THIS MATERIAL MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR THOSE UNDER 18.So if you are under 18, a right wing republican christian or anyone else who is offended by nudity, vulgarity and/or a wanton disrespect for societal norms, consider yourself warned and leave. Oh and might I add, "If thine eyes offend thee, PLUCK THEM OUT". Just don't complain!

~The more defects a man may have, the older he is, the less lovable, the more resounding his success.~Marquis de Sade

"Allow me to be frank at the commencement. You will not like me. The gentlemen will be envious and the ladies will be repelled. You will not like me now and you will like me a good deal less as we go on. Ladies, an announcement: I am up for it, all the time. That is not a boast or an opinion, it is bone hard medical fact. I put it round you know. And you will watch me putting it round and sigh for it. Don't. It is a deal of trouble for you and you are better off watching and drawing your conclusions from a distance than you would be if I got my tarse up your petticoats. Gentlemen. Do not despair, I am up for that as well. And the same warning applies. Still your cheesy erections till I have had my say. But later when you shag - and later you will shag, I shall expect it of you and I will know if you have let me down - I wish you to shag with my homuncular image rattling in your gonads. Feel how it was for me, how it is for me and ponder. 'Was that shudder the same shudder he sensed? Did he know something more profound? Or is there some wall of wretchedness that we all batter with our heads at that shining, livelong moment. That is it. That is my prologue, nothing in rhyme, no protestations of modesty, you were not expecting that I hope. " from The Libertine and the bottom of Nic's dark soul.

There is in every madman a misunderstood genius whose idea, shining in his head, frightened people, and for whom delirium was the only solution to the strangulation that life had prepared for him.
~Antonin Artaud

I hurt myself today.....to see if i still feel......I focus on the pain......the only thing thats real......The needle tears a hole.....the old familiar sting........try to kill it all away..........but I remember everything........what have I become, my sweetest friend .........everyone i know, goes away in the end.......and you could have it all, my empire of dirt........I will let you down..........I will make you hurt..........I wear this crown of thorns.....upon my liars chair......full of broken thoughts.........I cannot repair..........beneath the stains of time........the feelings dissapear.......you are someone else..........I am still right here.........What have I become, my sweetest friend..........everyone I know, goes away in the end...........and you could have it all, my empire of dirt..........I will let you down............I will make you hurt...........if I could start again, a million miles away..........I will keep myself..........I would find a way.......NINE INCH NAILS

There are those Masters/Dominants/Daddies who believe as I do, but most do not exist on BDSM websites. For those "littles" aka Little Girls/Daddy's Girls I have copied and am posting this from http://the50sdish.blogspot.com/p/daddy-dominants-creed.html.There are those among us (mostly older) who understand what it means, what our responsibilities are and know when they have a found that girl; how to treat her.

A Daddy Dominant's Creed & Caring For Your Little Girl

~ The Daddy-Dominants Creed ~

Above all else a Daddy cherishes his girl , and takes great delight in watching her grow

A Daddy/little can be demanding and Daddy most times takes full advantage of the power given to them, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift of having a " little "

A Daddy is in control of themself first and foremost, so that They may control and take control of thier " little ".

As a stern and demanding yet caring compassionate nurturer , they may cause their babygirl / submissive to cry real tears , but will ALWAYS be there to wipe them away .

As the consummate lover, They will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Daddy will never leave the role behind, and is always there to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals.

A Daddy is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

A Daddy would never ask His little to put Him before their career, or family, just to satisfy their own pleasure , yet will encourage independance in growth

To win a " littles " mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, a Daddy knows they must first win their trust.

A Daddy will show their submissive humour, kindness, and warmth . how to play , when to play , and its not always a sexual nature .

A Daddy must always show His " little " that their guidance and tutoring is deserving of their attention, that this is a person they can learn from, and that they can trust their direction.

A Daddy is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for Their " little's " honour.

A Daddy proves to their " little " that His is someone they can lean on, and depend on.

When it comes time to teach His girl their lessons of obedience, they are a strong and unyielding professor , but always nurturing , loving and patient .

A Daddy will accept His " little " as she grows but wants the best for her so nothing less than perfection from His " little " will be allowed while she learns .

Never does a Daddy use discipline without a good reason. When they do punish thier " little's ", it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

A Daddy is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear their submissive's wants and needs.

A Daddy is patient; taking time to learn the limits of His " little " , and knowing that as their trust of them grows, so will they.

A Daddy understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

A Daddy is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

A Daddy's tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. ( and a great set of hands " grins " )

A true Daddy-Dom is not hesitant to kneel to His submissive/babygirl.little and kiss her hand in honor of her trust, service, and love for Him.rewritten from a Dominants creed to fit this lifestyle , by me ! (NOT June - link to author's site provided below)****************************************In every girl's life, there is a force, a presence, a Daddy, a Dominant she lives and breathes to love and honor. A Top is for tonight, a Dom is for however long they're needed, a Master as long as they seek Mastery, but a Daddy is forever

I consider myself a "Wordsmith"; I am a writer, but every now and then I feel that I can not express myself better than another. So it is with what is posted below with regard to the Total Power Exchange (TPE). It is a pity that so many of those who come here (male and female) having read a book, seen a movie, are exploring, are new to this life (not just a lifestyle), who learn the wrong way or are trained the wrong way; don't understand what it means to be a Dominant/Master or submissive/slave. Perhaps what is written below will help others to understand. The author's name appears at the end as I believe in giving credit where credit is due and copied from http://the50sdish.blogspot.com/2012/07/well-balanced-power-exchange.html, the home of another older Dominant.

The Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

The Dom

The ProtectorThe DisciplinarianThe GuideThe Nurturer

The Safe Place

The Dom may critique but never criticizes. To critique is to make better. To criticize is to tear down.

The Dom reaches for perfection but practices unconditional acceptance for himself as much as for his sub.

The Dom understands that trust is the most important aspect of a relationship and does everything to protect and nurture that.

The Dom always acts in the highest good of both. If a decision must be made between the Dom or the sub, the highest good of the sub is paramount.

The Dom may endeavor to break a habit but never to break a spirit.

The Dom cherishes the sub above all else as the most prized possession.

The Dom takes ultimate control, in a situation that has gotten out of control, to protect a sub.

The Dom provides discipline as outlined initially or updated in the definition of the relationship agreed upon by both.

The Dom provides aftercare - without exception - after intense play or discipline.

The Dom guides his sub in areas, where necessary, with the goal of improving the sub in areas initially agreed upon by both.

The Dom nurtures when a sub needs it.

The Dom is the sub’s safe place, the place the sub calls “home.” It is a place where unconditional acceptance and compassion are guaranteed.

The Dom honors the power of the submission with which they have been entrusted.

The sub

The ProtectedThe DisciplinedThe GuidedThe NurturedThe Safe Place

The sub differentiates between critique and criticism, responding positively to critiques by the Dom.

The sub strives for perfection but practices unconditional acceptance when evaluating her performance.

The sub gives her trust responsibly and earns the Dom’s trust as well, understanding that it is the most important aspect of a relationship.

The sub knows the Dom always acts in the highest good of both. The sub must always communicate her needs in a clear and respectful manner so that the Dom has the important information necessary to maintain His responsibility.

The sub may never endeavor to diminish her quality with self-depreciation.

The sub values herself as a most prized possession, prioritizing her health and well-being.

The sub yields control to her Dom without hesitation in situations that have gotten out of control.

The sub understands discipline as an integral part of the power exchange, designed to assist her in achieving the goals initially outlined in the confines of the relationship.The sub understands aftercare as a vital part of the play and discipline process and gives herself openly to it.

The sub is charged with using good judgment in self-governance with the goal of improving in areas initially agreed upon by both.

The sub asks for, and accepts, nurturing provided by the Dom. She also maintains a self-care routine mutually agreed upon. This self-care routine may include, but is not limited to manicures, pedicures, meditation, time with friends or exercise.

The sub is the Dom’s safe place, the place the Dom calls “home.” Its a place where unconditional acceptance and compassion are guaranteed.

The sub reverently gives her power of submission. If at any time she feels that her submission is not being treated reverently by her Dom she must seriously consider rescinding it.

The Relationship

A good D/s relationship has all the characteristics of a good vanilla relationship. The relationship must meet the needs of both participants, serving to enhance life and never causing misery.

Once you have found someone with whom you are building a power exchange relationship, communication is the key. Discovering who each other is, how you have become that person, where you have traveled from and where you see yourself going are all things pertinent to building this relationship. Communication should be easy - without concern and without trying to be something you are not. Honesty is paramount. There’s no point in pretending to be someone other than who you are. Eventually the truth will come to light and the relationship will fall apart. It is better to be just who you are from the start. Sharing your dreams, goals and aspirations are as necessary in a power exchange relationship as in any relationship.

Establishing the outline of your relationship will be next. Your relationship will have a higher chance of success if you discuss your needs and wants at the beginning. Going into a relationship with unexpressed expectations is a fatal error. Speak honestly about what you expect from a partner. What gives you pleasure? How do you know you are loved? What are you looking for from a power exchange relationship? What do you picture the relationship will look like? What are your hard and soft limits? Safe words? Then listen openly to their expectations as well. Communication is always a two way street.Once you spend time getting to know each other and discussing the relationship you can relax into the dynamics of the relationship. See how things flow between you. Reevaluate and assess how things are going. Are your needs being met? Does the energy flow between you seem to be easy and reciprocal? Are you giving as much as you are receiving? Even though this is a D/s relationship, the needs and input of a sub are as important to the success as the Dom’s. If there is disappointment then determine if you can redefine some things. It may even be necessary to end the relationship.If you decide to continue the relationship, under the same parameters or renegotiated ones, the relationship should proceed to develop smoothly. Periodic reevaluation is crucial to ensure that both parties’ needs are met as the relationship develops. Neither party should remain in a relationship that does not serve their highest good.

I have been both a Master and Dom in the BDSM lifestyle for over 35 years. I am currently in New Orleans Louisiana, the Big Easy. Finally back in a place where I belong with the intent of staying.I have plied my art all over the country and yes, the giving of pain and pleasure is an art.

I started this because I thought there might be an interaction between myself and like minded individuals, but found most willing to look and not speak; for this reason I have eliminated the tag board and your ability to comment (Consider yourself gagged).

My Blog has become a reflective self analysis and has enabled Me to vent. It has reflected on my childhood, BDSM and it has been a place to share poetry, stories, and art; all erotic in their own way

Having written here for over three years, I realized that I wanted this to be the home of My impure thoughts and deeds; I decided to create another home for the menusha that comes to mind. I created Alt-Thinkining for those who have an interest in my political and social side and who might be appauled or offended by My more carnal thoughts (I love My carnal thoughts ).

Dominant

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent,or wiser. I do not dominate because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet to you, I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and and embracing your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.

You are a woman. You are not weak and inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind, and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.

We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present the control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty and the faithfulness of your heart.

You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; You have given me dominance over you.

What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind.

I dominate only because you have allowed me too and when I see you kneel before me, in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women, and all the treasures on the earth. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

And From a Submissive Woman

I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life. I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength. I look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am I more complete than when he is with me. I know that he will protect my body, my mind, and my soul with his strength and wisdom.

He is everything to me, as I am everything to him. His touch awakens me and his thoughts free me. Only in serving him do I find complete freedom and joy. His punishments are harsh, but I accept them thankfully, knowing that he has my best interests always foremost in his mind. If he desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought him happiness. However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship. The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.

My body is his, and if he says I am beautiful, then I am. No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in his eyes, and because of that I hold my head high... .. for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me? If he says I am his princess, then I am that...regal and graceful. And if I see laughter at me in the eyes of others, I do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong?

If he says I am his toy, his slut, his tramp, then I am that...as wanton and dirty as he wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master. My mind is his, to expand, to explore, to know as only he can. I have no secrets from him...for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly his. Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself...and I do not want walls.

His lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own, but they are lessons he has decided I need, and so I learn from him. My soul is his, as bare to his touch as ever my skin could be when I kneel naked at his feet. Never a moment goes by when I do not feel his presence, be he miles away or standing over me.

I spend my days knowing that the energy and thought he puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for his, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that we do together.

His part is much harder than mine, and I know this and am grateful that he cares enough about me to spend his time and energy so freely on me. I have the easier job: to feel, to experience, to let myself go and abandon everything to him. I am his pleasure and his responsibility, and he takes both seriously. I am a submissive woman. I am proud to call myself that. My submission is a gift that I do not give lightly, and can only be given to one who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.

Only to he who has that strength will I give myself fully, because I am strong and proud.