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Several months ago I shared with you that I believed Kate Plus 8 would be cancelled because there would be very few eyeballs watching the show. People are not interested in seeing grown children and tweens , who do not possess any outstanding talent being exposed on TV. People also do not want to see train wreck in the making. Paul Peterson , President of A Minor Consideration and former child actor has made us all aware of what often happens to child performers when they grow up and it often isn’t pleasant.

Jon Gosselin was not being petty or playing ” tit for tat” during and after his divorce from Kate on this issue. Instead he was being a very responsible father by loudly vocalizing that he did not think it was good for the kid’s emotional and physical well being to be on TV at this point.

After watching Kate Gosselin’s latest interview with Meredith Vierra on the Today Show I saw an angry, bitter, and petty woman who just can’t let go of her hatred towards Jon.

She is in such denial that she does’nt have any clue that her inner hatred and anger is being mirrored by those kids and literally destroying them. As she took her anger out on Jon and continues to be filled with hatred, her kids are taking their anger and hatred out on the other kids. at school

They have anger issues because she has anger issues. It’s not because of the divorce. It is because she is so angry about the divorce and that anger carries over to them. Lots of kids are products of divorce and they don[t go around beating on and cursing at other kids.

THE LEG KICK

Kate began the interview kicking her legs. When someone kicks their legs when they are about to be interviewed it means they are very uncomfortable and are not looking forward to the interview because they probably will not be forthright with you.

THE HEAD COCK

Then in a monotone she says ” We are doing great” as she opens her eyes wide. This eye widening is often a signal of deception. Then she says We are very happy and adds the word “actually, ”When you have to add the word actually” it most likely means that things are not actually that great.

When Kate was asked about whether the two of the kids were expelled from school she cocks her head to the side. This is often a signal of deception. She then speaks in a staccato hyper articulated speech pattern saying ” That is false.” When one does that, it is usually signals deception. Also there was a lot of fidgeting with her hands. This is another sign of deception.

Now we hear her convoluted attempts filled with ums. It does not make sense as it is disjointed. She is searching for words as she knows what she is saying is complete spin and nonsense.”

We have a situation where we my kids um are in an academic situation where academics um are pushed and I fully support it. Combined with kids who were having to just go through with a divorce. Their parents suffering some of those normal feelings

When someone speaks in fragments like you see above they are lying, When they speak in tangents they are lying.

The telling thing here is her words ” their parents suffering.” It shows just how narcissistic she is. She doesn’t say the children are suffering but instead brings it back to herself, saying that she is suffering.

‘Then she says and the two collided and they were not doing well with the combination. What about a simple YES THEY WERE EXPELLED BECAUSE THEY ARE TROUBLED EMOTIONALLY!!

Body language wise look at Kate’s upturned palm. What this means is she is begging for Meredith and the audience to to believe her roundabout circumvented deceptive answer.

Kate says I felt so alone, I talked to other moms who had gone through the divorces. This is is NOT about Kate and her divorce. It is about the kids but she is obviously too self absorbed to see that.

Then she protests so much as she shakes her head NO, knowing full well what she is saying is complete BS as she says ’Its NORMAL Stuff as she shakes her head no.

Then she suddenly looks down. This is a huge indicator of deception as she says I did what I could do we mutually agreed. I brought them home with a private tutor

Then she says …um um (she smiles as though she remembered to say something she left out as part of her spin) She says and Early education teacher…

Kate is speaking in fragments which means she is most likely reciting some rhetoric she was no doubt told to say . She obviously messed up her lines.’’

Then she shows just how in denial she is as she recites : It is dealing with the very normal results of a divorce.”

WHAt???????? Most kids have parents who get divorced and d they don’t beat one another and curse them like her kids allegedly did. How about admitting that their anger is the result of a hostile hateful and angry mother whom they no doubt mirrored. They saw her anger and abuse towards their father almost every day of their young lives.’

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Kate obviously knows what she is saying is complete BS. That is why she purses her lips in an attempt to hold back all the BS.

STILL BITCHING ABOUT JON

Then Kate Gets bitchy as she has to say how Good she is and how BAD Jon is. She just has to tell one just how she reached out to him first, and how it depend on the day and the hour , thus giving him yet another zing . This is a man she not only emotionally destroyed and emasculated throughout her marriage by hitting him and belittling him, but now she has removed his voice

The man isn’t even allowed to go on the airwaves to defend himself or he will get fined and lose what little he does have.

LEAVE JON ALONE!!!!!!!!

Why does she have to go there? Why can’t she leave him be? If he is the father of her kids and always will be as she made sure to say on the show, then she needs to leave him alone and stop trashing him.

He loves his kids and is the reason they will probably have a chance at life. He has only given them love nd affection.

Now that he has a beautiful lovely and beautiful woman in his life – Ellen Ross, those kids will finally know about a healthy male female relationship. They will see a man and a woman who respect one another not a man and a woman who constantly bicker like they saw with Jon and Kate .

Then she says And Honestly when I think of the old days I try to email him and write him and give him a call. When someone starts a sentence with Honestly chances are they are not being honest,

Then Meredith relayed to Kate how Jon apologized on his twitter account publicly for what he did to Kate. Instead of acting like a mature adult and saying I appreciate it or petty Kate says she doesn’t consider interviews and twitters an apology and that she never got a an apology yet.”

HOW PETTY!!!!!!!!!

Kate, get over it! Talking like that is what will ruin your kids forever. Your pettiness will transfer over to them.

Then she disgustingly says ” Strangely and ironically I have forgiven him..’’

If you have really forgiven him then why the shoulder shrugs which indicate deception. Why all the high drama? In my view Jon is the one who needs to forgive you for abusing and emotionally torturing him until he went over the edge.

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KATE LEAKS OUT ANGER, AND MORE ANGER !!!!!!!

Then she leaks out ” people who are close to me are upset that I don’t get that angry. And who are those people, Steve Neild the bodyguard?

Then on the next breath she leaks out “I am angry,” Then she changes her mind and says What good does it does it do I don’t have time to waste”

But her expression and vocal inflection say it all. She scrunched up her face and goes up at the end of the statement as though she is asking a question. She clearly knows she does not believe what she is saying.

Kate, here is a very valuable message to you. Since the therapist is allegedly already in the house to take care of the two angry home schooled kids, why not have a session with the therapist as well? The therapist can help you get over your anger towards Jon.’

Your anger is making the kids angry which is destroying their little lives. Your anger is being mirrored by them in school. You talk about sending them back to school . Well here is a secret. They will never make it back and succeed there unless you get to the root of the problem-your deep rooted anger.

ADDITIONAL PETTINESS FROM KATE

Kate haven’t you done enough to punish and destroy Jon? You have silenced the man so he cannot speak up or speak back. You have taken away opportunities for him to make big money on the media and now you are suing him for 125K for child support.

Please tell us how this man is supposed to earn a living when you have destroyed his opportunities. Tell us how he is supposed to have a full time job and have no money for nannies and maids and still take care of the kids when you are out and about?

JON IS RIGHT!!!! GET THE KIDS OFF THE AIR

Jon was apparently livid when Kate left their kids with a teenage babysitter whom he did not know and the sitter was instructed by Kate not to talk with Jon.

Kate just dismissed these concerns. The fact that two of the children showed behavioral problems would be a red enough flag for any parent to take their kids off the air. Jon has tried.let’s hope that he succeeds before it is too late.Let’s hope that a disaster can be avoided.. www.drlillianglass.com

I am not a medical doctor and I did not do a physical examination on Michaele Salahi. I also did not check her laboratory tests to see if she does or she doesn’t have MS. But as a doctor with a PhD who has spent a lot of years studying communication and body language, I do find her reaction on Fox and Friends rather odd. I am not accusing her of lying about her alleged disease but something is not sitting right with me on many levels.

ARE BOOK SALES, TV RATINGS , AND TRYING TO GAIN PITY FOR A HATED IMAGE THE REASON WHY SHE’S NOW TELLING THE WORLD ABOUT HER ALLEGED MS?

Michaele says she has been secretive about having a disorder for 17 years where family members and her “best friend” didn’t know until now. So why go on national television to tell everyone now?

Is it to possibly create publicity for her show -The Real Housewives of DC? Is it possibly to generate book sales so people can read about her “secret”. Or is it possibly due to the fact that she was so vilified and even more hated since she pulled that stunt on the View about Whoppie hitting her,that she wanted to throw a pity party so people would feel sorry for her and not hate her as much? Is Bravo and their PR minions behind this because they may fear a backlash with people turning off the show? Did they let her go to town and talk about her disease in hopes to generate sympathy and interest in her, so people will tune in and watch how she is dealing with her alleged medical condition?

ONCE A LIAR IS USUALLY ALWAYS A LIAR AND OFTENTIMES A BIGGER LIAR THAN BEFORE

When Michaele spoke of her alleged MS, she did not appear like a sympathetic character to me as she was sharing her “secret”. Something was way off. The fact that she lied about so many things in the past may add to my skepticism and the public’s skepticism about her story.

She lied about being a Redskin cheerleader. Even her author Diane Diamond, whom I know personally and respect, confirmed she lied. She lied about having a formal bona fide invitation to the White House party.

And according to a just released statement by Bravo, she lied about not being able to speak about the invitation to the White House because Bravo gave her instructions not to speak to anyone about the incident including to members at the Congressional hearing . It seems like Michaele was ready to throw Bravo under the bus to protect her image, but Bravo threw her under the bus first and busted her.

WHEN SOMEONE IS SO HUNGRY FOR FAME THEY MAY DO ANYTHING- POSE NAKED OR SAY THEY HAD MS IF THEY DID NOT HAVE THE DISEASE

So who is to say that this woman who appears to be so hungry for another 15 minutes of fame, would not lie about having a debilitating disease?

When one sees that much desperation in this 44 year old , it is easy for others to assume she would do anything for that fame- even showing her anorexic looking body with alleged full frontal nudity on the pages of Playboy. Personally I can’t think of anything more repulsive than seeing this woman naked in any shape or form.

If she is lying, all I can say is heaven help her because it is not good karma coming her way.

And for the record if her revelation about MS was a way to explain away her skinniness, it didn’t work either. Those who have done research on MS said that weight loss is not associated with the disease.

HOW COME THE “CHARITABLE” SALAHI’S NEVER GAVE TO THE MS CHARITIES?

Michaele and her husband Tareq have been known to throw charity events as a way to meet and hobnob with the rich and famous. They raised money for such causes as children, leukemia and lymphoma, and even for a Navy Retirement fund. But there has been no mention of raising funds for MS.

People who usually have a disease or have a close relative or friend with a disease will often raise money for that cause. Socialite Nancy Davis did that with her MS Foundation and Montel Williams who also has the disease has been raising money for the cause. Michael J. Fox raises money for Parkinson’s Disease which affects him. Then there are people like Elizabeth Taylor and Sharon Stone who have had special people in their lives who died of AIDS They have dedicated themselves to raise money for this cause in honor of the people they loved.

So it is odd that someone who suffered from a disease for 17 years and who was in a position to raise charitably funds, did not raise money for a fund that would have been near and dear to them personally.

MICHAELE’S EMOTIONAL REACTION TO THE DISEASE DID NOT APPEAR GENUINE

Seconds into her interview, Michaele began the theatrics of feigned upset and emotion. There were no visible tears which she was seen wiping away. In addition, her recovery time from her “upset” was too quick. There was no transition time. She went from an upset expression to an immediate genuine smile. When that happens it means that the person was’t really all that upset in the first place.

She looked over at Tareq as if to get some sort of cue to begin her waterworks. Only no waterworks came, no matter how hard she tried.

She tried to wipe away a tear, but there was no liquid or tear to wipe away. While she attempted to create upset with her eyes and forehead, her lips and mouth are a giveaway. When someone is upset, their lips go downwards, not upwards in a smile. If you cover her eyes in this photo you will see that she looks like she is smiling. That shows that the upset is not a genuine emotion.

She also managed to straighten her hair. When someone is upset, they don’t fix their hair or fiddle with it. That is often a signal of deception.

Then you see her touching her neck and pursing her lips. It was a lot of over the top drama for someone that has allegedly had 17 years to adjust to the disease. All of these histrionics were over the top and no doubt designed to garner sympathy from the viewer. In fact Michael was so “distraught” that she could not even speak.

If someone was suddenly told they had a debilitating disease, I could see them getting choked up or sobbing a bit or getting teary eyed. But she has had 17 tears to digest the fact that she has this alleged disease. That certainly is enough time to process what has allegedly happened to her.

So I found her reaction on television where it looked as though she feigned being speechless and choked up, lacking in credibility.

TOO QUICK RECOVERY TIME AND IMMEDIATELY LEAKING OUT A HUGE GENUINE SMILE IS ANOTHER HUGE GIVE AWAY SOMETHING IS AMISS

Here is what is terribly wrong with this picture. When one is upset, there is a transition period of a few seconds where they go from one emotion into the next. She immediately went from a feigned sadness to bright happiness. It is not natural and it validates to me that something is very wrong here.

VOCAL AND SPEAKING TELLS MAKE ONE QUESTION MICHAEL’s CREDIITTY’

As Diane defends Michaele, Michaele is all smiles and confidence and nods in agreement as Diane says she is not anorexic , not a White House crasher, and how she is always picked on.Micheaele even smiles and nods in agreement.

It was as though this little back and forth was rehearsed as suddenly non choked up Michaele tells Gretchin the host of FOx and Friends she is ready to speak.

And then she speaks at an over the top manic sounding clip where she is brimming with confidence. She tells of how her family and best friends didn’t know of her condition. As she says thi, she leaks out tells of looking away. This is often a signal of deception.

She then goes into the third person, sounding like some sort of spokesperson as she says how a lot of people with chronic illnesses don’t talk about it. The she says YOU KNOW any type of disease YOU KNOW whether it is heartor whatever you deal with(pauses and swallows hard) breast cancer…When someone says you know several times in a sentence , it means they are usually trying to convince you of something.

Then we see yet another signal of deception as she said I kept it personal because I never wanted to be judged , I never wanted PITY.Right after she says PITY in a loud voice as if to emphasize the word, we see a shoulder shrug which is a clear signal of deception. Of course she wants pity. That is why she is on national television now telling everyone she allegedly has MS.

Now we really see the signals of deception in full force as she opens her eyes widely which often happens when a person is trying to convince you about something that is not necessarily true. You can see in the photo. Her tone is also defensive and so is her body posture as she defensively leans back. She says “I certainly wanted to hold on to my job. ”

She then opens her eyes widely as if to once again convince the listener to believe what she has just said. But her shoulder shrug is a huge giveaway. It says that she is not telling us the truth. Hold on to her job? What job? Wasn’t she working with Tareq and social climbing? What job did she hold? We are talking about 17 years here.

You may think that what I will say next may sound a bit far fetched. But here I go anyway. Maybe her MS revelation is a little insurance for her to keep her job at Bravo. In essence she has let Bravo know that she has an illness and if they fire her now , knowing she has MS, she can sue them for discrimination and firing her because she has a disability.

After seeing her accusing Whoopie of hitting her and reading about all of her legal issues and lawsuits and not paying her bills and all kinds of other messes, I would not put anything past her and Tareq.

I must also add that her rapid rate of speech and over the top frenetic body movement also appear to me to be giveaway that she may not be telling us the truth about her situation.

MICHAELE FINALLY LEAKS OUT THE REAL REASON SHE IS TELLING ABOUT HER ALLEGED MS

She says in frenetic tone and movement that maybe all of this happened with the White House for a reason so that I can do something good to help someoneelse .” As soon as she utters these words she then shakes her head NO which is a huge signal of deception.

She also knows she is full of it as she continues to speak with her shaky voice and talks about strides they are making. Who is making these strides and what does she have to do with it?

In my opinion, the he only person she is doing anything good for is herself!

So now we know why Michaele was on TV talking about her MS. It was to sell her book and to not have people hate her for crashing the White House party. She has made an excuse that if it wouldnt have been for the White House fiasco she wouldn’t be talking about her MS , whereby she can now help people.’

But how is her telling the world she has MS helping anyone?

Is she giving all of her money she earns from the book to an MS foundation? NO! Is she giving her Bravo salary to an MS foundation? NO! Is she even doing a fundraiser to raise money for MS? NO!

The whole thing was sickening and self serving in my view. Michaele fails to realize that the public is NOT stupid. They can see right through her. She is yet another itless untalented self-serving television creature with nothing of value to offer, only deception and self serving goals.

When two people are in step and their feet are in synchrony chances are they are often a couple.

When they share similar facial expressions, it usually m eans that they are like-minded.

When they are seen wearing the same colored top it also usually means they are like-minded.

When they walk in step ,have similar facial expressions, and wear the same colors, chances are even higher high that they are a couple.

When someone looks adoringly at the other party and smiles a genuine smile as you see Kate smiling towards her bodyguard, it indicates that there is often emotional closeness and a lot. Kate of affection. Kate”s smile is one of the most genuine smiles we have ever seen her smiling. I don’t recall seeing such a smile when she is around her kids. We definitely never saw her smiling like this around Jon. Could Kate be in love with her bodyguard? Could Steve be the hot romance of her life?

There has been talk in the past that when these two travel there are adjoining rooms. Were they in adjoining rooms on this trip to Mexico as well? Were they on the same room? Is Steve still married? If he is still married, does he have an open marriage?

It was also reported that an eyewitness saw the the two of them getting very cozy with legs touching legs this summer when they were away together. Were the two just as cozy in Mexico? Were there eyewitnesses this time or were they more careful to take their coziness behind closed doors if they happened to be cozy? These are just questions which come to mind when you see people together so often.

Now before Kate lovers get their panties in a bunch and accuse me of telling lies, I say to them , first of all. I don’t lie. And most import of all, the body doesn’t lie and neither do these photos . Steve Neild the bodyguard and Kate look like they are are very close to one another, even though Steve tries to look professional with an often non-smiling serious facial expression. The other “tells” seem to me to be huge give aways.

And while I am on the subject of bodyguard, why in the world would Kate need a bodyguard? There are no mobs around her. She is also in Mexico where she is not known. She is simply a reality celebrity and only became one because she is a mother of 8 because she took fertility drugs. She’s not Lady Gaga or Madonna. To me her bodyguard is nothing more than her traveling companion and perhaps maybe more. Only the two of them know for certain what goes on behind closed doors. The rest is speculation. But the fact that they are so much in synch is not speculation.

Since the two of then spend so much time together they cannot help but become like-minded. When people become like-minded, anything can happen- even a love affair. Now I am not accusing Kate and Steve of having a love affair as I am not privy to their private comings and goings. But based on these photos and their body language they look like they are very much in synch and they look very, very close to one another.

And finally we see how Kate has once again created a statement of deception and some PR spin for herself where she told the world on Regis and Kelly how when the kids are with Jon, she sits at home by the phone to wait for their calls where they cry that they want to return home. This certainty didn’t seem to be the case as she walked in step with Steve in Mexico, wearing matching colored tops. And she certainly didn’t look very lonely as she also reported on the show. www.drlillianglass.com

With two television shows on TLC, View, Emmy, and DWTS appearances under her belt and a huge PR machine behind her, whether you love her or hate her Kate Gosselin appears to be here to stay. She’s here to stay for one reason and one reason only- she brings in eyeballs viewer’s eyeballs. Those fans who love her, watch her because they love her. Those fans who hate her often want to see what she will do next. Then there are those who are curious. They watch her to see what all the fuss is about. As long as she gets eyeballs watching her, she is here to stay. When the eyeballs turn away to another channel, Kate Gosselin will be nothing more than a faded memory. TLC is her guardian angel and they have invested a lot of money on star building this “itless” persona. Some TLC exceutive or “suit” as they are called in the business thought it would be a good idea to make Kate a star, so they set forth on that quest.

They made her look great but that is about it. She can’t act, sing, dance, has no expertise . Please don’t tell me that she is an expert on motherhood. Popping fertility drugs and having sextuplets does not make one an expert in parenting or child rearing. Getting an advanced education in the subject, where you are aware of all the nuances in the scientific literature gives you that expertise , along with experience of working with a lot of different children that do not happen to be your own offspring.

She cannot host because she is way too consumed with Kate. Also the smarminess, entitlement, selfishness, anger, sarcasm, hostility, and inner hatred that leaks out with consistency is so deep-rooted that it will be very difficult to get that under control without years and years of the therapy.In my view that is who she is. She demonstrated it in her original show, DWTS, on many talk shows on which she appeared, and most recently on Regis and Kelly.

Why was Kate on Regis and Kelly when she had nothing to promote? She was no doubt put there by her PR minions where TLC is obviously the helm. She was on the show for one reason only- damage control!

Why would esteemed Anderson Cooper ask her those obviously pointed questions if he was not fed those questions by her team? It was no doubt done to was clearly done to spin it Kate’s way . It was obvious that the questions could be answered by her in a way to make Jon look bad and make her look good. It was done to quell the recent hoopla that appeared all over the internet where all the hysterical sextuplets were clearly heard sobbing at the top of their lungs and wailing. hey didn’t want daddy to leave and they appeared terrified to go home to Kate.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND KATE’S BEHAVIOR ON REGIS AND KELLY WAS NOT PRETTY

Even though she has pulled it together with awesome makeup complete with red glossy lips , a toned body with muscular arms , and a beautiful face, I am still of the school that pretty is a pretty does” and there are too many instances when I believe Kate’s behavior just hasn’t been pretty.

When a parent tries to pit their kids between them and their ex, it is time for me to speak up. That is exactly what Kate did on Regis and Kelly. She pitted her children against her and Jon by trashing him in front of millions. And don’t tell me he did the same to her on national TV. That was then and this is now. And two wrongs don’t make a right. It was immature and hateful on BOTH of their parts. But now that over a year has gone by it is clear that she needs to speak about her hatred and anger towards Jon to a therapist, not to Kelly and Anderson in front of millions of people.

It makes her look disturbed, bitter, immature, and very UGLY inside and out. Her anger at Jon’s past behavior with his cheating, running off at the mouth on national TV, and acting irresponsible is misdirected. Instead, she needs to take a good look at herself and her role in abusing this poor guy to the point he had enough and went off the deep end. Yes, years of constant emotional abuse can make a person behave as we saw Jon behave.

MESSAGE TO ALL KATE FANATICS

And please to all you Kate fanatics who take it as a personal affront when anyone says anything that may not be music to you eyes or ears about Kate. I say the following to you:

If you are such a good and loyal fan of Kate’s then you need to be a real friend and a fan and let your friend know when they are messing up. You need to send Kate a message that she is messing up her children emotionally, by acting the way she did on Regis and Kelly.

I don’t want to hear about what you think about my credibility. After the education, background, and experience I have and the years I have devoted to the study and analysis of body language, I can assure you that I am credible enough be used by top media outlets around the world and in law enforcement an in the legal field and to have been a qualified witness in both state and federal courts. So I am not concerned with what you think of my credibility simply because I add my opinions to my body language analyses. That is what blogs are for- to give your opinions.

And please don’t waste my time telling me I am writing about Kate because I am jealous of her or I want to enhance my own populatity. I am jealous of no one. And just for the record, I have been around well before there was a Kate Gosselin on television. And as far as popularity goes, I have millions of books around the world that bear my name. So I don’t need Kate Gosselin to enhance my notoriety or for people to read my blog. Thousands of people read my blogs each day with or without Kate Gosselin as the subject matter.

KHATE’S ANGRY JAW

Substitute host Anderson Cooper asked if her relationship with Jon was as contentious as it appears to be. Kate nodded her head yes and tightened up her jaw and let out a hissing snake like sound as she said Itssss ya now. She then shrugged her shoulders and let loose with her first jab towards Jon. You can really see the anger and hatred Kate holds towards Jon. It’s in her jaw. Look at the enormous tension . There is so much tension and anger that you see dimpling. In addition, look at how her lips are pulled back in anger. When a person harbors hatred and anger it is readily seen in their lower jaw as we see with Kate.

In typical Kate form as she continues to remind us how good she is and how bad Jon is she jabbed ” I do try to keep it as peaceful as possible. I’ll speak formyself , How’s that?”

I’ll tell you how that was Kate. It was awful! It was unnecessary and downright nasty. You did not have to go there! And you said he is the kids father. STOP ! End of Sentence! Stop the facial contortions and snide smarminess. It makes you look small and petty and downright UGLY.All the enhancements that were done to you physically mean nothing if you act bitchy, witchy, and snitchy.

Then in order to make herself look good again and redirect the spin in response to the video of a few weeks back when all the kids were crying in the car after they arrived at her home and screamed that they didn’t want daddy to leave, as you see below

Kate makes a contorted phony expression with a phony laugh. You can see the phony expression with her furrowed forehead, raised eyebrow and tight non genuine smile, where there is tension around the corners of the mouth. The facial gestures are incongruent which indicates phoniness. She states that she “waits at home for a phone call from the kids asking when they can come home.”

ONE WAY STREET! KATE CAN TRASH JON BUT JON CAN’T FIGHT BACK OR HE GETS SUED

That is horrible! It is so obvious what she was doing! She has the national forum and was getting aback at Jon and spinning her image. The ony thing is that she spun is her image into the ground. It made her look awful and revealed who she is.

If TLC’s PR Dept. put her on that show and directed the spin so they can have her loveable when her new show debuts, they need to be ashamed of themselves in my view. It completely backfired. She was anything but loveable. Jon has been punished by TLC enough in my view. He got the message loud and clear to not talk to the press. Now this has added insult to injury. Jon is a person too.

He has no forum to speak about Kate because he is not allowed to do so or he will get sued. So it is a one way street where Kate can trash him and he can’t say anything to defend himself! It is unfair and appalling.

I doubt that with all the things she has going on in her life professionally, that she waits by the phone with baited breath just to hear which child will call asking to come home . And if the kids do call, what does she do about it?

a. Does she come and get them?

b. Does she call Child Protective Services because they are so miserable and thinks Jon is harming them?

c. Does she believe Jon is abusing them by forcing them to stay in unlivable conditions – his little apartment with a few toys as opposed to their luxurious big home with a truckload of toys?

d. Is she making this all up?

Chances are the correct answer is it isd . She is making this all up .

Kelly Ripa also knows that what Kate is saying is complete BS. Look at Kelly’s body language. She pulls up her shoulder and tucks in her head and crosses her arms over her body. This is a defensive motion as she is not going to let Kate get away with her nonsense . In reference to Kate’s ridiculous statement of how the kids call her and want to come home, Kelly asks Kate in a deliberate and measured toneAre they are they allowed to?

Kelly immediately changes her body position as she awaits Kate’s answer. You can see Kelly is not comfortable with Kate or the answer she knows Kate is about to spin. You can see that Kelly’s shoulders are raised which indicates she is upset and displeased. It’s similar to what a cat does when they are upset and uncomfortable they raise their hackles. They are on alert. Kelly is on alert for Kate’s answer .You can even see how Kelly has pressed her hand on her lap to center herself as she is about to listen to Kate’s nonsensical spin.

IF KATE HAD NOT ABUSED JON MAYBE THEY WOULD STILL BE SLEEPING IN THEIR OWN HOME AND PLAYING WITH THEIR OWN TOYS

And Spin it Kate did! Kate says that it’s hard to tell yourkids why they can’t sleep in their beds and play with their own toys. Well maybe it is time that Kate stop trashing Jon and tell the kids that they need to learn to compromise and sleep in a bed away from home that daddy has prepares especially for them. Maybe she needs to tell then that they can bring their own special toys when they stay at daddy’s. Maybe she needs to tell them that daddy who loves them and wants to see them .

Maybe it wouldn’t be so hard for the six year-olds to understand why they have to sleep at daddy’s house if she would stop trashing Jon. Maybe Kate needed to have thought about this situation before she abused the daylights out of Jon and emasculated him for so many years until he had no choice but to leave her. Her constant abuse was the catalyst for his going off the deep end in my estimation.

Here we really see her signal of deception as she says she talks about the kids and says she is “there for them.” She shakes her head NO as she says this and looks down and away , knowing very well what she is saying is complete BS . She is not there for them. She is there for herself as she runs around the country doing book tours and TV gigs.

She clearly knows that it is a spin to get back at Jon and to make herself good like the perfect mommy . The PR spin was designed to help her get that positive image now that her show is going to début int he near future.

The only thing she did that rang true was when she said “I’m Lonely” She made a genuine sad expression when she spoke those words. So I believe that when kids are mot around, she is indeed lonely. After she alienated so many family members and friends throughout the years, what she says does seem to ring true.

PUTTING THE KIDS IN THE MIDDLE OF HER HATRED FOR JON WILL AFFECT THE KIDS DOWN THE ROAD

Anderson Cooper then paraphrases all of her spin and bluntly says So what you’re saying is that they don’t enjoy being with him.Kate immediately looks down and with a slow tentative articulation pattern says looks Some of them don’t mind.

Why would anyone in their right mind say something know that will hurt the kids in the long run? In essence she just trashed Jon by telling the world that the kids don’t like being with their own father who has shown them nothing but love, tenderness and affection since their birth. He hs been the more emotionally nurturing of the two.

If what she is saying that kids dont enjoy being with him, it is no doubt because she put that through into their little heads to choose between her or Jon. If the kids didn’t want to be with daddy why would they wail for him to not leave them when he dropped them off?

And why in the world would anyone go on national television and say something like this? This will have emotional repercussions as far as the children are concerned. What we have just seen is exactly why I have insisted all along that Jon and Kate get a qualified counselor to help them properly handle these children so that they don’t have to be in the middle of their emotional mess.

AND YET ANOTHER DIG AT JON WHICH IS NOT GOING TO HELP THE KIDS

After Kate showed her ugliness with all of her digs towards Jon, she then had to get yet another dig in by saying how it’s only been three months since Jon has taken the kids on a regular basis and how it is all so new.

In essence she let everyone know that Jon was being bad and only now stepped up to the plate with the kids. Once again whether that is true or not is no one else’s business. This dirty laundry did not have to be aired out on public. And why did she wait until the end to say this? It is because her intention for being on that show was to make Jon look bad. She and TLC did not carry out their goal. It made her look bad instead.

If that is the case and it has only been three months, then Kate should know that this is an adjustment period and the kids need to be encouraged about this new arrangement, not given subliminal messages to tear them in two and mess up their little minds about which parent they need to show more loyalty.

UGLY IS AS UGLY DOES AND UGLINESS IS PUBLICLY AIRING ANGER ABOUT AN EX WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT THE EFFECT ON YOUR KIDS,

No matter how well coiffed Kate’s hair looked or how shiny her red lip gloss was or how toned her arms looked in her red sleeveless dress, Kate’s open anger and hostility towards Jon make her look ugly!

Her inner hatred contorted the muscles in her face. The sarcastic digs and smarmy, nasty tones negated all the hard work her stylist and make up artist did in putting Kate’s look together. Kate looked like a bitter bitten woman.

But more than her looks, the effect that her bitterness and hatred will have on her children is more serious. These children need to see a mature adult as a role model . They do not need to see their mother acting like a nasty, angry, and centered child having a temper tantrum. Kate needs to grow up and let go of her hate because hate spreads. These children do not need the added burden of dealing with hate. They need love the grow and flourish. www.drlillianglass.com

Oftentimes different magazine, internet, and television show venues will ask me what I think about a particular celebrity or newsmaker’s relationship. They will often present me with a series of photos or videos and ask for my assessment.

Most recently HollywoodLife. com asked me to comment on the relationship between Kate Gosselin and her bodyguard Steve Neild. I gave them my honest assessment based on various tells which I observed. This is only my opinion and my view. I did not personally hang out with Kate or Steve or witness their alleged coziness firsthand.

Apparently there have been documented reports of physical sightings where Kate and her body guard have become rather cozy with legs touching legs. In fact the esteemed Huffington Post reported it.

I stated in the Hollywoodlife.com blog that that Kate seemed to fancy her bodyguard based on her body language. Steve, on the other hand continued to show professional decorum as you can see in these photos below.

Apparently, the Kate Gosselin lovers and fans on their “Kate Plus Eight Gosselin Family Fansite” were all up in arms and got their panties in a bunch stating that I made up lies to promote myself and to insult Kate. This is not true.

In the first place, I do not need Kate Gosselin to promote myself. I have being doing body language analysis well before there was a Kate Gosselin in the media. As far as insulting Kate is concerned, it was never my thought or intention to insult Kate. I was merely describing my personal body language observations.

Here are some excerpts from the HollywoodLife.com article:

We told you earlier that Kate and longtime bodyguard Steve Neild got cozy while vacationing in Bald Head Island, N.C. during the week of Aug. 9. A shocking eyewitness report from The Huffington Post alleges that the duo were sitting side-by-side, legs touching, on the beach!

Photo #1: “Her head is cocked like she’s interest to know what Steve thinks. He is kind of in control here and she’s not used to that. Look at her toe, they are in sync step wise, and there’s one foot where her toe is facing him — she really likes him. Her shoulders are a little rounded and hunched over meaning she’s being a little subservient. The fact that his hands are in his pockets shows he’s hiding something like he’s hiding what’s going on betweenthem.”

Photo #2: “Look at the way she’s looking at him. It’s like he’s her man servant and she can yell at him. Her foot is directly in the back of him and she’s looking at him like she’s trying to control him and tell him what to do. Kate’s legs are spread wide which means it’s very casual and very very comfortable with this guy … overly comfortable.”

Photo #3: “With her hand on the hip it’s kind of like an arrogant and defiant pose. Her shoulders are rounded again and she’s leaning into him. The distance between them is too close like he’s trying to keep it hidden and professional, but she’s giving it away. It appears in this photo that she likes him more than he likes her with the way he is facing.”

Photo #4: “Her face shows that she’s very happy around him. You never see Kate smile. She’s a step behind him and there’s not a lot of distance between them. They are also in sync again and that indicates she likes him. Again, he has a hand in his pocket which reveals he’s hiding something.

It’s definitely possible they are having an affair. She’s very comfortable around him.”

“POSSIBLE” MEANS POSSIBLE

Notice that I said the word “possible”, I didn’t say they were 100 per cent having an affair , I said “possible”.

Whether you love Kate or not you have to admit that anything is possible, especially when people spend as much time around one another as these two apparently do, with reported adjoining rooms in hotel stays.

I am not saying they are or they are not having an affair as I am not in their room. But I will say that they do look rather cozy in my view.’’

TELLING THE TRUTH AND CLEARING UP FALSE MISCONCEPTIONS AND MISINFORMATION

As a result of this article many Kate supporters, didn’t bother to read what I said exactly but instead, blindly went off half cocked. They looked at a headline which I did not write and made many comments where they tried to minimize my background and education in an attempt to dismiss what I had to say in order to make themselves feel better.

So I decided to address and clarify their issues so there would be no misunderstandings.

Being an open person with nothing to hide, I will address the concerns and comments from the Kate loving fans so they can rest easy.

What I do in body language analysis has nothing to do with neurolinguistic programming. Body language analysis is both and art in having experience in knowing how to read others and a science based on research concerning specific behaviors which indicate specific meaning.

2. Kate’s alleged “pigeon toedness” that a commenter suggested was not a factor in describing her body language tells with Steve Neild

3. As far as any comments I made regarding the Gosselin kids are concerned, when Jon and Kate were going through their split up, I was a proponent of their speaking with a counselor to help them with the transition, especially since the divorce was so public, ugly and tense.

Kate even publicly stated how it was difficult for the kids and how the kids were acting out at the time. I believed and still believe that seeking the advice of a licensed professional that specializes in treating children who appear to be acting out or undergoing stress, can only help a child.

4. As for my background, I am more than happy to share it with you. I am not a medical doctor – an MD. I do have a PhD in Communication Disorders from the University of Minnesota and a Masters Degree from the University of Michigan in Speech communication. I also have a strong background in the study of psychology although I am not a practicing or licensed psychologist. I have a post doctorate in Medical Genetics from UCLA where I was the only PhD in an MD program where I closely examined structures and behaviors related to specific genetic disorders. My training in this field has been instrumental in terms of my developing my body language reading skills.

I have spent close to three decades doing communication and body language analysis not only for my clients in my private practices, but for the Hollywood community for various films and television shows, as well as using my skills in the law enforcement and legal communities. I have also written numerous books on the topic and lectured around the world.

5. As far as being a Kate Hater is concerned, I do not hate Kate as I have said repeatedly. In fact, I respect that she has numerous mouths to feed and has found a way to earn a living in the media to support her children. I believe that she is indeed very lucky to have a guardian angel like TLC to support her and her family.

6.And finally, I have discovered is that there are lot of Kate fans or shall I say “fanatics” who cannot bear to hear anything they may perceive as negative when it may in fact not be negative at all. To them, I say, take off your blinders and look at what” is”, not at what is the fantasy you created there to be.

If Kate is having an affair with her bodyguard, that is her business. Maybe they spent so much time together and found they had a lot in common. Maybe they fell in love. Maybe he fell out of love with his wife. Maybe he has an open marriage, Only Steve and Kate know this for sure. Like everyone else, Kate certainly deserves love. As I said anything is “possible.” While it is possible that they are an item, it is also “possible” that they are just very cozy close intimate friends. Only time will tell for sure.www.drlillianglass.com

First and foremost I want to make it clear that I am not Jon bashing. I am merely asking a question here. In the past we have seen these two go at it to make one another look bad. I was wondering of this was one of those times or if those kids are really suffering at the hands of Kate. The tone of their crys were haunting. As someone who knows a lot about the human voice and sounds made from that voice, including crying,I can tell you for sure that those were not crys of hunger, or lack of sleep, or not getting what you want such as a a toy. They were crys of fear, terror,a nd angusih.

Not that I am defending Kate by any means, I am just curious as to whether things are that bad or manipulate to look that bad.

I recently received countless emails from my dear readers and fans asking me to analyze the body language of Jon Gosselin and the Gosselin kids when he drove them up to the gate of their home and they were sobbing. Many reported that they felt the video was heartbreaking and wanted me to analyze what I thought was really going on.

I have to admit that after initially watching the video, my heart went out when I heard terror in the sound of the voices of the sobbing children. It seemed that they could not stop sobbing. At first glance it looked like the kids were sobbing because they love their father so much and they didn’t want him to leave them after spending time with him. It appeared that they felt terrorized that they had to go back home to Kate. Maybe that is the case.

SOMETHING IS OFF HERE

But there may be another side to the situation as well. On a closer inspection, it appeared to me that the whole video might possibly be contrived and manipulated by Jon in order to get some media attention and public sympathy and to make Kate look bad. Not that Kate hasn’t proven to look bad on her own. The whole situation makes me want to ask a number of questions . Not that I am not accusing Jon of anything, I am just asking questions.

First of all how come there is only one paparazzi there? Usually there are lots of papps but that day there was only one. And how come the papp was asking such leading and spinful questions? And how come Jon spoke to the papp when he was instructed to never speak to them? It was my undertsanding that as part of Jon’s legal agreement with TLC he is to not say even one word to them.

The papp loudly and openly asks Jon if Kate will come out to meet him. To me , it seems that the question was rehearsed. Jon immediately responds, as if on cue, that probably the nanny will be the one to come get them. As I said, it is odd in that Jon has been instructed to not speak to the papps. But in this case, he speaks. It’s like this little movie scene was shot with the purpose of letting the audience know that Kate can”t even bothered to pick up her own kids and that the nanny has to do it.

It is also very odd that does Jon not have the entry code to get through the gate to drop his own kids off in front of their own home. I am told that Jon has been banned from entering the gate of the home, but I would think that he would be given the code in case of an emergency situation. If that is the case, I think it is very wrong. Those are his kids and he needs to have the code.If Kate doesn’t want Jon to bring his girlfriends or anyone else on the property then Kate needs to work that out with him. But to not give him the code is unconscionable. If that is the case and he does not have a code it is as though he is waiting therein the role of a delivery person,insted of the is the father.

When Jon reached out to touch the intercom and said “I can’t hear you.” It was said in a monotone devoid of inflection or concern. Granted he has always had a monotone,but most people who were tired and couldn’t get thorugh after a long day and upset kids, would should a little more inflection and upset in theor voice. Who was on the other end of the intercom and why could Jon not hear them? Why didn’t he try and try again to contact them or to push specific buttons until he could finally hear them? Was there really anyone at the other end of the intercom at all? Did he pretend there was someone there? Why did he give up so easily? Why didn’t he use his cell to call the house to tell whomever was there to open the gate to get the kids into their home? I am just asking these questions, as another point fo view.

Then Jon gets out of the van and says “I love you too. hold on.” He then goes over to the sliding door of the van to get access to the kids . As he enters the van and confronts the kids he says the words “don’t panic,”

Why would he say “don’t panic” , That was an intersting choice of wors. As he said that I could definately hear that the crys were crys of panic and terror. Were they really panic and in terror becuase they had to go home to Kate;s house> What is going on in there to cause them so much panic? Or the other side of the coin is , did Jon possibly say something to them which frightened them or caused them to panic ? Did he say something to them scared and afraid?

Instead of closing the door behind him to console several of the crying children, he manages to leave the van door open so that papp can conveniently shoot all the footage. The kids definatey sound terrorized.

Were the kids really crying becuase they were so frightened to go home becuase they felt something bad would happen to them or did Jon say something to those kids to get them to cry like that? Why are they all crying at once? Why do they sound so scared?

As a body language and communicaiton expert I have studied various crys and what they mean. That is why I am even writing this blog. That cry is not the whining cry of not wanting to do someting or the cry of being overtred and cranky. Those crys were crys of fear and terror. They were jarring, unlike other crys. The fact that the same type of cry was amplified by all of those kids was very disturving.

Maybe one or two kids might cry at once, but the fact that ALL of them seemed to be sobbing in unison makes me wonder if he didn’t say something to ALL of them that indeed caused then to “panic.” or they were indeed panicked to be at Kate’s home. I don’t ever remember any of the kids crying in unison like that on any of the previous Jon and Kate shows.

Jon gets to the first row of kids and hugs one of them. Then more screaming and wailing little voices are heard as Jon goes to the next row of kids and attempts to comfort them as well. Then Jon goes back to the first row of kids and comforts them. Why do these kids need all that comforting? . Six year olds can usually be comforted with reassuring words. It is difficult to comfort infants becuase they don;t have the words to tell you what is wrong. But had the words to express themselves, yet their emotional distress did not ease, even after they were allegedly comforted by Jon. That is diconcerting.

Even though there are still wails and screams, Jon steps out of the van. Conveniently, younger twin, Maddy shows up with outstretched arms with two little fists at the end . In essence she is requesting a hug from daddy. But her clenched fists show hidden anger. So does her lack of genuine smiling. She is upset about something. Maybe she was upset that she didn’t get to spend indicudual time with Jon or maybe she was told to come out to greet the van and maybe she didn;t want to do it.

They hug in an awkward embrace as Mady then turns her head to the side as if to purposefully face a camera man. She then walks into the van and Jon follows her in. Maybe he called her to help quell the sextuplets.

Suddenly, her her twin sister Cara shows up and waits her turn to hug Jon.

She awkwardly waits outside the van until Jon comes out. At one point she reaches her arms out Jon as if to hug him, but his back is turned. In the meantime, Jon is still comforting the screaming kids with MAdy ont he van as well. It is not helping.

Then he closes the door and awkwardly hugs Cara from the side , who like Mady turns her head towards the camera sans smile. It looked odd and unnatural, as though she wasn’t that happy to see Jon. It looked as they were hugging in a position to get a good camera angle. Jon spends several seconds hugging her. Was that done for the camer or was she summonded to the van to help him quiet the upset children?

Meanwhile, all the kids are still screaming and Jon suddenly goes from the loving looking action of hugging to severely yelling at the kids as he turns away from Cara and towards the van.

He loudly screams ‘ENOUGH! THAT’S ENOUGH! The kids still scream and sob as he helps Cara into the van. He is obviously frustrated and had enough of their terrorized screams. My only question is why are they screaming?

They sob in terror as he shuts the door with all of the kids still in there.

He then walks away from the van with six screaming kids and the twins locked up inside of the van. His hands are in his pockets and he looks down as the papp conveniently says in a tone that makes him sound like a bad actor “The kids seem really upset to leave you. I imagine you feel the same.” To me this may have possibly sounded scripted. It sounded like it was a planned act to get the public to think that the kids were sobbing because they were leaving their “wonderful” dad and forced to go back to their “mean” mother that he was devasted to leave them becuase they were going onto a house of terror. My only question again is are they really that terrorized or did Jon say something to them, even inadvertenly that created this panic int hem. Jon then gets into a male friend’s car.

Did Jon do this in order to get the public to think they didn’t want to go back to their mother’s home, but rather wanted to stay with him becuase life with Kate is unbearable?

While Jon has been and affectionate and loving parent on a consistent basis , did he cooperate with the papp to to gain attention and to once again be in the press or is this a real problem for the children? The only way we will ever know what really happened is the find out from the kids and until they are old enough to write a book about their experiences int he Gosselin household then we will never know for sure.