March 30, 2010

Said Sandra Bullock, accepting her Oscar, after fighting alongside her husband Jesse James to win full custody of his 6-year-old daughter, Sunny. There are 2 other James kids — Chandler, 15, and Jesse Jr., 12 — who have had Bullock as a mom. Moms take care of the babies and the children no matter where they come from... but what is she supposed to do now that her husband has betrayed her? Stay together for his children? Or are they her children now? She has dropped plans to adopt them. Presumably, James's children will go back to their real mothers, now that James is consorting with that tattooed, Nazi-arm-band-wearing stripper.

Kids should never be dropped by someone who was at any time a caring adult in their lives...ever. But I guess these stay in their dad's custody and tough it out, as kids often do. I'm certain Bullock will keep the lines of communication open, as she seems to be quite a decent woman. On a side note -- maaan...and I really liked Jesse after his stint on "The Apprentice" last year. He seemed so even-keel and reliable. I'm sure those tattoos are looking a little over the top now, though. Blah.

I don't think you can really lay the decision to stop seeking to adopt the children on Bullock. For all we know, she'd be perfectly happy to keep raising all of them. But the law gives her about zero rights to any of his kids, so it would be a waste of time, and undoubtedly counter-productive, to continue her efforts in that regard.

Besides which, the fact that James is an unfaithful jerk does not necessarily imply that he is a bad father in a more general sense.

She could keep her plans to adopt the children while still married to him. Then, at divorce proceeding time, those are her children legally every bit as much as they are his children and she could fight for them and could possibly win full custody or visitation, or whatever. Or she could be saddled with minimal visitation and madatory child support. It's a crap-shoot.

As for why women succomb to bad boys...it's similar to New P*ssy Syndrome.

Although Ms. Bullock is not my idea of gorgeous, she's certainly no eyesore and has a thriving movie career as America's sweetheart. As I finally had a look at the "other woman", my reaction was "HER????". The guy needs some glasses or a brain adjustment - bad.

Ann seems to be saying she views Ms. Bullock as some sort of hypocrite, "'Moms take care of the babies and the children no matter where they come from...' but what is she supposed to do now that her husband has betrayed her? Stay together for his children? Or are they her children now? She has dropped plans to adopt them.".

Right about now, she's still in some kind of shell shock over this. Adoption, presumably, was a way to make them all more of a family on the proposition he was her soulmate and they would stay together. With Dad gone, that's a dream gone up in smoke. When she's a little more together, she can always make a fight for custody on the grounds of saving them from their biological parents when the divorce is litigated.

I would also agree with those who say she seems to be a good enough person (I don't follow her life story) and, if she meant what she said at the Oscars, stay involved some way. That post about epitaphs in the other thread holds here:

Ma loved Pa,Pa loved women.Ma caught PaWith two in swimmin'.

Here lies Pa

When women were women and not womyn.

danielle said...

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and her mother lives in a 1/2 way house so what judge would send a child there ?

You don't approve of the swell safety net the Lefties have established and the kind of people it produces? You'll be drummed out of The Zero Fan Club!

Once again I would like to express my gratitude to Tiger Woods for becoming involved in a sex scandal that looks like a game that was worth the candle. This, like the Edwards scandal, makes everyone look bad.

Does anyone here know anything about Sandra or Jesse? Really, actually know anything about them? Unless someone here is a friend of theirs, I don't see how you think you know what kind of mother Sandra is.

We all know that Sandra is an awesome mom because we saw her in The Blind Side.

My heart goes out to anyone whose spouse cheats...until I hear that Sandra started seeing Jesse (gosh...it's cool being on a first-name basis) before he was divorced. Then I think Sandra should have been smarter.

Some women like bad boys because they get the fun without having to worry that the bad boy will ever take the relationship seriously enough to propose. When/if he does, then it's proof that he's not a bad boy anymore.

Freeman, to be clear, are you suggesting that someone who was going to adopt in a situation like this should continue the adoption process? I don't even know whether that is something that is ever done. I also doubt very much that this shows a lack of desire to still be a parent to these kids, just a tragic consequence of very bad behavior (and choices).

At this point Jesse should parley this into his ailing chopper business. Maybe he should phone up Tiger for pointers on milking this thing for all of it's worth. Like I told you guys before when the Tiger story first came out that this would be the greatest thing to happen in golf, EVAR!!! and now look at it. The Masters are going off. Ticket prices have skyrocketed to unbelievable costs just to see this guy and all he did was fuck women who weren't his wife. Bizarro world indeed.

I guess ole Jesse had a special attraction to Ms. Bombshell:http://www.usmagazine.com/celebritynews/news/jesse-james-posed-as-adolf-hitler-while-dating-sandra-bullock-2010313

Aww....He's soooooo bad.

I wondered whether Sandra was knowingly enabling a cheat when she took up with "Vanilla Gorilla". If it's true, she went through half a dozen red lights and was surprised by the crash. (wearing blindfold) "I never saw it coming."

I've seen an addiction to bad boy mojo destroy lives. But, those were freely made choices. Can't blame loving bad men for getting involved with drugs and crime. If those are morally wrong to you, you won't do them.

Sandra lived with Jesse in a beach house in Orange County, California. Jesse's first wife, the mother of his two older children, lives across the street or at least within walking distance. I've never heard that she could lose her children for any reason.