Everyone has their own opinion, fine, but what happened to plain old respect? If using male pronouns and being called 'dad' upsets OP's parent then surely out of respect for her feelings OP should accept this. Biological sex does not necessarily correlate with gender.

OP is going through a difficult time, and it must be very confusing. However I for one would hate to lose a parent over this - they are still your parent OP and they still love you and care for you, they have simply decided to be themselves, as they would surely want the same for you.

The thing is that he has kept it from my mum for 15+ years, which I think is absolutely pathetic. I told him not to dress up as I don't like it when I'm revising for my exams, he said grow up and get a grip. He has been absolutely horrible to me, having ago at me when I haven't done anything wrong.
I'm still calling him because he's waiting for the appointment for the operation.

I'm no way homophobic i just don't think it's right for him to do any of that to me and my mum.

(Original post by amyjanee15)
The thing is that he has kept it from my mum for 15+ years, which I think is absolutely pathetic. I told him not to dress up as I don't like it when I'm revising for my exams, he said grow up and get a grip. He has been absolutely horrible to me, having ago at me when I haven't done anything wrong.
I'm still calling him because he's waiting for the appointment for the operation.

I'm no way homophobic i just don't think it's right for him to do any of that to me and my mum.

(Original post by amyjanee15)
The thing is that he has kept it from my mum for 15+ years, which I think is absolutely pathetic. I told him not to dress up as I don't like it when I'm revising for my exams, he said grow up and get a grip. He has been absolutely horrible to me, having ago at me when I haven't done anything wrong.
I'm still calling him because he's waiting for the appointment for the operation.

I'm no way homophobic i just don't think it's right for him to do any of that to me and my mum.

You're not homophobic or transphobic, you just sound kinda selfish and stupid about the whole thing. You think it's pathetic that your dad has had trouble coming to terms with her own gender in fear of discrimination? I don't blame her with the way you see things. She's not doing anything to you at all this isn't even about you or your mum. It's solely about your dad and if that's a problem for you and or your mother, you do you but you're not in the right.

(Original post by AperfectBalance)
No it isn't my preferred pronoun. it IS MY PRONOUN biological sex is not irrelevant

Please inform me of when solely biology determined your pronoun. I have yet to discover a nature-given "This is a female, therefore must be called her for now and eternity" tattoo. A location would be greatly appreciated.

If my dad was transgendered I'd still call him dad. Idgaf about being PC and using the "correct pronoun". I think it would be almost an insult to my real mother to call my dad, mother. He has not brought me up the way a mother does. A sex change will never enable him to do and become what a mother is. So no, I wouldn't call him mum.

(Original post by Novascope)
If my dad was transgendered I'd still call him dad. Idgaf about being PC and using the "correct pronoun". I think it would be almost an insult to my real mother to call my dad, mother. He has not brought me up the way a mother does. A sex change will never enable him to do and become what a mother is. So no, I wouldn't call him mum.

(Original post by acupofgreentea)
Please inform me of when solely biology determined your pronoun. I have yet to discover a nature-given "This is a female, therefore must be called her for now and eternity" tattoo. A location would be greatly appreciated.

Its all to do with chromosomes, If you have one set we call that male the other female. not too hard to see