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April 29, 2012

Your answers will be visible to everyone. This is like a resume to tell the other members what you are looking for. This is NOT a "swingers" group so please reflect this in your answer. What does the word polyamory mean to you?

Polyamory is setting aside the notions of possessiveness and exclusivity that normally come along with an advanced romantic relationship. It opens up the possibility of additional romantic or sexual relationships without the need to end your current ones, or worse undermine them with secrecy and deception. It promotes improved communication between partners and personal introspection of the feelings of everyone involved and the health of the relationship, both of which are beneficial in any relationship.

Why did you join the polyamory meetup group?

Mostly I'm looking to find people that have experience and advice on this kind of lifestyle. It would be nice to be able to form some new friendships with people that hold similar views. I was introduced to the idea of polyamory years ago and agreed with it, and that agreement has only grown stronger. Fortunately my wife feels the same way, but while we've been open to the idea we haven't actively practiced it since early in our relationship, and we've never really had the benefit of being around other people in polyamorous relationships.

Are you currently involved in a poly relationship? How many individuals in your "tribe"?

Yes. Just us two in the "tribe", but there are additional associated relationships.

Do you have any children? What are their ages? (helps in planning activities)

No children.

What would your ideal poly relationship look like?

An ideal poly relationship looks a lot like an ideal monogamous relationship. Your partner is there to support you, encourage you, comfort you , and bring you joy, and you are there to do the same for them. Honesty, communication, passion and compassion. Where a poly relationship differs is in realizing that your partner can experience other relationships without in any way lessening or invalidating the one they have with you. So the ideal poly relationship does all of those things while also setting aside the limitations of jealousy and insecurity. It doesn't mean that those emotions do not exist, only that they are handled properly.

Introduction

I am a 33 year old IT worker with literary aspirations. I've been married for four years to a wonderful woman that I've known since high school and was lucky enough to rediscover.

Please join our Polyamory Meetup to meet other supporters of multi-partner relationships and families. Talk about open relationships, polyfidelity, polyamory, honesty, respect and alternate forms of commitment. Typical topics discussed are family structure, children, conflict resolution, communication, compersion, jealousy avoidance, how the lifestyle works, and what doesn't work, adding new partners, and many others. You do not need to identify as polyamorous to join us, all we ask is that you keep an open mind.

This meetup group is family friendly and children are almost always present at our meetups. We are not listed as an adult only group. Please note that the TOS for meetup does not allow nudity or sexual activity in your profile pictures. Because this is a family meetup, it is important to please keep your profile pictures pg-13, not only to comply with meetup's TOS, but also because there may be individuals who are under 18 looking at the site. Thank you for understanding.

If you would like to join this Meetup, Please fill outALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS- We screen members who wish to join.If you do notfill outALLthe questions, your membershipWILL BE DENIED.

We use these questions to make sure that those who join have at least read the information on the about us page (click here or on "pages" above) and are serious about wanting to know more about the lifestyle. The questions also serve to let the other members know what your "model" of a poly relationship would look like.Yes, this means your answers to the questions will be visible to the rest of the group. It is of benefit to both the group and to yourselves to answer these questions honestly. REMEMBER, if you do not fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

Please check out our "ABOUT US" page (click here or on "pages" above). The links on there will give you an idea what Polyamory is all about (they are also posted below).

Anyone interested in attending is welcome! We ask for a $2 donation at the meetup to help cover the expense of running them (meetup charges the organizers, not the members), but no one is ever turned away for an inability to contribute. We welcome all poly and poly friendly individuals, groups and families. We also encourage those who are curious about the lifestyle to attend our meetups. We generally have between 35 and 50 people who show up at our main meetup at the beginning of each month.

Our main event is held in Burbank on the 1st Saturday of the month (FREE, but a $2 donation is requested) at Fuddrucker's restaurant, Organized by Deborah and Brad. Our second event is held Near Canoga Park on the 3rd Saturday of the month. This event is a Live the Dream (http://www.livethedream.org) event, Organized by Terry Brussel. We also share our events with the Loving More Meetup group with Tom, Angel and Eddie who hold a couple of pool parties a year. If you would like to organize an event, please let me know the specifics and I will add you as an event coordinator. I no longer allow my members to suggest meetups because of an abuse of this feature.

Please remember that this group is based on the premise of encouraging successful relationships of all kinds. To this end, open and honest communication, respect and tolerance of our individual beliefs and philosophies are of paramount importance. We may not always agree with one another, but we still need to respect each other. We are not here to change one another's beliefs, perceptions or expressions of those beliefs, we are here to support one another and possibly learn something in the process of getting to know one another. Along this vein, please note that we are not responsible for what others put on their profiles. If you see something you do not like, simply do not go to that profile. We do however ask that you comply with Meetup's TOS. This is a public forum, and while we do our best to pre-screen members, always follow the rules of internet safety (click here) and screen people yourself. (http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html)

***MEMBERS*** Please RSVP every month. Even if you RSVP "NO", it allows me to see who is active on the board. I will be purging inactive members after 6 months of inactivity. ***THANK YOU***

Here are some articles you might find of interest, especially if you are new to the world of Polyamory