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Thursday, June 21, 2012

Go Ahead, Talk About Your Awesome Kid!

You know how some parents talk about their kids non-stop and act like their kids are the greatest thing ever, be it in person or online? Lots of people find this incredibly annoying. I know I used to. Then I sat down and thought about it for a while and now I don't find it annoying one bit. In fact, I like it.

I like it because there are lots of people in this world whose parents just seriously do not give a crap about them. These are not parents that brag about their kids milestones, they are not parents who take 9 million pictures of them, they are not parents who would ever update their Facebooks every 2 seconds with something witty or cute that their kid says. These are parents that could care less about their kids; parents who kick their kids out of their homes for being glbtq. Parents that let their relationships with each other take precedent over their kids needs. Parents who subject their kids to abuse of all kinds, sometimes in ways you can't even stand to imagine. Now of course, this is not to say that bragging and carrying on about your kids online or otherwise is any superior way of expressing your love for a person; but you get what I'm saying here.

Every day there are new stories in the news about horrendous things some parents have done to their children, rotten stories of cruelty, abuse, and neglect. You can see the fear on these children's faces in photos. Children that would have given anything to have a parent show some interest in them, a parent that would hold them tight, tell them they are amazing, and think they are a valuable and important human being worthy of only the most gentle treatment. And don't forget the hollow or vacant stares of these children when they grow up into fragile, vulnerable adults.

All dramatic instances aside, you then have the parents that don't hit their kids, don't abuse them emotionally or physically, but are simply too busy/disinterested to notice them. That's a whole other painful side.

So, you know what? You go ahead and love your kids. Post non-stop about them on Facebook or your blog or tell me about them at playgroups. I'll gladly sit there and hear/read about it. Because honestly, it makes me happy to see someone make a big deal over a kid. Everyone needs SOMEONE in their life that thinks they are the bees knees, and I love to see that person be one of their parents.

Remember, this is not to say that if you don't brag about your kids
non-stop, you don't love them. Obviously that's not what I'm implying.
And who knows, maybe there are some people who brag and carry on about their kids when people are paying attention and in private they are terrible to them. All I'm saying is, there are a lot worse things a person can do than carry on about how awesome their kid is. Goodness knows we need all the optimism and positivity we can get these days in this mixed up crazy world.

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