My husband has two slipped discs and sciatica and I'm slowly losing patience and compassion for him. We have been married for almost 10 years and have two kids together. We currently don't have health insurance and I'm having a killer time finding/getting enrolled in something...

that I found quite helpful. It is for the chronic pain individual and their spouse. It is called "coping with chronic pain, a team effort!: for you and your partner." You can get it from Amazon. I have read it once and re-read sections as needed when I need more support and...

I know I am blessed. Blessed beyond measure. But sometimes that doesn't comfort me as I buffer what comes with my spouses chronic back pain. He hurt his back over 3 years ago. He is a business owner amongst other endeavors. So he is completely stressed out all the time and has...

I googled what amounted to the title of this group. I'm 47, and I've had chronic back pain for over a decade. 5 herniated thoracic discs, along with lumbar that are close behind had made my life a nightmare. However, in the last few years I have been actively looking for...

who has chronic pain. He has not been diagnosed yet because the last doc he went to is recommending him to another specialist for a second opinion. He is at his wit's end and is very angry. I don't feel like I should be complaining because he's the one with the pain.

My husband's chronic pain has changed our relationship and although I know this, and have been living with these changes for seven years, I occasionally hold out hope that the bubble he lives in will open and we will have an emotional relationship again. People ask me how he is...

Every story I read sounds like my own. My wife is the love of my life. My everything. The past two years I have seen her go from an amazingly passionate and loving woman...always up for our next big adventure....always craving me and me her...so open....to now...reclusive. Non...

I am the spouse of a chronic pain sufferer. My husband has several herniated discs in the lumbar region as well as other issues due to weight and the pain meds he takes. We've been together for 5 years, married almost one. While he always suffered from back pain, he was more...

I lost my husband to chronic pain. Pain is the third entity in our marriage. I think of her as his mistress. Pain (as I have appropriately named her) decides what we do and when. She took over our sex life and doesn't share. She allows him to work, but brings him home exhausted...

my partner (25) for a year. 14 months prior he had a accident and injured his back. The accident basically caused my partner to be disabled. He had to quit his job and hobbies due to being able to not walk or stand for very long. He's on a cocktail of pain meds which can make...

My husband and I have been married going on 15 years. We have two children, 12 & 3. He broke his back when he was younger playing football. He had his first spinal fusion in 2003. It was successful for the first two years then went down hill after that. He had the hardware...

next week. We're trying to get a ramp built so he can go outside. My cousin was supposed to come over today and build it. Instead he was passed out drunk on his couch. How much can one person take?? I'm at my wits end. The dr also has my husband on OxyContin and hydrocodone...

for a while. My wife suffers from chronic pain due to Chari Malformation and other issues in her back and neck. Chronic pain has been a part of our life for about 10 years now. She often says that she feels bad that our life has taken this turn. If you are in this group you...

for people that are In a relationship with someone that has disabilities that keeps them from having sex. So we the healthy sex starved half of the relationship have a place to connect with other sex starved people that are not looking to change their current relationship status...

Anybody who lives with somebody who suffers from chronic pain, understands what its like to miss somebody you see every day. This one is for you:
I saw you today,
In what seems like such a long time,
That moment on waking
When you’ve had a chance to forget
Or perhaps you...

for 6 years. He had a fusion thinking it was the root cause of his pain but it didn't help. He has tried every treatment under the moon and nothing works but pain meds. I'm concerned about it because he is only 36. We are going to a specialist in Dallas this week for another...

my fiancee has been in 10+ pain for five years (and if you start to tell me "how can someone be in that much pain she must be lying" i will track you the **** down and snap your damn neck) and she doesnt have any hope for the future. she doesnt wanna get help, she doesnt wanna...

Screamed at me to tell me he wasn't screaming at me and that I would know when he was. Hmmm. We are at the pint of talking about separating. Pain is no excuse to be mean. We've been together 15 years and I love him with all my heart. 😞

our lives. We welcomed our beautiful baby boy into the world 8 months ago and the first two months were amazing. It was then when my husbands back pain began. Since that time, it seems our lives have spiraled out of control. He is in so much pain everyday and all the treatments...

I lay in bed with 10 million thoughts running through my head. How can I be mad or frustrated and show my emotions when I know it will only hurt his feelings.
He didn't choose to have life treat him this way. If he could pick a different life he would make it normal and be...

We got together in 1980. We were married in 84.
In 85 my wife had her first fusion in her neck. It really did the trick. She lead a pretty normal life until 2001. The pain returned and she was diagnosed with more colapsed disk in her neck. Another fusion surgery. This one to...

years, it is a second marriage for both of us. He came into the marriage with three boys and I have three girls, yes we are the brady bunch. We have five kids at home now. The boys mother lives in another state and does almost nothing for them so I am pretty much there mother...

Your stories of caring for your spouses resonate with me..
My husband suffers from central pain. There is no cure, it is for the rest of his life. He is already on maximum treatment - nothing that the Doctors can do more for him. It is not terminal- he is not going to die...

I woke up this morning with my husbands arm around me, what an awesome way to start the day!!!
One... that means he must of had a good night. I usally sleep in a tight ball on the edge of the bed, trying my best to stay out of his way as he tosses & turns trying to find a...

chronic pain (testicular) for over 4 years now. The cause is due to a nerve disease. He's always been hilarious, the life of the party, etc. This illness has changed him in so many ways and while he fights to still be that guy, the pain has taken it's toll and we've had to...

My husband and I met 6 years ago, married 2 years ago. We both like the outdoors, planned on going on hikes, hunting together (he was teaching me), and doing lots of other outdoor activities - nothing extreme, just active. His back pain started about 3 years ago, mild, has now...

This is a first post for me; I ask in advance that you forgive any rambling. I'll also attempt to keep this from degenerating into a meta-post about posting things.
My wife and I met and fell in love like a lightning-strike. We've been happily married for 3 years now. When we...

with my husband's chronic degenerative disc in his back. After a pain pump implantation 3 years ago I thought life would would be restored to some sort of normalcy. I guess that run has come to an end.
It is so frustrating just when you think things are good , no surgeries for...

I am 17 years into a second marriage, my husband is 11 years older than myself. One year after we were married he took a disability retirement in his forties rather than moving across country with his job. His disability at that time was injuries resulting from combat in vietnam...

My husband and I have been married for 12 years and in that time he has had three back surgeries and recently had a spinal fusion surgery. In addition to that he has had a number of surgeries for other injuries that he sustained at work but none that impede his everyday life...

support my fiancee who is greatly depressed, and a large part (but not all) is about her pain? she has ehlers downlos (im a bad speller sorry!) and scoliosis and has had pain for 5-6 years now....she got off narcotics in december after being on them the entire time and although...

I have been married to my husband for 10 years this August, and quite honestly this last year has been the worst year of my entire life. Due to a work related injury involving the lumbar region of his back he has been in constant pain since. He used to be my best friend, but I...

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Most of the time my husband is a happy go lucky guy, despite his chronic pain, but sometimes he gets in these Debbie downer moods and I feel like I have to play cheerleader . It can truly get tiresome . I know I have my moments and he is here to cheer me up as well, but workings...

This site is an answer to prayer.....Thank You Lord!
My husband and I have been married for 29 yrs this Feb. He was injured at work over 15 yrs ago. His injury gradually worsened, subtley. About 7 yrs ago, I began to express to him how I needed more attention. Well, I didn't...

pain and depression, although his chronic pain is worse and more systemic. I have lower back issues and arthritis and he has ehlers-danlos syndrome, which severely affects joints and causes stomach issues. We've been married for a year, and I'm starting to worry that we will...

would be if/when my fiancé would commit suicide. She suffers from CRPS which causes her to feel burning pain 24/7 and after 2 years, the number of treatment options has almost run out. I love her and these thoughts make me feel horrible. I have almost nobody I can tell these...

and has low immunity, so even when he's not in severe pain, he's sick in some way or another. He has nerve pain in his neck that causes severe migraines--daily. He pushes through to make it to and through work, which I'm blown away by. I don't know how he does it, and I could...

for everyone who is posting their experiences on this website. Until today I thought I was alone. My husband who is a truck driver has gone through a back and neck fusion in 4 years due to workmen comp injury.
I haven't work due to driving him to pt therapy and doctor appts...

I "don't get it"...everything he has to go through....but I do. I do get it, because although I don't endure physical pain I endure the heartache it costs to be married to someone with chronic pain. and the people I let in and share my life with...i think in my head....you don't...

I am married to the most amazing man in the universe. He is my favorite person in the whole world and I am so SO very thankful that we were brought together, for he has and does bring me immense happiness. I sometimes get lost in my thoughts about how lucky I am to have my...

I met my husband over six years ago and married him in 2008. Initially, he desperately tried to make me understand how difficult it might be to love a person who suffers from chronic pain. I did not care. My husband had been in a relationship with another woman for...

dealing with the loneliness of living with a spouse with chronic pain so I searched the web and found this site. As I read some of these posts, I see that I am not alone in all the feelings I experience daily. My heart breaks for all of you who are going through what I am going...

Not sure where to begin as there is so much history so I'm going to be as brief as I can.
First off I love my wife. She is my best friend. We've shared so many adventures together in our ten year marraige I can hardly believe all the places we've lived and all the things we've...

What happens when the person you love is what makes you stronger and now they are told they are experiencing kidney failure on top of all the other health problems . What happens if he gives up and doesn't want to fight anymore, who could blame him he has spent the better part...

Its so easy to lose ones self in their significant others pain, the first few years are easy and fun then the onset of a chronic pain issue forces the honeymoon phase to end, My partner and I have been together for 5 years now, the first year was a dream come true, he was...