hey, a great question, i think, z....and most difficult to answer....women want sex as much as men, but dont want to be blatant...its the chase, the tease, the thrill...thats why the "wanna fuck" e-mails get nowhere....women want to be seduced, tempted...excited to the point that they cant resist....is that a game??? OF COURSE!

I think it really depends on the woman. I believe you have to listen and watch for the clues & signs. We women are horrible about that...or good at it, depending on how well you read us. Most women I know are of the mindset of, "If I have to ask for it, I don't want it/it doesn't mean as much, etc." So pay attention. If she is telling you/hinting to you that she would welcome a more aggressive approach, then by all means...oblige her. If you aren't certain, ease into it. But, most of all, be yourself. Don't pretend to be something you aren't.