The viral Facebook message that started #Me Too – at least the one I saw – urged women to come forward with their stories of sexual harassment, and men to come forward with stories of times they perpetrated sexual harassment.The slogan “BELIEVE WOMEN” got enshrined into a mantra, pretty ominous if you’re a guy wondering whether people will believe your harasser’s story over yours.

Opinium, which sounds like a weird drug, reports 20% of women vs. You Gov poll in Germany finds 43% of women and 12% of men.The overall rates vary widely depending on how the pollsters frame the question, but the ratio is pretty consistent. The best I can find is this Australian study finding that 21% of harassers are women. I’m less confident on this one, but 20% seems like a conservative guess.By freak coincidence I came across this story from last month where Mariah Carey’s bodyguard accused her of sexually harassing him.Carey is much higher-profile than most of the men involved.The “it only matters if it’s structural” game isn’t so much fun now, is it?

) Could this kind of ploy really shut up everybody? Men absolutely came forward with stories of harassment by high-profile women in Hollywood, and they were summarily ignored.The mainstream media strongly discouraged men from coming forward with their own cases, with articles like I’m a man who has been sexually harassed – but I don’t think it’s right for men to join in with #Me Too.Their excuse was the usual – it’s not “structural oppression”, so it doesn’t count.Newsweek worries about how Women Are Attacked By Men In Almost Every Workplace.The Independent thinks the story is how powerful men seemingly never face the consequences of their actions toward women.The story is that women are always victims and totally understand exactly what’s going on, and men are always perpetrators with their fingers in their ears denying that a problem exists.