“Willing hands is way of accepting reality with your body.”

“Willing hands is part of opposite action all the way for anger. Clenched hands are indicative of anger. Anger is often the opposite of accepting reality. Anger says, ‘What is should not be.’ Anger is an emotion that motivates you to change reality, to fight it, to overcome it. Anger has its place. But here we are practicing reality acceptance.”

Sit very still with your eyes closed. First, imagine a conflict with someone that happened as recently as possible—one where you got really angry at the other person. Do this for a few moments.

Now, put your hands on your thighs in a willing-hands position as you continue to imagine the conflict situation. What was that like? Anger is usually an assumption that some current reality “should” be different than it is. As acceptance goes up, anger will go down, and a sense of understanding and sometimes peace will increase.

Practice Exercise:

“When you first awake in the morning.”“During your free moments.”“While you are listening to music.”“When you are irritated.”“In a lying-down position.”“In a sitting position.”“While you are contemplating a person you hate or despise.”