We're meeting my son's birthmom

We're meeting my son's birthmom

After 18 years, my son Sam is meeting his birth mom(and possibly his birth father). Trudy, Sam and i will be traveling to southern California next week to meet everyone. It turns out his birth mother and father married and there will also be a younger brother and sister to meet as well. There is a wild mix of emotions and we will be playing a lot by ear. We are also hoping to meet a couple roadfooders for some meals but obviously this will be Sam's trip.

Jim, I wish you and your family well as you explore a very emotional experience for all involved. Our oldest son is adopted. In his early 30's he was contacted by his birth family (a sister). As Cajun King says, the result of that contact has been a roller-coaster of experiences both good and some very painful ones for him, and to a lesser degree for us (his parents). He was 2 years old when he was placed with us for adoption, so his knowledge of his birth history was limited to the information provided to the agency by his birth mother. The real story that he uncovered thru the contact with that family was considerably different from that of the news we had shared with him thruout his childhood. This caused some real painful times as he found out "The Truth". While he does maintain contact with the original sister who searched him out, he does not seem to feel any change in the family ties that he grew up with. Overall I would say the experience was worthwhile, to clear the air about "who he was", but it was a difficult time for us for a while. Best wishes for a successful encounter.

The Chips family took a trip to southern California over veteran's day weekend to meet son Sam's birth mother. It turns out that Sam's birth parents got married 5 years after his birth sot we ended up meeting his birth father and Sam's brother and sister as well. It was emotional but it went well for all. Sam was delighted to meet his sister and his birth parents were delighted to meet him. Sam went to Knott's Berry farm with his birth family one day, went to Universal Studios and Universal City walk with Trudy and birth family another, I went to a bowling alley, video game and pizza emporium where we watched the Oregon-Stanford game. Sam's birth mom thanked us for the visit, getting to meet his birth father was both emotional and a chance to correct misimpressions of 18 years ago and it was great to meet his brother and sister. Sam will be returning for a visit over xmas vacation. It is difficult to explain all the emotions. I'm glad Sam will be able to add to his family. They seem to be very good people. There is always a little trepidation about these events but I feel the visit went pretty well and have no fear about Sam's visit next month.

After 18 years, my son Sam is meeting his birth mom(and possibly his birth father). Trudy, Sam and i will be traveling to southern california next week to meeyt everyone. it turns out his birth mother and father married and there will also be a younger brother and sister to meet as well. There is a wild mix of emotions and we will be playing a lot by ear. We are also hoping to meet a couple roadfooders for a couple meals but obviously this will be Sam's trip.

You are brave in doing this. If anyone can pull this off in a good way it's you, Chips. Good luck and best wishes.

Jim, I wish you and your family well as you explore a very emotional experience for all involved. Our oldest son is adopted. In his early 30's he was contacted by his birth family (a sister). As Cajun King says, the result of that contact has been a roller-coaster of experiences both good and some very painful ones for him, and to a lesser degree for us (his parents). He was 2 years old when he was placed with us for adoption, so his knowledge of his birth history was limited to the information provided to the agency by his birth mother. The real story that he uncovered thru the contact with that family was considerably different from that of the news we had shared with him thruout his childhood. This caused some real painful times as he found out "The Truth". While he does maintain contact with the original sister who searched him out, he does not seem to feel any change in the family ties that he grew up with. Overall I would say the experience was worthwhile, to clear the air about "who he was", but it was a difficult time for us for a while. Best wishes for a successful encounter.

Actually we were fortunate to have reasonably accurate information about the situation so there were no discoveries of an awful nature. all of the discoveries have been positive and/or interesting. The honeymoon will be difficult to extend over xmas for all but i think it will be interesting for sam to meet his extended birth family and he seems very anxious to do so.

I am so glad it's working out well! It sounds like your Sam came from a good family, just one that couldn't provide for him when he entered their world. Kudos to all of you (and I include his birth family) for handling what could have been a very awkward situation with grace, finesse, and understanding.

Our fear with my niece's adopted kids is the day they meet their birth family again. We're hoping they don't want to for a very, very long time. But then our kids came from a less than stellar family to say the least (they were taken away as opposed to given up).