The Difference Between Sexy and Skanky

Updated on August 15, 2012

Many women dress up believing they are appearing sexy, gorgeous, desirable, etc. Instead they seem to have thrown on what was on the floor without realizing the piece of clothing was clean or dirty. The goal of dressing up is to be wanted by the opposite sex. This is how we help our self-esteem and enjoy a night out on the town. By dressing up, looking our best, and enjoying ourselves with a few drinks or dancing our lives away. But how can women have a good time when they look skanky instead of sexy?

What kind of males to catch?

Each style of fashion appeals to a different type of male just like each style describes the woman wearing the clothes. There is the classy apperance, the money spender appearance, etc. Both styles are very different and describe the woman in different shades of light.Sexy is always desirable and appealing while skank normally seems easy to get and just someone to have sex with. The main question is how do you want to appeal to men?

Sexy - There are many versions of the sexy style. For example, a woman can be sexy and classy. To successfully pull this off, she needs to study what is classy in style at that time. Is it pearls or diamonds or another gemstone? What shoes would perfectly combine the necklace from your mother, a modern dress, and the ring from your new fiancé? Another example would be sexy and creative. This would express a woman who is fun and playful yet is knowledgeable and attentive to the world around her. There will be color, fashion, and appeal.

Skanky - Just like with sexy, there are versions of skanky. There is the professional skank, the organized skank, etc. A professional skank doesn't care what she really puts on. For an example, think of Kesha. She wears a cute halter top with plenty of sparkle and shine combined with cowboy boots, long earrings, and almost trash-worthy shorts. Each piece of clothing would look cute if paired with other pieces of clothing. However, with the set they have, it is a muddled mess that says she doesn't care how she looks or who she is with.

What screams skank?

The actual definition of skank is someone believed to be sleasy, trashy, or unpleasant. No one wants to appear unpleasant or sleasy. This is the definition of a person you do not want to be around or thought of. So how can you not become one? Stay away of the signs of a skank.

Short shorts - Showing off too much leg is a sign that you will give up anything easily.

Wearing a shirt that shows some midriff or skin on the side - This shows that you do not protect or care about your body enough to hide your valuable body. This is a sign to men that you are easy to get into bed with almost anyone.

Protruding breasts - Make sure most of your breasts are inside of your shirt. A woman does not have to show much cleavage to be thought of as sexy.

What radiates sexy?

Rich glossy hair with a modern cut - Keep your hair healthy and clean. Finding the right combination of shampoo and conditioner is time consuming, yet entirely worth it. Try to find products that match your type of hair; wavy, straight, curly, long, short, etc. Attempt to change your hair as the years go along. Sticking to one hair style is tricky, especially through the different ups and downs of style. Sexy females also have gorgeous appealing hair that is in style.

Make up - Again, mix and match as best you can. Every desirable female goes through trial and error in make up because they need to know what looks best on them. They will wear clean, bright, and professional looks that show off their favorite features. Sometimes they even have a signature look. For example, this could be the same lip color that seems trendy yet classic.

Style - Jeans, t-shirts, and shorts are plain and completely normal. They show someone relaxed. But sometimes we want to step our appearance up a notch. Try professional jeans without tears, rips, or heavy wear. Sometimes wearing heels with jeans really makes a difference.

Cleavage - Not showing too much cleavage is a major factor. A woman that can find a shirt that hugs her breasts perfectly yet doesn't show them to the world is a master of sexy.

Examples

A woman who is bold and knows how to have fun can walk into a restaurant, sit at the bar, and walk out with any man. This dress is a sign of a woman who knows what she is doing. Because of the dresses color, accessories might be tricky to find. However, if done smoothly, she will look entirely in control.

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Comments 10 comments

I agree that probably sometimes "The goal of dressing up is to be wanted by the opposite sex." That is true because there may be that goal for some women, and on some occasions. To me the goal of dressing up is to be who yu really are, and if that ends up "skanky" that's who you are, but at least it's not phoney.

lburmaster 4 years ago from Houston, TX Author

Skanks usually end up with horrible men who don't care about relationships. If someone appears skanky, then they will be treated poorly. That should matter more than being yourself.

jpcmc 4 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

Sometimes less is better. I'm easily distracted and annoyed at women with too much make up or dressing inappropriately.

lburmaster 4 years ago from Houston, TX Author

I entirely agree. A women shouldn't be distracting because she has too much make up or is not appearing appropriate. She should be distracting because she is beautifully interesting.

Anjili 4 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

I totally agree with you. Women are btter off just being themselves in a modest way. They are well endowed with attractive bodies. Posing like a lady might just attract that elusive hank. A very good share. Keep up

jemmamcg 4 years ago from Scotland

I agree with you completely - it seems though that new music videos of singers such as Rihanna and Kesha influence young people of today's society to wear provocative clothing that not only look tarty but attract the wrong kind of men. I've voted this article up as it is not only a useful article but it is very relevant just now. :)

zulumuscle 4 years ago

I often see girls wearing very revealing clothing, and the most ridiculously dressed girls I see are the ones who wear leggings by themselves, they appear like tights but almost like a panty hose worn by itself on some of these girls(almost see through). And they get offended if guys tell them they are dressed inappropriately, or if they get too many douchy sexual comments and attention (but what did they expect dressed like that).

lburmaster 4 years ago from Houston, TX Author

They are dressing skanky, but believe they are appearing sexy. It's part of their mentality based off of those they idolize and admire. Women want the perfect balance. They want to be loved, desired, told they are sexual and pretty. And douchy sexual comments are extremely cheap, making them feel cheap. It is all about how women want to be treated and viewed.

RealityTalk 3 years ago from Planet Earth

I had to read this article as soon as I saw the title. I have a 14 and 10 year old daughter. My 14 year old has blossomed recently and she knows it. She dresses okay I think for the most part, but she does wear short shorts which I am uncomfortable with. How does a dad tell his daughter how to dress? So far the answer is he does not; he leaves that up to mom.

Although I am not totally comfortable with how my daughter dresses, she is not unique for many girls her age and in her school. But fortunately what may be unique about my daughter is she has morals and respect for herself. She behaves appropriately. I only hope that doesn't change and her sister follows suit.

lburmaster 3 years ago from Houston, TX Author

You need to show her the difference, otherwise she might learn to late. Also recognize who her idols are. Does she like Lady Gaga or Anne Hathaway? Lindsey Lohan or Scarlett Johansson? If she likes the first two of each example, you have some work to do. The second of each example have great personalities and hold themselves in high esteem, and everyone knows it. Since you said she has morals, she can appreciate more educated role models and understand the decisions they make. Good luck with you're daughter, while I work with my sister who is 13. :)