Timmery Clark

Sunday, August 30, 2015

It’s late for me, but I wanted to write to you all before I go to bed (so expect typos and amazing sentence structure. ahem.)

Tonight was an Outreach night, and we have 2 teams that each visit 2 separate clubs, so think roughly 55ish or so women we get to see, plus the door men, bouncers, owners, managers, and bartenders. Would you pray for everyone we encountered this evening, that God would work in their hearts. We always take small gifts to the women, and honestly, its not about the gift but rather we pray that the message the ladies receive from getting the gifts is one of love. Would you pray that the ladies will be reminded that they are loved dearly when they look at their gifts this month? Sometimes the women are too busy to linger with us, but in the morning (or afternoon) when they wake up and see the gifts, I pray that they would be overwhelmed with the realization of how much they are worth, and that not only do we love them, but God loves them.

This Outreach we also had our baked goodies packaged so well, I love it when we get to give cute cookie packages out! The cookie bundles were packaged with a bible verse tag from Matthew 19:26 “With God all things are possible.” Its such a small detail, one that could get overlooked so easily. But I’m thrilled about it!

At the Abolition Summit, we heard a story from a survivor who reminded us the power of God’s Word. At one point this woman had been given something small with a scripture on it (I forget exactly…its late…). She didn’t dwell on it, but somehow the verse stuck with her. Later she was with a John who had put her in his car, and he was driving out of the city toward the dessert, and the longer they drove the more disturbed she became by him. So what popped into her mind? The bible verse! And she began repeating it out loud, over and over. This irritated the John who asked her about it, and she just said it was a verse she had been given, but internally she was praying to God. Immediately the man was upset and pulled over. He said that he was intending to kill her that night, but now he couldn’t because of the verse she quoted, and that he saw a light surrounding her. So he pushed her out of the car, and you can believe that incident made a huge impact on this woman!

I doubt that anything that dramatic will happen to any of our women. But here’s what I want to leave you with:

Even though the verse was small, and many of us may be tempted to overlook it…the truth is that it is God’s Word, which is alive, active, sharper than a two-edged sword, and does not return void. And right now its in the dressing rooms of 4 clubs in Springfield, MO, in the hands of women (and even men) who are swallowed by darkness and desperately needing the Light of God. Will you pray that God’s Word would sink deep into the hearts and minds of these men and women that we saw tonight?

One more prayer request, and then I need some sleep! This Fall I’ll be launching a Bible study for the women we meet in the clubs and other areas of exploitation. I’m SO EXCITED! Will you pray for God to draw the hearts of the women? We will start announcing it in September’s Outreaches, and I’m really hoping to start it in October. One thing I’m praying about is that we never want the women to feel like a project. Instead we want to invite them into community with us. That’s a big difference. So while our focus is to introduce the women to God and provide an arena for them to grow spiritually, we want the women to join us as we meet with God and study. We’ll have a few handpicked volunteers participating, and they can model a relationship with God in a lot of neat ways beyond simply doing the study together.

Will you pray for our bible study? Will you pray that key women will come? We’ve identified a few who seem as if they are interested. Specifically, I want you to pray for “Ginger” and “Tina”. Especially “Ginger” as she is influential in the club she works at, and could be someone who brings the other girls in her club with her.

Thank you dear prayer peeps! Your prayers are powerful, don’t take them for granted!

*Post taken from my Friday night email to my Prayer Team. Leave a message if you'd like to be on my prayer team and commit to praying for me and this ministry.

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

*This article is taken from the website http://www.thedailybeast.com/witw/articles/2013/09/23/i-was-trafficked-so-why-didn-t-i-run.html

I Was Trafficked. Why Didn’t I Run?

When Sophie Hayes joined her boyfriend in Italy for a vacation, she had no idea that he was about to prostitute her for money. Now, in her new memoir, she tells about her life as a sex slave in Europe’s underground.

Just a few years ago everything changed. I was trafficked. I was deceived by a man who said that he loved me. I was a product and a vehicle to make money. But I am a survivor.

I had known my trafficker for many years prior to being forced into prostitution. We met at a club and texted or talked on the phone daily for years, until I came to trust him completely. He was my best friend. So when he asked me to visit him in Italy, I believed it was just a holiday.

The reality is he had groomed me over a period of five years. He was a criminal; he was a trafficker of all kinds: guns, drugs, and girls. Later, I would learn that this is not unusual. In the majority of cases, women know their traffickers.

When he told me what I was expected to do for him, I froze. The reality of what was happening seemed so surreal that my mind was totally paralyzed. The man that had been so caring had turned into a monster. The violence and rage were like nothing I had ever experienced before, although over a period of time his outbursts became daily life. He took me to a lake where, he told me, my dead body would be thrown should I do anything wrong.

He took me to a lake where, he told me, my dead body would be thrown should I do anything wrong.

Victims are often portrayed in movies with chains or locked away, but the truth is many girls are left on the streets alone for long stretches of time. People often ask why girls enslaved in human trafficking don’t run away. Surely the simple thing to do would be to find a way to escape: run when he wasn’t there, or ask for help.

But while I was free physically, my mental freedom was removed almost immediately. My trafficker explained that I could trust nobody—that he had friends everywhere and they would come to test me. He repeatedly told me if I ever did anything to disobey him he would kill me, as well as my family, and I knew his threats were not empty. I had been held at gunpoint many times. I begged him to stop but he wouldn’t. My passport was taken. I was in a country where I couldn’t speak the language, with a man who would stop at nothing to get what he wanted.

To the outside world this is a difficult concept to understand, but with extreme fear comes complete debilitation. Fear of the mind is often the hardest thing to rationalize with. With daily beatings, your mind becomes completely controlled, conditioned to respond in a certain way. You’re unsure whom to trust—and even those whom you’d normally believe you can trust, you come to learn you can’t. During my experience I had countless policemen, judges, doctors, military pay for sex. The police often used their power to also induce fear, so that seeking help feels impossible.

Because I speak under a pseudonym, many people wonder who I am. The reality is I look just like everyone else. The difference is that was my life and these are my memories. My hopes, my dreams, and my life were shattered into nothing, and everything I’d ever known was taken away. Worst of all I lost myself. I stopped living and simply existed.

Sometimes I look in the mirror, I see my reflection and for a second I see her, the girl I used to be. All I wanted to do was reach out to her and tell her that one day it will all be OK again. I can’t take away what happened to me, but I can do everything in my power to help others.

This year, between 700,000 and 4 million women and children will be forced into sex slavery. In addition to my day job, I have dedicated my life to stop my past being someone else’s future, working with girls around the world who have been affected by trafficking. One of my happiest memories was spending time with a number of survivors and hearing about their lives and, more importantly, their futures. Their strength and determination is remarkable. One girl has been accepted into a top university in Mexico City to study law, one has passed her nursing exam, and another is still deciding. But the difference now is that she can choose. She has complete freedom over what she wants to do, and I’ve learned you can’t put a price tag on that feeling.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Last week I slid on a patch of ice while driving and bent my tire rim.

My car wobbles.

Yesterday my cup leaked an inch of
water into my car’s cup holder.

Today I read an email from a woman
who wishes I’d stop sending her those church updates while I’m filling in
administratively.She’s done with
that church.

The weight of a conversation with
my father presses heavy.

And one more person asks me about my job search.Then another.

Ever so subtly, failure settles
in.

My heart hurts.

Too much flesh revealed, too jaded
of an expression on her young face, and the evidence of too much sex and drugs
appear in her vacant eyes.My
heart squeezes as I look at the latest photo of my foster daughter.It squeezes and breaks to think that I
have held this girl, still so young, when she cried on the anniversary of her
miscarriage.I’ve tucked her in,
heard her prayers, cheered her on (in totally embarrassing mom style—which
earned me a huffy sigh and eye roll) at sporting events, and wrestled with
English homework.I love this
girl, and it hurts my heart to see her like this.And so I click off her facebook page so I can regroup, try
to numb my heart by distracting myself with something else.I push the sense of loss far away.

A few nights ago I headed off to
Target to buy a birthday gift for a one year old.He’s precious, and growing up way too fast when I compare
the 6 month garments to the 12 month ones.

Being an only child, I don’t have
siblings with children.Which of
course gives me full license to appoint myself as this wee boy’s
God-Aunty.(In case you were
wondering, Target does not sell onesies with the slogan “My Self-Appointed
God-Aunty Loves Me Best.”You’ll
probably have to settle like I did for a plain ole “Aunt” onesie.C’est la vie.)In wandering the aisles of these
darling little clothes I hold up rompers and the tiniest little shoes, and yes,
even a clip-on tie.My uterus is
quick to cheer “Yes!We need two
of everything!It’s so stinkin’
adorable!”My brain will have none
of this nonsense and promptly sends a response back “Traitor.”If looks could kill, I’m sure my brain
would’ve murdered my uterus many times over.

“Pierce Brosnan and George Clooney
are NOT available.Simmer it down
down there.”Cue evil glare.

“You don’t even have a house, WHERE
are you planning on putting that tasty, modern furniture set?”Followed quickly with a belittling
look, maybe even a headshake.

“Enough with the baby
clothes—you’re not getting one of those anytime soon.Probably never.”

And so on.These internal dialogues happen a lot
in the aisles of Target.*sigh*

Although I momentarily grin at this
internal dialogue, I’m aware that much deeper, hidden underneath it, my heart
pinches and twinges.

No baby.

No husband.

And not even a prospect of one.

At one time I would have been A-Okay with that.

But I’ve had time to heal and
process, and now every so often…in the quiet spaces…sheltered deep where no one
can see or touch or laugh at…

I know I yearn for these
things.

And ever so quickly, I push the
thought out of my mind, because although the healing is significant, the lies
still raise their voice.

The sense of inadequacy and shame
wraps me close, deeper than flesh, fighting to remain part of my identity.

This week my morning readings have
focused primarily on peace.

Peace.

Yes.I breathe it deep.

I let the word flutter through my
mind and try to settle on me.In
me.And it won’t.My thick heart-skin is tough with the
pains of life.Peace is a heart
word, and right now my heart wants protection and lets nothing close.Except pain.The unintentional wounds.I wish I could embrace that peace, but my thoughts are too
busy, too dense, too something and I am
reminded that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy.I strive to take those thoughts
captive.And again.Again.Again.They
persist and the weight of failure presses me down.I see it, I know it, and it angers me because I feel so
feeble, my attempts so futile.I
fail.I am not good enough.I cannot do it.My worth…well, what little there may
have been, it’s dwindling fast.My
shattered heart yearns to throw a fit, to yell, to push back because I know, I
know, better.

I am angry with myself.Psychology tells us anger is a
secondary emotion, that it is the product of either pain or fear, sometimes
both.I see it in me, the pain and
the fear.I know it…I know…

I know the truth, and the Truth
sets me free. I know.

I know.

But where oh where is it?I must be doing something wrong.Straight away my head corrects that
thought.Puh-leeze.Head knowledge schools me, but my heart…Oh my heart throbs for the experiential
knowledge of a victorious giver of life, and life to the full!

I slow.I think of these things, look close at them, feel their
shape in my hand, turn them in my mind.

I think of this week and the snap
shots I’ve experienced above.And
I stew.These things I’ve pondered
an embarrassingly long time in recent days.In what has felt like self-preservation, I’ve tried to not
look at them, but even without my eyes on it, the feelings edge in, pressing
close, not seen clearly but felt.

But as I slow and allow myself to
focus, to examine the mess that rages chaotic, I hear another voice.

Beloved.

Beloved, I love you.

You are mine.

The voice is slow, quiet, not at
all hyper or bitter like my own thoughts.In the past I have been told that I belong to another, but this…is
different.Not ugly with entitled
possession.It is the voice of the
Shepherd.My Abba Father.My Jesus Savior.And the voice seeps slow and rich like
honey, golden heavy, into my heart.I sit quiet in His presence, my focus finally shifted from the sin
ugliness of self.

Beloved, I hear you.Let me step into those aches and ask
you

what is beneath them all?Hmmm?

Good question.Long have I felt worthless, known
it.Seen time and time again that
my striving and seeking after perfection to earn love, well, it’s not good
enough, and I ache with the realization I can do nothing to be loved.I cannot cover enough the scars cut and
branded on me, in me.

I.Fall.Short.

It is that knowledge that throbs
dull, that I try to tune out.

Again, the voice…

Beloved, I have good news for
you. I bind the brokenhearted,
proclaim you captive no more. No
more! You are free and released
from darkness, no longer a prisoner.
I comfort you as you mourn.
I do the work, a new work, in you.
I take your ashes, and give you a crown of beauty. I restore you, because I chose
you. I paid a great price for
you—not merely to own you as an object, but as my Beloved. I took your dead self, breathed my life
into you, and you live. You live
the full life I give to you. I
have taken your shame and given you a double portion. I have taken your heart of stone, and put in you a heart of
flesh. It is for freedom that I have
set you free. It is you I woo
Beloved, you who I am shaping to be my bride.

And there it is, in the quietness,
the leading of the One who knows me through and through.The voice that spoke stillness into the storm speaks stillness into my heart.The hurts and worries and shame, they turn transparent, empty, in the pure light of
the Word.

I am loved.Loved.And the longer I hold those God-truths in my heart-hands,
turning them over, memorizing their shape, weight, feel…the more real they become.

Solid.

Familiar.

Falling into my being like a rounded rock plunks through cold water,
substance sinking deep.

That peace that seemed like
mockery?It is soft now, pliable
and tender and saturating.My
heart skin has thinned thinned thinned.Warmed free by the love of my Abba Bridegroom.It matters not what cares and worries have weighed me.Even if I had none, (none!) I would
still not be enough, and I am freed from
the striving, free to just be, free to look beyond self and see Him.

It is good that I stop to savor,
process, and record these God-experiences. All too soon I am going to forget the truths that bring me
life. All too soon I will flail in
failed brokenness. But here it is,
a captured moment to soothe and heal, to woo and nurture. I will rest in the vine branch, abiding
in Him and He in me, authoring the gift of peace and love. Cheap words, pretty ideas. But oh the beauty of their full
substance! Lavished upon me time
and time again.

I will waste it, careless at times,
and still it will be poured on

me. Why? Because I am His and He delights in me.
A mystery. But there you have it, truth nonetheless.

And now I grin easily.My thin-skinned heart light in the
knowledge that I am enough for the I AM.

When we were freed,released from
captivity,it was like a
dream for us all.Our mouths were filled with
laughter,our tongues
with songs of joy.And all around us people said
with wonder“The Lord has
done great things for you.”And it’s so true, isn’t
it?! The Lord HAS
done great things for us and we are filled,
filled, with joy! Restore
us, O Lord, like winter-fresh streams through the desert
sands. Do
it again, Papa God! Those
of us who sow in tears, our hearts heavy, we
will reap with songs of joy. That
Dear One who weeps? Carrying that
seed to sow? Guess
what? Dear
one, along with a full harvest you return with songs of joy!

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Call it my "Type A, Firstborn, Only-Child, Rule Following Rigidity," but there are times when I am a little over zealous in my schedule keeping. This tendency plus a teenaged foster daughter suddenly plunged into my care, well, the phrase "oil and water" comes to mind...
In a lot of ways, my little Chickadee enjoys the structure. It lends stability and normalcy to her life (and mine!), and it's nice for her to be doing the things other high school aged girls are doing. Chores, school, swimming and martial arts, church. All good things. And just as good and needed are the therapy groups, coping skills classes, and doctor's appointments. Chickadee needs all these facets in her life right now to help her heal, recover, and be equipped for a successful healthy future.
I confess that my love of school has maybe tipped the scales of what I thought was "important." I mean, the girl's gotta graduate from high school, right? And then the fall semester started, and we weren't doing summer school easy peasy stuff any more. Hours of history, algebra, biology, and english. Not to mention PE and reading. Hours and hours every day. Was I up for the challenge? Why yes, my school-nazi self was certain we could attain our goals. Never mind the fact that my girl is here to recover, to process and heal, to untrain past ways of living as she's training herself in new ways to live life and establish relationships.
Yesterday was quite a busy day for us, and I knew it was going to be tough to fit in alllll that school. We had our therapist on the schedule, as well as a doctor's appointment. All that to say, when we arrived home at 4:15 yesterday, Chickadee had only completed 2 hours of school that day, and we needed to do 4-5 more hours. So true to form, I get her settled in and push her to go, go, go! Normally she's a little trouper, and will work like crazy to get it done. But yesterday...yesterday was different. Around 5:00 she started melting down a little. My first response was not one of compassion, my thought process was running down the track of: you knew what our schedule was like today, why are you surprised that you still need to do a couple more hours of school? We've been out of the house for hours, that was a good break, right?!"
Once I looked into her overwhelmed face, I decided it was time for a break. I sent her off to swim, and after some laps and splashing, she started to relax. We never finished our hours of school yesterday. I was reminded that although school IS important, so is everything else that we do (insert "so back off, School Nazi!!!). Later that evening, in a different frame of mind, I found out what she and her therapist had talked about yesterday. It was deep. It was painful. I was ashamed of myself. This past week I've been so gung-ho on getting Chickadee caught up in school I've overlooked the emotional traumas and healing. Can I just say my heart was stung and broken last night?
I don't always get it right. (Who does, huh?!) I sometimes lose sight of what's important, and get caught up in agendas of my own making. But I think I'm starting to come around. I need that humility that asks "is this the most important thing right now" when I'm dead set on something. I need that humility that says I don't know everything all the time, so get off my high horse and listen to those who speak into my life as I'm raising this girl. And the compassion...oh God...my heart broke last night. Lord God, help my heart to care like Yours about the heart of my sweet girl(s). I need it.
And so, here we are. The next day. A day already brimming with fresh mercies, and fresh grace. Thank you Jesus!

Monday, September 9, 2013

This rather unattractive picture of me is a pretty accurate glimpse of me these days.
Bummer.
Why, you ask? Because I have joined the ranks of those women with a teenaged daughter. And I have no spouse to help me with my sanity. (Longish story. I'm a foster mom, the house mom for the place I work. Very good stuff, even if does mean constant sleep deprivation!) Yes, a spouse...
Someone to lean on, someone to help parent, someone to take over when my last nerve is frayed into twenty split ends and my teenager is yelling "Timmery. Timmery! TIMMERY."... I gotta say, that sounds pretty magical right now. *grin* I guess God really knew what He was talking about when He created the family unit to have a mom AND a dad!
These days find me scheduling dentist appointments and eye exams. Shuttling my girl Soccer-Mama-Style to community service projects and martial arts classes. In between all the doing and stuff, there are these amazing sparkles of joy that take my breath away some days.
Like when Chickadee asks me if she can read to me at the end of the night, when I'm irritated that the air conditioner is out and I'm fielding phone calls between two owners about the workman coming. And there's sweet Chickadee, wanting to read to me from the Bible reading plan her High School church group is doing.
In the morning when we're doing our daily reading from Jesus Calling, I'm not sure if anything is soaking in. We get off topic regularly during those discussions. I try to not make it a big deal so it doesn't become a serious time Chickadee starts to dread... This morning out of the blue she redirected the conversation back to our reading all by herself, and had some really good insights. My heart was touched, that's for sure.
It's an adventure that doesn't seem to have much downtime. An adventure I don't always enjoy. But its an adventure with eternal implications.

About Me

I get to offer hope. In a nutshell, that's what I do. How I do that, the medium I use, the audience I have, those vary. Sometimes its working with a woman who has been sex trafficked, sometimes its a friend, sometimes it's neither.
I've been saved by grace and lavished with love as a child of the King.
I'm living the dream!