Today's midwife appointment (slight rant)

I am so glad that I trusted my instincts and stuck with the midwife I had at my booking in appointment, even though it meant travelling slightly out of my way to see her (generally every 3 weeks under my Trust).

As I'm 37+6 I'm having fortnightly appointments now. My heart sank at my last appointment when she said I would have to see a different MW (midwife) because she was fully booked.

Fast forward to today; I'll start with the positive. She was professional and thorough. But my what a bedside manner! It's amazing what a clash of personalities can bring out in someone. I absolutely hate being spoken to like a child and told what to do, but that was her style.

She was feeling for baby's position and really caught a nerve (or something), so much that I jerked. Then when checking baby was head down she was really firm.

. My pain threshold isn't the highest to be fair but now I have a stitch-like pain where she 'caught' me and a weird pain in my lower back on that side.
I struggled to get up off the 'bed' (don't we all at the moment?) and she asked me if I was doing my exercises. I didn't know what she meant but apparently I should be squatting and using my ball because of how I reacted to her examination - apparently that means I shouldn't be like this at this stage and due to my pain threshold 'they don't know if I can handle it' I assume she meant labour! What a thing to say to an FTM? (Which she had already asked me).

Then she proceeded to pull a face when I told her that I wasn't finishing work until Friday and started testing me on what I would do if my waters broke at work?! It's a good job I'm not a nervous person as what she said could have terrified me but instead it has just pissed me right off.

I do really value all NHS staff and I know she didn't mean anything by it but her communication style has just worked my last nerve...and I have an afternoon to do in the office yet! 😂

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