Posts Tagged ‘anger’

Many of us have shame, guilt, pain and anger attached to things we have done or experienced. We go to great lengths to hide what we have done or what has been done to us. You are as sick as your secrets. Until you reveal, examine, and unpack the negative emotions attached to the secrets, thoughts, feelings, and experiences, you are held captive by them.

It is OK to feel angry.

To deny we feel angry does not make it go away. What it is not dealt with, it only grows, in the dark, and control us. When we engage in a dialogue with our darkest side we bring light into it and that is enough to dispel the darkness and begin to change.

One day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!”The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”