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I went from Getting Laid 2 times in the prior ~2.5 years to sleeping with 12 girls (total).

More importantly to me, in November 2008, I also met my goal - weekly/10 day sex with 3 very attractive fuckbuddies in the same city.

Although 2009-2011 were better, and I got significantly more action, 2008 was definitely the beginning - a special time in hindsight.

I slowly began have the life I wanted in 2008.

And I knew it.

2008 was the turning point for my entire life and the only reason Good Looking Loser exists today.

A lot can happen in a year.

2015 - Year of the Loser?

Perhaps it's cliche.

Perhaps "New Year's Resolutions" are only for dreamers that were too lazy and undisciplined during the preceding year.

It doesn't really matter.

If the excitement of the upcoming year (or the embarrassment of yet another unproductive 365 days) gives you momentum - RUN WITH IT and DON'T STOP RUNNING.

The fact of the matter is - for a lot of you guys, 2015 will be YOUR YEAR.

But it's up to YOU to make that decision.

Not just on New Year's Eve when you are drunk/high, but on February 10th, June 17th or October 29th when the momentum fizzles and the usual coasting sets in.

It's very much a decision and it's up to YOU.

Meet Brian (bendenherover)

I want to tell you about a guy that made 2014 his bitch.

If you are just starting out, this should give you some encouragement.

For the first time in his existence, he has girls to fuck, friends to chill with and confidence that is sky high.

His name is Brian (but not Scotty) and you may know him from our forum as 'bendenherover'.

From the city he moved to (warm Tampa, FL. via freezing Connecticut), to the social/sex life he's building, to the body that he's earning, to the amount how likes himself - life couldn't be going more different for Brian than it was just 365 days ago.

Here's Brian in his own words -

Brian’s 2014 Testimonial

Hello fellow GLLer’s,

My name is Brian (bendenherover), and I am happy to say that I am finally content with my life.

After about 6 months of lurking around GLL, I joined the forum in December 2013.

I swore that 2014 was going to be my year, and this time I meant it.

My entire life up to that point was made up of constant underachievement. I had few friends, no skills with girls, social anxiety, and suffered multiple bouts of depression. In addition, I was 120 lbs. at 5’10.

Honestly, I was very close to giving up. I couldn’t stand living such a disappointing life anymore.

But one day I miraculously found Good Looking Loser. Chris opened me up to a whole new world, a whole new way of thinking. Good Looking Loser saved my life.

I started my self-improvement journey in January 2014 and I never looked back. I did the Approach Anxiety Program, I went to the gym, I got new clothes, and I made some online dating profiles. I also met up with Scotty and started burning Kratom.

I went from not being able to approach a girl, to fucking them that same night.

I went from a gross 120 lbs. to a muscular 150 lbs.

I went from full-blown anxiety and depression into confidence and happiness.

I changed from a boy to a man.

I wanted to share my story to let you know that anything is possible. If you put in the time and effort, you can really change your life.

Ultimately I’m so happy that I joined GLL, it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve learned a lot and met many great guys that motivate each other to become the best we can be.

Thank you so much Chris for everything.

Thank you everyone in the forum who’s helped me along my way.

I love you all.

Your friend,

Brian (not Scotty)

Although not in full detail, Brian documented much his inspirational year in our forum.

Brian is still a work in progress but a good example of how much difference a year can make if you are a beginner and really dedicate yourself to the stuff we discuss here. A year ago, he literally had no social life, was severely underweight and had crippling anxiety.

Check out Brian's stories and what he's learned in first year on his website -

It may do more for your life than any legitimate male enhancement device. More for your life than every single page of dating/sex advice on this website. And More for your life than any sort of diet or lifestyle change.

For others, it will simply be a wonderful, more healthful alternative to alcohol that makes them highly productive and relaxed, as Uncle Victor Pride describes.

If you aren't familiar with our Kratom discussions, particularly the terminology such as "burning" and "aroma", have a look at Rooster's post on "Kratom Lingo" if you get confused.

Kratom is not something that you smoke and it is a not a drug.

Don't get that impression.

As you read through this, keep in mind - this only applies to DAILY Kratom burning, dubbed - "The Kratom Lifestyle".

If you aren't using it everyday, much of this discussion won't apply to you.

This discussion is long.

I'm going to try and tell you absolutely everything that I've learned from following the Kratom Lifestyle for 5+ years.

I wasted an entire year of my life burning incorrectly (trial and error, I guess) and a lot of money. I almost gave up on it, believe it or not.

I'm glad I didn't because it's been a homerun for me.

Background and Experience

Over the past 5+ years, I have used an all-natural herbal compound called "Kratom" just about every single day, several times a day.

Only starting in late 2009 did I realize that rotating Kratom strains (using a different one every 24 hours) would usually allow Kratom to continue to work its magic.

Prior to then, however, I didn't really know the difference between the strains and I would use the same one for weeks on end. Eventually, tolerance/dependency would hit and I would just be in a "zoned out" state everyday that I'd try to fight with caffeine and other compounds.

This is typical if you use low-quality Kratom or don't rotate strains to keep your receptors ~fresh.

From 2009 to present day, it's a significant part of my life and a big part of my success.

Accomplishments Over the Past 5+ Years

In our Kratom Guide, I make a pretty bold statement -

I stand by this.

Without explaining everything that's gone down in the past 5+ years, to give some context, here are some of my more significant achievements, which have been accelerated by the "influence" of Kratom -

Beat high-moderate approach anxiety. (2008)

Met and slept with more women than I can count, most of them - quite attractive.

Built 1 business (personal training/nutrition, defunct) that made over $100,000 in its first year.

Increased my penis size to over 7" in length and just over 6" in girth.* * post-bathmate pump (NSFW, adult link)

Maintained rewarding relationships with my parents.

Avoided hardcore drugs, except for very select occasions.

Eliminated any periods of depression and lack of motivation.(I had mild depression in my mid-20's)

There's been other less important stuff (per my current priorities) that a "Kratom Lifestyle" has helped with. Including - creativity, making (and appreciating) new friends who are simply acquaintances, mild pain relief and appetite suppression.

These days, I primarily use it for productivity, a sense of well-being and motivation. In that order.

Anytime I thank Kratom for its "influence" in helping me achieve my goals, people tell me that I could have had identical success without it and it by no means was "the reason" for the accomplishments.

I agree.

But -

Kratom made it easier and significantly more fun.

The bad days become decent.

The good days become great.

The great days...

Are spectacular.

That is what the past 5+ years have been like.

The best 5 years of my life.

It's not beneficial for everyone and everything (it can even be counterproductive for some things) however.

I've have my bad days that stayed bad, but overall - it has been absolutely fantastic for my main priorities and goals.

I Have Less Anxiety, Most of the Time

Once I learned (discovered) how to rotate strains correctly, to this very day - I have less overall anxiety living a Kratom Lifestyle than I otherwise would.

This is true for all types of anxiety: general, social, approach, sexual, etc.

This is one of the primary people use Kratom.

It absolutely works if you know what you are doing.

I Have More Anxiety, Some of the Time

Although I have less anxiety overall, there will be moments (often specific times of the day) when I will have more anxiety than if I wasn't using Kratom.

It's ironic.

I have less anxiety because of Kratom.

But I also have more anxiety (at times) because of Kratom.

Taking too much of a fast strain, even a high-quality fast strain, can do it.

Sometimes a certain strain just won't be hitting that day and I'll get a kick of irritability or anxiety.(this is way less common if you are rotating several strains)

90% of the time, there is no distinct "crash" after Kratom wears off in 2 to 5 hours.

Once in a while, there is though.

More often, based on numerous factors (hydration, time of day, activity at hand, caffeine, social environment, overall mood/stress levels, etc.) there's sometimes a Kratom "itch".

But sometimes I'll have anxiety from Kratom (or lack of Kratom).(I'm not naturally prone to anxiety)

My Mornings Will Suck and Then Become Amazing

The most obvious 'Kratom anxiety' that nearly all daily burners can relate to is the initial - MORNING ANXIETY.

If you are following a Kratom Lifestyle, even if rotating correctly, you will wake up in a mild withdrawal/cold sweat quite often. For me, it's not much different than having "the chills" when I have a cold.

It's not a comfortable feeling, but it's far from a crippling withdrawal that hardcore drugs can produce.

The intensity of the 'morning anxiety' will vary considerably from person-to-person based on their tolerance/dependency. If you rotate 6+ strains, the intensity will be considerably lower than if you were using the exact same strain for 6 weeks straight. (I wasted a good year of my life using a single strain for several weeks at a time. It made me a zombie a lot of the time.)

Once I introduce a new strain (that I haven't used in several months/ever), I find there's no morning anxiety.

Taking a slower strain prior to bedtime can prevent morning anxiety too. (I don't do this, I have no trouble sleeping and not using Kratom for 8-14 hours is never a bad thing)

Other compounds such as Phenibut or Valium that have a long half-life and an afterglow/hangover will limit or prevent morning anxiety.(you should not be taking either of those compounds on a regular basis)

I've come to accept the morning initial anxiety/withdrawal and do nothing to prevent it.

Going an extended period without Kratom (even if it's just 8-10 hours) helps your tolerance and I don't think you should use Kratom before bed unless you have to.

The first "burn" of the day is almost always the best one. It is certainly the most dramatic state change.

If you want an incredible start to your day, try this hidden gem with your morning burn. You will absolutely love it.

Having Morning Sex/69 Is Fantastic

Having an orgasm in the morning is ridiculously fantastic.

Most of us committed to a Kratom Lifestyle will wake up and just want to get our morning burn, especially if you don't feel great.

If you can hold off on that - sex (or just having an orgasm) is fantastic.

If you have high testosterone levels, you will often wake up with insane raging hard-ons.

Your body will be trying to get you to give it a natural endorphin blast.

If you don't feel too yucky and have a partner on-hand, the sex will be ridiculously intense. It won't last too long (heightened sensitivity) and it might be really messy.

If you do feel crappy, laying on your back in the 69 position and getting taken care of is a nice way to get a natural opiate/endorphin blast before you give yourself a herbal blast.

I am not against guys (or girls) masturbating if they are a daily Kratom burner.

I suggest you get off everyday.

It's an easy way to get a natural endorphin blast and you don't want your body to get used to living on Kratom endorphins.(exercise is obviously great too)

There's a lot of talk about "never masturbate" and "never look at porn". That is good advice if you are addicted but does not apply to most guys and certainly not daily burners who will be too content/lowered sex drive to look at pornography.

Kratom Doesn't Seem to Work as Well For Chicks

Inside and outside of the bedroom, in my experience, girls don't respond quite as well to Kratom.

It's easy for girls to overdo it too.

You should only give them a small amount (2-3 grams) if they want to try it.

I've had 3 or 4 girls puke on me so I stopped recommending it.

Still, there's thousands of girls that follow a Kratom Lifestyle, often for it's ability to kill depression, anxiety and appetite.(there's a fair amount of girls on the bigger Kratom forums)

Other than the numerous typos, Kratom has been INCREDIBLY valuable for building Good Looking Loser (and my other online projects). I can't say that enough.

Not just for productivity but it makes me sympathize for my audience.

I think about the reader on the other end. Many are quietly suffering and counting on someone or something to help them catchup in life. I try my best to provide that help.

I'm Less Productive, Some of the Time

The Kratom Lifestyle, on average, makes me significantly more productive because I'm happy to be working on whatever I'm up to.

As with anxiety and well-being, however, there will be some days where the Kratom isn't kicking and it will be a throwaway day.

I have a hard time doing work when I'm in a bad mood. I usually just take a nap and try again later that day.

Again, it's not a huge deal for me now since I make my own schedule/workload.

But it was definitely something that I had to keep in mind when I was a personal trainer and had to show up at certain places at certain times. I made sure I was using a fresh strain when I trained or met with my big money clients.

Relationships with Mom and Dad Are Significantly Better

Relationships (phone and in-person) with my parents are much better.

I love my parents.

But sometimes I can't stand my parents.

My parents can be the most negative people in the world.

I know I'm going to be in a bad mood for the rest of the day if I answer their phone call.

I can't stand their negativity or hearing about whatever they "learned" from Fox News or which politician screwed them over.

Kratom makes this tolerable and I even start laughing at them because I don't give a shit about whatever they are talking about.

This isn't to suggest that I don't have a good relationship with my parents or that they weren't good parents. I have a good relationship and I love them. I just can't stand their negativity and how much TV they watch.

Negativity is toxic and Kratom is my vaccine.

If you can't stand being around your parents or siblings, Kratom will make family outings tolerable and even fun.

My parents are always happy to hear from me because I'm a happy person.

A Kratom Lifestyle Can Be Inconvenient(Daily and Travel Issues)

Unfortunately, the Kratom Lifestyle can be an inconvenience.

There's the issue of 'timing' your burns to fit your schedule.

There's the travel issue and having to carry it with you.

I'll usually carry a bottle of Vitamin Water with me whenever I go.

If I'm going somewhere for over 6 hours, I'll take whichever Kratom I'm using with me, usually pre-mixed (Kratom + Sugar-Free Sweetener) and ready to go.

I work at home so this issue doesn't affect me too often.

Air travel is a pain, even though you can take the powder on the plane (or in your luggage) with no issues.(I once traveled with over 15 kilos of Kratom in my carry-on and had no issues; you can always label it as "greens formula")

If you have the patience and desire, buying a home capsule kit and capping your Kratom can make life easier.

Keep in mind, however, '00' capsules are 700mg.

You'll need to use about 10 to 15 of them (6-9 grams) to get the usual effect.

As big of an inconvenience as travel can be, it's something that many of us are totally willing to accept.

I Have to Remind Myself Not to Be Too Nice To People (Happy Mode)

This one might surprise you.

Chris still has nice guy issues?

I thought he picked up all these girls...?

But when you legitimately enjoy your life, have the time/money to do whatever you want and have 12+ types of Kratom on hand - you are literally happy just about ALL THE TIME.

A high-quality problem obviously.

If you have been successfully following the Kratom Lifestyle for 4-5 months, you might be familiar with this "too nice sometimes" issue too.

I call this "Happy Mode".

Obviously it's different than "being a Nice Guy" (nice guys aren't actually happy people and they do things in order to get something in return) but there's some crossover behaviors/tendencies.

Whether it's a business decision, a friend who is trying to get me to do something I don't want to do or a random someone who is trying to take advantage of me, I sometimes have to pinch myself to put "happy mode" on pause and think critically/pessimistically. Even if it means messing up my own happy mood.

It's not hard to do this; I'm long past any real Mr. Nice Guy/Validation issues, but being in "happy mode" isn't the best state for every situation.

My advice is to simply ask yourself -

Is this person trying to take advantage of me?

If the answer is "yes" or "maybe"

My advice is to tell yourself -

This person is trying to take advantage of me because he thinks he can.

That is usually more than enough to snap out of "Happy Mode".

I'm an extremely giving person and I love to spread the love. (really)

But if I feel someone is using that against me - they are basically dead to me.

It's always been that way.

Interestingly enough, my "Happy Mode" issues have only been with business people, friends and random people.

Not girls that I'm interested in.

So that's good.

I Rarely Care What Anyone Thinks

Yeah, yeah, yeah - another blogger claiming he "doesn't give a fuck" what people think and goes on-and-on about it.(I'm not going to do that)

In my case, I've really come along way with this (general maturity), beat my validation issues, attained financial security, accomplished a lot that I'm proud of and daily Kratom is icing on the cake.

It's rare that little things (or people in general) get under my skin.

Someday, I'll write a blog post on "How to Not Give a Fuck".

A big part of it is simply learning to enjoy your life, always working on and accomplishing significant things that you are proud of and realizing that the person 'hating' on you - doesn't really enjoy their own life.

Basically - you won't have the mindset, time or energy to "give a fuck".

Way back in 2008, I had a really bad night and several girls were rude to me.

I left the bar early and came home.

I decided to make a "Gratitude List" to try and make myself feel better.

In my case, I can still get turned on, sometimes very quickly - but my libido is not as strong as it would be without Kratom. It's far from dead however.

This is typical of long-term use of anything that affects opiate receptors but is certainly less than more "hardcore" compounds.

My general advice - just go through the motions in the bedroom, you'll get a boner. Cialis will obviously solve any ED issues.

At the same time, there's been a really helpful positive effect - Kratom makes me last longer in bed.

Often - a lot longer.

In my experience, the lowered sensitivity from Kratom is absolutely perfect for me.

It's not like a stimulant that will prevent me from getting hard. And It's not like similar compounds (Tramadol, or SSRIs) that totally prevents me from getting off.

Although not always necessary, Cialis and the lowered sensitivity combines for amazing performance in the bedroom.

It's really made me [seem] excellent in bed.

If you want to use Cialis every day, you can ask your doctor about Cialis for Daily Use (2.5 mg Cialis).(FDA-approved, for what it's worth)

As a side note - Kratom has very little effect on my male enhancement efforts.

The lowered libido is a negative but nothing I can't work past or completely negate with Cialis. I've gone from ~6.0 to ~7.0 over the past 4 or 5 years, a long way from the modest 5.25" I started at in ~2001.

Kratom Lifestyle Makes Hitting the Gym More Difficult

If you aren't a daily burner, Kratom (especially fast strains) can make you an animal in the gym.

If you are following the Lifestyle, however, Kratom can slowly decrease your motivation to hit the gym.

This is why I do not recommend a full Kratom Lifestyle to guys who are competitive athletes or bodybuilders that cannot miss/half-ass workouts once in a while.

I simply take a pre-workout supplement and fast(er) strain to hit the gym.

Planning for a shorter workout (30 minutes) helps too.

Often, I'll end up staying for 60-90 minutes, but I'd rather plan for a shorter workout and exceed it, rather than leave early on a longer workout.

Gym motivation never used to be a problem for me with the Kratom Lifestyle and it won't be for a lot of guys.

I'm simply less committed to training these days because I have other priorities I care about a lot more.

It's still a good idea to workout for the natural endorphin release. If nothing else.

On days you don't feel like going, just try to go for 20 minutes and you'll probably stay longer.

It helps to be in a great mood and spread the enthusiasm to girls - many of which are happy to engage because most live pretty mundane lives.

When I first started going out solely to hit on girls by myself (which I suggest you do for a little, beat AA, get 1-2 fuckbuddies and transition to making it part of your lifestyle), I was somewhat nervous but even moreso - I felt like a fucking loser.

Here I am, Mr. Law School Dropout, wearing a bandana, wandering around Santa Monica Beach at 11:00am on an overcast Tuesday morning, by myself, while my other friends were getting ahead in life.

I felt like a total fucking loser when I started going out alone.

Kratom made me forget "what I should be doing" with my life and if leaving Law School/not having a job was something I should be ashamed of.

It made me focus on the day and run with the positive feelings.

Win or lose, positive reactions or not, phone numbers or none - I was going to have a decent day.

After all, I got to wander around a beautiful beach and wear a bandana, while most of my friends were trapped in cubicles.

Kratom makes the day beautiful and is perfect for socializing, which might feel a bit weird during the day.

For me - pretty much any strain is great for the daytime.

I prefer the faster ones but the slower ones can produce a euphoric "aroma" that is also wonderful to spread the love if I don't overdo it.

Picking Up Girls At Night Requires Some Kratom Experimentation

Kratom at night, however, can be more tricky.

I can get overwhelmed in high traffic areas, especially in super busy environments where the music (bass) is loud.

It's not an anxious feeling.

It's more of a "slow" or tired/indifferent feeling.

In lower traffic areas, such as a bar on a weekday, street or an outside patio area during the night, Kratom can be awesome.

I prefer to take a small amount of fast Kratom (2-3 grams) or none at all, along with 2500-3000mg of Phenibut.

You will have to play around with different amounts and strains until you find what works for you.

If fast strains give you anxiety at night, you can "cut" the anxiety by adding a slower/moderate strain.(for example - 4grams of Maeng Da + 2grams of Bali)

Combinations with alcohol can be hit or miss for me, it will vary from person-to-person, from strain-to-strain. Moderation is key.(I am not recommending that you combine it with alcohol; I am only speaking about my experience in a country where both alcohol and Kratom are not restricted)

I Haven't Needed Any Breaks or Washout Periods

Ever since I started rotating 5+ strains I haven't needed any breaks or washout periods.

Every 6-8 months or so, I'll use Stem & Vein for a few days, but it isn't completely necessary.

A couple times a year, there will be some unintentional washout periods where I don't burn any Kratom for 3 or 4 days.

If I catch a cold and spend the day in bed, I purposely won't burn any Kratom.

When the cold runs its course, my tolerance will be significantly lowered too.

My advice is to rotate 6+ strains, using a different strain each day. Throwing in a new one every so often can be great, since it will tickle slightly different receptors and give the others a break.

Correctly following a Kratom Lifestyle can be costly. It's not for everyone.

I Don't Desire to Use Hardcore Drugs

While anyone with a history of substance abuse should be discouraged from picking up any new habits, thousands of former opiate addicts have used Kratom to stay clean.

In many peoples' experience - it can be a lifesaver.

In my experience - I haven't had any craving for opiates or other hardcore drugs.

I'll only indulge on special occasions (partying), which is less and less often these days.

I Have to Avoid Being a "Kratom Couch Potato"

While Kratom certainly makes me more productive, it can just as easily make me a couch potato if I mess up my burning schedule, don't plan out my days or get too wrapped up in time wasters (surfing the web, social media, inefficient texting, etc.).

Kratom, especially when not rotated correctly, has turned plenty of people into couch potatoes.

That is my biggest fear when recommending it to you guys.

You may become too content.

We are a super active community and most of our goals require us to leave the house.

I found that the key is simply - LEAVING THE HOUSE with a specific plan/agenda.

I never had too much trouble with this but it's definitely worth mentioning.

I Feel "Normal" Just As Often As I Feel An "Aroma"

One of the bigger misconceptions about the Kratom Lifestyle is that you will be feeling an "aroma" (see the Kratom Lingo post for an explanation) the entire day.

It's not the case.

After the aroma wears off, I'll feel completely normal for a good 2 or 3 hours before I feel any need to "reload".

Most people that follow the Kratom Lifestyle would probably agree.

On average, my aromas last for 1.5 to 3 hours and then I'll burn again 2 or 3 hours after that.

Kratom Extracts will slaughter your tolerance and will make it impossible for you to experience regular (plain-leaf) Kratom anymore.

Enhanced blends aren't any better.

Extracts are bad news and will ultimately be one of the primary reasons if Kratom gets restricted in the United States. Irresponsible companies put powerful extracts in bottles labelled "GeT FuCkEd Up" or "GrEEn DrEaMz" and sell them to irresponsible kids.

These are particularly important if you are limited by some sort or form of genetic ceiling such as height or your current age.

For the purpose of this discussion, we are going to focus on shorter guys - even though the following advice will helpful to just about everyone.

I know a handful of guys that are below 5 foot 8 inches that tag/can tag 30+ attractive girls a year, one of which is one of my oldest friends- Kevin, who's slept with an Oakland Raiders cheerleader and girl that was in Playboy's 2009 college girls issue (not a centerfold or "Playboy Bunny").

The model in this article IS NOT the guy discussed in the article.

These short(er) guys have the following in common, with any exceptions noted-

They are not usually above 10% body fat and generally have FULL ABS during the Spring, Summer and Fall months. They all look 'athletic' and none of them look like bodybuilders (not anymore). They are not scrawny either.

They wear shoes or insoles in their shoes to make themselves at least 2.5 inches taller, even up to 4 inches. They laugh at others guys that have too much pride to give themselves an obvious, major advantage.

They all rock a 'more-edgy-than-average' style OR simply an "I have money more money than you" style. Not one of them would be confused for boyfriend material or a provider.

They all standout in style and presence and often have average, undersexed guys referring to them as "douchebags".

They all know how to dance, REALLY WELL.

In bars and clubs - they are REALLY aggressive, often grabbing girls and using their dance moves before speaking to them.

Most of them know how to fight.

They speak loudly and often annoy taller, more passive guys.

They make eye contact with girls from a short distance, rather than trying from long-range.

They don't concern themselves with issues like, "who should pay for that coffee/drink/sandwich", "what does this text mean", they are solely focused on Getting Laid, should that be their goal.

Most of them have tattoos.

Nearly all girls would agree that each of them was at least above-average looking.

They take pride in holding their own and embrace competition even though they are the 'underdog'.

They shamelessly hit on a lot of girls. Sometimes upwards of 30 a night.

NO ONE mistakes them for being not cool or a submissive dweeb.

All of them "faked it until they made it," just like every other guy does.

If you asked them, the majority would still admit their height was their biggest insecurity.

Yes, it's true.

Insecure, shorter guys can get laid too.

You don't have to mindfuck yourself into being 100% SECURE with everything to nail a bunch of girls.

In fact, some insecure guys Get Laid all the time.

Why? How?!

Because they look good and talk to women.

Something that most insecure guys aren't doing.

Most insecure guys are too busy...

Being insecure.

We'll have to pick this up another time.

Just know that short guys can get attractive girls and can in some cases- even get attractive girls that are taller than they are. (YES I SWEAR ON MY FATHER'S LIFE I HAVE SEEN THIS, IN LOS ANGELES TOO)

But it's not the average short guy that doing this-

It's the top .1% short guy.

There's usually 1 in every other bar, nightclub, cooler fraternity/social circle with hot girls, etc. but there's not too many of these guys.

Rather than saying, "What a douchebag..."

You might want to take notes.

I'm going to turn things over to a guy that been around the Good Looking Loser community for about a year.

Like most of us - at one point in time, he found himself addicted to a specific girl and in a submissive position (which he called "a relationship") trying not to lose her for fear he'd never have sex with a human again.

When things ended, like some of us - he found himself in an even more hopeless position being single, unattractive and feeling invisible to the opposite sex.

Like very few of us - he stands only 5 feet, 1 inch tall.* it is notable that, once he got himself in shape - he became quite masculine and good looking. He is not your average short guy. He is not your average any-height guy. Nowhere in my writing or his story should you have any faith if the only thing you have in common with him is your height. And That's the point... SOME GUYS WILL REQUIRE MAJOR CHANGES. If you are in your mid 20's and haven't been getting action- you might need to look like an entirely different person.

For privacy sake he didn't want his pictures or identity to be on our site.

So you'll have to go by the examples, which are pretty close to what he looks like - minus the exaggerated beard.

"Scotty Meets Ricki Hall"

And Just so you know-

He's a believer - with the exception of the dick exercising (I think), he's run with just about EVERYTHING we preach obsess about here.

This type of guy is RARE. I'm going to repeat that a few times. RARE.

I know less than a handful of other shorter guys that have a similar lifestyle and enjoy the same kind of success- so it is possible.

If you are viewing GoodLookingLoser.com - chances are- you're RARE. So that's a good start.

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My Dearest, Shortest Losers-

I've seen a lot of posts regarding height insecurities lately.

Although on first impression you might think I'm taller...

- I'm 5'1.

I was in the exact same position about 9 months ago, when I first found GLL, so I'd like to share my story.

9 months ago, my girlfriend of 4+ years broke up with me. My life revolved around keeping her happy, and I thought the best way to do that was to give her all my time. I had sacrificed law school, going out with friends, creative goals, gym time - anything to satisfy her need for more attention. Without her, my life was empty.

After the breakup, I went out with the intention of sleeping with someone.

I remember the anxiety I felt just thinking about introducing myself to women. The few times I built up the courage to start a conversation, I was ignored. This pattern repeated itself for the next few weeks, and it was slowly chipping away at what little confidence I had left.

I decided I needed a new plan.

I knew I wanted to lose weight. I wasn't fat, but I wasn't ripped. Somehow, after hours of googling, I ended up finding GLL's Fat Loss Diet.

I followed it 100%.

I kept a scale in my living room, directly in front of a large mirror, and I nailed a piece of paper to the wall where I tracked my weight daily. I kept a notecard in my pocket with the words "GLL Fat Loss" written in sharpie. Every time I sat down to eat, I placed the notecard on the table, reminding myself of my #1 Goal. I was unstoppable.

As I lost weight, I felt myself slowly transforming, physically and mentally.

My abs began to pop, and my face became more angular. I had to buy smaller clothes, and I took this opportunity to upgrade my style.

I started reading other GLL articles and realized I had approach anxiety, so I made a point to chat with women every day. As I lost weight, my interactions with women completely changed. If I asked for directions somewhere, many would offer to walk me there. Women at bars would tell me I was attractive, introduce me to their friends, and give me their number without me asking. All of this validation was intoxicating, but I was still just meeting women - I was too scared to make a move.

The first night I took it, I went to a bar and made out with three different women. It was a revelation to what talking to women was like without anxiety. The next weekend, I met a beautiful photographer. I made eye contact with her at a bar, smiled, and chatted with her for a couple of minutes. All of Chris' advice came flooding into my brain. I touched her, brought her outside to kiss her, drove her to my house, and slept with her. All of my self-improvement paid off- it was effortless.

Over the past 6 months, I've slept with about 20 women, I have 4 women I sleep with regularly, and 1 of these women I see 1-2 times a week. I know I can go out any weeknight and have a decent chance at bringing a woman home, and this abundance mentality lets me do what I want 100% of the time.

I'm still a sweetheart.

I fall in love with every woman I sleep with, if only for a night, but they know I won't tolerate bullshit. Sometimes I miss having a girlfriend, and I think about having a family someday, but the next relationship I have will be entered into from a position of power.

So, how does my height effect my success?

Well, many women bring it up at some point, especially the ones over 5'8. "I'm so much taller than you", "You're really short". I've learned, though, that the ones that bring it up are usually interested in me. Some women will straight up not get with shorter guys, but they ignore me, and I don't see any point in dwelling on that.

When I'm out, I get shit from guys. "Who does this guy think he is?", "What's up little man?".

I used to get angry about it, but now I just smile, introduce myself, and I generally befriend them. I've found that most guys talking shit aren't happy, and I feel sorry for them. The rare times this doesn't work, I stop talking mid-sentence, step into their personal space, look them straight in the eye, and say "What's up?". I've never had anyone fuck with me after that. Will this get me punched in the face someday? Maybe, but it would make a great story.

All the time guys waste moaning about their height could be spent at the gym, talking to women, and working on life goals. It still boils down to looks, style, and social freedom. My life improved dramatically when I let go of insecurities, got out of my head, and committed to getting shit done.

Final Thoughts From Good Looking Loser

In order to explain why this "short guy" is nailing a bunch of women, it's important for me to reiterate that-

This guy isn't your average short guy.

This guy isn't your average anything.

He's cool.

He's in good shape.

He's attractive as can be.

His look screams "SEX, DRUGS and ROCK & ROLL".

He's got A LOT of cool friends.

He has his own nightlife "scene".

On his Facebook, 20+ girls have "liked" his profile picture that he put up 2 days ago.

Equally as important- he's motivated to improve upon all he has.

There's nothing average about him.

And That's the point.

He made the choice along time that he wasn't going to be average and it's all paying dividends for him today.

If he wasn't attractive, cool, in good shape, popular among his circles - none of this would be happening. Not even if he was 6 foot 3.

To be quite honest, and I haven't chilled with him personally, VERY FEW guys are on his level.

If you are motivated by his story, before you start debating "can this be me?" - recognize that it won't happen overnight, possibly not in a year - but IT'S POSSIBLE.

update: The guy in this discussion goes by the name 'JimWendler' in the forum.

Will It Work For Me?

Likely yes, but I'm coming to see a bit of a pattern that separate the guys (and girls) that respond favorably and the minority that do not. The sample size comes from the people that I've burned Kratom with in real life and guys on the various forums.

I have a little theory, it should have been obvious, but I just thought of it so I wanted to tell you.

This is not a guarantee but rather a possible predictor.

Kratom tickles your opiod receptors, but it doesn't stimulate the mu-opiod receptors as much as morphine-based opiates do. That's why it's significant less addicting (and also less powerful).

The guys that respond great generally also get energy hyper-energy and euphoria from opiates (e.g. vicodin, percocet, etc.).

The guys that respond good generally get euphoria (but not necessarily hyper-energy) from opiates.

The guys that don't respond or have adverse effects generally are put to sleep or get nausea from opiates.

Your response to Kratom will probably be like you respond to synthetic opiates, even though Kratom is a botanical and structurally quite different.

Some people, like my friend Erik, get hyper-energy from a small dose of vicodin - needless to say, he always gets a solid aroma from Kratom.

Other people, like my friend Danni (girl), get knocked out from a small dose of vicodin - she's tried burning about 5 different strains of Kratom and none have never produced an aroma like the rest of us get.

There be will be exceptions to this rule (Mark, the forum admin, get floored by opiates but likes Kratom) but-

If you respond well to opiates - Kratom will burn well for you.

If opiates knock you out or make you nauseous - you probably won't find that Kratom smells good.

But What If I'm a Minority or Fat?

It makes no difference.

That question was meant to be a joke but in all seriousness - if you are under 160 lbs, you don't want to burn over a 2 gram serving to start with.

I thought of that because this one Asian kid (weighed 140 lbs) was throwing up all over the ground at Trader Joe's - he took I gave him WAY too much back in 2008.

Don't Prematurely Declare Yourself a Non-Responder

You might have a lot to gain from Kratom, even if you don't make it a lifestyle.

It's worth some trial and error in our opinion. You might have to burn it on a empty/full stomach to see what works for you.

Rooster suggests that newbies burn a small amount (2-3 gram) on an empty stomach for starters. Evaluate the aroma 30 minutes later.

The vast majority of newbies that get nausea from Kratom are either-

Burning WAY TOO MUCH Kratom (over 6 grams)

Using shitty quality Kratom

Quite a few people believe that Kratom doesn't work for them when they have simply burning way too much (or using old, dirty, shitty Kratom).

I've burned this stuff for years. Even I, if I were to burn too much - I'd feel dizzy and tired.

This isn't unless any other compound.

If you go overboard with any compound - you'll open the door to undesirable side effects.

Extracts drive your tolerance way up and have a much higher chance of physical dependence.

We specifically recommend a vendor, Happy Hippo, that DOES NOT sell extracts nor "enhances" their regular Kratom leaf with extracts.

If you were to use an extract (not recommended more than one time every 90 days, if you follow Kratom lifestyle) Ultra Enhanced Indo (UEI) is the best one by far. The effects are REALLY strong. It's super expensive and not worth trading your tolerance for.

Are there any side effects to Kratom?

We discussed the long(er)-term issues with tolerance, dependence and the much-less-than-other-opioids but still notable potential for addiction in the earlier parts of our guide. These issues only apply to daily users and can be largely avoided with responsible use and deliberate rotation.

Let's talk about more short-term side effects that you might experience-

Constipation

Chris doesn't experience this ever.

Rooster says that constipation may be an issue if you are a daily user. It can easily and naturally be alleviated by taking a fiber supplement.

The tasty one we recommend for our weight loss diet is particularly effective.

Anxiety from Fast Strains

Good-quality fast strains won't give you anxiety, unless you are prone to general anxiety.

That is general anxiety, not approach anxiety.

If you are prone to general anxiety, fast(er) Thai strains can aggravate it.

If a moderate or slow strain gives you anxiety, chances are - the strain just isn't for you OR its quality is worse than shit.(hint: DON'T BUY CRAPPY KRATOM)

Dehydration

Like we said, drink more water than usual.

I personally think this issue is exaggerated, but I drink a gallon of water every day.

For some reason, I'm not taking your recommendation and using Happy Hippo and I want to buy these Kratom capsules from my local smokeshop, are they any good?

No.

Kratom "capsules" have so little Kratom in them that you'll need to use about 10-20 capsules to feel anything. The bottle will probably have 50-60 in them.

A standard Kratom dose is about 3-6 grams. Each capsule will have ~200mg in them.

Plus - they are way more expensive for the actual amount of powder you are getting.

Plus - most vendors that sell Kratom capsules are usually THE WORST of THE WORST and only sell the capsules because they know that "pills" sell better than raw powder.

Are there any ways to potentiate Kratom? (aka make Kratom stronger)

Like with most compounds, you may hear that grapefruit juice will 'potentiate' it.

I have written several articles on the subject of prescription drugs and grapefruit juice (specifically how a certain compound in grapefruit juice inhibits cytochrome P450 3A4- the enzyme that is responsible for breaking down certain medications), so I know a little more than the average person on this subject.

IF grapefruit juice has an effect, it might make Kratom last longer. It won't actually potentiate it or "make it stronger".

The grapefruit juice effect might just be a placebo since Kratom’s effects and speed varies a lot.

We don't recommend drinking grapefruit juice and taking Kratom.

Fruit juice IS NOT a health food and it never was. It's full of sugar. Eat a grapefruit instead.

Caffeine, however, seems to go well with Kratom. We're just talking about a soda (30-40mg) of caffeine or a cup of coffee (70-100mg).

Not 2 energy drinks or ephedrine.

"Crushed Leaf"

What is crushed leaf Kratom?

Crushed leaf is how Kratom looks before it is de-veined, sifted and ground into a powder.

It looks like tea leaves.

This is what you'd make Kratom tea from.

Crushed Kratom leaf is often cheaper, but the price doesn't necessarily justify buying it - since it's less potent and doesn't last as long because you are only getting the alkaloids that have left the leaf into your tea (you don't eat the leaves).

Rooster thinks it's stupid.

I actually like it sometimes though.

Sometimes in the winter when it's super cold in the morning it's nice to have with some Stevia.

With that said, it's probably been 2.5 years since I used any crushed leaf tea. It doesn't last too long and it's annoying to prepare. Plus you can't exactly take the crushed leaves with you during the day, unless you have a place to make tea at.

The taste is much different than powdered Kratom. It's not necessary better, it's just different.

Quick recipe-

Fill up cup with 16 oz. of water.

Throw in generous amount of crushed leaf.

Stir it so the leaves get wet and aren't just sitting on the top.

Put it in the microwave for 3-4 minutes (nearly boiling).

Let it sit for 10-15 minutes. (this is important so the alkaloids dissolve into the water)

Pour it into another cup through a strainer that removes the leaves, sticks, etc.

Ready.

Another potential issue is the cleanliness of the leaves.

A lot of cheap Kratom suppliers/vendors don't even wash their crushed leaves before selling them.

All leaves are supposedly washed at least once before they leave Thailand/Indonesia but often it's just a makeshift job.

For your own health, you'll want to use a vendor that has VERY HIGH STANDARDS on cleanliness.

The leaves should be washed AT LEAST ONCE before they are picked, after, once again after drying, before export and once upon arrival.

At least 5 times.

For years, I'm pretty sure I was using DIRTY LEAVES that had been washed once (maybe) and sitting in a warehouse for 2 years.

I'm still alive but it's concerning none the less.

What happens when you taking too much Kratom at once?

In general - you get tired and "zoned out".

When you use too much Kratom, it can be counterproductive.

Also, Kratom never has a crash, but it can for some people if they use too much.

The exact amount of grams of your limit varies a lot, but generally 11+ grams can cause this. Then again, if you’re new to Kratom or don’t use it often, 7 grams might be too much.

Find your sweet spot, rotate strains to keep your tolerance down and this will NEVER be an issue.

If you are a newbie, start slow. Newbies who use too much can end up puking.(if you are a girl or under 150lbs, use NO MORE than 2.5 grams for starters)

If you are responsible about it - this will never be an issue.

I've taken Kratom 673,093,531.69 times. I've sometimes had too much but I've never actually puked.

Can you overdose from Kratom?

Despite the sensationalized hysteria from the mainstream media - there is no a single recorded death that has been caused my Kratom.

Still, too much of compound isn’t good.

I’ve seen people take way too much and ended up nausea and vomiting. That’s why it’s important to start slow, respect your tolerance and learn your limits.

Worst case scenario - you won't be "O.D.'ing" in a traditional sense where you'll be on a stretcher with doctors trying to restart your heart.

Rooster would be happy to answer your questions about this, so hit him up in the forum.

What are the real dangers of Kratom?

Like anything that is good and pleasurable, Kratom can be addicting.

If you use Kratom the proper way (daily rotation) and speak to your doctor, any/all dangers will be significantly minimized.

If you abuse it by using insanely high amounts, dosing several different strains/types in a day, then suddenly stop cold turkey, there will be a withdrawal.

Some compare it to a cold or getting the flu, but some say it’s more comparable to caffeine withdrawal.

At worst, it will be like a small opiate habit withdrawal.

Either way, it will last about 2 to 5 days and you'll be fine.

Why is it so important to always use high-quality strains?

There is such a big difference between high-quality Kratom and everything else.

Quality Kratom can have a huge positive impact on your life.

Unfortunately, there is a lot of low-quality Kratom for sale. The alkaloids can set off anxiety, make you woozy, or best case scenario - do nothing.

If you’re using Kratom for the first time, it’s important that you receive the full benefits of the strains' potential and see where it fits into your life.

Lower-quality Kratom can have inexpensive “fillers” such as cheap generic Bali or excess stem and vein residue. You'll have to use larger amount to get an effect, if any.

A more troubling concern is - cheap Kratom might not even be clean. The leaves are not necessarily washed more than once, if ever. It’s like eating the dirty leaves from the ground in a foreign country. Yum. Organic.

Also, the freshness can be an issue; since a lot of major vendors buy in bulk, the product spends years in a warehouse before it is ground up into powder and stuck in a bag.

What are the legal issues surrounding Kratom?

While we can't cover every jurisdiction from head-to-toe, this post provides a short summary of Kratom's legal standing within the United States and Internationally-

I tried for MONTHS to find a Kratom affiliate that had great stuff and could also offer us discounts (and give me at least some reasonable commission in return).

The process got so frustrating that I decided to build a website for my private vendor, call it 'Happy Hippo', find a cute pink hippo, just so you guys can have access to the good stuff I'm talking about.

As much as I'd like to send it to you all by myself and make money- there's no way I can be a vendor, keep fresh stock coming in/going out, fulfill the customer service and make sure everyone is happy.

I'm swamped as it is.

I've hired a full-time staff and they handle all the shipping and customer service, I do my best to keep an eye on everything.

Their strains come from my private source (parent company) and they have been my favorite since late 2009. Rooster loves them too. Scotty does too.

I've put a lot into our little company and I want to open up a new experience/era in your life!

Which one?

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