to tell or not to tell

Well, just had the first appt at 10 weeks, and it went as expected. Urine test and blood tests only. We asked if there was any way we could find out if Sprout was alive and growing, but got told no and that we'd have to wait 4 weeks to hear the heartbeat, and then we'd know something. Kind of a bummer, but expected. Now we're trying to decide if we should tell our folks. My husband and I are on opposite shifts, so it might be handy to tell should anything go wrong (particularly as we have 1 car and he uses it). On the other hand, we planned to wait until we heard the heart beat. Should we just go ahead and tell or hold off a few weeks?

Well, just had the first appt at 10 weeks, and it went as expected. Urine test and blood tests only. We asked if there was any way we could find out if Sprout was alive and growing, but got told no and that we'd have to wait 4 weeks to hear the heartbeat, and then we'd know something. Kind of a bummer, but expected. Now we're trying to decide if we should tell our folks. My husband and I are on opposite shifts, so it might be handy to tell should anything go wrong (particularly as we have 1 car and he uses it). On the other hand, we planned to wait until we heard the heart beat. Should we just go ahead and tell or hold off a few weeks?

Well, it is a decision only you can make, however, i was comfortable tellong the people i knew i would need support from, i know even if something were to go wrong they would be there for me, i am 10 weeks now and have told almost all family, i will announce publicly after my us

Well, it is a decision only you can make, however, i was comfortable tellong the people i knew i would need support from, i know even if something were to go wrong they would be there for me, i am 10 weeks now and have told almost all family, i will announce publicly after my us

I recommend only telling people who you would want to know you are going through an MC. So, if your family includes a bunch of kids, you may only want to tell the adults. My coworker is just pregnant with her second baby and she came out at the office after her viability US at 6 weeks last week. I'm in my second pregnancy, no baby yet, so I'm keeping quiet until 12 week scan. It's hard, especially since she keeps bringing up morning sickness or hunger and I want to scream "I know." So, to each their own.

I recommend only telling people who you would want to know you are going through an MC. So, if your family includes a bunch of kids, you may only want to tell the adults. My coworker is just pregnant with her second baby and she came out at the office after her viability US at 6 weeks last week. I'm in my second pregnancy, no baby yet, so I'm keeping quiet until 12 week scan. It's hard, especially since she keeps bringing up morning sickness or hunger and I want to scream "I know." So, to each their own.

I told everyone at 5 weeks when I found out. Granted, I was in the ER because I thought I was dying so all of my family was there. I waited to Facebook it until I heard the heartbeat a few days later. I'm an open book anyway and couldn't imagine having to make excuses for why I'm so sick and tired all of the time. I say it's your decision, do what you're comfortable with!

I told everyone at 5 weeks when I found out. Granted, I was in the ER because I thought I was dying so all of my family was there. I waited to Facebook it until I heard the heartbeat a few days later. I'm an open book anyway and couldn't imagine having to make excuses for why I'm so sick and tired all of the time. I say it's your decision, do what you're comfortable with!

Thanks everyone for your responses. I think my obgyn is waiting because he uses Doppler to detect the heartbeat. Anyway, I think we have decides to tell folks tomorrow in part so I have someone who can get me in case of an emergency while DH is at work and because if things go well, everyone might be a little miffed to find out nearly halfway through. I'm so nervous, but I might want my mom and she doesn't know yet. Thanks again all!

Thanks everyone for your responses. I think my obgyn is waiting because he uses Doppler to detect the heartbeat. Anyway, I think we have decides to tell folks tomorrow in part so I have someone who can get me in case of an emergency while DH is at work and because if things go well, everyone might be a little miffed to find out nearly halfway through. I'm so nervous, but I might want my mom and she doesn't know yet. Thanks again all!

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