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My girlfriend and I have been having sex for a while now. She has never had an orgasm during sex or foreplay, and my endurance during sex is not a problem. She says that oral sex does nothing for her. She also says that her G-spot is very hard to reach and that only one guy has ever brought her to orgasm and it wasn't during sex.

She says she still enjoys sex even though she hasn't reached orgasm with me. This woman is very special to me and I've tried everything I can to please her... but what do I do now? I want to be able to make her orgasm and enjoy what I get to enjoy.

Looking for ideas,Andrew

Hi Andrew,

The first thing you need to do is stop placing so much emphasis on her orgasm... that's a lot of pressure on her. Otherwise, you may run the risk of her faking it and that won't make anyone happy.

Second, before you start using your mouth, fingers and penis to manipulate her body into orgasm, start by understanding her genitalia. That way, you can figure out where to locate her clitoris, G-spot and the like.

Then, spend time on foreplay. Ignore her sexualized parts (breasts and vagina) for a while and concentrate on other parts of her body like her thighs and neck. Although the body does play a part in orgasm, there's evidence that suggests that seducing a woman's mind plays a big part in the process.

Stop focusing on her orgasm and focus instead on the pleasure you receive from pleasing her. By learning to manipulate her body via the use of your fingers, tongue and penis (simultaneously if you can), she will eventually come to fruition . Good luck.

Donald Zimmer

how long after the pill?

I am going to get married in a month and my future wife and I do not intend on having any children in the first few years. She asked me if she should go on the Pill in order to avoid any accidental pregnancies. What are the pros and cons for women who take birth control pills?

As well, should I wear a condom when having sex with her even though she is on the Pill or is it okay if I don't?

As you can tell, I am not highly educated on these matters and I would appreciate your help.

Sincerely,RT

Hi RT,

While there are plenty of birth control pills available with different amounts of hormone, on rare occasions, there are some women who have averse effects to the Pill. When she goes to her gynecologist to get a prescription, he or she will discuss these issues with her.

Second, when it comes to the Pill's effectiveness, if your woman takes it every day at the same time, then you can begin having sex without condoms after the first seven days. But again, I must emphasize that she literally has to take the Pill at the exact same time, every day.

Nevertheless, although the Pill is 95% to 99% effective if taken correctly, it does not prevent the transmission of STDs. Of course, I'm assuming that you and your wife have been tested for STDs and plan to remain monogamous throughout your marriage.

Hope this helps,

Donald Zimmer

the left one hangs lower

My left testicle hangs lower than my right one; is that normal?

Thanks,John

Like breasts, when it comes to testicles, one is usually slightly bigger than the other. As well, it is absolutely normal for one testicle (usually the left) to hang lower than the other. But the location of the testicles alone should not cause any discomfort. The muscles of the sperm cord that control how low the testicles will hang are called cremasters .

When the inside of the thigh is stroked or prior to ejaculation, these muscles contract and cause cremasteric reflex , which, in turn, leads the testicles to ascend high into the scrotum.