We're on good terms. Broken up for necessity and there really is no chance of us getting back together due to reasons out of both of our control so it's kind of a weird situation.

She's a cool girl though so I'd like to keep her in my life in some capacity. We'll see how it works out I guess.

Why do you need to have her in your life in any capacity? Weird situation/necessity sounds like big drama on her end that you are lucky enough to avoid. Stay out of it. Don't try to save her or be there for her. You guys are broken up for a reason. Don't complicate your future by holding onto your past. If she wanted you in her life, you would be in it on that level.

This is all about you. Why do you want her in your life? What is so great about her that you need to force the issue? Stay away. You're just going to mess up yourself or her by hanging on. Move on.

See but here's the thing, the last two girls I've hooked up have tried to hint at going out on a date later on. I make sure to never say anything about future hang out before/after the hook up. I just say some excuse, or change the subject, however just once I want a hook up where it's just a pure hook up with no communication after.

This is probably a function of the girls you are dealing with and your methods of picking them up. On their end, they are giving you the action in the hopes of reeling you in. Unfortunately for them, they arenít going to entice you to be their romantic partner when youíre getting the sex without giving them the companionship. They have the whole dynamic incorrect, which is not at all your problem. You are probably targeting the insecure girls who will give it up without too much effort, which works great in terms of getting laid. However, you have to deal with the fallout. Thatís just a cost of doing business for you. Obviously, your targets are giving you what you want. If you have to have a few difficult convos, so be it. Stop whining about having success with bimbos. No one feels bad for you.

Now, you are probably giving off certain signals as part of your pickup technique to indicate to these girls that youíre interested in dating them. At the very least, they are inferring that you want to date based on those actions. Iím not saying that you need to change anything. Just be aware that girls are taking your actions and words in a certain way, and that is leading to the drama and the expectation of more than just the one night stand. Also be aware that women are much more emotional creatures. Many of the women I know say that sex with someone theyíre not emotionally into is just not good at all, regardless of technique or whatever. Others also note that they bond emotionally with men they have sex with. Itís just a part of life. Really a minor hassle.

This is probably a function of the girls you are dealing with and your methods of picking them up. On their end, they are giving you the action in the hopes of reeling you in. Unfortunately for them, they aren’t going to entice you to be their romantic partner when you’re getting the sex without giving them the companionship. They have the whole dynamic incorrect, which is not at all your problem. You are probably targeting the insecure girls who will give it up without too much effort, which works great in terms of getting laid. However, you have to deal with the fallout. That’s just a cost of doing business for you. Obviously, your targets are giving you what you want. If you have to have a few difficult convos, so be it. Stop whining about having success with bimbos. No one feels bad for you.

Now, you are probably giving off certain signals as part of your pickup technique to indicate to these girls that you’re interested in dating them. At the very least, they are inferring that you want to date based on those actions. I’m not saying that you need to change anything. Just be aware that girls are taking your actions and words in a certain way, and that is leading to the drama and the expectation of more than just the one night stand. Also be aware that women are much more emotional creatures. Many of the women I know say that sex with someone they’re not emotionally into is just not good at all, regardless of technique or whatever. Others also note that they bond emotionally with men they have sex with. It’s just a part of life. Really a minor hassle.

Haha I'm not trying to get sympathy, just some insight. I'm just merely stating that it's a running pattern, and I think you hit the nail on the head. Good call on it all.

The sympathy line was more sarcastic than anything. You are targeting weak girls who think they need to give you sex to get your attention and affection. You're having success. This is just a price you have to pay. When you're ready to pursue a real relationship, avoid these girls and go for the type of person you want to be. Try to date "up" in all aspects for a real relationship. Go for the pretty girl who has her life together. That will be a transition you will want to make in time. For now, enjoy.

Sometimes I wish that the advice doled out here would really make a difference. However, everyone's going to do what they want to do and will only change when they decide to do it on their own. I think this thread is quite valuable to discuss situations, but I certainly don't think I'm helping anyone get anywhere that they wouldn't have gotten on their own.

Sometimes I wish that the advice doled out here would really make a difference. However, everyone's going to do what they want to do and will only change when they decide to do it on their own. I think this thread is quite valuable to discuss situations, but I certainly don't think I'm helping anyone get anywhere that they wouldn't have gotten on their own.

I have to say you hit it on the head with advice myself. Spot on bsaza, you are the Steve.

Jesus Christ, that rich chick I was telling you about has offered to fly me up to Canada, to chill at her lake house.. She's got a boat, jet skis, the ******* works. Then she said she told her parents about me...

So now, it is obvious what I must do. I was enjoying this lil money ride for a while, but it was bound to happen. I will be cutting ties right after lollapalooza with her. It's gotta happen. Plus, my friend's gf's friend thinks I'm hot and wants to take me for a beer on my 21st, debating to post a picture of her.

Jesus Christ, that rich chick I was telling you about has offered to fly me up to Canada, to chill at her lake house.. She's got a boat, jet skis, the ******* works. Then she said she told her parents about me...

So now, it is obvious what I must do. I was enjoying this lil money ride for a while, but it was bound to happen. I will be cutting ties right after lollapalooza with her. It's gotta happen. Plus, my friend's gf's friend thinks I'm hot and wants to take me for a beer on my 21st, debating to post a picture of her.

Started seeing this new girl who I really like but lives 3 hours away. Future long term potential here. My ex who is crazy but great in bed offered a 3 some with me and her hot gf from Cali. Is it worth it to give up an incredible 3some for a long distance new relationship. I'm really conflicted because I don't want to cheat so I'd have to call it off with the new girl for the 3some to happen but really like this new girl I've been dating/visiting/chatting. Don't know what to do. Any advice.

Started seeing this new girl who I really like but lives 3 hours away. Future long term potential here. My ex who is crazy but great in bed offered a 3 some with me and her hot gf from Cali. Is it worth it to give up an incredible 3some for a long distance new relationship. I'm really conflicted because I don't want to cheat so I'd have to call it off with the new girl for the 3some to happen but really like this new girl I've been dating/visiting/chatting. Don't know what to do. Any advice.

1) threesome is likely bull **** that she is using to see if she can still command your attention/feelings for her.
2) 3 hours ain't ******* worth the girl.