Warning Signs of Future Mother-in-Law Problems

I got this from a non Baby Center board. But the women on there are AMATEURS! I've been recruiting them to the DWIL dark side slowly through private mail. I'm not sure how many attempts have been successful.

In a recent poll, one quarter of divorced couples report that in-laws are “somewhat” responsible for their marriages ending, and the mothers-in-law get most of the blame. Finding a way to get along with your husband’s mother is crucial for the long-term success of your marriage. “People think ‘Once we get married, that will all go away.’ No, it won’t,” Dr. Phil says. If you want to know ahead of time if you’ll have in-law issues, read Dr. Phil’s warning signs:

1. Mother-in-law is insensitive; doesn’t respect boundaries

2. Mother-in-law is overly dependent on son for emotional and lifestyle support

3. Partner clearly puts mother-in-law needs/requests ahead of yours

4. Partner talks to mother daily; drops everything when she calls

5. Partner values mother’s advice and opinions over yours

6. Partner runs to mother when arguments occur

7. Mother-in-law attacks your character

8. Mother-in-law treats her son like he’s still a child/competes with you

9. During family gatherings, you’re overlooked or ignored by mother-in-law

Comments (109)

# 20 or 30 (which ever) Spouse is oblivious to it all. i.e., so what if my mom tried to breast feed our baby..that doesn't mean she is trying to be the mother...you have emotional/jeolously issues wifey. Or...so what if she runs around half dressed in front of me. She doesn't mean nothing by it. You need counselling wifey.

#21 You MIL tries to be your best friend. We all know this doesn't work and they do it for manipulation purposes ONLY!

#22 MIL invites you along to Key West with them and pays for the trip. They then expect you to come with them EVERY SINGLE YEAR. And then offer to pay for the next trip with them as your WEDDING PRESENT. WTF?

#23 MIL TELLS you to check your calendar for the week of ____ so she can come and take care of your baby so you can "save on daycare" expenses. Please. I don't want you taking care of my baby.

cupcakeattack!, I made sure that anyone within earshot knew I had not been invited to my own baby shower until 30 minutes prior to my arrival. I was a week away from my due date and grouchy and elephantine, so I was probably far more rude and immature about than I needed to be. The guests were all exMIL's family and extended family, and they were apparently very familiar with her particular brand of bullshit (my exDuH, who is my ex for a reason, thought I was being bitchy and hormonal by calling her out, and it was my fault she didn't invite me, because I'm not nice enough to his mooooommmmmyyyyy)

I have since gotten remarried, found DWILs, and have a good therapist.

#24 upon meeting her the very first time she shit talks about her current DIL (married to another son).

warning warning!

#25 emails son while you guys are still in hospital to "make him cry, record it and send it to me, I need to hear his cry!"

#26 FIL asked if everything went okay in csection. So we explain and say the only thing is something about his face/eye but that Dr says it will go away. MIL is holding him and gazes into his eyes and very intimately moans "nooo he's perrrrrrrrrrrrrfect."

Like a moment an actual MOTHER would have with their baby upon giving birth to them.

Yep, my now exMIL did that. I wouldn't have even found out if she hadn't mailed me one. Yeah, that's right, I received my own child's birth annoucement in the mail, from exMIL. And my now exDuH didn't see what the problem was. We didn't last 3 months after that. Surprise.

#28 - shows you how trustworthy she is by telling you that DH's ex wife (mother of your DSS) had a baby by a married man. This is the same ex wife that she still hangs out with, uses her address for cheaper car insurance, etc.