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Friday, 29 November 2013

A day to remember for the rest of my life!

Well, it's been way too long
since I last posted on my blog. And I have really appreciated those
messages from people asking me to write again, wanting to know what I've been
up to.

Needless to say, I've been busy!

My last post was just before the
London Marathon.And I have never
got round to posting about it.So
now I will!!

I was so focused on getting a
good time and nervous about the environment, running in such a huge crowd of
people and the fear of just having a total melt down.But as is often the case, on the day I dug deep, focused on
what I had to do and just got on with it.

It was a really brilliant day and
phenomenal experience.After a
panic about how I was going to get to the start, I was offered a lift to the
mainline station, for which I was enormously grateful.On the train there, lots of nervous
people were striking up conversations with strangers.Strangers united by what we had ahead of us… I don’t think
there was anyone on the train who wasn’t taking part.A group of four Japanese women, who had clearly come to
London just to take part, were chatting and laughing nervously.

I sat opposite an amazing man,
who told me that he was running for a homeless charity.He himself had been homeless and had a
breakdown five years before.The
charity had got him back on his feet and into work, so he now raises money for
them.I felt quite humbled.

We all piled off the train and
went to our different start locations.The signs along the route, telling people not to wee in people’s
gardens, made us all laugh and eased the tension.

My friends were madly texting and
phoning me, wishing me good luck.I piled past the Rhino costumes to find out where the toilets were and
where I was supposed to hand my bag in.The big screen and speaker system was keeping us posted and the tension
in the air was tangible.

Finally, after at least two
visits to the toilet, it was time to hand my bag in. That meant I was handing
my phone over too.After a final
call to my kids and a friend, the phone was gone and despite being in a crowd
of thousands, I have never felt so alone!

I made a final visit to the
female urinals (seriously, I just had to do it!!!) and have never seen anything
so funny!Portable urinals are
clearly made for men.And men are
generally taller than women.I
walked in to see a row of women, standing on their tip toes, bare bottoms
showing, trying to wee through a cardboard cone.

And then I went to find my start
point.Alas, as I was running for
a charity, I was almost at the back.The only people behind me were the ones wearing the silly costumes!I didn’t envy them one bit!

As you may remember, the Boston Marathon was only a week
before London.The dreadful
bombing was fresh in everyone’s minds and we had a minute’s silence to remember
those people who died or were injured.It was spooky.In a crowd
of over 30,000 people, you could have heard a pin drop.And then we heard the siren go off to
start the race.It took a slow 20
minutes walk to even reach the start line.

And then we were off.It’s amazing how focused you can
be.I ran past the Cutty Sark, and
didn’t even notice it!(For those
of you who don’t know what the Cutty Sark is, Google it – it’s amazing!!).I remember the bit where someone in the
crowd had been handing out pieces of orange to everyone.Unfortunately, it wasn’t so nice for us
at the back, who had to run over all the slippery orange skins people had
dropped!

There were cheering crowds all
along the 26.2 mile route.Bands
were playing. Pubs had big
speakers with music blaring out at us.It was brilliant.I knew
roughly where my friends were going to be cheering me along and was thrilled to
actually see them!

We were given water and isotonic
sports drinks at regular intervals.I remembered the rule about drinking to your thirst, not feeling you had
to drink the whole bottle.I was
warned about the debris of empty water bottles along the route and was very
careful not to trip on them.

It was a tough run, mostly
because I wasted five minutes queuing for the toilet and found it really tough
trying to get past people.But the
atmosphere kept me going.I
remembered the rule about not walking.The rule is:if you stop
running, it’s unbelievably hard to start again.So don’t do it!

As I got to the final few miles
stretch, I was hoping to see my children.I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t struggling at that point.In my head, I was trying to work out
whether I should just say “sod it” and walk the last mile.“I could just walk.” I thought.“It’s not like I’m going to get a prize
if I run.”I was just so
tired.But then I wondered what my
kids would think if their Mum was walking.How could I let them think I’m a loser!

As these thoughts were wizzing
round my head, I suddenly heard a loud voice calling my name.I looked back and there they were,
waving and shouting at me.I could
hardly give up now, could I?!!

As I turned the corner from The
Embankment into The Mall, running past Buckingham Palace I was looking at the
count down signs.1,000km to go,
then 750km.All I could think was:
I don’t do metric!Why aren’t the
signs in miles!And then, finally,
to the sound of blaring music, with a massive grin on my face, I crossed the
line.I’d done it.I wasn’t sure of my time, but I’d run a
marathon.

Never, in all of my life, have I
ever felt such a sense of achievement.I could barely speak.I was
so confused that I couldn’t find the lorry that had my numbered bag on it.I had to be helped by a nice man who
was working there.He found my bag
for me, led me to a tree to sit down.Opened my bag for me – because I literally couldn’t coordinate my
fingers to open it myself – and gave me my drink and food.Until the sugar kicked in, I couldn’t
even make a phone call.

Then finally, a text came
through.I had run the London
Marathon in 3hours 53mins.My
target was to run it in under 4 hours, with 3h 45m being my ultimate goal.

I was disappointed that I didn’t
make the 3h 45m I was hoping for – but really pleased to have conquered the 4
hour target.

That evening, my friends came
round and plied me with Champagne and pizza.Apparently, I kept asking the same questions over and over
and was talking complete rubbish.The exhaustion and alcohol had definitely got the better of me!

It was a day that I will never forget. It gave me such an amazing sense of achievement and a massive boost to my self confidence.