Humans have underlying insecurities and fears that can easily alter one's best intentions when "telling all." What was intended as an honestly stated and understandable scenario can quickly turn into something harmful when shared at the wrong time or under the wrong conditions.

I know you -- the heartbroken. I've been there recently, and plenty before. I know you better than you think I do. I know heartbreak as well as I know the taste of the ocean in my tears and the way my breath gets stuck in my heart instead of my throat. I know you'd assume I would say that I wish I didn't.

How you spend each moment is important because those moments are limited. You can never get time back, which makes time a precious resource in each of our lives. There are six ways for you to love your life and use each moment on the things that are important to you.

The number one sex problem that I hear from women is the lack of desire for sex. They do still enjoy sex once they get started, they tell me, but they're seldom in the mood ahead of time. It isn't just a problem for women -- many men also report decreased desire -- but for women, it's the main complaint.

It's true. I never thought I'd be working in the most famous bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism (BDSM) dungeon in New York City. Not to mention that I'd start at the ripe age of 55. If you had told me 10 years ago that I would kick a man straight in the balls wearing six-inch heels, I would have kicked you out of my house.

How can sex possibly stay interesting for a lifetime? I have good news for younger people. I'm going to allay your worst fears and help you to relax about the idea of sex in the later years of marriage. I will tell you the spoiler right now. It's pretty good.

At 52, I still feel that my sexual response, as well as the land down under, hasn't changed markedly since I became sexually active decades ago. I have about the same lubrication, and my vagina didn't change at all -- and I mean AT ALL -- after birthing two babies.

You could waste your time on some meaningless fling so that you won't have to experience the loneliness of an empty bed -- or just so you have someone to watch reality TV with. Or, instead, you could better yourself via classic literature.

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