tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post674025776395938909..comments2015-01-21T18:12:53.334+01:00Comments on Sea Legs Girl: My stepsonsea legs girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14782712411873234071noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-72949848955881497792010-12-14T01:54:35.276+01:002010-12-14T01:54:35.276+01:00Yeah probably the best thing from the kiddos&#39; ...Yeah probably the best thing from the kiddos&#39; perpsective would be if you all lived nearby. Move to Madison so I have more reasons to get back to the Terrace (do you even drink beer?).Dannihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02201053516148787578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-36233096057757610922010-12-14T00:49:24.867+01:002010-12-14T00:49:24.867+01:00I sympathize. SR must have been stricken by not b...I sympathize. SR must have been stricken by not being acknowledged as &quot;Dad&quot;. It does sound like more contact with Andreas rather than less is what is needed. Good luck not taking his aloofness personally- the kid is just confused.<br /><br />That said, I made a move so that my boys could spend more time with their dad and it came back to bite me. They resented me for moving them away from their friends, and their dad spoiled them into big brats. I don&#39;t believe they or our relationship ever recovered. If you&#39;re going to try reuniting the families, it might be best to do so well before the kids hit adolescence. (Just my 2cents)<br /><br />CynthiaDrs. Cynthia and Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16081685734249334402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-40581806644310737922010-12-13T17:29:05.158+01:002010-12-13T17:29:05.158+01:00Wow. That&#39;s really tough all around.
I hope i...Wow. That&#39;s really tough all around.<br /><br />I hope it works out better for you in the future. It&#39;s great that the Lorax worships Andreas - it probably makes him feel like a Big Man, which is probably the very type of ego boost he needs.<br /><br />Good luck with this relationship, sister!Glaven Q. Heisenberghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08223203230634447543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-34260711804776599692010-12-13T17:08:55.646+01:002010-12-13T17:08:55.646+01:00Thanks Kirsten and Olga for your thoughts. Really ...Thanks Kirsten and Olga for your thoughts. Really - that is why I posted it. I just need to hear what other people think of the situation. It means a lot to me that you guys took the time to write.sea legs girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14782712411873234071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-45244004903041763932010-12-13T16:36:10.907+01:002010-12-13T16:36:10.907+01:00Yep, coming back to US would be the best option, e...Yep, coming back to US would be the best option, even if not a solution. Not just to US, but same town, or within driving distance, to make it weekly meets. Is it possible? I don&#39;t know. Will it be too late? I don&#39;t know either...olgahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00493291972954387932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-51019993947272344932010-12-13T13:23:52.574+01:002010-12-13T13:23:52.574+01:00I guess the kid is just feeling let down by not se...I guess the kid is just feeling let down by not seeing his father and then when he does see him, he has this other family with him where Andreas feels left out.....And goes into regression to get some attention - better being yelled at than feeling outsider. So he made some heavy points about being unhappy about the situation since he doesn&#39;t have words to express himself.<br />You probably did the best you could to make him a part of the gang and setting some limits to his behaviour was definitely in its place. But of course it&#39;s a bad feeling to leave this little sad person behind....Do you have a possibility to have him come over to Dk to visit? Then it would be your turf and might be easier and would probably do him good. Maybe you know somebody travelling that could acompany him.....Kirstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14000695114298710579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-25357484734674767772010-12-13T07:13:56.728+01:002010-12-13T07:13:56.728+01:00Hi Lynn
Thanks for commenting. Yeah, with us livi...Hi Lynn<br /><br />Thanks for commenting. Yeah, with us living in Denmark and their mom living in the US, either we would not get to see the kids at all or we would get one full-time. It ended up we got Natty. And we often talk about whether Andreas should switch and live with us for a while. It&#39;s not an easy situation for the kids to be moving all over the world. And that&#39;s why we&#39;ll probably end up moving back to the US eventually.sea legs girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14782712411873234071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-834846832861622672.post-5079420897945592382010-12-13T04:04:26.174+01:002010-12-13T04:04:26.174+01:00SLG, Why does the boy live with his mother and th...SLG, Why does the boy live with his mother and the girl live with her father? Maybe the boy wants to live with his dad, too. I don&#39;t know the background here. That&#39;s hard to deal with for four days.<br />Lynne in MDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com