To tell this woman to f**k off?

Background: My daughter is 20m and has had physical and mental delays with walking and speech due to a diagnosed problem. Most of my friends children who're the same age as mine have been walking for between 6 and 12 months, so it's very emotional for me with a delayed child.

Unexpectedly as we thought it was a few months away. my daughter took her first steps on Friday. My husband and I were obviously delighted and surprisingly I caught her steps on camera as I was recording the cat doing something and it just happened. I of course posted it to Facebook as I have family and friends who live either abroad or not close enough to see us regualrly who're interested in her progress. I wasn't expecting to get the response I did to the post - 51 likes and 20 comments I don't post often anyway.

H, has a daughter who's 13 months. She's obviously a very proud mother and I respect that. My daughter didn't crawl until 14 months, on the same day her daughter, then 7 months old, started crawling as well. We both posted videos and again mine got a big response. She asked me to remove my video as I was taking the shine away from her daughter who was actually developing correctly I ignored her.

Hs daughter started walking last week, although I didn't know this as I stopped her posts from appearing in my news feed along with several other people I'm friends with because it was upsetting me seeing children reach milestones on time knowing my daughter was so far behind. Today she's messaged me again. I'll copy word for word what was said but remove names:

"Hi (my name), it's great that (my daughters name) has started walking but please can you remove your video of her? (her daughters name) also started walking last week and hardly anyones seen it and I don't think it's fair on her that your child gets all the likes, it's not (her daughters name)s fault that (my daughters name) has been behind, and you shouldn't be using that to gain popularity. Other people tell me they don't want you posting stuff about the delays either. If you don't remove it I'll report it to Facebook and get it taken down. Also there's no need to tag your daughters Nursery in it, I'm sure the owner of the Facebook page doesn't care*

Also do you mind just liking the video of (her daughters name) walking as you've got a lot of followers so other people will see it and then like it as well.

Thanks"

*The Nursery have always said that if a child who attends the Nursery achieves something or does something at home they want to see and know about it, so tagging them on Facebook is one way to let them know, particularly as my daughter only goes 3 days a week so does loads outside of that time. The page is run by the owner, but is posted on by Room Managers who often reply to comments and tags individually so I know it'll be seen by the right staff.

The Nursery my daughter goes to is amazing and everyone tries to get their child in. I managed to get my daughter in before they got a long waiting list. H used to work there so thought she'd get her daughter into the Nursery based on that but unfortunately couldn't. Her daughters name is still on the waiting list but is quite far down it so looks like she won't get in before H goes back to work, so think there's a bit of jealousy there.

AIBU to tell her f**k off? I'm so immensely proud of my DD (dear daughter) for her walking 2 months before expected, and it's obviously of interested to some people as I got such a large response to the post. She's taken the shine off what should of been one of the best moments of my childs life.

Comments (310)

First of all congratulations. Sounds like your little one is doing really well if you weren't expecting walking for months yet. Secondly, tell that narcissistic bitch to go fuck herself. Fb won't take it down as it's been reported once so your lo achievements should still show.if it happens multiple times they might but it will only be until someone has looked at it and made a judgement on whether it's breaking any rules.

Sorry but I actually laughed at the message she sent you, I can't believe she had the cheek to actually say that to you as if you were gonna do exactly as she told you! No wonder she's lonely if that's her attitude. I'd ignore her, it'll wind her up more.

Never heard anything so ridiculous. Her ignorance is inbelievable and, if I was in the mood to be a complete cow, I'd be tempted to screen shot that message and post it for all the world to see (dont actually do this!). Ignore

I'm only on page 4 of comments, but wow. What a strange woman. I'd defriend and ignore. Or say something like, "Goodness me. What a strange request. I think we should be happy for each other. I'm worried about you. Are you okay? All my love, -----"

My grandma used to always say that the worst thing you can do to mean people is be really nice. Drives them crazy. :-D

You are being WAY too nice about this woman. Don't let her away with treating you this way and don't let her away with thinking what she sent you is fine or in any way normal or acceptable for a decent, rational person to do.

I'd screenshot her message and share it publicly but you don't sound like the type to to that far! Don't just back down though. Don't let her think she can walk all over you.

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