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We have done it a few times with my children, especially when they are very sleepy or fallen asleep we will leave them in their clothes when we put them to bed. My mother in law has a big problem when my hubby and I do this, she thinks we should wake them up to put on their pajamas.

Yeah I don't want them to be entitled and spoiled but definitely want them to have the best of everything even though I still buy second hand and hand me downs etc. my mum always made our clothes and I was so embarrassed about it that I refuse to learn to sew. I also feel like I'm embarrassing them if we dont have a brand new car or wear embarrassing clothes because I was embarrassed by my parents car and lack of sense of style/fashion.

I can definitely see how that can happen. I just thought it was interesting because I had never thought about it before and it seemed contrary, but you're right--kids crave order, and if it is lacking during their childhoods, I can see how they might overcompensate as adults once they get a taste of it.

Edited ( I changed this whole paragraph because I'm sleepy and once I re-read it, I realized it didn't make sense, so here's take 2)

I want J to have everything nice too, but I try to walk a line with him so that he is not spoiled and entitled. Do you have a hard time with that? I hate telling him "no" but I don't want him to think he can have everything he wants either.....it's a tough balancing act!

Oh I didn't mean she didn't care about cleaning lol but I know a few people whos parents were pretty feral and they've grown up to mop and vacuum every day and are always washing and bath their kids twice a day now. I grew up poor not dirt poor but always had crap cars and hand me down clothes and couldn't afford good holidays and now I'm obsessed with making sure my kids don't miss out on that type of stuff.

That's interesting! My poor mom was actually a clean freak, I think, or maybe it just took that much effort to keep a shack with a dirt floor sanitary....She washed our blankets every morning and hung them to dry in the sun, and we slept on the ground because she was afraid a mattress would get mold and make us sick (There was no way to keep the inside of the shack dry)--I guess she figured mold was worse than anything in the dirt....I don't know, I'm just glad I don't face the dilemmas she did!

yea, I only have one munchkin, so it's not a big deal for me to change the linens if he sleeps in his clothes, and his bed is up high (in a loft) so it's not a big deal to keep him out of it until bedtime. I realized during play dates that none of his friends had this rule, and they LOVE to play on his bed, so I thought it might be bordering weird....it's okay, I can take it! :)

I don't think I used to be this bad. I mean, I grew up in virtual filth--our shack was made up of rusted car parts and literally had a dirt floor. Have you ever heard the expression "dirt poor" ? It means so poor the house has dirt for a floor. Somewhere along the line, I think maybe when I was in the hospital (for cancer) I became obsessed with germs and dirt that I can't see with my eyes--if I can see it, I'm fine with it, it's the unseeable (that's a word! lol) that scares me. I'm sure it's totally irrational.....well, not SURE, but you know.

Aside from my somewhat irrational fear of germs, I don't see any problem with sleeping in clothes.

@ Kelly: I go for clean clothes at night unless she falls asleep on someone. It's just what she wears are "technically" play clothes instead of pjs. The dirt thing is understandable if perhaps somewhat unachievable for some of us. Your munchkins might be healthier for it. Never know. ;)

Kelly, that is weird, for my house.Unless he's really dirty, I do not worry about the linens, and I definately don't change and wash them because anyone got on them in their "day clothes". I work and go to school for nursing so I do not have that much time. For your house, that's how you feel and what you have time for. SO for you, it's not weird. FOr me, it's out of the question.

If we come home late and she's asleep already, and if the clothes are comfy, then yes, we've done it a few times. But if she's awake, we always change into fresh pj's and wash her feet, hands, face and brush teeth. But compared to a lot of kids I know, she is actually fairly cooperative at bedtime, so who knows if it will be the same with the next one.

Thank you! My dh thinks it's odd. He always comes straight in from work, walks all the way to the bedroom--IN HIS SHOES!!!--then sits down on the BED to remove his tie! Which irritates the crap out of me. Furthermore, he never fails to remove his tie (which is probably the cleanest thing on him) when he comes in the house, yet he thinks it odd to remove his shoes (which have been on the floor of a mens' restroom--and I've seen how men aim!)

Yes....though I must admit, I'm really weird about dirt. I figure the clothing he's worn all day is filthy with dirt and germs from everything he's come in contact with throughout the day, so on the few occasions I put him to bed in his clothes, I strip the linens first thing in the morning and throw them in the wash.

I don't allow him on his bed in his day clothes once he's been out, and I don't sit on my own bed wearing my day clothes unless I haven't been out yet.

I have, but it has only been once. I've done the same with the teeth as well. I just make sure to brush them really good in the morning. In the end it just isn't worth waking my daughter and listening to her scream because she doesn't want to fall back to sleep afterward.

Her play clothes are sooo similar to pjs that I really don't see a problem with this. In fact she has some older, stained or reallllly worn play clothes that have migrated to the pjs drawer.

We're pretty stringent about the teeth brushing though. Unless she falls asleep on someone and we're just laying her right down, then her teeth do get brushed. If she is asleep I'm not gonna mess with it though. It happens sooo rarely that it just isn't worth the fight.