How to Get a Girl to Text Back Without Being Overly Annoying

Knowing how to get a girl to text back without annoying the crap out of her isn’t exactly common knowledge. Here’s how to strike up a conversation.

Girls are a little picky. If you don’t make your conversation seem urgent or interesting, she’ll probably pass on texting you back. You may even annoy her to the point where she doesn’t want to text you back at all. Learning how to get a girl to text back is more about making her interested in you than anything else.

If she likes you, she’ll be bound to text back. But it’s not exactly that easy. Women are fairly complicated when it comes to texting. We take it really seriously. This can be bad for you if you think a simple, “hey,” will be enough to get her to text back.

Women want effort from men

In order to figure out how to get a girl to text you back, you have to be willing to put forth the effort. She won’t want to start anything with you if you won’t even try to get her attention over a text.

The way a guy treats a woman when she’s not around says a lot more about how he’d treat her in a relationship than anything else. Do you prioritize her? Do you make her feel cared for? It’s all about putting in an effort and showing her that you want to work for her. [Read: 20 ways to make your girlfriend incredibly happy]

How to get a girl to text you back without hounding her about it

In order to figure out how to get a girl to text you back, you’ll need some help. It’s probably a lot more complicated than you ever though but don’t worry, we’re here to help.

#1 Don’t send too many. Sending text after text after text will do nothing good for you. In fact, it’ll make things a lot worse. No girl wants to be bothered over and over again. And if she’s busy, you’ll look even worse.

#2 Wait for her to text you. If you really want to know how to get a girl to text you back, just wait for her to text you. That’s assuming she has your number, however. When she texts you first, it just shows how much she wants to talk to you.

You can even push her to text you a little by tagging her in something funny on social media. This way, she’ll text you about it and you won’t even have to do a thing to get her to text back. She’ll want to.

#3 Avoid being unoriginal. By that, I mean don’t just text her a, “hey, what’s up?” or anything like it. It doesn’t give her incentive to text you back. And if she’s busy, she definitely won’t respond to a simple, “hey.”

#4 Prompt her to answer with a question. If you want a girl to text you back, give her a reason to. Asking a question will really make her think about it and you’ll increase your odds of her texting back by a lot.

Don’t make it a dumb question though. The best thing you could do is to ask about something you talked about previously. For example, if you were talking about a band, pretend you don’t remember what it was and text her to clarify. She’s bound to answer. [Read: 6 subtle flirty questions you can ask your crush]

#5 Make her laugh. Girls respond to people who make them laugh. She’ll associate you with happiness if you make her smile and laugh a lot. And when a girl credits you with her happiness, she’ll want to talk to you.

So tell her a joke. Bonus points if you tell her a joke that begins with a question. Even if she knows it’s a set up for a joke, she’ll be curious enough to text you back to hear what it is.

#6 Mention something of interest to her. In order to get her attention, you have to make her care. You can easily do that by talking about something she’s interested in. This can be anything from a hobby of hers to a band you know she likes. Talking about something she cares about will engage her and get her to respond and it doesn’t make you seem annoying at all. [Read: How to keep a girl interested in 13 exciting ways]

#7 Talk about something fun you’re doing. Girls want to be included. If you’re having fun, she’ll want to be a part of that fun. So tell her about the fun you’re currently having. You’ll earn even more points if you mention how you wish she was there to enjoy what you currently are. It’ll make her curious and it’ll flatter her at the same time. Bonus!

#8 Avoid taking forever to text her back. If you’re trying to play hard to get, doing it via texting isn’t going to bode well for you. Girls really don’t like when guys take forever to text back. In most cases, they’ll want to make you wait just as long and sometimes, they’ll even refuse to text you back altogether. [Read: 12 reasons ignoring a girl won’t work]

#9 Don’t text her when you’re already busy. If you’re in the middle of a really busy day and you know you won’t be able to respond when you can, don’t text her. It’s not worth it to only give her a fraction of your attention. She’ll figure it out and she’ll be really irritated by it. Which means she won’t text you back.

#10 Show her your personality. Just be yourself. Show her your true colors. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to get her to text back. Just hold back if being your true self means sending a bunch of texts in a row. Be yourself and make a connection with her and she’ll text you back. [Read: 14 steps to love being you and unleash your true self]

#11 Talk about how good it was to see her last time. If the last time you saw her went well for you, tell her. It’s okay to express your feelings in this way. A simple text like, “Hey! Seeing you last night was great. Hope to do it again sometime,” will help you get that text back easily. [Read: 18 casual things to text a girl and leave her addicted to you]

#12 Stop while you’re ahead. This might sound contradictory but I promise it works great. If she does text you back and you have a great conversation going, stop while you’re ahead. Tell her you need to go but had fun talking to her.

This makes her crave conversation with you. If it went really well, she’ll want to talk to you again, which makes it a hell of a lot easier for you get her to text you back the next time.