Phony and Fearful Marriage Ad Campaign Hits TV

It did not take long for anti-gay groups to fight back after losing marriage battles in Vermont and Iowa. Here is an unbelievably dishonest ad by the National Organization for Marriage.

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Now, courtesy of the Human Rights Campaign, here are the actor tryouts for the bogus ad. I wonder why they could not find real people who were harmed by gay people marrying?

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HRC says the ad is set to run eight times per day in New Jersey, New York, Connecticut, Rhode Island and California.

Background Ad Rebuttal

“The Real Truth Behind the Fake Ad”

The general argument of the ad is that the push for marriage equality isn’t just about rights for same-sex couples, it’ about imposing contrary values on people of faith. The examples they cite in the ad are:

(1) A California doctor who must choose between her faith and her job

(2) A member of New Jersey church group which is punished by the state because they can’t support same-sex marriage

(3) A Massachusetts parent who stands by helpless while the state teaches her son that gay marriage is okay

The facts indicate that (1) refers to the Benitez decision in California, determining that a doctor cannot violate California anti-discrimination law by refusing to treat a lesbian based on religious belief, (2) refers to the Ocean Grove, New Jersey Methodist pavilion that was open to the general public for events but refused access for civil union ceremonies (and was fined by the state for doing so) and (3) refers to the Parker decision in Massachusetts, where parents unsuccessfully sought to end public school discussions of family diversity, including of same-sex couples.

All three examples involve religious people who enter the public sphere, but don’t want to abide by the general non-discriminatory rules everyone else does. Both (1) and (2) are really about state laws against sexual orientation discrimination, rather than specifically about marriage. And (3) is about two pairs of religious parents trying to impose their beliefs on all children in public schools.

The real facts of each case are:

The California doctor entered a profession that promises to “first, do no harm” and the law requires her to treat a patient in need — gay or straight, Christian or Muslim — regardless of her religious beliefs. The law does not, and cannot, dictate her faith — it can only insist that she follow her oath as a medical professional.

The New Jersey church group runs, and profits from, a beachside pavilion that it rents out to the general public for all manner of occasions –concerts, debates and even Civil War reenactments‚Äî but balks at permitting couples to hold civil union ceremonies there. The law does not challenge the church organization’ beliefs about homosexuality — it merely requires that a pavilion that had been open to all for years comply with laws protecting everyone from discrimination, including gays and lesbians.

The Massachusetts parent disagrees with an aspect of her son’ public education, a discussion of the many different kinds of families he will likely encounter in life, including gay and lesbian couples. The law does not stop her from disagreeing, from teaching him consistently with her differing beliefs at home, or even educating her child in a setting that is more in line with her faith traditions. But it does not allow any one parent to dictate the curriculum for all students based on her family’ religious traditions.

About the Author

Wayne Besen is the Founding Executive Director of Truth Wins Out and author of “Anything But Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth” (Haworth, 2003). In 2010, Besen was awarded the “Visionary Award” at the Out Music Awards for organizing the American Prayer Hour, an event which shined a spotlight on the role American evangelicals played in the introduction of Uganda’s Anti-Homosexuality Bill.

9 Comments

adrianTApril 8, 2009 at 5:31 pm -

this is a disgrace. My advice is to really reach out to the media big time to counter these bare-faced, slanderous lies. The old adage: repeat a lie so many times and people will believe it, rings very true.

They have this paranoia and sense of imaginary persecution, and it just fuels fanaticism.And the more they lose, the more desperate they get and the dirtier the tricks.

Here in the UK, we get the same thing – a small band of fundamentalists keep distorting the truth, getting lots of headlines about how Christians are being persecuted (by presenting only half the facts) and getting the sympathy vote. (See:

The anti-gays are getting desperate and sloppy. We are slowly putting them on the run.

JamesApril 8, 2009 at 8:58 pm -

These anti-gays are getting very desperate. Saying that it violates people’s religious rights? Well if we were to make the legal system conform to everyone’s religion, then we would have precious little left. There would be nothing to do that wouldn’t violate someone’s “deeply held religious beliefs”.

Apparently, more and more politicians are feeling guilty about not upholding our Constitution,which states, “All men are created equal,” and DOESN’T say, “except for gays and lesbians.” Since a majority of Americans now approve of gay marriage and a fairly large majority (according to a recent poll) have a very negative view of politicians of both parties, I guess the pols are looking for the one issue that can gain them a bit of favor with some pretty angry voters. It’s about time.

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