Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

how to keep on?

very depressed. af started today. this is my 4th month after the miscarriage, and we've been trying, and doing everything right. charting, prenatal vitamins, timing intercourse. what else to do? every time i get af, i grieve all over again. i can't keep doing this. how to keep on?

i wish i had a good answer for you. i have had two mc's in the two years we have been trying. my last mc was this past july and i am still hoping for that BFP. the only advice i have is that you have to stay positive. if a baby is what you want you will keep going and you will get there when the time is right! and if you are truly worried see a fertility specialist. good luck with everything. and just know you are not the only one going through this.

I'm so sorry honey! I don't really have any advice cause I'm going through the same things. Everyone just tells me to relax and it will happed but how can you relax when you want to be pregnant so bad. Especially when all I can think about is how I should be 31 weeks right now not worrying about trying to get pregnant.

I'm so sorry...I know what you're going thru. I had my m/c at the end of March and we've been trying since May and still nothing. I tried clomid for 3 months and nothing. Now, I'm trying a more holistic approach. I've been reading alot about the herbs and vitamins that will help fertility. Also, there are foods that are more conducive to fertility and some that do nothing but bad things for you. I started this new regime at the end of November. We'll see how it goes or how long my husband can go without caffeine and artifiicial sweeteners. I just read a book by a ob/gyn who specializes in tcm (traditional chinese medicine) and she doesn't even like to use the word infertile. in tcm they believe that it's simply an imbalance in your body and once you bring your body back into balance thru diet, herbs and supplements, and accupuncture, accupressure and massage, a woman should be able to conceive. It's really interesting reading and makes alot of sense. I've done acupuncture before and it worked miracles on my hands so I can only imagine what else it can do. I also had a friend who went thru IVF and received acupuncture while going thru it and she also swears by it.
Good luck!

It took me 7 months to get my BFP after miscarriage. At first I was desperate to get pregnant again. I eventually realized that stressing about it every month wasn't helping and that I needed to accept that it would happen when it happened and there was nothing I could do to speed it along. Then I got pregnant. :) I just set goals for myself. I told myself that if I wasn't PG in a year of perfectly timed BD'ing, then I would go to the doctor. Give it time, it will happen. Unfortunately, you can't make it happen.

I'm sorry I know a month can seem like a year when you are desperate to carry another baby. I hope it happens soon for you and then you'll be looking back on this hard time instead of being in the middle of it. I tried to have a list of goals apart from getting PG, like: go for walks, eat healthy, loose some weight, be positive. Some things to keep my focus elsewhere. It was still really hard. Good on you for trying so hard to do everything right. Your body will ripen some really big fat healthy eggs!!!!!

I totally understand. I only had my D&amp;C around 3 weeks ago and I can't wait to get my period, so that I can try again. It is so heartbreaking when you desperately want a baby. I can't stop thinking where I'd be had I not lost my baby. I would be in my 2nd trimester and just starting to show. I will keep my fingers crossed for you and for all of us to have a better new year.

Sometimes its a bit more work than what you think when it comes to getting pregnant. If you know you're doing everything right, then keep at it! Don't give up! It will happen, it just takes time sometimes. Not everyone succeeds right away. It will happen for you, you just need to be patient. (as hard as that is to do)Keep at it, don't give up!

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