Women’s health

“We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full.”
― Marcel Proust

I can vouch for that. With every break I allowed the light to enter. I allowed the pain to cease. I managed to grow and evolve, every single time my heart has been broken. Being an Empath, I am anyways swimming in the seas of heartbreak(animal agriculture, famine, child abuse…too many atrocities to face in this dystopian world), but this Saturn in Sag getting anointed as the Wise ONE with Cosmic Downloads from the very heart of our Galactic Centre has left me dealing with a lot of the emotions that had broken my heart. But today I tell you, I embrace all those emotions that refuse to give up my company. They will not let me forget the angst, the pain, the desolation…but hey, wait!!! It is those very emotions that have healed me and continue doing so.

I can’t tell you how KARMIC and fated this Saturn transit feels for me. Saturn and Chiron are talking since 2016 and three vital connects have to happen- the first one was in Dec 28th 2016 and the second one is today, the 30th of Apr 2017 and the last one will be in Nov 2 , 2017.

Saturn is grinding to a halt and is about to go retro on Apr 6th, and with the square in play, he is about to give structure and comprehension to our wounds. The last square of Saturn was with Neptune. That really shifted my POV. The major theme was- REALITY VS DREAMS! I can tell you it made me take a lot of practical actions to realise my dream and slowly but surely I launched Tinaheals, my IP. Dreams started to take tangible shape. But before that Neptune managed to dissolve every single structure I held dear.

Saturn in Sag definitely has a totally different vibe to it. It is more philosophical and is vibing off the Sagi penchant for truth. Saturn in Sag going retrograde will have us uncover a lot of what truth means to us, how we digest it, how we interpret it. Truth will come under a lot of scrutiny when Saturn is in such a placement. You know what we need to remember- that underlying all this ILLUSION, our TRUTH is ONE and the same, in a state of wholeness. But in this material world, our truths differ widely. But deep down we all bleed, we all care about our loved ones, we all dream of a better tomorrow. So OUR TRUTH IS ONE, but how many will see it that way?

I am so fucking sick of the phrase- Time heals all wounds. No time does nothing! Time dies not exist! It is YOU who picks up the pain, it is YOU who keeps scabbing at it, it is again YOU who finally has to decide to let it heal. Time does nothing, which is why PAIN and suffering are carried on to the next incarnations.

Chiron’s involvement is all about making us aware of that pain, showing us how that pain feels in real time and then if we are lucky, Chiron will invoke his shamanic powers and poof! All our pain is gone! Gone are the miseries- finite and infinite.

Chiron is sitting in mystical Pisces which is the sign of the Empath, the Healer. What does that mean? Chiron is learning about how to heal wounds that have arisen from Pisces’ lower vibrations like too much sensitivity and emotions gone haywire. In fact xenophobia and hatred for other cultures can also stem from being too sensitive and uptight about one’s own. This is the time to address this issue. Pisces is also the sign of delusion. So how are we deluding ourselves when it comes to our wounds? Are we keeping them raw and hidden? Are we applying temporary salves to it? Or are we working towards healing it permanently? Samsara is the endless cycle of suffering if one remains UNENLIGHTENED. Suffering ceases with WISDOM and LOVE.

Working with Past Life Astrology and PL Regression therapy, I can tell you that certain transits give us the power and will to once and for all understand the pain we have been running away from. Once you understand the pain, it will go away. That is how I have seen it work…always…once understood and acknowledged from your heart chakra, the PAIN GOES AWAY!

Today’s transit gives us one of those sacred healing portals. Here is a cry to all the healers and the Shamans, the Wise Women and Medicine men, the light workers and Empaths…send out your healing intentions…and it will manifest.

If your wounds are defining the person you have become, then maybe it is time for you to invoke Chiron and Saturn to give you the impetus to heal your life. No matter how spiritually anaesthetised we are as humans, we have the desire and necessity to heal.

That does not mean that your journey is forgotten…it just means that you refuse to allow your wounds to dictate your life. It is over! Take control, for only YOU CAN HEAL YOURSELF. I always tell people who come to me for healing…I tell that that it they who are healing themselves. I do not need to “heal” you, because that blessing is yours. I just create a platform for the healing to occur.

We must talk about what I mean by HEALING…

Healing is a state of WHOLENESS. It is not a divisive or separatist state. It does not adhere to polarities. It just is- WHOLE. We are all a part of that WHOLE and when we divorce ourselves from that WHOLE do we become sick and diseased and only then do we need healing. When healing occurs, at every level we become WHOLE….a part of that INDIVISIBLE REALITY.

An Omnipresent, Eternal, Boundless, and Immutable PRINCIPLE on which all speculation is impossible, since it transcends the power of human conception and could only be dwarfed by any human expression or similitude. It is beyond the range and reach of thought — in the words of Mandukya [Upanishad], “unthinkable and unspeakable.”…HPB

It is imperative to understand that BE-NESS exists before BEING. Sartre tapped into infinite wisdom when he stated…EXISTENCE PRECEDES ESSENCE! Spirit and Matter are both parts of this ONE!

Sit in silence and contemplate what it means to be WHOLE! If you have an Agate, hold it while you meditate. This is the oldest crystal used for healing. Ask Chiron and Saturn to heal you…If you are heavily afflicted by Saturn, then you should wear black on Saturdays, feeds black ravens or crows and eat black rice.

Saturn rules your legs and nervous system and the Yogasana I suggest is Ardha Matsyendrāsana or the Seated Spinal Twist Pose which will aid in the stimulation of your nervous system. You can also look at Shavasana before going to bed. Ask Saturn’s help in all your endeavours.

Email me to find out what this transit means for you…

“Breasts are a scandal because they shatter the border between motherhood and sexuality.”
― Iris Marion Young

So often we hope and crave for what could have been or what we want instead on loving what we have! Ah, foolish humanity! Stats are appalling at the percentage of women who are comfortable with their breasts! Let us fuck that for now.

Do you agree that most women are not happy with their breasts? In fact breast surgeons in California have had huge amounts of women who wanted a duplicate pair like Salma Hayek! Seriously! Women just expected that the doc could somehow replicate her tits!

Fuck knows why! Our breasts are so feminine, so sensual and yet we ignore them. We wish they were larger, smaller, perkier…blah, blah…

As a breastfeeding mother to a three and a half year old toddler can be quite challenging, but I have embraced the role. In fact I will continue suckling her till she wants to stop. But yes it does a lot to the elasticity of the breasts!

But I actually love my breasts much more than I have ever done, because I have seen them sustain life. I have seen them exclusively breastfeed and provide the best suited food for my baby.

The point is breasts are gorgeous…no matter what shape, size or colour they come in. They are so important to your child. I know how my toddler treasures them. I love sucklas(that’s what she calls them), says she and hugs them.

I get irritated sometimes, it is not always easy to stick a tit in her mouth and continue with my day. She is huge and refuses to stop. But breastfeeding her for so long has bonded us heavily.

A study showed that women’s self esteem are often tied to their titties, but most do not carry a positive image as they are bombarded with impossible images of perfection in magazines. It is difficult for the normal woman to compete with the model in the magazine. The woman has no stylist, cameraman, lights, decor, multiple tries…and photoshop! Fuck yes.

So women tend to have lesser self confidence because of the shape or size of their boobs. Also a thang(purposely misspelled) to remember would be- breasts are not just sexual organs…they also are food sources. So society needs to understand and address this.

Look at how difficult it is for breastfeeding mothers who choose to do so in public. She faces all sorts of problems if the internet is to be trusted. Look at vlogs, blogs, posts, memes…it is everywhere.

You can sees tits everywhere, but when it comes to a breastfeeding mama, no…society has to freak out. I openly breastfeed by the way. Look my breasts are not on my body so you can stare at them and wank off later. No.

My tits are here to feed my baby and that’s what they will do. So stop sexualising the breasts when they are not intending to send you those signals. Remember the viral video where this guy does an experiment with two women- one, a scantily dressed girl and a breastfeeding mom. Watch the video to stay abreast of how toxic our society really is!

Anyway breasts will sell you everything- but they cannot be flashed in the open to feed a child! What a lovely society we have created. Yes your breasts are for your man, but remember they are first and foremost for you. They are deeply connected to your womb.

Look at the breasts as a symbol of self love. As an organ to nurture. And why not? Look where they are placed, right next to your heart chakra! How sublime is that!

Girls, stay away from underwires. Don’t be shocked! Our heart pumps blood, however lymph only flows from movement and massage. So, if you wear an underwired bra, you are blocking that lymph flow, and toxins remain in the breast tissues.

Now just use your favourite carrier and essential oil combo…anything that works for you can be used. Find time, the safe spot and silence. Now spine straight, breathing will stabilise as you keep observing it.

After a while, focus on the muladhara and feel the energy vibrate. Then lift it up and bring it to your crown chakra. Let it vibrate there and then bring it to your heart chakra. And start counting…1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9…till 1000. It is a very effective tool to get into meditational trance. It is okay if you lose count. Just restart from whichever number comes to mind, just keep the focus in your heart chakra.

Your heart centre will start feeling warm and glowing. Keep your right hand on it and say…I LOVE, I AM LOVED AND I AM LOVE!!! After chanting for a bit, sit in silence and think of your breasts. Think of what you feel….think of how much you love them…think of how they bring pleasure to you or how they have fed your kids. Think of all the good things. It is not likely that negative thoughts will pop up if you have managed to centre yourself with the meditation and chanting. But in case, negative thoughts trouble you, watch them. No judging or feeling guilt.

Start the massage with the oils. Send love with each stroke. Feel the energy flow increase not just through your breast but through your entire glandular system. You are going to feel heightened and sensual.

The breasts nourish the pineal gland, the pitutory gland, which is the master hormone, the thyroid gland, the thymus gland, which is responsible for our immune system, and the adrenal glands, and our ovaries. When we massage our breasts, and in particularly our nipples, all of those glands are stimulated, and brought in alignment.

We release hormones such as oxytocin and prolactin which cause uterus contractions, relaxes and bonds us, makes us hanker for one another.

Now knead your breasts sensually and squeeze your nipples. You can reach a profound state of sexual stimulation. This is aligning you from the inside so let all the feelings wash over you. Feel everything. Let it all purge. Feel like light and feel light.

Now feel golden healing light surround your breasts, loving them, energising them and protecting them! Feel this healing take place and let that golden halo disappear in your breasts.

Sit in silence cradling them. You may start to play with your nipples and then bring yourself to multiple climaxes.

I am ecstatic to announce that tonight there is some wild and sensual astro happening- Moon squares Neptune. The Moon is in Sag- aha! And Neptune is the ruler of Pisces. Venus is retrograde pushing us to maddening depths of emotions and feelings.

So what do you get with this mix? How can SAG and Pis merge? Oh, let me think. Philosophy and myth debates that heat up into intellectual kerfuffles which could lead to electricity crackling in the air and then when sexual intimacy takes place- it feels like a dose of spiritual energy has been infused in the love making process!

So I am going to suggest a small meditation module for tonight.

Clean up your space, sage it and prepare it with candles, incense and aroma oils. Use the diffusor. Take a long soak in the tub, preferably the two of you. And do not start making out please! Just lie with each other and make an effort to join your breathing. Breathe together. Feel each other’s heartbeats as you sit soaking in the tub.

Now feel all the negativity draining from your body. You may use chants or switchwords when doing this. A good one would be ALLOW-FLOW-BE, which releases your internal blocks. You can keep saying VENUS-DIVINE-BE!

Do it together- do it consciously. Step out and wipe one another clean. Gently and not sexually. Just as if he is a human, you are not concentrating on the sexual angle right away. Now rub oil on each other. Get a nice carrier oil like jojoba and then chuck a few drops of your favourite essential oil. You can use amyris, clary sage, jasmine, neroli, patchouli, rose, rosewood, sandalwood, vetiver, ylang ylang- they all work as aphrodisiacs.

Rub it in with conscious intention that your hands are filling this person you are caressing in this erotic massage is being healed. Oh yes by now the massage has gone erotic. I cannot start explaining exactly how to massage, because I believe there is no hard and fast, one single way to do it. The massage is an adaptation of deep rubs, kisses and caresses, suited exactly to the person in front.

Drop all thought. Very important. Exist in the moment. Exist in the now. One will massage the other and then the other will return the favour. Get it. Do not try to massage each other together. Nope. After you have completed the erotic massage, then stand up and hug.

After the hug, start NOW massaging each other. Build the intensity. Oh stare at each other the whole time. Stare into his eyes. Try to see beyond his form. Whatever you think is divine, associate that image to him. He is divine and guys, so is she. Try to feel the energy flow in each other’s bodies. You may actually see colours and your auras.

Then sit in meditation in the yabyum position, the symbol of divine union.

“Yab-Yum” is a Tibetan term meaning “father-mother”. The man is on the floor, in sukhasana or padmasana and the woman sits on his thighs while his lingam is in her yoni. The man’s penis will be inside your pussy, but do not move. Sit in that position. It symbolises the union of your root chakras. You have become ONE. Keep staring into each other’s eyes. Homosexual couples, please decide between each other who will take on the yang role and who will play the yin energy and sit accordingly.

Keep staring and keep breathing, the lingam inside the yoni. This is potent sex magic as the sexual energy with meditation can transmute itself to Spiritual. The Union will feel like you are losing consciousness. This does not happen in a day, it is to be cultivated.

Your crown chakra is channelling energy from spirit and merging it with your sexual energy. Please OBSERVE THE ENERGY and how it is flowing through your body. Try to identify blockages. Work from your heart chakra.

Some tantric teachers urge the participants to communicate their feelings to one another while in yabyum, but I personally leave it to you. You decide if you want SILENCE to be a part of this meditation or do you want to use loud chanting and/or speak to each other. It is entirely up to you.

After about staring for twenty minutes, then close your eyes together. Keep deep breathing. Now concentrate on your muladhara chakra and feel a ball of energy vibrating there. Now lift up that ball through your spine and bring it to rest in your crown chakra. Stay there. Keep breathing. If you cannot hold your erection, do not freak out. You are now PURE energy, not a limp dick!

Finally end the meditation with an orgasmic explosion, although it is absolutely normal if you do not desire penetration. During tantric yabyum most practitioners avoid the peak orgasm(ejaculation) to leave room for the much stronger full body orgasms, squirting orgasms, anal orgasms, prostate orgasms, vaginal orgasms, womb orgasms and more. You can feel things that are very VERY intense.

Your partner may cry as some of you guys know that women cry after an orgasm. Some of them do. I am one of those and it can get pretty intense and in fact some guys do too. Do not be awkward if she is crying, just hug her. Do not judge, label or criticise or offer advise. Just let her be. Be there for her.

Keep sitting even after everything is done and hug each other in yabyum, close your eyes and bring your focus to your third eye and stare inside. Finish off by doing namaste to each other.

If you do try this, drop me a mail and tell me how the experience felt.

What do you think is intimacy? Lying in bed, naked, making out? What is the exact connotation of intimacy? I looked up the Thesaurus, but nothing did justice to the concept I am carrying around in my mind.

Intimacy is not nakedness. Intimacy is not sex. Intimacy is not making out in the rain. I agree, all of those could become perfectly intimate moments, but most often they are not allowed to reach their full potential.

I know I have experienced this intimacy. I know I have a very intimate relationship with my man. But even with some my other lovers, I have felt intimacy.

Intimacy comes from a place of total surrender and I don’t mean the S&M way where one becomes a sub or a Dom. No, I mean a space that is created with energetic vibrations that allows for two individuals to renounce their singular selves and become united as ONE.

ONENESS is where everything is headed. Which is why sex is so magical. It can show you a glimpse of that UNITY. And wow, is that beautiful!

Intimacy can only come if you are connected on a soul level. Even though you might have had sex with that hunky guy, but felt hollow afterwards..why? The sex was amazing, but it was still not intimate. The sparks were flying, but it was not of the higher frequency.

But some lovers feel like “home”. Yes when you make love to them, it is like fucking coming home. Everything makes sense in that moment of passionate embrace. The intensity, the excitement, the soul connection…it drives you crazy and it feels just right.

Like its meant to be. What heights of sexual intensity! What exciting new experimentation in bed! The chemistry is sizzling and all the time there is this feeling of knowing him/her, being in this position with him/her, loving him/her with every atom of your body! Have you not felt this?

I was never up for marriage. The fact that I am going to fuck one man for the rest of my life while he gives me home, security and food is not up my alley. But it happened and I don’t regret it. I never take sex as an obligation.

I don’t think I have to fuck him just because he is my husband. I want to do it and experience intimate moments with him which is why I do it. You have to first understand how you approach sex to correct any imbalances in your sex life.

If you want to explore sex as a deeper journey of the human consciousness, then see that person as a soul. Not just a soul, but a part of that ONE SOUL from which we have all emanated. Yes we are ONE! So once you set this parameter, then no sex can be cheap. No encounter becomes humiliating!

You are uniting in divine sexual energy exchange with another soul to experience the beauty of the yin/yang! How fucking sublime is that!

Sweety, change your perspective. If a woman is somehow lessened because she slept with you, then seriously dude, it is you who needs much soul searching. You cock cannot debase a woman. No in fact it energises her. Just like her pussy energises you when you allow divine sexual bliss to happen.

Being conscious is everything. In the moment. Looking into his eyes, feeling his breath, smelling him…you need to be aware! Fucking Zen master style! As your awareness is concentrated, you will begin to see and feel so much!

Feelings you have never felt. Sensations you have never enjoyed. Put it in the backseat. Your pleasure that is! Stop being selfish in love. It can never work. Think of giving him/her the most pleasure and then you will see that you have become ONE with the pleasure. You have become the pleasure and the pleaser and in all of this, you will become the pleased.

Surrender my Beloved! Dance with him- naked. Feel the wind on your skin, the sun rays kissing your naked body while you twirl in the most delicious dance of existence. Kiss him like it is the last thing you will do. Even if it is some dude you met a week ago and things are not going that great.

If you have kept up your relationship with him, then invest this time and effort because this not only makes the moment divine, but it helps you tremendously in your psychological/spiritual and physical journey. If you treat the experience as sacred, my sweets, it becomes sacred.

There can be no guilt, no shame, no judgement…it is just sacred. With each divine lovemaking experience, you are opening yourself up to finally become the COSMIC LOVER of all. Not to love and be loved in return…but just to LOVE.

For being in LOVE is our natural state. Like JUST BEING. Breathing, loving…it is the same. Take sex to become the tool for your metamorphosis into becoming a DIVINE LOVER OF ALL. In fact, after a certain point of expressing this love…you will have become that love. That love is samadhi. That love is God, Christos, Krishna, Sunyata, Allah!!!

Accept your lover as an expression of the INTELLIGENT DESIGN that birthed the galaxies, the nebulae, the ginormous space structures that we humans can only gawk at. Look at him like he is the only man on Earth. Stop thinking of other people. That not only insults his soul, but is very damaging to yours.

Guys I suggest you do this too. Make her feel like she is the ONLY WOMAN ALIVE at that point when you are making love to her. Bare yourself to her. Cry, sing, dance…basically don’t let societal norms and mores hold your divine masculine in. Don’t box him him.

The DIVINE MASCULINE is wounded. The DIVINE FEMININE has to save him for he is here to save her. We are here with each other, for each other and we are in each other.

All the polarities are within. The Universe is within. BARE YOUR SOUL people!! Lay it out there and feel the catharsis when you make love. It is sublime. Let the CHI flow as it wants to. Observe it and you will see how energy bonds with energy to create something magical, sometimes it births a whole new reality!

Your body is the vessel of the COSMIC SOUL. It speaks through the rhythms of our bodies, the pulsations. Let the waves of cosmic desire surface in your consciousness, feel them ride through your groins and express that potency as a powerful orgasm to return divine love and ecstasy back to the Universe. It will change your whole POV(point of view).

Guys, enter your woman with your soul energy. And women, accept his cock inside you with your soul energy. The heart chakra is to be operational here. Do not expect him to play into standard patriarchal roles and do not restrict yourself to typical female roles that society has shoved on us. Do not label or play roles.

JUST BE! He is in your life to create a sacred vibrational space for your soul growth, as you are going to do for him. These feelings are so sublime and profound that human comprehension is dwarfed in front of them. No words can adequately describe what a conscious sexual relationship can do.

You’ve just got to feel it. Feel it…It is the most magical thing you can do for yourself! Love and honour the sacredness of sex. Hold each other- tightly. So tight that both your breaths become one. Breathe together and stay in the moment.

No thinking of tomorrow. No thoughts of where this is going. Nothing. If those thoughts come, smile at them and watch them without passion. Without you provoking, thoughts are powerless. Just use all your concentration of the five senses to be AWARE.

Watch how you feel. If at any point you feel cheapened in any way, respectfully say no. Make sure you are always in the position to say no. Never go through the sexual act if your soul says no. In such cases, you may attract entities with lower vibrations who can feed on your energy.

Give each other strength! Strength to express themselves to become who they are meant to be. To be aligned with their soul purpose. Work on each other with your touch, kisses and your tongue. Make sure you have set aside enough time to let her become fully aroused before intercourse.

Set aside at least twenty minutes for that! Do not rush sex. Do not cheat yourself or her/him!

With Venus going retrograde many issues on love and intimacy will surface and this time you should make sure you have ticked everything off the list to move on to the next level. When Venus goes retro, we usually tend to experience love and sex pretty intensely and the journey is mostly internal.

To work through these issues, Venus challenges us to understand INTIMACY. That one word can change everything in your life…but you have to allow the magic of intimacy to wash over your you.

You can do meditations on intimacy…become intimate with everything…how? Say you love the North Star! Stare at it every night. Begin to talk to it. Tell it all your secrets and feel, truly feel intimate with it. You can do this with all things.

Your personal things will be easier to make intimate. But try this with the world around you…

If you have any questions about sacred sexuality, feel free to email me – tina@tinaheals.com

The way in which any given culture treats the vagina — whether with respect or disrespect, caringly or disparagingly — is a metaphor for how women in general in that place and time are treated…NAOMI WOLF

How does our society treat pussy? Hahahahaha…

I am going straight to it. I will talk about the cunt/pussy/vagina. What words come to your mind? Abuse? Belittling? To denote a coward!

To this, I have to quote Betty Davis. Didn’t she say that balls are weak? They are fragile and hurt easily. Compare it to a vag. The vag is equipped to pop out a child for fuck’s sake! That is like some fifty four fractures happening in one go.

Forget the theory! I laboured for seventeen hours, so I know how painful it can get. I had begun to cultivate a friendship with my pussy over the months of my pregnancy. It happened organically.

A conversation started which made me write my book Pussy Talks. Yes I am looking to publish it and share my experiences with the world.

I have been gathering sex stories from men and women for over six years now. It started off as a research project for a script, but became an obsession soon. Exploring people’s sexual memories with them can have a profound effect on the psyche.

It is absurd the way sex is perceived. It is shown to be immoral, only for procreating and blah, blah. In fact, it is in conflict with some of our highest ideals and aspirations.

Why? What is so disgusting or disturbing about sex?

When people talk about the moments they have orgasmed, or the moment they kissed not only the mouths, but the souls too, there is a certain vibration that is created. I am very aware of vibrations, energy and frequencies I pick up. This subject became of great interest to me.

The stories I collected from hundreds of people were not just of orgasms and great sex. There were moments of pain, separation, dejection, humiliation. But what was interesting is that sex is actually the very fundamental on which society operates.

Whether we are ready to consciously acknowledge it or not, I don’t know, but sex is a huge part of our lives. Studies show that men think of sex pretty much most of the times and trust me, going by my data, women don’t fall short either.

If not, often times women crave for sex much more, but are ashamed and guilty of admitting it. Yes society has scared us into thinking that if we women think of sex or feel sexual then we are nymphos. Bad, bad, women. Lock them up, grab them by the pussies and burn them at the stake.

If nothing so severe, harm her by maligning her reputation, spread online gossip. Or maybe even throw acid on her face. Fuck knows who these morons are, but they exist.

Watch how we spend so much getting wasted in nightclubs and pubs, talking to strangers whom we may not like, but what is going on in our heads? How do I touch her exposed abs? How do I touch his biceps? We play so many games of coquetry and crap, that it is time, we acted more like grown ups and claimed our sexuality.

During sex, most of us are scared to reveal their inner most self. The vulnerable self. We spend more time trying to hide who we are. Men play into machismo tropes whereas women play into being the role he likes her in the most. I mean in most cases, I have seen this.

Very few women actually have told me that they speak to their guys about their intimate sexual fantasies. I do. I cannot not tell my partner. And he does the same. We are so much stronger for this. Because from day 1, I made it clear to him that this is who I am and I love sex. The rubbing together of organs, the kisses, the penetration, everything leads up to a climactic point where I can just BE and explore all of myself.

Use sex as a grounding mechanism to remind you of how perfect we humans are in our imperfections and ultimately that is what being human means- in all its rich messiness, desires and longings.

Why is PUSSY a derogatory word? Our first step to reclaim our sacred sexuality will be to understand the word PUSSY/VAGINA.

Listen your pussy is not only connected to the brain, but is a part of your soul. Yes it is. It is sacred and it is the very seat of your feminine powers.

Sex in today’s world is just a physiological experience, driven by evolution, some would argue. But while gathering data, I sensed that the most elevating sexual experiences were shared with a like-minded individual who understands what existence means to us and shares our vision and journey. The excitement when two such souls share sexual energy is erotic and filled with creative and spiritual potency.

There is a synergy between the mind-body(brain and pussy), consciousness and the sexual urge or LIBIDO. Yes sex is a biological act, but ask yourself that have you never felt the poetics behind sex? Have you never felt a spiritual ecstasy that drops the EGO-SELF and transforms the two players to ABSOLUTE UNION!

It’s a Science and it is Spirituality! Sex influences every aspect of our being. It can be a cause of stress or a tool to address stress. The question is how do you link biology to BEING!

Once one understands what scientists at the most advanced laboratories and clinics around the world are confirming — that the vagina and the brain are essentially one network, or “one whole system,” as they tend to put it, and that the vagina mediates female confidence, creativity, and sense of transcendence — the answers to many of these seeming mysteries fall into place…Naomi Wolf

Women, your pelvic nerve is a superhighway of info that passes from the base of the spine to the cervix, connecting it to the brain and this “superhighway”is unique for every woman! And very advanced. This is why we women have such different sexual trigger points.

Some like their feet nibbled, some like breast play, some are into heavy kissing and touching, you get the plot. But the guys in comparison, have a way more simpler neural network in their pelvic area. Do you see how this piece of info completely overturns the widely accepted patriarchal sexual norms? Do you see how we women have been duped for centuries into believing that we don’t want sex?

We are now fully convinced that WOMEN DO NOT LIKE SEX. They just “do it” to please men. But friends…the interviews and data that I have been collecting screams bloody murder at this perversion of a biological reality.

Women, we have to UNLEARN these toxic lies we have been fed. I know by now we have digested the info, assimilated it and we now as a collective, fully BELIEVE IN IT. Women who like sex are vamps, fallen women, sluts, bitches, whores.

I know sex in this modern world is hard where images of perfect bodies crowd our psyche as we are about to get naked and in bed, ready to get intimate. And here we have men, born and bred, in the pornographic culture where the sexual act is concentrated on her tits and pussy. It is a linear narrative and then wham, bam, it is over! For women this is severely disappointing.

The media is feeding you non stop with subliminal prompts, binding you to this dense 3D reality by feeding your reptilian brain. This part takes care of your primary functions. They have reduced SEX to this vibration when it is clearly not so. Sex is a multidimensional creative and spiritual act.

The quintessential woman wants to play and be played with. She does not care for a quickie. This does not involve all her neurological sexual systems and leaves her unsatisfied. See, her whole body has to be involved while making love. My most fulfilling sexual experiences have been when I have managed to enter an altered state of consciousness. Yes, like with psychedelics! 😉

We women are like the shamans who have to feel fully connected and invoked to enter the sacred sexual space. In our minds, in our bodies. My most transcendent orgasms have come when I have managed to enter the dimensional vortex. Where I have lost myself, only to find myself again. But this time, I was a new person.

When sex becomes just a physiological sensation, then this aspect of out-of-body experience can get lost. In a two minute quickie you cannot grasp the beauty of the cosmos. You just feel the physical sensations and maybe mental, because the man is probably your partner, but you will never experience such transcendental bliss and awareness.

Life can be an orgasm! At least for me and some women I have worked with. Sometimes, I get so turned on by music or art or even a conversation. I like to stay in this orgasmic bliss as much as I can. My whole body begins to vibrate. My Pussy feels so aware, so awake. Such an energetic being! My sexual energy is at the peak when I know I am valued by my partner and my emotional and spiritual needs are being cared for.

Even if you are into one-night stands or sexual exploration, you can enrich your life by just being aware of each encounter and treating it like a spiritual act. You can begin by showing respect and love to your woman, even if it is for a brief moment. Best be clear of your intentions.

Sex is a tool. You can use it to achieve spiritual and psycho-somatic well being. But how? By staying PRESENT in the moment. By not being in another place, with another person. This not only insults your partner in front, but also closes you up to the possibility of creating something magical at that moment. More coming up in the book and the workshops.

My suggestion is, change your attitude to sex. No it is not just a physiological function, it is so much more. Do not be scared of it or do not feel guilty if you have sexual desires and thoughts. And even if you are in a relationship, it is perfectly alright to feel attracted to someone else.

The question is…what do you do with that attraction? Sometimes even when we feel sexual chemistry, it could also mean that the person is from our soul group. You know we all have soul groups- 144 souls in one. 12 into 12. But if your attraction hurts your partner, then it is time to start a mature dialogue.

Your partner has also felt similar feelings, but most of us will never accept it. Not even to ourselves. If you truly value the relationship you are in, you will never act on your impulses. But it is important to realise that these feelings exist! Sexual attraction and desire are absolutely NORMAL!

It is natural to have FB crushes and feel horny looking at someone you fancy, because our brains and pussies are inter-connected ladies. If we like someone mentally, we can feel sexual towards them and it may have nothing to do with their six packs.

In this rape culture, women are sexually stressed all the time. Rapes, molestation, cat calls…they go on. Which is why women are so hyper-stressed. Korean researchers have shown that when a female mouse is sexually stressed over time, she not only becomes cantankerous and angry, but her vaginal tissues also start deteriorating. Can you imagine what is happening to u s women in this culture?

Every time we hear a salacious comment, we are inhibiting dopamine receptors from producing this chemical which makes us happy, creative and confident. Every time some presses our boobs in the subway or in local trains, our pussy is actually feeling this as a tremendous painful shock.

We may not understand the implications…but this is what has turned women into enablers of patriarchy. This hurt they have been taking on for ages has resulted in the objectification of the pussy into something ugly, hideous and grotesque.

It is time to change all that. The pussy is beautiful for fuck’s sake. No matter what it looks like or where it is in the maiden, mother or crone stage. It does not fucking matter! The pussy is divine and it is about time we women and men, society as a collective realised and accepted this. What healing can occur!!!

When Donald Trump said, “GRAB THEM BY THE PUSSY”…he hurt all of us collectively. Yes…men and women. For women it is more obvious. Why? Because blood circulation in the pussy constricts when she feels threatened!! So by demeaning the pussy, he sent a direct signal to our brains that we are not safe.

Our bodies are not safe. Our reproductive rights are not ours. We are smaller, so we get less pay…the misogynistic saga continues!

But who is going to change all this? So much hurt, so much pain? If we muster enough compassion for the wounded masculine, we can heal him. With sex, with love, with our feminine powers, our yin energy.

The first step must be to heal ourselves, our pussies and our own wounds. For when this healing occurs, you will look at the world anew. After much study, experimentation, meditation and experience, I have devised a MEDITATION MODULE called the WOMB JOURNEY! This has been very beneficial to loads of women I have shared this with.

If you look around, you see all these relationships. Somehow most appear as shallow, selfish, possessive, jealous, controlling. But how often do you see a well balanced relationship?

A woman who understands that her man has unresolved skeletons in his closet should make it a point to help him address those issues. If you leave them there and don’t speak about everything, then they can become deadly dangerous. If you can get your man to own these emotional issues, they will give him focus, courage and direction.

In fact, a true conversation can change a man’s life. But in most cases, you have to initiate it and of course you both must be open enough to discuss potentially disturbing and personal issues.

In most cases, it is the woman, with her feminine wisdom that must align her man to his spiritual power. This could be a painful process. Even during sex, it is up to you to let your man free. In his mind and in his body and soul, he should feel free. Don’t try to tame your partner’s sexuality!

If you feel like you want to explore some issues but your partner is not willing to, then it is up to you to see what is worth more. However, you must never emotionally blackmail your partner into doing sexual acts they are not comfortable with.

A true sexual experience is all about FREEDOM…such potent freedom that you lose the sense that you are caged in a fleshy body. All the toxic mores and customs, ideas and traditions your man has picked up, can be unlearned.

A man can be shown the true potency of the sacred feminine. This does not mean you “mother” him. For fuck’s sake, a woman who mothers her man, is not acting from her sacred yoni space. This does not mean that you cannot act motherly towards your man. In fact, you should play all the roles when needed.

Just make sure, you don’t get caught in the vicious mothering cycle. It is thankless and will drain your SACRAL CHAKRA. When a woman’s sacral chakra is in balance, she appears magnetic. Sex here can be a conduit for resolving all his unresolved emotional baggage. You can HEAL him. Even if he is a random encounter.

After sex, you can release all his pain and issues to the Universe as it could harm your energy field. Compress them in a tiny box. Go to the ends of the Earth(in your mind) and bury it. The Earth takes all these vibrations of pain and releases them to the 5D awareness as holographic plants. You should visualise this process and see these holograms bloom! The pain has been released!!!

Mother earth has a wild side by responding and reacting in the moment, in the NOW. Discerning is a moment by moment dynamic play…available through being connected to yourself to discern what is true in the moment. But no matter, even if it a drunken sexcapade, you can make it a spiritual experience.

Intent is all that matters. The intent to heal and love with sex. How can we go wrong there? If intention can change the molecular structure of water, then what do you think it can do to us? How much water are we? 50% to 65%! Yes we humans are mostly water!

So what have you gleaned from this article? Don’t think about it. There is no understanding it like 2+2=4. It is not so simple you see. The thinker is caught in the thinking feedback loop and she is trying to escape the pain. The thinker does not have all the mysteries of existence. The thinker is like Kafka’s gatekeeper.

“Before the law sits a gatekeeper. To this gatekeeper comes a man from the country who asks to gain entry into the law. But the gatekeeper says that he cannot grant him entry at the moment. The man thinks about it and then asks if he will be allowed to come in later on. ‘It is possible,’ says the gatekeeper, ‘but not now.’”..NOT NOW!!???

The man’s challenge was to try and get past the gatekeeper in order to get to the law. Eventually the man becomes old and dies without ever gaining access to the law. Before the man dies, the gatekeeper tells him that the entrance was made just for the man and since the man is now dying the entrance to the law will also be closed! See how perverse it all is!

Thinking will not allow you to enter this space of sacred sexuality. In this space, everything is love…yes ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!! Love will make us peal off all the layers and create sexual alchemy. From this alchemical process will something magical be born.

With a love that is all encompassing and divine, we can begin to heal and become a society that treats the pussy with respect, symbolising all women are treated too with respect and love.

But what if we did not have sex? Fuck! What then? All I can say is that we would be invulnerable! And what is life without the human vulnerabilities? Where is the ridiculousness of it all? We would definitely not have much in content for our films, soaps and books! And what of all the Buzzfeed relationship gyan? Lots of us would be without work or ambition! Lol!

Sex creates chaos. A chaos that is necessary. As it is from this chaos, that magic happens…

Osho who has been a profound experience in my life once said,”The experience of orgasm itself is always nonsexual. Even though you have achieved it through sex, it itself has no sexuality in it, and my own understanding is that meditation has grown out of the experience of orgasm.”

Yes ORGASMS are as PROFOUND as that!!! By combining erotic and ascetic techniques, states Brooks, a TANTRIC SCHOLAR, the Tantric broke down all social and internal assumptions, became Shiva-like! Combining our erotic yearnings with meditation, I have created a solid and effective tool and then NLP applications which help improve the experience.

Today I am going to delve into a special MERMAID SPIRIT ACTIVATION/ SEX MEDITATION. With the sexy vibe in the astro of these times, we’re collectively channelling loads of Piscean watery energy. Look at the astro of the eclipse. This was a PREDOMINANTLY WATER SIGN BASED ECLIPSE. We water folks will feel it.

Why should we do sex meditations you ask? SCIENTISTS HAVE PROVEN THAT ORGASM AND MEDITATION PRODUCE THE SAME EFFECT IN THE BRAIN!!! They both can drop this FAKE EGO STRUCTURE we have created. This bullshit nonsensical inner commentary of jargon is dropped and we experience otherworldly sensations.

Do you want to walk the path of self pleasure which will LEAD TO SELF ACCEPTANCE AND IMMENSE AMOUNTS OF SELF LOVE? Then creating sensual and erotic worlds with your imagination powered by your unconscious will help you work through sexual issues and often times abuse. Yes I have seen it.

Stress increases cortisol and adrenaline levels, and these increased levels of cortisol and adrenaline decrease sexual desire and performance.

Any form of meditation is an incredibly powerful stress-reducing tool. Meditation can increase sexual desire and performance by reducing cortisol and adrenaline levels. It releases oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine. All feel good chemicals!

Sexual electricity out there! This energy may be making you go all wonky. Frustration could be igniting within if the fires of your sexual appetite have not been fed. Even if you have been having loads of sex, you might be feeling weird, different. Lots of feelings, energies and scenarios that may have never surfaced before, surface now. And they leave you bewildered.

I have been sensing the MERMAID ARCHETYPE invade my consciousness during meditation. Throughout the eclipse portals, mermaids were riding the waves of my consciousness. I just let the visions come.

They began with songs and sounds…the crashing of the waves. An eloquent voice. Shots of mermaids swimming in the deep sea. Their tails swishing by. Mesmerising!

The mermaid archetype represents a woman who is at ease while she swims in the GREAT WATERS OF LIFE. The seas of emotions and sexuality, of feelings and fertility. This archetype reveals to us the complex sexual tapestry of our psyches to us if we can channel her during meditation.

Drawing on her energy can make a woman/man feel sexually active, sensual, desired, intense. You can easily tap into your instinctual sexual centre if you manage to invoke the mermaid energy. Instantly your pussy will feel awakened.

Okay I am saying mermaid and she/her, but this is in no way only for women. Men can also tap into this vibe and channel the mermaid. If you are uncomfortable with gender blurring, then for fuck’s sake become a merman, but don’t leave. Yes you may read the word PUSSY, but so what? You popped out of one!

We contemporary women are faced with so much responsibilities- being a mom, being a wife and then of course our professional lives and then our social lives! Phew! Some of us are victims of chronic fatigue and pain, insomnia, diabetes, pressures issues…we are like walking prescriptions.

All this has led to us being DISCONNECTED to our FEMININITY. This meditation uses NLP applications fused with a rich tapestry of imagination, created by the meditator. This can release creativity and make us feel desirable.

The MERMAID can make us feel sexy although she does not have a visible vagina! Her yoni is in the subtle ether. Her sexuality is not of this world. So this kind of sexual energy can be very gentle and subtle, but can arise heightened sensations.

Our bodies are wise old things. They know everything and the mermaid lets us tap into that wisdom and enhances it by mixing it with the fish! Gene splicing and mixing! No seriously, the fish energy is very etheric and its intimate connection to water symbolises the UNCONSCIOUS, emotions, healing and purification.

The mermaid makes me playful and I cannot stress enough that we have lost the IMPORTANCE OF LEISURE AND PLAY IN OUR LIVES. Such busy beavers are we! We have lost the enjoyment of life why? Because we have given up play. And no play does not mean getting wasted, clubbing all night, retail therapy or any of the things you are thinking of!

Play is a connection to the NOW. THIS MOMENT. The HERE AND RIGHT NOW.

She is half woman and half fish! She lets me explore my WILD SIDE, my untamed animalistic ID. I can easily access that part of my sexuality through the mermaid meditation, but although raw animalistic desires is what I am talking about, there still is a spiritual vibe to all this rawness and sexual urgency.

Maybe to make it clear, she will let you get into that raw desire space, but will bring her human element into the equation. Works? Her human impulses guide you to not give into total depravity!! Hahaha!

Your unconscious and conscious mind are being fused in the seas of sexual desires.

While channelling the mermaid you may want to look at certain things…

Pay attention to subtle messages from your unconscious. Often the MERMAID SPIRIT can help you release ancient sexual pains and wounds. So be very careful as to what symbols enter your unconscious as they will have a story to tell.

Keep a check on what you are feeling and for whom. If certain thoughts arise about someone you are not meant to feel sexual about, then let it come. Don’t judge it or don’t get swept away by it. Let the person come into full focus and just observe.

Your motives for wanting to explore your sexual side will surface. Your motives for living and being will also.

After successful sessions of working with this energy, you should be able to correct water based issues.

You may get motivated to really research what type of water you are drinking.

You may be motivated to get healthy.

You may be able to get pregnant and resolve menstrual issues.

Deeper awareness may seep in- about the whole of fucking existence!

You may awaken the SACRED FEMININE within and you may get closer to the water element.

ABUNDANCE can be created- the FISH is the Christian symbol of Christ’s charity and abundance!

This meditation is a direct invocation. To the GREAT GODDESS. You may choose any WATER GODDESS and look at her as the MERMAID SYMBOL or you may chose any mermaid image that works with you.

THIS IS IDEALLY DONE TO RELEASE SEXUAL TENSIONS. I know meditation and primal sex do not seem a match, but let me assure you they are twinflames!

Find a comfortable spot. Relax in Sabasana. REMEMBER TO BE MINDFUL AND AWARE…works better than any Viagra!

Take a few deep breaths and begin to relax in your body. On the count of three start to bring your awareness to your right toe. Concentrate fully there and then slowly start bringing your awareness upwards till it reaches your vagina.

While bringing this energy up, your body parts begin to feel cool, like water washing over them. And then begin from your right finger and then from your head. Bring all the awareness rushing in through your body to the pussy, begin to visualise that your legs have turned into a tail. Slowly see yourself transform into the mermaid.

Your insides should feel like water. You should feel like water.

You are swimming in the deep, deep sea. Looking to reconnect, to explore, to PLAY.

Slowly as you are swimming in the dark, you see a light. You hear music. Whatever works for you. You check through the plankton and the corals that it is a party.

Now look…who is there in that party. Remember you are watching from afar, but you can sort of see the other mermaids and mermen(;) of course)! Keep breathing and feel the cool water wash over you. But your pussy/cock remains warm.

Slowly float towards the home. What do you feel? Do you feel welcome? Do you think the mer-people will welcome you? Do you feel excited? Nervous?

If you feel excited, go ahead. If you feel nervous, then find the gorgeous shell by your side and take a seat. Breathe. Why do you feel this nervousness? Which is the face you attribute that feeling to as in who the fuck is making you nervous?

If you have a face, then while breathing, keep looking at that face. That face smiles and suddenly you realise that that mermaid/man is sitting right next to you. Offering you your favourite drink!

You take it. If you have TOXIC ISSUES you want to spew at this person, then just close your eyes. See that anger inside of you, like a little red cell. As you stare at the anger, it begins to lose its redness and then becomes tiny before disappearing in the black forever.

You breathe and then open your eyes. The person is still there, but this time everything is different as you open your eyes. That resentment or hurt has disappeared and you smile back. Genuinely you smile back at the person.

You sit together for a brief moment before he/she takes you into the house. Let him/her lead you. Swim slowly to the house. Who do you see? You may see familiar faces that are completely unrelated. You may see your folks also.

The whole room is smiling at you. You smile back. Let all the emotions flood into you. Watch how you feel as you go through the room greeting the mermaids and mermen present.

Take each character in individually first. Group interactions may not be fruitful unless personal one-on-one shit is not solved. What do you feel, think, experience? What colours, sounds, sights appear to you? Just try to connect with the heart chakra.

Each time you meet someone, visualise a BLUE RAY OF LIGHT EMANATING FROM YOUR HEART CHAKRA and GOING INTO THEIRS. Even if the person is angry, they relax as soon as your blue light enters their heart.

Smile, hug, kiss…whatever you need to do, do it and move on…

You are now integrated in the energy and the merfolk are dancing, celebrating and having fun. Positive energy radiates. Now visualise all those group scenes and see what happens. You can get a lot of answers on how to deal with certain people through this meditation.

You swim out to the garden full of shells and conches. You sit absorbing the beauty. What happens? Watch closely for any energy shifts.

You hear a soft swoosh! You know someone is watching you from the back. What do you do? You look back…who is it? It could be a stranger as well. Or the energy may not even have a face. You might just sense the energy. Invite that energy to come close.

Watch closely for what you feel…Now the person is standing in front of you. He reaches out and holds your hands. Your heart is beating. You are feeling so intense. You let that passionate feeling in the groin over power you as he draws you close.

He takes your breasts in his hands and caresses them. Watch for what you feel. Then slowly let the moment your mind has created guide you. Feel every moment, the touch, the kisses, the breathing.

You will see colours with each interaction. The kisses are red. The touches are pink. The bites are purple. You can come up with your own colours, but try to make the experience as audio visual as you can.

The lovemaking will not be the traditional penis in vag types…MERMAIDS remember. Experience this sexual feeling as a SPIRITUAL EXPRESSION OF THE SELF. You are twirling with your lover, in deep embrace.

Watch how you both pleasure each other. Observe all the tiny, minute details. As you both are in embrace, visualise your KUNDALINI, a serpent coiled at the base of the spine, rises up slowly.

Feel this KUNDALINI SHAKTI climb through your spine and his/hers too. It crosses all your chakras and goes out to the cosmos through your crown chakra. This happens to you both.

So much energy is being created while you join in union and twirl in the sea. YOU BOTH ARE BEING WASHED IN COSMIC LOVE WHAT JOY!! You both become a ball of light slowly.

You can see the merging of the two bodies and then they fuse into etheric bodies of light till the ball remains. You take that ball and slowly insert it in your vagina.

As you do it, feel the warmth enter you slowly…let the process happen…just let your UNCONSCIOUS GUIDE YOU.

You now touch your pussy. It is full of warmth and light. You softly caress it and say thank you. You can end the meditation by bringing yourself to climax after you touch yourself deeply and intimately.

Stay with yourself for a while after this meditation and drift off to sleep if possible to dreamy music.

If you keep creating such magical worlds of sexual intimacy, then the day you really get to make love to your dream lover, what will happen? You will be so VERY PRESENT IN THAT MOMENT. No distractions will waver your mind. You have lived through the experience and can really relive it in 3d reality.

Read the article in The Huffington Post, “Why Meditation and Orgasm Feel the Same to the Brain,” which confirms from the world of science the connection or similarity between sexual orgasm and meditation. Imagine what a diabolical mixture if you can integrate them both in a practise to enhance your spiritual self.

The main point is that ORGASM is not a end to itself, it is only the beginning, it is only a means through which you who research, embrace and understand the subject correctly can reach the final goal – the “super consciousness.”!!!