I am striving to be the mom & wife that Jesus wants me to be...but I make mistakes a lot...so I will continue striving:)

Thursday, August 4, 2011

A good book...and lots to think about...

Today was supposed to be a day to tackle at least one thing on my seemingly never ending list of things to catch up. The kids slept in this morning so I decided to use my quiet moments to read for a bit before I tackled a project (I knew the kids needed the sleep & didn’t want to wake them up by making noise). Instead of reading a couple of chapters, I sat & read the book cover to cover...and now I’m sitting here writing! I guess this will be another unproductive dayJ.

The book? One that I ordered from Focus on the Family probably 3 years ago...maybe more. When I saw it, I knew right away that I wanted to read it because I LOVE biographies. When the book came in the mail though, I had a sense (thanks Lord!) that I shouldn’t read it yet. One of my greatest fears (I have a feeling I’m not the only one) is of something happening to my family. I just can’t imagine losing one of them...let alone all of them...and that’s what this book is about. I knew that if I read it, it would only bring that fear to the forefront & make me worry about my own family. I put it on the bookshelf....and it sat there till this last weekend. We were getting ready to go camping & I was looking for a book to bring along. I thought I might be ready to read it now, so I brought it along. We stayed so busy camping & fishing that I didn’t have time to even open a book....so I decided to start it this morning. But now I’m getting ahead of myself! Let me backtrack for a minute.

This summer started out really crazy for me....REALLY crazy. I was heading up the VBS at our church & it took a lot out of me. Don’t get me wrong, I love doing it...but it’s a LOT of work! Shortly before VBS started a good friend of mine wrotethis blog post & it really hit home. I too was exhausted & overwhelmed. I was running in every direction trying to spread myself as thin as I could to make all the different “ends” meet....hubby, kids, housework (necessities ONLY), VBS...but I wasn't thin enough to cover everything! I knew it shouldn’t (& I didn’t want it to) be that way. My family needs to be my priority...not the ones getting the leftovers!

Jodi’s post really challenged & encouraged me to make not only my family a priority, but to make sure I look after myself too. Reading a book. Going for a bike ride. Locking myself in my room so I can have devotions. Putting my feet up. Enjoying the sunshine. Laughing with my kids. Going on a date with my hubby. I want to pay attention to the warning signs & refocus instead of waiting till I’m hanging on by a thread! At the end of her post Jodi asked what we wanted to be able to “say we did” this summer. This is the list I came up with at the time:

vTaking kids to the river.

vReading a book to challenge me (Fearless).

vTea with friends.

vRead aloud books to my kids.

vFamily camping trips.

vTime spent getting to know the Lord better.

vSpending quality time with each of the kids, encouraging & challenging them.﻿

At the end of August if someone asks me what I did this summer, I don't want to say, "Well, I caught up the housework, did bookwork, prepared for Kid's Rock, got ready to start school in the fall & finished wrapping up my VBS stuff." Yes, all those things need to be done...but if they are so much at the forefront that I can't think of what else we did then I have a problem!

I read Jodi’s post only 9 days before VBS started. I knew I needed to just get through VBS...but at that point I committed to taking a week after VBS to do very, very little. Hang out at home with my kids...read a book...just be. By the time VBS was done...I was DONE...and I was sooo thankful for that weekJ. It was a WONDERFUL week. At the end of it, I realized a week wasn’t enoughJ...we did nearly the same thing the next week! This week I was supposed to try & get back into the swing of things, but I’m having a really hard time doing it...and that book didn’t help me any!

No, I didn’t tell you all about the book for nothingJ. You see I’ve had all this on my mind for a month now...so as I read this morning it just brought it all back. The book is called “Into the Deep” by Robert Rogers. It’s the story of how he lost his family & how he dealt with it. Like I said, you need a box of kleenex! On the front cover it says, “One man’s story of how tragedy took his family but could not take his faith.” It’s phenomenally sad, yet at the same time sooo inspiring. I don’t want to go into detail because I think you should read the bookJ...but the back cover of the book sums it up well, “Robert’s moving story will challenge you to live a life of ‘no regrets,’ to cherish your loved ones, & to live life to the fullest.” The thing that he now stresses to people through his ministry is just that...to live life to the fullest with no regrets & to cherish your family.

This was confirmation in my mind of what I’ve been processing since I read Jodi’s post. I NEED to make my family a priority. I don’t know yet what that will look like...maybe there’s something I need to give up, maybe part of it will just be a change in mindset, or maybe I just need to rearrange things & have a plan in my mind...but somehow it HAS to happen! Lord please give me wisdom. Make it very clear to me, where YOU want me to spend my time & energy. You have given me such amazing kids to look after here on earth & I want to be the mom for them that you want me to be! I want to be a supportive wife for Ben. Jesus guide me!

I have no idea how long I’ll be on this earth...or how long my kids or hubby (or extended family or friends for that matter) will be here...it’s not my job to know that or worry about it...but I do need to use the time that I do have with them wisely. I want to make memories with my kids. I want to get to know my hubby better (no, I still don’t know everything about him after 11 yearsJ). I want to grow closer to my Lord Jesus! I want to be a blessing to people around me. I want to make a difference in people’s lives!

So has today been an unproductive day? Nope. I read a book, cuddled with my kids, spent time with the Lord & have loved listening to my kids play together...I think it’s a very productive day! If only every day could be this simpleJ.

Here’s my struggle. Now that I’m in relaxing mode...I don’t really want to come out of it! Yet like I said, I have an endless list of things to catch up. So where is the balance? How do I try & catch up on things this summer...at the same time as doing family stuff...at the same time as taking care of myself...at the same time as trying to get ready for the fall?!?! I know this is probably something that many, many moms (& dads) struggle with...it’s just become very real for me today.

About Me

Ben has been building concrete foundations for over 15 years.
Pretty much as long as I can remember I've loved photography. I have started doing it as a business on the side. I also homeschool Benjamin, Amanda & Kirby as well as run a midweek kid's program at our church.
Benjamin is 10 years old. He loves to read, play outside, & play hockey & soccer.
Amanda is 8 years old. She loves all things girly, riding horses, gymnastics...and bugs:)
Kirby is 7 years old. He loves our dog Fudge, playing outside, & playing hockey & any other sports. If I let him, that's about all he'd do:)