“Reasonable Discipline”

But what does the law in Washington really mean by “reasonably discipline”? Under Washington law, the physical discipline of a child is not against the law when it is “reasonable and moderate.” But what does “reasonable and moderate” mean? Couldn’t those broad guidelines mean different things to different people?

To provide further guidance, Washington law elaborates that physical discipline is reasonable and moderate when it is “inflicted by a parent, teacher, or guardian for purposes of restraining or correcting the child.” Physical punishment should be in direct response to a child’s disobedience or acting-out, rather than a blanket response to general bad behavior. Any person besides a parent, teacher, or guardian must be authorized in advance by the child’s parent or guardian to use reasonable, moderate force to correct or restrain the child when it is appropriate.

Washington’s law also provides a list of actions that are presumed to be unreasonable methods of disciplining a child, including:

throwing, kicking, burning, or cutting

striking a child with a closed fist

shaking a child under age three

choking or otherwise interfering with a child’s breathing

threatening a child with a deadly weapon

any other act that is likely to cause bodily harm greater than transient pain or minor temporary marks

What’s the difference between lawful corporal punishment and child abuse?

So if we know what going way too far looks like, but we also know that physical punishment is okay when it’s reasonably tailored to correct a child’s behavior, where is the line between discipline and abuse, and how can parents avoid crossing it?

The moral of the story is, yes, you are legally allowed as a parent to correctively spank your child. However, you must keep in mind (both for your sake as well as your child’s) that physical punishment should always be:

reasonable and moderate

inflicted by a parent, guardian, teacher, or someone with advance parental permission

intended to correct or restrain the child

If you find yourself facing child abuse allegations in response to perceptions about how you discipline your children, please contact the Marshall Defense Firm. We are compassionate, attentive, and experienced advocates who help parents in these difficult circumstances.