I remember a conversation I had with my dad years ago, when I was beginning to discern my call to the Priesthood. At the time I was still dating a young lady, and we were talking about the possibility of Marriage, and I asked my dad how I could love God above all else and still love a wife with my whole heart. He answered that in Marriage a husband loves God above all things by loving God through his wife.

This hits to the core of our Gospel message today, as the Lord challenges us to love Him above all else: Whoever loves father or mother [son or daughter] more than me is not worthy of me (Mt 10:37). Jesus isn’t exaggerating to make a point here; rather He’s simply recalling the 1st Commandment and the great “shema Israel”, Hear, O Israel: The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might (Dt 6:4).

Jesus is warning us against making others the first object of our love and attention. He’s warning us not to be attached to His gifts, but to Him. Our parents, our children, our families, these are all gifts from God. They’re indeed great gifts to be treasured, but not treasured more than the Giver Himself. Instead, like my father explained, we’re called to love God through them by recognising that they are in fact treasured gifts given by God. The love we owe to our families, and anyone else for that matter, must be a love that is first and foremost directed to God. To love our families and friends with gratitude to God means that we understand them to be gifts from Him and opportunities to love Him through loving them.

It all comes down to where our hearts, minds and lives are focussed. It’s about not making people or things into idols, but keeping God first in our lives. It’s a question of what we make the priority in our lives.

It’s a beautiful message for us to receive as we celebrate the 150th anniversary of our country, a country that was founded on this very principle. In 1534, when Jacques Cartier first landed on the Canadian mainland, he planted a Cross on the shore. He did this to claim Canada for the King of France, but also as a symbol of claiming it for Christ. He could have easily placed the King’s flag or some other royal symbol, but instead he chose the Cross, claiming this land in way similar to when we greet a child for Baptism and claim him for Christ by the Sign of the Cross. From the very beginnings of colonialisation, what was to become Canada has been dedicated to Jesus by this great symbol of the Cross.

This was echoed in the 1982 Constitution, which begins by stating, “Canada is founded upon the principles that recognize the supremacy of God and the rule of law”. And again in the Charter of Rights and Freedoms, which lists the freedom of conscience and religion as the first freedom of its citizens.

Sadly, today we seem to have forgotten this root of our nation. Instead of being oriented to God, we’ve changed our focus to the self. God is no longer given the supremacy; love of self is now supreme. And I dare say that we’ve made the modern ideas of individualism and self-determination the idols of our day. This is why abortion, sexual immorality, euthanasia, and recreational drug use are being so strongly promoted today. It’s all about the self, all about making the self the focus of our lives. Well, if Jesus says that loving others more than Him makes us unworthy to be His disciples, how much more will we be unworthy of Him if self-love, self-worship, is supreme?

In today’s Gospel, Jesus calls us to examine the priorities and orientations of our life: are we pointing to Him, or to something else? We need to orient ourselves to Christ, individually and societally. We must again recognise that supremacy belongs to God, and to God alone.

That’s why the Catholic Bishops of Canada have decided to re-consecrate our country to Mary, and are doing so this weekend to coincide with Canada’s anniversary. We need to get back to our Catholic roots, and one of the best ways to do that is to turn to Mary. Just as Mary brought Jesus into this world, so too can she bring us back to Him. By staying close to Mary, our Mother, she can help us to receive Jesus in a deeper way and to follow Him more perfectly.

This is the purpose of Marian consecration. By consecrating ourselves to Mary, we consecrate ourselves to Jesus through her. Just as Mary’s life was set-apart for Jesus, so too, by consecration to her, are our lives set-apart for Jesus in imitation of her. It’s a commitment to follow in her footsteps as the perfect disciple of Jesus, who calls us to Do whatever He tells [us] (Jn 2:5).

With this consecration, we also ask for Mary’s intercession and protection for ourselves and for our country: that she who is destined to crush the serpent’s head will also defeat what St. Paul calls the spirit of this world, so that Christ may reign in our hearts and in our country.

May we, then, express love of our country by renewing our love of Jesus through Mary by calling upon her to pray for us and to lead us into the ways of love, that we may truly love God above all things, with all our heart, mind, soul and strength. Like Mary, may it be done to us according to God’s Word (cf. Lk 1:38). Our Lady of Canada, pray for us. Amen.

Have you ever asked yourself why you come to church? I don’t mean here the reason, as in ‘I have an obligation’ or ‘because it’s important to me’, but rather the purpose, as in ‘what do I come here for’, or ‘why is it important to me’. Have you ever pondered on that? I ask because I think this is part of what’s behind the passage from the Letter to the Hebrews we have as our second reading today.

In speaking about true worship, the author contrasts the experience of God in the first Covenant with that of the New Covenant. If you remember, during the Exodus, when the people gathered at Mount Sinai, God came to them from the mountain in fire and smoke, in thunderclaps and loud trumpet blasts (Ex 19:16-20; Deut 4:11). No one but Moses and his helper were allowed to go near the mountain, lest they die. This is what our passage recalls:

…a blazing fire, and darkness, and gloom, and a tempest, and the sound of a trumpet, and a voice whose words made the hearers beg that not another word may be spoken to them (Heb 18-19).

In this beginning of the Covenant, God revealed Himself to the people with power and grandeur to help them understand that He is ‘totally other’ — He is transcendent, greater than and above all things in the universe. He did this as a way to help them to experience the nothingness of their idols: there is no one like me in all the earth, says the Lord (Ex 9:14). This taught the Israelites to respect the Lord, to approach Him with fear and trembling, not merely out of being scared, but especially out of reverence for His power and greatness. God is not our equal; He is so far above us, so much greater than we can even imagine.

Sadly, this is where many people remain in their understanding or experience of God. God is fearsome; He is great and terrible (Deut 7:21, Neh 4:14; cf. Deut 10:17, Sir 43:29). Or, He is far away, beyond our access. But this is not where the Bible stops revealing God, and it’s not where the author of the Letter to the Hebrews stops either!

But you have come to Mount Zion — in contrast to Mount Sinai described above — …you have come to Mount Zion and to the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to innumerable Angels in festal gathering, and to the assembly of the firstborn who are enrolled in heaven (Heb 12:22-23).

Through Jesus, this awe-inspiring and transcendent God hasn’t remained on the mountain hidden in fire and thunder and smoke. No! In fact, He has come down to us! Jesus became one of us so that we might be able to have a true and real relationship with Him; that we might be able to draw near to Him without fear of death. In Jesus, God is not only made visible, but He’s made present. For the Letter to the Hebrews, this is the image of Mount Zion (another name for Jerusalem).

It’s no longer just Moses and his helper who can approach God, but each and every person, because God is with us! He’s in our midst! We’re no longer clouded with fear and trembling, as it were, but covered with hope and joy.

And this, my brothers and sisters, is what ought to bring us to Mass each Sunday: the joy of being able to see God, to hear Him and to be with Him, face to face in the Eucharist, and the joy of being gathered together as God’s own people. Our purpose at Mass is to worship the Lord, to be nourished by Him and to be drawn into Him, and through Him, into each other, all of us becoming one in Christ. This is how Jesus makes us His, and how we become increasingly made perfect by His grace.

But lest we become to casual with Him, lest we forget the awesomeness of God, His grandeur and power — which haven’t disappeared; the God of the New Testament is not soft, cushy, fluffy love —, lest we forget the majesty and otherness of God, the author of Hebrews reminds us that despite our invitation to approach God and draw near to Him, He is nonetheless the judge of all (Heb 12:23).

Yes, Jesus wants us to be in a relationship with Him, to be close to Him, but we must never forget that He is God and we are not. We are not entitled to be in a relationship with God, but greatly honoured by His invitation, because in doing so, He lowers Himself to us — He humbles Himself, as St. Paul reminds us (cf. Phil 2:6-11) — and He raises to Himself those who turn away from their sins to live as His people.

And this, my brothers and sisters, is the purpose of coming to church on Sundays. We gather here at God’s invitation to acknowledge our sins, our littleness in His presence, but with the hope and joy that comes from His desire to forgive us and transform us with His grace. We gather because God invites us to be in relationship with Him, to be one with Him, and through Him with each other. May this condescension of God stir within us, then, a greater reverence for Him and a stronger desire to love Him in return. May we come to Mass to meet Jesus, and being with Him, meet each other, as we worship Almighty God and are nourished by His Word and Eucharist. Amen.

Is 66.18-21
Ps 117 R/. Go into all the world and proclaim the good news.
Heb 12:5-7, 11-13
Lk 13:22-30

‘Kerygma’. How many of you have heard this word before? Kerygma is a Greek word that we use to describe the content, or the heart, of the Gospel, the Good News.

The kerygma — it’s a noun — can be summed up as this: ‘We are sinners, condemned to death for our sins. But God loves us, so He sent His Son Jesus to free us from our sins. Jesus died our death on the Cross, redeeming us from our sins, and offers forgiveness to all who repent’.

You’ll notice that the kerygma isn’t just the heart of the Gospel, it’s also s good summary of the whole Bible, of the whole of salvation history. And so, while it’s an ancient Greek word, it really is one with which every Christian should be familiar. That’s why I’m introducing it to you today, but also because it’s a word we’re going to hear a lot more often in our Parish as we embark on the Alpha experience this coming program year. And while Alpha won’t start until October, our readings this Sunday already point us to the content of this word.

In our first reading, Isaiah prophesies how the Lord will declare His glory among the nations (Is 66:19), not only by bringing His own people back to Jerusalem, but others, too, whom He will also call His own. Through the faithful remnant, the survivors, God will make His name and glory know to all. This is the great message of hope that salvation isn’t just for the Jews, but for all nations, for all peoples, for all sinners.

The Psalm refrain reminds us that it’s our mission as Christians, as God’s people, to make this message know to others: Go into all the world and proclaim the good news.

The second reading reminds us that God sees us not as His possession, but as His children: the Lord disciplines those whom He loves, and chastises every child whom He accepts (Heb 12:6). And that He heals us precisely through the discipline that He gives us. This is the role of His laws and commands.

That’s why in the Gospel today, Jesus tells us that people will come from east and west, from north and south, and will eat in the kingdom of God (Lk 13:29). This is our hope, that God loves us and comes to save us.

But only those who accept the kerygma, the Good News, the forgiveness that Jesus offers, will be able to enter the Kingdom of God. That’s why Jesus encourages us to [s]trive to enter through the narrow door (Lk 13:24).

And the narrow door is the Cross of Christ, which calls us to repentance and to a change of life. That’s why the kerygma is more than just a word, more than just a message, but is truly Good News that calls us to a transformation of heart, mind and life.

Since we’ve been purchased by God through the death of His Son, we’re no longer our own; we’re His. And the transformation of life this calls for is more than just accepting the Good News, more than just accepting Jesus as our Saviour once for all. Rather it’s a constant accepting of this unmerited gift of God’s love, a constant repentance for our sins, and a constant turning to Jesus in prayer to seek His assistance and grace to remain faithful to the gift He’s given us from the Cross.

As we heard in the Gospel, saying we follow Jesus isn’t a guarantee of salvation; Baptism isn’t a guarantee of salvation, but only fidelity to Jesus. Notice how it was only those who followed the owner into the house or those who went in seeking him that were accepted in; those who lingered behind or hung around outside the door were locked out and rejected by the owner.

My brothers and sisters, yes, Jesus loves us; yes, He died for us; yes, He calls us to be His disciples, but for our part we must actually follow Him and walk in His ways. We must respond to His invitation, accept His gifts, and allow the Holy Spirit to change our hearts and souls in order to inherit the Kingdom that God extends to us.

Through grace, through discipline and through repentance, may we be found worthy to enter into the Kingdom. Amen.

In these past days we’ve been experiencing the first week of the 2016 Olympics in Rio, and I’m sure many of you have been watching. It’s quite something to see these athletes compete and show off their skill and all their hard work. And hard work it is! You don’t make it to the Olympics in your first year in a sport. What we’re watching is the culmination of a lot of time, effort and training. These athletes have been working hard for this competition, and not merely for months but for years. They started in their sport in their youth and have been training ever since.

One of my nephews has been doing gymnastics for two years. His coaches are already pointing him toward Olympic training because they see potential in him. So starting in September he’ll be training nine hours each week. Nine hours a week! And he’s just seven! While he might show potential of being an Olympic athlete, by the time he’s old enough to compete at that level, he’ll have trained for fourteen years! And not just for nine hours a week: that’s sure to double by the time he’s a teenager. That’s the kind of work it takes to get to the Olympics, and only for a couple of minutes of competition! It certainly takes a lot of dedication, work and drive to win a medal. I have a great deal of respect for anyone who can compete at that level.

That’s the image the author of the Letter to the Hebrews is calling to mind in our second reading today as he tells us to run with perseverance the race that is set before us (Heb 12:1). It echoes St. Paul words to the Corinthians, Do you not know that in a race the runners all compete, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win it (1 Cor 9:24).

My brothers and sisters, like athletes, Christians are called to run the race of life so as to win, not a perishable crown or a medal, but the crown of holiness given by Christ to those who persevere in faith and charity to the end (cf. 1 Cor 9:25). Jesus died so that we might live; He gave His life for us so that we might be united to Him in this life and in the next. But in order for us to receive this crown of glory, we must train and work at it. Like Olympic medals, holiness won’t be given to those who don’t run the race!

That means that if we want to get to Heaven, we need to live as if we’re already there. We need to practice the virtues until they become second nature. We need go beyond ourselves, beyond our fallen nature, and imitate Jesus in His love and mercy. We need to make efforts to make our faith in Jesus a priority and to train ourselves in the practice of prayer and service. We need to be serious in our quest for holiness as if our life depended on it, because it does!

No one gets to their destination without focussing on it, without setting themselves on the right path to get there. This is what each one of us is called to do in the life of faith, to set our hearts and minds on Jesus and to make the sacrifices necessary to follow Him.

Our task in this life is to lay aside every weight and the sin that clings to us so closely, so that we might be found running the race when Christ comes. That means we must be intentional in our discipleship. A person doesn’t become an athlete by accident, and an athlete doesn’t make it to the Olympics by accident. It takes intentional effort, coaching, training and sacrifice. Likewise, we won’t make it to Heaven by accident or become saints by accident, but only by making a commitment to follow Jesus and allow His grace and the Holy Spirit to transform our lives. And at the end of the day, that’s all holiness is. It isn’t about being perfect or being able to perform miracles, but about allowing God’s grace to transform us, to change our hearts so that Jesus becomes visible in us.

So like athletes, we must set our hearts on the prize and compete so as to win. We must be willing to let go of certain things so that we might follow Jesus. Are we willing to make faith a priority in our lives? Are we committed to attending Mass every Sunday even if that means leaving guests at home or missing a game? Are we willing to follow Jesus even if that means being rejected by family or friends? Are we willing to say no to something so that we might be able to say yes to Jesus and allow His grace to be fruitful in our lives? Are we willing to fight sin and temptation, even to the point of shedding blood (cf. Heb 12:4)?

May the Holy Spirit set our hearts on fire with His love so that we may run the race so as to win. Amen.

Wis 18:6-9
Ps 33 R/. Blessed the people the Lord has chosen as His heritage.
Heb 11:1-2, 8-19
Lk 12:32-48

In the Scriptures this Sunday, the Lord calls us to look beyond what we can see, to go beyond where we are. Through Abraham and the Prophets, and especially through Baptism, God has called us to be His people. He’s called us out of our earthly city to journey toward Him and the Heavenly City.

You see, my brothers and sisters, as Christians, we’re not like everyone else; we cannot be! Because we belong to God; He has chosen us to be His people, to be His family. This is the very meaning of the word ‘church’, ekklesia, the assembly of those who have been ‘called out of’ something to be made into something else: called out of sin to be made holy; called out of darkness to live in the light; called out of death to be made alive.

That’s why, in the second reading, the author of the Letter to the Hebrews harkens back to Abraham, the father and model of faith. He left everything to follow the voice of God, not knowing where he was going. He trusted, even though he didn’t understand or see what the plan was. He believed, he obeyed, and he walked in faith and in the hope of what had been promised to him.

This, my brothers and sisters, is what we’re also called to do: to believe the Word of God, to obey the Lord, and to walk toward Him in faith and in hope, because, as St. Paul reminds us, the one who calls [us] is faithful, and he will do this (1 Thess 5:24).

This is why Jesus calls us to keep our hearts and minds set on the things of heaven and not of this earth. While this is where we currently live, we’re not meant for a world of sin and death; we’ve been created for holiness and for life. And this holiness and life is precisely what Jesus has promised us.

This world, while beautiful and good, isn’t enough for us, we long for more; it cannot satisfy our desires, but only distract us with pleasures. And these pleasures distract us not only from the pain and suffering we encounter here, but also from our goal of being with God. How easy it is for us to forget that we’re not yet in the Promised Land! As we heard in the second reading, we’re here only as on a pilgrimage, as on a journey to somewhere else; this is not the place to make our home. Our home is with God, not with ourselves. And this, my brothers and sisters, is why we come to church every week, to be reminded that we’re not there yet, that we still have a ways to go.

The Word of God reminds us that we’re on this journey toward the One who has called us, toward the One who loves us, and it helps us to discern the way of that journey as we walk — it’s the road map, if you will.

The Sacraments remind us that our hearts are often not committed to this journey, that we’re often distracted by the lures of pleasure and sin, and they renew us in our call and strengthen us in spirit and in holiness to continue walking toward God.

Together, they nourish us and prepare us so that we might be made ready for the City of God when we get there. Together, the Word of God and the Sacraments transform us to become what God has called us to be: saints made alive in His Spirit and citizens of Heaven; children of God formed in the image and likeness of Christ.

But as our Lord said in the Gospel today, where your treasure is, there your heart will be also (Lk 12:34). And so, my brothers and sisters, where is your treasure? Is it with Christ in the City of God, or is it here below in the City of Man? Where is your treasure?

In order for us to progress in our journey toward God, we need to constantly examine ourselves and ask where we’re going. Am I living my life as a journey toward Heaven, seeking out God and His grace? Or am I simply wandering in this world, distracted by pleasure and sin? Where is my treasure? Where am I heading? What is my goal?

Jesus has called us out of this world to live with Him, to live for Him, and, as He reminds us, it’s the Father’s good pleasure to give [us] the Kingdom (Lk 12:32). Through His grace, may we set our hearts on Him, so that when we’re called to an account for our life, we may be found faithful pilgrims walking, with lamps lit, toward the Kingdom in the ways of the King. Amen.

Today in our society, we’re often told that it’s not appropriate to talk publicly about sex, politics, religion and money; they’re too sensitive of topics, they say. Funny enough, these were some of Jesus’ favourite topics!

You see, these four topics — sex, politics, religion and money — are sensitive because we all have very strong opinions in these matters, and we don’t like it when someone else tells us what we believe is wrong; so we take them personally.

Well, this is precisely why Jesus ventures into these topics! He wants to show us that faith in Him has consequences in all areas of our lives, including sex, politics, religion and money. Faith must permeate all aspect of our lives. And how we handle four theses things has an impact on our life of faith. Here’s what I mean:

Some people today believe that being rich is evil. They over emphasise the fact that Jesus loves the poor (and only the poor!), and they believe that people are rich for one of two reasons: either they’ve made their money off the backs of others, or because they never give. Don’t think I’m exaggerating; I’ve even heard Priests preach this way. But this is nonsense! It’s not what Jesus taught. In fact, to be frank, this is a Marxist perspective; it’s not at all Christian! But today’s Gospel points us toward a proper interpretation of Jesus’ teaching about money.

You see, Jesus had wealthy friends: remember the Gospel two weeks ago about Mary and Martha? Well, their brother Lazarus was a wealthy man, and John tells us that he and Jesus were close friends: Jesus loved him, wrote John (Jn 11:3). Jesus also dined with as many rich people as He did the lowly. Remember Simon the Pharisee? Or Zacchaeus? Or even St. Matthew? Jesus didn’t discriminate against people with money; He loved them all the same, and so should we!

But what about today’s Gospel, you might say; didn’t Jesus just condemn the rich man? No, He didn’t; Jesus condemned greed, not riches! The rich man in today’s parable is condemned because he wanted to horde his wealth for himself and ignore the needs of others.

You see, God allows some people to be rich so that His generosity might be revealed in them. God gives to us so that we might give to others, and so that through giving, we might grow in charity and be saved. God doesn’t condemn the wealthy! Rather, He invites them to be generous as He is generous! God condemns those who are greedy, those who refuse to share and help others (rich or poor!). Wealth is a gift from God, and like all gifts, it’s intended for the blessing of many.

Now, I know I’m preaching to the choir here! I know many of you give generously to the Parish, and many of you also give generously of your money, as well as time, in other ways in the broader community. In just one month since I presented our Sanctuary project, we’ve already financed about 80% of both phases! The Knights of Columbus and the CWL actively fundraise for various groups in town, which many of you also support. We give around $14K every year to help Fr. Joe in his missions. And when it comes to our annual charities campaign, Together We Serve, our targets are four to five times higher than other Parishes our size because of your generous giving over the years. And we’ve exceeded these targets in both years! This is beautiful, because it means that you hear Jesus’ message; that you respond to His invitation to share with those in need. Thank you!! This makes us a community rich in faith and in charity, and that gives me hope and joy.

But this doesn’t necessarily mean we’ve done enough. Did you know that nearly 80% of our Parish finances come from just 26 families? That’s less than 10% of our Parish families! Now, I’m not saying you need to give more; I’m simply posing a question: ‘Is there more we can do? Individually? As a family? As a Parish?’ I want you to think about this, to pray about this: ‘Is there more I can do with the blessings God gives me?’

Many Christian communities require tithing; they expect parishioners to give 10% of their annual income to the Church, and they check to make sure! Even in a small Parish like ours, that would mean a collection of about $2M per year! Can you imagine that?! Imagine what kind of charitable services, programs and outreach we could do with that! We would never need another second or special collection again; we could even build a new church, debt-free, within just a few years!

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you need to give 10%; that’s not what the Church asks. As St. Paul said to the Corinthians: Each of you must give as you have made up your mind, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor 9:7). But as St. Mother Teresa reminded us, we are called to ‘give until it hurts’. Sacrificial giving is a necessary response to the workings of God’s grace in our lives, to the gifts of the Gospel and of the Holy Spirit. Generosity is a fruit of faith.

So I invite you to think about this, to ask yourselves: ‘Am I attached to my possessions? Do I give enough? How can we, as a family, share the blessings we’ve received? How and where is God calling us to serve Him? To be generous?’

Thinking, praying and talking about these questions at home as a family will help us to be detached from our possessions — to see them as tools for God’s glory —, will open our hearts to grow in charity and concern for others, and will increase our capacity to be generous as God is generous. It’ll prevent us from being greedy with our possessions like the rich man in today’s Gospel, and teach us to build in our Parish an even stronger culture of generosity rooted in the love that Christ shows us.

So if you’re poor, bless the Lord! And give thanks that He’s made you more dependent on Him. If you’re rich, bless the Lord! And give thanks that He invites you to participate in His works of charity. In this way, we will all be rich toward God (Lk 12:21) and store up for ourselves treasure in Heaven (cf. Mt. 19:21; Mk 10:21). Amen.

Gn 18:20-32Ps 138 R/. On the day I called, O Lord, you answered me.Col 2:12-14Lk 11:1-13

Last week, in my homily I shared about how we’re called to offer our sufferings to Jesus in prayer. Today, in our Gospel today, Jesus gives us a lesson in prayer. Through two short parables, Jesus shows us that He wants us to turn to Him in prayer. God wants us to pray to Him; He wants us ask for mercy, for grace, for help, for the Holy Spirit. That’s because He is the friend who won’t turn us away, He is the Father who won’t give us a snake. Ask, and it will be given; search, and you will find… [H]ow much more will the heavenly Father give [you] the Holy Spirit… (Lk 11: )

You see, prayer is about talking with God, a conversation between friends. And like any conversation with a friend, prayer is about ‘dialogue over time’. The more time we spend together talking and listening, the deeper the friendship gets and the stronger it becomes. This is what God wants with us! A strong, deep, intimate friendship with us.

In spending this time together with God we come to know Him and ourselves. Time in prayer opens our hearts to see God, to hear Him. It opens our hearts and minds to His love and to the demands of that Love. It forms and informs our conscience about what’s good and what’s evil.

But praying isn’t just about reciting specific prayers; there’s a difference between ‘saying prayers’ and ‘praying’. Formulated prayers are good, but they’re meant to lead us into a more profound interior movement of the heart and mind toward God. They set the tone and focus our attention so that we can learn to speak from the heart, because that’s what lovers do, they speak heart to heart, and this is what God wants from us.

Jesus wants us to share with Him what’s on our hearts: our joys and our sufferings, our dreams and hopes, our fears and disappointments, our frustrations and successes. He wants us to talk with Him in the very same way that we talk with family or friends: heart speaking to heart, with the full honesty and vulnerability that this requires. Jesus already knows what’s going on in your life and in your heart; you can’t hide anything from Him. But He respects you and won’t intrude, that’s why He invites you to share yourself with Him. And this is the goal of prayer.

But as with any relationship, this emotional and spiritual intimacy is only built up over time and with the frequency of our visits. It doesn’t happen with a ‘one-off’, but through repetition as the relationship grows and develops, and goes deeper and deeper the more time is spent together in conversation, in talking and listening. And this is exactly what Jesus wants with each of us: an intimate relationship rooted in His love for us that builds up and strengthens our love for Him. That’s why prayer is the life-blood of the Christian life; without it, we have no real relationship to God; without it, we aren’t grafted to Christ; without it, we have no way of knowing Him. So what’s the best way to build such a relationship? What’s a good way to begin this kind of prayer? Here are four easy steps:

Now, it’s important not to try to take on too much. Every relationship begins with small steps. In prayer, that means we don’t try and take an hour the first time we sit down, and we don’t try to cram everything in. So first, set aside a specific amount of time in a quiet place, free of distractions. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and your Bible, sit in your favourite chair, and shut off your phone for ten minutes. Or even come by the church during office hours.

I recommend starting with a decade of the Rosary as a way to compose yourself and focus your heart and thoughts on Jesus. Then call on the Holy Spirit: ‘Come, Holy Spirit, open my heart, fill me with your love; bring Jesus to me and me to Jesus’, or something like that.

Second, tell Jesus about what’s going on in your life. What are the good things happening? What are the struggles you’re facing? What are your needs, your concerns? Tell Him what’s on your heart, and ask Him to be with you in each of those things.

Third, open up your Bible. Conversation isn’t just about talking; it also about listening. The Bible is God’s Word for us; through it, Jesus speaks to us, so it’s important to include the Bible in prayer. Begin with the Mass readings of the day, or with the Gospel of Luke or one of Paul’s Letters. Carefully read one paragraph, or a single story or event. Reread it again slowly. Then in silence, ask something like: ‘Jesus, what are you trying to tell me in this passage? What are you trying to teach me? What does this reveal about you? About me?’ Slowly reread the passage again. If a phrase, a word, an event or an image from that passage catches your attention, go with it. Focus on that and ask Jesus these questions again. Then, in silence and stillness, give Him the space and the time to answer. Give this at least three minutes to start.

Fourth, thank Jesus for the gift of this time together, for His love, and for anything He’s given you in that time. Then present Him with some intentions, some prayer requests for other people, and finish with an Our Father. This can all be done in about ten minutes or so, but you need to do it frequently, working up to doing it everyday.

It can even be done in a group. Do it as a family once a week, using the next Sunday’s Gospel and share your insights. It’s a great way to prepare for Mass.

At first, it might seem awkward or forced, but prayer is also an art. It takes practice, and the more you do it, the easier and the more natural it becomes. In fact, the more you do it, the more time you’ll want to give to it; let it grow as the relationship grows.

Jesus loves you and wants you to come to know and experience this love. He wants to tell you how much He loves you and wants you to come to know Him as a living person, not just an idea. All of this is the goal of prayer, and prayer is the only means by which it can be done. May we all make the time, then, to be with God in prayer, to speak with Him from the heart, to listen to Him with the heart, and allow Him share His love with us. Amen.