Everything You Need To Know About Dating A 30-Year-Old Man As A 20-Something Girl

Im 35 and dating a 20 year old

I'm unclear if he thinks relationships have predictable expiration dates or if that's just the way things seem to work out for him. Which he doesn't want to Take because he might absentmindedly forget to give it back to you and im 35 and dating a 20 year old around with it in his pocket and then throw those pants in the washing machine by mistake!!!

You are a young, happening lady, and there are definitely other fellows out there who would love to date you without weird flip-flopping drama about everything. The level of teaching here's how to do sexcontrolling relationships work best if you take my view of relationshipsand self-doubt-complaining you're so young, you're going to hate me in 5 years he seems to want to do with you is not worth your time. Again, they understand women.

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Thanks for all the quick replies. You should be having this discussion together; he shouldn't be telling you what you want out of a relationship.

Why did I put up with that? It seems like both of you are kind of looking at a relationship as a contract, which to me is a strange way to approach the topic. Also, his family doesn't know who he was calling.

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Though its been a roller coaster, I'm so glad that it exposed me to this community of wonderful, supportive people. It's weird to demand a specific planned length for a relationship before it even starts. They are established homeowners who are living in a place that is welcoming to a partner.

And then eventually you just hide her posts, and oh my God, it's like night and day, the annoyance totally evaporates, and you can't believe you put up with it for so long? He's trying to wear you down so you'll sleep with him -OR- he's an immature drama queen.

The whole "We're meeting at coffee shops but not anywhere that could lead to sex" plan is terrible, and I suspect he knows it. Before he preached about "strong feelings" and "love down the line" is crazy manipulative all by itself.

It really sucks to hear "I met someone else" or "I'm going to start seeing [Katie] exclusively" rather than the general "this isn't working out" breakup script. Your follow-up response has made it abundantly clear to me that 1 you like and admire the man, and 2 you're going to become increasingly uncomfortable with the responses on this thread.

I'd consider dating someone who was 21 or 22 but out of school. I don't know if that makes her a "kitten" instead of a "cougar" but I can tell you one thing: We also talk regularly on the phone late at night which I imagine is not very likely to happen if a girlfriend is a reality. If nothing else, he's playing the field and has eggs in different baskets.