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Sunday, February 24, 2013

RealMama Week: Mothering Me RE- PUBLISH

Leslie Potter is the founder of Pure Joy Parenting,
a joy based parenting model which supports parents in moving from a
traditional fear-based model to a joy-based one, focusing on
relationship and healthy attachment. She is a co-author of Chaos to
Connection: 9 Heart Centered Essentials for Parenting your Teen.
Leslie is a Parent Coach with a background as a body centered
therapist. She created the Parent Coach model at Vive a national
company working with at risk teens and their parents. In 2008, she
founded Purejoy Parenting to educate and support new parents in
understanding the importance of their attachment stories and how they
affect their relationships with their children.

Mothering Me

Motherhood
has stretched me beyond words. How could I have known that one little
soul could awaken such light, as well as illuminate such darkness.
When waiting for my daughter, I imagined all the good aspects of
being a mother. I felt I was ready to surrender fully to the amazing
opportunity I was being given. Finally, after 44 years of waiting and
preparing, I was going to be a mother. It had taken me that long to
embrace my childhood and feel I had done enough work that I wouldn't
damage my child.

I was beyond excited for the opportunity
to be the Mom I knew I had inside. What I hadn't planned for was the
depth of pain that would arise when I fell short. Talk about humility!
This has been my path, and daily I bow down to my daughter for
showing me the true path to loving myself. When I am able to open to
the depth of beauty and grace she provides, instead of needing her to
behave the way I want her to so I look like a good mom, I can see
clearly.

I don't need her to validate me and have
found I can relax and open to being a safe emotional container for her
to learn and grow. When I'm able to take full responsibility for my
feelings and my stories, I am able to let her off the hook to be the
beautiful light she embodies.

Learning to love myself starts with me and it is the greatest gift I offer my sweet girl.

Even
though my love for her showed me the way, I learned that loving myself
was up to me. When I needed her to convince me that I was lovable, I
felt the pain. When I was finally able to step into the shoes of that
amazing Mom I had inside...I began to mother ME as well as my
daughter.

How do you feel about the mom you ARE, versus the mom you thought you'd be?

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