Honey, we live in a world where if a woman has sex with more than one man at a time. she is a slut. mean while society expects a man to have sex with mutliple women.

Yes and that is the way of the world - always has been and always will be.

Men are designed to pollinate 'flowers' and to go from bud to bud .. basically their hormones drive them to have sex as much as possible. It's nature's way of keeping the species alive.

Women are designed to 'nest' and be selective as to who to fetilize their eggs. They want the most desirable candidate so they can get pregnant and raise a family with this person. But their hormones are not telling them to have sex as much as possible. Nooo.

This is why men can have sex with a lot of girls and be normal ... but for a woman NOT to have that selective instinct and to have sex like a man ... (which often subconsciously signals that something is off about her) causes her to be called a whore. Another reason guys will sleep with whores but typicllly they don't marry them. Who wants to be married to some flawed individual - particually in terms of their sexuality?

And if he committed a crime which landed him in prison ... the relationship/marriage would be over.

I would never saddle myself with a guy sitting in prison for years fighting and likely having sex with other men ... and when he gets out - then what? He will have a criminal record so he can't get a decent job, can't get a passport etc .. ever so he will be out but miserable.

So then you are stuck living a kind of half life with this fool.

No. If he breaks the law ... he breaks our relationship and all bets are off.

I felt the same way until my s/o went to jail and I feel kind of dumb for saying I would never do it

Still, I would never stay with him. This doesn't mean I would SNAP fall out of love with him no, but it's about self-preservation. I would never be living in that situation.

If I was stupid enough to land in prison (never gonna happen) ... I would initiate divorce proceedings myself.

It's just not fair to the person on outside - why mess up TWO lives? Nevvver.

I never wanted children and made sure I never even got pregnant but, no, I still kept my knees together for a quality man ... because he's not gonna want to bring home a girl that is in the habit of 'giving it away' to a bunch of other guys. Nooo.

Do you think Barack would have saddled himself with Michelle if she had a history of sleeping around and droping babies? Noooo he would have .. moved on.

But yes, a woman CAN have more than one sex partner at a time .. it's s free country - no one will stop you. :) Though to the average guy and to most women ... she will just be a whore.

It's interestong that every generation thinks THIS generation will be different than the last one in terms of how men and women relate. Like there is something new going on now. :) I thought my mother was just an old lady back when I was growing up ... but in the end - she was right. Some things can change (women in certain jobs, making money etc) but in terms of affaire de cœur (affairs of the heart) between a man and a woman - some things never change.

It's in our DNA - we are hardwired for certain things. I think you are making a huge mistake if you believe otherwise. Huge.

(shrugs) Maybe it's not so fair but men and women are not the same - never will be. There has never been a time in all these past 100,000 years within any (at least) Western culture ... where this was not true. Never.

And if he committed a crime which landed him in prison ... the relationship/marriage would be over.

I would never saddle myself with a guy sitting in prison for years fighting and likely having sex with other men ... and when he gets out - then what? He will have a criminal record so he can't get a decent job, can't get a passport etc .. ever so he will be out but miserable.

So then you are stuck living a kind of half life with this fool.

No. If he breaks the law ... he breaks our relationship and all bets are off.

I felt the same way until my s/o went to jail and I feel kind of dumb for saying I would never do it

it is always easier to say something then to actually do it . It depends on the person but I think you should ask yourself would he do the same for you ?

No he would NOT but I know he would sure as hell lie and make it seem like he was lol

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