How To Be Charismatic À la Shah Rukh Khan

Charisma is your own powerful, personal magnet - that attracts people towards you. It is a reflection of your positive self image, best projected through your body language, and social behavior. Charisma can open many doors in life. Few can argue that one of the main reasons for the meteoric rise of Shah Rukh Khan is his abundant charisma. Here are 10 ways you too can be charismatic à la Shah Rukh Khan.

1. Exude Confidence And Be Positive

There is never a moment when you will find SRK under-confident. He knows the value of his worth - and is immensely proud of who he is, and what he has achieved. You will seldom find him criticizing another person, place, or public figure. Instead, he focuses on the things he loves: his lead actresses, his family, his work, his industry, his fans, and himself! This zest for life engages people and makes everyone want to be around him. If you come off sounding like you hate most things, people will worry that your negative vibe will rub off on them, too.

2. Say Important Things And Say Them With Conviction

Speaking with confidence doesn't mean talking more than, or louder than everyone else. You just need to say the important things, and say them with conviction. Have you ever heard SRK speak? He speaks clearly, varying his tone, volume, and pitch to emphasize important words, and never uses fluff. Whatever he talks, makes utmost sense; unlike his arch nemesis whose Twitter account is a horror to watch.

3. Walk With Pride And Use Gestures Often

Your body is the royal chariot that carries your mind and soul. Would you want it to be worn down, and ill-looking buggy? No, it has to be well kept - posture intact, and be an object of envy for the rest. Walk with élan, as if you have already arrived. Many may feel that SRK gained confidence as he started climbing the ladder of success. On the contrary, his confidence is what led to the rise and rise of SRK. It was because he was always so confident of himself, and had his body language testify it for him that producers and other important people took due notice, and began putting faith in him. Remember, that it all started out from his confidence.

4. Make People Feel Special

One of the most wonderful things about Shah Rukh Khan, the God of charisma in modern India, is how he never fails to make his audience feel loved. In every interview, at every event, he claims his audience like no other. Human Beings are hungry for love, affection, adulation and acknowledgment. And Shah Rukh Khan makes the media, his co-stars, and business partners feel special in his own, unique way. By doing simple gestures, or saying something sweet, he projects an air of goodness around him - one that melts even the toughest of hearts.

5. Treat Everyone As An Equal

A day in the life of SRK is surely an interesting one. From meeting the richest and most influential men in the country, to interacting with the marginalized as part of his charitable endeavors, Shah Rukh, by virtue of his position, has seen almost all kinds of people there are - people of all nationalities, castes, cadres, professions, et al. But Shah Rukh talks to all everyone with the same respect.

That is a quality that almost all charismatic people have. In being able to make even the most ordinary being feel special. By calling middle class housewives on stage at television shows and dancing with them in his trademark style, Shah Rukh Khan gives them a moment to cherish for their entire lifetime.

6. Compliment People Freely, Genuinely

Shah Rukh Khan is over-indulgent with his compliments. I think it comes across as a part of his desire to make people happy. Compliments draw a person towards you. It also means that you have lowered your guard in front of them, and are not shy of pointing out someone's qualities to make them happy. It also makes you come across as a bunch of nerves and heart. And that's remarkable.

7. Use That Wit

"Wit beyond measure is a man's greatest treasure", so said JK Rowling, and it is one thing that I really agree. He may have a lot of wealth, but according to me, SRK's real wealth lies in his wit - his ability to steer even unpleasant interactions with his razor sharp wit. Even the ever-so-brutal media loves him, for his zany participation in press conferences. An award function is incomplete without Shah Rukh coming on the stage and setting it afire with his persona. His Twitter feed is a delight to go through, and he has the choicest of comebacks to hurl at trolls, online or offline.

8. Be Well-Read And Versatile

In the business of communications, you need to be succinct with your language. A voracious reader, Shah Rukh has the ability to quote George R.R Martin and Ghalib with equal panache. And he isn't patronizing about it. He can even talk in local Mumbaiya dialect if his audience demands it. Charisma demands a great command over language; to be able to put your thoughts in the most beautified language, and make people reflect back at what you said.

9. Be Charming To The Opposite Gender

Making six packs is not what women find attractive. They want a man who can drown her in his thoughts, who can make her laugh when she is nervous, who pays her a compliment when she least suspects it. Being liked by the opposite gender doesn't always have to involve sexual undertones. It is all about respecting them, and conducting yourself in a manner that they find pleasing. Shah Rukh Khan is very mindful of his female company and will always try to keep them in the best spirits possible. By doing so, he has been able to win an almost maniacal fan following, and lots of well meaning female friends and connections.

10. Appearance

Of course, he is an actor, and Shah Rukh's good looks never hurt anybody! But the reason for putting this in the end is symbolic of its actual importance in the game of charisma. If you think you aren't conventionally good looking, don't! Because charisma doesn't have anything to do with looks. Just dress well, groom regularly, smell good; and try to be a good human being. And you have no idea how charismatic you can get!