I completely agree!! My husband has recently taken to calling sex "making love" and he doesn't understand why I think it's so gross and weird!! I almost always end up giggling like a pre-teen when he says it and he gets upset that I'm not taking his "sexy" seriously :) If he'd only just call it sex like an adult I wouldn't giggle!

haha, this is so funny, Joanna! i'm totally with you, it is THE grossest saying. it is just too smooth and also sort of old-fashioned. the Dutch equivalent ('vrijen') is just as bad (i literally cannot say it). ICK! :)

Hahahaha! "Making love" is such an awkward phrase - especially if used before saying "I love you" to someone. On the other hand, I find the phrase "I have taken a lover" wonderful, and have tried to incorporate it into everyday conversation.

i thought i was the only one who thought this! i've never actually acknowledged to others how much this phrase grosses me out, but it really does. i have never found it romantic or sensual, just gross.

Sometimes I just say stupid stuff to Jim to see what kind of reaction he will have. For instance, it's not unusual for me to say, "Hellooooooo, lover." Also, I sometimes quote lyrics from songs, (Especially Boyz to Men's "I'll Make Love to You" and Faith Hill's "Let's Make Love") just to see what happens. Nothing is more hysterical than the look on his face when I suggest that we "make love. All night long. Until all our strength is gone"PS: Moist. That's a word that grosses me out.

Wanna know something weird? I used to hate it, and laughed at it when I heard it. 'Who says that sincerely??' I thought. But then...I had this boyfriend. And he would say it, very pleadingly and sexily, and it became my favorite way to say it. Now I'm with someone else, and it doesn't feel right to say anymore. The magic vanished.

In my both languages we use "make love" when we're talking about sex with love, so it's not a gross phrase for anyone. "Hacer el amor/ fer l'amor" (spanish/ catalan) is the sweetest phrase. When we want to sound gross we say "follar" ("to fuck"), sorry to be so explicit. Well, you see, it's different in every language/ culture. ;)

Whenever people use that term, I always think of a line that was in one of the Harry Potter books.. There's a song called A Cauldron Full of Hot, Strong Love, and since I knew about HP before I knew about sex, that is what I associate "making love" with. Not cute.

I am French and I feel the exact same about "Faire l'amour" as you guys feel about "make love" I think it's theeeee worst ! I think I would actually get embarrassed if I had to say it! hehe but glad you guys like it!

I never thought about it until now, and now after watching the video, the phrase seems to have lost meaning. Like when you say the same word over and over again until it doesn't even sound like a word anymore.

I may be the extreme minority here... but not only did this make me laugh so hard, it made me realize that I don't know if I've EVER said this and I am going to try it out tonight. Also, my boyfriend of 10 years is going to now officially be my "lover."(long time reader, first time commenter!! Love your and Alex's writing!)

I'd rather say "have sex" or "f**k"...short, sweet and to the point! DH says "getting close"...don't know where that came from! I don't love it, but then again, we didn't meet until we were in our early 50s, so there's a lot of history on both sides!

I'm French, and my friends sometimes say "faire l'amour" speaking of a one night stand, which I dont understand at all! I'm ok with it as long as it's with a lover!

And I think in French we miss a common phrase like "have sex" or "fuck" so I sometimes say "faire du sexe" to feel understood but that's completely improper. (we can say "baiser" but that can sound really gross!).

Yikes, that's hard to watch! haha. I'm reading a book that takes place at the turn of the 20th century, and they use the phrase "make love" to mean showing adoration or flirting. It freaks me out every time!

Haha, ever since I read Susan Monk Kidd's (I think that's her name) "The Mermaid Chair," ( I was 13 or so) where she says "make love" almost every other page, I hate it! It just stood out to me so much and felt so weird and gross and fake and whiny and... lol ugh I hate it! Luckily no one's every tried to say it seriously to me!

I agree, totally creepy and gross. It was ruined for me when my mother used it during her "sex talk" with my sister and I. That was the phrase she used, over and over again, while explaining all the details. Grody!

Totally agree. Equally as creepy (although I feel guilty picking on him!) my uncle used the phrase "cherished lover" to describe my aunt when she passed. I was like OMG why can't he just say beloved wife? I mean I get it, and I am an adult.. but really? Miso childish.

I KNOW!! as much as i hate it, it is such a perfect description of good sex with the person you love. what is a better way/phrase to describe it?! i cant think of one. but i do hate saying Making Love - so cheesy!

HA! Yes! When I was a kid and got the birds & the bees talk, I couldn't stop giggling whenever my parents said 'make love." So I made up "ML" to stay instead. My entire family just said "ML" my entire childhood. I'm so glad to hear other people think it's creepy too!

HA! Yes! When I was a kid and got the birds & the bees talk, I couldn't stop giggling whenever my parents said 'make love." So I made up "ML" to stay instead. My entire family just said "ML" my entire childhood. I'm so glad to hear other people think it's creepy too!

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