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Another breakup

Samantha (the girl I was dating) decided to end our relationship tonight. She gave me no reason. I dropped her off at work and everything was fine--she even said "I love you." Then, when I went to pick her up, she called me and said she wasn't going home with me and that she never wanted to speak to me again!

I will never trust anyone again with my heart. Everybody thinks it's great fun to take a nice guy and take advantage of him and use him and destroy his life. I HAVE FEELINGS TOO. DOESN'T THAT MEAN ANYTHING?

dude im sorry i know this does nothing for you but just so you know ive been their as well as million others too. it hurts it sucks and its painfull and only god knows why and how long it will hurt cause we all know it hurts and it hurts bad!!!just remember one thing sommeone out their will love you and will treat you the way u deserve!!! god bless bro im here if u need to vent !!!!!!!!

RobertG, I'm sorry that happened. Sounds like Samantha specializes in the mixed message. Just more evidence of how grounded we need to be in ourselves, since other people are always the unpredictable factor. Hope you can recover your balance and confidence soon. Yes, you do have feelings and yes they mean a great deal. But keep in mind that our feelings always mean the most the most to US, so we each have to take care of ourselves, 'cause as we've all learned the hard way, other people are not going to necessarily take care for our feelings as we'd like them to.

Yuck. Thats awful!! I hope you weren't dating her for too long. She's owes you some kind of explanation as far as I am concerned. Sounds so sudden, and that is the worst kind of breakup, its the one we ALL fear. The one with no warning signs. I HATE people who use the 'I love you' phrase and don't really mean it.

Thanks. I've very rarely ever been told &quot;I love you.&quot; In fact, Samantha is honestly the only woman who's ever said that to me. The only one. She knew how important that was to me and she just said it to get what she wanted.

She does owe me an explaination. I've been trying to get her to talk to me. Last night, she DID speak for a few minutes on the phone, and the female friend of her's kept trying to paint me as being some sort of terrible person in the background. When she gave me trouble picking her up, I approached the bouncer at her club and told him the situation and asked that he at least let her speak to me before she leaves and I didn't want to start any trouble. I told him we were having a problem and she would not even tell me why. He told me to wait by my car and he'd let us talk. A few minutes later, she called me and asked me to leave and told me she would not come out while I was there. Then, she had the bouncer force me to leave!

She said I made an ass of her at her job because of this. SHE is the one who caused it! I didn't do a damn thing wrong. I just wanted her to talk to me about it. She said I embarrassed her in front of her manager. Again, how is this MY fault? SHE made the decision to start this--not me. I was just being the good boyfriend and picking her up after work like I did every night for the last 3 months! I never once threatened her or anything like that.

Well, that's it. Samantha finally completed the damage that women have done to me over the years. I trusted her after losing my wife. She KNEW what I was going through. She knew everything about the situation. I know 100% that nice guys finish last and sleep alone--I'm living proof. So, I'm no longer going to be a nice guy. From now on, I am just going to treat women the way they want to be treated--like crap. From now on, I will look at them for only what they can do for me and nothing more. I no longer have the ability to love anyone. People took that from me. There is so much anger and hatred built up inside and I'm not going to hold it in anymore.

I know that my dreams of a family and children are never going to happen. And, I feel that that's the only thing in this world that is important. NOTHING else is. If I can't have that, I have no purpose. I am going to die alone, without ever knowing what it is like to have someone love me. Nothing can change that now.

Robert, I am going to venture to guess that you are too nice of a guy. Why does a woman of her age not have her own vehicle and need someone else to pick her up? I am sorry this has happened but there are male and female predators out there who will say or do anything to get what they want. It may be just a place to live, money or rides to and fro. Either way, this sucks. I hope you don't give up, just be more selective. If someone needs you for something that is a huge warning flag.

Robert, is this the same woman that we discussed yest? The stripper? Please remember she got what she was after and probably found someone with more $$$ than you had.... Please, be careful to not link all women in with that category! You got what was there,,, the moral aspect of her job is to extract money from men. You knew that when you started dating her and how can you expect to get anything more than that from her? I am personally affronted that you could or would possibly link all women in with that category!
I told you yest. that you may want to start looking for women someplace other than stip clubs!
Just my thoughts!

I choose to become a very bitter person that nobody will ever be able to get close to again. From now on, I will treat women EXACTLY the way they've treated me all of my life. From now on, I am only interested in them giving to me what I feel I deserve and I personally don't care about their feelings anymore. THAT is what they created. If just 1 woman in the whole world would have actually been a real loving person, telling me the truth, and actually MEANING what they say, things could have been different.

All I can say is that someday, I am going to make damn sure that the women who did this to me are going to get to see what they did to me and they are going to have to live with knowing how they destroyed a life for the rest of their lives.

When you tell some one you love them its like opening your soul to them, its a big deal. I think people just get caught up in other stuff and don't really understand what you are saying to them. Either they take it for granted or it means nothing. You were walking in a silent mine field you just did not know it. Some thing you said or did got back to her and she took it the wrong way or ran with it. I have had this happen to me a lot and there is nothing you can do about it. This woman had huge trust issues, she just kept them hidden from you and believe it or not she did you a favor you don't have to wait 6 month, 2 years or 20 years for her to pull this crap on you. She did it now and now you know what you were dealing with some one who really did not love you and did not care about your feeling. Believe me I know how you feel, I recently felt like I was walking in a minefield but mine was never silent it exploded loudly all the time. The mind fell silent once she had the last work which was no surprise to me.

Yes, that is her. Actually, from what I've gathered, she is leaving me because I had trust issues with her. She's leaving because I could not trust her to go out with friends after work. My reasoning is very simple and justified: Several times in our relationship, she threatened to go home with customers because she needed the money. If she was TRULY going with a platonic friend, I have no problem.

I had similar trust issues with my stbx. She thought I would not let her have friends. I became rather protective of her because I CAUGHT HER CHEATING EARLY IN OUR MARRIAGE. She was still allowed to have friends--just not the boyfriend! In the end, she did EXACTLY what I was trying to prevent. Now, she tells me I was 100% justified in how I treated her. Too late.

RobertG, your resolution about bitterness? I have to hope that is intended to be ironic? You can't possibly mean that you want to give your power away by becoming a small person in response to having been poorly treated by small people. Resolve to rise above, not be brought low. You can't find happiness by such a course; it is letting the wrong people and wrong values win.

Relationships are nothing but a fantasy to me. I will never have one and I need to stop trying to convince myself that I've ever had a relationship. I have never had anyone love me, no matter how much I try to lie to myself and convince myself. NO MORE. The truth is that I will never have anyone in my life--end of story. I have a HUGE strong sex drive, but I suppress it. Women wanted to be treated like this, so this is how I'm going to treat them.

Sorry if this offends any of the ladies on here, but if even ONE woman would have just treated me with REAL decency, love, and respect, this would not have happened.

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

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