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HOW DO YOU HANDLE BREAK-UPS?

Relationships don’t always have the ‘Cinderella’ happy ending even when we make the best efforts and give it our all. No matter how much we try to make things work out, at the end of the day, we are left with pain.

I recall a time in my life when I got really depressed after a breakup and I was forced to seek counseling. I know what you are thinking (wasn’t it just a break-up?) Well, we were talking marriage, but genotype incompatibility wouldn’t let us go ahead with our plans. He was everything and I couldn’t have him. I found it difficult to wrap my fingers around that.

Naturally, one of the toughest things for me to do is to say goodbye to someone I really care about and handling breakups is a school of hard knocks, I should really work on this. I conducted a minor survey among some ladies on how they handle breakups, their responses are grouped under two category

Boy Bye:

The ladies under this category said once there’s a split, they immediately grow a thick skin for the pain that comes with it and turn off that mental switch that could make them miss their Ex. They are on a clean slate again and they will easily rock the single life, party or better still stay hydrated and make their skin glow and pop because life is too short to dwell on stuff like that.

Goodbye ain’t Goodbye:

This set people believe there’s a part of their Ex that will always belong to them, so they lurk around and once in a while pop in to say “ooh hello there”. They think they can eventually become friends and keep such Ex as a confidante.

Which of the groups do you belong? Can we really be friends with our Exes? And how easy will it be to keep emotions out of such friendships?