Do you think it is rude to take baby to large gatherings

and not let others hold your child? A co-worker of mine told me that if I didn't want people to hold my child, then I shouldn't go to whatever the function is. I don't mind in small settings where family or close friends hold my LO (hands washed, not sick, not drinking, etc) and I can closely monitor things, but I don't want people to pass around my child like a hot potatoe so they can hold her.

Maybe I am over-protective, but it just doesn't make me feel comfortable when others hold my newborn.

I am asking because there is a picnic for an outdoor club I belong to coming up in July and I think I might want to go and see my friends, but I definetly don't want to let anyone hold her other than my husband.

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I don't think its rude at all, its actually very reasonable and smart.

Honestly though I wont get into it too much because you actually have SO much less to worry about than you think. Unless they are very close to you or just weird, people really don't ask to hold little babies. The only thing I would be worried about at large gatherings would be people touching my baby. People don't generally ask to hold, but way more people than you think seem to think its totally okay to touch a baby's hands, feet, or even face. I hate it, but it happens like crazy. Huge germ spread potential there. Yuck.

I don't think it's rude if the person is not a close friend or relative. plus your baby will be small, maybe you can put your baby in a carseat or have a baby carrier or some sort.

with my frist baby I am going to be afraid of people holding or touching my baby without washing their hands, I don't want my baby to get sick, and also I know people like to brush against the baby's cheek and stuff because it's a cute gesture but I really would not like that because I don't want my baby's skin to break out lol.