Getting Out of Your Own Way

One of the ways that we get in our own way is when our deeply held beliefs are in opposition to what we say we want! If you find yourself trying hard and missing the mark about what you want in your life, you may begin to examine your beliefs about what you say you want. On June 23, 2014, I interviewed Ginny Robertson on Voices For Healing Talk Radio about this topic. (Link to the radio program is below) Ginny shared a story about a woman she worked with who, in the context of a women’s group, voiced her belief that men are slime. Later when invited to share what she wanted in her life she replied that she wanted marriage and children. Wow! She wasn’t aware until Ginny worked with her some that her belief about men was getting in the way of her heart’s desire.

While this story dramatically illustrates our point, all of us have deeply held beliefs that subtly get in our way. Like the woman in the above story, these beliefs are often unconscious and it takes the perspective of a wise friend, workshop leader, or counselor to show us the incongruence in us. Awareness is the first step to take in any change we want to see. Typically, some inner shift in our thinking or belief occurs that allows the outer manifestation of what we want to begin to flow. We are required to slow down enough to do the inner work that will allow the outer change.

Another way to look at this is to examine what IS working well in your life. Ask yourself what you believe about this thing and reflect on how your belief system supports this successful or fulfilling endeavor. Finally watch for the scarcity thinking that tells you you don’t have enough time, money or energy for whatever it is you want to do. Look for opportunities to make what you want happen!