7. You're Afraid Of Dating

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I think that you've come to rationalize avoiding something that's difficult for you.

You have to learn to date. I know it's awkward and scary, but what you're doing [if you try to be friends first] is trying to find some shortcut or loophole or easy way out that will allow you to avoid doing something that I think you know you need to do. This same psychology is why overweight people keep buying miracle pills instead of getting on the treadmill.

By eschewing dating, you're not asking friends for potentially good matches or going online and searching for particular qualities. Which means the women who end up in your life end up there by din of circumstance. In reality, what you're doing is wasting your time. - Kate Vershov