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Worry about older child/children

For those of you mums who already have a child, are you worried about your older child or children feeling jealous of the new bub? My youngest is mummy's boy. I worry that he will have a hard time adjusting. My oldest did not have trouble with the transition to big brother. What will you do to help ease the transition for your child or children?

Yes this was a big concern of mine when I was pregnant with my second son. However, I actually found that the transition time (of my eldest getting used to having a new sibling) went easier than I feared. In particular, my experience (and that I have observed) has been that responding to the youngest's every need when you are pregnant and giving them lots of one-to one attention has helped them to connect better and quicker with the new family member and adjust to the new family set-up. I believe this is much better for everyone concerned than trying to 'wean' a younger child off so much parental attention which I have sadly also seen with difficult results for everyone.