Online dating etiquette? Thanks.

I've been trying online dating for awhile and have had minimal success. . Anyways when I spend the time to write a nice message I don't get one response at all. When this happens i ask the women was there something wrong with my profile or am I ugly. Is it wrong to ask the women this on online dating?

Most Helpful Girl

I have found that with online dating, for I have done a bit of this myself, and even married a man in Egypt, who had found me on Facebook , that if you don't get responses, get wrong vibes, just move on to someone else. Don't bother asking questions, don't trouble yourself in finding out Why, just go on to someone who really gives a damn, and don't look back to what was not meant to be. xx

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Thank you Paris. . I'd ask them cuz I felt they thought I wasn't good enough

No, don't ask them Anything, don't bother. Online is a numbers game, and once someone gets to know you a little, they either stick around for "more details," or move on to someone who they have more in common with. No, you are "good enough," it's just Them and what they want in a guy. There's plenty of fish out there in the "online sea world," just move on when someone puts you on their "pay me no mind" list. When someone special reciprocates and really wants to know you, you will be pleasantly surprised. Good luck. xx

No, no, you're wrong.. It all depends what they are looking for, believe me. Keep going, and there will be someone who you will find one day, when you least expect it, who will have this chemistry you are both looking for. xx

Change your outlook, build up just a bit More confidence, and really work Hard on getting some sort of "good pix" out there. And make your profile a bit more interesting for someone to be interested in. With online dating, you have to sell yourself for someone special, for they, too, are looking for that "someone special."

Of course not.. just a saying.. meaning if it's online, you have to do your best, be your best, to let others know what kind of guy you are, so you can find someone special. It's not like a bar scene.. xx

You are Online for a purpose, for a mission, just like every other guy and girl. Make it work. Find some time to redo everything, grow a little confidence, and put yourself Out there. I think that if you change your pix, profile, and your attitude about this, it can work. Try Facebook too.

Just people who find u and want to be friends, you just end up having a relationship sometimes..When I first got on FB 4 years ago, many foreigners found me and liked me a lot and wanted me to visit them, etc..Could be just anyone in your area who finds you, or further away..

I promise you will not be alone..someone is out there, just perfect for you, and when you least expect it, whether it is online or even off, you will meet her..hang in there...You have a lot to give someone, I can tell..xx

What Girls Said 3

If you ask why you were rejected (although that's an honest question), it's not exactly attractive.

From my personal experience, guys tend to spam "Hi how r u?"s into every girl's inbox, who they found attractive. I wonder if they're using bots for that, given that some were misspelled identically.

Whenever I see someone complaining about being unsuccessful at online dating, I always have to question their approach. Do you actually read the girl's profile? Or do you just message her, because she's pretty?I know I had DOZENS of messages from guys, who completely ignored my profile and kept going at it about how great we would be together, even though we had nothing in common as well as our world outlooks clashed. Example:Me: atheist Him: devout Christian/MuslimMe: pro-choice Him: pro-lifeMe: support LGBT Him: God hates fagsMe: don't want kids Him: wants x kidsMe: equal partnership Him: wants a stay at home subordinate

I was really annoyed by getting messages from such guys. I'm like DUDE, there is literally NOTHING about you that I like, go away, but these men would be very persistent and annoying.

Sites like Okcupid make you answer hundreds of questions that will match you up to someone, who shares your views. Find your closest matches and approach them as people.

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You assume I just message hello. . I read their profiles which are actually novels and comment on what I feel I have with them in common

Perhaps the way you word your messages comes off as creepy. And it could be your looks as well. Don't forget, that attraction plays a large role in sexual relationships. If you go after the young pretty girls, you will most likely fall flat on your face, because they'll be looking for someone equal to them.Of course, that shouldn't discourage you from approaching attractive women, but you need to be prepared for rejection, since they'll have a pile of messages in their inboxes and they WILL choose the best looking ones first.

A girlfriend is not going to make you complete, that's your job to make yourself feel content and happy. If you place the responsibility of your happiness onto another person, you will only burden them and make them miserable.

I posted an ad online and got about 40 - 60 responses within 36 hours before my ad was flagged and that might be why you aren't getting a lot of responses. Try looking for a woman who hasn't posted her photo online, hasn't given out a lot of information about herself etc... she is less likely to have 60 guys chasing after her. When you have that many options - first impression is everything.

Honestly, yes. I wouldn't ask. If they aren't interested, that's all there is to it. They just aren't interested. Pressing it will only make things more uncomfortable. You'll find someone eventually, but don't expect a response just because you message someone.

While that can be frustrating, you also can't feel entitled to attention either, ya know? Not saying you are, but if you do that, it can lead to disappointment. Maybe try re-vamping the profile? So often we don't realize that the way we present ourselves can be sabotaging ourselves, too.

What Guys Said 5

I think it's a little strange to ask them this because it puts them in a position of having to decide whether or not they want to run the risk of offending you. I mean if you think someone is unattractive do you really feel comfortable saying, "yeah I really don't find you physically attractive" ?

I think in the online dating world, and it is how I met my fiancé, you do deal with the non-responses a lot. I know I did. I know it's frustrating, but for me I just felt like if a girl didn't respond then I was going to move on and not get hung up on the matter. as it means you aren't working to meet someone else.

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She could just say not interested but to not respond when you put effort into a message then that's them being cowardly

she doesn't owe you anything. I know what you are feeling I went through it. but it's a dating website, not a 'polite rejection' site. people don't need to go through and reject every person that reaches out to them. again I get your feeling but I think you are taking it all to personal

Because most online dating sucks compared to real life. Think about it. Online, you're one of 50 blase messages she gets. Just an email, hoping to "spark."

In person, you're one of maybe a handful of people that hit on her that week. Probably no one else hit on her that day. You get to make a human connection, and if you're good, you can show three things women live. The balls to actually talk to women in real life, hopefully humor in your conversation, and the smarts required to make a conversation that flows smoothly enough it can be fun.