How to be a healthy user of social media

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Peggy Kern does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organization that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment.

If you are concerned about your own social media use or that of a family member, here are some aspects to look out for.

1. Content and tone

One of the main things that distinguished users who reported high well-being versus those with depression or anxiety was what they wrote about and how they wrote it.

Depressed people used a lot more negative language, reflecting on things that were going wrong, or complaining about life or other people. They posted angry thoughts and emotions.

After writing a post, take a moment to read through it. What is the tone? Consider ways you can focus on some of the good things that happen in your life, not just the negative.

Social media users with depression behave differently online than those with good mental health.wentongg/flickr, CC BY

2. Quality

After a conversation with a friend, sometimes I feel really good about the conversation. Other times I don’t.

Similarly, we found the quality of interactions on social media made a big difference. Depression related to negative interactions with other people, being more critical, cutting others down or feeling criticised by others, and hostility.

In contrast, by supporting and encouraging others and feeling supported by them, it can help you feel good.

3. Time online

A recent Australian survey found adults spend over two hours a day using social media. It also found more than 50% of young people are heavy social media users, with one quarter reporting being constantly connected.

Comparing yourself to Rebecca Judd may not support good mental health.Instagram/becjudd Dec 14 2016

In our review, some studies found depressed users spent more time online while other studies were inconclusive.

Notably, no study found spending more time online was a good thing.

This is something to keep on the radar as people spend more and more time connected to their devices. Many young people have a fear of missing out (FOMO), and thus stay constantly connected. Indeed, in our review we found feeling addicted to social media was associated with higher levels of depression.

We see growing evidence that simplifying life, including spending time offline, has health and well-being benefits.

If you feel concerned about how much time passes by while you are online, consider stepping away from social media for a few days.

4. Passive versus active use

Some people post many updates, providing blow-by-blow descriptions of their lives. Others read through news feeds, liking posts and passing interesting tidbits on to others.

The difference was for active users: those who posted their thoughts and feelings and responded to others. People who were depressed posted a lot of negative content. Those who were happy actively engaged with other users, sharing their lives.

5. Social comparisons

Social media provides opportunities to compare ourselves with others, for better or for worse.

Social media can provide support groups that can help spur you on towards reaching a specific goal. For example, the Strengths Challenge used social networks to encourage people to look for good things about themselves and their co-workers, resulting in higher levels of well-being.

But comparing yourselves with others can also be quite destructive. Depressed individuals were more likely to see others as better than them. Envy plays a particularly destructive role.

If you find yourself jealous of friends and others in your network, it might be a good time to disconnect and find other sources to build up your self esteem.

6. Motivation

Why do you use social media? People who used social media to connect with friends felt it contributed to their well-being.

In contrast, those who were depressed sought out social support on social media, but felt like their friends were letting them down.

If you are feeling lonely and trying to fill a void through social media, it could be doing more harm than good.

Take a good look at yourself

Social media is here to stay. It offers a great way to connect with others, but can also exacerbate social anxieties that exist in the offline world.

So how do you best use social media? Take a few minutes to think about how social media makes you or your family and friends feel. Is it a positive addition to your life, or does it make you feel bad, consuming time and energy you could use in other ways?

By taking stock of your social media habits, it can help you choose ways – and encourage others – to use it in a manner that keeps you healthy.