First pregnancy, having twins (God help me)

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Tvriii wrote:

Hey ladies!

So by the title I’m sure you know why I’m here: because I’m about to have a nervous breakdown. I just had my first ultrasound this afternoon and I found out I’m having twins. This is my very first viable pregnancy and honestly, I have no idea what I’m going to do. I’m relatively young (24) and have only been out of college for a year. I’m terrified to tell my parents I’m pregnant, let alone that I’m having twins. My boyfriend was shocked at first, but ultimately is excited about the news. (But we all know men are fickle, so this could quite easily change in the next few days.) I’m keeping the pregnancy private for now so I don’t really have many people to talk to about it. If you guys have any twin-specific advice, or don’t jump off that bridge advice, I’m open to it all! Please help me. Lmao

Take a few days and let it process. You’re hormones are in over drive and you’ll overanalyze everything. I don’t have twins, so no advise there. But, since you haven’t had any singles you don’t know the difference, which will save your sanity! 😀 It’ll be the biggest blessing! Wishing you a happy, healthy pregnancy!

The shock lasts a few days, it is still a bit scarey and overwhelming to think about but scarey is good, its being realistic and being a good parent. If you think about it if you werent a bit overwhelmed then you’re not prepared for what’s about to happen!!

I have a friend who has twins 6 months ago and have been asking her sooooo many questions and it’s been good. She recommended joining the local multiple birth association and to do research on what we would really need as we DONT need two of everything (aside from cots, car seats and later highchairs). She also had a lot of people give her things because she was having twins and was overloaded for example her parents bought her a twin pram then her church bought her a twin pram too so she’s got two lol!

So don’t go too crazy buying new stuff. Because you may get it handled to you free from people done having kids or buy low cost second hand. A lot of people finished having kids have really good quality stuff that just needs a clean and disinfect.

Also having family and friends help out is invaluable. For example having someone clean your house in your last trimester- if you cant afford to pay someone then ask your friends to help out most people want to help but dont want to intrude. I cleaned a friends house top to bottom a couple of times when she was pregnant last year.

Also getting help after thr birth is invaluable! BUT she prefers that SHE care for the babies and the help do everything else so she can focus on the babies care herself so that she doesn’t get overwhelmed on her own with the babies if that makes sense.

I’m a twin! My parents found out they were having twins when they had only been married a few months and my mom was only 18. According to my mom, having twins was easier than having a singleton (my little brother) because we always kept each other occupied and did everything at the same time. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. BTW- having a twin is awesome so be excited for your little babies!

No advice on the twin thing, but try and trust your man if he seems genuine. I was 19 when when my daughter was born, 25 when my son was born and now at 27 I’m pregnant with my third. :) Young is good, cause trust me, kids will wear you OUT. Young with energy, I wouldn’t be able to keep up with my two if I wasn’t.

Just relax. Take a breath I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant with Twins they are now 11. And I’m current pregnant again with twins. My grandmother had 3 sets And My Father is A Twin. It runs in my family and Skipped A Generation To Me. It can sometimes be overwhelming but it will get easy. It’s a challenge but you will have great support system I promise.

I’m 20 and recently found out my second pregnancy is twins again! Honestly just don’t panic (I know it’s easier said than done). I couldn’t hold in the news and I’ve told the majority of my family already and I’m only 8weeks tomorrow. It’s down to you wether you let negativity build up. I knew my family wouldn’t be happy but I told them this is what I want and they’re accepting it or not being in my life and trust me all of them want to stay in my life with this. You’ll be okay :)