Should You Date A Guy Who's Still In Pain From His Last Relationship Like Reported New Bachelor Ben Flajnik Is?

Ben had his heart broken by Ashley Hebert. Should other women be wary of getting involved with the reported new Bachelor?

Ben Flajnik may have had his heart broken by Ashley Hebert on The Bachelorette, but now he’s getting his own shot at love: a new, reputable report claims he is the newest Bachelor. But should contestants be cautious of dating a guy who might still be emotionally damaged from his last relationship?
The 28-year-old winemaker is relieving Brad Womack of his Bachelor crown next season, promises TV insider website RealitySteve.com. In fact, Ben spent Aug. 21 filming what will most likely be the show’s introduction in San Francisco; the series itself will begin shooting in September.
The mild-mannered Sonoma, Calif. resident showed some obvious anger when Ashley, who had reportedly slept with him just nights before, chose J.P. Rosenbaum instead.

Ashley had led Ben on; he believed she felt the same way about him that he did about her. He was humiliated and two-timed in front of a national TV audience. Is he really in a place right now where he’s ready to date again and he can be as open to love as he was before The Bachelorette aired? Should you date a guy who’s just been dumped?

At heart, Ben seems like a nice guy. He isn’t going to deliberately set out to be vindictive and break the contestants’ hearts like Ashley broke his. However, you should always be wary of dating a guy who’s a) just been dumped b) might still have lingering feelings for his ex and c) may have something to prove.

You have to be the exception (not the rule) if you happen to be the girl that came after the one who hurt him for your relationship to last. Look at poor Jennifer Love Hewitt: she went on one date with Ben, but he reportedly wasn’t over Ashley enough to actually give J. Love a shot.

Who knows? He’ll probably have had enough time to heal by the time the show starts filming this fall, but I’m still issuing a warning to the women of The Bachelor: slow and steady is going to win this race. Don’t rush love with a guy who’s been badly hurt; it won’t get you anywhere but heartbroken yourself.