Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Bring the Ring - all about cock ring pleasure

The cock ring is a little-known toy. However, its purpose is grand, as it is designed to keep the penis hard for an extended period of time. The rings are available in different varieties of leather, rubber and steel. Many men who have used them, swear by them, but warn that cock rings are best kept for special occasions. Because of the delicate purpose of this toy, it is best presented to the special man that you are in a long-term or very comfortable relationship with.

Naughty NoveltiesOne look at a 'discreet' catalogue will convince you that there are seemingly never-ending variety of sex toys, from strap-on dildos, to whips and chains, to colored, flavored shaving cream. As you peruse these toy choices, you will probably find that some make you laugh and others make you cringe in disgust. But you may find a select few toys that make you raise your eyebrows in interest, and those are the ones you should consider for yourself.

Tantalize with TelevisionPerhaps the most accessible sex toy with the least stigma attached to it, is the adult video. These are available at just about every video store in the US, so there is no need to travel into seedy parts of town or make special orders online. If you are still embarrassed, casually mention to the video clerk that you are having a bachlorette party, and all will be understood.

The two best things about videos are these: that men love to watch so they are an almost guaranteed turn-on, and that there is a large selection of titles exploring every type of sexual fantasy.

There is much more out there than the infamous "Debbie Does Dallas." It's suggested that you preview the videos in the privacy of your home, so that you can explore and then choose what really turns you on.

The man will be so amazed that you did this, that whatever you choose to share with him will get him excited too. Just be careful that your videos aren't sending unintentional messages. For example, if you show him a video with two ladies making out, or a trio of three men and a lady, he may think you are trying to tell him that is what you want. So, figure out what you like first, then take the lead!

If you plan on using videos, seriously consider adding a TV/VCR combo (with remote, of course) to your bedside basics equipage. If you are nervous about how to introduce the video, set your mind at ease because there are many 'natural' possibilities! If you are trying to casually start things with a guy you have known for a long time, invite him over for some drinks and a video. Then arrange your videos in ascending order of sexiness. When he arrives and asks what videos you have, rattle off the list and watch his surprise (And see which video he chooses!) If you are dealing with a long-term boyfriend or husband, simply slip the video in the VCR and invite him to watch a movie with you in bed. If you are after seducing a new man, invite him into your apartment and hand him the remote (or better yet, have the movie playing when he walks in.)

Scoping the Scene

Don't underestimate the importance of the 'scope'. Scoping keeps you attuned to what and who is around you, alerts you to future possibilities, and signals to others that you are available and interested. Your objective when scoping is simple - to locate the perfect man- prospect. Scoping is the ongoing process that starts with a general appraisal of your surroundings when you enter a new place. It continues after a pause when you have determined where the most action and fun is. You then move in the direction of the people you want to be near.

Once you are in a prime position in the room (where you can see and be seen,) you can continue to scope for interesting people and prospects. The entire process is subtle, as your glances are very short and not obvious. Scoping should not make anyone feel uncomfortable or 'hunted'. Scoping can, and should, occur anywhere and everywhere - at grocery stores, church meetings, rock concerts, bars, on the street, and everywhere in between.

Ready, Scope, Aim ... Fire!

If you have successfully completed your scoping objective and have located an attractive man that you want to get to know better, it is time to move into phase two. In phase two, your objective is to make initial contact with your handsome man prospect. To do this, catch his eye, look directly at him for a few seconds, smile slightly, and then look away. Repeat this process the next time you glance in his direction and find him looking at you. This back-and-forth fleeting eye contact can potentially continue for embarrassingly long periods of time.

If he doesn't make the first move, or if you like to, facilitate the action. Consider finding a reason to walk by him or to stand close to him (such as going to the bar to get a drink.)

If he is an especially hot prospect, consider buying him a drink (this can be alcohol, coffee, or whatever is appropriate.) To do this, you can enlist the help of a waiter or waitress (but be sure the drink gets to the right person!) Or, you can boldly present the drink to him yourself with a casual introduction such as "Here, I thought you might like this." If you choose to deliver the drink in person, be prepared for him to be caught off- guard, and perhaps even stunned.

Therefore, it is especially important for you to have some conversation topics ready and some opening/leading lines on the tip of your tongue. (See next section for line suggestions.)

Leading Lines

Now that you have completed phase two and are in direct contact with your man prospect, it is important to stay alert and to investigate. He is actually there in front of you! So, while you are engaging him in some small talk, examine how you are feeling. Get past your nervous, racing heart and determine your attraction for this man. Do you want to pursue this prospect any further?

Perhaps your answer is no, in which case, find a polite way to back away and return to scoping. Maybe you are unsure, and decide to take it slowly. However, if you determine, "Heck yes! I want this man in my bed tonight!" then let him know it. Remember that you are determining your destiny, and can be in control of this situation. All it will take is a semi-subtle cue for the man to understand what you want - but why not make your cue/ line memorable and clever? Consider specializing your 'leading line' to fit what you already know about your prospect.

While the variations are endless, here are a few samples:

To the surfer dude who believes in the never-ending summer: "Can I see your tan line?"

To the investment banker: " You are really cut-up! How often do you work out? Can I touch your muscle?" (This also works for the Harley Davidson types!)

To the photographer: "Do you want to see all of me in the best light?"

To the still wanna-be hippie professor: "You really have a peace sign tattooed on your backside?"

To the intellectual: "Let's head back to my place, have some coffee and discuss (your favorite classic book.)"

To the hip hopster, or hip hopster wanna-be: "You want to go back to ma pad for some jiggly wiggly?"

The point being, that if you are interested, let him know. You shouldn't need a diagram to get the point across. If he is also interested, he'll catch your drift.

Book the Hook - Up

You've scoped, you've made contact with an attractive man, and charmed, or at least amused him, with some clever lines and conversation. So now, complete your mission and book your hook-up.

Your new sexual persona dictates that you make decisions and determine what moves to make. You are willing to take some risks to find out what you want and like. However, this does not mean that you have lost your feminine prerogative to change your mind! If you are right outside your door, or even in your bedroom, and you decide he is not what you want, find a way to politely say goodnight, and then move on without looking back (Although, it is strongly recommended that you do this before you are in the bedroom.)

If you do want to move the action along, subtlety works best. Casual hints like rubbing your finger back and forth over your lips or neckline will get his body heat rising. You should also look for opportunities to slip in a good lead-in line. Men, who may play cool, but are often nervous themselves, will sometimes throw out lines such as "I'm not looking for anything serious, just to have fun." They do this to test the water, and when you respond with a likewise sentiment, they are confident to get the ball rolling!

TIPS TO REMEMBER

Now that you look fantastic, your place is ready for action, and you've located the man of your dreams, don't blow it with a little slip of the tongue or overlooked detail! Shoot for excellence and for providing the ultimate experience. The sexual arena is one place that men always try to show perfection. Keep in mind that you probably wont get kudos from a man for having food in the fridge, but you will get them if you help him have an all- around fabulous experience. So, while some of the following tips may seem obvious or inconsequential to you, they are still worth keeping in mind.

Conversation CatastrophesAny lady who grew up with a brother knows that even if men look and talk tough, there is one thing that will almost always make them squirm - girl talk. Therefore, save the girl talk for your girl friends. Don't in anyway discuss things like periods, yeast infections, hair removal, mole removal, control-top pantyhose, rashes etc. And that means don't allude to them either! Men aren't completely stupid - they know what Mr. Monthly is!!

Bites that DelightWhen the passion rises, kisses sometimes turn into nibbles. Kisses should never turn into bites. If you do nibble, do so gently and only occasionally. If you leave any kind of mark, such as a hickey or teeth marks, you've gone too far. More exciting and effective alternative ways of giving pleasure later ...

A Hairy SubjectDo you want a man to reach across the table, shove his hand in your hair and scruff it all around? As most women say no, so do most men. Men are often surprisingly concerned with their hair, and can be very particular about the way it is styled. Perhaps he has layered his hair with gel and would be embarrassed if you feel it. Or maybe he's carefully combed the hairs to cover his glaring (at least to him) bald spot. Don't risk upsetting him, and save the hair tousling for private.

Also demonstrate thoughtfulness with a man's body hair. If you are licking or massaging any hairy body part, do it gently so as not to painfully pull any of the hairs. In massages, a good rule is to concentrate on the muscle, and not on the surface.