Why do I feel this way?

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ams7414 wrote:

We’ve been trying to get pregnant for years. After miscarriages and IUI, I miraculously got pregnant naturally. I am 12 weeks. We have decided to wait until now to tell everyone because of the struggles we’ve been thru. My sister is the only person I told as soon as I found out. But she just got back from her honeymoon and announces to my family that she’s pregnant (5 weeks). What the hell? Now all my mom talks about to me is my sister and her baby and how I need to be more supportive and understanding. My mom doesn’t even know I am pregnant. I don’t know what to do but it’s really making me upset and angry. Why would my sister, all while knowing I am pregnant, go tell my family before me? She could have at least given me the opportunity to tell everyone considering everything I’ve been thru and I am farther along.

Aww I can understand why you would be feeling disappointed, I would feel the same. But at least you are into your second trimester & when you tell your mum she is going to be just as excited for you as she has been about your sisters pregnancy. Congrats on hitting the 12 week milestone, that’s huge & so exciting. 😘

Our hormones are crazy right now! I keep having to tell my husband to ignore me because everything frustrates me and I feel crazy. It’s okay to be frustrated in your situation! It probably mostly the hormones though. ♥️

I agree with all the previous posters I think your sister will be so happy to hear you are also pregnant. I always seen my sister and me having kids around the same time and them growing up together because we were a year apart. Anyways she got pregnant 8 years ago and my nephew is now 7, I tried but it never happened for me but now it has so I kind of missed that boat but I just think it would be so fun to have kids together. They’ll be cousins and best friends!

I understand why you feel that way. I really think it’s just a phase. You worked really hard and have a lot of blood sweat and tears in creating your baby. You’re excited and want your moment. You’re not selfish, it’s natural. I think in time you’ll find joy and excitement in sharing a pregnancy with your sister. Pregnancy is hard, and so is raising babies. It will be a wonderful experience eventually. You’re not wrong for how you feel right now, just don’t hold on to it for any longer than necessary because it can be a really great thing. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and try to not let this get you down. It will all be okay in time.