From a People Pleaser: Who Are You Living to Please?

You are talking to a girl who has lived so much of her life trying to please people first, and that is a HEAVY burden. Also, I’ve learned that pleasing myself is a heavy burden. And it’s really caused me to ask myself, ‘Who are you living to please?’ That’s why we are going to talk about people pleasing for this ‘Take Care of Your Temple Tuesday‘ with Lyss because I think I often bind LARGE burdens of stress on myself by trying to ‘please people’ instead of the One I need to be loving and serving.

Jesus says in John 14:15-16, ‘If ye shall ask any thing in my name I will do it. If ye love me, keep my commandments.’

Jesus is unchanging, and Jesus Christ is my Savior and my Lord. Because of Christ Jesus, I have Christ living inside of me. I can’t tell you how that happens, but I do know that I’m not the same person that I was before Christ Jesus.

Yet I still struggle with wanting to please everybody and I often forget about Jesus Christ.

Galatians 2:20 is one of the verses that often comes back to me when I burden myself with pure people pleasing, ‘I am crucified with Christ nevertheless I live, yet not I, but Christ liveth in me, and the life which I now life in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.’

The Christian gospel isn’t a people centered gospel. It’s not called the ‘Me’ religion. It’s called ‘Christ’ianity, because it’s about Jesus.

Jesus Christ said to those who were listening to Him about His burden in Matthew 11:28-30, ‘Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.’

In contrast Jesus also confronted the Pharisees on their man-made burdens that they bound. In Luke 11:46 Jesus said, ‘And he said, “Woe to you lawyers also! For you load people with burdens hard to bear, and you yourselves do not touch the burdens with one of your fingers.’

The contrast is unmistakeable. Read the stories of Jesus. Jesus was compassionate. He ate with publicans and sinners to share with them Himself, the Light of the World. He didn’t despise the lowly or the broken. He LOVED them and He forgave their sins. He didn’t reject those who came to Him looking for healing. He healed them.

Jesus is a Kind master.

I’ve realized that in this world, there are different masters. There is Satan, a cruel, evil scheming devil who hates God. There is sin, the corruption of the human heart, that hurts us, breaks us, bruises us.

And then there is Jesus.

There is no comparison to Jesus Christ in all His beauty and splendor and compassion and justice and truth. Jesus Christ didn’t mince His words of condemnation on the Pharisee’s self-righteousness, but He didn’t hold back the offer of free pardon and being brought into the family of God to any who came RUNNING to Him.

Jesus is the Just and the Holy One, and I really want to please Jesus. I don’t want to ultimately think:

‘What will they think of my Instagram post?’

‘What if people don’t like my cooking?’

‘What if people despise me for believing in Jesus?’

More and more I want to take care of my body, my soul as the temple of the Holy Spirit and the dwelling place of Christ in me the hope of glory.

‘To whom God would make known what is the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory:’ (Colossians 1:27)

This glorious salvation unites me to Christ, unites His bride to Him, and I want people to see JESUS not selfish Emily here on the blog.

May you see my glorious Savior, marvel that He would save a wretch like me, and I pray that I could serve you by serving my Savior and King.

‘I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may bring forth more fruit. Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.’ (John 15:1-5)

Lately, I have been learning to just savor the gifts that come down from the Giver; savoring His goodness, His beauty in what I’ve been given. I realize how often I’m just prone to being ungrateful; but if I have Jesus, I have ENOUGH. And anything beyond that is like an extra cherry that I definitely didn’t deserve.

Food has also been so much less scary lately. I’m not saying that I don’t have bad body image days, but with God truly nothing is impossible. God does MIRACLES everyday, and I’m convinced of that especially as I watch other girls I know and love on the road to recovery.

My Amazing Mama’s Birthday Dessert: My mama is TRULY a gift. She has taught me so much by her example, her love for Jesus, her JOY in the Lord, and her love for serving.

This is my mama to a T. These verses describe her in such a beautiful way. Truly God has done a WONDROUS work in my mama.

‘Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.’ (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank you so much for teaching my mama your love, your precious, everlasting, amazing love in Christ Jesus to us. Thank you SO MUCH that you give us mamas to love and to cherish and to nurture us. They are truly a GIFT from you.

The Day After Thanksgiving: My sister made pizza. ‘Nuff said. It was DELICIOUS.

Huge Recovery Win:

ED would say it’s not okay to eat an icecream cone from Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory and an RX Bar for lunch but it is all a wonderful, awesome gift from God. So I can give thanks instead. ““Every man also to whom God hath given riches and wealth, and hath given him power to eat thereof, and to take his portion, and to rejoice in his labour; this is the gift of God.”
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭5:19‬ ‭

Last but not least I have some super fun link love for you, because I just have been too lazy about link love. Here we go:

Comments

I am definitely a people pleaser and this past year has been my “no” year. I realised that I was constantly saying yes because I didn’t want to disappoint people – but saying yes was actually destroying me as I was overstretched, stressed and totally frazzled.

It was a HUGE challenge to say no to things but I realised the more I said no to the things I couldn’t do/didn’t have time for etc, the more of myself I had to give to those things I could say yes to – and the better friend and loved one I was.

This is amazing. God has been speaking to me this week about my need to please or impress other people and the way it is bringing me down. When we live for the approval of others it completely drains us.
But seeking God’s approval is so much easier since Jesus made a way for us.

i’m glad we both touched on this topic this week! i am definitely a people pleaser- it’s tough. but we have to remember that we really just need to please ourselves and put ourselves first! it’s crazy how much pressure we put on ourselves.

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