I Should Be Somebody I'd Like To Be With, Don't You Think?

I got to thinking yesterday after I wrote my piece about self-marriage, that maybe I'm onto something here. I joked about "taking myself out on a date" because I wanted to see a movie and had nobody to go with. I do that a lot more frequently, and I'm always glad when I do. And I just feel better when I'm trying to look better, eat better and enjoy myself more. That led me to the question: What would I want to do for me if I was somebody dating me?

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I know, it's a bit self-indulgent, but bear with me, here.

If I were dating someone just like me, would I want them to feel good about themselves every day? Would I want them eating healthy, exercising (not necessarily to look better, but to feel better and live longer)? Would I want them to eliminate stress wherever they could? Would I let them know if I think they're being too hard on themselves, or worse, too far in denial about some things and hurting themselves because of it?

Yes, I would. Why I don't grant myself the same consideration is beyond me.

Why don't we treat ourselves the way we'd like to be treated? And how do I get in the habit of doing that?