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The Top 5 Dos and Don'ts of the Week: Agree or Disagree?

Happy Friday night, folks! Let’s take a moment to look back at the seven days of Dos, Don’ts, delights and disasters we’ve just lived through, shall we? Some hilarious Don’ts and one heartbreaking Do, after the jump.

1. DO OF THE WEEK: JUSTIN BIEBER TEACHING BARBARA WALTERS HOW TO DANCE And not just to dance, but to dougie. (That’s the dance invented a kajillion years ago by rapper Doug E. Fresh but newly popular this year. Involves a lot of running your hands through your hair. Looks cool. Never tried it.) Anyway, apparently everyone’s learning to dougie these days, but Barbara is 81, and just had heart surgery seven months ago, so: holla! You’re amazing, Barbara! Plus, even if you’re not sure whether to be intrigued or annoyed by Justin Bieber, the end of this clip shows a sweet grandson side of him that’s pretty adorable, especially when he sings “my favorite...my favorite...my favorite girl...is Barbara Walters!”

2. DON’T OF THE WEEK: THINKING BOTOX WILL SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS I’m not judging anyone who wants to play with her appearance—but it’s worth knowing that this week a study came out hinting that the injectible may actually be linked with muscle wastage in parts of the body that have not been treated. In other words, Botox might make your brows, say, tighter, but other parts of your body flabbier. (And no, you can’t decide which other parts of your body you’re willing to sacrifice.) Much more research is needed, but in the meantime, Don’t overdo your needle treatments, OK? A little goes a long way.

3. DO OF THE WEEK: RYAN GOSLING, SUPPORTER OF WOMEN! Did you catch the E! Interview with Ryan Gosling earlier this week? When he was asked about the NC-17 rating his movie Blue Valentine originally received for its explicit sex scenes, he took aim at the ratings gurus, saying “There is something very distorted about this reality that they've created, which is that it's OK to torture women on screen...[as if] they probably deserve it. Any kind of violence towards women in a sexual scenario is fine. But give a woman pleasure, no way. Not a chance. That's pornography." Now, I’m not saying that Blue Valentine shouldn’t be NC-17 (it was ultimately deemed R, but parents’ groups are protesting). But the idea that it should be more verboten than a film in which women get beaten up, shot, dismembered and otherwise brutalized in a million common action-film ways does seem offensive. I’m with Ryan Gosling on that, at least, and not just because he’s adorable.

4. DON’T OF THE WEEK: THE HOLIDAY EX HOOKUP Big high five to Erin Meanley over on Smitten, who argued—persuasively!—that women everywhere should resist the temptation to go home for the holidays, find some guy they used to date, and end up back in bed with him. If he hasn’t reached out to you before now, how much can he really want you back? Take Erin’s advice: “Remind yourself why he’s your ex. We like to remember only the good things, but force yourself to recall that time he made you cry on your birthday, or the day he embarrassed you in front of your friends. Ew, he sucks!” Step away from the mistletoe and into your future, not your past.

5. AND THEDO OF THE WEEK: ELIZABETH EDWARDS On Tuesday, America mourned Edwards, the lawyer and devoted mother, as she died after a heroic six-year battle with breast cancer. At 61, she’d been through so much—not just the cancer, but the tabloid drama over her marriage, and, earlier, the loss of one of her sons to a car accident at age 16. (To remember him, she sat by his grave reading aloud all the books on his school literature list.) I met Elizabeth when Glamour honored her as a Woman of the Year in 2007, and I remember her for her direct, no-nonsense approach: She laughed a lot, defended her politics fiercely, and softened when we talked about the children she clearly adored. Her daughter, Cate, now 28, who will reportedly speak at her funeral tomorrow in North Carolina, said of her mom back then, “She’s so independent—you cannot tell her what to do!—and at the same time amazingly nurturing. I can just curl up in a ball in her lap when I’m sad.” My heart breaks for Cate, Emma Claire and Jack now, but what beautiful luck, to have had such a loving mother, even for too short a time. Rest in peace.

Enjoy your weekend and tell me: What were you moved by—for better or worse—this week?