Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

The woman got 33 years in jail. This is the worst form of Parental Alienation that terminates the other parents relationship with the children permanently, snuffs out the children's lives and often excuses a women's murder based on a variety of ailments often linked to hormone imbalances or some newly found mental illness. This is done because even today, despite what we know of single moms being the most violent and abusive of either gender toward their children, the MSM still looks for excuses. In this case the woman gets 33 years and is being treated relatively equally. More of this needs to occur and maybe then we'll see less killing and abuse of children by their mothers. Will this be classified as Domestic Violence. Ask the Coroner. Frequently they do not as it skews the statistics that men are the natural abusers and who wants to hurt feminist/maternalist sensibilities. After all they are so innocent and benign.MJM

A mother has been convicted of murder after stabbing her two daughters as they slept in their beds.

An inquiry will now take place into the actions of teachers, doctors and social workers who dealt with the family in the years before the tragedy.

Rekha Kumari-Baker killed her daughters Davina, 16, and Jasmine, 13, with two kitchen knives as they slept at her home in Stretham, Cambridgeshire, in the early hours of June 13, 2007. Davina was stabbed 37 times and Jasmine 29 times.

She had admitted their manslaughter on the grounds of diminished responsibility, but yesterday the jury at Cambridge Crown Court found her guilty of murder.

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The inquiry was ordered after it emerged that three years ago Kumari-Baker had told teachers that she “wished Davina dead”. Staff at the girl’s school, Impington Village College, had described Kumari-Baker as a “volatile woman who frequently showed strange mood swings”, and social services had been called in. Kumari-Baker had been diagnosed in 2003 with “reactive stress with mild depressive features” and referred to a counsellor.

The prosecution claimed that she murdered her daughters to “wreak havoc” upon her former husband, David Baker. She had left a handwritten note at the scene saying: “I don’t want them to get hurt as I did.”

Emma Dmitriev, for the prosecution, said yesterday: “This cruel and vicious act was clearly premeditated by Kumari-Baker as she purchased the knife two days prior to the killing. She had broken up with her husband and then her boyfriend of several years and had left her job after a dispute with her employer.

“She was clearly angry and resentful and took out her accumulated rage on two innocent girls. This brutal attack has had enduring, tragic consequences.”

The defence argued that she was suffering from an “abnormality of mind”. But after the killings, the court was told, Kumari-Baker was examined by a number of psychiatrists, most of whom concluded that she was not clinically depressed and was responsible for her actions.

Outside court the girls’ uncle, George Baker, read a statement on behalf of their father. “Not a day passes when I don’t think of my girls. I was robbed of my daughters by an act of calculated viciousness by a woman who, having given life to them, in her vindictive mind believed she also had a right to take that life from them. She will now pay the price for this,” he said.

Detective Inspector Jim McCrorie, who led the police inquiry, said: “It became clear, as this investigation progressed, that Rekha Kumari-Baker set out to murder her children. Only she will know the reasons why she carried out such a vicious and deliberate attack as they lay sleeping in their beds.

“In 25 years in the police service I have never before investigated such an upsetting or sickening crime.”

During the trial Lyle Hamilton, for the defence, had said that medical literature showed that women had killed children because they were “mentally ill” and because they were a “retaliatory type”, both categories which Kumari-Baker fell into.

Neil Hunt, a consultant psychiatrist, said that he had interviewed Kumari-Baker on the day of her arrest and, although he suspected she may have been suffering from a mental disorder, he found no evidence of serious mental illness.

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

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I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.