Just wondering, seeing as you believe in this fictitious "control" business.

You can have kids that resist you in power struggles and engage in bad judgement just for spite behind your back, or you can have kids that are developing good SELF control - kids who know how to think their way through situations and only need a selective power play here and there to keep them on track.

If you think it is all about command-and-control and domination and showing somebody who is boss and use of force until some magic time when "poof" they become "magically" able to make good decisions,dream on. Unless, of course, you like drama for drama's sake and don't care whether or not they are developing adult reasoning skills, that is.