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Welcome to Format Free Friday, when I break the format of answering your questions and I dispense that which we rarely welcome in life: Unsolicited Advice.

Oh. My. God. It’s been forever since I’ve written on a Friday! I’ve been busy, busy, busy writing a book proposal for my very first book, a 7-year labor of love which I just finished this summer. Thank you for your patience, loyal followers!

OK, let’s get down to business. What’s the difference between successful people and those who get sucked into drama every time something goes wrong in their lives? I’ll tell you: Successful people keep their eye on the goal. They stay focused on what they want to achieve rather than on what they want to avoid. And there’s literally a ratio for this: 90/10.

Successful people spend 90% of their time working towards something. Sure, bad things happen to them just like it does to everyone else, but they only dedicate 10% of their time, energy and focus on resolving problems. Because let’s face it, we can easily get sucked into the problems of our life. The key is not to get derailed ~ not to get distracted. So how do you do this?

Try an experiment. For 1 week, track every minute of your day to see how you spend your time. There’s a plethora of time tracking technology available. I’ve heard good things about Toggl, and what I like best about it is that at the end of the week, you’ll have a pie chart which will give you a visual of how you spend your time.

If, after a week of logging your time, you find that you’re unclear about what changes you need to make to get yourself to the 90/10 ratio, email me and I’ll be happy to help you out: Darcy@AskDrDarcy.com