Awesome vibrator company Jimmyjane recently sent me a few things for our bloggers to test, and I immediately knew the Hello Touch would be my co-editor Rashaun’s jam when it came in the mail. “Do you want to test this robot pussy toy?” I asked her, for lack of a more elegant descriptor. Rashaun’s answer […]

Hello friends. I just turned in my last grad school project and am officially DONE WITH SCHOOL! Which means I actually have time to blog about random stuff! Even before the Avril Lavigne “Hello Kitty” monstrosity made the news (I’ve included it for reference but it’s legitimately awful) I’ve been thinking about how much I […]

This piece is from 2013 but I think some of you may enjoy it in 2014! People get so bent out of shape about Valentine’s Day. I think the problem is we get so hung up on the idea that it’s about having a romantic love interest and corporate bullshit that we totally miss the […]

My body has a weird thing where it cycles up and down about 20-30 pounds every few years. Before you start with the OMG YOYO DIETING IS SO UNHEALTHY, let me reassure you that I don’t diet, and can only attribute these fluctuates to random stuff like geographical location (no, really), relationship status (really, really), […]

A lot of people don’t believe me when I say I didn’t have internet until college. I was born in 1980, and raised by a single mother who didn’t have time or money for Prodigy or AOL or whatever nonsense people used in 1993. Another thing is like most goth chicks, all of my teen […]

Ok, so this post is kind of overdue, but I haven’t been able to get to the beach much this year living in Indiana. But I plan to enjoy Hollywood Beach every chance I get on my upcoming 2 week trip to Chicago! I’ve been wearing bikinis while fat for about eight years now, and […]

I’ve always been a little femme and a little tomboy – a princess and a jedi, comfortable with mascara and power tools. Both terms, femme and tomboy, have visual components: they’re tied to certain fashion choices, as well as mannerisms, even one’s presence. But to me, they’re also tied to how I relate to men […]

Last week we posted an excerpt from genderqueer erotica novel “Rye.” Here is the follow-up interview with author Sam Rosenthal. Name: Sam Rosenthal Age: Older than most people guess. Location: Brooklyn, NY Who are you, and what do you do, in your own words? I’m this guy, who has a son, and runs a record label, […]

I was excited to learn about Black Tape for a Blue Girl Lyricist’s erotic novel “Rye.” Not only because I am a fan of his awesome ambient music, which you can check out here, but also because the book honestly approaches topics such as genderqueer identities, kink and polyamory which are seldom realistically explored in […]

Name:Shani Akilah Robin Your age: 29 years old. It gets better each year! Your location: Bloomington, Indiana What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? I am an anti-oppression advocate/activist. My area of focus 9 to 5 pm and beyond is anti sexual assault/domestic violence work. I […]

If you’re a Ms. Behaved regular, you’re well aware that editors Bianca and Rashaun are both hardcore fathletes- thick hotties who like to get physical for the joy of it, and bust stereotypes about fat people and fitness. Both Rashaun and I are runners (although I run really fucking slow, I’m out there almost everyday […]

Name: Lydia Brambila Age: 20 Location: Athens, GA What you “do” in your own words: I go to school, play in bands, work at a library, raise a cat, and sleep like the dead. What is your style philosophy in a nutshell? I like for my everyday wear to both be super comfy and also […]

“Unlike Seth Rogen, whose career was ruined by losing the weight, the dominant discourse insists that fat girls are worthy of our ridicule, as a woman has to be ‘f*ckable’ to be liked. It’s not enough to give an Oscar-worthy performance. You also have to look like Natalie Portman when you do it.” –Nico Lang […]

Name: Janet W. Hardy Age: 57 Location: Eugene, OR Who are you, and what do you do, in your own words? I’m a publishing generalist, I guess. I’ve run a couple of small publishing companies and done all the kinds of work that entails – writing, editing, design, production, marketing, bookkeeping, you name it. These days, […]

Ms. Behaved is proud to feature this excerpt from Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams’ new book “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” (Greenery Press, 2012). BDSM has become a hot button topic in the mainstream following the popularity of the 50 Shades of […]

I’ve always been big on believing. In second grade my teacher passed out little plastic American flags to the whole class. I shoved mine into one of the posts at the foot of my bed so I could gaze at it every night, thinking patriotic thoughts as I fell asleep. Mrs. Gross told us that […]

New Wave, New Romantic, Post-Punk and Old School Goth were my favorite musical genres of music as a teenager, which I fervently collected on vinyl (It was the nineties and LPs were ridiculously cheap as CDs came into favor. My record collection is worth a fortune now.) I hosted a new-wave themed radio program in undergrad […]

I met Mateo in Chicago, at a kickball game, of all places. I was instantly captivated by his dream-like photography and wanted to share it with Ms. Behaved readers. -Bianca James Name: Mateo Age: 25 Location: Born Pittsburgh, last 5 years, Chicago. I spent 6 months in Hawaii after college in 2009 as well. What do you do, […]

Herbal essential oils do more than makes your house smell good. Nearly all have potent antimicrobial properties and have been shown to reduce depression, focus the mind and even stimulate the immune system. Lemon and pine have long been used in commercial cleaners, but many other oils are just as effective. Eucalyptus, tea tree, lavender, […]

There are more American birthdays in August than in any other month, and shopping for some of these birthday boys and girls is a total pain. Monthly subscription services to the rescue! I am not talking about your meemaw’s fruit-of-the-month club, there are some fantastic finds. This list is by no means an all-inclusive, but […]