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One of the highlights of my first AMG (Montreal 06) was an all day driving trip to Quebec City. I was fortunate to be in the van piloted by Tim. What an extraordinary man! I was able to see the affable, gentle, loving side of him in addition to all of the other "sides" we have seen down through the years. A relentless fighter for us...our loss is Heaven's gain! While deeply saddened by his all-too-sudden parting, we have gained a real Saint who will look after us (heaven knows we need an advocate!) Ric, Lisa, and now Tim in one year is a sobering reminder that death and parting remains a reality for all of us.

I almost write you an email today, Tim, even though I know you would never receive it.

My first (of many) fights on these boards were with you though in your case it was because I couldn't stand the truth that life with HIV was going to be hard work. The work entailed in taking care of myself, protecting others and as you were often to say, getting my head out of my ass and showing my face to the world and fighting for my dignity and rights.

It's a damn scary world sometimes, Tim, but you would know that more than most. The amount you buried, the amount you wept over and the amount of your vocal chords lost to screaming at uys blind sheep are a testament of that. My fears are but fantasies compared to the strife you have experienced and seen.

I hope if anything that you take heart (cause I'll be damned if I don't believe you can't still hear me) that you were always a voice in my head when I started talking publicly about being HIV+.

I love you. I love the lessons you taught me. I'm sorry I never made it to Las Vegas that time nor did I get a move on on visiting you. The loss is mine and I feel it.

With all my respect and condolences to Bob and your respective families.

God, I just saw this and I had to close my office door to hide the tears. Tim was one of the first to welcome me and kick my butt when I needed it. I will miss you Tim. I hope you are riding a cloud and at peace.

When I see a post like the one Lis had to post, an inevitable sickness comes over me before opening it to read the details of another loss, all too soon. Tim was an invaluable member of our forums, his compassionate and most knowledgeable advice could be tough love as well whenever necessary and Tim was a good judge of when it was necessary and he pulled no punches indeed. He was most generous with pointers as to what our disease was all about and how to live with it as well as possible.

We go back a long way here and I was blessed to first meet Moff in Toronto. We had a blast as Gary says on our trip to Niagara Falls, Tim drove and it was a tremendous experience I'll never forget. When we took the train to the CN Tower I walked a little too fast and poor Tim couldn't keep up. I apologized but Tim was good natured, I just wanted to see as many fun things as possible with my wonderful, supportive new friends at Aidsmeds.com. And I did. The following year in Montreal we experienced Ric andThom's wedding, a most memorable time indeed.

Thanks Tim for being you, and I am all the better for having known you my dear friend. Rest in peace fine man.

Jody

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"Wake up to find out that you are the eyes of the world". "Try to discover that you are the song that the morning brings."

I am in total shock right now. Tim was a great person. I learned so much from him the past few years. I will never forget you Tim. You were a great man. I'm angry and in shock. You will be missed my friend. I'm so glad I knew you.

Haven't checked in here for a while and so shocked to hear this.Moffie was the first to welcome me (with a rose) when I came aboard in 2005 searching for answers andunderstanding. I remember a couple years ago he posted a pict of his new bike. I think it was pearl color.Can't remember the make but it looked 1st class. I hope he got to enjoy it over time.I firmly believe we go on to better and bigger after the short life on this place called earth. I know moffie sure earned it. He's gone but he's still here all the same.His words and wisdom never die. Keep an eye on us Tim.... RIP

wow. i, like many others, am speechless. i have not posted/visited in a while but Moffie was, like with others, one of the first to welcome me and advise me when i first arrived here some 6 years ago after being diagnosed. over time, it was clear to me that his wisdom and sage advice was invaluable to me and many others. this is truly a terrible loss to the world. RIP dear Moffie. i know you will continue to watch over us and guide us through our battles with the same dignigy you lived your life.

While I no longer participate in these forums, I do check them from time-to-time to see how folks are doing.

I am greatly saddened by this news. Moffie was the first person to greet me some five years ago when I first turned up here, to give me a rose (a dozen, actually), and to comfort me that my life wasn't over just yet. I found great comfort in the things he told me, both publicly and via PM, and he was instrumental in me picking myself up and getting on with things. I owe him a debt of gratitude.

I feel a tremendous loss right now......., I met Tim in Toronto, and instantly loved this great, wise, and stubborn man with a wicked sense of humor. I was priveleged enough to watch a cd of his car club days, and lucky enough to be on the receiving end of his good advice. I spoke with Tim a couple of months back, and he told me "Brian, I always knew you would be just fine." I truly have lost a friend and mentor!

since having come to the forums, i always found moffie's words compelling, his experiences illuminating, and his tenacity most admirable. thank you for all of the insight that you provided us with, moffie. you will undoubtedly be missed.

I have only been in this community a short time, but, Mofife was and will continue to be a big part of my own growing process here. He, as well as many of you, helped me better understand and in turn, better cope with HIV. My respect for you has no bounds. The loss to these forums is, in my opinion, very great.

I too have been away from the forums with a few weeks, as I've been dealing with changing jobs and homes. I nearly fell over when I heard that Moffie had passed away. I valued the perspective and experience that he shared. And even though I didn't always see eye-to-eye with him, I shall miss him. I'm feeling sad, and can only imagine how sad his partner, family and friends are over losing him.

Regards,

Henry

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

Moffie was one of the first to welcome me to our Forums. He and Bob had lived on the Russian River, about a mile from where I do. As he said, the Russian River needed a good activist on HIV and he was a tremendous help on my COA website. At a party in San Francisco a couple of years ago, someone mentioned friends who had died of AIDS in the past 30 years. That party became a reminder of Moffie's HIV Blog.

He worked diligently for HIV funding in his Title II EMA, as I was trying to keep Title I funding in Sonoma County. He founded a gay car club in San Francisco which put on a benefit for the Positive Resource Center during the time of AMG 07 and did not attend our gathering. I never got to meet him in person but, there is a pink 1956 Cadillac in pristine condition here in Guerneville, I think of him every time I see that car. I am saddened by our lossMichael

Iím posting this here and in Timís memorial thread, so itís less likely to be missed by folk.

I think itís been about 2 years since I logged in here. Today Iím logging in with a message from Bob.

As some of you may remember, after meeting Tim in Las Vegas in 2007, I had the great fortune to share an unforgettable road trip with him across Arizona to go and spend some time at their place. They welcomed me into their home and life with warmth I shall never forget and I had the best time.

I spoke with Bob on the phone the other night. He wanted me to pass on his thanks to everyone here at Aidsmeds for your kind words, thoughts and gestures. He is extremely appreciative to you all.

Debra

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The difference between cats and dogs is that dogs come when called, whereas cats take a message and get back to you.

I was shocked to hear this... All I can really say is that there is a wonderful HIV advocate missing in the world today. Moffie was at the top of advocacy & always fought... I'm certain he will be missed by many. I always respected him, and I can only hope & pray that he is in a better place. Rest in peace Tim!! Your memory will live on in the hearts of many people you've touch over the years.

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"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is buit." Eleanor Roosevelt