It seems unfair doesnt it ? I am thinking its an instinctual or an ancient anthropological dilemma, where the male of some species wanted lots of adoring fans and they were expected to lavish all their attention on us.

On average, most men are domestically clueless. However, I do not happen to be one of those average people. So, I do not think you know accurately. I cook, clean, do laundry and other home things. My place is never, and I repeat never, dirty to the point of disgusting.

My aunt used to be a neat freak to the point that everything in her place was clean. She was a smoker to boot. When she was done with a cigarette, she would wash out the ash, until she was going to use it again. That's a bit too much.

However, I clean daily, to ensure my home is suitable enough to have visitors.

doing laundry and dishes is boring and mundane even demeaning if its left entirely up to the woman and the guys a slob.

Some guys would rather have a woman cook because they just may be better at it and cooking takes some skill , especially if is tasty.

But no , guys arent domestic challenged , some guys do more some do less or none .

On the other hand in some relationships , the guy goes out and changes the flat , digs up the sewer line , disposes of something that died in the attic or garage ,and these things are boring and mundane even demeaning but we do appreciate every dish you wash or every shirt ya iron .

I really love a well-rounded man. One who can clean the kitchen and then change the flat. I am a well-rounded woman after all...I can clean the kitchen and then go change the flat. I can dispose of all that needs disposing...and appreciate all that should be kept.

I feel compelled to answer, Katie.Yes, with the exception of me and a few others. We are used to be domestic because we are SINGLE, capable, and never did mind changing poopy diapers, taking my turn getting up in the middle of the night with children, making meals, doing laundry and scrubbing toilets that were marked territorially by every child within a walking mile of my house, and raising a family.

That is the third time ive heard a man talk about being afraid of zombies today...what is with that? I have a bat under my bead for rapists, my brother has one under his bed at his place for zombies. I dont get it!

@ Cags -- Hey there! That's a definite one as I've discovered. Truth is, it's the same for us girls.

@ Phoenix -- NO! Dislike men with shrill voices! Geesh, rather enjoy the macho thing, but why not just admit that the big tattooed guy in the alley is scary instead of "I'll beat the crap out of him" reply?

@ oscillationatend -- Being protective, doting and coddling is very different than being macho. Lighting her cig is thoughtful... chilvarous, which is highly desirable by most of us girls (definitely me)

@ Phoenix -- yes, a buckies is good. I'm not into the dominatrix thing....

@ Phoenix -- NO! Dislike men with shrill voices! Geesh, rather enjoy the macho thing, but why not just admit that the big tattooed guy in the alley is scary instead of "I'll beat the crap out of him" reply?

Cuz we possibly could be truly scared and truly thinking about finding a big stick to equalize the situation and "at least defending ourselves by "beating the crap outa him if we have to lol"

probably sorta "working ourselves up " in case we actually gotta do it .

Not all of its a perception.

Kinda like laughing stupidly at an awkward or inappropriate place or time .

Beth, I can vouch for him...chivalrous...yes that's osci. He must sleep by the door to protect me in case anyone breaks in (not very likely, but still I love him for the thought!) Never, ever, ever believe that chivalry is dead! You just need to find the right man.

Chilvary is greatly appreciated and doesn't happen too often. I respect a man more if he takes the risk to be chilvarous rather than not. Poo poo on those who don't appreciate it. You're one of the lucky ones K@ri!

?Why do some of you just disappear when you lose interest in someone you've been seeing? Just blow it off, like 'Never mind?' And I don't mean a casual relationship....a pretty steady one, you know, say a few weeks or months. So why disappear...? Why not be a real man and just speak up and say, "Hey, It's not working for me, ok?" Or.."Look, I think I wanna go a different direction here...."

Reason I ask is cause it happened to me several times in the single life & it always left me with a poor opinion of the guy who did the casual 'oh, never mind' game. A really angry poor opinion.......Just tell a woman its over, all right!!!!?/?

Yes, Caggy....a part of the anger issues. I like to chew em' up & spit em' out to release the Firecracker Woman within. My hubby never gets the anger brunt, though. He's the nice guy.....I just carry the residual.

You gotta be kidding here, too, right? It hurt ten times more to get blown off with no explanation than if the dude woulda told me straight to my face," Look chick, I'm not into you anymore." At least I woulda had some sort of ending to it all.

I guess you are right. Sometimes some of the guys just aren't worth it.

By the way, I've been married for a long time....this pertains to way back when......still irks me some.

I even talked to my husband about it the other night. He never did it to me!!! He just said, "Hmmmm, I don't think I did that to anyone, but there were a few I ran from!" Hahahahah! He's one of the good ones, for sure. I'm lucky.

It would be real easy just to have bad luck and find every bad apple . And then some get lucky and find someone right off an are happy for 50 years . Sounds like you found a couple of weak ones but it also sounds like it made you able to recognize a good one and keep him. He sounds honest

Sorry had to afk .These questions/types are definitely mine field questions. I can personally see myself say honestly 'I don't want talk about this " and clam up. Just a no win situation for either party .Anything you say could hurt, but probably say something like obviously it didn't work " but I'm glad I'm with you now or something and mean it.

The answer is 'of course not, I'm with you - why would I think of anyone else' or something like that.

no claming up allowed; that'll just get you into trouble. and then change the subject quick! like...'hey, look at ......" or 'let's go...'

I've been asked this question too - it's not fair. But the reaction/response is important! I don't know if more women ask it than men or both do. I think they are feeling insecure when the question is posed - so it's best to make them feel secure I guess.

LOL!

Later...thanks again..it's been fun! And yes, I've been giving you the minefield questions...and there are more!

Oh hell yes. Massive point!!!!!!Oh my ex would become so abusive if I ever dared lay hands on them even though it was my tv.If a guy is restricted from channel surfing, oh boy, it is not a happy man.Not all men of course.

Keep mouth shut , stare at the ground, be very uncomfortable , give the deer in the headlights look . Let her know that you respect her by being honest but no way do you want her to be hurt by uttering a word especially if she thinks you would be lying.

Its a no win whatever you do , if the lady is considered a knockout by comparison , you are in trouble for a couple days no matter what ya say or do imo

of course it's a landmine...but I don't think being quiet is the answer.

I think a good answer is 'of course not, you're the prettier one'

or if she's the knockout you refer to 'yea, she's quite beautiful but.....so are you and you are smart and wonderful to be with...I bet she can't even count to ten!" or something like that - you gotta find a flaw and if you can't, make it up! but be quick....no staring at the ground allowed! and then sweep her up into your arms and plant a nice long one on her lips! How's that? sound better? LOL

Guy question: Why do guys think that because one girl treats him one way that all girls with treat them that way, and thus brace themselves for it? Expecting any minute for the girl to do something to remind him of the the others. It's like getting punished for something someone else did.

My first thought is that we have the macho image and if we showed feelings for someone and they burned us it hurts us a little more. Women are expected to have feelings but we have to go out on a limb. IDK still thinking..

Okay, so here's the scenario-you're walking down the beach alone and see a woman coming toward you in a bikini. That's all you can see until you both keep coming closer, closer. Her shape is fabulous, her skin bronzed by the sun, her hair belongs on the head of an angel.

STOP

Do you look at her eyes or her bosom first?

Honest, now, and don't give the part where you say "I had to see her chest before her eyes."

Hmm personally I think I would be checking to see if she is making eye contact, so I guess eyes. But yes probably be checking her figure out too. The more revealing the bikini would make a difference too.

I don't know about you guys, but Bob caught some commercial some time ago and if I ask a question such as this: 'Bob - so what do you think - does this skirt make my butt look too big' - I get the classic Bob 1 word answer now 'you betcha'. That means stop asking me for an opinion because I cannot win. It fits right up there with the line from the other commercial 'do these jeans make my butt look big?' and the guy says 'I don't think it's the jeans'. I think I'd rather hear 'you betcha'.

Like he says though - why do we do that? There is honest to God no right answer! If he says 'no' I come back with 'are you SURE?' because I already know for myself and I'm wanting to blame HIM.

If he says 'yes' - well it's basically all over! What kind of a jerk would say my butt is too big to my face?

Or in the middle - if he says 'no' and he's looking the other way - then I go off about how he didn't even LOOK so what's up with that?

I apologize for all women on this terribly difficult question and I have no reason why we keep doing it. I think there should be rehab for those of us who have to keep asking our mates to help dress us.

After all these years, I put on what I think is gonna make it and walk boldly out of the bedroom. I'm always pleased when I hear a compliment - if I don't, I just slap him and then we go on!

...LOL! no apology needed...yea why bother asking? you probably won't get the answer you want. Phoenix answered a few different ways when this thread was first started....his brain was working overtime...I could picture the steam coming out of his ears as he was trying to come up with a good answer or ways to ignore it!

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