Sex-intimacy is one aspect of marriage that people like to be silent about, but lack of it or not enough of it causes untold conflicts. Sex was created by God for married couples, so it must be done consistently, mutually and must be enjoyed!!! In this blog, we will be discussing ways to enjoy intimacy,understanding sexual differences and needs. It's vital that you get fresh ideas and motivation for keeping your marriage alive, passionate and fulfilling.

Saturday, 26 October 2013

It is fascinating to know that the
best way wives can be sexually fulfilled is when youunderstand that she constantly seek out ways
of connecting to you-husband in more than one way. You don’t reap your harvest
without sowing the seed. You can’t drive a car without filling it up with gas.
You can’t eat a meal without first prepping and cooking the food. What makes you
think you can enjoy mutually satisfying sex without first preparing and
stimulating your partner?

I never want to lay a blanket of
judgment over anyone, but—in general—this message is geared more toward
husbands. (Wives, you are not off the hook! In our earlier post we have dealt
with post how wives can love their husbands better).

Husbands, the first thing you need
to know is that your wife is a highly emotionally being who wants you sexually.
She really does! You are fully capable of fulfilling her sexual desires.
The thing is that she also wants to connect with you emotionally, mentally and
physically, which may seem like a lot of work to you. Each of these connections
lay the groundwork for what happens in the bedroom. If your wife feels
connected to you on each of these levels, your sexual relationship will become
a multi-faceted, more meaningful aspect of your marriage. It will take off like
a rocket to the sky.

Simply put: The best sex happens
long before the clothes come off. For successful play, you have to work all
day! Husbands, each day, make a goal to connect with your wife on every level.
Here are some ideas:

Spiritually: Wake up and pray together for 10 minutes
in the morning.

Physically: Before she leaves for work, pull her close
and hug her for 15 seconds.

Emotionally: Ask your wife what’s happening in her
friendships/relationships outside of your marriage. All it takes is for
you to ask. She will do most of the talking, and she’ll feel very
emotionally connected to you as she shares.

Mentally: Oftentimes, wives simply need a mental break!
Serve her by telling her to kick up her feet, and let her know that you
have dinner covered.

Each of these connections set the
tone for your sexual relationship. If your wife feels fulfilled and secure on
each of these levels, there’s no telling what kind of woman you will have on
your hands!

Bottom line: Sex is great. But sex is a million times better when
you’re connected through several channels. Wives, if you notice your husband is
making the effort to connect with you, don’t sit by idly! Let him know that you
notice his efforts, and express your deep appreciation by verbally thanking him
and returning the gesture. It will encourage him to keep the connections going!
Husbands like your validation more than they let on (but more on that later).

If your marriage has gotten to the
point where you hardly connect at all—on any level—now is the time to focus on
connecting on one level. Remember: There’s no need to overwhelm
yourself. It’s important to take life one day at a time. Shoot for the moon
and you’ll land among the stars.Therefore, connecting with your spouse on
more than one level will ignite your sexual relationship.

Do you agree that the sex is better when
you’re connected in more ways than one?

Monday, 21 October 2013

A sweet libido-booster,
although it’s 92 percent water, that remaining 8 percent of the content of the
fruit is concentrated with vital nutrients for sexual health. Beneficial
ingredients in watermelon and other fruits and vegetables are known as phytonutrients,
naturally occurring compounds that are bioactive, or able to react with the
human body to trigger healthy reactions, Patil said.Watermelon has ingredients
that deliver Viagra-like effects to the human body’s blood vessels and has the
capability of increasing libido, it contains a phytonutrient called Citrulline,
"We have known that watermelon has citrulline," says Bhimu Patil,
PHD, director of the Fruit and Vegetable Improvement Center at Texas A&M
University, College Station, this the body converts to arginine, an amino acid
that boosts nitric oxide levels in the body, which relax blood vessels in the
same way a medicine like Viagra does.

picture source-http://news.nationalgeographic.com

Some experts have called
watermelon the new Viagra. Watermelon is low in calories and provides potassium
and the phytonutrients lycopene and beta-carotene, in addition to the
citrulline. “The citrulline-arginine relationship helps heart health, the
immune system and may prove to be very helpful for those who suffer from
obesity and type 2 diabetes,” said Patil. “Arginine boosts nitric oxide, which
relaxes blood vessels, the same basic effect that Viagra has, to treat erectile
dysfunction and maybe even prevent it.”While there are many
psychological and physiological problems that can cause impotence, extra nitric
oxide could help those who need increased blood flow, which would also help
treat angina, high blood pressure and other cardiovascular problems.“Watermelon may not be as organ
specific as Viagra,” Patil said, “but it’s a great way to relax blood vessels
without any drug side-effects.”

The small details of our lives are what really matter in
marriage relationship. It is not the mansion, the cars, properties, the money
in the bank, although these things create an environment conducive for
happiness but cannot and will never give happiness in themselves, if they could
the rich men and women would have had a fantastic marriage. So find time to be
your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build
intimacy- be more concern to meet your spouse’s need than yourself- for it is
all about sacrifice and selflessness- true love.

Thursday, 17 October 2013

Sex
keeps your hormones coursing through your body actively, gives your
body a chance to relax and recharge and keeps you intimately connected
with another human being, giving you a sense of self-worth and
confidence that’s hard to match. If you cease being sexual, your
genitals begin to atrophy, you begin disconnecting from your spouse
physically, which can drive an emotional wedge between you and your
spouse and increase your feelings of loneliness. Sexual pleasure falls
into the category of “use it or lose it,” just like any physical skill.
The good news is that it’s never too late turn turn your sex life
around. Even if, as a couple, you have been moving further and further
apart, you can reclaim your sexual passion and it can get better over
time.

To maximize your sexual potential and take proper care
of your body throughout your life with good diet and exercise,
reconsider the benefits that consistent and gratifying sexual pleasure
can provide. Your sex life can get better as you age if you aren’t
holding a limiting belief that artificially stunts your desire.

In today’s article I will want to ask you question. When you have sex with your husband, do you feel like you’re doing
him a favor? Has sex become something that’s “for him”?

Many women feel that way. And not just that; they
also feel proud of themselves when they do “give him sex”. He should be
grateful!I think this is an understandable attitude, but also a
dangerous one that we should fight against.

I
have heard so many comments from women especially some corporate working wives.

My husband doesn’t know how to show me love the way
I want it. But he wants sex all the time, never considerate! But because
he doesn’t show me love, I just can’t get into it. So we rarely have sex. And
then when we do, he isn’t even THANKFUL AND APPRECIATING.But from researches, it has been verified that enjoying
sex starts from the mind-'it is all about the mind. I DO ASK WOMEN IF THEY EVER
THINK OR FANTASY ABOUT LOVE MAKING WITH THEIR SPOUSES? Much of sex is attitude
for women. When your heads-thought (mind) is in the game, your bodies usually
follow. When your mind isn’t in the game, it isn’t very much fun. If you’re
resentful of your husband, or you’re having sex just “to get him off of my
back”, then it’s unlikely to be a fun experience for you and also for him, yes
he may be physical satisfied but emotionally drained, because he is going to
know that you are not fully involved. And he’s going to feel betrayed and
cheated, not wanted. This is a time bomb, about to explode; it is just a matter
of time. God design sex in marriage to be enjoyed by both parties that is why
he created the woman from the man. Scientifically it has been proved that women
have more nerves and hormones to enjoy sex, if only they can work and
appreciate the power of the mind in love making.if we’re treating sex like it’s a reward, then we’re
withholding love from them. And that is extremely hurtful.I believe that the root of many marriage problems later
on is a disconnect when it comes to making love. Making love is not something
optional that we add to our marriages when things are good. It is something
that we should be doing consistently, regularly, throughout our marriages,
because it is part of what keeps our marriages good. And it is so very
important for husbands.If you’re married to a guy who doesn’t want sex, I know
that is so humiliating and discouraging, and I have a series of posts or
counsel on that, although something is really wrong, I believe that God created
both men and women with sex drives. We both should yearn to make love. However,
in general, men’s sex drives are more physically urgent. If their bodies don’t
get sexual release, their bodies will actually do it for them during the night
periodically. And men are much more visually stimulated than women are. They
are supposed to be aroused fairly easily, because it gives them an impetus to
really pursue women.

But if he’s the one who
wants it more, I want to encourage you to think of sex not as something that
you do for him, but as something that you do for both of you.

ØIt will bring you
closer together.

ØIt helps him feel closer to yourself.

Ø It
helps you feel more positively about him.

ØIt helps you to sleep better. It helps you
feel more invigorated about life.

ØIt keeps you happier and healthier.

It may seem difficult to get to the point where you see
sex as something beneficial for you, and not just for him. Honestly ask
yourself this question, “do I treat sex like I’m doing him a favor?” And if the
answer is yes, then examine your heart and start praying that God will help you
to see things differently–that this is something that you do for both of you,
because it helps you, too!