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STEP 10: Continued to take personal inventory and when were wrong promptly admitted it.
This is where the rubber meets the road. You learned how to do this step in Steps 4-9.
BB Pg 84 – This thought brings us to Step Ten, which suggests we continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past. We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. Continue to watch for selﬁshness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code.
This thought is the 9th Step promises
New mistakes are just that. New. Not the old ones from Step 4
WHEN TO START STEP TEN
1. You do not have to complete Step Nine to do Step Ten? Nope
2. BB Pg 84 – “…as we cleaned up the past.” or as we continued to do Step 9
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE
1. BB Pg 84 – “It should continue for our lifetime.”
2. You do this step when selﬁshness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear crop up. Every day or even every hour…whenever these crop up.
THE FIVE PARTS TO STEP TEN
BB Pg 84
1. Continue to watch for selﬁshness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
2. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.
3. We discuss them with someone immediately
4. Make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.
5. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.
THE LEARNING PROCESS STEP TEN
The first four parts of Step 10 are a learning process. It’s basically on the job training. You will learn as you go. These a Steps 4 thru 9 on a daily basis.
1. Continue to watch for selﬁshness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.
2. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.
3. We discuss them with someone immediately
4. Make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.
5. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.
This is simply not just a mental process. This is a learning of the heart which involves a vital transformation as we do Steps 4-9. This transformation (Spiritual growth) will increase with Steps 10, 11 & 12.
HOW OFTEN DO WE DO STEP TEN
We continue to watch for the 4 grosser handicaps. “When” not “If” any of those crop up. This could be a few times a day or weeks in between. According to the Big Book, there is no writing or journaling involved. It’s on the fly.
If you get angry in the morning, are you going to wait till bedtime? Why let it ruin your whole day. Resolve it immediately and quickly.
This thought process is new to us. Sometimes we won’t know what to do. Our new mistakes will continually need God’s help. Ask God for help. The answer will come.
10th STEP PROMISES
BB Pg 84 – And we have ceased ﬁghting anything or anyone—even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot ﬂame. We react sanely and normally, and we will ﬁnd that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not ﬁghting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality—safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in ﬁt spiritual condition.
Sanity – Can tell true from false
The problem has been removed – Mental obsession has been removed. Physical allergy is still there…waiting
Fit spiritual condition – In close contact with God or God conscience. A “recovered” alcoholic can quickly become “unrecovered.”
WE ARE NEVER CURED OF ALCOHOLISM
BB Pg 85 – It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God’s will into all of our activities. “How can I best serve Thee—Thy will (not mine) be done.’’ These are thoughts which must go with us constantly. We can exercise our will power along this line all we wish. It is the proper use of the will.
1. We are never cured of our physical allergy. It will always be there. Mental obsession will always lurk on the other side of our “fit spiritual condition.” Mental obsession is patient. It will wait till we are weak (spiritually) and creep its ugly head into our thoughts.
2. We have a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. If we are in close contact with God and make Him our power, He will keep us happy, joyous and free. That is what God wants for us.

Step 1 is a conclusion of the mind that you have the Physical Allergy and the Mental Obsession. If a new guy says that he has those, Step 1 is done.
From The Doctor's Opinion:
"Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time
differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience
the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire
again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to
drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery."
Powlessness
In active drinking, you are powerless over the first drink. BB Pg 24 - "The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so called will power becomes practically nonexistent. We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering
and humiliation of even a week or a month ago. We are without defense against the first drink." We called this mental twist "Mental Obsession." It is the lie in your head that you believe ever time.
"It will be different this time."
"I've been sober for 2 months, surely by know I can have a couple."
When M.O. is not in reprieve, it will twist and turn any though or idea into a justification to drink. It wins every single time.
The 2nd part of the powerlessness is the Physical Allergy. Dr. Silkworth called it the phenomenon of crave. Once take that first drink, you are powerless over what happens next. Your body cannot control the stop. BB Pg 22 - "But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink."
Here is the jist of it: The mind cannot control the start and the body cannot control the stop.
manageability - This is different for everyone. How's your finances? How's your love life? How's your relationship with your family? Friends? How's your employment going? If one is being honest with themselves the answers are obvious.
Please don't over complicate this program. It really is simple. In the beginning it doesn't seem that way, but it is.
THE PROBLEM.pdf