I'm a little nervous about telling my family

That I am already pregnant again. I'm 11 weeks, due may 13'th. DH and I are very excited to be having Irish twins but, I'm afraid our families ( mostly my mil) will have a lot of negative things to say therefore taking away from some of the excitement . We haven't told anyone yet. I feel like I belong on that show secretly pregnant, lol. Anyone with Irish twins have families that weren't supportive ?

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Well congrats mama! We are done having babies but I can somewhat understand how u feel. If you guys are not depending on them financially or for babysitting then it's really none of their business. It will probably take some time for the shock to wear off but I'm sure they will warm up to the idea that they are having another grandchild. Good luck!

I agree with Hoping4third. If they aren't helping you as she suggested then it's none of their business. If you and DH are over the moon...Congrats!

Just do your kids a favor and make sure to explain birthdays, etc. and make sure each child has at least something that is his/her own so there isn't animosity later on. The only time my in-laws acknowledged that DH was the oldest is when they coursed him into being "a good example" so they wouldn't have to parent the younger two. He and BIL were always made to share birthday & X-mas gifts because they Irish twins. He also doesn't have a lot of childhood stuff as DMIL put everything into BIL's baby box claiming it was his when in reality he was just the last one to really play with it. (MIL and FIL are both 4th born and resent their 1st born siblings.)

i agree with pp. if you dont depend on them, its not their business.
my grandma had the nerve to tell me to get on BC after i had this LO. we had ours 22 months apart. idk y she said that, bc she had 8 kids in 10 years. we want one more, but now i will be uncomfortable telling her when the time comes, bc of her comment.
i think its exciting that yours are so close. i would love that...but pregnancy kicks my ass, so i cant have them that close.

We were close with doing that too. Our 3rd and 4th are 13 months apart. My dad called my husband an obscene word and my mother was really suprised. We got a lot of the "pregnant again!?" Especially since it was our 4th child. Everyone was good about it once it sunk in and got more and more excited about it as the pregnancy went on. It's definately scary to tell people, but it is an exciting thing! Congrats!!!

My first two are 16 months apart and, thankfully, our families didn't have anything negative to say about them being so close together. But that also might be because DH and I didn't find out we were pregnant with #2 until I was 20 weeks (but that's a whole other story!!). My grandma was negative when I told her we were expecting #3, responding with "oh, shit" when I told her the news. So, she was the only family member I was nervous to tell when we found out we were expecting #4 ( and to everyone's surprise #5 as well!). I know she just thought my plate was full enough with working full time and already having 3 kids, and in her mind the last thing I needed was more work. But now that they are here, I know that none of our family would change a thing! Good Luck! I think if your family knows that you and your DH are excited about having another LO so close together, they should be happy for you.