A Little Something About The White Horse

In at least one point in your life, you’re going to be met with a situation where you want something you can’t have.

A white horse, from my knowledge, is that object you crave, but can never have. It’s always there, but just out of your reach. After time, the horse will eventually run, escaping your memory. But don’t breathe too easily, because it will soon be replaced by a new, shiny white horse. A white horse can be anything you want/need/crave/desire. In this case, we’ll talk about the most desired: Women.

Since I can remember, there has always been a white horse in my life. There are, of course, a few reasons that cause this to remain a white horse:

1. She’s too hot

This is a weird one for me. I am of the opinion that once I know the girl a little, that I am talking to her, then I’d be able to take it any direction I wanted. That was a while ago, and the Hot Girl was a big spanner in that thinking and confidence. I don’t know why, but I’m increasingly more intimidated with the Hot Girl. I know they’re just women too, but I just can’t seem to shake it. So, more so now, there seems to be one around.

2. She’s a friend

Tough one. I personally believe that platonic relationships are never truly possible. But, unless I’m 329% sure that the “times” are aligned, there’s no way I would ruin a good friendship.

3. She has a boyfriend

Or fiance. Or husband. This is a fun topic, isn’t it. You want a girl that has a guy. I, personally, would never try and break them up, because you should never be that person. But this person seems to always be someone you get along amazingly with. You never really have a shot at it, and if you try, you may be that guy forever.

4. The one I fucked up with

The one from the past who you seriously screwed up with, and of course, you only realise this when it’s far too late. You might be friends with this person now, or you no longer speak, but they’re always there in back of your mind. What-ifs are no good, though.

5. I just don’t have the balls

When I was in high school, there was this girl. Hot as the sun, we got on like crazy, but I just never did anything about it. This is the one occasion where I might feel regret about not doing anything because I really have no excuse.

Of course, these situations are amplified if they’re a combination of each other. Imagine 1, 2 and 3 were all one person. That’s three things to have to get around. And would you risk it?! But what if you were one of these people being talked about – What would you do?

A lot of people will argue that this would never effect them, but those are the same people that could go out and pick up anyone they’d like. And that’s not me, and I’m not the type of person to take that risk where I’d lose everything. But I think there comes a time where you need to risk it all?

So, which one do you think is around now, which one do you have around, what have I left out, which one are you or more importantly, what would you do…

There’ll always be someone that you’re interested in that’s not interested in you. There’ll always be someone interested in you that you’re not interested in. such is he weird dating food-chain of life.

Things change. people change. nothing is cast in stone. So best to have numbers 1 through 5 in your life than not. Go with the flow, and you never know…

Best advice I ever got: it’s all about timing. That, and have no expectations.

The “white horse” or unicorn is a very male dominated term though, and kinda makes us girls think that maybe he’s settling for you cos he cant’t have his unicorn.. an insecure thought I know, but we all have those days. But not to say that I am/was a “white horse” I was “number 3” and if he didnt have the guts to persue me, I wouldnt be the smittened girl I am today.. sometimes chasing what you want does have its rewards.. well at least I hope it had its rewards…

Truthfully though, a white horse that already has a proverbial master is not a white horse at all. And as for the too hot, well, you’re easy to intimidate 😛 Believe in yourself a little bit more, please. kthxbi.

Seems that your problem is that you live vicariously through the internet. Its hard to hear but grow a spine, man up and take control of your life.You probably won’t be successful all the time but that is what life is all about – taking leaps of faith and pushing boundaries. If you believe all women want sensitive, emo boys you are wrong, we want a balance between strong, independent and masculine with caring, loving and romantic. I’m not trying to be horrible, I’m actually trying to help you by being so blunt.

Thank you for your thoughtful comment and trying to help me, I clearly need it. I think if you go back a year on my blog (which is on the Internet that I’m living vicariously through), you’ll see the type of place I was at, and also the place I’m at now. I’m pretty damn happy with life and who I am.

Every person is different and therefore you can not expect the same thing from everyone. I, for example, don’t go out drinking and clubbing and picking up women. I do it other ways. Yet, I have a friend who loves to do that.

In the same breath, I also know that women want different things from men. This is me. If you think I’m only about the sensitive and emo, then it is you that is wrong. The confident and strong is the exact reason why there is a woman that is interested with me. I think before you try and help me, you should either read a bit more or get to know me better.

I do like your idea about pushing boundaries and taking chances, though. No one is perfect and there are things I need to do to be even better. These things will happen eventually. But like I’ve said, I’m in a good and happy place.

I stumbled across your site, and while its true that I don’t know you and you may be the most manly of men, your blog does give off the feeling that you are looking for attention from women by playing the “poor me” card. This is just my opinion and is intended to be constructive.

I’m glad you have a partner, but I am curious as to her thoughts about the fact that she is likely to become the topic of your next blog should things not work out? Personally I wouldn’t date a guy who has a history of revealing details of his relationships over the net.