Sex and HIV

Guest Author - Jontay Watson

Attempting to return the world of sex after finding out that you are HIV/AIDS positive can be a scary experience. We are creatures of habit. It is hard to develop new habits after a lifetime of doing things a certain way. But it is necessary to change how you have sex in order to keep yourself and the person(s) you are with safe.

I know this is easier said than done. I mean honestly, how does one go from bareback to using condoms? The flesh on flesh feeling is like nothing else in this world. How does one get use to using dental dams? Undoing these bad habits will be difficult; but not impossible. This change is going to take some time. You can only take it one step at a time. But it does require consistency.

The first thing to know is that this concept has to change in your mind first. The change has to be mental then it can move to physical. You have to wrap your mind around safety above pleasure. You have to understand the importance of this change. You have to really come to grips with the consequences of your actions. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Just like anything else; practice makes perfect. You have to practice using condoms. You have to combat your negative feelings concerning how they feel. Understand by using condoms is keeping you and the person you are with safe. It is not true that once you have HIV/AIDS nothing worse can happen. There is cross contamination. You can contract a different strand of HIV. One worse than the strand you have now. You can pick up a strand that is resistant to medication. There is always something worse that can happen. It simply is not worth the risk.

Using the right condom is just as important as using condoms. Sheepskin condoms do not prevent the passage of HIV. Sheepskin has pores and can transmit the virus. Only latex condoms prevent the spread of condoms.

We will cover the proper way to use condoms in another article. The purpose of this article is just getting you to use them on a continual basis.