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Topic: Year 15 and remembering... (Read 3133 times)

This month marks my 15 year anniversary...I tested positive while I was in my first relationship - first love, first lover. I thought I was in a monogomous relationship. I felt so dirty, I didn't want him touching me. Then telling my mom - she's a single parent and I'm her only child, it was heartbreaking just heartbreaking having my mom crying in my arms. I honestly thought I was going to die within the year. To me, at that moment, HIV was AIDS. Then came the anger and resentment of being betrayed by my boyfriend. He has shattered my trust and my heart. We didn't stay together too long after that, I just couldn't believe anything he would say. I felt alone and scared. Several months later my mom called at work stating that my cousin had been shot and her boyfriend had shot himself. It was a murder/suicide. My cousin and I were close, we were the same age and it was actually her ex boyfriend who wouldn't leave her alone. She had asked me the day before how I had told my mom about me being gay because she had started dating a girl and wanted to tell her parents. It was too much for me. It had gotten to a point where I was so tired of being sad and crying all the time. I was tired of hurting so one night I drank a 12 pack of beer and downed some sleeping pills. I woke up the next morning and threw up. I called a friend who helped me get into therapy - anti depressants didn't work for me, they made me feel shaky all the time....and 15 years later - HERE I AM! Sorry for rambling, memories got the best of me!

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I'm not supposed to be in here so I'm using my Moderator powers to sneak in.. .

It takes strength and will power to get through the initial stages of an HIV diagnosis, let alone 15 years..and you my friend have both, you got through that and more...you have survived to tell your story, thank you for sharing.

You guys are so sweet, cheers to all of you! And Mark, I most definately will give my mom a hug. She actually likes going to some of the gay bars with me and I even took her to a foam party once - she had a blast! She's like a tamer version of the mom from Queer As Folk, can't beat that!

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