How To Deal With A Playerette

Last Thursday evening, I'm in this bar that I like to hang out at because it meets my needs. It's got a loungy atmosphere, with a good DJ spinning a mellow but solid groove — the kind of place that appeals to women. As it happens, it's full of them. I like this place.

So I fall into conversation easily enough with a woman who, in all truth, was absolutely smokin'. A natural beauty who takes great care of herself and her wardrobe, is interesting, has a good sense of humor, and is fully engaged in the situation. So far, so good, right?

Well, I won't say "wrong," because in theory, these are all good things. But soon enough I start to get this particular sense about her. I felt, even though it was I who approached her, that it was she who was really steering the conversation and situation.

I was getting verbal buying signals, but they seemed more calculated than natural. She seemed to know all the right things to say. And rather than having to monitor myself to make sure I wasn't giving too many "nice guy" signals (you want women to want you, not want to marry you), I wondered whether it might be her who would eventually use me.

After a half-hour or so of friendly chat, I cracked the riddle: I had met a worthy adversary, a "Playerette!" Having encountered a few others before, I recognized the telltale signs and soon adjusted my behavior accordingly.

So, the question is, where did these adjustments lead me? Did I walk away, or continue our little game?

welcome to playerette country

A playerette is like a player but with an extra step in her motivation chain. After all, guys are pretty straightforward: we want sex. Playerettes, on the other hand, use sex as a means to an end, a tool to get things like favors, money, dinner...

A playerette will always have five or six guys around her, as she will use each of them for something different. For example, Carl will pay her rent, Paul, her phone bills, Pat, her car lease, until finally, she's only having sex with one of them... hopefully you.

Remember that a playerette will always get sex in the end — either from you or someone else.

Since it can be difficult, even for The Player, to imagine his traits in a woman, here's a paradigm: a good example of a playerette is a stripper. Although not all strippers are playerettes, and certainly not vice versa, I choose a stripper because, when you get right down to it (something many guys never end up doing with strippers), she uses sex to get money from men. But when customers stop paying for her "services," she drops them.