January 23, 2014 – Nigerian Men Who Killed Their Registered Nurse Wives In The United States Of America

This report was written by Abiodun Ladepo, a US-based Nigerian woman.

It is about the sharp increase in cases of spousal abuse leading to death among Nigerians in the United States of America .

LA-based Abiodun said Nigerian men are killing their wives who are nurses in America at an alarming rate.

According to her, this is an epidemic that must be checked.

Read her writeup below:

Nigerian Man Killed His Nurse Wife In Minnesota

“Yes I have killed the woman that messed up my life; the woman that has destroyed me. I am at Shalom West. My name is David and I am all yours.”

Those were David Ochola’s words during his 911 (U.S. Emergency Number) call to authorities after shooting dead his 28 years old wife, Priscilla Ochola, in Hennepin, Minnesota.

The 50-years old husband was tired of being “disrespected” by his wife, a Registered Nurse (RN) whom he had brought from Nigeria and sponsored through nursing school only to have her make much more than him in salary – a situation which led to Mrs. Ochola “coming and going as she chose without regard for her husband.” The couple had two children – four years old boy and a three years old girl.

Nigerian Man Killed His Nurse Wife In Texas

In Texas, Babajide Okeowo had been separated from his wife, Funke Okeowo, with whom he resided at their Dallas home. Upon the divorce, the husband lost the house to his wife, along with most of the contents therein, as is usually the tradition in U.S. divorces where the couple still has underage children.

Mr. Okeowo, 48, divorced his wife because not long after she became a RN and made more money than him, she “took control” of the family finances and “controlled” her husband’s expenditure and movement. The husband could no longer make any meaningful contribution to his family back in Nigeria unless the wife “approved” it. He could not go out without her permission.

Frustrated that his formerly malleable wife had suddenly become such a “terror” to him to the point of asking for in court and getting virtually everything for which he had worked since coming to the US thirty years prior, the husband got in his vehicle and drove a few hundred miles to Dallas to settle the scores.
He found her in her SUV, adorned in full Nigerian attire on her way to the birthday bash organized in her honor. She had turned 46 on that day. Mr. Okeowo fired several rounds into his wife’s torso while she sat at the steering wheel, mercilessly killing her in broad daylight.

Nigerian Man Killed His Wife In Dallas, Texas

Also in Dallas (they sure need anger management classes in Dallas), Moses Egharevba, 45, did not even bother to get a gun. The husband of Grace Egharevba, 35, bludgeoned her to death with a sledge hammer while their seven years old daughter watched and screamed for peace.

Mrs. Egharevba’s “sin” was that she became a RN and started to make more money than her husband. This led to her “financial liberation” from a supposedly tight-fisted husband who had not only brought her from Nigeria, but had also funded her nursing school education.

Nigerian Man Killed His Wife In Garland, Texas

Like Moses Egharevba, Christopher Ndubuisi of Garland, Texas, (these Texas people!) also did not bother to get a gun. He crept into the bedroom where his wife, Christiana, was sleeping and, with several blows of the sledge hammer, crushed her head.

Two years before Christiana was killed, her mother, who had been visiting from Nigeria, was found dead in the bathtub under circumstances believed to be suspicious.
Of course, Christiana was a RN whose income dwarfed that of her husband as soon as she graduated from nursing school. The husband believed that his role as a husband and head of the household had been usurped by his wife. Mr. Ndubuisi’s several entreaties to his wife’s family to intercede and bring Christiana back under his control had all failed.

Nigerian Man Murdered His Nurse Wife In Tennessee

If circumstances surrounding the death of Christiana’s mother were suspicious, those surrounding the death of a Tennessee woman’s mother were not. Agnes Nwodo, a RN, lived in squalor before her husband, Godfrey Nwodo, rescued her and brought her to the US. He enrolled her in nursing school right away. Upon qualifying as a RN, Mrs. Nwodo assumed “full control” of the household.

She brought her mother to live with them against her husband’s wishes. Mrs. Nwodo quickly familiarized herself with US Family Laws and took full advantage of them. Each time the couple argued, the police forced the husband to leave the house whether he had a place to sleep or not.

On many occasions, Mr. Nwodo spent days in police cells. Upon divorcing his wife, Mr. Nwodo lost to his wife the house he had owned for almost 20 years before he married her. He also lost custody of their three children to her, with the court awarding him only periodic visitation rights. Even seeing the children during visitation was always a hassle as the wife would “arrive late to the neutral meeting place and leave early with impunity.”
Mr. Nwodo endured so many embarrassing moments from his wife and her mother until he could take it no more. One day, he bought himself a shotgun and killed both his wife and her mother.

Nigerian Man Killed His RN Wife In Maryland

Caleb Onwudike’s wife, Chinyere Onwudike, 36, became a RN and no longer saw the need to be controlled by her husband.

Mr. Onwudike, 41, worked two jobs to send his wife to her dream school upon bringing her to the US from Nigeria. After four years, she qualified as RN. Once she started to make more money than her husband, she began to “call the shots” at home. She “overruled” her husband on the size and cost of the house they purchased in Burtonsville, Maryland. She began to build a house solely in her name in their native Umuahia town of Abia State, Nigeria, without her husband’s input whatsoever. Mrs. Onwudike came and went “as she liked,” within the US and outside the US. In fact, she once travelled to Nigeria for three weeks “without her husband’s permission” to lavishly bury her father despite her husband’s protestations that they had better things to do with the money.

Mrs. Onwudike let her husband know that this was mostly her money and she would spend it however she wanted. Through her hard work, she had risen to a managerial position at the medical center where she worked.
Upon her return from burying her father, her husband got one of her kitchen knives and carved her up like Thanksgiving turkey inside their home on New Year’s Day.

Nigerian Man Killed His RN Wife In Los Angeles, California

Death is death no matter how it comes. But the goriest of these maniacal killings is probably this one that happened here in Los Angeles, California.

Joseph Mbu, 50, was tired of his RN wife’s “serial disrespect” of him. The disrespect began as soon as she became a RN. Gloria Mbu, 40, had once told her husband he must be “smoking crack cocaine” if he thought he could tell her what to do with her money now that she made more money than him.

Before she became a RN, Mr. Mbu had been very strict with family finances and was borderline dictatorial in his dealings with Mrs. Mbu. However, Mrs. Mbu learned the American system and would no longer allow any man to “put her down.”
When Joseph Mbu could not take it anymore, he subdued his wife one day, tied her to his vehicle and dragged her on paved roads all around Los Angeles until her head split in many pieces.

[Author’s note: Although these are true stories, all the names and some of the details of the incidents have been altered as a mark of respect to the families involved. All of the killer husbands noted in these stories were found guilty. Most of them received the death sentence. Only the California and Maryland culprits received life sentences without the possibility of parole.]

It often comes to Nigerian men living in the US as a rude shock when their wives become the household’s bread winner.

It is commonplace for Nigerian men to take important family decisions without consulting their wives; to travel out of town and indeed out of country without consulting their wives. Some do not even bother to inform their wives!

It is not a big deal for Nigerian husbands to answer phone calls from their girlfriends while lying in bed with their wives; to buy expensive gifts for their girlfriends and making only perfunctory, casual attempt to conceal such gifts.

It is nothing strange for Nigerian men to, in fact, bring those girlfriends to their matrimonial homes while their wives are home! What’s the wife going to do to them? Beat them? Leave them? Leave them after one, two or three children? Who’s going to marry her? So Nigerian men think.

This cruel and phenomenal hostage-taking by Nigerian men in Nigeria is what Nigerian women in America are trying to stop. And they figured out the easiest way to begin curtailing these bullish husbands’ wings is to improve their own potential to earn more. And a good way to earn a decent pay in the US (unlike in Nigeria) is to become a Registered Nurse.

What is the big deal if a RN wife makes more money than her husband? In fact, I know of a few military couples with the wives senior in rank to their husbands even though they joined the military at the same time. Yet, nobody is killing or divorcing anybody. Is this strictly an RN thing?

My hope is that some of these RN wives learn from the many other RN wives who successfully manage their homes in spite of making more money than their husbands.
My hope is also that the husbands of these RNs learn from husbands of the many RNs who successfully cope with a wife who makes more than they do.

I don’t know how they do it, but for every RN who is killed or divorced by her husband, there are hundreds, if not thousands more who proudly respect their husbands and submit to their husbands’ authority – yes, their husbands’ authority (NOT control and NOT abuse) even here in the US.

[Article written by Abiodun Ladepo. First Published By Sahara Reporter New York]

18 thoughts on “Nigerian Men Who Killed Their RN Wives In America – By Abiodun Ladepo”

I am not siding the men in any way but there is too much frustration in overseas countries.
I’m based in New Jersey and I can tell you I plan to relocate back to Nigeria once am financially settled.
The stress of paying bills and mortgage itself is more than any spiritual attack in this world.
I pity the women who fall into the hands of these frustrated men.
rest in peace madams

If abroad no pay dem why can’t they come home? foolish men
Is it by force to live in America
I can never kill my wife for any reason. I would rather handle my frustration my self not to take it on anyone

How wish na white men dey do this one now to Naija women, Who na for dey shout say “Racism” ….

It is a big sin to kill anybody..I don’t support killing of any kind no matter the situation….But in the real sense, money nor suppose to bring problem come for mature relationship, even though na the woman dey make the big money at the moment..The woman gat to remember say na dia husband fund dem wen thins rough for dem for naija,come bring dem come yankee…As e be say dem come dey make big money as RN,them suppose still humble and giv their husband the full respect, dem suppose know say dat men sabi jealous wella….But some women can be very emotional and proud wen dem don touch some money…If you be such woman, learn to use your brain, bcos some men nor fit control their temper wen their women don start to dey form control for the family….Be wise sitsers..Life nor get duplicate…..

Ms. Abiodun Ladepo: Let’s do our country a favor, by repoting incidents that are current events; it is self-serving by revisiting old wounds for personal gains. Most of the informations provided above has been atleast three years of origin. No Nigerian men with healthy mind will bul-dozed his wife becuase of financial status…blame the system, the same system that acquited O.J Simpson for similar story….this is a very violent society!!!

I am an RN and these stories could apply to anyone / any profession. Why the emphasis on RNs? We have many African women who make more money than their husbands (pharmacists, physicians etc) this issue should never be taken to such extends. The men need to stop basing their marital issues mainly on money! Both parties have to check their attitudes and beliefs to avoid issues.

abroad life is very hard, wen i came newly saw lots of tins happening between married couples, especially d ones brought 4rm 9ja, n i vowed not 2 marry any woman in 9ja n bring her ova, so i settle 4 d ones here, if u spent so much 2 bring ur wife down n she started disrespecting u, u will fill d whole world is crumbling on u, its not good 2 take life, i once talked my friend out of committing murder, am glad he listened 2 me den, though he is divorce now, but he is very happy man n he is getting married again by feb 14th, it beta 2 prevent it [Murder], my advice 2 men who brings dia wives 4rm 9ja, pls if u can cope walk away but dont kill

its all about understanding..the ladies who make more should sacrifice and share time with the hubby and not all about working 2 jobs..why paying the mortgage when an 1 or 2 bedrm apartment can serve the purpose..taking ones, life is barbaric though may all due to frustration.fame and money with giant life remain the culprit of failed marriages in the diaspora..

Worse things are happening in Nigeria. Most of it people don’t get to hear about..what with no light 23 out of 24hrs of the day.

Anyway i am married to a RN for 13 yrs who still treats me like a king…praise God.
I don’t treat her shabby either and everybody respect demsef. I still eat Amala,oatfufu and all kin vegetable…all i have to say is “when is the next time u cooking efo-elegusi and before u say jack, its done. It is not me its God.
We are a God fearing bunch and we practicalize it.

I will tell u why RN more than any profession…..It is usually the easiest course to do as a naija JJC and it can be done in stages, so basically u can first do LVN to get a job and later upgrade to RN. and there is moderate demand. so even d local village girl that just manage to finish OND and u bring her to USA, d first option is usually Nursing. When small money begin come and dem know say US laws back women up a lot, the dat LOKI in their blood comes to surface. Na so.

Your name suggests that you are Ibo. I am not surprised at all (I am Ibo too). So you think the women deserve to be butchered. How about the men walking away if they feel they can not cope with their wives being disrespectful. Ibo men make good husbands but majority of them still have the stone age mentality that their wives are their properties or slaves and must worship them like a god.Do you also think that women should murder their abusive/cheating husbands who accord them no respect? I think not because you must think it is your right as a husband to do as you please.One thing we need to realise is that we are not part of these people’s relationships therefore can not understand what had gone on therein.A lot of these men treated their wives horribly before these women decided to emancipate themselves through studying and qualifying as nurses to become independent of the abusive bullies calling themselves husbands. Do you think if a man treats his wife with love she won’t respect him? As a man you gain your wife’s love and respect by loving and caring for her. The mistake our men make is that they still can not get their heads around the fact that things have changed and they can not command respect through bullying,beating,cursing,shouting,cheating etc. These men may have supported these women through their education and in turn expect the women to turn their pay packets to them at the end of each month ( this truly
happens ). Trouble starts if the woman refuses to hand her money over as the husband will think her refusal is a sign of disrespect.You need to listen to the stories of what some women have gone through with their naija husband and your heart will bleed.A lot of these men went back home to marry “village girls” with the intention of bringing them to the US and training them to become nurses so that these girls will then work all the God given hours to make money for these silly men to show off in the village every Xmas. These days, i look back and remember those days when guys living in the US used to ask their families to find them wives who were nurses or student nurses.The girls are most often sent to the US without ever meeting the man.Tell me if you think a marriage like that will work. Well, the deal is there are no bush village girls in the villages any more. They are even wiser than you are so deal with it and for men who think women are commodities, WE ARE NOT!Majority of men living abroad will tell you their wives are kind and very respectful. I am glad all these men who committed this crimes will be made to face the music.

To me the women are ungrateful, I do not support the killings, but why would they come to wreck the man that brought them to US and also claim all they have worked for years back, why must they forget our culture and decide to tow the US law that does not stabilize marriage. To me their marriage law does not permit women to respect their husband as stated in the bible that wives should respect their husband while husband should take care of their wives.

Stop speaking in parable Hunter.what do you expect red to say,Am a Registered Nurse(RN) that’s true but i have not witness such act and know nothing about men killing their RN wives.do you expect me to start writing what i have no idea of in the name posting my comment.sorry dear,I can’t and don’t pray for such men.I can only say that if a woman start misbehaving because she makes more money,it means she was never in love with the man in the first place but loves the opportunity she will get from him,she should also bear in mind that tomorrow might not be the same for her.As for the men that killed their women,they are fools and cowards,why kill her and spend your days behind bars when America is full of women doctors and lawyers looking for a man to call their own? why ? The bottom line is mingling with a God fearing partner or working towards knowing God more if both of you don’t know him that well.Also dialogue,it help a lot ,talk to each other about what you don’t like between you two,don’t invite a third party to your marriage that will say if is me i know I will not take that nonsense,don’t fail to take correction and say am sorry when wrong .If they can keep this in their marriage Hunter do you think there will reason for any killing? Sorry am not married so i don’t know much about husband and wife(RN) killing.

i am not married and i keep praying that i marry the man i am in love with, not for money or opportunities and i also pray that the man will also truely love me. its really unfortunate these things happen. the woman is dead, the man in prison, nobody is talking about what will happen to the children. i really feel sorry for all the parties involved especially the women but i think it is time people begin to marry for love rather than what they can get out of it. obviously, these people were never in love, the man needed somebody to ease him of his suffering and needs a helper or reliever as i will call it, leave all the wise girls abroad who are praying day and night for a man and goes home hoping to get a novice and bring her over, the girl on the other hand is looking for a man to fly her abroad so she can get a better life and when mr comes around, she quickly accept without even knowing him at all. manages with him until she gets the desired qualifications and begins to make her way out of the marriage then the devil takes over and the rest are the horrid stories we hear. its high time we begin to look at what the marriage institution means before going into it please. God help us all.

All theses women have one thing in common, they were invested in heavily in terms of time, money and other sacrifice. Another commonality among them is that they are a wasted investment and or crashed stocks. Another thing that they have in common is disrespect, insult and ingratitude to their husbands. They have a full time job and a PRN job so that they go and come back as they pleases making it difficult for their husbands to keep track of their time. It is a problem in Nigerian community. They are willing to call police for any single reason just if they are questioned why they are coming home late. Just to be like Jones’s they their husband into high mortgage making it difficult for their husband to afford it sing handedly. Finally they turn their children against their husband/father by circumventing discipline and unnecessary generousity with money to children.

Nigerian men are going through agony and pains in the hands of these women coupled with bad mother inlaws who are always urging their daughter not respect the marriage.