pregnant sex but not in a relationship

Me and my babys father broke up, I told him that if he plans on trying to make it work after the baby gets her in Jan that he can't "be" with another woman while I'm pregnant. I find it disrespectful to sleep with another man with my bd's baby in me so isn't like the same thing if he has sexual contact with someone else.. Or am I just being irrational??

Me and my babys father broke up, I told him that if he plans on trying to make it work after the baby gets her in Jan that he can't "be" with another woman while I'm pregnant. I find it disrespectful to sleep with another man with my bd's baby in me so isn't like the same thing if he has sexual contact with someone else.. Or am I just being irrational??

I'm not with my babys dad we are actually mates if I want sex he is the only one i would consider sleeping with. He is single so am I but he IS my child's father and the thought of sleeping with a man (while pregnant) that's not my childs father churns my stomach

I'm not with my babys dad we are actually mates if I want sex he is the only one i would consider sleeping with. He is single so am I but he IS my child's father and the thought of sleeping with a man (while pregnant) that's not my childs father churns my stomach

Omg!! Meganrm1989 I'm in the same exact situation, the difference is that my baby's daddy goes out every weekend he says he does not do anything , but I just can't trust him! My baby is due on January 11th , and he says he wants to do what he wants before the baby is born !

Omg!! Meganrm1989 I'm in the same exact situation, the difference is that my baby's daddy goes out every weekend he says he does not do anything , but I just can't trust him! My baby is due on January 11th , and he says he wants to do what he wants before the baby is born !

Ok this mite sound wrong but if you broke up and your not in a relationship why can't he do what he wants.... To me I don't see it as wrong if you both broke up....... You also said u would try to make things better after your baby is born...... Why not try now before it's to late

Ok this mite sound wrong but if you broke up and your not in a relationship why can't he do what he wants.... To me I don't see it as wrong if you both broke up....... You also said u would try to make things better after your baby is born...... Why not try now before it's to late

Yes in my case he wants tk have fun drive his motorcycle go to hooters, get drunk and have sex to whoever while I'm pregnant at home cause he knows nobody will probably look at me, and when the baby is born he wants to be with me, something I just can't accept!!it sio not fair

Yes in my case he wants tk have fun drive his motorcycle go to hooters, get drunk and have sex to whoever while I'm pregnant at home cause he knows nobody will probably look at me, and when the baby is born he wants to be with me, something I just can't accept!!it sio not fair

We were together for 4 years , and he wanted me to have an abortion, he said he had plans and the baby was not included in his and of travel, and have fun, he said if I kept the baby he was never gonna b with me again, so I decided to keep my baby , now he calls me whenever he says he misses me but I think he does that only whenever he wants to sleep with me , when I ask him if he had sex with any other girl he denies it , obvioulsly! And he says he is single and he can really do whatever he wants wich it's true but I'm afraid he will pass me an STD or something bad :(

We were together for 4 years , and he wanted me to have an abortion, he said he had plans and the baby was not included in his and of travel, and have fun, he said if I kept the baby he was never gonna b with me again, so I decided to keep my baby , now he calls me whenever he says he misses me but I think he does that only whenever he wants to sleep with me , when I ask him if he had sex with any other girl he denies it , obvioulsly! And he says he is single and he can really do whatever he wants wich it's true but I'm afraid he will pass me an STD or something bad :(

Then stop having sex with him! If you are afraid of an STD and he is having sex with other women maybe it's time to break it off. It sounds like that is what he already wants but plans on having his cake and eating it too while he can. I wouldn't waste my time with it. Have a great life with your baby and let him be a part of his or her life if he wants but as for the two of you maybe you should part ways.

Then stop having sex with him! If you are afraid of an STD and he is having sex with other women maybe it's time to break it off. It sounds like that is what he already wants but plans on having his cake and eating it too while he can. I wouldn't waste my time with it. Have a great life with your baby and let him be a part of his or her life if he wants but as for the two of you maybe you should part ways.

If you guys are no longer in a relationship you are both free to do what you want in my opinion. If you both are keen on getting back together at some point after a brief break, you need to discuss the boundaries of this relationship and agree on mutual guidelines while you sort this mess out. If you both agree to these guidelines I would expect both of you to honor them. If he agrees not to be with other women and you agree to not be with other men it should be honored. But that to me is not truly a breakup but rather a separation period to sort out issues and try to make things work. Just make sure you both are on the same page and know what to expect until you decide to get back together, if that ever happens.

If you guys are no longer in a relationship you are both free to do what you want in my opinion. If you both are keen on getting back together at some point after a brief break, you need to discuss the boundaries of this relationship and agree on mutual guidelines while you sort this mess out. If you both agree to these guidelines I would expect both of you to honor them. If he agrees not to be with other women and you agree to not be with other men it should be honored. But that to me is not truly a breakup but rather a separation period to sort out issues and try to make things work. Just make sure you both are on the same page and know what to expect until you decide to get back together, if that ever happens.

Yes I have talked to him already about that , he says he is a men and he can do o sleep to whoever he wants , and if a love him I have to forgive him, that is how I will demostrate my love for him, he is a lier so I can't trust him at all! I haven had sex with anybody because I know that is not good for me or my baby and because I still love and I can't have sex with any other man, cause I think I will betray my feelings, I just changed my cell number cause everytime he called i ended up doing what he wanted , and i'm trying to stay away from him but it is hard , I wanted to spend time with him Now you know feeling the first baby kicks but now I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I'm done waiting ! And even he says he hasn't had sex with anybody it's hard to beleive , my friend told me he has a lot of pics of other girls on his fb an none of me, plus he was trying to talk to my best friend daughter who is only 13!! He asked her if she knew who he was , she said yes ur eatrellas baby daddy he said , we don't know that yet! That was when I decided to change my number !

Yes I have talked to him already about that , he says he is a men and he can do o sleep to whoever he wants , and if a love him I have to forgive him, that is how I will demostrate my love for him, he is a lier so I can't trust him at all! I haven had sex with anybody because I know that is not good for me or my baby and because I still love and I can't have sex with any other man, cause I think I will betray my feelings, I just changed my cell number cause everytime he called i ended up doing what he wanted , and i'm trying to stay away from him but it is hard , I wanted to spend time with him Now you know feeling the first baby kicks but now I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I'm done waiting ! And even he says he hasn't had sex with anybody it's hard to beleive , my friend told me he has a lot of pics of other girls on his fb an none of me, plus he was trying to talk to my best friend daughter who is only 13!! He asked her if she knew who he was , she said yes ur eatrellas baby daddy he said , we don't know that yet! That was when I decided to change my number !

I talked about being together but he said before he changes i'm worth the change and I have to demostrate how much I love him, the problem is that I don't know for sure if he is sleeping with other women cause he says he is not, I know him for a kong time and I know how he cheated on his ex with even her sister and like other 4 more even when she was pregnant, that is why is so hard for me to beleive him, plus he will never admit it! But I have no proofs that he did slept with other women, he is not even hot at all ! But there is something about him! He only cares about his motorcycle an money! Plus he just charged a girl 10000 to marry him so he will hive her the Green Card ! And so many other things that I don't agree with!

I talked about being together but he said before he changes i'm worth the change and I have to demostrate how much I love him, the problem is that I don't know for sure if he is sleeping with other women cause he says he is not, I know him for a kong time and I know how he cheated on his ex with even her sister and like other 4 more even when she was pregnant, that is why is so hard for me to beleive him, plus he will never admit it! But I have no proofs that he did slept with other women, he is not even hot at all ! But there is something about him! He only cares about his motorcycle an money! Plus he just charged a girl 10000 to marry him so he will hive her the Green Card ! And so many other things that I don't agree with!

And obviously I'm not included on any of his plans he is so Mexican Macho"" and I'm not saying all Mexican are like him, he was the first friend then boyfriend from that country so I don't know I'd it is just his culture or what !!

And obviously I'm not included on any of his plans he is so Mexican Macho"" and I'm not saying all Mexican are like him, he was the first friend then boyfriend from that country so I don't know I'd it is just his culture or what !!

The question I (and everyone who is reading) is asking is NOT whether you should trust him or anything, but why in the hell you would even bother?

What is it that makes you want to be with this crud in the first place? He treats you like ****, screwing around with other women, he plays on your emotions to guilt you into sex, completely using you, and to top it off, he isn't all that good looking. In this thread, you haven't said one good thing about him. Yet, you want him back so bad that you jump into bed with him anytime he calls?

You need to set the bar a little higher. Life is too short to let yourself be treated like dirt.

Estrella, listen to yourself! Go back and read what you have written.

The question I (and everyone who is reading) is asking is NOT whether you should trust him or anything, but why in the hell you would even bother?

What is it that makes you want to be with this crud in the first place? He treats you like ****, screwing around with other women, he plays on your emotions to guilt you into sex, completely using you, and to top it off, he isn't all that good looking. In this thread, you haven't said one good thing about him. Yet, you want him back so bad that you jump into bed with him anytime he calls?

You need to set the bar a little higher. Life is too short to let yourself be treated like dirt.

Is it just me or does this sound like a psychologically abusive relationship? Among other things.I think the last time I had a relationship this childish was in middle school. Then we all grew up and learned to treat people with respect and consideration. I really don't mean this to sound like I'm attacking you because I'm not, I'm just trying to understand why.

To be honest I just do not understand this thread. It makes no sense. You know where you stand and where he does, and most importantly, where your unborn child stands in regards to you and him and yet you still engage in the unhealthyness of it all.

I'm done, I just can't read this crap anymore. I understand why Roger posted his thread now! I don't know what to say. I've been in an abusive relationship before and got out so I really HATE it when people say "but I love him..." or in your case 'it's hard'. NO! No, it isn't. Not if you love your child and yourself it's not!

That's what I was kind of thinking...

Is it just me or does this sound like a psychologically abusive relationship? Among other things.I think the last time I had a relationship this childish was in middle school. Then we all grew up and learned to treat people with respect and consideration. I really don't mean this to sound like I'm attacking you because I'm not, I'm just trying to understand why.

To be honest I just do not understand this thread. It makes no sense. You know where you stand and where he does, and most importantly, where your unborn child stands in regards to you and him and yet you still engage in the unhealthyness of it all.

I'm done, I just can't read this crap anymore. I understand why Roger posted his thread now! I don't know what to say. I've been in an abusive relationship before and got out so I really HATE it when people say "but I love him..." or in your case 'it's hard'. NO! No, it isn't. Not if you love your child and yourself it's not!

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