What Do Professional Millennial Women Think Of The Recent Forbes Article On Finding Dateable Men?

The article makes the claim that there just aren't enough dateable men in the world for women these days because:

Women don't face the same pressures to marry and therefore don't need to make commitments as quickly.

There aren't enough available men at the same level of quality as there are available women. Women would rather not date than settle for less than what they think they deserve.

Regarding the first point: While it's true that more women are graduating from college, attending graduate school, and making strides in their careers than ever before, I have never once heard my successful female friends utter the words "there are no good single men to date." In fact, my single female friends tend to go out on a lot of dates. Why? Because they can. There are more ways than ever to meet new people: online dating, Grouper, speed dating, and all of the old fashioned ways on top of those. Women are exploring their options and taking an active role in dating instead of waiting to be asked out. If the author thinks this is a problem, it's a wonderful problem to have.

Regarding the second point: a hundred years ago, no one shed a tear for men who had to marry below their level. Yet, today, the author thinks that women having to do the same is a crying shame. The author assumes that while it's perfectly acceptable for men to marry jobless women, it's unacceptable for women to do the same because they're "settling." If we plan on living in a world where men stay home to raise children, we need to make men believe that caring about something other than work is admirable.

Men and women have different ambitions than they had a hundred years ago. Women had no choice — they were going to raise a family. Men were forced to work, and they never had a choice either. Our familial and social constructs are now evolving. We should look at this not as a problem, but as an opportunity for both parties to finally have a choice in the matter.

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