That doesn’t mean I can’t conduct phone calls or deal with unexpected encounters—I hold up just fine in a professional setting. But at home? Unless you’re a delivery person or an urgent phone call, don’t expect my greeting.

Introverts don’t like talking on the phone or answering the door. Ha. All this time I thought it was just me.

So, to my fellow introverts, here are a few other normal traits you might possess:

You think text messaging is the best invention of the twentieth century.

You become so engrossed in your work, you soon resemble a corpse.

You loathe small talk but enjoy imprisoning a friend or family member in deeper discussion.

When put on the spot, you wish you had five minutes to type out a response rather than speak it.

You’d rather labor by yourself than with a group, even if the project takes twice as long.

While deep in thought, you find hand grenades less annoying than repeated interruptions.

Image credit: Microsoft Clip Art. Plus Sheldon…

You prefer working on one job at a time; multi-tasking is a pain.

You need twenty-four hours of solitude after two hours of socialization.

You feel a deeper response to a sad story than anyone else in the room, but you’ll never let on that you do.

You’d rather suffer a day-long wedgie than listen to someone else’s T.M.I.

You appear aloof to others when really, you’re just lost in your own cerebral world.

When Facebook creates a video montage for all their users’ private profiles, they can’t create one for you. Because you only have six pictures in total. Which they’re kind enough to send you anyway.

That last one might just be me. Thanks, Facebook. As if I didn’t feel awkward enough.

So if you experience some of the above, don’t despair. You’re not weird.

297 Responses to “You’re Not Weird—You’re Just An Introvert”

I’m actually part of the group “Avoiding doorbells Anonymous”, so I can relate. But I’ll joking aside, yeah being introverted isn’t so bad. If being quiet is the worst thing someone can say about you, then I think that’s more than okay.

Another amazing invention? Online shopping! Only an introvert would think, “Well, I COULD go to the store tomorrow to get one….OR, I could just get it on Amazon with 2 day shipping…what’s another day, really…” 😉

this is no surprise to me, I’m in introvert through and through, but I still laughed at so many of these because they struck so close to home, haha! The 24 recovery period from 2 hours of social time made me LOL. And my husband is always busting my chops for ignoring the phone.

AND texting IS the best invention EVAH. I want to do Christmas over text.

Yes to all of the above. My fave is “While deep in thought, you find hand grenades less annoying than repeated interruptions.” Amen to that. Multitasking is a myth. I feel sorry for those who can’t think quietly.

I’m kind of a sneaky introvert, since I have my outgoing moments. Any time I used to claim shyness, people would give me a strange look and ask: Haven’t you danced on stage in front of, like, a thousand people? Why, yes. But, that’s also different, I was playing a part.

So, I’m often mistaken as either a snob or a weirdo most of the time for possessing the traits you listed above. Oh, well. : )

Introverts can easily be misinterpreted. They can come off as aloof and arrogant as you mention, when, often, the exact opposite is true!

From what I understand, many performers are introverts. Some are even very shy. But that doesn’t keep them from doing their job, just as being an introvert doesn’t keep the rest of us from doing our professional work in an extroverted world. Being on stage and playing a role is very different than interacting as yourself face-to-face with others (or so I imagine). I’m sure many people who know me are surprised to learn of my introverted ways. I can easily burst into an exam room and chat up the kids and the family. That’s the job, and I enjoy interaction with people who all have a child’s interest in mind. Of course, I was usually drained when I got home, but that didn’t take away from the enjoyment of the encounters.

Are you sure this post wasn’t about me? It sure seems that way. People never believe me when I say I’m very introverted because I’m friendly. It’s hard to explain to them why I don’t pick up my phone and even get angry sometimes when people just stop by unannounced. Take your social spontaneity elsewhere please! But text me later, maybe we can get together next week!

So true. People assume introverts can’t be social or don’t like people. Neither is true. We just prefer our social interaction in smaller groups or one-on-one, and we prefer it on our own terms so that we’re prepared for it. Phone calls and doorbells take away our prep time!

HAHAH.. I laughed so hard.. This is soo me! And explains why when a cute guy approaches me, I am like a rabbit stunned, and pounce away. HAHAAH.. Glad to know i’m normal! And um.. hard to catch.. hahahaa.. 😀

Hahah… I think the guy I like is introverted too… so um… this might be going nowhere fast…. maybe passing notes would be easier than having a conversation…

but you’re totally right! He’s gonna have to ask ME out.. I almost did yesterday, thank God I didn’t. Timing wouldn’t have been right. I’m still trying to figure out me, much less figuring out someone else… Besides.. the idea of having a conversation with him is enough to give me a HEART ATTACK… haha.. introverts on a date… lots of um, silence? Mulling over the perfect words? Sooo awkward…… 😀

Really? I’m not weird? 😉
Great post, Carrie! I had no idea my doorbell and phone phobias had anything to do with being an introvert. But it makes perfect sense. Halloween is a nightmare for me. I turn out the lights and hide in the back room. 😉 And thank God for caller ID and voicemail.
But I’m still a bit confused about exactly what I am (maybe socially awkward?) Anyhow a post has been brewing in my head about this very topic. Maybe in a week or two I’ll make time to sit down and write it out.

I am totally introverted and am startle so easily, it’s become a joke in my family. That’s part of my tunnel vision, deep thought mode. It’s funny though, when I need to socialize/present etc., I put on extroversion like another skin. I’m myself then too–just my crazy, here’s-this-part-of-me-that-needs-more-sun-no-thank-you-writing-addiction self. 🙂

Sounds like another great book to add to my TBR pile. My mom never gets why I don’t like answering the phone but I love email. 🙂 I used to have my answering machine announce the caller name and number out loud too. Mom and I just had a huge discussion about why she absolutely cannot interrupt me when I’m working on revisions–it really messes up my concentration and takes 10-15 mins to get back in the groove. 🙂

Interruptions definitely take me out of the groove, too. My husband can go in and out of his work like it was nothing. But I’m like you–it takes me time to get back to where I was. Then I get frustrated and just want some chocolate. 🙂

LOL. I ordered the book to my Kindle. After I read this post, I was talking about it with my best friend and he also recommended the book! I was telling him how after promo events I’m wired for a good 6-8 hours.

We just read Quiet, too. I’m in the middle of the spectrum, but am married to a classic introvert. I like the one above about imprisoning a family member for deeper discussions.
How many introverts does it take to screw in a lightbulb? None. Lights encourage people to come and visit.
OK, I’ll stop interrupting now. Cheers!

Really enjoyed this post. I’ll always be the shy, quiet person in a room full of people. I have to feel extremely comfortable with who I am with to break out of that mode, but I do admire the person who can step in and be funny and confident. I’ve gotten better over the years…but if I have to speak in front of strangers…I’m shaky and red-faced!

I love it when I can find one of my own species. LOL. Mathair tends to be a bit of an extrovert. She loves socializing and upon entering a room, her personality takes up all the space, but I love that about her. She’s a true force to be reckoned with. That being said, I am the complete opposite. Upon entering a room, my personality retreats to a corner and holds up a sign that says, “Do not approach the introvert”. Mathair borrows the introvert skin when we’re waist deep in our writing process, but I’m a 24hr/7 day a week gal. I never thought it was odd, even when others went out of their way to tell me otherwise. It suits me and I’m comfortable in my… discomfort with the world. I think I might be over to the far side of the spectrum, in that I also get nervous when talking on phones or live chatting with people online. I became a writer because I love the craft and the art of creating stories with words, but also because the stigma that follows a writer suits me. Glad to hear I’m not the only one, Carrie. Power to the introverts!

Oh, yes, I forgot about live chatting. I, too, avoid Skype. I’ve only used it briefly once with a sick family member. It’s cool that Mathair is so outgoing. I have great admiration for people like that. They’re the ones that hold a party or gathering together. Thank God for them! If it was all introverts, there’d be little excitement. 🙂