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7 Signs you're in an emotionally abusive relationship

Jennifer Lopez may seem to have it all but her life has been far from perfect, especially when it comes to men. You'd think a woman as gorgeous and successful as she is would have no problems in the love department but that hasn't been the case. In fact, Jennifer even opened up in her new memoir True Love, about her failed relationships. And for the very first time she shared a surprising admission about an ex who apparently was very abusive. Wait, what? Is J.Lo really a victim of domestic abuse?

It looks like Jennifer's ex-husband of 7 years, Marc Anthony is the abusive ex. "I've never gotten a black eye or a busted lip, but I've felt abused in one way or another: mentally, emotionally, verbally," she wrote. She didn't even realize she was in an abusive relationship until she had this photo shoot where she suffered a serious panic attack.

Jennifer admits leaving wasn't an easy decision to make. She had her twins Max and Emme to think about and she had just celebrated her seventh wedding anniversary to Marc. But things just didn't seem right. "Anybody looking from the outside in would have thought my life was great," she added. "I had a husband and two beautiful children. I was on American Idol and my new single "On The Floor" had gone to number one all over the world. What people didn't know was that life really wasn't that good. My relationship was falling apart and I was terrified."

I never in a million years would have guessed that was going on. But it's not always easy to distinguish the difference between passion and control. Look how long it took J.Lo to realize it. It's also every bit as damaging as physical abuse so it's important to read the red flags. Here are 5 signs you're in an emotionally abusive relationship!

You're afraid to tell him anything: The first sign you're in an abusive relationship is if you can't talk to your man about anything, even simple things like having to do repairs in the house because you're afraid of how he might react.

He's possessive: A guy who needs you all to himself all the time is controlling and abusive--plain and simple. If he's calling you off the hook to know where you are or shows up anytime you want to be alone, whether it's when you're with the girls or working out at the gym, then there's a problem.

He makes you feel bad about yourself: Someone that truly loves you shouldn't put you down, point out your flaws or make you feel bad about yourself. That is NOT ok!

He controls everything: I have a friend whose ex used to try to control everything in her life. From how she styled her hair, to what she wore, how she cooked, and even how she cleaned the apartment. This can easily escalate into something very dangerous without you even realizing it.

You think there's something wrong with you: Your self-esteem has hit rock bottom and you've begun to believe that you're the one with the problem. You think you're not pretty enough, smart enough or good enough and that's why he's treating you the way he does. No chica--he's the problem!

He doesn't support your dreams: If he mocks your achievements and says he doesn't take your career or anything you do seriously then he's definitely abusive AND insecure too.

He treats you like a kid: An abusive man doesn't treat you like his partner, he treats you like a little girl.

Get out chica while you still can. No one deserves to be used and abused!