So if we hate our boss, but make the effort to be super friendly and nice, while hating his guts underneath ... is our boss going to be anything other than uncomfortable and defensive in that situation?

We're not "being the energy". On the contrary, we're being false - lying to our boss and attempting to lie to ourselves.

Have you ever had this happen to you?

You find another job, where you think the whole ambiance is different to the one you left ... only to find, after a short time, that your current job has pretty much the same effect on you that the last one did?

What's the answer? How do you be the energy?

How can we, while unhappy at work, begin to appreciate enough about it to attract a better situation?