Facebook was OK in the beginning, I just got SOOOO tired of the frigging farmville, and mafia requests. Too damn much BS on there now. I check in once a month just to see what the people I know that moved away are up to, thats about it.
As for here, the forums have been pretty much reduced to a newsbot alert site!

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The greatest truths are the simplest;
and so are the greatest men. (unk)

Light travels faster than sound,
which is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

I didn't even realize that first group was "secret"...although I think Lise added me, haha. You can PM me and I'll get you into the group...They really do have a lot of duscussions going on on those pages, and it's a lot of people from this site.

But for the original question, the admins have to approve you to the private areas, and if I remember correctly, it took me a few days to gain access as well...just message the Mods and see what they can do.