Why Staying Together for the Kids is a Problem?

Why Staying Together for the Kids is a Problem?

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Law Office of Russell S. Hershkowitz, L.L.C.

Determining whether or not
divorce is the best solution to the marriage issues you’re experiencing
is never that simple. The truth is divorce is arguing one of the most
difficult decisions you have to make in your life because you’ve
invested years in building a family.

But does staying together for the sake of the children do more harm than
good? Unfortunately, if you decide to stick things out just for the kids,
you can expect to face several issues.

The following are some reasons why staying together for the children is
not a good idea:

Kids pick up more than their parents realize – Parents are not aware that children can still pick up the signs
of unhappiness. They can remember the days of silence and the bitter arguments
well into adulthood.

Kids are at risk of neglect – When parents are completely engulfed by their own issues, it could
result in physical and emotional neglect. For example, physical neglect
can come in the form of failing to parent because you’re so angry
with your spouse, while emotional neglect occurs when you individually
alienate your child from the other parent.

Kids will learn bad parenting skills – Parents who are unhappy with one another are actually teaching
their children how to act and behave in their own relationships as adults.
They will likely repeat the relationship patterns they have seen. Kids
learn what marriage is by observing your marriage, they learn how to be
a husband and wife, and they learn how to deal with conflict—whether
effectively or ineffectively.

Kids would prefer their parents separate rather than continue being married – According to a survey conducted by Resolution, 82 percent of adults
(between 14 and 22 years of age) who have experienced a divorce between
their parents would much rather their unhappy parents split up than remain
in an unhappy marriage. These young adults felt it was much better than
their parents called it quits.

For more information about Altamonte Springs divorce,
contact the Law Office of Russell S. Hershkowitz, L.L.C.today.