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Miserable husband making my life hell

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aimee00 wrote:

I've been with my husband for 12 years, married for 7 and this is the first time I am genuinely worried about our relationship.

He has become so miserable and grumpy I can't stand to be around him. He works away 4 days a week and I dread him coming home. All he does is criticise everything I do or don't do. He doesn't want to talk to me, if I go into the same room as him he walks out, if I try to talk to him I get one word answers whilst he looks at his phone, he shows little interest in our 9 month old daughter.

We don't have money problems and I don't think he's depressed as when he's with anyone else he's the life of the party so what am I doing so wrong!?

I can't take him like this any more. I love him but he's making my life a misery.

Hi Amber, I would do the counselling as I think communication could always be improved but he would never do it.

I guess the tension has built up over the last 3 months or so. He keep taking on more and more work, never says no to helping anybody but can't find the time for his family. He's a good guy and for the last 7 years he's been a greet husband so I just don't understand what's happening!

This must be very difficult. My guess is there is something that the two of you need to talk about and he is reluctant for whatever reason. It so good to hear that you still love your husband and want to make this work. Maybe telling him that you want to talk openly and honestly after his next four day away time will give him time to get his nerve up to tell you what is on his mind. Keep trying.... your daughter will thank you!

That was my thought too. Sorry to go there seemingly out of nowhere, but behavior like this is definitely one of the cheating signs. Try talking to him openly once. Other than that, if he is not willing to engage, I don't see a way to unilaterally fix it...Sorry you're going through this.

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