Lost in the 'Busyness' of Life.
Saturday February 15, 2014

"The vacation we often need is freedom from our own mind. Appropriately curtailing our obsessive thought patterns is our plane ticket to the pristine beach, the vibrant jungle, of our deeper hearts." Jack Adam Weber.

Most organisations are in my mind, dealing with constant 'busyness' and not dealing with the real business of creating human engagement thus energising passion.

This can be the same in people and families.

How many of us are caught up in processes, procedures, programmes or policies instead of dealing with the only things that can change our lives - people?

It is well documented how meditation can help and now mindfulness is appearing regularly - so why don't more people, people who constantly talk about how busy they are, actually change their behaviour?

Is the issue, simply the addiction of being a 'Human-doing' - almost entirely created from 'schooling' (IQ) (not education - EQ) and busy parents; rather than emerging as a Human-Being, comfortable with yourself in body, mind, heart and spirit.

'Busyness' is an addiction to IQ and keeping the mind occupied - almost like a surface escape - never having to look inside at oneself and thus the inscape.

So, can you simply sit with yourself and be at peace? Or do you have to be doing something to feel OK about yourself?

Try sitting silently right now for say at least 5 minutes and watch your mind and see where it goes? Can you do that? If you are already reading on 'busyness' is attractive to you.

How can you switch off? Take time for yourself? What do you spend your time on?
Does it make you happier? And in doing so, importantly, what are you teaching your children?

Those with children, are you rarely at home due to working to pay for what your kids want and what makes you feel secure; thus showing your kids that money, even although you may be unhappy at work, or absent from them, is what is required in life?

Time is the most important thing you have - how are you spending it? Feeding the 'busyness' and perpetuating the predominately IQ world around you? Or feeding your heart and spirit and offering the most important example to your family and friends - that of balance and happiness, morals before money, people before process, compassion before control, wisdom before work and heart before head.

Les
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Comments

Tere Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 9:49am

I wish I had read this earlier, when my children were young. I was one who worked 80-90 hours a week, but to support my family. Married to alcoholics made it so that I really had no choice. Happily, I DID find time for my children most of the time, and they are in my life still for me to make it up to them, and I am most definitely there for THEIR children.

I DID try to turn my mind off for 5 minutes. Couldn't do it! Why? I have exams all next week. Yes, after working for more than 34 years, I became disabled and am now in school. I AM trying to teach my children, even now: 1) go to school now, it makes life easier later and 2) even if you don't go to school, it is never too late.

That being said, I will start to teach them what you are referring to in this blog. My son, bless him, is a schizophrenic, and is in a partial hospital program, so he is learning these things everyday. That and to take his medications daily. Sadly, he is across the state from me, so I can't be there for him, but we talk, and HIS lessons help me.

Busyness. A concept that I shall try to overcome as soon as I can!

Anonymous Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 12:03pm

Like you, Tere, I wish I had understood Les' wonderful wisdom when my kids were kids; I also tried to be there for them, and was there, but often too pre-occupied with the daily grind of chores. I suspect that this was partly inevitable - life is hectic; but I wonder too whether learning to be a "human being" instead of a "human doing" comes with age and maturity? Taking up yoga in my mid-forties helped me hugely with "being in the present moment" and I wish I had started it when the children were small ...Excellent piece Les - thank-you. Frankie

Lou Sharp Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 1:28pm

Yes. I too wish I had learned this when my children were growing up and I was busy working, married to an alcoholic. Now doing Whole Life Challenge with my grown kids, yoga and mindfulness....as my Dad said in his 60s, "it's never too late".

jo Sat, Feb 15th 2014 @ 1:59pm

oh how this resonates

Anonymous Sun, Feb 16th 2014 @ 11:19pm

My children are good people and we are close. But OH MY GOODNESS what i wouldn't give to have them back again, little, even for just a day. Whilst your blog made me (and others) a little regretful, Les, the message is important because it's never too late to start just 'being'.

Adam Mon, Feb 17th 2014 @ 7:48am

You are so right about the power of mindfulness meditation. It has been demonstrated scientifically that it actually changes brain chemistry and the latest research shows effects at the genetic level - reducing the inflammatory response, helping to maintain telomere length (anti-aging), boosting immune response and improving insulin metabolism (which helps prevent type 2 diabetes).

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