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Women Being Submissive

by Slacker and Steve,posted Apr 17 2013 10:48AM

Yi!

In a recent memoir written by Volleyball star Gabrielle Reece, she claims, “To truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and – look out, here it comes – submissive.”
Needless to say, this has ruffled the feathers of many people. Reece went on the Today show to defend her position. She said, “I think because women have the ability to set the tone, that the ultimate strength and showing real power, I believe, is creating that environment. I think it’s a sign of strength.’’

Slacker said that for a long time he only had one opinion of his mom because of the way his dad was raised. He said is dad was very rural and had the mindset that women belonged in the kitchen, and because of that Slacker thought his mom was kind of weak. Slacker also pointed out the fact that when the cultural mindset was women belonged in the house and should be submissive to their husbands, marriages lasted longer. He’s not saying he agrees with it, but that’s how it was. Steve said he doesn’t agree that being submissive would work in today’s society.

This one got me. And actually resonated enough to make me comment days later. My situation is such, I am a strong, independent, educated, happily married woman, and I serve my husband his dinner every night. Reasons being: we women expect men to hold our door open, pay for our meals, provide, be strong, and remain chivalrous. Women have expectations that need to be met and so do men. I think my standards have been created by my parents and grandparents, BUT, My husband and I share responsibilities, i.e. he does the laundry and I fold and put away, he takes our daughter to daycare and i pick her up. The majority of our tasks are split 50/50, but as a woman, I expect to be treated like a lady and he expects to be treated like a man. Catering to my husband is a pleasure and reinforces me as a woman, the same way that him creating a sense of safety and security for our family, reinforces his masculinity. 'Tis a beautiful thing! I completely understand where the Gabrielle's and Beyonce's come from because our parents are probably similar; their daddy's created security and their momma's created home. It's a balance.