I have breastfed all of my children, I am currently pregnant with my 4th and due to a medical concern to my own health we do not yet know if I can breast feed this baby. However, my other 3 children were all breastfed for a minimum of 1 year, and I can tell you the benifits go beyond just bonding between mother and child, and reduced risk of breast cancer, getting into shape faster. They include your child being (for the most part) slightly more (very much more) intelligent, a lower risk of childhood cancers and illnesses, childhood obisity, also a stronger imune system. And they (scientists) think that these benifits will actcually last for your child's life time. Not to mention yours and well. This descision is not his to make. It is yours. My husband wasn't thrilled with my idea to breastfeed our first, but after he realized that our baby's health was far more important than his queasiness, and the fact I am very stubborn when I've set my mind, he relaxed. He is now upset when he hears about women who choose not to breast feed their babies. Plus, you never know, maybe your hubby might like it and he just doesn't know it yet. I pray that he'll change his mind. In the meantime, I suggest trying to breastfeed, it is the best for your baby and you. Good luck!

I would tell him when HE carries the baby, goes through the horribly wonderful experience called pregnancy and delivery.....THEN he can decide, but quite frankly if it were me I'd tell him "Hey it's not YOUR say, my breasts my choice." But then again I'm a little more outspoken and independent and have a man who loves me for it. JMO here

Ther's not much I can add as other readers have basically said it all. I am 37 wks along and plan to breastfeed. You just can't beat it for the immunities you give to your child. I do plan to give one feeding to my boyfriend though so that he can also bond with our daughter. I think it's very important that he get to share in this experience. It will also help me to get a break in the day so I can do whatever I need to do (shower, rest, have some "me" time). Ask your husband why he thinks the most beneficial thing for your baby is disgusting. See if he will read up on breastfeeding. If he is stubborn and refuses to have anything to do with it, then you may be in for some hard times in the future with raising your baby. Hopefully he is just uninformed about the good of breastfeeding and needs to be educated on it. Good Luck!

HELP!
I understand your position, mines is quite similiar. My husband says he doesnt want my breasts to sag, and that is the only explanation he will give as to why he doesnt want me to bf. I have a child from a previous relationship I bf for three months and I think it is very important, in addition his statement undermines my self esteem (i.e. is he implying my breasts arent up to par now?). No one in our circle agrees with him, even his best friend ( a man) and his mother (by the way, she says he was bf until he started walking). He has stated his position since before conception, and I always thought he would warm up to it as the time drew nearer and he heard all the facts. Now in my third trimester I see he isnt ready to open his mind. To make matters worse he also plans to stay in the waiting room during delivery.

Hi Georgina,
Perhaps I'm a little weird as far as men go, but I find it incredible
that men would want to stop their wife breastfeeding their children.
Breastfeeding is the most wondeful thing a woman can do for her baby.
Breast milk is the perfect food for the baby, and much better than
formula.
If you can breastfeed and you have milk then go for it. If you let
your husband stop you then you will regret it as you will miss out
on something really special between you and your baby.
Just tell your husband that he will have plenty of time to bond with
the baby when you aren't breastfeeding and when the child gets older
and stops breastfeeding naturally.
Eventually you will have to stop breastfeeding as the child begins
eating solid food and breastmilk won't be enough.
But while you are breastfeeding tell your husband that your breasts
are off limits, they are strickly for the baby! (I had to learn this
the hard way :o) )
My wife breastfed our daughter until she was almost three (yes 3
years :o) ) and stopped breastfeeding her because my wife was 4
months pregnant with our second child and we didn't want our daughter
to get jealous when our second child was breastfeeding.
I'm not sure what the law says in your area, but here in Australia it
is illegal for anybody to stop you breastfeeding. The law says that
you can breastfeed anywhere and any time you like.
So if all else fails and you have the same law as we do here, then
you can say to your hubby that the law says he can't stop you from
breastfeeding :o)
I'm all for breastfeeding, anywhere and anytime. I believe new mums
should breastfeed as much as possible, the benefits to baby and mum
are too important to miss out on, and something formula can never provide.

My husband has been very supportive of me breastfeeding our baby girl. We'll both be sitting up in bed with my husband putting his arm around me. He'll take his other arm and he'll be stroking the baby. It's a true bonding experience. Later on when Our baby's sleeping, I'll breastfeed my husband for at least an hour.

You husband needs to shut his mouth! Honestly. Breastfeeding is beautiful. If he's against it, theres probably no changing his mind, but let him know that even though he doesn't approve, it really doesn't matter. Its your body, and its your right to decide how you want to use it. Don't give it up just because of his disapproval. The only thing you should be worrying about is what is best for your baby. Explain to your husband that breastfeeding is the best way to provide you baby with nourishment that he needs. That especially during the first 6 weeks, breast milk gives your baby the antibodies that protect it from tons of different illnesses. Your baby's immune system is very fragile, so these antibodies are very improtant. If he still doesn't get it, then it really doesn't matter. Do what is best for your baby. Whatever you think is right and he'll just have to learn to deal with it. Good Luck!

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