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Topic: Facebook (Read 21472 times)

I have gotten several invites from friends and relatives asking me to look at their Facebook page. Unfortunately in order to look at their page I apparently have to open an account. For reasons I don't completely understand I have some kind of aversion to the whole social networking thing but I'm considering checking it out. Any of you social butterflies out there have any advice as far as do's and don'ts when using Facebook?

If you're weird about stuff facebook has settings where you can make your profile "private" i.e. only viewable to people you approve as friends. Just make sure to change whatever the default settings are.

GSO, you can set your settings so that no one can see your profile unless you accept them as friend (that includes pictures and personal data). Once you accept someone you can always remove them if it turns out to be someone to whom you no longer want to be connected.

It is actually a cool place to stay in touch with family and old friends/acquaintances, but it can also be a bit annoying when it comes to a lot of little "invites" (karma, drinks, games, etc.). You make it your own as far as content (and it is way above that booty-call site known as their space).

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"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

they are great. you can make your profile private or public. there may also be in between settings, like only parts of your profile can be public or only people who know your email or last name can add you as a friend. also, on myspace you have the power to preview comments and postings before people put them on your page. i know this is how it is set up on myspace, not sure about facebook.

it truly is a great way to keep in touch with friends and family. there are some awkward situations (someone you don't like requesting access, x's popping up or coworkers) but those are few and far between. usually they can be dealt with via email or simply ignoring, its up to you. overall, i would recommend setting up a page for whatever your needs are. if needed, you can also use an alias and have it connected to auxiliary email so only people in your network and the people you request can find your profile based on given information (name, stats, email, etc..).

you're pretty sharp so when you figure out how it works, let me know. My problem is posting. There is something about a 'wall' and 'likes' and 'comments' and 'sharing' I don't know when what I post is private or public. Sometimes when I 'share' something I'm asked to verify my account by entering a confirmation code that had been texted to my phone. The deal is, nothing has ever been texted to me and I don't have that kind of phone so I don't know what they're talking about.

Now it's great when friends (like Jan and Cliff) post pictures. I get to look at them and I get to know what they're doing when they're away from here. But sometimes I don't really care. LIke my friend Meg. For some reason now I'm friends with her daughter Amanda and she's always posting to her friends or she wishing her Aunt a happy birthday and the messages show up on my page. eh? I'm not sure what that's all about.

Jan and Cliff seem to have the hang of it. Maybe they can give us a tutoral.

I have a Facebook account, it's fairly new with my good friend, his ex and his best friend and my cousin as my "friends" list. I am very shy on Facebook which is odd for me as I have been here on these forums since October 2005 and not a day goes by that I don't say something but figure, I now have 5 Facebook friends. I keep my account pretty closed from public except, I will share photo albums with "friends" and their friends but I think there is only 1 person who actually looks at them.

In a real life, face to face social situation, I can work a room, it is what I've always done, it was my job. I do the PR work for my BF's firm now because I have fun and am good at it. Now, he on the other hand is shy socially but has hundreds of Facebook friends, many of them from far away places and decades ago, but they keep in touch. Have the best dayMichael(Who did drop his 7th grade girlfriend from his Facebook list)

I was a holdout forever before I finally broke down and set up an account there. I'm no stranger to social networking sites as I've been on many of them over the years. I started to see how fanatical people were over FB, so my curiosity got the best of me.

The key here is setting up LISTS....

I only have less than 25 friends there, but the lot of them are people I actually KNOW, unlike other networks where people often times are familiar in the cyber world.

Basically I set up varying degrees of access. Some people have "total" access, meaning they can see (almost) everything I do on FB, the next group "basic" access, and other have even more limited access - depending on the degrees of closeness. I also have blocks in searches where people can't search for me.

Here are a few links to study, as it's not really difficult to establish these things:

Seroconverted: Early 80sTested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. Last regimen: Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky )Past regimensFun stuff (in the past): HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Just don't post any pics or write anything that you don't want your family members to read or see, and you'll be ok, also the private setting is a must on facebook, my family isn't close to me, and most all of them live in another State, so, it's a great place to get together at and chat, post, and write about what's on your mind

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I hear a lot of people at work talking about some drama over facebook and myspace all the time. Usually involves a boyfriend or husband getting messages telling him that the female enjoyed their shared time the night before and for some reason the wife or girlfriend has an issue with it.

I still don't get it.... I admit I tried it, but getting into a lengthy conversation about how I did my page bores me just like the comments of "hey dude holla at a brother", well fuck why not just call me? Actually have a friend on there names Johnny D who uses some of the stories from my child hood as his own....lol weird!

I'll just stick to my contact list on the phone....... hearing another voice for some reason strikes me as a novel idea.

I'll just stick to my contact list on the phone....... hearing another voice for some reason strikes me as a novel idea.

I tried to continue working for a long time after I couldn't and found myself in one of those "state of the art" outbound call centers where the computer would auto dial, tech support was recording and listening and there was 200 phone cubicles with computer screens where we would find the company terms used in several different conversations. The machine dialed out at least 100 cold calls per 8 hour shift for minimum wage for montgomery ward dental plans or auto clubs.

One day on 50's day... A manager was bouncing herself up and down the aisles (wearing a pink poodle skirt) cheering, "1 more sale, 1 more sale, Christy has the balloons!" I walked off the job and went home without having any idea how I was going to pay the rent. That was about 13 years ago and I still have a phobia about phones Have the best dayMichael(1 more sale, Christy has the balloons!" I would prefer having rectal cancer)

This may have been mentioned but you can also remove yourself from Facebook and Google's search results on the "search privacy settings" page. I thought I did this but somehow gradeschool friends and old tricks still keep tracking me down...

This may have been mentioned but you can also remove yourself from Facebook and Google's search results on the "search privacy settings" page. I thought I did this but somehow gradeschool friends and old tricks still keep tracking me down...

Lucky you, all of my old BFs and Tricks are all DEAD they all surcomed to AIDS

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Stopped in on the 15th, they were serving ice tea from 5 gallon jeep cans. I said hello to everyone and never went to another. This year was the 40th and I have managed to keep my contact info private. Hometown USA in my case is less than a hour drive away for 9 years and I have not been there in 20. What's that smell? ummm cows Have the best dayMichael

Stopped in on the 15th, they were serving ice tea from 5 gallon jeep cans. I said hello to everyone and never went to another. This year was the 40th and I have managed to keep my contact info private. Hometown USA in my case is less than a hour drive away for 9 years and I have not been there in 20. What's that smell? ummm cows Have the best dayMichael

I don't even wish to remember my old classmates, they were all ASS-HOLES and about 90% of them really hated GAYS, and that was way back in 1973-74 when I was in High-school...it was awful, I dropped outta high school, but, later got my G.E.D in 1975-76.......later, went on to Jr. Collage where it wasn't so bad, and I found out that people weren't all ASS-HOLES, I even made a lotta friends there, life was good and fun to live

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I have been getting a load of invites from people on this site, and I simply delete the e-mails. It isn't as though I don't like these people or anything like that, but this year has been a really good year for me health wise, and my partner retired for the second time. I have just been far too busy to spend any amount of time on the computer, and I certainly don't want to start doing so on a social site, other than this one.

I simply don't understand the "friend" thing, and the accumulation of same. As I understood the meaning of friend; someone you can call at 3am and they won't either hang up, or sound uninterested, these social networking sites are nothing more to me than a bunch of digital noise. I don't mean to sound aloof, but if I am going to call anyone a friend, it will be well after we have met, bonded, and really gotten to know each other. I guess I just don't fit into this modern age, and really have no interest in doing so. I just don't have the time.

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The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals,and 362 to heterosexuals.This doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals, It's just that they need more supervision.Lynn Lavne

We use Facebook to keep up with friends... mostly ones we know from (gay) camping. It would be difficult for me to call 'em up and chat while at work, but I can easily post a Facebook comment. For me, it's not like talking on the phone to a friend. It's like being in a group setting (I guess that's where the 'social' part come from 'social networking site') - maybe like 5 to 20 friends - and socializing. Instead of emailing a bunch of pics to a bunch of people, we can post them for group of 'friends'... and they do the same. It's actually pretty cool how it works.

If you have issues of being in the closet about ANYTHING , be careful .

All people have to do is Google my name and they get my whole gay/AIDS/lipo story complete with link to pictures of my naked ass. I'm sure there are people who have thought "whatever happened to Ford?", Googled and got more than they bargained for. I know my dad did.

I think part of the problem for me is what Moffie was talking about. I kind of dread getting friend invites from people who I don't want to communicate with, like people from high school. I know if I get an invite and don't respond I'll feel guilty that I'm ignoring someone who has made an effort to contact me. That is why I don't want people to be able to search for me.

This is a great explanation of Facebook: "For those who don't know what it is, Facebook is a massive multiplayer role playing game in which the objective is to collect 'friends'." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFKHaFJzUb4

I'm using it occasionally, with my real name, and with my fake last name.I've set privacy to HIGH after receiving some disturbing personal messages from anonymous/fake users saying things like: ''I know you are dying from AIDS. I'm gonna tell everyone';'

So, I cannot receive personal messages from people who aren't on my list of friends...and people who aren't my friends cannot see my info, my list of friends, nor my photos.

I'm not openly gay, but that does not mean I cannot comment on photos of cute guysposted on facebook by my openlygay friends. And I don't give a damn what some orthodox catholic girls from my highschool days think about that (yes they sent me a friend request, and I don't like to say NO ).

All people have to do is Google my name and they get my whole gay/AIDS/lipo story complete with link to pictures of my naked ass. I'm sure there are people who have thought "whatever happened to Ford?", Googled and got more than they bargained for. I know my dad did.

Really, pictures of your naked ass.......Oh my, where can I find them GSOgymrat.....come-on make an old man happy here ........I'm only kidding with you......tee hee.......LOL!

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Really, pictures of your naked ass.......Oh my, where can I find them GSOgymrat.....come-on make an old man happy here ........I'm only kidding with you......tee hee.......LOL!

They are lipo pics, nothing sexy believe me. Actually RoadRunner removed my lipoatrophy website, without even notifying me, so they are gone. I assume I violated some kind of terms of agreement... or just maybe good taste.

They are lipo pics, nothing sexy believe me. Actually RoadRunner removed my lipoatrophy website, without even notifying me, so they are gone. I assume I violated some kind of terms of agreement... or just maybe good taste.

Yeah, I hear ya, here in my next of the woods it's Comcast, but, it use to be called RoadRunner , they are a little skidish about certain topics, are, pics of the sort, are, they at least used to be circa 2003/2004back when we had the awful Roberto Gonzales Attorney General - G.W. Bush corny

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

The other thing you will want to be savvy about is your use of apps ... those little quizzes and things that your contacts will no doubt encourage you to use over time. Some of them are not very privacy friendly. Also, if not yet mentioned, Facebook periodically semi-reinvents itself so you will want to visit your privacy settings once in a while to ensure everything is set as you would wish ... they don't always tell you who has access to what, especially after updates and changes to infrastructure that introduces new default settings.

Supposedly I have an account on Facebook. Not sure how that's possible since I've never been on the site. I've gotten "friend" requests from people I know, but I just delete the emails. I'm like some on here - pick up the phone and give me a call. Or better yet, come on by and visit. We'll sit on the front porch and drink fresh brewed tea and eat cookies.

I can't access Facebook on my Sony cellphone, only Twitter.Twitter is a new fad, do you like it?

I twittered for a while, but I'm not huge on it. It's basically a low brow facebook.

However, I now need a fancy smart phone to really use this stuff. I'm kind of wanting to be anti-iPhone (even though I'm majorly pro-Apple and have been for over a decade) and buy a Palm Pre. I was actually one of the very first Treo 180 customers, and in fact I was on a waiting list to buy it before it even came out. Back then it was like the first to have SMS texting, but I had nobody to text to because nobody else could do it. So I only sent texts to my two friends who also had Treo 180's.

Plus I'm already a Sprint customer, and the cheapest data plan for the Pre is cheaper than the iPhone's, plus At&T sucks ass and drops calls all the time. Sprint rarely if ever does. People always complain about AT&T's customer service too, but Sprint has never been a problem with me.

No, my cats had the names "cock" and "cunt" in Spanish. Pito and Chucha. We'd get really nasty looks from the Puerto Rican girls that worked the reception desk at the local vets office. Either that or a lot of giggling.

Poor Pito passed away from intestinal cancer the year before I moved to Philadelphia, and it was horribly traumatic and I refuse to get another pet, so now I raise specialty hybrid hibiscus plants, though currently I'm battling a bad case of white flies. I think one plant is on the way to dying a long, slow death.

Chucha is still alive and living in Brooklyn, but she has a bad hernia or something and some other issue where she has to take an oral steroid every day or she won't eat. I doubt she'll last through the end of the year, but then she's almost 15 years old and I guess that's about as long as a cat lives, right? I still see her whenever I go back up to Brooklyn.

Is that a joke? A tribute by someone who is waiting for Jake Ryan to appear in a sportscar with a birthday cake? If that is the actor's Facebook page he may want to update his photo-- it's very "Baby Jane".

Is that a joke? A tribute by someone who is waiting for Jake Ryan to appear in a sportscar with a birthday cake? If that is the actor's Facebook page he may want to update his photo-- it's very "Baby Jane".

He's way more hot in Vision Quest -- totally different look than in Sixteen Candles. Plus there's the bonus Matthew Modine in a wrestling singlet angle ***swoon***

Being technically savvy is my job. I figured out a long time ago that there isn't much I can't find out if I want to. That includes information about me. So, I decided to control it rather than avoid it. Anyway, it's basically an uncomfortable fact that life isn't as private as we'd like to think. I personally have chosen to go with it.

Technology isn't something to be feared. Like it or not, use of technology has moved beyond an esoteric interest into a fundamental life skill. Facebook is just one more way to keep in touch with the important people in your life. There are lots of controls that help you make information more private. I started using it to send pics to my mom and was frankly floored with the number of people I found from my many past lives. I recommend it.

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