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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

Seriously, I've been separated for about a year now. Thought I was doing really well but when Christmas and New Years arrived I was really bummed. I just keep reminding myself of the things I have to be thankful for in life and that there's other people out there in worse shape. You're not alone.

I know for me, once I stopped defining/identifying special days as though they 'should' be spent with that person, I realized that there is so much more to them.

What kills me is this type of thing...
I was in Church with my kids on Sunday and this elderly (80+) couple were walking back from communion. Well, more like shuffling together. She had her hand on his forearm, as he was a bit more unsteady than she. Then they kinda fussed over who would get back in the pew first, each wanting the other one to precede them. You could tell that they knew each other better than anything. It made me cry. That is what I am afraid I will never have.

I've been trying to lean on friends more. (It's tricky because most of my friends are couples.) When there's a big holiday, I've tried to make sure I'm not completely alone.

New Year's Eve was really brutal -- I was hanging out with a couple with a newborn and they had to ditch out on me 30 MINUTES TO MIDNIGHT. I ended up spending the stroke of midnight in a cab racing downtown to meet up with a random friend at a pub. It ended up being good being isolated in a cab at midnight so I didn't have to avert my eyes as couples kissed around me. When I got there, my friend was with some random folks I didn't know; it ended up being nice just being around people. Not talking about anything heavy, seeing and hearing people in a good mood.

Tonight, for my birthday, I'm having a quiet dinner with some good friends: a couple. Then tomorrow, I've planned for a bunch of friends to get together at a karaoke joint where we can just scream our heads off. I had been debating whether to do ANYTHING for my birthday this year... but despite my trepidation, I know it'll be better to be with people. Rather than alone in my apartment, staring at the ceiling, contemplating the ruins of my personal life.

Fuck Valentine's Day. That's just an idiotic, cruel, taunting asshole excuse for a holiday. Hating it doesn't keep it from stinging, but you have to do what you have to do.

The holidays do peter out somewhat. Doesn't extinguish all the other reminders in the world, but the big holidays are rough zones.

I'm in the midst of suffering, too, so it is hard to be encouraging here. I hate the idea of &quot;time heals all&quot; or &quot;it just takes time&quot;. There may be truth there but it is NO CONSOLATION.

When times are really bleak, I try to imagine the phantom good times that are yet to come. The things that I can't even imagine in any concrete way. But I think you have to believe that there are some amazing times ahead of you. Times when you'll be able to look back at NOW and marvel at how far you've come.

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...

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