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Q: Hello, I am a fresh graduate and looking for a job. It’s been a while since I started to search for jobs and make a career in marketing. Despite sending my resume and appearing for numerous interviews, not even a single organisation got back to me. I am desperately in search of a decent job because I have a family of eight to support. I had initially asked a few friends to refer me at their work places but none of them helped me in this tough time. I want to know where I am making a mistake when applying for jobs. I have no one to guide me in this matter, not even my so-called friends who I thought you would support me when in need. Please help me out. Khalil
A: Dear Khalil, job searching takes time. It is not easy to find a job on your first attempt. It requires a lot of patience and tolerance. Not every company you apply to is going to hire you or even call you for an interview. You need to be very specific about the position you apply for. If you are a fresh graduate, you need to keep in mind that you won’t be appointed for the post of a manager, make sure you know what exactly an opportunity is about and whether it suits your qualifications and eligibility. There’s nothing wrong in asking friends to refer you for a position, however you have to understand who would be helpful in such matters and then talk to them. Attend job fairs that take place in your city or at various universities from time to time and network with people of the industry you want to enter. Get your resume made by a professional, as that may help you initially. Believe in yourself and do what you love. Good luck!

Q: Hi! I have been married for six months and am living in a joint family. My husband is a great guy and very respectful towards my family. As far as my in-laws are concerned, they also are very nice to me and I also respect them equally. I spend my entire day at home and have been given the responsibility to cook dinner along with my sister-in-law. I was happy do so and never complained about it. However, my entire day is wasted and I do nothing but scroll through social media, watch TV, eat and sleep, which is why I wanted to start working again. I spoke to my husband about it and he was fine with the idea but told me to take permission from both my parents-in-law. I went up to them and asked for permission but they refused saying that women from our household do not step out for work. My husband also surrendered and asked me to not discuss this matter again. I don’t understand why they are reacting to it so negatively; as they knew I was working before marriage. Please tell me how to deal with this. Arifa
A: Dear Arifa, this may not be a big deal for your in-laws but if you look at the bigger picture, it is actually wrong to impose something like this on you. Niceness does not guarantee a person’s broad mindedness. They must be nice to you apparently but keeping in mind their authority over you, one can easily understand that they are actually trying to control your life and change you according to their preferences. This only shows how narrow-minded they are. However, I’m really surprised at your husband’s behaviour, if he was initially okay with you working, why has he given up on convincing his parents? I don’t know the kind of relationship you have with your husband but regardless of your wish to work, you must talk to your husband about the matter and ask him to take a stand for you.

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