On
Gender
Politics

Misandry: Female Sexism
Last week I described the recent urban legend of the
Rule of Thumb. The fact its opposite is true (it
has never been legal nor even acceptable for a man to beat
his wife; men have always found their identity in
protection) suggests it is an intentional smear against
men.

The fact women commit as much or more domestic violence
as men makes the last three decades of gender-focused
domestic violence campaigns equally a gender-hate crime.
Violence has never been gender-specific, but domestic
violence has been politicized as a weapon for gender
wars.

Consider the mythical deadbeat dad. The emotion used to
justify persecution of every divorced father is that 34% of
single mothers (and, hence, their children) live in poverty.
The assumption is that all those fathers live on the Rivera
and all we must do is force them to pay. It is a similar
smear. In truth, if every one of those mothers married the
father of their children, just as many children would still
be just as poor. If 34% of single mothers are poor, what do
you suppose about the fathers?

But our child support enforcement policy is,
inability to pay is no excuse (men cant
possibly be poor or deserve compassion), and since 1986 it
has not even been possible to reduce arrearage when new
evidence comes to light, even having been in a comma.

Child support is used as another opportunity to blame men
for any plight, but this one nicely dove-tales with those
who want to blame poverty on the poor. Or at least on poor
men, not women.

These social campaigns are mass vilifications along
strictly gender

lines. For all men they create what feminist like to call
a hostile environment when done to them. If its wrong
done to women, what makes it right done to men?

In response to the recent spat of trials of adult women
discovered having sex with underaged boys, Chicago Tribune
columnists Eric Zorn and Mary Schmich wrote that this should
not be a crime. It should be a crime when men have sex with
underaged girls, but when women do the same thing the boys
should be punished because they should know better. An adult
women should not, she is just having a
relationship.

This is another expression of, All women are
caring, all men are predators. If there was sexism
before the 1970s, its nothing to what we have now.

Jean Bonhomme is a male black doctor in Georgia who grew
up in 1960s Atlanta. In a recent article about the buttons
teen girls are now wearing (All boys are stupid,
Boys are great, everyone should own one.), he
says, It does not appear to me that discrimination is
being eliminated, but merely shifted from one group to
another.

Since the Industrial Revolution annihilated any distinct
female identity, it is understandable for women to seek new
ways to distinguish themselves as women. But when self pride
can only come at the expense of pride and justice for others
 when its only source is projecting ones
own evil onto others in a superiority game; when rights for
women can only come at the expense of any for men  it
is not pride but prejudice. It is not assertive but
defensive, and not social progress but regression.

There have been social changes during my lifetime. There
has been no social *progress* nor movement for gender
equality. Not if equality means equal dignity and respect
for all.

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To nourish children and raise them against odds is in any
time, any place, more valuable than to fix bolts in cars or
design nuclear weapons. - Marilyn French

K.C.
Wilson is a social commentator and author of
Where's
Daddy? The Mythologies Behind
Custody-Access-Support,
and the e-books: Male Nurturing,
Co-parenting for Everyone, The Multiple
Scandals of Child Support, and Delusions of
Violence: The Secrets Behind Domestic Violence
Myths. For his personal life, he prefers
anonymity. He writes as a nobody, for he is not
your ordinary divorce expert with the usual
credentials. He is not a lawyer or psychologist, he
is not now nor has he ever been a member of the
Divorce Industry. K.C. is simply a thinker and
researcher, for the issues are not legal, but
human, social and common to all. When change is
indicated, should we turn to those that the very
status quo which is to be questioned has promoted
to "expert?" Society's structures are up to
society, not a select few. So his writing is for
and about you, the ordinary person. K.C. prefers to
be known as simply one himself, and that is how he
writes. Find out more at wheres-daddy.com