I just wanted to know if you were male or female, since you didnt say, and since you said your wife wants a male lover. Kinda wondered why. And wondered what the bump in the road is. Like, transitioning from swinging to poly, are you afraid of your wife falling for another guy (if you are a guy) and leaving you?

And like NYCindie said, wanted to let you know it's not etiquette here for a couple to share an account.

In other words, I just wanted a chance to get to know you better so you could gain the "knowledge" you claim to be seeking.

__________________Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley