Yep, which is also the only reason girls exceed boys in education, it's because we re-built the system to pander to rote repetition of data without ever learning about any of the principles of the things they are supposedly learning.

Then when boys gets antsy because on some level they realise that there is an entire world of doing being denied them, we put them on drugs because of their "anti-social behaviour" & by that we mean "they don't act like girls."

No it's not. Rote memorization of basic facts were, but in the past learning a topic didn't end with that, you would also learn about the why, the when & where of it, after which you would put those facts in to action to show how well you could apply it.

All that rote learning was in service of something, it was in service of the practical aspects.

Those practical aspects no longer exist, the rote memorization is now in service of circling the right box on the multiple choice test you will get on what you memorised, not being able to actually demonstrate an understanding of the foundational concepts of a thing.

between Common Core, the self esteem movement & all the other nonsense schools, especially American School has handed down education is no longer about learning, it's about regurgitating facts you absorbed without ever learning anything, it's recitation without learning, information without insight, data without knowledge.

I honestly don't know, but girls are told they can be anything they want and classes are structured around how girls get the most benefit.

Additionally, with the wrong(correct by todays standards) teacher, boys also get told in not so many words they're not wanted and they're not needed in todays society. To just wash your hands of it and blame "toxic masculinity" is why we've ended up with more and more boys just checking the fuck out of a society that apparently doesn't want or need them.

Am I a moron just because I disagree with you?10 points · 12 months ago

4 years ago I would have disagreed with you and maybe thought you were being a bit too conspiracy-oriented.

Then, I had my internship. There were only 3 adult males in the school. The Gym Teacher, and the gay 3rd-grade teacher.

One day I saw 4 kids misbehaving. 2 boys, 2 girls. All four are dicking around being dumb kids. The teacher pipes up and yells at the two boys to stop distracting the girls. Now, I was from a position that I could observe the class from the side, and every 5 minutes I would see these girls disturb the boys. It was a game for them, how could they disturb the boys and make them react so the teacher yelled at them(boys).

Without fail, she would yell at the boy and kick them out of class. I never saw a girl get kicked out, even when they were doing the same things as the boys. When I brought this issue to the teacher, she dismissed it. ''You must have seen the wrong thing, I have more experience with this stuff.''

She was near retirement and she told me flat out she didn't think men should teach elementary school. Schools are a girls' club where boys go to be kicked out and ridiculed.

The brokenness of the country’s boys stands in contrast to its girls, who still face an abundance of obstacles but go into the world increasingly well equipped to take them on.

Pick a position. If Girls are outperforming boys, and boys have been left behind, then what "obstacles" are the women still facing? If they're better prepared to handle the world - by your own admission - and have had decades of work done to express womanhood and delve into it, then they're no longer the ones hampered. To say one group is being forgotten about and left behind, but the other is "still facing obstacles," is a tad disingenuous. One is clinging to a victimhood narrative that, once again by your own admission, has been shattered by "better preparing" them, then stick to boys being left behind. This is why Intersectionlaity fails.

Boys, though, have been left behind. No commensurate movement has emerged to help them navigate toward a full expression of their gender. It’s no longer enough to “be a man” — we no longer even know what that means.

Bullshit. There are groups out there, and we can point people to them, we have books, we have studies, we have outreaches. What happens to them? They're shut-down. Their rallies are targeted. They're bullied by aggressive, masculine trait embracing "feminists" who tell them that they're rape apologists, misogynists, etcetera. Furthermore, when Men then retreat to hobbies that give them peace, they're assaulted by the current push of SocJus - that their hobbies are "toxic," and they are "toxic" for participating in them, or defending them. The main obstacle that is in the way of men, are the very people arguing that they lack representation and are among the oppressed.

Too many boys are trapped in the same suffocating, outdated model of masculinity, where manhood is measured in strength, where there is no way to be vulnerable without being emasculated, where manliness is about having power over others. They are trapped, and they don’t even have the language to talk about how they feel about being trapped, because the language that exists to discuss the full range of human emotion is still viewed as sensitive and feminine. Men feel isolated, confused and conflicted about their natures. Many feel that the very qualities that used to define them — their strength, aggression and competitiveness — are no longer wanted or needed; many others never felt strong or aggressive or competitive to begin with. We don’t know how to be, and we’re terrified.

Wrong. We're isolated because we're ostracized. We're isolated because when we speak out about being abused, wronged, downtrodden, or exploited, we're told to "shut up, man up, and take it." That we've "had our turn, and now it's ______ turn."

The feelings of being trapped as well as the "range of human emotion," includes rage, anger, and frustration. Those aren't feminine - but they're rejected from society because they're considered "toxic." Rage is the end result of the dismissal and unhealthy processing of Anger and Frustration, and most of the time a secondary emotion to Fear. Instead of having a healthy coping mechanism, or strategies given to men (which used to be done in the 90s), we're told to reject it or bottle it up. Worse yet, we're told not to show it because it "abusive," and "scary," and that any woman who ever sees their boyfriend raise their voice, or punch a wall/pillow, they're potentially abusive and they should walk away because if they're liable to punch a wall, they're liable to punch you. Which is hogwash. They teach that stuff in these "domestic abuse" classes, and it's wrong, and only contributes to the distancing of men from society.

What we don't discuss, and what men are vilified for, is being human. We make mistakes, and some of us - myself included - were taught that hitting a pillow to vent frustration is a positive expression of frustration. No one is hurt by this, and nothing is damaged. Being in therapy at 12 gave me that tool, and then the world suddenly decided that I was wrong. It took my female therapist to tell me that I was right, and suggested buying a sandbag for boxing to vent some of the frustration.

Another entrapment is that men are even attacked, or resented, for spending nights out with "the guys." Our friendships with other men are stripped away from us, or are actively assaulted by insecurities from our "better halfs." Which brings up another point - when a man is dating a women, she is most often referred to as his "better half" in social settings. When a man "settles down," the woman is often seen as the reason.

Men's online gaming sessions? Those are social interactions. Those should be encouraged and bolstered. I'd rather jump online at the end of a rough day with a couple friends and play The Division then go blow $40-50 at the bar (fear of alcoholism on my part). Yet even this action, this healthy way of dealing with stress and socialization, is often met with the cries of "self isolation," "addiction," "danger of increasing violent tendencies," or are even used as emotional blackmail by those "better halves."

Point is, at every turn the ways in which men deal with problems are being systematically attacked or reframed as "toxic."

We will probably never understand why any one young man decides to end the lives of others. But we can see at least one pattern and that pattern is glaringly obvious. It’s boys.

Someone needs to read about the bombings committed by groups like the Weather Underground - who's leader was a woman, Bernadine Dohrn, and actively paid tribute to Manson's "Family." He's historically inaccurate in this account. The 1970s saw nearly 2,500 bombings within the States in 18 months. most by Feminist or "Liberation" groups. Yet the narrative that it's "boys" is still being spun I guess.

Furthermore, we understand exactly why people kill, not just men. It's not some question that has eluded us for centuries. We just choose to actively ignore those reasons and instead blame it on "masculinity" or other factors instead of realizing something went wrong long before the bullet was loaded in the chamber. We simply don't do enough for mental health, and it's stigma - especially when it's a male - is often looked down upon as a weakness. Pulling yourself up by your bootstraps doesn't always cut-it, and calling someone who is struggling a "child" is just another form of rejection and dismissal.

I believe in boys. I believe in my son. Sometimes, though, I see him, 16 years old, swallowing his frustration, burying his worry, stomping up the stairs without telling us what’s wrong, and I want to show him what it looks like to be vulnerable and open but I can’t. Because I was a boy once, too.

You just failed your son. Did you engage with him? Did you go after him? Did you invite him out to go shoot some hoops, toss a baseball or football, perhaps play a video game with him, or hell - buy him tickets to a concert where he can vocally vent his frustrations by singing along with the crowd? If you don't engage with the frustration then you are actively contributing to the problem. My own father agreed with me that he failed me in this regard too. So good job, you're failing your son. You want a guy to open up? Do an activity where the conversation happens naturally, even if it's just a pizza night, or grabbing a cup of coffee.

I would like men to use feminism as an inspiration, in the same way that feminists used the civil rights movement as theirs. I’m not advocating a quick fix. There isn’t one. But we have to start the conversation. Boys are broken, and I want to help.

They did, they are, and as stated before - the feminists are the ones that are actively stopping it. They're actively repressing the Voice for Men-type movements. I would suggest this guy go watch The Red Pill and see why looking at Feminism is the wrong way to go about this. We don't need a radicalized social movement that tears down morality and value - we need people to look at us as human beings, both fallible and emotional. Look at our expressions not as a sign of abuse or "toxicity," but as an extension of the emotional spectrum that actually exists - not just the emotions you want to see. In other words - stop bullying us into a box that you can control, and start dealing with us on our own terms. Look past the anger and rage, and stop taking it personally, because I can tell you, when it subsides - the guilt felt for yelling at someone is worse than anything else.

I'm tired of reading stuff like this that makes me ashamed. We aren't women. We're men. more importantly, we're human. We need to be dealt with on those terms first, everything else is ideological nonsense.

Edit: I wanted to say thank you to the gild as well as the up-votes and comments. I was unsure of throwing this up, but I'm glad I did now. Thanks sub. It means a lot more than words can express. Game on.

Look at our expressions not as a sign of abuse or "toxicity," but as an extension of the emotional spectrum that actually exists - not jsut the emotions you want to see. In other words - stop bullying us into a box that you can control, and start dealing with us on our own terms.

Bravo. Sincerely, bravo.

Now go and put this in the comments under the original article. Spread this.

The Government, every pillar of it, relies almost exclusively on male tax dollars. Men pay for pretty much everything and the government spends it on programs for women and minorities and because of this the government cannot afford for men to stop. They must be brow-beaten, downtrodden and shamed into fulfilling their typical gender function whilst the governments pander and prostrate themselves for the much more reliable and easily won female vote. Corporations must not celebrate masculinity as its seen as a direct attack on the paradoxically empowered and bismuth fragile feminine ego as they not only spend their money on mostly frivolous consumer products (the beauty industry is fucking apocalypse proof) but they also spend most of your money too weather they are your SO or not because the government directly transfers wealth from men to women in the billions every year.

Thing is this does not, cannot and will not continue to work as basic education has reached the point of no return for young men. We now know all these things. We know we will pay twice as much in tax over our life as women do, we know we will work harder, die sooner and be a cheap funeral faster than women. All because women vote more reliably and emotionally than men and the governments must cater to this and sideline or outright disregard male issues because powerful feminist lobbies who hold sway over huge numbers of women refuse to accept that men have any issues in life.