Feeling Pressured

Hey there

I'm single, and have been most my life (which isn't really that long). I've dated before, but never got into the whole "relationship" thing. It's probably part cluelessness, part anxiety, part preoccupation with all of life's responsibilities.

However, my family and family friends put alot of pressure on me to find a boyfriend "finally." If it isn't my grandmother, it's my mother, or older family friends trying to set me up with their young relatives. Not to mention all the jokes my uncle cracks about me finding a boyfriend.

I think I would like to have a relationship with someone at some point; life can get lonely at times. But I don't see that happening anytime soon. I like being single - it makes my life easier! I have friends who like me, I'm functioning well at school, I'm healthy and fit. So why bothe? I don't want to date for the sake of dating; I don't want to go LOOKING for my "special someone." If it happens, it happens.

I just wish I didn't feel this external pressure to go and "nab me a man." I'm twenty years old; I want to spend it living and experiencing, not chasing boys. If it happens, I want it to happen naturally, with serendipity. That's what I think of as "real-life."

wow, you're old, get on the bandwagon would u....j/k...take your time, decide what u want out of life and go for it! whether it be men with certain attributes u desire, a great career, or just to see the world, do it all at ur own pace. in the end, it's ur happiness and life that matters. :)