Good post, Comet. I'm upper middle class...I have basically all the important things I want. 335i...comfy modern house...weekends skiing...maybe a dive trip once or twice a year....new entry level SLR, and a nice mountain bike. While I wouldn't mind a 911 Turbo and some uber contemporary Tony Stark house, I don't think they'd make me nearly as happy as a good sex life- particularly with women I actually like and respect who want me for more than my money. With my level of 'stuff', I've reached the point of diminishing returns. My income is the same as when I was with my ex, but my happiness is now through the roof in comparison. I don't worry about stuff as much

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You are a very lucky man carve

Thanks- livin' the dream . It just keeps getting better and better with this one. She's very...kinky. She likes to....ahhhemmm....have me take control and push boundaries. This one might be a keeper.

Money ceases buying you happiness when you've bought everything you thought would make you happy.
Then you realize that you're just bringing in money to spend on nothing and nobody, because you're on top of the world and you're all alone. And you need to scrape the bottom of the barrel to find ridiculous things to buy and do because it is the only thing that can give you a small bit of euphoria.
So you spend your money on ways to keep you busy and keep your mind off the fact that you're all alone. Your friends can't keep up with you, and only gold diggers want you around and you just can't seem to fall in love with them because you know it isn't real. They think they have you fooled, but they don't.

you could always just save it and live like a normal (or upper-middle) person.

and i really doubt i'd get tired of pros. whoever i end up marrying will likely have to be ok with that (i'm guessing at least a few europeans are ok with it). just read an interesting article (the short version): l.a. pornstars have more stds than vegas pros (statistically)

me: been single for over 5 yrs now, but i needed it. without the career validation something would always be missing, even if she's the hottest chick out there. and i don't think a stable/highpaying job constitutes career validation (it's just a nicer treadmill). had that 10 yrs ago and left it.

Good post, Comet. I'm upper middle class...I have basically all the important things I want. 335i...comfy modern house...weekends skiing...maybe a dive trip once or twice a year....new entry level SLR, and a nice mountain bike. While I wouldn't mind a 911 Turbo and some uber contemporary Tony Stark house, I don't think they'd make me nearly as happy as a good sex life- particularly with women I actually like and respect who want me for more than my money. With my level of 'stuff', I've reached the point of diminishing returns. My income is the same as when I was with my ex, but my happiness is now through the roof in comparison. I don't worry about stuff as much

Thanks- livin' the dream . It just keeps getting better and better with this one. She's very...kinky. She likes to....ahhhemmm....have me take control and push boundaries. This one might be a keeper.

I realize you are happy now, and I'll bet you are thinking "why didn't I do this earlier" (ie. divorce).

However, I'd be very interested in seeing if you still feel the same way in 3-5 years (assuming during that time you do not get re-married). My theory is that you will not...there will likely be elements of your ex that you miss and you aren't able to find the perfect person (not saying ex was perfect, just that you'll look for her good traits in whomever, PLUS all the ones that she wasn't good at, and you won't find that). My theory is that you will be unhappy / lonely, in spite of the "attentions" by others - you may start to view them as needy / desparate, trying to land you (ie. start putting yourself on a pedestal).

Of course, this is just a theory, I have nothing to back it up experience wise, but I'd certainly be interested in honest feedback! PM me in 3-5 years!

Of course, what I hope is that you do find the right person for you...just don't let this get to you and change you into a self absorbed person, otherwise you won't find anyone!

I was worried about that at first, but I'm really not concerned anymore. I'm going to play the field for a while and figure out what my options are so I don't have the same problem as last time. I'm seeing two women right now who BOTH have a lot more to offer than my ex and I'm fairly certain I'd be much happier with either one. Hell- this girl I'm talking about alone has all of the good traits of my ex (with the exception of not being a skier) and lots, LOTS more. She has some of the same shortcomings too, but I've yet to find anything significant about her that's worse. Equal to MUCH better in nearly every way.

I AM putting myself on a pedestal compared to before, but that's exactly what I needed to do. Low self esteem with my ex not seeming to want to bring anything to the table. Now I'm meeting fantastic women left and right, & all the ones I'm seeing would like to have something exclusive with me. It feels fantastic. And yes- I understand we are all flawed and none of them will be perfect, but they'll be much CLOSER to perfect.

You're absolutely right- "why did I wait so long". I was afraid I'd wind up just as you said...or even worse. Not worried about it anymore

That said, I'm not sure if I'll get married, at least not for a VERY long time. I think knowing that you have to work to keep your partner around, rather than having them legally obligated to stay, is healthy for a relationship. It reduces complacancy.

I love sex... and after 18 years with my wife, we still do it whenever i want which only amounts to 2 or 3 times a week. In the beginning we just were poor and had lots of sex because we couldn't afford to do anything.

Then we went through the fertility issue and was forced to have sex like 20+ times a month and that lasted 5 years!!! I actually did NOT want sex at that time. Too much of a good thing.

You can have filet everyday and after a while, it's just a piece of meat. Sex for us isn't passionate like it used to be. We have 3 kids. Most of the time, it's her doing her job and me getting the release. Once in a while, it's hot.

So, since I get it whenever I want, I'd rather have money. Gives me more euphoria. I'd rather go golfing at a nice golf course with some buddies and kick some ass. I'd rather have a track day. Hell, I'd rather have a nice bbq and some good drink in my backyard.

Oh, our sex now has become so efficient (I'm not bragging here, you just know the spot) she gets it and I finish off in all of 5 minutes usually. Our best sex is the real quickies that last 2 minutes - usually happens if we haven't had it in a little more time like 3-4 days.

I love sex... and after 18 years with my wife, we still do it whenever i want which only amounts to 2 or 3 times a week. In the beginning we just were poor and had lots of sex because we couldn't afford to do anything.

Then we went through the fertility issue and was forced to have sex like 20+ times a month and that lasted 5 years!!! I actually did NOT want sex at that time. Too much of a good thing.

You can have filet everyday and after a while, it's just a piece of meat. Sex for us isn't passionate like it used to be. We have 3 kids. Most of the time, it's her doing her job and me getting the release. Once in a while, it's hot.

So, since I get it whenever I want, I'd rather have money. Gives me more euphoria. I'd rather go golfing at a nice golf course with some buddies and kick some ass. I'd rather have a track day. Hell, I'd rather have a nice bbq and some good drink in my backyard.

Oh, our sex now has become so efficient (I'm not bragging here, you just know the spot) she gets it and I finish off in all of 5 minutes usually. Our best sex is the real quickies that last 2 minutes - usually happens if we haven't had it in a little more time like 3-4 days.

I couldnt agree with you more. after awhile it just becomes sex and passion is gone. its almost like you dont care. and yes sometimes its amazing but after awhile its just the same old thing. i think thats why sex is one of the biggest factors of divorce. people get bored. hell i got bored.

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power

Money is power. they say knowledge is power, which is true to some extent, but these days, money is the power