Category: Finding Happy

Sometimes life gets far too serious. November has been a very trying month for my family. We have been victims to some pretty foul moods and unreasonable expectations from outside sources and every day is another day in trying to keep calm and reminding ourselves that tomorrow is another day and another chance to be better.

But sometimes, funny moments happen and you just laugh out loud and it’s gives a much needed break in a much too serious week.

Remember to laugh out loud for real today. It is sometimes the only way to make it out alive.

I have to admit it…I anticipate November every month with a bit of a dread. It’s such a sad month.

It gets dark earlier, usually because of a time change early in the month. The leaves disappear from the trees and the rains start and the weather gets colder. All of it makes me feel like finding a warm blanket and not putting my nose out until the first snowfall and Christmas decoration.

Along with the fact that this month means a stall in life until spring, it also represents some pretty hefty bills when it comes to this family. We end up having to buy or change tires, oil changes, windshield washer and wiper upgrades etc… not to mention the winterizing of the home and such.

We also buy out heating wood usually in the months ahead to get us through the weather.

I’m hoping because of our money situation as in us being finally debt free (exception of the mortgage) we can get the wood and more of it earlier in the upcoming year so November next year is not such an expenditure heavy month ever again.

To add to all of it this year, we actually had to have our passport renewed because they expired. And while the idea of getting them for 10 years instead of 5 is an awesome one. The price is also double for double the time.

I’m hoping that I can actually get a break in December! And finally see a bank account grow and know what that feels like for a difference. HA! I guess that will have to be continued. While we wait for that, here is another video explaining why I Don’t Like November.

Is there a month that makes you feel poor? Let me know in the comments!

Recently something happened to me from my past that made me really look at why once again I felt like I had been served the short end of the stick and realized that everything is your own perception of things, but the actions that brought me there were certainly not my own. More like a refusal to put up with constantly being made to feel bad about myself because of someone else’s treatment of me.

I see everyday people and memes saying that you should accept people for who they are. And in a perfect world, those people would feel your love and acceptance and then we could all skip into the sunset in a perfect world. Yah…no. You know that ain’t gonna happen…right?

The thing is, you can change the way you deal with people, but it doesn’t mean those people are going to miraculously change.

Ignorant people will take it as they got away with whatever they did which in turn gives them a pass to act badly again, since you obviously took it and forgave them or at least that is what it looked like to them. Which makes who the “sucker”?

And talking about ignorant people, I realized over the weekend that I have 3 “I’s” that are the words that best describe whether or not you and I can remain friends.

Those words are Inconsiderate, Ignoring and Incompetent. (I could add Idiot to that but I figure it can be added to all three in most cases).

informal useless, pathetic, ham-fisted, not up to it, not up to scratch, bush-league.

People abundant in these three words are people I absolutely have learned to avoid at all cost.

Some were long friendships that I disintegrated simply because I could not take the lack of inconsideration.

The first one “inconsiderate” has affected me and I’m sure so many in a world of “me, me, me first”. And if you let them know that they have been “inconsiderate”, the reaction is usually the second word which is to “ignore” the problem or the fact that they did something wrong as if that will make it disappear.

I take it upon myself to remind them that someone has not forgotten their inconsiderate actions to make them deal with it, but that usually ends with the end of the friendship.

It usually does not matter because most people are incapable of giving a sincere apology without putting the word “but” after it to delegate the blame to another or circumstance instead of owning up to the fact that they screwed up. As humans we make mistakes and do dumb stuff, the trick is to admit and apologize and learn from it.

The second word “ignore” also should be included in inconsideration. To ignore how you inconvenience others is inconsiderate. And people do that a lot. They do or say something and then conveniently act as if nothing happened. Ignoring the hurt they cause, acting as if the status quo still exist. I’m here to tell you that it does not. Ignoring people’s hurts, voice or needs only gets you ignored in turn or worse destroys relationships to the point of no return.

The third one is one that gets me going especially in the work world, as in the people who cause work for others because of their total ineptitude and incompetence. They cause extra work for others constantly and don’t care of the mayhem they leave behind them. They ignore their bad work and are total inconsiderate idiots. (Why don’t you tell me how you really feel Jane?) Usually I find as well because of their incompetence, they usually question everyone else’s work (probably to get the focus off of them) causing even more work and explanations where none are needed from people who are actually 100% better at their jobs than these people.

All these people I avoid at all cost, but it’s the first time I actually made a list of the words associated to these people and wanted to re iterate why I avoid them. But let’s face it. Sometimes you can’t avoid them. There are so many around. And with the world of social media, they lend their voices to some pretty gullible minds.

It’s quite scary sometimes. Especially when the incompetent ones lend their voices to a public so easily swayed by ridiculous crap.

So you have to carefully pick the quality people in your life. Pick wisely and the true way to know if you have done the right choices is if you feel genuinely good around that person. If you do, then you have a winner. Trust me, if you haven’t picked wisely, you will know by the yucky way that person makes you feel every time they do something or open their mouths.

You can try to salvage it but at one point. It’s okay to wish them well and walk away to follow your own path in life.

I always find myself asking the very same question every single time I come back from vacation.

I realize that so many things in my life don’t serve my best purpose. Like the way the perfect vacation bed feels as opposed to the one you sleep in at home.

As in how you should probably take better care of yourself after having had the time to rest without losing anything like your full weekend to do so.

I always come back after two weeks and think, I know I am doing this all wrong somehow, because I feel like so much more myself when I have had the time to think about it as opposed the herd like routines we do everyday.

Even on vacation, I’ve realized just how much we have changed in the last 3 years of what we expect a vacation to mean. While the sense of adventure would surpass the physical demands of a long car ride, now I think we have decided that maybe we can stop trying to see everything all at once and enjoy more time in one spot and less time car weary from jumping from place to place.

We have also realized that how much money you spend does not dictate the amount of joy you will feel or whether or not people actually have manners (you would think it would but trust me, it doesn’t).

Sometimes the cheapest things brings you the most joy and other people such as yourself who enjoys these things are the nicest in the world.

And that although you think you will enjoy the $29 plate of liquid potato they serve you a lot more than anything you have ever eaten, in actuality, the much cheaper fried chicken dinner you sat and ate with hubby in your room on one of the last days was a ton cheaper and tasted a lot better than that fancy crap everyone tries to sell you.

I found that it comes down to a few things. Knowing what you like which is different for everyone and knowing the difference between crap and quality and not being so easily impressed by fancy names and fancy prices.

I also know now more than ever I want my time to be my own. Not because I hate working, but just because I give so much of it to working that I forget what I like and care for. It somehow gets lost in the everyday routine of things.

So my new days resolution will be to work every single day to be comfortable as much at home as anywhere else by making the space peaceful and start filling other baskets with as much passive income through as many different means so that I can concentrate on living and less on exchanging my precious time and personality in some cases for money.

How are you changing your life in the brightest way? Do you set goald for yourself every single day?