I’ve mentioned this one before and I recognize that other’s may disagree, but I think there needs to be some boundaries within a relationship — it’s more about respecting your partners comfort zones vs not being yourself. If you’ve got no boundaries or your partner doesn’t respect yours, that sounds more like a roommate situation.

A roommate is likely not what you had in mind when you moved in together. As roommates, you’d still need to be compatible in regards to most of your personal values and levels of tidiness, but there would likely be no conflict or repercussions if you were to prefer privacy behind a closed door or to maintain a separate life.

"You need to really listen to your partner in a way he knows you love and respect him. Take a marriage cruise or retreat or a wilderness workshop. Learn to disagree in ways that breed joy and intimacy." Marriage education classes are also held in local community centers, churches, and military bases, she adds.

When I graduated from college, I moved in with roommates. So did almost all of my college friends. And almost all of their college friends. Fifty years ago, this would have been utterly bizarre. In 1968, just six percent of young people --between 18 and 31 -- lived with platonic roommates, according to Pew Research.