Coping with pregnancy loss

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This was my third pregnancy and first miscarriage. It's been very difficult, but I also know that God doesn't give us trials if he thinks we can't handle them. My daughter's heartbreak is unbearable, they were so excited but I just told them that God needed another angel in Heaven.

Im 20 years old and i just found out i was pregnant and i had a miscarriage. I had never been pregnant before and i just was in extreme pain. I went to the hospital and my partner and mom were there, even though my baby was a fetus it still hurts equally as bad if it would have been bigger. Me and my partner are both struggling to learn how to grief with since its such a tramatic situation. Since this happened my very first pregnancy i will be a little worried about having to go through this in the future.

I just experienced a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Although I expected bad news when I got to the doctors office it was still very hard to take. I am thankful my husband is so supportive and we have open communication. We will never know why it happened but something was not right and He chose to take it to heaven. We will try again, in time.

vricapito, Wounds heal but never go away. I have had 3 losses 2 chemical and one second trimester (which I still feel the hardest and I lost her in 2005). The best thing you can do is talk about it. Find a group like the article says talking about it with those that are going through the same pain helps a little. I don't know why your friends who have had their own losses are so non-understanding. I do know I did not know how devastating it was until it happened to me. I do not wish pregnancy loss on my worst enemy.

I was 5 weeks pregnant when I miscarried in November 2012. I got pregnant in less than ideal circumstances and the father wouldn't have been in the picture, but the baby would have been mine and I was so happy. Now I feel completely alone. Two of my friends who have had miscarriages don't understand why I am so upset. I have been crying a lot and am very depressed. I can't even stand to see a pregnant woman now, which is unfortunate because 4 of them are in my office. I know I wasn't far a long in the pregnancy, but it was real and now I feel empty. When will this get better?

I recently lost my baby at almost 35 weeks. As of now we are still waiting for results as to why, if there are any. I was told by my doctor that there may be no answer, that these things just happen with no rhyme or reason. It totally sucks, to prepare to be a parent, to love your baby so much even before she's actually here. It's incredibly hard. My daughter was born on January 6th and since then our days are up and down. Just attempting to reach to anyone else going through a terrible loss like this.

I lost my first baby last Thursday at 12w6d. It's been very difficult for me. One of the worse things is to be told to not let it get to me. Another is to be given suggestions on how to conceive the next time, i.e. what drugs to ask a GYN for, what fertility monitor to use, even to be offered the use of one. While they have "moved" on, I'm still crying for it. Just because this baby wasn't seen, felt, or held by anyone, it doesn't mean it didn't exist and that it wasn't already special me.

I lost my baby boy Raphael after 5 months of pregnancy. At the 20 week echo they found severe placental insufficiency. The placenta was a third of what it should have been... Raphael was more like 16 week bay... I was told either I wait to miscarry at home or we perform a pregnancy interuption... After being induced, he was born on november 22nd. I love you little guy, you were with us for just a short period of time but the impact you had on us is an incredible feat!

I lost my baby on Dec. 28th 2012. I was 13 weeks pregnant and thought I was in the clear as far as miscarriages go. I have four healthy kids at home and as much as I know I am blessed and love my kids, people just don't seem to understand it doesn't make the pain of losing this child any less b/c I have other kids! I have never felt such pain in my life and am terrified of trying again! I am worried that my body my have failed this child and that my body may be unable to carry any more babies to term! My baby was alive with strong heartbeat when my water broke and my body threw my perfect little baby out! Truly Heartbroken!!

I lost my on monday 17 december 2012 at 6 months. at my u/s on monday 17, my doctor told me there was longer a heartbeat. I was rushed to a pulic hospital where they induce me and the contraction was the worse pain I ever feel in my life. I was feeling pain from 6:30pm to 12:30am..thats when my little girl started to make her way out (Tessa Nia Villafana) I will always remember and love you. I took pictures of my little girl but I will never ever forget the pain. Yes it happened that fast. I am so thankful for my amazing husband who supported me through time of needs.

I lost my baby Friday at 10 weeks. I had previously had 2 u/s b/c my dr. Kept telling me my dates were off and the heartbeat needed to speed up.. At my u/s Thursday the radiologist old me our pregnancy was no longer viable, there was no longer a heartbeat and the baby only measured 6.5 weeks. I began to spot that morning and was scheduled for a d&c the next morning. My dr told me it would feel like cramping and a heavy period of I started to miscarry naturally. That night I was in agonizing pain an began passing small clots. When we got to the hospital the pain was unbearable, I have an 8 yr old and the cramps were worse then contractions an were constant, I passed a very large clot and had a panic attack. Luckily I was in the right place and medicated immediately. After the d&c I felt physically better. It's been 4 days and I still think about the pain, I just wish someone would have prepared me for it better. It happened so fast. I am grateful for the amazing support of my husband.

It is not easy and as I went through 2 MC before I feel your pain.My first came down as your second one with the sac passed at 8 weeks and I also fell pregnant again within 2months. The second had to be removed due to the heart stopping at 10 weeks.I was totaly shuttered and felt like a failure. It even almost cost me my marraige. I placed all my focus on regaining my husband and when that was mended I found out a few weeks afterwards I am pregnant again...fear struck me hard as I remembered the first 2 MC. every itch and tweek made me pannic. (this was about 10months after the last mc.) I studdied every book and topic on pregnancy and what to do and what not, untill I just gave in and gave it up to God. I said if it happend again He would carry me as He did before...and He did.He gave me the peace of mind and today I am 22w with a very healthy and active baby girl on the way. my advice wait and take it easy and keep on talking to God about your fears and wishes. keep strong

I too don't ever post comments, but one week ago today I had a miscarriage. My son is 18 years old and for me getting pregnant again was a big deal. (I am in my 30's) I was 8 weeks pregnant, yet the baby stopped growing apparently two weeks prior. My husband doesn't know what to do with me anymore, I am very grouchy and sad. I know we will be okay yet its devastating. I feel jealous and angry when I see baby things, or other people's beautiful and healthy babies, having a hard time sleeping especially since I have a pregnancy pillow, its challenging. Ughh!

I have never posted a comment before but I am feeling a huge loss. I am literally going through my 2nd mc as I type this. Here is my story: We have a beautiful 2 year old little boy which we conceived the 1st month we were trying and had no complications other than a c-section due to my son being breach. We started trying again this May thinking we would get pregnant right away. Needless to say God had other plans, as he always does!! We ended up getting pregnant in October and we were overjoyed!! I started spotting a week later and mc before I was even 5 weeks. We were told to wait one cycle before we could try again. We ended up getting pregnant right away, we were not trying so this came as a huge shock. We were so excited and thought that this pregnancy was meant to be as my husband and I were only intimate once after my mc. Today I passed what I think was the sac and I have to say I was not prepared for that. I am devastated, angry and so sad. Any words of encouragement?

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