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Topic: Blowjob with my underwear on (Read 12513 times)

I got a blow job with my underwear on,A very little exposure to saliva, no blood stains on the underwear or lipstick stain,but my underwear front part was wet now I'm afraid that the moist of her saliva on my underwear has touched my penis,,,, Am I at risk of HIV And the whole scenario lasted for only 10 sec, that's it

Getting a blowjob is one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic there has never been a confirmed case of HIV transmission to a guy getting a blowjob. It's safe to say you will not make history by becoming the first.

The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as you consistently use condoms for those activities you will be well protected.

Thanx buddy...I really appreciate it, but may I know what are the percentage for not being exposed to HIV Plus I have read in some forums that a guy was tested positive even though he had protected intercourse always, Is that possible

Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. In addition, consistent and correct use of latex condoms reduces the risk of other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including diseases transmitted by genital secretions, and to a lesser degree, genital ulcer diseases. Condom use may reduce the risk for genital human papillomavirus (HPV) infection and HPV-associated diseases, e.g., genital warts and cervical cancer.

So what ur saying is that I have to stop reading other sites and stop getting paranoid....but is it a guarantee that nobody gets HIV through a blow job

Well nobody ever HAS. Let me know if the virus has mutated into a new form that would likely mean the decimation of the human population. Good news on that front is that, as patient zero, you would likely get free health care. In other words, nobody gets HIV from getting a blowjob.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Thanx buddy...I really appreciate it, but may I know what are the percentage for not being exposed to HIV Plus I have read in some forums that a guy was tested positive even though he had protected intercourse always, Is that possible

It is impossible to transmit HIV through an intact latex condom.

Saliva is ABSOLUTELY not infectious. You DO NOT and CAN NOT get HIV through being given a blowjob.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

I'm so sorry if I mean to be rude, but are you doctors inthe field of HIV ? Coz 99% of the world wide web says that u can get HIV from oral sex,The only forum that does not say this and gives a green light to oral sex is AidsMed,

Of these acts, only GIVING a blowjob has EVER even been implicated with transmitting HIV. And several long term studies of serodiscordant couples (where one partner is negative and one is positive) over the last 15 years who used a condom for penetrative vaginal and/or anal sex, but DID NOT use a condom for ANY form or oral sex yielded exactly ZERO infections.

You cannot tell me that 99% of the web states you can get HIV from GETTING your dick sucked. It's never been remotely implicated in HIV transmission.

As for credentials, ANN and ANDY and some of the rest have profiles on the "Who We Are" section here:

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Of course its not. Saliva contains HIV particles, just like tear and sweat do, but LIKE tears and sweat, HIV can not and DOES NOT remain viable in saliva.

You can't get HIV from being sucked, kissing, being sneezed on, licking sweat or kissing tears.

The only documented HIV transmission vectors are:

Unprotected anal sex

Unprotected vaginal sex

Occasional transmission from mother to child

sharing IV drug needles.

Use a condom for anal and vaginal sex with a partner of unknown status and you will remain HIV negative. It's really that simple.

And I have no idea why many sites still offer outdated information. Sadly, when scientific evidence is refuted or becomes disproved, it does not simply vanish from the lexicon. It remains, and some people simply are too intellectually lazy (or have an agenda) to keep up to date.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

I still can't get it out of my head but can u get HIV if ur underwear is soaked with saliva only due to getting sucked with the boxer onI want to know if any one of u , who is HIV poz has sucked a negative partner and the partner still remain negative,Plus I just read in a forum that a couple who the man was HIV negative and women was positive , and who only practiced protected vaginal / anal sex and unprotected oral, but still the man got HIV , I'm sure he made history....so there r people who got HIV through oral sex....I'm still shocked how this forum still insists that u don't get HIV via oral sex where as others sites like The body ( Dr Bob ) , HIV positive sites, YouTube , and every forum on the wide web say it is possible,

■Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Ann, any oneI need ur help, 6 days back had another blowjob from CSW with my underwear on , I was wearing a very soft cotton underwear , had her saliva all over which soaked the front part of the underwear, this time I am really afraid of getting HIV , spoke to a friend who,s dad is a dentist about saliva and HIV and he said yes , HIV is transmitted through saliva,,,,, And now I am getting crazy..... I really don't know who to believe a dentist who majors in teeth and mouth or a website like this....plz I need ur help

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Hello Guyz im back from a ban of 28 days , firstly i would like to apologize for not being able to accept the fact that i did not have a risk of HIV through the scenario i have described , I took Mr Andy's advice by getting on with my life and stop surfing the internet and unupdated websites,but that was not for too long

what made me to feel crazy again that exactly on the 22nd day after my scenario with the csw i got very slight symptoms like soar troath and flu which went away in exactly 4 days, is a seroconversion time frame 22 days ? , then i had seroconverted within the time frame, i feel healthy now with no effects what so ever even though everyone around me here at work are getting flu as it is the flu season here

I know that i will be answered that i didnot have a risk of HIV from an oral sex with my underwear on which only lasted for 10 seconds , and salive had protiens and enzymes that kill the visrus but my concern is that i may be the unlucky one , I may be the only one to make history in getting HIV from insertive oral sex , may be the protiens and enzymes in the csw saliva werent enough to kill the hiv virus while she did the blowjob on me, please guyz help me

Because having REDEFINED HIV transmission, you would have access to free healthcare and be given FREE treatment.

Because you will have changed the course of HIV transmission theory

You would be in a better position than any of us, that's for sure

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

jkinatii feel so relaxed reading your reply , what about my symptoms that happened exactly on the 22nd day , that scared the crap out of me, please tell me its fine so that i get on with my life , i really trust what you guyz say

Thanx a billion guys...... U guys r great I love all of u.... Especially u Andy , I really feel relaxed reading ur comment... anyways I'm sorry for everything , And I promise u that I would never ask any questions again

Hey guys.....It's me again , it's been 4 months and I'm living in anxiety,,,, I know I wasn't at risk of HIV , but some times I begin to wonder , why is this happening to me, I am becoming paranoid , too scared to test , I have been feeling a lump on my neck , but my ENT doctor says that it's not a lump but a jugular vein, he got so pissed of me asking him questions and answering it with doctor do i have HIV? that he told me why don't I call in the patients in the waiting room and treat them,,, The only risk I had was a blowjob and that for less than 10 secs and now I am being haunted ever since ,,,,,

It sounds as if your irrational fear of HIV is negatively impacting your life. Please know that NO amount if scientific data or rational discourse will remove what is obviously an irrational phobia. I urge you to seek out a counselor to address these issues.

This forum has become toxic for you. We have more than exhausted our usefulness.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Thanx J , I will ....A colleague at work was diagnosed with Lymphoma and guess what? The first thing I told him when I met him at the hospital was do u have Aids, And he told me WHAt? U see I'm relating every disease with HIV , even when I read about Pets likes Cats and Dogs and their diseases, HIV comes to my mind,,,,I'm scared to read about anything , And when ever I see the word HIV I get scared , I even had nightmares that I have tested positive,,,,

I agree with JK - you need to find yourself a therapist to sort out why you have this intense hiv-phobia. I would recommend a therapist who specialises in something called CBT - cognitive behaviour therapy. Cognitive is a word that basically means thought. A CBT therapist will help you learn how to stop the irrational thoughts about hiv that you are having.

You will NOT be permitted to continue to use this forum as a place to talk about your hiv-phobia. We've helped you as much as we are able - now it is up to you to get the face-to-face help you need with a therapist.

If you do continue to post, you'll be permanently banned. Please consider yourself warned!!!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Hi AnnJust wanted ur help, it's been eight months that I am feeling like a crazy person , always scared , anxiety is killing me , all I had was a blowjob and this is killing me, I am too afraid to test, I feel that I have HIV , I don't have no soar throat or flu or Diarreah , but now I have a swollen lump on the side of my neck below my ear, I went to an ENT and he told me that u have a silent infection and was injected with an antibiotic and was given augmentin for seven days , it's been four days and the lump is still there, having this lump makes me confident that I have HIVMy question is, how confident are u that no body has ever gotten HIV through oral sex

Get some professional help if you can't let go of your totally unwarranted concerns about HIV. We can't help you with that in this setting.

I can tell you that if you continue to return here about your non-risk experience you are going to find yourself getting another time out from the site. This time it will be either for 56 days or a permanent ban. Whatever is going on with you physically, if anything,has nothing to do with HIV. Symptoms are something you should discuss with a doctor.

Sorry Andy , my question is for Rapidrod ( Teak ) I know that you will be giving me a one line answer and I know from ur profile in medhelp that u are an HIV educator, my question is did u ever meet anyone who has gotten HIV through getting a blowjob and how confident are u, plz don't warn me just answer me for gods sake

■Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result, or no-risk situation will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Is there a chance that I can contact anyone , so that I can talk to u Guyz , I really feel scared and need some assistance , plz for the love of god if some one with experience in HIV transmission can help me, I have done a very stupid mistake in my life and have been like a zombie ever since the incident, I beg anyone plz , I just need a voice to sooth my fear,

I have even browsed YouTube where there are 100's of Vedio ,s from doctors and HIV specialist who say that HIV transmission is possible from oral sex, I am really confused don't know who to trust,,,,,you said that u are HIV positive , I don't mean to be rude but do u practice oral sex without barrier with ur partner

■Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result, or no-risk situation will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts