For some same-sex couples, breaking up is hard to do

At the moment, she can't have either wish. Her home state of Texas doesn't consider her to be married or a mom. Her name isn't even on the birth certificate.

Those two problems "never even crossed my mind" when she began looking for a lawyer to get out of her same-sex marriage, performed legally in Washington in 2010. "I didn't think it would be this hard," Flood Lesh, 33, says. "It's a lot bigger than I initially thought."