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I was doing well with days 3-5 of the separation this week. But then a flare up with the WW yesterday and today I'm feeling down and missing her. I'm with the kids today and tomorrow, but having trouble engaging with them. I know she is going to see her AP at some point in the next two days and I don't want to care, but...

That is all. Just venting.

Me: BH, 40
Her: WW
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence witho

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jo2love♀ 31528Member # 31528

Posted: 11:49 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

(((kg201)))

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PurpleRose♀ 33129Member # 33129

Posted: 11:52 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

Hang in there. The down days are tough, so just hold onto your sweet kids and remember how much they need a calm and rational for e in their lives now.

((Kg))

divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3633 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville

mof2♀ 40287Member # 40287

Posted: 12:08 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

(((((KG)))))

BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 320 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW

kernel♀ 27035Member # 27035

Posted: 1:53 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

kg, this is where you force yourself to get busy and do something, anything active with your kids. Go to a park, go to a ball game, go to the movies, a bike ride, a cooking project, yard work - anything to get your mind in a better place. When you're busy, it's easier to stay on an even keel and keep the negative thoughts at bay. You CAN do this. Focus on the kids and get busy.

"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5337 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest

nowiknow23♀ 33226Member # 33226

Posted: 2:09 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

((((kg)))) For every down day, there's an upward swing that follows. Until then, keep your kids in your actions and thoughts, and keep moving forward. Sending you strength and comfort.

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

Posts: 28327 | Registered: Aug 2011

kg201♂ 40173Member # 40173

Posted: 2:13 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013

Ok. Off to get subway sandwiches and drive to the top of a mountain with the kids. My WW's suggestion, but I need something.

Thank you for the replies everyone. SI is helping me through.

Me: BH, 40
Her: WW
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence witho