Depressed husband wont seek help

I'm not sure what to do. My husband revealed to me that he is depressed and has been drinking and smoking more to cope. I had an idea that he was drinking more because when I come home from work he looks as if hes had a few but he would always say it was just a beer. But last night he told me he takes about 6 shots before I come home and smokes cigarettes during the day. He in the military and he believes that if he gets help for his depression it will go on his record. I don't know what to do. We just moved to a new state and everything is falling apart. I'm 8weeks pregnant and we are happy we are having a baby. So I'm not sure why this is happening now.

Comments (5)

His depression has nothing to do with you- also there are anonymous chatrooms online and depression hotlines, he still can seek help. And you may consider talking to him about trying AA for the drinking.... Anonymous is in the name. He may also seek private counseling through churches, where he wouldn’t be speaking with a medical professional.

If your husband won’t get help, you need to get help. I know this sounds backwards but you need to go find a therapist or counselor and start seeing them. Hopefully this will lead to your husband getting help, but it will help you deal with the problem. Because we can’t fix other people, we can lead by example or help ourselves.

His depression has nothing to do with you- also there are anonymous chatrooms...

Posted
11/06/2018

His depression has nothing to do with you- also there are anonymous chatrooms online and depression hotlines, he still can seek help. And you may consider talking to him about trying AA for the drinking.... Anonymous is in the name. He may also seek private counseling through churches, where he wouldn’t be speaking with a medical professional.

If your husband won’t get help, you need to get help. I know this sounds ba...

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11/06/2018

If your husband won’t get help, you need to get help. I know this sounds backwards but you need to go find a therapist or counselor and start seeing them. Hopefully this will lead to your husband getting help, but it will help you deal with the problem. Because we can’t fix other people, we can lead by example or help ourselves.

Im going to start going back to a therapist. Hopefully he will join me eventually. Thanks for your input.

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