Get Laid Online 101: Don’t Start With The Usual Sex Message

There is something that we can’t stress enough when it comes to online dating and it feels like it’s been said a million times, yet the message just isn’t getting through no matter how hard we try. If you’re trying to get the attention of a woman online then the last thing that you’re going to want to do is open up with something sexual. Even on a site for extramarital affairs where people are presumably looking for sexual experiences outside of their marriages, you’re not going to want to start this way.

You may think that if you have your profile up on the site and some things filled out that you’re good to go. You may also think that having a picture up there means that you can say whatever you’d like. The truth is very different for that and if you’re really hungry for sex, you need to stop and take a look at what you’re doing. Remember that jumping right to sex really isn’t acceptable unless it says on the member’s profile that that’s what they want to do. Otherwise, you’re just a virtual stranger who is going around and harassing other strangers by saying incredibly sexual things right from the beginning.

On the internet, many people can convince themselves that this is acceptable and let their minds speak without a filter. This is never advised though. If you’re thinking about whether or not something is acceptable to say, try to put yourself in a different situation. Take yourself off the internet and pretend that you’re in the subway or a club. Would you go up to someone that you wanted to have an extramarital affair with and say something incredibly lewd before you even knew their name or if they’re even interested?

Of course, you wouldn’t. Most people wouldn’t do this either.

The internet changes the way that we interact with people simply because there are so few repercussions to bad behavior. There is no obvious slap on the wrist for going around to potential affair partners and saying things that they would find offensive. Instead, you’re going to find that you’re not really getting all that much interest. If you’re going to go around and say really sexual things from the beginning, then you would have to be a golden gift from the gods and the perfect “type” of every woman you talk to.

Otherwise you’re going to find that the other people on the site are going to block you or not respond to your messages. There are plenty to choose from, especially on a larger dating website like AshleyMadison.com, so you want to make sure that you’re not shooting yourself in the foot. We always espouse confidence, but you need to be realistic about that. The most confident person in the world is still going to come off as a little bit creepy if the conversation starts with something deeply sexual.

Keep in mind that we’re not saying you can’t compliment a person’s appearance or say that you find them attractive. That’s fine. It’s when you cross over into describing explicit sex acts that things get a little bit weird for the person you’re talking to.