The Biggest Signs That Your Exboyfriend Wants You Back

When you're trying to get back an ex boyfriend, you need to know what's working (and what's not). Recognizing signs that your ex wants you back is an important part of the reconciliation process, as it will boost your confidence and let you know when it's safe to take a few steps forward in his direction.

The signs and signals given off when your ex is ready to reverse the breakup won't always be obvious. Most guys will be guarded about revealing too much of their emotions too soon. Moving forward with repairing the relationship is made easier when you know that your ex is interested again, but it's not something he's going to come right out and say. You need to look for signs that all your hard work in winning him back is finally paying off.

Your Ex Stays In Contact With You

Whenever your ex keeps the lines of communication open with you after breaking up, it's always a good sign. Most exboyfriends who are already thinking of moving on will want to break ties with you as soon as possible, and those no longer interested in you will have even less of a desire to stay in touch. In those two cases you'll need to make some fast moves before your ex loses more interest in dating you again, but even in that type of scenario there are several different ways of bringing him back.

Sending you emails, text-messages, and even making phone calls after your relationship ends is your exboyfriend's way of keeping you "around" in case he changes his mind about things. Of course he'll tell you that he's just being friendly, and may even ask to remain friends with you after the break up. In reality though, friendship has nothing to do with it. It's safe and comforting for him to know where you are and what you're doing while he plays the field and tries to see what else is out there. To prevent him from hooking up with another girl and dating someone new, you should never play the friend. For more about what to do in this situation, read up on Being Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend.

The very fact that your ex still wants to maintain contact is a big indication that he's not ready to let go. If he's returning your emails and phone calls that's good, but if he's the one initiating these types of communication it's an even bigger sign that your ex wants you back. From there you can begin making small moves away from your ex that will increase his interest in you tenfold.

Breakup Reversed goes into this technique in tremendous detail, and shows you exactly what to do and say in order to get your ex chasing you... instead of you chasing him!

Your Ex Always Calls To Check Up On You

Calling to say hello only goes so far, and you can usually tell when your ex is just being friendly or when he's trying to see what you're up to. Any time your ex boyfriend is consistently calling and asking about your daily life, you can bet your ass he's interested in keeping you away from dating someone else.

Jealousy is a huge catalyst for getting back together. If your exboyfriend is nervous about losing you, he's going to want to take you back fairly quickly. Until then, any attempts at following your 'situation' made by your ex boyfriend should be taken as positive signs that he's still interested.

Knowing what to say when your ex calls you on the phone isn't always easy. If you really miss him and want him back, you might come off sounding desperate or needy. This is something you definitely need to avoid, so let his calls go unanswered and allow him to leave a message sometimes. That way you can prepare for what you'll say when you do call him back, which you shouldn't do right away, either. This gives your ex the impression that you've got bigger and better things going on in your life.

Your Ex Stays Very Open About His Own Situation

Before your exboyfriend asks you back out again, he'll need to know that you're available. Coming right out and asking you this will probably leave him a little too vulnerable, so he'll try to feel out your dating status in other ways. One of the more common approaches is to be unnecessarily open about his own situation.

If your ex keeps dropping clues about him still being 'available', he wants you to know it. This is because he wants you to stay available yourself, while he figures out what to do next. Being pointedly open and honest about not dating anyone else is a big sign your ex wants you back. He might not be ready to make a move just yet, but he's definitely laying the groundwork.

You can give your exboyfriend the green light to continue on, but if you want him back quickly? Be intentionally vague about your own dating situation. Don't be so available when he calls, and let him think you're out doing something most of the time he tries to get in touch with you. These small moves will go miles toward hurrying up his decision to reverse the breakup, putting him back in your arms even faster than doing nothing.

Your Ex Boyfriend Comes By To See Or Talk To You

Stopping by to see you, whether at work or home, is a huge sign your ex is just about ready to get back together again. The need to physically see you is a big indication that he's been thinking a lot about you, and is worth much more than a bunch of emails or intermittant phone calls.

If you've been working toward getting your boyfriend back, nothing beats actually seeing him again. While observing the signals and body language given off by your ex boyfriend, make sure that you keep yourself in check. Let him know it's great to see him again, but don't go flying into his arms prematurely. Let your ex state the nature of his visit, and allow him to do most of the talking. You want to make sure that even he knows what he wants first, before making a single move.

In any case, your ex is missing you. He needed to meet up with you to satisfy the urge to know that you're still there, still in the same place he might've left you. Missing and wanting you again is just a step away from getting back together as boyfriend and girlfriend, so be patient. Keep on doing whatever you've been doing, because your ex stopping by to say hello is a huge indication that he wants you back.

Your Ex Starts Asking You To Hang Out Again

There's no such thing as being friends with your ex... regardless of what some people would have you believe. If your ex is still trying to hang out with you even after the break up, he wants one of two things: sex or companionship (and sometimes both). Understanding which thing he's looking for is crucial to handling the situation correctly.

If your exboyfriend is just looking to have sex with you, don't allow yourself to be used. Sleeping with your ex will come during the reconciliation process: it's a natural part of getting back together again. That being said, jumping right into bed with your ex the moment he shows romantic interest in you again could quickly lead to heartache and trouble... especially if you're expecting that it means something significant. And if he's looking for "friends with benefits"? Tell him thanks but no thanks, if you want any chance of getting back together again.

After you break up with someone, platonic friendship can't last. One or more forces would end up pulling you apart the moment either of you started dating someone else. Just as you couldn't be a couple, you can't be friends either - for the same reasons as well as additional ones. Refusing any offers of friendship from your ex boyfriend is the right move, especially since such a refusal will actually make your ex want you back more than ever. If you want your ex back, you need to stay on the romantic side of things... not jump on over into the fantasy land of pretend frienship.

In any case, your ex asking to hang out with you again is a big sign he wants you back. Make sure it's for the right reasons, and take things slow. You should be in no rush at this point: your ex has already expressed an interest in seeing you again, so let everything else play itself out. In rebuilding a future relationship together, this is a good first step.

Your Ex Becomes Emotionally Close To You Again

This is the last stop before getting back together. When your ex's behavior toward you suddenly changes on very emotional levels, it means he's reached a breakthrough in how he feels about you. He's decided that he wants you back, and needs to approach you in such a way that you're ready to receive him. His first move? Reattaching emotionally.

Signs of affection are huge indications that your ex is ready to reconcile. These might take the form of playful flirting at first, but they'll blossom into full-blown emotional and physical actions geared toward getting you to commit. Whether he changed his mind because he missed you, or because another opportunity of his didn't work out - your exboyfriend has decided to give things a second chance, and is trying to let you know.

While you shouldn't jump right back into the way things were, if you want your ex back you should throw him some go-ahead signals of your own. Let him know that you welcome the idea of getting back together, but without coming right out and saying it. Be subtle, but also be firm in your conviction that the two of you can really make a lasting relationship out of giving things a second try.

Easing Back Into A Relationship With Your Ex Boyfriend

Getting back together with someone usually takes some time. As patient as you were with reversing your break up, you don't want to blow it in the last few moments. For this reason you should take things slow, and ease your way back into seeing your ex again.

Together you'll want to build a new relationship even stronger than the last one, and moving too fast can quickly scare him away. You'll have lots of time to catch up on things you missed while you were apart... reuniting with your ex is enjoyable and fun, and you should take the time to savor it slowly.

What If Your Ex Boyfriend Shows None Of These Signs?

All men are different, and some take longer to come around than others. Still, if you've been making all the right moves and haven't yet seen any results when it comes to your ex wanting you back? You might have to change tactics to get things moving in a positive direction.

Certain emotional responses from your ex boyfriend are triggered whenever he thinks about you and the relationship you had. Making sure that all of these responses are positive is a key part of winning back your ex. By pushing the right emotional buttons and playing upon just the right memories of your time together, you can actually get your ex thinking about you even when you're not around. There are methods and techniques designed around this concept that are specifically geared to get him to come back to you.

Below you'll find two of the top relationship repair guides around when it comes to getting back an ex boyfriend. Instantly downloadable, they specialize in reversing your ex's current mindset and creating an environment in which he can't help but start chasing you again.

Both of these guides can help speed up the process of getting back together:

The Magic of Making Upby T.W. Jackson
T.W. Jackson takes you by the hand, showing you exactly what to do and say in order to win back your ex boyfriend.

Breakup Reversedby Robert Parsons
For the girl who thinks getting her boyfriend back is hopeless, Breakup Reversed offers a unique approach that generates positive, instant results.

Geared to begin working quickly, this guide also includes Robert Parson's legendary reconnection technique - the one that's already helped thousands of couples get back together again.