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HELP,Where is the line between normal self exploration and possible extreme early sexual exploration

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I had just finished monitoring my daughter as she showered and once she had put her pyjama pants on she complained that her "front" was sore, this complaint quickly turned into a near cry of pain as she started to ask repeatedly for a face washer, when asked again why, she said "front is sore"
I tried not to panic but immediately called for her mother, I then gave my daughter a warmed face washer as I assumed she may have got some soap in her "front" as she washed herself in the shower.
My partner got our girl to remove her pyjama pants and our girl immediately proceeded to rub at her "front" with the face washer, my partner noticed that there was a lot of redness around her "front" area and she proceeded to ask a few questions, she asked: what's wrong? -bubba sore- was the reply, why is bubba sore? -bubba front sore-, Did bubba put anything there? -yes, fingers- and our daughter held a finger up to my partner and I.
We are worried and want to know, How much is normal exploration?

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We also are struggling to teach her about doing this in private as she seems not only intent on "touching" her "front" but she seems very keen and eager to show this behaviour to others. (Others being my partner and I whilst we discussed this with her, and her grandma on another occasion)
We do not want to deal with this in the wrong manner, but we are struggling and extremely concerned as the "touching" we have witnessed seems very rough and forceful and now with the addition to the reply that she put "bubba's fingers" inside her "front", well we are at a loss on what to do about this and just how we should deal with the whole matter.
We have agreed that we are going to our doctor first thing tomorrow morning just to have her looked at and to discuss this matter with a health professional but we are extremely concerned, we find that this is, in our opinions, beyond normal exploration and the normal "touching yourself" of kids her age. And we are very alarmed and worried. Please HELP

I have had to drastically shorten the entire episode as the amount of characters permitted does not allow for me to properly explain nor describe the entire event as i would have liked, however I would be more than willing to further discuss this issue with anyone who thinks that they might have any relevant or helpful advice, as any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.
We are truly concerned as we are trying to ascertain just what is considered "normal exploration and touching" and exactly where that ends, and what would be considered "extremely early sexual exploration"
What is inappropriate and just how far should we ignore "normal exploration"
We have told bubba that, only bubba is allowed to touch bubba's front, and we have told her if anyone else touches bubba's "private areas" she should say "NO" and come tell mum and dad. We have tried to not make her feel bad about touching herself but at the same time we are struggling on teaching her to do this in private.

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