Gaisebaba: I am Akinade Ibuoye, an Afro fusion artist popularly known as Gaisebaba, currently signed to Sanctified Records with a debut album out, and three follow up singles; the latest of which is ‘Little Drops’.

I’m now married to Olufunto Ibuoye (nee Oni), brand management/marketing professional withan international beauty company, author of ‘Beautified; Every Woman’s Amazing Guide to True Beauty’, and co-convener of LACE; Ladies after Christ’s Example.

BN Weddings: How Did You Meet?

We met on October 20, 2012 at a seminar – Steve Harris‘ ‘Business of Your Talent’. I was a participant while she volunteered and was at the registration table, so she was the very first person I saw on getting to the venue. She was definitely beautiful, petite, smallish and all bubbly with smiles and laughter even on top ordinary registration; who born me not to take note!

The Headies Awards were later that night so I had to leave rather early but I ensured I got her Blackberry PIN before leaving. We started chatting I think the next day and we were almost always chatting those first weeks; we obviously liked each other and we both knew it.

We had to wait though. She was in a relationship not very long before, and I needed to be absolutely sure ‘this’ was IT. I remember telling her December 31 that same year that I couldn’t get into any relationship for 6months or even possibly up to a year, also because I was fresh out of one. She was hurt and she didn’t hide it, but her final response after some preamble was,

“Love is patient… 1 year right? #patientlywaiting!”

Overcoming the Hurdles

The next 6 months were tough, really tough! We deleted ourselves on BBM, unfollowed on Twitter; just so we’re not in a pseudo-relationship while claiming to be waiting (I’d had enough of such in my lifetime, story for another day). But still we’d both stalk each other’s TLs on twitter, post a few subs, and I’d steal a visit once every while.

All this time I was praying, searching scriptures. I wanted to be sure, I needed to be sure, needed something to hold on to. My close friends and those who’ve known me for quite a while will understand why; I’ve fallen in and out of love quite a few times, even I was tired. So I needed something beyond myself and claim of love, and so I decided I’ll go for the Word. And thank God I did, because I found. Not one scripture, not two, but three!

Our Relationship Began!

Then on Saturday July 27 2013, our seventh month of waiting, our relationship began. The first five months were a mix of ups and downs though, largely due to our strong personalities. This was when those scriptures were of great help, they helped me (and by extension, us) through the hard times, the emotionally dry times when you don’t feel anything at all, the clashing of egos, ‘strong-head’ and all other causes of ‘fights’ in relationships. As we turned the year, iron had sharpened iron, and like sandpaper smoothens and fine-tunes a rough surface, we improved, matured and became wiser in our dealings; I learnt to be more selfless and she became more submissive, not trying to enforce a point like before. We could have given up at several points but we didn’t; we worked at it and worked it out. That’s why we’re here today!

The Proposal

By February I was ready to propose. It was Valentine’s season but I chose to do it 2 days earlier as I felt Valentine’s Day would be too predictable. So I made an artwork of her, got a bouquet of flowers and of course the engagement ring. I chose her office as the venue and I’d told one of the guards ahead as I was going to need him too.

So February 12, myself, my best friend (who’d later be my best man), and David, my guitar-playing baritone-voiced friend set out for her office on Bank Anthony Way in Ikeja.I arrived and dropped the artwork and flowers with the guard. While my guys hid close-by I called her to come give me her iPad, that I needed it for a meeting on the island, just to get her to leave her desk. While with me, the guard went in to place the items on her table. I ‘left’ and she returned to an already agog office with everyone screaming! By then myself and my guys come into the reception, David already strumming his guitar and singing along, and the deed was done! A colleague of hers actually recorded the latter part with his phone.

BN Weddings: Now, at what point did you decide to remain a virgin until marriage?

I had just completed the 1st term in my final year at King’s College Lagos. At our time, the 2nd and 3rd terms in SS3 was when boys usually ‘lost it’, as we were very close to the commercial sex workers hub on Victoria Island; Sanusi Fafunwa street, Adeyemo Alakija, Kuramo Beach/lodge, YNot etc.

Then I remember getting home that Christmas holiday and being whisked away by my mum to a youth camp in December 2001- Camp Joseph, organized by YDi-Young Disciples International. (God bless Christian Mothers)! This was where God ‘caged’ me. I’d save the long story of how I sort of felt hypnotized by Him for maybe when I write a book, but on the final day of camp, I got into what is known in YDi as Covenant of Purity (COP) and that was how I began saving myself for marriage. Now I must say it isn’t entirely dependent on that, as there are a few who did or have done likewise but didn’t hold on till the end, so it’s my decision plus a whoooooole lot of God’s grace that kept me till the end!

Funto’s Bridal Shower Cake

Funto at her Bridal Shower

BN Weddings: Was it important for you to have a virgin partner too?

Yes it was, though not as an absolute. Not everyone who isn’t a virgin is promiscuous, and there are folks as well who have not-so-good pasts but have turned a new leaf for real and now live decent lives. So there are peculiar circumstances I might have strongly considered, but I certainly would never have settled for someone who just for the heck of it was ‘grooving’ while I was waiting.

BN Weddings: How did the conversation come up with your wife (then girlfriend)?

Well, from time, anytime I got close enough to a girl or liked her and saw there was a chance she could be the one, I’d always bring it up, first, to make my stand on premarital sex clear, and secondly, to know where she stood.

And so as I’d usually do, I brought it up during one of those BBM chats and of course, we were of the same mindset. Fortunately, she also entered into a Covenant of Purity long before we met.

BN Weddings: How were you able to stay accountable/celibate during courtship?

Oh boy! It was tough!! Especially when you’ve got such a beautiful woman, and the boy too is very alright 🙂

Those that save even their first kiss till the altar are the real MVPs though… We didn’t.

We tried our best not to stay alone for too long in secluded places, we avoided sleeping at each other’s place overnight as much as possible and we had mothers (hers and mine) who kept us really accountable; when they noticed some form of unusual closeness between us, they called us to order in a subtle yet firm way.

BN Weddings: Was it worth the wait or would you change anything?

It was definitely worth the wait! The way my wife and I have been physically intimate, open and mutually vulnerable without any shame or drawbacks, I can’t imagine being this way with someone I haven’t made a lifelong commitment to. Then, we’re also not comparing our experience with anything in the past as there’s none, there’s a clean slate to build on!

BN Weddings: Any advice for others seeking to take this route?

You need God oh, especially if He’s a major reason you decide to wait. It’s not easy, but what I always told myself was that He’s not a slave master, if it’s in His Word then it’s possible, and it definitely is in our best interest.

I’m not certain but I think it’s probably easier when both partners have been waiting; it’s more difficult to wait once you’ve started. But even if your partner isn’t a virgin, if he/she respects your stand and as expected, loves you, then he/she can still stand with/by you and wait as well even if only to support your decision.

BN Weddings: Last but not least… What was the motivation behind your famous statement on Twitter?

I’m sure you mean the “I’ve got 28 years of virginity to pour into one woman” post. It was actually one of a series of tweets I posted after reading a portion of ‘Church Shift’, a book by Sunday Adelaja. The thoughts shared via my tweets that morning ranged from the essence of the Church, to the very limited social relevance of today’s Christian music particularly in Nigeria. So, that particular tweet popped out while I was suggesting how a Christian artiste could, in a subtle yet clear way, promote the message of abstinence before marriage. I had said one could do a song about how he/she can’t wait to get married, so that he/she can finally have sex; that preaches abstinence without being direct. And then I personalized it and said “that’s me right there, I’ve got 28 years of virginity to pour into one woman!”

Where are the ‘no good men’ girls and ‘all men are useless ranting of regular bitter women’ Surprisingly many women will not believe the guy. Its annoys me I have been insulted as a male too as virgin at 32 especially by even trusted girls in office twice to I kept quiet about it Atimes am like at least am seen as a cheat as a male why hold on this fellas help me in keeping on with God standard thumbs up guys.

Am so proud of u. God will crown ur wait with d most precious and lovable person u can ever imagine. I married as a virgin and my husband who was 32 years old was also a virgin. Our honeymoon days were rusty but it turned out to be that we were both novice. At the end we can tell a funny story of us ‘looking for the hole’ I hope u understand. I am happy to say that am married to the best man in the world and i pray God keeps me for him and him for me. There are good people out there. The only problem is that we hope God helps in making them closer to us and bringing them our way. Don’t mind those colleague of urs.

Jinmi…….I am almost 40 and been married for 11 years. My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. Many have done it and it is possible. I later realised that those trying to make you feel inferior are either jealous or ignorant. They know they can’t be like you but want you to be like them. It’s a commitment to Godly principles which God can help you do. And my sex life with my wife has been simply, “Wow!”. They said I won’t know how to do it but many of the “experienced guys” are the ones that now go months without having sex with their wives etc. hang in there, ok.

Wow, such a beautiful love story. That is the best way to go! And if I had to go back again, I would wait until I was married. God is not a liar, and doesn’t make mistakes. What He says is true and there is always consequence to go against His word. May God bless this lovely and young couple. May God shine His face upon your lives, and may you live to be a blessing to the world. Congratulations!!

Yay!!! Gaise baba you finally did it. I pray for the grace to hold on for the one too. Its honestly not getting any easier to stay pure in mind and body. Especially as our love for each other grows.. Its just grace that keeps me going. But I’m really happy for you, the first time I heard your testimony I thought “hay if this fine guy that can sing like this is still a virgin, I don’t have an excuse o”

The way he said ”pour” sha… like its schnapps or palmine he’s pouring into a cup. its actually nice to read about celibacy from the mail point of view cos most of the guys outside these days ain’t loyal . be acting up like your body is their birthright.. Awon indomie deserving boys gbogbo. Happy Married Life. keep pouring.. May your union never go sour

Congrats sir but I feel its better you give your life completely to God His grace and strength is the only surety we have in anything. So proud you have kept yourself by self will there is more in God. You most really love your mum and before you ask am not one (Virgin).

It is hard but God puts laws in place to protect us and not to restrict us as it usually feels.

Sometimes I wish there was a “switch over” panel made by God that we single guys (and babes I guess) could use to put our minds off thoughts of intimacy when its not time and then switch it back on the wedding morning in preparation for late night erm…pouring.

Until such an option becomes available…its upon ourselves to apply discipline and self control. Good things are worth waiting for.

No be God put the laws in place oo, na we men to protect ourselves and society from unwanted babies and all that could go wrong when you are not quite ready. If it’s based on our anatomy and how God made us, we are suppose to be mating and reproducing all the days of our lives. So my dear celibacy isn’t God’s design and it’s understandable he/she didn’t make a disable button for it.

Celibacy is God’s design. However, the difference between the law and Jesus is Grace. Its a tough one, very especially in a whole where no one really holds themselves back when you have had sex once. No one is counting and there is no mere or measuring can to tell when last you had and how many partners you have been with. However, the Grace of God which is made available through Jesus Constrains us. Look at it this way, You have parents that love you so much, you won’t want to hurt them. Now, theres Jesus Who loved you, called you after Himself, forgave your sins, past, present and future…….You won’t want to hurt him….and the most interesting thing here is that the law condemns,…..but Jesus lovesss…..Choose which you want….the law that condemns or Jesus who loves and gives you another chance. Lately i have been dealing with this celibacy and all phase on my life…..then realized that the more i paid attention to it…the more i gave it life….All i need to do is ask for strength….because only God can give strength…..and everyday i get it. And this applies to other addictions and weaknesses. Grace is made available in time of weakness.

Dude! Obviously u are not a bible believing christian or else u would have known that God frowns upon fornication and other forms of sexual immorality. Biko, i don’t know what kind of bible u use but my own holy bible states that “the marriage bed should be kept undefiled” in Hebrews 13:4…Also read 1st Corinthians 6:16-20. There are no two ways to it, God frowns upon sex before marriage!!

No God put the law in place, sex is meant for marriage and only in that sanctity of marriage should intimacy, bonding, reproduction occur. I know people make mistakes and God is full of grace to forgive. As someone who hasn’t had sex either, but has been in situations where I have considered it, I am very inspired by this story. It’s worth it to wait because that person who you feel might be the right person almost always proves to be a mistake. Wait until they take that great step of committment to you which is marriage. At this point in my life, at 25 I will wait. Its not easy but God is always faithful.

“Those that save even their first kiss till the altar are the real MVPs though… We didn’t… lol… Love ur sincerity and truthfulness… Kudos to your mothers who kept you both accountable. God bless, keep and prosper your marriage….

i remember seeing the video of one of his songs “the movie song”, saying it was awesome understates it, twas interestingly magnificient (u should see it on youtube, yes youu) ..i know i remember the face….this is my best bella naija weddin piece yet…its relievin *wheewww* that there are still some “good” guys in dis world of ours…that said, oya oga gaise shey u av ny frnd like u, maybe anyone amongst dos dudes u were praying with in d pic { i LOOVVVEE that pinsure}, me I want ooo **serious face** 0817417*385..ok bya

The only part of the message that can be misconstrued is that marriage is about sex or people marry so they can “finally” have sex. There has to be more depth to a relationship…..too much preoccupation with sex can be dangerous.

Beautiful story, I’m quite curious tho, when people talk about abstinence during courtship/dating, what does this really imply? No making out( ie jst lip kissing) ? no smooching( as we used to call it then)? Is it really possible to enjoy that bond without any of this…lets even exclude the sxx bit. And if it is actually possible, pray tell, how else do you enjoy ‘safe intimacies’ when you are crazy about someone. Like i said….I’m just curious (willing to learn 🙂

My husband and I are MVPs, to use his words. Loll. It wasn’t easy though. We used to hug and hold hands but that was it. I must confess that I wanted a kiss at least but my husband refused cos he wasn’t sure he could hold himself back. See ‘pouring’ on wedding night. Hehehe. Again, it wasn’t easy cos the sexual attraction was really there but with determination and the grace of God, we were able to stick to our commitment. We have the rest of our lives to enjoy sex and thankfully, we can be focused on how to satisfy each other without comparing to exes.

Abstinence is basically/literally “NO SEX” although it is seriously advisable to also steer clear of kissing and smooching and cuddling et all just because it may lead to sex if prolonged or without self control or discipline.God help us IJN Amen!

Well I am so happy that the truth is not hidden .. Being a virgin is not easy, it take the grace of God and self discipline . secondly I also love the part of trying to work things out between each other. Coming together wouldn’t be easy because of their diff background and ideas but because they decided to work things out, even tho it took time. It was worth it!!! Gaise keep pouring o

Both parties need to have the same mind about it. My fiance and I agreed from the first day to limit the level of intimacy we would have. We defined what we call “boundaries” from that day. The “boundaries” kept increasing as we continued in courtship and realised our various weaknesses. We decided not to kiss before our wedding not because it is bad in itself, but because we know that after a while kissing will not be enough anymore. We do hug and hold hands sometimes, but once it starts to get “sensual” we stop. Its been about 3 years and we hope to get married soon (situation has not allowed that yet), but I am glad that God has helped us keep to the commitment we made the first day. We started our relationship by following God’s guidance, so we really want to continue in a way that pleases Him.

Yay! Akinade I’m so happy for you and your wife is so pretty. @ anonymous when people talk about abstinence in courtship they usually mean different things. For some people they can do everything apart from the real sex. For me and my Fiancé, it’s just lip kissing. No ‘smooching’, no nakedness and my boobs are off bounds. Truly those who save the kissing for the altar are the real MVPs, I tried it but it didn’t work. Yes it is very possible to enjoy the bond without engaging in all of that. I’m a living witness. It’s not easy abstaining though, temptation has tripled since we got engaged. But I know we would make it.

Funto and Gaise….. You two have been violated!!!!!!!! Lol.. Beautiful love story. One to encourage every young guy and lady out there that it is possible to wait until marriage irrespective of the sexual desires and push we see all over the place . Congrats Gaise and Funto.

Virginity should always be a personal thing, as part of the package of spirituality being a personal pathway with God. I don’t get why it is focused on the most, and people are handed a trophy. I am not saying it is a bad thing, but it is not enough to make a headline poster. I would like to see a poster of I never lied to my girlfriend/boyfriend during our relationship, I was forthcoming and truthful with everything, I respected him/her, I this, and I that, you know the whole package, not exactly the whole package as one cannot be 100% perfect, but as we hold a trophy high for one and encourage more people, it will be better if the church also preached more on other godly characteristics, because virginity is not enough to save a marriage. I just spent the past weekend consoling a friend whose marriage of 4 years has crashed. She married a virgin and held unto it so much so she thought it would make her more worth or more cherished. Big mistake. She is still saying it, oh despite giving myself to him, what else does a man want, our marriage is over. Errrrrrrrr, what else does a man want? Your virginity will last for 1 seconds and poof it is gone. There has to be more to you than that, and it should never be a part of your identity. It is something to be proud of, don’t get me wrong, but I would like to see more emphasis on the big picture. The kind of big picture that guarantees a successful marriage, The asoebi from the wedding 4 years ago is still in my wardrobe. It was quite poignant to see this piece the monday after this weekend.

Virginity is just a part of their story… It is not like they said “we met, she was a virgin…I was a virgin, so I married her”

They talked about months of building a friendship before even beginning a relationship and also when they started their relationship, steps they took to resolve their differences and get on the same page during their “courtship”

For me, it is great to see and read about different types of couples. In today’s age, the status quo is sex sex sex. While I do not feel there is anything wrong with sex, I love seeing couples of different kinds with varied stories.

As per your friend, she is not getting a divorce because she got married as a virgin. She is getting a divorce because she and her husband were probably incompatible to begin with and/or did not work on the communication and all the other important elements which make a successful marriage. In her case, based on what you said, it seems as though they were so fixated on the V-card, they forgot all the other important things after the fact. Bear in mind that couples who got married after sleeping together on the first day get divorced, couples who dated for 10 years get divorced, couples in arranged marriages get divorced, high school sweethearts get divorced…basically anyone can get divorced!

Based on your last sentence, people with sexual purity and sexual impurity get divorced, so why is it mentioned when one or both couples are virgins, as if their marriage will be exemplary. You obey one instruction, doesn’t mean you are guaranteed to have a successful marriage, hence the reason it shouldn’t be mentioned at all, because by mentioning it, you have assigned it a trophy. 1 over 10 is not a pass mark, 1 over 10 doesn’t mean you will enter heaven. Coming from someone who is also a virgin, it might seem strange why I am not dancing on my tippee toes about it. If you read my comment under Lizzie’s, I wanted hubby to be to fall in love with me, and not an idea that I am much better than his ex’s because I am a virgin. To Jane Public, many hugs to your friend, I hope now that she is no longer a virgin, she will focus more on building herself for herself, and not for any man’s benefit. So she can have a successful next relationship or marriage now that her crowning “glory” has been taken away. I hope she doesn’t feel less of a woman, now that she has no trophy to carry around, or no invisible pedestal to sit on and expect more from the man. If I wanted to be harsh now, I will say, I hope she has gotten over herself. The real work has now begun. To be virgin no be the main work o

Well, you said it. The mistake is in holding your virginity as a trophy. What we’re celebrating here is making a commitment and being able, by the grace of God, to fulfil it. No one has ever said virginity makes for a perfect marriage. Heck, being spiritual does not guarantee success in marriage neither does sex keep a home. I believe however, that being able to work out certain issues during courtship helps in marriage. With sex out of the picture, you have time to sort out other issues.

You need to read the story again. Nowhere did he indicate that they’re all about their virginity, he clearly talked about how he prayed and waited before they became a couple, and how both of them have grown and matured. Reading this you can see that isn’t a couple who built their entire identity around their virginity, they clearly have other things going on.

You think someone that prayed and sought God’s face for six months before the wedding wouldn’t know that there’s more to marriage than virginity? This is not one of those stories.

My boyfriend and I are also virgins. He’s 28 and I’m 24….it’s not been easy but God has helped us in our journey (It’s been about 4 years now). I’m not sure we can come and tell the whole world like this sha. hehehehe….Love him so very much and can’t wait!!

This is such a beautiful and inspiring story, especially in the world we find ourselves in, where it seems like it isn’t possible to keep yourself till marriage. I hope many young boys and girls can learn from this. It is possible to wait till marriage. God bless you two!!

Lol….trust me it ain’t easy. Hubby and I got married as virgins, out of choice. Now you could say we were the real MVPs. because we abstained from kissing in all the three years we dated. He gave me a peck on the lips just once. And it was in a full house. This was just so we don’t tempt ourselves too far. Since we “did”, mehn, it’s been amazing. We get better and better at it. Happy does not describe how I feel about all this. It’s sweet to know young people like us still have the courage to stand up for God, and against immorality. Gaisebaba, please poooooooouuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr……na you get am!!! Congrats dears.

PS: I know there may be someone somewhere planning to comment negative things on this post. This post spells love all over it, love for God, and for each other. May Jesus cleanse your heart if you are the one….

Bet @itha…who mentioned Bible?….. I’m known here for spreading what I supposedly don’t have a clue about, so that’s no biggie….but na you suppose think outside the box oo, abi God only exists in the Bible? or are we all now Christians on BN….even if I was talking about the Bible, remember it didn’t fall from the sky, na son of man record am….and when it all began, God in the Bible did not say make Adam keep his hands off Eve, He said, go forth and multiply, meaning grab, scoop am….do tirin tirin tirin and born pikin….abeg no be here….this na beautiful post….I no wan turn am to a page for religious banter… *runs to light candle on top budha head*

This is sooooo beautiful! To be very honest i doubted if there were guys like this…but there goes my doubts! I’m very happy that in this decadent times, God is still in the business of empowering youths to be celibate. I’m pretty sure my wait would’nt be in vain then! There’s really nothing like knowing you and your partner are on the same page on celibacy and living for God. it is very rewarding! God bless your union with lifetime happiness and fruitfulness!!!

Virginity is more of a covenant with God to protect the Holy Spirit’s temple.Yeah the bible says so that our body is the Spirit’s temple so when we do what God says concerning abstaining till marriage ,we are obeying him and not necessarily pleasing our future husband which although is a by-benefit(not in all cases).The bible also says that fornication is the only sin we commit against our body as all other sins are committed outside the body so if we do not want to “vex” the Holy Spirit,we can like to be “pure” till marriage which in its entirety is a godly covenant as opposed to the popular belief that marriage is a mere civil institution(story for another day).As a 22 year old virgin,e hard dieeeee I must say but the joy that I know the Lord has for/because of me(huh??!) gives me the strength to hold on tight.I always have to remind myself of the fact that sex clouds the mind and heart and mingles and ringles(whaaa?lol) with it so that we think we are in love when indeed it is just chemicals acting up inside of us due to the rush and excitment.I could write a trilogy on this issue but i just wan leave una with these few points of mine.Toodles……

That is the way it should be.. like 24 years ago. I was a young virgin.. and have my kids in wedlock. but nowadays.. une week dating… THEY OPEN THEI LEGS wide for the man… to lay them again again and again… letting their boobs to men.. to play with them, leaking them up and down.. even licking downtown… and they expect the man to marry them?? THEY WILL JUMP to the next victim… Now women don’t have no class, they are easy and love to open their legs wide, showing off their boobs.. cheap cheap.. and some men are the same way too.. jumping from one woman to another.. that is why many of them are impotent by 28 having erection problems because their Penis is sick and retarded… from too much sex

This is a very inspiring story. Thank you for sharing it cus it gives more hope. Whether virgin or celibate it’s important to remember it’s not just physical abstinence that matters but psychological too. The thoughts running through our mind or even the things we watch can ruin us. When trying to stay pure physically also remember to try stay pure in our mindset. It’s not just that which goes into a man that défilés him but also what comes out. What we allow into our minds is what reflects physically in our lives. We need to Guard our hearts, minds, body and soul jealousy. May God grant us the grace to wait. 🙂

Don’t give in to his pressure please. I was in your shoes 4 years ago and less than two months after I broke off the relationship because I didn’t want to have sex, God brought me my prince charming when I wasn’t even looking. God is not a man that He should lie!!

Thank God for your testimony. I am also a virgin,engaged to a virgin too. My mum,pastor and brother have gone along way to help us since our engagement,our wedding is in less than 4 months. We are both trusting God to see us tru. I used to allow hugging,kissing b4,but I had to stop when I coudnt control what was coming,also with a guilty conscience. I spoke with my pastor and my mum. We still rely on his grace,cos the truth is,its not being easy. BTW,what’s MVP?

Many are sniggering at the virgin talk and even asking why only virginity is hyped. it is not the only virtue but it is extolled in the bible (Sexual purity) as every other sin is committed outside a man’s body except sexual sins. Not excusing lies and all…

Marriage is honourable the bed undefiled; if you are waiting receive grace to get to the finish line. If you will like to start over and wait, its never too late as God can wipe your slate clean and give you a new beginning.

Epistle alert – So, sexual impurity is now the highest sin of all? I swear, the way some people interpret the Bible ehn, I am very sure their own was written in Ijebu. Every sin is extolled in the Bible, none is higher than the other, no but’s if’s and when. Murder is committed with what, your “astral body”? I actually agree with Jane Public for once. Sorry Jane, your comments sometimes annoy the pants of me. My opinion and it is not written to bring down anyone’s, which I think is where some are missing the point. I would like to see a heading different from we were virgins before we married. Pouring into her ke, how crass? No offence. My story – You guys can have a Gynae come examine me for days, I am one myself, but I don’t mention it, I don’t tell my friends, and only 2 people in this world know, plus my GP because I have told her to stop sending me letters about Pap smear because I am not sexually active. My parents probably think I lost it ages ago because I am very open and sociable. In my dating life, boyfriends, I never told. I just them, when they start to feel frisky, I’m sorry, the do aint happening, and if they jokingly ask if I am one, my response has ALWAYS been, unless you are my Gynaecologist, it aint any of your business. We aint doing the do and that’s it. One, I don’t want to be seen as “special” because of it, because I didn’t come this far moulding my character only for my efforts at self development to be passed over for a hymen. Two, I don’t want to be seen as a challenge. Some evil men out there hoping they will be the one to break you. It doesn’t define me, it never has and in my opinion, it shouldn’t. Bros hubby to be only found out after we got engaged and it was part of a, we have reached the last bus stop, let us write down our deepest darkest gbogbo e and trash it out before the wedding hence no surprises during the planning or after the wedding. He was shocked. Yes we Kiss, and it never passes that. Gosh that man is a good kisser and I don’t feel ashamed one bit, or less “virginal”. He actually told me he thought I was molested as a child, and because I am this great woman (insert head swelling) he is madly in love with, he was willing to wait and be faithful mind you, until I could trust him very well with my body and share my story. Never in a million years did he think – Virgin. We both had a good laugh (no offence to anyone who has been molested), he still can’t believe his luck. Yes I wanted him to fall in love with ME and my hymen was not meant to be part of the equation at all. If our wedding is going on Bella Naija (wedding vendors are still toasting me – i told them I will only agree if I get a generous discount as it is free advert for them) next year, I don’t want to inspire anybody biko. It is private information, my personal decision, and I am not pouring out to Hubby to be shared on a website. Will save the story for our sons and daughters.

@veryangrysomebody your own plenty small, didn’t you read the part she mentioned she’s a gynae herself? So obviously she knows. You really need to chill, you post like a Year one med student who’s eager to share how much they know about Medical issues

Thanks for the truth jane public! I do not respect virgins more than anyone else! It’s a personal decision, and doesn’t deserve a trophy. Some hold this virginity mantle as if it equals all things good! My friend married a virgin and the marriage didn’t even last a year… Very cold, selfish and distant girl who believed her virginity was enough for you not to question her lack of character! Biko give me someone who has been there, done that. MVPS indeed…

July 2013 to November 2014 isn’t simply 1 year plus for Gaise and Funto. The foundation was laid several years before: of prayer, decision, commitment and discipline. Those 16 months were just enough for them to write their script. Now they have a lifetime to act it out. And I trust God’s gift lasts.

Ok, since you want me to go there…memx, ibisco, tomie… 4 things.. First of all I said GOD, I didn’t say Jesus or Paul. Paul is not = God and it is debatable that Jesus = God. Second, do y’ll know what celibacy is?…. It’s abstaining from sexual relations or marriage. One main characteristic of man is procreation, the reason all of us on this post are here….It would not be possible for us to be here if humans abstain from sex. That was how God designed us. Choosing not to exercise the right to have sexual relations/procreate is personal and nothing to do with how God designed us. Third, please when you read your Bible, do not read literally, read in context. Fourth, not only Christians are celibate and it is not always about Christianity and Christians.

But the people in this story are christian, if anyone is reading out of context here it’s you. And your argument about procreation is flawed. Nobody on this thread has said people shouldn’t procreate or have sex, they’re only saying do it within a marriage according the bible’s instructions. You talk as if they’re saying don’t have sex at all, even if you’re married.

Pap smear/test/screening can lead to early cervical cancer detection. It is recommended that if you are sexually active, it is a must. However even if you are not sexually active/virgin you are encouraged to get one, though your risk of cervical cancer is low . There are a handful of bodies that give out recommendations on this. USPSTF recommends at age 21 regardless of sexual history as long as you have a cervix. Also bear in mind these guidelines change, and it also depends on your gynecologist. Some would do it , some wouldn’t.

Virgins full for here oh! Or e be like sey na only for social media dem dey come out because I no dey meet too many in real life. Anyways, it doesn’t rili marra if you are virginia or not; an heediot will always be one. So no think sey because you don marry virgin, sey automatically your marriage go don work be that. Sometimes iris those people wey you never hexperrit from wey go surprise you shege!

Ummmm…I waited for 30 years. .as a guy. .at that point I cudnot wait any longer I had to do it people already calling me abnormal. I regreted it tho. As I realised it wasn’t heavenly as I thought. ..anyway..our story can’t b d same

There is definitely hope for some of us that are still waiting on God for our life partners. I am so encouraged!! It is very possible to wait, especially if you have a partner who shares that same values as you and you both are willing to keep yourselves accountable.

You can have a lorry-load of sticky hymen all you like; If 1. You don’t know Christ and haven’t accepted him, the sprawling load wouldn’t save you any bit 2. You engage in other forms of sexual immorality (you will be a fool to think ‘sex’ is only what it refers to), then your load is as good as an empty truck 3. You are of bad character/judgement your 20-30-40-something years of waiting and eventual pouring will only prepare your bags for a return to your mother’s home 4. You expect the world to be on their knees wishing they were you (simply because you are only observing ‘just ‘one” of God’s injunctions), then God might as well show you zillions who haven’t told a lie in 20-something years, gossiped in 30-something years, never failed to give to the poor in 40-something years and probably never failed to read their bibles in 50-something years.

Let us make priorities priorities. I am proud of the couple for waiting till that very day and I trust God to do so too, but then, if you are simply rejoicing and hoping your doing same will step-in for your other inadequacies, may I help you realize that: YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME!!

Hmmmm….dont even know where to start from. First of all i want to congratulate this couple for honoring God openly and not being ashamed. I also made a commitment to God not to have sex with any man until marriage. People dnt understand the spiritual implications of jumping from one mans bed to the other. You sleep with people you dont know from adam and you expect not to pick things up? God sure knows why he said we should FLEE from Fornication. Its not bcos he has a babe smwhr that he dsnt want anybody to touch. Our bodies are the temple of the holy spirit. We where bought with a price..JESUS. So i ask myself do i really value what jesus did for me? Or i cheapen myslf so much as to jump into any mans bed who is willing to tell me he loves me. I also noted that the guy ddnt condemn or raise his note at people who have had a sexual past which is good, God surely forgives!! But that doesnt mean his grace should be misused. Our generation has praised wrong so much that people who really want to obey God are timid about it. Let us applaud them as much as we can.. Obeying God defo takes alot of courage and faith. No man can legislate to you if you hvnt made up your mind. As for me the holyspirit is there to convict my heart of wrong doing so i dont need social media to vote for what is right or wrong. In psalms it said “thy word have i hidden in my heart that i might not sin against thee.

I can relate to this guy. I am a virgin and 34 years. I have a girlfriend and we will be getting married next year by God’s grace……..abeg am honestly looking forward to the ‘pouring’ before congi finish me…..it has not been easy but God’s grace and determination that I am meant for my wife and her alone………so help me God. Baby incase you are reading this, I do hope you are also looking forward to the pouring.

this is really challenging. I fell in love with their story, and I’m indeed surprised that we still have virgin men, and that, not ashamed to declare it. making commitments and asking God for grace is vital.

ThiS is completely unrelated. I wanna know how people come back to a post to reply someone else’s reply? Is it that BN gives an email notification? Cos most times I see chains and I’m just wondering….LOL!

Wow!Beautiful story.I know two guys that got married as a virgin.One was 36 ad the other was 30.It still happens.Stories like this gives me hope.Not some silly guy who wants to taste the goodies for free #TeamNosexBefore Marriage#With God all things are possible#LordbringThatDestinedManForMe.amen.May God bless your home

Great story, pouring or no pouring the most beautiful part of the gist is that through their total dependence on God to help them keep their covenants, they have exercised their spiritual muscles and in the process learnt to trust God for all other areas of the journey. So whether or not you be virgin, you need to tap into this dependence theory.

I was sexually active before I became a christian. Around the same time, I met my husband who was a Christian and a virgin. We courted for 3 years. With God’s help and an open discussion, we waited until after our wedding to have sex. 19 years later, I can say definitively, God knows what he is doing! It was worth the wait. Sex remains fresh and exciting. Those 3 years, were worth the wait. I have experienced both and can say sex should be saved for the marriage bed.

God bless ur marriage. One reason that can keep u waiting is God’s word. Desire to obey God is a strong reason to wait & d best reason. Other reason could be beaten but not d Word of God. It is cool to wait by God’s word & on God Himself. Being waiting for 32yrs & till i take her home will i wait as commanded by God. Shalom

For people saying that remaining a virgin till marriage is not something to be excited about, you are wrong. This is something that God desires for everyone.. In this world now, sex has become nothing of value. In some places, a 13 yr old being sexually active is nothing special. There are days when I turn on the tv and scroll through different channels, and all I see are couples in one sexual act or the other. Sex has become nothing. People even bully and make fun of people who are virgins. Yes, it is not all that is required for a good marriage, no one is arguing that. But when you consider the fact that our bodies naturally want sex and the world encourages it at every turn, then you should understand why this article was given its title. It is something many people struggle with, so I see no reason why this couple shouldn’t speak about it as a form of encouragement.

Now I shed tears reading their story… Wish I was a virgin but who am I to blame God for the idiots that raped me when i was 13 or my uncle that fingered me. Happy about their story. Sadly I feel having sex is a way to prove I love a guy… Stupid me shey. With this their story I have made up my mind to ” close my fat laps” till HE comes. Pray he comes fast sha as I would be 29 this month. God bless the couple and thumb ups to the virgins.

Congrats to the couples for being virgins till their wedding and unashamed to share it with a world that makes fun of virgins, there are lots of virgins out there but society as stereotyped them into silence, a lot of people will look for how to pull you down for standing for purity, they make you feel you are not better than them that are not, and I get the anger and the mindset, cus many people were tricked and forced to loose their virginity due to peer pressure from boyfriends/girlfriends/novels/movies etc. but then just because you lost it or you gave it away, willingly or unwillingly, does not mean you should abhor jealousy over those who still have theirs especially if the reason for their keeping it is to honour God, and we are all called to honour God, not just in sexual purity but in how we talk to ourselves and encourage ourselves, there is nothing wrong in being a secondary virgin, even if you have lost it or it was taken from you, you can still spiritually reclaim it, by choosing this day to honour God, honour marriage, honour people, by not coveting other peoples husbands or wives, we can all abstain, we all have self control, and if you are in relationship and you feel you are ready for sex then get married, have a small wedding and a bigger anniversary later… Pardon the long Epistle, but we as society need to encourage more couple to honour God not just for virginity, but in how we see ourselves, not all men are dogs and not all women are female dogs, we are all children of God, virgins and non-virgins, lets honour God in all our relationships, not just by mouth, but in deed, let’s not just form personality but let’s be of good character.

Thank you oh. Please preach the gospel of truth. It is not easy being a virgin . I bought back my hymen for £4300 at private hospital. It’s my Arabic dubai princess girlfriend that took me there o. Now 8 am a virgin again people must hear too. If you are jealous go and buy your own. Virgin for life.

This story is SURE inspiring and I’m encouraged. I also thank God for such strong mums Funto and Gaise have. They trained them up in the way they should go and they are both enjoying its dividends. NOTE to parents. Keep pouring thou Gaise Baba! Lol! Cheers to a beautiful married life.

I understand quite well. It is not easy. I’m 28 and still a virgin because I grew up telling myself that I would not want to share my body with two women in my life, was influenced by my Sunday school teachings, and God has kept me. It wasn’t easy conquering in secondary school, then university, then being a bachelor leaving alone and going to work everyday.. People don yab me tire…. though the few that know, and some even make it look as if not having premarital sex makes you less human. But I am glad I have kept myself. Can’t wait to find her as pure as I am and make her my wife.

What makes you pure?! Being a virgin? Kudos and keep your body until marriage but my brother if you commit any other sin everyday of your life and you keep telling yourself you are pure just cos you be virgin, you are deceiving yourself and your future partner! Sorry to say

I didn’t want to comment before but i will now. Bellanaija you are doing a great job having us read post like this and spreading the word that good people do exist (both males and females). We have over celebrated all the negative stuff; “everyone is having sex and you should” “fake lifestyles of so called celebrities” “corrupt govt officials and there deeds” “militants” etc and fail to promote the good things that happen every day, the beautiful stories of people. These are reasons while evil thrives and everyone will go on saying the world is evil, men are bad and are cheats, women are lairs e.t.c We fail to realize that for every evil person there are at least 10 good/great persons, and for every guy/lady that has done us wrong there are at least 5 guys/ladies who will love you truly and respect us.

Please Good people speak up and stop hiding, also please lets all endeavor to promote, goodness and character in our society and stop giving attention to the whore or the playboy, to the militants, and to evil doers but take the power from them.

Ps; God bless and keep your union and thanks for sharing. May God give the rest of us great sons and daughter of his kingdom as spouses….amen.

I’m a Catholic Clergy and I have an entire lifetime of celibacy. Could be 40, 50, or 80 years.

Humanly speaking, it is difficult to sustain. But with the grace of God, coupled with personal efforts, then it becomes easier to do. Just like the Groom said, apart from asking for God’s grace, he ensured that he avoided being in a lonely place with her for long (personal human effort), before God’s grace go expire. lol As to fornication, adultery, slander, insults or any other sin, if only we can be conscious enough to know and avoid the temptations that lead us to them (for sexual sins, pornography is worth mentioning), then we have done well humanwise. May God help us in all we do, assist us in always doing his Will, and bring us back when we stray away. AMEN

Are you for real? So there are these many virgins out there? So where did the ‘everybody is doing it’ line come from? All these people are people too na, abi? peer pressure and band wagon effect sha;consistently completely baseless.

I married a virgin man i wsnt a virgin myself bt he married me anywys bt nw hes now looking for a virgin girl , i lost mine thru abuse at first he understood bt nw its moods and moods again,lovely story up there may God bless you moreee

I just stumbled on this now and I’m so excited we still have Christian brothers and sisters that are holding up with the faith. I pray that God will continue to give us the grace to wait patiently till we meet our spouses in Jesus name. I wish the couple an heaven on earth experience in their union and that God will give them the grace to overcome all challenges.

People and their comments tho! If you are no longer a virgin,it’s ok to feel bad,for when we sin against God,we should be conscious and remorseful,not looking for a way of consolation by teaming up to insult and condemn those that are virgins…I’m not a Virgin and I feel remorseful about defiling my body and therefore have a repentant heart.. (There’s a huge difference between being remorseful and having a repentant heart,Judas was remorseful but wasn’t repentant!!) you have to be both! Now,don’t forget there is still hope, for you can go to Jesus,confess and repent. .Dont let people intimidate you by thinking you are less holier than they are?(oops, yes,I said it,felt that way,way too many times) Matthew 20:16, So the last shall be first and the first last: for many be called,but few chosen). It is never too late if you still breathing,It’s not about your past…it’s about who you are now or willing to become. Be a good person,always remember to look,listen and love. HML to Gaise and Funto! Truly inspiring story… God bless your home. Amen.

tnx luv. shows ur level of maturity both physically n spiritually. The presence n Grace of the Lord will never depart from u. In all areas of ur life, may u grow from strength to even greater strength IJMN.

Being a virgin b4 marriage, I agree, is not ALL d virtue that keeps a home continually happy & peaceful one after! But there’s dignity in virginity, bringing life long joy, pride, & satisfaction to d concerned; earning respect frm d spouse. I salute this couple!

Congrats Gaise, I am glad you made the decision and God saw u through. I also was a 29 year old virgin bride,was it easy? No but God’s grace kept me until my wedding night. Making a decision and seeing it through is what we celebrate here and if anyone has an issue with that then we are sorry u do, but we are not ashamed of our decision and infact, we celebrate keeping ourselves till wedding night and we are grateful for God’s grace. It’s a way of encouraging others who might need encouragement as well. Abstinence is beautiful and with God’s help you can pull through and like Gaise said, u can then be naked and not ashamed.

The truth is virgin men n women still exist.. Most don’t talk about it likewise good men n women still exist. … Some people are used to bn treated as trash or hurt to the extent that dey don’t believe they deserve some thing good.,you alone can decide how you wish to b treated. …. but I tell u d truth once u ve made up ur mind to be of new creature, let go of past n live in d new.. God made all things bright n beautiful and you are one of them. ..D are to stand out. . Best wishes

indeed awesome! had to part wv my ex cos we wer nt on d same page as regards this. If a partner can’t support u in doing right n pleasing God, its probably not worth it. God is faithful to fulfill His word.

Na you get your mouth sha LOOOOL. Everybody wants to belong to the fraternity of virgins. Na you get your mouth same as all the other virgins here. If na mouth dem they take become Virgin me too na Virgin for maternity ward looool.

What a story!. It is definite that anyone who honours God shall be honoured in return. there is a lways a reward for obedience. I totally subscribe to and encourage, virginity and abstinence from all sexual perversions . they only bring victims under slavery, addiction . the enemy starts to prowl for victims quite early in life at ages 4, 5, 6, upwards exposing children to ,lust, pornography etc. I celebrate this couple and I pray for more of this kind of testimonies in our generation. Girls need to understand that with God’s help you can keep your virginity till marriage no matter the pressure. Any man who can not wait only wants to steal what he can not give you back. Men were made to protect the women not to explore their bodies and dump them. A woman’s power and self – esteem resides in her feminity . Her feminity is also her womanhood. At the core of her feminity is her virginity. A woman was designed to be a mystery to be unveiled by her husband. Once her feminity is violated she loses something she might not be able to explain at first. and as she continues to loose virtue, she continues to be demysitified and continues to loose power and self esteem. This story has made my day. I married as a virgin too at well into my 30s and gosh it was tough but God made it easy. It is a good one! Congrats and more grace to the couple.

At the core of her feminity is her virginity? So our mothers have lost their feminine core cos they’re no longer virgins? Diaris God oh. Just so you remember, Mary Magdalene, had several men in her life and yet she was the first person to see Jesus when he resurrected.

life is in hurdles n phases n steps n………. so proud of u guys cos dis wil go a long way in encouraging d virgins, making remorseful d truly repentant dis-virgined and a platform and challenge to ur children. I must say tho no one is perfect that that is one hurdle or challenge in faith u just overcame.pls do not at any time forget that it was the grace of God that was sufficient for u that led to victory.I undstnd that it takes a million n one things to keep a marriage n happy n successful too. d most impt being never being tired of forgiving. someone once wrote ”nevr be angry @ ur loved ones for whatever actions for though thier actions may be wrong but thier intentions cud never be”.I am sending u a gift n that is……………………..THE RIGHT HAND OF JEHOVAH/ALLAH.

I’m really encouraged that in this perversed generation there are still lovers of God that obey His commands. Pre-marital sex has become so rampant in our society that one would think COP is abnormal. Well, I love God too much to choose instant gratification over long-term blessings. I know i’m not waiting in vain too, God is too faithful. Congrats to Akin and Olu…you shall raise godly seeds and kings shall come to the brightness of your rising IJMN!

Most comments are from women. As usually are in these kinds of matters. Many of you ladies comment here just to feel better about yourselves. That’s OK. ‘God’ is a relative term. VeryAngryNigerian, you have a few points in your argument which I agree with. No religious banter needed; this country has too many ‘religious’ problems already. Funny thing is – words like ‘sex’ and ‘virgin’ are relative terms too! Damn. I’m happy for this couple, nontheless.

It is good to commend those who have become examples worthy of note especially in a time when keeping your body as God’s temple does not matter anymore. The holy book says “marriage is honourable among all and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”. Sex is not just physical; it is also spiritual and mental. I remember Jesus saying “whoever looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Having sex is quite calculative. It does not just happen by mistake. That is why one needs to make the decision (before temptation comes) to abstain and wait till marriage. For those who may feel they have lost their virginity, it is your heart that matters most. Make a recommitment to God to honour Him with your body. God is so interested in what you do with your body and your mind. Stay away from provocative movies and website. Filled yourself with word of God and be prayerful. Congrats to the couple!

Am so happy for my bro, never knew you were a virgin till now, I’m so inspired by your story. Staying a virgin no be beans especially we staying in cold a cold country, during winter the konji raise to a level of power 10. It takes God to hold oneself with the way London girls dey dress, God help me.

The video in this story just makes me feel like having a do-over…and the story itself? its a great testimony…real …practical…and encouraging! and i appreciate his honesty too…and its very posssible to remain a virgin till marriage or at least stay celibate with a partner…

I so much love their story. I find it truly inspiring. I made a similar covenant before I completed my undergrad that I’ll wait till marriage. I am patiently waiting and God has been faithful………..i’ll wait as long as it takes………………….

Yours is a beautiful story… marriage made in heaven. But seriously, I am pleased and delighted to know that there are still men around that hold up the word and follow suit… I ‘ll theme your marriage “Heaven on earth” and it is one story, i will cherish for a very long time.

Thank you so much for sharing your story… Am almost shading tears. May God bless your Union Gaise and Funto and may God also bless your mothers for being there for you and raising you God’s way(may God grant you grace to raise your children same way)… You guys are lucky though, some of us got no mum or anyone to guide and encourage us but am still so glad that I read your story, am highly inspired and encouraged. I Bless God

Hmmmm…i love this story. Well for non-virgins, you can make a decision now to hold on till the he/she comes. Just like the guy said, not every non-virgin is promiscuous. It indeed takes a COP and the ability to stand by it, to really remain celibate. The way sex is so celebrated among the unmarried ehn…i dont just know…well, still looking out for her, cos she’s got 32yrs of virginity to take in 🙂 Virginity pays…like I always do, “O Lord, bless my wife and children wherever they are. Amen.”

I stumbled on this post exactly a week after having an abortion..he hasn’t called me once to check up on me nd tat am cool with..I thought abt this that day tat maybe abstinence is d best atleast if I had abstained I wudnt ve felt all of tat pain raw..stole some quotes frm the comments,time to re-evaluate my life nd stop my foolishness. Congrats to Gaisie nd Funto. Lesson learnt.

Aww. This is nice, I thank God for both of U, and pray God blesses Ur marriage. Its a story of love, friendship, discipline, and trust in God. Its an encouragement to the rest of us young Christians. I pray we all share a testimony like this someday. Amen

Beautiful couple! God bless your union… I must say I envy you and am really proud of you. To us that lost our virginity already, lets not condemn ourselves, its not too late to return to God, forgive yourself and plead for His mercy and be determined never to return to your vomit. It worked for me cos I am enjoying absolute Peace. May God also bless your mothers and I pray God make me a wonderful mum too to guide my children through the right path. If I cant marry a virgin, By the Special Grace of God! Will do my best to ensure my children does.

Na all this pouring dey make first pikin (first child) head dey strong!….I remember my sis and hubby getting married at 33 and 35 respectively as a Virgin!….Chaii!…Their first child head strong pass anything!….if that boy mistakenly hits his head on yours!…..just go and look for aboniki straight!

Thank you so much BN for posting stories like this…this is so encouraging! Especially, from a guy perspective. So many men think that their sexual capabilities is what makes them a real MAN; it is so refreshing to hear the perspective from a REAL MAN who takes pride in following the values of God. I have been on both sides of the coin myself…and I have been waiting until marriage for about 2 years now. I wish I knew how precious and valuable my virginity was and how ignorant/stupid others are that ridicule being a virgin. Only the Lord, Jesus Christ can give you the ability to sustain yourself until marriage for the right reasons (to be a vessel onto the Lord).

I truly say that my relationship and intimacy with the Lord has gotten so much closer now. I used to think by “giving it up” and doing every trick in the book that was love and the only to prove you love someone. Now, I know what LOVE truly means. I feel so complete in Christ. I know what FORGIVENESS is because true love and forgiveness can only be found in Christ and help us to love our dear ones and spouses better.

And to have a spouse that has waited until marriage for me means that…. it is more unlikely for him to search for lovers/cheat because of investment that he had to make in himself and in waiting for me (also negatively affecting his relationship with God), It also means that he will be more able to go without sex in special circumstances, like fasting or later stages of pregnancy/immediately after his wife has given birth, for medical reasons or if for some reason we had to live apart/travel for some time. I feel as though I would be able to trust him more because if he can hold out for someone that he really wants (me)….then the chances that he would jeopardize our relationship/marriage for another person would be much lower.

NOTE: Of course, I am not saying waiting until you get married guarantees you a cheat-free relationship; but, from my experience the things you wait for and fight for in life are the things you tend to appreciate the most.

God bless this couple’s union! May you all have a beautiful family! And may your children and children’s children’s walk in the ways of the Lord as you guys have in waiting before marriage!

I’m a virgin at 25, quite attractive too. Guys run away when they ask me out and I tell them we can’t have sex while dating. Sometimes it makes me sad. I recently fell in love with this guy, he was already talking bout being his gf and then the sex issue came up, he doesn’t talk to me anymore.

I refuse to be discouraged cos I know God has my man out there. He doesn’t even have to be a virgin, I just want someone that will support my choice…..

wow wow, Gaise first of all i want to thank you for being a man, a brother, a friend, a father to those who never got the privilege to such an amazing and super inspiring story on your wedding day. Some of us lost ours at 20, we couldn’t stand the test of time but I thank God you did, I feel very motivated even with your statement which says, “even if you are not a virgin now, you can still abstain and tell a story as well. I respect you so much and I pray you will be a good father and have replica children like urself, who will do much exploits. God bless you for sharing such a master piece. To all who feel left out of the race like myself, don’t give up because it is never too late to start doing the right thing.

Its all good.We know its just one of the virtues we need to have.There are still many other which if lacking in a life,makes one ugly even if she’s a celebrity.Sex is singled out cos its one of d flaws we all cry out against when it happens abnormally.Nobody here likes a promiscuous person,nobody would want a sibling to sleep around.It hurts to hear that and so,when sb has been able to stand up for it,he is commended.Its also possible that they were also developing other lovely traits.Its all good

Hmmmmmm well it works, save sex 4 marriage is a commandment from God so when we fulfil dat he sure wud bless us maritally with all good things..I liked the part he said God resist d pround nd gives grace 2d humble, he was humble enough 2 have seeked 4 God’s grace cus he cudn’t do it on his own with such a beautiful woman by his side…. I always pray for my unknown husband nd unborn children cus I want a home built on God nd his word nd dats all I desire! A man dat wud stay wud stay

@ Jane Public. I really love your comment .Please I am a pretty 35 year old, single lady and a virgin. Virginity by choice and God’s fear, not that I am saving it for a man in the hopes of having a good marriage. Character and prayers among others will sustain a marriage and not virginity.

Keep it up. Thank God for salvation, we need this message around d world.But who u tell about your virginity matter alot. They young teenagers need to be “caged” for Christ for their own good. They are d only who really to be told not people who who already throw their virginity to the wind. Such people will only mock u, some secretly admired and d wicked ones will like u to be like them. Its difficullt for us as females too becos some guys would just want to give excuss that being biologically difficult for a man to keep himself. Good to know that there are guys who value their bodies… Thumbs up

This is my 2cents, 28 and a virgin. i truly adore this couple.its not a perfect story bu we worked it out… Virginity is a choice to those that want to make it work, whether compromised or not. It is a state of mind first. if you have been abused, fear not, God will bring you someone deserving of you don’t beat yourself up. If you lost it out of choice, God still has enough grace. Virginity doesn’t perfect someone. Only God knows , its hard not to have sex . Are there times i have wanted to have sex,yes, a lot. the journey has been a tough one. I do cave. I might not get married to a virgin but i pray he is a pure man , who values his own body and will protect our marriage bed.Purity goes beyond the honeymoon, Couples must stay pure for each other in the marriage, but it takes a lot of work, grace and prayer.