"My Wedding Has Destroyed a Friendship! Is There Anything I Can Do To Fix It?"

I wrote to you a while back about "firing" my maid of honor, who was really unenthusiastic about being in my wedding. I let her down easy and I emphasized that I still wanted her to be a part of my wedding and of course my life. Frankly, she didn't seem to care either way. She has a lot going on and I told her I didn't want my wedding to be an added stress.

But since then our relationship has been an ongoing string of "WTF?" moments.

First she friended my ex on Facebook, which isn't the end of the world, but let's just say if the situations were reversed, I wouldn't have friended her ex.

Then she showed up to my bridal shower and acted miserable the whole time. She gave me an $8 rolling pin and said she was making me something that would be ready before the wedding. SO not a big deal—I didn't invite her for the gift, but I hoped she'd at least enjoy herself.

Then I invited her to my bachelorette party, which will be sandwiches and some drinks at a lounge, then a free wine tasting and maybe some brunch the next day. She replied that she had plans with another friend that night and was planning on doing laundry the next day.

I've been friends with this girl forever but right now, she doesn't seem that interested in being friends with me. I don't want to lose a friendship over my wedding, but I'm kind of at a loss at this point—and I'm feeling incredibly hurt. Is there anything I can do to save this friendship?

Here are my thoughts:

Like you said, none of these things is a huge deal on its own. Yes, I'd be annoyed if a friend friended my ex, but it's not a friendship-ender. And it stinks that she was a buzz-kill at your shower, but maybe bridal showers aren't her "thing."

But based on the fact that this friend has been a downer for months now, I think it's clear that she has something going on. Maybe she's bummed that you're getting married while she's single. Maybe she's in a funk about work. Maybe she's freaking out about her finances or worried about a grandparent or one of about a bajillion things is distracting her. Whatever the reason, it would seem that she's not really interested in being your friend right now.

It sounds to me like you should maybe keep your distance until after the wedding, which I assume is fast-approaching. She's acting like she needs some space, so why don't you try giving it to her? After the wedding, ask her to meet for coffee or take a walk with you. If you're really worried about her mental health, you could try helping her track down resources to deal with depression or money problems or whatever. And if she continues to be stand-offish, I think you'll know where you stand. As a rule, a friendship requires two people. But as of right now, it seems like you're the only one trying to participate in this friendship.

Ladies, what do you think? Should Kenzi give her friend some space? Or does her friend need something else right now?

p.s. I'm taking a little mid-week vacay from tomorrow through Thursday, so I won't be around the blog unless some MAJOR wedding news breaks. (Stay out of Vegas, Kim and Kanye! (Can you IMAGINE?!)) But don't worry, Meredith T. has lots of fun wedding-y stuff planned for when I'm gone!