Spider Overcoming My Fear – Part 2

I didn’t really give the spider that much thought for quite a few years. I didn’t kill them any more, I would scoop them up on a piece of paper or paper towel when I encountered them and take them outside.

And I started championing them, that is, when people freaked out when they saw a spider and went for their shoe I would stop them, scoop them up and take them outside or create a diversion so that the spider could get away.

Then I bought my first house 407 Craven Rd. in Toronto, just a couple of blocks from the beach, the Animals loved it. I remember very clearly bringing in my plastic pink Adirondack chair from the patio and there was quite a big spider hanging off of it. He startled me but I heard him very clearly in my head or rather another way to understand that was I had a very clear thought in my head. Fall is here and winter is coming, us spiders come inside in the winter or we will die. You won’t see us we stay up and hidden in the day and only come out at night a little when we need to when you are sleeping.

I thought about that and said okay I want you and your friends and family to come in and be safe for the winter but I mean it no dangling or walking on me. Just like you said you stay hidden in the day and can come out at night but if I am up late working then you have to climb back up. And so I came to an understanding with the spider. He explained his dilemma to me and I explained my problem to him and, we came to a resolution, win win.

Oshawa

We then moved to Oshawa. And there were a lot of spiders in Oshawa but by that point I was okay with that. When I moved in I told them my rules, which they were of course fine with. And once in a while I’d see a spider who I would say hello to or ask what he/she was doing and every once in a while I would let them know I was going to clean corners or a cobweb or I had to clean up a web that had been built in the wrong place, and we lived in harmony.

The spiders don’t really want to have anything to do with humans, after all they are nocturnal, they live very differently from us and really humans when they encounter other species they tend to try and control them or wipe them. Although I lived in harmony with the spiders I didn’t really engage on a regular basis with them. We certainly never played together until.

We were moving, me and my Animal Family were leaving Oshawa, everything, practically everything was packed. I woke up a couple of days before moving day and there is a very big spider looking at me from my sink. He looks right at me and shoots me a thought I can’t get out, could you please help me it’s too slippery. Wow he was a biggy, I could see his eyes pleading with me as well as hear the thought he had sent me in my head, I remember thinking it was kind of funny that he couldn’t get out, he looked extremely capable. But I took a dishcloth that was quite thick and dry and laid it along the floor and wall of the sink so that he could get some traction and scamper up it, and get out which is exactly what he did.

“Thank you” came the thought. Then I didn’t think about it any more, a lot to do moving day is almost upon us. The next morning I got up and who do I encounter in the sink but Spider again, there he is again looking straight at me. And I immediately hear/ have the though in my head, could you please get me out I can’t get out of here.

As I was thinking wait a minute, I think this spider is playing with me I was reaching for the thick dishcloth. He scampered out of the sink on the dishcloth that I laid out and I heard the thought thank you. And I said to him you weren’t really stuck, you were just playing with me and he was laughing and saying that is true. It was his way of showing his love and respect for the time we had shared together me and my family and him and his family and friends. It made me cry a little, it still makes me cry when I think about it.