WOMAN: A TOOL FOR PLEASURE OR NOT?

It is an essay that suggests that women have not been created for being sexually exploited by men.....

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WOMEN; A TOOL FOR PLEASURE OR
NOT?

Troubles often commence
when your heart urges you to commit actions that the mind would
ask you to refrain from. The inability to conquer your deepest
animal inside you often places you in tight spots of bother. When
my eyes fell first open a girl name Susan, I found my heart
skipping a beat. There was this deep urge within me to learn more
about her. The female species has always evoked some curiosity
and passion in men. And tragic tales such as Romeo and Juliet
highlight the tragic consequences that so many love affairs have.
As for me, from childhood, romance had a special corner within my
heart. It is strange this thing that we call 'love'. And here I
was staring at a complete stranger and I was somehow captivated
by her beauty. Too many people are shy about starting a
conversation or telling someone that they are beautiful to
behold. However I had no such reservations.

To me it is always better
to be bold and honest than hold back ones feeling and wishing for
someone so beautiful as she. And so I cautiously approached her
and told her who I was and that I found her attractive. She
looked up at me with those beautiful dolorous almond brown eyes
and muttered 'thank you'. Working as an admission officer at a
university, I had rarely seen such a beautiful creature such as
she.

Then I saw a tall handsome
man appear behind her and he introduced himself as her husband. A
strange feeling of anguish and setback kicked into my system and
I tried hard to hide it. I felt embarrassed at the same time.
However things soon reverted to normal when Susan and her husband
left.

My female colleagues gently
chided me for my behavior. And I returned to
work.

Quite often I have found
that people choose to hide their true feelings and emotions for
one another. So many times men and women have a mental block that
does not permit them from interacting openly with the opposite
sex or with the members of the same sex.

Men and women all have
their own specific scale by which they seek to judge the other.
We seem to judge one another in terms of looks, appearances,
gaits, mannerisms, manner of speaking, accent, clothing, the type
of ride or vehicles that we have, from the sort of jobs and
designations that we hold, and much more.

So many young men and women
that jump into a relationship do so because of the special fling
that they seem to possess for that individual. In so many teenage
relationships, the relationship gradually fizzles out once the
physical bonding has yielded the cherished goal of having sex
with that person. These relationships that end up in nothing
promising are experiences in heartbreak for those involved in
them.

And it is so sorry to find
young men and women perhaps jumping from one relationship to
another without perhaps sealing it in the form of
marriage.

Marriages only last when
the finances are secure and men and women seek to help one
another whatever the case is. Unfortunately the lack of
compromise with one another over different issues, the lack of
respect for the marriage and the responsibility that comes with
it often results in broken marriages and relationships. Nowadays
infidelity and extramarital relationships have become the order
of the day especially in the civilized West and these affairs
also damage and break up relationships. And it is always the
children who suffer as a consequence of these breakups in
marriage.

With divorces ending up
with the man having to pay damages to the wife in terms of
alimony, the concept of marriage is fast fizzing
out.

Instead there is this new
concept of cohabitation that is gaining ground within USA for
instance. It is another arrangement that allows for men and women
to use one another for sexual pleasure and gratification for a
short while before they move on to someone else. It is allowing
for men and women to participate in an animal like
behavior.

Today the woman is
constantly portrayed as a sex symbol. In movies, in magazines, on
billboards, in advertisements, in dramas, etc the woman is just a
sex symbol. She is an object of desire. In the Western
society, the freedom of a woman is her ability to prance about
even if it is being nude. And sex is being portrayed as a
religion and sexual freedom comes in the form of
adultery.

Should adultery be
punishable in the West, life may come to an abrupt stop. And yet,
it is disgusting to find that women are susceptible to rape even
in the US Army.

It is imperative that the
august institution of marriage is saved from degenerating into a
system where men and women become animals copulating with one
another to satisfy just an urge. Where is the decency and
humanity in it? Is marriage going to assume the shape of fast
food or a pop song which may be in vogue today but not
tomorrow?

Though rape of women is
common to all societies and nations but the degree of abuse and
violence that women are subjected to in the civilized Western
nations indicates that the animal present within men especially
cannot be curbed through education. It is only through strict law
and punishment that homicide and rape can perhaps be curbed
especially within the United States of America.

I am shocked that societies
that call themselves as civil and modern are unable to prevent
women from being used and abused. If the most modern societies
are unable to provide women protection from rapists or serial
murderers, if they are unable to protect them
from being trafficked by human traffickers, then
I am sorry to say, that modernism has really endangered women
more than protect them.

Man continues to view women
as tools for pleasure and amusement across the globe. Isn't it
time, that laws were strengthened to stop women from being
projected as sex symbols and not as purely being a women who
bring men and women into this world and rear up children and care
for them. Indeed the role of women is not confined to bearing
children. Mothers are responsible for rearing up children and
providing them love and care. They are responsible for
disseminating morals amongst their children.