I told her that it was cosmic payback for them preferring the older guys in high school. When it really mattered and we were forming our self-esteem, they rejected us and dated college guys. Paybacks are hell.

Proving without using ANY cultural references. That way we'll know it's objective and not a matter of past mores and social conditioning. Good luck.

While I agree with the main thrust of your point one objective consideration is that older women will likely have gone through childbirth at least once. Bearing children is hard on the body and it's a "burden" that men don't have to bear.

Interesting zombie thread. Married at age 28 to a woman 5.5 years younger. We divorced after 20 years and 2 kids. Now, at age 48, dating a woman 8 years younger. Outcome uncertain. I don't think that I've ever dated a woman more than 1 year older than me in my entire life. They are old enough and wise enough to know better. They would never have anything to do with my sorry ass. Recently had a conversation with a married female friend who was giving me shit about dating younger women. I guess that she had some older women that she wanted to set me up with and didn't think I'd go for it given my exhibited preferences. She was a bit bitter about the single men my age preferring younger women. I told her that it was cosmic payback for them preferring the older guys in high school. When it really mattered and we were forming our self-esteem, they rejected us and dated college guys. Paybacks are hell.

Women hate this wonderful double standard more than anything. I heard some woman bitching about Al Pacino dating a 30 year old on the radio the other day. It made me happy to be a man. Wtf is Al supposed to do, date a woman his age? Fuck that. Any man with the option would do what Al is doing. The flip side is attractive women have it really easy. Men have to actually have to work for our money. The people that get pissed off and bitter tend to be dissatisfied with their lot in life otherwise they wouldn't give a shit what women men prefer to date.

Recently had a conversation with a married female friend who was giving me shit about dating younger women. I guess that she had some older women that she wanted to set me up with and didn't think I'd go for it given my exhibited preferences. She was a bit bitter about the single men my age preferring younger women.

I told her that it was cosmic payback for them preferring the older guys in high school. When it really mattered and we were forming our self-esteem, they rejected us and dated college guys. Paybacks are hell.

Never hear it put that way but I like it

My wife is 5 years older then me. We have a great relationship, family, & life. I definitely wouldn't trade it for 1/2 +7.

I'm not gonna lie, I've thought about "aging" and wonder if I will cast my eye towards a "nubile, young thing" when I get older. I've seen it happen lots around me with my parents friends and with society in general.

However, I'm not going to give up a great thing for what could be. Our sex life is great, she's intelligent so we can talk (even if we have different interests), she treats me well, isn't materialistic and she's a looker. She isn't perfect but neither am I. There is way more good than bad in our relationship and it's not worth all of that just to have a younger woman.

It's true. My friend is in residency right now and he says it started when he was in his final year of med school. He has to beat girls away with a stick and they get really weird with him. Every girl he dates wants to marry him basically.

You should see the kind of tail the paediatrician trainees pull - has a M.D. and loves working with kids?

In the past year I have developed a reasonable degree of experience with girls a decade or more younger than me. I can't do it. It feels weird to me. End up feeling like a dadmentortype person. This then creeps me out if I think about it at the wrong time, plus, I don't really feel like I am getting any stimulus from them, other than being reminded of what I was like at 22....

In the past year I have developed a reasonable degree of experience with girls a decade or more younger than me. I can't do it. It feels weird to me. End up feeling like a dadmentortype person. This then creeps me out if I think about it at the wrong time, plus, I don't really feel like I am getting any stimulus from them, other than being reminded of what I was like at 22....

I would think that mid to late 20s is the ideal age. 22 year old girls are fucking dumb most of the time. If you're in your mid to late 30s, that's ideal imo.

Here's a little something to think about: You're 23, you're dating a woman of 28. Then you find out she's dated a man of over 40, maybe over 50 (who knows, women lie and older men lie). Would you not be a bit disgusted?

I would think that mid to late 20s is the ideal age. 22 year old girls are fucking dumb most of the time. If you're in your mid to late 30s, that's ideal imo.

Ya, I am 33, I think somewhere between 27 and 35 is acceptable depending on the girl, and 29-31 most suitable.

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Here's a little something to think about: You're 23, you're dating a woman of 28. Then you find out she's dated a man of over 40, maybe over 50 (who knows, women lie and older men lie). Would you not be a bit disgusted?

Yes, because you're 23. Give yourself five years and you won't be Chasing Amy as hard, you just end up a little more accepting that we have all had a past, all had our experiences and so on. In the first half of your twenties you are still plagued by an assortment of nagging high school insecurities. By your late twenties, you tend to say 'fuck it, that's me' and shrug them off. Those little nagging insecurities will eat you up when you start thinking that 'this girl has been with dudes more experienced than me, wealthier than me, that drive a Ferrari' or whatever....and in the end, it is easier to call her a whore than to just accept it as part of her past. Problem is you, not her.

Ya, I am 33, I think somewhere between 27 and 35 is acceptable depending on the girl, and 29-31 most suitable.

I dunno man, 35 is pushing it. 40 is right around the corner. I don't expect a virgin but I want to get her while she's still pretty young. And chick that's 35 is probably gonna be pushing for kids asap too. I want my retirement taken care of before I tie the knot and have any kids. :P

lol, well, my love'o'my'life ex is 38 this year....crazy local turning 35, me im turning 34. For some reason all the women I end up with are like 22, which is getting irritating. I was dating CabinCrew until recently, she's 31...maturity-wise, that felt about right.

When I was 18 I dated a girl who was 21 (we stayed together for about a year and a half). She was immature as shit, which probably helped us get along for a time, but the collective weight of her failed past relationships had already made her into a neurotic basketcase even by that young age.

She also managed to be the sluttiest girl I've ever met who wouldn't take it in the ass. Hardcore Catholic, too. Quite the living contradiction.

Anyway, I find it's impossible to have a real relationship with someone much younger than you are. Whenever I've dated teenagers or girls in their very early 20s I've felt like I was patronizing them, and in some ways taking advantage. Set off a few alarm bells, and I inevitably lost interest over time.

Then again, I'm not 50 dating 30 year olds, so maybe that's different.