Specific differences between sex and 'making love'?..... When is one/the other approriate for you?

OK, do you think there is an intrinsic difference between having sex and 'making love'? If so, what exactly, for you, are those differences?

.Q. Would you do/say particular things with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up? Would you save the former exclusively for a partner? If not always the case, then when?

Oh I'm fully aware, it was on purpose!And I'm holding onto my v-card hypothetically as I'm not willing to hook up, sleep with anyone I'm not really into, and would like it to be really great and not uncomfortable. Unfortunately I haven't met anyone in that criteria yet.

For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

I have no clues. However, of all the responses, I think fitdude62 got it as close as I imagined what the difference could have been.

fitdude62 saidFirst of all, sex is easy. Men are men and can have sex anytime.

For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

massbuildah saidSex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!

So sweet!

My opinion: pump + dump = sex; pump + dump + x = making love.

There are definitely things I would do with someone with whom I'm making love that I would never do with someone with whom I'm just having sex. For example, I won't kiss if it's a one-time NSA hookup. If it's a repeat hookup but still NSA (like an FB or FWB situation), I might kiss but not passionately, and with less tongue action. If it's a "lover" or a "bf," he gets the full menu (and usually that includes my trademark hurricane/-tornado tongue action and more--lol!). Just saying.

fitdude62 saidFirst of all, sex is easy. Men are men and can have sex anytime.

For me, it is faster, maybe even rougher. Sex has alot to do with ego. More about the individuals and not about the other person/persons. It's all about the physical rush and the release of tension.

Making love, on the other hand, is more about communication. Connection with another soul, heart, person. Tends to be much slower or long lasting. More touching, kissing, looking into the others eyes, taking care of the others needs before my own.

Sex does not require any personal attachment, love does. This is why sex is easier to find and gets acted upon more often. Finding the "one" that you really want to make love to is much more difficult and requires much more work to maintain.

_SAGE_ saidOK, do you think there is an intrinsic difference between having sex and 'making love'? If so, what exactly, for you, are those differences?

.Q. Would you do/say particular things with somebody you made love with that you wouldn't be inclined to do if it was just sex with a NSA hook-up? Would you save the former exclusively for a partner? If not always the case, then when?

massbuildah saidSex is what you have with as many guys as you want as often as you want it, making love is what you have with that 1 guy you love as often as he wants it!

So sweet!

My opinion: pump + dump = sex; pump + dump + x = making love.

There are definitely things I would do with someone with whom I'm making love that I would never do with someone with whom I'm just having sex. For example, I won't kiss if it's a one-time NSA hookup. If it's a repeat hookup but still NSA (like an FB or FWB situation), I might kiss but not passionately, and with less tongue action. If it's a "lover" or a "bf," he gets the full menu (and usually that includes my trademark hurricane/-tornado tongue action and more--lol!). Just saying.