I agree. That baby looks a whole lot like Jason Sudeikis. It sure would be nice if he would acknowledge his son but maybe he has an agreement with January that he doesn’t pay child support and has no contact with the boy. Poor boy. He’s missing a lot.

Well, not being really sure how similar the child might look to either one of these men, Vaughn or Sudeikis, I had to check them out. Wowowow, this is totally without doubt the child of Michael Vaughn. Even the hairline is the same whereas there is not the close similarity to Sudeikis. Yep, so seeing that he has been married to Schiffer since 2002, how does this get explained?

I agree, total mini-sudeikis. I dunno how anyone sees anything but Jason in this kid. The ears, the kinda goofy look….that third pic is spot on Jason Sudeikis. As far as why it’s a secret? Well, I certainly wouldn’t want to be publicly attached to JJ. Yuck.

I don’t think that Xander has a widow’s peak, that’s just his hair falling in a v on his forehead. you can’t really tell if he has a widow’s peak unless we see him with his hair brushed back. Also, I have a WP and neither of my parents had one.

I was the same way! Except my hair turned normal blonde instead of white blonde. Now it’s somewhere between blonde, red, and brown. People are always asking me what color it is so one of my friends finally dubbed it blondburn.

Oh and neither of my parents have red hair (but my mom does have a slight reddish tinge to hers), so people trying to guess the father shouldn’t necessarily use red hair as a guide.

LOL me too. My husband makes fun of me because I grin at the TV whenever she is on and when I need solace about something in the news I turn to her.

One of my most prized possessions is a note/autograph she wrote to me… I was 2 weeks from delivering and couldn’t attend the ACLU fundraiser she was the guest of and my sister was planning. My sister knowing what a Fangirl i was of her got her to write me a little note, it meant so much and its the first page of kids baby book.

I see the resemblance in the eyes and face, but little Xander has brown eyes. It’s possible for them to have a child with brown eyes, but not as likely. But he doesn’t really look like Sudeikis, either.

Kaiser mentions “ginger” because I remember one year ago someone mentions Fassbender. If it’s Fassbender, it will be hard for any baby to look like him right now (he has rugged, masculine features, and his younger early teen self didn’t look much like the current version either http://images.creativejournal.ru/2012/03/michael-fassbender-young.jpg). He himself isn’t really ginger either, his hair usually looks auburn.

Nia is right. The gene for blue eyes is recessive, meaning that if that’s what you have, you aren’t carrying the genes for brown eyes (otherwise the dominant brown eyed gene would give you brown eyes). Two brown eyed people who both carry recessive blue eyed genes can have blue eyed babies when the blue gene is what is passed along from both parents.

You’re right. The only way to have blue/light eyes is for you to have two copies of the recessive blue eye allele. Blue eyed people can’t carry the allele for brown eyes, because it’s a dominant one and if they had it, they’d be brown eyed and carrying the blue eyed allele, not the other way around.

You are absolutely 100% correct. Another thing worth noting (which I stated above) is that they both have widow’s peaks. I thought it was JS’s baby until that picture that you and shocked&appalled posted. Wow. That is DEFINITELY Vaughn’s kid.

If I remember correctly.. and who knows at this point… the baby was conceived while she was away filming and was a big surprise to Jason Sudeikis and they broke up shortly thereafter. I remember someone got a quote from him around that time & that was the theme of it.

Yeah, I think once it was announced he stopped all red carpet appearances and went back to Europe to be with his family. I makes more sense if it’s his kid. Then maybe they agreed she raises the baby and he helps support them privately. I don’t know, but this would be logical since he has kids with Claudia and might not want it to be public knowledge that they get pap’d about. Or maybe JJ isn’t telling the father at all.

This from wiki:
Vaughn was believed to be born from an affair between his mother, the early 70′s society beauty Kathy Ceaton and actor Robert Vaughn. A paternal investigation[8] subsequently idenitified his father as George de Vere Drummond, an English aristocrat who is a godson of King George VI. Early in Matthew’s life, before the paternal investigation, Robert Vaughn asked for the child’s name to be Vaughn, and it continues today as his professional name, though Matthew now uses de Vere Drummond in his personal life[9] and for the naming of his children.

Wow if that’s true then I stand corrected. It would be Vaughn’s baby. Bc (so many) men can not help but follow in their fathers footsteps however bizarre and unsavory. And that is just too…coincidental to be a coincidence.

Okay, on the subject of people not taking care of their kids in any way, I have to vent especially as that’s been affecting my life now with my twin brother. My sperm donor was a married guy who hooked up with my mom (while she was in the navy) and my twin and I were conceived. When she told him he was like “I’m married, they ain’t mine!” and split. My mom got married when I was four and so I have my dad now. Fast forward to twelve and she wants child support. She called him, asked him for FIFTY dollars each in child support. She only asked for ONE HUNDRED DOLLARS A MONTH for us. He said no, and they aren’t mine. So we had to get a paternity test, and lone and behold we share dna. So now he has to pay six hundred dollars a month each, and is years behind. After it was ordered that he had to pay that, he called my mom and cussed her out for over an hour. All she said to him was “All I asked for was a hundred dollars!”

Now the issue is that I’m wanting to know why he even did that, or why he won’t even talk. When I was twelve his wife emailed us a short message saying hi and a pic of their kids, and I emailed back but no response. Eventually after about a year, I stopped emailing. I don’t know. I didn’t really care when I was younger. I guess I just want to know why and how to handle it later in life. It’s hurting my brother too, because whenever he starts getting serious with a girl, he freaks out and backs away because he doesn’t want to be like our real dad.

Thanks for listening to me ramble and get that off my chest. Everything just came to a head at school today.

That’s a tough situation. Easy to say, harder to do, but basically my thoughts are this – be grateful for your mom and your dad, the parents who love and raised you. in the long run that means so much more than biology.

ITA it’s the people we choose to love and be responsible for and those who chose the same for us that are our real family. not the accidental destiny of biology. You are worth more than that. If you chose to be loving and responsible in a relationship then it will work out. “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

You sound young. First life lesson: some people are just assholes. Your bio dad sounds like one of them. These people will not change, will not explain themselves to you, will not CARE how you feel. They just won’t, no matter how many times you try to initiate contact or do the right thing. Any man that would deny his children, to me, is an asshole.

I know it must be hard for you right now but all you can really do is let the situation go, as much as you can. You will likely never get what you want from your bio dad and anything beyind what you have already done will not only be a waste of your time but will probably cause you signficant heartbreak. Let him go.

This is the #1 thing I have learned as I’ve gotten older (I’m 34.) Any man (or woman) who would straight up deny his family and responsibilities, and continue to do so after this much time has passed, is truly an asshole and a worthless human being. His wife was probably punished in some way for attempting to reach out to you, hence the lack of further contact. This is not a person you want in your life anyway.

This does indeed suck, but I promise you, I’ve been through quite a bit of (similar) shit in my life and I’ve come out the other side doing pretty well, and you can too. Try to let this situation go, and try not to let it affect future relationships. I swear and promise, NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE ASSHOLES. Your bio dad is one, but guess what? He’s not your family anyway, never has been, and clearly doesn’t want to be. Don’t waste your time chasing his affection or trying to figure out what went wrong-you will never get the answers you seek. Just assume it went wrong when he was born an asshole.

I know, it’s just hard. Most days I don’t really care, because I do have a dad (though he annoys me sometimes, like all dads do). But other days I just wonder how people can even do something like that. Especially since it’s happened a lot in my family. I have one cousin who’s 29 and her dad still owes my aunt child support.

It just bugs me. Especially since I know my sperm donor got around and has three or four other kids, apart from the four he has with his wife.

I guess I’m just worried how it’ll affect me once I get older (I’m 18), and start wanting to date, get married, and have a few kids. I know not all guys are douches like my bio, but I can definitely see myself using him as an excuse not to go out and meet people. I’m much more of a loner like that. My sister wanted to take me to a club for my 18th bday, and I didn’t want to go.

It’s something that I’ll have to work through. I’ll probably have to end up talking to my mom again. When we first went through the whole paternity test, we talked then about everything. I don’t know, I guess it hurts when you know that your own dad didn’t want to even speak or know you, let alone contribute financially to your well being.

I want to be a writer when I get out of school, and I’ve always wondered if I got to be a famous writer, would he ever say “Hey that’s my daughter” and contact me. I guess that was a subconscious dream of mine, one I had always thought about, but never considered in real life.

I think your dad and my should get together and go bowling because they’re birds of a feather. Seriously, right down to the fifty dollar/month amount. I’m not a twin, but my older sisters are. Socially, you sound a lot like I did when I was your age–and beyond. A bit spooky.

What you don’t know and feel yet is the same thing that he can’t appreciate, which is that he is losing so much more by not having this relationship than are you and your brother. You feel hurt because somewhere along the way you decided to give your bio dad the power to hurt you and he didn’t even show up to do the dirty work. Why punish yourself for something HE did? Why let your hopes for a happy future get sabotaged that way? It’s not fair to you or to the people you’re going to meet who will be denied of your affections because of the crimes of some spectre. The parent-child relationship can’t be forged out of the ether and you’ve done your best, but if there’s no reciprocity, there’s nothing you can do. The fantasy is understandable but it’s harming you, so it’s time to stop focusing on what he does and sort out what you’re going to do because that’s the thing that you do understand, that’s the thing you can control.

Not only do you have a stepfather teaching you how to be man, but you’ve be getting a very different kind of education about learning how not to be a man. Do you want to be around someone who would talk to your mother that way? Do you want to be the kind of person who is so blind as to not to see something that his *wife* sees when it comes to the importance of making peace with his kids? Just pray that he’s raising kids who will grow up to be better than he is now and don’t be stuck with the burden of some jackass’s failure. You don’t need him, you’ve been raised. Raised by a woman who navigated her way through that junk and a stepfather who is enough of a man to know that blood is not the only reason to love kids took all of you into his life and raised you. Be grateful for that, it’s hardly a raw deal. And this is going to sound weird, but don’t take it personally. He’s lashing out at the situation, he’s lashing out at your mother, lashing out at memories–all of it. It’s not you. Your situation is not unique and there are people to whom you can talk who can remind of you that, offer up some support and help you begin to clear out your head.

I’ve had friends suggest counseling, and at more than one time in my life, so it’s an option if it’s the thing for you. You’re worth the work it takes to get yourself in a better place. Whatever you end up doing with your life, you’re not always going to be happy or problem-free, but knowing how to navigate and interpret those experiences is a skill worth having.

Do you know how I know it’s not you or your brother? I was about twenty-six when it happened and had had some counseling at that point, so I suppose I was better equipped to handle the experience. I once bumped into my father after not having seen him in about eleven years (and even then it was very brief and very, very much under protest from him) and all he had to say was ‘What did you gain all of that weight for?’

Let’s be objective using my case as an example:

-Anyone who confronts you that way isn’t in his right mind, so don’t take it seriously.

-It’s common practice for women to gain some amount of weight between the ages of fifteen and twenty-six.

-He barely knows me and times in my childhood when I did see him were because my mother was trying to force a relationship. He wanted none of this, so naturally he’s going to remember all of that irritation and be reminded of the dame who forced that irritation on him.

-I knew that what he was saying wasn’t true.

-He was trying to hurt his daughter’s feelings just for having laid eyes upon her. That’s fucked up and it’s not on me.

Break your pain down like that and you’ve proven that your inner strength will let no power on Earth can fool you into thinking that are anything less than what you are: you’re not the crappy things people do to you, so untie the noose and let him go; he doesn’t deserve you, so let him go and get on with your OWN life.

I was in the same situation ….. except my Father was not married …. I am a twin with a twin brother as well ( I am a female ) … and my father knew we were his kids but never was around and cursed my mother out for an hour about her giving baby pictures of us to his sisters and other family( they wanted to meet and know us ) I was 22 when I met my father for the first time … and all he talked about to me and my twin was how my mother kept him away and his new family ( who his new wife was white and made a point to say that) … he raised his stepdaughter ( his wives child) as his own … she calls him Dad but NEVER came to see us … but my Mom went to the courts and got child support because my Father was from Belize and was not a US citizen at the time she thought he might split …

I say all this to say … my brother was not affected and did not care at all … i was bruised and had major low self esteem issues in my early twenties
due to that …. Forgive your DAD … and let it go … trust me the Lord will handle the rest …. My uncles and aunts on his side reached out to us through fb and we are closer to them than my own sisters and brothers and DAD …. needless to say I have not heard from my DAD at all … My mother NEVER said one evil thing against my father and to this day never will …. I will always respect her for that … she worked her whole life … in the music industry and corporate America and NEVER blamed him for why we had little …. she did her job as our Mother … JUST FORGIVE him .. I know it hurts … trust me I know … but forgive him

Kid looks kind of like Matthew Vaughn to me…what a sticky situation. Sad for the kid.

By the way, The Sun says they have an exclusive that RPattz and KStew broke up…Kind of curious whether I should break out the popcorn and read the craziness tomorrow, or whether it’s BS because a) It’s the Sun, not People, US, or even Daily Mail b) Apparently lots of people/journalists tweeted about RPattz and KStew hanging together late Sunday/early Monday morning, and the article claims they broke up that weekend and that she was supposed to be his date to the GG’s and all that…except they pretty much never walk the red carpet or attend those things together, right? c) The amount of detailing in the article (reads more like a tabloidy story, rather than the usual break up thing) and the timing…They have to realize publicly breaking up and making a statement right before the DVDs comes out makes them look like it was all PR. d) Don’t think they ever publicly stated that they broke up the first time, so why would they do it now? Plus, wouldn’t it be easier for them to do it a month or so and say they drifted apart when he was in Australia?

Then again, it dropped on Tuesday and legit, bombshell news is often leaked on Tuesday by a publicist.

I barely knew who Mathew Vaughn was until I heard about these rumours, so I googled a few pics. The resemblance between him and Xander is striking. He is like a miniature Mathew Vaughn. And it makes much more sense that January would keep quiet about the baby’s paternity if a married man and father of 3 (acknowledged) children is the dad.

I feel sorry for Claudia Schiffer though. It must be bad enough for your husband to have an affair and get the woman knocked up, but when the woman is famous and is regularly papped with a child who looks the living image of your husband… Ouch! That’s gotta hurt.

This. I bet on some level it has to feel extra bad for Claudia as an aging former model. I mean I think she’s hotter than January any day of the week and twice on Sunday, but yeah. January is 8 years younger and it’s a significant 8 years in terms of female aging.