I’m all about fairy tale endings, finding your one true soulmate and all the mushy stuff that comes along with falling in love. I always try to act tough on the outside like I don’t give a hoot but deep down inside, I am a true romantic at heart (yes I admit it). So when I finally took my own version of the eat, pray, love journey and found someone I could call my own, there were a few things I just couldn’t bend on or give up. Granted, relationships require a lot of sacrifices and compromises, and sometimes you have to give and take in order to make things work (I mean it can’t always go my way, although I would like it too ). But if you find a partner who is constantly asking or forces you to give up on the following things, you might want to just say no and run for the hills, because Girl, that man ain’t for you!

NEVER EVER GIVE THESE UP:​

Your Faith and Belief Systems: Yes, this is a biggy and can destroy a relationship if you are not “equally yoked”. Let me explain: we all have our set of core beliefs, things that we deem important like our religion and faith. For many of us, our religious beliefs determine our moral compass and how we choose to live our lives or raise our future children. If you find someone and your beliefs widely differs, this might be a bit difficult in moving forward with a relationship. Don’t get me wrong there are many people out there who have found ways to make it work but one thing that is constant is that it’s an extremely difficult thing to overcome in a relationship. If he is forcing you to leave your faith to join his or religion is simply not important to him and that’s something you are not willing to do or accept, then it’s best to cut your losses and find someone who you share those core beliefs with.

Your Identity and Personality: This is just plain and simple: if you are in a relationship with someone who encourages you to change your personality or lose your self-identity, then this person is so not for you. If you can’t accept my feisty personality and alpha woman qualities or the things I absolutely love doing, then you need to get out of my life. Your relationship should bring out the best in you and not the worst. If you find yourself in a relationship that makes you feel less confident, constantly in self -doubt, with low self-esteem or if you are always mirroring what your partner loves doing and neglecting your own identity - it’s time to say bye bye to him because you deserve to be with someone who accepts you just the way you are.

Your Ability to make Decisions and Choices: One of the best things about being a grown up is having the ability to think for your damn self. You control your life and the choices you make and no one should ever take that away from you. I mean seriously, do not allow your partner to roll up into your life and force you to give up this. Like I stated before - yes, relationships involve compromising but never allow yourself to be taken advantage of in the process. Make your own decisions and conclusions. Never apologize for the way you feel – Remember to thine own self be true!

Your Self-Respect and Peace of Mind: Girl no man in this life or the next is worth you losing your self-respect, composure or peace of mind. He is so not worth it! If you find yourself in a volatile relationship or one that you are constantly being disrespected or ridiculed, then it’s time to tell him to hit the road jack and don’t you come back no more no more! I personally do not have the time nor patience to remain in a situation that defies my being. No, I’m not going to key your car or slash your tires (ain’t nobody got time for that) rather, imma let you live dude, because karma will catch up to you. Excuse them from your life and enjoy your priceless peace of mind.​

Your Dreams and Goals: Ahh this this a good one! I am really big on living a life full of purpose, and attaining my grandeur dreams (yes y’all -- world domination). I couldn’t imagine myself being with someone who would discourage me from attaining my goals and purpose. It’s extremely important to find someone who isn’t intimidated by your success or drive, someone who will support you no matter how far your dreams might take you. Never give up on your dreams to save a relationship. Your relationship should be a platform that allows you to chase your dreams rather than force you to remain complacent. If you find your light/passion being dimmed in a relationship, then it’s time to evaluate your partner and keep it moving.

What are some other things you absolutely won’t give up for a relationship? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.