Wanna save your marriage? Try pegging him…

There is a persisting stereotype about what it means to be masculine in Western countries. The idea that men need to be macho, touch and in control is an idea which has persisted for far too long and needs to be rectified. For too long have both genders struggled against this stereotype both within relationships and outside of them as well. For those who are bound by marriage the gap may seem too far to bridge, however, a recent book has brought to light new ways to not only spice up what is in danger of becoming a sexless marriage, but also to a way to take anal sex to a whole new level.

Prostate play is something which has long since been taboo, restricted to those who enjoy man on man sex or those who are considered to have some bisexual tendencies. The truth of the matter is very different, however, and when it comes to anal sex the men who only wish to give and not receive are limiting themselves not only in terms of pleasure, but self exploration. One would think that marriage would open the doors to new sexual experiences, but men and women alike are often afraid of rocking that boat. Speak up and be honest with your partner or if you've got a sexless marriage on your hands, go find someone else to explore with.

Basically, those who are looking for new sexual experiences either in their marriage bed or outside of their sexless marriage should give pegging a wholehearted try or at least allow for some anal penetration.

Pegging, as the term is commonly used, is when a woman ties on a strap-on dildo and does her male partner up the ass. Now, I bet there are a good amount of men who just read that and winced as if I suggested that they go for some rough ball trampling prior to sexual activity or that they couldn't escape their sexless marriage without first sucking off a bull. The truth of the matter is that men who do get pegged or do engage in prostate play enjoy it and it’s not because they’re submissive or secretly bisexual so let’s just get these thoughts out of the way right now.

In fact, let’s start from the beginning. Anal sex is good, right? There aren’t many men who have tried it who would deny that anal penetration feels good if they're the ones who are doing the penetrating. There are probably many more females who would argue against the practice of anal, but I would put money on the fact that at least some of them had partners who had no idea what they were doing and were too busy thinking with their lower halves to care. Men have the potential to have more pleasure than women from anal sex simply because that’s where their g-spot is located and yet many men deny themselves this pleasure for reasons that have nothing to do with pleasure or sex, but their worry about how they will be judged if anyone were to find out that they've done anal in what they consider to be all the wrong ways.

Marriage is a minefield, but it’s even harder when the man in the relationship isn’t secure enough in himself to let a single sexual practice define who he is as in a marriage and as a human being. The stigma against pegging as an anal sex practice, however, is strong as our society sees being penetrated as something which would lower the status of a man. This in itself is a fallacy this considering the fact that no one really needs to knew what you do in (or outside of) your marriage bed, but the societal pressures are often so strong that men do not stray outside of the rigid set of sexual practices which have been deemed acceptable by society at large.

In The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, Charlie Glickmann and Aislinn Emirzian talk about not only the best ways to pleasure the prostate, but also the enduring myth that to be penetrated by anyone be they man or woman feminizes the man who is on the receiving end. Once more we traipse back to the tired gender roles which are slowly being eroded by the passage of time, but this particular piece of misogyny has also been absorbed by women and they can have their doubts about the practice, wondering many of the same things that a man who is against pegging might.

Does receiving anal sex from my partner make me gay? Will anal ruin my marriage? Will it bring my sexless marriage back to life?

No, no, no and maybe.

Receiving anal sex from a partner (be they male or female) does not mean that any man is going to start going for facials, having their toe nails painted or any of the other female stereotypes which are paraded in front of us through the media until it becomes nauseating. What men who are pegged do tend to do more often is empathize. This doesn’t make them weaker, but makes them better lovers in the long run because they can use their knowledge of what felt good when they were penetrated to make you feel good while being penetrated. They can understand that a headache can make sex feel like a completely jarring experience for whoever is on the receiving end.

As Glickkman and Emirzian propose in their book, many men will “discover that when sex is about catching rather than pitching, their mood, their emotions , and their connection to a partner can often have a bigger influence on what they want to do and how it feels.” What this means is that men will become better lovers which not only benefits the females who get to feel better when having sex, but also the males who will find women more interested and open to experiencing different sexual practices if they can show the care to those women that they would want to be shown to them.

Just as sexless marriage can not only be attributed to women one hundred percent of the time and we can’t say that all men think only with their dick, pegging will not make men gay nor will it lessen their masculinity in any way. Think for a second about the orifice that society is giving that much power to. The way we talk about anal sex in today’s society it is almost as if penetrating that one spot will completely undo everything any guy has ever worked for which we can all safely agree is stupid, right?

So ladies, strap on those dildos and men be ready for one of the best nights of your life, anal sex is on the menu again.

Well when I was young I experienced with girls and boys and I found that boys to be more sexual than young girls. What mean to say I was more turned on and the boy’s were more turned on the girls trying to talk them into letting me lick there pussy’s than actually sucking a boy off. And the taste of a boy’s cum tastes really good but now I’m a bi MARRIED MAN. but I am true wife and always have been for almost 30 years, and why wouldn’t I she peggs me about 3 times per week and when I cum in her moiuth she holds it in it till I’m done and then we trade my cum back and forth, besides she used to piss all over me and me her.