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I'd Forgotten How Easy Life is With Just One Kid; EDITED

My parents intended to take both of my girls for the weekend to spoil them rotten and give me some much needed rest. They rarely spend the night away from me much less spend a weekend away from me. However, my oldest (5) came home from preschool slightly under the weather with an upset tummy, so I kept her with me to make sure it didn't get worse (luckily, it didn't and she was fine by Sat. morning). So for the weekend, I just had one child, and OMG, it was paradise!!! She and I slept until 9:30. I didn't even know I was still capable of sleeping that late!!!

During the day, Saturday, we laid across the bed and just talked and snuggled. I got her the yogurt parfait from Chickfila for breakfast because that's her favorite. And then we spent hours sitting on the couch while I played Call of Duty and she helped by telling me when she'd spot a bad guy for me to shoot.

That evening, we went to one of her favorite restaurants, and shopping for her some new clothes and shoes for her, and then out for a train ride on the kids' train at the mall and out for frozen yogurt. It was heaven.

Sunday was another lazy day. We went to church, had lunch at Red Lobster and she hung out while I detailed my car. She sang to me and we talked about anything and everything that was on her mind. Priceless.

My youngest had a great time with my parents too. So everyone won. But OMG, having just one kid was so easy!!! I'd forgotten how fabulous it is.

Edit: Yes, I said Call of Duty. I turned the sound down and she ate it up cause she's only used to seeing DH play video games. It was the first time I've gotten to touch the Playstation in like 3 years and I don't think it's excessive for me to finally get a few hours on a Saturday afternoon to play it, especially since DD thought it was hilarious to watch me struggle with it and we laughed hysterically together. Also, if you read my post in it's entirety, you will notice that I did many other things with her.

Actually I work my a** off every day and I'm a full time student. I also keep a spotless house and that was the first time I've so much as touched the playstation in 3 years because I've been doing everything EXCEPT sitting on my butt. I think I'm justified in taking a few hours on a Saturday to do something I never get to do anymore. Also, if you read the entire post, you will notice that I did many other things with her.

Quoting Anonymous:

"And then we spent hours sitting on the couch while I played Call of Duty and she helped by telling me when she'd spot a bad guy for me to shoot.", oh yeah, thats healthy mother daughter bonding time. Why not get off your butt and do something constructive with your kid. A five year old child shouldn't even be watching you play call of duty, especially not for hours. Why exactly do you need a break from your kids when it appears that you sit around everyday on your butt and only get up to do something for yourself?

Mine are 3 years apart and are the same way. Luckily one is in school.

Quoting garnet83:

Right and with 2 girls only 16 months apart and opposite personalities, they do play together and they are close. But their playing usually ends up in teaming up against DH and me or aggravating each other. When they play nicely, it's a treat. When they don't, it's WW3.

Quoting lovinglife0682:

I keep seeing moms of one say that when you have two at least they play. Most of the time mine are at eachothers throats.

Quoting garnet83:

To a mom that has 2 kids, it's easier. Way easier. It's only one bath. One set of teeth to brush. One kid to feed. One kid to keep out of trouble. When they are together, they feed off each other and I constantly have to separate them when they get wild or start fighting or compete for my attention. Yes, they play together. But it usually ends in a fight that I have to break up.

Quoting ChristieV:

Saying that having one child is "easy" is going to piss some people off. I have only one - a six year old boy. He has ADHD and is a handful. I am the constant playmate, he doesn't sleep in, and it is exhausting. I love him, but when he has a friend over it is so much easier. Most of my friends with two kids say it is sometimes easier because they have eachother to play with, or at least interact with.

Since I don't have two, I won't begin to say it's easier. I'm sure it's not. But it's not fair to say having one is easy either. It's not.

Unless you have multiple kids I don't think you understand how pulled you feel sometimes. Being a mom of 4 (with a 10yr span in the middle) I love when I had time with either my older 2 or younger 2, trying to find activities to make everyone happy is not easy.

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