Doc Love: When Should You Call A Girl?

Think about this: If the babe has any real interest in you, that month-long waiting period will make her crazy. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “She’ll be wonderin’ what the heck you’re doin’ out in Dayton, Ohio, or Nashville, Tennessee.” The point is that even this early absence will drive up your Challenge quotient — and her Interest Level. And it will show her that you can function in the world like a self-confident, self-sufficient man without running to the phone and calling her at the first opportunity.

break the rules and leave a message

When you did call her before you left town, you should have left a message. I’m against leaving messages, but this was an extraordinary situation. You were acting as if you’re not allowed to call a girl because you were going to be away for a while. What in the world gave you that idea?

How can you say that you like Teena a lot, Bilbo? You know nothing about her. What you mean is that you’re infatuated with her because she could pass for Megan Fox’s twin sister. All you know is that she’s gorgeous. And by the way, what does “reasonably certain” she likes you mean? You don’t have a clue what she thinks or feels about you. You haven’t even been on one single date with her!

That said, even though all this time has passed, you have to call Teena. The fact is that you should have called after one week, but you already blew that.

ditch the double dates

Forget about trying to arrange “meets” with this girl. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “Leave other people out of your love life, my son. All they’re going to do is mess it up and make it worse than it already is.” You’re lucky your buddy’s set-up attempt isn’t working out.

It’s not too late to call Teena and ask for a date. Just ring her up and act like nothing happened and hope that she remembers you. And if she asks where you’ve been, tell her you had a business meeting and had to go out of town for several weeks. In other words, just tell her the truth.

learn your role bilbo

You shouldn’t have heard from Teena, Bilbo. The girl is not supposed to call the guy; the guy is supposed to call the girl. Your mistake was; A) That you thought you had to ask Teena out within 24 hours, which you didn’t and; B) You should have phoned her when you were out of town. The rule is to not leave messages, but like I said earlier, this was a unique situation. I don’t want you guys breaking rules, but when you’re going to be MIA for a month after you get a girl’s number, you can leave a message and tell her you’re going to be out of town and that you’ll give her a ring when you get back.

Remember, guys: You have to learn to think on your feet.

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