Drinking: A Love Story

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Drinking: A Love Story is about Caroline Knapp's struggle with alcoholism and getting sober after 20 years of hard drinking. This book spoke to me personally and parallels my life closely. Knapp's writing is so stark and honest that anyone in recovery will see themselves in this book.Recommended by Betsy B., Powells.com

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Fifteen million Americans a year are plagued with alcoholism. Five million of them are women. Many of them, like Caroline Knapp, started in their early teens and began to use alcohol as "liquid armor," a way to protect themselves against the difficult realities of life. In this extraordinarily candid and revealing memoir, Knapp offers important insights not only about alcoholism, but about life itself and how we learn to cope with it.

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1. Discuss the book's title. In what way is it a love story? What parallels exist between Caroline Knapp's "affair" with alcohol and the way she experienced love throughout her life with family and friends as well as in romantic relationships?

2. Chapter Four, "Hunger,"and Chapter Eight, "Addiction," feature questions that capture an alcoholic's habits and mind-set. How would you respond to these questions? Is there anyone in your family or circle of friends who might be surprised by their responses, or surprised by yours?

3. Knapp mentions many literary figures whose alcoholism is well documented. Do you believe that addiction is more acceptable in creative fields? How do stereotypes of addiction measure up to the real-life profiles provided in Knapp's memoir?

4. What did you discover in Drinking: A Love Story about the similarities among alcoholism and other addictive behaviors, such as bulimia or kleptomania? What challenges are unique to alcoholics? How did your perception of the causes and treatments for addiction change as you read Knapp's story?

5. Knapp writes eloquently of the fears she faced as a child, from her father's clinical, omnipotent persona to her mother's aversion to outward affection. To what extent do you attribute Knapp's alcoholism to genetics, childhood despair, or temperament? How do you account for the differences between Knapp and her twin sister? How were they affected by the knowledge of their father's first wife and the half siblings from that marriage?

6. If Dr. Knapp had come to you for counseling, what recommendations would you have given him? Why might someone with his knowledge of (and access to) first-rate psychotherapy nonetheless have been unable to change his own pattern of infidelity as well as his detachment from his loved ones? What damaging cycles were set in motion by his parents and by the family of Caroline's mother?

7. Knapp recalls the times her mother and sister expressed concern about her drinking. How would you have responded had you been in their position? What are the responsibilities and limitations of an alcoholic's relatives, friends, colleagues, lovers?

8. What does Knapp tell us about the way she and many other addicts viewed intimacy, sexual and otherwise? Why was it difficult for her to recognize and receive love? What needs did her double life fulfill?

9. Discuss the theme of shame that surfaces throughout the book. Why did Knapp, and those she encountered on the road to recovery, feel comfortable in roles that made them feel ashamed and unworthy? Why was she drawn to Julian's perfectionism?

10. In Chapter Sixteen, "Healing," Knapp writes: "At times I've grumbled to friends about longing for a return to Prohibition." Is alcohol too widely available in the United States? What is your opinion of debates over whether to legalize various non prescription drugs? Should distinctions be made between addicts who consume dangerous levels of legal substances (including prescription medications) and those who use illegal ones? To what extent should addiction be criminalized?

11. The book's closing chapters include poignant images of her parents' final days. Do you believe that their death was the catalyst for Knapp to seek help? Was it trauma, fear, liberation, or something else altogether that led her to seek (and accept) help? What did it take for her to reach her "yet"? Why was she so averse to Alcoholics Anonymous when she attended a meeting earlier in her life?

12. What does Knapp capture while describing the Ritualistic Snipping of the Black Lycra Dress in the final paragraphs of the book? What souvenirs from your past would you like to bid farewell to? What objects or emotions could you replace them with?

13. Discuss the approach of Drinking: A Love Story in comparison to other books in its genre. How does Knapp's storytelling approach differ from that of other memoirists? How does her experience compare to that of other authors who have written about addiction and recovery, such as Susan Cheever or James Frey? In what ways has our approach to addiction shifted in the past decade or in comparison to previous generations?

14. Are there any harmful cycles of behavior in your family? What would it take to keep them from being perpetuated in the lives of your descendants? What irrational legacies are the most difficult ones to end?

15. Caroline Knapp's life ended six years after Drinking: A Love Story was published. How does the brevity of her life affect your impression of this memoir? Reminded that longevity is never guaranteed, how should we approach our most daunting challenges?

What Our Readers Are Saying

Average customer rating based on 4 comments:

Nicole Gustas, January 2, 2012 (view all comments by Nicole Gustas)
Though this was highly recommended to me, I was hesitant to read it, expecting a Lifetime movie of a book. Instead, I found Knapp compelling and hard-edged. She laid out her sometimes harrowing story in a way that was clear, strong and never once asked for pity. It was a very fast read and so well-written that despite the devastating tale it made me wish the book were longer.

Anne K, August 8, 2006 (view all comments by Anne K)
If you are struggling with your drinking, I urge you to read this book. Especially if you're a middle/upper-middle class, employed, college-educated woman. I think you'll be able to identify on a deep level. I know I did.

I know this sounds dramatic, but this book helped save my life. I bought it 4 years ago, read it in one day, then went to my first AA meeting shortly afterwards. I haven't had a drink since and my life has changed beyond what I expected.

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Drinking: A Love Story is about Caroline Knapp's struggle with alcoholism and getting sober after 20 years of hard drinking. This book spoke to me personally and parallels my life closely. Knapp's writing is so stark and honest that anyone in recovery will see themselves in this book.

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