To ask you if this person drinks too much

Not me, but someone v close to me, hence the concern. Amazing generous lovely kind bloke but turns into a bit of a repetitive whingebag after booze!

Average consumption:

4 cans of beer or 1-2 cans and a whole bottle of red wine per night7-10 pints on fri/sat nightsNights out with friends - unlimited pints - no real off switch. However this hardly ever happens, so it's the slow steady daily consumption that concerns me. However, any attempt to raise it is met with sulking or "well I never get to go out, this is all I've got" (he has a young DC, so is naturally home a lot at night).

It sounds a lot to me, but I hardly drink, so might be over reacting. What do you think?

1-2 cans every now and then.1/2 bottle wine once a month.Couple drams of whisky possibly. Etc.

I barely drink anything compared to 'Average' men i guess but I'd say much more than that is too much. If he's being defensive, minimising, refusing to change etc. That points to a problem with drink IMO.

It is far too much. It's very difficult to get though to people when they don't really believe it's affecting them. I've got a close male friend who drinks 2 bottles of wine every single night and has done for the past 6-7 years. He gets up every morning at 7 and goes to work. Most people he knows would never believe how much he drinks. It's going to kill him, but he won't listen then me.

That is a huge amount of alcohol. SIL's husband used to drink too much. He is in permanent residential care now because he has destroyed most of his liver, and the toxins his liver can't process have affected his brain. He is like a zombie now.

A bottle of wine is about 10 units and a pint is 2 units. Current guidelines are 14 units a week. So basically he is drinking a weeks worth of alcohol most nights. It also sounds like there are no booze free nights.

This is incredibly bad for him and if it's a long term thing I suspect it's already an addiction.

Help is definitely needed but getting them to realise it is the hardest job.

Ok will admit I used to drink at least this much, nobody could have told me it was too much. I had to come to my own realisation and now I barely drink. I know now it is far, far too much but with our boozy culture it felt quite normal, it is normal for so many. I hope your friend/relative turns it around, it is an awful lot.

I will say also that although I drank so much, if you class alcoholism as an addiction then I wasn't an alcoholic as I stopped pretty much overnight. It is though problem drinking or will become so.