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That when exWH seems pissy with me and acts like I'm an annoyance just because I send one text asking if the kids are ok for the night that it's not me? Is it safe to assume that he's pissy for some other reason, ie his bat shit crazy OW and the fact that there are four kids there all weekend, it's bad weather and there is all of about 1,000 square feet of total living space?

I sometimes automatically think, "fuck him. What did I do?". I guess I should knock that off and remember that his pissy attitude no longer has anything to do with me.

BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
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Pass♂ 38122Member # 38122

Posted: 8:48 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013

I sometimes automatically think, "fuck him. What did I do?".

That thought has one sentence too many. Change it to "fuck him" and that's all you need. You will never understand his motivations because you aren't an arsehole.

Cheating louse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 13 and 16
DDay: Nov 15/2012
Separated Mar 2/2013 after 17 years married. Will we ever be divorced?

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Posts: 3237 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada

tryingagain74♀ 33698Member # 33698

Posted: 9:25 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013

Yep. It's safe to assume that he's a douchebag who doesn't want to spend another night sleeping with his kids in Tiny House. I'm sure that he's feeling pretty grumpy when he thinks about the house that you get to sleep in tonight!

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Two DS and One DD
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Posts: 6687 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida

forlornheart♀ 40726Member # 40726

Posted: 9:08 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013

Ignore the bastard. Don't let his bad attitude affect you.

Live life happy knowing he's not your problem anymore. He's a headache to some else.

It's safe to assume that he's a douchebag who doesn't want to spend another night sleeping with his kids in Tiny House. I'm sure that he's feeling pretty grumpy when he thinks about the house that you get to sleep in tonight!

for sure! He gave up that beautiful house to live in the spare room of that shithole with that batshit crazy OW. Oh yeah, he hates his life every single day.

BW - 40
DD - 7 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
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Posts: 5194 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY

SBB♀ 35229Member # 35229

Posted: 3:11 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013

That thought has one sentence too many.

^^THIS.

Who gives a flying fuck if he's pissy? The sad clown is the moodiest biiiarrrrtch on the planet. Care Factor = Zero.

One of the good things about getting rid of these trashbags is we don't have to tolerate their moods.

If the contact is impacting you then I would reconsider contacting him. I know its hard - my girls were 4.5 and almost 2 when they first started spending 50% of their time away from me. It almost killed me. The sad clown had never put my little one to bed.

His misery is no longer any of your business. Take it from me - this is how they roll, doesn't matter what you do or don't do.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5988 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia

EvenKeel♀ 24210Member # 24210

Posted: 3:21 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013

I limit my exposure as much as possible with X. I think I have texted 5 times in 4 years and spoke on the phone 2 times.

The less opportunity we give people to shoot their guns at us, the less chance we get hit by that spray of buckshot.

I am always disappointed when a liar's pants actually do not catch on fire.