Patrick , all that depends on how long you know your Lady . This is not something you talk about right from the beginning with these Women . If you two know each other some time now , then ... and only then bring it up in your conversations , but use the word love instead of having sex , these are not hop into bed on the first date Lady's and asking them about sex will turn them away and make you look like a player with Sex as the number one priority . Making Love comes natually one does not have to ask for it , if you care for one another . arnold