10 Months In…I’m Leaving My Husband.

Hey Vulnerabites, Tara and I hit it off instantly (we literally skipped the small talk and tapped into some very vulnerable places in our FIRST conversation). I knew right away this was someone I’d want to ‘keep around.’ Journeying alongside her behind the scenes has been an honor. I hope that you’ll grow to love her as you get to know her. Big Hugs to you Tara! Thank you for sharing life with us!

I got married in July of last year… to a man unlike any I’ve ever met before.

Like, seriously, I think Disney lost one of their Prince Charming characters and he ended up at my high school.

Marriage is an adventure…and a time a growth – lots of it! My husband has shown me what it looks like to radiate joy in the midst of chaos and trials. He has shown me what it looks like to always strive to be the best version of “me.”

Marriage brings out the best (and sometimes the scariest) parts of me. No one is perfect, but I might be a little biased about the man I married.

Meet Kayden:

During our courtship, yes we skipped ‘dating’ and started courting immediately – can I get an amen for old fashioned men?!, In that time, Kayden got to know me in a deeper way that not many get to see. This is the great thing about a courtship – not dating and playing games but rather having intentions of marriage, he got to know parts of me that maybe another guy wouldn’t think to ask in a casual dating relationship.

Kayden learned pretty quickly that my dreams in this life were big…that I desired to bring restoration to the broken and light to dark places in this world. I think this probably scared him a bit. He is a pretty laid back guy — he loves to fish, hike, hunt, and go camping – not so much travel the world and save people from being victims of human trafficking or adopt all the babies in orphanages around the world… that’s me.

Don’t get me wrong, he is a supporter of those things, but for me, it’s a calling… my greatest desire.

When I got accepted for an internship with one of the largest international nonprofit organizations that fights human trafficking – A21– founded by Christine Caine, he lit up like the fourth of July!

Stepping out of my comfort zone this early in my marriage is scary.

I asked myself::

Should I really be leaving my husband only 10 months into our marriage to pursue this dream?

Can I do it at a later time?

Is it selfish of me to empty our savings for this?

Regardless of my fear or my questions, I knew that my husband would make a way for this dream of mine to come true… and he did.

There is such beauty in pursuing my dream in marriage. I have my own personal cheerleader 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and my own personal therapist when I begin to waver in doubt. I have learned that Kayden’s support gives me the strength I need to go forth and pursue this calling.

I believe this is why God has waited to open this door – He knew that I would be a better version of myself with the unconditional support and encouragement that my marriage provides.

Pursuing my biggest dreams within marriage has been such an adventure, and such a growing opportunity. I am looking forward to what I learn next!

That tile though?! WOWZA. What a beautiful testament of God not only giving us our heart’s desires but providing everything (and sending us everyone!) we need to see those desires fulfilled! Thank you for sharing!!!

I’m with Joelle…way to get us twisted with that title. We see what you did there, drawing us in and messing with our emotions!

Tara. Thankful your story and journey includes someone who supports you and pursues what’s best for you. Thank you for reminding me that men like Kayden exist and aren’t unicorns. (And, yes: AMEN to old-fashioned men!)

It’s also encouraging to read yet another post on this blog on the positive outcomes that occur when we address our fears head-on…def one of my takeaways from your story.

The title had my stomach in knots, but I’m glad the post was about having the love and support of a spouse as you pursue your dreams.
Thanks for sharing.
I especially liked how the post explained that he got to know her, the person. I also liked the fact that a distinction was made between courting and dating. I don’t think I ever quite saw them as that much different, but in essence they truly are different things.