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This is a program to help you game any guy in the room. These tips are adapted from pickup artist methods, and can easily and effectively be used by females. It always works.

Steps

1

Have a good time. This should be your number-one priority. Don't ever go out to a bar, or a club, or wherever, just because you want someone to pay attention to you. The night is not a failure if this doesn't happen. If you're not having fun, it shows.

Approach your target. He should be in a group, because approaching a man by himself is like ambushing him. Most men are secretly petrified of women. Make him feel more secure (comfortable) by giving him security in numbers.

4

Win over his friends. Men are naturally competitive creatures, and throwing pheromones around a group will encourage interest in you. Start by asking a question that will get them all involved, but that will keep the competitive juices flowing. "I'm trying to solve an argument between my friends. My friend has a boyfriend, but she's still really good friends with her ex. If it was your girlfriend, would you be okay with that?" Palm readings are fun, and everyone wants to be involved in them.

5

Let him know why he should be hanging out with you. Being "funny" doesn't work, because it's silly and contrived. Being "witty" is key, because it shows you're intelligent, quick, and have a sense of humor. Witty girls also have great self-confidence.

6

Acknowledge him personally. Obvious flattery will get you NOWHERE. Men are naturally predatory creatures and they need a chase. Backhanded compliments are key. They flatter him in a sly way, and encourage him to work for your approval. A great example is, "Wow, I love your hair. It's really going to suck when you start losing it."

7

Impose a time limit. Remember, you're witty, you're fun, and you can't spend all night talking to these guys. You're in high demand. You need to buy yourself another drink. Let him know this, but tell him that you hope you'll keep running into him. Make an offhand gesture in the direction you're going, and mention you're going back to join your friends. He will keep looking for you all night, if not invite himself along.

8

Leave him. Don't ever be afraid to walk away. You have other friends to attend to, and you have more friends to make.

9

When you see him again (and you will), react like he's your old pal. You're comfortable with him, and he can now be comfortable with you.

10

Concerning your target, body language is key. Let your eyes linger on him a little longer. Slightly angle your hips in his direction. When you speak to him, give him visual cues such as tucking your hair behind your ear (one side only, let it fall back down), or touch your chin near your bottom lip each time you say something that you want him to remember.

11

Want to make out with him now? A great trick is called "triangular viewing." Let your gaze move from right eye-left eye-mouth. This should be very subtle and it shouldn't linger too long on any point. By making the connection from his eyes (you're interested in his intellect) to his lips (you're interested in his...everything else) gives him a powerful subconscious suggestion that he can kiss you. And he will.

12

Getting his number/giving him yours is pretty easy at this point. If you've made a good impression (witty! fun! great kisser!), he'll want to see you again. But he might be shy. If you need to take the initiative, a good segue is, "It's a shame I don't give out my number...I guess I'm just an ultra-modern girl, because I'd prefer to give YOU a call sometime."

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Tips

Smell is the most powerful sense tied to memory. Most people have also heard of the study that shows that men typically do not have good associations with flowery, fruity, or cloying scents. *When using touch to create subconscious cues, gentle but purposeful is best. When you're giving him that backhanded hair compliment, reach up and lightly touch it. Don't pull. And don't just reach up--lean into him slightly (so he can smell you!) and casually raise your arm. No sudden or jerky movements.

In the animal kingdom, certain species attract mates using bright plumage. A perfect example of this is the Peacock, for this reason this technique is called "Peacocking". We are hard-wired to notice visual cues like this. You don't have to be outlandish or ridiculous-looking to get attention. A huge cocktail ring on one finger, a clever (subtle) T-shirt, or tiny eyeliner wings are subtle cues that make you look less generic.

When you're being witty, it's best to know what you're talking about. Trivia sites are great, because you can absorb a little bit of info about a lot of random things. If you can relate to a wide variety of topics, good conversation will follow. Everyone wants to know interesting people!

Warnings

Don't get fall-down drunk. Being tipsy lowers your inhibitions (not bad), but getting smashed is just sloppy. Sloppy girl drunks aren't seen as interesting...they're seen as a chore... and nobody wants to babysit.

This 12-Step Program is not meant to get you a boyfriend. If you want a boyfriend, then you will not be satisfied with just having a good time and making out with someone. Go read someone else's guide.