IF

Think about your life, right now, at this very moment. If you had to do it all over again, would you? If you could take back the first path you walked on would you change direction? When you first met that “special” guy, would you have said, “next.” If you could have gone back to school, held off on that first baby, finished saving for your first car, first home, or that vacation you always dreamed of, what would you have traded for any of those choices?

If you had to start over again, do you think you would be armed with this knowledge and wisdom of who you are? Do you think your strengths and awareness of what not to do, whom to trust, what pitfalls to avoid would be understood from the start?
Is that beautiful baby, child, teenager in your arms a mistake or a godsend? If you could change anything about your life what might that be?

Here is my take on the “if’s” in life. We are all where we are supposed to be. For one reason or another each step we take is in the right direction, and it isn’t about falling down, or failing, but pushing through the hard times and finding ourselves stronger and more resilient than ever before.

One step back, means cautious reflection, perhaps self doubt, or fearful of what is ahead, but each step forward brings us closer to our true purpose and our own individual calling. We all have these incredible gifts to share with the world, what is yours? Listen to what calls you, interests you, brings you joy, and fills a void. I don’t think any part of our lives is a mistake. Our children open doors into our hearts that might have stayed closed for a very long time. Every choice we make teaches us to learn and should inspire of us to be a student of life. When you sensed that you made bad choices, or doubted yourself, that’s where we find our inner truths, through our doubt and fears.

If you had to do it all over again, I pray you will always want the very best for yourself and your children, and the only mistake is “IF” you haven’t tried.