posted March 07, 2015 10:20 PM
Hi, all. Just looking for some perspective here, as I'm relatively new to astrology.

I've been studying the importance of the planets in the natal chart and have been focusing a lot on the moon. I am a 7th house Virgo Sun, but all my life, I have felt out of place. It wasn't until I started studying astrology I learned this is probably in part to my 12th house Aqua Moon and Aqua Ascendant.

I am mother to a little girl who also has an Aqua Moon, in the 4th house. Ironically, my own mother has an Aqua Moon in the 12th house like me.

The more I read about this placement, I find it very discouraging. Children with Aqua Moons don't seem to have good childhoods. I can't say I felt that way about my own, but I can say now, very recently since becoming a mother myself, my mother and I have become estranged.

I am saddened to think my daughter will have a less than loving experience with me as her mother. When I think of my Aqua Moon, I think of it in terms of my unconventionality (i.e. she was born at home, I make medicine for my family, I plan to home school, etc.), though I can be detached. Still, I show no one more affection than I show my child.

I wanted to know if there were an Aqua Moons on here who had positive, loving experiences growing up with their mothers. I've read plenty about the bad ones, lol, but is there anyone out there who actually felt like they had a good mother with an Aqua Moon?

OAN, I find it interesting my mother, me and my daughter all have this placement. I wonder if there is something hereditary or some karma playing out here.

quote:I wanted to know if there were an Aqua Moons on here who had positive, loving experiences growing up with their mothers. I've read plenty about the bad ones, lol, but is there anyone out there who actually felt like they had a good mother with an Aqua Moon?

OAN, I find it interesting my mother, me and my daughter all have this placement. I wonder if there is something hereditary or some karma playing out here.

There can often be astrological patterns linking family members. It's not all that uncommon! My grandmother had a Scorpio Moon, and so does my aunt (her daughter). I think these patterns occur because our close family members are part of our soul group. They are souls we have been close to over many life times. It makes sense that we would have significant connections with them in synastry - and very commonly conjunctions. These links are like physical manifestations of the spiritual ties that exist between you.

Having the same Moon sign however, does not necessarily mean that you all had (or will have) the exact same childhood experience or parent-child relationships.

First of all, the house placement and aspects the Moon makes are very important - and can make a world of difference.

For instance, an Aquarius Moon in the 8th square Scorpio Saturn will be entirely different in vibe to an Aquarius Moon trine a Venus/Mercury conjunction in Libra. The first person might perceive their mother as stern and authoritative - perhaps overly stubborn... while the second person would likely see their mother as sociable, friendly and lighthearted (someone they can easily talk to).

You mentioned your Moon (as well as your mothers') is in the 12th, while your daughter's Moon is in the 4th. This alone would change things. The Moon in the 4th house is "accidentally dignified". The 4th house is associated with the sign of Cancer and the Moon is dignified in Cancer - so, in traditional Astrology, a 4th house Moon would be considered better placed than a 12th house Moon. She will probably see you as someone she can count on, who is always there for her and who she can fall back on when the big wide world (10th house) becomes too much for her - since the Moon (representing you) is present in her 4th (representing the home base).

The degree of the Moon sign can also alter its influence. Each sign has three decanates and 12 duads. There is a lot of debate amongst astrologers as to how significant these are. I do personally use both because I think they slightly alter the general interpretation of the sign and the way in which each particular placement plays out.If you like, you could post the exact degree of your daughters' Moon sign and aspects - and I'll interpret this and give you a more accurate picture

A third thing I wanted to mention is that each sign has different possible manifestations. So quite apart from the decanates and duads - the sign itself is not so "clear cut". Even twins, born minutes apart - with an indistinguishable Moon placement could have differences in their emotional make-up, and their general perception of their childhood and their parents. As you mentioned, an Aquarius Moon can stand for the mother being detached or estranged. But it can just as well be indicative of a mother who is an awesome friend and who the child has an excellent mental-connection with. You could be perceived as the "cool mum" who hangs out with her and her group of friends - rather than "parental", in the traditional sense of the word.

In a nutshell - There can be many positive things about having an Aquarius Moon, so don't stress about it! We all have free will as well. I know everyone mentions this, but it *is* true. You clearly love your daughter and want what's best for her, so I'm sure you are an awesome mother!

Thank you so much for posting. That in incredible insight I hadn't previously considered at all. When I look at my chart, so many of my aspects just seem to reflect someone who is weird and unlikeable...and many of the experiences of my life have reflected perhaps I'm seen that way. That being said, I was definitely worried my own little one would see me in this light as well. Glad to get a different spin on things.

Regarding my daughter, here are her moon aspects and orbs as well as a few we have in synastry:

posted March 09, 2015 08:59 PM
I am distant from my mother, but I still love her very much. She tends to smother me so I keep some distance to be able to cope with her. My advice is to understand your child's needs emotionally and tailor your parenting to those needs.

quote:Originally posted by Aquarian Moon:I am distant from my mother, but I still love her very much. She tends to smother me so I keep some distance to be able to cope with her. My advice is to understand your child's needs emotionally and tailor your parenting to those needs.

Thank you for responding. I find your post encouraging. After getting married, I had to distance myself from my mother because I, too, felt she was starting to be this way. Controlling as well. I don't have memories of her being detached either. She was my best friend for a long time, actually. Perhaps it is her Pisces AC that balanced her out.

But I digress. My main goal has always been to treat my daughter as an individual and raise her according to het own special needs. I get flack for this as well and experience a lot of guilt internally because I know I'm not going the traditional route in many ways.