OMG i just noticed tonight how bad my wife has a beer belly. hate to say this but, disgusting for a woman. i try to tell her to slow down on drinking beer but its one after another. how do i tell her with out hurting her feelings? she goes off to the store and sure enough here comes another case. she doesnt have a problem where its drink all day long, she dont get stupid drunk. but.... no wonder i dont want to have sex with her. her belly is bigger than mine.
what do i do??

You don't have a problem with her drinking, you just have a problem with her belly being bigger than yours, do I have that right?

You sound really shallow in that post. Get over it. Or else leave her, so she can find someone who loves her for what's inside instead of what's outside. If your love is conditional on the way she looks, all I have to say is shame on you.

then call me shallow, i dont like it. i love her for whats inside. but she loves to wear short shirts and tight pants and this makes for a major tire around her.
it maybe shallow or low, but i would like a nice way of telling her to mayeb change up her clothes and such. she wears tight fitting shirts.

Instead of chewing you out for not being attracted to you wife I'm going to tell you you need to get her some help. If she is drinking several beers a night every night she is an alcoholic. You don't have to get stupid drunk or drink all day to be an alcoholic. Is this behavior something recent or has she always been like this? If its recent she may be dealing with some other issues like depression or sever stress and taking it out by drinking beer.

you should do something about it. Start working out yourself, reducing the beer consumption and improving your health and appearance overall. I'm pretty sure your wife will feel like following you on that. Who doesn't wanna be healthier?

Perhaps low standards on your side has triggered low standards on hers.

Take the money you save by not buying beer and buy a pair of running shoes instead. It's hard to get started, but once you find your groove (so to speak) you won't want to stop. Will help with your other problem, too. Actually, getting fit helps with a lot of problems.

eish, the man is being honest about his feelings, comes here looking for advice and gets holes poked in him.

Anyway harkar, you're in a pickle, i would say talk to her about it straight up, look her dead in the eye and say 'bit*ch, you need to stop drinking all them damn beers and lose that beer gut, that ish is killing my boner for you!', just joking.

But its damn near impossible to bring this up with your wife without hurting her feelings in some way regardless of how true it is, you really could try being honest with her and not mince your words, but make sure to plan an escape route before hand and also get one of your friends to check up on you randomly for the next few days just in case.

But your best bet is to use this opportunity to take a long hard look at yourself too, it really does reek of hypocrisy when you complain about your wife being over weight when you are too, i bet if you got yourself into some exercise, in a little while, when you start to tone up, look sexier and start getting compliments from people, she will take notice and realize that she needs to make changes too, all in all this way is beneficial to you both as individuals and also to the health of your relationship.

dude, get over it, unless you're a male model. i bet she has some complaints she could make, too.
mrsbikers belly may be bigger than mine, but so are her tits, of course my dick is bigger than her clit. so it all works out. bellies move out of the way pretty well and fucking is not a problem.
if however you choose to attempt to tell her she's too fat, be sure you have a good lawyer first and have your running shoes on when you start the conversation!

eish, the man is being honest about his feelings, comes here looking for advice and gets holes poked in him.

Anyway harkar, you're in a pickle, i would say talk to her about it straight up, look her dead in the eye and say 'bit*ch, you need to stop drinking all them damn beers and lose that beer gut, that ish is killing my boner for you!', just joking.

But its damn near impossible to bring this up with your wife without hurting her feelings in some way regardless of how true it is, you really could try being honest with her and not mince your words, but make sure to plan an escape route before hand and also get one of your friends to check up on you randomly for the next few days just in case.

But your best bet is to use this opportunity to take a long hard look at yourself too, it really does reek of hypocrisy when you complain about your wife being over weight when you are too, i bet if you got yourself into some exercise, in a little while, when you start to tone up, look sexier and start getting compliments from people, she will take notice and realize that she needs to make changes too, all in all this way is beneficial to you both as individuals and also to the health of your relationship.

my 2 cents.

thank you, at least you have an understanding, i love my wife to death but this is killing me in the sex department. sorry i am just not attracted to her sexually. i love her more than anything though, would never leave her.

bikerO61, on Tue Jan 22, 2013 11:17 AM, said:

dude, get over it, unless you're a male model. i bet she has some complaints she could make, too.
mrsbikers belly may be bigger than mine, but so are her tits, of course my dick is bigger than her clit. so it all works out. bellies move out of the way pretty well and fucking is not a problem.
if however you choose to attempt to tell her she's too fat, be sure you have a good lawyer first and have your running shoes on when you start the conversation!

and you know what i bet she does have some issues with me, she has not mentioned to me nor have or will i mention mine to her. we can beat around the bush on things, but i am not about to hurt her feelings.
therefore i come here for advise not to picked apart cause i have feelings and thoughts. as stated above i love my wife. i guess this isnt a place to vent your feelings.

look for sympathy on the internet?? HAHAHA now thats funny. wasnt looking for it. ok maybe i came across harsh on my OP. i will apologize for that. i am also just stating MY feelings here.
she dont like the way she looks, she knows i look at other woman be it internet or out on the street, but i never ever say anything to down her. she does have feelings, what am i to do " hey baby i think you getting fat!!!" oh yea that will go over well.
so as little advice i got here i am working on a few things for her and myself.
as stated this is MY OPINION.

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Well you have choices. Go the honest, blunt route and risk hurting her feelings... Be subtle and try to get her more active and to drop the beer habit... Or do nothing and never get laid again.

To be honest, you'd probably get more results from being blunt with her. She'll be pissed at you to begin with, definitely, but it might make her step back and look at herself, maybe reconsider her lifestyle.