tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post7472530565439748831..comments2015-07-20T20:11:47.402-05:00Comments on Life on the Other Side of the Wall: An Advocate AdvocatingAaron Likenshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01986793563943738918noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post-37563191609311086682012-07-31T01:11:38.860-05:002012-07-31T01:11:38.860-05:00If everyone was tested EVERYONE would score somewh...If everyone was tested EVERYONE would score somewhere on the autism spectrum. Now, would that mean everyone would score enough points to get a diagnosis? No. However, no one would score a 0 as everyone has quirks.<br /><br />As for things for a three year old; I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m not sure.Aaron Likenshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01986793563943738918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post-60713759879404402572012-07-30T07:49:44.412-05:002012-07-30T07:49:44.412-05:00Thank you for explaining..i wonder does everyone f...Thank you for explaining..i wonder does everyone fall somewhere on the spectrum because i am very introverted and have a hard time responding to questions sometimes..i need time to process..which for an extroverted person will typically come out with whatever is on their mind..i do want to say &quot;to a point&quot; whatever is socially acceptable&quot; though..that can get in the way of true communication..as I&#39;m trying to say the right thing all the time..thank you again for sharing..your sharing is helpful to me for my son..can you recommend any good book/dvds/toys for a 3 year old with autism? i just feel like i&#39;m in a world of unchartered territory..thanks again..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post-8728847206854748092012-07-27T05:22:34.924-05:002012-07-27T05:22:34.924-05:00It isn&#39;t that I care how the others will think...It isn&#39;t that I care how the others will think about my actions; it&#39;s that I can&#39;t calculate how they will react. It&#39;s their reaction that is what concerns me because I will have to react to the reaction. And since I can&#39;t predict the reaction I spend all the time worrying trying to figure out the best course of action without the ability to understand where he other person is coming from so I remain in a sort of social paralysis.Aaron Likenshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01986793563943738918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post-90830166331163200362012-07-27T01:16:58.160-05:002012-07-27T01:16:58.160-05:00Wow..that is so sad..this is where I get confused....Wow..that is so sad..this is where I get confused..i&#39;ve heard at least with autism (my son is diagnosed) there is a lack of empathy..but your reaction shows extreme empathy for others and like you said..&quot;i couldn&#39;t speak up for myself&quot;..I&#39;m just trying to understand were you struggling with communicating or dissapointing the person you were texting..and was it fear of disappointing that person or not knowing how to answer their questions..do people appear that mean that they would not understand what you just endured? i&#39;m just trying to get a understanding so i can help my son..i know he is very sensitive..so when I hear on various websites..autistics lack empathy i don&#39;t believe it..i think they are in a sense in their own world but he would never hurt anyone..has never shown aggression thank goodness..a boy who tried to bully him at a indoor park came up to him said something rude and my son just smiled( I don&#39;t think he understood what the boy meant) and walked away to play..thank you again for sharing..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7992023935961455603.post-15645228473743822042012-07-26T08:25:02.808-05:002012-07-26T08:25:02.808-05:00My first thought was: &quot;Oh, Aaron, if you&#39;...My first thought was: &quot;Oh, Aaron, if you&#39;re here, please just say something if something is wrong. That&#39;s fine...&quot; Then I realised that I do the exact same thing on a convention. I&#39;d rather work myself to death and try not to bother anyone, than asking for what I need. It&#39;s not until I&#39;m on the verge of literally falling down from pure exhaustion that I&#39;ll ask for help. (This is different from every day life, but that&#39;s because I&#39;m Chronically Fatigued and will actually have a big problem if I don&#39;t rest sometimes)<br />But for others I make health the highest priority, both on an event and in real life. Whenever a Gopher (volunteer on an anime/manga event) tells me something is wrong with their health, I&#39;ll send them straight to First Aid, no matter how much they&#39;re needed, and will find a replacement for that person or do it myself. Also, I&#39;m never angry at that person at all. In fact, I&#39;d rather have a person tell me, than to suffer in silence.<br />So then why do I suffer in silence instead? Food for thought...Isshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02955618448944656231noreply@blogger.com