Monthly Archives: May 2015

We’ve all heard about what Josh Duggar has done by now. He abused his sisters over a decade ago.

Do I agree with what he did? No, of course not. But I have to wonder why it’s just now that it’s being brought to light.

I have to say, the media gets it wrong. While I agree that what Josh did was wrong, the media describes him as a pedophile, he was only 14 when he abused them. The law says you have to be 16 to be considered a pedophile. Sorry to break it to you, media, but your definition is screwed up.

Now, am I discounting what Josh did? No, I’m not. Having someone in the family that was abused as a young child, I know the pain of knowing that they’ll have to live with the terror the rest of their lives. But I have to wonder: why is the media making such a big deal out of it? How do the girls feel about that terrible time in their lives being brought to light?

I understand that they’re a very popular family, and I know that nothing in a famous family is ever private, but some things just shouldn’t be made a big deal out of unless they want you to. These young women are being forced to relive that terrible time in their lives that happened over a decade ago by the media making a big deal out of it.

Sexual abuse is wrong, no matter how you look at it, and I agree it must be put to a stop. But I also have to wonder: would it help if the media didn’t force the victim to live that time in their life over and over again?

Like this:

Last week, I said that another child became pregnant because of her step-father raping her. I hated saying what was true. Simply because it shouldn’t be true.

Not all children become pregnant after being raped, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less wrong. Doesn’t mean it’s any less sickening. It’s heartbreaking to hear about any child that’s abused.

I’ve made it no secret that my niece has been abused. She was three at the time. It’s been a year almost to the day that she was abused by her ex-step-father.

One year later, I still cry every single time I think about it.

I’ve seen effects I can never explain. I’ve seen her be a little terror, I’ve seen her not trust men that have always been in her life, and I’ve seen her wake up in the middle of the night crying.

All because she was abused.

Did she get pregnant? No. Does that make it right? Definitely not. Child abuse has to stop, no matter what. Nobody deserves to be abused. No family deserves to have their heart broken because of what somebody in the family did.

It’s funny… Before all of this happened, I never thought it would happen in my family. I should have known that it could happen to anyone.

We always think, “That won’t happen to me,” or “It will never happen to anyone I know.” But yet, it does. And a lot of times nobody will say anything. Because they’re scared. They’re ashamed. They think they’re the ones at fault.

You don’t have to feel this way. Don’t be afraid to speak out.

One year later, I’m more passionate about child abuse prevention than ever.

Like this:

It happened again. Another child is pregnant because she was raped. By her step-father. This child is only ten years old.

I’m in a group on Facebook called Child Abuse Must Stop, which is where I saw the article. I didn’t read it — I couldn’t bring myself to do so. My heart broke at just the title.

Unfortunately, I’ve seen all too many stories about this lately. The child is raped by someone they trust. And not only is the trust broken, but they get pregnant with that person’s child. My heart breaks a little more with every article I see about it.

I read one where one child wasn’t allowed to get an abortion, even though having the child would endanger her life. I’m pro-life myself, but she’s just a kid herself. Kids should not be forced to have kids if it wasn’t their choice to have sex. It was abuse. They’re already traumatized enough by having to go through the humiliation, but to have to carry out a pregnancy and go through childbirth? It’s absolutely horrifying.

Some rapists will defend themselves and say, “Well, they didn’t tell me to stop.” That’s because children don’t know it’s okay to tell them to stop! They’re always taught to respect their elders.

See, that’s another problem. Today’s society focuses too much on “Respect your elders” instead of, “It’s okay to say no.” That has got to change. Yes, children need to learn respect, but they also need to know that it’s okay to get away from a situation that they’re not comfortable in.

Let’s work together to stop this. Child abuse has to stop. Tell your children that it’s okay to say no.

Like this:

Racism is a big problem in today’s world. A lot of people are saying that what happened in Baltimore is based off of racism.

Now, I’m not going to say whether it is or it isn’t. I don’t live in Baltimore, but I can tell you that from what I’ve seen, I don’t know what to think. I’m sure you all have opinions. Let me know what you think.

Racism is a huge problem. But I have to say, and I’m sure I’ll get a lot of backlash for it, but what about the white people?

We hear everything about African Americans getting racist comments about them, but what about when white people get racist comments? It happens, you know.

I read earlier today that there was a billboard in another state that said something about White Pride Radio. And apparently, it’s racist.

I’m sorry, but if there can be Black Entertainment Television…

Now, I’m not saying that racism against African Americans doesn’t exist, because it does. I’m well aware that it does happen. But for once, I wanted to look at the other end of the story. One that the media doesn’t cover. Racism goes both ways, and unfortunately we only see one side of the story.

Let’s stop racism of all kinds. No matter what race you are, you shouldn’t get hurt for it.

Like I said, I’m sure I’ll get backlash for it, but it still had to be said. Post your opinions in the comments.