Category Archives: Inner critic

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools […]

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, will be available in just a couple weeks! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, […]

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools work […]

Perfectionists often believe that the only way they are going to motivate themselves to keep succeeding at a high rate is to be hard on themselves. I can’t tell you how many perfectionists tell me that they secretly believe — they know — that if they stopped being cruel slave-drivers towards themselves they would instantly […]

As I make my final preparations for my perfectionism workshop this Saturday I have been noticing my inner perfectionist voice getting louder and louder, growing from a whisper to a shout…the workshop isn’t good enough…you don’t know what you’re talking about…everyone’s going to laugh at you…you should probably cancel and make this better before putting […]

It’s January 22. By now, 30 percent of New Year’s resolutions have been “broken.” I put broken in quotes because slip-ups, mistakes, moments of overindulgence or forgetfulness do not mean your goal is now broken and you have to give up or start over. Setbacks or bumps do not mark the end of the road, […]

Are you making pledges or promises to yourself this year? How did it go last year? There are a lot of tips out there for how to keep your resolutions, but I am more interested in what happens when you don’t achieve your goal….or when you have a setback, make a mistake, slip up. Do […]

Here’s how it works. You have a big and important thing coming up… maybe it’s a project due at work, maybe an event you’re hosting, whatever. So you worry, you stress, you over-prepare, you criticize yourself for not working hard enough and not being good enough. And then…you succeed, usually knock it out of the […]

If you’ve ever been a boss, a coach, a parent, a teacher, or in any position where you are trying to get someone else to do something, you’ve likely given some thought to motivation. How did you encourage your employees (or students or kids) to try their hardest, do their best work, push them to […]