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Topic: Not the perfect Dip, but it's a start. (Read 7907 times)

I had a story from last night about someone's first bean dip I just had to share. I have a friend online who is fed up with his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend.

[BG] My friend and his bff's gf do not like each other (that's a bit of an understatement) and he is tired of hearing his friend complain to him about his gf, getting his hopes up that his friend might leave the girl, then having the friend go back like nothing was wrong. This happens all the time. [/BG]

I listened to his problems with it then I enlighted him to the greatness that is bean dipping. After I explained what it was he vowed that the next time his friend tried to complain to him about his gf he would bean dip him, as his bff obviously didn't really want advice, just to vent, and my friend was tired of getting his hopes up for nothing.

Fast forward to last night's convo:Him: So I bean dipped bff today.Me: Yay, I love that you remembered that! How did it work?Him: Well....not exactly how I planned it to. He was kinda blah blah gf this blah blah, and I just blurted out "How about the bean dip?!"Me: rofl, well...I guess that kinda works tooHim: yeah, all I could remember was bean dip, I couldn't really remember how to execute it.Me: well, on the bright side that probably did change the convo right?Him: idk, he looked at me with a funny look and said "what?!" so I just said "BEAN DIP!" in a kinda duh! way and walked off.

Don't laugh at him ! Before I became totally addicted to this site, I honestly thought that was the proper way to do it. Have you tried the bean dip was used so often around my office people began asking WHAT BEAN DIP are you talking about?

Yes, I once recognized that I was being bean-dipped (except that it was a relationship issue that I really did think needed discussing) and I said something like, "I get the feeling I'm being bean-dipped."

He didn't know what I was talking about and I didn't even try to explain.

In high school we had the equivalent, which was to say "Spike!" One of our group of friends was a volleyball player and aparently it's a term for a move in volleyball. It was a way of letting the rest of us know that it was time to move on to a new topic.

I tried to bean-dip my BIL at the weekend. We have totally opposing views when it comes to state versus private education and I really didn't want to get into a row as we were all having a lovely evening.

I basically told him that, as things were getting heated, and then bean-dipped. But he wouldn't let it go and kept repeating his question to me. So I said again: "I'm not discussing this further as I don't want to end up with us falling out, you know we're both so stubborn we won't give in" (trying to keep it a bit light) and then moved on to something else.

But again he wouldn't let it go, or again.... In the end I left the room and went to join the kids on the Wii for a bit. I probably could have handled it better but I didn't know what else to do.

"BIL, I am not going to argue about that subject tonight. But I'd love to engage you in a discussion about good manners."

Said right, it's still polite, and it's still a bean dip. And you may get the chance to gently educate him on the rudeness of trying to continue talking about a subject when the other person doesn't want to.

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For in the fatness of these pursy timesVirtue itself of vice must pardon beg,Yea, curb and woo for leave to do him good. Hamlet, Act 3, scene 4, lines 144-146 (Pursy: wheezing)

Just smile and say well this never ends well, there is never a winner so tonight we are having such a nice evening how about we agree to disagree See BEAN DIP the other day. (Insert weather, news article, sports result)