Just the latest in a long line of crap...aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh how can he be so bitter and nasty and evil...he has gotten worse, he truly has, am in court in april again then going for progression in may..Solicitor reckons it will be done and dusted by the end of the year...no matter what he does...fingers crossed

Rainbow I agree with you, its not fair being made to suffer for 4 years, why cant they hurry up divorces, hurry up the delays in the whole system...Tired of all the fighting now to be honest

Thank you for your continuation of support, advice, private shoulder to cry on, you are a star. xxx

I have good news, my divorce petition goes in at long last next week, been a long, lonely, tough road.

Ongoing crap, lies etc re ex but will all come out in wash soon and then I and kids can at last close that door and get on with our lives, 4 years is far too long to wait, this country has got to get it's act together re any lone parent doing this alone after all we went thru.

MEND ( Men Ending Domestic Abuse)Q. How Do I find out more.A. By contacting the following in your area

Carlow/Kilkenny 086-8751 131 9.30 to 5p.m

South Tipperary 087-91566 32 9.30 to 5p.m

Waterford 086-8167798 9.30 to 5p.m

Wexford; Phil 053-9142 076 ORAndrew 086-107 5449 9.30 to 5.00pm

DON'T forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

take care of yourself's and keep Talking...

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

don''t forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

i hope you never need but...

better safe than sorry xxxx

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

Happy Mothers Day.therealme, you are better off with your ds not having overnight access, you'd only be awake most of the night worrying about his welfare. Thats the way I look at it, at least I know my kids are safe and being looked after and treated well, not shoved in the back of the car like an accessory to impress some new girlfirend.Happy Mother's Day to all the brilliant, resiliant mothers out there who suffer in silence, day in day out for their children's sake and put them first. A happy and strong Mum makes happy and strong kids.

life is great Thanks! One year on and freedom is fantastic, little fellow is very good and I don't have to see or deal with my ex at all which is fantastic. Dating again so am enjoying being treated well and wined and dined. Think I might be a Cougar!! To all those in the midst of the shite, there is a fantastic life far away from constant abuse wearing you down, keep going :-)

If you are experiencing domestic Violence, Please visit www.safeireland.ieA refuge is a safe house where women who are experiencing domestic violence can live safely while they decide what to do next. There is no time limit for how long you can stay in a refuge. If you have children, you can take them with you and you can choose to stay in a refuge as close to or far away from your home as you wish. You may consider moving to a refuge near friends or family.There are some refuges that have self-contained family units but most refuges will usually give you your own room for yourself to share with your children at the refuge and other spaces - the living room, TV room, kitchen, playroom and possibly the bathroom - will be shared with other refuge residents. You will be expected to cook for yourself and your children. Many refuges have disabled access and workers who can assist women and children who have special needs.You can stay at the refuge for as long as you need, this can be anything from a few days to several months. The refuge will help you if you need to find somewhere permanent to stay. While you are staying in the refuge, you will be offered ongoing support and help from refuge workers, while most refuges also offer support and activities for children. Ongoing help and support is also available when you leave the refuge.There are a network of domestic violence refuges and support services in Ireland. If you do not want to go into a refuge, most organisations offer support, outreach and helpline services to women to allow them to talk over their situation and make the best decisions for them and their children. Some organisations also offer support groups and programmes for children. Contacting your nearest domestic violence service for information and support is a vital first step. They can also help you with safety planning and explain your legal options.There are over forty domestic violence refuges and support services in Ireland for women and their children. To find your nearest refuge or support service log onto www.safeireland.ie . Alternatively contact your local Garda station or phone the Women’s Aid Helpline on 1800 341900

MEND ( Men Ending Domestic Abuse)Q. How Do I find out more.A. By contacting the following in your area

Carlow/Kilkenny 086-8751 131 9.30 to 5p.m

South Tipperary 087-91566 32 9.30 to 5p.m

Waterford 086-8167798 9.30 to 5p.m

Wexford; Phil 053-9142 076 ORAndrew 086-107 5449 9.30 to 5.00pm

DON'T forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

take care of yourself's and keep Talking...

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

don''t forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

i hope you never need but...

better safe than sorry xxxx

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

Actually I had been speaking with a woman from Aoibhneas womens refuge, an outreach worker, who had been a great help to me after my seperation. But after a few meetings with her I knew I wanted to really get stuff about my marriage off my chest. She gave me list of counsellors in the area I lived and I got an appt very promptly.One thing I should note is to always remember that you might not like the first counsellor you meet! If after the 3rd visit you think the counselling is crap it might be the counsellor! Try another, but do give them at least 3 visits before going to someone else.I remember my first visit, got tongue tied trying to tell some of my story, which I was mortified telling a stranger btw! But on my second visit I felt less embarrassed, she made is so easy for me to talk.And it was great talking to someone who didnt know my ex, who didnt feel sorry for him ! My ex was a street angel/house devil. People found it hard to believe he was capable of domestic violence but the counsellor had no pre-concieved ideas. I told her EVERYTHING by the end, even the sexual abuse. She didnt judge me in any way, and listened to everything I had to say and when she thought I needed help she would ask a question or 2, mostly about how things made me feel. By the end of the counselling I spoke about MY feelings. I would recommend it fully! YOU time is so important, esp after suffering any form of abuse!I seperated 4 years ago Rae and life is great for me and my 2 DS. But my abuse stopped 3 years ago when my ex decided to quit this life. Another story, another thread.

Hi brendz10, hope the counselling going good for you. I went to a counsellor for a few months, like you it got to the stage I thought I couldnt cope any longer and I got the number of a very nice counsellor. It was the best thing I did , and as it turned out I was going to her the same time as some of the hardest bits I had to go through after my seperation.It was great 'me' time, a full hour a week where it was all for me lol I kept going until I ran out of 'stuff' to deal with. Well worth the time and money.

MEND ( Men Ending Domestic Abuse)Q. How Do I find out more.A. By contacting the following in your area

Carlow/Kilkenny 086-8751 131 9.30 to 5p.m

South Tipperary 087-91566 32 9.30 to 5p.m

Waterford 086-8167798 9.30 to 5p.m

Wexford; Phil 053-9142 076 ORAndrew 086-107 5449 9.30 to 5.00pm

DON'T forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

take care of yourself's and keep Talking...

always hereRae Posted: 21/01/2010lol - about job

hows the kids ?brendz10 Posted: 21/01/2010Rae

Thanks for ur reply, I am well and safe, still battling ex in court...but yes im fine, tho a job wud be great...Am so bored its not funny anymore!!!Rae Posted: 21/01/2010i hope you never need but...

better safe than sorry xxxx

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

don''t forget to clean your pc after each use

http://www.ehow.com/how_6075_delete-browsers-history.html

i hope you never need but...

better safe than sorry xxxx

here are some tips should you be in a position to need them.

for women and men

Domestic Violence Escape Kit

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

Dad still playing his games, rarely speak to them now..I take comfort from the fact he cant keep his lies up forever and peopl ehave started coming to me telling me what he is saying, hard but I try not let it get to me..Havent seen them in ages, and feck all courts can do cos of their ages..

He is very nasty about the whole situation and its his way or no way, so i just give up to be honest..

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....

Hello to all. I am sorry that I have not been online for some time. Last time I was on I was celebrating my anniversary one year on from leaving an abusive relationship. At present life is great. We have no more crisis or traumas only challenges – who hasn’t them? Santa visited us both this year and brought me the best present ever. My son’s maturity. The way he dealt with his own challenges’ this Christmas. His understanding of life which is incredible for an eight year old boy. The best is his ability to think for himself and to have his own thoughts. This is so important to me as this was an impossibility for over twenty years; I was expected to have the same thoughts and attitudes as my ex. I was not entitled to an opinion. He owned us both; we were just extensions of him.To anyone out there living in the misery of abuse, believing that you are to blame and that in fact you are trapped with no way out. I urge you to talk, just talk. To a friend or family (if you are not too isolated) or pick up the phone and ring one of the numbers that Rae is so great at posting. The numbers are not just for women or men who end up with broken limbs. Mental abuse is so much worse, the shame, quilt and blame can be crippling. Nobody is going to expect you to leave. People on the other end of the line will listen and understand, they go with the stage you are at. You will not be expected to do anything you don’t want to. I believe that if I had to ring one of those numbers years ago my life would have been so much more bearable. If you decide to remain in your relationship for whatever reason you need even more support.

Essex girl I am delighted that you and your kids are doing so great. Well done to you. It’s great that you have come so far in such a short time without any counseling or help. Me I had to grab everything that I could. I would have found it very hard to move on without all the support. There is help out there, seek it out. I found the hardest part was once I had the safety and barring order sorted, our safety wasn’t my main concern anymore. It was a lonely place, self-doubt started to creep in. This was when I needed the most support, I was lucky to receive it.I was listening to the Three Tenors sing Ellis Island today. I could really relate to the words. The new isle was one of hope and fears the one they left behind (never to be revisited) full of hunger (spiritual) and pain (mental physical etc etc). There is fear in moving into the unknown but as I’ve come to realize Life is not for the faint hearted.Happy New Year to you all.

Pack a survival kit.Money for cab fareA change of clothesExtra house and car keysBirth certificatesDriver’s license or passportMedications and copies of prescriptionsInsurance informationCheckbookCredit cardsLegal documents such as separation agreements and protection ordersAddress booksValuable jewelryPapers that show jointly owned assetsConceal it in the home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Important papers can also be left in a bank deposit box.

Identify safe areas of the house. Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts.Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window.

Be prepared to leave at a moment’s notice. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly.Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example).

Practice escaping quickly and safely. Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser. If you have children, have them practice the escape plan also.

Come up with a code word.Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

hopefully you may never need to use the above advise but better safe....