When a woman stands in her femininity without the need to be a man or compete with men she can experience a backlash of the Patriarchal fear if her male partner does not know how to love a soft and feminine woman. A fear enhanced due to the changing role of women right now, women are so independent and capable that the traditional role of the passive woman is obsolete. This isn't a good or bad thing but, this capability has left women overworked and unable to function and men not knowing how to be.

This isn't a good or bad thing but, this capability has left women overworked and unable to function and me not knowing how to be. Our duties along with our gender roles are not so defined so all sorts of judgements and self-defenses happen between both parties, hell breaks loose thus you have four people in a relationship - two plus the projections.

The projections only serve to be the guardians of the programmes and behaviours constructed within the family/caregiver situation. Programmes are the light that shines on the part of the soul that needs work. Without projections or programmes in a relationship we can never go through the next stage, whatever that may be, we need to love and be loved through our projections, and problems for they help shape us.

Eventually. though we need to take our projections back and heal them.

Moving forward.

Coming together with other women sharing in a non-judgemental space where we can be accountable, self- awareness and progressive in terms of love will help us as women find more fulfilling relationships. True healing and changes of behaviour can only happen where there is unconditional positive regard, compassion, empathy and transparency. Accountability circles that exhibit the above is a space and community for healing for awareness and not judgement. Circles are not relationship substitutes but a place where we can do better and be better so we can bring our best self to our personal and intimate connections.

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MJ Fontaine - East London Creative Life Coach

My passion is for holistic health and art. I have been working for over 15 years with women assisting them in creating a more authentic life and I can assist you to bring more Creativity, Passion and Purpose into your life.

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