talking about it

How do you deal with it if your partner knows you self harm and wants to know about it and help you deal with it but the reason you have, or want to, is linked to them?

It feels like a guilt troop or emotional blackmail to tell him I've done it... Or the reasons why... And I don't want to do that. Im just not coping very well... But then I don't want to hide it from him or lie and say I'm okay if I'm not....

Sometimes honesty is best in a relationship but also at the same time maybe it would be best to sit down and talk about the things he does that upset you before discussing the SH. It's important to work out those issues.