FYI @Ant E, I'm not sticking up with her because I'm great friends with her. I actually haven't spoken to her since H*rry-gate (not to be confused with Harrogate).

Other than people who were actually involved in subsequent arguments - and the mod - she was the only person I reached out to off-forum with my own version of what happened. As far as I could tell she sided more with Harry, which was a blow.

Still, I don't think it's appropriate or fair to post graphic speculation about the sex lives of ex-regulars. Especially not when it's meant to be a family-friendly forum. And I would have clicked the "report" button whoever it was about.

So yes, in that context, I thought the word was offensive, and I was grateful when you edited the post