Doubt it, if you contracted herpes from him...you would probably know you have herpes. I would read up on herpes, like what the gestational period is until your first outbreak. I was under the assumption you normally break out within weeks of exposure. Also you can take a blood test that won’t tell you if you have it but will tell you if you’ve ever been exposed. I took that blood test after being with my ex boyfriend for a year because he had herpes. We slept together unprotected and abstained when he had an outbreak. My blood test came back negative, I’d never even been exposed to the virus and my ex bf had it and we slept together for an entire year. Don’t worry too much. It’s totally possible you never even came into contact with the virus as it’s only contagious during an outbreak. My ex knew days before an outbreak that it was coming on. He said it would get tingly and sensitive near the outbreak area.

My ex husband cheated on me in the most grotesque amount and gave me this wonderful virus. I can’t change his horrible choices or what he did to me to give it to me, but I can offer you some info. It can sit dormant before a first outbreak for a long time. Also there is medicine the dr can have you take as you get nearer your due date to make sure that if you did contract it you won’t pass it on to your baby during delivery. Don’t worry about the baby, it will be fine 🙂 just take care of you and get tested so if you did contract it you know how to take care of yourself and your partner from here on out.

without trying to get all up on your business, you need to know that Herpes is very common and is very treatable. You have herpes if you had a high fever and had bubbles form around your mouth, you can get infected from dealing with children who don’t wash their hands after using the bathroom as well as from public bathrooms that are less than stellar. Of course if your friend told you something that’s more of a confirmation than a death sentence. Please remain calm. The question is, did you sleep with your friend and then right after you found out you were pregnant from your husband? That’s a rethorical question of course but know that if you were infected let’s say months prior to your sleeping and getting pregnant from your husband, you and your baby are ok. Sometimes you don’t show any symptoms at all after getting infected but you already carry the virus and antibodies for it.

During your first blood work with your doctor they will test you for all std including herpes so will know if you already have the antibodies and what is needed from now on.

Be careful with the symptoms you’re experiencing of cold as they could mean an outbreak but again it’s treatable and better early in your pregnancy than later on.

talk to your OB about it and get tested. Surprisingly 50% of people have oral or genital herpes. Your baby should be just fine, you can take meds around your due date to prevent an outbreak if you have contracted the virus. Praise the Lord your ex even contacted you to let you know! Sending you good vibes.

I’d just request a blood test from your doctor to check. Your friend would have had to have an active outbreak at the time you guys had sex for you to be exposed. I mean I had sex with my ex for over a year and was never even exposed to the virus. And yes there are cases of dormant herpes and people being unaware they are infected but they are actually pretty rare. I looked it up too and after the initial exposure and infection, symptoms will appear in 2-12 days and last for 2-3 weeks. That’s why I think the chance that you got it is slim to none, the first outbreak is usually the worst and pretty painful from what I’ve read. Don’t worry if you have a UTI that it’s herpes, UTI is a bacterial thing. I think the blood test is your best bet and if you do have it, like others have said it’s very common and there are ways to control it. I’ve had several friends who have gotten herpes or hpv and lead very normal happy lives.

I have had it for 7 years now. I contracted it through a very disturbing situation. Since then I have dated 6 people the 6th I married. I didn’t have sex with all of them but even before any kissing happened they knew I had it. All of them were mature, asked questions if they had them and then decided it wasn’t a deal breaker. The first 5 didn’t contract it not even the ones I had sexual contact with. I was on valtrex as well. My husband felt bad that I would have to take medication for the rest of my life to ensure that I didn’t give it to him and so he told me to quit taking valtrex and whatever happens, happens. About a week later I had my 2nd outbreak ever. I will say that the first outbreak is always the worst and in the future outbreaks generally appear in the same spot so that you will know before you actually get the sores. I felt some tingling a few days before but didn’t think anything of it. I’d already exposed my husband. A week later my husband had his first outbreak. We both took valtrex for a week and neither of us have taken medicine or had another outbreak since. Outbreaks are brought on by stress so worrying will make it worse. I’m 6 weeks and I’ve already seen my OB, at 35 weeks I will start valtrex again and will plan to deliver vaginally. If for some reason I feel an outbreak despite the valtrex I will notify the doctor and they will go ahead and schedule my Cesearan for as soon as possible as to not take the risk of exposing our baby by vaginal birth. I expect to have a pleasant vaginal birth and a happy healthy baby in March!

Herpes is basically just a skin condition.. nothing to worry unless it becomes active during birth then you might need a c section. As for the bad vibes around herpes virus itself, MANY people have it and are unaware of it.. anybody whos had a cold sore has herpes. Its very common not much to worry.

Did you get your bloodwork for your first visit done yet? When my OB ordered my bloodwork they ordered a full panel including all STI's, which I think is pretty common. Don't let the herpes virus scare you, it's very common and women give birth to healthy babies all the time that have contacted it.

There is some misinformation here, so don’t get too worried. I would let your doctor know that you may have been exposed to it and request a blood test. Your doctor will give you all the facts and be able to answer any questions. I can guarantee they deal with this ALL the time. You WILL be okay and so will your baby!

Your baby's really only at risk if you have an outbreak during vaginal birth, and your doc can prescribe meds that are not harmful to baby that you can take daily as you get closer to term to ensure you don't have an outbreak.