Ok so I know that to find out my element I have to meditate on it. But I have meditated many times with all five elements (Air, Fire, Water, Earth and Spirit) and still can't figure out which one is my element. Am I defective or something or am I just losing my mind? lol Any advice?

Don't worry about it hun. This is one of those things that'll come naturally, if and when it does come. You don't "need" an element; some people just have a natural affinity for one or two over the others. If you do, or you develop one later, you'll know. If not, no worries.

The zodiac merely compares your predicted personality, and categorizes them by similarity to an element, since we are elemental beings and stuff. My sign was air long before I knew anything detailed about astrology. I loved it as a kid and moreso today. Ive known my element before the zodiac told me.. but people are individuals, its silly to assume humanity can be predicted in so crude a manner..there is no way around it.

It is quite possible to feel a connection to all elements. Whomever told you otherwise is wrong, or basing their theory entirely on their own limited experience.

My point is that there is no "your element." All of the elements are part of most everything. You will almost never find one isolated in nature, or in magic. It is therefore rather counterproductive to attempt to isolate one in regard to yourself, creating a limitation that you will either be restricted by or have to later overcome.