Went to see my midwife today, finally saw the one I had when had the book in appt!! Don't you think it is ideal to see the same midwife each appt so a rapport can develope?!! Anyway half wish I had seen the other one now. She really cheesed me off, she had a student midwife in there with her. Now I don't mind actually, but she did not even ask me if I minded the student midwife being there. Also she let the student midwife do all the checks on me. So I have waited since july to finally see my midwife, then she lets the student midwife in there with her too?!! Also she said I was def on target to having another 8 lb baby ( my son was 8 lb 4). Then said mind you if it is a girl it will be smaller?!! How does that make sense then?!! I am 30 weeks on friday, and the fundus height is 29 and a half cm...so on track then aren't I? Not big and not small?!! I also said that I am feeling this baby moving so much more than with my son. She said that is because my muscles are all stretched from previous pregnancy so i feel it all more....
Just came out of the appt feeling quite depressed actually.....they really do all talk out of their bums sometimes don't they?!!
How is everyone else finding their midwife?.....helpful or unhelpful and aloof?!
Good luck to you all
nikki
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Midwife? What Midwife? I 1st saw mine way back in september for my booking in appointment. She made me a new appointment which should have been on 25th Oct. that one had to be changed because I had my scan in between and they told me to ring my Midwife and give her my new dates. This I did and she gave me an appointment for 2 days later that I originally had. On the morning I was due to see her, the surgery rang me and cancelled it because she was on a call but would be intouch to arrange a home visit. Didn't hear anything else till I rang her on Monday to find out when she was comming. She told me someone would be round to see me that day. She also made me another appointment to go see her at the end of December. Well she never turned up and she wasn't in surgery when I rang. No one had a number for her so I feel like I'm in limbo. Would be nice to get the results of my blood tests but I'm not sitting round wasting another day waiting for someone who isn't going to turn up.
Sorry, rant over!
Luv Mandy xxx

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Thu Nov 03, 2005 1:32 am

angelicvisitor

ED newbie

Joined: Thu Jun 30, 2005 3:39 pmPosts: 8Location: Fife

I haven't seen my midwife since about 20 weeks, and I'm 38weeks 5days.
I've been seeing my OB and a midwife at the hospital regularly due to my having Crohns disease. So I asked that they did my check ups instead.

I didn't like my midwife. She was not helpful, told me that if I wanted to breastfeed I'd have to find out about it myself, (so much for all the support they are supposed to give to breastfeeding mothers!!!) she never had any time for me, and dismissed anything I told her. The one time I needed her help, due to having started bleeding, she told me to phone my gp and make myself an appointment!

Also at that last appointment, she was telling me about the bloods I'd need for my 28 week gd test etc, picked out a lot of bottles and handed them to me, whilst telling me I had to make sure and fill out the sticky labels on them properly or the labs wouldn't accept them! I was later told by the hospital that should not have been done!

She was my younger sisters midwife, and was very prejudiced and nasty towards her! My sister is only 17, and was very upset and scared at the prospect of having a baby! The midwife turned up at the house with a student, whom my sister knew and didn't feel comfortable with at all, and proceeded to belittle and put her down about the fact that she was too young to be pregnant, and told her not to have any more.
Quite frankly I just find that wrong!

I've found the midwives in the hospitals clinic to be very helpful, and actually have time for me.

Sorry, went off on a little rant there.

Thu Nov 03, 2005 11:22 am

cassieb25

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Fri Jun 17, 2005 12:55 pmPosts: 1593

Hi

I have a team of about 6 midwives but so far i have only seen 3 of them! the one i have seen most often is very nice but i do sometimes wonder if they are making things up!! last night my foot felt all tight and when i lifted it up it was HUGE - never seen anything like it!!! it was so big it looked like it might burst - imagine a grapefruit being wedged under the skin on the top of your foot - thats what it looked like! i was really worried cos i have had swelling before so i thought i would just ring to check (dont u feel like an idiot when u ring them!!!) - can u believe she said - oh, you must have twisted it or something - hmmm, i think i would have noticed!!! in the end i just gave up and went to bed with my foot in the air!!! kept my fingers crossed that it didn't blow up in the night and this morning when i woke up my foot was still there and looking very slim compared to how it looked last night. so, yes, i do think the midwives talk out of their bums sometimes!!!!

hmmm, what a rant that was!!! hehe!!!

take care

cassie

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Thu Nov 03, 2005 11:25 am

Jazzmine1986

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Wed Sep 07, 2005 1:24 pmPosts: 1842Location: London

Hey,

I had loads of probs in the beginning, went through 4 cancelled booking appointments then finally saw a community midwife who i am seeing every month she's great (so far) always on call when i need her he first mw i saw was a pain in the arse she's the one who cancelled all my appointments

i saw my midwife today and she had a student in with her too.
she only let the student feel my belly after she had then let her find the heart beat which she did first time but they always have done with my baby. she has not weighed me since my 1st appointment and took blood for the 1st time since 1st appointment. plus its first time she has actually felt my baby, but i've not actually been measured. its my 1st baby so don't know when they do certain things but some people say they have had certain things done and i think i aint had that. my midwife always rushes me.

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Thu Nov 03, 2005 4:38 pm

nikki13

ED frequent user

Joined: Sat Aug 06, 2005 9:06 pmPosts: 246

midwives!!

Glad I'm not the only one going through probs with the midwife then....can't believe how inconsiderate they are. Is really important to us that our baby and our health is ok, yet they just fob you off when you have a query or question....not fair....

This student midwife did all the feeling of my bump, she also measured the fundus, and found the heart beat...my proper midwife did nothing but sit on her fat bum......bit out of order...seeing as I had not seen her since my book in appt at 12 weeks....unbelievable really isn't it....

I have a fibroid that they picked up at my dating scan, so I have to go for another scan at 36 weeks, to check if this has grown or not. If it has then I may have to have a caesarian as I won't be able to give birth normally if this fibroid is in the way....?!! So finger's crossed it won't have grown, and I can do the pushing myself!!

Good luck to you all, let's hope some midwives read this site, and realise just how wrong they get it......

mw?? wots 1 of them? pmsl!!
mine is a complete waste of space so dont see her any more go to hosp, but i got "HER" coming tomorrow, if she has a go at me agen thats it, ill let rip at her, she talks out her anus all the time, grrrrrrr!!

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Thu Nov 03, 2005 5:33 pm

Tere5a

ED frequent user

Joined: Mon Jun 20, 2005 1:13 pmPosts: 387Location: Essex

Well reading all your posts it seems like I am very lucky. I was assigned a midwife and that the only one I have seen and will see all through my pregnancy and she always has time for you, well you can usually guarentee that if your appointment is 2pm you will not see her till about 2.30pm because she does not rush anyone's appointments, so don't mind that. Also I have got my consultancy team and doctor at the hospital who are great, so really I have got no complaints at all

Teresa

Thu Nov 03, 2005 5:36 pm

sarah+egg

ED frequent user

Joined: Thu Nov 03, 2005 5:30 pmPosts: 338

i have had 3 midwife appts and had 3 diff mws each time.. when i finally saw the one on my notes...she took about 10 phonecalls and even called me by someone elses name!! talk about feeling relaxed in the hands of a professional!!

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Thu Nov 03, 2005 5:58 pm

Betty_boo777

ED newbie

Joined: Wed May 18, 2005 3:49 pmPosts: 6

not as bright my MW

I am actually finding my MW quiet uneducated to be honest , she missed out a lot of serious blood tests and only did them when i asked her!, then she doesnt know when a baby is defined as breech and when further scans are needed, she looks at me with a thick look on herfaceeverytime i ask her a question, they talk rubbish most of teh time she is nice and all but very thick! I know more about whats going on than she does , she cant even feel which way teh baby is positioned and says your muscles are quiet strong i cant feel anything. why not send me for a scan then madam, i am going to ask for one newxt time i see her ? as its all guess work and ive only got a few weeks left.