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Im 29...been with alot of women just have never been involved in a relationship...ive already stayed at her house an shes stayed at mine...her kids seeem to like me...the babies daddy is a crazy dude...so thats another concern...but idk man its a tough call...

An dammit can this plz be moved to the water cooler...lol

For a first relationship...this might be more intense, b/c there's more people involved than just you and her.

Since you already stayed at her house, I'm assuming she must be cool with it and you all have talked about it.

Since he's still around then, you might want to find out on why that didn't work for them, if you want to find a path forward with her. If he's a "crazy dude," keep it away from the kids. Make sure the girl is in the know about any beef with him and you before you try to talk to him. If you do talk to him about his "crazy," make sure you tell her before. Sometimes shit gets exaggerated and/or it's not a big a deal to her.

Im 29...been with alot of women just have never been involved in a relationship...ive already stayed at her house an shes stayed at mine...her kids seeem to like me...the babies daddy is a crazy dude...so thats another concern...but idk man its a tough call...

An dammit can this plz be moved to the water cooler...lol

"Babies' daddy"? Not ex-husband? You said she had two children. Same daddy for both, or different daddies for each?

Im 29...been with alot of women just have never been involved in a relationship...ive already stayed at her house an shes stayed at mine...her kids seeem to like me...the babies daddy is a crazy dude...so thats another concern...but idk man its a tough call...

An dammit can this plz be moved to the water cooler...lol

All of these factors pretty much add up to you fighting a losing battle.

That's because this is basically about the woman, and we know how women think and operate.

She's looking for a baby daddy because the real baby daddy is a crazy dude and very likely a deadbeat. The best bait that she has at this point is probably contained in the information that he's already stayed at her house, and she's stayed at his.

That's because this is basically about the woman, and we know how women think and operate.

She's looking for a baby daddy because the real baby daddy is a crazy dude and very likely a deadbeat. The best bait that she has at this point is probably contained in the information that he's already stayed at her house, and she's stayed at his.

my wife had one child when we met..... I felt the same way. didnt want to hurt the child or her. it's been 7 years we now have 2 children which I raise and I could'nt be happier. look at children as a bonus, in your situation you have 2 extra people to love you as opposed to one.