Women who are pregnant with or without a history of loss face many challenges at work. They wonder who to tell, when to tell, and worry about issues like maternity leave, health benefits, job security and of course, what to do if their water breaks at the office. Women who are pregnant again after a [...]

I have always been one to announce my pregnancies early. The excitement was too high to keep it a secret; I felt like my ginormous smile would give it away. However, when I got pregnant with Eden after Zachary died, I debated when to tell my family and friends that I was expecting again. It [...]

Moments after I lost my first baby at 13 weeks, a chaplain walked into my room, carrying a mint green shawl. As he laid it down the length of my body, he explained that volunteers crochet them to comfort grieving mothers—mothers who lose babies and leave the hospital with empty wombs and hearts. I slept [...]

Facebook memories can be fun, those little reminders of what you posted a year or two years ago, or more. It can be entertaining to see what photos you shared or what you complained about back then. Or the big news you announced to all your friends. When I opened Facebook this morning, the memory [...]

The Struggle of My Best Friend Being Pregnant After My Loss A few weeks after I lost my first son at 4.5 months’ pregnant, I found out that one of my best friends was pregnant. I wish I could say that I was happy for her and my heart didn’t break into a million pieces but that [...]

Our first pregnancy after the loss of our son Malachi ended in a blighted ovum, devastation, heartbreak, depression, isolation…you name it. The month following that diagnosis, we dealt with all of these emotions, as well as the one year angelversary of Malachi’s passing. It was hard. So hard. I didn’t know where I stood on [...]

My Dear Friend, I’m sure that by now you’ve seen my pregnancy announcement online. I wanted to call you personally to tell you, but I also didn’t want to put you on the spot. I’m sorry if my silence felt uncaring, because it was quite the opposite. I didn’t mean to catch you off-guard. We [...]

I always treasure the early weeks when only immediate family and best friends know about the little life growing inside of me. It’s this sacred secret that only our small circle shares—a special club. Our heartstrings all become beautifully entangled as we cover baby in prayer together. This pregnancy I have felt the same way—I’ve [...]

I didn’t write publicly about my first two pregnancies until they were gone. I didn’t announce my third pregnancy until we had seen H.’s whole heart. Fear motivated my desire to wait until we had at least passed the point of our greatest loss—24 weeks, 1 day, 9 hours—the moment I met and held my [...]

I thought that getting pregnant with, hopefully, my 2nd rainbow would be a bit easier on me emotionally. I mean, I have experienced a successful birth at this point. It wasn’t just the constant reminder that all my body knows is to fail me. Being able to look at my healthy, living daughter should help [...]