Think about your life with all of the beautiful possibilities. Let the idea of what you could have outshine your current reality. In other words you'll be so motivated by the potential of your future they will not allow yourself to be distracted by the reality of now. Perception is reality, you need to change what you focus on. Doing this will in fact change your reality and your life. Xanadu your mind and life means holding yourself to a higher purpose. The ideal life for you is personal. Do not let anyone else tell you. Claim and embrace it as your own. Let your mind go there every single day. Live your life like this and you'll start to see your circumstances comply.