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MENS WORKSHOP

A 30 Day Online Workshop

This workshop is for both single and married men. If you are struggling with pornography or sexual addictions, the X3pure workshop is perfect for you. Private, online and effective, the X3pure program can help you end the downward spiral of shame and alienation. Begin your recovery right now.

WHAT YOU GET

Online Video Sessions

The X3pure online video sessions are inspiring, comforting, thought-provoking, and honest. In just 30 days, you could regain your loving connection with your true self and the people who matter most to you.

Downloadable Book + Workbook

The X3pure workbook course materials are filled with the accountability tools and the solid guidance you need to work through overcoming your pornography addiction.

A Safe Environment

Confidentiality is a serious thing. With our encrypted workshop logins and secure billing, you can be sure that your recovery process is safe & private.

Online Small Groups

X3pure comes with 1 month of Small Groups Online offering the perfect place to find a community of people who experience the same challenges and struggles that you do.

WORKSHOP OUTLINE

Developed by seminary-educated pastor, sexual addiction group leader, and author Steven Luff, this program walks you through our “Sexual Sobriety Map” – a clear explanation of the recovery process from “unwanted sexual behavior” to the life God has planned for us. This life we call the “pursuit of unconditional love.”

Unwanted Sexual Behavior

This two-part section provides a broad overview of what will be accomplished throughout the program. Its ultimate destination is to answer the question, “Am I really addicted?” Central to this part is the introduction of our “Sexual Sobriety Map,” an at-a-glance tool for locating yourself throughout your recovery process and beyond.

White-Knuckle vs. Real Change

Since change is obviously at the heart of overcoming sexual addiction, the first of these two parts delves into the question “What is Change?” and provides a thorough introduction to the two types of change available for the recovering sex addict: “white-knuckle” and “real.” Just as “iron sharpens iron” (Pr. 27:17) the cornerstone of real change, which is our goal in recovery, is confession and accountability, discussed in the second part of this section.

Understanding Physiology

One of the least-known aspects of sexual addiction is its physiology – that is, the way the brain has changed because of sex being used as a drug and how we can change it back. This section has three parts detailing a portion of the brain called the reward system. These three parts cover what that system is, what happens to the reward system when it has become addicted to sex, and what it will be like changing the reward system back into its normal state.

Abstinence

This section addresses the very goal of this program: going sober from your unwanted sexual behavior and finding freedom. There are two parts to this section that will help you learn how to “guard your heart” (Pr. 4:23) — creating a “victorious environment” for yourself and building an “escape plan” for when you are triggered and want to use your unwanted sexual behavior. These two parts detail what we call our “Sobriety Sheets.”

Acceptance of Conditional Love

For the sexual addict, the root of the addiction is having experienced, or currently experiencing, conditional love. Conditional love, unlike God’s love, is being loved or shown attention and affection only if a person behaves or acts a certain way. Conditional love, in all of its many forms, can cause a sense of anxiety that leads the sex addict to act out. This section helps you locate when and where conditional love exists in your life in preparation for our culminating section.

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

If conditional love is the root of sexual addiction, our goal in recovery is the conversion of conditional love into unconditional love. In four powerful parts, this section breaks down this conversion into our “Recovery Targets”: 1) Psychological Examination of Feelings; 2) Seeking, Establishing, and Engaging in Community; 3) Truth, Trust, and Territory; and 4) Development and Exploration of Genuine Faith. For “whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love” (1 John 4:8).

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

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Who is X3Pure for?

The spouse. The pastor. The friend. The parent. Or maybe you, the man who wants to regain control of his life.

You may be desperate for freedom and real answers to your pornography or sexual addiction. You may be a parent that desires to understand the struggles that your child is going through. You may want to understand the nature of sexual temptation and learn about tools to use in maintaining your purity.

Regardless, the X3pure online workshops will equip you with a strong knowledge of the issues surrounding pornography and sexual addiction and give you insight into the nature of sexual temptation. Once you complete the course, you will be able to win the battle against sexual temptation and maintain your sexual purity and freedom.

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Am I Addicted?

There are good pornography addiction tests all over the web that can help you determine if you have unhealthy sexual behavior like the one we offer HERE. However, we offer this simple definition and challenge: If your life is being controlled by your sexual desires and activities, instead of YOU being in control of them, then you have a sex addiction and should consider getting help.

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Sex Addiction vs Porn Addiction?

Far and away the largest subset of people who are dealing with sexual addiction is dealing specifically with Internet pornography addiction. The Internet has brought many, many good things to our lives–but it has also enabled the anonymous, always-on, and affordable (often free) access to pornography.The Internet has created a wave of pornography addicts with its pervasive porn delivery mechanisms.

It is time to truly help yourself by starting the X3pure program right now. Putting it off means going deeper into your spiral of struggle, guilt, and emptiness.

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Same Sex Issues?

Perhaps you have been attracted to a person of the same sex at some point in your life. If so, you are not alone–and there is help. Maybe it started with extensive pornography use then led to trying same-sex activity as a means of achieving greater sexual arousal because it was something different.

Regardless of the reason, we know that homosexuality is a difficult topic to discuss, difficult to diagnose, and even more difficult to remove yourself from. One of the elements that make homosexuality hard to deal with is that it is often covered by a layer of secrecy and shame.

Despite these difficulties, homosexuality, like other forms of sexual sin, is something you can find freedom from if your real desire is to change. God can heal and bring restoration.

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What About Masturbation?

There are many differing viewpoints surrounding the impact of masturbation-is it healthy or harmful? Studies have shown that ninety-nine percent of all masturbation involves lust and mental fantasy, which disconnects you from real relationships with real people.

X3pure can help you conquer habitual masturbation–even masturbation addiction.

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Marriage and Pornography

Pornography represents one of the most insidious attacks upon the sanctity of marriage and the goodness of sex within the one-flesh relationship. The consumption of pornography gives men and women unrealistic ideas of what sex in the marriage should be like. Contrary to the very biblical basis of marriage, the use of pornography focuses on self-gratification and pleasure and can result in a lack of true intimacy between husband and wife.

X3pure is the first online, confidential, streaming-video solution for dealing with sexual addiction. This workshop provides you with the absolute fundamentals for understanding compulsive sexual behaviors like masturbation, pornography use, extra-marital/pre-marital sex, or visiting strip clubs or prostitutes. Easy to understand and accessible, you can log on to this 30-day program from any internet-connected device at any time.

TESTIMONIALS

One of the great tragedies of the modern age is that more and more men are being trapped by pornography. It robs men of both the life and intimacy they long for. The good news is there is hope. X3pure offers a powerful and liberating way back to freedom for any man who wants it. I highly recommend the life-returning program.

- Robert Lewis

Founder, Men’s Fraternity

X3pure is a brilliant solution for sexual purity in that it helps remove the largest barrier that Christians face when dealing with this issue: fear of disclosure. There are hundreds of thousands who need to get help overcoming pornography and other sexual sins. X3pure is a great way to provide the help they need. It is confidential, biblically sound, and is led by believers whom I know and trust. If you, your son, your daughter, your spouse, or perhaps a friend is struggling with sexual sin of any kind, go to their website and signup for one of their confidential programs today.

- Chuck Swindoll

Chairman, Insight for Living

X3pure uses the anonymity of the Internet to allow men to start the journey of recovery. I encourage you to make X3pure available to your church and to encourage men and women to begin the transformation process from pornography addiction to freedom in Christ with X3pure.

- Steve Arterburn

Co-Author, the ”Every Man’s Battle“ series of books

X3pure provides real and relevant help on deeply personal and spiritually sensitive issues. It speaks grace. It speaks truth. It is biblical and bold. It is technically brilliant. I am proud to recommend it as a pastor.