Do You Ever Ask Your Guy Why He's Into You?

You know you and your guy are getting pretty close when you've reached that stage where you can talk about all of the funny/awkward/cute things that happened when you first met. Dan and I talk about this all of the time. I usually tease him because on our first date he took me to a museum (cute) followed by dinner at a pretty gross "restaurant" that has since, ahem, closed down (not-so cute). Just recently I asked him what he initially noticed about me that made him interested. And you'll never guess what he said...

Here's a picture of Dan with the stylin' frames he picked out himself. They improve his vision, so he can check out my outfits!

My style. Huh?! I immediately asked him if he thought that most guys think style is important, and he said he did. But I wasn't convinced. So after we went through all of his friends, we decided that, really, only one or two of them would even notice what a girl was wearing.

Here's the thing: Guys definitely check out girls' bodies, right? (Duh.) So if you're wearing a micro-mini, or a dress that shows off all of your curves, he's going to take note. Joanna has talked a lot about guy pretty vs. girl pretty. And it's true that there are some pieces that will drive most guys wild. His button-down shirt, or a button-down dress that has the same thigh-skimming effect, are probably at the top of that list. But will he dig those awesome, sky-high heels that are killing your feet? Sorry, sister, but besides the fact that you're walking a good pace and a half slower than him, he probably won't really think much of your stylish effort.

So, then, why did Dan notice my style? Here's the caveat: A select number of guys genuinely do appreciate a fashionable gal. If your fella is artsy, if he's an observant chap, if he takes pride in his own style, if he's smart—and into you enough—to notice that it's something you take pride in, or if he's gay (kidding!) there's a pretty good chance that your top-notch taste will earn you some points. And the other plus for you chic readers out there is that if you wear a little something that's interesting, or different, guys will usually comment. When they approach you when you're out, they're looking for every reason to keep the conversation flowing. So if you have a really cool watch, or a necklace that's obviously not from these here parts, he'll probably bring it up.

The other thing I have to mention is that just because guys might notice your glorious gams—but not the shoes supporting them—doesn't mean that you should stop stocking your closet with things you love. I've always worn clothes that I knew weren't the majority of guys' cup of lady tea. (Think: circa 2001 Carrie Bradshaw-esque eccentricities—totally not guy pretty!) But I was OK with that because that's just my style and me—and, coincidentally, one of the first things that caught Dan's eye. So if your thing's high-waisted jeans, by all means, rock them!

Tell me, ladies, can you relate to this? What's the first thing your guy noticed about you? Does your man dig your style? Do you usually dress for guys or for girls? Do you ask your guy why he's so into you? What do you notice first about guys? Have you ever changed your style for a guy? Or, have you asked him to dress differently for you?

Looking for Joanna? She's on vacation but will be back next Monday. Jessica Strul is a freelance writer who lives in New York City. She has written for CosmoGirl (RIP!), Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Time Out New York and other publications. She's been known to eat chocolate for breakfast.