Im addicted to porn/masturbation.... HELP?

im 18 years old and a STRONG christian..... yea.......but non of us are perfect (or anywere near lol) and this started when i was very young.. i started masturbating in about the 7th 8th grade.. porn in the 9th ish grade.. i was curious.. i never even when through sex ed .... so it started with curiosity ... now... show more im 18 years old and a STRONG christian..... yea.......but non of us are perfect (or anywere near lol) and this started when i was very young.. i started masturbating in about the 7th 8th grade.. porn in the 9th ish grade.. i was curious.. i never even when through sex ed .... so it started with curiosity ... now its a HUGE problem... if im on the computer... its a fight to not go to certain sites.. and its like i cant stop.. im just there.. looking at it.. I DONT EVEN LIKE IT... i think sex should between 2 married people... and privet.. i think all the girls who do it look kinda gross.. yet.. i still look... and i still live with my parents so i cant go and get any kind of book to help me (like what anyway) i cant go to counseling.. and i think i would crawl under a rock and die if anyone i knew found out... im already a pretty quiet person... not alot of freinds .. never a date.. much less girlfriend... .. i dont even like talking about relationships with people... me=akward when it comes to ANYTHING boy/girl..well.. i can have a convo..but thats it...anyway... i try to read my bible more and it helps.. but whenever the urge hits then thats the last thing i want to do... and its not like popups are the problem I GO LOOKING FOR IT... dont tell me its "normal" dont tell me its ok.... give me advice on how to stop... and if you havent had this problem dont say "just stop" .. its not that easy

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Best Answer: Sex is not inherently bad. In-fact, many medical professions believe sex is actually quiet healthy. Many women do masturbate despite having a partner. However, obsessive compulsive behavior is bad. Sex addiction is any form of behavioral dependency, that is of a sexual natural. So, compulsive sex or even masturbation, can be considered a form of sex addiction. The behavior associated with searching-for and consuming pornography or partners, can also be seen as a form of sex addiction.

Addiction can either be a chemical dependency or a behavioral dependency. Sex, Masturbation and pornography, while considered a behavioral dependency, are also a biochemical dependency. True, it is human nature to enjoy sex, however, not everyone can properly moderate the desire, or amount of sex they have. Addiction is a disease and it directly effects the moderation control, found in the frontal lobe, of the brain.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) is used by both psychologists and psychiatrists for diagnosing disorders, such as substance dependence, which is essentially what addiction is. The DSM-IV offers seven criteria for substance dependence.

The seven criteria for substance dependence are:

(1) Tolerance, as defined by either of the following:

(a) A need for markedly increased amounts of the substance to achieve intoxication or desired effect.

(b) Markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of the substance.

(2) Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following: (a) The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance (refer to Criteria A or B of the criteria sets for Withdrawal from specific substances). (b) The same (or a closely related) substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms.

(3) The substance is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than was intended.

(4) There is a persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use. (Unmanageable)

(5) A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain the substance (such as visiting multiple doctors or driving long distances), use the substance (such as chain smoking) or recover from its effects.

(6) Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of substance use.

(7) The substance use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by the substance.

Try not to be too critical of yourself. The more you criticize yourself, the more you will want to numb the pain associated with feeling criticized. You may turn to sex, or masturbation, to numb that pain. It becomes a vicious circle. Sometimes masturbation is less about enjoyment, and more about coping. Its about intent. Sometimes we are unable to see our true intent. If you are unsure of your own true intent, try abstaining for a period of time, and try to gain some clarity. If you feel you have good intention and are not an addict, then you can return to masturbating.

If you would like to get more information, or begin sex addiction recovery, you can choose from many different sources. SLAA, is the oldest of the sex addiction recovery programs. It is both free and anonymous. Those who lead these programs, are also addicts and can provide you with first-hand relatable experience, strength and hope.

Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible to some degree; 15% - 20% highly so, and 15% - 20% aren't much at all, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy, or, if not an option, hypnosisdownloads.com has: Porn Addiction & Performance Anxiety.

Well, you are right - it is not OK. Not because it is evil or immoral but because you are so pained by it. Porn addiction really is like the drug of the new millenium and that is because of the Internet. So what do you do? From what you describe you do need help but it is very hard for you to consider talking about it.
Let me suggest the following:
Read this articles on how to stop looking at porn. http://www.optenetpc.com/blog/internet-s...
There are some good tips there and if you sense that you need more than "self - help" solutions, you will see on this page -- http://www.internet-addiction-guide.com/ -- an offer for Online Therapy - which you can try out for free and with complete discretion, so you can feel more comfortable explaining your problem.

The fact that you are struggling with this is a good thing because it means you aren't just letting it take over you. But you can win the struggle. There is a book that I think would help you. It's from the point of a view of a Christian man who has dealt with this. It is called Every Man's Battle. Also, The Marriage Bed website (a Christian site about sex) covers this. Look under their sexuality tab.

Get a diary and write down why you want to stop. Also write down the last time you did it. Then you just keep on ticking off the days. If you give in then you can look at your diary and see how many days you gave up for. Say you give up for 2 days, then you can try and beat that record by making it 3 days. So, bit by bit and you can pat yourself on the back whenever the clock strikes 12 midnight (a new day begins) and you made it through another day without giving in. If you feel like giving in at any time then re-read why you decided to give up in the first place (what you wrote in your diary). You can always add new reasons if there are any too. Good luck to you!

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It's pretty bad for someone as young as you having a problem like this, usually people give you the stereotypical bullshit like "Oh dirty perverted men only have those kind of problems", trust me I kinda have a problem with it aswell.

It's the availibility like someone said below of Porn web sites there's so much of this **** it's basically screaming at you to masturbate over me.

Try and resist the urge, I would suggest seeing a GP, or a Mental Health Professional.

It's a big step if your not willing to admit it, or write it in a diary or even just resisting the urge.

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This is really not good for an 18 yr old to be dealing with a problem like this, and I blame the internet with all of its availability to **** like that. I think will power is your only hope if a councelor is out of the question for you... so do you have much will power? I think you do.