the sex i was hard as hell, but drunk as hell, so sorta wisky dick?
the head... the girl teased me back and forth, getting me hard/soft/hard/soft. then when she final went at it, i went from hard to soft. i laughed at her.

the sex i was hard as hell, but drunk as hell, so sorta wisky dick?
the head... the girl teased me back and forth, getting me hard/soft/hard/soft. then when she final went at it, i went from hard to soft. i laughed at her.

I had this problem before. When I first started having sex, it took me about a month before I could cum from a handjob, then another month from a blowjob, then another from vaginal sex. I think the problem is partly psychological and partly physical. Psychologically, I am sure you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and thinking negative things ("I have to cum, why can't I cum, this is pathetic, this girl must think I'm pathetic, I want to cum so bad" etc). This is counterintuitive and will only serve to make it far more difficult. The physical aspect would be from your being used to your own form of stimulation. How old are you? How long have you been masturbating? How often do you masturbate? Do you masturbate dry or with lubrication? When did you first start having sex? Are you on any medication that may inhibit sexual arousal (such as antidepressants)?

I know you see a lot of guys on here bragging about how they've never had this happen to them. Don't let that discourage you. You are not a freak or abnormal. Keep in mind that stimulation from sex is a very different form of stimulation from masturbating. With masturbation, you are in total control, whereas in sex, you deligate half your control to someone else. It would also help if you talked about it with your partner, and this would be far more useful if you were in a loving relationship with someone you trust and who cares about you. My girlfriend was very loving and helpful and understanding and without that, I think I would just feel like a total failure. Communication helps; let the girl know you've had difficulties in the past. If she thinks less of you, she's not worth it.

I had this problem before. When I first started having sex, it took me about a month before I could cum from a handjob, then another month from a blowjob, then another from vaginal sex. I think the problem is partly psychological and partly physical. Psychologically, I am sure you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and thinking negative things ("I have to cum, why can't I cum, this is pathetic, this girl must think I'm pathetic, I want to cum so bad" etc). This is counterintuitive and will only serve to make it far more difficult. The physical aspect would be from your being used to your own form of stimulation. How old are you? How long have you been masturbating? How often do you masturbate? Do you masturbate dry or with lubrication? When did you first start having sex? Are you on any medication that may inhibit sexual arousal (such as antidepressants)?

I know you see a lot of guys on here bragging about how they've never had this happen to them. Don't let that discourage you. You are not a freak or abnormal. Keep in mind that stimulation from sex is a very different form of stimulation from masturbating. With masturbation, you are in total control, whereas in sex, you deligate half your control to someone else. It would also help if you talked about it with your partner, and this would be far more useful if you were in a loving relationship with someone you trust and who cares about you. My girlfriend was very loving and helpful and understanding and without that, I think I would just feel like a total failure. Communication helps; let the girl know you've had difficulties in the past. If she thinks less of you, she's not worth it.

Sorry to be longwinded...hope this helps.

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If you masturbate a lot(3x a day or 2x a day), I'd take that down. That's what I did.. if I mbated at all in the past 24 hours, it's a long shot if I get off during sex.. but if I don't mbate at all, then during sex(no matter how many times per day it happens), I'll get off.

I've heard a bunch of my guys friends say they have never been able to cum when getting head. They don't know why, and they've said it's not that the girls weren't good. Maybe it's in your head (no pun intended)? But who knows, they say they switch to sex and are able to finish though. So I'm a little suprised you say you have problems orgasming with both head and sex...