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I have the opportunity once in a while but since we've moved to a new town I don't know anyone. All of my old friends are too far away... I don't need a girls night out, I would just like a have a close friend to go shopping or out to lunch or dinner with..

ugh yeah its your life. loving your husband is great and all but just cuz he a hermit doesnt mean you have to be. you sound JUST like my best friend- in fact we are going out tonight for some karaoke! but her husband just doesnt like going out, and doesnt want her going out either, and gets pissed when she does. but you know what? she is the best wife/SAHM of 3 boys i've EVER seen so she deserves a time out, and she comes out with me and we stay out til 4, sometimes 5am. he gets pissed but its worth it to her!!!

Answer by
Anonymous
at 10:50 AM on Jan. 29, 2010

if i had female friends. I have lost a ton of my friends since having this baby.

Yes, we need our time also. My friend and I go shopping, get pedi's, got to lunch etc.. We don't go to bars or clubs and we are not out late. I will not do anything I would not want my hubby to do when he is out... My DH was the same as yours, he never wanted to go out and he sure didn't want me too. I did stand my ground and informed him of my plans and went on my way.. He is now much happier and so am I.. We also go out on dates together twice a month.. If a movie is coming out, I ask him if he wants to go with me, if he says no.. I go.. He has his time, I have mine and we have our time together without the kids and time out with the kids.. It is all about balance for us.