Newlywed CommunicationBeing married, like being a parent, is one of the most rewarding relationships that you can have in life. However, while being married to your best friend can be pure bliss, learning how to communicate and keep lines of communication open throughout your relationship can be tough. Something about having the same last name takes your once perfect dating relationship to a sea of misunderstandings and disagreements. As a newlywed myself, I can relate on these difficult times that occur during the first few months and even the first few years of marriage. There are certain principles you can follow to have effective communication, listening skills that you can learn, have an understanding of non-verbal communication, and realize how self-concept, and self-disclosure, can all play a vital role in your communication within your marriage. While communication has occurred since the dawn of time, becoming an effective communicator really does take some skill and understanding of how interpersonal communication works. Understanding these concepts and skills, will help tremendously in those not so blissful points of marriage. “To become a more effective communicator, scholars would most likely agree that five specific aspects of interpersonal communication are crucial areas of focus” (Sole, 2011). These 5 skills are listening skills, people skills, emotional intelligence, appropriate skill selection, and communicating ethically. I am sure looking at this list you can pick out which of these skills you think you possess over another, but the key to interpersonal communication is honing in all of these skills and using them together and at the appropriate times. Now let us break each of these skills down and concentrate on the key concepts of each skill. Listening, this is more than just sound waves bouncing through our ear canal, to be in affective listener “requires focus and attention” (Sole, 2011). A lot of people hear without actually listening. I know that there have been many times that my husband and I were having a discussion and I could hear what he was saying, meaning I knew he was talking and I could hear the words that were coming out of his mouth, but I was not listening to what he was actually saying. Once I stopped and actually listened to what he had to say, we were able to resolve the conflict we were having. People skills, also plays a role in communication, however people skills is a collaborative use of many different skills like problem solving and appropriate self-disclosure. Emotional intelligence is probably the easiest to understand but the hardest to apply in interpersonal communication, for me at least. To be emotionally intelligent is to understand how and when to express certain emotions in given situations. For me, I am very passionate about most things in my life, and when I have an idea or thought, or even problem, I want to get it out in the open as fast as possible. When someone does not agree with me, is upset with me, or even does agree with me, you can see my emotions in my face, hear them in my voice, and can tell by my overall attitude. While in my working relationships this sometimes has posed a problem, I believe in a marriage it is very important to share your emotions with each other, and keeping in mind of the emotions of one another. In a marriage I believe to be emotionally intelligent means to have the ability to express how you feel about something to your spouse, as well as being able to relate to the emotions of your spouse. Appropriate skill selection means that you can recognize a problem in communication and then affectively solving the problem. Finally, communicating ethically, varies in meaning from person to person, as one person’s set of ethics may not be the same as another person’s, however in general to communicate ethically...

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Dear Sara and Tim,
In order to maintain a successful and fulfilling marriage, we all know it takes work from both partners. As you set out on your journey together, it is important to remember that understanding the aspects of interpersonal communication is essential to learning how to effectively communicate with one another. Sara, when you have something you want to discuss with Tim, you want him to really listen and consider your point of view, right? Also, Tim, I know you feel the same way. I would like to offer you both some advice and give you some information that can help guide you in learning how to communicate with each other to the best of your abilities.
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...﻿Interpersonal Communication Key Concepts:
Chapter 1:
Content Meaning (P.23): The content of, or denotative information in, communication. Content-level meanings are literal.
Dual perspective (P.31): The ability to understand both your own and another’s perspective, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.
Ethics (P.26): The branch of philosophy that deals with moral principles and codes of conduct. Because interpersonal communication affects people, sometimes profoundly, it always has ethical implications.
Feedback (P.16): Responses to messages. Feedback is continuous, and it may ne verbal, nonverbal, or both; it may be intentional or unintentional.
I-It Communication (P.18): Impersonal communication in which people are treated as objects or as instrumental to our purpose.
Interactive model (P.16): A model that represents communication as a feedback process, in which listeners and speakers both simultaneously send and receive messages.
Interpersonal Communication (P.19): A selective, systemic, ongoing process in which individuals interact to reflect and build personal knowledge and to create meanings
Interpersonal Communication Competence (P.30): Proficiency in communication that is interpersonally effective and appropriate. Competence includes the abilities to monitor oneself, to engage in dual perspective, to enact a range of communication...

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I will start off by demonstrating my understanding of interpersonal communication. After reading information from various sources I now understand that ‘interpersonal communication’ is made up of both spoken language (actual words spoken), paralinguistic communication (tone, pitch, speed, volume) and non-verbal communication (facial expressions, eye contact, glaze, body posture) between two or more people.
Mehrabian (1972) cited by Hargie (2011a. p.47) suggests that communication is made up of 55% body language, 38 % paralanguage and just 7% verbal content; however Guerro and Floyd (2006) cited in Peate (2012 p.159) offer a more modest statement that non- verbal communication consists of approximately 60 to 65 %.
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Karl Buckley
Course: Interpersonal Communications 120 / 4378 - 11:00- 12:15 T, ThPaper: Essay 1a
Prompt: Face to Face and Mediated relationships
Page count: 5
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Dear Tammy and Edward,
Frist of all I would like to congratulate you on your new engagement. I am truly honored for you to ask my advice on interpersonal communication for your relationship. Throughout this letter, I will cover various aspects of communication and basic principles. Hopefully this information will not only help you with your communication with one another, but with others as well. The best advice I can give you is to keep your communication with one another open, and to always explore each other’s minds.
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Finnegan (2010) cited in Robb et al (2010) argues that communication is both a human and an interactive process which embraces a range of activities and uses resources, thinking about the implications of interactions in care settings. Communication is central to the quality of services in care provision. It is a creative process, creating meanings together.
Relationships and communication in health and social care are important. There are many relationships in the health and social field for example between patient/doctor and colleagues, how we communicate with them is essential to the provision of the service given (Robb 2011a). Finnegan expands on this and shows me that communication is at the heart of health and social care.
Context considers the circumstance and condition which surround an event. In communication, the context is the meaning of a message or sentence and taking that into consideration (Komaromy 2011).
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