If you have ever wondered what the secrets of slim people are, your questions might be answered tonight in a show called ‘The truth about slim people’

The truth about slim people

We will get to see how two people; Anne-Marie and Yemi, manage to stay slim despite it seems eating whatever they like, whenever they like.

It is a true case of nothing being as it seems as I read the article about it.

Anne-Marie is a 42 year old mother of two who was trained as a dancer but now runs a dance classes for kids. She is 9 stone a size 8. Every aspect of her life was filmed for 5 days.

Yemi is a 37 year old father of 2, has a 32 inch waist and weighs 12 stone. His childhood nickname was ‘Dustbin’ because of his large appetite. He did a lot of sport in his younger days.

Neither of them eat ‘healthy’ food and they both at what they like in the quantity they desire. Or so it seems.

As part of the programme they both have medical test and it is found that neither of them have ‘magic metabolisms’.

The findings tell this story (see if you can spot the key ones that I, as a Hypnotherapist, will talk about today):

They don’t snack in the day

They fully satisfy themselves at mealtimes by eating what they fancy.

They both eat enough to feel full until the next meal.

Neither of them are ‘emotional eaters’.

They don’t drink much alcohol.

If they eat a lot one day, they eat less the next day

They unconsciously seem to balance their calorie intake

Anne-Marie is found to be a ‘fidgeter’. Never sitting still and using up lots of energy just ‘being her’.

Yemi walks at a very fast pace

Both sleep well

Both have good gut bacteria

Neither of them are ‘hung-up’ on food

They are both ‘self-regulated’

The conclusion from the show was that the secret to staying slim is mindset.

From the list above I am going to talk about the emotional eating aspect today.

So what is an emotional eater?

It’s safe to say that an emotional eater will not see food as fuel only. If you are an emotional eater food is more of a friend that you call on when you need to feel better. When you feel negative emotions you will use food as a way to take your mind off them. Because your mind is distracted by the emotion, it means you don’t recognize when you are hungry or full so eat you fulfill an emotional need rather than a physical one.

Emotional eaters use food as a crutch rather than a source of pleasure to be enjoyed for what it is.

So what emotions might trigger an emotional eater to eat? Well any negative emotion really such as:

Stress

Anxiety

Fear

Sadness

Depressed

Unhappy

Shame

Tiredness

Dislike of yourself

Feeling unloved

Worry

Tiredness

Eating numbs the emotion and therefore feels comforting. But the bad news is after you’ve eaten you will probably feel more negative emotions about yourself like hating yourself for having no control, guilt, not liking your body, feeling fat or ugly or shame (especially if you eat in secret).

If you are unhappy being overweight, you may feel you have to wear make up to ‘hide’ yourself or even feel ugly without it and you may feel the need to behave in a way that distracts from your body which only adds to your feelings of internal discomfort. You may not be happy in your own skin.

Before you beat yourself up for what you crave and eat….

Why is it that certain foods seem to feature highly for emotional eaters? Foods like cake, biscuits, ice cream? Well your cravings can be justified for good reason. The blend of carbohydrates, sugar and fat can be delicious. A multi-sensory and temporarily satisfying experience. The feel in your mouth, the smell, the flavours and the taste exciting your senses and providing a distraction from anything else at that moment. And they are so easily available.

These type of food also provide instant gratification.

But did you know that your brain chemistry actually changes when you eat. “Carbohydrates set off a series of chemical reactions that ultimately lead to a boost in brain serotonin,” says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., the former director of the Research Program in Women’s Health at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Clinical Research Center. The higher the levels of serotonin, the more content you feel (at least temporarily).

There have also been studies around fatty foods making people feel less sad because fatty acids can induce a signal from your gut to your brain, which may influence emotions.

So how can an emotional eater change?

Keep an emotional food diary

Keeping a food diary to track what you’ve been eating alongside what how you are feeling at the time can help you identify what triggers emotional eating.

I’ve made a food and emotion diary download for you which you can download here

Knowing what these triggers are can help you break the emotional eating habits and deal with triggers instead of turning to food.

How can you deal with emotional triggers?

So if you’ve done your food diary and spotted some emotional triggers for you, you need to know how to do something other than eat when they occur.

Although there are many ways that you could find something other than eat to do, it is a good idea if you try and find something that satisfies your reward centre. What I mean by that is the place in your mind that needs to feel good and satisfied (known as a reward centre). If you don’t do this, you are merely distracting yourself from the thought of wanting to eat (this strategy can work well for some people too).

If you think about how your emotions are soothed and the deep connection they have with food for a minute.

Ice cream at the seaside – this often starts in childhood. There you are having a great time with your family and your treat is an ice cream. Not only is the ice cream delicious in itself, but it anchors those happy feelings of your time at the beach probably with people you like to be with.

Popcorn at the cinema – going to the cinema is a sensory experience. you are going to watch a story that you can be absorbed in undisturbed for a couple of hours. You will see things that might be amazing and open your unconscious mind and emotions right up (think Disney or Hollywood). You then eat some sweet popcorn which anchors the experience.

Candy floss at the funfair – you are surrounded by fun and people laughing. you may have been spun round and round or been taken on a ride up in the air. Everyone there is happy and laughing. There are bright lights and your adrenaline, serotonin and oxytocin which make you excited and happy will all be in full force. The candy floss anchors the experience.

These experiences are bonding tastes and food with experiences. Your brain will want the same feeling if you don’t give it the food it thinks it wants.

So you need to get creative to think of things you can do which may make you feel good. Maybe excited or like you’ve accomplished something. Get thinking about what they might be now. What are you craving and how can you get it another way than eating?

If you need help

If you need help with your emotional eating or weight loss then I can help you by seeing you as a one to one client for 4 sessions. It is 4 sessions because we work on any emotional healing that needs to take place to allow you to move on. We work with the inner voice that damages your self-esteem and I help you to love your body (yes in its current form) so you want to care for it and nourish it. We also work on making better food choices, sugar cravings and confidence. The whole works.

If you want to be part of a group and spend 47 days working on your relationship with food, your relationship with yourself, sharing recipes, participating in challenges and listening to Hypnosis audios to help you, then you can join my next Project 47 group which starts on January 9th 2018. Please email me and I will put you on the waiting list.

You can stop smoking in just 2 hours of Hypnotherapy with me.

I’ve developed a really effective treatment to help you stop smoking in just 2 hours.

You don’t need to struggle or feel like a failure for not being able to give up smoking on your own. It can be difficult without help and support. You’ve probably been thinking about giving up or been trying to give up for some time, haven’t you? You’ve thought about all kinds of ways you might deal with it and maybe tried a few of them, haven’t you?

Well you really can be free of cigarettes, free of nicotine and free of a habit that controls you. And feel how good it feels to take nice deep breaths which will give you far more satisfaction than smoking ever could.

I work with you to stop you smoking in 2 hours.

Do you feel like smoking helps you manage stress?

You might feel like smoking helps you deal with stress. In fact the opposite is true. The chemicals in cigarettes are in no way helpful to your body!

There are over two thousand chemical compounds in cigarette smoke. Around thirty of those chemicals are known carcinogens and many are lethal poisons. Once inhaled, smoke condenses and about 70 per cent of the tar in the smoke is deposited in the smoker’s lungs.

We are all aware of the most common chemicals, nicotine and tar, but what are the others? Arsenic is present in tobacco smoke, as is cynanide. Arsenic and cyanide! Both of these substances are instantly recognisable and extremely poisonous to humans.

Nicotine is a recognised vaso-constrictor, it causes the arteries to contract. The heart has to work harder to pump the blood around the body. If you smokes 20 cigarettes a day, then your heart will beat an extra ten thousand beats in 24 hours.

Here’s a list of just some of the deadly poisons in cigarettes:

Benzene (petrol additive) – A colourless cyclic hydrocarbon obtained from coal and petroleum, used as a solvent in fuel and in chemical manufacture – and contained in cigarette smoke. It is a known carcinogen.

Formaldehyde (embalming fluid) – A colourless liquid, highly poisonous, used to preserve dead bodies – also found in cigarette smoke. Known to cause cancer, respiratory, skin and gastrointestinal problems.

Ammonia (toilet cleaner) – Used as flavouring, frees nicotine from tobacco turning it into a gas, found in dry cleaning fluids.

Nicotine (insecticide/addictive drug) is one of the most addictive substances known to man, a powerful and fast-acting medical and non-medical poison. This is the chemical which causes addiction.

Carbon Monoxide (CO) (car exhaust fumes) -an odourless, tasteless and poisonous gas, rapidly fatal in large amounts – it’s the same gas that comes out of car exhausts and is the main gas in cigarette smoke, formed when the cigarette is lit.

How will it feel when you have given up smoking with Hypnotherapy?

When I help you give up smoking with Hypnotherapy, you will be so in control and so confident and strong, it might actually feel quite easy. I will provide you with recordings to listen to so your resolve is stronger than any craving. And if you were to have a craving, I will give you amazing techniques to use to get rid of that craving in less then a minute.

No doubt one of your greatest and strongest desires is to have good health and renewed vitality. You know that your heart and lungs are the main parts of your body that sustain your health and energy. So as a non-smoker you respect and care for your heart and lungs. As a non-smoker, you are choosing health over sickness, strength over weakness, possibly life over death, and this gives you a tremendous feeling of satisfaction.

Giving up smoking is an accomplishment. Hypnotherapy really is the easiest and most effective way to stop.

What reason are you using for not giving up?

Just take a look at this list and make sure you aren’t clinging on to smoking for these common reasons.

An excuse for a break at work

Relaxation

As an end of day ritual

Part of drinking something eg alcohol or coffee

To accompany meals

Part of socialising

To avoid boredom

If any of these are your reason for smoking, we address this with Hypnotherapy during your stop smoking session. It is important for you to feel like you can cope and live life without the cigarettes when you stop smoking.

And think about why you really want to give up

Which of these is your main reason to stop smoking?

Health

Money

Fitness

Family

Freedom

No stale smell

Better breathing

No stained fingers

Whiter teeth

Better skin

Better sleep

Less nervous tension

Something else

Understanding your main reason will give you strength. We tap into that strength during Hypnotherapy and maximise it for your success.You will feel proud of yourself, good about stopping smoking and healthier in every way knowing that you never, ever want to smoke again.

Things you can do before your stop smoking Hypnotherapy session to prepare for giving up

It can really help to prepare for something. Like not packing at the last minute for a holiday or doing your shopping in preparation for a dinner party. Preparation makes you feel in control, organised and ready for the event.

Here are some ideas of how you can prepare to give up smoking.

Try smoking with your other hand. This will make you think more about your smoking habit and take it less for granted.

Try smoking in a different place to your usual place

Tell everyone you are giving up once you’ve booked your Hypnotherapy appointment. Get support from people and make it official

Try doing something you associate with smoking without smoking. Get used to life without the habit.

Try saying out loud ‘I am a non-smoker’. Get used to it ans start believing it!

Visualise how your life will be better as a non-smoker

Make a note of all the places you can go and things you can do without worrying about having to smoke

Make your appointment to stop smoking today

If you have made the decision to be a non-smoker and you want to feel that immense satisfaction of beating the habit, get in touch to book your appointment right now. The treatment is just as effective on Skype so it doesn’t matter where in the world you are. Just phone or text 07530 890089 or email me

Did you get a fit-bit for Christmas?

‘They’ say we should be doing 10,000 a steps a day to be healthy. If you got a fit-bit for Christmas, it will count your steps each day and you might be looking for ways to increase your activity. Maybe you’ve joined a gym or bought an exercise DVD to do at home. Maybe you haven’t really got into anything yet and are finding it hard to motivate yourself.

A ridiculously high percentage of people that join the gym each year in January stop going by February. This might be because they didn’t find something they loved doing. If you find something you love to do you won’t want to stop doing it!

You might need to try a few different things before you find the right exercise for you. Some people enjoy a bit of Zumba and others are not so keen but love to swim or run. You’ve just got to find your thing (or things).

Here are some ideas of things you could try!

1. Max HIIT workout: HIIT is very high-intensity interval training. It burns major calories in less time. This seven-minute HIIT workout is the perfect circuit to raise your heart rate while working your entire body.

3. Tabata workout: Tabata is a type of HIIT workout that involves 20 seconds of max training followed by 10-second rests, for a total of four minutes. This 10-minute Tabata workout video includes two intense circuits along with a quick warm up and cool down.

4.CrossFit workout: CrossFit is for serious athletes. You can see what it is like here

So do any of those take your fancy? would love to hear about what sort of exercise you have tried and what your experience was.

It is often said that when you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit. Howeve, if you are doing something you like aswell as it feeling like more of a natural thing to do, the fact that you enjoying it will be enough to pull you back time and time again.

If you need help embarking on a healthier lifestyle….

If you want to stop smoking to help you in you quest for a healthier lifestyle the easiest way to stop really is with Hypnotherapy. I offer a 2 session stop smoking treatment to get you stopped for good. I do mine in 2 sessions as I have found the results with 2 sessions to be excellent.

Other ways Hypnotherapy can help with fitness is by focusing the mind on sports targets for running and strengthening motivation for all sporting events. The mind is just as important as the body for exercise!

This blog is one in a 30 day series about self-development and practical lists we will be making to enhance our lives. I’m using these blogs to provide coaching and advice in my capacity as a qualified coach and Hypnotherapist working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of things that were special about you to put on your CV. Did you manage to weave those into a personal statement?

Your ninth list:

For your ninth list I would like you to consider writing 2 lists. The first list is a list of all the reasons you think you should or reasons you want to exercise.

The second is exercise you could try and how you will fit it into your life (it can be difficult to imagine how you can fit it into your already jam packed life at all but that’s the reason you wrote the first list).

If the reasons on your first list are strong enough, you will find a way to fit your exercise in.

If you want to feel like the luckiest person alive – try this

It’s easy to think other people are ‘lucky’. But lucky is often mixed with our own judgements and based on the things we think we want. Our view of lucky is often also based on seeing just one aspect of something.

Here are some common things we might think people are lucky for being:

Wealthy

Slim

Healthy

Fit

In a relationship

Popular

Talented

Good looking

When you say ‘aren’t they lucky’ about the people above. Are you really saying ‘I wish I had that’? Looking at the list above all of these things are in your control to have. The only thing that stands between you and the things on this list is you.

I realise at this point you might be questioning is how you become good looking! But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might not look the way you want to but in 2017 you can pretty much improve how you look in every way. But more importantly, if you like what you already have, add a smile and some inner beauty, the world will see your beauty. Don’t you worry about that.

The truth behind lucky

Lucky is a state of mind. Lucky is being grateful for the things you have and not comparing yourself to others. Lucky is making your own luck. Lucky is not placing your happiness in the dangerous position thinking of what you don’t have, but taking real stock of the things you do. Understanding what gives you pleasure and how you can feed you soul.

Let’s look at some of the possible truths behind some of the lucky people on the list above.

Sharon is wealthy. She has a lovely house and a nice Audi. Her husband has his own business and works all the hours god sends. He has had an affair in the past and expects Sharon to ‘get over this’. Sharon is very lonely and wants to leave the marriage but doesn’t have the confidence. Is Sharon lucky?

Lucy is slim. She has a nice figure and can wear pretty much whatever she likes without worrying about bulges. But Lucy suffers from anxiety. Sometimes she has panic attacks and it is a big deal for Lucy to go tot he shops on her own. Quite often she will become anxious in the shop and always has to know the quickest route to the exit in case she needs to leave in a hurry. She is unable to hold down a job due to her anxiety and has lived with her parents her whole life. She often worries about what the future holds for her. Is Lucy lucky?

Tim is popular. He has lots of friends who like socialising and going to football matches. Some of Tim’s friends are married but Tim is single. To be honest he is starting to find the same old routine of drinking and going to matches a bit boring. He is searching deeper meaning in his life but finds this hard to say to anyone. The truth is he is feeling quite depressed. He knows if he said this to his mates they would take the mickey, so he keeps it all bottled up. Is Tim lucky?

Lucky is an illusion

So you see, Lucky is almost an illusion. Lucky is living a life where you are true to yourself. Living a life where you are happy with what you have and appreicate much of the world around you.

Let me tell you about Rebecca. She has done some personal work to understand herself. She is open to the world around her. She walks her dog in the morning and notices the early morning dew on the grass and the first sight of an orange sunrise. Her dog makes her laugh. Rebecca is a personal trainer. She left her corporate job where she was well paid but unhappy and stressed and pursued her passion of personal training. She loves helping people get fit, change their bodies and achieve the goals they have set themselves. She gets lots of thank you cards!

Rebecca is a stocky build but healthy. She is thankful that she doesn’t have any addictions and she values time spent with friends (she has carefully selected people that feed her positive energy). Rebecca loves learning new exercises and healthy eating knowledge. It’s a win-win as she gets healthier and so do her clients. She is growing her business but taking her time because although she likes the nice things in life, she values her work/life balance too. Rebecca is comfortable in her own skin. Is Rebecca lucky?

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of ways you could nurture yourself. How did you find writing that list and when do you plan to have your first nurture session?

Your seventh list:

The seventh list you are going to write is your lucky list. It’s a bit like a gratitude list which you can read about in one of my previous blogs hereMake a list of all the reasons you are lucky. and keep a copy somewhere you can look at it every time you need a boost. Someone, somewhere probably thinks you are very lucky.

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

The nurture list for busy women

We hear it a lot us busy women. Learn to relax. Take care of you first so you can care for others. Have a nice bubble bath with candles and you will feel brand new.

Now I am not saying that bubble baths aren’t lovely. They can be. But I consider them to be quite lightweight in the true sense of self-nurturing.

Self-nurturing is doing things that feed your body well, interest or relax your mind or connect you socially. Or disconnect you socially! True self-nurturing is doing things that make your eyes light up or ignite or care for your spirit. Also relaxing and seeing worries drift away.

So what is nurturing yourself?

Nurturing yourself might be:

Putting yourself in a cocoon of blankets and hibernating quietly

Taking a chunk of time to read

Making a delicious known or new recipe

Doing some exercise

Reading magazines

Doing something sensual

Exploring a new hobby

Taking a walk

Getting out in nature

Meditating

Seeking out a new holistic treatment

Looking at holiday destinations

Learning something

Go to the cinema alone

Sleep

Some of my Hypnotherapy clients come to be nurtured. They enjoy the relaxing feelings that Hypnotherapy brings. The true sense of inner calm. Almost like a floating escape. The effects of a Hypnotherapy relaxation session can last for days. With 4 sessions you can have the effects for a lifetime as your calm ‘muscle’ will be well and truly flexed, reducing stress and anxiety for good.

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of people who have your six or your desired qualities for your ‘sixer’ to have. Did it surprise you how many people have had or do have your six? Or are you looking forward to getting some sixers in your life?

Your sixth list:

The sixth list you are going to write is your ‘ways to nuture myself’ list. Make a list of all the ways that you can nurture yourself, no matter how small or big. This is a list that you can reference back to when you feel you need some self love and care.

Share your list!

If you are comfortable to, please share your list in the comments. Think of all the great ways we could self nurture if we shared 🙂

See you tomorrow.

Honey

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Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.