This article presents some playful and sexy games that you and your partner can introduce into the bedroom.

While some of these new and different forms of play may seem to be out of your comfort zone, we encourage you read our brief article on open-mindedness. It describes some of the potential benefits to approaching each suggestion with a sense of adventure and willingness to experiment.

Additionally, these games may seem hyper sexualized; however they are perfectly normal and healthy so long as both partners are willing and consenting participants. In this article we will briefly describe some of the concepts behind each game and then we will highlight the potential benefits to keeping an open mind towards these new forms of play.

We would like to stress that the more comfortable you are with your partner and the more you communicate openly during sexual play, the better the experience will be, and the more your relationships will grow to be strong and durable.

The following are eleven fun and sexy games that are organized in increasingly more erotic and sexy forms of play. You can use this list to introduce play into your sex life for the first time; or you can also learn about new forms of play and expand your bedroom repertoire.

Note: Most of these games can be expanded to include more than just two partners.

1. 21 Questions and Dining

What To Do:

A fun game to play during dinner is the game of twenty-one questions. During this game, each person gets to ask the other a question on any topic or subject. Each person has the opportunity to ask the other one question at a time for a total of twenty-one questions per person. Begin by asking more simple questions aimed at getting to know your partner and then slowly start introducing more risqué inquiries. They can range from “In a perfect world, how would you spend your spare time?” to “In your wildest dreams, what location would you choose to have sex in? It goes without saying that its always best to make sure your partner is comfortable with the question you are asking. It is essential to not make your partner feel uncomfortable and attacked.

Reason:

The idea here is to get to know one another and break the ice. This game can allow both people to inquire more into their partner’s others passions and desires, which can lead you to better understand that person. Additionally, each person has an equal chance to both ask and tell the other a little more about him or herself.

2. Blindfolded Tasting and Guessing

What To Do:

Before your partner becomes involved, discreetly set up an array of sexy fruits, food, and sweets that the other partner will get to taste. For example, you can choose to include some cherries, vanilla ice cream, chocolates, whipped cream, chocolate cake, banana, sour gummies, etc. You are completely free to choose anything you know your partner enjoys or anything that sounds sexy. This game begins by blindfolding your partner and then asking them to guess what the selected treat is while you feed them nibbles of the selected treats. The blindfolded person can use everything except their hands to try to name the food.

Reason:

The purpose of this game is to build the trust between two individuals. Consider how asking a person to give up their sense of sight and asking them to relinquish control over what goes into their mouth requires a lot of trust. This can be made to be fun and light, which in turn can bring two people closer together.

3. Blindfolded Feeling and Guessing

What To Do:

Similar to the taste and guess game, collect a number of items that have a unique feel on the body and then have the other person try to guess what they are without using their hands. For example some items you can use are a hairbrush, a feather, a leather belt, silk lingerie, ice, a fan, a spray bottle, your breath, your tongue, etc. The game begins when one person is blindfolded and the other then begins to touch their partner with an item. You can caress, spank, fan, spray, or rub your partner. This can be taken a step further by changing up the location where you are rubbing the selected item. For example, you can have the blindfolded person guess what item is being rubbed on their inner thigh, chest, back, neck, or buttocks.

Reason:

This game again highlights and builds the sense of trust between both people. Moreover, this game can be quickly taken to a higher level of sexual intimacy by bringing different areas of the body into play.

4. Oil Body Massages

What To Do:

This is a fun, sexy, and relaxing activity that both partners can actually enjoy after a long and stressful day. This is much less a game than it is simply something both individuals can do to help relieve stress and enjoy each other's presence and body. You can try to find your partner’s stress points. Once you have done that you can massage out those knots until they are no longer there. Here, you can work together and communicate. You can tell each other what feels good and what areas need work, or you can simply read each other’s body language to find out when you have reached a spot that need to be massaged.

Reason:

The benefits from these body massages are that they can be taken to any extreme, and does not always have to be erotic in nature. These body massages can feel very enjoyable and are a good way to make your partner feel relaxed and explore their body. Even if you have never given someone a massage before, you can learn what works and what does not by communicating with your partner. Eventually with time and experience, you will learn how to give satisfying massages. This skill can come in handy, as being able to give a great massage can be perceived to be extremely sexy.

Note: You can also use a lotion with your partner’s favorite scent, or you can use something a little healthier for you skin like coconut oil, especially if your partner is into the smell of coconuts.

5. Blindfolding, Dirty Talking, and Teasing

What To Do:

This game begins to take things one step further on the erotica scale. It entails one blindfolded person getting verbally teased by the other person. This means the game’s focus is on foreplay itself rather than sex. The idea behind this game is to create some level of anticipation before engaging in sex. The blindfolded person can be seated, standing up, or lying down in bed, but nevertheless always restrains himself or herself from physically interacting with the person teasing them. The game starts with the non-blindfolded person keeping the majority of interactions between them to verbal interactions. Moreover, the non-blindfolded person should keep all bodily contact brief and light. Remember, the key is to tease. Do not give it all away at the start. Eventually both people can talk dirty to each other and tell each other what they want, keeping in mind that only one can actually do the touching.

Reason:

The anticipation, expectation, and excitement of sex can increase the actual pleasure one feels. With this, you may find that little stimulation can actually go a long way. The great thing here is that you can create a fantasy together and then go and live it out as well. Create expectations and then follow them up. But first and most importantly create that sexual tension.

6. Sexual Fantasy Role Play

What To Do:

This game involves dressing up in costume and then playing into some kind of character or role. For example, many people enjoy playing dominant and submissive roles like teacher and student or cop and robber, but others are more into playing seductive roles like housemaids, hospital fantasies, gods and goddesses, uniformed firefighters, damsel in distress, chefs etc. Your options are limited only by your imagination. Individuals can take this one step further by turning it into a slow and erotic strip session. Here people would take off their clothes or costumes in a seductive manner.

Reason:

This is one where individuals can live out their own fantasies, fetishes, obsessions, or simple interests. Let loose and enjoy yourselves. Play into whatever role or character you happen to be and make the best of it. Tap into that character's wild side if you have to. If you want to wear a cape and wave your sword around like Zorro feel free to do so. This game is all about letting go, having a good time, and not second-guessing your self. If it helps you, you can even set some background music to set the mood. So if you want to be a cowgirl, then play some old western theme songs.

7. Sexy Dice Game

What To Do:

For this game you can either purchase the actual sexy dice that are available online or in sex shops, or you can save a little money and make your own version of them. You can write down the names of different body parts (e.g., legs, foot, forearm, nipple, inner thigh, lips, breast, neck, penis, vagina, etc.) and different actions (e.g., kiss, lick, pinch, blow, suck, massage, scratch, stroke, etc.) on slips of paper and keep them separated in two bowls. Whichever option you end up choosing just make sure the slips or dice have options of activities that you will actually do. Once you have your own set of sexy dice, set up the room or house with great smelling candles, dim lighting, soft music, etc. Choose whatever you want to get the mood set and use whatever you need to create a nice comfortable atmosphere.

Reason:

During this game, most of the fun comes from the anticipation of what combination of options will occur next. You never know what to expect and it can be as easygoing as massaging the others neck or as kinky as blowing on you partner’s nipple. The options can get as crazy as you want if you choose the slip and bowl route.

8. Spin the Sex Manual

What To Do:

This one is definitely for the more adventurous pairs. This game requires that you purchase a sex manual and two or three dice depending on how many pages there are in the sex manual. You can also use a random number generator on you phone or computer if you find yourself lacking dice. This option will allow you to set a specific number scale, which you can simply set up to match the total amount of pages in the manual. The game starts by having one of the partners either roll the dice, or use the random number generator. Whatever number the dice lands on or the generator gives you corresponds to a page in the sex manual. Turn to that page and give it a try. Some of them might be a little too intense or just impossible to do so set up some guidelines so that both partners are comfortable with whatever they’re doing.

Reason:

The idea behind this game is to facilitate the process of expanding your horizons and learning about new, exciting, and pleasurable sex positions and acts. It is very much uncertain what position you will land on and it’s up to you two to decide whether or not you will follow through with it. While we encourage you to only do those that you both feel comfortable doing, try to be adventurous. Try all of them if you can even though it may be a bit awkward at first! Not only will you expand your sex repertoire but you might also learn about new and great sex positions that you never thought would be for you.

9. Dare or Strip Pong

What To Do:

What you will need are two ping-pong balls and some extra in case you lose some, and you will need twenty cups and a couple extra to use as water cups just to rinse the ping-pong balls after each throw. The twenty cups may be filled with any beverage you choose. A variation of this uses alcoholic beverages. If you and your partner choose to consume alcohol and engage in sexual contact afterward, it is essential that both partners be sober enough give consent. You can read more about consent here.

The game begins with both individuals throwing the ball into one of the cups whilst making eye contact. The first person (or team) to make in into any cup shoots first.

Thereafter, every shot made will elicit a response to a dare that can always be overruled by stripping off one article of clothing at a time—so if a shot gets made into one of your cups gets made, you can either carry out the dare or strip off an article of clothing. As you can imagine, if you choose to not do any of the dares, after ten cups, you will most likely be completely nude.

Reason:

This game can serve as a kind of foreplay to turn each other on. Moreover, it encourages people test the other’s boundaries and limits. Additionally, seeing your partner slowly strip can be a turn on.

10. Director’s Cut

What To Do:

We encourage you to only do this with someone whom you really trust. In this game, you and your partner with your partner both have equal access to the camera and each person gets to record the other in whatever way he or she wish. In a way, the goal of this game is to try to create the most erotic film possible while sill having fun.

Reason:

This game sometimes plays into one’s sexual fantasies or desires. It can be very erotic and fun to re-watch the footage later with your partner. It can rekindle the flame, and lead you and your partner to try out new and more exotic kinds of play.

11. Pushing the Limits: Sex In a New Location

What To Do:

The object of this game is to first and foremost get away with having sex in a place where you probably should not be having sex or do not usually have sex. This could be in the kitchen, in the living room, in the bathroom, in the backyard, in the car, or out in a safe public location.

Reason:

The idea here is to play with feeling like your doing something that you probably should not be doing. This can sometimes make sex more pleasurable, exiting, and fun. Moreover, getting away with it will bring you and your partner closer together by becoming it a moment you will probably not forget for a while to come.