Archive for September, 2015

If you have chosen to live as a woman, you’re going to have to accept a few things:

1) Your experiences are going to be completely different that those of natural born women. This is not a bad thing. This does not make you more or lesser. This just is.

2) You will NEED to be a feminist – the feminist goal is NOT to bring anyone down, but to lift women UP. Stop acting like natural-born women are your enemy. Stop using MRA-style tactics to bring women down.

3) There are biological facts that [most] women experience. Menstruation, pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause.
If you chose to live as a woman, you cannot (read: should not) fake these. These are not glamorous. These are not pleasant.
These biological realities for women can be painful in many ways. “Pretending” to go through these is offensive.

There is much about womanhood that you will not and cannot understand or experience.
THAT is what makes a woman.
Not clothing or makeup or hobbies.

4) Wanting to live as a woman, but erase the word “woman” makes no sense. If you don’t want women to identify as women… why should you get to do so?
Don’t exclude women. Don’t erase them.
If you want to live as one, you need to ALLOW them to be themselves.

5) Calling myself a woman does not make you a lesser person. It is not meant to insult you. That is my biological reality.
I am in no way insulted if you call yourself a woman.

6) Do not call me “cis”. Cis is a chemistry term, and not a biology term. I am a woman – biologically female – unaltered. Cis is a hateful slur used to insult women by MEN who are fetishizing womanhood. I understand this is a small pocket of the trans community; that does not make it less derogatory.

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I will call you a woman if that is your preference. Your desire to wear whatever clothes, and use whatever name you’d like is no offense to me. You are a human being, deserving of your right to live your life how you see fit.

But you also need to accept that I was born female. I have had to endure things that you will never know (on the flip-side, you will have gone through things I will never know).

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My point is this:
[Most] Women are not trying to erase transwomen (or transmen, for that matter). Please don’t erase us.

I saw this post on my Facebook feed today, comparing Malala to one of the Kylie Jenner.

“Malala Yousafzai & Kylie Jenner. Both turned 18 recently. One was given a Ferrari and spent thousands on facial modification. The other was awarded a Nobel Peace Prize, survived a gun shot to the face by the Taliban due to corruption in her country, and opened a school for Syrian refugees to combat the lack of education for youth around the world. What’s upsetting is the media is only covering one of these stories as “breaking news.” Share the post to spread real love and inspiration across the youth of the world. Last thing to note, Malala is infinitely more beautiful! **re-posted”

I made the mistake of reading the comments. (NEVER READ THE COMMENTS)
“jesus do all those talentless ho bags have the same plastic surgeon? they all look like the same plastic mold of expressionless garbage”
^This. This right here is the kind of crap we women have to deal with.
I would LOVE to respond directly, but that would only cause some severe male backlash for which I just have no patience today.

So I did a quick status update….

(Copied from my FB page)

Ohmaifukkinggawdz….
Comparing the character of people is one thing, but stop talking about their physical appearance.
It doesnt matter how much cosmetic surgery a woman has had. That’s her choice. It may not be your thing, but that doesn’t matter, because she didn’t do it for you.

Comparing a psuedo-celebrity (who, as far as I know, has done nothing for world-betterment) to a young woman who has pushed boundaries and fought for social justice is asinine when all you care about is who is more “beautiful”.