Sure you can. You can do anything you want. Will your friend still talk to you? Maybe, maybe not. It depends on what kind of friend she is. Supposedly, girls are not supposed to date your friends' ex's. But sometimes girls can't help it, now can we? ;)

My friend "dated" my crush without letting me know. I tried to be a good sport about it--she wanted it to work so badly--but secretly, I was crushed. It hurt our friendship. So yeah, I think it all depends on the friend and what she says is okay. If she doesn't COMPLETELY THRUST her ex at you, then it's not. Most of the time, friendships are worth more than a short-lived relationship.

I guess it's okay if it's really over between them. If not, the best way is to stay away as far as possible. This one stupid guy jumped back and forth from my friend to his ex and it ruined their friendship in an awful way. The girls are now life-time enemies =.=

Personally, I think you can date a friend's ex-boyfriend if A) she broke up with him, B) they broke up so long ago that it doesn't matter and/or your friend is in no way still pining after said bf, i.e. he is not the love of her life, C) your friend has dated so many guys since the breakup that it's ridiculous to consider this particular ex the love of her life, or D) your friend has said she doesn't care - and means it.

I used to be part of the No-Way, No-How camp, but now that I live in a very small town where most of the kids start kindergarten and graduate high school together, I realize it's just not practical to make it a rule on principle. If we did, everyone would have one bf or gf - their first - and that would be the end of that!

'Course, if I was in the situation, I'd probably have a different opinion, but as someone who's not in that situation, I say, You can't find someone in the millions of people to date, you *have* to date the ONE guy who was with your friend? My only reasoning is that of course your girlfriend's going to say, Go ahead and date him, because if she doesn't, she comes off as bitchy, and girls try to avoid that. Granted, you may have one of the few girlfriends who is totally honest and upfront, but most likely your friend is like 99% of the other girls who won't tell you that they'd rather you didn't date their ex.

BUT. Yes, you can totally date a friend's ex-boyfriend. Adds some nice drama. The only time I myself have actually seen it happen is with two of my friends when they both went through a series of three boys. One girl dated a guy first and then the other girl dated him next. And on that way times 3.

I'd say no if you're good friends and want to stay that way. If it isn't that strong a friendship and you don't care to mess with it though, go ahead. I'd personally be hurt if a friend went after a guy I used to date. Even one I only really liked and never dated would hurt. I'd have to ask myself how much I could really trust that person with anything.

It depends on a lot of things. How good is the friend? How long ago and why did they break up? Does she care? Is the guy worth any drama that being with him might cause?

I'm from a small town where dating a friend's ex or relative or other friend was inevitable. Everyone has known each other since birth and with one exception it wasn't a big deal at all. In that respect at least, my friends were sane. If everyone can just be cool about it, that's great. If your friend tells you she's cool with me and it turns out she lied, I'd say you're still in the right since she had the opportunity to tell you the truth, thus preventing the relationship.

Overall, no. Dating friends exs are verrrrry iffy. There can be some bad or uncomfortable outcomes if someone dates their friend's ex. It might be 'fine' but would you (the royal you) want to hear digs or the friend mention "Well, when we were going out.." or "Oh, he did that with me too..." or cutting remarks. I wouldn't want my friend to date my ex (if I had an ex) either. So I wouldn't date my friend's ex unless I didn't plan on being their friend anymore.

Personally, I could never date any of my friend's ex-boyfriends. It's just too weird. :/ But if someone ever did want to, they should really talk to their friend first although the whole thing just screams awkward to me lol.

Like other folks have said, I say it absolutely depends on the situation! First and foremost, I'd have to know how long they dated -- and, by proxy, was it serious? If they were together a month, it wasn't right and they mutually agreed to separate... go for it. If they were together for years, inseparable, someone broke it off... I'd have to really think about it. Is it a good friend, or just an acquaintance?

I've never dated a friend's ex or had my ex date a friend, but I can imagine it would be a little painful and awkward regardless. Sometimes we don't realize how deep feelings can run until we're confronted with a situation like that! :)

Hahaha I'm just curious. I never got the memo on this topic. When I was younger I used to preach this: Do you want friends who limit you? Those who get in the way of your free will? If any of your friends have a problem with you dating their ex, terminate that friendship!

(Yeah I was stupid.)

And no, I wouldn't date my friend's crush. I think in some ways that's even worse than dating an ex.

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