Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

New Beginnings

I’ve always considered September the month of new beginnings and know others do too. After the heat of summer, September tends to bring in the cooler temps of fall and it feels different. Summer can create lethargy on many levels. The hotter temps are an obvious reason. But summer is also a time when people take vacations and businesses operate on a slower level. Many companies get out early on Friday. Then fall begins. Right after Labor Day it’s back to work as usual. People begin to think about how to ramp up their careers, and their lives in general.

There’s a different vibe that seems to make people evaluate where they are and where they want to go.

I admit that for me there’s even more reason to find September a time for new beginnings. My birthday is 2 weeks from yesterday. Unlike many people who are getting older, and we’re all getting older, I love my birthday and celebrate with a vengeance! Each year offers the beginning of choosing my own path. I believe that I was born in September for a purpose. The cooler temps make it feel like a new start and seem to invigorate. It’s the turning point for the season and also the start of the new school year.

September offers a great opportunity to get your act together.

Life gets faster and opportunities heat up. Look at what’s going on in your life and see how you can improve it. Any time is a good time for doing that but most of us don’t. September as a time for new beginnings makes it a perfect time to do it. Ask yourself:

• “Am I as happy with my life as I could be?”

• “Are there things that I’d like to stop doing?”

• “What would I really like to do if I had the nerve?”

• “What one step can I take to have a new beginning?”

Write down what comes up. Let the beginning of the fall season also be the beginning of a new chapter of your life. When you become aware of what you really want and what you can do first to start to make it happen, September can be a new beginning for your life.
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What I am wondering, after reading your article and others you have written and fully enjoyed, that when making a choice after waiting for a better moment to allow repair of past issues as well as not to make ultimatums or keep anger, is it not too late to rebuild a dream? I put the ones I love first over me and then showed my dignity later on in the hope that they would see what I was trying to do, and we had a lovely dinner out together, lots of hugs and I think it was understood. Now I hope for a shared future if possible. If dinner was sign of better days, then I am glad. I pray for a shared life together and shared home. This is my longterm partner and I have family as well. My girls are grown and don’t live with me. When I told my girl how excited I was that the son talked much, she said he isn’t my son and I said there are changes, she said she doesn’t see, and I said I did something now to make better and our families sometimes want us to stay in same place but for me, changes must happen for my heart and soul..complicated as we age.

http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sharon McMasters

I like the questions you pose. Especially the second one, “are there things I’d like to stop doing?” There are always multiple suggestions for adding things to the daily routine, but rarely are we invited to stop doing things. Thank you for this question. I plan to give it a lot of thought.

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About Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Welcome to my self-empowerment blog. I used to be a wimp and never got taken seriously. When I became one of the first women to start a record label, I learned to navigate the male dominated music industry and earned respect, without raising my voice or getting overtly tough. I transferred those skills into all areas of life and now get what I want from most people. I'll share those lessons here by talking about my observations of situations and habits that hold both men and women back from being as empowered as possible. I'll also give tips for more effective communication, handling yourself with more confidence, and in general, how to come across as more serious--whether it's at work, dealing with an annoying phone company, your mother, a romantic partner and anyone else you want to feel more in control with. Everybody can use more tools for taking control of their lives, like in my latest book, Nice Girls Can Finish First.