Sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and in walks one of those “extra important people”…by that I mean someone who comes in the coffee shop either talking loudly to other coffee house guests, or someone who comes in talking loudly on their cell phones.

He is talking loudly on his cell phone.

He, along with so many others, is the reason that I LOVE ear buds and the peace I get simply from plugging them into my ears.

I was actually wrapping up some work that I was completing, and completely forget to include another item on my agenda. In walks “extra important”. Not only talking loudly, but wearing the loudest cologne EVER CREATED. And where does he sit? At a table directly in front of me, and positioned himself to face me as well. So I’m catching it ALL. I QUICKLY grabbed my earbuds back out of my purse, slid them in my ears, and turned on iTunes. I have completed tuned him out…unfortunately, earbuds don’t work on bogus cologne.

At any rate, one of my biggest pet peeves is someone who speaks EXTREMELY loud, and for what seems like no other reason than to let someone know “he look at me, I’m here”. Sir, please have a nice seat because I can’t with you today.

Now…coffee shops aren’t “libraries”, and I’m fully aware that people will talk w friends/business partners/have phone conversations. But to be “extra important” is really…well…whack. There actually is a coffee shop protocol to follow, and the loud conversations and loud cologne aren’t included.

“Extra Important” has left the building. I can now remove my earbuds (if I choose), and work in peace.

Moral of the Story: just be respectful of your neighbors in general. Some people naturally talk loud…but the same people who naturally talk loud, are fully aware that they do. Can’t tell me otherwise LOL!

What happens when you have a situation where someone has judged you incorrectly, based on a tweet, FB status, or your personal opinion about a matter? For example, you make a statement about being happy not to be a single mother, you mention the love of your life one too many times in your FB statuses, or your opinion on plastic surgery is that, unless you’ve been disfigured, you don’t need it…(by the way, these are my beliefs, and I’ve been judged on them).

Being judged is not fun, and people actually “choose” to believe what makes them feel better. If it makes someone feel better to believe you to be a whore, then that’s what they will believe. No need for them to “fact check”, or get to know you; it’s a choice to stick to their beliefs. If someone chooses to believe that God doesn’t exist, well then hey…you can’t get mad at that either.

Question is though…what do YOU believe?

I just think that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. That’s pretty much it w that…if you are happy to be one who is not a single mother, you can still be happy about that. I PROMISE YOU…it really is ok. If you want to mention a significant other and how exceptional they are, please continue to do it. If you never plan to have plastic surgery, that’s fine as well. The problem comes in when you make an attempt to FORCE your beliefs on another person/a group of people. (And keep in mind…your twitter is YOURS and so is your FB, along w your opinion). It doesn’t make a person wrong for thinking against your beliefs; they’ve just introduced their opinion. Period. I will NEVER seek to justify to a soul just how wonderful love is. Some don’t believe in it; but I do! Noooooooooot about to cushion a tweet about my joy of being childless; hell, I am HAPPY about that right now lol. But I won’t invade your space w my beliefs by getting mad if you don’t agree. Three Words: I Don’t Care. The very minute you decide that “you” are actually ok w moving around how YOU do, is the VERY same minute that you’ve actually fallen in love w yourself…the single most important person is “you”. So I can’t do you for being too busy doing “me”!