What's Stopping You?: Why Smart People Don't Always Reach Their Potential and How You Can

Do fear and doubt hinder your progress in life? Are you paralyzed at key moments by your insecurities?Millions of smart people are held back from achieving their potential by a fear of failure. Many of them don't even realize that this recognized condition is limiting their progress. Based on extensive research, recognized science, and stark reality, this book will help listeners navigate the barriers that hold them back: at work, with people, and in life.

Get Things Done: What Stops Smart People Achieving More and How You Can Change

Robert Kelsey’s What’s Stopping You? has become a self-help classic. His What’s Stopping You? books have helped thousands of people worldwide overcome their limiting beliefs and bash through their barriers to success. Now Robert is back to help us defeat the obstacles that stop us achieving more in our everyday lives. Many of us have the greatest of intentions but find ourselves procrastinating, which results in low attainment and frustrated ambitions.

Commit to Win: How to Harness the Four Elements of Commitment to Reach Your Goals

What do you need besides motivation and willpower? In Commit to Win, Heidi Reeder, PhD, unpacks over forty years of research by psychologists and economists to show that the key to reaching any goal, whether it’s to hit the gym more often or to finally quit that dead-end job, isn’t motivation, willpower, or determination. It’s commitment. Busting the myths most of us believe about commitment, Reeder shows that it all comes down to four variables.

What's Stopping You Being Confident?

Do you lack confidence or self-belief? Join the club. Millions of otherwise smart people lack the confidence to achieve their full potential - at work, in their careers and even in their personal pursuits. Yet confidence isn't something that can be conjured from motivational exercises or via quick-fix techniques. Confidence is something you must build for yourself. It takes planning and action, deciding where you want to gain confidence and how it must be won. It will require courage, optimism and resilience.

You Can Begin Again: No Matter What, It's Never Too Late

It's never too late for a new beginning. Look closely and you'll see that theme all through the Bible. Page after page, God delights in turning tragic endings into new beginnings. A childless woman conceives in her old age; a fearful, self-conscious shepherd becomes a leader of millions; and a prostitute becomes a wife and mother in the lineage of Christ. Every biblical fresh start reveals the amazing, awe-inspiring hope we have for our own new beginnings in God's plan for our lives.

Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance

Jonathan Fields knows the risks - and potential power - of uncertainty. He gave up a six-figure income as a lawyer to make $12 an hour as a personal trainer. Then, married with a three-month old baby, he signed a lease to launch a yoga center in the heart of New York City...the day before 9/11.

Cracking the Code: Breaking Through Your Self-Imposed Limitations

We all want to live a better life. We all want to achieve a certain set of goals we set out for ourselves. But, when it comes down to it, we simply get stuck. We're stricken by things like procrastination and the inability to act. So why is that we say we want something, but when it comes down to it, we don't do what it takes to achieve it? Well, if you've set goals in the past, and you found yourself giving up, then this book is for you.

Everyone knows that regular exercise and weight training lead to physical strength. But how do we strengthen ourselves mentally for the truly tough times? And what should we do when we face these challenges? Or as psychotherapist Amy Morin asks, what should we avoid when we encounter adversity? Through her years counseling others and her own experiences navigating personal loss, Morin realized it is often the habits we cannot break that are holding us back from true success and happiness.

Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success

A stunning new approach to how individuals can not only change their lives for the better in the workplace, but also their lives away from the office, including (but not limited to) finding ways to improve one's working relationship with others, one's overall health, outlook on life, and so on. For example, why is it that 95% of all diet attempts fail? Why do New Year's Resolutions last no more than a few days? Why can't people with good intentions seem to make consistent and positive strides in the way they want to improve their careers, financial fitness, physical fitness, and so on?

Your Next Move: The Leader's Guide to Successfully Navigating Major Career Transitions

In Your Next Move, leadership-transition guru Michael Watkins shows how you can survive and thrive in all the major transitions you will face during your career, including promotion, on-boarding into a new organization, and making an international move. With real-life examples and case studies, he illustrates the defining hurdles associated with each type of transition.

The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

Leading consultant psychiatrist Steve Peters knows more than anyone how impulsive behaviour or nagging self-doubt can impact negatively on our professional and personal lives. In this, his first book, Steve shares his phenomenally successful mind-management programme that has been used to help elite athletes and senior managers alike to conquer their fears and operate with greater control, focus and confidence.

NLP at Work: The Essence of Excellence, 3rd Edition (People Skills for Professionals)

Since the first edition, NLP at Work has pioneered the use of neurolinguistic programming (NLP) in the business world to improve communication, negotiation, teamwork, and influence. With more 100,000 copies sold and now in its third edition, NLP at Work is a clear and comprehensive introduction to using NLP in the workplace, with a unique personal style and approach.

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Goal Setting: 13 Secrets of World Class Achievers

These 13 “secrets” are the proven formula used by world-class achievers across the ages. We live in a time where many people have lost touch with the qualities that produce extraordinary lives. Imagination, ingenuity, drive, and a no-fear, no-quitters allowed mentality often seem to be disappearing from our culture and our world. This is a book for everyone who has ever had a dream. This book will teach you how to set goals and achieve that dream, step-by-step and day-by-day.

Publisher's Summary

Do fear and doubt hinder your progress in life? Are you paralyzed at key moments by your insecurities? Millions of smart people are held back from achieving their potential by a fear of failure. Many of them don't even realize that this recognized condition is limiting their progress. Based on extensive research, recognized science, and stark reality, this book will help listeners navigate the barriers that hold them back: at work, with people, and in life.

By finally understanding what's stopping you, you can calculate your true goals and take small, practical, and sustainable steps towards a more positive future.

Included is a foreword by Financial Times columnist and serial entrepreneur Luke Johnson and a conclusion from the London Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.

If you have a high fear of failure, you may be choosing tasks at which you are either certain to fail or certain to succeed. That is, if you're throwing rings at a peg, you will either stand so close that you can just lean over and lay down the rings, or you will stand so far back nobody will laugh at you when you miss the target.

There exists, Kelsey argues, a dichotomy between those who fear failure and those who don't. Most self-help books are aimed at the latter, because this phenomenon is so poorly understood. Which is why most of these books don't help any of those who feel inclined to read them.​

Those with High Fear of Failure (High FF's) must recognize their disability, then accept it for what it is, and finally plan for how to achieve great things despite of it -- or perhaps with its aid.

In fact​, when doing it right, High FF's may have better chances of becoming extraordinary leaders and successful entrepreneurs than others.

Kelsey's book is both personal, instructional and philosophical. Chances are high you will recognize yourself in his anecdotes, and find inspiration in his advise.​

Kelsey's honest and forthright examination of his own self-diagnosed Fear of Failure is a rich and well researched summary of relevant tips from the best of the self-help books on this subject. He puts forward that "self-help" is an industry based on the modern quick fix solution that, of course, cannot provide the long term fix promised. Kelsey then proceeds to share the best of the advice found from his own professional and personal experience and research into curing himself. I would summarize his conclusion as: 1) Recognize your own Dragon 2) Realize there is no way to slay it, it is your own Dragon 3) Learn to use the power of that Dragon. And if you are an HFF, use it to assist and teach others instead of fearing the Dragon or yourself.

This book brings together the best and brightest ideas regarding self-development and balance. Helps you realize that progress is made in small increments thru self reflection and learning from mistakes

I empathise with the author and really would like to be more generous, but this book just wasn't worth the running time. The book spends a great deal of time making the point that "some people are afraid of failure and sabotage themselves to avoid risk". Beyond that, the book offers little in the way of specific, actionable advice.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

Birgitte

Taastrup, Denmark

9/6/12

Overall

"Surprisingly good"

I've read a lot of self-help books over the years, but this one is different in the fact that Kelsey actually deals with the subject from a user perspective. He takes you through all the litterature - including the more scientific stuff and relates it to a normal persons difficulties of obtaining goals.
Easy read, great stuff, lots and lots of good references to further study if you so desire.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

Sandra Nelms

3/27/12

Overall

"Very difficult to get in to"

I found this book incredibly hard to get into. It uses lots of acronyms and short forms of things that I found really hard to follow.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

Mr John Sharkey

6/24/15

Overall

Performance

Story

"Prompting thought"

I liked this book for its contents ability to stimulate thought, offering suggestions allowing the reader an unbiased comparison with their own situation present and past.

0 of 0 people found this review helpful

Carole

Glasgow, United Kingdom

7/17/14

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"Fantastic book"

Where does What's Stopping You? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I bought this a while back and never quite got around to listening to it. Now having listened to it I can honestly say this is one of best self-help books I have ever came across and I am listening to it again for a second time in a week.

What was one of the most memorable moments of What's Stopping You??

Robert Kelsey is so open and honest about his fear of failure, his is my story, everything he said resonated with me.

What does Matt Addis bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

Matt Addis narrates this story as if it is his own, connecting the listener to the story and the author.

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Having recently set up my own business, and for the most part wondering what on earth I was thinking, this book has been an inspiration and motivator. I have embraced my fears of failure and have turned procrastination into action.

Any additional comments?

I would highly recommend this book

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