Accept that he shows love for you in other ways

Dear Dating Girl: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. When we first started dating, we were in a long-distance relationship and only saw each other on weekends. During the first year, he was passionate, texting me throughout the day or calling just to say he missed me. We have recently moved in together and I feel his passion waning. I still send him texts throughout the day, but he rarely responds. He says it's just because he's busy. I know he loves me, but I feel he's become so comfortable in our relationship that he doesn't feel the need to try as hard anymore. Is this to be expected later in a relationship? How do I get my boyfriend to romance me once again without damaging his ego?

Wanting More Woo

Dear Wanting: At the beginning of a relationship, both parties are doing all they can to keep the other party interested. Now that he is secure, he probably thinks, "she knows how I feel, there's no need to constantly prove it now." I know you want the romantic gestures but asking for them will probably make him feel resentful, and have him wondering why you still need this stuff, given that, in his mind, he's committed. Try to accept that he shows his love for you in other ways, ways that might not be your version of romantic, but are romantic to him.

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