Post by thebaffledking on Sept 11, 2018 4:14:31 GMT -5

This happened to me. 4.5 years ago I received a message from a woman on EP, from 7000 miles away, telling me my story mirrored hers to a tee. She was a member of EP-ILIASM, but I don't think she ever made a post herself. Anyway, my gawd how we hit it off. Neither of us were out there looking. Both of us were suffering mightily. But neither of us had ever suddenly felt so instantly close to another human being. And then I saw her face, just like the song. OMG......I was fucking floored by her beauty. I was just so stunned that a woman of such beauty could be in an SM.....but it's not about looks in an SM, and that's a point that isn't often made (but is for another thread some other time).

From that very first day, I found myself chatting for several hours every single day without fail. This went on for a YEAR before we met in person.....and that meeting was comprised of moments that would both make a sailor blush and Oprah shed tears of spiritual joy. It was everything both of us had thought it would be.....but I had some things I was committed to seeing through at home, and so was she.....we knew we'd meet again, but thank God we didn't know at the time how LONG it would be....another three YEARS would go by! And yet, we chatted every single day, for hours, as always. We finally met again this past July and again -- the intensity of the experience, on all levels and in all aspects....I can't even find the words.

And now? She is moving in with me next month. I know, I know, the cold heart will say 'Oh jeeze, this clown's heading for disaster!' Nope. Not even a little. I have been alone, spiritually and physically, for the last 15 years, albeit being married. This is no 'rebound' for either of us. The quality of this woman and what we feel for each other is just so extraordinary.....over four and a half years. We actually semi-joke that the 4.5 years of being forced to TALK and only talk has probably made our relationship more extraordinary and durable than if we'd met and gotten to know each other under more traditional circumstances. We couldn't rely on anything but communication for 99% of all that time. We have both been through the mill, but now we're about to enter into a shared life of fun, adventure, peace, contentment, travel....and sex like I've never known before.

And it all started ONLINE, with neither of us looking for anything more on EP than a place to share our pain and commiserate.......I am a lucky man. I hit the jackpot and my life has been saved. Baby's coming home!

Post by sadkat on Sept 11, 2018 17:46:33 GMT -5

This happened to me. 4.5 years ago I received a message from a woman on EP, from 7000 miles away, telling me my story mirrored hers to a tee. She was a member of EP-ILIASM, but I don't think she ever made a post herself. Anyway, my gawd how we hit it off. Neither of us were out there looking. Both of us were suffering mightily. But neither of us had ever suddenly felt so instantly close to another human being. And then I saw her face, just like the song. OMG......I was fucking floored by her beauty. I was just so stunned that a woman of such beauty could be in an SM.....but it's not about looks in an SM, and that's a point that isn't often made (but is for another thread some other time).

From that very first day, I found myself chatting for several hours every single day without fail. This went on for a YEAR before we met in person.....and that meeting was comprised of moments that would both make a sailor blush and Oprah shed tears of spiritual joy. It was everything both of us had thought it would be.....but I had some things I was committed to seeing through at home, and so was she.....we knew we'd meet again, but thank God we didn't know at the time how LONG it would be....another three YEARS would go by! And yet, we chatted every single day, for hours, as always. We finally met again this past July and again -- the intensity of the experience, on all levels and in all aspects....I can't even find the words.

And now? She is moving in with me next month. I know, I know, the cold heart will say 'Oh jeeze, this clown's heading for disaster!' Nope. Not even a little. I have been alone, spiritually and physically, for the last 15 years, albeit being married. This is no 'rebound' for either of us. The quality of this woman and what we feel for each other is just so extraordinary.....over four and a half years. We actually semi-joke that the 4.5 years of being forced to TALK and only talk has probably made our relationship more extraordinary and durable than if we'd met and gotten to know each other under more traditional circumstances. We couldn't rely on anything but communication for 99% of all that time. We have both been through the mill, but now we're about to enter into a shared life of fun, adventure, peace, contentment, travel....and sex like I've never known before.

And it all started ONLINE, with neither of us looking for anything more on EP than a place to share our pain and commiserate.......I am a lucky man. I hit the jackpot and my life has been saved. Baby's coming home!

Wow, what a wonderful story! Congratulations on finding love again and thanks for sharing your story with us!

Post by ggold on Oct 12, 2018 22:17:22 GMT -5

This happened to me. 4.5 years ago I received a message from a woman on EP, from 7000 miles away, telling me my story mirrored hers to a tee. She was a member of EP-ILIASM, but I don't think she ever made a post herself. Anyway, my gawd how we hit it off. Neither of us were out there looking. Both of us were suffering mightily. But neither of us had ever suddenly felt so instantly close to another human being. And then I saw her face, just like the song. OMG......I was fucking floored by her beauty. I was just so stunned that a woman of such beauty could be in an SM.....but it's not about looks in an SM, and that's a point that isn't often made (but is for another thread some other time).

From that very first day, I found myself chatting for several hours every single day without fail. This went on for a YEAR before we met in person.....and that meeting was comprised of moments that would both make a sailor blush and Oprah shed tears of spiritual joy. It was everything both of us had thought it would be.....but I had some things I was committed to seeing through at home, and so was she.....we knew we'd meet again, but thank God we didn't know at the time how LONG it would be....another three YEARS would go by! And yet, we chatted every single day, for hours, as always. We finally met again this past July and again -- the intensity of the experience, on all levels and in all aspects....I can't even find the words.

And now? She is moving in with me next month. I know, I know, the cold heart will say 'Oh jeeze, this clown's heading for disaster!' Nope. Not even a little. I have been alone, spiritually and physically, for the last 15 years, albeit being married. This is no 'rebound' for either of us. The quality of this woman and what we feel for each other is just so extraordinary.....over four and a half years. We actually semi-joke that the 4.5 years of being forced to TALK and only talk has probably made our relationship more extraordinary and durable than if we'd met and gotten to know each other under more traditional circumstances. We couldn't rely on anything but communication for 99% of all that time. We have both been through the mill, but now we're about to enter into a shared life of fun, adventure, peace, contentment, travel....and sex like I've never known before.

And it all started ONLINE, with neither of us looking for anything more on EP than a place to share our pain and commiserate.......I am a lucky man. I hit the jackpot and my life has been saved. Baby's coming home!

I'm so happy for you both!! It's finally happening!! Wishing you all the best!!G

Post by javba on Oct 13, 2018 18:14:58 GMT -5

This happened to me. 4.5 years ago I received a message from a woman on EP, from 7000 miles away, telling me my story mirrored hers to a tee. She was a member of EP-ILIASM, but I don't think she ever made a post herself. Anyway, my gawd how we hit it off. Neither of us were out there looking. Both of us were suffering mightily. But neither of us had ever suddenly felt so instantly close to another human being. And then I saw her face, just like the song. OMG......I was fucking floored by her beauty. I was just so stunned that a woman of such beauty could be in an SM.....but it's not about looks in an SM, and that's a point that isn't often made (but is for another thread some other time).

From that very first day, I found myself chatting for several hours every single day without fail. This went on for a YEAR before we met in person.....and that meeting was comprised of moments that would both make a sailor blush and Oprah shed tears of spiritual joy. It was everything both of us had thought it would be.....but I had some things I was committed to seeing through at home, and so was she.....we knew we'd meet again, but thank God we didn't know at the time how LONG it would be....another three YEARS would go by! And yet, we chatted every single day, for hours, as always. We finally met again this past July and again -- the intensity of the experience, on all levels and in all aspects....I can't even find the words.

And now? She is moving in with me next month. I know, I know, the cold heart will say 'Oh jeeze, this clown's heading for disaster!' Nope. Not even a little. I have been alone, spiritually and physically, for the last 15 years, albeit being married. This is no 'rebound' for either of us. The quality of this woman and what we feel for each other is just so extraordinary.....over four and a half years. We actually semi-joke that the 4.5 years of being forced to TALK and only talk has probably made our relationship more extraordinary and durable than if we'd met and gotten to know each other under more traditional circumstances. We couldn't rely on anything but communication for 99% of all that time. We have both been through the mill, but now we're about to enter into a shared life of fun, adventure, peace, contentment, travel....and sex like I've never known before.

And it all started ONLINE, with neither of us looking for anything more on EP than a place to share our pain and commiserate.......I am a lucky man. I hit the jackpot and my life has been saved. Baby's coming home!

Happy for youThat's incredible.

I did hit it off online but our directions were different. I had things to see thru, and she was more ready for the next chapter.

Short story short, I had to excuse my self out of that though we had good connection.

Definitely not calling you out on 'hope'! We ALL need it as the seed of our planning. It just reminded me of seeing this piece today (-:

Four and a half years ago, I was presented with hope......but it has taken four and a half years of action (often excruciatingly difficult action) to bring things to fruition. And now, in 12 days, she's coming to live with me. Four and a half years........I'm glad I didn't know how long it would all take on the day I met her or I might have bowed out and continued on my downward spiral! Something told me, though.....'Hang on to this one.....no matter what.....' So I did (-:

Post by baza on Oct 13, 2018 19:25:22 GMT -5

Not that I'm recommending or endorsing it, but the instances where people have hooked up having met on this site (or the old EP/ILIASM site) are far from rare.I base that on my experiences since Feb 2009, plus the fact that Ms enna and I met on the EP/ILIASM site and our relationship is now going into its' 9th year.Without thinking too hard I reckon I could easily name 5 other current couples who met here (or on EP/ILIASM)

I think that if you are a member here, it is pretty indicative that your marriage is something of a fuck up, and other members "get it" which gives you something important in common straight off without having had to ask even one question.

Over and above that, I still think it a matter of blind luck where and how peoples paths cross.For my part, when I joined the EP/ILIASM group, I wasn't "looking" for a relationship (I was busy enough getting out of the dud deal I was in to be adding that sort of thing on top. I wasn't averse to the idea, but I'd have to say I was "unenthusiastic").

Anyway, I got "lucky".But looking through the rear view mirror, it seems that the more fully informed choices I made, the "luckier" I got.

Post by thebaffledking on Oct 14, 2018 6:30:01 GMT -5

She’s beautiful thebaffledking . I’m very happy for you both. Please check back with us from time to time and tell us how you’re doing.

Thank you, sadkat. It's her 'inside self' that utterly captivated me. She is the kindest, sweetest, smartest, and most fun person I have met. We clicked from first contact and I can hardly believe that in less than two weeks we'll be sharing a life together. I do hope we can all find what we need for ourselves. Life is way too short to be fucking around (no pun intended)!

In the betrayal of his love he awakenedTo face a world of cold reality

frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatableAug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5