Incel dating tip: Make women hate themselves by asking them out

Guys who define themselves as “involuntarily celibate” spend rather a lot of their time trying to figure out how to make women as miserable as they are.

And so you find incels regularly advising their celibate colleagues to pointedly ignore all the attractive women in their vicinity. “If u even ACKNOWLEDGE femoids in public ur a bluepilled cuck,” one commenter on Incels.me recently declared. “Dont give them even the slightest validation, ignore them like nature intended us to.”

Most of his fellow incels agreed. “Yup,” wrote one. “Hurts their ego if nobody looks at them.”

“Giving females attention only benefits them, and not you, so I don’t see why you should,” another agreed.

But one commenter had what he thought was a better idea: Don’t ignore these women. Ask them out! They won’t say yes, obviously. but they might start to worry that they’re as ugly as you are!

Btw I was told on another forum by a self-proclaimed MRA that society only pushes men into making accomplishments, like men has to do stuff to be deemed valuable, whereas women are rewarded for merely existing (i.e., being beautiful, which he thinks all women are, and also are without effort). This guy though is a little interesting as MRA:s go because he can actually listen to feminist arguments and be like “hm, I guess you have a point”, so seems like he’s learning, but still… It’s so weird that someone would actually think that. That women don’t have to accomplish anything, it’s enough for us to just exist.

Also, I have massive job anxiety right now so that comment was really well timed…

The really annoying thing about Feministguy is that there’s a portion of what he’s saying that’s true and reasonable. People don’t have to have sex or romance to live worthwhile lives, men don’t have to gauge their worth by their sexual conquests. Heck, I’d say those should be shouldn’ts. The amount and type of sex someone has has entirely no relation to the quality of a person they are.

He just mixes it with some reprehensible garbage and is completely unwilling to engage with anything that might confront that. Call X a boundary? Well, unless X is sex-related he’ll bulldoze right over it ’cause he don’t care. Tell him repeatedly that his reasoning places blame squarely on women? His only reply is “nuh-uh” and repetition.

Everything he reads is re-contextualized to fit his campaign. Like, even his first comment in this thread. This one:

What a state they are

1- It isnt ever going to work- why they bother with dating is beyond me

2- Trying to use a womans insecurity to get a date is immoral. Its not okay. Its manipulative.

This article isn’t about incels trying to get dates. It’s about an incel trying to find (creative/stupid) ways to insult women. But feministguy simply has to reframe everything he sees into the framework of “it is impossible for ugly people to get dates, and all incels are ugly.” So he misinterprets the story to wedge it in there, reducing the awfulness of their behaviour by half and repainting it as desperate dues doing something bad for dates (though, notably, engaging in a behaviour that society is a-o-k with).

It’s true that their behaviour isn’t okay, and it is manipulative. But with the feministguy position, it’s also morally grey, because turnabout is fair play. In the argument he’s been trumpeting, incels don’t date because women are superficial; incels can (and do) think that, and feel that everything they do is fair because, again. Turnabout is fair play.

You can say “I respect women” until you’re blue in the face, feministguy, but when you ignore what we say, tell us our self-evaluations are wrong, call us superficial and shallow, and give cover to the violent incels you claim to oppose? Shouting into the wind.

Sorry for the scattered argument, brain is a bit too fuzzy to edit this morning. You gettin’ it raw.

I googled and found an article with these pics, but that article said the drawings are mainly used to illustrate “Hollywood reconstructions”, where artists draw an animal based on the skeleton alone, not really bothering to add muscles, fat etc. It’s not really how real scientists work.

Thank you for backing my trolldar too. Upon his first comment, I immediately knew he was a sockpuppet. I dont know which one, but his comments in the beginning were almost verbatim of our other sad sack of shit incel.

@peeps

Almost every thread turns into the feministguy show. And on those threads he intentionally ignores our suggestions, criticisms and BOUNDARIES. Every new thread he comments in he acts like he didn’t shit all over the floor the day before.

If many, especially women, commenters are telling him to go away and he ignores our boundaries then yes, it feels like rapey* behavior. He has been given many chances, more than his last sockpuppet incarnation. He knows what he’s doing and he doesn’t want to stop.

He is a snake in the grass. He is not here to learn. The ghandi thread shows his true colors, he has been trying to not get banned ever since.

I know I’m acting like a dog with a bone but if I see a wolf in sheeps clothing I want to relentlessly call it out, especially since he demands copious amounts of emotional labor from us (see: ghandi thread). I am fucking tired of men that demand our attention to soothe their fee fees. And in this trump world, I have fucking had it.

I emailed david for a ban, but if anybody else would like to email david with more succinct reasons for banhammer please do.

*I am not calling him a rapist nor a rape apologist, but i would not want to be alone with him if this is how he acts irl.

There’s a good BBC documentary where they tried to get the best reconstruction of what a T-Rex would have actually looked like. They obviously couldn’t pin it down to a definitive look because there’s quite a few variables; but they showed the various more likely ones. My fave is where it looks like a frikkin huge scary magpie.

Also, the late Peter Lorre’s definitely on my “if I had a time machine” list. That man could have read pages from a catalogue of gardening tools and made it sound creepy, poignant and hilariously charming, all at once.

someone on Twitter said jack black had dead eyes! I can’t understand it – his eyes are so alive. I also think if he is in a serious film I would like to watch it. I liked king Kong – but seems many people think it is quite bad.🤷

Re virginity historically only being important for women – I just recalled Sir Thomas Malory’s ”le morte d’Arthur” which is from the 15th century. Sir Galahad is the purest of the knights because a) he doesn’t like killing people, not even bad guys, and b) he’s a virgin.
Sir Percivald is the second purest, and a virgin too. Number three on the purity list is Sir Bors, who’s middle-aged but still only had sex once.

Did you ever watch Dourif on Deadwood? His character was about as far away from Wormtongue as could be. I got into writing fanfic years ago mainly because I shipped Doc (Brad Dourif) and Jewel (Geri Jewell), and nobody else was writing them.

I honestly don’t have many crushes I can share about folks I’ve seen. Most of my crushes are fictional people I’ve read about, and their appearance is not merely secondary to why I like them but wholly irrelevant.

I don’t see why they need to “give up on dating”. As I already made clear, I think if incels want to date they should act on that and ask people out. If they don’t want to date, fine. But I don’t want to hear about how they have no choice, because it’s bollocks. There are men out there with actual physical deformities who are in happy relationships. Men without dicks. Men who are paralysed from the waist down.

It’s insulting, the way incels carry on. “No” is just a word. The world doesn’t end. Yes, you’re right, you can have a good life without sex or dating, but I don’t think any incels doing that would be posting here.

I can’t help noticing you’re talking directly to me, which I guess is cause no-one else is talking to you. I don’t post often, but I read all the threads. 😉

There are MGTOWs out there who think men convert to homosexuality to avoid women because women are so terrible these days. Perhaps some incels think that men convert to axexuality because women are too horrible to date them, therefore asexual men must be a natural fit for incel?

Pretty much all you need to know about the manosphere is that women are terrible. Everything bad, including bad male behavior is women’s fault. Everything good, men get all the credit for. All logical inconsistencies in their “philosophies” make sense if you keep that in mind.

Shadowplay – Oops! I do remember that now. I guess your cookie must have been ruined by others who tried to explain why what he was doing (or rather the way he was doing it) was still sexist. I can’t disagree that it’s at least a start, though.

Anyway, he kept bringing it up and so it looked to me like he still wanted all the cookies, so I’m not unhappy that he got the banhammer.

If it actually were possible for people to convert to homo- or asexuality, wouldn’t that, plus the horrors of patriarchy, have long since brought about human extinction in a “lesbopocalypse” that zeroed out birthrates? Seems like strong evidence against all supposed “conversion therapies” and arguments that it’s a “lifestyle choice” … though, of course, even if nonhetero sexual orientations were a choice, given they would be choices that didn’t harm others, why should those choices be any skin off anyone else’s nose?

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