EIE Misconceptions

More than just misconceptions, this is the side to EIE I don't see people really mentioning. I'm starting this thread on request of @silke @Myst @Cyber, any other Beta NFs struggling to deduce their type, or simply people seeking further clarity. Several may be generally known, but I imagine some will come as quite a surprise to many. Either way, feel free to add any of Your own!

Highlights:

"Distrustful of compliments.

in company of strangers and unfamiliar people he can behave calmly and hold himself with dignity

The EIE cannot find peace and serenity himself

Often wavers and experiences doubt and hesitation, which makes it difficult for him to make important decisions

Internally, the EIE is very contradictory. He is attuned to inconsistencies between what people say and what they do, conflicts and hypocrisy. Often interested in topics related to destiny, fate, and other mysterious phenomena.

May choose the life of a recluse.

Uncertainty, unpredictability, and constant changes of schedule have poor effect on his health

EIE is often not sure of the durability of his relationships with other people. Thus he seeks a constant verbal or other kind of reassurance.

His sore spot is the reliability of relations with people whom he trusts. Those who have once misled him he does not forgive

Prefers to keep at a distance from people. Often will greatly lower his own worth in the eyes of others

Has an innate feeling of own inferiority for which he compensates by demonstrative behaviors

Another feature of behavior common to many EIEs is that they cannot work side-by-side with someone in front of others. They would rather give others all sorts of assignments and orders to send them to another place.

Likes to isolate him/herself and in solitude reflect on the meaning of life, and the place and role of person within it.

The belonging to this sociotype is most easily determined by the face and the manner of behavior. EIE's primary feature are sad, gentle-relaxed, languid eyes. This is true for the intuitive subtype.

You do not always fit easily into the society and avoid unpleasant contact with uninteresting people

You show lack of confidence and certainly in your tastes

The inability to find an inner balance with yourself is characteristic of you

Do not be as sensitive to compliments and evaluation of your appearance. Do not immediately assume wrongdoings.

Try to trust people more and avoid thinking that they mean harm to you"

I actually see a ton of this applying to IEIs I've known well too. The point about needing to trust others more instead of assuming wrongdoing is paramount. They can unnecessarily lose many good relations due to this fearfulness many have.

I actually see a ton of this applying to IEIs I've known well too. The point about needing to trust others more instead of assuming wrongdoing is paramount. They can unnecessarily lose many good relations due to this fearfulness many have.

Anecdotally, my close, longtime IEI friend has fears about people that are unfounded. I see they are unfounded and try to encourage her to get over these feelings when they hamper her. I can interact with other people much, much more boldly than she ever will. I have a pretty good sense of when I’m in actual danger, and usually I am not.

But I have “fears” about people, too.

They’re not exactly fears, though. They are conclusions based on observation and experience. Having taken in what nastiness seemingly decent people are capable of, I can’t unsee what I see. However, I realize it mostly (not always) arises from ignorance and pain, rather than intent to harm, and try to act in good faith with people until I see that they won’t do the same for me.

Meanwhile, the IEI friend retains what I think are some pretty naive ideas about human nature. She obviously processes specific instances of people being shits, but she doesn’t apply that knowledge in the same way I do. She seems to still think people are essentially trustworthy, and maybe this is why she’s so fearful. Since she doesn’t quite come to grips with reality, she doesn’t assess threats well, nor safety—so she honestly may not be very able to see what is endangering her, and that is dangerous.

Anecdotally, my close, longtime IEI friend has fears about people that are unfounded. I see they are unfounded and try to encourage her to get over these feelings when they hamper her. I can interact with other people much, much more boldly than she ever will. I have a pretty good sense of when I’m in actual danger, and usually I am not.

But I have “fears” about people, too.

They’re not exactly fears, though. They are conclusions based on observation and experience. Having taken in what nastiness seemingly decent people are capable of, I can’t unsee what I see. However, I realize it mostly (not always) arises from ignorance and pain, rather than intent to harm, and try to act in good faith with people until I see that they won’t do the same for me.

Meanwhile, the IEI friend retains what I think are some pretty naive ideas about human nature. She obviously processes specific instances of people being shits, but she doesn’t apply that knowledge in the same way I do. She seems to still think people are essentially trustworthy, and maybe this is why she’s so fearful. Since she doesn’t quite come to grips with reality, she doesn’t assess threats well, nor safety—so she honestly may not be very able to see what is endangering her, and that is dangerous.

IEIs do give off the vibe of being more in need of assistance in some capacity, they embody the Romance style dynamic moreso it seems, with SLE being the more 'pure' Aggressor compared to LSI as well. They seem to forgive people more readily (the literature reinforces this), and generally trust a bit easier. It seems obsession over trust/loyalty in Beta is more personified by the EIE/LSI Dyad. I also have a keen sense of what is to be taken as an actual threat, and what is just aimless speculation and paranoia in my/others minds. I wouldn't call myself fearful in the more visceral sense, I would call myself uncertain, which is more central to my 'anxieties'. Strong Ti+ reinforcement recenters me.

When I get stressed out or depressed I do feel like everybody is out to get me lol. It's funny because it contrasts with the fact that when I'm ok I trust my instincts when come to other people's disposition towards me. I don't even think twice and I'm usually right. I feel like there is point where the demonstrative function kicks in so hard that the valued creative function is just lost.

Like I have a few EIE friends and my mom is EIE as well. And often when they feel down they just start worrying or getting mad about the most random things. Sometimes they would even make a story up or rearrange the course of the events. And I would just be like "well no I know what you are talking about but that's really not how it happened. You're being crazy."

EIEs are also really good at making me snap out of my own craziness when I get started. Maybe mirrors can be useful when we have issues with the demonstrative function as they are really not fazed by it.