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Disappointed in Trey

March 13, 2012

I can honestly say that I have always been extremely proud of Trey Songz but yesterday he truly and deeply hurt me.

He took a DM that someone sent to him about how upset they were about not getting acknowledged after the poster they made for him, and he tweeted it out and included "#Entitlement" to that tweet. I did not send him that DM...I repeat...I DID NOT SEND HIM THAT DM; however, I know the person who did. She is an extremely sweet person, and she goes soooooo hard for Trey. She was in tears all day after Trey outted her and then unfollowed her. On top of that, she was receiving nasty tweets from it.

I DM'd Trey to tell him that she didn't mean any harm, that she loves him, that we all do, and to please give her another chance. I guess Trey didn't appreciate me DM'ing him about her - guess he was really pissed at her, so he unfollowed me too.

Now I know it's just a follow - it doesn't pay my bills on anything like that, but it was special. It meant a lot to me. The fact that I was the 800 & something person that he followed back in 2010 was extremely special. I was in his top 1000 people that he followed. Additionally, I worked hard for that follow. I stood from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. in stillettos getting emails from people so we can send them emails to become a Trey's Angel. I can never get that back...soley because I wanted to help another Angel.

I went from being hurt to angry with Trey. Angry because he didn't DM me back and say, "Stay out of it." Instead he just unfollowed me...with no explanation. The other thing that bothered me is that this was a fan that was upset about something, rather he agreed or not, she was still a fan...rocking w/ him since 2005 and taking the time to create a poster for him. She loved him and he made her cry all day on her birthday. He should've DM'd her about it...not put it on Twitter to have other Angels attacking her. Then to not be receptive to criticism (which is what she supplied in her DM) was just wrong. If you can't take criticism from the ones who love you...who can you take it from? Then to unfollow me...an Angel with a HEART...was so disappointing. I solely wanted to help another Angel & let him know she meant no harm. Why was my punishment an unfollow that I worked so hard for. I don't understand and I am extremely hurt by Trey. I am still a fan, I will always be and I convinced her to forgive him as well. I'm in the situation so it's a lot more sensitive to me...maybe I'm wrong. What do you think?

I can honestly say that I have always been extremely proud of Trey Songz but yesterday he truly and deeply hurt me.

He took a DM that someone sent to him about how upset they were about not getting acknowledged after the poster they made for him, and he tweeted it out and included "#Entitlement" to that tweet. I did not send him that DM...I repeat...I DID NOT SEND HIM THAT DM; however, I know the person who did. She is an extremely sweet person, and she goes soooooo hard for Trey. She was in tears all day after Trey outted her and then unfollowed her. On top of that, she was receiving nasty tweets from it.

I DM'd Trey to tell him that she didn't mean any harm, that she loves him, that we all do, and to please give her another chance. I guess Trey didn't appreciate me DM'ing him about her - guess he was really pissed at her, so he unfollowed me too.

Now I know it's just a follow - it doesn't pay my bills on anything like that, but it was special. It meant a lot to me. The fact that I was the 800 & something person that he followed back in 2010 was extremely special. I was in his top 1000 people that he followed. Additionally, I worked hard for that follow. I stood from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. in stillettos getting emails from people so we can send them emails to become a Trey's Angel. I can never get that back...soley because I wanted to help another Angel.

I went from being hurt to angry with Trey. Angry because he didn't DM me back and say, "Stay out of it." Instead he just unfollowed me...with no explanation. The other thing that bothered me is that this was a fan that was upset about something, rather he agreed or not, she was still a fan...rocking w/ him since 2005 and taking the time to create a poster for him. She loved him and he made her cry all day on her birthday. He should've DM'd her about it...not put it on Twitter to have other Angels attacking her. Then to not be receptive to criticism (which is what she supplied in her DM) was just wrong. If you can't take criticism from the ones who love you...who can you take it from? Then to unfollow me...an Angel with a HEART...was so disappointing. I solely wanted to help another Angel & let him know she meant no harm. Why was my punishment an unfollow that I worked so hard for. I don't understand and I am extremely hurt by Trey. I am still a fan, I will always be and I convinced her to forgive him as well. I'm in the situation so it's a lot more sensitive to me...maybe I'm wrong. What do you think?

@Sis - yes I was thinking that he might've gotten several messages that day. A bunch of people were upset about that last concert. Others had mentioned that Trey showed them no love and many of them were venting about it on Twitter. So if all those people DM'd him, along with her about it...quite naturally he was probably pissed. According to some of the tweets I read, Trey didn't acknowledge his Angels. I saw at least 4 tweets about this so I don't know - maybe they were all DMing him about it. He got fed up, but as an artist you have to be able to take criticism, especially from the people who love you. I will chalk it up to a bad day that I hope we have a chance to repair.

i dont think ur wrong u were just trying to help a friend because i know i was trying to help her also by takin pics while she held her sign up. i wanted him to see her sign also and i didnt even know her until the show. all in all i dont think u should have been punished for helpin a friend on her birthday.

I know that one is a persona and the other is a regular person, but Tremaine wanted to become Trey Songz. By now, he should be used to the way things work concerning his fans. We love Trey Songz and we only feel closer to him if we think he's giving us a piece of Tremaine as well. He knows how special we feel when he gives us the slightest nod and he claims to appreciate us for all that we do. To unfollow a person for ruffling his feathers, I don't know. 

Theres no filter with Trey he will keep it real with you. Hes known to get his fans in check. I think Trey Songz and Tremaine are intertwined.

Remember, he's not innocent in that manner either. When he said something to another celeb (as a FAN) and that person didn't like it, we all stood up and supported him. A lot of people went at him hard for that too. But his Angels stood up for him.
Maybe I am judging now, but to unfollow someone is to cut off a direct connection to him. It's like he's saying that he doesn't care if he loses a fan or two. I understand that he can't cater to his fans' feelings, but he should realize that we do have feelings too and our feelings carry him a long way.

You are right many of his fans did stand behind him when he made those comments. I agree the unfollow does cause disconnection. I agree with what you said but we have to be mindful of what his mental state was when he started unfollowing people.

@Sis You know me I try to rationalize the situation. I just dont understand why he would take offense to what you and your friend said. Ive seen him get similar tweets and his response is usually a lot different. He tends to responded to tweets like that in a kinder way. Im gathering he might have had a not so great moment. We never know if he read some hurtful tweets prior to reading your friends tweet. And as you stated it might have been something in her message that made him reach his limit. Instead of internalizing it he took it out on some of his true fans. I think talking to him at the next VIP gathering would be a great idea. God willing his mind will be in a different place and he will follow you and your friend back. It isnt cool to unfollow people all randomly like that. It should be a real reason to unfollow. Even though he temporarily unfollowed you I would still consider myself in the top 1000. I think its great that you and your friend continue to be fans of Trey even with this situation. I think its a good idea she going to write him a letter too.

When I saw that he had RT tha, I also thought he was showing love, u knw, like my bad. But now that I know he outed her n then unfollowed her, like OMG Tremaine. All I could say is he must have been really havin a bad day n wasn't for the bs. He had to be cuz the fact that he put her on blast, unfollowed u n her is cray! I don't think she should have sent Trey that DM at all. I know she made the poster to get his attention, but that didn't mean she was goin to get it. He may have felt like she was being ungrateful because the fact that he went n had this tour for a mixtape shows his love for us. Then she doesn't enjoy the show because all she was looking for was a s/o, I'm sorry but to me it seems like he probably felt like her intentions were all in the wrong place. I'm not sayin he was right or wrong for what he did but I'm speakin off how I felt when I read that message n he may have felt that same way.

Again I'm not sayin how he handled the situation was right or wrong. Obviously that message upset him n it may have even hurt his feelings that he gave his all on tha stage for us n that was the thanks that he got. *Trey shrug*

At the end of the day he was upset about it n he handled the situation in his moment of anger. That's why we have to be careful of what we say to Trey n each other. I know us , Angels go hard for Trey but we have to remember Trey goes hard for us as well! N if he is giving us his all on that stage n then he see sum ish like that, especially from a fan, it can be very hurtful. We too have to be considerate of Treys feelings as well! But that's just my opinion.

@Humbleheart Thank you honey! That was very sweet of you to say. The young lady is starting to heal and plans to apologize to Trey.

@Essence - my mind went through all of that - that he didn't care about losing a fan or two here and there because he had made it already. I tell you I went from hurt to being extremely mad and almost unfollowed him. Then I calmed down and realized I could never stop listening to his music or appreciating him for his creative work. I calmed down a little more and reminded myself that he was human and that every encounter I have had with him and I've met him several times - he has always been gracious and approachable. I'm not going to hold one negative incident against him. Yes I wish he would've done things differently, but all I can do is forgive him for his moment of bad judgment...I know I've been there and I wanted mercy too. I'm granting him that but he is gone have to make it up to me. I'm gonna need 3 kisses (on the cheek), a piggyback ride, and we gone play hide n' seek. LMAO

@Sis - I was thinking the same thing that he may not have been sober when he did it. I also thought it was so uncharacteristic of him, but maybe he had reached his limit that day. I have no idea but I plan to do VIP for Chapter V and talk to him about it then...just to simply let him know how much that hurt. Unfollowing people all willy nilly ain't cool...especially the way my mind works regarding that follow. He can unfollow someone else and then follow them back months later & they may be okay with it but he took away my position in his follows. Being in the top 1000 was precious to me. I can't get that back now. Plus what I did to get that follow...it was after collecting emails for him. But I am getting over it & you know I'll always be a fan. I still love him. Regarding the young lady that DM'd him, she plans to write an apology letter to him. I thought that was a good idea. She definitely still loves & supports him.

At first I was happy, all screaming and what not. Then I looked at his face and he was looking dead at the screen. I got a little scared like I thought he was looking dead at me. Then he read another girl's comment and did the same thing. Then I asked him a question and he read the question with such sarcasm in his tone. I'm telling you, my heart started beating faster and I just felt like he caught me doing something bad.
For the next few days I didn't tweet anything on twitter. A friend of mine had to really convince me that whether Trey saw my tweets or not, out of his thousands (at that time) of followers, he's really paying attention to me?
Eventually, I got over my feelings and continued my love affair (in my mind) with Trey. He's still number one to me.
I wonder though, why is it that when Trey is being all sweet to his fans, all is good with him as Trey Songz, but when he gets real and shows us a different side, that's supposed to be him being Tremaine Neverson.
I know that one is a persona and the other is a regular person, but Tremaine wanted to become Trey Songz. By now, he should be used to the way things work concerning his fans. We love Trey Songz and we only feel closer to him if we think he's giving us a piece of Tremaine as well. He knows how special we feel when he gives us the slightest nod and he claims to appreciate us for all that we do. To unfollow a person for ruffling his feathers, I don't know.
Remember, he's not innocent in that manner either. When he said something to another celeb (as a FAN) and that person didn't like it, we all stood up and supported him. A lot of people went at him hard for that too. But his Angels stood up for him.
Maybe I am judging now, but to unfollow someone is to cut off a direct connection to him. It's like he's saying that he doesn't care if he loses a fan or two. I understand that he can't cater to his fans' feelings, but he should realize that we do have feelings too and our feelings carry him a long way.

WOW!! I'm so sorry he unfollowed you and the other Angel. That is a very harsh punishment. I admire you for forgiving him. When I read the tweet the other day, I thought that Trey sent it out to say that he was acknowledging the girl at that moment, and I didn't think he had meant her any harm. I also didn't know that the tweet from the girl was a DM. Now looking at the situation, I feel shocked that he would unfollow you two. He just got finished doing those tours and giving all of that charity to his fans because he cares so much. Now this? I don't understand. I'm not judging him because I don't know him personally and I don't know how he takes certain criticisms, but I'm just surprised to see that he'd unfollow you just like that.
Trey doesn't follow me, and I don't know if he ever will, but I'm so sensitive, I feel funny when non celebs unfollow me on twitter, whether I know them or not. I'm just saying that I can imagine how hurt you were when it happened from Trey. Glad to know that the pain is fading.
I kind of know what it feels like to catch Trey's anger. When twitter first came out, a group of us followed Trey and we tweeted all kinds of stuff about him. Nothing was off limits, so the conversations led into his private life. Yeah, we hated on the chicks we thought he was involved with. I guess we didn't realize that everybody you mention on twitter can find your tweets about them, so this one girl began to put out tweets denying her involvement with Trey, that must have got him mad because he started tweeting out comments about 'haters' and people who need to mind their business about his private life.
Then, like the next day Troy Taylor did a Ustream and me and the other tweeters continued our conversation in there. Now y'all know lurking is a bitch! Trey came into the room where Troy was doing the class and he looked MAD! He started reading the screen and saying certain comments out loud and I remember this because he said one of my comments.

By the way, no I don't agree with the DM that was sent to him. It definitely could've been reworded or not sent at all, but she is young and didn't know any better. I certainly know Trey can't respond to everything from his fans...she now knows that as well. I just believe the punishment of putting it on Twitter and unfollowing her was too harsh. He didn't mention her name, but by her being young and not knowing any better, she told on herself which resulted in many hate tweets. That's a lot for a young girl to bear...especially on her birthday. She spent her entire birthday crying...Trey underestimates the power he has on others. I'm no where near over the top when it comes to Trey, but even I was hurt. I know he's human and he makes mistakes, which is why I certainly forgive him and I convinced her to do the same...human or not, it doesn't make it hurt any less.

It is a lot for a young person, heck its a lot for anyone and Im sorry she has to go through that. Im not sure if he underestimates his power on people, but he does have a powerful influence. Honestly Im glad you two have forgiven him. He might be having one of his moments were something isnt going right in his life.

Wow! Thats crazy sis. I know people like to get their recognition at his shows but that isnt always possible. It isnt possible for him to see and shout out everyone. I didnt realize that was a dm sent to him. I thought it was apart of his mentions or timeline. I wish he used better judgment before he posted her comment. I wonder if he was sober when he did it. I think its very childish for people to send people nasty tweets.

Im not trying to defend him but I find it awfully strange that he would take offense to what you did. All you were trying to do is set the record straight. It is disappointing. You did work hard to get your follow and I hope in due time when Trey is in a better mindset he will follow you back. Even though I dont know Trey personally it just seems uncharacteristic. He usually puts those that are attacking him on blast. I pray this situation works itself out because I know for sure you are one of the loyal and dedicated fans.

@tricia i understand hun i hope he follows u back tho its crazy but u can see how much of a good person u are trying to help and u also go hard for trey but give him time im sure he will come around and true some fans expect so high of him i mean u can be they must not get so caught up too much remember trey is only one person and i believe if you're a true fan u wont do or say certain things like pass bad remarks hate etc about someone who u say ur a fan of rem they celebs they stay busy y u think they cherish they fans soo much cause when they get a change with us they make tha best of it i know trey didn't mean no hard he just got caught up as well and i hope others don't look at a trey as a bad person b|c hes realli now but i hope u call can re unite @tricia

@Miss Trey Songz Oh honey I understand exactly what you're saying. I know you meant it generally, I was just saying I personally would never expect him to acknowledge everything - I don't know why so many other people expect it. He is only one man. I think he does a great job of showing us love. He shows he appreciates us more than some other artists.

@TreysNewestAngel1 You are absolutely right. He may feel bad about it and has no way of reaching out to us. It's not as though he can tweet, "who are the girls I unfollowed again?" His mentions would fill up with everyone who wants a follow. LOL Part of me thinks that he didn't even read my DM - I think he was just so mad at the situation with the other girl that he just started unfollowing anyone who DM'd him about it. He unfollowed several people that day. With time everything begins to heal. I feel better than I did yesterday. No tears about it today. :-)

@tricia don't get me wrong ok i never said u was expecting him to answer everything we say i was just sayin fans in general need to understand themselves too trey is human just like us he has feelings too just like us fans he ain't gonna respond ro everything but he sees it things never had to be dealt with like this cause its a simple matter not takin sides i am just saying

I'm sooooo sorry this happened to you two ladies. You did the best thing by forgiving him. I know that it will take some time to forget, but whose to say that at the time he wasn't going through something and then seeing this DM made it worst?! Alot of times, we let our personal feelings get in the way of situations that absolutely has nothing to do with what we are going through. Just keep going hard for Trey. Whose to say he doesn't feel bad about what he has done, and is just waiting for the right time to say something. To others he was wrong, but noone knows where his mind and heart is right now about this situation.

@MekaLoves - Thank you for your kinds words. Yes, I will always love Trey. He is still my favorite artist no matter what. I go very hard for him along with many others, so I don't expect anything from Trey but respect. I always felt like I got that from him until this. I'm not holding it against him - I understand he is human. I just wish he would've thought about it more and not let his anger dictate his actions throughout the day, especially since his actions have a powerful effect. He's loved and admired and that won't change.

@Miss Trey Songz - I would never expect Trey to acknowledge everything a fan does for him. Again, it was solely the immaturity from the person who DM'd him and expected that from him. Nonetheless, she does love him and goes hard for him as well...even harder than I do. Even though she was wrong, she still meant no harm.

@Sis - What you said is the main reason why I forgive Trey - I know he doesn't know me or her individually; therefore, he doesn't know our intentions. He's been getting some negative slack so he took her comments harshly. I just think back on the chick that wished his plane would crash. He DM'd her and asked her why would she say that. She apologized and he forgave her. He didn't unfollow or block her. Now a fan that is upset about not getting acknowledged gets unfollowed, and one trying to defend an Angel that meant no harm got unfollowed. It just doesn't add up. Trey was in his feelings that day & I get he was having a bad day. It's understandable. I just hate that I can never get back what I had. It can be repaired like a car in a major accident, but it won't run like new again. He may refollow me someday but it won't be the same as the original follow. Regardless, I love him unconditionally.

Wow sis! This post actually surprised me. I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you do at all. I see both sides of this though. In my opinion I do think Trey should have kept that DM private since she made it for his eyes only. He should've just responded back to her the same way. I saw that tweet that he put out there from her...I have to say she did go hard on him but she was expressing how she felt. You can't fault no one for that. Like you said she's young and was hurt which is understandable. I think at the same time we all tend to think we know Trey and we don't. You have to be careful as well about what you put out there. You don't know how he's going to respond to it, so be prepared either way.

Speaking generally the thing we all have to keep in mind is that Trey doesn't really know any of us. He deals with hate and negativity all the time. Everyone doesn't have his back. We as his fans also do expect a lot from him. Who knows where his head was when he read that. He also is only one person who can't see everything and know how we each individually go hard for him.

I'm not making any excuses for his actions because I do think they were a bit harsh. And as a fan I would be hurt too, because I know my intentions, but he doesn't. Therefore he handled it the way he handled it. I think things should've been handled differently, but again this is just my opinion. Should he have un-followed you? No. You were only trying to help a fellow Angel out who was very upset about the outcome of her actions. This was her fight...not yours. I'm so sorry things turned out this way for her and I'm really sorry that you ended up being affected by it too. MY THOUGHTS!

Sigh i don't even know what to i feel you're pain tho and we all have feelings so u have a right to express you're self but sometime fans need to understand themselves too we may not get a respond from trey in a tweet poster or dm but at tha end of tha day im sure he sees it just take it easi ma but tha unfollow wow i would be mad b|c u go so hard for him and i know tha follow meant alot thats tha same way i feel i cherish tha follow but lets see what happens further down tha line last comment trey should have at least dm u back or say something it hurts even more how he just unfollowed u and not say nun i know how u feel

By the way, no I don't agree with the DM that was sent to him. It definitely could've been reworded or not sent at all, but she is young and didn't know any better. I certainly know Trey can't respond to everything from his fans...she now knows that as well. I just believe the punishment of putting it on Twitter and unfollowing her was too harsh. He didn't mention her name, but by her being young and not knowing any better, she told on herself which resulted in many hate tweets. That's a lot for a young girl to bear...especially on her birthday. She spent her entire birthday crying...Trey underestimates the power he has on others. I'm no where near over the top when it comes to Trey, but even I was hurt. I know he's human and he makes mistakes, which is why I certainly forgive him and I convinced her to do the same...human or not, it doesn't make it hurt any less.

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