Monday, August 10, 2015

A Marriage Preparation Not A Wedding Preparation

Reflecting on the experience of friends and
also myself who are married, when time to get married comes we are often too busy preparing for a wedding party than life after marriage. Who does not want a lifetime wedding
went smoothly, sacred and festive if you can? The problem is, after the
marriage feast is finished, there is the next step we are going to live that
turned out to have a lot of consequences in it, namely marriage life.

Back when I was preparing for a wedding, I have not heard about the
importance of pre marriage counseling. In fact, from here we could really
prepare to be a responsible partner and that is not less important to be a
responsible parent.

The high rate of abuse and neglect committed by
parents against children because the parents did not receive sufficient
understanding when enter marriage life so, they haven’t prepared take on the
role as a parent, as an explanation of the psychologist.

What was pre marriage counseling?

Pre marriage counseling is an effort to awaken
the bride that there are many consequences to be faced after marriage, many
responsibilities to be held. What are the consequences of a marriage? We will
sacrifice many things, from time, financially to energy sacrificing. In the
end, we will have a partner, have a large family and have children that we
cannot back away so easily if we do not get along or comfortable with all the
consequences. Well, Pre marriage counseling will take us to be ready mentally
with all the consequences.

Once we understand about the responsibilities
and consequences that we will face, with the ability to pre-marital education
or skills to face all of it will be improved.

In terms of psychology, for example ranging
from self-knowledge and the introduction of the couple. Self-introduction can
mean we are invited to recognize the problems we are about to have and the
impact on marriage, what our weaknesses are and what we should do.

The introduction of couples is more to us to
make sure whether he really suited for me. Could I accept if the spouse angry
or not annoyed with his habits?

The introduction of the interaction between
husband and wife, what such forms of communication we can do, how far we can
discuss all our problems.

Pre-marriage counseling and our readiness as a
parent

From this education, we are invited to realize
that having children was not an issue for 1-2 years, but it is a decision of a
lifetime. No matter how old we are, how much money we have even until we die
there is our responsibility as a parent to the child.

When is the right time to attend pre marriage
counseling?

It can be started since we are still single
because at that time we still think of ourselves more freely, ensuring any
personal issues that are still a burden in our lives. Given the introduction of
self and how to resolve a personal issue.

Where we can get pre marriage counseling?

Pre marriage counseling currently only followed
by those who have awareness. However, we can try to ask in a place of worship
or religious leaders.