The Worshipped/Serviced (WS). Bow to the shrine, which is his/her stunning looks and/or physique. Bodybuilders tend to fall into this category.

The Putter-Downer (PD). He/she needles, ridicules, and finds fault with your lifestyle–and your very essence. “Why are you wearing THAT?”, “Why do you live THERE?” You should say, “Why don’t you get the hell away from me?”

The User (TU). The Vulture. The Shark. Duplicitous. Malicious. Amoral.

Each partner honestly, openly and effectively communicates with one another. This leads to staying engaged in each other’s life.

Each partner manages conflict constructively. The key is “Right-Fighting:” being open to compromise, no fighting “below the belt.”

Each partner functions as part of a couple without losing his/her individuality. Both of you had separate lives before coming together. Strike that right balance.

Have BIG fun together! No explanation needed.

Each partner does his/her part to maintain an energetic, vibrant and ultimately satisfying sex life. Be adventurous, be kinky!

The mission of each partner must be to satisfy the needs of the other. If not, the unsatisfied individual will seek gratification elsewhere. Every day ask, “What can I do to make my partner’s life better?”

Now, let’s say you’ve been a couple for a while, and you’re frustrated that the “Fiy-ah Factor”(desire and passion) has all but dissipated. You’re worried that your relationship might die on the vine.

What do you do?

I’ve got the answer! It’s the “Evans Edict,” my six-part plan to get your union back on the right track. Ready? Here goes:

(1) Create a relationship ritual. Set in stone a commitment of time to be together that’s non-negotiable.

(2) Be adventurous, be spontaneous. Do something you both have never done as a couple—boxing, sky diving, etc. “Do the do” at different times, in different places.