10 Things You Need To Stop Apologizing For To Be A Happier Person

No one likes admitting that we’ve done something wrong. Sometimes we do mess up and we need to apologize in order to move on.

When we say sorry, we put ourselves in a vulnerable position where we can easily get hurt. This can impact our self-confidence and I’ve noticed that we tend to apologize for way more things than we really need to.

How often do you apologize for things that aren’t worth apologizing for? I almost feel like saying “sorry” is losing its meaning because we use it for such random reasons.

I collected 10 things that most people tend to apologize for even though there’s no reason to feel bad!

Stop apologizing for…

Taking care of your health

You should never feel the need to apologize for taking care of your health. Making sure that both your mind and body are healthy is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Don’t let anybody else tell you that it’s not that important – it’s just not true.

You only have one body and only you can decide what’s good for your health, even if that means going to bed early (speaking of going to bed… read my tips on how to create your perfect night routine!), while your friends are out clubbing.

Saying no

Ouch! The thought of saying no to loved ones or maybe even to your boss makes you feel uncomfortable?

I totally understand that. Most of us feel that way. It’s not easy, especially if you’re used to saying yes all the time.

You need to understand that you don’t have to please everyone around you. You can say no to things you don’t want to or can’t do.

Imagine you needed help from someone and this person said yes to you, but ends up not doing it, because there wasn’t enough time.

You probably counted on that person and now you’re disappointed and frustrated. If that person had told you before that he couldn’t do it – you would have asked someone else, right?

Trust me – sometimes it’s necessary and better to say no.

Following your own path

In a world where we have more opportunities than ever, it can be hard to choose what’s right for us.

We tend to do what seems right to us even if that means going with the flow instead of finding our own path.

We have to understand that it’s okay to do something completely different than our friends.

Only you know what’s right for you. You don’t have to justify yourself for the path you choose to follow.

Taking time for yourself

I can’t stress enough how important it is to make time for “me-time” every now and then. You don’t have to feel guilty or bad for giving yourself a time-out.

You can’t always be there for your family and friends without recharging your own battery. If you need me-time inspiration, check out this post.

Your priorities

How often do you throw your plans over because something gets into your way?

How often do you stop doing something you’re working on because you get distracted by something less important?

If you want to work on that important project you’ve been wanting to finish for months, you can’t stop every time something else shows up on your to-do list!

If you need to do something right now, don’t let “false emergencies” get into your way. You can deal with them later!

Cutting out negative people

Do you know those people who make you feel miserable even when you’re talking about meaningless things like the weather? They always see the bad in people and try to convince you that the world is a horrible place.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t want to spend a lot of time with them. The good news is you don’t have to.

Don’t feel like you need to apologize for not wanting to be around them!

Your flaws

Don’t think you need to apologize for your imperfections. Some girls think it’s cute when they constantly tell everyone about their insecurities. But to be honest, no one really cares.

Accept what you can’t change and let it go. If you need tips on how to love yourself again, you can read this post.

Trust me, the right people will accept your flaws and love you anyway!

Standing your ground

It might seem annoying to some people, but only those who know how to be consistent and persevering will get what they want. Perseverance always pays off!

Always remember that you’re just doing what it takes to get to where you want to be.

There’s nothing wrong with that!

Not responding right away

How many hours do you spend on your phone per day? It’s probably a lot of time, right?

We spend more time on our phones than ever before. We can reach our friends almost 24/7, which isn’t the problem itself.

The problem is that some people expect us to be available all the time.

Sometimes you just want to spend time with your friend or partner and you don’t want to get distracted by your phone.

Don’t feel sorry for leaving a couple of messages unreplied. You don’t always have to be there right away.

You can get to that later.

It’s not only rude to get distracted while you’re spending time with someone else, it can also cause a lot of stress if you constantly worry about your messages.

Stop thinking about your messages and enjoy the here and now!

Being honest

I feel like there are two different types of personalities. Some appreciate your honesty (A), others prefer to hear what they would like to hear in that moment (B).

Imagine your friend asks you how that new dress looks on her. Friend A would like to hear your honest opinion. Friend B just wants to hear how fabulous she looks, even though the dress looks a little tight on her.

Group B tends to get angry when you say things they don’t agree with. It’s easier to tell them what they want to hear but don’t feel bad for saying your honest opinion when it’s appropriate.

Don’t apologize for saying the truth just because the other person didn’t like your opinion.

In the end being honest will make you a better and happier person!

Are you guilty? Let me know in the comments what you tend to apologize for the most! 🙂

Comments

Cutting out negative people is something I’m struggling with right now. But I don’t want to be yet another reason that contributes to them thinking the world is shit and living isn’t worth it :/ How do you deal with that? Ugh.

Hey Lucia! We sometimes feel like that because we are good souls. We don’t want others to get hurt. The truth is, you are responsible for your own happiness and wellbeing. No one can take that responsibility away from you. Not your parents, not your partner, not your friends. You have to accept that you can’t help everyone unless they actually want your help. If you don’t want to cut those people out of your life, try and use it as a chance to grow as a person. Don’t let their negativity get to you. Be patient with them and challenge yourself to not get frustrated. It will help you find more peace and strength from within. You’ll always have to deal with some sort of negativity no matter where you are in life. Only through practising, you will master the art of staying calm when everything around you feels like a storm. Sending lots of love <3