real forever ? ! ?

Friendship with ones self is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.
— Of course, we need to be friendly to ourselves first.

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
— I especially like this one. What a great idea she brought up!

Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.
— Not many people understood this though. Happiness should fall on its own place once you naturally got your life together in focus.

It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself.
— There is a Chinese old saying spoke the same.

Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
— It’s important that both sides and the judge understand this.

Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.
— Yes.

One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes… and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.
— Again, action is better than thousand words, or just thoughts.

People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.
— Time to look back what kind of character I have?

People stuck at pop muisc, pop news, porn and games. Speeding internet is making these all easy to reach by figure tips (sorry newspaper, magazines and TV are losers to it). Besides, cell phone calls/text messages/emails popping up from time to time to spread these things repeatedly and even closer. A lot of people not only using these tools heavily to get life wasted but also got addicted and become vanity.

Then comes all kind of dramas that playing like the movies: puppy loves, quick night stands, cheating on work and the true love ones, and finally things turn ugly and happiness just pop and gone because it is not real and cannot last forever. Trying to say ‘love you and always keep you in my heart’, and next minute, pop the back door and fx*! the head off with someone off the internet. And hoping tomorrow’s bills and troubles never come and kids will grow on their own. It’s so called movies reflect lives and real life contains them all. These people cannot be waken up and they are on this “pop drug” to keep fool themselves around. They never understand the nature of the “pop” — emotionally unstable and couldn’t last for real long. The pop culture itself will stay and things and people within keep changing like the wind will keep blowing and the sand and dirt will be pushed everywhere and nowhere.

It’s interesting to see the truth — whoever make these pop medias are riches in life and not only they could control their lives but deeply impact the general public. And whoever deliver those, just make a living. Lastly, whoever suck on those, quickly (pop:) end with vanity.

Watched the show of “My Name Is Earl”, which was a comedy with good intention — we need to pay back the “bad seeds” we did in the past in order to gain the balance of life. If we did pay back, we would simply be happy & peace now and future. Easy to say, but really difficult to do so, even we could agree on the karma. The mindset to change to do the “good seeds” is not easy especially there is no influence of morphine as Earl had. Laughing with kids to watch together was quite feeling good though.

The second hard thing I also just learn was from Shakespeare “Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.” A lot of people with pure mind and good heart could love lots of others. We all know we trust only few. Even I believe “never say never” or “nothing is impossible” as universal truth, I have to say “do wrong to none” is not possible. We did wrongful stuff to hurt someone at sometime no matter how we try not to. I guess I need to read more and think deep with ~ A Calendar of Wisdom ~. Join me?

After studying the medical knowledge over Southbaylo university over a year now, I finally realized there was no such thing called health secrets that I thought before went to the school. The most basic real formula I discover is form by Sleep, Eat and Exercise. Simply put, “SEE”.

Yes, health=sleeping+eating+exercising=”S.E.E.”

You “see” it, you got it! If you had problem with any one of these, you are not healthy.

It’s real health formula would last forever for human beings.

In fact, a good doctor should always advise the patient that even doctors, medicines, modern or ancient medical treatments/technologies could save the patient from sickness, disease or even death (in the unknown future:) but if the patient’s life style doesn’t compose these three basic elements in the right format, there would be no final health solution for the patient. That is, he or she could easily become unhealthy again.

You may say you have been doing these three elements along but you are not healthy? Here is the keyword: moderation!

Do you sleep with proper hours? Including hours you sleep, the time to go to bed and get up.

Do you eat with real healthy food? And the right amount?

Do you exercise? And at what level?

It’s all about doing these three things at the right time with moderation. So after all, there is a secret of how to do it right with moderation, like the old Chinese secret Yin Yang seek into balance I believe that is down to the individual — everyone is different on the detail moderation level. In any case, please keep the formula of sleeping+eating+exercising in mind first. SEE

While all the media pointing the fingers on the Virginia tech killer and emphasis his identity as a Korean citizen/student, they just plain stupid that trying to cover the fact that the killer has been into the State for 15 years — he had been growing up since age 8 from here and totally adopted the American violence culture. Just go ahead to read the plays he wrote and you could easily figure out they must come out from a real violent American’s hand.

There are shocking moments people could remember forever. Such as the closer love ones sudden leave us behind. My father-in-law Ou Gui An pass away on 17th last month. I put up a website to memory his talent hand craft art work.

It’s shame on me that I promised to put up such website for him early last year while he was healthy and active. Then, after he got stroke later last year and I still hadn’t acted until he suddenly died of lung disease.

Why people just couldn’t take good care what they already have until lost become real? And really miss the past…

Yeah, I know. I don’t really remember when was the last posting. I got the left knee injury during a soccer game on September, which pretty much stopping me to have any good sporting fun. Life could changes that sudden… But being lazy is the bottom line. Who else don’t have a busy life? To make up a little bit, I paste a real story below for your refreshment —

Scout Bassett

Disability doesn’t hold back Palm Desert golfer Scout Bassett

*Player profile*

*Scout Bassett*

*School:* Palm Desert

*Year:* Senior

*Age:* 18

*Experience:* Two years golf at Petoskey HS in Michigan

PALM DESERT – The new girl sits comfortably in the driver’s seat. She operates the golf cart with her left foot, and on her right is one fine piece of carbon graphite and titanium that is unlike any club in her bag.

Palm Desert High golfer Scout Bassett’s right leg is a prosthesis, an object of derision, the source of strength for a senior who stands only 4-foot-8 and is blessed with a selectively short memory.

“I love that you can finish one really bad hole, and on the next hole, you get a clean slate,” said Bassett, a transfer from Michigan. “I love to start all over.”

But how could she possibly forget her humble beginning, back when she was known as Zhu Fuzhi at an orphanage in Nanjing, China? She was abandoned there as a 1-year-old, presumably because burns that had caused her leg to be amputated made her undesirable under the government’s one-child policy.

The disability didn’t save her from being limited to only two small bowls of rice a day or being subjected to child labor that required her to scrub dishes and floors. The punishment for bad behavior was a bathtub near-drowning, which made the beatings seem almost tame in comparison. Greg Vojtko / The Press-Enterprise Scout Bassett, who lost her right leg and a toe on her left foot due to burns, was adopted from an orphanage in China.

“You ask yourself if there is even a chance you’re going to survive, knowing you have no home, and you’re not loved,” Bassett said. “That was the only thing that got me through those years.”

Only when a blond-haired woman and a balding man appeared at the orphanage with a video camera was there a glimmer of hope. Susi Bassett looked down and fell in love with the 7-year-old, whom she would name after the tomboy in the novel “To Kill a Mockingbird.” Susi and her husband, Joe, had already adopted a girl, Palmer, now 13, on the trip. They went back 10 months later in 1995 for a boy, Carter, now 16, and Scout. “There was nothing there but complete sadness,” said Susi, who learned upon returning home with Palmer that Scout was missing a leg. “I said, ‘Well, that’s all the more she needs us.’ ”

More fearful than thankful for her ticket out of the orphanage, Scout screamed in Mandarin and spit at her new parents, who brought her back to Harbor Springs, Mich., a town of about 1,500 people not accustomed to the sight of a diminutive Chinese adoptee with a disability.

So they stared.

“I didn’t fit the ideal of a lot of things,” Scout said. “It came to a point where I heard so much that it wasn’t unexpected anymore.” But a clue as to what Scout was really made of emerged when she began communicating in English after only six weeks as a Bassett. She immersed herself in the language to the extent that as an eighth-grader, she placed second in a regional spelling bee that sent the winner to Washington, D. C.

“She had to be the best,” said Susi, a retired teacher. “She thinks, ‘I’m so different than everybody around me that I want to be perfect in some way.’ Scout began walking properly only after she had her big left toe amputated, as it was growing out the side of a foot that was missing half a heel. It was on a golf course that she learned how to run.

During a 2002 trip to Orlando, Fla., to see her prosthetist, Stan Patterson, she wanted to participate in a half-mile run at Disney World. So he crafted a special leg and had her practice on it at a nearby course, where she could fall on a softer surface.

“She’s the Michael Jordan type that whatever they decide to do, they just do it,” Patterson said. “It’s almost spiritual being around her.”

Scout had always participated in sports but had no control over basketball teammates who purposely didn’t feed her the ball, or a softball coach who refused to play her. Once Scout began running, she realized she could shine brightest in individual sports. She played golf and tennis at Petoskey High, while the Challenged Athletes Foundation provided her with grants to travel the country participating in running events and triathlons in which she competed in the cycling portions on a tandem bike.

She also found time to become a motivational speaker for the Challenged Athletes Foundation and came up with this line: “My leg is a large part of what I am, but it does not define who I am.”

Scout’s story was brought to the attention of Marvin Bush, the younger brother of President Bush and a man who has two adopted children. In 2004, he flew her to Washington, where she was given a tour of the White House.But with hopes of attending Stanford and possibly pursuing a career in politics, Scout was uprooted once again. Her father, Joe, a realtor, got a job in Palm Desert, where no one knew her story.

When Scout called Palm Desert golf coach Jack Stewart and told him about her disability, he wasn’t sure he heard her correctly at first and was skeptical of her ability. “You step back a little bit, and then you start really giving the negative pitch that we’re a really good team,” Stewart said. Scout came out for the team in August but was so stressed with homework, her Stanford application and adjusting to new teammates that she struggled with her game and considered quitting.

Stewart stepped in, having her fitted for a new driver with a shorter shaft and a larger head that gave confidence to an above-knee amputee who was having trouble generating power off the tee. Scout now fires nine-hole rounds in the mid-40s and alternates as Palm Desert’s No. 6 golfer despite still losing about 50 to 100 yards off her driving distance because of her height and apparent disability.

“She makes up for it with heart,” said Stewart, whose Aztecs team capped an undefeated regular season Tuesday. “She’s not our go-to person, she’s not the one we depend on, but she’s always there with that little smile.”

Because professional golfer Casey Martin successfully sued for the right to use a golf cart under the Americans with Disabilities Act in 2001, Scout can ride one in competition. Her only concern now is securing a spot on the postseason roster. The pressure that comes with it likely wouldn’t register much.

“Because you’ve had to endure so much, you know how to be able to look at a challenge in your life, face it, and tackle it with all the strength you have inside,” Scout said.

Having an iron will at her disposal sure can’t hurt.

Source from: PE.com
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When will be my next post? After the knee surgery next month I hope I need be stronger will to continue this blog journal.