carry on the family name?

In stevens family, there are 4 or 5 (cant remember) Steven Lamar(s). Well its tradition to name your first son Steven Lamar and I dont have a problem with it if we have a son, but steven doesnt want to. I think his dad is a little upset cuz he is the only son he has and if we dont name our son Steven Lamar then the tradition is over... should I pressure steven into following through with it or stick with whatever we decide.. maybe Aden. That is if its a boy.

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I would come to some sort of agreement with your dh. While traditions are nice and all, your dh knows firsthand how it is living with a name that others have...and maybe it's that knowledge that makes he want to come up with a different name.

Don't try to pressure him. In DHs family they have the same tradition but with the name Albert Claude. Thankfully DH was the 2nd born. BIL hates it and has made it pretty clear that the tradition is over! Maybe you guys can compromise with the middle name?

My DH has the same first name as his dad and grandpa (but DH goes by his middle name). His grandpa is a sr and dad is a jr but DH has a different middle name so he isn't a 3rd. It gets a bit confusing, especially now that DH and his dad own a business together. I have no desire to give a son the same first name, but I'd be willing to use it as a middle name. And my DH is fine with that. In fact, he thinks it's kind of a pain to share his first name with his dad because people get confused.

My great grandfather, grandfather, father and brother are all named Gerret Martin. My brother had 5 boys (no girls) and didn't follow the tradition with any of them...he gave one of the youngest boys Gerret as a middle name. He was my dad's only son, so that tradition ended with him (the boys are Daniel, Matthew, Mark, David and John Paul- they are very Catholic :-)

I wouldn't pressure him into it. Our son/daughter will be the first in DH's line to not have the name Lee. My DH doens't have that name, but since his older brother only had a daughter and is done having children, the "responsibility" would fall on us to carry on the name.

DH doesn't want to do it either, and I'm fine with it.

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My husband is a III and he doesnt want to name our son after the family name. He doesnt get along with his biological dad and doenst even know the origional Joseph. His stepmom and dad seriously think we are carrying on the name...they assumed and I dont give a ratsass what they think

I personally think if he doesnt want to carry it on then the issue shouldnt be pressed, I would ask why he doesnt want to though, he might have his reasons.

Totally up to both of you, don't be bullied by his family on what to name your LO. My hubby wanted to do a Jr. but I'm very against it, personal feelings that the baby needs it's own identity, not to be named after somebody else. Again, just my opinion!

My brother, Dad, Grandpa, and Greatgrandpa are all Billy's. To make it worse on my Mom's side I have an Uncle Bill, Uncle Billy, and cousin Billy. I'm really hoping my brother doesn't carry on the tradition. Does anyone else think it's odd that in my Mom's family out of 5 girls, 3 married Billys? My grandma's sister was also married to a Billy and when he died she married another Billy. It's way to many for one family!

Maybe you can compromise and use Steven as a middle name? Traditions are great but if I were in my brothers place I'm not sure I'd want to "share" a name. Your husband has spent his life dealing with the same thing, I think it's his decision to carry it on or not.