This is one of those moments when it truly is the thought that counts. Maybe the friend is hard up for cash, or maybe he/she thinks that drive through is the most fun of any kind of lunch? In any case, you did something good, which you probably did without thought of reward.

Your friend said lunch, but not where and what form. A lot depends on the circumstances. If you don't see each other frequently and the person didn't have a lot of time, this might've been all that they had time for and they wanted to make sure they got you lunch and not 'owed' you until the next time.

IMHO, what would've been tacky was not to offer you lunch for your time. Or if you absolutely hate BK.

I once helped someone move who was definitely lacking consideration. 6 of us were helping him. 1 of the others bought the bagels for the 'early' shift. When I arrived around 1:30, there was no lunch - I went out and got the pizza. Nothing was packed in advance - so, we mostly stood around chatting while waiting for packing to get done. By the time we got to the destination, it was already 8:30pm. The person we were helping had to borrow my car to go get beverages and side deli salads from the supermarket to go with the overcooked BBQ chicken had had stewing in the oven all day. The guy's girlfriend reminded him to pay me for the pizzas.

I don't think it's tacky... my friend bought me lunch through the drive thru at Arby's just yesterday... I wasn't expecting her to pay forr my lunch and she did.

A few months ago, we had a big project at work. We had to be in the office one whole weekend...the weekend of Mother's Day. Several people had to cancel visits home to see their moms. We all tried to keep one another going. My idea was to buy this super-fancy delicious hot chocolate that everyone likes. I couldn't really afford to get one for everyone, so I got two cups and poured shares out into paper cups for everyone who wanted. You can't imagine how popular I was. Sometimes it's not the size of the treat that counts.

I insisted on helping friend and they said they would treat me to lunch. Well, it turned out to be drive-thru at Burger King. A friend of mine told me he thought that was rather tacky.

Well, that was no treat. If you were a big help, and they knew your food preference, then it's tacky of them if they could afford something else that would please you more. It's probably just their lifestyle and version of eating out. But the main thing is you remained gracious and enjoyed the "meal" the best you could and thanked them.

The salad was actually good, as it had real bleu cheese crumbles, dried cranberries and apples on it. They put chicken on it when I asked for no chicken., Couldn't chance an upset tummy from the chicken.

You're not alone, Toni. I have other woman friends who don't love chocolate...that just leaves more of it for meeeee.

If it makes you feel better, I am not at all interested in fancy shoes, a love of which is supposed to be the ultimate hallmark of feminity.I say phooey! Can't wear heels; wouldn't want to. As far as I'm concerned, you and I are pearls of womanhood.