Postpartum Depression

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krystinmoneaux wrote:

My son is 4 months old. I’m not sure what’s going on with me bc I’m usually a very happy person. I’ve never had depression or anxiety so I’m not sure if I have that now. He sleeps through the night so it’s not sleep deprivation. I go to work (hate my job) and come home to my lazy husband who never wants to help me with anything. He wants me to cook dinner, take care of the baby, wash clothes, keep a clean house and everything. All while he’s sitting down doing nothing. I get so mad at him bc he doesn’t help me but then when he has to do something, he gets mad at me bc I’m not helping him. Within a year, I lost my grandpa, lost a vehicle, foreclosed on my house, got pregnant and moved twice. I’m so stressed out bc my husband also got laid off in that time period. He was without a job for 3 months so we are not doing well financially. We live paycheck to paycheck so we’re basically working to pay bills. I used to have 2 jobs but quit the second one when I got pregnant. He refuses to get a second job to help and when I say I’ll get one, he gets all pissy about it bc I won’t be home to help with our son. I have bad days where I wanna just cry and never leave my house and I have some good days. Bad days are definitely outnumbering the good ones at this point. My mood swings make me feel crazy so idk what to do. The smallest things just tick me off and make me wanna just cry and get away from everything. Idk if this is postpartum anxiety or depression or neither. Any advice is appreciated.

I am going through a very similar situation. I am in therapy and it is helping a lot. I am also taking am antidepressant. My insurance covers more than I thought it would of the cost. Talk to your dr and be kind to yourself. I also want to start exercising I think it'll help my moods but I am still too lazy for that. Lol

I'm so sorry you're going through all this! It could be depression or anxiety due to not having any support at home. You have a lot on your plate and your SO isn't giving you any help. Do you have any family or friends who can help you out from time to time? A therapist would be a great resource for you, having someone to talk to who can help you with coping mechanisms might give you some comfort too. My SO struggled with our DD the first 8 weeks, she's 9 weeks now, he just didn't enjoy the baby stage. I left for an entire day last weekend and he had no choice but to get comfortable with her and see what it's like all day with a clingy and sometimes cranky baby and he is doing better now, but I can sympathize with you on that. I hope your SO starts helping you more and I hope you start getting some support!

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