In Reply to: RIP Ingrid posted by Tom ZeCat on February 22, 2009 at 5:53 pm:

I'm so sorry about the loss of your old friend, Tom. I'm sure it was a shock to see her obituary. At this point, I don't think there is anything you can or should do. Ingrid had moved on and created a new life for herself. Your relationship with her was deeply significant to you, and I'm sure it was valuable to her as well but likely in a different way. Had you also moved on to a marriage you cherished and had children, your current feelings and memories of her would probably have been far less intense and impacting on you. Grieve the loss of the relationship you wanted, mourn the passing of a dear friend from your past, do something special, but private, in her honor, and know that you chose divergent paths in life and you cannot undo those choices.