9-24-09 I haven’t been able to update since the esoteric book convention. It highlights how busy my schedule has become and how problematic that can be at times. I’m not sure I like that, so I’m looking at what I can change in my life to give me a bit more time. As this elemental working winds down to a close, what I mostly feel is tired. This has been such an intense year, and the second intense year in a row. I need a break from intense years…and although it has been an intense year for me, I feel like I’ve drifted away from my spirituality to some degree in the process of doing this elemental work. And I guess that makes sense, because in some ways I’ve had to let go of everything important to me, to make this year’s emptiness working work. The path of the abyss is one where everything is sacrificed as journey through it. At the same time, I feel a kind of anticipation about the end of this one. I know all the work I’ve put in is going to payoff and that the payoff, for me, is really being able to move past so many conditioned responses and behaviors that used to hold me back. I’m tired, but I’m also at that last part of the journey, where you push through the tiredness and make it to the end, because you know its part of the journey.

9-28-09 There’s not really much to write. Unlike all the other months, what I really feel right now is anticipation, or being in the center of the eye of the hurricane. I can look around me and see everything I’ve been dealing, but also recognize where I am and know I’ve moved past everything. Now it feels more like making a choice and getting ready to move ahead, free of the rotting putrefaction I went through, because the refinement is here.

10-01-09 I’ve been playing the Force Unleashed recently. When I first started my emptiness working, I played that game a fair amount. It represented, for me, the feeling of emptiness at the beginning. It doesn’t really anymore because I no longer see emptiness as an antagonist. It’s something I can see as part of me, instead of against me.

10-02-09 I reflected today that to truly experience emptiness I’ve had, in one form or another, to really become empty, to really see everything I hold dear fall through in some form or manner, if only to convey to me the full depths of emptiness. Recognizing that everything could be taken away, that’s been hard, but useful as well.

10-06-09 On a really deep level I wonder how much this year’s working has really helped me. I’ve been exposed to what drives me toward feeling empty, come to a really good understanding of it, but I don’t feel like its really solved. There’s still a part of me that just wants to find someone, something that will somehow meet this very intangible need I have. It’s a very primal, emotive part, not something rational that can be reasoned with. And it’s likely always going to be there. I guess I’ve learned better strategies for handling it and recognizing it when it comes out…and maybe I feel a bit less driven than I did before, but I also feel like somehow I just haven’t really “solved” the core issue for me. I don’t know if I ever will. Maybe, all I’ll really come away is a better grasp of my emptiness and a better way of handling it, when it comes up in potentially unhealthy situations.

10-08-09 I woke up this morning thinking about D. D was someone I met when I was twenty. We became lovers. She was seventeen years older than I was, a gifted magician, and very experienced when it came to life, and for that matter sex. I never fully, consciously realized until now just how deeply she imprinted me, or how much the relationship not working out would affect me. The majority of women I’ve been attracted to have always had a connection to Babalon, Lililth, or a similar type of goddess, i.e. the sacred whore archetype and I think it’s because of that imprint from D. This person made a really strong impression and I never fully got to satisfy or see where that relationship would go. So I see it as the root of a lot of my longings and seeking when it came to possible partners and sex in general. I’ve been trying to find someone with this particular current for a long time but I never fully understood why that was the case. And now I do…I really understand some of my choices in a very different light now than I did before.

10-10-09 I’ve been thinking further about what I wrote above, about the person I contacted, etc. I look back at various activities, various sexual encounters and I see this particular need trace itself through most of my relationships in a manner that never fully addresses it in a satisfactory way. The two partners I ended up with in long term relationships never embraced that particular archetype of the sacred whore. And conversely I’ve put myself in situations where I could almost have that relationship with someone who embodied that archetype, but then would take it away from myself, too afraid perhaps of getting what I wanted, or perhaps just not ready. I’m tired of that pattern. I’m tired of the hurt it’s caused me and others. And while I do love my wife very much and take genuine pleasure and joy from her presence in my life, I also have to acknowledge that this current is in my life and likely always will be. It’s something I want to explore with someone, safely and sanely.

10-11-09 One of my problems or flaws is that I put expectations on a lot of experiences, people, etc. In a conversation with a friend this morning, I thought about that…really thought about how much those expectations have actually caused me to miss out on some good experiences. I know I’ve placed expectations on so much of my life, and I’m even relatively sure of where that pattern came from. I also know those same expectations create a lot of the emptiness I feel as well.

I’ve been reading the Doctrine of Awakening by Julius Evola. It looks at some of the earliest tenets of Buddhism. I’m finding a lot of it speaking to some of the struggles I’ve been experiencing for a long time. And I’ve been reminded that I’m not really drawing on all the tools available to me. But I’m not surprised by that either. I’ve needed to fall apart this year, to see my flaws up close and personal as well as understanding the cause. It’s when you know the cause that you can start at the beginning with awareness and readiness to move forward. So falling apart has been discovering the causes…and starting the healing. I’m just about ready to move forward.

She said: “all you have to do is look around you and really see, not the image of your life but the real life. When you can define yourself alone, all the emptiness goes away” The image of my life is the desires, the expectations, the fixations, everything that haunts me because it isn’t realized. The real life is accepting how little any of that matters and how much what does matter is less about expectation and a lot more about the experience.

10-12-09: Further discussion with D, as well as thinking about something written in The Doctrine of Awakening, which stated that when a person “needs” another person they are spiritually weak. Not need as in rely on a person to back you up, but need as in codependent need, trying to find someone to fulfill something within you. As we all know by now, my emptiness working has at its core been dealing with that very issue, and on a very primal level, sex as a shadow activity can be expressed that way. Sex becomes a connection, the intimacy a doorway…the problem is it can also be addictive…it’s a drug like any other. You become a junkie, looking for your next fix. And for me, sex, like so much else, has been a way to avoid emptiness, to try and fill it up, and otherwise shut it out, but it’s always been a temporary fix. And it’s always been more about a constructed reality than an actual acceptance of this reality.

I know that now. That’s really what this year has been about, is finally, finally tracing the emptiness to every single root event and coming away with a profoundly different awareness of my emptiness in the process, as well as myself. And always going away with the awareness that I have a choice, have always had a choice, but now have more awareness in making that choice.

10-16-09 I volunteered at a play party tonight, to help out with one of the communities I’m part. After finishing up volunteering, I watched some people play and was struck with a feeling of incredible loneliness, and later a feeling of anger at myself and others for the last few years. I feel really alone. I have for a while. And a lot of it’s my own making. Seeing the fun and intimacy others were experiencing tonight just brought it home to me.

10-18-09 I ended up writing a long post about how I was feeling the other night on another site and got some useful feedback. But it also seems that the last couple of days has conspired to put me in touch with some possible interests…and I kind of laugh about that, because it’s the end of the emptiness working…and that ending is going to be opening a lot up for me. Last night I had a dream of a silver web and in the middle was a glowing orb and cracks were starting to appear in it.

10-20-09 I went and got the tattoo for Xah. The artist, Alice Kendall did an excellent job . You can see a picture below of the sigil for Xah, as well as the saying “From 0 to 1” Tonight, I went into my ritual room, and painted my body with the sigil of Xah, while vibratingh isn ame over and over again. Eventually, the fox lord came, eyes laughing, tongue lolling out. “You’ve been through a lot this year. What have you learned?”

“I’ve known myself at my weakest, all my faults, flaws, and reactions exposed to myself. I’ve known myself at my strongest, confident, secure in who I am, able to achieve anything. And I’ve known myself as a mixture, and I am humbled by everything I’ve experienced. And I’m ready to move from 0 to 1, from a place of reactions to the past and old wounds, to a place of conscious decision and acceptance of the consequences.”

Then I, for a while, just meditated on this last year, on what I’d learned about myself, and my choices. This has been the hardest year of my life, in terms of really facing myself, and fully coming to terms with my emptiness. I’ve had to dig up all my core wounds, come to terms with some different people and their effect on me and also more importantly come to terms with my choices and how those have really effected others. I can’t say I’m a better person, so much as I’m a much more aware person after this year, after, the last five years really…and that awareness provides me an opportunity to be much more mindful of my choices. This year has been the culmination of a lot of internal work. I don’t even recognize myself sometimes, because so much has changed…but I’m ready to embrace this person I’ve become, and let go the weight of the past.

At times I wondered if I could make it…I spoke for a while just to myself about this last year, about what I learned, about who I’ve decided to be. And then I told Xah I was ready to finish this year, and move into the next one. I decided to use a bit of sex magic and brought myself to ecstasy, and in that ecstasy gave myself to Xah again and felt him enter through the sigil I’d placed on my arm and then felt the zero crack open and from it came forth the direction I’ve chosen…then a shower to wash the paint off…and now it is the 21st my Birthday. And I’ve made it through this year of emptiness and found myself and found clarity and sanity and peace with myself. For yes, there is emptiness, but now I no longer need to fight it or run from it. Finally, finally, I have accepted it.

I read through my entries on emptiness…it’s about a good four pages worth Just re-read everything…from start to now. If you go to the categories dropdown, you can select emptiness and read every entry…go back four pages or so…start at the beginning…You’ll read a journey of this last year, of a person’s journey to find himself and find resolution and closure with an element that most of us in the West would rather ignore.

Below is a picture of the tattoo I got as a tribute to this last year.