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Being unequally yolked can be one of the hardest relationships you will ever be in. Single women are waiting on a true man of God. Married women are waiting on their husbands to get saved. The whole process can be so frustrating. I wrote this book to inspire people all over the world. There are some biblical principals that will not only give you the strength, but give you the wisdom to walk out the emotional roller coaster of an unequally yolked marriage. It also gives insight to the single woman on what to expect if she marries an unsaved man. It is so much better to wait on God for the right man for you. This book is nothing but real. You need to add this to your library and bless a friend with a copy too. Help me get the word out so others can be inspired too.

“This book gives a wonderful, transparent view of the first years of marriage despite the details of your unique marriage. I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my marriage. I felt some of the same emotions and had some of the same thoughts however my husband and I were both believers but I still remember having most of the same thoughts and emotions. I chose to hold on!
Thank you for being transparent in your experience and sharing! So many times we think that we are the only one going through tough times and that it is unnatural but by sharing your experience many will be able to relate and will be able to make a clear choice to hold on!
This is a great bridal shower gift or a newlywed.” ~Kacey Ferguson

Thank you for supporting the vision to inspire and empower women everywhere. Please share this, favorite it, like it, re-blog it…Help me spread the word! Be encouraged! And don’t forget to get your copy today!

This quote really grabbed my attention. As you all know, the Women in the Waiting ministry originated from my experience of being unequally yoked. Back in the day, we were a hot mess. We suffered a lot of losses, pain and grief because of who we were before Christ. I wouldn’t dare want my sons or daughter to be anything like we were. It was the grace of God that saved us, and saved our marriage. “23 Years!” All of you single ladies and gentlemen have a choice. You do not have to go through some of the drama that those ahead of you have gone through. Here are a few things to think about as you are on your journey to the married life.

Have a committed relationship to the Lord. If you do not fully submit to the will of God, you will not fully submit to your spouse. You will want things your way and be very self serving.

Remember that who you decide to marry is your decision only. People can offer you great advice, but they will not be the one who wakes up with the person you say I do to, you will. Make sure it is your decision.

Preparation for marriage does not begin when you get engaged. You should already be looking like a wife, walking like a wife, and talking like a wife. The Bible says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor. If you still look like you are available, you may attract a man, but not necessarily your husband.

Surround yourself with couples who have successful marriages, that can plug a nugget in here and there. There are many biblical principles that will work for every marriage. However, different people respond to situations in different ways. Get some insight that may prepare you for marriage and then use the tools to figure out what may or may not work for you. Once again, every marriage is different.

Don’t marry just for love. Love runs out. Feelings change. There truly is a thin line between love and hate. Love alone is not enough to get married. There also needs to be purpose and commitment. Your spouse should be able to walk with you, and support you as the two of you fulfill your purpose together.

There is no such thing as “the one” You will spend the rest of your life looking for “the one” when all you need to do as let God send “the right one” for you. God won’t make you marry anyone. We have free will. But he will guide you along the way. Let him lead you.

Relationships are work. If you have to work really hard to get along before you get married…you will work overtime to keep the marriage. Common decency towards one another should come naturally. If it is hard for them to treat you right, give it some thought.

There should be some common interests. If there are certain things that you absolutely love and they can’t stand, you need to be okay with that if you pursue a future together.

You need to know what your deal breakers and your boundaries are before they come along. If your boundary is “no house visits”, that should be respected. People who have no respect for your boundaries have no respect for you…and vice versa. If your deal breaker is him not wanting kids, don’t compromise. If you want children wait on the one God sends you who wants them as well.

There should be respect being shown on both sides. If your mate belittles you, threatens you, tries to control you, blames you for his/her mistakes…that is a serious red flag!

If you can’t be honest with the person you are seeing, you may have personal issues. If the person makes you feel uncomfortable being you and being honest about your life, that might be a red flag.

Lastly, like the quote says….don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son like him. That is a good thought because chances are, if you have children…they may be like the person you marry.

Wait on the Lord and again I say wait. If you want to be married, prepare yourself to be married. And while you wait, make God your number one and keep him as your number one even after the husband or the wife comes. Two plus God can last forever.

Be encouraged,

T Brown

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God, I don’t have all the answers. God, sometimes I just don’t have a clue what to say or do. The only thing I am sure of is, you know. I don’t want to spend my time trying to figure out things and events that aren’t meant for me to understand. I do want to spend my time getting to know you, who understands everything. Please guide my heart, my mind, and my footsteps in every way. I am grateful for my life. I am grateful for the opportunity to serve you. And, I am grateful for your plan for me. As long as you have a plan, I will never be lost. I am found in you and I am ever so grateful! Lord I thank you. Make this your prayer today and find your strength in the Lord. He knows everything.

How many times have we heard, “Get out of your feelings?” Our feelings will fail us every time. We get angry and blow up. We get sad and go into depression. We get frustrated and give up. There is no victory in our flesh. As Psalms tells us, our flesh and heart will fail, BUT GOD! Who needs a “BUT GOD” this morning? God is the strength of your heart. When you look back at situations and can’t figure out how you survived that one, know that it was only because of God. He is your portion. Portion is not the whole thing, it’s a part. He is the missing parts in your life. Let him fill the void and be your strength. You are guaranteed to be made whole. We will all have down times in our life, but we have to choose to experience them in a better way. So, get your day started with a “portion” of God. You need a portion here, a portion there, after a while you will be filled with his love, joy, peace and all of the wonderful attributes of who he is. I hope this encouraged someone today.

It’s Wednesday! Worth Day! I was wondering what value have you placed on your life? Have you limited the blessings you are entitled to? Have you blocked certain avenues that should be open in your life? God values us as his children. His love is not based on whether we are saved. He sent his son just to prove how much he loves us and wants us to be in fellowship with him. We are worth every thing God has for us. We choose to devalue our lives.

We are the ones who are so impatient that we are willing to accept a man who is married and claim he will be our husband after the divorce. We are the ones who are willing to be toyed with by a player who is out with two or three other side chicks. We are the ones who choose to remain a side chick instead of being the only wife. We are the ones who limit who God can use to speak into our lives because we don’t want to hear the truth. We are the ones who choose the sin we are tempted with over the escape we can be rescued with. We are the ones who are willing to accept anything that was better than the last thing, even though it’s not what God wants for us.

We don’t value ourselves the way God does. We don’t believe in ourselves the way God does. We don’t see ourselves the way God does. If we did, we would respect and honor ourselves the way God does. Don’t try to rush God into blessing you. Sometimes he will give you want you want instead of what you’re worth. Have patience and serve until he produces your blessing. Today is Wednesday, worth day! Are you worth waiting for? And are you waiting for what you are worth?

The next time something bad happens in your life, immediately ask yourself, “What can I do to fix it?” If there is something within your reach and within your power to fix the situation, then by all means do it. If there is nothing you can do, just smile. Look up to heaven and say, “Lord, there is nothing I can do about it, but I know you can.” Thank him and go on with the rest of your day. It is perfectly okay to be at peace when the situation dictates that you should flip out. Decide to have a peaceful day. Find some time to relax while God is working on your behalf.

Have you ever been around wrong for so long that you started to think it was right? Then, when you get around right, you stand out like a sore thumb. This is how Saints who are walking in error and deception are operating today. They find themselves in church hearing the truth which exposes the sin in their lives. After a while, they start justifying their sin and looking for excuses (or what we call gray areas) to continue to do the things they were doing. Eventually, they will have convinced themselves that their way of living is right and everything else is wrong.

Prov 14:12 There is a way which seemethright unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

OK, I hear you saying right and wrong, but according to who? According to the word of God. The word of God is truth and it is the only thing you can measure your life against without prejudice. The word of God will remain the same no matter what you are facing or how you view the situation.

For example, we tend to decide how we are going to respond according to the situation and not according to the word. We somehow feel justified in going off when it comes to our money and our children. But, we can let it go when it is dealing with something we consider trivial. Wrong Answer!! You still have to love, forgive, be slow to anger, speak truth in love, tell the truth, have peace and joy no matter what. The word of God does not change! Who told you it was ok to act a certain way because your situation is just a little different. Everyone thinks their situation is an exception to the rule. God still frowns upon divorce, but he loves the couple involved. God still says homosexuality is an abomination, but he loves the ones who are living the lifestyle. God still says if you are lusting in your mind it is just like committing the act, but he still loves the one who is doing it. This is a new year. Stop deceiving yourselves. Stop letting the devil deceive you. And stop letting people who are living sinful lives tell you that your life is ok. Measure it against the word of God and let his truth reveal the sin in your life, This year purpose in your heart to let your light shine in dark places and stop being the darkness in a place full of light.