Bind process to C++ app

Basically I want to "bind" privoxy.exe to my app so if my app is closed, crashes, is force closed, or any other form of closing. Back story to this:
I hate having to close the privoxy window every time I boot since Vidalia does not offer a "start the proxy app minimized" option. I could not figure out how to circumvent this until I came accross TorWall, which launches privoxy minimized to tray. However, it does not bind it to itself - it closes it programmatically. Also, would it be possible to forcefully remove the privoxy tray icon?