More than eye color, a full head of hair, height, wrinkle free skin, or tight bod - the trait that actually makes a person want you is mindfulness.

Yep! Just simply being present is one of the most attractive qualities a person can exude.

It seems like a growing number of people are reporting to have ADD or ADHD - and whether it's self-diagnosed or official - I would say everyone on the planet has some level of attention deficit.

In our fast-paced, jam-packed modern day we're actually practicing to have short attention spans. Between being able to fill idol time in a grocery line with a simple glance at the phone or getting completely engrossed in watching the news where you've got the people telling you something, you can read the breaking news headline at the lower third of the screen, the stock ticker across the top, the weather in the corner, and commercial invasions - GAH! - our attention is getting more and more used to constant [and stressful] stimulation. And sadly, our attention is also getting less and less tolerant of slower, intimate kind of stimulation like talking to a real life human being.

Here are some great ideas to try this Valentine's Day in order to mix it up. I know how hard it might seem that everyone is out having fun and in love with a partner but for many people it's not like that. So instead of focusing on what's not here how about creating a new experience that feels better. Not only will it be of service to others but you will create new neuro-pathways to love in your our experience. Putting your attention on what feels good for others or yourself helps prepare your garden for more love in all areas of life. Here is the article from Emily John over at the Huffington Post:

Many people won’t even put themselves out there, period, because of sex and the fears, lack of confidence and tabooness that surrounds it. Some brave souls DO put themselves out there and have lots of great qualities, but their efforts go nowhere because they’re not in vibrational alignment with their sexuality They’re not vibrationally ready for the things that come with the deeper physical intimacy of partnership.

In other words - you could be the hottest, smartest, richest, funnest, most conscious communicating fish in the sea; but if you’re vibration is wonky about sex, you might actually be resisting the partner you seek.

Compliments are an all-too-often misused attempt at casting a rod to see if they bite. It's a great idea, in theory. But here I'm gonna explain why it doesn't work and how you can make a little adjustment that's going to feel really good to you regardless of where the connection goes.

So, you're at your favorite coffee shop standing in line and behind you walks up this human who's got eyes you could dive into, a smile that's making you melt, and hair that you'd like to see in your bed tomorrow morning.

First of all - you're not gonna say all that. Second - you don't even know if they're single! But - you just can't possibly wait in this line with such proximity to an opportunity without at least trying. So what do you do?

Imagine being vulnerable enough to put your heart out there to meet someone new knowing that they would treat you exactly the way you'd want to be treated, regardless of wanting to move forward. We've interviewed hundreds of conscious, heart-centered lovers to find out what most people want in ideal modern dating etiquette.

Almost everybody dating today has used online dating sites or apps to find love. But let's face it - most people hate doing online dating for various reasons from the time it takes to the fears of weirdos and stalkers to name a few. At Evolve Dating Gurus we believe that once you are in the right frame of mind and aligned with your own love frequency, then online apps can be a great resource to attract your person. We think it can definitely be part of your 2017 vision board plan for finding new love.

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No matter what your thoughts or feelings on the issue of men paying on dates, guess what? No one is right or wrong! If you're a woman who wants a guy who’s gonna take charge, open doors and pay for meals and be the old school dude that you dream about - great! If you're the type of woman who prefers a guy who offers to go dutch or wants equal contribution back and forth - awesome! Own what you want with consciousnessand complete conviction, and you will attract your match with much more ease.

The question: “Should the man pay?” is like a fat, juicy pimple. As soon as it’s popped, it’s a shit show of a mess with no satisfaction. It’s a question where all kinds of people show up and wave their opinion flag whether they’re a chivalrous type, a know-it-all, a feminist, misogynist, traditionalist, or a supposed conscious couple, like us!

We are writing this in response to the many articles out there that give a black and white answer to this question that’s at least 51 shades of gray. We feel disheartened by the lack of guidance towards cultivating inner wisdom. And so here we are - writing something for men and women to consider in order to come to their own answer.

I am now a dating coach and matchmaker, but it wasn't always that way; I actually started out as a psychotherapist and before that, I was a personal trainer. As a therapist and trainer, I worked with many single clients who I came to know quite well after some time and was always thinking things like, "Man, I know someone who'd be perfect for my client!" or "I wish it was appropriate for me to help my client with their online dating profile!" Every time with my single clients, some portion of the session would be devoted to talking about the latest dating situation: Either they went on a horrible date, went on an amazing date, decided to write off dating altogether, or just expressed their deep confusion about modern dating.

My eyes slowly peel open into a blurred version of a room. Turning my head on the pillow as quietly as possible, I face towards...Fuck! Who’s that? I scrunch up my face in partial disgust but also in my efforting to dig through a substance soggy mind for literally any images of the night before. Nothing. Verrrrry sloooooowly and carefully, I slip out from the covers and look down. Shit. I’m naked. That was me a few years ago in my pre-conscious life as a not so spiritual single. Yep, there were times when I really didn’t know if I had sex. I was on something literally every single day at that point: food, alcohol, drugs, men.