S.R.Claridge writes Mystery and Romantic Suspense novels. Her work has been said to have the energy of Dan Brown, the mystery of Mary Higgins Clark and the humor of Janet Evanovich. Claridge novels will take you to the edge of your seat, keep you guessing until the very end and ultimately warm your heart. It is on the pages of every S.R.Claridge novel that Mystery and Sensual Suspense collide.

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Monday, April 15, 2013

A Facade of Peace

Have you ever tried to
please everyone in your life and then, all of a sudden, you realize you’re the
one that’s miserable?Why do we do
that?Why is acceptance so important that
we’re willing to give up our dreams or try to change who we are?I’ve been pondering these questions as of
late…

I think we all have an
innate need to be loved, but we also need to feel that people like us, respect us
and desire to be with us.This urge can
become so strong that we sacrifice who we are in order to please those around
us.We give up everything we believe in,
in order to keep the peace.

Loving someone often
means you sacrifice for them and they, for you.This is called relational balance. It’s a mutual giving and taking.It is based on a level of respect for one
another.Loving someone means that their
concerns become your concerns, that their heart means as much to you or even
more to you than your heart, that their dreams and aspirations become your
goals as well.It means you don’t idly
stand by and watch them pursue something dangerous, because you love them too
much to see them hurting.Love can be
wonderfully easy at times and it can be devastatingly tough.

There are some people,
however, who are one-sided.They expect
you to sacrifice everything for them and give nothing in return.They are the ones who proudly boast, “This is
who I am; you can accept me or get out.”They are unwilling to share in a balanced relationship; thus, if you
desire a relationship at all you end up being the one to change in order to
keep things harmonious or peaceful for them. These relationships are hollow and empty. They are but a shell of what once was and the
dwindling hope of what could be.

If one person cares
only about themselves, then how can a relationship exist?They force the other person to change, to
keep quiet, to live a shallow lie so that they can continue doing what they’re
doing and pretending that it isn’t hurting anyone else.It’s like a drug addict that refuses to get
help and kicks from their life anyone who tries to intervene.If everyone around the drug addict sits down and
shuts up and merely watches them spiral deeper into the abyss, taking everyone
close down too… is that love?

Or is love standing up,
even though it’s tough, and saying, “You’re hurting everyone with your
selfishness.Open your eyes.”

Sssshhh. Quiet.We don’t want to upset the addict.We don’t want them to become angry and
distant.We want peace.Are they not already distant?Is a hollow, empty lie worth the façade of
peace?

Let me pose another
question:If, in order to be accepted,
you must kick from your life everyone who is not exactly like you; are you
really being accepted?