Tag: difficult decisions

I don’t know if you can remember the time (I know I can) when you were so stoned that paralysis set in, your mind was going whacko, you were in a state of panic and dared to ask, “Am I gonna be stuck this way?” I mean the very thought that you might have exercised your worst decision-making skills to suffer the effects which may never be reversible.

To add to the fear, we have all heard stories, seen it in the news, or in the media. Someone did just that; made a one-time decision which changed their life in a tragic way or may have even lost their own life when clearly suicide was not their intention. This is beyond frightening when you find yourself thinking that you might have spoken your last words, be potentially having your last thoughts, or breathing your last breath.

No one would blame you or even question your crying out with your mind (because you may not be able to speak), “Dear God, if you ever let me get out of this thing alive, I promise never to do this again.” And you might throw in some other promises to sweeten the deal so that the Creator of the universe would stop whatever it was that was going on just to tend miraculously to you.

Though some of us came out of such an incident physically scarred for life for the whole world to see what the consequences of one bad decision might be, if we survived, we were virtually the same. We looked, talked, acted, and walked just the same. People who saw us months following the event could never have thought that we’d been through such an experience.

Time goes on… and we forget the incident because we have no constant reminder every time, we look in the mirror. And those promises we made? Well, we’ve forgotten them, too.

Then there are those, people like you, who would do anything to avoid finding themselves in that situation ever again. In some way, you have changed, become a better person. The axiom rings true, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

While you may not find yourself, in a sense, “one toke over the line,” you do have these metaphorical moments when you make decisions that do not turn out as you had planned. How you respond in the moment of recognition (which could be severely delayed) that you made a mistake, and how you respond to your decision and the results from it, it up to you.

You may have no control over the results of your decision and any action or inaction that took place in the process, but what you do about it is totally another decision to be made. Again, your action or inaction will have a huge impact on the results.

Every decision you make is like a wheel in the middle of a track. If you spin it to the right, it takes off to the right depending how much force you exert on the wheel. The same to the left. To the right is in the direction of positivity and to the left negative. The more energy exerted greatly influences how far the effects of your decision will travel in that direction. This energy includes all energy exerted, both seen and unseen.

Energy comes in many forms and may include unspoken desires of your heart, or hidden fears and trauma from the past, and any other form of energy, including thoughts both conscious and unconscious.

If you can take a moment to consciously consider first what direction your decision will cause your decision wheel will travel, in that moment of pause and reflection you can ask yourself,

How can I apply love to this decision?

Love is the most powerful force in the universe, and you can call love into action at any moment. If your decisions are made in love, your decision wheel will move powerfully in the direction of positivity. While the consequences may include what appears to be negative, later you will discover that even the seemingly negative effects of your decision made in love will be for your highest and best interests.

Nevertheless, if you make a negative decision, chances are, you will get another chance, and you don’t have to worry enough to ask, “Am I gonna be stuck this way?” for tomorrow is another day and with the day comes new opportunities to make new decisions. You aren not going to be stuck this way.

Love is the key to making powerful, life-changing decisions, with miraculous results. Anything else leads to negative vibrations which move the results in the opposite direction than that which you think.

Think to yourself,

I love you. I love me. Let’s see how positive the results of this can be.

Who are you when the heat is on? When you feel like you’re at your wit’s end and you just can’t take one more step, where do you go? What do you do in that moment when who you are is all you have left? Who are you under pressure?

The best of us finds a way to put themselves in the zone, in the now, centering their conscious and gathering their strength to rise above the panic of the situation at hand and carefully, calmly, and methodically take the steps necessary to move through the most difficult or challenging circumstances.

For the rest of us, it seems impossible to fathom that we might be able to possess the ability to summon such resolve in the heat of the moment. How could you hope to call forth such superhuman ability?

Unless you are born with the natural ability to have an unshakable resolve and an iron will, you are a mere mortal and the skill is one that can be learned if you’re so inclined.

Masters of resolve discover a way to find a sacred space within. In this space, you are one with everything, in perfect harmony with life, and you know that anything you face, any situation or circumstance is utterly divine, possibly unpleasant, but necessary for achieving your highest and best.

Being able to place your holistic self (mind, body, and soul) into “the now” separating yourself from the demons of the past and the specters of the future help attune you to the present moment, enabling you to focus on the intricate details at hand.

If you’ve self-centered, have a clear mind and approach this with your own divinity intact, you can rely on your higher guidance system knowing you will do what is right for you. There will be no need for you to justify your words or actions because when you do the right thing for you, guided by your higher self, you automatically do the right thing for those whom you care most deeply for, even if it doesn’t look like it at the time.

Relax, and from a place of peace and harmony, approach this with love and joy, honoring all the players and participants. There are no good guys, no bad guys, only people just like you and me, who are doing the best they can with what they have.

Approach this challenge without contempt, judgment, anger, or malice, as these are representations of varying frequencies of fear which will only introduce more difficulty and pain into the process and fallout from this affair.

When you approach any situation with only love, there can be no fear, and love will prevail.

The next time you face a challenge think about creating or finding a sacred space from which to launch your love approach. Not doing so will have you facing from a place of inadequacy or helplessness, which only leads to anxiety, depression, and fear.

You got this, and you would never be faced with a challenge that you are not pre-equipped to handle.