Second after the install is complete and you are ready for the info enter 10 bad passwords and wipe her berry out. It's un-usable so therefore she will be lost for a bit and forced to communicate the lost data and communication delima via the pc till the berry is fixed.

Spector work wonders and will even send you the data you need via email at what ever time you want. It will even capture screen shots for you of everything done on that keyboard.

distract her just ater she gets off the phone so she puts it down, the automatic lock is set to 2 minutes by default, unless she changes it which i doubt she did. Then ask to get something in another part of the house or somethig to that effect, something out there so she doesn't catch, something way of base. then take a quick look, good luck brother...

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Well, she is your wife. You should know her pretty well, so I can't imagine it would be THAT hard to guess her password. Just try it in sessions of four or five tries at a time, and if you don't get it on that session, wait until she uses it again, then try four or five more possible passwords. You get ten contiguous attempts before the device wipes itself. So as long as you never exceed those ten tries on any one session, then you will get up to ten more the next time after she has put it in properly.

I had a friend in a similar situation, and it actually only took us seven tries to guess the password once we sat down and really put our minds to it.

Oh, and sorry to hear it dude, that really sucks! I have had a few friends that went through it. My honest advice would be to just confront her about it now, and get it over with. If she is cheating, you probably really don't want to know what is on her BB. I have never know anyone who felt better after digging deeper into their wife's affair.