The SitePoint Forums have moved.

You can now find them here.
This forum is now closed to new posts, but you can browse existing content.
You can find out more information about the move and how to open a new account (if necessary) here.
If you get stuck you can get support by emailing forums@sitepoint.com

If this is your first visit, be sure to
check out the FAQ by clicking the
link above. You may have to register
before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages,
select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below.

Hoi all,
I am starting to work as freelancer slowly. But I see that I have lack of communication skill with clients. Are there any good source on the net or book that i can buy to improve my communication skills?
I know it will be better with experience but I dont wanna lose customer because of lack of communication.
By communication, I mean everything (emails, meetings,...)
after his/her request for website or just after his/her first question to get info.
Thanks

There are many good books and videos on presentation skills. Keep in mind however that smaller clients might be put off with the strict structured approach often used when dealing with larger clients.

Eventually you'll need to speak on the phone with the client. Speaking skills are extremely important. Too often people who write good emails seem to choke up on the phone. That more than anything can break a relationship.

There is quite a lot to client 'liason' but you are clever to recognise it's importance. As is the case with trying to learn anything subtle, nothing can replace practice, but I can give you a couple of hints I concentrate on.

In phone meetings:
- Never try to totally script your conversation. Phone calls never work like that, but DO lay your thoughts, questions, ideas, etc out on a big pad. I tend to have question marks, asterisks, underlines, scribbles and boxes spread out over the page. They will help to stop you from going blank if the conversation goes dead.

- Next time you're talking to a friend on the phone just step back a little and listen to how your voice sounds when it's relaxed and try to remember that sound. Often when we're a bit stressed we talk faster and at a higher pitch than we do normally. That tends to make both you and the client feel even more stressed, and the loop continues. If you can get the conversation off at your normal tone/speed it tends to remain there.

In face to face meeting:
- Obviously you don't need to arrive with top hat and tails, but don't try to be too cool and dress down (e.g. old t-shirts, baseball cap) for clients unless you're very, very good at what you do and the client knows it. Presenting yourself neatly is just showing the client you take this stuff seriously.

- If you have a presentable and knowledgable friend/mentor (or even two) you can bring along to assist - without embarassing both of you - then do it. They don't have to do anything other than attend the meetings and appear credible. It makes you appear like a team with access to a wider range of skills rather than just a guy in a room. Introduce them as 'Joe Bloggs, who helps you with some of the Project Management' or the databasing or whatever, but make sure they can hold their own. This CAN blow up in your face (it never has for me).

If your partner is convincing enough to hold their own in client conversation they can learn to jump in to save your backside when you start to flounder. That also diverts the attention away from you for a while, buying you some time to think. In a good team this works both ways, each member following, covering and backing up the other/s.

I probably should turn this into a full length article. There's a lot you can say on it.

I've found that the number one blunder is talking "above" the client. DO NOT SPEAK GEEK. Speak English, and IF your client starts tossing technical speak at you, then SLOWLY feel out their actual level of expertise. DO NOT baffle them with your incredible knowledge....they wouldn't be talking to you if they didn't think you knew what you were doing, your job is to convince them, in plain English, that you are the right person to make THEIR vision a reality, not YOUR IDEA of their vision.

Sometimes, after checking out your potential client's current site, there is an urge to show you know what you are doing by 'sinking the boot' into it. Things like "your current site hasn't even got anti-aliased graphics!" or "Nobody is using frames these days".

Resist this urge at all costs. It's very unprofessional. Try to find something complimentary AND sincere to say about it OR say nothing about it at all.

Chances are they are quite fond of their current site, but have simply out grown it. You will probably be talking to the person who built the site (or perhaps their dad), so attacking their 'pride and joy' is like like kicking their aged labrador. Not a good way to get brownie points.

Yes, you've got a good point there, this is somthing you'll only learn through experience.

Some point to add too, do follow-up, let your prospect know that you care for them, let your customers know what you have been doing for them and most likely you will be their first choice for the job. Remember, there are always more than one company eying for the job.