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Welcome to After Silence - A message board and chat room for rape, sexual assault, and sexual abuse survivors.

Welcome to After Silence, a message board and chat room designed to help survivors communicate in the recovery of rape, sexual abuse, sexual assault, and all types of sexual violence.

After Silence has over 30 different forums, ranging from topics created to discuss specific areas of healing and recovery from rape and sexual violence, as well as forums open to general discussions and lighter topics. Because we value the privacy of our members, most of our forums are private, which means that ONLY REGISTERED members have access to them. Please register for a free account to gain full access to the After Silence Online Support Group.

Hello to all!

Hello everyone! I am a 43 yr old survivor of child sexual and physical abuse. I am taking back me and my life. I will not let them win any longer. With the help of my wonderful hubby, supportive Bob, I am moving up and moving on. I am glad to see that this is a place for survivors to come and feel free and safe. Thank you to those who started this site and keep it running.

NFL, Welcome to this board - although I'm sorry that life experiences have made it as such for you to seek this place out - I am glad you found us - I offer an additional welcome to Bob - I'm so glad you have the such a supportive husband.

Thank you for the welcome. NFL finally got the courage to tell me of her ordeal about a month ago. It answered a lot of questions... in her behavior, but even more so in the behavior of her adoptive father, and explained why she was in an arranged married to a cheating wife beater... But know, that my support is totally selfish... NFL is the sweetest woman I have ever meet, and in this short month, she has had the weight of the world lifted from her sholders, and there is more of the lady I fell in love with... I am the benificary of her raised self estem, and new found, though yet frail confidence... Every day is a grand adventure with her... even the days with some tears, as the tears are the morning for the child inside

WElcome to both of you! I am so glad you found this place. I am sorry for all you have endured, NFL. YOu are such a courageous woman. Both of you are so lucky to have each other. That is so beautiful! I am here if you ever need anything!
love clarissa

Thank you all. I suppose that I have been ready for NFL"s revelation for a long time. There were too many things that had clued me in, and that her abuse in her first marriage didn't explain... actually the fact that she stayed in an abusive marriage for 17 years didn't make any sense... with a man that cheated during the engagement, and a mother that told her he was "sowing his wild oats"... was the craziest thing I'd ever heard... but at 46 growing up, I had a girlfriend that's mother wanted to pimp her out to step-dad so he'd continue to put a roof over their head, has messed with my head, all my life... at the time I was 17 and told my parent's and they said it was none of our business... I have been appealed with myself, for not taking it further.... but at 17, I was quite naive... now I am not... actually if there were a 3rd gender, that is the one I think I'd choose to be, though, I doubt it would be much better... in the 2 cases of incest I am personally familiar with, the Mom's were totally cognizant through the whole ordeal... there are times I despise the human race, and the depths of evil that are perpetrated... hmm.. I know this isn't the right forum for this venting, but I don't have access to the others... please delete this if it is inapproiate... I am angry at the perpetrators, the enablers, the society that glorifies and titilizes rape and the domance of woman... I too am angry at the effects this media blitz has had on me also, I am not nearly as appalled as I want to be... heads should roll... I am thankful there is a God, and I firmly believe in the Old Testament rendition, that says an eye for an eye... the beauty that is squandered in the name of lust sickens me to my soul.

Welcome to the forum. I am so glad that you are getting over your childhood abuse and away from an abusive marriage, and have found such a loving and caring husband.
Welcome Bob, I'm glad that you are so supportive to your wife when she needs you the most.