Here’s how to approach a woman on the street with respect.

What about day-to-day life, if you’re going about your errands or on the way to the gym, and a woman catches your eye…

What do you do then?

An Introverted Alpha reader had this same question:

What about a girl who catches my eye as I’m walking through the street? That’s honestly the most frequent situation I find myself in. Are there any resources from Sarah on how to approach in this situation?

If you’re thinking, “Great question, especially because the last thing I want to be is creepy or disrespectful”…

Then you’re in luck!

That’s what we’re going to cover here together in this post.

What if you don’t want to be sending off pickup vibes?

If you’re an introverted man, chances are even if you may have learned some things from the pickup community, it’s not particularly in your natural vibe to be approaching a woman that way.

It’s hard to sort between advice like, “Take action on what’s important to you,” (helpful) and, “Dude, don’t worry about whether she wants you to approach her or not; don’t think about her, just about yourself,” (not helpful).

And if you’re ever approaching a woman on the street in an unhelpful way…

Here’s the thing:

She’s not going to be receptive to that provided that she respects herself, and you probably only want to engage women who respect themselves, am I right?

We wish that all women did, and we can treat all respectfully, but what we certainly don’t want to do is be disrespectful and see where the chips fall. (!)

So, that’s why it’s so important to be sending good vibes from moment #1, and a good, strong vibe comes from (a) your mindset and (b) your knowledge on how and when to awesomely engage a woman for the win-win.

When you do that, even if she’s not receptive, you will be in the clear and will learn from the experience and gently improve from there.

What does it mean to approach her respectfully?

Approaching a woman on the street in a respectful way means…

You respect yourself.

You respect her, and you care about her as a human being, since each human (including you!) is precious.

You’re in tune with her; you care about her.

From there, you approach in a very gradual, sequential way.

As you go to each next step, you empathize with her and see where she’s at.

Then you respond accordingly, letting things flow or come to a close in the best way.

So, *how* do we do that?

That’s what is next…

5 Stages of Approaching a Woman on the Street

It’s so helpful to understand the stages of the approach.

Yes, there are stages!

It’s not just…

“Oh here I am, suddenly talking to you from out of nowhere, while you have your earbuds in!”

Nope, not that at all.

This is great news because you don’t have to be brash or put pressure on yourself, even when approaching a woman on the street, which is traditionally thought of as necessarily brash.

Thank goodness it can be gentle, done in stages.

With these stages, which I’ll outline below, each one builds on and is made easier by the previous.

Here are the stages of approaching a woman on the street.

Note: You can also apply these anywhere you’re out and about: in line at the grocery store, browsing the drug store aisles for toothpaste, wherever you are.

Sarah Jones is founder and CEO of Introverted Alpha; the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of Sarah's 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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