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Heteroflexible

There’s an app called BRO that I think helps “heteroflexible” guys when they are looking for something same sex oriented. They word it a little differently in the article to which I’m linking, but this is what it sounds like to me.

First, here’s the definition of heteroflexible. I’m doing this because it’s all news to me. I always thought of this sort of thing as “in the closet.”

A primarily straight individual who, in certain situations can find persons of the same sex appealing.

Now here’s more about BRO…

“BRO goes beyond using labels, and is for men that are interested in meeting other men,” the description reads. “It’s as simple as that. Just sign up, and start looking for new bros!”

And this…

Jane Ward, whose bestselling book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men caused a media frenzy last summer, says BRO further supports her theory that straight-identifying men engage in homosexual behaviors a lot more often than people might think.

“This kind of product serves as more evidence that the labels ‘gay’ and ‘bisexual’ do not capture all of the ways that men want to make intimate contact with other men, whether emotionally or sexually,” Ward tells Queerty.

Interesting. I’m sticking with my resolution for 2016 and trying to remain objective this year.

Even though I despise the word shenanigans, I’m posting this about Ricky Martin because it talks more about “labels.”

“I know that I like both men and women,” Martin confessed. “I’m against sexual labels, we are simply human beings with emotional and sexual needs.”

Though he identifies as gay, Martin said he’s not totally opposed to the idea of having sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex.

“I am gay,” he said, “Men fascinate me. But I like to enjoy sex in total freedom, so I’m open to having sex with a woman if I feel desire.”

You can read more here. I love Ricky Martin, but as Judge Judy says, “don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining.”

Psychic Allegedly Denies Housing To Queer Couple

Here’s a story about a self-proclaimed psychic who allegedly refused housing to a queer couple.

When Tonya Smith and her wife Rachel, a trans woman, applied to rent a home from psychic Deepika Avanti in the town of Gold Hill (pop. 230), they were allegedly told in an email that their “unique relationship” would become a “town focus,” triggering gossip and blowing Avanti’s “low profile.”

“In small towns everyone talks and gossips,” the email read. “All of us would be the most popular subject in town. … There is no way to avoid this.”

The queer couple has filed a lawsuit against the psychic, and the psychic didn’t even know it until the media contacted her. The psychic claims the queer couple have children and she didn’t want the noisy kids living there.

To be honest I’m not totally sure who Wil Wheaton is but he has a lot of followers on Twitter and he wrote an eloquent blog post about writers not getting paid for content contributed to HuffPost…and publications like them. HuffPost isn’t the only one. These publications claim you’ll get “exposure” in exchange for your written works.

I absolutely agree with everything in Wheaton’s post, and I think I’ve even posted about this topic a while back.

I’m not talking about sharing a blog post or something you’ve written for smaller web sites or personal bloggers. If your good author friend has a small blog and you decide to write a blog post for them without getting paid I think that’s excellent. That’s called support. My blog is not for profit and I’ve had guest posts here (but not often) and I didn’t pay the authors either. I’ve also contributed to small blogs for free and I have no regrets.

But I think there’s a huge difference between contributing your written content for free to a small not for profit blogger as opposed to any huge multi-million dollar publication that can afford to pay you.

I’m not copying and pasting Wheaton’s content, but you can read the entire post here. The main point for me is that writers deserve to get paid for their hard work and their contributions. If you choose to do otherwise, that’s up to you.

“Heteroflexible”

It seems as if there’s a new PC term almost daily for yet another group that’s a little different. This time it’s “heteroflexible.” In my own lame attempt to define it, I think it’s about a straight guy with a girlfriend who wants to bring other men into their bedroom for sex…once in a while and only when he’s in the mood. But please don’t quote me on that. I know and understand as much about this as I do asexuals. Which is nothing at all.

This happened after he explained himself to the girlfriend…

She said that she was sorry that her reaction was a little harsh. She explained that she has zero problem with gays/bisexuals but that when it’s with her own partner it feels different. She agreed maybe it is close-minded but she said it’s an instinctive reaction. She said she is honestly not 100% comfortable with the idea, but that realistically it isn’t that big of a deal. She said she doesn’t truly understand the whole “it’s more about dick than being attracted to men” thing, but that she understands human sexuality is complex and believes me.

I don’t even know how to comment on this one. You can read the rest here. I do know for certain that as a gay man I wouldn’t be going near their bedroom any time soon. And I have zero problems with women/straights but it’s just not something that turns me on.

You’ll want to read the comments, trust me.

Boy George Sleeping With Prince?

This one is just too easy. The jokes could write themselves.

During the taping of some TV reality show, Boy George claimed he slept with Prince.

George boasted, “I have duetted with some of the greatest soul singers in history including Luther Vandross and Smokey Robinson,” prompting Paloma Faith to come back with, “Well OK, if we’re throwing big soul names out there I’ve performed with Prince.”

As it turns out, this is all clickbait. Boy George was joking around and talking about a poster of Prince in his bedroom. He didn’t actually sleep with Prince in a literal sense. So you can all take that proverbial sigh of relief now…especially Prince.

I could ask why do people do these things, but then I could also ask why do people watch reality TV shows.

Ryan Field is the author of over 100 published works of LGBT fiction, the best selling Virgin Billionaire series, a pg rated hetero romance that was featured on The Home Shopping Network titled, "Loving Daylight," and a few more works of full length fiction with a pen name. He's worked in publishing for twenty years as a writer, editor, and associate editor. His work has been in Lambda Award winning anthologies and he's self-published a few novels with Ryan Field Press. You can reach him by leaving a comment here, or at rfieldj@aol.com