Lyric issues.....

Backround: OK i just joined this heavy metal band that needed a bassist which is great because i love heavy metal. So i met up with the guitar player to do a practice yesterday and he went over the songs that he had done and i wrote everything down so i can practice when they arent around. Yeah so anyways i ask him if i can read his lyrics and he hands them to me and i start reading them. And heavy metal lyrics I know are supposed to be a little on the darker side but listen to these..."I am gunna hunt down my friends one by one with a knife:" or something like that.....i personally think that they are rather disgusting after columbine and stuff.
Issue: And this is the problem...My parents are gung-ho catholics and since iam only 14 i cant really do things on my own yet but yeah they wud kill me if they heard the lyrics.....so i asked them not to come to my first gig in septmeber and they insisted on going.....so what do u think i should do......this may sound like a stupid petty problem but its my first real band that actually has gigs and good other musicians....ugh....well iam open to what anyone thinks

Backround: OK i just joined this heavy metal band that needed a bassist which is great because i love heavy metal. So i met up with the guitar player to do a practice yesterday and he went over the songs that he had done and i wrote everything down so i can practice when they arent around. Yeah so anyways i ask him if i can read his lyrics and he hands them to me and i start reading them. And heavy metal lyrics I know are supposed to be a little on the darker side but listen to these..."I am gunna hunt down my friends one by one with a knife:" or something like that.....i personally think that they are rather disgusting after columbine and stuff.
Issue: And this is the problem...My parents are gung-ho catholics and since iam only 14 i cant really do things on my own yet but yeah they wud kill me if they heard the lyrics.....so i asked them not to come to my first gig in septmeber and they insisted on going.....so what do u think i should do......this may sound like a stupid petty problem but its my first real band that actually has gigs and good other musicians....ugh....well iam open to what anyone thinks

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Do you feel OK with standing up there next to somone saying things like that otherwise?

Might as well look for a different band. I don't think "hunting down people with knives" is going to catch on with too many listeners. Well, I hope, but I also know there are some sick people out there.

It's true that you aren't the one writing the lyrics or singing them but being a part of the band that is putting out that type of music makes you appear as an endorser of it from the perspective of most people I would think.

Could it be that the lyrics are written from the point of view of a twisted psychopath without actually endorsing that path? It's still one to tread with care but it is possible to tell stories without endorsing everything that all the characters say.

On the other hand, if you think this really is the way those guys are thinking, I'd probably want to make a quick exit after making sure none of them know where I live! You don't want to end up as "hunting friend"!

Could it be that the lyrics are written from the point of view of a twisted psychopath without actually endorsing that path? It's still one to tread with care but it is possible to tell stories without endorsing everything that all the characters say.

On the other hand, if you think this really is the way those guys are thinking, I'd probably want to make a quick exit after making sure none of them know where I live! You don't want to end up as "hunting friend"!

Wulf

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I suppose if you want can write from the "point of view of a twisted psychopath" accurately, you would have experience as one, or from a relationship with one. Otherwise, it may just be for shock value. Let us know how things turn out in any case.

Stick it out with these guys and their less-than-tasteful lyrics to get some playing experience. Meanwhile, shop for another band that you feel more comfortable playing with. If your parents come to the show and insist that you leave the band after hearing the lyrics, then so-be-it.

Since you're only 14, this band may seem like a big deal, but good bass players are always in high demand, and bands come and go all the time...

The very fact that you posted this thread...tells me that you're uncomfortable with the lyrics.

I wouldn't be comfortable with a whole show of lyrics like that. One or two songs, maybe, but only if I felt they weren't advocating criminal, violent behavior. (an old example--Judas Priests "The Ripper" or "Genocide") But even Judas Priest didn't fill their entire show with such lyrics.

Hopefully your songwriter will grow into better lyrics. As other people have posted, though, you may want to get into some different projects once you get more experience. You certainly don't have to stick with a situation you're uncomfortable with.

This thread strikes very close to home for me.
My fifteen year old son ( lead guitar/vocals ) and his youger brother ( drums ) have their own band, and write their own material which is very heavily influenced by Slipknot and their ilk. Needless to say, the lyrics are full of shock value and ( I find to be ) a real downer full of depressing themes. Suicide/murder/hate etc.
So for what it's worth, I'll just give you my point of view the same as I've given it to them....
...........I reckon that lyrics are only a small part of what make a song a success, maybe 10 ~ 30% IMO. The rest is made up by the quality of the songs, their originality, the level of musicianship, and the overall presentation and stage presence of the band. If being successful and making a living out of music means anything to you, wouldn't it be better to temper the lyrics a bit in order to appeal to a broader audience?
Or maybe even have two sets of lyrics for the same song, one dark set for the goth gigs and maybe a humorous/parody set for the rest of us who prefer things to be a bit happier? >

Im witht he guy that said stick it out and get the experience. At the very least you will at least learn the ups and downs of band life. Are you sure you didnt join a death metal band or something? My band has some lyrics that talk about killing people... But we dont come out and say it literally, more of its only that way if you take it that way type thing. I dont see that whole knife thing in the lyrics as bad stuff to be saying but rather a inexperienced writer. Just see how it goes...and Im thinking if your parents come they wont have any clue what hes saying anyways. The distorted guitars and crazy drums may set them off though. Seen some parents in my time get tipsy about distortion for some reason.

wow guys thanks alot......i really appreciate all the advise which was very helpful.....if you wanted to know this is my conclusion: since hes only written two songs maybe the other songs he writes will be more postive(which i doubt) but i will stick with them especailly becasue we are gettin gigs and iam only 14......and we dont have a singer so if we get one that screams his ass off then iam in good shape....on the plus side since since good bass players are in high demand maybe i cud say something about the lyrics and wats he gunna say,"screw u man iam gettin someone else"....if he says that then good luck to him. ... or he cud listen to me and maybe use my non violent ideas or not but anywas tahnks a lot guys