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Friday, February 20, 2015

Poligami

Wah...tajuk panas di hari Jumaat ni.

A few days back, this was the topic discussed in my ex-schoolmate wassap. Group org pompuan je. So u can imagine how emo we were when discussing this topic.

A friend of mine, baru je dimadukan. I believe she is a good wife, have few kids, ada pekerjaan yg baik. I can't think any reason why her hubby nak kawin lagi satu. Well... mungkin as what my other friend said, man need no reason to do that... Dah jodoh suami dia agaknya. And being a good girl she is, dia memang dah redha. But the problem is; her hubby has asked her to attend the 'kenduri' meraikan his 2nd marriange.

Most of us in the group memang tak setuju.... coz kawan i tu, walaupun dah redha and izinkan suami dia kahwin satu lagi, dia kata hati dia belum kuat lagi sampai nak pi kenduri tu. But the hubby really mengharapkan that she will attend it. For what reason, i pon x tau. And my fren is torn about this.

I told my fren, bincang elok2. Sebab perkara ni masih baru. And she needs time to adapt with the whole situation. And really... I can't help from thinking negatively about this. I think tindakan her hubby agak selfish. Why would he want my fren to be happy with what he did? And how can she be happy for her hubby when she still have some pain about this matter? He should give my fren some time and space to get used to it. Masih baru lagi kot...

May be to some other, they can think rationally. It just a marriage, and she did not loose her husband. The possibility of having a happy poligami is there, and she needs to work on it. But i think most of us, would have the same opinion... even though kita dah redha, we still need time and space to get used to it.

I tak tentang poligami. But i think man should also think how his first wife would feel, and approach this matter wisely and fairly.