Friday, June 29, 2012

Communication Gap May Break up Your Marriage or Relationship

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Many couples have the same problem, lack of correct communication. It causes a great deal of stress in any marriage or relationship. Learning how to communicate with each other, and the ability to relate to each other is one of the valuable stapes of any relationship. It can not only bring you closer, but helps build the sense of trust you need to continue moving forward.

She complains to her friends, "he never talks to me and it makes me so mad." He tells his friends, "she nags me all the time about talking to her, and it makes me so mad." So, stop right there.

Ladies: Men do NOT want to talk about why they don't talk. Men truly believe you can be in the same room, or domain and they are fine not having a conversation at all times. Unless your house is on fire, it's okay for him to finish watching whatever he is into on cable. It's not that they don't want to talk to you; they may just not want to talk at that particular time.

Men: Women have things to talk about, and they want to talk about it when it hits. Be understanding and polite. All you have to do is tell her, "can this wait a few minutes until this inning, or quarter is over, then we can chat all you want!

Now, if the topic is really important, of course you need to stop what you are doing and address the situation at hand. But, both parties should consider how critical the conversation is, does the other person have something currently taking center stage on their mind and don't need additional stress? No one wants to be piled on when they already have enough on their mind.

Couples get on each other’s nerves once in a while, for whatever reason. Maybe he doesn't put his things away, or maybe she is spending too much money for the current financial situation. For the sake of argument, that situation can be reversed as well. The worst thing you can do is start a fight over it. The object person immediately becomes on the defensive, and you can count on a laundry list of things you do wrong coming back to hit you in the face.

Pick a good time, and simply say "there is something I think we need to talk about." Bring up your topic, and follow up with positive suggestions that can rectify the situation. Offer to help where you can. Going on the attack can make the situation much worse, causing anger and resentment, completely shutting down communication and damaging your relationship.

Find good opportunities for conversation. Instead of turning on the TV, sit out on your deck or take a walk. These types of situations invite conversation. You may not know what you're going to talk about at the time, but you will be surprised how the conversation flows, and the topics you can cover. This type of atmosphere makes people feel comfortable, less intimidated, and your partner will feel more like opening up.

You can build, and have a strong, trusting and successful relationship if both parties feel they can talk to their significant other truthfully and openly without the fear of repercussion.

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