I took an informal poll of friends to find out if that’s in line with what they’re planning. The ones who are coupled, mostly, are having modest dinner out, or at home with the person who doesn't usually cook in charge. Several people scoffed at the “Hallmark holiday” and are appalled at the whole idea of Valentine’s Day. One Seattle woman I know was planning on buying a $950 commemorative Seahawks Native American-carved bentwood box to celebrate the first anniversary of living with her boyfriend. More than a few friends are planning on hunkering down to watch “The Walking Dead” return to TV or getting tickets to “Deadpool.” (I love those friends a tiny little bit more than my other ones).

Love essential oil: A heady, sexy scent of clary sage, geranium, patchouli, rose, sweet orange and ylang ylang you can add to massage oil, or simply swipe on to your skin to add that extra mojo. Which can never hurt. $12.95 / 30 ml

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Anatomical heart pillow cover: It’s like she’s staring directly into my own heart, except she forgot to include my dog and kid. Note that the pillow is not included, but I’m pretty sure you have a 12”x12” boring pillow somewhere in your home that’s dying for a makeover. $25

A Little Romance: I saw this first when I was 14 and in the throes of my own first love and bawled until I nearly threw out a lung. But this 1979 film stands up, even with Sir Laurence Olivier mugging all over the place. See Diane Lane in all her young loveliness, and some super cute French kid. $19.47 on Amazon.com, or free whenever Netflix gets around to acquiring this cinematic treasure

I Heart You Fill-In Books: This is a book where you fill in what you love about each other. Warning: Do not tell your friends you’re doing this. It will make them sick. $9.95

Old School Mix Tape Playlist: Collect your favorite love tracks and pass them along on a Spotify list or your music streaming platform of choice. Some starters: Wings’ Maybe I’m Amazed, Minnie Riperton’s Loving You, and Bread’s Make It With You. Here’s one I made in about 10 minutes—feel free to share and steal from it! Free

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This red hat: I live in Southern California and I’m having a moment of mourning that I could only wear this Dorfman Pacific Plaid Trooper hat for about three days a year. But for everyone else in a normal place, so cute. Style it out and send me pictures! $21.93

In Another Life: Julie Christine Johnson’s freshly minted novel is a love story and mystery that transcends time. Probably should get your own copy too, as your beloved might be out of commission for a bit as he or she navigates through this engrossing tale. $14.99

I’m a wild-minded creative and an eco-minded pragmatist, the combination of which has sharply honed my consumer superpowers. I also spend a lot of time practicing the art of prosperity—the psycho-spiritual work on breaking mental barriers that keep people from earning and s...