It's my grandma's 93 birthday on March 10. None of the rest of her family will be around (she lives in another city), so I was trying to figure out how I could get her to our city, so she could celebrate her birthday, and the kids' birthdays with us (March 12).

In trying to work out potential details with my mother, I received the following feedback, repeatedly, in a snarly, complaining, and condescending manner:1) You have no idea how difficult this is.2) You really don't want her to come - you can't possibly understand what it's like to deal with her.3) You can't handle her or this situation (she's slightly incontinent and forgetful of her medication).4) You don't know what you're asking for.5) She'll never agree to travel with you.6) You're causing all kinds of problems.7) You haven't thought things through at all.8) You're not prepared to deal with her.

I asked her what her problem was, and suggested that if she didn't want grandma to come, then she should say so, but to stop making decisions about what I can, or can't do, and about what I want, or don't want. Rather than address the question, her solution was to hang up on me.

Hopefully, she won't try to talk to me for a few days. I have no desire to have anything to do with my mother, but you can bet that I'll be inviting my grandmother to visit. My mother can also shovel her own damn sidewalk and hire an accountant to do her own bookkeeping.