She said that if my twin sister could get an A in every subject, then so shoud I. And she's blaming me because I'm "Shy" as the teachers call it and she's telling me to get over my shyness or I'll end up failing at life in general. Do you guys have any idea what I should do, cause all she wants me to do is have straight As for the rest of my school life.

Just explain to your mom that getting a 4.0 GPA isn't your first priority, or that you don't feel the need to get one. Or if you do want a 4.0, explain that getting mad at you isn't going to boost your grades, and may in fact make them worse.

OMG sounds like my mom. I got a B+ and she said it wasn't good enough, even though it wasn't my fault someone stole my shop project.... All I know is I put it in our class's locker and the next day it was gone. The result: I threw something together last minute. UGH

The advice I'd have is to make sure to seek out your teachers if you want more help or didn't feel comfortable asking a question in class. As a shy person myself it really helps and none of my teachers have ever been annoyed by it. But like other people said, a B isn't bad and you aren't your sister.

While I understand the thing about comparing you to your sister and "shyness", at least trying to get a grade up can't hurt. I have three "B"s because the freshman teachers don't teach any of the content they put on tests. My parents get mad at me constantly for it, even though the scores are about 1% away from being AN "A"...

If I were you I'd remind them that "C" is average, and a "B" is even pretty good. Even "D"s are passing in most places. Ask your parents if they had perfect grades in school. At my school only teacher's kids and some rich kids get all "A"s. Remind you're mom that school isn't the same as when she was a kid. We learn more. We read more. We most definitely type essays more. Fun fact: Most of our parents wouldn't have even heard of the quadratic formula (which somebody mentions earlier in the Boyinaband song) until college precalc or algebra. We learn how to use it in the eighth grade. We are held to a different standard than your parents.

Also, grades don't always reflect intelligence. My quiz bowl team has few members with straight "A"s.

Geez need I say this again? NOBODY should ever be compared to a sibling, family member, or anyone else, really.

School is way harder than it was. Parents will refuse to believe it, but It's true. I have many teacher friends that will tell you flat out "The way the curriculum is teaching doesn't make sense. It'd just be easier to-" and these are actual teachers.

And about your shyness, Nightshade.. You can't just get over that. My parents always told me to just get over my anxiety and asked what did I do wrong? What made you depressed? when I was depressed. The fact is, I can't and they did nothing. I have no reason to be, but I just am, randomly. It's still like this, but I'm getting better.

My advice for shyness/ anxiety would be to FAKE confidence. If you do it long enough, you'll start to actually believe that you are confident. At least that worked for me.

Thanks for the advice. I've honestly tried some of those. But no matter what I say, my mom always believes that those are excuses, or that I'm gonna try to talk back to her. It's really very annoying when she actually checked my grades and saw that I had a B in math because now, a part of the grade is participation, which for them means to constantly raise my hand and answer any and every questions. Just yesterday I wasn't even able to sleep because of all the pressure she's been putting on me. But at least she isn't as bad as my dad who wants everything I do with a perfect score. I actually once came home with a small quiz from math with a 99.5% and he said, and I am directly quoting this, "Where's the other 5%? you should get better, make it even a 110%! You should be the best student in the entire school! Or maybe even the entire networ! But really? He could you miss half a point? This stuff is easy!" Which made me kind of angry. Wow. I was ranting. Sorry about that, but actually, thank you all for giving me some advice.

Soooooo......... I took my psychology final yesterday. It went really well, considering the file on my laptop with my notes corrupted and I barely had half of them printed..... I got a B. My parents are not happy about it. I AM A JUNIOR IN HIGHSCHOOL DOING COLLEGE WORK!!!!!! I THINK A B IS REALLY GOOD!!! Naturally, my mom.......................................XP

I am trying. But it's hard because apparently, I also have to talk. And the teacher's mean. I came back from the dentist last friday with the entire lower half of my face numb. And sleepy cause they used laughing gas. The teacher knew that, and still kept calling on me to answer while I was still trying to regain feeling into mah face.

No, I wanted to but there was absolutely no way I could phisically do that. My dad took me straight to school and I don't know how to drive. It was also snowing that day and my dad had to go back to his job. So There was no possible way I could have gotten home.

@Fanir it's not her fault - lack of mental stability and stress makes your ability to learn drastically decrease. it's her mother, it's her envirnment. but it is not her. good mental health is essential for doing well.

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Also, Fafnir, you need to chill out a bit. I understand your mindset and where you're coming from, but maybe be a little less blunt about it? No offense, but the way you're saying this stuff makes you come off as somewhat insensitive.