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The pain is like having an oxy-torch going inside your intestines. The smiling moments are like snowballs made from white chocolate ice cream.

It's a wonderful thing, is this blogging thing. I read Armanganc's original post a little while ago, and found many nodding along to him (myself included). Then, I find another conversation at another blog (Cast Iron Balcony) sparked by what he said. And the conversation keeps flowing.

Yes, we do want time out from work to spend with our children (though we may not all agree on how long), helping to raise them equally with our partners (or the children's other parents, if the case may be). For some of us, time spent at work is not necessarily the most fulfilling things in our lives – usually just a necessity. Especially when it is time spent away from our children. The trick is finding the balance.

This topic does resonate with lots of people – more and more men what to spend more time actively involved with their children. I wonder when the conversation will turn into a roar that will be heard down the corridors of parliament?

re 'corridors of parliament' not too soon I fear, since parliamentarians must be the men who see their children the LEAST.In the public eye this has been documented by children of R.J.Hawke, Billy McMahon's daughter has gone a bit feral recently, and very recently Billy Snedden children have gone feral on page 3.

IOt's peculiar the The Public pounce on poor Julia Gillard when she has the sense to say children cannot be opn her personal agenda at the same time as children; and where is Scott-Despoja now? home minding the baby of course.

I'm all for it: until men start taking lots of time off to take care of their kids, it won't really be acceptable for women to do so too.

my husband works in a job where it's just assumed that 8am meetings at short notice, late evenings, international travel (yes, I'm envious) also at short notice, is OK. the result is that I can't even think about taking on a "real job" without making our lives a living hell and consigning our 3-year-old to fulltime (8-6) childcare; so I don't; I freelance, scrounge, do boring things that can be done from home.

it's a pity it's so often seen as a women's issue, to the point where if a man does take time off it makes the papers the same way a "woman pilot" or "woman surgeon" used to. if you read The Female Eunuch, the last passage is actually about liberating men as well as women.

Mark et al, I'll be sure to keep up my blogging addiction. You can be assured that you will get your fill of dad at home stories. Alex (my wife) earns much more than me so from a simple economic stand point we are better off that she is the career woman. Working at a uni with shite pay but good conditions there would be little point of it unless I took advantage of the conditions - i.e 22 weeks parental leave.I'm relatively senior in the uni (level 9 out of 10) so it is a bit of a stir.

JS - I think that if a job culturally is such that it requires an employees partner to bow out of the workforce that it also pay him/her a parenting wage (thus avoiding the extra tax of just paying the employee more)

About Me

I am a writer and a reader, and believe in the power of words and images to make a difference. I make a basic living helping other people's words look good, and need to express my ideas in my own words and images to keep sane. I am also a father: my two young sons are currently the joy and challenge of my life, and I'm loving it.