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Be an Alpha Male - Take Control of your lifeFri, 01 Mar 2019 12:53:53 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.10Alpha vs Beta Maleshttps://danjur.com/?p=1906
https://danjur.com/?p=1906#respondFri, 01 Mar 2019 12:53:53 +0000http://danjur.com/?p=1906A common question To Be Alpha gets is “What is the difference between an alpha and beta male?”

To a lot of people that don’t know the characteristics of an alpha male or the traits of a beta male, they assume an alpha male is just a jock or a jerk. We discuss this in the myth of the alpha male.

There’s nothing wrong with being a beta male if you are happy. No one needs to be an alpha male just as no one needs to be a beta male – it’s a choice. However, we’re going to show the pros and cons of being alpha vs beta.

Contrary to popular believe, there are some pros of being beta. This isn’t a bias website that believes every man (or women) needs to be a cookie cutter alpha male.

The Difference Between Alpha and Beta Males

Alpha Males Are:

Confident – alpha males tend to think very highly of themselves. They aren’t always right or perfect, but they always believe in their own ability and themselves no matter what.

Not Embarrassed Easily – alpha males don’t worry too much about other people’s opinions. If they did they would never speak up, do what they want, or go against social norms.

Masculine – alpha males are men. They come in all shapes and sizes but have common traits: leaders, dominant personalities, comfortable around the opposite sex, etc.

Take What He Wants Attitude – alpha males are not jerks or rude but they believe they are entitled, this allows them to do things and request things an ordinary person would not.

Direct and Honest – alpha males are not afraid to speak their mind. If they need something, they will tell you. They don’t hide behind a lot of fluff when they are talking to you. They tell you things you might not want to hear.

Social – alpha males have a dynamic personality that allow them to connect with all types of people.

Take Chances – alpha males are risk takers (big or small). They aren’t afraid to fail because they know that success comes from taking chances.

Beta Males Are

Nice guys – beta males are some of the nicest people you will ever meet. They help you when you need help, they are courteous and pleasant to be around.

May Question Their Ability – beta males lack the confidence alpha males have. There are times that beta males will second guess themselves or make excuses to not do something even though they are fully capable. They just don’t always realize their potential.

Worry About What Others Think – beta males are usually restricted in life because they care too much about what other people think. This includes family, friends and strangers. These external factors limit what a beta male does and the choices he makes in life.

Puts The Needs of Others First – this isn’t a bad thing, but beta males put the needs of others ahead of their own. They are very giving people and unselfish.

Secretive – beta males don’t always make their desires known to others. Beta males have secrets they keep to themselves including their career aspirations, dreams, and sexual desires. This is usually due to not wanting to be judged by others and may be due to lack of self-confidence.

Common Misconceptions

Alpha vs. Beta Males – who dresses better?

There’s an idea out there that all beta males don’t know how to dress. And I want to debunk this myth.

Although there are plenty of men that do not know how to dress or have any sense of style whatsoever, there are also many men that understand fashion very well. So don’t think you need to overhaul your style if you have beta male traits – it’s not always the case.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Who makes more money?

Beta males are considered hard workers. Alpha males are considered leaders.

Money does not make you alpha or beta. But it should be noted that the idea that hard work is how you get ahead in life isn’t the smartest way to think. Smart work and being driven is more likely to advance you in life than just trying to work hard to prove yourself to others.

Alpha males are competitive individuals and are driven individuals. They are more likely to go after what they want than a beta male. Does this make their wealthier in the long run? Maybe.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Who is happier?

Both beta and alpha males can be happy. It’s the struggling alpha or the struggling beta male that is unhappy. It’s up to you if you want to be happy or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re alpha or beta.

Alpha vs. Beta males – Are all beta males pushovers?

Far from it. Beta males might not speak their mind or talk back often but this doesn’t mean they will just be bullied or do as they are told. They fight back in their own ways such as ignoring people, doing poor work, or lashing out.

Alpha vs. beta males – Do alpha males ever show emotions?

Yes. Alpha males are human beings just like beta males and everyone else in this world. There’s a misconception that alpha males are super human or have an “I don’t give a damn” attitude. This isn’t the case.

Which is Better – Alpha or Beta Males?

It’s a personal choice. No one in this world should tell you what you want to be. If you are unhappy with who you are or what you have in your life, then you should make some changes or figure out a game plan.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=19060What Exactly Is A Beta Male?https://danjur.com/?p=1903
https://danjur.com/?p=1903#respondFri, 01 Mar 2019 12:50:39 +0000http://danjur.com/?p=1903re you a beta male? Do you wish your life was different because you are unhappy with the life you are living? Keep reading to find out if you are a beta male. The world is populated by beta males.

The worst thing you can be is an uneducated male that has beta male tendencies.

Knowing you are a beta male and why you are beta is the first step in becoming Alpha. Below we list out the beta male traits and beta male characteristics so you can see where you fall in the spectrum of beta. Let’s briefly describe how one becomes a Beta Male…

How Are Beta Males are Created

We are born we are helpless. You do not come into this world as an alpha male or a beta male. There are several ideas about why we some of us are beta males.

Evolution

The way a child is raised

The rise of the feminist movement

The lack of a father figure

You can argue that beta males are raised or through life events or through evolution. We go into this in more detail in The Book of Alpha. Beta males usually lack an alpha mentor like a father figure or a good role model. The masculine father figure was replaced by a women that raised her boy into a beta male. This caused boys growing into men to believe that a women’s definition of a man was right. And any other idea of a man was wrong. Other’s may argue that we are all descendants of beta male cavemen. When cavemen lived in a small society populated by very few people, any cavemen that stood out or acted alpha became an outcast. These alpha males were looked down upon by everyone including the opposite sex, which resulted in alpha males not reproducing. As a result only beta males reproduced.

The goal is to stop being a beta male.

The idea of how beta males come about can be debated forever. We don’t want to waste too much time here pondering why beta males are beta males, but rather show you what is a beta male so one can take the right steps to begin to be alpha.

Beta male characteristics / Beta Male Traits

The goal of the below is to list out traits and characteristics of a beta male so you can tell if you are beta. If you are, then do yourself a favor and learn the traits and characteristics of an alpha male and take control of your life.

Focused on doing what other’s want them to do

Beta males never rock the boat. They are afraid to stand out. Betas do as they are told and nothing more because they don’t want to get in trouble or get anyone upset. They are trained to color within the lines and not say anything that could embarrass themselves or anyone else.

Too Nice

Beta males are often viewed as being “the nice guy”. Betas are always seeking external approval so they shy away from doing anything that could be considered rude. They go out of their way to please people, subconsciously trying to “win” one’s affection or approval over. Beta males love to be liked. And hate to be disliked.

Always Searching for Perfection

Beta males think they need to be perfect. They think people will like them or respect them more if they have are perfect. Betas try to have all the answers, help everyone, look good, have their hair perfect, be the guy that everyone wants them to be. Essentially they make life choices in hopes of obtaining other people’s approval.

Avoids Conflict and Confrontation

Like we said above, beta males have a desire to be liked and wanted. The beta male will avoid conflicts at all costs. This includes disagreeing with other people’s views and statements, to not saying something or asking for something because the fear of a bad reaction. Beta males would rather keep their mouth shut and stay on someone’s good side than upset them. Beta males are afraid of a lot of things, including their own shadows. They don’t want to be called out or get into an argument because they are afraid of people thinking poorly of them. Betas are fearful of the potential consequences of confrontations.

Resentful

Beta males keep score. If they do a favor for someone, they expect pay back. They don’t do things just to do them. The beta male resents people for what they have and who they are. The beta male resents people when they feel taken advantage of. They don’t make their feelings known to others but secretly resent individuals or groups of people because they feel wronged. The beta wishes others feel how they feel and try to sabotage situations to get back at people.

Require Hand Holding

Beta males want to be told what to do. They often say the following:

What do you want me to do?

Just tell me what you want and I’ll do it

Betas are afraid to take the lead and take control of a situation. They don’t want to mess up and do something wrong so they want people to give them instructions. Beta males don’t think of this as “holding my hand.” They believe this is the way they can get people to like them. If they are told what to do and they do that job, then everyone wins. No one really respects an individual that never takes the lead or figures things out themselves.

Someone that is always asking “is this okay?….is this right?….is this how you want me to do it…?” comes off as a follower and never a leader.

Passive aggressive

Beta males are very indirect. They will never tell you how they really feel. They will do it in a way to try to avoid conflict. The ways a beta male show they are unhappy is through indirect resistance. They will do some of the following:

Pout

Avoid you

Ignore you

Misplace or hide things on purpose

Give off a little attitude

Roll their eyes but not in front of you

Fail on purpose

Not give 100%

Use sarcasm

Say hostile jokes

Say something they dislike and try to change the subject really quickly

Sensitive and Emotional

Beta males believe it is them against the world. When things do not go right they get very upset to the point that they might even cry. When someone says something about them or something associated with the beta male, he believes they are making fun of him or trying to upset him. The beta male gets really upset at this. Even if its all in good fun. If betas do not get what they want, be it something big or something small, they get really upset. They get emotional. They want to scream, punch a hole in the wall, or just turn red in the face.

Fake Nice

Beta males try to be on everyone’s good side. When that doesn’t work they can lash out because they think they are “tough.” All they end up doing is turning people off. Being fake nice and trying to intimidate someone does not work. Beta males do not realize this.

Seek approval from others

If you didn’t realize already, beta males want others to like them. It’s one of their biggest desires in life. They’ll do almost anything to get the approval of others. This includes:

Over promising (always saying yes)

Buying material items to “fit in”

Going out of their way to do something for someone

Putting someone else’s needs first

Always trying to be the solution guy

Beta males need this external validation from others to feel they are important and wanted.

Hiding mistakes and flaws

Beta males never want to admit they made a mistake or an error. They would rather try to blame someone else for the mistake or hide the mistake for as long as possible, hoping never to get caught or called out. In terms of flaws, beta males try to be perfect. So they go out of their way to try to pretend there is nothing wrong with them and they are perfect little angels. Beta males believe they need to be perfect. This is due to the fact that they do not want to upset or disappoint anyone. Even though in the end this may hurt them more than help them.

Not seen as sexual

Beta males are the nice guy. They are the friend of the girl that they want to sleep with. They aren’t aggressive. No one thinks “sexy” or “sexual” when they think of a beta male. Others associate beta males with sexless or bad in bed. The beta is the guy that tries to buy his way into a girls pants. He wants to go in for the kiss or go in for the kill but is afraid. The beta male hides his sexual desires from the world because he believes wanting sex or love is wrong. He wants everyone to think highly of him and not to associate him with the word “creep” or “player”.

More comfortable around women than men

Beta males don’t like to associate with a lot of masculine men because they think the way these alpha males act is wrong. Betas are taught to think that the ideal man is the beta male. Because of this, beta males relate more two women than men. Betas believe they have very little in common with other men, although their hidden desires may be similar. Betas are ashamed to be like other men so they stay away from them. Girls are a beta males best friend.

The problem solver

Beta males have answers to everything. They never said “I don’t know” or “That is not possible.” They are the ones that say yes, yes yes! Or try to come up with reasons for everything. The beta needs to be the guy that people turn to for all their problems. They are there to listen and give their opinion. They want to make everything right. And that is fine. But sometimes it’s not possible. Worst of all, the beta wants to solve problems for everyone hoping to get more people to like them and eventually repay them in some way in the future. When they receive no reciprocation for their efforts they get very resentful.

Repress their feelings

Betas have desires and feelings just like any other man (or women). The difference between a beta and an alpha male is the beta will hide his desires. He doesn’t want people to judge him.

If he desires a women he won’t let anyone know. He doesn’t want to get caught having sexual feelings toward someone else.

If he is upset at someone, he will hold it all in as long as he can. He doesn’t want anyone to know.

What ends up happening is the beta male gets so frustrated with all his repressed feelings that it boils over and he blows up. He starts to hate others and believes they are the root of his problems.

Feels Guilty

Betas feel guilty if they do things they want to do. In order to not feel guilty, they do things other people want them to do instead.

If their parents want them to get good grades and they don’t get an A, they feel guilty.

If they look at a girl and have sexual thoughts, they feel guilty.

If they buy something for themselves, they feel guilty for doing something nice for themselves.

If they want to change who they are (like becoming an alpha male), they feel guilty for wanting to be different.

If they want to do something the social circle wants to do, they feel guilty for speaking up.

Feeling guilty is a terrible feeling so betas try not to do things that make them feel guilty. This includes not letting other people down.

Non-masculine

If you’ve read down this far you should realize that beta males are sensitive and emotional. They are not masculine. Betas are not seen in the same light as an alpha male. Betas sabotage themselves not only by how they think but by what they do. Betas are soft and would back down from any confrontation. They are not seen as protectors.

Does not put himself first

Worst of all is that beta males put the needs of others ahead of their own. This is the sad reality of a beta male. The decisions a beta makes are not his alone. He makes choices based on how others will react or with the feelings of others in mind. The beta does not live the life he wants because he is living the life he believes other people want him to live. Betas want to be loved. They want people to like them. They want to be seen as perfect. To a beta male, the only way to be perfect is to do the things other people want them to do, not what he wants to do. Sadly, this makes the beta male resent almost everyone he knows when life doesn’t work out how he really wants it to. At the end of the day the beta male is unhappy and living an unfulfilled life.

You’re Not Alone

If you’ve read the traits and characteristics of a beta male and find that you fit the mold, understand that being a beta male is a choice.

You can be alpha. You will be alpha if you choose to be.

The journey to being an alpha male is not easy. But anyone that has gone through it and made it to the other side know how beautiful life can really be. You can live the life you want.

If you need help or guidance to reclaiming your masculinity and taking control of your life, please use To Be Alpha as a resource. We are here to help. We have helped many men change their life and completely change their outlook on life. We welcome the challenge to helping you.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=19030Alpha Male Characteristicshttps://danjur.com/?p=1900
https://danjur.com/?p=1900#respondFri, 01 Mar 2019 12:44:54 +0000http://danjur.com/?p=1900You can become alpha. But first you need to know what an alpha male is.

The problem most men and women that want to be alpha face is a lack of knowledge and guidance on the traits and characteristics necessary to become alpha.

Here we simplify everything for you with guidelines to being alpha.

What Are Alpha Male Characteristics?

Confident

Alpha males know they are the shit. Whether they are or not to someone else doesn’t really matter. Alpha males believe in themselves and aren’t afraid to show it physically, vocally or through action and thoughts.

When’s the last time you saw an alpha male that was afraid or second guessing themselves? Usually they just go for it because they are that confident.

But If they Fail…

Have Intangibles (Mentally Tough)

When I say intangibles, I’m talking about the right mentality. Alphas always think they are a winner. Sure they might fail once in awhile, but they get over it really fast and just move on.

They know that they will eventually succeed if they keep trying. Alpha males do not give up just because they failed once

Competitive

Alpha males don’t like to lose. They want to win.

They don’t just want to win, they want to beat the hell out of you and make you remember they won.

Everything they do in life is a competition. They want to be the best. Competition drives them. But they don’t do it to show off. It’s because they truly believe they should be winning all the time.

Make competition your friend. It will make you better in all parts of your life.

Alpha Males Have Presence

Size matters.

But not in the sense that you just get lucky if you’re born fat or tall. You can still look like a beta male if you don’t have presence. Presence is what people turn and look at when an alpha walks in the door. It’s the larger than life figure that stands before you.

Alphas make themselves bigger and give themselves presence – it comes from body language, vocals, how they carry themselves.

Have Strong Body Language

Alphas know what it means to not only be confident but to show confidence. Its all in the body language.

How they stand.

How they walk.

What they look at.

Where there hands are.

Alpha males have alpha male body language (if you didn’t know, now you know – click on the link!).

Walk Like The Shit

Alpha males have swagger. They have a pep in their step. They don’t walk like an average man. They walk with meaning. They walk like they are in control and know where they are going.

Alpha males walk slow but with strong steps. Unlike a beta male who just walks fast or uses a walk to get from point A to point B, an alpha male knows his walk can make him stand out.

Position Themselves

Alpha males understand something many other people do not, which is that the alpha is always in a powerful position.

What does this mean?

It means an alpha male knows where to stand and be seated to be in a powerful position. Ever wonder why the head of the table sits at the head of the table? Or a leader sits in the middle of a table? Alpha males do. They also know where to stand in a group setting to be in control.

Alpha males not only know where to sit and stand but they understand that to be taken seriously and be in a dominant position, they need to be closest to resources that other people want.

Dominant

Alpha males take control. They are dominant. They tell people what to do. They are direct. They take over situations when necessary. Alpha males are seen as powerful. They are the king of the mountain.

Take Chances

Alpha males are risk takers. They don’t stay within their comfort zone. This is why they are seen as elite.

Alpha males know that in order to have something they don’t have, they need to go get it. People always wonder why someone has something they don’t have. Is it luck? Was it given to them? Not necessarily. Sometimes it’s called, just being alpha.

Alpha Males Get The Girl

While beta males are oogling and gaga-ing over girls or making excuses about why they aren’t going to talk to her. An Alpha male steps up and gets the girl. Alphas are not afraid to express their sexuality. They understand their role as a man. They get the girl. And if they don’t get the girl, they’ll try again.

Vocal and Loud

Alpha males have solid voices. It could be deep, it could not be. But it usually is deep. All that matters is that when they talk, they are heard.

Alphas not only talk loud enough for everyone to hear them but they talk because they know what they are talking about. If an alpha male has something to say, he will say it.

Strong Eye Contact

Alpha males are not afraid to look other people in the eyes. They are not afraid to look at people in general.

They don’t hide the fact that they are looking at someone like a beta male does. Alphas understand that looking someone in the eyes shows confidence and dominance.

Alpha males know the right amount of eye contact to use and how to use it correctly.

Aren’t Afraid To Get Physical

Alphas are okay with touching. This can be as simple as a pat on the back, a firm hand shake or a chest bump (yea I said it).

But even more so, alpha males are very comfortable getting physical with the opposite sex. They are willing to show how they feel about others through touch. Alphas know their limits with physical contact but are not afraid to express themselves with it.

Calm Under Pressure

Alphas don’t over react or get emotional. Even if they have concerns or are freaking out, they rarely show weakness to others. They’ll put on a good front.

For the most part, alpha males will remain calm and rational in all situations. They understand that a leader does not show weakness.

Know How To Dress

Looking the part of an alpha male is important. Fashion plays an important role in perception.

If you dress like a clown, it’s likely you won’t get the respect you deserve as an alpha male. Alpha males understand their audience and what appeals to them. Then create a style based on that.

Take an interest in fashion, it separates the men from the boys.

Strong

You are what you eat. You are what you lift. You are what you feel. Alpha males know being in shape can make your life a lot easier.

People, including women, are attracted to a physically fit man. They like a man that is strong and can protect them. It’s never too late to start. Get in shape. Be fit. You’ll be seen as more masculine and physically dominating.

Non-reactive

Alpha males rarely get emotional like beta males.

Beta males complain about life not being fair, whine about petty things, snap at people when they don’t get their way, and run away or back down when confronted by someone else.

Alpha males are level minded and stick to their convictions when challenged.

If something doesn’t go right, Alpha males move on. They try again. If someone doesn’t like them. They don’t care. It’s a part of life.

Learn to be non-reactive. Most of the things you encounter in life are not that big of a deal.

Do Not Need External Validation

Alpha males are not out to get approval from others.

They live in their own world and have their own ideas of right and wrong. They do what makes them happy, not what makes other people happy. Happiness comes from within, not from others. Once you learn and accept this, your life will be more alpha.

Not Afraid to Stand Out

Alphas are okay being different. This means dressing how you want to dress. Saying what you want to say. Doing what you want to do.

Alphas do not follow the herd mentality of having to fit in. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat. Alphas do what they want because they can. And so can you.

Saying No

Alpha males have the power to say no. Beta males are afraid of the consequences of saying no. Having the power to say no is one of the most alpha things you can do for yourself.

Do Not Try To Be Everyone’s Friend

There’s truth to the saying “you can’t make everyone happy.” If you’re out to be everyone’s friend it will be hard to be a leader or an alpha male. Alphas do what’s right and sometimes that involves making tough decisions that some people are not happy with.

Perseverance

Above all else, alpha males don’t give up. They work hard. They continue to try until they succeed.

When the tough gets going, so does an alpha male.

An alpha male has thick skin and understands that pain is temporary and glory is forever.

Being Alpha

By building a solid framework to work off of, you can become alpha. Don’t only read the characteristics of an alpha male but find out what you need to work on and improve on that.

You might have more to work on than others. It doesn’t matter where you start, it’s where you finish.

Use the resources at To be Alpha to be the man you want to be.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=19000HOW TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A BUSY PERSONhttps://danjur.com/?p=1
https://danjur.com/?p=1#commentsFri, 01 Mar 2019 08:59:03 +0000http://danjur.com/?p=1Everyone loves to spend time with their significant others. But sometimes, circumstances don’t allow that to happen. There are many reasons for your loved one to be too busy to spend time with you, especially if he or she has a demanding job. But don’t let this cause your relationship to end. There are many ways to ensure that you continue to have a fruitful and fulfilling relationship with a person that you really want, even though you may not spend as much time with each other as you would like. It will take a lot of dedication, trust, patience, and a common desire to make things work, but it is nowhere near impossible.

Be Experts at Scheduling

The first thing you should consider if you’re dating a busy person is your schedules. Find little gaps in which both of you are free and set a date. Don’t cancel dates especially if you only meet once every few weeks or months. But if you have to cancel, say it ahead of time and set another date for your meet-up. This will allow the two of you to have something to look forward to in the future especially if you can’t be together in the present.

Use Technology to Your Advantage

It’s easier to be in a relationship with a busy person now than ever before. If you have a significant other that travels for work, compose meaningful messages or emails. Don’t just send one-word replies—think of the best words to say. You can also use Skype or FaceTime. If ever you schedule a video call with your significant other, treat it like how you would treat a date. Dress up and be on top of your game. Always make the most of your time with each other.

Get Busy with your Own Priorities

The easiest way to not feel lonely when you’re dating a busy person is to get busy with your own hobbies or interests. This way, you won’t feel left out when your significant other is working late, because you’ll be preoccupied doing your own thing. If you find something you’re also passionate about, you won’t feel the need for your significant other to fill up idle hours of your day.

Go the Extra Mile

In the end, it’s all about going the extra mile to meet with a busy person. However, make sure that your partner would do the same for you. It’s not good to be the only person doing more than necessary in order to make the relationship work. If both of you are willing to work on your relationship despite not having a lot of time for each other, you can find ways to fit each other around your busy schedules.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=11HOW TO NOT GET FRIEND ZONEDhttps://danjur.com/?p=1812
https://danjur.com/?p=1812#commentsThu, 06 Oct 2016 13:06:45 +0000http://mvpthemes.com/clickmag/?p=1812It happens to anyone. You meet a girl, you get along, and you start hanging out regularly. She likes your company and shows it. She’s even the first to contact you sometimes. But there’s a problem: you know she’s not interested in being in a relationship with you, even though you spend a lot of time together and talk to each other often. That’s what it means to be in the friend zone. It’s an awkward situation, but thankfully, it can be avoided by making the right relationship decisions. It’s just a matter of giving the message that no, you’re not interested in being just friends. You’re interested in being more.

Be Romantic

Pay attention to the way you act around the person you like. A little touch here and there will give the impression that you’re interested. If she backs away, don’t push it. But at least she’ll know that you’re not just there for friendly company. Also, learn to establish direct eye contact when you’re in a conversation. While friends may not bother having intimate conversations, you have to learn to start them with the person you like.

Don’t Do Friend Duties

This is basic, but it’s surprising how many men still fall for this. Whenever the girl you like asks you to do an errand for her like pick up her laundry or buy food for her cat, pass up. Don’t be the pushover friend who’ll do anything because you like the girl. Learn to establish boundaries. You’re someone that your girl should see as a potential mate, not as a potential maid.

Show Off Your Attractive Qualities

Ask yourself what women would find attractive in you and highlight it. If you’re a talented singer, invite the girl you like to your gigs. If you paint or draw, show her your work. If you’re a businessman earning a great living, show her your business. Whatever you’re passionate about, tell her about your future—she’ll love it.

Arrange Dates, Not “Hang Outs”

One of the most common reasons men get friend zoned is that they’d rather “hang out” with the women they like rather than to ask them out on a real date. Though it might come off as traditional, asking the girl you like out for a real date will give a clear signal that the relationship is heading towards somewhere romantic. Reserve a good table at a restaurant you like and take her out. Don’t just ask to “hang out”—though she might be more comfortable with the idea of casually spending time together, hanging out is likely to put you in the friend zone.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=18121How to get laid on tinder Like a Bosshttps://danjur.com/?p=1790
https://danjur.com/?p=1790#respondThu, 06 Oct 2016 05:15:14 +0000http://mvpthemes.com/clickmag/?p=1790Secret technique to use on Tinder to get laid, I called it “Tinder Sex”. You have to understand that there are plenty girls on tinder who want to fuck… And in this article I’m going to show exact steps how to do that… (updated 2016.05)

Have you ever thought of getting laid on tinder constantly? Of course you do! Every dude in the world desires a hareem of young, hot women. What you might not know is that females want to fuck a bunch of men as well. Women are highly sexual creatures. The distinction is, they do not tell the true about it. Rather than fucking you they make use of sex for focus, cash, prefers or to leverage you into a partnership.

When it things come to sex, many women will squander your time but I think you recognize that already. You’re most likely tired of investing lot of money on beverages, taxis and also cover at clubs however still going the home alone. And you are unsatisfied your sexual life…

Perhaps you’ve tried online dating just before however don’t get any dates and one night stands. You invest weeks messaging females to make them feel “comfortable” and “special” just to have them go quiet after you invite for a date.

Read this article and find out how to get laid.

The objectives of this technique are clear:

Find an attractive girl and get a match

Get her phone number fast

Get laid within 24 hours or less on tinder (your goal is not to set a date, but to get laid)

Basic principles and mindset

First of all I want to share my thoughts about basic principles that work and mindset, which is very important.

You have to understand that every new Tinder match is start of a potential new story and you are the creator of it. You have a power in your hands to control interaction the way you want and like. Don’t be a passive guy, that just let things happen, and don’t create the reality you really want.

Every new match is an opportunity for you. Be creative, take action and lead the conversation.

If you change your mindset from being passive to action-taker, you will outplay 50% of guys (good news is that around 50% of guys does not text anything at all to new matches, they just wait for a girl to take first move – wtf?).

Create seductive frame

If you really want to get laid, you have to create seductive frame during the interaction. Girls have to understand that you are here not for long chatting about weather and other irrelevant shit.

Try to trigger these emotions – surprise, excitement, lust, happiness, trust and anticipation. These emotions help to create attraction also.

Your pictures – most important factor

Don’t think about what to write in “about” section, just leave it blank. Pictures are the most important part if you want to get more matches.

First picture is the first thing that girls judge, so try to put your best picture. I recommend to use picture of your face (just use really quality photo).

Your second picture should represent you in a social situation – with your friends, in the event, with high status people.

Third picture can be from your holidays, where you are having a good time.

Fourth picture – use other good quality photos.

I don’t recommend to use naked or half naked pictures. Tinder doesn’t work well for guys. I know the method called “Tinder Naked”, but not this time.

“About” section

Highly recommend to leave in empty. Photos should communicate about you, not “about” section. The pictures are the only things that matter and can help you to get laid. Girls are not reading this section. Unless you have active Instagram profile, so here you can leave your instagram username.

Getting matches

Now your goal is to get more matches. Don’t filter too much, just swipe right all the girls. Yes, ALL.

It’s a numbers game and your goal – getting laid. So swipe them all right, and then choose.

Texting

You don’t want to chat too long. Be friendly (but not Mr. Nice Guy) and charismatic. Your mission is to set a date on that day, not tommorow.

Here is few examples:

On Tinder:

Me: hey Jennifer

Jennifer: hey

Me: how’s it going cutie

Jennifer: i’m in the college doing a group project…what about u?

Me: Finishing productive day at the work. Tough project or so-so?

Jennifer: uhgh so so over it though

Me: Haha, i know that feeling. Text me 123-456-789- easier

Jennifer: ALright!

And thats it – getting numbers is easy. Next I invited Jennifer for a date and easily get laid.

Important tips:

Never ever use shirtless pictures (no matter if you have six pack abs or not).

Never start conversation writing sexual messages.

Add as friend her on Facebook – so she can see your other pictures and more information about you.

Common mistakes every PUA should avoid

1. Not showing your smile in the main picture. Just like in on the internet dating profiles and apps, PUAs try to look “badass”. Many girls do not find the serious wannabe Tyler Durden (from movie “Fight Club”) look eye-catching, they think it is lame and– in a bunch of situations– extremely amusing. Generally, girls are drawn in to images of individuals with natural and comfortable, delighted smiles. An image of you beeing happy and laughing is far more most likely to cause her to swipe to right because smiling communicates healthy and balanced emotions, so thats why you should use picture with your smile as the main picture on Tinder profile.

In addition to this, you must likewise have a few more pictures that communicate DHVs (Demonstration of Higher Value). A photo of you and your buddies having a good time can be excellent – as well as a lot better if there are a couple of females in the picture (DHV signal). A picture of you boarding or doing something extreme will give girls something to talk about..

Many guys often ask me regarding the shirtless pics. In PUA community there is a rule to not show your clothless body in online dating websites, I tryed to use shirtless pics of myself and got a decent amount of matches. The secret right here is to show that you’re having fun in the shirtless pic, not trying to show off your big muscles. Just don’t use shirtless pic as the main picture of your Tinder profile.

2. Never use “funny” captions on your pics. If you improve your photo with captions like: ‘hot match of the day’ or ‘the one to choose’, this shouts out ‘hopeless’ more than anything else. It’s barely cryptic as well as as opposed to assuming ‘what a catch’, women simply be questioning why you went to all that initiative. “Funny” caption won’t help you to get laid on Tinder.
3. Texting lame PU opening lines. Tinder has become the zone where every AFC dude thinks the best way to obtain a woman is using the same lame-ass generic pick-up lines you would laugh at while reading an article called “top 50 worst PUA opening lines in human history”. They are either banal or trite. Some men attempt to bait girls right into messaging them back using lame jokes that will certainly be unconvincing or disrespectful. Very few women are going to react and reply to that kind of messages.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=17900How to flirt on tinderhttps://danjur.com/?p=1784
https://danjur.com/?p=1784#respondThu, 06 Oct 2016 04:56:15 +0000http://mvpthemes.com/clickmag/?p=1784Tinder, a social dating app, is one that pairs you with people that like your profile. It contains a chat package that allows you to message your matches, subsequently leading to all kinds of flirting openings. Who knows, once your messages settles well with the correspondent you may be able to encounter them in person!

The following are some of the steps – How to flirt on Tinder

Make an effort

Meeting through an app designed to set up anonymous gender can be the case, but do not assume that she is down just because she loved your photographs. If she resolves that you’re not trying enough, a better man is but a click away. Flirting on Tinder is unlike that at the bar, as you already know of her attraction to you. Nevertheless, you cannot avoid all of the social concords on your way to the bedroom.

Make it different

She has numerous other chats at the same time as yours. So unless you make your chat with her outstanding, you will be just another nobody. Do not use a strange pick-up line; it can only work in real life if executed well, simply because most men do not have the courage to use one. It is best to be simple with your pick-up line on Tinder before quickly moving to a real banter. Try to use her responses to make your conversation unique and memorable. Probe her about her interests and relate them back to yours.

Don’t compliment her appearance

You took a look right through her profile, so she understands you find her striking so there’s no need to compliment her on her appearance. She is probably hears the exact from every other man on Tinder. You may think you are coming across as sweet, but on the reverse, she thinks you as sleazy. Also, keep in mind that she may also have had her pictures through, so the very feature you are trying to accolade may not actually be. Wait until your meet her before praising her looks.

The shift into real life

Many Tinder exchanges never get into real life. It’s a prerequisite to find a way to bring it into real life, preferably without depicting yourself as too frantic. Endeavour to learn a common interest that can segue into a date. The most basic way to do this is to get the conversation onto say food. If she mentions something she loves, Google and find out about any novel or exceptional places in your town. Then, suggest this cool place of which if bought (idea), she will say something like “we should go there!” but if she doesn’t, you should say it.

]]>https://danjur.com/?feed=rss2&p=18610HAVE A SEXY BUT MANLY ONLINE DATING PROFILEhttps://danjur.com/?p=39
https://danjur.com/?p=39#respondWed, 14 Sep 2016 07:50:13 +0000http://mvpthemes.com/clickmag/?p=39It’s easier to meet the love of your life than ever before. While people used to go out and meet other people in the streets, it’s now becoming more popular and acceptable to use an online dating profile on sites like OkCupid or dating apps like Tinder. But if you’re a guy who’s finally decided to set up an online dating profile, you have to learn to attract the type of ladies that you like. But don’t worry, there are ways that you can make your profile as great as possible.

Absolutely No Selfies

While taking a selfie may be the easiest way to add a photo to your profile, don’t rely on a selfie to spice up your love life. The truth is, it’s unlikely that anyone would look flattering two feet away. Ask a friend or a family member to take a photo of you. But don’t overdo it and use a professionally taken photo—it will look staged and will cause others to doubt your true appearance.

Show Your Career Achievements

Women will always want a man who can financially support them. When talking about your career, carefully sift through which pieces of information you should include. You don’t have to include the awards you won back when you were still in college. Just focus on where you are in the present. It will give a good assessment of where you are with your career at the moment. Don’t include salary information or anything too private. Just say what you do and who you work for.

Have Some Humor

Every girl wants a man who can make her laugh. Add a joke or two but make it natural. Stay away from clichés because you’ll seem like you’re trying too hard. A good place to put a joke would be somewhere at the start of your profile or at the end. It’s a good idea to make a joke about things you’re interested in to add a touch of personality.

Leave the Baggage

Nobody needs to know about your crazy ex-wife or your three kids. While this information should be something that your partner should know, reserve it for the third date. It’s not something that should go to your online dating profile.

Don’t Say Too Much

Nobody wants to go through a long profile. Keep your bio short and memorable. Also, make your information easy to scan and read. Include only the most important information and leave the other parts to your girls’ imagination. After all, you’d want a woman who doesn’t need to be spoon-fed with data, right?