Whenever someone goes out of their way to lie about something, it is a neon bright red flag.

You told him you were uncomfortable with the attention he has given her in the form of likes, he said he stopped, but has continued to like her photos despite your protest. Whatever you do next is up to you, but I wouldn't deal with anyone who blatantly disrespects me.

Generally, in my opinion, it is some combination of internalized misogyny and personal prejudice because they see women as a homogenous group rather than as individuals. People usually recognize that it is prejudiced and inappropriate to say things like "I don't get along with black people because I have a lot of ambition, don't like watermelon, and don't play basketball" because they see the racism and generalizing stereotypes in that sentence, but it's common for some women to say things like "I don't get along with women because I am drama-free, don't gossip, and am not girly" without recognizing the sexism and stereotypes in their statement.

In my experience, they've bought into the idea of gender roles strongly and consider themselves "different from other women" because they look at themselves vs the traditional "ideal" female gender role (including passivity, preoccupation with keeping a home, being perceived as feminine, being the second player supporting someone else's life) and they don't see themselves that way. Men are seen as primary characters in their own lives. In most areas of career and personal success, the male role is seen as the driver and better outcome for a person. The woman feels like she fits that role better because she is herself and has her own hobbies and ideas and passions. She relates those things to maleness, assumes that men will be more compatible with her, and creates a self-fulfilling prophecy where that is the case because she has dismissed women as a group, but judges men as individuals.

EDIT: I should clarify this, the frequency of Black on Black crime is much higher compared proportionally to other race on race crime. If you think making this only about cop brutality and profiling, which is a problem, this issue will never get solved.

why are so many poor blacks shooting other poor blacks at such a high frequency compared to poor white communities, think West Virginia, and how can we lower that rate?

I am saying that the movement is a response to police brutality - to come out and say "WELL, BLACKS SHOULD STOP KILLING EACH OTHER" is unrelated and not helpful in furthering the conversation in how we go about preventing instances where the police kill black people without cause.

He kept apologising to me, not very sincerely. He just sounded tired, and when I said that I'd be moving out as soon as possible he replied, "That's probably for the best." The one thing he asked for was my ring, which I agreed to mail to Caroline's address.

I am furious, but I would like to live there peacefully if possible. When I first moved in they wanted me to split their DirecTV bill with them even though I don't have a TV in my room or access to theirs (there is no communal television) and I know they have used my private bathroom when I'm not there, so my annoyance with them has been mounting. Thank you for using the word "bully". I've felt bullied, but wasn't sure if I was overreacting.

Live the life you want to live. You can't make your parents like him, but over time I am sure their attitudes will soften once they get to know him better and sees how well he treats you. They should be happy that you are happy. Surround yourself with people who support your relationships and endeavors.

For the most part I do have those people in my life. Even the ones who don't necessarily support my relationship support other aspects of my life, so it's not like they hate me and my life completely y'know?

Every time the new post comes the family is a little sadder, his clothes a little more worn, and his hair is a little more grey. Through these posts we see his daughter grow up, get married get her own family, and take on the mantle of her father. This ritual goes on for generations in the same spots, we see the city change, the hotel renovated, everything else changes, but this family is now cursed to continue this vacation forever...

Honestly, it could be that you are in college and the women you are messaging could be out of college? Looking for someone has more stability? Looking to start a family? Etc. I don't know but I know for women who are working, they might want someone is in the same place in life.

I work at a theater and watched it it because my co-workers thought it was going to be great and they've been waiting so long for it. Fuck that shit, I want two hours of my life back. It really made no sense what so ever...

SPOILERS

He meets her, finds her pretty, and they sign a contract (being the rich guy he is) that they have sex; no relationship or feelings. She feels they are compatible, but he's on the "sex only" thing, but you could see he sorta likes her? He shows her the "play room" and she is willing to give it a go, she tells him to stop and he doesn't (pretty sure that qualifies as rape). He's sorta two-faced though, one minute he's all, "I love you Anna!" Next minute he's all fuck-your-feeling-we-are-doing-it. She randomly summons courage every now and then and says no and walks off, he then would do something super romantic and win her back. It ends with him being a little too rough, she gets away (AGAIN!) and before leaving they say each others names before an elevator door closes and starts credits. It's confusing and awful.

What's worse is, these women watching the movie were saying that in the end of the book series she "dominates" him and they end up having a child together? So moral of the story: he may be a dick, but he's so cute! I'm sure you can fix it, if you have a kid everything will be okay! Happily ever after.

This is just like Twilight for middle aged women. Sends a terrible message to the people watching this shit thinking this is how relationships are supposed to be.

Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose to honour my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to make self-care a priority. I choose me.”
― Daniell Koepke

Seriously, thank you SO much. This quote basically is a reflection of myself. I also searched up Daniell Koepke, and read his other quote about feeling uncared for, and that one is just as inspiring. I needed to hear this.

Yea, I try to keep it as a background of my phone or something. It really, really helps when I second guess myself when it comes to any of my relationships with people. I hope you realize that your feelings are always valid, and anyone who makes you feel otherwise does not have your best interest at heart.

According to black co-workers "Shea butter smells good. Coconut oil smells like you had drinks at lunch".

so.....there's that.

EDIT: Also apparently, unbeknownst to me, Ashy Elbows are a thing, and no man finds that attractive. Also, white people don't know how to clean themselves correctly, and do gross things like use the same towel to dry their face that they use to dry their body. I seem to have started quite the conversation, so I'll let you know what else I learn.