Putting it off: Too much, too little-- it's the same

There are two ways to not get something done: Doing a lot and doing nothing. The trick to getting your list of tasks done is to understand your method of not doing them.

Everyone I know has something they really need to do but just can't make it happen. I'm not talking about big life issues, like "Find a new career," and I'm not talking about moments of frivolity, like "Relocate to a swing state." I'm talking about the stuff like "Send resume to new friend of friend." Or "Write weekly report in the new format boss requested."

Even these seemingly manageable tasks are, in fact, opportunities for procrastination. This is the kind of procrastination that bothers me most.

Huge projects are understandably hard to start because maybe you can't tell what needs to be done. And life-changing goals are understandably intimidating to work on, because maybe they won't work. But tasks that take less than a few hours are the ones we should all be able to perform with little fanfare.

Doing nothing is my procrastination mode of choice. I'm great at breaking down large projects into manageable tasks. And I'm great at prioritizing. I even have a knack for carving out time in the day for my tasks. But then I fall apart. Some days, I just can't get myself to do the tasks. I find myself flailing– doing the easy items on my list even though they're not important, or, worse, reading and rereading minor sections of the newspaper. The "Furniture for Sale" ads look fascinating when they lie on top of my to-do list.

Doing a lot is harder to recognize as procrastination because people who do a lot trick themselves into thinking they're actually working on their task. Procrastinating by doing a lot means that you're busy doing things that don't matter. People who do a lot as a way to procrastinate are usually researchers and investigators.

For example, instead of writing an outline for a speech about the price of tea in China, you surf the Internet looking for a joke you read somewhere that you'd like to use for your opening. But the joke is not really part of the task. The task is the speech, and the joke is something you could add if you want to, at the end, when the presentation is done.

Okay. So look at the top of your to-do list, which you're probably not working on now as you read this column. (Although bless all of you who have put "Read Penelope's column" at the top of your list!)

Hopefully, because you understand the process of breaking down large projects into manageable tasks, the top item is a manageable task. And now you can figure out if you're not finishing it because you're doing too much or too little.

The reason that doing a lot and doing nothing are so similar is that they're both ways of coping with the fear that you'll do a bad job. But here's something you should be even more scared of: the stress of not being able to accomplish tasks you set out for yourself.

Procrastinating always feels bad, and the relief of finishing something always feels great. So recognize whether you're a person who needs to stop or start, and entice yourself into action by remembering the joy of getting a difficult item off your list.