Lunyu XIII. 28. (345)

Qualities that mark the scholar in social intercourse.
Tsze-lû asked, saying, "What qualities must a man possess to entitle him to be called a scholar?" The Master said, "He must be thus, – earnest, urgent, and bland:– among his friends, earnest and urgent; among his brethren, bland."

Legge XIII.28.

Tzu-lu asked, 'What must a man be like before he deserves to be called a Gentleman?' The Master said, 'One who is, on the one hand, earnest and keen and, on the other, genial deserves to be called a Gentleman–earnest and keen amongst friends and genial amongst brothers.'