Kick some rear end? Upd. p.13, 12, 9, lawn tantrum pg 6

I knew this day would come. I can't find my old thread on private DWIL's�with all the background, and I'd been meaning to jump to this side with it. If someone else knows where to find the background, I'd be grateful. Just c&p here or I can c&p it if it's too much work lol.

So DuH just said he was going to take the kids over to his mom and dad this afternoon. I told him no. He asked why. I said because they don't need to be around people who treat their mom like shit, and then mommy gets to sit at home with a big fat fuck you taped to her ass.

He said well then come to. I said not until your mom apologises. I asked him did she or did she not bring over Valentine's day gifts for just you and the kids. He hesitated and said she said the chocolates where for you and DD (she brought over a box of chocolates, a toy car� for DS, and a chocolate fish for DH).

I asked him if he fucking believed that shit. A box of chocolates to share for a 12 year old and her mom? I don't know if she really said that or if he just made it up on the spot. Just one of the many things she has pulled.

Anyway, he said they needed to see them, I said no. He then of course got pissed and unreasonable, jumping in his car slamming it in gear so hard he broke off the handle. Yep. As soon as I don't jump to his wishes he gets pissed. I told him he's obviously choosing his parents over me and he said he's not, but if the kids don't get to see his mom and dad (more like vice versa), there's no point in us even being together.

Huh? How's that for twisted?

So I told him there is one thing happening this week and I'm leaving it up to him to choose which - we're making an appointment with either a marriage counselor or a divorce attorney.

He said fine, but they're going to see them this afternoon. I said no. He almost foamed at the mouth when he snarled at me that if anything happens to his dad�he's going to be fucking pissed if he didn't get to spend time with the kids. I said your dad (collateral damage) is more than welcome to see them here. Then added 'and so is your mom after she apologises, and calls first to ask if it is okay to come over'.

He then�just drove off (to get gas for the lawn mower, he's back already now and cutting the grass). I didn't get a chance yet to tell him that if he's worried about anything happening to his dad (who is in poor health) then he needs to hurry up and make sure his mom gets her act together. Oh yeah, somewhere in that he asked me what I want him to say to her. I told him "how about back the fuck off and respect my wife"? That was right before he drove off, I remember now.

Anyway. I know y'all are probably going to say DON'T DO IT, but I have half a mind to actually go over there with them this afternoon and confront the bitch with my presence. I will be on her ass like white on rice and scare the shit out of her by merely looking at her. And call her out on every damn little thing she does.

I know that's fucking rude though because we're in their house. Maybe I should suggest a 'compromise' to DH and say they can meet us at the park? That way we're not on their turf and I get to show her I'm the main bitch. I don't know. I feel like kicking some ass one way or another. Suggestions?

I haven't seen them since Christmas (except when I slammed the door in her face when she showed up unannounced on Feb 17th with those Valentine's gifts). DH took the kids over there three times between Jan-April for about 2 hours a time on a Sunday afternoon. They haven't seen them since early April.

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Did I mention yesterday that MIL also told me I didn't have the right to walk in here (meaning our house) and do all kinds of things? I asked her what she meant, even though I know. I wanted her to say it, but she didn't.

See the history of the house is DH bought it before me and DD moved here, so he could get stuff done (new kitchen, bathroom) without people (us) living there and get settled in a job. Then we were going to get married and get the visa stuff taken care of, and me and DD move. That's what we did. She's always acted like I was an intruder in my own home... it has been my home since DH bought it, even though we didn't move in until almost 2 yrs later.

It's really creepy how she acts like she's the ex-wife of my husband, and I'm the bitch who married him after her, and am now trying to steal custody of her and DH's child (DS) just to piss her off. That is seriously how she's acting. She creeps me the fuck out.

So the bitch just peed on my territory again. I was about to head out of here with the kids and my parents (who are visiting from overseas since yesterday - yes they stay at a hotel ;-)) when I saw her car by our garage (50 yards from the house) and her standing in the open driver's side door, talking to DH (who was putting the pool away).

WTF. I put the kids back in the house and told them to wait there. Then headed out there, but she was already backing up and leaving (I know 100% sure she did not see me). I'm not sure how long she was there but it was at least five minutes. Went in the garage to talk with DH. So she stopped by to tell him his dad is in the hospital.

His defibrillator stopped or something on Thursday, then he passed out yesterday. He's in the hospital and getting his defibrillator fixed, or whatever they do. I didn't ask a lot, because even though FIL is collateral damage in this whole deal, I didin't want to hear about it, because I was so fucking pissed. WTF bitch she could have called DH and left a voicemail, I'm sure he would have listened to it.

Or FIL could have called, himself. But no, the bitch had to stop by our house unannounced even though I told her to never fucking do it again. So I'm fucking pissed about that. I asked DH what he wanted to do and he said he doesn't know. I told her I'm fine if we went to visit FIL in the hospital as long as MIL isn't there.

DH and his dad are close. His dad's not the problem. If his fucking mom wasn't around, we'd have a great relationship with FIL. I know DH didn't tell her damn ass to GTFO because it was about his dad. We all know this sort of shit can kill his dad any day (or he could live to be 100). So I don't really blame him for not kicking his mom's ass, although this is exactly what she's banking on - something happening to FIL, and us being forced to interact with her.

It's really hard to only CO one half of a married couple (everything we say for you and DH goes for any DW/DW) So, either your DH visits without you and the kids. Or he's collateral damage. I wish there was an in-between but even saying we would love to plan a visit with you seperatly, will cause issues in their marriage -and you shouldn't have an impact on their relationship just like they have no business in yours.

DH seems to be doing fine. He hasn't said anything about it after our initial conversation. I know he will when he's done mulling it over, or he may not say anything at all and continue to BH them.

I'm just so annoyed that there is apparently *nothing* going to stop her from doing WTF she wants and stopping by uninvited unannounced (except possibly being hauled off in cuffs, but she left too quickly for that to happen. Plus she made sure to keep standing in the public road instead of our garage driveway. Bitch is smart). Moving isn't an option for us. I feel like she's freaking winning. :-(