The Importance of Being Self-Centered

I realized something this past week. I have a problem of not being self-centered enough. It’s like iron, too much will kill you, but not enough and you’ll surely die.

This post is for all the self-less introverts out there.

Like I said, this is a bit of a problem for me. I’m often more concerned about how others feel, ignoring my own feelings and needs. I never want to inconvenience anybody, even the slightest thing can make me feel guilty. I like to joke it’s my ‘Catholic guilt’ getting the better of me.

But really — now that I think about it — this isn’t just sometimes, it’s every moment with every person I meet. Even people I’ve only known for a few seconds, or have only met via email. It can be socially paralyzing.

Unless I check myself — and I’ve decided to do exactly this.

To start thinking about myself and my own needs. to have the confidence to make demands. To speak without regard for others feelings. To do what I want, when I want, regardless of the inconvenience. To recognize it’s ok to think I’m right and somebody else is completely wrong. And defend that.

I can also say this without fear of going too far, because I don’t think it’s physically possible for me. I’ll always moderate my actions.

Now, this may sound terrible, but there are times when it’s absolutely necessary. Especially in my line of work — advocating for those who have no voice.

So to all of those like me — the painfully selfless — think about being a bit more self-centered for a change.

And to all those who aren’t like me, think about being a bit more selfless.