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Wednesday, March 26, 2014

A Gift and a Blessing

Life is an eternal blessing, an endless course of
abundance. We are not seeing this always because we are steeped in scarcity
thinking!

Focusing on what we don’t have comes naturally
to all of us. But for each thing that we don’t have or for each dimension of
our Life where there’s something scarce, there’s a blessing, another aspect
that’s soaked in abundance. For every dark cloud that hangs over us, there is
the proverbial silver lining. To find it, we must just let go of our grief over
what has happened and of what we don’t have, and simply survey what we have
left with us. When we let go and learn to live with what we have we will
immediately experience inner peace.

Some months ago, I had to sell my car. It was
old and was breaking down far too frequently. There wasn’t money to either fix
it or replace it with another car. We simply had to let it go. It was a
difficult decision, having had a car for over 25 years, for as long as I have
been independent and married. The question that confronted me – and my wife –
was how would our daughter manage. She had never used public transport before.
Not that she was spoilt by luxury. Hardly. But there had miraculously never
been a need for her to take a bus or auto-rickshaw ever – to school or to her
social outings or to college. We called her and updated her of our hard
decision and predicament. We advised her to use autos for transport. To our
surprise, she declined. She said she understood the situation we are in and so
wanted to use train and bus for her commute. We tried explaining to her that
since we was not used to either mode, she may find it difficult to cope with
the crowds at rush hour. But she insisted that she wanted to give it a shot. We
agreed that she would try for two weeks at which point we would review. In
exactly a fortnight our daughter came back to declare that she was “comfortable
and was settling in” with her new reality. She said it so simply, so
responsibly and so convincingly that we did not feel like countering her with
our parental anxiety and reasoning.

It was a beautiful moment of awakening and
discovery for me personally. Here I was grappling with what I didn’t have – a car,
and so was steeped in scarcity thinking, wondering how a child who had never ever
used public transport would cope. And here was Life that had blessed me and my
wife with such a wonderful daughter who not only had the maturity to accept our
current reality – in which anything material, even a basic taken-for-granted
gadget, device, instrument, machine or asset, is a luxury – but also had the
sense of adventure to plunge head-on into an environment she was not familiar
with. I don’t share this by way of self-congratulation or to praise my child, but
I share to tell you how beautiful Life’s ways are. Our daughter (and son) fills
our Life with abundance – this blessing far outweighs what we don’t have and
what, perhaps, no longer matters!

Indeed. There’s so much abundance in us and
around us. And not all of it is material or linked to money or to what money
can buy. Most of it, in fact, can make us happier even if we didn’t have money
or things with us. Someone I know, Madhuri Velegar, who used to write for Femina magazine from Bangalore, died of
cancer a couple of days ago. A friend pulled out what she had written sometime
back (on how she felt in her last days) and posted it on facebook: “…I
got drawn into meditation. Almost daily I stared long at the Gulmohar tree and
its flowers outside my house. I waited for sunsets, I sat under the morning
sun, I worshipped the rain…” That’s the abundance that I am talking of.

Our lives are abundant too. Our sunrises and sunsets, the
rains, the flowers, the birds, the love and warmth of our children and the companionship
of our soul-mates, all these are available to us and are waiting to soak us in
abundance. Provided, of course, we stop complaining about what we don’t have
and instead celebrate what we have! When we do that we
too will realize what a wonderful gift Life is and what a blessing it is to be
alive!