No preschool!

Juli - posted on 01/05/2011
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My 3 year old isn't doing pre school due to funding not available. Is anyone else like that or just chose not to put them in school and getting weird reactions from ppl? Outsiders seem to think it's the end of the world that she isn't in school or my other friend with kids her age in school always ask "so when is she starting school?" Like I have to shove my kid out the door since she is 3 and should be in school.

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Kari - posted on 01/24/2011

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Outsiders are just that...don't let them bother you! My son will go to preschool but it is available at the YMCA where he currently is at daycare. If they didn't have the program with great teachers, he wouldn't be going either. I say do what you need to do to provide a good life for your child, make your choices based on the needs of you and your family. Don't let others make choices for you.

I feel blessed that I don't have to send my daughter to pre-school! If you have no choice then I understand! Kids have to spend their whole lives in school, why rush it? My 3-year-old knows all her colors, alphabet, shapes, counts to 20 and can spell anything! She enjoys being with mommy and we play learning games all day. She plays with kids at the park and at a play museum by our house. She doesn't come home with colds, bad habits from other kids and no feelings of abandoment. I think it is sad that people judge anyone for the decisions they make, IT IS NO ONES BUSINESS, what you choose for your children!

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Ceri - posted on 08/13/2012

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Perhaps you can can talk to the School that she will go to, and find other preschools in the area that feed into that school. It is sad that they would turn a child away because they would be board. I would think better to be in preschool socialising than to not go at all. Preschool is not all about academics. She will be a good example to children who are not as far ahead as she is. I would say push, and unless she becomes a problem because she is board then why would they NOT want her??? That is crazy to me.

My daughter is an October 2007 so she can't start kindergarten and I'm a little sad.she went to the screening for preschool and they said she was too smart and that she would get bored easily.. so I feel bad for her...all of her friends are 2007 babies and because of there birthday they get to start school.

My kids went to the local community college preschool. It was free other than I had to participate one afternoon per week and take one child development class per semester. It was a great program 5 afternoons per week....they were well prepared for kindergarten.

My daughter needed more than I was able to give her at home; she's very bright and active. With 2 kids, a husband and house to run there just weren't enough hours in the day.

Others have different scenarios in their homes. Do what you think is in the best interest of your family. There are a ton of resources in areas you least expect.

I think it is individuals choice, my 3 yr old goes to nursery 5 afternoons a week for 3 hours a day, and he loves it. It teaches him loads ready for school, and I dont mean things mum can teach at home. He learns to respect others, do as he is told for his teachers, and loves playin dg with his lil friends. I didnt really want to send him, but that was for my own selfish reasons, not what was best for my child. But here in the UK every 3 year old can have 15 hours of nursery a week, so that is good. I think it gets them ready for school. .

As far as preschool goes, I am going to home school my daughter until regular school. My husband and I have checked out what is available in our area, and frankly, with the bullying (yes, quite amazing) to the lack of interest as far as the teacher's go, we feel it best.

My 4 year old son is currently in pre school only because I cant be home with him, so i would rather send him there than daycare. My oldest 2 kids however, who are now 14 and 16, did not attend preschool due to money. There was no mention from the teachers when they started school about them not knowing as much as the other kids and I didnt notice anything either. As long as youre fine with not putting your daughter in preschool, then do it. Its your choice, and dont let anyone elses comments let you think any differently.

people are way to ready to judge. My 1st daughter who is 12 didnt start school until she was 5. She was in a home daycare 3 days a week so I was comfortable with that. I too didnt have funding. Now i have 2 little ones under three, but i feel I need to put my 3 year old into a pre-k.. just to be able to be around other kids/adults since she only i with me 100% iof the time. I found a program thru a HighSchool where its affordable and its 3 days a week... and the seniors teadch the class (there is a teacher in there) but i have heard nothing but good things! They learn the same as the pre-K's that charge over $100 a month! Plus i think you get someone who is choosing to take this class in HS probably has a lilttle more excitement to be around kids!!

Um how about the fact that they cant even go to Kindergarten because of the cut off being september 1st? So why do they need 3 years of it? My son is in PS only because of transition from EI being from the state program to the school district for speech. He started speech in August through EI, and has come 300% full circle. In fact I am thinking of pulling him out. But he has a good time and does benefit. If he wasn't in the program because of qualifying for speech I wouldnt worry about it. In fact he may not go till Kindergarten. I love my child care provider and taking him to PS complicates things. When you get weird looks ask them if they would like to pay for it!

There isn't anything wrong with that. My daughter didn't go into preschool at 3 either, due to transportation. We only had one car and no close preschools that weren't full where we moved. I actually put her in the pre-k one this year, because there was an opening, but I was prepared just to teach her little things here and there when I could. I've heard that a lot of what she is learning in preschool this year, they teach again in Kindergarten, so I don't even know if there are any benefits, other than she'll be ahead of the game. With my son, I'm leaving it up to him whether or not he wants to go. He could do the 3 year old one next year, but might not want to. I know a lot of people that keep them home, just because they know this is their only chance to have them home and they are in no hurry to send them off. It is totally up to you, and don't ever let anyone make you feel differently. They'll only be this age once. There is a reason why Preschool is not required.

We're not sending our 3 year old to pre school next year, mainly because I think it's not needed. He's got an older brother to play with at home, we have a weekly play group, and often get together with other kids during the week. To me preschool is mainly about socialization, and I think we've got that covered already. After explaining that to people I have not gotten any strange looks. When I was a kid no one really went to preschool, just Kindergarten. I probably will send him to preschool in two years when he is 4.

We too have made the choice not to put our kids into preschool due to funds (triplets). But my husband and I have decided to home school our kids. So yes we do get LOTS of weird responses when they find out that our kids are not in school. People seem to think that they will be unsocialized. Well that is not the case as we get together with friends and their kids 3 or 4 times a week. The other thing people say is that my kids will be behind other children their age. Well so far they know all their abc's and we are working on our numbers as they can count from 1-12, know all their colors, opposites and we are now starting to work on learning our address and phone number.If we mama's are determined enough we can teach our children the needed skills and more that they will need for their futures.