On a recent post here, we spoke quite openly about how men should treat women. We must say that the post got quite a bit of support from women on social networks. So it would only be fair to flip the coin now. Right?

A couple was discussing with us some time ago how the woman felt the need for her husband to reaffirm verbally how much he appreciates and values his wife. Although she knows that he loves her, she wants to hear from him with actual words, how much he loves her and appreciates the things she does for him. Don’t get me wrong ladies, men do indeed need to improve on this, but you must know that this is not something that comes naturally to us. So indeed some practice from us, and patience from you will be required.

The thing I wanted to talk about however is not what men don’t do, but what they actually do. Let me explain.

The wife in question, said that one day she stopped to realise all the things that her husband was doing that she didn’t realise. Even though he wasn’t saying all the things she wanted to hear, he was doing a lot of things she wasn’t seeing because she was too busy complaining about him not sharing his emotions verbally. He was providing, protecting, caring, and guiding the whole family, but all he was hearing was how much more he should be saying he loved her, even though he had been showing it.

The point we want to make here is not whether your husband does all these things or not. But just take some time to look for all the things that maybe he is indeed doing and perhaps are going unnoticed and should be praised and recognised.

Sometimes we put so much emphasis on the things we don’t yet have, that we end up losing the ones we had in the first place.

Men may not be great at talking about feelings, but they do have other qualities that should be appreciated.