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During this quiz you will be asked to respond to various questions and it is crucial you are honest with yourself and not answer them how you feel you ‘should’. It is simple to take, and to answer all 50 questions will only use up 5-10 minutes of your time.

Although we are in the 21st century and much has been written about boundaries, co–dependency, so few people actually value themselves and stand up for themselves and/ or ask for what they want professionally or personally due to lack of self –confidence, low self–esteem and lack of self-assurance. This quiz will help you gain clarity around your confidence and esteem levels. I have developed it from existing psychological surveys and critical questions many clients have asked me over the years.

Please get real here. It is not about you feeling shame; it is about discovering a heightened self -awareness to empower yourself.

Please select the statements that apply to you, regardless of the frequency (sometimes or often).

1. I say yes to things I don’t want to do.

Yes

No

2. I diminish myself by putting myself down.

Yes

No

3. I allow others to put me down in a jokey and non-jokey way.

Yes

No

4. I worry about what others think of me.

Yes

No

5. I settle for less by having low expectations.

Yes

No

6. I allow fear to stop me from achieving my goals.

Yes

No

7. I struggle to say ‘No’ without justifying my reason.

Yes

No

8. I ignore my intuition and do what others suggest.

Yes

No

9. I don’t feel I earn what I deserve.

Yes

No

10. I feel guilty when I haven’t done anything wrong.

Yes

No

11. I compare and despair.

Yes

No

12. I feel anxious most of the time.

Yes

No

13. I focus on the negative.

Yes

No

14. I have a reluctance to put myself first.

Yes

No

15. I struggle to accept compliments.

Yes

No

16. I feel more comfortable giving than receiving.

Yes

No

17. I feel I have a lack of social skills.

Yes

No

18. I fail to recognise the full potential of my abilities.

Yes

No

19. I struggle to reveal my innermost thoughts.

Yes

No

20. I have unrealistic expectations of perfection.

Yes

No

21. I have a fear of change.

Yes

No

22. I don’t like making mistakes.

Yes

No

23. I have a habit of idolising others.

Yes

No

24. I feel inferior to others.

Yes

No

25. I justify and defend my actions.

Yes

No

26. I become defensive or defiant when criticised.

Yes

No

27. I shower someone with compliments to win them over.

Yes

No

28. I constantly beat myself up.

Yes

No

29. I feel inadequate and incompetent.

Yes

No

30. I have an inability to discern who and when to trust.

Yes

No

31. I tend to remain in partnerships that are unsatisfying or abusive.