Happy, or Comfortable

“Are you really happy or just really comfortable?”

That question has popped up all over social media sites in the last few days. I think it is an excellent question.

I am not opposed to comfort, but when we get comfortable we are less likely to do things that really matter – things that make a difference. The Gospel message has always spread more when Christians were uncomfortable then when they were comfortable. In like fashion, most marriage growth comes during times of discomfort.

“The good is the enemy of the best.”

This is more or less the same idea. We reach a point we think is “good enough” and we get complacent. We become comfortable enough that we stop working to better things.

The real danger in this is that most things get worse unless we put in ongoing effort. If your job, your marriage, your sex life, or your golf game was “good enough” a year ago and you did nothing to work on it, that thing is now not as good as it was a year ago. The good enough standard tends to be a sliding scale that accepts less and less until it gets really bad.

Let me be blunt: Your marriage is not good enough. It may be good, it may even be great, but it can and should be better. The same is true for your sex life.