First birthday, angel baby. How to cope

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gourmetplacenta wrote:

Tomorrow would have been Taylor Anne's first birthday. And Monday will mark the first anniversary of her death. Does anyone have any suggestions of how to better cope? I didn't take tomorrow off but my husband and I both took Monday. I'm just feeling a little lost. TIA --

I am so so sorry. I have no words, as I am not there yet. It has only been 2.5 months since my Cameron Tyler passed away at only 1 week old. I struggle with the monthly anniversaries of his birth and his death and I have already been thinking of what I want to do and don't want to do on the 1 year mark of both of those days. I do know I will be taking both of them off work. I hope tomorrow and Monday are as peaceful for you as they can be.

I am so sorry hugs. For Amiahs first birthday I did take the day off my husband and I laid in bed and talked about her most of the day. I cried off and on and just missed her. I looked through her pictures and imagined what she would have been like. We also went out a little later in the day and stopped at places we had memories while I was pregnant with her. Also at 1:24 am we stopped in the hospital parking lot and talked about her birth and the 2 short months we had her. I made the day a day of memories. I didn't do the celebrate by buying a cake and releasing balloons but I thought about it. I thought about the things I would like to do in her honor like donating gift baskets to the NICU with clothes and necessities. Unfortunately we don't have the finances. Every mother will grieve differently and every anniversary will be different. I have tried to make them special days to honor her memory and to not be too sad and heartbroken. On the anniversary of her passing it's hard because it's also my birthday so I try even harder. Maybe come up with a plan of something you would like to do in memory of her. A note on a balloon, a donation somewhere, a special dinner at home to call her favorite. Something special just for/about her. ***Hugs***