Being rejected doesn’t mean someone is not liked, important or valued. It simply exhibits that somewhere in a particular situation, things didn’t work out

Rejection , undoubtedly, is a rude awakening that hurts in order to matter. The hurting bit compels us to be frightened of being rejected, unaware of the fact that the most certain way towards success always traverses rejection that one dreads. Life goes on, no matter what we do. We could move on or just lock ourselves in history thinking what could’ve been. Life is about going for things where rejection looms large.

Rejection is not about life-defining stuff every time, like getting admission in a top college, buying a dream car or house, getting married to someone special or joining a sports team. It is also about smaller things in life and that’s why we encounter rejection on a daily basis. Cracking a joke but not receiving any laughs, not getting the desired appreciation for our prettiest dress or wishing to talk to someone we really like, without any response. While using Facebook, if we don’t get maximum likes or a good bunch of followers, somewhere deep inside we get offended for no reason. We even get annoyed when friends forget to save a seat for us at lunch. It’s natural to feel this way, as someone rightly has said: “We fear rejection, want attention, crave affection and dream of perfection.”

Yes, we agree that happiness lies in acceptance, where as rejection is completely antagonistic to it. But being rejected doesn’t mean someone is not liked, important or valued. It simply exhibits that somewhere in a particular situation, things didn’t work out. We don’t need to indulge ourselves in needless ego tussles, leaving our soul to suffer severely in loneliness. When you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not beat it to the pulp.

What makes the whole thing worse is that we don’t recognize the reality of the fear inside, thus stopping ourselves from getting what we actually desire. This can only aggravate the situation leading pain to be unbearable, leaving us in a more complex position. If we really want to get out of this mess we must follow a few steps.

Firstly, accept the rebuff and try not to pretend that it’s not painful. Why avoid pain if we know that every bit of the pain holds purpose. Fortunately life is nothing without pain. Try crying also because it’s the most natural way to release emotions. Every trouble holds purpose so don’t consider it to be a burden. It is a blessing in a disguise.

Secondly, be positive toward every perspective of life; there is a lot of power in optimism. Try to think about what you are good at and what’s good about you.

We can’t escape pain; we can’t change the essential nature of our lives. But we do have a choice. We can give in or we can fight, persevere, and create a life worth living – a noble life.

Sometimes all we need is a little change in our attitude.

"If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection"