Cross Roads : My Life.....

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Nothing hurts more than when a person whom you’ve trusted–and even helped and done favors for, turns out to be a complete Judas. So here I am, broken and a little bit bloody, trying my best to figure out how to move forward. I’ve always had a motto: Everyone is a friend until proven otherwise. The problem with that is sometimes "friends” ingratiate themselves for a period of time until an attachment is formed, and it hurts more when you discover they weren’t friends, they were…well, "otherwise.”

Backstabbing friends are a part of life, and the act itself happens to nearly everyone at some point in life. The betrayal of a trusted friend or colleague inflicts pain and hurt.

Behaving like your best friend with smiles, a helpful attitude, and promises of loyalty and trustworthiness, the backstabber waits for the right moment and then turns on you with a vengeance. The backstabber’s ways are manipulative as they uses low-ball tactics that make you appear to be a liar, a thief or someone not to be trusted.

People who backstab tend to be insecure. Dr. Les Parrot, author of High Maintenance Relationships, lists these adjectives to describe a backstabber: "vindictive, revengeful, deceitful, conniving, resentful, and angry.” He also adds passive-aggressive behavior as another trait of the backstabbing friend or coworker.

Reasons why people backstab others range from cowardice to a need for power. The sole purpose of backstabbing is gaining the upper hand and garnering power. Backstabbing is not limited to one individual or another. One of the most famous examples of backstabbing comes from ancient Rome where Julius Caesar was stabbed 23 times by members of the Senate and his friend, Marcus Junius Brutus. As the blows fell from Brutus’ dagger, Caesar’s last words, "You too my child?” underscore the disbelief he had that a friend could backstab him.

"Sometimes friends who feel unsuccessful will drift away or cut you off when you have the success they’re longing for. Most jealousy arises when someone feels insecure or threatened — that someone will get the attention they wants. The most important thing you can do is to remember that when you handle jealousy properly, it does not have to be a disaster.”

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Torrentz is one of the most popular meta-search engines for torrents and has been operating for more than 13 years. However, Torrentz went down on August 5th 2016 for an unexpected reason. No one seems to know the actual cause for the shut down. Just two week prior to its shut down, Kickass Torrents (KAT) was also taken down by the authorities after the arrest of it’s owner, Artem Vaulin.

Now if you open Kickass Torrents, you will be shown the following message: “Torrentz was a free, fast and powerful meta-search engine combining results from dozens of search engines.”

Torrentz has shut down its search feature, not allowing anyone to access their torrent database following its shut down. If you do try to look up anything on Torrentz then you will be shown the following message: “Torrentz will always love you. Farewell.”

To give you all a little brief about the website, Torrentz.eu was started in July 2003 by one individual named Flippy. What the site did was index torrents from different portals and aggregate them at one place. This made Torrentz.eu one of the best places for torrentors as they got everything under one shed. This also helped users download torrents with multiple trackers, speed up downloads, and prevent dead links.

This is a big blow to millions of people who use to browse movies, music, and other stuff from the search engine. Along with the shutdown of Torrentz search engine, other domains related to it have also seized operation. This includes main .EU domain and its backups .ME, .CH, and .IN, as per Softpedia.

That said, it is still not known whether Torrentz will be back or not. And, what actually caused the shut down. All fingers point towards the shutdown of KAT, which led to the demise of Torrentz.

However, if you are looking for some alternatives of Torrentz, then you can use the following:

Saturday, January 2, 2016

Friendship, as Aristotle suggests, is the most immediate form of public personhood; it motivates a person for moral excellence, ennobles us to become a stronger unit for a social whole. And yet, the thing is this: the very material of friendship is the exchange of it. In friendship, sentiment is the relationship. Friendship may have a public aspect, but it is essentially a private exchange.

It is an inevitable fact that life takes people in new directions; growing apart from old friends becomes a part of our lives. There are a million reasons why a friendship may change over time. You grow older, relocate for a job, have a fight, or start having kids. But, somehow I thought that I was immune, that this was someone else’s story, that my friends would be there with me forever.

There was a new view that I could adopt in order to make sense of the changes and loss I experienced in seeing my old friendships fade. Instead, real life happened. Time and space let me grow apart from some former friends and while I forged some new friendships here or there, mostly I found myself spending a lot of time alone, wondering when I was going to find my circle, the group of people to which I would belong and instantly know it.

As it turns out, my lack of friendships wasn’t that I wasn’t making a sincere effort. It’s just that my efforts were misguided by my incorrect belief that making and keeping friends would be less complicated. Sure, you are thrown together with a grouping of peers in various different spans of life: high school, college, work. I have a handful of people who have hung on, stuck with me and are strung throughout the years of my life, the ones I can see after a length of time and resume our closeness as if nothing has changed. But mostly, I find that rare circumstance based on a combination of pure luck and forgiveness. Meeting up with someone you haven’t seen in years and having it be comfortable or even fun is saying, It’s okay that you haven’t checked in on me. It’s okay that you don’t know where I’ve been or how I’ve felt or what’s worrying me. It’s really alright that you haven’t written or called or Skyped or texted. I get it. We’re all busy. Things happen. We’re here now.

My own friendships go on changing, adjusting by degrees to demands that I won’t totally understand. X becomes a parent. Y wrestles over what a career should look like. Z’s stubborn nostalgia threatens to uproot what we still have in common. The reassuring thing is that no single law rules over us. Friendship is a return, as variable as we are.

Having people to share your life with makes the experiences you have that much more meaningful. Learning to be alone is valuable, as is learning to extend beyond yourself, getting a little uncomfortable and letting someone else in. If you can start from the ground up or uncover relationships you once deemed lost, if you can stop comparing the real world to the Real World, if you're really willing to work for it, if you can open your mind, arms and heart, you'll find the people that belong in your life.

Like Victor Frankl said - “When we can no longer change a situation, we must change ourselves.” My life lesson - expect less but give more. This one is pretty self-explanatory: if you want good friends, be a good friend first. I love my friends and all we had shared. My friends my be spread across the globe, yet I could take something from those memories, and forgive the natural ebbs and flows of life that had moved us apart. Foremost, I could forgive myself.

Monday, August 11, 2014

You certainly know when you have watched a good one, and this is what I would have to say about 'The Magic of Belle Isle'. Being a Morgan Freeman fan, I have read some of the reviews about this movie and they were not all positive. I believe if one sticks to their own styles and start to judge other styles are non-impressive, then this approach will be the result. Perhaps we all fall prey to this attitudes at times.

What first may appear to be predictable may not end in the way it will seem at the outset. This is a movie of the heart, one that has the power to tug tightly on the emotions of those who are prone to love these types of films.

I think I will watch this movie once more. This movie is not about the picturisation, acting talents or directorial excellence.(That said, I am not neglecting Morgan Freeman's or the actor's performance). To me, it was short sequences that were too real to be in the film. The dialogues and some times the monologues as well were interesting. This film is about the power of imagination, creativity and inspiration, but it is also about the way human beings depend upon each other for that magic we call a good life, a life worth living. This is one of those little gems and if you are an imaginative person, you will definitely enjoy this movie.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

July 6, 2011 - that was the last time I had posted something here. To be honest, I am shocked. Why haven't I been writing? I do admit that I have had a writer’s block, but perhaps my focus has been elsewhere. I might have lost any readers I have had over the course of this more than 2 year and a half period. May be I lacked inspiration.

A new year brings new beginnings, so I am trying this again. This is not a new year's resolution, but I am going to try to get back to blogging. I am not going to say that I am going to blog every day or every week, but slowly I will build up my presence.

About Me

I am mostly known as Kurup. You are on my weblog where I write mostly about my Thoughts and Experiences.
"Like a river my life hurries by, If I jump in perhaps I might drown. But if I don't, then my spirit could die before that change on the weather comes 'round".