Remember ‘really nice’ Dwight?

The bowling gathering I suggested Dwight attend happened this past weekend. I stopped by briefly to say hello and have a drink — but unfortunately couldn’t stay to wow everyone with my bowling prowess.

When I arrived, I spotted Dwight immediately — his was the only face I didn’t recognize. I was happy to see him talking and laughing with a couple guys there.

I walked up to the group and said hello. I introduced myself to Dwight and to my surprise — he stared at me like he had no idea who I was at all. I looked to the other guys for their reaction. I thought (hoped) they’d jump in and jog Dwight’s memory — after all, it wasn’t that long ago when I spoke with Dwight on the phone. And, him being at the bowling alley was my idea, so how could he not remember?!

The guys — Dwight included — stood there, staring at me silently, heads cocked to the side and eyes blinking.

I smiled uneasily. “Amanda…remember? Um…Angela gave you my number and we talked…?”

Fail.

Dwight smiled a cocky, condescending smile and then shook his head quizzically. Annoyed but still smiling, I let out a nervous laugh and excused myself to go talk to Angela.

“So…what’s up with Dwight? He’s acting like he doesn’t remember me — or he’s just being a jerk.” I took a sip of my too-strong bowling alley vodka tonic and waited for Angela to respond. She said nothing, shrugged and shook her head. But, her eyes said she knew more.

“Come on. What’s it all about?!” I asked, my annoyance growing. At this rate, I’d be needing another drink to maintain a calm balance.

I was taken aback by Angela’s attitude. But, I told myself if Dwight wanted to act like this, that would be his problem, I guess — not mine. I glanced over to Dwight laughing with his new friends, and I couldn’t help but compare him to the new kid in school who drops people once the popular kids accept him into their clique.

So much for Dwight being a nice guy, I thought.

A few minutes later, Dwight asked if anyone needed drinks and he walked up the stairs to where I was sitting. He stopped, and leaned down to my shoulder to whisper, “I’m really sorry I said I didn’t remember you. That was immature of me. Can we start over?”

I say if you’re over the age of 17, and still act like that, you’re not worth anyone’s time, most definitely not mine. Everyone knows it’s awkward to meet new people and put yourself out there, being a shunner is juvenile.

He was given your number thinking you wanted to meet him. You let him know in no uncertain terms that you were absolutely NOT interested in meeting him. Then threw him the bone of you would be willing to meet him if he would wait almost 6 weeks until a prelanned bowling night. And you wonder why he acted the way he did? He never met you before, he had a very uncomfortable 5 minute phone conversation with you where you told him you had no interest in meeting him, of course he was non chalant when you did meet. Did you expect he would meet you with a dozen roses and a red carpet?

Bob-O — Your constant bad attitude is really annoying (not to mention predictable) — but more importantly, why are you still reading this trainwreck? Furthermore, I didn’t think or care if Dwight would be ‘into me’ — but I did expect him to be as nice/normal as he was on the phone.

Need Spring- Thats exactly what she was expecting! You are talking about the self-proclaimed queen of the Capital district/wanna be Carrie Bradshaw. I’m not saying Dwight wasn’t immature, but maybe he was doing this, because he knew he could get a rise out of you.

Did he roast you at the bowling alley in front of your other friends? Did he unfairly compare you to other bloggers? Did one of the other guys come over to comfort you after he hit bellow the belt with one of his jokes?

Bad Attitude??? REALLY?? YOu put this on here as a PUBLIC FORUM. I was not insulting, but to you I’m “annoying”. You are the one putting pitiful, mean things up here. So Dwight (or fred..or Bob-O….WHATEVER his name) played a harmless joke on you? R-E-L-A-X…I think you think too much of yourself. Am I not allowed to read this??? OH NO….will I be barred ???!!? OMG !!! IF you’re going to write this crap, don’t expect everyone to agree. Open your mind a bit, it may also help you find someone and PERHAPS…..not be so bitter. I’m sure this will be either not posted or will be followed by another quick “slap down”. Just remember….YOU are putting this up for ALL to read. Have some class.

Amanda…..some of us read this and respond….I honestly don’t agree that I’m “crass” or overly negative. You should be happy some of us are ‘wasting” our time reading this. But it does seem as if you are totally in love with yourself, not that there is anything wrong with THAT. Plus don’t take everything some of us say seriously. I believe this blog was “semi-trivial, humorous”??? Remember….. One man’s ceiling is another man’s floor.

I love when people disagree with me. I love when I’m challenged to think a different way, to step outside of my comfort zone, gaining new perspective. Those challenges are often delivered from a respectful, yet firm and passionate stance. But, while I love when people disagree with things I say, I have a hard time when the only thing people disagree with is me.

@ Bob-O: You were NOT insulting? Really?! Then how do you explain your comment “SOME of us on here aren’t as in love with you as you are”? That’s pretty freakin’ insulting, not to mention rude and immature. She’s a young, twenty-something single woman with a LIFE (something I highly suggest you try getting) who shares her feelings and day-to-day experience w/us, on her HER BLOG, to read. One suggestion, stop reading her blog.

Her name is at the top and she writes the posts, so I had the impression it was ‘her’ blog. However, you are correct in that it is also a ‘community blog’ and that the community have a right to express their opinions. However, when you tell someone to ‘have some class’ that sounds extremely degrading to me as well as hypocritical, particularly in this case because your degrading comment came across as quite classless to me. Can I ask you, Bob-O, why on earth you continue to read this blog if you find the writer so classless and in love with herself to the point you feel the need to consistently make negative comments? Or is that exactly what you get out of it? …to each his own.

Bob-O, not that Amanda needs defending, but she’s not just some faceless, far-off avatar. She’s an actual local person…a sweetheart…a great friend. She’s a damn good writer. And she’s very brave to share her (mis)adventures with all of us.

Even though this is a blog and we have the opportunity to be anonymous, we should all treat each other like real people with feelings. If you were putting yourself out there and someone criticized you with the same regularity and lack of creativity, you’d probably snap back, too.

Amanda- you don’t have to say it, the proof is in the pudding. “while I love when people disagree with things I say, I have a hard time when the only thing people disagree with is me.” Well maybe you should take a nice long hard look in the mirror and change! I’m sure there are alot more readers out there who read this blog and share the same feelings, but just don’t chime in. Its better then being “like the rest of Amanda Talar’s little @#% kissers/soldiers.”

WOW! Talk about getting a slap in the face by someone’s words. Now I know I’m new to reading Amanda’s Blog … but I can read above where it says that her Blog is about her views on “humorous, fascinating and semi-trivial things in life.” So while this may be a public forum blog, it’s ungentlemanly and definitely lacks class to post comments that hit below the belt. One might have found it funny or even quip if you would have commented “maybe he’s just not that into you” … and left it there. But you had to go further and just be nasty. It’s one thing to be clever and sarcastic, but to be mean and nasty … that just a bully!

Now to address “Dwight” … maybe he was “trying” to be funny and unfortunately for him his joke went REALLY wrong. Considering the fact that you never met and only had one conversation, maybe he was unsure how he should act and unfortunately for him he acted like an a$$. (Although I did not ready Part II yet) 🙂