Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Rome is not a foliage destination like New England, but the
sycamores along the Tiber River turn yellow in the fall, and a walk along the
banks has the same rustling crispness.The chestnut vendors return to street corners to roast their wares, and the
scent of smoke and sweet mingles with the city-hint of diesel.The vendors split the nuts’ burnished brown
shells with a swift knife stroke and slide them into a horn of rolled
paper.Heaven.

In the fall of 1973, I was appreciably rounder than I’d been
when I boarded the plane for Rome at the end of August.With some effort, I could still button my
Dentyne pink corduroy blazer, but the strain on the fabric was evident.Who knew when I would return to Italy?Who knew when I’d again eat pasta so
incredibly good?Of course, I had to
take advantage at meal-time!I knew my
mother would be horrified, but when the nuns came round with refills, I was
ready for them.

Nuns?Yes.Having never before left the shores of the
U.S., I was in Italy for Trinity College Rome Campus with close to forty other
students, all housed in a convent, just up the Aventine Hill from the Circus
Maximus. There was a crucifix on the wall of every cell-like room, and in the
bathrooms, the shower nozzle thrust from the wall without benefit of curtain or
stall. Unfortunately, it took more than one sodden towel to remember to remove
linens and toilet paper to avoid the water sprayed on every surface within
reach.A new world.

I was twenty years old, in Rome for four months with some of
my best friends and my boyfriend.My
career goal at the time was to be an Egyptologist:yes, I know, wrong country, but I loved
ancient history in general, and the ruins I’d studied since seventh grade were
within walking distance of the convent. From my current vantage point at age sixty-one,
I could weep with envy at the good fortune of that young girl.Thank you, Mom and Dad.

When first we arrived, the city was in the midst of a
cholera epidemic; our parents must have loved sending us off into that.We’d been vaccinated, and were cautioned to
avoid seafood when eating out, but what did we know of the words on the
menus?Not enough, and our sign language
must have been poor, for Frank’s first restaurant dinner was a heaping platter
of fried fish. Perfect.We worked hard at improving our
restaurant-Italian after that.

This was a school
semester, let’s not forget, and I was in Italy to study, so in addition to
eating as many bowls of pasta as I could comfortably consume (really, I’m not
exaggerating), I joined my friends on motorbike excursions along the Appian
Way: in explorations of Hadrian’s Villa, Pompeii, and Ostia Antica; and in
scrabbling the slopes of Monte Testaccio in search of sizable pottery shards.While watching black and white films in
Italian Cinema class, we pondered the craft and dark themes of
“neorealismo.”In art class, we took to
the streets of Trastevere with paints, canvases, and easels, and wandered the
Forum and Colosseum for “Topography and Monuments of Ancient Rome.”

On one memorable weekend, we went to work on a vineyard in
Tuscany.As we clambered from the bus,
all so young, strong, and eager, the vineyard owner probably thought he’d
gotten a great deal in free labor.Mm, maybe not so
much, as it turned out.

Warm, yellow sunlight bathed an expanse of gently rolling
land neatly striped with rows of vines. Clippers were distributed, and we were
released to the harvest.Throughout the
morning, we bent beneath curling vines heavy and fragrant with purple grapes, plucking
some to snack on as we cut bunch after bunch to load into rustic wooden carts.

After hours of snipping and wiping sweaty brows, we were
invited to feast on sausages, cheese, bread, and wine. With
that, the industry of the morning fled. A grape fight erupted while Bons, Ozzie, and
FaPoco did yeoman duty, volunteering to shed their shoes, leap into the cart,
and stomp grapes.

Recently, some of my fellow Romans decided it was time to
get together.Last year Bart arranged a
lunch in Boston’s North End.This
September, Donovan scoured the Internet and enlisted Trinity’s alumni
department in an effort to locate as many of us as possible, and invited us to
gather at his place.

It is the way of long-awaited reunions that one enters a
room filled with strangers, strangers with expectant faces, hesitant smiles,
and eyebrows politely raised.And then,
there’s a shift, a dissolve, just like we learned in cinema class.Something about that person’s smile, or the
sparkle in the eye… and there they are!Despite hair longer, grayer, shorter, or absent.Despite weight added or taken away.Despite those glasses, nearly ubiquitous,
there were our fellow grape-tossers and ruin-scrabblers.And as our day in Donovan’s backyard
unfolded, our collective memory helped restore the magic of that semester
together, a semester immersed in antiquity, art, opera, cinema, wine, and
plenty of pasta.

We recalled the scratchy, screechy hall intercom.Menzies in his blanket.Fried artichokes at “Vecchia Roma.” Breakfast
rolls with Nutella.Primavera.Lucchesi’s portrait of Bonnie.Prostitutes luring customers (none of our
group, mind you, at least not to my knowledge…) to the brass bed hidden in the
shrubbery along the Circus Maximus while the boys played football… And beyond
specific incidents and experiences, a new sense of a world to be explored and
our own desire and ability to do so.

Thank you, Donovano, so very much, for bringing us all
together.Thanks to Pam for flying in
from California, Jonny from Cincinnati, and Vicki from Cleveland. It was a joy,
beyond words, to laugh, reminisce, and re-connect.

About Me

Quotes that I love

From My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.

“Life offers its wisdom generously. Not everyone learns. Life asks of us the same thing we have been asked in every class, “Stay awake,” “Pay attention.” But paying attention is no simple matter. It requires us not to be distracted by expectations, past experiences, labels and masks. It asks that we not jump to early conclusions and that we remain open to surprise. Wisdom comes most easily to those who have the courage to embrace life without judgment and are willing not to know, sometimes for a long time…”

Mahatma Gandhi:

“We must be the change we wish to see in the world.”

From the Desiderata:

“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.”

An old prayer:

“Days pass and the years vanish and we walk sightless among miracles. Lord, fill our eyes with seeing and our minds with knowing. Let there be moments when your Presence, like lightening, illuminates the darkness in which we walk. Help us to see, wherever we gaze, that the bush burns, unconsumed. And we, clay touched by God, will reach out for holiness and exclaim in wonder, “How filled with awe is this place and we did not know it.”