Every relationship has a shelf life #MondayMusings

I can’t quite remember if I’ve said this before but I firmly believe that all relationships come with a shelf life.

Yesterday one such relationship came to an end.

We woke up as usual to a lazy Sunday morning . We were about to settle down to a cup of tea when the young Lady of Shalott was ( our young maid who glides through the house ) informed us that Bayda the Bai had left home at 4 am. Bayda was fond of running off to her village so we didn’t give it much thought . But a few minutes later Hubby Dear discovered that she had actually de-camped bag and baggage !

Now I won’t say I was unhappy to see her go because of late she had become more of a liability rather than a help.

She had come to us around 20 years ago when Daughter No 1 was doing her school leaving exams. I remember that year we’ll because no mom can ever forget that all important exam and its associated angst. What was worse was Bayda’s stories of doom – how so many kids in her village jumped in the well because they had failed ! At that time itself I should have realised that she didn’t know her place and equated herself with me. But I dismissed it .

Over the years she got to know our entire family and we treated her with respect and affection too. For her birthday we not only gave her a cash gift but also give her a special treat of pizza or burger including an ice cream and an eggless cake.

I could go on and on about how we pampered her and indulged her and even tolerated her rudeness, arrogance and irresponsible attitude to her work. We even overlooked her filching things , treating it as a little game she like to play.

So it came as more than a shock when we found that she had run away the way she did. It was more a betrayal of sorts. Of course it was time for her to leave because she was getting on . And twenty years is a long time to work. But surely she should have the decency to tell us?

But every relationship does have a shelf life and a predestined path. So may be this was how it was supposed to end .

Sharing these thoughts with Corinne of EverydayGyaan at #MondayMusings

Thoroughly disillusioned,

And now as I dig around I find that she used to chew tobacco, up the almonds and cashews that were kept in the kitchen!

17 Comments on “Every relationship has a shelf life #MondayMusings”

I do think you’re right – most relationships have a shelf life. Some hurt when they end, others not so much. But it is strange that Bayda just left without saying a word!Modern Gypsy recently posted…On my art table: The spiral dancers

We have a maid, who worked in the household, when my husband was my sons age. She went off and came back after 20 years. I know that she has become old and the day is not far when we might have to pack her off to her home. But I am infact indebted to her for all the service she continues to render in our house.

Relationships are fickle, thats what I have realised. People come into our lives and so many are no longer a part. Some end on a good note, some on a sour and some in a very random way. Perhaps the best thing is to move on for nothing lasts forever. This case seems its good she moved on though not in the best possible way.

Relationships are fickle, thats what I have realised. People come into our lives and so many are no longer a part. Some end on a good note, some on a sour and some in a very random way. Perhaps the best thing is to move on for nothing lasts forever. This case seems its good she moved on though not in the best possible way..

Relationships do come with a shelf life, I sincerely believe in this having seen people disappearing from my life and I have done the same too from others’. This is how it happens – some people just disappear. They do not have anything left to say or tell. May be they are too troubled from inside for whatever reasons and this causes them to do the act. But 20 years is a long time to be with someone and then abscond.Anamika Agnihotri recently posted…Golden childhood: My pet dog story Part 1 #MondayMusings

Your post and catchy blog title really made me think as recently I had gone through a break up with a friend and still could not get over it. I think you are right, not every relation lasts forever…few hurt us when they end while a few, we happily let go off. Thanks for writing this piece.

Agree relationships do come with a certani shelf life. SOme longer and some shorter, and some end on a bitter note. But as relationships go away from our lives, another one, most often moves in to take its place

I am not sure if every relationship has a shelf life. But, I feel that after treating Bayda so well and making her like a friend, she would have definitely talked to your family before leaving home. We don’t know the reason until it comes from her.Mahati ramya adivishnu recently posted…Dussehra Celebration

No matter how nice and helping you are to the house helps (part/full time) they are never convinced that we are GOOD! They see us as overlords. I know there are peeps who really misbehave with them but there are also those who treat them with love and respect. But somehow they dont seem to understand. I am sure it was a shock and sense of betrayal; but just move on as this is so regualr with them!
This year my maid of 6 years left for 1 months leave and never came back nor informed me or anything. What to do – such is life with these peeps!!!
Hope you have a helping hand around the house now! 🙂

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