They are actually flattering you. It’s playful. Consider that a successful hit because if they didn’t like what you said they wouldn’t be teasing you, they would shut you down. When I say “Nice move” or something like that, it means I want to hear more and I like it. Just because we openly note you are flirting doesn’t mean we aren’t into it.

They are possibly acknowledging they are aware you are putting the moves on them. That might be good if they are open to moving on from there or bad if they feel you are being a bit smooth and they don’t feel you are genuine. Their tone and body language would tell you whether they are flattered or being contemptuous.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought : Yeah, I think about this alot. It seems like for many straight guys, just picking someone up is the holy grail. But that’s the easiest thing for gay guys… It’s finding someone decent and actually staying in a relationship that seems impossible.

I interpret that to mean that they are telling you they know what you’re up to and you’re on a short leash, buddy.

My feeling was that if they scored me during the flirting process, then I was not doing well. If I was doing well, they would be so engaged, they would not have a chance to abstract themselves far enough to give me a score on a move.

Also, I don’t use moves, so if they think I’m using a move, I’m pretty much dead. Something is definitely not working.

Fortunately, I don’t think I ever hear this. I do, however, hear it about other guys, and it always makes me uncomfortable, because I hate it when other guys are not subtle. I think that makes it harder for the rest of us.

I think I do it to make the person aware that I know they are flirting, not just chatting with me. Whether it’s good or bad depends on whether I’m interested or not. Since I’m a happily married person, I’m never interested these days.

What else is there to say? It’s not like the average pick up line is intended to start a meaningful conversation. Is purpose is to distract my attention from whatever I’m doing and focus on the idiot that just asked me if I have a mirror in my pocket .

You know what works? Send her a drink, from across the bar. Be paying attention to her when she asks who it’s from. If she is interested, she will come talk to you. And you are at an instant advantage because now she has approached you and It’s her job to start the conversation

Because it’s often pretty obvious when people are hitting on you. Sometimes it’s so obvious that you’ve got to comment on it. I don’t know if it’s a good thing or not, depends on the look on the woman’s face.

Is there an eye roll involved when you get the feedback? If so, mosey on. If you get a better sense of body language, then she is saying she may be interested but your pickup line is cheesy, you are on notice, so pick up the conversation.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought : I did notice that… I would have interpreted it as rejection, too. But then again, I’ve never used a pick-up line nor had one used on me, and I’m still not convinced that people actually use them in earnest… Sometimes it’s hard not to see these social interactions as a learned expression of biological imperatives. Be choosy about who you let fertilize your eggs vs. fertilize as many eggs as possible…

@bookish1 women don’t say that at the pickup line phase. I have just been letting them talk without arguing. Women say that typically after they ask you a bunch of questions, and you answer one in a way they did not expect.

^^tis true : )“Do you people get hit on so much…”
I rarely get hit on. I’m not sure if men find me unattractive, unapproachable or what it is about me but it rarely happens.
So… if I would respond with “Nice Move” or “Okay that was good” it would mean what was said made me smile and I found it cute/charming.

As long as she doesn’t pull out her compact and say “beam me up, Scotty” I’d say you’re doin’ good ; )