Why to Have Fast Sex with a Girl You've Just Met

In this post I am going to argue for the necessity of having fast
sex; for having sex with women the very first time you meet them.

Personally, I rarely take women’s numbers; I actually can’t remember
the last time I took a woman’s phone number. And that’s not because I’m
taking their email addresses or Facebooks, either.

I am not really the type of man who has the patience. I want to feel
the rush, the excitement, and
the joy of doing something
spontaneous
with a woman. So, taking this into consideration, I need to admit that
I get very frustrated when someone asks me about “dating” or “how to seduce a particular girl”,
because, though I can answer them, these are not my preferred topics.
Many other posters around here would give out better answers to such
things.

However, if you’d like to discuss one-night stands, cold
approaches, female sexuality, sex talk, seduction theory, threesomes,
escalation, or anything else
that is related to having dirty,
spontaneous sex with hot women in exciting environments, then feel free
to ask me questions.

Should You Put Things Off?

The main reason Girls Chase has multiple posters of different
personalities is that we would like to cover different types of male
personalities and different styles of seduction for men with different
goals.

“Same day/night lays” are
simply easier to pull off than having multiple dates with one
particular woman. I also enjoy one-night stands because of the kicks
it gives me.

You might be different from me, and I will respect that, as
we are all different. Maybe you really feel like getting
to know a girl
before doing anything with her (which isn’t a stupid thing to do if you
are wealthy and slightly older than me – I am rather young compared to
many of our readers), maybe you
simply enjoy teasing yourself – I know a few guys who get a kick from
withholding sex from themselves. Bottom line, we are all different, yet
I am sure many guys reading this blog (especially young men, but also
older men not looking for wives) would love to have more one-night
stands (or same day lays – it is also very possible to have fast sex
with a
girl you have just met on the street during
the daytime!), but are
simply not doing this because of fear or limiting beliefs. If you can
relate to this, this post will indeed be for you.

However, this post is not about my subjective opinion of what I
prefer; instead, it will cover more objective points that many good
seducers (including most of the writers around these parts) would agree
with.

The reason I am writing this post is because whenever I tell another
man a story about sex that took place within one hour of the initial
meeting, he is usually blown away. Next, he usually tends to display
a certain sense of small jealousy, often followed by a short ranting
of:
“You are so lucky, it usually takes
me five dates or more to finally be able to have sex with a woman!”

What if I told you that the problem here is that the man is
actually
setting up five dates?

The Problem with Waiting to Have Sex

And the problem of setting up multiple dates…

I will start out with the obvious reasons for why I think this is
problematic before moving on to deeper problems.

Keep in mind, we are trying to be objective here, and not subjective
(even if that is hard). You might get more joy from proceeding in a
different particular way (e.g., maybe you enjoy waiting before having
sex), yet this is none of our concern here – we are here talking about
efficiency.

It Costs You Money

First of all, let us agree that having multiple dates with women is
expensive. Meeting women for me is very cheap. Yes, I do drink alcohol
when I head out, because I enjoy drinking. Unfortunately (and all the
blame for this on me)
this is something I just started to enjoy. Until last year, I have 90%
of the time picked up women sober. Alcohol makes me un-calibrated. I
still manage to pull (because even though alcohol makes you less
calibrated, it gives you more balls) but, beside that fact, my alcohol
expenses are rather low and are for my personal joy and not to pick up
women (it is not a good idea to become dependent on alcohol or any sort
of drug for picking up women – for obvious reasons).

But beside all this, my expense is really low. I might buy myself a
hot chocolate (because I do not like coffee) if I meet a woman during
the daytime, or share a cab with a girl if I meet a sweet girl during
the nighttime. But that is basically it.

It Costs You Time

Further, let us agree that having multiple dates (some men are even
having up to five dates or more before laying a woman) is time
draining. Think about all the things you could have done, could have
learned, money you could have earned, during this time. And frankly is
sitting there and drinking coffee or eating nice dinners with women
while most of the time having uninteresting small talk really
that
exciting?

Mood Changes

In my earlier post about flaking, I
mentioned that a woman’s
mood changes a lot. The problem here is that you might pump her mood up
once she is with you, but once she leaves you after the date is over
and heads back home to watch some TV, her mood will change again!

This means that, on the next date, her mood will not be the same as
when you left her on that last date. So, in other words, you will have
to pump her up all from the get-go again. When she leaves that
date her
mood will once again go to where it was before it took place, and you
will have to repeat the same process all over again the next time you
meet her.

It should be noted, however, that for every time you meet with her,
some rapport is created. But rapport, being key sometimes, is not in
itself a tool that leads to sex.

So, may I ask, is it worth it? Is it worth rinsing and repeating
over and over again?

In my opinion it is not.

Further, there is a time gap between when you meet each other. This
simply creates opportunities for her to change her mind and think twice
(most likely over-think twice) and make her into a flaky girl. Having
sex during the initial meeting saves you from all the frustration you
might experience with flaky women.

The conclusion is: “Close when
the iron is hot!”(all credits on this one goes to the seducer “Allen Reyes” also called Gunwitch).

If you turn her on, there is nothing else she really wants besides
sex with you. If she turns you on as well, then what are you guys
waiting for?

Now let us get to the deeper problems.

What If She Just Wants to Have Fun?

Knowing that women love sex, sometimes women
just need sex for the
sake of satisfying their sexual needs and not for any other more
long-term purposes like getting a partner (boyfriend). In such a case,
the more you wait before giving her what she wants, the greater the
chances that she will get bored to death and perceive you as a
castrated man with no sex lust.

What happens next? Well, she will
move on. Chances are that she will
find a horny sexual man (probably a less
cool, intelligent man than you, but one who is more sexually active)
and you will
be left sitting there like a jackass.

I have seen this happen many times (and have experienced it myself);
really cool guys with good looks and cool personalities who just lack
the element of sexual aggressiveness getting dumped for more sexually
available men.

There comes a point where the woman will tell you that “It is getting late, I’ve got to go”
if you wait too long before making a move.

Another thing to note is that women often want casual pleasure just
for the thrill of it, even though they might not say it out loud to the
public. As covered on multiple occasions, women
fear being judged for
being their true sexual selves, and most women do their best to not
come across as promiscuous, fearing the slut-label. This phenomenon is
often referred to as “anti-slut
defence”.

I really hope you can trust me on this one, as it will open up
opportunities to you. Women are seeking casual sex so often that it is
actually shocking! But I need to admit the truth: I rarely do hear them
admit this fact about themselves. You just need to take my word for it
until you experience this for yourself (by having casual sex with
multiple women).

What If I Want a Girlfriend?

Whether you meet a girl just looking for pleasure or not is often
due to luck and is very context sensitive. But what if she is looking
for a boyfriend?

On the other side, if you wait before having sex, willing to meet up
with her on multiple dates (and even worse, paying
for them all) where
sex is not taking place, you risk losing the sexual frame. Sex is no
longer the underlying intention of your interactions with her.
In fact,
I would dare say that the interaction between you and her might develop
a rather asexual (platonic) vibe. Do not be shocked if she has sex with
some
random strangers on the side of your relationship.

Sex is very important when it comes to relationships. And good sex
within a relationship makes it even better. Further, if you have a
sexually open relationship (where sex is natural between you and your
partner, and you are having an open dialogue about it, making you both
willing to experiment with stuff) the relationship will become as
exciting as it possibly can be and you might keep this girl for a long
while in a genuine and exciting relationship, full of respect and
passion.

But how can you lead a girl into such a relationship if you wait
before having sex? Men who don’t have
the
balls to take a risk and make sex happen turn women off – women want
men who are confident (especially sexually confident); who aren’t
afraid of making a move.

How genuine will the sexual relationship between you two be if
you wait to have sex? Will it not set the frame of you being
the chaser, as you are willing to wait for sex, and receive it as a
reward for committing? This makes you the underdog, which might make
for a good romantic comedy movie plot, but is not a good
position for you to be in!
Being the underdog makes you seem submissive
and gets you perceived as a non-dominant and unconfident male – in other
words, you will not be perceived as an attractive male by most females.

Ask yourself this: when will you really
get to know a girl the best?
Before you’ve had sex with
her... or after? After, obviously. Women
only really, truly open up to
men they’ve had sex with. So the excuse that you’d
like to get to know her before making a move is invalid!

And if you do not want to
have her as your girlfriend, you should
also have fast sex as quickly
as possible, but this time you should avoid
building rapport or showing any signs
that you are willing to have her as your girlfriend. This way you won’t
play with her heart. A woman who loves you and who gets fooled by
accepting to go out on multiple dates just to find out that you won’t
have her as your girlfriend tends be devastated.

Put
another way:

If you do not want a
girlfriend: Have sex with her as fast possible (here you need to
be 100% sexual, only communicating that you want to have sex with her
and nothing else).

If you want a girlfriend:
Have sex with her as fast as possible, and, if she is cool, you can
meet up again. You can also allow yourself to build more rapport with
the girl once you’ve had sex with her and take things from there.

The “Lover” Versus the “Provider”

Further, by
waiting before having sex, you will also come across as
a provider, as you are communicating that your role in her life is not
purely sexual, but rather something else, like paying her bills
(especially if you pay for the dates).

Onnumerousoccasions, I have covered
that “lovers” tend to be more
attractive in women’s eyes. Not only that, they also tend to have a
more genuine and exciting relationship with women (either in long term
relationships or as friends with benefits). The relationship terms for the lover are way
better than those
for the provider.

I won’t repeat exactly what I have said in my earlier posts, but,
quickly explained – there are many providers out there, and only a few
lovers. This gives the lovers higher value on the meet market. If we
consider basic economics, we know that usually a product in hot demand,
especially a rare one, is more valuable than a product that has been
mass-produced and is not in especially hot demand.

Further, lovers provide women with sex,
which is a crucial human
need! However, men who are pure providers simply provide women their
social needs, which
are important as well, but not as important as the biological need the
lover satisfies, which is sex (something providers who come up short on
the lover-side of things fall short in providing a satisfying
experience of, often even if they have good sexual mechanics down)!

From reading this, it becomes obvious that lovers get better terms
in relationships than providers. A provider waits before having sex; a
lover does not! He loves sex and he knows women seek and crave sex as
well... so why wait?

What If We Can’t Have Sex Right Now?

What if she is on her period? What if she really needs to go home
early? What if her heart stops beating? (Happened to me once – not cool)

Most of the time, her excuses for avoiding fast sex (or any sex) are
just caused by her anti-slut
defence. It might also be that she is just testing
you. Or, even worse,
maybe she is rejecting you. In most cases,
you can always persist a
little (remember my three attempt rule?) and if that doesn’t work out,
just move on.

Yet, sometimes, some really good reasons for not having sex might come up.
Maybe it is a logistical issue? Maybe you live with your parents and
her grandmother is sleeping in her room?

It is hard to tell which excuses are good and which are not, and the
only thing that helps here is a mix of field experience and relying on
your gut feelings.

If it is not possible to have sex on the initial meeting, you can
still, if you want, meet with her another time for a second meet
(though the problem here is that you risk becoming frustrated, because
she might flake and play mind games on you). It is always preferable to
have sex with her on the first meeting, but it is okay to make
exceptions if something drastic comes up.

However,
there are three rules that should never be broken in such a case:

She needs to be really into you and ready to meet up again
before
you grab her number (and still then, you might risk being flaked on).

If she starts being flaky or showing signs of flakiness, do not
get angry, just move on.

Sex must take place on the second meeting. If it doesn’t, move
on
and meet other beautiful women – there are plenty of them out there, so
why waste your time.

The Merits of Fast Sex

So now I will recap, but I will not simply repeat what I have just
said, instead, I will list all the reasons for why having fast sex
during
the initial meeting is more efficient and easier.

Having sex on the initial meeting will save you money, as you
won’t have to spend lots of money on multiple dates.

It is obviously more time efficient, as you won’t
have to spend
time on boring dates that lead nowhere.

It will give you some quick, exciting lays with women who are
just seeking casual pleasure.

Further, it will make you come across as very sexually
confident, as you will display that you have the balls to be a sexy, dominant, and confident man!
This is hot!

No more frustrations – as the number of women who won’t return
your calls or ditch dates with you will diminish drastically (because
you
won’t take as many numbers and set up dates anymore!).

You will be able to seduce women with more ease, as you will
turn women on and lay them once they are in the right mood. You won’t
just leave them horny and give them time to lose this state before
meeting them again (and again!).

You will also be perceived as a “lover” in women’s eyes and not
simply as just a “provider”.
Lovers have greater worth as mates to women and therefore will always
be valued
more and receive better terms on the meet market.

Being perceived as a lover, hence having sex with her during the
first meet, will make sure that you enter better relationships than men
who wait for sex, because there will be a more genuine sexual frame
between you two.

Going for fast sex is indeed the most efficient and simplest way to get laid. Now, as mentioned in
the beginning of this article, you might get a kick from waiting before
having sex. In such a case, keep in mind that getting success from
playing such games requires a lot of skill, and I would recommend you
wait till you become more skilled (unless you are at that level
already) before aiming in that direction.

Start with the basics and have fun!

Until next!

-Alek

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Comments

I met a girl at the airport who and we got sexual very quickly. When we were on the plane, I went to check the toilet to manage our moving in there..when I asked her to come in, she declined. We sat next to each other on the plane (good occurrence) as she was touching my hand and I guided her to feel my thighs. However, she must have cooled off because once we landed and I gave her a place to meet up the following day(as we had both agreed), she flaked.

P.S. she may have been looking for a bf, or husby. The book she was reading on the plane insinuates this.

I'm a veteran reader of Girls Chase and I need your expert advice. I'm currently doing my senior year at school (social circle) and just met a "perfect 10" who is REALLY into me (no resistance, attracted, extremely submissive, etc). I need to sleep with her ASAP, but I have terrible logistics (we both live with our parents and she doesn't have a cellphone, therefore I can't set up a date). How do I make it happen?

I'm a chemist, and I know that there are side reactions that can spin out of control. Let's say one follows this for weeks and months in any other town except a mega-city... you're not 3 degrees of separation from overlapping social circles.

On the one hand, yes you can trust no kiss-tell is occurring, or you are just fine with the sexy man reputation. On the other hand, if the women you sleep with fall in love and get bitter (we men don't get bitter as you've trained)... those side reactions can bit you.

I was wondering if you could post an example of a conversation following these principles. Meaning, the opening and what follows until sex. I'd imagine it would be a fairly simplistic dialogue if the vibe was strong enough, butt an example of start to finish in a 'then-and-there' lay would be beneficial. Thanks man.

1. Was On my way home to my apt about 1am after club (I live in the middle of the city - huge advantage), and I saw a girl alone, asked her how her nights been and what she's up to and she said she's looking for her backpacker accomodation. I said I know how to get there but why the rush, my apt has drinks food and good music lets hang while I wait for my friends to get back (had no friends coming back of course :)).
So we were sitting on the couch talking and I was touching as chase's articles recommend. Then I spontaneously kissed her, withdrew and kept talking. I could tell her mood changed to sexual and then we started making out and I took her to bed.

All the above took about 1 hour.

2. Was at a club and went outside to the smoking area where it is easy to talk to people. Started tLking to a girl who was with a guy, started flirting, guy said 'what's with all the lame questions', I ignored him, he walked away (defeated hah!). Started whispering in the girls ear making sure there was a lot of skin contact. Thn said let's get out of here. She agreed and this time we got full-on by the time we made I to my apt ellevator ( I picked her up and made out with her against the wall) and we were havig sex immediately when we got in. I didn't even know her name!! (Of course I asked her when we first started talking but forgt quickly). Se left after we finished so her friends could take her home. Never saw her again still don't know if her number is in my phone somewhere. Felt good though.

I've been sleeping with most women on the first time meeting them. They'll even text me after saying I was really good in bed, but when I try to meet up with them again it never happens.

I don't want a girlfriend, but I'm not interested in one night stands. I want to fuck a girl at least 10 times before moving on since it's a wasted investment of my time to chat up a girl and only fuck her once.

One reason I've noticed is that I'm so focused on "leading" and escalating that I don't actually let her chase me or invest on her own. Lack of rapport might be the other issue.

I am at the point where i am trying to go for really pretty women. However i am running into some difficulty. My issue is that i am meeting women of quality who don't want first meeting sex. I am getting a feeling that quality women (the real pretty ones) can have sex whenever and with whoever they want at any given time. So a lover who just provides them with sex is really nothing to them since they can get sex from anyone. So, what i am saying is since quality women have a lot of options to chose from they are more prone to being "gamed" (meaning taking them out on dates and playing the game). In your experience do you think this is true? Do you think quality women need to be "gamed"? Or is my entire thinking flawed, do i need rewiring?

I also tend to find out that Women of Quality (not your average cute college girl or a drunk club girl) simply will NOT sleep with you until dates 3-5, no matter what you do. I am fairly successful with women and have no problem seducing them on the first date, if we are both on the same wavelengths. Some of the Women of Quality (especially late 20s-early 30s, as opposed to early 20s) just don't have sex early on and they would cut down any and all attempts to do so.

Yes, it is true. Girls who are looking for a bf won't sleep with someone that quick. It's not that easy, and we are not animals, we are human beings, and things are not aleays that easy, especially if you live in a small town, girls are more careful. Those girls usually needs time to get more relaxed with you, and that will happen over time when they get the chance to know you better. So, only some easy or drunk chicks in the club will have sex immediately when there's some chemistry, while other girls will wait, because they don't want to be used, they eant to be sure that it will last...