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Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Dear LIB readers:is it OK to get naked in front of my teenage brother?

From a LIB reader

A friend of mine has asked me to stop it but I don't see anything wrong in it. I am in my early 20's and my younger brother is only 14. What's wrong in getting undressed in front of him? Should I stop it?

Well to be honest it might look like there is nothing wrong in it but everything is wrong with it. Stop putting images n stuffs in his head that he can't comprehend n even if he can you shouldn't be the one putting it there. He is gonna wanna do more than seeing sooner than you expect.

Stop it o!! A 14 year old has ideas too and all, seeing a matured naked woman can tempt him, maybe not on you but to do something funny or encourage him wrongly. 14 year olds know about a woman's body and sex too, if it were a 4 year old I wouldn't be bothered.

At his age a woman's body would delight.He may look at you and not say or do anything but the consciousness would already arisen.I was a victim of this kind of abuse by an older relative and I know how it affected my psyche.So please if you can avoid,then I suggest you do.

Not too good, because, it goes to his subconcious mind and will begin to manifest in no distant time.u know wanting to see more, when u are not there to naked in front of him anymore. That's him lead to ponography and all sort sexually.etc.

Babe stop ooo, becos even parents are asked nt to undress in front of their children once they are above 3, to avoid unnecessary questions. Talkless of a 14 year old boy who is beginning to feels things. Please stop.

Like seriusly did u jst ask if u should stop?.....i bet d next u‘ld ask z if he can help u wash ur ‘wili wili‘....4 crying outloud u‘r so puting ideas in2 d young man‘s head which ll manifest soon when he tries seeing how other girls‘ look like.... Ur broda should be close 2 his puberty stage ...dats if he z nt already in it....jst knw dat if u kip doing it n u start hearing d diffrent experiment he haz been carrying out on little girls.....dnt as questions. N 4 d record “WE ARE MOVED BY WHAT WE SEEEEEEEE“ (including ‘tiny‘ n ‘biggy‘).... GOD BLESS NIGERIA

For goodness sakes ma'am! A 14 year old guy has enough testosterone fuelled fire in his pants... He doesn't need his nubile 20 something year old sister flaunting her naked body in front of him... Ok? Sheesh! The things people ask on this blog sef... Smh

I became sexually 'aware' of myself long before I was ten. For my older brother it was around age 7. How can you even be confortable changing in front of a teenager? I was most sensitive in my teenage years. The feeling was new and very strong. Please stop doing this to your brother. If my own sisters did this to me I would be seriously disturbed and I would definately need some form of help to deal with the psychological effect of the exposure later in my adult life.

I do it all time! Is blood! Pls! They don't notice me when am naked sef! They do their normal tin! But again, it depends on the family tie, I don't know how urs is! So u can stop if you think they are not comfortable

Of course you have to stop it!! What type ridiculously stupid, foolish jamgbajastic, ode, onye nzuzu, idiot, nonsensical, outrageous question is this? Are you stupid?! And if your brother actually looks at you getting undressed instead of looking the other way, you NEED to check him. As in, is something wrong with him? And you? Argh, people these days!

Just like u Can't have sexual attraction for ur bros,same way its for him,cos d love btw u two is philial!!But then the fact he is maturing into a man,u should stop it cos u just helping to put ideas abt sex faster in his head...u are like a porn movie to him doing dat u know.

Please its very wrong in so many ways! 1stly As a woman,ur nakedness should be like a hidden treasure... Even your "Blood" brothers should have no access to this treasure. 2ndly everyman from the age of 6(which shouldn't be so) already begins to develope testosterone, and this is released at the mare sight of a naked female (be it sister or total stranger). So darling since your brother can't unleash his sexual desires(which u inflicted on him) on you, he will either masturbate or ....to cut the long story short, you will make him sin. The world is bad enough as it is hun,dnt add to the young man's issues.

The truth remains that you are unintentionally feeding him sexually. He has female friends he will always wish he can see naked and when he see everything he wishes to see on them on you, he sis satisfied. Just like you should not dress up or undress in the presence of your father too. Help the young man keep his thoughts pure.

The only thing i see wrong in this is his age,he's still maturing...If he was an adult,very mature guy its really no biggy,i don't see the fuss y'all are family,siblings for that matter. I do it and he(my bro) couldn't care less...Apart from his age,you should stop it only if it makes you feel uncomfortable

God some pple re really frustrated in this life and u re one of them.it was jst an innocent question and u re already insulting her and calling her dirty?y re pple like ds bikonu?u jst had to pour out all ur frustrations on her.do u think she won't read the comments?comments like urs shld be blocked!u need to grow up n learn hw to reason gently n in a responsible way!stop acting out biko!its not her fault that u re miserable!!!haba!!!mtschewwwwwwww.....TONI

If you're okay with it, why do you need to listen to what others say? You can't please everybody. I freely undress in front of my 12 year old son. It's not like I call him when I'm undressing but if he's there, I don't chase him away.

Sincerely, I do dis, I'm in my mid twenties and I have 2 kid brodas, one is 2yrs younger, anoda is 9yrs younger and a I av an elder broda who is 2yrs older, even my oda sis do it as well, we walk freely in d house as if they aint dia nd sincerely I dnt tink I inconvenient dem by stripping in their present coz we are sooooooo used to it, wit all dis comments I'm gonna av to chek again. Maybe its high time I put a stop to it, even my BF does complain wen he hears my broda's voice around after I had told him am naked during a conversation.

I wonder but it would appear some family members do this stuff. My room mate then at the University said she can be getting dressed in the presence of her father (this girl go be like that 23 or 24years then). I was abit shocked but more people felt it was ok. I feel this is just pure wrong...

well, it depends on the family orientation. My 5 sisters including my mom get naked infront of me and crack jokes. Its like how some people call their older sisters Aunty which i personally think is retarded. :P

Same here. I m used to walkin naked in my house. I m in my late twenties tho n my bros re in thr early twenties. Its a bad habit m tryna stop tho I don't see anythn bad in it. My mum complains abt it. I only get conscious of it when my dad comes to town.

Sister, please look at this through the eyes of a 14 year old boy. And see that you're destroying him through it. He's too young to speak up. His mind is being destroyed little by little and soon his sexual desires will be twisted. PLEASE put an end to it. Sit him down and ask him about it. Let it tell you how it makes him feel, and don't give up till he tells you the complete truth.

This is not in the best interest of your brother, yourself or your family.

datz is the reason why a girl can't swim freely in a pool with panties in Nigeria. If her brother comprehends it at that small age that means when he grows old possibilities he going to cheat on his wife will be very minimal. So Nigerians think it is her brother not someone else.

Abeggi ders nothin wrong,he is ur blood,so he can't feel anytin,my teenage bro hooks my bra,zips my dresses,sees me wen am only in undies,same for my elder bros. wen my dad was alive,I see him in his panties,I talk to him when he is in the toilet,ders no biggie der

i have a friend, in her house, they all go naked in front of each other like it means nothing. then she was like 23. she had elder brothers also. all of them, plus their dad and mum, can actually walk naked from the bathroom to each other's room to ask for maybe a comb, powder or whatever. the day her elder bro and dad came into her room while she was stark naked, i was so embarrased but she was'nt one bit neither was her folks.

I can't believe what I reading!...I grew among sisters who used to change in my presence & I don't see why any guy should ever have feelings for his sister. All the same I think its appropriate for you to stop such exposure for decency sake;maybe so that he doesn't go exploring or thinking dirty about his peer.

i dont see anything wrong. .........his your bro and should not get aroused or funny ideas cos you are naked. If he does then something is wrong with him and caution should be taken. I am in my mid twenties and still dress up in front of my bros and dad!

Infact all this girls getting naked at the front of boys are senseless and idiots..how can you say he won't feel anything..how about your brother getting naked in front of you..you won't have any thought in your head..abi rubish...you better stop before you spoil the world.... lol

O for heaven's sake! Are you freaking kidding me???? You need someone to tell you it's not proper?!You want him to carry his curiosity and explore it outside in an unhealthy way before you know it's wrong and that you are solely responsible for this nonsense?

Its shocking to read some comments here with some people saying there is nothing wrong getting naked in front of their matured sister, brother, father and mother. this does shows this is the end time. In the Bible God forbids such even Noah placed a curse on his sons for seeing his nakedness. All you who feels its not wrong to be naked in front of your matured siblings and parents keep it up! Its people like you we read about in the news that you are pregnant for your father ...

Its shocking to read some comments here with some people saying there is nothing wrong getting naked in front of their matured sister, brother, father and mother. this does shows this is the end time. In the Bible God forbids such even Noah placed a curse on his sons for seeing his nakedness. All you who feels its not wrong to be naked in front of your matured siblings and parents keep it up! Its people like you we read about in the news that you are pregnant for your father ...

Ao I wish I can send dis video to u to make u agree dat it is very wrong... U'l see ao dis boy had bn tekin it since he was young and wen e turned 23 e cudnt tek it anymore and he had to force her sis into it with massive beating... I mean white people oo

My elder sister does it, and it is nothing, she is still my blood sister, as far u wear pant and bra no wahala. na if u dey fully naked then u dey mad. for my own sister i cant think of such evil stuff, but remember not all brothers are the same.

WHEN I SAY THAT YORUBAS ARE VERY TRIBALISTIC SOME PEOPLE WILL GET THEIR TATTERED PANTIES IN A BUNCH. CHECK OUT THE COMMENTS AT 9.13 AND 11.31. FOOLISH, BIGOTED, LAZY COWARDS. ANY CUSS YOU SEND MY WAY WILL GO BACK TO YOU AND ALL YOUR GENERATIONS BOTH UNBORN AND THOSE ALREADY BORN.

This is a dicy one because he is a boy you are a girl, hence the diffference, the truth is that no matter how much a woman turns a man or boy on , sisters and brothers are least likely to be attracted to each other except in very deep seated immoralities where incest fuelled by lust from pornography over powers the mind of both siblings, If my sister is free to dress up in my presence ,there should be nothing wrong with that , we simply live in a society where there are ugly stereotypes to say that men are too weak to hold themselves together when they see a naked woman.

You call this stupid? But this same thing has really made me cultured and mannerd. Let me tell you my aunt always go nude rite in our room, whenever we are watching movies and to say it really helpd me because i av seen it all. Nice butt and everytin and now am proud to say even in my early twenties, am still a virgin and it helpd me to apperciate girls alot and respect their wishes and all. But i will say it only left for we d individual to control our JACK THOMAS bt in all i did it and nw my aunt is marrid and all wit kid and outta d country so thats my own xperience. So it's nw left for ur brother to control it. Ask him how he feels whenever u undress in his presence and if he is owk wit it then, LET THE WORLD SPEAK GIBBERISH.

Why are people making sometin out of noting, for heaven sake he is her bro and notin of such thought culd enter her head. I ve older and younger sis of late twenties and early twenties dat undress infront of me and my brother and we don't even bother about anytin and such wicked thought ve never crossed our mind.*smh* for all of u here talking wht I don't know. Girlfriend I don't see anytin wrong in it since he is ur blood brother.

What I have to say is,I think u should stop CUZ ur younger brothers mind still needs development he migth not want to torch u bt he will be having the desirre in him to tourch others nd moreover when he goes into d real world he migth not like to excuse ladies to get undressed .

Yes you won't there is anything wrong to it, as there is no sexual tention between you both as ur siblings, however ur a girl, he is a boy,the only undress woman he shud see is the one he will sleep with, esp teenagers they r curious n he shud not learn about a females body from seein his sis naked, ur kindda sick if u ask me

girl, if u are comfortable wit it, then feel free. i have just one brother, and i and my sisters parade the house with pant and bra.personally, i see nothing wrong wit it. but i stand to be corrected with reasonable reasons.

hey i wanna reply u first, u cant blame it on men's weakness ok???@isreal den over to dear questioner. some things just shouldn't be done... for d fact dat d world has recorded close to 30% cases of incest simply means it should be avoided even if u think ..oh there is nothin wrong wit it na, he is my broda.. just be reasonable and save dis perverse generation frm futher harm. children and adulecents of these days learn bad tins faster dat u can imagine.

Even if he is not aroused towards you his mind will be corrupted by the exposure. Please dont push the guy into fornication and/or masturbation. Though you may feel innocent, God may hold you jointly responsible. Men are moved by what they see, the mind plays it back even when the physical image is gone. Please, please, please stop it. God bless you.

its so annoying when people come up to ask questions of this kind!!!But if she enjoys letting her brother watching naked, no qualms about that ok... she will also enjoy it when his JT is inside soon...blood no send anybody ni

I love Isreal's comment...I feel that there's nothing wrong with it as long as she doesn't act suggestively. If her younger brother is made to realize there's nothing wrong with seeing a lady get dressed or undressed as the case maybe, it may help him in future control his desires when he is alone with a lady through no deliberate action on either's part and she has to dress or undress. Really some men regardless of tribe, race or age have no self control, all it takes to get them all fired up is a show of 'ankle' while others can control themselves even if the girl is naked (and they are definitely not gay!) so stop cussing the babe she just asked a question and people don't make young boys feel like they cannot control themselves when they are in the presence of a woman dressing up...shikena!

A 14 yr old in 9ja should be in SS1 or Jss3,so let us imagine it like this,just imagine u as a 14 yr old girl and your elder brother moves around the house naked and undresses b4 u,how'd u feel...my dear,he's not a child anymore,he probably even has one girl he's eyeing in school...pls don't be the reason the young man becomes too sexually disturbed,tnx

For cry out loud, he\'s a teenager. And trying 2 undress urself in his presence is nt the best. By so doing, u\'ll expose him 2 so many thingz dat r nt right. Dnt be surprised dat one day, he\'ll get attracted 2 u. Pls & pls, its nt d best.

Honestly,you should have stopped from when he was a year old sef cuz its amazing the speed at which young minds grow these days. We Dnt have to insult eachother to make the blog interesting,she asked a question if you can't answer reasonably,just read other comments and sign out. Zurielle's Opinion

Truth is,its wrong to do such. Not every man has come to terms with the fact that their sisters are no go areas,so when you flash yourself before him,could start putting ideas in his head. You may trust yourself&your brother,but you can never ever trust the devil who just searches for the right opportunity to twist peoples minds.Zurielle's Opinion

Honestly,you should have stopped from when he was a year old sef cuz its amazing the speed at which young minds grow these days. We Dnt have to insult eachother to make the blog interesting,she asked a question if you can't answer reasonably,just read other comments and sign out. Zurielle's Opinion

Its damn wrong dressing and undressing in a 14 year guy presence bcos i have been faced with such situation when my aunty is dressing naked in my presence and it lead me to masturbation and making me to sleep with my neighbor's daugther when she comes back from bording school though she enjoy it.please desist from it sister

My dear there nothing wrong abt. In my house we undress amongst each other even infront of my 8yrs old nephew. This act I noticed helped my younger brother who doesn't notice or even feel anytin wen he see ladies dat bare their body in d name of Fashion. I still tink der is noting rong. ********Bellacious*********

it is gross but all u people saying black mamba would rise are also sick. I have 3 hot sisters and one changed in front of me as a teenager i just ran out of the room cos she is my blood and i was grossed out. And i like girls alot as i had a girlfriend in high school then.At 14 d guy should be intelligent enough to leave the room and black mamba can never rise unless u are sick

i think this has to do with the mind set of the person involved.some are easily attracted...and some don't feel a pinch seeing the nudity.so its better avoided than telling stories, cos u can never tell.only the mind carrier knows what's going through it.

it depends on the individuals involved oo.some are easily moved by what they see which in turn makes them start imagining things..while others are not.we have stories of brothers sleeping with their sisters and other stories like that.i think its better avoided than holding a future tale cos only the mind carrier knows what is going through it.

This insinuates how corrupt the minds of people are... Before you can answer this question, you should ask yourself what you will do. Will you rape your sister if she undresses in front of you? If you will, you had better go kill your self now because you are a dissapointment. D decent thing is that your brothers leave while your undressing as a sign of respect.

Abeg what is wrong is wrong. Its just gross, i cant even walk arnd my house without bra when my dad is arnd or my brother, cos my nipples are alway pointing out under my clothes when im not wearing bra, i dont even wear unpadded bra bcos of that. I cant even imagine letting them see me in pant and bra, not to talk of completely naked state.

Personally I think If you feel comfortable and fine getting naked in front of your younger brother then continue. People making far to much of a big deal about it. As soon as you make a issue about thats when it becomes Malicious, as long as your mind is in good intentions It shouldnt be a problem.. so carry on and be naked.