My first reaction was joy. I looked up and there he was right in front of me.

Then he said those words "Can we take a walk outside?" My heart sank, my stomach went into free fall...omg what does he think he's found? I haven't hidden anything, have nothing to hide...nothing at all...

So outside we go.

The he breaks down into tears "OKM, I'm so, so sorry", he says.
"It's ok baby, what is it?"
"I'm sorry" he says again

By now I'm convinced he's leaving me. I mean what else could it be?

"I found Neo on the road this morning, he'd been hit by a car" he says.

Neo is my 13 year old black and white cat. He was my first "rescue" right out of vet school, when he broke his leg and needed it amputating aged 5 wks. We kept him, because the owners had him as a farm cat and couldn't justify paying to treat him. We operated, and saved him. And I loved him for 13 years.

And now he's gone, 3 weeks after our baby girl, Eva, was killed the same way.

Huh? I mean really, wtf?

I can't believe this has happened.
I'm so grateful LH is not leaving me.
I can't believe that is my first thought still, especially after him giving me forgiveness.

Infidelity sucks. It leaves us WSs with the legacy that the BS may leave at any time despite the effort and hard work. Despite their desire to R and forgive. It always haunts us, back there somewhere, even when I'm not really conscious of it.

Loss sucks. These are just cats right? Nope. They're my family. I don't have kids. I had 2 cats and have 2 dogs. Someone on here called them furrykids. That's what they are to me. My girl and my boy were my furry kids, and now they're gone. That's sucks so bad.

LH is being amzing. He found Neo on the road 10mins after he'd seen him in our garden. He picked him up; cleaned the mess on the road and buried him next to our baby burmese. He then called my work to get them to hold me there so he could tell me in person. He tried to do all the right things and he so did.
He took the day off so he could be wth me today. That was lovely, especially as my last call was putting someone's loved eldery Shetland pony to sleep today.

Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

OKM and LH. I'm very sorry to hear you lost 2 of your furkids, especially so close together. Hugs to you both.

Growing forward

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011

scarredforever♀ 23875Member # 23875

Posted: 4:29 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013

I am so sorry to hear this

"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"

Posts: 1062 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl

OktoberMest♀ 34173Member # 34173

Posted: 4:31 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013

Looking supersilious...

Eva and Neo. <3

Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK

NoTriangles♀ 35985Member # 35985

Posted: 4:37 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013

Oh my goodness. I am so very very sorry. To lose your Neo while you are still grieving the loss of Eva?? I can only imagine the pain and loss.

Like you, I don't have children. Only my pups. They are my kids and my babies and, for many months, were my only reason to get out of bed each day.

I hope you can cuddle with LH and your pups tonight and just remember how much joy the furkids have brought to your life.

Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 4032 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California

cinnamongurl♀ 37879Member # 37879

Posted: 11:25 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013

OKM & LH hugs ×infinity!!!
My heart broke for you both reading this! I am so sorry for your losses! What an unbelievably awful thing for you both to go through!! My deepest condolences! We also have no children, just a kitty... no not JUST a kitty, they are never "just pets" they are beloved members of the family. They are best friends. They teach us to love, and to care for others, without judgement. They are always with us, even when they are gone. My thoughts and heart go out to you both! I cannot say how sorry I am for you guys! *hugs*