If only! Why she never stood up to them, Xander especially I never understood. How many of his dates did she have to kill over the years. Praying Mantis woman, Ampata, the chick with the rope in season 7, heck she even had to stab Anya! She never said a word to him about his choices. She let him live his life and make his mistakes without interference. But he can't do the same for her. It's not like he fought Angel and sent Angel to hell. He might have a small argument if that had been the case. But she did it.