Besides my boyfriend, who is a huge sucker for big naturally curly hair, majority of my compliments come from men at work. Basically drooling over my hair. The other day at work, i was running late and had second day bed hair curls and i received tons of compliments, a few from ladies but the rest and majority were from men. I don't understand it, because i always hear about how guys don't like it, but not here!

I am black and I have 4a hair. You cannot imagine the negative comments i get or remarks like "oh, you don't relax your hair?". And most of the time, it is from other black women. I get a majority of compliment about my hair from white ladies more so than black ladies. Even my own husband once tok me he was ashamed of me with my new natural hair. He immediately apologized but the remark came from his mouth and was a reflection of how he felt about kinky hair. Oh well! I don't care because I love myself and my hair, and I know I look good. O)

This is really sad. I remember when many African American women wore 'fros, and it was a statement at many levels. I have also read about, and heard about, hair as an "issue"; at the beauty school near where I live, one woman told me she could not remember a time when her hair was not ironed. Its as if we can never be good enough as women.

I am black and I have 4a hair. You cannot imagine the negative comments i get or remarks like "oh, you don't relax your hair?". And most of the time, it is from other black women. I get a majority of compliment about my hair from white ladies more so than black ladies. Even my own husband once tok me he was ashamed of me with my new natural hair. He immediately apologized but the remark came from his mouth and was a reflection of how he felt about kinky hair. Oh well! I don't care because I love myself and my hair, and I know I look good. O)Attachment 27148

Originally Posted by rmc2

You shouldn't care what others think. I stopped caring long ago myself what others think. You know what's funny is that on a few ocassions I have complimented African-American women on their curly and in some cases kinky hair. The look on their faces is priceless. And I mean that in a good way. I guess hearing it from a white male is not something they would anticipated but I guess the "who" part is immaterial. Your hair is gorgeous and don't let anyone tell you different.

I am black and I have 4a hair. You cannot imagine the negative comments i get or remarks like "oh, you don't relax your hair?". And most of the time, it is from other black women. I get a majority of compliment about my hair from white ladies more so than black ladies. Even my own husband once tok me he was ashamed of me with my new natural hair. He immediately apologized but the remark came from his mouth and was a reflection of how he felt about kinky hair. Oh well! I don't care because I love myself and my hair, and I know I look good. O)Attachment 27148

Originally Posted by rmc2

That must have been painful coming from your husband but I'm glad you know you look good Not that it's necessary, but I wouldn't be surprised if he comes around and starts liking or loving your magnificent 4a curls (Your hair is just gorgeous). (And sorry, but chemically straightened curly or coily hair? ... Looks and feels all kinds of wrong to me. Did it for years and what a mistake.)

I am black and I have 4a hair. You cannot imagine the negative comments i get or remarks like "oh, you don't relax your hair?". And most of the time, it is from other black women. I get a majority of compliment about my hair from white ladies more so than black ladies. Even my own husband once tok me he was ashamed of me with my new natural hair. He immediately apologized but the remark came from his mouth and was a reflection of how he felt about kinky hair. Oh well! I don't care because I love myself and my hair, and I know I look good. O)Attachment 27148

Originally Posted by rmc2

I'm a Native Indian chick and I love your hair! lol! It's *gorgeous* - I cannot understand why anyone of any race would not be proud to sport their hair as it is. Such beautiful, beautiful curls - I am envious

Besides, being the race I am, I am supposed to have straight black hair, apparently - everyone tells me this ;p who cares? I have brown curly hair, and I am proud of it! I love my curls and I am so grateful my hair is not straight! Stereotypes - who needs 'em!

That must have been painful coming from your husband but I'm glad you know you look good Not that it's necessary, but I wouldn't be surprised if he comes around and starts liking or loving your magnificent 4a curls (Your hair is just gorgeous). (And sorry, but chemically straightened curly or coily hair? ... Looks and feels all kinds of wrong to me. Did it for years and what a mistake.)[/QUOTE]

Your chemically straightened is my version of cropped high and tight. Though I do cut mine every three months, I have my stylist leave it longer. I kind of like it when it grows into a 'fro-mullett combo. On another note, I don't think I could picture you in anything other than your gorgeous head of curls.

My DF absolutely ADORES curly hair. For him - the bigger, the better. He told me he had a raging adolesent crush on Bernadette Peters & has been madly attracted to curly hair since.
He always askes me to wear my hair down and make it big. He also always points out women he sees on TV with Afros - "Ohhhh look at HER hair! That's curly!"

I wish mine had more volume for his sake = but my plan is to grow it to my @$$.

Besides my boyfriend, who is a huge sucker for big naturally curly hair, majority of my compliments come from men at work. Basically drooling over my hair. The other day at work, i was running late and had second day bed hair curls and i received tons of compliments, a few from ladies but the rest and majority were from men. I don't understand it, because i always hear about how guys don't like it, but not here!

Your chemically straightened is my version of cropped high and tight. Though I do cut mine every three months, I have my stylist leave it longer. I kind of like it when it grows into a 'fro-mullett combo.

Originally Posted by bobby

Wow, every three months? Well that's should keep your hair looking healthy! Only cut mine every 6 mth.s to a year lol.

On another note, I don't think I could picture you in anything other than your gorgeous head of curls.

Thanks. It was so long ago I barely recall how it looked. But once in a while I stumble upon an old picture of myself and it all comes rushing back at me again like a nightmare haha.

Your chemically straightened is my version of cropped high and tight. Though I do cut mine every three months, I have my stylist leave it longer. I kind of like it when it grows into a 'fro-mullett combo.

Originally Posted by bobby

Wow, every three months? Well that's should keep your hair looking healthy! Only cut mine every 6 mth.s to a year lol.

On another note, I don't think I could picture you in anything other than your gorgeous head of curls.

Thanks. It was so long ago I barely recall how it looked. But once in a while I stumble upon an old picture of myself and it all comes rushing back at me again like a nightmare haha.

Originally Posted by Korkscrew

My stylist was somewhat surprised lately when I asked her to leave it longer after cutting it. Three months is about right for me. Perfect balance between letting the curls do their thing and have it look healthy. The only way I'll go short and cropped again is if I'm 55 and balding. In which case I'd ask to borrow some of your hair.

LOL thanks for the hair crush mentality Bobby I can honestly say I have a serious hair crush on curly hair in general! Keep up all your great curly maintenance.

Originally Posted by Korkscrew

Compliments like this make me feel good about my decision to grow my longer seven years ago. I should have kept it going when I did it at 14. I didn't know how good I had it. Better late than never. And yes, you too made the right decision going from straightening it to letting those lovely locks flow.

My boyfriend isn't a "hair person" , meaning he doesn't really care how I (or any other girl for that matter ) wear my hair. So I don't get much compliments on my hair. But he is always a patient listener when I need to rant about my hair woes and yays. Lol

I think the boys your around are really ignorant and you shouldn't stand for that. Date someone who appreciates your curly hair which I'm assuming is a big part of you. If they don't like your curly hair they don't deserve you.

I think the boys your around are really ignorant and you shouldn't stand for that. Date someone who appreciates your curly hair which I'm assuming is a big part of you. If they don't like your curly hair they don't deserve you.

Originally Posted by forevercurly96

Lol I am so tempted to show your comment to him. He isn't around right now. I'll be sure to pass on the message.

The reason I don't get compliments is because I'm still partly in that experimenting phase. whenever I go out and my hair freaks out ,i put it up. I hardly ever let my hair down in front of him

My husband looooves curly hair. His first wife too had wavy/curly hair, so curly haired ladies are pretty much his type He told me he had a crush on Carrie Bradshaw and used to watch Sex and the City just for her but then she started wearing her hair more like wavy/straight in the series and he wasn't interested anymore (I watched random episodes so I'm not sure exactly how the transition happened).
One time a homeless guy walking by, told me he loved my hair and that I was wearing it really well, I told him his comment just made my day and he said "I'm glad I did, I didn't make anybody's day in a long time"! so basically, within a few seconds, he made my day and broke my heart