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Azealia Banks and Igloo Australia’s feud. Any words?
I’ll take problematic excellence over hegemonic mediocrity any day of the fucking week.

Why can I only orgasm by myself and never with a partner?
I don’t know, but try to start thinking in terms of “Why have I only” instead of “Why can I only.”

If we are programmed, then how are we responsible for our actions?
Cultural programming isn’t mind control, and being responsible isn’t the same thing as being culpable.

What does confusing your life with your circumstances mean?
Your life is what matters. Your circumstances only seem like they do. It’s easy to confuse the two, especially when you’re lost in the normal day-to-day bullshit.

What’s the most surefire test for relationship compatibility?
Time.

My dad left when I was five. Twenty years later and today I finally got The Apology Letter. Why don’t I feel better?
Because fuck him, that’s why. An apology letter doesn’t mean shit. At best, it’s a souvenir of his absence. At worst, it’s a self-serving attempt at emotional manipulation. Set the letter aside and let his actions speak instead.

I feel like I need to break up with my boyfriend, but he’s not doing anything wrong. I just graduated from college and he’s content with working his minimum wage job as a store clerk. Is it okay to want someone who is more ambitious?
Of course it’s okay. If you’re done, you’re done. He doesn’t have to do anything wrong. It’s simply enough that he’s not right for you.

How do you stay so invincible when it comes to situations that would otherwise cause negative emotions? I feel like I’d be so much more powerful (and happy) if I learned your abilities.
No, no. I’m not invincible. I’ve just gone through some shit. I’ve had all the negative emotions, and I’ve realized that after the first few minutes, they’re almost entirely optional.