After the "I dos" and post-reception, the wedding night should climax in, well, just that! (Or immediately passing out after an exhausting day and too much champagne. Either or, really.) But for Ciara and her new hubs Russell Wilson, the wedding night was extra special. In July 2015, the now-married duo announced that they were abstaining from sex until they were officially wed — a decision that drew much public criticism, in part due to the fact that Ciara was already mom to two-year-old Future Zahir Wilburn, whom she shares with her ex-fiancé rapper Future.

But the pair certainly got down to business after their fairytale wedding in Cheshire, England — and even shared what went down in that hotel suite via Snapchat! But if newlyweds' choice for a sexless pre-"I do" relationship still has you going "BUT WHY?!," Ciara is finally opening up on what led to her and her hubby's decision.

The R&B songstress recently sat down with Cosmopolitan South Africa and got real with the glossy about her resolution to remain abstinent until she tied the knot with her honey. It all started with a conversation with Wilson about the "intimacy part" of their romantic relationship, where the two learned that they were totally in sync.

"I have to give credit to my husband for sharing those views. It's awesome how it all worked out," said Ciara. "We women think with our hearts and with our minds. When we see a guy, we envision what he's like and whether this could be something special. Guys see us from an exterior point of view — that's something I learned along the way as a woman... You shouldn't feel like you have to give your body away to get someone to like you." Amen, sister friend.

So would "I Bet" singer still stay out of the boudoir if she had to do it all over again? You bet.

"I really believe that when you focus on a friendship, you have the opportunity to build a strong foundation for a relationship," Ciara explained. "And once you know you're really great friends and you're what we call 'equally yoked' — where you share the same values or the same outlook on life — it kind of sets the tone."