When I was 22, I read an article in Ms Magazine. The article said some people cannot drink. They are allergic to alcohol. About one person of 10, the author wrote, cannot stop for any significant period once he or she starts.

I found the news exciting. I was downright thrilled. The mishaps I experienced: Falling down. Throwing up. Avoiding non-drinkers. Losing friends. Constant anxiety and fear. Blurred vision. These were effects experienced by millions of others.

Then I read a monograph by Dr. James R. Milam, later published as a co-authored book, Under the Influence, with Katherine Ketcham. Dr. Milam restates his “biogenic paradigm” in another paper, The Alcoholism Revolution: “alcoholism is a primary addictive response to alcohol in a biologically susceptible drinker, regardless of character and personality.”

Although relieved to know I wasn’t evil, I didn’t want to give up being a tough girl, cursing and smoking. I was caught by a tidal wave, flung here, flung there until I came to rest in a little shack on the Swinomish Reservation between Snee Oosh and Pull and be Damned Roads.

Without alcohol, I was a baby born without skin. I had to develop a new one. Alcohol was a camouflage I tried on, and when it was snatched from me, as I saw it then, I had to find a new way to soften my scary places. I was in open-mouthed terror at everything, a small child in flimsy clothing.

The Rez provided a safe place to hide, and eventually I felt brave enough to head off to graduate school. Degree in hand, I decided I could drink again. Intellectually, I knew I couldn’t, but I was tired of saying no thanks at parties. Maybe I was missing out on something really fun.

A few months later, driving to the house of my best friend from high school, I saw a man on a motorcycle hit by a car. His body was flung into the air, and then landed on the concrete median. This seemed symbolic of what was already happening to me. I knew I would eventually crash.

My friend called around and found a bed for me in a rehab. Ironically, it was one originally founded by Dr. James Milam. After thirty days, I was transferred to another, a women-only rehab called Rez XII.

Often, I still stumble, although some see me as strong. Recently, I attended a therapy group for family members of alcoholics. For three weeks, I was asked to be peer facilitator when the brilliant Cornell-trained therapist went on vacation.

As if I know anything about anything.

Other than this: I don’t drink. I don’t have the faintest idea of what people mean when they talk about a higher power. As meditation, and to clear my mind, I walk for miles every day.