Report To Annual SASS Convention Pt 3

By Paula Andante

PART III

MRS. JAMES: “Welcome back. From my conversations with a few of you, I’m pleased to hear that you enjoyed this morning’s workshops. All three will repeated later this afternoon, so you’ll have an opportunity to attend a second of these informative sessions in a little while.

As I said earlier, I’m really happy to see such a large turn-out at this session. American women are beginning to get our message, ladies, and not a moment too soon. We can establish a matriarchal society and save the fabric of this country in the process. (Applause)

“Every time I hear a wife complaining about her husband’s bad habits, I want to ask her why she doesn’t do something about it. We all know that the vast majority of men are just little boys at heart. Painful and humiliating punishment is the most effective way to get through to them. (Applause)

“It really is a wonder that all wives haven’t caught on to what is an amazingly simple formula for marital bliss. My own husband was no different than most men. He was well intentioned, but nevertheless often inattentive and insensitive. He wasn’t helpful around the house, often forgot important events like our anniversary, and frequently didn’t listen to me when I spoke to him. Then a friend introduced me to the concept of Marital Corporal Punishment and everything changed. Now he knows that if he gets me upset, he’s going over my knee for a bare-bottom paddling and his behavior has made a complete turn around. (Applause)

“I’m delighted to be able to introduce our second speaker today. She is the friend who changed my life, the woman who introduced me to the concepts that have made my marriage, indeed my entire life, a happy one. Her name, of course, is Janet Brown. Many of you know Janet, at least by reputation. She has been a vocal advocate of our movement since its inception, a member of the SASS Board of Directors, and an unwavering source of support to wives everywhere as they have begun to wake up to their responsibilities. I could go on about her fiercely held opinions, but she will articulate her own views better than I possibly could. Let me simply introduce her and let you hear her for yourselves.

“Ladies, it is indeed a privilege to introduce Janet Brown! (Applause)

MS. BROWN: Thank you, Marge, for those kind words. I hope I’ll be able to live up to your expectations. Ladies, I only know of one way to speak to you about husband-spanking — and that is from the heart. (Applause)

“I received a letter from a housewife in the Midwest recently. I’d just like to read one paragraph:

‘Spanking is the best thing that ever happened to my marriage. My husband and I never fight anymore. In the past when he did something that aggravated me, I often wouldn’t speak to him for several days. Now I confront him immediately and we either resolve the problem by clarifying what has happened or he admits he’s wrong and submits to punishment. I take my frustrations out on his backside and we are able to go on from there without further rancor.’

“There’s nothing unusual about this letter. I’ve taken the time to read it to you because it so succinctly states the simple message that SASS has been trying to communicate for years. The fact that so many of you are here at this Annual Convention indicates that we are making progress. I urge you to join me in spreading the word to our sisters everywhere. (Applause)

“Many uninitiated wives ask why a husband would submit to the childish and humiliating treatment that is inherent in the SASS philosophy. This is a question I encourage you to ask every assertive wife in this room. Our answers will vary, of course, but they will enlighten. “Some of us will maintain that our husbands have no choice. We’ve told our mates when we first introduced them to our new punishment routine that if they didn’t agree to our terms, we would leave them. “Some will assert that their husbands submit because they know they deserve exactly what they get. These women will make it clear that they only spank when their husband’s behavior warrants it. They explain what he’s done wrong and make certain he understands that he must be made to pay for his offenses. “Others of us will argue that our men would prefer to get spanked than to have an angry wife withholding sex for a week or two. At least this way, he gets it over with. “Then there are those among us who are physically stronger than their partners. If one of these husbands resists, his punishment will only be worse, so he knows it’s wisest to submit. “Finally, of course, a large number of you will point out that in some strange way, your man seems to actually like it when you take charge! They know that their husbands are invariably aroused when their pants are taken down for punishment. Although they beg, plead, and cry while they are being chastised, there’s an element of all this that appears to appeal to them. The reason, I am certain, is that they are relieved that someone more competent than them has taken charge. “All of these reasons are valid, my friends. And, of course, in the final analysis, they are irrelevant. Use whatever rationale works for you. The important thing is to establish your position as disciplinarian in your marriage. Once you’ve done that, you won’t have to worry about the reasons your husband is submissive. You — and he — will simply accept the fact that things have finally reached their natural order. (Applause)

“I mentioned that many of you have found some evidence of sexual excitement on your husband’s part before and/or after a spanking. While I encourage you to take advantage of this natural indication of male weakness, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of refusing to tolerate it. Make certain that a pre-spanking erection always results in more severe punishment than you originally planned. Your man will feel guilty about his arousal, my friends. Use that guilt to your advantage and you’ll be in full control in no time at all! (Applause)

“I’m certain most of you know this, but just in case, let me make it clear that you must be absolutely certain that your husbands do not enjoy their spankings. There is a fine line here, but it is one that you cannot allow him to cross. A man who regards spanking as pleasurable will intentionally misbehave in order to get more pleasure. So make sure the punishment element prevails each and every time you deal with your naughty mate.

“I don’t pretend to fully understand his reaction, but for some reason my own husband clearly is aroused when he is about to be punished like a small boy. Once I begin to apply my hand, hairbrush or strap to his backside, however, his arousal always wanes. I’ve no doubt that he hates the pain and the shame of a sound punishment session.”

“Some of you may wonder how I ever learned about corporal punishment and began using it to save my marriage. My story is hardly unusual, except perhaps for its happy ending. Joe and I had been married for a nearly two years. Our daughter, Nancy, was about six months old and I was on the verge of breaking up our marriage. Joe, who at one time had been a sensitive and loving companion, was becoming a typical, factory-working husband. He was spending nearly every night at a local tavern, leaving me with the baby, and playing no role in our home. I’d seen this in my own father and other men in our area and I’d told Joe before we were married that I wouldn’t stand for it. I was ready to put my foot down, take Nancy, and move out.

“It was at this time that I had a fateful conversation with my next-door neighbor, a successful business woman whose husband seemed completely devoted to her. To make a long story short, I unburdened myself to her and she told me the secret to the success of her own marriage. I decided to make one final attempt with Joe. Either he would be subject to the same rules as Mr. Wright, the man next door, or our marriage was over. Needless to say, he agreed to my terms and that has made all the difference. Since then, I’ve taken every opportunity to return the favor that Mrs. Wright did for me. I’ve advised countless women on how to take charge of their marriage and have found great satisfaction when they’ve achieved their naturally dominant position. Listening to Marge Dawson’s kind words a few moments ago provides all the motivation I need to continue to spread the word about SASS and its matriarchal objectives. (Applause)

“As you might expect, Joe was surprised when I told him that I intended to put him on a strict regime of corporal punishment in order to make him a model husband. In fact, at first he simply didn’t believe me. The fact that I’d packed my suitcase convinced him, however, and he got his first spanking that very night. (Applause) . “I was completely inexperienced, of course, but I had two things going for me. First, Mrs. Wright had given me some expert advice and second, I was a very angry young woman. I told Joe to go up to our bedroom, take off all his clothes, and wait for me. When I entered the room he was sitting on the bed with a boyish grin on his face and sporting a full erection! To say I was irate is a huge understatement. I mean, I was intent on punishing him and he was ready to have sex!

“‘How dare you?’ was not the only phrase I used as I angrily expressed my feelings. I only became angrier at his feeble ‘I can’t help it’ response. I definitely didn’t want to be looking at his stiff penis, so I told him to hide himself from my sight. The corner of the room seemed an appropriate place to hide his arousal and wait for his punishment, so I ordered him to go stand there immediately. He meekly obeyed and I realized for the first time how much power I had over the man I’d married. Of course, at that moment I was expressing my anger, telling him how much he was going to regret his thoughtlessness and that his inappropriate lust was just getting him in deeper trouble.

“So you see, I’d never planned to have him stand with his nose in the corner like a naughty little boy. I sent him there in anger, but in fact, he looked so cute and vulnerable standing there that I have made pre-spanking corner time a part of his normal punishment routine ever since. To this day, Joe always spends some pre-spanking time in the corner whenever I deal with him. (Applause)

“To make a long story short, I took Joe over my knee that night and beat his bare behind with a heavy wooden hairbrush until he was crying like a baby. I vented a lot of anger and Joe learned a valuable lesson. Since that night, I’ve never hesitated to take him in hand whenever he gets out of line.

“I learned early on that Joe needed to be dealt with on a regular basis. Otherwise he fell into bad habits very quickly. After some experimenting, I settled on a system that SASS recommends to all its members. I made Friday night ‘punishment night,’ a regularly scheduled, weekly time to review Joe’s behavior and to administer needed correction.

“Serious offenses are penalized immediately, of course, but the need for these punishments has become quite rare over the years. I keep a list of things that Joe has done that warrant punishment during the course of the week and I insist that he keep a similar list. On Friday evenings he reads his list to me and I compare it with my own. I consider both the number of offenses and their seriousness in determining each week’s punishment. He gets double the normal penalty for each item on my list that isn’t on his. Interestingly, however, his list often includes offenses that aren’t on mine. Of course, I also deal with these appropriately.

“This system has many advantages. Most importantly it requires Joe to admit his own offenses. He can hardly object to being punished after acknowledging his own wrongdoings, can he? It also ‘cleans the slate’ once each week. Joe knows that I completely forgive any offenses as soon as he’s been punished for them. So, once a week he knows he’s in my good graces. The weekly session works well for newcomers to husband spanking. They don’t have to worry about whether they should spank their men for relatively minor offenses or question whether the frequency of their husbands’ spankings is appropriate. If you’re not already using this structured approach with your own husband, I’d advise you to give it a try when you get back home.

“I don’t think any active member of SASS will be surprised to hear that there’s never been a Friday evening when I have nothing on my list. (Laughter) I am quite strict with Joe and insist on maintaining very high standards. The fact is that on some level he needs his weekly session over my knee. It reminds him of his place in the scheme of things and seems to relieve his stress and irritation.

“Many of you have families and wonder how it’s possible to be a stern wife when you have children underfoot. Personally I never tried to hide the fact of her father’s spankings from my daughter, Nancy. To do so would have been impossible, since he has a tendency to plead quite loudly in certain circumstances. (More laughter) More importantly, attempting to deceive her would have been patently dishonest. I knew Nancy would have to take up spanking herself when she left home to get married, so I wanted her to grow up in a situation in which corporal punishment, administered by a wife to her husband was the norm — as it should be in every household. (Applause)

“It seemed natural to her for her father to be disciplined when he misbehaved. I did, however, make certain that Nancy never witnessed her father’s punishments. I’m certain that on many Friday nights, she lay in her bed listening to the sounds of my hairbrush striking Joe’s bottom and his pleas for mercy, but I protected her father’s dignity by making certain that his punishments were administered behind closed doors.

“Marge has asked me to discuss in more detail the sexual arousal which nearly all of our husbands exhibit prior to and sometimes after their spankings. Many women who are new to the utilization of corporal punishment in their marriage see this as a barrier to effective discipline. After all, they reason, if he associates his punishments with sexual pleasure, are they really punishments? If you, or the women you may be trying to convert to your way of thinking, have these doubts, let me relieve you of them.

“I’ve learned to expect that Joe will be erect when I bare his behind for a spanking. The occasions on which he isn’t are rare indeed. I learned long ago, however, that this reaction is not an indication that he enjoys his punishments. His excitement invariably wanes as soon as he begins to feel the sting of the hairbrush or the strap. I’ve come to the conclusion that he has an exhibitionistic streak in him and that appearing naked before me is an erotic experience for him. Of course, I’ve never revealed this conclusion to him. Instead I use his excitement as a basis to humiliate him by feigning great anger over his lack of self-control — and I always add at least a few extra spanks to his sentence for his display of lust.

“Perhaps an account of what happened at our house last Friday night would best illustrate all that I’m trying to say here. Last week was as ‘typical’ as any other. I had three items on my list. First there was the fact that Joe had forgotten to put the thrash out before going to work on Monday. He’d overslept and had to rush to avoid being late for work, but that’s no excuse in my book. He knows that he will be held responsible for his own actions and the fact is that he hadn’t set his alarm the night before. I’d had to move two heavy barrels to the curb myself and Joe knows he he’s in trouble anytime I have to do one of his chores. Secondly, I’d asked him to drop a book off at Nancy’s on Monday and in his own words, he ‘completely forgot’ and didn’t do it until Wednesday. Third, he’d allowed my supply of sherry to diminish to the point that when I’d asked him to pour me a second glass the previous Sunday evening, the bottle had been empty.

“I wasn’t surprised when Joe told me he had three items on his own list; I expected that the three I’ve mentioned were obvious and that he knew full well he’d be punished for them. When he read his list to me, however, he didn’t mention the sherry. In addition to the obvious items – not putting the thrash out and forgetting to deliver Nancy’s book –, he confessed to not sweeping out the garage like I’d asked him to do over a week ago. Frankly, I’d forgotten all about that chore, but I certainly wasn’t going to tell him that.

“I asked him if he expected to get away with such outright disobedience, as he stood before me looking mournfully at the slip of paper on which he’d recorded his offenses.

“He replied politely that he didn’t, but then added that the garage wasn’t really dirty anyway.

“He stammered an apology then bowed his head and awaited my next command. That is how a well-trained husband behaves, ladies! (Applause)

“I asked him why his list was incomplete, reminding him that I’d run out of sherry the previous Sunday. Surely he wasn’t proposing that such thoughtlessness on his part should go unpunished, was he?

“He knew he’d overlooked that incident and his concern showed on his face. He pleaded that he was sorry, that he’d meant to include it on his list. He knew it was his fault, that just forgetting was no excuse and that neglecting to include such an obvious faux-pas on his list was going to cost his sorry behind additional pain.

“In his nervousness, he actually called me by my first name. He, of course, knows better than to do so when he’s being punished. I insist that he address me as “Ma’am” on Friday evenings and he pays dearly whenever he forgets. I told him he was getting in deeper and deeper and that I was not going to tolerate these rebellious acts. Scoldings of this nature are an important part of punishment, ladies. Don’t neglect them in your zeal to put a man in his proper place. I concluded Joe’s lecture by informing him that he was in for a good hiding and asking if he knew he deserved it.

“He knew better than to argue, of course, and abjectly hung his head and agreed.

“I told him go upstairs immediately to prepare himself for punishment, adding that he should take both the hairbrush and the strap out for me.

“He obviously wanted to protest, but thought better of it, so he turned and left the room. Our routine calls for him to go to our room, lay whatever implements of punishment I’ve selected on the bed, strip to his under shorts, and take his position in the corner. There was no doubt in my mind that he would comply and when I entered our room about fifteen minutes later, he was indeed kneeling in the corner wearing only his boxer shorts, his hands clasped behind his neck. I looked at the hairbrush and the strap. They were in position on the bed, of course.

“As I approached him, I told him what a naughty boy he had been and then in one swift motion I bent and tugged his shorts down to his knees. I’ve come to realize that having me pull his pants down myself adds considerably to his humiliation, so I always insist on handling this detail myself. I pinched the skin of his right bottom cheek and as he writhed in discomfort, told him I would soon put some color in his cheeks.

“I got ready for bed, taking my time as I undressed and slipped into my nightclothes. By the time I was ready to deal with him, he’d been on his knees for nearly an hour. When I finally called him over to me, he was excited, as he always is. Perhaps it was the sight of me that caused this reaction — I was in a short black peignoir, so he could see my thighs and a fair amount of cleavage — but I doubt it. He gets aroused prior to a spanking regardless of how I’m dressed and I’m still convinced this has something to do with the fact that he’s totally exposed to me. He stood before me, his head down in embarrassment and I couldn’t resist the temptation to poke a finger at his rigid penis and remind him that his lack of self-control had once again been noted.

“I pointed to my lap and told him to get in position while reminding him that I know exactly what to do to alleviate his arousal. And, of course, I did. After a preliminary hand spanking, I administered eighty hard spanks with the hairbrush to his upturned bottom –twenty for each offense on my list and an additional twenty for not including the sherry incident on his own. Then I laid him across the bed and applied the strap to his writhing backside until he was crying and begging like a twelve-year old — that, of course, was for not cleaning the garage, addressing me inappropriately, and for his unauthorized pre-spanking erection When I finished, his behind was visibly bruised and I was confident he’d be reasonably well-behaved for another week.

“In a way this was an unusually severe session. He certainly couldn’t take one of these each and every week. However, he hadn’t had a strapping in several weeks and I know he gets restless if I go too long without using the leather on him. Besides, his remark about the garage not being dirty had angered me. I don’t tolerate that sort of insubordination.

“The question of whether a man should be consoled after his punishment is one that has been debated many times among SASS members. Some argue that it’s appropriate to soothe the contrite male like a mother would do to a naughty child after a spanking. They hold their man in their arms, tell him they’re sorry it was necessary to be so severe with him, and tell him if he’s good he’ll never be spanked again. Frequently these ministrations lead to sexual acts. Others insist that the only way to reinforce punishment is to send the naughty boy directly to bed, sometimes after having him spend some time in the corner. “Personally, I take a middle-of-the-road position on this issue. I usually permit Joe to go into the bathroom to wash his face and regain his self-control. When he returns, I have him kneel before me, apologize and thank me for spanking him. Since the act of punishing him usually arouses me, I grant him permission to pleasure me. More specifically, I permit him to perform oral sex until I achieve an orgasm or two, depending on my level of interest. I never engage in intercourse or provide pleasure to him. I’m in agreement with those who maintain that the idea of punishment would be violated by such an act. Still, he naturally becomes aroused again while pleasuring me, so, if he’s performed well, I allow him to masturbate while I watch with a look of bored tolerance on my face. I’m convinced that this routine reinforces his understanding that I am in charge in our marriage. (Applause)

“I mentioned my daughter earlier. She was married recently and those of you who know me will not be surprised to hear that I encouraged her to follow in my footsteps in dealing with her own husband. Nancy is with us today; she’s attending her first-ever SASS event and I’m delighted that she’s become a full-fledged member. I’ve asked her to say a few words to you, particularly to the younger members who may still be working up the courage to deal with their mates. And she’ll be doing so after this afternoon’s workshop sessions. We’re going to break for those now, so let me remind you that the workshop on punishment implements is taking place in Seminar Room #1, the discussion on whether husband spanking should be a private or public practice is in Seminar Room #2, and the dealing with the reluctant husband is in Seminar Room #3. Thank you for your attention this afternoon. I’ll see you again after the workshops.