True, but it's also true when you get married. When we were married 24 years ago, I had no idea that DH would be diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety, panic, osteoarthritis, degenerative disc disease, and whatever else is wrong with him. He is in constant pain and can't really work or drive any more, and he loves to work, although just part time. We're making the rounds of doctors to see if there's anything more that can be done for him, but it's beginning to look as if he'll just be in pain until he dies at a ripe old age -- and he's only 45 now.

I'm awfully glad we have our kids. They are a source of great joy to us, even the one who is going through a difficult time and drives us nuts. But hey, as you know, your mileage not only may vary, it does vary.