Hey everyone, I came across this idea and would like to know what you think. We need somthing to help us in the vanilla world. Anyways, here it is and I look forward to feedback. "LS" = Lifestyle.

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So many’s a time when Gar and I have wished there was a secret handshake or something so we could more easily spot swingers in vanilla situations. An LS group near us tried to solve the problem with custom made little rubber bracelets (very cute: said “Let’s Play” on them. Don’t remember the color…) but that didn’t really catch on, not even in their group. Of course, should anyone ask what the bracelet was for, a person would have to lie outright to those whom they thought were vanilla anyway, returning to the original wish for a secret handshake or something. Another post here mentioned an anklet on the right ankle meaning swinger or bisexual. Not only have we never heard of that, we think the potential for misconstruing the intentions of some poor vanilla woman who also has never heard of that and simply prefers her jewelry on that ankle is very high.

I propose something a little different.

Anyone ever heard the term “A friend of Bill”? Those in recovery programs (AA specifically) will use this cryptic friend to let others around them know they are recovering without coming right out and saying it. If you, too, are a “Friend of Bill”, you’ll know what they mean and viola! a like-minded person is found.

What if we in the lifestyle were all “Friends of Ellis”? Ellis = LS. Get it? Of course, there is always the potential for finding vanilla people who really have a friend named Ellis, but it’s a rare enough name that the odds are low. Besides, the odds of non-recovering folks having a friend named Bill has to be pretty high, yet that little “secret handshake” has worked well in that community.

I think we should all become Friends of Ellis. Pass it on to your swinging friends. It only works if everyone knows about it.

We bought SLS logo (the blue, red , yellow and green figures with their arms up) bumper stickers, cut off the excess white on the sides and put them on flexible magnets. When we want, we stick it on the back of our vehicle. Just remember it's back there. On a drive half way across the country, it took me an hour to figure out why this couple pulled up next to me and gave me thumbs up.

We also got 1" SLS logo campaign style buttons. Since there's no words on them, it's easy to say it represents diversity and you support everyone's right to choose. In reality, no one has ever asked "What's that?" but we have gotten a couple "I know what that means ;-)" which is a great conversation starter.

Merritt Island FL

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I like the Ellis idea, the only potenetial issue is the Vanilla group may treat it like the Waldo thing and it would be come hip or something.

Rancho Cucamonga CA

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I agree, it sounds like a great idea. I will pass it on to all our Ellis friends!!

Lucerne Valley CA

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"it used to be that if u put a pineapple in ur grocery cart upside down u were looking to play"

Thanks for the info. A zucchini through the donut was getting me some funny looks.

Brooklyn Park MN

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it used to be that if u put a pineapple in ur grocery cart upside down u were looking to play ......... ellis //LS its just anouther way to say ur in the lifestyle....

Lillian AL

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Gotcha! Now what about this pineapple thing?

Pulaski TN

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God help the idiot that interupts my dinner with a client, or my family time out with this question. I would be highly upset if someone approached me and asked if I am in the lifestyle trust me if you see me out in a lifestyle event or club then you will know, if you dont ,, its none of your buisness and can ruin a potential hook up later by approaching outside of events and clubs.

Houston TX

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Hottt, can you explain? Ellis? PINEAPPLE?

Pulaski TN

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well at one time at grocery stores u could tell who was swingers by the upside down pineapple in the front of the buggy now who knows well i say wat the hell im a friend of ellis

Lillian AL

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We were talking about this last weekend while sitting in a casino bar waiting for a meet. A necklace or bracelet or lapel pin with a styled S? Looks like a snake or a wave (easily explained to our vanilla friends).

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