But there’s a little trick that people should know when it comes to advice on eye contact. It’s a trick you’re unlikely to find in any book or article, but one that can initiate a bond between two people that no other body language technique can match.

How I noticed the strategy for the first time

I used to spend time and chat with a girl from my hometown a few years back.
There was something about her that I just couldn’t put my finger on. She was different from any other girl. At least, that’s what I thought.

Was it love and/or destiny coming into play? Curious? Read on…

We began dating. Our relationship, however, didn’t rocket to the kind of romance I was hoping for. The initial attraction faded and it never progressed to the kind of relationship I was expecting it to be.

It was when I had lost all attraction and expectation that I finally realized what was wrong.

Lingering Eye Contact

Despite having a pretty face and a pleasant personality, I had realized a little too late that the girl I was dating was …a bit slow.

Her eyes would often linger on me for a second or two when I’d say something to her, before she would grasp what I was saying and would reply.

What I thought were lingering stares of emotional connection were actually just subtle pauses in preparation for a response. And I had obviously taken them the wrong way.

The subtle gaze she gave before responding proved to be a powerful one, one that had taken an effect on me. Her lingering pauses were interpreted by my subconscious as a private, personal moment between me and her. It didn’t realize that she was doing this because she was slightly slower than most people at processing information.

An Accidental Discovery

Accidents often lead to life’s best discoveries.

For example …Penicillin, the first antibiotic, was discovered by Alexander Fleming in a petri dish he had thrown away. And, in the process of making a new and improved radar detection system, Percy Spencer invented the microwave oven.

It was only by accident that I discovered how powerful the accidental trick this girls eyes had been playing on me was. And while our relationship together didn’t last, this little trick with her eyes was enough to get the ball rolling and for us to start a relationship together.

And for a lot of couples, once you get the ball rolling and get into a relationship together …very often that relationship will work out (even though it didn’t in my particular case). In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I reveal several powerful tricks for "getting your foot in the door" as it were with the girl you like right now ...EVEN IF she's currently not showing any interest.

Here’s what you need to do...

So the next time you talk to someone you like, don’t just talk with your mouth, talk with your eyes as well. Before you respond to something they’ve just said, let your eyes linger on theirs for a second or two to establish a moment that can only be shared between the both of you.

It is through these subtle, lingering eye contacts that help make people connect with you on an emotional level. The eyes are the windows to one’s soul, after all. This trick can lead the subconscious mind to create an attachment between people, and let them think that love and destiny are playing out.