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Ask a Guy: "Will a Guy Not Finish Because a Girl Hasn't?"

There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:

Q: Will a guy not finish during sex specifically because the girl has not and he feels bad? Does this happen for real, or are these men urban legends?

No, this is not an urban legend. This is the mark of a legend.

A man who chooses to hold off orgasming, and then has the physiological wherewithal to do so is a hero in bed. Men, like other humans, often want to bring pleasure and satisfaction to their lovers. As such, they try to postpone their explosion to give the woman a chance to orgasm first. Man will do and think of anything to not ejaculate (count backwards from one hundred, recite "The Pledge of Allegiance" in Pig Latin, fantasize about Sarah Jessica Parker or shooting pool with The Situation). After all, once a man climaxes, he's about as useful to a vagina as a slice of pizza.

I suspect the reason you think it may be a myth or fairy tale is because in the early years of a man's intercourse career, the goal of waiting for a woman rarely is achieved. In the early years sex alone is the objective; touching the mountain top of sex, not spending time on its summit. But in time man's goals shift, as well as expectations—he matures, emotionally and physically and it's no longer about scaling the mountain so much as about offering a path for both parties to peak.