Has Your Father Two Wives? Be Ready For Life's Dirty Battles!​March 28 2017 By Abiodun Giwa

Abiodun Giwa

Polygamy is illegal in many advanced countries, unlike under developed countries, where polygamy still holds sway. In many homes, the repercussion of polygamous life is often manifest in the battle between women married to the same man. The battle often extends to the children, who are victims of the women's reactions to their situation.But investigation shows that the trouble in polygamy often follows children from polygamous homes the rest of their lives, and children who are victims often find it difficult to untangle themselves from the effect, which they are ignorant polygamous is the cause. It is true that there are many people are walking around with burdens they don't know the cause and that parental multiple marriage may be partly or wholly responsible. This fact of life has been discovered by the alertness interactions between a man, who says he has the same problem and three other men, whom he he has interviewed and finds that they suffer from same problem. "Good morning," Austen greets his new friend, Frank, whose hotel room is next to his, during a business visit to a country in the West. "I have a problem that I want to discuss with you," Austen tells Frank, with a sense of urgency in his voice. "I will come over to your room in a minute," Frank promises and closes the door behind him, while Austen exits to his own room. Frank quickly dressed up and exited his room to Austen's room. "I told you three days ago that me father has more than one wife, and you said that I should be careful and be prayerful, to avoid the problem cropping up between me and my future aspirations. I have just escaped from one development capable of throwing a wedge between me and the future. I went to a disco party last night and I returned with a young woman, with whom I had a good time. But after we finished, i discovered that the $400.00 on my dresser had disappeared. I asked her, if she had taken the money. She said she did not, left and returned with a man she called her boyfriend. The man gave me a dirty slap, because he said I wrongly accused his girlfriend of taking my money. Grang has worked as an accountant in his home country, before immigrating about 10 years ago, after excruciating experience that did not promise a rosy future. While in his country he intended as a new home, he told Frank that his father was married to two women and that it was part of the problem he contended. He wanted Frank to give him accommodation, while he sought a place to stay.Frank told him that the place he was staying did not belong to him, but he that he could allow Grang seven days to be with him, after which he could carry his bags and leave to his home country, if he did not succeed getting a place to move to. Grang had earlier called a branch of the Church he attended in his home country and discussed with a man he called the Church pastor. The pastor promised to call back, but he never did. Again, Grang called a young woman he said was his girlfriend for a long time, who had settled with her parents in the promised land and grand hoped could be helpful to him. She also did not return Grang's call. A man in an adjoining city, who Grang said was a good neighbor back home also put Grang in suspense without any hope of a return call from him. Grand was left stranded with Frank, who urged him that both of them would be engaged in ceaseless seven days night prayers during which Frank told his guest that help might come from whoever God wanted to use to bail Grang out of the trouble his father's polygamy had placed him. Every night, Frank would arouse Grang from sleep. Grand would say, "Frank, you have come again." Frank would say that prayer is the solution and without prayers, many people in the bondage of parental marriage problems work fruitlessly. In the morning of the seventh day, when Frank had told Grang to begin preparation to return to his home country, believing that there was no answer to all their prayers against impediment to his journey, a telephone call came from Grang's family friend in the adjoining city. He told Grang to come over for a discussion on the way forward. While there, another call came for him from his long time girlfriend for a way forward. Grang was grateful to Frank for letting him know the cause of his problems and where he would forever pray against impediments. Salem, a former bank worker, had a more instructive case, because following the week that he disclosed his father's multiple marriage scenario to Frank in a discussion about why he left his home country where he said he worked in a bank to work in a car wash in his new home, he went to work at at car wash on a Sunday and crashed a Humvee through series of other cars and ended up destroying pumps at a nearby filling station. He was not supposed to be in the Humvee. He was a wiper in the car wash. He could not say why and how or what made him stepped into the Humvee, against the division of labor in the car wash.