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The Most Important Sexual Statistic You Need to Know

I think you all know this by now, but it bears repeating: intercourse is not the key to most women’s sexual satisfaction.

According to an important article in Psychology Today, intercourse can be great fun. And it makes lovers feel deeply connected. But contrary to what many men and women believe, intercourse is not the essence of lovemaking, as only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.

Other highlights:

* It’s perfectly normal for women not to have orgasms during intercourse.

* Penis size doesn’t matter to most women’s sexual satisfaction.

* Lasting a long time during intercourse may not matter as much as men think it does.

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PGL

For all of you who say size doesn’t matter, try dating a guy with a micropenis (real term, not exaggeration.) Or for that matter, a very large penis. Changes how you feel about a relationship. So yes, within reason, size does matter. And for someone who is part of the 25% this can be a deal breaker.

Have to agree with PGL #31..within reason, size does matter. More importantly, girth matters, not so much length. With that said, I find size “Large” to be VERY sexy & a huge turn on, not so much important in the actual act though. Probably similar to men that like big boobs, not really important in the sexual act as it is a visual turn on. But I think I am in the minority. We are all different with different tastes. For me, bigger is better! I’ve had a range of sizes, from small to x-large. In relation to being a good lover, I think it takes a little of both, size & technique. Being huge doesn’t make you a great lover, nor does being small make you a bad one. Let me put it this way, I’d rather have a great lover that’s large, than a great lover that’s small & I’d rather have a so-so lover that’s large than a so-so lover that’s small. BUT, I’d rather have a great lover that’s small than a bad lover that’s large. Probably a bit too much information huh! lol

I have to say, this is a huge problem in my relationship at the moment. I have been married for 5 years, my husband seems to not understand the importance of foreplay, of changing things up. After 8 years being together I am largely unsatisfied with our sex life. I’m 28 years old and I have brought this up to him in the last week, now I understand why most women would rather go out and cheat than to bring it up that they are unhappy. My telling him that I wanted him to take his time, and make me anticipate what’s coming next has turned him into a weeping, whining, insecure, self-esteemless baby. I’ve told him what I want, which it seems that he wants to try but I mean.. by the time we’re having sex I want to have been BEGGING him for it, he doesn’t get that this makes the experience for a woman much better. I am always able to orgasm, most of the time… but, in the last 2 months my orgasms have been very weak, very quick, and almost non-existent. So, I have asked him if we can change it up, no more wham bam, I’m not 18 anymore, I don’t want to feel like a little girl, I want him to make me feel like a woman. I want him to take charge and act like he knows what he’s doing. I’ve asked for gspot stimulation, we’ll see if he actually tries it, or acts like a child about it. I feel very sexually frustrated.

A man wants a women to be most interested in HIM and not just one feature he has to offer. The many other traits he brings should not be thrown a side. Men are total individuals with many things to value. When one thing is valued great! But eventually this will not be enough for him. He needs to be more completely understood and appreciated.

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