About Me

Kryssie

I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis in Feb 2012 (at age 29) after about 3 years of mild symptoms and 1 year of aggressively active disease. I've now developed secondary fibromyalgia as well. It has turned my life upside down.
Before RA, I was a full-time student majoring in molecular biology, dreaming of a PhD down the road. I hope to still do that some day, but for now I have to take things one day at a time.
Some day I'd love to research climate change and possibly help develop new energy/fuel and bioremediation solutions. I love nature and don't want to see it destroyed.

Fellow RA Bloggers

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

My rheumy just added another diagnosis: fibromyalgia (FM) secondary to inflammation from RA. I was complaining of an all-over prickly, itchy, irritated, crawling, bug-biting sensation that is worse in the evening. FM makes me so tense and it makes me want to literally take my skin off. It's an absolutely infuriating feeling and I don't know how to deal with it. To be honest, some nights all I can do for relief is have a drink. Alcohol helps calm my nerves, apparently.

Rheumy explained that the high levels of inflammation I have can cause irritation to nerve endings, hence my symptoms. He didn't offer anything to help relieve it, just that once we get the RA under control I should get relief from the FM as well.

So I hit the internet, wondering what other do for FM relief. I found that most people take an anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medication that seems to relieve some of the nerve problems. So I found an internist here in town and made an appointment. Now, if you have RA you know why I was ridiculously nervous about that appointment: you never know if the new doctor is going to understand RA/FM, be willing to treat it, understand the myriad of medications you take, or if they'll even treat you like a human being or if they'll tell you it's all in your head!

My new internist is great. First of all, she runs on time (WOW!). She understands RA and even gets how hard it is emotionally. She seems very on top of things, has given me a lot of good information, and has me starting Cymbalta. It could take a while for it to work, but I'm really hoping to see some results, not just for FM, but also for depression.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Have you ever just been skipping through life, thinking things were okay when, suddenly, life shows you exactly who's boss? It might be something insignificant like doing something embarrassing or maybe it's something more important, like losing your job. I've had a bit of both sides of the spectrum lately.

RA really put me in my place. It took the wind out of my sails, planted doubts and insecurities that bloomed into depression and anxiety. For a while I tried to fight it, I thought I was just overtired from school and work. I tried cutting back to just school. That worked for a while, but before long I could not longer handle classes either. I kept telling myself that I just needed a break, that I would feel better soon. Every time I made adjustments to my life, RA pushed back harder and faster and I found myself making adjustments all over again.

When I finally succumbed, I was left with no job, no classes, no energy, no confidence, and an ever dwindling pool of optimism. For almost 5 months, I hid myself from the world, from my friends and family, even tried to hide from my fiance which is pretty difficult with him in the same house. I was (and still am) in so much pain that I would rather sleep than be awake and able to feel that pain. I couldn't talk about what I was going through because I didn't know how. The very thought of verbalizing how I felt brought me to tears. I felt that I had lost everything that made me who I am. I felt I no longer had any value as a human being. What was I contributing? What could I possibly offer anyone?

The sheer speed and aggression with which RA took over my body left me in utter bewilderment. I couldn't see how I would possibly recover from a disease that is known to get worse over time and, in less than a year, had decimated all that I had worked so hard to achieve.

A close friend had been on my case all those months about the way I was coping. Some things she said were insensitive - like how I shouldn't take pain medication because I would become addicted. But some things she said were spot on, like how I needed a support group or some form of therapy. I ignored her advice for a long time, because I simply wasn't ready to talk about it yet. And that was okay. Considering what RA took from me, I think I was entitled to a mourning period.

When I finally did look for support, I found an online forum (MD Junction's RA Group) that gave me a place to vent the frustration and anger I had been holding inside for so long. The members there are supportive above all else and they are kind. But I also felt the need for some form of friendship, some comradery, something to make this new state of existence feel more normal. For that I found Squeaky Joints.

Between both these amazing groups, I have found some rather extraordinary friends. And for the last few weeks I have felt almost normal, talking to others, joking and laughing like I haven't in many months, and feeling a sense of belonging. I wanted to do something to show my new friends how much I care about our plight and maybe I was even trying to prove to myself that I still had some value.

So I made the RA Map. And for a couple of days, I felt like I was worth something again and I was doing some good. And then life came along and put me in my place. I had been misunderstood about the map, it wasn't what people assumed it was. The overanalytical worrier in me is thinking everyone is angry with me. The bulk of the info tied to the map is gone and I'm back to square one. And now I feel like I did five months ago - isolated, alone.

There is one key difference this time: I know the feeling won't last. The Pre-RA me would never have given much thought to an event so relatively insignificant. But as I am stripped of my pride, confidence, my accomplishments that bolster my self-worth, this insignificant event is a set back. But only for the moment.

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Do you want to connect with other RA warriors?

Living in a small town in northern New Mexico, there aren't many opportunities to reach out and meet with other people who have RA. I have compensated for this by talking to other RAers online and I have found an amazing group of people who always make me laugh!

But sometimes I feel quite isolated. The people who really understand what I'm going through live in other states and other countries. How nice would it be to have an RA BFF who lives nearby, someone I could meet face to face? In all the support groups and forums I have participated in, people are asking each other where they live.

Wouldn't it be great to have one place we could go to see where our online friends live and to find out who lives near us? Enter the RA Patient Map.

Join the RA Patient Map!

Ý Add your website, blog, or
list more information about your RA and related conditions in the description
field. Most fields are optional so you can add as much or as little info as you
want.

You don't have to use your full name or physical address, but since the idea
is to be able to contact those close to us, it would be nice to have some way
to get in touch. If you want to be more private, use your first name only and a nondescript email address. You can always go back
to the map later and change what information is connected to your marker.

Be sure to share the map so we can get more people added!
You can publish the map into your blog or other website by clicking Print or
Share, then Publish in Website, choose the options you want on your map, then
copy the code into your website.

Sunday, October 7, 2012

This week Mark and I drove 4.5 hours south to visit the guest ranch where we'll be getting married next year. It was absolutely beautiful! We made some changes to our plans, but I think it's all going to work out. I fully expect my body will cooperate with me after a year of continuous treatment (*fingers crossed*).

The weather was beautiful!!

(All photos are personal and

are not for use by any third party)

Entering the courtyard

They are expecting treats :-) We did end up giving them some apples.

Driving (well riding anyway) is difficult with RA. Two things are going on right now: stiffness and flare. For stiffness, I feel better if I move around and don't sit too long. For flares, I feel best (but not great) if I don't move the flaring joint at all. Of course, I'd rather have stiffness than flare pain, so I haven't been a bundle of energy the last few months. Even rotating my ankle while sitting down, just out of habit, is enough to push that joint to flare.

So, understandably, I was really nervous about the trip and all the walking and visiting we planned to do. Mark's parents met us at the ranch, as did my mom and my MOH. It wasn't the first time they've seen me since RA has taken over, but it's the worst they've seen me and I felt massively self-conscious. After walking around for a few minutes, my right knee flared (for the first time ever) and I had to stop. The only place we had to sit and rest was on a bench in a gazebo (I know it sounds AWFUL right? LOL).

Well the bench hurt, sitting hurt, my knee hurt, and I was the youngest person there!! I felt about a million years old. *sigh* I am just going to keep telling myself: One day at a time, I'm doing all I can, this will get better. That's my mantra and I'm sticking to it.