Please help me! I have enjoyed breastfeeding my DD since the day she was born but recently I have started to loath it I've managed to stop apart from nap time and bedtime and when she wakes during the night. Since becoming pregnant again I cannot bear her near my boobs it is like fingernails down a chalk board it sets my teeth on edge I just want to push her away.
She doesn't even drink the milk now she just does a suckling thing and it is horrible to me at the minute! She is capable of falling asleep without the boob as she falls asleep in the car or at my mum's when she looks after her but at bedtime after she finished her bottl(she's started accepting a bottle a few months ago she had always refused when she was tiny and I expressed milk if I had to go out!) she just wants b/feeding to go to sleep. Any tips on how to recondition her toddler brain?!! I know I sound horrible but I honestly cannot bear it at the moment.

I'd like to say - Well done for sticking at it for so long! I'm no expert on breast feeding, but as one mother to another, I'd say - if you're not happy with her at the breast any longer, I think with 17 months under your belt, you're allowed to say no, and help her find another way to soothe herself. You can still give lots of cuddles and love!

Bribe her. If you are good and go to bed without .... you can have ..... in the morning. Same as for getting rid of a dummy. It cost me a couple of Barney videos to get rid of dummies, but I'm sure something like chocolate buttons or ducks for the bath or something would work.

When My friends was weaning her 2yo she wore a swimming costume as it made it difficult for her dd to get to her books! When I weaned ds at 9 months (medical reasons) I had to get Dh to do a few nights and then I came back well covered. It happened much more easily than I was fearing!

Me and DH, DD (5) and DS (3)

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Thanks everyone for the great suggestions. Guess there's no quick fix and I'll have a few difficult nights and tears trying new things. I've certainly learned a few things that I'll do so differently with baby number 2. Dummy. *cough*

No 2 will almost certainly be totally different! May be like my dd - not interested in a dummy and voluntarily gave up bf at 6 months!!!! they are all so different. But praying for you as you make the transition.

No, ds1 was the only one who took a dummy. Ds3 found his thumb, ds2 had a rabbit and ds4 still uses me....

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I guess it's worth considering, did you want to tandem feed? If you could get past this awful bit and not feel like this, would you want to continue? There are some bits in the womanly art of breast feeding, also a book about tandem feeding - you la leche league might also be a good contact as a lot of mums there will have experienced this and may have some good tips on how they got through...

Me-38, DH-41, DS1-7, DS2-5, DS3-3, and DS4 2!

"One day, I shall come back. Yes... I shall come back. Until then, there must be no regrets, no tears, no anxieties. Just go forward in all of your beliefs and prove to me that I am not mistaken in mine."
― The Doctor (The Dalek Invasion of Earth)

When My friends was weaning her 2yo she wore a swimming costume as it made it difficult for her dd to get to her books! When I weaned ds at 9 months (medical reasons) I had to get Dh to do a few nights and then I came back well covered. It happened much more easily than I was fearing!

Not sure about tandem feeding yet just want her off the boob NOW!! If she feels upset and wants to feed again when she sees new baby feeding that will be fine but if she's not bothered that's also fine!

No need to decide now! Some of mine have just wanted to have a go and not asked a second time, a few have enjoyed a bedtime feed for a while. One of them smelt when my colostrum came in a few weeks before bubs was born and started again then!