Is it over?

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Me and this girl have been together for a while but not in a serious relationship. We started out as really close friends and things sort of developed and we’re taking things slow since she’s unsure of what she wants. I caught her with another guy and I guess I kinda got a little mad.
We talked things out and she says she’s still interested but she still doesn’t know what she wants. Now, she seems distant and less talkative, she even leaves me on read :/ I don’t know if she just needs space or that’s her way of saying that she’s no longer interested, even though she told me otherwise.

I wouldn’t set yourself up. Even though you may care for her, if she is uncertain, give her some space. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up to be rejected. Once you both have space, you both can better evaluate how you each feel. You don’t want her to feel pressured to be in the relationship.
Also, I suggest you have no contact for at least 3 months.

1. “I caught her with {another guy}..”
2. “…she says she’s still interested but she still doesn’t know what she wants. Now, she seems distant…”

Lets face it, if she were “into you” neither one of these things would have taken place!
The old “I don’t know what I want…” is the same as saying “It’s not (you), it’s me.”

In order for (her) to be “the one” she would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa).

Life is too short for you to be wasting your time waiting around in (limbo).
When someone tells you they don’t know what they want what they’re really saying is “I don’t want YOU!”
What’s next? “I love you but I’m not (in love) with you.”? Clearly you see where this is going…Nowhere!

Yeah that makes sense, I mean, if she wanted me she wouldn’t be messing me around… I’ll just leave it for now but if she decides to approach me I won’t be closed off to the idea so I’ll listen to what she has to say. If she doesn’t approach me then I’ll know where she stands.

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