Thursday, 11 October 2012

Why do we need to be emotionally intelligent?

It is a fact that “Human Brain” has amazing potential and you can train your mind to increase its efficiency. But, you might have experienced that you can not focus on your task because you are distracted. You cannot pour enough energy into something because your heart dislikes it or feel insulted to do it or your performance is extraordinary when you receive
appreciation, support or feeling happy for any reason.

What does all this mean? It means that the efficiency of
your brain is somehow aligned with your emotions. And sometimes, these emotions
are so strong that they overcome us and we feel totally helpless at our
workplaces, our productivity suffers, and we may have to bear serious loss in
our career, if those emotions are extremely negative.

Yes, I do believe that we all human beings and human beings
should have emotions. But, why to make emotions so powerful so they can harm
us? Your plans can not afford your mood swings. If you want to be a successful
professional, and entrepreneur, then you must know how to free yourself from
these tremendous emotions that can take you to unknown directions.

All these facts lead us to a point where we need to be
emotionally intelligent, if we wish to survive happily. This may be, a new term
for many so to define it formally;

“Emotional intelligence is a blend of competencies which
allow a person to be conscious of and understand their own emotions and other
people's emotions and to use this knowledge to achieve success”

Now, I am feeling strongly to coin the term ‘Emotional
Independence’ where we can make our productivity least affected by our or someone
else's emotions. Where you perform your task even if your family is suffering
with hunger, where you can help others ignoring the fact that they deceived you,
where you can go along with your business plans no matter you have just broken
up with your fiancé,got divorced or received the news of fire at your hill station farm house.

Yes, the motive is to
go along with business plans irrelevant to the emotional dilemma you have experienced.

Shall I become emotionless?

Now, do not interpret the above discussion as throwing
emotions out of your life. You are human being not robot, incomplete without
emotions. We are here to find out how to manage ourselves, making intelligent
use of our abilities .So, if negative emotions can destroy your carrier;
positive emotions can take you to ultimate heights .And, sometimes people
succeed even with the negative emotions like jealousy, rivalry and revenge.

So for our ease, we can take emotions as some form of energy
which can be used to boost up our success and productivity.

Are you emotionally healthy?

By emotionally
healthy we mean,you are supposed to note that life is not about all good .To be
realistic ,there are very harsh realities ,and many unhealthy emotions meet us
occasionally .It is impractical to look at a single side of picture only
,whether it is negative or even positive .Your emotional intelligence is
reflected when you won’t let the bad harm you and won’t miss the charm of good
.An emotionally healthy person, usually have the following personalities traits
:

Amity

Focus

Stability

Gratitude

Inspiration

Fulfillment

Awareness

Aspiration

Tranquility of mind

Improve your Emotional Intelligence:

If you are missing any of the
above-mentioned checklists, then you need to work on improving yourself:

1- Say No to Hopelessness:

If you are the
one who thinks there is no good left or all your efforts are going vain then
you eventually dive into state of hopelessness .You start looking at the darker
side of the things and you start losing your heart, excitement or passion for
work.

If this is your condition,
then, you need some fresh air .Observe the beauty around you and find motivation
.If nothing works, read the inspiring material about life, career and one’s own
self .Read biographies of successful people .Read about the people who were
born with some incapability but they overcome it with effort and good will .You
will definitely find your ray of hope.

2- Try, Try and Try Again:

Sometimes it happens that we are quite positive about any effort we made
but the results do not come up to our expectations. These are very
disappointing moments especially when you have put your whole heart and soul
into it (I have also experienced them). But does this mean that you should stop
doing struggles because they are not yielding any results?

No, you are getting it wrong, if you are thinking to give
up. These unsatisfactory results are just a sign to tell you that you can do
even more. Whatever you put in, thinking as your 100% was not your extreme. You
have a lot more unexplored potential. Keep on trying and raise your standard
higher and higher.

3- Every experience is learning:

It is not that the only career efforts disappoint you;
rather, your relationships and personal affairs may also affect you badly. They
may occupy your head and take away your creative, imaginative and productive
skills. Sometimes people deceive you and sometimes you have to be parted from
your love because of any social, religious or cultural bounds. These leave a
deeper impression on your heart and are comparatively more difficult to
overcome. You have to move on, no matter what happens. Remember, ‘Every
experience is learning -- be it good or bad’.

4- Stay Confident/ Build your opinion:

Let not anyone else define you. There are so many people who
get deceived by other people’s opinion about them .If you have made a pancake
and it tastes good; serve and tell others that you have made a delicious
pancake. You can never make everyone happy, so don’t feel worry if you can’t do
so. Note that I am not saying that do not ask or consider anyone else’s
suggestions. Do ask from people who can appreciate well and condemn bad. Don’t
surround yourself from flatterers or biased people. Similarly, you have to
build your opinion analyzing positive and negative aspects. You should be able
to judge yourself in unbiased manner.

5- Build your Communication Skill:

This may sound a little off-topic but your communication
skills will help you to convey your emotions to others. You will be able to
understand other people’s emotions by asking the right questions. You will be
able to handle the situations and turn the discussion into your favor. Use your
skill to resolve conflicts and maintain peaceful environments. A mature
conversation is a reflection that the person is emotionally stable. Not only
this, learn how to communicate with yourself.

This was all for today buddies, we will surely carry up the discussion in next posts.
Stay Blessed!

I am happy that you did some changes in your blog and started to take some more steps.

That is just 2 lines because I didn't read the post as I was all the way thinking that I am on a wrong blog and had to see the domain name for the confirmation.

Also I am a bit depressed and not feeling so great and hence not getting interested in reading or doing something. I don't even know the reason for my depression. Or may be it's the hot climate which is making me feel that I am depressed. It's really damn hot over here.

Stay blessed and happy bhavesh.I missed your comment and you are so late this time. You are also silent at ebook freebie. Your silence made me worry. How is your dad now?And look, do not feel depress else i wont update my blog:P

Hehe.. Don't just think about me.. Think about the other readers as well who are reading your blog. My dad is fine but not very fit as he was before the operation :'(

I am not feeling good, hence I am keeping my mouth shut as much as possible because I am afraid I will say something wrong with a sad mind. I feel like the whole world is killing me. Although there are very few people whom I trust a lot but I am somehow loosing trust on them as well :(

I don't know what the heck is going on... This whole year was worse for me and my family as well :(

Oh My!! Amazed to see your blog Rahmeen :PAnd I thought you wrote on non-tech stuff, involving mainly life issues. Anyway, I loved to see the theme of your blog - though you can make it more artistic :PAnd it has a nice menu too :)About the article - one word, AWESOME

I'm the sort of person who is FAR FAR AWAY from technical stuff actually. As for what made me think that you write non-tech stuff is my very very earliest visit at your blog once, at that time, there were no tech posts.

communication skills is not an off point... because the most important thing is to convey ur emotions... i just love this blog ... its neither about the colors nor about the theme its just the way of giving an important message in a simple and appealing way.. I was aware of all these facts but after reading ur blog i want to work on my habits to be emotionally intelligent... :)