Male Pleasure is No Longer Part of the Equation

Female objectification has always been a part of pop music and our culture. However, something has shifted in the last decade or two. Yes, women are objectifying themselves by singing about their masturbation practice but there's a new twist. As the Guardian points out, male pleasure is no longer part of the equation:

"But in 2014, the shock value of a woman masturbating – at least as a lyrical device – has at last begun to depreciate. It is no longer an act of flirty deviance to be monetised; it is merely normalised. Sure, Cyrus almost certainly knew the Adore You video would spark a prudish outcry, but it's still the least flashy thing she's done of late. Similar is the "DIY" T-shirt Rihanna sported last May, which showed a woman masturbating. With it Rihanna wore a long skirt and a toque. If the point was to be seen, it was also: "And so what?"

While female pleasure in music is nothing new, the shift that has appeared is largely based around an absence of the man: take for example Janet Jackson's Take Care, where she sings: "I'll lay here and take care of it 'til you come home to me." For Jackson, masturbation is a bookmark. The Divinyls' I Touch Myself – a pro-masturbation anthem if ever there was one – contains the line: "I'd get down on my knees, I'd do anything for you." When it came out in 1990 it was intrepid. But the song is just as much about giving pleasure as getting it."

Now we have our masturbation anthems. At first I thought I can now retire from liberating female masturbation. But then I realized the many girls and women who don't yet have adequate self-sex skills and are not getting the most out of self-loving.

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I really do enjoy listening to music, but I can't help but notice the underlying male aggrandizing theme that seems to pervade most of it. Well, some of it is just right up there your face..telling us to just lie back. Doesn't sound very fun to me. I have friends that ask me questions about sex...So, you know what I do? I send them a link to this site, and a link to your videos on youtube. It is sooo incredibly frustrating sometimes to hear some of the problems my female friends (and male friends, too) have, when it comes to sex. Get out there and talk about it..It's not gonna get any better by not talking about it, I tell them. Just masturbating seems to be a main problem for my female friends...just getting to know their own bodies...something taboo. They say, 'It's dirty,' and some giggle about it. Dirty! So what if it is?! Don't you know how to bathe..if that's really the problem..? Fortunately, women and music are gettin' some much better about putting that out there..that is sexuallity isn't just male territory...it's just as much female...if not more. Thanks so much for all you're work! Keep it comin'! Heheheh