He is useless with women and couldn't have an affair if he tried. He is also a terrible liar. He does have a lot in common with her as she shares an interest of his (which I don't) so I think it was just an extension of 'yes, isn't she nice' and he forgot himself.

I'm a bit hurt though! Not necessarily that he thinks it, but that he didn't have the decency to keep it to himself.

I'd be staying in a hotel tonight and seriously rethinking things. I do have extremely high expectations of my OH though and expect to be worshipped and his ideal woman. Not in a high maintenance way but I wouldn't stick around if my OH thought there was someone else out there who was his ideal woman. Otherwise, I'd feel like he was settling for second best in me.

I suppose you could possibly take it as a compliment, he is honest enough to tell you this, you know he wouldn't ever cheat which is reassuring and even though they have lots in common he still wants you more than her

Why didn't you point out that 'if things were different' you might have married Johnny Depp (substitute movie star of your choice), or that rather fetching hunk up the road or the one you see on your various travels who looks as if he's well hung a high achiever?

I'd roar with laughter and never let him forget it, I'm afraid. But then my DH said shortly after we met "X is much sexier than you, but I think I'd get bored with her conversation so I've decided to marry you instead."

Ugh, that would really upset me. Men can be so stunningly insensitive. I remember an ex saying "if you looked like [horrible girl I hated, who had big tits] I'd marry you" - twat!

And recently, my dp said that he would climb over my head to get to [random pretty actress] - he meant no harm by it and couldn't understand why it hurt my feelings, but I bet if I said it to him about an actor I liked he'd suddenly get it!