You Can’t Do It Alone

Most people think that they can overcome a life-controlling problem on their own. They believe enlisting the help of other people is a sign of weakness. They are wrong.

The dynamics of entrapment hold us tightly. Self-deception blinds us to the truth. We cannot see ourselves as we truly are. We see things in extremes. We either excuse ourselves totally or swing to the other extreme and feel worthless and beyond help.

When people deceive themselves over a long period of time, they enter a state of delusion. This delusion makes people lose all perspective of reality. And without a clear view of reality, it is difficult to change.

This is why we need others. We need their eyes to see us how we really are and we need their voices telling us what they see. We need honest friends to help us overcome our life-controlling problems. This is why it is so much better to approach our problems in a group of like-minded and loving people, or at the very least, with a trusted friend who is not afraid to tell us what they see.