All Blog Posts Tagged 'goes' - Mom Bloggers Club2015-03-03T23:20:12Zhttp://www.mombloggersclub.com/profiles/blog/feed?tag=goes&xn_auth=noThrilling Thursday - Life after Public Humiliationtag:www.mombloggersclub.com,2012-10-25:988554:BlogPost:13099482012-10-25T12:56:48.000ZJaneane Davishttp://www.mombloggersclub.com/profile/JaneaneDavis
<div><p>Thrilling Thursday – it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after public humiliation.</p>
<p>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October has been devoted to helping people survive and thrive after a major professional misfortune. The past three Thrilling Thursday articles have dealt with <a href="http://janeanesworld.com/?p=31" title="what to do after a business fails">what to do after a business fails</a>, …</p>
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<div><p>Thrilling Thursday – it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after public humiliation.</p>
<p>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October has been devoted to helping people survive and thrive after a major professional misfortune. The past three Thrilling Thursday articles have dealt with <a title="what to do after a business fails" href="http://janeanesworld.com/?p=31">what to do after a business fails</a>, <a title="what is possible after a raise is denied" href="http://janeanesworld.com/?p=20">what is possible after a raise is denied</a> and <a title="how to survive a demotion" href="http://janeanesworld.com/?p=11">how to survive a demotion</a>. This final Thrilling Thursday of October will deal with what is possible after public embarrassment.</p>
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<p>In the workplace, as in the world at large, reputation matters. It is important to do whatever is possible to maintain a reputation that is above reproach. Reputation will get you meetings your social connections cannot make. In many instances, a sterling reputation will get you opportunities for business that you otherwise do not qualify to obtain. Your reputation is more valuable than gold and should be treated as such.</p>
<p>At the same time, it is a fact that sometimes things happen that cause public embarrassment and humiliation, a ding is placed in your reputation’s armor. As with so many things in life, preparation is the key to surviving public embarrassment. If you have lived your life and in such a way that you have created a good reputation for yourself, when you suffer a public embarrassment, you will be able to honestly spin it as an aberration, a thing out of the ordinary, rather than a true picture.</p>
<p>Think about it. Almost everyone has heard the expression, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” While this is true, if you have created and maintained a good reputation for yourself, you have created a good first impression to the world and if something embarrassing happens later, you will be able to make a satisfactory argument that the public embarrassment is a thing that out of character, different from your reputation, a thing that can be ignored.</p>
<p>No matter what the public embarrassment, ranging from ripped pantyhose and spinach in your teeth to a sexual scandal or murder charge, you can survive pubic embarrassment. As stated above, survival starts with creating and maintaining a good reputation for yourself. Survival continues with the appropriate wardrobe. When you have been publicly embarrassed, it is time to put on your big girl panties and your fake it until you make it dress and stick your head up in the air.</p>
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<p>You survive public embarrassment by moving on, not dwelling in the awful thing that happened, but instead by moving on to the next thing. At this point you keep doing the things you did to cultivate a good reputation and move on past the embarrassing situation. You have the tools, you have the skills, you can survive public embarrassment by depending upon the same skills you have been using all your life. So, the question for you this Thrilling Thursday is what are your tips for surviving public embarrassment?</p>
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<div><span> </span></div>Thrilling Thursday - Life After Demotiontag:www.mombloggersclub.com,2012-10-18:988554:BlogPost:13075542012-10-18T11:23:44.000ZJaneane Davishttp://www.mombloggersclub.com/profile/JaneaneDavis
<p><span>Thrilling Thursday - it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after a demotion.</span><br></br><br></br><span>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October has been devoted to helping people survive and thrive after a major professional misfortune. The past two Thrilling Thursday articles have dealt with </span><a href="http://janeanedavis.blogspot.com/2012/10/draft-100412-thrilling-thursday-what-is.html" target="_blank">surviving a business…</a></p>
<p><span>Thrilling Thursday - it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after a demotion.</span><br/><br/><span>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October has been devoted to helping people survive and thrive after a major professional misfortune. The past two Thrilling Thursday articles have dealt with </span><a href="http://janeanedavis.blogspot.com/2012/10/draft-100412-thrilling-thursday-what-is.html" target="_blank">surviving a business failure</a><span> and </span><a href="http://janeanedavis.blogspot.com/2012/10/draft-101112-thrilling-thursday-life.html" target="_blank">going on after being denied a raise</a><span>. Next week, the final Thrilling Thursday for October will deal with surviving public embarrassment. This Thrilling Thursday is devoted to how to cope after you have been demoted at work.</span><span> </span><br/><br/></p>
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<p><br/><br/><span>photo credit: </span><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/mullhaupt/2227129613/">C.A. Mullhaupt</a><span> via </span><a href="http://photopin.com/">photopin</a><span> </span><a href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/2.0/">cc</a><br/><br/><span>Whenever people are employed working for others, the possibilities always exists that an employee can be demoted or moved to a lower position. There are a great number of reasons why a person would be demoted among them:</span><br/><br/><br/></p>
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<div>The fact remains however that it doesn't matter why a person is demoted, it is human nature to desire to be raised up and not put down. So if one goes from supervisor to line worker, for example, there are bound to be some issues. There will be even more problems if one is demoted while a former subordinate is promoted. If one is demoted and begins working with people one used to supervise and not treat nicely another set of issues arises. </div>
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<div>No matter what the reason for the demotion and no matter who the people are one must work with in the future, it is time to get dressed: put on your big girl panties and your fake it until you make it dress. Even though demotion is normally an unpleasant experience, you must find a way to handle it with dignity and grace. There are several steps to take when you are demoted that may make handling the situation less onerous for you. </div>
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<div>First, accept the fact that you have been demoted. No matter what else you do, you must accept that fact and be honest with yourself. Next, find out the reason for demotion. If the demotion was caused by things beyond your control, stay calm, sometimes bad things happen in business, but you must continue to work so that the demotion does not turn into a termination. If the demotion was caused by your less than satisfactory job performance, talk with the person demoting you. You will need to find out the road to restoration, how it is possible for you to your previous high standing. Third, if you are demoted and now on equal footing with people you once supervised and treated without keeping the Golden Rule in mind, you have to find a way to make amends and quickly. Your new co-workers who are now on equal footing with you,will have no problem taking every action possible to remind you of your new position. There is no reason to worry about this. It is going to happen, so be ready for it and move on. If a former subordinate becomes your superior once you are demoted you will have to suck it up and start working.<br/><br/><div class="separator"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/--pp--dybVDY/UH_gCCARGxI/AAAAAAAAAmg/n4WypSsRTFk/s1600/101812++thrilling++thursday+jmjd.jpg"><img src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/--pp--dybVDY/UH_gCCARGxI/AAAAAAAAAmg/n4WypSsRTFk/s400/101812++thrilling++thursday+jmjd.jpg" alt="" width="400" height="300" border="0"/></a></div>
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<div>After the demotion, take a breath. It is time to make decisions. You must decide to either:</div>
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<div>1. accept that you have been demoted and decide to stay in the new position and work</div>
<div>2. accept that you have been demoted and decide to work hard to be restored within the organization</div>
<div>3. accept that you have been demoted and quit on the spot</div>
<div>4. accept that you have been demoted and work to restore your reputation at your current organization so that you can be in good standing so you can get a good referral when you move on to another position</div>
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<div>Look back at the list just above. One thing will stand out for you. That thing is the fact that no matter what else you do, everything starts with accepting that the demotion has taken place. Like most things in life, the road to where ever it is you are going start with knowing and accepting where you are now. Once you have decided which of the options you are going to take, move forward with a clear head, a courageous heart and a clear plan. </div>
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<div> Do the job you now have and do it to the best of our ability. Be respectful, courteous and dedicated. In other words, do your job. Once you have been demoted, you are on the company's radar, you have caught the eye of people in power. By doing your job and doing it well, even after demotion, the people who made decision to demote you will realize it was a good decision not to terminate you and that there may be a reason to restore you in the future. You need to do your job well because you should always have pride of ownership in anything you do. One of my favorite Andre Crouch songs has the line, "everything he does, he does it well." That should be your new course of action, do your job and do it well. Developing the habit of doing what ever it is you do well, is a good practice for life in the work place and outside the work place. It will serve you well in the future.</div>
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<div>In sum, with careful planning, you can survive being demoted. In some cases, it is possible to thrive. So, the question for you this Thrilling Thursday is what is your advice for surviving a demotion?</div>
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</div>Thrilling Thursday- Life After a Raise is Deniedtag:www.mombloggersclub.com,2012-10-11:988554:BlogPost:13055752012-10-11T13:17:11.000ZJaneane Davishttp://www.mombloggersclub.com/profile/JaneaneDavis
<p><span>Thrilling Thursday - it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after a raise is denied</span><span>.</span></p>
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<div><div>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October will deal with helping people realize that even after major problems in the work place, success and good things are still possible. Last week's article dealt with life after a business failure. Future articles will deal with how to go on after a demotion and public…</div>
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<p><span>Thrilling Thursday - it is thrilling to know that good things are still possible after a raise is denied</span><span>.</span></p>
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<div><div>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October will deal with helping people realize that even after major problems in the work place, success and good things are still possible. Last week's article dealt with life after a business failure. Future articles will deal with how to go on after a demotion and public embarrassment. <span>This week's article is dealing with how to deal with life when a request for a raise has been denied. </span><span>It is my hope that by talking about how to survive after these real life, major life altering, business re-defining changes occur, we will all be better prepared to deal with the blows if they come. After all, the Good Book advises us to prepare for war in the time of peace. </span></div>
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<div><span>Most people in America work for money. A popular definition for work, found on the website dictionary.com is "employment, especially as a means of earning one's livelihood." It is commonly understood by most intelligent people that when a person works, she does it in order to receive money. As consumer prices increase and the cost to live rises, if the salary paid for work does not increase, living becomes harder. Additionally, it is a fact of nature that human beings want to be able to receive increases in pay for improved performance, longevity and successful completion of tasks. </span></div>
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<div>Let's examine a sample scenario. You have had successful year. You have satisfactorily met most of the goal, challenges and expectations set for you by your superiors at work. So at your annual review, you advise your supervisor that you would like an increase in compensation, aka a raise. The supervisor agrees with your assessment of the situation and tells you that your good work, determination and dedication are appreciated, but there is going to be no raise. Several reasons are given, pie charts and graphs are offered to support the decision not to give you a raise. You offer arguments to the contrary and support your position with poise and grace. The bottom line however remains the same, you are not getting a raise. Now what?</div>
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<div>Now you have some decisions to make:</div>
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<div>1. Are you now going to quit your job</div>
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<div>3. Are you going to start searching for a new job that will meet your salary demands</div>
<div>4. Are you going to sulk around the office and make life miserable for those around you</div>
<div>5. Are you going to sit back and develop a plan that makes your move from this point forward in a sensible, well thought out manner</div>
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<div>If you did proper preparation before requesting the raise. You already started on the proper course of action for the future. That means, that before the annual review meeting you looked at several things:</div>
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<div>1. the salary paid by other companies for a person with your level of experience and expertise in companies of your size</div>
<div>2. the number of positions available for a person with your level of experience and expertise</div>
<div>3. the exit strategy if you plan not to remain with the company after the raise is denied </div>
<div>4. the amount of money you need to have on hand to cover all expenses, fixed and variable while you are out of work if you quit due to the raise issue</div>
<div>5. what you need to do if you plan to remain at the same job after being denied a raise</div>
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<div>Once your request for a raise has been denied, you have to step back, take a deep breath and then work your plan. When you were at home in the planning stages and calm, you made a plan. You figured out what you would do if you did not get a raise. You planned to either stay on the job and accept it or you planned to quit. Since you are a smart woman, your plan did not include you cursing out your boss and storming off. So now, work your plan. </div>
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<div>Let's first look at a likely situation if you decided to quit on the spot if you did not get a raise. You will need to talk to the supervisory personnel in a calm rational manner and give two weeks notice of your desire to part ways with the company. This is not the time to go crazy and tell off everyone in the place. People change jobs all the time, and the boss you curse out today, may show up at your next place of employment as a superior again. </div>
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<div>If you decided to quit the job once you found a new one. It is time to follow your plan to thank the supervisor for her time and tell her you would like to go back to work. Then go back to work and continue to do a good job. Continue to do a good job and behave as if you were planning on continuing at the job. There is no reason to let anyone know that you are planning to leave. Continue to be respectful and polite to your co-workers. Once you find a new job, give the customary two weeks notice and quit without incident.</div>
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<div>If you plan to stay at your job even though you were not given the raise you wanted, continue to put forth your best efforts. Smile each day at the start or the work day and keep a positive attitude. The reality of the situation is that in this economy, jobs are sometimes hard to come by and many people are working jobs they do not like because the need for income outweighs the need for total fulfillment at work. </div>
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<div>You can survive being denied a raise and come out better on the other side. In order to do so, you need to plan, prepare and proceed. Do not get stuck in the mud of self pity. Instead, work your plan, move toward the future you want with dignity and grace. So the question for you this Thrilling Thursday is what is your secret for being denied a raise of at work?</div>
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</div>Thrilling Thursday - What is Possible After a Business Failstag:www.mombloggersclub.com,2012-10-04:988554:BlogPost:13036192012-10-04T10:08:44.000ZJaneane Davishttp://www.mombloggersclub.com/profile/JaneaneDavis
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<div>Each Thrilling Thursday throughout the month of October will deal with helping people realize that even after major problems at work, success and good things are still possible. This week's article will deal with life after a business fails. In the coming weeks, we will look at life after:</div>
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<div>a demotion</div>
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<div>It is my hope that by talking about real life, major life altering, business re-defining changes and how to survive after they occur, we will all be better prepared to deal with the blows when they come. </div>
<div><br/>It is now, and has always been the case that some businesses fail. There are businesses that exist today and will be gone tomorrow through no fault of the creative, talented and intelligent entrepreneur who started the business. Often when a business closes, the entrepreneur is forced to go to employees and tell them they no longer have jobs, income and other benefits of employment. I have been there, I have done that and I did not like it. It is hard to go to a father and let him know that this is the last paycheck he will be taking home to his family. It is hard to go to a mother and tell her she will not be at work long enough to pick up the the clothes she has on lay-a-way for her kids because this is her last day at work. </div>
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<div>If you are an entrepreneur and your business has to shut down for some reason, life will go on, believe me. The world revolved before you opened your doors and it will revolve after your doors are closed and the doors of your next opportunity open. After a business fails, the first thing an entrepreneur should do is sit back, relax and take a breath. Before the business closed the door, I am confident that the entrepreneur spent many days running around holding her breath and trying to come up with anything rather than having to get rid of employees and shut the business doors. So it would be therapeutic to sit back and take a breather, then get moving. In other words, take a break from all work activities for a few days then as I always say, "put your big girl panties on" and get to work planning what will happen next.</div>
<div>After you have taken the breather and are calm enough to move forward, get out your pen and paper or tablet and fingers or keyboard and computer and get to work planning what will happen next. Are you starting another business or are you going to get a job with someone else. This is the time to either get started writing a business plan or a resume. Write out a detailed to do list laying out a clear path from where you are to where you want to be. The final step is to get moving. Pick up that to do list and start doing things, crossing off items and actually moving towards something. Do not get stuck in the past, do not be ashamed, move forward.<br/><br/>I have been there, I have done that and I have survived to start again. When the doors to my previous business closed, the first thing I did was cry. I cried like a hungry baby waiting for her mama. Then, I cried again. After that, I put on my big girl panties and my fake it till you make it dress and started planning my next venture. I figured out what kind of business I wanted to operate. I created a business plan and designed operations guidelines. I prepared a plan and a to do list so detailed that a stranger on the street could have picked it up and given it a try. </div>
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<div>I survived a business closing down and so will you. You have the steps:</div>
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<div>1. Breathe, take a break, a short break and get calm and relaxed again</div>
<div>2. Make a plan, decide where you want to go and how you are going to get there</div>
<div>3. Work the plan, actually work, complete and cross things off your to do list</div>
<div>4. Enjoy the success that your work will bring</div>
<div>After a business fails, it is thrilling to know that life will continue and can get better. So, the question for you this Thrilling Thursday what is your advice for surviving a business failure?</div>
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