If you've ever wondered why dating felt like you were driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas or you're wondering why you're not meeting great guys to spend time with, I'd like to share something with you.

First, you want to put in writing both your short term and your long term dating goals.

My short term goals were about meeting new and interesting men and I wanted to have fun dating.

I was giving him some advice on property at his house and he asked: ‘So when are we going to have sex? It was funny because when we did go to bed, I told him I was shy, so I got undressed while he wasn’t in the room. I’m sure there must be men out there who think that log fires, red wine and walking along a beach are totally irresistible but nearly everyone of my age writes an online profile like this. Write something different, such as: ‘I love climbing mountains!There simply aren’t many half-decent men out there.I don’t know why, but my friends and I suspect that most older men don’t come out of a relationship unless there is another woman waiting in the wings.We also recognize that what people want in their 50s, 60s and beyond is often very different from what they wanted in their 30s and 40s, let alone their 20s.This online dating community focuses on the specific interests and desires of people like you. Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location. Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.’ One plus side of internet dating is your friends needn’t get involved in your love life, because that’s a recipe for disaster. I’ve got the perfect guy for you — but he’s not quite ready yet.’ When I asked why not, she said: ‘Well, his wife’s not quite dead yet.’ Often, I’ve seen a guy’s photo and thought: ‘Wow! Some women I know go on these sites for the same reason men do, but that’s not my style. Most of the men I’ve met have dressed smartly — that’s probably an age thing.