Why is it so controversial to talk about surgical complications?

If you’ve been following the comments on my last two blog posts, you’ve probably noticed the level of vitriol directed at me – all because I’m sharing the real-world consequences of SRS. Some people devote quite a lot of time and effort into getting worked up over this subject. I’ve been called, for example, a “crypto-fascist feminazi bitch” for wanting trans people to know what they’re getting into before they go under the knife. I mean, maybe “bitch” is fair – I haven’t had emotions ever since Tara died on Buffy. But I’m definitely not a feminazi. *slides my Polish invasion plans back inside my Lisa Frank trapper-keeper*

Annnnyway, before we actually get into the nitty-gritty of the neovagina disasters, I wanted to talk a little bit about why this is such a touchy subject for many people. Outside observers might wonder, “why do trans people get so pissed off when SRS surgical complications are shared?” The answer is simple: SRS is as much a political statement as it is a surgical procedure.

This screenshot from Reddit demonstrates how trans people have a certain devotion to SRS, which is being called “GRS” in this post – a devotion so strong that they would rather not share their own “complications and trauma” because it would make the surgery look bad.

SRS enjoys a certain degree of reverence in the trans community. It is often seen as the end goal of transitioning. Although many MTF people choose to keep their penises, SRS has historically been known as the final step – and many pre-surgical Reddit/Facebook/Blog posts will express a sentiment to the effect of “whew, I’m finally going to be done!”

If you hang around trans websites long enough, you’ll start to pick up the lingo. “Pre-everything” means someone who has not taken any kind of medical steps toward transitioning. “Pre-HRT” means, specifically, someone who has not taken hormones yet. And “pre-op” means someone who has not gotten SRS. These are basically the three major milestones of transitioning to many trans people: coming out, taking hormones, getting SRS. Of course, there are other surgical procedures such as facial feminization surgery or tracheal shave, but these are not quite as iconic as SRS.

Granted, many (perhaps most) MTFs do not have the resources to get SRS. It’s expensive and not all insurance plans cover it. But it’s often seen as the final step in a long journey, and for that reason, criticizing SRS is tantamount to criticizing transitioning. It’s like saying, “you will never be who you want to be, because the surgical hole between your legs will not be a vagina.” And that’s considered highly offensive.

This is only made worse by the discourse in the trans community regarding SRS. It’s become almost a meme that MTFs will claim “your neovagina will be indistinguishable from a cis vagina – not even a gynecologist could tell the difference!” I’ve seen some (pre-op) MTFs tell prospective surgery candidates to bring a photograph of a vagina you like to your doctor, as if you were bringing a photograph to your hairdresser. And in society-at-large, there’s an assumption that some kind of sexual reassignment surgery exists and when you come out the other end, you’re probably indistinguishable from an actual woman. Although the “I didn’t know she was a man!” punchline is not at all designed to be supportive of trans people, it does reflect a common misunderstanding that the surgery is pretty good – or at least, good enough to fool the average person.

The reality, though, is quite different. As you will see as we continue our journey through the Disaster Zone, SRS is prone to many complications – which go underreported, as we see in the screenshot above, because SRS is sacrosanct and criticism is not permitted. These complications include necrosis (dead tissue – parts of the neovagina fall off), fistulas (holes between the vagina and rectum which causes the MTF to defecate through the neovagina), infections, bad odors, lack of orgasm, and so much more. Plus, they are not even remotely close to a real vagina in terms of appearance. Even the absolute best cases are noticeably different than a real vagina.

This project is designed to be compassionate and educational. In fact, I would go as far as to say that I, as a “TERF”, care more about trans people than the individual in the screenshot above. While they want to conceal their botched surgery so that others will not be dissuaded from following them down that path, I want people to have informed consent and to understand the risks. And that’s what prompts so much hatred.

It’s a mess. SRS is a surgery, but it’s also an important piece of trans culture and is therefore political as well. But the politics surrounding SRS should never, ever, ever be an excuse to conceal the very real complications so that it can go forward without criticism.

If that makes you hate me, then fine. I find the angry comments amusing. The truth will keep coming, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.

With that being said, I plan on updating this blog about twice a week. I will mostly focus on the disasters but will occasionally make a post like this to discuss the circumstances surrounding SRS in the trans community. Any graphic images in these posts will be clickable links, so you can feel free to read this blog in Starbucks if you like. No adult content will be hosted on these servers but rather on places like Imgur and so forth.

Thank you for reading, and if you’ve gotten this far, please flame me in the comments!

It’s definitely very different than a real vagina. Maybe some idiot might not be able to tell, but for one, it sits much higher than a real one. The labia is always very flat, and looks like what it is, nutsack skin sewn in there. They are deluding themselves and think if they just keep repeating it, it’ll make it true.
I’m sorry. It won’t. Your neo vagina is very noticeably different. It doesn’t look real. It isn’t real.

It’s not per se that we see SRS as the last step. I am of the opinion that SRS was just another correction that I had done. I have always seen myself as a woman, even before SRS. I did SRS for myself, not for the acceptance of others. I had severe dysphoria over my penis.
Some MtFs do not wish to undergo SRS. In fact, I would say the majority used to forgo SRS. Blaire White is non-op for now, Gigi Gorgeous is non-op. Nikita Dragun is non-op. People assumed Gigi Lazarrato (Gigi Gorgeous) had had SRS when she told the world after 5 years of mystery surrounding it, that she hadn’t had ” the sex change ”. People still continued to see her as a woman. I for one am of the opinion that trans women who do not pass are better off to invest their money in a facial feminization surgery than in a SRS surgery. Nobody sees what’s between your legs but everyone sees your face. You say FFS is not iconic enough. Well, you may be wrong there. FFS is a bigger change than SRS. FFS remodels your entire face and skull. It’s very hard to recover from. Especially forehead reconstruction type III. For some trans women FFS and breast implants are all the surgeries they need to feel at home in their bodies. They are still as much of a trans woman as a trans woman who decides to undergo SRS. I’m very happy that I was able to gather the funds to undergo SRS due to having a well paying job. However, I’m looking forward to breast augmentation and FFS more than I looked forward to SRS. Yes, we will never be cis women but we come pretty damn close. There is a big difference between trans women who start in their 60s and trans women who start in their 20s. Not every woman you come across out in the streets was born female. Some were born male and transitioned. They are reassigned women. Our womanhood is real. Verifiable studies show consistent satisfaction rates of 98 percent for gender reassignment surgery. No other cosmetic surgery has this high satisfaction rate. Regretters are under 2 percent. Unless you can show me a recent study (not the biased Swedish one that is outdated) that shows sky high regret rates, then your website is nothing more than an opinion of an uninformed individual. Fistulas are complications that occur in LESS than 1 percent of all SRS surgeries performed. Hair growth inside the vagina is rare. You are required to have completed electrolysis before a surgeon will perform penile inversion on you. In Thailand doctor Chettawut cauterizes the skin graft he uses to create the neovagina. That way no hair grows inside. Lubrication is possible because the cowper’s glands are still present and the prostate also produces some lubrication. Dilation is only a concern during the first two years during healing. After that the depth is more or less a constant depth. Dilation is not all that necessary anymore past the 2 year mark. I’m 2 years post op and regular intercourse replaces my dilation routine. No bad odors either. I use Premarin cream. Estrogen helps with the flora of the neovagina. It also keeps the texture inside the neovagina smooth. It’s not the monstrous wound you want to portray it as. Most cisgender hetero males who have been in neovaginas didn’t even notice if the girl didn’t tell them.

“Most cisgender hetero males who have been in neovaginas didn’t even notice if the girl didn’t tell them.”
”most cisgender hetero males” in Neo Vagina Disaster reddit page (RIP) knew how to discern a neo vagina from a real one BY SIGHT… but yeah sure, they definitely wouldn’t knew it neither by penetrating it or if the “girl” told them…..🙄

Most cisgender heterosexual males in the Neovaginadisasters subreddit were either incels or Trump supporters (or both for that matter) who haven’t been with a girl much less gotten close to a regular vagina. Their “neovagina identifying skills” won’t exactly help them when they can’t even get in a meaningful relationship in the first place

How does anyone political alignement has anything to do with their abillty to discern a neovagina from a real one?? Let’s stop with the strawman argument that anyone being critical of neovagina/SRS is a virgin male incel Trumm supporter… A bunch of NeoVagina reddit users were women and/or lesbians (who I assume saw a fair share of vaginas..) who were also very vocal about how neovagina has absolutely nothing to do with with the appearence of a real one. Men should NEVER be entitled to school actual WOMEN about what a vagina looks like. I mean, I’m a straight woman who didn’t see that much vagina other than mine and even I could see how different a neovagina is from a real one – it’s like day and night.

Lmao. Not “everyone” in that reddit was a trump supporter or incel. Many were so called “feminists” too! However, if you spent any amount of time looking at the profiles on that sub, at least 80% posted on both T_D AND r/braincels. The people who think Neovaginas are going to be unclockable in a OB/GYN office are 1) blatantly lied to by uninformed pre-op trans people but 2) in the extreme minority. There are extremely obvious biological differences. Many Guys however, they’re not going to be so smart. They can hardly find the clitoris let alone know the differences unless they’re pointed out, or are extremely obvious. The ones that do, well good for them I guess? They have a skill that’s completely useless except in a medical setting.

I am an actual woman, so no : no man should trying to school actual WOMEN about what a vagina looks like. Neovagina will NEVER compete with real ones. Ever. I’ve probably seen less vaginas than the average straight male does and yet even I can see how vagina were off compared to a real one so I’m not surprised most males on this reddit weren’t fooled about it, let’s get real… Assuming shit about their political alignement is irrelevant to this discourse. Even when there was troll attempts and real vaginas got posted pretty much everyone knew they were real.
And we were not experts in gynecology neither. Let’s be real : anyone with a basic grasp about anatomy could see it. No need to be a specialist about clitoris or whatever.

You’re not a woman. You have a man’s genetic make-up; your womanhood is non-existent because you’re a man, No amount of surgery will change that. You are nothing close to a woman either, you don’t have the flora of a woman’s vagina because you don’t have a vagina. You have a surgically created opening that is nothing close to a genuine vagina, which is a functional organ attached to an entire organ system, not a masturbation hole for men.

It’s a damn shame that you guys propagate these fantasies to lead more and more people to mutilate themselves. It’s also a damn shame that women, who should know better, play into this and are complicit in the erasure of their own rights and identities.

As for the ‘cis gender’ males, a) they’re not straight if they’re having sex with you. b) they know the difference – they’re either chasers or using you as a thrill to cross of on their sexual bucket list; or they’re fetishists. Either way, if they’ve had sex with a woman, they know the difference and rely on your delusional thought system to make you believe that they can’t. c) you don’t lubricate like a woman, you don’t have the internal feel of a real vagina, so no, it doesn’t feel, smell or taste like a vagina because it isn’t one. Take all the premarin you want, you still won’t have a vagina. Women don’t need to tell men whether or not their vaginas are real.

If you need to lie to yourself, go right ahead; the rest of the world, that doesn’t exist in your echo chamber. doesn’t buy it. And deep down, neither do you, or else you wouldn’t have to trumpet your ‘womanhood’ all over the place.

I largely agree with the sentiment. The community really does have elements of a cult to to it. That is not to say that the trans movement is illegitimate, but speaking out against certain aspects of it gets you shot down and ridiculed. In that way, it’s very much similar to a cult. I’m fearful of the way out society goes along with it without ever really daring to stop and question it. There is no open discourse about the results of the procedure either, and I think there should be.