Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

Self Abuse

I don't really understand why I get urges to inflict wounds to myself. I've been trying to understand. It used to be that whenever I was unhappy or upset, I would find ways of getting into fights and taking out my frustrations and aggresions that way. After some time I got to the point where I got sick of living that wayu, not to mention spending most weekends in jail. It took time, but eventually I changed. Now I go to the opposite extreme, instead of hurting others I hurt myself. It seems that to deal with things I need to hurt someone else or hurt myself. I don't cut myself. I use cigarettes or a hot crack pipe to burn myself. I don't do it so that others can see and I can get a reaction from them. I usually do it when I'm by myself. I don't think much of myself. Most times I feel worthless and even deserving of bad things happening to me. I think I do it to get out the feelings that I have and because I deserve to be hurt and have permanent reminders of why I'm a worthless piece of crap that could never recieve enough physical pain to make up for all the pain I brought to others. Maybe that isn't even the true reason, cause I don't even really feel any pain...maybe for just a brief moment. I'm hoping that someone here may have insights or advice on why I do this and/or how I can stop. This is all new to me...opening up and talking about my problems (of which I have many), asking others for help and advise. I have joined several communities cause I have many different issues. I have a feeling though that they all probably stem back to a central one...just don't know what and wonder if I'll ever be able to get better until I can figure it out and resolve it. I am open to any advise anyone can offer. I can't continue living the way I do and if I don't find a way to get better, eventually I'll succeed at killing myself. I've made too many attempts already and if busybodies hadn't interfered I would have succeeded. Each time I was sure that no one would be around, but somehow some nosy neighbor or relative came by. Next time I'll make sure it'll be too late for someone to bring me back. If I don't get better soon it'll happen. I've been hurting mentally and emotionally for as long as I can remember and I can't go on like this. It has to stop. Help me please. Help me find away to stop hurting.

I'm reading a book at the moment called &quot;women who hurt themselves&quot; it has been an extremely insightful book. TRS is &quot;Traumatic re-enactment Sydrome&quot;. It talks about all sorts of things we do to our bodies that are harmful such as smoking, drugs, alcohol, cutting, eating disorders, etc. I'd like to encourage anyone who is struggling with some form of self harm whatever it is to research this. I have found it extremely helpful and it has given me some understanding of why i relapse in self harm all the time. Let me know your thoughts about it or if you find out anymore info on it.

this book also talks about the triad self. there is the victim, the abuser, and the bystander. because of this we are unable to protect ourselves from the abuser or from re-enacting the trauma. i think if we can get a hold of this concept then we may gain some power over self harm, no matter what form it comes in.

ur helping urself already.
getting it all out, and allowing urself to talk about hurting is the first step to getting over it.
there are people here who care about you, and u can talk to any of us whenever u need to.
people are dealing with the same issues, ur not alone.
the more u let it out, the more u will come to know urself. and then u can find ur &quot;core&quot; pain.
i'm here if u ever need to talk,
much love,
~K

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