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Reuben ראובןThu, 18 Nov 2010 19:51:48 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-19468Hi Doctor Phil
Just watched your show, it was really interesting! Yeah, we're a few months behind, because I'm from South Africa - haha.
From my experience, rudeness can drive a family apart. When the one is affected by this, he takes it out on the other and so on... a family needs to stand together in order to work through it. It won't work if every person doesn't co-operate, respect and trust comes from all sides after all. And in order for someone to change, they need to be willing to put the past behind them, in order to make the process work. If they keep reminding the person of what he did and how bad he is, he might just become even more rebellious which can lead to even a bigger catastrophe. It takes a while to make such a thing work, and a lot of patience is required, but in the end the result will be good!
Take care
Blessings to you and your familyHi Doctor Phil
Just watched your show, it was really interesting! Yeah, we’re a few months behind, because I’m from South Africa – haha.

From my experience, rudeness can drive a family apart. When the one is affected by this, he takes it out on the other and so on… a family needs to stand together in order to work through it. It won’t work if every person doesn’t co-operate, respect and trust comes from all sides after all. And in order for someone to change, they need to be willing to put the past behind them, in order to make the process work. If they keep reminding the person of what he did and how bad he is, he might just become even more rebellious which can lead to even a bigger catastrophe. It takes a while to make such a thing work, and a lot of patience is required, but in the end the result will be good!

Take care
Blessings to you and your family

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Julianne NissenTue, 02 Nov 2010 01:40:26 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-18415Chase is so rude and disrespectful, he hides his rudeness in sarcasm. His parents need to stop paying for his car until he starts to be more respectful. It's all about him, which is classic with many teenagers today. They should go out and do some volunteer work in the community for at least 6mths. That's what we did with our kids.Chase is so rude and disrespectful, he hides his rudeness in sarcasm. His parents need to stop paying for his car until he starts to be more respectful. It’s all about him, which is classic with many teenagers today. They should go out and do some volunteer work in the community for at least 6mths. That’s what we did with our kids.
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a gFri, 22 Oct 2010 02:08:29 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17886something that really bothers me are people who use the excuse,"i am just being honest"; as a way of justifying their own self-righteous ridgidity. i say to them,[that is, if i know them to some degree,don't want to get in to it with a stranger, for obvious reasons] no you're not,you are just using an overused trite cliched phrase,as a smokescreen, to justify your unreasonable closed minded,one sided view. of course there is a place for this phrase,but one need be wary of those who use it as a manipulative ploy to put forth a notion that does not invite questioning or open dialogue. i think it is rude, because it is a way of trying to negate the reality or perception of another. it's a dishonest form of engagement,masquerading as sincerity.something that really bothers me are people who use the excuse,”i am just being honest”; as a way of justifying their own self-righteous ridgidity. i say to them,[that is, if i know them to some degree,don't want to get in to it with a stranger, for obvious reasons] no you’re not,you are just using an overused trite cliched phrase,as a smokescreen, to justify your unreasonable closed minded,one sided view. of course there is a place for this phrase,but one need be wary of those who use it as a manipulative ploy to put forth a notion that does not invite questioning or open dialogue. i think it is rude, because it is a way of trying to negate the reality or perception of another. it’s a dishonest form of engagement,masquerading as sincerity.
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Megan M.Mon, 18 Oct 2010 21:41:19 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17859Dear Dr. Phil,
I am a freshman in high school. When I go to Biology class every day, I don't walk in expecting to learn much. Many kids in that class have zero respect for the teacher. There is constant talking, profane language, and screaming. Two girls in particular yell at the teacher and think they're being funny when they say "F--- you" to him. Not to mention the constant teasing that goes on in that class. A boy sitting near me constantly puts down Jews, gays, and blacks. It shocks me that the teacher hasn't done much about it. He will tell them to stop talking and continue on with the lesson. I feel sorry for him because it seems as if he's just given up because there's no way of getting them to stop.
-Megan-Dear Dr. Phil,

I am a freshman in high school. When I go to Biology class every day, I don’t walk in expecting to learn much. Many kids in that class have zero respect for the teacher. There is constant talking, profane language, and screaming. Two girls in particular yell at the teacher and think they’re being funny when they say “F— you” to him. Not to mention the constant teasing that goes on in that class. A boy sitting near me constantly puts down Jews, gays, and blacks. It shocks me that the teacher hasn’t done much about it. He will tell them to stop talking and continue on with the lesson. I feel sorry for him because it seems as if he’s just given up because there’s no way of getting them to stop.

-Megan-

]]>By: Janahttp://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/20/dealing-with-rude-attitudes/comment-page-2/#comment-17260
JanaTue, 14 Sep 2010 06:18:20 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17260What I find strange is abuse is defined as disiplining a child who doesn't have a learning disability, and not abuse if a child does have a disability.
This is what being Politically Correct has gotten Us, and this is why it doesn't work.
Any Commets?What I find strange is abuse is defined as disiplining a child who doesn’t have a learning disability, and not abuse if a child does have a disability.

This is what being Politically Correct has gotten Us, and this is why it doesn’t work.

Any Commets?

]]>By: Lisa Southallhttp://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/20/dealing-with-rude-attitudes/comment-page-2/#comment-17197
Lisa SouthallMon, 13 Sep 2010 15:11:34 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17197Dear Doctor Phil,
I am disgusted with the way children act in today's society. We have lost all control of our children. I believe it is do to people call DHS everytime a child id displined. Here in Arkansas a parent is allowed to corporal punish a child as along as they do not leave a bruise. I am in Psychology I do think there are certain instances where a child needs their tails whipped for something they have done. I am a good example of corporal punishment child my parents whipped my tail if I was in the wrong and Im doing great. I also think that you exhausted all other ways of discipling a child before you use corporal punishment. Now I have 2 step children one is 18 and another 19. My step-son who is the 18 year old is fighting and cusing his dad and throwing huge fits over money will not go get a job he gets a job and in a week or two quits. My husband will not let me discipline him this 18 year old will play with his dad's heart strings now if he doesnt get what he wants he will cry like a 2 year old kid telling his dad he doesnt love him boy I just sometimes want to knock him on his ass. I have a 13 year old who is much well respectful knows his limits but when around these 2 teen adults he tries to push his luck but he is mine and I refuse to allow it. My husband gets on my last nerve he allows the 18 year to do what he wants to do. gives him money, gives him the car keys lets him run all the gas out of the car. You name it he gets to do it...Dear Doctor Phil,

I am disgusted with the way children act in today’s society. We have lost all control of our children. I believe it is do to people call DHS everytime a child id displined. Here in Arkansas a parent is allowed to corporal punish a child as along as they do not leave a bruise. I am in Psychology I do think there are certain instances where a child needs their tails whipped for something they have done. I am a good example of corporal punishment child my parents whipped my tail if I was in the wrong and Im doing great. I also think that you exhausted all other ways of discipling a child before you use corporal punishment. Now I have 2 step children one is 18 and another 19. My step-son who is the 18 year old is fighting and cusing his dad and throwing huge fits over money will not go get a job he gets a job and in a week or two quits. My husband will not let me discipline him this 18 year old will play with his dad’s heart strings now if he doesnt get what he wants he will cry like a 2 year old kid telling his dad he doesnt love him boy I just sometimes want to knock him on his ass. I have a 13 year old who is much well respectful knows his limits but when around these 2 teen adults he tries to push his luck but he is mine and I refuse to allow it. My husband gets on my last nerve he allows the 18 year to do what he wants to do. gives him money, gives him the car keys lets him run all the gas out of the car. You name it he gets to do it…

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kathySat, 11 Sep 2010 02:18:07 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17145i was shocked; at both the parents and the older teen...i felt very sorry for the
step-dad and the younger brother, who were the only ones who stepped up to the plate. the older teen, was
so obviously "all about me", and the mother was just the same. i was taken aback
at how dr.phil did not "call them both" out on the carpet.... he was tooooo kind.
unbelievable; but i guess the word "respect", which i don't remember hearing on
the show, was what came to my mind as part of the problem, no longer matters.
very disgusted with this show/episode.i was shocked; at both the parents and the older teen…i felt very sorry for the
step-dad and the younger brother, who were the only ones who stepped up to the plate. the older teen, was
so obviously “all about me”, and the mother was just the same. i was taken aback
at how dr.phil did not “call them both” out on the carpet…. he was tooooo kind.
unbelievable; but i guess the word “respect”, which i don’t remember hearing on
the show, was what came to my mind as part of the problem, no longer matters.
very disgusted with this show/episode.
]]>By: Monique Joneshttp://blog.drphil.com/2009/11/20/dealing-with-rude-attitudes/comment-page-2/#comment-17141
Monique JonesFri, 10 Sep 2010 20:55:30 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17141Reading the comments I would like to share my beliefs that
1 Namecalling, vitreolic reteric etc. is a reflection of the person saying it, & not a reflection of the person it's aimed at, & it's an attempt to project one's feelings on to another.
2 I think the best way to deal with this behavior is firstly not to take it personally, Do have them own it by asking an open question (what, when, where, why, how, which), & having them own their statements, eg, what makes you think I am (place here the derogatery accusation)?
3 Have compassion, happy people do not abuse, find what is troubling them,& see what can be done to help,or what about your own behaviour iscontributing to the problem, acknowledge it, & promise to improve oneself, & apologise.
Hope this is helpful. Monique- New ZealandReading the comments I would like to share my beliefs that
1 Namecalling, vitreolic reteric etc. is a reflection of the person saying it, & not a reflection of the person it’s aimed at, & it’s an attempt to project one’s feelings on to another.
2 I think the best way to deal with this behavior is firstly not to take it personally, Do have them own it by asking an open question (what, when, where, why, how, which), & having them own their statements, eg, what makes you think I am (place here the derogatery accusation)?
3 Have compassion, happy people do not abuse, find what is troubling them,& see what can be done to help,or what about your own behaviour iscontributing to the problem, acknowledge it, & promise to improve oneself, & apologise.
Hope this is helpful. Monique- New Zealand
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noreenFri, 10 Sep 2010 16:21:10 +0000http://blog.drphil.com/?p=1859#comment-17139OK I just finished watching your show called RUDE TENS, I just want to talk about the two boys with the step dad,, the mother kinda was cockey herself and did seem a bit immature,by watching the show you can tell that the son does not feeled loved he sems like A boy who does need some help and he is really crying and trying to ask for it, The boy needs help and its not to late because he still is young enough for it,You see all these trouble kids that relate back to why they are the way they are as adults. What he does is not alright and bringing in a man who beats up bulleys is not going to help that kid, the mother does have alot to do with it also, I couls see right thre the family,Dr Phil I know your show is live on the air and you dont have all the time in the world but hopefuley you can have that family back on the show to help that kid,,he wants to be part of that family,OK I just finished watching your show called RUDE TENS, I just want to talk about the two boys with the step dad,, the mother kinda was cockey herself and did seem a bit immature,by watching the show you can tell that the son does not feeled loved he sems like A boy who does need some help and he is really crying and trying to ask for it, The boy needs help and its not to late because he still is young enough for it,You see all these trouble kids that relate back to why they are the way they are as adults. What he does is not alright and bringing in a man who beats up bulleys is not going to help that kid, the mother does have alot to do with it also, I couls see right thre the family,Dr Phil I know your show is live on the air and you dont have all the time in the world but hopefuley you can have that family back on the show to help that kid,,he wants to be part of that family,
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