Representative Christine Trujillo worked as an educator for 21 years, has served in the New Mexico state legislature since 2013 and currently serves as a member of the House Appropriations and Finance Committee and the House Education Committee. Representative Trujillo was born and raised in Taos and has 5 children and 6 grandchildren. She received her Master’s degree in Elementary Education from the University of New Mexico.

Today’s episode parallels nicely with the Well Woman Life Framework, in which we create awareness and then space to listen deeper to our inner wisdom or intuition. My guest today says, “we give out so much, sometimes the healthiest this to do is to pause and let things come to you.”

Julie Shapiro is the executive producer of Radiotopia from PRX – a curated network of extraordinary, cutting-edge podcasts. She is also the executive producer of Ear Hustle, a podcast that tells the stories of daily life in San Quentin State Prison, shared and produced by those living it. From 2014-15, Julie was the executive producer of the Australian Broadcasting Corporation / Radio National’s (RN) Creative Audio Unit. In 2000 she co-founded the Third Coast International Audio Festival, where as artistic director she shaped the Festival’s creative trajectory and prioritized innovative audio and a cross-pollinating international listening culture. Julie has taught radio to university students, presented at conferences all over the globe, and produced stories for the airwaves in the US and beyond. She lives in Arlington, MA with her husband and son.

How do you get your family members on the same page to work together toward goals for 2019? Get them involved! Here’s how:
1. make it fun
2. let them know if they give their input they will get their goal list for 2019
3. have a clear process
4. start and end within 1-2 hours, depending on the ages of the people involved! My kids ages 7 and 9 stuck it out on NYE for a good 2 hours because we had yummy snacks, everyone’s voice was heard, they got to find pictures and cut them out.

On the show today, I interview Tina Tchen is former Assistant to President Obama, Executive Director of the White House Council on Women and Girls, and Chief of Staff to First Lady Michelle Obama and we talk about:

-How to approach diversity and inclusion in the workplace
-What men can do to change workplace culture
-The one things that makes certain leaders stand out

Tina Tchen is former Assistant to President Obama, Executive Director of the White House Council on Women and Girls, and Chief of Staff to First Lady Michelle Obama. In addition, she worked on Title IX initiatives and was instrumental in the formation of the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault. Ms. Tchen is a leading voice in the national conversation on fighting sexual harassment, gender inequity, and discrimination. Ms. Tchen is a leader of Buckley Sandler’s Workplace Cultural Compliance Practice, counseling companies on issues related to gender inequity, sexual harassment, and lack of diversity in the workplace.

At the end of the show I’ve included an excerpt from my 2016 interview with Congresswoman Debra Haaland when she was the democratic state party chair of NM. Congresswoman Debra Haaland from NM’s first CD and Congresswoman Sharice Davids from Kansas’ third CD are the first Native American women ever elected to the Unites States Congress. You can listen to the whole interview here.

New Year’s resolutions keep people playing small and operating from a place of lack instead of abundance. Join me for a “Just Giovanna” episode of the Well Woman Show where we explore how you can have it all without making New Year’s resolutions!

What You’ll Learn in this Episode:

my secret to quitting coffee four years ago

why I don’t like New Year’s resolutions

how women, in particular, are socialized not to seek pleasure, fulfillment and self-actualization

When I quit coffee four and a half years ago, it wasn’t because I wanted to quit coffee. I was committed to making room for a new level of health in my body and decided a 21 day cleanse was my roadmap. I knew I could drop coffee for three weeks and had no intention of giving it up altogether. After all, I identified as a coffee drinker. I loved everything about it – the ritual, the smell, the coffee shop and the sipping in meetings. So it came as a surprise to me when, after ten days of no coffee, my mind was clear and my focus sharp. There was no need to go back to coffee because I now had something even more satisfying.

Every year at this time, millions of people are setting intentions to change undesired behaviors, accomplish personal goals or otherwise improve our lives. Yet every year, usually sometime in January or February, we default to our usual patterns and give up on those illusive goals. What if you could have it all? What if you could reach your personal, professional and public service goals and avoid that horrible feeling of failure because you didn’t manage to keep your New Year’s resolutions? When I realized that doing well on my personal goals supported me to reach my professional and public service goals, and vice versa, I stopped the empty promises at year’s end and started dreaming big all throughout the year. I asked, what can I create for my life? (Instead of how can I stop doing certain things?)

For many people, rejecting or shedding the expectations of others is a real challenge. It takes a lot to undo the years of build up that society, our families or our colleagues have been piling on us. All the “shoulds” stacked up on top of each other can build a wall so tall you can no longer see over it. And chipping away at that wall is hard work. I should play piano, I should go to law school, I should know how to cook, I should have kids someday, I should, I should, I should. New Year’s Resolutions can keep people playing small and operating from a place of deficit instead of plenty. Women, in particular, are socialized not to seek pleasure, fulfillment and self-actualization. So our internal dialogue is one of lack, shame and isolation. Many of us inherently know this but are not sure what to do about it. And this is reflected externally, in the programs, policies and services currently available that do not address women’s specific needs. It is time for us to reclaim our pleasure, our joy and our purpose.

When you have a clear vision of what want your life to look like and feel like, there is no room for the undesirable behaviors the usual New Year’s resolutions inadequately address. When you identify with the life you dream of, there is no room for activities that don’t align with it. Here are four things you can do right away to bring awareness to the life you dream of, find the inner wisdom that connects you to that identity, articulate your dreams and integrate them into your life:

Create Awareness
Resolve to make no more empty promises that keep you stuck in scarcity instead of abundance. Reflect on and jot down (writing it or saying it aloud is important) what has brought you joy in the last year and what has not? What made you feel fulfilled? When did you reach your full potential in some area of your life, or close to it? What would you like to create for yourself in the coming year?

Listen
Reflect on what came up in step one and begin to release self-criticism in order to invite self-compassion. Then, create an openness to hear what is next for you by saying, “I am open to receive what is next – show me.” Hear the answers while you do your favorite meditative activity, e.g. walk, cook, exercise or meditate. In order to make the time to do this activity you may need to set some boundaries, by gratefully saying no to others’ requests.

Take Action
Articulate your dreams in three areas: personal, professional and public service. Position your goals as positives, not negatives, e.g. instead of resolving to stop binging on television shows at night, say you will read a book every week. What 1-3 things could you do on a regular basis that would make a big impact on each goal?

Integrate
Integrate your plans into your daily life by being realistic about what is doable and what will be manageable. Practicing self-care and gratitude, as well as having compassion for others and yourself will go a long way to helping you maintain your action plan. Part of integration is accountability – tell someone what your plans are and have them do the same. Then, check in daily or weekly to keep each other on track. And instead of pressuring yourself to do all of this on the first of the year, give yourself permission to explore these ideas during the whole month of January, starting your action and integration plan in February.

So, what worked for me about quitting coffee?

It wasn’t a New Year’s resolution.

It wasn’t a quit for the sake of it.

It was tied to something bigger; my health and well-being.

I was able to change my identity as a coffee drinker.

Instead of resolving to quit something “bad” in the New Year, try resolving to gift yourself pleasure, comfort and fun.