I havent lost my virginity yet but came very close with my past boyfriend, who i loved. But one thing that stopped me was that it hurts. He sed he wud neve hurt me on purpose but im really worried bout the pain. Wot happenes when the guy starts to enjoy himself? Does he thrust harder? That wud cause more pain for me then? PLEASE HELP!!

Hi, i'm not a virgin, and yes it was painful the first few times i had sex. I knew that it would be, though, and was ready for it. If it's too painful you can always ask him to stop, the guy that i was with offered. I did cry, but not because it hurt, but it did feel like my insides were about to rip apart, lol. If you want to "build yourself up" to it, try letting him finger you with two or three fingers to sort of stretch you. Also, certain positions hurt more/less. doggie-style hurts even after i'm a veteran, lol, and maybe you should start on top so you can control his movement and depth.

I recently lost my virgnity and it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Like you I'd heard that it hurt a lot. I could never bring myself to ask my friends if it were true.however I was fine if not sore for about the next day or so.

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I think it's even more important than usual to have a good foreplay and so on, so you're both relaxed. I'm not a girl, so I haven't experienced the feeling myself, but I can imagine it's a much higher risk of hurting if you're tense. Of course, it's hard to relax if you're afraid, but I think the best thing is to try not worry about it.

Im a guy So I wouldn't know about the pain. But you just need to communicate with your b/f. Let him know its uncofortable and to slow down. Otherwise he might thrust harder. Communication is the key. But some girls don't have pains.