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Guest Post by Divyam Kaushik

Hello lovely readers, Today we have Divyam KAushik as our guest who will enlighten us about the Gender Inequality that has become so common these days. Thankyou so much Divyam for throwing light on this sensitive issue and I respect your thoughts.

Gender Inequality in India

I find most men, very hypocritical when they talk about women. I think that is an issue. It all stems from the fact that they think women are some other kind of beings. Many men around us believe that women are unnecessarily pampered.

They say that we keep screaming about, “Oh, it’s a man’s world, it’s a man’s world”, but the men are opening doors, men are pulling chairs, men are being made to give up their seats to women, so how is it a man’s world?

But, we need to realize that how every step of the way a woman is violated. Her rights, her dignity is violated, over and over, again, at the hands of men. It needs to dawn upon us, as to why women across the globe have been screaming doing a way with Gender Inequality.

Gender Inequality is very big problem in our country. Even though women have their quotas, they have everything in place, but still by the end of the day it’s the mentality that matters.

A household maid asked a celebrity if she wakes up and makes breakfast for her husband, because she might have thought that’s how the things might work.

She said, “No, I don’t.”

And the maid turned around and said, “You know, you’ve never been given a beating by your husband, that’s the problem.”

And when she said that, I realized that, very unfortunately, when her son marries and brings a woman home, she is going to be the one who is going to instigate her son to beat his wife. So, it’s going to be the mother who is going to be responsible for the other woman to be ill-treated at the hands of a man.

Generations now, a lot of gender inequality has gone unseen.

Even in my household, not just in mine, in almost every other household, our mothers cook and our fathers either don’t cook that often or don’t cook at all. And we see asking them for tea, lunch, dinner from our mothers. I say that instead of expecting tea from them, why can’t we go and surprise them with a tea. It is purely a matter of sensitivity. If you treat women as equal, you’ll get up and make a cup of tea for them, instead of expecting them to bring a cup of tea for you.

If the world actually gets flipped and I was a woman, I think I would get paranoid because I am constantly checked out, constantly layered at. I think it would start driving me completely crazy.

The safety issue of women, you know the amount of rapes we have or at least the ones which are reported, now it’s been coming more and more in the limelight by becoming way more conscious of gender inequality there is.

We have less priority for women education, and not only that, we also have less women in the working and professional environment. I know that this is not an ideal world. Here I am talking about the female sex, who are at a slight disadvantage in times and a lot of it is manufactured by men.

You know gender inequality in our lives exists in such a way that we don’t even realize that it’s happening. Sometimes I find women also take so much for granted, like, “Oh, we are women, so we are not even going to get that.” They don’t even question it.

I can give a 100% guarantee that, yes, this kind of judgment and bias exists in our society and that many, many, many, many men out there will disagree with me on this, because they will say, “No, nothing of such kind takes place around us.” And there are a lot of deep-rooted misconceptions they have that just because they are in a city, in a cosmopolitan setup, such things don’t take place as much as they do in the rural parts of the country.

In our country people have issues in taking order from women. Big issues. And that is why women in powerful positions have to become more assertive than they ever have because otherwise nobody does anything, because women are achieving things, women are doing things with their lives, that women are successful, so much more successful that I find people feeling threatened. Men feel threatened.

Such men exist in our would that there is a sense of superiority and arrogance, especially in the corporate world, because for them it’s new that women are part of the corporate world, in our country. When there’s a woman who is presentable, well educated, independent, either she is considered to be like a slob or a bitch to get her job done, or she’s supposed to be…you know we have labels for women. You can be assertive without being aggressive also, but that labeling exists in such a deep seated way, almost as if a career woman is a bad thing.

I read and see men making all these casual jokes and remarks made about the periods all the time. I talked to my girlfriend about this and she said, “It’s really exhausting because it is a time and a cycle where you are going through a lot of physical exhaustion. It’s very difficult for men to understand, so I think if men have their period that would be nice. And second, wearing high heels and tight clothes and see what that feels like and have women staring at you and your crotch all day long.”

You know what’s the biggest problem in India today?

SEXISM

So, STOP HARASSING WOMEN. Give them equal opportunities to lead.

STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. STOP SEXUAL HARRASMENT OF WOMEN.

STOP KILLING THE GIRL CHILD.

No one understands subtlety. So tell them at their faces.

END SEXISM.

END GENDER DISCRIMINATION and

END GENDER PREJUDICE against all girls and all women, everywhere.

GENDER EQUALITY is GOAL 5, of United Nations Global Goals for Sustainable Development.

You know how we can change this situation?

GO TELL EVERYONE. DON’T WAIT ANYMORE.

TELL EVERYONE

About the Guest

Divyam Kaushik is a Graphic Designer who is also the co- owner of Scribblers. He has written a novel named ‘Love Me Like You Do’ which is really appreciated. He has also contributed his stories in some of the anthologies and ‘Turning Point of Life’ and ‘Strings of Love’are one of them.