Retaliation rarely solves problems. In most situations it causes more problems than it solves. Fighting with those who would oppose us doesn’t bring winners and losers. It usually brings anger, more conflict, and a lack of peace. Choose to overcome without angry words or deeds. Choose to give someone the benefit of the doubt and extend to them the courtesy of genuinely listening with an open mind. Questions are useful as long as they are not contentious because by asking questions we can help ourselves and others to open to new possibilities. The best defense is defenselessness, and when we come from the strength of loving compassion, we can take a posture of defenselessness and honor another person’s opinions.