CIO omg :(

This is killing me right now listening to him please assure me I'm not a terrible mother I just need my bed back he's been in here since he was three months I need a lone time with my bf were starting to fight to much we need intimacy

This is killing me right now listening to him please assure me I'm not a terrible mother I just need my bed back he's been in here since he was three months I need a lone time with my bf were starting to fight to much we need intimacy

Hang in there! He'll be fine! If its your first night, plan on this one being the roughest, shouldn't take longer than 4 days though. And every night he will cry a lil less. Remember to not go in and pick him up to soothe him. Don't remember how often your suppose to go in to reassure him it's bed time, but every so often I went in my DS's room and didn't turn on the light, calmly shushed and whispered I love you and that its time for sleep, and patted his tummy. It took us 3 nights. Just stay consistent! You need your bed back!!

Hang in there! He'll be fine! If its your first night, plan on this one being the roughest, shouldn't take longer than 4 days though. And every night he will cry a lil less. Remember to not go in and pick him up to soothe him. Don't remember how often your suppose to go in to reassure him it's bed time, but every so often I went in my DS's room and didn't turn on the light, calmly shushed and whispered I love you and that its time for sleep, and patted his tummy. It took us 3 nights. Just stay consistent! You need your bed back!!

We CIO several months ago. It sucked the first three nights and then BOOM. 12 hours consistently since then. Stick with it. He'll be ok and so will you. (Be prepared for it to take a bit longer with a slightly older baby than i had though. They're smart at this age and may not give in so easily as a 6-month old did.)

We CIO several months ago. It sucked the first three nights and then BOOM. 12 hours consistently since then. Stick with it. He'll be ok and so will you. (Be prepared for it to take a bit longer with a slightly older baby than i had though. They're smart at this age and may not give in so easily as a 6-month old did.)

OMG I could have wrote your post on Sunday. DS has been sleeping in our bed since 3 months and it was time.We did CIO on Sunday and it was so hard. Lucky DH held me as I cried because DS was crying for like a half hour. Then he went to sleep and only woke up once at 1 am so I fed him and put him back down and he cried again but only for like 10 min. Then Monday night he cried for 20 min. Slept until 2 am then I fed him and put him back down where he dried for a minute before falling asleep. Last night he only cried for 5 min before falling asleep and slept until 4 am! I fed him and he didn't cry when I put him back down! I will admit that I haven't been sleeping well because I keep checking on him lol but I can't believe I waited so long to do this because it has gone so well. I know it's not for everyone but it is working for us:) hang in there and give it three days and you should see improvement but it is the hardest thing I have done.

OMG I could have wrote your post on Sunday. DS has been sleeping in our bed since 3 months and it was time.We did CIO on Sunday and it was so hard. Lucky DH held me as I cried because DS was crying for like a half hour. Then he went to sleep and only woke up once at 1 am so I fed him and put him back down and he cried again but only for like 10 min. Then Monday night he cried for 20 min. Slept until 2 am then I fed him and put him back down where he dried for a minute before falling asleep. Last night he only cried for 5 min before falling asleep and slept until 4 am! I fed him and he didn't cry when I put him back down! I will admit that I haven't been sleeping well because I keep checking on him lol but I can't believe I waited so long to do this because it has gone so well. I know it's not for everyone but it is working for us:) hang in there and give it three days and you should see improvement but it is the hardest thing I have done.

Tough it out! I was anti-CIO but after almost 11 months of co-sleeping none of us were getting good sleep anymore. In less than a week we went from our LO having to fall asleep on our bed, transferring to the crib only to have him wake at 11 and come into our bed where he would toss and turn all night to falling asleep himself, no crying, at 7pm and sleeping straight through until 7-7:30am. I hear him wake, readjust and fall back to sleep sometimes and I just SMILE!

Tough it out! I was anti-CIO but after almost 11 months of co-sleeping none of us were getting good sleep anymore. In less than a week we went from our LO having to fall asleep on our bed, transferring to the crib only to have him wake at 11 and come into our bed where he would toss and turn all night to falling asleep himself, no crying, at 7pm and sleeping straight through until 7-7:30am. I hear him wake, readjust and fall back to sleep sometimes and I just SMILE!

I'm sorry but I am firmly against CIO. As a mother your job is to meet the needs if your child, this includes love, security, and human contact. He is crying because in his mind you abandoned him. Your BF is an adult and has the capacity to understand that the needs of his child comes first. Your INFANT does not have the capacity to understand why all of a sudden he is being pushed away. Go get your baby.

Also, if the only intimacy you and your BF have is in bed at night your relationship is in a lot more trouble than you think.

I'm sorry but I am firmly against CIO. As a mother your job is to meet the needs if your child, this includes love, security, and human contact. He is crying because in his mind you abandoned him. Your BF is an adult and has the capacity to understand that the needs of his child comes first. Your INFANT does not have the capacity to understand why all of a sudden he is being pushed away. Go get your baby.

Also, if the only intimacy you and your BF have is in bed at night your relationship is in a lot more trouble than you think.

To addisons mom or who ever have you been in a relationship with a farmer ? Well they aren't in the house much and it's not that my relationship is only about sex because I'll have you know hasn't happened in months the only reason why I said that my only time with him is at night is because he leaves 4am to 8 at night then I take care of my son until bed so when else would you like me to have time you tell me ....

To addisons mom or who ever have you been in a relationship with a farmer ? Well they aren't in the house much and it's not that my relationship is only about sex because I'll have you know hasn't happened in months the only reason why I said that my only time with him is at night is because he leaves 4am to 8 at night then I take care of my son until bed so when else would you like me to have time you tell me ....

@addisonsmom: everyone is entitled to their beliefs on CIO but to say her marriage is in trouble because they are only intimate at night is really a ridiculous comment. When my husband is home that's the only time we are intimate and we have no problems. I dunno when else you are supposed to be intimate when kids are involved! So I have to say that comment is really uncalled for. And I guarantee you there are lots of moms here that are only intimate at night or even at all because the first year of motherhood is certainly a trying time. And that certainly doesn't mean their marriages are in trouble!!

@addisonsmom: everyone is entitled to their beliefs on CIO but to say her marriage is in trouble because they are only intimate at night is really a ridiculous comment. When my husband is home that's the only time we are intimate and we have no problems. I dunno when else you are supposed to be intimate when kids are involved! So I have to say that comment is really uncalled for. And I guarantee you there are lots of moms here that are only intimate at night or even at all because the first year of motherhood is certainly a trying time. And that certainly doesn't mean their marriages are in trouble!!

@babymama: I don't like CIO but I do believe its necessary sometimes. There is no need for your whole family to not get sleep and you and your BF to not have intimate time. Your baby is plenty old to do sleep training and I think of you stick to it you will be successful with it. Luckily I've had LO in the crib since 3 months but I went through what you are going through with my first son. I can sympathize with your BF being a farmer, I grew up in that sort of enviornment. My dad left at 5am and got home at 7 or 8 at night and he worked hard. I personally cherish the night time in our bed with each other alone because I feel it's the only quality time we get since we have a 12 month old and a 13 year old. It's a special time and y'all deserve that. Good luck!

@babymama: I don't like CIO but I do believe its necessary sometimes. There is no need for your whole family to not get sleep and you and your BF to not have intimate time. Your baby is plenty old to do sleep training and I think of you stick to it you will be successful with it. Luckily I've had LO in the crib since 3 months but I went through what you are going through with my first son. I can sympathize with your BF being a farmer, I grew up in that sort of enviornment. My dad left at 5am and got home at 7 or 8 at night and he worked hard. I personally cherish the night time in our bed with each other alone because I feel it's the only quality time we get since we have a 12 month old and a 13 year old. It's a special time and y'all deserve that. Good luck!

Wow. Really gals? This mom came on here for CIO support not relationship advice. We all are entitled to post our opinions though. But really? Criticize a mom who is seeking CIO support? Relationship advice isn't black and white. One cannot make that kind of assessment in one post. Geesh, the other poster is unbelievable. Leave this mom alone. I apologize on her behalf since she's too judgmental and prideful to do so. As if her home is perfect. Wow.

Wow. Really gals? This mom came on here for CIO support not relationship advice. We all are entitled to post our opinions though. But really? Criticize a mom who is seeking CIO support? Relationship advice isn't black and white. One cannot make that kind of assessment in one post. Geesh, the other poster is unbelievable. Leave this mom alone. I apologize on her behalf since she's too judgmental and prideful to do so. As if her home is perfect. Wow.

There is nothing to apologize for so please don't put words in my mouth. Leaving your child do do more than fuss a few minutes is borderline child abuse. I will state my thoughts on the CIO even if it is not the popular opinion. She said "please assure me I'm not a terrible mother", I'm not going to lie and pat her aśś when she is in my opinion doing something terrible.

There is nothing to apologize for so please don't put words in my mouth. Leaving your child do do more than fuss a few minutes is borderline child abuse. I will state my thoughts on the CIO even if it is not the popular opinion. She said "please assure me I'm not a terrible mother", I'm not going to lie and pat her aśś when she is in my opinion doing something terrible.

Ok. We get it. Your against CIO! Then state your opinion and be on your way! For those moms that have done CIO and has worked for them, they should be giving words of support. I'm sure she didn't wanna hear how "cruel" it is, just wanted to see if this method worked for them. That's all!!!

Ok. We get it. Your against CIO! Then state your opinion and be on your way! For those moms that have done CIO and has worked for them, they should be giving words of support. I'm sure she didn't wanna hear how "cruel" it is, just wanted to see if this method worked for them. That's all!!!

I co-slept with dd until she was 9 months, my 2ds was also 8-9 months, & my eldest was 5 months. I decided I needed better sleep with dd & transitioned her out. For myself, I wouldn't consider CIO before 6 months but obviously you're beyond that point. I loosely happen to fall into the category of attachment parenting but Some people take things to the extreme so you know what's best with your own child. With my dd, she was used to her crib for naps (so that helped), then when I was ready we put her in at night. The first two nights or so I went in a few times until she fell asleep after about 20-30 minutes. The third night no problems. But there were nights for about a week or two she would wake at 1-2am and come to bed with me. By that time intimacy was handled. Lol. Not too long after she started sleeping 7:30- 7:30 (+\- 30 minutes) & a 2-3 hr nap usually during the day! Hope it works itself out for you guys! Good luck ;)

I co-slept with dd until she was 9 months, my 2ds was also 8-9 months, & my eldest was 5 months. I decided I needed better sleep with dd & transitioned her out. For myself, I wouldn't consider CIO before 6 months but obviously you're beyond that point. I loosely happen to fall into the category of attachment parenting but Some people take things to the extreme so you know what's best with your own child. With my dd, she was used to her crib for naps (so that helped), then when I was ready we put her in at night. The first two nights or so I went in a few times until she fell asleep after about 20-30 minutes. The third night no problems. But there were nights for about a week or two she would wake at 1-2am and come to bed with me. By that time intimacy was handled. Lol. Not too long after she started sleeping 7:30- 7:30 (+\- 30 minutes) & a 2-3 hr nap usually during the day! Hope it works itself out for you guys! Good luck ;)

I think it's great you are allowing everyone to sleep on their own. It makes for happy healthy parents and babies all around. After the fourth night when your baby just goes to sleep on their own, tonight will be like a distant memory and everyone will be well rested and happy. I believe in children sleeping in their own bed. I also think people need to do what's best for their family and just because something is right for one person doesn't make it right for another person. You are a great mom! And your baby won't even remember he cried before bed last night. It's like when he falls down and cries you distract him and he stops he doesn't remember he just cried he's on to something new. Just like he cries and falls asleep now he's on to something new. No memory of going to bed.

Keep it up it will get better and in the end you'll be happy you did it.

Our LO has been in her own crib since 6 weeks she is one happy healthy baby! She went through the wanting to get up in the middle of the night at 7 months we let her CIO for three nights and she was back to her old schedule. She now puts herself to bed after her bedtime routine and sleeps from 6:45 p to 7 a. Good luck you can do this everyone will be better for it!

I think it's great you are allowing everyone to sleep on their own. It makes for happy healthy parents and babies all around. After the fourth night when your baby just goes to sleep on their own, tonight will be like a distant memory and everyone will be well rested and happy. I believe in children sleeping in their own bed. I also think people need to do what's best for their family and just because something is right for one person doesn't make it right for another person. You are a great mom! And your baby won't even remember he cried before bed last night. It's like when he falls down and cries you distract him and he stops he doesn't remember he just cried he's on to something new. Just like he cries and falls asleep now he's on to something new. No memory of going to bed.

Keep it up it will get better and in the end you'll be happy you did it.

Our LO has been in her own crib since 6 weeks she is one happy healthy baby! She went through the wanting to get up in the middle of the night at 7 months we let her CIO for three nights and she was back to her old schedule. She now puts herself to bed after her bedtime routine and sleeps from 6:45 p to 7 a. Good luck you can do this everyone will be better for it!

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