So mad!!

I'm 26 weeks pregnant and my partner doesn't drive. He has know I'm pregnant since January. Since then I've been nagging him to take lessons as he will need to drive me to hospital when I go into labour.

We have no family nearby (at least 2 hours away) nor friends as we have recently moved to a new area. Plus I don't want my parents or anyone else to be put in this position. I also do not want my mother at the birth as she is very panicky and high stress.

Partner has just told me he's started to look at intensive lessons but the next available driving test is 2 weeks before baby is due...

I am so upset and angry right now. He is assuming he will pass first time which is ridiculous but also baby could come early! And I am not going to feel confident in a car with him after he has 2 weeks driving experience and needs to do 45min drive to our hospital which involves busy motorways...

I am so disappointed and just needed to get this off my chest...I wish I could drive myself but I know that's super dangerous.

If anyone know of any miraculous ways to book earlier test dates let me know!

Yes OP, your partner has been immature, lazy and a let down to you. I hope he shapes up when the baby is born. All I can suggest is use the time between now and the birth to research a cab firm who would be willing to take you in labour or phone for an ambulance when the time comes if no cabs are willing. When you are in labour, if they do want to send you home, explain your situation/kick up fuss/ whatever it takes to make them allow you to stay.

I'm sure not every single woman pregnant has a car in the family. you have a relative who could help out? Or a good friend? I actually took my DSis to hospital because her DH was with the other 3 kids until the morning.

Ask your midwife what options you have? If push comes to shove the ambulance will come for you.

I was in labour with my first for over 15 hours. A 45 minute drive is no time in that respect, but I know every pregnancy varies.

I'm not sure there's realistically a lot else the poor guy can do. It took me a year's worth of lessons to get through my test so this was never a guaranteed solution even if he'd pulled his finger out. Find a reliable cab company, tell the hospital you have no transport if they ask you to leave, and explain to him he's going to have to taxi a baby seat out to you so you can all come home safely by cab. Not the ideal situation but not the end of the world.

I had a similar situation when I had my last DS. We only had one car - H worked shifts 45 mins in one direction and hospital was 45 mins in the other. I explained to the midwife and she suggested that I should call her (actually it was a central number and team of 5 or 6) and someone would come out and assess me. If they thought I was ready to go, I could then call a cab and H could meet me there. Surely you could do something similar.

Whilst frustrating if he hasn't done anything so far, in reality there are options and I'm not sure its worth stressing over.

I sometimes wonder if people bother to actually read the OP's post before posting their comments.

SandyY had a good idea about speaking to your midwife. Maybe there are volunteer hospital drivers in your area who could take you home, your midwife may be able to point you in the right direction. Failing that, I know you don't want your mum there for the birth, but perhaps when she visits after it could coincide with taking you home?

Mishaps -- Her partner has had since January to get his ass in gear, she doesn't need to cut him any slack at all.

It's not a legal requirement to use a car seat for a baby or child in a taxi. Obviously it is preferable to do so, but you could legally have the baby on your lap or in a sling (with the straps across your body, not the baby's).

OP- have you considered home birth (as RedLarva suggests). I agree with OddSocks that this is not a decision to make solely because you have not arranged transport but the fact that I was stressed about how to get to the hospital in time (due to traffic congestion not lack of transport in my case) was a factor for me. If you've got a low risk pregnancy and it's something you're interested in anyway it might be worth looking in to. It made the whole thing much less stressful for me but clearly is a personal decision.