Among friends who are also open...which tends to be how I find partners also.

I also feel like some self-identified kinky people might have a limited definition of "kinky" (like, that kinky means that you're active in your BDSM community, or super into D/s). I don't necessarily look for people who label themselves as "kinky" so much as people who have positive, open attitudes toward sex, seem nonjudgemental, and who like to try new things.

I think there are a *lot* of people out there who wouldn't necessarily identify outwardly as "kinky" but who are to some degree. And that's cool.

What do you mean? Bringing it up to shock family or friends at dinner or at in normal social settings? No. I think it's inappropriate to bring up my sex life in regular social settings. I'm old enough that I don't feel the need to "educate" people all around me to try to legitimize what I do. I don't honestly care what people think, and I'm too old to want to shock people.

In a different setting, I won't lie. But, I feel no need to share my kinks with people who don't ask and honestly would do me or them no good to know about it.

With my partner? Of course. He's who I have sex with. I'm always open with him.

I'm secure enough in my sexual choices that I don't need to shout it from the rooftops. I'm not a 19 year old who feels like she just invented kink and needs to share it with the world, or shock everyone with her "wild" lifestyle. I have no desire to shock people just for the sake of shocking them. I don't understand the need to do that. One can be "honest" and discreet at the same time.

The people that need to know do, mostly just my boyfriend, mother, and a few close friends. Once my mother is a little more...accepting of the fact (she doesn't mind but it creeps her out a lot) I do plan on being much more open about it.