Thursday, September 9, 2010

Committed or just in it....

There are a lot of things that we are taught in life, but the one we are never really taught is how to be in a healthy and happy relationship. It is almost like we assume that just because we found someone that of the opposite sex or the same sex that we are interested in that things should just work out. But, the truth is that there is more to a relationship than just attraction, and like anything that we want to be successful at a relationship takes continuous work and commitment.

Deep down we all have a desire to love and be loved, but we may not know how to go about it. For most of us we learn how to be in relationships from our parents and the other people in our immediate circle. If we see drama, jealousy, abuse or cheating than we assume that, that is what people do in relationships, but it doesn’t have to be that way. To achieve the relationship that you desire is really all in the commitment. Not just the commitment to another person but a commitment to yourself to have a great relationship. Just because you see something doesn’t meant that, that it is the way things should be. What matters is what feels good to you and what make you feel good.

To have the right relationship first starts with finding the that someone that you are of course attracted to, but that you connect, with on a deeper level, someone that you have shared interest with, as well as common goals and beliefs. But, what really makes a relationship successful is mutual love and respect. It is about being fearless, and not worrying about the what if’s, and the what could possibly go wrong, or giving up when things get tough, but committing to working at making your relationship the best it can be. That starts with being loving, kind, thoughtful, and considerate. It is about giving exactly what it is you claim to want - which is love. Love through the good times and the challenging times.

I'm just saying... What good is it to buy the cow ... If your getting the milk for free.... Are you committed or just in it?!