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I really believe that it goes without saying, but you shouldn’t be denying your significant other or that you’re in a relationship and you shouldn’t be flirting with people in comments and dms (for all that you might as well be single). It’s pretty hard to know if your significant other is trying to keep you a secret unless you going into their social media to check which is something I do not suggest. At the end of the day, more important than social media etiquette is trust within the relationship.

The truth only stays hidden for so long.

Two topics, one post: It’s fine to appreciate the love couples share through social media because it’s positive and beautiful. It’s also okay to find inspiration in it, to want to be loved with the an equal intensity, but attempting to mimic your relationship after two other individuals is like setting yourself up to fail. The beauty of love and relationships is the bond you share with the person. There’s somebody out there for everyone and the time will come when you’ll feel so overwhelmingly loved; wait for that.

Both of you need to be devoted to one another and the relationship in order for things to work; you can’t try and apply this in a relationship where you already know or feel you aren’t respected or valued because you’d just be wasting your time and adding insult to injury and vice versa. Devotion can easily be identified through the things that occur within the relationship; words can be deceiving and potential isn’t enough, if he/she isn’t making you and the relationship a priority then the devotion is absent.

Be honest with yourself in your relationship

We’re past the high school and below years of friendships, we are no longer in our teens so there is no reason that we should be tolerating “childish behavior” from anyone in our lives. It’s time to cut people off the moment you’re unhappy with the relationship and stop thinking longevity is equivalent to loyalty because when it comes down to it, anyone can f-ck you over at any time. Don’t hold people on a pedestal. Don’t put anything past anyone.