I have no idea what I'm doing. This guy is 26, so cute, so sweet, smart, and hilarious. I hung out with him a bunch in groups one weekend and he asked me out. Any advice??

Also I've basically never done anything with a guy (that includes kissing/cuddling/dancing/etc). Are kisses on first dates the norm? How do I know it's about to happen / anything I should know about that?!

General advice: Have fun. He asked you out because he likes you, so you've got that going for you! Try not to worry about what the 'right' thing to do is, just have fun.

Kissing / cuddling / dancing / etc advice: Kiss if you want to. Dance if you want to. Cuddle if you want to. If he asks you to dance / kiss / cuddle and you want to, just do it. If you want to kiss / whatever him, just do it. Don't worry, if he doesn't want to be kissed, he'll tell you. If he starts trying but you don't want to be kissed, you have a couple choices:

"Not right now" = guy code for "I am ok with the idea, but i don't want to do it right now. You should try again later." (Tone of voice indicates how soon you want him to try again)

"No" (or the stronger version) "Don't do that again" = guy code for "I'm not ok with this, I will not be ok with this, don't ever do it again" This will shut attempts at romance down pretty much immediately.

On a date, he's entitled to the same things you are - respect and safety. As long as both he and you get those things, there's really nothing "wrong" that you can do, only things that one or the other of you might not like. And those things are different for every person. So don't worry too much about it.

Dont even think of getting in the way of his chivalry. That isnt to say be a helpless maiden: if he opens a door for you, thank him. If he doesnt, dont just stand there, this is the 21st century: women can open doors now!

RELAX!! Focus on enjoying your time together. If you feel too much is happening too quickly (like too much physical action) just pull away a bit and he should get the hint. Though you get a lot of guys who don't get hints at all, so... lol, it's good to tell him you want to take it slow as well. Don't overload him with information right off the bat, though, it could make things weird. Just say things as needed.

What is the "norm" on a first date really varies from person to person. Don't worry about the standards. Think about yourself. Do you like this guy? What would you like to do with him? What do you think would be too much for you? And of course, remember that he might be the same as you, so don't expect him to be a total hornball either.

I met him the weekend before last and we hung out at his house (amongst other people) all night. We hung out some more the next 2 days, again with other people. He said he would plan a date for us on Saturday, and we've been texting a little. I really like him, and I really like that he asked me out before trying to kiss me or anything.

Well, keep in mind that while a lot of people won't be too concerned about your inexperience if they really like you (just means you've got a clean slate with no baggage they'll have to unpack and you'll be ready to learn!), some people would be put off by it, depending on what they want with you. If he just wants a short sexual fling, it might not be best for either of you. It could also be a red flag to some people that you haven't dated before, and make them think there's some nasty reason for it; I've been rejected before in a rather unpleasant (meaning not honest) manner and it really hurt.

That being said, don't lie about it. Like I said before, there's no need to throw information at him right off the bat, but dishonesty will really hurt you in the long run.

I emphasize that you RELAX about it all, though, because
a) if you stress about things too much you may ruin both your good times, and
b) if things don't work out for one way or another, oh well! You may be getting a late start in the game, but don't worry, there are PLENTY of other people willing to play with you.

Should be fun, have a good time! Will also be a bit awkward, but smile anyway because it's the good kind of awkward.

If you want to do something, do it. If you don't want to do something, don't. Don't pull a Mosby, though.

Does he know you've not kissed a guy before? That'll certainly make him more aware of the situation. As for the norm, nothing is really the norm. Every relationship is different, and if they weren't, then what would the point be? As for how you'll know it's about to happen, you'll probably know at some point before when his lips are on yours. Especially if he puts a hand on the side of your face to guide it to his.

Basically, don't overthink it. Just go with the flow and have fun. Good luck!

I haven't told him that I've never kissed anyone or that it's my first date. Should I tell him that? Should I just kind of let him take the lead on kissing me and go with it? If he does it, should I expect it to be like making out or just a quick kiss? Sorry I'm super lost here!

Don't tell him that. Save it for another time. He may try to kiss you or he may not. It's doubtful that he will expect you to be making out with him. My guess is that since this is your first date, you haven't been and you're not going to be sending out the signals that would indicate you're going to do more than give him a small kiss. Does that make sense? Anyways, making out with him probably isn't in your best interest since that has more potential to be awkward than a quick peck.

1: Do not, under any circumstances, talk marriage or the future. YOU might mean it's a far time off; he'll think you mean it now, and will run for the fucking hills.

2: If you want to cuddle/kiss on the first date, have sex on the first date. This really does not influence our opinion of you half as much as other things.

3: Don't mention you haven't kissed/cuddled before. Kisses CAN be the norm. Then again, sex on the first date is also a thing, and it led to a decent, two-year relationship. So I mean, it is what it is.

I think the thing about kissing is, if It's spontaneous and both people just relax and let it happen, it isn't a big deal if It's not a great kiss from a technical standpoint. What matters is that it happened when you both wanted it to, and that feeling is so much bigger than if it was too moist or too tight lipped etc.

My advice; if you don't feel comfortable with something say something. If you aren't sure on something say something. Keep an open line of communications. If you want to do something then tell him. I don't know how much or what planning went into the date so I can't suggest anything beyond that.

As far as everything else goes. Keep an eye on your and his reactions. You'll probably notice yourselves drifting together during the night. If you want to hold his hand, then drift in closer and do it. If you want to kiss him, then try to find a place where you're comfortable to do so. If you can't to cuddle or be held then, again, find a place to do so and do so. Plans can be changed. Being comfortable together is harder to achieve.

Relax and have fun. Don't worry to much if it goes well or not. Feel free to kiss him if you want to. That's appropriate date behavior. Remember, it's a lot harder to really creep out a guy than it is a girl.

As others have said just try to relax and be yourself. Also, try to make body contact with him in some way. Hug, him or touch his back / or arm. Give him some feedback, don't worry if you feel it things will be natural. I have also noticed / read that events where both parties experience an adrenaline rush together can help to instantly form bonds. I'm not saying rob a bank or something, but fast go carts etc does the trick.