Sunday, 30 December 2012

“God allows us to experience the low
points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in any other
way. The way we learn those lessons is not to deny the feelings but to find the
meanings underlying them.” -Stanley
Lindquist

It’s unfortunate that suicides are
increasing at an alarming rate in India and especially in the South India with
Andhra Pradesh topping in number of suicides. It is sad to note that people
commit suicide on petty issues and especially Indian youth are committing more
on insignificant issues. Research reveals that next to road accidents it is the
suicides leading to loss of Indian youth. Most of the suicides would’ve been
averted if the youth were counseled properly and guided timely.Hence, I decided to address this problem
squarely as I’m passionate about my Indian youth.

Youth are often carried away by temporary
emotions and adopt short-cut to cut short their lives. They must realize that
God has given them life and He alone can take it. Some of the causes among the
youth are due to failure in love, academic pressure, poor performance, unable
to live up to parental expectations, and financial hardships.

Acquire
Emotional Quotient (EQ)

Life is full of ups and downs and
people must learn to balance their emotions and motivate their emotions
especially when they hit lows in their lives. If they exercise restraint and
hold positive thoughts for a few seconds they’ll be able to bounce back from
depression and stay motivated.When they
feel uncomfortable and are carried away by suicidal tendencies they must
consult doctors or share their inner feelings with their family members or
trusted friends to find comfort and come out with solutions.In this regard, people should understand
emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) where it’s a fivefold process of
identifying their emotions, managing their emotions, motivating their emotions,
identifying the emotions of others and managing them. When the affected people
find themselves in depression mode they must learn to manage and motivate their
emotions to come back to normalcy quickly.

Observe
Children

It’s observed that the people who’ve
suicidal tendencies demonstrate abnormal behavior, different mood levels and
often stay aloof from others.When
parents find such tendencies in their children they must spend some time with
their children to connect and create emotional stability.Parents must not put any pressure on their
children to score high grades and marks academically.It may result in feeling guilty or depressed
when they don’t perform well.Parents
must encourage competitive and collaborate spirit among their children to
enable them to compete and collaborate as per the situation.If children don’t perform well academically
they should be put in their passionate areas so that they can enjoy what they
like to do and grow in their lives.Parents must not compare their children with others as everyone is
unique in the world with unique gifts and talents.In addition, when they compare their children
with others they are insulting their children by downplaying their children’s’
unique strengths and gifts.Parents must
also monitor movements of their children and their friends with whom they move
closely to understand their pulse and act accordingly.

Take
Action

Here are a few steps to check suicidal
tendencies and bounce back from depression:

Set goals in your life. When you
set goals you can remove your negative thoughts and replace them with
positive thoughts.You can manage
your time and stay focused clearly on your goals to provide meaning to
your life.

Think positive and be positive
through your inner dialogue.We all
have inner dialogue wherein we talk to ourselves throughout the day.Set that dialogue tone positive to
become positive and behave positive.

Surround with positive
people.When you surround with
positive people you get positive vibes and grow like a healthy individual.

Hit gym regularly or do
meditation or go for a walk as it builds high energy levels and provides
you with a positive outlook towards life.

Talk to someone with whom you
feel comfortable when you hit lows.

Take meal regularly to fuel your
body constantly with energy and enthusiasm.

Read good books, magazines and
novels to acquire knowledge and build positive attitude.

Find out your passionate areas
and pursue your hobbies.When you
pursue them you enjoy your life fully and also build a network of
likeminded friends.

Have fun in life. Enjoy your present life without worrying
about the unpleasant past and the unpredictable future.

Consult psychiatrist when you hit
lows frequently to get timely help.

Enjoy your journey of life to
reach your final destination of success.

Above all, look at the door that
is opened, not the one that is closed.

Face
Challenges

Suicide is not the solution for
several problems in the world. If suicide
is the only solution we’ll find only dead bodies on the earth as all human
beings have problems. The truth is that
some people disclose their problems while some conceal their problems as
mindsets of the people are different.

It is rightly said, ‘when God solves
your problems, you have faith in his abilities….When He doesn’t solve your
problems, He has faith in your abilities…” Hence, face the challenges
head-on.When the going gets tough,
tough gets going.Life is incomplete
without peaks and valleys. Remember that
it’s the weak who commit suicide while the strong survive in the world. Hence,
be a strong person and face the battles in your life.

God has created you with some
purpose.You’ve only one life.Your role is to execute your tasks
effectively and leave this world a better place to live for others.Do your duties sincerely and always think of
contributing your best to make a difference in the lives of others.You’ve no right to take your life.No religion encourages suicide.Remember, it is a privilege to be born as a
human being.

"Count your blessings. Once you
realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles
will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally
be able to move forward in the life that God intended for you with grace,
strength, courage, and confidence." - Og Mandino

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Tuesday, 25 December 2012

"A dream is just a dream. A goal
is a dream with a plan and a deadline." - Harvey Mackay

Dear friend,

Happy Christmas and New Year – 2013!

As we are entering into a new year we
must set our goals in such a way that we will do the things in a different
manner to accomplish and achieve the impossible. When we do routine things
routinely we get routine results. In contrast, when we do things differently we
will achieve unique outcomes. Hence, from this year onwards let us change the
way we think, do and act to make the future better.

If you want to become a successful
professional in your area of interest you must invest 1,000 hours regularly. It
helps you establish and build your professional brand. Malcolm Gladwell, the
Author of Outliers rightly said, “People who thrive put in at least 1000 hours
of sustained, consistent training to reach their potential.” Hence, choose your
passionate area and then invest your precious time, energy and resources into
it for 1,000 hours and I am sure you will be an expert in your domain and an
authority in it.People look to you for
your guidance and advice and you grow as a leader.

Remember that if you invest for 10,000
hours in your passionate area (3 years approximately) consistently, you become
a regional celebrity. If you invest 20,000 hours (6 years approximately) you
become a national celebrity. If you invest for 30,000 hours (9 years
approximately) consistently you become an international celebrity.

Set SMART goals where SMART is the
acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound. Ensure
that you ink your goals and read daily twice after you get up from bed and
before you go to bed. Divide your goals into short-term and long-term goals and
align them without any contradiction.Keep moving forward by taking feedback regularly. One day you will find
yourself on the top of the world where everyone looks to you for your guidance
and you enjoy great respect.

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Monday, 24 December 2012

“When you are content to be simply
yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” - Lao Tzu

People often compare with others.They compare themselves to be like Bill
Gates, Richard Branson, Barack Obama or somebody else.They underestimate themselves and rarely
think of their hidden potential.At
times, it leads to dissatisfaction and depression. Sometimes they expect more
than what they want without looking at the pros and cons.Here goes the story of a beautiful horse that
wanted to be something else:

Once there was a beautiful horse.It wanted to look more attractive and beautiful.
It often felt bad that its legs were fat and neck was small. Hence, it prayed
to God to gift with a long neck and lean feet.God advised the horse to reconsider the request. The horse was adamant
and determined to have the desired appearance and stood by its request. God
provided the boon and horse looked like a camel with long neck and lean legs.
It felt very bad but could not help. In our real lives also, people are not
happy with what they have and they still crave more by comparing with others.

God created you with some purpose and
special appearance. Don’t try to become somebody else. Don’t compare with
others as comparing with others is an insult to you. Alen Strike rightly said,
“Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world.If you do so, you are insulting yourself.” Besides, people often confuse comparison with
inspiration as both are different. You can take inspiration from others but you
cannot compare with others. Remember that you have unique strengths, skills,
and abilities. Hence, be yourself and stand out!

“Everyone has his own specific
vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that
demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be
repeated, thus, everyone's task is unique as his specific opportunity to
implement it.” - Viktor E. Frankl

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About Me

Professor M.S.Rao, Ph.D. is the Father of ‘Soft Leadership’ and Founder of MSR Leadership Consultants, India. He is an International Leadership Guru and an internationally acclaimed leadership educator, executive coach, speaker, and consultant. He is a sought-after keynote speaker globally. He has 36 years of experience, and the author of 36 books including the award-winning ‘21 Success Sutras for CEOs’ URL: http://www.amazon.com/21-Success-Sutras-Ceos-Rao/dp/162865290X. His award-winning book 21 Success Sutras for Leaders URL: http://www.amazon.com/21-Success-Sutras-Leaders-ebook/dp/B00AK98ELI was ranked as one of the Top 10 Leadership Books of the Year – 2013 by San Diego University, USA URL: http://www.sandiego.edu/soles/departments/leadership-studies/thought-leadership/book-award.php. His award-winning book Success Tools for CEO Coaches: Be a Learner, Leader, and Ladder http://www.amazon.in/SUCCESS-COAHES-LEARNER-LEADER-LADDER/dp/9351102491 is the Community Award Winner for 2014 by Small Business Trends, USA. He is passionate about serving and making a difference in the lives of others. His vision is to build one million students as global leaders by 2030