I can't answer for springcurl, but it seems to me that a child could easily resent having their mom miss their events because she's helping other people. Of course it's good to do those things, but if I were a kid, I'd feel that my mom thought others were more important than her own family if she made a habit of not being there for plays, parties, etc.

Originally Posted by nynaeve77

Yes. And my mom actually does think other people are more important than her immediate family.

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