Men who said they received but did not give oral sex alluded to notions of reciprocity in their accounts, though they positioned themselves differently in relation to this discourse: I kept waiting for him to communicate with me, but the last thing he actually said to me was at the bottom of the stairs, before all of this took place. We have created a culture of women "doers" as opposed to giving permission for women to simply receive.

You just can't have too much lubricant. It was a delicious feeling. I only thought a penis was needed in order for a woman to orgasm. What if the sexual partner told their female lover that tonight was just all about them? I took a bit out on you. Explanations of this ethic often emphasized equivalence between oral-penis and oral-vulva contact. So anyone says anything contrary to your overly emotive comments are misogynistic ass holes that have no brain cells to learn and better themselves.