Getting even with someone because they have hurt us doesn’t really work. I sometimes say in jest that I don’t get even, I get ahead. I don’t actually try to get even or ahead of someone who has hurt me because I know it’s a losing proposition. If I succeed in “getting ahead” or doing more harm to them than they did to me, I already know that there is a strong possibility that they will retaliate and want to not only get me back, but to inflict greater harm. The only time we should get even or ahead, is with someone who has shown us kindness and love. Then if they try to get ahead, well, that’s okay. Let the love flow.