Wednesday, January 25, 2012

All Women are Not the Same.

Before anything, if you think all women are basically the same, this alone can hurt your chances in trying to meet that right woman for you. I once attended a workshop for men on dating women (Yes, there are workshops like that.), and there was this one man who stood out from all the rest. He was an average-looking, nice, sociable guy, but he was very opinionated with his views on attractive women. He exclaimed that attractive women are basically all the same. He thought, no...he knew that an attractive woman would not date not date a guy who wasn't as good looking as she, and if he was short. He also thought that the beautiful women only wanted the guy who had a lucrative career. He was dwelling on this so much that it even got to the point where he was beginning to think all women were like this. Little did he realize that his thinking was actually hurting his chances in ever trying to find that right one for him, whether or not he had the money or the looks, because all women would see this negative attitude in him. He wouldn't be treating women as nice as he should be.

The head of the workshop and a few others tried telling him that, but they got nowhere fast. It was pretty obvious that this guy was meeting the wrong type of women, time after time after time. If all you do is keep meeting and dating women who are either bitches and / or materialistic (just because they are so attractive), well then it's hard not to think they are ALL like that.

Look at it like this, if you are of medium height, 5'8" and you have slightly below-average looks and you wanted to date an attractive woman, you can expect to ask at least 10 women for a date before meeting the one who will go out with you. If she is beautiful, expect that number to be at least 20. If you were in a room full of 100 beautiful women, expect only around 5 to give you a chance. With numbers like that, it is hard to say: Not all women are the same. It just seems that way. You have to realize that the more attractive, or beautiful women you approach, the better your chances in meeting that one who will go out with you. Many men would prefer to be with the cute and pretty ones instead.

If you have a negative view on something, it will show on you. She will see it. If all you do is think that all a woman looks for in a man is his wallet, and judges him by his looks and his height, then that attitude will come out once again when you are with yet another woman, trying to find a stable relationship. How can any man get close to a woman and try to develop something with her when he thinks like that? If she starts doing the littlest of things that he doesn't like, it will irritate him more than the man who doesn't have a set conception on what all women are like.

In his book, SEX-PLOYTATI0N, Matthew Fitzgerald categorizes all women as manipulative, materialistic whores who expect men to pay their way. The thesis of his book is that women are nothing but prostitutes preying on the hard work and sexual vulnerability of men. I hope this guy is writing like this to just sell books, because it doesn't even come close to the real truth about ALL women. Yes, there are a lot of women who manipulate men, mostly through sex, and yes there are some, okay, a good many who look at a guy by what he drives and his profession, especially the beautiful ones, BUT NOT ALL OF THEM! If you think like this and at the same time you want to get married, you are already in trouble. Yes, it is hard to keep from thinking that all women are nothing but whores looking for a sugar daddy if you keep running into them, time after time after time. Unfortunately it appears that Mr. Fitzgerald has a lousy track record with women. And that's another thing. If all you do is choose women because of their looks and not what their personality and character is like, well then you are going to get a bitch. You are the problem, not the women. Now, it's obvious that if you drive a sports car down the highway, women are going to look your way. But don't we all? If we see something we like, we are going to look. So what? That doesn't mean we are a materialistic and shallow society. And that doesn't mean she is either. We just like looking at nice things. Men who think otherwise have been hanging out with the wrong women. Probably just like Fitzgerald. Then they think all women are like this. California is a perfect example. It's the capital of materialism. If you grew up there, can you help to not think ALL women, everywhere, are manipulative, shallow and materialistic?

In her book, WHAT THE HELL DO WOMEN REALLY WANT? (From first printing), Dr. Jama Clark also states that women judge men by his profession and what he drives. She gives the impression that all women are like this. It's obvious to me, and should be obvious to you also that she is one of those women you should avoid like the black plague. Her thoughts on this stick out like a sore thumb. It's books like these that brain washes a good many men. Here are some of her warped advice from her book (from the first printing.):

Women are attracted to his status.

Women are attracted to a man's height and physical strength.

Women are turned off by men who don't make as much as them.

If you are more than ten years older than she is, she will not find you attractive if you look older than she does.

You should buy height-enhancing shoes if you are short. THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU SHOULD DO BECAUSE THOSE SHOES HAVE TO COME OFF EVENTUALLY!

If you are short, go to places where Latin and Asian women hang out. Yes, she actually stated that! I guess Clark thinks there aren't that many short American women out there, or that ALL women don't like short men. It's obvious she doesn't, so she naturally assumes ALL women are like this also.

This is Clark's typical thinking throughout her book. She states things like these because her thinking is probably materialistic, shallow AND WARPED! Have you ever noticed an attitude like that on a beautiful woman? Clark isn't beautiful, but she has the same mentality, so men shouldn't listen to her ridiculous advice and viewpoints. It shows through her thinking and her attitude.

If you read her book and you think I'm wrong, just go to the mall and sit and watch all the couples walking by. You will see all sorts of couples who you would think wouldn't be together if you had seen them apart.

THAT RIGHT THERE IS ALL THE PROOF YOU NEED.

Now, even though not all women are the same, there are still plenty of liars and cheaters out there. You know how some men will cheat on women, and jerk them around, emotionally, and lie to them. Well women can be just as bad. They too can lie, manipulate and not call you back. We don't think that a woman would do such a thing, because she is a woman. And if she acts sweet and thoughtful around you, like a lady does, well you can be easily fooled. Then your emotional innards will be crushed after she shows her true self. You will then have that empty feeling inside of you. I know this feeling all too well, because I once went out with a very attractive woman, who I thought I was definitely out of her league. She seemed to enjoy my company though, and she even wanted to go out with me again. She was also a very sexual woman who loved sex. Well, from what she told me, anyway. I thought I was lucky to be with such a creature. I called her the next day to set up another date but got her answering machine instead. I left her a message, but she didn't return it. I left her a second message, and again, she didn't return it. It was obvious by then that I was being teased during that date. In addition to that, I highly suspected that the only reason she went out with me to begin with is because she had nothing else to do. This left me empty inside, because I had high hopes, and the fact that she seemed to like being with me and wanted to go out again. But, that empty feeling didn't last long, because I realized that there are other women who are just as good looking and enjoys sex just as much as her.

Another woman, who I also presumed to be very nice, also lied to me. We met through love@aol, and we corresponded via E-mail for about a week. One time she stated that she prayed for me while at church. Yes, she was a churchgoer, but not a religious fanatic. Well, with that, you would think she would be truthful. Throughout our corresponding she told me how she kept meeting men who lied to her and / or would just up and stop calling her. She stated that she really liked me and that I made her laugh, but she couldn't completely fall for me because she thought that I may stop corresponding to her. Well, in the end, it was her who stopped communicating with me. I called her on her cell phone, left her a message, asking her to at least E-mail me, letting me know what was going on. She never did. The whole thing was very ironic, because she told me that she would never do such a thing, yet a couple of days later she did it. I never found out why she did this to me. So much for this nice, churchgoing woman who thought that I would maybe do a 360 degree on her, and, who would "never do such a thing." So, yes, many women can come off as this very nice lady, the kind you would want to take home to your mom, but in reality she isn't. She can be just like the man who lies to women all the time, she just up and leaves without saying why, and, will cheat on you. Even that presumably sweet woman may be seeing another guy. In the first few months or so of dating her, take what she tells you with a grain of salt. Now I'm not saying all women are like this. Just keep in mind that many of them are just as bad as men.

And how can you protect yourself emotionally from these kinds of women? By telling yourself over and over again that not all women are like this, and that there will be a better woman just down the street from this lying bitch. There are women all over the place. You can easily find that very cute woman, with a great body and who loves sex, because they are all around you. Forget the ones who lied to you and / or treated you like shit. Keep telling yourself this over and over again, while at the same time asking other women out. Replace that empty feeling she gave you by going out with another woman. Don't let her get you thinking with your dick. Bitches like that love doing that to men. Don't ever call a woman more than twice. If she doesn't return your second call, find another woman. Act like a man, not a whipped schoolboy.