Do you trust your head or your heart? How do you know when your head is confusing your heart or your heart is running the show when your head knows that something is off?

My head can talk me into and out of guys and, in the past, I operated under the belief that everyone deserves a chance. Oftentimes, that was at the dismissal of my instincts.

Instincts are essential in the world of dating. Chemistry can’t be forced. It’s either there or it isn’t. I’m desperately trying to learn this lesson but find it difficult when people ask how it’s going and I share things that aren’t working for me and then explain why I’m too picky, how I elicited the response, or flat out defend the guy.

Don’t I deserve to be with someone who makes me happy just as much as I want to make someone else happy? But, the two shouldn’t be mutually exclusive. And, it seems like I find guys who are very happy… while I’m not.

Sometimes it just doesn’t feel right. It should feel exciting, safe, and full of possibilities. I can’t always explain why it doesn’t.

At the end of the day, I want to be with someone who *feels right*. I try to ensure I’m aware of and dealing with any baggage that might get in the way of that. At the same time, sometimes it’s just not there. I don’t want to defend why I don’t like someone. I just don’t.