(Closed) Why I am starting to dislike weddingbee

I have been feeling really upset lately because everytime I have posted something to the boards or I see alot of other happy posts, they turn into judgement or people give tell you that you’re wrong. But honnestly sometime people just want to share good news or tell you about how excited and happy they are to be getting married.

Some people (like me) don’t have alot of people to share in the fun of wedding planning. No one wants to hear me talk about weddings because they just aren’t intrested, which is ok but it’s hard when you try to find an outlet and intsead you get told your doing it all wrong.

I never had a second thought about how my life was unfolding until I came on here and now it feels like I have it all wrong.

Unfortunately when you put a lot of brides into one place then there is bound for a little drama! Most of this drama occurs when someone asks for an opinion/advice….I think we all know by now that people on the internet do not act as they would in public. People say rude things, they get snappy and feelings get hurt. It’s one of those things we have to be careful about. Maybe your best friend isn’t going to tell you she hates your dress but I’m sure a stranger 1000 miles away doesn’t care if she hurts your feelings. It’s unfortunate but true. We all have to be careful how we act and use the internet. For every negative person on WB there are 100 positive bees excited for you!

And to be honest, it’s incredibly hard to read tone and meaning via the web! Sometimes a person will have NO ill intentions but their post sounds snarky online.

Ok have an opinion but deliver it in a much nicer way!! Honestly I cannot believe how people react to posts and how unbelievably rude they are!! I thought this blog was a fun thing to share your wedding ideas on not to be judged in a nasty fashion.

If I comment on something disagreeing with a post then I try to see it from their view as well and make a fair judgement/comment.

I went back and looked at the threads you started – threads about being young/marrying young/having babies young almost never end well on any wedding website. If you steer clear of those topics and keep it to actually talking about your wedding, what you are excited about, etc, you’ll get more support.

Sorry to hear. I was part of another (nameless) wedding board site and left because of the general attitude on many of the people. I’d have to say that I like this one a lot more, but still to each her own.

The risk of posting to any boars is that people will say things you don’t agree with and some people will be obnoxious, mean, and rude. I’m sorry if a few bad apples cause you to leave the boards.

Take a break for awhile if you want, but I wouldn’t quit the board quite yet.

@Mrs_Lewis2b: I agree, I wish some of the other posters would reply nicer, even if you don’t agree with the op. There is no reason to be nasty! and you will almost always get attacked if it’s something that has to do with what they conceive as “correct etiquette”. Like seriously which one of them wrote the book on what is right and what is wrong for each individual wedding?!?

Just stay away from controversial subjects. Don’t feel like you need to prove to others something that you shouldn’t have to. Your life choices are yours to make and while people disagree about it, you need to be mature enough to handle it.

There are so many threads in the time that I’ve been on weddingbee (3.5 years) that are about how people are mean/unhelpful/judgmental and those threads, like this one, probably won’t go well.

I don’t really see anyone being mean or harsh… but you’ve started lots of threads on hot button issues.

This is the internet my dear. There is no safe space for exactly what you want to hear. It’s a freel for all show of opinions. Saying that, the WB is better than most because of how they crack down on things that violate the ToS.

So, in the end, i’m sorry you’re not feeling welcome here but honestly, and personally, after steadily posting here for the last year, i can say that 99% of the people on here are lovely and are here to help.

People will always find something to judge and complain about. You’re either too young or you’re too old, too thin or too heavy, lazy or a workaholic, etc etc. I have seen threads turn so hostile over the most ridiculous things – piercing children’s ears, having a wedding on a day other than Saturday, registry drama, etc. Who really cares about the opinions of strangers on the internet? I don’t even care about the opinions of most of the people I know in real life!

OP, if you feel like you are being judged,just discontinue the conversation. I know you want to share in the joy and excitement, but some people are just rude and ignorant. So be classy and walk away from those topics.