Why Are You Trying To Choke Me With Your Dick? – Chico’s Sex Advice

Today’s question comes from friends of the blog KenSexy and her College Roommates (whom you may remember from the Rough Sex and Sex On The First Dateedition of Chico’s Sex Advice). She wants to know…

“What’s up with guys wanting us to choke on their dick? You know… Pushing our heads down ’til we awkwardly make that terrible sound.

We’ve done our research and this is a very common (as in always) thing no matter the type of guy. What’s good about it? Is it the feeling or the idea and sight of us choking on it that you like?”

I believe the choking you are referring to is a blowjob practice known as “deep throating“, which was invented in Deep Throat, the porn movie from 1972.

Deep Throatis the story of a sexually unsatisfied young woman played by Linda Lovelace who discovers that her clitoris is in her throat. In order to finally find sexual satisfaction, she needs to get her head pushed down, taking the man’s penis deep down her throat, ’til she awkwardly makes that terrible choking sound.

Deep throating has been a staple of porn movies ever since.

So the reason guys are trying choke you with their dicks is because the most sex education they’ve received is from porn. It’s the same reason why you girls are forced to put up with the question, “Can I cum in your face?” all the time. These young men watch porn and it becomes their understanding of what sex is. They don’t know any better that they shouldn’t reenact everything (or anything) they see in porn.

So that’s what’s up with guys wanting to choke you girls with their dicks. Now, what’s good about it?

Personally, I don’t think there’s anything good about it. That awkward, choking sound is a real mood killer. Teary eyes during sex is always a bad look for anyone. And not also your gag reflex could be easily irritated and it could cause you to throw up all over my lap. NOT SEXY.

As far as the feeling goes, I can say that when it first happened to me it did feel good. However, I’ve come to realize that the reason for it feeling good was thanks to excitement and surprise rather than the actual sensation. Sometimes there can be a little tickling sensation at the tip of a man’s penis when it goes deep into the throat, but other than that, there’s not a whole lot going.

You were right when you asked if it was the sight of chocking on it that men like. As to what they like about the sight, I’m going to say that it’s a mixture of recreating something that they’ve seen in porn as well as the domination connotation that comes with deep throating.

Obviously, when a man recreates something he’s seen in porn, it’s visually stimulating because he’s probably orgasmed a thousand times and it’s a tried and true way of getting off. As for the dominance/degradation motivation, I also believe that porn is to blame. Rather than looking at sex as intimate act, it’s about degrading their partner like they’ve seen so many times in porn. Oh you stupid men.

I wish I could explain further but as a real sensitive man I truthfully don’t understand the appeal of domination and degradation in sex. SORRY!

So yeah, the deep throat problem that all you women are currently dealing is entirely porn’s fault. As a somewhat successful porn-blogger, I’d like to apologize to you on porn’s behalf. SORRY!

The way I see it, you shouldn’t have to do anything you don’t want to do in sex. If you don’t want to deep throat your partner’s dick, then don’t to it! Hell, your gag reflex is your body telling you, “DON’T DO THAT!”

My advice to you, Kensexy and your college roommates, is that the next time you’re giving head and you feel a man’s hand pushing your head further down for the deep throat, slowly but surely sink your teeth into the shaft of his penis. When he starts freaking out because he’s sure you’re going to bite his dick off, very calmly tell him, “Oh sorry. I have this weird thing where I have to bite down whenever my head is being forced in a direction I don’t want it to go.”

If that doesn’t get him to stop, invest in a strap-on and tell him that if he wants to be deep throated, so do you. I don’t condone violence but if he wants to be deep throated, he should know how uncomfortable it being choked by a dick can be.

But hey, if you’re into it, that’s cool too.

Alright Kensexy and her College Roommates, I hope this helped.

I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

i literally cannot give head to any guy without him trying to choke me. so glad im not the only 1!

if you are a woman that has this prolbem then i hope you take chico’s advice and stand up against this bullshit

Derz

As a man who is guilty of pressing down on the back of the girl’s head to get my dick deeper down her throat I’ll admit that it doesn’t really feel that good.

Sometimes it just happens in the heat of the moment. SORRY.

ADHDemon

Some women can deep throat without having a choke on it. And it feels wonderful

http://www.sex.com/news/about/ Chico Dusty

I know. That’s why I said, “If you’re into it, that’s cool too.”

http://www.sex.com/news/about/ Chico Dusty

At least now you know to resist the urge?

http://www.sex.com/news/about/ Chico Dusty

Glad I could help! I got nothing but your best interests in mind.

Peter_Griffen

Yeah it’s all a matter of consent!

Obviously its fucked up if you are trying to force that without her being down,

but I’ve met women who like to deepthroat and give sloppy blowjobs!

Different strokes for different folks I guess, just make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

http://www.sex.com/news/about/ Chico Dusty

EXACTLY!

Thank you Mr. Griffen. I’m a big fan of your show, Family Matters.

Peter_Griffen

TY CHICO
I AM ALSO BIG FAN OF YOUR BLOG SEX.COM BLOG

i am glad that you like my work

it is important that fellow celebrities support one another

that is my opinion!

avery

Males typically desire to dominate. It’s totally natural. Seeing how much a female will put up with, and how far she go to please you is reassurance.. just like when a girl’s boyfriend calls to check up on her… it doesn’t necessarily mean he cares, but the call means there’s a good chance he does, and that’s comforting……..

Most u take ur gf to a doc to check up on her b4 u cn suck her pucy?.. By suckin her pucy, is dt not a way to contact disease?

http://www.sex.com/news/about/ Chico Dusty

I don’t understand the question.

Eroscott

Your last point, Chico, is well-taken. If a man wants his woman to deep-throat him, she should provide him with a dildo and tell him to try it out and see how he likes it. There are three basic reasons to have sex: procreation, recreation, and dominance. Domination can be a form of hate, of punishment, of winning. Totally unnecessary in a mutually enjoyable sexual relationship. And, by the way of the three basic reasons to have sex, recreation beats out the other two. If it didn’t feel good we wouldn’t do it and we wouldn’t have 7 billion + people on the planet.

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