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Often people disappear from these boards and I have wondered whatever happened to them and the stories they shared. Given that I want to let people know I am checking out of SI for a while. Things are pretty good, but time and attention are needed elsewhere.

I am sure this is an overstatement but SI in many ways saved my M and to a large degree my sanity. It gave context and caring to what I was experiencing with my W's betrayal. It helped to hone my thoughts and feelings about my M and my life post A. For that I will be forever grateful.

There is a long list of people to thank. If I attempted to list them I would miss the point of SI I think and that is collective wisdom. Sure a timely comment or post is helpful, but its the collaboration here, the sum is greater than it's parts that has been enlightening for me. So thanks to those who started, maintain and continue to contribute.

Ultimately betrayal is about the self. WS or BS are just names. If you did the betraying you violated yourself first then your partner. I think that is great context for the BS to consider. For the BS the very way you conceptualize the world has been changed. How you resolve being betrayed is your task.

Context is everything. It is critical to remember that a persons situation is not another's. People are at different stages in healing, hurt and helping. We all have our own histories and they play out in the stories of our lives. They matter greatly to each of us and they shape the way we think, feeling and react. Keep that in mind when given or receiving advice.

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Posts: 1200 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land

somanyyears♂ 26970Member # 26970

Posted: 7:47 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013

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..glad to hear things are good..

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How you resolve being betrayed is your task.

..may we all find our way..

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF wert!

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer !!

Posts: 4198 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs

brokensmile322♀ 35758Member # 35758

Posted: 7:57 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013

Good luck, Wert! I've enjoyed your posts and your insight.

I hope you will stop in now and again and let us know how you are doing!