I am a marriage and sex therapist. We all have fantasies…that’s a normal part of being human. Today’s article is all about honoring your fantasies and your committed relationship…yes, that’s possible so please read on. In my practice and in society in general I see far to many people are getting divorced and too many people are being unfaithful. My main purposes in life besides helping couples heal is to help prevent these problems. The reasons for these problems are multiple and…

Are you letting fear ruin the possibility of having intimate love? In this video, marriage and sex therapist Todd Creager discusses the courage and safety of intimacy, and learning to give and receive love. He'll show you the 2 critical steps that you need to take in order to create the right environment in your relationship where you can relax and be truly intimate with your partner. "Intimacy is the practice of courage." -Todd Creager I encourage you to be...

This month I am writing about women and sexuality. It is a big and important topic and I will cover one part of it with each blog. I have seen many women come into my office with or without their partner concerned about their lack of interest regarding sex. The first thing I want to say about this is that the most recent Diagnostic Manual for those of us in the mental health field has combined female arousal and desire/interest…

What you focus on may determine the quality of your sex life. I want to talk about this from 3 angles: 1) How gratitude affects your sense of psychological well being, 2) How gratitude affects the wellbeing of your partner and 3) how gratitude affects your brain. Then I can do the easy job of linking all that to your sex life. It has been clearly established in the field of mental health that what we think affects how we…

Another Channel to Increase Eroticism with Your Partner “Talking dirty” is a kind of sex play involving sensual or sexual statements or questions in order to arouse your partner or yourself through words and imagination, and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Using dirty talk can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment. Talking dirty to your partner…

1. Think about sex more even if you usually don’t. Spend a minute or less every hour of your workday (or time when you and your partner are apart) thinking of what you can do with him or what he can do for you. (That’s all it takes). Imagine your sexiest self- what are you wearing, what are you saying, what are you doing? Remember- your brain is your sex organ- Use it! 2. Take your focus off having an orgasm….