Sacrifice our today Quote

Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow.

Let us sacrifice our today Quote Meaning

In this century, most of the parents want to educate their children so that they can have a great future in spite the high tuition fees in schools and colleges. This show how much sacrifice parents do for the well-being of their kids. Many parents use anger to discipline their kids. If you are planning to use anger, don’t do it before reading this article.

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Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow

Certainly, all parents, except the abnormal ones, have their children’s best interest at heart. Many parents think that Anger is the only instrument they can use to discipline their child. Do you use anger to discipline your kid? Many parents believe that children are afraid of their anger, and that makes them perform activities the way the mother wants.

Discipline your Kid

Before thinking to use anger to discipline your kid, parents should ask themselves ‘Are they using their anger, or is their anger is using them?’. They may think that anger is an efficient tool at their hands to discipline the children, but they may be the tool in the hands of the anger. If parents do not know how to control their anger, how can they use it effectively to discipline their child? Their children may become a victim of parent’s anger rather than being disciplined. Using anger is a difficult task as this emotion is fed into ourselves from our childhood so deeply.

How to use anger

Aristotle says that ‘Anybody can become angry – it is easy to get angry but to be angry at the right person, at the right moment and to the right degree, and in the right way and with right purpose is not within everybody’s power, and it is not easy to do.’ The mother should use anger to discipline their children like the way electricity is used in a controlled manner for domestic purposes.

However, if she got burnt when trying to administer her children, her anger therapy cannot do them good in the long run. The psychological implication of this statement is profound importance for all who are inclined to apply anger therapy on their children and on anyone else.

Use anger as Disciplinary Measure for children

In this instance, the mother was only trying to do good by using anger as a disciplinary measure. However, intrinsically anger is poisonous and contagious. When the mother herself, get genuinely angry, passes the blows of anger on her children. The children also get angry but are unable to react or protest actually. Besides, the discipline imposed by fear has only a marginal chance of becoming a well-acquired habit, because of their coexistence of suppressed, but developed hatred in the hearts of the children.
When this hatred explodes one day, even the mothers who know how to control their anger cannot use anger therapy on her grown up children and ends up being a miserable and frustrated person.

Effects of using anger on your child

Studies have proved that spanking child out of anger has a negative impact on the child development throughout their life.

Your elder kid may use the angry and violent technique on your younger kid.

Children who are punished for exploring were found to be less skilled at exploring their environment in many experiments.

Teaches them to use violence to diffuse their anger.

Trust between parent and child decreases.

Do you know that nearly 85% of children say they’ve been spanked by their parents as per the study conducted by the Journal of Psychopathology, 2007? If spanking or slapping is used sparingly to discipline child, it may not have adverse effects on child growth. But when it is used as the only measure to discipline child, the child revolts after sometime and it becomes completely uncontrollable. The dosage of affection should be mixed along with anger in order to avoid psychological issues during child development.

Parents should ponder over whether or not the permanent benefit of love and affection should be sacrificed for a temporary advantage of anger-therapy. The situation would be entirely different if the parent practiced anger-therapy on their children after learning how to overcome their anger. In that case, they would be only hissing like the cobra and not bite. Remember that effective usage of anger is difficult is for a person who has not learnt how to cope with his anger.

Using Anger to discipline may backfire on the parents. Verbal abuse and Name calling are the common ways parents outburst their anger and unknowingly disrespect their child, takes a higher personal toll. The child is fully dependent on the parent for everything as well as his very sense of self. Kids who suffer physical violence, including slapping and spanking, have been proven to have lasting negative effects in the development of the children.

Of course, all of us get angry at our children, even, sometimes, enraged. The challenge is to call on our maturity so that we control the expression of that anger, and therefore minimize its negative impact. Read more at ahaparenting.com