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Why do I get along with my ex husband so well now that we're divorced?

He just came over to pick up our 9 yr old son for the weekend. He also took my 6 yr old who is the son of my current husband. (the kids love both daddies) We drove to pick up the kids from school then came home and played football with them in the back yard. Before that we watched tv and chatted.

I love and worship my current husband, this isn't about him. It's just amusing I guess at how well my ex and I can get along and why we couldn't have done this 8 years ago.

I'm guessing part of the reason is that I no longer have to count on him to be the "man" which he was never good at. He was also too jealous... Now I'm remembering why it didn't work!

I am the same way with my ex. We get along fine, but we don't live together anymore. Also, not being married to them makes a big difference. Even now though, if he is around too long, we have issues. I guess it is that way with most exes though!

I am the same way my ex and I will joke and tell everyone we where horrible husband and wife but you could not ask for a better ex. Some people just are not meant to live together let alone be married.

Just curious if he has remarried. I am thinking this "honeymoon" you have going with him will not last once he has a wife of his own. And if he has more children, and if she objects to him playing second daddy to your other son...I have seen a lot of this on cafemom where when the guy remarries the perfect co parenting situation goes by the wayside.