How is placing blame helpful on a broken person's recovery? Their self esteem is already at rock bottom, why push them over the edge? Do people not realise that after a break up, the broken people are not only emotionally unstable but irrational? In my opinion, you cannot hold a broken person to the same standard of logic and morality as a person who is not broken. Break ups happen to everyone, so if everyone understands them, why the callous responses?

Sure I get it being desperate/clingy , or wishing their ex was dead; These are bad qualities. But is it so easy to forget that a broken person is not in the right frame of mind? These are hurt people, not evil people. They should be treated with respect.

A question to those who give callous break up advice: You wouldn't kick a crippled person, so why rub salt in a heartbroken person's wound by placing the blame on them?

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Like when they comment " move on it's just an ex" and "only stupid people take back there ex" why do people say things like that is so mean if you don't have something nice to say dont say anything at all

Exactly how I feel. While I get it's the internet and everyone needs a thick skin, heartbroken people are vulnerable. It's like kicking someone when they're down. It's not right to be callous towards the vulnerable.

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Saying "move on" sounds callous but is actually the best break up advice ever. They way it's delivered may be horrible and ineffective but the advice itself is perfect. Once the relationship is over you need to move on - sitting still and wallowing in pity and wishing for it to come back is unhealthy.More to your point - there are people who have been affected by breakups who HAVEN'T been able to move on and tell others in vicious ways , which is ironic