And yet, the book was accessible, readable, and had some good points. Baumgardner talks about bi women coming into hetero relationships with queer expectations and thus being able to obtain a more egalitarian relationship structure. Farrar, Straus and Giroux, However, Baumgarder admits many of her own mistakes including a lack of perspective in dealing with both men and women - a candor which I appreciated. Would you also like to submit a review for this item? Marketing it as more of a memoir would have been a more accurate representation of the writing in the book.