After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.

Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.

"It's awfully considerate of you to think of me here,
And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

It's a shame to hear about your family's probable adverse reaction. If it is because they are christian, you might want to do some research and show them why the 3 passages that refer to homosexuality in the NT don't actually describe an attraction to the same sex. Humble suggestion.

At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.

Good for you for coming out! I'm sure almost everyone agrees when I say, we all view you as a friend and will support you no matter what.

Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.

To all the people fighting a hard battle out there - life's giving you a pretty hard beating. There's no sugarcoating that, but there's no shadow that's free of light. When life sneers at you and asks, "Ready to go again?" - Raise your hand. Reach out to victory. Don't give in.

At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.

Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.

I know this took a lot for you, and I agree with bsh1 that I think you'll be better for it. While there are some good people and there are some strange people on DDO, this is probably the one place that you can really be free to be who you are.

You are a very close friend of ours, kiddo. And we care about you more than you know :)

I know this took a lot for you, and I agree with bsh1 that I think you'll be better for it. While there are some good people and there are some strange people on DDO, this is probably the one place that you can really be free to be who you are.

You are a very close friend of ours, kiddo. And we care about you more than you know :)

Thanks. :)

"It's awfully considerate of you to think of me here,
And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

I think that this will be good...I didn't come out in a single post like this, but this was the first place where I was open about myself. It did a lot of good for me, and I sincerely hope it does the same for you.

Whatever happens, know that we support you and that you're a wonderful person who means a lot to a great many people on this site.

Live Long and Prosper

I'm a Bish.

"Twilight isn't just about obtuse metaphors between cannibalism and premarital sex, it also teaches us the futility of hope." - Raisor

I think that this will be good...I didn't come out in a single post like this, but this was the first place where I was open about myself. It did a lot of good for me, and I sincerely hope it does the same for you.

Whatever happens, know that we support you and that you're a wonderful person who means a lot to a great many people on this site.

At 1/22/2015 3:05:46 PM, AnDoctuir wrote:Should have been obvious from the sucking up to YYW and bsh1, for one. I typified you like thett3, though, not really caring. It was obvious you had some hangup about homosexuality/Christianity.

Your support is most appreciated. :)

"It's awfully considerate of you to think of me here,
And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."