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What to do?

So, I'm waiting on AF to arrive so I can start my ivf cycle with ccrm. I am seriously like clockwork, 28 days. Of course, I'm now late. Which means there is a good chance now of ER being the day before thanksgiving or so. My problem is, we are having a lot of houseguests as we have for years. 12 out of town family members staying with us, some others coming for dinner. This is a yearly tradition. We all have tickets to the NFL game on thanksgiving and then I cook and we hang out the rest of the weekend. It is really the only time we get together. There are no other family members within 12 hours to change houses. So...what the heck am I supposed to do? No one knows about ivf and DH refuses to tell anyone at all. Do I hope for the best and maybe just not show up myself and let everyone else get together. What in the world would my excuse be? I don't travel for work or anything. I really would hate to cancel this cycle because then I would have to wait until January..that seems too far. I am a little lost on how to approach this...

Re: What to do?

The way I have always looked at IVF stuff is it trumps everything since the amount if money we drop on this is So huge.... People will understand and get over it even if you happened to have come down with the poops suddenly!;) good luck I hope AF shows ASAP and dosnt ruin all the fun plans!

I agree with Lacy. I think an acute case of "food poisoning" may be in your future. I would never cancel something as important as a cycle because of other people's expectations I show up to an event. They will understand, people get sick! Good luck...it's never an easy position to be in!

Don't you dare cancel this is 100x more important than eating turkey and watching football. And even if you have to get the flu or DH has to breakdown and tell people it will be ok. You only have a certain period of time to get KU.

Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely not postpone my cycle. But, I'm not willing to cancel everyone else's fun either. Everyone spent hundreds of dollars on plane tickets, football tickets, etc. I just will need an excuse for me not to show up. I'm sure DH can be home.. He'll only need to to out in CO for a total of 12 hours for his 'donation' then he can be gone. What in the world will be my excuse for not coming to my own party?

You can always invent the funeral of a dear friend's mom in Colorado. You really couldn't miss it -- after all, your friend has been there for you through thick and thin. You are sure they will all understand how important these things are. ;-)

Oh man, why is it always like this?! It is so hard to have to lie and be secretive when going through all of this, but just keep reminding yourself that it is for a good cause. That's how I justify it. Do whatever you need to do and say whatever you need to say to NOT cancel this cycle! I'm sorry you might have to miss the big weekend, but hopefully it will all be worth it!

Oh man J&D: On Thanksgiving makes this a bit more difficult. Would you be comfortable opening your doors to everyone and you and your DH not being there? I would do that and tell them that you have business, a wake or something along those lines and have to be in CO. Or would you be comfortable telling one of your relatives what's going on and letting them be the buffer?

Oh man J&D: On Thanksgiving makes this a bit more difficult. Would you be comfortable opening your doors to everyone and you and your DH not being there? I would do that and tell them that you have business, a wake or something along those lines and have to be in CO. Or would you be comfortable telling one of your relatives what's going on and letting them be the buffer?

I think that's what we are going to do. I'm going to tell my sister and she will have to be the host. I am thinking my DH and I are at a conference and our plane gets delayed.. That's the best I got:-(. Thanks.

Oh man J&D: On Thanksgiving makes this a bit more difficult. Would you be comfortable opening your doors to everyone and you and your DH not being there? I would do that and tell them that you have business, a wake or something along those lines and have to be in CO. Or would you be comfortable telling one of your relatives what's going on and letting them be the buffer?

I think that's what we are going to do. I'm going to tell my sister and she will have to be the host. I am thinking my DH and I are at a conference and our plane gets delayed.. That's the best I got:-(. Thanks.

Plane delay...or you miss a flight and can't get rebooked. I'm really sorry that you're in this position. (((hugs)))