ugh

So I'm freaking out. I just found out I'm pregnant while I have an IUD. There are many risks. I'm super scared. I have a 15 month old and was not planning on having anymore. DH and I are not on best terms. We have been in marriage counseling the last few months to deal with communication issues. I am a very mean pregnant person. I am scared it will make it worse. I also don't think we can afford this baby. We are able to afford the one, but a second will be a lot of strain. Plus I'm super emotional. ugh

I haven't decided if I want it removed. I can have it removed now and risk losing him or her or leave it and may lose him or her later. They gave me the abortion choice, but I can't even imagine it. My last pregnancy was super hard I'm not looking forward to that or the c section.

The doctors can take it out which risks miscarriage because it disturbs the cervix. Leaving it in can risk miscarriage because it's supposed to make it so an egg doesn't implant. Sometimes if left in your body spontaneously aborts the baby later on. The doctors treat it like a high risk pregnancy.

That's really scary, I'm so sorry! I'm in a similar boat, my youngest is 15 months old as well (I have 3) and DH and I aren't doing our best. I'm high risk too as my water broke at 29 weeks with my 15 month old..so I'm terrified!

All I can say is try to hang in there as in the end, you'll be so happy to hold that new lil one. My second 2 are only 17 months apart, everyone asks if they are twins lol and they are so close! I love it! I'm trying to relax as well. Also we can finally really afford this one, but with my first 3 we were bad off, overseas with no insurance and we made it, hard but they are happy and healthy and have all they need. I had to give up many things but it all worked out, trust it will there are many ways to get through. Hugs!

My husband just says I support whatever you decide. That don't help much. My docs are leaning toward leaving it in because of complications I had previously. They said ultimatly it is my decision though.