Why are we so hard on ourselves?

Why are we continuously sabotaging ourselves?

Having self-esteem is great but it should not cause anxiety when our skills and abilities do not translate in our life. We too often forget the things we should hold on to when our expectations donot match our reality: personal growth, learning experiences, character building, resilience, creativity and so much more.Big achievements are partly dependent on external circumstances​; however we are in control of how we decide to process our becoming which is power in itself.

Writing our advice for friends or family member dealing with the same concern

Writing a letter to ourselves and address it like you would to a friend or family member

Pausing and meditating on the 3 elements of self-compassion: Self-kindness / Common humanity / Mindfulness

Writing a personal mission statement, the solid expression of our values first and of our vision then which may keep you motivated and focus.

How does it help?

Being more self-compassionate is key for we will always have bigger goals and the journey to some of them may be longer than to others. This mentality allows us to elevate our state of mind and to be more comfortable with ourselves. We will always remain in that skin so we should try and make the most of our experiences even when our expectations are not met.