When i was young, my mother taught me to love my other siblings. We have five in the family. Three boys two girls. A big family. I used to quarrel and fight with my sisters and brothers over every little single stuff. Would always end up with luxurious rotan (cane) meal. I had to help my mother looking after our small grocery shop since i was a 9 year old primary pupil. I condemned why i was the first son. Why my brothers and sister could play around while i had to learn doing business. I always complained they loved the younger siblings more.

Looking back now, i am glad to be the first son. I am glad they forced me to help them. I am glad i didn't influence by the condemns and complains. I didn't give up but move forward. I studied hard. After my Form Six, i didn't ask even a penny from them for my tertiary education (because Japanese Government paid me everything including flight ticket and pocket money every month for 5 years). I still love my family. Sometimes, i just keep the love inside. I also know they are feeling proud of me, always.

Pendidikan Moral (Moral Education) is a compulsory subject for everyone in both primary and secondary school. Nilai Sayang-menyayangi (the value of love each other) and others were being repeated to us for almost 11-12 years. But how many of us managed to understand love well? (I am still wandering around and figuring it though. Otherwise, i won't be still single now.) Put the personal stuff aside, because i would like to talk about the love among the citizens. I know it's superficial to campaign with propaganda, rhetorics and songs, and even history and moral textbooks will not help students to develop understanding and love for their friends of other races.

Hence, parents instead play a very important role to influence the young generation to integrate well with all races we have in the country. My parents had a grocery shop. We had not only Chinese customers but Malays and Indians did come to our shops. There, we built up a strong bond with everyone. We talked. We smiled. We loved each other. Because my mother was busy doing business, so whenever the customers were having birthday party, wedding dinner, open houses during festivities, etc, my parents would definitely send us there. Since very young, different kind of cultures and customs were being exposed to me.

Race is colour blind. So in secondary school (from vernacular primary school) i felt comfortable mingling with those of other races while some still trying hard to put in effort to step out of their comfort zone making friends with Malays and Indian and vice versa. You can't blame the education system by having both national and vernacular school. Yet, since we are living in the same neighbourhood, do you seriously take a step forward knowing others well? Or do you know who is your neighbour? It's beneficial to know your neighbour as they would look after your house while you are outstation or going back hometown. During the festive season, you would get free food too. Knowing the celebrations of other cultures also would broaden your narrow perspectives.

Mutual understanding is the key to open the door for love. We are lacking of mubihhah (goodwill) spirit among the citizens. Thus, i beg you all to revive the close relationship once share by our parents generation of all races in the country. Stop locking up your kids but set them free to foster the relationships with other kids. Let's us cross over the race barrier and stay happily so that we could improve the country together.

Most of the citizens nowadays may think they know well about Malaysia, but if you ask them what is Rukun Negara (national principles) and how many stripes there are on our flag, many are scratching head and counting. Are we going to have such generation to rule the country in the future? To stop having immaturity in our politic and avoid having insincere and unfaithful leaders, we need to have a concrete and far-reaching action through education on the kids. From the very early age, develop their interests to genuinely want to learn and understand each other well. Instead of criticising like what i have been mentioning since the very beginning, all should have a keen interest in caring, understanding and loving.

"Love is both an action and a feeling."

The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. Every person is capable of great love and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, condemn, hatred and jealousy. While some of you may confused over the love or your own patriotic, here is some general guides to loving after doing my own little research.

♥ 1 . Say it. "I ♥ Malaysia", carrying your desire to show someone that you love Malaysia, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for the country.

♥ 2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to critic them, try to understand what is Malaysia, how Malaysia was set free from British, who are the people living in Malaysia, what could you contribute, etc.

♥ 3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all. If your interest is not in the country as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving the country's future, or allowing that country to be like that and accepting her as she is (racism, corruption, etc), and not the country you want Malaysia to be, then you are not striving to love Malaysia unconditionally.

♥ 4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.

♥ 5. Appreciation. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have a motherland to love.

♥ 6. Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.

Malaysia is our motherland. FuFu ♥ Malaysia. We all should love Malaysia. No other country we should love more except Malaysia.

Wilson豆腐 : yeah parents play a very important role to shape a better community :) really wish we could have more open minded community so we could be a better country sooner :) glad you like my malaysia project ^Q^

you is the first son, i m the first daughther in the family so i understood ur feeling...once we fighthing, the fault must be go to me, coz m the big sister i have to tolerate...so until now i hv the ability to tolerate others if he/she is not too reluctant!

love...there r so much love that appear around us...but not much of us understand on this...when saying love...is the love between boy and girl...even the children nowadays having this kind of misunderstanding!

Oh,never seen orreadsomeone in blogosphere that has a passion like you which is loving your homeland, i am amazed!----that's being something, i am actually out of wordright now, i dont know what's the right word to use and describe your passion!,

Twilight : hahhaa damn! i should not put my pictures here.... but anyway i know my writing is not very good...but hope you can get what i am trying to deliver here ok? thanks! fufu boleh, malaysiaN boleh

I can't even imagine how it is having to work from so young on. I am sure it helps you get some sense of responsibility some kids are lacking these days.It must be great (even though sometimes a pain in the behind) to have a big family :)

And I can imagine that you miss home (the post before this one).I get those 'miss home' moments too.

I used to help in housework and family business too because I am the eldest in the family. Thanks for this post. Looking back I do think I am more independent after years of working and helping at home.

Nicole : i guess so, since very young i was taught what is responsibility and independence... and glad i didnt go to the wrong path :) otherwise i think i wont be able to go further like today :p and glad i have those supports here from you guys :)

Ai Shiang : yeah you are like my elder sister :) you must be a good sister and daughter i bet XD

Ha ha... So you're a part-time Freudian?!Believe me, it's the one of the best ideas in the world.The truth is men cannot stop thinking about sex! Ha ha... Even Confucius also agreed with me!

Thanks for correcting my Japanese.I went to Greece for a week and I already forgotten some of the words and grammar structures...

I see you want to go to so many European countries before you leave. If you like buildings, I think you will also like Barcelona. It's one of my top favourites.Budapest is also not bad but it's rather hilly. There are many hills in Athens too!So if you have weak knees because you xxx too many times a day, I wouldn't recommend Budapest or Athens to you. Ha ha... That's just part of my Freudian side.

出书!Good idea!!Good sharing to all你回来的工作，选择的还是自由性不被约束但是又能贡献大家的工作hahaha....be lecturer, editor, own yr own fufu int'l restaurant or fufu int'l hostel, provide lodging for travallers then you can still travel around the world....but the most important things are publicizing yr knowlegde, yr love to everyone...yeah....

Winnt : 對呀 可能這就是我的性格 :) 喜歡自由自在 :p 還有那一份其他人沒有的勇氣 XD how i wish i could share my adventures with everyone :) well i will plan for it once i am back home ok? because it's not easy to publish a book, and i dont wanna simply publish one... i want something special, educational, interesting, etc :)

Wow.. that's a great bunch of inspiring thoughts you have there. I'm beginning to love Malaysia too! hehe..

You should publish a book or two regarding these stuff. You know when politicians couldn't make a difference there were times when poets and authors did just that, using their magical words. Our country too went through a lot of hardships from colonial days to until last year's victory over terrorism. Today there are so many countries going through conflicts, civil or international.

So your words of inspirations are eye openers to all of us. No matter where we are, we all have such situations we can relate to.. and that's a given. Do keep posting more. ^__^