Love the Way We Bitch

To my friend that is a new-ish Mom

Stop telling me, "Oh, you don't understand because you don't have a baby!" Or, "When are YOU going to have a baby?" Since when does someone have to pop a baby out of their vag to realize that a 10 month old baby should not be eating sodium-packed processed foods? Also, what makes you think I want to have a baby? I'm not even in my mid-twenties yet. I'm still in university, and I'm not in a serious or loving relationship. What the fuck do I want with a kid, I can't even support myself yet. Oh wait... the same goes for you. You get government money and the father of the baby treats you like shit. You stay with him because you think your child will SOMEHOW have a better life with 2 unhappy parents that constantly argue and resent each other rather than 2 happy parents that are separated.

So, next time you ask me, "When are you going to have a baby?" I will tell you, I don't want to be like you. I want to be able to support MY child myself and wait until I am in a situation to do so. I'm still young and your life changes drastically when you have a child. I want to focus on myself. I don't even know who I am yet. Fuck off and stop trying to convince me that your mistakes should be mine too. I can't even explain this to you because you reject it all. It's difficult for me because I genuinely care about you and the child. I can't voice my concerns over you feeding your baby processed foods because I would be deemed "judgmental" or "too opinionated". I just hope your daughter doesn't turn out like you. —Needs some new friends

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