Natalie Portman posed for the February cover of InStyle before the exciting news of her engagement and pregnancy. The shoot was obviously done before her engagement, because her gorgeous ring is missing in the photos! The No Strings Attached actress sat down with the magazine to chat about romance, Black Swan, and what she looks for in a man.

What she looks for in a partner: “I look for all the same things I would in a friend. Obviously, you need the sexual attraction too, so it’s like your best friend who you are also really attracted to.”

If she could go unrecognized for a day, what would she do? “I would make out in the park! [Laughs.] That’s the thing I would most enjoy doing in New York, and it’s something I’ll never do. I’d also have loud, public conversations with my friends about personal things. Even if no one is paying attention—and most of the time, no one cares—you never know who is at the next table.”

Natalie on the concept of “friends with benefits:” “I certainly have friends who could deal with that and others who could not. . . It’s something I’ve seen in high-achieving women—they compartmentalize. You’ve got your work, your friends, your exercise, and your sex. [Grins.] You can tick off those boxes.”

On her recent pregnancy and engagement: “This is the most private of private experiences. But I am completely awed by the whole process we are living through. I cannot express how lucky I feel.”