COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS BETWEEN PARENTS CAN BE EXPENSIVE! According to the law offices of William 3. Neary, the average cost of divorce is $15,000-30,000. Child Custody Evaluations are $2,000-$10,000 and then there are moving expenses, health insurance, child custody expenses plus a whole lot more. That’s just the monetary side.

Emotionally, divorce puts the whole family through turmoil. Counseling is often recommended for parents and children.

How you solve couple problems can scare your kids. They worry when you fight.

Most parents regret scaring their youngsters. Yet most couples still say and do painful things they can’t take back. If you and your mate have communication difficulties, here’s help.

You can’t make your partner a good communicator but you can become one.

If you focus on the last fight and the one before that until you remember every conflict, you’ll create a strong negative pathway in your brain paved with your couple struggles. By recycling old hurts with new ones you can easily build a case against your partner. You’ll also have a convincing mental route to follow whenever a new problem occurs. When that happens, don’t be surprised if you explode. You don't have to lose your cool. You have choices.

Two Choices

“You have a choice. You can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.” - Pinned by Gelyn Resuma

The Third Choice

You can raise your self-esteem by visualizing your best self handling a problem you tend to avoid. If you do this before falling asleep and before rising in the morning for 3 weeks, chances are you’ll become the good communicator you want to be.

Today’s gift, Self-Esteem Visualization for Couples with Problems will show you how to handle difficulties with elegance and no regrets. Then, when your kids are watching, they’ll feel the change. Why not calm their fears by solving problems with dignity.

A boy I counseled had often seen his parents screaming at each other. He acted out their behavior. The school contacted his mom and dad.

You Can Create a Happier Marriage!

Even though their son yelled at, hit, and hurt other kids on the playground, his dad said, "Boys will be boys!" This his sister started causing similar problems at school. Finally, the parents paid attention. That's when the school contacted me.

The kids did what they saw the parents do. Yet deep inside, they feared their folks would divorce.

If fighting is hurting your marital relationship and your kids are being affected, you CAN change. In today's brief blog video, you'll find 3 miserable marriage traps, 3 questions to ask yourself about each trap, and 3 ways to overcome the trap. You'll also find 4 helpful communication tips for couples.

Watch the video as often as you want. You can even download the script below the video to use the information when you need it.