Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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1 question keeps going around in my head.....
i didnt say NO once.... but when friends/family talk about it with me they say rape.. and when i say no it wasnt rape they keep telling it is.... i was 14 the man was 42... what would you call it rape or underage sex... and if it was undersex why is everyone making a big deal about it and why do i get the emotions that every1 eles on here has?

if you wanted to have sex with the man and didn't tell him no then technically it isn't considered the standard definition of rape. however, in most states it is statutory rape which is also punishable by prison time if your parents persue it.

I think it's &quot;rape&quot; because you were 14 and he was way older!!! I don't know the circumstance under which you guys got together but it seems that he may have taken advantage of you and manipulated you into a physical relationship.

Hey Libby!
I guess the question is do you feel like you were taken advantage of? I think that he is definitely at fault because he was the adult. He had NO business messing with you and he should be in jail. As to how you feel about it... don't let anyone tell you how you feel.. be that good or tough emotions ok? You are your own person and beautiful and intelligent in your own right. You can make your own decision.

he was the adult in the situation. he should have known better. Ophra Winfrey said if you are a child and you are butt naked it is still not your fault. I agree with her. It pisses me off when an adult takes advantages of a child or teenager.

Okay so I was watching oprah's after the show things, ha!, anyway, and she mentioned that she never really said no, but that that was because he seduced her. At first her uncle was just tickeling her, and then he raped her, but she didn't scream or say no or anything because the guy had her trust. No fourteen year old girl wants to have sex with a 42 year old. Watch this video, I hope it helps it helped me. You can talk to me anytime

Forget Oprah, you are smart enough to recognize that you are feeling all the things here and it was wrong....very wrong. Why the hell would a man in his 40's have sex with a 14 year old girl? Pedophile maybe? Sick bastard? Whatever....it was illegal to say the least and apparently it affected you. So forget the semantics and talk to someone who can help you deal with all those questions you've got going around in your head.

i too was &quot;not raped&quot; in the legal sense by a 39 year-old man when i was fourteen. He did not force himself upon me physically. I did not say &quot;No&quot;. What did happen was that he emotionally blackmailed me into having a physical relationship with him in exchange for his love and attention. If I didn't give him my body he, would take away the only thing I really wanted from him, Love. He was my friend and father figure at a time when I had No One who seemed to care about me. He knew that I was desperately needing a friend at 14 and used my lonliness as a place to act out his sick sexual preferences for those weaker than he.
Yeah it's Rape. If it has hurt or damaged you emotionally, spiritually or in any other way, and you know in your heart he was a grown man who wasn't supposed to ask these things of a child/young underage teen, It's Rape. don't you think for one minute that you don't have a right to your feelings or that they are less real than anyone elses feelings. I am now 37 and I still suffer from the mess he left me in.
I'm so glad that you are talking, asking questions.

you are having the same feelings as the rest of us because you were raped. statutory rape. you were only 14 and not mentally capable of making such a decision, whether you thought you were or not. that man took advantage of you.

I never said no and was a willing participant that in no way makes it right. I was just a child and it's all I knew. You were just a child and he was way old enough to know better. I completely agree with pinkarh....

I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...

Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel

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