SRS You know... I just want to say...

But I've put so much money into helping her get back on her feet (it's been a year, and it just now seems like it might happen) that I only stick it out because I need to see a return. I could've bought the new computer I need, probably could've been back in school by now too and then some...

But I can barely stand being around her and deal with her typical and manipulative blond attitude. I don't know what to do. I had a pretty good (maybe too good) childhood growing up and some might say I should just shut the fuck and deal with it until she's back on her feet because of that...

I don't know what to do. Just ask her to stop talking to me? Or stick it out until she's back on her feet and hope I get a return?

I figured this is how the responses would go... I know it makes me look really immature. I'm already in a horrible position as far as my future is concerned and helping out my Mother for the past year is making it worse. It's been a god damn year.

It just seems like she's never going to be where she was... Something always goes wrong...

How much did you give her? Do you really need the money back that badly? If my mom was in financial trouble I'd give her whatever she needed and more and not expect a dime back.

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I don't want her to hand me over a check in the future. I just want her to help me when she's back on her feet but I don't see her ever getting in a position to do that... So, in addition to the two years of my life I've wasted, another year was spent helping her and I'm not on a good path right now, so it all counts...

I figured this is how the responses would go... I know it makes me look really immature. I'm already in a horrible position as far as my future is concerned and helping out my Mother for the past year is making it worse. It's been a god damn year.

It just seems like she's never going to be where she was... Something always goes wrong...

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Wait...so you put time limits on how long people "should" take to get back on their feet?? Great

When my mom needs help, I jump in and help. When my step dad passed away, I had to spend many, many hours with my mom because she was so sad and depressed. I was also a full time student in CS and needed a lot of study time so it wasn't easy.

It took much longer than I would have liked but I never put pressure on her to "get over it" or anything else like that. I just helped her with the problems she had and tried to show her a better way.

She's doing great now. Perhaps your problem is that you are blaming your mom when you should be blaming yourself. It sounds like you were fucking up long before your mom needed help....so blame yourself.

You also sound kinda spoiled....like if you don't get what you want when you want it, you're going to be pissed. Well as they say, "Life happens while we're busy making other plans." Give your mom a break.....a HUGE mother fucking break!! She's your mom and she's the only one you'll ever have. Guess what....one day she'll be dead and gone and you'll quite possibly wish you had spent more time with her.

Wait...so you put time limits on how long people "should" take to get back on their feet?? Great

When my mom needs help, I jump in and help. When my step dad passed away, I had to spend many, many hours with my mom because she was so sad and depressed. I was also a full time student in CS and needed a lot of study time so it wasn't easy.

It took much longer than I would have liked but I never put pressure on her to "get over it" or anything else like that. I just helped her with the problems she had and tried to show her a better way.

She's doing great now. Perhaps your problem is that you are blaming your mom when you should be blaming yourself. It sounds like you were fucking up long before your mom needed help....so blame yourself.

You also sound kinda spoiled....like if you don't get what you want when you want it, you're going to be pissed. Well as they say, "Life happens while we're busy making other plans." Give your mom a break.....a HUGE mother fucking break!! She's your mom and she's the only one you'll ever have. Guess what....one day she'll be dead and gone and you'll quite possibly wish you had spent more time with her.