Staying True to You When You Have a Boo: Maintaining Your Sense of Self in a Relationship

When you get into a relationship, it can be quite easy to get all wrapped up in your new romance and your new partner. New relationships are exciting and fun and full of possibilities.

But, as fun and exciting as a new relationship is, you also always want to be sure that you stay true to yourself and maintain a sense of self even in a relationship.

Get to know some of the ways that you can do just that.

Make Time For Your Friends Every Week

It is easy to want to spend all of your time with your significant other, especially when you first begin a relationship. But, to make sure that you do not lose out on the other important relationships in your life that allow you to be YOU, be sure you make time to spend with your friends every week.

At least once a week, have a girls night where you go out or hang out with your friends without your significant other. Be sure to always honor and keep those plans.

Have Individual Goals

It is common that you and your significant other will begin to develop goals together. You will have relationship goals and joint goals that you have together.

However, you need to remember to set individual goals for yourself. Maybe you want to learn a language, get a promotion, or go back to school. Set goals for yourself and pursue them.

Take Some “Me Time”

On top of spending time with your girlfriends, you will also want to carve out a little time to spend by yourself every now and then. During your “me time” do something that you love. In other words, do not use your alone time to do the dishes or the laundry.

Instead, read a great book, watch your guilty pleasure TV shows, or watch a sappy movie that makes you weepy.

Taking time out for the activities that you love will help you stay as true to yourself as possible.

What are some of the ways that you maintain your own sense of self while also still honoring the commitment of your relationship?

One final note

Remember… your partner chose you – the you that you showed him before you got into a relationship. By maintaining your sense of self, you keep the identity of the person your partner fell in love with.

When you lose yourself you risk losing your relationship. Stay true to your strong sense of self and enjoy a long, happy and healthy relationship.