I don't see what's so difficult about the situation. If you enjoy spending time together, then by all means remain friends. Just don't let the friendship get in the way of meeting other girls that you may want to date. Maybe spend a little less time with this girl so other girls around you don't think you're 'taken'. You already stated that you can't picture the two of you being together for the long haul, so why worry about it?

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So your best friend right now is a girl. What's the big deal? It's fine to have female friends, some may even say it's useful.

Reminds me of a guy I knew in college - was always hanging around her room doing 'domestic' stuff and it was obvious that he liked her, and also obvious she was just using him for company. Pretty sad, but after a few months when it was clear she had another guy somwhere else, he quickly switched to another girl and they hooked up fast.
There is a name for that type of guy ... what is it???

You are wasting your time on her. Keep her as a friend and go meet other people. In fact take some time off from seeing her and even speaking to her. Just tell her you are busy lately and will get together in a month. Go out and enjoy yourself and meet some chicks that arent mind fucking you for their control and attention.

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its possible. just that im quite busy with school and work. and in general, im not really that sociable, so its not really my thing to meet new people. i know i need to get outta my comfort zone more, but that's easier said than done.

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Wait a minute, your're telling me after reading all that, you want me to move on to another thread since there are no pics? So why are you wasting our time telling us about how you are wasting your time with the girl? Shiiiieeett

lol. u make it sound like its some crazy inception shit haha. yea, im wasting ur time by telling u that you are waste your time by hearing about me waste my time.

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Are you for real>?

Do you like girls? ..lol

yes, i do like girls.

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Well I guess since OP wont comment on whether he likes girls or not..we can only assume he's out tampon shopping with his new bff, while listening to Rick Astley..

HAHA dude, she needed to get a new toothbrush the other day and we went to walgreens together. but no tampons... not yet... lol
she does tell me about she gets her period... yea, i think im fucking in the permanent friendzone -_____-

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4. Bipolar = NOT wife material. Run. Fast.

When I said bipolar, I meant that she has really random mood swings where one day she can be nice and funny and the next moment, she gets really argumentative and attacks everything u say. so ive just learned that when she does that i dont say anything, so she cant attack me for saying the wrong thing lol. so its not soo bad that its unbearable. its just that i have to walk on eggshells and make sure i dont press any buttons that will set her off even more. i thought all girls like that??!!

First it all, it sounds like you're trying to convince yourself you should have a physical relationship with her. She doesn't have to be "the one", but don't get so fixated on one woman. If you settle just because she happens to be the only girl you talk to and you get married for that reason, you'll regret it later. I know from experience

That said, as others have mentioned, you're basically dating her already. If you want to fuck her, man up about it.

I'm so fcuking tired of hearing about the "Friendzone". Friendzone guys are just guys who are right on paper, but are needy, dishonest about their true intentions, and don't man up and put their own priorities first. Those qualities are very unattractive to a woman. Manning up/growing some balls means you're willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position and take a risk.

Ask yourself what you really want from this woman and why. If you want to be buds, be buds, but make sure you spend time improving yourself and find women you want to be friends AND lovers with. If you spend all your time with her, that won't happen. In fact, if she really is just buddy materiel, talk about other girls with her...maybe even ask her for advice. If you want to get her in the sack, start getting physical with her, and DO IT UNAPOLOGETICALLY. It's difficult at first, but the only way to become comfortable with it is to get out there and do it. It's a vulnerable and uncomfortable place to be, but taking risks like that is what makes you a man.

You also need to change your views on rejection. Rejection can be a good thing- it prevents you from wasting your valuable youth on women you aren't right for. If she shoots you down, don't apologize for it. In fact, it might just be some token resistance. You can keep escalating while saying "oh...yes...we shouldn't be doing this". Or, if she makes some logical points that you actually agree with, then just agree with them and say "yeah...I suppose you're right, we are better as friends". Just don't apologize. Continue on the next day as though nothing happened, because it REALLY ISN'T THAT BIG OF A DEAL. Then be very blunt talking to her about other women. She'll either help you out, or get jealous and make the moves on you. Win/win.

1) As said previously, it is very unusual for two hetero people of opposite sex to be long term friends. For real.

2) You spend all your time with her, apparently she even gets aggressive and angry with you?

3) you make a thread and say you arent interested in more really, but you constantly refer to the friendzone issue. I think you arent doubting, you're in denial.

So how do we fix this, you ask?

1) make a decision. More with her, or less if at all. I.E. relationship or hang out sparingly.

2) execute decision. If more, then make a move or tell her you want to hang out, but on a date. Dont make it weird, just make your intentions known. If you decide not to, start returning calls and text slower, hanging out less and less. You obviously will never be emotionally available while friends with her.

3) If it works you have a new girlfriend or lost emotionally stunting baggage.

If you're posting about this, its an issue that needs to be resolved. Dont kid yourself, this only goes one of two ways.