I feel like a jerk!

I’ve been so indecisive about rings and then the other day I told my SO I finally had found the one I loved, and loved it too! Well I found the setting and we decided to just order the setting and stone separately.

Then I got a message from the shop owner on etsy regarding their return policy that yes they have a thirty day return policy, but that you have to pay international shipping costs to have it shipped back to China. I freaked out (because apparently I’m convinced whatever ring he orders will arrived horribly deformed and awful) and I told him I was worried, and he kind of snapped at me and said I had told him I had made up my mind and that I needed to just let him take care of everything.

So I feel bad for being such a pain in the ass, but on a positive note I think that means he loves that ring and plans on ordering soon, OR HE ALREADY HAS!

I just feel like a jerk for being so difficult. Any other bees so indecisive that you probably drove your FH INSANE?!

Yeah, we actually went as far as purchasing a ring, and two-three weeks later I hated it. So then I was ringless until we found the one I have now. (: Poor SO handed the indecisive aspect pretty well. Now I want two wedding bands…

P.S. While I was writing this he was in the kitchen making me hot chocolate and just brought it in to me! He’s such a doll. I love him so much I told him I was sorry and to just buy whatever ring he wants as long as I get to marry him some day! Thank goodness he loves me, because I am a royal pain in the ass and I can’t imagine anyone else putting up with me the way he does!

I was the same way. I was horrible but he eventually stopped listeing to me and found a ring I absolutly LOVE! So just step back at tis point and know he will get you the ring you love and it will be perfect.

@alyssaC: Thanks. I really need to learn how to relinquish control. He’s done nothing but make me happy for three years, I should have faith in him, especially considering how much guidance I’ve given him through all of my changing my mind about little details. lol

It is a really hard decision to make… We went to four jewellers, where I tried on 40+ rings before deciding we could get the bits we liked from ring A and the shape of the diamond in ring B together with the band thickness of ring C online for a fraction of what it was going to cost to be custom made!

I’m waiting delivery from FedEx for my ring from James Allen based in NY. I’m in Australia… I’ve had three nightmares about the ring. The first one, I dreamt we’d picked a purple centre diamond by mistake. The second I dreamt it was way too tight, despite me sending in my ring size and the latest was last night. I dreamt it was exactly as it was online, but I hated it. Like really hated it.

@nattiejeanne: don’t worry, I’m the same! We’ve ordered 3 rings, returned two and got stuck with one we haven’t been able to return or sell yet. Despite all that, we’ve finally figured out what I want and he’s still happy to take me shopping this weekend to see if we can actually pick “the one”.

Thats why they want to marry us, because they get that we’re indecisive and they don’t mind 🙂

@Luce587: Haha, I have weird dreams about things, so I bet I’ll have some weird ring dreams eventually, and DEFINTIELY some weird wedding dreams!

@Splodge2003: Thanks! I’m sure you’re right, because he’s put up with me for this long and still seems to be really happy, so I must be doing something right. I just know how freaked out and worried he gets about things like this, and I don’t want to hurt his feelings or stress him out anymore.

Totally! The first time we went ring shopping, we found a ring I loved. The second time, we let the salesperson talk us into a similar style, similar price and available immediately as opposed to waiting 3+ weeks for the other one to be custom made. Since I wasn’t 100%, FI put a deposit on the other ring only to hold it. I couldn’t sleep that night because I was thinking about the rings and by morning I had a little meltdown because I knew the ring was all wrong! FI was very patient and took me back to the store so we could order the original ring I’d fallen in love with instead. Such a relief that it all turned out ok and now I have the ring I love!!