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Dear Kismet,

My husband buys me a new sex toy for every possible occasion. The drawer is full. But when I suggested that the newest one (for MLKing Jr Day) won't fit until I toss one of the older ones, he seemed hurt. How do I tell him I have plenty?

Dear Kismet,I keep having bad dreams about my Up coming (In May) wedding everything from not finding out my dress in trashed (and dyed my least favorite color pink) until my wedding day, to having no one show up for the wedding except myself and my groom. What's that about?

Dear Anonymous: I'm guessing the two of you view the sex toys differently. Faulty communication seems to be a wide-spread problem with many couples. I'm wondering why you can't simply sit down and tell him the truth? Perhaps he only buys the toys because he thinks you like them. Perhaps you gave him that impression? I think there's a lot of mind-reading being attempted here. You'll find that telling the truth in a compassionate and kind way can work miracles.

My significant other, Devereux, often buys me gifts. My closets and drawers are full. He loves to surprise me with beautiful clothing and jewelry. When I tell him I'm running out of space to keep them, he just opens up another room for me in his penthouse. Ah, immortal men. What's a woman to do?Kismet Knight, Ph.D.

Dear Raynesonyx: First, congratulations on your upcoming marriage! In general, dreams are specific to the dreamer. They contain your own, unique, imaginal language. Of course, it's completely normal for you to be anxious about the approaching day (and the notion of such an important commitment). If you were sitting with me in my office, I'd ask you what does a pink, trashed wedding dress mean to you? Why pink? Your psyche is trying to tell you something, and it's likely a straightforward manifestation of the regular "out of control" feeling all brides have. As for having no one show up, I'd explore how supported you feel these days. Who is there for you? Are you arranging everything by yourself? Or, opposite, are you wishing you had more say about things? Your unconscious knows. Before you drift off to sleep at night, ask your unconscious to give you clear signs and symbols about what you're trying to tell yourself. All will be well.

I often dream about blood, for some strange reason!Kismet Knight, Ph.D.

Dear Kismet - A number of times over the years, I have had dreams in which some of my teeth break or fall out. What could this mean (other than that I grind my teeth, and actually HAVE had two teeth that chipped and had to be repaired)?

Dear Kismet- My current lover is my spirit guide. We often have rowdy sessions, all in my head, but my body sure feels like it is being touched. I'm not sure where this relationship is going. Should I tell him to get a life so we can be together, or is it just my lack of men on this earth plane that is getting me down? I'm very confused and it is really hard to keep secrets from him since he lives in my head. Or should I get a life and have a one night stand to get him out of my head? I do love not having to wake up to a man in the morning though. Akk! What should I do about my incorporeal lover???

I've been married for 3 1/2 years. I know I am lucky to have found someone who loves me as much as my husband does, but sometimes we argue and bicker over the stupidest things and I start to think about life without him. I know I don't really want to divorce him (I would never find someone who loves me as much as he does, and I do love him), so what should I tell myself when I get so upset over small things?

Dear Amy: Dreams about teeth are very common. Of course, the meanings of your dreams are unique to you, but, in general, teeth represent 1) the chewing of food, which metaphorically can mean something about being able to masticate the things that are shoved down your throat -- ideas, beliefs, philosophies, other peoples' rules/regulations, etc. Teeth can also represent (especially in our society) issues of appearance. If one has challenging dentistry, one might be ridiculed. Fear of exposing chipped, broken or discolored teeth often keeps women (people) from expressing a full range of emotions. Of course, in the material world, grinding (I also grind) reflects nocturnal anxiety. But the most important question is: what do YOU think it means?

One of my clients broke a fang recently, and he not only suffered from nutrient deprivation, but he was ostracized from the other vampires. Healthy fangs are crucial!Kismet Knight, Ph.D.

Dear Xenarocks: Wow. That's quite a relationship you have there! The current thinking lends itself to the belief that a spirit guide is a positive force in a person's life -- that your spirit guide is working on your behalf. If yours is meeting his own needs by having an imaginal sexual connection with you, I'd say what we're dealing with isn't a spirit guide at all. You've apparently invited some form of energy into your psyche, and -- since you sent the invitation -- you can make a different choice. Perhaps it's time to explore your hesitation about creating a flesh-and-blood relationship. Once you lose interest in your incorporeal friend, the energy that makes up his personality will shift into something more helpful.

In DARK HARVEST, you'll discover that I had a very similar experience!Kismet Knight, Ph.D.

Dear Becka: It's very easy to "blame" a mate when we're unhappy with some aspect of ourselves. Shift your focus from the occasional bickering, etc. (which you'd have with anyone), and explore your beliefs, ideas, patterns and fears. Something meaningful is tapping you on the shoulder, and it has nothing to do with your mate.

I spent a lot of time "blaming" vampires for all my problems. While vampires (the little dears) can be highly disruptive, the source of all my issues was inside myself. Except for my bickering with Devereux! Now that's totally his fault!! (grin)Kismet Knight, Ph.D.