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“Writers know marketing is part of the publishing process. They also know it should start early, well before a book summons its first paying reader. But here’s the snag. Many writers are introverts. That is probably why we like to write. We are alone. With our thoughts. Thoughts easier to reveal by keyboard than mouth ”

To ‘ one’ world, I am better known as rude, harsh, cold, stubborn, hard headed, short tempered snobbish lady. For them, may be, I am. Frustrations, anger and irritations are the demons, which surround me (not sure, us) and haunt me (At least, yes, to me) time to time.

Once upon a time on one fine day, which was not like just another day , I was suffering from anger , due to some unexpected conversations with a good (I mean it) friend. I realized, somehow, through the screaming in my mind, that even in midst of such sentimental attack; I was still free ; free to hate the things that hurt me; free to disconnect the phone and acknowledge my anger; free to louder the music (free – for the matter of fact my neighbors are out for holidays) and just dance like a emotion-free , stress-free, tiredness-free mad girl. I am still free to hate the moments that were torturing me, or to forgive me.

It doesn’t sound like much!

I know.

But in the flinch and bite of the solitude (hate to call, loneliness) , (self) locked in the confines of a small room , echoes of highway midnight traffic , what’s all I have got is freedom. I read this somewhere; freedom is like, universe of possibilities.

I am not that kind of person who can talk at length about negativity (they give me a sick feeling). Rather, I am the kind of person who in spite being red hot in anger will think of possibilities to come out with a little more than the wiser and calmer me, there should be (has to be) some gain out of it.

If you search on anger management on internet, you will find a very long list of remedies. Drinking lots of water, meditation, taking a nap, talking/yelling to/at a friend, maintain a silence, count till ten, deep breathes etc etc. Perhaps they may work or even may not, like in my case, nothing like this, I believe one has to find out the fixtures on their own (they depend person to person, affinity to affinity).

Losing points – You can try this if and only if you are at home and music volume should be convenient to neighbors.

2. Walk to the nearest mall.

Take away points – Everybody knows the benefits of walking. I mention walking to the nearest mall for those who are shopaholics. Every time I visit any shopping mall, I get to listen Enrique Iglesias(hearing him is always soothing).

Losing points – Keep the minimum amount of cash with you and please leave cards at home.

3. Shop

The moment you have read the word ‘shop’ you have imagined yourself with bags full of clothes, footwear, accessories etc. Stop those imaginary horses there only. When in anger, you have have to shop smarty. Otherwise your pockets/credit card bills will make sure to provide you another shot of anger.

Take away points – Shop for groceries , bed linens , books , music…chances are there would be little wastage and they will be in use for long. For bed linen, I can anytime gift them.

Losing Points – If the anger meter is at alarming rate, skip shopping and enjoy movie.

4. Write

Take away points – Twitter , Facebook , Blogs, Personal documents describe a groundbreaker and game changer. I can never let myself down.

Losing Points – In anger or in whatever scenario, don’t ever, disrespect/abuse/spread bad word for the cause of anger. Every coin has two sides, respect that.

5. Interact

Take away points –I Interact to enrich my social network of peers, colleagues, even my competitors. My willingness to listen and learn (Running away from the reason, why I am so upset) from all the people I interact, help me to be a better person.

Losing Points – Mind your words and tone.

Earlier in my teenage and early 20 days (again, guessing my age !! bad idea) I used to break things, at times yell in a screaming-itchy-irky tone and have a compulsive eating disorder. With anger I was in danger.

Now, with a bit of life experience and a blessed happening life (frequent in –out) I have learnt this in a hard way that anger is one short of danger. And I am happy to announce I have found my , one short.

Do you know how does it feel when one of the milestone years of your life is just flying by ? It hurts , I can assure you this ,while I am sobbing 😥 Trust me. Ha ha ha, do I am getting dramatic?

I know this is that time of year when people talk about partying(ah! , they actually party) with family and friends . So this will sound a tad weird, but let me just say it anyway – even in this third season of celebrations (First season : Diwali Celebrations ; Second Seasons : Almost every ‘eligible’ person around getting married; Third season : Christmas and New Year) when everyone is partying and displaying togetherness (mostly for facebook uploads!) . I’m probably having a good appetite for ‘homeliness’.

It all started on one fine day (it’s sad it was one of my loved ones birthday) I got cornered with this horrendous cough. Now it’s been a month, I am (still) heavily and badly coughing, cozying up in quilt in front of idiot box and trying to list down my do-able resolutions for 2012.

When I look back at 2011, it was a milestone, so much done in just a span of 12 months!! Unfortunately lost many friends (no matter how cold I pretend, I am sorry for my loss) and enjoyed company of few gems in my life (ah, m blessed!) and at the end broke 🙂 🙂 (year full of expenses).

A year back in 2010, I was longing for a holiday. I am lucky I was travelling (apart from my weekly trips back home) all around the year. As a kid, I was told that, if you put your mind , body and soul into something , there are pretty much chances that you will achieve. 2010 was the most hectic so I did everything for a holiday. 2011 I was holidaying in Hyderabad, Jim Corbet , Banglore, Rishikesh , Vaishno Devi. This year, I was being low on health part. I wish myself a healthy 2012.

Keeping health in mind, I have now settled on below 2 resolutions (fingers crossed)

Maintain a routine and be more organized.

Write and Workout daily.

Perfect timing. I finished everything before midnight 🙂

Countdown has begun and with the clock striking 12 o’clock on December 31st night, everyone is gearing up to express joy and happiness to welcome 2012. Why should I be left 🙂

It’s a New Year !!

It’s like a new Sunrise… of Hope, of Prosperity , of Happiness

It’s like new Beginning… of Thoughts, of Words, of Actions

It’s like a new Day… of Energy, of Strength, of Ideas

Its like a Bunch of whole New things..of Prayers, of Friends, and of Love.

Sometimes people come into our life and we have a hitch that they were meant to be there, to serve some purpose, teach us a lesson, or to help figure out who we want to become. We never know who these people may be. May be a long-lost friend ‘friends’ via Facebook , or a stranger who seems to be always in a hurry each morning standing at the bus stop. But when we notice them, we know that very moment they will affect us in some profound way.

People we met and share success and downfall with, help to create who we are and we want to become.

Strange isn’t it?

When they love, they embrace us, when they hurt or betray, they teach us the importance of trust and hard meaning of being cautious. A moment of love, affection, and care make us calm,composed and confident. It fills our days with joy and happiness. A betrayal makes us cold,frustrated and shocked.

We humans are very sensitive yet we say we are strong and move on easily, knowing deep down that our emotions are fragile. Now, how we know that? We feel compelled to stay on a rigid pre – chosen path for our lives, even if we don’t want to. And why is it so? It revolves around our reclusiveness (which we generously say ‘self defense’), or simply we are afraid to experience something different from our routine.

Embracing the new in life is not about making unwise risks, but about taking chances for the quality of our lives. The new may not bring fame and fortune, but happiness we were longing for.

I read somewhere that people are like onions. Onions!!! Every now and then we have to peel off a layer to reveal a new facet of theirs’ , just to mention with every layer comes the tears , more importantly it adds a critical flavor to everything you do , if you do bad it will stink. Peeling an onion symbolizes new beginnings, afraid of tears but revealing a fresh new skin, ready to take onthe world!!