Thank you, Annette. I saw the term “Gray Rock” somewhere, but didn’t know what it meant. This was helpful.

I have made plans to move out next month. Until then, I am staying as invisible as possible, avoiding discussions unless really necessary.

I had wanted to rationalize D’s unflattering candid photos of me as just bad behavior or poor taste. But an incident about a month ago, in which she threatened to “report me” to out-of-town family members, made me realize what she might have in mind.

When I responded by saying I was leaving the house and going for a walk, she threatened to report me to the sheriff’s office as a missing person, warning that I would be charged for the search. This was not a realistic threat, but it certainly made her disturbed state of mind clear to me.