This was my introduction to asexuality: I was 20 and in the fall of my junior year of college. I was standing in my room with a small group of my sorority sisters. The girls were talking about which boys they currently had crushes on, and I remarked that I didn't have a crush on anyone. One of my good friends mentioned casually, "Maybe you're asexual."

"NO I'M NOT!" I replied with horrified vehemence.

When I came out to her as asexual more than a year later, she was quite accepting.

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Asexual Perspectives

As humans, we are in general a social species, programmed to support each other in family units and communities and it seems often mob rule dictates what is normal, expected or acceptable behaviour. Especially in a modern society where the media projects these ideas into every facet of our lives, we are now educated very early on as to how life apparently is. No matter what our true feelings inside, we may now attempt to adhere to the ‘rules’ that we have collectively set ourselves.