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Idk how much more I can take!

I keep hearing that military men are hard on their kids but good god! Every single time I turn around my Husband is yelling at our 3 year old about something.and now he has started with our 1 year old.I am all for correcting kids when they are wrong but I'm starting to get anxiety over this! I can only imagian how our kids feel.IDk how much longer I can sit here and watch this!

Yes.more then enough times.he has gotten better.he used to spank their butts as soon as they were bad but now he just does that when its really called for.he still feels he is right in how he corrects.

i would speak up. not in an arguing manner or like you are trying to 'correct' or 'shame' him but in a way that lets him know that his manner of speaking could be coming out different than he thinks it is.

my husband deals with recruits all day, he comes home, he is tired and stressed and needs time to decompress. sometimes he reacts and doesnt realize how he is talking (after all, he spends 18 hours talking a certain way and then comes home and has to flip a switch and be different), it doesnt mean he is a bad dad or doesnt love our bub, just that he needs to be conscious of how he is speaking.

i wish you luck on this because its hard, discipline is important but its more important to keep it from being abusive. you are the protector of your bub in this case (or vice versa if you were the one being mean) so definitely stick up for your bub

same thing here too!!! its very irritating and gets my anxiety going bc i know if i try to stick up for my daughter me and hubby will fight and if i dont say anything to my daughter i feel like shes gonna feel ganged up on...i hate it.....but i just try to make it a point to talk to my hubby when i feel that way somtimes its works and somtimes it doesnt... :(

I know just how you feel! My 5 year old is not my current husband's son (he's from a previous marriage) and my husband thinks that yelling is the answer for everything! Not only that, he tries to use adult logic when talking to him. My kid actually went home last Christmas and told his dad that he hates his new step-dad (which of course caused problems for me). I recommend talking to him and if that doesn't work, suggest he needs to take a parenting class. If he won't, then maybe try talking to one of his NCOs to see if they can get through to him.

There is no reason to yell at your kids. It does much more harm than good. I'm sure we've all heard the saying:

Same thing here also! Sometimes he will listen to me and other times he thinks he is in all rights in correcting his way.Then he gets mad because I don't back him up.But all I can do is see the fear in my little girls face and feel sorry for her! And sometimes I'll even hug her after he yells and that makes him even more mad.

Quoting mama_of_tw0:

same thing here too!!! its very irritating and gets my anxiety going bc i know if i try to stick up for my daughter me and hubby will fight and if i dont say anything to my daughter i feel like shes gonna feel ganged up on...i hate it.....but i just try to make it a point to talk to my hubby when i feel that way somtimes its works and somtimes it doesnt... :(

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