Walk into the restaurant like you’re making an entrance; it’s literally your show and not hers.

When you walk into a restaurant, you walk in with complete and utter confidence. And when you see a waitress that you find the most attractive, walk right directly over to her and say something immediately.

Don’t wait, don’t hesitate, and don’t do what most dudes do.

She’ll say, “Evening boys” or something like that.

I’ll look at her and say, “Yes it is. Come. Let’s sit down. Let’s eat. What are we going to have tonight?”

Immediately I’m subconsciously asking her out on a date, playing with her.

She’ll say something like, “Ah, I wish.”

“Really, you wish? Fine. If I were a genie I’d make your wish come true. Where’s your manager?”

“Why?”

“Just show me your manager.”

So then she’ll point to her manager.

I’ll say, “Great. You’ll be eating dinner with me by the end of the night.”

So then I go sit down. She comes over and takes our order. I asked her what she likes. Flirt a little bit more. Then when she leaves with the order, I go over to the manager.

I walk up to him and say, “Eric…”

Eric looks at me like he’s supposed to know me even though we’ve never met before.

“Your waitress, Amy, is amazing. Best service in the world. And I’ve got to tell you something: the second we walked in, we felt absolutely fantastic. I love that, because I go out to eat all the time, and most service really stinks, so good job on your staff; good picks too.”

At some point she’ll come back to the table and ask, “What did you say to my manager?”

“Why?”

“Well because he wants to buy you guys a round of drinks. And I go on my break in five minutes…”

When you approach directly with confidence, you’re going to be able to connect with the waitress in ways that you’ve never connected with her before.

It’s strong; it’s powerful; it shows conviction, and it shows that you know how to run the show and that’s what women are looking for. Women love when you run the show because they feel they are amongst a strong man.

She’ll come back to your table a few more times. She’ll bring the drinks. You’ll be old friends. Eric will come over. You’ll have social proof because the manager likes you also.

Now go out there and try it. Only a strong, fearless, magnetic, confident guy is going to go pull this off and that guy needs to be you.

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Heck, sure, why not. But, I will come down with a couple of my girlfriends. I am not so nuts as to just show up alone and meet dudes from the internet in another state. I mean, John- you are the one who pointed out exactly how my identity would get stolen so I am sure you understand.

Howdy Hans. Yeah, been steady driving for two days. been reading the blog on my phone. why y’all giving Mel such a hard time? You can’t expect her to find a guy From the first three or four she meets. I have been out with dozens of women since my divorce 5 years ago and there is not one of them that I wanted to make pemanent. I just look at dating as an adventure and never expect to meet the perfect woman. some are worth keeping around for a while others I ditch as quick as I see them. gotta have the abundance mentality. I’m over on the east side near Melbourne. you have probably heard of Cocoa Beach I am near there.

John have you use all your vacation? you live near Mel don’t you? bring her down here for me. We’lll all go out and have a blast

Will be at my Florida pad tonight. Time to get ready for some pool parties And some sailfishing in my new boat. Looks like this strng is going to break 200. It has been an interesting read. Now I know why it is so easy for me to find women…

” It has been an interesting read. Now I know why it is so easy for me to find women”

Haha. For the record, I have NOT talked about poking my holes, or about math flubs, or Biggest Nerd Awards, or about the mathematics of dating odds and axe murderers, when I am around a woman. I just do that kind of thing to have fun with the goofballs on this site

Hey, your picture is standing on its side. I just want to grab it and set it right side up. It’s driving me nuts. Argh.

Err, wow! OK you win Melissa. You and your friends do indeed surround yourselves with shitty guys and I should stop defending them. There are two kinds of men – those you date and sleep with, and those you complain to about how shitty all the men you date and sleep with are ;). Unfortunately for me I am still the latter.

FYI though I am a relentless optimist and like to focus on the positive. I could just as easily say the most characteristic moment for MichiGander was when we went hiking, and I would keep climbing ahead and hold out my hand to hoist her up, and she would keep going nope I am not the hand holding lift needing type. Or I could tell you about the one who is never speaking to me again (I keep running into her over and over again) because there was this one time I didn’t notice her and say hi to her when I came in. Or the one who sent over 50 pages of texts and emails before our first date on topics ranging from european history to science fiction to astrology to her disastrous track record to breaking necks to war propaganda to … . Or I could tell you I am very frustrated right now because I have been working on myself for A YEAR, and I am doing SO many things right it’s unbelievable, and bottom line is I am looking at a summer of zero prospects and zero upcoming prospects – exactly where I started.

Overall though here is where we differ – I tend to pick ones who are some combination of competitive athlete and rocket scientist, and completely unavailable / impossible to claim. I swear I don’t do this on purpose, I just go by who I vibe with.

“I tend to pick ones who are some combination of competitive athlete and rocket scientist, and completely unavailable / impossible to claim. I swear I dont do this on purpose, I just go by who I vibe with.”

See Techno….we are back to the pick or get picked problem. Women get picked, if we are playing our roles right. And if you are a nice girl, “giving a guy a chance”, not judging a book by anything superficial, you have to talk to a guy a bit and apparently, that’s when the creeper comes out.

And for the record? We do NOT surround ourselves with losers. At least not on purpose. I live in an affluent area. I have dated men from all income brackets and walks of life. From 30-50. My friends and I have met men through online dating, out and about, Meetups, classes, whatever…we are not meeting men only outside of seedy strip clubs.

The only common denominiator is the fact that they are all….. men. The only conclusion I can come to is that only BAD guys approach women when out and about. Only BAD guys try online dating…while the good guys, maybe a little shy and intimidated, stay home alone, or have married their HS sweetheart or meet women through friends.

It seriously seems impossible, there HAS to be some decent guys out there…there just HAS to be.

Interesting twist on that. It turns out MichiGirl technically picked me first. I’m a regular at two places she goes to and she was actually spying on me for weeks before she happened to be standing next to me when I was looking for a dance. I was totally clueless though – I thought I was the one calling the shots the whole time. She is good at this game I think ;).

“If the man is the head of the household, then the woman is the neck, turning the head to whichever direction she chooses.”

Some more details on how MichiGirl picked me, Melissa. Grab your notepad, because this WILL be on the final exam, guaranteed:

She spied on me for a while and saw me interacting with a lot of people and helping out behind the scenes, so she knew that I was safe and couldn’t possibly be an alcoholic ex drug dealing axe murderer freak.

She was looking straight at me with a big smile when I was looking for a partner. She was NOT chatting with her buddies, or staring at a screen or into space, or hiding in the corner, OR approaching me and asking me to dance with her. Now if you are in my shoes who are you going to ask for the next dance? Right, her. Duh.

At the end of the dance, she did not turn around and run off to the next partner. She was waiting for me to do that first. So instead we just ended up chatting for a while and swapped numbers. She made that part easy, too. Just wouldn’t turn around and leave me alone until I was done closing her, the stubborn thing

John, rounding off numbers for simplicity, that is exactly what Lehman did…

What bothers me more is the percentage of axe murderers, which you put at 10. Do they get Obamacare as well ?

Anyway, reading about Melissa’s friends and their experiences is rather interesting. I am now thinking about all the male people I have met through the years. There are many, in many countries. I am thinking about how many of these guys could be described as decent guys, and who could be somebody a woman would want, as a partner, somebody who would be a real addition to a woman’s life. I am fast scanning my memory, and that is where it becomes harrowing. Because it is like using an anti-virus scanner on your computer: it sifts through millions of files, and in the end, you have a list of a handful of potential threats. The vast majority of women I know tell me that their partner is more like an additional child. My own mother has been telling me that about my dad for the last 30 years. I know many guys, especially guys in their forties, who have somehow decided to put their personal and professional development on hold and wait until retirement before coming back to life. A lot of them revert to alcohol and growing blubber bellies. I am now thinking about an example of a guy whom I believe a women would definitely adore, and I can only come up with some fictional character from a movie: Daniel Day Lewis in ‘The Last of the Mohicans’, most of you probably know that movie. He has humor, wit, intelligence, integrity, he protects the woman, protects his friends, and he pretty much does everything right. Obviously it is just a movie, but I can see Melissa’s point. It seems to me that most women, and most of those I know actually are in relationships, just put up with a guy, for lack of alternative. My general observation is that the root of the problem is most likely that women have gone through a rather fast forward development in the last few decades, while most guys have not.

That said, my guess is that most of the guys on this forum are really decent guys. Now if you believe what I just said, that most women are not happy in their current relationships, that widens the pool of potential candidates enormously. A ring doesn’t mean a thing !

Hans.. they only get Obamacare if they refuse to work another job. (Besides axe murdering)

Since axe murdering is a fairly low paying career, then yes, I believe they would be entitled to free healthcare paid for by me.. umm. I mean the taxpayers.

(Unless they recieved an exorbitant bonus based on the number of people they axe murdered.. then they would have to pay for their own healthcare insurance as mandated by the Obama administration, or face a $5000.00 tax penalty, plus the axe murdering bonus would be taxed at a rate of 35%.)

You are totally right. When I was out with my friends Friday night, my one girlfriend (in her 40s) was talking about her boyfriend and how “relationships are work” and how bummed she was that the night of their anniversary they got a hotel room and she ordered champagne and got all dressed up and wanted to go out and he just wanted to stay in the hotel and watch tv.

What anniversary you ask?? Their SIX MONTH anniversary. Whhhoooooo hooooo…sign me up.

So. Again. I can’t remember what I want a dude for…hence the continuing boy-tox.