2. The squeeze. If you can feel your orgasm coming on, stop and
squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with
your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube
running along the underside of the penis, advises Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a
sex therapist. The squeeze technique can help you last longer in bed by
pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual
tension, which represses the ejaculatory response, Kerner says.

3. Ladies first. When you help her finish first—whether with your
mouth, your fingers, or a toy—knowing she’s enjoyed an orgasm may
relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer in bed,
Kerner says.

4. De-sensitizers. There are topical sprays, called “local
anesthetics,” that you can apply to your penis to lessen the sensation
and keep control, Dr. Walsh says. “When used properly, you can adjust
the amount of desensitization with these sprays, and it won’t transfer
to your partner,” he adds. But be warned: The lack of sensation could
make it difficult for you to stay erect, he says.

5. Condom control. Most major condom manufacturers make extra-thick
rubbers that act like a slip-on desensitizer for your penis, Morse
says, and these can help you last longer in bed. Look for marketing
lingo like “extended pleasure” or “performax.”

6. Pills. Plenty of men swallow a pill to become erect. Such drugs
genuinely help men with premature ejaculation. Check with your
pharmacist, Dr. Walsh explains. Warning, though: the drugs shouldn’t be
used unless your performance problem is seriously affecting your life,
Dr. Walsh says. He advises talking to your doctor to discuss this
option.

7. Ask an expert. If you feel like you’ve tried everything to have
better sex without success, it may be time to discuss your problem with a
sexual dysfunction specialist, Dr. Walsh says.