I have an issue with arranged marriages. On one level it is great for parents who want to bond with families, for individuals that are desperate for partners and don’t come in contact with many people, or for couples who are content with role playing and creating families and want a sense of tradition and conformity in their lives.
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However, so often we come across people who are married purely by merit of caste, community, religion, family connections, etc., without getting to know the partner, simply because the families insisted on it and have lived to regret it. If you choose your own life partner, the responsibility of your actions lie with you and so in the eventuality, things don’t work out and the decision to stay or end it lies with you.
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When families put pressure on their kids to marry, with an “our way or the highway,” kind of attitude, it should be the parent’s responsibility to protect, stand up for and help their children in the eventuality of abuse, in-law harassment or ill-treatment of any kind. Washing their hands off their daughters once they are married and turning their faces away when she cries for help, is like selling your daughter to slavery and sex.
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This is a note to all parents out there who believe their kids must marry the partner of their choosing: that if they expect the trust and respect to be given to them by their children, then they must be live up to that trust and respect post the seven phera’s. They helped keep your respect, now help them retain theirs.
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