If you were in a relationship for 15 years, and found out your partner cheated 10 years ago, would you stay?

My question is, If you were involved in a relationship with someone and you found out that they cheated like 10+ years ago on you, would you stay? Especially since, they haven't cheated since that one time? Give me an explanation of your answer.

It was 10 years ago, (s)he has not done anything since then, so yeah.

Vote A

I don't know....

Vote B

Hell no! It does not matter the length of time, they cheated!

Vote C

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Just for the record, if you want to know my personal stance: One question I ask a potential date is if she ever cheated on anyone. If she answers yes, it is over. If I were in this situation, I care not if it were 100 years ago, it's over.

What Girls Said 6

15 years is a great chunk of your life , but I would WALK. People CHEAT for many reasons ( half of which are just NOT logical to me , SORRY) however it's the NOT knowing part that would BOTHER me so much. I have a hard time believing that ANYONE who could sit on a " secret" such as that one could be TRUSTED. I understand that MANY of us say we could forgive , BUT there are very FEW that will ever forget and that in it's self causes MAJOR problems. Lets be REAL here if they chose to cheat for a very selfish reason there is ALWAYS the chance that another selfish opportunity will arise.

If you truly love the person, and you can tell they're sorry; and especially if yalls relationship is meant to last---You'll be able to talk and work through it and everything will work out. Why give up a good 10 years over something that happened long ago and they can't take back yet never did again?

I believe traitors should die, and since the law states killing a cheater constitutes murder and is therefore illegal, I say working it out, would be like, "I understand you cheated on me, so you can continue to treat me as a doormat. I am your doormat to screw around on." Forgiving would be akin to making yourself a doormat to me.

Thats tricky, bur personally Id stay, I know people don't agree with it. But people make mistakes and as much as I am against infidelity... sometimes you just have to forgive people for their past. If you love them and trust that it was then and will not be a now Stick it out. but ONLY if you can truly forgive the person and it will not be an ongoing issue/argument

well I certainly wouldn't have spent that chunk of my life with someone I didn't love, so I personally would stick it out, true love isn't something you stumble upon often so I wouldn't let it go just because of something they did that long ago and never repeated. No a repeat offense No Way would I stay but I just can't imagine being able to cut that person out of my life because of their lacking strong will to temptation THAT long Ago That's all I'm saying'

Love is a mutual arrangement, and the instance love was disrespected, then it is void. In other words, if you were married to me, and you had an indiscretion 10 years ago, and even if you did not cheat any more besides that, you would be complete with the trifecta of lying, cheating, and stealing. Hopefully I would be in a calm state of mind... I hate thieves, liars, and cheaters. Enough so that I believe that death should be their respite.

I would not fogive you for lying to me for 10 years, stealing 10 years of my unyielding loyalty, and cheating 10 years ago. That ain't love. I never heard where it is proper or tactful to lie cheat or steal from those you love. Understand my point?

I do understand your point of view entirely, I'm just a different person than you are with an entirely different prospective on things... I'm kind hearted and forgiving yes more so than I should be and yes I've stayed before and yes it bit me twice as hard, But it was the choice I had made for myself I was only being honest in my reply

Im realistic as well but I think you took one stubborn stand on this topic and Id really like to say, Its very different when you're the one involved! I've been there and yes I was sh*t on for it but after that long and being with someone that long... its a hard u-turn to make and break out.

I was cheated on 3 times, but it only took the one time for me to call it quits. In my experience, not STUBBORNNESS, I have seen where cheaters always cheat. They never quit, why? They are selfish hacks that cares not for another's feelings, but their own gratification alone, then pretend to be appologetic when they are caught. As I said, No offense to your views, but it is akin to allowing yourself to be subjugated and run over like a doormat.. Not being stubborn but not allowing for it.

What Guys Said 4

Hell no. I don't care how long ago it was. The trust is always going to be gone when I learn about it. And if she decides to stay with me knowing what she did, she will only come off as a selfish bitch and I don't want to be with her.

That would mean that I meant nothing to her and that when the opportunity arose she took it and cheated on me. What's to say that the next time an opportunity is present that she won't do it again or that this was the only time she did cheat?

Not to meantion that the person has been lying to me for years about it. That relationships is long dead and I'm only being used, I'd get out as soon as I could.

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