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"There is no better way to thank God for your sight than by giving a helping hand to someone in the dark." - Helen Keller

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck

You may never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.- Unknown

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow' ~Helen Keller

Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."- Dr. Seuss

"Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it."

"God doesn't give children with disabilities to strong people: He gives them to ordinary, everyday people, then He helps the parents to grow stronger through the journey. Raising a child with special needs doesn't TAKE a special family, it MAKES a special family."Author Unknown

I have been driven many times to my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had nowhere else to go – Abraham Lincoln

Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man. ~ Benjamin Franklin

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is a miracle - Albert Einstein

The journey of a 1000 miles starts with a single step

Sometimes in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives you a fairy tale

Where there is great love, there are always miracles - Willa Cather

The Difficult we can do immediately, the impossible takes a little longer

Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness

There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

My Liebster Award Post

The rules for the acceptance are:1) Visit and thank the blogger who nominated you2) Acknowledge that blogger on your blog and link back3) Answer the 10 questions posed by the blogger who nominated you4 ) Select 3 – 5 bloggers for the award5) Pose 10 new questions to the new nominees6) Post the award on your blog

We originally started blogging when we adopted our son, Cainan in 2007. We felt this would be the easiest way for Mat to tell us what was happening over in China and post pictures of our new little man. When we returned home, we decided to keep the blog going to use as a memory book for him and for the girls. Because we have never lived within 600 miles of family since we had children, it has become the perfect way to keep in contact with everyone.

2. What is the most surprising thing that has happened to you since you began blogging?

I actually have followers! People who actually come and read about our life. And since Finley was diagnosed with Lebers Congenital Amaurosis (LCA) we have gained so much support through the blog.

3. What is your proudest moment?

Starting our foundation. We were so lost when Finley was diagnosed. We just wondered around the internet soaking up information, and becoming deeper and deeper aware that nothing was being done for a cure for LCA RDH12. We started having fundraisers, and the next thing I know, we are an actual 501(c)3 and 2 1/2 years into being a foundation we have raised $800,000 for research. That makes me proud every time I say it. We were told we could never do this as a "group of parents" - that we would have to wait for the "big boys" to catch up and fund this for us. We showed them.

4. What do you find to be the toughest thing about dealing with a child that has a special need?

Not knowing what her future will hold. Finley is a full time job. I am constantly on high alert when we are out to make sure she isn't getting hurt. She needs help with everything - eating, dressing, homework, daily tasks. Sometimes I just look at her and sigh.

5. What do you find to be the best thing about dealing with a child with a special need?

How much she has taught us. As "needy" as she is, she is twice as strong. I am her mother, so I constantly worry, but Finley has shown us how full her life is. She is happy, smart, healthy, and silly. I can't imagine her being any other way. This is the hand she was dealt, and she is choosing to not let it run her life.

6. What is your "lazy rainy day" to go plan?

This is a funny one! I wish I had lazy days. While the kids are in school, I work on the foundation or work around the house. Or volunteer. But when we are all home, and all together, we make time to watch movies together. Or we order pizza and put on some music and the kids dance around.

7. You're a superhero, so what's your name and what's your special power?

Hmmmm. I would want to be Storm. I know - that name is already taken. I want her powers. Maybe I could be Cyclone? This is how my life is anyway! I make noise where ever I go. I am easy to get excited - especially when it comes to Finley. Or politics.

8. What's your most used phrase, either in your blog, your head, to your kids...?

I say "Awesome" way to much. "Are you flippin' kidding me" comes out of my mouth way too often. To the kids? "stop bothering each other".

9. Do you live by any motto or philosophy?

Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. My motto for sure. No one lays down and does nothing for their child. This is the hand we were dealt. And we are dealing with it by making sure her life is the best it can be.

- Jennifer and I became friends when Finley was first diagnosed. She is a powerful person both in soul and in life. You will never meet a stronger mama than this one. You have to read her blog, and meet her family. She is such a mover for LCA and her son - go check her out. You will be blown away.

-Another family of movers and shakers. Liam has Oculocutaneous Albinism. She also runs Liam's Project to help families who are going through what her family is going through. She is an amazing mama, and I am so glad we met. We are lucky to have such support in our community of blindness.

This mama is a wonderful resource. I have learned so much from her. Her daughter, Abby, has Lebers Hereditary Optic Neuropathy - DIFFERENT Lebers than Finley (although I think it might be named after the same man.....). I cherish her blog post. Her daughter is slightly older than Finley so I love reading about what accessibility items her daughter uses. She is an amazing advocate for her daughter, and a force to be reckoned with. Like all three of my mama's I chose for this award!

Never underestimate the power of a parent.

My 10 questions for them to answer

1. When you first got your child's diagnosis - what was your immediate reaction?

2. Why did you start blogging?

3. What is the best thing you have learned since your child was diagnosed?

4. What are you proudest of?

5. Do you have any regrets?

6. What would you say to a new parent that just was told their child was blind/going blind?

7. How do you balance family life and life with a child with special needs?

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We are a family of 5 living in Massachusetts. Mat and I have been married for 16 years, and we have three children. Arlington is 11 years old, and Finley and Cainan are 8 years old. We adopted Cainan from China when he was 14 months old. He was born with cleft lip and palate level three. This blog started out as our journey to bring him into our family and has turned into our family blog. He and Finley are only 30 days apart!! We love being a blended family, and enjoy sharing about our trials and tribulations through becoming one! Also, our daughter Finley was diagnosed in 2009 with Lebers Congenital Amaurosis (LCA) a rare genetic eye condition that has made her legally blind. Come and read about our proud family!If you want to read Cainan's story, click here:The Pletcher Five Journey Blessings Times Three: Cainan's Story