Scared and Stressed

Just left my husband today..He threatened to kill me and my unborn child again last night. I had to do what's best for me and the child I already have. Currently driving back to my home state. I'm terrified of starting all over. Anyone ever been through something like this? I know if I saw someone else going through this id tell them to get out as soon as possible. Idk why I feel guilty about leaving he was good to my son and I I(whos not his)....safety is my number one priority though. No one should joke about that. Sorry this is so long I have no one to talk to and need to vent.

Just left my husband today..He threatened to kill me and my unborn child again last night. I had to do what's best for me and the child I already have. Currently driving back to my home state. I'm terrified of starting all over. Anyone ever been through something like this? I know if I saw someone else going through this id tell them to get out as soon as possible. Idk why I feel guilty about leaving he was good to my son and I I(whos not his)....safety is my number one priority though. No one should joke about that. Sorry this is so long I have no one to talk to and need to vent.

Well if he was being serious you did the 100% right thing! No matter if he is good to your DS or not. If he would harm you while pregnant or threaten your child together who knows what he would do to your DS too. I am happy you have taken the initiative and gotten out while you still can (alive). I haven't been through this myself but I know some women on here have and I hope they give you some good advice. Just wanted to say Stay strong! Good job momma. You are already doing the best you can by your unborn and your DS. Things can and will only get better from here :)

Well if he was being serious you did the 100% right thing! No matter if he is good to your DS or not. If he would harm you while pregnant or threaten your child together who knows what he would do to your DS too. I am happy you have taken the initiative and gotten out while you still can (alive). I haven't been through this myself but I know some women on here have and I hope they give you some good advice. Just wanted to say Stay strong! Good job momma. You are already doing the best you can by your unborn and your DS. Things can and will only get better from here :)

He could be a better parent than I am to my child, but the moment you threaten me, all bets are off. He could flip out and then you would be a prisoner in your own house. You are protecting them from a nut. It may be hard at first, but you are all those kids have. Stay strong!

He could be a better parent than I am to my child, but the moment you threaten me, all bets are off. He could flip out and then you would be a prisoner in your own house. You are protecting them from a nut. It may be hard at first, but you are all those kids have. Stay strong!

Good for you! If you think he was serious, though, I'd encourage you to talk to a lawyer and police about an order of protection. Are you staying w family or friends so there are other adults around you?

Good for you! If you think he was serious, though, I'd encourage you to talk to a lawyer and police about an order of protection. Are you staying w family or friends so there are other adults around you?

I'm on my way back to my home state to be with my family. I couldn't stay at home in the middle of nowhere with no family or friends...of course I'm getting calls now that he's sorry and didn't mean it..better safe then sorry

I'm on my way back to my home state to be with my family. I couldn't stay at home in the middle of nowhere with no family or friends...of course I'm getting calls now that he's sorry and didn't mean it..better safe then sorry

My friend had this problem and she left and he said he was soo sooo sorry. She was giving him another chance and he killed her her sister and the 2 little kids they had together. And then himself. Don't make the same mistake.

My friend had this problem and she left and he said he was soo sooo sorry. She was giving him another chance and he killed her her sister and the 2 little kids they had together. And then himself. Don't make the same mistake.

Omg. I'm so sorry. As much as I don't want my marriage over in only 6 months my son, unborn child, and my life is more important then any man. There'll be others. It's just hard when everything is all a ruckus now and I can't see past tomorrow. I have to be smart for my kids even though my heart wants different. Thank you all for the advice. It's a hard life when you don't have many friends and family to talk to. I love this board its like a big family even though we don't know each other personally...I really appreciate you all!

Omg. I'm so sorry. As much as I don't want my marriage over in only 6 months my son, unborn child, and my life is more important then any man. There'll be others. It's just hard when everything is all a ruckus now and I can't see past tomorrow. I have to be smart for my kids even though my heart wants different. Thank you all for the advice. It's a hard life when you don't have many friends and family to talk to. I love this board its like a big family even though we don't know each other personally...I really appreciate you all!

Very proud of you. It's hard. Very very very hard but you are doing it. You will find someone who loves you unconditionally and doesn't threaten your life. Things WILL get better. My best advice is to get up each morning and tell yourself that you got out and you are happier and healthier. Once you least expect it, you will think "wow I got through it!"

Very proud of you. It's hard. Very very very hard but you are doing it. You will find someone who loves you unconditionally and doesn't threaten your life. Things WILL get better. My best advice is to get up each morning and tell yourself that you got out and you are happier and healthier. Once you least expect it, you will think "wow I got through it!"

First off, way to go! I am so proud of you!!! I'm in bed with lo right now so I can't type much now but I have been in an abusive relationship and it is hard to get away. I know it seems so hard and lonely now, but you absolutely did the right thing! And remember - you are strong! You will make it don't worry! :) To which state are you headed?

First off, way to go! I am so proud of you!!! I'm in bed with lo right now so I can't type much now but I have been in an abusive relationship and it is hard to get away. I know it seems so hard and lonely now, but you absolutely did the right thing! And remember - you are strong! You will make it don't worry! :) To which state are you headed?

@OP I would love an update on how you're doing. Multiple threats against you are not something to joke about. Very proud that you took the initiative and left. That was very smart of you. I hope you've started divorce proceedings if able. 2nd chances in this case are dangerous.

@OP I would love an update on how you're doing. Multiple threats against you are not something to joke about. Very proud that you took the initiative and left. That was very smart of you. I hope you've started divorce proceedings if able. 2nd chances in this case are dangerous.

I have experienced similar situation. First thing you need to do is get a PPO or personal protection order against him, when you get to your family. Go to a local police station, make a police report and ask how, do not pull back on the reins as it is normal that women start to feel sorry for the SO, your life is more important and the only strength you should need is the safety of your babies. Start talking to a lawyer even though you are still pregnant for custody issues. If this mentally ill person is to get visitation make sure it's supervised, and push for counseling for him as well as domestic violence classes and anger management. You should seek counseling for you and your son, not because you did anything wrong, but because you deserve and need it. If you need a wake up call and feel sorry for him or thinking about giving him another chance, watch the Lifetime Network for a couple of days. God be with you and hold you and your babies tight, I will be praying.

I have experienced similar situation. First thing you need to do is get a PPO or personal protection order against him, when you get to your family. Go to a local police station, make a police report and ask how, do not pull back on the reins as it is normal that women start to feel sorry for the SO, your life is more important and the only strength you should need is the safety of your babies. Start talking to a lawyer even though you are still pregnant for custody issues. If this mentally ill person is to get visitation make sure it's supervised, and push for counseling for him as well as domestic violence classes and anger management. You should seek counseling for you and your son, not because you did anything wrong, but because you deserve and need it. If you need a wake up call and feel sorry for him or thinking about giving him another chance, watch the Lifetime Network for a couple of days. God be with you and hold you and your babies tight, I will be praying.

Words of encouragement, even though you have two babies by two different men, there is another man out there that will treat you like you deserve, love your babies like his own, and give you the life and family you need. Work on your self first and God will do the rest. I know from experience.

Words of encouragement, even though you have two babies by two different men, there is another man out there that will treat you like you deserve, love your babies like his own, and give you the life and family you need. Work on your self first and God will do the rest. I know from experience.

I has an aunt with a similar situation she left the guy however after a year she has let hus Gorka visit him and his fam. 13 tests later we found out he been raping them. if this guy is mentally ill make sure that he seeks help im not saying it will happen to you and God forbids but you want your and the children safety first.

I has an aunt with a similar situation she left the guy however after a year she has let hus Gorka visit him and his fam. 13 tests later we found out he been raping them. if this guy is mentally ill make sure that he seeks help im not saying it will happen to you and God forbids but you want your and the children safety first.

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