Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina...

Ok mommies...running into trouble in paradise. So i decided early on that we would call sex organs by their appropraite names. So today was the first day that Elijah really got curious about body parts so we had a little talk about girls having vaginas and boys having a penis. So we went through family memebers and i would say "since nana tana is a girl what body part does she have?" and he would reply with his answer. So we played that little game for about 10 minutes and we were done with it. Well you know that two-year-olds tend to talk about and dwell on new things that they learn. So we are at lunch with my MIL and Elijah went and sat by her and said nana tana has a penis. She immediateley said who taught him that and my husband pointed to me and said that I did. She said in a very *****y tone...WHY WOULD YOU TELL HIM THAT! I said (and i wish i would have fired back with more of a backbone because i know what i am teaching him is appropriate and there is nothing wrong with it) because he asked about it and i wanted him to know the difference. She said well if he says those words you should just ignore it. I think you should call body parts by their names. Many studies show that it makes them more comfortable with their body and talking to us about sex and doesn't make them a target for sexual predators. I don't want him to think it is a dirty or bad thing to talk about. I also think that if you ignore it they will feel like their curiosity doesn't matter and that it is a shameful thing. What is your take on this? I have just been bothered all day by her response...and sort of pissed because after that she went into a big story about values and blah blah blah...I don't want him talking about it in public and we will teach him where and who it is appropriate to talk about it with, but give us time! He just started asking questions today and we had no idea what to expect and these things take time. Just like learning the difference between elbow and eyebrow!

Ok mommies...running into trouble in paradise. So i decided early on that we would call sex organs by their appropraite names. So today was the first day that Elijah really got curious about body parts so we had a little talk about girls having vaginas and boys having a penis. So we went through family memebers and i would say "since nana tana is a girl what body part does she have?" and he would reply with his answer. So we played that little game for about 10 minutes and we were done with it. Well you know that two-year-olds tend to talk about and dwell on new things that they learn. So we are at lunch with my MIL and Elijah went and sat by her and said nana tana has a penis. She immediateley said who taught him that and my husband pointed to me and said that I did. She said in a very *****y tone...WHY WOULD YOU TELL HIM THAT! I said (and i wish i would have fired back with more of a backbone because i know what i am teaching him is appropriate and there is nothing wrong with it) because he asked about it and i wanted him to know the difference. She said well if he says those words you should just ignore it. I think you should call body parts by their names. Many studies show that it makes them more comfortable with their body and talking to us about sex and doesn't make them a target for sexual predators. I don't want him to think it is a dirty or bad thing to talk about. I also think that if you ignore it they will feel like their curiosity doesn't matter and that it is a shameful thing. What is your take on this? I have just been bothered all day by her response...and sort of pissed because after that she went into a big story about values and blah blah blah...I don't want him talking about it in public and we will teach him where and who it is appropriate to talk about it with, but give us time! He just started asking questions today and we had no idea what to expect and these things take time. Just like learning the difference between elbow and eyebrow!

MIL's....Calling body parts what they are isn't a bad thing and kids should be taught proper names. Theres nothing wrong with calling a toe a toe, so teaching them what a penis is isn't wrong either. It's just a body part. And teaching kids, to me, the correct term lets them know they can ask you any question and you'll answer honestly, it builds trust.

I think some people feel that if you teach kids to call them what they are, they've some how lost innocence and something bad will happen to them. Good for you for teaching him the proper terms, there is no shame and he, or any child, shouldn't be tought that they are shameful. And you're right for not ignoring his curiosity about it. Sounds like your dh threw you under the bus and you're mil needs to myob when it comes what you teach YOUR child.

Garrett hasn't asked to many questions yet. He pokes it sometimes and asks what it is and I say, it's your penis and he leaves it at that, if he had more questions I would answer them.

You're doing great

MIL's....Calling body parts what they are isn't a bad thing and kids should be taught proper names. Theres nothing wrong with calling a toe a toe, so teaching them what a penis is isn't wrong either. It's just a body part. And teaching kids, to me, the correct term lets them know they can ask you any question and you'll answer honestly, it builds trust.

I think some people feel that if you teach kids to call them what they are, they've some how lost innocence and something bad will happen to them. Good for you for teaching him the proper terms, there is no shame and he, or any child, shouldn't be tought that they are shameful. And you're right for not ignoring his curiosity about it. Sounds like your dh threw you under the bus and you're mil needs to myob when it comes what you teach YOUR child.

Garrett hasn't asked to many questions yet. He pokes it sometimes and asks what it is and I say, it's your penis and he leaves it at that, if he had more questions I would answer them.

They ask, we have to answer their questions, you can't just ignore a body part altogether!

So my SO taught Bella that she has a "hole" :( this I'm not happy about but I just go with it, she points and says "hole" and then points at my crotch and says "mommy's hole" so tonight she pointed at Chris and said "daddy's hole" so we said, no, daddy doesn't have a hole, he has a penis... What are you supposed to do, tell them they can't talk about it? Or just agree that daddy has a hole too? People from our parents generation have some odd ideas. But seriously, I need to get her off of calling it her hole, even though it does make us laugh.

They ask, we have to answer their questions, you can't just ignore a body part altogether!

So my SO taught Bella that she has a "hole" :( this I'm not happy about but I just go with it, she points and says "hole" and then points at my crotch and says "mommy's hole" so tonight she pointed at Chris and said "daddy's hole" so we said, no, daddy doesn't have a hole, he has a penis... What are you supposed to do, tell them they can't talk about it? Or just agree that daddy has a hole too? People from our parents generation have some odd ideas. But seriously, I need to get her off of calling it her hole, even though it does make us laugh.

Ellie knows that boys have penises and girls have"ginas". We call hers a bean because I didn't want her saying vagina all the time but she does know it is also called a vagina.

I am concerned because now she is saying things that are far from appropriate!!!! She gave me a big kiss on the mouth the other day and a hug like she always does... and then she said. "want to have sex?" I was shocked!!!!! and I told her we don't was those things. A couple days later I heard her say the same thing again and so I asked her where she heard it. She said the kids at preschool. The only "preschool" she goes to is the nursery at church. I still think she picked it up from daddy's TV shows though. I once again said we don't talk like that and if you hear a kid say that again you need to tell mommy and daddy right away.

Then the other day in the garden she asked my sister in law if her 4 year old boy cousin was gay? Where is she picking this talk up?

I know she is way too young to understand what she is saying but now I am so scared she will keep saying things that are inappropriate! I thought I had lots of years before I had to deal with this. Be happy that your kid is just using correct body part names!!!!!

Ellie knows that boys have penises and girls have"ginas". We call hers a bean because I didn't want her saying vagina all the time but she does know it is also called a vagina.

I am concerned because now she is saying things that are far from appropriate!!!! She gave me a big kiss on the mouth the other day and a hug like she always does... and then she said. "want to have sex?" I was shocked!!!!! and I told her we don't was those things. A couple days later I heard her say the same thing again and so I asked her where she heard it. She said the kids at preschool. The only "preschool" she goes to is the nursery at church. I still think she picked it up from daddy's TV shows though. I once again said we don't talk like that and if you hear a kid say that again you need to tell mommy and daddy right away.

Then the other day in the garden she asked my sister in law if her 4 year old boy cousin was gay? Where is she picking this talk up?

I know she is way too young to understand what she is saying but now I am so scared she will keep saying things that are inappropriate! I thought I had lots of years before I had to deal with this. Be happy that your kid is just using correct body part names!!!!!

It's so hard, I taught my daughter to use the right term and she would go on and on about her 'gina loudly in the grocery store, bank etc. I also say 'privates' which she has no end of questions about. It's good to teach them the right words...but I'm not going to lie, I find it awkward too...

It's so hard, I taught my daughter to use the right term and she would go on and on about her 'gina loudly in the grocery store, bank etc. I also say 'privates' which she has no end of questions about. It's good to teach them the right words...but I'm not going to lie, I find it awkward too...

My daughter hasn't asked about hers yet but she always asks about my boobs and "her boobs" and I do tell her they are breasts and they are private and no one should touch them but her. She is very fascinated by them and will pull my shirts down and look down my cleavage in public and it is soooo awkward! I feel weird thinking about telling her that it is her vagina but I know its best, they need to know what it is, especially if anyone were to (god forbid!!!) touch her, I would want her to be able to tell me and police that someone touched her vagina. It's awkward but definitely what's best. My mother always tells me what to do for my daughter and its taken me awhile but I'm working on my back bone with her. Stay strong, YOU are her mother no one else!

My daughter hasn't asked about hers yet but she always asks about my boobs and "her boobs" and I do tell her they are breasts and they are private and no one should touch them but her. She is very fascinated by them and will pull my shirts down and look down my cleavage in public and it is soooo awkward! I feel weird thinking about telling her that it is her vagina but I know its best, they need to know what it is, especially if anyone were to (god forbid!!!) touch her, I would want her to be able to tell me and police that someone touched her vagina. It's awkward but definitely what's best. My mother always tells me what to do for my daughter and its taken me awhile but I'm working on my back bone with her. Stay strong, YOU are her mother no one else!

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