Pressure to perform affecting sex life

I have very healthy sexual appetite and my wife and I enjoy lovemaking at least two times a week on average. Two weeks ago, I was about to go to sleep...

Question

I have a healthy sexual appetite, and my wife and I enjoy lovemaking at least two times a week on average.

Two weeks ago, I was about to go to sleep when my wife informed me that it was her first 'red zero day' and we have to make love. We're trying to select a male child by using 'Billings method' of natural family planning.

To our surprise I was unable to get an erection, and each time I tried I was unsuccessful. This went on for about three days, and each time the result was the same - a very weak and ineffective erection.

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We then decided to postpone any love making for say two weeks to see what would happen next. I don't know why this has happened because this is the first time this has ever happened.

Now we haven't had the courage to go for a repeat performance because we are both nervous - I certainly am.

Please help.

Answer

I'm sorry to say I think you're a bit muddled here.

The 'Billings method' is intended just for family planning. It's an improved version of the 'rhythm method'.

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Dr Billings didn't intend people to use it in order to select the sex of their child.

And although claims have been made that women are more likely to have boys by conceiving at certain times of their cycles, this has never been substantiated by scientific tests.

Now, it's quite obvious to me that the 'pressure to perform' has made you nervous - and it has made it difficult for you to get an erection.

I think that if you abandon all this 'performing to order' you'll soon recover you ability to have sex.

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