I had been waiting since last week to reblog this and I think this is the right time. We all can relate to this. I personally feel that it is the primary caregivers in the family (like I was) and those who can’t go home to be with their ailing loved ones (like my sister was) who feel the regrets the most.

This was what I had to say, though:

“In 2012, I tried to do the best I could for both my ailing parents. Still, I ask to this day if I really did. Maybe it’s really that Angry stage of the grief. There is no deadline or proper schedule for each stage of grief–it could be for months or a year, it could even take a lifetime. It is important that we do acknowledge the anger and learn to forgive the ‘sinner(s)’ (either yourself or others) little by little…”

If you are at that stage right now, don’t be too hard especially on yourself. We must always remember that we are not God and that there are things that our mortal powers cannot any more handle.

“But when from a long distant past, nothing subsists, after the people are dead, after the things are broken and scattered, still, alone, more fragile, but with more vitality, more unsubstantial, more persistent, more faithful, the smell and taste of things remained poised a long time, like souls, ready to remind us, waiting and hoping for their moment, amid the ruins of all the rest; and bear unfaltering , in the tiny and almost impalpable drop of their essence, the vast structure of recollection.” excerpt from Remembrance of Things Past by Marcel Proust.

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6 thoughts on “Finding Grace in a Grilled Ham & Cheese”

A very touching piece about making a grilled ham and cheese sandwich for the one you love. Sometimes, we don’t want to but sometimes, we feel that we should and have to. I think that is what true love is – doing something for someone because we can. It is interesting there is the mention of guilt in the piece. I think we all feel it when someone’s left – either walked away or their time has come – and we probably feel so because we felt we could have done better. Sometimes we could have, but sometimes it is a matter of circumstances.

Speaking of ham and cheese sandwiches, I love them. I love them when they are not toasted or grill. I like them fresh and that is always so easy to make 🙂

Yeah…I don’t normally tell people but I always feel really sad when people I like leave, even people who are not family or very close friends. I always have this slight fear of never seeing or hearing from them again. It does happen and sometimes I regret not having been nicer or said a proper goodbye.

You know, I am like that too even if I am not close to them. I think we all really want the best for each of us no matter our differences. Because deep down, I think we all realise we are very much like each other. As much as I want to say goodbye, I still hate saying goodbyes.