For the life of me I can’t understand why black women are upset by the statements made by the self proclaimed King of White Women, known as Polow Da Don. Apparently Polow expressed his love of dating women and gave his reasons why. In an interview he gave with allhiphop.com Polow was quoted as saying “I ain’t self proclaimed but I run with it. [Laughs] There was a stage in my life where I went crazy with dating white women. I have nothing against black women, but they’re raised differently. White women are raised to respect and serve their men. Black women are taught to question [their men]. Black women look at submission as being weak. White women look at submission as being a woman. And anyone who has a problem with this statement is ignorant. Just look at the divine order: it goes God, man, woman, child.”

I must agree that if you are a black woman and you are offended by this statement, then you are just as Polow stated…ignorant. The statement “white women are raised to respect and serve their man” should be enough to not want to be included in this class of woman in the first place. RESPECT and SERVE…what am I your partner or your servant? How weak is a man that he needs to be served by his woman in order to feel that he is fulfilling the “divine order“? Then the “black women look at submission as being weak“…well it is. I’m sorry, but black women are raised to know that time spent with a man is not guaranteed and that any moment…he could be gone. The strength to keep it moving with or without a man is the virtue of the black woman. “Black women are taught to question their man“…well yeah…what dummy follows anyone blindly or believes everything she is told without using the common sense to ask for some details. If a man has nothing to hide then the questions are just a part of the everyday nagging that women as a species are prone to do. Apparently the man with something to hide needs blind trust because questions would require answers that he’s not prepared to give. So black women, please don’t be ignorant and look at Polow’s comments as an insult but as a testiment to the strength, virtue and apparently common sense of black women. Thanks Polow…I knew I was a smart girl.

White women on the other hand, especially those with immediate access to Polow, need to slap the crap out of him on first sight. White women are submissive, keep their mouths closed and do what they are told is what I got from Polow’s comment. It makes all white women sould like they have the mind of children and need a father figure to care for them at all times. White women don’t question their men…yes, I guess that is why you never hear white men complaining about their nagging wives or girlfriends…sarcasm of course. All women question their men, black, white, chinese it doesn’t matter that is the nature of being a woman. We want to know the what, when, where, how and why. So for him to imply that white women don’t ask questions of their men makes white women sound dumb, as in you could tell her anything and she would believe it. According to Polow’s theory, there are no strong willed, self supported, mistrusting white women and that all white women take the submissive role…white women your blood should be boiling!

Maybe it’s just the white women who date black men…that can’t be it. A friend of mine only dates black men and she’s quite the little spitfire. She’ s also mistrusting of her man and calls him continuosly questioning his whereabouts and whom he’s currently surrounded by. I have riden with her as she gone flying across town to one of his buddies house with bat in hand to confront him and his suspected mistress, which turned out to just be him and some guys playing cards. We have also been in public when she’s asked him quite vocally “what the hell are you looking at” when she has caught his wandering eye…with my husband whom I’m very proud and apparently lucky to have said “Oh my God, I am so glad you don’t act like that.” Then there is another friend of mine, white, who is constantly looking for a negative reaction to her relationship with her black man. She grabs his hand in public if an attrctive black woman approaches or calls out “baby” to him in public venues to assure that everyone knows that “Yes, this is my black man”. Then there is friend of mine who is black and I think the weakest, most submissive woman on the planet, who cooked, cleaned and made love to her man anywhere on command. She never questioned him on anything, even our white girlfriends were like damn she’s stupid and he still packed his bags and left her for a white girl that was loud and ghetto. These stereotypes about black and white women being so different are just that stereotypes. No woman want to be taken advantage of regardless of race, but according to Polow white women are willing candidates for that type of relationship.

My best friend happens to be white and her husband is black and we share the same ideology on relationships and she has what I consider a true parnership with her husband. They respect each other enough to serve each other. She questions his whereabouts and time of return out of concern and availability, not mistrust. She understands that there is no submission, only compromise and that compromise is key in a lasting relationship. These are the things that I also believe in and practice in my relationship because these things are neither black nor white. They are just that makings of a good woman loving both herself and her man.