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If she gives you a BJ, and you cum, then she's probably feel really good about her BJ skills. Also - I find BJs are good warm up - I last much longer if the girl gives me a BJ before hand.

Just don't tell her! Male virginity doesn't mean shit! It's not the same thing as female virginity. Don't tell her now, and don't tell her after.
if she asks (how many people have you slept with), you could tell her then. But it's just not a big deal. By telling her, you'd just be providing reason to make things more complicated than they need to be.

I just don't wanna come after 2 min and look like a complete loser/virgin. Anyone have any advice or tips for making the first time a good experience rather than the embarrassment that most guys talk about?

Maybe I suck, but hell this happens to me sometimes. Just don't worry about it! Keep acting like a man. Get what you want out of the sex.
I think if you can get her to make you come from a bj first, it's pretty good. THen round two will be much better.

I disagree with the don't do oral thing - more important to just have fun at the time and not think about anything except that. Also admitting to being a virgin before sex if she's not asking - shouldn't bring it up.

Everyone's "recovery time" is different. Some people can shoot a load 5 times in one night. Some are lucky if they get one out.

I never said don't receive oral, I said don't try to give oral big difference. He's a virgin so, he's already not really comfortable at sex, I suggest to him not to try to go down on her because he's not there yet and it's a tricky thing for those who are not at all familiar with it. He already has to worry about performance so why add the pressure of giving HER oral to that? If she wants to give him a BJ, then by all means he should be thankful and take it.

Just focus on sex...don't worry about all that just yet. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Take your time, focus on doing the basic and do them right. There's lots of things you two can do togheter and that she might teach you later on, but for now just stick to the basics...you're gonna put too much pressure on yourself and end up blowing it. The first time doesn't have to be sensational, it just has to be decent.

I know how you feel but just focus on one thing...having sex and losing your virginity. It's also entirely possible that you won't be able to cum at all.

It's normal to overanalyse things when it's ur first time. I've had sex with 3 women in my life. I've had sex much more than 3 times but i still get nervous, the difference is i am confident in my experience. You don't have experience, so it's normal to want everything to be perfect. But remember that it takes 2 peoplw to have sex, she has as big of a role to play in making this a good experience for you as you do for her, and she might also be nervous, just try to relax and enjoy yourself. Take deep breaths and if you feel you're close try to distract yourself.

She prob. hasn't had anyone who knew how to give her oral. As far as techniques, just take it easy on her and have her guide your hand on how fast she likes it. Don't ask her if you're doing it right though. The less questions you ask, the better. You're not going to find her G-spot on first try, not until you get familiar with her body.

The worst thing is when a girl makes you guess how she likes it, or if you ask her if she's enjoying it, she goes "I think so". All that tells me is that she doesn't even know what she wants. We're not mind readers. If she talks about how she likes it and shows you, you're with someone who knows their body really well.

Originally Posted by Gfrigo

Thanks for clearing things up. All the advice has been great so far.

One big thing she mentioned to me was she thinks oral feels weird when she's receiving it.

But she loves getting fingered and having her G spot stimulated. Anyone have any tips for that?

I've been looking up techniques for fingering and finding the G spot, but if anyone has anything that's good I'll be glad to hear it.

A good girl will let you know when she likes it and when it's too hard, not at the right spot, or when she wants you to do something. I like women who communicate in bed and tell you when they really like something so you can keep doing it. But I repeat my advice, stick to the basics for now...worry about the rest later.