My Husband Masturbates to Orgasm When We Have Sex

My husband and i have been together for 14 yrs..we have a great sex life..but everytime we are making love and my husband is about to climax he will pull out and finish by masterbating...it can take him up to two or three min. to get there and I'm left just sitting going ok what about me??

I feel like i can't get him there any more and it breaks my heart..is there something wrong with me or him??

Dear W,

After 14 years of marriage, chances are he's not getting enough stimulation from vaginal intercourse, either physically and/or mentally. If you've had children and neglected to do your Kegel exercises to keep your vaginal muscles toned, there may not be sufficient friction for him to orgasm during intercourse.

This is fairly common. What I recommend is that you get a vibrator and join him for mutual masturbation so you can have an orgasm too. It might turn out to be the best and hottest sex of your married life. Get a Magic Wand that can also be used for over all body massage--- a win/win all around.

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A lot of guys who masturbate a lot will find this is a problem for them during intercourse. The stimulation within a vagina is vastly different to a hand. So when they have intercourse, that friction is not strong enough to get off. I'd ask him to not masturbate for a while, then see if he has the same problem during the next intercourse session. Just a suggestion.... :)

Hi, I would say that he masturbates frequently, and when he does this he uses a very tight grip, and this is why he's having so much trouble elaculating inside you.
He needs to re-educate his penis to a featherlight touch, may take a few weeks but its his only way out of this problem, by doing this with oil on his hands and penis it will repucate your vagina, try helping him, this way it would be fun, inbetween you could try having sex and try being on top, this way you can take control.
Keep going till he ejaculates.
Hope this helps you to a happy sex life
Good Luck