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Topic: Things that Should not be Included in a Wedding Invitation (Read 7983 times)

Friends of ours are getting married this June; they're young, broke, and I say this with kindness, stupid. I do believe in the long run they will be fine, but in the meantime they're breaking etiquette rules like there's no tomorrow.

Received lovely save the date; no problem.

Received Facebook invite to their wedding event; huh? Double huh? as I knew she was making invitations; after all, I'm her tech support.

Invitation arrives! Open envelope, and what's right on top? Oh no, not registry information, that wasn't included, but this little gem was:

I think I'll make some beer bottle charms for DH and myself...after all, if I need to bring my own, I'm not sharing! They'll be hidden in an ice chest in my trunk...

DH put it best; there was simply no need for the card. If they had left it out we would have shown up, found some juice & soda, and been happy. This is just...

I agree with lofty's DH. If you can't afford to supply alcohol, then don't serve alcohol. When you host a celebration, you supply the refreshments. Guests who know this couple should understand that they are tight for money and enjoy celebrating with them regardless of the refreshments.

I've been to some very nice wedding receptions held at people's homes where there was not a lot of alcohol provided.

I agree with lofty's DH. If you can't afford to supply alcohol, then don't serve alcohol. When you host a celebration, you supply the refreshments. Guests who know this couple should understand that they are tight for money and enjoy celebrating with them regardless of the refreshments.

I've been to some very nice wedding receptions held at people's homes where there was not a lot of alcohol provided.

I agree with lofty's DH. If you can't afford to supply alcohol, then don't serve alcohol. When you host a celebration, you supply the refreshments. Guests who know this couple should understand that they are tight for money and enjoy celebrating with them regardless of the refreshments.

I've been to some very nice wedding receptions held at people's homes where there was not a lot of alcohol provided.

The only issue with this is that I've been to some dry weddings (no alcohol) that were either that way for religious reasons or to save money, and many guests either left early and hung out at the hotel bar or went to the parking lot and drank there in front of the establishment. Those guests were rude because you should be at a wedding to celebrate the union, not get drunk. But in all of those cases, it resulted in about 50% of the guests disappearing for most of the reception, or leaving early altogether.

Maybe this couple knows their family members are like that and they don't want them to leave right after the ceremony.

I still would have found this insert off-putting. I'm not defending it. But I think it might have been their happy-medium.