Anyone struggling to make peace with an unexpected pregnancy?

I just found out at 13 weeks (am 16 now) that I am pregnant again. We only wanted one child and we are totally shocked. At my age, with a lifelong history of PCOS, to get pregnant again 2.5 months after giving birth, while fully breastfeeding, at age 39!!! We are totally reeling. I had so few symptoms and all of them I just assumed were normal post-baby hormones, it never occurred to me that I might be pregnant. (Of course now I feel really stupid.) Anyway, I want to surround this baby with positive energy and love but I am not there yet. I just started back at my job, which I love, and which I will definitely lose once they find out I am pregnant again. In denial at the moment.

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Welcomed a much waited-for baby girl in February of 2013, and now unexpectedly pregnant again and due February 2014. Irish twins. Holy Cow.

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I also have PCOS and had to have some medical intervention to concieve my first 2! They are now 11 and 9! We were done! And told by 2 drs that is would take "an act of God" for us to get pregnant "accidentally!" Well - He has acted!!!

We went to the dr expecting a blood sugar diagnosis because I was so sick, and the symptoms were the same - and I have blood sugar issues on both sides of my family. Just made sense... Until they asked me to pee in the cup!!!

We were completely unprepared and shocked at our news! It has rocked our world and changed so many of our plans, but we are now really excited. It's going to be a HUGE life adjustment for us - my kids are in the 6th and 3rd grade, and suddenly we are starting over!!! And I am quitting my job to stay home with the baby - which also means my big kids have to withdraw from school (we do private school - I work there, so we can afford it!!!) and we will be homeschooling after Christmas.

So - big changes for everyone, but I know it's going to be worth it! A baby is alwasy a blessing! Many blessings to you!!!

I was told it would be hard to conceive. We conceived our first in our first try and our second... Literally the second we had sex postpartum... I'm not sure how this is going to go but I'm excited and scared.

We are also expecting a surprise and have made peace and are so happy and feel so blessed. Your babies will be so close and grow up close ! It will work out in the end - I promise! I am only 10 months apart with my brother and we are as close as ever!

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"When we are dead all that matters is what we gave to others" unknown.

Amazing how many women are told they will have trouble conceiving and I don't know about you all, but I grieved over this for years, this belief that because of PCOS I would not be able to have a child, or that it would be super difficult. Incredible. Just shows that while medicine is wonderful, medical knowledge is limited. Anyway, glad to know I am not alone in this.

People get fired for being pregnant all the time, they just have to make up another reason. In my job in Switzerland, it is simply a matter of them not extending my contract, very easy for them. But my job is so stressful and so many late nights, I am an opera singer and the pressure to perform at all hours of the day and night and the need for sleep is really getting to me, so who knows if keeping my job is even the right thing. Hard to imagine not singing, though, when I have devoted my entire life to this career since I was a child.

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Welcomed a much waited-for baby girl in February of 2013, and now unexpectedly pregnant again and due February 2014. Irish twins. Holy Cow.

At least they will have eachother! I was an only child and hated it! I was adament my kid wasn't gonna be one too! I can see how it happened though someone the other day was just saying how you can get pregnant really easy after giving birth because your body already thinks its pregnant.best of luck to you!

I was in and out of the hospital for months so when one of my ER visits ended with a positive prego test instead on being admitted I was relieved at first...and then pissed!

I have 4 lovely daughter who will all be in school this year...my youngest has special needs and I am very sick. I'm not excited and I hope it changes so. I'm scared I'm gonna hate this baby. I was done. I know if I think long term everything is gonna be great and fine and I'll live this baby just thesame as all the rest, but right now not so much! I feel guilty which just makes me hate being prego more.

I felt the same way for a long while...I'm better now but my mind was just not ready to be pregnant again. Me and DH are on baby #3.

Our boy is 12 our Little girl is 4. My kids hubby relatives and friends are happy and delighted, even started thinking of names but my mind just not there yet. I'm better as I shedded tears for while. Now I just pray I get excited soon.

I just wanted to post an update. I am feeling much, much better about being pregnant. I told my boss, which was just terrifying, and he laughed, and told me he was an only child and that it was lonely, and that he thinks it is better this way!!! He even told me how much he respects artists who brave having children and gave me a hug! He told me he has me worked into all of the shows next year and that he needs me. I was floored. I usually feel like they have no idea about talent or hard work at my job and now I can see that they were watching and appreciating all along. So that felt absolutely amazing, and released me from so much of my stress about this baby. In the same week we found out it is another girl, which also thrills me, to be able to have to daughters who will hopefully be very close sisters. And we can share all the clothes, which will save us some money in the short term. So I am feeling much much much better about being pregnant now, even though it still feels totally unreal and most of the time I do not really believe it is happening. The placenta is on the front wall, so I am not feeling any movement yet, but I saw her moving a lot on the ultrasound, so all is ok. Sending the rest of you support and hoping we can all find a way to be excited about our babies together.

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Welcomed a much waited-for baby girl in February of 2013, and now unexpectedly pregnant again and due February 2014. Irish twins. Holy Cow.