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Sunday, June 19, 2011

BDSM Play and Scenario Ideas

Here are some fun playtime ideas that aren't too intense for a beginner but still exciting enough for more seasoned kinksters. These lovely tidbits have been collected from various sites and submitted by friends, and put nice and neat all in one place for you. You're welcome. Sensation play
You probably use sensation play in your regular sexual activities and don't even realize it. How many times have you had her leave her stockings on, simply because you love the way they feel? Or stroked his cock with your silky panties? You can use sensation play in D/s scenes too! Start by blindfolding your partner (and tying him or her down, if you like), then subjecting him or her to a wide variety of different sensations. For example, you may stroke your lover's body with ice, or drip hot wax on his or her body, or caress your lover's skin with soft fur, silk scarves, felt, feathers, coarse sandpaper (but gently!), anything with texture.
Human Sex Doll
This is a good way to explore your partner and dabble in D/s. The idea is simple: the submissive partner is a living sex toy, and allows the dominant to put him or her into any position and do anything they want. The submissive partner simply remains in whatever position the dominant places him or her into, and does not take an active role as the dominant explores the submissive. Pay attention to the reactions as you explore. This is a great way to really learn your partner's body and see what makes them tick.A similar scenario to this is :The PrizeIn this scenario, the submissive is a dancer at an "anything goes" nightclub. As a special promotion, the club has sponsored a drawing; the winner of the drawing gets full and complete use of the stripper for an evening, and the stripper must allow the winner to do whatever he or she wants. The winner takes full advantage of the prize, using the stripper as a sex toy; the stripper must be completely obedient and allow the winner to do whatever the winner wishes, regardless of how the stripper feels about it.

Choose Your AdventureThis is a fun and devious technique that can make use of any of the other ideas here, and anything else you can think of. Make a list, without showing it to your partner, of questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no" or with multiple choice answers. Then ask your partner to answer each question, without telling your partner what the questions are.For example, you might write down a list of questions such as "Will you be tied down?", "Will you be allowed to reach orgasm?", "Will I penetrate you anally, orally, or vaginally?", "Will you be spanked?", or whatever else strikes your fancy.Don't let your partner see the list. Ask your partner, "Choose 1, 2, or 3," and "Choose yes or no." Write down your partner's answers, then do to your partner whatever their answers indicate. If your partner complains, you can always say "Hey, this is what you chose!"

Orgasm Denial
This is a fun, and frustrating, technique that can bring some of the spark back into sex. There are a hundred variations, but the basic idea is simple: prevent your partner from having an orgasm for a length of time (a day, two days, a week, whatever you want). You can, for example, require that your partner have sex one or more times a day, or masturbate regularly (maybe roll a pair of dice to see how many times they have to "edge" each day) but your partner is not allowed any sexual release. Over time, the sexual tension builds up, and your partner becomes perpetually aroused.When done over a period of several days or longer, this technique creates a very powerful level of sexual excitement. When you do finally allow your partner release, it's an extremely intense experience. Some of my subs have described it as "their minds leaving their bodies".

Home Invasion (roleplay for men to use on women)
Call your girl. Tell her you've heard that there are burglars in her neighborhood. They tie these women up, ransack their bedrooms, then have their way with their helpless victims. Talk in a sexy voice... to build anticipation and of course, because you don't want to scare the shit out of her. Wait long enough that she totally expecting it and obviously, you go over to her place wearing a burglar costume: Black shirt, black pants, leather gloves, a mask of some kind. Open the door. Tiptoe around until you find your lady, hopefully dressed to please you. You could play "chloroform" her by holding a handkerchief soaked in cheap cologne lightly over her nose and mouth for a few seconds; Or, she could obligingly faint at the very sight of you. Or you can simply seize her in your strong, manly arms. The result is the same: She gets bound and gagged in her bedroom, where she must sit / lie helplessly while you go through her dresser drawers, take her costume jewelry, rummage in her purse, and generally violate her space. Then you can violate her. After you've taken everything of value, you leave her tied up and go. (NOTE! Do NOT go out any doors that lock, period! Do NOT leave the house!!! ) Wait a few minutes. Put on a different shirt, and take off the mask. Then go back into the bedroom with "OMG! What happened!!" Untie her, take her in your arms, comfort her an any way she may desire. See how many fun ways she can show her gratitude for being rescued.DON'T FORGET YOUR SAFE WORDS!

Dirty Doctor (roleplay)This is a favorite of mine that can be done on both male and female submissives. In this game, the Dominant is the evil doctor, and the submissive is his/her helpless patient. The doctor (who for effect can be wearing rubber gloves, and if you have cash, a cheap doctor's costume) has the subject tied to his examining table, and can perform all manner of experiments on them. The Dom/me could probe the sub in various places using any one of a number of suitable laboratory instruments (this is where you break out the sex toys). Perhaps S/He might put clothespins on their nipples, to see how they respond to compression. Maybe they'll want to experiment to see how long the sub can be stimulated without being allowed to climax. The dirty doc could keep his/her sub there through the long hours of the night, conducting endless experiments to find out how many times s/he can climax, or how large a probe s/he can accept, or how deeply s/he can be penetrated, ho hard he can get, how wet she can get... you can note your results in their medical "chart" (I use a clipboard, a plain old notebook is fine too) and save it. When you play again, it's fun to see the results change!

Write on the bodyThis can be fun as it adds a little sense of degradation to your playtime. You can write dirty words (such as writing "slut" or "fucktoy" across your partner's chest), or write short descriptions of what you plan to do to your partner just before you do it. You can take this a step further; go out to eat, send your partner into the restroom with a marker and tell your partner to strip, write dirty words on his or her own body, masturbate to orgasm, and come back out. Or in the morning, you can write things like "property of (your name)", "slut", "owned" on the submissive's chest, then send him or her to work that way.

Welcome Home
This is a great start to sexy evening, and practice D/s at the same time. When the submissive is away, perhaps at work or at the store, take a brown paper bag and place a set of restraints (wrist cuffs, or the like), or a blindfold, or both, in it. Maybe a certain piece of lingerie that you want them to wear would be fun too. Set the paper bag near the bedroom door (or on the porch, inside the front door, anywhere it will definitely be seen!), and tape a sheet of paper with instructions on it on the door. The sheet should instruct the submissive to strip completely, open the bag, and put on the restraints/cuffs/blindfold, or to dress in the outfit, before opening the door. The submissive is not allowed through the door until he or she is properly prepared. The anticipation heightens arousal, as well as practicing the Dom/sub mindset of control and following orders.