Where do you fall on "forgetting&quot; contraception?

DH and I have been together over 8 years, 2 DC together. After most recent DC (now 5 months) he was the one to inform me initially that my consultant said it would be "inadvisable" for me to try to carry any more DCs " (which has since been relayed to me). We are currently waiting for me to get my IUD fitted so are using condoms (tried the POP, made me murderous!). DH indicated that he was "dressed" when he wasn't. He doesn't think this is a big deal as I "could just take the morning after pill."

I'm so fucking angry I can't even string together an answer, therefore he thinks I'm over-reacting. So am I over-reacting? Or if a man says's he's covered, should you believe him without inspection?

Where do I stand? To me, it is pretty much THE unforgivable sin. I would be pressing the restart button on the relationship (not the end button). He needs to explain what on earth was going through his head.

Why was it him who had the information about your health, and not you?

Really, really awful. I feel this way when both men and women lie about contraception. I would be absolutely furious, I think it would be just about one of the worst things, worse than him sleeping with someone else. And after your dr told you it was inadvisable for you to conceive - unbelievable.

The very same thing happened to me OP. He went off to put one on, came back, all was dandy and then afterwards was like "oops I forgot. You shoulda checked". I mean WTF?! It puts you in this position of not trusting what they say/do in bed which is awful because the whole thing of having sex is mutual trust.

I was so mad I refused to speak to him until he had gone to the doctors and got a full range of tests! I was so sick of being the one to suffer the embarrassment after the man's so-called slip-ups. Why should I?

And that's without the medical aspect of your situation. I'd be livid. Seriously, if you can't trust your DH in bed where can you trust him?

Assange is being accused of rape for this very thing. It is a crime in this country too. You might want to point that out to him.

MAP has a failure rate too.

He has played fast and loose with your health for his orgasm. I would be incandescent with rage. Who the fuck does he think he is? Why did he feel entitled to do that? What else does he feel entitled to do?

Yep - the Assange case is rape, what a fucking prick. I wouldn't be sleeping with him again unless he has the snip. or, i'd probably be considering weather I still wanted to be in a relationship with someone who had so little respect for my health and feelings - all so he could get off on it.

I thought this was going to be about missing a pill. I do this on occasion and ALWAYS tell DH upfront because why on earth wouldn't you? I tell him even if it's a "safe" window to miss one because I want him to be aware if the protection is even a tiny bit compromised so we can decide together if it's worth using something extra (or avoiding entirely) or not.

He sounds wildly misinformed about the MAP if he thinks it's no big deal, it's not even as reliable as standard forms of contraception. However, this isn't really the issue. It's a bit like whacking you over the head and then saying "Oh, sorry, I thought it wouldn't matter because if you had a headache you could just take a painkiller."