My wife wants a new house for retirement

I am retiring in six months. My wife and I have been married for 42 years. We have had a beautiful marriage except for some ups and downs as in most marriages. This is the problem: My wife wants a new house. Ladies in her social club are buying new houses. I told her those ladies are younger, and some of them recently remarried. Therefore, they would want another house, even if they were awarded their current house in the divorce. My wife of 42 years now treats me badly. Gwendolyn, our house is paid for, including our car and furniture, and we have money in the bank. I am too old to get into debt. I want to spend my retirement traveling and enjoying life.—Robert

Dear Robert:

You are correct in feeling it unwise to start debt all over again. Couples are losing their houses to foreclosure, not to mention some are sleeping in their car until the car is repossessed. Times are hard. It is unbelievable your wife is not appreciating what most couples never accomplish.

Take note: This is the time for you to reap the fruits of your labor. Many people don’t live to reach the age of retirement. You are blessed. Do not give in to the desire and wishes of your wife. To purchase a new house or old house at your age, especially since your house is mortgage-free, makes no sense at all. I suggest you strongly consider getting a divorce and use your retirement money—to enjoy the good life alone.

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