All these things come and go, so we can’t rely on them for lasting happiness. It’s important to honor our ego though because it tries to protect us, despite its sabotaging ways.

Any attempt to get rid of our ego creates more resistance. Instead, awareness and understanding allay our ego.

That’s when our life force flows effortlessly, bringing in peace, joy and vitality.

How to gift yourself surrender

“Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can’t see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” —Debbie Ford

Many fears haunt the best of us: the fear of rejection, judgment, being inadequate, pain and uncertainty.

We’ve been conditioned by these fears, whether we like it or not—and they run deep in our subconscious.

Believing in a higher power eases our pain a bit. Life, the Universe or consciousness—whatever you call it—orchestrates everything to perfection. Letting go of control sounds pleasant.

But what an uphill struggle!

We don’t fully surrender in one fell swoop, except in rare cases. In my personal experience, surrendering happens little by little. Each moment is an opportunity to witness my resistance to what is.

So, I check in with myself all day long, What am I thinking and feeling right now?Is there tension in my body? What triggered me?

I observe my reaction to “mistakes”, judgments and doubts and the suffering that follows. Our ego can also pretend to be our light.