Understanding A Woman’s Test and How To Pass Them

It’s a well-known fact that women can, will, and do test men at every level of dating AND in your relationships too.

Learn to pass those tests and you can increase her attraction easily and make her think, believe, and feel you’re not only the perfect man for her – but unlike ANY other guy she has met before.

What is a woman’s TEST?

It’s her clever (instinctual) way of getting you to reveal yourself to her in such a way which that you can not fake. (Although a player or clever guy can see the test and respond in a way which can fool a woman.)

Some tests she gives are instinctual and women are born with this ability. It’s her way of knowing or figuring out without much doubt that you’d make a worthy partner or a great potential father to her offspring.

Other tests are consciously done but knowing that exactly is often hard to determine. You could argue that her conscious tests are merely games she plays with guys.

Either way – her TESTS are a real thing and they happen ALL the time.

Pass enough of them and you’re in.

Fail them and you’re out.

It’s not all black or white but it does have a major influence on her attraction towards you and whether she wants to continue seeing you.

There is a sometimes common belief that you need to learn tricks that negate her tests but that is not always true.

If you were to go out looking for quick lays, instant pick ups, or bar/club game then sure – learn some tricks to negate her tests and you will get laid more often.

The truth of it all is that her tests can be passed through who you are, your personality, your character, your masculinity, etc… which means if you build yourself into a certain type of guy – like a real Alpha male – then you will pass most of her EARLY tests by simply being yourself.

Relationships test or ones that lead to relationships work a little different and require skills and character traits which deem you as boyfriend material or more.

When you’re done reading today’s page and following the links for more information…

You will completely understand what her tests are and the most attractive way to pass them.

1. Recognizing Her Tests or knowing when it is a test.

But very important because while you’re busy trying to figure out if it’s a test or not, you’re more likely to fail or miss it.

So (as a beginner) just assume EVERYTHING is a test which also means everything is an opportunity to pass them AND create attraction.

Two important facts about testing are good for you and something you must understand first.

1. Women rarely ever realize they are doing it.

This isn’t what EVERY woman does and it’s not like we have a big rule book that tells us to do it- it’s a automatic thing that girls who know they are good value as partners do without thinking.

And they’ll rarely admit they even do it.

But they do. I’ll admit I do.

And those guys who pass the test?

They can pretty much do anything after that.

I’m sold.

Rachel Goodchild- “Do Women Test Men”

Again – the difference is: Subconscious tests are instinctual and a very necessary part of the mating ritual.

Conscious tests (not all but lots of them) are the actual games a woman might play. Why she does it is not important or relevant to this page.

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2. When she turns the level up it’s a great sign she is interested in you.

I consider myself an attractive woman so if I’m putting you threw the tests bear with me it means your worth the time to figure out.

Most women (like men) have been hurt before and we just have to try subtly to see if your like the last jerk.

If you notice that a woman is going too far; trying to see if she can boost her self-esteem by belittling you, ditch her.

But if it’s a small test like asking you about your previous relationship she’s thinking about what you would be like in the long run.

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The more she’s testing you (within reason until it turns it game playing) the more she’s interested in you and is feeling attraction towards you.

Remember this because if you meet a woman who is not testing at all – it definitely means she’s not feeling anything for you.

In conclusion:

Recognizing her tests is just not as important as learning or knowing how to pass them.

There are many times when a woman isn’t even aware she’s testing you.

If she has even a small amount of interest she will test you and the tests continue on into the relationship.

It’s a very real part of the female’s courtship.

Passing her tests require different skills for relationships and dating or casual sex including one night stands.

Here’s a slightly different view:

When you first meet a woman…

She’ll immediately begin to interact with you in ways that determine if you’re a man who communicates control and confidence instead of nervousness, neediness, and desperation.

When she’s out on a date with you…

She’ll test to see if you’re the kind of man who has it all together and has a purpose in life… the kind of rare, “real” man that she spends so much time looking for.

After the first date…

She’ll test to see how you handle the next steps: how soon do you call or text her again? How do you react if she does something you don’t like? Are you constantly checking in and planning the next thing, or do you give her space?

2. Understanding HOW to pass them is different from learning how to pass them.

Notice the carefully chosen words in the header.

Understand how to pass them… and NOT learn to pass them.

There are several ways you can learn to pass them but understanding HOW to do it is more important for any continued success in dating and relationships.

The difference is this:

Learning what to do in situations and responding appropriately is learning HOW to pass them.

Understanding them, what they are, when they’re done, what they mean, which type of test it is (sex, dating, relationships) means you’ve integrated a natural response to her tests into your personality.

As a beginning or for someone who is just learning about attraction you will need to learn HOW but in the end – as you progress – it’s something you’ll want to add to your character so you don’t have to worry about them.

By just being who you are – you will naturally pass many of them without even trying.

3. Building your lifestyle and adding to your personality the traits needed to pass them.

You don’t need to play games which are manipulative to pass these “congruence” tests.

At first you may want to learn the proper techniques or skills and some common responses that will pass but as stated above – integrating the right way to handle her tests into your personality ALWAYS proves to be the most efficient and best way.

Here are the most common types of tests but you’ll find others categorize them a little differently as you’ll see here:

Some deal with your courtship rituals like, “I can’t talk with a man until he buys me a drink”

Some deal with her sex appeal like, “That bar woman is so hot? Don’t you think?”

Conversational Tests and Passing Them

While you’re talking to a woman she will test you through your conversations because it’s the easiest way to do it PLUS (since a lot her attraction comes from this type of communication) it’s fits perfectly.

Her conversational tests are the BEST way for any guy to pass easily because it’s a skill YOU can master.

Let’s take a look at some examples.

Here are some common questions along with typical boring guy responses which typically lead to failing the “conversation” test:

What do you do for a living? – “I’m a graphic designer.”

What’s your name? – “Larry. What’s yours?”

How old are you? – “25. How old are you?”

Are you always this upfront? – “I’m just curious.”

Do you have a girlfriend? – “No. We broke up a month ago.”

Granted they are simple questions but how you respond to them are very important and answering in a typical way generally means you failed her test.

The more attractive the woman, the quicker you fail.

The better she is at testing guys (which means she has a lot of experience) the more upgraded her questions and her follow up question to your responses, the harder it can be to pass UNLESS you know how to answer them.

If you answer in the way listed above – you are going to FAIL.

Those responses are boring, predictable, don’t create sexual chemistry, they do little to qualify her or you, and don’t convey to her that you’re the right guy for her.

Do you have a girlfriend? – “Yeah, but don’t tell my wife she might get upset.”

Notice how the dynamics of the conversation change when you successfully respond to her tests.

What you want to do is to create a fun and flirty conversations which portrays mystery, humor, and confidence.

All three are very attractive traits.

All three can easily be made a natural part of your personality too so her tests get passed without even trying.

They also allow the interaction to build and by answering the right way, you can lead a woman where you want rather than following her lead and failing her tests.

The longer you can keep it up, while still making her laugh, the more likely she will find herself into you.

Be warned though – you can over do it.

Please always moderate yourself in this area or you’ll come off as a creep or weirdo.

It’s a delicate balance and a little difficult to achieve at first.

She may even start to get upset by your answers but all she is doing ( as long as you’re being fun ) is taking her testing to a new level which is often called the “emotional test”.

If you break down and try to negate her anger by consoling her, you will fail her test.

Read “Emotional Testing” below.

This is an area of testing any men can easily improve because you probably already do this with your guys friends. Obviously it’s not the same but the concepts and sarcastic humor are very similar.

If you are failing in this area consistently it can be like a huge wall is being put up in front of you. Something you’ve probably felt before you came here – or why you’re reading this page in the first place.

Conversational tests are the most common so they’re very important to pass.

You can also create lots of attraction while talking to women so it’s something you must learn how to do it in such a way that it conveys confidence, charm, wit, humor, flirtiness (… among many other things).

As above LEARN THIS TECHNIQUE and start using it IMMEDIATELY and you WILL pass these tests and more:

Physical Tests and How To Pass Them

These kind of tests often involve a deeper connection between you and her however they can include a woman’s flirty test with how she dresses to judge a man’s instant reaction.

Have you ever noticed a woman who claims she doesn’t want to be seen as just another hot body but she dresses in a way we might consider slutty?

Aha!

The Physical Test.

Her physical self against your will to see past her body.

Think about it this way.

If you just got laid by a hot girl yesterday there is a greater chance you won’t let her looks affect your actions.

After all, to you, beautiful women are just a part of your life.

Now as for the man who is never close to such beauty or even a blatant slutty look he may not be able to control his stares.

Her physical test of her beauty separates the real strong men who can handle her from the weaker men who might end up being a possessive jealous guy who only want to control her.

OR from the guy who hasn’t got laid in a decade.

Here is another example and how you pass or fail the test.

Walking away and turning her head to see if you are checking her out.

YOU FAIL: Turning away quickly so she doesn’t catch you.

YOU PASS: Keeping your eyes on hers and raising an eyebrow with a, “shame shame” look on your face.

These physical tests will often come after there is a small physical connection already there.

These are the tests than can truly separate the men who get it from the men who don’t.

Here’s another example:

Leaning in for a kiss too early.

FAIL: Diving into her lips.

PASS: You say, “Wow. Are you always this upfront?“, then gently pushing her away with a smirk on your face.

Here’s an example:

6. You’re kissing a woman and she says, “We should stop!”

How do you respond:

You’re in a position where more intimacy is not possible anyways so you look at her and say. “Okay.” and then you walk away.

You’re in a position where more intimacy is possible so you look in her eyes for a second, smirk, and walk away not saying anything.

You push the issue forcefully because you can’t control your urges and you want her now!

You’re not in a position where intimacy is possible so you look at her and say. “You’re right. It’s late and I’ve got to get going anyways.”

The physical test above clearly indicates to her your level of control and your ability to tease.

You pass her test by indirectly proving to her she is on YOUR physical time.

When you pass these types of physical tests and more:

It tells her you have complete control over yourself when you’re around a hot woman.

You can control your physical state and therefore will be more than enough in bed to give her incredible orgasms.

It shows her that you understand how to tease and build sexual tension and how it doesn’t always have to lead to sex that night.

Pass her physical test on all levels and she will not be able to get her mind off of you.

At this level she will be contacting you.

She will go well out of her way just to be around you.

She will always follow your lead whether she claims to be in control or not.

Here are a few great tips from a video you MUST watch:

You Live In Your Own Reality…. SHE Is Just A Guest

This mindset is about the natural difference in how you act when you feel comfortable, at ease, and “at home” versus when you’re a stranger in someone else’s “territory.”

You Are a “Cause” In The World, Not An “Effect”

This mindset is all about communicating that you are an active, influential force in the world… a man who makes things happen instead of a pinball getting helplessly bounced around from one thing to the next.

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

This technique is the truly “Holy Grail” when it comes to making smooth transitions with women that prevent getting rejected. Even better, it’s also one of the most powerful chemistry and attraction amplifiers that I’ve ever created.

Emotional Tests and How To Pass Them

These kind of tests are huge and it’s best to spot them quickly because one, they will reveal a lot about the woman you’re dealing with or meeting AND because most nice guys who struggle with women FAIL these almost every stinking time!

Women with little or no value for themselves or for you are known for doing these kind of tests.

Sure she is testing you but in reality she is just showing you who she really is.

It’s unfortunate that even some higher quality women will find themselves doing these.

All you have to do is pay attention to the severity of it and the depth of it.

In other words, always ask yourself this,

“Is there a deep emotional issue causing her test or a small – get it over with quick response – or a test of your ability to hold your own against her?”

Here are a few quick examples:

Pouting. (small)

YOU FAIL: Giving in to her every demands.

YOU PASS: “So…do all your guy friends actually fall for that look?”

Fake anger. (small)

YOU FAIL: Apologizing for making her angry.

YOU PASS: Stating, “Would you like to borrow my friend’s anger management tapes. They come in three different languages, whiny, pouty, and grumpy.”

Hitting on your friend when you are on a date. (severe)

YOU FAIL: Getting angry at her.

YOU PASS: While smirking, “The two of you would make a great couple. Would you like to borrow her?”

Notice the difference between the severe and the small.

Her small test was mostly about seeing how strong you are in standing up to her obvious “acts of immaturity”.

The severe emotional test has roots in jealousy and insecurity and tell us she’s probably a game player so maybe you should avoid her altogether OR she’s just messing with you and wants to see if you respond differently than an average guy would.

The small tests were about you.

The severe tests are mostly about her.

THAT is the major difference.

If her tests center around her own insecurity and create drama it’s a bad sign.

In the small case we can pass them with the examples above using our own style.

Pass several of them and she will soon give up and assume at this point, you can handle her so let the fun begin.

Literally.

The thing about her EMOTIONAL tests that you must remember is that you’ll find they can also happen accidentally giving her a great opportunity to test you without her doing anything at all.

Passing these test are certainly MORE about your character and personality which means as you develop yourself into a more attractive man you WILL pass these quite easily without even knowing it’s happening.

The KEY here is to become a MASTER of YOUR EMOTIONS and hers too.

Take a look at the example below and you’ll see exactly how it all works:

“How do you CONNECT with that woman who’s just broken her heel… or maybe just lost her job… or feels “ugly and insecure”… or WHATEVER?

How do you RELATE to her and prove that you GET IT… unlike 99.99% of other men?

Most of the time, all it takes is this:

Think about your own life experiences.

Dial one up that creates the closest emotion in you to the one that she’s feeling.

Maybe you wrecked your car. Maybe you got fired. Maybe your dog died.

The key is: you must GENUINELY MAKE YOURSELF FEEL WHAT SHE’S FEELING… then communicate those feelings to her. Show her that you UNDERSTAND what she’s going through in the moment.

Show her that you know how to RELATE.

Because, once you can show a woman that you can understand her EMOTIONS…

The Conclusion:

Women will without a doubt test you from the moment you meet her and will not stop just because you’re in a relationship.

Often they are instinctual ways to prove that you would make a great partner for her. They’re designed to get you to reveal yourself in a way which is very hard to fake.

When a woman tests you it’s normally a good thing because it means she’s interested or feeling attracted to you.

BUT…

Fail too many tests early on and you’re done.

Pass her tests and you’re in more control of where you want to take things with her. This includes sex, dating, and relationships.

Her tests are either done subconsciously or consciously. It’s hard to determine whether one or the other is just a game she’s playing which is usually bad based on those two types.

There are (generally) 4 types of tests:

Sight – How you might fit into her lifestyle. How you present yourself in a way which conveys value and congruence with how you’re acting.

Sight tests are normally not about HOW physically attractive you are but can make a difference for some women.

Emotional – How do you connect with her emotionally. Do you get her. Are you boyfriend material. Can you handle her emotions. How you react or respond under stress.

Although these can be passed through experience and knowledge they are more effective IF your responses come from your character or personality.

Physical – How much restraint you have. Are you a guest in her world or are you her guest. How well you communicate sexually. Your body language.

These tests often include transitions from talking to flirting to touching to sex making them extremely important to pass because most guys don’t know the human mating rituals and women know them instinctively.

Conversational – Talking to women is an area where lots of attraction can be made. How smart you are. How flirty you are. Your wit, charm, confidence – all and more are shown in your conversations with women.

These test MUST be passed quickly BUT knowing how to do it separates you instantly from lots of other guys who don’t know how to talk to women which actually creates attraction.

This is a SKILL you can LEARN and integrate into your personality so it becomes natural.

The level of her tests will be consistent with how well versed she is with men or how experienced she is in disqualifying men.

Higher quality women with more experience in dealing or meeting men will be more skillful at testing you.

REMEMBER: The point of most of her tests is to find a partner which is suitable for her and gives her the best opportunity for happiness and procreation.

They are not GAMES women play on men. There’s a difference although they’re not always that easy to know when it’s a game and when it’s a test.

Which means…

PASSING THEM is an ESSENTIAL PART of CREATING ATTRACTION which inevitably can lead to a relationship and beyond.

This also means it’s a SKILL you can learn PLUS you can integrate “Alpha Traits” into you and your personality which makes passing them more natural and less of a thought out process.

You pass them easily by solving the problem from two different angles.

One: Knowing what to do in situations or how to respond to likely tests or circumstances.

Two: Developing yourself into a man from the inside out or working on your inner game.

They are both similar and cross over but in order to fully get this handled you MUST work on both and continually learn.

Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope you found what you were looking for and more.

My aim is to over-deliver the right kind of information and when at all possible – point you in a direction which will help you in any specific area you feel you need the most work on.

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Peter White – I can help you find, meet, and attract your ideal woman for a real relationship. Live your life the way you want to with purpose and fun. Build a mindset that is free and positive. Learn the truths about attraction. When you can do that – the woman of YOUR CHOICE will gladly join you.

Excellent, excellent article. Thank you for this. I want to emphasize one thing, though: many women, much like men, are unhealthy and will use your for validation or other purposes. Dump them from your life immediately, and find healthier options.

No amount of passing tests will fix someone who is broken. That’s what psychologists are for.

Too many men walk around with such low self-esteem they believe women are inherently better than them.

I personally don’t take sides between the sexes. I believe there are PEOPLE. Some are genuinely good. Some are not. There are men who manipulate (or test in this case) women, and there are women who will do the same to men. And when either of the sexes learns to recognize the equality in “wrongdoing,” they can begin to see themselves as being just as good as anyone else. Which is extremely important in attraction and even more important in recognizing when someone just may be using them.

Sorry there Reuben. This is not a page to figure out if a woman loves you. Determining love is a major topic and not something I care to cover (if I actually know the answer, haha! ) in a comment field.

I know there’s truth. You have to trust a woman loves you. She also has to know how to show it. You also have to know how to make sure she knows you’re okay with letting her show it to you. There’s also commitment, dedication, timing, intimacy, actually saying it… it’s a very broad subject.

We also have to consider some people THINK their in love when in fact, in their head, it’s not clearly defined.

I’d say, for starter, make sure you both know HOW to define love to each other and see where it fits in both of your lives for now and for the future.

All the best to you and if I have time, I’ll look into this and possibly put up a few posts for you,

I knew about this basic tests and how to respond and it helped a lot, now I am in a relationship with a girl with insecurities and other complex issues with her ex.she tests me on a whole advanced level now and I am losing it already, now I just keep quiet most times and now she’s upset and wants to break up because she feels one day I would lose it and give up on her.

Be careful – this page is for single people. The tests may not stop when you’re in a relationship but how you pass them is much different. Make sure you work on communication with her and going silent is not the answer if you want this to last.