Relations…

Life is the strangest thing I have ever known. And it’s strange how ones you consider your strength once turn to be the ones breaking you… slowly… painfully!

Silence is considered to be a great source of strength and as a matter of fact, it really is… when used for conveying the depth of feelings. But the same silence becomes the source of destructor for deep wounds. Our deepest wounds usually come from our deepest relationships. It’s like being in a tornado that just won’t stop ripping you apart. Except that finally it does, finally the wind dies down and you’re stillstanding…

They say ‘You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.‘ No matter how one tries to escape from the clutches of this foreboding shell but maniacal thoughts catch up like bats out of hell.

It’s strange how you spend years confessing about a strong relation and then you let a ‘single‘ moment take all strength away with silence. You let the walls built and go high, so that it becomes difficult to see the other side. You go so far ahead that on looking back, you see nothing but ashes of time and memories. But at that time, even happy memories become the pinching ones. Again strange it is, isn’t it?

But as it’s said that sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simpler. We can never turn back the pages of time, though we may wish to relive a happy moment, or say goodbye just one last time and clear things out, we never can, because the sands of time continue to fall, and we can’t turn the hourglass over. Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.

“The Tao Te Ching says, When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God’s law.” – Mary Manin Morrissey

We desperately need to realize that there exists someone whose love is greatest of all. And even though ‘temporal’ relations may come to an end, an ‘eternal’ relations remains right with you! Right in depth of our hearts, there lies that someone… smiling at all our follies and stupidities and always ready to hold our hands and give us the support with His Immortal Love.

And most significantly, as someone rightly said it ‘In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should ALL be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit‘. Going out of inner fire welcomes dark night for soul. It indicates that a lesson needs to be learned. As soon as the lesson is learned, stars in the night start shining leading one to a bright morning… hopeful day! The fire may burn out soon, but passions will smoulder… And forever will remain in melting hearts memories so dear.

People come into your life and people leave it… you just HAVE TO trust that life has a road mapped out for you. You never leave someone behind, you take a part of them WITH you and leave a part of yourself behind. Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when it was understanable if you fell apart, that’s true strength. As Joseph Campbel said, “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us”. The life which is planned by hands greater than ours, understanding more proper than ours, and submit our will in will bigger than ours.

PS: This post is dedicated to some of gems and mentors of my life… my hidden strengths! :) Ma’am, Aapa & Daa you all three will always be remembered in my prayers. Be blessed wherever you remain.

Silence encompasses all grief, thought hollow screams within might be tearing you up inside. As a famous man once said, “Time heals the best”. Our individual destinies together define our collective ups and downs. For some, the ups will be down and the downs might be ups. This can totally vice versa for yourself.

Those who foment their own destiny and mould it according to passion and not desires, are those who are always successful.

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"Read not to contradict and confute, nor to believe and take for granted, nor to find talk and discourse, but to weigh and consider."

"Yet it is in this loneliness that the deepest activities begin. It is here that you discover act without motion, labor that is profound repose, vision in obscurity, and, beyond all desire, a fulfillment whose limits extend to infinity." ~Thomas Merton

"Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult, for strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go."

"How from my garden I chanced to stray;
And how I was whirlwind trapped, I cannot say."
- Sir Muhammad Iqbal