would you move away from your parents? LONG!! Poll

So i live in central florida. I HATE IT. always have for as long as I can remember, I do remember in middle school begging my parents to move to new york. fast forward many years and I still find myself here. I was diagnosed with cancer at 18 so never went away to college, then met a boy, fell in love, got married and went to grad school all in my home town. My husband was on board with moving and we daydreamed about it while we were dating for many years. We had decided to wait until I finished school. While I was in school, his mother got sick and passed a few years later. It was very hard on my father in law and my husband was like I am sorry we just can't leave, so we bought a house and had a baby. WELL my father in law met a woman online who lives in Texas and he plans on marrying her and leaving. I asked my husband if he would consider moving now that his father is and he is on board. We have good job situations for very young children at the current moment and just bought our house a year ago. The plan is to do some upgrades to the home, get some more equity and move in about 4 years, hopefully having another child before we move.

I so desperately want to leave, I mean I really hate Orlando, the crime, the tourism, it's just too much. I would like to move somewhere with some natural beauty and I am thinking the burbs of denver.

I kinda feel bad leaving ( I know it isn't for quite some time) because I am an only child and my mom lives like a mile away. My mother is a teacher and really cant leave because she would lose her retirement, plus my stepdad hates cold weather. I feel bad leaving her because then she would be stuck hanging out with my step siblings and their kids which she isn't big fans of. She has already told me she will be very upset if I do in fact leave. My husband and I think it would be potentially be better for us. Between me and my step siblings I am always seen as the "stuffy" one. I have a very good job, only one that is married, I own a home. We have always felt judged by them and although I love my mom we have very different opinions of raising children and it is frustrating that she is always offering her opinion.

We would likely come back every year for a work conference and my mom could come and spend weeks with us over the summer.

What do you think? Would you stay and be near your mom or leave?

Oh and in case you are wondering, my father lives in the panhandle so I don't live near him anyway

I'd go too. I left my home state with DH (dear husband) and it was hard but I enjoy being in a new area and not running into old memories. Both sides of the family visit us, my in laws are actually here now

I moved 4 hours away when I was 17, and then 9 hours away when I was 21. My parents survived lol they're adults. There are definitely times when it's inconvenient but we visit each other often and FaceTime in between.

I personally would not move away from my family, only because my mom is a huge help with the kids and offers to babysit all the time. But DH's family lives an hour away and I wouldn't mind living further away from them. My twin sister moved far away before her kids were born, and my SIL (sister-in-law) moved to Denver years ago and never looked back (they come home once or twice a year). If you are unhappy where you are, then I wouldn't even wait the few years. Make the change now and start living the life you want. Life is too short to be unhappy.

I personally would not move away from my family, only because my mom is a hug...

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12/22/2015

I personally would not move away from my family, only because my mom is a huge help with the kids and offers to babysit all the time. But DH's family lives an hour away and I wouldn't mind living further away from them. My twin sister moved far away before her kids were born, and my SIL moved to Denver years ago and never looked back (they come home once or twice a year). If you are unhappy where you are, then I wouldn't even wait the few years. Make the change now and start living the life you want. Life is too short to be unhappy.

I would move tomorrow if I could, but I have an opportunity (I plan on doing this when we have another baby) to work from home and still make over 80k. It's an exhausting job because it's at night but I would want to do it for two years to keep the baby out of daycare and then say bye bye!

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