1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce 2. Give sincere salaams 3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel 4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere 5. Be generous with her 6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart 7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times 8. Look good and smell great for your wife 9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken 10. Be a good listener 11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing 12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear 13. Utilize pleasant surprises 14. Preserve and guard the tongue 15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings 16. Give sincere compliments 17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family 18. Speak about topics that interest her 19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is 20. Give each other gifts 21. Get rid of routine, surprise her 22. Have a good opinion of each other 23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick 24. Add a drop of patience, increase drops during pregnancy, menses 25. Expect and respect her jealously 26. Be humble 27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers 28. Help at home and with housework 29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her 30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you 31. Remember your wife in dua 32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up. 33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family 34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife 35. Put food in your wife’s mouth 36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect 37. Show her your smile 38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big 39. Avoid being harsh-hearted 40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking 41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills 42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries 43. Help her take care of the children 44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments 45. Sit down and eat meals together 46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice 47. Don’t leave home in anger 48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home 49. Encourage each other in ibaadat 50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you 51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times 52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull” 53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside 54. Show care for her health and well-being 55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself 56. Share your happiness and sadness with her 57. Have mercy for her weaknesses 58. Be a firm support for her to lean on 59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal 60. Have a good intention for her 60 Ways to Keep Your Husbands Love

Before you moan and groan that it's another of one those lists, just give it a quick skim. I can almost guarantee you there are things on this list that you know for sure you are not doing, and know that if you did do, it'll create a lot more love and harmony in your marriage.

Of course, this isn't a list of obligations of the wife by any means, rather reminders and tips to score those 'bonus points'. Trust me, you'll be reaping the rewards as well; jazakallah khairan