Six Important Messages About The Mind That Will Change Your Life Forever

If you have followed me a while you will notice that I don’t actually dispense love advice, rather mainly how to be love itself. This is what makes me stand out from the rest. To immerse in and become love is simply to drop the mind. But to drop the mind requires you to understand what the mind is and how it works.

Here are five important messages you can start cultivating and meditating on and that will change your life forever:

1. To know how the mind works you have to separate yourself from the mind. You need to practice creating that gap between you and your thoughts. Only then you can observe in a detached fashion like a scientist observing natural phenomena.

When you know the origin of thoughts, you see through their illusory nature. Only then you will also understand the the mechanics of the disappearance of thoughts. Thoughts can only disappear when you no longer see their benefits but instead you see objectively their destructive effects.

Only when thinking or continuing on a thought is a matter of choice you have attained self-mastery.

You will no longer duped by them. Simply put: depression is a sign of believing in every damning I-thought. It’s a mind that is DUPED big time. It’s very overwhelming. Only when you have tasted the experience of no thought (no mind) you will experience the taste of life without any depression/anguish/suffering at all.

This is what liberation is all about and it is doable in this lifetime as I have attained it myself.

2. Since the mind (ego) will always inquire and seek, I found out that it wouldn’t be quiet till it had exhausted every avenue. Then it would know it can’t know everything and let go. Hence my inner work program Journey Inward gives the appearance of the whys of this and that so one day you’ll just let go all this “knowledge” cause it doesn’t serve a purpose anymore. It doesn’t matter anymore. Acceptance will come naturally when the mind is totally exhausted and seeing its own limitations. To tell a newbie to just accept is a tall order cause the mind will resist.

I used to have an idea of what the Buddha’s enlightenment was: he could see this life, past and future lives and how lives (the universe) come to be, etc…all this superpower stuff. But that is the ego that always seeks to figure everything out. The Buddha came to that realization when he had tried all methods under the sun and he got exhausted, deprived and nearly killed himself with starvation. That’s all ego. The truth was much closer than he thought it was. Just be here, now…stop running and seeking. Be okay with what is…that’s all to it.

Enlightenment isn’t about gaining more knowledge or the ultimate knowledge, it’s about extinction of all egoic drives (hence it’s called Nirvana which means extinction or disappearance).

He didn’t become a super man, he became an egoless man. He didn’t add more to himself, he shed all of himself to come to the center of it all which was Emptiness.

3. Most people operate from the level of consciousness that is limited to thoughts. They are lost in them day-in day-out. They have no control whatsoever of which thoughts appear and which grab hold of their awareness and creating so much mayhem in their lives cause they take every thought they think as the truth and their reality.

The level of consciousness transcending thoughts is called awareness. You can cultivate awareness by practicing mindfulness meditation.

“Risk everything for awareness, but never risk awareness for anything. This is the commitment of a sannyasin: that he is ready to lose his life but not his awareness; he has found a value which is higher than life. There is no other value which is higher than awareness. Awareness is the seed of godliness in you. When it comes to its full growth, you have come to the fulfillment of your destiny. As your goes deeper, your actions may not be efficient but they will have a new quality, the quality of grace, which is far more valuable. No machine can have the quality of grace. Your actions, your words will have a beauty of their own.

The way a man of awareness lives, each moment is filled with tremendous grace and beauty. It is reflected in his actions, even in the smallest actions – just in the gesture of his hand or just the way he looks; in the depth of his eyes or the authority of his words or the music of his silence. His very presence is a celebration.” ~Osho

When you gain skills to understand how the mind works and how it binds you, over time you just know not to think and only think when you need to. It’s freedom when you get to that point. You feel this spaciousness all around you cause you vibrate from a higher level of consciousness: the level that doesn’t poisoned by mundane useless thoughts. Your life starts to change dramatically from that point on. You have more energy and focus to work on what really matters and what you focus on expands and you’ll vibrate higher and higher.

And you become an empty vessel which doesn’t take blows but only allowing them to go through you. You’re like a teflon cause nothing sticks nor can hurt you. You have no definition of self anymore. It’s fluid and changing moment to moment cause you have dropped all the stories that you thought were you. You are undefined and boundless.

4. To be egoless means to relax. To be egoless doesn’t take energy cause there is no tension in a state of egolessness. To identify with the ego requires thinking. To think requires energy. To fight, to resist requires energy. To be miserable requires energy. To let go, to surrender, to accept and to be joyful doesn’t require energy. Our natural state of being requires no energy and that is what egolessness is.

To just be is to experience the state of egolessness.

You can just be while creating and building. In fact best builders and creators are those who know to just be. They’re one with the tasks they’re doing, instead of resisting them. Idle people often don’t know how to just be cause their lofty idealism is in the way. They want something that isn’t here and they think thinking about it some more will help them get it. Idleness combined with idealistic thinking creates impulses that end in mayhem. That’s the sickness of the human mind.

Your view of the world is related to your self-conception/ego. The more dogmatic you are to any school of thought, the thicker the ego is, the more likely you will have problems with men. So look at your reaction when you get so easily offended by what people say. The likelihood is you take offense to every little thing guys say too. Who has the time to take care of your feelings 24/7? I certainly don’t.

5. Learn and practice direct perception. Direct perception doesn’t lie. It doesn’t have the motive the ego has. And the ego is none other than the mind. The mind is so filled to the brim with conceptions and preconception, should and must haves. It’s the screen through which you perceive the world. You filter out what’s beyond your awareness. So be very careful about locking yourself up into a position. Where you stand from you can only see one side of any situation. There’s the other side you never know about and they feel just as strongly as you do.

“An idealist is a hypocrite, because he is always trying to become what he is not, instead of being and understanding what he is.” J. Krishnamurti

Change isn’t brought about by idealism. I didn’t get to be successful because I was an idealist. I am successful because I’m a realist. I don’t resist what is in front of me. I work around it and make it work. I have both feet firmly planted in the ground. What brings about change is necessity and organic growth. It has to be organic for it to have a long term effect. It can’t be forced which is what idealism is all about. It’s a mere denial of reality clothed in a lofty concept.

Idealists are often tribalists. Their refusal to face reality square in the face brings so much resistances inside. Their focus is on lack, instead of abundance. As you grow spiritually idealism is replaced with radical acceptance of what is and the uncanny capacity to see everything in the big picture. There is no more drive inside to become somebody other than oneself moment to moment, to deceive oneself and others just to appease. To disguise and cloak, to speak other than the honest truth that the heart perceives and feels. One has become simply witnessing awareness that doesn’t cling nor reject.

An idealist thinks and thinks some more. They’re at odds with the world and the world renounces them and they fight it some more. A realist works with reality and transforms it in the process.

6. The shadow is the last piece of the puzzle. Embracing your shadow means embracing your dark side, the side of you that you have repressed because you’ve been told how bad and wrong it is. Come to terms with it. Accept that you are sometimes rude, nasty, judgmental, arrogant, manipulative, selfish, prejudiced, sexist, racist, jealous, impatient, controlling, etc. When you accept it the very trait dissipates cause it’s not being resisted so no more complication is brought about.

Those who resist it begin to look outside to shift what feels repulsive to them onto others so they are spared from the pain of admitting that the ego is not flawed. Then the cycle of victimhood starts. It’s all other people’s faults. The ego is a mere victim of other people’s imperfection and evilness. It’s much easier to point finger than admit one’s flaws…seemingly…. but it’s really not.

Once you accept you’re flawed you can now relax and just be you because you love yourself enough to accept all of you: the dark and the light. You are then whole and complete. When self-compassion arises, compassion for others follow. Love and accept yourself first before you can love and accept others.

When you are resisting and repressing the unsavory side of you, you’re going to project it onto other people.

“Let everything arise out of your awareness. And the miracle of awareness is that without your saying anything, without your doing anything, it simply dissolves all that is ugly in you into all that is beautiful.

Awareness is a transforming force. Whatsoever deepens with your awareness is virtue. Whatsoever disappears with your awareness is sin.

I don’t label any act as sin, virtue, right, wrong – acts don’t have that quality. It is your awareness. Just try it and you will be simply amazed that there are things in you which cannot stand in front of awareness, they simply disappear.

Awareness functions almost like magic.” ~Osho

When somebody triggers you it’s because you reject that part of you that you are now projecting onto them. It’s not about them. It’s about you. That is what judgment is vis a vis discernment. In my line of work it takes a lot of discernment on my part so I can help you out of your predicament so I must say things about you that will look like judgment to others (who haven’t done their inner work). The difference is in the acceptance and motive. Judgment’s motive is self-deception, self-aggrandizement. Discernment motive is to help, to clarify and there is acceptance in there.

This direct realization of the nature of mind perception will bring you into a world of existence that so vastly differs to the one you’re living at the moment. I’ll talk in great depth in our upcoming Feminine Magnetism retreat that will take place on September 1-4, 2017 at my home in San Diego county. Currently, registration has opened with early bird specials ($400 OFF). Reserve your seat cause we only take 40 people max.

All meals are included, cooked by a gourmet chef. This is a rare opportunity to really explore your true nature in an idyllic, tranquil and safe environment in which you’ll be accepted as you are. You will learn self-acceptance and how to heal your split mind that creates so much discord and anguish in your life. The very wounds that prevent you from having a healthy relationship because so long you aren’t balanced you’re going to always project your repressed/denied broken self on others, especially your partner. The notion and insights of salvation through relationship (which will start on July 1 as part of online Feminine Magnetism group coaching) will also be introduced in this very deep first retreat.

And of course we’ll have some night of fun as well on the Saturday or Sunday. Enjoy free socializing in the hot tub (bring your swimming costume), free flowing of champagne and (live) music.

The early bird specials will end on June 30, 2017.

Rest and recharge and be prepared to walk away with a new pair of glasses. You will learn so much self-mastery in this retreat you will want to come every year.

When you’re ready to learn the ins and outs of being a master to your own mind, sign up for Module 1 Feminine Magnetism: Journey Inward. This knowledge will change the way you see the world FOREVER. Your life will turn upside down. Love, abundance, wealth, success and peace will come your way.

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Hi Katarina,
I have a general observation about EUMs and converting EUMs into ‘EAs’. I don’t think EUMs are ever converted, I think that is their personality, that is the way a man is and will always be. Deep down he has an ego problem and will never commit.

Before I knew what an EUM was, I was seeing a guy like this for 2 years on and off. When I lost attraction towards him he stepped up and he asked for a relationship, it was too late for me, I felt nothing. Now a few years later, he is married. I would not have known had he not had engagement pictures on whatsapp. He has tried to contact me to go out on a date. I don’t think even after these kinds of guys step up and commit to relationship that it means anything.