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Excellent advice. I think that I may be doing a little too much pull in my own dating life, but I have a compulsion to tell women how great they are (slap self here). I could use a little Wingmam help on this one myself. On the other hand, all the women I’m seeing know that I am seeing or very probably seeing other women. And I only text first about 10% of the time, and only then with some diet or other info they might be interested in. I never, never, never text to ask how are you doing. When we do text, it’s a push pull on variations of you are a beautiful, hot, sl*t.

Also, if they go quiet, I never never text them. Often within a week or a couple of months I will get the how are you doing text. If they ask me, “Where have you been?”, I always respond with, “What do you mean”. I don’t even acknowledge that I was even aware of not responding to her texts. I learned this technique, when I was with a woman, while another woman was texting me during the day and I couldn’t text back. When she asked me where have you been, rather than tell her that I was with another woman (even though she knew we were not exclusive) I just said, “What do you mean?”. And that was the end of that. So, I learned a new technique — just plead stupidity. Women readily accept that explanation from me.

The best way to be unconcerned about a woman pulling away is to be dating two or preferably three or more women. You will be amazed at how naturally unconcerned you are about any one woman pulling away. Also, make it a point to be aware of women looking and smiling at you during the day, and when possible approaching, talking with them and getting their numbers. The more numbers you have, the more women you are dating, the more confident and the more unconcerned you become. The thing that I like most about women is that there are so many of them.

Remember, the only relationship security is being able to get the next one. And that is what Wingmam’s advice is for. (Not the best grammar, but you get my point.)

Anna Jørgensen, this is pretty sound advice. Also can i come with another quick advice, get interested in her relationship with her father, also growing up. I often just make it a criteria in itself that the woman has to have a really good relation with her father, and if her parents were always together, yea she is most likely very level headed when it comes to relationship etc.

If it was particular bad, like he was alcoholic etc, then I am sorry to say, you will have to endure more shit testing, this is her way of saying she just doesnt trust men. I have experienced this myself. So, first of all, you are going to have to figure out how badly she is damaged, and if she is able to trust you, because if she holds all men to the same light, even you after getting to know you, then well id suggest walking away.