No matter how much we know ourselves or each other our sex lives are like sharks, they have to keep moving or they die. So we've got to be open to changing what we think about sex, especially when you're trying to keep a relationship going longer than a week.

You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?

Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.

Restraining your partner can be fun, bonding and loving, and it can be as much or as little drama, dogma and homework as you like. There are sources on the internet that make it seem impossibly complicated, incredibly specific and terribly difficult. It doesn't have to be. Sometimes it starts with a single tie.

Contrary to what you might think because of media portrayals, bondage can be an incredible tool for intimacy in an otherwise perfectly normal relationship. You don't have to collar your spouse, wear crazy leather gear or inflict bruises to really reap the benefits of a little power exchange.

I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

Depression and Bipolar disorder are not the same, but both can do serious damage to your love life. As a sufferer from depression, I intend to help explain the differences between these two common disorders, explain what they are and how they work, how they can be messing up your bedroom routine, and how to get back on top.

So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

Those that talk about sex outside of the bedroom are more likely to talk in the bedroom. Those that talk in the bedroom are more likely to have a satisfying sex life. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to open up.

On EdenFantasys.com, a search of the word “pink” yields 48 pages of content while a similar search of the word “blue” only produces 26. Traditional gendered ideals are upheld not in the functionality of sex objects, women’s toys are insertable while men’s come in the shape of disembodied torsos and vaginas, but even in their color and design.

Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

This article is for all the "big girls." Whether you're shy and withdrawn or really loud and proud of who you are, I think all girls should see themselves as beautiful. It took me a very long time to like myself, but I did learn that self-confidence can grow overnight!

I'm 21 and in a lesbian relationship. It's also the first completely sexually satisfying relationship in my life. Every relationship has ups and downs. Here are some of the ways we keep our sex life exciting. Straight couples can benefit from this as well!

Being a tattoo artist I hear the life story of so many people. It touches me deep to my soul, and sometimes even scares me. I can now say I can see why memoirs are written, and may even write one of my own some day. Sometimes it is a pain junkie, sometimes a person with a heart wrenching story. The list goes on and on.

My childhood was that of a straight family with a foot in religion. It was tumultuous and two-faced. It wasn't until after the divorce and my father coming out, that I realized what a real loving family was.

My mother had me at a young age, and my father was a deadbeat who thought he was going to be a rockstar. When my mom finally worked up the courage to walk away, she met "Jeff" and entered into a whole new nightmare.

"Love conquers all." Its a phrase that we have all heard one way or another. Even our favorite fairy tales give us all the idea that love is perfect, flawless, and everlasting. Yet, reality can be a bit more shocking. By understanding basic concepts of how relationships work, known as "The Family Systems Theory," we all can make sense of our relationship histories and make choices that will lead to a more satisfying, intimate relationship with the ones we love.

Often used as a term to indicate that one's virginity has been lost or taken, this term has brought about many misconceptions about the hymen. This irrefutably sexist term has grossly led to shame and anxiety about first-time sex. But wait, there’s more to it than that...

Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

Now that it's starting to warm up in the Western Hemisphere, how can you use the season change to your advantage? There are plenty of little ways the warm weather can not only help you refresh, revive, and renew your general state of mind, but your sex life as well!

A lot of us here have written something that other people disagree with. All of us have read things that make us see red. Some thoughts on the nature of criticism, and why sex writers make such a popular target.

Freedom from possession, jealousy, and control by my partners is a really important part of my relationships. I value my personal independence in making decisions about my body, finances, and life, even down to what I wear.

Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

Long-distance relationships are always difficult. Without any sort of physical contact, it can be easy to feel lonely, no matter how often you and your partner communicate. However, there are many things you can do to feel a little bit closer to your significant other, even when he/she is hundreds of miles away.

Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

Valentine’s Day is just never as good as any other day my partner and I spend together, which is part of the reason I have never celebrated it. Each of my partners over the years have asked me, “So what do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” and I’ve never known what to say. I ask them what they want to do, to turn it on them. If they seem really excited about it, I’ll go forth with whatever they want to do. I personally don’t care about Valentine’s Day unless my partner does.

Being alone on any holiday can put us in a terrible mood, but being single on Valentine's Day is sometimes the worst. Happy couples can make you want to retch when you’re single. So how do you enjoy a day notoriously for couples when you're not in a relationship?

Nobody wants to be alone on V-Day but sometimes it can't be helped. That's no reason not to enjoy the day and show your love for the most important person in your life: You!

Although I am not great at writing I decided to put my story out there because I hear so many people complaining about their parents setting them up on dates. I want to show everyone that sometimes it can be a good thing, too!

Many women over 50 can tell you their sex drive is anything but dead, but many times there are circumstances which may prevent them from exploring and enjoying sexual freedom. Sometimes their partners are unwilling or unable to perform, other times the partner is simply absent. This doesn't mean a woman should deny herself pleasure. So what does a woman over 50 look for when buying a sex toy?

Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

I have done my share of blind dates and internet dating over the past 20 years on and off. I am happily taken now and thought I would share some of what I learned. I've tried most of the popular sites and some off the beaten path too with mixed results. There have been disasters, some great successes, and everything in between, but I'd say the good experiences definitely outweighed the bad. You just have to use a little common sense, have tons of patience, and be true to yourself.

From the ubiquitous 70's offering of The Joy of Sex through Madonna's 'Sex' tome and almost every issue of Cosmopolitan, there was always a certain appeal in having 'coffee table' books & magazines that not only showed our open-mindedness to select friends, but also meant we could just grab a title and take it off to bed with us. But do we still need books for that, or can we get the same reading enjoyment out of our Kindles & Tablets?

Folks, it’s time we all sat down and had a serious talk about “Nice Guy” syndrome.
Don’t know what I’m talking about? Then you have probably had the good fortune to never come across a man suffering from this specific psychosis. Or maybe you have, and just had no way of describing what was actually going on with the guy until now.

Most of you would agree that masturbation is A-Okay! But did you have to overcome a self-imposed reluctance? Or worse, an idea of societal shame? This article looks at how two people, a male (Kenneth) and female (Michele), dealt with their insecurities (and those of others) and eventually became (mostly) comfortable with their self-lovin’.

Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

Changes are the order of the day for 2013! Eden Lit is embracing the new year with passion and we are having a great time. We are 3 years old this year and it seems like time to make a few changes to the way we do things.

How can a piece of latex change your life? In more ways than I had considered. It took catching something to make me realize that the few seconds it takes to wrap it can make all the difference in the world.

"First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes The Baby In The Baby Carriage." Many of us have sung this little song as children and come to accept this as just basic common sense of how life is supposed to be. But is it really? Isn't having children a choice? Is having children really a choice if it's expected of you? That doesn't seem like a fair description of the word choice.

Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

Life is lived almost exclusively in the gray zone. Things are rarely completely black or white, right or wrong, good or bad. Yet despite the very obvious fact that almost nothing is absolute and “morality” is often very much in the eye of the beholder, there is a very strong tradition of looking askance at “extracurricular” sex by married folks or other heavily committed couples.

Monogamy is considered the rule. The gold standard. The “right” way to go.

I make it no secret that I have had many sexual encounters in my lifetime. Some of them were more memorable then others. This is largely due to the things that were said during coitus. I wish I could tell you that it was all hot, sexy and really got my motor running, but alas, I can not. Nine times out of ten it was pure rubbish. I'm here to tell you now that talking dirty is an art form.

In a world full of sex (this site!), an unrecognized portion of the population identifies as asexual. In all ways, they are normal, well-adjusted people, yet profess no interest in sexual acts. All they want is to be understood.

The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious porn – created by women, for women. I'm talking about fanfiction.

While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

Being adult means we are responsible for our actions and their consequences. We have the ability to create and destroy lives – but such power comes with huge responsibility. Who can make such decisions? Who can shoulder such responsibility? Who can have a say over a life created by two people that would belong to two?

Would you breastfeed your man? Breast milk is extremely nutritious. There are many couples who enjoy an adult breastfeeding relationship everyday. Between adults, it can be a very rewarding, pleasurable, and intimate act.

When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

While porn is a fun and exciting experience in aiding sexual intercourse or masturbation, there are some harmful elements to watching an excess of it. In essence, our brain's reward center is the culprit. Unfortunately, many people suffer from porn addiction. Recognizing what causes porn addiction is the second step in recovery. The first is realizing there is a problem.

Many marriages that end in divorce can be saved by ultimately targeting any issues the union may have and making a strong effort to openly communicate with their partners. Some marriages are irreparable but there are some that require a bit of TLC. So here is some advice on having a better relationship with your spouse and overall benefiting the relationship.

When you first find the world of BDSM, one of the things that you probably want to do is learn as much as you can. A good way to do that is join a fetish website so that you can connect with like-minded individuals. But like with everything else, there are both good and bad websites.

You may be able to tell who needs the gift of orgasms this Christmas, however, not everyone will be receptive to a sex toy. How can you tell who to grant some sexiness to, and who just gets monogrammed pencils? Follow these simple rules.

I just realized that I have dragged you all in to a story that has no ending. It's still unwritten. This could have a tragic ending. Or hopefully, God willing, a very happy one. Either way, I'm sorry I lead you to this. I'm sorry you're here for the ride. Just be with me here, that's all I ask. No matter what, please know, I do not want to hurt you. Hopefully it will never come to that.

Threesomes can be a controversial subject among couples, despite it being a very common fantasy. It’s not hard to see why bringing another person in could cause some serious friction in a relationship; after all, the point of many modern pairings is avoiding cheating or temptation to cheat on a partner. But is jealousy the only reason that the idea of a threesome can rub a couple the wrong way? Could there be some sort of disparity between what SORT of threesome the partners are looking for?

We have battled with ourselves, blaming everything from the types of lube we use, the possibility I have a low sperm count, straight down to the positions we use during sex. However in the end, the answer was still not clear. To put it simply, we are caught in the middle of a steeplechase of unknowns. All we can hope for is to clear these hurdles along the way.

If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

"Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

"Oh! I give up trying to achieve orgasm it is too much work!" "My health problems are the reason I cannot achieve orgasm so I am a helpless cause!" "I am to busy to think of sex right now!" Do these sound like you? Do you want answers? I did too. This is how I began my search for the big "O".

So it's the holiday season, a time of peace, love and joy, right? Or are you more like me, frantically shopping to get everyone on your list done, trying to pacify all the relatives and feeling like your love life goes on the back burner? Here's what I'm doing this year to make sure that doesn't happen.

For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

Each month, SexIs Social asks us to look at different topics. This month's focus is "Wish Lists" and this week is specifically about "Fantasy." We all have that favorite fantasy that we return to, I know I certainly do. One of my favorite repeat fantasies has helped me expand my own sex life.

Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

He's my husband and from the moment I met him he claimed he saw something special in me; something I couldn't see. He has spent many years patiently teaching me to see myself as he sees me, and this is how it all began.

Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

I absolutely dread the winter time, as well as many others! If you're like me and you are tired of the same 'ol "drink hot chocolate and wait for the blizzard to pass," try one of these saucy things to occupy your time.

I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

My family get-togethers are few and far between. I don't look forward to them. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Fist fights, arguments, down right mean behavior and that is all before we even eat!

The holiday season is upon us once again and we at Eden Lit are feeling very festive. We are dropping Eden Lit Lessons and just about everything we normally do and we're gonna party. We're gonna play games and write happy, hot or maybe even healing stories. Join us for an earlier meeting on Tuesday December 4, 2012 at 3 pm on our forum for a writing party!

Sex education, orgasms and BDSM were on the minds of our readers and contributors in September, this year. And who could blame them, what with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, and the alleged "war on women" waging in the United States presidential and state campaigns?

A hand job can be just a quick jerking off and release - but it can be a sexy, hot experience if done well. With blowjobs becoming more common and less the exclusive treat, hand jobs have lost some of the appeal. But with a little concentration your hands can gain power again!

When sitting around the table with your family, sharing all the wonderful things you're thankful for, it's not often that someone would actually pipe up with 'I'm thankful for the best online sex shop!'. But it popped into my mind several times today; though not openly shared with my guests. Here are a few reasons why it came to my mind on this great holiday.

This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

We all grew up with this schoolyard saying, using it in defense when others would say something that hurt us or called us names. How accurate was that little saying and has it played a part in society's lack of acknowledgement of mental and verbal abuse? As an adult, do you know the signs and the result of mental abuse? Are you an abuser, either intentionally or accidentally?

Have you ever gotten out of a relationship only to find that you feel like you got run over by a truck? Struggled with crying yourself to sleep at night? Tried to go out on dates but only ended up talking about your ex? Then read on...

This story is far from typical, it does have cheating spouses, betrayal, triumph and wrenching decisions. It also has a huge twist... and a unique perspective. This is the other woman's story and its ending- well, I will let you read it for yourself.

Although society puts pressure on us to confirm to the "norm" sexually, we can not expect change until we are willing to set aside our own inhibitions and embrace all safe, sane, and consensual sex. Only then can true sexual freedom be achieved.

We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

Day after day and year after year, I went to work. Each night, I ran the same hustle on a different man. For years, I was their play toy and took their money; it all began to grow old. There was no big light bulb that went off in my head. However, there was one night when my thinking began to shift; when I found myself standing at a cross road. This was the night that I was slapped in the face with the reality of what my actions had caused. That night will be burned in my mind forever.

Sexual freedom. Two words that, when paired together, mean many things to people. Once I realized what sexual freedom honestly meant to me, I felt liberated and truly free. Sexual freedom has nothing to do with legal issues, moral battles or input from other people. Sexual freedom comes from within. It is an important and overlooked truth about who you are as a person and how honest you are with yourself.

Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

Society has come a long way in terms of sexual freedom, but as a part of the Catholic Church, I find myself shaking my head at all of the sexual ignorance harbored within my own faith. Some Catholics say everyone should have sex the same way or you're straying off of God's path. But sex is part of our identity! How we do it makes us unique! Sexual experimentation is not against natural law; what is unnatural is the obsession with only having sex one way, exactly the same way as everyone else.

We have all had that moment, the deal breaker... but what do you do when the moment lingers? Well, just ask me. I seem to have, well, weird luck. Not good luck or bad luck; just weird luck. So, how does a penis pump enter into this? Keep on reading...

We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

The story of how revealing your love to the world made everything perfect forever is popular. What about all the other times though? What about when the truth makes everything worse and perpetuating a web of lies would have made everyone happier?

I may have different types of friends, but they all have something unique about them. Each person, kinky or not, has something to offer. It's up to me to open up and be myself with everyone I love and trust.

I spent almost two years of my life in a relationship with a man who told me that he hated he hated me often, explicitly detailing what a horrible person I was and how I had ruined him. This is my story, how I got out, and what you can watch out for (for yourself and your friends) to avoid the same thing.

I am trying to quite smoking. There are a a number of reasons; the awful smell and taste, health reasons, the promise I made to myself and my kids, but the biggest reason is that I want to have better sex.

You talk to your friends about a lot of things, is sex one of the topics? And how much of your sex life do you discuss with them? I'm still trying to figure out how much to talk about with my friends, but I want to figure it out.

Bombarded by imagery of sex and death, politics and disaster, life - like the movies - sometimes feels like it's lost all grip on what matters. Some ruminations on the meaning of intimacy, seen through the lens of a forty-five year old subtitled Swedish movie.

I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

Long before VIP rooms were added to virtually every adult club across America, the champagne flowed in the French Quarter and the ladies were hot and thirsty. What really happened in the dark corners of those clubs? Why did so many men try to pay for lunch and find that their credit card was maxed out? After years of keeping the stories from my days as a stripper on Bourbon Street a guarded secret, I’m sharing what really went on back then. Join me as I tear the veil back on the Champagne Room.

The term muffing has two common meanings: one is oral sex on a female; the other is something you probably haven't even thought of before! Do you know where your man's inguinal canals are? You're about to find out!

The hottest new trend on the coast is the G-Shot, a $1,000 shot that promises longer and more intense orgasms for up to 4 months. With plenty of rave reviews, the real question is--Is this $1,000 "G-spot Shot" worth it?

My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

Roleplaying is a healthy and exciting way to explore new avenues in your sexuality. Once you get used to being someone different you can have all sorts of fun and explore your desires in a safe environment.

I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

Men are visually stimulated and predisposed to longing to spread their seed. This appeal is on a purely instinctual level. Women are sexual creatures who are instinctual exhibitionists who are aroused when a man desires them. Often times, by playing a sexual charged game of cat and mouse, she explores her own lusts and temptations.

With these tips you can open the door to new experiences during your playtime that both you and your partner are sure to love.

How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

Easily considered the most dangerous and destructive occurrence in a relationship, infidelity provokes a range of thoughts and emotions, few of them good, but how often does it really occur? Can you predict infidelity? And why do we cheat at all?

We've basically been told sex is wrong all our lives. A lot of us have grown up under the impression that God views all sex -- even between a married couple -- as dirty. Despite the need to re-inform, we shouldn't be spending our love-making time feeling guilt because in our hearts it feels like we're sinning. Guess what? God loves sex too! The idea that God is opposed to sex is false, and I'm here to tell you how I happen to come to this conclusion.

What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month, and while domestic violence is a horrible thing, I want to share my story of why you should always know ALL the facts before reporting anything. This isn't the same for every case, but it's something I had to deal with, and I'd like to share my story.

People don't have the same sex drive. Some have extremely high ones, some not so much. A Community Choice topic this month is what do you do when your partner's sex drive doesn't match up with your own. I'm here to talk about a relationship with two different speeds as far as sex drives go.

The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

After over seven years of dealing with blood sucking lawyers, it's over now and I am left with nothing. Who is to pay for what has happened? Getting out of this box is getting harder and harder. I just want to go back.

While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

What are you wearing right now? Do you have a tiny tampon in, a huge monster pad, or are you lucky enough to not be surfing the crimson wave? Whether you are currently shark bait or not, you may find it interesting to revisit some rags of the past.

For many people, sex during pregnancy can be intimidating, scary, or an experience they have been waiting to try. Either way, it should not be something scary, or painful. Questions about it aren't bad or wrong, and are usually welcomed by your doctor.

After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

You don't know what passionate lovemaking is without the most intimate kind of foreplay. Massages are stress relieving, they enhance immunity, improve circulation and joint flexibility, and can even lessen depression and anxiety.

Panic-stricken social commentators tell us it's the latest evil craze to be turning our children into sex-mad monsters. But not only has sexting always been with us, it doesn't care how old you are, either. So, a noobie's guide to getting it on in three or four characters, tops.

Plenty of couples have tried their hand at role-playing – anything from a sexy nurse to a police officer. But have you ever tried acting as a specific character? Don’t laugh yet – it can be a lot more fun than you think!

Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. There are always compromises to be made and ways to advance further into a deeper state of intimacy and togetherness with your partner. However, there are some times when no matter how many compromises you make or how hard you try, it just isn't working. Ending a relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do, especially when you're married or have children together; trust me, I would know.