im on my way to freedom. im not cured, but i feel damn close. i found through therapy that i can smile again. thanks brian for trying to reach out to me. you mention that i have only been n therapy and dealing with this for the last couple of years. i have been dealing with this since i was 10. i went to therapy for help. she told me that i dont need to be on my guard. not everyone is looking to hurt me. one person did and i have forgiven him. it was a tough thing for me to do but i did. i moved to SC for peace of mind but mostly because i wanted to kill the s.o.b. Had i not left i'm sure i would have. i also knew that i was dealing with another part of my life that no one took away from me but that i was missing-happiness.

I'm glad to hear you are doing well. I wish you all the best as you travel down the road of recovery. Try to remember that there are often bumps in the road. If you ever need someone to listen, to help you get over one of those bumps, you know how to contact me.

This is Babs - Geteddie's wife - and I have a problem with Mr. Edwin "Look now I can even use the NOMSV bulletin board to harass my ex-wife & others" Garcia.

I converse with Edwin Garcia's ex-wife, known on this forum as "Mrs. SilentNoMore". She and I started writing to each other long before she finally filed for divorce, so the source of Getteddie's facts is/was me. She and I faced many common issues as we both struggled to keep our 20+ year marriages together. Sadly, the Garcia's were unable to get back together.

After the divorce it took a restraing order to stop Mr. Garcia from dunning his ex-wife with emails & phone calls.

So he comes to this NOMSV forum and posts a message blaming his ex-wife for not understanding "his pain" or -IMHO- "maybe she couldn't understand how he could LOVE HER SO MUCH, but continue to live with his girlfriend".

After the NOMSV post Mr.Garcia promptly emailed all friends and family about the post in order to get his ex-wife's attention and/or sympahty.

I fully agree with Brian B14 that this forum is NOT a place for mudslinging, but it is also NOT here as an instrument to harass family, friends or other forum participants.

What follows is a private message sent to my husband, - Getteddie -, by this "cured" person who says in his own words that

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i got my shit together

. I posted this here because Mr. Garcia likes to send these private messages , but blocks any reply. Left with no other option I decided to respond to Mr.Garcia's juvienille behavior in public.

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Author Topic: honesty is the best policy edwin garcia New Member Member # 640 posted June 25, 2002 06:43 PM --------------------------------------------------------------------------------you seem to know alot about me. pretty amazing since you have never had contact with me. i have been in therapy for several years now and i got my shit together. from what i hear about you, you're a fucking asshole drunk but thats just one side of the story. who knows you may very well be a nice guy. doubtful but who knows. perhaps that is why you think everyone is out to get eddie. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Posts: 6 | From: columbia sc | Registered: Feb 2002

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Edwin -

I truly wish you well in your future recovery. It seems to me that you probably have alot further to go than you might think.

I truly wish that you can be helped by this forum and be helpful to others on this forum. The forum has been very helpful to my husband and myself as we continue to deal with the devasting impact that the SA has had on Eddie and our relationship.

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