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Friday, 29 March 2013

One of the most nerve-wracking situations for many people is attending social events, particularly those where you don't know anyone else. If you're like many people, you have visions of yourself standing alone, looking awkward, sweating, and sneaking out the side door early. Socializing is difficult for many people. Why? For one, it's a perfect opportunity for rejection. After all, if you say or do something stupid, it's very easy for the other person to move on to someone else if they find your conversation dull. Or another scenario is one where you're stuck at a table with a bunch of other people you don't know, and you envision yourself staring at your plate all through the meal, completely at a loss of words.

These fears are very common and normal. That's good. It means that, if you feel this way, you're not alone. It also means that when you're feeling awkward in a social situation, others are as well. Even some people who
appear to be completely at ease may have a jumble of nerves and self-doubt inside. So what's the solution? If you are the person who speaks out first, makes the first move, and begins a conversation, you're taking the pressure off the other person. No longer are you now the one who is awkward at socializing, but you are now someone who is focused on the other people attending.

Changing your frame of mind in this way can be very helpful. It's also more helpful than changing your frame of mind in other ways, such as using alcohol or other medications (unless you've had a thorough check-up with a doctor who has prescribed anti-anxiety medications). It's true that alcohol can put you at ease and make starting a conversation much easier. The problem is that it also makes it much easier to take another drink, and another, and before you know it (or don't), you really are saying or doing something stupid. Unless you are absolutely confident (no pun intended) in your ability to control your drinking, avoid using this method as a solution to your social fears.

After you have reminded yourself that many other people there are feeling just as nervous as you are, try striking up a conversation. This is easier than it may seem--or at least, it does become easier with practice. One of the best ways to start a conversation is to ask questions. Then keep asking them. People like to talk about themselves, and it's also a subject that we all know well--so this avoids awkward moments trying to discuss the latest political issue or historical fact that someone may not be "up" on for whatever reason (life can get in the way sometimes). The key to making this work, however, is to actually be interested in what the other person has to say. If you're constantly looking around, interrupting, or giving other signs that you're not
interested, you'll quickly offend the other person, who may well walk away. Then you will find yourself in the situation you're trying to avoid.

When possible, take a buddy with you. Just be sure that you don't hide in the corner only talking to each other. Instead, use the "buddy system" to meet new people together. It's always easier when you have someone on your side. Simply knowing that at least one other person there likes you and is rooting for you can give you an instant confidence booster as you reach out to new people. Using the buddy method is also a great way to practice before you have to strike out on your own, which is likely to happen at least once in
your lifetime. Feeling prepared will make you feel much more confident when you do find yourself in this scenario.

Forcing yourself to learn new social skills is scary. You are taking a risk. However, once you make the effort, even if it doesn't go as well as you'd hoped, you can feel better about yourself knowing you made the effort. Next time will go better. Give yourself credit for trying.

A pickup artist is describe as a man who considers himself to be skilled, at finding, attracting, and seducing women.To be a pickup artist you have to be able to approach any woman in any situation and leave with her details. You can learn pickup lines and openers in numerous books and online sources, but the only way to get good at is to get out there and do it!

Here are 7 tips (of several more) these men learned from the seduction community about “picking up” their wives:

1. Don’t be a puppy dog: Pickup artists often observe that “AFCs” (average frustrated chumps) follow beautiful women around like puppy dogs, trying to buy them drinks, and sycophantically sucking up to them. While it’s important to give your spouse attention and let them know you care, smothering is a bad idea and can extinguish passion. Give your spouse some space and room to breathe. As one pickup artist is famous for saying, “give them the gift of missing you.”

2. Be occasionally unpredictable: In the right circumstances and the right contexts, unpredictability is exciting and interesting. If you and your spouse are stuck in some ruts, try switching things up and surprising them. Leave them trying to guess what you’ll do next. If you normally go out to eat on Thursday nights, try ordering takeout and bringing your spouse to roller derby bout instead.

3. Don’t go on “dates”: Most pickup artists believe that traditional dates (like dinner and a movie) do nothing to create attraction. Instead, go to a busy street, buy ice-cream, and people watch, or go for a drive and find a makeout spot. You get the picture.

4. Be interesting: Pickup artists often practice magic, know a thing or two about palmistry and handwriting analysis, and can tell a great story when needed. The intent is not to be a dancing monkey performing tricks on demand; rather, the goal is to be different, interesting, and memorable. While handwriting analysis or palmistry may get you nowhere with your spouse, learning to rock climb or play a banjo will introduce an additional attractive dimension to your personality. Showing your spouse how to rock climb, or playing the banjo for her, however, will be even more attractive.

5.Talk slowly: Pickup artists often purchase voice recorders to help slow down and deepen their voice. Speaking slowly, deliberately, and with varied inflection implies confidence, which is the universal aphrodisiac.

6.Be decisive: Pickup artists train to be decisive, and when they suggest a date they always have a time, a date, and a place in mind. None of this “I’d like to do whatever you want to do” stuff. Decisiveness is sexy, and one can be decisive without being pushy or overpowering. If you suggest a date, then know where you want to go, what time you want to be there, and what you want to do afterwards. If your spouse wants to do something else then that’s fine, but try to always have a plan. Decision making can be exhausting, especially after a long day of work, so be willing to relieve your spouse of that role and create experiences.

7. Two steps forward, one step back: With this mantra, pickup artists learn to create expectation during, um…, times of closeness. If you’re in the middle of kissing, then stop for a bit, let expectations build, and then resume and let things build up to the next level. Try stopping again at that point to let expectations build once again. Maintain this pattern for as long as you can and you’ll drive your spouse crazy (in a good way).

Thursday, 28 March 2013

The foundation to every social interaction is being able to hold good conversation. Without this ability, getting past small talk and building stronger connection is something almost impossible. The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.

With these tips you will be well on your way to having a good, meaningful and entertaining conversation with anyone!

Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.

Learn to listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist – which of course, you are!

Ask meaningful questions. Don't just ask question for the sake of asking question, it's not an interrogation, To have a meaningful conversation with the other person, ask meaningful questions. Choose questions like, “What drives you in life?”, “What are your goals for the next year?” and “What inspired you to make this change?” over “What did you do yesterday?” and “What are you going to do later?”.

Have an opinion. Nobody wants to talk to someone who agree to anything. They want to talk to someone with heart, passion, and who has something unique to say. Never be afraid to speak your mind or hide who you are. Always express your beliefs and your opinions openly. That doesn't mean you should go and start arguing for no reason, but start up for what you believe in. You should not be afraid of what other people will think, or else you’ll never be your real self. People that will like you for who you are are the ones you want to connect with, right.

Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say “Yes,” “I see,” “That’s interesting,” or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else – such as what you are going to say next.

Help others think. Being a good conversationalist typically means you’ll be being a bit demanding of others, intellectually speaking. People prefer to talk about themselves, and conversationalists are talented at getting others talking about themselves, but people sometimes need a little help to avoid getting confused, frustrated, or worn out. Helping the people they’re conversing with to think more easily is one of the ways a conversationalist gets people talking more about themselves than they do when talking with others, and it helps prevent the person he’s talking to end up in a conversation that feels mentally taxing or draining.

Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!

Wednesday, 27 March 2013

Being "just friends" with a girl is often to be something that sucks up your time without providing any kind of realistic returns on investment. Have you ever try so hard to get close to a girl you really like, close enough to tell her that you like her, but one great day she turns around and tell you that you're such a great friend, or even worse than that, she tells you you're just like a brother to her. I hope not!

What is a friend zone?
Friend zone for a girl is a place where she is happy. A place where she and a guy can sit together and talk about anything and get real friendly with each other at least for the girl.

Friend zone for a guy is the most terrible and worse place to be in, especially when he likes the girl who happen to behave like a friend or even worse like his sister.

In a friend zone, the two friends involved, the girl and the guy are just friends and nothing more than that. They have no sexual interest towards each other and they behave in a completely platonic manner.

How to avoid the "friend zone"

Break the "Mr nice guy" stereotype. Its important that you know the difference between being nice, sweet and being ATTRACTIVE. A guy who talks to a girl by primarily saying 'oh, yeah, exactly, totally, I completely agree' is not going to be interesting, attractive to a smart, confident and otherwise desirable woman. If you are someone who wants to avoid making other people uncomfortable at any cost, but does so usually at your own expense by not communicating your own needs. When you're romantically attracted to someone, but you don't want to "pressure" them into a relationship, or "ruin" the friendship by expressing your interest or making a move, you'll end up holding back in a variety of ways. The trouble is, when you make other people's feelings more important than your own (instead of finding that happy balance), you're unconsciously communicating to people that your own feelings don't matter. This may make it seem like you have low self-worth, which is the opposite of confidence. Read how to build self confidence.

Stop being too eager to get into a relationship. When you act too desperate to get into a relationship or being the first person to tell her how you feel about her is way too early. You should not even tell her you love her until it's obvious to you that she is crazy about you, that she expects to hear it from you and that she will even be upset if she doesn't hear the L word.

Never ask her how she feels about you. Asking a girl how sh feels about you is pointless and even harmful to your image as a confident and attractive guy in her eyes, it will conveys your insecurity and your concern about how she feels about you which is never attractive. Besides if she is desperate to see you and spend time with you and she makes herself available to you, then you have your answer and you should let HER be the first to ask you where the two of you stand.

You should that there is a big difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. When you first meet a girl during which you must make it clear that you are interested in her romantically and not just through words but through your actions also. If you don't, she will unconsciously "give up" on thinking of you as a romantic prospect and you will be permanently classified as a "friend". So if you want to make a move, do it promptly and it will help you avoid the FRIEND ZONE! Also learn how to flirt (read how to flirt with a girl) - Make a subtle sexual jokes and don't hesitate to touch her casually, lightly but with affection, especially if the girl seems to be open minded and receptive.

Nobody can hurt you without your consent
There are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you overcome life’s hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed. Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, but sometimes
your self-confidence gets a beating. However, the point here to remember is that “Nobody can hurt you without your consent.” The problem is not as important as the impact it had on you, rather the impact that YOU let the problem create on you. In

Tuesday, 26 March 2013

People will admire you and even love if you succeeded in making them believe that you have the positive traits that they are really in need of. If you convinced a shy introvert that you are a very social person, he may admire you.
Love and admiration can happen when you position yourself the right way depending on the person you are dealing with. Some people will admire you if you appeared confident (check how to build self confident) while others might admire you if you appear intelligent.
Steps you should take to make people like you:

Always be yourself: It will be something that other people will look up to. Your uniqueness, and you don't need to join clique. Make your own friends, Being cool is being yourself. Don't try to be like anyone else. Live life for who you are. Don't loose sight of yourself or your morals. Being cool isn't about changing who you are, its about being confident enough to let people see how awesome you are.

Use humor: Cool people always use humor and ease in any situation. They don't get annoyed and angry, and no matter how many bad things happen to them they don't take it too harshly; They make about it. They don't let bad emotion affect them, they have awesome emotional control and understanding.

Change your attitude: If you have a negative attitude change it. Cool people always have a positive attitude. No one likes a negative person. When people get to know you and see that you always have a positive look on things even when things are not going your way, they will enjoy your company.

Don't be shy: If you are naturally shy, learn to overcome it or learn how to have a "cool shy". The first step is to talk to people. At least say hello to every one you know. The second step is to talk some more. The more you chat with people, the more friends you will make. Talk to your friend's friends. If your friend is a real friend, then those people will most likely be nice to you too. If you're a real friend to him/her, then your friend's friends will like you too. you'll gradually start to become popular.

Don't be afraid to be different: Whether that means standing up for yourself, defending someone else, or taking interest in something that no one else does, like playing a sport you like, try to be different and stand out. The coolest people are the ones who occasionally break against the tide and make people question the status quo. Insecure people will, at time, become jealous of you. These people will try to get to you, in an attempt to take the attention off of you and bestow it upon themselves. The important thing to remember is not to smile in weakness, just ignore them.Not as if you didn't hear your antagonist, but casually and conversationally disregard their remarks.

Monday, 25 March 2013

The best state for meeting women is actually a chilled out, relaxed state, and not a hyper state where you're bouncing off the walls, super excited or freaking out.
The best state for meeting women isn't extravagant. It's just chill and relaxed. Why; because talking to a girl being all relaxed and chill communicates to her that you're not desperate to please her or kiss butt or get her approval. It shows her that you're normal and confident.
Being sexy comes down to the following behavior:

Dress well: It takes time to develop a good fashion sense, especially if you're just starting out, don't get yourself feeling overwhelmed and instead seek to gradually improve your wardrobe with time. Start by sizing yourself down into smaller, better-fitting clothes, and look for more stylish things to wear. Look too for colors that compliment your skin, hair, and eye colors.

Speak loudly: Speak Loudly! The loudest guy in the group is the guy who has the most social value, who is the leader, the alpha (check how to be an alpha male), who is looked to for leadership, who is the most comfortable guy in a social situation, who is the most confident guy. Because if you’re not confident, you won’t be talking, let alone talking very loudly. Loudness is a cue for confidence, and girls love it.

Don’t Apologize For Your Actions: When you go up to a girl, or you grab her hand, or you give her a hug, or you give her a compliment, or whatever it is, follow through with your actions and don’t apologize for your actions.

Being unapologetic is the key to getting away with any move, and to get the girl reacting to you.

Make eye contact: Make eye contact and hold it. Don’t dart your eyes around, don’t keep breaking eye contact with her. It’s when you hold eye contact, especially through pauses and silences, that you create sexual tension and butterflies in the woman’s stomach!

Don’t be judgmental of women: If you assume she’s a bitch, or she’s a slut, or she’s a caricature picture of a feminist, it’s going to make you think negatively, and will ruin your game. Instead by open minded and be a source of positivity, and that’s what will attract women to you because girls want to be around a cool guy, a cool guy being a guy who is non-judgmental and positive.

Friday, 22 March 2013

An alpha male is a guyin the society with the highest rank. The Alpha Male, the real man, a man’s man, a warrior, a stand-up guy. It doesn't matter what you call him, he’s a leader, the guy others look to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He’s the man women want, without intention the center of attention.

If you think highly of yourself and believe unquestionably in your own capabilities, men and women alike will respond to you. Do not confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence demonstrates quiet inner strength, surety, and reliability. Arrogance is just low self-esteem turned outwards, and perception people will have see is that of a hollow, insecure man, the very antithesis of the alpha male.

Decide what you will and won't tolerate from people

It's incredibly important you know where your limits are. e.g., if a woman teases you a little bit in a conversation, that's fine, you can deal with it. But if you're not in the mood for teasing girls and she's really pressing you, you'll have to set her straight and let her know that isn't cool.

Learn to communicate what you won't tolerate with grace

What we just said in above though doesn't mean that you're alpha by telling a girl who's teasing too hard that she'd better knock it off or else, or that you're alpha by back-turning her or walking away. That stuff's just rude and/or silly, and it's universally childish (and weak in its childishness... it isn't what a man would do). Instead, learn to be subtle... if she over-teases you, you shrug a little, roll your eyes to the side, and let your attention drift off... it's now her job to reengage you and bring you back into things.

The alpha male has a purpose

This may be his most defining trait. Where many wander through life trying to find their Self, the alpha male is too busy creating his Self. Every day he does something to bring himself closer to his goal. He isn't a wanderer, he’s going places; it’s so obvious that everyone around him can see it.

Go for what you want FAST
While the fake alphas are busting their asses posturing and trying to look tough and sound dominant, you start talking to the cutest girl there, and within a few minutes invite her to go sit with you. And twenty or thirty minutes after that, you invite her to go have a nightcap with you, and the two of you leave and head back to your place. Fast, easy, effective. And don't worry, everyone else notices -- people really do ultimately pay more attention to the results others produce than the reactions they get. And everybody sees the guys full of hot air standing around trying to be alpha, while the actual alpha male (or, in some cases, nomad) goes and takes his woman and leaves

Knowing how to forge a romantic connection is essential to being seen as an alpha male. Being confident, accomplished, and attractive doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve got what it takes to interact with a

potential mate, but will provide you a huge advantage

Above all, be a leader

This means not only taking charge of a situation, but doing it well. Start in your immediate surroundings by being a leader in the workplace, helping your team perform, or even asserting yourself as your dog’s pack leader. Practice being the kind of leader that people will want to follow—and not just the first one who volunteered for the job.

Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are tips that can
help you build that elusive self-confidence:

Self confidence is the ability to trust your own decisions and instincts. People that posses a great amount of self confidence are often successful, focused, and flexible individuals who can handle any situation life may throw at them. A self confident individual know he or she has the potential to take on the world and come out on top. Those that surround a self confident individual are made aware of his or her nature by his or her actions. People that are self confident prove so by their actions, not their words. If you find yourself constantly trying to

The best way to improve your life and earn the respect of others is to improve your self-esteem. This is not a very difficult task. All that it needs is good guidance. Here are ten tips that can happen when you improve your self--esteem.

Women are remarkably strong individuals who have the capability to battle with demons and conquer the world, but more often than not, it is their own self confidence that brings them down. That nagging voice in the back of your head that questions your actions, criticizes you looks, and doubts your self worth can bring any woman—no matter how successful or powerful—to her knees. Instead of falling prey to low self esteem, do something about it! Strive to break the cycle of feeling poorly about yourself, not doing anything about it, and then feeling worse.

Sadly, a major problem with the self esteem of women is the opinions of other women. Instead of fully supporting, complimenting, and boosting another women’s spirits, women can be mean spirited. Back biting,
gossiping, and cruel remarks seem to run rampant with women friends, family, and colleagues. If you find yourself in a situation

Saturday, 16 March 2013

Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most shocking secrets women don't want men to know

Women get jealous as hell- They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.

Am I fat- I know you've heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?”

Don't share secrets with them-If you have than you are already on Cool FM radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And ye when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.

Many women will simply not be completely honest. They’ll tell the guy what he wants to hear or what will make them look good rather than the naked truth; many times without even realizing. For instance, a woman may not disclose to a guy that she wants a man who can dominate her physically in bed, because she is afraid that she’ll seem like a slut, but deep down she does have this craving.

Women often don’t know themselves what they want in a man- If a women says she wants s guy who is sensitive, but she constantly dates ice-cold guys despite a generous availability of sensitive guys around her, then she obviously wants ice-cold guys rather than sensitive ones. If she says she wants a guy who is tall and dark, but then falls madly in love with and desperately pursues a guy who is short and blonde, it’s likely that her desire for tall, blonde guys is only at a superficial level.

A
gold digger is someone who will latch on to a person who can provide gifts,
expensive vacations, and dinners at fancy restaurants, etc. In exchange, they
will often pretend to be interested in you. Most gold diggers have an attitude
that they have to be taken care of by you. And by “taken care of” I mean taking
care of her daily expenses, credit card bills and other special needs. And,
this my friend can very often cost the moon.The following is a list of how to tell if your girlfriend is
a gold-digger.

Your girlfriend
is out of your "league".

Remember when you
were in high school or college and couldn't get a date with certain types of
women. None of the beauty queens at school gave you the time of day. Yet, as
soon as you signed that multi-million dollar contract, every model, beauty
queen and fantasy girl came a running. If your girlfriend fits this
description, watch out. She's a gold digger. She would never date you if you
were gas attendant. Does this mean you can't date or marry up? Of course, not -
just make sure your new gal is only one rung above you.

Your girlfriend
treats you like a walking ATM machine.

Every time you
turn around, the new girlfriend has a crisis or need that requires money.
You're a generous guy, so you don't mind helping her out. Yet, the little voice
in your head is saying 'this chick thinks you are made of money.' Don't ignore
it. If a woman treats you like an ATM machine and is always making financial
withdrawals, she is a gold digger. Avoid her like the plague and find someone
who likes you for you.

She never offers to pay.

She never offers
to pay and only says thank you occasionally…as if she’s entitled to your
spending. A man should pay for the first date and a thank you is necessary. In
terms of identifying diggers, a thank you after a small dinner means more than
her going down on you when you get her back to the crib. If after several dates
she has never offered to pay for anything, you should be suspicious.

She is never around when times are bad

Gold diggers are
never around when times are bad. So if your bank balance has hit rock bottom or
your merger didn’t go as well as you planned, the gold digger is out that door.
If you’re going through some legal issues and you need some emotional support,
call your mom because your gold digging partner is probably out at a party
looking for the next victim.

She
only lets you hit when you buy her something.
If the only time you get some is after an expensive date or if she only hooks
you up with brains after she gets an expensive gift, you probably have a digger
on your hands. She is attaching sex to money and this is part of gold diggings
101.

She
only wants to go to expensive restaurants.After impressing her on the first or second date,
take her to a few inexpensive places like Red Lobster and see how she reacts.
If she reacts unappreciative or complains, she is either a digger, or may be
too high maintenance. Don't be a punk or weak for the panties and call the
digger back. If you do, you may as well hire a dime quality call girl which
will save you some money and more than a few migraine headaches in the long
run.

Finally remember
this rule: The best way to fish out a
gold-digger is to starve them out.

Friday, 15 March 2013

Some people are great at being partners, and some just
aren’t. Once they’ve known you through all the seasons, they settle down into
taking you for granted. They haven’t got time for your problems – if they’ve
even noticed that you’re not usual jolly self. They don’t bring you flowers any
more, or suggest a romantic evening out, or spoil you on your birthday. In
short they don’t care enough.

This is so sad, and I bet you know people who do it.
I certainly do know people who do that are, I don’t do it – I think it’s a
terrible thing. They put their partner down in front of other people, belittle
them, and make them feel small. You wonder what they’re doing with that person
if they think so little of them, although I’m not sure that what they say is
really what they’re thinking. They just derive some kind of pleasure from
humiliating their partner. I've known some people do it in a big way and other
in a small way. I've known people do it just occasionally because they’re angry
with their partner over some petty argument.

The major reason relationships fails is because the woman falls in love with him and try to get serious with him too soon. Yes, you want to spend as much time as you can with him, especially early on in the relationship, but never tell him you're planning on buying a house together, getting engaged, married, or even having children with him. It's alright to have dreams, but you don't want to reveal them to him because he might get scared away. You always want to get to know each other before you start bringing things up about the future.

We all get battered and bruised by life, that’s inevitable.
Some of us come off worse than others. Of course, it’s the scars that give us
character, so they’re not all bad in the long run. But in the short term we may
need to recover before we re-enter the fray.

I am very sure, you want your partner looks well
groomed and attractive as when you first met them, and that’s understandable. And
if you want them to make the effort for you, you need to do the same thing for
them. I’m not only talking about looks, but also about your behavior and the
way you talk to them. The softness of your voice and all those little
endearments. These things are all part of our attractiveness, and it’s not fair
on your partner if you switch them all off after a while. You wouldn’t thank
them doing the same thing to you.

Here is the way to become a One-Up in a relationship -here is how to make a girl fall in love with you. While I don’t recommend you put yourself in that position, as it may destroy the intimacy you could create with her and throw the relationship out of balance, it’s good to have some of these techniques in your toolbox, should you ever need them… in case the relationship is starting to tip in her favor and you need to put some weight on the other scale pan.

I asked men why they hide their
feelings, or “play hard to get.” I asked why they often put up pretenses that
they are cool, “macho,” and tougher than they feel. They do this because they
feel they have to, especially when dealing with women. Women often wonder
why men take so long to make a phone call.

The fact is, the vast majority of men are nice, unassuming, friendly guys totally lacking in any kind of an "edge" with women. And women get familiar with this type of man quickly and know what to expect with him – and they know what they'll get with him is not exciting. It's very calm, normal, and average. Bad boys, though, they're different, and women don't meet a whole lot of them. Bad boys are wildcards. They could be scoundrels with hearts of gold, or they could be merciless hedonists or cold-hearted users and abusers. A girl doesn't know, and that's part of the excitement.

You should be a lot of things to your partner:
friend, lover, companion, confidant (e), ally, and comforter. One thing you shouldn't be is their parent. They’re grown-up and they don’t need one of those
any more, at least not beyond and they've got already.

Have a crush on a guy but not sure if the feeling is mutual? Or maybe you're curious as to whether that guy checking you out is doing so out of interest in you or he's just staring at the poster behind your head? Whatever the reason for your need to know, there are a few fairly certain ways of working out that a guy's definitely interested in you––or not!

What men don’t want women to know
is that, almost immediately, they put women into one of two categories: “good
time only” or “worthwhile.” And the minute he slides you into that “good time
only” category, you’ll almost never come back out.

If a man
feels as though he has to win you over first—sexually with his
manliness, wit, or charm—he will place a higher value on you. Men are
possessive. He likes knowing that other men cannot easily get to where he is trying
to go. Like he’s Captain Kirk and Christopher Columbus all wrapped up in one,
he wants to explore new terrain not trampled on by too many men before him. And
he judges whether you make “the rounds” by one thing and one thing only: how
quickly you give it up to him.

I saw some interesting research recently, which showed that if you nag someone to do something they are actually less likely to do it than if you don't nag them. I can't say it really surprised me - I know how I feel about being nagged.
The fact is that nagging is pointless. If your partner isn't going to do whatever it is because they love you, they're certainly not going to do it because you nag them. All you'll achieve is resentment and a deterioration in your relationship and that's not going to help either of you.

Thursday, 14 March 2013

Flirting with girls is absolutely key in sparking attraction. A lot of guys do not know how to flirt with a girl or the right way to flirt with a girl. Paying a girl compliments is not flirting, and will have an adverse effect unless the girl is already attracted to you. Flirting keeps a girl interested in you and your conversation. It is a fun and playful way to stimulate her mind when communicating with you.

Flirting is communicating by teasing and ‘banter’. A playful way that suggests to her you are not really interested in her and makes you a challenge. It makes her think you couldn’t care about what she thinks of you and this makes you stand out from the majority of guys who do care what she thinks. They constantly pay her compliments because that’s what they believe she wants to hear and they believe this will create attraction. It doesn’t. Mastering flirting gives you the upper hand.

If you know how to talk to a girl when you meet for the very first time, picking up a girl will become easier and you will find their reaction to you will be a positive one. You should come across as caring, kind hearted and thoughtful and try not to flatter them too often. Treat the girl as if she is just another person, give her no special treatment.
Making her feel comfortable with you is the best way on how to talk to a girl for the first time. Try to keep the conversation flowing, fun and try not to become nervous as this can create awkwardness.

Wouldn't it be great to have the girl you want green-eyed with envy and madly competing for you?
It'd be awesome... right?
Well, as you know, there are two sides to every coin. On the one side you have the oftentimes huge spike in attraction and investment you gain from a girl when she realizes she's jealous over you.
And on the other side... you risk becoming too aloof, too hard to get, and losing her altogether.
But, no risk, no reward, as they say. Learning how to make a girl jealous can be another mighty weapon in your seducer's arsenal. If you're not careful though, it can be a weapon you end up using with devastating effect... on yourself.

Probably one of the more confusing things for men about how women show interest is when women appear to be sending “mixed messages” – when they do something that makes it seem they’re interested, then do something that makes it seem like they’re being challenging or aloof. It’s important to understand why this happens.
Remember that for women, saving face is extremely important, no matter where in the world you are. A woman’s social reputation is tied to her desirability to men and her choosiness; there is little more damaging to a woman’s reputation than for her to be seen throwing herself at a man who won’t take her. Because of this, women’s efforts to show men they’re interested are often couched within efforts to seem aloof or disinterested.

This is probably the most common way you will see women expressing interest in you; they’ll give you a hint, then stuff it under sarcasm or aloofness.
There is a secret to understanding these scrambled messages women send though – it’s like a secret decoder ring for woman-speak. Here it is:

If a woman implies she is interested in you, you should accept the statement as a sign of interest and ignore sarcasm, aloofness, or feigned distraction as simply her efforts to protect her reputation in the event you do not feel the same or do not take action to lead her to a satisfactory conclusion.

In other words, it’s her insurance policy. By not throwing all her chips in by being completely overt about her interest, she allows herself some wiggle room to later say, “Oh, I wasn’t really interested in him, I was just kidding,” if things don’t work out.
Which means, of course, that your ears should perk up the instant you hear something that implies a girl is interested in you – then, pick up the pace and start moving things forward as quickly as possible (but, needless to say, wait a moment before springing to action – you must always have your actions seem your own, as opposed to being reactions to something the girl has done. Even a small pause of three or four seconds can sometimes be enough – just give yourself a little time and be very casual, nonchalant, and natural about things.

A few examples of things a girl might do that should serve as a strong signal to you she’s interested:

She says you’d make a great couple, you look good together, anything like that

She says you’re handsome or sexy

She asks you where you live, especially if it comes at an unusual time in the conversation or out of the middle of nowhere

She asks if you live alone or with friends or roommates, and especially if she asks if they are home right now

She focuses more of her attention on you, especially if you’ve been quiet or other people are competing for her attention, but she’s still devoting a lot of attention to you

She does something physically suggestive, like taking your arm and putting it around her or taking your hand and putting it on her, or putting her hand or legs on you

She buys you food or buys you a drink

And, a few examples of things a girl might do immediately following one of these signals that you ought to just ignore outright:

Turn and start talking to her friends

Crack a joke or make a lame cover up (e.g., “You’re so handsome. Ah, I think I just say that to every guy I meet!”)

Get uncomfortable (e.g., “Well, I should probably go” – most likely if she was hoping you were going to do something, then felt jilted that you didn’t – when this happens, stop her and save her night!)

If a girl shows interest in you, then does something like one of the above, ignore it and proceed with her anyway. For instance, she says, “You’re so handsome. Or maybe I’m just drunk.”
You say, “Nah, I’d be handsome even if you were sober. Come on, let’s go grab a seat.”

Wednesday, 13 March 2013

Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks from a girl you fancy might mean? Hoping you have a secret admirer? Follow these steps to find out if the girl you have your heart set on really likes you.

Always be yourself. If a girl likes a fabricated you, she'll soon scratch beneath that veneer you've tried to use and won't be impressed. If she's not into you the way you are, don't date her.

Girls don't like nice guys. Girls do like bad boys. That means you ought to go turn yourself into a complete jerk, right?

No, that's not what that means. One of the tragic downfalls of human logic is the tendency to default to black-and-white thinking. "If women don't like nice guys, I should become a total jerk and they'll love me!" That's what most guys who've been nice guys too long tend to think once they start coming to grips with how women actually choose the men they like.

We’re all quite cautious about how much of ourselves we
reveal to other people. And in a new relationship, we’re going to do our best
to present the most positive things to our new partner. You do it, I do it, and
everyone does it. It takes time to get to know someone well, and for them to
feel sufficiently confident in you to drop their guard.