Tag: love life

It doesn’t always end after ‘it’s over.’

Getting over an ex is not always easy. It doesn’t matter whether you were together for a long time or just a couple of months as long as you had a powerful bond. Many people assume that getting into a new relationship means that they have gotten over their exes. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

There are very many people out there who have gone years with other partners without fully getting over their old flames. These old flames end up poisoning the new bonds and preventing any hopes you may have of being in a healthy relationship. Here are a few signs that will help you figure out if you are in this same sinking boat so you can get out.

Signs you aren’t really over your ex

1. You keep talking about them

Every chance you get you are always talking about the one that got away, how awesome they were and how much you miss them. If this is you, then you are still holding on. However, this is not the only way the sign manifests.

Some people take the opposite route and keep talking smack about their exes. You keep complaining about how annoying they were and lamenting your decision even to date him or her in the first place. You may think that talking about them negatively means you have moved on, but the truth is that you are still hung up.

2. Social media stalking

If you keep checking their social media, then you are not 100% over your ex. To a lot of people, social media stalking counts as micro-cheating according to Single’s Space if you happen to be in another relationship. Why? Because it takes a certain amount of emotional investment to keep checking up on someone you claim to have completely let go.

3. Obsession with their new partners

Stalking your ex’s new partners is also a sign that you have a lot of work to do on yourself. Most people do this as a way of scoping out the replacement. You either end up feeling threatened for the new flames or sorry that they do not match the bar you set. Neither of these are healthy reactions to be having if you have truly moved on.

4. Constant comparing your new love to your old flame

Comparing is by far the most common sign. You could be comparing either bad or good traits. The point is that you have set that old relationship as the standard by which you intend on measuring any other new one. Things turn very toxic very fast and therefore comparing is something you should avoid at all costs.

5. Hooking up is not out of the question for you

Hooking up is plain and straightforward. If your ex calls you and asks for a hookup and your answer is anything but ‘heck no’ then you are hung up.

6. One too many “accidental” calls or texts

Finally, those drunken texts you send in the middle of the night are never accidental. It is your subconscious trying to tell you that there are some unresolved emotions on your side.

Conclusion

It is pretty clear that being hung up on an ex can manifest itself in many different ways. Whether you keep thinking about them, talking about them or even reaching out to them, you have a lot to work on. However do not be too hard on yourself. It takes time to let go. The most important step is realizing and accepting that you are still emotionally invested. Once you get to this realization letting go will become a lot easier for you.

Love, it’s not just a word everyone uses, it’s a deep concept and a true choice. In marriage we make commitment to each other from bottom of heart through our actions. Love is not just a list you can check off. It’s a way of life, living, thinking and doing.

Love and Crush, these two are different concepts, which have been mixed up by people. It can be terribly wrong if we blend them together. Crush is a choice and you may or may not follow it and in love you have no options. Crush is temporary infatuation while love is about soul bonding. Love is magic but crush is fairy tale.

Do you know your love language? Everyone has a preferred “love language”, but not everybody knows well enough to know what it is. And maybe they even know their love / spouse’s love language.

Love language (kærlighedssprog) concept has been developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., a renowned marriage therapist and author of The 5 Love Languages. It provides insights into how people show their love to each other. There is no perfect book about love, but Five Love Languages (kærlighedssprog) is most important read on love.

5 love languages:

Words of Affirmation: This language is all about vocally affirming your loved ones. Think lots of “I love you,” “You’re so awesome,” “I’m so proud of you.” This true affirmation will create your habit that will change your love life.

Acts of Service: It is true that actions speak louder than words. Instead of having a partner gush about their love, people with this love language would show it by volunteering to do a chore, offering up an indulgent massage, or making dinner.

Receiving Gifts: Gifts are another way to your love. It’s not necessarily to buy expensive gifts—even small gifts like flowers or magazines can speak volumes.

Quality Time: Lover need your time and proper attention; this could be best gift for your partner. People with this love language feel most loved when their partner switches into airplane mode for date night.

Physical Touch: Sometimes nothing says I love you like holding hands, sharing a shower, or a good old-fashioned make out session.