No Money No Honey? When Your Thai Girlfriend Asks For Money

Her family’s buffalo has died. Her family’s house needs to be renovated. Her brother has died. Her child needs money for going to school. You might hear one of these stories at some point from your Thai girlfriend and that doesn’t necessarily have to be when you are with her in Thailand but also when you come back to your home country and try to keep a long distance relationship with her for a few months when she suddenly comes up with some of these weird stories to make you send her money.

Money that she can support her family with.

That might be the truth but in 99% of the cases it’s a lie. Doesn’t mean that she really needs to send some money to support her family that lives in the village sipping Sang Som all day.

Once I worked in Asoke, Bangkok for a few months in Soi 23 not too far from Soi Cowboy and it was interesting to see some chicks indeed lining up in front of the bank in the evening before going to work (and I was coming from work) to transfer some money they made last night to their family. More common is they take three or four days off every three or four months and hop on the bus back to their home towns carrying some cash in their pockets – sometimes because their parents don’t even have a bank account.

I never had a Thai girlfriend that asked me for giving or sending her money. The only time I give money to my girlfriend is when she asks me to borrow some to pay her tuition fees for studying because her salary isn’t out yet. And then sometimes I buy some small things for her but that comes from my side to make her happy and not because she ever asked for anything.

Maybe that’s because I never had a hooker as my girlfriend. In other words I never had a relationship with a Thai girl that didn’t have a normal job or a student who doesn’t get supported by her family. My current uni girlfriend lives on 6,000 Baht a month that her dad gives her and she is totally fine with it, not seeking sideline income, just being some normal Thai girl.

And then of course you have all the chicks who’s only source of income are funds from their Thai or foreign guys and how often I have met an older guy telling me with his believe-me-I-stayed-here-for-years-I-know-how-things-are-in-Thailand attitude:

You have to give her money or you will lose her.

If I ask about his girlfriend then normally it turns out she’s another typical hooker. While you will for sure lose such a Thai girl if you don’t give her money (which doesn’t mean you can get her again once you’re back in Thailand) you don’t know what she’s up to if you really send her the money she is asking for. As in 99% of the cases if she says she needs money it might be true but not for the reason she tells you. The reason is that she’s not able to generate income from a normal job as she doesn’t have one.

I remember the chick I hooked up with on my first visit to Chiang Mai in 2009, we met in the club she took me to her apartment we had sex and the next thing she tells me is she has a Norwegian boyfriend who sends her a few thousand baht every week to support her and her baby. Weird and funny at the same time as I was 20 back then and she like 30 and the fact that she paid for all the bills (food, cinema, taxi) let me doubt again if she really had a baby that she had to spend money for or if it was just me who was the baby.

Another example? Picked up some girl in Bangkok Beats Club in Nana, she took me to her room in On Nut but asked me to promise being quiet while skyping with her Dutch boyfriend. Maybe that’s a better example for not to pick up girls in Sukhumvit (except for one night stands) but again that guy turned out to send her money on a monthly basis and apparently it seemed to be better invested in her 50 inch Samsung flat screen and new iPhone than in some new buffalo up in Isaan.

There’s nothing wrong with paying the bills for you and your Thai girlfriend while you are with her or buy her some presents if she takes care of you well and makes you feel good, but once she actually asks for money to invest in whatever you are warned now.

Those girls talk to each other, they practicing taking money from new guys everyday. They are masters of it and they are not shame of it. you are the one who will feel bad after. yes I had same experience on smaller scale. simple answer is that they know u, they do this everyday. they will try u and they will take benefit of u. sure u will get a girl in return until u have money. by my nature i dont stay long with the girls. if i do i will already die having thai girlfriend. it is give… Read more »

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9 months ago

cg

Some time ago I started to talk and chatt with a girl in northern Isaan. 30 years old, no children, still living with her parents. I’m good friend with her sister who is married and lives in Europe. My intention was to invite the sister to Europe and see if we could start a family. Suddenly, the sister from Isaan starts telling me she has borrowed money from a friend and then lent it to another friend who can not repay. And the friend she borrowed from need to get the money back within the next few days. Therefore, she… Read more »

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1 year ago

Professor

No woman you haven’t f*cked is worth 1 baht. And even after that. She has money problems and she’s lying to you too. Do you really want to father children with a woman that will bring you nothing but problems? The answer is to let that bird fly. Her debts aren’t your problems. And if you give her the money you will never see her. Guaranteed.

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1 year ago

Jts

I married a Thai girl in 1999 she was 20 and I was 46 . It seemed like a dream come true , you get caught up in this rush of what you hope is love . After the marriage , I sponsered her and brought her to America . It was not long , the mom was calling for money for a loan for a pig farm loan she could not pay . It was everything about getting the money to home , one excuse or scam after another . I took her back in 2001 and we sent… Read more »

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1 year ago

Steve

My girlfriend, now wife, basically has asked for nothing… However, before we married I did draw up a paper and went through a lawyer, basically with a repayment schedule for the money I had “invested” in her cosmetics shop, plus around 380,000 baht, from I debt she incurred paying for her mother’s medical bills after our first year as girlfriend/boyfriend… We all sat down nd went over the paper before she agreed to everything and put pen to paper.. now, as far as living costs. clothing and such, I pay for that, I have also bought two motorbikes for her… Read more »

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2 years ago

TIT (This is Thailand)

How’s this one …….I have no money for my baby’s milk, can you help me? No I really can’t help you….please please, my baby is Soooo hungry…..no I can’t help you……please……I really have no money and my baby is hungry….look here’s a photo of her on my new iPhone 6 which I bought yesterday……..

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2 years ago

Terry

Awesome stuff!

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2 years ago

mike

We all pay for sex, always have, always will. doesnt matter where you live or where you come from.
Do the math, be honest with yourself.

You’re fooling yourself, Mike. Whether I buy my girlfriend anything has nothing to do with her wanting me. Never have I given a girl anything that prompted her to be naughty. She may have hugged me hard or beamed all day, but she didn’t parachute into bed. Sure, I’ve made her happy, and that may have made things more fun, but you can’t buy the love and affection. Desperadoes pay for sex. It’s obligatory, empty. And it’s over when the meter runs out. You can hear the clock ticking. Thanks, OsnapMillerTime, for the tip on the ladder theory. It puts… Read more »

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3 years ago

Nathan

You’re either a massive chode/nice guy white knight or really old if you go to Thailand and pay for sex brotha. I fucked three girls before I met my girlfriend and didn’t pay shit. This took about three weeks and I barely even tried. I paid for most things when with my girl, because in reality I do have way more money, but I made her pay for some things and she gladly obliged. Have to make her work. Then I rewarded her with sex like 4-5 times every day. The girl has to invest in the relationship, too. It… Read more »

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2 years ago

Nathan

Additionally, just to make this clear. I was in a very shitty guesthouse when I met each of these women. I never talked about money at all with them. My girlfriend now knows that I do some type of engineering, but has no idea how wealthy I actually am…and she never will. If she ever asks for money (thank god she never has, massive red flag) that will be a deal breaker for me, as I know her parents make enough to support her (both are skilled professionals) without my help as she goes through university.

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2 years ago

Sean jackson

Exactly . I wont lie tho .i 1st came to thailand aged 41 .I was over whelmed at 1st & went with bar gals .yes i payed .but after my 3rd visit i realised a man like me can get girls here without paying them , treat them decent .buy them street food ( i like street food too) the thai lady is attractive .she dances agogo but she can cook .clean & she pays some bills . I even say to her go work to give me little space . Moral of story .if they like you, they will… Read more »

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1 year ago

Gerhard Nygaard

We all pay for sex? You don’t mean that literally I hope. Yes! in some way shape or form we do in most cases but not always. Pardon me. I forgot were talking about Thailand.

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1 year ago

OsnapMillerTime

I think if anyone has NOT read the “ladder theory”, you should probably read it now.

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3 years ago

miles

If you are 30 years her senior you simply have to pay otherwise she will be gone ! Put it the other way around Im having a relationship with a lady who is 30 years my senior I can tell you one thing she will pay dearly for this !( it just makes me feel throwing up when I think about it having sex with a girl who is 60 years old Oh my dear lord) The other good thing about paying money is you can control her easy . money= a great tool in order to get things quickly… Read more »

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4 years ago

Mike

Have been seeing a girl in BKK for the past 2 years. Why have a regular, because after many years of fucking around, the game becomes tiresome. We hook up whenever I visit as I live in SE Asia and it’s always good fun. I take her out for dinner, occasionally we go shopping to spoil her and sometimes give her some cash to help out, but I refuse to sponsor her and pay a monthly stipend because that’s for mugs. I have witnessed so many farangs support their little tirak only to see it end in tragedy when he… Read more »

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1 year ago

The Professor

If a girl that you are dating asks you for money, it is probably time to walk away. If she asks you for money for her family’s sick buffalo, it is time to run away. Although it has never happened to me, I have a friend who helped a girl send text messages asking for money to her “boyfriend” who was back in his home country. Guess she needed some help with her spelling lol. I have however had a Thai girl who I use to hook up with get butt naked on a webcam for me. All while she… Read more »

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5 years ago

CB

What “wife”? You said “just before they got married”. Make up your mind lol