Christmas morning visitors

We have DC who is just 2. So he isn't too clued into the whole Santa thing just yet. I don't talk to my in laws (previous threads on this) so H and I Will not be spending tomorrow together he is going to his family I along with DC will be going to mine (H's choice).

Anyway I have been saying for weeks that I would like Xmas morning just the three of us no visitors and well see our families in the afternoon. Well this week because my sister had said she was going to call up tonight (she has been and gone) H has said he will have his family up in the morning. Just because that is what they do. I am so so angry we don't speak and they'll probably land in while I'm trying to get sorted for going to Church or first thing before we have even opened presents. I can barely stand to look at him for not spending the day with us never mind this.

Well they aren't up for burying the hatchet I'm not invited to their Christmas Day dinner nor have I been invited to their Boxing Day dinner either. Just pissed off they get to come into my home make me feel uncomfortable and I'm not allowed in theirs

Absolutely not. You need to be firm with your DH. If you are not welcome in their home then they are not welcome in yours. If your DH is going to them later in the day anyway why do they need to come to you at all?

Nope if you're not allowed to their home you can refuse them entry to yours. Your DH can like it or lump it; if he's so desperate to spend time with them he can see them in their own home. How incredibly rude of him to think it's ok to allow this to happen. It's not even your in-laws fault here, I'd be laying the blame with your DH.

YANBU. If you aren't welcome at their house, then they are most certainly not welcome at your house. Fuck that. Your DH is the problem though - what sort of a twat would rather spend Christmas Day away from his wife and DC?

His mum is extremely controlling always has to be her way. When DC came along she didn't like that I spent a lot of my maternity with my own mum (while H was at work). She wNted to be no1 grandma. Then I was told I had to have SIL as bridesmaid or they wouldn't go to wedding. Then my hen SIL hit my friend and at the wedding they refused to speak to me then both verbally attacked me at the very end of the night which resulted with me in tears. I told H then that I was done