There wasn't any subtext, but I don't understand your last paragraph anyway.

You split it however you want; you said it was 90/10 because you suck at basic household stuff, which seems somewhat one-sided when most tasks involve running a sponge/brush/water over things or moving things from one place to another - if that's not actually the case then whatever, I can only react to what you say.

She said it's more like 50%. I exaggerate due to a guilt complex as I get depressed.

If I'm disabled enough to get the enhanced rate of personal independence payment and qualify for social care, not sure what else there is to say. I depend on my partner and I love her, not sure if there's anything wrong with simply acknowledging that and having a pop at myself.

In response to what you say, sure I'll run a sponge over the sinks, worktop, sweep, wash dishes whenever I can, clean up after myself. You maybe need to understand concept of good days and bad days. You're not incapable of doing this or that 100% of the time with a disability (or a few), it can vary dramatically day to day. If you are lucky enough to have a partner that can help at those times, that makes that person amazing, it doesn't necessarily make the person who struggles a banana split.

Fwiw this past few weeks I haven't even been able to even see straight, gooseberry fool looks like it's wobbling around according to my frontal lobes and my legs start wobbling for no reason while trying to work, with energy comparable to all time lows. Comparing that to household chores in the context of whatever someone is normally capable of is not really thinking about how basic skills (yes, even moving a sponge across a surface) are impacted by disorder or disarranged organs/bodily funcitions.

@Ben: I think you mentioned having some motor difficulties before, but I didn't know they were bad enough you struggle with a cup of tea sometimes. Sorry to hear that! Makes your precise work on your art all the more impressive though.

Not only that, I'll randomly spaz out and flail stuff across the room. I get ticks and spasms as well.

I like my brain. It does some things of value but gets in the way of, if I may reclaim the phrase, 90% of all tasks, never mind cleaning ones.

If you want to look more into the descriptors for things like disabled living allowance / pip, feel free to check the qualifiers here: https://www.gov.uk/pip/eligibility. It's pretty basic stuff. Thanks for wanting to qualify more about me!

Cool, what you've just seen is an example of treasuring what your partner does to help you to a degree that (a) you greatly exaggerate what you do commensurate with just how much you value that help emotionally, regardless of what that actually entails, or (b) you don't recognise your own strengths and abilities or value yourself to a degree that (a) emotionally supersedes (b).

Both can be implicated in two different emotional conditions, 1. Major depression, 2. Love.

I'm a sensitive guy with a lot of self-doubt issues, and I write impermeable English. I know my faults, no problem, let's move on.

What I meant was some people love someone else enough that they endlessly feel guilty about not doing more, even if they can't. Not making more money, doing more housework, getting more gifts all that stuff.

Grumpy David wrote:Found out today that I'm being furloughed along with the vast majority of my team.

Work is topping up the difference so I'm on 100% basic salary so that's decent of them although probably about 45% of my total earnings comes from commission and overtime, thankfully my outgoings are easily covered by the basic salary and I've got a healthy emergency savings fund built up too.

Hopefully this nightmare ends sooner than I fear it could go on for, I'm not stressed currently but I'll certainly start to worry by the end of June.

I thought they were factoring in commission using some sort of average from the last X amount of months?

I'm still going into work as normal. I'm a maintenance engineer in a central London office building so it's very odd at the moment.

Also, first post in god knows how many years! So, err, hi!

Blast from the Halo 2 past days along with Chazmeister!

Yes, I think the government policy did change to include regular bonus, overtime and commission however as the cap is £2500 pre tax per month and my basic already exceeds this amount then I'm not covered for the overtime or commission. I'm just happy that they're covering the shortfall between the 2.5k and my actual pre tax salary.

robert77wade wrote:I am working from Home. Initially, I thought it would be fun and relaxing but just a month later I realized how wrong I was.

I hope that when this is all over companies give people to work WFH or go back to the office as like you not everyone is happy with staying at home and prefer the feeling of having a separate place of work.

It would be cheaper for employers to finance grants for setting up a home office than to pay for office square footage, I agree a choice is ideal. There are psychological implications for many people, myself I have 3 seperate workplaces.

Green Gecko wrote:It would be cheaper for employers to finance grants for setting up a home office than to pay for office square footage, I agree a choice is ideal. There are psychological implications for many people, myself I have 3 seperate workplaces.

My employer would have to buy me a house if they want me to have a home office.

Well, I mean if someone has a space that's suitable already but doesn't have things like a proper chair and monitor

To be fair, a self employed person can and should claim a % of their household expenses. An employer could do that too.

Of course I never expect such a scheme to exist. But I find the idea of business evaluating the cost of commercial property lets quite interesting.

Unfortunately I fear that instead they will look at how many hours staff are doing, and how many they can do from home without incurring other expenses, resulting in effective pay cuts for a lot of people.

I have been told that I'm being unfurloughed (is that a word) and back into work Monday. Not sure how I feel yet but it's got to happen at some point I just hope the construction sites aren't busy and this is what I been told by colleague that has been working all the way through this pandemic. At least I'll be driving into London and out on my own so no public transport.