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studickson 0

Secondly... As a married man I take discretion very seriously. I tend to only visit ladies that offer oral with to reduce the risk of catching an STD. I recently visited a Glasgow lady (I'll not name her) who was insulted when I declined to perform reverse oral. Has anyone else had any experiences or views on this?

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MissKylie 15

I would say about 85% of my clients give me reverse oral. It's something I really enjoy and I think it really builds the whole experience up and gets me in the mood which is always going to be a good thing for the guy! Being a client though you obviously decide what you want to or not to do and I personally wouldn't say anything if a client didn't do it but I would be a bit disappointed. If it were a partner though I would seriously reconsider our relationship if were something he hated lol because I think it's such an intimate passionate thing. Maybe that's why you don't want to do it with a WG? I find that the only guys that don't like it are usually the immature and inexperienced ones. Another reason for not seeing guys under 25!

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GoodTimeGal 1

... As a married man I take discretion very seriously. I tend to only visit ladies that offer oral with to reduce the risk of catching an STD. I recently visited a Glasgow lady (I'll not name her) who was insulted when I declined to perform reverse oral. Has anyone else had any experiences or views on this?

Welcome to the site Stuart.

I can understand your safety reasons and we have to do what keeps us happy.

Like others have said the risk is minimal but if you are not happy with this then that is your perogative.

You may also find that many WGs like you to perform oral on them for more than one reason, one of the reasons apart from the pleasure is the fact if helps pass time in the booking with them only having to lie there and enjoy themselves (apart from oohing and aahing).

You have to decide for yourself what you want to do and as WGs are always saying they dont like their boundaries being pushed then you should feel the same with regards to your boundaries and not feel pressured into performing an act that you are not 100% happy with. Some people feel it is such a personal act that it should only be performed on people that they "love".

So, to sum up, if you dont want to do it, then dont. You are the paying customer and should be made feel comfortable during your booked time.

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smiths 215

Secondly... As a married man I take discretion very seriously. I tend to only visit ladies that offer oral with to reduce the risk of catching an STD. I recently visited a Glasgow lady (I'll not name her) who was insulted when I declined to perform reverse oral. Has anyone else had any experiences or views on this?

Stuart

Welcome to the forum Stuart. I punt on a risk to reward basis going to the GUM quartely and want to have fun doing this pastime so OWO is essential to me, a wank is more fun than OW to me, and i like doing RO. I always confirm WGs services on offer when i ring them to enquire, book and in person before i hand my money over so it would be lying as to the reason i didnt do RO on the WGs part.

All sexual contact holds a risk, punters have to decide what they are comfortable doing as SPs have to decide what they are prepared to offer.

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Bibi 599

That is a strange one.I can't imagine getting cross because a client doesn't offer to lick you out.As for stis it is a lower risk activity.I suggest you do a bit of googling to set your mind at ease.But you should never feel pressured to do acts you don't want to.She would be the first to complain if you tried to get her to do things she disn't want to do.

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Ianburton76 0

Secondly... As a married man I take discretion very seriously. I tend to only visit ladies that offer oral with to reduce the risk of catching an STD. I recently visited a Glasgow lady (I'll not name her) who was insulted when I declined to perform reverse oral. Has anyone else had any experiences or views on this?

Stuart

I totally understand what you are saying. Prior to every appointment i just dream about giving oral but when I arrival i'm not sure what happens but i seem to steer clear.. Then afterwards on the drive home its like why didn't i... I think it's because i'm totally mad ;-)

As Smiths always says it's about risk vs reward.. I'm sure the risk is very low!

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porker paul 782

Welcome Stuart. Like a lot of the others I have enjoyed many an hour DATY and intend to continue. In over 30 years I have yet to encounter anything more unpleasant than a bad smell (which caused the punt to finish abruptly). The risks are very low but, each to his own; you decide what you are happy with.

I would advise stating your preference on the phone during the booking process. Then you both know the score.

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kissxkate 28

With regards to oral there are things you can do to lower the risk further, such as smell. If it smells good, then it is likely healthy (not fool proof though). Check for spots, rashes, blemishes, again if it looks healthy, then likely is. Also look for discharge. It there is a discharge and it smells in anyway or looks nasty, leave well alone.

You can ask the lady if she has a dental dam. These are generally flavoured and can be used to cover the area you are going to lick and please. It isn't the best, but it allows you the experience with no worry.

Oral given to you without a condom also holds a slight risk.

Most ladies have regular STI tests done at the GUM clinic and should be able to show you some form of certificate to show they had the all clear. I get mine via text, so keep the last one at hand, for any nervous types. Of course it is no guarantee, but it gives you an indication that the lady is following the best procedures to ensure both your and her health.

With regards to ladies lying back and counting your money while you do the work, sure you will always get some who don't put any effort in, but many of us geniunely enjoy the experience and want to enjoy being intimate with you, which is why we like it. It makes the experience more natural. Of course if you are really worried about being used you could always do 69 and then you have her back to work, but isn't it better to go with you gut instinct and not assume the worst?

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Sarah Summers 269

Thanks for all your reply's and views. Reverse oral is omething I enjoy and perhaps I have been a bit naive with regards to the risk, it is certainly something I will look more in to.

Stu, you do not have to do anything you don't want to. You are the paying customer and it is our job to pleasure you and not the other way around..... however you may find that if you want to please your lady she will repay you in spades

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Thepacifist 0

Secondly... As a married man I take discretion very seriously. I tend to only visit ladies that offer oral with to reduce the risk of catching an STD. I recently visited a Glasgow lady (I'll not name her) who was insulted when I declined to perform reverse oral. Has anyone else had any experiences or views on this?

Stuart

This lady is unprofessional to show that she was insulted imo. A true professional keeps their emotions to themselves and focuses on the job at hand. Whether she was insulted or not should be no concern of yours. You are the paying customer and you're choosing the services (within reason etc). If you want OW, great, if you don't want RO, that's fine because the choice is up to you. Don't settle for a massage either just because it's suggested. Be politely assertive.

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kissxkate 28

This lady is unprofessional to show that she was insulted imo. A true professional keeps their emotions to themselves and focuses on the job at hand. Whether she was insulted or not should be no concern of yours. You are the paying customer and you're choosing the services (within reason etc). If you want OW, great, if you don't want RO, that's fine because the choice is up to you. Don't settle for a massage either just because it's suggested. Be politely assertive.

This is true, as long as it was not said in a personal way. There is a chap in Oxford who is so scared of catching something he won't do penetration even with a condom, preferring to shag the lady's leg. He was doing this to me when I suggested he might want proper penetration. I guess he did not want to offend me and for a moment obliged, but I could see it was not working for him and suggested he got back to the leg, which he happily did to completion.

Personally I would not see him again, as it isn't nice to feel that someone is so petrified you are riddled with decease they can not relax, but it is his choice and it would be wrong of me to force him to do something he does not want to do.

I now make it very clear on my profile what my expectations are from a booking and will not see anyone who does not kiss etc, so hopefully occassions like this are few and far between. Communication is key. We are the providers, but we are also flesh and blood and have feelings. It's not nice to be treated like a leper.

Having said that, I don't mind if a chap doesn't go down on me. Wouldn't life be boring if it was always the same? Variety truely is the spice of life.

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jones the butcher 12

When he got with me he was so darn nervous, I felt things were not as he may of said to me.

He then said he was a virgin, I do not like to meet virgins and at one stage had typed that up somewhere on my profile.

He was paranoid about everything.

He would kiss a bit, but not that much.

He did not touch my pussy with his fingers or go down on me.

He liked to rub himself over me with his pants on though.

When I finally managed to get his pants off, I could not even touch his willy.

He then proceeded to put his own condom on ( I allowed him to use his own as the pack of three was sealed) so I sucked on a Durex.....erm......I do not like that at all.

When I pulled away from his cock he reached in to his little bad and went to put some gloves on to remove the condom he would not touch it with his bare hands.

I said I would take it off but he wanted me to.

He put the condom in his little bag, I said I would throw it away, but he did not want me to.

He then started dabbing his cock with a wet wipe of his own.

Now I found this all very strange and to be honest most offensive.

I told him he needed to chill a bit and enjoy being with me.

He then told me that he had read all sorts of things about STDs and was concerned for his health.

Now that is all very good, but his way was not nice at all.

He should of communicated with me in my opinion..

I told him if he met another lady he should tell her the way he wanted things and then she would say yes or no to him.

I would,never ever of met him if I knew he would be like that with me.

Lucy

Blimy Lucy sounds like a waste of money on his part,all though my regular super gorgeouse lady do like to touch through clothes at the start,seems to make the touching very sensitive,but our pants don't stay on for long.

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Kantos Kan 442

I totally understand what you are saying. Prior to every appointment i just dream about giving oral but when I arrival i'm not sure what happens but i seem to steer clear.. Then afterwards on the drive home its like why didn't i... I think it's because i'm totally mad ;-)As Smiths always says it's about risk vs reward.. I'm sure the risk is very low!

And, as long as you are reasonably competent at it, the reward is usually high .

And if you are not competent, practice makes perfect :D.

To the OP, no WG should make a punter feel awkward about not performing certain acts. I would find another, less judgemental lady tbh.

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porker paul 782

Stu, you do not have to do anything you don't want to. You are the paying customer and it is our job to pleasure you and not the other way around..... however you may find that if you want to please your lady she will repay you in spades

Which is fine if your other hobby happens to be gardening. However you may have to explain to your OH why you suddenly have 6 spades on the wall of your garage!