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Sweet Sixteen

Monday, May 10, 2010

Four Months

It's been four months to the day that we committed to adopt Nadia. It seems like so long ago when I sit here and think back to Sunday, January 10th when we sent the e-mail to Andrea at Reece's Rainbow saying that we wanted Nadia to be our daughter. This picture from the RR website that drew us to her from the beginning is etched forever in my mind and in my heart. It has seemed as if we've been waiting FOREVER to bring her home to our family and we really hope that this will be the week we get our State Department of Adoptions appointment. But as I sit tonight and ponder the 4 month mark since we've started this adoption, I realize that even though it feels like it's taking forever... this waiting period will seem like a blink of an eye compared to the Forever Family that we will become to Nadia. And we will be all the more richer from the lessons learned in the waiting and in the new family we are soon to become!

11 comments:

Oh, that precious face! It's easy to see why you fell in love with her.

Although four months is a short time in regular life, in adoption time it seems like an eternity. It's like giving birth to a baby that they won't let you hold or take home from the hospital till you can prove she's really yours.

I pray that soon the whole world will agree that she is forever yours.

The wait is similar to labor pain. In the midst of the throws of labor, hours seem like days. But, once she is here, you instantly forget the pain and behold the blessing. (And then, in jubulent joy and profound loss of memory, you elect to do it all over again.)

I know it seems like a LONG time, the waiting really stinks. It just feels like it DRAGS on and on. But you're right, it really is nothing compared to the big picture. And, honestly, once you're home, you forget all about the wait...doesn't really seem like you waited...just all blurs together.

And another thing...you know how when you were first dating your husband or those first few years together (bear with me here..) you had those 'dreamy' feelings of love that were so strong. And during many many MANY years of marriage, you sometimes (NEED TO) draw back on those dreamy feelings, and it sort of helps you remember why you love this person so much (?) (still with me here?)Well, I kind of look at the waiting period as something like that. You are falling in love with this little person, longing for her, dreaming of her...making a place for her in your life.I think you especially need that with an adopted child, because you don't have the pregnancy period to fall in love and dream about her.Plus, once he/she gets home and REAL life tends to set in...well, those sweet memories of falling in love and how much you longed for her will be a comfort and reassurance.So it's really a blessing in disguise! Right?!

Keep that positive attitude and the faith. She will be home soon....I like Jodi's comment. It makes a lot of sense, easier said than done though. Just think,it could be 9 months of waiting....for pregers like me. However, I must say, I kind of need that time right now to prepare. Just as you all continue to prepare for dear Nadia. Shall I order her some bows and headbands?????

I like Jodi's take on the whole adoption waiting period and comparing to pregnancy and the growing love, what a COOL concept!!---we may never know why you have this long wait, but we just have to trust, cuz it's His way and we know that His ways are perfect! Having said that, I am still SO impatient and want you to have her home now!! :) Can't wait to squeeze those chubby bunny cheeks!!

Cant wait to hear you have your appt. maybe you can hug on my sweetie while you are there ? Jodi's take is right on too...you need that time to fall for and long for your little one :) even though it sure is tough!

I never realized its already been 4 months since your commitment! At least you dont have to wait for a year like some adoptions... You are A-L-M-O-S-T there!!!!!! YIPEE!!!!! I want my cousin and I KNOW u want your daughter!! Hope the adoption agency gives you your date this week!!!

Great perspective. Once she is home, it will not matter how long you had to wait. You will have the rest of your lives together. While I was waiting for Abbey (18 months), Scott Griswold told me, "The longer the wait, the bigger the blessing God has in store for you."

"To be certain of God means that we are uncertain in all our ways: we do not know what a day may bring forth. This is generally said with a sigh of sadness. It should rather be an expression of breathless expectation."- Oswald Chambers

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I am a Northern Gal transplanted in the South for over 20 years now. I have a wonderful husband who is the best partner God could have given me. I have 4 terrific kiddos--3 born from my womb and one born in my heart through adoption. Join me as I chronicle our lives as newly adoptive parents and as we navigate our new normal of having 2 daughters with Down syndrome.