books.google.co.nz - &quot;He doesn&#39;t mean to hurt me-he just loses control.&quot;&quot;He can be sweet and gentle.&quot;&quot;He&#39;s scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he&#39;s a great father.&quot;&quot;He&#39;s had a really hard life...&quot; Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these...http://books.google.co.nz/books/about/Why_Does_He_Do_That.html?id=xEZIpu3SVvcC&utm_source=gb-gplus-shareWhy Does He Do That?