Posts tagged ‘ecofrenluv’

Cougars are all the rage for men in their twenties through forties (although the latter are kidding themselves—they’re no young cubs). But just what is it about women in the 40 plus group that is such a turn on? You’ll thrive in the game of dating younger men if you can pin that down, and if you can avoid the bad behavior of your fellow 40-plus felines.

DON’T TRY TO DRESS LIKE YOU’RE TWENTY

Trying to dress like you’re half your age makes you look twice your age. You probably don’t have the abs you used to back in the day, so get acquainted with flowy tops. The good news is your girls probably grew with age and maybe a little weight gain elsewhere. Show ‘em off!

DON’T TRY TO KEEP UP WITH POP CULTURE

Play the music you like when he comes over, suggest movies from your youth on movie night, and for goodness sake do not keep up with the Kardashians. One of your cub’s favorite things about you is you’ve got “vintage” style. He wants to know what’s interesting and popular in your age group.

DON’T TRY TO PARTY TOO HARD

Men look for class in cougars. Don’t try to keep up with a young buck by suddenly wanting to go out all throughout the week and drink hard after work. Your body won’t bounce back the same; and if he wanted a party girl, he’d be with one, instead of you.

DON’T MOMMY HIM

Don’t correct his grammar, or fact-check him when he’s engaged in conversation, or wipe his mouth. The last thing he’ll want to do is have sex with someone who reminds him of his mother.

DON’T PAY FOR EVERYTHING

Let him feel like a man and treat you, too. The greatest thing about dating someone younger is that he has so many places to show you that you’d never know about otherwise, and visa versa. So, try this: when you suggest a place, you pay. And when he suggests one, he pays.

DON’T BE TOO BOSSY IN BED

A cub will like that you know what you’re doing. He won’t like if you imply he doesn’t know what he’s doing. If there are certain things you need to happen in bed, present them in a way so it’s fun for both of you, and not just all in service of your big O.

DON’T TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS

You’ve had a longer life and inevitably accomplished more than your cub. It’s natural to reference your own history, experiences, victories etc. in conversation, but you have to watch it around a cub. He’s insecure to begin with: don’t provoke that.

BUT DON’T DOWNPLAY YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Don’t completely stay quiet about what you’ve done! Part of what attracts a young guy to an older woman is all her knowledge and experience about careers, travel, relationships and life in general.When he asks you about your history, don’t be afraid to share.

DON’T GET CATTY AROUND YOUNGER WOMEN

Like a crop top or too much makeup, catty behavior instantly ages you. So long as you see your age as an advantage, so will your cub. But he can smell it the second you feel insecure about your age, and being catty to younger women is the first symptom.

DON’T KNOCK THE YOUNG SPOTS

Your cub is going to take you to places that are too loud, too crowded, too simple, too cheap, too dirty—you name it. But there’s a reason he likes those places. Be open to what that reason may be.

ACCEPT YOUR CURVES

Too many cougars hit the gym obsessively, whittling their bodies down to nothing but bone. That doesnot look good on an older woman. Curves come in beautifully on the 40-plus group. And to a cub, that type of body isn’t a turn off—it’s different and exciting.

DON’T JUDGE HIM

He won’t know as much about money management or interior design or even table manners as you do. His apartment might be messy and his resume might be all botched up. Just remember: so was yours when you were his age.

DON’T HIDE YOUR KIDS!

If you lie about having children or send them away to visit their aunt anytime your cub comes over, everybody will feel guilty. Your guy will feel guilty that your kids have to scram when he’s around, and you’ll feel guilty about hiding your pride and joy!

DON’T DUMP ON MEN YOUR AGE

A younger man wants to feel that you’re approaching the concept of dating younger men from a positive place. He wants to feel that you see what is special about him, and not just how he is the opposite of everybody else you’ve dated. Refrain from complaining about men your age.

Breast slapping treatment in Thailand

Khemmikka Na Songkhla’s government-approved alternative beauty techniques include “breast-slapping” to enhance breast size and “buttock-slapping” to firm up the rear. After almost two decades of dishing out slaps in the name of image improvement, the techniques of the 44-year-old beautician better known as “Khunying Tobnom” are as popular as ever. Video by Jetjaras Na Ranong.

8 Dec – Time magazine has recently revealed its list of the Top 10 Best and Worst movies of 2012. French drama-romance film “Amour” is the top choice of the year while the Wachowski siblings’ “Cloud Atlas” has worked its way up as the worst movie of the year according to the magazine.
The surprise entry for the Top 10 Best is Peter Chan’s “Wuxia” (renamed “Dragon” in the US), which met its fare share of setbacks in Asia as it was slammed with criticism. However, Time magazine seem to think otherwise as the film is the only Asia title that made the list.

Chan is not the only Asian director whose film is honoured though. Ang Lee’s “Life Of Pi” came in at No.3, with Time describing it as a “visually spectacular, emotionally resonant film.”

Of course, it also comes as no surprise that Christopher Nolan’s “The Dark Knight Rises” was also named as one of the best of the year.
Many big titles for the year, however, were listed in the worst list. Among which includes the very unexciting “John Carter”, “Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter” and McG’s “This Means War”.

The Importance of Being Finished
By CLARISSA SEBAG-MONTEFIORE
December 11, 2012, 8:10 am

BEIJING — How does one eat a banana gracefully? With a knife and fork, slicing it into thin slivers — of course! At least that is what we are told during a three-hour etiquette training course held in one of Beijing’s priciest hotels.

Last week, I paid $61 to learn how to become a lady. Carving fruit with silverware was just one part of a five-course European-cuisine meal, eaten under the watchful eye of our impeccably mannered teacher. Nineteen women, both expat and Chinese, tackled eating ‘‘tricky foods,’’ including spaghetti and soup. Any mistakes were swiftly corrected.

Leading the class was the Hong Kong-native Sara Jane Ho. She is a product of Institut Villa Pierrefeu, Switzerland’s last traditional finishing school, where a six-week course covering skills including flower arranging, hostessing and table-setting costs around $20,000.

Now Ho is bringing finishing school to China. In March 2013, the poised 27-year-old Harvard Business School graduate will start the Institute Sarita, a boutique finishing school offering courses in Mandarin for high prices (exactly how much she won’t say). Ho, who speaks English with a pristine British accent, tells me she is here to teach Chinese the ‘‘importance of being finished’’ — the European way.

How does one close a door while not turning one’s back to the room? It’s harder than it sounds. How does one walk in heels? Balls of the feet down first, girls. Greet one’s future mother-law? Retain an air of mystery and don’t gush. Sit? Never, ever, cross your legs. It’s crass. One by one, attendees nervously parade across a wooden floor while pretending to be at a high-society cocktail party, Ho waiting on the side to critique their every step.

Such exercises may seem silly and out of date. In Europe itself, finishing schools are dying out. Teaching it in Beijing may sound ludicrous. But Ho might just be onto something.

If finishing schools have a future at all, it’s in emerging economies. Ho’s class at Institut Villa Pierrefeu was made up mostly of girls from countries such as India, the Emirates and Saudi Arabia. In China, many nouveau riche traveling abroad for the first time in decades are acutely aware they have cash but no class.

In Beijing, locals hawk and spit in restaurants, public swimming pools and on the street (a practice the government tried, and failed, to stamp out before the 2008 Olympic Games). It is not uncommon to see parents providing water bottles or plastic bags for their children to urinate into in public, even in five-star hotels or at the airport.

Lucy, a Chinese fellow student, confided to me after the class that many Chinese want to be regarded abroad as ‘‘civilized.’’ As they have become richer, they think more about their international image. The key lesson she took away was how to behave at a formal Western dinner.

‘‘You maintain your own space and don’t invade others,’’ she explained, adding that this applied at the dining room table and in the subway. ‘‘Chinese people need to learn that.’’

Lucy has to entertain foreign clients as part of her job in a Beijing-based P.R. firm. She said she found the event, as did most of the other mainly businesswomen attendees, fun and informative. Learning what to do with a fish or butter knife, neither of which are used in China, was invaluable.

Ho wants to attract a more exclusive clientele for Institute Sarita when it starts: moneyed housewives or unmarried girls from newly well-to-do families. Lessons like ‘‘European Etiquette, Hostessing & Protocol’’ will cover the art of entertaining and organizing household staff.

‘‘Right now, successful men are having a hard time finding wives. Women who are sensible, social and from a good background are not easy to find,’’ she told me. ‘‘In China, you have a lot of young women who could be groomed.’’

Apparently, a woman who attends her course can learn to be her husband’s ‘‘social Rolodex.’’ What is more, women are increasingly taking on typical masculine traits as they move into the boardroom, says Ho. This isn’t something she wants to stop (she is, after all, launching her own business). But she does ask: ‘‘Who doesn’t want to be a good housewife?’’ I bite my tongue.

If there is one thing that I take away from etiquette training it is that it does not pay to be snobby. I guessed that I might be at an advantage over my curious Chinese classmates because of my upbringing in London. I was wrong.

Before the meal, Ho asks me to demonstrate to the class how to walk across the room and shake her hand. Confidently, I swagger off. I do not even reach the finish line. Ho whips up her hand before I can shake it and says ‘‘Please, do that again. Properly.’’ My heels, she says, clack too loudly, my steps are not dainty enough, and my walk is unfeminine. Red in face, I scuttle back to repeat the exercise. I have, it seems, a very long way to go.

Not very observant……………………
A guy was in a bar about as drunk as its pssible to get.

A group of guys notice his condition and decide to be good Samaritans
and take him home.
First they stand him up to get to his wallet so they can find out
where he lives, but he keeps falling down. He fell down eight more
times on the way to the car, each time with a real thud.
After they get to his house, he falls down another four times getting
him to the door. His wife comes to the door and one of the guys says
we brought your husband home.