20 Seconds of Insane Courage

I understand that some people may be shy and I understand that sometimes it will take someone a while to get out of their shell. What I don’t understand is how a guy doesn’t notice that a girl is interested in him and can’t take a hint.

There seems to be a significant amount of men out there who may be new to the dating world or the world of women in general. But how it is that a guy who so desperately wants a girlfriend can’t even see right in front of his eyes that a girl is interested in him?

I read an article in Glamour recently that mentioned how 63% of the men polled in this survey said the hardest part of a first date is finding the courage to ask the woman for her number. But my question is, if a woman is giving you all the signals, why would you be nervous?

Let’s break down the signals: if a girl is speaking to you exclusively throughout the entire night, she’s interested. If a girl is speaking to you the whole night and is touching you or brushing up against you, she’s interested. If a girl asks you for your number, she’s interested. If you ask her for her number and you’re rejected, I deeply apologize for leading you down the wrong road.

So the question is, if you like a girl and she is giving you a signal what is holding you back? Maybe this is an irrelevant rant but I think that it’s one worth having.

If a guy is interested in you and you’re showing the signs but he’s afraid to make the move, there are two outcomes. Either the woman takes the lead (which is the path I usually take) or the relationship never progresses and dies out. I’m someone who is a firm believer on trying everything at least once.

If you like the guy you’re speaking with and he doesn’t ask you for your number, don’t be discouraged. Go ahead and ask him. All it takes 20 seconds of insane courage and you never know what could happen.

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I believe love is the answer to everything. While heartbreak is inevitable in this uphill battle, I believe that every tear shed, that every single horrible feeling felt, and that each spectacular moment that's left me wonderstruck has happened for a reason. I'm 24 and a hopeless romantic that explores love through her writing.

Disclaimer: Thoughts and opinions are my own and do not reflect the views of my employer. Also note that everything is written in lag time between the actual event and my feelings towards it.