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This article is the transcript of a lecture I delivered in September 2016 at the Women’s Health & Fitness Summit presented by Bellyfit™. You can listen to it as a podcast here. * It’s been said that there are three lines of ancestry: your blood lines, your milk lines and your story lines. Here is […]

Half the work of healing attachment wounds is having the courage to see our own internal dilemma, the dilemma of “I want your love/I think you’re going to hurt me so fuck off.” Especially for people whose parents were triggered by their own abandonment wounds (perhaps by having kids, because of depression or whatever), the […]

Once we start diving into the deeper end of learning about applied attachment principles, we can start to get a bit of a sinking feeling, casting our minds back to all the times we failed to be a secure presence for our loved ones, (especially with our kids). Maybe even reading that has caused a bit […]

Many of us haven’t had enough experience with secure attachment in relationships, so even though we might be clear on our attachment wounds, it’s difficult to envision, trust or embody something more ideal. I believe it’s important to have a clear model to work towards as we seek to repair our relationship wounds and earn […]

This article is for all those therapeutic and healing practitioners who want to deliver a workshop or create an online course but get overwhelmed with all of the information they want to share. You probably have so many tools, tricks, and tips to share and so much wisdom to offer that by now feels second […]

As is often the case for therapists and healing practitioners, we specialize in subject areas with which we have personal experience. We attract clients that are going through similar journeys as ourselves. So I have a cluster of clients who are in fantastic relationships, yet still come to the brink of collapse with some regularity. The […]

Today, I had a wonderful introductory call with a woman who thought she might want to do Mentoring with me. We had a very engaging get-to-know-you chat and nearing the end I invited her to ask me any questions. She asked, “Well…I guess what I’m wondering is…how do you know you can say, I am […]

This article is for all those who, by their own choice, are estranged from their mothers. I just want you to know that I understand, there’s no shame in your choice, and I’m with you. Confession: I don’t have a happy relationship with my mother. In fact, by my own doing, it’s been years since […]

Over the years, I’ve heard people give many reasons for deciding to undertake a Wilderness Quest. Personally, I can think of a million. But I guess when you’re a hammer, everything’s a nail. I think Quest is an appropriate response to pretty much every troubling situation– but there’s one very important exception. Going on a […]

It’s Monday so it’s time to write. I recently wrote about the death of a friend. Once again, it’s Monday and I’m writing about processing her death. I guess this is how we do it. Her death was so unfair that for most of the first two weeks after the news, my grief was overcome […]

Today I am grieving. Just like I did yesterday, just like I probably will tomorrow. Today, I am grieving the death of a specific someone. This specific someone was, like many people, uniquely difficult to describe because she was so outside of the norm yet somehow she appeared among us, able to blend in and […]

I want to talk to women about our role in preventing a dystopic future for our children. We must tackle the job of dismantling misogyny at the community and inter-personal scale. Misogyny affects and plays a role everything else – every other form of oppression, every other path to freedom. For that reason, our efforts […]

All my life I’ve loved hero’s journey stories. I watched Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers in The Power Of Myth when I was just ten years old, grew up dreaming of being Luke, Leia and Han, actively studied rites of passage rituals for over a decade– I devoured that narrative and loved it. But something clicked […]

I want to weigh in on the “to punch or not to punch Nazis” argument. Not because I’m some social justice expert with something new to say, but because I hate to see well-intentioned white folks claiming to be “on a spiritual path” regurgitating privileged nonsense and simplistic answers that functionally uphold white supremacy. None […]

I’ve long been interested in rites of passage rituals and ceremony. When my daughter, Mirabella, turned 10 years old, I wanted to recognize the transition from girlhood to maidenhood. I jumped in with both feet and got involved as a volunteer with G Day for Girls. G Day is a community-based rite of passage for […]