Abandoned

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Alice730 wrote:

The father of my child has just left me, and I feel so abandoned and I don't know what to do.. this is all very sudden, as we have had conversations where we both agreed we wanted to have a baby more than anything, and now that I'm pregnant he wants to run off. I'm just so scared, how am I going to support myself and my child alone? My baby is really going to grow up without a father? I am so confused and heartbroken

As scary as the situation is, you have to, in the words of my mother, "put on your big girls panties and deal with it". While I'm not a single mother, I do have a lot of respect for those that are, because being a mom is hard. You didn't say how far along you are, but you need to be thinking about the future. Do you work? Who's going to take care of the baby while you do? Do you have family close? Can you move in with family to help you in the beginning? Or can someone move in with you to help? The first few months are very hard. Your SO may be scared and nervous, but that is no reason to run off. Also he may turn out to be a great father or you two may be able to work things outs. My advice: do what you need to do to take care of yourself and the baby from now on. Give yourself time to heal from the breakup, and remember that you are stronger than you think! Also there's a little one growing inside you that will love you in a way that no man can! And you will feel the same love for your child!

Hello! I’m so sorry he acted like that! At a time when you need him to step up, he does that! I think that’s very wrong on his part. Perhaps he will see what he did and repent and ask forgiveness.

Here is a number you can call to get connected to your nearest pregnancy help center in case you need parenting support, supplies, or any of their free resources. You want to have loving caring people supporting you. I’ll pray for you Mama.

If I can tell you one thing it’s that you are not a fool!! When someone does something like this you have to remember that that’s on them. You behaved in the way that would be expected in a relationship and you expected the same from him. He chose not to be that kind of man. That’s not on you! That says everything about him as a person.

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry you are facing this! It is difficult and scary! Anytime I am overwhelmed by something big, I try to just stop, breathe, and take it one day at a time. Trying to think about everything is just too much. Taking it in increments always helps me keep it in perspective, even if it is overwhelming. If I have no idea what to do, I talk to trusted people who have been through what I'm facing for guidance. Do you have family and/or friends for support? Besides family/friends, pregnancy resource centers are good for offering support and help for single mothers. Have you thought about contacting your local center? Sending big hugs and prayers!