I babysit a little perverted boy?

I babysit a 8 year old boy the son of my neighbours but he randomly pulls his pants down and wants me to look, he even gets hard sometimes. I always tell him to stop and pull his pants up, he doesn't react and just leaves or groans , last time he asked me if he can touch me and i asked what he really meant with touch so he started feeling me up and i was shocked and almost slapped him, what kind of perverted boy is that? I threatened him to tell his parents and he started crying and begging me not to. He still does it sometimes and i threathen him a lot bur he always starts crying and i have no idea what to do, I'm thinking about quitting the job

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I only told his parents that he just pulls his pants down whenever he likes to and that it bugs me, they said he's still a child and doesn't know what he does

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You need to tell the parents. No blame or shame is required and this isn't at all about punishing the boy (he's only 8!), it's about protecting him and stopping an unhealthy behaviour. You shouldn't be feeling/acting like he was an adult equal to you, but a child in your care who doesn't really understand the implications of his actions. Be kind and take responsibility.

I'd also suggest talking to an experienced person you can trust (maybe your parents?) to help you make the right decision about quitting, and about telling authorities (if there's any concerns of abuse by a parent). And just as important, to support your actions & emotions. You don't need to feel alone, just because you're rightly being discreet.

I would suggest that you have a conversation with CPS. That sort of behaviour does not happen out of nowhere. It has to be learned. The behaviour suggests to me that the child is being abused sexually, or has been abused sexually in the past.

You should tell the parents and possibly quit the job. Even if he is harmless, you have to think about your own wellbeing. If there is abuse involved and/or something big surfaces, you do not want to find yourself a victim of circumstances. Generally keeping any secrets of this sort almost always ends badly, especially for the adult party involved.

Just quit the job. You're in a no win situation here. Who are they going to believe when this comes up? The 20+ year old woman or the kid "Who would never lie about something like that."? You're going to be seen as a child abuser no matter what. So just leave that job.

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What Girls Said 11

DONT EVEN. Just straight up tell his parents, who gives a shit about him. I'd quit my job and find another one. That kind of stuff can get YOU in trouble if you dont let anyone know ahead of time. Especially if the parents walk in on it, it can go the other way very quickly...

So you can either quit and tell the parents you don't feel comfortable babysitting their child because how inappropriate he is... or you can have a voice recorder and record everything he says and let his parent listen to what exactly he's saying so they can see it's something serious.

You need to tell his mum and dad as he is displaying over sexualised behaviour I have an 8 year old son and yes some curiosity/flashing is normal but that is to much in my eyes for one so young and the fact he touched you he needs to know that it is not ok to sexually assualt females

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Sit down with the parents and tell them that you quit and also tell them why you are quitting while emphasizing that you will not make yourself a victim of circumstances and get into trouble with this little boy. Little children are curo=ious and they try adults, ut they don't understand that that kind of play could get the adult into trouble