Kate Spring is a men's dating & attraction coach from Vancouver, Canada. She teaches men how to become irresistible to the opposite sex, and how to get the girl they want and the relationship they deserve.

This article is all about 3 Key ways to make any woman want you. These are the three best-kept secrets in attraction. These are 3 very underrated ways to make a woman not only want you but make her obsessed with you also. The kind of obsessed where she’s the one texting you late at night saying, “come over ;)”

1. Befriend Her:

The first way to get under a woman’s skin, in a good way, is to befriend her. Having the goal of just befriending her at the beginning relieves the pressure on you to immediately become the object of her sexual desire. It’s breaking this down into more simple steps.

How you go about befriending a girl is to make a connection that isn’t sexual in nature off the bat with the goal that, later on, she will become quite fixated on you and only you. You do this by remembering the important details of her life, making her laugh, and connecting with your interests and having a good time together.

How you get to know someone is by asking questions. The obvious what-do-you-do-for-work-question isn’t a bad jumping off point. Or what-do-you-take-in-school-question because the follow up is where you shine. You simply ask, “what made you get into that field?” or different variations of that, such as, “what’s the best/most rewarding part of your job?” etc.

These are thoughtful questions that allow a girl to open up to you that ultimately help you get to know her better.

The big but here, so that you don’t get friend zoned, is that you befriend her without being too available.

Being too available is where men get friend zoned. You don’t want to be at her beck and call. The thing about going in with the goal of friendship is that it lets her guard down, allows her to be more herself, but then when you start to implement the next steps, she will start to develop more than just platonic feelings for you. You will subconsciously create a desire in her to want to be with you sexually.

Another key way that you don’t put yourself in the friend zone is to make sure that you put yourself first, which is our next point.

2. Put Yourself First:

Putting yourself first means that you don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. You want to make yourself the object of her desire, but that comes with being a man that isn’t readily available to a woman all the time. Like in the friend zone, you don’t want to be the guy that she can call to dish about other guys, which means you need to actively be playing the field. Subtly let her know that you’re around other women. Funny stories about women coming on to you. Or telling stories about you spending time with other women, even if they are your actual friends.

A lot of men make the mistake of giving a woman all of his time and attention too early on, which doesn’t prompt her to do any of the chasing and puts her in control of the relationship, which is not what you want.

Putting yourself first means that your career and or school is your top priority. Men that have priorities and stick to them are very desirable to be with. It also poses a challenge to a woman to try to be your one exception.

The next thing that shouldn’t fall by the wayside are your personal hobbies, passions, and friendships, after that, your time and attention can be on dating women.

Doing this sends a subliminal signal that your life is important and that you are a man of value. This is the number one way to communicate confidence. So look out for number one!

Our third and final way to make any woman want you is to touch her at the right time.

3. Touch to Create Tension:

It’s no secret that creating sexual tension is one of the number one ways to make a woman crave you. Sex would be nothing without tension. And how you do this is through touch, but touching at the right time.

There is a method to this madness and you want to associate feelings of pleasure to your touch. And how you do that in a non-overtly sexual way is to touch her when she’s smiling or laughing.

Touching at a high point of your face to face interaction directly links her having a good time to you touching her. This type of mutual touching increases a person’s heart rate and is actually good for your health.

Some Ways to touch are as follows…

Tickling is a playful and harmless form of touching with a sexual undertone, which means it’s great and you should do it.

Playful wrestling.

Putting your arm around her when you’re walking.

Hugging when you say hello and goodbye.

All of these subconsciously create the tension that you want. So remember to go into this by befriending a woman, but always looking out for yourself and your needs first, and don’t forget to touch to flirt.

12 Comments

Excellent no BS advise. Kate wants to really help guys out. Her videos help out everyone, women too since they will also benefit from a guy who understands what is going on! A sincere THANK YOU KATE from myself (a good 59 year old soon to be divorced man hoping to find someone who appreciates me) and all those guys who may still be to shy to tell you!

Thanks Kate! I just enjoy reading your blogs..I don’t date anymore been taken for too many rides! Haha, my own fault. I talked to every woman day or night. Some really want to go out but I don’t have the energy anymore! I love women, animals love me, children love me but, women…well I’ll leave that hanging

Hi Kate
I like your blog cause it gives me courage to go a head with women
But I will like to try what I learned from you with you
Do you have a boyfriend? Ha ha ha
Just joke but serious some how
Am Stanley

Can you give more example of being not always available for her? I have this girl I’m the one who always bought her food because I wanted to help her, but I guess It shows that I’m just a security blanket, any advise?

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Kate Spring is a men's dating & attraction coach from Vancouver, Canada. She teaches men how to become irresistible to the opposite sex, and how to get the girl they want and the relationship they deserve.

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