At this moment in time, are you the same person you were when you met your ex?

Okay, I imagine you still go by the same name, maybe you work in the same office and possibly even have the exact same automobile. But would you say you are exactly the same person?

You have to consider how your character has changed if you are trying to make your ex need you again. And reflect on your personality at the time you met.

We need to take a glance at how folks usually perform when they break up. What many people do when this happens is go to pieces when your realize they cannot save your marriage. They phone their ex at all hours and say they still love them. Then when that does not do the job they begin to beg them to stay. Next, they try to say their life will not be bearable if the ex goes. Finally, they hide themselves away and won’t communicate with anyone.

Basically, this behavior shows the traits of someone on the brink of their sanity. If you admit to doing things like these, it is essential to say to yourself- Am I who I was at the time we met? It’s improbable that your ex fell in love with a clingy, needy type.

On the plus side, you possess the ability to make things different. Just take a little time to think things through and not let your emotions take control. Splitting up has the potential to be a terrible time on the emotions but it generally isn’tlasting damage. The problem is in the possibility of giving your ex an image of you that will be hard to shift for years.

In partnerships we tend to become relaxed. And when people get settled they sometimes get, for want of a better expression, sloppy. If this occurs we take things for granted and maybe don’t realize there are problems. Thus it comes as a real shock when things seem to go wrong very quickly. At these times you are in danger ofacting without thinking.

The sensible thing is to get distance inbetween yourself and your ex – which will actually help you in getting your ex back. Then your aim has to be to start to become the original person your ex fell for first. As a matter of fact when you make a road map and get it right you can become better than you were back then.

So, to win your ex back return to your old self. You really have no excuse not to try to win your ex back by a little self-improvement.