BRIDESMAIDS: WHO TO CHOOSE?

“Choosing your Bridal party is one of the primary decisions you will make as a bride. These girls will be by your side through the entire wedding process and help you stay calm the day of. When making the decision, you want to make sure you are choosing wisely. If you follow these few steps you are sure to make the best decisions for your big day. Weddings are a lot of work. You are about to host what may just be the biggest party you’ll ever throw. Your attendants are meant to be your team, your helpers, in this ambitious endeavor. There are a lot of reasons not to pick someone as your bridesmaid. A sense of obligation is one reason. Picking only those who will look good in your chosen bridesmaid dress is another.”

OK, so you’ve decided to get married. You’ve chosen the engagement ring, flashed it about a bit, and told your family and friends your happy news. Then it strikes you – who will you have as your bridesmaids? How many? What will they do? What happens if you have too many? ARGH!

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BRIDESMAIDS: WHO TO CHOOSE?

OK, so you’ve decided to get married. You’ve chosen the engagement ring, flashed it about a bit, and told your family and friends your happy news. Then it strikes you – who will you have as your bridesmaids? How many? What will they do? What happens if you have too many? ARGH!

It’s a common dilemma and one that we often see on our forums. Problems range from the best friend who is lovely but lonely and a little, shall we say, jealous, to the expectations of your family who decide that little Joe’s cousin’s daughter twice removed has never been a flower girl and this is her ONLY CHANCE.

Before you know where you are, instead of the two close friends you envisaged, you have a team of very small, confused little girls in frocks who you hardly know and probably won’t meet again until they are 18. Believe me, girls, it happens!
SO, deep breaths ladies. How DO you choose?

Well, a bridesmaid is not only a pretty prop for the wedding pictures, she is also there to DO a JOB. And it’s an important one. She’s the one who will help you plan the day, come with you to fittings, listen when the stress of organising the reception overwhelms you, and be there when you want to talk.

On the day itself, she will calm your nerves, make you drink your tea through a straw so you don’t smudge your makeup, tell you how stunning you look and give you the 360 degree once over to make sure there is no VPL and that you have your shoes on the right feet.