No, Mac is NOT confused ... about her sexuality!

OK, I tired to go to bed but I couldn't because of the blog posting Mac is XX rated. The way I wrote it, didn't sound right to me after I laid down. I don't want you guys to think that I am having a gender identity crisis. Believe me Mac is 100% heterosexual woman. Mac also has to have a hysterectomy sometime in the near future.

All my "female" parts will be *yanked* out of a small incision in my vagina... sounds like fun, don't it?

Mac doesn't admit to being scared very often.

Mac does admit to being sad pretty often in this blog. Mac is both of those things now.

When I was a young girl the thought was that menarche (starting to have periods) suddenly changed you into a "woman" overnight.

So, subconsciously, you can see how that would fuck with my entire mindset. Period=woman. No period=?

The good news is that I will end up with a brand new box. They say that good things come in small packages.

That's a whole "nuther" worry. I have so many friends who have had this done and then lose all interest in sex or they can no longer have an orgasm. That's really my biggest fear. Fuck dying on the table or getting a staph infection. I'm afraid my sexuality will be ruined.

Parts don't make you male or female...history, feelings, etc. do if you end up having to have an operation that takes away some of those "parts." No, I haven't had to go through it myself. But I think you are going to be fine. Have you talked to your doctor? Asked if there is hormone therapy that could help if you lose interest in sex? Asked if there is a support group, either formal or informal? There's bound to be an online community on about.com or another such site. Good luck, God Bless, and hang in there. I'm sorry to hear of this and sorry you are having to go through it.

I only were in touch once before, with a women who had this operation.She was 18 years older than me, I was 25, her sexual appetite lacks of nothing at all. Could be that this lose you reported is somehow connected to other circumstances. In case of uterus cancer for example the associated radiant therapy.Thats just my opinion but for me you are a strong women, curious, smart and shrewd and with this attributes you are sexy for me !Best wishes and Wolf

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:50 am: Thankfully, I don't have uterine cancer. Just big ole boggy uterus that needs to get the hell outta me!

Every person I have ever talked to who has had this opearation has never had a problem with decreased sensitivity or lack of interest. Regardless though, I can understand the fear. But what makes you a woman runs much much deeper then the physical. It's not about what parts you do or don't have...it's about your mind and your heart. Sending warm thoughts your way.

Haven't had it done. But did have my tubes tied and that played a huge emotional play on me. Even to this day it kills me that I did it.

As far as your sex drive.. I don't think you'll lose it. A sex drive starts with visuals so I think you'll be just fine sweet thing!!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 7:26 pm: I had my tubes tied when I was 23. By the time I was 28 I regretted doing it but I was married and didn't want to have a baby with him again. If I could get pregnant today, I'd do it. I love kids, loved being a mommmy. I'm still their Mom but they're grown so I don't have to mommy tham (as much).

Just had a song pop into my head .... Billy Joel - "She's always a Woman"

You're always a woman to me Mac.

Besides unless I'm completely confused in this case - no period=absolutely no chance of pregancy

.......which means you could have sex all day, every day and not have a worry in the world...

Soooo ...where can I sign up? ...and yes, my sanity can be questioned.. but don't expect it to answer ..

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:01 pm: Unfortunately I've been pretty much able to do that since I was 23. I had 2 kids, thought I didn't want anymore. Had the tubes tied, cut, burned, crimped. I would have loved to have had another baby. You hear about women in their 60's having them with invitro and all, makes me sad that I'll never have the chance.

Thinking of you. Hey, listen to MzHuny...she's an expert!My friend had one last year. She has lost some libido but she also had breast cancer, a masectomy, is on anti-cancer drugs. I think the drugs had a bigger effect on it than the hysterectomy. From what I read, you can continue to have a satisfying sex life. Good luck and warm wishes.

Medically, it's an easy procedure, little painful on the recovery side, but in time that passes.AS for sexuality ... you can't lose what you never had, so IF you are sexually sexy, sensually sexy, mentally sexy ... babygirl it's all good to go. Just cause the workers are gone don't mean the building is condemned.

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