Put down the phone and close the computer - offer some undivided attention.

SEE your children and let them know that you see them - offer smiles, eye contact, high fives, thumbs up, fist bumps, whatever works.

Make the house, or at least a space in the house, calm and peaceful so if quiet is needed, it can be found.

Allow your children to be children - don't burden them with adult problems and issues.

No more over scheduling your children - letthemplay.

Don't place conditions on your love and stop saying,"I love you, but….". If you are going to say I love you, end it with a period.

Focus on today and this moment - get out of the past, don't jump into the future.

Love yourself, heal yourself, nurture yourself, make yourself a priority, deal with your issues, ask for help, don't be a martyr - like it or not, you are your children's role model for emotional safety.

So I guess that's more than a few suggestions....and some of them are a bit uncomfortable because they are more about being rather than doing.

But it's time to begin the journey toward self understanding and inner peace - it's the only way we can raise children who innately understand this.

Because really, raising our children in an emotionally safe environment is our personal contribution toward changing the world.

It's time to break the cycle of fear, move in the direction of love and embrace that, like it or not, we are all connected.

With that innate understanding it's super easy to be part of a community, to give back, and to serve others.

But to teach it, we have to believe it. We have to look inside, sift through old patterns, heal what's been hurt, rediscover our own inner light, embrace our self love and then live from that heart-centered place.

No, we don't need to be perfect….there is no such thing. We will still make mistakes, have uncomfortable feelings, and have challenges to deal with - we are human after all.

But once we accept this, we can teach our children to accept it, too. We can help them embrace what is so they can easily move with the ebbs and flows of life.

It's simply a redefining of what it means to feel truly safe - inside and out.