About Sharon

Love is the answer

I fell in love the moment I heard the hushed, emotive quote from the movie “Shall We Dance.” Why do people get married?

“We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.’“

At our core, we all want to have that witness. To be heard, known and understood. To be fully and unconditionally loved. To have our lives be as important to someone else as it is to us.

If you are ready to have a witness to your life, call now 949-682-9304 or BOOK ME an initial 15-minute insight phone consultation. Let’s talk now about how you will have love in your life!

Love is the question

I’m here to empower you on your love and life journey.

I want to help you find, have, and hold the one person you yearn for. Tell me your story. I will support you, lift you up and help make it better.

I’m here to guide you through your adventure to find long-lasting love.

My BIG goal is to help rid the world of unnecessary loneliness and poor communication. I want to help people into their “meant-to-be” relationships so they feel connected and loved!

PODCASTS

TESTIMONIALS

"I am so grateful to have had your guidance over this past year and your help in making the positive changes I have. There is no way I would be here in this place of ever-growing happiness and contentment without you."

~ female client, 20's

"You really gave me some tools that have helped me more than I would have ever thought. I love referring my friends to you because I know they will benefit. I have a steady boyfriend now. I met him through a friend. Truly thanks to the tools I have learned with you, this relationship is the most healthy and normal relationship I have experienced. It's been a year now and I could not be happier. Back when I was married, I wondered every day whether I was in the right place and relationship. It really does feel good to have the contentment and peacefulness when you are in the right relationship."

"I am still processing all that I have learned and am learning...but somehow I feel different, and dating feels different, and how I experience being around men is different. I feel free and serene in a different way than ever before."

~ female client, 30's

"You've helped me get in touch with my feminine self and to fully understand how I became so utterly masculine. I have a very clear sense of who I am now and how I have either avoided relationships or gotten stuck in the wrong ones. Before I couldn't figure this out, even after seeing other therapists."

~ female client, 40's

"I believe the women in my life are finally seeing a REAL man. It scares the hell out of them yet they appreciate my direction and leadership. You are one of the best counselors I have ever worked with because of your unique ability to intuit what is the crux of the issue."

~ male client, 50's

"My work with you has been so valuable to me. I dated a few men since returning to my home state. I let go of the ones who weren’t right much sooner than I ever could before. Eight months ago, a wonderful man met me who I had actually met years before. He has been widowed for 6 years, and I have been divorced for 6 years. All my insights about being feminine and patient, open, receptive, available, and respectful have served me well. I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to have my life script read and to have learned that I don’t need to be a guy!"

~ female client, 60s

"You are one of the best counselors I have worked with because you do more for me in a session than other counselors were able to do for me in months."

~ male client, 60's

"Dr. Sharon opened my eyes to why I am doing what I'm doing in my life right now and put my guilt feelings in check from the moment I walked in the door. I'm all in and I suggest to anyone going through relationship issues of any kind to do the same. This lady has her *&%$# together and makes you understand what's going on with your bad self in a calm, warm and welcoming environment. Can't say enough..."

~ male client, 50's

"Sharon, I really appreciate you, everything you align with and stand for in this world. It's certainly a better place because of you."

~ female client, 30's

"I credit Dr. Sharon with helping me to be in my current healthy relationship; without her I think I would have made some mistakes in how I have handled the very intimate issues that we have already faced."

~ female client, 40's

"Thank you so much for your insight and guidance. I felt really clear after our session and I felt happy and serene again. I had been feeling so confused and anxious!"

~ female client, 60's

"I feel so much better every single time I talk to you. You are SO good at this. I can't even tell you...every time I talk to you I feel calm and in control, like I can handle this. I have a plan and I'm just going to do "this" and then if "that" happens I'll do plan B. I appreciate what you are teaching me and what I am learning so much. This program of yours is helping me a lot."

~ female client, 40's

"I know our relationship would not have survived had we not been coming to see you. You taught us so much and have been integral to our relationship's success."

~ female & male clients, 40's

"You've helped me recognize the things I am saying, yet do not hear. You help me improve my communications skills to stop sounding "needy" and instead tell the world what I "want." As a result, life is rewarding me with "wants," and taking me away from "shoulds." I believe the women in my life are finally seeing a REAL man."

~ male client, 60's

"Of great help has been de-briefing dating situations and rehearsing ways of communicating with dates in specific situations. Even though I understand all the communication principles, it's tricky to put it into real life practice. That is, until I practice and learn and get feedback on how I'm doing and what I can say or do differently the next time I encounter a similar situation. This is something that requires one-on-one assistance."

~ female client, 50's

"Dating when you're divorced and in your 40s can really be stressful, especially when it's hard to tell the difference between red flags in the present and past demons. Friends can listen and try to help, but Dr. Sharon provides a framework to make sense of it all. She provides a clear plan for moving forward. When I talk to friends I might feel supported, but I don't necessarily feel any different about the issue. Every time I talk to Dr. Sharon, I feel a clear shift in my thinking and my feelings and a renewed sense of my ability to cope."

~ female client, 40's

The Official Bio

Sharon Cohen, Ph.D.

I am fiercely committed to working with women who can’t seem to find the right relationship and are ready to give up on love. I help them have the committed, stable, deeply loving relationships they’ve been yearning for.

If you’re looking for a proven professional who will guide you to break free from your past relationship and attraction patterns so you will step fully into the deeply loving relationship you truly desire. And if you want help staying connected to your own inner guidance and wisdom within your relationship instead of losing track of yourself and YOUR needs, then you’ve come to the right place.

With 25 years of experience in the field and seven years working specifically with amazing clients focusing on dating, love, and relationship issues and guiding them to achieve remarkable success, my mission and commitment are to help you have the relationship of your dreams by helping you to blossom open to receive ever-lasting love.

My path started with my educational background and career working in psychiatric hospitals. That background definitely informs what I do. However, my personal history is what makes this my calling.

I moved back to California from Texas after having a number of important but not “the right one” relationships. Now 40 years old, I was dating and didn’t think that I had anything specifically to do with why I was still single.

Not the right man, not the right time. Not the right woman. All true.

But what I didn’t really know was why?

Why were my friends all married and not me? Why did it seem like all the people I met were married and not me? Certainly, I knew other single women my age who weren’t married, but we were all the exception, not the rule.

I had been in therapy. I had discussed my loneliness and sadness about the situation, but I hadn’t gotten anywhere.

Then I met my mentor. She worked with me in a way no therapist had ever done before. She was more education-oriented. She was more in-my-face. She guided me to change my identity to be who I was truly born to be, not the mask I’d been walking around with that I hadn’t even realized I’d created.

Friends and acquaintances had always said, “you’re so confident and independent.”

Not bad things, but I also wanted to be in a relationship and didn’t always feel so sure of myself. I did not want to be seen as less than or, G-d forbid, vulnerable. So I had created this persona so no one would think I was lacking or wanting or sad or lonely.

Yet I was lonely and sad.

My close friends knew. But to the outside world, I looked like I had it all together and didn’t want or need a relationship.

The work my mentor and I did together was on dropping the mask, to get back to the real me – the me beneath all the “supposed-to-be’s” and the “don’t-want-them-to-see’s” – so I could relax fully and comfortably in who I am and who I was born to be.

Not too long after, on a night when I wasn’t looking, a man approached me. He didn’t need me to be looking at him because he could see and feel the new me. I radiated different energy than I had been giving off for so many years previously.

And we’ve been together ever since. Married happily. He loves me exactly as I am. No mask. Just me.

I feel the same way about him. We both feel blessed to be together.

So I am passionate about guiding other women to have their breakthroughs.

Clients say remarkable things about the impact our work has on the success of their love life.

Example comments include:

“I credit Dr. Sharon with helping me to be in my current healthy relationship; without her, I think I would have made some mistakes in how I have handled the very intimate issues that we have already faced.”

~ 40-something female, NOW MARRIED!

“My work with you has been so valuable to me… Eight months ago, a wonderful man met me who I had actually met years before. All my insights about being feminine and patient, open, receptive, available and respectful have served me well. I am so grateful…”

~ 60-something female. ENGAGED!

“I know our relationship would not have survived had we not been coming to see you. You taught us so much and have been integral to our relationship’s success.”

~ 40-something couple, together for over 5 years. Each had “one foot out the door” when they arrived. Currently ENGAGED!!

Similar benefits await when you decide to invest in yourself and invite me to serve you in the powerful ways that I can support your success in love and in life.

What lights me up about this work is knowing that having love in your life is possible for you. You are SO WORTHY of healthy, beautiful, stable, committed, juicy love. Even if you’ve lost hope, I will hold the space of hope for you.

What sets me apart from others is that my work comes from the aggregate of my background as a psychotherapist, as a student of Dr. Pat Allen, Carl Jung, transactional analysis, the science of adult attachment, biology, brain, and body science, my personal journey, and my continued thirst for on-going knowledge.

I am a consultant. I work from the philosophy that whatever you’ve been doing up until this point is not working. I will train you on what it is you should be saying or doing that will best serve you. The work we do together re-wires your brain so that the changes you make last a lifetime.

Contact me for your initial insight phone consultation. During this consultation, you will:

Get clear on the DEEPLY LOVING relationship you desire

Identify what’s the #1 thing keeping you from having the relationship you want

Complete the consultation with the EXCITEMENT of knowing EXACTLY what to do next to have the committed and deeply loving relationship you yearn for

Connect with me NOW to explore how I can guide you to have the life you imagine with the man of your dreams.

I graduated from UCLA(B.A. in Sociology; Business and Administration concentration), USC(Master in Social Work; Families and Children concentration) and the University of Texas at Austin(Doctor of Philosophy, Ph.D., School of Social Work).

I am also credentialed as a Transactional Analysis Practitioner by the United States Transactional Analysis Association and in Androgynous Semantic Realignment® by the WANT® Institute.

Before, I spent time honing my clinical education in the psychiatric hospital setting. I worked with individuals, couples, groups and multi-family groups.

I was in charge of the Outpatient admissions process at Seton Shoal Creek Hospital in Austin, Texas. Included programs: a Substance Abuse & Addictions Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) and an Adult (Mental Health & Well-Being) IOP.

I’ve worked for start-up companies, music & film festivals, as a social coordinator and much more. All these experiences add to the secret sauce that makes me who I am.

I provide inspiration and help for women who are

dating,

having growing pains in a relationship,

going through a breakup, seeking to recover and move on AND

going through a dry spell.

My BIG goal is to help rid the world of unnecessary loneliness and poor communication. Any person who wants to be will be in a relationship of ever-lasting love with their “meant-to-be” partner, feeling connected and loved…that is my vision of success.

Specializing In

I work with smart, capable women. I help them have committed, fulfilling relationships.