In the February issue of Elle, the actress talks about love, marriage and new beginnings.

On meeting husband Jim Toth:

“It happened out of the blue. This really drunk guy was hitting on me, making such an idiot of himself, yelling at me,” the mom of two tells the magazine. “Jim came over and said, ‘Please excuse my friend. He’s just broken up with someone.’ Jim was a really good friend, pulling him out of that situation. That’s just kind of who he is, a really good person.”

On their relationship:

“Jim said, ‘I’m gonna show you every day what a good partner is, what a good person is. I’m going to take care of you,'” she recalls. “I was like, ‘What are you talking about? I’ve never had anybody like that in my life […] I want to not perpetuate any more of this kind of garbage that’s out there in the media about women falling in love blindly, no one’s love life is perfect. … My life is just as realistic as everybody else’s.”

On the unpredictability of love:

“[Jim] really surprised me. You don’t know who you’re going to end up with. When I was 20, if you’d asked me … I wouldn’t have said Jim.”