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Sunday, January 4, 2015

When A Gift Is Not A Gift

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Why make a big thing about a gift? Sometimes people give you things and expect something in return. Sometimes people give you things and expect you to return the thing they gave you when you are done with it. Sometimes people give you a gift, like a favor. After receiving the favor you spend days, cleaning up their handiwork repairing what has been done. What about those people who give you a gift and then make you pay for it in different ways? In all of these cases, this is not a gift.

"When someone gives a gift and there is a cost to the receiver, in any way, it is not a gift. " Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You can quote me on this. We receive gifts of all sorts over the holidays, birthdays and at other times. How do we handle

situations where people give to us with strings attached? How do we respond when someone wants something in return? Or better yet, how do we handle people who manipulate through gifts?

The Gift of Sex

Have you ever had sex with someone, then wished you hadn't because the cost of the manipulation was too great? Both men and women can use sex as a tool to manipulate or extract something in return. For some women, even when they are not professionals, it can be money, a home, or jewelry. Even married women can use sex to manipulate their husbands. Manipulation of any sort is a low vibrational behavior. People use manipulation when they have low self esteem, or feel disempowered.

Receiving

When we receive a gift from someone who is known for asking for something in return, we have several choices. We can:

a) decline the gift

b) ask questions when we receive the gift. Do they expect it returned to them at some point? We can do the if/then response. If you want this back, "No thank you."

c) remind ourselves not to associate with people who are manipulative

Manipulative People

Be watchful for your own manipulation. Do you do things for others expecting something in return? Do you ever give gifts that have a cost to the receiver? It the answer is no on both counts, perhaps you need to rethink your association with someone who would need to attempt to control or extract certain behavior from you.

What is the meaning of manipulation? The Free Dictionary.com defines manipulation as the following:

manipulation

ma·nip·u·la·tion

(mə-nĭp′yə-lā′shən)

n.

1.

a. Theact or practice of manipulating.

b. Thestate of beingmanipulated.

2. Shrewd or deviousmanagement,especiallyforone'sownadvantage.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life. She is a catalyst for healing. She works with those committed to a life of joy, happiness and peace. She assists people with cancer to change their thought patterns that created the disease so that they do not recreate it in their bodies after their chemo, radiation or other healing are completed.

Her book Orgasm For Life is a transformational and funny book for those wishing to have a deeper connection with their partner, or better understanding of themselves.

About Me

Born in Toronto, Ontario and a graduate of Emery Collegiate Institute, manifested her dream job at 19 as a flight attendant for Air Canada. From the age of 16 Jennifer knew that life had more to offer than merely existing. Jennifer is free of the ego mind, happy in the moment and able to see past the suffering and pain in each experience to the gift. She is a gypsy at heart and has traveled much of the world as a student of life. She has lived in Montreal, Gaithersburg, Maryland, London, England, Atlanta, Georgia, Boulder, Colorado and now lives in the Mojave desert in California.

Jennifer has three children, ages 32, 29 and 17. She is a certified transformational Life and Sex coach, teacher of Metaphysics, hynotherapist, Medium, psychic and reads the Akashic Records. Jennifer is a catalyst for healing. People often begin to cry just from a word, or touch from Jennifer as she allows people's blocked emotions to surface. She has travelled to India and Bali to study with masters and teachers.

Her first book, Odyssey Victim to Victory is available on Amazon.com. Her second book, Orgasm For Life, a no holds-barred guide to BLISS. Although men and women are wired differently, we want the same things, to love, be loved and be happy. Relationships can bring us great joy, but they can cause us great pain. Building trust through authenticity, transparency and honest couples can have more meaningful sex with greater passion. Love is the foundation, but sex is the glue that helps to deepen intimacy and connection between a loving couple.

Her first radio show, INTO THE MYSTIC, a journey of self empowerment and self awareness, was on Voice America.

A Georgia Master Gardener and Landscape professional, For Heaven Scapes, Ltd, owned and operated by Jennifer for 11 years gave Jennifer tremendous joy and enlivened a passion for the earth and all its creatures.