Matthew Strickler, a Senior Contracts Manager, dodged a flirting accusation early on in his relationship because his then girlfriend (and now wife) knew he was a good guy. "I was friendly with a bunch of her friends at a party we co-hosted once. I wasn't risque or overtly flirty ... I was just trying to make everyone feel comfortable and help with introductions. Later I find out that my girlfriend's best friend tells her I was flirting and touchy-feely with every woman in the house. I thought, "Wow. What?" To be guy-appropriate I'm supposed to sit still, drink my beer, and shut up? Bad standard when most women I know say they wish their fellas would open up a bit more."

The lesson is clear. Being friendly towards girlfriends is not the first sign of danger. Even if a guy is being a little flirty, it does not mean he is going to be unfaithful, and most of the time, it is that very fear that causes women to overreact to friendly behavior. Unless your man is overly flirtatious on a regular basis, there's little need to whine or worry. Observe him over time and don't make snap judgments. You have to give your guy a little room to breath, or else you just may suffocate him.

Now, if you have found your guy to be in constant contact with a friend or an ex, that is a whole other story. Find out how to approach him about it the right way, so you can determine if he's still worth your time.

1. Zayn Malik has cheated on fiancee Perrie Edwards a bunch.

In one instance, a waitress who hooked up with Zayn Malik sold photos and her story to a tabloid. Most recently, Malik was spotted getting handsy with a blonde who was not his fiancee ... again. Perrie, girl, learn to love yourself. You don't need stateside relevance that badly.

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2. Zayn Malik is often targeted with bad behavior.

Zayn Malik has fallen victim numerous times to racist and Islamophobic attacks on social media, because, well, people are insane and stupid. No wonder the dude has a chip on his shoulder.

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3. Zayn Malik is a master of disguise.

Zayn Malik looks so hot as both a man and a woman, it's no wonder he's got a bit of an ego ... and no wonder he thinks he'll never get caught cheating.

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4. Zayn Malik uses his cuteness to try negating bad behavior.

Because how can you stay mad at a dude with the voice of an angel who's cuddling with a puppy?

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5. Zayn Malik may be trying to buy Perrie Edwards' forgiveness.

Zayn Malik is rumored to be constantly bedding groupies behind Perrie Edwards' back, but then he goes and buys her mom a house. (The same mom who's posted some horrifically racist and Islamophobic stuff on her own Facebook page, which may be another reason why Malik is working so hard to get in their good graces.) A better way to get a girl's family to like you is to not bang other women. Just, you know, as a rule.

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6. Zayn Malik is uncomfortable with fame.

Out of all the One Direction members, Zayn Malik has had the most trouble adjusting to the pressures and pitfalls of fame, which may explain (at least in part) why he's been acting out constantly.

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7. OMGZ! Zayn Malik smokes weed!

A scandalous video surfaced of Zayn Malik smoking a joint. If he weren't a tween idol in One Direction, no one would f*cking care ... but he is.

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8. He had no issues with Louis Tomlinson using the N-word.

In the same video in which Zayn Malik smoked a doobie, bandmate Louis Tomlinson dropped a few n-bombs, which Malik was apparently totally fine with (and even a little amused by).

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9. He's been expelled from school for fighting before.

Always a good sign.

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10. He didn't think bringing a BB gun to school was a big deal.

He toldSugar magazine, "I once got in trouble for having a BB gun at school. I didn’t shoot anyone, I just had it. It wasn't even mine but I got done for having an imitation firearm." Uh, yeah bro. You should've gotten in trouble.

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In one instance, a waitress who hooked up with Zayn Malik sold photos and her story to a tabloid. Most recently, Malik was spotted getting handsy with a blonde who was not his fiancee ... again. Perrie, girl, learn to love yourself. You don't need stateside relevance that badly.