Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.—1 Corinthians 7:3-5 NKJV

The scriptures set clear boundaries for sexual fulfillment. God created sex to fulfill His original command to humanity to be fruitful and multiply. God also made sex to be very gratifying to a husband and wife who have made vows of fidelity to each other. Anything outside these boundaries the scriptures label as sexual sin. Sexual sin cannot satisfy the human heart because it is outside the boundaries of God’s design. Sexual orgasm may give a thrill for a moment but its nothing more than a chemical fix, a cheap substitute for a personal and intimate fellowship with Jesus.

Husband and wife are to be mutually dependent upon each other for sexual gratification. Husband and wife are so different when it comes to being sexually fulfilled. God made it that way so that each would learn how to please the other. The scripture here says having sex frequently keeps a married couple protected from sexual temptation. Typical happy couples have sex one to two times a week. For sex to be meaningful and enjoyable husbands and wives need to be fulfilling their God given leadership roles. They are to serve each other. Husbands should love their wives sacrificial lay—loving and nurturing them, romancing them, protecting the relationship. Wives should be respecting their husbands—honoring and praising them, adapting ans responding to their husband’s needs.

We know the tempter is looking for a way in to destroy lives. We know marriage is under assault in our Nation. Let’s not give the devil any opportunity or any foothold in our lives. Couples work on meeting each others needs. Singles work on keeping yourself sexually pure. Save sex for your future spouse. Focus on cultivating the anointing God placed in your life. Let Jesus be your lover, He will meet your every need!