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Andrea's Advice!

I have been dating a guy over the net. We are close and even told each other that we loved each other and we both really mean it. I am almost 16 and he is 18.

Now he won't email me back or even try to find me on the net. I know he has a steady job but shouldn't he make time for his girlfriend? Please tell me what to do.

Yes he should make time for his girlfriend. This guy is clearly a cad and you are not being unreasonable at all because you love each other and you really meant it when you said it so he must have too and actions do not speak louder than words, so the fact that he is ignoring you now doesn't mean he never really loved you and has found a new trollup to trollup with, but that he has simply forgotten how to be a good boyfriend and needs to be reminded. The best reminders are constant. And I don't mean that you should constantly send him messages because he also might be too busy to read them. No, since it's his work that's keeping him busy you just need to find out where he works, march on over there, sit your butt down in his workspace, and not move until he gives you the love and adoration you so richly deserve. If that doesn't work, let him know in no uncertain terms that you will find a way to be wherever he is, because if he can't make time for you in his life you'll just have to be his life. Find out his complete schedule and show up wherever he goes. If he starts getting angry at you for disrupting things then his priorities are all out of whack and you should gently redirect his energies towards you by getting rid of those distractions. This includes getting him fired, turning his friends against him (especially if any are girls) and alienating him from his family in any way you can. Then he will be yours forever.

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