Charlie is still a baby, not yet six months old, but every day he ranges further out of his comfort zone, and sometimes get's himself into sticky situations. He likes to have a warm shower, and will stand, neck craned, gulping water from a single jet of water he has identified among the many jets. Occasionally over-zealous in this activity he slips off his perch with his wet feet and lands in the bottom of the shower with water hosing his fluffy little feathers flat to his tiny frame. That's when Read more [...]

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A Log in the Eye is the working title for my new book about the resilience and resourcefulness of New Zealanders in face of the major nationally-felt events of the last few years. An important sub-text of the book is based on socially-sanctioned blame and victimhood, the effect of that victimhood on us as individuals and on NZ society in general, as well as providing solutions for those willing to alter their perceptions.
The book will be lightly illustrated, highly readable and very enjoyable Read more [...]

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The difference between discerning where a problem lies and blaming is that blaming comes from our emotions, specifically fear.
When we blame we are afraid of something, usually a loss of some kind. As a culture, we are in the habit of blaming. It comes up with us from childhood, usually because we have never been taught that there are options to blaming.
The problem with blame is that it makes us victims. Whenever we blame someone or something, we make ourselves a victim, and this happens Read more [...]

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The choice of victimhood through blaming can be very subtle so it's easy to fall into a state of victimhood as children when we don't recognise that there are other options.
That leads to the habit of abdicating or abandoning personal responsibility.
I believe that the abdication of personal responsibility is probably one of the greatest diseases society faces today. It's not my fault, is the great escape clause....especially when we can prove it.
Personal responsibility isn't about what happens. Read more [...]