Sleep is something we all take for granted. We do it every night (more or less) and it seems to be as effortless as breathing. No one thinks about falling asleep, we just do it when our heads hit the pillows. Formed in a duvet burrito we can forget about everything and just dream and rest for a reasonable amount of time. Unfortunately, that’s not the case for everyone. Sleep anxiety is a problem that’s not spoken about very often, at least not to my knowledge. I didn’t even know it was a thing until it happened to me. And it appeared in my life in the sneakiest way and stole my sleep without me even realising it. Out of nowhere going to bed started to be the reason of my anxiety attacks and instead of dreaming in my sleep I was dreaming about falling asleep.

Sounds like a nightmare, right?

It all started after I struggled to fall asleep one night. Normally, I just wouldn’t care about it, I’d go about the next day as usual with occasional moaning how tired I was. Then at night, I’d make up for the lost sleep. But it didn’t happen again. And it worked like a domino effect. Because of not sleeping for two nights in a row, I began worrying that my body forgot how to sleep in general. I couldn’t sleep anymore because I thought too much about it.

The problem with sleep is that, well, you can’t think about it for it to happen. What should come effortless, created the biggest amount of stress and I literally became the biggest ball of exhaustion ever. It’s been about 4 months now and even though I still struggle with sleep, I’ve developed new habits and I can trick myself into falling asleep (at least most of the time).

Create a peaceful routine

I can be perfectly fine during the day, but as soon as the evening hits my anxiety kicks in. I start contemplating whether I’ll fall asleep, get enough sleep to not act like a zombie out of The Walking Dead the next day and just worry about everything in general. Creating a good routine in the evening makes me feel that little bit more peaceful and relaxed which in turn gives me hope that I’ll actually sleep. Not gonna lie, I’ve had to change it a couple of times as for whatever reason once I think it’s working, I stop sleeping so well, but the good news is there is more than one routine that works. It can be a relaxing bath, hot shower, face masks, reading a book, watching TV, listening to podcasts, sleep music… Whatever works for you. If you’re lucky, you may even trick your partner to give you a massage. Unless they’re as good at that as Monica, in that case keep them as far from your shoulders and back as possible.

Listen to your body

Literally. When you can’t sleep, your mind keeps shouting !!!NO SLEEP, WHY, YOU NEED TO SLEEP!!! and it can be difficult to focus on anything else. In normal conditions, I’d start making up scenarios in my head and I’d drift off. Now, it can be more challenging to do so as my brain wakes me up just to check if I’m asleep already. I find it really helpful to focus on something very physical. When I feel my anxiety is taking the better of me and I’m about to burst out in tears because it’s 3am and I need to be up by 6am, I try to find any sort of noise that could hold my attention. My broken clock doesn’t always tick so the only ‘noise’ available is the one made by my own body. It can be a heartbeat. Or my breathing. Anything that I can count which has some sort of rhythm to it. And it does help me calm down. The only minus of that would be that sometimes I can count up to 700 and still not sleep which becomes a stress in itself.

Learn to accept it

Easier said than done. It takes a while but once you feel calm(er) about not sleeping a lot, it makes a massive difference. Yes, you still feel anxious about going to bed and not falling asleep, but despite that your heart puts a little bit less pressure on you to GET ENOUGH SLEEP. Of course, there are days when I’m not fine with it at all, but I know that I’ve gone to work after completely sleepless nights and I survived. I’m not saying you will always be full of energy after getting barely any sleep, if any. But once you accept that it’s fine to go without full 8h sleep, then your nights will be more peaceful. And hey, a sleepless night means you have so much more time to read! Or binge-watch Netflix, both work perfectly well (think of all the Friends episodes you can fit in!).

Ask for help

Sleep anxiety is a mental health issue. Like every other mental health condition, it needs to be addressed with a specialist. Whether that is your GP, sleep specialist or psychologist – ask for help and don’t be ashamed. It may feel like you’re the only person experiencing problems with sleep, but trust me, there are more people with the same issue. And the sooner you get the help you need, the sooner you will be able to get back to your sleeping self!

The good news is – there is hope. Sleep anxiety a condition that you can learn to live with and it’s something you can fight with. Just because you have developed sleeping problems, it does not mean you will never sleep again. Despite that fact that it probably feels that way. There is a solution to this and I will not rest until I treat it and put it in the past.

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I’ve always had difficulty falling asleep because that’s when my mind starts working for some reason but I’ve never had an anxiety attack because of it and I’m really sorry that’s something you’ve had to go through! Making up scenarios really helps me and reading before bed as well since it takes my mind off of everything else and when I put the book down I either think about what happened in the book or my mind just sort of “goes empty”. Love all the tips you mentioned 😘

I need to buy myself a reading lamp because I don’t have any at the moment and I don’t really like reading when the main light in my room because it keeps me up for longer. But reading does help me relax in general as well!

I recently went to my GP because I was struggling to sleep so much and she gave me some tablets that have helped a little, but she also spoke about establishing a routine as well, and not forcing myself to try to sleep, and moving away from my bed if it doesn’t happen after a certain period of time, which has helped! 🖤

Getting out of bed when you can’t sleep can work wonders! I would always go on the sofa in the living room to wait until I felt tired enough to go back to bed and I would end up falling asleep there! It got to the point where the living room became my actual bedroom lol

Sleep anxiety is definitely something that shouldn’t be left in the dark. It’s good to talk about it and try something a little different, we’re all different so it’s a must to get your sleep routine to work for youu. I’ve tried a lot myself to actually get to sleep as I would stay up for hours, feeling tired but not going to sleep. The whole peaceful routine has worked for myself, I’m currently trying no electronics an hour before and just relaxing with a book.

Oh my gosh I’m so glad you’ve posted about this. I suffer so badly with sleep anxiety and I’ve never heard anyone else really talk about it! It doesn’t make any sense, even to me as to why it’s a thing but it’s really horrible. I will always get up as soon as I wake up too, I can’t even lie in! Something I’ve found calms me is watching TV before bed and really taking my mind off the thought of getting to sleep. I hope you find a perfect sleep remedy and a bit of relief for yours soon! Sending lots of love.
Alice Xx

I feel like it’s very much a taboo topic still! We talk about all different types of anxiety but sleep anxiety was new to me. I like to watch TV as well! Especially Harry Potter, it seems to help me relax a lot.

I actually can’t even believe how relatable I found this, especially when you said how it crept up on you without even really realising. That definitely happened with me. My main problem is definitely worrying so much about not getting enough sleep that I make myself too stressed to sleep – I love your tip about accepting it and coming to terms with that, I’ll be bookmarking this for sure! x

Sleep used to be such a big issue in my life during my first year of university. I finally sought help and now my issues are all sorted with. This is such a helpful post for those still suffering x
Lily | The Wellbeing Edit

I definitely think a peaceful routine would really help me. Currently, I just sit and do homework in bed until midnight which is definitely not the best thing to do…
Aleeha xXxhttp://www.halesaaw.co.uk/

I love this post about ways to create a less stressful sleep environment. I deal a lot with what I call “morning anxiety” and sleep paralysis (even wrote a post on it), so I totally understand getting anxiety attacks during, or before, sleep. These tips are sound like a great way to help the anxiety that comes with sleep, and I’ll try my best to listen to my body and ease me thoughts. Thanks for the post!
Arielle- https://littledismaid.com

For a while now going to sleep has become more tiring than running a marathon because of that anxiety. It’s always good to know that I’m not the only person with similar problems. I am definitely going to read your post!

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