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01-31-2012 05:10 PM

PBear

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

I think you might be confused about what 'homosexual' means. Unless you are a man, enjoying anal sex with you doesn't make him gay.

01-29-2012 02:25 PM

tacoma

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

It`s perfectly normal as long as he wants anal with a female.

If he wants it with a man he`s not hetero, but not necessarily "abnormal" either.

01-29-2012 02:09 PM

Claude Veritas

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Those Women of Awareness,infact love anal and are for it, they feel they are all explored , and they find it exciting and erotic and finding it painfully pleasurable in heights of passionate conjugations, The Man feels he has her explored and loved powerfully in consensual domination and getting himself his due of pleasure of The Carnal Knowledge.

01-29-2012 01:44 PM

SadSoul1982

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Yes. Whether it be anal, vaginal or oral intercourse it can be perfectly normal for a straight man to prefer one over the other.

Anal for instance:

Naughty..... Dirty.... puts the man in a sense of power and control over the submissive... and "some" woman really do enjoy the feeling of anal sex. Most don't... but some do.

01-27-2012 04:26 AM

RClawson

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Here you are Enchantment! Im a little slow at figuring out how to scroll around on here. A big thank you for your advice, however, I still cant muster up the courage to hand him my panties

Maybe Im not tight enough vaginally, as I was typing another response I realized how large my last bf before my husband was and it hurt but not alot, and he was above average (I read that average is 6 inches and he was 10 inches).

Its definitely not a situaiton where he is trying to get me to do something I dont want to. Im scared to again after tearing. I also dont want to do it too much since I have read about women losing poop out of there because muscles get stretched. If anyone wants to put those fears to rest and tell me that my tear from 4 years ago has healed, I may give it another chance.

Your tear is called a fissure and they can happen without anal sex. It healed long ago. There has been a great deal of good advice in this thread especially about lots of lube and lots of foreplay.

My W gets very turned on from any kind of stimulation in that area and while she enjoyed it when we tried it she kind of has a been there done that attitude but everything else in regards to stimulation back there is fair game and just enhances the activity with us.

01-27-2012 01:22 AM

ozwang

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

god damn theres alot of threads about anal on this forum lmao

01-26-2012 06:48 PM

OhhShiney

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Your husband is telling the truth. Regardless of whether you've had children, or done exercises, your anus is tighter than your vagina. Your vagina was designed to allow a baby to pass through it. Your anus was designed for a smaller capacity.

Hmm. Once you are able to learn to relax and with lots of lube, the anus may not be feel much tighter than a vagina. In fact, once you get past the the anus itself, things get pretty loose, and it can feel much less engulfing than a vagina. Kind of like a rubber band at the base and then nothing. And, pardon the pun, but I never seemed to bottom out as I do with a vagina.

IMHO, there's nothing abnormal about a man liking anal, but given your history of tearing, it seems that should be considered by your husband. I can't make medical advice, but patience, communication, and lots of lube are critical. From my experience, if it's tight enough, there may not be enough lubrication.

I know the number of kids born impacts things, but my experience has been that the Kegel exercises really work. My wife had two children, and she's far tighter than well lubricated anal I had in the past.

As for women preferring/liking anal, I have had different experiences. I had accidental anal with my first girlfriend, but wouldn't do it again. A college girlfriend was an anything-but-vaginal-saving-it-for-marriage person who managed to orgasm with very little stimulation during anal. My ex wife and I ended up with very infrequent sex, and it was usually anal as she had vaginal pain post hysterectomy (long story). She'd come about half the time. My wife is a "don't go there" kinda person, and I really don't feel like making it an issue, as everything else is great. So I don't go there.

01-26-2012 09:57 AM

NaturalHeart

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

I have never exerienced anything penetrating in that area

01-26-2012 09:52 AM

LimboGirl

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

A couple's birth control practices may influence things too. For example, for those using the rythum method, anal can be incorporated to allow love making during a time of the month it would otherwise happen. Or, a couple who uses condoms for birth control might go bareback for anal. Or, based on my own experience anal with condoms gives the man way more feel than vaginal with condoms.

While anal is thought of as being painful, disgusting etc. by some, it is thought of as just a bit naughty and very nice alternative within marriage.

No doubt at a time before artificial birth control, some couples used anal to keep their family size under some control.

My grandparents must not have liked it. They had 15 kids. This thought never entered my head before this thread. Grandparents and anal sex . Yuk

01-26-2012 09:05 AM

marriedinpei

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

I simply have to weigh in here

A couple's birth control practices may influence things too. For example, for those using the rythum method, anal can be incorporated to allow love making during a time of the month it would otherwise happen. Or, a couple who uses condoms for birth control might go bareback for anal. Or, based on my own experience anal with condoms gives the man way more feel than vaginal with condoms.

While anal is thought of as being painful, disgusting etc. by some, it is thought of as just a bit naughty and very nice alternative within marriage.

No doubt at a time before artificial birth control, some couples used anal to keep their family size under some control.

01-26-2012 08:56 AM

PHTlump

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Do I have Sarcasm Personality Disorder? How about Can't Let Stupid Comments Pass On An Internet Thread Without Commenting Disorder? You can be straight with me, doctor. I know you don't have much to go on, but that's never stopped you before, right?

01-26-2012 08:51 AM

PHTlump

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

I asked him if we would have more sex if we did it that way again and he said "probably." So I asked why and he answered "because its tighter." Im not "loose" down there at all. I had c-sections so my 2 children didnt stretch things out, and I have always been tight and he has trouble getting in "there" sometimes... so why does he need the anal tightness? Is he a closet homosexual or is this normal? Thanks in advance

Your husband is telling the truth. Regardless of whether you've had children, or done exercises, your anus is tighter than your vagina. Your vagina was designed to allow a baby to pass through it. Your anus was designed for a smaller capacity.

01-26-2012 08:20 AM

SimplyAmorous

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?

Some would think so, wouldn' they!? No, he is just very "tame" . I need to bring out the ROVER in him or I would rarely see it. It keeps me challenged in the bedroom anyway- he at least desires the big bang every day, so I am not going to complain.

Anal holds no fantasies for me at all as a woman, so It is fine he has no care - or I would likely be pestering him about it. So a blessing really.

01-25-2012 08:05 PM

2nd_t!me iz_best

Re: Pardon the interuption, is it normal for a heterosexual man to prefer anal sex?