Here’s a lesser-known Asian parenting stereotype: Asian mothers will call their daughters “chubby” or “fat” and tell them to lose weight.

The funny part is that it’s kind of true, and I’ve experienced it first-hand! My little sister has always been pretty active because she played basketball up until very recently, so she’s thin as a stick. I, on the other hand, could benefit from a little exercise. …Unfortunately for my health, I enjoy food and I like my couch. And I don’t really like exercise.

Now that my own mother has started exercising regularly, she’s been seriously pressuring me to eat better and get fit. Now, I’ll admit it’s a little bit tempting to listen to her just to get her to stop insinuating that I’m unhealthy—now I feel like an underachieving blob and below MORE Asian standards—but I simply cannot bring myself to get my lazy butt off the couch and go for a jog around the block. I’d be out of breath in seconds.

I am in no way advocating an unhealthy lifestyle…that’s just something I’ve become very used to. I plan to be a little healthier in the future and watch what I eat. …Right after I have this pizza.

You sort of have it backwards. Back in the days people considered fat babies as the ideal (since food was not plentiful.)Both boys and girls were called “fay doys” and no implication of losing the baby fat was unsaid or considered.