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Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Hey young one - there is no "too much" or "not enough" sex it's whatever feels right for you. If your straight buddies say you are oversexed, its a common jealousy and stereotype of straights about gays. Just do what feels right.

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ďFrom each, according to his ability; to each, according to his needĒ 1875 K Marx

Me too. In my mind, I'd love to have sex once or twice a week. In practice, it's been over 4 years. There's some kind of disconnect between my body and my mind.

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Me too. In my mind, I'd love to have sex once or twice a week. In practice, it's been over 4 years. There's some kind of disconnect between my body and my mind.

For me, it's different... I don't care all that much about having sex, but I'm more about romance. It's been just over 2 years for me. I honestly do think I could go the rest of my life without having sex anymore... *cue shock from audience*

For me, it's different... I don't care all that much about having sex, but I'm more about romance. It's been just over 2 years for me. I honestly do think I could go the rest of my life without having sex anymore... *cue shock from audience*

Romance and then foreplay, and then the good stuff, hey Romance is good nothing wrong with that, everyone wants it, but not many can get it

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

For me, it's different... I don't care all that much about having sex, but I'm more about romance. It's been just over 2 years for me. I honestly do think I could go the rest of my life without having sex anymore... *cue shock from audience*

Not so shocking. Different people have different views on sex. For some, like many of those who have responded here, it's about an act (fucking, sucking, etc.). For others, like me, it's more about intimacy, closeness, intensity of shared experience -- maybe that's what you mean by romance, you'd have to elaborate on your view of that. I'm sure there are other views too. I do think that the predominant view in society for men both gay and straight is that sex is about fucking, and the more, the better. If you don't identify with that, it can leave you wondering if you are compatible with anyone sexually.

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

Not so shocking. Different people have different views on sex. For some, like many of those who have responded here, it's about an act (fucking, sucking, etc.). For others, like me, it's more about intimacy, closeness, intensity of shared experience -- maybe that's what you mean by romance, you'd have to elaborate on your view of that. I'm sure there are other views too. I do think that the predominant view in society for men both gay and straight is that sex is about fucking, and the more, the better. If you don't identify with that, it can leave you wondering if you are compatible with anyone sexually.

intimacy can be problematic, so I do know what you mean by that, I too have that @ times, but at my age I don't care, I'm kinda past all of that, but, anyway, good luck to ya Buck, it's out there if you want it and your open to it

« Last Edit: May 04, 2011, 07:18:51 PM by denb45 »

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

I just liked to be plowed. No kissing, no foreplay. And when you're done please leave.

Not me, girl. Every single one of me tricks is expected to light a dozen scented candles, cover the entire mattress with rose petals, and to recite the sweetest verses while we're fucking.

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"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Not so shocking. Different people have different views on sex. For some, like many of those who have responded here, it's about an act (fucking, sucking, etc.). For others, like me, it's more about intimacy, closeness, intensity of shared experience -- maybe that's what you mean by romance, you'd have to elaborate on your view of that. I'm sure there are other views too. I do think that the predominant view in society for men both gay and straight is that sex is about fucking, and the more, the better. If you don't identify with that, it can leave you wondering if you are compatible with anyone sexually.

I'm with Henry on this. Intimacy is the end game with me. I can have sex with someone I dont love and it feels good, but it's more of a physical feel good, but I can have sex with someone I love and it is the most amazing feeling in the world, like a good feeling in the soul.

I'm with Henry on this. Intimacy is the end game with me. I can have sex with someone I dont love and it feels good, but it's more of a physical feel good, but I can have sex with someone I love and it is the most amazing feeling in the world, like a good feeling in the soul.

now your talking boy, I've been with my hubby for 17 yrs. and we both love each other, and we both fight each other too, then we fuck each other all over again, were both the same age, and have had some of the same life experiences, we agree to disagree, and it's HOT HOT HOT I'm still in Hell, but in a good way I suppose

« Last Edit: May 04, 2011, 07:30:24 PM by denb45 »

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Not me, girl. Every single one of me tricks is expected to light a dozen scented candles, cover the entire mattress with rose petals, and to recite the sweetest verses while we're fucking.

Ode On a Grecian Urn Full of Lube

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

I can have sex with someone I dont love and it feels good, but it's more of a physical feel good.

I can't have sex with someone I don't love, or at least like a lot and feel close to. Having done so in the past, I know it leaves me feeling horribly empty (it's hard to find the right words). There's a part of me that has an envy for people who can just let go at the drop of a hat and have sex with someone they find attractive and enjoy themselves.

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

I can't have sex with someone I don't love, or at least like a lot and feel close to. Having done so in the past, I know it leaves me feeling horribly empty (it's hard to find the right words). There's a part of me that has an envy for people who can just let go at the drop of a hat and have sex with someone they find attractive and enjoy themselves.

Buck, I like many of you here, I used to be like this in my 20s & 30s then I got too dam old after that, and wanted a lot more than just sex with just anyone

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Only if you promise to put on a pair of sparkly tassels and a g-string

She's actually gonna put on a show using a certain toy vacuum while on a trapeze. You don't wanna miss it.

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"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

There's a part of me that has an envy for people who can just let go at the drop of a hat and have sex with someone they find attractive and enjoy themselves.

awe that's sweet. some of you here are some true love birds.attraction, genuinely caring for someone in a deeper level ( aside from physical ) that just amplyfies the sexual intimacy and experience between partners. but all in all I love doing the nasty