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The aim of this article is to provide an outline of the
attributes you require to become incredibly successful, so you can
decide how you need to improve to increase your levels of success. Each
attribute will be dealt with in depth in future articles and e-Books,
but this is a great starting point if you truly want to become hugely
successful.

The first thing I want to say here, is that I’m talking about being successful in all areas of your life. This
article’s not just about being successful in work or business, it’s
also about being successful in your relationships, all aspects of your
home life, your hobbies and interests, your health and fitness… in fact
just about anything you want to be successful in!

So, as you read through this article, simply apply the thoughts and
ideas to the area(s) of your life in which you want to achieve success…
or more success!

OK, let’s get started – have you ever known me to hang around – of course not! And I’m not going to disappoint today, either!

This may shock you… or it might not… but there is no secret to success!
What? I can hear the cries from far and wide! Don’t believe me? That’s
probably because so many gurus, coaches and so-called experts have
created this great mystery behind success… usually down to their own
self-interest! Create a mystery… create a problem… then cerate a
solution… and charge people for it! Look, we all need to earn a living,
but why the mystery? Let’s just be honest with each other and help each
other and this world of ours will be a much better and happier place to
be!

OK, you want a secret? This is it…

You can achieve success in any area of your life… as long as
you have the desire to do so and as long as you’re prepared to learn a
few new things along the way. Add to that the ability to set goals, a
touch of confidence and success is yours for the taking! Weh-hey!

Oops, I’ve let the cat out of the bag… it’s not a secret anymore!
Aargh! OK, if it’s not a secret, you’re probably wondering why some
people are so successful and others are failures! Your words… not mine!
Actually, there’s no such thing as a failure… just a lesson learned. Ask
Thomas Edison (inventor of the electric light bulb). Well, OK, so you
can’t ask him now… he’s no longer with us… but his quote is so famous
and makes my point well! He was asked how he carried on with his
research when his experiments failed so many times. And his answer?

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”.

Now, you can be picky about the 10,000 times, but the point’s made
perfectly! Each time Edison “failed”, he just learned something that
didn’t work. He didn’t see it as failure, he simply took another step
towards his eventual success! How cool is that? So, what can you take
from that? Have you just learned something? Can you take a leaf out of
Edison’s book and start learning today? Sure you can! And in doing so,
you’ll be well on the way to becoming successful yourself!

OK, so let’s get back on track and explore what it is that makes some
people successful… whilst others fail miserably! Aargh! There I go
again, talking about failure! Now this is important! If you accept
failure as failure, then of course, you can fail. It’s only by treating
“failure” as a lesson learned that you all of a sudden cannot fail! Does
that make sense? I hope so, because it does to me! Lol!

Attitude
If I had to pick out one thing that makes some people successful and
others failures, it would be attitude. People who achieve outstanding
success approach things in a totally different way to those who are
unsuccessful. Their attitude is one of “never say die” and they also
expect to succeed. Failure doesn’t even enter their mind for a split
second. All they see is the finishing line… and breaking the tape!
Creating a winning mindset is so important to becoming hugely
successful.

Just do it!
You won’t see too many successful people wondering what to do next,
either! They have an attitude of getting on with things, rather than
talking about what to do next. They won’t be pondering about what will
happen when they try things, they simply get on and do it! They’ll try
things out. Learn from the results and then move on to the next step.
They’ll keep doing that until they’ve reached their goal. Problems will
be resolved. Obstacles removed or hurdled. Nothing gets in their way.
Nothing!

The big question now is, “How do you become hugely successful?”

Now there’s a tough one! But, since we’re working on becoming an incredible success, I’m sure we can get past it! Oh yeah!

OK, here’s a list of attributes I think you’ll need if you’re going
to become a huge success in life. Take a look and see if you agree with
me. As you read through the list, tick off those that apply to you
already and highlight those where you think you need a bit of work to
improve. If you can think of any more that you think should be added,
please contact me and let me know! You see, I’m willing to learn. I’m
learning all the time!

OK, You’ll need to have:

a vivid long-term vision of where you want to get to in life

set high, but achievable goals

a desire to be or achieve the best – 2nd best just isn’t an option

a belief in yourself and that you control your own destiny

a high level of drive and energy

strength of purpose

motivation

the ability and willingness to learn from your mistakes

a clear way of measuring your success

a willingness to celebrate your successes – Oh yeah!

the ability to work on your own and make your own decisions

the ability to work with and learn from others

great self-confidence

a willingness to take some risks

a desire to achieve excellence!

Now, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? If you have all those qualities
in abundance, you have no real need to read this article! However, my
guess is that you probably have some of them, but in varying degrees of
abundance! What that means, is you’re probably getting some successes in
your life, but with a little bit of work on yourself, you could achieve
so much more! So, if you want to achieve incredible success, read on
and we’ll take a look at how to start work on the things you need to
improve.

Create A Vision Of Your Perfect Life
This is crucial to your success! How can you achieve something, if you
don’t have a clear picture of it in your mind? Think of it this way. If
you had a bow and arrow in your hands and a target somewhere in the
distance and you were then blindfolded and spun around a few times, what
would be the chances of you hitting the target? Pretty slim, I’d say!
Take your blindfold off, pick out the target… aim… fire… bullseye! OK,
so you may need to learn some lessons before you hit the bullseye, but
don’t forget, that’s what successful people do all the time… so get some
lessons booked!

Set High But Achievable Goals
I strongly suggest you do this with the help of a good coach. A good
coach will help you set goals appropriate to your skills, goals which
are challenging, but achievable. It’s important not to limit yourself by
setting easy goals, but it’s equally important not to set goals that
are out of your reach, because you’ll soon become disillusioned and will
then give up on your dreams.

Look, if I was to set myself the target of running 100 metres in 5
seconds, I’d be setting myself up for a fall. If I was to set myself a
target of running 100 metres in 20 seconds, it would be way too easy…
even for me! The secret is to come to a target that challenges and
pushes your limits, but gives you hope of success. That’s where a good
coach will help, by asking pertinent questions to enable you to set the
right goals for you. If we continue with the analogy above, 20 seconds
may not be a challenging goal for me, but for others it would be just
right and for some it would be downright impossible!

A Desire To Be Or Achieve The Best
Look, we all know that everyone can’t be the best! The idea here is to
achieve the best you possibly can! That makes you a winner. That makes
you an incredible success! If you have the desire to achieve incredible
success in everything you do, then that’s exactly what you’ll achieve!
Second best just isn’t even an option, because, if you do fall below
your high expectations, you’ll learn and improve… and keep improving
until you’ve reached your goal!

Look you’re not aiming for perfection here, but you’re aiming for
pretty damn close to perfection! As a golfer, you’re never going to get a
hole in one on every par 3 hole you play. You’re probably not going to
land within 5 metres of the hole every time, but you can set yourself a
target of hitting the green just about every time. Now, we all know that
every so often you’ll miss the green, but by setting the goal high,
you’ll hit it more often. Each time you miss, you learn a lesson, so you
can do better next time.

Believe In Yourself
One things for sure, if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will!
I’m not talking about being boastful or arrogant here, just being
confident in your own ability to “get the job done”. If you go around
telling others how great you are, you’ll lose a lot of friends and make
even more enemies! So don’t go there! Listen, just because you shouldn’t
go around boasting about you talents to others, it doesn’t mean you
can’t tell yourself exactly how wonderful you are! Don’t go over the top
though, well not too much, just keep it at a level that builds you up
so you know you’ll be successful.

Certainly, it’s extremely important not to be critical of yourself.
That’s just a recipe for disaster and will almost certainly lead to
failure. Nothing more needs to be said on that… do not put yourself
down… ever!

You Control Your Own Destiny
OK, I’m going to offer my apologies to anyone whose religious beliefs
suggest that life’s all mapped out for us and that we simply have to
tune into “God” and He’ll lead the way. I’m sorry, I just don’t see life
like that! I do believe in a greater power, a creator if you like. We
can call this creator, “God”, “The Universe”, maybe. It doesn’t really
matter.

Everything and everyone is linked by a force, which is why The Law of
Attraction works so well. But, we control how The Universe works for us
by our thoughts and actions, not the other way round. Why would we need
free minds, if our future was mapped out already? You better believe
you control your own destiny or someone else will do it for you! And
that would not lead to incredible success!

A High Level Of Drive And Energy
If you have a clear vision and have set yourself challenging goals, this
will come naturally. You’ll leap out of bed raring to go each and every
day! Well maybe, but I reckon there are other things that need to be
worked on here. Sure, your drive will be improved with a clear vision
and challenging goals and to a certain extent this will energize you.
However, you’ll also need to work on the physical side of things. A good
dose of exercise, relaxation, sleep and a healthy diet are all
essential here! In short then, look after both body and mind if you want
to Achieve Incredible Success!

Strength Of Purpose and Motivation
When you’re creating your vision and setting your goals, it’s vital they
fall within your beliefs and values. This is vital to becoming
successful. If you set goals that fall outside your core values, then
you’ll lack the motivation to see them through.

Let’s say one of your core values centres around your family and
doing lots of fun things with your kids. If you then set yourself a goal
that takes you away from home for 4 days each week for the next three
years, then that goal’s in conflict with your core values, meaning you
will create inner conflicts as you strive to achieve success. It’s
almost inevitable that you’ll fail to reach you goal in this sort of
situation.

The Ability And Willingness To Learn From Your Mistakes
OK, this is easy. You make a mistake – we all do that from time to time –
you learn from it, try again and hey presto you get it right! Yeah,
right! Look, that may happen once in a while, but generally life isn’t
quite that simple! So you’re going to need to be prepared to try things a
few times before you get it spot on, and each time you make a mistake,
you’re going to have to analyse what you did and improve on it next
time. You’ll need real stickability and you’ll need to be able to learn
new skills as you go along.

To be honest, that’s no problem… learning is so much fun! Especially when it takes you nearer to achieving your goals!

A Clear Way Of Measuring Your Success
This sounds easy… and to be honest it is! Provided you set the right
goals! OK, here’s the deal. Each time you set a goal, you ask yourself
this simple question, “How will I know when I’ve achieved my goal?” At
work, that may be when you’re made a Director of your company. At home,
it may be when you’ve finished building an extension on your house.

The next question’s maybe a little more difficult to answer. “How
will I know if I’ve been hugely successful?” OK, this is s bit more
subjective. At home, you may decide that your extension needs four walls
and a roof that doesn’t leak to make it a successful achievement! OK?
Does that make sense? To create incredible success, you’re going to have
to achieve your goals with style and flair!

A Willingness To Celebrate Your Successes – Oh Yeah!
This one’s so much fun! Every success has to be marked with a
celebration or reward. It may be a simple reward like a bar of your
favourite chocolate or even something like a cup of coffee. But for
major successes you’ll need to think of a special celebration! Maybe a
meal out in the best restaurant in town, or tickets to a show… your
choice! But, whatever you do, celebrate every success, no matter how
small… and celebrate in style!

The Ability To Work On Your Own And Make Your Own Decisions
If you’re going to become a hugely successful person, you’ll have to
make decisions and you’ll have to make them, sometimes, on your own. You
see sometimes, others will disagree with you, they’ll advise you one
way or the other and sometimes you’ll have moral dilemmas or maybe even
social issues to consider. But, what you have to consider, is that the
decision ultimately has to be made by you, for you! So make it! Then
live with it!

You’re also going to need leadership qualities, which will mean
working on your own at times. Doing what you think is best. Doing what
you want to do. Doing whatever it takes to move yourself forward in the
direction of your goals. Look, you’re pulling the shots… it’s your life.
So you’re going to have to take control, make decisions and get out
there and do it when you don’t always feel like doing it!

The Ability To Work With And Learn From Others
The one thing about becoming incredibly successful that many people
learn the hard way, is that you cannot do it on your own! Every hugely
successful person has had support, help, advice, coaching and much more
from others as they’ve strived for excellence. And each and everyone of
them will acknowledge that they couldn’t have achieved their success
without the help of others.

So, learn to work with other people. Listen to their advice… you
don’t have to take it… but listen to it… consider it… then either take
it or discard it. Find people who have qualities and skills that you
need. Learn from them… and teach them your skills and qualities. You
must give as well as receive.

Find a guru, coach, a mastermind group, a support group, anything or
anyone that’ll support you. Find people who are like-minded, people who
want you to succeed. Network with them, build contacts, support each
other. Give and you will receive. Receive and you will give.

Be open to ideas from others. Consider them. Modify them. Use them.
Give ideas to others. As you do that, your subconscious mind will create
other ideas for you to use. Everybody will gain.

Great Self-Confidence
I could write a book on this one… well actually I have… well almost! I’m
adding the final touches right now… so look out for it very soon! Look,
this is a huge area and one that needs a lot of discussion. But for now
simply work on building confidence by celebrating every success. As you
do that, you’ll realise you can do things well, very well and that will
build your confidence.

You’ll also find some articles on this site to help you build your
confidence… just click on the confidence link on the left of each page.
I’ll be adding lots more soon. The thing to remember here, is that
without confidence, you’ll limit your success levels drastically. So, if
it’s a problem with you, find a way to boost it as fast as you can.

A Willingness To Take Some Risks
Now, this may sound like a contradiction, but believe me, this is one of
the most important things you’ll have to learn to do! You can achieve
limited success by taking the easy route, by making the easy decisions,
by plodding along. But, if you want incredible success, you’ll have to
take some risks… calculated risks of course. Some of them will come off,
others will fail, sometimes miserably. But you’ll learn when they fail
and you’ll grow so much faster when they come off!

With all risks, calculate the possible return if they succeed and the
downside if they fail. Then visualize and focus on success! Easy!

A Desire To Achieve Excellence!
Now this may sound obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people are
scared of success. You see, the more success you have, the more people
will expect you to succeed. And that brings pressure. Or at least it can
bring pressure.

Just remember, you’re doing this for you. Not for anyone else… for
you. So their thoughts and expectations are irrelevant! Your thoughts
and expectations are the only ones that count. Whether others perceive
you as a success or a failure doesn’t matter in the slightest! There you
go… pressure relieved!

OK, to finish off then… aim for excellence in all you do. Do the best
you possibly can. Always want to be the best. Always want to do your
best. Aim for the stars, always. Look, if you aim high and don’t quite
make it, you’ll still have achieved incredible success! And that’s what
you’re aiming for… isn’t it?