Someone with extra time on their hands or malicious intent? *Updated

I started receiving texts from an unknown number last night. The first two were at 11:48 & 11:49 just saying hello and the third at 3:58am which read: Hello (my name) this is (a close college friends name was given but spelled wrong). So I let the texts go. Then 5:26pm I get a text about how I probably don't recognize the number therefore not answering but its because they got a new phone, 7:55pm I get a text offering to take me to the movies, they'll pay, 7:56pm I'm told many others are coming because they have a lot of cash. I text them back telling them they must have the wrong number. They text again saying " I know you know who I am I'm your bff (friends name again and again misspelled) from college, you coming with us or not? 8:37: ugh tgis text was looooonnng, basically gets snotty saying she didn't have to invite me but did and wants to know if I'm coming. Then its gets really WEIRD she starts going on about how she wants to see me soon and the babies and my older three (specific were given)! Then tells me 5 other people are going. She's sorry if I was bothered and sorry if she ruined anything. 9:10pm texts about how she doesn't think I'm going and wants me to. After the long text where details were given about my kids I was done messing around and texted back at 9:15 saying they had the wrong number and were texting my 15 year old but now they're dealing with me! If it continues it will be reported to the pd. The text stop.

So would you say its someone with extra time on their hands or malicious intend?

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Also, if this were a real lifetime movie, this woman would be the OP's long lost half sister--born into poverty and shame. She grew up knowing of OP's existence and acutely aware of the unfairness of the imbalance of their circumstances. Grimly, she resolves to even the score.

She begins by joining a sport OP's DH enjoys. She slowly gets to know him over the course of a few years. She begins attempting to seduce OP's DH. He is flattered and mildly interested, but never actually crosses the line. Stalker/sister gets just enough information to be incriminating against DH and drive a wedge in their marriage. Her next step would be to plot OP's murder and either frame DH or somehow step in as his new wife.

I started receiving texts from an unknown number last night. The first two were at 11:48 & 11:49 just saying hello and the third at 3:58am which read: Hello (my name) this is (a close college friends name was given but spelled wrong). So I let the texts go. Then 5:26pm I get a text about how I probably don't recognize the number therefore not answering but its because they got a new phone, 7:55pm I get a text offering to take me to the movies, they'll pay, 7:56pm I'm told many others are coming because they have a lot of cash. I text them back telling them they must have the wrong number. They text again saying " I know you know who I am I'm your bff (friends name again and again misspelled) from college, you coming with us or not? 8:37: ugh tgis text was looooonnng, basically gets snotty saying she didn't have to invite me but did and wants to know if I'm coming. Then its gets really WEIRD she starts going on about how she wants to see me soon and the babies and my older three (specific were given)! Then tells me 5 other people are going. She's sorry if I was bothered and sorry if she ruined anything. 9:10pm texts about how she doesn't think I'm going and wants me to. After the long text where details were given about my kids I was done messing around and texted back at 9:15 saying they had the wrong number and were texting my 15 year old but now they're dealing with me! If it continues it will be reported to the pd. The text stop.

*side note: when I first got the text saying it was my friend I texted her asking if she was texting from a different number and she wasn't. I had also made plans with to see a movie with my college friend but canceled with her. So even though grammar and spelling was horrific (not my friend) I thought twice.

I looked up the number online and paid a fee to trace it. The name that came back was a males so I googled him and he's an athlete who competes in the same sport dh does. I also typed the number in Fb's search bar and one profile came up, the cell phone owners wife. She also competes in the same sport and we have 1 friend in common which whom I barely know but is a close friend and fb friend of dh's who competes too. My fb is locked down except for the cover page, I had a picture up of all the kids. I deleted that tonight.

I have to admit my heart stopped when my kids were mentioned. I called my friend and dh and explained what happen. I sent them screen shots of the texts and the number trace with the guys name and address. Dh flips out telling me to call the pd and make a report. I debated it wasn't necessary. Dh starts going into how the persons pretending to be someone I know and get me to meet them. He points out they know a lot about me and the kids. He feels its malicious intended. He tells me to hang up and call pd or he will when he gets home. So I call pd and explain the officer takes note of the situation and said he will call the person back and tell them to stop contacting me. I felt silly. The officer calls back and it goes straight to voicemail but says he'll keep trying. The office tells me this is so common and there could be so many scenarios that I shouldn't worry. He feels its someone with too much time on their hands. Then my friend tells me she agrees with dh. She can't grasp why or who but feels I could have been hurt. I'm not certain if the trace is 100% accurate and if it is dh has competed with them but he doesn't know them or recognize them. I was calmed by what the officer had to say. I'm thinking it's a family member dh and I don't talk to. While dh is still flipping saying someone could be watching me.

So would you say its someone with extra time on their hands or malicious intend?

It seems to be. I'm curious why they would be doing it because I've never seen them before. Also how would they know about my friend? The friend is on fb but we don't interact much or post conversations back and forth.

I'll definitely be cautious. This is so odd. Why wouldn't the officer seem more concerned? He told me people normally always stop once pd's involved. I didn't Google the wife, bc her fb page was wide open but will now. I used tracer report to trace the number and wonder if that's an accurate trace. What if it isn't? If it was accurate they live in the city close to to the township I live in, like 5-10 minutes close. My friend said she thinks it may be someone crushing on dh or wanting to hurt him since what I found links to him. Dh says it has nothing to do with him. He's going by what was said in text, they never mentioned dh only me the kids friend n movie which dh feels points to me being watched.

An update to what else I've found and some questions that were asked.....

My facebook is private and only friends can see it, except for cover photos which are always public from what I understand. I did have a picture up of my kids all together but deleted it from my cover photos. My posts vary, specifically most recent I posted the twins are sleeping through the night and that we had to stay with family due to a gas leak and the repairs would take day. That was weeks to months ago. The mutual friend dh and I have that is friends with this women never comments on my page or likes stuff although I like her updates about the sport shes involved in.

DH's names brings up all of the events hes participated in with the sport he does. He also has some old news articles come up for charity and getting donations for different school programs. When you google my name the news paper article for dh and I getting married comes up and newspaper articles pertaining to group events and things I did for college. None mention the friend but she was in a colloquium with me. Not of my lo's are found when googling.

Okay so I did some more searching on the wife. She was in every competition DH was in and if not she was in a competition DH was a stand by at as hes a firefighter/medic and its not uncommon for him to be a stand by during these events. The man (husband) is 33 and shes 28 with 2 kids (this info i got from her fb all her stuff is wide open). Her DD looks about 5 or 6 and DS looks about 3 or 4. The husband doesn't have a fb from what I can see but is in many of her pictures. I was trying to see if any emblems on his shirt could place him in the same field as dh but I couldn't find any.

I also considered cheating but DH wouldn't have the time right now. I'm aware of all of his hours worked because he gets pay stubs online at a site and his checks are direct deposited. I'm responsible for finances getting paid and so on so I'm always aware of his hours. DH is also going to school to get another license in his field and with this every time he has to be on site his hours are signed off by another staffer which is needed, there's so much paper work pin pointing all the hours hes done and where. So cheating isn't likely.

Another thought was maybe shes stalking DH. I know how silly that may sound but DH gets hit on a lot especially in uniform. He also has colleages who have been stalked but nothing serious just the more annoying type. DH has never been stalked from what we know of though.

As for making plans with my friend we did it the night before on the phone and I cancelled Sunday because a filling came out with part of my tooth and I was in too much pain. I didn't tell anyone not even DH about going because hes been complaining I spent too much money on black Friday. I had four of my lo's that day and scheduled a sitter.

I called pd back today to see if they contacted the person and didn't get far because the officer I spoke to on the phone wasn't in. Pd doesn't seem concerned at all but the text have stopped and I haven't received any more. I took screen shots with my phone of all the tests, the phone trace, diff articles I pulled while googling, and I'm going to print off pics of both the women and the man so if I run into them in public I recognize them. lol not a ton just one or two of the women because she looks different with makeup and without. I'm feeling like a stalker now lmbo! The irony would be that the number no longer belongs to this couple too, I keep thinking this. The number came back traced to the man which makes me think the phones are in his name and the number brought her profile up so I think the specific number is a line in his name she uses. I also thought about calling the number back on a pay phone to see what happens and don't forget I also have these people address from the trace.

I can see how this could look serious, trying to pretend they know me saying a lot of people are getting together but most likely trying to get me alone. Whats driving me freaking crazy is why?!

My friends fb is private. When the officer called last night he said it went straight to voicemail and the voicemail said it hasn't been set up yet. The officer then said he'd continue to call until he reached someone or would at least leave a message. I home school our lo's and very few people watch them which are all close friends but I will remind them of stranger danger.

I'm not aware of an app that can change phone numbers but will look it up. As for blocking a number, you can't if your texting.

I just talked to my friend and she called the number from her cell without blocking it. A women answered saying hello and my friend said "hello this is (her name)" and the person immediately hung up.

Well everyone I am freaked out now thanks to all the responses. Not a bad thing to be on my toes and cautious. Theres not much more I can do unless they contiu which they haven't. I'll update if anything else happens.

After DH came home from work about 9pm he asked why I had set the trash out at the curb. I told him I didn't. Our garbage is put out late Thursday night and picked up around 2am. Because of the holiday its picked up a day late so we put it out Friday night this week. So I assumed someone unloaded their garbage off at our curb. Dh went out to pull it up and put it in our cans and planned to go through it to find out who may have left it. Dh runs in the house yelling for me to call 911 now. I have no clue whats going on! DH tells me its our trash and that the women ran by in running gear as he was going through it. We call pd they come out this time no talking over the phone crap. We explain we spoke to an officer about the texts the night before and they stopped but we traced it online to this guy and his wife's fb account came up when we searched there. Then about the garbage we put out Friday night that suddenly reappeared at the curb and then the women ran by. The officer took the report and basically said he can't do anything about this woman running by because she was on a public street!!!!! So I used map quest to search the distance between this women's address and mine, she lives 5.41 miles away at an estimated time of 14 minutes away by driving. The cops seriously seem to care less and said they can't do crap if shes on a public street so wtf do I do?!

I also had dh log into his fb account and search her through his page thinking they probably had more friends in common but no only the one I mentioned before.

Yes, I think she did take our garbage. The can was empty when I took it up sat morning. Why the hell would someone do that I don't know. I didn't see her or anyone take it or put it back though. I think by calling pd she may be careful of what physical records she leaves now. I don't have a shredder either but do rip things by hand if its personal. I can't sleep because its all I can think about! I keep thinking the one thing I'm worried about being in the garbage I never thought to destroy are receipts to grocery stores and gas stations I frequent, *SMH We're deleting the mutual friend and I'm deactivating my fb account for now.

No I didn't grill DH but we talked about it. He hasn't a clue who she or the husband is and is just as freaked out now. He keeps telling me he feels shes trying to kill me. I did tell him about this post and the suggestion that he could have cheated and shared that was a thought that crossed my mind too but not for long because the time hes not with us hes accounted for. I also told him about the suggestion that it could be a women crushing on his and trying to mess with me. DH doesn't know what to say and says hes just as clueless as me.

Theres not a chance in hell I can leave my house without a second adult because we have 6 kids. 3 of which are babies. I am going to talk to my neighbors tomorrow to see if they saw anyone. I would have tonight but by the time DH went out to pull it up it was around 10pm.

To late I already began reading it. The woman doesn't work with him but competes in the same sport DH does. I'll just put it out there, DH is a marathon runner. There have been several occasions where hes was working as a stand by medic during a race in case someone was injured. There isn't a chance I could possibly sleep right now. I think she may know him through that and after reading the links info maybe she is stalking him and trying to get to me. I get yesterday could have been a fluke but today sealed the deal to knowing shes up to no good. After hearing the cops response I am scared. I mean really how much more has to happen before they take it seriously. Oh, and I forgot to add after pd left I sat by an upstairs widow with a light out watching to see if she'd run back around but she didn't. I'm going to do that during the day with my camera in hand and see what pics I can get. She doesn't have any profession listed on her fb. Shes also educated, well like, and seems positive from all the crap on her fb. I'm debating whether or not to contact the friend we had in common but DH doesn't want me to start talking to someone who isn't involved.

The whole thing is too weird for me to understand or even get instantly creeped out by. Why would she steal your garbage and return it? And not so strange for a marathon runner to be 5 miles from their own house...running.

Yes, too much of this involves your DH. If it were me I would keep questioning him. IMO he knows more than he is letting on. It is time to really amp up your security as well. Get an alarm and/or a big protective dog. Make sure someone is always aware of where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, and when you should be home.