15 Hot Sex Tips for Women to Use on Women

Maybe you do this all the time. Maybe you've never done anything like this. Maybe you're wondering if you should try it. (You should.) Regardless of your specifics, here are some things to keep in mind if you're a woman getting it on with another woman.

1. What works for you might not work for her. Use the same parts of your brain that you use for holiday gift-giving. Don't just get her what you would want. Give her the gift of recognizing that everyone is different; be willing to listen and learn what works for her.

2. No one ever died from having her ass grabbed during a sexual encounter.

3. To strap-on, or strap-off? You do not ever need a strap-on to have sex with a lady. You also don't ever need guacamole on your nachos. But are you honestly telling me you NEVER want to put some guac on them? If you do decide to go for "the works," get a harness that provides you with ample motion control.

4. Nipples. Nipples are one of the most underappreciated erogenous areas, especially if you are no longer doing the majority of your sexy things in the backseats of cars. Squeeze, pinch, lick, and bite (to your person's level of "bitesfaction") her nipples. Some women who really love this may have even forgotten that they love this. Nipples are retro-chic.

5. Give feedback like a speaker at a punk show. This isn't the kind of chit-chat that will kill the mood. Nor is it selfish or bossy to be specific. What could be less selfish than assisting someone with their goals? Please remember that feedback can be made of words, sounds, movements, or even drawings, should they be necessary.

7. Don't tell her how amazing she tastes. Show her how amazing she tastes. This can be achieved by putting your finger(s) in your mouth after you touch her. Or, as any chef will tell you, the best way to compliment a meal is to lick your plate clean.

8. Multitask. If your mouth is busy working on one thing, like, say, a vulva, that doesn't give your fingers an excuse to slack off. They want to get in on the action. So let them graze, survey, and delve into different areas, while you continue your oral presentation.

9. Say her name. Say her name. It wasn't a Destiny's Child song for nothing.

10. Just have fun out there. You have to remember to enjoy what you're doing. Don't get distracted by mechanics. (Unless you're currently having sex with the woman who was replacing your carburetor.) Whether you don't feel totally confident or you are a sex wizard, it's good to remember to be present. Relax and relish it.

11. Don't let the heat of the moment burn you. Intense yelps and moans when someone is almost there might tempt you to intensify whatever you're doing. It's great that everyone is so excited. But — especially right before someone is about to come — keep doing exactly what you were doing. EXACTLY. Just imagine how disturbed you'd be if someone was throwing an Ugly Sweater Party and right before you got there, they changed the theme to Great Gatsby.

12. Kiss the girl. Sebastian from The Little Mermaid might have been just a delicious-looking cartoon crab, but he had a valid point. Don't get so caught up in your head, or her body, that you forget to kiss her like you mean it.

13. As always, be safe. But you knew that already, right? Use gloves for any sort of for handiwork and dental dams for oral sex. You can make your own dental dam by cutting off the tip of a condom and cutting it open. (Plan ahead: this craft project is not a great date idea.) Use condoms for any shared sex toys, or follow the package/sex shop cleaning instructions because they're based on the toy's material. Use lube with all of these barriers for the sake of a good time and — as Ina Garten might say — invest in "good" lube. Don't forget to directly ask, in your most sultry voice, when your partner was last tested for STIs. It's not an awkward question. Most people will be turned on by your responsible regard for your/their health. Those who aren't don't deserve you or your lube.

14. Use all of your tools. When deploying your mouth remember that it contains a tongue, lips, teeth, and those things all have multiple surfaces. Your mouth is basically a Swiss Army knife, so utilize it. Suck on the clitoris or its hood, lick the surrounding area, apply pressure to the vulva with your lips, dip the tip of your tongue into the vaginal opening, or use it to ask if whatever you're currently doing feels okay.

15. Be passionate. This is less of a tip and more of a requirement for fruitful sexual encounters. Consider what excites you when you're not having sex. Look for ways to apply those passions sexually. Odds are whomever you thought of while reading this article is a great place to start.