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The Total Power Exchange

The foundation of any relationship within the BDSM community is the total power exchange that occurs. In every relationship, there is a breakdown of power. Most realize a 50/50 breakdown or somewhere close to that. There are some situations where the power lies almost exclusively with one person based upon charisma, personality or some other trait which draws the power.

A BDSM relationship sees an absolute exchange of power. This is equal for the D/s as it is for the M/s relationship. When one witnesses a scene, it is easy to see how all the power lies in the hand of the Dom. The sub submits to Him completely. All power is in His hands. When the scene ends, however, the power shift is nullified.

In the M/s relationship, the slave submits to her Master completely. Here, He has power over her in all areas of life. The exchange of power does not end. It is an ongoing situation. It is a 100% breakdown with the control all in the hands of one person.

How do they relationship succeed with a power distribution like this? They work because the people involved are fulfilling an inner desire. A Dom has the built in need to dominate. At the same time, a sub has the desire to fully serve. One accepts and likes responsibility; the other would prefer to give it all up. This is what creates the yin/yang effect. Both parties compliment each other. That is why successful relationships are common in the BDSM world.