"I do have to ask though, how do you change the mind of someone who is "against" you when you treat them like shit?
I mean the last person I'd listen to is someone who couldn't treat me with basic respect, even if my views make them angry."

Honestly I'm done with trying to change their minds. If they think treating a large group of people like shitty second rate deviants is acceptable why should I show them any respect? I honestly do not believe homophobes deserve respect.

If you don't hold your beliefs about marriage based on religion, that must include your own marriage.So, did you get married for the federal benefits? To make your commitment public? Because you wanted to raise a family in a stable, two-income household? Because you want someone to spend the rest of your life with?

I don't think you an change the mind of someone whose belief stems from a visceral reaction. Facts and reason don't have an effect if you just think something is icky. Debating a brick wall would be more productive.

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