I have a cynical view of relationships, let me tell you that clearly. I simply don't believe people are good, in general. I think most people are selfish and unfit for relationships. So because I feel that way, I don't have traditional relationships. I simply keep a girl around to fuck, and I'll chat with her too and be amiable, but I'm not looking for or expecting love. All I want is someone to fuck and talk to here and there.

Yeah, I might do romantic things here or there. Because it can be fun. I'm not heartless. But I neither look for or expect love, and I would be skeptical of a woman who claimed she felt that way -- and even if I believed she did love me, I'm not sure a relationship would be best.

If you want to call it fuck buddies, go ahead. I don't have a label for it, and I'm not worried about finding one either.

Ok ur explanation is quite interesting to me bc i think my so called boyfriend is doing the same but he says im his girlfriend.. Wen he introduces me to people but... He does not like labelling.. Why dont u like labelling... Ur quite unique

I think labels are violent. They can degrade, establish control, segregate, etc. (I'm not talking just about relationships--labels in general, I mean).

If we're enjoying each other's company, does the nature of our relationship change if it's called an X rather than a Y? Yes and no. With no label, it simply continues to be as it is (ie, the nature of the relationship is the nature of the relationship). Labels start placing *expectations* on the other person (and expectations aren't interested in what IS, but instead, what the other persons wishes MIGHT BE). That strikes me as rather odd and foolish.

If you're happy with a relationship, why start placing expectations on the other person? It's one thing to talk to each other and decide what you mutually want, but if you call each other "girlfriend/boyfriend" without defining those things together for yourself, then it's society's version that subconsciously takes over--and it may not be what is good for the two of you.

Ok understandable... Would u like this woman ur in a relationship with... Would u intro her as ur girlfriend to public or friends.. Take her double dating... Would it possible for u to call her more than friends and if so.. What brings those limitations?

If I thought she was a decent girl, yeah, I'd do those things. If she's a part of my life and I see her being around for a bit, no reason not to. That doesn't mean I'm going to marry her--it also doesn't mean that I won't marry her. She's just someone who's a part of my life, so why not involve her?

Would I call her more than friends? No... remember, I don't do the label thing.

What would make me not keep her around? Is that what you mean by limitations? Character, pretty simply. If she's a girl that I only view sexually and nothing more, then I'm not introducing her to people--they don't need to meet everyone I fuck. If she's someone I would keep around, sex or no sex, then I'll introduce her to people, and that is entirely dependent upon who she is as a person.

Wow i like ur view n i hope u dont mind me asking u these things.. Ok... So once u r involved with this girl u mentioned u may or not marry her... How long would it take for u to decide.. Say its been nine months.. U have great sex.. Conversations.. Bondinv etc... For u to fall hard for this girl... N what would make u intrigued about her sexually n her as a person? ...