It's happened to me. Texting he was very romantic and was always all talk, but when it came to doing things all he wanted to do is stay indoors, and he would always choose his friends over me. I thought it was a relationship and he would always blame work for not seeing me often. He would always talk about places that he would take me but 3 months later we never went to a single place. He was also very verbally abusing when I said something he didn't like. I always told him that he made me feel like just some chick and he didn't make me feel special but he would always deny it. I'm glad I got out of that one though

My best friend for two years used me just so he could touch me... He dumped me after that and I feel so abused... I haven't been able to think the same about men after this and it's all because of him. This was going on for a while and I didn't want to say anything to anyone because he said I would regret it if I did. But I finally told him no after a long time of him doing this and it feels good. It's not fun when you get hurt like that.

I did my life back I can use can I try it and I love that I can going through my life is going to be not good in life o have been going myself and happened to me a lot my problem of ex with a boy and I need only myself and going to care of u and going ex o do that I love and going in my bread okay I need I have feeling too

I used to think feeling anxious was just "butterflies", and men who made me feel nauseous were "exciting". Now I know those gut feelings are my intuition, which is never wrong. It's normal to feel a little excited around an attractive love prospect, but I'm careful now not to confuse excitement with toxic men.

I was seeing a guy it was kind of long distance anyways that's a long story but suddenly he stopped talking to me and immediately after he started posting pictures with another girl really hurt me bcs I honestly thought we had something special or at least important enough for there to be a conversation before it ends anyways I cut all ties with him and he sends me a random "hey" message I replied with "hi..." Bcs I didn't want to seem bitter but I didn't want him to think shit was all gravy

Uuhhmm.. i got someone and now he's staying at NewYork and im here in Philippines. He visits me every 2 months and treats me very well. I cant say any bad thing bout him coz he's really a gentleman but what makes me worried is bcoz he is a player before and im afraid he's just playing around again :(

OK Steph5 don't feel too bad. Believe me you will get over him. I think women should be thought things about some men. Men want to sleep with women one way or the other because that is how they are made. If they like you sleeping with you is their way of expressing this. Now a good man will wait if he likes you and have that connection. A bad man's intention is that he will want to sleep with you come what may and if it is just about sex the chances are he will pretend to like you or not esp if he knows that he has messed about with your head. So I will say it isn't we women are emotional creatures and we like to be happy and make our men happy but take a step back if things don't seem to be going your way. Listen to your gut and get rid. Also not all men are like that so it is up to us to not mix love with sex. Just saying.

I feel I was tricked by this guy into thinking he wanted more than what he actually wanted. He lied to me to get sex and I still feel so violated. I realized what an arrogant spoiled brat he is and dropped him on his ass which he didn't like much. So now he's messing with my head and won't leave me alone. Im just trying to shake off that sickening feeling and consider him the ugliest cruelest thing I could ever let in my life that way. Lies are extremely hurtful, downright cruel. There's a lesson in all this after I get over the serious mind fuck

Steph5 . Please stop beating yourself up! Direct your anger at him not yourself! You win some,you lose some dear. Does not sound as if you lost a wonderful man at all - more like a boil on your butt! Laugh at yourself a while and put it up to experience. And never ever give up your moral standards !

@Ask The Universe, I feel the exact same way about what I thought was a relationship. In the summer he stood me up 3 times after making plans with me. He never initiated conversations and he never took me out and always wanted to stay indoors. When school came around, I went to university and he spent his fall semester abroad (he was in a National Outdoor Leadership School course with no technology). Knowing this, I hand wrote him 82 letters and personalized them and gave them to him to read while he was on his trip. He said he'd write to me while he was away... Never did. When he came back after Thanksgiving and I saw him I got sick to my stomach. I thought it was because I was excited to see him after all this time.. but as time went on, I realized that wasn't the case. I continued going to school (an hour away from him), and I'd continue initiating conversations to try to talk to him, and wouldn't hear from him for 5 days straight. In December, he began to get very physical with me in ways that I was not comfortable with (sexually). I personally am planning on waiting until marriage until engaging in sexual activity; but that didn't matter to him. He forced me into situations and made me extremely uncomfortable - and I got sick to my stomach every single time I'd come home from school because his behavior became a regular thing... To top it off; he did all that and followed up by saying he didn't want anything "too serious". He didn't care about anything that was going on in my life, and he couldn't even remember my birthday!!! I broke up with him in early March, but after 4 months of dry-heaving because of extreme anxiety (because of him) and 1 month crying over him because I cared about him so much only to get treated so so so terribly, I feel awful, and I can't believe I put myself through that...I found out that he didn't have feelings for me, and he knew that before leaving for his semester abroad (in September)... he just kept me around so he could have his fun... I've never felt so hurt or disrespected or used in my life :( Why I waited so long to leave, I don't know why... But I feel so silly for thinking he actually cared, it's very clear now that he didn't; and that hurts, especially with all he did to me. It hurts to give 110% being loyal and caring and loving and respecting of someone only for them not to give you the time of day. it's gonna take a while to heal, that's for sure :(

Met someone who did all of the above and I had no concept or idea it was a fling. I liked him very much, but sadly it was all about sex. I am embarrassed to say I thought it was a relationship🙀! It has put me off dating anyone else this happened 15 months ago and still embarrassed that I let myself be used. Lesson well learnt. I should have known better I am a mature woman. Thing I still care about him but have refused to be used just for sex.