I tried with my very best friend once. We were at the hospice practically watching my mom die.We decided to go and walk around outside, and I asked if I could hold her hand.She said no.I admit, it hurt.I never let her know, but it did.and I never asked again.

Sometimes I wonder if it really was just my fault, and that I was being childish.She tells me all the time that I'm nothing but just a big kid.That I should grow up and she the world the way she does.But other times I wonder if it's not just me, and that maybe I put up with a lot more than what I realize I do.

anywho, sorry to be a downer, I don't know why, but it kind of felt good to say this.thanks Nox.

I'm sorry for that. I don't think it was childish or selfish or anything like that. You were seeking out a simple comfort that your friend failed to provide. And don't grow up. Never grow up. That's like giving up. Don't give up. And I'll totally hold your hand.

This would be a hilarious thing to do! As long as you're okay with being written off as a creeper ...I'm also not sure if my boyfriend would appreciate me holding hands with random strangers. He'd be like, "WHY YOU NO LIKE ME ANYMORE?!"

If anyone tried that on me I would probably say something along the lines of "what the hell are you doing, get away from me you freak!" and if they continued I would probably try to hurt them. So maybe it wouldn't be a healthy level of insanity. I am very protective of my personal space.

So you have to know someone to be walking with them? My response would be the same to most people I knew (especially if I had just met them), people I knew well though it would be more like "er, no, you crazy person I am not holding your hand, don't be silly". The only people who can hold my hand are kids and that's only so they don't go off and hurt themselves, oh and maybe if I had a partner and they wanted too. Yeah I'm not a particularly outwardly affectionate person.

Since I go to very few places alone, this would be difficult in some situations...A) I walk with my Husband = OK!B) I walk with my Mom = Am I a child again? C) I walk with my in-laws = ummmm. NOD) I walk into WORK with co-workers = NOT OK, it's even against store policy!

Not saying I wouldn't TRY, just some of it would be weird...

Glad to see HLOI back, it's been a while, and bring on MORE INSANITY!!