Man-- talk about opening a can of WORMS! I am so heartened to read all these posts from so many men who seem to appreciate us for who we are. And I hope to meet one soon who will like me for me! I think there are many women out there who are with a man who SAYS he has no problem with her being fat, but then DOES the opposite. Just from my personal experience. My ex was very sweet in words, would tell me I was beautiful, would want s*x-- but then, he hardly took me out, wouldn't make time for me, and made comments about my weight ro my eating habits. Like, "do you really need that?"-- or "why don't you go for a walk?" That was just the most hurtful thing. He would play it off that he was just interested in making me feel better, or to give me time alone, or to help me "help myself", but couldn't see how hurtful it was. For many years, off and on, I begged him to go to therapy with me. Nope. There was no problem, he said. But then, all of a sudden, when I wanted to move out (gee, I wonder why...), all of a sudden, he wanted to go. And, of course, now, it's all MY fault that we are five days from the one year separation date! Some people are happy being fat. Some aren't , yet aren't ready to take the plunge into diet and exercise (me). Some are just metabolically driven to be flubba-licious. I just hope that men (and society as a whole) will eventually come to see people for the sole fact of being HUMAN. Every one needs love and affection--no matter their size.

Man-- talk about opening a can of WORMS! I am so heartened to read all these posts from so many men who seem to appreciate us for who we are. And I hope to meet one soon who will like me for me! I think there are many women out there who are with a man who SAYS he has no problem with her being fat, but then DOES the opposite. Just from my personal experience. My ex was very sweet in words, would tell me I was beautiful, would want s*x-- but then, he hardly took me out, wouldn't make time for me, and made comments about my weight ro my eating habits. Like, "do you really need that?"-- or "why don't you go for a walk?" That was just the most hurtful thing. He would play it off that he was just interested in making me feel better, or to give me time alone, or to help me "help myself", but couldn't see how hurtful it was. For many years, off and on, I begged him to go to therapy with me. Nope. There was no problem, he said. But then, all of a sudden, when I wanted to move out (gee, I wonder why...), all of a sudden, he wanted to go. And, of course, now, it's all MY fault that we are five days from the one year separation date! Some people are happy being fat. Some aren't , yet aren't ready to take the plunge into diet and exercise (me). Some are just metabolically driven to be flubba-licious. I just hope that men (and society as a whole) will eventually come to see people for the sole fact of being HUMAN. Every one needs love and affection--no matter their size.

Ok Shoot me Its A BBW site so every time you confronted with a issue is the answer always weight/size? What if it was a site for people with enormous and dynamic personalities? would we be saying they don't want to be seen with me cause I over shadow them.
The person I DON"T want to be seen with is shy, mousy, dressed in Black, has no sense of style, cause they don't care about themselves. They feel that they don't deserve anything out of life cause ..... I don't know plug in a reason.
But if you can laugh smile and have a deep passion for life if your personality is bigger than you are thats fine by me.

Ok Shoot me Its A BBW site so every time you confronted with a issue is the answer always weight/size? What if it was a site for people with enormous and dynamic personalities? would we be saying they don't want to be seen with me cause I over shadow them. The person I DON"T want to be seen with is shy, mousy, dressed in Black, has no sense of style, cause they don't care about themselves. They feel that they don't deserve anything out of life cause ..... I don't know plug in a reason. But if you can laugh smile and have a deep passion for life if your personality is bigger than you are thats fine by me.

yes they do only if the bbw they are with is confident and secure. secure meaning, walking beside your man, holding hands, not ashamed to wear skirts and etc. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and im a lover of beautiful volumptious things lol if you have it flaunt it... and with my huge group of friends and co-workers, after various conversations, they will all pick on a big girl when out in a group together, but when alone they admire, and desire them.... why i dont know. when i first found my attraction to a full figured woman i myself was shy and bashfull and didnt want to go out in the public eye during the day.... but ever since that first date 7 years ago.... wow how you women have changed my perspective.... ill take a bbw over a skinny chick anytime anywhere....... the only place that i have difficulties with now with a bbw is the passenger side of my corvette... i just cant get my two favorite things to mesh.

yes they do only if the bbw they are with is confident and secure. secure meaning, walking beside your man, holding hands, not ashamed to wear skirts and etc. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and im a lover of beautiful volumptious things lol if you have it flaunt it... and with my huge group of friends and co-workers, after various conversations, they will all pick on a big girl when out in a group together, but when alone they admire, and desire them.... why i dont know. when i first found my attraction to a full figured woman i myself was shy and bashfull and didnt want to go out in the public eye during the day.... but ever since that first date 7 years ago.... wow how you women have changed my perspective.... ill take a bbw over a skinny chick anytime anywhere....... the only place that i have difficulties with now with a bbw is the passenger side of my corvette... i just cant get my two favorite things to mesh.

Hell yes! I don't give a rat's behind what other people think. It should matter most what you think! If the guy you're with doesn't think it's ok to be out with you, why are you with him at all? I dated this girl for a while who had a problem with my weight. I'm a big man, no lie. But I look good! One day she was just after me and after me, really being mean, and I told her that I knew of one way to lose about 120 pounds real quick...I dropped her off at her house and never went back!
But seriously, if the guy (or girl) isn't comfortable with you on their arm, why are you going to let them get on anything else???

Hell yes! I don't give a rat's behind what other people think. It should matter most what you think! If the guy you're with doesn't think it's ok to be out with you, why are you with him at all? I dated this girl for a while who had a problem with my weight. I'm a big man, no lie. But I look good! One day she was just after me and after me, really being mean, and I told her that I knew of one way to lose about 120 pounds real quick...I dropped her off at her house and never went back! But seriously, if the guy (or girl) isn't comfortable with you on their arm, why are you going to let them get on anything else???

Fatchance, thanks for responding. Part of the reason for confessing this is because I wanted some feedback. I worried that I might offend, but nothing ventured nothing learned. So even though I may have drawn negative judgment from you - I hope you will be willing to discuss your thoughts a bit more and help me understand because I do feel a bit conflicted. So I am going to try and clarify what I think you object too and try to explain myself better - not defending, but explaining.
So when I say interested in the "fetish" I am not being clear perhaps. What I am meaning is that yes, there is clearly an attraction on a physical, emotional and intellectual level or the person would not be wanting to date you but I have had more than one experience where all seems good in one on one settings but then we go out to a public place where we may be seen by folks whose opinion matter to my date and find that the person who I've been disolving into laughter and intimacy with, is suddenly behaving as if he just happen to a person walking next to me. When I reach for their hand which was feverishly sought in private I now see eyes darting around and clear discomfort. Later when I ask I get responses like,"I am uncomfortable with friends and family knowing that I like large women." - yes, I've actually had that direct a response twice. So liking large women and liking large women enough to be comfortable with the world knowing that you like large woman are often not in sync. I don't expect perfection in a date or a mate but I do expect them to not be embarrassed to be seen with me due to my size. Trying to determine if that is going to be an issue sooner rather than later is what I am after - although I am curious and open as to other hopefully better ways to navigate this issue. Am I getting to your objection? If not it is because I do not understand but I really want too.

Fatchance, thanks for responding. Part of the reason for confessing this is because I wanted some feedback. I worried that I might offend, but nothing ventured nothing learned. So even though I may have drawn negative judgment from you - I hope you will be willing to discuss your thoughts a bit more and help me understand because I do feel a bit conflicted. So I am going to try and clarify what I think you object too and try to explain myself better - not defending, but explaining. So when I say interested in the "fetish" I am not being clear perhaps. What I am meaning is that yes, there is clearly an attraction on a physical, emotional and intellectual level or the person would not be wanting to date you but I have had more than one experience where all seems good in one on one settings but then we go out to a public place where we may be seen by folks whose opinion matter to my date and find that the person who I've been disolving into laughter and intimacy with, is suddenly behaving as if he just happen to a person walking next to me. When I reach for their hand which was feverishly sought in private I now see eyes darting around and clear discomfort. Later when I ask I get responses like,"I am uncomfortable with friends and family knowing that I like large women." - yes, I've actually had that direct a response twice. So liking large women and liking large women enough to be comfortable with the world knowing that you like large woman are often not in sync. I don't expect perfection in a date or a mate but I do expect them to not be embarrassed to be seen with me due to my size. Trying to determine if that is going to be an issue sooner rather than later is what I am after - although I am curious and open as to other hopefully better ways to navigate this issue. Am I getting to your objection? If not it is because I do not understand but I really want too.

So you're saying that YOU gauge the degree of interest by physical attractiveness and dress; and wonder if he is like you. Yet you need that question to be answered NO in order to proceed to the reassurance of a public kiss. Isn't that called 'do as I don't, not as I do'? I'm sure that's not what you MEANT but it sure sounds that way. Why not build a friendship first that dissolves into laughter that in turn dissolves into a reassuring unconcern about appearance and location on either person's mind. Just a thought. GOOD LUCK FINDING WHAT YOU DESERVE.

So you're saying that YOU gauge the degree of interest by physical attractiveness and dress; and wonder if he is like you. Yet you need that question to be answered NO in order to proceed to the reassurance of a public kiss. Isn't that called 'do as I don't, not as I do'? I'm sure that's not what you MEANT but it sure sounds that way. Why not build a friendship first that dissolves into laughter that in turn dissolves into a reassuring unconcern about appearance and location on either person's mind. Just a thought. GOOD LUCK FINDING WHAT YOU DESERVE.

I have to admit to yall that I have been dating alot lately. I teend to take long spells when I cannot be bothered and then periodically (like once every seven years - lol) I will decide to put some effort into dating and finding a mate. So one of the fellas I am seeing is a handsome athletic latin man. I am not sure it will go anywhere - he is handsome educated and intelligent and all but as of yet I am not feeling magic - interest and fun but not "love". And then for me sometimes it take a series of dates for a fella to grow on me. Anyway he is so handsome and well dressed and all that i started to wonder about whether he was just after the fetish and not me. So I made it so our last few dates were in fairly public settings in our usual hangouts - near home and work. And I decided that I would just go ahead and tell him that one of the qualities I like in my man is for him to be very attentive and even a bit doting in private and public. He said he was trying to be respectful and I said to me being able to see some desire in his eyes was respectful. He had no problems after our conversation making me the object of his total attention and i must say itmade me feel heady. And after a few glasses of wine I worked up my nerve to test things a bit futher and as we sat in the window seat of a winebar at 6pm directly across the street from his office I asked him to kiss me. His eyes got wide like he could not believe his good fortune and wasted no time taking me into his arms and planting a passionate kiss. I've decided that I might use this "test" on all my dates in the flurry of dating activity I am currently indulging in. feedback welcome

I have to admit to yall that I have been dating alot lately. I teend to take long spells when I cannot be bothered and then periodically (like once every seven years - lol) I will decide to put some effort into dating and finding a mate. So one of the fellas I am seeing is a handsome athletic latin man. I am not sure it will go anywhere - he is handsome educated and intelligent and all but as of yet I am not feeling magic - interest and fun but not "love". And then for me sometimes it take a series of dates for a fella to grow on me. Anyway he is so handsome and well dressed and all that i started to wonder about whether he was just after the fetish and not me. So I made it so our last few dates were in fairly public settings in our usual hangouts - near home and work. And I decided that I would just go ahead and tell him that one of the qualities I like in my man is for him to be very attentive and even a bit doting in private and public. He said he was trying to be respectful and I said to me being able to see some desire in his eyes was respectful. He had no problems after our conversation making me the object of his total attention and i must say itmade me feel heady. And after a few glasses of wine I worked up my nerve to test things a bit futher and as we sat in the window seat of a winebar at 6pm directly across the street from his office I asked him to kiss me. His eyes got wide like he could not believe his good fortune and wasted no time taking me into his arms and planting a passionate kiss. I've decided that I might use this "test" on all my dates in the flurry of dating activity I am currently indulging in. feedback welcome

I really don't see any problem with being seen with a bbw, as I do not really put someone down for being large and lovely! You have to look at the person, as I have run into so-called hot girls I would not spend a dime on. Just because a person is large, does not mean that there is something wrong with them, it's how nature made them.

I really don't see any problem with being seen with a bbw, as I do not really put someone down for being large and lovely! You have to look at the person, as I have run into so-called hot girls I would not spend a dime on. Just because a person is large, does not mean that there is something wrong with them, it's how nature made them.

Depends on the man alot of men reaally like bbws,but are to worried what other guys will think or say about them.But for the most part alot of times the women is inscure about herself and dose not open up and just enjoy life.I myself am married to a beautiful bbw woman and I'm very proud to go anywhere with her.So I think that their some real mean jacklegs out there but you big beautiful women need to focas on your personality and not your size.Dont focus everything in life on your size just be happy and focus on those who like you for who you are on the inside and you may suprize yourself.I am a very nice looking guy i've been told and I think Big women with curves are very attractive But also think they need to be told that they are attractive and they should beleive it when its been repeated over and over to then.You beautiful BBW's are wanted and desired more thenyou will ever know are believe.

Depends on the man alot of men reaally like bbws,but are to worried what other guys will think or say about them.But for the most part alot of times the women is inscure about herself and dose not open up and just enjoy life.I myself am married to a beautiful bbw woman and I'm very proud to go anywhere with her.So I think that their some real mean jacklegs out there but you big beautiful women need to focas on your personality and not your size.Dont focus everything in life on your size just be happy and focus on those who like you for who you are on the inside and you may suprize yourself.I am a very nice looking guy i've been told and I think Big women with curves are very attractive But also think they need to be told that they are attractive and they should beleive it when its been repeated over and over to then.You beautiful BBW's are wanted and desired more thenyou will ever know are believe.