My son does that to me all the time. He knows exactly how to push my button.

He would ask “Can I do this and that”I said “No.”He would ask “Why Not?’I said “Because.......(explanation)”Then he raised his voice slightly “But (yada yada)”I said (raised my voice slightly) “My No means No.”He said “THAT‘S NOT FAIR!”and it went on like this ...

The outcomes:

1. Both of us got mad and slammed the dooror 2. I gave in for I did not want further stressor 3. He did it anyway

Now it is a little better for he is almost 18 and we both try to soften our voice.

kduncan...here’s how you do it:Stiffen your back, square your shoulders and then turn you whole body towards target the say (loud and proud)HELL-TO-THE-NAW!!!!Trust me, they will think that you have lost your ever loving mind and will be shocked into submission!

Stay strong and SAY NO. The more you say no the more they know you mean it. Now I say no to my 12 year old son and he doesn’t even ask again. It takes a while to get them trained, but eventually the light goes on and they get it.

Yeah, just because she hasn't been punished before doesn't mean you can't start. Plus, she's never done anything like this before, so this is a fine time to get it going and let her know you mean business. She wants to give you the silent treatment on the way to Grandpa's? Give it right back.