I have found a lot of great resources online concerning Paranoid Personality Disorder. However, nothing addresses how or why someone becomes a target for their suspicions. Why me when she seems to have a few people around whom she maintains at least a superficial friendship with?

I had a friend. Things were okay for a while. She told me things about herself, like about an alleged rape, things that seemed to me indicated that she wanted my caring and concern. However, the moment I expressed concern, things changed.

She became very suspicious of me. Then oddly distant one moment, and then telling me something else personal the next. Hateful one moment, friendly the next. Then the lies started- she told authorities I was stalking and harassing her (HUH?!) There has been some police involvement off and on for a year now! I rarely run across her path (perhaps 8 or 9 times since last January) but when I do--she calls the police in a panic and tells them that I am following her and looking at her and walking around her house at night. I am sure if you are reading this, you know the story.

I am not sure what will happen next with her-- I have heard mention that she is trying to initiate a civil lawsuit but thus far (since she has no grounds) she hasn't been successful.

However, out of curiousity, and in the spirit of educating myself as much as possible about this disorder, I am trying to understand how and why I became a target and what I can expect next. Will she ever leave me alone? Is there something I did (I don't blame myself, again, just curious about why certain people get caught-up with these folks and others don't.)

Please feel free to toss in your thoughts or questions. Since this is ongoing and sort of in the thick of things, I would love to hear as much as I can as soon as I can. Thanks in advance!

hi not sure if i can offer alot of advice but just wanted to say i feel for your situation. my experience of pople with ppd is that thy do seem to lash out on those who care the most they become suspius in the carers incentives, partly becuase the attention to them they mispericive as a treat it can be hard for those to build relationships up with them, it sounds like you have tried to stick by her. i think she confuses your intensions not becuase there yours but becuase they are there.
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