4 Alternatives to Aggressive Behavior That Can Lead to a Better and Happier

Aggressive behavior is behavior that causes physical or emotional harm to others, or threatens to. It can range from verbal abuse to the destruction of a victim’s personal property. people with aggressive behavior tend to be irritable, impulsive, and restless. Sometimes we think this was the only option to drive across our message.

But there is an option though.

Here are 4 options to day-to-day activities that challenge our patience. We can choose the alternative path - to deal with them appropriately by standing up for what is right or rightfully yours and at the same time keeping a humane and respectful demeanor:

1. Instead of fighting your way on an annoying incident, establish whether it is important or not and decide if you need to pay attention to it.

Ask yourself what is at stake when dealing with situations. What impact does it give you in the long-term or short-term? Is it going to impact the way people see you (at least the ones you deal with regularly)? Is it leading you to some danger or risk? What happens after this event?

2. Instead of making hurtful messages on text, email or phone, cool up and use sober face-to-face discussion on crucial matters and complicated issues to avoid further misunderstanding.

Telling a subordinate you do not like the way he handles a particular task is of sensitive nature and can be taken badly if done in an impersonal way such as writing a message. Answering an email or a text message that you find strong or offensive can end you up with an even more aggressive tone. In such situations, choosing to meet up in person clarifies issues and avoids further ‘damage’.

3. Instead of making sarcastic remarks to attack people or communicate your dislike for a behavior, make a direct statement to the person by clarifying, asking or re-iterating your expectations

It is fine to show anger or disappointment. But you do not have to resort to a fuming mad confrontation or merciless disappointment. Try cooling off to get back to your senses before confronting the issue head on. Surely this will work better for both parties.

4. Instead of ending up violating someone else’s person, privacy or freedom, be consistent with your own behavior and use reminders on certain expectations.

The best example is dealing with kids. Parents love their kids but end up having to discipline them – in the way they feel is most effective.

Likewise, making our position in a team or family clear, we implement a fair way to teach someone a lesson within the bounds of human values and laws. It is always about being clear with expectations, providing a balanced set of expressions and dealing with issues in the most professional or appropriate manner.