According to psychologists, fetish is a non-sexual behavior that make people sexually aroused. The word “fetish” has been used interchangeably with kink in sexual context for a long time. It is an activity that excites a person outside the norm of the traditional sex.

Nearly everyone has a sexual fetish, although very few would openly admit to it. Whether preferring one part of the anatomy of your partner over another, falls under the fetish bucket. According to research, a sexual fetish can also be from either childhood experiences or learned. Let’s look at the top ten sexual fetishes for men and womens

Spanking

This is one of the most common fetishes. It is as a result of childhood experiences, according to author and sexual expert, Nichi Hodgson. Although when one is young, they don’t perceive this as erotic. When they grow older, the perception changes and the discomfort felt as a child starts becoming a turn on. Note that spanking involves striking the buttocks – there a lot of nerves in the buttocks – which makes the slap very desirable!

Foot Fetish

This is a common fetish, especially for men, which involves worshipping feet through massage, kissing and smelling. Foot fetishists are often turned on by the sight of a foot which can either encompass shoes and stockings as well. Others just by looking at a bare foot, they want to lick or suck the toes. Others would even fantasize on tearing the stocking with their teeth before they get to the main prize; foot. Others are turned on by this because the foot leads to the genitals.

Gerontophilia

The word is derived from a Greek word “geron” meaning “old man or woman”. This is obsessive sexual attraction that older men and women feel for younger men and women. It is common for both genders and doesn’t necessarily have to be a pedophile in nature. For women, it can originate from childhood experiences. For example, if the woman in question grew up without a father, they tend to be attracted to older men to fill that void.

Role Playing

Playing make-believe doesn’t stop when you grow up. Role playing is acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner. It ranges from school girl/teacher scenes, doctor/patient scenes, and even more taboo scenes like daddy/brat. Although there is a huge stigma on this, some people love it and cannot have sex without calling someone “daddy”.

Lingerie

This is a common one and most perverted as some obsessed men steal underwear from a clothing line just to satisfy their fetishes. Sexy underwear can be a sexual stimulation to some people. Some experience sexual excitement from wearing a certain lingerie while others like observing the sexy wear on somebody else.

Breasts and Buttocks

Fetishists obsessed with this are highly selective about their partners. They tend to be physically attracted to people with these attributes, for example, big bouncy breasts or large behinds. While they may want to connect emotionally with their partners, these physical attributes are what turns them on. It is no wonder we have so many women undergo boob or butt jobs to fulfil their men’s desire.

BDSM

As the initials suggest, this involves bondage, dominance, submission, sadomasochism and other related activities. Why the fetish for BDSM? This has a lot to do with control. Domination and submission is a power exchange whereby the dominant controls the submissive. It involves pain and pleasure all in one breath. One can refrain their partner with a rope or a belt. Whatever used, ensure that it is not too tight as to cause harm. Use safe words to establish boundaries and ensure consent in every step of the way.

Don’t feel embarrassed when your partner ties you up like a sacrificial lamb. Research has shown that those who practice this fetish are psychologically healthier, more vigilant and less stressed.

Voyeurism

Studies have shown that human beings have a fascination for nudity and other’s sexuality. Whether watching on the television or live in person, some people derive pleasure from watching other people in action or allowing others watch them. Threesome is a voyeur’s ultimate turn on as it offers plenty of watching.

Voyeurism can also happen by just seeing a naked body. This one is mostly common in men, who enjoy pornographic materials. Although it involves spying on people, never become a peeping tom and do that without their knowledge. This can be illegal in some countries!

Hair Fetish

While some might not see anything appealing about the hair, the sight of it, whether on the head, chest, armpits or pubic hair can cause an arousal. Some women are also attracted by a bit of stubble on the jaw.

Women with gorgeous manes are more attractive to men. Whether a brunette, redhead or blonde, it depends on the partner. The head has a lot of nerve endings and some people tend to be sexually stimulated by long hair up in a ponytail which they can pull during sex. Remember, consent between partners is extremely important with anything that can cause physical pain.

It’s not just long hair that excites the partner. Some, mostly women, are attracted to bald men.

Tattoo Fetish

This can go in two ways; a tattoo on another person can cause sexual stimulation while others are aroused by getting a tattoo. This is commonly seen in young people. A tattoo, especially on women, was once viewed as a taboo hence off limits. It was associated with being “bad”. And everyone knows a bad girl or boy is more fun, right?

As noted, some fetishes overlap one another. For example, stockings fall under lingerie, which cause arousal for some people, a fetish that can overlap with a love of feet. Another example is when someone gets off by watching another person put on underwear, can fall under the acts of voyeurism.

Repressing sexual fetishes can take a toll on a relationship. Communicate with your partner for consent to improve your sex life. Unless your sexual fetish is pedophile in nature, there’s no reason to feel ashamed. It’s perfectly normal!

Voice Fetish

Many individuals, like to hear a soft and kind voice to get quickly excited, specially 65% of men are sensitive to a sweet & kind voice. Many individuals actually try phone chat lines to get excited before any sexual act.

It is going around for last 3 months and I am quite upset with the things going on in our relationship. We are in relationship for last 3 years and we were like an ideal couple.

Sorry!! I forgot to mention myself. I am Myra and I am 29 years old and sharing a great partnership with my boyfriend, Dave Johnson. I remember Dave since when we met first time in 2013 in our college but at that time he was a very shy guy and wasn’t like an open book with everyone.

On the other hand, I was like a cheerleader (not in those manners) but I was open for everyone and had a great relationship with boys as well as girls during my college days. But of course! I was not interested in anyone including Dave as well.

But again I encountered Dave in 2015 when he was appointed as the Marketing Head adjacent to my company in Silicon Valley. At first sight, we both couldn’t recognize each other but soon after we became like close friends, then we felt starting like soul mates after-wards.

But finally likes of three months I am feeling very dull response in our relationship. First I thought it was normal and it happens sometimes. But like in December 2018 weekend he was not with me and I was with my family. It happened and I didn’t take it seriously.

Now when I saw him not very interested in me during the first weekend in January, I tried to spy on her phone and laptop; don’t blame – everyone does it. And here I found something that he was hiding from me for last 1 year.

I was like who to tell it or how to tell it? He was everything for me and I didn’t believe he could have done such with me. He was calling and chatting with single or “finding single boys” cougars for these whole months??? Oh gosh! It was like a hell dream.

While spying on his laptop I found the websites related to “chat lines” where people can enjoy some free minutes, I think around 60, with the other hunting for the suitable ones within their reach and spend some good time on chat or on call for free, without spending anything. That’s what he was doing.

This website has such good features that anyone can contact anyone through chat lines through the numbers available on site and make is free time enjoyable. I am very upset about it. Can anyone suggest me?

Should I join the site and make most of my time enjoyable with this site

Or should I leave my boyfriend?

I hope I should leave him as he isn’t reliable and I can find another one using the chat lines numbers and this time I will find the most suitable one who won’t leave me alone again.

It was a true story from Myra and I have now decided to join this site.