Most people have built in weaknesses when it comes to seeking partners. It might be that you´re drawn to the ´wild boy´ that you hope to tame, or that you´re attracted to the ´flirtatious girl´ that you´ll be the one she finally settles down with.

If your aim is to have a soulmate, don´t go into a relationship trying to change your partner. You want to find someone who *is* great for you, not someone who *will* be great for you once you convince him/her to change a lot. Make a list of the qualities your soulmate will have, and make sure those are what you´re paying attention to.