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Tuesday, May 31, 2011

How Do Christian Parents Handle Their Gay Teen?

Let’s discuss this! I found this video posted on Facebook.....It's a video of a mom explaining why she is in support of her son and daughter gay lifestyle.....I really believe the mom in the video is trying to protect her children from a mean unfriendly and hostile world....Her way of thinking reminds me of parents years ago who would allow their home to be used as safe haven for their teens to party ,drank ,smoke and have sex....All in the name of protecting them from the mean world.

I'm well aware that this lifestyle is becoming more socially acceptable today than say a year ago.....But for many Christian parents they still find the subject of a child being gay difficult to discuss, and even more difficult to which to relate to and understand....Today it seems like more and more teens are choosing the bisexual or gay lifestyle....Is it because it's becoming more socially acceptable?

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it is because the Scripture is being fulfilled. Every word of God is going to come to pass whether it be a good word or bad word. Such as Judas betraying Jesus (it would seem like a "bad" word...but it was written in the Scripture...so when Judas actually betrayed Jesus...it was a fulfilling of the Scripture. "While I was with them in the world, I kept them in thy name: those that thou gavest me I have kept, and none of them is lost, but the son of perdition; that the scripture might be fulfilled."

I believe now weare seeingthe words spoken in Romans 1 being fulfilled. We are not supposed to condemn them or even "judge" them...we are just supposed to know that no one that does those things will enter the Kingdom of Heaven and therefore...we that belong to Christ...should not be doingthose things.

It's a hard call as to what a parent of a teenager should do about it...but I would suggest they don't lie to them and say "it's okay"...since we know that it isn't "okay" with God. it would be better to share with them the truth i think and pray that they receive the Lord and lose them because they get mad or hate you for it...then to lie to them and not only have to pay for lying against the Holy Spirit yourself but also tellingthem their sins are "okay" and watch them go to hell for it knowing you told them a lie. Jeremiah 23 is a warning to prophets and preists...please read these verses..."I have seen also in the prophets of Jerusalem an horrible thing: they commit adultery, and walk in lies: they strengthen also the hands of evildoers, that none doth return from his wickedness; they are all of them unto me as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah. Therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts concerning the prophets; Behold, I will feed them with wormwood, and make them drink the water of gall: for from the prophets of Jerusalem is profaneness gone forth into all the land. Thus saith the LORD of hosts, Hearken not unto the words of the prophets that prophesy unto you: they make you vain: they speak a vision of their own heart, and not out of the mouth of the LORD. They say still unto them that despise me, The LORD hath said, Ye shall have peace; and they say unto every one that walketh after the imagination of his own heart, No evil shall come upon you. For who hath stood in the counsel of the LORD, and hath perceived and heard his word? who hath marked his word, and heard it? Behold, a whirlwind of the LORD is gone forth in fury, even a grievous whirlwind: it shall fall grievously upon the head of the wicked. The anger of the LORD shall not return, until he have executed, and till he have performed the thoughts of his heart: in the latter days ye shall consider it perfectly. I have not sent these prophets, yet they ran: I have not spoken to them, yet they prophesied. But if they had stood in my counsel, and had caused my people to hear my words, then they should have turned them from their evil way, and from the evil of their doings."

by this i would say God takes truth very seriously...if we tell our children, families, anyone that they are "alright" with God...when they have a despising spirit toward God...we are lying to them. ifthey despise the factthat God is against homosexuality...they are not despisingtheir mother and father...they are despising God himself...and a mom or dad tellingtheir kid that is okay...is not true and it is not going to benefit that child or parent in the long run. Yes Jesus died for our sins...but He died to set us free...not give us an excuse to keep sinning. 1 john 3:6a No one who lives in him keeps on sinning.

Even though it may be hard and even embarrassing, I applaud any parent of any faith who encourages their child to live in truth. And by living in truth I do not mean telling your child to be something that they're not. I'm glad more parents are realizing that being gay or bisexual is not a choice or a decision that can just be reversed at any time.

Also, contrary to popular belief many Christian parents have been accepting and loving of their gay children for years.

just because people say or even think something is true about themselves...doesn't mean it is true. It just means they have been deceived or are delusional. the Bible states very clearly that people will believe the lies of Satan. We are not supposed to hate anyone...the Scripture is clear on that fact...but we are also not supposed to lie against the truth of God. Who matters more...what man thinks of how you feel about something...or what God thinks about how you feel about something? God has the ultimate say. As i said before it doesn't do the child or the parent any good to deny the truth. and it is a very bad idea for someone to replace the truth of God with a lie and spread it around the world in orer to deceive the world...and tell people God is okay with their wickedness and sins and the things that are an abomination to Him...He is a good God and His mercy is amazing and wonderful...but when you read the gospel for yourselves always recognize that He forgave sins and healed people...but then He often told them not to sin anymore. He cleans houses....He doesn't leave them filthy. Maybe to people it is hard to hear that things like homosexuality is filthy. but it is to God. Just like gluttony is disgusting when people get up their in the 200, 300, 400, 500 lb range...and they can't even get off their chair and they breathe heavy just from going from their living room to their bathroom and hold their chest like they are having a heart attack (i have struggled with my weight...not to this extent...but up to 230 lbs...and even at that...i was not in any shape to claim i was not negligent of my physical body that God gave to me and we are supposed to be stewards of all God gives to us)...or when someone goes from sexual partner to sexual partner...which have honestly also done in times past before i finally got it right with God. look it isnt easy for any of us to hear we are doing something wrong in our lives...but when you are doing something wrong...why do i have to deny my own beliefs and my own God's words to conform to your desire for me to stop knowing the truth...i know the truth. homosexuality is a sin...not because i said so...but because God said so. but so is murder. and so is the kind of hatred many people have toward homosexuals...i am not saying it is okay to abuse or kill them over it...just like we want to be loved even when we fall short...we should also love homosexuals. But if someone tells me "it's okay" for me to give in to my bad eating habits and become 500 lbs and cant even get out of bed...is false..and i will know its false...and i will know better, right? or if i sleep around and start spreading diseases from mate to mate because i am being disgustingly perverse and negligent of my body...don't tell me i am "not a slut" because i know i would be if i were doing that. see, people want to "act" like homosexuality is different and that they were "born that way" but since i believe in God and know that God did not make you "born that way" it is a sin. and thank God He is merciful and forgiving and will forgive us when we confess our sins...and He will cleanse us from all unrighteousness...but to say we are not in sin...when we are in sin...is denying the truth. God bless you all (especially you jj for allowing us to discuss these matters on your blog) love you all in the Lord and hope that we will all be watchful and waiting for Him...He gives us life and joy and peace and comfort in the Holy Spirit. Call on Him today...especially if you have questions.

I'm not here to argue against anybody's personal belief system. I just think it's a good thing that parents are accepting and understanding of the facts and aren't ignoring this issue like they did years ago.

I don't believe in condoning a lifestyle that I don't agree with at all. However I also don't believe that you have to shun your son or daughter away because of their "sexuality"...but there is a balance. I have a brother who is an open homosexual, all the way to the name change & women's clothing. And oh yeah, our parents are major pastors within the state. They do not agree with his choices AT ALL, but he is welcome in the household (to visit, he does not live with them anymore. They did not THROW him out). At the same time, there are no "friends" allowed, neither are the female clothes, there is definitely no "vogue" meetings in front of them & the name he received at birth is the name he is called when around the family. There is a complete understanding amongst us. And it is not done in any type of hate or anger, but he knows our stand, it has never changed. We do not agree the lifestyle, we know what the bible says about it, as does he. I continue to pray for my brother, as do my parents, that he would go back to the word of God he knows. But we will not throw him away, he is still our family. Some may not agree with our approach, that's fine with me. It would be different if my brother raised hell against my parents & the rest of the family, but he doesn't so there is no reason to treat him as an outcast. That's our position. Hate the sin, love the sinner...with some guidelines. There are some things you just can't do around the family. And that goes for any type of habitual practice of sin.

Hey, Reggie I hope your dad wouldn't have really shot you because gay or not, it would've still been you.Erica- "It just means they have been deceived or are delusional." How very arrogant of you to "just" assume to know what's in someone elses heart and spirit and to dismiss it so frivolously...."how you feel about something"... Wow! How you feel about something? You really think that is what it means to be gay? You think it's that simple? You can quote until your fingers fall off and you cannot change someone else's truth. I know the scripture too, and I truly understand your convictions. However, the way someone is born is their truth not yours. Being gay is not the whole of a human being anymore than being straight is. All teenagers need their parents' support and love. You don't have to condone to understand or have to approve to accept them as individuals with their own inner truths. A parent's challenge, push them away shunned and condemnned, or help them grow and go out into the world the best people "they" can be. Challenge is not strong enough word, I know that's right. But, it's their journey not yours. Teens especially should always feel loved and safe with their parents.

I'm sorry but I don't see how you could equate supporting your homosexual child with letting them smoke and drink at home. Yes I support my child and what ever their sexuality might be but I still wouldn't think its ok to smoke and drink underage. The way I raised them wouldn't change one bit. None of us have the right to say who enters the kingdom. We read the Bible and take what we want from it. If you live a life that's pleasing to God doing what you think he would do in life situations being kind loving others helping others you WILL get into the kingdom. Your sexuality has nothing to do with it. If you believe in God then half the battle is already ran.

@reggie - Of course you will love your children no matter what. You hate the action/sin not the child. Parents with children who falsely believe they are "Gay" should absolutely still love care and support their children - With the right boundaries in place.

If any of my children were to believe they were homosexual - I would absolutely under no circumstances support that behaviour/sin. They will know that i believe according to the word that it is wrong. But i will still love/support them as the child of God they are.

I guess it depends on your belief system. The Bible makes it very clear that God did not plan for His children to be gay - it's not in His plan for us. Therefore no one is "born gay" - God doesn't make mistakes. If the word says that it is wrong to be homosexual, then there is absolutely no way you can be born gay.

I absolutely agree that we don't know who will get to the Kingdom. But i strongly disagree about "taking what we want from it"... The Bible has some very clear principles for how we are to live our lives, they are there for a reason and many of them are no open to interpretation, they are what they are. I don't know if homosexual people will get into the Kingdom. But I do know that God says it is wrong, and there will be judgement for that sin, just as all Christians will be judged for their sins. Being "gay" is blatantly disrespecting what the Bible says. IF you take the Bible as truth, you cannot say that "your sexuality has nothing to do with it" - Because it IS sin. But you're right, we don't know to what degree any sin will prevent(Or not prevent) us getting into the Kingdom.

God gave us laws and principles to to our best to live by. Not to blatantly ignore. (ie. having no issue with being a homosexual)

@reggie - Of course you will love your children no matter what. You hate the action/sin not the child. Parents with children who falsely believe they are "Gay" should absolutely still love care and support their children - With the right boundaries in place.

If any of my children were to believe they were homosexual - I would absolutely under no circumstances support that behaviour/sin. They will know that i believe according to the word that it is wrong. But i will still love/support them as the child of God they are.

I guess it depends on your belief system. The Bible makes it very clear that God did not plan for His children to be gay - it's not in His plan for us. Therefore no one is "born gay" - God doesn't make mistakes. If the word says that it is wrong to be homosexual, then there is absolutely no way you can be born gay.