We may feel that something is unfair, something has been taken or broken that we value, someone is being mean, we're not getting a fair share, etc.

So what do you do?

Well, you could throw a huge tantrum, get really upset, be mean to everybody etc.

Would any of these things solve the problem? I don't think so!

Well, what could you do?

Conflict Resolution Try to sort things out so that everyone gets a fair go and something of what they want. There are 4 things that you need to do.1 Understand2 Avoid making things worse3 Work together4 Find the solution

Problems don't go away if you ignore them - in fact usually they get worse. It's a good idea to face problems and get them sorted out as soon as you can.

How would you resolve the following conflicts?

1

You and your friend are watching TV. You want to watch one program and your friend wants to watch another. What could you do?

2

Your friend gave you some pencils belonging to her brother and he wants them back. What could you do?

3

You have lost your friend's library book. What could you do?

4

Your sister is always going into your room and borrowing your stuff without asking. What could you do?

5

Your baby brother/sister chews your homework! What do you do?

Remember to

Think about the problem.

Say what you feel.

Listen to the other person.

Brainstorm solutions.

Decide what each one will do.

Stick to what you have decided.

Talk again if the solution is not working.

Were you able to think of solutions to the problems?

Conflict resolution

I was a victim of a crimeMy sister did commit.I yelled at her so loudlyI was sent to my room to sit.It's not fair I knowThat I was told off today.But if I talk to my sister,"Sucked in" is all she'll say.So, I do know what I'll doI'll tell mum in a calm wayMy sister is the culprit.Yes, that's what I'll say.

By Sophie

I'm feeling really angryI want to stamp and scream.I never thought she'd break it,Not in my wildest dream.I don't think that I'll forgive herFor ever and a day.But, I'll take a breath and listenTo what she's got to say.I'm feeling quite ashamed nowFor shouting out like that.My sister didn't break it. The culprit was the cat.We've come to a solution"We'll lock our door," we said.We shook hands with each other.The cat went to the shed.

We've provided this information to help you to understand important things about staying healthy and happy. However, if you feel sick or unhappy, it is important to tell your mum or dad, a teacher or another grown-up.