i think its more about the reputation of being sexy, and the language...
i think deep down there is no 100% anything, including straightness, gayness and even "relationships" thats why some people still dont mind giving it a try, u never know who ur heart beats to or ur **** throbs to

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Why is it that some men wont take no for an answer?.I tell them Im living with my guy and they sill keep coming on.One guy said.Hey I wont tell anyone.Geesh.

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Oh t-h-a-n-k-s Jason for telling everybody our secret! I told you I was just caught up in the moment when I spotted you on the beach in that hot red Speedo and dont usually act like that! Im sorry, I wont do it again! LOL! :tongue:

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Men are dogs, what else can you say? Like the whores who sleep with married men, there are many gay men who enjoy "having" whats already taken and the malice of being the sideline "ho". It's equal parts: A disgusting personality that enjoys being "bad" and an insecurity that one doesn't deserve better or can avoid real intimacy by engaging with someone who's only physically available.

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probably the thrill of making a conquest when they succeed. if that really is you in your avatar, I'd respect your relationship and either ask if you guys do three-ways or do you have a brother or cousin. :You_Rock_Emoticon:

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Why is it that some men wont take no for an answer?.I tell them Im living with my guy and they sill keep coming on.One guy said.Hey I wont tell anyone.Geesh.

Anyone else have this happin to them??:smile:

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Hi, Jason. I think I am of the same generation as you are. What is interesting to me is how many articles, including one recently published in the NYTimes, suggest that the gay 20-somethings, have more in common with their straight peers than they do with older gay men in regards to social/moral values. For instance, guys of our generation are more likely to enter into monogamous relationships than our older gay counterparts. 'No, I am in a relationship already' is heard as a 'no' instead of 'I am just playing coy, so keep bugging me.'

This has been true in my experience. I am in a monogamous relationship, which seems to be a trivial point to older gay guys, who are of a generation where open relationships were, and still are, the norm. Psychologists suggests all sorts of reasons for this, but my take is that older gay men were rebels at the time they came out and experimented, as opposed to when we came out, which was largely after homosexuality had a wider exposure in the media. In other words, the world of homosexuality was much less taboo for us than for them. Another reason may be due to the fact that when you and I were growing up, the spread of HIV/AIDS was very much discussed. It was drilled into my head that abstinence and/or monogamy would be the only way to survive.

The only wild card on all this, is late bloomers and/or men who grew up in small, rural towns, where it is still like growing up in the 50s in regards to the social/moral values impressed upon them. They seem to be much more willing to mess around with lots of partners, perhaps because of the taboo-nature of the act.

My final thought on this matter is that it seems to me that the more a person truly excepts their sexuality (of any kind) and the more comfortable they are in their own skin, the less they will be seeking multiple partners. People who try to suppress their sexuality in any way seem to have sex-related issues. To play devil's advocate with myself, I should also say that I frequently envy friends of mine that are much more free with their sexuality. I often wish I did not feel so inhibited. Maybe, I am the one who has not come to terms with his sexuality!? This is food for thought anyway!

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^Uh-uh, don't put this all on the older crowd. In the 3 years that my boyfriend and I have been together, not only have people pursued him and I, but it's young guys who KNOW we're in a committed relationship and go out of their way to try to wedge in between that. Young guys are just as messy, manipulative, conniving and insistent as older guys, and worse they have youth appeal on their side and use it to milk every ounce of cum they can from married and partnered men.

Men are dogs, what else can you say? Like the whores who sleep with married men, there are many gay men who enjoy "having" whats already taken and the malice of being the sideline "ho". It's equal parts: A disgusting personality that enjoys being "bad" and an insecurity that one doesn't deserve better or can avoid real intimacy by engaging with someone who's only physically available.

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wow excuse you!! its not like the married men are beating them off with a stick or anything its not all the womans fault and who are you to be callin anyone a whore! im not saying there arent whores but there are man whores too

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wow excuse you!! its not like the married men are beating them off with a stick or anything its not all the womans fault and who are you to be callin anyone a whore! im not saying there arent whores but there are man whores too

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he didn't say "female" whores who sleep with married men...he just said whores...that's not a gender-specific word...

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wow excuse you!! its not like the married men are beating them off with a stick or anything its not all the womans fault and who are you to be callin anyone a whore! im not saying there arent whores but there are man whores too

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Excuse me for what? I never implied that the partnered party is innocent. I was once partnered with someone who carried on a 6 month affair so I perfectly well understand both dynamics, I was simply addressing one side. I could tell you about all the kinds of hell I wish on the partnered men or married men's role in affairs and cheating but that would take a whole nother website. I'll call it lyingimmaturebastardswhowanttheircakeandeatittoandcan'tbehonestwiththemselvesortheirpartnersandtheirvictimsshouldbecompensatedandtheyshouldbejailedforcrimesagainsthumanity.com