The person being controlled in a BDSM scene. A submissive, or sub relinquishes control to their dominant partner. A submissive person gains sexual gratification by giving up control and enjoys having someone else call the shots for them. Moreover, some submissives relish the idea of having someone else make them do something they won’t normally do, such as exhibit their body in public. Submissives rely on the dominant to fulfill their innermost fantasies of being used and abused.

As part of a consensual scene, a submissive might find themselves in situations that involve humiliation and degradation. To ensure that these are actions that the submissive ultimately want, partners will often set up a safe word that will stop the scene when a dominant takes things too far.

Bottom

Another term for a submissive. Originally used to describe the person on the receiving end of penetration during gay sex. However, in the context of BDSM, the term doesn’t necessarily imply penetration.

BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline(BD), Sadism, Masochism(SM), whereas, some use the overlapping abbreviation: Bondage, Discipline(BD), Dominance, Submission (DS) Sadism, Masochism(SM). Most things kink fall under one of these categories. BDSM is largely misunderstood and misjudged by the vanilla world and has a somewhat “bad” name, but It needs to be very

The person in control during BDSM play. A dominant person recieves sexual gratification from being in control and domineering someone else. The dominant sets the rules for the submissive, issues commands, and in general is the active partner during the scene. If there is bondage involved, the dominant is the

Domination is exerting power and taking control over someone else. Domination is a key element in BDSM, and represented by the letter D. When practicing domination, one person dominates another either emotionally or physically. The person who controls is called a “dominant” , whereas the person who is being controlled is called a

Submission is the act of complying to the will or authority of another persona and what puts the S in D/s. Submission is not about giving up on your free will. It is, however, about letting go of control and allowing someone else to take over for a while. That can