The Costa Rica Connection

Two nights ago I met up with my friend Stefan for some deep dish pizza and travel stories. We had only hung out once prior, in Santa Elena, Costa Rica about two years ago. Santa Elena is the little town outside the popular Monteverde Cloud Forest Preserve. No, the guy in the photo above is not Stefan. I just decided to snap that photo of some random backpackers because it was so typical of our lives on the road – acoustic guitar, beer, hammock, and a pollo (chicken) joint across the street from the hostel.

So it was a little over two years ago that we hung out in the cloud forest, toured a cheese factory after an unsuccessful attempt to find a giant waterfall, and dined at that pollo place. Since then, we managed to e-mail each other the occasional update on our respective lives. Earlier this year, he sent me some of his experiences from India, which I promptly posted. And after his internship in Germany wrapped up, he bought a car in Philly, and swung through the Washington, DC area on his way back home to Phoenix, AZ.

Unfortunately, this experience was the exception, not the rule. Despite the best of intentions, I've found it rare that I'm able to connect with the guys and gals with whom I share some really great experiences abroad.

For example, in Montezuma, Costa Rica, I stood atop a 30-foot waterfall, asking that a guy snap a photo of me as I jumped off. He took the pic, and I wrote my e-mail address on a piece of paper the size of my pinkie. Needless to say, I never saw that photo. In Belize last year, I spent several days with a group of friends from Richmond, VA (90 miles from me). We swam, drank, snorkeled, ate, and fished together. It was a blast. I gave one of the guys my contact info, and never heard from them again. Earlier on that trip, I hung out with a couple of guys from the British army during their R&R. Before their sad departure back home, Darren gave me his e-mail address. When I got home, I tried e-mailing him, only to have the messages bounce back.

Does anyone else find this happens to them?

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PS – Stefan initially planned to camp during his cross-country drive to Phoenix, however he has found the CouchSurfing options so numerous, that he's taking that approach instead. In Alexandria, VA, he was staying with a doctor and his family (in the nice part of town). When I met up with him, he was using a mountain bike they had lent him for the day!

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Dave, I’m not as well traveled as I’d like to be, but I can say from 1 experience traveling to Europe that I had the same experience as you. My girlfriend and I partied until the sun came up with four kids in Dublin. You’d have thought we’d all become best friends. After that night, we exchanged a few terse e-mails and everyone disappeared quietly into the ether.

Check out “A Map for Saturday” if you haven’t already. Aside from being a must-own DVD for all travel junkies, there’s a fair amount of footage in there about this very topic. Brook discusses how he met and became friends with a number of people – they hung out for weeks and months together. And now they rarely talk anymore, even via e-mail.

It’s a weird dynamic. Everything about travel is so transitory, including the people and the friends/relationships you find. And everyone just seems content to pick and move after X days and recreate the next phase of their life somewhere else. Rinse and repeat.

Dave, I’m not as well traveled as I’d like to be, but I can say from 1 experience traveling to Europe that I had the same experience as you. My girlfriend and I partied until the sun came up with four kids in Dublin. You’d have thought we’d all become best friends. After that night, we exchanged a few terse e-mails and everyone disappeared quietly into the ether.

Check out “A Map for Saturday” if you haven’t already. Aside from being a must-own DVD for all travel junkies, there’s a fair amount of footage in there about this very topic. Brook discusses how he met and became friends with a number of people – they hung out for weeks and months together. And now they rarely talk anymore, even via e-mail.

It’s a weird dynamic. Everything about travel is so transitory, including the people and the friends/relationships you find. And everyone just seems content to pick and move after X days and recreate the next phase of their life somewhere else. Rinse and repeat.

Are you kidding me!? This happens all the time. On our honeymoon in Bali, our camera broke and people on tours would take pics of us with the said intentoin of doing us a favor and sending us the links, but only one Aussie couple wrote us back. Anyways, I'm super guilty of this myself. I've made so many connections around the world and few have made it past our stays in the hostel.

I am, however trying to change this. I met some cool people in Europe this past summer that I'll be conecting wtih next year. Facebook has really improved my relationships with 'idle friends'. You can keep up with out making an effort! Its great!

I agree – Facebook makes staying loosely in touch with people a lot easier. I started connecting with people using it within the first few nights of my RTW trip (in French Polynesia of all places). And my use of it snowballed from there. Much easier than exchanging email addresses.

Are you kidding me!? This happens all the time. On our honeymoon in Bali, our camera broke and people on tours would take pics of us with the said intentoin of doing us a favor and sending us the links, but only one Aussie couple wrote us back. Anyways, I'm super guilty of this myself. I've made so many connections around the world and few have made it past our stays in the hostel.

I am, however trying to change this. I met some cool people in Europe this past summer that I'll be conecting wtih next year. Facebook has really improved my relationships with 'idle friends'. You can keep up with out making an effort! Its great!

I agree – Facebook makes staying loosely in touch with people a lot easier. I started connecting with people using it within the first few nights of my RTW trip (in French Polynesia of all places). And my use of it snowballed from there. Much easier than exchanging email addresses.

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