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This is the sixth Father’s Day since my late father, H.L. Schlussel MD (of Blessed Memory), passed away from cancer. But he is on my mind every single day, not just on these bittersweet Father’s Days. Today, I will celebrate, as I have every Father’s Day since his death, by going to my dad’s grave to reflect on how lucky I was to have this great man in my life.

I was lucky to have a loving father who constantly sacrificed his own personal happiness and financial wealth to be with us kids always, to teach us right from wrong, to teach us to be kind and generous to others–especially those less fortunate, to be patriotic Americans, to have faith in G-d above, and to know that He was watching at all times. My father taught me to have the courage of my convictions, as he did many times, organizing protests and getting us involved in political campaigns (he dragged us kids to hold signs when the Detroit Jewish Book Fair hosted the openly anti-Semitic, anti-Israel, pro-HAMAS/Hezbollah James Zogby; he took us campaigning for Ronald Reagan in 1980 and spent his own money for anti-Jimmy Carter bumper stickers). My father taught us through his actions, not just talk. That was one of the many ways he showed us he loved us. And we loved him back. We still love him because even though he is gone, his many life lessons will be with us until the day we die.

But I was lucky for another reason: my father valued traditional fatherhood. He did not want my mother to work, and despite her protestations and disagreements (although we were never rich, we didn’t need her income, anyway, and most American families could live on one income if they really wanted to), he insisted that she not take a full-time job. My father was the breadwinner. My mother was supposed to be the cook and the housekeeper (we had a paid maid who came to clean) and take care of the kids. Often, unfortunately, my father found himself doing all of those things, and in many ways he was father AND mother to us. But he insisted upon traditional parenting roles and impressed upon us that those were important. Those were the days when fathers were still fathers, when “Mr. Mom” was a comical movie, when men were men. We were lucky that my dad insisted this was the way we would be, should be, raised. Today, my father would be considered “backward” and a male chauvinist. But what he really was, was a terrific father. And a great family man. And I am so lucky for that. What he did was right for his day AND right for today, whether the conventional wisdom admits it or not. My father–like the ever-shrinking number of traditional fathers out there–was doing America a service, while others shirk their moral and societal responsibility.

Boys and girls, today, are confused. They have no real idea what their roles are supposed to be when they grow up (IF they grow up), and instead they are told that women should be breadwinners and men can be slacker hangers-on with no ambition or drive. Today, there really is no real “fatherhood” in America. That role is dying out, if not dead already–and with it all sense of male responsibility. This is why we have so much delayed adulthood in America and a good part of the reason there are so many single mothers and out of wedlock births. Dads are essential to raising good Americans. Sadly, far too many Americans don’t get it because they’ve been told otherwise by the media, TV, movies, and other poisonous parts of the cesspool of American pop culture (including Megyn Kelly of FOX News and Sarah Palin’s daughter).

If you are a stay-at-home dad–and the numbers of those are fast growing in America–you are NOT a “father.” You are the mother. If you are not the breadwinner, and you are doing laundry and cooking instead, you may have a penis by accident of birth, but you are NOT a father. You are assuming the motherhood role, no matter what you say. Being a sperm donor does not make you a father. If you are a woman, and you are the breadwinner in the home, you are the dad and not a very good one. So happy unisex Father’s Day to you. Fathers who stay at home or who are the nurturers in the family are not teaching their sons how to be men. They are not teaching their daughters how to be treated by men. In fact, it is the exact opposite. They are teaching confusion and slackerhood. They are teaching their sons to have the ambition of domestic duties and their daughters to lower expectations and to think that relationships with immature slackers is okay. That feminist gender roles are the direction our society should take. Yes, FOX News’ Megyn Kelly and Sarah Palin are the spokeschicks for that message. Conservative? Not even close. But, sadly, the lumpenconservatariat has blindly swallowed and embraced that because the likes of Kelly and Palin live that life (as do Palin’s kids–see Bristol Palin, Track Palin).

And then there are the completely demasculated households, where there is no male figure of any sort at all. Today, at least 42% of kids are born to single mothers, and that number is growing with each year. Researchers say that the kids born to single mothers in America are more likely to have NO father figure in their lives than in other Western democracies with large numbers of out-of-wedlock births. That makes America not great, but more like Scandinavia with is fast becoming ScandIslamia, where the savage worshipers of Mohammed are the only force of masculinity to be seen (and where they commit the majority of rapes). This is what happens to all Western matriarchies, and America is fast becoming a Western matriarchy. Matriarchies die, no matter what FOX News and Megyn Kelly tell you. No matter how many studies they trot out that kids of single mother households do well or other such baloney. I’ll trot out a better study. It’s called: America’s prisons and America’s drug addicts and babydaddies/babymamas. Most of the men and women in America’s prisons, most of America’s male and female drug addicts, most of America’s out-of-wedlock parents came out of single mother households. NOT two parent, traditional families. And look at the Americans who convert to Islam–most of them come out of broken, single mother households, too. Because they didn’t have a father, and so, now, Mohammed is their father. Case closed.

The death of fatherhood–traditional fatherhood as opposed to mere sperm donorhood–will be America’s death. It IS America’s death. Who do you think voted for Obama and a larger role for government in their lives: single mothers, most of whom voted for Obama. You know those “more fertile” illegal aliens that idiot Jeb Bush told us about on Friday? Guess what? Many of them father–or rather, sperm donorize–kids out of wedlock. And, no matter what studies feminist Megyn Kelly (who is the man in her marriage–and you know she’s on top) cites, that’s NOT good for America. It’s no accident that the sexual revolution and the adoption of feminist blurred gender roles coincides with America’s decline academically and economically in the world, with America’s decline in so many other spheres as well. It’s not just a coincidence. There’s a correlation. The times of traditional fatherhood in America were the times that America had the most innovations, inventions, economic successes, and relative prosperity. (We also had more military success at those times.)

Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” BS will be the Self Destruct-In of America. It’s already happening and has for a few decades. She can gloat about her Facebook billions and her wimp of a peckerless “husband” who does wifely household duties all she wants. In future generations, it will be the void that kills America. It already is. The men in those relationships have no power. They can’t be men. They aren’t men. They’re rent-a-penises. I’m glad I didn’t have the misfortune of being born to one of them.

I feel for the men who still want traditional fatherhood but can’t find women in America who’ll agree to that life. Sadly, there are fewer and fewer of such men and such women, and they are looked upon as an anachronism. They’ve all been programmed on the left AND the right that this is “a return to the backwards 1950s,” “a war on women,” “slavery,” or some other such baloney. And they are in a position where the odds are against them. Today, more women are admitted to, attend, and graduate from college and grad school. Women are making more money than the men who do attend and graduate. And with women now nearly half the breadwinners in America and heading nearly half of America’s households, there is a silent, accepted–even promoted (even by FOX News and Megyn Kelly)–war on men and war on fathers, especially traditional ones.

So, I was lucky to have not just a great dad, but a traditional dad. The kids who don’t have that in America, today–and there are far too many of them–I feel sorry for them. And, more so, I feel sorry for America, because it will affect–and doom–this country’s future.

Forget the cries about a fictional “war on women.” The real war in America is on men and fatherhood. And, ultimately, that’s a war on America from within.

America had Founding Fathers, NOT founding mothers. But, as a matriarchy, which we are fast becoming, America’s destruction will come because the fathers–and all vestiges of traditional fatherhood–disappeared.

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Dad, I love you and I miss you every single day. To you and to the traditional fathers still out there, Happy Father’s Day . . . while there still is one.

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It’s so interesting to me that it takes a woman with more balls than almost any group of seven men walking down almost any street in AfrolabadSouthAmerAsiexico or The DisUnited Snakes of Amerika, to tell it like it is, with respect to the mass gender confusion that exists in our “once great republic.” And a woman who probably has the fighting skill to take your heart out and show it to you before you die, as well.

Another grand slam home run column by Debbie Schlussel, eloquent, articulate, hard hitting, and all too sadly true. And while Debbie chose to avoid commentary on the American military, we can throw that in, too. America, prepare for your doom, for it is just around the bend, and this column by Debbie is a primer on one of the major causes.

90% of my friends and relatives would cringe if they knew I was posting on this web site, and the things I say. Too bad. Here I can be myself, totally, don’t have to kiss the ass of some hypocritical protocol as on certain other web sites, or in front of my NYC friends, great people though they are.

I love the way Debbie speaks of her father and manhood in general. It’s very refreshing, especially coming from a WOMAN who could teach most American men about backbone and courage.

I wish they would abolish Father’s day. The day has turned into a day for “single mothers” to bash men and fathers. I see all this nastiness on Face book about single mothers doing the work of fathers and about fathers who. allegedly, are not involved in their children’s lives, being “sperm donors”. They want a pat on the back for kicking the husband and father out of the home and/or moving far away from where the father works and lives and taking the kids with them. And, they expect the “child support” and father’s (physical) involvement in the child’s life, even if the father can’t pay, or maybe, due to illness, cannot travel. A few years back they were even using father’s day as a day to do mass arrests of father’s behind on child support. None of this kind of hate is aimed at mothers on Mother’s day, or any other time. There are no statements made on “what it takes to be a mother”. All that is required are a working vagina and working ovaries. You don’t see propaganda from the government on “How to be a mother” but we are bombarded with Ad council bullshit on “How to be a dad” and, “It takes a man to be a father”. Single mothers are portrayed as heros, no matter how they got to be single mothers. Some of them are so slutty they don’t even know who the father of their children is, have children by several different fathers, or got rid of the father of their children so they can be with other people. Nobody says anything about that. Sooo, they can just shove fathers day straight up their ass.

RT: Great minds think alike, as I was originally going to say in this post that there probably shouldn’t be a Father’s Day anymore but a “universal unisex caregiver’s/sperm/womb donor’s day” because that’s all there seem to be in “parents” these days. Spot on. DS

While we may be polar opposites in our views on politics and such, I really admire and respect the way you honor your father on a regular basis. He must have been a great man. I too lost my father a few years back. He was a physician as well. As with yours, his love of country, family, and his patients left a lifelong impression upon the way I treat others as well. Keep honoring your Dad!

Deb,
Thank you for the thoughtful and accurate comments. This BS starts at the top of the leadership in this country. Just check out Obama’s radio address today. He basically honored single moms and gay dads over traditional fatherhood. It’s pretty sad. I grew up in a single mother household and Even though I loved and respected my mother, it basically sucked. The difference was not lost on me when I visited my friends’ homes that had traditional parents. It took me years to catch up with guys that spent quality time with their Dads. I hope I can instill some traditional conservative values in my grandson but I know it will not be easy. Thanks for sharing some of your personal experiences.
G_d Bless

I love columns like this. I never see them anymore. Just awesome and truthful from start to finish.

I’m glad you called out Megyn Kelly. Even as the ‘man’ in her household, she still saw fit to pose in her bra. When I saw that I lost any respect for her I had (not that I had much, she ain’t my kinda chick)!

And that odious Mika Bzyxyrkuzzyi of MSNBC…she’s even WORSE. Posing on a table like a jive Thanksgiving turkey nobody wants. Let’s hear it for women!!!

When I was young feminist “Virginia Slims” said “You’ve Come A Long Way, Baby”. Not really. It’s disgusting and a crying shame.

Debbie Schlussel, your father was a role model for any men who wants to be a father. You’re lucky and blessed with him. Unfortunately, due to the Feminazi war on everything masculine, fewer and fewer children are having a healthy, masculine role model for their lives. Disintegration of the social fabric due to a general lack of father figure isn’t an unhappy byproduct of Feminism-Marxism-Whatever, it is their goal!

Anyway, Happy Father’s Day to you, Debbie, and for anyone reading this.

Young men are slackers more out of necessity than any choice. With the doors closed to them by the matriachy, there’s not much waiting for them except an early grave or prison. Either way, absent fathers impose a devastating cost on our society. Both conservatives tell men to get lost and if they don’t they’ll lock them and throw them away. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe criminals should be punished but I’d bet nearly all the criminals behind bars came from broken homes with no real male authority figures in their lives. We’re not willing to ensure fathers can play they used to play and keep boys and men out of trouble. My father taught me how to be a good man and I miss him very much! Sadly, in today’s America few males will get that kind of critical guidance. We can’t defend America without strong and responsible men and we aren’t doing a good job of saving men from a life of violence and decades behind bars. Its not a good reflection on our society.

Thanks Debbie! Like you, I was raised by a real mensch, a man who quietly supported a family, lived an upright, faithful life, and set the example for me and many of his students. Unfortunately they are a dying breed. I actually saw a woman post on Facebook today a photo that said Happy Father’s Day to the man who raised me. Thanks, Mom! Of course it was a single mom who posted it, as if she was proud of living at her parents’ house in her 30s, with her two kids who don’t know the sperm donor. Pretty sad.

Excellent column Debbie. I’ve said before that fathers are an integral part of the family unit. Good fathers teach sons how to respect women and daughters how to be respected by men. In short lack of fathers leads to kids like trayvon martin. And we know how he turned out don’t we folks. It is also a sad fact that we have a president that doesn’t give a fig about traditional marriage. I guess that goes into keeping with all of the dopey single moms voting for his worthless ass. I often joked to my cousin who got knocked up not once but twice by a dirtbag who never married her that at least one of her sons would be in jail. That was ten years ago and damn if I wasn’t right. Oh and her dirtbag sperm donor left her with the mess. Oh well all men are dogs according to the fembots right. Happy Fathers Day to all you fathers who handle your business. And for dimwit liberal, razorbacked fembots and broads like Meghan Kelly and Sarah Palin they can go tuck femselves.

Love that first picture of Mr. Schlussel and his Minnie-Me.
Your father’s Day post from about 4 years back is what got me hooked on this site.
BTW, I was “dragged” to many places by my Dad and looking back I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s the good stuff they write country songs about. Dragged fits because sometimes that’s what it felt like but at the end of the day we were glad to be a part of it and chalk it up to another of life’s great experiences. It’s the stuff we tell our kids about, and what usually comes up in conversations with our siblings.
…”Remember when Dad…?”

I look forward to Debbie’s post about her handsome father on Father’s Day. Its like a tradition. It is a true gift to have or have had a wonderful Dad. I had one too. I think of him every day although he hasn’t been here for many years.
Whenever I meet someone who knew my father, especially when they quote him or whenever I find a note my Dad scribbled in a book, it is a real treasure for me.
Value your fathers and please let them know how much you do.
Thanks, Debbie.

Sadly you and your father are part of the problem of feminism. I don’t understand how your write this Ms. Schlussel when you yourself and your father seemed to push you to focus on a career and getting advanced degrees. It is do as I say not as I do. In addition to the real fact a real name wants his daughter to get married to another man especially when he has sons to preserve his own name. Picked on your mother but with you the younger woman he supported feminism. That is what it looks like to me.

Why do you resent me, Skunky? Because I have a different opinion. I made one typo in the post. I don’t think Dr. Schlussel or Debbie really walk the walk. The fact he wanted his wife to stay home so what. Most people that push socialism in any area only do it to divide and conquer and rarely do they practice it in their own life. But the fact is Debbie’s father seems to have wanted Debbie to focus on career from everything I can see. Which again helped her dear father but doesn’t help other Jewish men or men in general for that matter.

That is not conservative to be angry that someone may feel differently then you do. In fact again that is classic feminism skunky that women go crazy when men have a different view then they do and have this sense of superiority over men.

Debbie,
I had a moment this weekend, I too lost my dad, from Pancreatic Cancer about six years ago. This weekend would had been his 73 birthday. I grew up on a family farm, my dad, brother, and I would work hard, repairing equipment, clearing land, picking rocks, bailing hay you know, work! Well my lawn mower was broke, so I took it apart cleaned the cracked metal and prepared to weld it. As I stood there wearing his gloves, his welding helmet, with his welder about to lay down a bead as I had watched him do hundreds of times I realized I still miss him and also that I was him. Many of his skills, his traits are in me, today this are traits the liberals, mostly women hate. Self confidence, mental toughness, self reliability, and creativity. There are so many issues related to the lack of strong fathers causing such damage to our country. The left driven media has demonized men for years. I will say that in my own case my wife works part time doing something that she loves, rehabilitating animals. Her income is solely used to send our boys to catholic school. My grandfather was a WWII vet, Battle of the bulge, he always challenged us, both physically and mentally, sometimes taking the wrong side of a topic just to debate us. I owe these men everything I am today, and I owe my own sons the same upbringing!

That was awesome Debbie….I lost mine when I was still in high school but the lessons he left during his short time both resonate and have shone themselves when I’ve been confronted with life’s challenges.

Dear Debbie,
Thank you for sharing your beautiful words of gratitude about your beloved father, Dr. Schussel, of blessed memory. You honor your father highly,by how you live your life every day.
Thank you also for recognizing those of us for whom yesterday
was terribly bittersweet, as you said, since our fathers are physically gone. Like you, many traveled short or very long distances to be at their graves of our first and still greatest HEROS, The Traditional Father!
Your first 2 paragraphs had me in tears, the rest of your writing had me cheering! Fathers are MEN, not “mannies”, or
women. Mom and Dad were right, again 🙂

Excellent Article / I would appreciate reading more about how the “family” court Judges are directly responsible for forcibly removing good loving fathers from the lives of the children, simply because that is what the other parent wants. Ultimately, the Judges who enable and encourage single motherhood should be blamed much more so than the absent fathers.

Thanks for sharing your memories about your Dad Debbie, he sounds like a heck of a guy.
I too miss my Dad and Grandfathers. They have been gone for years but they taught me and made me the man that I am today. Fathers are the bedrock of any family and our messed up society today is a result of NOT having fathers in most children’s life.

I would like to add to what Debbie was saying and that is that a major part of the loss of fatherhood is DIVORCE and especially no fault divorce. Because of no fault divorce, it doesn’t matter what horrible things someone did to their spouse, if you have kids the man is going to get screwed badly and will NOT get custody of his kids in “family court”.

In my own life, I grew up in an Italian Catholic family. No one ever got divorced (before the Gen X generation) –now everyone in the family of that generation has gotten divorced. If you’re a man and get divorced, you lose your kids as well as all of your stuff. In my case my wife cheated on me and left me for another man. Even she admitted that I was always good to her and always worked my tail off but she was “bored” after 15 years of marriage. In court thanks to no fault divorce it did not matter what she had done. The judge was an obvious lesbian with a butch hair cut who hated men–sorry it was obvious and my lawyer told me to not say a word unless asked. Even though I never did anything wrong, she got everything, all 3 kids, and basically 60% of my pretax income between alimony and child support. I was told that if I missed 1 payment that I would go to jail. I get to see my kids every other weekend. Right after the divorce decree, her boyfriend got transferred 500 miles away. She arranged to get a job there as well. I went to court to stop my kids moving away and the judge said that my ex had a right to leave for work and I could always move too. She moved out in the sticks of Tenn and there are no jobs.

So now I make $90,000 a year and yet live in my RV and live like I work at Mcdonalds since most of my money goes to her. I see my kids once every few months because I can’t afford to drive 1000 miles round trip and stay at a hotel. Meanwhile her boyfriend –now fiance– lives with her and she uses my money to have a good time and my kids have old ratty shoes. They don’t plan on getting married anytime soon because the alimony will run out. Meanwhile he has pics of my kids all over his Facebook and they all say how I’m scum and “abandoned” my kids yet they are living off of me !!!!

Sorry for the long post, but if this had not happened to me I wouldn’t have believed it. I have met tons of fathers in the same exact boat and basically our kids were stolen from us by a prejudiced legal system. So basically my kids are growing without a father (the boyfriend is a perpetual 16 year old).
Yesterday my Ex threw a father’s day party for the boyfriend and I didn’t even get a call or card——-so yeah, Father’s Day is a sick joke anymore.

Jimmy, you described the gothic, American nightmare in 2013. I feel for you very much. Your tale made me sad and angry.

I wish you the best. I rue the day I became a feminist. By 25 I knew I was duped. I’m glad I saw the light at still a young age.

Shack-up-Studs are human vermin. They make me sick. If they are not pervs (trying to get at the young ones and not the un-paid hooker mums) they are cretinous boys who have ZERO respect for women. YUCK!

I was fortunate to marry my wife. Although Conservative, I had never really considered children before I met her. She was working as an accountant and I was an MD in practice as a psychiatrist when I met her.

We adopted two kids, as she was infertile. Now, I work and she stays at home homeschooling our two kids. I live in a rural area and make $340K per year. After next August, the only debt I will have will be my house mortgage of $200,000 minus. 9 years from that point, the mortgage will be gone. Meanwhile, we put $56000/yr away in investments AND will have a $100,000/yr pension at age 70.

That’s all due to her. My job is to be the breadwinner, she runs the household. I’m also the heavy artillery in discipline at home, very rarely used.

Men are not truly men unless they are properly yoked to taking care of a wife and children. It is what we are born to do. I have no fear of my wife being unfaithful or leaving me. My kids are well behaved. All runs according to plan.

debbie is correct. Women, might I recommend that you consider hanging out in a medical school library.

And Debbie, I was the psychiatrist for the Alabama Chain gang (among other prisons), and currently am the Clinical Director of a state psychiatric hospital that serves, among others, 3 Native reservations. EVERYTHING YOU SAY ABOUT BROKEN FAMILIES AND SINGLE MOTHERHOOD IS BORNE OUT BY MY CLINICAL EXPERIENCE WITH THESE POPULATIONS.

The Liberal approach to minorities has killed more minority children than anything so called “racists” among the GOP could imagine.