Which BDSM toy is best for you

Which BDSM toy is best for you?

The world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism is seductive and provocative. The BDSM game is about sexual pleasure in combination with terms like pain and power. If you want to know more about BDSM in general, we recommend you read the page “BDSM for beginners: all BDSM rules together”. Here you’ll learn more about how using BDSM toys can increase your sexual pleasure.

1. Handcuffs & restraints

Using handcuffs and straps during soft SM (BDSM) is a popular type of bondage. You use the handcuffs to tie the wrists or legs of your partner to each other or to the bed. This way your partner’s freedom of movement is restricted, which is very exciting. SM handcuffs are available in leather, metal, plastic, et. In addition you can choose between sex handcuffs with locks or leather straps. Bondage straps are available in leather, nylon and pvc.

Tip: Put your partner in your favourite position, then tie their wrists to their ankles, if possible. This ensures maximum penetration access for you, and you can determine how often your partner reaches climax. Of course safety is the top priority, you will always have to adhere to the stop word or stop sign!

2. Bondage kits

An oft-used part of BDSM is bondage. In bondage it’s about tying down your partner in a way that limits their movements. A bondage kit is the perfect BDSM toy in that case. Bondage sets are step beyond using SM handcuffs and straps, and are available in many different combinations from soft to extreme bondage. Kits could include mouth rings with nipple clamps to ensure the sub is unable to talk back to the dom. Or sex harnesses to tie down the legs of your partner to enable you to penetrate deeper, harder and longer. Prefer soft? Go for a soft SM bondage set with handcuffs, whips and masks. Perfect for people who like it kinky but not extremely so.

Tip: If you’re only just beginning, go for a soft SM bondage kit. As you gain more experience with SM you can always decide whether you’ll try out more extreme versions of bondage.

3. Masks

The perfect way to dominate and rule over your partner is to limit the use of their senses. Besides speech there’s also sight. Masks are an oft-used SM toy with which you can take away your partner’s sight. Covering the eyes is provocative as your partner won’t know what’s coming next. You do have to trust each other, completely. Using a BDSM mask spices up your sex life with a strong and erotic sense of excitement. It’s also an easy way to get to know the BDSM play.

Tip: Use a soft blindfold the first few times. Once you’ve gained the trust of your sub you can move on to a cloth head mask. For those with more experience in BDSM play there’s the leather or latex hood.

4. Collars

SM is about dominance and submission. The SM collar is the perfect toy for keeping your partner “in line” - literally. The dom will be “pulling the strings” on this one. We recommend using a leather collar for the BDSM play. These are safe to use and are often most comfortable.

Tip: Combine the SM collar with handcuffs and connecting chains and you’ll have a great bondage set. Add a mask for an additional erotic effect!

5. Gags

With an SM gag you will restrict the sub in using “speech” as a means of communication. They can no longer talk, and therefore no longer protest. This sex toy will literally gag someone. If you are wearing the gag, you will feel small and dependent. As a sub you will experience the ultimate feeling of submission and surrender, especially when combined with a mask that covers the eyes. For the dom a gag is the perfect toy to silence their sub.

Tip: When using an SM gag, always make sure it’s safe. Choose a ball with holes in it, for example, ensuring the sub can always breathe. This toy is recommended fo more advanced BDSM play.

6. Nipple clamps

Nipple stimulation is a very sensitive and erotic experience, sometimes called “tit torture”. How can you do this? By using nipple clamps. You can loosely clasp these on your nipples, making them press lightly, or you can twist them firmly for a more pronounced effect. Nipple clamps can be used on both men and women, so everyone can enjoy nipple stimulation. Not very familiar with BDSM play and want to try it? Go for adjustable nipple clamps and start easy. If you’re more experienced in BDSM play, heavier nipple clamps are more suitable: you can be as firm with them as you want! Did you know that nipple clamps are one of the most popular SM toys?

Tip: Try the nipple clamps with electrical stimulation. It may take some getting used to (and you should definitely avoid it becoming painful), but it’ll lead to unprecedented erotic climaxes!

7. Whips & paddles

If you’re talking about BDSM or SM, you’re talking about whips. It’s probably one of the best known and most popular BDSM toys we have. In addition, an SM whip is an innocent and quick way to make your sex life more exciting. With a partner you can, of course, (lightly) beat and punish your partner, but you can also reward them by caressing their skin with the whip. The same goes for SM paddles. These are more compact in shape and a bit rougher and kinkier than a whip.

Tip: When using whips or paddles, it’s always a case of: start softly and see how far you can go.

8. Electronic stimulation

Electronic stimulation during sex is sometimes also called electrosex. By means of (light) electric impulses, you can stimulate every area and every erotic zone of your body. Apply the pads to your nipples, clitoris, penis, scrotum, etc. and enjoy the indescribably erotic feeling caused by tiny electric shocks over your entire body. Electrosex is sensational and helps you achieve unprecedented highs. In BDSM and SM, electronic stimulation gives both pleasure and pain and is arousing for both the dom and the sub, which is why electronic stimulation is very popular in SM play. In addition to external use there are also various SM toys that provide internal electronic stimulation, for example vaginal and anal stimulation with a dildo or butt plug that charges electric shocks deep inside, resulting in a sensational tingling feeling in your belly.

Tip: It may be a little frightening to combine erotica and electric shocks, but try it, you might be amazed! We recommend you start easy and slowly increase the intensity of the shocks.

9. Sex furniture

For optimal pleasure you can also use sex furniture, BDSM furniture and sex swings. Sex furniture like the iRide Stimulator and a hassock with vibrating dildo are perfect for solo sex. For BDSM and SM, sex swings are very popular. With a bondage love swing you can, for example, playfully get to know bondage as you go along and tie up your partner with handcuffs, ankle cuffs and or other straps around the upper legs, hips and the like. Inflatable sex furniture are very practical in the bedroom. They’re very soft, comfortable when trying out unusual sexual positions and are easy to store away again. Erotic furniture adds a whole new level to your sex life. Try it!

Tip: Make sure that safety is key when using bondage sex swings and BDSM furniture and always respect the code word or code sign you’ve agreed on as sub and dom!