If anything needs to be said, attractive.
If they have nothing more to say beyond that more than likely will just ignore.
It's like responding to a wink or a wolf whistle, ok, you'd do me - so what?

9/26/2010 12:58:33 PM

Do you prefer to be called "sexy" or "attractive"?

olefrogHarriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010

Quote from mendicant:

I associate it with the guy thinking he will be sexually successful with me...that I will be responsive to his advances.

Man view....Sexy is an attitude more than anything else. A positive trait.
A woman can be sexy but .....it may not have anything at all to do with wheather a man wants to go out with her. Take it as a compliment.

9/26/2010 1:07:34 PM

Do you prefer to be called "sexy" or "attractive"?

maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

i think when "sexy" is said by a man to a woman it is definitely based on her physical appearance obviously w/out knowing her

do i think sexy is a bad word or compliment? no, i dont. i think women shud be flattered if a man thinks she is sexy. its better to be complimented than not

BUT if its the ONLY thing the man can say or talk about w/u is just how physically sexy u r, then it doesnt leave any room to progress any interest if he isnt giving the woman anything to go on.....just kind of leaves it shallow

sexy can also be termed as a whole of one's personality as well as her looks.....which would mean the man has gotten or getting to know her and just finds her to be a fabulous person all around

but yes, there r other descriptive adjectives to use when complimenting a woman......doesnt always have to be sexy

<<<<<-------- not feeling sexy today

NOW the real question is.....would a woman rather be called HOT or SEXY? do they mean the same thing?

[Edited 9/26/2010 1:08:13 PM ]

9/26/2010 1:15:27 PM

Do you prefer to be called "sexy" or "attractive"?

olefrogHarriman, TN
61, joined Sep. 2010

NOW the real question is.....would a woman rather be called HOT or SEXY? do they mean the same thing?

9/26/2010 1:23:38 PM

Do you prefer to be called "sexy" or "attractive"?

maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

YUP, thats what i think too

so a woman could consider HOT flattering or offensive depending on who is saying it and how she wants to take it

I associate it with the guy thinking he will be sexually successful with me...that I will be responsive to his advances.

Being a guy , I don't think of it like that at all.

To me, sexy means sexually attractive and NOT that I think I would be able to "get with" the particular woman, or even try for that matter.

There are some young women for example that are in their 20's and look VERY sexy... I would not be trying to hit on them (they are too young for me) That does not however have anything to do with the fact that they are sexy.

Personally I believe it to be a compliment, although I would agree that it should be used more appropriately than some do.
(just my thoughts)

9/26/2010 1:32:55 PM

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maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

why, thanks, MENDI

yeah, exotic is a term ive had a few times......kind of cracks me up

and u r those descriptors as well.....and nicely done coming from a woman. i realize u arent lesbian

and WHY cant i call a man cute??

BBW, plotting to have sex? i like that. im gonna plot to have sex with a man REAL SOON

9/26/2010 1:33:40 PM

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misslooking4uBronx, NY
33, joined Sep. 2010

Neither! I'd prefer to be called my Name. I think its beautiful
* when a person winks or msg's another its a given they admire something about U. So extend a compliment or ask their name.

9/26/2010 1:34:22 PM

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ichoose_aloneWinnetka, IL
45, joined Jul. 2010

Damn Carbon, you are so sexy.

OT: I agree with Mendi's thoughts.

9/26/2010 1:35:37 PM

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maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

CARBON, i had a feeling u chased those young hotties......down, boy

9/26/2010 1:37:25 PM

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tater79Springfield, IL
38, joined Jun. 2008

Quote from mendicant:

I don't want someone I don't know calling me "sexy".

To start out with, how do they know? We've never been in the same room!

Attractive, I will accept.

Sexy? Once you make that statement, you've failed.

What do you prefer?

Different people have different meanings for the word sexy...........obviously you are saying to you, it means personality and looks etc (the whole package)

To me the word sexy, is the same as saying the word attractive, just a less proper way of saying attractive.......
But yes someone's voice their kindness etc could been seen as sexy qualities......but when they say it without knowing you, then obviously they are meaning it as you use the word attractive (all looks based)

I've also heard people say that someones voice, kindness etc, makes them attractive and/or more attractive..........so it's up to each individual's interpretation of the word....

I think it has to do with tact. For me I will not use the word sexy or hot when giving a woman a compliment. I find it inappropriate until you actually know. As for me I appreciate it if someone pays me the compliment of sexy or hot but I don't expect the conversation to go much further. When referencing a woman I prefer to use the words attractive or beautiful, simply my preference. I like to save the word "sexy" until you get to one of those moments where you can't wait to rip each others clothes off...or already have...

Just my thoughts...my 10 cents..

9/26/2010 1:43:46 PM

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sighthound70Kassel
Germany
46, joined Jul. 2010

I often hear that I'm attractive.
But I also hear that the way I dress, talk and my body language appears to be very sexy.

I don't have an issue with being called sexy, it's a compliment which I appreciate.

9/26/2010 1:47:25 PM

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maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

i once dated a cop and i called him to leave a message and his voice mail said something to the effect

"only hot women apply or call here"......and i was like

that seemed offensive and turned off

i mean i had to think he must be conceited to think he himself is THAT hot when he wasnt

sexy, attractive, hot, i don't care. it was meant as a compliment not to offend.

9/26/2010 4:32:43 PM

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frantasticaEssex
United Kingdom
65, joined May. 2010

Quote from really_dude:

class! excellent illustration of the issue!

I love being called anyfing positive... providing thats how it is meant!

But wen I get called something negative I can turn into a fire breathing dragon....

If I describe someone as sexy then they are attractive to me, physically.
Attraction is magnetic. I feel drawn to you if I find you "attractive". Sexy implies a more general acknowledgement of physical appeal, doesn't it?xx

If someone finds me "attractive" I would think they would think I was "attractive" enough to have sex with....hence "sexy". At least thats how I think when I look at a man. I think calling someone "attractive" sounds classier than "sexy".

Give me an attractive, sexy, classy guy!

9/26/2010 5:18:58 PM

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jammilValdosta, GA
34, joined Apr. 2010

9/26/2010 5:19:56 PM

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maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

i THINK everyone shouldnt be so judgemental and just post sexy pics.....and let us be the JUDGE of them

Little or no ego and I don`t need what ever there is stroked. If I have to keep repeating to lady how good she looks it just strikes me that she is insecure. Doll do you really think I would be with you if there wasn`t some form of attraction?

9/26/2010 5:32:02 PM

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maryg2Philadelphia, PA
47, joined Oct. 2008

Quote from horace_schitt:

Pffft! Couldn't you just see someone like me trying to pose for and post 'sexy pics'? Wouldn't that be a hit?

oh, give it a shot, hon

im sure there is plenty of willing ladies to check u out

9/26/2010 5:51:36 PM

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crzyblubttrflyFort Smith, AR
58, joined Apr. 2009

I told Keith that was a hawt pic, if he just would have not turned his head it would be killer.

To me, sexy means sexually attractive and NOT that I think I would be able to "get with" the particular woman, or even try for that matter.

There are some young women for example that are in their 20's and look VERY sexy... I would not be trying to hit on them (they are too young for me) That does not however have anything to do with the fact that they are sexy.

Personally I believe it to be a compliment, although I would agree that it should be used more appropriately than some do.
(just my thoughts)

Attractive, but only on a Good DayIf anybody saw me right after work, they'd be calling for

9/26/2010 6:20:33 PM

Do you prefer to be called "sexy" or "attractive"?

destinymSavannah, GA
49, joined Oct. 2008

I don't mind either. I was taken back hearing guys openly say that just in passing when I first moved here, but now I know it's just their way...and they say it to everyone practically; so really it's nothing special to hear I guess. It doesn't work as a come on line to me to get me to stop and converse though. I just smile and say "thanks" and keep on going. (and sometimes I really book it)