When You Call It Quits ..

I was forcibly told to ‘just get out' by the person I thought was the ‘The Soulmate of My Life'.

Days after, I packed up the majority of my stuff and left a relationship I tried so desperately to make work.

What I didn't count on was one of my hard drives was also previously used as Pam's backup Time Machine hard drive.

So just a few short months after we were married, Pamela Allen (or Pam Papier, Pamela Williams, Pamela Lakey, Pam Cooney or whoever is next on the list) has continued a conversation with Jeff Brown who is suppose to be a spiritual guru.

When I say ‘spiritual', I mean chatting with Pamela going to Canada to have her ‘vaginal juices licked out' by him, for days.

That's really putting your heart and soul into making a marriage and relationship work out.

Hindsight Facts

Before you head into what looks to me (and everyone I've shown) as a flagrant disregard for marriage albeit more-so flirtatious manipulation, keep in mind the following:

Pam mentioned to her son, Nicholas and myself (about 6 months ago) that she was initially attracted to me, primarily as I was the CEO of a business.

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After thoroughly studying my Facebook profile when we first met, online.

I was always under the impression it was personal attraction.

No wonder Pam never wanted to talk about our initial mutual attractions.

That business was a start-up called Cashflow Community Debit Card.

It ‘had the potential' for enormous returns and wealth.

Cashflow Community failed in the last days of December 2009.

The stomach churning BS you are about to read, between Pam Allen and Jeff Brown, started on December 25, 2009 – Merry Christmas, huh?

We were only married in November, 2009

And in the last days of this marriage, Pam confided in her cousin, Maureen from Sydney, that the relationship started with a lie.

Well, there's a big Hello moment, for everybody. The start-up business didn't go according to plan?

The Writing and Deception On The Wall

Pam was instantly scouting around for someone else, once the Cashflow Community project (and it's promises for great wealth) ran aground.

No pushback by Pam on any of Jeff Brown's disgusting Skype advances.

Quite the opposite

Angling multiple times for the Canadian invitation which could see her vacate Australia for yet another ‘relationship'.

It's now abundantly clear, to me, that she dropped our relationship like a hot potato, only after a few months of marriage. All the while weighing up her options on the best time and opportunity to get out and into another feathered nest.

Last Word For Us To Live By, From Soulshaping Jeff Brown Himself

Jeff Brown himself – December 13, 2013 … You don’t measure love in time. You measure love in transformation. Sometimes the longest connections yield very little growth, while the briefest of encounters change everything. The heart doesn’t wear a watch- it’s timeless. It doesn’t care how long you know someone. It doesn’t care if you had a 40 year anniversary if there is no juice in the connection. What the heart cares about is resonance. Resonance that opens it, resonance that enlivens it, resonance that calls it home. And when it finds it, the transformation begins…

Mr Soulshaping Jeff Brown: Pity you don't really appear to practise what you preach. The majority of your ‘followers' are women who hold you in high esteem which itself is out of balance and could make them targets for sexual advances.

You and Pam would actually have made the perfect couple.

* Is it any wonder that Karma and Cancer finally caught up with Pam, given her complete distain and contempt that she really has for people?

Addendum: January 5th, 2014

An Open Email From Jeff Brown so I'll Reply Here For My WebHost's Sake

Thank you Jeff for your open (without caveat or disclosure) email which is included below, for transparency.

In answer to your email:

Stolen Hard Drive?

I own the hard drive, in question, which was purchased by me on my credit card along with other computer equipment, in Oct 2009 and it was last connected and discarded on a shelf on May 2012

As for an alleged conversation, I’ll openly make the appropriate data available for any mutually agreed independent forensic analysis, to determine just how alleged the conversations were.

Please do research yourself on Australian Law and matrimonial property

Since leaving the relationship 2 months ago, no formal or informal requests for the return of any property have been made to me, apart from an ADSL Router which I left with Pam to lessen any inconvenience to her

Ridiculous In This Effort?

Thank you for your quick, denigrating and insensitive analysis

I would have thought your Soulshaping background would have been able to come up with something better

That said, the main reason for this purging was to rid my mind of an event/s that had made me sick to my stomach and emotional wellbeing.

And this magical dialogue/s significantly contributed, in my opinion, to undermining a relationship that was never allowed to begin and blossom, as I had hoped it would.

Pam and I Were Friends Long Before You

Goodie for you, mate

I was always under the impression your previous behaviours should change, once one of your female ‘friends' got into a serious relationship and married?

Virtually No Contact Since

Virtually? :)

She Has Never Behaved Inappropriately

Well please do pardon another opinion of mine but I think we must have different views on the meaning of what ‘behaving appropriately’ is.

Again, you have my open offer to forensically analyse the data for truth, of what you label an alleged conversation.
Now that I have mentally purged this onerous and distasteful part of history, I can get on with rebuilding my life and will be centring myself there.

Martin, I have been informed of your blog reporting an alleged conversation with Pam some years ago. I am sorry that she has disconnected with you, and do not know the context for anything that has happened between you, but it is illegal for you to represent another person's words without their permission, and particularly so from a stolen hard drive. Your web service provider has been informed, police are about to be informed, and it is ridiculous that you resort to this nonsense in an effort to strike back at her for whatever has happened between you. Your wife and I were friends long before you, and have had virtually no contact since. She has never behaved inappropriately. Jeff

Enjoying newly found freedoms, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
Drop me a message and let's start there, OK?

I tripped upon this blog as I was trying to figure out who Jeff Brown was. Interesting find. As I read through it, my mind screamed “Narcissist!”. I was glad to see you subsequently wrote about sociopaths, which means you understand what happened too you.
The heart- and mind-twisting damage these people introduce their unwitting (and oh-so-trusting) victims to is shattering. I was “lucky” to have gotten out after “only” 9 months living together (plus a couple months grooming time before that), with my wallet intact. A year-and-a-half after dumping him, and a year after he moved to another state (thank god, but I feel for the woman he moved in with), I am still trying to heal my heart. I know that hating him and wishing him great ill will – only hurts me. Alas, I am not beyond it (yet). With time, and distance, and a lot of work, I’m doing much better. I continue on the path.

well now you have a better understanding about what Jeff Brown is :)
Both he and the she-devil are water under the bridge for me. Good riddance to the pair of them. Karma cometh.
Keep on your path and all the best to you and to the better person you find along the way.

I am a friend of Pam’s since childhood. I think you are being childish to air your personal views for the world to see. You may have been hurt but this is no way to deal with it. I have not heard or seen Pam for years but I am her friend and this disrespect that you are showing to someone you loved is really beyond me. Pam may be lots of things but you are no better by fighting this fight in this arena. Sorry man I know you were hurt but this is quite insane. Love does not act this way, not at all, not ever. Berri

Hi Berri
Thanks for your visit and opinion.
By the way, I am Martin and not Jeff, regards to your greeting. Jeff is the guy involved in this insane little liaison with your friend Pam.

Just like you’re airing your own personal views for the world to see, I feel I’m more than OK to do the same in whatever forum I choose. It’s your own view as to whether it’s childish or disrespectful and you’re welcome to it. As far as love goes, the facts clearly demonstrate there was never any love, from her side. Mine was obviously based on a misguided dream or a sham of reality. Lessons learned.

So I agree with you. Love does not act this way. She’s clearly displayed that she never had any.

HI Martin. I enjoyed our first conversation and have since followed your disconnection with your soon to be ex-wife…may the count down continue.
It is beautiful that you have found the well of gratitude to set yourself free. I love your Reiki, crystal and visualisation experiences and the cutting of the cords between you and her. I invite you to use those same recently experienced skills to explore and remove the cords between your self and Jeff Brown. Feeling the energy in your responses I would not be surprised if several have formed. If you would like any support in this ..or a remote reading of your energy please feel free to call/skype me..
Much Love all ways
Keith

Thanks so much for the comment which I thought on. I’d never considered my feelings towards Jeff Brown until you mentioned him again.
And I admit I harbor a deep hatred in the deceptive seeds he knowingly propagated and fostered, within Pam and my relationship with her. There is work I must do to severe those cords as they do run deep, I know it.
Keith: I’m not sure what a remote reading is all about but I’m open to everything and anything that can get me back on my true path and back to the person I once was. So I’ll ping you a Skype msg and take it from there, if that’s ok?

As a relationship counselor for many years, it’s painfully obvious your marriage had been sabotaged very early in the piece which is always a heart breaking reality to be woken up to.

It’s far more common than you might be aware of and attributed to the fast pace of the Internet, smooth talking men like this scoundrel Jeff and doubts which were in your wife’s mind due to that business collapse. Without solid work and continued effort and support from her, I hate to say, your marriage was never going to amount to much.

You picked a somewhat raw subject for your first comment, Adrian. Thank you.
Yes, the writing of her deception was always visible to those that want to see it. In my quest for a successful marriage and a normal relationship with Pam, my eyes were closed to any possibility that she had chosen all along to seek something else. There wasn’t any effort or work, least of all continued.
I’m actually making great headway in all this BS but will contact you as there’s never too much learning to have, for success. Thank you so much for that.

You see this a lot from Russian woman. Always willing to jump from one passing ship to the next better one. A pretty tragic way of thinking but I had the same thing happen to me with a russian woman once. Maybe it’s in her culture?

Hey Tom, yeah, I’ve heard the same thing about Russian women and have a couple of mates that have experienced some pretty bad times with Russian ladies.
As for South Africans, I know they are extremely class and status conscious so maybe I was simply relegated to being beneath a certain class level, once the Cashflow Card business collapsed? I don’t know and I’ll never know the real truth! Lessons learnt, huh?

I’m not so convinced the conversation between your wife and the other man is evidence of her being unfaithful. I see a man being very inappropriate and a woman who pretends it isn’t happening (possibly in an attempt to avoid confrontation). This Jeff fellow definitely deserves some smacks around the head but I can’t say that the woman here is actively engaging with it.

tsk tsk tsk. I wholly believe in differing points of view and opinions on this site.
It has been brought to my attention that you are more involved in this content than a first time visitor and commenter. With that in mind, I’m calling your comment both a FAKE and a Red Herring.
I wonder who would be motivated enough to divert all the attention to fully focus on the antics of Jeff?