I got this as a question on my Tumblr, and I felt I could share my thoughts here as well because it seems it's something a lot of people can relate to. I hope this comes to helpful to any of you guys reading.

I’m certain there are people who dislike me. Some I come to know through whisperings because I have eyes everyyyyywheeeeere.

However, I don’t feel the need to acknowledge them or do anything about it unless they are causing any real harm, especially to people I care about.

There is a popular quote that I like referencing for this topic, which gets the message across in a charming way:

“You can be a juicy, ripe peach and there’s still going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches, so you can either submit to someone’s criticism of you, or you can get on with the business of being your own amazing self who attracts other like-minded people that appreciate you.” — Dita Von Teese

I used to be affected if I found out someone didn’t like me, but I’ve come to learn that people can have very irrational reasons for hating someone.

Sometimes it is simply because your personalities and tastes are not compatible. And that’s fine and normal.

Other times, they can take a part of you and twist it and build up their own negative perception and convince themselves that they are right to hate you. But it doesn’t mean that what they think about you is true. Their image of you that they force upon themselves could be due to their own insecurities.

Although I sometimes say this jokingly, I find that in certain cases it’s not just simply “Haters gonna hate.” I also dislike it when people jump to the conclusion, “They just hate you because they’re jealous.” While it can be true at times, it’s not the ultimate answer. Let’s be real here. It is not surprising for people to feel a sense of dislike towards someone who is truly being a terrible human being. Did you do something that merits you being considered a terrible human being? If the answer is no, then good.

Here’s what you can do: If someone openly throws some harsh words at you, take a deep breath and try to objectively consider what they have to say. Maybe you can ask yourself things like:

Are they actually trying to offer constructive criticism but are lacking in tact and eloquence? If they seem interesting or intelligent enough, try to converse with them to understand. Maybe you’ll learn something new. If they are just bigots or trolls, pity them for a second, don’t dignify them with an answer or any more of your time, and move on. Be the better person.

Are they pointing out something you may have done wrong that you weren’t aware of? Do you think they are right? If they are, be humble enough to consider that you might have something to improve on. If they’re not, then just don’t mind them. If someone is really set on disliking you, you’re the last person they will allow to change their minds.

These are just general ideas, because it always depends on the context. But in the end, what’s important is that if you truly believe you did nothing wrong, then disregard them and walk away with your head held high.Hopefully you aren’t a sociopath.

You can’t please every single person in the world. And that’s okay. The people whose happiness and opinions should matter the most are your own, and those of the people you care about and care for you. If you focus on being your own fantastic self, you can feel sorry for your haters because they lost the opportunity to get to know the wonderful person you are.

But no really, this is pretty good advice! I needed it and I'll have to remind myself that I can't please everyone in the world. I'm still affected if someone doesn't like me, or if they talk about me and stuff (I eventually find out because I have eyes everyyyywheeeere too lol)... I guess I'm just the kind of person who wants to show people they can't get away with it buuuuut yeah, still. Why waste time if you know that they're not even trying to be constructive or just... trying, in general? Sometimes it's better to let them go and learn on their own with that kind of behaviour. That way you hold no responsibility of them and they have nobody else but themselves to blame.

I wish could I really believed in that principle. A lot of pressure came into me from my family since THEY EXPECTED SO MUCH OF ME. Especially having a relative who didn't listen slightly of my feelings, they mostly jump into conclusions because I was "too Negative" of the world when they were the ones who aren't helping much of the problem...I even get the same hatred of being slightly Multilingual in the family, because most of my family were trying to speak in English...and they most of it they were learned by me because I speak in English most of the time and I find it REALLY embarrassing...so embarrassing that (GUSTO KO TALAGA MAGMURA) I should have never speak in the language.

Lol I met someone in net who seems to hate me a lot, she's forcing the idea that she's right and full of pride.But seriously I pity this kind of people, I'll just pray for them. I guess there will always be haters even when someone appreciates you. This is a great post btw, everything is very well said!

I take your words for advice *bows deeply* and despite the seriousness of what you are saying, I can't help but look at the colours of the caption, Orange and Blue? *the fangirl in me squeal* ahahaha sorry sorry, just trying to lift up the mood a bit.

Anyhoo, personally I am happy to know that they are people like you. Doing what you do and enjoying them really made me happy at times ^^ so keep up the good work and I will keep cheering you on

it looks like the tumblr email/topic on hatin touched on everything pretty good. Everything is 50/50, yin and yang, up or down, half say white, half say black, on just about any issue under the sun. So if your really good at something, say cosplay, and you have a large fan base, there will inevitably be those who look at you and are going to be negative or say something stupid. I know because I used to be like this, now I just realize life is to short, and you Infinity are very gifted, rich with creativity and talent and it is a real joy looking at your work. Just live your life, just like the song tells us!

That is rather insightful advice, I really like that you reach down and brought up there can be legit criticism and just plain incompatibly. I've also seen from some 'haters' just be totally misunderstanding and can't tell the difference from past augments from the one they are raging on too. There's been many people I've talk to calmly and found that out. Some realize that's whats going on and others, can't admit and just stop talking.

The fact is you can't please everyone, and you shouldn't have to. That is just to much of a burden to carry on your shoulders. But like you said, how one deals with it is another matter. When I was younger, I took everything to heart and I was not in a good place, and I became a bitter person and I always thought I had to fight back. In the end I realised, that their opinions certainly weren't mine, and had to let it go. I wasn't going to let them control who I was anymore, and accepted that not everyone was going to like my quirky behaviour, and left it at that.

Now I am a mother of two, and when people say things, I listen to the words, and think, they mean nothing to me, they don't know the real me, I don't know the real me sometimes, and let their words disappear in thin air. If that bothers them, then it becomes their problem not mine.

Thank you for sharing your ideas on this, and I hope it helps others with this subject.

That's the best outlook on haters, I think I feel sorry for haters because they appear to not have anything else to do, but at the same time I kind of wish they could try to be a bit nicer first. Oh well, as you said, you can't please everyone ^^