Would you break up a relationship over this?

originally posted by: Ridhya
a reply to: TruthJava
You're gonna leave him because of other people's crimes? No, you've been with him for 5 years, for a reason. Talk it out with him. Convince him to
find some minor issue so you can kick them out. Report them to all your neighbours. Make sure EVERYONE knows the danger. But don't punish your
boyfriend for their crimes. Once all of your neighbours are aware I think they'll help you two out.

There is no way in hell they know each other by coincidence. Likely they acted together in a network. Notice how they overcompensate by being extra
nice? Trying to appear like they are hitting on you to avoid suspicion.

Thanks, yes, I am trying to figure out how to warn my neighbors so they don't see me. I plan to act like I'm stopping to talk to them as I walk each
morning, or act like I'm going for a walk when they are home and out in the yard. Many kids around here.

dont take this the wrong way - but unless you are or appear to be 12 - then you are at very low risk from a pair of child molestors

That's what I always thought! And you are probably right! But I was reading last night that 50% of child molestors admit that they have raped adult
women as well! I read that on a state government site for these issues.

hmmmm....and you've been together for 5 years? Sounds like your boyfriend has lost a sense of caring towards you.
Maybe your gut instinct, as you titled your thread is telling you that your relationship needs to be re-evaluated.

Check out laws about outing a nonce in your area, and if you're allowed, scare them out of the property by posting posters around a few blocks near
you stating who they are and what they did.

Notify the police you have nonces living near you and you fear for your own safety.

If there are schools near you or area's where kids congregate notify the police immediately, if a school is nearby contact the principal of that
school and make them aware of it.

At the end of the day, you're going to leave your boyfriend of 5 years because 2 strangers moved in nearby who turned out to be child molesters?

I'd first try to chase them off the property by notifying the landlord of their offences, by posting their information on flyers onto every
streetlight and noticeboard in a 3 block radius and notifying the police that they've moved near you.

If neither of those avenues work I'd have a serious discussion with my partner about moving area's.

And if he refuses to engage in discussion with you about it and you've tried all three steps then I'd move on my own.

a reply to: TruthJava
Good idea. Try to smile and laugh like it's casual conversation, to not arouse suspicion. You can also alert the police because there are laws in
most places that pedos are not allowed within a certain distance of families or schools.

I have never, ever heard that pedos targetted adult women, so i'm suspicious of your source. Many of them even lead double lives with completely
normal consensual wives who are unaware. Pedos are typically very passive/non-violent - though keep in mind that pedos were raped as children, so
their disorder can be co-morbid with psychopathy or personality disorders which cause them to be violent. But it seems rare. I don't honestly think
you're in danger. But the neighbourhood kids certainly are!!

Your BF's manager didn't let him know of this?
I believe in most places in the US anyway sex offenders can't live in regular apartments(odd they'd be there) and if they do move in managers have to
let you know and or if in a bigger place send around fliers.

And another question I have is this: exactly what are the odds that 2 guys, who both were child molestors, both in prison at the same time,
and both moved into the same town, the same apartment place, almost a 3 weeks apart or so? Isn't that strange? does this mean something? or am I just
so sick right now that my mind is playing tricks on me? Thanks in advance.

Tell him to contact the local city or county office about renting laws, etc.

edit on 28-6-2017 by dreamingawake because: (no reason given)

He might not call them and if he does or not, I agree with you, doesn't sound like a respectful BF anyway. You should come first in
safety.

I would move away, if you feel that your relationship has a chance, please talk about it seriously, no dear John letters..

But be warned.. Once upon a time, in a land far, far away, i had a good place to live, then i thought to myself, well it would be nice living a bit
closer to the city... That was ten years ago, since then, i have moved every three to four months, because of unbearable neighbors.

If you are uncomfortable and / or your instincts are flashing danger then leave.
No American citizen should have to pack heat in their own home for fear of their neighbors.
I don't care about statistics or opinions, this is about you and only you, and if you were my child and felt threatened you would be moving.
You can work on the relationship once you find somewhere to have peace of mind.

You know in your heart. Leave. Now. Go to a friends until you can find a place. Forget the advice to talk to anyone, including the police, about
what your plans are; cops will snitch and could accidently tell the molesters and then they will think you are after them-and they are criminals.

This is a bad situation with your boyfriend. He is not acting protective. After secretly and quietly moving out (do not share where you are going)
it will be a time for some serious talks. Maybe with a therapist. You don't mention love-maybe this relationship has taken its course. This is a
true test of where you both are feeling about each other.

After reading the thread, it sounds like you're just looking for that last straw. Something he did/won't do, to use an excuse to leave. If you want
out, go, but he can't control who moves in and unless you have plenty of money, finding a new place that quick is not easy.

To all that tell her to drop the BF because he is not protective? WTF is wrong with you - what should this guy do? Just kick in the door of those two
and shoot them in the face because his girlfriend could feel safer? Also you judge the 5 year boyfriend on two occasions that she told you where he
"wasn´t protective" (the passsing out story I don´t understand anyway ...what did you expect him to do - carry you or call an ambulance or what?
Usually cooling down out of the sun and then get back to your car should be absolutely ok imo...).

..this is so wierd. Instead of telling your boyfriend that you FEAR FOR YOUR LIVE and want to move you go online and ask complete strangers what they
would do and even tosed in if you should end the relationship over it? oO

FFS ... sorry to say that but you sound to me as if you are only looking for confirmation to justify something you already decided to do anyway.

And another question I have is this: exactly what are the odds that 2 guys, who both were child molestors, both in prison at the same time, and both
moved into the same town, the same apartment place, almost a 3 weeks apart or so? Isn't that strange? does this mean something? or am I just so sick
right now that my mind is playing tricks on me? Thanks in advance.

It's certainly strange...but still could be accidental. In any case...I would move if I were you.

I forgot to mention, I had kind of been considering leaving anyway (in the back of my mind), because I don't feel that he really treats me with enough
repsect.

then the case is closed. This is what's important...the previous comment just adds to that.

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