” Allow the world within to manifest itself and it will show you the road to freedom – freedom to be sexy, desirable, talented, healthy, and successful.” (Debbie again)

Why in the world would you put sexy/desirable & successful in the same sentence? How is sexy any part of what is appropriate to show the world? When I hear someone, especially children using the word sexy it has the same shock value as a child saying Fuck. I heard a mom telling her toddler son, ooooo so sexy, when he was dancing around. Gross!

Buzzword #2 – Sexy

In the book above, that I am reading, we are supposed to look for words that trigger us. She gave a list about a page long of hundreds of words. My thought on most words was neutral. The words that I would not like to be associated with were these two gems.

Anger is the biggest dysfunction in my family of origin and we still battle it to this day. Sexy says that a woman is trying to appear ready to have sex. I have yet to meet a man who has not destroyed his family with an affair. My father, my ex father in law, their fathers, and my ex-husband. They have affairs with women. Sexy women.

So, yeah, you may see some flaws in my reasoning here, BUT they are my buzzwords to heal.

Its been an interesting read. It’s pretty heavy self-help. A fun one is by Kelly McGonigal The Willpower Instinct. Much broader and lighter and more fun & useful for everyday life. I think you’d like it. It’s a “refreshing” kind of self-help. I like when brain scientists make learning fun!

Negative reactions/triggers from me were – lazy and emotional, with bossy a close third. I’m worried about being labeled ‘lazy,’ and I hate the connotations of being labeled an ’emotional’ and a ‘bossy’ woman.