I have decided to write this for 2 reasons. 1 because I have become friends with a few people on this board and I didnt want to disapear and 2 because I have the right to come on and express myself.

Firstly I would like to ask, what has happened to this forum? I rememeber when it used to be so friendly and everyone got along. There was no petty comments made about anyone, and basically if you didnt agree or didnt like someone then you just simply did not respond. I know everyone cant be like this, and it is in peoples natures to be nasty sometimes, but seriously sometimes things you say can be very hurtful....

I understand alot of ppl dont write back to my posts because i dont do it to theres, but I am not on here all day like some of you. I am very busy working full time, plus running my own small business. Thats no excuse but its not that I dont get any replys that bothers me. its the rude ppl on this forum.

I have made some very good friends on here, and I love you guys (you know who you are) And we will def keep in contact threw msn and email. I am here to support you in everyway I can, and I thank you for supporting me.

This is good bye from me, I will not be coming back, as this place has become to b!tchie and I simply dont like it anymore. I am not going to lie about it, theres no point. I am not 2 faced.....Good luck to everyone who has ever supported me, I wish you well

I think it is also extremely important for me to say this. Not everyone has very good will power, and some people need alot of encouragment and feedback, feedback that is good or negative but put in the nicest way possible. It kicks people down when you get negative feedback all the time by certain people. I think it is very important for me to say that I do want to lose weight and I am not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me or anything like that. But this is the internet and not everyone comes out like some of you. I could be very discouraged about loosing weight becuase I have eating disorder? Has anyone ever thought about that?????? You dont know me or anyone on this board so you have no right to judge or be mean.....

its good that you have the honesty in you to speak your mind about why you are leaving. you had more guts than i did- hypothetically speaking of course! i will see you on facebook and msn. dont ever give up on your weightloss goals, you can achieve anything, it might not seem like it now but you will find support to continue with your goals in other places in your life. you have come a long way. cheers.

I'm sorry you're leaving Jez. I hope I'm not one of the people who has influenced your decision to go. Sorry also if I haven't replied to your posts. I try to answer as many as I can, but sometimes there are threads that are outside my experience or my knowledge so I feel hesitant in adding anything to them. If you felt ignored then I am really very sorry. I expect this won't change your mind about going, though I really hope you would reconsider.

I hope you find the support you need in your weight-loss journey whether it be here, on another forum or using different means. Good luck for the future.

I always get a big shock when I read a post like this. I must have my head buried in the sand because I don't notice any censored or politics going on Admittedly I'm not around as much anymore but I really hadn't noticed a change in the forum.

Anyway - so long Jez! All the best with your weightloss journey. I know you'll get to your goal x

milkyway wrote:I always get a big shock when I read a post like this. I must have my head buried in the sand because I don't notice any censored or politics going on

hehe you and me both

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one! Same thing when Kate and Madeline left

I think one of the dangers of a forum is that you can't really communicate emotions through what you're writing. When you say something in person, more is communicated through the way you say it and what you look like when you say it and what you do when you say it (e.g. touching someone on the arm) than what you actually say. I know I overuse the emoticons all the time, but that's because I want to make sure people know I'm meaning things in a light kind of way and not all serious I'm very sarcastic in person and it tends to come out on forums too - but not intended to be taken seriously, if ya know what I mean?

Jez - not sure if you're still reading this, but I can't help but wonder if you're leaving is about the thread you posted where you talked about how you put all the weight you'd lost back on? I really hope not because I found that to be a really caring and supportive topic, but can understand how it may not have been perceived like that by you...

I know that I am new and maybe am not on enough to notice but I too get shocked reading goodbye posts. I am sorry that your leaving hopefully once you have taken a break you would like to come back....and to the meanies, back off!

I've gotta say I'm one of the head in the sand crew - I just don't seem to notice these things, but again, I haven't been around as much. I am genuinely sorry that someone has left due to feeling that way about the forum though I like to think the mods do a relatively good job of maintaining a forum where positive criticism is used, but where a feeling of collegiality is cultured.

35kg lost. (November 2005 - October 2006)15kg gained again (as at October 2010).Back to the drawing board - Let's do this thing!