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MEN! The secret to more sex is...

...to follow the super-hot advice below. (Ladies - this memo to your men is about to change your sex life, forever).

Men of the world, take note: sex should not be difficult. We should be able to communicate exactly what we want, understand what our partner wants, and both walk away happy. If only. (Cue that toe-curling conversation about that thing he/she does that makes you groan. And we don't mean happy groaning.) But all is not lost. When GLAMOUR asked readers to tell us what they seriously rated in bed, the answers came fast and furious. And the way we see it, if we can tell all the men out there that women are loving, then there's no need for that awkward chat...

"I love a man who gets on with it and isn't needy - and doesn't keep saying, 'Is that good?', 'Am I doing it right?' during the whole thing!" Julie, 29

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Guys, listen up We know your mum brought you up to be polite and attentive, but the constant questioning makes it impossible to get to the Oh! Zone. A study from Rutgers University in the US found that when women are close to or at the point of orgasm, parts of the brain relating to emotions and social behaviour shut down. "If a woman has to stop focusing on the sensations and instead think about answering your questions, she'll have to pull out of her orgasmic reverie," says sex therapist Dr Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First.

Girls, help him do it right If he's desperate for your approval, start and end sex with clear confirmations of how good it was. "Say something like, 'Keep doing that!' at the beginning, so there's no doubt in his mind that he's doing good," says Dr Kerner. "Then, after orgasm, let him know exactly how great it was. His confidence will be boosted, helping prevent too many future questions, and because his sexual satisfaction rides in part on yours, it'll make sex more enjoyable for him, too."

"I love it when a guy is confident initiating sex. I want to know what you want, and when you want it - it's hot." Cheryl, 33

Guys, listen up Grabbing her breasts or flicking her bra strap might seem like confident sex requests to you, but to her, they're a turn-off. "The way you initiate sex should tell her you find her irresistible, but also that you want her to feel the same about you," says Dr Kerner. "It has to be about her needs as well as yours." Sexy and confident is: a slow, circular stroking of her lower back, just above her bum, before you bring her in close for a kiss; or taking her hips in your hands, from behind, sweeping her side and kissing her neck.

Girls, help him do it right Nothing is as effective as teaching by example and this is one lesson he'll love. "Just as women love a man who's confident in his sexual advances, men also enjoy a self-assured lover," says Dr Kerner. "And if he sees you're not shy in letting him know when you'd like to get naked, his confidence will be boosted so he can seduce you with skill, just how you like it."

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"Props to a guy who understands my sex speak: when I say, 'Oh yeah', it doesn't mean, 'Stop, I'm about to climax'; it means 'Keep doing it!'" Julie, 32

Guys, listen up Deciphering her moans and groans is a bit like trying to figure out Morse code - does a long, breathy 'aaah' mean she's close to climax, that she's just warming up or that she's fantasising about her dentist?! But there is an easy way to know when to keep going and when to stop. "A woman won't keep you down there if she's already climaxed," says Dr Kerner. "She'll let you know that she's done. So unless she says, 'That was great,' or 'I am coming right now!' hedge your bets and keep doing exactly what you have been."

Girls, help him do it right Using words can be awkward during sex, so moaning and groaning feels like a safe way to indicate pleasure, but add some vocabulary and you'll get more of what you want. "A simple, 'That feels so good,' is a straightforward way to let him know that you're not orgasming yet, but that you're loving his skills," says Dr Kerner.

"When he strokes the sides and undersides of my breasts - it makes me putty in his hands." Fi, 31

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Guys, listen up This might be a shock, but it's not all about the nipples. By zoning in on them, you're missing out on some other great parts of her breasts: "As the skin is thinner towards the sides and undersides, it's incredibly sensitive," says Dr Kerner. "Many men don't realise this."

Girls, help him do it right "During a suggestive performance is an effective way to show him what turns you on," says Dr Kerner. Tie his hands lightly, then tease him with a sexy 'show' where you touch yourself. You can even tell him that you're imagining he's touching you - we guarantee he'll pay full attention to what you're doing!

"A man who experiments with positions, but doesn't expect me to be a yoga whizz - cramp, so not sexy."Wendy, 25

Guys, listen up As you've probably never had to lie on your back with your legs over someone's shoulders, you can't possibly know that after about ten minutes your lower legs and feet go numb! "Some women are more flexible than other, but even so, blood flow can be restricted if there's pressure on her limbs. That can result in numbness or pins and needles," says sexpert Dr Pam Spurr. So warn her before pulling any crazy moves - if her body isn't used to being stretched a certain way, it can cause muscle strain.

Girls, help him do it right Groaning like an arthritis-riddled octogenarian isn't sexy, so don't let it get to that point. "If you feel a position is pushing your muscles to the max, suggest a new one before you cause any damage," says Dr Spurr. Requests such as, "Can I go on top?" or, "Take me from behind" go down well, and they're far easier on your old bones.

"Lots of kissing. Not just before sex, but during and after!" Marcie, 29

Guys, listen up We realise that once your manhood gets fully involved, there's less blood in the head on your shoulders, but that's no reason to stop using your brain. "Kissing is an easy way to make sure a woman feels wholly desired," says Dr Kerner. "Without it, sex can feel as though it's all about her genitals and no woman wants to be thought of as a walking vagina."

Girls, help him do it right Give your guy some visual and aural signals. "Licking and biting your lips draw his gaze to your mouth and encourage him to focus his attentions there, too," says Dr Kerner. "Sexy moans will also help." And another tip: "Tie your hair up if you're on top," says Dr Kerner. "Otherwise we get a mouthful of it!"

"I appreciate a guy who focuses on my clitoris, but there are other parts that could use some attention. PS: my clitoris is not to be tweaked, pulled or pinched." Maya, 27

Guys, listen up We know you've had it drummed into you that orgasms are all about the clitoris, so you spend all your time focused there, but it's just the tip of the iceberg. "The clitoris is packed with nerves, but so are her vaginal lips," says sex educator Dr Yvonne K Fulbright, author of The Better Sex Guide To Extraordinary Lovemaking. And some women find clitoral stimulation too intense, so by 'spreading the love' you might find it easier to bring her to orgasm. "Imagine her most sensitive parts are like a ripe peach," says Fulbright. "Apply pressure without splitting the fruit."

Girls, help him do it right To get your man to work all your sexy bits, ask him to kiss you down there instead of using his tongue or fingers. "By using his mouth to try and access your clitoris, his chin will rub against your vaginal lips and surrounding areas," says Dr Fulbright.

"Leaving the light on is hot! Seeing your hands on my body is a huge turn-on." Keira, 34

Guys, listen up Do you really think she hits the gym so often just so she can hide in the dark? Nope, she works her butt off so it gets the attention it deserves. "Add to that the fact that many women spend more on lingerie than you do on several years' worth of underpants and you can understand why she enjoys watching you drinking in her beauty when you're in bed," says Dr Fulbright.

Girls, help him do it right He's always being told that women are shy of their bodies, but "a striptease can be a lot of fun - for both of you," says Dr Fulbright. "And it's a sure-fire way to show him that you're extremely confident having your body looked at and adored."

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"A guy who can be straight with me, ie not let me go on for ages when I'm going down on him - if it's doing nothing for you, say so, because it makes my jaw ache!" Louise, 30

Guys, listen up Subtle instructions mean not using your hands to push her head anywhere, but rather showing her what's good and what's not with the rest of your body. "Men tend to be less vocal than women, but that's to their detriment," says Dr Spurr. "A well-timed moan or groan, or pleasure-signalling phrase is often all a woman needs to fuel her enthusiasm - and it lets her know exactly when it's feeling good."

Girls, help him do it right Maybe it takes you a full 40 minutes to get to orgasm via cunnilingus and perhaps he feels OK letting you go at it for the same amount of time for that reason. So what do you do? Give yourselves a head start, or rather, a hand start. "Invest plenty of time in stimulating each other by hand or vibrator first, then move on to oral," says Dr Spurr. "Preparation will make the 'task' to come far easier."