I'm the co-founder / executive producer of Real Social Dynamics, and the author of "The Blueprint Decoded" -- I was born in Ottawa Canada (1979) and majored in philosophy at Queens University. Now live and work in Los Angeles California -- My life consists of managing Real Social Dynamics, running Bootcamp and Hot Seat, going to the gym, reading everything under the sun, and a twice a week surfing habit.

Or whatever holiday it is that you celebrate, I hope you're enjoying this fine season. :)

YOUR GOAL: Take some well deserved time to enjoy life with your family and the people you care about.

On my end, I've just returned from a monster set of programs in New York that were among the most challenging of my life!

We crammed them in right before Christmas to accomodate Julien's schedule and allow him to teach his day of Hot Seat on Sunday. People loved his version of the Sunday and it was a huge success.

The challenges of implementing the new free 1 year global pass have been pretty extreme, forcing me to bring in high tech mic and speaker systems, new double projectors, and higher quality computer gear. Registration from all the different cities has been crazy and the audience sizes have been really insane.

I've stumbled through learning how to use all this stuff I think I've got it figured out for every event in the future, and the result should be a pretty huge improvement in the event.

I also spent the weekend recording what I think is one of the best videos I've ever done, on a favourite topic of mine: INSECURITIES.

And the secrets of how the big boys and wolves of the world are able to be deeply secure with themselves...

This seems to be an issue I've done well with, because I'm a shorter pasty dude with hair falling out by the day. Yet I've SLAYED with many stunners over the past 10 years and hang out with a lot of great people, so have never let it hold me back.

I see guys truly struggling with this, and if I was going to be honest I've found it pretty pathetic lol.

That's pretty dickhead of me, I know, I know...

Really I don't mind the insecurity so much as the whinging about it...

Yet at the same time I realize that I have a DEEP UNDERSTANDING of how to beat insecurities that gives me an unfair advantage over all the whingers, so I wanted to lay it out in a comprehensive video.

That being the case, Merry Christmas, and please enjoy this as a gift from me to you!!

Thanks so much for all the support over the past year, and I know the coming year is going to be our best yet.

(Just looking in the cue of vids already recorded is a pretty good sign of that, but I have a ton planned for you beyond just great new vids as well.)

I'd especially urge you to get on board if you want to learn pickup from me while I'm at the tail end of my prime in teaching it, because someday people will be whining and moaning about how cool it would have been to take a PUA program with me while I was so hardcore.

Julien is teaching with me in Chicago and Miami South Beach, so absolutely get on the ball!

You can also reach my homeboys on the phone who will answer any questions you have about events and save you the time from even clicking these buttons. They're young guys who go hard in the game and know their stuff, and will be happy to sort you out.

So I'm very psyched to put out today's video, which for me is one of the best I've put out.

It's interesting because this video was actually a lot easier to record than many I've done so far. Julien was covering me on the Sunday Hot Seat, I didn't have to stay up all night to get great lighting or climb up some mountain, or convince huge crowds of people to stay out of my way.

(All things I do frequently to get great scenes for the vids.)

This time I just cruised over to the Rockefeller Center holiday celebration in NYC on a day off, and ran my mouth on some very basic level understandings of how to feel DEEPLY SECURE.

To tell you the truth I have layers upon layers of deep rooted knowledge on this

Much like my relationship game, which has just layers upon layers of advanced pimpetry laced into it (there's so much going on there I barely know what I'm doing) my understanding of how to feel deeply secure has near infinite layers to it from all my years of gaming as well as being roasted in the book "The Game". :)

I've thrown myself into so many absurd situations, from being a creepy pickup teacher online, to rocking the hottest clubs and hanging out with all sorts of high status dickheads, to sexing and juggling hot women, the list goes on...

Basically I've become numb to it all over the years, it doesn't matter if I'm short and pasty and balding, I don't give a FUCK.

I've figured out how to live my "mental movie of life" through my EYE BALLS and not my SELF IMAGE. So I just see the movie as it plays TO ME IN MY BRAIN and don't get to preoccupied with how I look other people.

Yes I feel the same "pings" of insecure emotions as regular folks at times, but I have arsenals worth of weapons to quickly sap them out and become utterly numb.

Then from that platform I feel FREE and just ROCK IT and ENJOY LIFE!!!

We only get this one shot at all this, and I want to absolutely CRUSH IT. So NOTHING is going to hold me back!!!

The reason I'm able to do what I do comes from a few basic level understandings that all the advanced layers are founded upon...

1) The comparison paradigm will never solve the problem. It's a mental disease and until you root it out of your head you'll find MORE AND MORE reasons to feel insecure.

I've simply met so many high level people who were *STILL* insecure with themselves, it's been hammered into my head that it doesn't matter what heights you reach, it's more inner game than external circumstances.

You MUST MUST MUST give up the comparison paradigm. Comparing is only useful insofar as a frame of reference of what you can achieve, but beyond that is it a diseased brain pattern that's GOTS-TA-GO!

2) Most people are socially conditioned to be preoccupied judging themselves and absorbed in their own personal worlds, so they barely have time to judge you or properly notice what you're doing.

3) That being the case they (for the most part) just respond to the energy they're confronted with. If you lead with positive energy, nearly anything is possible, at least socially.

With all this in mind, you are free to joyfully frollick through life and LOVE IT.

Yes many people will feel angry and confused at your joy and success. Seeing some freaky little dude living THEIR DREAMS is understandably a bit disconcerting.

But hey, it's all good, I used to feel the same way. And I know the hellish nightmare of living in that paradigm, so I assure you that you shouldn't take it personally.

Rather just keep this stuff in your head and love yourself to death.

Life is there for the taking. It's on YOU to beat your insecurities and live all your fullest dreams.

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO DISCOVER MY TOP SECRETS OF FEELING DEEPLY SECURE...

Really hope you gained value from this.

As I watched this tonight I nearly felt tears welling up in my eyes, because I felt the whole vibe and the way this vid was sequenced would really connect with people and help uproot them from the feeling of being insecure.

Insecurity is one of the SHITTIEST FEELING IN THE WORLD and so freakishly bizarre because the suffering is COMPLETELY INHIBITING AND SELF INFLICTED.

Well from this day forward, you now have the basis of how I personally understand and beat this in my head.

There are few things I love more than than pressing "public" on a video like this. It's one of my greatest joys in life.

Thanks for watching.

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THANKS SO MUCH AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!

I feel that this video alone is enough to chew on, so I'm going to leave the article right here.

In the coming weeks I have 2 of the best Free Tours I've ever done, as well as a CRAZY adventure through Seattle on the topic of "Buying In".

PLEASE HIT ME BACK WITH COMMENTS ON TODAY'S CHRISTMAS VID!! WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON BEATING INSECURITIES AND HOW WILL YOU CHANGE FROM HERE ON?

Thanks as always for reading and watching, Merry Christmas and happy holidays!!!

Tyler

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Comments

Feeling secure is a feeling rooted in experiences(interractions with women, meditation etc) or socitey standards accomplishment(Hugh Heffner think he made it by society standards he beat the system).But being a feeling doesn't it fluctuate even in Hugh Heffner or even the hardest core meditation monk?

Yeah you can't play this game chasing feelings. It's not about that. I like Julien's mentality (maybe he learned it from Tyler, maybe someone else, maybe not) that everything is part of the plan -- internal and external. I'm not going out to expect positive feelings or confidence or results. I'm there with an open mind accepting everything that happens and being open to it. The mentality is "bring it on!" The good and the bad.

You can say that this in itself is a feeling, but it is not an expectation or focus on having to feel good in order to achieve this or that.

As soon as reliance on feelings becomes a means to an end you've lost.

omegaman Wrote:

Feeling secure is a feeling rooted in experiences(interractions with women, meditation etc) or socitey standards accomplishment(Hugh Heffner think he made it by society standards he beat the system).But being a feeling doesn't it fluctuate even in Hugh Heffner or even the hardest core meditation monk?

Feelings are energy vibrations it's not about reliance on them or anything, rather what processes you have to undertake in order to get rooted in the highest vibrations.thoughts are also energy and having strong continuuos mental focused thoughts also helps in anchoring feelings in you that will generate the outcomes that you wantMeditation for example induces vibrations in brain thetha wawes of between 0-3 cicles equivalent to deep sleep.

For me pickup is just a path that gets the job done in the terms of enjoying the process because it's so directly confruntational it pushes me more in the now then meditation for example but i also do meditation.

Maybe there is a diffrence between state and feeling.I'd say for example you can observe feelings become datached and then you enter a ''STATE''.Like Nirvana is called a state rather then feeling.

I experienced a click feeling in my head twice in this video. Super sweet delievery, and probably your best V-blog in my opinion. Really well structed with a great balance of the content. It is admirable what you have accomplished in this V-blog area. I am amazed at how many subtle different lessons you managed to get in there. Thank you for the value and merry christmas!

Deep topic with so many layers! I feel like I study those ideas myself and you did an absolutely outstanding job of explaining this in a way that a broad variety of people can connect with it without zoning out or having some filters go up. Even with that kind of non-mainstream infield part.

Awesome video Owen, thanks for all the videos you've put out this year. I really appreciate it. It's good to know when I have bad days, that I can always look back at your videos and find something that I missed. This video will definitely be a classic that I'll prbly rewatch as well.

One thing that I feel has helped me a lot to deal with my insecurities was when I developed a plan for my life and started creating the "path" that I wanted to follow. When I made these decisions I felt so much more confident about myself and when I would compare myself to other people telling myself that I didn't have this or that yet, I would stop and tell myself that I'm in my own path and I will achieve the goals that I have for myself and that's why other people achievements are irrelevant to me personally; because they don't belong to my path.

I might not have been very clear with the last paragraph but I think you'll get it. I got a lot from it from your video about live's lanes. I think I'm on my own "lane" now and it helps me a lot to not compare myself to other people!

That resonated a lot with me, Merry Xmas. One of the best videos in quite a while.

Would also like to add in that if you OWN it and really don't care what others think you will get a shitload of attention. While if your thinking about others you hold back and it's like no one cares, since in essence your half stepping. That's my experience :)

Wow! Really amazing video Tyler. Congratulations man. Great job. I don't have many issues with insecurity but definitely the video helped out on hammering the point home of stop comparing with other people (unless it's from a point of view to see how far you can go on your journey, like I do with you).

I wish you the best.- From someone you have changed the life and keep influencing,Sincerely

This vid was a killer, and it goes so deep for those ready for the message. Insecurities have always been something which destroyed me coming from my childhood. Moving into adulthood its a battle of wits, but mostly you verses you. Why does it need to be you verses you and why the resistance?

"RESISTANCE IS FUTILE!!"

Going to watch this one a couple of times, ruminate and meditate, kick these insecurities: going deeper and deeper with it. Fully fully grateful about it; as you said in earlier vids, its not about what you have its about who you become, and insecurities have the potential to builds character like nothing else! Boom!

Killer video. Gratitude growing and life flowing, smooth like a river, taking its lifes course, with the wisdom of water moving without resistance, without self awareness, humble on the narrow road, asking only what I have earned. Never wasting a day.

Unbelievable video, hit on lots of points I've been thinking of lately. I'm actually in the process of starting up my own journey to entrepeneurship at 18 years old (no university), and had been comparing my public speaking on my channel to yours! Ridiculous.

Here's my new found revelations/epiphanies on the matter of comparison and what I need to do, based on help from this video.

1) Comparing my speaking to RSD instructors (I'm 18, fucking sick I'm starting now, so cool what I'm doing, I will improve as well)2) Owning your insecurities as part of acceptance = letting go of comparing and the NEED for more, and just loving where you're at, and what you have. Turning insecurities into strengths, everything on the journey to improvement is fucking boss, it’s all the same. This year is just as good as ten years worth of improvement, enjoy it all to the max, because you get comfortable wherever you are. Owning one shoe is the same as owning ten houses happiness wise.3) Improving yourself as tweaks to make yourself even more awesome

NO PRESSURE over these 4 years, I don’t NEED to succeed over the next 4 years, treat it as uni + gap year. 4 years to develop skills, learn from multiple failures, discover what I like. Obviously keep on working as hard as possible, but it isn’t the end of the world, stop taking things so seriously, and enjoy the ride. Take right action, but don’t stress over it, any big problems I find which make me rethink anything are fine, they teach me lessons, and help refine the process for the future. It’s all experiments for the next 4 years.

It’s SO cool how I’m starting this out at 18, teaching myself, being independent.

ENJOY THE RIDE and keep looking forwards, NO STRESS but keep working hard (making sure I enjoy EVERYTHING FULLY, if I don’t like something think very hard about whether to continue it)

Just copy and pasted this from my document, hopefully makes sense.

Thank you very much Owen, I really appreciate everything you do, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't be winning at life so hard.

Good luck with everything, the value you provide all of us is way over the top generous!

I like what Julien had to say at the end. Good way of looking at it. I also like the idea of "I am already awesome, and I am just becoming more awesome." I agree it's easy to get insecure when you are trying to self-improve because you are accepting that you are not good enough and that you want to get better. However, if you can accept where you are NOW, you can still strive to be better but you don't have to feel bad about yourself.

Thanks so much for sharing this video. It made my day this christmas. I understand what you are saying here, and it made me feel a whole lot better. I really hope to sit down and talk with you one on one in the future. I'll be seeing you for a second bootcamp sometime soon in the future.

Thanks so much for sharing this video. It made my day this christmas. I understand what you are saying here, and it made me feel a whole lot better. I really hope to sit down and talk with you one on one in the future. I'll be seeing you for a second bootcamp sometime soon in the future.

Tyler, this post made me thing about the part of mastery where he talks about how awesome being human is. If you think about it any healthy guy that is a full grown man with a fully developed brain, say about 25 or so, really is awesome. Men come in all different shapes and sizes and that is really irrelevant. After all if being tall and good looking was such a huge advantage then wouldn’t EVERY guy be like that by now. So every guy is awesome. If you can’t get girls it’s because you sexual ornamentation sucks, i.e. your game, and you fix that by going out.

Great vid tyler ! Really insightful. I just had a quick question (open to other people aswell):You mentioned laughing with other people that were tooling you/making fun of you. But how do you differentiate between when to do that and when to stand up to someone whos taking you for a dick ?

You don't need to be delusional to become secure. This will make you just become socially weird and unable to relate to other people in a normal way. I'm telling you from experience, this is not the way to go. Owen does pick up for living.

By comparing with others, you see that you, by doing a small effort, are a lot better in some areas than a lot of people.

Just as a small example, take the well known insecurity, PENIS SIZE.Who here hasn't googled "average penis length"? No one. Some are scared it's too small others are scared if it's too big. By knowing that average (ie comparing to other people), you brush off that insecurity, if you're length is somewhere near the average and not as small or big as you thought it was. When a girl says it's too small or too big, you know that you know BETTER, and you just say, "no it's not lol". You don't try to live in the delusion of making yourself and the girl think it's not a big deal, you KNOW that it is not.Even owen can do this, by seeing the LARGE amount of people around him who are short and balding, and still very successful in life.

I think "knowing better" is the key, that's how you develop REAL confidence in what you believe and say. You develop this from getting knowledge and social experiences. And you FIX, YES FIX, what you can fix, not continue to live in a delusion.

I replied to this video because it's a small message to a broader topic, not just about pick up. If you take that delusional way, you will find yourself stuck in a delusional world. At least that's my experience with rsd.

Good stuff.Everyone be secure.But really i don't feel anyone should pick flaws of other people. I mean a guy doing it to another guy who he's never met before. That to me is insecurity where they are trying to make theirself feel better by making fun of others.

My name is Alamae from Mobille, AlabamaAnd I just want to say since watchin Owens RSD videosI been able to date outside the family, I got a double wideAnd I rode the plane, rode the plane, rode the plane.....

But for real why did the giant gorilla man on the building shoot 3 loads on my face?