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MORALS: Is spanking your man naughty or ... nice?

As you all know, I am fairly open-minded when it comes to sex. I think sex is a wonderful perk that comes with being alive and that most of the things that turn us on are pretty mysterious and fascinating. Aside from the gruesome and those involving non-consent, I am very understanding, even if it's something that doesn't strike my fancy.

That said, I still have times where I think ... "Am I a bad person for thinking like this?" or, most likely, "Am I a bad woman for thinking like this?" In the lovely "madonna/whore" society I grew up in, nice girls don't go around spanking men and putting things in their butts (hmmm ... there's an idea.) I even have trouble dating more than one man at a time. Some swinger, huh?

But the truth is, it does bother me at times. Mostly when I'm in the company of a man who I suspect would think I was not such a nice girl for loving what I love to do. When I feel the "morality police" breathing down my neck, I must admit it's hard not to wonder.

But then I imagine the alternative.

EWWWWW! BOOOOR-ING.

That's when I am reminded why I think the way I do and how much more fun life and sex is because it's in my life. ESPECIALLY as time goes on. I can't imagine how vanilla couples stay interested in the old "in and out" after decades of it. It boggles my mind.

I just spent the week with a very dear vanilla couple who has no idea of my intimate predelictions and I have to tell ya ... it was a real snooze. Even when the gal and I had our obligatory "girl talk" it was sooo vanilla. Then, once at the table when we were hanging out doing a crossword puzzle, her hubby yelled out, "Well, you could SPANK me." And she just laughed, in that way that non-spankos do when the subject comes up and went on chatting. I wonder how serious he was, though.

I know that you guys wrestle with the "morality" of it all when it comes to approaching a vanilla mate, but do you ever feel that way even withIN a spanking relationship? Like, "Oh, we are sooo bad?"

OR, do you have judgements about a woman who loves spanking you? Oh, I know you LOVE it, but do you think just a little bit less of her because she's not a "nice" girl?

And Ladies, do you ever have such thoughts about yourself?

As always, I am curious to know what you all think and feel about this. What's your take on it?

I cannot imagine feeling anything other than gratitude and love for being with a Lady willing to give me the spankings I deserve. Lying across her knee, I admire her strength, both physically and mentally. Sitting after she's spanked me, well especially her strength then.

Women spanking is maturnal and natural it is missed emotions as an adult male it gives a man so much more conquering power when he has a women that scolds and spanks and does what she wants with him regularly .

Nothing beats a good spanking from my wife when I am stresed or grumpy. And she spanks long and hard enough that I feel it sitting down for several days. My love for her is stongest after a trip over her lap.

My wife has spanked me for years, and we both find it brings us closer together. We have several implements she uses on my bottom and spanks until she has had enough. We don't use bondage and I'm expected to hold the position she wants me in. Like sex spanking can get boring so we love to try different positions.arched one

I don't ever feel my wife lacks any morality for spanking me. It's always my idea anyway and it adds so much to the bedroom for me. I sometimes feel I want to worship her when she does it. It is some kind of gateway for me into true intimacy with the one I love.

It is fun and exciting to spank my husband. Wow do I get wet. Let me explain he's always shaved and in panties. He goes over the back of a couch for his spanking in his panties. I have him lower then during the spanking. After the sex is great

So good to hear that there are plenty of woman who enjoy giving it. My lady has done it once but not much. We have talked about it and tomorrow we have a full session booked. I am really excited and get an erection every time I think of what's going to happen. She tells me I can't wank alone as that is her job after the spanking. I have brought myself close to orgasm several times but force myself to stop before I cum. It's really exciting for us both and is building huge tension but in a good way. I have planned a special meal for her as a thank you.Roll on tomorrow!

I was told it would get out of hand like a fetish. After twenty years however we still have the same paddle she uses. Honestly it just makes us closer as she is doing a very unusual thing for me and is comfortable in it. That makes me love her so much the fact that she makes nothing of it and accepts me as I am.

My girl has just started spanking me.she says the paddle vibrates to much and hurts her hand. She has switched to a cane instead.lt has taking her awhile, but she is starting to get good at it.she is even starting to get dominant with it.

I must admit that my wife did wonder at times shortly after she started to spank and cane me ,if we were right to follow this path in our relationship! I had no hesitation in telling her I felt she was right to 'deal with me' and I felt very happy about it!She gave me big smile and sent me for her rattan cane saying that released her from any self doubt ! The caning I was givenconfirmed she was over them ! My bottom was covered in raised red ridges, some 15 or so she counted and added several hard slaps whilst I stood in the corner .I was unable to rub or sooth for fear my lovely wife would make me bend down again for more stinging strokes of the cane! We did have a great time after when she promised more of the same in future and felt that she would also add more implements to the cane and hairbrush! Mark

Would you believe female discipline is in the Bible?NO JOKE. It's real.Wives are to "rule in domestic matters" (I Timothy 5:14; Weymouth's version).And the Bible gives 4 reasons for wives to discipline their husbands!

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As you all know, I am fairly open-minded when it comes to sex. I think sex is a wonderful perk that comes with being alive and that most of ...

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