“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keepng, and then with the breath of kindness throw the rest away.”- Dinah Mulock Craik

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A Woman’s Ways: The Values and Practices of Women’s Spirituality

“Women’s spirituality” is the cultivated awareness of God as Divine Mother, immanent (within) the natural world and our own selves. It is the consciousness of the interconnectedness of all things within one web of life. It honors the sacredness of all of life’s passages from birth through death, including the important initiations contained in a woman’s fertility cycle.”

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“Husband Disappointment is a miserable condition identified by it’s low-grade fever of chronic resentment, anger, and sadness. Women in the grip of this disease display a tendency to sigh and roll their eyes and mutter caustic remarks about their partner’s character. As the problem worsens, they feel stuck in a mediocre life because of the mate they are with, and they start to lose respect for themselves as they lose respect for him. Worse yet, a woman with an advanced case of Husband Disappointment lives a shadowy existence — numb, depressed, and void of vision — she becomes crippled with helplessness and blame. She is lost from who she is, and the dream of who she wants to be in her fullest potential.

A study done by xxxx in xxxx claims that fully 80% of women interviewed said that if they knew everything they know now at the time they got married, they probably wouldn’t do it over again. This high statistic indicates that this form of emotional discontent with our marriage is practically a norm for married women. And yet most of us are not going to get a divorce because of the inevitable pain and chaos that accompanies divorce. Some women live with their husbands in a state of alienation and resentment for decades! We’ve all seen it, and it’s not pretty. Not all of us are seriously ill with Husband Disappointment, but we can’t leave it at that because that means too many women are settling for a form of unhappiness that is common but not necessary. I think we want more for ourselves than to live life like this. I say, let’s have some attitude, girls, and let’s get some tools to create a worthy life, with or without him.”

Stories

Tales of Pesky, Serious, and Worst Case Husband Disappointment

Mary’s Husband Disappointment: From Loser to Dreamboat (–and He didn’t Change, She Did.)