Dwyane Wade’s Ex-Wife Protesting On The Streets Mistaken For Homelessness

Last night, photos emerged of Dwyane Wade’s ex-wife Siovaughn on the streets of downtown Chicago, which provoked assumptions that she was homeless. In actuality, Siovaughn was sitting in front of the Daley Center, where most child support cases take place, protesting for her rights as a mother.

Although her signs caused a bit of confusion, in footage that has appeared on the web, she was actually speaking out on the treatment that she has received since losing her kids in a custody battle. She claims that all types of things are going on behind-the-scenes, including Dwyane recently enrolling her sons in a basketball academy that coincidentally has games that take place during the court-appointed time she has scheduled with the kids. When they travel to Chicago to see her, he schedules them for extracurricular activities that take up 8-9 hours a day of the time she is supposed to have with them.

She also revealed that her lawyer recently went behind her back and dropped the million dollar lawsuit she had filed against D. Wade and this is the second time he has done this. The first is when she filed an STD claim. You can guess who she says pays her lawyers…

From the outside looking in, this whole situation is a lose-lose for Siohvaughn. Since she’s protesting (which is what people do when they want their voices heard), she’s going to be filed in the “oh, she’s crazy” or “she’s having a meltdown” box. No matter what she does to try to get her voice heard, she is dealing with someone who has far more money, power and respect than she does which means she’s already working against a bias that’s not in her favor.

By the way, she says in the video, she doesn’t want any money.

It sounds as though she is just trying to fight for her rights as a mother.

Up for discussion: If what Siohvaughn is saying is true, what would be some alternative ways she could handle the situation?

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She has to use a different strategy. People already don’t take her seriously. Sitting on the streets just doesn’t help her cause. Where is this email she talks about? All these papers, settlements, suits? Where’s the paper trail? THAT’S what she needs to do, go sit down, gather her documents, put them in order and then tell her story if she thinks she’s being unjustly treated by the system. This really doesn’t help.

I started to feel bad for her, but then I snapped out of it. And here’s why.

Remember Tameka Raymond? She had her kids removed from her custody, yet we haven’t see her acting a fool, playing homeless to get attention. This woman reeks of bitterness and mental instability. . She’s doing too much. How is pretending to be homeless going to turn the situation in court around in your favor? If she wants her kids back she should be working other angles. D Wade seems like a jerk but she should be quietly working on a way to regain her parental rights/custody/whatever instead of making rounds trying to destroy the father of her kids in the media.

The antics aren’t working for her, so she should try something else. Even Tina Turner, after being abused and having her hard earned money taken from her, said “just give me back my name.” And with that name she built something out of nothing and took her power back. Pull yourself together, put that armor on, and fight. Quit being a stunt queen!

Have your kids ripped from you and lets see if you take a Tameka Raymond approach…I know the F^%k I’m not, I’m going Malcom X all day!!!

#byanymeansneccessary

Neoshee Reply:August 9th, 2013 at 3:32 am

Same script different cast, everyone not the same. She should do what she feel best and the reason why she can’t get a result because she have people like you being bias without trying to be.

+4 Deidra Reply:July 23rd, 2013 at 11:29 am

Siovaghn has had 15 different attorneys, many of whom WALKED AWAY rather than continue working with her and collect $400-600 PER HOUR. I suspect that she may have a personality disorder. She certainly needs intensive therapy. She’s done interviews, been on Dr. Phil, etc. but is not satisfied. She’s one of those people who thinks that if you don’t AGREE with her it’s because YOU don’t understand. Sad.

@Deidra But seriously…you really think her lawyers are going to fight for her if they’re being paid by the opposing party? Come on. I’d rather have a public defender in that case. She’s not fighting with logic and that’s why she’s not winning right now.

i agree with you all she had to do is abide by the order and get her own lawyer and when it came time to go to court w/ all her ducks in a row, the judge and him can see she is a great mother and not crazy. men who try to see their kids get worse than her and the judicial system just side w/ the mothers even though their wrong. she better stop before the put her in an institute

Look at this mess of course she doesn’t want money she gets money I told y’all yesterday what is this? With actions like these Charlie sheens ex has a better chance at getting her kids back before this woman

No Judge in their right mind would give her the kids after this stunt she pulled. Her actions are typical scorned woman actions. She is not focused on getting her kids back more focused on what Wade is doing and trying to get him to lose endorsement. Why did she use the Miami Heat sign? She knows the organization is one that doesn’t like scandal so it is an attempt to embarrass Wade and all those who put money into his wallet. Guess what when the money stops you hurt yourself and your kids too. Also, does she not know that her kids may see this? Imagine the emotional distress if they do. Sorry she has my sympathy NOT!

It’s been 5 years … get on with life and FOCUS on them kids . Leave that man .. karma takes care of everything if he wronged you!

And to be clear I don’t think she’s crazy just irrational she can get another lawyer and fight the good fight why keep one that goes behind your back I just don’t think this publicity way is the way to do it you’ve done it you’ve done interviews and now you’re sitting on the street he’s not gonna let you embarrass him into being fair to you you have to do it through the courts you get alimony use that money and keep legally fighting all this does is give ppl on logs entertainment

Though the courts don’t say it, there is still a preference for children to be left with their mother. A mother has to be engaged in some pretty serious activity for the court to take her children away. Generally, in a custody hearing courts consider an insane number of factors in determining what would be in the best interests of the children. Attorneys make their arguments and the court makes the final determination.

If everything she is saying is true, she should be using her lawyers to seek a modification of her custody order rather than trying to sue D’Wayne for money. Her lawyer probably dropped the suit because it was frivolous and you can be sanctioned for bringing frivolous suits before the court. The time she is out there, she should be meeting with her lawyers, preparing affidavits, have them right motions, and produce all the evidence she claims to have.

It doesn’t matter who is paying the lawyer. There is only one client, and that’s her.

-2 Deja Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 2:32 pm

Well I feel terrible for her.

SHE HAS MY SYMPATHY.

Let’s keep ish real funky on here… money talks. Wade has an abundance of money, so like Necole has stated her odds are working against her right now… it is VERY difficult the battle she is facing, and she probably feels in her heart that this is the only option she has left. I am pretty sure she has consulted family and friends, hence the two individuals sitting ther with her, and they probably felt as well that a peaceful protest may assist with them hearing her voice.

I do agree that frivalous claims being brought forth will be denied, but as a lawyer and an agent of the court, you are to listen to your client.

This is a terrible and sad case.. everyone keeps saying she needs to take care of her pickney, but I dunno… I think there is more to this. How unfair of Wade to be placing his kids in activities during her time… what kinda foolishness is that??? How is she support to raise and spend time and support her kids, when the times she does have them, they are at camp??? C’mon people, lets look @ what has been said here by Necole…

+11 Jazz Reply:July 22nd, 2013 at 11:15 am

I don’t want to judge this woman because I don’t know her journey and I’m sure there’s more to the story than what we know.

BUT as seen with other ex-basketball wives who had made their own way, whether through reality TV or business ventures, there are always avenues available to create your own opportunities rather than waiting for a man to give you a hand out. To me, sitting on the street, begging and causing a spectacle is a waste of energy that can be spent creating a hustle of your own. I know as a woman it is tough to lose your children and a man you loved. But the last thing you ever want to do is show the world that you are unable to get by without a man to take care of you.

Many broadcast networks and shows like Iyanla Fix My Life or ABC or Nightline would love to hear her story. That’s a coin right there. How bout the publishers that would love to publish an autobiography of her story and make a quick dime off it? That’s another coin. When men like to portray you as their trash, turn it around in your favor and create a treasure.

Throwing a pity party like this does not solve a thing.

+11 No Ma'am Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 12:47 pm

Right. If you are truly trying to fight for your “rights as a mother”, then take it up with the court system. What can we as citizens with problems of our own truly do to help her situation, when this matter is a supposed to be a private one? That’s why the police don’t get involved in situations like this. They will tell you in a heartbeat take it up with the court, cause if it ain’t nothing they can do, what can we do? And I’m not blasting her parental skills, cause I don’t know her TEA like that, but how did she lose her kids in the first place? Anyone know?

No Ma’am she lost her kids cause in cases like this justice sees green as in money… I have so many opinions and things I would like to say regarding this however I’ll keep most to myself. Just know this, you never know what you would do or resort to if this was your situation, its always easy to pass judgment and criticize… Also thank you Necole for providing clarification on the story, I knew this was not the case as I have a lil inside information however we know how people love to think the worst as was evident in the 200+ comments on the article you first ran.

+21 justmyopinion Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 5:01 pm

This is what happens when parents aren’t parents together. So the kids can’t be involved in any activities because their parents aren’t getting alone. I have this same problem. Daddy gets mad because our daughter has girl scouts meetings and cheer practice and cheer competitions to go to. But if you’re a real parent those things you would be involved in also. It wouldn’t be a problem because instead of complaining you would be going with them to these events. That’s what real parents do. Go support the boys at their games. Take them to practice. Make it work.

+16 MissE Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 1:01 pm

Looking only at the pics, that sign is kinda misleading. I am one of those people who commented that he owes her nothing as far as financial support goes and I stand by that. Now that we hear this isn’t about financial support but about her efforts to spend time with her kids, I do feel for her. I’m basing this on what she’s saying of course. ‘m not sure how else I would handle that situation because he has the means to fight her in a court. Also, her acting erratic isn’t help her case. Most of all, I feel bad for their kids. Going by her story, he shouldn’t dictate what their kids do when they are spending time with their mother. I say this understanding that her behavior is what caused her to lose custody in the 1st place but being that they live with him, her time with them should be about her and her kids. That’s just wrong!

Exactly hire a new attorney, an image consultant and a shrink to talk things out. Better yet establish a relationship with The Lord and a church and watch things fall together for the good. Because if this is all about the kids than The Lord will work it out but I have a suspicion that this about hurting Dwayne (vindictive).He is no angel at any means but let it go and she needs to focus on bettering herself and establishing a meaningful relationship with her kids.

OK damn she need new lawyers that she can pay for as long Dwayne paying for her lawyers it’s going to go his way POINT BLANK PERIOD this woman need a job….being on a street corner ain’t it she wasting time….if Dwayne filling her little time she has with her boys up with there games I think that’s wrong…..but I do like him having custody over them BUT give her time to see them…..

+1 Questions Reply:July 21st, 2013 at 10:10 am

“OK damn she need new lawyers that she can pay for as long Dwayne paying for her lawyers it’s going to go his way POINT BLANK PERIOD”

LOLOLOLOL. Said by someone who has no idea about the practice of law at all.

+7 Mel Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 2:44 pm

If anything this may cause her to lose visitation or make her visitation supervised. I would NOT trust her with my kids, she may really try to hurt him by harming them, she needs professional help. You should never allow a man to crush your soul like that, especially if children are involved, you put your kids first and all of your issues second.

If she’s not seeing her kids and if as she claims, when they did see her they were reporting being hit by their father, then they likely are already emotionally stressed..seeing their mom at least showing that she is trying to have a relationship with them despite what they might hear from their father and grandmother could be giving them some kind of confidence in who they are and what they can stand up to. Who wants to think that their mom doesn’t love them and is not involved in their lives on purpose? If anybody’s fool enough to let the remainder of eighteen years pass without somehow showing your children that you were trying, that would be a bigger mistake on their part.

Why is it difficult for you to see that this could for her kids that she’s in that situation, even with the description of her motivation written above?

…That a person could be opted out of having any justice to the point where they had to do a desperate public display and get the media involved in that is not an impossible thing when money and prestige is on the other side… This has happened to many people and she’s actually lucky that at least one media source, this one (because I have not seen any other source besides **************** tell as many convincing details of her story, which would be the only reason a person wouldn’t believe the other things being said about her), is airing out some of the details that motivate her actions unlike all the others that will have people completely buying into the rich famous person’s side. Why do we so many of us understand that this happens when race money and fame are involved but not with just fame and money…This has happened before, I repeat, she would not be the first victim of having lawyers, judges and media completely swayed to the other side by money and preferential treatment. I would name names but it has been done so well that many people still have prejudices against the women involved even years after their exes power and influence has gone down the tubes.

She probably is telling, the truth see, she is the ex-wife of a superstar NBA current player so the League needs her to be silent and they are going to force her to sign the paper work, but do not sign Siohvaughn, girl money making projects that you could take on will be limited. and you will be in a worst situation then when this all started, lady hold your ground and stay strong cause they are waiting for you to give into their tactics, move to LA then see whats up, any monies that you have of your own, pay for your lawyer find a good one, but do not sign the agreement period.

The fact that she’s acting this irrationally I wouldn’t want her around my children either. This is not how you fight against the legal system. I watched the video & it honestly just sounds like a bitter woman who is trying to find a platform to bash him. It’s actually really pathetic & made me cringe throuout the entire video. Stop looking for media coverage, attention, & handouts and get your life together. If you continue to act like the stereotypical angry, deranged, black female, then Dwayne, the judge, and everyone else will treat you accordingly.

Call me insensitive but I’m not buying her BS and never have. She is not the 1st woman to go through this nor the last. Usher was just awarded custody of his sons and you don’t see Tameka acting a fool and she has many reasons to lose her mind (ie. the loss of her son Kile). Let me also add this whole argument about how she helped him so he must do all these things. You guys act like he dropped her as soon as he made it. They were together, lived the life, and it didn’t work it out. You cannot hold that over the head for the rest of his life. If this relationship ended better I’m sure they would be on better terms. This woman is nuts. READ the court documents (Yes I have, as an attorney I was curious). Ask yourself how your mother would handle this situation. I can guarantee she would be getting her act together for the courts and not trying to slander your Dad’s name in the media. If she claims D’wayne is trekking on her visitation time she can argue that to a Judge and he’d change it. NOT BUYING IT! No matter how much money Wade has, his attorney cannot argue that she’s unfit if there’s NOTHING there!

Just like an attorney can not argue that a black man raped a white woman if there is nothing there…just like an attorney can not argue that a half hispanic half white guy was acting in self defense after calling a kid a racial epithet and following him around until shooting him in the heart with a gun, if there’s nothing there…just like an attorney can not argue that a black panther was actually an anti american anarchist deserving of life in prison, if there’s nothing there…just like a group of women can’t isolate and attack another woman for things she hasn’t done if there;s nothing there.. There’s always something there IFyou can convince others by taking away certain information that explains what’s there and adding in your own information, adding in more things to be there- kind of like how as an attorney I might decide to hide the fact that c**n was said on a recorded tape before someone killed another someone in a non racially motivated killing, or like how as attorney I might decide to hide the fact that someone failed a police exam for mental health reasons before defending him in court for a charge that only made sense unless extreme racism and or mental health problems were involved..like how as an attorney I might think it’d be a good idea to send stories to the press and pictures which ensured that doctored photographs were the first ones many Americans saw in a nationally televised case where understanding that in the first pictures there were no injuries to the defendants face and body, a defendant claiming self defense, a judge’s son, would be of extreme importance.

Attorney’s battle in court for the rights to eliminate evidence, attorney’s have been bought off since the beginning of time to trash their client’s case into the dust, judge’s have been bought off- if you are black and blind to this at the same time, this is a damn shame. History, and actually current events, should at least teach you that media can be prejudiced, judges and attorney’s can be bought. This is reality for not only other countries but ours as well.

please preach!!!! dwayne is a selfish, sneaky, cheating, unattractive, low down, spiteful ninja!!! they are trying to make her out as crazy but shes really in need of a voice to speak out against injustices happening to her bc shes fighting against someone with fame and fortune…for God sakes people are u all clueless or do u hate black women that much ? HE PAYS HER ATTORNEYS!!!!!!!! Its just sad that all this has happened he is driving her crazy with this spiteful BS…. I like Gabrielle Union until this bc I believe both her and dwayne are way more spiteful…she shouldnt be making any comments on twitter about this woman and should push dwayne to do the right thing SMH

+5 JMO Reply:July 21st, 2013 at 3:47 pm

Everything you say is true but you missed a BIG point….Criminal Law isn’t the same as Domestic/Child Custody/Civil Cases. There are rules, standards, etc that separate the 2…I won’t go into the nuances but convincing a jury of regular ol Americans without any legal background isn’t equivalent to child custody hearings before a judge. You can be Team Siovaughn all you want but as I said she’s not the 1st woman nor the last, nor the only one who lost kids to a famous person.

+15 MISSY Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 5:55 pm

I do believe he is paying her $3500 or some amount and she doesn’t even have the kids… if she can’t make it off of $3500 a month and doesn’t have to pay child support… and she doesn’t find it feasible to GET a JOB… then her ass is suppose to be homeless… Women need to stop this foolishness.. get a job… hell I have one and I don’t get an additional income and YES I am a BMW… Black Mother Working!!! and I have survived and so have my children and they weren’t sending not even $500 a mth for child support I own my home, work everyday, mother of a college graduate who went to PRIVATE college 4yrs(and she had a child at 20 and still got her DEGREE) and of a son who wore a size 13 shoe at 12… If I had to buy one shoe and lay the other one away… he never had his feet on the ground and I make UNDER $50k a year and NEVER GOT FOOD STAMPS OR WELFARE… this chick needs to GROW up and accept the fact she lost the man to stupidity… put her big girl boots on and walk it out and in the direction of a JOB INTERVIEW!!! PERIOD!!!

I do believe he is paying her $35000/MTH or some amount and she doesn’t even have the kids… if she can’t make it off of $3500 a month and doesn’t have to pay child support… and she doesn’t find it feasible to GET a JOB… then her ass is suppose to be homeless… Women need to stop this foolishness.. get a job… hell I have one and I don’t get an additional income and YES I am a BMW… Black Mother Working!!! and I have survived and so have my children and they weren’t sending not even $500 a mth for child support I own my home, work everyday, mother of a college graduate who went to PRIVATE college 4yrs(and she had a child at 20 and still got her DEGREE) and of a son who wore a size 13 shoe at 12… If I had to buy one shoe and lay the other one away… he never had his feet on the ground and I make UNDER $50k a year and NEVER GOT FOOD STAMPS OR WELFARE… this chick needs to GROW up and accept the fact she lost the man to stupidity… put her big girl boots on and walk it out and in the direction of a JOB INTERVIEW!!! PERIOD!!!

ALL SHE HAS TO DO IS ABIDE BY THE COURT ORDER LIKE THEY ALWAYS TELL THE MEN TO DO AND IT MIGHT CHANGE IN HER FAVOR INSTEAD OF ACTING OUT. WHEN GUYS ACT OUT LIKE HER, BUT IS PAYING CHILD SUPPORT THEY GET ARRESTED FOR JUST SHOWING UP FOR THEIR SCHEDULED VISITATION AND THE MOM LIES OR SAYS NO AND SHE HAS THE RIGHT SO WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE IN HER CASE FROM DADS WHO GETS TREATED WRONG BY THE MOTHER OF THEIR CHILD?

Here’s the thing I feel this woman’s pain but the more she does things this the more of an opportunity she is giving D Wade granted we don’t know the situation, In my opinion I don’t trust either side but she needs to be more smart because this is ammunition for D wade. I don’t understand why women who were in relationships with high profile men especially women with kids thinks its okay to act messy like this because at the end the day this can all be easily turned against. Maybe she feels this is the only way for her to speak out because of D Wades money but I am sure they are other alternatives for her to get her message across.

Mmkay . So maybe she just went about this entire thing the wrong way . She’s lying . If it wasn’t about the money than she wouldn’t have been out there trying to get attention from the media . If it was about her children , she could’ve easily sat down with D.Wade and had a civilized conversation like two mature adults . I’m sure he would’ve been up for that . Instead of having the media slandering his name across these articles . Because although they’re divorced she’s still paid because she once had his last name which is worth money all on its own . This in my opinion was not a good idea for her to go about getting her children. But it was a good idea to be seen . Now Watch her end up on Hollywood exes .

I don’t care what happened with someone, but if you claim you loved them at some point and had children with them you have to treat them with some respect.
Dwayne should understand what it’s like to not have a mother around because his mother wasn’t. He understands that pain so why won’t he allow the mother of his children her fair share of time?
I know that we don’t know the full story, but it still hurts my heart and I hope that his kids don’t end up hating her or looking down on her in the future (and now) because of this situation.

She does get to be around her kids but at this rate she is giving a court reason to cut visitation all together! What an idiot! No man is worth losing your kids over. Get your mind and cations together hun!

Yeah but this lady is not acting rational. You have to draw the line somewhere. I don’t think he’s disrespected her in any way. He could drag her through the mud if he wants but he remains classy. She is acting as an unfit mother and being around her children is not healthy for them. The sooner she gets better the sooner she can have/see her kids.

How is she homeless?? She doesn´t have custody of kids…She can get her ass up and work everyday..She isn´t entitled to shit…..I think she thought or she was promised that if she stayed on Wade´s side she was going to be taken care of or she saw a meal ticket…But guess what while Wade was handling his you should of handle yours…Get on Ex Wives on Vh1 and move on….If you homeless its your fault….smdh

I can not imagine what this woman is going through. One thing I do know is when a man wants vengeance, rich or poor, he’s going to get it. She has no money and is fighting someone who has one hand on her forehead and the other clutching his money. No mother should be without her children. If she is mentally unstable get her some professional help, don’t make the problem worse by releasing pictures to the media of her children frolicking with your new woman. At some point there was love there… help her. Mental illness (if that’s the issue here) is NOT funny! People can will never understand it until it happens to their family member. Just sad.

It’s not Wade’s job to get her professional help. It’s her job and if she isn’t going to do it, those people standing out there supporting her can get her the help she needs. You don’t know that she has no money. She was married to Wade, she receives $35,000 a month for living and travel expenses. If she can’t live off of that and afford new lawyers instead of the one’s being provided and paid for by Wade then she has a more serious problem on her hands.

I don’t see a problem with there being pictures of Gabrielle and his children together. That’s basically going to be their stepmother in the future. I’m sure if you were divorced and in a new relationship your children (if any) would be out with your new partner.

Aisha, where did you hear that she is actually receiving in hand $35,000 a month for living and travel expenses? If a check was written, hear me, not an order made, it would be easy for her ex to dispute it by showing evidence since he has so much media on his team in the first place. I have a difficult time believing that she’s receiving nearly a quarter of a hundred grand a month from someone who has better attorneys, has a judge ruling in his favor for custody even despite a mental health professional testifying that she would be the better custodial parent…with that much money why couldn’t she at least pay for lawyers that would get her the kids with that kind of testimony on her side at the time?

I think some women/ ppl posting here are just feeling a sense of disgust-fear and want to disbelieve that they could ever be in her shoes by bashing her and saying there must be another way…if you can put that aside, try listening to what someone has to say completely, not a sound bite, not a piece of information from the other side, go back and read what the “crazy one” had to say in complete form and then decide whether the things you were told, what you read and what you thought that person’s options were before listening are still valid for you. Reactions like yours can be created..hell, I can could create them if I wanted the dirt on my hands that comes with being Dwade, Usher or Tyson’s publicist, Zimmerman’s lawyers. There are people who are meant to be aware of hidden truth and there are people who are meant to be manipulated, try stepping out of the last box once in awhile, please..maybe just for a change of pace, eh?

My disagreement was with what you said about getting her professional help and Gab U. being out and about with her and Wade’s children. Whether she gets that money or not, how are we to know but from what I’ve read that was in their divorce settlement.

Whether or not a mental health professional deemed her able to raise those children, it was still the judge’s decision. There had to have been a reason as to why she lost custody of these kids and from what I’ve seen from her in interviews, and this was said by Dr. Phil as well, she blames everyone for losing her kids and issues she’s having but doesn’t own up to the part she played. Interesting.

I’ve watched so many of the interviews she has, even the one’s Necole has posted herself, and like I said I’ve seen her make excuses for her actions but blame Wade for the way her life is, why she lost her kids, and everything else. Her story is everywhere. Don’t tell me what I have and haven’t read. I know the story from what she has shared with the media, which seems to be a lot. I know what I know just like you know what you know.

+7 Mel Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 2:49 pm

You cannot force an adult to get professional help, she has to seek it on her own, it is not his job to get her help, and this is why he has his kids because of this type of behavior, Judges don’t just take kid from their mothers.

First sentence- I agree completely, not that I think she needs it. Last sentence…hell, where do you live, planet Narnia? Judges do whatever the bleep they want to do.

Could you ever actually believe that judges have been caught taking bribes, committing crimes themselves or is that just for priests and policemen, not judges and lawyers.

People are people, no matter what profession, there’s going to be some spoiled apples in the bunch. When there is less oversight, less checks and balances and less diversity in power to keep a profession honorable…then, it attracts more of the bad kind until they’re overflowing like ants. Please tell me you wandered in here from being bored of watching Fox news and the Disney channel and are not actually a black person having all the good history lessons that comes from that experience. Please tell me it wasn’t wasted on you..

I think it´s unfortunate that she felt she had to stoop to this point, but when people feel they are fighting against a machine, they will do crazy things. I always wondered how she lost custody of her children. That has got to hurt.

I just don’t understand what type of woman would want her kids to see her like this. It’s like you know they are gonna be made fun of by their peers for this, but she just doesn’t care. I mean, i usually never feel bad for rich peoples kids, but with **** like this i feel bad for hers. There are much classier ways to protest that don’t make you one pathetic and pitiful, but i guess that’s what she’s going for to get our compassion. It’s all selfish if you ask me!

At least they know she’s trying//even if they are forced to bury that fact in the back of their minds to psychologically stay okay in the situation they are in now, even if they can only let it come to the surface when they think about it years from now and are no longer under anyone else’s thumb or fist, at least they’llhave the evidence of their mother begging for a chance to be with them- even beggin in the streets. Yes, it’s embarrassing as hell, but as much as women on this blog are inclined to believe otherwise, this is more harshly, deeply and painfully felt by her than it is by us watching her- She’s ten times more disgusted with this situation than we could ever be and that;s what you end up doing when your without any options and your kids are at stake, you speak to the public for help, even beg. She’s obviously beyond desperate and she’s giving her kids an opportunity to some day know they were loved enough for her to try the very last thing for her to try.

What exactly is there to protest? You protest for a possibility that the protest can change the situation there is nothing the people can do for you we don’t need to hear your voice y should we care about your situation and even if we do what can our feelings change? You want heat/nba fans to ask wade to give you back your kids you think embarrassing him will give you some parental rights?

Dignity is everything!! She needs to find other avenues or do what any self respecing person would do – LET it go. Keeping her a victim is not empowering her. I do not believe she is crazy , just around wrong advisors.

Letting your kids know you’re hear for them becomes bigger than dignity when you have them. And, whose to say there’s no dignity in taking those steps even if it means asking for help in all places? It’s not ideal, but what’s the difference between her and a man who shovels *** all day and comes home smelling like it in order to pay for his kid’s food? If anything, this should show them and others that she’s willing to do anything for their well being and that kind of strength is at the end of the day worth more than posing for pictures where you look your best and are fighting for nothing, unchallenged, untested and unproven to the point of shoveling *** or asking for help in the streets.

I Think , She Should be more Close with her I couldn´t Imaging Being Without Mine aT This Age, and I´m a Man! I Now It´s Painful for her, I Feel Her Pain, No Matte r What the Reason, and I Think Every Mother and Real Father Should Understand! Smiles , Enjoy !

Its funny how D Wade use to say she would purposely go out of town or go out when it was his time to have his visitation dose not feel so good when the other person is experiencing the same treatment. This is not the way I mean there’s so many women in her situation there has got to be a better solution to all this. They both need to come to sort of an agreement for the sake of the kids cause this getting sad now.
If he lawyer is continuing to do this all this behind her back then why is he still her lawyer?????

Like I said yesterday, I do feel for her, but I’m still not buying what she’s trying to sell, sorry. Anyway, anyone who is upset over the Trayvon Martin verdict and who cares about justice, go look up the John Mcneil case in Kennesaw, Georgia, I guarantee you, it will make your blood boil, smh.

I applaud Necole for being fair with Shiovaughn unlike other websites that has bogus advertisements to block comments. I am surprised at the insensitive and lack of support from other women. People are so shallow to think it’s about his current relationship which I’m certain she could care less about. Has anyone thought it could be more of DWade’s actions behind closed doors. I really believe he’s hurt more than he’s letting people to believe a man who doesn’t care would have ended this a long time ago. Just because you moved on to the next relationship doesn’t mean you’re healed and men hide their emotions. Shiovaughn is beautiful, smart and the mother of his kids despite who is more popular. This is about a mother who wants her children and what’s legally hers as a once married woman. I have NO respect for mean women!!! At least she STANDS FOR SOMETHING!! if she wasn’t fighting you people would dog her regardless.

People are only “dogging” her because of the way she is going about trying to get her kids back. Slandering her ex-husband, accusing him of doing things, and doing various interviews to throw him under the bus is only benefitting Wade in the end. It doesn’t make her look good and it’s not going to get her custody of her children. She should stay out of the media and find alternative ways to fix this issue.

The court has not ruled any slandering or defamation charges against her– as far as I am concern. Perhaps what she is saying is true,which is the only defense to “slander.” It is all about how the court interprets information on both sides.

All I am saying is that you cannot judge her so prematurely without knowing all the facts. Some responses and opinions on this site simply has no merit. I am quite shocked, that many responses have deemed her as “crazy.” Only a professional can diagnose any person with any mental disorders. So chill with that. Besides, If they only knew what mothers would do to protect their children or be in the arms of their children….than every mother would be insane….when you are running out of options, what can you really do? She is protesting peacefully, I don’t see “crazy”

I never said they did. Maybe what she is saying is true, maybe it isn’t, nobody knows. What I am saying is just as much as she wants to complain about Wade is doing, I believe she does have a part in what has occurred and should own up to that as well rather than completely placing the blame on Wade.

I didn’t even call her crazy in that response. I said it doesn’t make her look good. Which it doesn’t. Sure, I don’t know all the facts but neither does anyone else other than those involved BUT I can look at the information that she herself has put out there in various interviews and make my own conclusions which is basically the whole point of everyone commenting.. to make their conclusions based on what they’ve seen or heard. Nothing wrong with that.

I understand she is running out of options but I’ve said this so many times it’s pretty clear the avenues she has been taking are NOT working which are going out in the media and throwing dirt on Wade’s name. I’m not saying it is or isn’t true, who knows. If anything what she’s doing is making this situation worse for her because it clearly hasn’t gotten any better.

I think she has a made a hard bed (all the craziness on her part during the divorce proceedings & custody battle) and now that she has opened her eyes and trying to rebuild her relationship with her children….its coming back to haunt her. Actions have consequences…SHE (not D Wade, not Gabby, not the court) has painted a horrible picture of herself for the world to see…and now she is upset that everyone treats her with disdain…Erratic behavior, outright lies to the court, having the police have to come and get the children from her….is it any wonder that D Wade may not feel you have the kids welfare at heart when they visit with you? First she needs to stop acting like innocent victim…D Wade did not cause you to lose primary custody…you did…your actions…I do not see any easy way for her to regain trust of courts and her ex-husband….cause unfortunately during the custody case it seemed like only ONE parent was concerned with what was best for the children..and Sio…it wasnt you…

Funny how everyone is blaming her… Of course because she is not the celebrity everyone automatically takes his side. The woman lost her kids. I don´t see a nut job I see a woman who is doing any and everything she can to get her kids. Yeah she has done some things BUT at the same time he has too the difference is he has the money fame and pr to keep his image squeaky clean while making her look like the wacko

She isn´t crazy she´s hurt!! Imagine that was you in her situation,, you moved your highschool sweetheart in at 16 so that he could have a stable environment he later makes it to the NBA, leave you for another woman AND take your kids!! You´ll be a little off too!!

I think she has made a series of bad decisions. First of all, it is downright humiliating for her children to see her all on these blogs in the street, putting all their family business out here for us to comment on. Second of all, what was she really expecting, having him fund her lawyers, and STILL working with them after they dropped the case the first time?? She still has his last name too. I do feel for her though, because he is definitely not right for snubbing her in that speech the way he did, and passive aggressively scheduling her own children away from her. However, I suppose she has to resort to drastic measures, when he has done so much to screw her over, both privately and publicly. I just wish she had a bit more dignity with it.

She comes off as extremely hurt and bitter in this video…I wonder, too, how she lost custody of her kids in the first place. Perhaps she could have held a press conference, or offered an interview with a reputable source (essence, maybe?) to tell her side. It appears she just wants to be heard. Even pen an open letter on the internet??? She didn´t come off well this way.

I dont think she is crazy one bit. I believe she is scorn and feels like shes in a no wim situation. Its clear that cause of who DWade is, he will always get favored sad nut true. Now us there another way she could have gone about this? No one knows. It takes two and I believe they both are wrong for not at least coming to a peaceful and mutual decision for the children. Its easy for women to call her crazy, because at one point I did. However u never know how u would be if u were in her shoes. I just pray something eventually works out in her favor

Regardless of the how you may like DWade…This is NEGATIVE PUBLICITY and I’m quite sure other ballplayers are having conversations behind his back. Hell LeBron made sure he gave Savannah $$$$ upfront JUST in CASE their relationship didn’t survive. Dwade is all about hisself and looking good for BET awards. BET should be ashamed for giving him that award OOH I forgot Gabrielle is friends with Debra Lee.. Dwade mother suppose to be a minister????
But you all wanna throw stones at Shiovaughn call her crazy but they suppose to be the educated, employed and so-called Christians. Dwade is no better!!

The sign says ” on the street ” as in homeless . I guess that phone call from D Wade lawyer got her semi straight. There are other ways to go about it. Trying to ruin his image in the long run isn´t one of them. Money may have a factor but do you how hard it is for a judge to take the kids away from the mother and come to conclusion that she isn´t a good fit ???? Clearly a few screws are loose . The real issue is she taught she could fix her marriage. She taught she´d be where Gabby is right now because when he needed help she was there for him. She doesn´t understand how he just turned her back on her, moved on and took the kids. But shit happens baby girl, women get left everyday a d the negro even clear out the whole bank acct. But they snap out of it and get back on their feet. Wade´s name shouldn´t even be on her mind . How can I show this judge I am a good mother and how can I at least get visitation to my kids should be on her daily to do list. How is seating in the streets going to make her look like a victim ? Priorities all the way fucked up

How you get them is how you lose them. She was a reason for the divorce and he’s dragging his ex wife like this,he’ll do the same to gabby one way or another. And if runes are correct he’s dycking down a snow bunny known to fool around with anyone in te NBA

Difference with Gabby is she doesn’t have children that she’s willing to anything for, even if it means appearing broken to a bunch of judgmental people while she asks for help on their behalf. Gabby the reformed mean girl, as she likes to see herself, will be just fine so long as she never falls in love with another person so deeply that she is willing to sacrifice herself for their well being, be it a selfish man or an innocent child.

Would you, seriously he needs to do it on his time he has them the most. He’s trying to drive her crazy doesn’t mean she is. I would lose my mind for my kids too and would not care what people think. I AM SURE YOU DON’T HAVE KIDS.

I don’t, but I can put myself in her shoes…not to the degree that I feel her pain, though…even though I can imagine. People who really love their kids would do anything for them. On the other hand, people who have bigger egos than they do empathy can let anything happen to nearly anybody, so long as they feel like they’re getting what they want.

Judging from the first few comments, I don’t think anyone has a real solution of what she should do if what she is saying is true. It’s easy to say, she shouldn’t be out on the streets, but I’d love to hear a few suggestions on what women would do if they were in her situation. Right now, from the commentary offered already, it looks as though her back is against the wall. It sounds like the consensus is that she should take what’s given to her, accept it and go on about her life.

I only offered the different perspective (than what everywhere else is reporting) because it does open the door for discussion. Every single report I’ve read has painted her as a crazy person and lacks compassion for her as a mother. I’m not a mother, but I had to put myself in her shoes for just a second, and say, “How would I feel? What would I have done if that was me? How else would I had handled the situation”

When love is good, it’s good….but when it goes bad. *wipes forehead* I just hope I don’t have to endure anything like this ever and it’s unfortunate for all sides, the kids included.

I love D Wade and Gabby as a couple but I didn’t let that affect the way I feel about this situation. I don’t think any less of Dwyane Wade, it’s just very unfortunate. Obviously, he’s trying to keep her quiet and move on with his life (which he has the right to), but unfortunately Siohvaughn hasn’t been able to move on with hers. Besides losing custody of her kids, I’m sure she still hanging on to what this relationship used to be and absolutely devastated about what it transformed into. When you are in the thick of it, you don’t imagine it’ll turn out like this.

I agree with you Necole! I’m not a mother but this whole situation is a lose lose for her. In all honesty I believe she is doing the right thing! Her voice is being taken from her behind the scene– it sounds like a lot of shady stuff going on that I dont put past D Wade and his lawyers. I couldn’t even imagine that feeling of not being able to see your own children plus dealing with their dad who has more money and power has got to be rough! My only suggestion for her is to keep fighting for her kids! Keep fighting for those scheduled play dates! If he has them at scheduled activities show up to those activities… watch them.. communicate with them. They won’t be young forever and they will want to see their mother and spend time with her if she handles this the right way. I’m about to say a prayer for her

I agree! How else should she handle this situation? I would probably be doing the same thing if it were me (well I would have a more relevant sign). An alternative would be to do an interview but everyone’s already convinced she’s a nut so even that’s hard. She may be irrational BUT it doesn’t mean she don’t genuinely want to spend time with her children or that she doesn’t deserve to.

Necole, I echo your sentiments. I am a mother, and Lord knows, what most of us would do for our children.

In spite of all those demeaning her, my heart goes out to her because no one really knows what’s going on behind closed doors and because of that, I believe unfair assumptions about Siovaughn are made. D has the money and power; she doesn’t.

I see a hurt and angry mother. She has tried to go through the court system only to see that it didn’t help her. I believe she should seek counseling to help with her anger. Learn to accept DWade for who he is because she really knows the real him…they were together for a long time.

DWade needs to sit with her only. Apologize for the pain. Explain his actions as well. They need to do this without media, without someone trying to make a dollar but go back and remember when they care for each other and RMEMBER love produced those children and remember that’s what’s going to hel thm both and make it easier to co parent.

I used to work in the DA office, child support division and that’s was the one point I would use to get the focus off the parent and to focus on the child or children. It seem to remove a lot of the hostility and animosity between the parents.

We don’t know that they have not had a conversation, and you put all of this on D Wade but they both failed in that marriage so she needs to address her responsibilities as well, this is NOT a one sided issue. I agree that counseling should be sort, there is clearly a whole lot of anger, pain and self esteem issues there, but she will have to make a choice to get it right.

I know the black community has this stigma against counseling but I really think it would do her a LOT of good in this situation. One she would have an impartial party who would be able to speak to the courts on her behalf. That is who she needs to impress…not the rest of the world. The courts is who decides how the custody and visitation is set up and enforced. Doing more things that make her appear erratic or crazy only work against her. Believe me my heart aches for her as a mother. But as a mother you have to make good choices for you and your children and when you don’t sometimes you suffer for them.

Necole I will tell you what she should do, she should put her children first, it starts there and by doing so, she should seek professional help to deal with her hurt and other issues, and then she should put her big girl draws on figure out what she wants out of life and go for it, $25,000 per month and you don’t even have kids to take care of? go back to school, open a business do something to occupy your time, build your relationship with your kids and eventually try to get them back, she is not being productive, she is spending to much time licking her wounds, he is gone, he will NOT be coming back, as a mother you put your children FIRST and every single thing else after, that includes the hurt, she allowed a MAN to break her spirit, but her children should be reason enough to get herself together. We as mothers would move a train to save our children, we would lift a car if we had too, we would darn near walk on water or through fire for our kids, she clearly does not have that instinct or she would be mustering up every drop of energy she has to get herself right, there are mental issues there that need to be addressed and her family should stage an intervention.

Can she get another lawyer to take her case?
Does she have documentation of interference if not then she better start tracking it.
She can file for custodial interference on her own with proof of interference.

Most courts and experts agree that except in unusual cases it is most important for a child to have a strong relationship with both parents. However, if this is not the case then the parent who feels interference should seek legal action. There is group in Chicago that could assist and if she is serious about this I can provide her with the information

I do feel some compassion for her, but that only goes so far b/c my first & foremost concern is the health & well-being of the CHILDREN. I can’t stress that enough. I don’t think she has always considered her children’s well-being, b/c she was acting a fool BEFORE she lost custody. Sometimes, your actions jeopardize your rights as a mother and this is what happened with her. Hopefully, she’s a changed woman.

@Simply Red
Your questions are very similar to mine.

@Necole Bitchie
Alternatives:

For all of these things she’s saying, does she have documentation? Especially if they happened more than once? Document it! Provide detail, dates, times etc. She needs to document ANY and EVERYTHING when it comes to her children and any interaction she has with D.Wade (text messages, voicemail, email etc)

Also, how does she know her lawyer is on D.Wade’s payroll? However she found that out, she needs to document that! What was her lawyer’s response when (or if) she asked him about dropping the lawsuit? Document that!

I would also say she needs…a hobby or job (for a lack of better words). Additionally, it be very helpful to do counseling, life coaching, or what have you. These things show that she’s taking responsibility and actively working towards becoming better for the sake of her and ULTIMATELY for the sake her children.

I agree with you: Document everything. Keep a journal. A journal is usually admissible as evidence in court. ‘The pen is mightier than the sword.’

+1 MY2cents Reply:July 23rd, 2013 at 6:50 am

Of course she can get another lawyer and even make Dywane pay for it or just use her 25,000/= a month to pay for the lawyers. Protesting outside is not the way to go. You have to go back to court and change the visitation and custody arrangement. Look at Britney Spears she lost her children for a while but she cleaned up her act and got them back. This woman is just being ignorant.

Hey, thanks for more objective reporting. The video definitely gives better insight into her plight, as the photo can be a bit misleading when viewed in the scope of the negative media attention she has received (if reports are taken as fact). In my opinion, she is doing what she can – exercising her right to free speech, protesting, and bringing visibility to her issue. Leading us to having this discussion and hearing her voice directly, without the filter of attorneys, etc. Unless someone has had the experience of going through the legal system on a custody issue, it is really difficult to understand the emotions involved and the sense of powerlessness a party may feel.

Things that mothers with similar claims to hers can do are:

1. Become familiar with family law and case precedence. Don’t ever depend on anyone to represent your best interests fully. Lawyers and law firms often have many cases to represent. Present findings in a structured way, identifying areas that may be similar to your case.
2. Consider pro se representation (representing yourself), and having an attorney consultant.
3. Appeal your case to a higher court.
4. Become knowledgeable of the BAR Association Code of Ethics and your rights.
5. Pray, pray, pray…meditate, it can be a really emotionally grueling experience. Make the best of the moments you do have with your children as you continue in your quest for justice.
6. Join a support group with mothers/fathers who may be able to relate. Talk it out.
7. Volunteer your time and efforts in support of other children in need (i.e. foster care, after school programs, etc.).
8. Take care of your physical self, exercise — you are more than anyone’s opinion of you, or any short-comings and/or past failures.
9. Nourish your body by eating healthy. You’d be surprised as to how much better you may feel.
10. Sacrifice for your children, even if it may mean that you are bending to the other person’s games. At the end of the day, ask yourself if what you need to do is in your child’s best interests. If so, do it with love and unselfishly. Sacrifice your ego.

agreed with the first two or three paragraphs, the part about people not wanting to put themselves in their shoes, I think this si why the reactions in this post are so strong against her- it’s almost like she’s shaming or embarrassing them for being at that low point, and for that they must react against her, claim she has options they have no way of knowing she has, opt her out because it’s too sad to look at. oh well. good luck to her.

Agreed Nicole, this must be an influx of bb fall fans in addition to the people that just fear putting themselves in her shoes long enough to read any of her details and not just the ones being spoken by others about her; there’s no way that this comment should have been thumbed down as many times as it has nor should so many other reasonable comments have gotten the reaction that they did.

I THINK THERE’S MORE TO THE STORY THAN WHAT’S SAID. I THINK ABOUT MY OWN MOTHER AND OTHER WOMEN STORIES AND HOW THEY ARE DEEPLY EFFECTED BY LOVE LOST WHILE THE MAN JUST MOVES ON SO EFFORTLESSLY…. I THINK THAT THIS WOMEN IS FIGHTING TO BE HEARD AND I THINK THAT IS WHAT NECOLE FELT, HER VOICE SHE WANTS DESPERATELY TO BE HEARD… NOW HOW SHE’S DOING IT.?.. IS THE BEST WAY SHE KNOWS HOW CAUSE SHE CAN’T WRESTLE WITH AN EX HUS WHO HAS MILLIONS OF DOLLARS. IF IT WAS ME I’D GET MY OWN MONEY SOMEHOW AND MY OWN LAWYER ( A GOOD ONE ) AS SIMPLE AS IT CAN BE DONATIONS.. WHATEVER AND INSTEAD OF TELLING THE MEDIA THIS OR THAT JUST TELL MY CHILDREN MOMMY LOVES YOU AND MISSES YOU PUBLICLY IF NEED BE. I THINK SHE( WE ALL AGREE SHE) DOES NOT HAVE CLOSURE TO THE RELATIONSHIP… SHE HAD W/ DWAYDE THE LIFE SHE “THOUGHT” SHE WAS GOING TO LIVE… SHE HASN’T ACCEPTED THAT IT HAS “ENDED”AND WHAT GOD HAS FOR HER NOW, SHE’S KINDA IN THE PAST. THE FIGHT FOR HER CHILDREN IS VALID, THE FIGHT FOR DWAYDE TO “TAKE CARE OF HER ” IS NOT. AND YES ” SHE SUPPOSEDLY HAD HIS BACK WHEN HE WAS ON THE COME UP. WELL A SETTLEMENT FOR HER IF NEED BE AND THEN END THE CONVO. SHE NEEDS TO FIRST PROVE THAT SHE IS INDEPENDENT AND STABLE AND BE A TAAD MORE DIGNIFIED CAUSE THE WORLD IS WATCHING HER

Calling her crazy is a way to discredit HER TRUTH. Men have been doing it to women for centuries and some of you sister women on this website fall for the okey-dokey and discredits this woman’s truth also. Tameka Raymond was portrayed to be crazy too, in the beginning, particularly with the rants on Twitter but she has some smart people in her camp and she chilled out. If you want the down and dirty of that trial and the things that came out during the Raymond battle, go to http://www.straightfromthea.com. Atlien considered Tameka crazy and deranged too, in the beginning, until she sat in that trial everyday … She changed her tune. Don’t be so quick to discard this woman and her story because she appears CRAZY because that is how her story in the media is framed to make you think that she is crazy. Trust and believe that there are three sides to the story, her side, his side and the truth somewhere in the midst of it. If you listen to the video, this “settlement that she did not see or sign” is basically a way to gag her speech, you know, like 50 Cent did his child’s mother that she couldn’t be on “Starter Wives” or whatever that show was because he wanted to keep his business out of the “street.” Wade DOES NOT WANT HER TO TALK. He will offer the her moon, sun and stars if only she would keep her mouth shut. I am sure she knows lots and can tell lots — not just about him but others. So could I, as a rich pro basketball player, have my publicists keep planting stories or antics, etc., to make a woman look crazy or possibly drive her crazy? Sure can. If I were her, first and foremost, I would sit back, re-group and make a plan. This chick needs a clear head. She needs to get off the street (and for the record, being on the street and homeless is NOT synonymous), go to a spa where it is quiet, lay back, relax and and go with the approach that you get more bees with honey than you do vinegar. First, I would fire my attorneys and get another one (he has to pay so why not get the best and one whose loyalty would not be a question). And then I would change my approach. But I would document EVERYTHING. Every time he encroaches on parenting time, EVERYTHING. It is not about visitation, money or any of that. He wants her to SHUT UP. And she is not going to … she is not going to sign away her rights to do that for any amount of dollars and I really don’t blame her. Just think if she was on reality TV … that is Dwayne Wade’s fear. TRUST.

If she wanted her voice to be hear she could have tried to set up an interview with any number of local or national news stations and/or newspapers. Hell she could have even recorded her own video and put it on Youtube. But to be on the streets with that tacky ass sign ain´t doing nothing but making her look bad and embarrassing her kids in the process.

u cant be.serious. This woman have lost her mind. Now im.starting to see why they took her kids away from her. That kind of behavior is unacceptable. whether the children are in your custody or not u are still their mother. Act like u got some damn sense. Those kids would go to school and will be hearing abt the mother acting a.fool. Not good. She need to get it together smh

I sympathize with her. It’s sad that she has to go through that. No mother who loves their children should be done like that. I feel like its enough that she lost custody. Don’t have to be a ****** and cheat the mom out of visitation time. I hate when parents gotheir separate ways and then have the children caught in the middle of a speight battle. At the end of the day children need BOTH parents.

I’m not going to take side because I don’t know their story but I will say this.

If she wanted her voice to be heard she could have tried to set up an interview with any number of local or national news stations and/or newspapers. Hell she could have even recorded her own video and put it on Youtube. But to be on the streets with that tacky ass sign ain’t doing nothing but making her look bad and embarrassing her kids in the process.

She’s done interviews. She even went on Dr. Phil I believe. The show was about women who lost their children because the justice system favored their famous and more powerful baby’s fathers. You can find her interviews on YouTube. She’s exhausted a few options.

But Necole, if what she is doing is about getting her kids back, while put the “NBA Miami Heats Mother of his children on the street” ??? That sign is ALL about D’wyane. It could have said “IWANT MY KIDS BACK” or something else that would communicate to us to help her fight for her kids.

The best way she can deal with this situation is to get couseling/therapy first, so she can best deal with the trauma of her kids taken away from her, and then fight with a clearer head
It would also help her to let go of the things she might be holding on to about her failed relationship…

She can do interviews but in a different way by not bashing her ex..She can do positive interviews to get her voice heard in a different light

The sign was probably to get the attention of news reporters. Regardless or not if she needs counseling, if she is granted visitation rights, shouldn’t she be allowed to dictate how they spend that time? I didn’t really hear her bashing him in the video. She was simply stating why she was reduced to protesting in front of the court.

VoiceofReason Reply:July 22nd, 2013 at 3:38 pm

I think you all are missing the whole point … she is not getting the kids back. She knows this. She just wants him to respect her “parenting time” as defined by the visitation agreement. He is not respecting it. Also, he does not want her discussing anything and she will not sign any settlement that restricts her from telling her story. He is doing all these other things to hinder her, make her look crazy, make her look unstable and so far he has a lot of you convinced that she is crazy. I don’t think she is crazy. I think that she really does not have anyone in her corner to properly advise her. That is what I think. I bet if she threatened to write a book I bet you anything he will capitulate. He doesn’t want her talking, he doesn’t want her on reality TV, he doesn’t want her doing anything that will jeopardize his “image.” To me, it is already tarnished. Any dude that will take his babies from their mother is already trash in my book. And, I will go on the record that obviously maturity is not a personality trait that either he or Gabrielle Union possess because as a woman and mother myself, I would encourage him to work it out with her so that the children do not have to grow up seeing their parents at odds with each other because it puts the children in the position of seemingly having to pick side and that is so unfair to the children. They both are too busy trying to spite each other, that neither of them are properly thinking about the children and how this affects them. I would not date anyone who would treat their ex-wife and/or child’s mother in that fashion. I don’t care how much money he has, because in the back of mind, I am thinking if he will do that to the mother of his children, he will do me the same exact way.

+1 Truth Reply:July 20th, 2013 at 3:44 pm

Honestly, idk why people are thumbing you down when you are just speaking the truth!!! Ugh.

That is because people do not respect others’ opinions, particularly when they do not coincide with their own. Some of you need to take a mass media class and learn about framing a story. Some stories are framed to pander to biases. I think it is sad that we women do not encourage and uplift each other and basically answer the question Necole asked initially. All I keep reading is “she crazy, she crazy, she crazy …” FRAMING that is what that is. Oh, and another thing, Justice is the luxury of the rich … Best you all learn that now. It has nothing to do with right or wrong but really who has the most money.

Mmkay . So maybe she just went about this entire thing the wrong way . She’s lying . If it wasn’t about the money than she wouldn’t have been out there trying to get attention from the media . If it was about her children , she could’ve easily sat down with D.Wade and had a civilized conversation like two mature adults . I’m sure he would’ve been up for that . Instead of having the media slandering his name across these articles . Because although they’re divorced she’s still paid because she once had his last name which is worth money all on its own . This in my opinion was not a good idea for her to go about getting her children. But it was a good idea to be seen . Now Watch her end up on Hollywood exes .

I’m not going to take side because I don’t know their story but I will say this.

If she wanted her voice to be heard she could have tried to set up an interview with any number of local or national news stations and/or newspapers. Hell she could have even recorded her own video and put it on Youtube. But to be on the streets with that tacky ass sign ain’t doing nothing but making her look bad and embarrassing her kids in the process.

Similar to you I will not take sides because I do not know what happened in their marriage nor do I think any of it is my business. However, what I do know is that this right here is not going to help anyone or anything. You cannot claim to be a mother who loves her children and is all about putting them first and then do something like this. This is embarrassing and humiliating to her children. They are old enough to get on the internet and see their mother on the front page of the news holding a sign and saying she is homeless. They also go to school and have friends and we all know how mean children can be. You can cause your children to be the but of everyone’s jokes doing things like this. If you truly loved your children and were all about their happiness you would think about how doing something like this would make them feel and how it would affect them. You would hold it together in public and put on a smile even if you were miserable behind closed doors. This is not going to solve anything and it will not help her get her children back. It will further prove his case that she is an unfit mother and she should not have the children. I have never been one to believe that Dwyane was innocent in all of this, I actually believe he is part of the reason she is acting this way. I believe he was a terrible husband and he probably cheated on her during their marriage. However, I also believe that whatever he did to her during their marriage does not justify her acting this way. The worse thing he did to her cannot be worse than her children thinking negative things of her and this will most likely cause her children to think negative things of her. He broke her but she has to pick her self up. It has been 6 years since he left her she cannot continue to carry on this way. For her children’s sake she should have been got over the fact that he left her and if she did she would probably still have custody of her children. When they initially separated she took the kids and moved to Chicago and he was going to let her have full custody but she wouldn’t fulfill her requirements so he filed for full custody. I’ve read that papers were filed in court that say he is paying her 25k a month in spousal support and an additional 10k for living an traveling expenses. I’ve never been one to believe that she didn’t get a fair shake in court because he is a celebrity because there is an abundance of athletes who are paying about 40k in child support each month and if it was so easy for them to just take their children so they don’t have to pay that money they would do so. I feel for her but I believe she didn’t get her children because of her own behavior. Just yesterday she was in court and the judge wanted to have her arrested because she was in contempt and her consistent bashing of the judge will not help her case. For her children’s sake she needs to keep it together and this is not doing so. Some people say she has done interviews but no one is paying her any mind. I personally believe that it is because in all of her interviews she is saying all negative things about her ex and very little about getting her children so people see it as she is just still mad at him not she is fighting for her kids. The Dr. Phil interview she just wanted to talk about her ex and the one interview on youtube she just wanted to talk about how he mistreated and abused her during their marriage. All of her interviews she wants to talk about what a terrible husband and father Dwyane was not about how she could get her children back.

I know she wants her children but this is not the way to go about it. This type of stuff just confirms what some people believe and that is that she is mentally ill. If you think one judge is favoring him then you file the papers in another court. Also she needs to compile all the evidence that would suggest that he is not doing what he is supposed to do so that the judge will have no choice but to side with her. These types of actions don’t make it seem like she is trying to get her children back it makes it seem like she is trying to embarrass and humiliate her ex-husband.

I personally am pissed off at and disappointed with the both of them because for the sake of their children they should have been figured this out and tried to act like civil beings. This back and forth for the past 6 years is simply ridiculous. You have two children and there happiness should come before trying to get back at your ex. Two grown people acting like children because their marriage did not work is pathetic. I pray these two people figure this out because it seems as soon as their children are able to leave their home they are going to do everything they can to get away from their parents. These people are going to ruin their relationships with their children because they simply cannot act civil.

She isn´t even thinking about those kids. I could see if she had the kids and he left her homeless with no money and you wanted to show him and the world how you felt by any means. But he has those kids and they are very well taking care of. Now it´s time to go about things in a different manner because Shea humiliating her kids over her broken heart and that´s not ok

I am really trying to find some sympathy for this woman, however from all her past shenanigans during their custody and divorce battle and now her choosing to stage this public vent session, it´s tuff. Her efforts and battle to be apart of her children´s life will be better served if she conducts herself as a wholesome, stable, loving mother. Stop trying to paint D.Wade as a villain, if he truly betrayed, lied or violated her in any way in time God will deal with him. Otherwise she needs to get herself some therapy.

if you read previous reports on how much she gets.. she differently not homeless… u may need to down grade a little but for me it still would be an upgrade… Greed is one of those sins.. maybe she needs church counseling

She didn´t help her situation in the custody battle when she didn´t show up for court numerous times, but I do feel bad for her losing her kids…..there are other ways she could´ve gone about protesting thou, claiming to be homeless ain´t it. Giving an interview to a creditable magazine/newspaper..create a blog & write her story, there are other parents out there going thru the same situation maybe there´s a help group/organization who can assist her…homegirl needs to do some research….THE KIDS ARE THE ONES WHO END UP BEING HURT IN THE LONG RUN!

I see a lot of people mentioning DWade, his fame, and money. Yes this is a sad situation but I do not feel sorry for her. Please read up on her history. He didn´t just leave her…she cheated and her “friend” told! She used her then husbands money to put her lover in an apartment, and paid his bills!!!! She lost her children b/c she refused to abide by the joint custody rules on top of other dumb things, such as the above! The woman even tried to sue DWade and Gabby for kissing in front of the kids. She´s very bitter and needs to move on! She´ll never get her kids back doing this type of foolishness!!!!!

The man cheated people and he lied and he hurt a person who was there before the money because of a ruthless Hollywood Slore who had no morals to not F around with a married man!!! No matter what they say the truth is that Gaby´s little vacations to MIA started waaaaayyyyy before they claim!!!! Lets be real she got shitted on!!! I feel bad for her but WORSE for the kids!!!

In my opinion point blank I think both of them as parents need to make and find peace with one another if especially for the sake of the children. Those children they can sense and see that their parents hate one another and that is bad they are not dumb they know things are bad between their parents. Honestly I feel for her because I have a child and if my kids were taken from me I wouldn´t be the same he has money so therefore he can do whatever he wants which is bad. There´s always two sides to the story remember he did once love her but fame and fortune swelled his brain. The both of them need prayer!!!!

She could have requested an interview and sat down and discussed her situation. It does sound like her request to be w/ her children aren´t being respected. She needs to fire her lawyer and hire one that SHE can afford. The fact the her ex husband pays her lawyer is what hurts her. The lawyer is going to do what the person that´s paying him tells him to do. And, the one thing she should never do is put the children in the middle of what is going on w/ her and her ex. Her time w/ them should be all about them not what´s going on in her ex´s life. The fact that she is out in the street protesting to be heard isn´t something her children need to see.

I never thought it was about money with her, that woman just wants her kids, I couldn’t be with a man who didn’t make things right with his childrens mother. No matter what they went through, she is his children’s mother and should be respected and not treated less than.

I am highly amused that there are more folks thumbing down comments that are in support of Soihvaughn than there are comments offering a great alternate solution of how she, or anyone that’s in her situation, should handle this. Interviews? She’s done them. I’ve never found her interviews to be slanderous. She just told her story. I’m really interested in knowing what other ways she could go about this for the folks that are thumbing down but not offering any type of solutions. Her back is against the wall. She really doesn’t have many options except to disappear and not fight for what she thinks is right.

I do think some sort of counseling or therapy would suffice. Therapy may help her get over the anger that has built up. After, she gets to a place where she is at peace, they all should go to therapy, (Siohvaughn, D Wade and the kids) as a family and work towards a situation that works best for everyone. I would hate to see her kids grow up despising their mother, or holding some sort of resentment towards their father, because of what they may hear from both sides.

Lol@ Necole. FORGET them girl! And as many people come for you, you have my utmost respect! Cause after I got finished with them, I wouldn’t have site anymore, lmaoooooo, but don’t mess up dat paper girl! People are judging her unfairly and speaking like they really know what’s going on, but clueless.

I wonder about people sometimes. I have two boys and if I could not see them everyday or lost them in a custody case I would go crazy too. This would be a could crazy because she is sitting on the street conner does not make her crazy she is trying to bring attention to her situation. I would sit and look however if it mean someone taking notice and trying to help not judge me. I feel because she lost custody of her kids does not mean she crazy but that a lot of times people with money, power, fame, or certain skin color get their way regardless if right or wrong. Did we not learn that from the Trayvon’s case the justice system is messed up and we need to fight when we think we don’t get the justice someone else gets because of what ever reason. No one know’s what happens behind close doors. D-Wade just want’s us to see what he wants us to see. Who we see does not mean that’s who he really is. Shame, I WOULD DO THE SAME THING everyone with the stupid comments I am sure does not have kids and you don’t know what you would do until you become a parent never say never and don’t be so quick to judge her. Especially since everyone she trusted is doing her dirty even the lawyer I would sue him next. Keep up the good fight the justice system is corrupt remember Trayvon.

I am not a mother, but I am a woman and I feel for her. Right now, in her current state of mind, I don’t think she should fight to get her children. I think she should fight to get herself back, cos let’s be honet here, she’s totally lost herself. Judging from this one episode, she is currently not fit to be a mother.

If I was her friend, I would tell her to go for therapy. Stop ALL interviews with any type of media and take a hiatus. She needs to go for therapy, and when she’s in the right state of mind, she needs to get a job or start earning a living, outside of D. Wade. Once she can stand on her own, financially, emotionally, and spiritually, would I then advise her to fight for her children.

Right now, as a human being, I would NOT entrust her with raising kids. She needs to get herself together. I pray God helps her.

Granted this girl has turned looney, assuming from her actions. But, what happened to accountability and empowerment? why has nobody tried to empowered this lost soul to become a better person for her, not for him but maybe for the kids. Granted that he has custody of the kids, She needs to take this time to become a better person, finish school and find a reasonable career for kids and herself. Men leave women all the time to be with other women this is not the end of the world. Stop chasing his money and start chasing your own dreams.

What she needs is some help and she don´t need people around her lying to her and enabling her crazy behavior if her friends and family really care about her they will get her the help she needs if she wants to be able to see her kids and that´s who she cares for she will get it together no one feels sorry for someone who can´t make a way for themselves and get a job and show that they are capable of taking care of themselves and especially your children

If all is true of how much she is getting paid per month in alimony, I would be hiring a new attorney (female), undergo any psychological evaluations and counseling to show the court that I am fit and sound to co-parent. Finally I would document every time I am not able to see my child and go to court for good reason versus the many frivolous and spiteful suits she has filed. Necole I am a mother and a professional and I would not carry myself the way she has. She has been reactive versus proactive. Beat him at his own game and act civilized “grown woman” and not a hyped teenager. She is so bitter that its tainting her good actions.. And if acting like this is STANDING FOR SOMETHING than she already has put herself behind the eight ball.

Dwayne pr team is winning to make her look mental unstable but she clearly fine. So many women lose they kids and still go on like nothing. U never stop fighting for ur kids whether it makes u look crazy or not!!! Karma is a bitch Dwayne!! Soon the real will come then all these ppl commenting negatively will eat there post

Agree Antonette, why would you go through these ? What will her kids think? She needs help, and for her own health why?? Divorce, losing her boys,, there is more to these sad tail than we think, I hope she gets the help ! And became a strong woman that as the love to give to herself and her boys,,

I feel for her…I really do…but she needs to take a step back, accept tge role she played in everything and move on….you want to get your kids back, step your game up….The media got you out here looking crazy… 1st step….seek therapy…next, get your appearance right….. next, FOLLOW THE DAMN COURT ORDER AGREEMENT….even if you don’t like it…show the court, you can co-parent….your feelings towards DWade has to take a back seat when it comes to your kids! Thats why she lost them in the 1st place, putting her feelings for him over her kids. Show the court, you are stable, your emotions are in check and that you are a Independent capable adult, who can take care of her kids! if the kids have games, during your time, GO to those games! become team mom! engage in EVERYTHING! “if” DWade is doing this out of spite, flip it on him….make these things benefit you! It’s all about appearance in the media/court… You know why DWade looks like the greatest guy ever, because everything you see, INVOLVES his kids! Come on Siovaughn step it up!

And Necole on here talking about nobody is offering solutions. I beg to differ because what you just wrote right there is EXACTLY what Siovaughn should be doing. I have kids and let me tell you something, you have to be smart about things. You have to follow the rules. If my kids were taken my brain would be working overtime trying to figure out the SMART and CORRECT way to fight back. Number one, no judge or anyone that can help her is going to take this “protest” seriously. They’re going to want some EVIDENCE and DOCUMENTATION!! If the judge asks her right now to show how she has maintained a stable environment and what has she done to follow the court orders and respect the courts decision. or if the judge wants evidence of DWade not following the agreement or being unfit, what she gone do. What is she gone show them, this damn video of her outside the building. that judge gone be like getcho ******* outta here. come back when you got some proof of what you saying. anybody can say anything but when you go to court you have to PROVE IT

Call it what it is. Her checks STOPS and she now being made to work every day like the rest of us. The more she acts a fool, the more ammunition they have to build a case against her. I wish her well, with the hopes she seeks the proper support needed to get herself together.

Just like when mr. Wade staged her abducting her kids!!! She won that proceeding!! Mr wade is bitter!!! Believe it or not when rich ppl dnt get there way they will cutt off everything. Money rules in situations like this!!! If he so pressed on her why isn´t he paying her money rightfully owed by the court he agreed too??? Cuz the nigga is still pressed what he owes her is chump change he spends on electricity in his mansion!!! Please!! You take my kids, cheat on me, public date someone while we are married, after she nursed him through life when his parents didnt give a damm he was homeless!! Hell yeah ill go crazy too!! Regardless he should be grateful she put effort in getting to the place he is at now even if they didnt work out. If he loved his kids he would not do the shit he doing to there mother soon those kids will get older

I’ve been the other women….Gabrielle union(but not a homewrecka). The mother was granted custody of the kids but she endangered them by allowing them to be sexually assaulted and molested. Social services intervened and granted custody to my husband. Since day one she has put the blame on myself for the removal of her kids. I had nothing to do with her psychological exam and her interviews. Come to find out it was her older son( not my husband son) that were molesting his kids. The custody was in laten terms that the mother was never allowed to see her kids. Although I didn’t agree with the court order we tried to allow visitation with the mother. And you know what her crazy behind did? She order a hit on my husband. Call cops numerously falsifying documents to cops to say that my husband was stealing the kids from her. It got the point where my husband had to carry court documents. When we visited our last time….he had young thugs shooting in the direction of his car. His kids were in the car. That was the last visit. Our lives are far more important before trying to allow her to see the kids. No I don’t feel sorry for Souvagna( spelling). If D Wade has tried and she continues this then it’s a loss case. She will try to lie to her kids and make empty promises. D wade from a women to you: just get your kids counseling. They will turn out fine.

She isnt shame her ex!! She displaying a pattern that rich men try to use there money/fame to get there way!! And if dwade loved his kids so much the nigga would let her see her kids even if it is monitored!!

You label her CRAZY because half of you don’t have the guts to do what she’s doing. She’s fighting money, power, and the ignorance of so many women who are persuaded for the very thing. Gabrielle Union didn’t have any relevance until she got with Dwayde which helped ignite her career again. Yes she’s an actress but a Black D list why you think they’re hooking up with althletes.. Gabrielle never traveled , wore designer clothes up until she got with Dwade.. At age 40 this is a very late bloomer!! Doesn’t he have a Becky pregnant???
Just because it’s not the norm for black women to protest doesn’t men she’s crazy or for that matter anything she’s done. Hell we all know blacks don’t fight for anything and with that said we all know our justice system!!
People stop saying she wants Wade I beg the differ and jealous of Gabby they are equal at best in the looks department Gabby is just more popular!! She wants to be treated fair and not by the size of her $$’s….That’s all .. She is educated and SAVVY!!

…it speaks VOLUMES when a court takes away a mother´s rights to raise her child: VOLUMES about the fitness, actions, attitude and ability of that mother. i don´t think they take it lightly. and there´s enough evidence in the record, both public and private, that shows that she may not well be a “fit mother”.

She and her lawyer, sit with D. Wade and his lawyer and talk like adults about what´s best for the children and not themselves. He´s gone, she has to move on. Shaming him/the public displays can be used against her.

I can’t imagine being in this situation but being a mom first you have to take the emotion out and think abut the children first. No matter if I can’t stand Dwayne Wade I would have try to parent with him because at some point it was good and produce these children, and all that she done for him before the NBA and college I know I he still have a speck of love for her. But when you do outlandish stunts like this your not hurting him, you have school age children and with technology being at arms length of a six year old you have to know this affects your children and who are you making shine Their Father!!! Now what smart sane person keeps an attorney who drops claims that you filed against someone? It’s just insane!!!!’ I know it’s emotional and she’s fighting for time with her boys but she needs to woman up and not do stunts like this. This is a tragedy for all parties and she can always find an attorney to take her case pro bono because it would be high profile.

Why don’t you help her with that- finding an attorney that would work pro bono, be a good lawyer and never fall to temptation should a bribe from the other side come his or her way? I personally wouldn’t volunteer for it cuz it’s hard as hell, then again I wouldn’t say she had that option and it’s so easy not knowing if it could be done or not..

Gloria Alread (or whatever her name is) for one. That white lady HATES men. She would take the case for free.
Anywayz, if she had a legal leg to stand on she wouldn’t be out in the streets looking crazy. Where is your documentation? Where is the proof of everything you are saying. You say you are fit to have custody of your kids. Well lets see: Have you followed the court orders so far? Do you have a statement from a counselor saying that you are in excellent mental health and no threat to the well being of your children? Have you taken any parenting classes or seeked any professional assistance to help you adjust to co-parenting? If your lawyer that is being paid for by your ex husband has done something unethical do you have proof of that? Do you have any updates on what great things you have been doing with your life like volunteer work or just WORK period. What is your home life like? Is your ex abusive to the kids? Do you have voicemails or texts that show your ex being aggressive or abusive to you or your kids? What are some positive things you have going on in your life? ect, ect,
If I was a judge these would be all the questions I would ask. If she cant show proof then a judge is not going to take her seriously.

…i mean, just look at what happened to Tomeka Raymond. different circumstances, but essentially the same thing. besides, nah´r chick ever sang a song in front of a million people nor shot a three pointer in front of one. these ladies should have figured out NOT to pick battles with folks who can throw $millions at lawyers to solve their problems. just a lack of judgement on their part.

Jimi money talks stop acting blind!! Same with trayvon martin case. All those donation frm the klan to George zimmerman helped build a strong defense with the best lawyers! Money talks ppl act so native knowing damm well if the shoes on the other foot it would be a different story. Ppl dnt care until it happens to them!! Im done

I will say this. She needs to understand the media isn’t here to HELP her but only make a fool out of her and it’s potentially hurting her case even more. Even Dr. Phil said to her that SHE needs to own up to what she has done rather than constantly throwing Wade under the bus. She wants to speak about what Wade has done but what has she done? Dr. Phil also said that slandering Wade’s name isn’t going to and hasn’t gotten her what she wants or custody of her kids so she needs to find a new way to go about doing so rather than what she’s doing and he’s right. She’s just giving the media and people something to talk about.

Like someone else said, instead of going out there and constantly trashing Wade’s name, go out there and do things to prove to the courts that you are fit to have joint custody of your children. These interviewers are doing everything to make her look crazy and therefore people are only left to believe that she is crazy. Wade is probably sitting somewhere with Gabrielle Union laughing. She’s just ruining it for herself.

I will also say this though, I can imagine Wade is doing some things out of spite because he knows he can. When you have the money, you have power and because he is paying for her lawyers I’m sure he’s taking advantage of that.

As a mother of 3, I can’t imagine getting my kids taken away from me. As a mother you do all you can to protect your kids from this type of environment. I feel for her in every way as a mother. I really think this is the wrong way to go about it. All she can do is keep proving to the courts that she is a good mother to her boys. This is not helping her one bit. What did Ms. Ex Wade do to lose custody of her children?? Kids should always be left of the adult drama. And I’m sure the boys are old enough to read blogs…

Idk what´s going on behind the scene. but why is Wade working so hard to keep the kids away from their mother.?. People think he´s the father of the year but this is making him look like an asshole. Wish the media would call him out but they won´t so you right Necole its a lose lose for her. Sad

I´m not even annoyed by the negative comments made by men but the ones coming from women are sad, a shame, and pitiful. She´s not out there cause she wants an increase in child support. She´s out there because she wants to be able to spend the small amount of time with her kids that was granted to her. It´s bad enough that she lost custody of them but to then have to keep fighting with someone that basically has unlimited resources as compared to hers. Imagine if you were in her shoes and it was your kids and you were up against an extremely famous multimillionaire and you were being bamboozled by your lawyers cause they´re on his payroll. Imagine that then sit up here and say you wouldn´t be fighting tooth and nail and exhausting all avenues by any means possible to get your babies. GTFOHWTBS. If it were my kids I´d do whatever whenever.

Her lawyers??? Their on his payroll so I wouldn´t trust them with a 10 foot pole. And as far as her history hell he´s been caught in a few lies too so your point again is what? She didn´t lose custody because she´s a danger she lost cause he has more money and pays both lawyers, his and hers. End of story

This is truly unfortunate. To answer Necole’s question, the way she can go about handling the situation is seeking help to become a better woman. We do not know what all is going on behind the scenes, but airing dirty laundry and protesting on the street seems to do more harm than good in this situation. I would do everything I possibly could to be there for my sons and eventually when they get older they will make the choice to see there mother for who she is. If she betters herself I am sure she will recieve the love from her sons. Men love their mamas…I really hope Dwayne is not sabotagging the relationship they NEED from their mother. While I am glad Dwane steps up 100% to be a Father, he also has sone financial gain out of not having to pay Siohvaugn child support since he has full custody.

She has to deal with the pain, hurt, and betrayal first and then get up again. She can do all things through Christ who will give her strength. Seeing this reminds me to never put all my hope and everything into a man, but only to Christ… A manwill fail you, but God never will. Praying for her because she needs it.

Necole: this is exactly why I stopped reading your blogs caeca use you have some of the most holier than thou commenters in the world. If your not famous then your automatically wrong in their eyes. It´s just sad and some of them a good dose of humility and a dash of humanity

Folks kill me when you don´t agree with their position. We either become “haters” or “judgemental” in a situation and who´s to say no one hasn´t walked in her shoes? Working people deal with the same baby momma/baby daddy drama daily, but for some odd reason, celebs get a pass on their fuckery and fooolery. Going out on the street corner, with a home made sign, to protest your distress is NOT the appropriate thing to do, famous or not. You have a issue, the two parents can´t come to an amicable agreement, thus what´s what the courts are for. AND, we wonder why the NATION doesn´t take black folks seriously, thus placing NO VALUE on black lives. Black woman or not, I will not be co-signing foolish antics or behavior. GTFOH with that nonsense!

She’s exhausted just about every method of being heard to the point that she just looks crazy. She needs to take a break and reevaluate the past several years – clear her minds and start fresh. I’ll say it over and over again that therapy works. Just having someone with an unbiased opinion that you can speak to is important.

But think about. Siovaughn, Pilar Sanders, and Tameka Raymond have all lost custody of their children. Now I don’t know them personally, but I’d like to think that the financial wealth and celebrity status of the fathers had a lot more to do with them losing custody that them being unfit.

The person who is losing in the end are the boys, who are missing out on the opportunity to spend time with the mother who birthed them and nurtured them before the divorce. I hope that the fathers aren’t bashing the mothers in front of the children, and I hope the mothers aren’t doing the same.

Girl, that’s why I’m getting me a broke as a joke dude (or on my level financially, not above it) with the best heart I can find and no law, military or police loyalty on his side- just in case I get fooled and misunderstand a good heart for a good feeling…more women should think about it,
seriously…

Don’t go out there thinking a bruised eye is going to get the police coming to the door and writing things accurately if he happens to be on the force. These are real things to consider, may sound funny or paranoid, but how many dead wives have certain officers had before finally being drug into court by their buddies? How many judges have been paid off and so on?

If you end up with someone who ends up having more power than you do in the material and influence areas, there’s morals to save your ass, though.. In choosing, you have to really understand a person on a moral level- not just how you feel they would treat you because he is so damn in love with you- how would he treat his worst enemy? Like Dwade, Is he hitting walls in your mom’s house after she took him in when he had no where to go,..is it easy to feel sorry for him cause he comes from such and such abusive background, well, ****** STOP.

Put on the brakes, and identify if he is morally where he needs to be to keep it going with him. This is the only thing I see that could have saved her ass from getting to this point. These are the kind of changes that need to happen for a lot of women when they choose a guy and vice versa, (not blaming her, we nearly all choose poorly when we first start choosing)… not that it’s easy to see things so clearly when you start out in school together and he’s so endearingly pathetic at a time where he’s leaning on your shoulder and living in your momma’s house, like Siouvahgn experienced (couldn’t spell that woman’s name appropriately if I tried). May peace and love come on everyone’s hearts involved and justice be served. In the mean time, this is one of the biggest signs you can get to start a power-balanced initiative for both your ***** and your heart. Don’t let her story not influence in some positive way. I’m being a fool but there’s truth in this, especially you young ones, I hope you hear it.

Anyways, this lady is going to be alright..Like someone said she does need to deal with the pain that she’s been given in just going through all the b.s. with the courts and the lawyers and media, start letting it out with a professional so that energetically some kind of chips can be thrown in her favor by greater forces than the ones in his pocket. She already said she was leaning on God, lean harder, girl, sit on your bible if you have to, do things to feel good, do something for yourself, don’t stay in the misery, get yourself feeling emotionally well enough to the point where when the cameras are watching you will appear as put together as Jesus himself. There is power in a good feeling. It’s easy for me to say what she has to do when I have no idea what it feels like to have your kids taken away and the world, perhaps even those same kids, turned against you..or even worse feeling you how they wish they could be with you to avoid being harmed by their father. Wishing her love.

She needs a lot of good spirit on her side whether or not she actually wins any fight to have court orders followed. At this point, she may need to just keep it together long enough for them to come find her at age eighteen and actually not be completely turned against her when they do. I’m hoping it’s a better outcome than that, but if it’s not, between now and then, I hope she regains some happiness and peace in her heart, If she can rise above this and still have good feelings in her heart, still be grateful to be alive, than she’ll have been made stronger than most of us out here.

…this chick needs sum serious “re-balancing” in her life. any woman who goes out on the streets in such a “retail” fashion to talk shit about the father of her children with random people on those streets clearly has issues to go far and beyond the normal custody fights that we´re accustomed to hearing about.

An alternative to the situation would be to fire the attorney, go to law school where you could possibly represent yourself, pick up a trade or get a J.O.B. instead of waiting on D. Wade to hit you up with child support. Propose to your new attorney to find an alternate time for you to spend time with your kids. If your kids are that important to you, find a way of communicating with Gabby and/or D. Wade at the same time and leave the media out of this. All they’ll do is cause more trouble for you.

If what she is saying is true, what harm will it do D Wade to let her spend time with her children? I don´t know any of their personal history but I do know first hand dealing with the legal system can be exhausting. And if he has money, which clearly he does, she will have to use her better resources and be her own lawyer. Sitting on the street can get her sued if anything she states is not true. It´s a sad situation, none the less

Yikes! I watched the video. Her lawyer appears to be cold blooded. If DWade pays her lawyers…welp…we know how that goes…”money is power.” I feel for her. Just by hearing the small pieces of this video, it doesn´t add up though. I hope she gets a new lawyer, if she hasn´t already, and this can all be fixed. At the end of the day, no parent should be denied to see their kids, unless for whatever reason the judge see fits. It sounds like DWade is fighting her for whatever reason, to keep her away from the kids?? Sad, to see that it´s come this. SMH.

I am a mother of three and i don’t feel sorry for her not one bit…you guys keep saying because he has money and power he got the kids,well what about Britney and kevin she had the money and still lost her kids because of her actions.

Wow, it’s so disappointing and upsetting to see all the posters on here, most of which i can assume are women, bringing this lady down with all sorts of names and saying she’s crazy, scorned, etc. While I agree this may not be the best way to go about this, one can clearly see this woman is at her wit’s end. She’s not crazy, she’s fiesty and she’s fed up. Not being allowed to see TWO children that you carried in your womb, nursed, and took care of would drive ANY sane, loving mother “crazy.” I watched the video and I believe her when she says she doesn’t want his money, just her freedom to play her role as their mother.

As for questions as to why she can’t just get a career of her own and move on and support herself, remember, marriage is a partnership. While Wade was on the road, absent from the home numerous days out of the month, she HAD to be home to provide some type of stability for those kids. Imagine trying to get back in the job market after all those years of not building your resume by as much as a punctuation mark. Hell, those of us with advanced degrees still struggle to get great jobs. It’s going to take a while to get over the pain of not having that kind of sacrifice amount to anything. Also remember that while Wade’s mom was battling her drug addiction, her family took him in and supported him. No matter what happened between them as husband and wife, show your appreciation and respect for ALL her sacrifice, let her have free access to the children that the two of you produced!

To Siouvaghn: let this be the last time you speak on this publicly. America loves seeing and clasifying black women as “crazy” and angry and money talks so as Necole said, this is a lose-lose for you. Get a new lawyer, go to therapy and spend some time in the Word and surrounding yourself with positive people of faith who will not only pray for you but for the well being of your children and for God’s will, not man’s, to be done in this situation. Find something profitable you are good at, and invest your time and energy into that. Success is the best revenge, trust.

Major side note: Wade belongs in the same hiprocrite boat with Dwight Howard, both of them parading around like perfect Christian boys while one has like 4 children by 4 women handing out gag orders left and right while the other clearly committed adultery (I don’t care if you’ve been separated for 1,000 years, if you are still legally married, in the eyes of God and the law, it’s adultery). What they don’t remember is that if the mother of your children is suffering, your children suffer. Being a good father also means being concerned about the well-being of your kids’ mother. That’s why, despite his many faults, I respect Diddy as a father. He may be a whore but he takes care of his children AND their mothers. The other two don’t fool me with their act.

“While Wade was on the road, absent from the home numerous days out of the month, she HAD to be home to provide some type of stability for those kids Imagine trying to get back in the job market after all those years of not building your resume by as much as a punctuation mark.”

Women who have never seen the lap of luxury do this everyday. They hold down the home-front, while balancing a career. There’s really no excuse for her to not have any marketable and transferable job skills. She had the capital to start her own small business with a small staff. She could’ve also worked from home. Heck, she could’ve gone into non-profit and start her an organization. She wouldn’t gotten paid, but she’d have the skills that you say she lacks.

“let her have free access to the children that the two of you produced!”

Nope, if the children’s health & well-being are being jeopardized, a parent (whether it be mother or father) jeopardizes their access to them. Even more so, it’s not solely about the mother or father. It’s about the children’s health & well-being.

“her family took him in and supported him. No matter what happened between them as husband and wife, show your appreciation and respect for ALL her sacrifice”

I don’t think her family did that expecting something in return. Or maybe they did, Idk and idc. But once again, it’s not only about HER. All the sacrifice in the world wouldn’t mean s*** if those children are in unhealthy situations.

“Being a good father also means being concerned about the well-being of your kids’ mother.”

No, being a good father is about being a good father….to your CHILDREN. What you described is more on the lines of being a good samaritan or an enabler (whichever way you want to look at it) but D. Wade is under no obligation to do either. Especially, since there are already arranged visitations for Siohvaughn AND alimony. What more do you want him to do?

The wording on her poster could´ve been different, if it´s not true. The way the poster was written and how she was laying on the mat portrayed her as being literally “on the streets.” If it is true, then I´m glad she´s okay.

It went from bashing him because he left her on the streets to bringing up his life with GU pick one and stick with it! Did yall not forget this is the same woman that went in a court room BEFORE GU and stated he gave her an std and abandoned the children while he was in the playoffs and come to find out that she gave it to him? All we see is this relationship with GU and trying to paint him as this person and if you go back to the beginning when she 1st started to do crazy mess you´ll see why people are calling her mental! Bottom line he moved on the divorce was final you don´t see Swiss beat BM or any of these celebrity BM who was left in public out here acting a ass like this!

I hate desperate Black women. Oh she is hurt…..get over it!!! Who in he hell is dating or married to their high school sweetheart? Her ass is crazy and pathetic. He don´t want you anymore and a judge has declared her crazy ass unfit to raise her own kids….smh.

Maybe instead of feeling sorry for herself, she can get up off the ground and start an outreach program to teach girls the perils of fame. Explain the ugly side of being the wife of a famous man and why it´s important to have your own.

we have courts for that and how we know she don´t see her kids. courts took them from her for a reason i am sure she got visitation . but when you try to kidnap they that´s pretty much a done deal. grow up be a responsible person show the courts you will be a great mother and maybe you have get you rights back. this is not the way to do it.

This is why woman need to do for self and have a good support group as men always have a plan “B” and a thirsty slore lined up anddd,, they are so trifling they take your kids know if their money is long…we must safeguard our assets, don´t spend your money or his on BS, invest and/or stash it if you married to the game as he will spend it on the next… above all never compromise yourselves…you are either the victim or the victor, there are NO grey areas!! #LoveThySelf

Please spare me with all of this he took her kids…they are HIS kids too. What is so wrong with a dad fighting just as hard as a mom to get and win custody of his kids. Women complain about men being no good and don´t want to spend any time with their kids, and here you have a man who fought for and won custody of his kids. I see nothing wrong with that!! And yes he has MONEY, but does that make his wanting his kids even less…No. And yes he has moved on and is living with another woman who is helping to raise his kids. How many times do women do the very same thing? I´m also tired of people calling Gabrielle Union a home wrecker. You can´t wreck home that´s already been wrecked by the occupants of that home. He cheated, she cheated as well and used HIS money to keep the man she cheated with…buying him an apartment and all that…who does that. I have no sympathy for her. I can guarantee that she has already been told what she needs to do in order to regain visitation rights and I´ll bet anything that it was NOTHING like this!!

I do believe he is paying her $35000/MTH or some amount and she doesn´t even have the kids… if she can´t make it off of $3500 a month and doesn´t have to pay child support… and she doesn´t find it feasible to GET a JOB… then her a$$ is suppose to be homeless… Women need to stop this foolishness.. get a job… hell I have one and I don´t get an additional income and YES I am a BMW… Black Mother Working!!! and I have survived and so have my children and they weren´t sending not even $500 a mth for child support I own my home, work everyday, mother of a college graduate who went to PRIVATE college 4yrs(and she had a child at 20 and still got her DEGREE) and of a son who wore a size 13 shoe at 12… If I had to buy one shoe and lay the other one away… he never had his feet on the ground and I make UNDER $50k a year and NEVER GOT FOOD STAMPS OR WELFARE… this chick needs to GROW up and accept the fact she lost the man to stupidity… put her big girl boots on and walk it out and in the direction of a JOB INTERVIEW!!! PERIOD!!!

After reading some of the comments on here, my question is – what is best for their kids? This is not going to help her get her rights back. She had up to almost 7 different lawyers to quit or fired and a judge to order a psychological evaluate for her during the divorce/custody battle. It is sad that she is going through this. But my heart and sympathy go out to their kids. And it is sad that some of y’all think that it is okay for her to act out this way. How does sitting on a mat with sign talking about NBA helping her case? Her friend that is sitting beside should be praying with her, talking to her about what is best for her kids and going to court with her to show support. Does anyone cares what the kids are feeling or thinking? I honestly think this man fought for kids because he felt like they were endangered by the erratic behavior exhibit by their mom. Remember DWade’s mom was on drugs and his sister took him to his father to be raise. I feel he is trying to protect hem. And just because you have the title of mother, it doesn’t always mean that person is a good mother or parent.

I mean looking into this story, it’s sad and what not, but why is it shocking to some of you that most of the posters aren’t that sympathetic towards this woman? And just because she is a woman and most of us on here are women does not mean that EVERYONE is going to side with an individual because he or she is the same sex. When you look at the facts it’s not very hard to point out who is in the wrong when it comes to the safety of the children.

Looking at this picture above…I mean what else is left to say? This is the same woman who pretty much kidnapped her own kids and prevented them from going to see their father play in the playoffs They’ve been separated/divorced for what? Four years? She got her kids taken away for many plausible reasons, but looking at this picture I can presume that it has to do with her mental state. Maybe D. Wade feels like his children aren’t safe with her. And I don’t blame him for taking his kids.

The hell are you sitting up on the street for with a sign that says, “…Mother of his children on the streets,” when you were getting paid more than the average single mom who receives alimony?? What the hell were you DOING with that money? And why are you protesting? So to Necole and all the rest of you sympathizing with her….Yes, it’s sad that her children have been taken away from her, but consider WHY that happened. I don’t know D.Wade personally, but I don’t think he would do this out of spite. He may have been trying to reconcile and come to an agreement. However, that’s probably a hard thing to do with someone who acts out like this. And she definitely could have gone about this differently. I pity the kids who probably want to see their mother more than anything, but it’s clear she not in her right mind. She’s got to seek counseling first and then prove that she is fit to have her kids. How is an individual supposed to take care of children when he or she can’t take of themselves both mentally and physically?

lol, you went through all that and found one incorrectly spelled word and decided to point it out…geez, you should look at my posts- I don’t have no patience for spell check Any corrections forthcoming? I don’t agree with most of what she’s saying but ****** the woman can write and likely spell pretty well, too.

Her claim, and learning that alone would be the aftermath of looking past one picture, is that she wasn’t receiving the support, that financially he wasn’t following court orders at that time and since then he hasn’t followed them…so, if that’s not an argument to look past appearances and actually take time to hear, read and research the person you’re claiming is wrong before claiming they’re wrong based on a picture, what would persuade you to do so? I wasn’t amazed at the fact that women were shaming her, that’s what many women do when they’re embarrassed by another woman’s behavior- but, if that embarrassment of enough to stop you from preceding with as much attention as you gave to the other side, that doesn’t exactly make you a wise person willing to look beyond gender loyalty to see the truth- it just makes you reactionary.

Fact: Her signs says, “NBA Miami Heat Star Mother of his children on the streets.”

Why are you on the streets? Who put you there? How did this happen?

I’m not saying she’s lying but at the same the time I don’t think the whole truth is being spoken. She’s got some responsibility in it. The same claim she’s making now is the same one Wade was making, was it last year? She wouldn’t let him see the kids either. And if she wants her kids back, how is the court going to grant her request with actions like this? She’s got to show some STABILITY. Mentally, physically, and financially. Mentally and Financially being the MOST important if she wants her kids back. And one thing she NEEDS to do is come to an AGREEMENT with Wade on what works best for them and STICK to it.

THANK YOU! This has been my point this whole time. She can tell the world what Dwyane Wade has done but what has SHE done? She didn’t just lose her kids out of no where, there was a reason for that, something she did that caused them to be taken away. Instead of sitting on the street telling the world what Wade has done she needs to think about what SHE has done and how she can go about changing the situation to get her kids back or at least get more visitation.

And I agree with someone else who said she wants sympathy. In the interviews I’ve seen she’s constantly talking about all the amazing things she and her family have done for Wade but all the bad things Wade has done to her. I’m sure she has played a part in this as well. Even when she’s talking about her family taking Wade in and all of you commenting are saying, “WOW, after she took him in he does this?” I feel like that’s her goal like to get that reaction out of you and make you think wow he’s a terrible person. Just my opinion. No one has to agree.

This woman is just crazy. How can she ask to see her children if she´s embarrassing herself and acting like this. This is not a good example at all. I have no sympathy for her at all. I´m glad Dwayne upgraded and moved on to Miss Gabby.

She could have went this way. How else do people take notice? She never said she was homeless. Kudos for her getting her rights heard. Mothers who fight against sports figures are always tore down in the media.

One alternative, she should practice the stand your ground law and pop wade right in his damn head! Try it Savaughn! As u know, you just might walk…be damned if a n.igga take my kids! You gon die tryna take mines n.igga!

I have given up feeling sorry for this woman! She has created a mess and now wants to blame everyone for it. If I wasn’t a law student I woul listen to her words and believe her but no matter who pays the lawyer, his/her responsibility is to the client. Your lawyer cannot drop a suit because the person your suing pays the lawyer fee and neither can that person dictate how your lawyer handles your case. That lawyer can lose his license be banned from practice law and most of all be charged and sentenced because it is a crime! So she is a flat out liar in that regards! Also if her main objective is the kids where is suit filed to change her visitation agreement? There are other ways she can be tryin to accomplish this than acting a plumb fool! Lastly she has disrespected the court in so many ways! All of this is public record so you can view it for yourselves. Any mother that who has their kids best interest at heart would be mindful of the things she does so as not to affect their well being and cause them any embarassment! I would also like to point out that all the while she is doing this her ex has never said anything bad about her or did the Dwight Howard and sued her for anything! Girl get it together and be the mother your sons would be proud of!

Sonji did you actually read the article or even watch the video? This has NOTHING at all to do with money. Plus it´s called spousal support something any woman that spent a significant amount of time with their spouse who makes way more than them will get. In fact even military wives receive a portion of their ex spouses retirement if they divorce and have been married at least 10 years of the time spent in duty, and that´s automatic, doesn´t matter who divorced who it why or who makes how much so obviously those who make decisions believe that playing the supporting role as a spouse entitles you to something. But technically that´s neither here nor there in this situation cause its not about money it´s about seeing her kids. It´s not about doing it for child support either cause she´s just asking for that the time she was granted be uninterrupted.

1.) They need to learn how to communicate with one another so that they can co-parent together.
She is accusing Wade of the same thing he accused her of last year. Wade said she was not allowing him to see his kids during his court ordered visitations. They BOTH need to learn how to co-parent together effectively. That is NOT something the courts can teach them. They have to sit down and discuss how they are going to be the best parents for their children COLLECTIVELY.

2) I do think that she needs to seek counseling as well because she is probably struggling with how to move on from her marriage.

3) She has to make better decisions because if she want to get her kids back or at least joint custody actions like this will not be tolerated by any judge.

I see this ALL the time with my friends/family. The parents do not get along and there is always some drama and someone accusing the other of wrong doing. Parents need to learn to put the BS aside and focus on parenting. Communication is key. Clearly Wade and his ex do not communicate with one another and that is where they need to start so that they can rebuild a bad relationship for the sake of the kids. I hope they can work things out. The children are the ones who will hurt the most and I hope that she can find love again. Because as long as she continue to carry around hurt, angry and pain she will always be unhappy.

I would love for him to do that and then all his dirt will be in the media. Take it from someone who works for a media defense law firm (defamation, libel, false light, invasion of privacy), HE DOES NOT WANT THAT.

i’m not a mother, but I don’t know a mother walking who wouldn’t go bat-crap crazy if the courts took her children away from her. not only did Sioghvaugh lose custody of her children, but she lost her husband (a man that she’s known since childhood), and her kids have just about lost their relationship with her side of the family… I think i heard her say that her parents haven’t seen the boys in a year?! c’mon; that’s so far from cool. no matter what D Wade thinks of her or feels about her personally, her parents were there for him when his own family was not. if he doesn’t want to deal with her, he needs to at least figure out a way to allow his sons to see sioghvaughn’s parents. i can’t imagine what any of that is like.

the unfortunate thing is that she’s not the only former basketball wife/girlfriend who’s going through this… Chris Bosh has uprooted to a new state to keep from paying his daughter’s mother child support and is in the midst of seeking full-custody of the girl. the mother tried to tell her story to whoever would listen, but very few people did. Royce and Dwight Howard… whatever you feel about her, that big goof is suing her for millions and trying to take her son away. how are these women supposed to act under those kinds of circumstances? when you’re a woman and your ex is rich and in fairly decent standing within the court of public opinion and in the court system in general (some of these judges are fans), you’re facing a tough, tough fight.

the only thing I can think to offer as a solution is that she try to seek out others who’ve gone through something similar, but who may have had better outcomes. Rupert Murdoch’s second wife comes to mind… he pretty much tried to destroy that woman professionally. their children were adults by the time they divorced, but she stuck it to him… even though she’s hurt by d wade’s actions, if she wants her kids back and/or more visitation time, she needs to shift gears. fire that lawyer and see if Gloria Allred is available. try to arrange a meeting with Juanita Jordan or one of the Murdoch wives… Steven Spielberg’s first wife came out of their divorce with joint custody of her son and $100 million… she’s got to focus more on getting what she wants, and less on who’s done her wrong. I wish her the best.

Didn´t she fire 9 lawyers during the divorcE and they had to place handcuffs on her b/4 she appeared in court? Hey, I hear she is workn on that Law degree. Did she say Wade pay the lawyer who filed the STD claim and the recent million dollar lawsuit for Mr. Wade
endorsement. She indicates the lawyer filed both motions w/o her knowledge.

She doing that isn´t doing anything in her favor except for putting attention on her.If she wanted to get or see her kids she should talk it out with her lawyer and have him talk to ex husband lawyer and see if they could work out something so she could at least talk to and see her kids. Or she could just pray.

SHE DON’T NEED TO PROTEST…. SHE CHOSE TO PROTEST BECAUSE SHE KNEW THIS PROTESTS FOR TRAYVON MARTIN WAS COMING UP AND DECIDED TO PROTEST FOR HERSELF…STUPID IS STUPID DOES…IF MY MAN EVER LEAVES ME I WAS INDEPENDENT BEFORE HE GOT ME WITH A GOOD JOB AND PAID OFF CAR AND I’LL BE GOOD WITHOUT HIM AS WELL…THAT’S WHY EVEN IF YOUR MAN GETS FAMOUS IT’S GOOD TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL OR CLIMB UP IN THE WORLD YOURSELF SO JUST IN CASE HE LEAVES YOU KNOW HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT ALL OR SOME OF HIS MONEY…GIRL PLEASE GET YOUR LIFE SIOVAUGHN! NOBODY KNOWS WHAT TRULY HAPPENED IN THAT MARRIAGE BUT HIM AND HER AND GOD #1 …BUT I’M JUST SAYING;SIOVAUGHN SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAN DRAWING ATTENTION TO HERSELF WHEN EVERYONE WAS PROTESTING FOR TRAYVON AND HIS FAMILY ALL THIS WEEK INCLUDING THIS WEEKEND…SOMEONE IS DEAD AT LEAST SHE’S STILL ALIVE…SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN PROTESTING WITH EVERYONE ELSE THIS WEEK AND WEEKEND FOR THE LAWS TO CHANGE AND FOR TRAYVON INSTEAD OF THIS MESS.

If what she is saying is true then the BEST solution is to make a voice for herself by like so many are saying..shift gears. She HAS to remove all financial ties with that man. I know it might seem difficult but nothing speaks independence then by her standing financially on her own. The court system will only look at her like she is using him for money. Its CRAZY to have that man paying your lawyer. She definitely needs to do her homework and reach out to allies. I understand the pain but this is definitely not the solution. Anything and everything can be made as a case against her. This article could be used to prove insanity which will only push her even more to the edge. Wow this is a tough one.

I am not a D. Wade fan but after his ex wife’s antics I would never want to remarry again. I would be SHOCKED in he gave Gabby a ring.

I feel for any parent that can not see there kids, but it takes ALOT for the courts to award custody to a father over a mother. I hope she gets her life on track because she has made this divorce a train wreck.

And you better believe, it took work for her to lose those kids. For a whole year after the divorce was final, she disregarded visitation orders, blew off court dates.and ignored judgments. You name it, she did it. The judge warned her, over and over and over again, that she was in real danger of losing custody if she didn’t start complying with his orders. She left him no choice.

What is the end game here?? If the goal for Siovaughn is getting her boys back, this won’t do it. In fact, the only thing stunts like this do is push her further away from her sons. But if you tell me her goal is to bring as much misery on herself and her ex-husband as possible…mission accomplished.

Necole asked what else should Siovaughn do?? She has seemingly done everything. I beg to differ. There is one thing Siovaughn has not done throughout this entire ordeal of the divorce and the custody battle and it has cost her dearly….COMPLY. When you get caught in a rip current, don’t swim against it. That will just take you further out until you exhaust yourself and drown. You swim alongside it and you will eventually hit the shore. Take the available visitation, see those boys whenever possible and build on that. What she needs is a track record of compliance. Take 6 months. Stay outta court. Stop with the frivolous lawsuits. Stop with the stunts. Just focus on the boys and building back her relationship.

AMEN GELLIE4875!!! That was the most simple yet effective solution that I have read on this miserable a*s*s post. That rip current analogy was spot on. All that she has done is fight it from day one instead of complying, showing a track record of good behavior and then refiling for joint custody. Her crazy antics got her kids taken away and all that she has done since then is get crazier. This behavior is hurting her more then it will ever hurt him.

I Knew her ass was not Homeless, she needs to let it or him go and move the hell on. Shit she is getting more Money than a Lot of Women are getting Right Now, and right or Wrong the Court gave the Kids to Him for a Reason none of the Public Knows what the hell happened with them. She Needs to Shut the Hell up Before the Middle of the Truth comes up and she don´t get Shit. What She did is Defame His Name and Courts Look at that if he wants to be mean. Yeah i Said it and I Stand by my WORDS..

Nobody believes in a good protein conditioner or a quality quick weave anymore? I’m no Kim Kimble, but I know there are various ways for a black woman to sport a nice looking head of hair without paying for it or paying hundreds of dollars at that.

I am sorry but I just don’t buy it. I am an attorney and there are SERIOUS repercussions for not doing what is the best interest of your client. If a claim being bought to the court is frivolous it is your job as a competent attorney to withdraw. So I don’t believe her lawyers are going behind her back doing things without consulting her first. And if I am not mistaken this is not the first set of lawyers she has had. I understand that she wishes to have a more amicable arrangement to see her children but CHILE this is not the way. If she is not careful they may require supervised visits with her children based on this behavior alone. This is counter productive. If you notice D. Wade has said absolutely nothing, which is smart on his behalf. I don’t know who the better parent is because I don’t know them personally but this is not helping her one iota.

People want to throw Sio a pity party and talk about how devastated she was to lose her kids. It’s been 2 years since that happened, and nothing has changed. Why?? Because her focus hasn’t changed. She wants her pound of flesh, and has sacrificed everything to get it. If she had taken a moment after losing her kids to gather herself and re-set her priorities she might have them back by now. But it’s still more important for her to be heard and to be able to tell the world what a horrible SOB of husband she had than it is to be a mother to her kids. There’s an old saying – when seeking revenge, remember to dig TWO graves.

He straight up black balling her and leaving her out to try. From what i read, her main issue seems to be that he is taking away her rights as a MOTHER. When it is her time..let her have her time! Simple. Its the USA so anyone who says D isnt using his fame, money and power to hangle the situation, your crazy!.Again, we are in the USA…thats what celebs and atheletes do with their money and fame. You didnt think they actually used it for a good cause did you?!?!?!?

Siovaughn is at her wits end and my heart goes out to her. She obviously feels helpless to resort to such measures. She is financially solvent, however her money is nothing compared to the power that D. Wade has with his money. Siovaughn should surround herself around positive people (real friends would not have allowed this) and get a conservative feminist attorney that could give a damn about sports & men.

Damn, I just read this woman’s biography. She is not a bird, by any means. Of course we know she met D.Wade in high school, but she is also very educated. She has two bachelors degrees, a masters, and a PHD. Her sister, with whom she was very close with, died in college. Before this I was always calling her bat **** crazy, but honestly I don’t know anymore. I just hope she finds the peace within herself to move on, she is a woman of faith.

God is good. And typically, after I post my comment (below yours)–I’m out..I don’t come back and re-read the same blogs thread on blogs etc. (unless my text sent me a message that somebody replied and wants me to come see ‘em)…

At any rate, I don’t get all into domestic and people personal situations with these public figures but I DO think it’s terrible how people can run the lesser known one into the ground without having done ANY research enough to know anything about the other party and will rip them to shreds over merely feeling that because they [think they “know” the public figure-they know him/her]. THAT’S what’s insane-not this lady…

Either way though, to his benefit or hers-the ex wife’s; I wouldn’t have taken the time to research anything about her because [although he’s a public figure and she is doing something so public that she leaves herself open to public opinion] because their situation is domestic, it’s just way too much to have an opinion about.

But thank you for taking the time to offer some redeeming qualities of a woman who we all know nothing about and is being ripped a new whole over fighting a fight that we all never will truly understand. So, thank you for offering something positive and enlightening about this lady. Enjoy your day.

I’ve never been one of those broads that knew about, cared about, or was concerned about the lives of ballplayers, their “trangressions” or imperfections etc., and I know nothing about this Dwayne Wade fiasco other than what’s been spewed across the Internet of the past few years-and I leave it at that (no matter what I read or where I read it at).

If anybody knows [of] me-my name—when I put my name on something; I’m a writer whose no-holds-barred and objectively straight to the POINT—no matter HOW strong my opinion, point of view, or take is on the subject.

But as opinionated as I am, and as much as I like to offer my point of view [in which I try and look at from all sides/four corners], you rarely, if ever, will catch me speaking about (and especially commenting anywhere online), my point of view or opinion about any situation having to with two people (domestic and personal) because there is ALWAYS more than BOTH sides are willing to share with the PUBLIC.

I can speak on that [part] because I wrote a WHOLE book to a public with which there are some things I PURPOSELY omitted (believe it or not—for the protection of myself and the “other party…”) Whereas, to get my POINT across—I opened [the parts to the public + for the people in my private life] that I felt they wanted to know, and for the public; what I felt they should know…in my (then) fight to make what was wrong-right.

Understand something people.

Sometimes, bringing something to the PUBLIC is just “stepping stool” of sorts-a literal platform in which the only and real true reasons (outside of what the parties involved know), is to call attention to the other party whom you and your situation concerns—the PUBLIC—(you), are just a VEHICLE to let the OTHER PARTY know that [whatever they did-WRONG] will not be kept private and E S P E C I A L L Y if their “neighborhood” IS the public.

When you “beat somebody’s ****” you best beat somebody’s **** IN THEIR OWN NEIGHBORHOOD…You MEET THEM WHERE THEY’RE AT.

DWAYNE WADE …just so happens to be a public figure, so, his ex-wife’s fight is best served PUBLICLY.

But understand something, it’s not really FOR your attention as it is to GET/CALL OUT HIS ATTENTION, because a private wrangle is something he’ll [continue?] to ignore, but when you hop [on] that “vehicle” and come to HIS “neighborhood,” he, his people, and all involved, take heed and do what their handlers train them best to do when there is more to the story and other truths they don’t want to be in the public: Go silent. Ignore it away.

Fortunately, I’m not at odds [with whom I was concerned]…and too, they aren’t with me, because there is more to it.

But they [that “other party”] knows me well, and know that when I’m mishandled, I will get my respect-by all means necessary. If you use that hand to eff me (and I when say eff me [over], I do not mean “scorn,” or feeling slighted and other emotional b/s because that’s CERTAINLY not my case-I assure you)…But I mean, eff me by over-stepping my boundaries, I will cut that ****** hand off, and when you get it sewn back on; we can shake hands on that same effed up hand of yours and carry on.

If I’m effed over by someone in my own (literal) neighborhood, then I’m gonna see her in the streets, or I’m knocking on her literal door, or I’m going to knock on the door of that white man’s courtroom.

But if I’m effed over by someone [who too] knows, that I’ve given you chance after chance to get your $#//|t right when handling me, and you don’t, well then you leave me with no other option or choice but to meet YOU…in your neighborhood: The Public (at the expense of not even giving a F&//(K a bunch of Facebook, Twitter and blog posters think or say about me.

Because again, the parties involved know what’s up-over what all of you DO NOT KNOW…

I know that talking slick on blogs, Twitter and Facebook etc. is all the rave now, but some $#//|t just oozes with: “this is something that I should probably lay low and fall back on.”

Because understand something else too people, when somebody is fighting somebody with money, fame, and a world of people at their feet; they are fighting a different kind of fight that you will NEVER understand. ( http://bit.ly/17vDIsh )
Special provisions are made for the Dwayne Wade’s of the world unlike fighting with a Dwayne Brown (from the neighborhood). And you have NO idea what is truly going on or what happened with Dwayne Wade and this woman, you only know what’s hit the Internet. All dealings with celebrities and the effed up $#//|t they sometimes do don’t extend to tacky stripper life, baby mama drama, leaked texts, and cries of rape.

What you DON’T know, is that SOMETIMES, the bigger REAL and TRUE, and more shocking things are carefully protected and swept under the rug, and pretty much all of it can be hushed and controlled by his fame, and money, and regular person’s gloves are NOT big enough to fight that, so they gotta design their own fight…
And when they get on that “vehicle” and step up on that “platform” and yell through that bullhorn, **** DOES get done—whether you know it or not…

That’s not only (literally) none of your business, but something you will NEVER EVER understand. Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease understand and know that much. ‘Cause all the rest of this is just gum-bumping.

So what’s MY opinion about it?

*sniff sniff*
This OOZES having more to the story-hence why it hit the public that she was going to do it before she did it [sat outside in this manner]. What it looks like to me is–what it is she originally was going to get out there and say [to the public] she is literally sitting out there on the ground [on]. But the fact that she is out there and got yall’s attention is her warning shot-to him perhaps [that she can get the world’s attention and drop that dime if wanted to]…So, I’m not gonna call her “crazy” just yet, or feel I have the right to feel she should “move on,” because it’s probably not even about that.

Whatever her reasons are, and why, don’t judge her (or situations between two people simply because ONE of them happen to be famous and rich and you already feel like you actually KNOW one of the parties-therefore the lesser known one is “crazy”). Don’t do that. There is really nothing anyone should, can, (or could do but just: watch).

I call her buff.
If she wants her kids so bad she wouldn´t go the media route to bash their father bring up the fact he´s an NBA player. It´s obvious she wants money and attention too. The judge will not give her full custody of the boys, especially, the fact she said time to time he has money issues.

It´s other ways to settle and she´s knows, most people with some sense knows you don´t need to run to the media for pity….

She is crazy!!!!
The courts in Chicago took her kids away from her and gave them to DW, because she was out of her mind and neglected the kids badly, even though he was paying child support to her…
Furthermore, she is not homeless. She is staging a protest because her latest court case was dismissed.
She received a $1 million divorce settlement and $25 k each month in alimony. This heifer needs to stop the madness!!! SMH

MOST OF YOU KEEP SAYING TAKE IT UP WITH THE COURT SYSTEM, BUT ISNT THAT WHAT TRAYVON MARTIN’S PARENTS DID & YOU SEE HOW THE COURT SYSTEM FAILED THEM. PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO BELIEVE HER B/C SHE’S NOT FAMOUS AND DWAYNE IS. HE HAS TONS OF FANS WHO WILL BELIEVE EVERYTHING HE SAYS. PLUS A MAJORITY OF MALE ATHLETES/RAPPERS/ENTERTAINERS ALWAYS TALK ABOUT WOMEN IN A DISRESPECTFUL MANNER AND LABEL THEM AS GOLD DIGGERS WHEN THE WOMAN DOESN’T ABIDE BY THEIR RULES. SHE’S CLEARLY NOT A GOLD DIGGER SHE DOESN’T WANT MONEY JUST TO SPEND TIME WITH HER KIDS, AND FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO AGREE WITH HIM SCHEDULING BB CAMP ON HER TIME ARE INSANE. HOW CAN YOU NOT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT, HE WOULD HAVE A FIT IF IT WAS HER WHO SCHEDULE CAMP DURING HIS TIME, HE’D BLOW A FUSE. IT’S UNFAIR. RIGHT IS RIGHT AND WRONG IS WRONG, AND NO MATTER HOW FAMOUS HE IS OR HOW MUCH MONEY HE HAS…HE IS DEAD WRONG #POINTBLANKPERIOD

If I´m not mistaken she said they would have left her alone and left her with her kids if she had shut her mouth about him in public…for MY kids I´d sign a gag order and NEVER say his name….just like Royce had to…you could talk about me till the cows come home…I would just want my kids not my VOICE like she is asking for…

Rich men get their kids all the time… Shaq has his, but at some point you let it go and work together for your kids sake…no sympathy for her…she doesn´t want her kids she wants to be heard…and we hear…

Everyone posting on this website and many others know how the media is! They post what they want you to know and twist stories around to SELL magazines/newspapers and to get clicks
on their websites just like GlobalGrind their titles are the MOST misleading!

If this NBA player was a 9 to 5er and simply had it out with his ex-wife would all of you bash her then? Or would he be another ******* baby daddy?

I hate stories like this when none of us know what is really going on and yet you jump on the DWADE bandwagon!!!

There are so many single mothers raising children some fighting for custody some don’t get no child support etc etc try to put yourself in HER shoes think how she feels dealing with an NBA players in this situation more money to do destructive things like take away her children and not even try to work things out! Stop feeding into the media and search for the truth! There are 2 sides to every story and only ONE is the truthful side!

If you want your kids back, you just have to show that your are capable of being a good parent. You have got to do it for your kids. And the last thing to do is looking like you are crazy on the street. You don’t need money to be a great parent.

*SMH*…..and as I said before, she didnt appear to be homeless. New outfit, shoes, sew in and friends around you holding up signs….

In my opinion, she needs to get herself together mentally and emotionally, find out what (she) likes, get a job, find a hobby, nurture a new “healthy” friendship or relationship ….and maybe the courts will see her in a different light. Hell, maybe Dwayne will even see her in a different light. And she also needs to —just… let…go… of Dwayne. Its really, really over and thats just something she will have to live with.

No one can treat this woman any worse than she treats herself. She also may want to take some time away to forgive “herself”… I dont think she’s done that yet.

*SMH*…..and as I said before, she didnt appear to be homeless. New outfit, shoes, sew in and friends around you holding up signs….

In my opinion, she needs to get herself together mentally and emotionally, find out what (she) likes, get a job, find a hobby, nurture a new “healthy” friendship or relationship ….and maybe the courts will see her in a different light. Hell, maybe Dwayne will even see her in a different light. And she also needs to —just… let…go… of Dwayne. Its really, really over and thats just something she will have to live with.

No one can treat this woman any worse than she treats herself. She also may want to take some time away to forgive “herself”… I dont think she’s done that yet.

BTW…. I dont know if she’s crazy or not…. was just stating that “usually” when the court takes kids from their mother –its a reason. Maybe the public is not be privy to those reasons…*shrug* …I dont know….

I will however say that using antics such as picketing, making videos, laying on the street, etc… may not be the best way to handle the situation. Sure it got everyone’s attention, for a min….but the judgement and assumptions from the tactic may prove to be more harmful than the exposure.

In another story I read, she talked about how she is not getting child support from D Wade. She wouldn’t necessarily get child support because she doesn’t have custody of the boys only visitation rights.

Her actions aren’t endearing her to any changes in the court system on her behalf. Plus, my understanding is when she visits they boys it’s in Miami not Chicago.

She would do so much better if she would put this energy into the time she does have with her boys.

This is a very sad and unfortunate situation for all involved. And for those who feel as if $$ talks, in family division the laws almost always lean in favor of the birth mother. Many of the comments are very judgmental (against both the mother and the father), and they paint the picture as black and white when often situations such as these are multi-layered and complex in nature.

As a marriage and family therapist, I have to challenge the often uttered phrase, “no mother should be without their kids”. That phrase implies that even if a parent is present and abusive (verbally, emotionally, physically or sexually) that is better than no parent at all. This woman may have always been a great mother, or she could have also been a vindictive, emotionally manipulative mother who used her children as pawns in her marriage. The fact is unless we lived in the home with the family, or receive an admission from mom herself, we will never know.

What we do know is that as a parent, it is your duty to keep your child safe and secure, and to provide emotional stability, even if that means mom (or dad) have to be absent from your life. No credible therapist that follows a sound ethical code (my code of ethics is that of AAMFT) would recommend a family therapy situation with children as young as his children and a mother displaying such unstable behavior(displays of mania) as a viable option that should immediately be pursued. Initially mom would need to be thoroughly assessed ( a comprehensive psychological evaluation) as well as the children if they haven’t already. In order to move mom (the family) into a more stable environment and out of crisis, individual therapy would need to begin with her. Depending on the assessment and the needs of the family, the next possible step might be therapy with the parents (in order to minimize the hostility and reactivity and establish a parental alliance. The truth is when children are around a parent that is filled with so much hostility (even justly) they easily absorb it and it increases their anxiety. That’s when they begin to feel torn and feel guilty for displaying love or concern for both parents.

The last thing would be for mom and the boys to have family therapy sessions even if she never regains full custody. At least then, healing can begin, and the children can benefit from both parents even if both are not together. Lastly, who you are in high school may not be who you develop into later in life. Although they split when they were still very young (under 30) we have no idea if it was a toxic or negative relationship for both of them prior to him being drafted. Especially if a child comes from a chaotic, negative or traumatic past, they become accustomed to abuse (and ladies both women AND men can be abused). The same way we don’t know what this woman has been through is the same way we have no idea what this young man has endured. I’ve seen enough young women in my office telling stories of cursing out their significant others, slapping them, biting them and threatening to take their children, money and or calling the police without cause to know that it happens more often than we may want to admit. Abuse from women to men is one of the most under-reported crimes due to stigma, and shame.

You BW that claim she’s desparate, do you have any fears that this desparate woman won’t do something to those kids on visitation? Can you say that with absolute positivity that she won’t harm those kids? They should put her on supervised visitation immediately, this woman isn’t dealing with a full deck. Dwayne’s lawyers aint doing nothing that hasn’t already been done millions of times before, if D. Wade is going to pay her extra money she has to sign a agreement not to slander him thereafter. What is wrong with that? DWade is trying to create generational wealth for his kids, and who’s on the street slandering his name….their mother. A book deal and reality show is in her future, she wants the ability to slander DWade anytime she wants. Many basketball players are putting a gage order on their exes for the same reason. What ever happened to the strong black woman that don’t need a man for nothing?

My heart breaks for her. I have 2 children myself and I could not imagine what would happen if their dad gained full custody and moved them to another state. I think what D. Wade did to her was heartless and selfish, and no matter what happened in their relationship, their children deserve more than this. Those boys are getting older, and I can only imagine what he has to say to them when they read articles, watch videos, or view pictures of their mom going through so much agony. People can say what they want about this woman, but as a mother, I can honestly say that I would probably lose my dayum mind if I was going through the same thing!

But what about personal responsibility. DWade is not the one laying all out on the sidewalk for attention. She has put out numerous lawsuits ranging from suing Gabriel Union and DWade for kissing in front of their kids and claiming he gave her an STD all the while HE is paying for her lawyer. What is it that HE needs to do. Does he need to go out there and physically pick her up, give her an allowance, bathe her, brush her teeth for her, dress her in the morning and comb her hair? Them same friends standing next to her need to convince her to seek counseling and if she wants her kids back she needs to start out by DOING WHAT THE JUDGE AND THE ORDERS TELL HER TO DO!! Dang. Its not rocket science. You cant break the rules that the judge set cus you don’t like it and then camp out on the ground because of something YOU did. Start out by FOLLOWING the law. Take it from somebody that has kids and be happy to send em off with they daddy. Don’t nobody want screaming kids running around all day and if my ex wants his kids on the weekend, a month during the summer, COOL!! That’s mommy free time. You don’t think that if she was acting right he would GLADLY encourage more time with the kids. I cant stand my ex but he’s a great dad and his girls love him and I love my free time!!
I love my girls more than I dislike they daddy

It hurts losing someone you care about but really? She really thought sitting outside with a sign was really going to make anybody think she was anything but crazy….
As a adult woman she thought this was gonna be a good decision. Yea ok she seems like she is going to drive herself crazier…..

She is a university graduate she should know better or has the life of the idle rich scrambled her brain! You feel you deserve more tough life is unfair suck it up for your kids sake and Get another lawyer comply with your court ordered visitiation and then reapply for custody. Damn woman she actually making me have some respect for that Brandi person and she is trashy!!!!

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