YOUR CART

What you’re looking at you’re looking with is one of my favorite sayings, and an uncompromising adage. It means the behavior YOU SEE, YOU DO - or at the very least, you’ve behaved that way at some point in your past - and most likely still do. In short, you can’t see what you do not already KNOW! This means that when you’re upset at “so and so” for doing “such and such,” at some point you did such and such YOURSELF. What you’re looking at you’re looking with turns us all into hypocrites of a sort. Mothers chastising – or even shaming – daughters for their behavior regarding some boy, at some point, probably once behaved just as their daughters are behaving;spiritual types who judge others for being judgmental, duh; and even those who harshly judge bullies of all kinds have bullied others at some point. We human beings have a quirky flaw: We are disgusted by what we can’t admit to ourselves about ourselves.​ The point here is to show one another compassion. When you see your old behavior in someone else, own it. Understand it.Turn your arrogance and judgments into opportunities for self-love, and forgive yourself for any ways in which you have violated the humanity of others.

I'm learning to have way more compassion since becoming a parent. I read that our children arrive here representing the very thing we have yet to confront and own about ourselves. My husband and I have three girls. They remind me about myself and I'm working extra hard to not respond Via the ego that is only in existence because of fear. Thank you for your blogpost.

This blog is SO on point. I've always believe that when we are passionately angry at someone it's because we have first-hand experience with whatever the topic is. The words you wrote are so powerful because if we all did take the time to forgive ourselves and explore what's really eating US deep down inside, it would completely change our energy and allow us to align with the universe and be less critical of others. You are such a beautiful spirit and such a breath of fresh air on the internet. I'm so glad you post regularly...you have a new fan and follower! :-)