How Slavic Women View Men’s Profiles on Dating Sites

Research confirms that Slavic women carefully read your profile on a dating site. Elena’s Models installed a new tool, mapping user journeys through the site, and there are distinct patterns demonstrated by men and women, seeking partners online.

How men view women’s profiles on the site

Guys mostly look at photos, when exploring women’s profiles. A quick click on the photo in search results, and then the profile may be closed in an instant, and another one will be opened. Sometimes men only view the main photo, and other times they see a few of her pictures, before the woman’s personal page is closed.

Men do come back to selected ladies again later, and spend more time on checking girls’ questionnaires.

How Slavic women check men’s profiles

Slavic ladies take time studying men’s dating profiles. They are reading the texts and viewing all photos. They move cursor over the sentences on your personal page, possibly using online translators to check on certain words.

Women rarely go back to a man’s listing. Apparently, they either send an EOI or mail straight away, or decide that this person isn’t the one they are looking for.

Tips for men

It’s still early stages of the research, and we will be reviewing more of these patterns as we go. One thing for sure is that what you say in your profile on the online dating site is important, and answering all questions in the listing is an easy place to start.

Very interesting article. I really can’t argue with research and statistics although there are some nuances that could be taken into consideration. If you just click on the once viewed your profile, there are no age information displayed. So you have to click their profile – and that could result in a quick exit. The same goes for information like if they have kids. Could be a dealbreaker for some. Like you mentioned though the research is still premature. My biggest question is regarding the “Being financially stable and ability to provide for a family” as vital for slavic women.… Read more »

In short, Slavic ladies are happy to work, but believe that the husband would feel more proud if she stayed at home looking after the kids, and that it would be better for the family. However, most Slavic women do work outside of home. OECD Better Life Index states that 65% of women in Russia have paid jobs (as compared to 75% of men). In Norway these numbers are 77% for men and 74% for women (quite close).

Thanks for your resourced reply. Very appreciated. As for the OECD BLI I think thats pretty accurate. Statistics can be interpreted in many ways … and since the stats takes the population as a whole it probably doesn’t apply to geographical differences (urban vs. rural) …and living in Oslo that percentage would be higher – as for any other country (living expenses, more job opportunities etc.) The main point is that the percentage for men and women are very equal which makes sense given the statement I made in my previous post. Im pretty sure that most slavic men feel… Read more »

Morten, The “ideal” of a man who earns a lot of money and the wife stays at home is just that, an “ideal”, to which people aspire. Just like the Hollywood dream of “making it happen” – it doesn’t mean that every one is going to get the giant house on the beach with a score of servants and drive a Lamborgini. However, thinking of that, Slavic ladies’ ideal is more achievable, isn’t it? 🙂 Each person is different and you will be unwise to think that every woman dreams to sit at home looking after kids. Talk to women… Read more »

NO … Its not an ideal … what makes you say that? You know what we call women like that in Norway? you are talking about ideals like its the norm? But who can blame you …you talk from a ukrainain perspective … I talk from an adaptive perspective. Understanding slavic women? What about understanding the world outside the baltics?

What about sticking to dating your local women who understand your perspective? 🙂 I am just trying to give you an insight how the young women you are trying to date have been brought up, what they value. – You are brought up on ideas of “success” as measured in monetary terms. – Slavic women have been brought up on ideas of “success” being family and kids, a happy and strong family, where the husband is the one responsible for earning money and the wife is taking care of home and children. Which definition of success is better? Personally, I… Read more »

My point is … yes we signed up for a baltic dating site? But as they are more likely to relocate … being crimea … russia vs. ukraine … I don’t give a damn. What I know is how the financial circumstances affecting these countries. They want to meet a man outside their own country … and that is really a bias that really do affect women choice on this site … so in every regard I do pay respect to women on here … but they also have an longing to get out of their situation … so why… Read more »

Morten, I live in the west for 16 years. I do not hold personal views typical of today’s Slavic ladies. Don’t preach to converted 🙂 If you are not interested in being more successful with Slavic girls you are trying to impress, skip my posts. If you still haven’t understood that the essential motivation of Slavic women looking for partners outside of national borders is precisely this desire “to have a family” (and not “getting a better life” or “getting out of a bad economical situation”), you never will. You may simply not be open minded enough to manage a… Read more »

sorry … like talking to a wall … Im not insinuating anything. You and I do both value our way of life …period. And As much as Im willing to admit flaws on women in my country as well as flaws on my own … its just a matter of understand …then act … or react in whatever means. Its just the hostility and lack of diversity and flexibility that I have a hard time grasping. Its like its a black and white way of looking at things. I don’t give a rats a** weather you lived in a western… Read more »

Morten, You are becoming rude and aggressive, and this is unacceptable in a public forum. The short answer to your misunderstanding of the differences with your friend’s Slavic wife: – Slavic women who want to move countries because they want a better life and/or unhappiness with the local values, use the immigration method. – Slavic ladies who join dating sites in search of a partner (instead of filing applications to immigrate) are doing it because they want a “strong family”, a “good husband”, and “happy and healthy kids”. Those 2 are completely different motivations, based on different value systems. The… Read more »

elena, you are way off on some of your things you tell men. i have had a bunch of women contact me. i did bathroom selfies picture, just dressed in t-shirt and jeans with my cowboy hat on. but, i put as first line in profile” ladies if you are looking for preppie, or yuppie look, keep looking i’m just plain simple man.” and you know what it has worked. i have had many eio sent to me. i talk to the women and ask why me? you know what they say? they tell me reason is, you were up… Read more »

larry, You are 100% right! The majority of girls just want a simple life, marriage, and family. That’s what I keep saying to men. If you are naturally good looking, you may get away with a lot of things. If you can get responses with what is in your profile, it’s wonderful, no matter what it is. However, for the guys who are not happy with their responses, my advice is still to dress neat and smile in photos, and it will always be the same – whether it’s 1997 or 2015, unless people click on your picture in the… Read more »

In other words what Elena is saying is that Slavic women will not give you 1 kopeck to raise a child. The men must be the sole financial provider as it’s customary in their country. However Slavic women when looking for foreigners always seek men with good financial stability as even if they work they will never think to contribute financially.

That’s not what I am saying at all. Read again, maybe 2 or 3 times if needed. What I am saying is that a woman staying at home is promoted throughout post-USSR countries as an “ideal” but the majority of females in Russia, Ukraine, and Belarus still work. What don’t you understand about 64% of females being employed in Russia? There are also high numbers of females running their own small businesses, so women do contribute in marriages, just as everywhere else. It’s only the “traditional family values” that are pushed down their throats that indoctrinate women that they should… Read more »

Elana…. You mentioned it may not be a good idea to find a spouse abroad if you have a low income. But what if someone abroad is the only option? For example, I have not been with a girl in 8 years here in California. I tried many dating sites for years and never got one reply on them. I only had 2 short relationships prior and they were terrible. I dealt with them because at the time I thought it was better than being alone. Girls in America seem to run from me. But I tried elenasmodles and got… Read more »

I think it’s your responsibility to weed out women whom seek men purely for financial stability. That’s sort of what this websites allows you to do, find the person who is RIGHT for you. That having been said if you yourself are not in a stable financial situation then what would cause them to believe that you can support them even for just as long as it would take them to establish themselves in a new place. This post was not intended to tell you that you don’t make enough money, it was intended to give you insight in to… Read more »

Elena, First off I am new to your site and this is the first blog I have read. I applaud your professionalism and dialogue with Mortensen. I found it most intriguing and educational. That said I have an observation/question based upon your blog. I think for me it was common knowledge that men will look at pictures first and the text second and women would look at other factors first and then the pictures. My question comes down to the physical appearance of Russian women in my own country. I looked through every profile under the Russian women in the… Read more »

James, Thank you for the kind words. Start with the age difference in couples topic, there is a long discussion as well. Elena’s Models cater to Slavic women seeking partners abroad, and helps them to find men who are open to meeting a partner from a different culture. I was very happy when I met a western man and moved overseas, and this is why I started my site, to help other Slavic girls find the same happiness with a partner. We are not a dating site introducing American men to Russian women living in America, although we do have… Read more »

Hello Elena, Wow you are quite the writer. I loved reading what you had to say and now am going to read every blog you post whether it interests me or not. Just because I know I will gain knowledge. I did not get on this site to find a woman in the USA, I did not even know there would be any. However, that certainly would make things easier, as long as if they still maintained the hugely desirable values you discussed with Mortensen. I am very much on board with meeting and marrying a girl from an former… Read more »

James, My view is that women who managed to maintain their statue at 30+ will usually know how to handle food. Girls who exercise regularly, former sportswomen or dancers (many Slavic women were doing some sport of dancing as kids) will usually keep themselves in a pretty good shape. I guess it’s all about whether she wants to stay pretty for you or not… I knew a Slavic girl who used to be a ballerina and grew enormously huge, because she was married to a much older man, and because she didn’t want to leave him ever, she gained about… Read more »

Hello Elena, thank you for an honest and accessible web site, and I speak as one of the people who has been ripped off by PPL sites. I would like to ask a question in relation to Morten’s series of intelligent and balanced comments, but first a little background. Australia is second only to the Nordic countries in terms of public health care and parental leave, is almost a photocopy of its social norms and standards, but has electricity, housing and land prices second only to Tokyo. We also have child care regime nearly mandated by power-drunk social worker system,… Read more »

Matthew, Since I too live in the land of Oz, and have 2 teenage kids, I understand what you mean. Have you read the recent research conducted by 300 scientists in Australia over 15 years, which says that people living in small cities population under 1000 are the happiest in this country? I guess you probably live in a large metropolis where prices for houses are getting out of hand. Maybe moving to a smaller country town could make you a happy man, and allow to have a family that lives on 1 income? P.S. You can get a job… Read more »

Elena,
Regarding your P.S. to Matthew, is there somewhere you can recommend that would give more information on this? Especially considering the unrest between U.S. and Russia and Russia and the Ukrain

Guys, please, don’t argue with Elena 🙂 She just explains you the point of view of the most Slavic ladies regarding family life. We have been brought up this way since our childhood, and even at school, we had handcraft classes different for boys and for girls. Girls were taught how to sew clothes or some interior items and bake cakes and cook food, boys were taught how to make wooden tables, chairs, how to repair electric cables and devices. Also we had medical nurse courses obligatory for girls and pre-military training for boys. So since school times boys and… Read more »

I love the way you handle some of these men Elena, some think it is like a shopping expedition, see it , like, take it home and she must adapt to my culture and lifestyle, the lack of understanding leaves one with their mouth wide open sometimes. You can not take flowers and plant them anywhere in the world where ever you want and expect them to grow without an enormous amount of tender loving you care,it is the same with the beautiful flowers of Ukraine !

My experience over about 8 years is that the Ukrainian woman would be over the moon if her husband to be came to live in Ukraine instead of leaving her family and coming to Australia. I think the story that many people believe in my country that everyone wants to come and live in Australia is just simply fantasy, people love their country they come from in spite of the hardships. Other countries that have the same fears should travel to some of the poorer countries and see how much happier they are in spite of their difficulties, much happier… Read more »

Elena, I was floored by your stories. This truly baffles my mind. Peer pressure does indeed cause people to do some extraordinary things especially when it comes to love and family. So since I would not be wanting my woman to fatten up under any circumstances and in fact would want quite the opposite. Do you have any suggestions on how to ensure that the girl I marry stays thin and in good shape for me. I have had way to many friends who have lost attraction to their wives because of weight gain. I do not want to experience… Read more »

James, You have no control over another person 🙂 It’s their choice. There are also such factors as genetics. If the mother is slim, then the daughter will usually be slender. There is research demonstrating that there is genetic predisposition to not having indicators of feeling full working correctly in some people. In other words, some people don’t sense when they have had enough to eat. It’s possible to control but it makes them genetically predisposed to gaining weight. But most of all, how the person feels about herself will determine how much attention she puts on her looks, as… Read more »

What you wrote in your comment is the one of the top 3 biggest reasons I am here. I do want a woman whose primary role in the family is taking care of the home, the kids and our family. I would be the provider.

Elena I read your blog and I understand that a Slavic woman wants to stay at home and take care of the children. OK kool. To me I think it’s a 50/50 responsibility with the home. I would love my wife to work while I’m home watching our child and vice versa. What is your opinion?????

Tony, My opinion absolutely doesn’t matter. 🙂 I am not the one who will be with you. As simple as that. No 2 women are alike. The social propaganda in Russia tells women they should strive to be Mothers and Wives. How convinced she is personally about it, is a different matter. I can’t say more clearly than this: You are seeking a foreign wife because of her “values” (or so you say), but do not wish her to follow 1 part of these values, which is, the “woman’s happiness is in the family” part. You want them to have… Read more »

Been reading through this but problem is now matter how many times I change my profile & update my pictures I still have no luck i read the profiles before I make contact with the ladies not judge them on their pictures like other guys or some do I won’t be giving up been here for 3 years & no luck but my friend meet a girl from a site I won’t name now he’s married to a girl from Moscow & they have a son together & reading some success stories its inspire me to try again after being… Read more »

Elena, You may be correct, however, I would not consider myself a control freak. I understand I can’t control these things I am asking about. I am just trying to put the odds in my favor. More so than controlling, I am very analytical and an over thinker. I really enjoy your insight and appreciate your continual dialogue with me. You are very correct we never know what breath will be our last. I pray mine is many years from now and I am a Grandpa but one never knows. I have been spending more time in dialogue with you… Read more »

I met my fiance on the site so first off I want to thank Elena for providing the forum to make that happen! I have to say I do not understand a lot of the thinking of the blog posters (which includes the moderator as well at times). My fiance is well educated, has a career, very beautiful (12 years younger than I am 😀 ) and believes in traditional family values. She wants to focus on our future family which I think is great and I am willing to work harder to help her have that option. Why men… Read more »

George,
Congratulations on your success!
I think we all lost the plot a little bit in the discussion, which is – it is a dating site, and people are here to find a relationship with someone they like, and who likes them. 🙂

Hey everyone, and hi Elena. Nice job handling some of the more difficult posts here. I want to say that I agree with the “clicking the picture if she’s hot” method that Elena wrote about. It’s just how I am, for some reason (maybe just because I’m male). I do enjoy reading what the ladies write in their profiles. I like when there is a lot of information to read. It does seem really difficult to create a history of chats or emails with the ladies. At first, it is sometimes great and then fizzles out. This is how it… Read more »

I also wonder how ladies from overseas think regarding male nurses. It has been accepted here in the U.S. I wonder how it is in Russia or Ukraine or other countries around there. Nursing is a tough profession. It surely isn’t for wimps.

Tim, Nursing is a very low paid job in Russia and Ukraine. It’s paid by the government and it’s considered to be a female job and not something that can provide for a family. So, maybe say that you are in the healthcare industry (or “medical worker”) and currently are upgrading your qualifications. Even a guy who is mowing lawns but says he’s got his “own business” will be viewed more favorably than a male nurse. (Medical doctors in Russia and Ukraine also earn very little most of the time.) Girls are concerned about the ability to earn income sufficient… Read more »

This is what I thought, Elena. Male nurses in the U.S. make good money, and especially if they go further in their education and become nurse practitioners. They make well over $100,000 a year. Even just RN’s with office jobs make $7000 per month or more. It is a great profession here in the States. Maybe I should just be honest and tell women this.

Tim,
How is it saying that you are a “medical worker” being dishonest?
You cannot possibly explain the situation to each and every woman reading your profile, and your problem is the translation of the word “nurse” into Russian. It doesn’t translate correctly. Use the term “medical worker”, and problem solved – if she wants to know more, you explain.
Here is also a link to an article in Russian that says that qualified medical personnel is in demand in the USA, you can give it to them (but not until you have communication established).

Elena you are a true blessing! I thank you with all my heart for your site and continued support as in this forum where you have clearly again and again summarized what the majority of Slavic woman look for in a profile much to the horror of certain malakithes who thought it would be a great place to argue with you on weather they agree with the FACTS or not? To hold you personally responsible for a way of life that is far more sustainable and natural than the gimmick of 50/50 income contribution. In my opinion the women who… Read more »