(Closed) Question about destination +1s

I have a question about extending +1s to destination guests. We are of course extending a “+ guest” to any single adults/friends who would otherwise be traveling to our destination wedding alone, but what about single young adults whose entire family will be attending? For example, I am inviting the parents of one of my bridesmaids as well as her 26 year old sister. I don’t have a close relationship with her sister but we are extending the invitation so as to make it so the entire family can take a trip together to our desintaion. Does the rule still stand that we need to extend the +1 to her since she’s a single adult? As it stands, her invitation is already sort of an extension, so giving an extension to an extension and you can see how the guest list would get out of hand. This is the case with 2 other families we are inviting as whole groups, so I’m trying to figure out the proper protocol

As her parents will be there I guess you can get away with it cause it’s not like she’s alone tho 26 isn’t exactly young adult, it’s more just regular adul. if i was invited to your wedding but not my SO with whom I’ve been living for two years, I’d probably politely decline the invitation.

julies1949: I’m not talking about giving my bridesmaid a plus one, I’m asking about her sister, who is invited to the wedding because she’ll be joining her family to our destination and it feels rather rude to expect her to just hang out for a night while the rest of her family attends my wedding. As is stands she is single but the wedding isn’t for over a year so anything could change

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mandabride00: She is currently single, not sure if that will be the case in little over a year when our wedding takes place

No, you definitely don’t need to give her sister a +1 and she shouldn’t expect it (unless she has a very serious boyfriend/girlfriend, then it might be a little more grey). In my opinion, a big part of determining plus ones is the guest’s comfort level and familiarity with other guests, which is why it’s nice to give them to single friends who would otherwise be traveling alone. But if parents and/or siblings will be there and the guest is single? Not expected or necessary.

i would give her a +1, just in case she does get into a serious relationship within the next year. here’s my thinking: if she’s still single next year (or in a not-so-serious/casual/new relationship), chances are she’s not going to bring a guest anyway since it’s a destination wedding – she’s not going to go away for a weekend, to attend a wedding of all things, with some rando. to top it off, her entire family is going to be there, which kinda puts a LOT of pressure (vacation+wedding+family) on a new/not serious relationship. add to that fact that because her family will be there, there’s not pressure for her to bring a date just so she’s not alone….and I think it all turns out to be highly unlikely she takes you up on that +1. BUT, just in case she DOES wind up with a very significant other in the next year, by giving her a +1 now, you’re covered.

real question here though is, why are sending out invites a year in advance? Save-The-Date Cards don’t get addressed as “as guest” – just the formal invites do, and those typically go out within a couple of months of the wedding, not a year out. so really you have a lot of time to see where her dating life goes before making the call….

I woudl give her a +1. She is still using her vacation time and spending her vacation money to go to your wedding (if she accepts the invite) because she’s an adult, not a dependent child, and she should be able to choose a traveling companion, like an adult, not be lumped in with her family like a dependent child would be.

Any adult should be receiving their own invitation. The people who escort your adult guests to your wedding, are themselves adults — and they will be your guests: etiquette does not recognize the category of ‘guest-in-law’ — so they too should be receiving their own invitations.

The way to do this, is to contact the people who will otherwise be travelling alone, and say “I realize you may not want to travel alone. Is there someone you wish me to invite, so that they can travel with you? I’ll need their proper name and title and mailing address.” This is the only way that formal etiquette can be satisfied while still offering people “a plus-one”. It also solves the problem of having guests compare invitations and discover that they didn’t “get a plus-one” when someone else did. Since nobody “gets a plus-one”, there’s no inequality to cause complaint.