How to get your ex to like you again

Sometimes the challenges of life can make two people who
once loved each other fiercely begin to actually dislike each
other. You’re desperate to get your ex back but he or she doesn’t
seem to even like you anymore! Here’s how to bring the ‘in-like’
back to your in-love.

Let’s be honest; maybe you’ve not been at your best at every
moment (none of us are). I’ve been there myself! Maybe there
was a big blow-up – or several. Try to relax. Whatever it was
that caused your ex to pull away can probably be repaired, so
take a moment and BREATHE again.

So what can you do to make your ex ‘like’ you again?

Think about your relationship when it began, and how you
two were together. What did you like about each other? (I’m
not talking about love – liking your partner is more crucial
to long term happiness.)

What went wrong? Do you need to sincerely apologize for something?

If you can now mend that rift -- as well as be the very best
you can be -- chances are you can remember how to be that person
he or she liked – and loved – so much when you were together.

You probably didn’t nag, whine, demand, re-open old wounds,
criticize or express disappointment with his or her achievements.
So don’t do it now. Move forward with understanding and consideration
and be the person your ex liked and loved.

Don’t overdo it though. Don’t be overly attentive. Don’t
be a push over. That will just make your ex wonder what’s going
on and maybe even lose respect for you. (Caveat: guys can be
more attentive in general than gals and get away with it.)

There is something called allowing.

This means rather than
track him or her down, whine and plead and put the pressure
on, you give enough easy, fun space to allow your ex to begin
remembering those things he or she found so appealing when you
were happily together. Then your ex will have the space to decide
to come back.

It also helps if you work on yourself a little so you’re
an even better ‘catch’ once your ex is opening up to you again.
Be that vivacious, strong, sexy, optimistic ‘you’ that your
ex loved so much. Remember you can’t force someone to love you
again but you can lure them back by being the ‘you’ they fell
in love with to begin with.

It’s tough; I know. I’ve been there. If you play your cards
right though, it won’t be long before your ex is calling you
up and desperate to give it another try.