Anyone doing controlled crying care to be my buddy?

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Anyone doing controlled crying care to be my buddy?

Hiya,
Just wondered if there is anyone out there doing controlled crying at mo that would like to be my buddy and share the journey?
I just started tonight with my nearly 6 month old x

Hiya,

Just wondered if there is anyone out there doing controlled crying at mo that would like to be my buddy and share the journey?

I just started tonight with my nearly 6 month old x

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Posted on 30-10-2014 at 8.49PM

I'm starting tomorrow night I think, mine will be at 4am when she wakes up tho cos she goes down fine at night with no sleep props! X

I'm starting tomorrow night I think, mine will be at 4am when she wakes up tho cos she goes down fine at night with no sleep props! X

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Mrs A(11)

Posted on 30-10-2014 at 9.36PM

That's great that she goes down good at night with no props. Those dreaded 4am wakes.. horrible aren't they, my DS wakes between 3.30 and 4.30 and stays awake til 6.30 but then naps awfully from then all day. Let me know how it goes with you and your dd. x

That's great that she goes down good at night with no props. Those dreaded 4am wakes.. horrible aren't they, my DS wakes between 3.30 and 4.30 and stays awake til 6.30 but then naps awfully from then all day. Let me know how it goes with you and your dd. x

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Posted on 30-10-2014 at 9.53PM

I've just started tonight. My boy is 22 month. He was great at settling off at night but past few months it's been a battle. He has the control over me and his dad, it has got to the stage where I dread night time cos he will not go down. Sleeping with us every night was starting to strain on me. So I've been reading up on how to settle him so thought right that's it gotta do it for my own sanity. Taken hour and half of him crying, throwing his dummy around his nursery but I didn't give in. I feel proud of myself. Not nice at the time the guilt is awful but it's worked so far ... Touch wood he stays asleep :/

I've just started tonight. My boy is 22 month. He was great at settling off at night but past few months it's been a battle. He has the control over me and his dad, it has got to the stage where I dread night time cos he will not go down. Sleeping with us every night was starting to strain on me. So I've been reading up on how to settle him so thought right that's it gotta do it for my own sanity. Taken hour and half of him crying, throwing his dummy around his nursery but I didn't give in. I feel proud of myself. Not nice at the time the guilt is awful but it's worked so far ... Touch wood he stays asleep :/

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.15AM

Hi Sarah, sometimes you've just gotta say enough is enough because it wears you all out including the bub. You really should be proud of your self, it's so hard but when it gets hard I just tell myself I'm doing it for the greater good for all of us.
Well my night went well.. I've done a triple whammie so wasn't sure if I was over doing it, I took the swaddle away, dummy away and moved my ds into his own room and he's taken to it really well. He had 3 wake ups but one was for a feed so fed him. He moaned/cried for no longer than 20 mins at all 3 wake ups and went back to sleep.. Well I think he did unless he tricked me and was just lying there! lol and then we eventually got up at 7.15 which is a massive improvement to 3.30!
How did the rest of your night go? X

I've just started tonight. My boy is 22 month. He was great at settling off at night but past few months it's been a battle. He has the control over me and his dad, it has got to the stage where I dread night time cos he will not go down. Sleeping with us every night was starting to strain on me. So I've been reading up on how to settle him so thought right that's it gotta do it for my own sanity. Taken hour and half of him crying, throwing his dummy around his nursery but I didn't give in. I feel proud of myself. Not nice at the time the guilt is awful but it's worked so far ... Touch wood he stays asleep :/

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Hi Sarah, sometimes you've just gotta say enough is enough because it wears you all out including the bub. You really should be proud of your self, it's so hard but when it gets hard I just tell myself I'm doing it for the greater good for all of us.

Well my night went well.. I've done a triple whammie so wasn't sure if I was over doing it, I took the swaddle away, dummy away and moved my ds into his own room and he's taken to it really well. He had 3 wake ups but one was for a feed so fed him. He moaned/cried for no longer than 20 mins at all 3 wake ups and went back to sleep.. Well I think he did unless he tricked me and was just lying there! lol and then we eventually got up at 7.15 which is a massive improvement to 3.30!

How did the rest of your night go? X

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.25AM

Hi Amy congrats bet your so proud!! He slept through till 6 this morning I feel so good this morning it's amazing what a non broken nights sleep does for ya. Me and my partner could actually cuddle up which we haven't done in so long. I would like to say I've cracked it but I think it's going to take a few more upset nights. Well done you and keep me posted how tonight goes :) xx

Hi Amy congrats bet your so proud!! He slept through till 6 this morning I feel so good this morning it's amazing what a non broken nights sleep does for ya. Me and my partner could actually cuddle up which we haven't done in so long. I would like to say I've cracked it but I think it's going to take a few more upset nights. Well done you and keep me posted how tonight goes xx

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.35AM

It's funny you should say about the cuddling because me and my DH felt like kids again having the bedroom to ourselves lol and we were able to cuddle and actually talk in whispers rather than sign language! Lol. Even though I had a broken sleep I feel really good today because it's such a massive improvement to having to hold ds to sleep and then try and transfer him to crib only for him to wake after 30 mins.
Yeah definitely got a good few night/week more here to get it down to a T. I've read a lot as well that on day 5 they do like to re-test you so I'm expecting that.
I've just put ds down for a nap which I was dreading as previously I lived in the bedroom when trying to get him to nap. 10 mins and fast asleep! Didn't even have to go into him as he wasn't crying properly at first and when he did the were gaps and grunts so was settling! This was quicker than me holding him to sleep.
I'm so glad to hear your ds had a good night. Let me know how you get on also x

Hi Amy congrats bet your so proud!! He slept through till 6 this morning I feel so good this morning it's amazing what a non broken nights sleep does for ya. Me and my partner could actually cuddle up which we haven't done in so long. I would like to say I've cracked it but I think it's going to take a few more upset nights. Well done you and keep me posted how tonight goes xx

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It's funny you should say about the cuddling because me and my DH felt like kids again having the bedroom to ourselves lol and we were able to cuddle and actually talk in whispers rather than sign language! Lol. Even though I had a broken sleep I feel really good today because it's such a massive improvement to having to hold ds to sleep and then try and transfer him to crib only for him to wake after 30 mins.

Yeah definitely got a good few night/week more here to get it down to a T. I've read a lot as well that on day 5 they do like to re-test you so I'm expecting that.

I've just put ds down for a nap which I was dreading as previously I lived in the bedroom when trying to get him to nap. 10 mins and fast asleep! Didn't even have to go into him as he wasn't crying properly at first and when he did the were gaps and grunts so was settling! This was quicker than me holding him to sleep.

I'm so glad to hear your ds had a good night. Let me know how you get on also x

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.39AM

Well done guys...
Disaster night for me...she woke at 2 last night but I stupidly went in which I shouldn't of done as she wasn't even moaning, just moving about...I ended up upsetting her so she was in bed with us at half 2, she then woke at 4.45, had to put whitenoise on...then woke for the day at 5.50. Grrrr
I've gone cold turkey on the dummy now for naps and her first nap was only 30 mins after 10 mins of crying.....need to get 2 hours sleep off her at lunch time else I'm in for a tough day!
It's so hard.... But tonight I'm definitely not bringing her into our bed! Or giving her her dummy at 4 am....
Dreading tonight!

Well done guys...Disaster night for me...she woke at 2 last night but I stupidly went in which I shouldn't of done as she wasn't even moaning, just moving about...I ended up upsetting her so she was in bed with us at half 2, she then woke at 4.45, had to put whitenoise on...then woke for the day at 5.50. GrrrrI've gone cold turkey on the dummy now for naps and her first nap was only 30 mins after 10 mins of crying.....need to get 2 hours sleep off her at lunch time else I'm in for a tough day!It's so hard.... But tonight I'm definitely not bringing her into our bed! Or giving her her dummy at 4 am....Dreading tonight!

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.51AM

Aww sorry to hear you had a tough night. Are you following any guide for cc? I'm using a website that is really good as if I was left to my own devices I'd totally mess it up! I'll give you the link if you want? I think if you stick with it and be consistent she will get the message eventually whichever method you choose.
That's not bad though 10 mins of crying then slept with no dummy. What did you do when she woke after 30 mins? Ds has literally just woke after 40 mins and I just did cc again as I know he's not hungry and just wants me to settle him. I didn't need to go in as he settled straight back off x

Well done guys...Disaster night for me...she woke at 2 last night but I stupidly went in which I shouldn't of done as she wasn't even moaning, just moving about...I ended up upsetting her so she was in bed with us at half 2, she then woke at 4.45, had to put whitenoise on...then woke for the day at 5.50. GrrrrI've gone cold turkey on the dummy now for naps and her first nap was only 30 mins after 10 mins of crying.....need to get 2 hours sleep off her at lunch time else I'm in for a tough day!It's so hard.... But tonight I'm definitely not bringing her into our bed! Or giving her her dummy at 4 am....Dreading tonight!

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Aww sorry to hear you had a tough night. Are you following any guide for cc? I'm using a website that is really good as if I was left to my own devices I'd totally mess it up! I'll give you the link if you want? I think if you stick with it and be consistent she will get the message eventually whichever method you choose.

That's not bad though 10 mins of crying then slept with no dummy. What did you do when she woke after 30 mins? Ds has literally just woke after 40 mins and I just did cc again as I know he's not hungry and just wants me to settle him. I didn't need to go in as he settled straight back off x

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 10.41AM

I couldn't get her back to sleep so she got up for an.hour and is now asleep again...I did sssh pat and took her dummy out before she fell asleep. She's been asleep for 40 mins now.
I'll be starting in earnest tonight, then the next step is naps in her cot rather than.on my bed!
I've read some stuff on controlled crying so I think I'm ok.... It's just gonna hard ignoring her babbling and.moaning at 4am....do you go in and resettle them if they aren't crying?

I couldn't get her back to sleep so she got up for an.hour and is now asleep again...I did sssh pat and took her dummy out before she fell asleep. She's been asleep for 40 mins now.I'll be starting in earnest tonight, then the next step is naps in her cot rather than.on my bed! I've read some stuff on controlled crying so I think I'm ok.... It's just gonna hard ignoring her babbling and.moaning at 4am....do you go in and resettle them if they aren't crying?

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Mel59in

Posted on 31-10-2014 at 10.55AM

Hi ladies. I started controlled crying last week with my 5 month old. She was waking loads during the night for her dummy and I'd had enough so decided to get rid of the dummy completely and let her cry. It was definitely the best thing I could have done! The first night was really difficult with 50 minutes of crying but she did sleep all night without waking once and every night since has got a lot easier. Keep up the hard work because it is so worth it! Good luck :)

Hi ladies. I started controlled crying last week with my 5 month old. She was waking loads during the night for her dummy and I'd had enough so decided to get rid of the dummy completely and let her cry. It was definitely the best thing I could have done! The first night was really difficult with 50 minutes of crying but she did sleep all night without waking once and every night since has got a lot easier. Keep up the hard work because it is so worth it! Good luck

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Mrs A(11)

Posted on 31-10-2014 at 11.21AM

Thanks for the words of encouragement Tracey. Really glad it worked for you, I do hear quite a bit of success with this method x

Hi ladies. I started controlled crying last week with my 5 month old. She was waking loads during the night for her dummy and I'd had enough so decided to get rid of the dummy completely and let her cry. It was definitely the best thing I could have done! The first night was really difficult with 50 minutes of crying but she did sleep all night without waking once and every night since has got a lot easier. Keep up the hard work because it is so worth it! Good luck

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Thanks for the words of encouragement Tracey. Really glad it worked for you, I do hear quite a bit of success with this method x

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 11.28AM

That nap that I said was going ok turned out a bit naff... He kept waking up but it was near feed time so I bought him down and fed him.
No I didn't go in an resettle as I'm trying to get him to settle on his own. When he starts properly cry that's when I go in at times intervals and shush but only for a max of 2 mins. Good luck for tonight, keep us updated xx

I couldn't get her back to sleep so she got up for an.hour and is now asleep again...I did sssh pat and took her dummy out before she fell asleep. She's been asleep for 40 mins now.I'll be starting in earnest tonight, then the next step is naps in her cot rather than.on my bed! I've read some stuff on controlled crying so I think I'm ok.... It's just gonna hard ignoring her babbling and.moaning at 4am....do you go in and resettle them if they aren't crying?

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That nap that I said was going ok turned out a bit naff... He kept waking up but it was near feed time so I bought him down and fed him.

No I didn't go in an resettle as I'm trying to get him to settle on his own. When he starts properly cry that's when I go in at times intervals and shush but only for a max of 2 mins. Good luck for tonight, keep us updated xx

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 6.39PM

Well she has gone to sleep easy as pie...no dummy just white noise and loose swaddle in her grobag.
Will see what happens in the early hours! So you reckon leave her until full on crying? Even if she is awake for an hour?!
I'll be in bed at 9 anyhoo, cram in the sleep early if possible lol
Hope you have a good night x

Well she has gone to sleep easy as pie...no dummy just white noise and loose swaddle in her grobag. Will see what happens in the early hours! So you reckon leave her until full on crying? Even if she is awake for an hour?!I'll be in bed at 9 anyhoo, cram in the sleep early if possible lolHope you have a good night x

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 7.10PM

Amy when do you feed your lo at night? Do you do a night feed? Or a dream feed? Have you started weaning?
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Amy when do you feed your lo at night? Do you do a night feed? Or a dream feed? Have you started weaning?Thanks

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 8.04PM

I'm no expert but I've read if they are just groaning then don't do anything so they have the opportunity to self settle. Not sure what other people do.
I dream feed at 10 however prior to doing the cc it no longer used to be a dream feed as he'd wake up half hour before most of the time but he did go back down straight away. Last night was a proper dream feed at 10. Then he used to be up at 1.30-2ish for a feed but last night he woke at 3.30 for feed and I'm not even sure he was that hungry but fed him anyway as didn't want to do cc again with the possibility of him being hungry.
I started weaning at 19 weeks with purees as per advice from our dietician but he became unwell with a virus 2 weeks ago and took a massive step back with it. we are a week off 6 months so started BLW which he isn't actually eating hardly anything but more getting used to it and chucking it around and gumming it lol.
How old is your lo? X

Well she has gone to sleep easy as pie...no dummy just white noise and loose swaddle in her grobag. Will see what happens in the early hours! So you reckon leave her until full on crying? Even if she is awake for an hour?!I'll be in bed at 9 anyhoo, cram in the sleep early if possible lolHope you have a good night x

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I'm no expert but I've read if they are just groaning then don't do anything so they have the opportunity to self settle. Not sure what other people do.

Amy when do you feed your lo at night? Do you do a night feed? Or a dream feed? Have you started weaning?Thanks

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I dream feed at 10 however prior to doing the cc it no longer used to be a dream feed as he'd wake up half hour before most of the time but he did go back down straight away. Last night was a proper dream feed at 10. Then he used to be up at 1.30-2ish for a feed but last night he woke at 3.30 for feed and I'm not even sure he was that hungry but fed him anyway as didn't want to do cc again with the possibility of him being hungry.

I started weaning at 19 weeks with purees as per advice from our dietician but he became unwell with a virus 2 weeks ago and took a massive step back with it. we are a week off 6 months so started BLW which he isn't actually eating hardly anything but more getting used to it and chucking it around and gumming it lol.

How old is your lo? X

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 8.26PM

I've dropped all night feeds so my girl has about 32oz during the day.
She's exactly 5 months this week.
I've been advised to introduce a 10pm feed and wake her up for it but I'm not keen as she's never had a feed at this time! But apparently this should stop her waking at 4am?!
I want to start weaning soon though...

I've dropped all night feeds so my girl has about 32oz during the day.She's exactly 5 months this week. I've been advised to introduce a 10pm feed and wake her up for it but I'm not keen as she's never had a feed at this time! But apparently this should stop her waking at 4am?!I want to start weaning soon though...

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.08PM

Actually wake her up and not dream feed? Does she wake up at 4 out of hunger do you think? The only way you'll find out is if you try it for a couple of nights! If it were me I wouldn't change too much at once though x

I've dropped all night feeds so my girl has about 32oz during the day.She's exactly 5 months this week. I've been advised to introduce a 10pm feed and wake her up for it but I'm not keen as she's never had a feed at this time! But apparently this should stop her waking at 4am?!I want to start weaning soon though...

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Actually wake her up and not dream feed? Does she wake up at 4 out of hunger do you think? The only way you'll find out is if you try it for a couple of nights! If it were me I wouldn't change too much at once though x

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Posted on 31-10-2014 at 9.09PM

How did you drop the night feeds? Or did she just do it on her own? X

How did you drop the night feeds? Or did she just do it on her own? X

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Posted on 01-11-2014 at 7.30AM

She used to wake at 3 for a feed but starmed taking less and less so I brought her into bed one night and gave her her dummy and she slept through, that was about 2 weeks ago and she's never cried for food, she just stirs but goes back to sleep with us or her dummy.
I've never done an early night fend since she was tiny, always fed on demand at night so as she started to go longer her feeds naturally dropped.
Apparently though if I wake her at 10 and feed her that should help her straight through!? Even though she's had 9oz at 6.

She used to wake at 3 for a feed but starmed taking less and less so I brought her into bed one night and gave her her dummy and she slept through, that was about 2 weeks ago and she's never cried for food, she just stirs but goes back to sleep with us or her dummy.I've never done an early night fend since she was tiny, always fed on demand at night so as she started to go longer her feeds naturally dropped.Apparently though if I wake her at 10 and feed her that should help her straight through!? Even though she's had 9oz at 6.