short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

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short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

i think that being a short guy when it comes to dating is a bit of a disadvantage especially when in a gay relationship. one thing that i think is messed up is that some guys use their height as a way of being the dominating one in a relationship. the taller guy becomes the thor type of guy and the short guy becomes the teddy bear where he pretty much can't do anything but be submissive. the taller guy will pretty much remind the short guy that that's his role. some guys like it, some guys don't. some guys like to have it both ways.

me, honestly, i'm a guy that i pretty much like to have it both. i like to dominated sometimes and other times, i want to be the one dominating. i think that it would be difficult to do that with a tall guy because he might feel that because i'm 5'6 and he's 5'10, 5'11, 6 feet and etc, that he should top and i should assume the role of taking the dick. plus you have some tall guys thinking that because so and so is short, they can treat the short guy like he's some sort of teddy bear, making him feel small and like a sex toy or something. i notice how some tall guys pretty much will be the ones to be aggressive too. they'll be the ones coming at the short guy like "you know you're mine right?". that sounds nice and all but at the same time, i would like to be the dominating one that leads the way though. i don't think that being short makes me any less of a man and i'm not the type of guy that lets height dictate anything. i treat everybody the same. i think that it would be much easier to be able to have a relationship where i can assume both the dominating and dominated role perfectly as well as my partner if we're the same height or if there isn't much of a height difference. i don't really pay attention to height like that when it comes to dating though even though i would have an issue if a taller guy tried to take advantage me because of my height.

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Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

I'm 5ft 8, don't know if that's tall or short but I like taller guys...That being said my boyfriend is shorter than me (like 5ft 6) and is the dominant one when we have sex. So what you said isn't a rule at all .

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Originally Posted by innocentbychoice

I'm 5ft 8, don't know if that's tall or short but I like taller guys...That being said my boyfriend is shorter than me (like 5ft 6) and is the dominant one when we have sex. So what you said isn't a rule at all .

didn't say it was a rule. i meant like you have some guys that use it their height as a means to assume a certain role and they expect the guy they want to get with to follow their lead or lead the way.

with that said, that gives me some hope but not enough though because i've had run ins with tall guys that tried to do that with me where they thought they were going to move in on me and i was supposed to play into their roleplay. hell no.

one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Originally Posted by refujiunderground

didn't say it was a rule. i meant like you have some guys that use it their height as a means to assume a certain role and they expect the guy they want to get with to follow their lead or lead the way.

with that said, that gives me some hope but not enough though because i've had run ins with tall guys that tried to do that with me where they thought they were going to move in on me and i was supposed to play into their roleplay. hell no.

I think it has a lot more to do with personality than height. If there's something I learned is not to get carried away by appearances especially when it comes to sexual roles. You will often find tall or masculine men that bottom and want to be dominated.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Originally Posted by innocentbychoice

I think it has a lot more to do with personality than height. If there's something I learned is not to get carried away by appearances especially when it comes to sexual roles. You will often find tall or masculine men that bottom and want to be dominated.

and you just made the hope bar increase with that statement.

if i do wind up with a dude bigger than me, i hope he can carry me around like how a giant those to a midget.

one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

^ I'm 5'8", any chance?

Well, as long as he is cute and have a nice personality, height does not matter. However if there is some sort of inferiority complex from the other person, I don't want to constantly remind them that their height won't get in the way of our love.

^^V

"... You think the only people who are people
Are the people who look and think like you ..." - Colours of the Wind by Vanessa Williams

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Trust me Refuji there's almost 0% chance that being short is a bigger disadvantage to a gay guy than a straight guy. Women are downright programmed to want taller guys for pics and appearances and everything else.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Originally Posted by xbuzzerx

Trust me Refuji there's almost 0% chance that being short is a bigger disadvantage to a gay guy than a straight guy. Women are downright programmed to want taller guys for pics and appearances and everything else.

that's true. it's crazy seeing how many women hate short guys. it's like the stress and worries were cut in half when i accepted that i would never date a woman. however, i realized that being short actually made me feel sort of like a woman when the chances are i will more than likely end up dating a guy who's taller or even bigger than me.

the only benefit of being short is that i could get away with being carried around. sort of envious towards shorter guys though because it would look better for a 5'2 guy to be carried around by a big guy than 5'6.

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Originally Posted by pat grimshaw

This guy on the left in blackbeltninja's team must be 5'2"

he's buff though.

one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

It doesn't really matter if they are the same height or not. I guess REALLY tall might be a bit awkward or the other extreme. But, presumably one dates for other reasons than a few inches (of height that is). "Height" queens are possible but "size" queens are far more common.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

Originally Posted by refujiunderground

didn't say it was a rule. i meant like you have some guys that use it their height as a means to assume a certain role and they expect the guy they want to get with to follow their lead or lead the way.

with that said, that gives me some hope but not enough though because i've had run ins with tall guys that tried to do that with me where they thought they were going to move in on me and i was supposed to play into their roleplay. hell no.

Don't assume all tall guys enjoy that role-playing. I'm taller than average and don't go in for that.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

I'm 5'6'' and I feel the same. I been hooking up with a nice guy who is 5'10'' but we have this weird tension going in bed because he wants to treat me like I'm his little bitch and doesn't even consider whether I want to take charge too. So I kinda have to steal the moment at the right opportunity and take charge too. But other parts that annoy me is wanting to make out with someone without having to reach up or having the taller guy stand in awkward position to reach you.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

On Empty Closets, they asked guys if they preferred someone taller, the same height, or shorter. 95% said they wanted someone taller. Even those over six feet said they wanted someone taller. Apparently, gays ARE size queens - just not the way we thought.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

I'm 5'7", a little on the short side yeah, but my preference in height for guys fall around there too. I like guys no shorter than 5'6" and guys no taller than 5'8" to 5'10". However, I find a lot of tall men sexy as hell (6 foot and above) but I always think they don't go for shorter guys. That's fine, though lol.

Re: short guys, do you prefer dating guys shorter, same height or taller than you?

I'm 5'5 (hate the American heights, cm is more precise ! )
Could be a little awkward to date a very tall guy, but that's a very minor thing to consider on a date I think
For the role playing dominant/dominated, once horizontal perspective may change