Aries (March 21 – April 19)

You can’t stand the idea of not getting what you want exactly how you want it. So you keep on trying and trying even if it’s wrong for you just because you can’t accept any kind of ‘defeat.’ You’re used to getting what you want and sometimes you don’t know any other way.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You don’t get attached easily, but once you do, it’s almost impossible to get it out of your system. It becomes a part of you and when you’re without that part, you feel that a piece of you is missing and you long for it to come back to you and complete you.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

You don’t let go because you don’t want to lose anyone; even if they were horrible to you. You always want to keep people in your life and make sure you are on good terms so when someone leaves your life unexpectedly, it makes you sad and you try to pull them back into your life because you don’t want to completely lose them.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

You don’t like unhappy endings. You don’t like distance. You don’t like separation. You don’t want to live without the one you love and you believe in fighting for them and showing them what they mean to you and how much you’re willing to sacrifice for them. Your intense love can sometimes prevent you from moving on because you don’t see the silver lining or that you’re better off without some people.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You like to dominate and you like to have the last word, so when someone leaves you or when they walk away when you weren’t ready to let them go, you become even more attached to them. It has to be your decision and on your terms, otherwise, you will just never let it go.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

You’re a perfectionist and you don’t make any hasty decisions, especially when it comes to your love life. So when something doesn’t work out after all the time and effort you invested in it, it becomes like a lost business deal to you and you try to so hard to revive it or find a way to make it a huge success again. You have a hard time believing that you made a wrong decision so you try to make it right.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

You could let go if you really wanted to but you like being comfortable and you prefer to stick to what’s old rather than start something new. You get lazy and complacent so you’d rather just fix what’s broken instead of exchanging it for something better or brand new.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

If you’re not over someone, the idea of them with someone else can literally kill you. You get anxious and jealous when you think they might be talking to someone else. So you do whatever it takes to win them back because you will just not let another one take them away from you. They are yours. You also know that no one will love them the way you do.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

You can’t let go because you still associate everything with them. When you’re traveling, you think about them, when you’re with your friends, you talk about them. When you’re shopping, you see something they might like and you want to buy it for them. It’s all in your head. Your mind can’t let them go because everything reminds you of them.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

You don’t fall for a lot of people, very few ones can actually capture your heart so you find it hard to let go of someone because you think you won’t be able to find a similar connection again. You convince yourself that what you had was the best and you will never find something better so you keep going back instead of moving on.

You believe in fairytales and love stories because your creative mind convinces you that life mimics art. So you wait for their epic comeback or their grand gesture or their sincere apology. You think this is how all great love stories unfold, people leave each other to come back stronger and never part ways. If only.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

You have a hard time letting people go because you think your deepest secrets will go to waste. Once you have a strong emotional connection with someone, you show your vulnerable side and that means spilling secrets and sharing really private things with that person. So when it ends, you feel bad for sharing a very personal part of you with someone who didn’t stay and you try to turn it all around.

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.

Living with a chronic illness like Hidradenitis Suppurativa alone can be bad for your mental health. You owe it to yourself to find a significant other who wants to be there for you through good times and bad.