Experiential avoidance involves ongoing attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, or physical sensations–even when doing so is costly or harmful.

The more that we try to avoid these so-called negative experiences, the worse feelings we create.

When you immerse yourself in your work to avoid feelings of inadequacy, or when you donate money to charity to push away thoughts of selfishness, these acts will fail to bring you the deep sense of fulfillment you desire. You won’t find these activities satisfying because your primary motivation is to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings, rather than enjoy the moments themselves.

Intention is everything–and when you seek to avoid unwanted experiences, you drain the joy of being present. You become oriented to the past and continue inviting negative experiences into your life.

If you want to attract abundance in 2017, then you need to start by practicing one simple habit: making room for uncomfortable experiences.

Thought awareness can promote stress resilience. With time, you learn to encounter your own ruminations or problematic thoughts and say, “That’s just a thought. It’ll fade.” That is a secret about the human mind: We don’t need to believe everything our thoughts tell us. Or, as the bumper sticker says, “Don’t believe everything you think.”

“The only people who desire to be better than everyone else are those who feel inferior. The need to ‘outshine’ everyone is actually born of fear and weakness, not strength,” he believes. If, instead of wanting to beat others, you want to be kind to them, to understand them, to feel goodwill towards them, your insecurity will melt away, McManus claim.

You don’t need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. You need less shame around the idea that you’re not doing your best. You need to stop listening [when] people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough,” she writes. Quit comparing and just be where you are, she advises.

Her journey wrote was somewhat like mine. I had bucket list made in my mind and I went on few trips then, fueled by my wanderlusting thirst. I also had same revelations in life. That I was awakened to be someone who thrives to survive in life instead of being helpless victim of life circumstances. Her storytelling struck a chord in me.