Monthly Archives: July 2009

Hello from the Highlands of Scotland! In case you haven’t noticed, Internet is very scarce.

Rachel is typing this letter and Deb is dictating most of it. Rach is paraphrasing and adding in. 🙂

Belfast was amazing! We got to go to a really awesome and alive church and it was a highlight of the trip. We found this great little cafe and it reminded us of Dolce’s. It was called Charlies. Of course it wasn’t as good as Dolce’s, but it was the closest we’ve found and it was great to have a little piece of home. 🙂 They had the best thrift stores. They all benefit something. Like the one was for impoverished children and there are a lot for cancer research. No, we didn’t buy Chris anything there. Tell her to hold her horses.

On to Scotland! Our plane ride was very uber short. Like 20 minutes or something. We found the Hertz place just fine after a long walk. We have a very nice gray Ford Focus. It was a little scary getting started beings we started in Glasgow city and we’re driving on the other side of the road….. with a stick shift. So far, we are all alive. 🙂

The first day we saw Loch Lomond. The banks are very bonny. 🙂 We stopped in a little town called Balloch and bought blankets. (Yay for warmth!) We slept in a little campground in Glenco where the Campbells massacred the Macdonalds in violation of Scot hospitality in the 1600s. Pretty place. We went to this little cafe thing just down the road from the campground. It was called Crofts and things and they could make a mean mocha (according to Rachel) Just so you know, We were in the literal middle of no where. Don’t be fooled into thinking we weren’t cause I found me (Rach) some coffee!

We headed to Inverness the next day. We stopped by Loch Ness on our way and there was this uber cute little boy playing the bagpipes. He was pretty stellar and pretty young. Like ten or twelve. We looked for “Nessie” but no luck. We thought that if we could get a real picture of her we could pay for our trip and My (rach) college…. maybe the adoption too…. But alas, It was not to be.

Inverness was lovely. They had a T.K. Maxx which is a T.J. Maxx UK style. They had more warm clothes for me (Rach) and shoes for Holly and Deb is thinking she’ll get something when we go back through. We searched all over creation for an adapter so we can plug the computer in whilst we drive. Once again, it was not to be.

We headed more north towards Ullapool. It’s right on the Alantic. We spent the night there and it was awesome. Everyone was so nice to us. On the way there we saw a sign for fresh fruit so of course we had to look for it. We went off the main road (two lanes) to a back road (one lane with passing spaces) to a dirt road with a sign saying beware of ditch on left. We ended up at Tolley’s Croft where Collin and Edna Campbell were manning a fruit stand. We picked raspberries, red currants, black currants, and goose berries. They helped us pick our own berries, and then gave us a jar of black currant jelly that Edna made herself! And they let us use the bathroom at the croft! They gave us hugs and their phone numbers. “Just in case!” We thanked them and Edna told us that she just thinks of her own children and hopes people are nice to them when they go off traveling. We went on our way with lots of fruit!

I saw, over there on Facebook, that Youngest Daughter wrote Birthday wishes on two walls less than an hour ago, and she never wrote to me.

I am, however, just a little relieved to know that at least, the three of them are not being held hostage somewhere without being allowed to write, call or whatever.

Today, Beloved Son in Law stopped in to take the pickup load of things for the dump. He is a good and helpful son in law, and has been in faithful contact with the girls. I asked him if he had heard anything from them in the last two days and he said he hadn’t. Then he informed me that he wasn’t really expecting to hear anything from them these last two weeks of their trip “because they really weren’t staying any place.”

“THEY WEREN’T STAYING ANY PLACE???” (I controlled my voice quite well. My panic, not so much.) “They have to be staying SOMEPLACE!!!” I said reasonably.

“No, they don’t,” he said amiably. “I think they were just going to sleep in the car. . . Maybe I wasn’t supposed to tell you that,” he said belatedly.

“SLEEP IN THE CAR?!?!?!?!?!? Are they allowed to do that???”

“Well, probably the same as here. You really aren’t supposed to, but people do it.”

I was desperately trying to find a safe place for them to be. “Maybe they can go to something like a campground or something like that,” I said hopefully. “Somewhere they should allow people to park and sleep.”

“I have no doubt,” he said with his unnecessarily cheerful grin, “that they will have a run-in with the police somewhere along the way, but that isn’t so unusual.”

He was born on Wednesday, JULY 28, 1982 at 3:46pm and weighed in at 9 pounds, 12 ounces — a beautiful chubby baby — except that he was clearly in trouble. He was as blue as he could be, and so they allowed me a quick hug, and then hustled him off to the NICU at Mt. Carmel Hospital in Columbus, Ohio.

He needed oxygen for a while, and they were waiting to see “if the cultures grew anything.” In the first two days, I would trudge down to the unit to hold him, nurse him and wonder how so plump and beautiful a baby could really be so sick.

The hospital wanted him on antibiotics, but he seemed to be fine, and they finally allowed me to bring him into my room with me. That was a wonderful day, indeed. And then thecultures didn’t grow anything, so they said we could go home.

He was a snuffling, squggly baby. So very precious.This picture was taken of him propped up in the bedjust before we left the hospital. I have wished and wishedthat things had been different for us at this particular time, but we were so poor that we felt we could not afford the“new baby” pictures that the hospital sold. The decisionwas hard for us, but we really didn’t see how we could manage to pay for pictures, send Christina toChristian Day School, and stillpay our part of the hospital bill.

So, we got a special at Penneys when he was six weeks old.Those old Penneys portraitsreally lost their colors, didn’t they?

He was a happy baby — and we enjoyed him so much!

He loved to sit by the couch and play with his box of toys.

He learned to read at eight months. . .

And the day came when he turned one.The picture that was taken right after this one shows himwailing unrestrainedly. He had put his finger into the flame of his candle somehow. Yes, we were watching himcarefully. He was just too quick for us.

Just before we moved to Delaware, they took picturesat the school where Christina was a student. I took Raphand Deborah in for their “preschoolers pictures” opportunity

“MOM!” the girls say over and over again. “We can’t believe that you would dress Raph in such an ugly out-fit!”Well, when you sew your kids clothes yourself, and even make t-shirts for them, and so does everyone else you know, your idea of what is “ugly” and what isn’t gets warped somehow, I guess.I always liked the above picture of him at about 14 months. And dear, dear daughters of mine, I even like the outfit. That I made myself. Probably while Chris and Deb ran interference specifically designed to cause a mama to tear out her hair — I mean, stitches.

There are lots of pictures of Raph over the years, and I gota little weary trying to decide which ones to include and which ones to leave out. I decided to include this one yet. His Uncle Mark was his prayer partner one year, and true to how involved and caring Uncle Mark is, he took him hunting. I think Raph was out less than a half hour when he bagged a really nice buck. It was totally unexpected —by Raph, yes, and by some of the rest of us, too.Pictures were taken, and the buck was mounted, but with that one event, our son was satisfied. I’ve often wondered what happened in his heart that day, but he put his gun away, and has never hunted since. His daddyhas never had the heart to hunt big game — but I’m not sure that even came into this. He just seemed to know that it wasn’t something that he was happy doing. And so he has seemed entirely happy NOT doing it, and that is just fine with this chickenhearted mama.

And now he is all grown upand has found the gal that is right for him, married her and is establishing his own home.

We are so glad that he was sent to our home.He balances the intensity of (some of the others!!! )with his easy-going, good natured approach to life. I used to say he was like a St. Bernard puppy — with big feet and a happy-go-lucky enthusiasmthat was hard to resist.You can see that he isn’t my little boy any more

There was a family welcome the other night for Clint and Frieda’s new grandbaby, Hannah Louise.

Chip and Susan’s precious little one.She is six weeks old.

She didn’t make much noise all night. People passed her around, and she put up with it.Charis seemed like she had really gotten large when Christina held Hannah. This was one of the rare times when Hannah had her eyes open.

Aunt Alma is a baby hog.She has some sort of glue on her hands that makes babies stick to her.Grandma glue, Mom-Mom brand.

She looks entirely too pleased with herself, doesn’t she?She did have to share.There were too many of us for just one person to hog the baby.

Hannah’s Mama, Susan, didn’t get much chance to hold her.She may have not felt like fighting with the masses.

It didn’t stop this grandma.I love this picture of Frieda.She looks so young.

Then Hannah’s Daddy got ahold of her, and it was pretty much over.

It’s funny how otherwise sane young men canbe so completely wrapped up in a little bundle that does mostly what my old Betsy-Wetsy Doll did.“Sleep, drink, wet, and cry real tears.”

The two new daddies needed a picture together.Both of these young men are exceptionally involved young fathers.This old world needs more like them.May their tribes increase!

Uncle Bert and Aunt Sarah were among the visitors.So encouraging to have them both come.

And just before I left, I took a few family pictures.Clint and Frieda both like cameras about as well as most people like snakes.But for the sake of this new grandbaby, Clint changed his shirt,Frieda composed herself for the camera when she would have rather hid,And the result wasn’t too half bad.

All of you who regularly read my blog have followed the breath taking story of our precious grandbaby and her adoption. Anyone who knows anything about adoption knows that, in addition to being a gut wrenching roller coaster of emotions, it is also something that will completely deplete a young couples savings, and put their economic climate somewhere in the “Warning: SEVERE WEATHER ALERT” status for an indefinite period of time.

With that in mind, our church family scheduled a bake sale/yard sale/car wash in the yard of our little country church at the corner of Carpenter Bridge and Canterbury Roads tomorrow, Saturday, July 25th, from 9-3. Brothers and Sisters from our church family, members of our extended physical family and friends are pitching in to see if we can help defray a small part of the exorbitant fee.

If you want more information, please feel free to call me today. I really plan on being home most of the day. My Girl Audrey took a tumble this morning, so I need to take her out for an appointment, but someone will be here while I am gone. In between that, I am baking bread, cinnamon rolls, pies, and mixing up a whole bunch of hot chocolate mix to sell. Christina and Gina are making whoopie pies and anything else that they can get my two ovens to produce in between my baking.

Charis is three months old today. It is hard to imagine our lives without her. To be honest, I try not to.

This picture was taken last night at my brother, Clint’s house.(I have a whole lot more to post from that nice time, but will need to do it later.)

We had a family cookout.My cousin, Jon, and his family came to Delaware to attend a wedding.When we found out that he didn’t really have any plans for Friday evening,it seemed like a good time to get together.

When I called Jon to ask him about whether it was something we could do,he said in us usual dry humor:“I’d be interested in something like that if we could keep it relatively small.”(That comment is SO Jon . . .)

We thought we could — especially since he did say that he didn’t feel quite ready for it to be an open house for the Greenwood community. That was understandable. However, until the evening was over, our “relatively small” group numbered 50. It was still a really good time. Here are some pictures of the evening.

Youngest Son holds his niece that he thinks is just so beautiful

Queena, glowing in the special glow of early pregnancy talks to Christina, who is glowing in the special glow of being a new Mommy

Jon’s papa is a brother to my late daddy. His Momma is my Sweet Mama’s sister. So we have the same relatives. I had invited the relatives on both sides, but this was the only Wert family member (beyond the two immediate families) who could make it. Thanks, Aunt Freda, for making the effort. You and Uncle Vernon, Rock!!!Here, Aunt Freda catches up on Ronda Weber’s life and times

This is my grand-niece, Dorie Mast. She is usually so sweet and happy.Her Mama decided to give her a taste of a bing cherry.She was NOT impressed.

This is one view of the supper tables. In the front, on the left is Joel Bontrager. Beside him is my oldest brother, Clint Yoder with his wife, Frieda. Over Clint’s shoulder is Ronda Weber’s husband, Linford, and to the middle of the picture is Joe Bontrager. You can almost see his wife, Gloria, sitting in front of him. I see Uncle Vernon up there, and part of Dave Hertzler’s head behind Edie, who is all the way to the right with a napkin in her hand, preparing to wipe her mouth.

My brother in law, Jerrel Heatwole, Sr. talks to my cousin, James Bontrager.James is often mistaken for my husband.I would NEVER make that mistake.

Here he is. My favorite. If you look behind him you can see our Mimosa tree.It has bloomed its heart out this summer. I love looking at our yard, and Daniel is responsible for the restful, attractive layout of it. He thought that this picture “showed his bald head too much.”Who Cares???

This is my youngest brother, Mark Jr.He, along witht the rest of my sibs, is one of my favorite people.

Christopher brought his fiddle. I wish he would have played more.He said that he didn’t feel right because it wasn’t announced that I wanted him to play.I will know how to fix that little problem the next time around!!!In the middle is Jared Weber, and on the right, Jesse Mast

This is our middle sister, Sarah. (She is another of my favoritest favorite people)She and our cousin, Judi, had plenty to talk about.Judi is less than a year older than I am, and I have always cared so much what she thought —about life, about people, about me. . . I love getting older. People can be good friends without some of the things that kept them apart years ago.Judi is such a good friend, and I have come to love her dearly.More than that, I appreciate her so much.Blessings, dear cousin!

Aunt Freda brought some old, old photo albums.What a trip through time.I can hardly believe those fresh faced Mama and Daddy.I wonder what those little ones were thinking.I look at the pictures of my grandparents, my daddy, and even Dawn.And I think of them THERE. NOW. Safely home.They are the ones who really have it made!!!

More chatting around the table. On the left is Sarah’s husband BertAt the end of the table is our cousin, Yaul PoderThen you see the back of Judi’s headAnd then Sarah is looking abroad for who knows what.

Cousin Bonnie had another engagement for the evening, but she skedaddled herself on over when she was finished — and we still had some good times left.Aunt Freda is a very good friend of Bonnie’s Mama, My Aunt Dottie — who has often been seen on these pages.Aunt Freda takes a keen interest in the younger generations, and here she is in deep discussion with Bonnie.

“I’m older, I’m wiser, and I have something important to tell you” is what it looks like my sweet Mama is saying. She herself wonders just what it was that she was saying here, but we don’t really remember.

About that time, cousin Paul (Yaul Poder) put his head into the ring, and Clint had some point to make,It was about this time that Paul told us a story. It seems that one of Clint’s neighbors works with Paul. So one day this neighbor says to Clint, “Do you know Paul Yoder?” Clint, straight-face and sober replies, “Uh, yes, but it’s distant . . .” This is not something that Paul will soon forget.

Far right, is Jon and Dawn’s youngest son, StephenBeside him is Kristin, the daughter who gave such a magnificent challenge at the funeral.Next to her is their younger daughter, Amber. She was in Thailand and came homeResiliant, beautiful kids. I am so impressed with the children of my cousin, Jon and his sweet wife, Dawn.They are human, they will grieve — And there are daily prayers going up for them.But – – – “We do not grieve as those who have no hope”And these kids are flesh and blood embodiment of this factThey sat around the table, playing games, talking and being so normal.. . . and yet their hearts must be breaking.At the end of the table is Jesse Mast, brother to Queena’s husband, Ethan.

To the far left is Daniel Hubbard. He and Jon’s oldest son, Robert, share living space. Jon calls him “for all practical purposes, as son!” Next in line is David Miller. He came home from Europe to be with Amber and her family over this time. This isn’t the most flattering picture of him, and I am sorry about that, but I didn’t get others. And beside him is my nephew, Christopher and then, again, Jesse.

Mark has a reputation for leaving things at strange places. Here, he is reclaiming a sport jacket that Aunt Freda somehow rescued for him after he had left it somewhere. I’m not sure of the whole story, but I promise you that it has nothing to do with Mark’s fine attention to where he lays his accessories.And Polly knows that!!!

In what has to be my favorite picture of the evening, Cousin Paul put his arm protectively around the shoulders of his younger brother and said, “Don’t you want a pitcher of me and my brudder????”I did, I did!!!Paul has shadowed Jon with loving concern and protective gentleness.The knowlege of how Paul has been so incredibly watchful of Jon and his griefreminds me again of how blessed we have been as a family.I think of Jon going home to Alabama this week, and how the emptiness has had to hit him with gut force.If memories of how people have prayed and cared and loved him is any help(and I’m sure it is) I would have to believe that this brother’s strong arm will be a source of comfort that stands out in an overwhelming sea of condolences and well wishes.

“He’s not heavy. He’s my brother!!!”

And when everyone had gone home, Christina stayed behind to help me clean up.Charis was her usual smiley, gregarious, irresistable self so we had to take a few picturesThis was my favorite: