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Nice title, Betty. My Easter sucked since I was throwing up in the early morning hours, not sure what that was about. I had a headache that I couldn't get rid of no matter how many IBs I took. I slept most of the day and night. I was scared to eat but I made a steak and managed to keep it down. Today, I feel kind of weak but I think I am going to get out of the house anyway.

The thing with Boo, well, I have no way of verifying anything. What made me think it was true was because the girl said that Boo had cheated on her with a few females and demanded that I get tested. I kind of laughed at that but what could I say? I told her that I knew of his diagnosis because he told me, not that I hooked up with him on Poz personals. I am wondering how she had his Yahoo password too but then maybe she is his gf and had it. I can't imagine him lying about dying to try to hide something but then stranger things have happened. I couldn't stop thinking about him. The fanbox thing has me for a loop though, I did send a message to whoever on there but hasn't gotten anything back.

Welcome to the new folks.....I think I need some fresh air or something. I will check back later..

Queen, I don't know why anyone would lie about death either. I've seen a few people do that (lie about someone dying) and a few people close to them die. Sorry you felt sick Easter. Maybe it was your nerves. They can do funny things to us. I hope you're feeling better. I have an exam I need to study for, but my heart just isn't in it. Maybe I'll just take an 'F' on this one.

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well easter has passed too quickly... BF came back last night which was great. It's absolutely freezing here but I just read that 2008 is predicted to be the warmest year ever. wow. as much as I don't like the cold, this global warming isn't funny. at all.

sorry you're sick again Wendy. I remember when I was bellow 100 the doctor wanted me to wear a mask on flights, I took it but was embarassed to wear it. I think if you go into a hospital by all means wear one, that's a germ factory.

Betty, have you guys considered renting out the place and using the rent to pay the mortgage? is that allowed in the US? I mean if you manage to do that, you could eventually sell it and split the price. Or are you going to sell it now anyway?Once you get real sick of the smokes, quitting again will be easier. You need something to replace them as stress reducers. I can't think of anything right now but is should be healthy, maybe just some deep guided breathing?

Queen hope you get better soon. About Boo do you know his real name? If you know his town couldn't you find out if he really died or not? isn't there a registery of some sort. Truthfully, since he was pretty sick and didn't take med, that might've happened. What about white pages, if you know his full name and town, he could be listed.

Thandi, nice to meet you. I like your name... we have a lady here from Zimbabwe, Tendai, you'll get to meet her during the week when she posts. And I believe there's a south african called Tamika who posted in the Pregnancy thread. She's pregnant right now. I may have missed your intro somehow but look forward to getting to know you.

...& you Tre Dai. It's so cool to have more women here all the time.

Keeping congrats on the wedding!! That's a quick decision and even picked colors already. So you will not be wearing white? I will only discuss with my BF if we will get married in Nov and how in August (I mean around August we will make the final desicion regarding date, location etc).

Cindy, hope you're OK. Let us know s.v.p...

Mum, Snow, Wishful, Blessed - how you keep up with the forums and with the kids and with a bunch of other things I have no idea, but when you have time please share how you do it.

Have a good week ladies, wherever you are

modified to add that I just read your intro thread Tandy, I had your name wrong. I like Thandi too though, like Thandi Newton if you know her.

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"If you keep one foot in yesterday, and one in tomorrow, you piss all over today". Betty Tacy

I officially started my spring break by sleeping in till 7:00. Of course my dog wasn't having it, she's used to getting up at 5:00. She pesters me until I am up. Talk about alarm clock...LOL! Well my Easter was interesting. I kind of alluded to the drama with my family before. We had Easter at my dad's house, my dad kept the house and my mother had to move to an apartment . Well my dad's girlfriend of the moment joined us. My mom's parents came too. My mother also cooked the lunch for everyone while the girlfriend "pretended" to do stuff. She is from the Philippines and does not speak English. My sister and I are convinced she is with my dad for his $$$$. This was the first time my grandparents met her and they were kind of surprised. Crazy...I ate and got out of there fast. It sounds like everyone else a nice Easter...except those who were sick-sorry Betty and Win Hope you feel better soon!

I have decided that I am going to do something about this weight I have gained. I am starting tomorrow both with the gym and a "lifestyle change". I don't want to say "diet". We shall see...

My ex came by this morning...same old crap there. This is our 13th year.

As soon as I lose some weight and feel better about myself I am putting myself out there. I need to find a man for more than a bootie call...LOL! (referring to my ex)

Well Viv, you know Drag mentioned starting a thread about what we eat, trying to lose weight etc, that kind of stuff. I think it might be a good idea as I also would like to shed some lbs.

And Viv, wow. I don't know what to say about your dad's woman. She speaks no English? Geeze. I would get out of there as quickly as possibly also. I'm glad you're on spring break now and can get some rest.

I hope all you other ladies are doing alright. We really miss you guys around here when you don't post. Good night ladies-

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Got through the kids' birthday party, Easter, and just when I thought thing were settling down, I made the mistake of looking at the calendar. We have like 5 things schedule for every stinkin' day. #2 starts baseball (coach's pitch) practise tomorrow. He'll practise Tues, Thurs, and Sat. Not real happy about the Sat. practice. #5 will start t-ball in the next couple of weeks. They'll finish just in time for football to start for #1. We have a "one sport" rule. They can take dance and 1 sport ONLY. Otherwise, we'd be running around 24/7 from spring until winter. Maybe I'm selfish, but I just won't do it.

I'm still waiting for the audiologist / ENT to call back with another apptmt. date. I'm afraid they're going to call and tell me they have an opening in 15 minutes - even though I've told them that we live over an hour away. I need at least a 3 hour lead time. So, we'll see. I just hope I'm not causing a rukus for no reason..and they end up finding nothing new. But why else would she stick the speakers up to her ears? Oh, who the heck knows. She's supposed to see the eye specialist in May, I think I'm going to move that up, too. Her left eye is doing some funky stuff. Best to just get it all over with at once, i guess.

woke up to a snowy day and my period not that I dont mind not being pregnant yet, but I mind thinking there might be a problem, but BF says he refuses to worry until 6 months passed, so I'll try not to.

Viv, your dad's GF should know at leasy some English, English is the official 2nd language of the Phillipines, I can't imagine she doesn't know any at all. I used to have a friend like your dad's GF when I live in Japan, she married a 48 year old man when she was 21, they met online. You do see a lot of these women around here women from Thailand, or some African country with an old Dutch guy... they are kinda helpless, it's not a good position to be in. They are in it for the money, and usually they try to help their families too. They are pretty isolated. I know some people see these women as evil golddiggers etc, and I suppose some of them are, or used to be bargirls etc when the man met them. In the case of my friend, she was very culture shocked and miserable with her husband, finally she somehow got over it and had a baby, I don't know what happened to her since. I have to tell you when people make 25$ a month (at best) they will make some pretty desperate choices. Around the mid east, in Israel, Greece, and even worse in the Arab Gulf countries, a Fiilipino is a code name for a slave, as in "I'm not your Filipina, clean that shit up yourself".Anyway since that's a given hope you work it out somehow, I'm with you as I would lose it if my dad married someone strange that I couldn't communicate with and who I thought might be ripping him off. There're two sides for every coin though, the men are after something too... But I would not like my dad to do that, not at all.

Wow it's snowing heavily, I'm all dressed but don't know if I can leave the house, it's slipperly to cycle. I should get my ass to work, it's 09:35. I think I would go into shock if I had to wake up at 05.00. especially when it's cold. Even 7 is way too early. Not that I didn't used to do that (OK not the 5).

Mum whine away, I like it when people whine, makes me feel not alone...

I'm up for the "lifestyle" thread where we could log in what we ate. then if we ate something we know we shouldn't, at least we'd know we have to fess up. It's also easy for me to pretend that i didn't quite eat that... you know if you're standing, it doesn't count

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Mum, I don't think you whine nearly enough. Believe me, if I had all those little 'responsibilities' I would be whining 24/7. I like it that you share your life with us here. I loved your pictures you posted in o.t. also. You just hang in there girlie.

Drag, I'm glad I don't work. I really don't think I could. I can't keep a regular schedule. My latest one has been not to get out of bed until around 9:00 a.m., then possibly go back to bed an hour later, only to get up around 1:30 p.m. I used to be a regular at getting up around 6:00 a.m. Not anymore. I think the grief has a lot to do with it lately.

Yes, I'm feeling a lot of grief pains. A lot. I was going on my Napster last night looking for a good version of Amazing Grace and came across one by R. Carlos Nakaii. He is an excellent flute player (yes, he's Native American). It's a really gorgeous piece. So I dowloaded some of Mr. Nakaii's music. I used to listen to that all the time.

Mornings are rough. I seem to have the Kaletra squirts every morning. And I have anxiety attacks when I wake up and always feel wore out. That could be a combination of a lot of things-grief/poor diet/lack of exercise. Oh! It's been 24 hours since I had a cigarette. Hopefully this time I'll be able to stick with it. I still want one at times, but it fades fast every time I cough up what feels like will be a lung. And I'm going to see about starting to do some kind of execising today, this morning, as soon as I'm off these forums. I keep thinking to myself 'you can be healthy and in shape.' I wonder if that will ever be true. I'm going to try.

Anyway ladies, I've ranted on long enough. I hope you all have a good day.

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Hows everyone doing. Its a pretty day in the Mississippi. 71 degrees. I have been busy with online classes and the wedding. I talked to Wishful the other day. She said she had the flu. I hope everyone is feeling better since, everyone seems to be not feeling so well.

Drag- Thanks, I will be wearing a white wedding dress. My bridesmaid will have on lavender and canary yellow dresses. Me and SO have been together since '04. But we have been friends since I was 16. He to is + and the father of my 20 month old.

MUM- I only have to children, and they have me climbing walls. I salute you and your Hubby, You all seem like wonderful people.

Hey ladies....Hows everyone...I was out with the flu or pnuemonia or maybe both..i was a freaking mess...i did get a call from keeping faith tho!..Thanks for checking in on me...im back to work..but my cough is still lingering...i hope all is well with everyone...PEACE..

Morning Ladies-I hope everyone is feeling better. I am, a little anyway. The sun is shining here so I feel like I should get out and do something but I had to drop my car off to get my windshield fixed.

Betty- If I can figure it out I am going to try to find that version of Amazing Grace, it sounds beautiful. I thought of you the other day, I was in Ocean State Job Lot and they Led Zepplin fleece pants, I think they might have been mens but they looked really comfy, especially to wear around the house. Good job staying away from the smokes. I don't even smoke but when I get wicked mad I crave a cigarette so I can just imagine how it feels to be used to smoking them. If you ever need someone one to talk to, I am here and I have free LD

Drag- Sorry to hear about your period and the snow! Glad your BF is back safe and sound.

Mum- I don't think you whine enough. I can't believe you home school too! You must have the patience of a saint!

Viv- I hope you have a great vacation and you get do some things for yourself. The "what we eat" post sounds like a good idea. Does Viv (that's your dogs name, right) like to go for walks? I want to go out for a walk today but don't really want to go by myself. Cassius, pulls me around like I weigh 5 lbs, so he is no help

There was an article in the Sunday paper about a forum they are having at the local college for women to air thier concerns. I really wish I had seen it early because I think I would have sent something about women and Hiv. I did send someone an email so we see if I get any replies.

Ok I should be fair. My dad's girlfriend does speak English but it is broken and I KNOW what he is getting out of it. He is for sure a dog!

Snow: My dog's name is Vivian and no I don't really take her for walks. She is very difficult to handle on a leash. She is a small/medium dog and she thinks she is a German Shepard and likes to be the boss of everything, me, other dogs, other people, cars, etc. I have been taking her to daycare since she was a puppy. My vet has it on sight and it is really wonderful. She gets to socialize with other dogs ands has constant supervision. It is expensive but she is my "child". Of course when she is at "school" she is a model dog, but when she is with me it is a different story. To quote Caesar Milan, " I am not the pack leader." LOL!

Betty, you can do it! I am sorry about the grief, but it's inevitable and in a way healthy. I hope I don't sound like an amteur psychologist when I say that, I do beleive it. If you didn't feel anything, that would be dangerous. You know one of the things that characterizes addicts is denial of pain and fear and any negative emotion. It starts with denial and ends with using substances to aid with shutting down pain. So I think you're doing good... hang in there. 24 hours without smoking - cool.

Hugs to all,

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good day ladies,Hope all is well,Today i had an id clinic visit. they took blood so i won't know my numbers for a few weeks,I had a new doctor, I had to complain about her, she saw me in 5 minutes and was gone!!!!I have been with this clinic for 14 years and have two regular docs that know me inside out. I filed a complanit against her , every one else complained a bout her also, she did not do a full exam on me either. Anyway besides that i am doing well, i am crocheting again and I make hats scarf and ponchos. the weather here in georgia is beautiful!i am addicted to crochet yarn, i buy so much of it and have had some for years!! crocheting is a good therapy for me.i taught myself from books .if anyone wants to learn, ther have some tutorials on u tube.I know all the crochet sites and have many patterns. so hit me up also if you need to know anything.MINISMOM - I would love to see some of your daughters dresses, you crochet, i once made askirt for my grandbaby. I also think you are a great mom, you seem to be on top of everything! and no you don't rant to much!BLESSED- I have only been lock two years, you probly know some good stuff to use,also you can download free crochet patterns online,go to LIONBRAND, AND CROCHETVILE.QUEEN- sorry about all the drama, hope you are doing better.WISHFUL- getwell soonVIVTY- That doggie day care thing is a trip!!!I guess that really is your child!! hear you about the weight thing, but i am an emotional eater,so if i get stressed no telling what i'll eat!!!! right now i eat pretty healthy, but weekends i eat what i want.KEEPIN FAITH- congrats tou you on your upcoming wedding!DRAGONETTE- thanks for the history lesson, on the phillipine people, sometimes we don't know how blessed we are.Glad your man is home safe.BETTY- WHAT EVER YOU ARE DOING , YOU ARE DOING IT WELL,BE ENCOURAGED, YOU ARE MY HERO!!SNOW,MOON,SUN,WINIROO- HOPE U ALL ARE WELLTRE-DAI- I HOPE YOU ARE WELL ALSO, AND DON'T GET LOST HERE ! SOMETIMES A TOPIC WILL END, AND SOMEONE WILL START A NEW ONE, SO DON'T FEEL LEFT OUT, JUST CHECK THE NEW THREADS EVERYDAY AND YOU'LL FIND US!!!TO ALL MY OTHER SISTERS I MAY HAVE FORGOTTEN TO MENTION I LUV YOU ALL!!!

Netta - I know what you mean with the new doctor. I've used the same clinic for the last 15 years too and had the same lady PA for 13 of those years. This new lady I have is a NA I think. The clinic I use decided PA's where too expensive to keep on staff I guess. Anywho she is in and out in 5 minutes, she doesn't check my lymph nodes, look in my ears, feel on my stomach or nothing.First time I saw her I about had a fit and refused to leave until I saw a regular doctor.That sure as hell isn't quality care. If I know I have a problem I'm not budging until I see a doctor.

The food thing... I'm am so not watching what I eat. I know I look thin to some of ya'll but to me I am at the very least 25 lbs overweight. But I don't want to change my eating. LOL I know my problem. I drink too much soda or sugared drinks. Aside from the occasional chef boyardee crap in a can, chocolate, frozen pizza and take out chinese. I eat fairly reasonably I think. Usually I don't over eat. Usually...

Keeping, congratulatoins on your wedding. You will definitely have to post some pictures when it happens! There's a lot of planning that goes into one; is this your first? Do you have anyone to help you? That makes things a little easier. Again, congratulations.

Wishful, I'm glad you're at least some better. Take care of yourself and let us know how/what you're doing.

Snow, when the sun's out here, I always feel so much better. It was out yesterday, even though it was cold. Today, it's grey again and frigid. By the end of the week, it's supposed to be 50, but rainey. Where is spring already?! Those Led Zeppelin pants sound interesting. How did you know L.Z. is one of my favorite bands? I have a few of their songs downloaded. I have a monthly subscription to Napster, so I download a lot of music. With all of L.Z.'s tracks, though, I have to apy .99/track. It's got something to do with copyright laws.

Viv, doggy daycare, aye? Hee. I know how pets can become our 'children.' Now add that to the kids you have at school, and you have quite the family.

Drag, thanks for starting that food thread. I will be checking in every day (hopefully). Lord knows my diet can use improvement. We're each responsible to take charge of our health, and I really need to start doing that instead of wandering aimlessly through life like I have all the time in the world to change things.

Netta, you are just a sweet, sweet lady. I am so glad you found us here. I have never been to Georgia, but every time I think about it, I think of Ray Charles singing 'Georgia On My Mind.' I would love to visit there sometime. Oh, it also makes me think of peaches. Sorry about your bad experience at your clinic. You need to speak up about those things. We deserve to get treated right.

Wendy, I don't look overweight either, but that's because I'm tall. I am about 20 lbs overweight in reality.

Well ladies, I did buy a pack of cigarettes. And I hadn't had any caffeine in about 5 or 6 days because of the bladder infection (which I still have) so I also went to 7-11 and bought an Arizona RX Energy ice tea. I hope it works soon. I could fall asleep this very moment. Like Scarlet O'Hara said "there's always tomorrow." (har)

Have a good afternoon ladies-

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I'd love to rant and rave, but I think today has actually been good. We had "some" school and went shopping. I try to find those already put together Easter baskets after easter when they are 50 - 75% off. We get them, take them apart, throw the baskets away, eat the candy, and save the other "stuff" for birthdays / Christmas fillers. We went to Walmart, Target, and Toys R Us...they were ALL out! They had 1000 the day before Easter. I guess we were a day late...

Netta, if you look at the thread in OT, "shameless showing off" there is a picture of our youngest daughter in a purple / white dress. That's one 1 crocheted for her. When she was born, I crocheted all 3 girls matching dresses. I went to the material store today and got material to make their summer dresses. I'll post pictures when I finish them. The way things are going, they won't be wearing them until August. It should stop snowing by then, right?!?

I think I've found a pediatrician. I have to set up a time to call and speak to the doc himself. But, he just may work out for what I need - med. check-ups for #2 every 3mths, and referrals for #6. Other than that, he never has to see me - lucky him! No luck so far changing the ENT / audiological appmt. I've decided I'm just not going to stress about it. Too many other things to deal with at the moment - like taxes and reconciling the bank account with our lives.

#2 starts coach's pitch practice tonight and I suppose i should be the good mum and feed him before he goes. PB&J, apples, and chocolate milk - supper of champions..lol!

Thanks for letting me rant, whine, bitch, ect. ect. And thanks for making me part of your group. It means so much to me, it really does.

Big ol' hugs and moochies for all of you!Mum (who's "real" name has been outted in 3 posts and no one has noticed - or said anything )

Hi Ladies,Mum- I am glad you had a better. That will be awesome if you found a new peditrician. I did see that someone put your name out there but I didn't know if you wanted it to be repeated. I usually hit all the clearance racks after the holidays too and stock up on decorations for the next year.

Netta- I am sorry you didn't have such a good doc visit. Hopefully the complaints will help to improve her bedside manner.

Betty- We are supposed to have snow here sometime this week. WTF? I shouldn't complain too much, I can't really stand the heat too tough either. You must have mentioned Led Zep before, I think you and Moon did? I hope you are feeling better.

Viv- Our big dog is a pitbull. I think he is half great dane cuz he is really tall. If he stands up on his back legs he can put his paws on my shoulders. He is a really sweet dog, good with the kids and the smaller dogs but he doesn't know his own strength. He listens to my SO more than he does me, the shit , since I am the one who feeds, takes him out and plays with him. Dogs have always been a part of my family. I have never had small dogs before they are pretty fun too.

Wish- Nice to see you back! Sorry to hear you weren't feeling well. How are the kiddos?

Keeping- 70's is my kind of weather Goodness you have your handsful. Classes, kids and wedding prep! Are your kids going to be in the wedding? Are you going on a honeymoon. If I ever get married, I am eloping, I am not good at everyone giving me attention. I hope you will share your pics too.

I was going to share a pic of the trips but I can't figure it out....again. Do I have to upload it first? I was looking at this years and last years pic and it makes me smile how no one cracked a smile last year. One smirk and thats it.

I hope everyone else is doing well. the oldies, the newbies and the lurkers

OK Kristina, yes, I know your name was 'outed.' I just didn't know if you felt comfortable with everyone using it. But, why not? I'm glad you're part of our group also. I love to read your 'kid stories.'

Snow, you're going to have snow? Wow. That's not predicted here, but of course that doesn't mean it's not going to happen.

Well, I was going to ask the professor tonight if I could take this exam in a week or two, but he let us take it open-book. So I just did it. I don't really like putting things off anyway. Next week he's having someone from the Human Rights Commission talk to us. I suscribe to their magazine and have some of their literature. It ought to be intersting. But, of course, the class was total chaos. No one hardly listens to the professor. This is the first class he's taught since he got his mater's and I don't think he quite knows how to maintain order. Once he gets the hang of it, though, my predictions are that he will be a tough professor.

Oh, where's our Queen? Not like you to not post a whole day, gf. I only hope things are alright with you.

Alright ladies, off to check out a couple more posts and maybe go to bed early. Have a good one.

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Here I go, Betty. I have been really frustrated with things lately.....meaning the roomies. I kicked out the gay bff but he went on to piss me off further and blame me for his addiction. And to add insult, had the nerve to say I am hating on him?!? WTF? How can I hate on anyone who doesn't have shit? And I definitely am not hating on that piss poor man of his. I just got off of the phone telling our mutual friend about it all and he said he had to yell at the bff too. But like you ladies said, he hasn't hit rock bottom but when he does, I will not be there to help.

Then there is my original roomie, she has pissed me off too. Basically to the point that when Section 8 calls me, I am out of here. I want to live alone again. Not sure if any of you remember when I was bitching about her lack of cleaning up or waiting on me to do it all the time, including the litterboxes. She went into lazy mode again. This just doesn't make sense to me considering she is about 17 years my senior. My house smells like a fucking litterbox or it did because she won't get off her ass to clean the damn litterboxes or waits for me to bitch then will do it. I have had the talk with her plenty of times. Her excuse is she can't smell the boxes, well, uh, she sure as fuck ain't blind and she can see the box full of shit. I have a litterbox in my room and it doesn't smell compared to the one in the bathroom which is hers as well as the one on the porch. I shouldn't have to remind her to clean the god damn box. And then there is the dishes issues which she whines her hands are hurting her but she can go lay down a floor at another person's house. My name is NOT MOLLY FUCKING MAID!!! So, I left the house last night and stayed the night at my female bff's house and forgot to take my pills too. When I left her house I went over another friend's house and stayed there til about 45 minutes ago.

When I came in, it did look like things were cleaned up but little too late for me and I am getting tired of having to pitch a bitch to get things done. If you see shit needs to get done then do it, don't wait on me to do it. So, I am just biding my time til the Section 8 kicks in and I am out. I can't live like this.

On a better note, the car is officially working...Wooo Hoooo. The mechanic also runs a notary so I can get it all done there on check day. I believe he charged 81 bucks for some corroded wires or something but he also has to inspect the car which I believe it will pass. So, figure another 65 on top of the 81 plus another 36 to transfer the title to the car. I have to call to get some insurance so figure I am going to be broke on check day basically after doing the car, paying rent and the bills. But I will be mobile again!!!!!

OMG, Queen will have her chariot again! Yaaaaaay! Call Safeauto, Queen. That's where I get my insurance.

Sorry about your roommate (current one). Yes, I remember when you were telling us about how she doesn't do anything. I don't blame you for wanting to live alone. At least you'll know then the place will be clean.

On another note, glad you're alright. I was getting a little worried.

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Hi Queen- Sorry to hear about the roomy situation. I could never live with another women, I tried it once and it was complete hell. As far as your gay bff, I know you must be mad as hell and hurt, but it is all him and not you, you tried, he didn't.That is awesome your car is fixed and it was only wires. I am so happy for you, I had my windshield replaced on my car today and I thought I was going to go nuts not having a car for 6 hours. Roadtrip....where you wanna meet? I see the guys have a poz retreat ,why can't we?Have a good night!Snow

Snow---It would seem the only woman I can live with is my female bff but I have always been the type who liked to have my own. I thought it would work out with the roomie but I refuse to be someone's maid and my kids are grown. As for the gay bff, he is on his own and I wash my hands of him. He made his bed and he has to lie in it. I thought we had discussed meeting up somewhere in the past but I guess it was just a thought. Maybe one day.

Betty- I will call Safe Auto. I had them before when I got into the accident with my Caprice. I hate the way they treated me because I only had limited insurance, like I wasn't worth a thought but they wanted my money every month. I will probably start out with them til I can find something better. Not to worry, I am alright, I was just majorly pissed and got out of the house. The walking was good for me even though my legs are a little sore now.

OMG, Queen, I can't believe what you've heard about Boo. It kind of makes sense considering how bad off he was, and not taking his meds, but Win brought up a good point, too. Maybe its a hoax? Somehow I think our beloved Boo is gone from this world, and since she just found out about the diagnosis, the "GF" is scouring his computer for any info on his secretive past re: the virus.

Damn! I am so sorry, GF!

I haven't had a chance to read this thread, just skimmed the other one. I have had docs appts every night for my neck, but the vertigo is virtually gone.

And yes, I kicked Iceman's ass in Guitar hero!

More this weekend, I just don't have time to be on here as much anymore. I'm up at 5am out the door at 7am and don't get home until 8pm. Ugh!

Queen, congrats on the car. My advice with roomie, before you give up, is to sit down and write a roster (rooster?) with her, when is each one's turn to empty the boxes, do dishes, take out trash etc. just tell her that it's hurting your relationship b/c you end up being mad at doing things yourself and you don't want to be mad... if you schedule everything, you won't have to confront her and she won't have to give dumb excuses. make sure to tell her that if someone forgets, they should do it next time. It's worth giving in a shot IMO, b/c you guys are friends before roommates... so even if you split it would be nice to do so on good terms. sorry bout BFF, he is on the defensive...

I think Cindy's right about Boo, but we won't know for sure unless you investigate. I am sorry, my condolences.

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Queen i hear u about the roomates. i live with my sister and she's so disorganised it drives me crazy. i'm constantly screaming for her to restrict her mess to her own room, put away the dishes when she deigns to wash them, put back the lids on the bottles when she finishes using them etc etc. ima kick her ass one day..and sorry about Boo...

Queen, yeah, I probably should switch my auto insurance to the place that has my renter's insurance (State Farm). I think Safe Auto probably has so many customers, they treat everyone like just another number. I know you will be so happy to get that car back though! And I'm happy for you.

Cin, long time, no hear! I'm glad that your vertigo is almost gone. Yippee!

Tendai, I have to ask, is the picture in your avvy from 'Titanic?' I read in the food thread about 'Saturday.' Is that when they're having the elections there? I will be sending lots of positive energy your way, my dear. It's time you had some good there!

Well, I'm back up at a normal time for me. I didn't go to bed until after midnight, but I managed to get up at 7:00 a.m. Before yesterday, I hadn't had any caffeine (none) for like 6 days. It's no wonder I was dragging around. So, when I went out and got the energy tea, I felt so much better. This morning I'm drinking a cup of coffee and I do feel better than I have the previous mornings. So, note to self, drink caffeine. I don't overdo it. I just don't want to go through caffeine detox right now. Too much other stuff going on.

Anyway, my pastor is coming over this afternoon at 2:00 (remember now, this is not some old cremugeon [sp], my pastor is a lesbian who's been with her partner for nearly 20 years), then my therapist is supposed to call at 3:15. So maybe I can get some emotional shit out today. That will only help things.

Other than that, nothing exciting or earth-shattering. Have a good one ladies. I'll be back.

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Drag - thanks a million!Betty- yes we're voting on Saturday. I hope they'll let me vote coz i last voted in 2000 and i never got the chance to check if i'm on the voters roll. with the news that theres dead people still on the voters roll, i'm doubting if i;m on it. but i'll just try. and hope and pray that we get good results. we so definately need postive vibes here. thanks. And i'm glad u;re feeling better. i gave up instant coffee after i started getting the shits everytime i drank a cup. i mostly stick to herbal tea now.

Hi Guys-Hope everyone had a good day! I am exhausted, I didn't fall asleep til 4 am and had to get up at 7 . I went to group today, cleaned up in the yard, took the kids to the park and just came home from cub scouts.

Did you Wire watchers know that Bugs sponsor on the show is actually the guy or wrote and sang the theme song? I saw that on Jay Leno last night and I didn't have any idea, he actually sings pretty good.

I was upset last night b/c I offended someone, those who were here know what happened. But I was just going with the flow.... that's behind now, but it really had me thinking, of how much we emotionally invest in these forums, I mean I was almost crying, b/c we (I) feel that real life cannot offer me the understanding and acceptance of the forums, but nor does it offer the frequent misunderstandings. Besides there is just no replacing the presence of people in your actual life, but real life has us isolated, not only from each other, but from our friends and family, in this say and age most people have to be seperated from people they love and care about b/c of the econmoci structure etc.

I did want to share this video with you guys, maybe you know it it's quite famous, I always thought it was hilarious.

I know so many guys who consider this the epitome of romance... "I got a special gift for you honey... come closer" hehe. Well it was just in poor taste to share it where I did. I KNOW the feeling of craving intimacy, it's like a hole in your heart. And even worse, having the loved one there who shuns you b/c you are poz, it's an awful situation to be in, I was lucky to experience it only for a few weeks, it's better to be alone, maybe. Or maybe the best thing is to try to hold on an make the best out of the reality you've got. I think I'll paste it also in the original thread I am talking about, as it is a spill off from there.

Late to work and what a shame, wasting such a beautiful day in the office. I'll try to post some spring pics later... have a great day everyone.

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Yep, I am still up and haven't been to sleep yet and will probably be up for a few more hours still. I had a rough few days being pissed at the roomie and pissed at my gay friend. I haven't been around lately because I had been leaving the house. I went over to another friend's house and chilled the past few days. Not stay the night but visit. And last night I got my drink on and spoke to my friend about my roomie which she knows. I guess after drinking 2 Coors Light, I felt the need to talk to my room mate about things and cleared the air. Not to mention she had cleaned the house spotless including the litterboxes. So, she is back in my good graces but I explained to her how I felt without an attitude. I got in after 11pm and spent the rest of the night in her room talking and puffing. But while talking to her I realized that I am angry. Maybe it is because of the situation with my gay friend because I really can't think of anything else that has pissed me off.

Speaking of the gay friend, it seems like the shit is about to hit the fan. It would seem that the bf's sister is ready to give her brother the boot. It seems that he has been spending his money once again on crack..So the happy couple pretty much is homeless unless they are staying with some people who get high. Gay friend still has his stuff here which I wish he would come get. I am not his damn storage space.

In other news for yesterday, I finally got rid of my Caprice. The one I got in an accident with. I was almost in tears when they took my baby away. But I had to face the cold hard fact that I couldn't afford to get it fixed and though my roomie offered to help fix her, her hands just aren't up for the job. The other car is now running, it seems that some wires were corroded and something else. I am just waiting for the mechanic to tell me how much the inspection is going to be. I did all the math and I am pretty much going to be broke this check day getting the car legal along with the other bills. But a check well spent.

And it would seem that Kevin has gotten desperate to try to communicate with me. He went to my female best friend's house trying to plead his case. It seems now that he may be getting a job out of state and would like to send for me. Yeah, he's out of his rabbit ass mind, I'll be damned if I get stuck in another state with him and him not wanting to let me go home. No way, Jose. I may be a fool but I am not a damned fool.

Drag, I think I know which thread you're talking about (the one where you deleted something about 'dick in the box'-har). I try to remember with each person who I'm dealing with, on these forums and well, in life. And I try to remember that not everyone has my sarcastic sense of humor. It gets difficult at times. Spring there, eh? I'm jealous. It looks like I'm going to be stuck with a couple more days of snow/sleet/rain and cold. But, over the weekend it's supposed to get into the 50's. And hopefully that will be the end of the snow. But, I know the weather here. It snowed before on Memorial Day. So I try not to get my hopes up too high.

Queen, Kevin wants you to move with him to another state? Is he out of his frickin' mind? Wow. Some people have a hell of a nerve. You know, I've seen more failures in people trying to get off crack than most drugs, save marijuana or meth (I'm not talking about you, dear. I'm talking about people who smoke pot every day, all day and spend all their money on it). But I also know it can be done. I've seen people with over 10 years clean from crack. It's just up to how bad the person wants to be off of it. And if people don't change their playgrounds, playmates, and playthings, well, they're not going to change their drug use. Him being with his ex is just a recipe for disaster. I'm glad you're not getting drug down the shitter with him.

Well, my tummy is officially on fire from exercising it yesterday. I can barely even blow my nose, it pains so much when I tighten it. So does my chest for some reason. (not my lungs, the muscles). I will exercise this morning though. Maybe a little yoga. I'm not going to do anymore sit-ups for a few days. Ouch!

Today I think I'm going to go through all this damn clutter I've accumulated (including things I've brought from my parents') and bag some of it up, put it downstairs with the dead bodies (kidding), and move my t.v. and surround sound base to another wall and try to rearrange in here a bit. Then, I've got to get my spring/summer clothes out, sort through all my clothes, and bag up the ones I won't wear anymore and recycle them at Goodwill. That should keep my busy most of the day. Other than that, nothing earth-shattering planned. I'll check back in later. Have a good a.m. ladies-

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HELLO LADIES, JUST CHECKING IN, I AM TRYING TO GET UP THE ENERGY TO CLEAN MY HOUSE!! I HAVE A FRIEND COMING FROM ATLANTA TO SPEND THE WEEKNEND!! WE ARE JUST FRIENDS, HE IS A MECHANIC AND GOING TO WORK ON MY CAR. I TOLD HIM HE COULD HAVE MY BED AND I WOULD SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS ON THE COUCH.HE IS ALSO POZ, BUT I TOLD HIM I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER AND IF I DECIDE I WANT TO "DO IT" IT WILL BE MY DECISION, NOT HIS.!! THERE TAKE THAT, I AM IN CHARGE!!!, LOL. DRAG, (LUV THE VIDEO) QUEEN,BETTY, TENDAI, VIVYT,WISHFUL AND SNOW - SHOUT OUT HOPE U ARE ALL WELL!!!!

It's a classic isn't it? I just posted it in the wrong thread @first..."to all the fellas out there with ladies to impress.." I must've watched it a 100 times. Kudos to Justin T. for parodying his own smooth R&B ballades.

I had a crap day with too much work, but am going to unwind some now... planned to go to the gym, back hurts, but I will have a drink instead. There is just too much frigging work and it's so monotonous. At least I am learning spanish while I work (listening to coffee break spanish - but you need Mozilla Firefox for it).

What do you ladies think of merging the food and dating threads? I mean it's all a big mess isn't it? food, relationships, work, life. Originally i just thought it's too boring for the dating thread to write what we ate, but we already write everything else so what's one more thing?

Netta sounds nice about your friend, but if you don't know him so well, please be careful, online acquintances can be dodgy. As can real life ones, hey Queen? funny that...

I have to get out of here, catch you all later, big hug

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Well, I am running on about 4 hours sleep and I just got up about an hour ago. I'm looking rough over here, the look of a hangover without the actual hangover... I can live with that. I checked my sugar and it was 223, I guess that was from the 2 beers? I wasn't eating anything so that is what I am guessing is the cause. I popped my pills and will see if it lowers it in a few hours. I hope things will be stable with me come next labs but wouldn't be surprised if something was amiss due to the drama going on. The thing is that the drama isn't really my shit except for Roomie #1 but I guess the deal with gay friend didn't help. I guess things will fall back into place since the dust is clearing.

Netta- You seem to be surrounded by poz people and here where I am people are so on the DL that me and a friend joke and say we are the only poz people in our quaint little city. Come on, girlie, try to get motivated, how about some music to get you started? You'll get it together, no worries.

Wishful-- Hell No, I have not being seeing Kevin's ass. He thinks he may get a new job which is out of state and would send for me to visit him if he gets it. Honestly, he may be just saying that stuff thinking it will make me call him and it's not happening.

Drag-- I missed what you were talking about. Don't sweat someone getting offended. This is a forum and there are different personalities running wild here. Plus you never know what that person who got offended has going on in their life that might be making them a bit sensitive or whatever. Let that shit roll off your shoulder. We know you would never offend anyone intentionally. Now me on the otherhand......

Betty-- Yeah, I know what you mean about the drugs. I think the only time I have not smoked weed was when I was on probation when I lived in Miami. That was awhile ago but I tell people I have no intentions of ever stop smoking weed. I guess technically I would be considered a functioning addict but oh well, I take of my business before I even think of smoking so they can kiss my black and puerto rican ass...*pucker up bitches* As long as I am taking care of what needs to be done then they can have a coke and shut the fuck up... And as Eddie Murphy said in Raw I think it was, in spanish, Esta mi casa y yo vivo aqui...Not sure if that was said properly but that is how he said it in Raw....Loosely translated, this is my house and I live here. Anyhow,...So, how you doing?

That's how it is with me for today. Gonna watch my soaps and game for a few hours...

Just a quick note. I went to my ASO today because my case manager had two gift certificates to the local grocery store for me. I was sweating bullets all the way there; it's way over in another town, and on the way over, the 'low fuel' light came on on my dashboard. My gas was between 1/4 tank and empty! So, all the way there, all the way to the store, and all the way home, my heart was pounding. I don't have a cell phone, there's no one I could call if I did run out of gas and made it to a payphone. But I had to go to my ASO. The case manager was leaving, so she couldn't have dropped them off. I had no milk, no water (other than the shit from the sink), etc. etc. etc. Luckily I made it home. I don't have any $$ right now to get gas; hopefully I will come Monday. Anyway, my heart is still a little out of whack from that. Nothing like living life on the edge.

Drag, no, I don't think the two threads should merge. I like it the way it is. But of course, that's my opinion. Majority rules. And Queen is right (about the song). There are many different personalities on here. People are bound to clash sooner or later. I wouldn't let it worry me.

Queen, I hope you didn't think I was telling you that you had the problem. I wasn't. I know (or knew) people who spend all their money on drugs, move from place to place because of getting evicted etc. I honestly believe in 'live and let live.' I don't try to change anyone, but if someone decides on their own they want help, well, that's different. Then I will help them. There's nothing more you can do for you gay friend. Oh and yes, probably the 2 beers did that to your sugar. I wonder if lite beer would be better.

OK ladies, off to check out a few threads and collapse onto the bed.

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Drag, no, I don't think the two threads should merge. I like it the way it is. But of course, that's my opinion. Majority rules.

You are right Betty, I have reconsidered in the meantime. Changed my mind completely...

How stressful with the gas, i can feel it. I hope you don't mind me asking but are cells expensive in the US? Here you can get a 2nd hand one for maybe 20$, and get a prepaid card that you pay as you call, that's expensive per call but good for emergancies, as there is no monthly charge. Thing is pay phones have become obsolete. Next time have your manager mail the damn things, cheaper then gas, get her a pack of stamps. Christ what you have to deal with.

i didn't go to have a drink b/c I called the BF and he was with a friend and then another friend so I went home.

My back hurts like a mother (can you say that? it sounds very 60's to me).

sounds like you're in better spiritis Queen and I am glad. I don't smoke weed, b/c I can't handle it any longer. If I could handle it, I'd probably smoke it. I am in the land of weed after all. You're right of course there're plenty misunderstandings in these forums, but I don't like hurting people, especially unintentionally.

I haven't seen Cristy around in ages. Hope she's OK. And Camms.

Enjoy your evening ladies

*Betty I hope I didn't offend with my comment about the vouchers, just seems a shame that something that's supposed to help out ends up bringing so much stress when you have to come get it. My guess it though that you probabaly have to sign for it or something so she can't send them to you. Pity though.

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Betty--- Oh, I know you weren't talking about me, I was just running my mouth in general about my smoking weed and those naysayers who assume I spend my whole disability check on weed. I am what I am (as Popeye would say) and it is what it is. If a person can't deal with me smoking the good green then that's on them. And I had days like yours with the car when I had my Caprice. Kind of glad I am working with a 4 cylinder come next week but I'll have to see how much it will cost to fill it up. At the moment, gas is 3.31 a gallon here but they expect it to be around 4 by the summer.

Dragonette--The ghetto phone company I deal with called Blue Wireless has plans that start at 30 bucks but they get us poor people who can't afford Verizon or AT&T service. I never did like prepaid phones because my minutes always ran out too fast.

Well, I was just checking in. I really need to take a nap, those little 4 hours didn't do me any good. I will check back in later...