I agree...except for the kids molested by priests, Mormons, etc. And don't forget that church in Kansas with its signs and close family ties. Yes, religion is so good for bringing the family together. I would guess a trip to Disney World might do that also. They are both built around imaginary characters.

My buffering is so slow I rarely watch vids...I hope I get the point without viewing it.I realise many theist parents will indoctrinate their kids with their beliefs....the only argument I have with this is freedom for the child to explore with the parents praise. If a child cannot explore other things he/she has heard about? wow too sad and horrible.My son is an Atheist,,,he is 18yrs old, no doubt I somehow influenced him, although i always tried to give impartial viewpoints on alternatives. Is it any better to raise a closeminded Atheist child? I worry about that. I think that any closemindedness is dangerous. If my son finds religion at some point I will not discourage him...he will know my beliefs, but i will not tell him it is wrong to explore.Is the vid more about setting up false beliefs? How damaging that might be? Well I think part of life is to learn about disappointment. Many of us Atheists have learnt the disappointment of realising there is no God....I think we survived and we are pretty bloody intelligent people. So no, I do not think it is that bad.Ummm I might think differently when i sober up though...please do not hold this against me.LOL can I be banned for being continuously drunk?

2) The HUGE, GAPING flaw in all such "studies" is the "correlation is cause" fallacy that is RAMPANT among them. If they find (a made up example) that kids who regularly attend church score 10 points higher on SATs than kids who don't, that DOESN'T MEAN that sending your kid to church will raise their SAT score!!

3) People who truly excel do NOT arise from the sort of mediocrity being recommended in that interview. People who excel invariably have a greater tendency for independent thought. What's recommended in the interview is making your kid a better cog in the machinery of society (something which, apparently, especially women have a tendency to think is a WONDERFUL aspiration!).

That was one of the most manipulative reasons to put taking your children to church on the list I think anyone could have conceived. The lady flat out says it to instill the idea of not disappointing a parent. So it is essentially insinuating the notion that if you don't believe in the same things as your parent you are disappointing them. While I agree that this statement is true. My parents have always been disappointed that I never bought into their brand of religion, or any religion. But to suggest that taking them to church to prevent them from doing so is absolutely manipulative and wrong. The guy also suggests that it is a way to instill morals into your child. It completely ignores all the other ways in which children learn morality. He says that it gives them the sense that there is something bigger out there than themselves. Well there is, it's called society, not god. I'd love to see what there sample was like for this list.

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I can see where your coming from but on the other hand i dont want my kid to learn about evolution or see homosexualisom talked about in a scince classs ethier. <-- From Youguysarepathetic

At least I have a mother. Have you? (serious question) <---From Skylark889

While clearly the emphasis is on time, and they did choose to use the word spirituality, the few other select comments they chose to make about it seemed to be very manipulative on the part of any parent who would do this.

If it truly is all about spending time together, there are many other things that can be done instead of going to church. Including activities that actually allow you to participate in family discussion while you do them.

GetMeThere is dead on about taking advice from a TV interview.

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I can see where your coming from but on the other hand i dont want my kid to learn about evolution or see homosexualisom talked about in a scince classs ethier. <-- From Youguysarepathetic

At least I have a mother. Have you? (serious question) <---From Skylark889

JRF2k, conversely, you can tell her that it might be a good idea to expose your kid to *all* religions and go to one a week or learn about one a week. Followed by a non-leading quiz and answer period afterward, of course. After all, if one religion is good (bah!), then all of them should be really really good. Along those lines;

My friends and I somehow managed to raise atheist kids who seem to be doing just fine. They are school teachers, middle management, community organizers and scientists. They are responsible, value friends and family, contribute to their community and in general enjoy life. Like others, they lack perfection, but they make up for it by being decent people.

Church is no more required than bowling. With the first you share bad ideas, with the second bad shoes. Better to avoid the crap you can voluntarily elude to make time for the stuff that's worth it.

In the circle of friends I had back in my "family" years, when the kids were growing up, nobody went to church except for weddings and funerals. One of my friends has a daughter who now goes regularly, but otherwise as far as I know none of the others do (we're talking 30 plus kids in total). Not one of that group has ever been in trouble with the law, had serious drug problems or anything else worth worrying about. Many are nearing 40 and still doing just fine. That hasn't even been a divorce yet.

Two younger friends I have now with growing children that have gone to church haven't been as lucky. One child has just finished her second drug treatment program for meth, while another still goes to church every week in an alcoholic stupor. The first is 16, the second about 20.

In both cases, those are small samples, and certainly much wider variations exist than those that I have experienced. But overall I'm pretty darned sure artificial stories about made-up dudes with inconsistent lesson plans and lousy attitudes aren't really required.

JRF2k, conversely, you can tell her that it might be a good idea to expose your kid to *all* religions and go to one a week or learn about one a week. Followed by a non-leading quiz and answer period afterward, of course. After all, if one religion is good (bah!), then all of them should be really really good. Along those lines;

Right, this is Daniel Dennetts' idea--that religion SHOULD be taught in schools--teach all religions, including "cargo cults." The idea seems to drive theists CRAZY! (as can be seen in the Dennett-D'Souza debate on youtube). I think it's an excellent idea.

Right, this is Daniel Dennetts' idea--that religion SHOULD be taught in schools--teach all religions, including "cargo cults." The idea seems to drive theists CRAZY! (as can be seen in the Dennett-D'Souza debate on youtube). I think it's an excellent idea.

Dennett helped me develop my thinking skills years ago when I read The Mind's I compilation and commentary that he wrote with Hofstadter.[1] I always think more deeply after reading or listening to Dennett.

D'Souza, though, seems to be incapable of the same type of engendering the same type of thoughtful reflection on his words and comments. I feel dumber after an encounter with him. He is an embarrassment to his 'side' and it's surprising he has any following.

D'Souza, though, seems to be incapable of the same type of engendering the same type of thoughtful reflection on his words and comments. I feel dumber after an encounter with him. He is an embarrassment to his 'side' and it's surprising he has any following.

I certainly agree with the first two sentences Hermes, but the third is no surprise to me.

D'Souza, though, seems to be incapable of the same type of engendering the same type of thoughtful reflection on his words and comments. I feel dumber after an encounter with him. He is an embarrassment to his 'side' and it's surprising he has any following.

I certainly agree with the first two sentences Hermes, but the third is no surprise to me.

Conversely, I haven't read anyone who boldly supports D'Souza, but he seems to serve some purpose since enough people support him speaking up. That's what makes him at all interesting; what does it say about those who should reject him but don't.

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Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons. --Michael Shermer

The history of religion is a long attempt to reconcile old custom with new reason, to find a sound theory for an absurd practice. --Sir James George Frazer

My buffering is so slow I rarely watch vids...I hope I get the point without viewing it.I realise many theist parents will indoctrinate their kids with their beliefs....the only argument I have with this is freedom for the child to explore with the parents praise. If a child cannot explore other things he/she has heard about? wow too sad and horrible.My son is an Atheist,,,he is 18yrs old, no doubt I somehow influenced him, although i always tried to give impartial viewpoints on alternatives. Is it any better to raise a closeminded Atheist child? I worry about that. I think that any closemindedness is dangerous. If my son finds religion at some point I will not discourage him...he will know my beliefs, but i will not tell him it is wrong to explore.Is the vid more about setting up false beliefs? How damaging that might be? Well I think part of life is to learn about disappointment. Many of us Atheists have learnt the disappointment of realising there is no God....I think we survived and we are pretty bloody intelligent people. So no, I do not think it is that bad.Ummm I might think differently when i sober up though...please do not hold this against me.LOL can I be banned for being continuously drunk?

From this I can assume you believe yourself to be an atheist, but by what is written I doubt that! it could just be the drink talking, however. Two points. 1, atheist are far from closed minded, to be atheist is to be completely open minded, we are open to any evidence anybody cares to put forward whereas a theist, has made up his mind in the singular. And 2, to realise the is no god and the enlightenment that brings is far from disappointing. To know that your a good person for all the right reasons is great. I'd study up on what it is to be atheist, if I was you. Those sort of sentences, are ones the theist would say. My children are getting an open and neutral education, in regard to religions they see the world from several different view points in order to make an educated decision. that is open mindedness

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We theists have no evidence for our beliefs. So no amount of rational evidence will dissuade us from those beliefs. - JCisall

It would be pretty piss poor brainwashing, if the victims knew they were brainwashed, wouldn't it? - Screwtape. 04/12/12

Exposing children to different religions is extremely important, because hopefully what we are doing is illustrating that different people have different ideas, many of them opposing in ways, and so the child can examine that and learn to think critically. Of course, thinking critically is the greatest threat to religion, so it wouldn't be surprising if the child ends up agnostic or atheist!

Additionally, I think that learning about prominent religions is important because of the influence they have on society. I live in the U.S. and Christianity is (obviously) very influential on how people act, who they vote for, etc. It's important for someone growing up in this society to understand the beliefs and motivations of Christians, because they are going to encounter Christianity's influence so frequently. (I also live in Michigan, so some understanding of Islam probably wouldn't hurt, too!)

My stepson is 13, and his stepmother and father have taught him all about the Jesus mythology. (His father, by the way, has been arrested many, many times for things like assault and failure to pay child support. He has a record of violence against women specifically. Classy dude, and wonderful Christian!)

So, my wife and I ("evil" agnostics with no history of violence or arrests*) asked him one day if he believed it. He said that he did. So I asked him a very simple question: "Why?"

He was quiet and I watched the wheels of his mind turning. I think he finally said something like "I don't know."

So I said "A lot of people believe that story, and believe that Jesus was God. And maybe it's true. But it's also possible that it's a made-up story."

The only thing I've ever driven home is that I want him to research, think, and make his own decision when it comes to spiritual or religious belief. He could end up a Christian, Muslim, deist, atheist, whatever, and it will be okay with me, as long as he got there by thinking and making his own decision.

*In the interest of honesty, I guess I have been arrested once. For unpaid traffic tickets. Yeah, I'm a hard one.

when I realized that church was nonsense, the people no better than anyone else, etc, that made me irate at my parents, though they simply bought the crap (and still buy it) because they were ignorant. I am working on that. I found that the bible and the religion are not at all "family" friendly.

When parents tell falsehoods for no matter what reason, that can turn on them. Take drugs and alcohol, oooh it' so bad but when you try them, not so much. What else are my parents not telling me?

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"There is no use in arguing with a man who can multiply anything by the square root of minus 1" - Pirates of Venus, ERB

My buffering is so slow I rarely watch vids...I hope I get the point without viewing it.I realise many theist parents will indoctrinate their kids with their beliefs....the only argument I have with this is freedom for the child to explore with the parents praise. If a child cannot explore other things he/she has heard about? wow too sad and horrible.My son is an Atheist,,,he is 18yrs old, no doubt I somehow influenced him, although i always tried to give impartial viewpoints on alternatives. Is it any better to raise a closeminded Atheist child? I worry about that. I think that any closemindedness is dangerous. If my son finds religion at some point I will not discourage him...he will know my beliefs, but i will not tell him it is wrong to explore.Is the vid more about setting up false beliefs? How damaging that might be? Well I think part of life is to learn about disappointment. Many of us Atheists have learnt the disappointment of realising there is no God....I think we survived and we are pretty bloody intelligent people. So no, I do not think it is that bad.Ummm I might think differently when i sober up though...please do not hold this against me.LOL can I be banned for being continuously drunk?

From this I can assume you believe yourself to be an atheist, but by what is written I doubt that! it could just be the drink talking, however. Two points. 1, atheist are far from closed minded, to be atheist is to be completely open minded, we are open to any evidence anybody cares to put forward whereas a theist, has made up his mind in the singular. And 2, to realise the is no god and the enlightenment that brings is far from disappointing. To know that your a good person for all the right reasons is great. I'd study up on what it is to be atheist, if I was you. Those sort of sentences, are ones the theist would say. My children are getting an open and neutral education, in regard to religions they see the world from several different view points in order to make an educated decision. that is open mindedness

Yeah I know...my son has a disadvantage...luckily he is very smart. He seems to fill in the blanks where i fuck up.

I found that the bible and the religion are not at all "family" friendly.

The Bible identifies 15 crimes against the family worthy of the death penalty. Abortion is treason against the family and deserves the death penalty. Adultery is treason to the family; adulterers should be put to death. Homosexuality is treason to the family, and it too, is worthy of death. (R.J. Rushdoony)

JRF2k, conversely, you can tell her that it might be a good idea to expose your kid to *all* religions and go to one a week or learn about one a week. Followed by a non-leading quiz and answer period afterward, of course. After all, if one religion is good (bah!), then all of them should be really really good. Along those lines;