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Are You Scaring Him Away? Learn How To Get Him Interested

Getting a guy interested in you isn't hard, just make sure you don't scare him in the meantime.

The most fascinating thing about dating is how, what we want and expect to happen on a date, doesn’t always correspond to what REALLY happens on a date.

For a couple of seconds, I want you to think back and remember a guy you dated that you were immediately attracted to on the very first date.

Remember how that very first sight gave you butterflies? Remember how just thinking about him made you tingle? Remember how when you weren’t with him, all you could think about was being with him again?

Infatuation is a dangerous feeling. But how does this affect your love life?

Most infatuated women become a little obsessive. If you’re anything like most women then you’ll probably start checking your phone every 5 minutes to see if he called or texted. You become a little needy. You constantly tell your friends about him and share every single detail of your conversations with them.

You can’t properly communicate with him because whilst trying not to say the wrong thing, you often say nothing. Or even worse, you say something so pointless that even you can’t believe you actually said that.

You start feeling stressed and begin to act nervous. You don’t want to mess anything up because you like him so much so you’re no longer as easygoing, relaxed or even charming when you’re with him.

He gets you overly excited and you show it. You compliment him all the time and he starts to see it. You even tell him that you see/want a future here.

You start to become weak because you’re so impressed with him and so concerned about what he thinks that you put him high on a pedestal, a rightful place in your mind.

And here’s your biggest mistake.

The moment you put anyone on a pedestal, they start looking down on you. If up until that point he thought you were equal, the moment he’s high and mighty he will realize that “he’s above you”.

Sadly, this is one of the biggest drawbacks of being infatuated by a man.

Neediness, nervousness, over excitement and weakness – these words define a woman that is infatuated by a new man in her life.

Sit back and think about them for a second. Do you find them attractive?

Then it shouldn’t be a big surprise when that man you like so much, upon seeing a needy, nervous and weak woman, stops calling you. With all honesty, what would you expect him to do? You come out way to serious about him, way too early and that obviously scares him away.

It’s sad when you think about it. Wouldn’t it be much easier to just be yourself around him? You might think that being excited comes out as awkward (and that’s not so bad), being needy comes out as a devoted girlfriend (which also isn’t bad), being nervous comes out as being “real” with him (and that can’t be bad either, right?). So why is your behavior scaring him off, if these things can’t be that bad?

To better understand what going on, let’s look at this from your perspective.

You go on a first date with a decent guy. Immediately, he feels incredibly attracted to you.

1. He's not a douche about being in shape.

Look, Chris Evans has a great body. Most importantly, though, is that he's not a jerk about it. He doesn't walk around shirtless, unless it's in a completely appropriate situation. You don't have to worry about him flashing his abs to your mom, but if that shirt does come off for whatever reason, she'll still be impressed.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

2. He makes dangerous stuff look adorable.

Girls want a bad boy, moms want a teddy bear. Well guess what? Chris Evans is a bad teddy bear. But, not in a dirty way. Unless you want it dirty. Chris Evans is here for you!

Photo: Disney / Marvel

3. Chris Evans cleans up really nicely.

You want your mom to see a guy at his best, and Chris Evans at his best looks like America personified. If your mom doesn't appreciate that, then she's a terrorist and she should be in jail.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

4. He's active!

He knows how to swim, how to throw stuff, how to fight. Your mom will love his various skills. He can definitely take care of you.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

5. Chris Evans hangs out with classy broads.

Is it offensive to call a dame a broad? Either way, those are the types of ladies that Chris Evans associates with. You don't have to worry about sketchy ex-girlfriends showing up and ruining everything.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

6. Chris Evans stands up to jerks!

Your mom wants a guy who will protect you. Not just from bears and stuff like that, but also a man who protects your honor. If some guy is being a jerk, and Chris Evans is around, then you've got nothing to worry about.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

7. He's got great health insurance.

Chris Evans is rich and famous. He financially stable, so you know he's got the health insurance that covers all the luxurious stuff. Like mud baths.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

8. Chris Evans looks good in uniform.

If there's one thing moms love, it's a man in uniform. Even if the uniform is just a costume, they still love it. Chris Evans only wears uniforms in his personal life (from what I hear, which may be wrong).

Photo: Disney / Marvel

9. He's got impressive friends.

Chris Evans hangs out with cool people, but even around cool people, he still looks like the boss. There's nothing more impressive than that.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

10. Chris Evans is dedicated.

You don't get a body like that by accident. If you could, they wouldn't call them accidents, they'd call them miracles.

Photo: Disney / Marvel

11. Chris Evans is a true gentleman.

My girlfriend can't look at this photo of Betty White and Chris Evans without crying because everything about it is perfect.

Photo: YouTube

Look, Chris Evans has a great body. Most importantly, though, is that he's not a jerk about it. He doesn't walk around shirtless, unless it's in a completely appropriate situation. You don't have to worry about him flashing his abs to your mom, but if that shirt does come off for whatever reason, she'll still be impressed.