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Monthly Archives: November 2015

A United Nation statistical report states that more than 250,000 cases of rape or attempted rape are reported to law enforcement annually. Apparently about 3,512 people between the year 1999 and 2013 have been reported to be victims of vitriolage and sexual assault, Majority of them women.

Nurbanu: a 36 year old woman from Bangladesh, was forced to go back to her husband after destroying half of her beautiful face with acid.
Zhou Qin, a female teacher in Bijie Ashi reported a case of rape to the police and she was dismissed on the basis that “sex with with a condom is not considered rape”. We have 33% of law makers in Yemen saying some women deserved to be raped. If the so called law enforcement officers in a country can say that… Then the victims are damned and the culprits are being handed merit awards for violating a fellow human. I do wonder if they will stand their ground if the tables were turned.
Dianna, a beautiful 25 year old was gang raped, and her case was practically thrown out the window because she was a sex worker.. Most believe sex workers shouldn’t file a rape or assault case because of what they do, Majority even believe they deserve it.
Countries like Yemen and other middle East countries do not acknowledge child marriage and marital rape as a constitutional offense. In countries like Sudan and China if substantial evidence cannot be found to charge an accused person. The victim may face persecution on other sexual offenses and may incur the death penalty. We have about 74% of women in Mali saying “a husband is justified to beat his wife if she refuses to have sex with him”. 44.5% of rapist in Cambodia never experienced legal charges.
In 2013 about 1,822 cases of rape was reported in Brazil, most of the victims being women. And just 70 persons where “arrested” in relation to the assault. In 2010 mexico reported about 14,993 cases of rape where filed by the police.
In South Africa a woman is killed on domestic violence on an average every eight hours.
Sexual assault in Nigeria is pretty much the same as every other African country.
The CLEEN Foundation reports 1 in every 3 women admitting to being a victim of domestic violence. The survey also found a nationwide increase in domestic violence in the past 3 years from 21% in 2011 to 30% in 2013. Sexual violence in Nigeria is mostly not reported by the victim’s as a result of lack of evidence and most importantly due to the social stigmatization that comes with going public. About 25 percent of women in Nigeria reported the case of forced sex in the hands of their previous or present spouse.The list is endless.
The most alarming part is the stigmatization most victims have to go through in the hands of family members and society. Majority of domestic violence and assault victims prefer to keep their ordeal to themselves mostly because of the manner in which law enforcement agencies in their country handle assault cases. It is never a survivors fault, they should NEVER be treated like it’s their fault. Most Assault victims are not brave enough to live with the post effects and tend to thread the path of depression, anxiety or even worse; commit suicide. Though the cases of female on male assault’s aren’t as high, doesn’t make it nonexistent . Above 80 percent of this incidents die with the victims, because society has a stereotype image of what a man should and shouldn’t be and being assaulted by a “mere” woman isn’t one of the should’s. Sadly such cases aren’t even taken seriously by law enforcement in many countries. That being said, There’s a need for society to know that either intentionally or not domestic violence and assault are totally unacceptable. Victims don’t deserve to be treated as outcast either by law enforcement or society. They need to know that people out there are ready to stand by them, help them survive this ordeal and fight the good fight. We need to support the few brave ones that have taken it upon themselves to help survivors get their life back. Women need to know that no man has the right to devour them. Women in third world countries need to know that there is nothing justifiable about assaulting a woman and no man should go Scot free for engaging in such barbaric act.
Irrespective of the circumstance,intentions and emotional state of the predator, sexual violence is still a tool used to scar, hurt , dominate and objectify others and should never be justified. Men need to understand that assault and violence are totally unacceptable by the law and is an unforgivable sin In the sight of the creator. Reducing the rate of violence against defenseless women and men all over the world should be part of our top priorities in making today’s world a better place. Different victims handle the post assault phase differently and it is common for survivors to experience anxiety, paranoia, fear, disassociation, anger,and or depression. The healing process takes time, requires love patience, and spiritual growth, survivors need to be reminded of all the beautiful reason they have to live again and regain a sense of control over his or her life.
I do not know that all this talk about domestic violence and its statistics will make sense to my readers, i do not know that anyone reading this will take me serious. But what i do know is that victims are falling all the way down the bottom of the depression well and i do know that assault victims need to be shown endless support and love. These are little things we are more than capable of giving and guess what? It doesn’t cost a single penny.