Emilie here, coming to you from North Queensland, Australia, where my wife, Valerie, and I are on honeymoon!!!!

I was/am planning on taking this week off by totally disconnecting, but I just had this urge to check in with you guys…

The past couple weeks have felt like a culmination of so much: planning the wedding, preparing my keynote for Problogger, writing my book, finally getting here and knowing we’ll be moving into Fall when we get home… Now that we’re taking a breath in the tropics, though, I’ve found myself thinking about how it’s really only the beginning.

Beginnings are exciting. Beginnings are scary.

Six years ago, I committed to my multipotentiality — It was time to stop beating myself up for being “flaky,” time to stop fighting my multifaceted nature. I resolved to integrate my many passions into my life! I was going to make it work, this being totally who I am.

I’m happy and lucky to have come so far from that beginning, but that moment laid the foundation for the rest of my life. I will never forget that.

Like everyone’s, my life has included many beginnings that didn’t go anywhere. Some of those have been incredibly painful and disappointing. Some have felt like natural transitions. And some have been, frankly, a huge relief.

When Valerie and I met, we were both about ready to give up on dating for a while, and focus on other parts of our lives. But each of us decided, in our own way, to take one last chance on the other.

Some beginnings turn out to be dead ends and some beginnings change everything.

I’m going to keep this short because I need to go swim on the beach! I’m including some wedding photos, in case you’re interested. Love you guys. Never stop beginning.

Your Turn

Have you had a beginning that changed everything?

Emilie Wapnick is the Founder and Creative Director at Puttylike, where she helps multipotentialites integrate ALL of their interests into their lives. Unable to settle on one path herself, Emilie studied music, art, film production and law, graduating from the Law Faculty at McGill University. She is an occasional rock star, a paleo-friendly eater and a wannabe scientist carpenter. Learn more about Emilie here.

And from a long-time Aussie reader, welcome to my part of the world – if you find yourself in Brisbane anytime during your stay, please get in touch. I’d love to connect with my multi-potentialite muse!

Congratulations Emilie!!! I’ve been lurking in stealth mode regarding Puttypeep, but I’m so glad I happened upon your message! Wishing you and Valerie a wonderful honeymoon and lots of beginnings to come! All the best —

Wow – what a beautiful couple you two make – thank you for sharing these pictures of your special day! It’s funny, but like you and Valérie, my partner and I met, shortly after we’d both decided to not focus on dating, and concentrate on enjoying life and making friends. Life can be wonderfully fulfilling and special as a single person, but there is also something special and wonderful about finding the right person to share it with.

Emily congratulations, enjoy your honeymoon! You deserve it! Yeah some begginings are awful others are life changing, but at the end you have to try all of them to know which are those that make a better life! Cheers!

Congrats to Emilie and Valerie. I’m new here and I feel so grateful to Emilie’s TED talk about multipotentialites that I wanted to send you both loads of best wishes. Come to Madrid and bring us more light to Spaniards multipotentialites!

I had an awesome new beginning which actually resonates with yours. Since I broke up last year with a girl I loved a lot (she was the first person to love me as a gender queer person) I decided to focus on my many many projects; to get back out there after a horrible depression, which had started during the relationship though I didn’t notice it till it was too late. Anyways I thought I didn’t want to date anyone again, at least not for this year… I wanted to do stuff I hadn’t been able to do for a variety of reasons which include unconscious anxiety attacks, and a lot of self loathing and insecurity (which had to do with the the fact that I was for the first time recognizing myself as gender queer/gender-fluid and gray ace.

Well the beggining came recently. The Orlando attack forced me to go out of the closet yet again, this time with the gender stuff… in a brutal way. I hurt a lot of people I cared a lot about by imploding and exploding verbally online so I could reconstruct myself again.
When I could finaly see myself again as a new person, everything started flowing. Opportunities came and guess what? I randomly met an amazing trans FtoM and we’ve been having a blast journeying together through our transitions, getting to know each other, working and dealing with parents and family (which is not easy at all in our country/city right now).

I think this is one of the greatest new begginings I’ve had yet. So I’m fucking scared as shit. I’m about to scream while writing this lol. But I heard a song recently which says “if you’re not scared you’re not in love” which I think applies perfectly not only to loving people but to whatever your passions are, and even to loving your own self.

Congratulations, from the photos it seems everyone had a wonderful day including your four legged friend! Great to see & hear. I hope you enjoy your Honeymoon over here, fortunately your weather’s better up North than mine is down here at the moment. Unless of course you love the rain as much as I do!
All the best for the new chapter in your lives together.
Craig.

Congratulations! I just got married myself at the end of July. I really enjoy your blog. It’s nice to finally feel like I am not alone in the world. May you and your wife have a lifetime of happiness and blessings together!

Oh how utterly wonderful! Congratulations you two. There’s nothing sweeter than love, and two people who share it deeply enough to make a life long commitment. Certainly a celebration worth sharing. Just delighted for you two. Wishing you a lifetime of wedded bliss. xoxo