I do not want a baby shower.

Am I the only one who just doesn’t want a baby shower ? I just can’t be bothered at this point I don’t want to dress up and look cute and be around so many people I just don’t have the energy. It’s my first baby and my fiancé wants one so bad and that’s the only reason we’ll have on but it sucks so bad because I reaaaally don’t want to do it.

I sorta hate attention too , so I always told my mom no birthday parties , or anything like that. I just idk.

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I don't want one either. But this is my third so theres that. I have friends who want to throw me one since it's my first boy but I'm getting anxiety just thinking about it. It does get kind of exhausting being the focus of a party.

I did one with DD (dear daughter) because I felt like I had to and everyone was excited and wanted to do it. I appreciated it of course but I HATE being the center of attention so it was torture for me! I'm relieved that I don't have to worry about it this time 😆

Nope, I’m opting out of one too! My wedding shower felt really awkward for me, even though it was perfectly fine, and I don’t want to drive 8 hours round trip to feel the same awkwardness with a baby shower. I’d rather my parents/in-laws/whoever take the money they’d spend on a shower and buy me a stroller or put it in a college fund for baby or something.

I was on the fence but my hubby and I decided on a long distance shower because all our family live out of state. We included prediction cards with invites and asked people to join us on our private Facebook page to share their predictions and a surprise from us to them (it will be a gender reveal. We told everyone we wouldn't share until the due date so they'll get to find out a little early.). So, simple and minimal stress so far. My older sister is officially hosting it.

I don't see anything wrong with that... But why not mix things up and make your fiance the center of attention? I found some great coed games on an article her on BBC (BabyCenter) that highlighted what some people did and some events were literally just lunch. Others had tons of games that we're artsy so guests were busy focused on crafts.

I feel you on the whole getting dressed up orthopedic though. I still have no idea what I'm wearing since I hate pretty much every maternity dress I see... I'm really not into floofy or flowers and honestly wish I could find a cute bohemian or bright/rainbow sparkle pregnancy jumpsuit of some sorts because I love pants and hate dresses in general.

Sort of. We had one offered by my husband's cousin, and my husband's best friend's wive. I said no, I was ok with a get together and they could help with the food, around my bday which is in October. I ended up having a cerclage and I have been feeling terrible so my mom came to help me, they brought up the baby shower again, my mom made a whole ordeal, my husband joined in so I said yes. Initially it was only 20ish people, well somehow I saw the guest list since my husband is cooking, there is 80sh people. But we are Mexican, so I guess it's on the small side. There will be about 10 games, it's a family thing. It will be at my house so I can lay down if needed. Sorry to hijack and the long response.

ETA a lot of the guest sort of heard about it from those initial 20 and asked my husband and he would just invite everyone. Everyone is coming for his cooking, he makes amazing birria and lechón. My mom makes some bomb food too, so people are coming for the food more than anything. T

I have no desire for one and am not having one! I can’t get over the gift-grabby feeling of it, and I hate being the center of attention, so I just don’t see any reason for it. Both my and my SO’s family live further away though, which is why I’m getting away with it.

I think we will have a combo housewarming/new baby celebration sometime in the early spring, or whenever feels right - it just seems so much nicer to celebrate a new baby when the baby is actually there.

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