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How to save a marriage - aom. Does your marriage feel flat?

Studies show that after three years of marriage, many couples start complaining about their relationship being stale and boring. It’s no surprise then that most divorces occur within the first three years of marriage.
Relationships are easy. Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Corey Allan of Simple Marriage.

Relationships are easy. You may have read or heard the opposite, that relationships are hard work.
Simple marriage manifesto. Simple marriage. Sex questionnaire. Celebration of family. “There are exactly as many special occasions in life as we choose to celebrate.”

~Robert Brault A few years ago it happened, and it couldn’t have come at a better moment. At the time I was involved in a monthly get together with my cousins.
Why you're not married. You want to get married.

It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor. You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box. Then, something happened.
Monogamy. Dealing with different types of people.

Personality typing systems abound on the Internet, some of them more reputable than others. Facebook quizzes and other social media sites will tell you everything from which cartoon character you are most like to what love story your life most resembles. You can spend hours answering questions on some online dating sites that will help you clarify what you are like and what you want to see in a mate.

And then there are professional personality typing systems such as Myers Briggs that will help you figure out which of 16 personality buckets you fit into. These are fun but are they really useful?
Art of listening. We should all know this: that listening, not talking, is the gifted and great role, and the imaginative role.

And the true listener is much more beloved, magnetic than the talker, and he is more effective and learns more and does more good. And so try listening. Listen to your wife, your husband, your father, your mother, your children, your friends; to those who love you and those who don't, to those who bore you, to your enemies. It will work a small miracle.
Men, women & stress. Hmh. Happy marriage strategies. ‘The Marriage of Figaro’ courtesy of TheIntelligencer Despairingly, he looked at her, shook his head, and asked, “Whatever happened to us?

We don’t laugh any more; we used to always be laughing!” With contemptuous expression and voice, she retorted, “Yes, but not at the same time.” This one line from a classic moment of the British sitcom Fawlty Towers illuminated Basil and Sybil Fawlty’s entire relationship. Is a happy, long-lasting marriage really still possible?
What women should know about men. Couples therapist Jason Fierstein introduces himself and recalls some important tidbits of information that women should know about men.

Jason Fierstein: Well hi, my name is Jason Fierstein and I’m a counselor for men and couples. I work in private practice here in Phoenix and I help guys who are struggling in the relationships and help the women who are in relationships with them understand their guys a little bit better. So that’s the gist what I do. I work individually with men, in groups, and I do couples and marriage counseling.
75 ways to show love. Relationships are easy. Don't hope ... decide. It's Now Or Never Don't Hope Friend....Decide By Michael D.

Hargrove While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life changing experiences that you hear other people talk about, the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly.
Connecting in relationships. “Excellence can be obtained if you care more than others think is wise, risk more than others think is safe, dream more than others think is practical, expect more than others think is possible.”

~Unknown I liked this quote because I find that we often we lose sight of our truest selves in the world of dating.
Fidelity & genetics. Stuart Bradford Why do some men and women cheat on their partners while others resist the temptation?

To find the answer, a growing body of research is focusing on the science of commitment. Scientists are studying everything from the biological factors that seem to influence marital stability to a person’s psychological response after flirting with a stranger. Their findings suggest that while some people may be naturally more resistant to temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment.
40 healthy relationship signs.

True love lost. You didn’t just love me you showed it to me You would have done anything for me You accepted me for the person I am You appreciated me and confided in me You gave me your heart and all that you had You made me smile, laugh and cry You tell me you want to be free You hit my heart with a rock and sunk it to the bottom of the sea You can’t fight this evil feeling that took over your soul You’re so confused and lost in this world You won’t let me help you find your way Now, losing you is the price…..I’ll…..pay You made a mistake And it caused my heart to break Your news brought shivers down my spine As I felt my heart separate by a crooked line Please forgive me for not understanding As I was focusing on just standing You said I don’t deserve you I said I do You told me I deserve more than you can offer I said I’ve already got all I need and I want no other You feel awful for shattering my heart I said don’t worry, let’s just see it as a fresh new start.