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Called CPS on SIL

Posted by Anonymous

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My BIL And SIL are the trashiest people in the world and I live next door to them.
DH is a teacher and I’m a nurse. We have a nice home with two young girls and his brother and his wife live next to us in an eyesore of a falling apart trailer with three teenagers she had from a previous marriage, she takes advantage of him, he adopted them a few years ago after she pressured him for years about it, and one six year old they have together..
She is on disability aka “I don’t want to work, so I am going to pretend to have ptsd and panic attacks” and BIL has worked the same dead end job for 25 or 30 years.
They have a tacky wooden swing set she brags about getting free for hauling away on a yard sale site. But really it’s just ugly and imo it’s an accident waiting to happen
Well, a month ago when we had those really bad cold snaps, their pipes froze and some busted.
Monday I went over to see her and found out she was terribly behind in her dishes.
She said it was difficult to keep up with because she had to heat the water in a pan until tax time, that they had already filed and just waiting on them to come in. They get the earned income credit so they get a huge check, and then her DH, and teenaged boys would fix the pipes (poor kids having to do this kind of work)
I asked how the kids were bathing and how she was doing laundry.
She said she still did laundry she just did it in cold water. (GROSS) and that they were heating water in pans for the kids to take baths.
So I thought about it and after thinking really hard I decided to call CPS.
The worker came out yesterday morning and left then BIL came home early. These are my off days.i Work 6 Days on and go ur off.
So I called down and asked if everything was ok, and they told me that CPS had been out. I immediately offered to take the kids and they asked why I would need to.
I told them with the problems they had just assumed..
And SIL got snotty and said that no, while she had a few dishes left she and DD had done most of them the night before, and while they didn’t have HOT water they had running water and CPS had no issues.
CPS HAD NO ISSUES with their home which honestly should be condemned!!!! Then she accused me of making the call because she said I was the only one to have been at the house in the last week. Then started hyperventilating and pretending to have a “panick attack”
I was just trying to help her poor children have a decent chance. They can’t even take a shower!!! And now DH is mad at me!!!! He told me it wasn’t my place to put my nose in, and he won’t speak to me. Of all people I would have have thought he would understand why I did it!!

*edit
I didn’t know there was a problem until Monday, I couldn’t offer help until I knew there was a problem

I offered to let them come shower at my house when I found out but SHE doesn’t leave her house except doctors appointments or when she absolutely HAS to

We live in the country, DH’s Parents gave DH and BIL each a piece of land DH build us a home and BIL bought a trashy trailer

You live next door. You're concerned about your nieces and nephews bathing. So why in the hell haven't you invited them over to shower?

You're sooooo worried yet you said nothing about opening your home so the kids could bathe.

by Anonymous 2
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 4:57 PM

9 moms liked this

Major league fail. I don't know where to begin with you. If you were so concerned you'd of offered for the family to shower in your home being next door and invited them over for dinner or even allowed her to prepare meals on your stove until they could have their plumbing repaired.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 4:58 PM

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They are welcome to come shower, but can anyone besides me see that this woman is unfit to be a parent?

Quoting lily99300:

So all I could glean from this post is:

You live next door. You're concerned about your nieces and nephews bathing. So why in the hell haven't you invited them over to shower?

You're sooooo worried yet you said nothing about opening your home so the kids could bathe.

by Anonymous 3
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 4:58 PM

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You are an awful person.
1. Doing laundry in cold water is actually better for your clothes, your washing machine, and cheaper.
2. There is NOTHING wrong with teenagers working around the house to help out. And helping their dad fix the pipes is a good thing to learn.
3. They can bathe, maybe not shower, but bathe. Not your business. You are judgemental as fuck, and i don't blame your dh for being mad.

by Anonymous 4
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 4:59 PM

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Your house isn't that great if you're living next door to a trashy trailer park. Just sayin. I can see why your dh isn't speaking to you.

by Anonymous 5
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 4:59 PM

13 moms liked this

I'm on the "you're a bitch" team.

by Anonymous 6
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 5:01 PM

1 mom liked this

You need to mind your own business.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 5:01 PM

They are welcome to come shower.
They are planning on making the teenaged boys help to re run the plumbing!!! Should teenagers have to do this in their spare time!!!!
I have invited them to dinner at my house but she never wants to leave her house she says she’s agoraphobic and he just coddles her.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Major league fail. I don't know where to begin with you. If you were so concerned you'd of offered for the family to shower in your home being next door and invited them over for dinner or even allowed her to prepare meals on your stove until they could have their plumbing repaired.

by Anonymous 7
on Feb. 7, 2018 at 5:01 PM

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You sound really judgy. Did you expect CPS to come take the kids and give them to you? Oh no the dishes weren't done and the laundry is washed in cold water! The horror.

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