Happiness is free, a choice, and if you don’t have it nothing else is worth anything.

Naturally, women are care takers by nature & often, we will take on the weight of the world at the expense of ourselves. There are a few things I do my best to live by & in the past few weeks I have had to remind myself about the little thing called Balance!

Here is my “list”

Put yourself First. Take care of your health. I’m not obsessive about eating right & working out, but it definetly is something when I slip off I feel on every ounce of my body. & it’s okay to say “no” or “next week”.

Look Good. If you look good, you feel good. Fact! The better (especially a) woman feels about her appearance the more productive she is. Nothing can make a day worst then looking as bad as you feel.

Music. It has power in your life. I encourage listening/dancing to music regularly, but not crap that is about heart break and bullshit! Music is also an excellent way to change your mood… feeling gloomy? Put on something that makes you feel good, dance around, and get the hell over it!

Fresh Flowers. I endorse buying yourself flowers just because. They are alive and beautiful, like you should be! Life is short surround yourself with blooming things!

Fresh People. You should spend time with people who are headed the same direction you are. Misery loves company and nobody is saying, “Let’s invite Debbie Downer out” or excited when DD is calling. The only good DD is a boob size! And those can be real or fake… but not your friends! I don’t care how long you’ve been friends with DD, trust me she/they will find someone else to complain to religeousely.

Treats. Despite your financial situation, treat yourself. Whether it’s a Latte, Shoes, Dinner & Desert, Dress you have no idea where in the hell you will ever wear it, Bubble Bath & Wine,Massage, Calling in to work (responsibly), Etc… You deserve to indulge in nothing but yourself, at least occasionally!

Organization. Ugh!! Believe me, I know! Clutter is a direct reflection of how chaotic or unmanaged your life is. Make your bed! Vaccum out your car! Avoid every room having a designated junk area! Your home should be your sanctuary and it should be inviting if others come over or for the people that share your space… Shame on you for having people over if your home is a complete mess! Truly it’s important because it gives your life clarity and ability to sit down in peace… It is deeper then appearance. Besides, no matter how far we have come as women, Men notice more then you think ladies… Take Pride!

Mood Swings. Lets face it ladies, nothing even has to happen for us to switch up. I’m not even sure how they diagnose Bipolar… Every woman I know, IS! We often take out our emotions on the people we are closest to (not because they are around the most) but for trust purposes. We know how to keep it together situation pending. & Relationships, whether it’s with your kids, boyfriend, friends, family, etc… Take a moment every once in a while and listen to yourself. Effective Communication is crucial in every relationship.

Appreciate Yourself. I’m one of those do it for yourself type of women. Clingy and unreliable is the ugliest thing a woman can be. So make sure, you remember that you are important & deserve to show yourself gratitude for all the hard work you put into having a good life. It’s not about being conceited or entitled, but others treat you how you treat yourself… Not how you treat them.

I’m sure there are many women out there that feel this way….

Put your husband, kids before yourself. Looks aren’t everything. You don’t know what I’ve been thru. I have trust issues. If I had time to clean & stay organized I would. You don’t have kids to tell me I should be organized. Flowers are a waste of money. I’m a bitch and people can either love it or hate it. I’m not going to stop being someones friend just because their life isn’t positive.

Okay.. so the title is a little harsh, but after seeing BeatFreeks post yesterday about Rihanna’s video (which I had mixed feelings about) I think it’s necessary to put her on the Call Out list and say, REALLY? what the fuck is going on with you lately? are you on drugs?!! It must be that hollywood shit we don’t have access to in the midwest because during NONE of my experimental days did I ever get so out of my mind to feel like this look is in any way excusable! I like bold and edgy… Realistically this is scary and horrifiying! None of it is okay… not even the necklaces. Let’s get down to the worst part (no, not that stupid facial expression she is making on the left) It looks like her and 80s Madonna got in a fight with Edward Scissor Hands (excellent movie, horrible modern day representation of his work) I’m aware she isn’t trying to be glamorous and elegant, stage or not… I’m embarassed for her! It’s like she’ll go back to looking edgy femme and hot for a photoshoot, part of a video, etc. and then BAM! she reverts back to looking like she was rescued from her burning house and in no decade has this been a trend. Sometimes even the Stars need to come down off the Clouds!

Remember this Rihanna? Hot!!Bring her back!

I hate to bring it up… but is this what you’re still dealing with inside? We all have our issues!!

Since its Valentine’s Day (one of my favorite holidays due to the fact that I’m ultra girly and adore things that I can adore) I decided to make a post on some of my personal admirations….

I do LOVE PINK, but my obsession with being drawn to things in black & white is what I’m going to share with you today…

From photography, interior design, clothing, handbags, etc… something about the pop of basics is my forever go to combination that always makes sense. It is classy, simple, elegant, yet bold and fierce!! Now that spring is around the corner and I’ve exhausted decorating and dressing in black and white (my room and store are painted and decorated and I happen to be a walking chameleon most of the time to the both) I am really beginning to think I want to throw my entire wardrobe out and repaint (at least my bedroom) more blush and neutral colors and incorporate some of them into my everyday wear… the brights aren’t my personality every day & I need a little more umph then just blacks/whites & frankly I’m getting older (pushing 23 next month I make it sound like I’m 28!) but I am in that not teenie bopper but not quite “mature” older woman era yet (not that I ever plan on shopping at Christopher & Banks no matter how old and wrinkly I could become) it’s things to think about so coming soon I will dive into some of my ideas about a new little transition!! Happy Valentine’s Day!! :) xoxo

Thanks to my amazing best friend, I’ve officially decided to launch my very own blog (I’ve been following blogs religiously on the sidelines for quite some time & since our entire lives are having to be connected via technology this is a better way for us to keep in touch and update each other on every fabulous and not so fabulous thing in the world we find that we must share).

I’m a big hearted bitch (full of opinion, but typically with a positive attitude) that is enfactuated with the art of fashion (not to be confused with a label and a heavy price tag solely) and anything that brings life and beauty to this world… I’m a sucker for. I’m all about Edgy & Femme and pushing the envelope in life, so that is basically what you will get from my blog… Enjoy!