Friday, February 19, 2016

Last time on ATCT poor Bunny was feeling the stress and burden of the wintry work week....

I LIVE FOR FRIDAY NIGHTS!!

It means (majority of the time) I can come home and get my comfy clothes on and pass out on the bed with snacks, drinks and more tv binging than I can stick a shake at!! Unfortunately most of the time it involves me falling asleep before 10pm with some snack in my hand the other half in my mouth and my cats laying on top of me like I've died..... Then I'll wake up Saturday at 4:23am spastic thinking I'm late for work..... woe is me...

Emergency Contraception (EC) can stop a pregnancy before it starts. (That means the EC pills are not the same as the abortion pill.) There are four types of EC to choose from and they all work up to 5 days (or 120 hours) after unprotected sex. But use it sooner rather than later to reduce the possibility of getting pregnant.

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EC provides the possibility of prevention after the fact. There are more effective methods, but it's the quickest and easiest "after the fact" option out there.

Sterilization is a procedure that closes or blocks your fallopian tubes so you can't get pregnant. (Your tubes are where eggs and sperm meet. If they can't meet, they can't hook up.) Guys also have a sterilization option--a vasectomy blocks the tubes that carry a man's sperm. Talk to a health care provider to learn more and be sure to ask about state and federal requirements, like age restrictions and waiting periods.

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A permanent solution for those who are sure they don't want a future pregnancy.

"Not right now" is our way of saying "no vaginal sex." It's a great method as far as effectiveness is concerned--if you use it 100% of the time, you're guaranteed to not get pregnant. And if you're avoiding sexual activity altogether, you'll be safe from STIs too. But it does involve a whole lot of self-control.

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If you don't have sex, you won't get pregnant. But you'll need willpower.

Withdrawal
Withdrawal is the oldest form of birth control on the planet. There's not much to explain, really. The guy pulls out before he ejaculates. End of story. Some people call withdrawal the "pull out method." Or you may hear people call it "coitus interruptus." The key thing to remember is this: You've got to do it right--every single time--for withdrawal to be effective. And how many guys do you know with that kind of total control?

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It's free with no side effects, but your partner needs to be able to reliably predict when he'll come for it to work.

The sponge is a round piece of white plastic foam with a little dimple on one side and a nylon loop across the top that looks like shoelace material. It's pretty small--just two inches across--and you insert it way up in your vagina before you have sex. The sponge works in two ways: It blocks your cervix to keep sperm from getting into your uterus, and it continuously releases spermicide. Think of it like a bouncer at the nightclub door to your uterus.

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No hormones, no prescription, and can be inserted up to 24 hours before sex.

A cervical cap is a silicone cup you insert in your vagina to cover your cervix and keep sperm out of your uterus. The "cap" part of the name is pretty dead on--the thing looks like a little rubber sailor's hat, maybe an inch and a half wide and one inch high. There's only one brand of cervical cap available in the U.S. today, and it's jauntily named the FemCap. One super important thing to remember: You need to use a cervical cap with spermicide for it to be most effective.

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Immediately effective, no hormones, can be inserted up to 6 hours before sex--and you gotta remember it every time.

The implant (Nexplanon is the brand name; previously Implanon) is a teeny-tiny rod that's inserted under the skin of your upper arm. It's so small, in fact, most people can't see it once it's inserted--which means it can be your little secret, if you're so inclined. The implant releases hormones that keep your ovaries from releasing eggs and thicken your cervical mucus, which helps to block sperm from getting to the egg in the first place. Plus, it prevents pregnancy for three years. Not too shabby.

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Invisible to the world but not to you. It's easy, incredibly effective, long lasting, and reversible.

The shot is just what it sounds like--a shot that keeps you from getting pregnant. Once you get it, your birth control is covered for three full months--there's nothing else you have to do. Some people call the shot "Depo," short for Depo-Provera. (Pronounced like Johnny Depp-oh.) The shot contains progestin, a hormone that prevents your ovaries from releasing eggs. It also thickens your cervical mucus, which helps block sperm from getting to the egg in the first place. Some women say they don't want the shot because they're afraid of needles. But what's a little prick compared to a pregnancy?

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Long-lasting, private, and good hormonal choice for those who can't take estrogen.

Quick Facts

Effectiveness - The shot is super effective--as long as you get each shot on time...,.http://glw.io/aLolc

A diaphragm is a shallow, dome-shaped cup made of latex or silicone. (Honestly, it looks like Meg Griffin's hat on The Family Guy. Except it's off-white and only a few inches in diameter.) You insert the diaphragm into your vagina. Then it covers your cervix and keeps sperm out of your uterus. One super important thing to remember: For a diaphragm to work effectively, you need to use it with spermicide.

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Effective immediately, can be put in hours before sex, doesn't affect your hormones--but requires a prescription and needs to be inserted every time. http://glw.io/udsuW

The ring (brand name: NuvaRing) is a small, bendable ring that you insert into your vagina. (It kind of looks like one of those jelly bracelets from the 80s, but it feels a tiny bit stiffer.) You leave it in place for three weeks at a time, then take it out for the fourth week. The ring works by giving off hormones that prevent your ovaries from releasing eggs. The hormones also thicken your cervical mucus, which helps to block sperm from getting to the egg in the first place.

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Easy to insert, works like the pill, keeps you protected for a month at a time. http://glw.io/c7sbx

The patch is a thin, beige piece of plastic that looks like a square Band-Aid. It's a little less than two inches across, and comes in one--and only one--color. (Beige.) You stick the patch on your skin and it gives off hormones that prevent your ovaries from releasing eggs. The hormones also thicken your cervical mucus, which helps to block sperm from getting to the egg in the first place. The brand name Ortho Evra isn't being produced anymore so if you use the patch, ask for the generic, Xulane.

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Easy to use and works like the pill, but you only have to worry about it once a week! http://glw.io/prCpv

Fertility awareness-based methods--or natural family planning--are all about tracking your menstrual cycle to determine the days that you can get pregnant. The tricky part is actually knowing when those days are. To do that, you'll need to pay very close attention to your body and its patterns. Here we list all the different ways you can monitor your day-to-day fertility.

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Fertility awareness-based methods are inexpensive, hormone-free, and free of side effects.... http://glw.io/Pp0BH

Thursday, February 18, 2016

A female condom is a pouch you insert into your vagina. It's not the prettiest thing in the world (it looks a bit like a floppy, clear elephant trunk) but it is a method that gives you lots of control. Female condoms work the same way that male condoms do, except that you wear one on the inside instead of sticking it on a penis. They keep the guy's sperm inside the condom and out of your vagina.

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Gives women more control! Also a good choice for those with latex allergies :) http://glw.io/QeXr9

Rubber. Jimmy-hat. Love sock. Wrapper. However you say it, male condoms are one of the most popular forms of buyirth control out there. They slip over a guy's penis to prevent pregnancy and lower the risk of STIs by keeping the guy's sperm inside the condom and out of your vagina.

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They protect against STIs, don't require a prescription, and are inexpensive. Win! They also need to be used every time in order to be effective.

The IUD is a little, t-shaped piece of plastic that gets put in your uterus to mess with the way sperm can move and prevent them from fertilizing an egg. Sounds odd, but it works like a charm. IUDs offer years of protection--between three and twelve, depending on the type you get. And if you want to get pregnant, you can have the IUD removed at any time. In the U.S. there are four IUDs: Mirena and ParaGard, which are already widely available, and newer options Skyla and Liletta.... http://glw.io/5vQLW

"The Pill" is a pill. (How's that for stating the obvious?) Some people call it "oral contraception." You take it once a day, at the same time every day. There are lots of different kinds of pills on the market, and new ones come out all the time. Some work by releasing hormones that keep your ovaries from releasing eggs. The hormones also thicken your cervical mucus, which helps to block sperm from getting to the egg in the first place.

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Been around for 50 years, easy to swallow, can have positive side effects, needs to be taken every day.....http://glw.io/0xPpO

So in the midst of trying to find different things for Condom Week this year. I actually came across this awesomeness.

For those of you that know me you know my deal and for those of you who don't. I've been battling irregular periods and fertility for years now. And it seemed like last year it decided to regulate itself again and come....normally. Which is like nothing out of the ordinary for majority women. What's crazy. It seems more aggressive than it's ever been before. So I don't know if it's with age or because I'm in the "best phase of my life to be reproducing." Either way it comes majority of the time on time and last no more than two weeks which I can deal with.

Anyway I've been tracking it often lately because when I was with my ex I had a pregnancy scare. And I'm like oh no not again got to do better. So I basically follow my menstrual cycle not to get pregnant but to prevent pregnancy. I just want to know which days are off limits and which ones aren't. Even though I'm not active sexually at the moment. I don't want got have an accident that I'm not really REALLY ready for lol. So trying to find a way to track this was and still is a pain. I found two that I like so far. One is the Period Diary and the other Eve. If they could throw those two together I'd be happy camper. Because my periods lengths are never the same. Sometimes if I run into 3 weeks of spotting the app gets confused and tell me I'm wrong. Well my Japanese flag panties say otherwise missy!

Anyway whilst I was looking at the one app (Eve). They have different tidbits for safe sex which I think it's completely awesome sauce. And a few I was aware but not fully sure about. And even some I didn't know about!!

So I thought I would share that all with you guys and dolls and those of you just entering into adulthood and want to go about sex the right way (the safe way of course!) and learn something new!!

I found this on Facebook and thought it was so interesting. For it's not about size but if you know what to do with the cock. Because some guys have sex with you like they're masturbating a sock. It's just down right terrible and makes you want to kill yourself.

Anyway this is for all the men and ladies out there. This is just built on average. If yours bigger that's fine. If yours is smaller that's fine too because trust me in the end it doesn't matter. Just make sure to use a condom so you don't make any more accidents lol.

I just wanted to wish all my beautiful people out there a very happy Valentine's Day!!!

I know it's not much or what you want but it's the thought that counts.

Honestly I can say that I feel pretty good about valentines this year. I don't know if it's because I'm so busy trying to improve myself and get myself together this year and be a better person.

So with that being said. Even if you don't have a boo to be hugged up on and to give kisses to. That's perfectly ok. Yes, yes, it's ok. Why?? Because today and starting now until the end of time—learn to love yourself. Sometimes we get so caught up in doing for other people and being other people's love and happiness that we forget to be that for ourselves.

It's never selfish to care, love and respect yourself. That's what self worth is all about! I learned recently that sometimes that you got to say no to others and be selfish. If you focus too much on other people and their problems or whatnots; you'll lose sight on what's important to and for you.

So this valentines learn to love yourself to the fullest first before you love those around you. Unless you got pets. Then you gotta love them first before you lol

Sunday, February 7, 2016

I know I should tending to my chores. But I need a moment here and get this out lol.

So you see this???

Ok.

So I don't disagree with it. But I think men of today have to earn that "catered love." A lot of men demand to be respected like a king thinking that if I treat my woman like a servant she's still going to respect me because I'm Da King. No. If you can't muster up enough respect just to view her on equal eye level she's not obligated to respect your ass. Anyway how I feel is neither here nor there.

A guy posts on Facebook well if she didn't think she was owed something for giving up pussy there wouldn't be a problem. Then went on to say how special his dick is too—Um, yeah.

Women didn't start disrespecting themselves out of the blue. Someone was validating it. Someone egged them on. Some man or some men was throwing hands in the air and smiling ear to ear. So monkey see monkey do. Other women started doing the same thing and now it's a twerk competition to get all the likes and attention and validation of very poor and misguided respect. But the more woman did this the more they lost sight on how to be treated and respected like a lady. Men lost their gentlemanliness. And now it's a big old mess. We're the generation who wants that old school kind of love but we've evolved so much we have too much pride and stupidity to go back to that. Yeah you can find it and it takes awhile and you got to trench through loads of bullshit. But in most cases it takes special people to make it work.

Men are the reason women are single. Besides nice guys who take a back seat and are afraid to express their feelings because rejection hurts (yeah it hurts but not as bad a paper cut and hand sanitizer). We got guys thinking that if you don't let them violate your body with selfish sex and suck their dick you're not good enough and never will be. So what am I getting if I do these things for you?? He looks at you like you just spoke Japanese French in a Roman accent to him. Apparently you're not suppose to want anything in return.

Well hold the hell up. If I gotta feed you, sex you and suck your dick and all this extra shit and we're not a couple or not even close to it. You consider us friends with benefits or some other dumb shit. Why exactly am I treating you like my husband?? I'm suppose to do that for my husband. Not for some John who doesn't even care enough to remember my name.

No that's not how it works. Now if you treat me good and it works then no I don't mind cooking, rubbing your back or maybe even sucking your dick. But respect comes first. If we can't respect each other on a mutual level and give to each other then why do we need to have emotionless sex?? Just so you can be happy because you denially think the world revolves around you??

A lot of men feel this way. They get mad that the little whore shaking her ass is not fully focus on him because she wants everyone's attention and not just his alone. But then they also don't want to mess with a woman who has her shit together because she too difficult and he doesn't want to step his game up. No the little twerking ho is not going to be that 1960s Housewife. The woman that is housewifey material isn't going to put up with your shit either. If she does it won't be too long unless she's desperate.

My ex thought that if he came over and broke me off a little bit of dick that it was ok to ignore me and treat me like a peasant. You might be king material homie. But you lack the regality of being king. After about a year of his back and forth and our on and off relationship he got replaced. He didn't like it and was mad. But seriously you can be single and do what you want but I have to wait on the back burner for you. It was wrong and he made me miserable. There I was the entire time respecting him and telling men who approach me no I'm taken and trying to be a good girlfriend to him. He never really gave me a chance and took me for granted. He didn't want me but he also didn't want someone else to have me either. He basically acted like I was his worst enemy and even treated me like I didn't have a choice. UGH AS IF!

However my new guy. Treats me very well. I can be myself with him. I feel he makes me a better person and goes out his way to make sure I'm happy. He treats me with respect and always have since I met him. I love him to pieces for it too. And because he makes me happy I'll do whatever I can to make him happy too.

It's sad a lot of men let their ego run shit. You're so busy getting props from your boneheaded friends. And trying to the ultimate man by sleeping with as many women as you can. That you're trying to feel an insatiable void. It's like trying to plug up a drain with pencil erasers. In due time it might happen but also it could never happen.

Stop being difficult. No you're not going to get what you want. And trust me you don't want it. My ex was exactly what I wanted and I was very unhappy. We all come with baggage. But with the right person they'll help unpack and sort it and help you carry it. A woman is suppose to be a man's best friend, top supporter and unconditional lover. Some women can be taught how to be that if you show her how much you care for her. Don't ignore her, or come see her just for sex or never hang out with her or treat her like crap. Same goes for women too. You gotta give respect to earn it back. You two are a team. Be more focused on what you need than what you want. Yeah you want that visually bad ass chick who slays left to right. But she ain't going to cook for you, make sure you alright or be there when you need support. Your attention alone ain't going to feed her insatiable void alone what the fuck makes you think she going to worry about if you ate or not?? Or if you a few dollars short or if you had a good day or bad day or a halfway day??? No. She worry about being InstaFamous and how many likes she can rack up so she can boast and brag and make the next hoochie mama envious.

I pray that my generation gets a wake up call and get their shit together because marriage is obsolete. Love has gone down the drain and people are too busy working towards temporary happiness over lifelong investments of happiness.

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

For the last week or so I've been thinking a lot about my parents. I miss them a lot from time to time. And it's been one of those times.

So mostly in the morning I think about my dad. As I'm rushing to get out the door and power wogging (walking and jogging lol) to get down the hill. I'm amazed at all the drivers who literally stop to stare me down like they've never seen pedestrians before. And I'm like are you picking me up??? No?? Then carry on, mind your business slappy.

But my dad was the exact opposite. Even if he knew he would be late for work. Anyone he saw walking he would ask them if they wanted a ride. Whether it was down the street or to the bus station. He wanted to help and make sure that someone else had a good day too. But what's sad when we were without a car no one offered us rides or picked us up. Nothing. But hell that was for everything. My dad was so focused on helping other people and making things great or good for them whilst letting his own wellbeing go to the wayside.

I used to ask him, doesn't it bother you that you can't get the same help or consideration or favor back from people you've helped?? He would smile and say, 'No, I've helped someone in need and I just hope and pray that when I'm in need someone will be there to help me. Because you never know who you're going to get help from.' But also on the flip side, he also told me never to be afraid to tell people no sometimes. Which is true.

So every morning that I'm walking to my bus stop hoping. I make it on time. I think about him carpooling people. Or just him being so generous in general and wondering why aren't there more people in the world like him??

In the midst of trying to recuperate and get my life together I couldn't post on this like I wanted. However I did decide that I didn't want life getting in the way of me blogging. Yeah I've met new friends whom I love but sometimes they're busy handling their own lives and I still need a way to vent. And I still want you guys to know I'm still a little weirdo just leveled up a bit lol.

But onto the topic at hand (more about me later lol). What I found out that this year tons of people were going crazy just to manifest a New Years resolution. Yet they're making the same resolution or they've already half-assed it or quit it or drug it out until February. I know I said I would blog more in January and I didn't. I get life gets in the way but they're making long term goals with a short term goal mindset and that's not good. It's exasperating and ultimately not good. You want a beach bod by summer but you look like beached whale. No Hun it don't work that way. Or people want a new girlfriend or boyfriend or to level up their relationship by spring or summer. And they don't even know their significant other's middle name or if they're sure about spending forever (and having kids) with this person. You'll fail each time if you do that.

So why not find a resolution for the resolution?? Stop saying what you fin to do and do it. You don't need the new year to make it official or feel special or feel like you can accomplish something by the end of the year. A year is still a year no matter when it starts. But if you want change you got to be the change you want. Or fix or adjust your lifestyle according. I decided that this year I'm going to stop running from my debts. Me hoping they'll disappear isn't going to solve my problems and makes my situation worst down the road. I've also decided to stop worrying so much about other people. Some people don't want to be saved/helped. So I'm not anymore. Fell on my ass trying to figure out where I went wrong. But while I'm trying to help everyone else I was letting myself go by the wayside and that's not good. Hell I almost lost my home worrying about someone else's homelessness.

So I've decided to take action and work hard and find a resolution to all this. I may have to struggle some more. And may even get a couple more jobs if I need be. Or even a new one entirely paying more money just so I can get back on the right track. But I also know things take time and I can't rush into it either. Even though I might be anxious for the future and want things to turn out fine. I need to learn to calm my tits, slow down and hope that all works out in due time. So instead of long term goals with short term goal mindset, try to achieve small goals you know you can accomplish.. In the long run it can be help and could possibly bring a future you hadn't even imagined. This year let's find a resolution to the resolutions and be better than we were in previous years.