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I don't know what to do about baby's father we work together and he wants nothing to do with baby

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I am due Dec 10th and the father is my ex best friend who I currently work with and have for 7 years. I have 1 son now and has 3 sons his youngest just turned 2 and he has full custody because the mother died during birth. We have been seeing each other since me met on and off and he knew I wasn't on birth control but wanted me to abort when he found out i was pregnant. We haven't talked outside of work since I was 10 weeks bec of the fight we had. We get along great at work but never talk about the baby. Im afraid if I confront him the confrontation will be unhealthy for my unborn son I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO im going crazy

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your right and i that's why i have givin him his space but the fact we work together in close corners makes it so much harder. Im scared once I have my son and bring him to work to visit that the dad will see him and just walk past him like he isnt even there and I wont be able to handle that, because he knows he is the father and tells everybody he knows the baby is his but he wants nothing to do with it still. Why is it that he loves his other 3 kids and is a great dad to them but wants nothing to do with mine? I think that's what bothers me so much.

There isn't much you can do in a case like this, if a man doesn't want to be a part of the child's life he doesn't have to regardless of if its the right or wrong thing for him to be doing. If i was you i would tell him that he is the father, that you are willing to do a DNA test if he would like, and you are going to file for child support once the baby is born, leave it at that. If you pressure him to be apart of the babies life if could backfire on you, men like most people don't like to be told what to do or pressured into things.

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