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I like him, but he likes her. :/

So, I'm in the eighth grade and there's this guy I like. He's tall, blonde, on the football team and super cute, but I wouldn't necessarily say he's popular. He completely ignores me, and I try to ignore him to make my crush not so obvious because I don't wanna get rejected.

The problem is that he likes one of the "popular" girls who is playing hard to get and I know, because I observe them from afar like some sort of creepy stalker (lol). And I have 2 classes with him and I sometimes see him at lunch, but he's always sitting with the popular girls and their wannabes.

At some point, I started thinking "maybe I'm too weird" "maybe I'm not pretty enough" "maybe I'm not skinny enough" "maybe I'm not good enough", but I'm tired of stressing and chasing after something that I might not ever have.

but sometimes you just have to DO IT. take risks! it makes things exciting! ^_^ and dont be jelous of that chick, she sounds like one of those "fake" girls am i right? well first, get her out of you mind. focus on him. you have to start talking to him if you want him to notice you. get outta that shell. trust me ive been in a shell when i was in 8th grade, starting 9th i started to come out and even more as i went on. but take your chance and talk to him, dnt stress yourself out with those thought, just take action and talk to him :] like in class or something. if you think hes a sweet kid with real feelings then he will talk to you.

If you won't talk to him he'll never know you even exist, that's how it is. It's not that he thinks stuff of you: he doesn't think of you, because he doesn't know you at all.Plus, I don't think it's worth it. Do what you got to do, or leave it.

Well, it's not like you have to go up to him and say, "We're perfect for each other, I have a huge crush on you, let's go out!!11!!"

It sounds like you have a crush on a guy you've barely ever even spoken to or know anything about. Just approach him like you would any other person--be friendly, be yourself, talk about things you'd normally talk about. When you talk to any other new person, do you worry they'll think you're an idiot too?

If you get to know him more, you'll either become more comfortable around him or realize you don't like him all that much after all.

Have you tried to talk with him yet? And I do not mean like telling him you like him in that way, but more about general things. Maybe you could sit next to him in one of the two classes you have with him and start a conversation about e.g. something thats going on in the class or in school. Just keep it casual. Two outcomes are possible, he either- Talks back (yeah)- Still ignores you.The latter indicates he obviously is to narrowminded to step outside his comfort zone and talk to people that do not fall in the "popular" category. This is his lost and you are better of without him.

I understand. Maybe it helps to think about what the worst thing is that could happen.Just say something about uhm... that math is really hard (almost everyone agrees on that, so that makes it a more accessible topic). Worst thing that could happen at that moment is that he looks at you and after that ignores you. In that case you have the answer that he is not worth it, and everything goes back to normal.What also could help in this case is talking with a friend about (again a general) topic and than just casually turn toward him and ask him what he thinks. This way he looks like an ass if he reacts in a mean or rejecting way, and you can continue the conversation with your friend like nothing happened.Believe me (this coming from a shy person herself) it does get so much better in the future!

Okay for one you are 13 and have plenty of time for love in your future, for now think about what kind of career you might want to take your mind off him otherwise you will get too stressed. So just take your mind off him and think of something else for a while.

I think you should just forget about him, and move on there. It doesn't seem as if he's interested at all and you're doing yourself further mental/emotional injury chasing something that isn't going to happen. You're in eighth grade and have plenty of time to find plenty of people.

Yeah, I thought about that. My grades are slipping as well, but ever since my little sister was diagnosed with diabetes, I haven't been able to think straight and I keep thinking about suicide and cutting.

You have to want to get him off your mind to get him off your mind there. Say to yourself that you want him off your mind, and that you'll be moving on. Then, keep yourself busy and focus on other things.