I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

Not sure I really agree w/ the above criteria you use to identify bullying behavior.

But I def agree that the person who wrote the letter intended to bully her.

And good for her that she was mentally strong enough to post the letter and call this person out on his/her BS.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

Not sure I really agree w/ the above criteria you use to identify bullying behavior.

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And good for her that she was mentally strong enough to post the letter and call this person out on his/her BS.

Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

+1

Some definitions say bullying is repeated action, and committed by someone who has or tries to exert power over another or intimidate them. Thats the definition Im most familiar with. Every act of rudeness isnt bullying or bigotry.

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I also think she probably should have named the guy who wrote the letter.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

I don't agree. It would be retaliatory. Sinking to his level is not the answer. She handled it with grace and dignity.

Originally Posted by juanab

Sometimes I think that. But by the same token if he truly feels that way, then he should be able to stand behind his words.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

I agree on principle, but considering how crazy people get I'd worry that revealing his name could be dangerous. While the guy is a total ******* and I loved the anchor's response, considering her job she's the one with the power here...she has a wide audience and telling them who he is pretty much inciting her viewers to do something.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

She does? She doesn't look fat to me...

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I also disagree with the definition of bullying springcurl suggested. I see bullying as the intentional infliction of mental and/or physical distress through harassment, physical violence, mocking, gossip, social exclusion etc. by a person who is in a position of relative power over the victim and who abuses that power.

Calling someone fat may or may not fit that definition. It depends on who says it to who and why and in what context, etc.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

She does? She doesn't look fat to me...

Originally Posted by Amneris

Huh? She said it in the video. I'm not making a value judgment.

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I also disagree with the definition of bullying springcurl suggested. I see bullying as the intentional infliction of mental and/or physical distress through harassment, physical violence, mocking, gossip, social exclusion etc. by a person who is in a position of relative power over the victim and who abuses that power.

Calling someone fat may or may not fit that definition. It depends on who says it to who and why and in what context, etc.

Originally Posted by Amneris

I don't see how this is disagreeing.

The comments made putting someone down automatically puts them in a position of power.

Intentional infliction of mental or physical distress through harassment...etc, etc.... sounds like a very 'dictionary' definition. Whatever. How is calling someone fat at least not an attempt at bullying. Even if the person was self confident and not afflicted by her size, the attempt was still there.

I saw this and someone said to me, "Oh, so now just calling someone fat is a bully?" And my answer was (and this is a discussion we've actually had on this forum): Yes, it's bullying behavior because (1) she knows she fat and therefore he's not telling her anything she doesn't know. (2) The only reason that someone so wholly unconnected to her would tell her she's fat is to be a bully.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

Not sure I really agree w/ the above criteria you use to identify bullying behavior.

But I def agree that the person who wrote the letter intended to bully her.

And good for her that she was mentally strong enough to post the letter and call this person out on his/her BS.

I also disagree with the definition of bullying springcurl suggested. I see bullying as the intentional infliction of mental and/or physical distress through harassment, physical violence, mocking, gossip, social exclusion etc. by a person who is in a position of relative power over the victim and who abuses that power.

Calling someone fat may or may not fit that definition. It depends on who says it to who and why and in what context, etc.

Originally Posted by Amneris

I don't see how this is disagreeing.

The comments made putting someone down automatically puts them in a position of power.

Intentional infliction of mental or physical distress through harassment...etc, etc.... sounds like a very 'dictionary' definition. Whatever. How is calling someone fat at least not an attempt at bullying. Even if the person was self confident and not afflicted by her size, the attempt was still there.

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Originally Posted by iroc

No, comments made putting someone down don't automatically put them in a position of power.

If some homeless, drunk person on the street calls me fat, that does not give them power over me.

If a little child calls me fat, that does not give them power over me.

If my boss calls me fat, he has power over me already and calling me fat is an abuse of such power.

I also disagree with the definition of bullying springcurl suggested. I see bullying as the intentional infliction of mental and/or physical distress through harassment, physical violence, mocking, gossip, social exclusion etc. by a person who is in a position of relative power over the victim and who abuses that power.

Calling someone fat may or may not fit that definition. It depends on who says it to who and why and in what context, etc.

Originally Posted by Amneris

I don't see how this is disagreeing.

The comments made putting someone down automatically puts them in a position of power.

Intentional infliction of mental or physical distress through harassment...etc, etc.... sounds like a very 'dictionary' definition. Whatever. How is calling someone fat at least not an attempt at bullying. Even if the person was self confident and not afflicted by her size, the attempt was still there.

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Originally Posted by iroc

No, comments made putting someone down don't automatically put them in a position of power.

If some homeless, drunk person on the street calls me fat, that does not give them power over me.

If a little child calls me fat, that does not give them power over me.

If my boss calls me fat, he has power over me already and calling me fat is an abuse of such power.

Originally Posted by Amneris

It can. It depends on how you receive the comment. You may not be made to feel intimidated by the homeless man's comment, yet another woman might. Again, the intent of bullying is there. You cannot judge how another person would feel in the same situation.

The guy's name is out there. I was just getting my nails done and some show with Kathy Lee Gifford and Hoda (can't remember her last name) was on tv. They showed the text and the guy's name was right at the top. I think he might have posted a response to her.