Pickup Techniques & More

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Hi Dave,

I'm a guy who has had pretty good success with women. I'm in shape, attractive, not shy, and have always had the attitude that if she isn't interested, there must be something wrong with her. But your materials are fantastic. They have helped me develop a plan so that I can be better prepared in certain situations. And the entire Cocky & Funny thing has helped me to identify the right women. In other words, some women get offended and turned off when using this approach. Great! If you are a stuffy, too-good-for-everyone, can't-have-any-fun woman, I don't need you or your attitude. This technique allows me to discover who the fun ones are.

Now for how your materials helped me this past weekend: I'm in a college football town and was at a huge tailgate (10,000 people) party that took place near the stadium in front of a local hotel. I was in the hallway of the hotel using my cell phone and saw a gorgeous girl sitting on a bench doing the same. This was our dialogue when she got up to leave:

Me: "You're going to leave without even hitting on me?" Her: "You need a better line than that." Me: "That wasn't a line." Her: "That was a line — and a bad one." Me: "For it to be a line I would have had to be interested in you." Her: "You're a player." (She laughs and hits me.) Me: "You're not very smart are you? The game already started and the players are on the field. I see: You thought you would meet some athlete down here, seduce him and then hit the lottery huh?” Her: (She hits me again) Me: “Why don't you try Los Angeles. Kobe's out there.” Her: “I have to go to the bathroom. Don’t go anywhere.”

This is where it gets classic. While she was in the bathroom, her friend (who I didn't know was her friend and wasn't around earlier) sat down on a chair near me and we made eye contact. I thought to myself that if I weren't waiting on the other one I would get to know this one. We exchanged a couple of smiles and that was it. I thought about getting her e-mail, but didn't.

Here is how it picked up with the original girl:

Me: “It's about time. I almost didn't wait that long.” Her: “Stop!” Me: “Plus, I had that girl over there hitting on me.” Her: “That’s my friend I came with!” Me: “Some friend — she tried to steal me when you weren't looking.” Her: “Were you hitting on him?” (To her friend) Friend: "Maybe" (laughing) Her: “The love of my life and you try to steal him (sarcastic).” Me: "I have to get to a private party I'm here for... Do you have an e-mail address?" Her: "Only if I get yours." Me: "Only if I get a kiss goodbye." Her: (She gives me a quick kiss on the lips.) Me: "That's not what I meant. Tell your friend you will be back in about five minutes." Her: "You're going to be here for five minutes." (To her friend) Me: "Follow me!"