Am I weird?

My husband and I would like to have one more baby, one day. I, however do not want to be pregnant ever again. I'm perfectly capable of carrying another child. But I had the worst pregnancies. With Jason, I lost a ton of weight, puked all day every day, I had to go to the hospital a lotÂ for dehydration, Â destroyed my teeth, and did permanent damage to my sciatic nerve. With Tyler, it was slighlty better. I only got sick for 7 months, I didn't lose more that 15lbs.Both of my births I consider truamatic. Jason's was very long and his head would come out then just shoot back in because the cord was wrapped around his neck, Â I never shared my birth story on Tyler, because, well I dunno, he wasn't born in November so I didn't think anyone would care. But holy cow it was scary. I had him 6 minutes after arriving at the hospital, the nurses were panicked, I tore severly, and I don't know if I will ever have "normal" sex again.

So....I'm not all that thrilled about even considering being pregnant again. I would love to adopt. I feel weird about it though because I don't 'need' to adopt. There is all these people that literally can't have children and will be on waiting list forever, and have to wait a little bit more because someone like myself, who can have a child, is also on that waiting list. What do you think?

My husband and I would like to have one more baby, one day. I, however do not want to be pregnant ever again. I'm perfectly capable of carrying another child. But I had the worst pregnancies. With Jason, I lost a ton of weight, puked all day every day, I had to go to the hospital a lotÂ for dehydration, Â destroyed my teeth, and did permanent damage to my sciatic nerve. With Tyler, it was slighlty better. I only got sick for 7 months, I didn't lose more that 15lbs.Both of my births I consider truamatic. Jason's was very long and his head would come out then just shoot back in because the cord was wrapped around his neck, Â I never shared my birth story on Tyler, because, well I dunno, he wasn't born in November so I didn't think anyone would care. But holy cow it was scary. I had him 6 minutes after arriving at the hospital, the nurses were panicked, I tore severly, and I don't know if I will ever have "normal" sex again.

So....I'm not all that thrilled about even considering being pregnant again. I would love to adopt. I feel weird about it though because I don't 'need' to adopt. There is all these people that literally can't have children and will be on waiting list forever, and have to wait a little bit more because someone like myself, who can have a child, is also on that waiting list. What do you think?

You are not weird in anyway. Adopting a child is a wonderful thing, and there are so many children out there that need a good home. I've worked with lots of adopted children, and they all want a home. Yes, there are waiting lists, but for so many different reasons. On the flip side, there are many kids that never get adopted, and what a wonderful thing it would be if you could make that number go down by just one! You should just focus on the beautiful gift you would be giving a child. I believe that those that adopt are given the right child at the right time, just as those that have a child on their own. I say go for it. If you have the heart and the ability, it is the greatest gift you could give a child.

You are not weird in anyway. Adopting a child is a wonderful thing, and there are so many children out there that need a good home. I've worked with lots of adopted children, and they all want a home. Yes, there are waiting lists, but for so many different reasons. On the flip side, there are many kids that never get adopted, and what a wonderful thing it would be if you could make that number go down by just one! You should just focus on the beautiful gift you would be giving a child. I believe that those that adopt are given the right child at the right time, just as those that have a child on their own. I say go for it. If you have the heart and the ability, it is the greatest gift you could give a child.

I can only laugh a little at your post about the births (no not funny but I feel your pain). With DS, my november baby, I was induced and had an epi before actual painful contractions hit, so when I went into labor with DD I didn't even know I was in labor. I just thought I was really constipated! Needless to say my water broke in the foyer of our apartment complex and I'm crying while Marines are going by on their way to work. My poor friend kept telling them "It's okay, she's just in labor" Two of them ended up following us to talk to the Japanese police in case we got pulled over for running about seven red lights because we couldn't stop. As they pulled me out of the car (seriously couldn't move on my own) and into the ER DD was crowning. Somehow kept her in till i got to LnD and she was born before they even had the IV in my hand. No drugs no nothing, just novacaine for the stitches. BTW, novicane has no effect on me so I felt every painful stitch. Worst part is she had meconium aspiration so I didn't get to hold her till she was three weeks old. We weren't even sure she'd pull through.

On to the real topic, no I don't think you're wrong. I want to adopt myself but my DH isn't okay with it. I never want to be pregnant again (same issues with DS that you had with your first) either. You would be providing a loving home for a child who needs one. You'd be on the waiting list just the same as anyone else. I say go for it!

I can only laugh a little at your post about the births (no not funny but I feel your pain). With DS, my november baby, I was induced and had an epi before actual painful contractions hit, so when I went into labor with DD I didn't even know I was in labor. I just thought I was really constipated! Needless to say my water broke in the foyer of our apartment complex and I'm crying while Marines are going by on their way to work. My poor friend kept telling them "It's okay, she's just in labor" Two of them ended up following us to talk to the Japanese police in case we got pulled over for running about seven red lights because we couldn't stop. As they pulled me out of the car (seriously couldn't move on my own) and into the ER DD was crowning. Somehow kept her in till i got to LnD and she was born before they even had the IV in my hand. No drugs no nothing, just novacaine for the stitches. BTW, novicane has no effect on me so I felt every painful stitch. Worst part is she had meconium aspiration so I didn't get to hold her till she was three weeks old. We weren't even sure she'd pull through.

On to the real topic, no I don't think you're wrong. I want to adopt myself but my DH isn't okay with it. I never want to be pregnant again (same issues with DS that you had with your first) either. You would be providing a loving home for a child who needs one. You'd be on the waiting list just the same as anyone else. I say go for it!

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