YANBU. The only reason my house is tidy now we have DS2 is because he goes to nursery and we are at work all day. At weekends and when we have time off, it looks like a bomb's hit.

I think you both need to work together to see how you can get your house tidier. I am naturally a messy person so I need to set very strict rules for myself and make a conscious effort to stick to them. If I see something laying there, I pick it up there and then. I have a strict list of tasks I do every weekend (and some that I do every month) with reminders on my phone, whether they really seem to need doing or not - just to make sure the house doesn't get to the point of being dirty! But if DH wasn't on board with it too it would be impossible. If he sat there playing Xbox games while I tidied, i'd put laxatives in his tea.

If you can do a bit of tidying obviously that's great but any assumption that his day stops at five whereas your day is endless is ridiculously selfish.

I'm usually not a rota fan but I think if he works 9-5, 5 days a week and you work 2 days a week you need to formalise tasks (including bathing your DD and making up feeds) and see how that goes for a few weeks and then hopefully relax it. Try not to let resentment, on either side, build up.

He's a dickhead. My Dh works the same hours does all the cooking and a fair bit of the housework. I mainly look after dd as she is breastfed he mainly looks after ds (2) when he's home. I get a lie in both days on the weekend as I do all the nights.

You are so NOT being unreasonable. He's taking the p!ss. I would put my foot down and give him a massive ultimatum. How lazy! My disabled husband helps me out always as best he can you need to sort this otherwise it will break you I'm afraid.

I'm sorry but i think YABU. It isn't impossible to do a little tidying each day (during your DD's naptime would be perfect for this). That would help keep you on top of things. If you cant do it now then you will struggle later on down the line when your daughter is older and capable of making more mess.

Although in your defense, he does not have the right to slob about the place and expect you to be his skivvy. Nothing wrong with him putting his own shoes away when he comes home. Likewise, nothing wrong with him looking after your DD while you do something then if you haven't managed it in the day.

My partner gets really angry at me because the house is never tidy, He works 9-5 every day (good but not a very demanding job) but he has never done night feeds because he works so I let him have the sleep (our daughter is now 9 months old but she still wakes up and she's very active in the day) but I work 2 days a week and I still get up in the night Our house is hardly tidy, and when it is tidy it doesn't stay that way for long! We are both messy people and a child only makes it messier lol In the day I play with her take her out and she only has one nap a day now, she climbs everything crawls everywhere and won't just chill so I never have time to tidy and he moans that its never clean I say we'll you can help but he just says he's been at work He never baths our girl and he don't make up bottles he wouldn't even know how many ounces she is on anymore do I have to do everything and I just can't cope And when I have tidied he comes home and takes his shoes off in the middle of the lounge plays Xbox and asks me to make him tea