Downsize your doubts – deep breaths and realize them for what they are

Stop trying to make everyone else happy.

Kill your inner Critic – reflect but don’t criticize. Make lists of Times you showed compassion for someone, your positive attributes and skills, and times you coped with difficult situations. Think about things from lists when you begin to criticize yourself.

Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Business, Family & Life and Successful Living Writer

Eric Berne, founder of Transactional Analysis, explained that we have 3 ego states that categorise how we behave both at home and in the workplace. We can either be a parent, an adult or a child. These ego states are often metaphorically used to describe the varying styles of leadership that we lead or communicate with in the workplace.

So it’s been a while. I haven’t really had the chance to sit down and write everything that was coming into my mind. But I realized that there’s this one topic that is kind of taking over the internet. It recently became a topic of discussion on one of my Whatsapp groups and I thought to myself that so many problems could’ve been solved a long time ago if we simply just talked about them. I was asked for my input by an Illustrator and Visual Artist who was writing about body shaming. I gave her my input and I also got a chance to read what other people had sent to her and that’s when I realized that most of us have faced this in life but we probably never talked about it. So many of us have constantly been told that we need to get on a diet, or maybe take some growth medication to grow taller. What got to me the most was when someone wrote how much she loved wearing heels but she had to stop wearing them because whenever she did, she was told that she’s as tall as a street light and she shouldn’t wear heels. I have seen in front of me, a girl labelled according to her size at her University’s Graduation Party and because it was in front of a huge crowd, it really put her down and she stopped eating. So if you’re reading this you’ve ever pointed someone’s weakness whether intentionally or unintentionally, please realize that anything can happen to anyone at any time and you never know, you might have to go through something similar some day. That’s why look beyond the standards of beauty set by the social media and embrace different kinds of beauty.

If you’ve ever been let down for your weakness, let me tell you that God made you and God doesn’t make mistakes. You’re a masterpiece and you deserve love, care and respect. You have a beautiful heart and that’s something that nothing can beat. Never let anyone bring you down. Once you’re confident with your own structure anything that anyone says can never hurt you because you love yourself.

We don’t realize that we consciously or unconsciously point out another person’s weakness in our effort to help the other person. The only way to help another person is to make them feel comfortable in their own skin and their own body frame because beauty comes in all colors, sizes and shapes. It’s never too late. Let’s join hands to put an end to body shaming. Start from your own home, stop nagging your own siblings, stop making fun of that one friend who’s overweight, stop taunting someone at the gym who’s thin and is working to build muscle and just simply stop criticizing someone for something they can’t control. Lets make this world a better place to live in!

We’ve heard it so many times that life isn’t a bed of roses. There are ups and downs and the successful ones are those who are strong enough to deal with the challenges and smile through the pain. Do you often find yourself looking at someone’s Instagram post thinking, oh my God, look at her, what a life man! She’s got everything and look at me and everything I have to deal with. It’s pretty normal to feel that way especially when you’re going through a phase of depression, anxiety or both. But stop yourself right there. Don’t compare lives because that girl who’s smiling in her Instagram posts is probably fighting a silent battle that no body knows about. The only thing you need to learn from the social media whilst you’re fighting a battle is to try and gather all the positivity and try to fill all those cracks in your life with it. I mean, instead of thinking how much better someone else’s life is from yours, maybe you could think, wow, look at her, she’s dealing with life’s challenges with so much positivity that you wouldn’t even know if there’s something wrong with her. Be that girl. Wake up with a smile on your face, with a positive mind and a clean heart, with the motivation to fight. Forget about how you cried yourself to sleep last night. It’s a new day and a new beginning, seize it!

We often make this mistake and it’s completely normal to be that way but we often don’t realize that when were so involved in someone’s Instagram or Facebook posts, we are comparing our lives to theirs. We’re unintentionally feeding our minds with the thought that someone has a better life than our own. This usually happens when you yourself are going through a hard time, you log in to probably distract yourself but then all of a sudden this post comes up and hey, your friend is on holiday and she or he is having a great time and you’re just sat there like, oh great. Why me? The thing is, this could probably make your hard time worse because the last thing you want is to start feeling like you haven’t been blessed at all. This is where you have to stop your thoughts, fight for your mind to think positively and let it change your situation. Make yourself strong enough to realize that it’s okay for someone else to enjoy their life when you’re going through a hard time because that hard time will end soon, and you’ve also had your good days! If it doesn’t help, log out! Logging out doesn’t mean you’ve fallen weak, it just means you need time by yourself, to fix yourself, to deal with issues and you don’t need to see what other people are doing in their life right now!

Here are some simple steps to take when you feel that you’re comparing your life to your Instagram or Facebook friends:

Gather all the good memories in your mind. Think about all those times in your life when you were blessed. (and trust me, you still are)

Look at the bright side! You might not believe it when it’s happening but every hardship has a blessing that isn’t quite evident till the hardship is over.

Log out. It’s not a bad thing. I think it’s the best way to get away from an anxious feeling.

Find something else to do, like walking outside, reading a book or just simply watching a movie

Come on, you can do it! You have it in you and you can control your mind. Turn everything into positivity, every approach into a positive approach and watch your situation change, watch the world become beautiful around you. The moment every negative thought is fought and defeated, every hardship starts to feel like a blessing.