Why do I still keep trying?

Ok, I had no idea where to start this, but hopefully I found that many people also have the same feelings about this terrible life. It just ain't easy, and whenever I try to fix things, they only seem to get worst. Seriously, why can everyone smle? Why not me?

Let's just start out with a bit of my history... I was an accident. My parents never planned on having a kid, they were too young, didn't even study in the proper way. So, they met on a disco, and they had "love", all those things. I'm the second son, when they had their first kid, they were like 19~20. Hopefully, my grandmother (mother of my father) has lots of money, and they have been living with no problems, even nowadays.

My parents were terrible with raising kids. They couldn't give us the proper love everyone needs. I mean, there has been always money, but no dialogues, no interactions. I was beaten up everytime I did something wrong, many times not understanding why all that was happening.

Time to go to school. Meeting the books wasn't yet a serious frustration, but I never liked studying, even though I was very good at Math. I had no friends. There was like one friend when I was 7, and he dissappeared shortly after I changed to another school, the best in my town, too expensive. I met the real books when I was around 12: studying wasn't for everyone, and I started having trouble. Videogames were my main activity, since it was so fun and easy, I enjoyed training games for hours until I got better than my brother, since he never would let me play, we constantly fighted. Only after 2, 3 years after the games' presentation that I was able to enter this new world. And since people in real life didn't like me, I preferred to stay here, in my world.

I was scared of my parents. My father is chemically dependent, my mother is alcoholic. They would trade me very often. And I only discovered what was happening recently, being like 15 years old (I'm 17 today). I could never trust them, I never felt comfortable in their presence. My grandmother always loved my father, even though he's absolutely wrong, and mistreated me and my brothers.

They presented me religion. Ok, who is God? He's the supreme entity that no one can see, but we all know? Oh c'mon... if he really loved me, I wouldn't be like this now. I was forced to go to the church every Sunday, and do programs like Vigil, Procession, Eucharist, Chrism. I never believed in God, and now that I'm starting to rebel against my family, they're all saying the devil is in my life, I'm depressive because God isn't with me, all that lame stuff. They just won't respect my decision. I stopped going to the church, but they're still very mad at me.

No one taught me how to live. No one taught me how to love myself. I wasn't taught how to talk to other people. I still suck a lot in this socializition process. "Be yourself", they said. Then they judge me. "You play videogames hours a day? This is way too immature for someone your age! Ya should go to parties, drink beer, flirt some women."

Boys would always fleer me.

"You must be a great loser. Don't your mother love you?"
"Since your **** look like girls' ones, I'm gonna buy you a brassiere."
"You think you're some character from videogames? Your music sucks, ya gotta listen to more adult lyrics and beats." (most of my music taste revolves around game soundtracks, and they're in majority instrumental);
"Weak! We haven't even started training, and you're all this tired from just running a bit? *****!"
"You don't talk about girls? Are you gay? What's wrong with you?"
"You're very ugly, she would never go out with someone like you."

When I was 13, my hormones began to act, and I felt attracted to girls, but was unable to do anything. I didn't even knew what masturbation meant, I only started to do it with 15 years of age, and I'm unable to stop it now, it's my response to loneliness. I see masturbation like "you're terrible with women, so you're gonna do this alone until you die". I started looking at porn with 12, but only began to know it properly with 15. At that same year (2010), I met a girl who was like me totally, but she was 4 years older, and didn't want me. I went on depressive state for 6 months, until I finally forgot about her.

I can't talk to someone without thinking about what they think about me. I end up being talking about normal **** everyone is already tired of hearing. Since I'm at end of high school, I only talk about what job they intend to follow, those things. I can never get to know someone properly.

When I was 16, I started going to local tournaments of gaming. I started having friends with the same interests, but some of them also seemed to don't have any luck with women (there are both groups: ones that are 15~17 aged, and the ones that are 20~30, the last is ok). We still play a lot, and it's my way to escape from real life, I try not to think about the other things in which I'm a complete failure.

As you all can see, I'm terrible at expressing myself. My english is not the best, I'm a brazilian, from the north region (Manaus, Amazonas) and I learned more than half of it by myself.

Current situation:
- My grades in school are very bad, and my mother made me go on a trip to Portugal without my approval. I'm gonna have one of the most important exams of the year, starting now, at October 22th, and didn't got the time to study properly. Counting with tomorrow, I lost 12 days, 84 classes. Mom has brought 2 friends of herself, and I feel isolated, I can't interact. I'm always at Facebook and Whatsapp talking to my friends. My little brother is a terrible person, I really don't like him, and I already screamed at him in anger many times.

I have a lot more things to talk, I guess, but just to make it short:
- I hate my family;
- People in general don't like me; I have little friends who really like me, but my life is incomplete, I'm not satisfied, and if I want it to be complete, I'll have to talk to people I don't like;
- People are better than me in everything: boys and girls are dating and going out, seem to have a good time talking and making programs, I pretty much am in the same routine;
- I don't love myself, I'm totally ashamed of both my body and personality, tastes, etc;
- I want to love a woman so bad, but I fail at talking and being attractive. I think I'll die alone, I never even got to kiss someone, and I'm 17;
- I don't enjoy going out, since I feel strange around all the people, they look so happy... I don't go to the movies and all these things since about 6 months. I only go out to play videogames and eat with my friends
- Life sucks. If I can't fix my problems within a year, I don't think I wanna stay here anymore. I mean, nobody will miss me. All that lame conversation will only last a day. I'm gonna try to enter a public university, and if it doesn't work, I'll definitely won't know what to do.

Or better yet: Little friends who make it better, but still incomplete, sexual frustration, social frustration, life frustration.

I gotta know a painless and discreet method. Can you guys help me out? Also, for reference, my brother is also a member from this forum, I think his name here is Johnny Jr, he's the guy who can't forget about his ex.

Who your parents are cant be helped. That's something you have to put up with until your old enough to move out.

Your 17. You haven't even begun to live life yet. So talk of needing a woman's love and sex... come on your still young!! You cant magically fix all your problems in a year. That will never happen.

My advice to you.. Work hard in school. Put down the video games and join a club. A school activity. Graduate high school and go to college. College is where you become your own man. You will meet new people and new women. Join an activity there. Don't give up on life. Your still a kid. Give yourself time to grow up and grow into life. Life isn't all about love, sex and social life. Those things you will find. But you have to find yourself first.

Find myself? I'm a complete loser, there's isn't anything more to know. If I had success, I would know how to dialogue with other people. I know I've got no other choice than to study, but I don't think it will work since there's so little time left. Mother hasn't stopped home since we arrived, and she won't let me home alone. The flight will be saturday, October 20th. Ill be back to my house by 3 AM, October 21th, Sunday. And I don't enjoy going to school, I feel sad, people are so much better than me, I don't even bother looking at them.

Yes, back to studies, back to loneliness. Looks like I'm destinated to die alone, really. Everyone says I'm young, but I don't see much difference on the lives of the people who are older than me. They all only see to do different things (now legally, since they have 18+) and have more freedom...

what i read is someone who is still living in the past and is extremely bitter and resentful about it. no body will say that their up bringing was perfect, it's a matter of how you are going to deal with it now. it's the past, there is nothing you can do to change it so why focus on all the negative? focus on the present day and your future. it is nobodys fault for how you feel today, you are the only person in control of that now. we are adults, we are in control of our own emotions, we have an option to be happy and make things better.

You just need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and so something about it. Join a dating website link removedlink removed get out and do something. Talk to people stop being bitter and try to have fun.

A new year, new classmates. I wasn't attracted by her, but as the months passed, I started to look. We only talked for a bit, and it was a group conversation. I added her on Facebook, but I never talked to her. Since then, months passed, nothing ever happened again. She already knows I look at her, and I have friends who know her, one of them said it would be best if I forgot. The year is coming to an end, it's the last year on High School, everyone is preparing for lots of exams. She's always surrounded by her friends, I don't think I should go in there and start being such an *******. I've got the opportunity to sit alongside her, but couldn't think of a word to say. What's wrong with me? Why the hell can't I talk naturally to women? I don't know her, I only think she's beautiful and think it would be nice to get along. I can't fall in love with anyone, I feel bad for this, I wanted to at least have someone to think about.

There was a girl (15, will have 16 at the end of the year) who felt attracted by me last year, but I couldn't do anything, and I still cannot. When I had been out for a trip, she asked for a gift, only because I talked to her using WhatsApp. When I came back to my hometown, I thought she would be happy to see me, she would talk to me, know how I'm feeling, but all she wanted was the crappy gift! I already passed by her like 4 times, she knows I'm there, but she doesn't really care. Am I that ridiculous? Why are some boys better than me?

There's a girl I met at the championship last month, I tried to be friends with her, but she also didn't care. Yesterday my brother came in and told me she's dating. I couldn't feel any worse.

Am I destinated to be alone? I'm think I'm gonna cut my penis off, cause sincerely, everyone says "relax, you will meet someone", but I'm more than 2 years trying, and it won't bring me any positive results. I'm starting to feel desperate. I'm studying right now, since it's something I need to accomplish for my life, but I can't help it when I start thinking about women. Am I not good looking? I swear, I don't tell these people about my negative thoughts, and I'm trying to change myself so I can get along better with everyone, but it seems that in that question I'm still a complete failure. Does it really hurt, does it really need all that practice? Or there are some people who will never date someone?

What should I do? Do you need more details about the history before talking? Please, I need help... I can't get depressed now, I have lots of goals to accomplish.

keep trying

I didn't kiss anyone till I was 19. I was made fun of and laughed at all through middle school. I was skinny, frail and pasty white in high school. About 5'11" 130 lbs. Never had a date except for Sr. prom and homecoming. In college I grew another inch and put on about 25 lbs of muscle. Still skinny but improving, had my first kiss and later first girlfriend who was quite attractive. Sometimes you grow into certain situations. You are still very young and have a lot of life left ahead of you. Its way too early to give up even though you feel hopeless. I wish you had a better family, you were dealt a tough hand, but not impossible. And you are not terrible at expressing yourself. You are actually very articulate and intelligent.

Hey, people! I made everything as you told me. Now I'm going to study at a public university, I'm happier than usual, and I've been dating my girlfriend for 4 months, we really love each other, and if everything goes well, I'll be driving a car at july! At the end of december and january my life changed for good! You guys were right, I would be really sad if I had given up at that point. Some attitudes really can change our lives. I still have some family problems, but I try to make the best out of it, even though it's really hard. Thanks for your support, everyone! All the people at this forum, and all the people at my daily routine.