I would feel better about myself if I rode my bicycle more often this summer.

I would feel better about myself if I ate more salad.

I would feel better about myself if I spent more time with my niece.

And you may also have said something like:

I would feel better about myself if I did not buy potato chips from the vending machine at work every afternoon.

I would feel better about myself if I did notgive up so easily on advancing in my career.

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Through the above exercise, you have, in essence, set your goals. Goals should be related to how we feel and think about ourselves. Through writing out these sentences, we have written down specific ideas that we believe we should (and should not) do in order to feel better about ourselves.

In this next step, we will now think about the action that most closely relates to these sentences.

In other words, think about what small thing you can do each day, or week, to help you do whatever you need to do to feel better about yourself.

So, instead of thinking about your goals in big, abstract ways (“I want to lose 20 pounds”), you’ll focus on considering the small steps you’ll incorporate into your daily life that directly connect with what you have identified you should (or should not) do.

So, instead of stating this as your goal: “I’m going to eat healthier this summer,” you say, “I’m going to eat salad for lunch three times each week.”

Rather than saying, “I’m going to ride my bike a lot this summer,” you say, “I will ride my bike to the store (or church or library or friend’s house) twice each week.”

It is important to make these all very specific.

Therefore, instead of saying, “I want to see my niece more often this summer,” you say, “I will see my niece once each weekend in June, July, and August.”

The same technique is used for the things you do not want to do.

Let’s suppose that, in our earlier exercise, you said, “I would feel better about myself if I did not eat so much junk food at work.”

You might follow this up with this simple action: “I will not walk by the vending machine at work from the hours of 2-5pm.” Or, “I will buy an apple every day during my lunch break for my mid-afternoon snack.”

With this technique, your summer goals transform into easy, practical actions. First, you identify what in your life you would like to do (or stop doing), and then you clearly identify what actions are necessary in order to live that out.

These simple, achievable actions are not overwhelming or abstract. Instead, they each relate to what you earlier identified as helping you to feel better about yourself.

Let me know in the comments section what some of your goals and actions are!

Inspiring Quotes

“But I would like to suggest that all of us, we and you alike, commit ourselves to retaining that split-screen world in which we hold our plans--our personal plans, our dreams, our abundant energies--always and in juxtaposition with the images that disturb us and call us to everyday responsibility.”
--Diana Eck

“What kind of us are we?”
--Helen Small

“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness…Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”
–Mark Twain

“Elusive God, companion on the way, you walk behind, beside, beyond; you catch us unawares. Break through the disillusionment and despair clouding our vision, that with wide-eyed wonder, we may find our way and journey on as messengers of your good news.”
–Anglican Prayer, Third Sunday of Easter