Jealousy is a Form of Lack!

Jealousy is a form of lack, it is based on the belief that there is not enough love for everyone; that in order for you to be loved, somebody else needs to be unloved. But, if there really is an abundance of love, more than enough for everyone, then the need for jealousy, and the anger that it is based upon, disappears.

The easiest way to disippate your anger is to change the limiting belief that it is stemming from. Anger is a feeling that states “I think what is going on here is unfair”. But, if we really are the architect of our reality, if we really do own our destiny, then all of life really is fair. So if we are angry, that means that we have a limiting belief that causes us to think that we really do not own our life. So then the purpose of anger is to point out a limiting belief to us, and thus, the cure for jealousy is to cure our own limiting beliefs about love.

Try this setup statement with EFT:

“Even though I have this belief that there is not enough love to go around, that if my significant other (friend, family member, etc.) loves somebody else, then I will be unloved, I choose to honor my jealousy, to honor my anger and listen to it. And I choose to change my limiting beliefs about love, that maybe there really is more than enough for everyone, and I choose to deeply and profoundly, love, accept, and forgive myself.”

Now this is a good start to tap on, but I recommend taking it a step further. Look to your past, prior to the age of six, and find a time when you felt the same jealous feelings, the feeling that there was not enough love to go around. Maybe it was when a sibling was born, maybe a close friend made a new friend and you felt left out. Heal this memory, and you can heal your limiting belief.

And if you are struggling with a jealous partner, they are just reflecting an aspect of you that is still wounded. Even if you are not the jealous one, you still probably have a form of jealousy and anger inside of you causing this reflection. Look deep inside for the memory and accompanying belief and you can empower your partner to heal as well.

Yes, there is more than enough love to go around, for you, and all those who are close to you!

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3 Responses to “Jealousy is a Form of Lack!”

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I will admit to feeling jealous, though my fiance is not a jealous type at all. At least, he pretends not to be.

Jealousy is a very selfish emotion, and I hate being selfish, so I often wonder why I feel so justified in my jealousy. I think our society tells us that jealousy is a healthy thing; our lovers don’t cheat on us because of lust or instinct, they cheat because they don’t love us anymore and are trying to steal our happiness away by leaving us.

I could probably go on and on about this subject. I will definitely do this.

Jealousy is a form of anger, of something “not feeling fair”, and is a very common way of dealing with our fear of inadequacy. We often place our self worth on our partner, making it their role to help us feel good about ourselves. I appreciate your candidness about this subject Jenna, it takes a lot of guts to check in with your feelings like this. Be well my friend!

Thanks for the great reminder about the role of jealousy. Not only does it point to our beliefs about scarcity, it also points to the way we define ourselves by external things (often material possessions).
Jealousy and envy are useful by reminding us of these two beliefs. It is a great way to get back aligned with our true nature – one that lives in abundance and unidentified with ego.
Thanks again,
Kevin, writer (www.thoughtsunearthed.com)