Mr. Incredible – The super hero I sometimes wish I could beWhen I was a boy, I used to dream about being someone’s hero. Finding someone that needed my help and rescuing them no matter what the situation was. I wanted to be a hero riding in on a white horse.

When I was a boy, I wanted to make some big grandiose entrance and save everyone from the evil overload! Typically my fantasies were Power Ranger themed so I was always saving people from Lord Zedd or Rita.

As a dad it’s sometimes hard to cut myself some slack. I always feel this pressure to be the best person I can be at all times. People are depending on me to do that. If I am to lead this family, I have to be as perfect as I can be at all times. At least, that’s what I feel like sometimes. That’s what I tell myself at night.

Why is it that I feel that way? I think part of it comes from simply being a guy. Guys are told to just simply man-up and do what needs to get done. Make the tough call. Do the right thing always. Be a man and lead with courage. Never show weakness.

But I wonder, which is weaker: trying to constantly stand up straight under the burden of perfection? Or living a life of humble obedience to someone uniquely qualified to handle the burden of perfection?Continue reading Allowing Yourself to Live in Grace

As I write this, it’s 11:03 PM. I admit, I am a night owl by default. I’ve lived my entire teenage and adult life going to bed no earlier than 11; sometimes as late as 1 or 2 in the morning. It’s a habit I’ve gotten into that I’m sure is not healthy.

My alarm is set for 5:00 AM during the week. So some days I go to work on less than 4 hours of sleep… I’m sure that’s not the best idea either.

TJ (my wife) usually goes to bed a lot earlier than I do. As I write this she’s been asleep for nearly an hour and a half. But here I sit, writing this post. The question is, why am I not in bed with her?

I like music. Not as much as others but I find I do my best work whenever I have music playing in the background. I usually get more focused whenever I’ve got music playing in my ears. I even have a Get Motivated playlist on Spotify that helps me stay SUPER focused on the job I’m doing.

Towards the end of tonight, the wife was putting our son down for bed. While she was doing that, I pulled up Google Music on my phone and looked through my playlists. I found the one I wanted and started playing it.Continue reading The Wife Playlist

That’s right! My wife and I are expecting our first child! We’re officially due April 4th, 2012. I couldn’t be happier. I’m ecstatic to be a father. It’s something I’ve been looking forward to even before I got married. I’m going to spend the rest of today celebrating and we’ll return to your regularly scheduled Husband Hacks tomorrow.

It's hard to not have a band-aid for every situation
There are times when my wife doesn’t feel good or she isn’t happy and I want nothing more than to change her frown into a smile. I want to be her knight in shining armor and come in and rescue her from her bad day. But sadly, I can’t always do that. There are times when her problems are beyond my ability to fix. It’s no fun. I really don’t like it when she’s in a place like that. I don’t like sitting around, doing nothing.Continue reading When You Can’t Fix It

Don't settle for less than God's first place
I’ve spent most of the life of this blog talking to the married men, but I’d like to take a moment to talk to the people that read this blog that are not married, yet.

Do yourself a favor: don’t settle. It’s not worth it. If you’re in a relationship and know the person you’re with isn’t the one you’re going to marry, don’t waste their time, or yours. Break it off now and move on. It’s better to have the pain of a break up now, than the pain of a divorce later. Especially after 2 or 3 kids…Continue reading Don’t Settle

Some of you may have noticed things have been really busy around here the last few days. Well, there’s a reason for that. I’m taking part in Tentblogger’sBlog X – 90 day challenge. He’s taking us through a 90 day blogging work out that’s been awesome so far. I’ve been writing a lot (obviously) but he’s also gotten use started looking at things like SEO and such. It’s only been one week but I’m already a much better blogger for it.

Expect the activity to continue as I go through the next 83 days of the Blog X challenge. As I go through this challenge, let me know where you want to see this site go. I’m not writing just for me. I’m hoping people are getting something out of it. Feel free to let me know if there’s something I’m not writing about or if you completely disagree with something I’ve said. I would love to hear from you!

What does it mean to be a blessing? What does it mean to bless someone’s life? Does it just mean making their life better or is there more it than that?

Through my browsing around on the Internet, I came upon this definition:

A beneficial thing for which one is grateful; something that brings well-being

As a husband, I think this question needs to constantly be crossing our minds. “How can I be a blessing to my wife today?” Another way you could ask it, “What would make my wife’s day?” Would it be to do the dishes? Take out the garbage? Bring her flowers? Dance with her?

I encourage you to think of one thing you can do for your wife today that will put a smile on her face. Try it out and share with us how your wife reacted.