At one time, mourning a loved one meant dressing completely in black, including veils, hats and gloves. The rules of expected funeral attire have been altered over the years. The basics will remain the same though there are certain influences and circumstances that will require some occasional adjustments in style.

The traditional black suit and simple dress are very much still considered the best choice. The modern version is a semi-formal look that is just slightly more relaxed. The new normal is a bit more casual and comfortable, incorporating the additional accepted colors of gray and dark blue.

Men may continue to wear the traditional suit and tie, or they have the option to go with casual slacks paired with a collard shirt and sports coat. Black dress shoes are expected for all options. The primary rule is to keep things conservative, foregoing bold patterns, wearing light colored shirts with dark ties, jackets and pants.

Women should wear conservative office style dresses, skirts or suits in the darker colors. Avoid necklines that are low, hems that are high and patterns and design elements that are flashy as these elements tend to draw attention which is inappropriate for such an occasion. Flat shoes may be substituted for heels, especially for outdoor services.

The rules for children are far less rigid. Generally speaking, their style should be an age appropriate version of what adult's clothing with boys in suits or a collared shirt and tie, and girls in dresses. Though the little ones are not expected to wear black, their colors should be dark or neutral with patterns and ruffles kept to a minimum.

The traditional basics of funeral attire are always a safe guideline though there will be times when this is not the norm. Many religions and cultural groups have their own expectations as to how mourners should dress, and personalized instructions from the deceased may also change the rules. In those situations, the special style requests should be followed as a show of final respects.