With the invention and proliferation of social media comes some uncharted etiquette waters. Facebook is a useful and dangerous tool when it comes to the details of your wedding. Keep the following tips in mind while navigating Facebook and/or Twitter in the months leading up to your big day:

Don’t Get Too Excited!

An engagement and the advancement of wedding details can get any girl all a-twitter, but that doesn’t mean that you should leap to your computer desk and update the world. Your wedding details are important to you and a small group of close friends and family, and your social reach is probably quite a bit larger online. Complications will arise regarding people who aren’t invited, or worse, people who assume they’re invited, when you update your entire social sphere to the goings on of your big day.

Plus, you want guests to be excited and surprised when they finally see the details of your wedding – don’t go spoiling the fun by posting mockups of your dress or cake!

Be Careful Who You Chat With

Again, releasing wedding details to anyone might send the wrong impression within your online social sphere. Unless you’re planning on inviting everyone on your friends list, try to keep the wedding talk to a minimum. If someone does ask about wedding details, it’s important not to give them the wrong impression by gushing and sending them a thousand links to cake topper sites and wedding dress distributors. If they aren’t going to be invited to the big event, keep the details short and sweet, and address any miscommunications as soon as you can

Impolite Inquiries

Every bride will eventually encounter a comment from a distant family member or long-forgotten coworker who will ask about their invitation. It may be as innocuous as a “Hey! I better be invited! ;)” or as serious as “I believe my invite may have gotten lost in the mail, send a replacement,” but both should be addressed with grace immediately. Don’t comment on their wall posting, and instead shoot them an email or give them a call. Make sure you explain that you weren’t able to invite everyone you wanted to, and set up a date for lunch after the honeymoon. Don’t let lingering comments lead to an unexpected guest or animosity within a family – yes, it’s rude to ask about an invitation online, but it’s not worth starting a public fight over.

I feel as though this is almost an unnecessary article – most people are friends with well over 300 people on Facebook if they’re 20-30 years old and I think it’s pretty obvious that not everyone is going to be invited and people would ask these things regardless of social media.