QUESTION: “Can one avoid ejaculating during intercourse and still enjoy sexual bliss? How long does it take to master this art? What are the benefits and have people been successful doing it?” G.T. from Texas

ANSWER: Dear G.T.,I had a feeling that you would write another question; and here we are, three!

Yes, sexual bliss is available to you whether or not you ejaculate! In fact the sexual bliss you might be familiar with already will become a much longer and more intensive experience.

Male ejaculation is the body’s way of involuntarily releasing built-up sexual energy. (Female ejaculation is another matter that could be addressed some other time). The key word here is “involuntary”. With tantric practices you re-educate your body and awareness to recognize the orgasmic trigger point, the orgasmic response. Right before your reach that trigger, the point of no return, employ tantric methods of breathing, movement, making sounds and becoming totally present, to move that built-up energy through your whole body.

At this point of arousal sexual bliss becomes spiritual ecstasy. Once you are adept at this, you can go on for hours. Remember Sting? You will find that ejaculation no longer is the most important event in your sexual loving. It is replaced by endless waves of ecstasy; a deep, intimate connection with yourself, your body and your partner. And the great thing is that you can still ejaculate if and when you choose. Celebrate having choice in your life and loving!

How long does it take to master this art? It takes practice. Just like a small child learns to ride the bicycle with training wheels, you will have to dedicate time and intention to this pursuit. Your commitment to practicing, either by yourself or with a partner, will be the deciding factor on the time it takes for you to become the master of your own ship. If you do happen to ejaculate while learning not to, it is important that you enjoy it 100%!!!! Practice makes perfect.

Have people been successful? Yes. I know many men who are mastering this wonderful art. Benefits? Well, apart from being more in tune with one’s own body and its orgasmic responses, one excellent benefit is that a tantric lover who masters his ship is able to give his partner (and himself) infinite pleasure!