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M is for Mediumship: The Truth About My Work as a Medium.

I have been serving as a medium for so long now that I feel I constantly live with one foot in physical reality, and one foot in another non-physical world. The title of ‘medium’ doesn’t mean much to me because the presence of a consciousness-based, non-physical reality is as much a part of my everyday life as the physical world we live in. My ability to communicate with non-physical people has influenced the way I live my life so greatly that to me, consideration of the non-physical is utterly natural and normal.

I have never really spoken about the exact process that I go through to connect with a person in Spirit. I have never explicitly offered the truth about how it all works…and that’s because I know whole-heartedly that I do not know the truth. What I know is my truth. I’d like to share my truth with you, and give you an honest and clear account of my experience with Spirit. It will make sense to some of you, and it will be nonsense to some of you, but it is what it is.

In a way, I chose the role of medium, and in a way, I did not. I keep choosing to be a medium in the sense that I keep doing it, but I also cannot fully explain how I got to the position where I can choose it. So I believe, on some level, that the experience of mediumship chose me. Just as any natural ability chooses any host, seemingly before birth.

Developing the ability to communicate with a person who is not in a physical body, is like developing the ability to paint a beautiful work of art whilst wearing a blindfold. Of course, it can be done, but it takes practice, trust, repetition and a subtle awareness beyond physical sight.

There is such an exchange of love that occurs through a strong mediumistic connection that each party involved wants to experience it again and again, like being in the company of someone who makes you feel really great. The love that is exchanged is nourishing to the person in Spirit, the medium and the recipient. The loving energy that travels between us is a Universal language- it is understood and experienced exactly the same for physical and non-physical people because it is the thread that connects us all. This beautiful exchange gives power to itself, propagating itself, thus creating the desire in all parties to repeat the experience. This repetition facilitates improvement in communicative capability for the communicator, the medium and the recipient, as each becomes more familiar with their role.

The more I choose to have love in my life- the more love I deliberately give, share, and receive- the better a medium I become. Practising love in my own life improves my understanding of the love shared between others: both physical and non-physical people. For me, appreciation of love is the fuel of the mediumistic connection. Love is the electricity that makes the communication possible.

I love every day, I give thanks every day and I make the presence of the spirit world a conscious and deliberate part of my life every day. When I get up on the platform, I have no idea who is going to come forward from Spirit, or what I’m going to say. That may seem terrifying, but I have spent all day, all week, all of my life, developing the trust that someone will be there. The moment on the platform is not the moment to lose that trust, it’s not fair on the people in Spirit who have shared themselves with me and therefore given me something to trust in the first place. I stand to speak – always nervous – I will often introduce myself, warming to the audience’s energy and getting a sense of their collective mind. As the energy builds and I adjust to their wavelength – and they to mine – I begin to get a sense of someone standing with me – a non-physical person- who arrives in a manner similar to ‘the sense of being stared at’, like an awareness of someone present behind me. Sometimes it’s a sudden feeling, sometimes it occurs to me slowly over seconds or even minutes. It’s at this time that I know that the collective beacon of energy that the audience and I are sending out has been successful in drawing people from Spirit towards us, and that people in the non-physical world have been able to use our collective energy (from our presence, our bodies, our prayers, laughter and singing) to take on a strength of form that can impress upon my consciousness. This ‘impression’ is a whole-istic experience for me. I often get a sense of the person standing at my shoulder: their age, height, build and gender. I may feel a sensation on my body indicative of how they died. They may place an object into my hand or instill a particular emotion into my heart. I may see a scene in my imagination relevant to them, or to you, the recipient. I don’t know for sure, but I believe from years of experience, that the blend of my energy with the energy of the person in Spirit creates differing mediumistic expressions, by its uniqueness. I believe that this energy is electromagnetic, active on levels quantum and smaller, and that this energy is inter-dimensional, although I do not have the ability to prove this – I don’t think any of us do, just yet. I believe in the scientific method and open-minded experimental endeavour and I believe that it will eventually provide us with the answers.

As your loved one comes closer to me, your acknowledgement and love continues to fuel the experience. Your loved one will search through the filing cabinets of my consciousness, looking for information, searching for things to point out, names that I know, places that I have been, experiences that I have had, in order to help me put their essence across in the truest way possible, and I try my best to interpret (or not), explain (or not) and understand (or not) as they direct me. Sometimes I totally get what they are trying to say, and sometimes I don’t- just as is true with a communication with any physical person.

When the communication is drawing to a close, I feel the person’s energy begin to wane, like losing a mobile phone signal or becoming distracted.

And that’s it. When the session of communication is over, I thank you, I thank your loved ones who reside in the Spiritual world and I go home. To me, mediumship is both the most magical experience, and the most mundane. Both extraordinary, and incredibly ordinary. Both interesting through a spiritual lens, and a scientific one, where love takes on the form of energy, and energy, the form of love.

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Do you wonder if people in Spirit can see you in the loo? Do you wonder if you have to pick who to spend eternity with when you die? Do you wonder what happens to skeptics/religious people when they die? Do you have a burning question about mediumship that you simply must ask? Ask your mediumship-related questions in a comment and I will do my humble and limited best to answer them…