Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Being Unforgiving Will KILL You!

Forgiveness... hmmm.... we always hear "Forgive one another..."

Does that mean... forgive everyone except that one person that offended you?... or perhaps... forgive that person for everything they have done... umm... except for.... well you know... that one thing that he did... now that's too difficult.

You know maybe it's... forgive them... once they have changed... when they have moved on... I will forgive them for now... but they still haven't changed... so I won't REALLY forgive them... only kind of.

NO!!! "Being unforgiving will kill you!!... literally..."

Who are you ultimately hurting when you don't forgive?... only yourself.

“Forgiving is a gift you give yourself.”

Forgiveness may be defined as 'the choice to no longer allow the memory of abuse to abuse.'

We cannot get angry at those that have offended us.

Anger is a choice... choose to turn it OFF...

VENTING doesn't work... to bring up those harsh feelings only ''breeds'' more anger.

SUPPRESSING anger doesn't work either... it just builds up and explodes!!...

We must PROCESS IT!... think it through

Our Primary Emotions are:

Fear

Frustration

Lowered Self-Esteem

Hurt Feelings

This is what we are actually feeling when we 'get angry'... this is at the root of our emotional state.

1 comment:

I have found that anger is an emotion, that just like every other emotion we humans have, anger is neither good nor bad but it's how we handle that emotion that can hurt ourselves or other people. Emotions aren't something that should just be turned off, anger included. Instead they should be understood. For example, if I am being attacked by someone then hopefully my fear (primary emotion) can lead to anger (secondary emotion) which gives me the ability to defend myself and to fight back against my attacker and hopefully save my life. On the other hand if my daughter is yelling in the isle at walmart because I won't buy her a chocolate covered frizzie, and I feel fear because of what I think people will think about me, (like I am a bad parent cause my kid is throwing a fit) and I attack my daughter, that is the wrong way to deal with my fear and anger. So, the emotions themselves are not good or bad, but instead it's the way that we understand ourselves and process the emotions that we feel that make's all of the difference and handling emotions is a skill that can be learned by almost anyone.