If she's consistently going after him knowing that he has a girlfriend, you can call her anything you want. It would be a different story if she hadn't known he was taken and attempted to talk to him sexually.

Ouch. I know you both mean well, but this advice is a little short sighted. Considering that she has often been on the receiving end of the type of bigotry that Paul exhibits, I can see why her husband's overt support and protection of her is necessary. I don't think there is a right or wrong here, but emotionally and psychologically having the overt support of your white loved one while all of this hate against brown people is rising means SO much. For me, today, this would be a dealbreaker. We have to eat it every day and it really weighs on us. Husband really needs to sit down and really consider how his acceptance of Paul makes her feel. Just my 120 cents ☺