We hear “girls just wanna have fun” here and there, or “what a girl wants”, but who ever stops to check what women want. We are not girls anymore, we don’t only want to have fun; we have responsibilities now. We should start with “women just want to get some sleep once in a while” I’m not going all crazy and ask for the 8 hours required by the human body, just the minimum 4-6. Or how about a spa day, and I’m not even talking about the real ones with mud baths and drinks with tiny umbrellas, I just want a minute to paint my nails and try out that new facial scrub.

Social media never ceases to tell us how we have to act, dress, what size we need to be, even the kind of party our kids have to get, all in order to be that “perfect” woman. We tell ourselves “once I reach that standard, I’ll be good enough”, and we let blogs, magazines, and other people set the standard for us. We even measure ourselves by our Pinterest-worthiness, yes that’s a thing now, and we forget that perfectly constructed, magazine-worthy lives don’t equal happiness.

And we’re stubborn; we want to do it all. We answer e-mails while pushing baby swings, we text and drive, we overload because we think we have superpowers, and we overcommit because we don’t want to let anyone down, and all of this leads to overwork that gets us overwhelmed. So let me stop you right here. STOP. You don’t have to have everything under control, not everything is going to pan out perfect, and that’s ok. So, give yourself a break and remember you’re doing great.

You are strong, but it doesn’t mean you don’t need help, and getting help, doesn’t make you weak. You are beautiful, even when you are 2 sizes bigger than when you were in your twenties. You are young, a number doesn’t define youth and a wrinkle here and there is only a reminder of the good times you’ve had. Last but not least, you are powerful because what you do is important and no one can do it like you can; this is your superpower.

In conclusion, what do we want? We want to be appreciated, to be paid what legally belongs to us, support from those around us, that between us women we stop judging each other and start empowering one another. We want to be able to have a little “me” time without feeling guilty, not because we want it but because we need it for the sake of our sanity, both mental and physical. But overall, we want to keep doing the best we can, the best way we can do it, ours.