Blogging On 'Your Tango'

Don't you just love being a member of Y/T? My experiences's of interacting with websites on the internet are probably more limited than those of the generation or two behind me- I don't have a Facebook or MySpace account. I don't even have a web page of my own. Other than using my PC for doing banking,looking at satelite weather,sending E-mails and researching information,my biggest use has been accessing news information. And most news and magazine sites allow me to COMMENT on their articles. That's the most satisfying part about accessing the news on the internet.

Years past,all we could do was read the articles and if we were very enthusiastic or upset about an article-at best we could pencil off a letter to the editor. Of course there were many limitations. First we had to take considerable time to:get a pencil,and paper,find a stamp,locate the address and then spend the time to write. We'd spend considerable time to make it coherent so it would be taken seriously and be allowed by the editors. My local paper only allows seven letters a year so you had to budget the priorites of what you were going to comment on, and of course you could only use up to 250 words-which insn't easy for me, I use that many just getting UP TO the starting gate. Lots of time and effort for what may never get into print. Myself,total number of times I went to the effort of doing all that:1.Total times it made it to print:0

On the internet it's easy. Read the story(looking at some of the comments- I don't think some even do that) and then"click":comment. Your ready to grace the rest of the reading public with your take on matters. Observing the comments on some sites- coherency isn't even much of a factor. Although on some of the more canabilistic sites if someone else doesn't agree with your view they will lombast you with ridicule for everything from "your party caused all these current problems"(How did they know my party affiliation?-all I said was I didn't think the extremely wealthy should keep getting all the tax breaks-particularly when their income all comes from capital gains on investments that are taxed at a reduced rate- much of which gets written off) to "You dummies can't even spell"(it wasn't a spelling error-it was a typo!). So much for the content of my character. It does get rather 'dog eat dog' out there. Sometimes even a story about some 'blob mass' observed ten million light years away brings about political assaults.

And then there's Y/T.What a refreshing break from the cruel news world. It's about love,relationships,and SEX. Even some of those(alright probably ALL of those) topics would bring out the political fanatics on other news sites. I think it was probably a story on SEX that I clicked on that that brought me to Y/T. Probably! I still find the topic as interesting as when I was a young boy looking at a book on anatomy in the public library.'READING' I meant; reading a book on anatomy at the public library. "Hey Tony, come and look at the picture of this dinosauer-this is wild." "No Pat,come look at this-THIS is wild!" READ! Read I meant;"read this,what an interesting passage".

At Y/T you not only get to read and comment on some great articles pertaining to love,relationships,and sex,you get to ask questions or pose a particular dilemna to other patrons for their collective advice. AND,sometimes you also get to have your story featured in the magazine for others to enjoy. Everything from "How to deal with a joint banking account between couples" to "How spanking your wife can increase her arrousal". I'm not into the S/M but I read it anyway. Interesting! In fact it opened my mind up to something I had always thought rather kinky. I even posed the idea to my mate-asked her if she thought it might increase HER arrousal. She asked me if I thought her knee in my groin would increase MY arrousal.We didn't attempt that one, but have learned some other pretty neat tricks in the bedroom from writers at Y/T.It's kind of like a'Cosmopolitan magazine' that you can interreact with.

One of my favorite parts of Y/T is the section where readers ask a question looking for advice in dealing with a situation. I've offered my viewpoint to a woman that was surprised her B/F was still watching porn-she wanted to know if ALL men do that.Only since the internet.One reader asked how you get teens to wait for sex. I could't resist answering that based on my wisdom and experience. "I usually have them stand in line and then just pick out the females." I DID give a real answer after that(fearing I might find my account closed the next day and maybe even a virus embedded message in my E-mail) but I had some fun untill my wine was all gone. Women that are in Obvious dead end relationships and are being used is one that many women jump on the bandwagon for. I think they get a lot of satisfaction telling the girl to 'dump the creep'. It seems to help heal their own past experiences when they couldn't see what was so obvious to others. Most guys don't like to see a woman taken advantage of either and are quick to point out that they would never treat a woman that way or never get away with such behaviour. Actually they got dumped and don't think this guy should get a free ride either.

One of the more unlikliest situations I've found myself in the midst of is explaining to a few women how to acheive better sexual outcomes with their partner. I've had two women contact me through my Y/T message box thanking me and asking for more insight. Dr.Tony! For some reason I feel myself explaining in a German accent. I even got a request from one women that wanted to continue conversation in regular internet E-mail. I only responded because I'd been in contact with her and I saw she had made posts-unlike some*. I've wondered what her boyfriend would think if he came accross an E-mail discussing explicit sexual advice-from a guy. Different strokes for different folks. Maybe they both share the information.

*Some women(?)that I've never even been in contact with have left me messages in my Y/T message box telling me they think they are in love with me from reading my Y/T bio and comments,and they think "we could be everlasting soulmates".And they would like to contact me through my regular internet mail. Please, I smell a rat here somewhere. If they didn't pour it on so heavy I might even fall for it. I don't even have a real picture on the site-maybe they think my avatar is sexy. Hey it does resemble me---thirty years ago. But they don't have any avatars with silver hair. Well,just out of curiosity I replied to the first one, with the supplied Yahoo E-mail address. Just in case she was some love starved naive young woman that needed to have someone to relate to-I didn't want to let her down. How noble of me. Curiosity was killing the cat.The next day I got a Hollywood produced graphically designed E-mail with photo included and soft music playing in the background in my return E-mail. She was 23 yrs old and attending a University in Kenya.She started to tell me about her life and family. I deleted it real fast and ran three virus scans. Much too professional! This was obviously not some 30 something naive young lady from Minnesota. I envisioned the pirates in Somalia were now into sending virus embedded files in E-mails that would steal my passwords and account numbers off of my hard-drive. At best I figured I would soon be hearing how she needed tuition,a laptop,or a new grass roof on the hut for her family of nine. All the succeding Y/T messages asking immediately for my E-mail address I send back to Lyz. Lyz is great in dealing with members of the community.

Lyz says I seem to have way too much fun on this site. I think she was attempting to pre-emptively head me off at the pass should I maybe ask for some sort of renumeration for my contributions since I seemed to spend so much time here. I'm just happy to be able to express myself and make contributions without having to worry about legnth and content. It's awfully frustrating to write something this long for a site like Huff-Post and upon clicking 'submit' it comes back: "comment is too long by 9000 characters," By the time I edit it down it has no content. I don't usually do the 'drive by' type comments. Besides, Huff-post and USA Today don't usually have articles on Romance,relationships and sex.Some sites are real picky about the language you use or the topic you choose. Almost none let you address topic's of sex. Even when THAT'S what THEIR story was about! At Y/T , people aren't trying to figure out what your political leanings are based upon your mentioning that you live with your girlfriend. "Yep, must be liftist commies". I think the one editorial I sent to the local newspaper a few years back probably got rejected because I used the word "masterbate". I wasn't even talking about SEX! I was making a comment about the President.