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Alright, kids, let's have a true, unbiased, comprehensible, detailed definition. First off, loners are not necessarily social retards or depressed. Yes, one could be a loner because they are depressed or lack social skills, but there are also many loners who are named as such because they simply prefer their own company. Loners are characterized by enjoying solitary activities, such as listening to and making music, constructing art, writing, reading, thinking, learning, gaming on the internet and in video games, going on the computer for whatever reason, and other individual hobbies. Loners listen to whatever music they like; anywhere from Baroque to BluesRock, Heavy Metal to Folk, Indie to Rap, Country to Techno. They dress however they please; they may have their own individual style, or just wear standard jeans and a t-shirt from whichever store at which they find themselves. Loners are just as likely to suffer and not suffer from depression and other mental disorders as anyone else; however, more commonly found amongst loners than those that are social may be Schizoid Personality Disorder, because it is, by definition, a "disorder" in which one lacks the desire for interpersonal relationships. Society today associates itself with a dogma that everyone desires to be socialized, have a close-knit or large group of friends and loved ones, etc, so that when there is someone who prefers solitude, they are often attributed as strange, depressed, feeling unloved, or insecure. This is not true. Loners are very diverse individuals; same as a case with someone you may find who is a social butterfly that fits into no specific group, you cannot stereotype or pigeon-hole loners. The only characteristic they possess that detaches them from another label is that they prefer their lonesome company.

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A person who actually has alot of self-confidence. They are able to do such things like go and see a movie or a concert alone and aren't concerned about being seen as a "loser" by their fellow human beings.

People are also loners because they prefer their own company and get tired of people asking "why are you so quiet" whenever you actually do mix at a group function. They aren't afraid of silence and don't feel the need to flap their lips with other people simply just to make noise because silences between people is for some reason taboo.

They are also generally calm passive type of people who don't make enemies and get along with everyone. Unfortunately our personality type also makes the best serial killers, we are calm, cool headed, and methodical.

The world needs loners, we aren't freaks, we are the quiet peaceful achievers in society while the loudmouths get the spotlight.

We can mix in groups when we want to but find it forced and unnatural. You'll find we actually have quite strong opinions on matters since we have alot of time to sit and think over issues

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A loner is a person who doesn't need any friends but often feels like he or she should because it's "normal" by the standards set arount him/her. Any social contact feels like a burden and is likely to be avoided at any time. A loner is not an asocial character and can be very entertaining in a group he or she feels comfortable in. The loner is very picky in his or her friends and does not trust people very easily, the people that he or she trusts are often liftime companions and are often the best of friends a person can have.
At work a loner is not always looked at as an loner as long as he or she is feeling happy about his or her job and often communicates with others very easily. The only problem comes to mind when those he or she works with want to become a social figure outside the work area, the loner usualy avoids contacts outside the work area.
When a loner finds a companion he or she loves intimate that person becomes a trustee and the loner tries to hold on to this relationship as long as possible.

My life as a Loner.
In my life so far I only felt in love once (im 28 right now) I met her at my job during the holidays, it was very hard for me to make contact with her. I was so afraid she would not like me and before I made any move whatsoever I needed to now if she liked me too. Luckily for me we had time to get to know each other and my selfconfidence grew by the days we worked together. One particular day I found the courage and asked her out for a date, she accepted and that led to a 3 year relationship.
We broke up 3 years ago and I felt betrayed and still feel like this to this day, but in my hart I know it's just me who's in the wrong.