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I don't have a reason. I always knew I wanted kids. I met my DH and he wanted more as well. He already had a son from his first marriage. Our son was a honeymoon suprise, this one was planned and then put off due to my deployment and she is a deployment baby :) conceived just a few weeks after I returned.

My first son was planned. I wanted him and loved him the moment I found out he was coming. This one was surprise but I also loved him from the moment I found out. They are apart of me that's the only explanation I have.

We were trying. we had been married for 1.5 years so felt we had enough time for our relationship to build and we wanted children. 2012 was a good yr to start. DH was completing his MBA and we felt emotionally and financially ready. Though I have 4 more classes to take in my masters, DH is done. I work and go part time, so just will take one class a quarter which is one night a week. DH will be home with baby. it would be Nice to be done also but waiting anther year was too long. And we have learned nothing is promised. I have family and friends who are out of work and we know no job is safe now. Next year or next five to ten years, there will always be things we can't control. But planning a baby and school hours we feel we have some influence. Waiting for a stable economy, we don't control. So while we both are blessed to be working and are healthy and still slightly young but not 20s, early 30 we went for it!

My dd started asking for a sibling about the time I started to get the itch to try again. Dh was opposed at first, but we sat down and discussed his concerns and took a good, long look at our family dynamic. Eventually we all agreed that we wanted to be at least a two-child household. Some things that played in to our decision were: the pros/cons of raising an only child, our dd's personality (she is extremely extroverted and social and we thought she would be happier with a consummate non-adult playmate), our personalities, future life changes (possibility of frequent moves, we thought more children would create more stability and support during changing times), dd's experience as we age, the importance of family in our lives, our current and future financial situation, and (this one was a big deal to dh lol) the number of players needed for most board games/family activities.

Both of our children were planned. We don't have trouble conceiving per say, but it seems like we definitely have to try. We are both pretty analytical and calculating too, so it took a couple months of discussion before we were in agreement. It was really nice, though, to be on the same page and excited to "try" for #2 and excited to get our bfp. By the time this LO arrives, we will have been planning for his arrival for a solid year and hopefully we will be as ready as possible to welcome him.

of all my life aspirations, i have always said that the one thing i had to do and was meant to do was be a mother. i was told i would not be able to conceive naturally after age 30 and that thought has tortured me for 8+ years as i struggled to find a worthy man and get to the point where we agreed to and could afford infertility treatments. as it turns out, i found the man of my dreams AND got pregnant with a surprise baby at 31. she wasn't planned per se, but she's all i've ever wanted!

This baby was planned, but took 8 months to conceive. I had just booked an appointment with a fertility specialist when we found out I was pregnant! We always knew we wanted to wait awhile to have kids, as we wanted time just for our marriage. And then it took me 3 years to finish grad school, so then we had to wait for that to be over. So our 4 year anniversary is in September and the baby's due December 14th. For us it was the right decision to wait, so we had time just for us and also because we're much better off financially than we were 4 years ago.