Jesse and I got married a year ago and kept it a secret from everyone we knew for a year. We informed most people by mailing them an invitation to our one-year wedding anniversary. The reaction was certainly mixed among family and friends, but overwhelmingly, everyone seems happy for us (once we got them to believe it wasn’t a joke). I wanted to share this because the story itself it cute and adorable.

Check out the officiant’s LJ post about it here for a nice summary of the event. I announced it at work today, and the reactions were hilarious and interesting enough that I’m sure they’ll find their way into an upcoming post about men and women announcing to their communities that they’re married. Not that announcing a marriage a year after it occurred is exactly a common societal practice…

Keeping a secret like that for a year was fucking hard. I’m relieved to finally be able to say it out loud now 🙂

We didn’t want to make a big deal about it, and also thought our families and friends would try to discourage us from doing it because we’d only been together a little over a year, came out of other long-term and serious relationships immediately before being with each other… and when we thought of surprising everyone a year later, we just thought that was perfect. In a nutshell.

We started dating shortly after breaking up with long-term partners and felt like our families wouldn’t take us seriously. We also didn’t want a ceremony or anything traditional involved. We figured that if we eloped and kept it a secret, people who wouldn’t have taken us seriously would know that we’d already been married a year. The fun reason was just because, since we didn’t want to make a big deal about the event itself, having fun with the way we were going to tell people sounded like a great idea.