So now, to be truly skilled with women, you need a strong state of being. But... not just strong state, you need something else as well...

There is a definite progression in development of skills with women, and it follows a general path. This is my first blush writing this down. Feel free to amend, disagree, add to it, whatever you want. There may be more or less steps. Some of them may seem wrong to you, and that's because you are you. I am me, and this is what's been going on for me. The point is that after chodedom, then Bootcamp and Superconference, then dialogs with many guys here (Originator, JD, DJ, 10pin, Terminator, Pimpski, Chance, BrianAce, Alex~, Ozzie, Jlaix, Tyler, et al.), lots of trial and error in the field, 1-on-1 all-night S&M sessions with Manwhore, and then finally Ciaran's story this morning, topped off by a very large mug of coffee and a chocolate croissant, it became crystal clear to me what I need to do, and who I am aiming to be. For whatever reason, I dialed my own signal loud and clear this morning. I do not question it, I am running with it. Someone just handed me the fucking baton, and I am off at full-clip.

The development of a skilled guy's mental state follows a certain kind of spiritual and mental build-up of integrity, as well as a steady increase in the amount of pure raw intention. It is no accident. He DOES specific things until he BECOMES them. It BUILDS cumulatively and it has STEPS ON THE WAY. The same can be said of any personal development, yet it pertains specifically to men becoming skilled with chicks in my examples below.

How do you go from being the leaf to becoming the hurricane? What are the steps in between?

1. Chodedom. You have brief flashes of good state, but it comes and goes unexpectedly. You live by luck. You hate yourself when your luck runs out. Lots of frustration. Victimhood. Pain. Anguish. Hell. You know there must be a better way. Wavering state = the leaf.

2. The Search. You start noticing your state fluctuations, and start doing something about it: state-pumping, first tastes of getting out in the field, trying out C&F, facing AA issues, inner game issues, pick-up technology. You start with techniques, so you buy your first pick-up products. Your search for answers begins.

3. You Join Up. You've had a taste. Now you want positive happy state, and take pleasure in +times, pain in -times, but you want more +times. You want consistency. Reading and posting on the RSDN often starts here for the vast majority... you've found a few answers, but the search for real personal answers actually starts here. You want teachers, and help to accelerate your game.

4. Hard Work. You can create a positive happy state, but you are subject to others' effects on you. You go from momentary success to very frustrated easily. Many things remain a dark msyterious cloud of question marks. But the fruits of your efforts are just starting to pay off. This is a very hard place to be, because it feels like you're stalling out. But you sack up, get out there again, and keep at it. Sometimes after all you've done, all you've gone through, you find yourself suddenly back here. But you think back on all you've been through, and you move on again quickly.

5. First Payoffs. You can create a positive happy state despite others. But you are not 100% sure. You can talk to women, and they hook and respond, but the lay is rare, the kiss can be elusive sometimes, and the social dynamics are rusty and creaky. At this point many dudes fall back to routines and try-hard dancing-monkey stuff thinking that it will lift them from this phase. More technology will not lift you from this phase. The flickerings of Nimbus start here.

6. Spiritual Revolution. Something clicks one day. You learn to generate a strong positive happy state anytime, and maintain it - you are solidly self-oriented now. You have goals, you know yourself, you know what positivity means to you, and you are an active participant in the management of your psyche. You do things every day and as much as possible through the day to create and maintain strong positive happy state. More success. Good times, despite any setbacks or issues. You've made it this far, and now your faith is your guide. You KNOW you will get good, it's just a matter of time. Your strong positive happy state is internally generated, self-rooted, and now not subject to others' effects. Your Nimbus ignites.

7. Sexual Revolution. You start to see real results when you have a sexual, strong positive happy self-rooted state. You look back on past successes and failures and you see that you were in a sexual state with all of your lays, and you look for ways to create that again and purposely add it to your strong happy positive state. You realize the power of your sexual being. You see what women want ...and you see that it is YOU. What you need to do now comes into full, clear focus. Now you KNOW. You don't know how it will play out, but that's beside the point. Now you just KNOW. This is the inflection point in your transformation from entertainer guy to sexworthy.

8. The Rise of Your Sexuality. The beginning of powerful sexual intent. You learn to create a strong sexual positive happy self-rooted state, and project it toward desired women. But control of it is elusive. Shock and Awe begins here, and any kind of sexual state projection or direct game. You have the strong positive base state, and you figure out what works for you to add on the powerful sexual piece. You might have to try a few things, but you'll get it.

9. Full-On Sexual Intent. You have a sexual strong positive happy state, and now you can deliberately project it toward desired women. You sometimes still catch yourself being try-hard and have to recalibrate on-the-fly, or sometimes after-the-fact, but it doesn't matter. You are certain. Your sexuality oozes out of your pores.

Think of this not like a static, "I exist at level 3 and I'm trying to get to level 4". No. Think of it in real-time, like a volume knob. You can be anywhere and turn your state up or down, as desired. For instance, do you want to be at 10 when you're talking to your mom? I don't think so. Probably want to be around level 6, if she's bitching you out, so you can maintain a clear head. But when you're in front of a chick that you like, crank that baby wayyy up. This is what you're aiming at with phrases such as "my game is a 10." ...To be pure raw male sexuality, but calibrated and in-charge of your emotions.

When you suffer perceived setbacks, such as I have recently, you recede back a few levels to re-assess yourself and where you want to go next, but each time you turn that volume knob up again, it becomes easier.

So, to split out the state-specific phrases:

1. Wavering state. You are the leaf.
2. Notice state fluctuations, intent to improve.
3. Want consistency in positive states. Search for ways.
4. Can create positive state, but it is subject to others' influence.
5. Can create positive state despite others, but it is still occasionally subject to external harm.
6. Can generate positive state and maintain it, but there is a missing piece.
7. You realize that sexuality must be a part of your positive state, if you want to get laid.
8. You realize that your sexuality must project toward women, but it is uncertain how to do this.
9. You try a few things, and then you realize how to project your state deliberately to women and get results.
10. Your strong, happy, positive, sexual state automatically projects to women you desire. You are the Hurricane.

MUCH LOVE.

YOUR GAME IS A 10.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

You probably should have to experience each of them before you can "turn your volume knob" back up to a higher one. The point is that once you have a spiritual or sexual revolution, do you think that you are henceforth perfect? Life is more fluid than that.

Ex. a year ago, I was rumbling around between 1 and 4. Now, my range is 4+, usually around 6, and today 7 came into focus with extreme clarity, and 8, 9, 10... I've tasted, but today... they seem so awesomely in focus.

Like standing on the shore as the ocean churns, and seeing the sky change color as the dark cyclone approaches.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

6. Spiritual Revolution. Something clicks one day. You learn to generate a strong positive happy state anytime, and maintain it - you are solidly self-oriented now. You have goals, you know yourself, you know what positivity means to you, and you are an active participant in the management of your psyche. You do things every day and as much as possible through the day to create and maintain strong positive happy state. More success. Good times, despite any setbacks or issues. You've made it this far, and now your faith is your guide. You KNOW you will get good, it's just a matter of time. Your strong positive happy state is internally generated, self-rooted, and now not subject to others' effects. Your Nimbus ignites.

7. Sexual Revolution. You start to see real results when you have a sexual, strong positive happy self-rooted state. You look back on past successes and failures and you see that you were in a sexual state with all of your lays, and you look for ways to create that again and purposely add it to your strong happy positive state. You realize the power of your sexual being. You see what women want ...and you see that it is YOU. What you need to do now comes into full, clear focus. Now you KNOW. You don't know how it will play out, but that's beside the point. Now you just KNOW. This is the inflection point in your transformation from entertainer guy to sexworthy.

8. The Rise of Your Sexuality. The beginning of powerful sexual intent. You learn to create a strong sexual positive happy self-rooted state, and project it toward desired women. But control of it is elusive. Shock and Awe begins here, and any kind of sexual state projection or direct game. You have the strong positive base state, and you figure out what works for you to add on the powerful sexual piece. You might have to try a few things, but you'll get it.

9. Full-On Sexual Intent. You have a sexual strong positive happy state, and now you can deliberately project it toward desired women. You sometimes still catch yourself being try-hard and have to recalibrate on-the-fly, or sometimes after-the-fact, but it doesn't matter. You are certain. Your sexuality oozes out of your pores.

Daaamn holy shit, nice find. As a matter of fact, I believe I just recently hit #6 thursday night. At the beginning of the night i was in a shit storm, clouds and everything, then i just had an elightenment. It all rested with me, the feelings, everything, I COULD CHANGE IT. I was not gonna allow myself to be in that state no longer. I began doing anything and everything to allow myself to be pumped up, happy, positive, excited: high fives, dancing rediculiously, yelling at the top of my lungs, chanting oooolaayyyy olay olay ooooolaaaaaaay, picking up girls and physically moving them, and BOOM, NIMBUSness activated. It radiated from me. AND THEN i tried SnA, and all hell was raught, hitting #7 on the list. I FUCKING KNOW. And im on a mission of epic proportions, which only ending includes VICTORY

My only question, of which I am in pursuit of the answer for, is whether we can forcibly turn the volume knob back up to where it once was, or whether its simply a matter of biding your time until 'boom', you're back up at 9.

And, from my experience, Buddha is on the money when we talk about those top-level states. When we are ON like a mofo', THAT'S when the shitloads of AI's keep rolling on in...

I wholeheartedly believe that we can grab control of the volume knob and recalibrate ourselves on-the-fly. I believe that once we've experienced a wide range of different states, that we then have access to those states again. At first it is hard, but with more practice in the field & with women specifically, and in different situations, it can take wing.

This volume knob control will take years or months at first, and then weeks of trying stuff, and then days, to hours, down to minutes, and very experienced guys can recalibrate in real-time. I have winged only a few naturals in my life: a couple family members, and a couple others and some RSD guys doing this, but insta-calibration is real. That's where I'm headed... I don't have a time frame on my time frame!!! but I have no doubts.

Keep your eye on your own balls. As Ciaran said, there are probably more levels, and the post came from me, from my heart and mind. Some guy, for example a natural, has no need of a so-called "Sexual Revolution" phase if they guy was a horndog all his life always projecting it out to women. That guy, perhaps, would simply have the phase of learning to DIRECT his sexual energy with intentionality, and the other stuff never enters his frame. It doesn't need to. I'm a nerd, so I need to have a Sexual Revolution where I realize how fucking money I am and that chicks dig me for my brain and my big ass as well as my cock and the way it smells in her face.

A word on sexual state projection that's in the Thread title, but only hinted at in the post.... many have written on this. But this is the next thing going through my head, HOW. HOW do I project my sexuality towards a woman I desire? What is at play when I do it well? What falls flat when I'm not doing it so good? The S+A thread, JDs validation/qualification post, ManWHore's speeches, as well as The Jeffy Show will be perfect for understanding this piece. & just SOAKING up Tim's presence in Transformations. And everything I learned on BC and in my time since July. I have my own thoughts on it, so we'll see after while. But for now, having this road map is gold gold gold to me personally. Now I have a CLUE. I feel so much more relaxed now. The world is brighter. Thanks guys...

As the darkening storm curdles on the horizon, my spirit rises. The BLACK NIMBUS is awakened by cracking open the inner void, surrounded by dark matter, which then pours forth. A black hole is brightest at the event horizon as matter and antimatter collide and annihilate; it is fueled by a power much greater and darker than any star. hehe

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

ALL LIFE IS STATE.
ALL GAME IS SEXUAL STATE.
Top game is who you are, not what you do.

More thoughts + LR to follow shortly.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

Sexual State Projection is behind an invisible wall in your mind. On one side, you are wondering why women do not respond, why you can't seem to get the result you want, and you are wondering what to say to get some girl to respond. You are oftentimes stuck trying to figure things out, wtf? it worked before, how come it won't work this time? Doubts abound.

On the other side of the SSP wall, you realize that women ARE responding... they are ALWAYS responding, and all you have to do to get the result you want is to go for it, go out and get it. You are not at a loss for what to say, because inside, you KNOW that women want you and you are sexy and sensual and good. You are centered in yourself, and you are driving the bus. There is no drift. You don't necessarily have it all figured out, but you have enough figured out that you are comfortable in your own skin. Though more realizations will surely come, you do not need to figure anything out. You are good with yourself, and even if something a woman does is confounding, it doesn't matter... you just move forward, in-the-moment, towards what you want and being who you want to be. You are not worried about doing anything to get a result, because you are BEING the guy who gets results.

You are not dependent on any one thing happening, but you are putting your TRUE self out there. Your true sexual self. You are passion. You are poise and grace. You are maleness. There is no question. You cannot be deterred from your position of authority over yourself. Your mind and feelings are yours. You have total ownership of you. You want to put this out there, and you devise ways to support yourself every day being the man you wish to be.

On one side is the blue pill, and on the other side is the red pill. When you have your own Sexual Revolution, you are then seeing the matrix.

How do you turn the corner from being asleep in the matrix, to being alive in it, and aware of it?

For me:

100% faith and belief in myself, just as Tim talks about. Even to the point of delusion.

Accentuate the positive. Become a positively centered person. Seek ye first the kingdom of the subconscious mind and make it yours. Make it good. Make your life rich and good.

Let go. Let go of outcomes, results, techniques, and anything that is keeping you down mentally. Let the fuck GO already in your mind. Your faith will guide you.

100% honest self-assessment. Humility unto yourself. See your flaws and strengths. Be willing to talk about them openly and trust your friends if they have things to say to you. Don't care what strangers think about you, but love your friends and family. Seek teachers and mentors, and trust them. But above them, trust your heart.

Let go of KJing and bullshit, drama, negativity, negative people, and shit that brings you down. You avoid all bullshit that is not actual positive contribution to your life.

Sack the fuck up and get out there and socialize, however you do it. And keep doing it. Don't be put off by anything except extreme fatigue. Get OUT. Try stuff, reflect, be real.

Love yourself. Take CARE of yourself. Physical, mental, spiritual. Take great care, and treat yourself with respect. DEMAND and EXPECT others to respect you as well. Always rise up against disrespect and enforce the strength of your character, to yourself as well as others.

Reflect on and realize the true power of your sexuality. Reflect on how good it is to be a man, and how good of a man you are. Know in your heart that women want you because all women desire a good man. They want YOU. The real you.

Post your thoughts on things you can do to turn the corner and lift the veil on SSP.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

There is a paradox here that hit me suddenly. At the bottom end of the scale is wavering state. Yet the reality is that people always have different moods, different states of being, day to day or week to week. So how do you get out of that zone of wavering state, but still be human and experience state fluctuation? How can you not fluctuate and fluctuate at the same time?! Sounds like bullshit to me.

But after thinking about this today, I think the answer for me is that even though my mood changes a little day to day (sometimes more some days than others) my state does not fluctuate too far to the extremes.

So then, before in unhappy chode-land, my state would fluctuate from bad to good, like a manic depressive. Wild swings. Unpredictable. Uncontrollable. But now my state might dip down into bad, but the bad today is far farrrrrrrrr better than the bads I faced ten years ago in my 20's. And the goods are far more frequent and longer lasting, and within my control. I have a more developed emotional intelligence and handle on my state of being, now moreso than ever.

Does that make sense of the paradox? NO ONE is immune to the full spectrum of their emotions, nor should anyone want to be. Sad or angry can be very instructive if you don't let it you. Poor dudes in chode-land have no control of their state fluctuations or intensity. Champs have a healthy amount of control over the intensity of any fluctuations in state that they experience, and can actively trade upward for more positive states.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

I think someones sexual progression and state progession are probably seperate and being positive isn't really a precurser

Your discussion of assimilation of knowledge was great, thanks for putting that in there, and I totally agree with that part.

Been thinking about this sentence, tho. Hmm. I disagree. One of my recent big realizations was that positivity gives rise to my sexual state. They are intimately linked. I have to have a positive, forward-moving state, a positive presence, or my sexuality gets squashed underfoot.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.

Hey man [Originator], you're pretty well read up on hypnosis and stuff, and related to this post you just wrote, I have a question:

Hypnosis obviously targets the unconcious mind, with the aim of developing a new mindset or adapting an existing one. How effective is this really? I've been using hypnosis for a few years now, and I've only found the long term, general content hypnosis audio tracks to work on me - after listening to them over a long time. Equally if its something that I don't deem as important, the effect seems to be very quick, whereas if its something important then it just takes a lot of time - up to a year.

However, when it comes to short term, specific hypnosis audio tracks (by the same hypnotist even) I don't see the effect it's meant to be instilling. Now I gather I may sound like I'm treating hypnosis like a Magic Bullet, but other people have often reported dramatic results with short term audio tracks.

Is it the case that my subconcious is unwilling to accept this mindset being installed, like you mentioned in your post? Or am I approach the hypnosis incorrectly? I would love your opinion on this, as even though I have learned self-hypnosis and all that, no one in these courses actually talks about the psychology or [pseudo-]science behind it.

Should I be looking for another way to influence by subconcious patterning?

I shared an artichoke with a virgin for lunch today. Different virgin... a girl who works in my office. She had never eaten one, so I said, here take a leaf and strip it with your teeth like this. She did. Then I continued eating it in front of her. Then I peeled off the soft inner leaves and you scrunch them together and it looks like a vagina, and you bite the soft parts, as I looked her in the eyes. Then I took the choke off the top of the heart and handed her the heart and said, take a bite, this is the best part.

Ooooo that's good.

Maybe, just maybe. Maybe over Christmas break. We'll see. Office ink is bad news, so arrangements would have to be made to fire her so I can have my way.

And this morning, after reading that whole food-holy grail state craziness you posted up... I was in my car driving to work and I had the following stream-of-consciousness thought process:

A while back I bought a pack of cigs and smoked 1 every night for a week. Yuck. But all I was doing was craving them. Then I kegged up some beer with the virgin and last night I tasted it for the first time (hahah) and ended up drinking 3 glasses because it was so good. So all I was doing is craving beer. I like salad. Alex says that all the time. I should eat more salad. Wait, no I don't like salad, I CRAVE salad.

At that very moment... a hot blonde chick on the sidewalk saw me driving and moving my lips and she stopped and turned shoulder to watch me drive by as I caught her eyes with mine. That is no lie, happened this morning, and I was like fuck him. Fuck the Originator, that food shit was such fucking bullshit, and here I am thinking about salad and some girl stares me down, not FAIR! Not fair man. You are fucking my reality.

If I hit a deer tonight, I am sending you the bill AND the carcass. And a hypnosis tape of my own creation just for you. I will call it, "get the fuck out of my head and off my thread, man!" hahahah good times.

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The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk,
mad to be saved, desirous of everything
at the same time, the ones who never yawn
or say a commonplace thing, but
burn, burn, burn,
like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding
like spiders ac r o s s the stars.