I'm 31 weeks and completely scared of what's to come. I'm 31years old and this was a big factor in me not wanting to have kids of my own originally as I do not handle pain well. As the time is flying by I'm getting more and more worked up over it and no matter how many times I hear "you will be ok" I feel I won't cope with it.

Even the thought of an epidural so I don't feel anything does not help as that worries me just as much.

I'm concerned all this worry will affect my little boy and not having my Mum around (she isn't supportive) isn't helping x

Wed Mar 18, 2015 3:36 pm

louisewatson39

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Joined: Thu Nov 13, 2014 4:24 pmPosts: 7

Re: 31 weeks and worried sick about the labour

I am the exact same! Everyone is like you will forget about the pain when you've got your baby in your arms but that doesn't help either am 23 and only 27 weeks pregnant but I am so scared too I am really bad with pain I know this doesn't help but I know how you feel trust me!! xxxx

Wed Mar 18, 2015 5:51 pm

rtomlin

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Joined: Tue Jan 13, 2015 8:40 pmPosts: 4

Re: 31 weeks and worried sick about the labour

Hiya I'm pregnant with my fourth child. All born vaginally and with no problems. I won't lie it's hard work and very painful but you will have all the help and support you need. I would rather go through a few hours labour and birth than 9 months of pregnancy any day!

You'll be great and you'll feel very proud of yourselves afterwards - it a real confidence boost - women are amazing!

Good luck x

Wed Mar 18, 2015 9:47 pm

ljdjdul

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Joined: Thu Mar 12, 2015 8:18 amPosts: 9

Re: 31 weeks and worried sick about the labour

Hi,I have to agree with rtomlin, it really isn't easy, the clues in the name: labour!I can assure you you will be in pain and you will feel like giving up, just as you get to that point your body seems to take over and knows exactly what to do. In terms of an epidural...I had no option than to have one due to complications. I have an extreme phobia of needles (I become very violent) and will do anything to stop them getting to me. However, after a few hours of labour, I was anxious but I just didn't care! My body just relaxed and told me to go with the flow epidural and all. My concern was my baby, I wanted to meet him and hold him and care for him and ensure he was safe and well and in my case that meant help from the team in the room. He was getting distressed and all I could think was...I didn't have on thang crap to not meet him. They could've done anything to me as long as he was safe!Trust me, you will get to a point where your baby is your priority no matter what and it's natures way of getting you through. We are built for child birth!Listen to your body and instincts and go with he flow, perhaps you have a friend that's been really supportive that could help or be with you? I know it's not for everyone but I wanted to know as much as possible to read book after book and watched clips on YouTube of live births etc so there would be no surprises to freak me out when it was my turn.Good luck and you really will be ok. At the end of the day it has to come out so try not to worry too much about the detail x