My Maid/Matron of Honor has stepped down via text message because she thinks shes letting me down and she is very sensitive when I asked her about getting her dress. She takes everything I say as a personal attach! My Bridesmaid or Best Man is not being very supportive either, when I told her about this she just asked me how I worded my text. Maid/Matron of Honor thought telling her I couldn’t go to appointment she scheduled to try on dress because it was during my work hours was rude! I think its rude she waited until now to get the dress. Its not even the one we all picked out together. They waited to long and cant get that one, now its 2 months before the wedding and they are looking for a different one. Isn’t that the one thing that your Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man can do to help? I was in two of her weddings, so I just think this is so terrible and heart breaking my Boyfriend or Best Friend of 15 yrs can do this to me. I think its going to end our friendship. I don’t think I’ll ask her back in my wedding, but its heartbreaking she wont be there. At the same time I don’t want to walk on eggshells all the way before my wedding. Help please! Has any one been in a similar situation? What would you do???

@Kristin2012: I don’t have any experience with this sort of thing so I can’t offer any advice, but I have dealt with “oversensitive” people (especially when it comes to one way communication like texts and emails) and I know how frustrated you must feel. I hope everything works out for you!

@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: Thanks, yes its very frustrating, especially when I always try calling first but resort to texting only when there is something that is important… thanks for your support, hopefully I will get this into perspective soon, right now it just feels like my world is falling apart and its all I can think about.

Neither my Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man have their dresses. I personally bought them both one and shipped them (from GAP, they could have done it themselves, but…) and one didnt like and one didnt fit. Bridesmaid or Best Man bought two (didn’t really match, and a little too risque)..my wedding is in 27 days…………………………………………

@MississippiQueen: That was very nice of you to buy their dresses and even ship it. They could at least try to help you find one that they are comfortable in! Sounds like they are being difficult, I can relate. At least they haven’t backed out on you yet! lol

I think you really need to sit down with her and talk face-to-face. So much of our communication is done by text and email and facebook these days that we lose a lot of the personal connections, plus we don’t always write or read things in the spirit that they are really meant. I’d definitely cool off a bit before getting together, and plan/rehearse what you want to say and how you want to say it because it’s probably going to be an emotional conversation. And I’d leave the other bridesmaid completely out of it. This is between you and the MoH, not between you, the MoH and the BM; bringing a third person into the situation only increases the drama and potentially makes the MoH feel ganged up on.

I’m not saying you should kick her out of the wedding party nor am I saying you should beg her and plead with her to be your MoH; just saying that it is possible to have her in or out of your bridal party and still maintain the friendship, and her place in the wedding party shouldn’t determine the future of your friendship, and that really some conversations are best held in person.

Im going through this also. Get another Maid/Matron of Honor. You do not need this added stress. If ya’ll have been friends for 15yrs it should not be a question to do this for you. It’s so crazy how females change during the wedding process. You think they would be happy for you, but they eventually show their true colors. I dumped my Maid/Matron of Honor.

It depends on what level your friend is being flaky. If you get the impression she doesn’t want to be in the wedding, ASK her what’s up. Maybe she feels like she can’t afford to participate. Or maybe she’s just coming off as flaky to you because she has other things going on. I felt that some of my BMs were flaky, but they just had other things that were more important going on than talking about my wedding.