So it’s just those nasty black African men who are terrorists? I’m kind of disappointed that artist Sophia Wallace didn’t paint ALL men as terrorists because women don’t know how to masturbate, but we can count on feminism to single out bloodcurdling black men for special treatment, can’t we?

Six babies! No orgasms! A life of sex! Terrorism! Save me from the black men in Africa!

Sophia Wallace, you see, apparently took off her Klan robes long enough to come up with a clever little art project called “Cliteracy”, designed to convince women several things simultaneously:

The right of every individual citizen to vote in elections is turned into a lie if we don’t talk about women’s sexual pleasure.

I’m not sure how that works, but if we can believe that failing to reach orgasm is terrorism, why not accept that the same situation leads to the corruption of democracy? Once the earth is flat, does it really matter where the dragons be?

No really. I’m not making this up.

Though the project may seem limited to the discussion about women’s bodies and female sexuality, Wallace insists that it’s really much, much bigger than that.

Not only is the project for everyone (“I love seeing men standing up for the clit,” Wallace says, adding that this is a conversation that liberates people of all genders), but she says that the clitoris can be seen as a “metaphor for freedom, body sovereignty and citizenship.”

Pop Quiz: who can explain the anatomy of a male orgasm? The actual physical mechanics of it? I’m sure we have all noticed that a male orgasm is almost always accompanied by a discharge of fluids that, depending on the circumstances can lead to laundry, a baby, a rejuvenating facial or a meal, but aside from that, who can explain exactly how it works?

Not me. I really don’t know. There are some muscle contractions involved that result in extreme pleasure and force the discharge from the tip of a man’s penis, but other than that, fucked if I know how it all works. What muscles are involved? How deep into a man’s body do the contractions go? Do the testicles contract?

I dunno.

Don’t really care, either.

Seriously, who gives a shit? I know how to produce one, and take pleasure in doing so, but other than that, I’m afraid I’m not dick-literate. I’ll bet the majority of men aren’t particularly dick-literate either, and can’t describe in anatomical detail how their own pleasure works. Again, who cares? I can’t describe digestion in any particular detail, nor have I ever come across a situation where my life depended on distinguishing the transverse colon from the ileum (and yes I had to google “digestive system” to even come up with those words).

So what?

As long as I know how to eat, what difference does it make?

“Cliteracy” as a concept seems to accept as a baseline that women don’t know a single thing about their own bodies, and if they do, and fail to communicate that to sexual partners, it is somehow the partner’s fault. Which is rather like saying it’s my partner’s fault if I don’t eat because I failed to tell him I wanted him to put the food in my mouth. If I starve to death, well, that’s because he’s an asshole who never figured out that I expect to be hand-fed.

How do men discover their capacity for orgasm? Ha, ha, I’m just kidding. We all know the answer to that. They wait until some willing woman comes along and shows them how it all works. And if that never happens….well, they are just lost little duckies, with no sovereignty over their own bodies, no freedom, no hope, no future.

I’ll just wait for my Princess to come and show me how my penis works….said no 12 year old boy ever.

“Cliteracy” could have been an outstanding project if it had followed two simple guidelines:

Your pleasure is your own

You are responsible for discovering and communicating what you like and need

If “Cliteracy” had been aimed at WOMEN, without attacking or reducing men to clueless fumbling idiots, it might have gained my admiration. But of course it had to be derailed with the standard feminist operating procedures of:

Accept no responsibility ever

Cast yourself as the victim

Blame men (black men if you can)

Claim unsupportable, absurdly exaggerated consequences

Assert feminism as the solution

It really amazes me that something as astonishing as dates that conflict by over 100 years make it past the editors at Huffington post.

“It’s appalling and shocking to think that scientifically, the clitoris was only discovered in 1998,” Wallace told The Huffington Post from her Brooklyn studio last week. “But really, it may as well have never been discovered at all because there’s still such ignorance when it comes to the female body.”

Again, WHAT?!?!?!

The clitoris was NOT discovered in 1998! Two paragraphs later, the article contains the following:

…the true anatomy of the clitoris had actually appeared in scientific literature as long ago as the mid-1800s.

Either claim, quite frankly, is completely stunning. The Kama Sutra is thought to have been composed somewhere between 400 and 200 CE, and it contains a wealth of positions dedicated to maximizing female pleasure.

Édouard-Henri Avril painted a very famous depiction of cunnilingus in 1906, and many more erotic images that were used to illustrate novels like Fanny Hill. Female pleasure was no cultural mystery even in the modern era.

There is even some speculation that cunnilingus (or other method) assisted orgasm evolved as a sperm retention strategy so that men could be assured it was actually their own swimmers who claimed the podium, and not the sperm of some interloper the missus fancied for an afternoon of fun.

Female orgasm may play an important role in sperm competition…Men perform various behaviors to facilitate their partner’s orgasm, including vaginal penetration, cunnilingus, and manual vaginal or clitoral stimulation, and the induction method may affect the degree to which sperm is retained (Levin, 2001; Masters and Johnson, 1966; reviewed in King and Belsky, 2012).

The idea that female orgasm is some new thing that men are deliberately ignoring for the purposes of punishing/oppressing women is completely laughable.

Here is the one, key slide that Wallace gets right, and in my opinion, it gets directly at the heart of things:

The reason you are having bad sex ladies is because you are LYING. Is that really so hard to figure out? How in the name of god do you expect men to understand what gives you pleasure if you LIE to them about it? How can any sane woman not understand that lying about what gives her pleasure will likely result in very little pleasure?

Stop lying. Assume some responsibility for your own pleasure. Learn your own body. Don’t blame men if you can’t even figure out how to give yourself an orgasm. Learn how to communicate, and if you can do that without barking out orders like a Marine Drill Sergeant, so much the better.

Ask, and ye shall receive.

The idea that 70% of women are going sexually unfulfilled strikes me as another pile of steaming bullshit. You know what leads me to that belief?

Older feminists like to posit that women groom and/or remove their pubic hair in response to either the pornification of culture or men’s uninhibited pedophilic tendencies. The latter always makes me laugh, because I’m sure all those ladies only date men with beards, right? No preference for men who exhibit that pre-pubescent look of no facial hair?

Fucking hypocrites.

It’s actually rather simple to explain why younger women in particular keep their ladybits neat and tidy: it’s because no one likes hair in their food.

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Ron R.

Spot on as always JB,
We are all responsible for our own pleasure, but I always do my best to ensure my partners pleasure. And I have always liked it when a woman tells me what she wants, even after dating for years, as what you wanted on Monday is not the same as what you want on Wednesday. But then again, I always like pie, no matter the day of the week. But that is just me.

And I cannot understand the fem agenda, how can any sane person write such drivel, seems that the past decade if not more, us men are the object of derision for any number of the women’s worlds woes, I guess we should all just be lined up and shot, and let the women pleasure themselves after they are Clitorit

Best
Ron

Xayadvara

“rejuvenating facial” ?

Hahahaha………

Lady, you know how exactly to push a feminist’s buttons – someone gave you the blueprint en route to Earth? 😉 – I wonder how they are going to explain the your extreme brand of ‘misogyny’ – Maybe you got brain-addled by the ‘patriarchy’ of Mr. JB 😀

“Older feminists like to posit that women groom and/or remove their pubic hair in response to either the pornification of culture or men’s uninhibited pedophilic tendencies.”

I’ve only had one girlfriend with whom I’d been sexually active with. We never had sex – never made it that far, and I always had a hard time getting aroused (perhaps I’m demisexual, but I digress) – but I always enjoyed getting her off. Orgasm after orgasm, either through cunnilingus or fingering. There’s only one reason why I know how to make a woman feel amazing, despite being a virgin: PORN. That’s it.

This idea that porn is inherently oppressive or degrading is ridiculous to me. I have a really hard time taking sex-negative feminists seriously.

Anyway, you know how many times I orgasmed with said girl? Once. And that was mostly all me. So I wonder if perhaps I should make it a point to learn how to communicate to any future partners. That flies in the face of the notion that men will get off no matter what and should only focus on the women, but whatever.

It is interesting to watch how the author begins from an actual real-world problem (the six children/terrorism point, which I can only assume refers to the (usually african) practice of female “circumcision”), and proceeds to use it as nothing more than an advertisement for her pet agenda. I am curious as to the thought process that led to the author believing that that would make her look good in any way.

Really? how does female circumcision fall into the argument that women who have 6 babies and never have orgasms are being ‘terrorised”, I can see your point as FGM is a
serious issue IMO and needs to be dealt with, but why would the Cliterati use such a serious medical issue for women in Africa to equate not having orgasms to the real threat of global terrorism? I don’t think
the little trying to be cute memes are dealing with FGM on any level. PPP

You’re curious about thought processes? No you’re not. You’re interested in confirming only that which you already believe.

You are here on my good graces. Keep that in mind.

Aeglachel

My apologies. I have worded myself unclearly, and was not referring to JB, but to Wallace. To clarify:

I was noting that Wallace attempted to hitch her “cliteratii” wagon to a larger problem via a rather strained terrorism comparison, thus revealing her rather inflated sense of importance by cheapening the greater issue to promote the lesser.

Judgybitch I love your post and I honestly love women like you. I have always done my damn best to try and make my female partners orgasm. When I see articles like the one by Sophia Wallace that imply that almost all men are ignorant and simply don not try or care I am really offended. Atop of that women support male circumcision (as well as many men) as if they are not similar. I fully understand that female version is barbaric and in all reality worse.Yet just because something else is worse does not mean that male circumcision is problem free.
Sophia Wallace is doing nothing but empowering women for the wrong reasons and angering men. I agree 100% with your article!

Good one. I’d like to add that all this focus on the clitoris leads to a whole lot of poorly fucked women and poorly fucked women are unmanageable. Everyone should know it’s a combination of G-spot, clitoris and her brain.

THIS RIGHT HERE===> I’d like to add that all this focus on the clitoris leads to a whole lot of poorly fucked women and poorly fucked women are unmanageable. Everyone should know it’s a combination of G-spot, clitoris and her brain.

You sir nailed it on the head. The mental is soooo fucking powerful. I have made my current girlfriend orgasm four times in one session by analyzing what turns her on mentally (kissing neck, sucking nipples, deep eye stare, other things that are NSFW) and vaginal stimulation.
Again I love judgybitch because shes a real fucking woman.

Here is some fun facts. ANY man can within a couple of months learn to have multiple whole body orgasms. The technique can be learnt in any tantra workshop or through reading instructions on the internet. Alternatively you can by an aneros, show it up your ass a couple of times a week and it will eventually give you mind-blowing multiple whole body orgasms without ejaculation.

The knowledge that men could have multiple orgasms have been in libraries in the western world for ages. No one just picked up on it. In addition the same research report that brought the knowledge of the g-spot to the western worlds attention in the beginning of the 80s also had information about mens possibility of having multiple orgasms. Yet the media only picked up on the g-spot and only taught people about that. Sexologists have been well aware of these techniques for a long, long time yet they have been campaigning only to spread knowledge about the clitoris and female orgasm and female sexuality. They could just as well have tried to enlighten men about their orgasmic potential.

While it is true that only about 25-30% or so of women normally orgasm vaginally during intercourse the percentage of those who do get an orgasm during a session of sex is way, way, way higher than that because they get them through use of hands or tongue. In addition it is fairly common for many women to have several orgasms during a session of sex and the intensity of women’s orgasms is many, many times that of a male orgasm. The orgasms might be distributed unfairly in between women but not between women and men as a group. Furthermore, the normal ejaculatory orgasm is just a small blip compared to the earthquakes you can experience when you learn to have multiple whole body orgasms or use the aneros. In other words almost no men are anywhere near their orgasmic potential and what they are experiencing is meak compared to what most women experience.

Reagardless both women and men have a much higher orgasmic potential than they believe they haveI recommend women check out Saida Desilets if they want to learn how to become fully orgasmic. I am not quite sure who I would recommend for guys but Saida would be able to recommend someone for you so guys can email her and ask.

Or you can go to the aneros forum and learn there. Quite a lot of guys there know how.

But be VERY, VERY, VERY careful about a couple of things. There are different techniques for guys on how to do this and some of them rely on very forceful contractions of the PC muscles. DO NOT use those techniques. They have seriously messed up the pipes of a lot of people. They key to learning this is through RELAXATION and deep breathing. One can use moderate contractions of the PC muscles in combination with these but the key is relaxation.

Secondly, these are orgasms without ejaculation. If you have many of these but don`t come for a long time (many days, weeks) you will experience a huge build up of energy but this can become unbalanced and guys tend to get a bit manic from this. Something about excessive dopamine I suspect. So you need to ejaculate every few times you have sex. MANY guys have gotten quite messed up doing this. These are tantric techniques that are actually quite advanced and have some danger to them.

Xsplat knows these techniques very well so maybe he can point to some good sources:

THe books of Diana Richardson are also quite good with regards to this.

Aye.

True story: hands free, I can kegel my way to orgasm in the span of a long stop light. This means a few things. One, I probably shouldn’t be allowed to drive anywhere, ever. Two, I don’t need to lower my standards about who I sleep with (or the circumstances I am willing to accept) just to have an orgasm. Three, if I do have sex, as I do, with my bf, and I don’t get off, it is definitely my fault. It only happens in very rare cases of wine impairment, anyway, and has drastically reduced the quantity of wine I am interested in imbibing.

I advocate for a culture of (discreet, but unashamed) female masturbation. And male masturbation, too. Teenagers should absolutely figure themselves out, and flying solo is remarkably low risk, unless they are doing something REALLY weird.

If you want to cum, figure it out, and then cum. If you aren’t able to assume responsibility for your own body and the simplicity of its pleasure, don’t attempt to assume control over the lives of others.

Kegels are the best! I have kegeled myself to orgasm while asleep, which is a totally amazing experience.

Kegels are a woman’s secret weapon, and one we don’t take nearly seriously enough. I started deliberately strengthening mine after my third pregnancy, and I think my husband would agree that I have gotten very strong.

If you want to cum, figure it out, and then cum. If you aren’t able to assume responsibility for your own body and the simplicity of its pleasure, don’t attempt to assume control over the lives of others.

DING DING DING

Modern Drummer

Cool.
My GF and I will be fighting terrorism tonight.
God bless America

I seem to remember discovering the clitoris with my first GF, but that was back in the 70s. You could call her to confirm, but I think I lost the number. Perhaps I should have published back then and won a Nobel before I even entered college.

All I know is that I haven’t had any complaints since then.

Feminists are pretty stupid, aren’t they…?

Ric

Why does it feel like women need a parade every time they want to do something.

Ya know how men figure out how to find pleasure. When were young we see a hot woman, get hard, jerk off and realize when we’re done it leaves a mess. Is it that hard for women to come for be same conclusion…by the time guys are 15 we have 20 different styles and strategies.

feeriker

Ya know how men figure out how to find pleasure. When were young we see a hot woman, get hard, jerk off and realize when we’re done it leaves a mess. Is it that hard for women to come for be same conclusion…by the time guys are 15 we have 20 different styles and strategies.

I’m surprised that one of the many feminist cheerleading sites hasn’t included in one of its “# Reasons Why Women Are So Awesome” lists the “fact” that women don’t leave a mess after jilling off, as do men after the equivalent act (they’d be wrong in that making that statement, BTW, but that’s fodder for another rant elsewhere).

Then again, maybe one of them has made just such a claim and I’m just not aware of it. I don’t troll such sites, so I guess that makes me less than enlightened.

RedPillOverdose

I think someone needs to give this masturbatory impaired, clitocratic snowflake Wallace a Hitachi wand or a vibrating rabbit and a Larry Flynt publication to show her how to romance her own and tell her to STFU…. Any feminist that ever expects me to apologize for owning a cock can French kiss my ass crack, fuck that! That’s what the white knight manginas that buy into feminist horseshit like Wallace’s’ clitardation are for…

Any feminist that ever expects me to apologize for owning a cock can French kiss my ass crack

Can we make this into a t-shirt?

Tunga

Anyone else notice that the fourth poster (the orange one) seems to be an argument plagiarized directly from the anti-circumcision movement?

Perhaps if so many men weren’t trying to get some kind of physical sensation while boning with their mutilated half-desensitized dicks they would have more time and attention to pay to the “needs” of their ladies. Might be something for feminists to consider if they want anything to change in the next couple generations.

Ter

If we were to use Wallace-style reasoning of pushing responsibility for one’s own sexual function onto the partner – then would that make women responsible for erectile dysfunction? What about multiple orgasms – should men be demanding that their partners deliver these too?

feeriker

If we were to use Wallace-style reasoning of pushing responsibility for one’s own sexual function onto the partner – then would that make women responsible for erectile dysfunction?

In a word, yes. I’ve never hesitated to let it be known to certain overbearing, ball-busting bitches that they would induce E.D. in a granite statue of the naked male.

Ter

I must admit that when I spent a year in Eastern Europe (where there seem to be many more women who are feminine and happy to be so) I found myself feeling more masculine, more interested in sex, etc. If it wasn’t for all the corruption, I’d seriously consider moving there.

As a circumcised male I can only wonder how much I’m missing out on. If you don’t mind me saying, I really couldn’t give a fuck about the clitoris, and if our society wants men to care more I suggest people stop taking sharp knives to our most sensitive region. Thanks.

that’s funny, men have no problem at all experiencing joy. no man has ever been left feeling unsatisfied after sex.

Tunga

I’m afraid I must disagree.

I know quite a few guys who even in the midst of coitus have not enjoyed it, gotten tired, or turned off by something their partner did. It’s happened to me more than once. There is an expectation though for the man to push on regardless. I’ve personally even faked an orgasm just because I was done and wanted it to be over.

Personally with a condom on, I feel almost no sensation, I have to reach orgasm purely in my head and if my partner isn’t turning me on, or actively turning me off that becomes very difficult. If my partner is focused entirely on her own pleasure it’s that much more difficult to feel any myself.

So like women, there are men left feeling unsatisfied after sex

EllieBW

how about de-stigmatise female masturbation then maybe more women would actually feel comfortable to admitting to it or even doing it. dont act as though every woman is confident in talking about her sexuality or sexual habits. women are degraded daily for having a sex drive, not having a sex drive, masturbating, not masturbating. its ridiculous.

Where is the stigma? Show it to me. Explain the success of Girls, Sex and the City, Miley Cyrus rubbing her crotch on stage – behaviors you can see virtually anytime you flip on the TV

Passion parties have replaced Tupperware and Avon as ladies evening events. You can buy vibrators at WalMart!

But not porn.

Goodness no!

That might have something to do with icky male sexuality. But 50 Shades of Gray and a Hitachi Magic Wand?

Aisle three,ma’am.

There is no stigma surrounding women’s sexuality. It’s a made up argument to get baby feminists all riled up and completely comfortable with the idea that their own observations of reality are not required.

i think its definitely improving yes, but i remember being bullied about it when i tried to talk about it to my friends when i was younger. thats not fair. i was made to feel dirty and disgusting while all around me male peers openly talked about wanking over women. i also feel that the fact that women can now maybe more openly talk about their sexuality is because of feminist causes that brought it into mainstream media. ask lena dunham who wrote girls if shes a feminist, she will say yes.

Master Beta

“women are degraded daily for having a sex drive, not having a sex drive, masturbating, not masturbating”

Yes and so are men. There are people in the world that will try to put you down no matter what you do – we call them trolls or bullies.

When I was at school I was taunted for masturbating too much, not masturbating enough, not having enough sex, having too much sex, liking the wrong woman, liking the wrong bits on a woman etc…… Everyone was. That’s not unique to women!!! I’m not complaining, I gave as good as I got, it’s a called being a person. There will always be people who judge you for what you do and don’t do, and some of them can be cruel, but where on earth you get the idea that this is something that only happens to women I have no idea.

Oh, and I have a frickin’ foot fetish. You think there’s a stigma around female sexuality? You don’t realise how good you have it…….. But I don’t complain, people are entitled to their opinions and I’m entitled to not care about them.

EllieBW

yes there are stigmas around every fucking thing. but pleas give me a male version of the word ‘slut’ ‘whore’ ‘slag’ whatever. theres no such thing. you can add the prefix ‘man’ but thats not the same at all. also i know there are trolls and bullies but thats not what im talking about. whether this article was saying men should embrace masturbation or men it doesnt matter. theres a real stigma around sexuality, especially female sexuality, that needs to be tackled. im not saying men dont get shit from people about sex, etc, but ive seen a lot more negative comments towards women. thats that.

Because of course if a man has never been validated by women there must be something *fundamentally wrong* with him, and he fails at everything else in life.

But of course, you never notice this because your sexuality isn’t seen as toxic. Yours is a gift, a man’s is a curse. It’s either a curse to himself if he retains it, or a curse to the woman he inflicts it on.

Master Beta

Jax has it: Women are shamed for having too much sex, men are shamed for not having enough.

You insult someone by calling into question someone’s sense of self worth. If someone questions our value we see it as a threat. If you called me a shit singer, I wouldn’t be offended at all, but if you called Miley Cyrus a shit singer, she would probably be offended.
Another example: You can insult a man by calling him a weakling, this doesn’t insult women though, that’s because men derive value and purpose from being physically strong, women do not.

The reason slut, whore, slag are offensive words to women is because it devalues their sexuality. Men’s sexuality has much less value (none at all for most men) to begin with.

Hope that makes sense. Basically, you can’t offend someone if they have nothing to lose.
But you’re right that women having lots of sex is much more stigmatized than men having lots of sex. This does not mean that women’s sexuality in general is more stigmatized than men’s though – if that were the case, 50 shades of grey wouldn’t have been a best seller.

Hasn’t this sort of shot first world feminism in the foot? I mean, there ARE women throughout the third world who have no access to contraception, go through multiple pregnancies, and many of them may well have had Female Genital Mutilation inflicted upon them. All of that kind of makes the complaints voiced about the status of women in first world countries into perspective, doesn’t it?

If more feminists focussed more on these issues, instead of moaning about the lack of marriable men in our female dominated university campuses we might take them seriously…

Jax

the reason you see men openly joking about wanking is because MEN DONT GIVE A SHIT.

But you can’t sit there and tell me men’s sexuality isn’t stigmatized when calling someone a “minute man” is a fucking insult. Your orgasm is the goal, ours is just a shameful side effect.

feeriker

women are degraded daily for having a sex drive, not having a sex drive, masturbating, not masturbating. its ridiculous.

I think we need to cut Ellie some slack here. Judging from the sample of her post above, she was caught in a time warp back in 1910 and dumped 103 years in the future. I hope she finds her way back home.

Older feminists like to posit that women groom and/or remove their pubic hair in response to either the pornification of culture or men’s uninhibited pedophilic tendencies. The latter always makes me laugh, because I’m sure all those ladies only date men with beards, right? No preference for men who exhibit that pre-pubescent look of no facial hair?

Ha! No kidding! Case in point, I mentioned my love for hairy men to a “sex-positive” feminist, one who reposted that stupid shit you tear apart in your column and she shuddered visibly. Yet she also goes along with the “no female pubic hair=promotion of pedophilia” idiocy. UHMMMM……

RS

You know the world is upside down when people prefer hairy women and hairless men.

Also, could people PLEASE stop cutting baby boys at birth? I know a lot of people think that cutting girls and women is worse, but cutting anyone’s genitals is downright evil. I think I will blog about that and irritate people. *goes and does that right now*

“During circumcised sex, a woman is much less likely to achieve vaginal orgasm. How much less likely? Kristen O’Hara’s study found women were almost 5 times less likely to achieve vaginal orgasm when the man had a circumcised penis.”

I know American society doesn’t give one flying fuck about men. But maybe MALE GENITAL MUTILATION could be outlawed if women realized it was very bad for them. In other words use the selfish argument.