Do you ever feel like a loser?

“I’m beginning to think that feeling like a loser is the primary symptom of a midlife crisis, as well it should be.

How many people make sweeping changes in their lives when they feel like things are going as planned?

Don’t despair! Be glad that it’s finally time to do things differently.

We despair when we believe that we can’t change, but that is simply not true. I am living proof that you can turn your life around whenever you become miserable enough to shout:

“Enough of this nonsense! I want a different life right now!”

The more you want it, the more likely it is to happen.

The first step is to recognize exactly what is not working. You’ve trusted in the sensible, practical side of your brain all these years, and look where it’s gotten you. Exactly where you don’t want to be!

Now it’s time to take a leap of faith and start to pursue your heart’s desire, which includes everything you thought you couldn’t possibly have.

In other words, it’s time to start taking risks. Analyze it to death if you must, but eventually the day will come when you need to take a gigantic, scary leap of faith and begin reaching out for the life you’ve always wanted.

How can you know your dreams are impossible if you don’t at least give them a shot?

I’m not talking about some half-assed attempt here. I don’t mean “kind of” pursuing your dreams. I mean reaching out for everything you ever dreamed of, on the off chance that it’s out there for you.

Look inside yourself for as much courage as you’ve ever had, and fight like your life depends on it, because it does! Stand up for yourself and take a stand for your own integrity and self-respect.

Decide what you must have before you die in order to feel good about your life. Is it one marvelous relationship? Is it a creative impulse you’ve tried to ignore all these years? Whatever it is, don’t talk yourself out of it this time. Be completely honest with yourself. Enough of those irritating little voices in your head telling you that you don’t deserve what you really want. You get to win this time — it’s now or never!

There’s no one else to blame for where you are right now, and no one to save you from the fate of mediocrity, except yourself.

4 Comments

I have to say that I was blessed with a very strong sense of self and no matter what the circumstances of my life have been, I’ve never had those feelings, ever. It’s my firm belief that I came in with this sense of self because otherwise, I’d never have survived my upbringing. Not everyone has come in the same way. I love the idea of midlife being a catalyst for change!

I wonder if breakthroughs happen any other way. All the most miserable stretches in my life were followed by some huge revelation that made me joyous. There is much hope and energy in your “been there” message.