Wednesday, 10 July 2013

I went to bed last night very angry in my spirit for
Nigeria, I had just seen the video on youtube of the debacle that went down in
the Rivers state house of assembly on Monday where the speaker of the house
requested for security at the house of assembly complex to be beefed up and the
police were reluctant to respond and when they eventually did, the police men
sent to the complex were just watching as mayhem was being perpetrated by men
that are supposed to be leaders, fathers and family men, the video even shows
one of the police men hitting someone that was obviously pro governor R A and
it had to take the governor coming around with his security detail for sanity
to be restored not after some combat style display by the security detail
attached to the governor who funny enough are also police men.

As if that was not enough, another video shows a clown who
obviously is a member of the Vikings confraternity and unfortunately happens to
be an “honorable” member of the house storm the same complex with thugs wanting
to forcefully enter the chambers with his boys on Tuesday. His claim to fame was that the
governor came and supervised the beating up of his colleagues (as if we all didn't
see a video clip of what went down the day before) and that the governor
insulted his mother (Dame Patience Jonathan) and the President.

This morning, a thought dropped in my heart and I began to
see the whole thing in an entirely different light. The clown mentioned above
and all the other stooges like him are simply fulfilling purpose howbeit running
on another man’s purpose/vision.

Makes me ask the question; the things you are doing both in
your life and career, are you fulfilling your purpose or are you running on
another man’s vision and helping them fulfill their own purpose?

Maybe I should even ask; can you in one short sentence spell
out your purpose in life? If you can, I am very happy for you, it means you
have a clear idea where you are headed to in life and there are a few things as
fulfilling as clarity of purpose. I’ll like you to do me a favor, I’ll like you
to put your purpose down in writing and put it in a place where you can see it
always and whenever you take an action or you are considering what actions to
take about something, ask yourself; how does this action impact on my purpose? You will find out that there are so many things you bother your head over that are not necessary.

If you aren't clear about your purpose, ask yourself; what
do I love doing? If I offered to pay you N300,000 every month tax free to do whatever
you liked, what will that thing be? Your answers to these questions should be a
pointer in the direction of purpose; you can also pray and ask God to show you
what you are here for since He is our maker and knows for what purpose you were
created.

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Tuesday, 2 July 2013

Amazingly,
we are in July already and it wasn’t too long ago we were saying happy new year
to each other and just like that six months are gone by wow!

If you are
like me, I’m sure you’ll have gone through your goals for the year and checked
the list to find out what has been done, which of the goals is in the works
already and what is yet to be touched or attended to. And assuming you didn't set goals for the year and all you did was make New year resolutions and you
seem not to have kept your promise to stick to your resolve (I’m sincerely
hoping there are a few people that fall within this category, not that I wish
you bad, but a little solidarity doesn't hurt hehehe) not to worry, you are not
alone.

I did a
double check yesterday, tried to evaluate the first half of the year in terms of
some set targets that I had for myself. I broke it down into Spiritual,
Financial, Social, Educational and Emotional, I don’t want to bore you with the
details of that evaluation but though I had done exceptionally well in some
areas, I had failed woefully in certain key areas.

So I sat down to carry out a diagnostic
analysis of what went wrong and check why I was unable to even attempt to
pursue some of the major goals for the year. As I broke it down, some negative
emotions began to well up within me (that voice saying in a condemning tone;
you could have done this or said this or made that phone call, or paid that
visit, or submitted that proposal, it may vary what the voice may tell you but
you have an idea what I’m talking about), unconsciously I was listening to that
voice and gradually began to feel regret, remorse, anger, pain… and I was just
about to lash out within me when that still small voice said “Before you
lament, Remember”.

I stopped in
my tracks and immediately entered auto-recall.

I thought
about it, I didn't do as well as I had planned, but I didn't do badly either actually
I over delivered in some areas. Some people started with me at the beginning of
the year but today they are no more. I have not had any cause to be admitted in
the hospital neither have I lacked food, clothing or shelter. Most of the
things I own some people will kill, rob and commit fraud for. I have obtained
favor in so many areas I cannot even remember them all. This year alone I have
met with and robbed minds with some very influential people in both the
business world and ministry, I have formed new alliances that pose tremendous
potentials and assuming none of that was worth anything, I am alive and well
today. Wow!!!

So I throw
it back to you, I know you wanted to be married by now, I know you should have
bought that car or built that house or gotten that job or gone for that course
or started that business. There are so many things that you would have loved to
do or have, you may even have planned for them but they are yet to materialize but just before you begin to lament and complain, I want you to take a little time and remember
what you have.

You are
alive, you are well, you can eat and sleep, you drive a car (maybe not but you
can afford to take a cab or bus or bike), you live in a house and not the
streets, your children are not wayward, they do well in school and even if you don’t
have a child yet, you have a spouse that loves you (churches abound with people
seeking life partners). You have a job (though it’s not your dream job but you
have one), I could go on but I’ll like you to take some time to reflect on
those things that you have and you are yet to show gratitude to God for. Before You Lament,
Remember.

Yesterday I paid
a visit to someone whose wife passed recently and it was an experience that
will stay with me for a very long while. We need to be grateful for the things
we have now while working on the things we seek to have, today is a definite
tomorrow a mystery but the maker of the universe knows it all.