But apparently not his gravitational pull or her need to know why. I was just very curious," Ani says of the encounter.

"I didn't have expectations, except maybe a hope of getting a better understanding."Most people wouldn't comprehend that seemingly desperate and pathetic hope, especially when it's to understand someone who has hurt another human being so badly.

Abuse comes in many forms but we’ll tackle emotional abuse here. They will love you and tell you they love you but there’s a wall that you might not ever break down.

Anyone who has suffered abuse knows that the healing journey can be a very long one, sometimes their whole life. Don’t try, they’ll take it down brick by brick, on their own time.

They need to make sure you are the real deal and you mean what you say. Insecurities also will make them cling on to you for dear life.