The Condoning of Predators, Rape, and Sexual Assault

This is a very big topic and was requested in light of the circumstances currently happening in our country. This is a sick thing that I’ve also noticed, that not only is current, but has been happening for decades and centuries as well.

Personally, I remember hearing the stories about how black families have that one weird uncle that “you should keep the kids away from” and then just smile and joke about it. I never had that in my family, fortunately, but I have heard it too many times from other people.

First of all, why do we joke about something like that? That’s not funny and it’s usually the adults! Don’t you care that your kids could be molested?? I know I would. We need to actively keep these people out of our lives! I know you may have grown up with them, but that doesn’t make them any less dangerous. They can have more of a twisted mind than you could ever know! It’s not worth the risk of traumatizing your kid just because you “think” you know someone. If your kid is telling you that they believe something is happening and it isn’t right, don’t dismiss it. Don’t belittle how they feel, make them feel like they are heard and actually do something about the problem! The same goes for abusive parents and ones that molest their own kid! Just because you don’t see it happening, doesn’t mean it isn’t there…

The past couple of generations (including mine) have a really bad habit of dismissing people that have raped someone, sexually assaulted someone, or molested someone just because it’s their favorite singer, actor, person in a position of power, or even their close friend. I understand that you want to forgive the person because you don’t want to give yourself an excuse to give them up, but what they did is wrong and they need to pay for it. Sometimes the best way to get revenge is through their pockets. Hit them where it hurts the most, their money. That’s, of course, if they aren’t already on trial to go to prison. But, as you can see, with R. Kelly, he managed to escape prison and unless they can find new evidence, he can’t be tried twice for the same crime. What we can do, is make sure his music stops playing in places, he stops doing concerts, and that his income is getting smaller and smaller. The good news is, his concerts have been getting cancelled and radio stations have been playing him less in less thanks to the #MuteRKelly and #MeToo movements! After all, he deserves to rot for what he did.

And some of you (hopefully not most) are thinking, why are you trying to tear a black man down? How about you stop for one freaking minute and think about ALL THE LIVES HE DESTROYED. Many young girls were vulnerable and he took advantage of them. He payed off families for the atrocities he did, but no amount of money will make the trauma and pain go away. I DON’T CARE IF HE IS BLACK. This is coming from a young, black girl. This could have happened to me, to any number of my friends, how do you think this affects me?? Why don’t you care about the victims?? They have to live the rest of their lives haunted by what happened. It makes me sick that people will choose the side of a predator and pedophile over young black girls, ESPECIALLY if there is EVIDENCE! Are you willing to say that you don’t give a crap about black girls?! Do our lives not matter? It really amazes me that not only do so many people hate black men, but they hate black women even more. We are WORTHLESS in your eyes and it sickens me. When will we be good enough for you? Will we ever? Let me get off this topic before I start crying sitting here in the middle of a cafe…

And while I am at it, some people like to play that “what about” card. What about nothing! People are paying for what they did through different ways. Thanks to the #MeToo movement in Hollywood (and definitely other places), more and more directors, actors, hosts, and producers, etc. are having to answer to different testimonies of many women AND men who have been sexually assaulted at work or on set. People like Harvey Weinstein and Kevin Spacey (only what I can think of off the top of my head) are exposed and no one wants to work with them, but I guess that’s the least of their problems (they could go to jail).

Many people like to disregard and ignore the REAL victims of rape, sexual assault, or sexual harassment because of less than 2% of people who have made a false accusation! Wake up! We can’t control what these people say and do, so yes, I’m sorry that a few people made the stupid decision to invalidate anyone who has ever been sexually assaulted, but we can’t just turn our backs on the ones who have actually been violated! This is the reason why so many people don’t want to speak up! They don’t feel like anyone is listening to them, so why don’t we prove them wrong. Show them that we are listening and we want to do something to help. That we will support them and try to get justice for them! In order to progress, we need to treat everyone like they are important and what they say is valid. What are we teaching our kids if we don’t give, at least, the benefit of the doubt because we don’t know what they’ve been through.