Other half never around and not supportive at all

My other half works in restaurant industry he works shifts sometimes doesn’t come home until 4am and then sleeps the next morning at gets up just in time for work if he’s working midday until late again we have a 3 year old that he hardly sees as our DS (dear son) at Nursery Monday-Friday and OH (other half) hardly ever has weekends off and if he does start work late on the weekend he huffs and puffs if I ask him to get our DS (dear son) ready and sort his breakfast out and he moans about it if I’m still in bed bearing in mind I get our DS (dear son) ready everyday and look after him every weekend on my own we don’t have any family around us for help. I’ve been asking him for the past 4 years to find a job where he has weekends off and he hasn’t bothered looking now I’m expecting second child he’s just not around he doesn’t leave work on time and when we are off together or DS (dear son) plays up it’s almosg like he’s so use too just seeing us seperate I’m so exhausted 32 weeks pregnant with a 3 year old and if I say to him I’m not feeling too good need to rest his response is hes not feeling great either and needs to lie down. He’s never offered to massage or help. When’s he off he will help around the house with a face on but when he has a day off usually in the week DS (dear son) at Nursery and I’m at work he gets some down time and I feel like I never do I really feel like I don’t want OH (other half) at the delivery room with me and I feel like saying to him I’d rather he just looked after our DS (dear son) and I went into labour myself.

Comments (4)

Sorry to hear this Sharon. Sounds like you really deserve better. Sometimes people don’t realise what they have or how good they have it until it’s too late. Put yourself and your little ones first and do what makes you happy 😊

Mine has been the same apart from he has normal working shifts he would just rather be doing something else and if I ask for him to do something it seems to be a massive problem, he only started to change and help more when we was in hospital for reduced movement X

Know what your going through mine leaves at 5.30 am and gets in 6.30 pm sees my dd (dear daughter) for about an hour if I'm lucky and works all weekend, he does try and get my appointments off but sometimes it feels like I'm a single parent and doing this all by my self. He says once ds (dear son) arrives things won't be as hectic but I honestly don't know whether to believe him x

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