When You Have No Choice But To Give Him Head

I believe that good sex is an interchange between partners, in that they both contribute to the relationship. A fair and equitable relationship where both feel at ease with each other and only participate in activities they are happy indulging in.

To keep things interesting it may be necessary to try new things every now and then and if you don’t like something then at least you have tried it and made an informed decision. I really do believe that variety is the spice of life.

I’m all for participation, if my partner doesn’t want to indulge in my pursuit then I certainly wouldn’t force them to…well not unless they wanted me to, for example Dominatrix role play.

You are probably wondering where all this is leading to.

Take a look at the image. It’s marketed as a bjstrap, the idea being that the male pulls on it forcing his partner to take him deep in to her mouth. This doesn’t really sit with me very well, it suggests an element of forced coercion.

If I want to take a mans cock in to my mouth or throat even, I want to control just how much and how fast I want to devour him. This “sex aid” could result in someone being choked or in my case having his cock bitten. But it wouldn’t get to that because there is no way I would allow a guy to place this band around the back of my head in the first place.

The odd guiding hand on the back of the head is fine but this is more extreme.

So could rope. Lots of items we use on a daily basis could be used to bring harm to others. I mean, if video games have taught me nothing else, it’s that anything can be used as a weapon. (Or did you mean choking on his cock? If that’s the case, some folks* are into that.)

I wouldn’t buy the thing, but that’s only because it’s essentially a damn scarf with handles, disguised (and priced) like a sex toy. That makes me cross. We seem to be polar opposites in preferences in this instance- I often like to fight (as I enjoy rough sex) and have my partner force me onto his cock.

I’m genuinely curious about your discomfort. Especially within BDSM, there can be a lot of uncomfortable imagery involved. I’m sure you’re even more aware of that than I am. I am all about the SSC, but this just seems so… blase, perhaps. But your limits aren’t my limits, and your experiences are not mine either.