Lost, but Not for Words Marcus and Maria, like many embattled couples, arrive in my office and head for opposite ends of the couch. Their simultaneous plop-down strikes me as the most coordinated effort they’ve mustered in months. In unison, each hugs the armrest as...

This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are...

When most people think of couples therapy, they think of meeting weekly for an hour at a time. Increasingly, however, couples and professionals alike are recognizing the limitations of such a model. I have found that certain couples benefit from an intensive approach...

This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are...

Dearest Readers, Relationships are at once fundamental and transcendental, and one of the challenges for those of us who presume to study them is that we are constantly pulling focus in order to appreciate their essence at different levels. One minute we are zooming...