For all the men who Taylor Swift has reportedly dated, she’s never seemed to make that true love connection — and she admits to that in her new cover story in the November issue of GlamourUK.

Speaking about whether or not you should take a guy back after he cheats on you, Taylor says, “I’ve seen my friends take someone back after they’ve cheated because they fit perfectly. But I don’t know, because I’ve never had a perfect fit with someone.”

Taylor says that she doesn’t actually deserve her reputation as a serial dater: she thinks it was an invention of the media, who felt the need to knock her down a peg or two.

“The way it works…is if you reach a point in your career where things are going very well, public perception needs a ‘Yeah, but,'” she explains. “Like, ‘Yeah, but she’s been on a lot of dates, apparently.’ ‘Yeah, but I hear she’s crazy.’ I think you’ll find it has a lot to do with being a woman. And I resent that. That there has to be some downside to your personality or lifestyle if you’re a woman and successful.”

That’s why, Taylor says, “I’m not gonna say to my guy friends, ‘No, I can’t go to lunch because people will say we’re dating.’ I just reject the idea I have to change the way I live my life.”

That also means that Taylor refuses to rule out dating famous men due to the media attention they attract. “You can’t say, ‘I’m never gonna date a high-profile person in the arts!'” she tells Glamour UK. “But whoever I date, famous or not — whether I ever date again! — all chaos will break loose. With fabrication and frantic obsession and who likes who more and how it ended. But right now is easy because I’m single and happy, and it’s very relaxing.”

While Taylor is aware that her personal life makes her a big target for Internet hate, she says she tries not to let it bother her.

“Just because there’s a hurricane going on around you doesn’t mean you have to open the window and look at it,” she tells the magazine. “You can be obsessed with the bad things people say…you can become unhinged so easily…So I distance myself, because I feel everything. The little I am exposed to hurts my feelings…if I focused on it, that would lead to insanity.”

The entire issue can be found in the November issue of Glamour UK, on stands on Thursday. The cover story is no doubt timed to coincide with the announcement of Taylor’s upcoming UK tour dates. She’ll take the RED tour to London’s O2 Arena February 1, 2 and 4, 2014. Tickets go on sale Friday.