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I thought this would be fun. If we look hard enough, I’m sure we’ll find both similarities and differences. I’ll go first.

Style Similarities

Hubby Greg and I both love to wear specs, a wedding ring, black turtle necks, flat black boots, trench coats, skinny jeans, distressed denim jackets, tailored blazers, wool coats, cropped leather jackets and closed footwear with comfy socks. We both bat for Team Less is More, preferring simple outfits as opposed to complex combinations. Greg, like me, also enjoys wearing a beautifully made un-tucked woven shirt and scrunching the sleeves. In colder weather we are often “samies”, wearing our flat black boots with skinny jeans, black turtle neck and cropped leather jacket. Sometimes we both end up wearing our Docs and look like twins. Last but not least, we both have very short hair.

Style Differences

Clearly, there are many similarities between my style and Greg’s. But there are also many differences. I love my watches and pearls and Greg bats for Team Phone and wears no accessories. I like to wear bright colours, white, cream and high contrasting neutrals, whereas Greg co-captains the Black Brigade with dark grey and blue thrown into the mix. Very occasionally he will throw in dark purple and deep blue red. Greg bats for Team Knit Top whereas I am woven all the way. Greg also bats for Team Fitted whereas I like to wear voluminous dresses and billowing blouses just as much as tailored items. Of course, I tend to look dressier than Greg most of the time.

Over to you. What are the similarities and differences between you and your partner’s style? If you aren’t currently in a relationship, describe the style of your ideal partner.

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On the weekends, my husband dresses like an LL Bean catalog: lots of khakis, polos and plaid. He wears a shirt and tie every day to work and is a fan of flat front pants and smart shoes. Not many accessories, but he does have a killer pair of glasses, and wears a watch, his wedding ring and a silver “worry” ring he got in Mexico. He’s tall and lanky so pretty much everything fits him off the rack.

Me, on the other hand: Riot of color anchored by black. Lots of skirts and dresses. Tall shoes or ballet flats–it all depends on the day and the look I’m going for. I love my accessories, and if I can’t find the right earrings/bracelet/necklace, I’ll make it. I adore piling a stack of bracelets with a watch. On days when my work demands, I will wear a “suit alternative”–cardigan and a dress, jacket and a skirt. I cannot wear a matching suit as I feel it sucks out my soul. I would rather die than wear a crew neck or a polo shirt in public. I’d love to be on Team Wear, but being short and curvy necessitates a lot of trips to the tailor. If I had to come up with a label for my style, I’d call it preppy bohemian.

My style is in the “modern classic” category, and SO is probably in the “plain old classic” category. If men have been wearing it to the office since the 1950s, he’s in. We overlap most in our color choices.

Also, whereas I get sick of things and am always seeking new looks and combinations, he likes to nail down a uniform and stick with it.

Angie, ok… we have slowly but surely moved to the twilight zone now, right??

I mean, this is unbelievable, I was thinking about this very thing over the weekend!! I think your question about short hairstyles had prompted me to think a lot about the influences our partners have on our own wardrobe.
That and giving my son a chance to pick my wardrobe for me last week

I had purged stuff from my wardrobe and had cast a critical eye over my hubbys’s section. Not that there’s much to remove from there, he *is very* picky and knows *very well* his likes and dislikes, but I was amazed how a few things became apparent:
– we are both strong contrasts people;
– we both love red (his 20 years old Levis dyed and re-dyed red, patched and re-patched so there’s very little original fabric left are driving me insane);
– we both love purple;
– white and black are our main neutrals;
– be both genuinely dislike ourselves in brown or yellow;
– we love turtlenecks;
– we both love waistcoats;
– we both like blazers;
– we both love hats;
– we both love scarves.

When it became apparent there are so many similarities, the natural question was whether, over these many years we’ve been together, we had had influenced each other without actually being aware of it, or these really are the choices we’d end up with regardless.

It’s a mixture of both, but everything definitely starts with what we would end up wearing regardless of being together or not, assuming we’d be aware of our styling preferences. However, I do wonder a lot if our clothing choices have started reflecting our personalities more, or we shape ourselves in a way our clothes actually appear for themselves, when looked at individually. Like, in my case, I wear a lot of B&W lately and I just know I want certain things in my life at the moment like that – no middle ground, just get on with one or the other opposite.

And this is where the wonderful differences between the two of us begin. Although both techies, and you know I admire how you have a way with our kind of people, with MH it’s very instinctive. No artistic background, but very tuned to his own being! And he just knows red looks great on him. Or black. I am on Team Logical and had to learn what worked for me. He always shops very quickly and efficiently – there are no reconsiderations if he doesn’t like something. I may dislike something, but would still give it some thought, although less and less. He’s on Team Splurge for one really good thing that will last forever, I had to learn my lessons and get there taking the long and windy (and expensive, auch!) road of trial and error.
Fascinating.

Part two of my weekend’s wardrobe clearout was to ask him what he likes and dislikes in my wardrobe – let me tell you, that *was* interesting and the pattern emerged very quickly, but I’ll leave that for some other time.

Hmm. I would say our style similarities are thus:
-we both have clearly-defined capsules of what is work-wear vs. casual
-we both are firmly in our capsules depending on the environment. For work, he wears a tie and collared shirt every day (which is not how the rest of his scraggly department dresses), in bold “un-masculine” colors like aqua or salmon, and for play he is either in fishing/sporting gear or polos. I am a dress girl (again, I missed them) at work, and on weekends I am either in shorts or jeans with a nice tee-type shirt.
-We like bold colors, good shoes, and expensive bags. Sometimes he even has a man purse.
-We both love a good duplicate: he will buy the same shirt in 5 colors. I have to stop myself at 2.
-We both slide up and down the scale, so out closets are full with various sizes.
-We both like layering; when he is at his optimal weight he wears vests over his shirt/tie almost every day. I have more cardigans than is normal or right. LOL!

Our differences are that I wear more accessories, and he wears sneakers on the weekends (which I never do unless I am exercising).

Similarities : lots of neutrals/black, no prints, clean lines, few/no accessories, trendy specs, jeans, very good grooming, clean and ironed clothes (yes, he manages his laundry and irons his own clothes – I’ve enough to do with mine.)

One way hubby and I are similar is that he dresses up for work – and I mean, old school dresses up. Wears a suit or sports coat and tie every day, except for the occasional excursion into khakis on a casual Friday, but only if he’s not seeing anyone outside of the office. I like to dress up too! He is a warm blond and I am a cool blonde so his palette can have more earthy colors than mine can – but we both love blue!

Angie, this post made me smile. On the surface, my husband and I are so different, however deeper down we are so similar.

I am Modern Classic, and Team Dressy, he is Team Casual. I occasionally wear jeans, he wears them every day. I never wear tshirts, he wears them frequently. I am crazy about fashion, he has almost no interest at all. I love to accessorize and he doesn’t wear any jewelry, scarves etc.

Our similarities – we both wear a lot of black, wear funky glasses (we helped one another choose them), and enjoy a well cut leather jacket. We also both wear a lot of neutrals. Oh, and we are both very particular about our underwear

The good thing about him not being interested in fashion, is that he always wants my opinion and approval when he buys new clothes

Jamie and I have both come a long way in the style department since we met 14 years ago! We are both on Team Casual, but he has more occasion than I do to dress professionally, as he owns a company and has many meetings that necessitate a jacket and tie.

We both enjoy wearing things that are a bit unusual and have some edge — we both like to look a little “rock’n’roll.” We both have a weakness for nice shoes, leather jackets, and distinctive details. We both love color, but I am opening him up to even more color in his wardrobe, whereas he used to default to blue almost all the time without even realizing it. When he dresses for a meeting or for an occasion, he loves to wear one of his beautiful pairs of cufflinks, and I certainly love my jewelry! We each have one signature watch that we wear exclusively — and the watches were gifts from each other. We’re both dark-haired and fair-skinned, so we tend to look good in similar colors – blues, greens, etc.

We differ in that I am a straightforward size and can wear most things off the rack. He needs to have pretty much everything other than jeans and tees altered, and has settled for almost-fitting garments for nearly his whole life — until last year when he started having his shirts custom made. He is very tall and slim, so sleeve length has been a huge problem for him. He is a much more enthusiastic member of Team Edit than I am — my side of the closet is much fuller than his!

Angie, I love how you and Greg look like you go together! Not matching, but complimentary. You both look like the stylish, elegant people you are.

My DH is much like April’s. He’s classic American trad all the way, in the culture sense and not just the style. The boy prefers button-down oxfords and crew neck sweaters and if he had his way, his idea of dressy casual would be a navy blazer, khaki pants and a button down. He was also brought up more formally: until recently, he felt that if a man was wearing a jacket, he also needed to be wearing a tie. I had to point out that if Prince William could lose the tie, I’m pretty sure he could as well! I’ve just recently talked him into a full break on his pants and he’s finally lost the “relaxed fit” jeans. He’s very slender and wears the right kind of jeans well (now that I’ve wheedled him into them).

I don’t think I’ve ever seen him wear black, while it’s a staple in my closet. We both wear watches and we both wear pink occasionally.

I do tease him about his style, but if he’s very classic, he’s also a mostly good dresser and knows the details of getting it right, like having the cuffs of his dress shirt extend to just the right length beyond his jacket. I can send him off to get dressed for a party and know he’ll return looking just right.

And hey, if he’s not into style then that’s more of the budget for me:)

We both like olive green, brown, and navy blue, and we are both firmly on Team Casual. He doesn’t like to layer or wear wovens outside of work or accessorize. He does wear glasses, but not anything else- including a wedding ring.

The title of this post made me laugh. My husband and I are so far apart in style. He doesn’t care about it one bit. For work he will wear khaki pants and a polo shirt. Every day. On his own time, it’s a tee shirt and athletic shorts. If we go out somewhere he’ll swap the athletic shorts for khaki shorts if he has to dress nicely. In cool/cold weather it’s jeans instead of shorts.

He used to have to wear a shirt and tie to work many years ago but hasn’t worn them much in the last few years. Last summer I cleaned out his closet and there were 60 button-down shirts crammed in there. Sixty! Most got donated.

He does like that I always like to look nice though. My style is fairly classic with a bit of trendy thrown in here and there (one of these days I’ll get around to posting pictures in the forum).

Similarities: We both like to dress preppy and can spend equal amounts in Brooks Brothers especially on their non iron shirts. We also wear the same brand of watch everyday. And we are both members of team blue! Our classic styles certainly overlap with more formal wear too.

DIfferences: The weekend is the biggest area. He dresses like a scuba diving bum in cargo shorts and diving t-shirts in the summer, and jeans, sneakers, and plain sweaters in the winter. I wear a lot of blazers, boots and scarves in the cooler months and a boho style in the warmer months. And I am always in layers whereas hubby runs warmer overall.

Ornella, we are indeed in the twilight zone. I loved your comment! I’m chuffed that hubby bats for Team Red too. You brought up a great point about shopping: I am on Team I love Shopping, Greg is so absolutely not

Kristen, Greg and I are both on Team Splurge too.

Laura, I love that both you and hubby dress up!

Beth, thank you. It sounds like Ms. Preppy Delight of Fabness is married to Mr. Preppy Delight of Fabness

Queen Mum, you crack me up. Loved your comment.

Deborah and Janet, lots of similarities.

Lisa, Chewy, and April, you and your partners sound like a complimentary match.

We’ve been together for 15+ years. We dressed alike on our second date (fisherman sweater, jeans, cowboy boots) and have fairly similar styles based in preppy-dom. When we first met he was on the dressier side and I was more casual. But recently I’ve noticed him leaving the house in printed t-shirts or going to a restaurant in jeans, which he NEVER would have done 15 years ago, but I would have but won’t now. But we both dress a littler nicer for work than our colleagues. We both wear watches all the time. We both love high quality boots and look forward to boot weather.

Differences: he tends toward a monochromatic look (tan polo with khaki pants? blech) and leans on the “uniform” of khakis, oxford (blue, white, or blue & white striped) and navy blazer. Our daughter and I have been encouraging him to wear more color in his shirts and he is willing to try. We also got him to give up his relaxed fit, light-wash jeans for a dark rinse in a trimmer fit.

This is hard for me to answer because I buy his clothes for him — he is not to be trusted! When left to his own devices he dresses very poorly and I cannot tolerate it. So I select the clothes, and he wears them. That said, what I buy for him is clearly very similar to my style and tastes.

Here are some similarities/differences:

I don’t buy him anything too trendy or fussy because I know he won’t wear it, and I am the same way.

He loves to wear polos (collared shirts) and I hardly ever wear anything with a collar.

He won’t wear a watch unless it “does” something — ie: he is a major nerd and wants his watch to also act as a phone or a USB drive, etc. I always wear a watch as simply an accessory.

He refuses to wear long sleeves, says they get in the way. I love long sleeves! (I sometimes make him (ask him nicely) to wear long sleeved sweaters anyway).

In the winter he does not wear a scarf or gloves. Says he doesn’t need it. I would freeze to death without a scarf or gloves! He runs warmer than me and doesn’t need as many layers.

He wears specs, I do not.

He doesn’t care much about fashion; I do. Thankfully he respects my desire to make an effort and dress well.

I’m a singleton, but I will admit that I am attracted to men that dress like the men in my family. Western jeans with a belt, boots, and a nice t or western button-down. Hats are optional but appreciated.

I’m OK with being dressed up meaning black jeans and a white shirt, no tie— or really dressed up meaning a pair of crisply creased slacks and a shirt open at the collar.

My husband especially this time of the year is on team can’t I just wear shorts.
We are similar in the fact we are on team watch. We both will splurge occassionally.
Me more so than him. He firmly believes that no one needs more than 3 pairs of shoes and two pairs of boots.
I explain often how that theory is wrong on so many levels.

We’re both usually dressed Team Casual, but we interpret that totally differently most days of the year. Often we look like we’re going to completely different functions.

Me – very short hair (not quite Angie’s, but close), accessories, classic with an edge & not quite what everyone else is wearing, extensive shoe wardrobe, dress for the occasion. I can dress casually for work (today, for example, it’s a nice sleeveless top with an airy sleeveless drapey sweater vest, black walking shorts & nice sandals).

Him – Hair cuts approximately once every 5 years& then only a trim; daily wear is a pair of running shorts & a tee-shirt, holes & stains ok (he’s a farmer so his clothes get pretty beat up), hiking-type socks & running shoes or work boots – in winter he adds a layer – tights and a long-sleeve technical tee with a fleece vest or jacket. If we’re going out & I ask him to wear grown-up clothes, it’s a pair of khakis I bought for him years ago, a long sleeve technical tee (sans holes or stains) or a button down, and some brogues I think he’s had since high school. He’s, um, 55. But could care less what other people think about how he looks; after 15 years when we’re going out together I just ask for neat & clean – stylish just ain’t gonna happen.

What a fun topic, I had been thinking about this lately too.
DH: is traditional Texan, loves his jeans, boots and colorful shirts
Similarities:
Team Watch- gifts to each other
Team boots and Jeans- though he is a little more western
Team color- he is not afraid, most all colors look good on him
Team casual is our life mostly
We both love shoes, though I think he has more than me!!
Differences:
I bat for Team edit and Wear as he loves to keep as much as possible, I ususally edit his closet for him to see if he notices what is missing, he only knows there is more room in there!!! HHmmmmm
He is Team Save and I am Team Wear.
He: Team hat, me team hair,
He is also team never wants to change and I have finally gotten him to put his cowboy cut jeans and loose fit faded demins aside for the occasional straight leg dark wash!! But still love the his bum in his cowboy jeans!!!

This is a cute thread!
We are both team neutral and team solid. We both love tailored jackets . We both love leather jackets. We both love to dress up our denim. We both wear a watch and bracelet (I wear many) We both have a thing for fabulous fabric.
The difference is I look more dressed up than him. He doesn’t wear heels:)
We are very similar!

BF and I have completely different styles – I am arty, colorful, a little trendy, and aim to dress uniquely. He, on the other hand, is very classic with a bit of east coast preppy (button down shirt in understated light colors, polo shirts, khakis, boring suit) when he tries (work, nice dinners, dates,etc) and unfortunately rather schlubby (jeans, ratty t-shirt, sneakers) when he does not. He’d be happy wearing the same thing every day, while I’d go crazy by the third day!

Firstly, we both would sooner be caught dead than in a polo shirt and khakis! I can sum up his style in one word Kweejibo. If anyone knows of that mens shop on Haight – it’s been like his personal stylist until it went out of business a few years back. He was seriously heartbroken and now hunts for their shirts on eBay.
At work he does the slacks and nice oxfords. I wear a uniform. But we both needed to step up our casual wear these last years. We had ‘go out’ clothes and work capsules but kinda sad casual wear, since as forementioned khakis and polos are not our thing. We both usually end up in premium denim or cords and a knit top – he has wovens as well, but doesn’t wear them casually. Interestingly, he does like to coordinate when we dress up to go out. Not matching but perhaps the same color family, or a tie that goes with my dress, that kind of thing. I find it endearing.

My husband is on team ” keep and wear until the end of time”, and “let my wife figure out what I should wear”. He looks amazing in blue, it brings out the color in his eyes, I on the other hand have nothing blue in my closet. He likes simple, classic and so do I.
He doesn’t like to wear jewelry but wears his wedding ring and watch to work or for dress up occasions but not on the weekends. I never take my ring off and love accessories, scarves, gloves, etc.His beautiful gloves and scarves for winter have gone untouched.

You know… I’ve noticed the men in my life dress alike, with the overall impression being very button down. Not grey flannels preppy, but button down shirts, jumper (the occasional cardigan from stylin’ best friend), jeans or khakis (not pressed), brogues. Somewhere in the closet will be a suit (or many, if they’re bankers), white dinner jacket, and tuxedo. Not too many baggy polo’s or loafers to be seen. Banding at the waist of any shirt or sweater is verboten. I guess my brother will wear t-shirts under his polo-collar sweaters.

This is a fun one! My honey and I both have about the same level of dressiness. Interestingly, we both upped our level of dressiness at around the same time — about three years back. He has always worked in the visual effects industry, where everything is ultra-casual, so for years he generally wore jeans and tee shirts (albeit stylish ones — his industry is pretty arty). I used to teach science and thus wore pretty much whatever I liked, dress codes being very relaxed in high schools here, and what I liked were surf tee shirts, jeans and skateboarding shoes. Then I was a stay-at-home-mom, so became even more casual and, honestly, had an adversarial relationship with my wardrobe for about five years (I did NOT enjoy pregnancy or nursing, what with the sore, swollen, leaking body and all).

About six months after the birth of my second child, after picking up the pieces of my sanity and moving on with life, I had this sudden urge to dress “like a grown up”. Since then I’ve been adding skirts and dresses to my wardrobe and buying dressier shoes. I learned how to walk in 4″ heels and began wearing them, along with dramatic lipstick, when I went out with friends at night. Although I still gravitate toward denim items of any kind, and I still look casual and arty, the overall vibe is certainly more “adult” than before.

At around the same time, my husband started to wear collared shirts over his tees and much skinnier jeans, and bought a few pairs of Fluevog boots which he now wears much more often than the Converse that were his staple before. He looks current and also more grown up. We fit.

My husband has to dress up with suit and tie for work – I love wearing suits and costumes, too (sometimes even a tie :))
He´s a very funny person and he shows that by his casual wardrobe: when I met him, we both were students, he wore the craziest outfits, and I mean crazy crazy just for the fun of it and he didn´t care at all what people thought. I loved that. Today, at 47, he´s a bit calmer, but still loves bold, unusual shoes. So do I.

Hubster is on Team Casual about 90% of the time. I’m on Team dressy 90% of the time, however, we compliment each other. I recently edited his closet and put together capsules for him – he loved it! Due to his work, he wears a lot of work pants and t-shirts. When we go out however, he looks sharp!

Hubby and I both dressed to the nines when we were 20-something professionals living and working in Houston during the 80s. Suits and briefcases every day.

Now he favors khakis with a nice button-down shirt for work (no more suits or ties) worn with a nice leather belt and sharp leather shoes. At home, it’s jeans or modern cargo shorts and tees. We both love our Birkenstocks (without socks, of course).

I live in jeans, tees and fitted jackets with leather sandals, shoes or boots. I recently purchased a slew of flattering rayon dresses, some flowy, some fitted. Dresses used to be WAY outside my comfort zone but I’m really enjoying the versatile styles I chose for summer.

I definitely have an artistic and fun vibe to my style, hubby is 100% classic. Classic, but never boring.

Oh No! There are really no similarities in my hubby’s style and mine – Yikes! Everyone would worry about me if there were! He is totally Mr. T shirt and jeans, and works-from- home pajama brigade. While he will wear the “nice” black jeans and a collared shirt when we go out for dinner, a show or something, I am definitely the dressy one. He does own and wear, occasionally, a tuxedo (opening at the opera, formal dress event) and suits (commencements, funerals and weddings), his most of the time attire is very relaxed and run of the mill. He’s always neat, clean and fairly presentable, but he really doesn’t care too much about how he’s dressed.
I, on the other hand, am really interested in fashion, dress interestingly for myself, love quirky clothes and like to have fun in my dressing. Most of my friends and even sometimes strangers comment on my clothing or ask me where they can get it (I make many of the things I wear). My husband would probably fall over dead if people commented on his clothing as he really doesn’t like being noticed personally but has commented on that he’s proud when I get noticed – “see, I told you, you are talented!”

My hubby has a uniform that he wears every day, for almost every occasion:

Lucky jeans or Dockers
Long-sleeved shirt in a fun pattern or stripe
Casual leather shoes for work, Beatle boots (he has ’em in every color) for going out
Leather jacket if it’s cool outside

He even wears this at home, which drives me insane because it’ll be 100 degrees outside and he’s wearing long sleeves, long pants, shoes and socks and has the a/c cranked down to 72, while I’m freezing in my shorts, sandals and tank!

He also has some very nice dressier clothing, ranging from sportcoats and dress slacks to a couple of nice suits to a velvet black-on-black paisley dinner jacket to a classic tuxedo. He likes to dress up and looks fab when he does!

Similarities in our styles: We both bat for Team Color, Team Pattern, and Team Dressy.

Differences: I am Team Wear, he is Team Keep. I am Team Knits, he owns maybe one sweater and never wears it. And I am Team Plan and he is Team Throw Together at the Last Minute!

In the 41 years we’ve been married, DH has never become a shopper. He’s on Team Bring It Home And I’ll Wear It…probably. In our years together, I’ve grown away from my boho style of the 60’s toward a more classic style because of his influence.

He wears dress pants or khaki pants and button down shirts to work and would rather not wear a shirt and tie but does when the occasion calls for it. We have yet to find jeans that look good on him. He doesn’t understand the concept of casual clothing that’s expensive. I never wear khaki pants and wear mostly jeans because they are easier to fit than dress pants. He’s more conservative in his dress than I am these days.

We are definately similar, and have always loved shopping together. If we are going out we always check in on what each oth3er are planning to wear. And I could easily wear most of his mother and sisters wardrobes :).

Well, we both like blue & green. And we both like stripes & plaid. That’s about where the similarities end.

He is very casual – jeans or shorts & graphic tees with Teva sandals or Chucks. When he was working he wore khakis & polo/golf shirts. He’s barrel chested and overheats easily, so he hates layering and long sleeve shirts. He doesn’t care much about fashion, and often asks me if a certain shirt goes with a particular pair of pants. He wears a watch sometimes – an inexpensive digital with a stopwatch function (because it was handy when he was teaching) from before he got his iPhone. He has nicer watches, he just doesn’t wear them. That & his wedding ring are his only accessories.

I like dressing up. I have a fairly tailored/classic look with some feminine details thrown in, but nothing too girly. I don’t wear tons of accessories, and the ones I wear are usually classic/simple, although I do occasionally wear a statement necklace. I like wearing skirts & dresses, cardigans, and don’t always wear jeans on the weekend. I love pumps & ballet flats. Hubby has good taste, though, and often gives me great advice on my wardrobe. He just couldn’t be bothered with his own.

My SO and I match up pretty well! He works from home, so he’s much more casual than I am in terms of work wear, but he likes to follow trends, wear nice shoes, etc. For example, when we went to Zara last spring, I found nothing but he found a fab black jacket that looks perfect on him. And he has just joined Gilt Group, so he is being inundated with all sorts of great merch :). One major difference is that I like to shop and I do it all the time (online, mostly), and I am willing to spend $$ on decent quality items, whereas he is more resistant to spending money, though that might be changing a bit.

I’ve loved reading through everyone’s assessments! Very interesting — there’s a cultural study in there somewhere! Hm, as for my fiance and myself…

Similarities:
We are both FAST walkers and so we need comfortable shoes when out and about. We both bat for Team Casual and sport many graphic tees sporting references to our favorite pop culture entities (we both have Watchmen tees, for example). Our favorite “neutrals” are black, white, navy, olive, and denim. We are both RATE.

Differences:
Where he runs hot, I will always find a way to be cold – so I am on Team Multiplicitous Jackets, while he basically rotates between three hooded sweatshirts. I also get bored easily and need variety, whereas he locks into a Few Favorite Things and wears them until they literally fall apart. He is also more sporty and low-contrast, and I am more utilitarian and enjoy one pop of bright, contrasting color in my outfits. Also, he owns less clothing covered in cats.

Seriously, we are quite different and do not share a love of fashion. Years ago I foolishly wanted to change this about him. Now I love and accept him the way he is. And you know what? He is my No. 1 fan, biggest supporter and closest confidante. He picks the best clothes ever for me, and I trust his opinion more than any other.

I am team polished most of the time. Even in dog sports competitions wearing gear, I am more polished than other competitors. My hubby is team polished at work,wearing custom suits. But when he is casual, he is shorts and t shirts all the way.

We both like color although I am inclined to be much brighter. I like patterns…does a printed t shirt count as pattern? I think so.

I like to find a bargain, hubby believes in the get what you pay for (thus the custom suits). He even has a pair of $65 flip flops that he swears has the support of orthotic inserts.

I’m on team dressy, although I’ve toned it down a bit since moving out west. Hubby wears a uniform for work, and choses to sport the dressiest option, wearing a white buttoned down shirt and tie with suitcoat (except in summer–he leaves off the coat).

His casual wear is “uber-slob” in the summer: white graphic T’s, worn in cargo shorts and flip flops. If we’re going out, he’ll put on a nice polo and better shorts. In the winter it’s baggy jeans and white sneakers (very Jerry Seinfeld, I know!) and a fleece jacket. He’s a 35″ waist, but doesn’t want to pay a premium to get jeans/ shorts that fit, so he wears a 36. His arms are long, so he wears an XL in anything long sleeved, even though he’s really more like a Medium.

He is on team save, for sure. He will wear the old item, even when it has been replaced with a new one. His old clothes are like his friends, and he won’t give them up even when they are stained and tattered and holey. I’ve taken to waiting for the season to change and then I try to sneak an item or two into the trash, hoping he will forget about it before that season rolls around again next year! He wears his underwear until they are nothing but lint and the birds try to take them off the line and use them to build their nests with. (The new underwear just isn’t as soft and comfy!)

says he doesWhen I harp on him to buy nicer things that fit correctly, he just smiles sweetly and n’t want to spend any money on himself; he’d rather me get myself something nice. How can I be mad at him?

We both tend to dislike wearing:
Complicated prints, fussy items, habitual accessories (necklaces/rings/watches that are always on or get put on everyday without fail), polo shirts,

Differences:
Neck ties: I love, he hates
Shirts with logos: he loves (so long as they’re auto related), I hate
Hair: he’s fastidious about his hair and hair cuts, I own a lot of hats.
Sandals: I love, he hates (he likes them on me, but he can’t stand to show his toes)

On him:
We both like him in black, vertical striped button up shirts, boot cut jeans that are slightly snug on the thigh and bum, blazers/suit jackets, white shirts, breezy linens

The things he likes to wear that I either wish he wouldn’t, or have already successfully dissuaded him from:
Red (I think it’s bad with his colouring), very loose tops (I think he looks better when they’re more form fitting), round toed shoes (I prefer his square toed shoes), short-sleeved button ups, and tucked in t-shirts.

On me:
He loves my style! I know if I like what I’m wearing, so will he.

What he wishes I wouldn’t wear:
Super high heels (he thinks they’re sexy but doesn’t like when my shoes make me taller than him!)

I’m still noodling this around but I was initially startled to realize that we *do*
have something major in common in how we choose clothing. He is all
high tech gear (both for outdoor work and personal life) and I can be rather
girly/saucy. I am a very pragmatic, problem-solving person, though and in
searching for a good word to describe the base quality of his clothing choices
I decided “performance.” After that, he may add pieces in lifesaver colors.

This is exactly the first quality I look for. I have to
be able to walk miles in my shoes, I don’t want to itch or be covered in a sheet
of sweat. I don’t want a soggy, clingy layer of cotton knit on me. I want to be dry, warm. I don’t want sleeves so wide they catch on things or maxis so long I can’t carry things upstairs. I don’t want to think about my clothing once I
have it on and the best situation is clothing that feels like air on.

Of course, that said, we almost never look like we’re going the same place or that we would be likely to know each other. So I have to think further on the next important piece: what I want to communicate and what I intuit he wants to communicate.

Hmmmm, my hubby is on Team “I can get from bed to bus in 4 minutes.” I could really relate to Kyles’s post. My hubs is not into his own fashion, but is my no. 1 supporter and fan. I wear what I want to wear and he wears what he wants to wear and often we don’t look like we’re going to the same occasion. I don’t mind at all.

This has been such an enjoyable read, but I have been reluctant to respond because my husband and I are (and have been for a little over 2 years now) going through such a stressful time since he was laid off from his job, which means money is always a HUGE issue, which has definitely affected our sense of “style” as well as our spending habits. It used to be that we both loved buying quality items – now my husband buys pretty much NOTHING for himself. I have been on SYC since January – partly because I really don’t need anything, but mainly because we just don’t have the finances!

Here’s what I can say about our styles:

Husband – loves leather coats – has multiples – I own one and wear it very infrequently.

Husband – loves long sleeve woven shirts in all different colors and patterns. (he probably owns over 60 of them.) I own one long sleeve woven white shirt that has been worn once

Husband dresses in basket ball shorts and colored socks and tennies on weekends – and I could just die everytime I see him! (I can’t stand it!) I, tend to dress on weekends in casual skirts, or premium denims and boots in the winter, cute sandals in the summer.

Husband shaves his head about every 6 weeks – again, a look that I don’t really like on him – but he thinks its practical and easy and cheap (he can do it himself!) I go to my hairdresser once a month to have my gray roots touched up and a slight trim.

Husband is RATE all the way! I am much more team polished than him.

When we go out together I am always much more dressed up than him – and neither one of us really mind that!

Husband never spends any money on himself – he LOVES everything that I buy him (or USED to buy him!).

Husband’s sense of self-esteem is really down right now because he can’t find a job and his clothes are beginning to look kind of raggedy and that makes him feel worse! I, on the other hand, had a HUGE wardrobe before we sunk into this financial crisis and so I am not feeling so bad about myself as he is.

Didn’t mean this to be so depressing – but that’s just where we are right now!

Ben and I share a scent, love of body art, love of grey and love of leather. I wear much more colour and I’m more dressy. Ben has great taste and I adore the understated pieces he has chosen for me over the years.

DH is team polished, team wear and team quality. He buys large amounts of clothes infrequently.

I am team RATE, team save and team make do and mend. I buy small amounts a little more regularly (pre YLF I bought small amounts infrequently…)

We are both modern classic dressers, believe in the importance of quality shoes in particular and enjoy bright colours in moderation. We both have our hair cut every 5 weeks.

These sorts of posts are often the ones I don’t get round to commenting on as they make me think about something I’d never thought about and by the time I’ve got my thoughts together, the ‘moment’ has passed. So interesting.

My hubby and I couldn’t be more different. I tend to dress in sort of artsy-dramatic style with bright colors, bold jewelry(and lot of it) and he usually thinks that I look overdressed. His everyday wardrobe is polo and khaki pants for work, and t-shirt and jeans on the weekends and he wouldn’t wear any accessories other than his wedding ring. To say that we do not match would be an understatement of the year!
One thing he would have liked to see me in would be dresses and since I’m not found of skirts, that hardly ever happens. Incidentally, he is the one who usually encourages me to experiment with different colors and styles, which is funny since he NEVER tried anything different on himself!