My recommendation would be just to go scope the scenes you like, like the mall or a bookstore or some area that is relatively crowded but still safe for you (I don't know what it's like where you live so just use your best judgement), and just start conversations with guys you think are cute.

You don't have to date them, this would just be to build confidence. Doesn't hurt to be social either, right?

I just thought that if she looked deeper into the dating pool, she might find a guy who's interesting and still nothing like this guy who's hurting her. I mean, she's an attractive lady, given a little time she might find one who likes her for who she is and won't break her heart.

Best to just block it out and walk on without looking, same advice as Stuff and some others here.Ignore everything, and once you have a clear head, you're free to do what you want so long as you think you're able to.

A little warning though, try to avoid a social shutdown, it tends to happen in situations like these.

Someone once said "All is fair in love and war" but that's just a nice way of saying nothing is fair in love and war. I believe this to be another of the world's unfortunate truths since both, my many observations and my few experiences, have proven this time and time again.

You'd think by now that humans would be used to love and war's unfairness. We may be used to seeing it but we never get used to experiencing it. Strange how insignificant it seems until you experience it first hand.

"Suddenly Frodo noticed that a strange-looking weather-beaten man, sitting in the shadows near the wall, was also listening intently to the hobbit-talk. He had a tall tankard in front of him, and was smoking a long-stemmed pipe curiously carved. His legs were stretched out before him, showing high boots of supple leather that fitted him well, but had seen much wear and were now caked with mud. A travel-stained cloak of heavy dark-green cloth was drawn close about him, and in spite of the heat of the room he wore a hood that overshadowed his face; but the gleam of his eyes could be seen as he watched the hobbits."

True Order wrote:Someone once said "All is fair in love and war" but that's just a nice way of saying nothing is fair in love and war.

EagleMan wrote:Nothing is fair in love and war is impossible since one can in fact be fair in them.

True Order wrote:Exactly.

"Suddenly Frodo noticed that a strange-looking weather-beaten man, sitting in the shadows near the wall, was also listening intently to the hobbit-talk. He had a tall tankard in front of him, and was smoking a long-stemmed pipe curiously carved. His legs were stretched out before him, showing high boots of supple leather that fitted him well, but had seen much wear and were now caked with mud. A travel-stained cloak of heavy dark-green cloth was drawn close about him, and in spite of the heat of the room he wore a hood that overshadowed his face; but the gleam of his eyes could be seen as he watched the hobbits."

The reason for the phrase "everything is fair in love and war" goes back to when nothing was illegal(it was fair) in how war was conducted and the equivalent in love is that you can pretty much damage each other as much as you can or want(especially emotionally).