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What's the antidote when a woman plays me hot and cold?

-Ron, Bend, OR

It depends on what kind of girl she is. A few of my friends are so reluctant to be seen as clingy or commitment hungry that they purposely play it cool when they meet a great guy. They'll return his calls and e-mails but won't contact him first. They'll be sweet on the phone but never too enthusiastic. The chilly facade breaks down only when they come face-to-face with the guy (especially after a glass or two of wine) and can't stop themselves from flirting like mad. So if your date is hot when she's with you, lukewarm when she's not, she might need positive feedback from you before she'll feel comfortable showing her true feelings. Tell her straight out that you enjoy spending time with her and want to see her again, and I'll bet she'll turn up the heat. As for the type of woman who doesn't call you back or gives you attitude for no reason, lose that bee-atch's number. You can do better.