I am recovering from anorexia and cosplayed Black Rock Shooter at AKon. Multiple times I was insulted for being too boney, and someone even went as far as to say I look like "a pile of foreskin". I regret allowing that person to take my power, but I left the con early and sat at home and cried for a long while. To this day I still am nervous to show skin...

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Just so these days would never ever have to end without a doubt
Ringing in a tone that slowly died and never will restart again
And all at once, I know everything is gone

at otakon 2012 i was Ruka Souen from Vampire Knight for one of the days, and one girl sitting at a table started talking to me and she was asking who i was cosplaying from vampire knight, and that my wig was the wrong shade to be ruka and that i dont look like her, i should put some more makeup on and im ugly. stuff like that.. i was trying to be nice to her and tried chatting to her about the anime and stuff, but my effort was in vain. she for some reason just kept giving me this look like i was a hideous monster or something, when clearly anyone could tell she had forgotten to wash her face for the past month. the guy she was with(her brother) was just staring at her and looked at me like-"sorry bout that" and i left. it was a pretty big blow to my self confidence, and seeing as self esteem is the root of my depression, i still remember it like it was yesterday.

I am recovering from anorexia and cosplayed Black Rock Shooter at AKon. Multiple times I was insulted for being too boney, and someone even went as far as to say I look like "a pile of foreskin". I regret allowing that person to take my power, but I left the con early and sat at home and cried for a long while. To this day I still am nervous to show skin...

It amazes me how much insensitivity there is whether it's about gender, skin color, height, weight, what have you. No one knows what someone else has been through, who are they to judge? Sounds like there are a bunch of people out there who need to buy a new filter between their brain and their mouths, and a heavy dose of sensitivity.

I cosplayed as Taiwan and I was carrying this mini backpack and I was talking on the phone with someone. My friend's (ex-boyfriend actually) girlfriend had the audacity to call me I look like a middle-aged lady. She was actually what you call a "kohai" underclassmen that I adore. But I was offended. We're pretty close, all three of us are but it kind of hurt...a lot. Especially because that was the height of my weight even though not that much. :C

People giving 'criticism' that is on something you can't control. Like your body type, or the color of a wig you just got in the mail. =___=
It's not criticism if I can't do anything about it, it's just rude.

I am recovering from anorexia and cosplayed Black Rock Shooter at AKon. Multiple times I was insulted for being too boney, and someone even went as far as to say I look like "a pile of foreskin". I regret allowing that person to take my power, but I left the con early and sat at home and cried for a long while. To this day I still am nervous to show skin...

U should've slapped that assahole, pardon the vulgar. But srsly no one should even say that. Hell it took me blood and Guts all just to Cosplay male BRS. Also Cosplayng character that show skin is going out of our comfort zone

The other main one was at A-Fest last year, I was cosplayed as Ciel Phantomhive. Two girls ran over to me and hugged me and gushed over how cute it was that such a shota boy was cosplaying Ciel. I went to thank them, but they immediately stopped hugging me, made very disappointed faces and went 'Oh...Are you a girl? We thought since your badge says 'Ken' that you were a boy...' and just walked away. I had a couple experiences similar to that at that con, and each time I didn't have any chance to explain to them. As a FtM transgender, it kind of hurt seeing their reactions to my higher pitched voice and finding out that I am, indeed, genetically female.

Eeeew.. I hate when something like that happens. I can just say I know the feeling bro.. being a FtM transgender too. Although I have a pretty gender neutral voice so most times I'm okay on that department.. but at this one con last year I walked by a girl sitting on a table, who, upon seeing me complimented my cosplay. When I was about to thank/answer her (I was cosplaying Ukitake from Bleach btw) she went from totally 1000% believing I was a genetic dude to "waitwhat, are you a girl?" and that's because I happened to speak in a sliiiiightly higher voice than I normally speak in. (because of con excitement I guess.. and caught off-guard)
I didn't even get a chance to do a quick explanation or correct her... it was just.. ugggggggh. OTL

This isn't nearly as bad as some of the ones you guys have, but the fact that he honestly meant it as a compliment made it worse. I posted a picture from the recent set of Ciel ones to dA, since I have con friends there that don't have a Facebook. Well, this guy decided to send me a note saying "Wow, you can actually cosplay Ciel. I've seen a lot of failures, nice job." Now, yes, I appreciate that I lived up to the little standards he put on Ciel cosplays, but that is a rude thing to say. 'Wow, you can actually..' implies that he may have been watching my work and thinking I'm bad earlier (I admit I was, but that's beside the point) and never thought I would get better. Not only that, but insulting every other Ciel cosplayer he's come in contact with, especially recently. This is why I only told him that the way he worded it made it more an insult and then forgot about him when he didn't reply.
It isn't that bad, but rude comments hit me twice as hard when people try to play them off or word them as compliments.

I am recovering from anorexia and cosplayed Black Rock Shooter at AKon. Multiple times I was insulted for being too boney, and someone even went as far as to say I look like "a pile of foreskin". I regret allowing that person to take my power, but I left the con early and sat at home and cried for a long while. To this day I still am nervous to show skin...

Dang, that's just cruel. :/ Those people should know when to shut it.

I'm, personally, used to those sort of comments since I do get them all the time(never in cosplay though, although I think I'm going to get some in Saber.) since I am underweight to the point that I am below the minimum weight required for anorexia(about 83 pounds) due to my incredibly fast metabolism. I found that being really direct in comments about it is the best way to go. Like, if you show that those kinds of comments don't bother you then people will usually drop it.

I am recovering from anorexia and cosplayed Black Rock Shooter at AKon. Multiple times I was insulted for being too boney, and someone even went as far as to say I look like "a pile of foreskin". I regret allowing that person to take my power, but I left the con early and sat at home and cried for a long while. To this day I still am nervous to show skin...

Please don't let people like this get to you! Truth is, people will judge you based on your body type and have something nasty to say NO MATTER WHAT. If it's that you're too thin or too thick or too flat or too busty, there is no safe inbetween that somebody won't have something to say something bad about.

Cosplay who you like and please don't let people like that get to you. U__U I've recieved simular comments and it is sorta hurtful at times but best thing to do is ignore nasty comments like that.

Its true (from what Ive seen anyway) People DO seem to react more when you try to ignore them. I think its because they dont expect you to stand up for yourself or something

It's because they get mad you're not feeding in to their stupid petty comments. So they react more and end up looking like more of an idiot than yourself if you help start a scene. I also live by the "you have no idea who that person is or what they're capable of" rule. You don't know if that person is one insult away from causing you harm or all bark and no bite.

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Actually most people end up shutting up if you holler back and get louder and ruder when you ignore them. I learned in my self-defense class that people who demonstrate verbal self-defense before any sort of physical attack happens deter violent offenders about 85% of the time.

It never ceases to blow my mind how some people can just be utter dickbutts. Online, yea that's one thing whatever. But to someones face? Good god.

I do have a story, not so much rude but just...off putting and...weird. At AUSA a friend and I were cosplaying from adventure time and some girl (looked about 15? Maaybe 16?) Made a bee line straight for my friend who was dressed as Fionna and said "I just saw four other Fionnas." We just looked at her, not entirely sure whether or not it meant anything. Then she proceeded to tell my friend how the other girl was better because she used her real hair. I told the girl it wasn't a competition and she just ... floated away. Sure my friend was upset about that but I just felt odd, like I didn't know what just happened.