hi, can anyone advise me on the following problem I'm having with social services who are insisting that my mother has a carer come round every morning..

Because of the distress it casing my mother getting up in the mornings , i been asked by the carer to get mum out of bed so she can wash her ,,,

Now my argument is this , firstly my mother does not want this, she getting quite distress about it , lashing out , they always remarked that if my mother doesn't want to do it whatever that may be we cannot force her ...

They forcing her to wash in the mornings..
Secondly my mother is always clean.. I can manage to wash her or supervise her when washing without causing her any distress..

One last question I cannot find a any helpful information to : what rights does my mother have because she been classified a vulnerable adult ?

I have no experience or advice to offer, but it does seem crazy that they can't tailor the visits, maybe arriving later to give you a break instead if you can managing the getting up, washing and dressing? I hope you can get some satisfaction from social services.

Vulnerable people can have an advocate who can speak on their behalf. They try and ascertain the views of the vulnerable person by communicating with them, observing them, talking to those involved with their care (carers and care workers) etc This may be worth a try. This would be coming at it from a different angle, as it wouldn't be you arguing for a different care package but your Mum and her advocate.

Melly1

I care for S, who is 27. (I have cared for him since he was 9.) He has classic autism, epilepsy, IBS & sensory modulation difficulties. When he is anxious his behaviour can be challenging, he communicates using a Dynavox.

How does the law stand on this?
Are you obliged to actually let them in the door of your home, if you and your mother don't want them there?
Exactly WHO decided that the assistants should come every day?
It's YOU who says when during which days you need help, surely?

Sorry for all the questions, just thought I'd ask. It's not right that they should hoist themselves on the pair of you if you don't need them to, at inconvenient times when you can cope, and not at the times when you can't.

Robin ring the helpline on here and get a free 30 minute call back from a specialist. I feel and understand your frustrations as we, too, are having negative interventions here rather than them attempting to resolve matters. I don't understand their attitude at all, other than being power crazy loons with a high opinion of themselves!!

They will continue to throw their weight around if you don't stand up for yourself, establish your rights and make them do things properly. You can deny anybody access unless there is a warrant issued and a court order, it is your and your Mum's home and lives here, not theirs.

Hi, some great advise from the 0800 number however Social Services aren't listering ,

First of all I have made it clear mother is getting distressed by the morning visits... and she remarked no in front of the Social Worker...

Secondly, i asked asked for another Carer assessment because things have changed for me and my mother..

Again refused

The social worker in question asked to see mother bedroom and bathroom and kitchen, she made some very nasty remarks...and I refused the kitchen... I haven't had change to do nay housework for over a week..

I 'm now going to refuse access to the social worker as the stress they are creating is simply too much at times.. I will consult with the excellent adviceline once more so i know what the outcome could be ...