The Truth About Getting Married Young

I’m 21. I got married in June of last year, when I was 20. I was pregnant within three months of being married (a story for another time) and I couldn’t go out for drinks on my 21st birthday! For many young people that might seem like the end to having fun…but that doesn’t have to be true.

When I met my husband I knew right away that he was the one for me. While the “love at first sight” phenomenon is not experienced by everyone, I truly believe that is why we were blessed with such clarity about each other so early on. Within a few months we were officially dating. 3 months later we were engaged, and only a little over a year after meeting each other, we were married.

Everything happened so quickly, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. I understand that everyone has different experiences and different motives, but I’m here to talk about mine. I believe that getting married young is a good thing. I learned so much more about myself, about my husband, and about life together as a young person than I would have if I had waited till we were older and settled.

I believe that being married young strengthens the bond between husband and wife because of the struggles they have to face together that older couples may not. For example: we are now expecting our first child and have not yet been financially able to afford a house of our own. While I did hope to have my own house by the time I had kids, I believe that it’s a blessing in disguise because it has taught me patience, contentment (though I still struggle with this sometimes), and how to connect with my husband to make things work and plan for the future.

Having my husband come home to me every evening, being able to climb in bed together and talk quietly about our days each night, and knowing that I always have him by my side is worth every single thing I may have “given up” (according to society) by getting married young. It’s definitely not easy, but it is so worth it. In the end, I would give up all of those things a million times just to have him by my side. In a healthy marriage, it’s no longer two separate people; the two of you become one and it’s a beautiful picture of love, security, loyalty, and partnership.

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Insightful perspectives! Interestingly, I have twenty-year-old daughters who still live at home and whose primary focus is on building their brands, and to be honest, I don’t know that I would advise them to get married anytime soon. This, of course, is not to say that your decision to get married was a bad idea. As you shared, you believe you found the right person, which is incredible in itself. You also seem to have a healthy perspective on life and possess acute self-awareness. May your marriage bring you the joy, happiness, and satisfaction you deserve.💕💐

Thank you for the read and the thoughtful response! As I said, I do understand that everyone has different motivations and at this time in life a lot of individuals are still figuring themselves out! It’s wonderful to hear that your daughters have the drive to make something for themselves and I wish them the very best!

I really appreciate everything you had to say! It was very encouraging and definitely not a coincidence that I came across this post! I am 18 and just recently became engaged. So many people think we are crazy for doing this but I know he’s the and vise-versa. We have been together for 2 years and many people ask why get married so young and I agree with you! I would rather go through the hard struggles with them as we grow because it will only help us.

Hi Bethany,
I’m so glad you found this post and that it spoke to you! Congratulations on your engagement and I wish you both the best as you embark on this wonderful journey together. It’s so important to keep in mind the struggles you will have to face as a young married couple, because it definitely isn’t easy. It’s so worth it though! Listen to your intuitions and to your partner and don’t let other people’s opinions encroach on your relationship ❤️
Sending blessings your way!
Xoxo,
Madeline

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