My life's purpose is to realize that what is unfolding in front of me is always my life's purpose. I'm constantly living my life's purpose, regardless of what form it takes. Gratitude is the result of accepting this little known fact.

Friday, July 11, 2014

I've been reading (digesting really) this great book called, What's In the Way IS the Way, by Mary O'Malley and have really enjoyed her fresh take on Awakening. The book is beautifully written, and has many places to stop and experience what you're reading throughout the book. I've also been re-reminded about the power of just putting a question out, without looking for an answer, and allowing an answer appear. As a result I've become more comfortable with letting Life do the driving (that it's doing anyway).

But I think one of the most powerful part of the teaching is the art of bringing compassionate curiosity to your present experience. This sheds light on those stories that have been running us for so many years by honoring them. Curiosity is a very powerful tool for self inquiry, so just using that nonjudgemental curiosity puts awareness back on itSelf. Though Mary doesn't come out and say it, this is why curiosity kills the ego. Unlike the cat, though, satisfaction ensures it is dead :)

I love this book like I love Power of Now and Loving What Is (I'm a big Tolle and Katie fan). Hopefully you'll pick up a copy and check it out.

I had the great pleasure of interviewing Mary recently and would like to share it with you. My apologies in advance of the quality of the video as I was experiencing some connection speed issues I have also included the audio version of the interview. I hope you In-Joy.

Thursday, July 03, 2014

I hope you are enjoying the long days of Summer. I love seeing the sunset at 9:00 at night and it feeling like room temperature in the evenings. Anyway, I felt compelled to write something that might help someone in some way. I hope you enjoy.

"Don't sweat the little stuff." What great advice. How do you know if it's little stuff? First, ask yourself, "Will this be important tomorrow?" If not, then it's probably one of countless fleeting moments in a day that does not need your stress to fix (as if stress ever fixed anything).

Getting fixated on the little stuff is very habit forming, and possibly life shortening if the negativity becomes prevalent throughout each day. We can't really help it, though. Our past conditioning leads us to act in certain ways that feel familiar, even when they are destructive. Many people, who have been exposed to frustration since they were young, are subconsciously looking for the least little thing to make a big deal out of because that's what they know.

One way out of making mountains out of mole hills is to pause before reacting. All it takes is a few seconds, which may be difficult to do at first, but that brief pause may let in just a tad bit of clarity. If the pause is long enough to look at the situation at face value, then that's all the better. When there's room for a question in that pause, try a few different ones to see what suits you. It may be highly situational, but here are a few that might help.

Will this matter later? Does this even matter now? Is it that important to get upset over? Will reacting this way make any difference? Does this situation even need a response? Would it hurt to remain silent? What if I just let it go? What if this situation is actually for the best? Am I over reacting? Is anyone really being hurt by this? Am I making things worse by reacting this way?

Don't forget the old saying, "There's no sense in crying over spilled milk." Being upset about something that's already happened can't change a thing. But if you can pause before a reaction, you might be able to change everything. Even if you have already reacted out of habit, you can go back to these questions after the fact to see if your reaction was disproportionate to the event. Hindsight is 20/20 and you can learn a lot from your mis-takes that will affect how you deal with similar situations in the future.

This only works if you are open to change and willing to entertain the idea that you may be making a big deal out of nothing from time to time. It may take a close friend or loved one to tell you that, and it may not be well received. But if you're feeling stressed out a lot, let me be the one to tell you that you are taking things too seriously. Don't be so hard on yourself/others. We're all doing the best we can, and that's not going to change regardless of what you do about it.

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The events in our lives serve as sign posts we can either choose to ignore or follow. If we ignore them, we might end up driving in circles for a while, in which case we will encounter recurring themes. If we pay attention and use our intuition as a guide, we might end up getting to our final destination in One Peace.