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30 days of self-care after a bad breakup

So you’ve just ended a romantic relationship. You’re probably thinking that it’s the end of the world and that you’ll never be able to recover. Maybe you’re thinking that you’ll never fall in love again.

Wait. There’s more to life than just being in a relationship. Just because you’re single now doesn’t mean that your life is going to be miserable. In fact, this might be your chance to do some self-care and make up for all the self-neglect that you’ve been committing.

Here are 30 little ways to treat yourself better after a messy breakup:

Day 1 Treat yourself like you would a child.

Imagine the 5-year old version of you. What would you do to make that little child happy?

Day 2 Go to bed as early as 8:00 PM and wake up before 6:00 AM.

Try doing this for an entire week and see how it changes your mood and energy.

Day 3 Logout of Facebook and social media accounts.

Save yourself from embarrassing statuses that let the world know how broken you are.

Day 4 Take a social media holiday for an entire week.

Pretend that Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram don’t exist and convince yourself that you’re not obliged to inform others about your whereabouts or what you’re eating.

Day 5 Create a playlist of “moving on” songs.

Choose 15 songs that inspire you to move on and not get back to a toxic relationship.

Day 6 Read a financial literacy book.

Change your mindset about money and divert your attention on the financial aspect of your life! Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by Eker is highly recommended!

Day 7 Start a new blog or a journal.

Write down your emotions and read them. You’ll have a clearer understanding of how you’re feeling once these feelings are written. Laugh at your own thoughts or confirm that you’re not okay. That’s okay, that’s love.

Day 8 Start a new workout routine.

It’s time to feel and look better. Lose some weight and reward yourself with a nice outfit once you’ve lost 2kg.

Day 9 Declutter your closet and get rid of useless things.

The rule is: if it’s not used regularly and if it doesn’t give you joy or excitement, you have to let it go. Donate or give to your friends or relatives.

Day 10 Climb a mountain with your friends.

You can also just visit a park or an amusement park to forget sad things. Nature is best tho.

Day 11 Get a haircut or hair treatment.

Visit a salon and try a haircut that you’ve never tried before. If that’s extreme, a hair treatment will do.

Day 12 Organize your room.

Redecorate, rearrange, remodel or simply just organize your things. Remove anything that reminds you of the past. Add new things that signify new life.

Day 13 Eat your favorite dessert.

Consider this as your cheat day and plan to work harder on your workout routine. You don’t want your fitness goals to be ruined.

Day 14 Set a deadline.

At this point, you’re still hurting and probably still lonely. Decide to feel better and set a date until when you allow yourself to grieve. One month should be enough!

Day 15 Go on a solo day trip.

Go somewhere you’ve never been before but just two to three hours from your place. Keep safe and learn to rely on yourself.

Day 16 Watch a Korean drama.

Fall in love again but this time with hot Korean actors such as Gong Yoo, Song Joong Ki, and Seo In Guk!

Day 17 Watch a 90s TV series.

FRIENDS is so 90s but it’s so classic and so funny you shouldn’t miss it for life! Ally McBeal, Dawson’s Creek and Buffy the Vampire Slayer are also good.

Day 18 Do a physical detox.

Hundreds of detox recipes are available on Pinterest. Choose one that is most appropriate for your health status and make it a lifestyle from now on.

Day 19 Do a soul detox.

Day 20 Do a friendship detox.

Bad breakups are a litmus test for friendships. Get rid of any “friend” who makes you feel like it’s your fault and make you even more upset.

Day 21 Give your parents a gift.

If you’re not yet married then the most important people in your life must be your parents and not your boyfriend or girlfriend. Make them feel special and you’ll feel much better.

Day 22 Play with a pet.

Don’t have a pet? Look for stray cats and play with them. They’re easy to tame and they’re so sweet.

Day 23 Write down 10 things you promise yourself.

Promise yourself that you will respect yourself and not insist on being with someone who doesn’t see your value. That’s just an example.

Day 24 Start a morning affirmation.

The universe is blessing you abundantly. Money from unexpected sources is coming your way. Big opportunities are waiting for you. You’re going to meet loving and healthy people.

Day 25 Tell yourself you’re beautiful.

Make this a habit from now on. The world’s standard of beauty is biased, limited, and half-truth. You are beautiful in your own way. Other people’s perception of beauty has nothing to do with your self-image. Confidence comes from within.

Day 26 Drink only water for the entire day.

If you can, do this three times a week. Strictly no colored drinks, not even coffee. Water is still the miraculous drink that you’ve been ignoring!

Day 27 Resign from a job that sucks.

Long commute, a bully coworker, unethical practices, etc. Don’t stay in a job that makes you miserable. Look for a new job and say hello to a new life.

Day 28 Start using moisturizer and sunscreen.

These two things will save your face from wrinkles and big pores. The younger you start, the better.

Day 29 Take care of your mental health.

Make a conscious decision to stop thinking negative and sad thoughts. The moment you realize you’re thinking about sad times again, stop yourself and remind yourself of happy thoughts.

Day 30 Rinse and repeat.

Start a new life and new lifestyle from now on. Drink water, moisturize, detox, etc. Just be healthy in all aspects of your life. Once you start doing all these things for yourself, you’ll never want to go back to the old version of you.