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I don’t like to look at the last date that I posted here, it seems to have been so long! Work seems to have subsumed all of us and when it hasn’t been work that has been taking up our time, it has been other stuff! Like getting eldest son back from Canada after he lost his UK passport with NZ Residency Permit in it! Or getting youngest son to hockey, football or squash trainings or matches. Writing exams, presentations, going to conferences, replacing dead dishwashers, taming wild gardens, entertaining guests, working ….

So, eldest son is safely back in NZ, has job, is treating house like a hotel, and youngest has finished winter sport and is now busy with summer hockey and mountain biking. I am busy with the “end of year, you must be winding down now that seniors are on study leave, manic time” when we play catch up with all the planning we don’t have time to do during the rest of the year whilst still trying to maintain “valid and meaningful” programmes with junior students who are not taking your subject next year so couldn’t give a s**t!

Oops! I am being cynical! Having to write reports for my form class after a week away at camp at a rate of two an hour is a daunting thought, so I am procrastinating! Glass of red wine in hand, DS106 on the radio and a full belly are not a good recipe for report writing at 10.30pm so I have given up and will go back “refreshed” tomorrow morning.

So what of this year? Well, Lachlan has been away for most of it in Canada working at Camp Jubilee in British Colombia. He seems to have had a ball and has been offered a “proper job” there next year from March to October. He just has to earn enough money to buy his airfare and pay for his life saving qualification which is a pre-requisite of them giving him a contract. Fortunately, he has managed to get himself a job working in an outdoor clothing shop for the next couple of months. He also has the possibility of some work with the outdoor providers that I use for my camps – Bigfootadventures – early next year. For the last week he has “volunteered” on our school camp at Raglan and has made a pretty good account of himself so Bigfoot are keen to have him on board for next year.

at a rugby match. Boy with flags

Aonghas is nearly at the end of his first year at secondary school. He has done pretty well – prefers anything that doesn’t require writing – and considering that he has done very little study, he seems to have achieved in most of his subjects. Think we may need to pin him down a bit next year!

How do you get boys who prefer to be doing sport (or computer games) sit down and study? We didn’t get it right with Lachlan and we are struggling with Aonghas! Both bright but no drive to achieve highly. I guess they need to have some clear goal to aim for? I worked hard because it was what was expected of me and out of sheer pigheadedness; my Dad made some off the cuff comment at some point about their being no point in girls studying and going to university because it would be a waste of money since all we would do would be to get married and have children! My boys seem to have no real idea of what they want to do and with no goal there seems to be no impetus to achieve more than is necessary.

However, we have really good feed back about how well Lachlan worked in Canada, he has survived, and colleagues and friends compliment us on his demeanor and the way he interacts and communicates with other people. It is heartening to be reassured that he has the qualities that we hoped we had encouraged him to develop – honesty, integrity, compassion, a sense of what is right and what is wrong, common sense, flexibility…..

So, what have we done this year? Looking back at our photos we have managed to get out and about but not very far…

January – Top of the South – holiday in South Island, Wairarapa and then back to school

February – Back to school, My first MOOC, Karangahape Gorge

March – saying goodbye to Lachlan, Raglan, Blue Lake

April – Dickey Flat & Akwakatting

May – Spain

June – hockey, football

July – Fiji, hockey & football

August – mid-winter sports

September – tourist visiting out and about

October – not much! gardening,

November – gardening, Yr 10 Camp

Time to make some plans for Summer! Head north or south? Gus wants to go to Oz. Lachlan will be working. Me and Nige just want to chill – anywhere!!