Thanks, Knut. Actually, I must not even understand OCTO's issue. I use the Finale automatic spacing defaults with grace note spacing set to Keep Current and grace note positioning set to Incorporate, and all seems well. For me, the manual positioning of grace and other notes "stay put" in a relative sense, since I accept the small adjustments that Finale makes when it automatically spaces—and consider them helpful since I would hate to do them all myself. Perhaps it is these small adjustments that are the problem for some? But if desired, couldn't one turn off automatic note spacing, never use the Note Spacing utility, hand adjust all the notes, and then they would stay exactly where one placed them?

Since I am obviously so ignorant in these matters, the unchecking the seconds conflict setting seemed to make no difference in a default document, when I moved notes around. They all adjusted as usual with the application of Apply Note Spacing, but did retain my adjustments in a general sense.

The spacing issues are clearly something I need to look into. For some reason, I find it wearying and shy away.