And
this is all explained below via the 3 YouTube videos (by
myself, Dr Tucket and Ross Jeffries, respectively), and some very personal reflections
on my own fears right now.

Yes, we're dealing with facing your fears,
people, right here and right now!...

Overcoming
Fear - Secrets to Overcoming Fear

What I say...

I've
said it elsewhere (on this fear of success page,
actually) but it's still true, if there's one topic I've been wanting to write
about (apart from happiness) it's fear,
and in particular: overcoming fear.

And that's because I'm as haunted as
the next man (or woman) by fear.

Thankfully, I'm also determined to learn how
to overcome fear, too. I now believe that one's success
in life relies heavily on dealing with fear.

And as I've said it's about understanding that conquering fear is a 3-step process:

Recognise you have the fear

Ask yourself where the fear comes from, what the fear really means
(This is a 'how to deal with fear' strategy discussed by DR Tucket in
the in the YouTube video on overcoming fears, below.)

FACE the fear!
(Action, as well as positive 'self-talk' needed here.)

Where Fear Comes From

Where does fear come from in the first place? Well, I'll let the wise words of another answer this great question (via an inspirational quote):

"A child does not
have to be taught how to be happy
or the ways of love. It is fear, hatred,
and prejudice that
have to be taught. And from the condition of the world
we
can see that unfortunately there are some very good teachers."
-- Javan

I understand
that fear is useful, sometimes, but most of my fears hold me back and were formed
when I was too young to know any better. But I still unwisely rely on these fears
now, as a mature adult...

Where does this fear come from? Well, I actually think
that this fear is more about fearing what other people might think of me. For example, "What
sort of man is unable to commit?" or "What sort of man treats a woman 'like that'?" or "What do YOU know?"
etc. (That is, what do other people think about me?)

Okay, that's just a very quick
look at one of my fears, at how I am going about facing and conquering fear.

Importantly, I know
that the rewards for overcoming fear and anxiety are great, for me. (And
for you, too, I'm sure.) And it is these rewards I shall leave you with:

Reward:

"I will always respect what
others have to say about me, but I will continue to value highly what I say too.

"People
often project their fears onto me; they do it unconsciously. But it serves no
purpose to accept these fears as my own and I choose not to. However, any views about me expressed with compassion and love will be accepted by me with
compassion and love.

"My life is... my life; I take full responsibility!"

See how this positive self-talk, combined with taking actions to actively seek out situations I otherwise would have avoided, can help overcome fear?

Overcoming
fear - What DR Michael J Ducket says (via YouTube)...

DR Michael J Ducket
talks about how to overcome fear in this YouTube video. "Fear isn't even
real... It only exists in the future... And since the future doesn't exist...
Guess what? Fear doesn't exist, either!"... So have no fear!

What Ross Jeffries says (via YouTube)...

Ross Jeffries is a dating
'guru' for men, so his video is about overcoming fear of approaching women.
But his views on overcoming fear (whether you're a man or a woman) are inspirational
if you take the time to understand what he's saying about fear.

The
key is to allow yourself to not know what's going to happen - to be "willing
to accept uncertainty".

Ross is quietly spoken and I don't think the
sound on this video is well-recorded, but I still urge you to listen closely (again,
suited to both genders).