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So, after the act of coition is over, let the woman
slip a “bandage” into place as soon as
possible, and go to sleep. If she sleeps long,
so much the better, so much more will she be benefited
by the presence of the semen and its absorption.
When she naturally wakens, she may bathe the vulva
region with warm water; but there is no need of, nor
is it wise to try to cleanse the vagina and the uterine
tract by the use of a vaginal syringe. Above
all, never inject cold water into the vagina, especially
do not do this immediately after coitus. Some
women use a cold water injection immediately after
coitus. There is no surer way to ill health and
ultimate suicide. The parts are congested with
blood at such times, and to pour cold water
upon them is as though, when one is dripping with
perspiration, he should plunge into a cold bath.
Nature has made wise provision for taking care of all
the semen that remains in the vagina. Let the
parts alone, and they will cleanse and care for themselves.

Such, then, is a somewhat extended review of the act
of coitus at its best estate, and in a general way.
Its perfect accomplishment is an art to be cultivated,
and one in which expertness can only be attained by
wise observation, careful study of all the factors
involved, and a loving adaptation of the bodies, minds
and souls of both the parties to the act. It
is no mere animal function. It is a union,
a unity of “two souls with but
a single thought, two hearts that beat as one.”
There is nothing low or degrading about it, when it
is what it ought to be, when it is brought to, and
experienced at, its highest and best estate.
It is God-designed, God-born, God-bestowed!
As such it should be thankfully received and divinely
used by all the sons and daughters of men.

VII

THE FIRST UNION

And now, although so much has been said, there is
much that remains to be said, and which ought to be
said, to do the subject justice. Some of these
things are as follows:

Something more ought to be told about the second part
of the act of coitus, the union of the organs, when
this occurs for the first time on the part
of the woman.

At the first meeting of the husband and wife, if the
woman be a virgin, there are certain conditions which
exist, on her part, that are not present in after-meetings,
and these must be understood and rightly dealt with,
or the worst of bad results may ensue.

Of course, at such first meeting, all the preliminaries
prescribed as forming the first movement of
the act should be carried out to the limit.
It is not too much to say that these should be prolonged
for some days! Do not start, young husband,
at this statement! Well did Alexander Dumas,
pere, write: “Oh, young husband, have a
care in the first overtures you make toward your bride!