How should I handle my girlfriend wanting me to not let my dog jump on our bed?

She hates my dog even though my dog is medium to small and won't let him sleep in bed with us. Before I met my girlfriend my dog slept in bed with me for 3+ years and I can't untrain him now. She just flips out and won't deal with anything he does and he can't jump on the furniture with me. I'm not a dog lover or anything but am I right to be a little annoyed?

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You do have the right to be annoyed, your dog was there before her, and he has a comfort in being in your bed, it's kind of unfortunate that you have to give that up. Is there anyway that you can put a bed beside yours so that you feel closer to him? Or have him sleep on your side. What's her real reason for not letting? Does she think it's unsanitary?

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She just thinks its weird but she's not allergic or anything. He sleeps on my side all the way to the left next to my feet. He isn't a cuddler but likes to be near me. He's so silent and well behaved and she doesn't even have to notice him tbh. It's my fault cause he has a small bed but I liked him sleeping with me to keep me company when I first lived away and went to college I was lonely so he helped that.

That's extremely understandable, if I was with someone who had a huge issue I wouldn't be very happy. Luckily enough when I got my dog, it was me and my partners dog so we felt mutual about it, and sometimes we made him sleep in his crate but he has that switch up to where he doesn't feel displaced. I truly don't see the problem though if he sleeps in his own little spot and doesn't bother her x

When we want to have some fun the dog isn't in the room obviously or if my girl and I cuddle over a movie he's in the family room but in everyday life where we both go to bed and just sleep and don't feel like talking the dog will stay in the bed. It's fair in my opinion.

What Girls Said 2

If you are now sharing a house with her then she has every right to not want your dog jumping on the bed and furniture. It's not like she's asking you to get rid of the dog, I don't think it's too much to ask to find him a new place to sleep. Some people don't want animals in the bed with them, obviously your girlfriend is one of those people.

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My issues is I can't untrain my dog and he will bark constantly if I lock him out so neither of HS can sleep. All the do does is lay at my feet and mind his business.

What Guys Said 4

I feel like you should have both thought about this before moving in together... I am not much of a dog person, so I just wouldn't move in with someone who had a dog! she has the right to want to live in her house as she wants, but so do you! and your dog! So in the end, it is pretty tough to tell...

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Yeah it's a complicated situation lol I never really trained my dog to sleep on the floor.

Ya I guess you would have to sleep with the door shut, but that is just not right for your dog, that could cause stress for it believe it or not, it thinks it has dome something wrong...

but at the same time, your girlfriend will be stressed out if she is not getting the desired sleep she wants.. honestly she should have thought about this a bit more, it almost sounds like she just assumed she was going to win out over your dog, but they have feelings too...

Even still, I know myself as an animal person, I would not like that extra problem in bed. Sleep is a big deal to me and I can't explain why, but having an animal on the bed, even minding its own business would bother me... Can't say why, it just would. If I had to guess, it is because I have never had a pet and am just not a pet person.