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Prior to having a baby, I saw my MIL only on special occasions or holidays. Since having my first child in November, she has been over 2-3 times a week and frankly Iím getting sick of it. My maternity leave is over in a few weeks and I donít want to give up any more time with baby then I have to.

Plus when sheís over, she baby hogs. She will hold him for hours on end. I have to argue with her just so I can get him to nurse. Baby canít nap because she wonít let him. She does everything she can to keep him up so she can play with him.

I donít know if im overreacting but I feel like Iím seeing her too much. Once a week is where I would like to keep it at. DH doesnt think itís a big deal. He doesnít have a problem with handing baby over to his mom.

What do you guys think? Should I cut down the visits?? And if I should, how do I go about doing it? Iíve never been good at saying no

It sounds like you only have a few more weeks of dealing with it before you go back to work. I'd let things be. A grandma who cares that much is going to be your backup babysitter if you ever have an emergency or baby's too sick for daycare, as long as you don't create unnecessary hard feelings right now.

It's good for the baby to have grandparents who are interested in spending time with him, even if you're less than thrilled about your MIL being there so often.

Since the habit is formed, it will be hard to break it without stepping on toes. There's no one answer. It depends on your comfort level. I know I wouldn't have wanted my MIL over that much. Thankfully she was working M-F at the time.

Don't eliminate her ability to visit. You can set limits on how long she stays. She doesn't need to be there for hours at a time, and people who are sensitive to the needs of others recognize that on her own.

She's just reacting to the the novelty, and when you go back to work it will be a moot point, assuming you are using day care.

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Originally Posted by SleeplessInPhilly9

DH doesnt think it’s a big deal.

It appears your husband has inherited his mom's lack of situational awareness. Sounds like y'all need to have a discussion about whose team he's on LOL.

Seriously, he should back you on this and help run interference when his mom overstays her welcome.

She asks DH if she can come over and he asks me. She would be over here everyday if she could. She’s recently retired and has endless amount of time to waste.

Unfortunately the grandparents will be daycare. Luckily I can work from home and my job isn’t too demanding so I won’t need help everyday. But MIL will be over more when I go back to work. There’s plenty of time for her to spend with him.

She asks DH if she can come over and he asks me. She would be over here everyday if she could. Sheís recently retired and has endless amount of time to waste.

Unfortunately the grandparents will be daycare. Luckily I can work from home and my job isnít too demanding so I wonít need help everyday. But MIL will be over more when I go back to work. Thereís plenty of time for her to spend with him.

Now is the time to get her acclimated to her role as caregiver. This included, food and naps. For ME, it would be important for the child to not get used to being held All The Time.

Prior to having a baby, I saw my MIL only on special occasions or holidays. Since having my first child in November, she has been over 2-3 times a week and frankly Iím getting sick of it. My maternity leave is over in a few weeks and I donít want to give up any more time with baby then I have to.

Plus when sheís over, she baby hogs. She will hold him for hours on end. I have to argue with her just so I can get him to nurse. Baby canít nap because she wonít let him. She does everything she can to keep him up so she can play with him.

I donít know if im overreacting but I feel like Iím seeing her too much. Once a week is where I would like to keep it at. DH doesnt think itís a big deal. He doesnít have a problem with handing baby over to his mom.

What do you guys think? Should I cut down the visits?? And if I should, how do I go about doing it? Iíve never been good at saying no

Man what a bummer! May need to move a state away or something, it sure needs to end.

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