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Nice guys finish last, I hear it all the time. I find it to be a ridiculous statement personally.

First off, who gets to decide what classifies someone as a “nice guy”? The guy himself? Because it’s always guys that this statement, or so it seems to me. They’re always complaining about how girl’s are always going for the wrong guys because they aren’t going for the guy who’s complaining, who’s a nice guy by his own standards.

How does he decide he’s nice? I mean, I know guys whom I think a great guys and that girls would be lucky to have them, but other gals spend time with these guys and ask me how I could even hang out with them. They think the guys are rude and just plain mean. So I just don’t understand how all guys who are looking for women can decide they are nice guys whom a woman would be lucky to have when you can almost guarantee that someone, somewhere disagrees.

And if women are always going after the “wrong guy”, what does that say about the guy who is always pursuing the woman who clearly wants nothing to do with them? The woman who has decided he is not her type? Just because a gal isn’t with a guy that thinks she should be with him, doesn’t mean that he finishes last, it means he should pursue a woman that isn’t with someone else. That has decided she’s happy with a guy she has chosen.

Instead, guys wait around for women they will never get because she is already happy where she is or has made it fairly clear that she isn’t interested in the guy. But he still tries. And when it doesn’t work for him, well, that’s when “nice guys finish last” comes in.

While men are complaining about not being able to find a nice woman, there are plenty of women whom are never given the chance because they don’t look pretty enough. They aren’t skinny enough. The guy would catch to much crap from his pals if he were seen with this girl. But if he were to get to know her, she is everything he asked for. And they same thing can be said for many unhappy single ladies.

At the end of the day, it all boils down to personal preference. If a guy or gal is unwilling to look outside the box they have created for themselves, then they really have no right to complain about being alone and unhappy. I mean, I’m not one to think people should settle for less or compromise by any means, but if people were more open and accepting towards others, they may find that they aren’t compromising at all and that they have found exactly what it is they have been searching for. Something they have been missing because they were to clouded by what the media and their friends have decided is beautiful or acceptable to be with.