The Fuckery of the “Friendzone”

The friendzone is a terrible place to be when you are not the one who placed someone there. I always thought women were always the ones who called the shots and placed the men who did not make the cut there. I never in a million years thought that men would friendzone a woman with good intentions and I was right. By the time we are placed in the friendzone we do not even realize it until it’s too late. Sounds confusing? Well I will explain

When women place a man in the friendzone it is because basically we have NO interest in him whatsoever. It is very rare that we friendzone a man after we have taken a chance on him and decided that we wanted to have him in our life in one way or another. Now if we friendzone you after we decided to take a shot at getting to know you, then that means something went wrong somewhere along the way. At that point we let you down easy and make it clear that there is no hope for anything more serious. Hell at this point you guys probably won’t even qualify for just a sexual relationship. Men on the other hand handle things an entirely different way.

After men (some) have gotten what they wanted from you or they are comfortable with what you all have, the friendzone has been your home for a while and you did not even know it. In fact he did not even know it either until you decided to ask where you guys stand or you express that you want more. At that point he says “oh we are cool” or “you’re the coolest girl I know and I don’t want to mess that or up “we are just friends”. These responses basically mean “bitch I don’t want you” or “I never wanted anything serious from you”. Now I have no problem with either of those reactions but what I would like to know is at what point has he ever expressed that you were just a friend? Nine times out of ten a friendship was never established. Now that is my issue, and now you are left with nothing.

Through the many trials and errors of dating I realized that majority of the time the red flags and signs are already there when it comes to dating or men you just have to be mature enough to accept it. And please always remember that you can never change the way he feels if he does not want to.