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“I think music in itself is healing. It’s an explosive expression of humanity. It’s something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we’re from, everyone loves music.”

Billy Joel

“to lie.”

I think music is a great way to express yourself, when words don’t come easily. Sometimes artists find words that either touch you or you can relate to. Taking pictures in second life has a connection between art and humanity–just like music. It captures feelings. For me, personally, I’ve been seriously involved with music for literally half of my life. So self expression is like breathing for me. Many of my friends in real life are also contributors to the music community by being teachers, choir directors, and musicians. This is also the reason why second life photography has been a major part of my journey. I find great joy through self expression.

I could not take these pictures without the kind people inworld who discuss techniques and tools that help the process. I never claim to know everything to those who ask. I always say that I am a constant learner, because I am. Residents always surprise and delight me with their talents. I’m totally gushing in this post because I’ve had a few friends inworld lately give me some tips, which I am entirely grateful for those in my life, who have helped me to create this blog. Without you, I would cease to exist.

Normally, I wouldn’t share something personal in my blog. BUT, I’m going to have to share a few things in the next few months. So I wanted to start off with something good. Sometimes people have to share things, even when they really don’t want to. In those cases, I find that disclosing something fun is best, instead of diving into the gritty details. Music and art have always been apart of my life. People in my real life are freelance artists, and musicians. It has enriched my life–just as photography has in second life.

Speaking of pictures, in my second pic, I thought it would be funny to add a little bit to that sentence and link a video that had Lie as the title. This photo shoot was a lot of fun. This isn’t my normal look. I like changing it up from time to time. The play on words, the colors, and silliness, I couldn’t stop smiling these pictures. Pink is my favorite color and always makes me fee happy (if you couldn’t tell by how much pink I wear) :).

This wonderful outfit, poses, and back drop all come from different companies and different events. I want to talk about Limit 8. It’s an event that hosts 50 designers. They feature limited items. So once they are gone, they are gone. It opens up on the 18th of every month at 5pm. You have to hurry, when the open though, as one can imagine things go quite quickly. My backdrop is from Ninety and called Need You Backdrop. It’s no longer available. However, backdrops such as this one above can be found at Limited 8. Next, we have my rare jacket/shirt combo, shorts in the bottom photo came from the epiphany. It’s from foxes and called Spooky, which again can be found at the epiphany. My pose is from Body language and called SLC Bento SS pose, which can be found at N21. My rings and nails can also be found at N21. They’re from yummy and called Divinity Nail and Ring set. As you can see, the grid is full of wonderful events.

Please grab a friend and head out shopping. You won’t be disappointed. So many great events on the map!! For further details on my styling, please check out my credits below.

“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.” Og Mandino

This quote describes my life, but maybe it describes everyone’s life. I talk a lot about ups and downs. In second life, I can usually tell when people are going through something. Some of my closest friends inworld and otherwise have been struggling, just like me. I’m not blinded by their struggles nor are they blind to mine. We’ve pulled each other up and tried to show each other the stars. Sometimes, the fog can make the stars a little difficult to see in the dark of night. Even if you don’t see them, they are still there. Basically, in difficult times, there is always something that is good around us, even if we have to really focus.

My blog post is a little late. I’ve been pretty sick this week. I canceled every appointment. I stayed home. Even now, I’m still not 100 percent. BUT, I have chicken noodle soup, so everything will be right in the world. Even while recovering from a head cold and dealing with some personal real life things, people have been very kind to me inworld. I’m really grateful to the people talking to me about everything under the sun from second life to real life. It has been a much needed distraction.

I really want people to know that my struggles have nothing to do with second life. My silence has not been in regards to my time spent inworld. No one said or did anything to me. I’m not angry, sad, or frustrated with anyone. Real life can just be really hard sometimes. And I’m going through some things. But I am really grateful to the people who have reached out to me. I’d like to thank all of my friends–new and old.

During my down time, I have logged on and done a little bit of shopping. This month’s collabor88 is really fantastic. The chapter four is also pretty fantastic. My head piece is from Lode which can be found at the chapter four. My dress, sweater, and rings are all from this month’s Collabor88, which is one my all time favorite events. BUT, I also adore the Epiphany which is my next stop. So stay tuned.

For more information about my attire, please check out the credits down below

“I think the world needs more sex positivity, particularly from women..”

Jenny Nordbak

As a few people have seen, I’ve started to write again. I thought no one was reading these little blurbs of mine, but people do read them. Others have noticed my silence. I decided to break it. With gritted teeth and rising blood pressure, silence does me no good. It only ends up hurting me. But I guess silence ends up hurting everyone. No one should go through life as a mute by choice.

I reached a limit in so many ways. I logged on for months barely speaking to anyone. I drowned in decorating. I drowned in shopping events. But after the inventory becomes a mess and the decorating reaches an end in sight, you are left with a cluttered closet and time on your hands. I wish that the silence was only in second life, but it was not. It’s funny how when all you want to do is drown in silence, but people kept reaching down to pull me up from the water. I fought people on it for a long time. But that’s the thing about people, there are good people in the sea of many. They won’t let you drown.

Everything isn’t perfect, but such is life. But I can say that I’m having fun again or trying to. I’ve made plans and I’m not hiding on my land. I’m talking to people. I’m slowly moving away from my own little island and trying to get out more. Even in my real life, people saw me drowning in sorrow and they weren’t having any part of it. They too dragged me out and into the light. I needed them. I need them still.

In the past, I would discuss everything that was going on in my life, but I’m a little more careful now. I don’t want to share with the world the inner workings of Violet’s world–on and offline. Things got tough. Then, they got tougher. But I was lucky. I have friends by my side in all worlds. They don’t know everything about me. They just saw an empty blog and empty profile. They never asked questions, which I will always be grateful for. Instead they made me laugh. They kept me up to date about things inworld. They even checked up on me. I’m going to be okay. I just need to get over some hurdles. My world will never be the same–in real life or second life. I am forever changed.

Even when everything crumbles, the world will still turn. The grid still had a ton of events. This month is exceptional for shopping. LeLutka came out with a new male bento head. The black fair, shoetopia, salem, and collabor88 opened up. I’ve been really busy in real life and I am just now starting to catch up. The picture above features a corset and pose available at the black fair. The pose is from BellePoses and it’s called Lola. My corset is from United Colors and is called Eternity Corset. Both of these items can be found at the Black Fair.

I would love to see some more dominatrix poses. I always have a hard time finding poses such as these. I loved finding this pose set. I usually never blog my poses, but I’ve had a hard time finding poses like this one, so I’m helping fellow shoppers this time around.

And now the Epiphany is opening tonight. There is sooooo much shopping on the grid. I hope you all decide to take someone to the Black Fair to get some wonderful items.

“Hearts are breakable,” Isabelle said. “And I think even when you heal, you’re never what you were before”.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Fallen Angels

There’s so much heart break in the news. I thought about not writing a post, but I’ve had thoughts running around in my brain. They were itching to get out. So here I am writing what I can.

I saw on the news once again senseless death in the news, another mass shooting. I worry for my friend’s children in real life. What are they inheriting from generations with so much anger that drives others to kill. I worry about the heart ache of the families effected. Their lives and those individuals effected from one individual. It’s too much to stomach. Too much to bear. Yet, here we all sit knowing that we must face the facts. Just like my quote says, after heart break, you’re never what you were before. It’s heart breaking seeing those violent acts. It’s even more heart breaking for those who live through it and effected by it.

I was talking to a colleague, friend of sorts the other day. She said to me, “You are me. I am you.” If only, we could remember this quote all the time. It struck a gigantic chord with me. I am human. You are human. In that, we both share something in common on the most basic of levels. I could have used this reminder a few times in all worlds. Maybe it would have saved myself some heartache and the inevitable change.

However, we are shaped by the choices we make in this life, which leads me to another quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, “I cannot remember the books I’ve read any more than the meals I have eaten. Even so, they have made me.” I will never remember every memory in second life or my real life, but they have shaped the person behind the computer. We effect everyone daily in the things we say and do. Please remember that you can break peoples hearts and they can break yours. Lets be kind to one another and not let hurt change us. But alas, we are all human and it’s bound to happen. The only thing we can control is how we react to it.

If you find yourself needing a break from the news or heartbreak, shopping can definitely lead itself to it’s own type of therapy. There are so many wonderful events. I ran away into the second life covers of shopping. I found Salem, The Black Fair, Fameshed, Pocket Gacha, and so many others. This wonderful outfit is from the Salem event. I spent a bunch of money there. If you need Halloween decor or maybe a witchy outfit, I would definitely head over. Hopefully in the next week or so, I can cover all the events that were mentioned above. For further info regarding this lovely outfit, please check out my credits. Thank you for reading this blog and sticking with me through my blogging journey.