never even heard of seperation anxiety...........whats the best thing to do?

i have tried to ignore, making sure she is safe of course, resisted from picking her up all the time it happens, but like i said she gets herself in a right state and is hard to calm down.......its heartbreaking and irritating at the same time.

she will not become clingy if you handle this phase well, children who have their needs met are less likely to be clingy.

Consider if you were genuinely frightened and everyone ignored you and pretended they couldn't hear you. Would that be likely to make you less frightened?

The best way to teach is through play, and this goes for emotional learning too.

So talk to her in advance about how you will be leaving the room soon and confidently get up to leave. Concentrate on staying relaxed. Say bye bye and wave, then disappear for a second. Come back full of cuddles and big hellos. Then do it again and again as a game. Soon she will associate you leaving with big cuddles (when you come back) and the times can get longer.

If you play a lot it may be a week to 2 weeks before you see an improvement. Remember to keep it fun, like all the other learning things you are doing.