No-ones stopping you starting your own 'What a Guy looks for in a Guy' thread Polo

Oh, the dilemma: should I start another pointless thread or should I let rampant bigotry run riot in the forums? Eh, thread overkill would offend my sensibilities more than a thoughtlessly-worded thread title.

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The only advice I can offer is that you should never overdo anything. Some of my biggest turn offs are talking too much, wearing too much makeup, and needing to be an attention whore (that sounded better than needing too musch attention).

you should do it, unsure, not knowing even what you want you should be an assertive woman, you should not be ashamed at all and iff you are wrong just enjoy going through that, you will have learned. But I hope you are on the mark and this is the only time you ever try to pick someone up and all of your days are full of love hereforward. Besides you sort of need to figure out what you are doing and there is no other way to do that but to dive in...swim! swim! swim!

It's Jonman, he's a mod, he can do that. If you're so thin skinned that you can't deal with pussy (which is decidedly better than many other words for the female anatomy) then mayhaps you shouldn't be on this thread.

And I'm inclined to agree with himm, many times.

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I swear to God, the above post was not intended to incite flame wars or to offend you.

I think the point Jon was making was that men are quite crude in their desires, so used crude words to illustrate it. Rude-nearly-offensive words are generally accpeted on the forums as long as they are being used in the correct context, in this case the context was to emphasise the frequently shallow desires of men. He could have said something else, but that wouldn't have conveyed the point as efficiently.

Equally, change the anatomical structures and the gender and I think Jon's post might be quite accurate for women too.

Like many people here, I look for a person that I can talk with. I also look for sobriety for the start of relationships: to clarify, I will kiss people for the first time while one or both of us are drunk, but I will not have sex with a person for the first time while drunk. I'm not sure why this is, but I think it's largely to do with ensuring complete consensuality. If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

If a person is sober then there's no way that they could claim that their actions were influenced by anything else. It's sad that I've got this hang-up, but it's also pretty sensible too I think.

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

I don't think that in itself it is sad that you have the hang up, I think what is sad is that in our society it is a really sensible hang up to have.Some people will do anything for a bit of publicity and a wadge of cash... it's sick.

I don't think I'm quite in line for celebrity stalking just yet! Good luck to anyone who's daft enough to think that I've got money!

But seriously, there are some messed up people out there who would rather deny that they did something consenually, albeit while drunk, than admit that they enjoyed themself. I think it's probably a branch of paranoia, but I think it stems from the social situation. To me the accusation of rape is one of the most serious things a person could do. I've had a man be rather more forceful in his approaches to me than I would have liked (and I ended up having to be a little forceful in my rebuttal, nothing happened in the end, but it did give me an insight into how persistent men can be) so I make absolutely sure that anyone I'm doing anything with is completely on the same track. Once you're in a long-term relationship this becomes easier, but if I ever become single again then I'll be back to sober sex!

Surewhynot: does physical appearence not matter to you _at all_? I'd be lying if I said that, as would the majority of people. There have been people in the past who I thought weren't very attractive physically until I got to know them and their personality changed the way I viewed them, and this has gone in the opposite direction too, but physical appearence did make a difference to my first impressions. I've met some very beautiful-looking people who internally were very ugly, and very quickly I did not find them attractive at all!

I think the point Jon was making was that men are quite crude in their desires, so used crude words to illustrate it. Rude-nearly-offensive words are generally accpeted on the forums as long as they are being used in the correct context, in this case the context was to emphasise the frequently shallow desires of men. He could have said something else, but that wouldn't have conveyed the point as efficiently.

Precisely. Go out in any British city centre of a Friday night. Find a club, and you'll see what I mean. Blokes on the prowl for some action. It's shallow, it's deplorable, but it's the way that alot of the country thinks.

A lot. I mean, when you meet someone you're interested in, that interest is often largely driven by the desire to see the insides of their clothes. That is what pulls people together. Once you're together, you then start thinking about the future, and marriage etc. The first time you meet someone that you're interested in, do you think "I'm going to marry this person", or do you think "I'm going to shag this person".

The former is a frankly scary thought on a first date. The latter is ordinary.

Don't get me wrong, my wife means the world to me, but it took me 8 months to decide I was going to marry her. By contrast, it was a matter of hours before I decided that I'd like to sleep with her.

I don't mean to sound insulting but it's a bit naive to not realise the mindset of the majority of people, male or not. Do you think those groups of women out in the clubs with miniskirts and knee high boots are looking for a life partner? Actually, considering the stupidity of most of them, they probably are and think that's the way they'll find one.

Back on the subject of what people look for; I like women who i 'click' with, in film/musical tastes, in intelligence and, um, randomness, I guess.

I actually showed my present girlfriend a bunch of matazone stuff and her liking them showed me she had a similar sense of humour to me.