Man asks the internet for help because he can’t stop ‘ogling’ his wife

By Amy Lyall| 4 weeks ago

A man has asked the internet for relationship help, but it’s not for a problem you’d think.

No one has been cheating, there’s no trust issues or any tensions, instead the 31-year-old admitted he “cannot stop ogling” his wife.

The anonymous man took to Reddit to ask for advice about the situation and explained after eight years of marriage he just can’t keep his eyes – or hands – off his wife.

“I’m married to the girl of my dreams. She is smart, kind, creative, we have similar hobbies, great in social situations… and she is beautiful,” he started the thread.

“We have been married 8 years now. I know that as you get older, things like being naked around each other is not the same as it was when you were dating,” he explained.

The man asked for help because he can't stop 'ogling' his wife. (Getty)

That situation is true for his wife who can happily do her own thing while he gets changed or gets in the shower, but it’s the opposite for him.

“For me, I feel like I’m stuck being 16. Her taking off her clothes is still like the very first time it happened. Along with her other qualities, I think she is the most beautiful woman I know. I swear I can’t stop checking her out,” he admitted.

He explained he often stares at her if she bends over and finds it hard to look her in the eye if she starts talking to him after getting out of the shower but he knows that he shouldn’t be acting this way.

The man continued by adding that he doesn’t always try and turn these situations into having sex or to make her uncomfortable, but he’s noticed that her reaction to it has changed.

He explained he often stares at her. (Getty)

“She does make comments that the older I get the creepier it ends up coming off. She used to think it was sweet, but I’ve noticed her reactions to it have cooled a lot,” he explained.

He continued: “I have noticed myself though getting a bit hurt that she doesn’t respond in the same way, and that affects our relationship. If I’m totally naked she won’t notice for a couple days even or until the next sexy time.”

At the end of the post he asked for advice on how to ‘normalise’ his wife’s nudity and how he can get past the hurt that he’s feeling when his wife doesn’t look at him, like he looks at her.

Redditors were divided with their responses to the thread.

“Wow! Your wife is a lucky lady. I hope when I get married my husband always finds me as attractive as you find your wife,” wrote one Reddit user.

Another echoed that view and added: “Your wife doesn't know how lucky she is. I wish my husband did this. The grass is always greener somewhere else. I bet if you paid her no sexual attention for months, she'd be wondering where it went.”

The question divided opinions online. (Unsplash)

But others disagreed that it was a ‘positive’ thing for him to be objectifying his wife like this.

“It's great you still find her so lovely, but just tone it down a bit. It's not even about you, it's about her need to be able to occupy her own home space without feeling like she's your dinner. Being found attractive is wonderful. Being ogled can feel invasive and gets annoying after a while,” wrote one user.

A Redditor added: “A lot of people are saying they’d be flattered if their partners ogled them but THEY ARE NOT YOUR WIFE. If your wife is seriously expressing she feels creeped out or uncomfortable with you constantly eyeing her when she’s trying to relax at home and go about her everyday life, you need to respect this and STOP. This ‘I can’t control myself’ is bullshit. Ask her exactly what bothers her about your behaviour and modify it accordingly.”