Female Masturbation/Caught masturbating (female) HELP!

Expert: Heather Smith - 5/19/2013

QuestionThis is very awkward to talk about but yesterday my mother caught me masturbating. I was in my bed and naked and was rubbing my clitoris at night. My mom usually checks on my late at night so i usualy finish before she comes in my room but last night i was masturbating and my mom turned on the light to check on me. I was completely naked so my mom saw my pubic hair and boobs and vagina. SO embarrassing!!! Ugh... I hate myself for getting caught. My mom juat looked at me and said "What are you doing?" I said "nothing" and she looked at me and figured out what i was doing and she said "Stop that right now, we dont do that here. go to bed." so I went to bed. I was crying so hard. All my secrets that my mom didnt know about me and my body my mom know knows. I masturbate like 2 times a day and i dont know how i can stop masturbating! Please Please help me. (I am a 14 year old female by the way)
Thanks

AnswerHi Emily! I'm sorry it took me so long to respond. There's really not much you can do to stop yourself from wanting to masturbate. That urge is as natural as the urge to eat, sleep and poop! What you can do is try to keep yourself busy, forgive yourself for being human, and try to make sure you are alone and ready to cover up when you do it ;)
Believe it or not she did it too at one point. We all do. Some people just view it as SO horrible they lash out when they come in contact with it, but I just don't agree with that at all. So I say continue to enjoy your body and be proud of it, just be very careful what your parents are able to catch you doing ;)
Love,
Heather

Heather Smith

Expertise

I can answer most questions about male and female masturbation including physical, mental and ethical aspects. I've helped many girls and women, and some men, with issues like not enough pleasure, too much or too little masturbation, mutual masturbation and teaching others, and using it to improve your sex life or life in general. If I do not already know the answer to your question, I will gladly find it or refer you to someone who does.

Experience

I have helped my sisters and friends learn how to pleasure themselves growing up. I was always the one my friends would ask about it and I would try to help find the right solution for them. I am very comfortable talking about the subject and any problem associated with it. I believe there is always a solution to any problem, but I will not hesitate to refer someone to counseling if the problem warrants it. I strongly believe masturbation is a healthy part of living for both sexes, and can especially be important for women's sexual health and relationship success. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology and have done a lot of research on masturbation, and how a healthy amount of it can be a positive part of a young person's life, and an uplifting part of a relationship or marriage later in life. Personally I have been masturbating since I was 11 years old, and I have tried just about every trick in the book. I know what worked for me, what works for most people, and what is just a bad idea.

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