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Wednesday, March 16, 2016

SINGLES BEWARE!!!

I
would like to lend my voice to the on-going discourse on battery in marriages. Wife-beating, husband-bashing and the like. My focus is not the married couples
but the not yet married singles who are contemplating marriage any time in the
future. The best way to avoid this problem is for
singles to be vigilant and wary prior to marriage.

Seldom do people suddenly become physically
abusive in marriage who had not shown such tendencies before marriage.In my experience with troubled marriages, most of the
problems already existed in some form or degree during courtship, but most
people just ignored or denied them, believing erroneously that the problems
will disappear after marriage.Singles
please wake up! Pay attention!

Whatever character tendencies you observe
(especially repeatedly) in your 'beloved', are a sure indication of what you
are going to live with for the rest of your life if you marry them. Someone who
has not married you yet and is shoving, hitting or threatening to hit you is
giving you a front-row sneak peek into the future that awaits you if you marry
them.'Well what if they apologize,
shouldn't I forgive?' Of course you should! But that does not mean you
should marry them, unless they make an EFFORT to seek help and actually, truly
and genuinely change and overcome their abusive issues with TIME.

TIME!
That is one word a lot of single people do not like to hear. They think that
once you are in love with someone you should just go right ahead and marry them
without 'wasting' time, especially if they have waited for long to get a
marriage partner.Think
again!Don't get burnt like some people
who realized too late that they should have given their relationship a little
more time in order to be sure who they were getting married to. Please
note; what is inside a person, (that is who they truly are) is what comes out
when they are under pressure. When they are angry. When they are not getting
their way. When someone offends them.Watch out and do your life a great favour by not being
blinded by 'love' to your friend's harmful foibles.

By the way, I am not referring to human
weaknesses and tendencies to which we are all prone but which are not aimed at
abusing anyone and which do not harm or injure anyone. A
simple rule of thumb will be to do an HONEST, OBJECTIVE evaluation of your
relationship and ask yourself 'if this person remains unchanged, am I willing
to spend the rest of my life with their character'?Read my lips: The present tense of your
relationship is the future tense of your marriage!