Dating Experts and the Industry.

Apparently it’s not enough these days to just put a profile and a couple of photos on dating sites like everyone else,you need the help of a dating expert,dating coach,matchmaker,and various other people.There are also people out there who will take the photos for you and people who will help you to write that “killer” profile.All for a price of course.I somehow managed to write one all by myself and it must have been good as someone nicked it.A guy got in touch after reading it and asked would I mind if he used it himself? I replied that yes I would mind as it had taken me ages to think of a good profile and maybe he should try that himself? A couple of days later he messaged to say “Look at my profile,what do you think?” and he’d taken mine.Tweaked it a bit so it was about him but was definately mine.I was furious.I reported him to the site but they weren’t interested.So after that I was a bit loathe to go all out and think up another really good one so I’ve played it safe ever since,maybe that’s where I’m going wrong.There are loads of dating experts around but I can’t see how someone who won’t be in my position for at least another 20 years, can possibly help me and others my age group when they do not have a clue as to what it’s like.Older dating is harder,and that’s a fact.Someone a lot younger will not realise that even in this day and age older men are homophobic,it’s a generation thing.And the ones who think that they’re funny are still telling you old jokes they’ve remembered from lolly sticks.Bloggers who write about dating will sometimes be asked by an “expert” to write a guest post for a blog or newsletter.All of a sudden someone will get in touch with “I love your blog!” and then ask if you’d write a (free) piece for them. I’ve been asked myself a couple of times and twitter seems to be full of them,.Watching an episode of First Dates a couple of weeks ago I was involved in a conversation with someone on twitter who was on an episode of this series.”I should have been on it but they couldn’t find anyone for me and I’m not surprised as I can’t find him either”.I said. Next thing a “dating lifestyle coach” tweeted me.”Maybe I can help you there”.”Really? Not sure if you realise the challenges of older dating but if you can find me a normal man with hair and a sense of humour, who’s not looking for someone younger,who’s not looking for someone “to do stuff with” who’s not homophobic,or a bigot then yes you can help.” I didn’t get a reply and I would have been surprised if I had.I’m not knocking all the dating industry as I would actually use a match making service but that will be a last resort, it’s just that on the whole,it seems that there’s a lot of money to be made from some people who might be at a vulnerable time of their lives.Having said that please let me be the first one to take it to the next level and actually charge people to go on a date instead of them.Let’s see how long it is before that happens…