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Ot-Needing some support and prayers, ladies. mIL is in jail :(

My mil is mentally ill and has been hospitalized for it a couple times. Saturday she snapped, burned a ton of stuff- clothes, towels, even fil's tools.
The cops got called and she fled. Ended up wrecking into a couple cop cars and is now in jail awaiting trial for two felonies. Needless to say, things are a bit stressed.... Dh is crushed because his mom is in jail. FIL just retired and isn't sure if he can afford all this without going back to work...

I don't want her to just get away with what she did by any means, but I really pray she can get some long term mental help.

She's a paranoid schizophrenic. She doesn't leave the house... It's not that she hates me or anything.

We think this latest breakdown was from her mom passing away last month. MIL wouldn't even leave to go to her own mother's funeral. :( it's just rough on everybody. She's basically there but not, if that makes sense. She doesn't really have conversations or anything. She just kind of would wander around the house doing odd things. :(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

I didn't know she was acting that way. Did she not approve of your relationship, or what do you think made her behave like this? Her illness? It must be awful for your husband. :-(

Quoting dawnnamarie:

Thank you. I just pray that Dh can eventually have his mom back. My mom has taken to playing mom to him, but it's still hard on him.

The day we got married, she wouldn't even answer a phone call from him to say congrats:(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

Oh wow. This is a tough situation for your family. I hope everything will work out, and your MIL will get the help she needs.

Ugh, that's an awful illness. I am surprised she isn't on meds already?! Patients with this illness can be unpredictable to say the least. How long has she been like this?

Quoting dawnnamarie:She's a paranoid schizophrenic. She doesn't leave the house... It's not that she hates me or anything.

We think this latest breakdown was from her mom passing away last month. MIL wouldn't even leave to go to her own mother's funeral. :( it's just rough on everybody. She's basically there but not, if that makes sense. She doesn't really have conversations or anything. She just kind of would wander around the house doing odd things. :(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:I didn't know she was acting that way. Did she not approve of your relationship, or what do you think made her behave like this? Her illness? It must be awful for your husband. :-(

Quoting dawnnamarie:Thank you. I just pray that Dh can eventually have his mom back. My mom has taken to playing mom to him, but it's still hard on him.

The day we got married, she wouldn't even answer a phone call from him to say congrats:(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

Oh wow. This is a tough situation for your family. I hope everything will work out, and your MIL will get the help she needs.

She's been on meds for about a year. They haven't helped at all, and she refuses to go back to the therapist like she's supposed to.

She's been slowly declining for about 10 years, but the past 4 have been the low point. She refuses treatment though, and technically nobody could make her get help if she didn't want if. Fil has been fighting for guardianship so he could force her to get treatment, but it's been a battle.

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

Ugh, that's an awful illness. I am surprised she isn't on meds already?! Patients with this illness can be unpredictable to say the least. How long has she been like this?

Quoting dawnnamarie:She's a paranoid schizophrenic. She doesn't leave the house... It's not that she hates me or anything.

We think this latest breakdown was from her mom passing away last month. MIL wouldn't even leave to go to her own mother's funeral. :( it's just rough on everybody. She's basically there but not, if that makes sense. She doesn't really have conversations or anything. She just kind of would wander around the house doing odd things. :(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:I didn't know she was acting that way. Did she not approve of your relationship, or what do you think made her behave like this? Her illness? It must be awful for your husband. :-(

Quoting dawnnamarie:Thank you. I just pray that Dh can eventually have his mom back. My mom has taken to playing mom to him, but it's still hard on him.

The day we got married, she wouldn't even answer a phone call from him to say congrats:(

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

Oh wow. This is a tough situation for your family. I hope everything will work out, and your MIL will get the help she needs.

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