Friday, December 28, 2012

Look what I have: A set of great new CDs to listen to as our friend Craig chauffeurs us on a wine-tasting adventure.

Live Tedeschi Trucks Band...a GREAT CD!

This was the start of my 50th birthday celebration in November--four days secretly planned out by Dave.

What a great tradition that's taken hold in our three years together: We create a birthday adventure for the other person. An adventure that we enjoy together.

First stop.

This year's was not only a celebration of my entering a new decade but also of the Mother Lode region of our beloved California. We started by going to seven (yes, seven!) wineries in Amador County, east of Sacramento.

It's like old Napa there--mainly small, independent wineries; lots of personal attention from the staff; and no charge for wine tasting.

And, oh yeah, it's beautiful.

Lookin' cool in hard hats. The equipment is half the fun of ziplining.

After ziplining, we had a couples massage in the Gold Rush town of Murphy's.

We spent that night in another Gold Rush town: Angel's Camp. I hadn't been there since I was a 17-year-old boogeying to the Doobie Brothers, Toto, and Huey Lewis at Mountain Aire Music Festival.

Moutain Aire 1980, with my friend Nancy

Angel's Camp is a charming one-strip Gold Rush town with a fantastic B&B called Cooper House.

Super Duper Cooper House

Cooper House used to be the home and medical practice of a Gold Rush-era doctor. It's now owned by Rob and Tey who, in Rob's words, "want it to feel like the home of a relative you've never met before."

Cozy at Cooper House

I'd say it feels like the home of a relative who has great taste. Tey used to work for Gumps in San Francisco. He spent years collecting the furnishings that B&B guests now enjoy. The breakfast was yummy, and round-the-clock you can help yourself to coffee, tea, and wine in the shared living space--where we also enjoyed relaxation and conversation with a Danish family.

The next day we went here:

Yosemite Valley, with Half Dome in the distance.

Yosemite. Jewel of California. It'd been years since I'd been there, but it holds a special place in my heart because it's where my parents met.

Mom and Dad in the late 1970s/early 1980s.

In the 1950s, my mom (who died this year) was a nurse there. Dad worked there as a tour bus driver one summer during his break from Chico State. They loved Yosemite. We spent several vacations there, and once they took us for dinner at the Ahwahnee.

That's where Dave and I had dinner that night, in the stunning Ahwahnee dining room. Our server told us she's worked at the park for 30 years...and she's only 15th in seniority. Sounds like some people visit Yosemite and never leave. I get it. There's a mystic pull to the place, with its ancient granitic presence.

View of Upper Yosemite Falls from the window of our Ahwahnee suite.

I can't describe Yosemite any better than did Ansel Adams when he said: “Yosemite Valley, to me, is always a sunrise, a glitter of green and golden wonder in a vast edifice of stone and space.”

We discovered that Thanksgiving weekend is a great place to visit
Yosemite. The air is crystalline, and the people spare. Few tourists:
that's rare in Yosemite. So not only do you get to take popular hikes in virtual solitude, but the
staff has time to give you special attention. In our case, that mean a
free upgrade to a suite!

The Library Suite: Suh-weet!

The morning of my birthday, I luxuriated in opening presents before the fire and eating the most delicious room service breakfast we'd ever had.

My 50th year is a hallmark in my life, but a drop in the stream of eternity. On this trip, my past ghosted through my present. I stared at Half Dome and thought of my parents, and of the man in my life who loves this world, and me.

I felt both the grandness and the infinitesimal qualities of being human. As John Muir once wrote, in nature "life seems
neither long nor short, and we take no more heed to save time or
make haste than do the trees and stars. This is true freedom, a
good practical sort of immortality."

Saturday, December 22, 2012

This has been a watershed year, my 50th. I'm
grateful I was able to spend hours with Mom--snuggling with her,
listening to Hawaiian music, and telling her funny and loving
stories--before she released into the great beyond.

Looking very Brady: Mom, sister Ann, me, sister Crystal, early 1970s. (Mom made all these clothes.)

I'm grateful
for the communal rituals that celebrate love and human connection:
from Mom's Celebration of Life, to live concerts and birthday parties,
to weddings. I was the bride at one wedding this year, and the
officiant at another.

Dave with women of the wedding, an impromptu bachelor party (albeit a few hours late).

I'm grateful I married Dave, a true
partner in life. I'm grateful for all of our incredible adventures with
family and friends throughout California, Mexico, and Hawaii. (A
shout-out to my sisters: you're the best!)

Atop the Pyramid of the Sun in Mexico, with Paul.

It was one year
ago this month that we moved to Santa Cruz. Living in this jewel of a
place has added extra sparkle to our lives.

With friends a few blocks from our house.

I'm grateful for my
colleagues and my students, from whom I learn so much. I'm grateful
for art, literature, and writing. This year I joined a fantastic
writing group that's supporting my efforts at my next book, and I
started my "Ask Dr. Kate" column.

Skiing last week with good friends Matt, Stacey and twins Cole & Wyatt. (Stacey and I have been buds for 20 years.)

My New Year's Resolution last
year was to do something new every day. As of today I have fulfilled
that resolution. In fact, it's become so second nature to say YES that
most days I do a bunch of new things.

Zip-lining on my 50th birthday extravaganza.

I feel like I'm finally
getting the hang of embracing life. Here's to relishing the moment and
being excited for the future. Happy Holidays, everyone!

Monday, December 10, 2012

I would like to know where you found the fountain of youth! Also: Are you a vegetarian and do you stick to a specific diet?

-Donna

Hi Donna,

What a timely question since I just turned 50. I feel younger and more vibrant now than I did ten years ago. In my humble opinion, this is because I’m happier.

That said, I don’t look younger. Well, maybe my body does, but my face doesn’t. I’m okay, though, with having a “complicated” face. It’s a map of my life. I’m not someone to fiddle with my face, but I’m not for or against face-fiddling. I’m not into judging what others choose to do. And I think this is part of my fountain of youth: keeping out of others people’s business. I don’t have any interest in convincing people of things, of pushing against stuff. I’d rather go with my flow. I’d rather be happy. And happiness is the best face-lift.

Just as there is no formula for happiness, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all fountain of youth. There are as many fountains as there are people to skinny dip.

Since you asked, here is my recipe for capturing the energy, joy, and creativity associated with youthfulness:

1. Be your own soul mate. I don’t look to anyone else’s behavior or thoughts to make me happy. Not even (or perhaps, especially) my spouse! As Oscar Wilde said, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” This frees me up to love (or ignore!) people as they are. This frees me up to allow, rather than try to control others’ thoughts and actions. This frees me up to love the freedom that is the birth right of us all.

2. Try new stuff. For a long time, I was stuck in my ways—convinced that I didn’t like X, Y & Z and had no interest in trying them. It’s okay to have preferences—but my disposition went way beyond predilections. I was spending precious living energy justifying my ways. It’s funny how we feel we must explain to our friends, our family, and strangers (and to ourselves) why we make the choices we do. Once I stopped arguing for my limitations, I found myself less judgmental of myself and others. And I began to open about trying new things. Also, I suddenly had more energy because instead of using my power to justify, I was using it to live! (I’ve also written about this here and here and here.)

3. Move for fun. Exercise as punishment isn’t my thing. I like to move in a variety of fun ways rather than try to stick to some rigorous workout schedule that I’ll eventually come to resent. Resentment is bad for any relationship! I do like to run, but when I set out, I don’t force it. I don’t say, “I must run X miles.” Instead, I smell the salt air, watch the trees and people and pelicans go by, and use movement as a way to appreciate my body, my breath, and my world. Some of the other ways I like to move include beach Frisbee, strolling to my favorite cafe, dancing in clubs and in my living room, yoga, random moments of stretching, skiing, hiking, snow-shoeing, swimming, sex, and taking the stairs instead of the elevator. But if you like the elevator, take it and enjoy the ride, rather than thinking the whole time you “should” be on the stairs. Being in the groove of whatever I’m doing rather than thinking I “should” be doing something else is the key the pleasurable movement. The grass is greener where you stand. Or hop, stretch or boogie.

4. Eat what you love, with appreciation. No, I’m not a vegetarian. I used to be one. In fact, I was a vegetarian for about twenty years. I was the shittiest vegetarian because I filled up on huge portions of breads and pastas and beer and pie while secretly craving chicken and bacon and hamburgers. I wasn’t eating what I really wanted, and so I compensated in unhealthy ways. My energy was low. I often felt lethargic. Now I eat whatever I want. How do I know what I reallywant? I check in with myself (my clear, quiet, wise self—aka, my Inner Being) and say, “What sounds good?” Almost always my wise IB wants something healthy and in medium portions.

Whenever I’m craving something, I also check in with my Inner Being. I say, “Hey, IB, how ya feeling about those nachos?” And I kid you not, when I pause and ask, sometimes the desire for those nachos just disappears. Other times, my IB gives the nachos the thumbs-up. And then I look closely at the melting cheese (so pretty how it glistens!) and olives (thank you olive tree, and the person who picked them!)—in other words, I appreciate whatever is in front of me. Then, with thoughtful awareness, I eat, savoring every bite. When I eat in that mode, I always eat less than if I dive in without centering myself first. Sometimes even one bite of a dessert is all I “need.” And while I’m no Skinny Minnie, my body is happy. There’s nothing like eating informed by my body’s wisdom.

5. Focus on solutions not problems. The problem, the complaint, is usually very clear. Why linger there? Why not turn toward all the possibility the problem has created? Why not face the sun? In this way we serve ourselves—and the world—better. What does this have to do with your question? I think anger, fear, worry, resentment, and pushing against the world make us old. So what makes us young? Living your purpose with joy, creativity, appreciation, and a rich connection to your true self and others.

Friday, October 19, 2012

Yesterday as Dave and I took a walk on the beach, luxuriating in the glistening beauty of October in Santa Cruz, we marveled at how much we appreciate our lives. And this marveling was made even more striking when our conversation wandered into the territory of the dark times of our lives.

I took this picture of Santa Cruz magical opalesence

During my darkest time, it crossed my mind whether continuing to live was worth it. Fortunately, I learned from a great therapist that those passing thoughts were my mind's logical way of striving to relieve some of the intense pain. I learned that there were other ways to reach for relief: hanging out in my sister's living room, communing with trees and loving friends, watching the sky, going on road trips, dancing to live music, trying new foods, and breathing through a bad minute knowing that the next one or the next one or the next one might ease up a tiny bit. Oh, and wine. Wine helped a lot. Little moments of relief gave me hope that with time, I'd heal.

And indeed I did. But more than that happened. I came to realize that I am the creator of my life. I had a choice: I could become bitter about the past, or see it as a chance to grow. Bitterness, to me, felt like facing in the wrong direction. Bitterness is an anchor to the past that keeps you from moving forward. I wanted to hoist my sail and cruise into all the possibilities of my future.

And now, all these years later, so many incredible things have come to pass. Dave and I talked about how our three years together have felt like fifty. That's not because time is dragging! It's because, filled with the joy of creating together, we dove into a fast-moving energy stream where so much happens in such a short time. It's not a frantic feeling. It's a feeling of abundance and fun and celebration.

Celebration of love, aloha style!

In fact, when I think of all we've experienced in the past years, I realize this: For the most part, we have been going with the flow. "Going with the flow" used to conjure up images in my mind of kicking back--like perpetually hanging out in a hammock. But now I see that going with the flow might mean hanging out in a hammock--but it can mean so much more. It doesn't have to mean standing still. It means fostering a disposition of chillin' so that you can relax even in a fast-moving stream!

Even when I'm doing all the things I do in my life of loving and teaching and travel and writing and family and mentoring--for the most part, I don't feel overwhelmed. For the most part, it feels like time has stretched out. Like I'm learning the knack for living not only in every second but in the spaces between seconds. In fact, it amazes me that so much has happened--and that in spite of all the activity, I have a lot of "down time." I guess that's because I don't worry about being "productive." Going with the flow allows me to enjoy the moment no matter what I'm doing--or not doing.

And if overwhelment does creep up, I tell myself that nothing is an emergency. That I don't have to fix anything. That everything is fine just the way it is. That worry and fear and anxiety are just thoughts. That I can have any thoughts I want! That there's no one right way to do this life.

So here's the thing: I see now that those dark, dark times created the light. Everything is productive--even, or perhaps especially, life's dramatic events. Having lived through an extremely dark time, it's so clear to me how much I've grown. And how I can see possibilities emerging in the midst of difficulty.

I'm not saying I need to go out of my way to find trouble in order to grow. Since change is constant, life is filled with opportunities to expand my awareness, my compassion, my potential. Every small moment in life is a chance to once again hoist the anchor and sail with the wind. The horizons are vast and ever-expanding.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

What I’ve Learned Lately About Travel:

1. Mexico City is awesome–not horrifically dirty or unsafe as rumor might have you believe. Do you love walkable cities, art, great food, cafe culture, music, and dance? Then you’ll probably love Mexico City.

2. Saying YES to lifeputs me in a traveling mindset no matter where I am.

3. No matter your circumstances, if you want to travel there are ways to afford it.

4. Destination weddings rock! We had one in Hawaii, and we went to one on Catalina. And I hope we’ll be going to more! Here are three reasons why I love them:

- Destination weddings provide people with an “excuse” to travel somewhere. Even though we are California natives, we’d never before been to Catalina. It reminded me of a sweet Mediterranean village.

- The wedding becomes about more than spending a day with family and friends. We spent days before and after our wedding hanging out with our loved ones on the beach, eating meals together, and doing all kinds of fun activities (such as ziplining, swimming with dolphins, and snorkeling). The wedding, then, is an opportunity to spend some living time together outside of the usual demands of everyday life.

- A destination wedding can be fun to plan. It doesn’t have to be stressful. When you relax into it, all kinds of serendipity abounds. I recommend deciding where you want it to be and when without worrying in advance who will or won’t be able to come. People’s schedules and lives are always in flux. If they are meant to be there, it’ll happen. We thought we’d have only 4 or 5 people attending, and we ended up with 40! Also: network and explore. Contact people to let them know what you are doing. Next thing you know, all kinds of possibilities will float your way. We had one friend living in Hawaii who ended up helping us find a brand-new venue that didn’t even open until a few weeks before we got married. We found our officiant online–and she has ended up becoming a good friend. There were many other amazing aspects of ourfree-floating planning that you can read about here.

Five Things I Believe About Travel

1. “All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.” — Martin Buber

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Dear Dr. Kate:

How do you afford all this travel? Do you have secrets? Connections? Do tell. Inquiring minds are stumped.

Inquiring Mind

Dear Inquiring Mind:

You ask a good question, especially given that I’m a teacher. Most teachers don’t make anything close to the big bucks of a lawyer, doctor, or CEO–and I’m no exception.

However, there are plenty of CEO’s and doctors and lawyers who never travel. It all starts with desire.

Of course I have two big things in my favor: No kids. And a lot of time off. That said, there are people with kids and people with more traditional jobs who travel a lot. So again: It starts with desire.

Since you asked, here’s a list of my “secrets”:

1. Dream and play. I started collecting travel magazines and cutting out pictures of things I liked. I pasted images and key words into a notebook. Each page became a montage of images: downhill skiing, hanging out on a boat, snorkeling in azure water, swimming with dolphins, hiking in dazzling mountains, groups of friends enjoying food and drink and laughter. I chose things that didn’t have specific associations for me—just things that made me feel good. I cut and pasted like a little kid, without an agenda. Just because it was fun. Eventually I drifted away from that project and onto other things. But two years later, I found the notebook and thumbed through—stunned to see that every single thing in it had come true.

2. Explore the web. There are copious travel blogs out there by people who live a traveling life. I love to Google “travel blogs” and read about people’s adventures and tips. Many of them share their budgets and talk about choices they made that have allowed them freedom to travel—such as becoming internet-based entrepreneurs. They demystify traveling because they do it so many different ways. The possibilities are endless. Two other good sites to explore are Mind My House and Couchsurfing. Both provide ways to stay for free in others’ homes. I poke around on these sites a lot but haven’t yet used their services, although I’ve had friends who have, and they recommend them highly. You can also use the web to find resources to trade your house with another family, or to rent out your house when you travel.

3. Enjoy cheap abundance. Many people (especially women) spend a lot of money on clothes. I buy my clothes at Target, Ross, Goodwill and yard sales. I also buy sparkly fun things and boas at costume stores so I have a bounty of bargain bling! Overall, though, instead of buying a lot of clothes and jewelry, I focus on wearing things I own in brand new combinations. I also try to spend more time outwardly enjoying life than worrying about how I look. My little luxuries (which I relish) are an $18 pedicure and a $2 light roast coffee with cream that I take on a morning beach walk. Also, we live in a small house, which discourages us from collecting a bunch of stuff we don’t need. And we are able to live happily with one car, which cuts back on expenses such as insurance, registration, and car maintenance. Whatever you enjoy that doesn’t cost much, relish it!

4. Take pleasure in free stuff. My favorite freebies are hiking in the redwoods, walking into town, sex, beach Frisbee, reading books and blogs, street fairs and festivals, and the TV shows “Chopped,” “The Voice,” and “No Reservations.” Instead of paying for expensive yoga classes, I do my own improvised yoga routines or do one guided by Sarah Ivanhoe on DVD. Taking pleasure in cheap abundance and free stuff is a different mindset from “cutting back.” It’s about thriving not depriving!

5. Relax and compare. Dave and I enjoy poking around for deals on flights, hotels and rental cars on travel sites such as Kayak. I sign up for “price alerts” so I can keep track of when prices drop. I find that if I’m enjoying reveling in the fun of travel (as opposed to being worried about it), magical things happen. For instance, Dave and I had checked for flights to Hawaii several times over the course of a few months and then just stopped because they were quite expensive. Then, one day, he just decided to look again—and they were half the price. We booked on the spot, giggling at the fun of it all.

6. Enjoy your friends. How often have you had people invite you to come visit them “any time”? Well, Dave and I take them up on it. Two summers ago we spent two months traveling. We stayed in the homes of ten different sets of friends on our journey. The summer before that, I planned a trip to Italy and Spain based on the fact I had a friend living in Tuscany and another in Madrid. Of course staying with friends is free—but better yet, there is no better way to really get to know the people in your life than drinking coffee together in the mornings with sleep-encrusted eyes, or tootling throughout their neighborhood on bikes, or going to their favorite restaurants and theaters and places of worship, or hiking on their favorite trails, or visiting their child’s classroom, or helping set up a party and raging together. New experiences together add a new layer of richness to relationships.

Another way to enjoy friends is to share travel expenses (and therefore, experiences). One winter we leased a ski house with another couple. That turned out to be much cheaper than staying in hotels during ski season, and cooking in the house was more fun and less expensive than going to restaurants. Finally, post on social media sites, such as Facebook and Twitter, where you want to travel. When I’ve done that, I’ve often had friends (people I’ve met and those I know only online) invite me to their towns and homes, as well as give me great suggestions for places to see and ways to travel for less.

7. Charge it! We charge almost everything (gas, groceries, etc.) to our credit card that gives us frequent flier miles. Of course, this only works well if you pay off the credit card each month. We’ve used these miles for flights and rental cars. Our card company loves us so much they gave us a bonus 5,000 miles when we got married. Who gets a wedding present from a credit card company? (Okay, maybe everyone; but I like to pretend we are special.)

8. Focus. What I hear in your question is a desire to travel. So, as I said in #1, milk that desire. Play around in it. So perhaps you don’t yet have the money. Or the time. Accept that for what it is: a temporary concern. Everything is temporary because everything changes. So instead of focusing on what you don’thave, focus on what you do have–and on where you want to go.

Monday, October 15, 2012

This wonderful logo and the website design are the creation of my friend, the fabulous Ellen Young.

Over the years, people have often emailed me questions. I suppose that's because I'm a teacher, a published writer, a traveler, and a person who has undergone various life transformations. So that's why I started a feature on the blog called "Ask Dr. Kate."

And now I'm working on the answer to this: "How do you get a book published?"

If you have any questions for me about life, adventure, happiness, writing,
"middle age," publishing, books, travel or anything else juicy, you can submit them here. I'm not a
"real" doctor nor do I play one on TV. I'm just a nerdy,
literature-and-adventure-lovin' Ph.D who adores life and crazy little
endeavors such as writing an advice column with absolutely no
qualifications.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

My friend Anne Jennings Paris has been challenging some of us to write the poems that she's been assigning to her students. Recently, she asked us to write a poem in the style of Emily Dickinson. This poem was inspired by meditations I've been doing lately that focus on my breath. During a meditation, I envisioned a dolphin. I felt like she was there as a kind of spirit guide.

I Felt a Dolphin Come to Me

I felt a dolphin come to me before I saw her there. She clicked and cawed beneath the sea aglide with breath to spare.

She looked me sideways in the eye her heft a soft gray stone— she told me I can summon her the times I feel alone.

The cobalt depths were limitless, the water a yielding skin. I felt my breath reach endlessness, my spirit spread within.

She rose through blue to blue above, crowning sky and sea— her perfect breath invited love to breathe inside of me.

There is something about Cathy that reminds me of the young Barbara Stanwyck.

All of the above led three women professors (Cathy, Kelly and me) to enjoy some nuevo imbibing at singlebarrel in downtown San Jose. This place bills itself as a speakeasy, which means:

* there is no sign out front (just a barrel hanging over the door),
* the employees wear newsboy caps and suspenders,
* and you can't just order whatever you want.

That last feature sounds like it sucks, no? But the expertise and creativity of the bartenders is featured here. So after you walk down the dark steps into the dark, windowless, surprisingly large room (featuring a bar, warm woods, and plenty of tables and chairs)--you cozy up to your own personal bartender.

Our guy was Patrick. Because of his name and thick accent and job in a bar, I assumed he was Irish. But we discovered he's French, which provided Kelly a great opportunity to throw around a few nasally phrases.

He asked each one of us what we like to drink. When Cathy and Kelly launched into descriptions of the kinds of cocktails they usually drink, he asked a few clarifying questions such as:

"So do you like sweet or salty better?"
"Do you like fruitiness?"
"Do you mind tasting the alcohol in the drink?"

And then he pulled out a zillion bottles and went to town, creating unique concoctions.

Cathy enjoyed her Original Norman Rockwell (fruity, with a slightly refreshing tang), a creation of one of the bar's owners. Kelly savored her Red Lion (slightly sweet and citrusy, with a zing of strong alcohol), which Patrick informed us won won a 1933 cocktail competition.

The iPhone, even with a flash, didn't work so well in the dark --but this picture does capture the fuzzy giddiness of the moment.

When it was my turn, I panicked a little. Was I in the wrong place? I'm not a fan of hard liquor. Only beer and wine. But he asked me what kind of beer I like. (Bitter.) Light or dark? (Light.)

So he poured me Pliney the Elder. That used to be my go-to beer. It had been years since I drank it. Bitter and hoppy are an understatement . It tastes like it could be cut with a knife. I loved it. But I made a mistake in having two. I hadn't had dinner, and this place doesn't serve food. And, oh yeah, Pliney has 8% alcohol content. Needless to say, it was a good thing I was taking the bus instead of driving.

Perhaps as a way to sustain the illusion that we're hanging out in an illegal Prohibition-era club, all patrons are asked to keep their voices low. As we three women drank and talked about the things we tend to (books, writing, sex, and work), several times we erupted into laughter and were hushed by a cap-and-suspenders-wearing boy. Okay, probably technically a "man," but barely.

Being hushed felt strange--not fun, like play-acting should. (Or maybe the problem is I like to be loud in bars!) Also, at $9-10 each, the drinks are rather expensive. However, if you like specialty drinks, and you like unique experiences, you get what you pay for here.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Hanging out with 1,800 year old redwood trees is pretty amazing. The world of Henry Cowell State Park feels both ancient and timeless.

Eagle Creek crossing

Before our hike, we had a pleasant conversation with a smiley ranger. My guess is he loves his job. Following his suggestion, we walked to the back of the main redwood grove and entered a trail at the General Fremont tree. (That sucker is 277 feet tall!) From there we hiked the River Trail and Big Rock Hole Trail.

Don't forget to stop and look up.

As we walked, I could feel us moving away from civilization and into the world of the Zayante Indians, the area's residents for thousands of years. There is something fresh and honey-ish about redwood-infused air.

For a while I was invigorated. Then I got a little drowsy, sort of like I was under some kind of cosmic spell. I released to the floating, dreamy sensation. Perhaps being dwarfed in stature and time created an Alice in Wonderland effect.

I'm glad that Henry Cowell's son gave away $14 million to enhance the "public good." As a member of the public, I agree: It's good.

If you go to Henry Cowell, you can enter through the main entrance, where parking is $10. There you have easy access to the main redwood grove, the Roaring Camp train,
and the visitor's center and gift shop where you can get a free map.
This map is much better than anything you can find online.

There are free entrances at several well-marked trail heads off Highway 9. To explore another area of the park called Fall Creek Unit you can enter off Empire Road. Hikes range from easy to challenging. Trails are numerous and well-tended.

This equation allows me a beautiful balance. When I'm cherishing the moment, I'm really here. I smell, taste, touch, feel, appreciate the richness of life.

And when I'm excited for the future, I'm wondering, imagining, exploring and reveling in all the possibilities life holds.

If my thoughts about the future are fun, joyful and productive, I bask in them. If they bring me anxiety, I focus back on the present and remind myself that the future and the past are just thoughts.

If what surrounds me at the moment isn't pleasing, I luxuriate in thoughts of the future knowing that everything, no matter what, changes.

View of the Grand Tetons from our river raft trip down the Snake River (photo by Dave)

I find that the more I appreciate life, the more exciting things there are to look forward to. It's like being on a raft floating down a river and feeling the sun, smelling the water, viewing the light and wildlife and trees--and knowing that whatever comes around the bend will be another amazing sight to see.

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