Narcissistic and toxic mothers are often injured in their childhoods by their own stunted emotional development. In order to fully develop into a healthy adult, we need a very nurturing and emotionally validating environment. Toxic and narcissistic mothers often grow up without that nurturing. They have jumped through hoops and tailored themselves to others around them. They have been invited to be a part of mind games, lies, and manipulation. They may have been told repeatedly that they weren't wanted.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

People with borderline or narcissistic personality disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling - in the extreme.

I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) experience such violent and frightening mood swings that they often fear for their sanity. They can be euphoric one moment, despairing and depressed the next. For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, and treat. But with this classic guide, Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and health writer Hal Straus offer much-needed professional advice, helping victims and their families understand and cope with this troubling, shockingly widespread affliction.

Outsmart Yourself: Brain-Based Strategies to a Better You

The brain is an astounding organ, and today neuroscientists have more insights than ever about how it works - as well as strategies for helping us live better every day. These 24 practical lectures give you a wealth of useful strategies for improving your well-being. By presenting evidence-based "hacks" for your brain, Professor Vishton empowers you to take charge of your life and perform better all around.

With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 best-seller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters - and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive new relationships so you can build a better life.

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Publisher's Summary

Many people with personality disorders are products of their environments. They were raised by mothers and/or fathers who were either self-absorbed, abusive, neglectful, or cruel. They had genetic vulnerability to be sensitive to their environment instead of gaining the type of resiliency that is bulletproof around adults who are a bad influence to the children whom they watch over.

Most personality-disordered, anxious, traumatized, or stressed people often wonder what a normal mother or a normal family environment looks like. Sometimes, they think that their environment was normal simply because they did not experience physical abuse. But these individuals were often in emotionally invalidating environments where the adults around them only cared about their own wants and needs, often ignoring their children's needs.

This book will discuss the traits of a good mother in contrast with the traits of a bad mother. It will cover real cases of mothers with borderline personality disorder and some of the cruel treatment they gave their children. The children of seriously ill borderline mothers often grow up with posttraumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, schizoid disorder, psychopathy, or narcissism. They can experience a wide range of physical and emotional conditions that are directly related to the chronic stress and the chaos that they lived through as children.