I could not have survived Prostate Cancer without my best friend and wife Annecia. She did everything a good wife would do to stand by me when I was down for the count.

The first face I was conscious of when I was brought back from the land of the dead was hers. She slept lightly the night of my surgery, was up early in the morning and stayed with me like a circling rescue ship, while I was asleep on the surgical table. If she could have been in the Operating Room with me she would have. She demanded updates from the doctors and as soon as I disembarked from the haze of the anesthesia, there she was to reassure me.

This smart and intelligent woman told me she loves me. I believe that, because her actions and deeds of graciousness underscores that. That is why I have immortalized her in the book of my survival story. In fact Prostate Cancer And Me...Or You, The Two Stages (Man To Man) could not have been a true story without the mentioning of this great woman, my best friend and wife.

Yes! I AM A SURVIVOR, not because of the odds but in spite of them. I believe to survive you have to do the things you do not normally do. you have to take the negatives and convert them to positive. you have to be prepared to drag a boulder on your leg for the extra mile. In some instance you have to even become oblivious to pains, be it physical or emotional. also when emotions kick you in the gut cry like a banshee too, even if you are a hard core son of the soil like I am. From my stock and ancestry I have risen like a flower in otherwise arid conditions to tell my story and to help others. with torch in my hand I will light the survival flame until it blaze throughout the land, bringing awareness to the scourge of prostate cancer.

I have not gone off in seclusion like some celebrities and important persons who could have done much more for the cause of their fellow suffers by giving more voices to a disease that kills one in six men, and have a higher ratio than breast cancer with one in eight. significant people and organization have joined forces for breast cancer. For annual drives here they come. From the NFL, NBA, Major league, TV hosts you name it. To the contrast of that very few have spoken for prostate cancer, to where Prostate Cancer Month of September is sparsely spoken of, or in most cases not recognized. OBVIOUSLY THERE IS ONE OFFICIAL IN THE USA WHO CARES. Click this link to read his observations http://www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2012/08/31/presidential-proclamation-national-prostate-cancer-awareness-month-2012

I hate to think that because the male has been the dominant figure in society who has always taken care of himself that that chicken has come home to roost too. So it could well be "Go take care of yourself you prostate sick, prostate cancer man. you have always been macho, that shouldn't be any problem for you".

I wish they would know, as my wife did, that men do need to go to the doctor once every 8-12 months. That the appointments can be made for him too (while he is busy working) and that he can be dragged too, to the doctor's office. Maybe we should be quick and hurry to prevent us being mainly another noun (man) instead of a valuable contributor and asset to society and a nation. We need help! we need more survivor stories...Watch the attached video, and I hope it helps in a proper landing for all those who are in this arena. Click this link: http://youtu.be/m_7P_HDG9wo

I believe that spouses should support each other. It makes the situation much more bearable for the afflicted one.All praises to Jehovah for seeing you through,Continue to persevere and to help educate others along the way.

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Beverly Edwards

5/22/2012 10:39:23 am

Their are not enough words to describe how i felt after reading this story. LOVE ,AFFECTION ,AND DEDICATION are the three words to describe ,how they feel towards each other.I thank the lord that you overcome this chapter in your life and my prayers are with you all. BLESSING...........

Hi Lloyd. You're website is awesome! Prostate cancer deserves as much recognition as susan kormen and I'm glad you are sharing your experiences with the world. I witnessed you and Annecia's struggle and the unconditional love you both have for one another-she is a great person!! I will be happy to share your website and stories with everyone I know because you are brave, a fighter and an advocate for a disease that many men should know about. Good luck to your new voice and I support you 100%...love you guys!!

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Karen Adams

6/17/2012 02:17:53 pm

This brought chills over me. Now I understand the term only the strong survive. Annecia, you are a true example of our strong black women standing by one of our strong black brothers. Prostate cancer affects so many of our brothers who are ashamed to even admit acceptance of facing this. Only a strong brother like Lloyd would take up this challenge, using his own experience to help others.

In my opinion:
Read the hard facts about prostate cancer testing and treatment that no one will tell you about, even after it’s too late. This is information all men over 40 should have. Also, anyone concerned about cancer in general or privacy issues should read this warning. Prostate cancer patients are sometimes elderly, over treated, misinformed and exploited for profits. The treatment and well documented overtreatment of prostate cancer often results in devastating and unnecessary side effects and sometimes death. Sometimes profit vs. QOL (quality of life).

Per some studies:
Some studies have verified more deaths caused from prostate cancer testing and treatment then from prostate cancer itself.
1 man in 6 will be diagnosed with prostate cancer in his life.
About 233,000 new cases per year of prostate cancer.
About 1 Million prostate blind biopsy’s performed per year in the USA.
6.9% hospitalization within 30 days from a biopsy complication.
About 1.3 to 3.5 deaths per 1,000 from prostate blind biopsies.
.2% deaths as a result of prostate cancer surgery.
60% had a prescription filled for an infection after a Biopsy.
Medical mistakes are the third cause of deaths in the USA.
Prostate cancer patients are at an increased risk for fatigue, depression, suicide, heart attacks and accidental death.

Please excuse the mostly accurate humor and sarcasm. Its intent is to entertain and educate while reading this sometimes laborious text.

Prostate cancer patients are often elderly and exploited for profit, the treatments offered almost always have horrible side effects, and newer treatment options are either unavailable or not offered to patients or available outside the USA. Also men are often over treated for profit. Prostate cancer is often slow growing and of low risk and can just be monitored. Often no treatment is the best treatment.

If a surgeon is financially responsible for a building lease or a large staff or an oncologist is also responsible for a lease on 5 million dollars of radiation treatment equipment, do you think they would be more or less upfront about the benefits and hazards of treatment? Do you think the profit margin would compromise some doctor’s ethics?

A 12 or 18 core blind biopsies, holey prostate! Men with a high PSA tests result are often sent to an urologist for a blind biopsy. Men should be told about other options: Percent free PSA test, PCA3 urine test or a MRI test before receiving a blind biopsy. These tests can often eliminate the need for a more risky and invasive blind biopsy. Insertion of 12 to 18 large holes through the rectum into a gland the size of a walnut, a blind Biopsy can result in prostate infections, a risk of permanent or temporary Erectile Dysfunction, urinary problems and sometimes even death from sepsis (About 1.3 to 3.5 deaths per 1,000 from Blind biopsies). There is also controversy that a biopsy may or may not spread cancer because of needle tracking. A blind biopsy can also increase PSA reading for weeks or months. Blind biopsies are almost never performed on other organs. One very prestigious hospital biopsy information states: “Notice that your semen has a red or rust-colored tint caused by a small amount of blood in your semen”. Another large prestigious hospital states “Blood, either red or reddish brown, may also be in your ejaculate.” These statements are an extreme exaggeration. Very often a man’s semen will turn into thick jet black goo. This could be an unpleasant surprise for a man and especially for his unsuspecting partner. However if a biopsy is performed before Halloween or April Fools’ day this may be of some benefit to a few patients. If some very prestigious hospitals are not factual about the color of semen, what other information is not being disclosed or distorted?

Bone scan scam: Prostate cancer patients are often sent for a bone scan. A bone scan has about a 13% chance of having a false positive and only 3 men in 1,000 have bone cancer who have a bone scan. Bone scans may sometimes be unnecessary in lower risk prostate cancer patients.

Low risk Cancer patients or patients with advanced age are often sent for aggressive treatment by some doctors when monitoring is usually a better option. An extreme example of overtreatment is one SBRT radiation clinical trial. Prostate cancer patients (victims) where intentionally treaded with a huge dose (50Gy total, 5 fractions) of radiation resulting in disastrous long term side effect for some of these men. A large percentage of prostate cancer patients in this clinical trial had low risk prostate cancer.

Clinical trials may or may not be hazardous to patients? The goal of a clinical trial is to gather information; the intent is not necessarily to help or cure patients. In a clinical trial, if someone i

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Jim

2/25/2018 01:30:20 pm

Men beware! A prostate cancer survival guide by a patient and victim. Read the sad truth about prostate cancer over testing and treatment dangers and exploitation for profit by predatory doctors that no one will tell you about, even after it’s too late. The man that invented the PSA test, Dr. Richard Ablin now calls it: "The Great Prostate Mistake, Hoax and a Profit-Driven Public Health Disaster”. Prostate cancer dirty secrets, lies, exaggerations, deceptions, elder abuse, outdated testing and treatments. Any man over 50, anyone concerned about cancer in general, dangers from clinical trials, injuries and deaths from medical mistakes, quality prescriptions at a huge discount from Canada, exploitation, elder abuse, HIPAA laws and privacy issues should read this document. Read “Men Beware!” Free information from a victim. Go to: http://www.yananow.org/display_story.php?id=1659

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I was unceremoniously thrown from the saddle of life by prostate cancer, but I got back up. I am a survivor . It took some kicking and clawing but I made it.