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Topic: Dan is in hospital. Not well. (Read 18966 times)

Damn Dan, you poor thing. Thanks Kevin for updating us and typing for Dan. Still keeping you in my prayers and hopes that you can travel soon. Hopefully the airlines will work something out with Hermie about the ticket, he's paid enough already. Get well sweetie....

Hermie, since health and surgery are involved in this circumstance with Dan, I suggest you contact the airline and just ask for a credit to be used in the future. A lower level person probably can't authorize it, so if that doesn't work then I would suggest you write to the president of the airlines, explain the special circumstances, perhaps mention you have flown with them many times, (if you have), and ask for a credit against future flights.

I just got off the phone with Dan.They were about to roll him into the OQ to put him under full anaesthesia and perform a drainage of his scrotum.The antibiotics are not working, so the infection started to spread to his belly and organs. That is not a good evolution.They will drain and then put him on another AB. Hope that one will work. He is loosing hos patience and starting to wonder if all that was worth the first surgery after all.I just hope they can contain the spreading.The candles are lit and my heart is with him.

I have called the airline and they will keep the credit for future travel. I will only have to pay the fare difference, but no changing fees.At least that is better news.

I am just lost here, don't have the energy to do stuff and really wished Dan were here instead of some lonely hospital... but my guess is you could figure that out...

Thank you all

Hermie

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Diagnosed in 1987 and still kickingViread, Kivexa (Epzicom),Viramune once daily

Hermie~ I am so sorry to hear that Dan has to have another surgery and that he is in so much pain. It breaks my heart to think of how badly you want to be together right now. I know its easier said than done, but just pray and be patient, and turn to us here in the Forums for support, too. Before you know it, Dan will be on the mend and the two of you will be together. I hope he gets some relief after this second surgery. Hang in there and know that my thoughts are with you both.

Also, glad to hear that the airline was understanding about this situation.

Ugh, poor Dan. I know this is all really upsetting to him about now. I hope the other AB kicks in for him. Try to stay strong Hermie, I know how frustrating this is for you but Dan knows if you could be there you would.. Glad to see the airlines were able to work something out with you. Sending all positive vibes to both you....

I do not intend to hijack my own thread. but I am sitting here, biting my nails of, without news from the surgery.

I just wanted to write down the stuff that has caused me pain and loss over the years.Certainly not to whine or victimise myself, but my therapist said writing it all down could help to look at it. And he added : grief is so important. Do you allow yourself to grief??? the answer was : NO

I lost my job as a flightattendant due to HIVI lost my lover from a massive heartattack : he was only 32I lost my husband to another man.I lost my healthI lost my appartmentI lost my business, I was screwed by a companion for over $ 150.000Lost my savings and more after getting sick in 2005 and the business going down : $ 200.000Got screwed by the guy who took over : $35.000 he doesn't want to payMy insurance company in Germany agrees on a deal. Promised me $ 25.000 if I signed an agreement. I do. They fool me with some foolish argument and refuse to Pay me. Lost $ 25000I loose over 150 colleagues and many dear friends + a lover to AIDSSorry, but I had to get it out.it may be a catharsis and I may be able to mourn over it finally.and there is so much more

Above all i miss Dan...

love

Hermie

« Last Edit: November 05, 2007, 01:40:25 PM by heartforyou »

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Diagnosed in 1987 and still kickingViread, Kivexa (Epzicom),Viramune once daily

I do not intend to hijack my own thread. but I am sitting here, biting my nails of, without news from the surgery.

I just wanted to write down the stuff that has caused me pain and loss over the years.Certainly not to whine or victimise myself, but my therapist said writing it all down could help to look at it. And he added : grief is so important. Do you allow yourself to grief??? the answer was : NO

I lost my job as a flightattendant due to HIVI lost my lover from a massive heartattack : he was only 32I lost my husband to another man.I lost my healthI lost my appartmentI lost my business, I was screwed by a companion for over $ 150.000Lost my savings and more after getting sick in 2005 and the business going down : $ 200.000Got screwed by the guy who took over : $35.000 he doesn't want to payMy insurance company in Germany agrees on a deal. Promised me $ 25.000 if I signed an agreement. I do. They fool me with some foolish argument and refuse to Pay me. Lost $ 25000I loose over 150 colleagues and many dear friends + a lover to AIDSSorry, but I had to get it out.it may be a catharsis and I may be able to mourn over it finally.and there is so much more

Above all i miss Dan...

love

Hermie

Hermie,

I'm glad you did rant, but I am gonna make a suggestion for you and Dan when you are together. I think it is going to be important that you both see a therapist and not try to be each other's therapist. I think both of you have faced too many issues and need a lot of things to be sorted out and by relying on only each other you may subconsciously put too big a burden on one another.

Hermie, your going to hurt your neck looking over your shoulder to much... Time to look forward. Time to realize that Dan is in very capable hands. Dan has every probability of coming out of this just fine.. Time to let go and let someone bigger than you drive the boat.....

Saying prayers for both of you!!

Hugs,

Eric

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Dan J.

Kevin again. Just talked to Dan's Dad. He is out of surgery after draining a HUGE abcess in one of his testicles. AND HIS PAIN IS RELIEVED! I didn't realize how bad it was until talking to his Dad. He said Dan couldn't sleep all last night or today because it was so bad. They couldn't give him enough painkillers. But thank God, that much is over. OH, and the bleeding has stopped. He is sleeping now. Still on liquid diet. That's all I can relay at this time.

Thanks for the update Kevin. Again, please recover soon Dan. Hermie, it seems life has dealt you some bad cards for the last few years. But I wonder, just a bit, if you sit down and think, whether you can write down a list of good things that have happened too. Like meeting Dan?! Just a thought.

Kevin again. Just talked to Dan's Dad. He is out of surgery after draining a HUGE abcess in one of his testicles. AND HIS PAIN IS RELIEVED! I didn't realize how bad it was until talking to his Dad. He said Dan couldn't sleep all last night or today because it was so bad. They couldn't give him enough painkillers. But thank God, that much is over. OH, and the bleeding has stopped. He is sleeping now. Still on liquid diet. That's all I can relay at this time.

Sleep well, you tough little booger.

Oh Kevin! Thank you SO much for another update!

THIS IS SUCH GREAT NEWS!!!

I am so glad that Dan is out of pain, we are all breathing a collective sigh of relief here in the Forums. Hermie and Dan, its onward and upward from here! Woo-hoo!

Glad to know that things have gotten better and Dan is finally getting some relief. Still wishing you a speedy recovery. Hermie, you have been through a lot from that list and you are still here, that says a lot. Stay strong, Dan will be there with you shortly...

Dan J.

Hey Hermie, It was actually night here when Dan got out of surgery--I think after 7 P.M. our time. His Dad said they didn't wheel him in until late afternoon, and then an emergency came in so Danny had to lay there in pre-op for over two hours. I don't have any more updates, as I just got up, but I'm sending much love and gratitude to you. You are such a blessing to Danny. Well, I gotta go...Golden Girls in on and my coffee's ready. k

I just got off the phone with Dan (he's in the hospital up the road a piece) and thinks he will be in the hospital for a week longer. Said they might have to do another endoscope but looks like they got all the infection. He said it was cool to post his whereabouts case anyone would like to call. His voice sounded good but I think he might be bored. Dan's in Jackson Madison Hospital in Room 6112. The phone number is 731 541-5000 just ask them to connect you and they will be more than happy to oblige.

"I'm not keen on the idea of the afterlife - not without knowing who else will be there and what the entertainment will be. Personally I'd rather just take a rest." Oscar Berger, PWA: Looking AIDS in the Face, 1996. RIP.

Spoke with Danny yesterday pre-op. Sent flowers today. Keeping fingers crossed for a full out healing. It ain't over until he's gettin' wheeled to the car and the best proof of all will be wheels down in Belgium.

I hope you are feeling alot better. You poor guy! You have really been having a rough time of it. I hope it wont be too long before you and Hermie are together again! Get Well Soon! You and Herman are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dan J.

update Wednesday 4 pm.Dan sounds tired, bored, and definitely "hospitaled out". He'll probably be spending a couple of weeks in transitional care where his needs will be better met than at home. And no parental stress. I did get him to laugh a bit. I read him the last day or so of this thread. Matty and Dachsund, you'll be glad to know that you made him laugh, too. His nutmeats are still quite tender and swollen and may have to be drained again. He said he still feels like he was kicked in the balls by a horse. I'm sure he would appreciate any calls, cards, letters, strip-o-grams, or expensive gifts. He does have his cell phone as well. I'm gonna head down there later this week, although he doesn't know how many more days he'll be in the hospital. It didn't sound like they were meeting his pain needs as adequately as they could, but I guess they're always stingy with the good stuff. Any of you folks that pray...keep praying! I certainly believe in that kind of power. My Mom even has half the Southern Baptists in Union City praying for him (they are good for something after all). Hermie, starting this thread was a wonderful thing to do. Danny asked right off for me to pull it up and read to him. I am so impressed by all of you loving, caring, beautiful people who have written to Dan. Anyway, that's all for now. kevin

Kevin has given the technical details . thanks buddy.I just talked to Dan. I think he is doing much better than before. he asked me to give you all his love.He doesn't want to show it, but I know he is very touched by all your concern, your prayers and your support.

Yes Kevin, you now come to see what this family means and does when it comes to "support".I a sure Kev, you mean a whole lot to Danny as well. I know you do, as you have been friends since junior school. Thank you.

Iggy, I am looking into the "grief" thing. Obviously I am not able to get on touch with that grief at all.It sits somewhere...and I need to find out how to drain it. Wished there were surgery for grieve.My chronic hyperventilation makes it hard to function sometime.And it feels like a Norvir face...

Love

Hermie

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I just got off the phone with Dan (he's in the hospital up the road a piece) and thinks he will be in the hospital for a week longer. Said they might have to do another endoscope but looks like they got all the infection. He said it was cool to post his whereabouts case anyone would like to call. His voice sounded good but I think he might be bored. Dan's in Jackson Madison Hospital in Room 6112. The phone number is 731 541-5000 just ask them to connect you and they will be more than happy to oblige.

Hal

Got back from the cruise Sunday night and simply can't catch up on the forums. I'll pray for Dan's recovery and I think I'll give him a call later. Until I call I'm sending you positive energy. Get well soon buddy