Last night I read Jerry Useem’s 6,000-word feature in the June issue of The Atlantic examining a bunch of research that looks into why jerks get ahead and, as the saying goes, “nice guys finish last,” to see if I could glean anything new from a relatively well-worn argument.

Well, sometimes men just hate women. Sometimes men love women as long as they aren’t in a position of power over them. But sometimes men want to be allies and advocate for women but don’t, for fear they won’t be taken seriously, or that it isn’t their place. The first two types of men are banned, but the last type is worth a closer look. Here is organizational psychologist Adam Grant, writing for the Atlantic: