Why I’m a bad mom in other’s eyes.

I can’t tell you how many people so far since being a mom has made me feel like I was a horrible mom. I know, I shouldn’t let others words hurt me, but I was a first time mom and had no idea what I was doing. I’ve learned to not let others opinions affect me that way anymore, but I thought it would be entertaining to tell you all how I am a “Bad Mom” in others eyes, which I’m sure all of you have been made feel this way before too.

I’m a bad mom because I got my kid her shots.

-Last time I checked, I pushed this kid out MYWoo Ha.

You are feeding your baby formula?! She’s going to get sick!!

A family member said this to me. Sad part about it was, I wasn’t producing nearly enough to satisfy her so I had to supplement with formula. But I am horrible because I didn’t just let her starve. Hmmm.

You’re breastfeeding still? You shouldn’t breastfeed after a certain age!

I never actually had this one said to me but I did get sh*t for feeding my kid formula. Funny how You get judged no matter what you do, huh? Ain’t that a Bi*ch?

You shouldn’t go to your baby every time she cries.

My daughter was from the age of 6 months old to a year old when I was being told this… Really…?

You should/shouldn’t put your kid in daycare.

I was told by numerous people that I should just put my daughter in daycare. for a number of reason… One being that “She needs the social interaction…” At one years old? I was made feel bad because I didn’t want to give my BARELY one year old social interaction in a GERM filled daycare center that I couldn’t afford anyways.

You shouldn’t co-sleep with your baby.

I was told when my daughter was 6 or 7 months old that she shouldn’t be sleeping in my room with me. Sometimes she slept right next to me on my bed or in the swing next to my bed, WHICH IS NONE OF ANYONE’S DAMN BUSINESS ANYWAYS.

Well, my baby was doing this at that age, so yours should be too.

First off, just because your kids did/does this, doesn’t mean my kid is ready to. You do realize that they are 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT kids, right?

You shouldn’t give your baby a pacifier, it’s bad for them.

See, I agree with this to a certain extent… There is an age when the pacifier can do more damage to your child’s teeth than it does to comfort them. My daughter had a pacifier from when she was born which she didn’t really start using until she was like 5 months old, until she was 2. Anything past that age may impair their speech.

Your kid shouldn’t watch T.V. this young.

Bologna. My kids intelligence has a lot to do with what she’s watched on T.V., thank you very much.

There are many more, but you get the point.

Don’t let these kinds of comments affect you. Remember, it’s YOUR child. YOU know what’s best for YOUR child. Being a new mom and not letting these kinds of comments affect you is hard, but kids trust your instincts. Mom-mode comes natural. You got this. If anyone does say these things to you, just say, “Don’t you have a kid? Go make that decision for your own child.”

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I relate so much! It’s so hard to not be rude or just snap at people. They really need to keep their opinions to themselves. What’s worse is when these comments are from people who have kids of their own. I’d assume theyd know what it feels like to be criticized with their own parenting choices. As for the people who don’t even have kids… mind your own business? I find it hardest when it’s family members doing the judging and criticizing . Great post. I’m following you girl

I just keep telling myself “those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind” and I try not to let it get to me. I know I’m doing great because my son is happy and healthy and that’s all that matter. ✌🏼

It doesn’t matter what a person does or doesn’t do. Somebody is going to disagree. I do my best to ignore the grumblers and focus on those who are supportive (or neutral). It isn’t always easy, of course, but I try.

Once, I took the kid to the park, and she saw her snack cup and started asking for snacks but I didn’t have any snacks. So I went through the back sit and her car seat grabbing all the crumbs I could find and putting them in the cup… and you know what happened to her? NOTHING she was fine!
You do you mama!!