There are so many people that for one reason or the other, are sad, alone, and spend many nights in their homes, behind locked doors, and in need of comfort. We walk the streets and might meet a homeless person, his only bed a piece of cardboard, spread out on the hard concrete. He might have lost his family, or lost his home, or his job, and yet we walk by ignoring him, instead of attempting to comfort him. There are just as many sad people, as there are happy people, and yet, we tend to ignore the sad, and team up with the happy.

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Steps

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Stop and befriend someone you come across, who is crying, or obviously in need of comfort, and friendship. Offer a helping hand,have an open mind and listen. Do not respond, until they have finished talking. Think about your response, what you might say can upset the person even more so. Focus on the persons needs. Remember that you can leave a lasting impression on anyone, especially those who are in need of comfort. Trying to fix things for others can be very dis-empowering.

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Offer to help, ask them how, and place a hand on their shoulder. This one simple gesture could allow them to feel less alone, but be aware that touching needs to be dealt with carefully and best done only if invited to do so or checking that it is alright first.

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Be understanding and compassionate.Never judge them or blame them, even if you feel they should be. Maybe give them a bear hug.

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Think of yourself, if you were in their place. Perhaps you will meet them in the hospital waiting room. Their loved one might have been in a bad accident, and they might be waiting alone. Sit next to them. Ask them what happened. When a person is in a desperate need of comfort reassure them to keep hope and faith in their hearts. Other times a person can cry uncontrollably, the best thing to do in a case like this is divert their attention to something else. This will give them time to calm down and tell you what their problem is. Don't be afraid to offer comfort. Remember that the only difference in being a good Samaritan is acting when no one else will. When you are done comforting your friend, parent, sibling, kids, spouse, or a complete total stranger remind them that they have made a new friend or that you will always be there to give them an ear and an open heart when ever they need it.

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Before you leave, ask them if there is anything else you can do or if there's anything else they need to talk about. If they say no, say, "Come here, don't worry, I'm here for you if you need me." BUT, keep your word and if they need to talk even in the middle of the night, be there for them, be supportive, listen, and do not act annoyed with them, or complain about their needing you.

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And, of course, listen, really listen to their words, the meaning behind them.

Be careful when approaching someone living on the streets. Not all strangers welcome an approach.

Allow the person some time alone, especially when a relative has just died. It's not every day that you lose someone. Those who have, will need time to get over it. It will affect them throughout their life, but they will get back together.

Offer a smile of understanding, to those who seem to be left alone. A smile will help them know that you care.

Spend time with them, as much as they need, or make time for them, as long as 2 or 3 hours if you think they will need it.

Don't try to come up with solutions or advice for someone who is sad. Quietly listen to them.

Asking others about their personal problems, might entice them. If they look as if they prefer to be alone, then do not approach them. Some people like to be alone when they are sad, and that's okay. If that's the case, have to just let them work it out by themselves.

Make them laugh.

Tell them that there's always help, no matter what the situation.

Tell funny jokes and give them candy

If you can sing, sing them a nice song.

Ask what is wrong.

If they don't say, you can tell them, "It's okay if you don't tell me because no matter what, I'm still your friend". If they do tell you what's wrong, say, "That must feel awful"... Never act as if you want to make your friend feel bad.

Buy them a gift or go for shopping with them.

Tell them they can always talk to you, and that you will keep what they say to you to yourself. Invite them to go shopping, have lunch, or sit with you, and show them that you really do care about them, no matter who they are.

If they are willing to discuss their feelings with you, listen and sympathize with them. Try to understand how they would feel if you were them.

Warnings

NEVER force someone to tell you what is wrong, or get upset with them for not telling you. When they're ready to tell you, they will. You need to understand that they may need some privacy, and respect them enough to let them have it.

Do not judge, or over-evaluate.

Some people have personal space issues, so if it's a person you don't know that well, ask before you hug them.

More often than not, they just need a sympathetic ear. Don't try to offer advice or your opinion, or try to fix it for them. Just be there, be supportive, be compassionate, sensitive to their feelings and emotions, be sympathetic, and empathetic. Even cry with them, do not be afraid to feel their pain and cry with them. Sometimes it helps them feel better to know someone cares, is there, understands, and feels their pain. But do not try to force yourself or them to cry.

If they don't want your help at the moment, don't give it to them. They might get mad, on top of upset.