Caught father-inlaw masterbating

I’ve caught my FIL masterbating in his
room twice on separate occasion. I’m staying with my inlaws &
they’re 70+ years old. It happened during the afternoon & it is
disgusting & embarassing. I dare not tell or confide this
matter my hubby & family members & friends. I don’t know if
they will believe me…. Even if i wish to tell them, i find it
difficult & embarassing to say. What shall i do? If u’re in my
shoes, what would u really do?

I caught my grandmother masterbating too. I know it's very hard
thing for you to witness this kind of thing, and it took me few
months to get over it. At first, I had exactly similar thoughts as
yours whether if I show tell my parents about it.

Just keep it quiet, and try not to think about this and the
disgusting thoughts will go away soon. It happened to me, and
happened you... Let it be....

I'm not sure if we are in the same generation, but here a song
let me share with you a song. Relax murasaki

I’ve caught my FIL masterbating in his room twice
on separate occasion. I’m staying with my inlaws & they’re 70+
years old. It happened during the afternoon & it is disgusting
& embarassing. I dare not tell or confide this matter my hubby
& family members & friends. I don’t know if they will
believe me…. Even if i wish to tell them, i find it difficult &
embarassing to say. What shall i do? If u’re in my shoes, what
would u really do?

Huh ?

Do you know that after 40 plus, woman will lose their ability to
give birth. Men will lost their ability to produce sperm at 50
plus. Technically, grandparents are sexless?

U’re cool by taking it cool. The 1st time i caught him was like
8years ago & i’ve gotten over it since. Then recently it
happened again & this time i’m sure he was loud! I thought it
was only once & that’s it that i would ever caught him in that.
I really wished it was just a bad dream. On top of that i also
caught him many times peeping me when i was doing some
chores the kitchen! Gosh…. why do i have to be in this
situation? I’m starting to hate my FIL!

U’re cool by taking it cool. The 1st time i caught him was like
8years ago & i’ve gotten over it since. Then recently it
happened again & this time i’m sure he was loud! I thought it
was only once & that’s it that i would ever caught him in that.
I really wished it was just a bad dream. On top of that i also
caught him many times peeping me when i was doing some chores the
kitchen! Gosh…. why do i have to be in this situation? I’m starting
to hate my FIL!

As long as he is doing it in the privacy of his room, it is
nobody’s business. Lots of hypocrites dont know that one time or
another that they do it also. disgusting is to pretend and foist
one’s morality on others!

Firstly there is nothing wrong with masturbating, if not done in
excess.

You feel its disgusting, why? Because you see it? OK granted the
sight is pornographic. Normal sexual acts if chanced upon is also
horrid. If you see your father and mother humping, it is also
disgusting. Sexual acts should be done in private. But sometimes,
privacy is invaded, inadvertantly. Thats what happened in your
case.

Next time you catch you FIL wanking, just laugh, and say, "You
enjoying yourself ah." and close the door. As DIL, please don't
assist him in any way.

I caught my brother masterbating too. I know it's very hard
thing for you to witness this kind of thing, and it took me few
months to get over it. At first, I had exactly similar thoughts as
yours whether if I show tell my parents about it.

Just keep it quiet, and try not to think about this and the
disgusting thoughts will go away soon. It happened to me, and
happened you... Let it be....

It shows TS is still attractive... well its normal for aged men
to have sexual urges... sometimes they just don't have an outlet to
channel such energy. Avoid confrontation and conflict. Prevent and
mitigate. Stay strong ya.

I’ve caught my FIL masterbating in his room twice
on separate occasion. I’m staying with my inlaws & they’re 70+
years old. It happened during the afternoon & it is disgusting
& embarassing. I dare not tell or confide this matter my hubby
& family members & friends. I don’t know if they will
believe me…. Even if i wish to tell them, i find it difficult &
embarassing to say. What shall i do? If u’re in my shoes, what
would u really do?

aiyoh.................then you must know what to do
lah.................

as long as you don't have a 3some with father and
son.....................should be alright
lah...................

Thanks for the response. I tried to post my reply just now but
it didn’t appear so i gotta retype & try again. I still have
respect for my FIL because he’s an elderly
& he’s my hubby’s father & he’s my FIL. The growing hatred is due to the fact of his
indecent exposure of sight & sound over a repeated period of
time plus his frequent peeping me. This is mentally
disturbing. I know its normal to masterbate but its where & how
one does it. If there's no balance & ability to manage one's
desire & expectation then it can become other people's problem.
I disagree that disgusting is to pretend and foist one's morality
on others. Privacy is meant to be private for one's sense of
feeling hearing seeing speaking & thinking but if there's an
exposure then where's the so called privacy. Its like walking being
naked in own home yet can be seen by neighbours. That's disgusting!
I know that one time or another i won't that. The word hypocrite is
too vague & superficial to use in almost every normal situation
and it can be better examined. I'm lost how am i going to
handle this without creating further negative feelings for myself
& my family. I’m taking the comments here with open mind &
glad to know this place exist for people like me to confide share
my thoughts & feelings. It helps to broaden my perspective
& options. I can’t be moving out because its our new flat we
just moved in and yes i admit i wished i don’t have to live with my
parents inlaw!

Elder Care center. I guess you are full time housewife, correct me
if I am wrong.

Both my parents are working full time, and we decided to enrol
my grandmother to elder day care center with transport provided.
I'm not too sure about the price, but if money is not a
factor, you can try convincing that your FIL will be doing better
at the day care center.

At the day care center, there are many people providing
care for the elderly. Most care center have a routine i.e.
breakfast, then little masuclar exercise, lunch, tv, etc. Do
consider my suggestion, it may help you.

Yes. My (paternal) grandmother felt much more cheerful after going
to the elder care center. For my maternal grandmother, she is also
very depressed because nobody attend to her all the time. After my
maternal enrol to elder care center, within 1 week, everyone
notices her cheerfulness again.

Thanks for your suggestion. I was thinking of asking my hubby to
talk to my FIL to encourage him to go out
mingle with friends & do some group exercise & activities
so that he won’t be bored & do bored things at home. I’m not
sure if this elder care centre works for him… i really wish i will
not encounter this again. Its not what i want. It just happened!
I’m not a full time housewife. Thankfully! It might not be
twice…

Your FILsleep in the masterbed room correct? so naturally he
will do that lah, please pity all these old man, there is actually
nothing left in them, it took him 8 years to do one masterbed, more
longer than olympic. I hope as a DIL, you can also see how to help
him when he is doing, then when he finally call for the day, he may
give you more of his assets and go peacefully, as for you, not only
you gain but also feel filial piety of what you had done for
him.

Thanks for your suggestion. I was thinking of asking my hubby to
talk to my FIL to encourage him to go out mingle with
friends & do some group exercise & activities so that he
won’t be bored & do bored things at home. I’m not sure if this
elder care centre works for him… i really wish i will not encounter
this again. Its not what i want. It just happened! I’m not a full
time housewife. Thankfully! It might not be twice…

Yes, just talk to your hubby about your fil masturbation.

Are you working or housewife and staying at home with your fil
the whole day?

How come your fil masturbate in the room without locking the
door? Or rather not in the toilet? He stand and masturbate by
looking at you?

y Friend was working through an agency and when she was working only from 12 noon till 6pm. While working, she was informed by her colleague (lets name her Anna) that she was allowed to take the vouchers and the free items since CNY was coming to and end