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Has anyone on this forum had to deal with this issue. I work with a guy who just had this surgery. I am debating whether I should tell him about TMB. It puts me in a kind of vulnerable state. He deserves some help!

PK Man wrote:Has anyone on this forum had to deal with this issue. I work with a guy who just had this surgery. I am debating whether I should tell him about TMB. It puts me in a kind of vulnerable state. He deserves some help!

Not me, but a close family member had his cancerous one removed. I did some research into it, and it seems that potency issues are the second-most common side effect of the procedure (continence issues are the most common). These are serious quality of life issues brought about by medical issues - I don't think TMB can do much in the way of advice - support and prayer there would be, though.

Based on my limited understanding of the procedure and the side effects, I'd suggest that (since there are permanent physical changes) his urologist and primary doctor need to be made aware of any issues to ensure that's functioning as well as is physically possible. Then, counseling might be in order to deal with any personal or relationship difficulties from the physical changes (sterility; no ejaculate; and ED which might not respond to Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra come to mind).

There are support groups directed specifically to prostate cancer issues on the Web as well - try a Google search.

I wasn't looking for medical advice. I think what I would like to get an understanding of is how men have been able to handle the challenges that the impotence brings in to their marriage. I have discussed the area of dry orgasm. and such like, but my friend is totally frustrated because of his inability to "perform". Other men have been there. There must be ways they, together with their DW have been able to have a fulfilling and satisfying sexual life.

Tell your freind to join the yahoo ASI Support Impotence group. There men are discussing Trimix injections, etc.

Another group is the WebMD urology group where men there discuss all kinds of situations including recovering from prostate surgery. I believe that WebMD also has a group for men who have actually been thru prostate surgery. Check that out too.

Yahoo has a group for men who have been thru implants. They speak in glowing terms of making love anytime, all the time, and for as long as they want even after orgasm. Supposedly there is a new implant on the market and you can choose your size. How's that for the bionic man?

He is staged at 1C The cancer is too small to detect on physical exam or ultra sound. The surgery they are talking about will require a Foley catheter for only two weeks then he may be on light duty for 4 weeks before he resumes work. If the cancer is small he will have the nerve sparing surgery. The hospital is operated by Mayo.

I had Robotic prostatectomy on Nov 28 last year, my cancer had a Gleason score of 8 that was down graded to a 7 after the post surgery biopsy. I still have not had a full erection. Orgasm is possible, though it is very different as I no longer ejaculate. Urine does escape, though less now than at the start. My wife is not interested in sex, has not been for many years, doctors seem to recommend sex, masturbation to help the muscles and nerves. After the surgery I has a catheter, when that was removed my penis had retreated to the point urination was very messy. The sex has helped that issue some. The doc also recommended a pump. My first thought about that was from the Austin Powers movie. But I now have one but have not used it yet. There is a lot involved in dealing with this. I was healthy felt good everything worked so the cancer diagnosis was a complete surprise.