Does anal sex hurt? and how do you do it safely?

I've been dating this guy for 8 monthes, as far as sex goes we do everything else but hes been bugging me for anal. i have no moral or mental blocks against it i'm just afraid of it hurting, breaking something ect. does it hurt? and is there a safe way to experiment?

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If you're completely new to anal play, you two should experiment with some anal fingering every time you have sex, until you're totally comfortable with his fingers in you.

DO NOT USE THE STUFF THAT NUMBS YOU!! That will increase your chance of tearing or serious injury. Pain is there to tell you and your partner when to ease up, and slow down.

Make sure that you trust your partner! This is a very vulnerable sex act for the receiving partner, and trust will put you at ease.

It's EASIEST to catch an STI(STD) through anal sex, because tiny, unnoticeable tears during intercourse allow for easy entry into the bloodstream. Also there's the 'thousands of harmful bacteria in feces' thing. If you choose not to use a condom, make sure that your partner urinates afterwards, to clear his urethra of any fecal matter.

I wouldn't exactly say you shouldn't feel ANY pain, but you shouldn't feel MUCH pain. Start with fingers, and maybe vaginal sex first.Then, the guy should very slowly, and with MUCH LUBRICATION, begin to enter you, and when you say "Stop", he should STOP, and JUST STAY THERE. DON'T MOVE for about 15-30 seconds, or until you feel comfortable. Then he should begin to go deeper, until you say stop again. Keep this up until he's all the way in and then you guys can begin, but the first (and probably the 2nd-10th) time should be very slow and gentle. Don't worry, because it will feel great for BOTH of you, no matter the speed.

IMPORTANT: Make sure AHEAD OF TIME that he won't' pull out of you quickly or roughly, because at the wrong angle, he can (for lack of a better phrase) mess up your butthole, Seriously. It's called prolapse.

Make sure you and your partner trust eachother, and it will be a gggrrreat experience, orgasmic all the way through!

Take things slow and be patient. Trying to hurry things along can keep you from relaxing, which can keep things from being as yummy.

Plenty of lubricant is key, and there are desensitizing lubricants (anal-eze) that can make your life easier.

You were short on other details of your anal activities, which leads me to believe there aren't any. Ummm, just like with typical vaginal sex, it's often nice to have some foreplay prior to him just jumping right in.

You may want to enjoy a tapered toy or "plug" to get accustomed to the sensation of penetration and being "filled." Similarly, an enema can give some unique anal sensations, as well as get you squeaky clean so there are no surprises during your anal escapades.

Bottom line is that everyone's body is different and everyone is wired differently. It sounds like you have the right attitude, but it is a fact that not everyone will love anal sex, many may tolerate or endure it for various reasons, and others will hate or detest it.

Being open minded and trying new and different things is a wonderful way to enhance your sexual repetroir, so have fun and good luck to you!

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It's going to be uncomfortable the first time. Just like vaginal sex you probably had been fingered a bunch of times before you went "all the way". That allowed you to be more relaxed and expect what to feel.

Use lubricant (not vaseline). You call the shots. You tell him how much is too much. On your knees in a doggie style position would probably work best. Let him get the head in and then make your decision if you want to go farther.
Whatever you do don't let him put it in your vagina after putting it up your butt.

me and my dude tried anal it was a first for me. it's best if you use non waterbased lube and if you can to make it more comfortable for you. you should insert the penis yourself after the tip is in relax and breath and slowly rock back on it. then when you feel comfortable go deeper. when it's all the way in don't move just lay there and when your ready you do the movement. After it's in your pretty much ready for any position.
on your side works best to get it in and to make you more comfortable about it.........its best if you con. on your back with your legs up. trust me it's the best and you
you'll love it

To say it always hurts is FALSE! If your partner is not that big and you use lots of lube it goes in quite smoothly, it also depends on your body type, skinny girls will usually experience the most pain where as heavier girls will have a slightly easier time, as far as STDS go it doesn&#x27;t matter, STDS don&#x27;t spring up out of no where from anal, if he&#x27;s clean there&#x27;s no risk! Always use protection!

I've been married for over 13 years. I love my husband so much that I always wanted him to have the best sexual experience we could have together so.... we tried it. At first it was painful and we stopped. Every sexual encounter after we tried. I would be on top so I control how much goes in. The anus relaxes when you take your time and it expands to accommodate the penis.

depending on the guy make sure he takes the time on you. make sure he uses his fingers with lots of lube for at least a couple minutes to slowly stretch the muscle so it can take something bigger. your best bet is to get yourself a small toy and play with it in a hot shower. it wont hurt there and youll get to know yourself and if you enjoy it. my gf loves it and says its an increadible feeling once you get past a little pain. enjoy sex and everything thats orgasmic. by the way as long as you take your time you might get sore a little for a day but you wont break anything.