Worried About Your Own Thoughts And Behaviors

At Stop It Now! we receive many inquiries from adults who are worried about their sexual thoughts and feelings towards children, and who want to take responsibility for keeping children safe. Recognizing a sexual behavior problem in yourself can feel frightening and lonely. Being honest with yourself about risky behavior is the first step towards staying safe.

It takes strength to ask for help when you need it.

Living a double-life of lies and secrets is a burden that can be lifted. There are places to turn to for relief. You cannot do this alone, help is available. If you are troubled or distracted by sexual thoughts and activities that include children, we can help you find help to stop -- starting now.

Start a safety plan.

No excuse justifies the sexual abuse of a child. Here you can learn how to start a safety plan today so things don’t get any worse, and reach out for help to stop the feeling of being out of control. We can help you get the facts and plan your next steps to get help.

Being honest with yourself about some very difficult personal issues allows you to address behaviors that can be harmful to you and to a child. When adults who are at-risk to sexually abuse a child can stop making excuses for the behavior, or justifying it as “no big deal,” they are able to begin to take responsibility for what is really happening. By holding yourself accountable for any sexual behaviors with children, you are able to move towards stopping the harm and starting your own recovery.

Legal Information and Facts

Having more information about what could happen next makes it easier to make informed decisions about what steps to take now. To learn about the law and legal impacts on individuals, you can talk confidentially to a lawyer. Being prepared and knowing what options you have and what decisions must be made will enable you to make the best choices so that abuse never happens and everyone can get the help they need.

Learning to stop disturbing thoughts or sexually harmful behavior is rarely something that can be accomplished alone. By breaking your isolation you can reach out for help to change your behaviors and live a healthy and productive life. Treatment for sexual behavior problems is available from professionals who understand adults who struggle with these issues. Having the support and "tough love" of friends and families can help you through the process of completing treatment and staying safe.

Having more information about what could happen next makes it easier to make informed decisions about what steps to take now. To learn about the law and legal impacts on individuals, you can talk confidentially to a lawyer. Being prepared and knowing what options you have and what decisions must be made will enable you to make the best choices so that abuse never happens and everyone can get the help they need.

“Thank you for your reply. I’m sure you get many e-mails and I was afraid that because we are on ‘the other side’ we might not hear back from you. Unfortunately, society tends to forget that often times offenders were victims first. Thank you for all you do to help break the cycle of abuse.”