Most people are either their first name, or Mr/Ms and their first name unless they introduce themselves to my kids using their last name. Abby's violin teacher is Ms Rachel, but her Sunday school teacher and a few of the older ladies at church use their last names with the kids.

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Kristen
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We did Mr./Miss firstname, until they are elementary age and then we moved to Mr/Mrs/Miss lastname, which is how teachers are addressed as well. So, DS1's friends from school, he calls their parents Mr and Mrs lastname. But, our neighbors he's known forever, are Mr/Miss firstname.

It is not common here to use mr/mrs/miss first or last name unless it is a person of authority and even then it isn't always the case.

I have worked in schools for 5 years and usually get called miss last name, even though I am a mrs. Sometimes i am miss/mrs first initial of last name. Sometimes I am just last name with no formality before it. Sometimes I am Turtle as my last name rhymes with it. Lol. Sometimes i am my first name depending on the child and his abilities. Sometimes i am xyz's mom too.

In elementary school it is more common for females to be miss rather than mrs as there is a wide variation in the schools and we have young staff that get married.

In the highschool there tends to be less formalities with the younger (under 40) staff.

As long as they are speaking to me in a respectful manner and tone I don't care what they call me.

I think I'm going to go with Miss/Mrs/Mr First name and a few close friends uncle/aunt. I never had trouble knowing who was related to me and who wasn't when I was a kid. I liked in India everyone older than you was Uncle/Aunty, even if you were 25 and they were 45. All people in authority were Sir/Madam. I know many of our friend's kids call us by our names. I'm not offended by it but I'd prefer Mrs. Some of them surprised me cos they used to say they didn't like kids calling adults by their first names. But oh well. Hopefully I won't offend anyone to teach my kids this way, but it's important to me to teach my children manners and respect for adults. I don't think it necessary means that my children will feel they have to listen to an adult no matter what or that that adult can treat them inappropriately, just that you speak respectfully. And if they don't like something the adult is doing, they can come to me and I'll deal with it.

They call them by their 1st name just like we do unless the person requests to be called something else. This seems pretty normal for VT.

fwiw I really dislike being called Miss Kathlin (what they insisted I be called when I worked in daycare even after I was married). If I'm to be given a formal prefix I prefer it be used properly Mrs/Ms B***** (my last name)

We haven't really had this come up much, DS is only 2. But thus far it's Mrs. First name and my aunts/uncles are still referred to him as aunt first name. I personally think last names are too formal so unless someone requested it, I would go by first name.