MEN ARE LIGHT BULBS…WOMEN ARE ELECTRIC IRONS…

As we all know, marriage is not a destination but a life-long journey. I’ve read this book and I want to share with you some excerpts from it! Read on and try to keep these points in mind to understand your partner more! 🙂

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CHAPTER THIRTY-TWO

CHOOSING TO UNDERSTAND SEXUAL DIFFERENCES

Sexually, men and women are different. And anatomy is only a small part of that difference. We are diverse in our approaches, our responses, and what it means to us. Unless we understand and adjust to these variances, we are in trouble.

Here are some distinctives:
* To a man, sex is a delightful intermission in the drama; to a woman, it is inexorably woven into the fabric of the whole.
* The male sex drive is generated by physical needs, accompanied by emotional needs; a woman’s drive stems from emotional needs, along with physical needs.
* A man thinks, How often? A woman ponders, How?
* A man’s thought is reduced to the moment; a woman’s to what is produced by the moment. (During intercourse, a man rarely thinks of the act resulting in a baby, while this may be much on a woman’s mind.)
* A man is quick to react to stimulation; a woman, comparatively slow to react, needs to be stimulated.
* A man is primarily stimulated by one of his senses–sight; a woman is stimulated by all five plus one–touch, hearing, sight, taste, and smell. (This difference is important. A number of wives have confided to Carole and me that they were unable to respond physically to their husbands because they smelled. Perspiration, stale smoke, and bad breath can all inhibit a woman’s enjoyment of sex. It is also true that men can be turned off by unpleasant smells, but women seem to be more careful about such things.) The extra “plus one” is tenderness.

To summarize with an illustration: A man is like an electric light bulb–you flip the switch and on he goes. A woman is more like an electric iron–you flip a switch and it takes a little more time to warm up. When you turn it off, it takes a bit of time to cool off too. Now if you don’t remember any of the other differences, please remember that one. It is very important in learning to be a lover. And men need to learn to be lovers if they are to satisfy the needs of their wives.

SOURCE:
From the Christian guidebook: MARRIAGE TAKES MORE THAN LOVE by Jack and Carole Mayhall (1996)