QUESTION

Dear Dr. Laura,
When my oldest son was 19 months old his father was killed by a drunk driver. He's now 3 years old going on 4 and knows his fathers picture when he sees it and knows that daddy is in heaven with angels. Lately though he's started asking if he could go to heaven to see his daddy.

I'm personally still a wreck over the accident and am not sure how I should be discussing his fathers death with him especially since I usually start to cry. Should I keep talking to him about his daddy or should I be holding off until he is older?

Stillbirth is one of the most devastating of losses, affecting over 25,000 families each year. Stillbirth touches families of all races, religion and socio-economic status. For many parents stillbirth is a loss that hits unexpectedly.

Young children through early teen years need something visible and hands-on to help them work through feelings of sadness, fear, anger, and other associated grief emotions. One ritual that has been found to be very healing is carried out with a clay pot.