To be a queer black polyamorous female-bodied person is an offense to all that is right with the world. To be one with a high sex drive, who writes erotic stories, who sometimes goes by a man’s name is quite dangerous indeed. To be a black woman with her own …

I kept telling myself it didn’t matter. I kept reminding myself that not every white person was out to get me. I told myself it was okay that people of other races didn’t want to date me. I told myself I didn’t need to worry about black people rejecting me …

Whenever we hear about compersion it’s in a romantic poly context. It’s a feeling of joy that one partner gets when one of their partners is happy, usually because they’ve met someone new. To romantic poly folks compersion is held up as the opposite of jealousy. It’s something to strive …

While people have long been polyamorous and non-monogamous in a multitude of ways, the actual comprehensive gathering and dissemination of information, resources, and guides is far from complete. People newly starting out have a few decent choices to select from. There are a few big names out there but they’ve …

Oh dear. Oh my! It’s every guy’s worst nightmare. The ultimate sign of total failure. Everything you never wanted. All that is evil and unholy in the dating world. It is the ever dreaded friendzone. It’s to be avoided like the plague. It’s been the subject of countless jokes in …

This past weekend the US supposedly celebrated our independence. Yet in many ways we are still not independent of one another. There are several groups still deriding, ignoring, and trying to change one another. Poly vs swinging. Bisexual vs pansexual. Non-monogamous vs lgbt. Solo poly vs coupledom. Black vs white. …

For three days now, I’ve been coasting on adrenalin. My heart rate is up, my endorphins are spiking and my energy is at an all time high. Last night I barely slept. And it started when he said, I think I might have met someone. We’re in an open relationship. …

Everyone seems to have suffered at some point in their lives. Buddhism is dedicated to teaching people how to suffer less. It talks a lot about detachment yet this can lead the status quo remaining unchallenged. Yet it’s not so much that we need to detach from everything so much …

Tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor. They could be your neighbours, friends, your postman. They might live their lives without drama, or publicity. Above all, they don’t call themselves polyamorous. And yet, they are. As an polyamory activist, I’ve found that having a word to define my unconventional relationships helped in the beginning. …

I know that there have been several people mentioning they’ve always been poly but most often the stories being told are the ones about a couple deciding to try poly or open up. The vast majority of the advice out there is still centered on people who are part of …

They’re still going round, these articles about how monogamy ain’t natural and quite frankly, I’m sick of them being used as a justification for open relationships and polyamory. Natural is one of those things that doesn’t seem to me to hold any superiority whatsoever. The human race has got where …

Unlike many poly folk, I never transitioned into being poly. I’d always liked or loved more than one person. It never made sense to me to arbitrarily limit affection, love, and time into one person. The idea of expecting one person to be everything you wanted and needed was strange …

Up front and honest. Heard and understood. Let’s both (all) be right. No either-or thinking. Surface vs. Substance. No expectations. Humanity (individuality) first. No defaults. In all things, my values came (and still come) first. I didn’t grow up with stability or honesty or respect. More often than not I …

It’s 2015. The bleed between high culture and popular culture grows ever more blurry, opinion and news is diffused via social media as opposed to authorised broadcasting channels, and for better or worse, bloggers and you tubers alike hold just as much sway as news anchors and politicians. The UN …

Oh Captain, yes Captain sir, yes please sir, YESSS! Lia is a half Japanese, half Jewish-American, poly queer girl. “I’ve got the Jewish guilt and Japanese shame,” she told us the first time we met for lunch, a few weeks before we invited her to be our date for a …

“I know a couple who are polyamorous whose entire relationship is based on the principle ‘if I didn’t see it, it’s not my problem’,” retorted a friend as I heatedly debated the ethics around lying by omission with her. Well, as heatedly as you can on a Facebook comment thread. …

This one’s a doozy. What in the hell is rape play, why would anyone want to do it (especially if they’ve been raped), and how can it possibly lead to healing? I definitely can’t speak for everyone. I can simply share my own experience with it. It actually starts decades …

He was 25. She was 27. Natural causes. Two people, so young. And those two words dancing around my head, taunting me. There was no warning. They hadn’t been deathly sick. Their only shared link was myself. I loved them both. I’d imagined them being in my life until death, …

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