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Lisa - posted on 01/24/2010

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My son has been waking up 3-4 times a night for the past month and a half... not sure what the heck is wrong, but when he cries it's not his hunger cry.. sometimes it looks like he's lying down, eyes closed, but crying. I don't get it.. I'm going to guess that it's separation anxiety because it seems very common around his age from what I've read.. good luck to all other mom's going through this..

It's been a little over 2 weeks that I've been letter her cry 15 to 20 min before going in, and she's getting up only once to feed (between 11pm to 1am) which is ok with me. On a few occasions she'll wake up again, but usually falls back asleep right before I go in. Like I said before, I didn't want to let her cry, but watching her (on the video monitor) being able to fall asleep on her own, reassures me, she needed to learn to do it on her own, and in the morning, she's all smiles. It's hard for me to hear her cry for that long, but it's getting a lot shorter, and less often. The fact that she's as happy as can be when she wakes up eases my (irrational) fear that letting her cry is bad. We're all better it.

My 9-month old still wakes up two or three times a night. I noticed that when she started teething is when she started waking up in the middle of the night, i've heard that after about 6 or 8 teeth come it they will start sleeping through the night.

My 9 month old baby boy is not sleeping through the night too but its ok. I breastfed him and he sleeps with me. My 2 oldests sons did the same thing, they slep all the night when I stop breastfeeding completly.

Hi, my 9 month old is not sleeping through the night too. And over the last week or so weve made it so that she has one long sleep during the day and a possible one hour nap depending on how grissly she gets in the morning if she wakes up about 7 but she'll only sleep for an hour or so then around 11:30 is lunch shell go to bed at 12 and get up about 4, dinners at about 6 then bath is at 7-7:30 and bed at 8. But she is also teething atm. So it's understandable. But that is her general routine and it seems to be starting to work. Good luck and hope that you get some sleep :)

my daughter used to get up 2 times a night and I was still nursing her. I started the cry it out on Jan 6 and on Jan 20 she has been sleeping through the night. It was very very hard to do, but I didn't give up and it looks like it might have worked. One thing I read is you shouldn't nurse them or give them a bottle to bed and I was doing that, but once I started letting her fall asleep on her own at bedtime she has been sleeping for 10 to 11 1/2 hours straight.

As hard as it might be, I use the ferber method (aka. the cry it out method). I've used it with all three of my children, and by the 3rd night they are sleeping through! If your baby wakes up, wait 5 min before you go in. When you go in do not talk or pick up your baby. Rub his back for no more than 30 sec, just to let him know you're there, then leave. If he continues to cry (which he probably will) wait 10 min, and go back in and do the same thing. You'll keep doing this until he falls back asleep. Each time you will increase your time by 5 min. The next night, when he wakes up, instead of waiting 5 min, you'll wait 10 and then go in. By the 3rd night they should be sleeping through. Hope this helps. (1st night; 5 min, 10, 15) (2nd night; 10, 15 20 min.) (3rd night; 15, 20, 25 min), and so on...

So glad im not the only one with this issue. My 9 month old used to sleep through the night but now wakes, gets out of her safety sleep and stands up in the cot either crying or screaming ahhhhhh drives me nutty especially this morning when it was 2am.

Yes, sounds familiar. I have a 9 month old daughter and ever since she was born I didn’t have a gooooood night sleep because she wakes up sometimes twice at night sometime more. The other night she woke up at 2A.M and got confused with her hours, I had to stay with her till 5A.M! Then on 6A.M I woke up to go to work :(…

So many good responses! My 9 month old slept through the night for months and went to bed without a fuss...just lie her in bed and play her music and she would drift off.....'THEN the last couple of months she started getting up 4,5,even 6 times some nights! It was killing me! I breastfeed and I don't feed her during the night....I read somewhere that once they are on solids they should not require a feeding in the middle of the night (excluding some people who dreamfeed) We tried to let her cry it out but she would cry forever, it didn't seem to get better a few nights in. She really just seemed to need the reassurance of a snuggle and to know I was there. I chose to try and watch her schedule a bit and make sure she gets her day naps. I really just felt like it was a phase and maybe it was.....after more than two months of being up most nights suddenly she is sleeping through again. She is also going to bed with no fuss again. I was lucky....I think it is just a phase and she grew out of it. Good luck everyone....that short time was killing me, I can't imagine those of you who have been dealing with this since birth!!!

I have the same problem- my 9 month old girl wakes up 2-4 times per night and wants to nurse. Driving me crazy!

Also to get her to sleep at night (and naptime) is a disaster! She used to fall asleep with her Winnie the pooh story (iPod) but now she will crawl around, sit up continously and take 45 minutes to fall asleep. And that is on my bed with me laying next to her.

If I put her in the crib she plays for a few minutes and then screams like nothing else.

Any advice on how I can get my 9 month old to sleep through the night?

She also gets up between 5 and 6 every day. My husband will not get up at night or in the morning so it's all up to me and I am finding myself getting frustrated to the point of yelling at her :(

Hello! My third child is 9 months old. I'm so sorry to all of you not getting sleep. My first daughter would wake up 3-4 times a night. With my third, I have done many things differently, and I would like to share them with you all, with hope that sleep will come for you and your child. I have never rocked her to sleep. I'm a firm believer that they will learn to self-sooth and the earlier the better. If she cries in the night, I will go in and make sure there isn't a reason for her to cry. I.E: wet diaper, no blankets, etc. If she is just crying to cry, I tell her "mommy's here, everything's alright" and then leave here room. I wait 5 minutes and then go back, no touching but reassure her I'm here. Next time, I'll wait 10 minutes, then 15 minutes, and so on. Most times it won't take more than 10 minutes but it is so worth it to get sleep. My daughter now sleep 11+ hours a night. We've also put a fan or humidifier in her room. The white noise drowns out all the little noises at night. A radio on low can help too.

Man I try to cry out thing but it doesn't work for my son at all. He'll just get louder and has thrown his pillow out of the crib to hit the dog so that she would wake up and bark. Then of course I jump up. He'll just keep crying louder and louder unless you hand him a bottle. In 1 meal my son can and normally eats a jar and a half of baby food, then he'll have some solid food, sometimes a snack, and either a bottle of milk or he'll drink his juice. Sounds like he'll be pretty stuff and ready to sleep the night away, I WISH! He STILL wakes up for a bottle in the middle of the night. He wakes up twice for a bottle and maybe once or twice to look around then he'll quietly lay back down and go back to sleep. But if he seriously doesn't get a bottle in the middle of the night when he wants it EVERYONE will hear him cuz he'll yell out and scream as if you're hurting him. Sigh... I can't wait to get a full night's sleep

My 9 month old son is not sleeping through the night as of recently. He's been sleeping through the night since he was about 4 weeks and it's been about 2 months now that he has been waking up every night. I asked the doctor about it at his 9 month check up and he said babies go through different sleeping patterns and that he's teething right now. He said if my son can get back to sleep right away( with little to do on my behalf) then it will eventually stop. He said I can try and let him cry it out or just do what I've been doing which is rocking with him in his chair till he falls asleep again. It feels like it's been forever with him not sleeping through the night again and very tiring but I have hope that it is just a stage and he will start sleeping through the night again.

Well well well, it is soooo good to not feel alone anymore....my son is 9 month's old and not sleeping through the night...he is up sometimes 2-6 times a night....he also started this sleep crawling thing and ooohhhh my he just needs to sleep through the night...He is also not a big napper I can get 2 naps a day and they only last 40min unless I am in the car then he will nap for an hour or so...many sleepness nights and I have also tried the cry it out method and well he got very upset and threw up...so we botched that idea very quickly...seems like a rather mean method....we have tried a bottle, soother, stuffy or lovey, sleeping with mom's shirt, rocking to sleep....I feel like we have tried it all....if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them......

My 9 month old does not sleep through the nights. I can count the number of times he slept more than 6 hours in a row, and most of them were as a 3 month old, in the swing.

He is finally down to 2/3 times a night, on a good night, which is a great improvement from waking up every 2 hours (that still happens). He shares a bedroom with his big brother, so we've started to put him in the dining room to sleep. This way, we can let him cry a few minutes without having both kids awake!

me again... it appears to me after seeing the amount of posts that this may just be NORMAL for babies this age, whether they never have really slept through the night or have reverted to that. I guess they just need us still... no problem with that!! They DO grow out of it... eventually =)

my 9 month old is not sleeping through the night! its a nightmare ive tried everything extra food at bedtime soothing baths and everything. nothing seems to work i even tried just offering water to see if he would lose interest in waking up for feeds but none of it works to be honest im at a loss feel like a complete zombie!

I think we created the problem ourselves on this one! Emerson use to sleep through the night at 5 weeks old but starting around 6 months she would wake up in the middle of the night and instead of dealing with it and making her go back to sleep in her own bed we would just bring her to bed with us because we would be soo tired! Now we can't seem to kick this habit. Its to the point where she doesn't want to be in her crib at all!

ok, I'm the sucky mom! I have 6 kids and I NEVER let any of them cry it out!! I just think it's so mean (no offense, just something I can't do!!). My babies sleep in their cribs till they wake up and then we bring them to bed with us where they usually sleep the rest of the night. I really wish my 9 month old would sleep through the night... he only has once or twice, but I don't lose a ton of sleep simply because he comes in with us and we all go right back to sleep. I feel like they just need us when they're little and they grow up so fast, this time is so short in the long run. No worries... my 16 year old sleeps through the night now lol!

my 9mth old ethan slept tru the nite from he was 7wks till 14wks then he got sick and was in hospital over night were the doc's kept waking him tru the nite to do tests now he could be up every 20mins since that. not for a fed he hasnt being fed tru the nite since he was 7wks old or crying either, he just keeps winging and sometimes playing with his feet and talking to himself. at 9mths they shoulnt getting fed tru the nite, u's should up there feeds during the day. i know i need to try the cry out with him but cant cos i have also an 11 yr old who sleeps in the next room to him and i really dont want him kept up all nite with school next day and i work at weekends. all i nhave to do is give him his dummy and leave about 6 times a nite. its very tireding and im exhausted during the day. he still isnt crawling forward yet but can crawl back ways perfectly, he just hasnt goy the hang of it yet and no teeth yet which i think he should have by now but teething since he was 3wks old. he's just a pleasure to have during the day, so good and easy to keep happy. its nites r my problems. any good advise please let me know. thanks girls

I have 3 kids all breastfed and my youngest is 9 mo old now. As I'm sure you have figured by all the wonderful posts, you are definitely not alone when it comes to sleeping troubles lol! My oldest 2 always woke up like clockwork every 2 hours to feed and I thought that was bad at the time. My baby now wakes up every HOUR on the dot all night long though so I find myself missing the 2 hr sleep I used to get haha! If nothing else just know that if he is only getting up a couple times per night it could be much much worse! The best advice I have is...this too will pass, it won't last forever, that I promise. Good luck with your 9 month old's not sleeping through the night!

I have 9 month old twin boys who have never really slept through the night...sometimes they do good but most nights they take turns (one wakes up and when I finally get him back to sleep the other one wakes up!!) But lately, like the last month or so they both have had issues and will wake up completly wide awake at like 3am so i am guessing this is due to teething and seperation anxiety that everyone keeps mentioning. They have their last feeding at 10pm with cereal and then their morning bottle is at 6am even though they might wake up earlier I try to make them wait....It is A LOT of work and very tireing, I am so compassionate with all the moms that do this and work during the day... but sometimes I think it could be worse and that makes me feel somewhat better so I am grateful for that!

My son will be 9 months the end of the month and he had never slept through the night (he's a consistent 2 time a night-er). I have been reading a lot on it. It is not a sign of bad or good parenting. Baby's are just that - baby's and they don't have the same sleep patterns as adults. Some parents get lucky and do have a child that sleeps 6-8 hours - most DO NOT. It's not bad, just has the baby is. I just go with it. It's not going to last forever...

I am not a fan of the CIO method. We finally got to sleep through the night after 6 months of not sleeping, but ocassionally we'll have a night that he'll wake up if he is sick or teething. I'll have to feed him to get him back to sleep. It is possible that you child just needs that extra feeding or two. One thing you can try is try feeding more during the day, or giving a bottle right before bedtime and see if that helps.

my son doesnt sleep all the way through the night he wakes up 1-2 depending on the time of his last botle but i have noticed lately he has been sleeping longer i put his dummy beside him when he sleeps so if he wakes up he can feel for it and put it back into his mouth i think i might take away the dummy as he is starting to rely on it..this could also be the cause of your babies lack of sleep needing the dummy

My lil girl wakes up at least once a night same here and she really dont take naps in the day so you would think she would sleep all night haha luckly she eats and goes back to sleep but UGGH I want to sleep all nigh ah well!!

YAY I am not alone.... i'm interested in other ways to put my 9mnth old to sleep, i still breastfeed her to sleep & I need to get her out of this habit big time as I am going back to work soon & she refuses to drink a bottle anymore.. I do use music, i find it is way to hot to wrap her & rocking her cot just seems ineffective...i'm getting to my wits end :)

My 9mth old used to sleep through the night but about a month ago that all changed :( I put it down to teething! He is getting much better now though as the cutting of these teeth has finished. Letting them cry it out does work after a few nights. You'll know though what cry to get them at. If they get absolutely beside themselves I'd comfort them.

you are not alone, some nights he sleeps through the night and like last night three times he woke up. i have tried bottle fedding when it is time for sleep, tried olny brestfeeding at night. i have done the cry it out. He also doesn't take naps after 2pm most days. My husban said he wakes up from bad dreams.

my 9mo. old is also waking up 1-2 times a night. it's frustrating b/c she really doesn't need anything. but as i'm up i prep a bottle and feed her anyways. i even tried doing 'dream feeds' (give her a bottle before i go to bed) hoping it would get her throught the night. with my first, who's 2.5 now, i let her cry it out and went in at 2min, 4min, 8, 16min and by then she would have fallen asleep on her own. but now, i don't want my youngest to wake up my eldest 'cause then i'll have to babies up! i also find she's waking up WAY too early - 5 am. i'm thinking it may be linked to teething. i forgot about separation anxiety, it could be that too. hopefully those of you going through this also can sneek in naps during the day, they really help. and in the end, just remember, it is a phase, they will grow out of it! eventually.

I try so hard to just leave her there and cry it out, but my partner has sleeping problems himself lol, once he wakes up he can't fall straight back to sleep like I can lol. That's one of the other reasons why I get up to give baby a bottle. I never get her out of bed though, just let her feed herself, dummy helps too even though people don't like them lol

Even though the so-called "Ferber" method works, it is pretty painful both for moms and babies. I don't think nature intends for a baby to be left to just cry, and its no fun for the moms either. Also know that some babies will cry for hours and the CIO method just won't work for them. But, do what you have to do and what you think is best.

My son wakes up every 2 hours and has never slept through the night. Now he sleeps in bed with me so when he nurses neither one of us fully wakes up. Most babies actually do NOT sleep through the night. It could be teething, a cold, feeling lonely, etc. I highly reccomend co-sleeping though. It makes the feedings shorter and you get more rest. I found that my baby slept better with me right next to him.

Does your son want to eat when he wakes up? Be held? Play? My son is about 9 1/2 months old and I've had a lot of problems with him sleeping through the night since he started crawling and being more active. I started using a lot of attachment techniques in the beginning to comfort him (either patting his head or back, without taking him out of his crib) when he woke and that worked for a while, but eventually he started realizing that I would come into his room whenever he woke, so he was waking every 1 1/2-2 hours. I was going crazy, so I finally let him cio. It took about 2 full nights of crying for him to start sleeping again. It's incredibly painful to listen to, but it works. Now I put him down at 7 pm and he only wakes once around 3 to eat. Then I put him back down and he usually sleeps until 6:30 or 7. Some books that helped me were "healthy sleep habits, happy baby" and "how to solve your child's sleep problems." I hope this helps...I know how frustrating it can be! Let me know if you have any other questions.

We had the same problem with our son who is 9 mos. He would go to sleep at 7:30 pm, then around midnight, or 3 am he would get up. The doc said not to feed him We would give him a bott thinking he was hungry, the doc said let him cry it out that at his age he should be able to sooth himself back to sleep. I agree it is the hardest thng hearing your baby cry, but it does work. We do go check up on him when he crys at night but waiting a little bit instead of running in right away. The doc also said to put some toys in his crib so he can entertain his self when he does wake up. (Ferber method)

My girl is just over 9months old, when she was younger she use to do some full nights, but ever since she started teething its been mucking up her sleeping patterns and routines. she wakes up bout 5:30am every morning so far, I leave her in her room crying lol, it sometimes helps but when I'm real tired I quickly get up and give her a bottle, but I water it right down so she might think that it's a waste of time waking up lol well thats what the plunket nurse told me to do, it's slowly working.. at the moment she's been teething a lot so I haven't been getting full nights sleep.

My girl is just over 9months old, when she was younger she use to do some full nights, but ever since she started teething its been mucking up her sleeping patterns and routines. she wakes up bout 5:30am every morning so far, I leave her in her room crying lol, it sometimes helps but when I'm real tired I quickly get up and give her a bottle, but I water it right down so she might think that it's a waste of time waking up lol well thats what the plunket nurse told me to do, it's slowly working.. at the moment she's been teething a lot so I haven't been getting full nights sleep.

I know some mums that used controlled crying and that worked really well for them. Our Solomon is back in our room now so that wasn't a great option. I went and comforted him but didn't pick him up, and he has settled himself back into sleeping long hours. Still wakes at 5.30 for a feed, but i'm ok with that!

He has a dummy, but can put it back in if he stirs without fully waking up, or just settles himself. I think he started waking up heaps because of teething.

Looks like we are not alone! My son is 9months as well and he was sleeping through the night fine... he usually wakes up a few times, but he just wails and goes back to sleep. He does wake once around 3 or 4 am to eat and then sleeps again till about 7 or8. Its weird, but we manage...

My 9 month old baby boy is not sleeping through the night too but its ok. I breastfed him and he sleeps with me. My 2 oldests sons did the same thing, they slep all the night when I stop breastfeeding completly.

Hi, my 9 month old is not sleeping through the night too. And over the last week or so weve made it so that she has one long sleep during the day and a possible one hour nap depending on how grissly she gets in the morning if she wakes up about 7 but she'll only sleep for an hour or so then around 11:30 is lunch shell go to bed at 12 and get up about 4, dinners at about 6 then bath is at 7-7:30 and bed at 8. But she is also teething atm. So it's understandable. But that is her general routine and it seems to be starting to work. Good luck and hope that you get some sleep :)

Yes, sounds familiar. I have a 9 month old daughter and ever since she was born I didn’t have a gooooood night sleep because she wakes up sometimes twice at night sometime more. The other night she woke up at 2A.M and got confused with her hours, I had to stay with her till 5A.M! Then on 6A.M I woke up to go to work :(…

I have the same problem- my 9 month old girl wakes up 2-4 times per night and wants to nurse. Driving me crazy!

Also to get her to sleep at night (and naptime) is a disaster! She used to fall asleep with her Winnie the pooh story (iPod) but now she will crawl around, sit up continously and take 45 minutes to fall asleep. And that is on my bed with me laying next to her.

If I put her in the crib she plays for a few minutes and then screams like nothing else.

Any advice on how I can get my 9 month old to sleep through the night?

She also gets up between 5 and 6 every day. My husband will not get up at night or in the morning so it's all up to me and I am finding myself getting frustrated to the point of yelling at her :(

My 9 month old son is not sleeping through the night as of recently. He's been sleeping through the night since he was about 4 weeks and it's been about 2 months now that he has been waking up every night. I asked the doctor about it at his 9 month check up and he said babies go through different sleeping patterns and that he's teething right now. He said if my son can get back to sleep right away( with little to do on my behalf) then it will eventually stop. He said I can try and let him cry it out or just do what I've been doing which is rocking with him in his chair till he falls asleep again. It feels like it's been forever with him not sleeping through the night again and very tiring but I have hope that it is just a stage and he will start sleeping through the night again.

Well well well, it is soooo good to not feel alone anymore....my son is 9 month's old and not sleeping through the night...he is up sometimes 2-6 times a night....he also started this sleep crawling thing and ooohhhh my he just needs to sleep through the night...He is also not a big napper I can get 2 naps a day and they only last 40min unless I am in the car then he will nap for an hour or so...many sleepness nights and I have also tried the cry it out method and well he got very upset and threw up...so we botched that idea very quickly...seems like a rather mean method....we have tried a bottle, soother, stuffy or lovey, sleeping with mom's shirt, rocking to sleep....I feel like we have tried it all....if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them......

My 9 month old does not sleep through the nights. I can count the number of times he slept more than 6 hours in a row, and most of them were as a 3 month old, in the swing.

He is finally down to 2/3 times a night, on a good night, which is a great improvement from waking up every 2 hours (that still happens). He shares a bedroom with his big brother, so we've started to put him in the dining room to sleep. This way, we can let him cry a few minutes without having both kids awake!

my 9 month old is not sleeping through the night! its a nightmare ive tried everything extra food at bedtime soothing baths and everything. nothing seems to work i even tried just offering water to see if he would lose interest in waking up for feeds but none of it works to be honest im at a loss feel like a complete zombie!

I have 3 kids all breastfed and my youngest is 9 mo old now. As I'm sure you have figured by all the wonderful posts, you are definitely not alone when it comes to sleeping troubles lol! My oldest 2 always woke up like clockwork every 2 hours to feed and I thought that was bad at the time. My baby now wakes up every HOUR on the dot all night long though so I find myself missing the 2 hr sleep I used to get haha! If nothing else just know that if he is only getting up a couple times per night it could be much much worse! The best advice I have is...this too will pass, it won't last forever, that I promise. Good luck with your 9 month old's not sleeping through the night!