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Q&A: Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? (VIDEO)

This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: Rise UP with B. Dave Walters as well as did a video dedicated to the topic.

In the video below, I share with you:

Why good girls like *bad boys*
Girls: how to stop falling for JERKS
Guys: how to stop being called “too nice”
And more!

So here today, I’d like to talk about another aspect of this question: how long you should wait for someone to change.

The answer is: not long at all!

If you are getting into a relationship based on the belief that someone will change, like “he’d be perfect if he lost 20 lbs.,” or, “he’d be great if he could just make more money,” then you are in for problems.

Even though some change is inevitable, at the beginning of a relationship you have to ask yourself one very important question:

If this person doesn’t change AT ALL, not one tiny bit…could you be happy in a relationship with them?

If the answer is ‘no’, then don’t bother getting involved in the first place. The reason why this is, it makes your love highly conditional. We talked recently about how to find true and unconditional love, but the conditional type is much more common: if you only love someone based on what they might become, and not based on what they are *right now*, then you don’t really love them at all.

Let’s keep this short today so you have plenty of time to watch that video and listen to the radio broadcast. In addition to saying more about why good girls like bad boys, we also talk all about LOVE; Men, women, dating, marriage, breaking the victim mentality, some AWESOME music and much, much more.

Are you growing, or just growing older?“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor

How to feel happy, and be at peace“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
In my Coaching work, a question that comes up

How to motivate yourself…finally!“It's a New Year and with it comes a fresh opportunity to shape our world.
So this is my wish, a wish for me as much as it is a wish for you: in the world to come, let us be brave – let us walk into the dark without fear, and step into the unknown with smiles on our faces, even if we're fakin

Racism and the Law of Attraction (Video)“I love America more than any other country in the world, and, exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually.”
-James Baldwin
Question submitted via Formspring:

How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)
“Do not wait: the time will never be 'just right'. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.”
― Napoleon Hill
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About B. Dave Walters

You are great, and I love you!

B. Dave Walters is like a mix between Joel Osteen, Tony Robbins, and the Old Spice Guy.

He is the winner of the "Be the Next Beleifnet Featured Blogger" contest for Beliefnet.com in the Hope & Inspiration category.

He is also the host of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters on Party 93.4 FM out of Hudson Valley, New York, as well as a nationally syndicated columnist on the topics of spirituality and relationships for the Examiner.com.

He is the author of one book, "49 Lost Secrets of Peace, Love, and Money". Read More