We are ALL beautiful! (Anonymous)

onTuesday, March 13, 2018

I am 34 years old, and I have had two children. One by home birth and the other in a hospital, both vaginal delivery. Now 9 and 7 years old. Often I have felt guilty about my body. When I am in a room of other moms I often feel ashamed of “looking good”. I don’t subscribe to fad diets, or crazy gym routines. I simply live. I am a BJJ purple belt and it took me 10+ years to get there because being a mom took all of my personal time. This picture makes me feel proud because it is a beautiful piece of lingerie given to me by my husband that actually fits me! Being “small” I have a very hard time finding clothes that fit me. I submit this because I want other moms to know it’s OK to love your body without guilt, even if some women try to shame you for being who you are because they dont feel confident in themselves. We are ALL beautiful! And ps. I am offended when your husband flirts with me, its embarrassing! Stop looking at my body as the cause, It’s his loyalty that is a shame. You don’t know me, you just see my physical form. I am more then an object.

I get where your coming from , when I was tiny just before I fell pregnant with my fourth daughter I would literally walk through a shopping centre and get scaled by the wives and girlfriends even if some men were not looking. And often couldn’t make friends or have friendships ruined because I was pretty/tiny . Now at an average size I fit in and have made so many friends ?? But also just remember not everyone is going to like you no matter the reason just strive on and be positive

I think you miss the point in this site… It’s not nomalize that women don’t look perfect after a baby and that’s okay.
Your humble brag about how you’re too pretty without any effort and other women’s the husband’s want you, says a lot about you. Perhaps truely humble yourself and be thankful you have a life that has afforded you the affluence to be able to take time for yourself and be thankful your body came back and sympathetic that it’s not so easy for everyone. Then, maybe you will find less judgement coming at you.

I think N.Ng comment is unnecessarily harsh. I don’t see the post and picture as a ‘humble brag’. This mum is clearly beautiful, and so are all the other mums of this website. Mums come in all shapes and sizes and that’s how it should be. We are all mums so let’s celebrate that instead of hating on each other. Motherhood is hard enough as it is!! This website should be a place where EVERYMUM can express herself about how she feels – also if she’s happy with herself. Live and let live. For the poster – you go girl; you’re beautiful!!

N.ng, all the hate is only coming from you. I don’t believe this post was a humble brag as you say. This mom is clearly just saying that all moms deserve love and appreciation, no matter what size they come in. Not anywhere is she saying she’s better than the rest, just that everyone should be accepted as they are. As a very skinny woman who often gets told to “eat more” and is called a skeleton by friends, I can understand where she’s coming from. Our society is hasty to judge anyone and everyone, let’s all just be there for each other.