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I was married with my husband on 20 January 2008. I am going to use this year to document our lives as two people that don't know their end point in life but enjoy as much as they can along the way. We like being mindful of our resources and our place within a community. Right now, the big thing is transitioning from Miami, FL to Boulder, CO. I hope it goes smoothly and that we rely on the home we are building with each other.

20 July 2007

thank you to my ladies

I have a pretty small bridal party. Two of my teenage nieces and my best friend of 20 years. In asking them I committed several serious bridal taboos early on. I believe I asked my matron of honor to fill that role in the same phone call I told her I was engaged. I asked my teen nieces to be bridesmaids on the phone about a year before the wedding. Luckily I still adore the hell out of all three of them and my errors have no bearing on their involvement with the wedding.

What did I do "wrong"???1. I asked too darn early apparently. I guess a year is enough time to have riffs with folks and then still be stuck with them in the wedding.

2. I asked over the phone instead of in writing or in person. My wedding etiquette has not been stellar through all this process, so oooops. I can't do the in-person thing anyway too easily, they live 2 and 3 time zones away from me.

I do feel a bit bad that I have not put anything in writing with them yet besides the save-the-dates. To make up for it I am making some bridal party thank you packages. I made these cards for the six-month wedding mark:I mostly used materials already around the house. Chipboard, old contact paper, construction paper, vellum paper, and ribbon.

I bound the board like you would with book binding and attached the construction paper over the loose seams. I folded the board over and made two holes with a corkscrew for the ribbon.

I am also sending them these purses I bought from a local Indian importer:My fiance and I have noticed that we are enjoying animal elements in our wedding planning. Particularly elephants, peacocks, and of course bunnies. There is a "four friends" fable about these three animals with the monkey exhibiting a structured cooperation and this is why they are able to thrive very well.

I am going to send a copy of this fable with an update about their dress and accessory situation inside the purse with the card.

I listed what I did "wrong" when I picked my bridal party. I think it is only fair that I mention what I did "right" as well.1. I picked people that I love dearly and haven't questioned if I made a wrong choice once. I have been pressured by several folks trying to get into my bridal party that I have much love for but do not trust like I do the attendants I chose.2. I asked their input to select wedding day attire that they can handle financially as well as options so that they are the most comfortable at the wedding.3. I keep them in the loop with wedding planning, but don't expect them to be fawning over me and my situation right now. I told them all that their main duty is to hang with me while I get dressed at the wedding and support me when I say my vows.