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Some of us have experienced the unfortunate event when a loved one has been suddenly rushed to the hospital. We worry and anxiously pace as we wait in the waiting room for any news from the doctor. Moments pass and a plethora of thoughts bombard our mind, but we remain optimistic. We think about how the bright surgical lights will focus on our loved one. We think about how long it may take before we talk with them again.

Post-Op

The surgeon makes their way towards you and gives the good news that surgery was successful. You breathe a sigh of relief. You head over to your loved one’s recovery room and watch them sleep. As you stand there, you’re wondering what to say first when they wake up and wonder how they are feeling. Hours pass and your loved one wakes up. You rush over to their side and ask if they need anything. You wonder if they want an extra pillow, some water, or perhaps some food. You call the nurse and they indicate that everything is fine and that a meal will be scheduled later on the day. As the nurse leaves the room, your loved one reaches out to you.

Words of Encouragement

Recuperating from surgery is not easy for a patient. Sometimes it can get overwhelming for them and may hinder a quick recovery. We want to encourage them to stay optimistic during their treatment. Reading a book together, bringing in letters of encouragement, or by simply just spending time with your loved one can be a positive distraction. The hospital takes care of the physical recovery and we take care of the mental fitness. Words of inspiration can boost positivity. “To succeed, we must have the will to succeed, we must have stamina, determination, backbone, perseverance, self-reliance, and faith.” â€“ B.C. Forbes

Musical Healing

An article states that “There’s a belief that music and pain are processed along the same [nerve] pathways.” Music therapy is slowly being integrated into recovery rooms of hospitals. It is said that music therapy can help alleviate stress, anxiety, and the “perception of pain.” Music can even decrease the need for medications that aid patients in dealing with fear and pain. Having a personalized playlist for your loved one can inspire and also relieve them of stress and tension associated with recovery.

Laughter

Doesn’t laughing feel good? Laughter can break a bad mood. Most importantly, it can reduce anger and frustration associated with the path to recovery. Your loved one may feel depressed or angry because they feel pain. We want to lighten up their mood and distract them from the pain they feel. Most recovery rooms have television sets; tune in to something that’s humorous. Laughter can be a powerful painkiller but can also help along the healing process. Laughing can also help avoid depression.

Emotional Support

It’s not always fun bearing the brunt of your loved one’s frustrations. We have to put our minds in a state where we can support both our emotions and the emotions of our loved one that’s recovering from surgery. At times it can get so overwhelming it can lead to an environment that can halt treatment progression. It is recommended to take time for yourself. Take time to relax and rejuvenate. Take a stroll in a park or grab a bite to eat; change your surroundings for a while. By doing so, you will find that it will improve your mood and also gives you time to breathe in some fresh air.

Exercise

A good exercise routine will help maintain a positive attitude. Not only are you the guiding light for your loved one, but they also depend on you to keep things positive when they are feeling down. Exercising can promote circulation and help prepare for the day ahead. Whether you’re assisting them with their physical recovery or encouraging them to stay optimistic during treatment, it is important to always stay positive.

From words of encouragement, healing through music, laughter, and everything in between, always remember to remain optimistic and reassuring for your loved one. Remember, they are recuperating from surgery and feeling tremendous amounts of pain. When you feel overwhelmed and fatigued, take time for yourself. Taking the time will help improve your mood and help you refresh, and in turn, promote a favorable environment for quick recovery.

People can often develop nervous habits when speaking – some will say, “Ummm” frequently (especially when they’re making a speech). Many (MANY!) others pepper their speech with, “like,” which is what the infographic below deals with.

Personally, a trend I’ve noticed that drives me batty is people ending sentences with an inflection, as though they’re questions. For whatever reason, it drives me up the wall. I have, literally, changed channels and turned off podcasts because of it. In fact there was once a husband and wife team giving an interview on a podcast and as soon as I discovered they BOTH did it, I jumped up from the computer and sped to Starbucks for a Chai Tea Latte to calm my nerves.

THAT’S how batty it drives me.

Frequently saying “like” (as is the case with Ummm and making everything sound like a question) distracts from what you’re actually saying. It causes you to seem less knowledgeable and less confident. Pretty much the last things you want to convey!

Your feet are some of the hardest working parts of the body. Located at ground level, they literally have to carry your entire weight and keep you mobile. You use your feet to walk and run, dance and jump – in fact not a day goes past when you don’t use them.

Over a quarter of all the bones in the body are in the feet, which should give you a pretty good idea of how intricately they can adapt to the weight of the rest of the body as it moves around. And did you know that your feet will take you the equivalent of 3 times around the world over a lifetime? That’s hard work!

And yet, we mostly take our feet for granted, don’t we? When was the last time you lavished some TLC on your feet that went beyond a perfunctory toe clipping followed by some nail varnish? As a woman, you are more than likely to have at least one pair of high heeled shoes in the cupboard while many females routinely wear heels, often all day every day.

But however fashionable you want your look to be, it stands to reason that squeezing your feet into tight, high heels with little foot support on a regular basis is bound to have consequences. That’s why so many older women are suffering serious long-term and often painful health problems involving the foot, knee, spine and general posture.

And that’s just the women.

A recent survey has shown that as many as 2/3 of Brits suffer from foot pain, though many simply ignore the problem out of lack of knowledge about what to do to prevent or cure the problem. Issues range from minor disorders such as ingrown toenails to severe deformities of the feet.

The obvious answer is to give your feet the respect they deserve. Not just on the odd occasion when you want them to look nice for you, but as part of your regular health routine. Here’s what to do.

Be very picky about your footwear
Well fitting shoes and boots are vital for providing a healthy environment to support your feet. And it’s not all about devil-may-care stilettoes either. Even the most sensible footwear can cause problems if the shoes don’t fit properly.

“The best shoes are well fitted, have a firm sole, are well cushioned with a still heel counter that is strong and supportive, while the front of the shoe should be flexible,” says one footcare expert. When it comes to the right size and fit, “shoes should be long enough and deep enough to avoid any pressure on the tips of the toes. The shape and the width of the shoe should be more or less the same as your feet, and soles should be made of non-slip resilient materials.”
Next time you go shopping for shoes or boots, take heed. Aesthetics are important, of course, but comfort is key. A cavalier attitude towards the long-term health of your feet will have detrimental consequences a few months or years down the line, so bear this in mind and make an intelligent purchase decision that gives proper respect to your feet. While you can always buy another pair of shoes, your feet will have to last you a lifetime.

Give your feet some tender loving care
Just as you would have a beauty routine for your face and body, look all the way down your body and remember your poor, overworked feet! A footbath followed by a home pedicure can work wonders as a general pick-me-up while paying attention to the health of your feet.

Start with a relaxing bath, shower or just a footbath (ideally using a foot spa for extra bubbles). Exfoliate with a foot scrub of your choice, massaging it on damp feet and focusing on any hard skin areas. Rinse and thoroughly dry your feet one at a time and pay particular attention to in between your toes where Athlete’s Foot (myocosis), a fungal infection, can easily develop. Finally apply a good moisturiser all over, including the soles, to nourish the skin.

Next, take a pair of nail clippers and trim your toenails, making sure you cut straight across and leave the corners a little longer. Long toe nails are prone to fungal and bacterial infection while overly short nails can cause ingrown toenails. To finish off, gently smooth down the nail edges with an emery board to get rid of any jagged bits.

For all out pampering, a foot massage can be heaven. What’s more, it can increase blood flow to the lower extremities and prevent hardened arteries in the feet. There’s no reason why you can’t learn to do this yourself but if you’re after complete relaxation, it’s best to have a willing helper on standby. Here’s how it’s done.

Be proactive about foot health problems
With regular care and attention, you will get to know your feet well and be in the best position to spot when anything looks wrong. Ingrown toenails, for instance, can be caused by incorrect toenail trimming, shoe pressure or repeated impact trauma to the feet from everyday activities. In most cases, a minor toenail procedure at your local podiatrist is all it takes to rectify the problem.
Fungal infections are also very common. If you notice any discoloration of the front of the nail, thickness, brittleness or the nail lifting off the nail bed, you should go and see a podiatrist immediately. Left untreated, even minor fungal infections can cause serious nail bed infections.

Calluses and corns are caused by continuous pressure on one particular area of the foot, usually as a result of ill fitting or inappropriate footwear including high heels. Bunions can also be caused by badly fitting shoes as well as overpronation (excessive rolling of the foot in the shoe). This can cause a bony growth on the outside of the big toe as the bone under the toe moves. It’s a painful condition, often with blisters, skin irritation and joint redness as well as bone deformity.

If you notice any of these foot health issues affecting your feet, there’s much a podiatrist can do. As always, early effective intervention is recommended, so don’t delay in making an appointment.

You might think this wouldn’t be a “fit” for Self Help Daily, but – to be fair – you aren’t familiar with Stanley yet.

This book is a clever collection of lessons we can learn from cats. As a cat lover who has been surrounded by incredible cats her entire life, even I never fully realized all they have to teach us!

Below is one of my favorite “lessons.”

Do not be intimidated by bigger people or creatures. Be amused by them, and let them know that your curiosity is more powerful than their size.

People who carry big sticks and stomp loudly are usually trying to cover up for some major sense of inadequacy. You are not your physical size; you are the size of your character. When you are around people or creatures that make a huge point of demonstrating their physical proportions or material largesse, simply be entertained or even amused by their exaggerated performance.

I love the way the author (Jennifer Freed) words that: “physical proportions or material largesse.” So many people do love to try to lord over others by emphasizing the size of their body or bank account. While they can drive you crazy and sometimes make your blood boil, she and Stanley make an excellent point. What if they emphasize these traits so strongly – and often exaggerate them – because they fear that it’s all they’ve got?!

The book is filled with wisdom like this, accompanied by some of the most adorable illustrations you’ve ever seen in a book. I highly recommend this one. HIGHLY!

Seduction is just the practice of artful stretching.
Never let people know how fast you are. Appear slow in all things, and less is expected of you. When someone is on the computer too long, help them by distracting them, or walk lightly on their keyboard.

So advises Stanley, a remarkably astute cat with a keen eye for the important things in life. Perhaps you don’t have time for yoga, can’t afford therapy, or wouldn’t dare cry to mother. If so, let Stanley be your guide. Lessons from Stanley the Cat offers wise and witty maxims from Stanley himself, translated by his doting psychotherapist (human) parent, Jennifer Freed. Whether you’re a cat lover or prefer companions of the canine variety, Stanley’s warmth and insight are sure to brighten even the grayest days.

If you thought that rules for the amount of time you can be behind the wheel of your van only applies to drivers of large vehicles, such as lorries and articulated vehicles, then you’d be mistaken.
Whilst you might not need to fit a tachograph to your van, there are some rules that you should take on board. Otherwise, you could face a fine of up to £300 or even a bit of time behind bars if you are the cause of an accident and you have gone too long without a break or have exceeded the hours that you may legally drive.

In the UK, there are two sets of rules that govern how long between breaks you can go: the EU Rules and the Domestic Rules. For drivers of goods vehicles under 3.5 tonnes, the Domestic Rules apply. These rules differ slightly depending on whether you work as a van driver for a company or you are a self-employed van driver.

Why do we have rules of the road?

Why do we have these rules in place in the first place? Simply put, they make our roads safer, not just for the driver concerned but for everyone who uses our roads. According to the AA, driver fatigue is responsible for one in five of the accidents that occurs on our major roads, so a few small rules that help make everyone safer are surely a small price to pay.

Below you’ll find a rough guide to the Domestic Rules, how they apply to you in your role as a van driver and some tips on how to stay safe and within the law whilst out on the road. For full details of these rules head on over to the government website here.

If you use your vehicle as a goods vehicle then you must not exceed 10 hours driving per day. A word of caution here: you are also governed by the amount of actual duty hours per day which must not exceed 11 hours. This is actually counted from when you clock on and clock off if you work as a driver for a company. However, if you are self-employed then the time is only calculated on the actual time you are driving.

All hours must be recorded on a weekly basis either manually on a record sheet or by using a tachograph.

Driving exemptions

As with all rules there are some exemptions, for example if you are required to respond to an emergency such as a major disruption to public services (e.g. electricity, water or telecommunications). Disruption on our roads, railways, airports etc would also be a reason for a relaxation of the rules, as would being active in preventing serious damage to property or where there may be a danger to life or health of either humans or animals.

Curiously, certain professions are not bound by these Domestic Rules; these include doctors, dentists, vets, maintenance, installation, cinema and broadcasting and also all 999 emergency vehicles. If you are an AA or RAC mechanic or are in the army, you are not affected by these rules.

One more point to make regarding exemptions and the 11 hours of daily duty is that if your actual driving is not more than 4 hours within a week, then you are not restricted to just 11 hours total duty per day. However, there is a caveat to this exemption that should you exceed the 4 hours in one day, then the 11 hours daily duty will kick in for that entire week.

What, no specific rules about taking breaks?
Strangely though, there are no specific rules laid down to cover breaks during your 10 hours of driving per day except that you must have adequate rest. How many breaks and how long you should stop for is entirely at your discretion and everyone will have different needs.

We suggest that you follow Rule 91 of the Highway Code that recommends drivers should take a minimum of 15 mins break every 2 hours or so. The best way to do this is to get out of the driving seat and take a stroll, or a comfort break. Just moving about and getting some fresh air can help to relieve fatigue. Also consider getting a bite to eat or at least refresh yourself with a drink such as a coffee from a road side cafe.

The rules change again if you use your van to carry passengers, where you must take a break of a minimum of 30 minutes after driving for 5 and a half hours.

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