Musings of a young black weirdo

Posts tagged ‘Love’

Getting over an ex is tough. Especially when you thought you were over that person. You’re just going along with your day, living your life, listening to Pandora, and the when next song comes on, it’s that song. Your song. You hear the intro or the first line, and your mind wanders back to a year (or two or three…) ago, when you were happy with X and you heard this song the first time you kissed. Or on your first date. Or on your anniversary. A part of you wants to turn the song off, but another part of you wants to relive that part of your life for the next 3 minutes and 42 seconds. So you do. Then you spend all day reliving memories and come to the realization that you’re not completely over that person.

Emotional ties are the ties that bind. (I may or may not have just made that quotation up. Sorry if I plagiarized you.) You may have gotten to the point where you can go a whole week or two without thinking about that person at all, but one sound, picture, video, smell (smell is closely tied to memory!), article of clothing, or place can cause allllll those feelings to pop back up. Then you’re stuck with bittersweet memories you would rather forget swimming around your head for the rest of the day. And all you can do is deal with them.

I wish I knew the quickest and easiest way to get over someone. If I did, I would use it myself. *drops mic and walks off stage*

Just in case you live under a rock or you’ve never seen a calendar, it’s Valentines Day! Named after St. Valentine, a saint that had nothing to do with naked babies, candy, or secret admirers, Valentine’s Day has turned into a consumer powerhouse for the floral, greeting card, restaurant, and chocolate industries.

I’m kinda neutral about Valentine’s Day. I think it’s ridiculous to go all out to show those you love that you love them only once a year, but I can never be mad about a holiday that celebrates love in all forms. That’s why I don’t understand why some (definitely not all) single people get all sad/bitter every year when this day rolls around. I understand when people are sad about being single. Sometimes it sucks. But I don’t understand why people get mad at happy people in relationships. Like, really? They’re not the reason why you’re single. I’m willing to bet you’re single because you’re bitter.

Rodgers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella was on last night (the one with Brandy) and it got me thinking about bitter people. Cinderella is obviously a work of fiction, but we can learn a lot about it. Look at the stepsisters. They had a whole song dedicated to how hateful and bitter they are. And where did they end up at the end of the movie? On the other side of the royal gates while Cinderella and the prince lived happily ever after. The girl who had a genuine personality, forgiving spirit, and positive outlook on life is the one that fell in love and ended up better off than she could have ever imagined. Being hateful gets you nowhere in life.

Love doesn’t just mean romantic love. Look around and see your family, friends, pets, etc. and realize how truly loved you are. Some people are abandoned by the ones they love, and some are born into this world alone. Don’t take for granted something not everyone has. Love is all around you. If you choose to ignore that and be bitter and hateful today, then so be it. You don’t deserve the love you do have.

And most importantly, remember to give love. Whatever you give, you will receive tenfold. Spend your time giving love, and you won’t be solely focused on receiving it.

As for me, I’ll be spending Valentine’s Day with people who I truly love and who love me in return. Feliz San Valentin! 😀