Jamie grew up an only child, with adoptive parents who were doctors and explained he had what he called a "clinical" existence. Everything, he told me one night when we met after work at the diner, was orderly, rigid and focused on academics.

He attributed his shyness to all of it - the structure, the studying, the urgency and the importance that was placed on being a good student, a straight-A student.

“So you could have gone to college?” I asked him a few days later, as we sat on swings at a nearby park.

"But then I got good at hockey,” he said, as we swayed back and forth and looked out at the ocean. “Like, really good. Everybody plays hockey in Canada, and my parents just wanted me to do something and to make friends and stay out of tr...