So disgusted with my DH

So first off I thought that he had quit smoking. We had went over to a friends house and he had a couple of cigarettes while drinking. I got mad bc if he had truly quit then he wouldn't need the occasiona cigarette bc then that's just more temptation. So my suspicions were correct & he had started smoking again. So he spent $70 on a vaporizer (e-cigarette) to help him quit. His refill cartridges were lasting him a week or so. Now all of a sudden he is spending more on them. He bought one about 2 days ago. Then I found out thru our online banking that he bought 2 more last night.

Besides the stress of that, I have a lot of other crap going on. I found out about a month ago that my dad has prostate cancer...luckily only stage 1. And one of my cousins who was only 42 passed away 2 days ago due to pneumonia and kidney failure. When I came in the room and was crying about my cousin, my dh (dear husband) asked what was wrong and when I told him, he didn't even say sorry or hug me. I just feel like he is not here for me.

To top it all off, he was gone for a few hours last night and I just found out that he went to a bar from a receipt I found. He didn't tell me he loved me when he left or where he was going. Then he comes home and tells me he loves me..but now I know he was drunk. He also got sick and left a small mess on the toilet so of course i had to clean it. I also found his wedding ring on the floor so he was most likely not wearing it at the bar.

I have talked to him about his use of his new e-cigarette and the fact that he is constantly using it. I don't understand how using it constantly helps him quit? He gets defensive about it and says its not harmful bc it doesn't have tobacco..just nicotine. But nicotine is still addictive and he is spending unnecessary money on it.

I have talked to him about him not being here for me. And he says u know that I am here for u. When u r there for someone then u need to show them. Not just tell them.

Haven't talked to him about going to the bar last night bc he is asleep right now.

I just don't get it...he is the sole supporter since I stay at home with our 2 kids...but we r not hurting for money right now since we got our tax refund. But that also doesn't mean we should go blow all kinds of money.

I am about to get the kids ready and go somewhere all day today bc I don't even want to look at him. I am so disgusted with his behavior right now!!!

Oh my god, my DH (dear husband) has just entered the ecig world too and is obsessed!!! Fortunately he buys all the cigs and their juice online for half if not 1/4 the price but still...it's expensive! And pointless in my mind. If you want to quit, quit!!!

I don't see the big deal about ecigarettes. They really aren't that bad and at least he isn't smoking regular cigarettes in the house around the baby. Also, would it really be that bad to give your DH (dear husband) a vice? He could be doing worse things than smoking electronic cigarettes.

I get that he needs something to enjoy but he also has his motorcycle which he works on and rides. Meanwhile I am a mom 24/7 and don't have time for my hobbies and don't get to spend money on myself. How is that fair just bc he works? When I worked I still didn't spend much money on myself and dh (dear husband) would go thru my acct and question me about every transaction

I get that he needs something to enjoy but he also has his motorcycle which h...

Posted
03/08/2014

I get that he needs something to enjoy but he also has his motorcycle which he works on and rides. Meanwhile I am a mom 24/7 and don't have time for my hobbies and don't get to spend money on myself. How is that fair just bc he works? When I worked I still didn't spend much money on myself and dh would go thru my acct and question me about every transaction

Sounds just like my SO. I don't care that he smokes, but the bars (he doesn't even have a ring to take off, doesn't want to get married) every weekend, checking accounts, not really caring about my feelings/does what he wants. He got me a birthday cake last night at the bakery but hasn't even said happy birthday to me today because he "doesn't really care about birthdays, it's just not him".

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