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If you've been reading, then you know Friday night was my birthday, and let me tell you it was crazy!

My friends and I tend to go to the same couple of places when we go out (as I think pretty much everyone does) because we dig the atmosphere of the venues and we know a lot of people in those places. So instead I decided that we were going to go to EVERY bar possible. Obviously this spells out an awesomely long night (and an excruciating next morning at work)

Starting out we went to the dive places and just had one or two drinks and moved on. This saved the bars we were more interested in going to for later in the evening where we would want to stay at longer. Once we got to places where we knew people was when the trouble happens -- cocktail waitresses started bringing us drinks and shots faster than we could keep up....and we were pounding through them. Now, I only did a few sets that night, simply because I knew I'd be a drunken mess, but I did manage to get a number from this smoking hot girl.

We've seen each other a couple times, but I've never approached her. I remember the first time I saw her, she was wearing a skinny black dress and I literally watched about 20 different guys try and hit on her that night. Anyways, back to my birthday, I am talking to the cocktail waitresses (woo social proof) and the black dress girl literally comes up mid conversation and says "I've seen you before and we've never met!" in a somewhat bratty tone. I just give her a look like "who the hell are you" and she starts talking about how she heard it was my birthday blah blah. Being pretty drunk at this point and wanting to get to the highest number of bars, I kept the conversation short saying that we were going to every bar that night, but for her to give me her number and she can come out sometime.

Next we went to an irish pub where my friend I used to work with is working at now. (Un?)fortunately for me, there were 3 dollar car bombs that night. After already doing at least 3 or 4 jager bombs, this was a horrible idea. I don't remember staying there long, but it could have just been my drunken memory failing me.

After that bar, things are pretty unclear....I woke up in the morning with a flask of whiskey next to me (I didn't bring one), no pants on, smelling like stripper, and glitter all over me. I remember telling a couple of the girls that came out for my birthday that I've only been to strip clubs on my birthday and that they told me they've never been, so I guess we kept up with my tradition and introduced them to strip clubs. We didn't get to every bar, but I think we got about 13 different ones....so we did some damage.

Opening day for the Rockies was today, so a bunch of us got a keg, food, played games, and partied all day! This is a pretty short post, but today was one of those days where you realize the progress that you've made. It's pretty easy to get discouraged sometimes and think that you haven't made any changes, but every so often you'll look back in retrospect and see all the achievements you've made. I had one of those today where I think back to late 2010/2011 when I finally decided that I was going to make a change in this area of my life. Before this time, I had a few small attempts at trying this stuff with no real success, and I hate to admit it, but really was just a keyboard jockey. Today I noticed how different of a person I am at a fundamental level. I think this version of me has always been there, but only been able to appear around (the very few) extremely close friends, while I hid it from everyone else thinking it was socially unacceptable, thus distancing myself.

Anyways, I digress. It was mostly people I work with at this party, but there were a couple girls who, while all were in relationships with a couple of my friends there, totally loved me even though this was the first time we've met. I made such an impression that one of the girls wants me to go on a date with her sister, who is totally hot and trying to become an actress. She is in LA right now, but I ended up talking to her on the phone for a bit and set up plans for when she gets back. Sometimes I'm really lazy (like when I drink a lot of beer and am in the sun for hours upon end) so having other girls get me dates is awesome.

Now that I've taken a long enough break from homework, I'm back to the books. Hope anyone who is following this gets some kind of enjoyment whether it be at my expense or legitimate interest, haha!

Even though it's still a job, about 95% of the time I love mine! I bartend at a restaurant which is something I've always wanted to learn how to do, and even though I could be making almost double if I worked at a night bar in a popular location, I don't want to leave my job. I can still go to school, work, pay all my bills, and still have enough time to have a social life.

Probably one of the best things is that it is really easy to flirt with girls at my job and usually I am slightly flirty, but nothing too hard just because I am pretty fond of the old adage "don't shit where you eat." Yesterday was one of my exceptions though -- it was about 3 pm, REALLY dead, so my friend and I were just messing around while he was doing his outwork. These three girls come in and 2 of them are gorgeous. They seem pretty bubbly in the first place, which was perfect because I was bored off my ass so I at least had this table to flirt with.

Now most of my game initially relies on a shit ton of teasing and push pull. I didn't really plan on it being like that, but that's just how I turned out. So most of the beginning was just me teasing them slightly and noticing the blonde girl was really receptive. I decided that I want a number on this table, so I turn the obnoxious version of me on. Now one thing I won't ever do is ask for a number at my job -- just because it seems very unprofessional to me -- but after enough practice you can increase the odds of a number. So at the end of the meal they start asking me where I live, if I party, how old I am etc, and I know that this is game over. They eventually leave and on the table are all 3 of their numbers with some silly notes like "You're so fucking sexi" "We want you" and "Text us" They are having a party friday so we'll see where it goes.

On a side note, I ran yesterday for the first time in a long ass time. I ran a 10 K last year and rocked it pretty well, but kind of went downhill with my exercise since then. I ran a mile and a half and it KILLED me. Fuck I'm out of shape. Also my friend and I went to black hawk last night, to brush up on our card skills since I'm going to vegas in exactly a month (FUCK YEAH) and needless to say we were losing pretty bad. We both lost about 60 bucks right off the bat, then took a break for some dinner and beer. We came back to blackjack and won about 20 back after a half hour of struggle. I was ready to walk away with only losing 40 and he had lost 25, but we have a motto that when we go we bring a $100 and either walk away with money, or leave with nothing. Since it was getting kind of late, we decided to each put all our money on Red in Roulette....and we won! HAhaha I've never played roulette because I can't control anything, but it was pretty funny having my heartbeat go quickly and then leaving with $120.

Last night was a pretty short night. I went out early after a day of work and school work, so I was pretty exhausted. A couple friends went to the rockies game and I headed downtown after to meet them for a couple drinks. When I got there they were outside just chilling and having a couple drinks. One of my friends is trashed by this time after drinking at the game all day, but my other friend is coherent enough. I see these two girls close to us playing giant jenga and I look over at one of them and we make eye contact. She is giving me the fuck me eyes and wags her finger at me in a "no-no" fashion. It's on. I walk over to her and use Cajun's classic line "You can't look at me like that and not say anything" My coherent friend and I end up playing them in Jenga for a couple games and we decide that the losers must buy shots for everyone. After a couple games in the fuck me eyes girl pulls out a jenga piece that says "show me your tits" which was written by someone in the past. Regardless of this, she does it anyway, mostly to prove the point that she has her nipples pierced. After this she ends up trying to play the whole game by removing all the pieces with just her tits. These girls ended up leaving pretty abruptly so no phone numbers, but I was ok with it haha.

When we were about to leave, my friends saw these two girls that they were talking to earlier in the night. I wasn't there so I just listened to their conversation, but it made me laugh really hard. One of the girls and my drunk friend had seemed to be vibing well, so when we mentioned we were headed out, my sober friend said something along the lines of "you should give him your number" to which she replied "I don't have one" This is where I had to say something, just because I like to be a dick sometimes and call girls out on their shit. So I'm like "what do you use, pay phones all the time?" and start laughing. This makes her respond by saying she has a boyfriend, but wanted to be nice to my friend. I tell her that it's more retarded to make up excuses, especially ones as lame as "I don't have a phone number" Maybe she did have a boyfriend, or maybe she was still lying, but girls come up with the most retarded excuses.

Anyways, I have work today and am supposed to go to a party with those girls who I got numbers from a couple days ago. I also planned a date with a hot girl from okcupid for tonight too. Keep you guys updated!

Last night I got off work too late to go on the date with the girl from okcupid, but she said she wanted to hang out so I'll probably reschedule. The problem is she's only 20, so I can't take her anyway I'd actually want to go. I also kind of blew it with those girls from the other night because the one that was most in to me isn't the one I wanted and I kind of made that clear, and the other 2 friends were doing the friend thing and backing off. I probably could have made something happen if I went to the party, but it would have been a hassle.

Instead me and a couple friends went out for sushi, then partied HARD! Right before I left to go to dinner, I was talking with this girl on OKCupid -- it was a pretty short interaction with only like 2 or 3 messages for each, and since I was rushed I pushed for the number close pretty quickly since I was about to leave. My messages were all pretty retarded and attraction based, so it worked. She ended up texting me a few minutes later and I had talked to her for a little while. I've said it before, but the great thing about OkCupid is it's basically all numbers and interactions you can practice with and not care. A lot of guys, including me sometimes, have this "what do I say next" after they deliver their opener (this is talking about real life approaches by the way) but the beauty of online, is that you can think about your messages for a little bit, which definitely will help you in real life.

This interaction with her was basically all textbook stuff with some very "stock" lines and that I went through the emotional progression model correctly. Some stuff I would consider textbook, in case anyone wants examples, would be like "What's your ethnicitiy? You have an interesting look" and 99% of the time they'll ask interesting in a good or bad way? and I'll usually reply with "Interesting in a good way -- by interesting I mean "sexy look" I just didn't want to be that forward so soon." (Actually out of Cajun's ebook) Also used the classic "So you're a nurse (she is) you must be super caring! That's awesome" Normally I wouldn't do that much through text game, mostly because it's easy to get bored and I really think using text is more to keep interest, but since we met online this basically counts as our interaction.

But my favorite part of talking to her (besides finding out how much of a freak she is) is this short text exchange early on in our conversation:
Her: (talking about her ethnicity before) I'm latin so I tan super easy
Me: Me too! We had a BBQ for opening day monday and I was outside for like 6 hours and now I look super mexi
Her: You have a mexi stache? Because THAT would be epically awesome.
Me: Haha, it's slightly mexi, but completely awesome. My goal is porn star mustache.
Her: I must say, I'm pretty jealous of your life.

Didn't do anything last night. I just wanted a night to unwind and be a lazy piece of shit, which is exactly what I did! It was great. Had a girl text me wanting to come over at 1130, but I told her tomorrow night. Finally caught up on some reading that I wanted to do and watched some shows on netflix. Mission lazy: completed.

Got a text tonight from a MILF that I had a class with a year ago wanting to take me to see Tom Petty tomorrow night (fuck yeah!) When I met her, I was just becoming serious about this stuff, so my game was pretty horrible, but I ended up getting her number and staying in contact with her every once in a while. I've sent a couple of ping texts out to her recently due to her birthday and have had some short conversations over text and facebook with her being much more responsive before. Gonna see where I can take this tomorrow night and will let you guys know! She is 36, so this will be my oldest woman I've been with if it happens. Wish me luck!

Today one of my regulars came in to work who I don't see very often anymore. She too is a super hot mom (today must be MILF day) and I talked to her for a while. She wants to introduce me to her daughter who is also way hot! In fantasy world this equals mother daughter three way hahaha.

Been working a lot of school projects, so I haven't been going out as often as I usually do, but once I get out of this sea of homework, I promise to bring some crazy stories back to you guys.

Last night we ended up going out for a bite to eat before the show. The place we went to was pretty nice and since we were outside on the patio basically alone I wanted to work on some sexualization since, it being a dinner date at this point, there was hardly no room for kino. I remember talking about how mellow she is not and how I can't picture her being wild ever and, just as I wanted, she started talking about how she used to party hard etc. I remember at one point we were talking about sex drives and I say that hers is peaking right now and she tells me "oh you know even know" and looks up and to the left. I ask her what she was thinking about (up and to the left is usually someone recalling a memory) and she is like "you're gonna make me blush!" and punches my arm. So I feel this goal was accomplished pretty well, but I still want to practice it more.

It was a good sequence going from the beginning of the night to the end. Initially, she was kind of distant, with little or no kino and talking about very surface topics. So starting out with some teasing and then the sexualization at dinner, it lead to a better interaction. The show was obviously the best area for kino, but little talking (especially because I can't hear for shit -- too much playing loud music in small basements when I was younger) so that's what I focused on doing there...other than watching the awesome Tom Petty! When we finally left and I was dropping her off at her place she invited me in for a little bit, but I felt that the momentum built from dinner had dwindled for the most part, so it would be a lot of work to get anywhere with her and I have school early today, so I ended up leaving.

I am satisfied with the results simply because I need to work on my date game now that I am consistently getting numbers. Plus, it's thursday night and I will probably have time for shenanigans tonight. WOOOOOOO!

So pretty uneventful past couple of days for me, which isn't really how I planned the weekend going, but it's alright. However, I did read a post on braddock's blog this weekend that I really relate with and wanted to share with you guys. You guys can find it here: http://www.braddocksblog.com/ and it's Daxx's first post, but just in case you're fucking lazy, I'll post it here too!

So where I left off, for women that want to know how to steal my heart…

1. Be hot as fuck, to the point I stare at you every morning and can’t wait for you to get back in bed with me. #1 is the most important point of all. I’m not going to tell you how to do that.
2. Never cheat. Be loyal. Be a woman. Have great female energy. Be the girliest girl ever.
3. Have great boundaries, but not psycho. Keep me hooked, but not jealous. Keep me guessing, but not where I don’t know my next turn.
4. Don’t ask me why I need to get out of bed at 5.49am to reply to an email/go for a run/go find Jet Li & kick his ass, don’t ask me these things, just admire it & be my #1 supporter.

To be a man’s true love, be his #1 fan. You see the good in him in every situation.

If he gets too drunk & starts a brawl, you understand the other guy was staring at him weird. If he has tried his heart out in his business, failed & failed, and failed some more, and is still going, you have nothing but belief in him prevailing.

Whatever the scenario, you are his #1 fan, #1 supporter, and you never ever show disbelief or weakness in being his #1 fan.

We all want significance, and even when I know it, there’s nothing I can do about it to defy it.

Signify me, it’s that simple.

It’s the reason we hurt after a Breakup, it’s the reason we hurt before a relationship.

We all want significance. If there’s an area in life you’re hurting, it’s because you aren’t significant in it. Whatever area, whether it be social, financial, physical, even in social circles, if you aren’t significant, you feel pain.

But don’t fight the pain. Feel it. It’s that pain that will make you take action & change the circumstance to make you significant. Don’t ask “why aren’t I significant”, ask “how do I become significant”. It’s all in the questions we ask.

When a man truly loves you, you have a power very few people in this world hold. There’s nothing more powerful than the strength a woman holds in a man that is built from his love for her. For me to get this hooked, it takes all of the above, and mainly it takes a great sense of vision from the woman in what someone’s becoming. A vision of the potential someone has.

Weird post, for guys & girls. I may be wasted, but good shit pours out of my mouth when that’s the case, so there you go.

I’m off to go get some work done & start the day.

Kev a.k.a Daxx

P.s. I don’t know when or if I’ll get married, but when I do, I know the chick will need to understand all of what I just wrote. I know a very small % of guys out there who read this will get where I’m venting from.

P.P.s. Drinks up to the guys holding out for nothing less than the best, and not stopping until you get there. Keep going at it fellas -Daxx

I think as you start having more dating options, you realize that this is a huge priority. You meet enough people and you actually are able to make choices about who's in your life, instead of holding on to that one girl just because she gives you attention back.