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I jerked off with a straight friend

A few days ago, I was hanging out with this guy I work with. I've known him for about a year, but we never did anything outside of work until the other night. He's 19 and I know he's a virgin. He's a little stocky and not bad looking though. Anyway, we were at my apartment and I kept wondering if he'd wanna mess around with me. We drank a few beers and I suggested we watch a porno. A straight porno, cuz I didn't wanna freak him out. Eventually I told him the porno was making me horny and asked him if it was ok if I took my dick out and jerked. He said it was ok (he seemed a little weirded out by it though). After awhile, I suggested he just take his out too. We were both sitting on the couch together, but on opposite sides. He hesitated but soon he unzipped and started stroking it. Watching him jerk off made me cum about two minutes later. He kept whacking it and came a few minutes after that. Afterwards, I gave him a towel to clean up. He smoked a cigarette and then left soon after.

My question: Does this experience mean that he'd be down to try something gay in the future? I'm afraid to come on to him cuz I work with him and if he said no, it could make things weird. But we sat on the couch and jerked off near each other, that's something right? He hasn't spoken about it to me at work or acted differently at all since then. Any advice?

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Not necessarily. Just because he felt comfortable jerking off around you, doesn't mean he'd be willing to try more. The only way you will truly ever know is to ask him outright--bad idea. Or get him back over and try to take it a little further, go slow, maybe a little kissing..take it father the next time after if he seemed okay with it. It takes time to coax a nervous guy into doing something he may not have been comfortable with before. this guy could easily be gay but so deep in the closest that he doesn't seem so. You never know, the only REAL answer would be to try and see where it gets you, because we aren't in his head.
Hope I helped. XOXOX Greg

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

if you get to do this again with him and you guys are in the middle of jerking, (after he's good and hard and getting hornier) say something like "you want me to jerk you and you jerk me??" or "you wanna switch hands?" My guess is that he will take you up on it. he might be acting timid just as a cover up. Maybe he really wants to play with you but wants you to make the first move. I mean, how mad can he get if he says NO. Youre jacking off together for gods sake! hes not that shy.

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I'd maybe do it a few more times so he gets more comfortable with you and the situation. Once he's more comfortable with jerking in front of you, and he knows you're not going to tell everyone or rape him, he might be open to exploring farther... but I would definitely start with you servicing him and not pushing for reciprocation.

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The one thing I know is that he's not getting any pussy. He talks about watching porn in his room at home, that's how I knew he'd probably go for watching one at my place. I don't think he'd go for kissing or anything like that. I'm pretty sure he's not gay, but I have a feeling that he just MIGHT say yes to letting me jerk him or us jerking each other. As long as I played it off as a casual thing, like 'hey we should just jerk each other, it'll feel better'. But if he's not into it, he could tell a bunch of our co-workers. Maybe I should just let it go and just get him to whack off with me again. It's just so hard to forget about his dick now. While we're at work, I can't keep my eyes off his bulge.

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If he declines you jerking him off, hes certainly NOT going to tell people at work... I mean really, what's he gonna say? We were jerking off together??? that sounds just as gay, so he wont implicate himself like that... dont try to kiss. just ask about switching hands. In the heat of the moment, its hard to say no, especially if you know hes not getting laid and hasnt had any sexual contact with anyone else.. its harmless fun that even straight guys can wrap their head around and not feel gay. I still say go for it!

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Go for it. Many straight guys have had varying degrees of same-sex experiences, so why can't gays try messing around with women? I've slept with a few women before and it was pleasurable (depending on the partner).

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

The thing is - When you're at work, is he still talking about watching porn? If he is, the next time to cross paths, just casually ask him if he'd like to come back over and catch a movie? But keep moving. Don't corner him. No winking. Keep it casual, like you were just saying "Hi" in the way by.

Run into similar situations with straight guys that got a case of the guilts.

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Kissing. Haha. Yeah right. Whatever you do, do it slow. You should hang out with him a number of times before trying the same thign again. Of course he will blab at the office if you get too aggressive.

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I've never come right out and said I'm bisexual, but I've given hints here and there. Anyway, he's supposed to come over again tomorrow night after work. I told him that I have a really hot new porno movie the other day and he was like 'Yeah we gotta watch that'. So I'm pretty sure that he's down for some jerking again. I think I'm gonna suggest to 'give him a hand'. I'll let you know how it goes.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Originally Posted by Lecithen

I've never come right out and said I'm bisexual, but I've given hints here and there. Anyway, he's supposed to come over again tomorrow night after work. I told him that I have a really hot new porno movie the other day and he was like 'Yeah we gotta watch that'. So I'm pretty sure that he's down for some jerking again. I think I'm gonna suggest to 'give him a hand'. I'll let you know how it goes.

It's definitely a hot situation. Do not offer any kissing. That could kill it. He is not out of the closet yet and may never be. Once you both resume stoking you might bring out a bottle of lube, then ask him if he wants some. Then instead of handing the bottle to him go over and pour it on his cock. Help him spread it on if it feels right. Tell him you read that every guy has at least one homosexual experience in his lifetime, Then say something like I will bet your cock would feel great between my legs....see what happens....if he freaks out (which he won't ) tell him it has been a very long time since you had sex with a girl and any port in the storm will do as long as he doesn't ever tell anybody. Make sure you have a condom just in case he takes you up on it.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

He clearly knows that you guys are going to jerk off together if he is coming over to watch a new porn - so he is at least comfortable with that.

I agree with the guys that are saying take it slow - try sitting a little closer to him on the couch - but I would wait 1 or 2 more times before making a real move. You could maybe talk about how good a hand job feels - but give him a bit more time to get comfortable.

He may be open to more right now - or he may be trying to figure out how jerking off with you fits into his being a "straight" guy.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

The worst thing you can do is pay attention to his crotch during work. Just ease up a bit . See where things go when he comes over next.

Sit closer to him as jjonn3 said. Not on top of him but about a foot away from him. Try and catch him getting glimpses at your cock. If he is paying more attention to your dick then the porno then move forward onto lube, if he doesn't then he is only interested in the porno which all hope isn't lost, its just delayed. Let it flow, don't rush into it.

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He just left my apartment. I gotta get to bed, but just a quick update: we jerked off again tonight while watching porn. I didn't try anything with him but I wanted to so bad. He seemed a lot more comfortable taking his dick out and whacking it around me this time, though. I did notice that he looked down at my cock every so often while we were jerking. Maybe it was just curiosity, I don't know. I definitely watched more of him than the porno, and I'm sure he noticed that. I gotta get him back over here soon and see just how 'relaxed' he gets around me next time. Thanks for the advice, everyone!

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I'm more interested to know what happens after you both cum?
who shot first? did he watch when you shot? did you use a towel to clean up?
did you lick all the cum off his towel after he left?

Both times we jerked off together, I came first. The second time, he came right after I did. And yeah, I definitely saw him take a few glances down at my crotch while I was shooting. That's why I think he's a little turned on or at least curious about us jerking it together. Anyway, he wants to come over this week and he even said that he's bringing us a porn we can watch, so I really have a good thing going here, no matter what happens. Even if all we ever do is whack ourselves off while sitting on the couch together, that's still pretty cool.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Originally Posted by Lecithen

Both times we jerked off together, I came first. The second time, he came right after I did. And yeah, I definitely saw him take a few glances down at my crotch while I was shooting. That's why I think he's a little turned on or at least curious about us jerking it together. Anyway, he wants to come over this week and he even said that he's bringing us a porn we can watch, so I really have a good thing going here, no matter what happens. Even if all we ever do is whack ourselves off while sitting on the couch together, that's still pretty cool.

That is "pretty cool!" Agreed! No matter what else happens at this point. For you both Just to be on that comfort level with a guy friend is tremendous! The trust level is Huge! Please keep us informed immediately after he leaves the next time it happens. Remember to keep the lube by you, then offer it to him, but squirt it on his cock for him if he says yes he wants some. Then rub some on his balls.

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^ That's what my fwb did the last time we were together. He sucked and jacked my cock till I came. He had never seen it actually cumming. Then he rubbed my load all over my dick and balls........it was hot.......

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Great first step, but you need to give comments on how great his cock looks, or how big, guys love hearing about their big cock, depending on his reaction you take it from there. At work don't talk about it except in private, he might be a little shy, ask him to join you for a beer your treat, works for me.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Originally Posted by jmadaf

Great first step, but you need to give comments on how great his cock looks, or how big, guys love hearing about their big cock, depending on his reaction you take it from there. At work don't talk about it except in private, he might be a little shy, ask him to join you for a beer your treat, works for me.

That sounds like a good idea, maybe I'll try it. His cock is probably around six inches, but any guy would like to hear that they have a big one. He does have a nice set of big, hairy balls and I would love to tell him that I think so. He's coming over again tomorrow, I think.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

I did something similar with a guy I went to school with. Things were cool and we had fun. I decided to test the waters a little and instead of putting in a straight porn as usual, I put in a bi vid. At first he just kinda looked at me like wth. I blamed it on the porn shop where I rented the dvd. He nervously said it was ok and we kept watching. We started talking about guys "experimenting" and how all guys are curious etc. By the time the dvd was half over we were jerking each other off. The next time we got together we didn't even watch the dvd. He and I tried just about everything. We didn't kiss or rim. Thats about it.

Not sure if it will work for you but it's an idea. Good luck with things and I look forward to hearing the updates.

Re: I jerked off with a straight friend

Rather than escalate with bi/gay porn or leading comments that might lead to a freak-out, I'd recommend just staying on the the steady course you're on. It's fun, you're getting more comfortable in each other's presence, and probably at some point soon the other guy will feel like making a move or signal that he's ready for you to make one. He'll probably be more into interactivity if he gets to pick when it happens and doesn't get put on the spot.

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I jerked off with most of my friends growing up. All were straight. It never occurred to us to attempt to kiss (other than one guy who was very drunk). Most of my early experiences with my friends did lead to giving one another head but kissing seemed too gay. ha-ha

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Sorry it's been a long time, but there really hasn't been any news...until now. Two nights ago, he came over and I finally got to jerk his cock! We were sitting there in the couch, as usual, stroking ourselves with our pants and undies down around our ankles. I shot my load and cleaned myself up while he was still stroking. I sat there and watched him for a while and then I asked him 'Do you want some help with that?' He just stopped and looked at me and said 'Help with what?' I asked him point blank 'Want me to finish jerking you off?' He seemed a little shocked and looked away. I thought I'd made a mistake by mentioning it, but I just told him that I wouldn't tell anyone and it's not like a gay thing (well for me it was hehe). He told me I could. YES! I moved closer to him on the couch and wrapped my hand around his hard, hairy dick and it was amazing. I jerked his cock for a few minutes, then he warned me that he was gonna cum. He shot his wad all over my hand. Some got on his legs and his chest (he shoots a LOT).

Afterwards, he left kinda quickly but he acts normal at work the next day. I really hope it happens again.