Got My Wife A Dildo... Throw Me Some Tips

Her X-bf in the past got her a dildo and she hated it.. it was too big for her. So I got her a normal sized one that got great reviews (the reviewers have never let me down yet). So I can probably go to town on her with it once she is all lubed up.

So what is the best way to use it on her? What feels the best? What have experienced users on here done with their dildos? It's a little too big for anal and she isn't into that, so any double penetration stuff is out.

I just got some new anal beads I can use on her, plus I have the clit vibe we used on our honeymoon that drove her crazy.

So any combo of these things can be used together, plus of course my dick and tongue.

I suggest you let her experiment with it by herself first. That way, she can figure out what feels best and give you some lessons.

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I've tried to get her to masturbate in front of me before, so I can get an idea of how she likes to be touched. But she wasn't comfortable with it. So I don't know if this will be the same thing or not...

She did grab the clit vibe from me and start using it on herself, so that is probably a very good sign.

I know you have said your husband uses one on you CL, what has he done wrong that annoys you and what does he do that you love?

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I wouldn't use the anal beads on her until she is really hot and bothered. Let her get relaxed before going there. Start off with going down on her, getting her good and wet then start playing with the dildo. Maybe running it up and down and slowly sliding it in and out. Just tease her with it. Then go back to licking her clit. Then once she is use to the dildo then work the beads in.
One word of advice, if anything fails and she doesn't like it, the chance of having a second chance is slim. Good luck.

I wouldn't use the anal beads on her until she is really hot and bothered. Let her get relaxed before going there. Start off with going down on her, getting her good and wet then start playing with the dildo. Maybe running it up and down and slowly sliding it in and out. Just tease her with it. Then go back to licking her clit. Then once she is use to the dildo then work the beads in.
One word of advice, if anything fails and she doesn't like it, the chance of having a second chance is slim. Good luck.

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We have used a lot of toys before, just never a regular dildo. We have used a rabbit, but once it is in, you keep it in and let it work its magic. So I basically know how to get her ready for the dildo, as the Rabbit we have is pretty big.

With the anal beads, we have used them a lot as well. Just I never used them while I was inside her or in this case, using a dildo. So basically getting her ready and knowing when to use the toys on her is like second nature for me.

What I am not sure of is if something is sliding in and out of her would it change the sensation and make it uncomfortable if I slide the anal beads out.. or if that would be a pleasurable sensation.

I know in the end it is best to ask her, but I don't think she will really know the answer until I do it... which is why I'm trying to see ahead of time what is pleasurable and what isn't, for other women.

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I have to disagree with Johnny's statement that you have to get it right the first time or she won't let you try again. Practice makes perfect, and I think most women know that unless you do something that really hurts her.

Here are a couple of links to stories I wrote about my husband using a dildo on me. Keep in mind that just because I like it a certain way doesn't mean that your woman will. We each react differently to things and that is another reason I say she needs to find out what she likes the best first, before she can show you.

Oh, and as for things that he's done with the dildo that kind of annoy me, I think what I found to be the least pleasurable is when he just does the same thing over and over again. Change the depth, speed of thrusting, and the angle at which you go at it. In short, use the dildo on her like you would your own cock.

Also, DON'T put a cold dildo inside of her. Warm it up with your hands or keep it on a heating pad until you are ready to use it. Nothing ruins the moment more than cold rubber being pushed inside of me.

On a side note, when I use a dildo whilst playing solo I alternate between pumping it in and out and just holding it inside of me as I use a vibe on my clit. It seems that the combination of those two things sets me off like a rocket.

I have to disagree with Johnny's statement that you have to get it right the first time or she won't let you try again. Practice makes perfect, and I think most women know that unless you do something that really hurts her.

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We experiment a lot and as you can imagine, things don't always go as planned. So I'm not too worried about it.

Here are a couple of links to stories I wrote about my husband using a dildo on me. Keep in mind that just because I like it a certain way doesn't mean that your woman will. We each react differently to things and that is another reason I say she needs to find out what she likes the best first, before she can show you.

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Ya I totally understand that what one woman likes, another may not. Like I know from reading some of your posts you like big dildos and she isn't really into them. If I went out and bought a big ass one like her ex did (I believe it was an 8x6), she would never use it.

So obviously I can't just jump to conclusions because "Hey CL likes big dildos so my wife will to!!" But luckily she told me how much she disliked that one her ex got.

Oh, and as for things that he's done with the dildo that kind of annoy me, I think what I found to be the least pleasurable is when he just does the same thing over and over again. Change the depth, speed of thrusting, and the angle at which you go at it. In short, use the dildo on her like you would your own cock.

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Ya I'm always trying to keep her guessing when I use my dick, so I doubt that will change with the dildo. The dildo is bendable, which is why I think it got such good reviews... I'll have to try changing the angles and see if I can hit a sweet spot...

Also, DON'T put a cold dildo inside of her. Warm it up with your hands or keep it on a heating pad until you are ready to use it. Nothing ruins the moment more than cold rubber being pushed inside of me.

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She asked me to try a popsicle on her once and that didn't go over well

Maybe if I keep it under the pillow or the covers while I'm doing oral on her, it should be warm enough?

On a side note, when I use a dildo whilst playing solo I alternate between pumping it in and out and just holding it inside of me as I use a vibe on my clit. It seems that the combination of those two things sets me off like a rocket.

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Ok so maybe keeping it inside her while using the clit vibe will work? I will have to try that.

This dildo I got has a vibe on it, so maybe I can turn it on while its in her? That may set her off big time maybe...

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Dildos that vibe don't to a heck of a lot for me while they are inside because I need the vibes to be on my clit for maximum pleasure. Just yesterday I tried to use the new vibe/dildo my husband got me without it ever touching my clit. I left it inside, working it this way and that trying like hell to get a g-spot orgasm from it.

After about an hour of frustration, I just threw it to the side and used my old standby rubber dick while using my Eroscillator on my clit and I came like a wild beast.

The Hitachi Magic Wand that I use a lot has an attachment for vaginal penetration and that feels great but only because even when it's inside of me the little nub at the base of it still hits my clit.

I have never gotten off by just using a dildo or a dick inside of me. If your wife is the type that can come from penetration alone, then a dildo might do it for her, though.

To get more pointers you might want to look at some amatuer porn of women masturbating with dildos to see how it's done.

Dildos that vibe don't to a heck of a lot for me while they are inside because I need the vibes to be on my clit for maximum pleasure. Just yesterday I tried to use the new vibe/dildo my husband got me without it ever touching my clit. I left it inside, working it this way and that trying like hell to get a g-spot orgasm from it.

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If your husband sticks his fingers inside you and rubs your G-spot, does that set you off?

Maybe you need really firm pressure on your Gspot like my wife?

After about an hour of frustration, I just threw it to the side and used my old standby rubber dick while using my Eroscillator on my clit and I came like a wild beast.

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Ya my wife was loving the clit vibrator, but she wasn't cumming. So she asked me to slip inside her and she went insane. So everytime we did that, she came in like 2-3 mins easy...

There is obviously a connection between both penetration and clit stimulation for both of you.

I have never gotten off by just using a dildo or a dick inside of me. If your wife is the type that can come from penetration alone, then a dildo might do it for her, though.

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Ya penetration alone can get her off, especially doggystyle. Me and I think two other guys were the only ones who could do it tho... other guys couldn't. So it is most likely a mental thing maybe.. I don't know.. a lot of sex is a mental thing.

Honestly all that said, I don't care if she orgasms with the dildo alone, we have my tongue, fingers and the clit vibe to help so no biggie.

I thought you said once that when you use your big dildos that when your husband goes inside you, it sets you off... or did I read that wrong? Just you meant it felt good, but you couldn't cum?

I would think it would be the opposite if you go from something big to something a little smaller... but I'm a guy so I'm stupid anyway...

To get more pointers you might want to look at some amatuer porn of women masturbating with dildos to see how it's done.

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No, I have not been able to have a g-spot orgasm from my husband fingering me. It feels good but it's not enough to take me over the edge. I have only been able to reach that point a couple of times, once from Wand and once from a rabbit vibe I had.

Regarding me using a bigger dildo and then my husband penetrating me after that, what I meant was I feel more excited by him at those times but still, sadly, it's not enough to make me orgasm.

On the other hand, if I use a vibe and a dildo and have an orgasm, sometimes if I keep pumping myself I can extend the orgasm for quite a while and even experience what I call "mini quakes", not quite mindblowing orgasms, but something more than just being excited.

No, I have not been able to have a g-spot orgasm from my husband fingering me. It feels good but it's not enough to take me over the edge. I have only been able to reach that point a couple of times, once from Wand and once from a rabbit vibe I had.

Regarding me using a bigger dildo and then my husband penetrating me after that, what I meant was I feel more excited by him at those times but still, sadly, it's not enough to make me orgasm.

On the other hand, if I use a vibe and a dildo and have an orgasm, sometimes if I keep pumping myself I can extend the orgasm for quite a while and even experience what I call "mini quakes", not quite mindblowing orgasms, but something more than just being excited.

Just be ready for surprises. I got my wife her very first toy at age46. It was our 3rd marraige for both and she had two adult kids from hubby #1 nutsack when in her 20s. But it was a nice respectable thickness, lifelike rubber vibrating dick about 9 inches long. When I requested she use it on herself while I watched, she started out nice and slow as any woman does. And as I watched her ease it in and out of herself, going a bit deeper each push, she got to the point past where I'd ever seen any of my exes get. And keeping with it she took every bit of the flesh colored part, then to my amazement, took the entire thing! Battery cap and all, and her meat curtains closed and it was gone!!! That made me feel a bit inadequate to say the least, plus made me realize I may have married a whore.