Me Time: The Key To A Healthy Relationship

If you ask me, one of the best tips for a healthy relationship is for a man to get away from said relationship. Now, I don’t mean break-up, nor do I mean having an affair and cheating. I’m not even talking about a road trip with the boys, I just mean taking a daily break to have some time for yourself. A little “me time” if you will. It doesn’t have to be a long one (an hour or more if you can swing it), but you should take it every day. This will lead to a more healthy relationship and a happier you.

A Healthy Relationship

In the initial stages of a relationship, you want to be with each other every single moment of the day—which is great. Then, as time wears on, you get over that initial I-gotta-see-her-now mindset and start wanting your own space. As your relationship lengthens, you start craving that alone time. Maybe more than you crave her. And that’s okay and even normal. Men need their space. Trust me. I know. You know each other so well at this point there’s no need for running a bankruptcy search.

Having Space Makes Your Relationship Better

I’ve been married for some time—and don’t get me wrong, I love my wife. She’s been my best friend for more than a decade and we’ve always spent a lot of time together. I also have two kids that I love just as much … maybe more. They’re my kids after all. And I also work a lot. I work 7 days a week—morning, day, and night and juggle a lot of projects. I’m always busy. So, between my family life and my work life, I don’t always get that “me time” that I crave. But I’m trying to do it more now than ever, and I’m a better person because of it. A better dad. A better husband.

Me Time For Me

When I do have “me time” I go for a hike with just my dogs or I take my little rowboat on the lake. I spend most of that time in myman cave, the one place where I can just be Wayne. Sort of a mix between an old farmhouse and a cabin in the woods. I have a few seats and one comfy couch. Then I have my guitars, ukuleles and my old bass from my college band days. When I’m in that room, I am completely at ease. I pour myself a beer or a bourbon if it’s late and my family has gone to bed. Then I will sit and read or play one of my instruments for an hour. It’s important that I do these things. Important for me, and also my family.

I Spent “Me Time” Hiking And Boating

Me Time For Her

When I emerge from my man cave I feel rejuvenated, like a new man. A man who’s ready to embrace everything that he’s lucky to have. Because really, finding that one person to spend the rest of your life with (and have a wonderful family with) is the biggest stroke of luck you can have. If you’re lucky enough to have found love, make sure you do the things that help you keep it going. That includes finding the time to love yourself. You don’t need a man cave like I have. All you need is that time. That time alone to be just you. She deserves that guy too.

Wayne is a full-time writer who specializes in relationships and other issues that affect men. When he is not writing, Wayne enjoys spending time with his family and two dogs in upstate New York. He also loves hiking, playing guitar, and brewing his own beers in his man cave.