Actively Trying: THE NEXT LEVEL

For some, getting pregnant isn't as easy as it sounds. If you've been trying to...
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For some, getting pregnant isn't as easy as it sounds. If you've been trying to conceive for over a year without success or are investigating and/or attempting alternate or more intense methods of conceiving (The Next Level), we may be the group for you. From medical intervention to careful charting, we're ready to support you and your decisions along your next-level journey. This is not a group for those just beginning their TTC process - "Getting Pregnant" is the group to start with. We're blunt and matter-of-fact, and cheer hard when Next-Level TTC becomes a pregnancy! Do not post about your BFP if you are not a recognized active member!
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Hello Ladies!!! Welcome to our humble home of ACTIVELY TRYING: The Next Level. Where you don't have to worry about sharing too much information or being embarrassed! Below you will find some useful info...

Some people wonder what "The Next Level" means. You are at “The Next Level” if you are beyond just having sex to TTC. This means that you are tracking ovulation using OPKs and/or temping at a minimum, as well as using secondary signs like checking CM, CP, etc or doing monitored cycles, IUI, or IVF. If you are just having sex to get pregnant, this is not the board for you. This is NOT a beginners TTC board and this is not a symptom spotting board. Many of our members have been trying for a long time and many are diagnosed with infertility issues but infertility is not required to be an active member here -- just accurately tracking ovulation while TTC. Our group is blunt and doesn't sugar coat things but we cheer hard when a Next Leveler achieves pregnancy.

Because many of our members have been dealing with infertility and repeated pregnancy loss for a very long time please show sensitivity to their situations, such as not starting upsetting threads like gender selection, discussing your living children, or using platitudes like "just relax" or "you will get your baby" that often serve to minimize member's feelings and very real medical issues. Our group serves both those with primary and secondary infertility; we acknowledge that these are different situations but both are painful. None of us can truly know what it would be like to walk in another person’s shoes so please do not criticize another poster for how she chooses to grieve or tell her how she “should” feel.

To start off here is a note from Mamaholic (BBC community manager) about the environment of the group Actively Trying:

"All kinds of honest and respectful responses are welcome, those that are pure celebration and those that aren't what we want to hear. TTC is a journey, and those further along may sometimes have uncomfortable insights for those just starting the path, and may have to share viewpoints that shed light on the often disappointing and frustrating experience that TTC can be. But it is all done to support each other towards the goal - a baby."

If you are already PREGNANT there are great places for you to get the answers you need. Find them here:

Birth Boards http://community.babycenter.com/birthclubs

Pregnancy Board http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a85/pregnancy

PLEASE refrain from posting about your pregnancy beyond announcing your BFP (this would include discussion of betas, ultrasounds, etc.) . Posts will be deleted. But feel free to stay to root for your friends and give support.

Also, due to the drama that ensues, Drive-By BFPs will not be allowed. If you are not active and not recognized by members, your post will be removed. We understand that you are excited. However, your birth board would be a better place to announce it if you are a new member or not an active member. You can find the birth boards on the right-hand side of the page in after you click "Groups" at the top of the page.

“Am I Pregnant” type posts that are posted in this group will be closed. If you have an “Am I Pregnant” type question, please post it in either Getting Pregnant (if you are TTC) http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a6720413/getting_pregnant or The Am I Pregnant board (open to anyone regardless of TTC status): http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a43905/am_i_pregnant “Am I Pregnant” type posts that are posted in this group will be closed.

ONLY GROUP OWNERS WILL BE ALLOWED TO WRITE IN RED. This means we are speaking as a GO and not just a member of the group. Any member writing in red will be asked to change the color of their post and if it is not done it will be deleted.

If you decide to make your own group on BBC or have found one that you really like please ask the GOs via PAN if you can advertise your group in a thread. Most of the time we will be fine with it but we appreciate being asked first. If there are threads advertising other groups without permission from one of the GOs the thread will be deleted.

If you PAN us regarding questions or problems with the group, we will share it with the other GOs unless you specifically tell us not to. This is not regarding personal matters--just things that would affect or relate to our group, Actively Trying.

Search the group for similar situations you are in. The search a group function is on the right hand side UNDER the advertisements it will say SEARCH ACTIVELY TRYING and will have a search bar. Doing this will keep from your posts getting ignored since questions are asked over and over, you are more then welcome to make new posts but try searching first, you may get an answer faster. If you find that an older post only partially answers your question, then please do start a new post rather than bump a very old post (commonly referred to as a zombie).

RULES AND GUIDELINES:

There are to be NO posts stemming from another post that had drama in it, it will be automatically DELETED.

There are to be no repeat threads: this means you can not keep posting the same question over and over again. If your post gets lost and buried write "bump" to bring your post back to the first page. If you make repeat posts they will be deleted or turned off with no warning. If your questions are related, such as follow-up questions on your chart, please post the new question in the comments of your existing thread and update the title to reflect additional questions page 2 (as an example)

In order to keep this a place where differences in philosophies, beliefs, opinions, and parenting styles are welcomed please help us by following these simple rules.

http://www.babycenter.com/community-help-guidelines

1. Personal attacks are unacceptable. No name calling.

2. Hate-speech is not permitted. No racial slurs or religious slurs.

3. Do not deliberately disrupt the community. This is anything we GO's see as disruption such as creating drama threads after a thread has been shut down. This also includes SWEARING IN TITLES OF THREADS. If you swear in a title we will close your thread until you change the title, we will give you a 24 hour notice, if it's not changed it will be deleted.

4. Bullying or harassment will not be tolerated.

5. Illegal activity is not allowed on the site. No selling or offering to donate drugs of any sort including prescription or recreational. No selling of children(yes it happens).

6. No XXX.

7. Don't solicit or reveal personal information or private content yours or theirs. No posting PAN's in a public forum, is included in this.

8. No soliciting or SPAM.

ACRONYMS LIST: http://www.babycenter.com/community-help-abbreviations

For TTC acronyms not on that list: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a22896337/at_lingo

Once a thread is locked or deleted, there is to be no further discussion of said thread. No new threads discussing it, if you are the author of that thread you can NOT make a new one of the same topic. Threads like this will be reported as disruption and deleted.

Please do not create threads just to advertise your blog; they will be deleted as spam. If you maintain a blog that you would like others to read please just link it in your siggy.

We do have a “you post it, you own it” philosophy here; threads will not be deleted just because you have poster’s remorse. So think before you post; if you are concerned about privacy then maybe rethink using your real name as your screen name or using your actual photo as your avatar.

PLEASE, pretty please use correct grammar. No text speak. if u hv 2 type lik dis u will nt B takn srsly nd yur thred will B clsd. You can edit a post from your phone by clicking on “full site.” If you want people to take the time to read your post and provide advice please take the time to use reasonably correct and understandable grammar, punctuation, and spelling