THE CHEMISTRY OF LOVE

Sooner or later, at least once in life, even the most resistant person will be overwhelmed by love. When we meet it is a romance, the whole life has another color, another flavor, happiness spills out of all the pores of our skin and whatever we do is wonderful. However, no matter how much care we can take, sooner or later all this will end, leading us to indifference, pain, or suffering. Yet, this will last until we fall in love again.

But what happens when we fall in love? Sometimes a certain chemistry happens and a person, who can be the least attractive in the world, the so-called frog of fairy tales, becomes our charming prince or the goddess of our dreams. Indeed, talking about chemistry is not a metaphor, as neurobiology gives us scientific explanations that could make the most romantic of poets cringe.

FALLING IN LOVE

When we fall in love with someone, what happens in our body is an intense production of a series of hormones that regulate our state of well-being, happiness and excitement and are those hormones that make us feel full of energy and enthusiasm, they are commonly defined as happiness-hormones. This intense hormonal production happens every time we receive attentions, when we are courted or when we court, when we are launched in the conquest of our “object of desire”. This state of well-being and ecstasy can expand to the point that anything we share with our partner takes on that quality of intensity and extraordinariness that makes us feel we have found the man or woman of our life. Well, this is the moment when we feel we have lost our mind for someone. But here is the surprise: the substance responsible for this sensation of extraordinariness is the same that is at the origin of stress. Can you recognize this in your life? Probably yes…

When all the shower of hormones calms down, we make room in our body to another series of substances that makes us more calm, more relaxed, that makes us want to take care of our partner, to nourish and love him-her, to make plans together: the moment of the relationship has arrived. In this phase in which there is an intense exchange of love, cuddles, sweetness, physical contact, etc … the same substances are produced that the body secretes when we spend a lot of time in the sun and in nature and are also the same hormones nature has predisposed in women when they become mothers, so that they take care of their child.

In short, this is the phase in which we realize that our partner makes us really happy. But it’s not over yet …

THE DELUSION

When the phase of symbiosis with the partner fades, if he-she no longer satisfies our needs, or when sex is no longer satisfactory, the levels of these substances decrease, sometimes even drastically, leading us into a state of malaise, disappointment, indifference, sometimes anger towards the partner or even depression. What happens to us is that we were addicted to all the hormones that have been produced in our body being in love and now we are abstinent. From our ability to stay or not in this state, obsessive behaviors depend, such as jealousy, control, destructive fantasies, etc… Over time, our body gets used to the new levels of all these substances in the body but only until the next time we fall in love …

GETTING OUT OF THE CAGE

In these terms, falling in love seems like a large biological cage in which our freedom is subjected to the chemical reactions of our body, it looks more a tragic fatality, rather than a romantic gift.

Is it possible to love outside this cage? Is it possible a love that elevates us beyond this vicious circle?

Well, this love exists and does not depend on the chemical mechanism of reward because there is no cause and no object of this love, it is an unconditional love and it is a state that can be reached through meditation.

This is why meditation takes on fundamental importance in the path of Tantra.

In fact, through meditation, we increase our capacity to be witnesses, that is to say, we become able to take a distance and observe our thoughts, our emotions and even our sensations in the body without judgment. Meditation is therefore very useful both in the phases of falling in love, and in moments of disappointment and pain.

Furthermore, in Tantra, we learn that, despite the partner being a wonderful hormonal “activator”, the whole process happens within us.

Being in love – or not being – obviously does not depend only on us, but in Tantra we learn to focus on ourselves, on our energy, on our ability to expand and love ourselves.

Only in this way will we be able to share with a partner the wonders that we have found inside us and, since we are enough for ourselves, love becomes a beautiful sharing and totally giving oneself to the other without expecting anything in return.

In this video Radha speaks about the difference between love in relationships and unconditional love.

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Have you ever thought or felt that making love can be repetitive, boring, or makes you anxious?
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Have you ever thought or felt that making love can be repetitive, boring, or makes you anxious?Why should a completely natural act become a source of stress?

Everyone has experienced, sooner or later, to experience some discomfort in relation to sexuality, and it is a symptom of a general state of stress in our lives. In contemporary society, in fact, we are driven by a constant tension towards future goals, towards something to be improved, towards getting more and more quickly.
Well, even sex is now part of this constant research on the outside, in the future, in the “out-of-me”. This is how sexuality loses its naturalness and becomes a mental act. We have lost the ability to stay conscious in the here-and-now.

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ADVANCED COURSE. PREVIOUS BACKGROUND REQUESTED.
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THE TANTRALIFE INTENSIVE is a revolutionary approach to our intimate relating.
It deepens the opportunity to discover sex and love as our deepest longing and potential

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ADVANCED COURSE. PREVIOUS BACKGROUND REQUESTED.with Radha

THE TANTRALIFE INTENSIVE is a revolutionary approach to our intimate relating.
It deepens the opportunity to discover sex and love as our deepest longing and potential in life.
Usually, we meet the other burdened by our past experiences moving in a vicious circle of hope and frustration.
Meeting with awareness and acceptance in the present moment we can heal and melt old wounds and dissolve future expectations.
Love becomes the fragrance of our presence and availability to the NOW is the ground for entering the mystery of Tantra.This is an international course. Please confirm your booking at the latest three months before the beginning. It will really help us to organize it at its best. THANK YOU!

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Love is like water, it wants to flow where it finds an open outlet.In Tantra you open the path to energy by simply

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With Radha

Love is like water, it wants to flow where it finds an open outlet.In Tantra you open the path to energy by simply expanding sensuality and love. You can let yourself be nourished by the flow of this energy as you learn to let yourself go naturally and consciously. @ Osho Festival Bellaria

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By exploring your natural ability to feel pleasure in your body, by awakening consciously your sexual energy, you can turn it into love and silence. This is the

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By exploring your natural ability to feel pleasure in your body, by awakening consciously your sexual energy, you can turn it into love and silence. This is the only way to find your true source of joy and feel love in the air! @ Osho Festival Bellaria

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COURSE FOR EVERYONE
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“Love should be more conscious. When it is conscious it is less sexual. I am not saying that there will be no sex: sex will be

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“Love should be more conscious. When it is conscious it is less sexual. I am not saying that there will be no sex: sex will be there but it will not be sexual. It will be pure sensuality; that is a totally different phenomenon. It will be sheer joy, sensitivity, but there will be no sexual mind behind it. (…) It will be a simple sharing of energies.” Osho

We are all interested in sex – sometimes fascinated, sometimes frightened, sometimes obsessed by it. Why are we so attracted to such a simple natural phenomenon?

The experience that beyond the ordinary sex there is something deeper and wider has always driven people in search of the various dimensions of sexuality.
But this research becomes a constant pursuit of stronger and more extraordinary sensations, and we lose the contact with the true nature of sex, which is simple and innocent.

In Tantra the path to the extraordinary is a journey back to that naturalness where the “sensational” gives way to sensitivity and thus to joy. In this course we will have the opportunity to get back in touch with our sexual energy with awareness through the exploration of our body sensitivity, movement and breath techniques.
This will give us access to the true joy that is inside of us, the only experience that can make every area of our daily life more and more fulfilling.

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Deepening course
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Having a good relation with our body and with our sex is fundamental in order to feel rooted in life

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Deepening course

with Prem Agostino

Having a good relation with our body and with our sex is fundamental in order to feel rooted in life and it is a source of natural deep nourishment. This nourishment is limited by many conditionings and fears inherited by the family, the society and the religions.
All this ends up buried in the most inner depths of our uncounscious and in the energetic memories of our body, making us unable to understand how much guilt and self-devaluation prevent us from following our natural longing for pleasure and expansion.

Through breath, bioenergetics and some focused exercises, we’ll have the chance to:

Bring awareness to our relationship with sex and to the guilt and shame we carry in it

Recognize the influence of guilt and its consequences in our daily life in order to transform it

Increase trust and self-esteem

Residential 5 days group. This course is open to everyone: there is no need to have a partner, nor to have previous experience with breathwork or Tantra.
For people attending already the Tantralife Training, it is a very useful integration and deepening of topics covered in the Training.