Friendship

A friend from Runescape has invited me out to consult on his new business that he’s looking to buy in Seattle. He’s paid for my ticket, sent me travel money, and has the hotel booked. Everything is set. I have not been away from the kids for any length of time in 6 years. I haven’t been on a vacation in 13 years. THIS IS EPIC. My friend (RICK) assures me that this is a vacation, and we’ll be doing all sorts of touristy things like a casino, a ferry ride, the space needle.

I’m really excited about it!

I’ve never met Rick but we’ve talked and been friends for a few years on Runescape. I’ve spoken to his ex-wife and she assures me that he’s kind, loyal, a great guy that she merely grew away from. He does drink, which I was aware of, but he has already let me know I’d be doing the driving while we’re there, which I’m perfectly content with.

My heart was recently – absolutely – shattered by someone I never expected to do it. One friend flat-out said “I don’t know how to help you” – another just didn’t answer the phone or texts.

Telling someone who has lost someone – that it’s for the best, or that you are better off, or – in the case of death – that they’re in a better place – causes MORE rage. It does NOT help the person who is mourning that loss. It makes them feel even more alone, isolated.

While this began as a response to a facebook post by someone who was discussing how to help someone who’s lost someone, I realized that it’s a subject too close to my own heart to merely comment on something that will soon be gone. I don’t KNOW how to comfort someone whose heart has been shattered other than reciting the same cliche’ responses other people have. NOTHING and NO ONE can make the hurt go away.