(Closed) jewelry and etiquette help please!

I’ve been lurking around this site since my SO and I were engaged a year ago (and it’s been great, so helpful!), but now I need some unbiased advice!

At Christmas last year, my step-sister told me she wanted to buy me a necklace and a pair of earrings to wear at the wedding. She seemed to know exactly what she was looking for, and described a lovely sounding faux sapphire and stud set. This wouldn’t exactly match my dress, but she was really excited and I was really grateful/touched that she was thinking of me (we aren’t that close).

Well, she’s been completely out-of-touch since then, and so I’m not particularly sure if that panned out. Recently however, my mom bought me a beautiful london blue topaz necklace and matching stud earrings which I am absolutely in love with as an early wedding gift. This jewelry matches my colors and dress perfectly, and my mom very much expects me to wear them at the wedding.

So now my concern is that my step-sister will present the jewelry she had in mind at the upcoming bridal shower, and then I’ll have two people who got me jewelry and expect me to wear it. :$

How can I navigate these tricky waters without stepping on anybody’s toes?

@ky-pie: I would plan to wear the set your Mom gave you on your wedding day.

If the step sister does gift you with more jewelry, I would plan to wear it to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

I would thank her profusely at the shower, then speak with her privately some time soon after the shower to explain that your Mom had surprised you with the blue topaz set. Tell her that you feel you must wear the set your Mom gave you and that you know she will understand.

I would ask your mother, relatives, and friends to broadcast that you received this set and are planning to wear it to the wedding. Hopefully it won’t cause hurt feelings, a gift from your mom trumps other gifts. I normally hate facebook sharing but you might post pictures of the set.

Thanks everyone for the all of the advice! Unfortunately we’re not having a rehersal or rehersal dinner so wearing the step-sister’s set for that isn’t an option. 🙁

@Bridey77 Yeah I feel like there’s a chance that this isn’t even going to happen or be a problem, but I wanted to be prepared for any hurt feelings I might encounter.

@julies1949 This is probably what I’m going to do but I’m horrible at confrontation so I’m not exactly looking forward to this conversation lol.

@canadajane I would love to do this as a subtle way to let her know beforehand and avoid any embarassment but my step-sister has really fallen out of touch and I doubt any of the subtler methods of getting the info out would even reach her. :-/ I think I might try to find a way though…