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Role Models
are people we look up to in one way or the other and a lot of times
aspire to become because of the admiration we have for them. Here are some of our
key guidelines regarding Role Models a girl needs to know:

i) Choose The Right Role Model For You

A Lot of times we get deceived into thinking that the people we
look up to are ideal beings, while no perfect human beings exist, it is important
that when choosing who to look up to, we look for up
building, realistic qualities we can apply in our lives and imitate in the
journey towards reaching our goals. The 'right' role model does not necessarily have to be in the same career path as your career goals. Her/his values and qualities are what should make her your role model and not her/his level of fame.

ii) Ask Yourself
Why You Look Up To Them

This is very important in evaluating ourselves
because this guides us towards choosing the right role model for us and since
we tend to mimic the people we look up to; we need to remind ourselves why we
look up to them. If the reasons are based on extrinsic qualities e.g. beauty, fame e.t.c then you might be looking misunderstanding the concept of a role model. It is what is inside her i.e. her drive, passion, and kindness that should inspire you.

iii) Know
Your Role Model’s Story

Learn and find out more about your role model,
i.e. their journey to becoming who they are, how they got there and what they
have to say about that journey. Instead of just looking at where they are, we
need to try and get to know how they got there. the more we
learn about our role models, the realer they become and the more positively they
can have influence on us. For example, Anna Wintour is a role model to a lot of
fashion writers; one can say success was handed to her but that isn’t true; she
had to fight her way to the top and this can be encouraging to struggling writers.
The web is a good source to learn about our role models.

iv) Remember
Role Models are Human

It is important to keep in mind that in spite
of all their accomplishments, role models are imperfect humans like us and that
they have made mistakes in their journey to success so we should concentrate on
the good they have done and learn from other people’s mistakes so we avoid
making them because consequences might be worse.

v) Have More
Than One Role Model

The more the merrier this means you are
allowed to have more than one role model. That way, you pick a lot of helpful
and effective techniques towards reaching OUR OWN GOALS. Yes, we should not get
carried away by others’ dreams but instead focus on ours and having more than
one role model can help us with focusing on ourselves. Always being your own person.

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About Aunt Sadaka

Aunt Sadaka is a trained counselor with over 10 years experience in councelling
and coaching young girls in various issues. She is here to share with you her advice and experience. Ask her any question you may have, she will answer you and she assures you of confidentiality.