I abhor self-focused, extreme judgments, in either direction. So that means the lout who comes to Formal Night dressed in bluejeans and a t-shirt is wrong, but so is the lout who condemns anyone who chooses to wear anything that is within the explicit bounds of the cruise line's written dress code. Saying, "The rules don't apply to me," is wrong, but saying "My rules apply to everyone," is also wrong.