Fisting Tips for Beginners

Let me start by saying I’m not an expert on fisting. What I’ve learned about this subject is from watching videos, talking to people who do fist, and by visiting online forums. Why haven’t I tried fisting? Well, it kinda scares me, and I’ve never been with a partner who was both interested and who I would trust enough to go “all in.” Not to say I will never try it, because reading about fisting, did leave me a little curious.

If you’re a fisting virgin like me, but want to try this, here are some tips to keep in mind.

Trusting PartnerFisting isn’t a first date activity. You’re partner will need to trust you completely before she lets you in. Let her talk about her concerns as much as she needs to beforehand.

PreparationEven if your partner produces a lot of natural secretions, it’s always a good idea to have lube nearby. Trim your nails if they’re long, and take off any rings. Some experienced fisters swear by medical gloves (or a condom) for different reasons… less chance of infection and the hand is held in an easy-to-penetrate shape.

RelaxationMost of the time a tight vagina is appreciated, but with fisting you’ll want your lady to be as relaxed as possible and this includes her vaginal muscles. Things that help… a pre-fisting massage or sex with an orgasm before.

Going InSlow and steady! And don’t necessarily expect to get all the way in the first time. Again, use lube over your hand or glove, tuck your thumb in, and slowly work four fingers in. You’ll need to do a bit of turning, and rocking back and forth, with no sudden force. Always listen to your partner, how she’s feeling, breathing, and when to back off.

InsideThis can be a very loving intimate time, where you can hold your partner, gently caress, kiss, and enjoy the moment. Ask her how it feels, tell her how it feels for you. Gently flex your hand inside to stimulate circulation. Use your other hand to bring her to orgasm with clitoral stimulation. This will help her relax even more, and make it easier to get out.

Pulling OutNever just “pull out” or believe me, you will never be allowed back in. Work a finger from your outside hand in to break the suction that has likely occurred. Aside from orgasm relaxation, gently move your hand slowing slowly in order to work its way out.

Infection PreventionFisters recommend peeing right after to flush any possible bacteria out as well as drinking cranberry juice or taking cranberry capsules, both of which help prevent urinary tract infections.

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Ok … Just a few things you got terribly wrong. An orgasm will NOT make a vagina relaxed. After an orgasm, the vagina will be so tight that your hand feels like it is being crushed. It is Very difficult to remove your hand post orgasm, and it will need to be done millimeter by millimeter. Also, you mentioned using the outside hand for clitoral stimulation to orgasm. There is no need for that at all. If the woman needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm, she is probably not going to be a fan of fisting anyway. The whole beauty of fisting is the amazing G-spot orgasms that it provides. There is NOTHING better in the world!!!!

As an experienced fister, I agree with many of your tips, though some should be more detailed. I agree that using lube is a smart idea & would suggest easing fingers inside in an open hand first & forming fist inside, as forcing a fist through opening requires some serious stretching of opening that I don’t recommend. Too many women suffer through their first fisting experience & it can leave them afraid & unable to do it again unless they really build trust again. My ex-slave had been fisted by an idiot who just forced his fist in & all it did was really hurt. Even though she eventually asked me to fist her, she was unable to let my hand inside as she automatically tightened up from her bad experience the first 3 or 4 times we tried, sometimes weeks apart. Eventually, she was able to relax & let my hand in & after that it was everything she hoped it would be. It was a frequent part of our sessions & one reason she usually came for me between 30 to 40 times per 4 hour session; her best estimate as she was a little too busy to count. I slightly disagree with Sue’s comment that orgasm won’t relax a vagina as I always made my slave cum quite a few times before attempting to fist her & it always seemed to relax her. And after multiple orgasms, I never had an issue with removing my hand, though I was always gentle & in no hurry. For me, the addition of leather wrist & ankle cuffs tying her spread added to the experience, though I would agree that means a higher level of initial trust is needed. I have yet to try anal fisting though I did have an on-line sub request it, so I taught her to fist both her vagina & her ass herself. Of course it no doubt helped that her fist is considerably smaller than mine. I would definitely recommend using gloves for anal fisting though I have never used them for vaginal fisting. Have fun. Master Ken

wow!! very nice and catchy article! I have not experienced it, but I am really curious! According to the UTI (urinary tract infection), if the fister uses condom or medical gloves, she does not have to worry about any infection; or the fister can wash his hand with Iodine lotions (it is a very powerful disinfectant for wounds and it is used as a pre-surgical disinfectant for patients). I would like to ask about the resulting vaginal or anal stretches because I have heard that after many fisting sessions, the vagina is going to be stretched as there is no more pain sensation unless the fister uses his arm, nearly to the elbow, to fit the hole, is that true, and if yes, would that be considered anal destruction? Thanks

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