Can Women Be Players?

She simply stops calling If she stops calling you within the first 2 weeks of dating, it could mean that she's simply not interested, but it's also possible that she's a player, and dating someone else as you sit by the phone talking to her answering machine.

You never meet her friends She always talks about her close friends, but she never wants you to meet them. Not only does she never initiate introducing you to her friends, she literally hides from them while she's out with you. What could she possible have to hide?

She starts dating your friends When she declines your invitations you assume she lost interest, but it turns out your buddy Scott is now asking for your permission to date her after she met him at a club. Apparently, she told Scott that things with you and her "just didn't work out."

why women play

Why wouldn't there be female players out there? Women can play the innocent card; men don't expect women to turn around and take advantage of them, which is exactly why women do. It's harder for men to get away with being players, since women have been conditioned to watch out for players their entire lives. They grew up with the belief that men can be scum, and they need to watch out for the men who will use and abuse them.

But men don't watch out for female players. Women have 2 things working for them, which make their jobs as players easier than men's:

Women have a weapon that can make a man weak at the knees. It's not that men are naïve, but because it's rare for them to be approached by women, when a hot number does approach a hungry male, she can get him to take down her number and take her out (depending on his standards and whether or not he is single). This all goes back to the fact that women have men approaching them all the time, which makes it more likely that they will be apprehensive by a man who makes his way toward them.

But by being a player, a woman gains the upper hand in the dating game. She says who, she says when, she says until when, and this gives her the power to call the shots.

once a player, always a player?

Women are players for the same reasons men are. They want to have fun, and aren't interested in settling down with one person for the time being. Maybe they're scared of commitment, maybe they aren't ready for commitment, or maybe they just haven't found the right person yet.

If you are willing to take the chance of being strung along and stomped on, the only thing you can do is determine why she's a player, and then work from there. If she's waiting for the right guy to come along, then maybe she will become a one-woman man with you. But if you don't know why she's a player, or you know that it's because she's afraid of commitment, then don't take it upon yourself to change her ways.

If she's a true player, she'll make the decision easy for you, and leave you before you even have a chance to think about it.