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My husb & I are on the same page when it comes to parenting. My boys' father, on the other hand, used to do all kinds of crap when they were younger. He'd let them watch inappropriate shows, (like South Park), eat raw hamburger & sat behind them & held up their hands on the roller coasters. It took a looong time before I could get them on another ride after that. :/ Oh yeah, & once on the 4th of July, he allowed my youngest son, who was 4 y/o at the time, run around drinking from everyone's drinks, so he was actually tipsy when I picked him up for fireworks. They could've used my head to light the fuse!!!

He's more quick to get impatient and raise his voice than I am, and a little less likely to back up the threats he makes when he does get impatient, but it's more just a difference in style than something I disapprove of. He used to have a terribly bad habit of being in the same room but not really being there, but that's gotten better as my daughter gets older and able to do more activities and things.

He and I disagree about some things & have different tolerance levels for things. Our kids understand this. I don't like everything he decides or does. But "disapproval" isn't relevant for either of us--we just have our reactions & preferences, we don't "disapprove."

He has some general tendencies that I don't like, but I understand what plays into it & I definitely respect his right to his comfort zone AND to his personal limits & his own way of relating to our kids. One of those things is his tendency to say things like "Careful! You could fall/you might get hurt!" when he perceives something as dangerous or risky. I wish he'd respond to his concern by calling the child's attention to their own sense of balance (etc.) instead. Or else "own" his concern personally ("I'm not comfortable with that," "I want you to get down.") He also tends to add "Okay?" to phrases when he isn't truly "checking in" or asking for agreement! lol