Let me start off by saying I know this is normal and will be an issue forever. However its getting out of control and im not sure who and how to punish anymore.The twins will be 1 next month and Lilly is 3 . The twins are in the terrible stage of pinching,biting and deadly screams and its all being unleashed on lilly who will fight back by pushing,punching,kicking,biting back. By the time I get involved everyone is already crying.

Just last week Fiona went towards to Lilly to bite her and Lilly throws her arms up and sends Fi into the entertainment center head first no blood was formed this time I cant help but get angry how deadly that could have turned, they both got a timeout and had to hug and say sorry but it hasnt stopped. Im going insane here

I think that all you can do is be consistent with everyone. It will take time but should improve. My 4.5 year old is pretty aggressive with my just turned 2 year old as well. The big one always retaliates here as well and sometimes is even the instigator.

Its insane with young kids! Do you do timeouts? If so, does everyone get the same amount of time? I tried the age/minutes thing and was such a fail. So ive been doing 3 mins for every guilty party. I cant wait for this stage to ease up im tired of being a broken record

Yes, timeouts are part of the consequences I use. Generally my little is hitting with something so he'll lose that as a consequence instead. Toys that are fought over are also removed. Time outs generally work much better on my older ones

i try to spot the fight before it happens and get one of my kids to do something diferent. if not then whatever they are fighting over gets taken away and they get timeouts or seperation (each sent to a different room) depending on the situation.