehn! I mean WakandaMan is that?

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So dear Ladies, let’s drink a bottle of Orijin in advance for what I’m about to say to you. you can sue that guy for promising to marry you and then NOT marrying you in turn.. why? Well… because this is a BREACH! So technically in our legal Lingua, there’s already a “Breach Of Promise to Marry” Yes! I know it sounds absurd yeah? But it’s the truth… promising to marry someone is a social contract and the failure to carry out that obligation is a breach which Is punishable with a Remedy (in form of damages).

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That is to say unequivocally that under the lens and jurisdiction of the Nigerian law, an agreement or a promise to marry a person is viewed as a legally binding contract, and if a party can succinctly prove that there was in fact a promise to marry, and the other party reneges, then a legal action / claim can be made out of this.

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I’m sure somewhere in your head, you are thinking “is this one mad? What am I taking legal actions for against someone who says he doesn’t want to marry me again?”. In truth you are right, but the role of the court in this is to ensure that justice is served and the aggrieved and injured party is well Compensated for the damaged caused by the person who breached the promises to marry.

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So how can I even know if I will win my case that he promised to marry me ?

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It’s simple, here are facts that needs to be proved for you to have a strongly Built case, as he who asserts MUST proof:

1- That there was indeed a promise to marry

Now ladies, don’t get this confused.. you both discussed sunrise in the Bahamas and sunset in Alabama doesn’t mean he has promised to marry you. You both discussing possibilities of growing old together in future and watching your grand kids play golf while you sip a bottle of “ Domaine de la Romanee-Conti” on the golf course isn’t a promise to marry.

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The best and most viable way to show that there was indeed an actual promise to Marry is by showing that the baby boy did put a ring on it… Sure Beyoncé gave you all that advice already. You will need as much evidence as possible to corroborate this evidence as possible, simply because he could deny it and claim that he was coerced, and you must prove beyond reasonable doubt that he willfully proposed to you.

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Evidence like photos and videos of him proposing, receipt of payment for Ring, voice recordings, Text messages, emails, letters sent etc would do well to prove that there was truly an intention to marry.

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2- The other party must have defaulted and failed to honor his promise to marry you.
The fact that he decided to shift the wedding date or postpone the agreed wedding doesn’t necessarily mean he has reneged on his promise, however in some obviously apparent event, where he has postponed the wedding severally and deliberately, you can claim that the Party has failed to honored the promise, as it is evidential that the party doesn’t want to forge ahead with the marriage.

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What are the types of Damages that can be awarded in this type of civil claim?

– Damages for loss of finances if any was invested by the other party towards the promised marriage. Finances like Aso- ebi, wedding gowns and suit, bridal shower, bridal train gown, rental of hall, airplane and hotel booking expense etc
– Damages in compensation for injury to the health of the aggrieved party
Hope you have been able to learn one or two things from today’s teaching..

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Instagram is testing a feature that will show users when someone else takes a screenshot of their story. Users included in the test are getting a warning that the next time they take a screenshot of a friend’s story the friend will be able to see it.

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And users who are participating in the test can see who took a screenshot of their story by going to the list of story viewers and seeing a new camera shutter logo next to anyone who took a screenshot of their photo. To be clear, creators won’t get a specific notification when someone takes a screenshot of their story, it will only show up in their list of story viewers.

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Instagram is likely using this test to see if the feature has any noticeable impact on engagement, before deciding whether or not they’ll roll it out to all users. For example, there’s a chance that some users may end up watching less stories over time if they aren’t able to take screenshots without notifying the creator.

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Prior to this test the only screenshot notifications on Instagram were when someone took a screenshot of a private direct message. Anyone could take a screenshot of someone’s photo or story without notifying the creator. Notably, users can rewatch stories as many times as they want within 24 hours, with the creator unable to see exactly how many times one person watched it.

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If rolled out, this feature would essentially align Instagram with Snapchat in terms of how the platform deals with screenshots. Any screenshot of a direct message triggers a notification to the sender, but a screenshot of a story will just result in a notation being placed next to the offender’s name in the viewer analytics tab.

Today, Friday 24th of November is an amazing day in Ede Kingdom as sons and daughters of Ede join the rest of the world to celebrate the birthday of Queen Abdulsalam Aishat Yetunde, the Queen of Ede kingdom.

Fast Rising producer and actress, Ronke Adeniyi had much to say about career, projects and culture when she bumped into one of our correspondent. Read more from the exclusive chat below.

WHO IS RONKE ADENIYI?Ronke Adeniyi is the second child in a family of five, I am a native of Oyo state, born and raised in Ibadan. I am a producer, screen writer and an actress. I had my primary education at Kinder Land Nursery and Primary school. I attended the Polytechnic High School and then going further to obtain a National Diploma Certificate at The Polytechnic Ibadan. I also studied a two years course in Performing Arts at Mui Authentic Sch of Drama. Currently, I am an undergraduate at the National Open University of Nigeria.

TELL US THE GENESIS OF YOUR ACTING

I use to run a drama group in my church then. One day, a friend of mine in church who is also an actress invited me to her location. I met Muyiwa Ademola and he fell in love with my acting at the venue. As a new comer who has never faced the camera, he advised me to join his school for proper training and that was how the whole thing started in 2007/2008.

WHAT WAS YOUR DEBUT EXPERIENCE LIKE?

My debut movie was EBURE in 2007. It was a bit challenging because this was the first time I am facing the camera and meeting one on one with superstars. However, I enjoyed every bit of it,trust me I did well. Thanks to my boss, Muyiwa Ademola who encouraged me.

WHICH OTHER MOVIES HAVE YOU FEATURED IN?

I have featured in a lot of films I can’t remember; IKU EWA, OYENUSI, JEMIRIYE, OGEDEDUDU, IRANRAN, FOOL’S PARADISE, ATORI, WOTO, ORISIRISI and so on.

SO FAR. WHICH OF THE ROLES THAT YOU HAVE PLAYED DID YOU FIND CHALLENGING?

None of the movies I have done is challenging. I am looking forward to a challenging role in a movie

TELL US ABOUT YOUR PRODUCTION PROFILEI am the producer of SIKEMI, IBOJU, AJAGA and OUR WIFE (AYA WA). OUR WIFE (AYA WA) is my latest project and it is out now.

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS?I have never been married but I have two kids

WHO ARE THE DIRECTORS YOU ARE LOOKING TO WORK WITH IN FUTURE?Kunle Afolayan, frank Rajah, Tade Ogidan and a whole lot of them

DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF AS AN ACTRESS WHO HAS ARRIVED IN THE INDUSTRY?

No, I am not there yet but by His Grace am going to get there sooner than expected.

WHAT DO YOU LIKE ABOUT THE YORUBA CULTURE?

I admire the Yoruba culture because it is very interesting and original. The beauty of the yoruba culture is endearing that even other countries are interested in it.

YOUR WORDS TO UPCOMING ACTS

Rome was not built in a day, to be a successful actress you have to be patient , you have to be able to endure, don’t be desperate and be consistent.

Nollywood actress and producer, Abiola Tilewa shares the movie journey, past and upcoming projects and also weighs in her thought on the issue of cyberbullying in this chat with Emiralty Africa. Read more below:

TELL US ABOUT YOURSELF?

Abiola Tilewa is the 3rd child in a family of 6. I am from Ogun state. I studied Business Administration at the Lagos City Polytechnic.

HOW DID YOU START ACTING?Acting has always been a passion for me while growing up. However, an opportunity was given to me by an Aunt (Lola Alao) to feature in her movie titled Aseoluwa in year 2000 and that is how it started.

TELL US ABOUT THE MOVIES YOU HAVE FEATURED IN?

I featured in Ojo Merinla, Aseoluwa, Oro, For the love of you ( a soap opera by WAP), Omotara , My Husband My Friend.

SO FAR, WHICH OF THE ROLES THAT YOU HAVE PLAYED DID YOU FIND CHALLENGING AND WHAT DID YOU LEARN FROM IT?

My Husband My Friend was challenging since I have been out of the entertainment industry for a while. I learnt the importance of proper communication in a relationship/marriage.THE MOVIES YOU HAVE PRODUCED?

I produced Oro (wealth) in 2008. Recently produced Omotara; A movie about parent interference in their child’s choice of spouse and My Husband My Friend; A movie about some of the challenges couple face in marriage due to lack of proper communication. It is a must watch for every family.WHAT PROJECTS ARE YOU WORKING ON CURRENTLY AND WHICH SHOULD THE FANS EXPECT SOON?

Omotara would be released by 5th of November on Yorubahood Youtube channel. My Husband My Friend would be released afterwards. Date will be communicated soon

WHAT IS YOUR TAKE ON CYBERBULLYING?Cyberbullying is now a norm across various social media platforms. It is an act that should not be encouraged.YOUR WORDS TO UPCOMING ACTS?

​In this exclusive chat with Emiralty’s Ayo Adams, Actor Abimbola Kazeem popularly known as “Jigan” bare it all about growing up, career motivation and upcoming projects.

JIGAN AND HIS FAMILY BACKGROUND

I am Abimbola Kazeem also known as Jigan, born and bred in Somolu Bariga, Lagos state. I am from a family of eight; four girls and two boys, I am the fifth child, lost my mom some years back, but my father is alive supporting me everyday with prayers.

Meanwhile, Jigan is a personality that you can’t have a dull moment with when you are around him, he is full of life and has a big heart.

EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND?

I had my primary education at Odunlade primary school, furthered to Morrocco comprehensive Igbobi college, and Olabisi Onabanjo University where I studied business administration.

HOW I STARTED ACTING

I started as a musician, and courtesy of shows, I met the likes of Kunle Afod, Baba tee, Sodiq Adebayo, Funsho Adeolu and Lala Oladapo. Steadily, I built relationships with them and the journey kicked off in the process.

However, Sodiq Adebayo introduced me to the Adebayo family, That was how I met Oga Bello, Femi Adebayo and Tope Adebayo, I was under mentorship yet a family friend.

YOU HAVE NOT RELEASED ANY SINGLE IN A LONG TIME, DOES THAT IMPLY YOU FINALLY DROPPED MUSIC FOR ACTING?

No, I dropped a couple of singles and even videos, a musical video directed by Rymzo and another by Akin Alabi, I am still doing both, I compose sound tracks for movies. Infact, I composed soundtrack for Bolowoyokun; one of my movies set to be released this Saturday, I am dropping my album early next year by His grace.

THE BRAND “JIGAN” IS GROWING MORE POPULAR IN THE INDUSTRY, WHAT BROUGHT THE NAME?

I got the name from the role I played in a movie titled “Ijewuru”, produced by Babatunde bernard (Babatee).

WHAT INFLUENCE HAS THE NAME HAD IN YOUR CAREER GROWTH?

Actually, I need to say a big thank you to the producer of the movie, the name changed alot of things in my career, the movie/name gave me the push to limelight.

YOUR DEBUT MOVIE AND OTHER MOVIES YOU HAVE FEATURED IN?

I started acting far back as 2006/2007, I featured in Mr Kola, a production of Okiki Afolayan as directed by Funsho Adeolu. Some other movies I have starred include: Jelili, Igba, Ita, Agidi, Arewa Oru, and I am also the producer of Ajasa.

TELL US ABOUT THE PROJECTS YOU ARE WORKING ON CURRENTLY?

Bolowoyokun would be released this Saturday on Libra TV YouTube Channel, Baba Oja and Asiyan are currently in the production process, I and my crew are working relentlessly to bring the best to the screen.

BEING IN THE INDUSTRY, WHAT HAS BEEN THE CHALLENGES TO YOU?

I have faced alot of challenges, but I am growing through them.

TELL US ABOUT ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS THAT TOUCHED YOU

Sincerely, if you know me better, nothing gets to me, all the challenges that I have faced are fun and lessons to me.

DOES YOUR PHYSICAL STATE POSE AS A CHALLENGE TO YOUR WORK?

Yes it does, somehow restricting me from playing some certain roles, but I am doing my home work to make sure as an actor i can play any role and with God all things are possible

LOOKING BACKWARDS, IS THEIR A STORY BEHIND THE PHYSICAL STATE?

Yes, I heard in a story by my late mom that a particular nurse “Mama David” gave me an injection on the wrong part and that was how I was crawling for more than 2years, my mom spent almost her last earnings to make me walk better. So far so good, I am thankful to God He gave me a loving family, I love them and I will continue to make them proud.

IN THE INDUSTRY, WHO INSPIRE AND MOTIVATE YOUR WORKING CULTURE?

If the likes of Funsho Adeolu, Kunle Afod, Lala Oladapo did not accept my friendship then, I may not have the opportunity of meeting the Adebayo family who paved way for me in the industry, they all inspire me. I love all my friends and colleagues, they are wonderful.

YOUR WORDS FOR UPCOMING ACTORS SCARED TO STEP OUT OF THEIR COMFORT ZONE?

First thing they need is humility,it is very important and be friendly with everyone in the entertainment world, if you adhere, you are a star.