What to Do if Your Loved Ones Don’t Take Your Engagement Seriously

Getting engaged should be all about poppin' bottles of champagne with your loved ones, and losing yourself in the details of planning your future wedding. But what if the people you adore most aren't that interested in celebrating with you? (Poor Rob Kardashian, whose famous fam is so not planning a shower for Blac Chyna.) Not only will your siblings' blank stares dim your bride-to-be glow, you might even question whether you should really say "I do."

One thing's certain: You’ll have to come face-to-face with this situation before it’s time to walk down the aisle—or risk serious tension clouding over your big day.

1. Remain zen.
While this can be tough—hello, wedding stress—it may be the most productive and healthy route to take. “If you can stay calm, telling your loved ones that you hope that they support your happy decision, and leave it at that, [it] will create the opportunity for them to reflect, calm their heads and their hearts and, eventually, they will have that conversation with you,” says Chris Armstrong, a relationship expert, coach, and founder of Maze of Love.

2. Go on the defense.
The second option is to pretend like you DGAF about their comments. Act like their actions don't bother you, and saunter on with planning your wedding like the theme is, "Haters Gonna Hate." But fair warning: Taking this route might may leave you feeling powerful right now, but it might push your relatives even further away in the long run.

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Before you make any decisions, take a step back and reevaluate why your fam is questioning the sanctity of your engagement in the first place. Sit down and hear them out. You may not fully agree with what they're saying, but it’s worth listening to their POV. Who knows, perhaps there’s something you overlooked, or don’t see clearly about your partner.

Either way, if you find yourself in this situation, find a way to rectify it before walking down the aisle. You’re going to be putting in a ton of time, money, and energy into planning your wedding. In order for it to go off without a hitch, you’ll want your clan to be supportive of you and the person you are about to make an official member of the family.

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