We have all been there, where we meet someone who, for one reason or another has rubbed us up the wrong way from the very outset, and sometimes we can’t even identify why! We refer to such an experience as a clash of personalities and when this occurs it affects both parties equally. As a professional psychic, I have often received calls from distressed clients soon after such an event, where they have been left experiencing a range of challenging and often negative emotions that can include anger, confusion, betrayal and even feelings of worthlessness after expectedly crossing swords with another, usually over something quite trivial.

From a spiritual perspective, such a clash of personalities signifies two people have come to a really important time in their lives when something within regarding themselves needs to be revealed in order for them to move forward.
So important in fact, that such a revelation can be life changing for both parties, who are obviously acting as a catalyst for each other. However, such events can only be seen for what it truly is if both people are aware of the purpose of the process itself. Most people are not, they simply view it as a clash of personalities despite the fact they are left bruised, if not shattered by the experience and go into the blame game, which achieves absolutely nothing.

Nothing unless that process itself is looked at from a different perspective, a perspective that can lead to why it was necessary for the clash to happen in the first place. A client of mine phoned after experiencing such a clash of personalities with a work colleague and had been left very unsettled by it and wanted to know what she could learn from the process. It was the first time both ladies had worked together and both during and after the experience, my client felt that her colleague had run roughshod over her and was unable to understand ask why. The more my client had dwelt on the exchange the more confused and distressed she has become, so much so she dreaded going into work the next day.

As we started the reading, Spirit advised that such an event can only be undertaken by people who were really good friends in a past life and have agreed to come into this life to highlight areas within each others personalities that may need to, shall we say ‘tweaked’ here and there. The message continued to explain that clashes could only occur when two people of opposing or contrasting personality types met and by doing so acted as catalysts for each other.

The spiritual messages continued to flow in advising that this lady had come into my client’s life as a catalyst to raise deep routed issues since she had now come to a time in her life for her to deal with.

Spirit went onto to remind my client that even though the human race is made up of unique individuals, we as individuals fall into different personality types, which were categorized by how we as individual responds to stress. Spirit then went on to reminded my client that the human race as a whole has to be fear based in order to survive, and it is how we respond to stress helps us define who we are.

As a tarot reader, I was aware of the personality types shown in the court cards. However, I was advised that for this reading the clash had been caused by the meeting of two of the four main personality types, name an A Type personality who tended to thrive on stress and a B Type, whose approach to stress was far more considered and laid back. Spirit went on to emphasis that Type A’s way of doing things was no better or worse than Type B’s and that they would both get to the same place even though they used different routes.

Spirit went on to explain that there were equal drawbacks and advantages to both personality traits and that both parties were in a position to learn from each other. The areas that had been highlighted in the clash for my client to consider was that where as the Type A’s need to act quickly mean they she could take advantage of opportunities that Type B’s slower approach would result in her loosing the opportunity. That sometimes it was both important and necessary to act without thinking to avoid problems rather than leaving it to late to avoid them. The learning curve for Type A had been that a considered approach could sometimes reveal opportunities that a speed one would miss and that acting too quickly could in fact create problems that could have been avoided.

Spirit advised that Type A personalities could come across as being combatively competitive and aggressive and due to their inability to stop and consider, they drove some people that could benefit from, away. Type B’s on the other hand, could come across as non co-operative and stubborn due to their need to their inability to act quickly, thus driving the people they needed to drove forward, away.

Spirit went on to say that the clash itself enabled parties the opportunity to stop and question their own reactions to being feeling threatened by the other. This in turn had highlighted where some of their respective weaknesses lay by exposing them as strengths in the other. If both people could view the other as a gift to each other from each other, they could become a force of nature, a force that neither was capable of creating on their own. However, it took tolerance and compromised from both parties, which could only be achieved if both parties were willing to step outside of their own personality types as and when necessary.

Spirit conceded that such a process was not easy to achieve however compared the doing so with not doing so. By doing so, the rewards would be great, whereas not to do so would result in no rewards since the automatic knee jerk reaction of “This person is impossible to work with”, would result in a loss of opportunity for both, and there would be no gain on any level.

My client had remained silent through the reading until the last sentence was uttered, at which time she said she had felt a huge weight be lifted from her shoulders as she started to recognise the contribution the lady had to offer. My client said she had recorded the session and would contact the woman and ask if she would like to listen to the reading with a view to starting again in the hope they would both be able to move forward.

A few weeks later, my client phoned and she was ecstatic, she could not belief what had happened. Apparently, both ladies had developed a technique where each would afford the other time to explain their position and why they were taking the stance that they were. As a result, the project had grown from strength to strength. Yes they were problems but both parties had been able to work through them without distressing the other because both were learning to recognise their own weaknesses whilst respecting the others strengths. As a result, on a personal level both women had been able to become more aware of who they were and how they could affect those around them for the better or worse. www.elizabethfrancis.co.uk