Well I was a late bloomer, and in 6-8th grade all the guys were much bigger then me. After 9th grade I got much bigger then them but damage was done. I felt weak and pathetic all the time then.

Also I was abused a lot as a kid, emotionally, physically, and sexually. Not something I usually talk about. Every woman I have been with has told me Im large.

My stats would say Im in the top 2-3 pct for length or more, 25pct in girth, So I guess that makes me hung? I know this intellecually. When I see myself I think Im small, But when I see myself on camera, I look huge to me, bigger then a lot of porn I see. Making movies turns me on for this reason, I feel bigger and better.

AM I MAKING ANY SENSE?

If Im with a woman and I know shes been with man bigger then me, I feel weak. But at same time I really want her to be honest.
I know women say size does not matter, but at same time being told Im biggest turns me on so much. And if shes lying well it hurts bad later when I found out.

I know a lot of guys have this problem, maybe a little discussion about would help us all?

I get a lot of guys messaging me telling me to show them more of my big fat cock. But it makes me angry, its mostly guys, gays Ive notices will say anything, the are uninhibited. Granted as a straight man I do this alot with women I dont think are the sexiest there is, but will tell them things like it.

Hud is right. I can feel you in pain (and I don't mean to be cliche about it) but your issues would be much more effectively dealt with in one-on-one therapy than in trying to work them out through your relationships, on cam or in feedback here.Seriously, you've been dealt a bad hand and you need to work it out.

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Christ, guys. No wonder shrinks make so much money. People have a slight insecurity and their friends call it a "complex" and refer them to a Psychiatrist on six figures who'll prescribe him Zoloft and shove him out the door.

I mean, do you guys know what the S stands for in the site name? It's about issues related to having (or not having) a large penis. Someone actually makes a thread about issues relating to their penis and they get shot down, when circle-jerk show off threads get replies in the hundreds. Pathetic.

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I doubt you have a complex other than what most men have. You don't have to look too far on these forums - the 7" guys often act like they're 5", the 8" think they're "a bit above average", and the guys who are a bit below the average are convinced their penis won't even touch a girl's vaginal wall.

It's hard to get a visceral impression of your size because straight guys rarely see "average" cocks. I've never seen another man's erect penis clearly enough to do any comparative work. These forums don't help either, with guys digging rulers in to their crotches and using depth perception tricks to squeeze out an extra half an inch or so. I think the gay fellas are more comfortable because they've actually seen the full distribution of cocks that exist, so they realise just how big yours is "in the real world". The forum also decieves you in to thinking cock means everything. Your cock is a fraction of what you can offer in bed, and a tiny fraction of what you can offer in a relationship.

I also think many of your issues may also be embroiled in your breakup, which tends to bubble things to the surface. Ask yourself how persistently this has been an issue; pick random points in time and try and recall if it was bothering you. It can seem like a "complex" in hindsight, but really, it may just be a short-term and very normal reaction to a set of unusual events. Perhaps put this issue on the backburner until the rest is sorted out.

As for what to do? Sort out your relationship, and then get back in to dating and fucking. You'll probably find out you're big, and fuck, even if you don't - if you have half a brain, a tongue, and can stand the smell of seafood, you have everything necessary to be a very satisfying lover.

dude, your hot, have a big dick and probably can get any girl you want, skip the therapy, fuck it out, that means have lots of sex and get over it, you hot and no need to worry about penis size, now about the abuse, therapy might me the thing

The psychological help the OP needs goes beyond the scope of this site or indeed any anonymous help over the internet.

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With all due respect that is total bollocks. This is a SUPPORT site.

EnTaro that is a brilliant post.

YoungHungMachine, I have had similar issues to you. People have started to call me out as some kind of whack job on here, and moan about even normal topics I post. But hell you know what? It has helped me posting on here.

My ex fiancee cheated on me, but you know what? The guy was hung like a flea. He was just a dirt bag that liked eating pussy and asshole when at that time I'd rather eat a bag of shit than go near her. BUT after my split it left me with some issues. Those issues were, exactly like you, HONESTY issues.

My current partner is awesome. BUT I have asked her about previous lovers endowments, and she has said every text book line out there to me. But you know why? Because she really likes me and she knows a cock is a man's ego in a lot of cases. I was asking questions on here worrying about 2 of her exes that I think are bigger than me but she said weren't. I realise now the issue wasn't there size, it was the honesty involved. For some reason I wanted her to be honest about a subject that there is no need for her to be honest on - because it simply doesn't matter! The proof of that is that I have almost certainly been informed that 1 was slightly longer and I don't care.

What is in the past is in the past. You have to live in the now and the future. You can't change your cock, but you can make the most of it and all your other skills. The girl in your post sounds like my ex, and I would recommend you move on. When you realise there are girls you will love more than her, and when you become happy being single and enjoying a life like that - you will find true love. And when you find that your cock size will not matter in the big picture, and yet she will love you for having a good deal more than average. Like the icing on the perfect cake.

What the site calls itself is meaningless. Severe childhood abuse, and the resultant psychological issues, are hardly something that random internet posts from people named "Mr. Cumalot" can really help with.

If he's serious about sorting out his psyche, he'll see a licensed shrink, not a web site where a bunch of weirdos type lies about their dick size.

I kind of felt the same way about the size issue several times in my life.Now i am in the position to be aware about how big my cock is and how important this is in a good healthy relationship.
Lookin at your cock through a camera lens or a tv screen shows you how the others see it and if that makes you feel better start believing in yourself.Deep down you know you have a great cock.And i bet you know how to please a woman...
Having been with many women in my life,among other things i learned is that a man with a cock around the "averege" size can give great pleasure to a female but a good cock alone can not do the job.I love going down and eat pussy and ass for hours,kiss and lick from head to toes,make whatever comes and feels right to me and my partner to the point that i am always asked to enter their pussy and offer them a great orgasm.
You have to be passionate,creative,playfull and show that your partner is the most important person in your life at that moment.
So no need to worry my friend,you are not alone in this.Many men feel this way,but not so many are willing to talk so open about it.You can see for yourself that a ruler will show you precise what you have,but this does not always qualify you as a good lover.

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If he has issues related to childhood abuse, he can consult a Psychologist regarding that if it is a particular problem for him. It's up to him to judge if that's an issue for him or not, however. I generally don't tell people to see shrinks up front because that's a way of saying "you have a lot of very serious problems": It's really something someone should decide for themselves.

Focusing purely on the problem of a lack of confidence in his size (which is the main subject matter of the thread), he certainly does not need to see a psychologist for that issue.

More importantly, support and advice are valuable to anyone in times of distress.

Fucking it out is only a temporary fix. You haven't dealt with the anger and the things that trigger your anger.

As a gay man, it angers me when a straight man comes down on me because I am gay, so I can understand your anger about unwanted comments. However, being here is a choice. This is where the professional help comes in. It will help you understand your triggers and deal with the people who cross your boundaries.

Oprah was very candid about her sexual abuse as a child and stated that a lot of things that had nothing to do with sex were like salt in the wound for her. She got help and this allowed her to be who she is today - good or bad if you are judging.

It's not like the man was asking for a diagnosis, just a little discussion, but everyone jumps at him and says pay for a shrink. Some people did the same shit on one of my posts about simple anxiety.

I feel ya man, as men we always want to be bigger and better then our lovers previous. That's how we are, we have to be the best. But a saying has helped me put this into perspective. Someone will always be bigger, better, richer, taller, etc. than you. The girl I was sleeping was honest with me and told me her ex was thicker than, but I was longer and I was much bigger than one other, but she said that it didn't even matter that he was thicker because I used it like 100x better and actually made her cum all the time.

So I mean you really just gotta put the complex into perspective, if possible

I believe that originally the s in lpsg was kind of a joke. This site was kind of started on the idea that guys with large penises really don't need support - an ironic joke. That being said, there are some threads where people really do seek support and some give it. Some of us smaller trolls come here because we try to see if the larger endowed can have any empathy for us. The small penis support group site sometimes seems kind of pathetic.

For those of us who are "small" or small/average, it is both cathartic and painful to see someone like you in pain. On the one hand, we can relate because we have really felt the humiliation - not so much from women, but more from society and actually other guys. We guys are always measuring ourselves against each other. On the other hand, we wonder if you have the ability to be empathetic towards those of us who actually have a smaller than average penis. My heart breaks for the guys who say they are suicidal because they only have a 3 inch erect penis or something. No one can know what that feels like except them. No matter how much someone says it doesn't matter - it does. So when guys on this site complain that their 8 inch thick penis isn't big enough or because they were a late bloomer or whatever, it just seems kind of trite. But yet we understand, we really do.

There aren't any easy answers. I really feel for the guys who are really small. I feel for the one's like me who are on the small side of average. I even feel people like you who are actually big but had some issues when they were younger. I also now feel for the bigger guys that were also made fun of. Of course, they get the last laugh so I don't feel as sorry for them as the smaller guys.

I wish that Mother Nature had blessed us all with a 7 inch, thick penis. But I guess that it is all part of the whole evolutionary world we live in to have variety. Like many things in life, penis size is a metapor for our whole experience on this weird little planet.