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The response to Mended With Love has been nothing short of amazing. I had so much fun penning the novel that I’m glad the readers loved it.

If you haven’t met the Danjumas what are you waiting on. Check through this blog and meet the brothers, Meanwhile let me share a partial review of the final book in the series by Romance in Color

“I like how Unoma weaves spirituality into her stories without coming off too “preachy.” I understand that Christian Fiction may not be everyone’s preference, but Unoma Nwankwor is such a gifted writer that you will find yourself completely engaged in the story. MENDED WITH LOVE is bound together with romance, love, forgiveness, redemption, Biblical truths, great music and food. I highly recommend this novel. While you are at it, I recommend that you also read the books about the other Danjuma brothers: Rasheed, A SCOOP OF LOVE, and Jabir, ANCHORED BY LOVE. You can thank me later.”~ Romance In Color Review

I had this interview stashed away but other things came up. First, I had to do promo for the first two books in the Sons of Ishmael series. Then I tidied up Mended With Love and believe it or not, I am already in half way in my 2018 release.

This interview takes place before the couple’s Abuja wedding. That is before the interview I did with Rasheed & Ibiso.

Since they were in the Detroit and I was in Atlanta, I Skyped them for a quick chat. So without further ado here they are….Jabir & Damisi

When we start the interview Jabir was on his way home from work. He was late but I got started anyway.

Unoma: But you pulled through. (I laugh) We can laugh about it now but you do understand while the fans were so vicious in their attacks?

Damisi: I would be lying if I say I didn’t understand their annoyance. The minute I took a public mantle, I had a platform and I was a role model to some whether I wanted that responsibility or not. So I do get it but a sister wanted to crawl under a rock somedays.

Unoma:But that man had you sha. Six whole years. You kept it together for so long, then you just surrendered huh? (LOL)

Damisi bugs her eyes at me in mock surprise: Have you met my husband. He is charming, sexy, smart, loving and caring. I could do without his over bearance. And his arrogance…you have to love him to get it.

Jabir: But you still like it though.(Jabir walks in and kisses Damisi full on the mouth. He doesn’t even care that I’m sitting there and I got to go get dinner started in my own house)

Unoma: Jay…(I laugh when he gives me a warning look and wraps his hand over his wife’s shoulder, pulling her closer to him) What? That’s the only way I could get your lips off her long enough to answer my questions.

Jabir: What you got? How you doing? You look good.

Unoma Why thanks. You don’t look to bad yourself. At least you don’t look like what you’ve been through.

Jabir: No I don’t. Thank God but it was rough for a while.

Unoma: Yea that’s what I and Dami were just talking about. She understood where the fans where coming from in their criticism of her.

Jabir: Fan or not, I not I wanted to sue each and everyone of them. But we got through that and then…

Damisi: Angela wanted to rear her ugly head. I mean she is cute but that situation made me sick to my stomach.

Jabir: And I’ll spend the rest of my life making up to you.(he kisses her forehead)

Unoma: Aww isn’t that sweet. How are the twins?

Jabir & Damisi : Spoiled.

Damisi: And it is going to get a whole lot worse when we go home for the wedding in a couple of months.

Unoma: Are you excited?

Jabir: Me I’m like whatever but whatever my baby wants she gets.( Jabir’s phone rings and he looks at it.) I gotta get this.

Unoma: So how is your family doing? Dad better?

Damisi: Oh yes, he is much better. I thank that man over there( she points to Jabir by the fireplace talking on the phone.) He sends him money and checks on him medically often

Unoma: So what’s next?

Damisi: Mosaic is doing really well. What started off as a way to share my pain had blossomed into something cool.

Unoma: That;s how it always is. We gotta use our pain for purpose.

Jabir: Sorry about that ladies. Unoma, Kammy says to ask you if you coming to Naija for the wedding. You and him got things to discuss.

Unoma: Tell that man to let me be great. When I interview Rasheed and Ibiso he can say whatever he want to say then.

Suddenly one of the babies start crying.

Damisi: That’s my que. I will talk you soon girl. Thank you for telling our story. It wasn’t an easy one but it was so worth it. (She kissed Jabir’s cheek and left.)

Unoma: All right Dami. Thanks for talking with me. I turn to Jabir) So how is the family life?

Jabir smiles so wide, I can literally count his teeth: It’s what I never knew I wanted but can;t breath without. Those three ladies are my life.

Unoma: I bet. You want a boy?

Jabir turned back like in feigned fear: Why you trying to cause friction in my happy home? (We share a laugh) Yes I do I need to even things out a bit, but Dami will kill me if I even mention it now. But Imma get my boy believe that( he winks)

Damisi yells: Baby, I need some help.

Jabir stands: The madam calls I gotta go but Ill see you soon.

Unoma: A’ight cool. Kiss the babies for me.

Jabir will do

We end the call.

I hope you enjoyed my short time with them

Kammy is coming in 2 days…Have you ordered your copy? You can do so here

Damisi here! Did you catch Ibiso’s article a couple of weeks ago? I loved it, if you missed it get it here. As I was preparing to my article I had to really contemplate over where God has brought me from. You see for me, my struggle played out in the public eye. Oh, I wanted to hang my head in the sand and just die. It is harder when you fall from the pedestal the public put you on. However, for me, I didn’t just fall but I was condemned. Condemnation came from the fact that I should have known better. After all, Christians never make mistakes, right? (Side eye)

Living an expectant life is also about forgiving yourself for past mistakes, accepting His forgiveness and walk in the predestined purpose He’s called for you. It means knowing that your latter days will be greater than your former day no matter how dark your reality is.

My reality was so dark after the huge scandal that broke out. I couldn’t forgive myself because I acknowledged that at a point, I stopped trusting to the Holy Spirit to move my television show the way it was supposed to go. Instead like Sarah, I decided to help Him out. Just like Sarah, it was a disaster. A pure disaster. The press ate me alive. If not for my husband, family and friends I have no idea how I would have survived.

The truth of the matter is that God loves us unconditionally. He will be displeased at our mistakes and we will often have consequences for our mistakes but nothing can separate us from His love. While that is biblically true, raise your hand for me, if sometimes you feel unworthy and so beat yourself up the more.

I have my two hands raised high. That was me. I was forgiven, I know I was but I couldn’t accept it. So, I keep moping around with my head in the sand. The enemy will try to rob you of your hope. Without hope there is nothing to live for. I got to that point. I was a failure and a disgrace. Sponsor dropped me left and right. I was fired from my job, what more could go wrong? Well everything did, but I have a God who heals the broken hearted and is a lifter of my head but I gotta expect that good things will come out of my mess. And it did. I was fired from my show Becoming Ruth and in the ashes of my despair, the beauty that is known as Mosaic was born. How I came about the name is a real cute story, I tell it in my book Anchored By Love.

A lot of amazing things have happened since God lifted my head from shame. I can’t wait for you to read about them in Kammy’s book, Mended With Love. If you haven’t pre-ordered it do so here. And while you are at it, say a prayer for Ebele because that brother in law of mine has no sense. I do think she can handle him thought

My hubby is doing well. Still overbearing but I and the girls love him regardless. If you haven’t read our story, what are you waiting on. Order it here and catch us tomorrow right here on the blog.

You’ll hear from me soon in Mended releasing Oct 6th…that’s Friday! In the meantime, remember, in the words of Donnie McClurkin…” A Saint is Just a Sinner Who fell down and gets back up.” You will fall, after all we are not Jesus, but don’t ever let the enemy tell you that you can’t get back up. Peter denied Jesus 3 whole times. Jesus was his buddy, they rolled tight. But still he denied Him but Peter got up and on him, Christ built His church.

Y’all thought I’ll miss this? No way, that knuckle head they call my twin, Kammy, is coming up and I gotta be a part of this. You heard from my Momsie, from Stone Cold, you also know him as Rasheed, You also heard from my sis in law, Ibiso… now clear the stage it’s my turn.

Unoma says she wanted to me to talk about how my work ethic was influenced by not growing up with a father. That’s simple. It made me rely on myself. Me , myself and I were doing this thing. I wasn’t relying on people or a God who let the people that serve Him suffer. I know I sounds terrible but for years that was my mindset. Those that have read my story in Anchored By Love know how the story ends but for years I was really angry. I threw myself into my work and became a team of one.

Before we talk about me, I want to share some practical advantages and disadvantages of working in teams. This can be adopted for those running their business or working a 9 to 5

Advantages:

Two heads are better than one. With more minds you have more ideas. I will also tell you the bad side of this.

You get the necessary support and you are more propelled toward implementation.

Confidence booster. You are able to glean to the stronger qualities of other where you are weaker.

Disadvantages:

Just as two heads are better than one, too many chefs spoil the soup.For every advantage of working in a team, there is the flip side. Too many people, too many ideas, and too many “experts” to come to an agreement and achieve a good result.

Close minded People who force their point of views.

While a team has the potential to boost up the individual members, it can also make people feel less than others. And this affects participation.

My advise to those of you that have to work in teams is to use the principles of the Bible to navigate your work environment. Make sure the fruits of the Holy Spirit show in you always

Now back to me and my past. I dared to believe that everything I had done and achieved was by my power of might. I dared to believe that I could single handedly navigate my destiny. But God being God used the thing I loved so much. The thing I know Idolized to cut me down a notch. You wanna know how? You have to read my book. But remember He is the Vine and we are the branches, we’ll only bear fruit when we remain in Him John 15:5.

This is so true, I know 🙂

Jabir Danjuma.

Oh on more things my wife is on tomorrow. Remember to come by and show her some love.