Finding Friends – I’m On a Mission

So in light of my post the other day, I am on a mission to find awesome people to be friends with. I know they are out there, because I have two or three who are really awesome. As I started thinking about them, and how much I really like them, I started making a mental list of things I am looking for and things I want to avoid. All people sometimes suck. I really do believe that, but there are people who mostly don’t suck. . .them I want to find.

Here are some traits my awesome friends have:

They can sympathize with me when hurt, but keep me in check when I get too negative

They love to laugh, and dance, and drink wine or beer or something ( I think this is what keeps them sane)

They are edgy, a little bit on the dark side, but not cave dwellers

Life has roughed them up enough that they know life is hard, but they have decided to keep fighting anyway

They love to read (there are days I just need to bury my head in a book and they get it)

They are open minded. We all need to keep learning things everyday and as we do, our worldview grows and expands and I need them to be able to keep up with change and not always fight it

Here are some traits my awesome friends don’t have:

They aren’t mean just to be mean

They aren’t overly judgmental; they can make up their mind, but they want you to do you and me to do me

They don’t really want to talk about other people, just about me and them, which is fine

They don’t hold every angry word ever said against me, and I don’t against them either, shit happens, we forgive and forget and move on

They aren’t passive aggressive, they say what they mean and mean what they say

There is plenty more, and I need to think about it longer . . . but I am going to work really hard on being more like my awesome friends and look for more people like them. I do realize that my friendships are only as good as me. What I nourish will grow and what I neglect will whither and die, both in myself and in my life.