Single John Responds: My Boyfriend Knows Nothing About Me!

Basically, my boyfriend doesn't know me that well. He thinks he does, but in reality, he's never bothered to ask about things like my religion, my relationship with my parents, the name of the book I'm writing, etc. We've had plenty of conversations where he could've easily inquired about these things but I get the sense that he just doesn't care. I don't want to force information on him. In contrast, he tells me LOTS of tales about his own life. I'm getting frustrated. I think I'm a fairly interesting person and I know he likes me a lot...but I'm starting to wonder what he's basing that on.

I tend to fall on the more-than-slightly-neurotic side of things when it comes to analyzing my relationships, but many of the emails I get focus much more on why "he won't return my texts" than whether they are getting what they want and need out of relationships. So emails like this make my heart sing.

(This is not to say that waiting on an expectant text is does not seem like a very big deal at the time, and isn't annoying as hell.)

I need to be honest here, I've definitely been involved in relationships where I was absolutely not interested in the other person's life. Like, I'm a good listener and can analyze problems and what not, but it was stuff I put up with, as opposed to actually wanting to hear about and help with. But these relationships never reached the stage of girlfriend/boyfriend. How could they?

If he actually adores you, he'll want to know what's going on with you. He probably just needs a hint, a sign, like a catcher gives a pitcher. This is an oversimplified version, but in conversation, after I ask a friend how they are doing, and they don't return the question, I'll say (jokingly, not passive aggressively) "Oh, well *I'm *fine."

But how into himself is this guy? Is this an indication of an underlying self-involvement, or just carelessness? Is that he actually doesn't care—that this is Oscar speech and you are just one of those pretty girls in the OK dresses who is there to show him which side of the stage to exit?