How to Spice Up a Relationship or Marriage in 35 Proven Ways

If you find your relationship is floundering slightly, then maybe it's time to spice things up. There aremany ways to spice up a relationship and with a bit of helpful advice anda few extra tips to try, youwill get back to where you once were...back into each other's arms full of the joys of spring andraring to go. My friends and I would like to help you to get your loving relationship back on track. Wehave thought of 35 proven ways to spice up a relationship and we hope that at least one of them willhelp you. You deserve a loving relationship and you deserve for your relationship to be a happy andloving one. Read on and become one of our success stories. I want what youwant; we are all in thistogether.Me and my friends have spiced up our relationships in all the various ways youare going toread about. What worked for one may not work for another but with 35 proven ways to spice up arelationship, I am sure you will find the answer that is right for you.

1. Spice Up Your Relationship With Flirtation

Spice up your relationship with flirtation and see his eyes open wide in amazement when you openly flirt with him. He will love the fact that you are flirting with him because he will know that you find him attractive. There are many ways to flirt and I'm sure if you think back to when you first met, you will remember what flirtation technique that you followed that captured his heart. Try smiling flirtatiously across the room at him. Have a little glint in your eyes that says I want you. He will love the thought that you want him, and his desire for you will be relit. The fact that you feel comfortable enough in his presence to smile at him seductively means that you are enjoying yourself, if you are enjoying yourself he will follow your lead and enjoy himself too.​

2. Spice Up Your Relationship By Getting Out Of A Rut​

Spice up your relationship by getting out of a rut, because if you want to rekindle your romance you will have to rethink your life. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Kim, she is 35 years old. She realized one day that the relationship between her and her man was going stale. She loved him enough to want to do something about it. She knew they were stuck in a rut and she wanted away to get them out of the rut. She decided she would surprise him by booking a meal at the restaurant where they'd first met. The surprise really pleased him and they talked about what it was they could do to relight the spark that they'd both once felt for each other. They decided on a new hobby and this worked for them. Kim's tip for you is to make the first move toward change.​

3. Spice Up Your Relationship By Changing Routine​

Spice up your relationship by changing routine and you will come to the conclusion that you should have done this months, if not years ago. Do you always have the same meals on certain days of the week? Do you always go for a drink in the same pub that you've been going to for years? If the answer is yes then you need to change your routine. Anything you do the same over a long period of time, will push you into a routine that you will find hard to break out of. You should take the plunge and tell him you are changing the routine because you want to spice things up in your relationship. He will be pleasantly surprised that you have taken the time to think things through,and I am sure he will understand that you are changing the routine because you are thinking about him.​

4. Spice Up Your Relationship By Going On A Date​

Spice up your relationship by going on a date together. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Julie and she works in the local grocery shop. She is very chatty and the customers all enjoy passing the time of day with her. Her advice for you is that you do the same as she does, and go on a date. When she wants to spice the relationship up with her man, she goes on a date with him. She has great fun choosing a venue, she wears her sexiest clothes and she gets her hair done. She applies her make-up carefully and she sprays her perfume on. Her man thinks this is wonderful and the extra effort she makes for him gives him a wonderful feeling of being loved and admired. She knows that if you do the same as her, you too will be able to spice up your relationship.​

5. Spice Up Your Relationship With A Surprise

Spice up your relationship with a surprise and see the smile spread across your mans face. Everybody likes to get a surprise. Surprises Come in all shapes and sizes, the fact that you want to give him a surprise will let him know that you care enough about him to want to make him happy. The surprise you choose to give your man is entirely up to you. Only you know what will make his heart beat faster. It could be a surprise gift, something that you know he has always wanted but has never treated himself to. It could be a surprise trip on an old steam train, because you know he's always wanted to go on one, but has never got around to it. Whatever the surprise is that you choose for him, it will be very much appreciated by him, he will know that you have organised the surprise for him because you love him.​

6. Spice Up Your Relationship By Making An Effort​

​Spice up your relationship by making an effort, and reap the rewards when your efforts are recognized and appreciated by your man. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Angie, she is a mother to two children aged 5 and 7. Her advice for you is to make an effort with your appearance. She knows how easy it is to neglect yourself when you have children to look after. How easy it is to skip putting your make-up on, how easy it is to throw on a pair of jogging pants, instead of smart pants. She knows that by making an effort with your appearance, it will spice up your relationship, just like it did hers. Make your man appreciate you more by getting dressed up occasionally. You will reap the rewards of your efforts when you see that his eyes are full of love for you, he will know you've made the effort just for him.

​7. Spice Up Your Relationship By Talking

​Spice up your relationship by talking to him. Tell him how your day has been and let him see how animated you are about sharing conversation with him. Listen to how his day has gone, offer advice when he has problems. Talking to each other about everyday things will make it easier to talk openly about yourselves and what your wants and needs are in the future. You will be able to have a really lovely close relationship. If you want to spice up your relationship in the bedroom you will be able to talk to each other about what it is you want to achieve to make you feel satisfied. Being able to talk to each other will bring closeness between you that people outside the relationship will look at with envy.

​8. Spice Up Your Relationship By Planning A Trip Together

​Spice up your relationship by planning a trip together, you will enjoy hours of fun together sifting through all the possibilities. Let your minds wander while you dream of the fantastic trip you are going to take in the future. Planning a trip together is a great way to spice up your relationship,you will be reminded of what it was that first attracted you to each other. Discussing what hotel to stay in will take you back to the very first time you went away as a couple.How excited you both were to be spending days and nights with each other, thinking only about being in each other's arms. Your passion will come zooming back into the limelight as you dream of spending quality time together in a location that has been so very carefully chosen.

9. Spice Up Your Relationship By Trying New Hobbies​

​Spice up your relationship by trying new hobbies, you will be able to spend lots of time laughing and having fun together. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Faye,she is 25 years old and she likes reading. Her favorite books to read are thrillers. Her advice for you is to try new hobbies,because you never know what you are going to like until you try it. Her man Stephen loved playing golf, she wasn't particularly interested in sport, and would much rather have her head buried in one of her books. This all changed one day when Stephen told her that there was to be a couples tournament at the golf club in a couple of months time. He wanted her to be his partner for the tournament. She was a little bit skeptical at first because she didn't know the first thing about golf. But she thought it would be a good way to spice up their relationship. She went to her first golf lesson and she never looked back. She and Stephen didn't win the couples tournament, but they did win in the love stakes because their new shared hobby brought them very much closer together.

​10. Spice Up Your Relationship By Making A Bucket List Together

​Spice up your relationship by making a bucket list together and achieve your goals as a couple. By making a bucket list together you will get to know one another's dreams and ambitions. Making a bucket list will allow you to discuss what, where, how and why you want to do the things that are on the list. You will probably surprise each other with what you want to do. You will also fall about laughing when talking about the pros and cons of what you are about to take on. Whatever it is that you put on your bucket list, it will mean a lot to your partner. The fact that you can work through the list together will make your achievements much more special. I think you will have a great time spicing up your relationship by making your very own personal bucket list.

11. Spice Up Your Relationship By Trying Something New In The Bedroom​

Spice up you relationship by trying something new in the bedroom and enjoy the excitement as you decide what it is that you are going to try. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Catherine and she is very outgoing. She is full of confidence, she is always the first one up on the dance floor, she makes others around her feel happy and she always has a smile on her face. She knew she would like to try something new in the bedroom but she wasn't sure how her man would take it if she were to tell him what it was. She thought he might think she was a bit forward. She thought he might think his love making skills were being frowned upon. She needn't have worried,her man felt proud of her to know that she trusted him enough to be open about her needs with him. Her advice for you is to act upon your fantasies and live your sex life to the full.​

12. Spice Up Your Relationship By Doing Something Significant To Show You Care​

Spice up your relationship by doing something significant to show you care, your thoughtfulness will go a long way in making your man feel contented and happy. There is only one person who can do something significant for their man, and that person us you. Look closely at how you can show him you care. You need to be there for him and you need to be his rock in troubling times. He may have had some heart-breaking news and is finding it hard to come to terms with. Being there for him as a shoulder to cry on is a very caring thing for you to do. Being there to help him find a solution to a problem he can't deal with is also a very caring thing for you to do. Whatever the significant thing is that you deal with, it is going to be of great comfort to him and he will remember your kindness for many years to come.​

13. Spice Up Your Relationship By Reminding Him How Handsome He Is​

Spice up your relationship by reminding him how handsome he is, the praise you give him will let him know that you still find him attractive. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Naomi; she is a geography teacher in the local school. She has been married for nineteen years and still loves her husband as much now as she did when they first met. Her advice for you is to keep telling him how handsome he is because with age comes a certain degree of insecurity. He may not think he is as handsome as he once was, but if you keep telling him how handsome he is you are giving him the confidence he needs to enjoy his life, he will be happy in the knowledge that he is still seen as attractive.​

14. Spice Up Your Relationship By Supporting His Dreams​

Spice up your relationship by supporting his dreams, because helping his dreams come true will bring you closer together. What could be more worthwhile than seeing the happiness in your mans eyes when one of his dreams finally comes true? You can be there through out to support him and offer advice. His dream might be to visit a long lost relative who lives on the other side of the world. You can discuss together how you are going to locate his relative. You can help him write letters, you can scour the Internet; you can telephone people who might know the relatives address. The main thing is that you are there by his side through thick and thin,he will know that you were there for him to help him fulfill his dream and he will never forget the support you showed him.​

Spice up your relationship by doing something you've never done before and share the excitement of a new adventure. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Louise,she likes baking cakes and we like eating them! She loves watching ballroom dancing and thought it would be a good idea to sign up for lessons at the local community center. She thoroughly enjoyed it, her enthusiasm rubbed off on her man and now they go to the classes together. They have made new friends and have something wonderful to enjoy together. Her advice for you is to try doing something you have never done before; it will add a new dimension to your relationship and open up a whole new world to you.

​16. Spice Up Your Relationship By Having More Sex

Spice up your relationship by having more sex and enjoy the intimacy and closeness that may have been lacking recently. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Maria, she is 42 years old and she likes taking her dog for long walks along the beach. She realized that although she was happy with her man, they were not as intimate with each other as they once had been. She decided to do something about it. She told him how she was feeling and he said he felt the same. They decided to make more time for one another and get back to the way they were when they first met. Her advice for you is to break the habit of passing each other without kissing, instead she wants you to go back to the basics of when you first met, and rekindle the passion that you felt then.

​17. Spice Up Your Relationship By Making Him Breakfast In Bed

Spice up your relationship by making him breakfast in bed to let him know you love him. He will feel very special when you place the breakfast tray on his lap. He will know that the extra effort you have made for him means you love him. Choose all of his favorite breakfast items and put them on the plate. Hot buttered toast in a toast rack would be nice, and a steaming mug of hot coffee. Your man will very much appreciate having breakfast in bed and when it's all eaten you can climb under the sheets with him and enjoy being in each other's arms.​

18. Spice Up Your Relationship By Telling Him You Love Him​

​Spice up your relationship by telling him you love him and watch his eyes light up in happiness.Sometimes we can all fall in to the trap of not telling our partners we love them. Even though we do love them we simply don't say it. It's as though we have fallen out of the habit. Start getting back into the habit by telling him you love him every single day.Bring back the habit and enjoy the well being that will surround you both when you keep saying those very important three little words.Your relationship will blossom and you will both feel very cherished.

19. Spice Up Your Relationship By Being well Groomed​

Spice up your relationship by being well groomed and make your man proud of you. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Hollie; she works with horses at the local riding school. Hollie found that she would come home from the riding stables full of mud and straw, jump in the shower,then shove any old thing on that came to hand. There was no way she would get dressed up to work at the riding stables so she fell out of the habit of getting dressed up at all. One day her man commented on her lack of effort in her grooming. It was the wake up call she needed. Now when she comes home from the riding school she gets her shower then dresses up nicely and puts a bit of make—up on. It is enough for her man to know she cares about how she looks for him. Her advice to you is to try and make the effort to look well-groomed because your man will appreciate you so much more.

​20. Spice Up Your Relationship By Being Respectful

Spice up your relationship by being respectful and you will earn your partners respect as well. Being respectful to your partner means you can listen to him without constantly interrupting him. You can comment on what he is saying without contradicting him. You can show your respect by praising him when he does something worthwhile. You can show your respect by telling him you love him. There are a lot of ways you can show respect to your man and I am sure when you think about it, you will find a way that is right for you when it comes to showing him how much you respect him.

​21. Spice Up Your Relationship By Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Spice up your relationship by getting out of your comfort zone and adding some interest to your lives.We are all guilty of carrying on with our lives the way we are used to. Even if we are bored we still just carry on the same. In a way it could be considered as lazy that we are not making more of an effort. Stop being lazy and let your imagination run wild. Try to think of new ways to bring some excitement back into your relationship. Getting out of your comfort zone once you think of things you would rather be doing, will bring energy back into your relationship that has been missing.

​22. Spice Up Your Relationship By Giving Each Other Space

​Spice up your relationship by giving each other space, because you do not want to suffocate each other. One of my friends has advice for you. Her name is Laura; she works in administration in one of the big buildings in the city. Her advice for you is to let each other breathe. If your man is having a quiet moment, then let him have it. You do not have to fill every silent gap with conversation. In fact the opposite is true. She says you should enjoy the calmness in the house and realize that your relationship is a comfortable one, and that you are at peace with one another in your silence.

​23. Spice Up Your Relationship By Overcoming Your Insecurities

​Spice up your relationship by overcoming your insecurities and let your confidence grow. Feeling insecure is not a very nice feeling to have. Insecurity makes you feel shaky and unsure of yourself.This is not how you want your man to see you. He will want to see a happy, smiling, confident,person. If your insecurity relates to him, then tell him what you are feeling insecure about. He might be able to help you. It might be that your insecurity is all in your mind and whatever you think is wrong might be totally ok. Hopefully with a bit of understanding and a lot of strength you can overcome your insecurities and move forward in a more confident way. Your man will see a new woman, and your new found confidence will rub off on him, and he will feel more confident too.

​24. Spice Up Your Relationship By Making Eye Contact

​Spice up your relationship by making eye contact; you will be amazed how easy it will become to discover exactly what your man is thinking. How many times do you walk close by to him, yet never make eye contact. How many times do you sit next to him on the sofa, yet never make eye contact. You probably take it for granted that your man is feeling ok. You would be surprised if you looked into his eyes, you would be able to tell what he is really feeling. You would see happiness in his eyes,you would see love in his eyes, and you might even see concern in his eyes. By looking into his eyes and reacting to his thoughts and feelings you will be giving him support. How lovely for you both when you make eye contact and see love there, how reassuring for you both to know that you are loved.

​25. Spice Up Your Relationship By Making Small Gestures

​Spice up your relationship by making small gestures and let your man know how much you care for him. One of my friends is called Megan. She works in a care home, looking after the elderly residents who live there. She loves her job and she is definitely suited to her profession,she has a very caring nature. Her advice to you is to make small gestures, gestures that will let your man know how much you love him. She makes him a cup of tea when she thinks he would like one. She makes him his favorite meal. She gets him a newspaper to read. She says there are dozens of small gestures you can make, that will let your man know how much you care for him. She says that by making small gestures you will be on the right path to a very loving partnership.

​26. Spice Up Your Relationship With Intimacy

​Spice up your relationship with intimacy because the closeness will bringyou happiness. One of myfriends has advice for you. Her name is Cheryl; she is a housewife with three children. She alwayswanted to be married with children; she adores her family and always puts them first.Her advice foryou is to treat every occasion in bed with your man as a special time, with lots of intimacy. Your timetogether is precious and you need to make the most of it. She says the intimacy that you will share,should keep you both satisfied until the next time you can find time to be in each other's arms onceagain.

​27. Spice Up Your Relationship By Having Fun

​Spice up your relationship by having fun because laughing together will give your relationship a brilliant boost. Having a sense of humor and having fun is a great way to enjoy your mans company. It's really great when you are out together and one of you makes a joke about something you have seen. It's great when you start giggling uncontrollably and end up with tears running down your cheeks. These are unforgettable moments, moments that will make the bond between you even stronger. It's nice that you and your man can have fun together because life can be quite serious, so to break the seriousness is a very good way to relive the pressure.

​28. Spice Up Your Relationship By Celebrating

​Spice up your relationship by celebrating each other on every occasion possible. Celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Easter and lots of other occasions you can think of. One of my friends is called Clare. She is a cashier at the checkout of a large store. Her advice for you is to celebrate all of the special dates you have written in your diary. When you celebrate an occasion with your man,you will feel the thrill of the day from start to finish. Planning a celebration together is a topic for you both to spend hours talking about. You will discuss the venue together. You will discuss whether or not you want balloons or banners adorning the venue. You might want a very cozy intimate celebration for just the two of you. Whatever you celebrate make sure you make the most of it so that you can enjoy your time together thoroughly.

​29. Spice Up Your Relationship By Ditching Routine

​Spice up your relationship by ditching routine and a whole new world will open up to you. You and your man will almost certainly have a routine that you stick to all the time. It could be work related,it could be hobby related. Some routines are harder to ditch than others, start by ditching a routine that you both find restrictive. Talk about what it is that you want to do differently. Ask your man lots of questions about what he would find exciting to do differently. Instead of watching television all night go for a stroll around the park instead. Instead of going out to the same pub, try a different one in another area. Once you start ditching routine and trying new things, you will realize what you have been missing. A new world will be opened up to you; you will find the prospect of trying new things very appealing.

​30. Spice Up Your Relationship By Focusing On Each Other

​Spice up your relationship by Focusing on each other, because if youdo you will be able to shuteverybody else out for a few moments. Moments that are needed to give youthe chance to bealone together for some quality time. Life can be very hectic, we go racing around from one thing toanother, demands put uponuscan be many, everyday tasks seem to build up with alarmingrapidness. You need to truly and utterly focus on each other. Don't let your man miss out on your company because you have been too busy to make time for him. Make himyour priority and focusall of your attention on him. Let him know that everything he does for you is very much appreciated.You will be very happy that you have focused on each other.

​31. Spice Up Your Relationship With Passion

​Spice up your relationship with passion and put the spark back into your love life. One of my friends has advice for you, her name is Linda. She went to work away in a foreign country, she taught history in a secondary school.She met a lovely man while she was there and they got married. She brought him home to meet her parents and they all hit it off lovely. They have settled here now, they live about three miles away from me. Her advice for you is to be passionate toward each other, lots of hugs and kisses would be lovely. Share your passion in the bedroom and enjoy the love life that you have created for yourselves.

​32. Spice Up Your Relationship By Sharing Secrets

​Spice up your relationship by sharing secrets, you will find out a about each other than you first realized. By sharing secrets with your man you will create a trust that will be a strong bond. When you share secrets with your man you are letting him know you trust him, you are giving him a piece of yourself that nobody else knows about. Your man will feel that the secret you have shared with him is a sacred part of your personality. He will be pleased that you have confided in him. He has been able to share something with you that only the two of you know about; this will make your relationship very special indeed.

​33. Spice Up Your Relationship With Touch

​Spice up your relationship with touch and fulfill each other's needs. One of my friends has advice for you, her name is Rita. She met her man on a photography course at college. They are a close couple and she is happy with her life. Her advice for you is to listen to your instincts when you are in the bedroom, let your instincts guide you. She says that touch shouldn't just be saved for the bedroom; you should constantly let each other know you care by the feeling of touch. You will enjoy the sensation of how each other's touch affects you. The closeness you will feel as a couple will be fantastic when you open up to the feeling that touch can bring you.

​34. Spice Up Your Relationship With Seduction

​Spice up your relationship with seduction (or perhaps by talking dirty) because your man will enjoy the experience. Seduction is a great way to get your mans pulse rate rising. You can try lots of different things to seduce your man, all the different things that you do try will all work for him, and the power of suggestion will be therein your every move. His emotions will be all over the place when you lure him into your arms, the suggestion of a sexual encounter with him yet to come. You might want to dress up in a sexy outfit to seduce your man. You could use seduction to give him a thrill. The thrill of the seduction will bring out his sensuous side. He will also enjoy the fact that you are showing confidence in your sexual prowess to be able to act so seductively.

​35. Spice Up Your Relationship By Cooking Him A Candle Lit Dinner

​Spice up your relationship by cooking him a candle lit dinner and I can guarantee he will keep coming back for more. How many times have you watched a movie where the couple end up having a meal together in an apartment that one of them owns. It always seems really romantic when you watch a movie where this happens. Create your own romantic movie moment when you prepare a candle lit dinner for him. There is a saying,food is the way to a mans heart, let your mans heart melt with love when he sees and tastes the meal you have cooked for him. Add all the trimmings onto the table, candles, napkins, wine chilling in an ice basket, flowers in a vase. All this will set the scene beautifully.

Sonya Schwartz

A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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