My almost 13yr old dad is going to her first disco in a few weeks. Disco is for 1st and 2nd years. Were in discussions about her outfit at the moment. Trying to convince her a tube skirt barely covering arse and a crop top are not a good look!!! Instead of saying no direct to her idea of a great idea I'm trying to show her other options. However I'm getting stuck on good shops to bring her to. Any suggestions, we've already done new look she must have tried everything on!! Also do girls at this age wear foundation

Low on top and long on the legs, or high on top and short on the legs! A pair of skinny jeans and a nice top with a pair of converse type trainers will do her the finest! A little foundation and try the Nivea lip balm that has a bit of pink colour in it.

Thanks everyone for all the advice, its such an awful age her best friends from primary school are drifting away and shes finding it hard to know who she can call her close friends. I work full time and a lot of the moms of girls in 1st year in the school don't work full time or are stay at home moms. I think because all the moms know each other from their chats at the gates or when dropping kids off im a bit out of touch with the ins and outs of teenager girls. Im hoping she drifts towards other groups of girls who seem more down to earth

Shorts are a great idea as at least you cant see their knickers! And they all do bit of tan but that in stuff mixed into body lotion does work..She could experiment beforehand. You are in for an eye opener when you wait outside to collect her.Boys have it easy and they look so young beside the girls and all their glamour. I agree not too much rules. They grow out of this stage

Kris im way ahead of her when it comes to getting ready at a friends house!! Her best friend is coming to our house and Im dropping and collecting them from disco!! I think I'd hate to be a teenager again!

Instead of fake tan how about one of those moisturisers with a bit of tan in- like Holiday Skin. It would give her a bit of colour without being too dark on her legs. I think if you are too strict the girls end up changing at a friends house before they go into the disco so watch out for that too!

Thanks for the feedback. she already knows if I have to approve of her outfit or else its a case that she will be staying at home. Fenway I actually already explained that rule to her and she understood what I was saying but shes nervous she wont 'fit in'. Its such an awkward age! Shes a very anxious child as she spent the last 2 years pretty sick but thank god she has managed to not miss a day in school this year! Im thinking I might show her tinted moisturizer I don't want her wearing a heavy foundation. I think I might have made a bit of headway this morning showed her a pair of shorts online that she liked and thank god they weren't booty shorts!! Just when I was mentally patting myself on the back for succeeding some bit she asked me could she have fake tan on her legs Tonight mission is to explain to her that a dark tan on legs looks all wrong with white arms and face

My dd is 15 now and in 3rd year. In 1st year when she was 13 I didn't allow foundation. I just thought it was to heavy for her young skin. She could wear subtle eyeshadow, mascara, blusher/highlighter and lipgloss. She was not allowed to wear crop top, no belly showing. She wasn't into the tube skirts at the time so wore skinny jeans, top and hoodie which was perfect. Then last year she wore the same clothes but was allowed to wear foundation but only to discos etc not all the time and I picked it with her, I wanted her to get the right colour for her skintone. This year it is skirts and crop tops but if I think the skirt is too short, she doesn't wear it, full stop. As for makeup, its full on contouring etc but she does it well, no tide lines etc. I wouldn't let her out of the house if she looked ridiculous.

Yes I'm afraid so....foundation and tube skirts and crop tops are all the go. My ds 13 has been to 2 discos and the majority of the girls I've seen look like that...either the skirts, dresses or skinny jeans and crop tops