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There are many movies that men love, and there are many reasons why. I’ve talked about them before, as in why men love Gladiator, James Bond, and Braveheart. In the movie, The Natural, there is a short scene that has brought countless men to tears, and ladies this is an important one for you to realize. The hero of the movie, Roy, has been struggling. He has a yearning deep in his soul, but it has not been working out the way he wanted. He is up to bat and the world seems to be against him. The crowd is jeering, the announcers are...

Nearly 60% of marriages end in divorce each year. Men commit 80% of all suicides each year. Most men have lost their faith. Most men have given up on their dreams. Something is so clearly wrong, and you know it. Don’t you think it is time to reconsider how we live? Don’t you think it is time to find another way? Focus on just one specific person, the “successful” Male Entrepreneur. He makes plenty of money (well over six figures a year). He is married, but in a marriage without joy (and his wife agrees). He has...

When I am working with people, one question I often hear is this, “What if I fail?” I understand this question, I really do. But, it is the wrong question. That question comes from a place of fear, a place of uncertainty, and a place of doubt. For people who have yet to step into their own greatness, who have yet to step into doing what they have been called to do, that question makes sense. The unknown is a scary place, and even if the current place is painful – the current place is familiar. So, what if you fail? Wrong...

This is the most personal message I have ever shared… and every word is 100% true. I have lost my house, that my wife and I built with our own bare hands. I have lost a business I spent over ten years building. I have lost every penny of the family savings. I have been to the point of not having any food in the pantry. I have spent nights crying over how to take care of my family the next day. I have not yet reached my own financial goals. I have not yet reached my own fitness goals. I have not yet reached my own relationship goals. I have...

OK, yes the list could be much bigger, no doubt. We’ll call this Part One of the ongoing 87 Part series. I’ve asked the men I work with about their top questions (some fun, some silly, and some serious), and here are 19 that men do not understand. These are questions that have confused men for years, despite our best efforts some of these are simply beyond the realm of human male comprehension. Men just pretty much end up going silent if any of these issues come up – we would rather deal with the consequences of being quiet...

Ladies, this is important. Almost all the men you meet, know, and love have something deep and serious that they are struggling with, all the time. They won’t tell you though, it is that deep. This isn’t some secret they are trying to keep from you, as many men wouldn’t be able to articulate this issue for you anyway, so don’t worry about it like that. This isn’t a secret he is hiding from you – however, he may actually be hiding from it himself. The problem is that men are wearing masks (and yes all people wear...

I see this all the time online, about how chivalry is not only already dead, but that the death of chivalry is a good thing. Well, I’m here to say that it is not! Life without chivalry is not better. Life without chivalry is not happier. There is the prevailing thought that chivalry is bad because it places women beneath men. That is not the case, that is not what chivalry is all about. I don’t hold the door open for you because I think you cannot. I don’t help you with your chair because I think you cannot. I don’t...

OK so this is a question that gets asked lots, and the answer to it can draw out some serious opinions, so I’ll go ahead and jump in with mine! When first dating, and just starting the relationship, the man should pay. As the relationship moves along, and the couple have been dating for a while, it would be wonderful for the woman to pay for the weekend away, or whatever other fun activity she has in mind. If the relationship moves to marriage, then this is less of an issue. The reason it is less of an issue is that the husband and wife...

Yes, real men read poetry. Just not the same poems you might be thinking of… Rudyard Kipling wrote this famous poem, called ‘If’, appearing in his collection ‘Rewards and Fairies’ in 1909. This poem creates some rules for living, and although it is addressed to his son, these rules can apply to all people. In this poem you have one single piece of work that contains life philosophy, talks about integrity, outstanding behavior while it inspires and motivates. It is not the best poem of all time, and many will have...

You know it, you’ve heard it your whole life. Real men suck it up. Real men just walk it off. Real men rub some dirt on it. Real men don’t know they are bleeding. Real men are stone statues that are moved by no one, by no event, and by no person. And, without question, real men don’t get depressed. Right? If that is what we’ve heard our whole lives, it must be true. Well no, it isn’t true. And, it is time to get rid of this lie. Real men certainly can, and do, get depressed. Depression is serious, and it is...