Online Dating Tips: Can You Really Find Your Soul Mate Online?

Many people think that finding THE ONE is really easy and will just come when the time is right. Yes, it happens to many people. But there are also those who go through many challenges before meeting the person with whom they will spend their lifetimes. This is why Internet dating has become so attractive and popular.

In the past, online dating was like an underground thing you do that you'd rather keep from your friends. Now, it is a "must-try". You'd be left out if you haven't tried online dating even once, especially if you have been single for more than six months.

When you first try out online dating, you'd be all excited that you end up doing a lot of wrong things. You fumble around, don't pay attention to details and read people's profiles quickly. Your excitement of getting to meet someone attractive and interesting gets the better of you and you tend to ignore the small things that you don't like in actual life.

It is possible that you skimmed over the "Smoke and Drink Occasionally" box and fail to see if it was ticked or not, when in reality you have an aversion to those habits. Or you missed the negative comments written in the person's profile. These small things that we miss often causes problems when we meet the person for real, which may have led to undesirable experiences regarding online dating.

This happened to me, too. When I first started online dating, I was mesmerized by the thousands of options, that my brain was overwhelmed and cloudy when it came to choosing the most compatible person with me. It was like I was thrown into Wonderland and all the amazing things I saw clouded my senses and I failed to see that I went into a trap. I went into several dates where I was never compatible with the woman at all.

A few unpleasant memories and experiences later, I realized that hey, there really should be DO's and DO NOT's when trying to find your soul mate online. Here are several that I compiled over the last few years of online dating:

1. Don't take too much time getting to know each other online.

Yes, it is fun to chat and exchange emails at the onset, however, when you feel that you and the other person are compatible, take the communication to another level. Ask her if you can call her on the phone. Sometimes, a phone conversation solidifies your compatibility. Phone conversations would also help you gauge her personality based on her voice intonation, wit and humor.

This stage will either attract you both to each other, or will turn you both off. If your conversation leads to more excitement, then you can go to the next stage.

2. Do not expect too much when it's time to meet up for drinks or dinner.

Your online chemistry that has been taken to another level via phone conversations can still possibly go downhill when you finally meet. With this in mind, you should prepare yourself well enough so that you will be impressive when you first meet her.

DO NOT EXPECT TOO MUCH. That's one of the things that you should tell yourself.

Do not elevate your standards too much, but keep your principles and beliefs solid. For instance, she turns out to be physically attractive, fashionable, engaging and intelligent, yet, you found out during the first date that she swears in every other sentence. If you do not swear, and you don't like people swearing, are you willing to give up your principle and overlook that CON and take advantage of the PROS?

This is where you should...

3. Be totally honest with yourself.

The only way that will make you successful in anything is by being honest with yourself. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Know your likes and dislikes. Do not repress your emotions, and do not hide your desires. Acknowledge that you are not perfect and that there is nobody perfect in the world.

Once you accept who you are, you will be accepting of other people and their imperfections. The Law of Attraction works this way. Once you accept yourself for who you are, people will accept you for who you are, and you will be able to accept other people for who they are.

You will be confident, and will see the world as it really is. By becoming honest with yourself, you will have a clearer view of things, and will know that a fishy smell comes from a fish. By being all too aware of the world, you will not miss the red flags and warnings that come when you meet someone new.

This is how you meet your soul mate. When you start loving yourself, people will love you. With your self-respect and confidence, you will be able to enjoy the people you meet, and learn from those you go out with. It does not matter whether you meet people from Internet dating sites or right in your neighborhood. It will become easier for you to find your match.

Lance Metzger writes about relationships, offline and online dating. In our minds, "No Strings Attached" simply means, "Let's get to know one another before we start making any commitments to one another." Check out the free dating websites, NSA Dating Site at: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/

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