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Explore gay BDSM- 1 person dominating 2 subs

This is my first post so i apologize if putting it in the wrong place.
Me and my very close gay friend try new sexual things together. He has done BDSM in the past, and i have had several sessions with him.
We recently thought it would be hot for the 2 of us to sub at the same time with one dom. In bed, in a dungeon? Where does one go to find a dom for this role play? I think it is hot to see his expressions and responses and talk about it after. I am in lower western CT, and NYC and westchester is accessible. Thanks so much! mark

Re: Explore gay BDSM- 1 person dominating 2 subs

Let me know when/ where you find one Looking for the same in the NYC area and it's proven to be hard to find like minded kinky guys, let alone into bondage.

There's the obvious choice of the New York Bondage Club in Chelsea which you can check out. I've never been but have heard some mixed things about it ranging for great to creepy guys who ruined the what could have been an amazing experience for BDSM newbies so it varies.

Baring that there's Recon and gearfetish.com which are really hit or miss, you do make some contacts there but getting guys to actually meetup is surprisingly difficult. Though their are a lot of crazy, creepy or even dangerous people on the internet (as in real life) so apprehensions about meeting up are somewhat justified.

Also, obviously you want to build trust with whoever you want to dom you- that is an absolute must as a first timer. Don't let people pressure you into doing things you're not comfortable with, especially as a sub in BDSM which leaves you very vulnerable if you're with the wrong person.

Why don't you ask your friend since he has a bit of experience about finding a dom? Or maybe let him try out his dominant side on you or vice versa? You already know each other and hopefully trust one another so that's something to consider. I personally think bondage is best with a lover or someone you know well but that's just me unless you really "click" with a potential dom.

BTW I know I sound like the health and safety inspector lately around the fetish fourms but also be wary of doms with "dungeons" or want to "keep" you in a "dungeon" The idea of a basement dungeon kind of creeps even me out and I'm a super kinky bondage sub. Play safe, easy to forget that when you're inexperienced (and horny) Here's more safety guidelines btw: https://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsafety.html