Wwyd

Before I launch into my WWYD , please dont respond if you are going to me negative or judge me..

I am married and im not happy- i know i have posted threads in the past about this and about leaving him and i really want to but im too scared to because so many people will get hurt by my decision- My FIL , my parents who think of H as their son and of course H. He thinks theres nothing wrong with out marriage but to me there is. Im so unhappy and so sick of feeling this way. We are more like housemates than partners and its hard..
I can almost afford to leave if i share a house with someone. Im not earning enough yet to afford my own place.

My kids from my previous marriage have left home now and for the past 25 years I have always been married and a mum - I want to be single - i dont want to be tied to someone and now the kids dont need me like they did, i feel like im still trapped and i want to run...

so WWYD in my situation- stay out of a sense of loyalty to a man who has supported you through so much but you arent in love with anymore and you cant hurt parents and in laws

I haven't read your other posts so don't know the back ground.
1. Maybe talk to him first so it's not a shock to him if you do end up needing to go to make you happy
2. Maybe you could go away somewhere for a while to give yourself an idea of what living by yourself will be like.
3. Otherwise go be happy and don't worry about everyone else's reactions that is there problem not yours
Anyway just my thought process good luck and go be happy with whatever you choose we certainly can't tell you what to do ☺

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Go and be happy. My parents separated after 29 years of marriage and it was the best thing they ever did. Dad didn't want mum to leave but he is so much happier now and all the family have got over it. Dad is still a part of mum's family and comes to birthdays and Christmas.

I'd leave. your heart's not in the marriage and life is too short to stay put.

you've also posted previously about disrespectful things he does to you so this would definitely add to the need to cut and run.

you get one life Louise, do it on your own terms. you've done the "right" thing and put everyone's needs above your own for so long and you're at this point, unhappy with your current situation.

of course people will be unhappy with your decision if you leave. I don't think anyone, ever, left a marriage and didn't upset a few people. but this isn't about what other people say or think. it's about you.

I sense your struggle is between keeping others happy and staying true to your own heart. I think you've ignored your heart's desires for so long and busied yourself with meeting the needs of others for so long, that you feel terrible if you were now to listen to what your heart wants as it likely means "letting everyone else down".

I think if/once you can overcome this way of thinking, which is really all that's keeping you put by the sounds of it, you'll be free to soar.

I think you need to stay true to you and if that means leaving, then I think that's what you need to do.

huge hugs, I know this is not an easy decision for you and I know you've struggled with this issue for some time. I hope you find a resolution to it and happiness xx

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