In all my limited wisdom, I would have thought love would transcend all physical attributes of a person. Love, the most important aspect of our being - what we all ascribe to, what we all search for, what we all desire. And yet, can we have love without physical attraction? I have had many wonderful and beautiful fulfilling relationships, but I have also had my share of broken hearts. It is time once again to give love another try.

I think many women here have become defined by their roles in society and not by who they really are. They say, "My name is, so and so and I am a banker, accountant, etc. I am Jim's wife." They no longer know who they truly are. Their husbands leave them, their kids grow up, get married, and move on. They have taken care of everyone for years without ever taking care of themselves or knowing what they truly want out of life anymore. They are defined by who their husbands "were" and not who "they are."

Which leads me to:

Even though I am not the person I was (thank goodness) I am a much better person now.Even though I no longer have the body of an athlete, it does not define who "I" am.Even though I do not have the looks of a Brad Pitt, it does not define who "I" am.Even though I do not have the intelligence of a scientist or mathematician, it does not define who "I" am.Even though I may have lost my center, I am getting closer.Even though my heart has been killed in the past, it does not mean I do not want love. I am here. Please be patient & grow with me. Friendship, is sometimes more important than love & love needs friendship.My past does not define who I am, it has only aided me to find myself. Even negative past experiences are good. How else could we possibly know what we do not want?

After the initial phase of a relationship, isn't it all about growing together? Doing things together? Watching a movie? Playing a board game. Talking. Sharing knowlege. Taking a class together. Laughing. Taking nice long walks and becoming one with nature. Watching the sunset? (As most of us include in our profile descriptions for activities?)

I am here for what we are all here for - acceptance, happiness, friendship, fulfillment of desire, feelings of fullness in all things, love.

I also would like a person to love me as much as I love them, with sincerity, honesty and respect. And to love my heart as well as my inner soul. To love me for my strengths as well as my deficiencies, and to help me become a better person by sharing your heart and soul with me, which also is reciprocal. I want to feel someone next to me each day and I want to kiss someone each morning and run my fingertips across their face and through their hair... And tell them that I love them by showing them, not by false words. As the saying goes, "I am not only looking for moments of special time, I am looking for a lifetime of special moments." Though our lives may be short, our love should be enduring. I am hoping to find this kind of love, (as we all are). Someone who is willing to laugh, to talk, to hold me when I am sad and going through troubled times so that I may hold her in her time of need and sadness.

And to laugh, which is so necessary, especially in times like today.

Love, "should" be unconditional, and love should be passionate, and love should be shared between two people. Can we be friends?

Emery

I enjoy reading, writing, art, music, nature, computers, and a good conversations (different viewpoints and opinions are a must - I try to stay in the middle of the road)! I also enjoy a good laugh and someone with a sense of humor. My aspiration is to finish a book I started years ago. When I say, I enjoy the beauty of life, I "really do" enjoy the beauty of life - sunsets (amazing) finding peace within nature and becoming a part of it. When it comes to music, I used to play lead guitar in a band back in the day and I still love classic rock as my favorite.

First Date

Just getting acquainted with someone at a scenic spot and learning about their likes and dislikes, their beliefs, their aspirations, etc. Enjoying their company alone would be very settling and pleasant. A peaceful setting, enjoying nature would be a wonderful thing.