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Topic: am i going to be a dad? (Read 954 times)

I've been debating posting this but need advice. My fiance and I have been trying lately after deciding we wanted a little one. She has a daughter who is 4 who is pretty much my daughter. My fiance stopped taking her pill 3 weeks ago today. For fun we have tested a couple times always negative. Well Sunday night around 10pm she took a test and to our big suprise it said pregnant. So I run to walmart to buy more test. I get home she takes another but it says negative. The next morning it says negative and last night this morning both negative. We are so confused and not sure what to do. We read that a false positive is very rare but could be caused by a chemical pregnancy which is pretty much a very early miscarriage. But no bleeding or nothing to speak of. She has been having occasional cramp with back pain. Getting nauseous very easy, head aches, and dizziness. Actually vomited out of no where the other day. So we are lost. We got so excited to see a yes to be let down by several no. We are confused and don't know what to do.

Kubota L-4200, Ford 8N, S-10 4WD Beater truck, Chainsaw, Bush Hog, couple ATV's and 141 acres of trees I'm not sure what to do with but I sure do have fun and enjoy being in the woods!The First 50 years of childhood is always the hardest.

My late wife and I went through 5 years of trying but were finally successful. We had a couple miscarriages along the way. Her body knew enough to adjust for an error in reproduction.

Now, don't let her take this the wrong way. Years ago, we were raising quarter horses. We already had 3 on the ground. The gestation period is 11 months! So, we breed our mare. Vet check says looks good. The mare is putting on weight. At about 10 months, she is "bagging up", starting to produce milk - a great sign. She is looking really big (fat). Eleven months, get the stall ready and we wait, and wait, and wait. Her teats "wax up" meaning birth is hours or a few days away at most. And we wait and wait and wait.

Finally, we call the vet out. Checks her out - she was never pregnant! WHAT! So what I'm saying, I guess, is the mind is a powerful thing and sometimes you can will your body to believe it.

If it is meant to be, it will happen. Nature has a way of doing the right thing. Relax and things will go as they should.

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John Sawicky

Just North-East of Sacramento...

SkyTrak 9038, Davis Little Monster backhoe, Case 16+4 Trencher, Home Built 38" cut Bandmill up to 64' - using it all to build a timber frame cabin.

Reality check....while some women can get pregnant very soon after discontinuing the pill, it usually takes 2-3 months, or more, to have her natural cycle up and running at optimum speed. Some take much longer. Your concern after only 3 weeks is quite misplaced. Stop testing and go to bed. Nature takes care of this all by herself. If you go a year, have her talk to her OB when she has her annual visit. If failing to get pregnant three weeks after stopping the pill is your biggest problem, then you both have led charmed lives.