think it was woody allen who once quipped "when going out with a man it is important to ensure mutual respect between both parties. after a number of years of seeing each other this will generally lead to a better and healthier relationship."

My girlfriend is a member of a book club where they only read these terrible self-help dating advice books that read like they hail from a time before feminism. I should post a few choice quotes when I remember.

like i don't even comprehend why these rules are gendered at all. most of the actual not-crazy advice on these can apply to anybody regardless of gender, and the ones that explicitly comment on gender are usually 100% fucked up.