How to cope if you get the ‘thanks, but no thanks’ message From time to time you may receive the odd ‘thanks, but no thanks’. Rejection is never easy for anyone to take, but it does happen to everyone at some point in their lives.Now, I’ve seen people respond badly to this kind of message almost in a child-like ‘yeah well I didn’t fancy you anyway’ manner. Be grateful that the person has taken the time to actually respond and do the only thing you can do in this situation.Unfortunately, you can’t get away with these excuses online because, well, let’s face it, you are looking for a relationship and that’s entirely why you’ve come here.So if someone contacts you and they aren't your type or don’t tick your boxes, don’t just ignore them.The phrase “finding a man who wants to be a grown-up” came up several times. This response summarized the challenge nicely: “Meeting a man who I feel compatible with, feeling attracted to that same man AND having him treat me well.” This is what all the online dating methods call the phase. I’ve come to realize that he is not good for me and have left twice but he has come back every time without promising me a future.I spent 9 months with a “bad boy,” who managed to break up with me 4 times in just 9 months.

Dating etiquette still applies online so in order to succeed, here are some basic principles that must still be adhered to.Your first message, your first point of contact with someone you like the look of on the site, needs to stand out and catch their eye.So refrain from the likes of ‘hi beautiful’, ‘you look nice’ and ‘let’s chat’, and put together a thought-out message that won’t end up in the trash.Scrape your ego up off the floor, dust yourself down, and continue in your search.After all, you know how the saying goes, there’re plenty more fish...