How does the Ego Process work?

The
moment we begin to make choices based on preference is the moment we begin to
define who we think we are. This is the process of the ego that is in a
constant state of refinement no matter how old we live to be. One part of our
identity that is given to us is our name.

We
live with that without ever thinking about it.

In the
early stages of life we have that power of choice taken from us. Some of us
discover it and use it wisely and others learn the hard way. Depending on the
choices made for us that we are forced to live with, can and will play a significant
role in developing who we say we are. We often define ourselves through our
experiences.

I did
this.

I am
that.

I feel
this.

I
think that.

All
statements of identity. These statements are also our way of announcing our
existence and our reason for being in this moment that never ends.

That’s
mine.

We
make early associations with possession as a form of identity.

I
drive this kind of car.

I own
this.

I have
that.

Announcing
we have claimed this as part of our existence and how we define it. We start
doing this at such a young age that the idea of selfish and sacrifice is
something that either is in the imprint or not. They behavior often starts
before speech develops. The reason it is so hard to break these behaviors is
due to the emotional imprint and sustained exposure to the source of that
imprint.

I’m
not saying there is not an approach to adjust these behaviors
as recognized throughout development, I’m merely speaking in generality.

The
Ego is a process in which the conscious and subconscious minds work in unison
to create the idea of who think you are. There is no war for supremacy and
there is no super ego for the ego to do battle with. The mind as a whole
operates like an advanced computer and the subconscious mind is the operating
system while the conscious mind is the desk top so to speak.

We
have reprogrammable operating system that allows or denies changes to be made
by the program being run at the conscious level that is the Ego expression that
is in a constant state of refinement or change.

Change
is existence and existence is change.

In
earlier pieces I have compared the subconscious mind to a singularity or black
hole. It is always taking in everything we expose ourselves to. These are the
seeds that are planted within us. The subconscious mind is constantly making
background decisions to determine what to do with it all.

The
subconscious mind works in metaphor, memory and emotions tied to metaphors. When
someone is telling you a story you see your own memories to show you understand
the underlying concepts and to their choice of emotion to apply to the event in
their life.

Those
with a higher level of empathic sensitivity can during this take on those
emotions. The best defense any one has from taking on the emotions of another
is to resolves your own issues. To look at that memory you once applied the
same emotion to and no longer choose to apply it.

Every
one of us has a certain level of empathic sensitivity. Some people have a
higher level of sensitivity than others. Those that have the highest levels of
sensitivity would classify as Empath. This classification means that your
sensitivity is so high you take on the emotions of those around you without
interaction at the conscious level.

The
Empath who is unaware of their higher level sensitivity will often be searching
their memories for a reason to feel the way they do. They are often
misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder and/or depression. As a defense mechanism an
Empath can become apathetic to avoid taking on the emotions of those around
them. Totally detached from the idea of feeling however very capable of reading
the emotions of others.

This
is not a good or a bad thing, it simply is.

It’s
the experiences that are had and stored in the subconscious that offer the
choices of what to do in any given moment to the conscious mind. These choices
are the actions and words that define our character.

This
coupled with the emotional imprint we get from our parents is the building
blocks of our identity.

Our
subconscious mind is constantly making comparisons using our memories to give
us options to do something at any given moment in time based on the current
environment and the things we say we want to do. Let’s take a dive to see what
that can look like.

As an
infant we learn to respond to our name. We learn if we make this noise we get
this. We are driven by the instinct to survive and on the subconscious level we
are taking in everything around us and storing it away for later use. The
emotional energy we are around is also going into the imprint of who we are
becoming. Environment in this stage plays a big part in who we become as we
grow.

As we
learn to speak it gives us more options within our environment to express our
desires. The experiences we have tell us what we might want to do or not do in
order to accomplish whatever goal we have set for ourselves.

Every
time we speak we are refining our operating system. The more aware we become of
that, the more access we start to gain and the faster refinements can be made.
This also provides the opportunity for larger adjustments or changes in the ego
expression to be made in shorter time frames.

If
knowledge is power, than wisdom is understanding.

It
takes experience to truly understand any knowledge. Knowledge is only needed to
explain understood concepts or to get into the details of a concept. We often
allow ourselves to think that we need to amass knowledge in order to understand
and many get lost in the academic pursuit of acquiring knowledge and never take
the theory into living.

Wisdom
is the balance of logic and theory coupled with the feeling of real life
experience. One has no greater value than the other and one without the other
is without wisdom.

We
experience life to grow wise enough to one day follow our own advice because we
have learned to balance logic and emotion within in ourselves as we live our
lives.

It’s
not only what you’re watching these days, it goes all the way back to what you
were in the room for while in the womb. The emotional imprint of you in the
womb is always building and everything your mother is exposed to, you are
exposed to as well.

That
is an understanding that explains a lot about us in who we became before we
ever even had a name.

Now
let’s out get out of the womb and even though we may not have comprehended what
was on the screen we still took it in. Everything we are exposed to influences
our choices in who we choose to be.

Even if you don’t have kids you are still a
role model every time one sees you.

It
doesn’t matter if it’s fair or not.

It
doesn’t matter if you like it.

It is
inescapably true and you can look back to your childhood at the adults you saw
doing the things you do now to understand that.

You
can’t argue it.

You
can complain about it all you want, however it will never change.

When
it comes to human development we do more damage to more children than we really
know simply with what children see us doing even if they are not our kids.

With
that in mind as we think about refining our ideas so social acceptability we
accept a social contract of behavior that most of us can agree on. Not a set of
rules or laws, a common sense approach to life centered on developing a
well-adjusted and productive society that works at getting along and
understands we are one human family.

This
is not about censorship or limiting the exploration of certain concepts within
our entertainment. It’s about building better ideas in how we live that allow
for children to discover things at a time in life that they are better
emotionally ready to handle. It’s about making it harder to fine porn not
easier.

This
is an easy issue to pick on. Sex is used to sell everything. Porn is easy to
find and requires no age verification.

Think
about your own earliest exposures to sex or the idea of sex and how it affected
you and who you became over the course of your life. Each of us will have a
tale to tell that we may or may not want to share openly. Too many of us have
horrific memories when it comes to the first exposure to sex.

How
about violence?

Does
our thirst for blood come from our constant exposure to it in our entertainment
in every form?

Do we
have violence in every form of our entertainment due to our thirst for blood?

Both
sides of the issue have to be examined in order for us to even come close to
understanding the issue. The same can be said for sex. Has the sexual marketing
turned us in sex addicts or are we sex addicts naturally and this is how we show
it as a species?

Let me
use myself as an example because one of you might sue me if I used you. Besides
I came to understand most of this by following the words of Aristotle who said
“To know thyself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

Psychospirilosophy
is the tool I use. It simply stated is a tool that says “It is important to
understand from a psychological standpoint why you do the things you do so you
can give yourself options to do something about it. We are spiritual beings
wrapped in flesh and whatever your connection to what you feel god is, is
yours, enjoy it. The philosophy of our lives is the things we talk that we
attempt to walk.”

There
are no rules as it is about creating understanding from within as to why you do
anything you do. It’s taking the mirror and turning it inward to see how what
you have taken in could be coming out in weird ways that has you trying to
figure out what in the blue hell is going on.

If you
look throughout human history sex and violence has always been prevalent in
culture. We are savages with the ability to choose to behave in ways that are
about being a part of an ecosystem that supports our continued existence. The
psychological makeup of each of us plays heavily into the shared reality that
is.

It is
a shared reality with each having an equal role in creating this reality we all
share. In basic terms we are also a monkey see monkey do kind of species. To
have the shared reality change it takes a change in who we are and what we are
truly projecting with our every thought, word and action.

What
we take in and allow to take root will grow within us and someone if not many
will reap from that sowing.

We do
reap what we sow no matter how much we may want to try and avoid it. What we
allow to be sown within us is also what we reap in the path it leads us down in
life.

Think
about that and the intent you put behind watching that next TV show or movie or
you tube clip. Think about it as you’re listening to the lyrics in the music.
Think about it as you’re looking around at what is going on around you.

You’re
taking it all in anyway so why not take some time to see if you really want to
be taking it in to have it project later or if you might want to change your
location.

As
children we have very little choice over this and this is when our imprint for
later life is being affected the most. This is where the deep rooted seeds are
planted and the issues reside that we will either resolve later in life or
ignore and allow to define our existence.

What
you take in and allow to take root will profoundly affect your ability to
unlock the behavioral cipher lock on your DNA in order to become your full
potential.

What
you allow yourself to be influenced into thinking can either speed this process
up or slow it way down.

The
easiest way to slow yourself down is to give your power over to one of these
new age people who wrote a book and built a system.

This
process can also be called the awakening process. Any Awakening guide or coach
who is legitimate will not give you a set time or number of sessions that it
can be done in. Any legitimate Awakening coach will be aimed at empowering you
to understand your inner journey and they merely provide the mirror reflection
to check yourself against as you truly guide yourself through the process.

This
would be my note to be very careful about who you watch on you tube and what
you read and always question if it truly makes sense to you or if you are
looking for a crutch or easy way to do it.

#4 I am happy to see we agree on the basics, no matter if we are separated by the half of the globe. I you might know, English is not my mother language, and sometimes I make mistakes. I looked for the meaning of beliefs and faith, and after reading a lot, discarding religion biased opinions, is that beliefs can be a "confidence in the truth or existence of something not immediately susceptible to rigorous proof", whilst faith is the expectation or convincement about something even if you have no proof at sight. Whatever the semantic differences can be, I agree with using "built experiences" as a result of getting knowledge, rather than having read it in a book or seen in other's experiences. Concerning to perceptions/perspectives, absolutely agreed we need to take our "inputs" and look at them in the most objective way, if this is possible. Your words make me think I should have "deconstructed" the Navarro Loop (which sincerely, was one of my thoughts when writing it) in order to define with better precision what I meant with every particle of it.Nevertheless, your words become to be a proof that the Navarro Loop works. Until one takes the step of "action", and causes a "reaction", (as one is biased by his own knowledge and beliefs), you can not refine and redefine your line of thinking. A good way to sharpen a knife is to use another knife, and friction it one to each other. This way, both knives are sharpened same time. I believe this happens as well with the minds.

I dig this, however I would replace beliefs with faith and perception with perspectives in the plural as a reminder to look at as if it wasn't me.

For me faith is built experience where a belief can be found in any book.

Yes we do share quite a few views and I look forward to seeing what others views we share. I am sure that conversation someday is going to enjoyable for both of us in what it reveals in the connection that already exists between us.

#1 Thank you @David Navarro López for tagging me to this lovely post. I have had recently many exchanges with @Max Carter and he is a thinker. He sees the world through a wide vision. We agree and we disagree, but with due respect and mutual understanding.I have no disagreement this time. David summarized the buzz beautifully. I only have one wish- to join you on your park walk. It shall be an "awakening process" with both of you.

Dear Max, after reading your post I had the same sensation as if while walking, I had found a box full of gems. I can't agree more to all the concepts you are exposing. If I had to highlight something, your words "The best defence anyone has from taking on the emotions of another is to resolve your own issues." is something I work on in a daily base. the more solidly you have built yourself, the less options external influences will have to turn your mind into something else you don't want. I love as well the concept you are pointing out, on which we have no other alternatives than we influencing others, or we being influenced by others. To your conclusions about what to do with the things we have been influenced in our childhood, I can't be more in agreement.Above all, I would give anything to have the opportunity to share with you a coffee, a spliff and a walk in your preferred park, and have a very long long talk with you. I am sure we would find an enourmous amount of things we would be in agreement, and I am sure it would be very interesting when finding issues we would not be in agreement, and what it would come out of it. In any case, highly enriching, for sure. Please, have a look at my last post. You will find many common things to your way of thinking.https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/the-navarro-loop