or is there some third option we're missing? (Maybe whining for the sake of whining? I dunno...)

#1 generally wants a kick in the pants, but sometimes #2 is an enabler, which forces #1 to stop being a slacker even though she's got permission, which is probably better for her anyway... #1, otoh, wants everybody to be miserably productive because misery loves company. (When she says it's ok to take a break because you need it... it means you really do need it.)