QUESTION: I masturbate, and I cum fast in like 15 seconds. Does it work the same in sex?

Masturbation and intercourse aren’t always the same. Some men come very quickly or easily during masturbation but find that it takes much longer to experience orgasm during intercourse. Other men come quickly during both kinds, or have a different response.

Get To Know Your Body

If you would like to learn to last longer, or to better control the timing of your ejaculation, you can use the start-stop technique to practice during masturbation. This will help you learn to identify feelings in your penis or other parts of your body that tell you that orgasm is close, just in case you want to back off, decrease sensation, and take a little longer before you ejaculate.

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Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) is a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University and author of several books including Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction.More posts by this author »