Week 57: When Humble Goes Too Far – #AlphaFemaleFriday

Work hard and stay humble? Absolutely. The question is what happens when you take it too far. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not just women who get stuck in the humility trap. While men are known for being more aggressive in the workplace, there are also men who just can’t stand following in the footsteps of foot stomping, tight suited men who puff their chests and push anyone out of the way who doesn’t bend to their will.

The people who act like that are victims of their own ego. They may be narcissists who think they are truly fantastic people with superior intellect and know-it-alls. They may be overcompensating for low self-esteem and reflect their lack of self-confidence on others. Either way, these are the kind of people that most would rather avoid. They inspire otherwise comfortable confident folk to turn the dial up on their humility scale.

Humble goes too far when you take advantage of perks. If you have an opportunity to save time, money, or energy, take advantage of it. Don’t be shy about showcasing your skills. Along the way, vouch for others and take care of your team. Work with others and don’t work against them. You want to have people on your team, and you want to be there for them when things go sour.

No matter how perfectly planned everything goes, there’s bound to be an unexpected twist along the way. You may trip along the way, and you may find yourself bowing your heads in a moment of humility. Failure may make you humble, but it will also make you tough as nails as you rise up and continue to push forward. The secret to success is knowing how to balance humility and confidence.

Cheers,

Kelly

@AlphaFemSociety tweets by @KellyRGonzales

About:

Each week, I take a tip from Lois P. Frankel’s book, Nice Girls Still Don’t Get the Corner Office, and explore how each of these tips affect myself and other women in similar positions on the road to becoming the women we want to be. There are far and few between who are a few steps behind me, and many more who are far advanced. I found that Lois P. Frankel’s advice applied to novice, intermediates, and experts alike. It helped me see that I was already doing right, served as a reminder to keep on doing what I was doing and how to keep that momentum going. The book also showed me areas where I could improve, and gave realistic tips to jump on board. There are a total of 133 tips, and explore one tip per week in a program I call: 133 Weeks to Success.

Join the movement using the hashtag #133WeeksToSuccess with posts which are posted every #AlphaFemaleFriday.