emotional baggage

What do you do when you find out the guy you’re dating has been married before? Do you hit the brakes? Worry that he may have too much baggage? I tell you what: You should be far more afraid of the dudes with zero baggage. I personally have never trusted someone who travels a little too light. You want a real grown-up man? Date a divorced guy. They know two things: what it’s like to love and what it’s like to lose. Two very critical lessons. And if he has kids? Great. Even better. He has learned that there is something more important than him. He knows what it is to be humbled by love and to put other people first. One of the most serious boyfriends of my adult life was divorced, or divorcing (he’d been separated a year). I hadn’t dated anyone in that situation prior, and I found it refreshing to date a grown man with commitments and obligations. When you’re in your 20s and dating 20-somethings (which, full disclosure, I still do from time to time), you realize what’s missing-they’re all hope, no miles. But when I started dating this divorced man in his late 30s, read more