Abusers usually start off by challenging small boundaries. (A
boundary = you saying “no” to something the other person wants.)

At
first they’ll often try to coax, cajole, tease, playfully mock, or
convince you to agree to something small that you don’t want to, or set
up a situation where you feel like it would be rude to say no, they’ll
just do things without permission and make you feel like it would be
rude to ask them to stop.

Over
time you’ll find yourself with fewer and fewer choices, and saying no
will come at higher and higher costs. At first, saying no might just be a
hassle because you have to convince them to accept it and maybe
reassure them that you do like them or things along those lines.

Then
it might reach a point where saying no starts a fight that you’d just
rather not deal with, and/or where you know your boundary will just be
ignored or you’ll be steamrolled into “changing your mind”.

Eventually
saying no just isn’t worth it because you know you’ll be punished for
hours/days/weeks and forced to give concessions to “make up for how much
you hurt them” by saying no – even if you gave in later and said yes.

This progression usually happens so gradually that it’s hard to notice, and often it’s not so much that they’re physically forcing you
to do things you don’t like as it is them making your life absolutely
miserable if they don’t get their way 100% of the time, and making you feel guilty for being bothered by that.

That’s abuse. There are some choices that should be yours and yours alone, and in a healthy relationship your boundaries are important.

They may continue challenging you on small boundaries after you’ve ended the relationship, too, if you’re not able to set up a no-contact situation, either trying to resume the relationship, maintain a degree of power and control over you, or both.

Abusers usually start off by challenging small boundaries. (A
boundary = you saying “no” to something the other person wants.)

At
first they’ll often try to coax, cajole, tease, playfully mock, or
convince you to agree to something small that you don’t want to, or set
up a situation where you feel like it would be rude to say no, they’ll
just do things without permission and make you feel like it would be
rude to ask them to stop.

Over
time you’ll find yourself with fewer and fewer choices, and saying no
will come at higher and higher costs. At first, saying no might just be a
hassle because you have to convince them to accept it and maybe
reassure them that you do like them or things along those lines.

Then
it might reach a point where saying no starts a fight that you’d just
rather not deal with, and/or where you know your boundary will just be
ignored or you’ll be steamrolled into “changing your mind”.

Eventually
saying no just isn’t worth it because you know you’ll be punished for
hours/days/weeks and forced to give concessions to “make up for how much
you hurt them” by saying no – even if you gave in later and said yes.

This progression usually happens so gradually that it’s hard to notice, and often it’s not so much that they’re physically forcing you
to do things you don’t like as it is them making your life absolutely
miserable if they don’t get their way 100% of the time, and making you feel guilty for being bothered by that.

That’s abuse. There are some choices that should be yours and yours alone, and in a healthy relationship your boundaries are important.

They may continue challenging you on small boundaries after you’ve ended the relationship, too, if you’re not able to set up a no-contact situation, either trying to resume the relationship, maintain a degree of power and control over you, or both.

What’s the matter? Was that Stormtrooper not the color you were hoping he’d be? Were the new Ghostbusters a little more female than you were expecting? Deadpools sexuality a little too questionable for ya? That’s okay! Because

so your opinion d o e s n ’ t f u c k i n g m a t t e r !

The only people complaining about Finn’s color are strawmen and/or trolls, the new Ghostbusters was a flop and it had nothing to do with the cast’s gender, and there’s absolutely no reason to make Deadpool pansexual.

so if there’s “no reason to make deadpool pansexual” what reason is there to make him hetero? aren’t there enough white straight cis males in comics? why can’t we have a white PAN cis male for god’s sake at least we’re getting SOMEWHERE

Does it add anything to the narrative, does it add anything to his character, if not then there’s no reason for it to exist. Sticking arbitrary labels on characters and turning them into mouthpieces is ill advised and bad storytelling.

WHITE IS NOT THE DEFAULT

MALE IS NOT THE DEFAULT

STRAIGHT IS NOT THE DEFAULT

CIS IS NOT THE DEFAULT

you can’t argue that a character’s race, gender, or sexuality is an unwarranted addition without also arguing that being a cishet white dude is the default.

“Being pansexual doesn’t add anything to the narrative”, he says when Deadpool’s partners and crushes frequently interact with him and how he jumps into other characters’ comics to be who he is.

Has he not SEEN Deadpool’s thirst for Spiderman or how easily turned-on by other male characters he is?

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