So Many Faux Pas, So Few Categories To Put Them In

by admin on July 7, 2009

Hmmm…should this story go into the Wicked Witches of the Weddings category…or maybe Bad Bosses? Or what about Wedding Gimme? Oh, heck, into all three I cast thee…

My fiance works for a small company owned by a husband and wife. They treat him horribly and are constantly “looking” for ways to write him up and cheat him out of money (they owe him close to $6K for some work they claim to have forgotten). He’s been looking for a new job for over a year with no luck.

The Boss’s have a son who got married this past January. We received an invitation to their wedding…this June.

Apparently, the kids had gotten married and the parents of the bride paid for it. As such, they limited the guest list to 100 people. This was not sufficient for the bosses. They wanted to invite everyone they knew, including our state’s secretary of state (the boss is also the mayor of a VERY small town…I guess this is how he knows him). They were prevented from doing so because of the limited number of guests.

So they have decided to throw a SECOND wedding – complete with ceremony and reception…for 500 guests. (I guess the secretary of state is going to be there). I was livid when my fiance showed me this invitation. First, I refuse to go because this is a ridiculous charade for gifts. Second, because they’re already married. Fiance informed me that the kids don’t even want the wedding…this is to make his parents happy. Okay, so Third, I’m not attending a sham wedding being put on for the benefit of the in-laws because these married adults can’t draw the line with their parents. And Fourth – these people are JERKS and treat my fiance terribly.

I finally convinced my fiance not to go, and it turned out okay because we ended up throwing a party at our house that same day – so he had a valid excuse to give the bosses. I told him that I’m sure they would still be looking for a gift. He forwarded me this e-mail from the boss (the groom’s mother) the next day:

If those who are not coming and would like to send Wedding Wishes to GROOM and BRIDE you can send it to my house at ADDRESS DELETED, Thanks…..

So, so, so, so, so, so tacky. These bosses are very wealthy. Yet I wonder if the groom’s mother will open the gifts sent to her house in order to pilfer some of them or if she just wants to keep a running tally on how much everyone spent? At least I’m seeing lots of things NOT to do with my wedding! 06-17-09

I can understand the need for a second celebration… you may remember that historically weddings and the joinings of family have more meaning that just the immediate couple coming together. The subtle hint at gift grabbing was inappropriate though.

$6,000 worth of work that they “forgot”! Does your fiance’ have any documentation of any kind at all that he did this work? Wishing him the best in finding a new job and when he does, I’d take these mustards to court to collect what they owe him plus interest!

Do they have other employees they treat the same way? Or is your fiance the only ‘lucky one’?

In any case, I think you’re smart not going to the wedding. And I agree wholeheartedly that a card worded exactly as Alexis suggested would be perfect.