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Monday, April 11, 2016

Woman who only dates married men:I love 'cheating' with married men

Jenny had her first affair with a
married man whose wife was pregnant. She says she felt it was a
revelation. She has now dated nine men who are all married. She says
being the other woman is flattering

Jenny believes all men are cheats because of her parent's relationship

Tells her 15-year-old daughter 'all men are the same'

A
mother-of-two has revealed she has chosen to only date married men -
not to wreck marriages but because she feels no man can be trusted.

Jenny
Hendle, 36, from Tunbridge Wells, Kent, is a serial dater with a
difference - she refuses to give single guys the time of day.

Twice-divorced Jenny has already dated nine married men - and says she feels no guilt about seeing other women's husbands.

Jenny Hendle, above, 36, from
Tunbridge Wells, has no interest in single men. Instead the mum of two
says she will only date married men. She does this because she says that
no man can be trusted as they are all cheats

The
bakery worker said: 'I believe there are no loyal and honest men, they
don't exist. I have no interest in dating single men who will promise me
the world then cheat on me.

'When I start to date a married man there is never any pretense of falling in love or long-term commitment.

'I know that at the end of the day he will go home to his wife and I'm happy that I will go home alone with no strings attached.

'My relationships with married men don't get complicated. That's the way I like it.'

She added: 'If a man wants an affair they couldn't wish for a better experience than with me.'

Twice-divorced Jenny, posing above
with some who did not wish to be identified, has already happily dated
nine married men - and says she feels absolutley no guilt about seeing
other women's husbands

Jenny, who
has been on various holidays with her married lovers, believes her open
attitude makes her the perfect mistress. Her reputation is such has even
been approached by her friends' husbands

Growing
up, Jenny believed in true love and commitment - however, she said that
as she got old she ‘realised it was all a fantasy’.

She
said: 'As a teenager I saw my dad persistently cheat on my mum. It was
heartbreaking. We all knew it was happening and it broke my mum's heart.

'The confrontations it caused were awful. I grew up accepting that this is how men behave.'

Jenny had her first serious romance at 15, when she started dating a 21-year-old professional athlete.

She
said: 'I was really happy to be in a committed relationship. But then I
got first-hand experience of men and I was cheated on.

'I was devastated and couldn't believe the same thing had happened to me as my mum.

Jenny, who met first husband at 17
said: 'As a teenager I saw my dad persistently cheat on my mum. It was
heartbreaking. I grew up accepting that this is how men behave'

'My friends would tell me they were being cheated on too. My early experience of men made me wary.'

At the age of 17, Jenny met the 36-year-old man who would become her first husband.

However
the relationship eventually fell apart and their divorce was finalised
in 2001. Jenny then went on to have the first of her two daughters, who
is now 15.

'I see her going through teen heart break already. As a mother I want her protected from cheaters.'

She recalls: 'After my first divorce I was sad but was determined not to let it affect future relationships.'

In 2003 she fell for a 38-year-old company director and says: 'This time I thought it was different.'

The couple dated for five years, during which time Jenny had her second daughter, who is now 12.

They
married in 2008 but despite her husband remaining faithful, sadly the
relationship didn't work out and the pair divorced three years later.

When the
bakery worker had her first serious romance at 15, when she started
dating a 21-year-old professional athlete, she learnt first hand what
betrayal feels like. She said 'I was devastated'

Jenny met the man she would marry at 17, when he was 36. However the pair eventually divorced in 2001

After
her second divorce and having to constantly hear of her friends being
cheated on, Jenny made the decision to give up on men.

She explained: 'Dating in today's society has changed, it is so dishonest and I didn't want to be part of it.

'I realised it is in the male nature to behave this way and firmly believe there's no such thing as a faithful man.

'I'm
not a man hater - I just don't think men are made to be with one woman.
So I don't want to try and be in a relationship if it will end in
cheating.'

For this reason, four years ago, Jenny made the decision to only date other women's husbands.

She
said: 'As soon as I decided this in my mind it all made sense and I
never looked back. The first married man I met was in December 2011 at a
club.

Jenny has
two daughters aged 15 and 12. She claims she sees her eldest going
through heartbreak and says that she can't help but warn her that all
men are the same

In 2003 she fell for a 38-year-old
company director and says: 'This time I thought it was different.' The
couple dated for five years, during which time Jenny had her second
daughter, who is now 12

'We
got chatting and he asked me out. He told me he was married and that
his wife was pregnant but that she wasn't interested in sex. I was
surprised that I felt 100 per cent okay with what I was being told.

'I actually felt more in control because I knew he was married and his wife was pregnant.

'It meant I didn't have to give him my heart.

'His work in security, doing overnight watches on building sites, meant he was often away from home.

'So when my kids went to see their dads, I'd see him. We dated for four months. Being with him gave me a sense of control.

'It was so much better than dating single men as I had a satisfaction of knowing this man would not go behind my back.'

Jenny
has not looked back since. She said: 'Being the other woman, not only
do you know where you stand, it's flattering that you have been chosen
over his wife.

After her second divorce and having to
constantly hear of her friends being cheated on, Jenny made the
decision to give up on men. Now she says it is the nature of men to
cheat and believes that no man is faithful

'I never feel guilty doing what I'm doing, it takes two to tango. I don't set out to ruin someone's relationship.

'I
feel sad for their wives that their husband is doing this but if he
wasn't doing it with me, he would be off doing it with someone else.

'Why should I be criticised for dating a man who is married? I'm unattached, he's the one having an affair, not me.

'My
friends see where I'm coming from as they've known me for years and
know I've been treated badly by men. They don't judge me but they don't
all agree with what I'm doing.'

Jenny has no plans to settle down in a long-term relationship.

She
admitted: 'They are just flings. I enjoy them because it is exciting,
but I don't have to worry about the future. The risk of getting hurt is
so much lower.'

There has been one occasion, however, that Jenny has fallen for one of her 'flings'.

While Jenny claims she feels sad for
the wives of the men she sleeps with, she says if it wasn't her it would
be someone else. She claims to feel good about being 'chosen over' the
wives and never feels guilty

She
said: 'We were in the Territorial Army together and he was married. I
began to develop feelings for him and we became much closer than I
planned. A year in, he told me he would leave his wife for me and I
panicked.

'I left the TA and we lost contact.'

Now Jenny meets married men when she is out and claims they approach her.

She said: 'I don't date every married man I meet, I turn a lot down.

Why should I be criticised for dating a man who is married? I'm unattached, he's the one having an affair, not me

'Usually
we just get chatting at a bar or online then arrange a date. I know
they are married as they wear a ring or tell me from the start.

'We go for dinners out, sometimes for weekends away and enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without commitment.'

Jenny has rules when it comes to her unusual personal life.

She said: 'I would never play too close to home and I would never betray a friend.

'I've
had friends' husbands approach me, but I would never do that. I also
don't introduce them to my children. They are not part of my family.

'Some
of the men I have dated have had previous affairs where the mistress
has turned 'bunny boiler' and tried to ruin their life.

For now Jenny said she cannot imagine a
future with a committed man, accepting she will be happy always being
the other woman. She added: ''I'm happy, they're happy and the wife is
none the wiser'

'They threaten to tell their wives or become too attached. I don't want to do that.'

Jenny
claims she would never cheat on one of her dates. She said: 'When I am
in a relationship I'm 100 per cent committed, I never date two married
men at once.'

Her view on men has now rubbed off on her daughters.

Jenny
added: 'My 15-year-old already has been heartbroken over boyfriends
cheating on her. I can't help but tell her all men are the same.'

For now Jenny said she cannot imagine a future with a committed man, accepting she will be happy always being the other woman.

She
added: 'It doesn't matter if it's a fling or an ongoing thing, I've
been involved in relationships with married men that have lasted years
or days, it's all the same for me.

'I'm happy, they're happy and the wife is none the wiser - and what they don't know can't harm them.'

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