Monday, August 08, 2011

It's easier to blame the victim

About a month ago I wrote a post about being called a fag and how disparaging it was for me to get such a nasty and derogatory comment from someone I was being nice to. Of course, not everyone saw it my way.

Instead of being portrayed as a victim, some people thought I should've been blamed because I provoked this other person. Even though I don't particularly care what faceless commenters write, it still struck a nerve.

The tone of some comments were along the lines of "Someone called you a faggot? Of course you deserve to be called one. It was totally your fault, like everything else."

What I found amusing/bothersome was people blaming me for what someone else did. I was a friendly bystander in the situation and yet, I still got the brunt of the backlash. This is twisted logic.

Someone called you a faggot when they're one, too (and a stereotypical fag, to boot) even when they claim to be "masculine." Yet, this someone didn't have the balls to pick up the phone when I called them because they don't want any sort of confrontation since they're pussies. Ironic?

You know what? Whatever. If it happens to someone else (or a reader of this journal), I won't blame them. Why? It's not their fault. It's mine.

2 Comments:

Once again, seemingly out of the blue, someone flips out on you. You have no idea why. Clearly this is a pattern, so you must be clueless about your own behavior. No surprise.

That was the comment made and it was an observation to the fact that once again, someone else had made remark to you unprovoked. Which is hard to believe. You seem to have a lot of conflicts with people that never ever seem to be your fault.