This weekend I studied a very interesting concept that pertains to happiness. The psychological concept is called Hedonic Adaptation, also known as the Hedonic Treadmill. Hedonic Adaptation suggests that joy, love, triumph, sorrow and loss all fade with time. We naturally become accustom to positive or negative emotional stimulus. As we become accustomed to the positive / negative stimulus, our goals adjust to increase or maintain our well being. The pursuit of happiness resembles a person on a treadmill constantly moving forward with an insatiable hunger for happiness.

How does this apply to pick-up and venusian science? As pick-up artists we are constantly striving for the next beautiful woman. Hoping to satisfy our biological needs. In this pursuit of happiness it is very easy to become accustomed to the positive emotional stimulus that we experience and enter into destructive behavior that is a result of hedonic adaptation.

I see men who are on the hedonic treadmill constantly working to increase or maintain their success with women. Their are unintended consequences for men in the pick-up community with insatiable desires.

You must establish measurable goals. Once you reach your goals you must find a way to be physically and emotionally satisfied. You can’t just ask “How Can I Get Girls?”

The goal of this blog is to teach men How To Get Girls. The material teaches social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process and help men to become more persuasive in their social interactions with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with building trust and rapport with your target.

What makes pick-up so difficult is that you are dealing with complete strangers. It is very easy for a beautiful woman to feel threatened by a complete stranger and react in negative manner to your approach strategy. Strangers are often seen as the “opposition” or the “other side” and are treated much differently than someone who they already know. It is much easier dealing with a classmate, co-worker, friend or even a friend of a friend.

A pick-up artist has the ability to avoid being a stranger, quickly building trust and rapport with his target.

The more quickly you can turn a stranger into someone that you know the better.

A relationship of trust is what causes a woman to write down her telephone number, hang-out with you and your friends, hold hands, kiss, enter your living space, and ultimately enter your bedroom.

Try hard to get to know your target. Ask questions and listen. Find out about their likes and dislikes. Share intimate and personal information / interesting facts about yourself that will allow your target to know more about you.

I write this blog with the intention of helping men to improve their game and learn How To Get The Girl of their dreams. I teach social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. I try to teach men to be more persuasive with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with asking questions during your approach.

When approaching women and engaging in conversation you need to use two key tools:

Tools:

1.) Use questions instead of statements
2.) Silence

The first tool is asking questions. Questions generate answers and statements generate resistance. Question will allow your target to express themselves and you can provide them with recognition for their unique insight or wisdom.

“Questions do not criticize, they educate.” -Roger Fisher

If you ask your target an honest question and you get an insufficient answer. Use the second tool. Silence…

Silence is a great tool to use if a target is acting unreasonably or attacking you in an unjustified way. Often the best thing that you can do is sit there and not say a word. Simply sit silently and provide uncomfortable silence. She will know that she has cross a line that shouldn’t be crossed.

If you’re reading this blog chances are you are looking to improve your game and learn about the attraction and seduction process. The material in this blog is meant to teach men about social dynamics that influence female decision making behavior and improve success with women. I try to to answer the question “How Do You Get A Girl?”. The topic that I will discuss today has to do with the importance of active listening to improve communication.

When you approach your target and engage in conversation it is important to actively listen and acknowledge what is being said. Women want to feel recognition and listening enables you to provide this basic need. Listening also allows you to understand their perception, feel their emotions and hear what they are trying to say.

If you become an active listener it will not only improve what you hear, but it will improve what you say.

When you listen to what your target is saying, you give her the satisfaction of being heard and understood. This recognition is a major component of building trust and creating rapport. A good pick-up artist always acknowledges what their target is saying and demonstrates that they understand them.

Have you ever found yourself frustrated asking the question How Can I Get Girls to like me? The purpose of this blog is to teach men about social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. The material will teach you to become more persuasive in your social interactions with women. The topic I will discuss today is personal interests.

Women usually place the highest priority on their own personal interests. We come from a very individualist society that assigns very high importance to the preferences of the individual. (We’re Selfish) The most powerful motivating personal interests are basic human needs. These are the main concerns that influence decision making and motivate all people. It is important to know each of these needs in order to understand female psychology.

By acknowledging these fundamental human needs and incorporating elements that influence these needs into your approach and routines, you will maximize success with women. As a pick-up artist it is your job to serve these interests and make your target feel good about herself. You should try to make her interests come alive.

Men read this blog to improve their game and answer the question “How Do You Get Girls?” Each day I provide a useful tip that will help men be more persuasive with women. The material is meant to help men understand the attraction and seduction process and become more successful with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with the benefit of a mutual gain scenario in your approach.

The idea of a mutual gain scenario is to make any commitment an easy and painless decision for your target. The skill of inventing a mutual gain scenario is one of the most useful skills that a pick-up artist can have. Your goal is to invent mutually advantageous situations and create a scenario that expands the pie before dividing it. If you are successful you will easily gain her compliance.

In a nightclub environment where you are approaching beautiful women it is important to be creative and invent ways to make their decision to be with you an easy one. If your invite or commitment appears to be a ‘win-win’ for both parties she will most likely say YES!

Men visit this blog to learn how to attract supermodel hot women or learn “How to Get The Girl” of their dreams. The material is intended to teach men about social dynamics that influence the attraction and seduction process. The goal is to help men become more persuasive in their social interactions with women and improve their game. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with negotiation strategy.

Your success with women has to do with your ability to negotiate with your target to gain compliance. You should work to make her decision as easy as possible. You should confront your target with a choice that seems painless and natural. Men usually pay very little attention to the way they deliver commitments and how the choice influences her decision.

It is important to put yourself in the shoes of your target and work on routines that present her with choices that are easy to accept. You are trying to create an easy decision, not a tough one.

Example:

You want to invite your target to attend a party. You could say “We’re having a party on Friday. Would you like to come over?”

This may seem reasonable, but when you put yourself in your targets shoes it would be easy to say “yes” and then flake out.

Instead it might be better try to create a compelling proposition that requires her to take action.

“We’re having a huge party Friday night. I’d like you to come. Let me give you my number and you can call me.”

You’re not asking her to commit. But you’re requiring her to take action.

A request for action is often a more appealing request. Giving her a request to take action increases your perceived value and you avoid appearing desperate for people to attend your party.

I write this blog to teach men “How To Get A Girl” and improve their game. Each day I teach a different principle relating to social dynamics that influence decision making and help men become more persuasive with women. The concept that I would like to discuss today has to do with demonstrating high value in social settings.

Extremely beautiful woman don’t want to live average lifestyles. They know they are beautiful and they feel entitled to a privileged life. These woman only want to date men of high value. Your social stock has to be through the roof. Women want to meet a man who is fun, entertaining and interesting and become part of his interesting life. You don’t have to be famous, rich, or extremely good looking. But, you must demonstrate high value. Every move you make, every word you speak and every action you make should show your target that you are a man of VALUE! Always ask yourself the question: How can I improve my perceived value? Then work accordingly.

It’s not only about gaining the approval of your target. You must win over her friends also and show them that you are interesting.

One of the biggest mistakes men make with woman is living an extremely average life. Extremely beautiful woman don’t want to live average lives. In order to maximize success with woman you must find ways to demonstrate value and become more interesting.

You may have asked yourself the question “How Do You Get A Girl” to like you? I write this blog to teach men about the attraction and seduction process and help them to improve their game. The material that I discuss teaches social dynamics that make men persuasive in their social interactions with women. The topic that I would like to discuss today has to do with the importance of physical comfort in the attraction and seduction process.

In order for a woman to arrive at the decision to hook up with you, the situation must feel right in her mind with no awkwardness or weird tension. Women are very intuitive and pay close attention to their feelings and emotions.

In order to create an environment that promotes positive energy. It is important to focus on your targets physical condition. She needs to feel 100% comfortable in order to progress into a physical relationship. She needs to feel comfortable with your touch before you kiss her. She needs to be comfortable with your kiss before you can progress further sexually. There is a natural progression that takes place that allows your relationship to progress. Each step should feel 100% natural.

If you create an environment that is warm and inviting with positive energy you will improve your chances of making her “feel right” about the situation.

You’re reading this blog because you want to answer the question “How Can I Get girls?” The reason that I write this blog is to provide advice for men trying to improve their game. The material will help you during the attraction and seduction process, by helping you become more persuasive in social interactions with women. The concept that I would like to teach today is called “Seeding Conversation” The idea is to be indirectly suggestive in conversation when seeking compliance.

When you want to invite a woman over to your place to watch a movie. You never outright say, “Come over to my house and watch a movie with me.” Instead it is better to seed the invititation in low doses and build excitement around the movie and then suddenly change the subject. Later in the evening revisit the movie topic in order to let the excitement build.

For example:

If you want to take a your date back to your place. Seed into the conversation “I heard the most amazing song today. I haven’t been able to get it out of my head.” Then later on in the date mention as an after thought. “Hey, you’ve got to listen to that amazing song I was telling you about real quick. It’s amazing, I think I’m in love. Then take her to your place and get her comfortable with the idea of visiting you living space. Quickly let her listen to the song that you like and leave. The idea is to get her comfortable in your environment in low-doses over time.