We broke up, now I'm pregnant

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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Femalemy boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. i've been devastated since because i want him back so bad. haven't slept or eaten. i've been feeling nauseous too and been urinating more frequently. i thought it was just psychosomatic manifestations of the pain i was going through. and then i got suspicious... maybe i'm pregnant. i took a home pregnancy test and it turned out positive. i went to a doctor for a second opinion. she says i'm positive. but she also told me that i was having what she considered a "high-risk" pregnancy because i'm not healthy and my poor medical record. she think i might lose it and has already warned me not to panic if i do miscarry.

i have two problems now that i can see: the pregnancy and wanting my boyfriend back. i think that telling him i'm pregnant will get him back for sure. but i don't want him to stay with me because he's guilty and wants to make things "right". on the other hand, if i hold telling him i'm pregnant and do other things (like write him a letter or call him to talk) to get him back, the anxiety might make lose the baby. i don't know how he'll take it if i lose the baby.

i feel alone and scared. i really want my boyfriend back. worrying about it might make me miscarry. what should i do?

User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Femaletell him

we'll i think you should tell him. not because you want him back but because of the baby. rememberr that a baby will not bring a man back to you. it will not hurt for you to tell him you want him back . you never know ya'll might feel the same way. we'll i am 3 months and we broke up when i was 2 months. i did not know i was pregnant until 3 weeks ago. i was and i am still missing him so the only reaon i told him was because i thought that would make him come back no. do not do anything to hurt your delf or that baby. so if this is going to make up lose the baby then maybe you should have someone you trust tell him while you are there.