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Those Who Mind Don't Matter: Opinions of Others

We all make choices. From what we eat to where we live to how we take on our day. Sometimes though- and by some, I mean most-other people influence our choices even though they really have nothing to do with them.

Do you ever think twice about posting something on Instagram or Facebook because you're worried that someone just might...by chance...possibly take offense to it? Does this invisible influence follow you into a bigger arena? When you decide to move to a new apartment, house or even city, do these invisible opinions make you doubt your choices? Are there real voices, from real people, that question the choices you've made for yourself-that don't effect those people in the least?

If this sounds familiar, you need to stop. Period. Stop letting the opinions of others- whether they're invisible or very real, dictate the choices you make for yourself and your life.

Because those who mind everything you do, but are never trying to actually help you through sound advice, physical assistance, general support on social media/in real life, or even just through understanding why you want to live where and how you choose (given it's a healthy lifestyle)...simply don't matter. Hell, anyone who is more focused on what you're doing more than they're focused on themselves shouldn't matter.

You are here to live the life you love, and while that life may not always be perfect, you can always manage to find things to be thankful for. In a world where everyone is peeking into other people's lives on a daily basis through so many lenses...Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter,Tumblr, so on and so forth...and only seeing the 'great' times, it's easy to compare yourself to others, or get judged by people you may or may not know. Some of those judgments are outright by people commenting on posts or status updates with criticisms and rude commentary. Others are silent, but you know they're there. Your post was seen, analyzed and probably shown to others...but never "liked" or commented on...or everyone's favorite, accidentally "liked" and then "unliked". Purposely ignored. The most unfortunate instances of this are when they happen in real life, but your reaction to them is likely similar. The feels, ohhh the feels.

Oh, hi.

Regardless of how these types of people try to make you feel like your choices and "life updates" are irrelevant or silly or just plain wrong...they're not the ones living your life. You are. And unless your choices directly effect them (which should only happen if they involve a child, a spouse or some other kind of significant other)...then their opinions shouldn't matter.

Everyone knows what's "best" for you. Some of those people have valid advice. Some just want to make sure you stay where you are and don't progress. Take note of who's who and only consider sound advice from trusted sources. This is your life we're talking about here!

Those Who Mind Don't Matter: Opinions of Others

We all make choices. From what we eat to where we live to how we take on our day. Sometimes though- and by some, I mean most-other people influence our choices even though they really have nothing to do with them.

Do you ever think twice about posting something on Instagram or Facebook because you're worried that someone just might...by chance...possibly take offense to it? Does this invisible influence follow you into a bigger arena? When you decide to move to a new apartment, house or even city, do these invisible opinions make you doubt your choices? Are there real voices, from real people, that question the choices you've made for yourself-that don't effect those people in the least?

If this sounds familiar, you need to stop. Period. Stop letting the opinions of others- whether they're invisible or very real, dictate the choices you make for yourself and your life.

Because those who mind everything you do, but are never trying to actually help you through sound advice, physical assistance, general support on social media/in real life, or even just through understanding why you want to live where and how you choose (given it's a healthy lifestyle)...simply don't matter. Hell, anyone who is more focused on what you're doing more than they're focused on themselves shouldn't matter.

You are here to live the life you love, and while that life may not always be perfect, you can always manage to find things to be thankful for. In a world where everyone is peeking into other people's lives on a daily basis through so many lenses...Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter,Tumblr, so on and so forth...and only seeing the 'great' times, it's easy to compare yourself to others, or get judged by people you may or may not know. Some of those judgments are outright by people commenting on posts or status updates with criticisms and rude commentary. Others are silent, but you know they're there. Your post was seen, analyzed and probably shown to others...but never "liked" or commented on...or everyone's favorite, accidentally "liked" and then "unliked". Purposely ignored. The most unfortunate instances of this are when they happen in real life, but your reaction to them is likely similar. The feels, ohhh the feels.

Oh, hi.

Regardless of how these types of people try to make you feel like your choices and "life updates" are irrelevant or silly or just plain wrong...they're not the ones living your life. You are. And unless your choices directly effect them (which should only happen if they involve a child, a spouse or some other kind of significant other)...then their opinions shouldn't matter.

Everyone knows what's "best" for you. Some of those people have valid advice. Some just want to make sure you stay where you are and don't progress. Take note of who's who and only consider sound advice from trusted sources. This is your life we're talking about here!