The Narc Decoder

The Narc Decoder Divorcing a narcissist You are probably left feeling baffled and shaken by the communication that you receive from the narcissist In my mid twenties I contemplated learning multiple foreign languages

Title: The Narc Decoder

Author: Tina Swithin

ISBN: null

Page: 112

Format: Kindle Edition

Divorcing a narcissist You are probably left feeling baffled and shaken by the communication that you receive from the narcissist In my mid twenties, I contemplated learning multiple foreign languages I envisioned dabbling in French to successfully make my way around Paris or Irish Gaelic to explore the rich history of Ireland along with my deep ancestral roots in thatDivorcing a narcissist You are probably left feeling baffled and shaken by the communication that you receive from the narcissist In my mid twenties, I contemplated learning multiple foreign languages I envisioned dabbling in French to successfully make my way around Paris or Irish Gaelic to explore the rich history of Ireland along with my deep ancestral roots in that country My day dreams about learning new languages always went hand in hand with the imagery of world travel The thought of exploring exotic and old world places far away from home intrigued me My mind summoned several foreign adventures, but never did I think I would need to learn a foreign language to navigate my own life.In 2008, I heard the words, Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD to describe my then husband, Seth It took a couple years for the reality of those three little words to really sink in Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date Those flags grew taller and vibrant in color during our marriage As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in a highly flammable mixture of kerosene I realized the danger only when they exploded near the end of my marriage Like any unexpected explosion, I was unprepared and left nursing deep, emotional, third degree burns.In my research, I discovered a new language which took quite a bit of studying and insight on NPD to understand As it turns out, the reason that I was so bewildered by Seth s communication style was that we were speaking completely different languages I spoke the English version of human while he was speaking the non human Narc ish I am convinced there is a Narc ish dictionary or manual hidden deep in a dark, musty hole somewhere in a faraway land with step by step instructions on how to inflict fear, confusion and despair From this land, narcissists hail Their secret language can only be decoded by those who aren t fooled by the narcissist s stealth ability to inflict confusion and chaos with it My computer has a feature that allows me to translate most languages However, this particular area of my life requires technology that is a bit savvier Need is the catalyst of industry and I was in need of a device to decipher Narc ish So, I invented one I call it the Narc Decoder and have made life altering good use of it The good news is, everyone has access to the Narc Decoder because it is a machine that I am honored to replicate and share with anyone who is forced to communicate with a narcissist Once you understand how to use the Narc Decoder, your life will change for the better You will become empowered and will regain your voice Over time, you will begin to find humor in the communication style that once left you on your knees begging for mercy.

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Listened to this audiobook as part of some research I am doing, rather than for personal reasons. As it was written from personal experience and included real life examples it was certainly enlightening and, at times, frightening. The lengths to which the author's ex-husband would go to maintain control / narcissistic supply were remarkable, particularly his willingness to use his children regardless of the impact it may have on them. Some of his actions were almost unbelievably extreme, but it [...]

An excellent resource for those going through divorce with a narcissist. Tina had me laughing out loud at some of her translations of the Narc-ish language. She is spot on in translating their erratic, crazy making words. It's so easy to get caught up in the narcissist words. By reading this book I was reminded it's ok for me to have boundaries. And it's because I am a good, kind, loving person, that I am fighting for the safety of my children. Now every time I get a crazy email I will run it th [...]