I fear my love's a secret hooker

His love has a sports car and lots of money but won't say how she earns it

She always has pots of cash but no nine-to-five job.

She's a lovely girl but a complete mystery to me and whenever I ask her what she does for a living she mutters: "life coach".

She refuses to elaborate on that. She won't tell me who her clients are, what she does for them or what they pay.

Yet this life coaching malarkey often takes her overnight to such places as London, Manchester and Liverpool. Sometimes she jets off to Majorca and Paris for weekends with clients. It's all very baffling.

When we go out, she wears the latest clothes and always insists on buying Champagne. She drives a sports car and regularly treats me to expensive gifts. Our sex life is fantastic.

When we are snuggling up to each other she tells me I'm the most precious person in her life. She calls me "darling" and says that we'll always be together, but I am fully aware there's a whole other side to her.

There's only one person I know who might be able to shed some light on the matter but he's not telling.

He's one of my oldest mates and the first time I introduced him to her, he looked like he had seen a ghost.

They were awkward together. Later he got drunk and mumbled something about my girl being "a professional".

But I've not been able to get anymore than that from him since. I know he used to be a bit of a player when he worked in finance. He went to a lot of lap dancing clubs and sex parties.

He's getting married soon and he's paranoid about his wife-to-be finding out about his wild past.

Meanwhile, I'm with a girl that I adore but don't understand.

I hate her having secrets. I'd be willing to forgive her anything if she were to just tell me the truth and let me know where I stand.

JANE SAYS: Why don't you sit your girl down and simply ask her to level with you? Explain that you have so many conflicting notions going around in your mind that you are finding it impossible to think straight.

Tell her that you love her but have to know where you stand.

At the moment, you feel that there is something between you, something secret and unspoken.

Of course you adore her and would consider forgiving her almost anything but you can't fully commit if you feel she is holding something significant back.

For the last time ask what is the nature of her business? How does it work and is there anything else that you should know? Why was your mate so horrified when you introduced them? Did he and she once have a thing, or is it something else? It's important that you trust your instincts.

If this relationship doesn't feel 100% right, keep digging away. Ask around and do your own research if you're still not happy with her answers.

I believe you should insist on the absolute truth and a completely fresh start or you'll end up getting badly hurt.