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Sex Drive

Since my stbx left I have had very little sex drive. I understand that due to the depression I fell into after she left this could be normal. Three and a half months later though I am still like this. It is probably a good thing in a way but my mood has improved a great deal. I used to have a very healthy sexual drive and sexual relationship with my stbx. Is there anyone else experiencing this from a male perspective. That is no sexual drive almost at all.

I mean, this is my take on it, and I in no way will try to get raunchy.

I think the natural reaction to intimacy while going through this situation is the complete opposite of what an individual was accustomed to during the relationship. If it was too much sex, whether it was consensual or not, the complete opposite effect it so shut down completely . If there was a lack of sex, the complete opposite is to have a very high sex drive. I guess the goal everyone is reaching for is to achieve some type of balance.

These are just my too cents, not worth much, but more of an observation.

I went through a couple of months of zero sex drive. Actually I think my sex drive was negative because just the thought of it repulsed me for a while.

I think my sex drive was exactly proportional to how I felt about myself and naturally I was feeling like a complete loser that was not worthy of procreating. As a man, you may want to focus on making small achievements towards a larger goal that will enhance your feeling of self-worth. I would suggest taking some courses (make sure they are credited) that will directly help your career. If money is an issue, approach your employer as most are more than happy to contribute.

Although I never had any health issues, I worked on my fitness levels which also made me feel better. I also avoided all drugs and alcohol while focusing on healthy, natural foods.

The point is to take a multi-faceted approach to your overall condition and you will see incredible results in a short time. Of course there will always be setbacks but they will not be a problem as long as you are making overall progress.

A well thought out two cents, soon. I think you're absolutely right. I'm coming to the conclusion that there was a whole lot of oppression, and repression going on in my marriage that I wasn't even aware of at the time. As I distance myself, I'm remembering ALL aspects of who I used to be.

I also agree with steven on this one as well. This is a very stressful time, and the body will react differently to various stimuli. Just keep the body healthy as best you can, and find something to focus the mind on to reduce overall stress levels.

I see your take on it soon and this is why I looked at it more from a male perspective. Where it is more almost animal instinct to want and desire for sex frequently. I know and realise that women would get this as well but as we all know men think about sex a lot more.

I don't think that the sex I had was too much sex or unhealthy but at the end of the relationship there was conflicting things I was dealing with which my explain it I guess. My wife having sex with me and the OM within the same day on more than one occasion may be contributing to this. I found this out later on but hell it hurt. I maybe subconciously still dealing with that.

When I found out about my wifes affair, I ended up in the hospital with stress issues. I loved this woman, how could she do this. Over the next 12 months my sex drive dropped out of site, did not want to have sex with her ever again, no was I out looking to sleep around, no was I looking to masturbate either.

2 Years later, we are still working on the final paper work for the divorce, and yes I am back to more than normal with my sex drive, I feel like a 16 year old again. I am not looking to screw someone else life up, and I am not looking to sleep around, but I am looking and enjoy what I am seeing and would like to start a relationship. My sex drive has returned and would think anyone in love would loose it when they found out about there partner had cheated on them.

With soon again on this one, james. That sucks. Would it fall into the same category as making a move on your husband, being absolutely shot down, and realizing it was b/c he didn't want to cheat on his gf?

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