— Taking the time simply to notice what we notice about others is one of the methods identified in Chapter 1 for getting to know ourselves better

— In Chapter 4, a structured approach for identifying what we admire in others is one of the ways suggested for finding out what matters most to us, and what it will take for us to have lived a worthwhile life

— Chapter 5 contains a tool for using what we admire in others to clarify what our Values are