Do Men Forgive your Past if....You Were considered a Smut

PSA: to #FirstLadies everywhere, its time we place the notion that woman can behave like guys to rest. In a recent #mainconference with my fellow co-workers, men expect their woman to have a virgin like image. In the 70s,woman were burning their bras fighting for the right to be free and express themselves as sexual beings. This revolution has taken an ugly turn for the worst and has become extremly troublesome. In today’s culture sexual freedom has manifested into promiscuous and slutty behavior that has trickled down into our teenage girls. Many woman find it acceptable to sleep around and be downright tacky in the manner they choose to behave. Some of #womanNation are convinced that men are comfortable with knowing that their woman use to sleep around. In this week conference I asked #manNation: Do you believe A SMUT can be turned into a house wife???

With the numbers increasing of the woman that live the casual life style, I started wondering if I was missing out again. I had to pause, because I wanted to know what exactly do men think about this. Men are okay with a woman that sleeps around, especially if there one of the lucky men. A completely different conversation occurred when I asked if she would be someone they would settle down with. These men made faces that had me laughing out loud for minutes. They made it 100% clear that these aren’t even woman they would kiss. I was under the impression that a SMUT was a female that slept with numerous men. They explained that a female could be considered a SMUT with the type of sexual occurrence that took place. For example my co-worker has a homeboy that while in the club he would whip out his penis and have a female of his choosing, rub on it and tell her she’s going home with him. Since his boys knows him and are aware of his moves, they will automatically label her a SMUT. This left me speechless, basically one fun crazy night could land you in a category no real #FirstLady wants.

Once they clarified their definition of a SMUT, I had to know did they believe in a reformed SMUT. They all agreed that there's no such thing as a reformed SMUT. Their main concern was their image and other guys would know their woman was a “Bust it Baby”. The city of Boston is so small that it’s really hard to avoid the possibility of multiple guys you may had relations with in the same club. I grew up with a boy best friend in a small town, and I was always aware of how easy it would be to catch a bad reputation. A #FirstLadies understands that her image is very important to her man. In Beyonce’s song “Upgrade U” she says he should be able to take you to the meeting to compliment the deal. I mean you on his arm is suppose to make other men envious not laugh at him. Ladies men will act like your reputation is not a problem but they will ultimately be crossing you off their list as a potential wife.

My advice for #womanNation is to keep your numbers low and spread out your male friends. I mean it seems like it is easier to comeback from being know as anything else other than a SMUT. By no means am I saying don't get yours ladies, but I am saying be tactful in how you are getting yours. Respect is a necessity in relationships and ladies must be aware there actions can harm present and future relationships, I know females that man are either in jail or away, and sometime its an off and on again relationship. With that said the #FirstLadies I know don’t mess with their man’s friends or men in there town. This ensures that their man's pride is intact. Her children will never be around different men knowing their parents are together, because she respects her man. A man should never have to worry that his #FirstLady, is a household name with other men. If other men can’t imagine you as the #FirstLady of there dreams, understand #womanNation your man is losing. Never will I be the reason my man is being laughed at. I like to think of myself as Mrs.Untouchable, by being selective on the men I allow to touch me. Usually I try to relate to woman in my post…. but I know nothing about being a SMUT.Get it together #womanNation.