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Sunday, October 25, 2015

As you all can imagine, I get a lot of email invitations in my inbox weekly from many different hosts and sources, so after a while, I find my eyes glossing over as I look through my inbox. But every once in a while something fresh and original comes along to awake me from by zombified stupor. Like the one I ran across today from the masters of sexually-charged massages and massage parties at MMX.

Saturday, September 12, 2015

"Aaaand We're Back" So reads the title of the latest blog post by The Orgy Guy. As I mentioned a few weeks ago the host of the The Chelsea Club House Parties posted that he would no longer be hosting parties in that space. But luckly for fans of his PEAK and the ERUPTION BAREBACK parties, he found a new space in no time and the parties are back on starting this Sunday, September 13th. I'm assuming the host of the JACKS OF COLOR parties who also hosted parties in the Chelsea Club House will be announcing some additional future dates in the new space as well, so keep an eye out for that as well as all the other upcoming parties at groupsexinthecity.com

Sunday, August 30, 2015

I challenge you to a weekend BEARATHON! Are you man enough to handle it?

Bears and their admirers who are in town for the upcoming Labor Day Weekend are in for a rare bear treat! This is the first time as far as I can remember when all four of the major bear parties will be hosting a party on the same weekend. I've only been to two of them myself since I have been sticking to safe sex parties as of late, but I may make an exception this weekend as I always love a good challenge and it could be fun to see if I can have make it through four bear parties in three days!

The weekend starts off on Friday night with the BEEF HOTEL PARTY, which bills itself as "Manhattan's only Safe-Sex Party for Bears, Cubs, Otters, and the guys who love to fuck around with them." Imagine, if you will, a hotel suite in Midtown full of about 40 guys, most of them of the manly bearish variety, sucking and fucking up a storm. I've been to quite a few of these myself and they just seem to get hotter and hotter. The crowd is quite the interracial mix with Latinos usually in the majority but also a good number of White and Black guys and a few Asian and Middle Eastern men as well. So you can think of this as the Bear Melting Pot as it were. The crowd also tends to be younger than other bear parties with the majority of the crowd in it's 20s and early 30s (men up to age 59 are admitted). You'll need to sign up and be approved as a BEEF member before you will get invited, so make sure that you apply at least a few days in advanced at assactionparties.com. The party starts at 8pm and is usually in full swing by 8:30 or so. The door closes at 10pm and the party tends to go on past Midnight (sometimes WELL past Midnight, depending on who and how many are still there and how insatiable their sexual appetites are). Donation is $20.

Then on Saturday afternoon is the other major safe-sex bear party in the city, BRUIN BUDDIES. Although it's not in Manhattan, it is easily accessible by a short subway ride to Park Slope in Brooklyn. This one is what I would consider a more "traditional" bear party then BEEF. When I think of a bear party, this is the type of crowd and party that usually comes to mind. You'll find many of the classic bear types here, "truckers," "daddies" and "mountain-men" with the long bushy beards and mustaches and leather suspenders over huge bellies in a red-lit dungeon-type setting complete with a sling, booths, and a glory hole maze. It has that seedy 70s-porn urban underground feel that personally gets my juices flowing. The crowd when I've attended has been around 30 men (it may be more for Labor Day Weekend) and tends to be predominantly white and older (most in their 40s-60s). This is also a group of men that know what they want and don't waste any time getting it, so if you arrive an hour after the party starts, you'll likely find some already finishing up and heading out, so you'll want to arrive in the first half hour or so as to not miss anyone or anything. The party starts at 3pm and goes until 7pm with the door closing at 6pm. Donation is $25 plus $1 for clothes check. And don't forget to give the clothes attendant a tip as well. It is well deserved.

On Sunday afternoon, we have the two non-safe-sex bear parties, both happening in Midtown. These are "mixed" parties, meaning that attendees are allowed to fuck either with condoms or "raw." Although condoms are provided at both, there is usually a good amount of barebacking going on so these parties are considered to be more risky than the first two due to the increased chances of STDs being passed around through fucking bareback or, especially in the case of those who are not fucking bareback, via blowjobs with the ones who are. So if you are adverse to getting STDs, limit your play at these parties to jacking, and fucking with a condom (or sucking with a condom if you can find someone willing).

The first one to begin on Sunday is THE BEAR PARTY. I haven't attended this one myself (perhaps this will be the weekend that I check it out) but I am told that this party is somewhere in-between BEEF and BRUIN BUDDIES as far as crowd and vibe. Like BRUIN BUDDIES, it takes place in a dungeon-type setting with a sling and other S&M items, but the atmosphere feels less intense and more casual than the basement in Park Slope. Like BEEF, the crowd is a mix of guys of all different races. The age range is somewhere in between with young, middle age, and older gents all in attendance (anyone over 18 is admitted). Like the other two parties, the action tends to happen early, so arriving in the first 1/2 hour or so is recommended. The size of the crowd is usually between 40 and 50 but should be even more for this holiday weekend. If you are in NYC the Wednesday before or the Wednesday after Labor Day Weekend, THE BEAR PARTY also has a weekly Wednesday party in a loft in Midtown that draws a sizeable crowd and has a more "lounge-y" vibe akin to the BEEF Hotel parties. The Wednesday parties are 7pm to 11pm with the door closing at 10pm. The Sunday parties are 1:30pm to 5:30pm with the door closing at 4:30pm. Donation for both is $25

Last stop on the Bearathon run would be BEARCAVE which is hosted every Sunday at The Gramercy Duplex. As with THE BEAR PARTY, I haven't attended this one myself since it is not a safe-sex party, but I am familiar with the space and am told the crowd mix is similar to the one at THE BEAR PARTY. The space is a two-level carpeted duplex, so the overall atmosphere here could be similar to the BEEF hotel parties with one major difference which is the size of the space. This venue is quite large with two wide-open spaces (one on each level). As a result, the men in attendance are often spread out with clumps of men huddled here and there and in corners. At THE BEAR PARTY I'm told the men tend to congregate together in smaller rooms or spaces, and at the BEEF hotel party, everyone is more or less in the same room where you can't step more than a few feet in any direction without running into cock, mouth and/or ass. But at The Gramercy Duplex you can have an equal number of men here as the other parties (about 30 to 50 which I'm told is typical for BEARCAVE), and yet the party can feel a bit empty compared to the others. So the general consensus seems to be, perhaps due to the lack of proximity, that the amount of sex at this party isn't at the same level as, say, THE BEAR PARTY which is going on across town at more or less the same time. That might actually make BEARCAVE a nice "cool-down" for your Bearathon. I'll see if I can make it that far!

I would love to hear in the comments if anyone else takes up the challenge and manages to make it to the finish line.

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Are Tonight's and Thursday Night's PEAK parties the last ones at the Chelsea Club House? The gentleman who has been hosting The Club House Parties for quite a few years now (first in Greenwich Village, then the East Village, and for the past couple of years in Chelsea close to Penn Station) posted on his blog today that tonight, Tuesday, August 18th and this Thursday, August 20th are "likely" the last parties he will be hosting there, so if you would like to have one last hurrah in that space, it sounds like you only have tonight and Thursday to do it. Here is what he posted...

"Due
to unforeseen circumstances, the Tues 8/18 and Thurs 8/20 parties will likely
be the last ones at the W.30th St. space. As this is a new development, I
don’t yet know where or when the parties will continue. I hope you’ll
attend these final two parties, to give it a great send-off. Thank you
for your support."

Sunday, August 16, 2015

It has been brought to my attention by one of the astute members over at groupsexinthecity.com that there appears to be a somewhat large-scale scam happening tonight regarding parties in the NYC, NJ, Miami Beach and Beverly Hills areas. Even if you weren’t planning on attending one of these events this evening, you might want to give this blog post a lookover to keep you from being taken advantage of in the future because, as J.M Barrie once wisely said, all of this has happened before, and it will all happen again.

The aforementioned member contacted the GSC Admin team today asking if they had heard of “The Men Event” sex party. He learned of this event from a listing on adam4adam posted under the profile name TheMenEventNYC. He said he was interested in attending but thought it was odd that he had to buy tickets in advance through eventzilla. Let me first say that there are in fact completely legitimate party promoters that ask for attendees to pay in advance for their events, so that in and of itself does not necessarily mean the party is a scam, but I will get to what and who to trust regarding that a little farther down. It is certainly not a usual practice and you should always be wary when asked to spend money up front.

The member was curious to find out if the party was legitimate or not so he decided to visit the address where the party is supposedly happening this evening according to the information on the event purchase page. What he found at the address was a townhouse that appears to be under renovation. So this was looking more and more suspicious all the time.

Now I certainly am not one to throw around the word “scam” lightly, but once I had a look at the event page myself, I saw that there were certain immediate red flags that stood out with this one. First of all was the claim that there are usually around 200 guys at each party. So that would make this one of the biggest parties in the city and so it would seem curious that neither I nor any one of my party-going acquaintances know about it. Who are the 200 guys going to this party? I’m the first to admit that there are likely many parties in this city that I have yet to hear about, but that is because they are under-the-radar smaller, more private affairs (presumably wanting to stay that way). But a party of 200? And what was even more suspicious was the description of the party itself, a portion of which reads: “The Exclusive House in Upper East Side (Manhattan), includes a bar, clothes check, a stage with nude dancers, a maze, a live DJ and huge “wet areas” with a lounge area to watch porn and chill. You can fuck ANYWHERE you like!

This is a "SAFE SEX" (NO CONDOM FREE) and drug-free event. 18 to party, 21 to drink.

Our parties are 'WATERSPORTS FRIENDLY' - but not essential. You do not have to be "into W/S" to come to our parties. We get the hottest youngest crowd of any party in NYC, and lots of our guys are not into W/S but come for the sex, the hot boys/ free drinks / good music.... ;)

Is a safe sex event with 200 guys at the house....it's got a stage, a live DJ, clothes check, an open bar, chill out lounge and huge 'wet' play areas, a maze with booths, and several tubs, and private showers you can use any time during the party."Replace “Upper East Side (Manhattan)” with “Park Slope (Brooklyn)” and it sounds an awful lot like GBU, doesn't it? (Well, when GBU was still a safe sex party that is.) And the reason why I mention this is because the GBU host emailed his list back in May to inform them that someone was running a scam by impersonating him and trying to sell advanced tickets to his parties online. Just like this gent is trying to do now (and this guy’s Adam profile even mentions that he also hosts parties in Park Slope). And he’s doing it with a description that sounds like a cut-and-paste job from one of GBU’s old invite emails.

What makes this cut-and-paste job even more apparent is that the text written before and after the party description is full of some pretty noticeable grammatical errors as if it was written by someone without the best command of the English language. Here’s a sample: “If the event appears like "Sold Out" and you wanna still coming to the party, you can make a payment higher than $32 if you coming alone (ADMIT ONE) and a payment higher than $37 if you coming with a friend (ADMIT 2x1)”Does that sound like the same person that wrote the oh-so-very-similar-to-GBU description that then follows on the page? And then there is not only how that sentence is being said, but what it is actually trying to say, which is basically that you can still buy a ticket even if the event is "Sold Out" by paying an unspecified amount above the already exorbitant $32/37 ticket price. Now that is very unusual indeed.

At this point I was fairly convinced that this was indeed a scam (to put it mildly). Of course there was absolutely no information about the host in the “Organizer” section – no contact email, no website, no phone number, nothing. , but then I clicked on the “View Other Events” link in that Organizer section and that took me to a page that really convinced me that something evil was afoot. The page had a listing of “Events hosted by Jonas Jonas” that listed nine additional parties in three other locations (Elizabeth, NJ, Miami Beach, FL, Beverly Hills, CA) that the “organizer” was selling advanced tickets for and was supposedly also hosting tonight at 10pm. Wow. Impressive. That is a host with serious super-human powers to be able to host ten parties concurrently in four cities coast to coast. Now is it entirely possible that this one organizer represents multiple hosts that just so happen to be hosting ten parties at the same time? I suppose anything is possible. But extremely unlikely. So I call a scam on this one.

I highly suspect this is the same person that was duping unsuspecting GBU-ers out of their hard-earned cash a few months ago, so I encourage you all to keep an eye out for similar scams in the future. Just keep this in mind: NEVER PAY FOR A PARTY UP-FRONT UNLESS YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO CONFIRM THAT THE PARTY AND HOST IS FOR REAL! Obviously the really large parties around holidays and Pride which are hosted by well-established party promoters (like Daniel Nardicio for instance) are going to, at times, sell tickets in advance. And there are times when hosts will ask guys to pay up front if the host needs to pay in advance for a space and needs to make sure there will be enough in attendance to cover costs. The host of the Milk Chocolate parties sometimes does this. And the host of Footmennyc recently announced he will be doing it as well. But those are two well-established parties that have been around forever so you can feel somewhat secure that they won’t be skipping town with your money.

To try to determine if a party is “legit” or not, check to see if the party is listed on groupsexinthecity.com and, if so, if anyone has written reviews or posted comments about it. When in doubt, remember that google is your friend. If you can’t find any information anywhere online regarding the party or the promoter/host then proceed with heightened caution. If you don’t remember anything else about this post, please do yourself a favour and remember: “DO NOT EVER PAY UP-FRONT FOR A PARTY UNLESS THE PARTY OR THE HOST IS WELL-ESTABLISHED AND YOU CAN VERIFY THAT YOU ARE DEALING DIRECTLY WITH THE HOST, OR THROUGH THEIR OFFICIAL WEBSITE! (No, a page on eventzilla does not count as an official website.)

Here is a link to the event page in question. Have a look so you may have an idea of what you might want to look for in the future. I have reported this user to eventzilla so in case the pages are taken down, I have included screenshots of the pages below.

The
GSC member who originally brought this to my attention forwarded me the
message exchange he had with the supposed host on Adam. In it, the host
who calls himself "Jonas" claims that he hosts bi-sexual parties every
Friday, Saturday and Sunday at 5th Avenue, Park Slope, Brooklyn. I have
just confirmed with the owner of the 5th Avenue space that "Jonas" is
indeed a scammer and is not in any way associated with that space.

Screenshots from the pages on eventzilla:

Thanks for reading and, as always, stay safe and "let’s be careful out there!” (in more ways than one)