I have gotten my sex drive back after having Cheyanne and I don't have a boyfirend(will I ever) and I don't like to masterbate I feel so dirty when I do and guilty. It's driving me nuts with all this sexual tenstion that I can't release. All my friends have told me to just have a one night stand but I think that sex should be with someone I really love and have feelings for so I don't want to do that. Its getting to the piont where any male person touches me or shows me any attention I imedetly think that he likes me and I get a crush on him. Is this normale to think like this? What can I do I feel like I'm going to explode. Thankyou

I was taught that masterbation was dirty and bad to so thats why I feel that way. Also that you shouldn't tough yourself their so it stuck in my head that masterbation was bad and dirty so when I do it which is never I feel guitly.

I don't understand why anyone would teach there child masturbation is dirty. It actually is far cleaner and safer then having sex with someone and risking getting std's or aids. Maybe buy a dildo so you dont have to touch yourself? ;)

I think you need to be very careful in regards to your self-esteem right now. I have been were you are, and have put far too much into a guy just because at that moment in time I thought he was what I wanted. I ended up compromising far far too much of my true self to please him. If you are not comfortable having a one night stand, then dont.

Someone will come along that is right for you. For now, if *I* were you, I would stick to pleasing myself. When we are in places of need and looking for someone, we tend to act in ways out of character and do things we later will regret.

Huh. That sucks. It's like, "Gee, thanks, mom." :roll:
You know, this might be an opportune time to "un-learn" what you've been taught about masturbation; it's your body, you know it's not "bad and dirty", and you know it is your right to touch it if you want to.
Personally, I find masturbation very empowering because it liberates me from having to rely on another person for sexual release. I'm a very independent person. I don't like depending on other people for anything. When I have sex with my partner, it's because I specifically want to have sex with him; I want that intimacy and closeness. Whereas, if I'm just "horny" I can masturbate, no need to involve anybody else, no need to worry about somebody else's feelings, needs, gratification.
Being selfish is a good thing, sometimes. I don't always want to share my body with others. Sometimes I just want to keep it all for myself.
Liberate yourself from what you were taught. Your body belongs to you. Nothing you choose to do with it (short of hurting other people) is bad, dirty, or wrong.
JMO, ~ fairy

Oh yeah, ditto. Takes too long, hands get tired. Running water from the bathtub faucet works well, as does any sort of vibrator/ personal massager. I've never had a detachable showerhead, but it sounds like it'd work.
One other nifty little trick I learned from a masturbation thread on our former site (so much valuable information lost when we moved, *sigh*):
Try masturbating with panties on, or some layer of clothing between your skin and the vibrator. It feels much better than putting the vibrator directly against your clit, which can be uncomfortably intense and can irritate the skin on your girly parts.
Can't remember who contributed this valuable advice, but whoever it was, thanks. :wink:

Here the thing I don't understand is that when my exboyfriend massaged my clit and vulva with his fingers it felt great and I didn't feel any shame or guilt, but when I do it to my self I feel horriable why is it that my ex could do that and I wouldn't feel shame but when I did it I felt shame?

I do not have a detachable shower head but i still get off with my faucet when the boy is not around and I am too lazy to masturbate. I don't think you would be able to do this if you are preggers, but what I do is shimmy my hips up the tub until the are against the front wall. So basically either my legs are flat against the wall and I am in and L-shape OR i bend my knees and put them flat against the wall. I wiggle around until the water stream hit straight below or on my clit (just depends on how sensitive you are) and then wait. LOL. I breathe in deeply at some point and BAM. orgasm no hands. Hahahaha. :lol:

I can't get off with my hands either, and I doubly second the detachable shower head. Works better then even a vibrator. For whoever asked how, you take the shower head and put it on high pressure, and hold it over your clit, and move it around to wherever feels good. I used to call in sick to work before I got preggo once every few months so I could have the house to myself and the shower head ;)

yay! you are well on your way to knowing and believing that it is NOT a dirty and bad thing to touch yourself. Take it slowly, eventually you will be comfortable with your own body, and knowing that it is not a bad thing, but a beautiful thing to explore your own body. You will find it is easier to "get off" wioth somone else when you do allow yourself to masturbate. It can be so liberating and expresive and treally break down your own personal walls...but don't rush, cause you need to ease into it. But i def think you should be giving it a try and allowing yourself to enjoy your body and enjoy everything ablout yourself. Good luck...and have fun :wink:

Here the thing I don't understand is that when my exboyfriend massaged my clit and vulva with his fingers it felt great and I didn't feel any shame or guilt, but when I do it to my self I feel horriable why is it that my ex could do that and I wouldn't feel shame but when I did it I felt shame?

For me, it's like being tickled. If someone tickles me, I am extremely ticklish, but if I tickle myself, nothing. Masterbation is the same for me.

I never would have made it through my divorce (or my marriage for that matter) if I didnt masturbate! I'm not ashamed to admit I masturbate, or that I have a vibrator...that bunny is my best friend! :twisted:

I advise against a one night stand though. I'm not the type of person who can just jump into bed with someone and then be like "Cya later" if you know what I mean. I tried that once and it backfired big time!