Is Your Ex Girlfriend In A Rebound Relationship? Let’s Find Out!

“They are defined as a relationship that occurs shortly after a significant one in which you were in love.”

Seriously, that is the official definition according to a divorce support website I stumbled across. So, if we are to look at this definition then that means that a rebound relationship can only occur if the person was in a very serious or super loving relationship first.

For example, if your ex girlfriend was deeply in love with you and the two of you dated for something like 3 years then the next relationship your ex girlfriend gets into is a rebound relationship right?

Hmm…

Well, it doesn’t work exactly like that.

Take it from someone who has dealt with a lot of women who have told him their stories of how they were feeling when they went on the rebound. There is a lot more going on behind the scenes to dictate if a woman is going on the rebound or not.

In other words, what I am trying to get at here is that you shouldn’t use the “official” definition my peers are peddling out there when it comes to rebound relationships.

You should use mine!

Before We Begin I Need To Tell You Something Important

Many men come to this website wanting to get their ex girlfriends back.

But there’s a problem with this line of thinking….

Getting an ex girlfriend back generally isn’t a simple process. It requires a lot of thought, strategy and even a little bit of luck.

The truth is that I can’t tell you everything that you absolutely need to know about getting your ex girlfriend back in this article.

For me to say that I can would be a lie.

Luckily, I have created something that can tell you just about everything you absolutely need to know to get your ex girlfriend back.

What A Rebound Relationship Really Is

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There are a lot of factors that go into making up a rebound relationship.

What I am going to do for you is discuss all the factors that go into them so you can hopefully apply them to your own situation and determine if your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship. Now, I am assuming you are reading this page because your ex girlfriend just entered into a new relationship with someone else and you are trying to determine whether or not that new person is being used as a rebound by her.

If you are then you definitely came to the right place.

I do want to state that this guide isn’t meant to help outline the steps that it will take to get your ex girlfriend back. If you want that then I suggest you take a look at my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PRO. Rather, this guide is meant to help you determine whether or not your ex girlfriend has indeed entered into a rebound relationship with her new guy.

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In my opinion there are three main factors that go into a rebound relationship.

Your past relationship with her

How fast she moved on

How long she has been with the rebound candidate

What I would like to do is talk about each of these three factors in depth. However, before I really dive into that I would like to talk a little about the purpose of a rebound relationship.

What Is The Purpose Of A Rebound Relationship?

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Lets say that you determine that your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship (we haven’t determined that yet but play a long for a minute.)

What is she trying to accomplish by this?

Actually she is trying to accomplish a lot.

Women are extremely emotional creatures and sometimes they get a bit of the grass is greener syndrome. Basically this is a syndrome where a woman believes she can do better than her current boyfriend (you.) So, when they enter a new relationship with someone who they think may potentially be better than you they are going to expect him to be able to take away all the pain they experienced with you.

For example, if you cheated on your ex girlfriend (not saying you did) then she may be looking for her new boyfriend to take some of her pain away.

Get it?

Of course, women, being the complex creatures they are, won’t stop there with rebound relationships.

They can also use rebound relationships to serve as a major distraction from facing the pain of getting over a relationship. Now, most men may scoff at this and think it’s dumb but have you ever truly tried getting over someone you have loved more than anything?

It’s kind of hard.

Look at you.

You are here because you want your ex girlfriend back more than anything. You are having trouble facing the pain too.

So, what a woman who is in a rebound relationship may be doing is using the rebound to prevent her from facing the pain that follows a breakup. It’s a nice little distraction that will make her feel good for a little bit but ultimately she will realize that she can’t hide forever.

This sparks an interesting question.

Can A Rebound Ever Turn Into Something More Serious?

I am not into living in a fantasy world where I tell you everything you want to hear.

No, I am just going to tell you like it is.

The truth is that some rebound relationships can last. I have encountered situations where the re-bounder has actually married the rebound and found a lot of happiness with them. Of course, you do have to remember that this is a rare occurrence. In my professional opinion most rebound relationships don’t last. In fact, if you were to push me for statistics, off the top of my head I would say that 80% of rebounds don’t last and 20% do last.

Ok, know that you know a bit more about rebound relationships lets take a look at what goes into making them.

The Three Major Ingredients For A Rebound Relationship

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I have found that there are three major ingredients that go into making a rebound relationship. In this section I plan on exploring each and every one of those ingredients. Now, you may be wondering why these ingredients are important.

The truth is that these ingredients are everything when it comes to deciphering whether or not your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship with her new boyfriend.

What are the ingredients?

Your past relationship with her

How fast she moved on

How long she has been with the rebound candidate

Now, the strength of these three qualities are going to have a direct correlation to the strength of the rebound relationship.

Confused?

Hmm..

How can I put this in a way that you will understand.

Ok, if your ex girlfriend has all the “rebound signs” that I am going to point out to you with these three qualities then the chances of her being in a rebound relationship will be likely. Of course, on the flip side if your ex girlfriend doesn’t show many of the “rebound signs” within these three qualities in her next relationship then the chances of her being in a rebound relationship will be lowered.

Get it?

Good!

How I Intend To Point Out The “Rebound Signs” With The Ingredients

This may be a little complicated so if there was ever a time where I required your undivided attention it would be now. What we know so far is that there are three major ingredients that go into making a rebound relationship. Of course, it’s not as simple as just looking at those ingredients and determining whether or not your ex girlfriend has them. No, unfortunately you are going to be required to look a lot deeper within the ingredients.

What I mean by that is that within these ingredients there are going to be “rebound signs” and “non-rebound signs.”

“Rebound Signs” – Signs that are indicative of someone who is on the rebound.

“Non-Rebound Signs”- Signs that are indicative of someone who is NOT on the rebound.

I feel it is important for you to understand both sides of the coin so you can know what to look out for. In the sections that follow, the ones where I talk about the ingredients of a rebound relationship, I intend to write to two areas.

“Rebound Signs”

“Non- Rebound Signs”

In other words, in the section below this one entitled, Your Past Relationship With Her, I am going to be pointing out the rebound signs that go with it and the non rebound signs that go with it.

Ok, enough of that. I mean, this is getting ridiculous. Lets just get to the good stuff!

Rebound Ingredient 1- Your Past Relationship With Her

Lets jump into a quick little role play here.

Lets pretend that two versions of yourself dated your ex girlfriend. For this role plays sake we are going to call them,

Version A

Version B

Lets pretend that version A was the model boyfriend. I mean, this version of you did absolutely everything right. You were sweet, romantic, good in bed and had a lot going for you.

Version B on the other hand was another story entirely. Lets pretend that this version of you was a horrible boyfriend. You did absolutely everything wrong. You were mean, constantly argued, cheated and pretty much did a hatchet job on your relationship with your ex girlfriend.

Now, here is my question to you.

Out of these two versions of yourself which one do you think your ex is more likely to miss?

My money is on Version A.

Why Your Past Relationship Matters To Your Ex Girlfriend

A rebound relationship in my mind usually refers to a relationship that isn’t going to last. It’s a distraction to prevents you from facing your true feelings. Of course, I have noticed that an interesting phenomenon occurs in rebound relationships.

What is the phenomenon?

A comparison will get made.

Look, eventually your ex girlfriend is going to start comparing the new guy to you and whoever wins this comparison is most likely going to win her heart. For example, lets say you were Version B of yourself in your relationship with your ex and her new boyfriend (the guy you are hoping is a rebound) is more like Version A. Well, chances are pretty high that he is going to win the comparison contest over you. This would ultimately lower your chances of him being a rebound.

Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

In my opinion, this is probably the ingredient with the easiest rebound/non rebound signs.

So, what is the major rebound sign to look out for here?

Simple, in order to look towards the future on whether or not your ex girlfriends new man is a rebound we must first look to the past. Your past more specifically.

How did you treat your ex girlfriend during your relationship with her?

Were you good to her?

Did you fight her a lot?

My point with this is pretty simple. If you were the definition of a good boyfriend then you are probably going to win that comparison contest versus the new guy and raise your chances of her thinking she is on the rebound.

Of course, if you weren’t the model boyfriend…

Non-Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

I have made one things pretty clear with this ingredient.

At some point of her new relationship with her new boyfriend she is going to do a comparison to see how he stacks up against her past. Lets think about this from her perspective if you were a really bad boyfriend to her.

You are your ex girlfriend and you are looking to fall madly in love with the man of your dreams. You just started dating a new guy and he is treating you incredibly well. However, experience has taught you that there is such a thing as a honeymoon period so you wait a little bit before you knight him as prince charming.

As time goes on the new boyfriend is still treating you incredibly well. So well in fact that he puts all your other boyfriends to shame.

The comparison between you and the new guy was just made and you lost.

Thus, her chances of going back to you and labeling that new guy a rebound are lowered.

Rebound Ingredient 2- How Fast She Moved On

What is the general perception of a rebound relationship?

Well, when I just generally think of a rebound relationship I think of someone who just got out of a relationship, moves on to someone else really fast and then ends that relationship shortly thereafter.

Notice that I bolded a phrase in the statement above.

One thing is abundantly clear when it comes to your ex girlfriend rebounding, she is going to move on very quickly to someone new. Heck, in some cases she may have already lined up a prospect while the two of you were dating.

Thus, when you are trying to determine if your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship you really have to take a look at how fast she moved on to her new relationship.

Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

If your ex girlfriend moved on very quickly after her relationship with you then you can take that as a rebound sign.

Now, I suppose the question you are wondering at this point is,

“What time frame determines an ex girlfriend moving on quickly?”

Well, that depends on a lot of factors. For example, if you dated your ex girlfriend for 5 years then her moving on in two months may be considered quick. As a general rule, the longer your relationship with her the more time it will take her to move on.

Below, I have put together a table to show you how long it can take women to “be ready” to move on,

If you can’t quite figure out how this table works then allow me to explain.

The numbers on the left show how long you have dated her for and the numbers on the right are indicative of how long it will take her to move on.

So, lets take the very first number on the left, 1 month.

If you only dated your ex girlfriend for one month then it is probably only going to take her 2 weeks to move on from you.

So, to put this table in action you have to use some basic math skills. Basically you need to determine how long you have dated your ex girlfriend for and how fast it took her to move on.

For example, if you dated your ex girlfriend for over a year and she moved on in 3 weeks then that would be an action that is common for someone who went on the rebound.

Why?

Because, it usually takes women three months to properly get over a relationship that is that long.

Non-Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

Once again I would like to refer you to the table I created above entitled,

“How Long Will It Take For Her To Get Over You?”

Like I mentioned above, women can’t just jump from relationship to relationship. Sure, there are some exemptions to that rule but generally speaking your ex girlfriend isn’t going to be built that way. So, what does this mean? Well, it means that in order for them to truly move on from you a certain amount of time has to pass.

Lets take another example from the table graphic I created above.

Lets pretend that your ex girlfriend dated you for 3 years and she moved on to someone else an entire year later.

Well, if you look at the graphic above you will notice that it should only take her six months to get over you. So, her moving on a year later would not be indicative of someone who is going on the rebound since enough time has passed for her to properly heal.

Rebound Ingredient 3- How Long She Has Been Dating The Rebound Candidate

This final ingredient is an important one to grasp so make sure I have your undivided attention here.

If you could dream up a nightmare scenario when it comes to your exes rebound relationship it would probably go something like this,

Your ex girlfriend breaks up with you and immediately moves on to someone new. Now, you being the incredibly intelligent person you are kind of cheer on the inside for a bit because as you just learned, an ex who moves on fast is typically in a rebound relationship. Unfortunately, as time slowly ticks on your ex girlfriend and her new boyfriend don’t break up. In fact, all signs are pointing to the fact that they are stronger than ever.

What does it mean if your ex girlfriend starts dating a rebound candidate and they end up together long term?

Well, I am sorry to break it to you but if your ex girlfriend dates her new boyfriend for a long time then he is no longer a rebound.

Below, I have created another graph for you to explain this phenomenon,

Don’t let this graph confuse you because really it’s not that confusing.

Basically, it shows that the longer a rebound candidate dates your ex girlfriend the lower his chances become of him actually being a rebound. For example, if your ex girlfriend moved on immediately after you to someone new and they only lasted a month then there was a 100% chance that, that particular guy was a rebound to her. Of course, on the flip side if your ex girlfriend has been dating her “rebound” for an entire year then that relationship has moved far from rebound territory and has set up shop in serious relationship territory.

The graph above is meant to show you when this point occurs (usually some time after six months.)

Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

Again, I would like to reference the chart I made above.

Notice that the longer that your ex girlfriend dates her rebound the less percentage of a rebound he becomes and usually after month six of them dating they begin to get more serious. So, I would have to say that the rebound sign that goes along with this particular ingredient has to be that if your ex girlfriend hasn’t been dating her new guy very long then there is a high probability that she views him as a rebound relationship deep down.

Of course, the longer she dates him the more likely he is to become a non rebound.

Non Rebound Sign With This Ingredient

If your ex girlfriend has been dating her new boyfriend for quite some time (7+ months) then the chances are very low that the new guy is going to be considered a rebound by her.

I am really sorry to break it to you but this is just the way it works in a relationship. The longer she dates him the more you start to fade away and the more she begins to view him as her night and shining armor. So, make sure that you understand this if you are going to attempt to get her back.

What Do You Think? (432)

Mario

August 7, 2017

So i dated my girlfriend for a year and 1 month. There was no cheating, lying, or any serious fights. However, there were small disagreements that could have been just conversations but over time began to turn into small, annoying arguments. The things we would argue about is her and her mom have a co dependency relationship with each other. Her mother relies on her everyday all day, they will talk on the phone about 10 times a day, she has tried to put up boundaries with her mom, but she is co dependent on her mom as well and would break down. Her mom will try to solve our disagreements for us and not let us work on our problems as a couple and I began getting frustrated with it and my mood changed and I began to disengage from the relationship because my girlfriend would get mad at me when I brought up the co dependency. Last month she broke up with me, I talked to her a couple of times right after the break up to get our belongings back, then I wrote her a letter telling her I am sorry for my part in this, for being in bad moods and shutting down instead of communicating. I did not ask for her back, or hit on her. I saw her at an event and we talked and it was good, no pressure. Afterwards, about a week later I asked her to meet up and talk. Her mother text me telling me that she said I wouldnt leave her alone and she is trying not to have any pressure. I have been in no contact ever since then, this was 2 weeks ago. One of her neighbors said they have seen this guy parked at her house and he actually stays the night almost every night. I do remember saying she was going to rent out a room but im not sure. If she is actually dating him, could he be a rebound? I know she loved me, she never failed to say it or show me. I am not sure where to go from here.

EGR Team Member: Amor

August 9, 2017

maybe..but you should be focused in improving yourself and being active in posting..

Law

June 24, 2017

Hi,

It’s been 2 months since I broke up with my girlfriends. 4 days after that and she already has a new relationship with her seatmate in the office which that guy has a thing for her. During our relationship we are very sweet to each other although we had a lot of arguments, but I can be sure that she loves me until I got angry and broke up with her which shattered her heart. I’m now doing no contact rule for almost a month although it’s very hard given that we are in the same room in the same office so we always see each other (only see, I don’t interact with her or anything). I also have improved myself such as improving my posture, being confident, getting new hobbies, improved outlook (new haircut and pants). So far, there are non verbal signs she is showing that she actually missed me but her friends always joke around her regarding our break up (like everyday) which I think is backfiring my No Contact mode. They are also always trying to provoke me with stories of how sweet she and her rebound is although since the No Contact mode I am always on headset and ignored them (although I can still hear them). I think my ex still hated me after 2 months since her friends are always reminding her of our break up and they are supporting her relationship with the rebound. Any suggestions? So far, what I’m doing is to continue the No Contact and just move on!

Yih

June 21, 2017

Hi Amor. So this is what happened to me and my ex girlfriend. We had a good and loving relationship for 6 years. We have been LDR for 6 years. Whenever we were seeing each other in person (that means she comes back from university for summer break of 2-3 months), we rarely argued and we loved each other intimately. However, this recent year (i would say 1 starting one year ago) we had lots of arguments over the phone when we were in LDR (when she was in university and we didnt meet each other). And i know that there’s a guy in her university that treats her really well. about one month ago she told me her feelings towards me has grow cold (but still love me) and suggested to take a break of two weeks. after that two weeks she told me that it is best for us to not continue anymore. and during that 2 weeks of break i noticed from her chat that she was being very close with that guy who treats her well in university. I asked her few times if there’s any third party involvement and she said no for many times. after the 2 weeks break (that was in 4 June 2017), i even noticed that they started to use the kiss and heart-shaped emoji in their conversation. and then on the 19 June 2017, that guy posted a sweet photo of the two of them together on his FB wall.

In a way i felt cheated. My assumption is, my ex and that guy has been very closed since 1 or 2 months back. My ex should have started to open up her hearts towards that guy just that didn’t take a step further because that time she was still with me, and wasn’t sure her feelings towards that guy (that’s why she suggested the 2 weeks break to sort out her feelings, of course she didn’t tell me about the third party). after the 2 weeks break she broke up with me and told me she has no feelings towards me anymore. and from her chat, on the 5 June 2017, she was starting the relationship with the guy already. she told me she is tired of LDR, but that guy is graduating this month, and they will be in another LDR again.

So my question is, is my ex girlfriend in a rebound relationship? now that i didn’t see her personally since mid february this year (she is back hometown now by the way but still refuses/reluctant to see me in person), and she has been in constant contact and able to see that guy personally in university since mid february till 19 June 2017. Please help Amor. I need to determine if she is in a rebound relationship to see if there’s any chance for me to save the relationship. Thanks in advance.

Yih

June 21, 2017

And another 2 things, she has removed herself as an admin in two of my FB business page and all of our photos on her FB and Instagram. but the relationship status on FB she still hasn’t change, it still says in a relationship with me. But the relationship status has set privacy setting, only me and her can see it (maybe she forgot about this, i don’t know). and, i’ve done the 2 weeks of NC right after 4 June 2017 (the time when she said we break up and don’t continue as couple anymore)

Please tell me Amor, what is going on? Is she in a rebound relationship?

EGR Team Member: Amor

July 6, 2017

if they started talking even before the break up and developed feelings since then, that means it’s a grass is greener case

jon

June 20, 2017

I was in a 9 year relationship and living together. We did split 3 times and each time she ran off and slept with someone, i had not. She is 36 and I am 33. During the last year of the relationship (year 9) we were broken up and still living together (sex and cooking and sleeping in same bed at times) and there were heated arguements and she said she can’t forget the fact that I told her “i don’t love you anymore” — after she went out for a weekend to music festival i was looking to work things out. Turns out that weekend she had immediately slept with someone 2 nights in a row. Friends had told me she was talking about me that same weekend and needed a distraction. She apparently was “emotionally slutty” to him and beared her soul.When i found this out i was devestated. When i tried to reconcile she had said that there were too many chances, and that “you did this”. I moved out recently and she blew up my phone in a rage telling me i played games and that i hope sleeping with my co-worker (i admitted to flirting with but not sleeping with) was worth it. We spent saturday night together and it was really fun and i slept over but no sex as she said she doesn’t want to be promiscuous and complicate things, as she has “interest” in this new guy (who lives 3 hours away) — what can i do to get her back? Do i realistically have a shot??? I am surprised she slept with someone so quickly (and is continuning to do so, but not posting anything about him on social media at all)

jon

June 20, 2017

she had also said that i didn’t compliment her enough, or make her feel wanted. but i was a great guy other than that, and has said on seperate occasions “i want to be friends” or “we need a break” and also “two things can happen: we get back together, or we become friends” — she has emotional dependency issues

EGR Team Member: Amor

July 6, 2017

Hi Jon,

i’m actually surprised you’re surprised she slept with someone else because it’s not the first time that she slept with someone else..You said she always did that every break up..are you going to do the no contact rule?

Charles

June 7, 2017

What if she leaves to go back to a dysfunctional ex aftet a 2+ year relationship in which i was the “perfect boyfriend”

Charles

June 7, 2017

He treated her terribly by all accounts, they constantly broke up and made up but as soon as he came back around afyer 4 years apart she left me for him cuz the “spark” for me was gone despite loving me and me being “perfect”.

EGR Team Member: Amor

June 15, 2017

whatever perfect means for her, she went to her ex because she thinks he’s better..

Andy

June 4, 2017

We have been together for 5 years, she is nearly 20 now and I am 24. Three of these years we have been living in a long distance relationship since we are both from different countries. However 2 years ago we moved together to 1 place in between of our home countries, so she is studying now while I took up a job. We have always have been extremely happy together, we called us soul mates, best friends and a couple who will never give up fighting for the love which we shared. We always supported each other in anything we did and tried to make the best out of each other. Tho… in the last months of our relationship we stopped communicating as we used to. I should have realized that right there but somehow I kept being blind. She cheated on me with someone else for 1 month and afterward, our relationship just fell apart. She started arguing for no good reasons and started being very cold to me. I never knew she cheated until I got to know 2 months ago a few days after she broke up with me. However, at the moment she broke up she was already in a relationship with someone else 2 weeks before but I already had a feeling in my heart that something was very wrong. We broke up mutually, no argues, just a normal, sad and happy talk. Some days after whatsoever I got really paranoid because I couldn’t get the puzzle pieces right in my head. I tried to figure out why this all happened and found out on her computer that she cheated on me as I mentioned before some months ago. It was very hard and painful to get to know this so I talked very openly about this with her. She firstly cried and said that she was living in depression and that she didn’t get anymore the attention which I used to give her (which was true..I was working day and night and also stopped being as romantic as I used to be). I understood her situation and also forgave her.. I mean.. she has always been a person I saw future in and always loved her like nobody else. I wanted and still want to marry her..and I believe she wants it too. Tho now she is together with this other guy for 2 months and she said that she is happy with him, tho in this time we also kissed each other very often and even had sex. What shall I do Brad… I want her back.. she is my everything and also she said that she still loves me. I even got together with someone else a few weeks ago in the hope she realizes how important I am to her.. tho I am not sure if it just makes her relationship with this new dude stronger. I am also doing now several new things in my life, like climbing, general sports and activities to keep me busy…I am even looking extremely fit now. But my head still can’t switch off. I need this girl back in my life and especially get our happiness back.

I also forgot to mention that this new guy has, in my opinion, a bad influence on her. He is taking drugs sometimes and also is a pretty aggressive person. Also, he cheated as well in his past life but now wants to “settle down”. So ye… she feels pretty much trapped and especially doesn’t know what she wants. Additionally, she told me that she “needs this at the moment” and that she needs time.

I certainly wouldn’t fight for this girl if I wouldn’t think that she is worth it. Even though she cheated on me I still understand what motivated her to do so and can’t and won’t simply forget what all our relationship meant for us both. It hurts me that she is doing these young and stupid things at the moment but also understand that it is better to do it now than later when you are old and you can’t do it anymore. All I’m hoping for is that she realizes how much I actually love her and that there won’t be ever a person who will love her as much. She is pretty much 1/5 of my life and I am 1/4 of hers. There is always a reason why you keep together with one person for so much time and work through every obstacle. Right now this whole breakup thing (which she renamed “break” 3 weeks ago) is a huge obstacle for me and I am trying to jump over it. I need an advice =(

EGR Team Member: Amor

June 15, 2017

are you in the no contact period now? how much are you improving yourself and in posting?

ricardo

May 11, 2017

My ex girlfriend broke up with me one month ago after 11 months of dating. Im still actively trying to get her back, and doing no contact. The reason for her breaking up with me was unknown, and i honestly didnt think there was anyone else in her life. But i just found out that recently within the last few weeks, she got really close to one of her guy friends, (Which she already knew since me and her dated) but she had never showed any kind of interest in him. But now all of a sudden, she seems to be interested in him and he is actively trying to make her his girlfriend, im sure of that because i know he always had a thing for her. Like i said, i dont know if her feelings towards him are strong, and i know she didnt have anything going with him while we dated, so there was no cheating and she was always deeply in love with me. But its only been one month since our break up and we dated for 11 months. Is she using him as a rebound? Is it because she knew for sure already that he liked her so she went with the first person she could think of to cope with the loss of our relationship? What should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017

do you want to try the advice above?

ricardo

May 12, 2017

Yes, im trying the advice. But i’ve heard from our mutual friend that everytime she asks her about me, she ignores the questions and she also denies having anything to do with this other guy, but i doubt that she’s telling the truth. I know theres is probably something going on, but im willing to forgive and forget about that if she just gave me another chance. Should i do 30 days no contact like you suggested before this new guy came into the picture or keep or do less time so he doesnt get too close to her?

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 13, 2017

if she denies it then act like there’s no other guy and do a full 30 day nc.. you have to slowly build rapport and attraction after it.. improve yourself so that whether there’s a new guy or not, you’re different. You can’t build attraction if you don’t improve and if you focus on her dating other guys..

ricardo

May 12, 2017

Yes, im trying the advice. But i’ve heard from our mutual friend that everytime she asks her about me, she ignores the questions and she also denies having anything to do with this other guy, but i doubt that she’s telling the truth. I know theres is probably something going on, but im willing to forgive and forget about that if she just gave me another chance. Should i do 30 days no contact like you suggested before this new guy came into the picture or keep or do less time so he doesnt get too close to her?

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 13, 2017

if she denies it then act like there’s no other guy and do a full 30 day nc.. you have to slowly build rapport and attraction after it.. improve yourself so that whether there’s a new guy or not, you’re different. You can’t build attraction if you don’t improve and if you focus on her dating other guys..

ricardo

May 11, 2017

My ex girlfriend broke up with me one month ago, we dated for 11 months. I found out through a mutual friend that one of her guy friends that she already knew while we were dating (but showed no interest in) is trying to get her to be his. Her friend said that it seems that she is actually falling for him, and i feel like they’re getting too close. Its been only one month since the breakup and we dated for 11 months. Is she using him as a rebound? What should i do?

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017

can be.. do you want to try the advice above?

Martin

May 10, 2017

HI im 25 and my exGF is 23, i was with my girlfriend 1,5 year and we lived together for 9 months. 5 days before we broke up, she met her friend that always told that he wants her. She started dating him 7 days after our breakup. I really dont understand because she always said that she want, tall man, with darker hair and facial hair and all her boyfriends before were like that including me, and she hated when someone smoke weed. This one is small and smoke weed, but this guy is the best friend of her bestfriend boyfriend. So they helped to that relationship a bit. The weird thing is that we were meeting with her for whole month and she acting like she doesnt know what to choose, she kissed me seducely every time we met and acting like we were in our relationship but sometimes brings up old drama of our break up and we argued, but i act needy and pushy, i think that was my big mistake. 4 days ago she was with me and she acted like she want to come back to me, but today she posted that she is in relationship with this new guy… please help me what to do i want her back. I know thats this is rebound and i think i really donwgrade my values last days so she choose him instead of me.

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017

are you going to do the no contact rule?

Aaron

May 10, 2017

So dated this girl i grew up with after re-kindling it yrs later, she was my sisters friend.We dated just short of a yr and broke up cause she had a kid and i live 3 hrs away and neither thought we could move to each other. Sad for us both. We stay in constant communication just havent seen each other for a month. i come to realize i want to move home and want to figure this out with work. So i reach out to her and ask yo spend a weekend together she agrees she would like that. 3 days later says she shouldn’t see me she has been on a couple dates. When she agreed to meet she said one date. So i explain everything to her and we go back and forth for two weeks her saying she is sad this sucks, but saying she “can’t right now” but misses me etc. Made a comment new guy treats her like a queen. 2 weeks later i am home visiting and we still are chattiing. i have gotten litte upset in those two weeks but ultimate wrote her a letter that she received the friday i got home. it made her cry and sad etc. Saturday she invites me to pick up my dogs toys left there (this has never been mentioned). so i go we hug and i tell her how i realized all this while apart and was working to move home etc etc and i was ready to move to be more of a step dad etc. She looks like a deer in the headlight, we kiss and mess around and she gets real upset crying saying she cheated. Like crazy and i comfort her and we talk she says she has two guys who want to marry her and etc. she even made comment about how she was emotional and attractive to me but maybe thats because i was just there. I ask if she loves me and she hesitantly says its not the same. I ask if she is done and its same hesitant node yes. I live saying i love her an di know she loves me. 2 days later i email saying if she needs time that is ok, i just need to know and that everything i said was real. she emails me says she told the guy what happen he forgave her and they were moving forward and blocked all communication to me. I screwed up and sent a couple emails verify to her i was approved from work to WAH and move home and a few more about how she made me realize things. No response. I sent one final email saying everything and etc and kinda left it as i loved you and want a second chance but best of luck as well. they have been together ,maybe 3 weeks but 2 of those were before the night i was with her. Did i screw up? Is this a rebound what should I do now?

Aaron

so we have been broken up 7 weeks total but 3 weeks ago i started trying to get back to her but she must have just started dating this guy

EGR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017

looks like a grass is greener.. are you going to do the no contact rule?

Tony Le

May 7, 2017

Hi there, I need some help with my relationship. Recently, I discovered my girlfriend having an online emotional cheating on me with another guy from another state on Skype for 1 month. First, I confronted her but she kept denying. I decided to break up with her and walk away. She tried to hold me back and asked “can we be friend? I still want you in my life”. I said no and been using No Contact method for a week. However, I came back to her house to ask her back. She said no and she does not seem to be sorry. She told me “I don’t want to see you anymore. I don’t love you anymore. You should move on”. My question is do I still have possibility to get back with her? Is this guy a rebound? What should I do in my case?

EGR Team Member: Amor

Mike

April 23, 2017

So my ex girlfriend and I were together for almost 4 years. I broke up with her in late february this year. 1-2 months later has a new boyfriend, younger than her, kinda looks like me…but she is buying him expensive sneakers and saying she LOVES him all over instagram. Is it possible that This situation is still a rebound? He does not seem to publicly state on social media that he loves her back either.

EGR Team Member: Amor

April 23, 2017

Yes, it’s possible that he’s a rebound

Jim

April 14, 2017

Hi What if with in the 30 days she goes on dates and finds another boyfriend I’m guessing it’s still another rebound for her to jump in to if so to deal with the pain, not sure, my question is will that hinder my chances if once I start contacting her again if she is with someone else even if it’s a fling or few weeks dating, is hope all lost or is the best course of action still the same, what do I have to do there and I’m still confused on how to show her I have changed, it doesn’t seem I can do that until I get her on the phone or go on a date with her. Thank you for any advice 10 days in to no contact, 3 months since break up and 1 month since the end of her first rebound, was wondering if she would jump in to rebound again or am I on thin ice here to get her back because I’ve been out of her life for so long now, with in the last 3 months we haven’t talked at all and went I have it’s been about business and the house I can never get her to talk about much else. 4 year relationship, I know what went all wrong and willing to fix myself and become to guy she always wants me to be but right now I think all she sees is the old me and that should would go back to that, I think she thinks every other boy is better then me right now could be her looking for what we had and what she wanted, I feel like she’s jumping looking and trying to make her self feel fantastic and great like she is the best thing in the world I’m not sure if that’s just her because she was like that anyway but this seems more heighten then I’ve even seen, do you think this is a copping mechanism to handle break up or something else?. So I’m doing 30 days no contact 3 months in from break up, little worried it’s a little to late but still have hope, she jumped out of a rebound relationship a month, now I really want this to work so no contact for 30 days then contact. Is there anything different we should be doing if it’s a grass greener on the other side situation or her jumping in to another relationship or dating? Before NC should have never wanted to talk on the phone or even see each other with in the last 3 months, I don’t know what that means? Even those we have a house pets and stuff to split up still, what does mean, is it too hard for her to talk to me is that why she doesn’t want to do is mean she still has deep feeling and she doesn’t want to them to come to the surface if we talk or see each other in person, I really don’t know cheers for help

EGR Team Member: Amor

April 16, 2017

The important thing is that she gets interested in you again..If she is in a rebound, then all the more that you should focus in improving yourself so that she will think you’ve moved on and won’t hesitate on being friendly again

Steve

April 4, 2017

I have been with my ex girlfriend for 4 year this March. March was the hardest month ever in my life. We are both in our final years of college and we met during the first month of Freshman Year. First, I liked her as a friend than I told her I really enjoy her company and want her to be my girlfriend. We dated for a month than she broke up with me during winter break of our Freshman year. Than she start seeing another guy in Feb to March in the spring of next year. Than she leave him for me and I give her another chance. Fast forward to this semester of our final year in college, she grow distance and seem to lost interested in me. She came back from spring break, she told me she want a break from our relationship. Than 2 week later she broke up with me. She say she still love me but our relationship is not a boyfriend level, she only love me as a friend and is her number one trustworthy guy. She told me on March 11 before spring break, she went to the bar with her girlfriend. A guy approach her and they seem to click. And she miss him a lot. Even though she had only met him once at the bar.

Do you think that she is using him as a rebound relationship like the second guy than come back to me? Also how should I approach about this? Should I just move on with my life?

EGR Team Member: Amor

Steve

Steve

April 6, 2017

The 21 day no contact?

EGR Team Member: Amor

April 10, 2017

Yes, you can try the 21 days.. it means she finds the other guy better in some way..

John

March 18, 2017

I bought your texting guide and the full ex girlfriend recovery guide. It has been 4 weeks (we dated for 3 half months) since us breaking up, and it has been 22 day of NC. She went back to online dating two weeks ago and has started to talk to this guy for two weeks. I messaged her today and I got a two good positive response, then I implemented the day ones strategy of ending the text. Her last text seems neutral but more negative as she said “This is all incredibly out the blue and little confusing.I just assumed you’ve moved on as have I”. What do you make of this message?

EGR Team Member: Amor

March 19, 2017

Hi John,

what was the text you sent?

John

March 19, 2017

I texted her, “You said that you hoped I would move on so that we could be friends several weeks ago. Well I am ready to be friends now, but it looks like your circumstances has changed. I understand and respect this, but if you like someone to talk to, or go to the cinema, give me a text”. I know she went on a first date today with this guy she started to talk to two weeks ago. I’m going to a mini one week NC and give her a text to see how she is. Other than that I don’t know what to do.

EGR Team Member: Amor

March 27, 2017

dont ask to be friends, nor ask permission about something, just be friendly

John

March 9, 2017

Hey. So my girlfriend and I went out for three months and she broke it up 3 weeks ago. I went into NC with her two weeks (13 days ago) and I had received a text 4days in to NC that she misses talking to me (not the same as I miss you I don’t’ think). Anyway, my friend found out that she is back doing online dating again! Isn’t this bit too fast?

EGR Team Member: Amor

March 19, 2017

Hi John,

what was the text you sent?

Lisa

February 27, 2017

sI have a question now this is a bit complicated. I have a best friend who’s daughter was friends with my son known each other for 20 years and hung out. When her daughter moved to another state she had a relationship with someone else for 4 years, they broke up. She got back in contact with my son and they started a relationship. She tried to slow things down and eventually just wanted to be friends but will get back together in the future. Secretly though they were still together. Then they officially broke up, she sai he was just a rebound, she is now over her ex and got in another relationship within 2 weeks I believe another rebound.. My son treated her really well gave her roses went out on dates basically dropped everything to be with her. What’s the chances of them getting back together.

EGR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2017

Hi Lisa,

sorry, I just want to make it clear. Who was secretly together? and did she say your son is a rebound to your son or to you? Honestly it’s hard to say from your point of view because we don’t know what they really talked about. But if she’s telling the truth, does your son want to try the no contact rule?

Lisa

March 1, 2017

My son was secretly still together with this girl after they told family they had broken up, she wanted the pressure off from family. My son was the rebound apparently after she broke up with her ex within a few weeks. She would tell me she was falling for my son but then when they officially broke up told me he was a rebound, she made a mistake and didn’t know what she was doing. I was very confused as they have known each other for years and the way they communicated, looked at each other seemed real. She would even come to our place to surprise him . Well anyway she met someone else within a couple of weeks, and my son has no contact and I struggle to trust her.

EGR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2017

well, it’s up to your son.. It’s his decision. I’m sure he knows a lot that you don’t. You have to let this go and let him decide about it.

AL

February 22, 2017

I have one for you that’s complicated, and I want some input. I dated and lived with my ex for 1 year and 4 months, after we broke up, we continued to live together for the next 2 years, due to us being in a lease together, In those 2 years we still were intimate, and I still felt like I was in the “relationship” (Foot rubs, cooking dinner, sex…etc.) But to her we “were not together”. But she would accuse me of talking to other women, which I was not doing while we were broken up and would give me an attitude and treat me like I was being unfaithful. While we were broken up I tried to have a strictly platonic friendship with a female coworker who was engaged and she made me feel guilty about it, so I lied to her and told her that I didn’t really talk to this co worker anymore just so I didn’t have to feel guilty. Also when we spilt 2 years ago, I had typed out all of my negative emotions of the relationship into a journal and left them on a file on computer, well she found them and got upset and now still till this day holds that over my head. Now after a big fight I decided to move out and within a months time, she is now in a new relationship and says she is very happy,

EGR Team Member: Amor

how long has it been since you moved out? Do you want to try the no contact rule?

AL

February 23, 2017

I moved out on Jan, 11th and I don’t know how well no contact will work because of the child that is involved.

EGR Team Member: Amor

February 24, 2017

that means you have to do minimal contact. You can only talk to her about the child other than that focus in improving yourself and don’t initiate small talk.

Al

February 25, 2017

I can try that, but I also had been going to see a therapist to deal with the depression, he said just to move on because it’s obvious that she has already and was done with the relationship a long time ago. I almost feel like throwing in the towel

AL

February 25, 2017

I also had picked up a copy of PRO and I noticed that there isn’t a section in there on how a strategy for getting back if you share kids AND they started seeing someone else. I’ve seen the two separate topics but nothing yet to the point of both of them together

EGR Team Member: Amor

February 26, 2017

Take it like that. If she moved on, she has to think you are too for her to be open on starting over as friends again. Don’t ask to be friends, just be friendly and continue improving yourself even after nc. This link is from the exboyfriend recovery but you can still use the advice in it:Get Your Boyfriend Back If You Have A Child Together

AL

February 26, 2017

Does that also apply if she is already in another relationship? I would love to re attract her, but I just don’t think it’s possible because of her new guy

EGR Team Member: Amor

February 26, 2017

Yeah, you have good memories, they don’t. So, focus in improving yourself because that’s what helps.

Jonas

January 26, 2017

My ex-gf of 2.5 years broke up with me a month ago, and I’m currently in week 3 of NC. For the last year we had issues in the bedroom after a night of partying and her initiating sex that she didn’t remember. She says she felt like I took advantage of her. She got a new boyfriend two weeks ago, and she doesn’t have the same bedroom hangup issues with him as she did with me. She’s a chronic relationship jumper, but all over her relationships have been over a year. However, she’s 22 and he’s 17. What are the chances she’s in a rebound and what are my chances of getting her back? I got a new job, moved out on my own to a nice area, and have been working out regularly. She seems head over heels with him right now and is making a lot of comparisons (and he’s winning) so I don’t want to reach out yet, but I don’t want to wait too long either.

EGR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2017

Hi Jonas,

he’s probably a rebound but how is he winning, in what way?

Jonas

January 28, 2017

Hey Amor, thanks for getting back to me. She likes that he’s tall and white, whereas I’m her height, and asian. She’s comparing me to him sexually in a lot of ways, saying she’s more comfortable doing things with him than she was with me, or that she’s never been so aroused by someone before. Or saying that he actually stops when she asks him to, unlike me, which is untrue. The biggest comparison is that she’s surprised they’re having sex at all, since for the last six months of our relationship her libido was way down. I’m at the 19 day NC mark and I’m not sure I can compete with how obsessed they are with each other right now.

EGR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2017

that’s probably just because they’re in the honeymoon phase. That’s physical.. so keep working out but also work in your self esteem

Jonas

January 29, 2017

Okay, thanks. Should I reach out at the 21 day mark or wait until until the end of their honeymoon period? I want to wait for her negative feelings and resentment to subside but I don’t want to give them too much time together either.

EGR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2017

dont just wait..give the other guy a good competition by your improvements.. I think you should do 30 days and then slowly rebuild rapport after..

Daniel

December 3, 2016

Hey so I’m a rather weird situation. I wasn’t in love with my girlfriend so I dumped her after a year and a half. I treated her like a queen but was consistently alpha and honestly I gave her an amazing time and she was head over heels for me. So much so she told me she was in love with me like twice. ALSO we lost our virginity to each other which was a beautiful intense experience for me thus why I still think about her. Does that give me bonus points? Anyways I dumped her for other girls etc. Now its been a whole year and 3 months and I never contacted her at all. Literally nothing just one text checking up 6 months later. She has been with her current boyfriend for a year as well. HOWEVER, he is a long distance relationship. Also they got together about 3 months after we broke up. I was only a bad boyfriend to her in the last like two weeks of the relationship simply cuz I wasn’t giving her much attention and going out without her because I was getting ready to break up. It seems like I’m in a very high value situation but I want your input where you guys think I stand since my situation is a bit unique. Should I wait till he leaves town back to school and just starting texting her and trying to build rappor or is my situation rather dire? Seems to me I’m in a good spot if the guy is long distance and it seems to me he was a rebound because he liked her in high school. But she waited 2/3 months for the year and a half we were together so maybe it’s not a rebound. Also they’ve been together for a year (but long distance). I just want to play it safe since I have a lot of value on my side. Also I have really good game and in general do get girls. Honestly, she was just such an amazing person that I want to get in touch again and just see where it goes, but I don’t wanna mess the chance up. Thanks!