Another cheating husband

Found out yesterday my husband of 6 years has been cheating on me for pretty much my entire pregnancy. Tool her on a weekend trip, bought her an iPad, etc. all the while I'm home pregnant with our 3 year old the ENTIRE time he worked out of he state. I confronted him multiple times on suspicions and he denied it every time, talking to her on our family beach trip. He could never get away fast enough. He think we can work it out with counseling and basically me babysitting him. I'd tell him to kiss my ass if it weren't for my babies...I'm still due on the 28th. How the fuck will I ever trust him or anyone again??

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You probably won't.
Honestly you don't need to take him back.
The best thing to do sometimes is leave. A happy home is sometimes a divided home. I know you want to work it out for the sake of your children but he went beyond forgiving.
If it was a one night stand, uh MAYBE would I forgive but he wined and dined this lady.

What kind of example will you be setting for your children if you allow yourself to be treated that way? I would leave. You deserve better. A man that cheats, especially on his pregnant wife does not deserve a second chance.

I'm 28 now, my parents separated when I was 4. I tell my mom several times a year that the best thing they could have ever done for me was to separate from each other. Their relationship was so toxic that I only remember the bad times that we had as a family...vividly.

I'm not trying to steer you in your decision, I'm just telling you how I felt as a child in a similar situation.

Oh goodness. This is tough. It's easy for us to go "oh just divorce him" but that's easier said then done. I say give it time. Lots of it. My DH (dear husband) and I seperated for a few months once. I went into thinking I was totally done and then I realized just how much I missed him. Without that time off we probably would still be treating eachother like crap and certainly wouldn't be pregnant. It taught us both a lot and now we are happier then ever. I would try to seperated for a while. You can make major decisions about counseling or divorce later. Go with you gut and give yourself some time and space to heal. Good luck

i'm so sorry! that is awful. read Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken by Cindy Beall if you want some different perspectives. It also acknowledges that sometimes it can't be saved and you just have to move on, but you will. Every situation is different. T&P!

Honestly, you never will trust this man again. You may give him another chance and act all lovey dovey for the sake of your children, but trust me, you'll never be able to trust him completely again and therefore you'll never be completely happy in this relationship however much you try. And I think you would be setting a very bad example to your children letting their father trod all over you.
If it had been a "mistake", he would have realized it the first time you suspected it and gotten rid of her. But if she's still stocking around after months of you nagging at him, then it surely means something to him and he was willing to jeopardize your relationship and family for her sake.

if it were me, I would give him the boot. But it's your life and you should take an informed decision. It'll be hard in the beginning, you might wonder you should have stayed but surely someone else will come along who really deserves and appreciates you. There is nothing time can't heal.

Coming from someone with a cheating dad my whole life. He will do it again and you won't ever be able to trust him. We saw what my mom went through with my dad and it affected all of us in different ways. My sister is now with a cheating husband and making the same mistakes my mom made. It breaks my moms heart to see her do it. I have huge trust issues even though my husband has never given me a reason not to trust him. I admit I can be a little crazy at times. My younger sister doesnt trust anyone and has had bad relationships. I would advice that if he was cheating to that extent there is a very good chance he will do it again. I am so sorry you are going through this right now I hope the best for you and your family.

You just found out yesterday so your emotions are very high. Just give yourself time. It's so easy for everyone to throw stones and tell you he is a monster and that you should leave but EVERYONE makes mistakes in life. If he wants to stay and work it out I would atleast give him a chance to prove you wrong. You are finding this out at the worst possible time but maybe this new life will help bring yourfamily back together and help heal all of you. And maybe it won't but you won't know until you try.

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