What Lessons Did YOU Learn This Year?

Not because I go out partying and living it up (although, if I had the opportunity, I won’t lie–I’d be in the middle of that mosh pit. Just. Sayin’).

This time of year is my favorite because I love looking back on the last 365 days, and I get excited for what lies ahead for the next 365 to come!

Most bloggers around this time are reflecting on “Projects Past,” (e.g. My Top 10 Posts of 2016!) and while it’s a great idea, let’s go a bit deeper.

Let’s talk about what each of these months actually meant.

What were the important lessons?

I think projects are more than just projects.

And DIY is more than just DIY.

It’s about creativity…problem-solving…therapy (hello!! Don’t you feel better after working on a project??) LOL.

So let’s take a walk back through 2016 and highlight some of the important lessons learned, both big and small.

12 Months of Lessons Learned in 2016

Lesson Learned #1: The Importance of Family

New Year’s Eve today marks the One Year Anniversary of my grandmother’s passing. So in January while everyone was ringing in the New Year, ready for a fresh start, my family was planning the funeral arrangements for my grandmother.

And while I’ve been fine this year, my mom has really suffered through the loss. She was her primary caregiver, during a time when people who she’d thought would be there to help ended up not helping. The burden was too much to bear for her at times.

What my mom taught me was the importance of never turning your back on family even when things were tough.

Lesson Learned #2: Just Because You Messed Up Doesn’t Mean You Ruined It

In February, I attempted to make over a mid-century modern chair makeover that almost ended horribly! Remember?? I’m laughing just thinking about that horrible sanding job I did!

…So bad that when I went to apply stain, the whole thing just….well….nearly died. LOL

I ended up salvaging it, but the lesson learned is that even if you mess something up, it doesn’t mean you ruined it.

Keep going.

Think of a solution.

And, in the essence of Tim Gunn, make it work.

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Lesson Learned #3: My Readers Got My Back!

The voting was for this contest I entered where myself and two other bloggers were in the running for the Trendsetter Award. It was basically something that the Home Show people started doing, which would allow the winner to travel to several home shows and do on-stage presentations. There would be some opportunity for media coverage (e.g. local TV news) and what-not.

Well, let me tell you… We blew the competition out of the water!

You guys voted every single day…you set reminders on your phone to vote daily so you didn’t forget. And you rallied right beside me! It felt like we instead of me.

What I learned is that my readers got my back! You guys appreciate what I do and what I offer on my blog. So when I needed a favor–your vote–you made it happen!

As a result, I got to present at several home shows, such as Jacksonville, Florida; Raleigh, North Carolina; and Kansas City. The other lesson I learned is that presenting is something I do very well. And if it weren’t for you readers, I never would have discovered that about myself.

So thank you!

Lesson Learned #4: Readers Deserve the Spotlight, Too

In April, I decided that I would start highlighting some of my favorite readers. Thus, the “Reader of the Month” was born. And you guys loved it!

I wasn’t sure how people would respond to it because it wasn’t a DIY project–gasp!

But that didn’t matter.

People left comments to tell Alys, my first reader of the month, that she was great and appreciated in our Thrift Diving community! And that was amazing!

I’m sorry that as life and projects have gotten busy at times, I haven’t done the monthly feature regularly. However, for 2017, I plan to do it often.

It’s that important.

What I learned is that the people that come to this blog are even more important than the one crafting the posts. 🙂 Because without readers, this would only be a journal.

Thank you, dear friends!

Lesson Learned #5: Tung Oil is Magical!

In May, I tried a product called tung oil, which gives wood a wet look. I had used it once before, but the results weren’t as dramatic as this!

A reader here had recommended it and one day I just decided to try it out.

I had this thrifted mid-century modern dresser that was one step away from being re-donated back to the thrift store, but at the last minute, decided to see if I could make it beautiful again.

Well, after a coat of white paint on the body, I sanded the drawers and added some tung oil to the bare wood. And oh-my-goodness.

That wood came alive like nothing I’d ever seen before!

What started as dull, scratched drawers, suddenly became the richest wood I had ever seen!

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And the crazy thing is that the drawers had no stain.

I had simply sanded them down and applied the tung oil.

And the result was magical.

The lesson learned was that not all wood should be painted. Sometimes the magic of tung oil can bring out the beauty in wood!

Lesson Learned #6: Dark Colors Aren’t Going to Kill Me

One thing you probably don’t know about me is that I’m scared of dark colors.

Not scared as in break out in night sweats. HA!

But scared as in, “bite-my-nails-what-if-this-color-is-too-dark-and-my-house-looks-like-a-dungeon-and-I’m-scared-to-try-this-color.”

But in June, I tackled my oldest son’s bedroom as part of the Home Depot DIY Challenge, where they assign you a special material and you have to make a project from it.

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Lesson Learned #7: Gardening is Grueling!

It was the dead of summer, 100 degree days, and what was supposed to be a simple, “Hey-I’m-going-to-just-pretty-up-my-patio!” ended up turning into a “dig-everything-up” type of project!

I didn’t mean for it turn into such a big project, but isn’t that usually how it goes?

Start small, end big. HA!

Before I knew it, I was de-weeding the whole perimeter of the house and creating walkways, which I had never done before!

What I learned is that gardening and landscaping is hard work. But they’re one of the most satisfying jobs!

(P.S. I also learned that I planted my boxwoods too close to the house! LOL A reader who’s savvy in gardening told me that I’ll need to move them out so the roots and bushes don’t grow too close to the house! Oy vey…I still have yet to move them. Gotta put that on my list…)

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Lesson Learned #8: I’m Never Too Old to Feel Insecure

I haven’t felt insecure about my body in a long time.

I mean, we all have moments where we wish we were thinner, taller, more this…more that.

When I was a kid, around 5th grade, I remember looking in the mirror and crying because I hated the way I looked. My hips were starting to fill out and I often wore long shirts to cover them up. I had this short Afro that made me look like a boy. Yet, I yearned for long, silk hair like my classmates, not short, curly hair.

As an adult, though, I’ve never felt more confident, even despite carrying more weight after bearing three boys. I really thought I had outgrown any insecurities since it had been such a long time since feeling so awkward.

But it wasn’t until August when I was invited to film a national TV commercial for Duluth Trading Company that I really felt insecure and out of place. I was the largest of the three models, and I just felt heavy and….well….fat.

By the time the week was over, though, I had learned that even though I was bigger than the other models, I was strong. I was healthy. And I still fit in. But I also learned that even at nearly 40, I could still feel insecure.

Lesson Learned #9: My Greatest Joy is Inspiring People

Well, this isn’t really a lesson learned, because I already knew that inspiring people makes me happy!

But in September, things were a little different.

Normally, if I inspire people, it’s from behind my computer screen.

However, September marked the month of my first home show after winning the Trendsetter award.

And the part that I loved the most were the people that came up to me after my stage presentations and said something like, “Wow, after listening to you, I feel so inspired!”

Or maybe they’d say something like, “I feel like I can do this now!”

Those were the moments that were the greatest joy about doing home shows–those moments where I can actually see the excitement in people’s faces after realizing that DIY isn’t as hard as they thought!

Lesson Learned #10: DIY is All About Ingenuity

In October, I told RYOBI that I was going to make a “DIY candy dispenser” and would upload it to their RYOBI Nation site.

After I told them that, I started thinking, “How in the world am I going to make a candy dispenser??”

I felt I had spoken too soon. LOL

Since a candy dish had already been build on RYOBI Nation before, I wanted something a bit more creative.

That’s when I decided I would turn a thrifted fish bowl into a pumpkin candy dispenser!

The funny part is that I had no idea how I was going to do it!

It took me a whole day to figure out the innards of how I could make candy come out of a fishbowl. LOL

But I did it!

I visualized in my mind what needed to happen in order to get candy to come out, and then I just created parts for the inside to make it happen.

I learned that DIY is simply about ingenuity–being clever, original, and inventive.

Just make it up as you go along.

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Lesson Learned #11: Doing a Project That Scares You Gets You Out of Your “DIY Comfort Zone”

Here on the blog, we try to do about two challenges a year, which is great for motivation for getting rooms decluttered, painted, and renovated!

I decided I was going to try to build my own DIY bathroom vanity.

Yes….a DIY bathroom vanity!

Which was a little insane since I’ve never been known as a builder, per se.

My reputation has always much more as a thrifter and furniture painter.

But the love of power tools and woodworking blossomed in me this month.

As I pieced together slabs of solid oak, this hodge-podge of solid oak has started to resemble a real bathroom vanity!

Was I scared?

Yes.

Am I still scared?

Yes! LOL….I’m still scared because it’s not done and I worry about the imperfections and whether it will look good. I worry that down the road it won’t withstand our daily use and it will crack, split, bow–basically, fall apart on me.

(NOTE: I’ve just learned that the moisture content in the bathroom, along with the seasons, will cause the wood to expand and retract, and I’m scared as heck that somewhere in that process all my screws will pop out! EEK!).

As of yesterday, this is what the DIY vanity looked like. My friend Edmundo came over to test fit the white/gray granite top. We made some markings and there are some trimmings that I need to do for the sinks to fit.

I’m excited to see it take shape!

Lesson Learned #12: Never Stop Learning

One thing that bring me a lot of joy in life is learning.

Oh, you have no idea!

I freakin’ love to learn new things! Especially when it relates to anything creative.

Over the years, I’ve learned oil painting, knitting, pottery, you name it.

Comments

Really feel blessed to implement them in real. one lesson I have learned and would like to add here is great health, take the right blend of fruits to live a healthy life, remember health is first wealth.