At this time in my life I really do hate it, I am a 25yr old and living with my parents. I have been with my girl friend who I love dearly for the last 8 years and I wish to marry her.

The issue is my parents and I have a loan on the house and I need to help them pay it off, my Dad is not working as he is sick, my Mum has been going in and out of doctors offices and specialists and not sure how long she has before she needs to quit her job, and I only make minimum wage.

The house we live in wont be big enough for myself, my future wife (hopefully) and my parents and future kids, so this lets me to believe there is no future with my girl friend or anyone in that matter.

I am from Syrian background, and have family living there at the moment who are going through some very tough times. I don't have close enough friends I can talk to about this, I feel very much isolated and abandoned, it feels like god has let me suffer it feels like he is punishing me, I try my best to be a better orthodox. I really don't know how much longer I can take it, I am starting to lose hope in my life, my work, and my beloved religion as well. I honestly feel like a failure, a failure in my parents, my girl friend and in my religion.

The only way I can get some sleep is by taking sleeping tablets, and at times I shamefully cry my self to sleep.

Can I ask for peoples prayers for me please? and help me get past this times.

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Remember, never to fear the power of evil more than your trust in the power and love of God.

richi perhaps you can also post this in another thread section so people can share with you their ideas and perspectives in depth in addition to what they have done in here already my brother.

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To God be the Glory in all things! Amen!

Only pray for me, that God would give me both inward and outward strength, that I may not only speak, but truly will; and that I may not merely be called a Christian, but really be found to be one. St.Ignatius of Antioch.Epistle to the Romans.

may God give u peace.i have friends who lived in very crowded situations and coped ok, so it's not always a disaster.currently i have a friend who is married but not living with his wife (different country) so that is sometimes possible too.may God bless u and encourage you as you take care of yr parents and try to live for Him.pray each day a little from your prayer book (ours is here: http://www.agpeya.org ) and you will be encouraged.

may God give u peace.i have friends who lived in very crowded situations and coped ok, so it's not always a disaster.currently i have a friend who is married but not living with his wife (different country) so that is sometimes possible too.may God bless u and encourage you as you take care of yr parents and try to live for Him.pray each day a little from your prayer book (ours is here: http://www.agpeya.org ) and you will be encouraged.

may God fill your life with love, dear brother.

Thank you so much for the link, and the words of wisdom..

I would like to thank everyone here, I truly love this community.I will attend next weeks liturgies and put in the efforts. THe lord has helped me alot before, I dont and will not turn my back on him.

Thank you so much

« Last Edit: February 04, 2013, 01:52:09 AM by richi000 »

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Remember, never to fear the power of evil more than your trust in the power and love of God.

You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house. Don't sweat the details. Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.

Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while. I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well. Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees. We mourn for the martyrs of Syria. This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite. If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight. Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house. Don't sweat the details. Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.

Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while. I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well. Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees. We mourn for the martyrs of Syria. This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite. If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight. Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

Just wanted to add: if you desire help finding a better job, try praying to Saint Tryphon. Don't despair, my friend.

'In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.'- John 16:33

Only pray for me, that God would give me both inward and outward strength, that I may not only speak, but truly will; and that I may not merely be called a Christian, but really be found to be one. St.Ignatius of Antioch.Epistle to the Romans.

You have a woman that loves you. That is bigger than any house. Don't sweat the details. Sounds like you would have to live close to mum and dad regardless due to their health. If God wills the marriage then do not slight yourself over square footage of a house.

Don't let satan let you think you are a failure is the best answer I've heard in a while. I'm going through a lot of things myself brother and I feel for you, and I think I will carry the above statement and try to remember it.

As for for your people in Syria we pray for them as well. Inshallah they can get out of Syria and work their way here as refugees. We mourn for the martyrs of Syria. This genocide should be spoken of more frequently than it has been spoken of among the Orthodox and Melkite. If we can't do anything physically to stop the genocide since we are here then we all should be praying collectively that it ends and those that are suffering are able to flee to safe refuge.

It is winter and we are all suffering the blues from not enough sunlight. Spring is around the corner and talk to some people at church maybe they can point you in the direction of a different job.

Hi richi000 my payers are with you,when I was troubled greatly payer ,and church was(is) the greatest help I know this seems dark right now but keep praying,going to church,reading the psalms and receiving communion.Please talk with your priest and tell him your family needs help,I know this is verry hard to do.Also Doc.office for adjustment in payment,going to food banks.I know,I know this is verry painful to do,but it must be done and years from now you will look back and see how you have grown in your life and your spitual life. I know I did it.God is not punshing you,that's not the way he is,rember he is love,It's ok the be sad about this it's hard.Talk to several priest and anyone who will listen. Yours in Christ Gayle

Rich, please let us know if there's anything we can do to help you out.

We will be praying for you, your mom's good health, and your family and loved ones.

Remember, all things are possible through Christ our Lord! Don't despair! Take it one day at a time!

@Gayle: Welcome to the Forum!

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Conquer evil men by your gentle kindness, and make zealous men wonder at your goodness. Put the lover of legality to shame by your compassion. With the afflicted be afflicted in mind. Love all men, but keep distant from all men.—St. Isaac of Syria

I don't know how nice your boss is or what you do for a living, but if he would at least hear you out try asking for a temporary raise until you can get everything sorted out.

Shalom and may God watch over you and provide for you.

My boss is not to bad, it looks like at the moment Job security for me is looking better as we signed a new contract with a major client. So I am happy about that.I will ask about pay in the near future.

Hi richi000 my payers are with you,when I was troubled greatly payer ,and church was(is) the greatest help I know this seems dark right now but keep praying,going to church,reading the psalms and receiving communion.Please talk with your priest and tell him your family needs help,I know this is verry hard to do.Also Doc.office for adjustment in payment,going to food banks.I know,I know this is verry painful to do,but it must be done and years from now you will look back and see how you have grown in your life and your spitual life. I know I did it.God is not punshing you,that's not the way he is,rember he is love,It's ok the be sad about this it's hard.Talk to several priest and anyone who will listen. Yours in Christ Gayle

Welcome to the Forum Gayle.

I appricate the prayers and thank you. I will keep praying each night and attend church.