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Yes, assigning love a specific day is a bizarre and insidious corporate tactic, but just know that you can take The Man’s attempt to oppress you/force you to buy chocolate and use it to your advantage. Valentine’s Day. Some call it a holiday. Others call it a nightmare. it’s that time of year when we […]

It’s after midnight and my boyfriend and I are having a fight, and it reminds me of a fight I had with an ex-boyfriend. It’s a fight that makes me feel bad about myself, and for some reason I picture the soccer fields in Wilmington, my hometown. This is where I spent afternoons and weekends […]

Dating is both an art and an inexact science. The rules aren’t totally clear, they’re always changing and they’re complicated by our technology-obsessed world. It’s relatively easy to read the expression on someone’s face – more difficult to decipher their mood from an emoticon in a text message. However, there are certain clues that will […]

If you’re tired of getting played by guys, it may be time to turn the tables and become a player. Truthfully, it’s not all that hard to become. I know because I’ve done it. My transition was a slow one. Over a period of about 10 years, I went from being clingy and getting dumped […]

One of the greatest things about being in a relationship is the ability to get lost in something larger than yourself — to submerge your former identity beneath this new persona as part of a couple. But for me, this is also one of the pitfalls. I tend to lose myself in relationships so completely […]

Okay, so you’re about to go on your first date with that someone special. You’re probably a little nervous, understandably. A little anxiety before the first date is totally normal. But that’s no excuse to be a moron. There are just certain things you shouldn’t do when you take someone out for the first time. […]

So you’ve taken to the online dating scene, and you’re wondering how to reel in your Internet soulmate, or at least someone you wouldn’t mind going on a few dates with. From someone who has tested the waters of the e-dating world with unlikely success, here are some tips for creating a profile that will […]

About 10 years ago, I dated an Asian man. This in and of itself was not particularly unique. By that point I’d dated white men, black men and Hispanic men and briefly had an Asian pseudo-boyfriend in high school. As a biracial woman who grew up in a family where get-togethers looked like diversity workshops, […]

Persistence is an admirable quality — and one that’s key to being successful in any endeavor. But there’s a fine line between being persistent and being a stalker, especially when your persistence involves 17 unanswered text messages, eight e-mails and a stare-down in a club. Here are seven signs that you may have crossed over […]