I can't stand when one parent uses the other as a bargaining chip for more money. can't talk to the kids until you send money, can't see the kids until you send money and even after you do send it they still won't let you see or talk to them, but they're more than willing to go out of town and get a room with you, even to the point were they will spend money for the trip or even pay for the whole thing which is money that could and should be spent on the kids since they have it like that, but you don't.