confused about his intentions

I have been dating him for a few months. He was a bit weird/shy in the beginning. We met thru common friends but became very close friends quickly. One day he insisted that we should finish the bottle of wine he had brought. And we did- then I got dizzy, he started taking off my clothes and I was up for it, though we had never discussed getting physical, but sometimes it is a good thing for such things to happen out of the blue. He actually got to the third base and suddenly said, he didn’t want to take advantage of me and left.. I was shocked to hear that. Why did he think he was taking advantage of me? Then he told me he was not attracted to me after that. And then he told me he loved someone else- who was not ready to take divorce from her husband. And he can’t move on… i am confused about his intentions with me- was he really trying to take advantage?

You had a lucky escape from an unworthy guy! He is clearly confused and unstable in his thinking....Though personally, I like it more when a woman agrees to get physical when wholly sober, rather than after being "softened up" by alcohol.

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