Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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Fallout from Divorce..

I am not sure how many can relate to this but one of the biggest fallouts of divorce for me has been the feeling fo being so unsettled. My emotions are so extreme. I am either way up or way down. I find just being even keel would be so great. I know some of the other people I am friends with here on DS after being in long term marriages are having a hard time finding their bearings once again. I usually do bounce back from the downs pretty quickly, but wow, this ride is getting so very old.

I think I'm kind of the opposite. My family was somewhat stoic, as in &quot;never let them see you sweat&quot; so that may be part of it, but mostly I was afraid that I had stifled my emotions to the place that I would never enjoy anything again. It took setbacks and time--but I'm doing good now. I hope you get there soon.

had a bad down ride on the roller coaster couple of weeks ago..scared the hell out of me..actually had one night where i had my blue pills poured out on the table seriously thinking of taking them all.

scared me to death (cuse the pun) cause i hadnt been to that place in prob a yr. BUT i also talked myself out of it (yeah i talk to myself)..figured he would win if i did..kept muddling and got past it.
now i cant even remember what it was that set that off. we just have to remind ourselves it goes away. we as you say that were married like forever are just gonna need time more time than most

BUT on the otherhand when your good days come back - and they will.
WE KNOW HAPPINESS AND WE WILL NEVER TAKE IT FOR GRANTED

School has been both a blessing and a curse. On one hand it keeps me really really busy, and I don't have time to Think about things, my life now, or what it could have been. On the other, it's huge stress. And then it makes me feel good about what I'm accomplishing. And on the other, I go back to thinking about how all my thoughts about what the future have been have changed. And yet on the other hand....

Well on it goes.

Traditions, holidays, birthdays. All of that stuff so different. I'm over the hurt, but the future it's still so changed.

I understand.. I have constant extreme ups and downs. I just want to be happy again. I think the people around me think I've lost my mind..one day I feel good, the next not so good. I bounce back quickly too but I am tided of all of this.

i agree mamalyn... my emotions are very extreme ... i have never in my life cried as hard as i have cried at times... then other times i'm so happy i can't understand it... it's weird... and like you i do bounce back much faster then i did at first from the downs... but man when i go down i am soooooooooooo down... once again.. glad to see that there are others out there that understand what this all feels like

(((Mamalyn))) thank you for this post!....you explain my feelings so well!....its so hard for me to describe it to friends and family who have not experienced hurt like this....my mom will say &quot;but you sounded so good last week&quot;....and I start to question myself...why am I back down again?....this is the hardest thing I have ever been through....Sending you healing vibes....hope it evens out for all of us!

I am so comforted knowing that I am not alone in feeling this way..Like Siege said,,I feel stupid..I have accomplished a lot in my life. I have almost raised 7 children..and I can't get over this divorce. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. Thank you for understanding..I wish us all acceptance for ourselves, learning to be okay with the craziness that divorce brought into our lives and knowing it will someday come to an end...

Oh hun.
The fallout is indeed a bitch.
You are doing wonderfully. Try to remember that you had ups and downs while you were married also. That's life. There is no guarantees. There is no fool proof plan.

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