I made him cum in his pants and I feel so bad what should I do?

I’ve been seeing this really sweet, innocent, quiet guy and he’s been kind of slow to initiate things.

We were making out on the couch and I noticed through his shorts he was hard. I joked around with him and said “Am I making you happy?” He laughed. I usually just go for things so I starting slowly rubbing it through his shorts. I asked him if it was ok and he nodded. We went back to making out and I was still rubbing him.

A little bit later I felt him tense up and he said quietly “Oh no.” I felt his shorts become warm and wet. I could tell he was really embarrassed. His face went red and he said “I’m so sorry.” I told him it was fine and to stay there while I get a wet towel. I felt even worse because he ejaculated A LOT. He cleaned himself up, apologized again, to which I assured him it was fine and left. We usually get together every Friday and he cancelled saying he has something else. For whatever I know he could have something else but I have a feeling he’s still embarrassed.

hbfs97 3652

I would text him and tell him that you've been thinking a lot about him and really want to see him soon. Plan a day, be very warm (and flirty!) over text. If it comes up (heh) again or things start heating up again when you hang out again (try to initiate another makeout session!), tell him that maybe this time you can clean things up for him.

Then blow him.

aoskaoakoans 2460

I’m down to blow him

can_i_get_a_wut_wut 883

This approach is really smooth and I vote for it.

I would just add (obviously) don’t make a big deal out of what happened last time and just do your best to put him at ease.

bluebyuuu 145

Need an update when the time comes :D

NinaBanana 81

When the time comes, wink wink 😋

bluebyuuu 15

Hahahah I seriously considered saying “when the time cums”

SneakyCobra 12

If you do get a response, summon me! I’d like to read it too.

Gwire 5

Yes update!

seanofthemad 66

I pictured Sebastian singing to Ariel. Lalalala, just blow the boy.

vaultdweller64 31

Wow. Sebastian has really come out of his shell since I was a kid...

RichKairo 26

It's called a foreskin, ok?

kingcal 6

Well, like he says, everything's better down where it's wetter.

seanofthemad 2

I hope she doesn’t flounder that talent.

KrullTheWarriorKing 59

Tell him maybe this time he can shoot it in your mouth

im-obsolete 15

And make that poor kid have to clean himself up again?

SanityInAnarchy 48

As a follow up, if you've got time, maybe plan on a round 2? As in, blow him, give him time to recover, but start something again before he leaves. He will probably last longer the second time, and if this is just inexperience, knowing that he even can last is likely to boost his confidence.

Thild0 12

I'm taking notes

luvtherug 29

This!!!

Clem-Cone 18

awesome, 'specially if he has a big load.

ReadItWithSarcasm 16

What I would respond well to...

“I can’t stop thinking about how hot things got the other night. Have you been thinking about me the same way I’ve been thinking about you? When do I get to make you cum again? I’m wet just thinking about it. Got plans for tonight?”

ConqueringMyLife 73

Bit too strong

histoes 2

I like that approach

ricoue 12

You should swallow it all, will make him feel good.

KuruptTTD 10

Why can’t I find women like this, what am I doing wrong?😂

spittinonit 7

He needs to know this.

Cool_Bastard 6

Then report back to us.

sage_006 2

Yes please do.

Crimson_Zebra 1

Update us!

Gotitaila 1

You could even play into it cause he's definitely not gonna last long and it will bother him... You could tell him something like "you're gonna pop instantly cause I give a mean blowjob" or something to that effect. Then he won't be as embarrassed when he doesn't last very long.

Definitely hit him up though...

mmmlollypop 0

Yaaaaassss!

clapham1983 -11

Hi it’s me ur sweet quiet friend.

SamuraiRafiki 138

I can't tell if this sub is populated by sex positive adults who realize that communication and humor are key to healthy sexual relationships or if it's just full of the most amazing collection of anonymous wingmen in the world.

Anhanguera 40

Why not both?

SneakyCobra 69

ITT: guys been bros.

hbfs97 52

Chicks being bros, too. ;)

SneakyCobra 18

This must be the happiest sub on the whole website: people helping people get laid and/or make sex life better.

Agree to this approach. The best way to make sure he's ok, is to show him you're ok with it. It happens :)

yungbam97 17

It’s because of you this man will be getting some head... Keep doing God’s work

XdsXc 10

Nah do all this then make him come in his pants again, to establish dominance.

st_malachy 5

Gold right here.

Markioperpe 4

That made me hard reading it.

interwebbed 4

damn, this would for sure 10/10 win me over

sage_006 2

This is the perfect solution.

butteredfriedchicken 1

be warm and give him space but dont embarass the dude. he probably needs some space but just make sure ur like "hey im just a text away!" sorta deal. i agree with the above advice

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 1257

That’s kind of hot.

daiyanoace 253

That’s what I was thinking lol

SuggestiveDetective 224

That's incredibly hot.

Skinnyme7381 26

That's what I was thinking.

Chaddite -144

I think it is hilarious rather than hot.

SuggestiveDetective 56

The only way to resolve this would be hilarious for you and hot for me.

Chaddite -38

Well thanks for resolving the argument of ages. It sounds like something that would happen when I tried to get revenge on guys trying to cockblock me or just wouldn't leave me alone with a girl. I just set them up with the girl and they always messed it up somehow as they are usually the "I'm not good with girls so I'm not going to let you get her either types".

SuggestiveDetective 33

You'd...cum in their pants?

That's hot.

Chaddite -32

No... they would get all excited and mess it up with the girl I set them up with and end up in situations like this.

Lol "to get revenge on people I don't like I set them up with people to have sex with"

Cat-Imapittypat -20

I think it's hilarious that he was that embarrassed. I bet money that dude's from a super-repressed religious family

edit: holy cow. I didn't say he was a bad person for it, damn. I just said that I bet that's the case. The only men I've ever met who are extremely ashamed of their bodies are men raised in very sheltering types of religious families.

NinaBanana 92

Heck yeah!!!!! Guys, you should never worry about us thinking you're coming "too fast". Well at least for me its; you're coming? That's hot!!!!

Whois-PhilissSS 66

RIP inbox.

The_Crushinator_ 23

I had some of the best sex of my life last week with the guy I just started seeing. And while I was nearly passed out on bed recovering he was trying to get my attention so he could apologize for premature ejaculation. 😞

peanutbuttertuxedo 12

I think it’s because I’m Canadian but I scream “IM SORRY!” When I cum.

BMorec 3

Oh man that’s hilarious.

ImEzrealEzItGets 8

LOL it sounds like his actions are a result from watching porn. He expects himself to perform like a pornstar rather than a lover.

stellarecho92 62

Seriously! Would have totally made me turn up my flirting. I like being in control like that lol.

minminkitten 26

Yuuuuup came here to say this. Guy finds you so irresistible that he cums in his pants? Hawwwwwt.

HuluAndH4ng 21

User name......checks out?

anonymousalice2 14

I agree, but it's probably weird to be on the other end if you aren't sure that the other person sees it that way.

It's like a girl getting so turned on during making out that you need to change underwear. Probably the dude is gonna think that's hot but also it's not something most people are going to say until later on when they're more comfortable admitting it happened.

Idk why but i think there's a weird embarassment/shame thing around losing control of yourself before the other person? It's weird

StealthTomato 1

A lot of guys tend to be one-and-done, or at least have a long refractory period. That probably plays into it a lot.

Esoteroticata 1

I dated a girl that thought sex wasn't over until the guy came.
She also thought sex was over when the guy came.

I did what I could...

ilikeavocadopizza 5

Great minds think alike.

wanderlust521 4

Totally lol

Mingxia_sa 3

Actually.

seulpuhyo 1

The guy or the girl? can't tell

KiraN0va 1

Same haha I would feel proud (and relived since I’m a virgin) if that happened.

throwaway090929 736

You might ease his shame by telling him how flattering it is that he was so turned on by you

wolfman86 65

Exactly. One of the first dates for my girlfriend and I, we sat in a bar cuddling, I got a hard on and she noticed (Although I thought that I’d managed to hide it.), we laugh about it now but at the time I was bricking it.

PM-ME-UR-BEST-MEMORY 14

I like this line of thinking but I would only suggest this if its genuine and you feel more flattered than you feel bad

fallingfiddle 682

God I miss those days.

FamousLastName 187

Reminds me of being 16 again and coming home from my ex gf’s house. I’d usually pee as soon as I got home and always remember seeing my member looking like a banana covered in honey.

My_Name_Is_Santa 146

I hope youve washed it by now. That's a lot of yellow

FamousLastName 48

Well, that was 6 years ago. That’d be a nasty case of fungal no no by now.

Raz0rLips 23

Fungal no-no. Lolol. Dunno why I found this so hilarious.

FamousLastName 4

It just popped into my head. Feel free to use that one.

canon12 17

I can relate except there were some nights that I wish I had gone off in my underwear. It was blue balls that bothered me frequently. When the lid popped it reminds me of the spurting, twirling water sprinklers.

FamousLastName 1

This is good.
I just remember my boxer briefs being sticky when I’d come home. Lots of pre

canon12 2

Good memories!

MohammadJacob 27

God I never had those days.

RafiXDpuroche 1

Just turned 16 and I’m sure I’ll never have them lmao.

Certified_1 377

Is he fully aware you want to actually sleep with him? Odds are he's nervous and just doesn't know how to approach any of it. He must think highly of you if he's so nervous.

IlikeJG 114

Yeah it's a common thing in pop culture that premature ejaculation is this bad thing that shows you're not a good lover and that women will be turned off or disgusted by that or even think less of you.

When in reality most women probably would be intrigued by it (although if it keeps happening probably a bit annoyed). She would have had a lot better results by being very encouraging and ensuring him she was turned on and is still really into him.

Side note: yet another situation that would be improved if feminism was more widely understood and adopted so that there wouldn't be this huge social pressure and stigma about sex. With men having to be this strong powerful bastion of testosterone that is never weak or wrong.

MelancholyLord -30

"How can i make this about feminism?"

jet_bunny 45

Eh, I think it was a good point..

MelancholyLord -12

Ok :)

DasSassyPantzen 21

Feminism benefits men as much as women. Men have typically had very confined roles and expectations, just as women have. In seeking to balance things out between the sexes, it goes across the board and takes the pressure off men to always be manly, withhold feelings, always be expected to want sex, etc. It’s a good movement that has been bastardized politically. I hope that helps a bit. :)

MelancholyLord -8

I don't think so but respect your opinion

jumnhy 11

Can you elaborate on why you think the link to feminist thought feels forced for you? To me, it seems like a natural conclusion, and I think maybe a greater understanding could be reached if we can dialogue about this.

GentleZacharias 4

I mean, a person could be equally reductive and say, "How can I make this feminist thing about men?" and that would be just about as representative of the kind, informed comment you're replying to. What exactly does this add to the discussion? How are you helping men by doing this? If you're not helping men, what was the aim of your comment? What was the good ending you envisioned for this?

Esoteroticata 1

I mean, a person could be equally reductive and say, "How can I make this feminist thing about men?"

No, as I said, it would be an equally reductive summation of /u/IlikeJG's comment that owed as superficially little to what was actually there.

Esoteroticata 1

You can't reduce a comment that made no mention of men to being about men.

That's not reductive, that's you shoehorning your bit about men and pretending it was there.

GentleZacharias 0

Side note: yet another situation that would be improved if feminism was more widely understood and adopted so that there wouldn't be this huge social pressure and stigma about sex. With men having to be this strong powerful bastion of testosterone that is never weak or wrong.

Discussion of feminist issue with focus on how it would improve men's lives. Focusing on this bit while ignoring the rest of the comment would be as reductive and pointless as /u/MelancholyLord's comment... and this conversation, unfortunately.

NewJaguar 295

It's normal and there's nothing to ashamed of. Actually, it's kind hot... Happenned to a bunch of us (guys), maybe most of us.

I'm guessing he either young, inexperienced, didn't ejaculate for a long time or a combination of the three.

If it happens all the time it could hyperspermia or premature ejaculation, but one time well you're getting to know each other is normal.

ThatOneGuy6381 40

Straight up. Tons of guys have experienced this at some point or another. The current top comment has the best advice I think to help him feel better about his predicament, this comment here is just straight truth.

Baressi8 3

I think he might be suffering from premature ejaculation and this embarressed him thinking it will always be like this, and so it will be hard for him to do it again until they are comfortable with each other and open about it.

juniper_11 223

Cumming from frisky dry humping is nothing to be embarrassed or guilty about.

brettb06 151

Have you asked him about his after the fact? Maybe reassure him that you were ok with that happening and it was nothing to be embarrassed over.

brettb06 96

Btw how old are both of you? Do either of you have sexual experience?

SmashingSnow 90

I feel like she does but the guy doesn’t

greyjackal 11

"She"? Nothing to indicate that :D

IAmHydro 49

I took op to be a she cause a she would be more likely to ask on here how they should deal with this, because guys can relate more to it if that makes sense.

I agree though there's nothing really conclusive.

SmashingSnow 13

Yeah you’re right there

whocanduncan 13

Statistically, though, you're most likely correct.

Smuggykitten 13

Most guys would know how to handle a pre ejaculate dick tho. That might be a new concept for girl

Wait, I forgot what year it was.
We have to add an extra layer to the story now.

IAmLionella 2

I was also wondering the same. It's totally understandable if the guy in question is under 22, but I could see how this might be particularly embarrassing for a 33 yr old man

matt_on_the_internet 28

I wouldn't tell him that. Then he'll just be more embarrassed. Just tell him it was hot

shypolytiger 144

You should feel empowered and desirable.

juddshanks 98

Of all the humblebrag posts on r/sex, OP is surely the humblebraggiest.

SammySoapsuds 60

Real talk, I had a high school boyfriend straight up yell at me when this happened and thought I had done something wrong ever since. I didn't know this was something guys didn't mind/thought of fondly and maybe OP didn't either? It seems like they genuinely feel bad and the guy's reaction is hard to interpret so maybe they're just looking for advice.

sexymanatee 15

I think this is the sort of thing that guys are super embarrassed about at the time, but look back on and laugh ten years later.

ash_phoenix87 122

Hottttt.... I'd have soaked my panties...

ididntshootmyeyeout 20

That's hot

jewdio 83

Be proud. If he didn't want to jizz himself he would have stopped you.

Lubblobba 70

Guys ejaculate sometimes by accident, at least it happens with me a lot. Usually young, inexperienced guys who get excited and then suddenly they're done.

thisesmeaningless 26

It looks like it's pretty clear that he didn't want that to be the end result

ZeekOwl91 81

Don't make too big a deal out of it, just tell him you were flattered and that you know that these things happen. You should also mention that you were having a great time with him as well.

I remember a similar incident happened with my first girlfriend and myself, I was super embarrassed about it, apologized and left her place. A few hours later, she called me and told me how flattered she was by how turned on I was by her that I came in my pants. She said it was hot and she was really turned on and that she masturbated to the memory. Her call actually made me feel a lot better.

Drop_ 56

Relish your power.
Tell him you want to see if you guys can have a repeat performance.

_why_do_U_ask 54

The best thing you can do is give him a call and having him over again. Tell him what happened is fine, if you are really nice maybe you can even help the guy out. I have a feeling it was either a long time since he had been with a lady. Do you want to sleep with him?

aoskaoakoans 105

I really want to sleep with him lol

_why_do_U_ask 48

I bet he likely a virgin, so you can help him into the world of sex. Are you willing?

aoskaoakoans 197

Mhm I’ll fuck the shit out of him

Sero-Flex 101

Out here doing God’s work

hajimenothrowaway 43

GodsPlan

hirdesh007 20

That is a really lucky man!

PurelySmart 1

In my opinion, you should tell him that what happened is totally fine.

When I was a virgin I had the same problem with the first woman I had sex with. What I really appreciated was her assuring me that everything is fine and that, like with anything else, he will get better with practice and time. Then say something like "ready for some training?" and wink at him.

_why_do_U_ask 1

You do know he will need understanding and compassion. What likely will happen is he will be very nervous and shortly have he enters you he will cum. So, if you assure him it is fine and then show him fingering and hopefully he will be into oral he can help get you off. He hopefully will be able to try round two of PIV sex with you and most men will last longer after the first orgasm. It takes a woman who understands, is compassionate and willing to work with him for what will be a memories he will never forget. Teaching sex to virgins can be a lot of fun.

incognitoguy 52

Now it's kinda the elephant in the room he's afraid to talk about. Take the initiative and adriit directly. Tell him what happened was not a big deal. Say you are flattered by it. Tell him you want to get together again and give him a proper orgasm.

voxfemme 37

Don't make a big deal out of something like this. You made him feel good enough to cum. If you think he was embarrassed, make a compliment out of it, like "I'm really flattered that you came when I rubbed you through your pants. That was so sexy." Of course, say something that's true for you so you mean it.

sumerioo 29

Just let it go. Guy is obviously embarrassed by it so don't bring it up again even if it is to reassure how normal and okay it is. Just act normal around and with him. Usually after Fridays do you guys get together? On Saturday give him a call again to hang out, or on Sunday.

Sometimes the best is to just let those things pass

MrMeticulous123 25

I came just by reading this.

NinaBanana 6

😂

Jamiesplaything 20

You should tell him you find it hot. Honestly, I find that hot.... Lol

lorymecs 19

Next time give him a bj and swallow. He’ll cum quick and don’t make him feel bad about it.

dtmfadvice 16

I think saying "I guess you really like me, let's do that again, but with fewer clothes!" Should do the trick. :)

jtrier1 14

Don't feel bad... Be flattered. You obviously did something that he enjoyed, so don't make a fuss over it.

minigrammer_ 10

I can't be the only one who think this is hot? It's good to reach out to him and let him know you're thinking about him and wants to blow him! Reading this makes me want to blow someone...

SOSBTK 9

Most of these comments are really shitty and don't actually help with the situation.

The problem is that your guy is feeling really insecure and shamed by what happened. Sexually, premature ejaculation is one of the most dreaded things to happen to a guy and it was even the focus of a major scene in an American Pie movie. Since it seems like this guy is inexperienced, or even a virgin, he's most likely feeling like he fucked up beyond all measure and that you now look down on him for it in some way.

Now, the important thing to do is to both show him that you're still interested in being with him without trivializing how he feels. If your whole approach is that you don't mind what happened at all, he may take it more as pity or as you throwing him a bone rather than you enjoying it. For now, just show him that you understand it happens and that you'd like to try again. After he gains some confidence, then talk about how him having an orgasm to you in that state is attractive. Because at that point, he could've gained more confidence in himself sexually to not view that type of thing as purely a flaw rather than as something to be explored.

dicorci 9

Tell him that all you can think about is him cumming and that you cant wait to see him again.

Tell him how turned on you've been.

Hopefully that'll make him feel happy and proud instead of guilty and sad

Hulk_Smash_Hard 9

I got a boner reading this. It’s hot af. Same thing happened to me and I was a little embarrassed but it lead to greater things:)

kinky_experimenter 7

I'm innocent (despite my username) and I find this hot and cute. It's flattering (you turn him on that much OP)

Tell him that you're not mad and you were turned on (I assume you were) and invite him over for some more fun ;).

Good luck!

CeramicBlueprint 7

Don't have anything to add, other than to thank you for being so considerate. Hopefully you guys can work it out!

Curiosity_Temptation 6

A nice save to tell him is this:

"Hey. If you might be worried about what happened last weekend. I wanted to tell you that I'm not offended by what happened at all. As a matter of fact...I actually think it's hot. To know that simply me touching you got you off is an incredible compliment to me. And I find it sweet you enjoyed it so much to the point of climax."

If you didn't enjoy it or don't find it hot then it's up to you whether or not you want to use this as a save or not. I'm the kind of person that gets a small kick out of surprising someone with their own orgasm. So it would tickle me if he got off just by me rubbing him.

Aarondhp24 6

"I can't stop thinking about what happened the other day. When can I see you again? I'd really enjoy cleaning you up myself this time. ;) "

Make him feel good about it. Cumming at "the wrong time" is among some of mens worst fears. He may be equally embarrassed about his reaction. Just reinforce that you like him and want to spend time with him. Hopefully then he can read the writing on the wall.

Watcher13 5

If it were me, I'd be super embarrassed, mostly because I'd think that you were thinking that I was less of a man or laughing at me. What you should do is show him that you still want him, that you still think he's desirable. Show, though, don't tell. This is a good time to be a little assertive.

J-Logs_HER 5

Pull it out next time

taKABLUEE 16

If you want it then you've gotta go and sit on it
If you want it then you've gotta go and sit on it
If you want it then you've gotta go and sit on it
Uh oh oh oh oh oh

manwhowritesthings 1

gives new meaning to "i got gloss on my lips, a man on my hips"

AmberMoonstone 5

This is literally one of my fantasies

jakku42 4

All you need to do is talk to him like you're talking to this chat and he'll be over every Friday and he cums too soon just make him do it again

iamnotfromtexas90 4

Don't say "It's ok..." like it's something bad but not terrible. Tell him how hot it was that he thought you were sexy you made him cum in his pants.

blokedog 3

You made him cum in his pants? Keep going.

pm_me_tits_and_toes 3

My wife loves making me cum in my boxers

fhabh8 3

sounds like the movie shes outa your league. how about you say to him lets do this properly . and invite him over and just go down on him .

BlackFire68 3

Tell him you want to see him soon and make it do that again but you want to see it all

boblee77 3

I used to love it when girls did that to me!

AverageUnicorn 2

You don't love it anymore?

boblee77 2

I imagine I would still love it. Haha. Now though,my wife would just talk pants off!

AverageUnicorn 1

Now that I think about it I used to love doing it to guys as well. Maybe I should give it a go with my SO.

boblee77 2

No doubt. It’s that abandon all decorum for the ‘gasm. Hot.

interwebbed 3

oh man this brings me back to the good ole days with my hs gf when we used to fool around in her basement.

We were both each other first for a lot of things so this happened in the beginning...a lot.

Good times.

Next time just as you're making out, whisper all sexy into his year while you're stroking him: "how bout this time you finish in my mouth?"

Careful though, he might bust his nut while this happens.

muaddib0308 3

Just tell him you want him. Tell him you want his cock. Tell him you want to see him make a mess next time. Tell him you want to lock your lips around him so he CANT make a mess.

Tell him the best part of sex is that practice makes perfect... and that the two of you should spend Friday night practicing.

subbadubbdubb 3

The best way to go about this IMO is to keep reminding him that he's awesome and, if he brings it up again, tell him (again) that it's a normal thing.

It might be a good idea for you to mention the wide range of male sexual responses to him, actually, since it seems like a lot of guys don't know that performance issues are super common as well as super manageable in most cases.

cosmatic79 3

You should do it again

kawAdamz 3

Yum that would def make me so wet. Tell him you liked it and next time take it back to early teens dry jumping and hope he cums in his pants again

buttz93 2

This is my dream bf

Nanner-Peel 2

Text him and tell him how much it turned you on. Speaking from experience, he probably thinks he ruined his chance so reassure him he did not

Michael0609 2

Something similar happened to me when I was about 16. I was making out with a girl for the first time. I fingered her and she just barely had her hand between my legs. I came and instantly made up an excuse to go to the bathroom. To this day I still hope she didn’t know but I’m sure she did.

techmighty 2

this is straight of outta of my league movie. Stop shit posting.

Butt_Man_69 2

“Lick it up.” -KISS

Bigsky425 2

That's happened me even at 30, tell dude that my sex life started early like at 13 and my wife of 12 yrs just gets me worked up to much before the pants comes off, I still make sure she's taken care of still of course, I've been Making her squirt for the first time the last year with just my fingers and a little tongue and she loves it lol

Art_Vandelay_7 2

Someone wrote a song just for this occasion.

blue_barracuda 2

I assured him it was fine and left

Did you leave right away? If so, that could convey some negative body language. Just push to reschedule with him, should all be fine.

iftair 2

As a fellow innocent guy, I would be really embarrassed if that ever happened to me. But at the same time I find it hot and sexy. It probably means he's really attracted to you.

More seriously, talk to him in person, tell him you’re flattered and you’d like to do it again. I’ve had premature stuff which always come in situations where I don’t feel completely comfortable. Just try to take pressure off him and try to remove the stigma and pressure he’s feeling. Over communicate. But only so much you can do; do it with compassion.

Pablosamo 2

Sound a pretty reasonable situation.

Mister need to chill a bit, it's perfectly normal.

MastersNeko 2

Lol don’t feel bad. I’d consider that a job well done. And as for what to do. If you want to talk to him about what happened. See how he felt about it and go from there.

Slorgasm 2

Damn that’s hot!!! I would tell him how much you enjoyed turning him on

The_Bill_Brasky_ 2

Offer to help him cum in YOUR pants.

bigd470 2

Tell him it was such a turn on...

Conquerors_Quill 2

Are you a sex goddess or something? Making guys cum with just a little touching.

NoobIsMeMan 2

My face gets red when ever I talk to a girl. I’m happy I’m not the only one who’s face gets red

hairteazer 1

So hot!!!!! I love a good dry hump

Crashlands 1

Awww. Just be friendly and make sure he knows that you don’t think it’s a big deal. In fact, let him know that it’s a turn on that you got him going so much.

erikpdx 1

This is only a bad thing if both of you decide it is a bad thing. So how else could you see this? What if you both see it as HOT that you have such intense sexual chemistry? What if you tell him it turns you on how much he came, and how turned on it makes you that he is so horny for you? He is likely feeling ashamed and like a loser, so how can you see this a new way as hot and sexy? Once you speak into that, the whole mood could shift.

Nephyxia 1

I would honestly not bring it up at all, act like it’s totally normal and not a big deal and that should ease him a bit. If he seems nervous or brings it up, just say it was hot. I’d find it sexy af. Ask to see him again and try and push things further, suck his dick!

mcsniper66 1

Do it again, don’t feel bad.

ajrfuntimes 1

sounds like his body knows how to tell you his true feelings even he is slow to the draw. help him out with a little encouragement. a friendly text saying you are excited to see him again soon

C4G4C 1

I was the same way when I was young. The problem is premature ejaculation. I never was able to get over it. I don't think I ever learn to please a woman.

CobraCustomerService 1

Tell him it was super hot and you can't wait to seem him again. Then next time make skin to skin contact

dianeyoung465 1

nothing to be embarassed about. kinda hot actually.

KulasDevorn 1

Be glad you have someone so attracted to you but still respectful about you at the same time. Explain to him that it is ok and makes you feel good to know this. Some of us would be happy just to have someone to make out with.

Scholes_SC2 1

My personality is very similar to this guy and I'm also a quick trigger. It's funny, I usually react the same way when this happens to me the first couple of times with a girl. I apologize a lot hehe.

timothj 1

Tell him you thought it was hot. Not that it's ok, but that it was hot. And you want to get together again dot dot dot.

_BITCHES_LOVE_ME_ 1

This is super easy. Tell him you want to see him again and then make him cum in your mouth next time. If you're into that.

L3T 1

I come in my pants during work meetings, GET OVER IT GUY.

There's only one reason you come: so you can go again. quit the guilt, drop the apologies and fondle on!

DopeyDopeSkat 5

What kind of work meetings do you have? Asking for a friend

L3T 1

Climactic.

FineFilth 1

make him a sandwich..

Says_Thats_Hot 1

You're great.

kpobococ 1

So, just tell him "Next time I want all that in my mouth" or something like that. This tells him a) there will be a next time and b) you find the whole situation kind of arousing.

BillieJean1992 1

That would happen with my boyfriend in HS when we first started dating. I just kind of ignored it and kept on making out and so did he.

Supersnazz 1

Just tell him to come over so you can make him cum in his pants again.

LittleRebelBlog 1

That's actually kinda cute and sexy at the same time... ;) If you really like the guy, try to get him on another date, and when you get together don't mention what happened, just be yourself and show him you still like him. ;)
I dated some shy guys before and usually, they were fine once they noticed I was still interested in them after some "embarrassing situation". :) Hopefully you'll get another chance to meet up, but otherwise don't feel bad about what happened, you should be proud. It's not your fault he felt embarrassed. :)

TheMatter13 1

Just to point out you're handling this super well already and because of that I'm sure he'll get over it quickly, especially since you're remaining enthusiastic

fantasygg12 1

No surprise if he is a "sweet, innocent, quiet" guy. I think he likes you so that doesn't want you to feel he is "weak" and prone to immature ejaculation.

Next time you make out, try to put his pants down and suck it while telling him everything is fine ;)

Tech5858 1

This is a post worth to have an update. And maybe little more detail. Definitely upvote (x10) to OP

lksdshk 1

Sometimes I wish I could be that naive and a girl like you initiate me

Chosen_one184 1

Should have stayed, get him back up and let him experience the joys of getting that second nut

MotherOfKrakens95 1

Tell him your flattered. I mean maybe you're not, in which case don't lie. But I personally would feel kind of like "wow I turned this guy on that much?" And get a little ego boost from it lol if you feel the same, tell him. Tell him you think it's kind of hot, and talk about a next time so he knows he didnt blow it with you, in case he's worrying about that.

JackLove 1

Tell him that it makes you really happy that he finds you sexy enough to get him to jizz in his pants, instead of focusing on his ejaculatiom, take it as a compliment

smegma_crunch 1

Make it happen again?

Southern_Dude 1

You be straight forward with him. Text him "I am you are not embarrassed because you came too early. If so, get over it. It happens. In fact I think its hot because I must really turn you on" and I promise.. He will feel better.

stayoffmygrass 1

Both of you own what happened and talk about it openly. It happens to just about everyone at one point.

leaderofdreams 1

It sounds like he’s really really keen on you!

I’m surprised he didn’t cancel Friday!

I think he’s probably came in his pants again when you texted him back!

Takes me back to high school. I made more than one guy cum in his pants while dancing. Don't worry, it's all good.I've had guys cum from barely touching them. Just tell him you are honored that he was so excited by you that he came early. Just get his dick out faster next time !

germshots 1

So you feel bad for making him feel embarrassed?

Empy304 1

Is it a first time thing? Keep talking it will be fine. If not, keep talking...

NobilisUltima 1

Tell him that it's normal and that it's nothing to be ashamed of. Tell him it's hot (if you feel that it is, don't lie to him). Tell him that he's more than just a penis to you (again, if this is the case). Tell him you want to see him again and make him feel even better, and that if you'd been put off by it you wouldn't be asking to see him again.

Zurkster 1

Ah, the classic OTPHJ!

nof8_97 1

You shouldn’t feel bad and neither should he. Just let him know how bad you want to see him again.

JustLurkinDontMindMe 1

Take him out to breakfast.

SAMSON_AITE 1

As an apology you should do it again ;)

AgitatedAdvantage 1

You should feel bad. You're a horrible person and you should be damn well ashamed of yourself.

Nah seriously, that's a hell of a compliment. If you're worried it's affected his confidence let him know how flattering it was.

rocketlaunchr 1

These things happens, and it can be really embarassing, but if you show that it doesnt matter i pressume it would mean a lot for him and his self confidence.

John-Grady-Cole 1

"Innocent?" Sure.

e1mer 1

Remember, when he is innocent, that seems like a bad thing.

If you had said "That is such a turn on that I make you so excited" it would
not have been embarrasing at all.

PLUS: He is young, it should take next to no time for round 2.
The key is that it is not premature, it is not bad, it is exciting!

wombatcreasy 1

Do his laundry and move forward with things as you see fit. :)

500mHeadShot 1

Tell them the truth

You made him just history first nut

BcbornLeo 1

Tell him you’ll finish him off next time in a better spot ... he’ll feel a lot better

Dire87 0

Reading this made ME hard. I was young(er) once too, and I can see this happening. Embarrassing for sure, but it's how you deal with it and I'm almost sure you can make him feel at ease, instead of awkward. Keep at it!

Ltsmeet 0

I'm free on Fridays :)

Mindgate 0

I don't know what you said exactly, but "It's fine." is code for "wtf, that's not fine." He is super embarrassed about this. Text him and use more words. Tell him you know these things happen and you don't hold it against him, you are rather flattered than anything else. Tell him you were thinking about him a lot and want to see him again etc etc. He'll get it over it soon enough.

cassaregh -4

You should marry him.

cassaregh -6

You should marry him.

Worchipp -10

You sure it's cum? Maybe it's just those natural clear lubricants that the body releases on excitement.

kirauk1 -54

You must feel very proud as a woman ,in fact this has raised your self-esteem , while lowering his , because he didn't make you come..you fed your ego , while eating his..it's just. simple...give him a chance to make you come and you'll understand what I mean and you'll see his eyes brightening up