FBUP Episode 005: At Java’s With Melanie… SEX – How Soon Is Too Soon?

I worked with Melanie Kaita from January 2006 till January 2010 – for four years straight! We’ve remained great friends even after she left Sanyu Breakfast to pursue her other interests.

In this episode of Fatboy Unplugged we got together to talk about SEX – specifically, whether a lady risks not having her relationship with her man last long (or not having her relationship lead to marriage) if she has sex with him too soon, or has sex with him at all, before marriage.

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Hassan

Well, not bad… i like Melanie’s honesty though i (psycho-analytically) doubt she can ‘go down’ on a guy unless he is her fantasy kind.

To me, most of Melanie’s thoughts in this podcast are rather subjective opinions, and her reference to Steve Harvey’s (generalizing – in my opinion) over-hyped book is a turn off with regard to what I agree with her as Social Evolution, though that is also debatable.

Meanwhile,Fatboy, i was irritated by your ‘chewing in my ears’ and it distracted me a little… i.e it makes the Podcast seem jokey.

That said, for someone like myself who gets intellectually and erotically stimulated by a brilliant woman, listening to Melanie is always an orgasmic pleasure(ooh yeah!)

To put out or not to put out that is the question….very subjective this one but loved it….so lively and REAL!…but FB the eating…no wonder ur lap top was messed and u mentioned the niceness of the breakfast amidst such a ‘serious’ topic. But agree with melanie..rule of thumb, protection and social evolution tho i think we as a society are far from it infact eons away.

Fat Boy, love your podcasts (especially the one explaining how scientific evidence is obtained 😀 )
You guys didn’t really answer the question…
Also, I’m so tired of the conversation always being focused on what women can do to impress men… If a man loses interest in a woman after having sex with her, is it her fault? Doesn’t that signify that all he was interested in was the sex? Are women who are not “packaged attractively” destined to be single forever?
As for women who think that if you’re successful, guys are afraid of you (as if when successful, you’re single because of your success and there’s no possibility that your personality might actually suck and you’re blaming the money…)Shut UP!!

Sam on one each hand who have what the sexes are getting wrong. If the woman is successful career wise, then she is deemed too big a threat to male ego- male weakness OR she forgets to practice other feminine graces/tricks of the trade to make a better mate-female weakness. so no, it ain’t all about the chics. Not always.

Speaking here I wanted to demystify the notion that not putting out guarantees you get the man. Its rubbish. Playing it smart, understand the very base nature of men and specifically the quirks of particular men is what will enable a woman to hook him…if she so wishes!

But for me the bigger issue is that I feel we may be witnessing the start of a sexual revolution in Africa, more specifically Uganda where the perception of sex, its very nature, its purpose morphes to a point that our parents would never understand. Women understand its a power tool, we always have but now we are not using it just to manipulate but for our own real recreation and entertainment and where that will lead…only time will tell

Mel, maybe I’m being too hard on them but the people I’ve heard citing male insecurity as their reason for being single i) aren’t what I’d call intimidatingly successful (but I admit that’s relative) and ii) are truly horrible people.

There are a lot of amazing older single women who would like to be married but aren’t because they haven’t found the right guy yet. The difference is that they say that it’s because they haven’t found the right fit, not because they’re too good for everyone they’ve ever met.(And they are usually willing to marry someone who makes less money than them not because he’s unambitious but because that’s where his path led him…)

Plenty of women in our mothers’ generation made more money than their husbands (at least at some point during their marriages) but did not make an issue it so we’re only realising it now as adults…

Of course there are lots of men who just can’t deal with women who are more financially successful than they are but I honestly think that assuming they all think like that and dismissing any man who makes less money than you is a mistake…

I loved ths.Subjective is always wat im after in any discussion.Sexual revolution in Uganda,in this life time…I don thnk so!Bt as 4 WHEN 2 put out….CALCULATED move 4 sho!!Plus I agree with Mel,whatever makes you happy,appeals 2 u n wat u can live with will always do the trick.

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