Calabasas Matchmakers | 3 Signs He's Thinking of Breaking Up

When you’re in a relationship, the last thing you’re thinking about is if it’s ever going to come to an end. No one gets into a relationship expecting a breakup, and no one gets into a marriage expecting a divorce. Sometimes, we see it coming, how our relationship is going down south. Maybe one of you cheated, maybe your lives no longer mesh, or maybe you’ve simply grown apart. Either way, breakups are one of the hardest things we have to deal with, because love is a very heavy thing.

While we occasionally know when our relationship is almost at its end, sometimes we’re taken by surprise and dumped out of the blue. A moment ago, you were happy as ever, and now you are changing your relationship status from in a relationship to single, deleting text messages, and crying your eyes out.

Except, is it ever really that sudden? … Or are these things a long time coming, even if you didn’t notice them? The following relationship red flags will tell you he’s getting ready to spit. Although it’s a tough pill to swallow, it’s better than being blindsided by a breakup you never thought would come.

The opposite method of ghosting is starting fights for no reason. Some guys don’t want to totally disappear on their woman. So instead, they start fights for no reason. Now sometimes, this isn’t intentional. They’re not planning to argue with you. But because tensions are running very high and they’re wanting to break up anyways, everything somehow turns into a huge fight.

Putt his dress shirt in the dryer by accident and shrunk it? He’s angry. Forgot to buy milk for breakfast? He’s angry. Even the simplest conversations, like asking about his day, end in big screaming matches. Obviously all of this fighting and yelling isn’t healthy for either of you. Sounds like that breakup couldn’t come soon enough. If he’s waiting for you to pull the plug, save yourself some tears and do it now.

2. He Always Talks About Change

This is really a subtle sign he wants to break up. He’s not ghosting you and he’s not starting fights. But he is trying to give you hints. He’s doing it by talking about making changes.

For example, when you ask how his day at work went, he might tell you he’s actually thinking about quitting his job and starting new somewhere else where he’ll have to work overtime and the weekends. Or he might bring up the fact that he wants to take a new class in the afternoon. Or he’ll casually mention that he’s always wanted to do really long back-packing trips in the Amazon. Notice a theme here? He’s talking about major life changes and you are not included in any of them.

3. The PDAs Are Gone

When you first started dating each other, you were both into each other. Holding hands as you drive in the car, sneaking kisses at the movies, hugging each other at the end of the day and unable to keep your hands to yourself.

It’s normal not to be as touchy feely as you were in the early stages of your relationship. But if you went from normal levels of PDA to absolutely nothing at all, it may be a sign’s he’s on his way out the door. It’s only natural that he would be less affectionate and not want to be as physical as he used to be. If he has stopped holding your hand, giving you kisses and being caring, you need to step back and figure out why this is happening in your relationship.

If things are inevitably going to end, there’s no point in dragging them out. It’s best to cut your losses and move on so you can find someone who truly loves and cares about you.

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