I am more interested in a family/friend/group feeling among metamours, as there are only so many hours in the day, which means I feel the need to at least know these other people involved with the ones I love on a "hey how's it going?" basis.

I would prefer this too, though there's only so much connection that can be established when the other person is far away and the only contact is online. Still, I do want and need at least enough of a connection with metamours that allows me to know them on some level. I am certainly not unwilling to share, I just want to be kept in the loop.

I would really vastly prefer local connections and the ability to know them well myself. When I think of him with someone I know and like, it gives me the most amazing warm tingles, which I definitely like better than the stomach full of cold grue and heart-pounding trembly tension that I get when I think something's going on behind my back.