17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?

18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?

19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?

20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)?

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24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)

26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?

9. My interest is about the same - I just plain want to be spanked at almost any time.

10. About once to twice a month.

11. NA.

12. Totally accept it.

13. I prefer a leather or rubber paddle, but will submit to anything.

14. Other - I like to have progress pictures taken, be forced to remain in position (bent over chair, etc.), and be forced to watch in mirrors (flinching is punishable in itself).

15. Role playing is definitely preferred.

16. Manager.

17. Adult.

18. Imaginary (except as noted above).

19. I like to be reddened and spanked enough over the course of a day so as to be sore for a day or two.

20. OK, but not necessary.

21. Pain in the moment, to the extent that I sometimes wonder why I let myself get into the situation. That being said, I do enjoy being restrained at the end of a long, hard spanking so that more swats have to be endured.

A great deal of satisfaction as soon as it ends, however.

In the infrequent event of an over the lap spanking, I really treasure the softness of my wife's thighs as counterpoint to the sting and pain being rained down on my backside.

22. Sometimes get an erection, but it is more likely when embraced and rubbed a while after the event.

1.20's2.professional3.fun4.outside5.no significant other6.n/a7.n/a8.n/a9.about the same10.every year11.n/a12.ashamed13.hand,brush(a little bit),thin leather strap, would like to try tree branch switch.14.corner time,made to stay in different embarrassing positions,"spanking language" on both our parts, wicked commentary from spanker when making appt.15.roleplay16.aunt,boss,wife17.adult,but treated like a child/teen18.made-up19.red20.No, but red red bottom21.Both pain and enjoyment.22.erectionLike to be spanked with other women watching, though not necessary. A variation on this would be to have a woman come in and see me standing red bare bottomed in the corner, or else bending over a table presenting red spanked bottom.Manhattan Peter

6. Several transitions: initially curious, later turned off, more recently--through patient and careful communication--obliging and committed out of a desire to meet my needs.

7. NA

8. It has grown with some ebb and flow in both directions. It is never fully quite where I want it to be, but it is better than it has ever been before.

9. Grown

10. Two-three times per year

11. NA

12. I accept it; I crave it; I will endure the embarrassment and emotional vulnerability (in the context of negative societal attitudes which, like it or not, we both bring into a session)in pursuit of my deep need. But this is a two-way street as I am fully committed to meeting the needs of my SO.

13. hand, paddle, wooden spoon, spatula, belt

14. intercourse, fellatio, cunnilingus

15. role play or no situation in particular

16. role play: wife

17. adult--for me the whole thing is about one loving adult spanking another loving adult as part of a mature, intimate relationship

18. about equally between made up offenses and none

19. pink and/or red; almost never tears; any tears would simply be around the edges, not running down my cheeks; tears would be out of deep appreciation for my spanker attending to my needs rather than a response to physical pain

20. marks are rare but not a problem if/when they occur because they have been ever so slight

21. turned on, intense, excited, almost breathless, deeply warmed with pain and pleasure; desperately needing her to remain in control of the session as we move to the next phase; final phase features deep, inimate nurturing

22. erection, leak fluid, orgasm

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23. Her typical dress is prim top but with short, tight skirt that rides higher as she proceeds with my punishment. She wears panty hose or stay-up stockings or regular hose with garter belts, also high heels.

Since she does this for my benefit, the visuals respond to my needs. I get an eyeful of her stunningly lovely legs; she places my member between her legs for maximum friction while I am over her lap and my bottom is bouncing under her punishment.

24. Our session is always completely private. Our closest friends would be stunned (but maybe fascinated) but they will never know.

25. OTK is our position of preference; it can be OTK alone or sometimes in combination with other positions as part of a longer session, lying on a bed or being bent over a table or counter top. In the latter instances the idea is to allow her space for maximum movement, more powerful swing, greater impact.

1. early 30's2. wife3. punishment-began as a way to stop smoking. agreed to 5 swats for each cigarette smoked4. inside relationship5. yes6. it was her idea now delighted with this control7. n/a8. has only grown9. grown10. weekly and occasional and at times daily if need be11.n/a12.very accepting13.hand, belt, paddle, flogger, cane14.corner time, panty play,some forced feminization, cunnilingus,rimming strapon and being deprived of cumming after spanking15.real life situations16.mommy & son on occasion17. 14 or 1518.true offences19.to tears20.always have had them 21.fear, pain and finally submission as it goes on22.soft or semi but always leaking have cum soft during the session.23.everyday wear 24.been spanked in front of others. they have been both strangers and a few friends25.risk is thriling26.wife accidently slipped and told my brother she had spanked me27.over knee or over sofa back or chair, kneeling ass in air head on bed or nose to wall28.am always spanked to tears it is our agreement the tears are the release29.n/a30. n/a

6. n/a (She would be repulsed, horrified, angry, hence the "no" on #5.)

7. n/a (I have pangs of guilt about hiding this from my wife, but after 30 years of trying to repress my spanking interest, I felt I had to act on it.)

8. n/a

9. grown (gradually over the years; thought it would abate but the opposite was true.)

10. monthly (sessioned monthly for about 3 years with pros; now in a "kinky friendship" where I'm spanked occasionally at her whim - probably every couple of months.)

11. n/a (if I were ever single again, I would try to broach it early on; wouldn't want to hide it as I do now.)

12. accepting (but private; not ashamed of my desires, but recognize it's still taboo to most people.)

13. all items listed (no real preference as to implements; like the different sensations they all impart, like the lady having a wide range to choose from as part of her creative palette.)

14. all listed, except forced feminization (obviously, the latter half of the list is only appropriate in a relationship, not with a pro; however, my ultimate desire would be spanking and other discipline followed by intense love-making.)

15. no situation (some roleplay is fun, but basically I want to be spanked by a fun, affectionate sadist, without inventing a reason for me to be spanked.)

16. girlfriend or wife (if any roleplay; my core fantasy is to be regularly disciplined by a loving but dominant wife.)

17. adult

18. none (have confessed to real offenses, but don't find that necessary; made-up ones seem silly to me, doesn't get me in the right mind-set.)

19. red

20. OK if it happens (actually, I'd love 'em, but have to be discreet at home, so have to be very limited in getting marked.)

1.37 2.wife 3.punishment 4.inside 5.yes 6.it was her idea 7.NA 8.Grown. After the first, she did it many times. 9.grown. 10.perhaps monthly; it varies. 11.i'm married12.not ashamed but want it kept private 13.hand,strap,ruler, hairbrush. 14.face slapping 15.real life (punishment) 16.it would be wife, but it's real 17adult 18.true offenses 19,red with welts,a few tears. 20.some marks are unavoidable.21.pain plus turnon 22.get hard, but she spanks until that's gone.23.everyday but feminine 24.No and NO 25.private26NO 27always otk 28Yes, it went on a long time.29.my disciplinarian is my wife.30.if I went, i'd want her to do it just like my wife does.

9. My interest is about the same - I just plain want to be spanked at almost any time.

10. About once to twice a month.

11. NA.

12. Totally accept it.

13. I prefer a leather or rubber paddle, but will submit to anything.

14. Other - I like to have progress pictures taken, be forced to remain in position (bent over chair, etc.), and be forced to watch in mirrors (flinching is punishable in itself).

15. Role playing is definitely preferred.

16. Manager.

17. Adult.

18. Imaginary (except as noted above).

19. I like to be reddened and spanked enough over the course of a day so as to be sore for a day or two.

20. OK, but not necessary.

21. Pain in the moment, to the extent that I sometimes wonder why I let myself get into the situation. That being said, I do enjoy being restrained at the end of a long, hard spanking so that more swats have to be endured.

A great deal of satisfaction as soon as it ends, however.

In the infrequent event of an over the lap spanking, I really treasure the softness of my wife's thighs as counterpoint to the sting and pain being rained down on my backside.

22. Sometimes get an erection, but it is more likely when embraced and rubbed a while after the event.

23. Provocative - short skirt, maybe a sheer top under a suit jacket; something to prompt"inappropriate behavior."

24. No, Yes, Strangers.

25. Risk.

26. No, except if you count detection as outing.

27. OTK, over chair, kneeling on all fours with face and upper body flet on bed.

15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? Roleplay

16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; boss,

17. What age do you like to play when being spanked:adult

18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? Made up

19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: red

20. How do you feel about marks? okay if it happens

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, then pain

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? Erect or semi-erect while she's lecturing me and telling me what she's going to do to me but then soft when the spanking begins

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23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer: Skirt and blouse - I like when she sits in the chair, lowers my pants and then makes me wait as she rolls up her sleeve.

24. Have you been spanked in front of others? Just once - the woman that was spanking me had another woman (that I didn't know) come over to watch. I liked the embarrassment of that.

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? Would never want to be outed.

26. Have you ever been outed? No

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? Any OTK position

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) NO

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? I see two regularly - they have different spanking styles.

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? I like to feel that they are enjoying spanking me.

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One other question - When the spanking begins do you like the disciplinarian to continue with the lecture? No I like to be made to concentrate on what she's doing to me

1 50,s2 wife3 foreplay4 inside5 yes6 curious7 n/a8 grown9 grown10 monthly11 n/a12 accepting13 only two-hand followed by brush14 intercourse15 roleplay16 wife17 adult18 made up or none19 all 3 but wife hasn't got me to 3 yet20 okay if it happens21 enjoyment, satisfaction22 erection sometimes, but usually soft until after23 provocative24 no25 private26 no27 otk scissor-lock and when she switches to the brush, arm held up my back as well28 not yet, but I SO want to, and my wife does promise that one day she will spank me so that I will be blubbering over her knee, Yes please.29 wife only, variety in roleplay30 n/a

A question, has anyone given or recieved a spanking that started out as fun or roleplay but turned into a full-bloodied real spanking and what was the result?

1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? Age 29- 0r 30. 2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?A professional3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?Spanking Play.4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? Outside5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? No Sig. Other6. If so, what was her response to it? n/a7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? How do you deal with it, emotionally?n/a8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?n/a9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?Grown10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? Every six months11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? I don’t date.12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?Yes.13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand,– slipper, hairbrush, paddle, strap, flogger, and especially a broad leather paddle .14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: temperature taking, prostate massage, butt plugs, strap-on, rimming, enemas, suppositories.15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?Roleplay or no situation, just a spanking!16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; mommy, aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, nun, priestess….17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?Tee or adult18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?NONE19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?red20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)no thanks21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, otherpain and turned on 22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER usually soft—on very special occasion will have an erection

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23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)conservative or everyday casual24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?NO25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)Private26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.NO27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)on bed with bottom propped up,28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? NO (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?Simi-regularly30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?Loving concern

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#1 40`s(wanted it before did not ask for it)#2 Wife#3 foreplay#4 inside#5 Yes#6 obliging (at first)#7 Yes (but does not know everything)#8 Lessened a lot#9 increased a lot#10 monthly (or longer)#11 N/A#12 Accepting#13 Hand, anything leather, No canes!#14 prostate massage, strap-on, rimming, (would like to try forced feminazation, and forced pleasuring of the spanker(any)#15 both#16 Aunt , friends mother, wife#17 teen#18 all of the above#19 Red (bright!)#20 ok if it happens#21 all of the above#22 erection, have come close to orgasm#23 matronly, provocative, leather, (Or Nothing!)#24 Yes and Yes (as long as the others were livestyle)#25 private#26 No#27 OTK bent over chair or back of sofa, over edge of bed, kneeling on all 4, laying flat. (or restrained bent over what ever is available)#28 No (I would like that to happen, but it may not)#29 No, Yes, (none close by)#30. variety, caring, someone I like and respect.other idea:Would you like to be well spanked and forced to give sexual pleasure(s) to your partner (my answer is yes)

1. 20s2. Girlfriend3. foreplay4. inside5. Yes6. Obliging7. N/A8. Lessened9. About the same10. every 6 months11. N/A12. Accepting 13. Hand, brush, paddle, belt, ruler, wooden spoon, spatula, switch14. rimming, intercourse15. roleplay + no situation16. Aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, wife, babysitter17. teen + adult18. Made-up and none19. Red20. No thanks.21. All at the same time.22. Other - I start with an erection, lose it as the spanking becomes more painful, and get it right back afterward.23. I prefer prim or matronly or conservative or everyday casual basically fully dressed in regular clothes - not fetish wear.24. No, yes, people I know (women only)25. Both26. No although my wife once hinted at it in a conversation with a gay friend. 27. OTK, over a chair, Kneeling on a chair, over the end of the bed28. No29. No.30. N/A

14. temperature taking, cunnilingus, corner time, face slapping during the scolding, and intercourse for a foreplay spanking.

15. real life and roleplay

16.wife

17. adult

18. true and made-up

19. that depends on the type of spankingforeplay; pink to redattitude adjustment; red to red +severe punishment; red+++with tears

20. okay if it happens. with attitude adjustment and punishment spankings I always have marks. sometimes for a week or more. looking at those marks days after the licking are a big turn on for me.

21. feelings range from turned on to remorse for wrong doing depending on the severity

22. reaction ranges from erect to limp depending on severity. severe punisment spankings have no sexual pleasure for me. at least not while they are going on.

23. i prefer provocative with bare breasts, but for real punishment i get matronly and conservative.

24. I've been spanked, severely, with my sister-in-law present in the house but not in the spanking room. I'm sure she heard everything and she saw the aftermath. She saw my red and bruised behind draped over the bed, propped up on pillows, with my legs spread apart by the corner of the mattress and a chilled thermometer deeply inserted in my rectum. Her only comment was "OH MY! THAT'S A VERY RED BACKSIDE" She never said another word about it.

25. both

26. Yes. my wife told her two sisiters that she spanks me. She's threatened me with the woodshed in front of them, and as you read in #24, she's given me a well deserved strapping while one of them was saying with us and let her look at my spanked ass.

27.I prefer flat on the bed therefore i don't get that. I get on the bed, on all fours, head down, ass up and legs spread apart.

28. Yes. I think the pain and the remorse for wrong doing contributed equally to the tears.

29. well, I live with my spanker and I see her every day.

30. n/a

Is your face slapped during scolding?Who prepares you? Are you totally naked?Who decides when the spanking is over? I sure don't. Not ever!

male, 53, married1. 432. aquaintance3. fun4. outside5. oblidging, playful8. N/A9. grown10 every six months12 no13 hand, paddle, ruler, strap12, corner time, panty play, prostate massage, strap on, felatio, cunnilingus, intercourse, jerking off15 no roleplay18 usually play offenses, but would like to try rea19 red, would like to try to tears20 proud21, sometimes turned on, enjoyment, relaxation, pain22 usually I remain soft, but I have been known to get hard with the right teasing..23. provocrative or sexualNo, yes. She has teased me about watching another woman use a strapon on me. I wouldn't mind being spanked in front of or by her girlfriends25 private26 almost27 over her bare or nylon covered thighs, over a chair, on the bed, over the car28 almost. Would love to feel what it is like

1. 20's2. pro3. punishment4. outside5. yes she does but basically chooses to ignore it6. repulsed7. no8. n/a9. mostly grown but the urge does have it's peaks and valleys10. once or twice a year11. n/a12. both13. hand, brush paddle14. i'd try all those that you mentioned. 15. roleplay or real life. but the rl must be real.16. aunt, teacher, neighbor friends mom17. late teen to early adult18. all19. i'd love to get to real tears but so far have not20. ok if it happens and wife is away for a while lol21. turned on beforehand, pain during and afterwards depending on the experience, releif, good to what a dope i was.22. leak23. all except the leather24. no but would try it with trusted friend of spanker25. private26. no27. all but especially those where i have no control28. no29. i would prefer regular spanker but sometimes doesnt lend itself30. trust and communication build over time. spankings get better and better.

5. Don't have a present significant other. My former wife and I played spanking games during courtship, for five years while we loved together and then after two years of marriage, she announced that she didn't like it. So, had an essentially sexless marriage (great for raising one child) until I decided that I didn't want to be sexless for the rest of my life. Answered an ad. Led to a torrid, spanking sexual relationship for four years which both led to a divorce and end of the other relationship because she decided -- despite a deep emotional involvement -- that she wanted someone younger and richer.

5. N/A She did.

6. N/A

7. N/A Presently. No at the beginning and then yes toward the end of the marriage. Was both giving and getting.

8. See 4 above.

9. My desire both ways has remained constant at a very high level.

10. When I was having my affair, about twice a week. Now, mostly at parties, although I had been dating two people one of whom i introduced to spanking and she enjoyed it greatly and the other was already into it both ways as I am, but wanted more of a relationship than I could give her.

11. Almost immediately. It's at the core of my sexuality and I've found that any woman whose bottom is an erogenous zone can be introduced and enjoy spanking. Going the other way is harder, since it involves to some a psychological adjustment.

12. Accepting. Was furtive. Now I'm too old to care about what others think. Don't advertise but also don't hide. It's just who I am and it is something that perhaps millions enjoy.

13. Hand.

14. Ideally sex. Spanking is, to me, fun, erotic and sexual. If it can be part of lovemaking so much the better.

15. Real life, spontaneous, but also could do role play.

16. Adult

17. Made up.

19. I believe the allure of spanking is to inflict or receive a pleasurable sting, which, depending on the day, can be pink or red, but tears are not part of my desires either way.

20. Not interested, but some people park easily an if that's not creating long-term discomfort then it's OK.

1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 30's

2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional? Professional

3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay? Fun

4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? Outside

5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? Yes, my current partner knows but reluctant though not opposed to the idea

6. If so, what was her response to it? curious

7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? No

8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A? Not discussed with her lately. The last time we agreed to put off the discussion for later.

9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? Has remained same or maybe even grown to an extent

10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? yearly on an average

11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? I did it in 6 months into my current relationship

12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire? Accepting

13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand,slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler,flogger, whip

14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: verbal sympathy and caressing

15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? role play

16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be - sort of an executioner carrying out a sentence on me. Usually a sentence for the good of community or wrong accusation, therefore the sympathy from the executioner.

17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult? Adult

18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? As above

19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears? To tears

20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)Okay if it happens

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other - Turned on while being stripped and put in position, followed by Pain and then turned on again while thinking of the entire session

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? Remain soft

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23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer - prim or everyday casual

24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No

Would you be willing to be? Yes

If yes, strangers or people you know? Either

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? There are some who I hope will find out and be willing to spank me

26. Have you ever been outed? No

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? OTK, over chair, on couch, on bed with bottom propped up, on a spanking / caning horse or bench

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? Yes, canedIf so, what caused it? Excessive pain,

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Infrequently Do you seek variety? Yes

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? Full understanding of my fantasy and natural creativitity rather than just follow a script

1 45 after a few years urging2 Wife3 Punishment4 Inside5 Yes I mean I'd dropped so many hints6 Obliging and a bi curious7 N/A8 Grown9 Grown10 Varies but twice a year11 Varies12 Accepting [the older I got the more it grew, and yes was spanked as a child]13 Hand slipper14 That she wears stockings [so that I can feel the suspender as lie over] and that I am sent to the corner. This mnst be a thowback to my mother some 40odd years ago15 Roleplay16 Aunty17 Adult18 One true happening19 Pink/Red20 So be it21 Humiliated, embarasment yet a form of enjoyment22 Remain soft and just enjoy the mment23 As long as its a dress I'm not that pussed24 No [well as a child once], No25 Private26 No27 otk over one knee legs split 28 once we where visiting her family and I had one to many and made a show of myself and to end it all I got sick over her new dress when she reading the riot act when we got home. She spanked me sober then put me in the corner for a half hour and spanked me again until I broke downm and balled. I'm serious but I had to sit on cushion for 2 or 3 days 29 No30 As I get from my wife but I don't thnk it would be the same

1. 252. Wife3. Foreplay4. Inside5. Yes6. Obliging7. N/A8. Grown9. No change10. One or twice a week11. N/A12, Both13. Paddle14. I like to wear panties before being paddled and always have intercourse afterwards.15. Any or all is fine with me16. Teacher, boss, neighbor, wife, all work for me17. My bottom is a teenager and my mind is adult18. Either19. Red20. OK, if it happens21 Very turned on22. Always erect, before, during and after23. Any of these are fine with me24, Yes, Yes, people I know25. Both26. No27. Kneeling with nose to the floor is greatI also like to bend over the bed keeping my legs straightMy wife likes to paddle me OTK28. Not as an adult29. N/A

1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 30's

2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional? Wife

3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay? Fun and then turned into punishment after sharing the DWC site and videos with her.

4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? Inside. We were and still are married.

5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? Yes, and she administers them when she feels they are appropriate.

6. If so, what was her response to it? Try it and see where it goes.

7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? NA

8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A? About the same.

9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? The desire is there, but there is a sesnse of relief now that she knows and puts me over her knee.

10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? 1.5 times per month.

11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? I hinted at it when we starting dating. I told my wife four years into our marriage.

12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire? Accepting, but do sometimes feel a little self-indulgent.

13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand or paddle

14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: a stern talking to, corner time. My wife prefers me to keep my briefs on and swat the seat of them. She feels it makes me look like a young boy and I should feel some humility.

15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? real-life and sometimes role play

16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be - perhaps be a school teacher or have some sort of authoritative position.

17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult? adult

18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? any offence

19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears? stinging and pink

20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please) okay if it happens

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other - turned on which leads to further embarrassment

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? an erection at first and then it sometimes goes soft but leaves a wet spot on the front of my briefs

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23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer - casual or mom-like

24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No

Would you be willing to be? No

If yes, strangers or people you know? NA

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? If they find out I don't think I would mind.

26. Have you ever been outed? No, but my wife has hinted it to others.

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? over my wife's knee.

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? No.

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? NoDo you seek variety? No

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? NA

1. Late teens 2. Girlfriend 3. Fun well kind of. Actually it was payback. I had recently spanked her (she dared me to and she had been teasing) but although it was very short - she thought it was too hard. So she got her revenge.

4. Inside

5. No

6. not interested

7. N/A

The Internet - chat and forums - has been marvellous at helping me deal with what really is a sexual orientation.

26. Went to stay with lady friend and her family. Neighbour came out and said "Who's this the Vicar", indicating me."No" she said, "I assure you he's no vicar, his girlfriend spanks him all the time." I had no idea that girl had discussed it with her.

1. Late Teens2. Friend3. FunSomehow it came up that I liked to be spanked and my friend was interested enough to actually spank me with a belt as I did housework. She never took me past the point of good, stinging pain so I had a lot of fun.4. N/A5. N/A (Yes)6. N/A (Obliging)7. N/A8. N/A (Lessened)9. GrownI'm not in a relationship presently but all of my past girlfriends have been obliging at best. This probably contributes to the growth in my desire to be spanked, though it does wax and wane over time.10. Every six months, though I like it more often than that.11. First few dates. No sense in wasting their time if they aren't into it.12. Accepting. This doesn't mean that I'm completely without embarrassment when it comes to my desires, though. 13. hand, belt, ruler, flogger, tawse. I'm curious about the slipper. I've only been paddled a couple of times but it was highly effective. Ditto the hairbrush, which is in a category all its own due to the intersection of its effectiveness with its huge symbolic undertones of F/m discipline.14. Strap-on, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, fellatio. Strap-on is divine but any sexual activity after a spanking is particularly intimate for me.15. role-play and no situation. Real life situations may work as well but I've not dated anyone into domestic discipline. Does "I just want to spank you" count as a real life situation?16. Teacher, boss, neighbor, therapist, girlfriend, wife, coworker17. Adult18. Made-up offenses or none19. pink or red. Don't know about being spanked to tears because I've never been there.20. Okay if it happens. They're not a requirement for me but the few times that I've been marked I've invariably admired them in appreciation later.21. Turned on, enjoying it, pain, satisfaction. At first, I'm turned on and very much enjoying it. At some point the pain takes over and remains the dominant feeling for the rest of the spanking. After the spanking is over, satisfaction quickly replaces the pain and it's not uncommon for me to become turned on again.22. Erection. I start with an erection but that fades rather quickly, though it might leak some fluid before it does.23. If there's role-play involved then the dress can be anything appropriate to the role-play. If there's not any role-play involved then prim is probably the closest to what I like: skirt, blouse and thigh-highs or hose.24. No. Yes, if it's people that I respect and trust to properly appreciate the scene.25. Private though this is really an N/A question since most people who know me fairly well pick up on this aspect of me. Generally, though, I like to keep people guessing. :D26. Yes. As I mentioned above, many people are able to intuit my masochism and I've yet to have a girlfriend that doesn't talk about my odd tastes at some point or another.27. OTK, OTK scissor lock (almost necessary for a real spanking session; I usually can't help but squirm over time), over couch/ottoman, over desk28. No29. Not yet, no30. If I ever go to a professional disciplinarian my hope would be that she would be able to form an accurate picture of my limits, needs and desires. As long as she had that the result would be bound to be one smoking hot spanking!

23. prim, matronly, conservative24. no, hav not ben spanked in front of others. In my fantasies, yes, in front of strangers25. Risk, excited by it26. I don't know what "outed" is, sorry, English is not my native tongue27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, on bed, with bottom propped up, tied down over kitchen table28. no29. no, have not been seeing a disciplinarian, but I do seek variety in different ways30. A strict no-nonsense type, preferably old/er, skilled verbally, beeing able to make me feel small and ashamed, commanding, making me cry

1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 30's

2 It administered by my wife.

3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?Combination; fun and foreplayIt was inside of an existing committed relationship

5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? (Yes,

6. If so, what was her response to it, Varied from not interested to at times repulsed)

7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? No

How do you deal with it, emotionally?Very difficult emotionally, tends to ad tremendous guilt to the spankings I receive outside thus reducing any possible rewarding feelings I could receive from them

8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?Grown thanks to the quality of your books and websites

9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? grown tremendously, like the surfer always seeking the “perfect spanking”

10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? Every 3 to 4 weeks, or when I throw a hissy fit for not getting one; whichever comes 1st

11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? (first few dates, 1-3 months, 6 mos - one year, first few years, many years later, NEVER)

12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?Not anymore thanks to people like you

13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with:hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, switch, wooden spoon

14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: corner time, panty play, minor forced feminization, strap-on, cunnilingus, intercourse, scolding15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, Combination of both

16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; teacher, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife,

17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?14 to 16 y/oYoung AdultAdult

18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?Both

19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?We have progressed to the stage that I would love it if she could bring me to tears

20. How do you feel about marks? okay if it happens,

21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain.Hopefully in a good session, all of the above

22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm,I have experienced all of the above

24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No) Would you be willing to be? I like to believe so provided they were strangers and they discovered us accidentally

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? The risk of potential discovery is exciting and always in the back of my mind

26. Have you ever been outed? No.

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK, over chair, on couch, over arm of couch, spread across the table, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, over corner of bed , kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on chair, across a hassock

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? No, but getting closer?

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly?Not really perhaps 1 or 2 times a yr if things are difficult at home

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian.

24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know? Yes plenty of times, and strangers, and people we know. Am sometimes spanked by wife's girlfriends

25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)

BOTH26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe. NO

27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?) Any and all

28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?) Yes by my wife, it was once, and it was the mood of play.

29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety? Don't visit them anymore

30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?

26. Yes, 50th bday Vegas. Wife told me it was time to go to our hotel room. I was stripped naked and made to bend over a couch. Their is a knock on the door. I start to go hide, my wife says stay right there. I do she opens the door to a good looking female 30ish she was a room service waitress. She comes in sees my bent over legs spread naked bodie with a hint of pink on my bottom. My wife tell her that its my birthday and I'm being spanked. She giggles and says that will be whatever it was do you want to charge it to the room. My wife says no I would like the naughty boy to get his wallet and give you cash if thats ok with you. She giggles again and says sure. I go to my wallet which exposes my front side I'm totally embarassed. Hand her the money with a big tip and my wife spanks me 4 times with her hand and tells me to assume the position. They chat a little and she leaves giggling. Later she had 2 escorts up to the room and it was hot.

27. on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up,kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees,bent over a chair or couch

28. yes the role play was a young age

29. one, yes

30. Her to play her role and punish me red and then take me with a strap-on.

8.Grown. My wife seems a bit shy on the subject and she is reluctant to initiate what I call a “formal” spanking session, but will oblige if I ask. By formal spanking I mean a spanking where she is fully dressed or dressed in lingerie and I am naked, and there are spanking implements used. I don’t think she will admit it, but I think that she finds spanking me sexy, for her body gives me clues. For my fortieth birthday, I asked her for a formal birthday spanking. She dressed up for me, in a sexy dress, high heeled boots, and black lace top thigh high stockings. After she gave me forty whacks with a wooded spatula, I was left with a red rear end and a throbbing erection. So I took her upstairs to the bedroom, helped her out of her dress. There she was, on the bed wearing only her stockings and high heeled boots. Lets just say that I found her very wet. Although my wife is reluctant to initiate formal spankings, I am glad to say that spanking has become a regular part of our love making. During intercourse, whenever I am on top, my wife will give my rear end a good spanking with her hand! There is no reluctance on her part when we make love. I think she is more comfortable with initiating a spanking in the fits of passion then the formal spanking sessions.

9.Grown

10.Weekly

11.NA

12.Ashamed

13.I love when my wife spanks me with her hand during intercourse. I also like to be spanked with the wooded spoon, the belt, bath brush, ruler, ping pong paddle, wood spatula, paint mixing paddle and, of course, the hairbrush.

14.I like spanking during intercourse, as I have mentioned above. I also think that cunnilingus is a perfect compliment to a good spanking. Few things are better than when I have a glowing warm rear end from a formal spanking session and I am going down on my wife to show my appreciation. As I pleasure her with my mouth, I love to find her all wet after she has given me a good spanking. The oral sex between us is mostly non-reciprocal, for my wife does not enjoy performing fellatio, and this adds to the experience for some reason I can’t explain. After a spanking, I have also enjoyed masturbating in front of my wife and having her step on me with her high heels.

15.No situation

16.NA

17.Adult

18.I do not like to be spanked for offences, but I will submit to a spanking from my wife for any reason she wants.

19.Red

20.Marks are OK if they happen.

21.Turned on

22.While receiving a spanking during intercourse, I am fully erect and finish with an orgasm. For non-intercourse spanking it varies. Before and after a spanking I am erect. During the spanking sometimes I am erect, and sometimes I am soft, usually during harder spankings. I am always leaking fluid drops.

23.I like the spanker to be dressed sexy, but not overtly so. I would like her dressed in the manner of a sexy secretary, or a hot librarian. High heels, tight pencil skirt, silk blouse, and a nice form fitting dress. Stockings and garters or thigh high stockings a must! Sexy lingerie is great dress for a spanking also. I find being naked in front of a fully dressed woman, or a woman in lingerie a turn on.

24.I have not been spanked in front of others, and I would not be willing to.

25.I like to keep our spanking private. The only exception might be if we went to shop that sold spanking implements. I might be willing to do that.

26.I have never been outed.

27.I like the over chair, on couch, standing, on bed laying flat positions but my favorite is OTK.

28.I have never been spanked to tears. I like spanking for erotic fun only.

MAle /60/Married1. 40s2. Wife3.Foreplay4.Inside5.YES!!!!!6.Reluctantly Obliging7.Not Aware....Lots of guilt8.N/A9.Grown10.every other month...(at best)11.N/A12.Accepting now...after initial shame13.hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, Switch, 14.corner time, panty play, MILD forced feminization, cunnilingus, intercourse.15.Role Play...and real Life16.neighbor,teacher,girlfriend, wife,17.Teen and Adult18.MAade Up19.From Red to tears20.ok if it happens21.Starts as pain and evolves to enjoyment,turned on, 22. leak fluid, and sometimes orgasm23. all of the above24.NO....Think I'd like to try???? If not in fromt perhaps within ear shot....strangers25.Like the risk of others finding out provided they are not people we know26.NO27.OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, Across end of bed, over a hassock28.NO29.Only looking for it from my wife30. N/A

Male, 47, married.1. 20's2. Neighbour3. Fun4. Outside5. Yes6. At first she was Obliging, Now she is Delighted7. N/A8. Grown with time 9. Stayed the same10. Weekly - monthly11. 1-3 months12. Yes13. Brush, bath brush, slipper, paddle, cane, ruler, 14. Corner time, panty play, cunnilingus, intercourse, 15. Both, but prefer real life16. Aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife17. Teen, adult18. True offences 19. To tears20. Yes please21. Pain22. Get an erection, become soft, leak fluid23. Prim, matronly, conservative, 24. No / Yes if people I know25. Risk 26. Yes, an ex g/f who thought it was wrong, told a mouthy all-man-type friend of mine. But he had previously emigrated, so was only an online friend and no longer in my circle of friends.27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, over chair, standing with hands on knees28. Yes - felt I had disappointed my wife29. No / but have in past30. That she does not let me off and does it for real

Male, 50, Married1. 40's2. professional3. fun and foreplay4. Outside5. Yes6. Repulsed7. No and emotionally that bothers me (especially since our intimacy would be so enhanced) but I have needs8. N/A9. Grown10. every sx months11. N/A12. Accepting13. hand14. seduction, tease, denial for long time but ultimately playing with her breasts and/or spanking her, handjob, fellatio! The more women the better!15. Roleplay or anything16. teacher, boss, neighbor, girlfriend, wife, police officer, secretary or sexretary, massage therapist, doctor, waitress, nurse, wonderwoman....17. adult18. made-up ones or anything19. red20. no permanent marks otherwise okay21. turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, and pain22. get an erection23. prim, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff24. Yes! Yes! Strangers would be great; People I know would be sooo very hot!!!25. Both26. No but I really want to be27. OTK, over chair, over desk, tied up! As long as manhood and balls are hanging free for added vulnerability, exposure, and clarity about my excitement that I can't hide.28. No.29. Yes. Yes.30. I've written reams and reams. Basically, seduction, tease, denial (for a long time), and eventual release. All enjoyable (not stern or mean or angry) and catching me in situations I can't wriggle out of.

1. 30s2. wife 3. punishment and fun4. committed relationship - Inside5. Yes6. obliging7. N/A8. somewhat grown over time9. grown over the years10. every few months11. N/A12. both ashamed and accepting13. I prefer to be spanked seriously with a brush, paddle, or belt14. corner time15. role play and real life situations16. mommy, aunt, teacher, friend's mother, girlfriend, wife17. teen or adult18. both true offence and made-up ones19. very red to sometimes tears20. marks are fine, but she worries about them21. turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, and pain, all at the same time22. sometimes I get an erection23. prim, matronly, and conservative - a Southern matriarch is my preferred 24. No and No25. keep this totally private26. No27. OTK, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, and standing28. Yes, caused by pain, but I wanted it29. No30. I would not want to be spanked by anyone but my wife

Male, 64, Married1 302 girlfriend3 foreplay4 inside5 Yes6 Delighted 7 N/A8 Grown9 Grown10 Monthly11 N/A12 Accepting13 Hand, leather of all kinds (floggers, paddles, straps), hairbrush14 Corner time, punishment panties15 Like RL and roleplay and spanking parties16 Like all kinds of spankers - mommy, aunt, babysitter, boss, cop, doctor, dominatrix, therapist, teacher, neighbor, friend17 Like to be little when mommy, aunt, babysitterLike to be teen when teacher, neighbor or friendLike to be adult when other roles18 Most role plays are for made up crimes, but sometimes a few have overlapped to real reasons for spankings gladly given by them.19 It depends on situation and type of spanking being given - pink/red for most play; sometimes tears have happened for both play and RL20 marks sometimes happen or don't and that's just the way it is21 Enjoyment for fun and good boy spankingsContentment and warm feeling when know being spanked for my own good, even though it hurts like heck22 Often start out with erection at thought of getting spanked and then lose it when real spanking begins. Have regained erection and even come during a punishment spanking.23 I like the dress to fit the role if playing - can be anything from jeans and boots to latex/leather catsuit and everything in between.24 Yes - both known and unknown witnesses - for punishment spanking. Used to line up with my cousins, both male and female, all had our panties down and wait for our turn to go over my aunt's lap for our weekly spanking and feel her strap on our bare bottoms.Was also spanked by neighbors with their children present, and even outdoors if it was an immediate "on the spot" spanking, in front of God and everyone.25 Both - have to keep it private for "work" purposes, but also excited at prospect of someone hearing or seeing my spanking.26 Yes - my oldest children know of our lifestyle and our spanko play. 27 OTK is my favorite - love the contact between our bodies. Love to feel their palm against my bare bottom. I also love to have my pantied butt spanked until hot and then feel the delicious sting of leather on my skin.28 Yes I have. Sometimes pain hits just right, sometimes emotions hit just right, and sometimes it just feels right - whether role play or rl.29 Nope - wife is only "disciplinarian" I see on any basis.30 N/A

Male, 50+, Married1. I was in my twenties when I received first adult bare-bottom spanking.2. My then-girlfriend was the first to spank me.3. She spanked me as part of foreplay at my request.4. Inside of an existing committed relationship.5. Yes, my wife knows that I desire to receive spankings. She's the one who gives them to me.6. My wife's initial response was finding it strange. Then she enjoyed it.7. My wife doesn't like being spanked and we're monogamous. 8. My wife likes to give me mild spankings, but was never that interested in the harder stuff. She did it to please me (tying me up and paddling my buttocks and scolding me before licking my anus and then applying lubricant to finger me deeply).9. My desire to be spanked grew for many years and now it's not so strong.10. My wife spanks me with her perhaps every two months as part of lovemaking, but it's been a long time since we had a long session of hard spanking with a paddle. I need to ask her to do it again.11. I'm married.12. I am very accepting of my desire to be spanked.13. I prefer to be spanked with either hand or the back of a brush. A paddle would be nice, but I've never experienced that.14. To my spankings I most like to add prostate massage, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, and intercourse. We've donetemperature taking when playing doctor. I'd love to take a dildo or have my wife fuck me with a strap-on but she doesn't like toys.15. I like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or a real-life situation. Any of the above.16. Doing roleplay I like for my wife to pretend she is my teacher, boss, or doctor.17. I generally play being adult when being spanked, though sometimes we play-act with my wife being a teacher and me the student.18. My wife has only spanked me for made-up offenses. I'd like to be punished for real infractions but she's not that into it.19. I like to be spanked until my buttocks are light red all over--no breaking of the skin.20. I don't mind marks but prefer just to have my buttocks become very red.21. While being spanked I feel very turned on, even though it hurts a lot. I get a really hard erection and at the same time I want her to stop spanking me I want her to continue and to make the blows harder. I like it when she stops for awhile to pleasure my genitals and anus but then starts spanking me again for a long time.22. While being spanked I get an erection that may subside but always comes back. I may leak pre-ejaculate fluid but to reach orgasm I need to have my penis stimulated.23. I like for my wife dress either in fashionable clothes or in lingerie and heels. We also have a white doctor's coat and medical items so she can be my doctor.24. No, never spanked in front of others. Would be willing to in front of other women.25. Not excited by the risk of being found out. Like to keep this totally private.26. No, never outed.27. Favorite position to be spanked in: bent naked over a sofa, preferably with arms and legs spread and tied up. After that, I like being on my knees, bottom up with face down on the bed; over-the-knee; kneeling on all fours--in that order of preference. 28. No; never spanked to tears.29. Wife is my only disciplinarian.30. Never saw a professional disciplinarian.

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