Sex Play and Sexy Costumes: Dress Me Up in Your Love

There are many ways to add some spice to your love life (case in point: sex can show you another side of a person), and dressing up is one of them. I remember being a little kid and having my own trunk of dress up clothes, many of which were hand-me-downs from my mother and babysitter. I had old prom dresses, and plenty of 80s-riffic fashions (big shoulder pads, neon prints).

You can bring a similar sense of fun into your love life as an adult. Taking fashion into your bedroom allows you to play different roles and explore other possibilities. There are plenty of stores (online and concrete) that cater to fun and sexy outfits. Companies that design outfits such as these have really started taking their cues from fashion as well as pop culture. Some recent costumes I’ve noticed were Princess Peach from Super Mario Brothers, super short versions of any of the Disney Princess outfits, many Alice in Wonderland themed outfits, and even a Lady Gaga get up! Even more mainstream stores are getting in on the costume action (I’m looking at you, Victoria’s Secret and Spencers!) so buying an outfit that makes you feel super sexy in the bedroom is less taboo. Several stores stock more masculine outfits as well.

Many costumes for women tend to be of the short and tight variety, but sexy fashions for playing around can be in any shape and size – shorter isn’t better for everyone. I have a friend who will occasionally put on her wedding dress and she claims that it turns both her and her partner on (and the wedding wasn’t recent).

It can also be fun to take an everyday clothing or accessory item from the mundane to racy – think of an apron that you wear to cook, an old button down of your significant other’s, or nothing but a favorite pair of shoes. There are no rules when it comes to fashion and sex – what turns one person on may not do it for someone else. Sometimes it just feels great to wear something, whether it’s a costume or regular item in your wardrobe, that makes you feel like a sex god or goddess. It can even be about what’s underneath of your clothes; knowing that you have on some sexy skivvies and the rest of the world doesn’t (are you listening, young Hollywood starlets?) can be your own little secret.

When you feel hot, it shows; it gives you a confidence that radiates and makes you glow. The next time that you go clothes shopping, maybe keep an eye out for a special item of clothing. Think about how it feels on your body, and how the fabric feels when you touch it – desire isn’t just about what you can see after all. Garnet pointed out that plus size fashions have started taking over New York City’s Fashion week (albeit not as much as many of us would like), so regardless of what size you are, take what you want from fashion and make it work for you – and then, honey, work it.

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Holly Moyseenko is a sex educator living in Ohio. She is an advocate of positive and healthy sexuality. Holly currently works for a non-profit health organization as a health educator, and also teaches workshops that focus on many topics within the realm of healthy sexuality. In her spare time, she also is an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, gardens, reads anything within reach, drinks copious amounts of tea, and naps with her two dogs.

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