Dianne McDonald: Ringing in a realistic year

We are on the dawn of another new year. Some will reflect on 2010 with gratitude and feelings of appreciation, while others bid good riddance to the first decade of the 21st century.

Dianne McDonald

We are on the dawn of another new year. Some will reflect on 2010 with gratitude and feelings of appreciation, while others bid good riddance to the first decade of the 21st century. One thing we all have in common is the universal shared feeling of hopefulness for even better things to come in this next year.

Many of us attempt unrealistic goals right off the bat as some sort of ritualistic resolution. Rapid weight loss, quitting everything “bad” and gambling in pursuit of instant wealth may not be the best route for optimal results. The over the top, all-or-nothing start usually ends as a quick flop intertwined with self-inflicted feelings of disappointment and failure. I am hoping some will opt for a more attainable approach to goal setting, and reaching, in pursuit of betterment of selves, community and global impact.

I suggest that we begin to feel more comfortable in our own skin. I know, it’s easy to say, but very difficult for many of us to begin to love ourselves and all what we define as imperfections. Truth is, bodies morph. They change and shift all of the time. It’s quite miraculous, and who am I do mess with that extra five (10?) pounds and new curves that has miraculously become a part of me? Another way to better ourselves is through continued learning. Take a course or a class in something that has interested you, but you always push to the back burner. Also, take the time to acknowledge the unique intellect you already possess. You might not have your degree, but you may be incredibly educated about raising children, cooking or some other life skill. Our life paths are all unique and equally as valuable as any formal higher education. Common sense is one of the most valuable life skills one can possess.

Be sure to include realistic expectations when making your New Year’s resolutions. Be sure to include a healthy dose of self-assured love of the women you are as you strive to become the woman you want to be. Happy New Year!

Dianne McDonald is a working mother who lives in Marshfield, Mass., with her husband and five kids.