Its never polite to mention
peoples weight

Joe DillPublished: September 30, 2006 12:00AM

DEAR AMY: When did it become acceptable to freely comment on other peoples weight? I always believed telling someone they have gained or lost weight is impolite unless the person brings it up.
Im a young woman who is naturally thin but I have recently recovered from an eating disorder.
Many people, especially males and even some co-workers, have informed me Ive gained weight and that gaining even more would make me more hot.
Hearing these comments makes me uncomfortable, and I really wish people would keep their thoughts about this delicate issue to themselves.
The last straw for me was when a male acquaintance patted my stomach and told me I was getting my tummy back.
Am I alone in this? Weight On My Shoulders
DEAR WEIGHT: It never became acceptable for anyone to freely comment on someone elses weight. No co-worker should ever comment on your potential hot-itude unless you are Nicole and she is Paris and you are filming the latest episode of The Simple Life.
If this happens again at the office, a simple and sharp, Hey! Excuse me! might shock your colleague back into appropriateness. If not, you should speak with your supervisor
DEAR AMY: My son, age 10, was invited to a schoolmates birthday pool party.
Less than an hour after he arrived, he called to have me pick him up. I asked him why and he said, Mom, there are a lot of adults here, and theyre all drinking beer and wine. Im scared.
I went to the house and, sure enough, the hosts had their entire adult family members there with approximately 15 kids, and all of the adults were drinking! The father clearly had had too much to drink, and the mother became belligerent with me for coming to get my son. I told her we have a pool and dont allow drinking around the pool when children are present, and hes nervous.
She informed me it is their culture to have adult family members there and they always have alcohol.
She yelled at me and said my son was no longer invited to their house.I calmly said that was fine with me, and we left.
Please let your readers know the dangers of this. Hosts are responsible for the well-being and safety of children while they are swimming. California Mom
DEAR MOM: Your son deserves credit for having the guts to call you to come pick him up.There should be no drinking at a childs party. It is dangerous for adults to drink to excess while children are swimming.
DEAR AMY: I learned growing up it is inappropriate for someone in the family to give the bride or mother-to-be a shower. However, in the past few years I have been invited to baby showers given by the expectant moms mother and mother-in-law, and have heard of similar cases from my friends.
I recently offered to give a bridal shower for the fiancee of one of my mothers friends, but the mother-in-law insisted on giving it herself.Now my sister-in-laws twin sister is getting married, and my sister-in-law is throwing her a bridal shower. Am I just old-fashioned, or is this still considered tacky? Confused
DEAR CONFUSED: First off, I dont love the idea of branding things as being tacky. The thinking about showers is that family members shouldnt host them because it will make the family seem to be gift grabbing.
Lately, however, families dont seem to mind if others see them as gift grabbers because, well, they ARE gift grabbers.