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Delivery room

I didn't know what else to put in the title bar. So this is my second pg and with my first born I had my mother in law my mom and my husband in there with me. I'm due the end of june and I've been thinking about who will be in the room with me this time. I just want it to be my husband. Just us. I felt so awkward last time because my mom was pushing my head down trying to get me to push harder. Haha what an image right? I feel bad that I don't want her in there but I know if shes there then my dad will be too. He was disappointed he couldn't be there for my first. But I don't want either one helping me push or watching the baby come out. Anyone have any ideas as to what I can do or say to try to make this not seem mean or anything to them?

This is about you, your husband, and your baby. Everyone else will just have to deal with it. I didn't want an audience, either, and a lot of people standing around wouldn't have been helpful to me. Don't give an inch.

Well, it's not their pregnancy or their body, so they will have to live by whatever you want. Personally, I can't imagine anyone other than the baby's dad thinking they had any right to be there!! I would have killed my mom if she wanted to be there, and it would have embarrassed my dad to death!!

I also only had my dh for both kids and my dad IS an ob/gyn. Not that I don't fully trust the parents but it was a private thing to me. My father used to joke about how some families would have ten or twelve people in the room with video cameras (that number is not allowed anymore and my dad is retired). If it were me, either don't tell them when you've gone into labor (if you're really afraid to confront them) or just say, "This time, it's just me and my husband."

What kind of experience do you want (someone helped you push) ?
If you plan a water birth for example, and choose a setting/provider where people don't tell moms to push then you can have privacy and a normal experience. You can let others know that you want the safest experience possible for you & baby so you need to keep the attendants to the essentials. Who you invite to your birth can affect the outcome!