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I believe wealth is our birthright - the ego has managed to convince us otherwise, so we can either struggle or thrive.

And our business isn't separated from our lives and we can use it as our ministry and platform to do good.

Times have changed where business solely exists just for profit. Because we as human beings as evolved, so must our business.

Therefore, it's time to break away from the pack and unfollow any formula. In fact, all the formula and systems weren't created with you in mind. So, how can you succeed on your own terms when you follow these blueprints religiously?

I also believe that starting a business or creating a movement is the best personal development on the planet.

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My name is Hayley Christilaw. I live in Ontario, Canada. I am a wife, mother of four and a teacher. I have been involved with the education system for the past 17 years.

I chose to teach part time, trying to balance raising my children while maintaining my career. Two years ago, I left teaching.

I went to work each morning feeling trapped and I knew I needed a break from it.

All I could see were the needs and struggles schools were facing on a daily basis and I didn’t know how to change them.

So, I left for a while and took a step back.

While I was off, the discontent with the education system never left me.

My oldest son, really began to struggle with school and it fuelled my quest to bring positive change to a broken system. That’s when I started Teaching with Tenderness.

I knew that I wanted to inject the system with love, compassion and positivity.

1.
What do you do?

I want to be able to bring positive change
to the education system. I want to help educators create classroom environments that nurture the souls of their students with love and compassion!

2.
Why is doing what you do important to you and the world?

I believe that teachers and schools are
doing the very best they can, with the tools they have, to educate our youth. But, I do see a few areas that need tweaking. I don’t want to add anything
extra, to a plate that is already so very full. This is not about extra lesson
plans or marking, but it is about creating an environment in classrooms that
nurtures and loves the young souls with which we are entrusted. It is
challenging some old ways of thinking about students and the teaching culture.
It is about learning and demonstrating along side our students, the importance
of love, compassion, trust and respect. If we could create this environments in
our classrooms, imagine the ripple effect it could have on our world. I think
this is the missing piece of learning that truly prepares students for the
"real world"!

3.
Who is your ideal client and how can you help her/him?

My ideal clients are teachers. The
educators that go to work every morning wanting to make a difference. They can see the good in their students and they love them, but they have
forgotten to do that for themselves. Sometimes teaching can be a very
thankless job. Most teachers don't see it as a job, it's a
lifestyle.

One that they never really leave or shut down from. This
can be exhausting if they are not doing things to build themselves back
up. I want to help teachers rekindle the love affair with
themselves. We remind parents to look after themselves, so they can be
better for their families. Educators need to treat themselves with the
same tenderness. I want to be able to help them develop lasting
relationships with themselves, so they can go and create unbreakable bonds with
their students. I believe this is the most important aspect of
teaching. In order to teach kids to care, they have to believe we care
about them and teachers need to feel this same love. You can't give what
you don't possess!

4.
Who or what inspired you to start your own business?

I started this business for a variety of
reasons. I didn’t grow up longing to become a teacher. I went to
university and acquired an honours degree in business. After those four
years ended, I still didn’t know what job I wanted to pursue. My future
husband suggested teachers college and the rest is history. He saw
qualities in me, that I was not aware of myself, at the time. I was super
fortunate and was offered a full time contract, as soon as I completed school.
I jumped head first into a grade 3/4 classroom and treaded water, barely
keeping myself afloat, for that year. I still had lots of professional
growing ahead of me, but I enjoyed the time I spent with my students. I
was able to stay in that grade for a while, which allowed me to improve and
find tune my practice, with each new class. Then, I had my first son and
that experience made me a more thoughtful teacher. I began to see each of
my students as someones son or daughter. They were not just children,
they were precious souls that meant the world to their parents. I
began treating all of my students, with the love and care, that I wanted my son
to receive, during his day at school. I accepted kind gestures from the
my students with grace. The hug hello, the thoughtful picture that was
created just for me and the exciting story that had to be shared from the night
before, were invaluable gifts that I received daily. I was enjoying the
profession and realized that it had been the right career path for me. I
was meant to work with kids, but I began feeling that something was missing
from the curriculum.

This feeling of unrest was accompanied by
a drastic change at school for my son. He went from a boy who looked
forward to class, to one that cried and refused to get out of the car and start
his day. I was baffled by this new behaviour and to be honest, school has
been an uphill battle since then. I believe this change occurred because
it was the first time in his life, that he saw himself as less than. He
chose to believe a fictional story about himself, based on lack of educational
ability and self worth. His self confidence was shot and we are still
trying to build it back up. My eyes are not covered by blinders, when it
comes to my sons behaviour. He is a ball of energy and doesn’t fit the
traditional model of school very well. He needs lots of movement and some
freedom, but these needs are hard to meet in a regular class. I am not
blaming the school for his situation, but I tell it because there are MANY
students in this predicament in MANY schools.

Every child is born with a unique gift and
I believe that everyone has some form of brilliance. I see some form of brilliance in all my students. Whether
they grow to be a wonderful parent, they show us love through a kind gesture,
or they simply provide another perspective. All babies are born perfect and
brilliant and I believe we “educate” it out of them.

One of my favourite
students was a boy that performed horribly on his report card, but he would go
home at night and pull apart a radio and rebuild it perfectly. This is a
brilliant gift that is not assessed by school. He has great value in the world,
but school does not value his brilliance. We are all born with an important
purpose and we need to nurture our small souls so they can share it with the
world. This is why I created Teaching with Tenderness.
If we can create an environment in our schools that is rooted in love,
compassion and trust, then we can reach all students, regardless of academic
ability or subject matter. I want to help as many teachers as possible
establish this loving atmosphere in their classrooms.

5.
What are your top 3 lessons you've learned while building your business?

The top 3 lessons I've learned while
trying to build this business are;

1.You
have to step out of your comfort zone and just go for it.

2.There
will always be people that don't see your vision, don't talk to them!

3.Keep
your vision close and nurture it until you are ready to share it with the
world.

6.
What do you do on the "shit hits the fan" days?

Honestly I turn to as many spiritual
practices as I can remember to do. I try to remember to forgive the
situation and try to see what it is trying to teach me and learn from it.
I also call my best friend and thank God for her! She is always able to
let me vent without judgement and is able to talk me off a
"ledge". She isn't afraid to tell me what I need to hear in a
loving way. I am so grateful for her wise guidance and friendship.
If she isn't available, I try to find some form of inspiration to ground
myself. A Super Soul Sunday interview, a helpful quote or
listening to a self-help audio book will usually help me get back on
track. It takes conscious effort though. It sometimes feels like it
would be easier to just give up and go back to my old ways, but I know that
would never make me happy. So I just keep moving forward!

7.
What advice would you give to someone who is just starting out?

I am really just starting out myself, but
I guess my best advice is to find someone or something that you can take along
for the ride. It is not easy to step out of the norm and go for something
new, even if you know it's what you were born to do. We all need a
cheerleader that will help keep us moving forward. I am super fortunate
to have a few people in my life that will do that for me, but it doesn't have
to be a person. It can be a quote, a book, an interview that you can
listen to or it could just be a recording of yourself that you create. You have to know where to go to boost yourself up when you want to give
up. I immerse myself in spiritual practice as often as I can. It
helps keep me looking forward and believing that I can be a part of this change
that needs to happen!

8.
What was the best advice you've received?

The
best advice that I have received so far is probably to just have faith and just
go for it.

Quit trying to control it all and just ride the wave.

I
know with every fibre of my being that this is the work that I am suppose to be
doing. I get so passionate about it. I can see myself talking to
teachers and helping them be the best versions of themselves. I don't
know how the opportunity will come or when, but I do know that it will when the
time is right. So I just keep learning, expecting and practice being the
change that I want to see happen!

Being a flight attendant has taught me on the importance of being well groomed and looking good. It also taught me that first impression is very important because we represent the company.

Hence the interviews are very stringent.

I can't stress enough on how important first impression is even when it comes to running an ONLINE business.

A lot of people think that that they can FINALLY hide behind the computer and in their PJs all day long.

Well, that's 70% true. I do run my business without make up on most days.

However that being said I always make sure my first point of contact aka website or social media profiles are on point and looking chic.

While on the topic of chic, I'd like to introduce my friend Elina Alsiweadi, who is a Style Coach and she helps women feel beautiful and express themselves authentically through their clothing.

In this conversation, we addressed many reasons on WHY you need to look good at all times - even when you're just buying a loaf of bread from your local supermarket.

I seriously thought she was taking this a tad too seriously but she gave a very logical explanation.

Her reason was...

"You'll never know who you'll meet along the way!"

Ok! I get the point but I'm not sure if I'll do that.

That being said, I'll still put on my full suit of make up when I do my videos or host interviews like this one.

Yes! It's about creating a good impression but also it makes me feel even better about myself.

RuPaul said that people treat you differently when you're in a suit.

And having make up is our suit.

Don't you think you stand taller and walk straighter when you're in heels?

It's really all about feeling GOOD about yourself and the entire Universe will respond to it.

We also said that we need to change our mindset about looking good for the men or anyone else.

We need to want to look good for ourselves yet we see so many women just let themselves go.

I asked Elina why.

She said that many women (which I agree) don't feel safe when they look beautiful. As we've seen is the recent #metoo movement that so many of us have been silently holding on to this painful secret.

Well, the secret is out of the bag now and we can be safe as long as we stick together and take a stand for our womanhood.

With the online scene changing so quickly, we can only ensure that we keep ourselves in tip top condition.

As Oprah said, the only thing you can do is to be prepared when the day comes.

Now. Please enjoy the very candid conversation and let us know how do you keep yourself feeling beautiful.

Who is Elina Alsiweadi and Where to find her?

"I take solopreneurs, women business owners, and top executives on Soulful and Chic Journey to fulfillment and financial freedom WHILE helping you develop a stunning professional image that reflects your uniqueness, enhances your beauty, makes you feel sensational, and exudes success! I’ve spent over 20 years providing coaching and image consulting on the side while pursuing a successful career in banking until I finally surrendered to my real passion."

One woman told my friend Janet - who is a professional organiser, that she wanted to change her husband because he was simply to messy.

C'mon ladies... let's get real here... How many of you feel that you need to pick up after your husband and your kids?

Well, changing your husband just because he's messy isn't a valid reason so my friend, Janet suggested to this woman to have a system for his things so that he won't be placing his things all over the house.

The woman agreed and her marriage is saved!

Well, as a woman entrepreneur, our business is really an extension of our business and while things can be compartmentalise, we haven't mastered the skill (yet) to compartmentalise our emotions.

Back to business, generally, we don't enjoy living in a cluttered space because it makes us feel claustrophobic but yet we tend to be unwilling to let of things.

Are we hoarders then?

We tend to keep things because they trigger a memory or mostly living in the lack mentality.

Now as a business owner, we don't want to be hovering around lack mentality as that will bring our business down for sure.

Janet said that in our modern days, do we really need piles and piles of paper work lying around when we've softwares like CLOUD these days to keep our documents.

She also said that we're wasting precious time if we know we just bought the ink cartridge but can't find it and end up having to buy another one!

Oh mannnn.... I can't tell you HOW many times I've bought things double because I can't find them!

Well, as the saying goes, you can't think poverty and expect to attract abundance and I believe that's why CEOS and successful business hire Janet to clean up their act because they've more important things to do.

I believe you're the product of your environment and while I admitted to Janet that I can work in a messy place but after this conversation, I'm having second thoughts.

Because my work is all about keeping the vibrations high to receive divine downloads for my business, I really think I need to keep my space high vibing as well so that I can be supported for my work.

And as a result, be in the flow with the Universe.

Therefore, it's so important to keep our space neat and tidy to be in good spirits.

As the Law of Attraction states, Like Attracts Like and I'm not a fan of hustling to be successful and God created an opulent world.

So, it's time to allow the environment to support your good work so that you can fulfil your soul's mission here on earth.

Enjoy the conversation because I certainly did! 😁

Please share this post and if you've any questions, feel free to leave us a comment and let's get this conversation started.

Who is Janet and Where to find her?

"I help clients get organized in their home by clear the stuff out they no longer use, their office so that can be more productive and attract more money and life to have time to enjoy life by removing items from their full schedule." - Janet Taylor

As a coach, it can be difficult to watch the lack of progress of so
many promising entrepreneurs and coaches. They’ve dreamed for so long about
creating a solid, sustainable business, and yet, all they do is dream.

You know the people I’m talking about. They attend conferences, sign
up for free webinars, buy paid training, and sometimes even work with a coach
or two. And yet week after week, month after month, year after year, they fail
to make any progress toward their dreams.

Are they just lazy? No. It’s something worse. They don’t know how to
move from a dream to a plan and they’re stuck.

Start With the
Long-Term

If you’ve ever been on a job interview and were asked, “Where do you
want to be five years from now,” you might have thought it an odd question. But
as a business owner, that might just be the most important consideration you
can have.

Without knowing where you’re headed in the long term, it’s impossible
to create a map to get there.

You need to know what your destination is, so
that every day, week, month, and year you can check your progress to be sure
you’re still headed in the right direction.

Create Milestones

Once you know your ultimate destination, you can draft a plan for
getting there, and create the interim goals that will help you stay on track.

For example, if in five years you want to be free to travel for 8
weeks every year, then you need to have a few pieces in place before that can
happen:

·Enough income to cover travel costs

·Passive income to sustain your business while
you’re not working

·A staff who can manage the business while you’re
away

With this list, you can then work backwards from your five-year goal,
and create milestones along the way. If you know you’ll need to earn $150,000
annually in order to fund your travel plans, and right now you’re earning
$60,000, then reasonable milestones might look like this:

·Year 1: $70,000

·Year 2: $85,000

·Year 3: $105,000

·Year 4: $125,000

·Year 5: $150,000

With these milestones in place, it’s much easier to figure out exactly
what you need to do to achieve them, by setting monthly, weekly, and daily
goals.

Create Small Goals

If you say to someone, you need to move from $60,000 to $150,000 in
five years, that’s a pretty overwhelming task. After all, it’s a $90,000
increase and most people will look at that and immediately dismiss it as
impossible.

But when you break it down as we have above, and then again into
smaller steps, it suddenly doesn’t look so daunting.

In the first year of the plan we have outlined here, your income needs
to increase only by $10,000.

That’s less than $1000 per month! Surely that’s
easy enough to accomplish!

You can further break that down by week: $1000 per month is just $250
per week. If you sell just one more group coaching package, or five more of a
$50 training program, you’ve already reached your milestone.

That might mean sending one more email to your list, or investing an
additional $20 per month in Facebook ads, or perhaps reaching out to one more
JV partner. The point is, reaching this much smaller goal is far easier than
thinking about that five-year plan.

So what’s your big dream? How can you deconstruct it into achievable
milestones, workable goals, and finally, daily and weekly tasks?

If you can do
this (and you definitely can) then you can achieve anything in business and in
life.