1. We victim-blame.

Sorting out someone's story of being sexually assaulted by asking what they said, did, drank, swallowed or wore to cause it, is a no-no. Asking them how many times they said "no," as if one (or being unable to) isn't enough, is also unacceptable.

2. We try to force them to report.

Don't pressure someone who has been sexually assaulted to make a report. It is great if they do, but you will only further traumatize them and make them wish they had not confided in you.

Offer to go with them to do the report, ask if they are sure but then leave it alone and ask what other ways you can support them.

3. We force them to continue interacting with their attackers.

Seven out of 10 people are raped by someone they know, according to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN).

Singer, Kesha, was forced to remain under contract with a producer she says began raping her when she was 18 years old.

Children are usually most vulnerable to this since they likely have little control over their living situations.

Too many parents allow the people who victimized their children to continue coming around. Consider writer, Sharisse Tracey's story, about being assaulted by her father in her parent's bedroom.

Her mom remained married to him, and allowed him to remain in the home. She wrote in a story for Ebony,

The three of us went to see a therapist together and she concluded that my father was sorry, he would not hurt me again and that keeping our household “stable” was the best way for us to heal.

He eventually tried to assault her again and a friend came to help her leave the home.

4. We don't report children's sexual assault.

The assault also should have been reported by the therapist they went to see. While you aren't supposed to take it upon yourself to report the sexual assault of a survivor who is an adult, you are legally required to report it when it happens to kids.

5. We make rape jokes.

Let's make this really, unquestionable clear: Rape jokes are not funny ever.

6. We laugh at rape jokes.

More clarity: Even if you are not the one making the joke, you also don't need to be the one laughing.

Your laughter still helps create a culture that says rape should not be taken seriously. Be brave and correct people when they make light of sexual assault.

7. We don't believe them.

Yes, there have been instances of people lying about being sexually assaulted. Their numbers pale in comparison to the ones who are not lying.

8. We react with violence toward the perpetrator.

Sexual assault survivors don't come forward for a number of reasons. One of the must overlooked reasons is their fear of how the people who care about them will react. They often fear that they will retaliate against the attacker and create a bigger mess.

Not all sexual assault survivors can manage their trauma and manage your anger. Don't make it about you.

9. We talk about the attacker's credentials.

Your "but he was such a nice guy!" or, "but he's the captain of the football team!" is unnecessary. Who GAF?

11. We don't teach enough about the definition of consent.

It should be common sense that anyone who is drunk, in prison, mentally ill or underage cannot give consent. And just because you had sex with someone before doesn't mean you always have access to their bodies.

We need to have more conversations about this with adolescents so they know the deal before they even hit middle school.

12. We encourage the "boys will be boys" narrative.

"Boys" can be taught to treat "girls" with respect. Period. Sexual assault is not something you chalk up as a mere gender flaw.

13. We teach young girls the "he hits you because he likes you" BS.

When we teach young girls this narrative, we raise them to believe that men have access to their bodies and free reign to abuse them. We also teach young boys that the way to express their "like" is by physical violation instead of verbal communication.

14. We assume women can't be raped by significant others.

Spousal rape (also known as "marital rape" or "partner rape") is real.

Being in a relationship with someone does not disqualify anyone from their power to give or withdraw consent.

Writer Thordis Elva shared her experience of her first boyfriend raping her -- after she already lost her virginity to him.

One night when she was black out drunk, her boyfriend raped her for two hours while she was unconscious. She shares the emotional story of them working through their past by meeting up in South Africa, in her book, "South of Forgiveness."