I feel like I am always walking on egg shells. My husband has depression and goes to a GP. He will not go to a specialist nor will he go for therapy. Most of the time he sees things overwhelming.

He appeared to be okay until we adopted our daughter. Then the anger and rage began. I am very careful what I say because he can get angry and think I am against him. His attitude towards me is affecting our daughter. She thinks I am against her dad.

My husband sees himself as being a perfect husband..yet, he will say, "I am depressed". There is nothing I can do because he will not let me give any information, nor can I receive any information from his doctor.

I am at my last rope because he is always so negative, critical of me and undermining me when disciplining our daughter.

Does anyone have some advise?

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2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:I need helpI feel like I am always walking on egg shells. My husband has depression and goes to a GP. He will not go to a specialist nor will he go for therapy. Most of the time he sees things overwhelming.

He appeared to be okay until we adopted our daughter. Then the anger and rage began. I am very careful what I say because he can get angry and think I am against him. His attitude towards me is affecting our daughter. She thinks I am against her dad.

My husband sees himself as being a perfect husband..yet, he will say, "I am depressed". There is nothing I can do because he will not let me give any information, nor can I receive any information from his doctor.

I am at my last rope because he is always so negative, critical of me and undermining me when disciplining our daughter.

I suffer from depression and I am a mother and a wife, I know that for my mate has to be really difficult to know how to help me, to my daughter I say "mommy feels a little sick today" when I recognize I am not doing ok. Your husband needs to get on the meds for sure, that will help him a lot to thnk right. Excercise as this website recommends also helps relieving stress and anger... if you wanna punch something have a punching bag at home.In my case I need reassurance of how much my husband loves me, and how good I am, and hugs always work, I got this magazine too and it helped my relatives around me, maybe your husband can benefit from it as well...http://www.watchtower.org/e/depression/feelings.htm

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Report This| Share this:I need helpI suffer from depression and I am a mother and a wife, I know that for my mate has to be really difficult to know how to help me, to my daughter I say "mommy feels a little sick today" when I recognize I am not doing ok. Your husband needs to get on the meds for sure, that will help him a lot to thnk right. Excercise as this website recommends also helps relieving stress and anger... if you wanna punch something have a punching bag at home.In my case I need reassurance of how much my husband loves me, and how good I am, and hugs always work, I got this magazine too and it helped my relatives around me, maybe your husband can benefit from it as well...http://www.watchtower.org/e/depression/feelings.htm

You cannot force your husband to take any steps to help his depression. Perhaps you should go to a therapist to sort out your options with the situation. You may have to set boundaries for your relationship which may include a trial separation for awhile. This may be the only way to get his attention. Or maybe both you and your daughter may be better off if the two of you are divorced. For your daughter to continually see anger and rage is not healthy at all. Good luck with your very difficult situation.

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Report This| Share this:I need helpYou cannot force your husband to take any steps to help his depression. Perhaps you should go to a therapist to sort out your options with the situation. You may have to set boundaries for your relationship which may include a trial separation for awhile. This may be the only way to get his attention. Or maybe both you and your daughter may be better off if the two of you are divorced. For your daughter to continually see anger and rage is not healthy at all. Good luck with your very difficult situation.

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