My new anthology has essays by women in your shoes, SimplyRochelle. The link for it is www.dearjohnilovejane.com (http://www.dearjohnilovejane.com). There's also a website called LavenderVisions.com...

I just saw this great short film, "I'm just Anneke," which is about a trans 12-13 year old. It's really wonderfully done. And it shows both parents talking about it. Maybe it would help your husband...