Ask Sujeiry: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?

Ask Sujeiry: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?

I was in a relationship for a year and we were over the heels in love, but then he broke up with me because he said he needed to get his life straight. Soon he asked for a second chance and told me he loved me and like an idiot I said yes. A week later I get a message saying it was a mistake and that the love he had for me wasn’t the same. We had a big blow out and talked in about 9 months. Today he added me back onto Myspace. There’s rumors that he still is in love with me but I don’t know what to believe. I just really need some advice before I get my heart broken again!
He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?
23, Bakerfield, CA

Dear He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?

I’m going to be brutally honest. The great relationship you once had is now OVER. Mujer, he has made up his mind.

He told you with his words. “Getting my life straight” is code for “I want to be single.” He also told you with his actions. Hesitation is a sign of doubt and he’s wavered many times regarding his feelings for you. Now, you don’t want to be with a man who comes and goes and tells you he loves you just to take a back, do you?

As for the MySpace add and rumors that are winding up your heart, STOP! He has not expressed interest in rekindling your relationship. He has, however, disappointed you and shown inconsistencies in his feelings and behaviors time and again. So please stop analyzing! Don’t think his add or status updates are a secret message to you. Focus on you and what you want and deserve. Heal. Regain your confidence and release your hostility. Learn from this relationship and, most importantly, live in the present. You don’t know what’s coming next, but you said it yourself: you don’t want to repeat this cycle of confusion and heartbreak. So just let go.

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of therapy, advice, direction and/or diagnosis or treatment of any kind. If counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.