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Friday, April 25, 2008

Purely coincidence?

And here's the weird thing. I was wearing my emergency shoes - the ones I'd bought for a date with him ages ago.

I haven't worn them since last year, because it's just now getting warm. And so I thought of him, purely because I connect him with these shoes.

In fact, Steve had just complimented my outfit, and I'd just gotten done saying, "You vetted this shoe choice! These are the emergency shoes I bought for that date!" (And yes, he knew what date I was talking about. And he is a man who thinks about shoes.)

And then the email arrived.

Totally innocuous - he's in DC and can't come to town without thinking of me. How am I? Still engaged? Or married already? He hopes I'm well.

It's not that the content of the email was meaningful, but the timing was bizarre. I had been thinking about him, had literally just been talking about him.

Do you ever think of someone and then hear from them? Or call or email a friend, who immediately says they were just thinking of you, or just about to call you?

I feel like these kinds of things happen too often to be utterly random.

Nick, on the other hand, thinks these are pure and utter coincidence. You think about people regularly, but the times that it coincides with them contacting you stand out in your mind.

So I've probably thought about him a number of times - when passing a restaurant we went to, or something along those lines. But this time seems remarkable because he contacted me right afterwards. It's coincidence, nothing more.

13 comments:

I completely and totally agree that this happens. It's happened my whole life & I do *not* think it could merely be a cooincidence. It's been so long since I read it, so this reference might be wrong, but I think that this phenomenon was referred to in the book the Celestine Prophecy. There was some additional message in that book, too, which I also believe. When things like this happen, take notice, as there might be some message that is delivered or something that the 'coincidence' made you think about that you should think about. Maybe it's that you are in such a better place now, (and still wearing fun shoes)...

I'm kind of on the side of coincidence. And I'm also nerdy enough that I'd want to chart out the random stuff on a graph to see if there was a pattern.

Anyway an ex of mine used to have the charming habit of calling on Valentines Day, because "I was a special person in his life, and he really cared about how I was doing" (guy wanted an ego boost- and to reopen the wound) I have no idea how many exes got that charming call. He was a piece of work.