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This is it! Forgiveness offers all of this. Forgiveness is the answer that answers everything. It is the perfect answer, given to imperfect questions, meaningless requests, half-hearted willingness to hear, and less than halfway diligence and partial trust.

In less than an hour you can be free from your inner anguish or inner turmoil regardless of your situation, event or circumstance. Whether it is forgiving yourself, forgiving another or asking for forgiveness from another, you will experience not just the concept of forgiveness but the reality of what forgiveness is… beyond religion, beyond any moral dictums, beyond any attempts to “convert” you into something you are not.

Read ON to discover what forgiveness is all about and how you can accomplish it for yourself

Dear Fellow Traveler,

If you have reached this site, you have undoubtedly heard of forgiveness. Whether you are Christian, Jew, Muslim, Buddhist or New Age seeker, forgiveness is at the heart of all of these great religions and teachings. The promise for happiness and peace is no farther than this. Yet, we all have great resistances to forgiveness. Partly, it is because we really don't understand what forgiveness is but more importantly, we don't know how to accomplish it. When you can understand the simplicity of forgiveness and follow the steps to its accomplishment, the gifts that forgiveness offers are just around the corner.

I want to introduce myself. My name is Cort Curtis. I am a psychologist in private practice in Laguna Niguel, California. I have been practicing psychotherapy for the past 34 years and I have worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them deal with personal problems and emotional pain. I started out as a clinical social worker in 1974 and when I went back to get my doctorate, it was an opportunity for me to really explore the whole nature of psychotherapy and what it was REALLY about.

What I observed about most people who came to see me for help was that there were two basic complaints that people had coming in to therapy. One was a complaint about something that happened in the past. Or the other was a complaint about someone else's behavior.

Now one of the things that I have observed about my own life is that there are two basic things that are impossible to change: the past and other people's behavior. Now if it is true (and I believe it is obvious to you that it is) that it is impossible to change the pastand it is impossible to change another person and if this was the complaint that most people had coming into therapy AND if this was never addressed in a therapeutic way then therapy was going to last a very, very long time...virtually forever with very little change and very little results.

So, what I discovered was that therapy was never about the troubling situations or events that occurred in people's lives and in their relationships but rather it was about the emotions that grew out of these events that continued to operate in the present.That was the problem.

We’ve all experienced upsetting situations and events but we will never heal the pain by going over and over the story of the event. This is where most of us get stuck. We go over and over in our minds about “what happened”, we replay the event over and over, we talk about “what happened” with our friends and even our therapist. BUT no matter how many times we have gone over the story the basic facts still remain. What happened, happened… and the event is in fact OVER! But what remains are the emotions ABOUT the event… and THAT is what STILL LIVES in us that we carry from the past. So where does the healing of the situation occur?

The healing lies in dealing with the emotions. And that is usually the LAST place we look when trying to deal with an upsetting situation.

Now don’t get me wrong. We all need to tell our story about “what happened” in our lives. And it can be very comforting and even healing to tell our story and have it be HEARD by another human being. But if we are avoiding the emotions, the telling of our story will only be a temporary salve that covers the wound but IT WILL NOT HEAL THE WOUND.

So what I discovered was that therapy, at its core, was learning to forgive. And forgiveness is the true healing of the wound that occurred. It is the healing of the emotions.

So, what exactly IS forgiveness? Let’s get right down to the essentials that crosses all religious boundaries. What is forgiveness in a real, practical sense? I’ll give you a formal definition.

We often think of forgiveness as something that we do for another’s sake like we are somehow doing them a “favor” when we stand above them and “forgive them for their sins” or for their horrible or terrible behavior. In our effort to be a “good person” (or at least what we believe is a “good” person) we are doing something “for” them by “forgiving” THEM for their “sinful” behavior.

Forgiveness has nothing to do with evaluating the rightness or wrongness of another’s actions or whether the other is a “sinner”, a criminal, “mean” or just plain annoying. In fact, if forgiveness was dependent on whether another’s actions were right or wrong, we would never forgive. And that is one of the reasons we don’t. If the other does something terrible or hurtful, we say (or think) in so many ways that that person doesn't deserveforgiveness. And not only do they not deserve forgiveness but they deserve punishment and judgment and retribution and in some situations maybe even death! When we forgive we are not doing anything for the other.

That is not to say that the “other” wouldn’t benefit from forgiveness. After all, if I am “holding” negative emotions toward another for something that they did (or for any other reason), and I have an on-going relationship with that person then that person is certainly not going to feel "at ease" around me. And when I am finally able to “let go” of those negative emotions then that person would certainly begin to feel more at ease in my presence. But the purpose of forgiveness is NOT directly for that person’s benefit; it is for my benefit because when I finally let go, when I am finally FREE of these negative emotions only THEN can I return to peace of mind!

So, if forgiveness is the answer to everything, if it is truly the source of our peace of mind, joy and happiness, how come we don’t do it? As I mentioned earlier, the problem is not only that we don’t know what forgiveness is, it is not only that we don’t know how to accomplish it but we all have enormous resistances to it. I call these resistances “ego” resistances. It is our ego that won’t let go because all of these negative emotions are what the ego is made up of. So if you ask “the ego” to “let go” the ego will fight and kick and scream because, to the ego, to “let go” means that the ego will no longer exist. And because you are so identified with your ego, you will feel like you won’t exist. BUT…

Your ego is not “who you are” and you can only know that fact when you have succeeded in letting go of it. When you let go of your ego, and all of the negative emotions that go to make it up, you discover that your true self is still around but a much happier human being.

If you are not an ego, then who are you? Consider this: “who you are” is NOT your thoughts, you are NOT an image; who you are is NOT your feelings. Who you are is NOT even your body—that hunk of flesh that is pressing into the chair you’re sitting in. Consider, that who you are is already whole and complete, perfect. That means there is nothing you must change, nothing you must do to be whole and complete. You already are.

Can you get that? Not just believe it, can you get it, can you let that in?

You knew it at one point in your life, perhaps as a very young child, and you knew you were whole and complete and perfect just the way you were.

And then you got socialized into the ways of the world!

Through the experiences of life—through the hurts, the wounds, the rejections, the ridicules, the invalidations from others AND through our own guilts and shames we have taken on from others and ourselves—we became saddled with what we call “emotional baggage.” You and I carry emotional baggage from the past that we have never worked through and we have now identified with that baggage as “who we are”.

You are a whole and complete person who HAS emotional baggage and the only problem in your life is that you’re now identified with that emotional baggage. When you identify with your emotions, it is the part calling itself the whole; it is like the drop of water calling itself the ocean or the sunbeam calling itself the sun. It is simply not accurate.

You are an extension of God and being an extension of God, you are a child of God and being a child of God, you are made up of the same “stuff” of God and the “stuff” of God is stuff like love, peace, joy and happiness. You are a creator just like God and you love to create.

So what are the barriers to forgiveness? There are many but all of our resistances have to do with FEAR. Let’s look at some basic ones.

Obstacle one: “If I forgive I might be approving of someone’s negative behavior.”

Forgiveness has nothing to do with approving or disapproving of someone’s behavior. Nor does forgiveness have anything to do with evaluating the rightness or wrongness of someone’s behavior. That is NOT to say that people (you and me) don’t do some horrible and nasty things. Let’s face it, we all do. We are human, and as human beings we can be pretty nasty to one another at minimum and abusive and murderous at the extreme.

So if we really believe that forgiveness is for another’s benefit AND the other has done something offensive to us then of course we would never forgive because we say (in so many ways) the other doesn’t deserve forgiveness. BUT remember, forgiveness is NOT for the other’s benefit. It is for ours and we are not going to change the fact that someone has done what they did or is doing. We work on ourselves; we take responsibility for our emotions and we learn to come to a state of peace through letting go.

If someone is genuinely doing something that is offensive we deal with them from a new place; we address our feelings from a place of personal responsibility and acknowledge their negative behavior and we recognize our choices. But we are under no illusion that WE are going to change THEM. That is not to say that the other won’t change but theyare responsible for that change, NOT me.

And consider this: if we are approaching the other from a state of forgiveness (which has nothing to do with approving or disapproving of their behavior), consider the greater likelihood that the other would “change” when we approach them from this place vs attacking them, criticizing them, getting back at them and so on. Of course there are no guarantees that someone might “change” but forgiveness is NOT dependent on the other “changing.”

Obstacle two: “The other has to say they are sorry or apologize, and until they do I cannot forgive them”

This obstacle assumes that forgiveness is for the benefit of the other. Remember, forgiveness is for my benefit and it is my responsibility to find my own inner peace. If I am waiting until the other “changes” or waiting until they apologize I might be waiting until my deathbed and still die unhappy. If I really believe it is true that I cannot forgive unless the other apologizes then I make my inner peace dependent on another’s behavior. It is simply not true.

Obstacle three: “I might lose control”

The fear of “losing control” is one of the greatest illusions of human beings especially when it comes to our emotions. At the very heart of “holding on” to certain negative emotions is the fear of losing control. We really believe that “holding on” is going to control someone’s behavior. If we have been hurt, for example, we say (in so many ways), “What if I forgive and the other does something to hurt me again, so I better not forgive because I don't want to get hurt again” as if holding on is going to control another's actions! You and I are not in control of another’s behavior. The ONLY behavior that you and I are in control of is our own.

Obstacle four: “I should forgive”

This is one of the most insidious obstacles of all, to tell myself that I “should” forgive or be more forgiving. And if you have read this far, you might very well hear this whole article as “you should be more forgiving.”

In fact you “should not” forgive. If you think you “should” forgive, you will never. And you know it. Forgiveness IS possible and you COULD forgive, it is true, but when you tell yourself you “should” forgive you are invalidating the emotions you feel. Forgiveness is NOT about invalidating the emotions that you feel.

In fact, you “should” feel what you feel. The ONLY PROBLEM with any emotion (“unforgiveness”) is how long we hang on to them. For example, it is not bad or wrong to feel anger or resentment. Normal human emotion! But many people go to their grave angry and bitter, carrying old hurts from the past. AND IT NEED NOT BE!

In just a few minutes you can experience what forgiveness is all about. Take any situation, event or circumstance that you are struggling with and use it with the process. It could be a situation of forgiving yourself, forgiving another or asking for forgiveness from another. It all begins with you, your own inner work, your own releasing of the emotions you are dealing with. Through a series of short videos I will take you step-by-step to the accomplishment of forgiveness. Any situation that you've been struggling with will do. If you are not at peace in some area of your life, it is worth going through the process.

The Cost?

The forgiveness process is not just an eBook with some good information that you read and then try to apply. This is not an eBook. Rather, it is an eProcess. I actually take you through the process. It is something that you do with my guidance. There is no magic to it. When you can unravel all of your resistances to forgiveness, you will drop the troubling emotions just like the leaves fall in autumn.

It is simple and it works. It works because of one simple premise: you want to be happy and you deserve to be happy but you can’t be happy and miserable at the same time! You can release these emotions in a moment and I will take you through it.

After you purchase the eProcess. You can take the process as many times as you want or need. After all, forgiveness is NOT a one time event. Life offers us a continuous supply of opportunities to practice forgiveness (remember what Jesus said to Peter? Hint: 70 times 7!). But you can actually get good at it where you can let go of negative emotions at will. All it takes is an instant. You can actually get to a point where the moment a negative emotion comes in is the same moment you let it go.