Tag: regret

We’ve all heard of the silent treatment. We all know the sadness and guilt we feel when we’re on the receiving end of it. On the other end, we’ve also…

We’ve all heard of the silent treatment. We all know the sadness and guilt we feel when we’re on the receiving end of it. On the other end, we’ve also experienced the anger and pain that build up when we cut someone out of our life or decide to choose bitterness over forgiveness.

Silence can result in guilt, regret, sadness, and so much more. When we don’t confront a problem or simply ignore it, the result is almost always worse than what it would’ve been if we would’ve given up silence as a boundary in the first place.

Think about this situation for example. You and your roommates are in a fight, and instead of confronting the problem, you allow it to build up over time and continue to sweep it under the rug. This can either make the problem worse, or never solve anything in the long run… Neither are the outcome you would want!

God looks at these situations and wants us to extend love, forgiveness, and patience. When we approach conflict the way God does, the outcome will be better every single time.

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

God sent his one and only son to pay the price for our sins. He forgives us instantly, without holding a grudge or keeping a track record. So, why wouldn’t we do the same for other people?

This reminds me of the story from the Bible of Peter asking Jesus about forgiveness.

Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

Jesus then preaches the parable of the unforgiving debtor. The story tells of a king discussing the debt of his servants. One in particular owed the king millions and millions of dollars, but had little to no money to repay him. The servant begged for the king to forgive him, and the king was filled with pity for him. He released the servant and forgave him of his debt.

But when the servant left, he came across a man that owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded him to pay him the money. When the king heard about this, he threw the servant in jail until he had paid his entire debt.

Matthew 18:35 says, “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.”

God doesn’t just want us to swallow our pride and forgive others, he demands it. We can’t go through life holding grudges and using silence as a barrier. In the end, this solves nothing, leaving us angrier than we were before.

Take these lessons from the Bible and apply them to your life. Once we start taking Jesus’s advice on how to resolve conflict, life will go a whole smoother!

Regret is an awful thing. It sits on our minds day after day wondering about all the “what ifs” and outcomes that we could’ve had. More often than not, there…

Regret is an awful thing. It sits on our minds day after day wondering about all the “what ifs” and outcomes that we could’ve had. More often than not, there are things we wish we could’ve done and things we know we should’ve done. It can be a painful cycle, and God addresses it in the Bible.

Have you never said “no” to an opportunity and immediately regretted it later that day? Your mind knows when you’ve missed out on a chance or did something you maybe shouldn’t have done.

I always think about what would’ve happened if I never would have started my YouTube channel or if I never would’ve moved to Atlanta. These thoughts make me say “yes” to more opportunities and push me to try new things I wouldn’t have in the first place. Everything we’ve done in the past is a puzzle piece to who we are today.

God wants us to get out of our comfort zones. No one ever said following Him is easy, and He planted a bold and courageous heart in all of us for a reason. Look at Deuteronomy 31:6 for example: “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Think of who your “them” might be. Are they your friends? Your family? Are they the people you’re trying constantly to impress?

Although this verse was written for a completely different situation, we can still apply it to whatever situations we ourselves are going through. We need a bold and courageous heart along with the confidence of knowing God will never leave us in order to leave comfort behind and try something out of the ordinary.

John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

We could either listen to Jesus who gives us peace, or we could listen to the world, in fear of rejection and judgement. Some things you have to do for yourself, despite the thoughts and opinions of others. I mean hey, if you never try, you truly will never know!

Never let your hearts be troubled over something that you’re passionate about. Deep regret and the unknown of the “what ifs” is much worse than trying and failing. God wants our hearts to guide us, and if you’re feeling called to do something, then take the leap and do it!

God only gives us 365 days a year. What do you say we make them count?