How To Talk About Yourself Without Being an Egomaniac

Newsflash! It’s imperative that you stop talking about yourself so much immediately.

Why? Because there is a way to refer to yourself without rubbing off the “I” of your keyboard. One of the biggest mistakes in selling yourself and your services is by using “I” or “we” sentences. And FYI, “we” isn’t really all that much better than “I” other than you come across as kind enough to make it look as though you have a team.

The Entrepreneur class I am currently teaching is pulling their hair out. Lesson one was about creating an elevator pitch without using “I” or “we” statements. It’s more difficult than you’d think! As I am reviewing the pitches, I can’t help but giggle a little. You’d think this class (just like any other business class I have taught) is full of egomaniacs. Which is not true, of course.

What is true is that most business owners get caught in describing the process of how they get awesome results. While the results are important, the how is really their secret sauce and should remain a secret. This is also a mistake many of us make in our personal value propositions where we talk about ourselves in the worst possible ways.

My question to you is, are you doing it, too?

Here are a few examples of what not to say: I am punctual and organized. We deliver great results. I know how to make you look good. We show up on time and give you what you need.

Egomaniac statements (yes I know I am exaggerating but I am making a point here) read like all you want to talk about is how great YOU are. I do this… I create this… and I can do that, too…

Instead, focus on your clients or customers. They need to hear quickly and with precision about what you are going to do for them. Your challenge is to tell how great you are through the eyes of those who are hiring you.

Here is an example of a good pitch: My clients rave about my ability to understand their USP and turn it into a winning (your service/product), and as a result they (sell more.)

Every single business on this planet wants to make an impact and/or sell more. What you need to do is tell people how your service or product will help them do one or both. You don’t want to simply tell them you will give them what they want—and you definitely don’t want to say so in a general manner. (Side note: Most people don’t know what they want anyway.)

Vague statements bore me to death. Here are examples of a few trite and very bland attempts at self-promotion that I see more often than I should: We arrive at winning solutions. We deliver solutions that our clients want. We give you exactly what you envision.

Instead, think about what you want to convey with these statements. Do you help businesses double their sales? Reach 50% more customers? Make their sales people beg for mercy because the phones are ringing off the hook? This is the kind of specificity that we need in our advertising and promotions. This is how we exude the confidence that our customers and potential employers eat up.

Remember, at the end of the day it is always about what we can do for them. The more specific we are, the greater our chances of closing the deal, getting the job, or receiving the promotion.

Beate Chelette is a respected speaker, career coach, consummate entrepreneur, Author of Happy Woman Happy World, and founder of The Women’s Code, a unique guide to leadership, and personal and career success that offers a new code of conduct for today’s business, private and digital world. Determined to build a community of women helping each other, after selling one of her companies, BeateWorks, to Bill Gates for millions of dollars, Beate created The Women’s Code to share with women everywhere her strategies for success and leadership. Through her corporate initiative “Why Acting Like a Girl Is Good For Business” she helps companies with gender diversification training, and to develop and retain women.