Some days I find many faults with the
world around me, including ways my SO behaves. Dirty
laundry left on the floor, forgetfulness, watching them
laze around or play while my responsibilities seem to
overwhelm me, and so on. I know I have faults of my own,
but at least I'm handling my responsibilities.
Yet, am I simply doing what I feel
is important, and missing out on seeing other
perspectives - ones that can bring me more peace of mind
and a better quality of life?
Maybe looking so closely at my SO's
faults just helps me avoid seeing mine better. I don't
need to condemn, or blame myself. But looking at my own
faults can help me see how my attitudes and
choices are robbing me of the peacefulness, beauty, and
joy life has to offer.
If I've been focussing on the faults of
others for a long time, I'll find it hard to take my eyes
off them, and look closer at my own. But if the quality
of this relationship is truly half my responsibility,
then let me take care of my half fully. When I've
made my part perfect, then it will be time again to focus
on my SO's half.

Just for Today
Today, I will look at just a few of my
faults with compassion, caring, and kindness. In doing
just this simple thing, I'll probably discover something
wonderful. By taking better care of myself, and changing
little by little each day, week, and month, my life and
relationship will become better - even if no one
else changes.
There is only one corner of the universe you can be
certain of improving, and that's your own self. - Aldus
Huxley