I am such a B*TCH!!!

Omg I'm such a b*tch. I'm 32 weeks prego and have 3 kids under 4... I have 3 dogs (1 is 7 weeks old) 2 cats .. My hubby works out of town ... Now I do love my kids, dogs, cats.... And I actually do enjoy my husband working away. But I'm just f-ING angry all the time. Every Lil thing pisses me off to no end. I feel like I'm holding a grudge with my kids ... Go to sleep annoyed wakeUp annoyed ... My 4 1/2 year is constantly trying to undermine me with my other kids, and is always fighting about whatever I say I'm exhausted trying to keep on top of her attitude. My 3 1/2year old is still between being a baby and a "big girl" ... Potty training reverts happen, I ignore her when she tries to baby talk or such but it gets old ... My 22 month old is hitting terrible twos and I'm tired of the screaming and hissy fits over everything and trying to deal with them properly. I'm yelling way to much ... I can feel myself get angry and cannot talk myself down and I flip. Now everything that happens makes me so angry even something small. I hate my tone of voice and lack of patience. Getting a "break" doesNot work. I'm generally *****y in 3rd trimester but it is really not an excuse at all I am an adult and should act accordingly (way easier said then done). Please advice anyone? How do other people calm themselves down..? I can't even walk away because they follow or if I put my son in his room and tell my girls quiet time I'll hear screaming and crying which further sends me into a rage. Sigh. I'm just done. I feel bad for my kids and I'm ashamed.

Omg I'm such a b*tch. I'm 32 weeks prego and have 3 kids under 4... I have 3 dogs (1 is 7 weeks old) 2 cats .. My hubby works out of town ... Now I do love my kids, dogs, cats.... And I actually do enjoy my husband working away. But I'm just f-ING angry all the time. Every Lil thing pisses me off to no end. I feel like I'm holding a grudge with my kids ... Go to sleep annoyed wakeUp annoyed ... My 4 1/2 year is constantly trying to undermine me with my other kids, and is always fighting about whatever I say I'm exhausted trying to keep on top of her attitude. My 3 1/2year old is still between being a baby and a "big girl" ... Potty training reverts happen, I ignore her when she tries to baby talk or such but it gets old ... My 22 month old is hitting terrible twos and I'm tired of the screaming and hissy fits over everything and trying to deal with them properly. I'm yelling way to much ... I can feel myself get angry and cannot talk myself down and I flip. Now everything that happens makes me so angry even something small. I hate my tone of voice and lack of patience. Getting a "break" doesNot work. I'm generally *****y in 3rd trimester but it is really not an excuse at all I am an adult and should act accordingly (way easier said then done). Please advice anyone? How do other people calm themselves down..? I can't even walk away because they follow or if I put my son in his room and tell my girls quiet time I'll hear screaming and crying which further sends me into a rage. Sigh. I'm just done. I feel bad for my kids and I'm ashamed.

When I hit that point I go to the bathroom and look at myself in the mirror. I hate seeing myself that angry and it helps me calm down and soften my expression. I don't want to be the person in the mirror.

When I hit that point I go to the bathroom and look at myself in the mirror. I hate seeing myself that angry and it helps me calm down and soften my expression. I don't want to be the person in the mirror.

Grrrrl, I have 1 kid a kitten 21 months n an older cat n a man who works alot (random hours n long hours cuz own his own biz) n I get grumpy too, u have a GREAT excuse!!! U need more help frm yur man but I'm sure that's not an option. For now all I can say is maybe try reading the bible it may sound weird but it's a suggestion, I mean like a devotional for parents, if u have an iPhone there r tons of apps, also when u have yur 4th child I HIGHLY suggest (u may think it sounds crazy) that u smoke some pot. Look up moms for marijuana, I can assure u that it WILL bring your stress level down n a more happier parent. I'm not suggesting go crazy w it, but a small amount can change yur mood in minutes n take away the I'm going to pull out my hair or I'm going to have a breakdown feeling. If you live in a state where you can get a medicinal prescription I highly advise to do so. It's better than prescription pills, and alcohol and cigarettes and less addicting, u can always use it when u want and these days it's not only available to smoke, there are liquids, and foods (I don't like this way personally). Take it from me, I swear to u it will help. But until yur 4th is born (I give it up to u cuz I'm not even ready for number 2 yet!!!! Or a puppy!!! Lol) I give u luck bc it's hard being a woman let alone pregnant and a 3 time mom , someday u will look back n your kids will look back and really thank u for working so hard to raise them etc.! God bless ya girl

Grrrrl, I have 1 kid a kitten 21 months n an older cat n a man who works alot (random hours n long hours cuz own his own biz) n I get grumpy too, u have a GREAT excuse!!! U need more help frm yur man but I'm sure that's not an option. For now all I can say is maybe try reading the bible it may sound weird but it's a suggestion, I mean like a devotional for parents, if u have an iPhone there r tons of apps, also when u have yur 4th child I HIGHLY suggest (u may think it sounds crazy) that u smoke some pot. Look up moms for marijuana, I can assure u that it WILL bring your stress level down n a more happier parent. I'm not suggesting go crazy w it, but a small amount can change yur mood in minutes n take away the I'm going to pull out my hair or I'm going to have a breakdown feeling. If you live in a state where you can get a medicinal prescription I highly advise to do so. It's better than prescription pills, and alcohol and cigarettes and less addicting, u can always use it when u want and these days it's not only available to smoke, there are liquids, and foods (I don't like this way personally). Take it from me, I swear to u it will help. But until yur 4th is born (I give it up to u cuz I'm not even ready for number 2 yet!!!! Or a puppy!!! Lol) I give u luck bc it's hard being a woman let alone pregnant and a 3 time mom , someday u will look back n your kids will look back and really thank u for working so hard to raise them etc.! God bless ya girl

Hey mamaboo I'm in a very similar boat. I have a 5 yr old, 4 yr old, 2 yr old and almost 5 month old. My husband works 65 hours a week at the least. My patience were running very low at the end of my pregnancy as well! I have a terrible two, a newborn that doesn't sleep through the night and my four and five year old that don't want to listen, always talk back and argue with me. My youngest is at the point where he's not so clingy so life is getting easier. Lol. Usually if I get to that point I send them to their rooms and take a breather. My kids think its the end of the world if they aren't around me. I know it's a lot and some days it's do much harder than others but deep breaths and taking a break help me. I hope that helps! You are entitled to be cranky, you're pregnant and are taking on A LOT! :)

Hey mamaboo I'm in a very similar boat. I have a 5 yr old, 4 yr old, 2 yr old and almost 5 month old. My husband works 65 hours a week at the least. My patience were running very low at the end of my pregnancy as well! I have a terrible two, a newborn that doesn't sleep through the night and my four and five year old that don't want to listen, always talk back and argue with me. My youngest is at the point where he's not so clingy so life is getting easier. Lol. Usually if I get to that point I send them to their rooms and take a breather. My kids think its the end of the world if they aren't around me. I know it's a lot and some days it's do much harder than others but deep breaths and taking a break help me. I hope that helps! You are entitled to be cranky, you're pregnant and are taking on A LOT! :)

Proud mommy ... Hugs ... Ha ha I don't know you but I feel I do. I just needed to sleep I think .... I think I have extra snippy in the last 4 weeks ... And here kitty ha ha I so have thought about doing that!! I quit before we got prego but I sometimes think I would be better taking a puff here and there ... I quit smoking cigarettes also before we had kids 6 years ago and I think I would be a WAY better parent if I did smoke ha ha .... These last few days haven't been so bad .... :)

Proud mommy ... Hugs ... Ha ha I don't know you but I feel I do. I just needed to sleep I think .... I think I have extra snippy in the last 4 weeks ... And here kitty ha ha I so have thought about doing that!! I quit before we got prego but I sometimes think I would be better taking a puff here and there ... I quit smoking cigarettes also before we had kids 6 years ago and I think I would be a WAY better parent if I did smoke ha ha .... These last few days haven't been so bad .... :)

You do have a lot on your plate. I know where you're coming from, and I don't have the crazy hormones of pregnancy! I feel really overwhelmed some days too. I have 13mo twins, 4 dogs (a Rottweiler, German shepherd, Siberian husky, and chiweenie), a cat, an a turtle. They all live in the house, and you can only imagine the fur!!! DH works 12 hrs/day, 5 days a week, and we have no family within 200 miles to give me any relief or help. All of my dogs are old, 12+ years, and all but one have major medical issues and are on multiple medications throughout the day, and need frequent visits to the vet for differing things (one with heart disease gets an echocardiogram twice a year along with bloodwork and an EKG, one has chronic liver disease and has bloodwork every 3 months, and so on). I care for ALL of them, including grooming, feeding, nail clipping, vet appts, medications, litter box care, care of turtle and tank, and so on. My twins have issues, allergies, asthma, on medications and strict cleaning routine due to asthma. Both are allergic to milk. And to top it all off, I have a bad back and actually ended up having to have surgery just over 8 weeks ago. I had to have family alternate helping me because I could not lift, bend, or twist. My restrictions were just lifted and we're alone again for the first time in months. But I live in pretty constant pain, and that just makes things worse. Also, my mother has been fighting for her life due to complications, after having an entire lung removed due to cancer, back and forth out of ICU, going on 8 weeks now. She's in the hospital 5 hrs away, and I spent 3 weeks there with her while my MIL was here caring for my twins. Then we went there as a family 2 weeks ago to bring back my niece who had come out to help me with twins. Brought the whole circus short of the turtle!!! (continued.........Sorry, long)

You do have a lot on your plate. I know where you're coming from, and I don't have the crazy hormones of pregnancy! I feel really overwhelmed some days too. I have 13mo twins, 4 dogs (a Rottweiler, German shepherd, Siberian husky, and chiweenie), a cat, an a turtle. They all live in the house, and you can only imagine the fur!!! DH works 12 hrs/day, 5 days a week, and we have no family within 200 miles to give me any relief or help. All of my dogs are old, 12+ years, and all but one have major medical issues and are on multiple medications throughout the day, and need frequent visits to the vet for differing things (one with heart disease gets an echocardiogram twice a year along with bloodwork and an EKG, one has chronic liver disease and has bloodwork every 3 months, and so on). I care for ALL of them, including grooming, feeding, nail clipping, vet appts, medications, litter box care, care of turtle and tank, and so on. My twins have issues, allergies, asthma, on medications and strict cleaning routine due to asthma. Both are allergic to milk. And to top it all off, I have a bad back and actually ended up having to have surgery just over 8 weeks ago. I had to have family alternate helping me because I could not lift, bend, or twist. My restrictions were just lifted and we're alone again for the first time in months. But I live in pretty constant pain, and that just makes things worse. Also, my mother has been fighting for her life due to complications, after having an entire lung removed due to cancer, back and forth out of ICU, going on 8 weeks now. She's in the hospital 5 hrs away, and I spent 3 weeks there with her while my MIL was here caring for my twins. Then we went there as a family 2 weeks ago to bring back my niece who had come out to help me with twins. Brought the whole circus short of the turtle!!! (continued.........Sorry, long)

(continued.........)And my mother and I are beyond close. We nearly lost her 3 times while I was there. So yeah, needless to say, I've been a bit of a basket case, and at times, a total bit*h. My poor husband. I don't know how he's put up with me. I had a history already I generalized anxiety disorder, and possible PPD. I've been under the care of a psychiatrist since January, and I've been put on medications. They are still tweaking them, as I'm not 100% yet. But I'm MUCH better. I also talk with a therapist every other week or so, sometimes more often if needed. I have found that when I feel on the verge of a breakdown, it helps for me to first, acknowledge it before it gets out of hand. That's actually the best thing I do. Once I realize I'm on the edge, I try and stop myself. I will use imagery, and put my mind in a calmer place. I deep breathe. I also tell myself to look at my blessings all around me, and that it could be WAY worse. I'm LUCKY to have my twins and be busy (took 6 years and more than 7 IVF attempts to conceive them). I'm LUCKY that I have such a great, hardworking man to care for us, and I get to stay home. So just know, you're not alone, and you're doing a great job. Again, what works great for me, is to stop and acknowledge the anger and upcoming panic attack and face it head on, by meditating, using imagery, and then thanking my lucky stars for the blessings all around me. Good luck!

(continued.........)And my mother and I are beyond close. We nearly lost her 3 times while I was there. So yeah, needless to say, I've been a bit of a basket case, and at times, a total bit*h. My poor husband. I don't know how he's put up with me. I had a history already I generalized anxiety disorder, and possible PPD. I've been under the care of a psychiatrist since January, and I've been put on medications. They are still tweaking them, as I'm not 100% yet. But I'm MUCH better. I also talk with a therapist every other week or so, sometimes more often if needed. I have found that when I feel on the verge of a breakdown, it helps for me to first, acknowledge it before it gets out of hand. That's actually the best thing I do. Once I realize I'm on the edge, I try and stop myself. I will use imagery, and put my mind in a calmer place. I deep breathe. I also tell myself to look at my blessings all around me, and that it could be WAY worse. I'm LUCKY to have my twins and be busy (took 6 years and more than 7 IVF attempts to conceive them). I'm LUCKY that I have such a great, hardworking man to care for us, and I get to stay home. So just know, you're not alone, and you're doing a great job. Again, what works great for me, is to stop and acknowledge the anger and upcoming panic attack and face it head on, by meditating, using imagery, and then thanking my lucky stars for the blessings all around me. Good luck!

I was thinking the same thing. And there are so many better ways to deal with everyday stress than to smoke pot. Doing drugs doesn't solve any problems, it just makes you not care so much about them for a while. Ugh, I'm so fed up with all the moms that smoke pot while caring for their kids, bfing, or even pregnant. Yeah it's hard but find a better solution.

I was thinking the same thing. And there are so many better ways to deal with everyday stress than to smoke pot. Doing drugs doesn't solve any problems, it just makes you not care so much about them for a while. Ugh, I'm so fed up with all the moms that smoke pot while caring for their kids, bfing, or even pregnant. Yeah it's hard but find a better solution.

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