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thank you for your comments diamondkal : There is no one that comes out well from this situation. Porn is one of those addictions that does not require its victim to have an addictive personality. It also doesn't need to have someone to have a damaged childhood - however, as in your ex partner's situation - to be fair, he didn't stand a chance. However, he is an adult now. He is not stupid - although to you I'm sure his actions have made him appear that way. He needs help and if he will not get it, then I'm afraid our only option is to leave the porn addict to his own fate and move on with our own lives. It is bad enough that porn is taking his life; there is absolutely NOTHING to be gained by allowing this drowning man to take you down with him. Well done for taking that very brave and very difficult decision to move on. If you have any other words of wisdom, or would like to share your experience with me, I would like to know more and perhaps share it with others with your permission and total anonymity guaranteed. All the best Lindsay﻿

Thanks for this video Neil. I look at the damage porn can do from a psychological/sociological viewpoint, but for those who have a religious/spiritual base should find a great deal of help in your words,﻿

hi Jeannine and thank you for your comment. I find that one of the first responses from men regarding women who are anti porn, is that you must be a frigid, lesabian man hating sex hating religious freak, any or all of the previous. My porn addicted partner was obsessed with porn, and made me feel less of a woman, less of a sexually attractive human being. He could not own up to the fact that his inability to perform was down to his porn addiction, and so he made me feel like the least attractive woman on earth. I want women to own their own sexuality. To be proud of who they are and know that if their guy has a problem with sex, it is the man's problem, not theirs. You don't have to dress like a nun to be anti porn. I realise it is not exactly the most demure picture I have of myself, but it is to make a point.I hope you will come to the sight, as my approach to helping partners is also not conventional and pretty 'in your face'. which again, is deliberate. There are few resources to help the partner and even fewer that use humour and a 'put yourself first' message out there. Too many expect the woman to stand by her man, even though it is destroying her self esteem and even her soul. I came through and my humour kept me sane. It took a long time before I could see myself as even vaguely attractive again, let alone sexually atrractive.It's not always to everyone's taste or approval and that is fine. I would like to hear your story, if you care to share it with me. I would like to help if I can. If not, I wish you all the best in your journey anyway.Lindsay﻿

Government inquiry into child access. to adult material. On 18th April, the cross-party Independent Parliamentary Inquiry into Online Child Protection published its report into the issue of children's...