“It says, ‘I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life,'” Morales told ABC News station WABC-TV Thursday.

Morales, who has been waiting tables on and off for 10 years, said she never told the family she was gay when she introduced herself.

“Normal introduction, ‘My name is Dayna. I’ll be taking care of you.’ Right away the mom looked at me and said, ‘I thought you were going to say your name was Dan,'” Morales said.

After she served the family their meal without further incident, she discovered the note on the bill. Morales sent a picture of the receipt to the “Have a Gay Day” Facebook page, where it has since elicited more than 2,000 comments.

“I was rather offended, mad,” Morales said of the incident. “I didn’t know how to react to that. I never thought that would ever happen.

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The year 1895 was filled with memorable historical events: the Dreyfus Affair divided France; Booker T. Washington gave his Atlanta address; Richard Olney, United States Secretary of State, expanded the effects of the Monroe Doctrine in settling a boundary dispute between the United Kingdom and Venezuela; and Oscar Wilde was tried and convicted for "gross indecency" under Britian's recently passed law that made sex between males a criminal offense. When the news of Wilde's conviction went out over telegraphs worldwide, it threw a small Nevada town into chaos. This is the story of what happened when the lives of its citizens were impacted by the news of Oscar Wildes' imprisonment. It is chronicle of hatred and prejudice with all its unintended and devastating consequences, and how love and friendship bring strength and healing.
Paulette Mahurin, the author, is a Nurse Practitioner who lives in Ojai, California with her husband Terry and their two dogs--- Max and Bella. She practices women's health in a rural clinic and writes in her spare time. All profits from her book are going to animal rescue, Santa Paula Animal Shelter, the first and only no-kill shelter in Ventura County, CA, where she lives. (see links below on Ventura County Star Article & Shelter)
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I so appreciate your stopping by and commenting. From my perspective tolerance cuts both ways and I’d rather say that the action was unkind, hateful, and leave the label off the person. This beautiful waitress said she’d serve the customer again, this by example is tolerance. It’s one of the reasons I posted it because while highlighting the act of hatred it shows returned kindness. A remarkable woman she is.

Paulette, I tease that I maybe crazy but I am not stupid, Also Ron White, says “You can’t fix stupid”. Clearly Ms Morales encountered stupid people, hurtful, ugly, stupid people. The ones that need it the most get it the least. I feel for Ms Morales, and what she had to put up with. Please take care, Bill

You can’t fix stupid, wish that were different, but it seems sadly true. Luckily Ms Morales has a good, decent, and kind head on her shoulders and seems no worse for the insult, hopefully that’s so. She certainly demonstrated grace in her response. Thanks, Bill.

And the moon is made out of cheese, so I drink coffee instead. This you will agree makes about as much sense as not leaving a tip because of someone else’s sexual leanings. “TIP” means “to improve performance”, not “to insult people” thus with lack of grey matter between the ears, so much so as to utter that bigoted stupidity. Sadly very decent people of all walks of life must live with that kind of crippled mental zombies in this inhuman world. JJ

There is no excuse for intolerance. We have been granted life – it is a gift. Our response must always be, without reservation, to show our thankful gratitude through kindness and compassion. We share the world with creatures that can show us how to love – let them be our example.

“If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans.” James Herriot

Made me tear up, Rebecca, but then that’s the mood I’m in as well. Sometimes the sorrow of how “we” treat each other just pains my heart. I know, I know, I’m too overly sensitive. I’m blessed with knowing a lot of really good people, including family, but, I’ve never had an animal let me down. Thank you.

I suppose it’s no surprise that it surprised you, Mick. Not much surprises me these days. It’s sad but people are all over the map and some of the off handed comments, diversions (soap box?) are just humans being humans, some shine and others try to put out lights, like the customer who made the comment. I just have to wonder how happy he is on this earth.

BTW: just cruised your great site and really enjoyed reading a little about you. I understand your feelings about your beloved departed Luca and wish you joy in finding your new furry family member. Always love connecting with another animal loving friend.

Not tipping is slave labor, no one deserves to be waited on by a slave. No one. No respect for a fellow human being is NOT a value taught by Jesus. Such judgments bring judgments upon oneself. The bitterness of the heart of the one who wrote the note is to be pittied.

Thank you, anguscroix! It made me feel heartsick to read this, not because of what you wrote but the situation. I had a friend, in the closet, commit suicide to avoid such harsh treatment. The pain in my heart over acts of intolerance runs deep. I so appreciate your coming here and joining the conversation.

Failure to recognize a fellow human being is the biggest flaw in human nature. I am for freedom. Step one is to recognize all people as people. “All men created equal…” The word “men” needs to be interpreted as “human kind”. Then peace and freedom can become reality.

That’s the real basic question, isn’t it? I think the most significant realization, most helpful to my heart, that I ever had was “what I do to you, I do to me.” I don’t fault anyone their belief but draw the line at hurtful acts. So glad to have you stop by and join the conversation. Thank you and please give your gorgeous HRH a hug from one of his admirers. 🙂

I’m sure that’d be more important to her. I read a follow-up that donations in the thousands flew in to her from all over the world as a compensation for this customers rudeness. She is giving it all to men & women who served in the military to pay it forward. She’s a class act, a light of kindness and grace, in a bilge of insanity. Appreciate your joining in here.