Tuesday, December 9, 2008

What do the Pilak Girls have in common? It’s definitely not our taste in men for it ranges from the archaic to the postmodern, from the serious, intellectual types to the cutesy, boy-next-door ones. Our taste in everything else – books, clothes, movies, music – vary too. It’s also not our chosen professions for we’ve all pursued different fields. So what is it then?

Besides graduating from the same secondary school and being each other’s you-go-girl-cheering-team for many years now, the one thing that we have in common is our capacity to endure painful relationships and, against all hope and logic, our self-sacrificing devotion to make such relationships work. Our minds an insane fusion of self-deception and lucidity, we have this certain tendency to try so hard to make things work and push ourselves to the limit though we know that it’s time to let go. Though wearied in spirits, we give our all; we give too much; we continue to endure. All of us—at one point or another--in a seemingly endless pit of black despair, have been afflicted with this mindset: despite everything that has happened, against all glaring reason, I still want him in my life.

Girl, you need to get your mind right. How many times did I hear those words uttered to me by my friends while I was busy wallowing in melodrama? It took years for such words to sink in and take effect. Though it pains me to do so, it is now my turn – my obligation as a friend – to say those very words.

and friends are there to say things we don't wanna hear... to point out things we don't wanna see... and encourage us to take a step when we feel too weak to even stand up. just keep in mind, give your friend enough time to think things over on her own, and hope that your words will sink in sooner than they should. :)