Friday, December 30, 2011

How many people are using Facebook in San Francisco at 2:30 p.m. on a Friday?" — Asked at Google, Vendor Relations Manager candidate

"If Germans were the tallest people in the world, how would you prove it?" — Asked at Hewlett-Packard, Product Marketing Manager candidate

"Given 20 'destructible' light bulbs (which break at a certain height), and a building with 100 floors, how do you determine the height that the light bulbs break?" — Asked at Qualcomm, Engineering candidate

"How would you cure world hunger?" — Asked at Amazon.com, Software Developer candidate

"You're in a row boat, which is in a large tank filled with water. You have an anchor on board, which you throw overboard (the chain is long enough so the anchor rests completely on the bottom of the tank). Does the water level in the tank rise or fall?" — Asked at Tesla Motors, Mechanical Engineer candidate

"You have a bouquet of flowers. All but two are roses, all but two are daisies, and all but two are tulips. How many flowers do you have?" — Asked at Epic Systems, Corporation Project Manager/Implementation Consultant candidate

"How do you feel about those jokers at Congress?" — Asked at Consolidated Electrical, Management Trainee candidate

"If you were a Microsoft Office program, which one would you be?" — Asked at Summit Racing Equipment, Ecommerce candidate

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches!

The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.

So I asked, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck."

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home or on the streets.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Leaders and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about. The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by? Here's the bet - You'll be happier. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so.. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for or forget about the ones who don't.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it. - Irving Berlin

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally he decided since the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway, it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. So, the farmer invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed shovels, and began to shovel dirt into the well.

All the other farm animals were very upset about this, because the donkey was their friend. But they discovered there was nothing they could do to help him.

At first, when the donkey realized what was happening, he cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement, he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well, and was astonished at what he saw.

With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off, and take a step up on the dirt as it piled up. As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well, and trotted off!

At times life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt in various forms. But each trouble can be a stepping stone. What happens to you isn't nearly as important as how you react to it. You can get out of the deepest wells just by not giving up, staying positive, calm and making most of the things coming your way in any form. Always better to take it like this - every time one throws some dirt on you that loses a little ground and you gain some.

Your first day at a new job can be one long and awkward exercise. Sanket Danatra, author of From Cubicles 2 Cabins: A survival guide to your first job tells us what you should and shouldn't do on the big day to make the right impression on your colleagues. Interview cleared, offer letter in hand, you are all set to join your first job and yet there is this little anxiety, as you get dressed for your first day at work.It is normal, in fact some would say optimal to be a little nervous. Not paranoid, but some wobbly legs and butterfly stomachs are fine. Now, the right way to get rid of this anxiousness is to be prepared. So what are the things you need to know about the first day of your job?Here are a few guiding principles which will help you get your first day right. Keeping these in mind will prepare you and guide you on what action to take, and how to behave in a variety of situations that you may face on the first day. Get the when, where, who and what rightLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

Why? Because not all companies are alike. Some have well-staffed, trained HR departments who will give you all the information you need beforehand.Lot of others might not have such well-established procedures especially if it's a smaller firm. Your company may have multiple offices in the same city, the person who interviewed you may not be the person you are to report to... in today's tough times, your joining date may have been changed. (This has really happened to a batch mate and the change was not communicated to him due to some miscommunication). So confirm which office you are to report to, on what day, at what time, who you are supposed to meet and what you are supposed to carry along.Also enquire if you need to carry copies of your graduation certificate, photographs, a copy of your PAN card or address proof perhaps? Usually companies open your salary account on the first day as a part of the induction process or joining formalities so find out what documents you need in advance.It is easiest to get these things sorted out on the first day as part of the joining process rather than having to go back at a later date to get it done. It is troublesome both for you as well as HR if you have documents missing and have to get the process done later. Needless to say, that you ought to be appropriately dressed and be on time. Find out the dress code beforehand. Err on the side of caution if in doubt.If you are visiting the place for the first time, make sure to account for traffic, a flash auto strike and the sorts and leave well in time. You don't want to reach late on your first day. AcclimatiseLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

In most cases, your first day would include some sort of formal or informal induction.Make the most of it to get to know the company and its people. Lot of people don't take this seriously, but I suggest you do. It is a good way to get to know the structure and work culture of the company. Do you have well defined formal processes or do you just informally ask someone for what you want?You will get to know who to approach to get your desktop set-up and what is the process for say getting your access card for example. Ask smart questions, take notes but don't make any assumptions or be prejudiced by what you learn. Keep an open mind and a have positive outlook even if it isn't what you expected.Induction is your chance to ask as many questions and know as much about the company and its people and processes as you want without being perceived as stupid or too lazy to do your own research. So make the most of it. Introduce yourselfLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

Once you are done with the joining formalities and corporate induction, one of the two will happen. You will either have a department level induction and training or you may directly be thrown into the deep end of the pool. In either case, get to work. Below is a list of do's and don'ts to give you a sense of what 'get to work' meansIf you have not been introduced to your colleagues, do make it a point to walk over and introduce yourself. Be mindful of the other person's time and make sure you are not disturbing them. Listen and learn. Don't be so engrossed in telling them about yourself that you forget to learn about them, the work they do and other information about the team that they may be able to provide. Be yourself; be polite and friendly. Meet your bossLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

If you have not met your manager, do find a good time and meet him at his convenience. Ask him/her what s/he has in mind for you for the rest of the day.Find out what s/he wishes you to accomplish over the coming week and get pointers on how you should proceed. If you don't know something, be forthright, but show a willingness to learn. Don't go overboard in the zeal to create an impression. Be realistic about your abilities and yet at the same time display a can-do attitude. It is difficult but try anyway. Get organisedLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

While you are getting around introducing yourself, also get organised.Set up your desk. Don't be seen playing solitaire or minesweeper on your computer, nor reading novels or comics you may have brought along. Instead find something work related to do. Reading documentation, and training manuals perhaps.If someone is training you, focus on understanding the process rather than thinking of how you would do it differently (there will be time for that later, not today though). Don't join the gossip mill, or criticise any particular person or process or the set-up in general. For example, don't join the group in teasing a particular workmate until you know the person.Be mindful of basic etiquettes like not talking loudly on your phone or using the office phone to make personal calls and the likes. Be the third monkeyLast updated on: November 14, 2011 17:48 IST

Like Gandhiji's third monkey, 'eyes and ears open, mouth shut!' Watch and decipher the unspoken rules of the team.How many breaks does the team take?Do they take individual breaks or does the whole team take a break together (this depends on the nature of work). Is there a formal structure that your team-mates follow for work related interactions or do they just walk over and talk it out? And so many other tiny things that form an integrated part of the prevalent yet undocumented work culture. This will play a huge role in getting you accepted, and quickly put you on the path to a successful and meaningful career.So all the best ! Having a rocking first day. Leave behind the floats and deep dive into the corporate world! Sanket J Dantara is the author of From Cubicles 2 Cabins: A survival guide to your first job. He blogs at elfseries.wordpress.com and can be reached at: elfseries@gmail.com.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

New Rajnikant series:1) Rajnikanth was shot today. Tomorrow is the bullet's funeral.2) Rajnikanth killed a terrorist in Pakistan 'via Bluetooth'. 3) When Rajni was a student, teachers used to bunk classes.4) Rajnikanth can draw a straight line with a compass.... 5) Rajnikanth knows who let the dogs out. 6) Rajnikanth's pulse is measured in Richter scale.7) The new Rupee symbol is actually Rajnikanth's signature.8) When God watched Robot, he said,'Oh my Rajnikanth!'.9) Rajnikanth has a statue of Madame Tussauds at his house. 10) Rajnikanth is the secret of Boost's energy; and Complan is a Rajnikanth boy.11) Rajnikanth participated in 100m race, obviously he came first, but Einstein died watching that coz Light came second...AND THE FINAL BLOW.... 12) Intel's new ad: Rajnikanth Inside.=))

My Galaxy S2 still the better - beats even the latest iphone on - 1.2 Ghz dual core processor/4.3 inch display, HSPA+ upto 21Mbps speed and lakhs of free apps with freedom of of whatever I want to do :)

NEW DELHI: You may soon be able to lay your hands on the $35 tablet, in retail stores albeit at almost double the price.

The $35 tablet nicknamedAakash, will be available at retail stores at a maximum retail price of Rs 2999 ($60), shortly after its launch on Wednesday, said its maker Datawind.

"The Rs 3,000 figure is the 'maximum suggested retail price' of the commercial version of the product which we will offer with an embedded cellular modem and SIM," said Suneet Singh Tuli, CEO of Datawind, maker of the world'scheapest tablet.

The $60 tablet for retail sales will have an inbuilt cellular modem and SIM to access internet, which will be absent in the $35 device, supplied to the government.

As a business, we need to make a profit, and our distribution channel needs to make a profit, which is all covered in the MRP of Rs 2,999," Mr Tuli told * ET*.

Both versions of the tablet, will run on Google's Android platform, with WiFi connectivity for internet access and cloud storage. The tablets will have 256 MB ofRAM, a 32 GB expandable memory slot and two USB ports.

The commercial version of the tablet would have no duty waivers or subsidy, as in the government's version. An inbuilt cellular modem and SIM card will add to the price of the commercial tablet.

The commercial version of the tablet, is expected be out within 60 days, of its launch on October 5.

Datawindadds that it is supplying to the government at a price of Rs 2200, which includes sales tax and replacement warranty. "The $35 price is achievable at higher volume levels. When we supply the product to the government at $35, then too it will allow us a margin, albeit at higher volumes," Datawind CEO added.

Monday, October 3, 2011

In 1923, one of the world's most successful financiers met at Chicago's Edgewater Beach Hotel. Financially, they literally 'held the world by the tail'. Anything that money could buy was within their grasp; they were RICH-RICH-RICH! Look at their names and the positions they held:

CHARLES SCHWAB was President of the largest steel company.SAMUEL INSULL was President of the largest electric utility company.HOWARD HOPSON was President of the largest gas company.ARTHUR CUTTEN was the great what speculator.RICHARD WHITNEY was President of the New York Stock Exchange.ALBERT FALL was Secretary of Interior in President Harding's Cabinet.LEON FRASER was President of the Bank of International Settlements.JESSE LIVERMORE was the greatest 'bear' on Wall Street.IVAR KRUGER was head of the world's largest monopoly.

We must admit, that here were gathered a group of the world's most successful men of the time: Men who had found the secret of making Money. Now let us see where these very men were 25 years later in 1948:

CHARLES SCHWAB lived on borrowed money for five years and died bankrupt.SAMUEL INSULL dies a fugitive from justice and penniless in a foreign land.HOWARD HOPSON turned insane.ARTHUR CUTTEN died insolvent abroad.RICHARD WHITNEY was just released from the Sing Sing Penitentiary.ALBERT FALL was pardoned from prison so he could die at home - broke.LEON FRASER committed suicide.JESSE LIVERMORE committed suicide.IVAR KRUGER committed suicide.

What happened in 25 years? They were brilliant in their respective field. They mastered the art of making money and the art of enjoying material life, but never learned HOW TO LIVE! A vast amount of their talent and potential went down the drain! Their lives were out of BALANCE! Do we know HOW TO LIVE A BALANCED LIFE? Do we know the PURPOSE and then place the foundation of our lives on VALUES based MEANS which last, bound to make life worth living and help achieve the purpose. All this give a meaning to life to live or otherwise we are just spending time here. We are always getting ready to live, but never living. We never live and are always in the expectation of living. Unless we decide to get into things, values and means that really matter we are bound to turn into people who really do not matter. The great use of life is to spend it for something to give it a big meaning that will outlast it. The price of this all important something is the amount of life we exchange for it. What we are exchanging our lives for and how many of us are really aware of this?

No one ever finds life worth living - one has to make it worth living - Anonymous

Friday, September 23, 2011

SAN FRANCISCO--Facebook is rolling out some of the biggest changes in its history, unveiling its new Timeline and all-new Open Graph features today, features that will radically change how users display their information, and the way they discover new content. At F8, Facebook's annual developers conference, CEO Mark Zuckerberg announced the two new features. Timeline, he explained, is "the story of your life," significantly altering the way people's information is shown on the world's leading social network, presenting "all your stories, all your apps, and a new way to express who you are," Zuckerberg said. Timeline, which went into beta today, is designed to let people go back in their lives, Zuckerberg said. "It's how you can tell the whole story of your life on a single page."Facebook unveils new look and feel (photos)

This is an extremely significant change to the way Facebook looks. With Timeline, users will see several new sections, including visual tiles, ways to get all their apps, and a cover photo.To be more precise, in Timeline, all a user's stories appear in the bottom left-hand side of the page, much like their existing Wall. On the right, there's a timeline that breaks down all posts from various points. And finally, there's a large "cover photo" at the top of the page. The idea is that this allows users to jump back to their earliest Facebook posts. Zuckerberg said that Timeline is already enabled for mobile devices.

Zuckerberg shows off how Facebook's new Timeline looks on a mobile device.(Credit: James Martin/CNET)In Timeline, users will be able to see everything shared recently. Click on a year in the timeline, and it scrolls down to that year. Years will also get broken down by month. Users can roll their mouse over a point in time, and they instantly get the option to add photos, notes, and other items to that time period. In addition, items in the Timeline will be posted on a map, so users can visually see what they've done. The map is built by Bing, a result of the partnership between Facebook and Microsoft.While Timeline is only in beta now, developers will be able to access the new feature immediately. Open Graph, TickerAfter unveiling Timeline, Zuckerberg then moved on to Ticker, part of the next version of the social network's Open Graph.

Mark Zuckerberg introduces the Facebook Ticker and its link to Spotify today at F8. (Credit: James Martin/CNET)The idea, he said, is to enable a "completely new class of social apps."Open Graph and Ticker will be rolled out slowly, giving developers a chance to create apps for Timeline. However, Zuckerberg said the elements of Open Graph that help people discover media content like music, movies, TV, and news will be available immediately. Last year, Zuckerberg said, Facebook rolled out Open Graph, a map of all a user's connections in the world, and made it so users can connect to anything they want in any way they want. But now with the next Open Graph, he said, users will also be able to connect to an order of magnitude more things than ever before using Ticker, a way to express "lightweight" actions, thoughts, and other things anytime they want.

Facebook updates will now include verbs when people listen to songs, cook a meal, or watch a show.(Credit: James Martin/CNET)When a user shares a post normally, it goes into their news feed. But when that user adds activity through Open Graph, it will go into Ticker, and into Timeline, but not into the news feed unless that's what's desired, Zuckerberg explained. It's a stream of everything a user is experiencing and expressing through Facebook, and the first time the service has enabled sharing so-called lightweight activities, such as listening to a song, watching a movie, reading a book, or even cooking a meal. And Zuckerberg said that he expects this will enable users and others to create "a completely new class of social apps than what was ever possible before," including those about music, movies, TV, books, and any media as well as lifestyle apps that let people express all kinds of things about their lives: their runs, their naps, their moods, and much more. All told, the new feature will allow "frictionless experiences," "real-time serendipity," and finding patterns and activity, Zuckerberg said.Clearly, Facebook designed the new Open Graph with the intention of allowing users to easily access all kinds of media content from a wide range of publishers. That includes music, movies, TV, news, and games. On stage, Zuckerberg and guest speakers including Spotify founder Daniel Ek and Netflix CEO Reed Hastings talked about how music and video content can be easily discovered, and Zuckerberg talked about how dozens of partners will be making news stories available through Open Graph. In addition, many game publishers will allow users to get easy and streamlined access to the leading type of Facebook content. Facebook launches new Timeline and media sharing

This is a picture of Lisa caught on camera....Lisa committed suicide in her room and nobody knew why. Well one day, Lisa's friends put a camera in her room to see if they would be able to see her. When they watched the tape, they didn't see anything for awhile. Later on they watched more of the tape and they saw her come out of the doorway and they were totally freaked out. They never went in her room again.Forward this to at least 10 people within the next hour!! Or else the ghost of Lisa will haunt you forever. Don't believe me? Karen opened this up and thought it was another stupid and fake forward. She never believed in forwards. So, she deleted it... the next morning Karen was found dead in her bed... Her parents didn't know what happened, she had blood all over her and looked like she was cut with a knife, but there was no evidence to who did it. Could it be because Lisa came in her room and killed her or was it just a coincidence? ~You decide~

Just ignore the forwarding part at bottom of the mail…. Its just a mere forward and don't worry much about it.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

I have never said that love is destroyed by marriage. How can marriage destroy love? Yes, it is destroyed in marriage but it is destroyed by you, not by marriage. It is destroyed by the partners. How can marriage destroy love? It is you who destroy it because you don't know what love is. You simply pretend to know, you simply hope that you know; you dream that you know, but you don't know what love is. Love has to be learnt; it is the greatest art there is.

If people are dancing and somebody asks you, "Come and dance," you say, "I don't know how to." You don't just jump up and start dancing and have everybody think that you are a great dancer. You will just prove yourself to be a buffoon. You will not prove yourself to be a dancer. It has to be learnt — the grace of it, the movement of it. You have to train the body for it.

You don't just go and start painting just because the canvas is available and the brush is there and the color is there. You don't start painting. You don't say, "All the requirements are here, so I can paint." You can paint but you will not be a painter that way.

You meet a woman — the canvas is there. You immediately become a lover; you start painting. And she starts painting on you. Of course you both prove to be foolish — painted fools — and sooner or later you understand what is happening. But you never thought that love is an art. You are not born with the art; it is nothing to do with your birth. You have to learn it. It is the most subtle art.

You are born only with a capacity. Of course, you are born with a body; you can be a dancer because you have the body. You can move your body and you can be a dancer but dancing has to be learnt. Much effort is needed to learn dancing. And dancing is not so difficult because you alone are involved in it.

Love is much more difficult. It is dancing with somebody else. The other is also needed to know what dancing is. To fit with somebody is a great art. To create a harmony between two people...two people mean two different worlds. When two worlds come close, clash is bound to be there if you don't know how to harmonize. Love is harmony. And happiness, health, harmony, all happen out of love. Learn to love. Don't be in a hurry for marriage, learn to love. First become a great lover.

And what is the requirement? The requirement is that a great lover is always ready to give love and is not bothered whether it is returned or not. It is always returned; it is in the very nature of things. It is just as if you go to the mountains and you sing a song, and the valleys respond. Have you seen an echo point in the mountains, in the hills? You shout and the valleys shout, or you sing and the valleys sing. Each heart is a valley. If you pour love into it, it will respond.

The first lesson of love is not to ask for love, but just to give. Become a giver.

People are doing just the opposite. Even when they give, they give only with the idea that love should come back. It is a bargain. They don't share, they don't share freely. They share with a condition. They go on watching out of the corner of their eye whether it is coming back or not. Very poor people...they don't know the natural functioning of love. You simply pour, it will come.

And if it is not coming, nothing to be worried about because a lover knows that to love is to be happy. If it comes, good; then the happiness is multiplied. But even if it never comes back, in the very act of loving you become so happy, so ecstatic, who bothers whether it comes or not?

Love has its own intrinsic happiness. It happens when you love. There is no need to wait for the result. Just start loving. By and by you will see much more love is coming back to you. One loves and comes to know what love is only by loving. As one learns swimming by swimming, by loving one loves.

People are very miserly. They are waiting for some great beloved to happen, then they will love. They remain closed, they remain withdrawn. They just wait. From somewhere some Cleopatra will come and then they will open their heart, but by that time they have completely forgotten how to open it.

Don't miss any opportunity of love. Even passing in a street, you can be loving. Even to the beggar you can be loving. There is no need that you have to give him something; you can smile at least. It costs nothing but your very smile opens your heart, makes your heart more alive. Hold somebody's hand — a friend or a stranger. Don't wait that you will only love when the right person happens. Then the right person will never happen. Go on loving. The more you love, the more is the possibility for the right person to happen, because your heart starts flowering. And a flowering heart attracts many bees, many lovers.

You have been trained in a very wrong way. First, everybody lives under a wrong impression that everybody is already a lover. Just being born, you think you are a lover. It's not so easy. Yes, there is a potentiality, but the potentiality has to be trained, disciplined. A seed exists, but it has to come to flower.

You can go on carrying your seed; no bee will be coming. Have you ever seen bees coming to the seeds? Don't they know that seeds can become flowers? But they come when they become flowers. Become a flower, don't remain a seed.

Two people, separately unhappy, create more unhappiness for each other when they come together. That's mathematical. You were unhappy, your wife was unhappy and you both are hoping that being together you both will become happy? This is...this is such ordinary arithmetic, as two plus two makes four. It is that simple. It is not part of any higher mathematics; it is very ordinary, you can count it on your fingers. You both will become unhappy.

Courting is one thing. Don't depend on courting. In fact before you get married, get rid of courting. My suggestion is that marriage should happen after the honeymoon, never before it. Only if everything goes right, only then should marriage happen.

The honeymoon after marriage is very dangerous. As far as I know, ninety-nine percent of marriages are finished by the time the honeymoon is finished. But then you are caught, then you have no way to escape. Then the whole society, the law, the court — everybody is against you if you leave the wife, or the wife leaves you. Then the whole morality, the religion, the priest, everybody is against you. In fact society should create all barriers possible for marriage and no barrier for divorce. Society should not allow people to marry so easily. The court should create barriers — live with the woman for two years at least, then the court can allow you to get married.

Right now they are doing just the reverse. If you want to get married, nobody asks whether you are ready or whether it is just a whim, just because you like the nose of the woman. What foolishness! One cannot live by just a long nose. After two days the nose will be forgotten. Who looks at one's own wife's nose? The wife never looks beautiful, the husband never looks beautiful. Once you are acquainted, beauty disappears.

Two people should be allowed to live together long enough to become acquainted, familiar with each other. And even if they want to get married, they should not be allowed. Then divorces will disappear from the world. The divorces exist because marriages are wrong and forced. The divorces exist because marriages are done in a romantic mood.

A romantic mood is good if you are a poet...and poets are not known to be good husbands or good wives. In fact poets are almost always bachelors. They fool around but they never get caught, and hence their romance remains alive. They go on writing poetry, beautiful poetry. One should not get married to a woman or to a man in a poetic mood. Let the prose mood come, then settle. Because the day-to-day life is more like prose than like poetry. One should become mature enough.

Maturity means that one is no more a romantic fool. One understands life, one understands the responsibility of life, one understands the problems of being together with a person. One accepts all those difficulties and yet decides to live with the person. One is not hoping that there is only going to be heaven, all roses. One is not hoping nonsense; one knows reality is tough. It is rough. There are roses, but far and few in between; there are many thorns.

When you have become alert to all of these problems and still you decide that it is worthwhile to risk and be with a person rather than to be alone, then get married. Then marriages will never kill love, because this love is realistic. Marriage can kill only romantic love. And romantic love is what people call puppy love. One should not depend on it. One should not think about it as nourishment. It may be just like ice-cream. You can eat it sometimes, but don't depend on it. Life has to be more realistic, more prose.

Marriage itself never destroys anything. Marriage simply brings out whatsoever is hidden in you; it brings it out. If love is hidden behind you, inside you, marriage brings it out. If love was just a pretension, just a bait, then sooner or later it has to disappear. And then your reality, your ugly personality comes up. Marriage simply is an opportunity, so whatsoever you had to bring out will come out.

I am not saying that love is destroyed by marriage. Love is destroyed by people who don't know how to love. Love is destroyed because in the first place love is not. You have been living in a dream. Reality destroys that dream. Otherwise love is something eternal, part of eternity. If you grow, if you know the art, and you accept the realities of love-life, then it goes on growing every day. Marriage becomes a tremendous opportunity to grow into love.

Nothing can destroy love. If it is there, it goes on growing. But my feeling is, it is not there in the first place. You misunderstood yourself; something else was there. Maybe sex was there, sex appeal was there. Then it is going to be destroyed, because once you have loved a woman, then the sex appeal disappears, because the sex appeal is only with the unknown. Once you have tasted the body of the woman or the man, then the sex appeal disappears. If your love was only sex appeal then it is bound to disappear. So never misunderstand love for something else. If love is really love....

What do I mean when I say "really love"? I mean that just being in the presence of the other you feel suddenly happy, just being together you feel ecstatic, just the very presence of the other fulfills something deep in your heart... something starts singing in your heart, you fall into harmony. Just the very presence of the other helps you to be together; you become more individual, more centered, more grounded. Then it is love.

Love is not a passion, love is not an emotion. Love is a very deep understanding that somebody somehow completes you. Somebody makes you a full circle. The presence of the other enhances your presence. Love gives freedom to be yourself; it is not possessiveness.

So, watch. Never think of sex as love, otherwise you will be deceived. Be alert, and when you start feeling with someone that just the presence, the pure presence — nothing else, nothing else is needed; you don't ask anything — just the presence, just that the other is, is enough to make you happy...something starts flowering within you, a thousand and one lotuses bloom...then you are in love, and then you can pass through all the difficulties that reality creates. Many anguishes, many anxieties — you will be able to pass all of them, and your love will be flowering more and more, because all those situations will become challenges. And your love, by overcoming them, will become more and more strong.

Love is eternity. If it is there, then it goes on growing and growing. Love knows the beginning but does not know the end.

Friday, May 27, 2011

This is one of the best mails I have ever received. It is worth preserve.

U can definitely spend your precious time going through the contents of this mail as it covers number of physical ailments affecting us. Moreover, it covers the health issues in detail and in systematical order.

My sincere thanks to the person/s whoever collected and collated this information because he/she/they did fantastic job.

This site is very informative, which ever diseases you click-upon (I wish you don't have one),.... it gives you the video explanation !!!! Interactive Sites on Medical Information

The tutorials listed below are interactive health education resources from the Patient Education Institute. Using animated graphics, each tutorial explains the procedure or condition in easy-to-read and understand language. You can also listen to the tutorial.

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The case of the telecom executive: Madhav, a brilliant 26-year-old young man, works for a well-known telecom company. He joined the company three years ago as a trainee engineer and was straight away sent to France for four months to train at the equipment vendor's training facility.

Madhav received field training on radio frequency (RF) planning and design, drive test route planning and data analysis. All these form the basis of his being a successful RF engineer.

Madhav is a hardworking engineer and he has picked up a lot of skills of the trade from his seniors working on the field. Madhav is a picture of confidence and is rated among the best RF engineer in his circle.

He has been sent on trainings abroad as his company readies to launch the 3G services in his circle.

Madhav's boss is Satya Sharma, a 32-year-old engineer who leads a team of many RF engineers in his circle.

Satya leads the team with much enthusiasm and is generally seen as a good leader who is able to achieve his circle targets consistently.

On the surface, everything seems okay with the team except that, of late, Madhav's behaviour has been a bit flippant. He has been bypassing Satya and has been talking to the chief technical officer of his circle directly.

In case of having any issues with the equipment, he takes it up directly with the vendor without keeping Satya informed.

In the weekly meeting with the vendor, Satya often finds the vendor coming up with issues that he had no prior knowledge of. He also finds that the CTO has been forwarding him emails, in which Madhav has sought the CTO's guidance.

When Satya met with Madhav to discuss these awkward aspects of his behaviour, he found that Madhav was unnecessarily aggressive. During the interaction Madhav even said emphatically, "What value addition can you do in respect of 3G RF planning. I am the expert here, not you."

Satya had no option but to report Madhav's unprofessional attitude to the HR-head through the CTO.

The star salesman: Rajiv has been working as territory sales in-charge (TSI) for a top-of-the-end personal products company for the past two years.

He is based in Delhi and covers the south and south-west markets of Delhi. He has three years' experience in sales and is one of the successful TSIs of his company.

He is responsible for the secondary sales which mean his sales constitute the sales from company's distributors to the numerous retail stores in his territory.

Rajiv is a methodical TSI. He leads a team of fifteen salesmen who are employed by his distributors and he himself goes to the bazaar every day.

He knows the owners and key staff of all the retail stores personally and he deserves a lot of credit for the success of his company in his territory.

Rajiv's boss, Gautam, area manager, is also based in Delhi and leads a team of 5 TSIs. Gautam is also responsible for the primary sales which means that his targets comprise the sales from his company's warehouse to the distributors' point.

Rajiv has a feeling that since his territory constitutes half of his company's sales in Delhi, he is the lynchpin of the sales team. He feels that only because he is able to achieve the secondary sales, his boss is able to achieve his primary sales objectives.

Rajiv also feels that he and Gautam have the same number of years of experience and Gautam is not able to add any value to his territory and hence Gautam has no business being his boss.

In fact, during a recent internal survey carried out by his company's HR department, Rajiv wrote, "Why shouldn't I report directly to the regional manager? Because I am doing all the secondary sales, I can as well be made responsible for primary sales of my territory. In fact all the TSIs can manage without an area manager."

So are these guys really better than their bosses?

These two cases are out of real life, only the names have been changed.

In the case of Madhav versus Satya, Madhav feels that he is vastly superior to his boss.

In the second case, Rajiv, the team member, feels that his company doesn't require the position of an area manager.

There are some common threads in both the cases.

1. Both Madhav and Rajiv feel that their bosses are 'inferior' to them. Madhav feels that technical superiority is the last word when it comes to judging if someone can be his boss or not.

In the case of Rajiv, he feels that his boss is 'not adding any value' to his job. Rajiv has forgotten that one of the greatest virtues of a boss is NOT to be meddling in the affairs of his team-mates, especially when the team mate is performing very well.

2. Both Madhav and Rajiv don't know that the jobs of their bosses were not an overlap of their own jobs but were quite distinct. Madhav's boss Satya was responsible for overall network planning and optimization of the entire circle.

Madhav was exposed to numerous technical trainings because of which he became an expert in his field but it did not give him a license to act unprofessionally. On the contrary Madhav should have given credit to his boss who recommended him for these trainings.

In Rajiv's case, he did not understand that while his job was limited to secondary sales, the more complex job of managing the distributor sales was handled by his boss.

3. It is possible that Madhav felt that because of the variety of technical exposure that he received, he was being under-utilised. His frustration at being at the same level with his other colleagues could have been quickly dispelled if his other colleagues too would have been nominated to such training programmes.

In case of Rajiv, a quick change of territories would have revealed to him that often times a TSI's job is half-done because of the excellent territory assigned to him.

How to know if we are really better than our bosses?

By giving the above examples, I don't mean to say that there wouldn't be cases where the team members are better than their bosses. But before one concludes that he is better than his boss, he should do a quick evaluation of the following:

Does the team member really know the full scope of his boss's job profile? From the top management perspective the boss may be the only one who is 100 per cent responsible for the team objectives. The boss's neck may be on the chopping block if his team doesn't achieve the targets. Can the 'challenger' take this responsibility?

The team member may be good at his job but is he mature enough to command a team? Can he take tough decisions and stick his neck out and take responsibility for his action?

The team member should evaluate his own skills, exposure level and temperament and check if he really is ready to deserve his boss's chair.

So what happened to Madhav and Rajiv?

Madhav was called over by the HR manager in the presence of the CTO and Satya and was counselled appropriately.

Rajiv felt frustrated and joined a rival company as an area sales manager. He now realises that the position is not as superfluous as he thought it was. He faces challenges every day in managing a large team of talented TSIs and demanding distributors.

Taking over from the boss: Here's how to do it

Mukund Lal is one of the 9 area managers at a furniture company. He is based in Lucknow and reports to the regional sales manager who operates from Delhi.

Mukund had 8 years of experience in air-conditioner sales before he joined his present company.

Mukund's boss is an affable man who has been in the business of selling furniture for the past 15 years. The boss is laid back and though he has been on the job for the past five years, he has been floundering a bit in terms of catching up with the regional sales targets.

Mukund realised quite early that he could handle his boss's job better than his boss.

When Mukund attended his first quarterly sales review meetings at the regional head quarters in Delhi, he came to know that his sales area was performing quite badly.

Another thing Mukund felt was that when it came to articulating his point of view, he was far superior to his other colleagues and that many of his colleagues were doing well just because they had a far better team of channel partners to work with.

Mukund quickly diagnosed that the low target achievement of his area was due to poor dealer selection and he found out that even the two odd better performing dealers were not quite motivated due to poor incentive structure.

Mukund also observed that the vice president - sales from the head office was the top executive who called all the shots as far as the sales strategies were concerned.

In his third quarterly meeting Mukund gave a brilliant presentation to the senior management and suggested strategies to turn around his market. He also made a fervent appeal to his boss, the regional manager, to visit his territory and offered a passing invitation to the vice president - sales.

The long-and-short of it is that Mukund worked hard to take his sales area from being a laggard to becoming the number one sales area. During the quarterly reviews also, Mukund ensured that his achievements were showcased nicely and at the same time he publicly acknowledged the 'support' he always received from his RSM.

So impressed was the vice president - sales with Mukund's innovative strategies and overall behaviour that he transferred him to the Delhi, the biggest market in the country.

The incumbent RSM has now been transferred to the company's coordination function at the Gurgaon factory and Mukund is all set to take over as the new RSM.

Mukund succeeded because he never fought his boss. While he improved his sales area's performance with much gusto, he also ensured that his good work was noticed by the top management.

The most heartening part is that his boss recommended him to be his successor!

If indeed you are better than your boss, you will definitely reach that coveted position.

You just need to focus on your own performance and showcase it succinctly.