A wise man can live in peace with things he cannot change. Never try to do things you cant. What is the point in teaching a donkey to sing. It is a sheer waste of time and effort. A student who has failed must not blame the question paper or examiner. He was not prepared. Be prepared—win some , lose some—but at least you tried.

Nature follows the law, use it or lose it. There is this famous yogi who went into severe penance for 20 years by standing on one leg and keeping one hand lifted up. By the time he finished his lifted up hand had shrivelled .

You must fight and make your own life on the planet. Don’t expect anybody else to do it for you. Make most of the best and least of the worst. Man alone is the architect of his destiny. Inaction is worse than no action at all.

No dream can become true unless you have some skill and go to work. Check out what skills are most needed in the market. Choose a job you love, then you don’t have to work a day in your life. Hunt or get hunted.

Belief is the power behind all accomplishments. The man who wins is the man who thinks he can. Faith and trust are the seeds which bring the sweet fruits of success. Faith is about “ can do” think “ it is possible” it gives you new energy. Faith is the bird which sings when the dawn is still dark.

Will power is the decision to carry on the fight. Self esteem is required to make a person mentally healthy.

Friendship is like a plant –it must be watered and nurtured. Emotional health cannot be grown alone. Man is a social animal. We need family and friends to improve our emotional health. No one can lead a healthy life in isolation. Acceptance between man and society must be 2 way. Society will accept you if you follow the norms and when you are of some use to others.

A mentally healthy person learns to evaluate himself , his own performance and behaviour. An unusual amount of commonsense is called wisdom. Wisdom is discriminating between right and wrong. Knowledge is about knowing more and more—WISDOM IS ABOUT KNOWING LESS AND LESS .

To be successful you must be exited about life. Life is a festival only to those who live with enthusiasm. Lack of enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.

Try to see a situation as it is from different angles and not as you want. If your life is free of opportunities then you are not taking enough risks. If you want peace you must be prepared for war. Only an asshole will start digging a well, when he gets thirsty.

It is not enough to aim, you must hit. Failure to hit the bulls eye is never the fault of the target. You have to choose your own goal, at the same time follow social norms. Belief in predetermined destiny is the only refuge of weak minds. Take responsibility for your failures.

Self respect commands respect from others. If you don’t know simply say so. Frankness does not require being brutally so. True salesmanship starts when the customer says NO. A kite rises only against the wind.

Good manners are the best letters of recommendation. Bad manners reduce our acceptability in society, thereby affecting our social relations. A good laugh is the best medicine.. Laughter is a tranquiliser with no side effects. Laughter is the cheapest luxury, it electrifies the nerves and cleanse the system.

Prayer renews our internal strength during rough weather. A prayer is to the soul what air is to the lungs. ( take this form a hardcore sailor who has never said a prayer in his life –even when his ship was 35 miles off super typhoon Bart at 925 mb atmospheric pressure and 225 knots of wind ). After studying Quantum physics I do feel nowadays that Prayer is powerful.

Better a thousand enemies outside the house than one inside.

Carelessness can do more harm than lack of knowledge. It should not become a habit. If carelessness is not trying to know the destructive forces, negligence is overlooking the destructive forces.

There is nothing that wastes the body and mind like worry. Worries are more about yesterday and tomorrow. Don’t take tomorrow to bed with you. There is a difference between planning and worrying. Planning is constructive, worry is destructive.

Try to forget useless things. To remember everything is to make your mind a dustbin.

Love is food for the soul. Jealousy is poison for the soul. Better to forgive and forget than hate and remember. Fear tends to produce the things we are afraid of.

The greatest wealth is contentment with little. It consists in simple wants. Try to live slightly below your means.

Too much glamour is like too much spices. It harms.

The blatant display of status symbols is the result of low self esteem. The self confident person can afford to project a modest image.

It is better to aim at a good thing and miss than to aim at a bad thing and hit.

The best time to solve a problem is as soon at it happens. Reward yourself every time you achieve success. It pays to reward yourself. It give give a boost to your zeal to achieve the next goal.

No process takes place without a principle. Principle is the cause and process is the effect. Principles are fair and impartial to all, incl the non living things at all place and time.

WE CANNOT CREATE OR DESTROY THE ENERGY OR MATTER IN THE UNIVERSE. BUT WE CAN SURELY CHANGE ITS FORM.

You cannot change your past, you cannot survive without water, you cannot change natures principle. The only solution is to accept things as they are.

No single agency can make a process happen. A process happens when at lest 2 agencies play a complimentary role.

Life is a grindstone -- whether is powders you to dust or polishes you depends on what you are made of.

The purpose of life is not only to be happy, but also to be creative , productive and useful—to make a difference that you lived at all on this planet. There is no experience better for the heart than to reach down and lift people.

The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good attention.

You have to bring meaning to your own life a painting or a song-- a celebration NOT a competition. Real richness consists of a singing heart-- Seriousness is a disease.

-- NOT a Donald Trump type money arrogant character ( and there are so many richer people that him on this planet- he and his side kicks must be surely under severe delusion !).

Such ugly rich people can shout " You are Fired!" -- deep inside he is a joyless and unloved beggar. There is no beauty , grace and peace. He can try to create grace with money -- but alas , grace is spiritual and comes as a flowering of your being. Life cannot be event managed.

Only people with inferiority complex wants to impress others. What matters is how you played the game--not whether you lost or won-- or was fired!

Do not go around copying others signatures. All imitations are plastic. There is great joy in being ordinary. Live life a bit hot, burn the torch at both ends , throw all the paint you can on the canvas of life-- but your innermost core must be cool.

Never fall into the same hole twice. The first fall can be deemed as experience. Only what you experience is yours.

Truth blossoms only in individual freedom. It can never happen to a crowd. If you surrender your freedom and individuality big brother and the society will give you great posts and respectability. Dare to be who you are.

You are responsible only to yourself. No order is higher than your own intelligence.

Creating guilt in you is the oldest trick of all religions. A happy person carries his own temple around him. Repressed sexuality causes almost all diseases.A man of awareness never reacts and so is unpredictable.

Eliminate the needless wants of life. Never feel shy to show feelings.

You must allow life its freedom. All perfectionism is a deep ego trip. Never betray a trust. Get along with people. Use soft words and hard arguments . Laugh, have fun. Most of your pain is self chosen.

You are in this river of life only for a short time on a raft--very soon 100% , you will plunge down the waterfall and die. Enjoy the fish you caught--don't keep fishing like a moron --for you cant take it all to your grave. Don't be in awe of death and demean life on the raft. YOU CANT BANISH THE DANGERS , BUT YOU CAN BANISH YOUR FEARS.

You have succeeded in life when all you really want is only what you really need.

YOU ARE NEVER A LOSER UNLESS YOU QUIT TRYING.!

One day you find, 10 years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun. - Pink Floyd

46 comments:

Well captain, i must say that you should leave your merchant navy job and start writing books, novels. You are just wonderful!! While reading your post most of the time feel as if i am expressing my own view rather than reading yours!! hahaha

You would remember that a few days back we had interacted on the Agnihotra Gau Ma Ghee effects and the divinity in an Alingan( embrace) with an Indian Gau Ma Ji :)That was the first post of yours that i had read and instantly deep within i felt a great blessed connection with you as an Agraj( elder brother.

Captain, I have a slightly novice question and a question which is very subjective: I want to know what is your recommendation when choosing a wife: a working woman whom you know can bring in steady income into the family or a non working woman whom you know has no earning power but know that she will take good care of the home/kids? which is better in the long run? Some people argue that working woman is better as she would give up her job when it comes to taking care of kids and once kids are grown up, she can go back to work and thus provide stability to family- but some say, working woman may bring money but also brings attitude and ego into the relationship and hence one is better off with a non working woman- less ego, and more harmony in the latter case. Pls advise.

Well, "working class women and voting women" were all started in west for vote bank politics and to increase the number of mordern form of slaves.Few days ago The Hindu reported that the Pope and three other guys have joined hands to eradicate mordern form of slavery from India by 2020, whatever that meansYou are absolute correct insight on an Indian Wife and how a family should be.

Thx for the reply sir,it helped me.I was pretty much impressed after reading about your son at cornell university.I also read about the way you beat your principal's son and yet teachers liked u because u were the topper(i am dragging this one because i want to be one).can u suggest some methods to study well with determination and willpower,how much hours,while taking break what i should think abt(related to studies or something else).how to maintin this attitude daily?i have problem with dizziness during class hours.waiting for ur reply....and yes pls remove my previous comment.

Rakesh Kumar KhandelwalOctober 21, 2014 at 4:14 AMThis article is one of my favorite write ups on your blog..I read it almost monthly basis ...There is something seriously wrong with Indian mindsets..may be kind of cerebral disintegration due to centuries of slavery...This article & "MANAGING TIME" one...has to be BLUEPRINT CODE for young people like me in 30-45 group..because we are on the cusp of experiencing these issues..But strangely only 12 comments here and may be 5-10 there...But on the new "Fart" one there are 200+..Also Captain...These blogs are of days when the innocence was still preserved...Now a days too much of discussion is based out on Toilet Paper of India...too many trolls..too many sycophants...You wont believe i have this,time,humor management & that "Super typhoon bart" printed and stapled with me..brilliant content. There is one post which is SERIOUSLY awaited by many readers.."Good Upbringing of children"..you know general guidelines ..we all know all but Captain Style Mind Reformatting Guided Missile is what I am waiting..

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Capt. Ajit VadakayilOctober 21, 2014 at 5:11 AMhi rk,

every young indian about to take a corporate job must read the following posts compulsorily.

nowdays people who have never seen a mountain write books on mountaineering and land up in the TOP 100 OF TIME MAGAZINE..

i give leadership lesson to my chief offiicers preparing them for ship's command.

when any officer leaves my ship for marriage i also tell him HOW TO FUCK HIS WIFE - so that she does NOT become a chutney mary -- making her pickle john husband make bed tea for her and wash her bloodied undies.

so i told him to tell me one DRY BORING topic over which i would speak to my full officers/ crew next day for 4 hours continuously--while STANDING ON FEET erect -in a line .

if one crew member even moved - i would give him an agreed amount of beer/cigarettes .

he chose RISK ASSESSMENT which is more boring than boring-totally technical.

what i spoke is now a blog post ( condensed form ).

first the speaker has to exude magnetism ( like OSHO ) -secondly if he can , he must hold the interest.

speakers like K Krishnamurty could NOT hold his audience's interest for more than 5 minutes -- as HILLY BILLY YANKS were NOT perceptive enough to understand the brillaince of his words. but OSHO spoke in small sentences like automatic rifle bursts.

THIS PLANET KNEW ONLY "STATIC" RISK ASSESSMENT .

IT WAS A MAN NAMED VADAKAYIL WHO INTRODUCED "DYNAMIC " RISK ASSESSMENT.

I STRETCHED THE POST ABOVE IN A LECTURE OF FOUR HOURS - NOT ONE SAILOR MOVED OR LEANED BACK ON THE WALL 12 INCHES BEHIND HIM.

I HAVE DONE THIS FOUR HOURS SPEECH THING AT LEAST 8 TIMES - TO PROVE TO MY CHIEF OFFICER -- ON DIFFERENT SHIPS- WITH DIFFERENT NATIONALITIES.

DYNAMIC risk assessment was always done in my mann mandir - before ant critical task. People would ask me why I am doing something totally opposite . If he could understand the flammability composition diagram I MAY tell him--otherwise it was NOT worth it.

above few sentences ARE THE MOST VALUABLE AMONG MY 51587 COMMENTS TILL TODAY-- so understand this -nobody on this planet can explain better ( this is NOT a boast so read the line again ) .

ug krishnamurthy ( a wannabe J ) was an ordinary man. J krishna murthy was on a higher plane.

Jiddu left a legacy, but nothing of this sort for UG, who lacked the self conviction and self confidence..UG was volatile and that too on a shaky foundation, and hyper-fragile Parveen Babi who accepted his a her guru, was catalyzed to self destruction. UG died bitter and alone- he could NOT rein in his inner devils.

thankx a lot sir for all this knowledge,i salute u sirhope happiess and peace be with u!!!sir one request to u when i have any problem i search on ur blog but sometimes it is difficult to get topic which i had looked if all topic in blog are sorted under some thread it will be of immense help.Thank u!

Dear captainnamasteI would like to know, are your management articles useful for persons other than in chemical tanker world.

its not written from point of view of a student preparing for all India competitive exams. i am one of them.so please clarify if time permits.your management articles are useful in general cases.Humble regardsRanjeet kumar

Censor Board did an excellent job of Censoring those Scenes from Angry Indian Goddesses film which promoted bad and vulgar language, gender divide, destructive feminist ideologies, new world order and depopulation agendas, anti-hindu / anti-india agendas etc. This film is nothing but CULTURAL TERRORISM against our great Bharatiya Culture of Hindustan.

The way they depict and project Hindu Gods and Goddesses is Insulting, Obscene and Despicable. These film makers NEVER portray Jesus/Mary or Allah/Muhammad in such a bad way. If they do, they will be labeled Bigoted Intolerant Communal by Benami Media but Abusing Hindu Values/Culture and Ridiculing Hindu Gods is totally Tolerant and very much Secular.

BJP Govt must sack those Ministers with KOSHER DNA sucking up to the Zionists and loved by Benami Mainstream Media and replace them with Desh Bhakt Ministers who respect Indian Values and Culture. Sooner the better.

Censor Board did an excellent job of Censoring those Scenes from Angry Indian Goddesses film which promoted bad and vulgar language, gender divide, destructive feminist ideologies, new world order and depopulation agendas, anti-hindu / anti-india agendas etc. This film is nothing but CULTURAL TERRORISM against our great Bharatiya Culture of Hindustan.

The way they depict and project Hindu Gods and Goddesses is Insulting, Obscene and Despicable. These film makers NEVER portray Jesus/Mary or Allah/Muhammad in such a bad way. If they do, they will be labeled Bigoted Intolerant Communal by Benami Media but Abusing Hindu Values/Culture and Ridiculing Hindu Gods is totally Tolerant and very much Secular.

BJP Govt must sack those Ministers with KOSHER DNA sucking up to the Zionists and loved by Benami Mainstream Media and replace them with Desh Bhakt Ministers who respect Indian Values and Culture. Sooner the better.

Why don’t you correct your spelling mistakes – all you need is to RC the mouse on the red wavy line –

Why is your font and size in such a mess—

When I was commanding ships at sea, many of my shore bosses told me— “Captain Ajit, if you showed some HUMILITY, you would have been such a great captain—the very best . Why do you kick the beehive to collect honey?”

I replied “ It is my style—ever noticed that the bees don’t sting me?”

THAT IS THE MAGIC POWER OF MERIT, TRUTH AND RIGHTEOUSNESS.

Despite all my DELIBERATELY INFLICTED drawbacks , I command an INSANE 347.5 million on Google+ count.

https://plus.google.com/109255865130996771184/posts

and a stupendous 3.5 million profile views

https://www.blogger.com/profile/14410812789424637654

- considering I have been blogging seriously only for 4 years .

Now, what was the qualification of my shore bosses?

ABILITY TO GIVE EGO MASSAGE TO THE TOP HONCHO , ABILITY TO COMPROMISE , ABILITY TO BE SERVILE ( COVERED WITH A THIN VENEER OF HUMILITY ) , ABILITY TO SHIVE IN REFLECTED LIGHT — the least said the better..

The most valuable man in any team is the man who has the ability to climb the tallest tree and holler without asking permission , “WRONG JUNGLE !”

Even Wikipedia had started providing my blog post link.

I CHECKMATED it by using filthy words.

No main stream media could dare to provide a link – whoever did this would lose his job !!

I DO NOT WISH TO RIDE PIGGY BACK ON ANY SOLD OUT PROSTITUTE MAIN STREAM MEDIA.

THIS BLOGSITE HAS COME UP ON ITS OWN MERIT AND STEAM .

My jealous detractors tried to run me down- people got curious , came to my site to check out , and they became my loyal fans.

I love to hit six consecutive sixes into a hostile crowd- baying for my blood -it makes me perform -- i have never been afraid to step out of my comfort zone .

The proof of the pudding lies in the eating—NOT faalthu awards or faalthu praise from food critics.

It has always been my style to hand the SWORD OF DEMOCLES as soon as I take over command of a ship.

I announce my arrival on board by a resounding kick on the COLLECTIVE BALLS of my shore bosses—they know this from 20/20 hindsight, and they are told by their top boss to wear undie pads ( like cricket batsmen ) .

Why did the big boss ask them to do this?

Pray?

Prithee?

—because he knows that the collective competence of his entire shore team was the DIRT UNDER THE FINGER NAIL of Capt Ajit Vadakayil.

People are willing to listen what BAD BOY Maradona has to say on the subject of soccer- he needs NO introduction or production of bonafides.

AT SEA , AS A SHIPS CAPTAIN FOR 3 DECADES, MY ETHOS WAS SO HUGE (LITERALLY- CAPTAINs SHIT DOES NOT SMELL ) THAT MANY OF MY SHORE BOSSES WHO GAVE ME A BAD SERVICE REPORT GOT SACKED.

Ajit Etta, I was doing some soul searching, and as usual started reading one of your articles, through comments section I found about this post,and it really made me feel a lot better.Thanks for sharing amazing inspirational quotes, the best one was from pink Floyd, which I could relate to more. Its an absolute pleasure reading your articles. God bless.

WHAT A PEA BRAINED ARTICLE . . . ###########################################knowledge of human nature and even style is the corner stone of political education. recognise tactics used on you. . . .be confident. every powerplay attacker enjoys seeing fear in the victim . . .. it is a valuable skill to know when to yield . . . .keep your emotions under a leash even when you are outraged, but don’t allow yourself to be the scapegoat for someone else’s mistakes. . . .keep away from vicious smear campaigns . . .. do not encourage lying and deception . . do not tell anyone anything that can be used against you—don’t let go too much even over a saturday night beer session with buddies who may be opportunists . . .don’t even pass on rumours or share negative career experiences. be a friend on matters that do not involve the office and an employee on issues that involve your career prospects. there is no need to prove your friendship at the expense of compromising your values. . . . know your power, unleash it only when necessary at the right time.. control impulses and rushes of blood. . . do not allow yourself to be emotionally blackmailed by con artists who misrepresent their authority. use your intelligence and gut feeling here. . . don’t upstage your boss or give him untactful advise in public . . . when negative politics are used by team members or negative energies are channelised for selfish needs, the resulting conflict can corrode the core of the team. team efforts are swamped by power struggles. . . .don’t cry wolf every time there is a common place power struggle.. . play only by your own rules or the rules of the company. and don’t get too predictable lest you become a easy target ( aaha now every body knows why vadakayil keeps a cat as a pet ) . timing is everything . . ..make sure you want what you get and not vice versa . .do not expect things beyond your talent . .champions and heroes who challenge themselves have the knowledge, talent, skill , attitude and determination to easily handle the lifetime ahead of them - -it is a piece of cake. . .

Sir one question please answer.I work in small software company, i have been working since Nov-2014 till present. I want to leave this company but unable to as there is lot of work pressure. On a single project i am alone working from designing forms, witting code, creating db structure (with help of manager who is owner also), testing, deploying on server.These guys are keep pushing me. I am unable to come out of it, because of pressure i have lost my mind, whenever i look at screen i just start getting headache, this is daily thing,i am very FRUSTRATED manager will shout on me only. I dont know what to do i just want to switch as soon as possible. If I leave this company without getting another job then it will be again problem as i don't have money too. what to do what not to do please guide. I am in tremendous pressure.

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