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Overwhelmed a Bit

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After all the excitement of finding out the gender of my baby on Thursday, I woke up the next day feeling a little bit overwhelmed. Finally everything is coming together. We know we are having a boy, we are slowly getting all the stuff we need for little Baby Adam, and we have a date set for my baby shower. Even though all this is coming together, I am getting a little scared now that everything is getting closer.

I have so many thoughts about being a mom and whether or not I will be a good mom. What if I make a mistake, or what if I do something wrong? What if I can’t handle raising a child when my husband is deployed, or what if I am just a bad mom altogether?

I know many of these thoughts are probably silly, and not really necessary, but I still think about it. Having a baby is a big step, and I now that it’s getting closer I want to make sure I am prepared as possible. I know that I probably can never be prepared enough for a baby, but at least I can try!

How about you? Are you pregnant and having similar thoughts, or did you have similar thoughts when you had your first baby?

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Okay, I'm neither pregnant or have ever had a baby. But I can understand why you'd be fretting. However, I know a lot of moms and soon-to-be moms that have gone through the same thing. I think it's normal to be a little anxious about getting closer to the birth date. But don't worry, everyone makes mistakes, and as long as God is on your side He will be sure to help you through the entire process. You won't fail with Him. 🙂

Huni everything you are feeling is completely natural. I am 23 weeks pregnant and my husband is deployed and I sometimes lie in bed thinking omg can I do this?! What if people are watching me like ermm what is she doing, thats not how you hold a baby haha… it is all very overwhelming, esp when it comes to baby shower registries and you realise HOW MUCH a baby needs but I truely beleive that a maternal aspect kicks in and everything will come naturally to us 🙂

I remember being in the car on the way to the hospital with our first — I was being induced for health reasons and it had been planned for about a week — and I thought, "Can we go back home?!?" I think it's 110% normal to have those feelings!! But you will be fine — especially because you have God on your side!! "Let go and let God" can be so cliche, but it really does help! 🙂

It will all come natural. I felt the same way. The only word of advice I can give you is to really research vaccines before you give them. It's a delicate subject, people are either on one side of the fence or the other, but my son was damaged by them and is now autistic. Our lives will never be the same and I wish someone had told me what I know now…

Im so sorry for the feeling of being overwhelmed. Its such a hard feeling to have. It is normal. I remember feeling this way as well. To answer you yes I remember think of what we would let Little Man do even at age 12. lol. Worry worry worry. Once your holding him you will know. It will just be there. It really already is. I think with our first we just have more time to worry. Oh Im also just seeing its a boy!!! So happy for you. I remember feeling even closer to my little bean after finding out the sex.

Congrats! I love that name – it's my brother's, actually! I don't have any kids yet, but my best friend is due in a couple days, and I know she's had similar thoughts and I'm sure it's all normal. I would be thinking the same thing! But I know my friend just loves her baby so much already, even in the womb, so I know she will be an amazing mom, as I'm sure you will be, too! Congrats again!

I have had two daughters and when I think back of how I felt I can remember being scared and excited at the same time. If I had to go thru it again I would definitely relax more and stop worrying. I would enjoy each day, be thankful, stay healthy, read some good books on pregnancy and just enjoy the ride. Its short lived. YES, you will be an excellent mother. Something happens at childbirth that triggers the most wonderful feelings of love that you never experienced before. When I was expecting my second child I worried that I could not love it as much as the first. Then when Lisa was born it was just as wonderful and I guess a mother's heart has a lot of room for many kids. If you husband is sent away I am sure you will have a lot of support as well and it will be very exciting when he comes back. Thank goodness for Skype nowadays. Good luck and enjoy!

Stopping by from SITS. First, congrats on your baby boy. I am a mother, a good mother. and I too was in your situation before my daughter was born. It may should cliche but it REALLY does come natural. Good luck!

I have had similar thoughts, but when I stop and really think about it I just remember that God's timing is perfect. He has everything planned to the "T." So, I know that He has it all planned out that I WILL be ready by the time my little man makes his debut. I'm actually in process of posting about this very concept. So, expect a new post on my blog later today.

Also, when I mentioned diaper-service. The way it generally works is that you are allotted so many diapers a week. Once a week the diaper service stops by your house to pick up dirty diapers and drops off clean diapers for you. They should work it out that you always have the number of diapers allotted per week. Although, after reading all the comments on your post I'm leaning a little more towards simply using cloth and occasionally using disposable. My in-laws originally mentioned it to me and my husband said that they would be offering to pay for the service (that's why I was totally on board with it); however, I think my husband may have misspoken. So I'm looking at my alternative choices right now (just in case).If you want to you could probably just google "Diaper Service near Robins AFB" or something like that to see if there are any in your area.

Yes I had those same thoughts 17(almost 18) years ago when I was pregnant with my first. It is normal. When I was pregnant the first time I was 4000 miles from home and alone-my husband was out to sea. Looking back now I really did grow up then. It taught me a lot about myself and I can do it. You are at this time I am sure getting good advice I know I did but what I want to share with you is this-not all that you hear is meant for you! Meaning if you learn to go with your gut it may be best for you/your baby and your family. Trust yourself. Babies do not come with directions tattooed to their butts. Enjoy your baby-the dishes can wait-they only stay little for so long-trust me on that my babies are 17, 15 & 13! 🙂

Oh and one last thing just breathe-it is a crazy ride but oh what a fun one. 🙂

It's perfectly normal to feel that way…just keep praying and let God lead your family…my hubby isn't Military, but he is away from home half the year or more…it's hard doing it yourself, but you get it done. I still have those days when I wonder if I'm up to all that is on my plate – whether I'll be good enough or not….then I remember that God doesn't ask whether we are good enough…and neither do my kiddos. You are going to be fine!

I went thru a couple of weeks when I was pregnant where I was TERRIFIED!! Straight out nervous, I would have nightmares! As I got closer to my due date, it slowly went away and by that time most of the nerves went away. My husband is about to deploy and I am fretting raising a two year old for a whole year by myself.. I think our motherly instincts will kick in and we will just get it done. We don't have any other choice, ya know? You will get into the groove of things pretty quick, it seriously just comes natural!

Hey. Found you through Christian Mommy Writer's page. I totally relate to what you're saying. We don't have any children yet. We aren't even pregnant yet. But we hope to be by the end of the year! Even though, I think about these type things all of the time. I think I could worry myself silly sometimes. BTW, I'm an AF wife & pretty conservative & reading is my hobby, so your blog header spoke to me the second I landed here! Blessings~~~

I totally felt the same way before Maddy was born! It is completely normal! Well, I still feel that way! Someone told me something once that kind of put everything in perspective. If Sean and I weren't ready to be parents, if I couldn't handle being a mom just yet then God would not have given me this baby. Obviously as scared as I was (and still am sometimes) God apparently knows I AM ready to be a Mom. And hey… He knows best! You will be a great mom because God knows you are ready for this boy!!