Although we would all like to trust our feelings, they are not a good guide for the ways things really are. They are often fickle and irrational – and not an accurate measure of reality. As you’ve probably discovered:

1. Feelings vary depending on our health. If we’re sick we often feel despondent and blah.

I’m looking out at 45000 people who have an individual set of hopes, dreams, fears and wishes. Every single person here has something they’re afraid of or something they’re trying to block out in their mind, whether it’s somebody who 5 years ago told you, you aren’t cool, or that you were annoying, or they didn’t invite you go something, or somebody you loved who turned around one day and changed their mind and said, “I don’t wanna be with you anymore,” and you can’t get it out of your head. Or maybe it’s just the voice in your own head saying, like, “You don’t look awesome today.” And it’s absolutely… it’s absolutely extraordinary that we’re all walking around with these fears and with these insecurities.

And what I find the most extraordinary is that every single person in here decided today, “I’m not going to let my mistakes or insecurities keep me from going to a concert and dancing all night and having the best time ever.” I am proud of you for that.

Because the thing about mistakes, that people will tell you all the time, is that the fact is that a lot of the clichés are true. You cannot live your life without making mistakes. The only thing you can control is how you handle it afterward. The only thing you can do is make sure your mistakes are ones you will never make again, that your lessons are lessons you have learned and you will not repeat. No one can blame you for making those mistakes because you’re taking risks. The only time your mistakes will take you down a notch is if you become your behaviour pattern, and we don’t learn from them and we let them become our identity.

But I don’t think… I don’t think you’re going to do that. I don’t think that you’re going to let your mistakes be ghosts that haunt you. Because you’re here tonight, aren’t you? And so we’re going to go out and make the rest of the mistakes we’re going to make for the rest of our lives. And we’re going to hope that we don’t make too many of the same ones. And, um, we’re not going to be defined by them. And we’re going to remember tonight and we’re going to be more kind to ourselves, aren’t we, Vancouver?

Living your life making mistakes does not make you damaged or tarnished or anything like that. I think they make you wiser and they make you smarter and stronger. And in the end, you become the opposite of tarnished. And I think making mistakes and learning from them makes you clean.

Ok I’m always a sassy ball of shit but I’ve never taken the time to actually thank you guys for being so amazing, supportive, and hilarious. This blog would be nothing without your submissions (i.e. your horrible experiences lol) and I’m so happy that we could take a shared experience and make it into something so big. I was just looking at the follower count and I was like, “Wow. I was feeling really angsty about boys one day and thought “maybe I’m not alone let’s see what happens” and then 220,000 (and Aziz Ansari what the poop???) of you were like “bruh same” and ugh oh my god I’m gonna cry.

I complain all the time about how many messages we get (over 24k right now) but most of that is just super nice, super sweet messages from you guys that make us smile like goofs. We only ever post the negative ones because comedy and w/e but it just makes everything really negative so I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for keeping this blog running, for sharing it, for laughing/crying over it. Many hearts and much love 2 u <3

“I never liked being in between. I’m the kind of person who goes for extremes. I go for either gray or black; way up or six feet under. But I don’t mind being wrapped up in between you arms if that means you’ll hold me like that ‘til the end of time.”

“I’m worried I may never find a romantic partner. As soon as the person I am eyeing off does something I don’t agree with or I think is problematic, I’m able to shut down any feelings right then and there, as if I felt nothing for them in the first place.”

quick update for everyone bc I just found out: DESCENDANTS GOT 8M VIEWS IN TOTAL SO FAR (6.6 MILLION VIEWS FROM THE PREMIERE ON FRIDAY AND 1.4M ON THE DISNEY APP PAST WEEK) AND IT BASICALLY SURPASSED THE FIRST HSM MOVIE AND IT’S GETTING HIGH RATED REVIEWS FROM CRITICS ALONG WITH THE MOVIE HITTING #1 ON ITUNES AND THE SOUNDTRACK HITTING #2 ALBUM ON THE REGULAR ITUNES CHARTS (IT ALSO PEEKED #1 FROM JUST PRE-ORDERS ON THE ITUNES SOUNDTRACK CHARTS)