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Second of all, as in all honeymoons, all is well until it is not. It is until the unexpected happens that you will see all grievances surface -ask anyone in any relationship. The girl can chew with her mouth open, that if you love her, you do not care. If you do not lover her, if her pinkie toe is half an inch deviant, the relationship is doomed. - Icon

Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.

sandman wrote:Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.

Sandy, I don't think most people in this specific thread have been unkind, especially the OP. I think he shed some new ideas on why some girls possibly take a break-up "harder" than others. And here, as elsewhere, it is true that some people (men and women) do take a break-up very badly and in some cases do some really off the wall stuff.In some cases, people also act oddly even in the midst of a relationship. Most people have no background in psychology and have no idea how to handle such a situation.

But as you say, if the girl (or guy) was promised long term love, used as a semen depository and discarded like a soiled diaper, then I totally agree with you. In such circumstances a person would deserve what they got.

Second of all, as in all honeymoons, all is well until it is not. It is until the unexpected happens that you will see all grievances surface -ask anyone in any relationship. The girl can chew with her mouth open, that if you love her, you do not care. If you do not lover her, if her pinkie toe is half an inch deviant, the relationship is doomed. - Icon

sandman wrote:Reading these, all I can say is: "Damn! You little children REALLY don't have much in the way of the social niceties, do you? PLEASE tell me its more than just "she's got a vagina and she didn't say NO!" Please. People get what they deserve, usually, I've always found. At least you got some. Judging from these posts, you should think yourselves BLOODY lucky to have even got that.

Sandy, I don't think most people in this specific thread have been unkind, especially the OP. I think he shed some new ideas on why some girls possibly take a break-up "harder" than others. And here, as elsewhere, it is true that some people (men and women) do take a break-up very badly and in some cases do some really off the wall stuff.In some cases, people also act oddly even in the midst of a relationship. Most people have no background in psychology and have no idea how to handle such a situation.

But as you say, if the girl (or guy) was promised long term love, used as a semen depository and discarded like a soiled diaper, then I totally agree with you. In such circumstances a person would deserve what they got.

True. Its only an impression I got from the reading of the thing. Wouldn't be the first time I was wrong, god knows.

Here is one of the big lessons from my experience; Unless you are married have everything in your name and do not tell your gf things she does not need to know.I would like to know if there are other experiences with gfs turning their not-quite-legal bfs over to the authorities? One sign that a school may be abou to get raided is a pissed off ex.

divea wrote:This is the worst possible tactic.....I know a married couple, where the woman did this to the husband and all of us family and friends for nearly 4 months......they are still married but I refuse to talk to the woman, it is the filthiest tactic and joke or revenge or whatever she may justify it as.

Only to be superceeded by the "I'm gonna sit on this rooftop ledge at 2 o'clock in the morning and scream my lungs out for all your neighbors to know what a horrible person you are and then force you to call the police because you do actually believe that I could jump, even though I don't intend to at all" move.

Fortunately, this was not one of mine.

I like this move. You could kill two birds with this stone, the boy frienda nd the creepy neighbours. Nothing would have given me more pleasure than disturbing an old amah in the wee hours

I am kidding okay...I like old amahs.

"It is the weak who are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong. " - Leo Roston

Another thing I have noticed about Taiwnese gfs is that when THEY want to break up with you, they do it quietly and expect you to notice. They to things like say they are sick one weekend and can't go out with you, but that they will do it for sure the next weekend. Then the next weekend comes up and they have something they have to do at work. The week after that, something with the family comes up, etc.However, if you do some research into what they were actually doing on a weekend, the story might be different than what they told you. You will call them to see how they are doing and you will notice some background noise that indicates they are out when they said they are sick, or are not at work, or move away from wherever they were when they answered the phone, because they do not want others hear whom they are speaking to.Taiwanese make break ups difficult either way. They throw fits when you break up with them. When they break up with you, they leave all of the difficult work of figuring out it is over up to you.

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