Eyebrows have been raised when social media blew up with questions as to why Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay, skipped her own engagement party. Pretty weird. All of her girls have been posting on Instagram, celebrating in her honor.

Meanwhile, on Rachel’s IG –

Throwing shade at her friends from the engagement party or trying to distract from the fact that she missed her own celebration?!

Remember, if you’re feeling as if you’re in a controlling relationship – know that you’re not alone and you do not need to hide.

Controlling behavior feels like you’re a caterpillar in a cocoon struggling to get out and spread your wings, yet the other person wants to keep you in the cocoon. The more you struggle to get out, the tighter they hold you in. If you do break out for a while they will try even harder to hold you down until you finally get weak and just give up.

If you feel like you’re constantly struggling in your relationship and they are showing any signs of controlling behaviors from above, get out. You are the only one who will allow someone else to control and manipulate you. Stop letting someone else control your life.

Most people who feel the need to control others will not want to have anything to do with you unless they can control you. It’s better to walk away and end the relationship if you can for your sanity. If the person is a family member or co-worker, try to keep them at arm’s length. When you must interact with them, try to keep the peace. Though, as soon as they start bossing you around just end the conversation and walk away. They will soon realize you will not tolerate this kind of behavior.