This program is intended to support promising undergraduates in the sciences or engineering, in a mentored research project that introduces the student to academic research.

The structure of the research plan should involve a mentored research experience, wherein the undergraduate student is responsible for addressing an appropriate self-contained question relevant to the mentor’s larger ongoing study.

I am thrilled to have the opportunity to mentor such wonderful undergraduate students! We are so thankful to the Mindlin Foundation for recognizing their potential, and for the value of their research contributions.

Hien Vu, Senior

Dr. Wilson Sayres, faculty in the School of Life Sciences at Arizona State University, and Bich (Hien) Vu, a senior at Arizona State University majoring in Biological Sciences (Genetics, Cell and Developmental Biology), have been selected to receive Mindlin Foundation funding in support of their proposal, "Patterns of evolution across vertebrate sex determining genes."

Shawn Rupp, Junior

Dr. Wilson Sayres, faculty in the School of Life Sciences at Arizona State University, and Shawn Rupp, a junior majoring in Biological Sciences (Genetics, Cell and Developmental Biology), have been selected to receive Mindlin Foundation funding in support of their proposal, "Characterizing sex-biased gene expression in the green anole."

Monday, November 10, 2014

We have a variety of formats for lab meeting. One of them is a lightening journal club, where each person shares one paper from an assigned journal, including one question and one comment about the paper. This allows us to get a snapshot of research that is interesting to people in the lab. By posting it here, we can also allow the space for continued discussion. I have not edited the Comments or Questions that were sent to me by the members of the lab. The "Lab Thoughts" are our brief comments from lab meeting in response to the paper/question. This is the first group of papers we discussed at lab meeting last week:

Comment:It does seem, that until the computational capacities catch up to the demand that a viable temporary solution is analyzing smaller, easily-managed sets of data and compiling the results. However, this would result in a decreased confidence in the determined relationships.

Question:To work around computational demands in sequence analysis the Similarity Matrix of Protein project (SIMAP) utilized user-volunteered computing. They have used this method for the past 10 years, but are now returning to ‘in-house’ computations; what changed that would warrant this shift? There are still high computational demands, so after 10 years what are the drawbacks of user-volunteered computing that would cause them to return to in-house computations? (pg. 2994)

Lab Thoughts:Perhaps the computing is taking up more RAM than it was in the past. So, previously user-volunteered computers would be sufficient for the analysis, but now there is need for higher-RAM processors.

Comment:I find it impressive that this tool is able to speed up current motif extraction by about 7 times.

Question: How well would this program run on a normal computer? Could it be run efficiently using the cloud?

Lab Thoughts:From the paper, "We implemented MoTeX-II in three flavors: a standard CPU version; an OpenMP version; and an MPI version. " Thus, it seems like the program can definitely run on the CPU capacity of a desktop, but there are also versions that require more computing power.

Comment:Many of the mutations in the genes came from the mother which would explain the higher prevalence of ASD in males, some were deletions and others were additions, there were similar findings paternally at a lesser degree.

Question:Which genes overlap between females and males with ASD?

Lab Thoughts:This paper doesn't analyze differences in risk between males and females. There is a sex-bias in risk for autism, and the paper even analyzes drastically different numbers of male and female patients (571 males and 125 females). Understanding the sex-bias in autism may help inform on potential mechanisms.

Genetics

"Bayesian inference of shared recombination hotspots between humans and chimpanzees"

Comment:The article concludes that there are areas on different chromosomes in both humans and chimpanzees that regularly undergo recombination – “hotspots”. Although these hotspots aren’t universal, there are many shared hotspots between the two. This relates directly to our research on X-Y recombination, as we analyze many different organisms (including humans and chimpanzees) for shared recombination areas, and this tells us that one group has already found links that we can verify.

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

A few months ago we had a great discussion on twitter about the best and worst practices for lab meetings (Storified here). Please feel free to comment here if you find something missing from that discussion.

This is my first semester as head of the lab (also called PI, for Principal Investigator). Right now, the lab is composed solely of undergraduate students (a brief overview of projects). That has actually made it slightly easier to plan lab meetings. We meet weekly, and are using it almost as a lab-training course. Here is our schedule:

The students gave me great feedback on my ASHG talk that I think really improved it.

They've also been wonderfully interactive with me and with the invited speaker.

I decided that once a semester I want to have a journal club. In this case, it might be better to call it a journal survey club. Each student is assigned one journal, and asked to read through the most recent issue (or most recent few issues if they want) to find one article that they find interesting. Prior to lab meeting, each student will send me the link to the article, a comment about the article, and a question about the article. I will compile these links, questions, and comments on the blog, and we will discuss them at lab meeting. We might push things around a little, because with 18 students, we may need a couple lab meetings to make it through all the papers!

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

A brief overview:
Plants have female reproductive organs (carpels) and male reproductive organs (stamens), but several different ways of determining sex. There are two main groups of seed-producing plants.

Gymnosperms are plants without covered seeds, and include those that produce cones. Gymnosperms and are split with about 75% exhibiting monoecy (having male and female sex organs on the same plant), and 25% exhibiting dioecy (having separate male plants and female plants).

Photo by Muhammad Mahdi Karim, via Wikimedia Commons

Alternatively, Angiosperms, the flowering plants, have only a small subgroup that exhibit either separate male and female flowers or separate male and female plants, and instead most angiosperms are hermaphrodites, meaning all of their flowers contain both male and female sex organs.

Photo by Derek Ramsey, at Chanticleer Garden, via Wikimedia Commons

One thing that is fairly common among vertebrates (found in mammals, birds, frogs, reptiles, and fish), but rare among plants is sex chromosomes. But, as we look more and more, we are finding sex chromosomes in the most delicious places. All of the following plants have sex chromosomes:

Friday, October 24, 2014

The Arizona State University Library system has a series of interviews for Open Access week. I answered some questions for them about my experience with publishing in open access journals, and my thoughts about open access.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Recently I attended a seminar giving an overview of different funding mechanisms for scientific research, and advice. This will be the first of two posts, talking about a variety of funding mechanisms. The next post will be advice from very successful researchers.

Traditional government funding

111th US Senate class photo, Public Domain, via Wikimedia Commons

Do your homework

Understand the structure of the funding agency

what have they funded

what is their relationship with your home institution

what are you colleagues doing

be able to articulate what kind of research your colleagues are doing that is already funded by that agency

Identify who the appropriate program officer is

send an email with a paragraph in hand about the kind of research you do, and where you are moving. Is this the kind of research you are interested in funding? If not, can you point me in the right direction, and can I use your name?

Don't ask for information you could have gotten ahead of time online.

What concepts or priorities have already been approved? Look up the strategic plans. In particular those that are supported by the PO you are going to contact.

Look for requests for information, and respond with ideas in your area.

Establish relationships

There are no "cons" about talking with PO.

You cannot talk to PO about a submitted funding proposal that is in review.

You can (and should) ask, "Do you think this is something your funding agency is interested in in the future?"

Diversify your support - don't go only to one PO or to only one funding agency.

Serve on review panels

The best experience you can get for preparing proposals.

Helps you to develop a good relationship with the PO.

You learn about what other panelists are expecting.

Hearing the way people critique, especially what can rule out a proposal.

Most people donate money for the private benefit. Figure out what their private benefit is (prestige, recognition, intellectual discussion, name on the wall), and target that.

Pitching your idea to businesses

Businesses are interested in partnerships - spinoffs

Talking to venture capitalists can seem like talking into a vacuum

Put up the money to start something yourself.

10% of something is better than 100% of nothing.

Businesses/Corporations don't give much to start (average $25-30k), but this can improve

Underpromise and over-deliver

Business endeavors are designed to solve a specific problem

Crowd funding for science?

How to capture the interest of the crowd? Photo by brand via Wikimedia Commons

When I asked about crowd funding for research, I got the general sense that most people on this particular panel were not optimistic about crowd funding as a sustainable mechanism for scientific research. Here is the small summary:

On average crowd funding supports $5,000 grants, generally not hundreds of thousands or millions

Must utilize all of your networks - at least 12-15 primary people to expand to their larger networks.

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Kara Schaffer, a junior at Arizona State University, majoring in Chemical Engineering was been selected as a Bidstrup Undergraduate Fellow for the 2014-2015 academic year to work in the Wilson Sayres lab. This award is a testament to her outstanding commitment to academic excellence, and is funded through the Barrett Honors College.

Being in academia for good few years now, I've heard this said directly to me several times, most recently last week. The gist:

"It isn't fair, but people don't take a pretty woman in science seriously."

"Pretty woman" could easily be replaced with many different words describing minorities in science, rural/urban accents, people with disabilities. But why would a colleague say this to someone of such a group?

After some thought, I'm pretty sure these people must be referring to the 1990 classic movie, Pretty Woman. So, let's talk about academia in general, with some help from Pretty Woman.

Some days it feels like the academic pipeline is work, work, work:

And, whether it is stated out loud by a supervisor, a colleague, or in our heads, these voices exist, reminding us that we don't fit.

And most days you can let it run off your back; you try to remember not to take it personally.

You do the right things, you cover your bases, you do your work, and you do it well.

But every now and then someone reminds you of the cost of just being *you*… reminds you of a time when you couldn't afford (through financial or personal or social capital) to be in the position you're in now.

Some days those little voices get louder and louder, bouncing in your head, and make you wonder if you belong.

Getting through it can take different forms. Maybe you remind yourself that it isn't all luck, that you have big dreams, and by dammit, you have worked hard for those dreams, and you deserve to want these things for yourself.

Maybe you find a friend to commiserate with. Maybe you go to a mentor. Maybe you go to the source (either to the person, or to those dark parts of your mind) and tell those voices what's up, that the focus is on your work, your awesome work, not these petty distractions.

You deserve to be here. You deserve to be recognized for your work. And any voice that tells you otherwise is making a mistake.

The second seminar I attended is about preparing for class. Some of the focus was about Arizona State University specifically, but much of the advice is applicable to anyone starting out teaching. The format was a panel discussion with three Assistant Professors (past their 3rd year review) and four Associate Professors. This group included winners of the Zebulon Pearce Award for teaching excellence, and one panelist who was invited to participate an an HHMI initiative to improve science education. The disciplines represented were wide, spanning across the Sciences and Humanities. You'll notice in my notes that there are some contradictory comments. Hey, they happens when a group of people talk about their teaching advice. Here we go:

Use the resources available to you

Ask to see syllabus and course notes from previous years.

Ask questions of those who taught before, what worked, what didn't.

You don't have to reinvent the wheel to prove yourself as an educator.

Be cautious: Just because a class has been taught before doesn't mean it was taught well.

Manage classroom time

Practice application of materials in class. If you expect students to do something (e.g., apply knowledge) on the exam, you need to teach them the critical thinking skills in class and in homework. They won't automatically know how to take it that extra step.

Students may behave poorly. By not addressing problems, you enable them.

In large classes, walking around the classroom (and having TA's walk) can help keep students focused.

Prepare for misinformation that might be widely available about your topic.

Prepare for dissenting voices. Think about that one student who will antagonize you, and try to preemptively address it, or be prepared with a quick response if that voice speaks up.

Create an authentic model of authority

If you aren't an old white guy, don't act like an old white guy.

Some people command respect , but that isn't for everyone.

You can create a bond of respect that you are comfortable with.

Evaluate student learning and experience more than once

Leave a blank page at the end of each exam for students to tear off and leave anonymous comments about the class.

Evaluate at least once before or at the midpoint of the semester. For you. For your students.

If using online technology, can run rolling quizzes. Put online at 8am Friday, and students have until 8am Monday to complete.

Interacting with students over email can require patience, and preparation

Wait (a day or two) to respond to emails that frustrate you.

Set the tone. Use a full salutation. Many students never learned how to write a proper letter.

Write a draft email that you can cut and paste in response to all of the similar questions you will get.

How do you stop obsessing and stressing about teaching?

Assess whether it is true anxiety that affects you (if so, seek additional help). Or, check if it is care about student success and it is motivating you.

Allocate time for teaching. Allow yourself to stress out that day/time, and not the next.

Allow yourself to appreciate what you are doing right.

Structure your teaching so you don't spend all your time on it

Respect your prep time and respect your non-prep time.

Put in your syllabus about when you will respond to questions about course materials (e.g., will not respond three hours before email).

Make a "need to respond" folder for student emails, then respond during your teaching time.

Don't waste your time trying to find "just the right picture." That picture is not going to substantially change the class.

Develop discussion questions.

Preparation time rules of thumb

2 hours prep time to one hour of lecture

4-5 hours of prep time to develop active learning activities for for each hour of class time.

7 hours to prep for one completely online hour.

Manage Teaching Assistants (TAs)

Set up clear expectations, map out what the semester is going to look like, which weeks are busy and which are going to be lighter.

Require that the TAs teach.

Have a weekly meeting for the TAs.

Keep track of good students so you can ask them to be assistant TAs in future classes.

Use varied approaches to engage students in large lectures

Ask a lot of questions.

Work in pairs, upload answers to blackboard.

Lectures can be very boring

Make content into questions. Content will come out in the discussion.

Make nameplates for each student (they bring to class each session).

Cold call, but allow students to "phone a friend," asking for help from other students.

Teaching surprises (will vary from school to school)

Diversity in background among the students.

That I liked teaching.

Students have many competing demands and responsibilities.

It is the exception that your students won't have a job (full or part); large veteran population.

How much students need mentoring. E.g., first generation college student.

Surprised and delighted by how you get to change a couple people's lives.

Things we learned the hard way so you don't have to

Check the version of the book (especially if it includes a new ending and/or different material.

Cover the required amount of material.

Don't try to cover too much (especially packing slides too full).

Ask for feedback, but try to prepare yourself for the negative impressions.

General suggestions/thoughts

Design your course so that over-committed students can excel. Check in constantly. This doesn't mean cover less content, but it does mean hand-holding, mentoring, and taking a half-step back to reframe the contentt

It is generally not good to mirror your teaching expectations of students at your institution based on where you went to school. You will need to learn the dynamic at your new institution.

Have each student fill out a notecard with name, other classes, outside commitments. Even in a large class this can be useful for cold-calling.

Sometimes students don't read instructions. Make a difficult exam question, but within the instructions state the answer, for example, "the answer is 'B'."

Whew! Alright, got all that? And we're just scratching the surface here. Please leave your comments and suggestions about teaching for new faculty. Happy teaching!

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

I recently attended a workshop put on by the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences at Arizona State University where six tenured professors gave advice for pre-tenure faculty. Here are my notes from the workshop:

There is no free lunch.
When you've arrived on campus and someone invites you out to lunch, keep your antenna up as to why they invited you out.

Don't commit to anything at lunch, give yourself time to consider it.

Stay out of departmental politics.

Avoid the perception that you've joined a faction (e.g., routinely going to lunch with a prominent member of a faction).

Seek advice from people within your department (they are familiar with your specific department, but may give you biased advice about specific situations).

Also seek advice from ppl outside your University (they aren't familiar with your specific department, but they can give unbiased advice about general situations).

Your job is to get your work done. You can always use your work as an excuse to avoid politics.

Find balance.

Don't shut yourself down at your desk.

Learn to say "no" constructively (e.g., I cannot commit to X, but I could do Y; or, I'm interested, but already committed to Z.).

Be a good colleague/academic citizen.

Serve on student committees.

Serve on committee for department fellowships.

Important to be visible. You want your colleagues to know you and be invested in thou.

When it comes to collaborations, seek out people in your unit first before other units on campus (pre-tenure).

Scholarly presence in research *AND* physical presence.

Look past your own CV

At faculty meetings, if you have an opinion, share it; it is the best way for colleagues to get to know you.

Research and Teaching first, but Service is still important.

Service to the department *AND* service to the profession.

National service >> Local service.

Service to the profession makes you visible (e.g., editorial boards, Symposium moderator/organizer)

~10 external reviewers requested for tenure packet. If no one in the field knows you, they won't even agree to review your packet.

If a position is 40% research, 40% teaching, 20% service, that service component corresponds to one 8hr day (in a 40hr work week).

Mentoring you receive.

You will never have a mentor like your PhD mentor again (someone so invested in your future success).

You don't have a cohort of grad students or postdocs, but you are not alone.

Build your support network.

Seek a multiplicity of mentors, in your field, different levels in the pipeline.

Mentoring you give.

You are a visible role model

Portray a sane work-life balance for your students and lab members (even if you're still working on it).

You may not feel like a professor, but people will treat you like one. Act like it.

Think beyond tenure.

If all of your activities are done for the sole purpose of working towards tenure, you're going to be sorely disappointed after you get it.

Tenure criteria an the bylaws are the minimum requirements, and are open to interpretation.

Do not meet the tenure criteria, exceed it.

Tenure extensions: Tenure clock extensions are granted (at Arizona State University) for a variety of reasons, not just having a child (parental leave, elderly care, medical condition, lab equipment delay… talk with your chair if you have concerns). If your request for tenure extension is approved, it is sealed in an envelope, and no one on your tenure committee will know the reason, only that it was approved, and the extension can not be used against you.

Questions to ask yourself, and honestly reflect on your answers.

What do you want out of faculty life?

What is it worth to you?

When is the cost too high?

Take-home:For the first time, you call all the shots. You are on your own, but you are fully capable of doing it.

Teaching. I'm signed up to co-teach Evolution to 300+ students in Spring 2015, and just put in a proposal for developing my very own class for Fall 2015 (more details about that as soon as I hear whether it is approved). I am also going to be giving guest lectures in two undergraduate courses (Evolution and Human Genetics), and maybe in one graduate course (about current research about sex determination).

Research. I completed my portion of the analysis and figures for a joint research project that was submitted for review yesterday!

Library. Introduced myself to the librarians, and learned about the resources available there.

Equipment. Ordered lab equipment. I still have more to order, but want to research different options a bit more. I also think it will be good to wait to see what kind of expertise I'll recruit to the lab.

Grants. Met with my several grant support office personnel, wrote outlines and tentative specific aims, and submitted pre-proposal paperwork for the three grants I plan to submit within this first year.

Postdocs. Interviewed six postdoctoral applicants. And learned a lot about administrative background/paperwork with different kinds of positions that can be hired, when, and official requirements. Whew!

Grads. I don't yet have any graduate students, but I attended the Graduate Student Orientation, and am signed up to attend one of the Brown Bag Lunches to introduce myself to current grad students. I'll also be giving a seminar for one of graduate student colloquiums.

Undergrads. Recruited a great group of undergraduates. We've already had our first group lab meeting and individual project meetings, and I'm going to ride this enthusiasm wave for the rest of the semester. I'll write another post soon about the projects we are working on this year.

I'm happy to receive any unsolicited advice about what you did, wish you would have done, or wish you hadn't done, relating to starting your new faculty position.

Monday, September 8, 2014

A friend brought this news article about the evolution of the rhesus monkey Y chromosome to my attention. The primary work itself is about characterizing the gene content of the rhesus Y chromosome (a laborious, and necessary task). This particular write-up, however, is slightly frustrating for some of the (wrong) assumptions it makes, but most noticable is the image:

The picture of the "X and Y" chromosomes where the X chromosome, presumably, looks like an X, and the Y chromosome looks like a Y. If this were true, we might then assume that chromosome 1 looks like a "1" and chromsome 22 looks like a "22". None of these are true.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Well, today was my first day as an Assistant Professor. I spent the day in orientations, learning about ASU, and swimming through a sea of Human Resources information. Overall, I'd say the day was good. My brain is a little drained tonight, but I wanted to let you all know that things are going well. So, what does that mean? The transition from postdoc to PI is only beginning, but let me give you an update of our academic nomad lifestyle.

The move from Berkeley to Tempe.
We had to pack up all of our things in May and move them to a temporary storage facility because our landlord wouldn't let us extend our lease two months. We searched and searched for a sublet for the summer, and a day before we had to move out, providence smiled, and we found a little studio apartment (yes, a studio for two adults, one 3yo, and a chihuahua mix). There were four things that made this sublet amazing: 1) it was less than a block to daycare (I cannot emphasize how wonderful that was); 2) It was about half of what we were paying in rent at our previous apartment; 3) It was one of the few places where the start & end of the sublet matched perfectly with when we needed it, and 4) It had a small fenced-in garden area for LittleBear to play in. So, all things considered, it was perfect for us.

Thanks for help!
That said, moving all of our stuff to temporary storage was less-than-ideal. Many, many, many, thanks to my lab mates who came out to help us load the truck (carrying down a flight of stairs inside and half a flight of stairs outside). Seriously, they rocked it. The movers came at the end of July to pick up our stuff from storage and loaded a truck to bring it to Tempe.

The move.
We split up the move into two days. The first day we drove from Berkeley to Irvine, CA. Then we stayed with some good friends there for a few days (not long enough!), doing a little work, playing some games, relaxing a bit, and even went to Disneyland! Then, we packed up again, and headed out to Tempe. The drives, both times, were marked with a little bit of worry, because LittleBear gets car sick, but with various techniques, we avoided any disasters.

Purple car.
Then, about 20 minutes from our new rental, we were rear-ended. Luckily most of the damage was to the car, and no one was seriously injured. A little shaken up, but all okay. I can't say the same for the purple pontiac, which was deemed "totaled" by the insurance company. It turns out that because the car was titled and registered in California, we'd have to drive it back to CA (in its unsafe condition) to get it re-tested, if we wanted to keep it, or the insurance company would give us more than we were expecting to take the car off of our hands. So, it is time to say goodbye to the purple car. Now, however, we need to also figure out which car, and how much to spend, to get a new (to us) car.

Getting set up in lab.
Getting things set up is taking a little longer than I expected, even to just get started, but everyone has been super nice, and helpful whenever I ask questions. So, I'm hoping once I get through orientations, and trainings, I'll be able to get up and going pretty soon.

Orientations and trainings.
So far I've taken a few trainings, and gone to a day of orientations. I'm happy about them. I want to know how not to freak out if I'm in front of a class and there's a fire. I want to be prepared to deal quickly and professionally with incidents of harassment (sexual or otherwise). I want to know who to contact and what to do to keep my lab members, my peers, and my students safe and healthy. So, no, I'm not upset about the time spent in the trainings. I think they are a valuable use of my time. The only thing I wish was that I had more time!

Glamorous?
Is it glamorous? No. But, it has been fun to meet so many new people, and start brainstorming new projects and grant applications (check back in on me about this one at the end of the Fall). I'll have an update for you at the end of the week, especially if I learn anything really cool in the rest of my trainings.

Monday, July 28, 2014

When we sat down on the panel, she mentioned that she wasn't sure what she was going to talk about, or why she had been chosen to participate on this particular panel. I wasn't quite sure what she was going to talk about either. She started by talking about how righteously angry she got when talking with a group of college girls who stated their preferred pronouns. When she was first learning about transgendered individuals and the efforts towards equality for transgendered people, she recalls how she thought it was naive of these students to think that their struggle was difficult. She recalled how she had been in the thick of fighting for racial equality, and that the struggles today were nothing compared to the hatred and violence that occurred in the 60's and 70's.

Margot Adler talked about how she was wrong to be indignant. About how she had changed her mind.

In that gesture, she opened the door for everyone in the audience, for everyone who ever listens to this panel, to change their mind about transgender people (something that many people need to re-evaluate). It was such a refreshing thing to be reminded of the value of saying, "I was wrong." Thank you, Margot.

The hashtag to follow on twitter is, #postdochappythoughts. Really, go check it out.

Certainly there is something to be said for trying to be optimistic, and realistic about the challenges in academia. It is useful to realize that we may, regardless of status, often feel like impostors. But that doesn't mean that there aren't real problems with the academic machine that need to be addressed. There just so many things that you can't "happy thought" your way out of in academia, during graduate school, postdoctoral work, or even as a PI.

Just a few:

#postdochappythoughts when daycare tuition is higher than your salary - or should I say stipend as a postdoc is still training?
— InBabyAttachMode (@BabyAttachMode) July 22, 2014

Think #postdochappythoughts when you decide to leave academy and have sent out over 100 job apps and no one gives you the light of day
— 27 and a PhD (@27andaphd) July 22, 2014

I'm at a transition point now. I am finishing my postdoc, and will be starting a tenure track position this Fall (yes, I realize how very lucky I am to be in this position). As I'm preparing for my position as a PI, I'm working to recruit postdoctoral researchers to work with me. I've already talked about making expectations and responsibilities clear for all parties involved in my lab, starting with a clear set of expectations on my web site.

But, there's another aspect that that I am surprised to have run into. Talking with several PIs about recruiting postdocs, I have received this advice (paraphrased):

"Don't offer to pay your postdocs too much. I'd suggest going with the bare minimum. You want to make sure you save money for other projects and other people."

As a PI, I either have enough funding to pay a fair salary to my lab members, or I don't have enough funding to hire them.

This includes paying for health, dental, and vision insurance. It also includes budgeting money for moving expenses. Why would I want to hire someone, who I view as both a trainee and a colleague, and not care about their well-being?

That brings up a bigger question, though, "What is a fair salary?" Partly what constitutes a fair salary is dependent on location. I think a good rule of thumb, and what I plan to do, is to, at a minimum, follow the NIH salary guidelines. In an area like Berkeley, however, the NIH salary guidelines would still be too low.

No, happy thoughts cannot make postdoc life better. PI's and administrations who give a damn about quality of life will make postdoc life better.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

I was temporarily stunned into silence when I heard those words from my daughter.

Because she's three years old.

Three.

So it begins
What?! Already? Is this how it begins? So soon? Why does she care whether he thinks she is pretty? Most importantly: How have I contributed to this? And, what can I do to combat it?

The first answer is "No", this is not how it begins. It begins so much earlier. It begins when she was born. I begins with how we talk to our kids. This video shows pretty clearly some of the common pitfalls in the way we talk to girls.

Have I contributed to this?
Probably. I tell her she's beautiful. I also tell her she is wonderful, funny, smart.

How can I combat it?
I can be more aware of the language I use, and how I respond to her behavior.

We also want to help her to be independent and responsible. We try to give her the freedom to make decisions about her life (within reason, I mean, she is three). That said, there are a lot of ways a three-year-old can be involved. She helps chose books we'll read, and the activities we'll do. She also helps with chores around the house and cleaning up her own messes.

She also helps choose her clothes. It would be an understatement to say my daughter loves pink and frilly dresses. As her parents, we let her wear what she wants, making a mental note that we would do the same with any child (although we do try to sneak some other colors and styles in). We also try to encourage her to get dirty, to explore, to investigate, and to question. The dresses will wash. And what's wrong with a few stains anyway? The experiences are worth so much more.

So, what did I respond with? I told her that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of her. She is pretty and she should wear whatever she likes to wear, because she likes it.

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