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How To Talk To My Boyfriend

I have a problem and I hope that you will be able to help me. My boyfriend and I have been dating for only two weeks, and I have a hard time talking to him. There is always a long, long silence every time we talk. I don't know what to do! I like him a lot, and he likes me a lot too. What do I do?

Thanks,

Nina

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Dear Nina,

When you start a relationship with someone new you are not very familiar with, it can be hard to make conversation. Ask him about things in his life you know are important to him—family, sports, hobbies, etc. Find out his likes and dislikes. When he talks, pay attention to what he is saying. If he mentions something he is doing, you can ask him about it later.

Also, share with him what is happening in your life. Tell him about your daily activities, hobbies, sports, etc. Try not to spend so much time together and on the phone/online/texting until there is nothing left to say! The more things you do as individuals, the more you will have to discuss when you do talk or get together.

Also, when you get together, try to choose activities to get you talking. Try a new activity together, for instance, rather than doing what you always do. If conversation continues to be a struggle, you may need to consider whether the two of you have enough in common to have a relationship.

Good luck,

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As a shy person I'm kinda shy to talk to my boyfriend,but as time pass,the shyness will just disappear,that's how it works.

tinkerbell1804

Posted January 08, 2013

i recently broke up with my boyfriend he was too quiet and i was the one making the effort not him

-hellbutterlfy

Posted August 02, 2012

I was in a relationship for more than 1 year! Him and I used to talk about anything. To me, listening is #1 in ANY relationship. Talk to him about anything you like/he likes. He'll eventually open up even more. And he'll go to you if he ever wants a chat :)

He qot Muh Heart*

Posted August 20, 2012

In my opinion you guys relationship should always be open. When he is feeling some type of way..let him explain why. To me conversation is the most important in a relationship. As for me and my boyfrann. I let him now how I feel or whats going threw my head.And he does the same. Our main thing is that we listen to one another and try to fix and agree on the problems. Which also cuts down or wont allow argue and feelinq apart come threw!....hoped this helped!

peacebabygirl16

Posted July 23, 2012

i talk to my boy friend my just texting him during the summer befor and after school and we hug during school when we see each other we had dated for times and broke up 3 times but i still have truble talking to him becuse i am kind of tall then him and way a lot more so i have a quisten should i find a neew boy friend that is taller when i move plezzzzzzzzzzzzzz help
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dianadesim

Posted July 30, 2012

I had a boyfriend, who I started to go out with after he told me he liked me. He and I were good friends before we started to go out. At first, I thought it would work perfectly... but no. I was too shy for romance! I couldn't talk to him, I was just too nervous! I just had to end it through text (even though it wasn't the right thing to do), but I tried to make it sound as polite as I could.

Nikki Gabi

Posted February 09, 2012

I'm going through the same thing now. In fact, when I read that u were going out for two weeks, I looked at who wrote to see if it wuz mine! Lol but me and my boyfriend just look at each other and smile cuz were so shy. So I told him if we don't talk we're gonna break up and we talked more. So don't be shy! Just talk about the first thing that pops into your head!!!! :)

iloveme12345

Posted September 13, 2011

jessa193137,
u could always ask ur boyfriend ur self doen't be afraid remember u could share anything with him just not girl things and if he says idk just ask 1 or 2 more friends to ask him but make sure they don't like like him and make sure there best friends so u could definatly trust them srry this is so long

sayjaygirl

Posted July 21, 2012

I'm going through the same thing and my bf and I have been dating for 5 months. We text each other all the time, but he is really shy around me. WHen we hang out we don't actually start talking until we have been hanging out for like a half an hour or my friends or his push us into a random conversation. During lunch last year my friends would often sit by us and say "Soccer, topic, GO!" Sometimes being pushed into a conversation just makes that conversation 100% more AWKWARD!!!

partyrockingpryncess

Posted June 14, 2012

help!!!! me and my bf are always talking through text and everything is fine. but when we talk in person we barley say anything. and im pretty sure 99.9% of the convo when we see each other is just 10 words!!!! HELP!!!!!