MGTOW is a Cult

I can sort of sympathize with some people who identify as MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way). After all, at least when you’re looking at far-left liberal women, there isn’t anything really worth wanting to be around, so making an individual decision to avoid the radical feminist idiots is pretty easy to understand.

But damn, there are a lot of people who go far beyond making their own decisions to advocating that all men everywhere adopt the female-free lifestyle and if you happen to be married, or happen to want to get married, they’ll rain down holy hell on your head because you’re not swilling their particular flavor of Koolaid.

This is really where some people, not all by any means, but a painfully large percentage of the MGTOW movement become cultic in their behavior. It stops being an individual choice and starts being an action plan. But of course, this is why I’m not a joiner and really don’t get people who are. I don’t sign on to any group ideology. Even if I didn’t want to get married, I would never join a group of people who likewise didn’t want to get married. It would be my choice and my choice alone and I wouldn’t have to embrace a cult identity to get it.

This is a problem with the Child-Free movement as well, which a post over at Atheist Revolution recently reminded me. Not for everyone, of course, but I have had more than my fair share of people who are adamantly child free and think everyone else should be too. Too bad for you. You don’t get to impose your emotional nonsense onto the world, just because you don’t like it.

I probably wouldn’t say if there was ever a rational reason they give, but it’s always emotional. Women suck! Kids suck! No, you suck! You have unrealistic expectations of the world. Grow up and knock it off. Come back when you have a rational, intellectual argument to evaluate. I’ll look at your claims and see if they meet logical muster. But if all you can do is scream “I hate da wimminz!” and “I hate da kidz!” then fuck you. You hate them because you are intellectually and emotionally a child. And that’s not something you, or anyone else, should be proud of.

If my goal was to convince you to be childfree (or avoid women), you are absolutely right that I'd need solid rational arguments to do so. If I had none, all I'd be doing is demanding that you adopt my preferences. The thing is, I have no interest in persuading anyone else to be childfree. I am childfree because it is right for me, but I'd certainly never disparage anyone for making a different choice. Most people will make a difference choice. I recognize that I am an outlier here, and I'm perfectly okay with that. I'm not very familiar with the MGTOW stuff, but I'd have to assume that it is similar in that this choice probably makes sense for some men. I haven't encountered any of them trying to convince others to make the same choice they have, but I agree that they'd need decent arguments if that was their aim.

If you treat it as an individual choice, you won't bother going around trying to convince anyone else to do it as well. What difference does it make? You made a decision and you are entitled to do so. But so many MGTOWs out there, and this is a big thing over on Minds I notice, they don't just want to make their own decisions, they want to push others to make the same decisions. Isn't that exactly what religious evangelism does? Do what I want you to do because I want you to do it. It's cultish behavior.