A toothpaste cap is such a small thing; truly unimportant. So how did they get to the brink of divorce? Because the cap is like Dr. Who’s TARDIS: bigger on the inside. It doesn’t merely hold the toothpaste in the tube. It holds the entire battleground of two intimates sharing a home.

When you were growing up, did anyone ever say the equivalent of “man up” to you? There are many varieties of the message, but they all come down to one basic message. That message is often given in the negative: “Don’t be a ______.” What word came to mind when you mentally filled [...]

Fights in an intimate relationship are inevitable. Some experts would even say that fights are necessary in a marriage. After all, if you never fight, then you are most likely not getting to the deeper core issues in your lives.

It is so rare that I find a great male voice, speaking about the topics we cover at Smart Relationships. It’s not that men don’t have beautiful and important views and ideas about life, intimacy, emotion, and relationships. They very much do! Unfortunately, so few men are choosing to write about this topic. [...]

Sometimes all of this can feel overwhelming, right? When you look at what you have to do to be a healthy, integrated human being, you will most likely feel like you don’t want to start in the first place. After all, it is much easier to stay unhealthy. That existence may not be [...]

Do you remember when the two of you were so in love, you were a little scared you might disappear? Did you ever feel like you wanted to press into the life of that person more and more, eliminating even the most infinitesimal space between you?

One of the best ways to get feedback from your spouse about how the relationship is going is to ask him or her directly. That can feel scary though, especially if you imagine asking a global question like, “Do you have any issues you’d like to discuss?”