I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

Top 5 Fellatio Tricks Men Wish Women Would Try

For many men, a blow job is the holy grail of sex. They usually appreciate almost any effort women make to satisfy them orally (except biting). Nevertheless, men will admit that there are some techniques that make fellatio better that not all women do. That’s too bad because the techniques they mention for the most part are easy to do. It’s just that some women don’t know to do them. These are the top five fellatio tricks that men wish women would try.

1) Use your hands.

Again and again, men say that combining hands with mouth is what makes a blow job great. If you are under the mistaken impression that a blow job should not use hands, then your partner is missing out. The idea behind fellatio is to use a combination of licking, sucking and stroking to provide all the necessary stimulation to make your partner climax. Here are a few techniques that work quite well:

Up and down: This move is popular because it works. Use your mouth to get things slippery, wrap one hand around his shaft, and then move it up along with with your mouth also moving up and down.

Do the twist. This can be used with one or both hands. Combine licking and sucking with your mouth with a twisting and turning of the hand around his shaft.

Head only. Using a hand to stimulate the head between licks and sucks is a great way to bring his most sensitive spot to full arousal.

2) Lick his balls..

A man’s testicles are super sensitive and when you toucj, lick, or pull gently on them, it drives him wild! Whether you start with the balls, or alternate between the balls and the penis, the important thing is that you don’t forget that they are a part of his package and need attention.

3) Spit happens.

Don’t be afraid to give a sloppy blow job. Saliva is your friend during fellatio. The more the merrier. Lubrication makes everything – from licking to sucking to stroking – go more smoothly. He really won’t mind if you spit on his penis. A blow job is no time to be ladylike.

4) Be edgy.

Edging is a fantastic way to make a man’s orgasm more intense, but many women either do not know about it or do not know how to do it. Edging is the act of bringing a man near orgasm, backing off for a bit, and then starting to bring him close again. It is sometimes frustrating at first for the man being edged, and it sometimes takes some practice for women to learn how to properly edge their partners. Once this is mastered, however, the orgasm achieved from edging will be much more intense than any other type of orgasm.

5) Deep throat.

Some sex “experts” claim that men don’t really care about deep throating, but the truth is that every man would like his partner to at least try, and why not? It is instinctive for a man to want as much of his penis inside a woman as possible; plus, the tight sensation he feels as his penis slides into a woman’s throat is extremely pleasurable for him. My article Deep Throat: What It Is and How to Do It explains the basics of deep throating. If your gag reflex is a problem that you can’t seem to overcome, my article How to Deep Throat Without Gagging has some tips on that specifically. (By the way, the sound of you gagging is a turn-on for him. It makes him feel like he has a big penis – even if he doesn’t.)

If you are not doing any one these tricks, add them to your blow jobs right away. Edging and deep throating may take some practice to master, but just trying them will be exciting for your partner. The first three, though, don’t need any practice. Just do them and your partner will reap the rewards!

All women know that men LOVE oral sex, but not all women know how to do it properly. Giving good fellatio is NOT just about opening your mouth and bobbing up and down. To find out what every woman needs to know about giving her man oral pleasure, click here!