Newly engaged Real Housewives of Atlanta star, Kandi Burruss says she may be in love, but mama ain’t raise no fool. I’m joking. She didn’t say those words exactly, but if I had the superhuman ability to read minds, I’d bet my last ten bucks that’s what she’s thinking. The singer-songwriter discussed her recent engagement in a blog post on Bravo.com and our girl was not at all shy about continuing to discuss her stance on prenuptial agreements. Check out what she had to say.

“Since I’m newly engaged, I’m going to touch on a couple of things in the last couple of episodes that would be related to marriage and family. First I’ll go back to my conversation withPorshaabout pre-nups. I do believe in pre-nups. I know that some people feel if you are truly in love and are planning to be dedicated to your marriage that a pre-nup somehow means the person requesting the pre-nup is expecting the marriage to fail. I don’t agree. I feel like it’s a safety precaution. Just like if you have a fire extinguisher in your home it doesn’t mean you expect it to burn down, but you’re just prepared to put out the fire before it starts if need be. I’ve had friends and associates who didn’t get a pre-nup say “they didn’t need one,” “she or he would never do that,” etc. But then later when they got divorced, things got ugly, and the person tried to get everything, they were like, “I would have never thought they would have done that to me,” “she or he is not the person I married,” blah, blah, blah. I feel like people do some crazy and vindictive things when they’re hurt, so I think there should be agreements set in place while everyone is thinking clearly. That way if D-day ever comes (and hopefully it won’t, but if it does), then it doesn’t have to get uglier and more hurtful than it already is.I hope Porsha and Kordell’s marriage lasts for a lifetime, but I will say that I was shocked when she told me that they didn’t do a pre-nup. I don’t know why I was shocked, but I was. Well, some people like things the good ol’ fashion way, and there’s nothing wrong with that. To each his own!”

We ain’t mad at you, girl.

What would you do if you were in Kandi’s shoes?

Jazmine Denise is a news writer for Madame Noire. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise

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nani

Get a pre-nup!!! if you are in love you will never need it. It means nothing if you never need it, and everything if you do.

Candacey Doris

I think a prenup is a good idea for everyone, no matter what kind of money you’re making. Lay it all out, property, custody, what to do if you kill his interfering mother…Get it all out from the start.

Sheena

Now I would leave you a$$ clean alone if the topic of you killing my mother came up in prenup discussions lol

Candacey Doris

Lol. Some people have some INVOLVED mothers in law. Not me (single) but i have seen some things! Some couples need to get out how involved the family is allowed to be, is what i’m saying. Along with how money should be spent, etc.

Na Na

Ready to sign them papers! You can sing that at the beginning of the marriage or during the divorce….you choose. I don’t have 100 mil or even 100 thou so it would be laughable for me to request my fiancee to sign a pre-nup.

1st timer

Something tells me if this was a man saying this, then the comments would be going a little different.
btw…She looks crazy in that pic

Candacey Doris

Nah. It’s about time people got smart about their money. Men and women, you can lose it all if things go wrong. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best, right?

guest5

Agree..Men & Women should protect themselves. Divorce rates are too high not to protect yourself in some way. It’s beyond me why male athletes in paticular don’t get pre-nups. Kobe Bryant escaped losing a lot of his $$ yet AGAIN! Cheaper to keep her azz. He’s estimated to be worth at least $150 mill and some lawyers say she may could have gotten up to $75 mill b/c he didn’t sign a pre-nup..WTF! She has NEVER made a shoot in a game…had to workout..etc.
Why should someone get all that money b/c they signed a piece of paper to be married? That’s crazy! Also, crazy how the make celebs pay all that child support money and don’t adjust it according to the guy’s finances over time. It doesn’t take 10 grand a week to care for a child! SMH. Get a darn pre-nup!

DoinMe

I disagree for many reasons, but mainly, because I don’t believe in pre-nups. If a man asked me to sign one, I would be highly offended. If people are that concerned about losing their assets, than maybe marriage isn’t for them. Do like Oprah and Stedman and just be done with it.

SheBe

I agree. I think you set the marriage up for failure when you sign. We didn’t sign one because early in the dating phase we got all of those types of topics out of the way.

guest5

As a woman, I agree with Kandi. As long as your spouse is not hidding info. about money/accounts and is up front then I don’t see a pre-nup as a bad thing if you both agree..esp. for women. It’s not like if they divorced in 5 years he wouldn’t get anything; he would just get what was accumulated during those years not before then. To each it’s own but as a woman who works as a manager in corporate America, I get paid well but I’m still underpaid compared to males who do a similar job that i perform. It’s harder for women to achieve accolades/promotions and the pay you deserve when males dominate being execs. At this point i would lean towards a pre-nup but it would mostly be decided based on how my partner whould manage his money and what we agree would work best.

It appears that Kandi has worked very had to achieve the wealth she has; so did Todd. Most of her money was made by writing songs. However, their income/wealth disparity is very large. A few thousand dollars when it comes to the average person doesn’t compare to being separated by millions; that’s a HUGE gap. And should they get divorced and it does get ugly…Kandi could very likely lose a mil or two; money which was made when he was nowhere in the picture. IMO women don’t get many second chances to re-cup some of what they may lose in a marriage without a pre-nup compared to a male. Like it or not…It’s a Man’s world.

JaneDoe

It really isn’t. I am def getting one when I get married. Not for nothing but I need to know exactly what I am getting into and also that in case of a divorce my kids, house, ,finances are taken care of. Its not a bad thing at all. Even if you don’t have a lot of money

realadulttalk

As she should…

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On a side note, I think Kandi would benefit from a few derma brasion sessions and a better foundation.

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Hell to the yeah I would have dude sign a pre-nup. Its way different if you two married while you had modest means and grew into wealth together in that case that person was with you when you had little and supported you and stood by you. But if you are already established before you two get together, you absolutely get that pre-nup.

JaneDoe

Thats right Kandi. Don’t be no fool. Even tho I am sure her mom was on it.