Should You Move On?

This week’s letter is from a guy who wonders if there’s still a chance that he will reunite with his long-distance girlfriend after she dumped him over the phone.

reader’s question

Hey Doc,

Let me be one of the thousands to commend you on your articles. I have yet to purchase “

The System” but intend to do so in the near future. I hope you can give me your expert opinion on my situation.

I met Mora during college and we went out for three years. I am an Australian citizen, while she’s from Malaysia. Last year, we both finished our degrees in Australia. I stayed in Australia and Mora headed back to Malaysia because she told me her father needed help in the family business. We agreed to make our relationship work because we were so in love. We

faithfully called each other and exchanged romantic e-mail and handwritten letters. But some weeks ago, she unexpectedly told me over the phone that, while on vacation, she had time to herself away from the bustle of work and concluded that our relationship wasn’t going to work out because she may never come back to Australia.

I didn’t agree to this and spent the next two weeks calling Mora and trying to change her mind. I even asked her to marry me, but she declined.

she said it was forever

Before we broke up, she said the following: “We are made for each other,” “I can’t live without you,” and “I want to be with you forever.” When I recounted this to her, she said she only meant it “at the time.” How can a person mean those things one day and not the next?

I know you’re asking why I don’t go and work in Malaysia. If I did, I’d have to take an 80% pay cut, and unlike Mora, my dad doesn’t own a business there. I have a better chance of becoming successful in Australia.

Mora assured me that she’s not breaking up with me because she has another guy, and I have no choice but to believe her. What’s frustrating is that our relationship died not because of incompatibility or infidelity but because of circumstance.

Mora will be visiting soon because she has to collect some things that I kept for her. Should I hope that we will be reunited or just move on? I feel a lack of closure because it’s the first time I’ve been dumped over the phone and we never shared our last moments together.

Geordie - who’s about to go insane

doc love’s answer

Hi Geordie,

I appreciate that you’re thinking of investing in yourself. But I look at the clock and I think about the party you’re going to tonight and how you’re not going to be as smooth as you could be without “

The System,” and how, next week, you’ll be at a singles club and there’s going to be a girl you like and you’re not going to get her home phone number. And I hear the tick-tick-tick of time and I think… “When?”