Sex. It should be simple. An honest moment of true connection. Or carnal lust. Or, you know, angry breakup sex.

But sometimes sex is hard. And not in the *erect penis joke* way. Women can struggle to reach orgasm, foreplay can be rubbish, stress and tiredness can make the whole thing feel entirely underwhelming.

So while our idealistic side tells us to CALM DOWN on all the sex-related gadgetry, our honest, rational side knows that sometimes we could all use a helping hand.

Maybe it’s a high-powered vibrator, for when we really can’t be bothered with all the human connection bullsh*t. Or maybe it’s a new product called Fiera, which is designed to get women in the mood.

Fiera is basically a high tech suction cup for your clit. (Picture: Fiera)

Fiera is essentially a little high-tech suction cup that you fit on over the clitoris. You turn it on, and the smart technology uses custom vibration and suction to get the wearer aroused.

To clarify, the Fiera isn’t a replacement for sex or a vibrator, that gives you mind-blowing orgasms with only suction. Instead, it’s specifically designed for use WITH your partner, to be used before you get it on.

It basically gets women ready to go within fifteen, and could serve as a replacement for foreplay entirely.

And that’s where things get a bit complicated.

Before-play, not foreplay. (Picture: Fiera)

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Foreplay is FUN. Build-up with a partner – or on your own – is one of the best parts about sex. And a lot of that is mental.

Popping on a Fiera before getting into bed will make you physically aroused, sure. But that’s not enough to justify getting rid of foreplay entirely. It also definitely shouldn’t be used as an excuse for your partner to get lazy, relying on the Fiera to get you prepared so you’ll be ready for sex within in ten.

To clarify, the device in itself is no bad thing. It’s wonderful for women who find it hard to get physically aroused, or need a bit of assistance getting in the moment.

It’s how we view the Fiera that could cause problems.

It isn’t a tool to make sex fit into a thirty minute window so you can get it over with. Or a magic device to use instead of enjoying the moment and having fun.

If you’re going to use it, use it as Fiera intended: to make getting ready for sex a little easier, so you can dive straight into foreplay without feeling self-conscious about your body’s responses not matching up to how you’re feeling.