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Friday, July 28, 2017

Is calmness a cover up for more interesting emotions.?

We think we
are clever. We think we are doing the right thing. We think we are being
righteous. We think we are being good. How? By not allowing our emotions. It’s
how we have been conditioned by our family, and by society. We are taught that
it’s good to be calm and balanced all the time. We strive for this. We strive
to be right in this.

When I was
younger people admired how calm I was. I can tell you, that it was a big cover
up job. Any hint of emotion and I stuffed it down. Too scary. Too unknown an
area. And there was a cost to me. It meant that I sailed along in life without
experiencing the richness of life. I didn’t experience any strong emotions,
either the “negative” ones or the exciting joyous ones. Bland, I say. BLAND!!.

Do you know
what to do with your emotions? Do you allow them to be felt? Do you find them
scary and stuff them down before you even get a little feel? Is your life
bland?

How about
you do a little experiment with yourself. Have an intention to be curious about
your feelings. Maybe when you are on your own so you feel safe. And see what
happens. As you experiment more you will begin to notice more about how you are
feeling. Allow yourself to feel the emotions in your body. When your mind jumps
in with the story of why you feel this way, just ask your mind, where in the
body do you feel this, and bring your awareness to that part. Your mind will
try and jump in again, it’s what minds do. Redirect your awareness to your
body. Your body is where emotions are felt.

These days,
I am actually more genuinely calmer than I was earlier. Well, you know,
in-between the other emotions!! My body has been learning that I will allow
emotions to be felt. So they arrive. The good, the bad and the in-between. All
emotions are welcome in me. This allows me to live life more lightly, because
emotions come and then they go. Emotions do not hang around when they are welcomed
to be felt.

Sometimes we
want to have the thoughts about the emotion. We want to analyse them. Somehow
it seems to justify them. Somehow if we can blame someone else or some
circumstance for our feelings then we don’t have to own our own feelings. But
really, give yourself some trust. Know that it is safe to feel feelings in your
body. If you fall apart into vulnerability, so be it. It is actually okay. If
you fall into anger, this is okay too….feel it in your body. If fear or even
terror arises, feel that too. You do not have to do anything with the emotions,
except feel them. Then they dissolve.

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Several years ago I experienced some health problems and visited several health professionals. Eventually I discovered The Journey. Through this I was able to become free of many emotions that were stored in the cells of my body. I realised that joy and peace are part of who I am and always available. I did the Journey training, involving attendance at several seminars, mostly in Australia, much work on myself, and many case studies. I now wish to share this with others, facilitating them to experience the freedom that is available. Freedom to soar and live life with joy.
I have 4 adult children and had another baby who lived for only 4 weeks. In 2014 I was able to step out into life, into the unknown of a new job, a new property in a different part of the country, a soulmate relationship and greater awareness that comes from opening into and trusting the unknown. After 10/11 months it became apparent that this soulmate relationship was done. So then came the experience of parting.