tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post9052651840697951931..comments2016-11-08T08:24:28.039-08:00Comments on This Gay Relationship: Only SometimesRick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-76641682011309505662013-10-13T08:06:10.734-07:002013-10-13T08:06:10.734-07:00Loretta, I&#39;m deeply touched by your comment. Y...Loretta, I&#39;m deeply touched by your comment. You didn&#39;t have to offer it, particularly revealing so much about yourself, which I realize must have been difficult for you (both to live and to write). You have no idea how much I appreciate your kind words.<br /><br />It&#39;s not often I feel the way I did on this particular day. Hence, the title of the post. Plus, as I wrote, I was vulnerable, weakened, the day it happened. All of us experience occasions like that. For some reason, we find ourselves more susceptible to the thoughtlessness of others.<br /><br />I knew, when I wrote &quot;I&#39;m sorry&quot; for being me, that I didn&#39;t really feel that way, and I might hear from sensitive readers who&#39;d feel I had no reason to apologize. I&#39;m not sure I meant to apologize at all; perhaps I should have used the words &quot;So what&quot; instead. But, like I said, I wasn&#39;t myself.<br /><br />I&#39;d like to think how far I&#39;ve come over the decades, in terms of how I feel about myself, is reflected in everything I&#39;ve written here. I know you understand how difficult it is to come to terms with who you are, even to love that person.<br /><br />But, sometimes, all of us have lapses. And that&#39;s why, after careful consideration, and knowing this post wouldn&#39;t reflect how I feel about myself most of the time, I thought it was important to publish it, so readers knew lapses happen. They are very human thing.<br /><br />That said, I&#39;ve taken what you wrote to heart, and it will stay with me. I know the next time I find myself in the position I was on that day, I&#39;ll recall your compassionate, heartfelt words, and they will help to guide me and put what&#39;s happening into perspective.<br /><br />Once again, Loretta, thank you. You are an amazing and generous human being and friend, and I truly appreciate your kindness. Rick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-82544486450326987772013-10-12T20:55:05.792-07:002013-10-12T20:55:05.792-07:00Dear Rick
I want to say a few things to you. Firs...Dear Rick<br />I want to say a few things to you. First of all, as you know, I&#39;m straight. I believe that we&#39;re all on this planet for a purpose and that if we&#39;re living an honest, caring, unselfish, respectable life then we have nothing to be sorry for. And we certainly do not need to be sorry for the thoughtlessness of others.<br /><br />I will be 55 years old next year. I remember, in my younger years, having very few friends because I was fat. I lost weight in my early 20&#39;s through diet and LOTS of excercise (4 hours a day) and people I knew who wanted nothing to do with me when I was fat now wanted to be my friend. I refused their friendship. I didn&#39;t need it. Today, I&#39;m considered fat. Does that make me any less a person than one who is thin? than one who is tall? than one who is gay? Deffinitely not!<br /><br />You, my friend, have no need to appologize for who you are and you certainly do not need to appologize for the ignorance of others.<br /><br />You will always look like you. It&#39;s just a fact of life. And if the gay person you are offends anyones sensibilities then so be it. Don&#39;t appologize for being who you are. Be the best you can be and to hell with everyone else. Their opinions don&#39;t matter a hill of beans in the whole scheme of things.<br /><br />I understand how you felt that day, but I also know that if we allow what we perceive to be the judgment of others to cloud our own lives we will always and forever be at the mercy of those who are of little or no consequence to us and that is no way to live.<br /><br />Lift you head high Rick. You have much to be proud of and grateful for. Those who matter, who truly love the person you are will always be there for you and will truly appreciate the unique and special individual you are.<br /><br />Hugs &amp; much love<br />LorettaLorettanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-81653449333380967992013-10-11T23:19:47.684-07:002013-10-11T23:19:47.684-07:00You are very sweet, Wendy. I could have used a hu...You are very sweet, Wendy. I could have used a hug.<br />Thank you for your kindness. I appreciate it.Rick Modienhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6834596026525717264.post-79622265376093742702013-10-11T15:11:05.022-07:002013-10-11T15:11:05.022-07:00I wish I&#39;d been there to give you a hug, my fr...I wish I&#39;d been there to give you a hug, my friend.Wendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03361076209603565742noreply@blogger.com