The relationship is not meant for you to expect the other person to do what you want, but to do what you want yourself, to be what you are in that relationship, to show what you are, how good you are, how we want to be, what kind of person you want to be in that relationship.

You think okay, "Now I meet him, I meet her, and then my life will change. It will be fantastic. He or she is going to make me happy ." It's not true. You're going to make yourself happy or not in that relationship.

Most of the time, we expect our partner to make us happy, to be the one that we like in our picture.

And that's the problem.

We forgot to be who we want to be. We forgot to make a schedule for us, make an idealistic agenda for us, and we make an agenda for our partner.

We make a kind of picture for our partner to fit in. Both expect the same way, and that's why things fall apart.

Our problem is just ourselves, always us.

But most people when they're married or have a partner, a friendship, they pay all their attention to the other half, and check it out, "Oh, he did it wrong.", "She did it bad." or "She's no good." "He's not nice."

We forget that we must check ourselves. ​

We're the one important.

​​Any relationship, any situation is for us to learn, not for the other person.

The other person is the "catalyst" only. It's an excuse for us to exercise our power, our imagination about ourselves.

It's not about your husband or your wife, but about yourself. What kind of person you want to be or to show him or her in this relationship.

If he reacts good to it, fine. If he doesn't or she doesn't react good to it, it's not much you can do about it, but just to check yourself if you're still balanced, still in good track, you're okay or not okay.