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Do you feel like your past is haunting you, and you can’t escape no matter what? Maybe you haven’t completely let go of a failed relationship. You’re still punishing yourself from mistakes you made in college, even though you’re in your thirties now. Stop it! Let it go!

We are human, and we all make mistakes. The goal is to learn from those mistakes and not repeat the same ones over and over. Whether you partied too hard, experimented with drugs, had a promiscuous streak, etc., holding on to pain and regret will get you nowhere. It will just cause you to remain stagnant and live a life full of misery and self-defeat.

Don’t listen to other people, and do your best to stay away from those who want to keep you tied to your past forever. If a person doesn’t want you to move on, more than likely it’s because they can’t move on. Instead of joining their pity party, make it your mission to help that person join you in celebrating life and letting go of the past.

I am not condoning bad behavior. I am simply rebuking the practice of ruminating and wallowing in self-pity, shame and regret. If you can tell me something positive that comes out of crying about your mistakes and refusing to start over, please share that with me. I know from experience that focusing on that negativity will rob you of your joy. God wants us to have joy and peace.

Write down everything that is holding you back. Repent if you haven’t. Share some advice with a younger person so they can learn from your mistakes without making the same ones. Then…LET IT GO! Forever. If that thought tries to come back to haunt you, don’t entertain it. You gave it to God, so you don’t have to hold on to it anymore.