May sound silly, but perhaps that intense feeling is him licking your clit too directly?

I had a partner in the past who didn't have a clue and it was uncomfortable as the intensity just didn't feel good. Suggest he keeps his tongue soft instead of tense and perhaps licks around your clit as opposed to directly on it?

Reading through this thread again it sounds as though you have a problem with letting go. This to me then translates a couple of possibilities (obviously I could be wrong).

What first springs to mind is are you a squirter? As you could be afraid this is going to happen while he is down there and are worried it might alarm him.The other thing that crossed my mind is that you could be tensing, as we all do before the point of orgasm, but you might not notice you do this in every other sexual act as you aren't in quite as vulnerable position.Or you could see yourself as more a giver than a taker and emotionally you feel selfish just lying back and thinking of England so to speak, so you can't relax and enjoy it. (I am rather like this, and the only way for me is to be in a submissive role to convince me that he is doing it for his pleasure not mine).

Reading through this thread again it sounds as though you have a problem with letting go. This to me then translates a couple of possibilities (obviously I could be wrong).

What first springs to mind is are you a squirter? As you could be afraid this is going to happen while he is down there and are worried it might alarm him.
The other thing that crossed my mind is that you could be tensing, as we all do before the point of orgasm, but you might not notice you do this in every other sexual act as you aren't in quite as vulnerable position.
Or you could see yourself as more a giver than a taker and emotionally you feel selfish just lying back and thinking of England so to speak, so you can't relax and enjoy it. (I am rather like this, and the only way for me is to be in a submissive role to convince me that he is doing it for his pleasure not mine).

Thank you kinkyboots, I believe you may b right about the point of orgasm coz before that point im usually enjoying it. Also im naturally a more dominant person im neither with him in the bedroom.

One of my favourite positions for going down on my partner is for me to lie down between her legs whilst she is kneeling on the bed. She enjoys this too as she doesn't have to lie looking at the ceiling or worrying about what I'm doing as she can control the intensity and position by moving her hips over my face. Likewise she can just let go without thinking about how she looks as she climaxes. May be worth a try 😀

Reading through this thread again it sounds as though you have a problem with letting go. This to me then translates a couple of possibilities (obviously I could be wrong).

What first springs to mind is are you a squirter? As you could be afraid this is going to happen while he is down there and are worried it might alarm him.
The other thing that crossed my mind is that you could be tensing, as we all do before the point of orgasm, but you might not notice you do this in every other sexual act as you aren't in quite as vulnerable position.
Or you could see yourself as more a giver than a taker and emotionally you feel selfish just lying back and thinking of England so to speak, so you can't relax and enjoy it. (I am rather like this, and the only way for me is to be in a submissive role to convince me that he is doing it for his pleasure not mine).

Thank you kinkyboots, I believe you may b right about the point of orgasm coz before that point im usually enjoying it. Also im naturally a more dominant person im neither with him in the bedroom.

Never squirted so i dont think its that

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It is possible that because you have never squirted that the feeling is there and makes you want it to end. Buy yourself a small waterproof mat, that will take some of fear away. I love it when my wife cums but not all men are comfortable with it!

Just to add to what's already really good advice, I find that when it starts to feel really intense, I pull him away from my clit or have him focus on something else, so he could be taking a break and touching me elsewhere, or even just along the rest of the vulva - just not the clit itself! On my part, I focus on taking slower, deeper breaths because I tend to tense up and stop breathing which add to the intensity of the sensations.

As with most things communication can help immensely. It doesn't have to be a full on pre match discussion, but I find when Mr LNT goes down on me, which I love btw, I can guide him with my hands, or by a small movement of my hips or verbally.

I am wondering if maybe you could consider a blindfold, could take away any awkward 'where shall I look' feelings.

I find it quite awkward at times and at the start of my relationship my partner did not like oral at all.

As time has gone on he actually enjoys it and will surprise my sometimes which is always a plus! I do find it hard to just enjoy the pleasure though and I think I have a strange form of a confidence issue with it.

My suggestion would be just continuing recieving oral really, that has made me feel better over time but I still do feel awkward sometimes.

I have a theory on it based on some experience plus talking with girlfriends and such.

See, it is one of the things truly learned mutually.

A girl cannot "practice" and find out what she likes most and doesn't like etc.

Not like with masturbation with fingers and vibrators and such that can help tell her partner what she needs.

Until finding what is just right for her, and with all of our sensitivity and hot spots being different it is truly do the best you can.

And if it has not happened yet, it gets frustrating to just keep going the longer it takes.

With guys, everything is out in the open. I know it is why I love giving oral. I can experiment and try so many different things. And with everything on the outside, there is so much to explore.

With receiving oral there is really not a whole lot to work with unless he uses fingers and/or toys in addition. But, I do enjoy it, it just is not my favorite thing.

When I do enjoy it, it is all about the tease and build up. Boyfriend does not even touch my clit until I have got insanley hot with teasing. That is when I have orgasms with oral.

If he gets there too early, it is not as enjoyable. The orgasm happens, but the intensity is very low that it feels almost like half an orgasm.

If you like giving oral, perhaps 69 is the best thing.

It gives you something to do while he is having fun. You might be distracted enough from what he is doing to not have the worries and concerns or being anxious or as Paige mentioned, not worry about confidence.

It might be just the thing to relax you enough to where you enjoy it enough to find out what works for you.

I find it quite awkward at times and at the start of my relationship my partner did not like oral at all.

As time has gone on he actually enjoys it and will surprise my sometimes which is always a plus! I do find it hard to just enjoy the pleasure though and I think I have a strange form of a confidence issue with it.

My suggestion would be just continuing recieving oral really, that has made me feel better over time but I still do feel awkward sometimes.

Paige that's so true I had to explain to a few lovers that I'm not just doing it for your pleasure it's for my own pleasure too. This did seem to be. Eureka moment for both.