The Home front …………..Single or Married.

In life, there are different stages, there aredifferent seasons and as the scriptures says time fordifferent things, “…a time for every purpose underheaven” (Ecc.3:1). There is a time to be single and atime to be married.

It is essential that we first and foremost recognizethat as children of God, that the source ofour joy, fulfillment, wholeness and sense ofaccomplishment in every stage of life, every season oflife (whether single or married) is the Holy Spirit(Zech.4:6) and He is inside of us, inward and notoutward, which goes to say that our wholeness as aperson does not depend on any single outward andphysical factor. It is the Holy Spirit who equips us,helping us through every stage of life and guiding usto the one, enabling us to be the best that we can be,always being vessels into honor in His hands in everystage.

It is equally important that we bear in mind alwaysthat we are firstly Christians, children of God, apeculiar people, a royal priesthood…(2 Pet.2:9)apeople set aside for God. We are primarily God’speople (Ps.100:3), then secondly a single person or amarried person. Our marital status is secondary to ourspiritual status. We should let the truth sink in thatat every stage of our lives, regardless of our maritalstatus, God wants 100% of us, He wants all of us, andwe should enjoy freely giving it all to Him.

Being single and by that I mean the stage when one isunmarried is a great experience, a wonderful and veryexciting time in the life of an individual. It is atime when you take decisions by yourself, (especiallyif you’ve left home and parents) you decide what youdo and when , where you go and when , who your friendsare, who you spend time with and how much time youspend with them and of course you decide when and whatyou want to eat, when you want to cook and so on…,but most importantly it is a time when as a child ofGod, you have all the time and liberty to serve God tothe highest ( Cor.7:32-34). You have more than enoughtime to study God’s word and to get to know Him more.It is fundamental that you feel absolutely fulfilledwithin yourself and with God, trusting Him, walking inHis favor and leading, and being available to him atall times and for the next level where God would wantto lead you and be able to help others.

We have scriptural examples of great people who workedout wonderfully well this season of singleness andreally got God’s best. We know the story of Ruth whoafter she lost her husband at a young age, shunned theidea of going back to her pagan people and remarrying,and tenaciously stayed with her aged mother-in-lawNaomi because she desired strongly to remain amongGod’s people and in God’s will (Ruth 1: 16-17) and shesure got it and a wonderful husband.

Apostle Paul, by the leading of the Spirit followed Godwithout second thoughts, without reserve and he wasand still is one of the greatest apostle of all times.He was unmarried (1 Cor.7:7) and his testimony isthat he fought a good fight, kept the faith …….and ofcourse there are several other examples in the bible.

As much as marriage is an equally great time in ourlives, it is a stage that brings with it extra cares,added responsibility and the joy of coming togetherwith another individual to build a life together. Itdoesn’t necessarily stop one from serving God like youmight have done as a single person, but it sure opensa totally new and exciting way of serving God togetherwith your partner and this entails joint decision making.

In summary, we’ll share some truths that areguaranteed to help you continue as a fulfilled and joyousChristian single brother/sister.

¶ Accept that being single is a real and normal stage in life.

It is a blessing and part of God’s divine purpose.

¶ Don’t waste the wait, make the most of your singlestatus.

¶ Busy yourself with studying God’s word.

The word of God has the ability to redirect

your focus to what is truly important.

¶ Worship God all the time, making melodies inyour heart to God (Eph.5:19) There is something aboutworship that is so releasing.

¶ Always wear a smile. A cheerful disposition, a merryheart makes a whole lot of things a lot easier (prov.15:13)

¶ Practice talking section with God, the words of yourmouth, your confessions are part of the core of whoyou are.

¶ Get busy in the house of God.

¶ Constantly fellowship with the Holy Spirit.

¶ Think on things that are true, noble, right, pure,lovely, admirable and excellent (Phil. 4:8) Rememberthe scriptures says that you are what you think.(Prov. 23:7) and what you think in your heart is whatcomes out of your mouth.

When you’re busy doing these, you can’t help but becontent while in the exciting season of life until itpleases God to provide you with a partner and lead youto the next season whenever and however He sees fit.

Above all, remember that your marital status does not define who you are. Marriage does not guarantee happiness and satisfaction. Marriage does not provide completeness. It is definitely not a land flowing with milk and honey.

It has its own challenges and if you go into it for the wrong reasons, you will find that it might be the single most costly mistake that will mar your destiny.God bless!!!.