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Wednesday, July 15, 2015

15 Book Marketing Lessons From An Ex-Wife

My 13th
wedding anniversary is approaching in August – to my second wife. But I would have recently celebrated my 25th
anniversary – to my first wife – if that had lasted that long. Here are 15 book marketing lesson that I
could extract from my failed marriage.

1.What
works once to get the media’s interest will eventually fail to get their
attention. I once seemed entertaining to
my wife – and then I didn’t.

2.Falling
into a routine is only natural when you’re with someone, but that can lead to
boredom. Mix up your message to the
media and come at them with fresh angles.

3.Make
sure your goals are aligned with that of your spouse – and the media – or
you’ll no longer be a match for one another.

4.Be
attractive to your spouse and the media. You want to get their attention and appear
inviting and irresistible.

5.You
need to talk your way into your spouse’s heart – and into the media’s
heart. But once you come up short in
saying something convincing or important, you get pushed to the side.

6.You
can be judged by the dynamics of the relationships you bring to the table and
the people you associate with. Your spouse will find you more interesting when
you introduce new people into your lives and the media will find your story
more inviting when other experts can be used to complete a story.

7.Just
as a spouse can break your heart, so too can the media. Be prepared for rejection and seek ways
around it.

8.Just
as a spouse pays more attention to you when he or she thinks others are
competing for your attention, so do the media. Convince them that you have something worthy
of the media’s focus and that competing outlets may just scoop them if they
don’t act now.

9.Lies
can get out of hand and always catch up to a relationship. Same goes with the media. Never lie to them.

10.However, a little bullshit and
grandiosity never hurt. Inflate things
to a degree and you’ll win your spouse or the media over, but if the hype
starts to exceed the deliverables, look out!

11.Presents are nice but they only
get you so far. Whereas your spouse
might enjoy jewelry or flowers and surprise treats, you can’t buy that person’s
happiness. Same with the media. Don’t
expect expensive product giveaways or gifts to sway the media.

12.Loyalty has its limits. I once thought I’d be with my wife always and
forever. That got shortened to about 7 ½
years. The journalists that you build
relationships with are important but they don’t last for long. Job changes and other factors may kill off a
tie to a journalist.

13.Sometimes giving your all is not
enough. A lover or the media simply may
not find all that you offer to be inviting enough to work together.

14.You can go from “I love you” to
“who are you” over time. It
happens. The media – nor a spouse – will
always stand by your side. They use you
– and then lose you.

15.Stay on good terms, even when
your life seems to be turned inside out.
You never know when you’ll interact with your ex-spouse or a media
outlet or journalist again.

I don’t
regret my marriage – nor the divorce. It
all made sense at the time these things happened and everyone moved on. Life is strange that way, but all relationships
have taught me lessons. The media is
like someone you date, even marry. You
hope the relationship lasts – and grows – and sometimes they do. Most don't.

Good
luck in all of your relationships, and may you find a way to win over the
affections of the news media -- and a spouse.

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About Me

Brian Feinblum, the creator and author of BookMarketingBuzzBlog, is the chief marketing officer for the nation's largest book promotions firm, Media Connect (www.Media-Connect.com), formerly Planned Television Arts, and has been involved in book publicity and marketing since 1989. He has served several book publishing companies as a publicist, book editor, and acquisitions editor. Brian, who earned a BA in English from Brooklyn College, became a published author in 1995 when he penned The Florida Homeowner, Condo and Co-Op Handbook. He resides in Westchester, New York with his wife, two young children, and an English Bulldog.