I'm in a great place in my life. I have everything and more than I could ever wish for. Everything is stable and I am surrounded by great people. I have security that can keep me calm at night. I have moments to rest and just breath for a moment.

At the same time, I feel lack of validation. I always need something more, not only from the world but from myself. I am telling myself that I am not enough, it's bananas. I need to quit and I know it, I'm trying to enjoy it all step by step.

1. Many things are telling me that my own willpower can't drive me to the finish-line. I need someone else or something more.

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Hello there, I'm sorry for not being active here but I've been trying to figure some stuff out. Here I am now, and if you're still here, I want to wish you a happy new year and share my opinion on new years resolutions.

A lot of people want to believe that New Years eve is an opportunity to change yourself. That, I consider horse-apples! (a nicer version of bullshit) Change is nothing you can decide, change much like oblivion, is unavoidable. We change all the time, but somehow we always remain the same in the end. So my point is, you should not set yourself up for a year of brutal change, cause you're setting yourself up for a huge letdown. It's actually more positive to set up new years resolutions that improves the shell you are already born with. Try thinking of yourself as a kanvas rather that could use some work, rather than an old diary filled with mistakes that you just wanna throw away. This way, you can feel at peace with having issues, and you're aware that there will always be things that you can improve about yourself. Wanting to change really drastically is a sign of self loathing, and not being happy with yourself- that is a mindset that needs to be improved. If you don't love yourself fully, firstly -Welcome to the club. Secondly, this is nothing that can be changed with a flatter stomach or acceptance from other people, this is about you needing to realize different things about yourself.

A GUIDE TO GETTING TO KNOW ONESELF BETTER, AND BE AT PEACE WITH YOUR OWN PERSON this is coming from a 15 year old teen who possibly knows nothing about anything but since I'm trying to appreciate myself I am gonna go ahead and try anyways

1. Spend some time alone, perhaps outside, or go to the movies. This is a way of feeling independent, although it can be boring at times but it is really important that you can be alone with your thoughts and taking time out of your life to be with just you. This way you feel less alone when you used to feel really abandoned.

2. Journal, keeping a journal at all times, not just a "diary" (don't get me wrong diaries are great!) but a scrappy journal that you can write down things in everyday life will perhaps make you feel more compatible to handle the new day. What you decide to write in the journal is up to you. Perhaps it will be filled with To Do-lists or quotes from every day conversation, or rage, or sarcasm. Keep the doors open. *Keeping a journal is something that I myself really have felt is a helpful way to list things and therefor keeping my brain elevated and busy. I like that.

3. Music, if music isn't your thing, that's fine but my personal preference is that music really helps me to be at peace. I like old music, for example, the Beatles just had their albums released on Spotify. These are my favorite songs from their new release - Let it be, Give peace a chance, Here comes the sun, Penny lane, Imagine, Blackbird, All you need is love.

4. Good people surrounding yourself with characters that make you feel nice about yourself is key. Although, not all good people make you feel good so just really listen to your gut. How you feel after being with them, how do you feel? If no nice people are to be found, look again or wait. But don't close your mind to quick, teens tend to throw a lot of shade before getting to know the person they're shading. I know. People will surprise you. Now that we live in a time were online identities and followers mean more than ever before it is hard to know what is real. But it is okay not to want to be a part of that whole world. Just think of it as this- If the earth's WiFi is shut down, what will you have left? Work on that instead of how your ruccola/avocado/vegan-dish looks on instagram.

5. Be open to influences Being inspired is a great thing, and finding people who inspire you is really nice. I would recommend influences of all kind. Example- http://www.rookiemag.com - a website for teens with such amazing spirit it's crazy. Another example of where you can find great influences is your family, perhaps your little sibling or your great aunt Bertha. Maybe somebody who's a well known personality like an artist or actor/youtuber or Oprah. But be careful and try to be inspired rather than jealous.

6. Save your goals and wishes Never forget where you're heading, write down what you want to work on. These are some of my new years resolutions:

-Work ambitiously

-Travel

-Read more

-Put things in perspective, have self distance

7. Handle every day like a champ! It can be helpful to write some advice to keep your cool through the day. Every day can be a new struggle. I've saved advice for myself in a little jar, filled with things to think about if the day hits me too hard.

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I don’t know if I have a style, I try being a godess with an aura and aesthetic to inspire, but I’m still finding my way. I don’t even know where to begin, style to me, sounds like a phenomenon that could cover everything from the way I walk to the way I talk. I believe that style is what we choose to do with the groove and jiggy inside of us.

If we’re talking clothing, I’m open to new ideas as well as playing around with styles from back in the day. The 80’s especially, I’m a huge film fan and clothes from my favorite movies tend to inspire my style a lot. Movie-classics like The Breakfast club, Footloose, Pretty in pink, Grease, Moonrise kingdom and Cry baby (the list goes on) are all movies with characteristic clothing that seem fun and refreshing to me since I wasn't around for those eras.

I’m not about buying something because it’s popular or expensive. I’d rather grow my own style without trying to fit the mold of an accepted and ”well thought of” gal. In fact, I prefer to acquire my clothes second hand. Partly for a personalized and unique outfit at great value, but also for the sake of our environment.

Something else that brings my groove forward is this thing called music. My particular taste in music is impossible for me to define. I listen to everything from country to hard rock. On my ”Good Shit” Spotify list you’ll find artists like - U2, Queen, Beyonce (aka Queen B), Dolly Parton, Fleetwood Mac, Disney soundtracks (big time!) and Robyn etc. As you can see it’s quite eclectic. I’ll pretty much eat anything that comes my way. Certain music makes me feel like the entire world is a music video- I recommend The Black Eyed Peas for a ultimate music video-like experience.

Style is a wide subject, and I could go on for pages to get into the more abstract views on it. But I think that it’s simply about an aura, what makes you ”feel the feels”, what motivates you to be the very best of you. I certainly find it hard to be secure in my own skin without caring for others opinions of me, but I’m trying to care less and I’m trying to be as weird and awesome as possible without feeling insecure.