Tips on How to Get Your Ex Back

Take a good, long look at all the things that are happening in his or her life and try to recognize how the relationship may have not been fulfilling or advantageous for them.

By truly understanding that your ex is not out to hurt you, but rather to find their own personal peace and happiness, may help you get through this painful event. Too many people think that the cure to the pain caused by their breakup is to 'get back together with their ex'. In actuality, the cure to their grief and their hurt is to understand and accept their ex's choices to dissolve the relationship and to find forgiveness for their ex for hurting them, and by learning to recognize their own grief triggers and working through them on their own.INDIFFERENCE AND DISINTEREST!

Apathy does a very uncanny thing to our exes. It makes them wonder why we don't appear to care that they are no longer in our lives. Consequently, they will begin to feel quite alone, insignificant, and insecure without this acknowledgement of them, and this creates in them an emotional need to have you back in their lives, or to regain your love and acceptance once more.ELIMINATE THE SAD SACK DEMEANOR

Stop hauling your bitter-sad life story around with you everywhere you go. Studies find that happy, smiling people are considered far more desirable to the opposite sex. Think about it - are you drawn to depressed bitter people? No! And why would your ex want to be around you if you are dragging your sack of issues with you every single time they see you? By being beautiful both inside and out and by getting rid of negativity you create a certain radiance about you that is simply irresistible. Ironically, almost all people who broke off a relationship said that the underlying cause of the breakup was simply because the other party was too demanding, depressing, needy, or miserably unhappy all the time, creating a sense of unease and stress when they were around them. Their partners no longer brought them joy.

So paint a smile on your face and show them pearly whites! No matter how wretchedly unhappy you probably feel inside at this sad time in your life try to put your grief, bitterness, and sadness aside and morph into that magnetic, radiant person that just emanates optimism and attracts people to them like moths to a light.

We know that it is hard to be happy when your whole world is turned upside down without them by your side. Most likely if your ex initiated the breakup they are handling it better than you. They know that they could probably win you back if they wanted, and they are not dealing with the pain of rejection or of abandonment as you may be. Add to this, they might be in a 'pulling away' mode, which takes some strategic actions on your side to get them to come back around to wanting to be near you and not 'away' from you. This is discussed more at Stop Ending Relationships.DON'T LOSE CONTROL OF YOURSELF OR YOUR EMOTIONS

Negative emotions run high during a breakup. However, if you display anger, blame, shaming, or contempt you may just be reminding them of exactly why they chose to leave the relationship.

Remain neutral, calm and in control of your negative emotions. Display a true understanding, patience, charm, and sweetness. After all, you want them to see that there is quite a bit of value in being with you...SO DISPLAY THAT YOU HAVE VALUE

Cease all the ugly begging, sobbing, pleading, and blatant hopelessness. Don't phone them, send them Hallmarks, letters or emails, or any kind of instant or text message. It will not only make you look unworthy and make you feel pathetic, it will prove to them that you truly are of absolutely no value to them. If you show your ex that you have no value without him or her, your ex will only see that you, yourself, have 'zero' value period. You will only end up making yourself appear more unattractive in his or her eyes and push them even farther away from you then they already are. Why validate to them that their decision to end the relationship was the right one, after all?

Totally, completely and truly love you with all your might, heart, and soul. Your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend will only love and respect you that much more if you truly love and respect you.

Then move on with this new you. Make them curious. Make them want to meet you all over again.

Remember, you ARE single again. So get out there and enjoy being free. There is a world of living waiting for you so have some fun!MYSTERY IS CAPTIVATING

Part of the strategy to grow yourself involves becoming a whole new and better person - one they want to be with and one you feel good about. Once you have improved on you you want to captivate them back to you. To keep him or her captivated to you, you need to keep you hidden, obscure, and unrevealed to them. You need to keep some part of yourself forbidden territory - so completely off limits to them that they can only imagine what mysteries abound. People are mesmerized by a person's enchanting and bewitching mystery.

So, don't let the 'new-improved' you be an open book!BE TRUE TO YOUR GENDER

Men need to learn to be more masculine and women need to learn to be more feminine. The more feminine a woman is the more manly a man feels when he is with her - and the more he will want to be with her. The more masculine a man is around a woman the more she will feel feminine when around him and the more she will desire to be with him. Stop trying to match the opposite sex thinking that you are pleasing them that way and start getting back in touch with your true identity.

LIVE AGAIN

Whether you curl up in a ball and watch the world pass by or you get off your arse and join it, things are going to be exactly the way they are going to be. So you might as well enjoy life. It has the added benefit of making your ex stand up and take notice of you again!

DON'T MEDDLE IN THEIR LIFE

It's none of your business and will most likely hurt you - and your chances of reuniting. Don't ask your ex's family or friends about him or her. Don't drive by their workplace. Don't give them your unsolicited advice or feedback.

Let them go and give them back to themselves. You will be much more attractive this way, and you will feel much better, too.DON'T APPEAR BURDENSOME BY LACK OF SELF-RESPECT

As stated before, one's lack of respect in oneself is a very unattractive quality. Learn to respect yourself and do not hurt yourself by continuously placing yourself in hurtful situations. The only person you need in your life to feel good about you is you.PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE - SO BACK OFF

Although it may have come as a surprise to you when you suddenly found yourself 'single' again, relationships do not crumble overnight. You must learn to be patient, as regaining your love back is not going to happen overnight, either.

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