Kadia Saraf

Kadia Saraf

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A while ago TRIBE de MAMA presented a question: what does it mean for you to be a woman? I recorded a short video and it was featured on their Blog and IG. I was so honored. But the profound part is that it ignited an ongoing inquiry within myself.

At the time this picture was taken (5 years ago) being a woman was a list of expectations. I was tamed, wasn’t celebrated and couldn’t be wild and free of inhibitions. I felt scared, I got sick and cried almost every single day because I lost courage and hope. I wasn’t seen. I wasn’t seen by myself anymore either.

I was often judged for nursing my children and on some occasions was asked to go to the bathroom to nurse them among many other hurtful comments. For a while I answered back. But at some point I’ve just visualized a protective bubble around my child and myself and did what I had to do. I couldn’t change anyone and neither did I want to. I didn’t feel strong but had just enough strength to keep going.

Being a woman means to love myself unapologetically with all that I have and being at peace with where I am now… Here. My feet are grounded into the earth, sword of justice in my right hand and feather of medicine in my left, my eyes look up and ahead, each breath breaks boundaries and inhibitions and my pounding heart is ready to love.

Have you ever observed children playing in a sand box? Notice their complete immersion and razor sharp focus on their creation process. Nothing else exist but that moment. We are creators and that is the true essence of life.

When we feel playful and truly know our purpose and who we are, everything seems to become clear, ideas pop up, opportunities rise, paths open and our hearts sing a joyful song with a gentle flutter.

Today, take a moment to observe how you feel while doing what you’re doing. Notice how your body is moving, is it tense or does it feel weightless? Breathe into those tense, untended areas and let go of what is not serving your growth. Take a half hour to yourself and dedicate it to creating something you love: dance, sing, write, draw, cook or simply visualize. If you’re not used to this practice, it may feel forced at first, but just like with everything else, our body, mind and heart adjust pretty well and fast.

I love the idea of inclusion. We all want to belong. Everyone. Even the “haters”.

There was a time, when I was in complete disconnect from my higher self, and not always supportive of my friends. Some of those friends, only a few I should add, stuck around and led by example. That’s why I am where I am.

What I’m trying to convey is that it’s so easy to disconnect from all the people who have “bad energy” and try to stick to those who have “good energy”. It’s almost impossible since it puts us in a state of resistance. Instead, I love the term “detachment with love” – I don’t have to be in any form of relationship with someone but I keep an open channel through which I wish them well. Truly wish them well.

While I spend my valuable time and energy on the relationships and goals that I want to focus on, keeping that open channel, can have a huge impact on others and can show them how it’s done. We are all teachers and students on this journey.

I often feel like having something sweet but since I don’t buy to many sweets this was a perfect solution!It took 1 minute to make… Well 5 actually including eating it! It serves either 2 people OR 1 chocolate junky!

VEGAN TIRAMISU PANCAKES

1 cup Spelt Flour

1 Tbs Baking Powder

1/2 Tsp Salt

Whisk together in bowl

1/4 cup Espresso

1/2 cup Water

1/4 cup Pure Maple Syrup

1 Tbs Amaretto

Whisk together in separate bowl

Add the liquid to the flour mixture and whisk until just combined. Fold in the chocolate chips gently. Pour batter in desired pancake sizes onto lightly oiled skillet, flip them when bubbles start appearing in the middle. Top with coconut whipped cream, maple syrup and fruit of choice.