Should I call...or wait for him to call me

I've been seeing a guy I really like for about 3 weeks. Things started off really great, and he texted me/called me first regularly, and would say stuff like he couldn't wait to hang out again, and that he had missed me. I also called/texted him and it seemed like a balanced give/take.

Lately he's stopped calling first, and a few things have happenned that makes me think he might be losing interest. Normally that would make me want to call him more...but I haven't. I REALLY want to call him and it's killing me that I haven't talked to him in 5 days. So should I call....or just ignore him...I don't want to push him away by being too needy, but at the same time I'm afraid if I don't call he'll think I've lost interest and move on...ahhh

I listened to a radio show about this same topic and to be quite honest each person is different and if you feel 5 days is too long then you need to call/txt and ask about things.

The radio show went on to mention that if they just 'really aren't that into you' then they will mention how busy they have been with nothing in particular and will call you back at an unset date. Give it a day or two after and pretty much all bets are off.

Although it's not an exact science to the 'game' thing is every person is different. Find something that will make it easier for you in the end.

Somewhere there is a boy wondering why a certain Mr.SandDunes hasn't called.

If he lost interest you will find out. If he is interested he might be pining away waiting for that call. Or maybe he is tied up in his basement while angry roustabouts make quiche. You really aren't going to know unless you call.

Dude... you are a fine looking man... give him a call, I'm sure he'd be pleased to hear from you... 5 days is a long time if you've only been seeing him for 3 weeks... like the others said, he'll avoid making plans with you if he's not interested... remember you have no idea what's going on in his life, maybe he was dating two guys at the same time and the other one's been calling? who knows... good question tho, i often wonder what other people think in this situation... it's actually a sad indictment that seems to be characteristic of the gay world that someone can see someone for weeks then end it by just not calling anymore... i've been guilty of it in the past but more recently have tried not to do that... that said i'm still single... so take my advice as you see fit!

call him and invite him to something specific. Not anything like "I have planned a romantic evening, you will cross the threshold at my abode and champagne will be waiting and I will be in a tuxedo..." but more like "hey I was going to go to play racquetball, do you have an interest this Thursday?" Something matter of fact with a common interest, and invite him to hang out. And just hang out. It is a great no pressure way to reconnect. Give him time to see you as a buddy, a friend, and he might like what he sees if there is no pressure for anything else. By inviting him to something that he is likely to do anyway, you are making the effort to keep it going in a non threatening way.

If he turns you down, then just ask him up front. Just make it very matter of fact, no emotional tones. Say something like, "Hey listen, before I let you go, I just have to ask, is it that you are just too busy, or [you can tell me] are you just not interested; I am OK either way, I just don't want to waste either of our time."

There's kind of an expiration date to the texting and calling after a date When you first meet someone it's fun and you get some useful information from it toobut after awhile it gets to be a chorebecause when the other guy texts or calls you feel responsible to call or text backWhen the guy starts not answering lay off the callsand plan another datebecause being face to face will renew the contact that you need .... on the other hand if he is losing interest he'll beg off on that too and you'll get your answer there as well