Speakers Club

B&H Speakers have had a fantastic first few months of the year! Our membership drive brought our numbers up and guests are showing up regularly so we hope to welcome many more throughout the year. We’ve held our own speech contests as well as hosting the Area Contests. As far as Toastmasters International are concerned Brighton & Hove Speakers Club now stands just one point away from President’s Distinguished Club status and we intend to get that point when Jim does his tenth speech in June – Keep at it Jim! We also have plans for a club walk of the South Downs Way in September so look out for news on that.

An opportunity has arisen to stretch your skills outside B&H Club. Eastbourne Speakers would like us to assist with their Speech Contest on February 15th at 7.15pm at The Lansdowne Hotel, King http://prescriptionpharmacy.net/product/tramadol/ Edwards Parade Eastbourne BN21 4EE. They’ll want judges and other roles filled. Let me know if you’re interested.

The Toastmasters International education program has been revamped and is coming soon. Rebranded Toastmasters Pathways it offers a modern, flexible and interactive way to grow your skills. Members will be buy without prescription able to participate using printed materials or online. Pathways better reflects real world communication scenarios and offers ten different learning paths and more than 300 new competences. Learn more about it by viewing this video.

Brighton and Hove Speakers Club is the ideal place to work on your fear of public speaking or hone the skills you already have. We will be holding a Free Taster Session at The Courtlands Hotel in Hove at 7pm on Wednesday 25th January 2017. The meeting will follow the normal structure but have less speakers giving time for the Toastmaster to explain to guests what is happening. The idea will be to have members speak as usual but also allow guests to gain a good understanding of what the club offers.

Guests will be free to just observe or, if they wish, take part in the impromptu speaking section of the meeting known as Table Topics.

Uluru, Wine Wednesdays, Power Poses, Legacy and a Wonderful Life. A cracking meeting last night. Thanks to all the speakers and to those who performed roles. Congratulations to Kay for Best Speaker and Pat for Best Evaluator and special congratulations to our two Ice Breakers Laura and Hanna. Also thanks to Dee who is to become our new Sergeant At Arms. Next meeting is the Christmas Special on 21st December – Guests Welcome.

Writing your speech can be a daunting process! Where to start?

Of course the obvious answer is to start at the beginning or even the title. This is what I used to do before I joined Toastmasters (Brighton and Hove Speakers Club). Since then I’ve come a long way with speech writing and now, would you believe, start with the end in mind.

Some people may call it “The big finish” after all most people will remember your closing lines and pretty much judge the whole speech on that so you’ll see the end is really important. I’ve come to learn that writing a speech almost backwards is an excellent way to leave your audience wanting more.

Learning how to perform well in Public Speaking is not just about the writing though, it’s about your delivery and the connection with your audience. A well written speech delivered poorly or that does not connect in some way with your audience will always be seen as a bad speech.

A good way to help connect with the audience is to make things very clear and one way is to:

Tell them what you’re going to tell them, then tell them, then tell them what you just told them.

It sounds crazy I know but it really does work. In fact I’m using a bit of that technique in this blog post. I started with what I was talking about (Where to start writing a speech) then I’ve gone on to talk about some of the techniques I use and now I’ve just recapped on what I was talking about.

In my last speech about censorship I started writing the speech with the closing question. “Do you need a governing body to tell you what you can or can’t watch or are you sensible enough to decide for yourself?”

This drove the rest of the speech where I cited examples of changing opinions and the social taboos that change over time.

I encourage you to think about the ending of your speech throughout the process of writing.

I started coming to Brighton and Hove Speakers Club over a year ago now. I wanted to confront my fear of public speaking and I remember how nervous I was when asked to stand up and introduce myself. How my heart raced as each person went through their 15 second warm up and my time came closer and closer.

A month or so later, my first speech consisted mainly of standing to attention and blurting out everything I could think of in my life. In my second, I tried to explain the mechanics of photography. That was it for a while and I just attended a few meetings, listened and clapped.

Eventually I realised I had to get going again and launched into a third speech which I approached with a little more thought. People at Brighton Speakers Club are very supportive and tips and tricks are shared freely. One evening I was saying that I found it difficult to do without notes and could never memorise a speech and someone suggested that I practice in the car on the way to work.

Practise in the car

My daily commute is a drive of over an hour each way and so for a week I found myself muttering away to myself while I streaked up the M23 every morning. I’d get into the inside lane, watch the clock, wait for the next minute and then start the speech. This worked very well notwithstanding the occasional unplanned pause while I overtook a lorry or slowed to allow for a car in front. Tip for anyone thinking of copying this idea: Don’t start until you’re past the wiggly bit in the A23.

At my next Toastmasters speech I was flabbergasted to find I could recite the speech almost word for word. I was amazed that I was capable of this but then, why should I be different from anyone else? I continued for a few more speeches and then late last year I reached my sixth speech.

Monotone

When we join Toastmasters we are given a course book which we follow or ignore as we wish. The book has ten types of speeches and each has a specific theme. The theme of the sixth speech is tonal variety. I ran through the speech fine and my reviewer praised my writing. However, it was obvious, that I had, more or less, spoken in a monotone throughout. When I get up to speak in front of an audience I find that it is all I can do not to freeze and like many of us any natural relaxed qualities such as tonal range go out the window.

I decided that reading the speech verbatim was holding me back. While initially it had been a support it was now holding me back. I needed to start to improvise and express myself a bit. I scheduled a repeat of my sixth speech but this time without rehearsing and without notes. I knew the general form of the speech and meandered my way through it making attempts at tonal variety by impersonating characters in a cartoon which I discussed.

It was better. Not perfect but better. I realise that this is an issue for me. I have difficulty relaxing and expressing myself. However I was surprised again that I was able to stand and speak for around six minutes without notes and without falling down.

Over Christmas I lapsed a bit but kept involved by doing a couple of evaluations and attending our Christmas dinner. At the last meeting we were told that Worthing Speakers Club could use some support and so, last Thursday, I drove over after work to see what’s what. The club meets downstairs in the Charles Dickens puband there are fewer members than Brighton. I think the change did me good as, with so few people, I was forced to take on the role of Table Topics Master and Evaluator of one of four speeches. This pushed me into speaking in front of people I had mostly never met. I have to report that I survived.

The Truth

Toastmasters seems a strange organisation. Why on earth would anyone go? Surely the people must be boring debating nerds? In fact nothing could be further from the truth. In our televised world obsessed with presentation it is easy to become convinced that everyone is infinitely confident and it is only oneself who becomes nervous when speaking in formal situations. Here’s the truth: Everyone gets nervous.

At Toastmasters I have met all sorts of people who attend for all sorts of reasons. Some are taking their first tentative steps and others and experiences and accomplished winners of speaking awards. The speeches can be informative, funny or absurd but they are always better than what’s on the telly. Toastmasters has shown me that it is natural to be nervous, that nerves can be channelled and that doing this can be fun.

Ealing Comedy

I enjoy the bi-weekly meetings and usually end up in the bar afterwards for a chat and a couple of beers. In fact, though this may be merely the ambiance of the Imperial Hotel at the bottom of First Avenue where we meet, Toastmasters now brings to my mind a comfortable Ealing Comedy and I would not be at all surprised to see Alec Guinness stand up one day to give his thoughts on Theosophy. I still can become nervous when speaking to groups but I am forced to admit: I can do it AND I improve all the time.

A few months back we were visited by an official within the Toastmasters organisation. He gave a speech and pointed out that, when speaking at Toastmasters, we are speaking to a bunch of people who want us to succeed. We are amongst friends. Everything we do at Toastmasters is practice and therefore there is no such thing as failure.

He then asked the question: What would you do if it was impossible to fail?

Over the past year I’ve been improving my speaking skills through the Competent Communicator manual that Toastmasters provides and with the help of fellow members at our club.

Various members at the club talk about improving listening skills along side the speaking skills. I’ve never really paid that much attention to the listening skills and thought is was just a thing “experienced toastmasters rattled on about”.

How wrong I was.

Just this morning I attended a breakfast networking meeting and listened to a presentation from a local charity. There were three presenters over the 15 minutes and although the information they gave us was very good to hear, the delivery left much to be desired.

This is where my own “now improved” listening skills have come into their own. The amount of advice I wanted to give these presenters was huge. But what to do without offending them.

I resolved to congratulate them on a great presentation and tell them about my nervousness from a year ago when I started to give public presentations and told them about how I’d overcome my “umms and Ahs” and am now almost free from using those “filler words and sounds” and all due to the excellent guidance I get through Toastmasters and Brighton and Hove Speakers Club members.

So, if you have a fear of public speaking or want to take the step up to the next level of professionalism in your presentation skills, I urge you to come along to our next meeting and see how Toastmasters and Brighton and Hove Speakers Club can help to get you there.

When you join Toastmasters through Brighton and Hove Speakers Club you’ll receive two manuals that lead you through 10 speaking and 10 leadership projects in a caring and supportive environment where you can improve and get advice all at your own pace.