Honest Women Reveal How Important Kissing Is To A Successful Relationship

A friend of mine is currently dating a man who doesn't like to kiss. Her immediate response to this was, "OMG, it's my breath! It's my technique! It's my fault!" But after some probing and many demands for an explanation, he revealed, "it's just not my thing."

He also admitted that it had been a dealbreaker for many, many women in his past, and although he's trying to work on it, it's still just not his "thing." Needless to say, this relationship has a shelf life of about one more week or so to it.

We asked ladies their feelings on kissing. Is it really that important? How does one feel about a bad kisser? Is being with someone who doesn't want to kiss ever an option?

There was a big resounding "NO!" to that latter question, because who doesn't love to get their lips all sloppy with someone else's spit?

"Kissing is REALLY important to me, I feel like it's a great way to show intimacy with your partner. My husband is a big fan of the quick kiss and I guess those are all right but I live for the times when we both stop whatever we are doing and actually have a slow kiss where that's literally the only thing in the world that matters right then.

Not even a passionate throw-me-against-a-wall kiss, just a slow, long kiss that means something. And you need to have a good array of styles at your disposal. If you're only into one kind of kissing, you can f**k off. I need kisses to suit the situation," says Colleen, 30.

"It's a must. The reasons are because it's the form of love/affection you'll give each other the most, so kissing a sloppy fish multiple times a day just won't do. Also, fortunately, it's also the easiest thing to change, have fun with, and get someone to kiss like you like, if necessary," says Sabrina, 28.

"Kissing is VERY important unless you just want to f**k. F**king doesn't require kissing, but love and romance does. What can melt you faster than a wonderful kiss?" asks Joy, 39.

"I feel like having compatible kissing styles is REALLY important. If someone lunges in with the tongue no matter what, and you were more looking for a soft 'good morning' kiss, it's probably not going to work out in the chemistry department. It's really one of the first tests to see how the two of you will work in bed... or if you'll work at all.

I've had lovers with a pretty wide array of kissing styles, and the ones where kissing them wasn't my favorite thing tended not to last long," says Becky, 29.

"Kissing compatibility is a must. Even if the sex isn't great, that's something I can handle, but not being able to kiss well, is not," says Nicole, 31.

"Kissing is your first physical contact audition. If you can't get it right then no callbacks. Sometimes you can work on a guy with some bad kissing but it often involves a short period of a bruised ego. However, if he takes the cue, it's well worth it. In short: kissing is monumentally important," says Sarah, 34.

"I went on a date years ago with this guy I liked sooo much. The date was magical and I was really interested in seeing where things could go. But then he kissed me ... and oh, it was so bad. It was nightmarishly bad. There were buckets of saliva and bruising involved. I even went on another date with him just to see if he was nervous or something, but no. Tragic really; he was gorgeous," says Steph, 25.

"Bad kiss equals flimsy handshake (blech)! On the latter, my partner and I have been together for nine years, and I still wake up every morning looking forward to kissing her at some point during the day, if not on my way out for work in the morning," says Sadie, 30.

"I'll never get sick of making out with my husband. Ever. Yeah, we've only been married a year, but I just know that I won't," Chelsea, 29.