Are You Fighting to Realize the Dreams of Other People?

Take a moment to paint a picture of your ideal future. A future that you would do anything to turn to reality. You have accomplished everything that you have ever wanted and everything is just as you dreamt it would be.

Now take a closer look at the path on which you walk today. Where will this path end and where will it take you before the end of the journey? How much will you have to sacrifice of who you really are and who you want to be so that you can finish what you have started?

It is venerable to fight so that you can accomplish greatness. But ask yourself this question: Is the dream you’re fighting for your own?

We live in a society that is dependent on comparisons even to determine the simplest of ideas and give resolutions to the easiest problems and dilemmas. In this mediocre society of comparisons, people find it difficult to decide on who they want to be and what they want to do with their lives.

You see, we tend to believe that we should live at the pleasure of others, specially those who are close to us, and that is why we set our goals in a way that falls into perfect harmony with the vision that they have for us. Often, that vision directly contradicts our identity and our inner desires to follow our own dreams and passions.

Even if we are not bound by such ludicrous outlooks, we find it difficult to separate our dreams with those of our superiors. When you take a look at successful and accomplished people, you might mistake their dreams for your own.

Because what you see is not the passion behind their endeavors, but the achievements that they shine with today.

Following this erroneous assessment, you fantasize in your mind about dreams that may not even be your own.

The immediate and prominent result of achievement is not a best case of judgement when you want to decide on a path and set goals to achieve in your lifetime.

It is important to take life lessons and motivation from successful people and their stories. Their words of wisdom have helped many a man in their darkest days, but that does not mean that you should imitate everything they have done to arrive at the place they are now.

Their current place, as splendid and glorifying as it looks to you now, is not something that you are really after.
You are not in this world to achieve or do what everybody has done before you.

You are here to do something new and original. To have a fresh look and take upon society and life, and to bring into light something that has been in the shadows before your time.

I have been working very hard on this blog since the beginning. I have a very busy life but I am giving my best and believe me I have shared experiences that I have been coaching thousands of people and I know that the change of the Mindset should be daily. I am already grateful to see you giving upvotes to each other and you can see this with the fact that many already have 8, 9, 10 upvotes. But I'm sure that with the effort of all of us we will see a community with, 40, 50, 80 upvotes and for that everyone should get engaged so we can make it come true. I believe and we can! Resteem...

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I am here making a list of all of you who have helped build this community by voting for each other who write meaningful comments and soon I will respond to everyone with comment and thank you all because I can already see this spirit being built in this Positive Mindset community and help between all of you.

You will receive my upvote in all material and brief comments I will do this in all the posts I am following very closely and I can see what the people who are generous and contribute to this legacy that I am trying to build with all of you can become reality in a short time.

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First of all, I would like to thank all of you, who are the most active and proactive in this community, showing your generosity and always with meaningful comments. From now on I will always make a list of these incredible people who have helped to expand our goal of growing ever more.

But I ask that if you are new around here you read many of the previous posts because they make it clear that we are building a community with respect among all, generosity and this blog is for those who really want to start moving their Mindset to positive and moreover be part of the growth of all of us who contribute to this blog. Please do not ask to include you in the list if you are just wanting upvotes because we want here people genuinely attuned to growth and good attitudes and as I have always said with Respect as the basis of all, generosity and positivity!

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It's oh so true what you say about: "You see, we tend to believe that we should live at the pleasure of others, specially those who are close to us, and that is why we set our goals in a way that falls into perfect harmony with the vision that they have for us. "There were things I wanted to do in the past, but I worried what my mother would thinkI don't regret not doing them because I would never have wanted to upset or offend herMaybe I've been held back from really pursuing my dream of being a millionaire because of my upbringingMy parents always made sure we were well fed and cared for, but even today my dad says of pop and sports stars, and the business man who pocketed a £100 million bonus, "Nobody's worth that amount."Maybe, maybe notBut every day I write and work out how to market my books because I believe I can be the next Hugh Howey, Andy Weir, George Martin, or J.K. RowlingThat's the way my father's generation were brought upThe struggles of the post war years meant a frugal existence for tens of millionsWe spoke on Wednesday evening about John Humphreys still doing question timeIs he greedy for wanting to earn another million or twoIs he stopping a younger man getting the job?I'll probably still be working in my eightiesEven with 10, or even £100 million in the bankWith that cash it's more likely I will beAs long has I've got stories to tellSomething to sayI feel I can enrich people's livesI'll carry onYou've made some great points as usualIf people feel torn between loyalty, family, and self-enrichment, I hope they find strength in your words and this community to pursue their own goals and desires

Dear @chbartist sir!
All are alive for themselves, but those who live for others, they are human beings in true sense. In fact, we not only fight to realize our dreams, but the dreams of others are associated with our dreams. Because we are connected to a community and due to being connected to the community or family, the dreams of family or community are also associated with us. We are happy by fulfilling our dream but the family associated with us is in misery, then what is our pleasure to do? That is why we fight to fulfill the dreams of other people with our dreams. If there is no one to share happiness in our victory, then what pleasure has worked? In fact if people of our family or community are not happy about it then our fulfilled dreams do not matter.

Human beings are imitative by born. when we become matured and started to thinking about our-self, started to thinking about our future about our dreams, we just stopped in a certain stage of thinking because of our lacking of knowledge, cause human can think up to a specific limit, as long as they have knowledge. And in our society there have huge lack of opportunity and obstacle, so it is so common we have run after others successful person's dreams.
Praying for every person that we can run after our dreams.
Thank you all.

It is good to have an example to follow or a model of reference, but that does not mean that you must act and live exactly what the person lives ... each one has their formation and personality, and many are forced to live or act as their model to follow, and they live sometimes frustrated lives. Ideally, take advice or examples that can help you achieve and live your dreams.

Many times, we find super successful people, economically and emotionally stable, who are excellent professionals and who struggle daily to achieve and achieve their goals, but unfortunately struggle to enrich their employers and struggle to please their environment and not to please themselves. as people

So that the dreams or goals that we have in life, can become a reality, we must first establish achievable goals, study to be able to reach them and work for them, that with effort, dedication, perseverance, faith and a bit of luck can be achieved .

You have to pursue those dreams until you reach them, try to please our family and our work environment to a certain extent, but without deviating from what we really want as a person.

It's a very meaningful and right thought you just shared here. But if the "what" has to be asked as the important question you highlight, the "how" is not so obvious, and that maybe a big reason that makes people follow footsteps of others. Because, then, you can know "how" to reach a goal, and follow these steps. Having own dreams can be scary, precisely because without having any clue to how to reach them.

Well said sir if we want to do something extraordinary then we have to go after own dreams. This is the only way where we can achieve everything. If we start to follow others footsteps then it will leads us to a place where we have achive something but we don't have inner satisfaction and peace. It is correct we have to learn from people who have already achieved something.we have to learn from their experience. But it doesn't mean we completely follow there footsteps. We have to learn from there failure so we can use some precortion for same problem.
Take a lesson from people failure.

You are correct in asking people to paint a picture of their ideal future. It starts first by having a vision. Scripture says to write the vision down to make it plain. Here is the key to writing it down, once you can articulate it, you now have a roadmap. Also once you have a plan, you will be surprised at who will "come alongside you" to help and assist you. No one can help you "do nothing". As for models, there is nothing wrong with having an example to follow. Just make sure that you don't lose your way in the process. The biggest obstacle is not having a clear picture / vision and overcoming fear. That fear can be internal (meaning it is the voice inside our head). Or it can be external - people holding us back becasuse they are fearful that we will fail. Or worse that we will succeed and leave them behind. Good post

I fell completely identified with everything you say in this post. Many times I fell I've spent so much time leading my life towards the things other people want for me that I don't know what is what I really want in life. Right now I'm trying to clear up my mind and get rid of all the opinions of those who have set goals for me, because I want to make my own way.

Our dreams can be inspired by other but never should be for imposition, but by our conviction. One of the dreams of others who we continue unconsciously is to our parents. Follow dreams of other we can produce frustration sooner or later. We must be aurentics and honest with ourselves when pursue a dream.

To ask this question and answer it from the heart, sincerely, is a paradigm shift. We tend to please our parents, society, our partner, children, the boss and at the end of the road our dreams are like that as simple dreams.
Thanks @chbartist for making me remember what my dreams are.

Pursue your fantasies is a rousing pillar: presumably the most regularly communicated persuasive idea at any point made. It urges us not to remain content in our sheltered presence, but rather to make a jump, to pursue the energy that would drive us on the off chance that we gave it the shot.@chbartist@coolguy222

I only chase my dreams and don't even think to know about others. I feel even if I know about others dream still its of no use for me because I may not be in good position to carry on that. Everyone have dream and ita completely connected to their area of interest. Thanks @chbartist

That's really interesting topic to bring into limelight. also fulfilling other's dream and goals i.e your parents in most cases happens because people do not realize the individuality of a person , which should be important and instead of having regrets in your old age, pull up your socks and get going with your own goals and dreams.
keep up with such inspirational content as always!

ExtraORDINARY ARTICLE. No, I have not fought by looking at the dream of other, but I had competition from him, which I have won. if you have to achieve goals in life then we believe that you keep the competition with him.

At times I think that we form motivation and our own sense of self-efficacy off of others successes or failures. That is why what you explain is so important. We have to know ourselves and what truly drives us before we can go down our own path. Our dreams have to be our own or we will never find true happiness. Accomplishing this can be a hard task.

This is why I enjoy the potential of what is being built here on Steem as we are the sovereign owners of our wallets and we can pursue our dreams here while enjoying the journey of engaging with the community.

If you grew up in a nigerian home like i did, you'd realize that your life is not your own and neither are your dreams. We've been conditioned from childhood to follow a path that honors our parents or the path that the society approves of. And this is sad because most times we fall short of such expectation because deep down that is not really who we are.

Certainly, we all are here to do something new and different.
Therefore God has made us different from each other. We all have a different face, voice, fingerprint.
Great post @chbartist
Feel different by reading a post

though i live for my family, i only focus on what i believe i can do on my own. it is stressful to always try to please others.. i think, we should we please our own self first. then that's the time that other people can accept us.

the critical point seems to be to find out what is our goals, our dreams, our soul, because from being a child we´ve been teached to follow the footsteps of others for whatever reason.
So it needs to develop a strong personality which is open minded for a successful way to fight and fulfill our and not others dreams.
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People in the world are all trying to fight hard for a successful life. Making more money, living a big house , having a luxury car, but do they really mean success? Perhaps, from the material perspective, they won , they don’t have to worry about their living. However, the truth is ,some people are not happy. They mentally suffer a lot. Always want more, always greedy. I had suffered much and lost much in the last year. And this makes me stating to think, wt is the most important thing in my life, having great health and having lovely friends and great relatives beside me is the most successful thing. I AM NOT struggling to follow the footsteps of those that have come before ME . I AM TRYTING TO LIVE A LIFE THAT SATISFY MYSLEF.

i 'm currently chasing one of my dreams. I am going after my dream car , a Dodge Challenger. Dealership said I need to come up with $4650 before I can get a loan. I did research and found out I really do need $4045. I quit my part time as a book keeper to get 2 other jobs. I left my girlfriend because I can't save money while being with her. I put school on hold. And every damn week something comes up requiring me to pay over $300 dollars so it chips away at my $4045 I'm saving up for. And I know many people are gonna say don't get it it's a depreciating asset , blah blah blah. Idc I always wanted this car, that's the car I want to drive. I burned all bridges behind me I really can't go back And I don't want to go back. I'm doing eveything I can for this car. I'm fighting every damn day. Almost every day I get up at 4am go to work. Then I get ready for my 2nd job. I given up sleep, I barley sleep 5 hours a night. No one wanted to help me out I only know about B 3 people that barley support it. But idc. It's tough but not impossible , and Ima keep on fighting . Ima fight every damn day. I planned it out and by August 4th I will be driving off the lot in my new challenger. So what I'm saying is if you really want something go out there and fight. Forget what people say , work hard for it believe in your self because if you don't no one else will. Good luck on your dreams !