Am I doing this right?

Hi guys! Have you been doing well? I hope so!

In my previous post, I was talking about me choosing happiness after a few months of feeling the pain of letting someone you love go. I feel much better reading your encouring words and from the bottom of my heart, I’d like to thank you all for letting me know that I did the right thing. Now, I’m back with some things to ask. I might not get any answers here but I’d be relieved to set my thoughts free.

Just when I thought I’d be living happily alone or like an old maiden or something after that experience, I thought I’d be better if I rest my heart and start loving myself again more and more; someone has come and has helped me pick up the broken pieces of my heart. I have no idea why this is happening to me. I only prayed for courage to help me get through this stop off of my journey. Is this the answer to my prayer? You might be wondering how we met. For now, I’d call him here Mr. D. As you may know, I’m a Korean language learner so don’t be surprised if I tell you that I met him on one of the language exchange sites I joined perhaps a year ago.

~FLASHBACK:

Last July, I first received an email from him telling me to contact him if I’m interested in learning the language and in return I’ll be teaching him English. At that time, I was in the middle of healing my wounded heart. So, I decided not to reply to any of those mails from those sites and delete them. Then one time I rechecked my mails, I found out a few mails not being deleted. One of those was his. Without second thoughts, I replied. I didn’t wait for any responses. I was kind of busy at work and at the same time struggling with my broken heart. To make it short, we then exchanged mails and texts. My only goal was to learn the language and in return teach him English. One day, we decided to meet on Skype and talk like we were having a lesson. We got along well on our first “free talking class” and on the next days. I thought he was kind so I didn’t bother sparing my time talking to him. Days passed and we still tried to communicate despite our busy lives. He’s been single for 3 years from a failed relationship. Yes, 3 years. Please don’t ask me why. 😀 We became Facebook friends and there he found out I was a brokenhearted woman and started reading my blog. I had nothing to hide. Day by day, night by night, we chatted until we got used to it. He would wait for me until I got home from work (I work from 3pm~12am). So he’d always stay up late just to chat with me before going to bed despite his tired body from work. Until one night (on the 14th of November) we seriously talked about our feelings. I can’t remember how we got into that topic. I was certain that I kind of like him. So we got to the point of confessing what we felt for each other. We both conceded we like each other. He even made me smile on my birthday (November 23). But before that, I got him as my best gift. You know what I mean, yeah? 😉

~FLASHBACK OVER~

Honestly, he has inspired me to put a smile not only on my face but somewhere below and within me. Hey I’m talking about my heart! 😉 Was I mean to let it happen? And oh~ I almost forgot, he even enrolled in my company to formally study English….with me? (I’m not sure..lol) I don’t know why we met at that point of time. Should I blame the stars? Where did I go wrong? I’m happy to have him. Is this right? I don’t want to be wrong. Should I fully open my heart to him now? My mind’s saying “not now” but there’s a voice inside of me saying “why not?”

Guess what? He’s coming here to meet me in 2 weeks. I really can’t believe it. Am I ready for this? I should be, right? Sigh~ I remember crying myself to sleep for nights and now I can see beautiful colors everywhere. ❤_❤

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Aw! You’re story is so cute! People would always go for someone that speaks the same language. Although, I agree that proper communication plays a great role in sustaining a relationship, I’d rather learn a new language and be with the person I love. It’s easier to find someone you’re compatible with but you don’t always feel that “spark”. You’re obviously meant for each other. 🙂 I remember a story I wrote that resembles your lovestory. I’ll share it on my blog on of these days.

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It’s a long story! He came back home to live with me in America for a while but then his visa ran out and he’s now back home in Australia. Its hard when you live on different sides of the world. I just moved to New York for school but I’m seriously questioning why I’m here and not traveling to see him again. Where there’s a will there’s a way. I know I’ll see him again. It just sucks that we can’t be together right now. Plane tickets between Australia and the states are so expensive! I’m completely heart broken.

The world works in mysterious ways. I fell in love with a guy I met traveling in India, while I was on my way to see a guy I was previously dating from back home. I was devastated when we broke up and still getting over it while I was traveling. I tried to push it away at first but then realized how stupid I was and it was like a star exploded between us.
Glad you guys are working on being together. Good luck!

Hi! Just started getting into your blog! I am learning Korean as well, but I was wondering what language exchange program you used. I’m not looking for love or anything–just someone to practice Korean and/or English and maybe become friends along the way. Thank you in advance.

Hey , Sheryl. I am so glad to hear about this. It is true that we can not be always closed after being heart broken , because, well that’s life!
I recomend a little caution , in the sense that you do not know him in person, think with your brain again , evaluate your situation , and then you can talk with your heart about it^^

I am so happy for you, I think you should wear your heart on your sleeve. It sounds like you already have feelings for him and hiding them will not hurt you any less if it doesn’t work out. I hope this does work out for you, best wishes!

I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone to walk you through your healing process. If you end up together in the end, glorious. If you don’t, you got valuable experience and a soft landing from your heartbreak free fall. I don’t see that there’s anything to be lost giving this seemingly good guy a chance. If you feel he’s worth it, go for it. My dad always said (after I’d had a massive heartbreak) that his wish for me in life is to never lose the ability to fall in love, despite the pain I was currently feeling. I pass that advice on to you now. Have fun!

I too am recovering from a broken heart. It was devastating to me. I had never truly been in love with anyone before as I was with this woman. I had plans to marry her. I am happy that you are excited and looking forward to this encounter! It’s always a great feeling meeting someone new. My advise is just to take your time, do not let your heart and emotions overcome your mind and be vigilant. Everyone shows off their true colors. So, being that you have been broken hearted before… Be careful and make the best decision you can. Learn him inside and out and let him learn you as well, if it’s meant to be it will be 🙂 I hope and pray you do find your happiness, we all deserve that which ever way we can find it.

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