Sunday, December 11, 2011

At Orthodox Mental Health Group's Forum.....

At Orthodox mental health group’s forum, openly gay Jews get their say and some support

HAUPPAUGE, N.Y. (JTA) -- The 15th annual conference of
Nefesh International, an association of Orthodox mental health
professionals, was a study in inclusion.
Dr. Judith Guedelia, the director of Shaare Zedek Medical Center’s
neuropsychology unit, became the first woman to receive the conference’s
Esther Solomon Mental Health Award. Several participants noted the
increased Chasidic representation. And three openly gay men for the
first time were permitted to set up a table. Members of Jewish Queer
Youth, a support group for Orthodox and formally Orthodox LGBT Jews,
they distributed informational materials and debated -- and occasionally
berated -- conference participants.
The JQY members were allowed to participate in last weekend's
conference at a Long Island hotel only as individual advocates raising
awareness, not under the banner of an organization. And only after a
special appeal to Nefesh.
"They wanted to talk about their struggles as homosexuals in the
Orthodox world,” said Simcha Feuerman, a marriage and family therapist
in private practice in New York and the president of Nefesh. “Mental
health professionals should be aware of those voices.”
Feuerman noted that as an organization that abides by halachah, or
Jewish law, Nefesh cannot support any organization that "normalizes”
homosexual behavior.
“On the other hand, we certainly have great compassion and interest
in the challenges and struggles that persons with homosexual desires and
orientation experience,” he said.
The inclusion of openly gay men at the conference represents yet
another shift, however incremental, in the willingness of the Orthodox
community to candidly discuss homosexuality. It also comes as Jews
Offering New Alternatives to Healing, or JONAH -- an organization that
promotes so-called reparative therapy for Orthodox gays -- did not
participate in the conference after its controversial appearance last
year. JONAH co-founder Arthur Goldberg told JTA that he had a prior
engagement in Florida.
"The last few years have seen a seismic shift in attitudes toward
LGBT people in Orthodox communities," said Jay Michaelson, the author of
"God vs. Gay? The Religious Case for Equality." "To an outsider, things
may seem barely to have changed. But to those of us who are part of or
work with Orthodox communities, the change has been dramatic."
Last year, a gay Shabbaton in Connecticut attracted more than 150
guests. In the summer of 2010, a group of more than 150 Orthodox rabbis
and mental health professionals endorsed a statement that called for
greater sympathy from rabbis and counselors, urged families not to cast
out gay children and cast doubt on reparative therapy, which most mental
health professionals consider a sham. And just last month, a rabbi
ordained as Orthodox performed a gay commitment ceremony in Washington. The developments are not without their opponents, however.A statement on homosexuality signed by several leading Orthodox
rabbis and Orthodox mental health professionals asserts that
homosexuality is a curable condition and calls for resistance against
“the infiltration” of gay activists in the Orthodox community. The
statement, publicized last week on the Huffington Post, forbids a gay
individual from being alone with a member of the same sex and cautions
Orthodox individuals about “accepting some false notions.”
On Saturday evening, Rabbi Dovid Cohen, one of three rabbinic
advisers to Nefesh, spoke on making a distinction between sin and
organized sin -- comments interpreted by many conference-goers as
targeting homosexuality in general and JQY in particular.
In an interview with JTA, Cohen said that anyone who organizes to
reject a provision of the Torah should be regarded as a traitor. They
should still be treated for their illness, he said, but not with
compassion. “It’s as if someone was asked to treat an enemy soldier who is trying to kill him,” Cohen said. “We shouldn’t have empathy.”At the conference, JQY members sought to distinguish between having a
homosexual orientation and practicing gay sex, with only the latter
prohibited by the Torah.
“JQY doesn’t challenge anything in the Torah,” said Mordechai
Levovits, the co-executive director of JQY. “We understand that there
are some acts that are halachically problematic, but we believe that
[gays] can be openly themselves and still be part of the community and
their families.”
According to Levovitz, JQY does not “support or encourage sexual or
intimate behavior… and adheres to the principal of tzniut [modesty],
which demands that intimate behavior stays private and discrete.” The
group, he says, only seeks “to combat shame, bullying and ostracizing
while making families, yeshivas and communities safe and welcoming to
their gay members.”
Despite the debate, many conference participants appeared supportive
of the JQY members and were pleased by their presence. A steady stream
approached their station at the end of the hall featuring a well-stocked
collection of testimonials about harmful therapeutic practices and
statements from Orthodox rabbis on homosexuality. One of two television
screens played a video of gay men describing the trauma they experienced
as youths in the Orthodox community.
“People need to hear that there is a gay population in the Orthodox
community that needs to be integrated,” said Malka Engel, a social
worker and psychoanalyst who practices in Manhattan and on Long Island.“Why not?” said a therapist who preferred to remain unnamed. “We’d
rather find a way to treat than kick them out. How can we learn anything
without talking to them?”

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