I definitely had feelings of inadequacy when I received my first envelope-within-an-envelope invitation. I had never heard of inner and outer envelopes until then and thought it was just some sort of extra fancy wealth flaunting vessel. If you’re naive like me, read this informative Yahoo Answers post (oxymoron?) about what inner envelopes are for.

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My own invitation suite was definitely more playful than fancy, which is the look I was going for, but I still feel a little “f*** me” every time I see an invitation with calligraphy, letterpress, or, dear God, vellum. So I can kind of feel this couple’s pain.

On the other hand, I tied 150 knots in order to make our invitations. I made homemade napkin rings. I did all kinds of over the top, pointless crap all in the name of making my wedding oh sospecial. So maybe my wedding made people go “holy f***ing balls, what is this, a candy buffet? Shit.” I kind of hope my wedding inspired obscenities from our guests, because I am serious about weddings. If you could see my face right now, you would not see me laughing. F***.

Also, we had an open bar, so I guess we’re pwning this game.

Has someone else’s wedding ever made you feel f***ing inadequate? Did you use vellum in your invitations?

So funny! We dooo have vellum on ours, but only because they are handmade, handprinted, and it was easier to get a nice looking invite by printing on vellum than other paper from our home printer! I totally understand the competition

sooo funny! we’re having the vellum debate right now! FI just doesn’t see the value in them at all and I want them really really bad. haha. there are certain things that make me worry/feel inadequate a little (as of right now, not sure how much open bar we’ll be having and maybe just passed apps no “stations”).

Oh my gosh I am dying over here! So funny and exactly what we’re going through right now! I’m getting so crazy that I’m all “ok, we need to do boxed invitations with vintage seaside inspired candy and ribbons and should they be screenprinted by hand???” Being a type a bride is hard work. I blame pinterest.

My first marriage (circa 1980) and of course it was the Big White Pouffy Family version… and Mom & Dad were hosting… there was most definitely Inner & Outer Envelopes involved etc.

This time round…

Mr TTR and I eloped, and we are hosting our own – GASP –
Back Home Reception / Party for our Friends & Family.

The Invites are actually a modified version of a Save The Date Card that we found on-line from Wedding Divas… too cute (and inexpensive)

The whole look of this Reception Party is fun and festive, hanging out with friends… versus formal. But all the while, there will still be some “elements” of a Wedding, well because (a) we cannot deny that is the reason for the party… and (b) our Friends & Family really want to celebrate our union

So there will be Cake & Champagne, a “modern” take on the Guest Book and no doubt a smooch or too thrown into the mix.

Lol… Let the Party Begin !!

PS… Love this video… thanks for posting. I hadn’t heard of Klepper & Grey before this (via Second City Chicago) and now I am a fan… will be checking out other videos in their “Engaged” series. (LOVED the one entiteld “Couch” and “Saturday”).

PPS… Horror of horrors, as Canadians some aspect of the “Cash Bar” is a fact of life (usually in combo with some portion of a Wedding Receptions drinks being complimentary be that the Cocktail Hour – Wine with Dinner – Cake & Champagne – or an All White Bar… or subsidized drinks via a Loonie or Twoonie Bar). Honestly, US Bees, you would flip out if you saw what we pay for booze here north of the 49th (lol, altho with our health care we don’t pay for the liver transplant down the road, so I guess it all equals out in the end)

Ooooh, yeah. I know that feel. Last wedding I went to had a full-on choreographed flash-mob-style dance number in the middle of the couple’s first dance. Like, sweet first dance (where I was already feeling crap because these two actually had waltzy dance moves and I can only do that “hold each other and sway back and forth like you’re at a freshman homecoming” thing), then halfway through the music suddenly and dramatically changed, one of their friends hopped up, grabbed the mic from the DJ and started singing a song written just for the wedding (with clever AND funny lyrics, damn it) and two dozen guests hopped out of their seats, stormed the dance floor and all of them and the wedding couple proceeded to do a full dance number. It was INSANE. Granted the couple and all their friends are theatre actors, so they have that talent on their side, but DAMN. Way to raise the bar so high, I couldn’t reach it with a ladder, a ten foot pole and a professional basketball player. F***, indeed…….

ha! I laughed out loud
Other people’s weddings don’t necessarily make me feel inadequate, but Pinterest certainly does. I should feel sorry for my guests- no candy bar or photo booth for them! They did have an open bar and awesome Italian food, though, so maybe that makes up for it?

hahahahahahaha that video is amazing! No inner envelope for me, but then again, I did find my invites within a couple weeks of being engaged at Target for $9 for 50 (!!!!!). More money for booze = winning!

This is hilarious. We went to 2 weddings within a month from ours, and couldn’t help to compare. In the bright side, we stood behind our wedding all the time and although these weddings had better this or better that, we knew we wouldn’t had paid for those kind of things either way, so it was ok.

O.M.G. F***ing hysterical! Thank you for sharing! I’ve been doing this too with my invitations, designing, then redesigning, and then wondering if I should include a pocket folder and what type of card stock to use… but no vellum. I’m sharing this with everyone.

Wow, so funny but I didn’t give a crap about these things and I’m so glad I didn’t now that the wedding is over. No one cares. I used vistaprint and I also kind of think maybe we didn’t even need physical invitations. Because, no one cares. Our friends commented it was such a lovely and personal touch that we hand written a message on the back of each place card. Even then they left them behind.

I’ve seen both: really awesome invitations that have made me go f-ck in the ‘HOW DO I EVEN COMPETE?!’ way and invitations that have made me go f-ck in the ‘are these people for real? What even is this?’ way.

P.S. I love yours.
P.P.S. People often try to use ‘no one will notice except a fellow bride/bride-to-be’ regarding invitations. I totally say NOT TRUE. I’ve been an invitation/paper product creeper my whole life.

Haha that video is hilarious! It’s hard not to compare yourself to other brides-to-be, but I guess you just have to be happy with your decision and not everyone should have the same exact things. While some people spend a ton of time and money on their invitations, I chose to focus on making sure my guests would have a great time at the reception!!