(Closed) Okay…am I crazy?? Having doubts?!? HELP! Need your advice…

HELP!!! I found and bought my dress this weekend. It truly is exactly what I wanted and lusted after in my magazines and for the past few years. It is a fitted french alecon lace gown, trumpet cut, and will have a sweetheart neckline and will be paired with a Vera Wang taupe sash and a gorgeous sparkly Parisian broach.

Here is another bride wearing it, same neckline, different sash:

I went to my second appointment, even though we all left saying “that’s the one. that dress is so you”. I tried on several gowns at my next appointment but they were all terrible. Then I tried on this one (below). It didn’t have the rosettes, but I liked it too. I took the dress below to the first salon to try them both back to back and ultimately decided on the lace gown. Dress #2:

This dress was lovely, and we dressed it up with a sash and broach as well. Thing is, the second dress was beautiful, but we had to add a lot to ‘make it special’. the Lace dress was just special hanging on the hanger (in my opinion). I felt that the second dress was trendy and goregous now, but the lace dress was timeless and classic and more ‘me’.

Tell me: which one do you like best? Does the lace look ‘bridal’ to you? Does it scream ‘I’m the bride??” I’m worried!! I am terribly indecisive so stuff like this ALWAYS causes me to doubt and second guess and get scared that I went with the wrong choice. This is exactly why I brought eight people with me to try on dresses, becase me and my mother alone wouldn’t have been able to make a desicion!! HELP!!

I personally like the second one better because it photographs well in all lighting. Lace dresses photograph great outdoors but I have seen many bad guest photos of lace dresses indoors. You are probably not as obsessive as me so I say get the one you like best. See which one you dream about. The lace one is stunning 🙂

@Ivorybuttons:Thanks!! I do feel like it’s timeless and classic and truly when I put it on it was really ‘me’, and I smiled wider and longer than I did in anything else. I think I definitely knew it was ‘the one’ when I put it on. But still…wtf is wrong with me, hahah? Can you share your dress??

@ChemistryBride:thank you!! I’m driving myself crazy thinking “should I have chosen differently?” “What if i don’t feel like a bride?” “What if people think it’s ugly/weird/etc?” I even had some tears over whether or not my Fiance would like it. I won’t show him pictures of the exact dress but I showed him a “dress linup” which included the designer photo of the dress and he said he liked all of them but it still wasn’t enough to convince me. I guess I’m just having some post-dress-purchase panic, which apparently is pretty common (from reading these boards)

The lace dress is very bridal…to me, a lace dress is very bridal, I have no idea what other occasion you would wear a lace dress. And as far as “”what if people think it’s ugly/wierd/etc…remember that old saying you can’t satisfy 100% of the people 100% of the time…choose for yourself. Choose something YOU will feel comfortable in. You can choose something for someone else but if you do not like or feel comfortable in it, it can ruin everything. Remember… this dress is for you.

I absolutely adore the lace dress. The second dress is beautiful, but it just doesn’t interest me like the lace one does. I actually keep scrolling up to look at it! You made the right choice by picking number one, I can tell you that much 🙂

Thank you both!! I have woken up the past two mornings thinking about this dress. I printed a big color picture of it and put it in my ‘wedding notebook’ and I keep looking at it. Everytime I do I fall more and more in love. My family members keep calling me or my mom to tell us how much they love it.

Reading through these boards it seems that the whole “buys remorse/freakout” thing is pretty typical….it’s such a HUGE commitment and there are SO MANY designs, sillhouettes, fabrics, etc to choose from, it’s so hard to be convinced you’ve made the right choice (especially if you’ve only gone to a few appointments and tried on about a dozen dresses).

@BackyardLoveBird:Thanks!! I did go with it…but when I got home and I finally had a moment of “holy shit i actually know what my wedding dress looks like” I immediately thought “should I have kept looking??”

I so badly needed the opinons of others because I feel like I’ve scrutinized both dresses so much, I have a totally skewed perception and opinion about them!