Charlize & Stuart Are Married! Kinda

Charlize & Stuart Are Married! Kinda

Charlize Theron and Stuart Townsend have been together for almost seven years now, and if you've been wondering when the wedding will be, you could be waiting for a long time. Apparently these two decided to skip the ceremony and the legal binding and jump right to calling each other husband and wife. Here's more:

"I'm married," Townsend told PEOPLE this week. "I didn't do a church wedding or anything, but we're married. We're husband and wife."

"We love each other and we want to spend our lives together," the 34-year-old actor said about his nearly seven-year relationship with Theron, 32, who he calls "the greatest woman I've ever met."

"We didn't have a ceremony," he added. "I don't need a certificate or the state or the church to say otherwise. So no there's no big official story on a wedding, but we are married. ... I consider her my wife and she considers me her husband."

Well, to each his own right? We would've loved to see beautiful Charlize all decked out in white, but we all know by now that she's not always the most traditional type of girl.

My mom and My Brother did the Same Thing, Fact the If you get In front of a Judge you're Married, I Mean Legally Married, If you do the Same in front of a Minister, Rabbi, Priest, Then Married too however you have to still face the Judge to Confirm you're Marriage, If you don't you're Legally Not Married You are though wasting you're Money and Planning on Detail, Trust Stuart and Charlize are like most real People They don't have the time or Money for a big Wedding so they have to perform their Ceremony in front of a Judge or it won't matter.Some words you People need to live by.

My mom and My Brother did the Same Thing, Fact the If you get In front of a Judge you're Married, I Mean Legally Married, If you do the Same in front of a Minister, Rabbi, Priest, Then Married too however you have to still face the Judge to Confirm you're Marriage, If you don't you're Legally Not Married You are though wasting you're Money and Planning on Detail, Trust Stuart and Charlize are like most real People They don't have the time or Money for a big Wedding so they have to perform their Ceremony in front of a Judge or it won't matter.
Some words you People need to live by.

My husband and I did not have a big wedding, in fact we didn't have a wedding at all. We just went and got married. AND it IS DIFFERENT - not because of the paper but because it is a deeper level of the relationship. Divorce statistics, are what they are, but don't not get married because you think it is only paper that makes a difference.

knde, plenty of women get screwed over when their husbands cheat, so let's not throw around facts based on your personal experiences and not on statistical data. "The institution of marriage serves a LEGAL purpose. It is no indication of how much you love or care for someone. I would think that would be blindingly obvious."I love my fiance so much that if he is in an accident, I want to KNOW I will be allowed to be there with him. I love him so much that if he is mentally incapacitated or terminal, I want to KNOW that his wishes will be carried out. Maybe others can leave this to chance, and hope it doesn't happen or it will work out in the end, but I love him enough to want to KNOW these things as fact. So yes, it doesn serve a legal purpose, but to say love doesn't factor in there is just ridiculous.

knde, plenty of women get screwed over when their husbands cheat, so let's not throw around facts based on your personal experiences and not on statistical data.
"The institution of marriage serves a LEGAL purpose. It is no indication of how much you love or care for someone. I would think that would be blindingly obvious."
I love my fiance so much that if he is in an accident, I want to KNOW I will be allowed to be there with him. I love him so much that if he is mentally incapacitated or terminal, I want to KNOW that his wishes will be carried out. Maybe others can leave this to chance, and hope it doesn't happen or it will work out in the end, but I love him enough to want to KNOW these things as fact. So yes, it doesn serve a legal purpose, but to say love doesn't factor in there is just ridiculous.

Agree completely with jimmalou1978 and pinkelephant. I'm engaged, and to me, the practical reasons for getting married are so that we have a say in cases of accidents, illness, emergencies, etc. Yes, there might be individual cases where people had no problems, but you know, I'm not willing to take that risk if my husband is in the ER.
Not to mention, the whole "we're in love so who needs a piece of paper" is very trendy and all, but ask my best friend how it worked out for her, now a single mother of two with no financial support whatsoever from the "husband." She has yet to get child support, let alone anything else. I guess when you have money, you don't have to worry about these things, but for the average person, I think there is something to be said for doing things the traditional way.

Agree completely with jimmalou1978 and pinkelephant. I'm engaged, and to me, the practical reasons for getting married are so that we have a say in cases of accidents, illness, emergencies, etc. Yes, there might be individual cases where people had no problems, but you know, I'm not willing to take that risk if my husband is in the ER.Not to mention, the whole "we're in love so who needs a piece of paper" is very trendy and all, but ask my best friend how it worked out for her, now a single mother of two with no financial support whatsoever from the "husband." She has yet to get child support, let alone anything else. I guess when you have money, you don't have to worry about these things, but for the average person, I think there is something to be said for doing things the traditional way.

Definitely. My dad has been with his longtime girlfriend for 15 years now, and guess what? If she dies before him, he's out on his ear, because they are not "married", and her kids are going to get all she's got. She's not made out a will that specifies what (if anything) he gets. I'm so opposed to them not getting married for that reason.
Grow up, and get the piece of paper. No, it does not change how you feel inside, but it does provide some kind of security. My husband can't just throw me out on my ear without paying to get rid of me.
I've been through a divorce, and no, they are not fun. Custody hearings are not fun, either. But at least you can get somewhere legally if you married when something DOES happen to your spouse. You can't even divulge health information to anyone with HIPAA, and that most particularly applies to "significant others". You have no legal basis for signing anything that pertains to their care, cannot make legal decisions if they are mentally incapacitated.
Sorry for the long post, but it's something I have a bit of a soapbox about.

Definitely. My dad has been with his longtime girlfriend for 15 years now, and guess what? If she dies before him, he's out on his ear, because they are not "married", and her kids are going to get all she's got. She's not made out a will that specifies what (if anything) he gets. I'm so opposed to them not getting married for that reason.Grow up, and get the piece of paper. No, it does not change how you feel inside, but it does provide some kind of security. My husband can't just throw me out on my ear without paying to get rid of me.I've been through a divorce, and no, they are not fun. Custody hearings are not fun, either. But at least you can get somewhere legally if you married when something DOES happen to your spouse. You can't even divulge health information to anyone with HIPAA, and that most particularly applies to "significant others". You have no legal basis for signing anything that pertains to their care, cannot make legal decisions if they are mentally incapacitated.Sorry for the long post, but it's something I have a bit of a soapbox about.

How can she say they are already married unless they know what it's like? Goldie had already been married, and been through a divorce. She knew. I lived with my husband 6 years before we got married, and being married IS different than living together.

Here's my thing: if you don't believe in convention and tradition then why bother with the traditional titles? Just queer (in the gimme a break form) if you ask me. Grow up, get over it, sign the paper, take the tax break. And if you don't? Don't complain to anyone if you don't have any rights as a family member if she goes into the hospital. And don't whine if her family throws you out of your home on your behind if she dies (god forbid). Hello! This is why gays want the right to marry. These are the horrible things that happen to them because the "state" doesn't recognize their union. There are legal obligations and privledges that come with legal marriage. I think Charlize needs to mature a bit.

My point being the institution of marriage is a mockery of what it once was.I worked briefly in Social Services and I was made aware of tremendous discrimination towards men. Fighting for custody of a child was usually accompanied with acrimonious divorce proceedings. And I witnessed firsthand how failed marriages broke men. From personal experience and lots of discussions with male acquaintances, I am of the opinion that modern day marriage does NOT favour men. The institution of marriage serves a LEGAL purpose. It is no indication of how much you love or care for someone. I would think that would be blindingly obvious.

My point being the institution of marriage is a mockery of what it once was.
I worked briefly in Social Services and I was made aware of tremendous discrimination towards men. Fighting for custody of a child was usually accompanied with acrimonious divorce proceedings. And I witnessed firsthand how failed marriages broke men. From personal experience and lots of discussions with male acquaintances, I am of the opinion that modern day marriage does NOT favour men.
The institution of marriage serves a LEGAL purpose. It is no indication of how much you love or care for someone. I would think that would be blindingly obvious.

uh, you're not serious are you, knde? If so, may I politely suggest some counseling? Every point you made works both ways, other than the custody argument (and it's vastly improved - my brother got custody of his 3 kids, and one wasn't even his bio kid, and the mother wasn't even as bad as Britney). what about men who trade in their spouses of 20 years for "trophy wives"? And what does that have to do with this story anyway? It's not like you can't sue for Palimony.

From Wikipedia (not the most reliable, but it's late and will have to do):
"Marriage sometimes establishes the legal father of a woman's child; establishes the legal mother of a man's child; gives the husband or his family control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife or her family control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property; establishes a joint fund of property for the benefit of children; or establishes a relationship between the families of the husband and wife. (See Edmund Leach's article in "Marriage, Family, and Residence," edited by Paul Bohannan and John Middleton).
I see NOTHING about love in there. Bleurgh! I certainly wouldn't miss the death of "marriage".

From Wikipedia (not the most reliable, but it's late and will have to do):"Marriage sometimes establishes the legal father of a woman's child; establishes the legal mother of a man's child; gives the husband or his family control over the wife's sexual services, labor, and/or property; gives the wife or her family control over the husband's sexual services, labor, and/or property; establishes a joint fund of property for the benefit of children; or establishes a relationship between the families of the husband and wife. (See Edmund Leach's article in "Marriage, Family, and Residence," edited by Paul Bohannan and John Middleton).I see NOTHING about love in there. Bleurgh! I certainly wouldn't miss the death of "marriage".