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12-31-2012 02:21 PM

dave22q

Re: Hard choices..

re: hard choices
if mother is bad as you say fight for custody or buy it. kidnapping really bad idea as is trying to make a living abroad. as a first step you might see how you feel sleeping and cooking on an affordable rented boat. its a lot more cramped then it looks from the shore. it makes a studio apartment seem spacious.

10-29-2012 03:41 PM

scratchee

Re: Hard choices..

I'm not sure I agree that methadone being legal (with a prescription, I presume) makes it a foregone conclusion that the kids must stay with their mother. Addiction is addiction and unhealthy is unhealthy.

Also, any boat you buy now is likely to add to your problems and will likely solve nothing. A boat will reduce your options while adding to your responsibilities.

10-29-2012 03:13 PM

emoney

Re: Hard choices..

Dang, talk about the textbook example of using "liveaboard" as another word for "escapism". The thing about running away from your problems is they always find a way to keep up. Get some help for you first. Worry about step 2 later.

10-29-2012 01:55 PM

chucklesR

Re: Hard choices..

Sorry dude, you've just confirmed the need and use of the ignore list.

10-29-2012 01:30 PM

denverd0n

Re: Hard choices..

Seriously, man. You're "joking" about snatching your kids. You're talking about fleeing and asking about ways to get around the law. You need help. You need it now. You AIN'T gonna get the kind of help you need from a public internet forum!!!!!

I wish someone close to you could see this, so that they could realize how desperately you need an intervention.

10-27-2012 04:44 PM

hellosailor

Re: Hard choices..

"Any advice? I mean she steala from my wallet when I sleep,"And you leave the wallet where you know she will pilfer it.

That's enabling her. That's co-dependency. If any of this is news to you let me add one more voice ot the choir: GET PROFESSIONAL HELP. This is not the place for it.

Whether you are in a boat or a motel doesn't matter, you need professional help to make some hard choices about the domestic problem first.

10-27-2012 08:13 AM

ebs001

Re: Hard choices..

Hopefull, FULL STOP. Get professional advice. Talk to a family counselor and a lawyer. Until you do so ANY action on your part is insane.

10-26-2012 11:55 PM

Hopefulliveaboard

Re: Hard choices..

Oh snap so trade my cash for savings bonds? And they will be tax exepmt , wait for here in ohio or in whatever country I might flee to? Thanks for advice regardless, we arent married but I wouldnt mind paying child support if it actually went to the boy. I had actually tried to throw her out before but she gets mail here and I was told by cps that being the mommy state it is she would automaticlly get custody since not married and she legally takes her drugs, but selling the house will bypass my obligations of proper eviction on my end, I also dont think they will give custody to someone that has no asddress like im planning, in fact now thay I think about it might make it hard to get a passport also.

10-26-2012 08:35 PM

drhoward20

Re: Hard choices..

you will need a passport can take cash with you
hide cash perhaps savings bonds tax exempt with coupons they are untraceable
coins jewels hidden on boat
or can set up anonymouse corp untraceable
how long can you be sell sufficient
u will be on hook for child support forever
maybe divoce and try to get custody or never return

10-26-2012 08:22 PM

Hopefulliveaboard

Re: Hard choices..

I think mark twain is telling me to run for it

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