Welcome to a place where I hope your heart is encouraged, you find resources to equip you for life and marriage, and you are further empowered to live into the circumstances and relationships you have chosen.

I believe in law enforcement.

Cops. Warriors for peace. Men and women who give their lives to serve and protect so that we can live, raise our children, love our neighbors, and dream about the future.

I believe in marriage.

Marriage can be difficult. Add a law enforcement career to the mix and the challenges multiply. Whether you are the LEO, or you are married to a LEO, everything I do is designed to help you be successful in your marriage. As the wife of a Chief in the California Highway Patrol for nearly 30 years, I have lived what you are living. The good. The bad. The very, very ugly.

I have hope.

And I want you to have hope too. It is my passion that our books and resources will indeed encourage, equip and empower you to be successful in your marriage.

Victoria speaks to audiences of all sizes.

She's engaged round table discussions, been the keynote speaker in retreats and conferences, leads four- and eight hour seminars, and addresses departments, police leadership, and faith-based audiences as a law enforcement family advocate. She and her husband, a Chief with the California Highway Patrol also speak as a couple.

Each post is designed to address attitudes, self-care, self-introspection, expanding perspectives, issues with children, and areas of interest to the law enforcement family.

Register for the March 2nd Conference HERE. About this Event Home Watch 2019 is our first conference for spouses of law enforcement officers. Set aside a day just for you, and bring your friends! You’ll laugh, cry, connect, and be encouraged as you glean “Strength for the Journey”. Includes refreshments, lunch, interactive conversation, stories and […]

I’ve been feeling pretty nostalgic lately. Seven years ago this time of year was when CHiP on my Shoulder—How to Love Your Cop with Attitude hit the online bookstores. I had no idea what to expect—would people buy it? And if they buy it, would they even like it? It was a complete unknown. And […]

Yesterday I had a good cry. It wasn’t about gratitude for our country, or amazing fireworks, or indignation of where our country is headed. I’ve done all that in years past. No, yesterday was a different kind of Independence Day. The month of June was about celebration. Thirty years of marriage. My daughter graduated from […]