7 Ways to Cope with a Vain Boyfriend ...

We've all heard that Carly Simon song "You're so Vain" right? And we all sometimes have the urge to sing it when that guy, who can't help but look at himself in any reflective surface, walks into the room. You know the guy. We're all vain to a certain extent and sometimes we wear our image like an impenetrable shield. It's when the vanity extends to over confidence and being conceited that we need to take steps to quash the behavior or just move on. If you have a vain boyfriend who takes longer to get ready than you do or who constantly checks to see if all hairs are in their proper place then read on.

1. Building Confidence

One of the first ways to cope with a vain boyfriend is to try to find the reasons behind his vain behavior. Vanity is often due to a lack of confidence and a fear of not coming across a certain way. The constant preening and checking also often masks extreme vulnerability. You can cope with this vain behavior by showing that you can be vulnerable with him and encouraging him to be vulnerable with you too.

2. Compliments

Showing that you love the way your boyfriend looks is another important thing to do to let your boyfriend know that you don't care what he looks like. Compliment him and let him know that he doesn't have to spend hours in front of the mirror in order to look good because you're attracted to him no matter what!

3. Comfortable

You need to be truly comfortable with your significant other and this can only be achieved by spending some quality time with him. He certainly has a softer side underneath that mask but you may need to get a little closer to see it. Make sure you're truly comfortable with each other and spend time with each other where it's just you two together. This way he will be able to let down his defenses and show you the real him.

4. Make a Joke

Nobody wants to fight with their beau but sometimes the vanity can become a real issue. See the funny side of it and joke with him about his vanity. Write some funny notes on the mirror that he keeps checking himself in. He might begin to see that he is annoying you and may modify his behavior as a result. Remember, extreme vanity is down to insecurity so don't berate him too much - have fun with him.

5. Build Your Self Confidence

Maybe you also need to increase your own self confidence and perhaps you suffer from low self esteem. One way to cope with a vain boyfriend is to build your own self confidence. Think about why his behavior bothers you.

6. Love His Flaws

I know we no longer reside in caves but the fundamental behaviors sometimes still apply. Remember that men are the hunter gatherers in this concrete jungle we now live in and they programmed to feel as though they must be in control. He may be trying to over compensate for what he sees as his flaws with vanity. Show him you love him by telling him how much you adore him, flaws and all.

7. Last Resort

If the vanity is becoming too much and is putting a strain on your relationship then it may be time to move on. I'm not saying that vanity spells the end of a relationship but if it gets to a point where he is more interested in himself than you or that he is so insecure that he can't think about anyone else, then it might be time to move on.

These are just some of the ways to cope with a vain boyfriend. Do you have a vain boyfriend? How have you coped with his behavior? Has it taken its toll on the relationship?