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Should I throw my sons girlfriend a baby shower?

I have 2 sons Jack & Jason that are not married and they live with their girlfriends. Both girl friends are pregnant and due in May. I am not close with either girlfriend but I was planning on throwing a babyshower for Jason's girl friend and not Jack's. I wasn't very happy when Jack started dating her because she is older than him and she already has 2 children and is divorced. Jack told me that is rude and tacky. Is it?

I do not want a bad relationship with anyone. I never thought it was that big of a deal. Jack's girlfriend has lots of friends and I know they would throw her a shower, the other girl doesn't.

I guess to keep the peace I will either have a double shower or no shower.

When two of my sons had their first children, I didnt throw a shower for either mom cuz their BFFs wanted to do and invite pretty much everyone. But I went, bought nice gifts, and put my reservations towards one of the moms aside..... its not about the mom or even about your son, its about the baby! YOUR GRANDCHILD!

When I was pregnant, I had a cousin whose baby was due three weeks before mine. My sister threw my cousin a shower, but not me. An aunt finally had one for me three weeks after my baby was born. It was really hard to get over; I'm not sure I ever did completely.

It is kind of a slap in the face to her. Like her or not she is still your sons girl friend who is carrying your grandchild. You are going to have to move past the 'I don't like her' if you plan to keep your son and your grandchild in your life. Don't alienate her- it will not end well.