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On my other site this morning, I posted about feeling depleted, needing replenishment. One might imagine that finding some time to get my hands on myself would be one way to do that. Yet, at moments of deep exhaustion, I find it’s harder for me to find my way to …

I don’t often write these sorts of numbered lists, but today I’m thinking about why it matters that survivors of sexual violence reclaim their bodies, reclaim their desire, reinstate their sovereignty over their skin and hungers, taking all of it, every fiber, every nerve response, every singe of shame, every …

Do you remember the first lessons you ever got about touching your body, about masturbation, about self-pleasure? Did you learn on your own? Did friends or siblings teach you, directly or inadvertently? Did you learn from reading or movies or tv? Did your family have lessons or messages about self-pleasure? …

It’s May again, which means it’s National Masturbation/Radical Self Love Month again. Welcome! Whenever I talk to folks about this blog project, or about May being National Masturbation Month, at first they laugh, and then they make a joke — like, “Well, I’m all ready for that month!” I think, …

Welcome to Coming Home’s new digs! This will be the permanent home for the Coming Home Project: Reclaiming masturbation and radical self-love. I’m getting settled in, cleaning up, unpacking all the boxes, generally figuring out what’s going to go where. Soon enough it’ll be time to start putting new words …

The first official non-NaMaMo post, here eleven days into the new month. I think I said, at the end of the last post, that I’d be back here tomorrow — that I’d still be coming and posting. And it turns out that I was wrong: I needed a break after …

Today’s the last day of National Masturbation Month — how have these thirty-one days of radical self love treated you? Have you come every day, or loved on yourself most days, or thought more frequently about how your body likes to be tended to? How have you marked National Masturbation …

I’m not hiding my love anymore… (2008) where her body ought to be She wants to put her body where her words are, fully into the flavor of sex, stunned with the liquid of meaning and possibility, and the most hostile vulnerability. This is the skin I settle into, the …

On this near-last day of this month of transformative work, I’m hearing all the censor voices, the voices who don’t want this writing to happen, the voices who think this work is useless/indulgent/perverted/dangerous/stupid/non-revolutionary. I am hearing the voices of shut it down. I am hearing the voices of you are …

Today I want much more than my hands on myself, than the water between my legs, than some simple contractions. Today I want the soar of connection, of hands touching, of love in and through a body that didn’t expect to do any more, ever, than just survive. Today I am slippery …

Reclaiming a radical self love

coming home is a blatant celebration of the power of masturbation, particularly for survivors of sexual violence. I welcome your thoughts and experiences!
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