From Alpha to Beta Male, With the Click of a Mouse

It’s funny how the world has changed since my dating heyday. It actually boggles my mind. When I was in my late twenties and early thirties, working as a construction manager, I was the alpha male. I was tall, handsome, strong, and when I went after what I wanted, I usually got it. I made a good first impression. Today though, things are different. No longer is the alpha male a strapping man with rough hands, a strong back, and bulging triceps who has the ability to launch a woman around a bedroom for hours on end as though she’s being shot out of a cannon. No, today it’s the Age of The Geek. He’s the new Alpha.

So what happened?

Sure, you’re sitting there reading this online and I’ll bet there’s a window open to an online dating site and then there’s another window open trained on TMZ l and still another window linking you to an online banking or credit card site… If you’re a man, there’s porn in there somewhere, for sure.

With so much of life being spent online, what does today’s a woman want? I’ll tell you; a hot geek.

Now, if you’re shaking your head or think I’m out of my damn mind, let’s look at the reality of the 21st Century by visiting the last century.

As little as 20 years ago, women were interested in breadwinners. They wanted a man that could bring home the bacon, cut the lawn, take out the trash, lay the new hardwood floor, renovate the bathroom, hang pictures, rear children and once a week, hoist her legs over his shoulders and give her a good shagging before the kids woke up. Today, we have equality. Women have their own money and their own careers and as much as it pains me to say this, they don’t need a man. Don’t believe me? Just watch a television commercial.

Lately, for me, I feel out of place wherever I go. If I head to a speed dating event, I’m too macho. If I go out on a date and I drop the F-bomb, I’m too rough around the edges. I don’t know what an app is but apparently everyone uses them. I’ve never paid a bill online and I don’t think I could. I’ve never purchased anything on eBay or Amazon and have no idea how they work. What’s a Kindle? See where I’m going with this?

In short strokes, this is me: Never been married. No children. I can jump on a bulldozer, handle every power tool known to man, I act, I write, I play guitar (badly) but I sing like a bird. I can converse on every subject known to man, I’m a good listener, non judgmental and am never afraid to tactfully express my opinion. Moreover, I cook like a bastard, I have a sense of humour that can bring a room to its knees and I’m always respectful of women.

So, what’s missing?

So, what’s the answer for men like me? What’s the answer for the Alpha that’s been downgraded to a Beta? I’ll tell you. We need to find an Alpha female. A breadwinner that can bring home the bacon and actually wants a man that can cut the lawn, take out the trash, lay the new hardwood floor, renovate the bathroom, hang pictures, rear children and once a week, hoist her legs over his shoulders and give her a good shagging before the kids wake up.

This isn’t a cop out. It’s not me suggesting that men need to start gold digging. On the contrary, men need to grow up and understand that it’s okay to be with a woman that earns more, has higher social standing and can take better care of you than you can of her.
The harsh and at the same time, wonderful reality of this new world is this: If she doesn’t need you and she’s still with you, it’s because she wants to be with you, and that’s really not such a bad thing.

So, gentlemen, (and I include myself in this,) maybe it’s time to suck it up and let women enjoy their successes, and maybe it’s time we learn to understand that by supporting them, we’ll earn their respect and their love. If that means that you’re going to be a stay at home dad, cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, running the kids back and forth to dance classes and hockey games, so be it. If it means that you’re the one to be there to listen to her vent about her day and blow off steam, so be it. If it means that you have to rub her feet, run her bath and warm her dinner, so be it. And if she wants you to hoist her legs over your shoulders more than once a week before the kids wake up, understand this: She’s doing it not only because she loves you but because she sees, simply through your actions, that you love and respect her and all that she does to make your life together richer and more successful.

P.S: Any Alpha women that need a man with my qualifications can contact me directly…

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