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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Letter to my then-Feyoncé™, now The New Husband AKA the Former Feyoncé™

As a start to our wedding ceremony, the wedding officiant asked me and The New Husband AKA the Former Feyoncé™ to secretly write letters to each other, and not share them, and she would read them aloud.

I want everyone to know how I feel about him, so dammit, I'm posting it on the blog.

I don’t even know how to start this letter. How can I express the love and appreciation I have for you in words? I simply cannot do it justice with words. I can look into your eyes, and smile, and know that you will know how I am feeling or what I may be thinking by the tilt of my head or the look in my eyes.

I love that understanding, and the connection we have. I love our mutual sense of humour, and ability to laugh at things. I love our “fit”. I love YOU, and I love us.

But how do I tell you how important you are in my life? How very fortunate I feel to have met you, and to have the honour of being the woman you are choosing to spend the rest of your life with?

From the very moment we met, I felt you exuded honesty and sincerity. I was charmed by your laugh and your sense of humour. And you were handsome (YOWSA! AND STILL ARE! Look at you!). And the more I got to know you, the more incredible you became to me. You amaze me every day with your intelligence, kindness, patience, understanding, and determination. Our bond has grown, deepened and strengthened as time has moved on. Each day I love you more.

You have let me see that what I thought, or can think, is a broken, flawed, embarrassment, is actually the woman you love with all your heart, and believe in more often than I believe in myself.

You’ve shown me that I am a lovable partner (unless it’s time to do the dishes or walk the dogs). You give me purpose (in explaining song lyrics), keep me on my toes (always seeking out the cutlery that doesn’t hurt your hands), and we work together with our strange quirks (like needing the car window cleaned, or never turning left into a gas station).

We have traveled together, and I have had opportunities to see things I never would have had the courage to try without you in my life. Like seeing the gorillas in Rwanda. And seeing the huge rhinoceros in front of our vehicle… in that crazy trek we took to the far-reaching African Lion Safari!

[Redacted], you ARE my life. You have given me courage, strength and comfort when I thought there was no strength left. You have cheered me on, and encouraged me to fight for the things that are worth fighting for. We have stood together through the rough waters and the playful waves and the calm stillness. And your support means more than any vows, or words, could say.

You mean everything to me. I can’t truly articulate how much love my heart holds for you. You are brightness, sunshine, warmth, and safety. You are wonderful.

I promise to do my best to be a good wife, and eventually a good mother to our not-yet-conceived children.

I am the luckiest girl in the world to be standing here, with you, the man who holds my heart, who makes me whole, who loves me unconditionally, who works alongside me, who challenges me, who makes me smile, whose hugs can make the world seem kinder, who can turn my mood and my day around. I love you so much, Babe, and I am so happy we are standing here today. You are the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I love you more than any words could ever say.

I hope I keep making you as happy as you make me.

Stephanie

Oh, YES I DID!!!

p.s. To the people who didn't like the centrepieces: Really? Seriously? I liked 'em, and we made a decent donation to an organization in my home town with the money we saved.

@carmar76 - Thanks. :) I still feel like I could have said more, but I'm sure the guests would have been bored silly. His letter was so sweet.

As for the centrepieces, a few people actually told me that they "weren't impressed" by them and that they weren't that nice. They were circular tall vases with gravel, a cream candle, brown satin ribbon, ivory chiffon ribbon, and little ivory pearls on greenery at the square beveled mirror base. Me and my bridesmaid J made them together.

You know Stephanie not many men go through the health issues that you have endured and make that commitment for life. I think a man who does that is very special and you are very very lucky. However I think he is lucky too because you are a funny kind and beautiful girl so enjoy ever moment even the one the days you feel like crap.

I am always a big fan of sharing love. People need to know that, in the midst of all the bad things we deal with every day, what really makes this planet go round are hearts in love. You made that happen by sharing this tiny piece of your personal happiness with the rest of the world. Thank you.

@Chris - Thanks for this. I second guessed the post afterward because I didn't want to come off sounding like I was flaunting anything. I just love him so much and both letters pick me up when I am feeling low. So I thought I would put the vibe out there.

Thanks for reading and for leaving me your thoughts. You made me smile and stop second guessing.