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Sunday, December 1, 2013

SUN SHOWER

Sitting in my
hairstylist chair is often an adventure into the trajectories of random
thought.

While the environment of a salon often pairs lattes with gossip and complaints
about him, her, this or that, my hair guru Rio is a far more aware sort of
being.

With his own marvelous mane of dreads he marches to the beat of his own
drum. In his case it would be a djembe.

“Did you know
we could all have gone poof this year, literally bam…sun explodes and we are zapped?
It seems there was a sun eruption last April that according to
NASA sparked a temporary radio blackout on Earth. As he continues to share
stats in relation to the size of various planets and suns, some thousands of
times bigger than our own, I burst out laughing. As humans we seem so tiny in
the great scheme of the vastness of the universe. Feeling happier than I had felt
in days I realize that the thought of a great big bang and us all checking out
together doesn’t fill me with dread. Quite the contrary, it seems like a fine
way to go. I wonder aloud why I hadn’t heard of this explosion if there was
concern that it could have ended the world as we know it.

NASA had been aware of the potential and
decided to keep it to themselves he informs me. I laugh even harder thinking
about how his business would have declined if we were all waiting for our
potential demise. A haircut would be the last thing on my mind. I percolate on what I would be thinking about.

With the
Christmas parties just starting to move into motion I decide to poll people
about what they would get up to if they knew the end was in sight.

“Martinis and
cigarettes,” says my pal T who is a health food, vegan, partly raw, kind of
eater. She never eats processed food, even making her own chocolate from scratch.

Family oriented
folks talk about spending quality time with each other. At a film industry
gathering last night there are a few
attendees who say they would stop working immediately and just hang out. Do
nothing.

I wonder why
just the thought of this possibility makes me so happy, laugh out loud happy. I
do think I am at my best in a crisis and this could certainly qualify. There is
something about the end of anything that prompts me to examine the middle and
sift through details looking for my learning. If it were possible to let it
inspire me to live more fully I would but in this case it’s not an option, we would be gone.

I realize I
would definitely want to express my gratitude and joy to those I love and who have
been a part of my life. I would invite everyone to a party, a flamboyant gathering
at some fantastic retreat on the water that I could now afford to rent since
conserving life savings is a mute point.

I am sure we would indulge with all sorts of
things that I have to moderate now and I also suspect the level of honesty
would dip so deep that superficial conversations would become irrelevant. Lots
of touch, breathing in of sunsets and silliness would ensue. And maybe that’s
why I laughed so hard when Rio first broached the subject. Clearly I could use a deep shot of pleasure
laced with multiple threads of real. All my current worries would vanish…literally.

And I love the
sense that we would all be in the same boat. All together we leave in a blink,
in a flash. Tuck and Patty’s You Take My Breath Away, a song that never fails
to move me to tears of joy would be playing.

I trust that what happens after that will be
less of an illusion than much of what I encounter on this plane. I think I have just distilled what makes me
happy to a simple equation! Authenticity plus pleasure, add a dose of
creativity and sensuality, sprinkle liberally with good friends and voila.A life well lived.So how to translate this awareness of what is
really important to my current life situation. Not sure yet.

I do know it
has to involve that lusty combo of real and deep with fun and frolic. And all
those things I have always wanted to do, I think it’s time to do them.

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How it all began

Our sons were friends. Like brothers really. We mothers had never met but both our guys kept saying we should. Then Duncan passed away. It was through Marty's support of Buns' grieving her son that a deep friendship was forged.

Duncan inspired us. If his life, at 22, could get snuffed out like that, without any warning, then why wouldn't we live each day to the max ... grateful for every second, whether mundane or profound?

Really, we're not interested in writing just about the happy times. We are interested in also using the pain, the sorrow, the disappointments -- the realities of life -- to stretch and grow.

Inherent in everything that happens, at the heart of it lies love. Sometimes it doesn't look like love. We have to go through all the layers of ourselves authentically and feel them in order to reveal that essence.

But hey. It's not all serious. We have a blast. We go blindly into spontaneous adventures that some might consider reckless (Marty's word), or random (Buns' word), but regardless, whatever it is we are doing, we are awake and choosing to live out loud.

If you want to catch all the glorious details of the Buns and Marty escapades, you can start with our first post under Blog Archive (November 2010 -- Today has already been amazing -- and read the posts from bottom to top).

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