How to build the foundation for your psychology

As men, we’re bombarded by self-help advice. How to talk to girls, how to choose a purpose, how to develop the right mindset, how to “sort out our lives.”

But all of it misses the point because it’s instruction. It tells us what to do instead of showing us what to do.

Imagine you’re lost on a road trip, so you begin to ask people for directions, but they only tell you where to go. What you really need is a map that shows you where you need to go and other points of interest you didn’t even know existed.

It’s no one’s fault they haven’t shown you the map because, until this book, the map of psychology hasn’t existed.

“This is not advice, it’s the structure of your mind.” – Ben L.

The Purpose of a Psychological Map

Unifying psychology into a map sounds nice, but why should we care?

To answer this question, let’s take a step back. What are the surface-level qualities of the kind of man we want to be? The kind of man we all feel, deep down, we can be?

Here are a few I can think of:

He’s in control of himself and rarely loses his composure.

He’s capable of handling any problem that comes his way, even if it means forgetting about it and moving on.

He knows what he wants, and he’s capable of achieving it most of the time.

When he sees a woman who he wants to meet, he talks to her.

He can build a healthy relationship with a woman based on sexual chemistry and honesty.

He may not be handsome, but he knows how to make himself look his best.

He prefers peace, but he’s comfortable with conflict.

He has a positive effect on any environment.

He introduces himself to strangers, and he introduces strangers to each other.

He projects strength, even if he isn’t physically strong.

When other men are around him, they find themselves thinking, “Yeah, I need to be more like that.”

It’s my contention that we cannot achieve any of these attributes by focusing on any single attribute itself. If it were that easy, then no man would every act like an idiot. First we must manage our deeper issues from which a healthy psychology flows, from which these behaviors are the result.

“The ideas in this book are an insurance policy against tragedy.” – Jordan M.

As men, we avoid managing deeper issues and for good reason—there hasn’t been, until now, a structure through which we can manage issues in a predictable way.

I see the mistake of avoiding issues when guys try to get better with women. Most guys think they need to do one thing as opposed to another. Make a certain approach, recite a specific line, kiss her in a certain way. The amount of texting guides available on Men’s Rights sites could fill up a hard drive as big as the Grand Canyon.

Except a lack of psychological foundation impedes our progress from step one. It doesn’t matter what we say to any girl because it’s still us saying it. If we do detach ourselves from the rejection and blindly push through to get some success, we’re unable to create a relationship with a quality girl because we lack the deeper maturity. Our issue with women is only a symptom of a flawed psychology.

“A single section from Man’s Guide to Psychology not only pinpointed an issue in my life I was previously unaware of, but it showed me what I would need to do to fix it. Nine years of suffering summed up in a few pages—totally unbelievable.” – Andy H.

Same thing with alcoholics. The compulsive drinking is a symptom of a deeper cause. We do not cure an alcoholic by getting him to put down the drink. This only works for a few weeks at most. He only puts down the drink once he changes the psychology that causes the compulsion.

We can have all the sunlight and water and warm days we could need, but if our soil is desolate, the farm struggles. Psychological unification is the fertile soil of the masculine man.

“When I started reading… I didn’t expect the most elegant and accurate explanation of how our psychology operates and an unbelievably practical guide on how to take the reins of it.” – Taki

My Offer

Once we manage about 80 percent of each of the four branches of our psychology, the above attributes will take care of themselves—they will flow naturally and easily from a unified psychology.

Our issues may seem special, but they are all rooted in one of the four branches of psychology. Every psychological issue—from either the psychoanalytic or cognitive models—fits into my unification of man’s psychology.

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To paraphrase Carl Jung: the more personal a problem is, the more universal it is.

And to paraphrase me: the more universal a problem is, the easier it is to overcome.