By “TryingToGetOver” One of the most frustrating parts of recovery is having about a million things you want to say to the person who stole your spouse’s attention. None of those things are nice. None of them would help the situation. But boy, would you like to get them off your chest! I’m one year […]

By Sarah P. For a while, I have wondered how the myth of blaming the (usually) female betrayed spouse found its way into modern psychology. After all, modern psychology purports to be a science and an art. Indeed, thousands of studies have occurred just in the past decade within the field of psychology. But, […]

Approximately a month ago I was speaking to a woman (let’s call her Kate), who shared her story to me during a mentoring session. It was a familiar story in that her husband (John) had an affair over 10 years ago with a co-worker. His affair lasted for several months. Since their D-day, they had […]

By Sarah P. Please know this title is tongue-in-cheek because you cannot make your spouse cheat on you. The theme of this article is about how you made your spouse cheat—according to your spouse. Like my article last time, there will be lots of questions at the end. However, this is an important topic because […]

This is the latest installment of our ‘You Decide’ series where you will provide your opinion on a fictional affair scenario. This time we’re considering a situation where Cindy is so afraid to speak her mind – her truth – for fear that her unfaithful husband will leave her for his emotional affair partner. […]

By Sarah P. One of the new things we will be doing on the site is adding in some short articles with my regular articles, which can sometimes be 10,000 words each. Yowza. When I was in my teens and twenties, I traveled to many places and met many people. Over the course of my […]

by Doug As I was getting the mail out of our mailbox recently, our next-door neighbor, Dave, pulls up onto his driveway, gets out of his car and saunters over to me. As he approaches, he says, “I don’t know if you’ve heard…but Pat and I are getting a divorce and we’re selling our house.” […]

By Sarah P. A couple of weeks ago, we had a seven-hour flight ahead of us. As always, I get the very back row. I do not care if the seats do not recline or if it is by the restroom. I choose the back row. This time I told my husband I was taking […]

By “Rose” Lately I have been journaling a lot; suggested by my therapist, it really helps to get the emotions out. Sometimes I’ll write my spouse a nasty-gram but then don’t send it because the action of writing it helps me a lot. What I have been thinking about lately is the labels we assign […]

By Sarah P. You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Surviving is important; thriving is elegant. My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some […]