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“Structure” provides us with safety only when those who design the structure and those who are responsible for keeping it in order are coming from a loving place. I’m writing this post to explain what I was hinting at in my last post.

All my thoughts about structure and formality of structure being linked with a feeling of safety include the assumption that the “Structure” was put in place by a person or people who are serving with love.

I sense that this isn’t always the case. Structures put in place by madmen (frightened people) can be hazardous to our safety.

I think that when the structure is stuffed down our throat, rather than taught to us, and when we can’t question it for fear of being hurt, sometimes physically, it has the opposite effect. It puts defeat into the minds of most people. It can include doing ominous things. Certain groups use these regimens to entrap people. I’m sure you can name a few of the obvious groups and/or people who have done this.

I realize I might have people wanting to strangle me when I say what I’m going to say. I’ll say it anyway, because I think that I might be able to help some people, who can hear what I’m saying.

I wish all heads of state – everywhere – would think about this. I didn’t come up with the idea. After heating talks, from people who have earned my respect, I realized a young Jewish spiritual teacher hit the nail on the head. He lived during the time of the Second Temple – during the time the Roman Empire claimed great power and instilled fear in many people. The Roman leaders were probably afraid too or they wouldn’t have had to keep proving that they were powerful. Jesus was kind of “New Thought” for his time.

No words have changed my outlook more, in the past couple of years, than, “Forgive them father. They know not what they do. “ It made me more able to deal with the news on TV and stuff I hear about. I could look at the 20th Century in a different light. He realized that they needed education rather than hate. After working in a couple of high schools for troubled students I can attest to the truth that it’s hard to get frightened students to accept the education being offered them.

I believe that it’s absolutely essential for governing bodies to truly care about the people they’re “serving”. I translate the word “govern” as meaning “serve”. I now realize that we all really want to serve. So – why don’t all the leaders always serve? I think FEAR rears it’s head. You may not agree with me, but I believe Adolf Hitler must have been terrified to do what he did.

Does that mean that if Adolf Hitler – or anyone else – entered my home wanting to kill my son that I wouldn’t find a knife and kill the predator first? Believe me, I’d find a way to end the possibility of anything less than wonderful happening to my son!

It helps me to know this, because if anyone tries to hurt me in some way, I’m not going to hate him/her. I’ll do what’s necessary to keep myself from getting physically hurt and, then, if they’re sane enough to talk to, I’d like to see if it’s at all possible to explain to them that they must have been taught something by someone who had a very sick take on things. The teacher of my predator must have been taught by someone and so on. When Hitler was in power I have a feeling many (probably most) German families didn’t agree with his take on things. They just didn’t dare to go against the madness.

We might be able to make headway in restoring peace more quickly if we’re coming from love rather than from “hate” too. I might have to kill a lot of people who “a Hitler type” would incite to feel they should kill me. However, eventually, it might be possible to get to the bottom of things and find a way to unite the groups.

I’m blessed to live near the UN. Many UN workers live in my building. I’ve become very close with a beautiful young woman who is on the staff of the Iraq Mission. She’s considered an ace young negotiator. Last night I was double blessed to meet and befriend the Deputy Permanent Rep to the UN from Iraq. He’s one of the sweetest and most generous people you could want to meet. He’s Christian and Noora is Islamic. I feel blessed to have them living in my building and my heart is relaxed knowing that people like this are on the negotiating team and that they’re greatest wish would be for world peace.

Yet, I get “HATE” emails from friends of mine telling me why Muslims are terrible. I’m thankful that my recent studies have led me to understand that they’re not HATE emails – they’re FEAR emails.

I’m thankful that I’ve heard many “spiritual” talks by top speakers and taken enough classes in this area to understand that a few “crazies”, in the otherwise caring Islamic culture, create the thought that if people don’t hate the entire group the world will come to an end.

I always thank Oscar Hammerstein for his brilliant lyrics “You’ve Got To Be Taught.

Nicely put, Bobbie. I remember our friend Don Cayea, the lawyer, when confronted in negotiation by an adversarial attorney who began yelling and banging the table, he’d ask the guy, “What are you afraid of?” Perfect example of what you’re speaking of.

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BOBBIE’S BIO

Bobbie began her theatrical career as an actress, studying with Stella Adler, Lee Strasberg and Gene Frankel. She appeared in over thirty NYC productions in theaters such as: Playwright’s Horizon’s, AMAS Rep., Hudson Guild, The Gene Frankel Theater, TNC, All Souls’ Players, and the Jean Cocteau Repertory. She also appeared in regional theater and summer stock, working with Jose Ferrer, Katherine Houghton and others.

Bobbie founded and served as Co-Executive/Artistic Director (1999-2006) of The Times Square Group, a not for profit, arts-in-education company, bringing arts education to students in New York City public high and junior high schools. The schools served ranged from arts focused schools to special schools for troubled students.

A half of the comic musical writing/performing team Horowitz & Spector, she won a MAC Award (Manhattan Association of Cabarets & Clubs) for their show, Whatever Happened To the Kids From Brooklyn? Their songs have received NY Daily News, Billboard and ASCAP awards and have been played on theatrical musical country radio stations. The pair can be seen on You Tube. Tony winner, Chuck Cooper recorded their song, Together America”
. Bobbie now writes for cabaret performers and is writing a musical. She wrote a musical, The S.C.R.A.P. Workshop with John Meyer and was asked to write a special tribute the top earner of Isagenix. She performed the song at the Mandalay Bay Resort in Las Vegas.

She was Executive Producer of Drama Desk Awards 1999 & 2000 and Associate Producer in 2001. Bernadette Peters, Bebe Neuwirth and Lily Tomlin were the hosts respectively. As a commercial theater producer she presented, The Betrayal of Nora Blake, at The Jermyn Street Theatre in London, where it’s sold-out, extended production earned rave reviews and later at The Cuillo Centre for the Arts in West Palm Beach, where it was voted 'Best Musical” by The Palm Beach Post. In past years she produced Angel Street, A Black Girl Talks To God, Victims of Duty and The Great American Backstage Musical off and off-off Broadway.

Bobbie produced major events, among them the first annual Soap Opera Day Celebration along with Mayor’s Koch’s Office of Film, Television and Broadcasting, Ruth Warrick’s Confessions of Phoebe Tyler Book-Launch with guest Ruby Keeler, the Mr. Bill in Space Book-Launch for Real-Good Productions and a Salute to Viveca Lindfors. She co-produced the Farewell To Bowie Kuhn event, which included speakers Howard Cosell, Sonny Werblin and President Emeritus Gerald Ford for The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.

As an Image Consultant, Bobbie serves private clients and has given seminars at Queens College, NYU School of Film & Television, The NY State School of Industrial & Labor Relations, T. Schreiber Studio, the Learning Annex, trade conventions at The Javitz Center, for corporations and, most recently through The Network. Her article MAXIMPACT was published in the AICI news, She co-wrote the presentation for an Escada fashion tour and was quoted in Seventeen Magazine. Her new book, Find Your Mini Qs: Reveal the Star You Truly Are at 50,60,70 & Beyond! will be in print summer 2010 and her book You’re Looking At A Winner is being updated. She was VP-Education of the Tri-State Chapter of The Association of Image Consultants, International from 1991-1993.

Bobbie was educated in the NYC Public School system, at The New York State School of Industrial & Labor Relations at Cornell University (Class Marshall) and at Teachers’ College, Columbia University.