We take your questions on they/them pronouns, sending married monogrammed thank-yous before you’re married, handling a couple who is asking you to chip in on their wedding, who should go first walking through doors and how to let those you’ve been talking to for online dating know you’ve met someone. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and postscript about dining classics. The sustaining member extra question of the week looks at tipping when your server changes shifts.