I’ve been off work for a few days. Roy has started a brand new job. It’s always hard to go back to work after time off and/or to change jobs, particularly when both of us would be perfectly happy self-employed and able to completely support ourselves independently. Unfortunately, that is not currently the case. So after a few days off work (or for Roy after a few days into a new job), here is our very much UNHUMBLE opinion on what keeps us going.

It may not be “PC”, but I will repeat Roy’s and my oft-stated mantra. When have we ever EVER claimed to be PC?

Variances in individual personalities make life, friendships, and social interaction much more interesting than having everyone of the same cut & color and wanting the same things. Obviously all of us desire to be around those of our same belief system and heading in the same general direction (or, as one of my mentors says, of the same ilk); however, if we all had the same exact beliefs, wants, needs, and desires, it would make for a very boring life.

This is probably why Roy and I like being around people of various backgrounds and with various personalities. We like to be challenged. We learn from them as much if not more than they might learn from us, helping us all grow in life and not become stagnant. Stagnation in life is to me almost worse than death because you are not even truly living. You are just existing in life and floating through it.

BORING!!!!!!!!

Neither one of us understands those that limit their friendships because they don’t want to venture out of their closed little comfort zone.

We like to be around all variety of people with a variety of goals in life. We like that they may like to live in various states or countries, drive various cars, apply themselves to various vocations, and exercise various life choices. We like to hear their opinions. We like to have meaningful discussions and find out about their backgrounds. We like to understand their reasons for various choices and beliefs. We like to know various people that might enjoy living in various places that we might visit. We have our own personal choices and preferences but we like a variety of types of people. We like that our network of friends might ask about our own comments and/or choices as it helps us grow and develop in life and not become closed to change.

So with all of that being said, we personally do not like hanging around people that have no concrete goals and desires in life. We do not like hanging around people with closed minds. We do not like hanging around limited thinkers. We do not like hanging around the people that want only the status quo and to not look at better ways to be and do in life. We don’t like hanging around those that belittle what we like to do, what we work for, and what our dreams are. We don’t like hanging around those who attack our friends and family. We don’t like hanging out with those who degrade other people as we know if they talk about others badly, then we’ll be their next target when not around. We particularly don’t like hanging around gossiping, whispering, backstabbing, clique-y people. Essentially we don’t like hanging around anyone who doesn’t respect who we are (or who our friends are), what we want & believe, and how we choose to live.

We look for the independent clear thinkers with true goals and dreams that look to better their life as well as the lives of those around them. Their goals don’t have to match ours specifically. We know however their passion, energy, and forward movement will move us forward in our own goals, dreams, and passions. We wish to be able to do the same for them. We look to those that try to uplift not only themselves but others around them. We look for those that will ask us questions that make us think, grow, and improve. We look for those that want the same from us without getting their feelings unnecessarily hurt over questions that are designed to make them think and examine themselves. We look for people that want to grow and improve right along with us. We want to be challenged and we want to challenge others to do the same. We want to be with those that want to work as hard as we do and don’t want to be coddled with handouts *or* with just platitudes instead of true conversational introspection.