New Gf Reaction...

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Kodiak 46

Single bloke, been single for way too long, going to a speed date event in the next few weeks.

I went on one of these a few yrs ago and, for the ladies, it was dire. I was the catch of the night, so it must have been bad for them! Anyway, got a few decent replies and ended up having a little fling with a lady slightly older. We parted after she felt it was going nowhere.

Reason I bring this is up is because, you never know, may get lucky again. I've been going down the gym and even if I say so myself, I look the best I have in yrs.

So, to the point of my first thread...if I do get lucky, and this time said lady doesn't think we're going nowhere, and things develop...and then...somehow...she gets on my pc and discovers visited pages etc and sees escorts etc...would I be tried and executed for something I'd done before I met her?

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway?

I've only ever visited escorts when single and wouldn't if I was seeing someone, even if only casually. Not judging others btw. It's all ifs and buts I know, just wondered what others might have to say...

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snogman1 0

Single bloke, been single for way too long, going to a speed date event in the next few weeks.

I went on one of these a few yrs ago and, for the ladies, it was dire. I was the catch of the night, so it must have been bad for them! Anyway, got a few decent replies and ended up having a little fling with a lady slightly older. We parted after she felt it was going nowhere.

Reason I bring this is up is because, you never know, may get lucky again. I've been going down the gym and even if I say so myself, I look the best I have in yrs.

So, to the point of my first thread...if I do get lucky, and this time said lady doesn't think we're going nowhere, and things develop...and then...somehow...she gets on my pc and discovers visited pages etc and sees escorts etc...would I be tried and executed for something I'd done before I met her?

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway?

I've only ever visited escorts when single and wouldn't if I was seeing someone, even if only casually. Not judging others btw. It's all ifs and buts I know, just wondered what others might have to say...

Firstly, how would she gain access to your PC? No woman gains access to anything of mine.

Secondly, what has what you did before you met got anything to do with her? If she is a virgin and religious, then yes, it may be an issue if she finds out. Otherwise, there will not be a problem, i work on premise that any girl i date will haave had at least 10-20 sexual partners, so if she found out i punted in the past and kicked off about it, i'd think she is neurotic and i'd lose her number for having double standards.

So quit worrying unless you bag yourself a bible bashing virgin

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Oldfool9 0

So, to the point of my first thread...if I do get lucky, and this time said lady doesn't think we're going nowhere, and things develop...and then...somehow...she gets on my pc and discovers visited pages etc and sees escorts etc...would I be tried and executed for something I'd done before I met her?

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway?

I've only ever visited escorts when single and wouldn't if I was seeing someone, even if only casually. Not judging others btw. It's all ifs and buts I know, just wondered what others might have to say...

Jesus - you're having mind-games and guilt-complexes with a future girlfriend you haven't yet met.. let alone formed a relationship with.

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PUNTER14 0

So, to the point of my first thread...if I do get lucky, and this time said lady doesn't think we're going nowhere, and things develop...and then...somehow...she gets on my pc and discovers visited pages etc and sees escorts etc...would I be tried and executed for something I'd done before I met her?

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway?

I've only ever visited escorts when single and wouldn't if I was seeing someone, even if only casually. Not judging others btw. It's all ifs and buts I know, just wondered what others might have to say...

WAY too many 'ifs' for you to lose sleep over something that may never happen (a girl discovering your punting background that is not you not getting a girlfriend)...

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randombird 12

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway

Actually, it's the escorts that are the personae non gratis... sorry, couldn't resist.

You didn't answer my question - how would you feel if she used to be an escort but you never were a punter?

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Dexi Delite 10

You're worrying about what her reaction might be (and only one type of reaction at that). Her reaction may take you completely by suprise and make your relationship stronger. Why don't you cross that bridge if and when you come to it.

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smiths 215

Single bloke, been single for way too long, going to a speed date event in the next few weeks.

I went on one of these a few yrs ago and, for the ladies, it was dire. I was the catch of the night, so it must have been bad for them! Anyway, got a few decent replies and ended up having a little fling with a lady slightly older. We parted after she felt it was going nowhere.

Reason I bring this is up is because, you never know, may get lucky again. I've been going down the gym and even if I say so myself, I look the best I have in yrs.

So, to the point of my first thread...if I do get lucky, and this time said lady doesn't think we're going nowhere, and things develop...and then...somehow...she gets on my pc and discovers visited pages etc and sees escorts etc...would I be tried and executed for something I'd done before I met her?

Please lets not go down the route of 'clear your history, set passwords etc', that's not the point I'm getting at. I suppose I'm asking firstly, if she did find out, would she wrongly assume I had betrayed her and visited escorts whilst with her, and secondly, even if she did believe I hadn't been with an escort since meeting her, would I be persona non gratis anyway?

I've only ever visited escorts when single and wouldn't if I was seeing someone, even if only casually. Not judging others btw. It's all ifs and buts I know, just wondered what others might have to say...

I dont know as i havent met the woman involved, as havent you yet. As people are all different she might or might not find it disgusting and you a dirty filthy pervert and tell you to fuck off.

Bearing that in mind ensuring any woman doesnt find out in the first place so it isnt put to the test should be top priority in my view, it has been to me over the last 29 years and i was never caught out by a partner. It really isnt rocket science if you take precautions in all senses of the word.

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smiths 215

Asking punters and WGs that is not really going to give you a useful answer, is it?

How would you feel if she had once been a WG but you had never punted?

It could do, as this is a forum and can act as an advice and sounding board who knows what advice and opinions a poster may get from others that they find useful. Like the OP you are pre-judging something you cant possibly know.

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Kodiak 46

Yeah I know, after re-reading, it sounds like I'm anticipating bridges I don't know whether I'm going to face...

I think I was considering the wider question of if, in any way, new GF discovers visiting escorts used to be a favoured activity, would she firstly assume I had continued, and would she ditch me in any case?

I would date a former escort but must concede that if things got more serious I would always wonder if she had been tempted to go back to the profession...

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smiths 215

Yeah I know, after re-reading, it sounds like I'm anticipating bridges I don't know whether I'm going to face...

I think I was considering the wider question of if, in any way, new GF discovers visiting escorts used to be a favoured activity, would she firstly assume I had continued, and would she ditch me in any case?

I would date a former escort but must concede that if things got more serious I would always wonder if she had been tempted to go back to the profession...

As i posted its impossible to know if that particular woman would ditch you as you dont know her yet, it would depend on her own views obviously and you dont know what they are till you meet her.

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nisha87 0

I would date a former escort but must concede that if things got more serious I would always wonder if she had been tempted to go back to the profession...

just as she may accept you being a former punter, but if things got serious may wonder if you would be tempted to go back to punting. i agree with randombird that a good place to start is to think about how you would feel about it if the roles were reversed. ie if she were a former WG.

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Kodiak 46

I wonder why your last girl friend thought it was going nowhere, ever decreasing circles and disappearing up your own arse springs to mind.

I wanted - and still want - a family. She had teenage kids and didn't want any more. Although I'd never expected her to be up for more kids, she felt it was futile to continue being together, despite my apparent qualities!

Why not head over to Mumsnet and ask the same question........

Ouch!!!

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MissPanda 0

You will never truly know until it happens as they will either take it with a pinch of salt and have the mind set of what happens in the past is the past or the others may not be able to get over the fact you have been with a WG and may not want to continue the relationship, but until you are with the lady and (if) this happens you won't know will you? i mean we can all give our thoughts on what might or might not happen but until it does then you can't be sure on whose advice to take can you?

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snogman1 0

Actually, it's the escorts that are the personae non gratis... sorry, couldn't resist.

You didn't answer my question - how would you feel if she used to be an escort but you never were a punter?

Makes no difference, all women i know in 'civvie' life have had over 20 partners, so to me 20 or 500 is alot of different cock. Id rather date a virgin or a woman who has slept with aa maximum of 2 men, but that will never happen.

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MissPanda 0

There is no point for OP doing that as mumsnet is full of women with double standards, they criticise escorts and punters, yet most of them have had multiple one night stands.

Its weird they see escorts/punters as a bad thing except they are pretty much doing the same thing just without money being exchanged, you are right they do slightly have double standards o.O but i guess they don't see it like that ... silly people O.o