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Topic: Rough Seas - Update (Read 12663 times)

This is a tough post for me to make, but I feel like I am ready to make it, so here goes:

Some of you may recall that I met someone special earlier this year. I made some posts about our first dates, and how Fang the cat was behaving around him. We have become extremely close over the past 3 to 4 months. Like me, he has a 20+ year history with HIV, and the myriad of health issues that entails. Two weeks ago, I took him to have eye surgery at the Eye Foudation Hospital in Birmingham; it was to be a "routine" procedure, removal of a melanosis on his left eye. Local anesthesia only, no big deal....or so we thought. Last Friday, we received the biopsy report. He has malignant ocular melanoma.

Tomorrow, he sees a trio of specialists, an Oncologist, Dermatologist and the Opthalmologist who performed the procedure. Together, they will determine the next course of action and hopefully answer some of the many questions we have regarding his prognosis, treatment plan, etc.

I refuse to believe that God/The Universe has brought us together without a purpose. If you think of it, please remember us in your prayers.

Alan

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"Remember my sentimental friend that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." - The Wizard of Oz

Alan, dear baby, yesterday was a special day for all of us because the Earth received a unparalleled cosmic radiation/cosmic opening. It was a special day for thanksgiving, suppilication and congregation.And, since most of the time I am at loss for words in these kinds of situation, all I did was say your names more than a hundred times. Every single time I would say both names and, in the end, I would add "I love you!"Be strong, sweetheart, we are all with you in this struggle.

Thank you so much everyone, for the love and support, and pm's and phone calls.

We can get through this. Sickness and disease has taken so much from me during my lifetime -- both my parents to cancer, so many friends and loved ones to AIDS, and also robbed me of a good portion of my own life. I suppose if it weren't for the bad times, I would not appreciate the good times I have had nearly as much as I do. I am thankful, so very thankful, for the good days.

I wish for more good days ahead for all of us.

with love,

Alan

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"Remember my sentimental friend that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." - The Wizard of Oz

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I know you are both soooooooooo relieved!I'm tellin ya man...there's really something about the positive karma that this place emits! It's already been proven to me twice. Lovin' the AM family right now!

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No Fear No Shame No StigmaHappiness is not getting what you want, but wanting what you have.

Sometimes I wonder if total ignorance would be bliss - stepping off this roller coaster we call life. The feeling quickly passes despite all the shit we have to endure. So glad for you two that things seem to be coming into the station for a time.

You especially recognize the power of prayer and healing. I am relieved to hear your good news. I have been and will continue to keep you in my prayers because I know how important they are to our well-being. After hearing your story in Montreal (well, on the way to Quebec City) I have to rank you among the most extraordinary and courageous persons I have ever had the good fortune to meet. Wishing and praying for you and your partners continued health and happiness....