That’s ‘should-ing’, in case you were wondering…
Sometimes we’re so hard on ourselves aren’t we? We tell ourselves we shouldn’t have said that, we should be better at something, we shouldn’t have eaten that, we should have been kinder to someone, we should have understood something that we didn’t – our list of ‘should-ing’ all over ourselves is endless.

'Should-ing' on ourselves

What happens when you listen to that voice that tells you should or should not have said or…

“Why do you always spend too much money?”
“It drives me mad that you never spend any time with the kids!”
“You’re always late.”
“My boss never appreciates the care and attention I put into my work.”
Do any of these sound familiar?
‘Always’ and ‘never’ are such black-and-white words aren’t they? They’re defining and clear. How much easier it is to pigeonhole someone if they ‘never’ clear up after themselves or are ‘always’ rude?
Yet people aren’t black and…

Alison had experienced some tough office politics a few years ago and came to a recent War to Peace® workshop feeling very stressed. She had left that troublesome organisation but wasn't faring much better in her current company. She was now in her second role and explained that she had the constant worry that people were thinking the worst of her and talking about her behind her back. This made her edgy and defensive, which affected both her relationships and…

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John Cooke, former Senior Vice President and Ombudsman, McDonalds Corporation, Galena, Illinois

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