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Week gone by – Learnings

The last post I did was a week ago, I have never been like this not to post anything especially with the wonderful ideas of Wordless Wednesday and Thursday challenge, you at least get Two post a week , But it did not work out for me for this week… I got a lot of posts in my draft, I have opened them to see if I can finish them off but not that lucky somehow after a few days the chain of thought disappears .. Ah well 😦

Week gone by has been interesting a few ups and downs .. Learnt a good lesson one being that Money is not everything and people who are rich and posh do have a clip on their shoulders and no matter what they say the I am superior or the arrogance factor does come into one with money.

This is what happened well this is my side of the story so I may be wrong , I had a wedding to attend on sunday, The family are rich VERY RICH had about 1200+ people invited , though the hall booked was not big enough , soon the AC gave way and we were sweating.

I was sitting on a table with a couple of my friends one kid when two families came and sat with us , the ladies about 4 of them well well dressed , I would not need to ROB a BANK to be rich could have just robbed them for they had enough gold on them to make me rich… At one stage the thought did come to my mind to follow the ladies and somehow get my hands on those jewelled necklaces AH LA Amitabh bachan style trying to steal the necklace off the princess whatever movie that was ..

They were talking fine all was going well till the FOOD came, now what had happened was there was a kid sitting on one chair who was having something in the plate , he went away to some other table , Now this Ladies Kid came late and sat on the same seat .. (YOU WITH ME READERS 🙂 )… but the plate was dirty … so the starters came we were having them and enjoying but this poor kid was waiting for a new plate to come ..

So many guests.. not many to serve, the coming of the new plate was taking its time …

Anyway the Non-Veg starters finished the kid could not have any, So I got up and went to the kitchen to get him a plate, got him that .. Now we needed food, So one of my friends called a waiter and asked him to get us another tray , about 10 minutes later a tray came over, I got the tray and handed over to the kid to put as much as he wants which he did.. the lady I am assuming his mum or grand mum.. took the tray and put it next to her , after the kid had his fill I got up to pick the trey 🙂 Well this is when this lady looked at me , Caught hold of the Tray and Says “Eh Saade Lai hai”.. (This is for US)

I was shocked WHAT.. you might be thinking what am i saying but i did not expect her to behave like that you are sitting on a table where we all share the food, I mean it’s just food can always ask them to get more , I mean in indian wedding food and drink is never short and in our culture you generally get to eat as much as you want ..

Maybe I am wrong but i did feel a bit awkward, WON’T YOU PEOPLE 🙂

What made me smile was when she and the kid could not eat any more she looks at me and says I can have it , I said no thank you 🙂 One of my friends was helping with the serving, He brought us fresh and steaming food again, So I asked the woman here she can have more .. 🙂 don’t know if i did right or wrong but I did feel this is not the right way to behave especially when you are sitting on a big table and all are sharing food.. Tell me if I am wrong ?

I also felt that if the Lady was so worried about the kid , why could she not share her Plate with him, I mean does it matter her son or grandson , I mean I am sure all you mom’s there would not mind in giving your plate to the little kid or even sharing the same plate. She was busy enjoying the food all the time without giving a piece to the kid.

So one might have money but one can’t buy manners with that money 🙂 ..

That was that.. The rest of the week was very busy with lot of work and things happening , there was the Take That concert in Birmingham so had a lot of work with that..

Thankfully its Friday today .. Weekend is here and I am going to LONDONNnnnnnnnnnnnnnn 🙂 till monday night , It is work but but but evenings and nights is with my cousins so for a change all 5 of us will be together for 2 nights in london .. so cheers to that …

Thank you to many who have emailed asking If i was alive and why I did not post although it was only a week Thank you , yes thank you for your love everyone , I am alive I am sure everyone will know when I am no more 🙂

Have a great Weekend Everyone .. smile have fun and eat a lottttt I would say drink too cause that’s whats going to happen this side and this time hopefully no one will want to eat the whole tray 🙂

Errr…I am sure the lady was not related…if she was the mom and she was like me..well I love my food, but I share it with my child..and if she was the grandmom, no she definitely cant be the grandmom..because grandmothers NEVER eat without giving their grandchildren food 🙂

and why were you wrong…didnt you get up to feed that kid…bah! to that lady

and you enjoy the weekend with your cousins and have loads of fun okie?

PS you couldnt figure out whether the lady was mum or grandmum..wow! in my case, I am sure with the kind of white hair I am sprouting..people are going to ask R if I am her grandmom in the next 5 years 🙂

No she was , I think she was the grand mother, cause the kid was a about 9-10 and the lady seemed in high 50’s .. if not then they were from the same family ..
I love my food but even then i share with anyone … haanji baah to the lady 🙂 thank you

Yes plan to have some fun tooo along with work … lets see he he he he Oh cum on i ma sure thats not the case I bet they will be asking R who is the lovely lady with you 🙂

I have seen parents gobbling up food like anything n saying that the kid does not eat what to do…they just do not ask the kid or just ignore that the kid might need something else..and with strangers we have the right to be rude and selfish . Isn’t it?

Ok CHADD ta 🙂 had a gala time this weekend , how will it be when 6 cousins meet after ages and that too all in same age group and then more friends turn up.. the neighbours had a bad night I can tell you that much 🙂

ATe a lot and did drink too.. but we were all at home did not go out so all is welll

… as with that mom – i have to say i actually haven’t seen or known any mom like that. Even at weddings … they (moms) make sure her child is happy – the occassion when they get irritate is when the children spoil their clothes with food … btw nice exprience u had 😉

Thank you so much, your friend is so very right. Me either i have not seen a mother like that ..
yes you are right they make sure kids have first .. I guess this one did not get food often at home so was making the most of it.

auron de galan chadho….i liked that u went into the kitchen to get the boy a plate…awwww…tussi sach mein hero-shero ho:-)
and there was a Take That concert-wow, tussi “lucky” hero bhi ho
weekend break pe bhi ja rahe ho…have fun:-)

Gosh! This lady really sounds like she needs lessons of etiquette! Good thing you asked her if she wants some fresh food when the server came with fresh food.
On a side note, even though the wedding was big, looks like they havent really planned well.

Terrible manners, sometimes I wish we could just tell them that right then. And I doubt if she was the child’s mother or grandmother – normally families ensure that children are eating before they start eating…

Ya such people do exist; but such moms existing – hearing it for the first time. Yup you did the right thing. Its ok now and then to give a fitting reply to people who doesnot know how to be polite to someone who had helped.

Have a great outing Bikram Ji!!And ya drinks and food within limit and now you got to be sure of making the right limit as well. 🙂 a fantastic weekend to you.

Pretty ill mannered, and really not sharing with the kid. I would happily go hungry and give all my food to my sons anyday. Besides, who actually says no I can’t give you this food. In India, we still offer water and food to anyone. You are right, money can’t buy class and etiquette along with love :). I was only quoting the Beatles song!

YEs so she was. I know most women would, EXACTLY who says no and that too when its been given for sharing and not for alone and also when I was the one who actually ordered more for them and got them the plate .. and also knowing that no way can they eat it all .

U said u don’t know about compassion right (in my last post) but aren’t you one of the most compassionate fellow around 😉
Its the era of the selfish, Mann. Whatever you did was right, forget what she did. We can check our conduct, as for others, let them go to hell

I know but being compassionate has not got me anything good so trying desperately to know the ways of the world… 🙂
as you said era of selfishness and each ot there own. YEah I did let her go to hell I aint stopping her from going there 🙂

Very rightly said Bikram!
Not very proud to say…but this is how we’re. Its a pity that education and riches don’t necessarily make people well mannered, rather it increases their rude and nuisance quotient. And I’m afraid, this is more true in the Indian context.
Anyhow…you have a great time 🙂

This was interestng,but not surprising.At the hospital where I work,we have get together and I haave found some of my doctor colleagues eating as much in a rush,and then stacking on to extra plates to take home.reason is simple,it is free!
Bikram I had some difficulties to post on this blog.

..very nice…this is the best this is the best thing to see in weddings and parties..
Table manners,eating habits and “FUKRAPAN” lol
I enjoy a lot and my hubby keeps staring at me and smiling …”jab isharon mein hamaari baat hotih hai”
I love indian punjabi weddings ..kinda so colourful in every way…
last party I went,this guy waz totally drunk he couldn’t handle the serving spoon ,instead of goin into the tray it was goin here and there:)
it waz fun watching this!
ha haa haaa..
hope you have fun ,and keep in touch with another wonderful post.

Thank you Harman.. I was waiting for that work FUKRAPAN offcourse thats all it is ..
and i like that Isharon waali baat ahmm ahmm ahmmm 🙂 he he he he

I love going ot weddings too but to the ones where i know people and family then I can do what i want to and enjoy … I have never got drunk at a wedding .. well cant afford to Got to drive back home so drink only that is allowed ..

lol, okay Bikram would do, actually there was a very nice reader from Punjab he used to address me as madam jee, n it sounded so sweet of him u know, n i felt the ppl from Punjab the Sikhs specially are sweet, so i just acquired this formalistic attitude from them 🙂

Welcome to this blog, thank you for vvisting please do keep coming .. Sorry you had to scroll 🙂
yes we meet unusual people .. the wedding was fine its the people on my table who were not and the kid was same he did not say thank you .. he was too busy eating but then he was jsut a kid 10-11 years old i dont mind that, he picked it from his elders 🙂