BFers - OH bonding with baby?

Because Poppy won't take a bottle, I am doing all the feeding. I am a bit concerned that DH (dear husband) isn't bonding with her enough. I'm worried that when I finally dare to go out and leave her for more than half an hour with him, all hell will break loose!

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No, because DH (dear husband) does his share of everything else - nappy changes, baths and dressing, going for walks in the sling, reading and playing, comforting etc. There will be times when only mummy will do - that's the case for pretty much all babies, whether BF (breastfeed, or boyfriend) or FF. And IMHO (in my humble opinion) that's totally right and natural. It'll be balanced by times when only daddy will do - even if it takes a couple of years for that the kick in - and you'll be the one feeling left out!

Stan won't be comforted by him, but does have plenty of 'happy time!' with him - And swimming the other day was a really nice bonding moment for them - I felt left out!!!!! He does plenty of nappies, wearing him for walks, playing etc so no bonding issues here!

Nope, OH (other half) does plenty of other things like bath time and nappy changing and sometimes on an evening Dylan can be a bit fussy but as soon as OH (other half) takes him he just snuggles up and falls asleep! Also OH (other half) gets faar more smiles than me - its like Dylan gets bored of hanging out with me all the time lol. Dylan also tries to wake OH (other half) up in the middle of the night if I go to the loo (we co sleep) I can hear Dylan 'shouting' at OH (other half) because he wants to play lol I come back and he's grinning at OHs sleeping back and waggling his little arms about excitedly!

Have you tried different things to get Poppy to take a bottle? I was worried that Dylan wouldn't but we just went for it one day - I went to town and did some much needed clothes shopping and OH (other half) looked after Dylan by himself for about 3 hours and he was fine. (I on the other hand was trying to stop my brain having a mini panic attack every 5 mins!) We use the TT closer to nature bottles/teats. I have heard that babies will take a bottle of other people easier if you're not there (because clearly a boob is preferable!) also you could give OH (other half) a top of yours that you have worn so he will smell like you and that might encourage LO (little one) to drink?Or failing that he could just try giving it to her out of a cup if she hates teats?

DH (dear husband) does lots of other stuff with Poppy, but we seem to be divided into two teams and he is spending lots of time with DD1 - she's become a realdaddy's girl!!!

We've tried several different bottles, with EBM (expressed breast milk) and formula. We are just going to go for it one day - DD1 and I will disappear to my Mum's for the day. Don't want to do it until I'm REALLY desperate though (got a wedding in April so want to know she'll take a bottle before that).

just posting from june 09 board! we now have a 20month old, is now bf just once a day. he was ebf, wouldnt take bottles/dummy etc.....LO's relationship with daddy is fantastic! daddy mad! so dont worry at all! it all irons its self out in the end!

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