Overwhelmed, did he show emotions

Hi everyone I'm 31 weeks and I'm starting to feel overwhelmed.. my pregnancy was unexpected and being a FTM (first time mom) i wouldve thought it wouldve gone more positive at almost 28 years old. I'm afraid of everything labor becoming a parent and all. My BF (breastfeed, or boyfriend) i can tell hes even more afraid then I am about the situation and althou we have accepted it i think as time gets closer his nervous are transpassing on to me. Do men show any emotions during birth? I feel we both have had a hard time connecting with the pregnancy since it unplanned but i feel more of a connection since the baby moving literally makes my day.

Is the saying true, a man becomes a father once he physically sees the baby. I feel man are so logical and need to see things to believe it.

I think I'm just overall afraid of it all. Suggestions that helped you along the wait?

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I’m a FTM (first time mom) as well and although we just got married in March and due Dec 12th it was totally unexpected for us. We wanted to wait a year but I can say my DH (dear husband) has been so amazing and loves his belly and baby girl so much! I think he’s nesting becaouse he wants everything perfect and we couldn’t be more excited! I do think once baby comes maybe he will be more enthusiastic and show more emotion! Everyone is different or try talking to him and ask him

DH (dear husband) was 26 and I 23 when our son was born. He didn’t show too many emotions through pregnancy aside from being really happy he got a boy coming from a family full of girls. Labor he was pretty out of it. I thought he was gonna poop himself at some point he was so terrified. Takes men a little bit longer to adjust I suppose. We grow them inside us for 9 months and have time to bond and adjust. For them it’s just like “boom, here’s your baby. Bond”

DH was 26 and I 23 when our son was born. He didn’t show too many emotion...

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10/29/2018

DH was 26 and I 23 when our son was born. He didn’t show too many emotions through pregnancy aside from being really happy he got a boy coming from a family full of girls. Labor he was pretty out of it. I thought he was gonna poop himself at some point he was so terrified. Takes men a little bit longer to adjust I suppose. We grow them inside us for 9 months and have time to bond and adjust. For them it’s just like “boom, here’s your baby. Bond”

Love your story!! Weare also expecting a boy which has him feeling exciting

My DH (dear husband) took some time to accept the pregnancy with our daughter was real because ***trigger warning*** we'd lost 4 before we got the heartbeat for her. Each ultrasound (we probably had 20+ with her) we'd both hold our breath thinking it'd be another gone but she made it. He really started to try to connect after 32w when he could feel her through my anterior placenta. When she was born he was in love and for maybe the 3rd time ever he cried in front of me. He's been wrapped around her finger for 2 years now even when it's bad like this morning when she vomited on him... he still takes it like a champ just wanting her to be ok.

My DH took some time to accept the pregnancy with our daughter was real bec...

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10/29/2018

My DH took some time to accept the pregnancy with our daughter was real because ***trigger warning*** we'd lost 4 before we got the heartbeat for her. Each ultrasound (we probably had 20+ with her) we'd both hold our breath thinking it'd be another gone but she made it. He really started to try to connect after 32w when he could feel her through my anterior placenta. When she was born he was in love and for maybe the 3rd time ever he cried in front of me. He's been wrapped around her finger for 2 years now even when it's bad like this morning when she vomited on him... he still takes it like a champ just wanting her to be ok.

With our first, I would be so disappointed DH (dear husband) seemed to not be as interested in our DD (dear daughter) as I was, and then it was time to give birth...he was so nervous all the way up to delivery and once he saw his baby girl, he was so overwhelmed with emotion he actually stepped away into the bathroom because he thought he was going to throw up 🤢 (I know gross)

Now, this little girl is his everything. He was so proud to become a dad, he would show off baby girl to anyone he could. I feel that when she was born, it was the moment when it became real and he realized he was a dad and not before.

With our first, I would be so disappointed DH seemed to not be as intereste...

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10/29/2018

With our first, I would be so disappointed DH as I was, and then it was time to give birth...he was so nervous all the way up to delivery and once he saw his baby girl, he was so overwhelmed with emotion he actually stepped away into the bathroom because he thought he was going to throw up 🤢 (I know gross)
Now, this little girl is his everything. He was so proud to become a dad, he would show off baby girl to anyone he could. I feel that when she was born, it was the moment when it became real and he realized he was a dad and not before.

Your story gave me hope so happy to hear positive stories like this thank you for sharing

Df really just went with the flow of pregnancy with our first daughter. It was kind of unrealistic for him. Then when I was in labor he showed more emotion than I would've thought, he was beyond excited and when she was born he literally cried harder than me.

My husband hasn’t been really into either of my pregnancies. He’s a little detached, not overly excited or involved. But he is a GREAT daddy to our son. He’s very attached and protective. I think he just doesn’t connect until he can really participate.

When i was pregnant with DD (dear daughter) me and bf were not close what so ever we constantly fought so he never rubbed my belly he never got a chance to be close to me while i was pregnant . Once i had my daughter it was like all that just disappeared he fell in love with her and they are pretty close . With this pregnancy he is so close to me , hes always cincered if i ate or he doesnt let me do anything on my own . Sometimes i get sad because i wish we would have been this close with my last pregnancy but i am more than happy were close now . So the answer to your question is yes most likely he will show more emotion after baby is here.

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