3. Why not offer Kim a golden parachute?

Why do we have to kill North Koreans or give into his blackmail? Why do we leave Kim and ourselves so little in the way of choices. What is Kim supposed to do? is he an evil autocrat that enjoys the suffering of his people? Is he really striving for complete control over everyone else there while at the same time giving up control of his own life, freedom to travel, freedom to voice different opinions, freedom to watch US movies, or attend sporting events, freedom to marry or divorce as he chooses? We know little of Kim and until we try to learn, we learn little that may help us. The president was criticised for being willing to negotiate but if he was serious , now is the time to stand up and explore alternatives which can only help the North Korean people in their wretched state. Lets make peace now if we can. Our pride should not demand the death of any North Korean not even Kim himself.
Lest anyone misunderstand, I am a WASP Vietnam combat veteran and have no Korean relatives.