Are All Men Jerks?

Here’ s the truth dignity daters; whether you choose to believe it, or not, is up to you.

All men are not jerks.
Women are attracted to men who are nice, polite and respectful.

It seems, however, the most common reactions to the frustrations of dating come from a place of blame. It’s easier, somehow, to believe that what we have experienced is the absolute truth. That this truth then applies to all situations. We begin to assume that because it has happened to us before, it will happen again. We find ourselves engaged in a vicious cycle, a hamster wheel of sorts, in which we transmit our negative beliefs repeatedly, attracting more proof of our negative belief system into our lives. We repeatedly make choices to see ourselves has victims of circumstance, location, bad parents or a recession, and then view everything through this one-dimensional point of view.

I have good news!

You have the power to see your dating life, your entire life, in 3D. Put on those 3D glasses and revel in the breadth and depth of possibilities. You are the product of your belief system. As you jump off the hamster wheel, you can begin to create the world you see. Here’s how:

1. Begin to expect the positive. Quantum physics proves the world is a creation of your perceptions. Shift your beliefs accordingly. Expect that men are respectful. Believe women to be appreciative and kind. Create your positive world in making affirming, upbeat interpretations of the experiences life provides. If a man approaches you smile, interpret the gesture as kindness. Nothing more, nothing less.

2. Focus on finding peace and joy. Begin to take stock of all that is good in the world. Notice the mother and daughter who laugh together over shared ice cream cones. Acknowledge a driver who pauses to let someone cross the street. Bring this peace and joy into your conversations with members of the opposite sex. Be positive. Share what you notice with him or her. The results will be astounding.

3. Incorporate time for gratitude into your daily ritual. Taking time during your day to acknowledge those things for which you are grateful enables you to shift negative thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions into positive, healing, energy. In turn, this positive energy will attract like, positive energy, transforming the messages you broadcast to members of the opposite sex. As a result of this transformation, you will begin to attract optimistic, upbeat, like-minded people who share your positive, buoyant view of life itself.

When you leave your house this weekend to go on a date, hiking with friends, to sit in the coffee shop, or for a walk in your neighborhood, don’t forget your keys. Your wallet. Of course, bring your purse. But most important, bring your 3D glasses. Put them on. Choose to see possibility. See love. Choose to create the world in which you want to live.