MUST-READ: A good example of a mother parenting her boys

I have such a good story to tell you all from the dentist’s office. I was in the waiting room waiting to be called in this morning, and this woman came in with 3 boys. They seemed to be 2,3 and 5. The two youngest boys started climbing on furniture and the oldest boy started getting interested in the computer in the lobby. The mother told the boys not to start anything big because they were leaving right away. Then she went to talk to the receptionist.

The youngest boys kept playing on the chairs, but the oldest boy was trying to figure out how to make icons open on the desktop of the Windows PC. Meanwhile, the mother got a document from the receptionist, and then she called to the boys that it was time to leave. The two youngest boys stopped climbing on chairs and they ran over to her, but the oldest was trying to figure out the computer. And do you know what the mother did?

(Try to think what you would do in this situation before continuing to read)

Well, she said to the eldest boy in a normal voice:

“Hey we’re all leaving to go out to the car now and I need you to carry this important document for me so that it doesn’t get bent or lost on the way to the car.”

The kid just shot out of his seat, raced over to her and took the document carefully from her with both hands. And out they went, with the two youngest boys trying to push the door open for her.

Anyway, I just want to say that I want to have a son or two, and I want to see my wife treat my boys like that. I want her to understand men so well that she can get them to do what they ought to do for her (and for other women) without nagging, controlling or threatening. This is how women get men to do what is good for men.

This was perfect mothering. She understands how to appeal to the male nature. In time, those boys will grow up to trust women. They will find serving women natural. She is already treating them like grown men, instead of little boys! She’s not ordering around – she’s appealing to their male natures – their desire to be depended on and trusted by women. Women need to do a better job of studying men so they know how to do this.

I once saw Andrew’s wife Jen resisting being hugged by her eldest son and telling him to go to his father. He was at the age when he needed to start to do that – she knew all about it because she’s read books like “Bringing Up Boys” by James Dobson. She’s a well-informed professional stay-at-home mother. And her husband loves her and appreciates her very much! Their children are amazing because they have a plan for how to bring them up.

6 thoughts on “MUST-READ: A good example of a mother parenting her boys”

Sounds like a very wise woman in dealing with her son. Bravo! The only point I’d take issue with in your post is the idea that it’s good to resist affection from one’s son past a certain age. Sure, encourage him to bond with his father and to deepen that relationship. But I wouldn’t go so far as discouraging affection to the mom. I think it’s wonderful when grown guys can give their moms a big hug and not care what the other guys think. Usually they are the guys who treat women with the most respect and love. See how a guy treats his mom and you’ll see how he’ll treat his wife.

“…She is already treating them like grown men, instead of little boys!”

I have three boys and a girl, and this is the key, I believe to parenting. I believe biblical parenting is for parents to begin with the understanding that they are training up men/women, not children. This training is dependent on age, but I believe it is a mistake if you have a 5-year-old and are training him/her to be a 5-year-old.

Great post of a great example of parenting. Encouraging to know others are in fact watching and recognize well-behaved children and their parents.