confused and hurt by dh stealing my moment

In 15 weeks with our second baby , we are very happy to be expecting a little brother or sister for our Dd , or at least I thought WE were happy about it. Everyone that says " congrats on the good news guys" my dh responds " it's not good news until we find out its a boy" he says it every single time . I've warned him that it upsets me and it's embarrassing because it looks like he isn't pleased about the pregnancy .it really hurts me :( I'm not sure what else I can do I've already spoken to him . . Any advice?

In 15 weeks with our second baby , we are very happy to be expecting a little brother or sister for our Dd , or at least I thought WE were happy about it. Everyone that says " congrats on the good news guys" my dh responds " it's not good news until we find out its a boy" he says it every single time . I've warned him that it upsets me and it's embarrassing because it looks like he isn't pleased about the pregnancy .it really hurts me :( I'm not sure what else I can do I've already spoken to him . . Any advice?

I grew up with minimal contact with my father. I never knew he had hoped for a boy (although I should have with all of the sports being pushed at me). However when I found out I was having a boy my dad was over joyed an even went as far as to say he was going to get his name tattooed on his shoulder( this coming from a man with no tattoos and certainly none in honor of me his daughter ) he followed it up with saying that he hopes my uncles son has a daughter so my uncle will understand what he went through having a girl instead of a boy (as if its the worst thing ever) I am pregnant again and the cycle has started already ! As long as its a boy it's ok. As the daughter of this uneducated , unsuccessful and ignorant man, my advice would be to tell your husband to get it together or get out. Some men really do feel this way and it did effect me. I'm lucky I survived my teens with how I acted out in response to him and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I grew up with minimal contact with my father. I never knew he had hoped for a boy (although I should have with all of the sports being pushed at me). However when I found out I was having a boy my dad was over joyed an even went as far as to say he was going to get his name tattooed on his shoulder( this coming from a man with no tattoos and certainly none in honor of me his daughter ) he followed it up with saying that he hopes my uncles son has a daughter so my uncle will understand what he went through having a girl instead of a boy (as if its the worst thing ever) I am pregnant again and the cycle has started already ! As long as its a boy it's ok. As the daughter of this uneducated , unsuccessful and ignorant man, my advice would be to tell your husband to get it together or get out. Some men really do feel this way and it did effect me. I'm lucky I survived my teens with how I acted out in response to him and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

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