It's Never Too Soon To Plan Your 'Driving Retirement'03:59

At 72, Robert McSherry says he's not yet ready to quit driving or ready to plan how he'll get around when that time arrives. But he's happy to get the insurance discount that comes with taking a driver safety class.

Harriet Kelly has one word to describe the day she stopped driving four years ago: miserable.

"It's no fun when you give up driving," she says. "I just have to say that."

Kelly, who lives in Denver, says she was in her 80s when she noticed her eyesight declining. She got anxious driving on the highway, so decided to stop before her kids made the move for her.

"I just told them I'd stop driving on my birthday — my 90th birthday — and I did. And I was mad at myself because I did it," she says, laughing. "I thought I was still pretty good!"

Kelly is now 94. She says her last traffic accident was in the 1960s. But, she says, "I think it's just better to make up your own mind than have your kids go through trying to tell you, and end up with arguments and threats and everybody gets mad."

Her daughter Leslie Kelly says she's grateful she and her siblings didn't have to have that tough conversation. Still, she knows it's been tough for her mom.

Harriet Kelly of Denver says she hasn't had even a fender bender since the 1960s. Still, she noticed in her 80s that her eyesight was starting to decline. She made a plan to stop driving at 90 — and did just that. (John Daley/Colorado Public Radio)

But Harriet Kelly is a great example of someone who planned for her "driving retirement," says Dr. Emmy Betz, an emergency medicine specialist who does research at the University of Colorado School of Medicine on the safety of older drivers.

"Retirement is something that happens to all of us," Betz says. "Maybe we even look forward to it. You prepare for it, you make financial plans, you think about what you're going to do."

But most seniors don't do that when it comes to driving, she says.

"It's sort of the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about, but it's an issue that's coming for most of us and our family members and so denial isn't probably the most helpful option," she says.

"Transportation is a huge issue that we need to address," says Jayla Sanchez-Warren, director of the Area Agency on Aging for the Denver Regional Council of Governments. For seniors, she says, a lack of transportation also "contributes to so many other things — like poor health care outcomes, isolation and depression."

A recent report by researchers at Columbia University and the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety found that older adults who give up driving are nearly twice as likely to suffer depression as those who stay behind the wheel.

In my family, we've had to have that conversation twice. When my dad talked to my grandmother, she hid another set of keys, and drove secretly until they found out. Then, 30 years later, "hell" and "no" were just two of the choice words that erupted from my dad when his Alzheimer's diagnosis led us to insist that he stop driving.

Betz urges families to plan ahead, talk about it years before it happens and map out transportation alternatives.

"Imagine if I told you to give me your keys," she says. "And you can no longer drive, starting right now. I mean, what would you do? It's totally unrealistic that we think that that's an OK thing to do to older people."

It will become an issue for lots of us and our families. Nationally, until 2030, roughly 10,000 baby boomers will turn 65 each day, according to the Pew Research Center.

In many cases, drivers age 50 and older can get a discount on their car insurance by taking a driver safety class.

At a senior center in a suburb of Denver, Chris Loffredo teaches just such a class. She asks the 20 attendees to think about everything from how medications might affect them to how new technologies in cars may help them. And, she wants them to strategize.

"You have to know when to give up your keys!" she tells them.

But not a hand goes up when the group is asked if they're ready to talk about that. After the class, retirees Ralph Bunge, who is 72, and his wife, Paula, who is 67, say they're not ready.

"The conversation wouldn't be as difficult as doingit would be," laughs Ralph. Paula agrees.

Driver safety classes, like this one offered by AARP in Aurora, Colo., include discussion of ways to minimize blind spots and the effects of medication on driving, along with a review of road rules. (John Daley/Colorado Public Radio)

"We're just not really at a place where we imagine that that decision is going to be made any time soon," she says.

Robert McSherry, who is 72 and retired, says for now he's in denial.

"One thinks, well, that you'll live forever," McSherry says.

Harriet Kelly says she's made adjustments since giving up the keys four years ago. She now hires a companion or calls Uber to take her on errands. She also gets rides from friends, but adds that there are "fewer and fewer people that I'll drive with in their 80s."

In fact, scientific studies show that if older drivers present a danger, it's mostly to themselves and their passengers, Betz says. Fatal crash rates are higher for older drivers, she says, but that's mostly because they don't heal as well after a crash.

This story is part of NPR's reporting partnership with Colorado Public Radio andKaiser Health News.