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I recently came across a dating site called " Married but Bi", just wondering if anyone has heard anything about it, or used it? I am married but bi myself, and the hubby has agreed to having a threesome with another woman (hard sell, that one ), so I am thinking online dating sites are probably the only realistic option for meeting someone... I dont think a 'unicorn' (single Bi girl interested in a threesome with a couple) is likely to just wander into our lives
anyway, anyone tried that site, or have another one to recommend?

I have a rant and it's just something I get frustrated about wondering if anyone else has the same issues as me. I've been searching online to possibly move past curious and into a relationship with a woman. However, I have self esteem issues and for some reason I feel like I'm not good enough to get with a woman. Crazy right? But alot of these ads I've seen have been ridiculous. Some read about like this, "I'm 5'7 110 pounds fit and lean blonde tan so I expect the same." Expect the same? Expect the same? Would you like a mirror to make out with? Grrrrr.... I love diversity! I love differences and exploring something other then myself. I've been exploring myself all my life! I don't get it lol. Also one of my lifelong friends is bi (no possible chance for hookup there I don't find her attractive sexually too much like sisters) and she says things like, "Oh I like skinny girls. I have enough fat for the both of us." She's a size 4! What is it with people? Okay I'm not fat but I'm not super skinny either. But all this high expectations of what people want in a lover makes me extremely self conscious and not want to even try! Anybody else go through this?

Husband is off to a work conference over the weekend so have the house to myself and I am thinking of doing some online dating while he is out and getting a girl over for a one night stand? Has anyone else gone behind there husbands back to satisfy themselves?

We've all been there, I know. I started talking with yet another "woman" last night that I suspected wasn't who "she" said she was. Seems like there's a new trend of using pics of active duty military women and creating a profile with that.
This person doesn't know I am a veteran, and am quite familiar with the military. Their story didn't add up at all. When I asked what rank she was, she said 2nd lieutenant (the lowest ranking officer, O-1). When I asked how long she'd been in (testing), she said 11 years. I asked if she was prior enlisted, and she didn't even know what that was! ANYONE actually in the military would know exactly what that means. Then she "corrected" herself, saying she was actually a lieutenant colonel (O-5). I was like, hm, it seems weird that you would mix the two up, especially given how far apart they are in paygrade. Then a quick Google search, and sure enough, nothing matches up. Every time I end up talking to someone, then do a Google search, Google Image Search, anything, always a fake. So tired of it.
Before this, it was someone stealing pics from someone who does porn.
Dating is a frustrating enough endeavor, let alone with this BS. I hate having to Google and suspect everyone, but clearly it's warranted.

So I recently decided to bite the bullet (once again) and make a POF profile. I have done this once or twice before, but I generally have got spooked and taken it down in a few days. Whenever I have chatted with girls before I have been the hesitant one and ultimately shut things down before anything could progress (I'm yet to have any real sort of experience with a woman).
I started talking to his girl on Monday (five days ago!) and I seem to be captivated! We both said that we were looking to meet friends and see what happens, but both of us were not looking for a relationship or anything serious. Since Monday we have chatted every day, the conversation has got very racy and intimate!!
The reason i've made this post, is I have a few niggling concerns/anxieties/paranoia's that i'm hoping to sound out and probably accept that i'm worrying about nothing and am too used to meeting guys online!
- We decided that the POF messenger was a pain to communicate through, I said I'd be happy to swap numbers/whatsapp details, she didn't want to do that, but later asked me to email - which is what we have now been doing.
- She's only around for short periods of time, not at all within the evenings- although she insists sh'e single and living with her brother and doesn't want to be distracted all evening.
- I made a joke about us meeting up in the future and she said something about not being sure when she'll have time/ if she will be able to meet up.
Its likely i'm over reacting, i'm just worrying about being catfished or her being a guy? anyone have any experience with any situations like this?

Brief story about me: 34 yo female, married for over a decade, no kids.
I had emotionally intense female friendships as a teenager, thought it was just a phase, and chose to suppress my desires. It has been the women in my life who have always broken my heart and taken years to get over.
Last year, at 33, my dental hygienist (female) stared at and touched me inappropriately. I remember thinking I felt as if I was getting molested, but it didn't feel good and it didnt feel bad. It tingled. I became infatuated with her, eventually reached out to her on facebook, and we became friends. It was the most torturous and agonizing friendship I have ever been in. She was hot-and-cold, push-and-pull, and I never knew where I stood with her. Over a year ago, I came clean with my "platonic" feelings towards her. I was so knee-deep in denial.
A year later, that friendship has ended (ended last year) and she came back, after 8 months of silence, when she accidentally text messaged me. Then all the damn feelings came back. Long story short, this has allowed me to open up to my husband that I need to be with a woman.
This is an ache for me; a longing for a connection that I just cannot describe. For years, I thought I as over-emotional with women and that it was strictly platonic.
After three months of fighting after I came out to my husband that my attraction to this former friend was more than platonic and after many, many, many fights, arguments, and threats tossed both ways in the heat of the moment...he has given his blessing to me "talking" to local-ish women online for friendship and maybe, x-rated conversation. This allows me to dip my toes in the water, taking this one step at a time. We take it day by day. At first he was really freaked out, like I was going to meet a woman online and then meet her the next week for sex, but alas, that is (sadly) not the case. And the sex isn't what this is about to me, primarily. It's a feeling of a connection, a bond I've yet to have with a man.
Can anyone give me any tips on how to progress into this? I have talked to a few women, but I've noticed I get my hopes up very quickly, then crash and burn when they don't meet my expectations or things go awry. Plus, this is all online. I have severe apprehension of the other person I'm talking to.
I'm so new to all of this. Any tips or words of wisdom?

Has anyone here used it? Met anyone interesting?
The first time I tried it, some woman started sending me naked pics within the hour of responding to her message. Well, no. I deleted the account.
The second time, I got a few messages, all hellos. I started chatting with a couple of the women, but it never seems to go beyond the niceties.
Talk about going from one extreme to another!
What has been your experience?

I have been feeling very discouraged about online dating. I think I need a very long or even a permanent hiatus from it. Online dating is a result of technology, before the internet people actually had to go outside and interact with people in order to find dates. You can't know for sure if anyone is who they claim to be until you meet in person. Meeting someone in real life allows you to really feel someone out with no expectations. You meet someone, interact with them and then go from there. Online dating is sending the message, "I am looking for someone to date", while meeting someone new with no expectations allows you form a friendship and then it can lead to something more over time. I know people make friends on dating sites as well and in my experience, it has only lead to one local acquaintance. I have found my most successful relationships be it friends or lovers have happened when I was just out and about. I met people through school, social activities and hobbies. Online forums and social networking has really isolated me. I talk to all these people I will most likely never met while sitting alone in my bedroom. While online friends are great, there is something much more satisfying about forming a real life connection with someone.
You can't get that through a screen. You can with skype to an extent but face to face, real life interaction is best. You can touch someone's arm, give them a hug, playfully smack them on the shoulder. I have found social media and online forums to be very isolating. No wonder so many people feel so lonely. Everyday I see people starting down at screens, they have headphones in their ears and are completely oblivious to the world around them. We are becoming the humans in Wall-E. I have realized I need to cut back on my screen time and have more real life social interaction. Does anyone else feel this way?