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Obesity rates are rising around the world (including Russia), but it seems to be the American attitude to find beauty in obesity that simply turns me off. One of my friends on Facebook posted this article about the recent publicity stunt of a 34 year old woman who weighs 311 pounds. My friend found the idea of an obese land whale photographing herself nearly naked in public places to be encouraging and empowering.

I cringe at the female ideas of “empowerment” these days. Female empowerment used to mean going to college, getting careers and participating in the political process. Now it’s simply attention whoring.

The ironic thing is that my friend that posted this is an attractive girl about the same age as our featured blimp and has a good body. I’d rather see my friend post pictures of herself in her underwear rather than an article about a girl that looks like this:

This isn’t what’s passing for beauty these days. It’s ridiculous! Sorry honey writing the word “beautiful” on your lard-filled appendages won’t make the world change their opinion on beauty. Every man in that picture with her is non-discretely avoiding looking at her. I’d like to encourage such men and every eligible bachelor in the US to fly abroad and to find an attractive wife and bring her over to our shores in protest. It might start to wake up some of these BBW (big beautiful women).

Here’s some perspective: This girl is 6 feet tall and weighs 311 pounds. At these dimensions she has skyrocketed past the BMI of 30 that is considered obese and even past 40. She’s the size of two normal women! She says that she has been a “big girl” her whole life due to a “bad upbringing”. News flash, my dear: You’re not a kid anymore.

Let me say something else as well. Her little stunt isn’t courageous or empowering, it’s an act of laziness. It’s laziness because she hasn’t tried to improve her situation, she gave up and is expecting everybody else to not judge her for it. Anybody can take pictures of herself and post them on social media. Girls do it all the time to get a self-esteem boost because they know a bunch of lapdogs on her friends list will click “like” and leave a few positive comments. Sure, our BBW got a few comments but it’s more like they didn’t want to be responsible for the negative comment that would push her over the edge and cause her to hang herself.

She says she wanted to do something outside of her comfort zone. You know what else is outside her comfort zone? A treadmill! I can’t think of anything more empowering for this girl than getting her butt into a gym and walking on the treadmill for about 30 minutes, 5 times per week. That and substituting a salad for one of her meals each day will do wonders. “But that’s a lot of work!” One might say. Well, yes it is. My point is that she’s lazy trying to find an easy way out and ending up making a fool of herself. What’s your point?

Is her health not important?

Is her self-esteem not important?

What about beauty – The objective kind of beauty and not the imaginary, made-up kind that she used to rationalize herself carrying around over 150 lbs of lard?

Before you call me crazy or judgemental, consider that my friend that originally posted this article had posted another article about how to get flatter abs the following day. It seems that my friend who admired this woman’s courage is still compelled to stay in shape. Even she knows that obesity isn’t beautiful.

A recent text message put into some perspective about the reasons why I seek a wife abroad. I’ve copied the text message below with exact spelling and grammar. My comments are interspersed.

Stranger @ 10:14 pm – Heyyy

Stranger @ 10:14 pm – Whats sup

Me @ 10:15 pm – Hey. Nothing much

I didn’t recognize the number I was receiving the text messages from, but my first thought was maybe it was a girl that I met a long time ago and she decided to initiate contact with me. But I didn’t want to ask her who it was right away in the hope that she might mention something that would trigger my memory and save us from an awkward encounter.

Stranger @ 10:16 – Laying on my bed lol

Me @ 10:16 – Lame

Stranger @ 10:17 – Thats gud lol

This is good news so far. Instead of making a suggestive comment in response to her being in bed (most horny guys would), I negged* her and she responded well and didn’t act offended.

Stranger @ 10:19 – Yu know who it is?

Crap! She’s asking me directly if a know or remember her. I try to remain ambiguous and redirect the conversation.

Me @ 10:19 – I have a few ideas

Stranger @ 10:20 – Ok tell me lol

Me @ 10:20 – Nah

Stranger @ 10:21 – Ok its jose

Crap! My stranger is actually a guy and he thinks he’s been texting a girl. But now I’m curious as to how long I can keep up the ruse. I wanted to perfect my text game** a little.

Me @ 10:22 – What’s up

Stranger @ 10:22 – Here laying down resting wbu?

Me @ 10:23 – Just chilling

Stranger @ 10:23 – That’s good lol

Stranger @ 10:25 – How old are yu?

Me @ 10:28 – Wow. nosey

Stranger @ 10:29 – Yu asked me that lol

Me @ 10:30 – Yep

Stranger @ 10:31 – So i wuld like to know too lol

Me @ 10:32 – You already know how old you are

Stranger @ 10:32 – Now i dont know and i told yu before already

Me @ 10:33 – I’m legal

Stranger @ 10:34 – Ohh okay thats good

Stranger @ 10:36 – Yur really pretty 🙂

Annnd…there it is! I wasn’t giving much response for him to use to continue the conversation so he resorts to complimenting me. I still try and act stand-offish to see how far he’s willing to chase.

Me @ 10:38 – You have good taste

Stranger @ 10:39 – Yeah i know i do lol 🙂

Shyeah! Poor guy thinks he’s a Cassanova and has me all warmed up. Poor guy. I feel sorry for him if this is the best he’s got.

Stranger @ 10:44 – So tell me about yurself and stuff

Me @ 10:45 – Like what?

Stranger @ 10:46 – Everything about yu

I admit that I’m surprised the conversation has dragged on this long. If it were me in his shoes, I would given up after it was apparent that I wasn’t getting any dialog out of a girl. It’s late at night at this point and I didn’t want to lose sleep over this game so I try to shut the conversation down.

Me @ 10:48 – Normally I would but I’m not the type of person you think I am

Me @ 10:50 – I suspect that you either missdialed or a girl gave you a bad number

Stranger @ 10:51 – Ohh okay

Stranger @ 10:52 – Sorty

Eh? After giving him a runaround for over half an hour making him think I’m a girl he likes, he apologizes to me??? This guy is so naive he won’t stand a chance with any woman. I kinda fell sorry for him so I try and give him some advice.

Me @ 10:52 – Work on your text game a little more. You sound too eager.

Stranger @ 10:53 – Ok

That’s the last I heard of him.

It must be nice to be an American woman. You can snub a guy or blow him off and he’ll still be coming back for more. And if she’s in the social scene she could have many guys like this orbiting her like moons of Saturn. Perhaps if she’s bored one night, she’ll give one of these chumps an opportunity to buy her dinner and drinks. It must do wonders for her self-esteem to know that a free meal and entertainment is a “yes” away. If she plays her cards right, she may never have to buy food again.!

I’ve texted or Skyped with girls that are like the one I pretended to be. I find them completely vacuous and I got a better understanding why after this conversation. An American girl who is pretty enough wouldn’t need to put very much effort into appealing to a guy so she hasn’t be able to develop a personality not to mention seducing a guy. I don’t know why it took me so long to decide not to play this game anymore.

Strangely, the type of text game I ran is like crack cocaine for a girl if she really likes you. This is because they rarely get this type of response from a guy she’s texting with. Most guys will be like the stranger I was texting with. They’ll ask nosey questions and say how pretty she is. Also notice in the text conversation that if I didn’t reply right away, he followed up with another text message. This is what I meant when I told him he was too eager and that he should work on his game a little more. But if a man sticks with one or two word ambiguous answers it makes her chase you and makes her think that you might have a few other girls as options because no guy would act like this if he didn’t. This was a hard lesson for me to learn because I like to talk a lot about many different things and I was always indoctrinated with the idea that women like conversation. After dating on line and chatting by text message or Skype, I’ve learned that less is more.

These are the types of games a guy must play to get anywhere romantically with a woman in America. Ironically, you have to pretend that you aren’t interested in her. It’s a game that only works if she likes you a little at least, and that was never very common for me. Eventually, a guy recognizes a losing game when he sees one and the only way to win is to not play.

* A few words about negging: A neg (derived from “negative reinforcement”) is best described as a backhanded compliment rather than a direct insult. Although my “lame” answer in the text message conversation was a fairly direct put down by implying that she was a boring person or that I wasn’t impressed with what she told me. It isn’t meant to insult but does poke her self-esteem enough to make her question herself and demonstrate to you that she really is as hot as she thinks she is. She is now trying to impress you and not the other way around. This also sets you apart from other guys because most of them will say how beautiful she is while he buys her drinks and utter corny pickup lines. I’d use a neg sparingly. Too much and too frequent and she’ll probably just think you’re a jerk. Plus women are finding out about this strategy and this knowledge may limit it’s effectiveness. Search for “negging” on gaming or Pickup Artist websites to get a better idea of how this strategy is used.

** A few words about text game: Game refers to a man’s strategies or abilities to pick up girls. If he seems to do this easily and successfully, he is said to have good game and other men will want to learn from him. If he has trouble meeting women, he is said to have no game or weak game. Text game refers to trying to employ successful game strategies over text or chat to pick up girls. Generally, it seems to involve short and cryptic responses that pique a girl’s curiosity so that she will want to reply and continue the conversation.

I’ve written before about how difficult it is to find obese or overweight women in Russia. It’s one of the main reasons men are searching in that country for a beautiful wife. But if this article is true, that time where American men can dabble in a target-rich dating market may be coming to an end.

According to the article:

Obesity has become a problem for over 25 percent of Russia’s population, head of the Nutrition Institute at the Russian Academy of Sciences said on Tuesday.

After an annual examination of 1,500 people across the country, dieticians found that 55 percent of Russians had problems with excessive weight, Viktor Tutelyan told journalists.

Yikes! One in four Russians are obese with more than half being overweight. One would hope that it was just the men that had this problem, but no.

“Our women are way ahead of most European countries in obesity prevalence,” Alexander Baturin, deputy director at the Nutrition Institute, told RIA Novosti.

This isn’t too surprising. Men are larger in size and have more muscle mass so it’s easier for them to burn calories. Women are significantly smaller, plus childbearing requires women to retain body fat much more efficiently. Typically, female obesity is more prevalent than male obesity, which is a problem for men that seek attractive wives. It creates scarcity while the remaining women in great shape recognize that they are a commodity in demand and raise their expectations. Hypergamy run amok is the result that men from America know all too well.

But it might not be so bad if Russia’s obesity epidemic is afflicting the older people. We all know that people tend to get fatter with time, right?

The problem, however, goes further and affects younger citizens. In Russia, 19.9 percent of all boys and girls are overweight, and 5.7 percent suffer from obesity, Igor Kon, head of child nutrition at the Institute said citing the data collected in 2010-2011.

CRAP! It’s affecting the younger kids too! But that’s still only about 1 in 5 kids that are obese and that’s not nearly the obesity levels in America. But barring a famine, obesity rates tend to increase in a country. We can observe this globally over time, especially while a country is developing economically and increasing the living standards of it’s citizens. So the question is, How much time do we have before Russia is overrun with fatties?

Over 38% of Muscovites are overweight, which is twice as many as 12 years ago, Leonid Lobaznik, chief physician of the Moscow healthcare department told RIA Novosti.

In his words, in 2008 [sic] 17.3% Muscovites were obese, while today the number is 38.2%.

The article was written in 2010 so 12 years prior to that would be 1998 and not 2008, so I think that it was a typo in the article. The discouraging fact is that obesity rates in Moscow have doubled over 12 years and are probably still rising during the three years since the article was published. Muscovites have similar obesity rates compared to Europe and maybe the USA!!

There is a lot of detail missing in the article. I’d be interested in seeing a breakdown of obesity rates by gender, age and economic class. This information might aid in the search for a Russian wife and hint at how realistic we must be and how we should refine our search. The fact remains that it only took about a decade for the obesity ratings among Muscovites to double. And that’s not counting the Muscovites who are simply overweight. One may hope that a foreigner can utilize his economic standing and appeal to the hypergamous nature of women to snag a thin, Muscovite beauty, but with all the money flowing around Moscow, this opportunity has diminished greatly over the past decade also. It would be like trying to get a beautiful American wife considering this environment, but with the language and cultural barriers in addition . Stick a fork in Moscow — it’s done!!

So where would be the best place to search for a beautiful Russian wife? Here are obesity rates of countries of the FSU compared to the USA:

We see that Russia on the whole has an obesity rating of roughly 1 in 4. This probably indicates that there are many other cities and provincial areas besides Moscow where the obesity rates are considerably less so an American man shouldn’t exclude Russia just yet. Other Russian cities aren’t as rich as Moscow either so your economic standing will have more appeal then it does in Moscow. But based on how rapidly Moscow became fat, other Russian areas might not be far behind. I would estimate that a man has less than a decade to find a Russian wife relatively easier than back home. Other FSU countries in a similar predicament with obesity include Armenia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Kazakhstan, Latvia and Lithuania.

The countries of Estonia, Georgia, Moldova and Ukraine have a relatively lower obesity rating of about 1 in 5. The chances of finding a thin, beautiful wife drastically improve and you’ll have more options. However, if these countries follow the same path as Russia, you may have about a decade left — maybe a little more — before the girls start getting fat.

Kyrgyzstan, Tajikistan, Turkmenistan and Uzbekistan have obesity rates that approach 1 in 10. These are probably the best obesity rates without the country being completely impoverished. This is very good news for American men that are more adventurous and willing to cope with significant language and cultural barriers and a lack of modern conveniences. With a little more economic development, I can see these being good venues for the next generation of bride seekers.

Despite what I’ve discussed so far, there’s still the unmistakable observation that there are so many gorgeous women in Russia and the FSU that one would have to break his neck to find a fat one. I think there are two factors that might explain this:

A person is obese if his BMI is greater or equal to 30. This means an average women only needs to weigh 175 pounds. By American standards, this is considered a few extra pounds or curvey. So while Russians are seeing more and more of themselves becoming obese, they may barely be obese while the American obese can barely fit through the door. It would be interesting to have data on average BMI for each country to provide some context to judge how serious the problem is and if a country should be avoided completely.

Russia has more of a shame culture than the US. A person in Russia is judged much more strictly based on looks, so there’s a motivating factor to dress well and be in shape so that the stylish clothes can fit properly. Obese people in Russia and other countries of the FSU will try to limit their exposure in such an environment. To put it simply, they’re hiding.

Considering these factors, it’s possible not to see many obese Russians in your bride search, but the effect will still be felt because obese women will create a sense of scarcity that makes the beautiful women a more valuable commodity. Factor this effect into your plans when pursuing a wife from the FSU.