“So, what’s it to you — and really, this is the crucial question — what she/they worries about? How does it improve your life to slam her/they for a concern that’s absolutely irrelevant to your existence? Do her/their worries about what her/their friends say when she/they isn’t around harm you? If so, how do you expect your nasty response to help protect you from such harm?”

It’s nothing to me, ultimately. I’m eating my lunch, reading my subscriptions and see this article which makes me believe that the author is actually delusional. Here’s the definition so we’re sure we’re talking about the same thing. delusion: an idiosyncratic belief or impression that is firmly maintained despite being contradicted by what is generally accepted as reality or rational argument, typically a symptom of mental disorder.

Thus, my desire to implore Ms. Escobar to seek professional help. To expect to unilaterally decide that you don’t belong to any gender and ask the world (or a small piece of it) to go along with your delusion to the point of obsessing if they do or not when you’re not present, is reminiscent of that time Kramer wanted to opt out of receiving mail on Seinfeld. The world didn’t care that he didn’t want mail, junk or otherwise. It was going to keep coming because that’s what mail is about, others sending you things. Not you deciding what gets sent.

When Ms. Escobar attempts to control what other people call her, and obsesses to the point of publication over their participation, in private, then it’s a sign she has an issue.

I think the far “nastier” harm done is in enabling her delusion or belief that she’s made a reasonable argument in print. She’s made a positive argument and supposes others should not only agree, but consent to her desire to be referred to in a special context. Again I say, call yourself a Brazilian tree-frog demi-god, but don’t (rationally) expect anyone else to go along with it.

To conclude with your direct responses — it matters to me not a whiff, but that’s not why I wrote a response. I imagine I did it for the same reasons you wrote a response of your own — or multiples rather. Because you have a point of view and you’d like it to be known. Cool.

“I’d be fascinated by your responses to these questions — though I don’t expect you’ll share them.” — You’re welcome.