The Dos and Don’ts of Dealing With Your In-Laws

So you just got married and now you’ve got a whole second family.
Here’s how to survive the transition and thrive long-term,
courtesy of psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina:

DO understand how your spouse relates to his or her parents.

DON’T assume that family relationship will resemble the one in
your family.

DO take the time to get to know your in-laws—if you’re separated
by distance, write or e-mail each other.

DON’T take offense easily—you may just not understand the family
dynamic.

DO check with your partner about family customs. Will his
mother expect a hostess gift? A thank-you note? What do
they like to eat? What’s their sense of humor like? Can you
talk about politics or religion in front of them?