Hmm ok on my husband’s family side the groomsmen is my brother in law ..

Our neice and nephew my sister inlaw my mother inlaw and father in law also my husband will all be sitting at the head table… while me who married the groom to be older brother has to sit with “other” guests I feel very disincluded.

1) This is not about it being “the bride’s day”. It has everything to do with the fact that it is entirely normal for a bride to include her own biological immediate family in the wedding, while not necessarily including her in-laws in the wedding party.

2) If the entire family will be at “the head table” it’s ridiculous for you not to be seated there, regardless of whether you are in the wedding party. I personally disapprove when the wedding party is seated without SOs, but even then, you’d presumably be seated with the rest of the family. To have *the entire family* seated at the end table and you somewhere else all by yourself is stupid and slighting. Have your husband address the insanity of that separately.

Ok I guess I just didn’t want to start any drama with the bride so I came here for bias opinions . I appreciate the input I think I was being over sensitive . My husband said that if the head table was going to happen he wont be sitting there or he will be adding an extra chair regardless. Well lol as sweet as that is, it could be seen as insulting to the brides seating arrangement . So just trying to avoid waves altogether … I dont want to be that family member lol

Wait – do you even know if there’s going to BE a head table? Or if there is, whether or not you would be seated there?

If you don’t even know if that’s happening, you are getting WAY WAY ahead of yourself. You are borrowing all kinds of trouble that you don’t even know exists yet. Why are you torturing yourself like this?

Don’t be insulted- the bride isn’t putting all of her friends in her wedding party. If there’s a head table for the bridal party and you have to sit without your DH for a while at the reception, you’ll survive. No one will paying attention to you, or the fact that you’re not in the bridal party.

Are you sure the parents will be at the head table? Because usually they aren’t.

Even if they are, I assume you’ll be seated with wider family (e.g. groom’s aunts or cousins, even grandparents), who you’d know a little. Your husband can come down from the head table after the actual meal, he doesn’t need to be apart from you all night. Don’t make a fuss: just eat where you’re put for an hour or two, make polite conversation with who you’re seated with, and admire your husband the groomsman. 🙂

I don’t think it’s an insult to you at all. They’re just including the groom’s blood relatives (his brother and sister), and it’s got to stop somewhere. You haven’t answered if any other in-laws are in the bridal party, but it doesn’t sound like they are.