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Want to marry a divorced girl

Dear mam,
Every time I ask you question and it does not get published. Please I want your help.
I am divorcee and now again in love with a divorcee girl. We both love each other and want to marry but it is so difficult to tell at home as both of us first marriage was love marriage only and didn’t work out. This time we have decided we will marry only if family members agree to it.

Now my question is the girl is very shy and do not want to go for sex before marriage, we only do kissing and touching that too once in a while and if she is in a mood, while I remain in mood always. She always says that love does not need sex, but I say sex is also the part of love. She says after marriage we will do sex once in a week and bla bla, while I need sex every time. I am becoming desperate for sex now as I am now of 30 years and do not want to do sex with anyone else and even I can’t do that. Sometimes I masturbate 6 times in 24 hours. What do I do? If I will wait for marriage it might take years or may be possible we do not get married and in that case I will not be able to do sex other than her.

Well, what solution do you want from us on this issue- its between you and your girl as to the behaviour you want to practice before marriage. I understand your frustration, but right now, masturbation seems to be the only way out. There really does not seem to be any other option, does there?

@ thread : well, u straight 4ward need to talk to her n tell her about ur sexual desires n expectations..prior to d marriage, after marriage or in d case when u both don't get married at all.
sort out a common understanding n follow it rigorously..she shall open up a lil more towards sexual activity n u shall accept it twice or thrice a week rather than daily bunga bunga!
if she doesn't agree n is adamant on once a week routine, u need to make a decision about her as ur future partner n whether u ll be satisfied havin a life wid her!

Asshole meets good girl → fcuks her over → She turns into a b!tch → She meets a good guy → fcuks him over → He turns into an asshole!

After reading your post i feel like, u give a lot of attention to sex than any thing else in this relationship. Having a urge for sex more than often could be a problem of sex addiction, consult a doctor just to clear the chances of having it.

Since both of u have gone through the same problem before ... u need to be careful .. Don't spoil someone's life if ur expectations don't match .
Tell her what ur requirements are ,and if u feel they cannot be met with ... move on

Dear mam,
Every time I ask you question and it does not get published. Please I want your help.
I am divorcee and now again in love with a divorcee girl. We both love each other and want to marry but it is so difficult to tell at home as both of us first marriage was love marriage only and didn’t work out. This time we have decided we will marry only if family members agree to it.

Now my question is the girl is very shy and do not want to go for sex before marriage, we only do kissing and touching that too once in a while and if she is in a mood, while I remain in mood always. She always says that love does not need sex, but I say sex is also the part of love. She says after marriage we will do sex once in a week and bla bla, while I need sex every time. I am becoming desperate for sex now as I am now of 30 years and do not want to do sex with anyone else and even I can’t do that. Sometimes I masturbate 6 times in 24 hours. What do I do? If I will wait for marriage it might take years or may be possible we do not get married and in that case I will not be able to do sex other than her.

Take family members out of the equation.

After one failed marriage, you should have been learned enough to take your own decisions.

As you have already seen court, dont put yourself in such a situation where you need to knock the doors of court halls one more time.

Be open to her about your views of sex, be open to her about yourself as much as you can, and try to let the other person speak out.

Sex is very important in marriage. It is good that you have let us known here, but its time to talk about it with your love now.

And about your love's no interest in sex before marriage, if you keep asking for it over and again, its as good as telling her indirectly, let us have a live-in relationship...be together until the other gets fed up, and part ways.

If marriage is what you want, if companionship is what you want, then you have to take it in a very subtle way forward.

If sex is the only prerogative... then its best that you talk it out, as I said above, if she says no, find someone else, there are lot of divorcees around. Try divorcee matrimony dot com.

After one failed marriage, you should have been learned enough to take your own decisions.

As you have already seen court, dont put yourself in such a situation where you need to knock the doors of court halls one more time.

Be open to her about your views of sex, be open to her about yourself as much as you can, and try to let the other person speak out.

Sex is very important in marriage. It is good that you have let us known here, but its time to talk about it with your love now.

And about your love's no interest in sex before marriage, if you keep asking for it over and again, its as good as telling her indirectly, let us have a live-in relationship...be together until the other gets fed up, and part ways.

If marriage is what you want, if companionship is what you want, then you have to take it in a very subtle way forward.

If sex is the only prerogative... then its best that you talk it out, as I said above, if she says no, find someone else, there are lot of divorcees around. Try divorcee matrimony dot com.