Not sure what to do.......................?

Last year I was sexually assaulted and a guy I know touched me in places I have never been touched. I just told a friend about it and since I told her I can't stop drinking. I can't deal with it. I have no friends other than her. I just want to be hugged. I don't know what to do?

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Best Answer: It is great that you were able to tell someone about it. To feel ashamed is normal, I just hope you don't blame yourself for what happened. You are in a whirlwind at the moment. Be good to yourself. Change your thinking. Don't close the door to loving yourself. I understand you are going through something you are struggling to deal with. I am pleased you have someone that you can turn to. Before the drink becomes too much of a problem, maybe she can help you. Tell her how you feel and you might be able to replace the drink with her support.
Be easy on yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Wanting a hug shows your true nature. I hope you realise you haven't lost who you are. There is a way to get through this. I hope you receive what you need in life and don't hide behind drink or anything else. Keep talking and don't hide yourself.
I hope you find support and keep with people you trust.
The Samaritans might be a good place to start if you want to find a support group.
Also, at some point you might want to make a formal report of what happened. It's never too late. Something to think about.

You are overreacting, in my opinion. Being touched in private places is rude, mean, frightening, humiliating, and may be sexually stimulating to you. You handled the situation well by getting the person to stop and you got away safely. Please do not allow this incident to cause you so much pain. Why are you using this incident as an excuse to drink? That is all it is, an excuse to do what you want to do anyway. What you need to do is accept the fact that some boys or men will attempt to take advantage of a girl or woman. Men just want to have sex more than they want to breathe, sometimes. Most boys and men would never touch you anywhere you did not want them to touch you. Talk to a counselor to find out why you have reacted the way you have. This is not normal or healthy. Look at it this way. If you fell down and scratched your knee on a sidewalk, would you have an unreasonable fear and loathing of sidewalks, need to avoid them in the future, feel like a failure for having tripped, and drink alcohol to attempt to blot out the memory? Of course not. Is there more to the story you have not told us?

You need to talk to someone, dear. Even if it's someone professional, that's fine. Just talk to someone. You're drinking to forget, which only lasts a short time. Deal with it and you won't have to drink.