Q: Why does my husband ask me over and over and over if I've done something (like pay the phone bill), and then insist he's not nagging?

A: It sounds like nagging to me. Here's a suggestion to make it stop: Next time he gets up your butt about the phone bill, or whatever, suggest that if he's so worried things aren't getting done according to his timetable, or standards, he can do them himself. That should quiet Captain Yapster down.