and coming from a family with 2 step-parents. they (my steps) let my mom and dad deal with any and all issues concerning me. if my step mom had issues i didn't know it...she talked to my dad and he spoke to me or my mom. same with my step dad.

never in my life have my step mom/dad came at my bio parents aggresively in my presence talking bout "they" need to work some shyt out.

unless all parties want to collaborate "together" then people need to learn to stay in their lane. less confusion that way...imo...

[QUOTE=*Belle*Femme*]Maybe its just me but I dont feel like gabe got beat down as bad as BHM and peter, is making it seem. Yeah he got a black eye, but that dont mean that oliver was just pouncing on his face. Maybe one swift one to the face like you: You going to jail nahhhh.[/QUOTE]

But TC.......*wiggles arm* u might give them a tongue lashing but i'm sure u would actually hear what they had to say first. If anything just so later on (if anything popped off) u could say I had to put that broad in her place cause she stepped to me with xyz. Not cause she said "we have to talk".

no. at the point that they are at. just no. his bish has nothing to say to me (on thanksgiving) about wtf is going on with my child. go have some more turkey heffa. get the f*ck outta my face. send an email.

But TC.......*wiggles arm* u might give them a tongue lashing but i'm sure u would actually hear what they had to say first. If anything just so later on (if anything popped off) u could say I had to put that broad in her place cause she stepped to me with xyz. Not cause she said "we have to talk".

no. at the point that they are at. just no. his bish has nothing to say to me (on thanksgiving) about wtf is going on with my child. go have some more turkey heffa. get the f*ck outta my face. send an email.

But TC.......*wiggles arm* u might give them a tongue lashing but i'm sure u would actually hear what they had to say first. If anything just so later on (if anything popped off) u could say I had to put that broad in her place cause she stepped to me with xyz. Not cause she said "we have to talk".

no. at the point that they are at. just no. his bish has nothing to say to me (on thanksgiving) about wtf is going on with my child. go have some more turkey heffa. get the f*ck outta my face. send an email.

Maybe its just me but I dont feel like gabe got beat down as bad as BHM and peter, is making it seem. Yeah he got a black eye, but that dont mean that oliver was just pouncing on his face. Maybe one swift one to the face like you: You going to jail nahhhh.]]>
Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:16:33 +0000http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972317.html#9972317http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972314.html#9972314
Author: ThoughtCoutureSubject: 351207Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 2:14pm

lol pity. yes.

there is nothing in the world that will make me believe the feel to have this little talk didn't stem from saltiness about halle not being about to move around freely with nahla.

i can see it now...i'm dropping my child off at their dad's home and his bish emerges onto the front stoop cause she "has" to talk to me on thanksgiving about a custody hearing. lawd. no. just no.

But TC.......*wiggles arm* u might give them a tongue lashing but i'm sure u would actually hear what they had to say first. If anything just so later on (if anything popped off) u could say I had to put that broad in her place cause she stepped to me with xyz. Not cause she said "we have to talk".

and like i said, a wanna be step person aint got shyt to say to me about issues/thoughts/concerns regarding current litigation involving MY child. i wouldn't slap-a-heaux but she would mos def wouldda got the verbal slaying of life...

tbh if you're at the litigation stage, things are already not cordial. so you stepping to me is gonna be met with me looking like this as a response to everything you ask

and like i said, a wanna be step person aint got shyt to say to me about issues/thoughts/concerns regarding current litigation involving MY child. i wouldn't slap-a-heaux but she would mos def wouldda got the verbal slaying of life...

that man was mad about the the way the court battles have been going and that halle is not free to take nahlah to paris or wherever the hell he lives. he wanted to talk man to man about it...

*shrugs* Well at least Gabe shoulda let the man say what he had to say then at least he could have a ...better(?) reason as to why he went ahead and got slapped up. I mean.....either way...we have no idea what Olivier was going to say. He pushed the man cause he said "we have to talk"...that's soundin'...just ridiculous and looks bad on his part.

oh and just to say it again....just cause Olivier whooped Gabe's ass don't mean that he would put his hand on Halle just based upon that. I know guys that have whooped ass and never put their hands on a woman.

That said....just cause we all know this is Halle...welp. I just felt the need to cape for the good guys I know that have had to throw down in self defense.]]>
Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:47:30 +0000http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972255.html#9972255http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972249.html#9972249
Author: ThoughtCoutureSubject: 351207Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:45pm

i don't believe for one second he was extending no olive branch. lol

that man was mad about the the way the court battles have been going and that halle is not free to take nahlah to paris or wherever the hell he lives. he wanted to talk man to man about it...

Not sure I get the "he shouldn't have said anything to Gabe or come over" line of thinking or anything like that. Olivier is Halle's fiancé. Which means that when they get married, he will be a stepfather. It's impossible for him to completely avoid anything related to this child, as Halle will be his wife and they will live as a family unit, to some extent. He could have been just trying to get along. Maybe he might have waited for the wedding to actually happen, but they are gonna have to talk eventually, unless Halle and him break up before taking the big step...

IA Jolie. I mean...this is how sh*t be startin' in blended families. If parties are willing to come together for the betterment of the children....what the prollem is? U mad cause your ex's new new want to speak to you regarding your child or just speak to you period? Word? U that mad that your ex has gone on to live their life. I mean....there's no tellin' what Olivier would have said. He might have been extending an olive branch.

Not sure I get the "he shouldn't have said anything to Gabe or come over" line of thinking or anything like that. Olivier is Halle's fiancé. Which means that when they get married, he will be a stepfather. It's impossible for him to completely avoid anything related to this child, as Halle will be his wife and they will live as a family unit, to some extent. He could have been just trying to get along. Maybe he might have waited for the wedding to actually happen, but they are gonna have to talk eventually, unless Halle and him break up before taking the big step...

IA Jolie. I mean...this is how sh*t be startin' in blended families. If parties are willing to come together for the betterment of the children....what the prollem is? U mad cause your ex's new new want to speak to you regarding your child or just speak to you period? Word? U that mad that your ex has gone on to live their life. I mean....there's no tellin' what Olivier would have said. He might have been extending an olive branch.

meh say what you will-Cynthia, Peter, and and her baby daddy have a very great relationship that is cordial and respectful and even friendly. Since he is a man who is a stepparent, he understands the situation likely more than the women in the thread. he is just opining like anyone else.

/meh/

no Cynthia already had A GREAT relationship with her child's father, PETER didn't have a damn thing to do with that.. he just happened to go along with what they ALREADY HAD established, so he can still sat his ugly buckwheat looking ass down, and stfu while he's at it..

He didn't say he did. Peter has a good relationship with the BD as well...otherwise the man wouldn't spend weeks at a time in his home nor would he be cooking for him making him dinner.

^^I agree. Clearly at this point in time, they are not able to act like mature adults]]>
Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:18:49 +0000http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972189.html#9972189http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/halle-baby-daddy-arrested-for-fighting-her-fiance_topic351207_post9972184.html#9972184
Author: ThoughtCoutureSubject: 351207Posted: Dec 06 2012 at 1:15pm

well in my case the relationships were never strained between my mom/step-mom dad/step-dad.

when decisions had to be made about me...what school i would go to, where i would live (my dad moved out of the state when i was in hs), curfews, driving ect ect ect my mom and dad discussed these things and delivered decisions to me. that is not to say that my step mom/dad didn't have input. they probably did. what i am saying is that their input was funneled thru my bio parents.

there were plently of times we were ALL together...dinners, school plays, graduations, birthdays, weddings, family bbq's ect ect ect...and we all had fun together.

i am just saying that if there are MAJOR disagreements, it would be best for people to stay in their lane.

tbh, halle and gabe are the only ones that need to figure out a way to communicate. either to each other or through a moderator.

gabe and ollie never have to talk. ever. even if halle marries him.

as long as they don't speak ill of each other around or to nahlah, she will be fine.

I don't know. I've never had step parents so I don't know what that experience is like, so you may be right. I just can't envision it. If Olivier marries Halle, he'll have a lot more one on one interaction with Gabe's kid, taking ther to the mall or the zoo or whatever. I would think that Gabe would want a man to man talk at one point as to what he expects... But then again, it may never even get to them marrying in the first place...