Some women just have those personalities that make you really want to be around them a lot. Generally speaking they're usually interesting, smart, funny and kind.

If you're looking for something a little more superficial, I personally love a woman with style. I love clothing and I like to play around with colors, textures, and cuts. So when a woman has a similar interest and does it well and with confidence? That'll make me turn my head on the street.

She honestly cared about me and supported me. She always gave me an ego boost, told me she was proud of me, I was attractive, and noticed when I went out of my way to make her happy. She told me I made her feel happy and loved.

I know this will probably sound dickish. But I met this girl at school, and ended up subconsciously avoiding her a little bit because her confidence was so attractive, even though she wasn't immediately physically attractive. I guess I was worried I wouldn't be able to help falling in love with her she was so vibrant. It was like the sun came down just to greet her smile.

She was very witty, down to earth and a ball buster. Overall we got along very well and went to pound town the first night we met (booze may have had something to do with it). Also she had an amazing ass. The rest of her was kind of just average. She had this strange thing where everywhere she went she would find four leaf clovers, I've never seen anything like that.

Intellect. If you know what I'm talking about or are capable of understanding it, it's a huge turn on. Also, an ability to make me consider things I may have not considered before without talking down to me.

and you know she's gonna be fun in bed because she'd be interested in you both having a good time rather than putting on a show or lying there.

If you know what makes you come, and you genuinely enjoy sex, that makes you way hotter than that Paris Hilton lookalike who's trying not to muss up her hair while it's banging into your head board ya know?

She was incredibly fun to be around. Her interests were very similar to mine, she was comfortable being herself around me, she got my sense of humor, and generally made everything we did together better than if I'd done it alone. She also fucked like a demon, which, while not the most important thing, was totally awesome.

She was a bit taller than me, flat chested and had dirty blond hair (all features I'm not very attracted to) but we had some great chemistry. We made each other laugh, stayed up 'til the early hours of the morning talking and talked about some fairly intimate topics. I shared things with her that I hadn't shared with friends I'd known for years. And yeah we fooled around a bit.

All this combined with the fact I'd been single for over a year and had just started uni in a new place, meant that I became infatuated with her very quickly. Ultimately it all came to nothing, she wasn't interested in a relationship and ended up lying to me and hurting me.

She liked me. Like liked liked me. Now I constantly wonder if we were setup. I was given my nickname to match hers by a mutual friend one day. We met later she noted how I wasn't "that tall" and I laughed. We hung out later from that we had our mutual friend and we all ended up in a club together. We dated later from that.

She wasn't the most beautiful girl I'd ever met (that girl I met first day of school) but she was cool we were friends and eventually I realized we were flirting. Now I'd put her on my top 5 list of most beautiful girls but back then she wasn't really on my radar. No one was as it turned out, but I was on a fair number of girl's radars as she told me once. Confidence is as confidence does and what all so I never really thought I had a chance with a girl. It didn't weigh me down or anything. I just sort of never thought about it. True definition of giving up and all that. I never expected her to like me but I enjoyed being subtly flirty with her. Or maybe it wasn't that subtle I'm sort of a giant nothing I do is that subtle. I can't really chase a girl across campus the way small guys can without it looking a bit rapey. But she was fun. She didn't rebuff me so when she asked me to the movies eventually (likely b/c I wasn't asking her) I said yes. It changed my perspective on her completely. Once I realized it was possible that she liked me it made her a lot more attractive to me.

I'm somewhat worried that I'm not over her. We were together for 5 years. but we've been apart longer at this point. She just had her first kid. I'm not torn up about it anymore but I still feel like I bring it up too much on reddit. Not sure if that says something about my lack of relationships post or how much I obsessed over her. She told me a few years ago that I made her a nympho, but I was just really excited that a) she liked me and b) that I actually liked her back. I was devoted to making her deliriously happy for 5 years. She said I always made her feel beautiful when we were together but that was just because that's how i saw her. I wasn't always successful, I wasn't always on my game if we were fighting or what not, but it was the thing I cared about most every time I was with her, making her happy. For a long time I was worried I'd never feel like that. Now there's a tiny tiny bit of me that's worried I'll never feel that way again. I mostly chaulk it up to it's been a long time since I was around people in my social circle. One day i expect that will change. Until then I wait.

When I was in high school there was this girl who I'll name Sara for the sake of anonymity. Sara was not hot in any respect in my opinion. She did not have big tits or a nice butt or anything like that. In the looks department she was rather plain in all regards. She did however have everything else going for her. She was nice, funny, fun to be around, smart and caring. I almost asked her out but my awkwardness and shallowness prevented me.

tl;dr If you are a plain jane and you want to be attractive your personality must be warm and inviting.

pheromones, probably. sexual attraction is heavily influenced by our genes and the resulting hormones we spew out. if you find yourself suddenly very attracted to someone after being in close proximity to them, your body may be responding to their pheromones, and you may want to consider breeding with them.

Men, have children in your late-30s/early-40s if you want autistic children and you don't want to live to have grandchildren. Seriously, male reproductive health also declines drastically with age.

Also, this shit you've written about age brackets is ridiculous. I've just turned 29, and I feel like dating has never been easier. My girlfriends are calling me Mrs. Robinson in response to the gorgeous younger boyfriends (25, no one puerile) I've had this year; and in terms of men my own age, I've never had so many men pursuing me as I do these days--dates 4 nights per week. I'd definitely say that at 29, I'm pretty on top of my game. No marriage or baby-deadline anxiety to speak of.