It is their loss to lose such a great person like you. And it is not your loss. You will find someone better than them. So there is no need to feel down about your situation. This is the first thing you should understand when it comes to learning how to get over someone who broke your heart.

Learn how to deal with rejections –

Whenever you get rejected, your own flaws come to the surface and these will make you feel bad about yourself.

We all have our own flaws. And when we get rejected, we become conscious about those flaws. Then we assume that we were rejected because of those flaws, and it hurts us badly.

For example, a girl who feels that her nose is rather big becomes obsessive and distressed about her nose whenever she is rejected.

In other words, she thinks that she gets rejection because of her big nose.

She is actually not hurt by rejection itself, instead she is worried by the flaw she connected with the rejection.

Something very similar happens to you, too.

You are not hurt by being rejected. Instead, you are bothered by your own flaws.

Do you think you were rejected because you don’t have long hair, because you’re not that good looking, or because you’re just plain ugly? Do you think they left because you don’t have a car, enough money, or whatever else?

That’s not the case. Rejection cannot bother you unless you associate your own flaws with it.

Accept the change –

We human tend to deny the change. We do it by nature. Do you know why?

It is because every change brings uncertainty. And we are always fearful about uncertainty of future.

It is also interesting to know that you already knew that you were not getting any happiness from the relationship, yet you didn’t want to lose that relationship because you hated uncertainty about the future.

Moreover, if any big changes happen in your life, you will always want to oppose the change because if you accept the change then you have to change yourself, too.

People always want to stay in their comfort zone. When they face any change, they have to get themselves out from their comfort zone.

So the thing you need to understand is to accept the change. Be open for the new reality of your life. Remember the ‘Survival of the Fittest’ theory of Charles Darwin.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”

About The Author

Alex J. Stevenson isn't a PhD holder on psychology. However, he better understand how to use psychology in real life to forget an ex and feel good.
By doing so, he has helped thousands of men and women to get over their exes (see praise here).
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