When will what goes around come around?

Most of us have experienced drastic life changes as we've grown older. It's with change that sometimes makes us better and other times causes a decline. When you were younger and even today you've been told "Good things come to those who wait." Others have said "What goes around comes around." How much longer should we wait? When is the goings around finally going to come?

20 years of reflection

Without really speaking on the first 18 years of life, even though those years consisted of many firsts such as car, diploma, apartment, serious relationships, and for some, development of families. It's the post teen years that have really formed a picture of how I've ended up here.

Not taking education serious has left me focused and determined to finish what I've started almost twenty years ago. Today, I can't seem to get enough college coursework thrown my way. Instead, I find that what school is allowing me to do in a week, I'm now finishing with honors in 48 hours. In the past, creating an excuse to not go to class was the norm. After seeing a transcript loaded with F's and W's (failures and withdrawals), today that is not acceptable and it's a participating race to the finish line to not only override those dismal figures but to produce grades that really describe the person I am. Both for me, and anybody else concerned.

When you think that the you have everything under control and that it can never change, that's exactly the time when you lose it. Younger generations haven't experienced enough defeat in order to build protective walls to combat these occasions. Looking back, I had everything, literally everything. I just assumed that it would be that way forever. Not the case, and I've been building those protective walls for the last twenty years. The focus should've been maintaining that 'good life' and continuing to build on it. Instead, the naive expectations slowly dwindled and I didn't even notice.

Feeding the pig

It took me almost thirty years to realize that in fact my parents were both not only smart, but fair, honest, and did have my best interests at heart. In the past, you would do whatever you could do disobey them, lie to cover your tracks, and involuntarily hurt them emotionally in search of bettering yourself. Stubbornness, ignorance, and arrogance took over. What a devastating way of thinking. Today, you find yourself asking and receiving forgiveness from those same parents and setting a path down on your own for them to be proud of. All those positives are starting to come out and the good news is, those parents are still alive to see it take place.

Your competitive edge to always win never left you. Although you've stopped playing all the sports you were extremely talented in, your will to compete and succeed never wavered. If you could do it all over again, you would. Being so close to the highest level, and then like always, you quit. Falling short of the satisfaction of doing it all. Instead, now you're determined more than ever to make sure others don't make your same mistake. Although, they don't quite understand your motives, they sincerely appreciate it. Making it important to you, sometimes creates that same sense of importance to them. It may be the guide and leadership they need, that you felt you didn't have or even want before. Having an impact on others, strengthens both them and your inner core. Those building walls become values, pride, respect, dignity, and self-power.

Understanding the bread crumbs

"Practice doesn't make perfect, there is no perfect. Practice makes permanent!" Instead of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, reality is subconsciously you are creating a bread crumb path for your mind. How you balance your money, how you settle your differences, how you repay your mental debts. The way you engage in your relationships, the way your treat your parents, how you are at your job or in school.

When things are good, you now concentrate on keeping things good, not running with them until they're taken away. When things aren't so hot, you do your best to improve on them, conserve to get by, and seek opportunities to improve.

The present

For some, this all happened earlier whether it was because intellectually they saw clearly what for me, was a big blur. For others, it may be down the road, and hopefully this puts things in perspective and assists in reaching their goals.

Either way, the phrase 'what comes around goes around" happens everyday so be ready!

"Life Moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it"

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks John for the read and the follow. I appreciate the fact that you were moved! Great intentions prevail!

John MacNab 5 years agofrom the banks of the St. Lawrence

A very moving hub, KDF. Thanks for writing it and allowing me to read it. Yes, life does move very fast, and the older you get the faster it moves. Voted Up and Awesome.

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks Sharyn, I agree with you 100%.

Sharon Smith 5 years agofrom Northeast Ohio USA

This is a great hub KDF. Excellent food for thought. One thing I always remember when I think about "what goes around, comes around" - is that it is really important to understand that it is not in "our" time frame. Specifically, I'm thinking of something that someone else does that upsets you and you are sure it is going to come back to bite them in the a**. But instead of sitting back and waiting for it to happen, you must live life. If you are meant to see the result, it will be presented to you. Great read!!!

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Hell yeah, thanks for the positive feedback and read fpherj48, that means a lot. I'm glad you enjoyed it and look forward to reading more of your responses and hubs.

Paula 5 years agofrom Beautiful Upstate New York

We are who we strive to be, do what we choose to do and present ourselves by allowing our thoughts to guide our actions. When we truly listen, we learn the human condition and respond with understanding and kindness. This is an excellent hub. Voted UP+++. I look forward to reading more by you.. Peace.

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks for the read and the kind words lupine. You're right "there are no failures in life as long as we keep moving forward". :)

lupine 5 years agofrom Southern California (USA)

Yes, life happens! Sometimes we need to take the time for the important things in life, or they will pass us by. I wish the younger generation could see this earlier...they would be so much happier. I do believe our life is experienced in phases, both good and bad, how we are affected depends on how we view it. There are no failures in life as long as we keep moving forward. You put great thought into this hub, congratulaltions!

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks mary615, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for the vote

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks for the read psychicdog, glad you enjoyed it.

psychicdog.net 5 years ago

Great title and the article delivers - I've pondered the philosophical question many times as I see people not doing right going forward but it seems a burden of pain is carried by all in at least one area of life - I know few people get it all - like teaches1234 your comment - Younger generations haven't experienced enough defeat in order to build protective walls to combat these occasions stands out - great to have found you on HP.

psychicdog.net 5 years ago

Great title and the article delivers - I've pondered the philosophical question many times as I see people not doing right going forward but it seems a burden of pain is carried by all in at least one area of life - I know few people get it all - like teaches1234 your comment - Younger generations haven't experienced enough defeat in order to build protective walls to combat these occasions stands out - great to have found you on HP.

Mary Hyatt 5 years agofrom Florida

This is a very thought provoking Hub. I enjoyed the read very much. I voted it UP, etc.etc.

Thanks roxanne- I know that saying "everything happens for a reason" all so well. I forgot to mention that it took me 22 years to learn responsibility! That stemmed from the birth of one of my kids. I'll bet you know that one well since you have four, right! Thanks for your kind words, I appreciate it!

Roxanne Lewis 5 years agofrom Washington

It sounds like What Went Around DID Come Around. Everything from your past experiences (or inexperiences) has made you the wonderful man you are today. When you are open enough to learn and grow from each stage in your life and better yourself...You have reaped your reward. Everything happens for a reason. Thank you for writing this, it is enlightning for us all!

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Thanks teaches- I've built some, much more then when I was a teenage punk that's for sure but I feel I still have lots to build. Thanks for the vote and the read.

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KDF 5 years agofrom Central Illinois

Katrine-

Thanks for the vote and the read. I really like how you stated our being is the sum of our thoughts. I couldn't agree more or have said it any better. Thanks

KatrineDalMonte 5 years ago

Hi, it's a great article. I can say from my own experience that we are literally what we think, our character being the complete sum of all our thoughts. Act is the blossom of our thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits, therefore we collect both sweet and bitter fruitage of our own husbandry. By the right choice and true application of thought, we can achieve anything we desire. As a being of power, intelligence, and love each of us holds the key to every situation.

I voted up :-)

Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

Your comment, "Younger generations haven't experienced enough defeat in order to build protective walls to combat these occasions". hits the mark. With age comes wisdom and hopefully, gained experience in life. Sounds like you have built great character through your life choices. Thanks for sharing and voted up!