Should You Break Up If Your Suegra is a B*tch?

Should You Break Up If You're Suegra Is a B*tch?

We've all experienced it at some point. That b*tchy, super mean mami that you try so hard to like and get along with but you just can't. But what if you're serious about a guy? Should you break up if you just can't seem to form a bond with your mother-in-law? Here's what we think and what you can do.

You're dating him, not his mom, so the answer to this question is no, you shouldn't break up over a mean suegra. As Latinos we put such an emphasis on familia but everything can be picture perfect. We know it's hard, especially if he's really close to her so consider these unwritten rules to try to make it work.

How Long Have You Been Together? How bad is it? You've got to understand one thing: mothers are super over protective of their sons, so if you're coming into his life, just out of defense his mother is going to grill you hardcore. It's totally normal. But if it's more than six months down the line then you need to read step two.

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She's Just Not Trying, So You Have To
We're not telling you to kiss her ass, but show her that you really do want to form a bond. Initiate conversations, ask how her day went and try to schedule some one on one time with her. You can go shopping together, have coffee or invite her over for dinner at your place. Sometimes it's you who has to break the ice.

Talk to Your Man
Let your man know what's going on. Maybe he can be the mediator and let your suegra know how serious he is about you and what it would mean if she could at least make the effort to respect you and get along with you. At the end of the day, mothers like this would do anything to see their sons happy.

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OK, But I've Tried This, and Seriously She's Just a Damn Meany!!
Well, unfortunately these mujeres do exist. In this case, if she's just a downright negative person, the best thing to do is keep your distance because the last thing you want is for her to affect your relationship. If you have a family function to attend with her always go, but don't force a relationship. As long as you can act civil, say hello and not come between her and her son's relationship, you're good. If she sees a year or more down the line that you're making her son happy, she should come around. If she continues to disrespect you, then it's best to let it be. As long as you're not having JLO and Jane Fonda type fights, you're in the clear! The most important thing is that your relationship with your man stays strong.