What’s your Superpower?

Earlier this month I had the opportunity to attend the Global GenesRARE Patient Advocacy Summit. It was a little surreal, I am used to introducing PACS1 as a “rare” syndrome and at this Summit we all were rare. We all had similar journeys and stories. From misdiagnosis to undiagnosed for years. The breakout sessions were beyond informative and I will add all that I learned to my Bridget toolbox.

Yet it was the Keynote Speaker Rachel Callander‘s words that have stayed with me. “What’s your child’s superpower?”. It reminded me of a blog post I had written in 2013. This time of year, more than any, I need that reminder.

We are entering IEP season. I seriously hate IEP season. For the lucky ones out there, the IEP (Individualized Education Plan) is when you enter the meeting room and there is a big conference table with a box of tissues on it. This is not your average parent/teacher conference. It is when you receive a 10-15 page report on your child by any specialist that sees them. It is when you are reminded, in black and white, that your child is not like the rest of the children in their class.

It is the annual ripping off of the band-aid. Yes, your child is included. Yes, they are making milestones in their own time. Yes, they are showing improvement.

But they are not “normal”. “Normal” parents do not have to schedule a 1-2 hour meeting every year to devise their child’s educational plan. “Normal” parents do not receive notice of testing, results of testing and the ongoing fight to make sure their child is receiving the services they need. “Normal” parents get to trust the cookie-cutter public or private school system. The IEP process is full of intimidating, second-guessing moments. It is seeing all of your child’s “flaws” and acknowledging them.

This is why we, as parents, have to start from a place of our child’s qualities and not their difficulties. Start from the positive, even at the vision statement. For example, instead of saying: “I would like Bridget to be a member of the community, with interactions with typical peers”. I need to say, “Bridget is beneficial to her community because she teaches kindness and empathy. Therefore, Bridget needs multiple opportunities to interact with her peers”.

I need to say:

Bridget loves to communicate, the team needs to continue to work on articulation so that there are less barriers for her. Instead of: Bridget needs to work on articulation.

Bridget is incredible at memorizing her mother’s phone number. We need to continue to provide opportunities for her to express this skill and maintain that memory.

Bridget loves Candy Land and is great at turn-taking. We need to expose Bridget to more games and opportunities to learn play-skills.

Bridget is an awesome dancer. During gym we need to show Bridget how to apply her dance moves to other activities.

The IEP doesn’t show who Bridget is as a person. Quite frankly if I was a new teacher looking at her accommodations I would think I was getting a child who was beyond my skill. This is why to use Rachel Callander’s words, I need to show them Bridget’s Super Powers. They need to see Bridget for the child she is, not for what the report portrays.

Bridget the Lover of Devil Dogs

The skill: Bridget can find a package of Devil Dogs in the grocery store in 3.2 minutes of arrival.

Bridget the Fashionista

The skill: Bridget dressed herself independently from sweatshirt to boots.

Bridget, the rower

The skill: Bridget went from learning to row to giving orders in one week.

Bridget, the Baker

The skill: Bridget can make a muffin in a cup, Mac & Cheese and a PB&J following visual clues.

Bridget, the Friend

The skill: Independently, Bridget takes the school bus with her peers.

Bridget, the Bug Killer

The skill: Bridget using her eye hand coordination skills to become a great bug zapper.

The skill: Too many to express. From killer dance moves to the sheer joy of expressions.

And that, my friends is Bridget’s #1 Super Power:

Her ability to bring us joy.

Bridget, the Giver of Joy and the Wonder of what is she thinking behind that devious smile.

I absolutely love this! Kiddo’s ARD to go over his his recent testing (which has to be done every three years through the school) and to amend his IEP (if needed) is in exactly two weeks. I don’t know why, but I am nervous. The school is fantastic and always so accommodating, they love Kiddo, and they want what is best for him … but I am still nervous. He has made tremendous progress over the last year, which is great, but it worries me that it might affect his services. The reason he is doing so well is because of those services; I can’t imagine what will happen if they are taken away. As for his super power? He picked out a shirt, in bright orange, last month with the words “Autism is my super power” on it. Enough said. 🙂

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