Day 4 – Date Night-in

During the challenge, it is so important to connect on all levels. Find quiet times where you can talk to each other, hold hands and look into each other’s eyes and just connect. I believe we used to call that a date, before we were married and even newly married.

Making dating a priority with a budget can be difficult. Even more so if you have kids that need a babysitter. We have certainly felt this tug in our marriage and yet still wanted and needed our special time together.

Our solution has been to once a week, feed the kids dinner (sit with them and talk about their day), then tuck them into bed. After they are all set, we have a nice quiet dinner just the two of us. We call it our “Dinner-Date Nights.” They are at home in the quiet of our kitchen or living room, while our kids are asleep upstairs. It is a great way to connect each week and to have “us” time.

Prayer Point

Pray that your experience of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy continues to grow as you spend time together.

Washing in the Word

Excerpts from Song of Solomon 4 (NLT)

Husband (to wife) You are beautiful, my darling,
beautiful beyond words.
Your eyes are like doves
behind your veil.
Your hair falls in waves,
like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.
Your teeth are as white as sheep,
recently shorn and freshly washed.
Your smile is flawless,
each tooth matched with its twin.
Your lips are like scarlet ribbon;
your mouth is inviting.
Your cheeks are like rosy pomegranates
behind your veil.
Your neck is as beautiful as the tower of David,
jeweled with the shields of a thousand heroes.
Your breasts are like two fawns,
twin fawns of a gazelle grazing among the lilies.

My hope is to help wives of every age and stage of marriage to simply rely on God to supply all we need and more than we can imagine. The focus is on praying God’s Word consistently believing it is the Sword of the Spirit of God. Imagine our marriages a year from now and five years from now brimming with more of the fruits of His spirit than we comprehend. I believe He will use us to display faith, hope, and love to those we influence. I envision us as cities on a hill where people see God!

In addition to go along with today’s challenge tip will be giving away a copy the book 52 Uncommon Dates

We know we should do it. We talk about it and acknowledge the benefits; yet most couples find praying together is somewhat awkward, intimidating, or something we lack the time for. It’s time to experience a breath of fresh air… in prayer.

52 Uncommon Dates ignites a prayerful and playful connection in a way that feels natural for couples to schedule and relate to real life. Fun, creative, and spiritually engaging, this powerful resource will revive the relational, physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of your relationship, one date at a time.

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13 Responses to Day 4 – Date Night-in

This is one of those things that I want more of, but have yet to make it consistent. We spend time “together” in the evenings, but a lot of it is talking over the day, the kids, and de-stressing with a show or game on our computer. I really want to be more intentional about dates nights at home that are all about us. 🙂

When we had little children in the house, it was so hard to focus on the two of us, as a couple. I would always be so, so tired. I literally could fall asleep upright. I had to make an intentional effort to connect with my husband at that time. I am so glad I did, but yeah, I was tired. Because you have little ones, you need to make your marriage a priority regularly. Your husband will thank you for it.

On of my farmer husband’s annoying habits is tracking mud and grease into the house. And his quirky trait is that he is totally oblivious to the mess he is leaving behind for me to clean up. But now that I have been challenged to apply 1 Peter 4:8, I realize that those can be reminders to appreciate the love and commitment that drives him to walk out that door, no matter the weather, and tread through all that mud and grease, just so he can provide for me.

We’ll be married 24 years this year and we went for years without going on dates…I don’t recommend that to you younger parents.Find a way to get away, your kids are not #1, they are #3 after God and your spouse, and they need to know that. We are making up for our missed dates now that our 4 are old enough to stay home on their own. Where there’s a will, there’s a way!

We were able to be together all day 🙂 window shopped in Santa Barbara and had a excellent lunch.. we have been empty nesters for two years and are each others best friends.. BUT we both remember raising children and how difficult it was making one on one time. we’re up to date on the challenge and enjoying all of the daily comments