Hey all, I thought I'd bring this topic up. Basically, I have a friend (Armenian) that just came out to me (and no, it's not me using "friend" to pretending to have a "friend"). Apparently, he has been "out" for a long long time in his circle, but didn't want to tell any of his Armenian friends because he was afraid we'd be judgmental/non-accepting/tell people and it would get back to his parents (he didn't tell them). He does have some gay Armo friends and there is even a group I guess in LA, something like GALAS (not sure what all the letters stand for )

Anyway, let's talk; I'll start off with some questions, but say whatever:

(1) Are we, as Armenians, less accepting of gay people among us (i.e., we accept odarner/otarner that are gay, but not "our own")?

(2) Why do we care?

(3) Do gay Armenians have the same pressure to partner with another Armenian (despite the whole kid thing being a sort non-issue)?

It's difficult to be a gay, in our society, anywhere you're living, armenian or anything else. I don't know why. they are normal persons, some of them good, clever, interesting and others bad, like heteros, where's the problem. Their sexuality doesn't matter to us, some heteros like sado-maso, scato, sex-addict, nympho or "no-sex" is it better? I start to met gays at school, I've always had good laugh and good relations with them, as with heteros, and today my boss is gay, his boyfriend works just near me, they assume, no problem, they are normal persons. living, working, eating like any human.For gay's parents, may be they're sad cause the look of the society, they won't be granparents, and... what ? I have a son, he's 12, the idea passed in my head, but what can I do, my son is my son, I love him over all, no ? same for my daughters.How old is your friend ? I think it's better for him to tell his parents, as soon as possible, it will may be hard, for them, to hear, to accept at the beginning, but your friend will FEEL FREE from his heavy secret, cause when ur parents know, after, the rest of the world you don't worry.

I do not agree with homosexuality and think it is a sin , but at the same time I do not think that it has any bearing on one's Armenianness. One can be homosexual and at the same time care just as much about his Armenian identity , etc, as other Armenians .

do we really have the right to agree or not ? people are what they are, no ? it's wot I think

Hm , you have a point , but that was not what I meant . I mean , I personally do not agree with this , but do I agree that they have a right to be who they are ? Yes , I have no right to interfere when it comes to that ... anyway , from what i understood , the post since it touches on the idea of Armenian homosexuals , we must discuss Armenians' reaction to this issue .

I know that nowadays it is a cool thing to be gay and for some it has become a rite of passage to "experiment", my post is not regarding those people. I also know that for some, homosexuality is as inherent and pressent at birth as ones Armenianness. To those who claim that people are not born gay..they choose to "be/act" gay, I would like to ask these people to meet wth two kinds of individuals: small kids who are undeniablly born different and show early signs of homosexuality and adults who were born that way and must live with the condition they were born with and cannot change who they really are or how they feel no matter how difficult their daily lives and struggles are.

I know that homosexuality is a sin in our religion and goes against everything we believe in, but tolerance and compassion should be employed when relating to this matter. We should respect nature and accept that some people are created differently. If you choose not to befriend gay people, that is your perogative, but for God's sake, they should not be hunted down and killed just because of their sexual orientation.

And to answer one of Vahan's questions, may I say that there are a lot of gay men in the Armenian community of Los Angeles. If you are a resident of West Hollywood or have the occasion to dine in this city you will come across many Armenian gay couples. Impeccably dressed, well groomed, very well mannered, succesful and courteous to their fellow human beings. I only ask why more heterosexaul men are not like them?

And question #3 reminds me of the joke in which one woman tells another that her son is marrying a man so the other woman asks if at least the other guy is Armenian. Lol.

If ur friend is 26, he's "very" adult, he's able to assume in front of everyone. He has to, for to really live his life, I wish him "good luck" ! He's not the first or the last, don't worry!I've never met armenian homosexuels, but right in my family they cannot imagine one of us to be homosexual !whatever, often homosexuals are very courteous, and they could be an example for some men, as says Em! I remember when mother, who's 81, said to my daughter in law brother's (they're italians, not armenians !!!!), the boy is homosexual, and then she told him " you know God doesn't love homosexual, change your mind and find a nice woman !!!! each night I pray for u and ur boy-friend for both of u find a good woman !" she was so persuaded ! The boy knows my mum since always, he wasn't surprised ! it was funny !

our attention ??? by being homosexual ? I don't think, he's happy, clever, good boy, nice boy he's not like Priscilla !!!! I know the family since a long long time, he's got love around him with parents (who know and accept his sexuality and his boy-friend too), my mum is like his granmother and everyone really love him, there's other way for to ask our attention, we speak and share ideas often, he's not alone and sad, why do u want him to have a problem ? he's like a young man of today and he loves a man. where's the problem ?

(1) Are we, as Armenians, less accepting of gay people among us (i.e., we accept odarner/otarner that are gay, but not "our own")?

Considering what some of the neighboring countires do to gays (ahem Iran for e.g.), I'd say Armenia is not that bad. Of course you can't compare any country in the region to San Francisco or Hollywood.

(2) Why do we care?

Because sexuality is a big part of being human. The first thing I notice about a person is whether they are male or female... gays tend to screw around with this initial perception and categorization so it's definitely something I care about (of course it depeonds on whether it's a profesional context in which case I don't really care -- or a social context in which case I would care).

(3) Do gay Armenians have the same pressure to partner with another Armenian (despite the whole kid thing being a sort non-issue)?

Haha ... I have no clue.

(4) How do you personally feel about gays/lesbians/etc.?

See #2. I don't know if I have a "feeling" in that generic sense (i.e. if you are expecting me to say I love them, hate them, or don't care, you won't get an answer like that from me. However, I do refer to them as "them" obviously

Btw , I wonder why it is that people do not talk about our centuries-old struggle to continue to exist as a nation (no reproduction ==> no continuation of our existence ) , and how being gay is therefore treason ???

Btw , I wonder why it is that people do not talk about our centuries-old struggle to continue to exist as a nation (no reproduction ==> no continuation of our existence ) , and how being gay is therefore treason ???

Interesting. I will say that there are lots of Armenian children that need to be adopted in Hayastan, but they will not allow gay couples to adopt. Also, preference is given to Armenians, but have to be a married couple and I think Armenian Apostolic. I read this all somewhere a long time ago...may have changed.

Interesting. I will say that there are lots of Armenian children that need to be adopted in Hayastan, but they will not allow gay couples to adopt. Also, preference is given to Armenians, but have to be a married couple and I think Armenian Apostolic. I read this all somewhere a long time ago...may have changed.

Thanks for the reply/clarification. I am not the one making such arguments , I was just presenting the argument that I have been hearing in my other thread about conversion , so I thought I would pose this question , as I am sure the ones who made these accusations of treason are too shy to make the same argument here.. i will try to answer your post based on what their reply/argument to this would be : well yes , there are Armenian children up for adoption , but really , these already exist and these conditions for adoption help maintain their Armenianness anyway, and we need more Armenian kids to be born ...

Because sexuality is a big part of being human. The first thing I notice about a person is whether they are male or female... gays tend to screw around with this initial perception and categorization so it's definitely something I care about (of course it depeonds on whether it's a profesional context in which case I don't really care -- or a social context in which case I would care).

I thought the first thing you noticed about people was "the fact that they tend to move very slow in buffets."

The eternal threat for heterosexual men: homosocial behavior turning into homosexual encounter. Or do you feel more threatened by lesbians? (I assume that the more male homosexuals there are out there, the less competition there will be for you; which means that lesbians should be more threatening to you than male homosexuals).

Btw , I wonder why it is that people do not talk about our centuries-old struggle to continue to exist as a nation (no reproduction ==> no continuation of our existence ) , and how being gay is therefore treason ???

Being gay is something you are born as, not something you can convert to. Perhaps the difference lies there.