Two years ago I was having a real crisis of self. I was Casey and AJ’s mom. I was Bill’s wife. I was Mrs. Bietler to hundreds of children but who was Tina? Somewhere with all these different titles and roles I played through the course of the day I had become lost.

I had a conversation with my best friend where I basically asked the question, “Is this it? Is this all there is? I wake up and start working on the house and kids. Then I go to work. I come home from work and cook dinner, spend a little time with the boys and help them with homework. Then I grade papers, kiss my husband goodnight, and go to bed, only to repeat the entire process day after day after day. Is this really all life is? Work until you die? Where did my fun go? Where did my happy go? Where did Tina go?”

I expected her to look at me and tell me to stop being so dramatic, but like a good friend she didn’t. She listened to me and then, to my surprise told me she often felt the exact same way. I wasn’t nuts, I wasn’t a drama queen, I was lost.

Over two years I made some changes and did a lot of self discovery. I moved myself higher on my own priority list. Watch my video below if you want to see some of the changes I made in my days to make me find the spark, the very essence that is ME.