12 WAYS TO LEARN HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

February 14, 2014

Today, partners will be showered with plenty of roses, romantic dinners and a whole lotta lurve. I’m dedicating this Valentine’s Day to self love, which plays a big part of your own success and happiness. The key to a beautiful and fulfilled life is to learn how to love yourself, and not in the egotistic way but really learning to accept, love and take care of the skin you’re in. I wanted to share these 12 ways to learn how to love yourself so that you could celebrate you this Valentines. Start today:

1. Stop All Criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. Forgive Yourself.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

5. Be Kind to Your Mind.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. Praise Yourself.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

7. Support Yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

8. Be Loving to Your Negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

9. Take Care of Your Body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

10. Do Mirror Work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, “I love you, I really love you!”

11. Love Yourself . . . Now.
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

12. Have Fun!
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

Celebrate yourself today, and every day after.

P.S. Treat yourself, it is after all Valentines Day — Happy Valentines my loves!

Aubrey is the creator & curious mind behind The Love Assembly. She quit her 9-5 job to pursue her entrepreneurial dream in the online world. She now travels, captures photographs and shares her experiences here and as the first Condé Nast Traveler Australian travel blogger. She also loves hazelnut gelato!