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The notion that everyone's doing better than you is a ridiculous concern, unless you're a solid C student. It would be strange NOT to call such a concern ridiculous. And if everyone is ACTUALLY doing better than you, the problem is the fact that you're a C student, not the fact that everyone is doing better than you. And, again, that's not a ridiculous concern, it's one that has to be taken seriously.

And worth saying that law students are PRIVILEGED. Having downward spirals over getting some Bs is NOTHING compared to having them over much more serious and damaging issues. One thing that keeps me from spiralling is remembering how lucky I am, how much worse it can be and how much better off I am than so many other people despite whatever problems I’m having.

Ok, but I can fall into downward spirals really easily, too. I don’t have a label for why that is but I know I’ve been that way almost as long as I can remember. But it isn’t anyone else’s fault or anyone else’s responsibility to get me out, though I appreciate the love and support of those who can and do. My meltdowns are my issue that I have learned to deal with as best as I can. I can’t control what other people do and say.

More seriously, people are not entitled to uncritical reinforcement of their self-esteem. No doubt it would make them feel better if they were, but they aren't entitled to that. If I want to wear fishnet stockings, great for me, but I'm not entitled to validation from others.