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Here we are: the last day of 2014. Whatever this year brought you, I want you to let it go and to release it all. Take a moment, close your eyes, take a deep breath and decide that you will not hold on to feelings and emotions, thoughts, joys, disappointments and fears. Let it all go. Imagine the 2014 streams of energy leaving your body and your mind. By doing so, you set an intention for yourself to live in the moment.

Accepting each moment for what it is and honoring it for what it is strengthens you and brings you clarity. From a strong and clear perspective, you will start to desire different things to come into your life; different experiences, different people, different outcomes.

Everything you went through during this past year created new desires. By releasing all that has been, you are stretching a new white canvas for the next year.

Today I received the review for my gratitude blog, as 2014 is approaching its end. What amazes me the most is that I have readers in 32 countries. In fact, today I had one reader from Japan. How wonderful! Thank you everyone. Thank you. Thank you.

I am truly grateful for your reading and sharing my posts, day after day after day.

Thank you, WordPress.com for the 2014 annual report for my blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,900 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 48 trips to carry that many people.

The big word of the day is JOY. This post is inspired by a friend who told me a few days ago that she started de-cluttering her home with only one criterion in mind. As she went through drawers, cupboards and all the corners of her living space, she looked at around, picked up each object and asked herself only one question: “Does this bring me joy?”. If an object did bring her joy, she cleaned it and kept it. If it did not, she tossed it.

Isn’t this wonderful? Can you imagine how she will feel once this “cleaning for joy” process is complete? The energy of her space will be clear and beautiful and she will feel energized, restored and uplifted just by being home. This is a powerful cleansing technique. If you are surrounded by objects you really like, your energy elevates and you feel clearer and more optimistic. If, when you look around, you see clothes that don’t fit you, objects that remind you of negative experiences and things in disrepair your energy gets diminished, your mind absorbs the clutter and you do not get to rest, restore and recharge in your own home.

I wrote about this subject on Day 89, but today’s post brings you a new perspective on how to make your home serve you and your needs: just ask the simple question if all the things you have surrounded yourself with bring you joy. Start with one area, with one room and do it! Clean and de-clutter for joy. You will be amazed at the results and you will want to continue the process until your whole living space fills you with joy. And then – inspired, uplifted and recharged – do the same thing with your office, with your car, with the things you choose to do and the people you choose to spend time with.

Start right away. Start now with a single drawer, with a single corner and invite the New Year into your life with joy.

I want you to be surrounded by things that bring you joy, by experiences that fill your heart with joy, doing work that fulfills you and being with people who lift you up and bring you even more joy.

The reason I am writing about it again is because most people in this world have know various forms and degrees of abuse in their childhood: emotional, physical, sexual or a combination of these three. And some continue to experience abuse throughout their lives.

What I want you to know is that only you have the power to heal your wounds. You may employ other people to help you do so (spiritual teacher, psychotherapists, healers, psychiatrists, counselors), but ultimately only YOU can do the healing work that is necessary if you are to be a whole, grounded and powerful person who is not afraid of living your life according to your own desires and dreams.

Healing can only occur and forgiveness can only wash away all that has happened ONLY if you are willing to look deep inside yourself at the things you tried very hard to forget.

Once you have done the work to heal your Inner Child, there will be no reason to fight with your memories and bury them in the deep corners of your mind. You will then be free of the past.

How does that sound? Think about it: are you indeed your own best friend? Do you have your own approval? And do you have your own back?

Nick Ortner says:

“Too often we are ruled by everything that’s wrong with us, as opposed to everything that’s right with us.”

Everything changes the moment you decide to become your own best friend, to stand strongly by your own side and to treat yourself with love, understanding and compassion. If your best friend feels down, you do not kick them when they’re on the floor, do you? You help them stand up; you sit them down and tell them what you love about them, how they enhance your life and why you believe in them. You listen to them, you assist them and give them your support.

Maybe right now it is a challenge for you to befriend yourself and you cannot imagine starting to support yourself the way you would your BFF. If this is the case, I want you to take a sheet of paper and write down what you think of yourself; write all the words down. Do not hold back. If you don’t face how you see yourself you will not be able to change it. So write down what you think. Then, take another sheet of paper and for each harsh and judgemental word you used, write down a slighly softer, lighter word; then throw away the first version.

In a couple of weeks look at your list again and then take a new sheet of paper and soften the words again. In time, your perception of yourself will change. And then it will change again.

Choose to become your own best friend. Imagine how you would feel if YOU stood by your side. Accept that it is a process. And keep working on your list.

… saying “Thank You”. Over and over. Try it: whenever you feel down, upset, worried and negative feelings start to creep up, just say these two words: Thank You. Repeat them in your head, silently or speak them out loud. Or write them by hand. The more you do it, the better you will start to feel.

Does it seem too simple? All great things are simple.

Do try it. Say “thank you” over and over and over. I spent about 90 minutes today repeating the same words. Sometimes my mind wondered, but I came back to “thank you”. I felt lighter, calmer and more optimistic as the minutes went by.