(Closed) What is the most useful advice you ever received while planning your wedding?

This question has probably already been posted but I can’t find it. What is the most useful bit of advice anyone has ever told you that related to wedding planning or the wedding day? Anything from budget, to invites, to DIY, to timing, to photos. absolutely anything. Thank you!! 🙂

I worked with a photographer at her day job. She told me that one of the best pieces of advice she can give is to have a go to person other than yourself on your wedding day to handle anything that may arise. You’ll be much too busy that day to deal with the small details.

But really, my advice is to over-budget on everything. Don’t pick your attendants until 6-8 months out. Don’t count on anyone else’s help, but be grateful when you receive it. Remember that in the end, the point is marrying your best friend, and no one is going to remember the tiny details – they’ll remember your happiness.

I shared this elsewhere, but I got an email from my dad the other day saying this: “I know this is impossible advice for any bride but try to relax about the whole thing and don’t worry about anything you can’t control–which would include other humans. The best wedding you’ll ever attend is the one after your own–because you have no responsibilities and can just enjoy yourself but you know just how much of a hassle others are enduring. Relax. It will all work out fine and those aspects which don’t work out will become things you’ll laugh about in the future. I know this because I am, after all, the guy who arose on his wedding day and promptly puked down the staircase of the best man and his girlfriend. (And they are still our best friends.)”

I’m ~6 weeks out and have been ever so slightly stressed (like, I’m a 12 on a 1-10 scale). This was awesome to get in my inbox.

Trust the professionals to deliver on what you want, that’s their job and they do these things CONSTANTLY. Don’t focus on too many of the small details- like the “perfect” color pink rose YOU MUST have for your bouquet- nobody remembers that stuff.

Keep your budget up to date. It is a living, breathing document, not something you do at the beginning of the process, start spending, and then come back 2 weeks before the wedding and see how much you have left.

Some things were more expensive than I expected, some were much less expensive, but either way – I always have a very clear picture of where we’re at on finances. The money aspect can be seriously stressful, and always knowing where it is at will keep you sane on that. You can make decisions more easily when you know how the budget is doing.

Remember, no one is going to leave because your flowers aren’t the exact same shade of pink as the invitations. (Actually, my mantra for the week before my wedding was “Is anyone going to leave because _______? No? Then I don’t care.)

It’s something small, but I’m so glad I did it. Create a separate email account for wedding stuff only. I get so many (mostly junk) wedding emails, I’m glad it’s not clogging up my regular email address. Also I like that all my vendors only contact me through that email.