Is there something wrong with me?

Kristin - posted on 05/19/2015
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4 yrs ago when my son was born I all but lost my sex drive and my partner did nothing but complain because I never wanted to have sex, now my I have my sex drive back and he complains that I want to have sex. I am extremely confused

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Regina - posted on 05/19/2015

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, he is the one who's messing around and obviously looking for excuses and blaming you. You should through him out by the door. He is definitely not going to change. He will have you at home, waiting for him and his sidelines, whenever he wants them.

If he's hooking up with other women, why are you still with him? It's not your fault he went looking somewhere else.

Partners need to be respectful of each other and supportive if someone is going through a rough time. There is some give and take in relationships, but it should not be only one person always giving with the other taking. Both should be able to work together and have both person's needs met.

I was sympathetic I tried a wide variety of things that we thought might help, when we went to the doctor she told us I had post natal and with help and time I would recover but instead of him being sympathetic and helping Me through it he joined up with a least 10 sexual hookup dating sites that I know about, and when i did find out he blamed it all on me, saying he joined them so he would get laid more than once a week. But now that I started to get myself back on track and am finally handling my depression and feeling like my old self again, the only time he wants me to touch him is when he wants me to relieve him, he won't touch me and just argues with me whenever I try to talk about it

Men don't really understand the changes that a woman's mind and body go through after having a child. But you should have tried to be sympathetic to your partner, and not let it go on for 4 years without seeking help. Now, after all this time of not wanting to be close, you've flipped a switch and he may be confused about the change. He may feel like you only care about your wants, not his wants. You need to sit down and talk about it. Find ways to reconnect like when you were dating, to feel close again. Don't put so much emphasis on having sex. Have fun with your partner, and if sex happens, then good for you both.