Could me moving away be the reason he decided to end it? What can I do to get him back?

Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago. He said he knows its out of blue but he fell out of love with me etc. I do not believe this could happen as there was no signs. Now I realised i might have missed a big thing which was me moving away for a while. I spoke to his sister after the break up and she said " do you think you will work out when your away" i said of course we can do it we r meant to be and ill come back after max a year. She said" thats good ill tell him that" Since then we met few times. Once was on a night out when he claimed he loves me and misses me. I spoke to one of his best friends and he said the same thing" he might be afraid. You two are really serious together living with each other since a year and now you leaving might be the reason he ended it as was afraid" He stayed with me that night as always and we were cuddling all the time saying we wish it never ended. Though next day in the afternoon i drove him back home. He invited me to his house just like always had tea but was bit cold towards me. We met again few times in college for coffee and it was fine, though whenever we got close he took a step back. I asked him why, what did i do etc. He said " it is better to do it now than when im leaving". Though i asked so is it me moving away and he said "not really but ya it adds to it" wouldn't tell me exactly and i think its because he doesn't want me to stop my dreams. he is now out almost all the time trying to be all cool but when i see him i can tell he's broken inside, and when he was leaving me he was crying so badly just like me. i just dont know if that me moving away could actually be the full reason and he didn't fell out of love just said that, because it was easier. As mentioned before- it was a shock for me, his friends and his family that he left me like that. His mum and sister said" you two are perfect, there hasn't been a day he said he doesn't love you. You were the only one for him and we hope he will wake up".

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I have also noticed that he goes for drinking now a lot and when we spoke yesterday he was really down and upset so there must be something bothering him

Just to add something extra- i was his fret girlfriend, girl he kissed huged and all. He also never drunk before as thought alcohol is no good.

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He is not broken, he is coping how he knows best. Normally our gut insticts are correct, you know he still loves you regardless of what he says. Its a self defense mechanism him saying he feels different. And yes distance can destroy relationships. If the two of you love each other and have a truelly good relationship that is healthy and makes you both better people (which is so very rare these days) then why not one of you move, maybe ask him if he will move with you for a year? I've made the mistake of letting someone go that i loved. If its good make it work.

I asked him before we broke up and he seemed to be up for it but depending on a job if he gets one there. I really dont think he has no feelings. Was so out of blue and he was crying so badly his sister said to me week later that he's devastated and yet he won't change his mind or listen :; i also think his guy friends might had something to do with it as they started going out and he was always with me on nights out so called him whipped etc. Ill do anything to get him back but i just dnt know how. It hurt me a lot when he stayed at some girls house and was so proud of himself telling me, its not like him :(

Of coarse his feelings didn't disapear, you know that. But you in a way betrayed his trust by breakimg up with him in the 1st place. Once you do that, its very hard to earn that back by any self resoecting man. If you want him back then you better tell him that with no word whiskers or subtle hints, or beating around the bush. You tell him you are sorry and you did it because you were scared and tell him how much amd why you want him back... thats your only move, amd be patiemt

but i didn't break up with him. he broke up with me ;) i feel that maybe i was just unfair telling him about moving away and even thinking about doing it. Thats the only thing i think i did wrong. I should have never mentioned it and not even go, then we would still be happy hopefully. I told him he means the world to me and all he says ; ya i know' and i love u but only as family not in romantic way. Like i try to find excuses for him why he did this and that but im not getting anywhere with it. Unless he really wants to experience something new though its weird as he never even thought about it. As said before, i think his friends might have something to do with it too. They always were not really happy bout us: saying his whipped , taking him out on his own trying get girls , so it was kinda pressure.

Im sorry i misread your explanation. Then yes... friends, could of met someone else and is like well they are here and she is away. I actually went through the same thing. Friends can be very bad influences on relationships especually if they are jealous, not necasarrily jealous of the girl but of the bond two people can have. I know thats how it was with my ex. As soon as i wasn't around and she started hanging with her new friends she magicaly changed, as well as her feelings which is bullshit, they are just living in the moment. You can either try and have a grown up talk with him about your relationship, but it sounds like he isn't capable of it or wait him out. Wait for his "new" experiences to wear off and he will come back around. They always do once they realize "living life" is pointless if its not with someone who loves you. By him telling you about a girl he spent the night with, sounds like he wants to do new things but also make you jealous. Sorry i read this wrong to begin

I know i think its one of his friends. He always has a lot of girls around him and i think my ex was always looking up to him. By the time he realises it will probably take months if not years :( the college ends in 4 weeks then he will start working and hopefully then he will wake up a bit. It is a shame as i said before even his family is shocked and can't believe this happened as we were so happy together. Bout the talk well... dont think he is ready for grown up talk as he said himself ( i behave like a 17 year old. you deserve someone nicer than me, im not a good guy) as i said to Mustachekitteh i dont know if its any sign but he also listents to really sad songs now and it gets me worried, like the night when he spent at some dolls house i was sooo worried something happened to him just to find out he was totally fine enjoying his single life. I guess all I have left is waiting? Or maybe there is something i could do to make him realise except from serious talk.

It really sounds like he wants to see new things or maybe thinks the grass is greenier. And if he won't be mature and talk to you then let him be for now. Like if he contacts you be cordial with him but not like when you were together. He needs to know i can't play with your head. And it really sounds as if he is just messing with your head cause he knows he can, with him staying at a girls and you worrying. Typical mind controlling game. I really think the best thing is to stop contacting him, let him come to you. Pretty sure he will.

Yeah i had a chat with him and said im done waiting around and him not respecting me so since i didn't even say a word to him. Do you really believe in that that he will come back? Like did that happen to u before?

Its always the i just dont feel the same or i dont want. a relationship cause they want to go play and once they realise that the other people are just "playing with them" they come crawlimg back cause they realise finding someonw who truelly cares is so rare.

I hope you are right and he will come back. Especially that we had something special there and we have been living together for a year, no signs of ending it but i guess he has to experience other stuff too since you know i was his first girlfriend and first girl he ever kissed, huged. The whole thing trying to make me angry and proving he moved on would you call it a game? As each time he's like awww i did this and that and kissed like 2 girls, then talks to me and has his tinder open so that i can see it or messages girls in that way i can see it too :O

Yeah, thats the problem you have shown him a good relationship and he has no past experiences to compare it to, not realizimg that there are a majority of 99% of losers out there. So he thinks it will only get better. Hell be back, and yes those are all games to make sure you are still on his line. If he gets a reaction out of you he knows he still has you wrapped around his finger

I know. Funny thing happened. Saw me in college today and looked at me in a way that wanted me to see him. Then his best friend messaged me asking if im up for going out Wednesday i said i dnt know why he said aww we all are going and you know he is going too u dnt have to go but like u know. Is that some kinda hint? Could that be him telling his friend to get me out?

well i dont talk with my ex at the moment but he looks like he's trying to get my attention or something and then his friend basically saying i have to go out? i said aswel awww well what if it ends up like last time, him being a prick to me leaving me alone etc. and his friend said ' it will be a better night than last time'' his best friend is also my best friend so maybe he wanted to go through him to me just like i used to do the moment he left me.

Thats pretty common to use a 3rd party like that. But this isn't high school either. Dont you want a assertive man? Tell his friend/ your friend that if he wants me to go or see me for that matter he can get ahold of me. It basically comes down to if you are going to reward bad behavior. If you think about peoples action in that matter, you will always know what to say or do.

Well you know i was his first girlfriend and all so i guess he doesn't really know how to deal with this whole situation. the fact that he tries somehow would be some kinda progress. i am not gonna reward it. i might go out but not with them or to a different night club. It is just it got my hopes up and am not sure if i should as he has been playing games a lot lately

Never reward bad behavior, that will ruin a relationship faster than anything. Both people will lose respect. Just do you and he will come around eventually, as soon as he pulls his head out his ass and realizes there are only hoes out there. Good girls are rare, so either way you will find someone who appreciates you if it ain't him

aye and it already seems like he is not feeling good about what he is at like. we will see how Wednesday will go though. i dont even know how to behave as i dnt want a repeat of last time when he wasn't nice to me but at the end of the night we made up and went home together to cuddle and then said it should not have happened. yhhhh

I tried that but he still claims its not you moving away but i dnt love you anymore which i dont believe. It looks like he's fighting with himself and doing all he can to forget me fast and it makes things worst for him. He goes out all the time and gets very drunk that he can't get into a night club. He became more selfish and aggressive towards others too and tries as hard as possible to show me he doesn't care but you can clearly see he does. We spoke and i said later on its now or never u can't lead me on and he said never together again. After that he went out drinking :( like its almost impossible he fell out of love like that as when he was breakig up he was crying cuddling into me saying he wish there was a reason for us breaking up and then when i give him a chance he goes off tries to do other women so badly that it is not getting normal. im worried. he said i thought i made it clear by not talking to u and i said well then we slept in bed together (just cuddle) u said u love me

Tell him that you don't believe him when he says, "it has nothing to do with you moving away." Time to be blunt and tell him you don't care what he thinks about how it's going to go. You love him and want to make it work no matter what. Do with or without him your still going to try and make it work. Not date anyone else while you're away.

I said that to him and he was like aww ok but ye we r never gonna get back together i dont love you. But i really dont believe it as he's trying so hard to replace me and tries to make me jealous same time. I went out last night and he saw it on fb changed my name from " my princess" to my original one then. I dnt know how to get him to cop on. Like what he's doing to himself is not good for him. Like i say i want u only u and he's like i know but im not good guy and u deserve better etc :/ i dnt understand what happened to him. Told me he loves me and 5 min later left me

College i got accpeted to do veterinary and its my dream want to transfer after semester or a year back to Ireland. I really dont know what happened why he changed so dramatically its crazy and no matter what i say he's just backing off and pretending to be a... Boy in front of me

I tried but sister kinda hinted me leaving and so did his one friend but he says noooo its not and i just fell out of love with u. We had arguments like every couple you know but then it got perfect and suddenly he decided out of blue to end it. What could i do? Will i try talk to him bout it again? The last time we spoke was couple days ago and he claimed that he has no feelings etc but i dnt believe as you can see how hard he's trying to forget and he harms himself by behavin like that

I might do that. He doesn't even talk to me after last time :( when i said now or never and he said never. I asked why why ur like this. He said people change i said yea but you didn't change for good you were such loving person and now the way u treat me is not right. He just took it as a joke and said " i was always good to you. Never wanted to hurt you" . I know i can't change him back im just hoping he will change himself and realise i also dnt want to push him too much :( just wish he was honest and said what actually happened as falling out of love just like that is not possible. He won't really tell me i tried and tried and all i got out of him was " its better now , i just fell out of love, maybe i want to try new things but i do love you and care bout u but not as girlfriend but family" thats all. ;( and we actually were perfect together everyone said that and we were saying too planning on moving together and then this happened

maybe :( he is really cold towards me and each time we talk he's like ' and what sure we are not together, if i wanted to get back i would talk to u after i left u and i didnt' so i said its not like you, i dont believe it was you falling out of love he said ' ah well happens' like he's really cold. and yes your right, he never opens up about his feelings to anyone. Maybe if he did we would still be happy together if only he told me what is bothering him. Sure you dont sleep with a person you dont love the day before breaking up ;/

At this point he just seems like he's trying to be a jerk to you. I think you should go to his face and tell him to go to hell, that your done dealing with his stupid crap. Trying to figure him out is just hurting your head and a waste of time. That if he's just going not trust you and keep the truth to himself then fine. You don't care anymore and glad you will be far away from him soon enough.

well i did that on Thursday. i said to him ' its either now or never' he said never. i was like ok and drove away. but while we spoke i said im done chasing him , that i deserve respect and love like i used to get from him not being like that, while i was depressed crying all the time he wasn't there for me but partying and he said he never meant to hurt me. as said i drove away and since we didn't talk i only messaged him that we can stay friends and talk as normal like i dnt want to loose him but he has to wake up and he never replied. ill see him tomorrow in college, could chat him then?