From The Message Boards: How Do You Really Feel About Giving Oral Sex?

Girls, this is a not-so-serious question that we’re still dying to know the answer to: how do you really feel about giving a blow job? Or, in simpler terms, blowjobs? We saw this discussion going on in our message boards (our boards are seriously so much fun!) and we knew we had to get in on it.

So, what do you really think about giving a dude oral sex? Are you a fan of it, or do you think it’s degrading? Every girl has a different opinion, and there’s really no right way to think about it. Check out what these ladies had to say and then fill us in on your thoughts in the comments.

ZomNomNom wrote:I’m just wondering about everyone’s views on blowjobs!

How many of you girls give them? Why or why not? Do you enjoy it? What do you do when he’s done?

I personally don’t like the idea of giving a blowjob. It always struck me as degrading. However, my boyfriend goes down on me and I love it, and it feels almost selfish not to return the favor. Do any of you feel that way?

turtleshelll said:I guess if your boyfriend doesn’t mind, then it’s not a big deal, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable not returning the favor. I think it can be degrading, but only because society has placed men and women in a constant power struggle. Think about it, is it degrading for him when he goes down on you? Or is it simply an act of love?

Personally I love giving blowjobs, I’m interacting with such a vulnerable part of his body in a very intimate way. Knowing that and seeing the way he enjoys it turns me on, in the same way I imagine it turns him on when he’s going down on me.

LotusFlower182 said:I give them occasionally. I don’t LOVE giving them, but then again I don’t HATE them. But before I started doing it, I did feel like they were extremely degrading.

Luckily, I’m involved with someone that doesn’t just NEED a blowjob every time we have sex. He can go down on me and not expect a thing in return unlike guys I’ve been with in the past. Some guys aren’t too much into that. To be honest, I don’t enjoy giving oral sex. It’s more pleasure for him, I feel.

Here’s the thing with giving oral sex: if you enjoy doing it to your man, go for it! If it makes you happy and you’re having a good time, there’s nothing wrong with that, and we’re not judging any girl who says she’s into it.

However, if you don’t like giving oral sex and you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t do it. Simple as that. You should never feel like you have to perform oral sex on someone if you find it degrading or you feel uncomfortable participating in it. Don’t do something that isn’t pleasurable for you just to please a guy – that’s not how a healthy sexual relationship works.

How do you feel about giving oral sex? Do you ever find it degrading? Tell us in the comments.

I personally love giving my man a blow job, it gets him horny as heck and he just wants to pound me which feels amazing. Yet to be honest, I don’t like getting oral sex. Yeah it feels really good, and some stuff that he does makes me scream in pleasure but I just feel uncomfortable having it done to me. I know, I’m weird.

Allan

If a friend kindly asks me to orally pleasure his penis I do so. Years ago a male friend and I went into his bedroom,he unclothed himself sitting upon his bed and in position between his legs did suck him. he was quite young and it was intriquing seeing his stomach moving along with his legs shaking but continued sucking his penis and at those last moments he let out such a beautiful moan suddenly ejaculating himself inside of my mouth and I was grateful to him evidenced by me swallowing his semen.

Prismatic

I wasn’t even going to comment on this post, but wow its sad how most of the women here are behaving. If you see something you dont agree with just keep it moving, stop jumping down each other’s throats.

There are alot of things I dont agree with in some of these post, but im not about to shove my opinion down the chicks throat because we have different values. You are in charge of your own life. A girl who loves to give blowjobs to her boyfriend doesn’t make her a slut, and finding bjs degrading or just flat out not liking them doesn’t make you a frigid.

SINEAD

I dont have any probs giving my bf a blow job. Its almost a sign for me when he comes to pick me up from school in his car that he wants me to do tht to him.
I’ve been with him ever since I was 12. Its been goin on for 4 years now. I know he loves doing the same to me and I think it is great to make him happy too. My friends giggle when they see him pull up at school. They know whats gonna happen. The next day they want to see the love botes on my thighs.

tightbrunette

I’m a girl and giving head is one of m favorite things to do! I Love pulling out a guys hard dick and going down on him:) Lol Its yummy to me for some reason and I like how it feels in my mouth when it starts twitching and starts cumming! I dont care if girls call me a slut for liking it. Nothing nasty about having a penis in your mouth

moi

No one is a slut for enjoying what you enjoy. I feel bad for girls who find being sexual defrading. How is it anything but a power trip to send a guy to the moon in charge of his cock. A blow job is the perfect sex act for that reason..both partners experience equal parts of both vulnerability and power. Any woman who doesnt own her body and love the pleasure and power we hold has to grow up.

renae

I am 15 yrs old. My bf is 22. We’ve been together for the last couple of years. I dont think giving him a blow job is in any way degrading. I was a bit nervous many moons ago when he first made me suck him. But I loved watching him enjoy it. When we are together I always give him a blow job and make him cum. Doing that I have realised that after he cums he can do the same to me and he has better staying power. He goes down on me a lot and I make him stay down till I have cum several times. This gets him really ready and his cock is really hard. This goes on for a couple of hours and OMG I am so horny and he is ready as hell to f**k. When we finally do it, he is inside of “wet and eager” me, thrusting away. The orgasm is sensational and one big continuous one. It is awesome. For those who think giving a guy a blow job is degrading, they are really missing out on the real thrill and the best orgasms!

Angela

You are 15 and dating a 22 year old? The way you talk is disgusting. I’m sure we’ll see you on a new season of 16 and pregnant skank

LilAngel

Angela, whats so wrong about what Renae was saying.
Just because you vagina is all sewed up and you are so frigid not to be able to enjoy a relationship and feel free to talk about sex you call her a skank?
What is so wrong about a 15 yr old dating a 22 yr old? She must be extremely attractive and such girls will attract all the good looking guys and that way, mind you, you will sit on the shelf collecting dust. You may even naturally mummify as no one will touch you with a barge pole. LOL.
16 and pregnant will increase the number of frigid girls. You seem to like that programme. Dont you feel proud of yourself that someone is controlling your behavious by bringing in such TV programmes?? Wow Angela, you are a thoroughbred idiot.

unimpressed

Angela, just because you are a prude and dont have the self confidence to openly speak about your sexuality, does not in any way make those who express themselves openly, SKANKS!
So what if she is 15 and dating a 22 yr old? Who are you to judge her. You are the typical frustrated, forced virgin, bitchy and insecure idiot who goes around trying to label or slut shame other girls.
Get over it you silly idiot.
STOP FRICKIN CALLING OTHER GIRLS NAMES.
Renae seems confident and capable of handling the relationship. She is enjoying her sexuality. She must be extremely pretty and sexy too unlike you – AN OLD BAG WHOSE VAGINA IS LIKE A WITCHES SLEEVE. LOL !!

I bet no guy wants to f**k you.

Marie

I can’t believe none of the writers have stepped in yet. All three replies are cruel and judgmental. Don’t call people skanks, don’t call people birches for calling people skanks, dot assume anything about someone’s private sex life.

A 15 year old dating a 22 year old is ILLEGAL. That’s what is wrong with it. Plus she said he made her go down on him. This isn’t something to be taken lightly.

prettyncute

Marie, so let me ask you something. You see a guy who you really like and are head over heels in love with the guy. You really build yourself up and dream and think of him constantly. Then you guys have a chance to hook up and you are so thrilled that finally things are working out.

At that stage, do you then put your practical and legal hat on and decide “well, is he legal or illegal?” DONT TELL ME YOU WOULD DO THAT. That is such rubbish!!

When you like someone, the first thing that strikes you isn’t their age. If you are so preoccupied about shit like that then you dont deserve a frickin relationship.

You are dumb!!

No wonder 13, 14 15 yr olds are taking all the good guys because we girls are so prudish and more concerned about stupid things like AGE. WOW. If you like someone, frickin age doesnt matter in the least.

I dated a 24 yr old and did exactly those things when I was 13. Well you will call me a skank. But guess what? I got the cutest guy and still am with him. He is 26 now and hunkier than ever. Unfortunately, the 18 yr olds didnt get him because they probably were too preoccupied about stupid things like age. hahahaha . DUMB..duh!!

hana

Marie, stop being so stupid.

15 and 22 is really no big deal. WGAF for what the law says. I am sick and tired of people telling me what is legal or illegal. This is frickin love for heaven’s sake. Stop being so goody goody and prim and proper. Stop being such a stick in the mud. You want to obey laws then go ahead and do just that. There are others who just wanto to experience love and the thrill and excitement of it all.
The only thing that is important here is that she is careful and does not develop any STDs or fall pregnant. Otherwise why should age matter. Thinking of age and making that a preoccupation and using that as a means of making a decision as regards matters of the heart must make you a real dodo.
There is NOTHING wrong with her being 15 and he being 22. If he makes her go down on him and she enjoys it, thats between them. This is their business. You making a judgement is what is so wrong. Nothing else.

Some girls love to date and have sex with an older guy. Some in fact many guys love to date and have sex with younger girls. You cannot change that. As long as the affection and desire is mutual IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. The law… well screw the frickin law.

amaya

There is nothing wrong with a 15 yr old girl dating a 22 yr old guy.
So, if you have a crush on a guy, you are not going to date him because of his age?? How frickin stupid. Well if you make a decision based on age alone then you are stupid and dont deserve a boyfriend.
Good luck being single. Phew! than heavens not many of you exist. How childish and pathetic to make a decision about dating based on frickin age.
She must be pretty and quite appealing for him to go for her.

alayna

nah, rubbish. Not illegal. Even if it, who cares?
Since when did we need laws to tell us when to have sex or to fall in love and with who we could fall in love or have sex with?
Do you think that even our personal lives need to be policed???
Yes so what if he made her go down on him?
If he 15 yr old can handle the 22 yr old guy, then why not? He may find her appealing and sexy. Is that bad? How do you expect laws to control mutual attraction?

Elizabeth

Angela, I’m sorry to see you calling that poor girl a skank. Yeah she’s 15 dating a 22 year old, she’s free to choose that if ahead wants, but at the same time I will point out that it’s illegal. Also though I’m sure you’ve had sex before and that you’ve loved your sex partners and they’ve loved you. It’s ok to not like giving head.

kre8tor

I never think much about not offering oral to any one I have sex with. I so enjoy giving head to any lady that if she does not do me I am ok. BUT… I would never get into a relationship with some one that really thought giving head was a terrible thing or thought they HAD to do it because I did them. BUT… I thought any sexual contact was icky. Then I grew up. I asked my lady friends and lesbians friends what and how they liked it get head. I learned from gay guys about receiving head. I just learned and practiced. I wanted to offer the best sexual fun I could. Over the years I gave some great sex. I got some great sex. I also gave and got some really bad sex. Well no one is perfect! Mostly just try new things more than once. Do not allow your self to be forced to do anything. But do not allow something you hear from friends to keep you from exploring new exciting sexual fun. If he taste bad to you there are many things to solve that . Porn stars have used a small piece of Tootsie roll to fix this problem. Many more things too. I found woman that had a very bad taste sometimes also had fibroids. I tell them they get it checked and then all is well for the rest of there partners too. The best thing you can do for anyone is unbridaled oral sex. If you will not most will find someone that they can share this with both ways.