Cyber Sex: How To Do It

A 101 To The World Of Cyber Sex

Doing It Right:

Once you’ve found the site that best caters to your sexual needs, cyber sex could be just a few key clicks away. No matter how you’ve discovered your online sex partner for the evening — browsing profiles, joining chatrooms, finding live webcams — you still need to get the lines of communication rolling to ensure you can enjoy the type of cyber sex that satisfies your wants.

This is the time to let down your guard, toss any hesitations to the wind, and expose who you truly are sexually and what you really want. It’s also the time you can let your imagination run wild. Cyber sex is about indulging in fantasies you might not easily find or feel comfortable expressing in real life. As such, it’s important to set the stage with the type of tone, vocabulary, and fantasy encounter scenario that will really turn you on.

If you’re unsure of how to kick it off, an easy go-to is a short compliment that allows you to incorporate both of your bodies. Take one of her characteristics and describe how it makes you physically react or tease it a little and play up what it makes you want to do (preferably to her). As long as her response is flirtatious in nature, you can continue down that train of thought — compliments that intensify in descriptiveness and sexual undertones...

Keep in mind, all she knows about how you’re reacting, what you’re doing, and what you’re feeling is what you put into words. Your sole job is to paint a picture for her with the words you select, and use adjectives to incorporate all the senses. Likewise, you get to build up to and piece together your character of a the perfect sexual partner in your head. In both your mind, and your words, the more descriptive, the bigger the turn-on and the better your cyber sex will be.

Also, remember vulgarity is not a requirement by any means, and can even take away from the fantasy. Often, the hottest cyber sex exchanges are those between two people who don’t hide behind sexual slang, but rather precisely, if not graphically, describe their sexual reactions and intentions as pointedly and narratively as possible.

Like any new sexual experience, cyber sex comes with no step-by-step guidebook to teach you what to do, but regardless you will find yourself improving your skills and finding your groove after the first few times. And while living out your fantasies to perfection in the digital realm, you may even stumble upon someone with whom you want to have a real-life sexual encounter the next time around.