I can only imagine that he would have become possessive once you became a couple. Not just jealous of other men in your life- possessive about your platonic friends, family, and possibly pets and hobbies.

He needs to get a hobby or two himself. And possibly new friends as well.

This is entirely of my own making. I developed a little crush on one of the guys I play ball with. I was never going to do anything about it because I was pretty sure he was quite a bit younger than me - hard to tell because he's bald - and it would make things really awkward if he wasn't interested, you know? Plus, I didn't know if he would find me at all attractive as I'm a bigger woman.

Turns out, I am potentially his type but about 15 years too old. Found this out last night when he brought his girlfriend to the game. I'm guessing it's a new thing since this is the first time I've seen her and I've played with him since May on Sundays and occasionally against him on Thursdays.

But I'm just feeling a little dumb. I hope nothing that was going through my head came out on my face last night.

So looking for ideas to meet men, here. I've done the on-line thing with no success; I've done a matchmaking service, which was quite expensive, with no success; I've joined 2 different ball teams and met some great people but no guys; no joy at work as everyone is married/attached; single neighbours all quite a bit younger than I am; asking friends to introduce me to other friends hasn't worked, either. I don't *need* a man in my life but I'm really tired of buying batteries.

Logged

After cleaning out my Dad's house, I have this advice: If you haven't used it in a year, throw it out!!!!.

My last meet up was a cluster of bad miscommunications. I thought we were meeting at 6, he thought I would get there between 6/7 and then text him, and then wait for him to walk up. I mis read his e-mail that said he would shoot for 6, and read it that he would be there at 6. So I replied I would see him there. He took my response from earlier in the conversation when he asked what time would be good to meet up (6/7 my reply).

That would have been fine, but after waiting for 30 minutes, only to be told after I left that he was so frustrated that I left he sent me an e-mail. We had been communicating via text for 20 mins at this point. When I got a chance to read the e-mail (no smartphone for me), it was all diatribe on how the mistake was my fault, and how because I didn't wait more than 30 mins for him to show up (he walked up to the bar I drove 20 mins to get there), (20 since I first texted him after waiting 10 mins already) I was in the wrong, and he also accused me of standing him up and not wanting to meet after all. So now I'm glad I didn't get to meet him.

My last meet up was a cluster of bad miscommunications. I thought we were meeting at 6, he thought I would get there between 6/7 and then text him, and then wait for him to walk up. I mis read his e-mail that said he would shoot for 6, and read it that he would be there at 6. So I replied I would see him there. He took my response from earlier in the conversation when he asked what time would be good to meet up (6/7 my reply).

That would have been fine, but after waiting for 30 minutes, only to be told after I left that he was so frustrated that I left he sent me an e-mail. We had been communicating via text for 20 mins at this point. When I got a chance to read the e-mail (no smartphone for me), it was all diatribe on how the mistake was my fault, and how because I didn't wait more than 30 mins for him to show up (he walked up to the bar I drove 20 mins to get there), (20 since I first texted him after waiting 10 mins already) I was in the wrong, and he also accused me of standing him up and not wanting to meet after all. So now I'm glad I didn't get to meet him.

I think you dodged a bullet on that one. While I'm sure it was frustrating on both sides; his reaction was a bit over the top. Miscommunications happen; and if he were really serious about wanting to get together, he wouldn't have freaked out, and simply said, ok, let's try this again.