and i might actually steal your line in a few weeks when i'll be forced to spend some time with my lovely [/sarcasm] BIL who has been known to make disparaging remarks about other people's weight issues. previously i said to him icily to stop, and the next time he tried to say somethign i got up from the table, so he nonpologized to me ("you don't have a sense of humor!").

I am going to join the chorus - especially about the way you interacted with Aunt Bitterhag. You were polite yourself; all you did was to question her about what she herself had said. It was her own words that "did her in"!