The fighting over sex is constant. Men can be highly defensive if you dare to discuss the subject that you are not getting what you need. You can say nothing, so as not to upset them. When you feel like you have nothing to lose, you can say what you need to say . No matter how you approach the subject, you will end up being the Bad Guy ( or Girl in this case ).The best form of defence is attack ! This seems to be a common thread with couples . Especially where the man has the lower sex drive. I can vouch for that .