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Topic: Very worried (Read 14557 times)

Apologies for taking up your time. I have a couple of questions regarding risk. I met someone yesterday evening and we had oral sex (69) with no ejaculation. My questions are

1. After I ejaculated, the other guy took my semen and used it as lube. In general is such a practice risky.2. The guy came on my skin around my chest, stomach and hip. I cleaned up everything using a towel. But after two hours (this sounds gross), but I was having an itchy nose. (I usually take a shower after sex, but I had to rush out.) So I put my finger to calm my nose (bad allergies). Due to dryness, I had nosebleed. I was in panic, what if my hands had got some dried semen and can it be infective.

I know I am paranoid. But if it is risky atleast I can go the doctor to get PEP. I appreciate your replies.

Lost, no matter what particular details you have included, essentially this was a combination of mutual oral without ejaculation and some masturbation.

Receiving oral is nil for risk in terms of HIV. Giving oral is at the very low end of the risk spectrum, particularly when ejaculation does not take place. Although there have been a very few cases reported of transmission in this manner, there have also been several longterm studies of sero-dystonic couples in which there was lots of mutual oral and only protected intercourse. The result was none of those who were HIV negative became infected, which supports the conclusion that infection through giving oral is beyond extremely unlikely.

Certainly PEP is not warranted in this case nor is it something ever to consider unless there has been something really risky like unprotected intercourse, especially receptive with ejaculation. You can brush up on all of the risk issues by reading the lesson on Transmission. You can find a link to it in the Welcome thread which opens this section.

In general if you're sexually active it's a good idea to get a full STD panel done regularly -- at least annually and twice a year is even better. There are other STDs out there which are much easier to get than HIV.

There is no way that you will become infected with hiv through sticking your finger, which may or may not have had some dried cum on it, into your nose - even if doing so causes a nose bleed.

I'm in total agreement with Andy here, you have not had a risk in anything you've brought here today.

Along with the reading Andy recommended, here's a few other things you need to know.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for intercourse and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I have a question. I get some dryness rash around my groin area. Never bleeds, but sometimes they are small open red areas. They burn. My question is what is the risk associated if it comes in contact with some precum. Many a time guys rub their and I try to shield it, but I get worried.

Lost, the circumstance you are concerned about is not a risk for HIV transmission. HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It requires very particular receptive circumstances and the kind of skin irritation you have described is not in that category.

Nicks, cuts, abrasions and other such skin situations do not put you at risk except theoretically. In the real world of HIV transmission doesn't happen in that manner.

Please read the lessons on this site about Transmission and Testing. You can find a link to them in the Welcome thread which opens this section. The most essential thing to remember in terms of risk sexually is that if either vaginal or anal intercourse is involved the insertive partner must always be wearing a latex condom.

PEP is absolutely NOT warranted in the situation you are concerned about. Hopefully you will never need to take that step. But you also need to know that if PEP is going to be used it must be initiated within 48-72 hours after an exposure to HIV, and the earlier the better the chances of it being effective.

Ooops! Thanks for drawing my attention to that typo. I have corrected it.

It's understandable that you're concerned about HIV. You can have intercourse if you want to. Just always make sure the insertive partner is wearing a latex condom. They really do the job very effectively of protecting against HIV.

However, it's also good to go at a pace that is confortable for you sexually. Open conversation about your concerns with your partner can be very helpful in sexual situations and even deepen the intimacy of the experience.

Thank you. You are right, but I go into a deep depression. I do not enjoy being the receiving partner. So I decided to put an end to it. In the past few years, I had anal sex with very few people and those too with someone I have kind of known. Always with a condom. Been the insertive partner but always with a condom.

But in the last one year, I had it only once that too with a condom. But after that I felt very depressed for taking chances with life.

So decided to stop it altogether. perhaps if I meet the right person, maybe. But for now I am happy with my decision.

I really appreciate your help and all the moderators. It is a great solace and resource.

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

This is the second time I've had to merge your threads. Please get with the program.

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

In order for you to experience ARS, you need to have been at risk of exposure to hiv. You haven't had a risk so no, you're not experiencing ARS.

See your doctor about your sore throat and remember, we're in the middle of cold and flu season.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Another question and worry. I should stop having sex I think. I peformed oral sex. No cum was involved. I also did not feel any precum. Some deep throating was done. I got worried, though the guy said he is not hiv.

Is there any risk? Will there be any risk of small amount of precum chafing the back of my throat?

Another question and worry. I should stop having sex I think. I peformed oral sex. No cum was involved. I also did not feel any precum. Some deep throating was done. I got worried, though the guy said he is not hiv.

Is there any risk? Will there be any risk of small amount of precum chafing the back of my throat?

Apologies. I will post in the same thread next time. Thankyou. I will see my doctor. I think I should not do anything physical with anyone as I become very paranoid and depressed.

Thankyou

Lost-You have started yet another new thread after saying you wouldn't. No so great...

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Hi All,Sorry about a new post. I did not post for sometime.What is the risk of hiv if there is a small wound and if it is exposed to precum or cum. I tend to have eczema around my groin area and a guy rubbed his erect member around there. I am worried if there is some cum exposed to the small open wound. Should i get PEP for such a possible exposure?

Thanks in advance for your help.

worried in NJ

No risk for this exposure, either.

Brent(Who knows and follows the rules)

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When I posted, there was a query asking that you have not posted for more than 60 days, would you like to start a new thread. That is why I di. My apologies again. And thank you so much for your response.

Have a question on mutual mastrubation. I met a guy, and we kind of went out on a few dates before we ended up in bed. He mastrubated himself on my lower abdomen right above the groin area, by rubbing his penis. His cum kind of I think touched the head of my penis, though not sure. What is the risk of HIV? I came right afterward and cleaned up. Thanks in advance for helping me out many times.

I am very worried about being infected. A week ago I had met a guy. We messed around. He rimmed me and fingered me a lot and dry humped. I also gave him oral. We kissed and mastrubated. He came on himself and I did on myself. A week later I had pain in my rectum and the doctor said i have herpes. I got very worried that I might have been infected by HIV as well somehow. I keep thinking that maybe his cock slipped into me when he was humping or something happened. I thought i had safe sex, and now i am really worried. please help. never did anal sex without a condom. rarely do anal sex to begin with and that too i am very careful. examine the condom for tears etc. now i am in fear. and i keep thinking what wrong did i do.

Thank you rapid. That is what i thought. But the fact that I had herpes inside the rectum and it was pretty painful. I went to the doc and he said i might be poz. i told him i had safe sex. that got me worried. how did i get herpes inside the rectum. but i know for sure that i did not have anal sex. i was not drunk or anything like that. but thank you for your rapid response.

Nothing you did put you at risk for HIV transmission. I don't see any need for HIV testing.

Herpes is much easier to acquire than HIV. It's a separate issue and simply because you caught the herpes virus does not by default mean you were likely to get HIV as well. You didn't do anything risky for HIV.

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Thanks Ann, I will keep that in mind. My main worry now is what if the guy put his penis into me. Maybe I did not know it. Not sure whether it is my imagination or anything, because i thought i was safe. Now i keep going it over and over again wondering whether i was safe and already made up my mind that i am going to soon fall sick.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Thanks Ann. For some reason i cannot stop worrying about it. I keep thinking that I did something unsafe. i know it is difficult to get hiv, but just the fact i ended up with herpes makes me really scared.

Whatever. You've been told that if he'd put his dick into you, you'd KNOW it.

You will NOT be permitted to use this forum to go on and on about your latest NO RISK incident. If you've read the Welcome thread like you've been repeatedly asked to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I would like to thank everyone for providing great service on this forum.

I have a quick question. What is the risk of performing oral, with out the guy ejaculating in the mouth? Is precum a risk factor? I suffer from heart burn and sometime my throat burns. Is that risky if there precum. I appreciate your answers.

Even well intentioned people don't necessarily know their accurate HIV status. So you should never do anything which puts you at risk for HIV. That means specifically never having vaginal or anal intercourse without a condom.

Thank you so much for the great help here. I have a question regarding the transmission of hiv by exposure to precum. I thought I had a small sore or a cut on the roof of the mouth. The guy had some precum. Is it a risk? He claimed he is negative.