DO MEN REALLY NEED MORE SEX THAN WOMEN?

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Men may wish to have more orgasms, and they can of course take care of this themselves. But when they tell their partners that it’s “a guy thing” when they express a need for more sex, I disagree.

After specializing in sexual healing for more than twenty years, I have had clients who became able to feel loved and loving even when having no sex. They get to discover the real purpose of sex. It affirms that this relationship is more special than what either have with anyone else. They also learn that the act of sex does not mean they are loved. It isn’t meant to fill in a deep, empty place. It is, of course, a wonderful way to interact with that special person. But longing for it, demanding it, and feeling deprived without it, aren’t based on real physiological or emotional needs.

When first falling in love, men and women want lots of physical contact - hand holding, snuggling, and sex. This is what moves them from two people into a couple. It makes them family. In our love-deprived culture, both interpret the can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other as having finally obtained what they had long been needing. Love at last!