Re: feeling depressed when i heard that someone is pregnant

Hi Chitra,

These kind of feelings and getting depressed is quite common for all the human beings and that too when a person who is not able to give birth to a child hears someone's pregnancy or child birth, this feeling is sure to come.

That too, it is sure to happen for both the husband and wife. The wife will be much more depressed than the husband.

Now, to overcome this, you can try the following.

First of all, when you hear someone saying that they are pregnant or given birth to a child, the next moment you congratulate them and immediately, you should say to your inner mind that one day is coming soon when all these people is going to congratulate you for the same instances.

And the next thing you should think in your mind is, let me pray for their safe delivery or for the welfare of the child.

This will certainly boost your confidence.

Immediately involve yourself in any other work just to divert the thought

And also say to your mind that this will happen one day or the other and you are not going to stop your try till it happens.

That time tell your mind , the below words

ARISE, AWAKE, STOP NOT TILL THE GOAL IS REACHED.

Getting pregnant may not be in your hands but having faith will certainly improve the situation. Drowning into the anxiety will never help.

Try all the medical methods to get pregnant. Believe in God and you can follow Sashti viradham, chant Garba rakshambika slogams etc. which would help you certainly.

You should have hope that, many couples have delivered their baby even after 15 years of marriage. you should tell to your mind that similarly you will also give birth to a child.

Or, if you have crossed some 15 years of marriage without a child and if your doctors have lost hope in your pregnancy, you can immediately go for adopting a child. Even after adoption, many ladies have delivered their own child also.

Once in a while you can cry as much as you can, which will certainly relieve your depression and immediately after that, tell your mind that "enough chitra......enough of crying.....God will never let you down......one day or the other you are giving birth to a beautiful baby.....so no more worries....only these hopes are going to rule your mind in the days to come". thinking like this, will certainly boost your thoughts while at the same time, you would have got relieved from your depression after crying.

Re: feeling depressed when i heard that someone is pregnant

Chitra,

It would be nice to visit a psychologist to overcome the dipression. People are afraid to go to a psychologist or a psychiatrist because they think othersmay form bad impression - like they are mad - about them. but in reality, they are doctors and in my opinion everyone should visit them atleast once in six months to get over the tension we feel in the present day world.

Also read Sivasankari's "Valartha Kada" which deals with this problem, a very nice, practical story.

Oh Goddess of the town of protection of pregnancy,
Who is blessed with divine beauty, who carries a good mangalya,
Who gives every one, who is the mother of all,
Who is pretty, who melts with mercy, I sing about you.
*The mangal Suthra-It could also mean a god with blessed form

In the month of Ashada*, on Fridays,
You are covered with scented sandal paste,
And dressed in divine cloths and offered,
By lucky devotees, the Vajapeya sacrifice.
* July-August of the Souramana Hindu calendar

During the Brahmothsava,* along with sound of music,
Sitting on a chariot you go round the streets of Brahmins,
And I pray you,who is the giver of all that is good,
Who removes the problems of groups of gods,
And is the mother of the entire universe.
*Annual festival