Tuesday, February 25, 2014

How to Impress Ladies: Aptitude for Sexiness

Recently,
a friend recommended Anthol Kay's blog Married
Man Sex Life. His approach is to combine a variety of relationship advice
from "evolutionary psychology, Pickup Artist “Game”, sociology, biology,
life experience, romance novels, crappy women’s magazines, far too many books,
blogging, behavior modification and cheap porn." As such, you can imagine
a slight player approach to getting his results-- namely how to increase sex in
a married man's life. His basic plan trains men to become alpha males (becoming
sexually attractive for a woman) while maintaining beta qualities that make a woman
want to stay with a man. According to Kay, Alpha qualities are characteristics like
being rich, ambitious, handsome, assertive, protective, funny, riding a
motorcycle, being good at something like dancing, music or having other
talents. Beta qualities would be making a wife chicken soup when she is sick,
picking up her dry cleaning and helping with dishes. Men who tend to be natural
Betas are more likely to be willing to learn to be Alpha to please a mate. Natural Alphas pretty much do what they want. They are less likely to possess a willingness to learn new skills.

According
to Roy Huggins, graduate of Portland
State University
with a master’s degree in psychology and current counselor, “Aptitude is
generally attractive, especially for women (for men, too.It's just that men are also heavily
influenced by boobs, etc.)Aptitude
in something that the viewer thinks is important and isespecially attractive. Most people don't get turned on by aneffective chess player -- unless they're
really into chess. But somethings
feelimportant to pretty much all
people. I recall that in thelate
90s, when American society started to realize that technicalaptitude was extremely valuable for
financial success, geeky guys (whopossess
a certain minimum of social skill) suddenly had a much easiertime getting dates. Also, in communities
centered around an activity(i.e.
co-ed clubs or studios/schools where people study things likedance and martial arts) the most expert
members tend to attractromantic
attention from their peers. Quite often these people are men,but not always.”

Summarizing
this, having skills is attractive. Whether you hangout with a bunch of bowlers
or are in an art community, and you are able to show off your skills in such a way
that they flatter you, you are more likely to attract someone. As such, one
might reason that the more abilities or aptitudes one has and the better one
can perform them, the more likely he/she has in attracting a mate . . . or
date. And these are especially important if you are a man. So keep that in
mind, gentlemen.Take a moment to think about the skills, talents and abilities you excel in. Are you showing them off? I don't mean brag about them. Are you actually singing in public, karaoke, in a choir if you are a singer? If you know how to tango dance, do you attend milongas and drop in classes? Do you meet up with, network or mentor other professionals in your field? When you write a personal ad, do you mention things you are good at? (Listing sleeping, eating and playing video games are not going to impress anyone.) If you don't think you are good at anything, you need to ask someone you know. Or maybe you need to develop an aptitude in something.

About Me

Though Lady Chastity Chatterley's first publication in the realm of
erotica will soon to be out in Hot Dish, she also has written under
other pseudonyms in magazines and anthologies such as: Daily Science
Fiction, Bards and Sages, New Myths, Penumbra, Crossed Genres, Flagship,
Roar, and has won awards from Allasso and Romance Writers of America.
By day, Chastity Chatterley is often busy chasing pirates in her
dirigible and shooting steam powered laser beams, while by night she
teaches and performs belly dance. One might wonder how she has any
leftover time to test the functions of her "Personal Contraption" (or PC
as some call it), surf the "interweb" as she calls it or use her public
log (or plog). Feel free to visit her at Lady Chatterley's Chat Parlor
and peruse her posts on comma sutra, racy thoughts of the day, lists of
worst first dates or other amusing and sinfully sexy anecdotes.