Step 1, get over yourself.​ I lived a life of feeling sorry for myself. The injuries from my days in the Army took over my life. No exercise. Eating like crap. Barely sleeping. Drinking like a fish. Smoking like a chimney.A recipe for disaster. So how do you fix it? Find one thing at a time and focus on that. My deep ah ha moment was when I was in college. I was 27 and a freshman. Holy culture shock. I thought I knew it all. I knew nothing. It was a shock to my ego for sure. Within a week I decided I needed to just suck it up and work harder than my classmates.Then I was given the shock of my life. I lived in Massachusetts and was denied unemployment. They said I made too much in the Army. Um? The irony of those words. So to fight this, I got a job.So getting over my thoughts of the world owed me something started a few weeks after becoming a civilian. This is a daily struggle. Not the job thing, but the life goes on and just make your own path by opening all the doors.So step 1, get over it McCloud started a long time ago. It is a step that needs to be taken every day.​ My focus changed from looking for the easy way out to working hard everyday and accepting that life will be difficult at times.