The pursuit of happiness seems to be the goal of the 21st century. In this fast age of emails, planes, visits to Pluto and Terminator sequels, we all strive for the same thing: to be content and satisfied at the end of the day. Despite our sincerest desire, we’re still figuring things out as we go. So far, we’ve got “Money don’t buy happiness” – that is if you don’t know where to shop – and “Happiness is just a moment before you need more happiness”. To debunk the impossibility myth, we’ve gathered 12 tips that will help you get one step closer to a happy life. Here’s our 12 steps recipe for a delicious happy life!

1. Buying everything on the internet won’t make you happy

Yes, those Louboutins look appealing and you’d like to pick up golf so you definitely need a set of golf clubs, but before you know it, you’ll end up as a hoarder. Just remember that less is more, and at the end of the day, people matter more than a pair of shoes, and the emphasis should be on gratitude.

2. Shoulda, woulda, coulda

Recent studies point out that using “should” is actually putting a dent in your motivation and your ability to make this happen. Instead, replace it with “I would like to” for a boost in your willpower. It won’t be long before you start noticing your energy levels go up.

3. Get rid of the ANTs

We’re talking about the Automatic Negative Thoughts. More specifically, that voice in your head that keeps telling you you can’t do this or that, that you’ll fail miserably. By simply changing these thoughts and channeling your focus to things that really matter, you can become a new person.

4. Eyes up front

We usually dismiss saying positive things out loud, but they can be more powerful than you’ve ever imagined. Try to shift your point of view to the enjoyable things in your life. It doesn’t have to be anything big: just appreciate a good salad or a sunny day.

5. Ask for a helping hand

Don’t get stuck in the stereotype that you have to be cuckoo to see a therapist. Pluck up the courage to go and see someone if you feel overwhelmed. You’ll be amazed at how good it feels to find a sympathetic ear and discover new perspectives.

6. What happens at work stays at work

Make sure to clearly delineate your work stuff from your home stuff. Ideally, work at full capacity at your job and don’t feel guilty when you get home. Draw yourself a bath and relax!

7. Put that phone down!

Yes, it’s tempting to see what your BFF’s latest holiday pictures on Facebook, but time spent on social media should be limited. Otherwise, you risk increasing your levels of distress and losing your concentration power.

8. Go out with your friends

Don’t sacrifice your friendships for anything in the world! Having the people you like around you is essential for a happy life, so make sure to keep them close and invite them over your place from time to time.

9. From To-Dos to I-Dids

Make it happen, whether it’s going on a bike ride or taking your parents to Italy for their anniversary. Having something to look forward to will boost your happiness and will give you a reason to get out of bed in the mornings.

10. Self care above all

Loving yourself shouldn’t be frowned upon or ignored. Go ahead and treat yourself from time to time. Pamper yourself without feeling remorse and be content in your own skin. You can’t expect others to enjoy your company if you don’t.

11. Mens sana in corpore sano

Consider parking your car a bit further from your office block or even get off the bus a station before you reach your house. And if you’re a bit more ambitious, two to three runs a week will pump some much needed endorphins into your life to keep you smiling at all times.

12. Everything is OK

Go ahead and get a poster that says “Everything is OK” because this should be in the back of your mind at all times. Even though you feel you’re in over your head with problems, take a deep breath and start jotting down solutions instead of focusing on the bad stuff.