Wwyd? Not sure if you fancy someone

If you met someone, got on well, had a few drinks and a smooch. But then saw each other again without drinking (daytime lunch date) and didn't feel much attraction, would you see them again? You find them attractive in pics and get on well with them, but you're both a bit nervy/shy around new people and their behaviour round you is a bit dopey and wet

AnyFucker: because both of us were nervous and probably not ourselves. I do find him attractive just didn't on that occasion. Sometimes chemistry isn't instant. The very fact I'm even asking suggests I'm curious I guess!

Wet wasn't a very nice word to use!! It's not really that accurate! It was fairly good but he was nervous and it really showed. Definitely wasn't bad. This is why I think we should give it another go but maybe with drinks again.

Nope. Don't do it. I had a date with someone I could have described like this and got lovelorn messages when I politely and gently said I didn't want to meet up for a second date. Can only imagine what it would have been like after another date.

You're right. It's a weird one though because he has so many amazing qualities I admire. And we barely know each other. In an ideal world id like to get to know him better without forcing things but that seems a bit naive on my part. And could be construed as leading him on

I have gone out with guys in the past with whom I've immediately known I don't want want to see again. I just feel weird about this guy? Like at first I wasn't sure but he's really growing on me. The lack of instant attraction though... I'm not sure whether this is a big problem at this stage?

AF I'm genuinely the opposite of desperate. Have had maybe 15 dates over the last few years, with the potential for additional dates but not been keen. Permanently single, in fact never had a serious relationship. I'm 23.

banning this guy is very polite and respectful though. We have been in contact and he seems keen to put up again but hasn't pushed it at all. Kind of left it in my court really. I do think he's keen but no lovelorn messages (have had these in the past, yes they are a massive turnoff)

I have just gone through this. Met a guy had an amazing time, a real connection I thought and I was really looking forward to the next date. Met up and instantly thought, nope. All my friends will tell you, I don't go for looks its all about the connection for me. Booze definitely lulled me into a false sense of chemistry.