While hooking up in college doesn't happen as much as most people think, clearly, it does happen. But what's considered acceptable when it comes to sex might surprise you.

While hooking up in college doesn't happen as much as most people think, clearly, it does happen. But what's considered acceptable when it comes to sex might surprise you.

In a new study of nearly 300 college students, many said that it's totally fine and normal to have sex at a party (among the Solo cups and beer sludge) but not on a first date—even if the couple in question had previously had sex.

Sorry but, um, we're a little confused.

According to the survey results, part of the reason why a random hookup at a frat house would be totally kosher but getting busy on a first date–with a guy whose last name you actually know—is not? Alcohol. Forty percent of respondents said that booze would be flowing in a party sitch but not so much on a first date—meaning, we assume, that you can use insobriety as an excuse for the party boning, thus making it easier to explain.

"Our findings suggest that different behavior by the exact same people is really based on the context or the situation...not necessarily just the person, who they are, their values or their desires," said study researcher Gretchen Webber of Middle Tennessee State University. "It really shows the dominance of the setting for directing people's behavior."

Not surprisingly, some of the survey-takers said that first date sex would reflect poorly on those having it—particularly on women. Overall, the results seem to suggest that being on a date requires people to adopt more conservative behavior—especially us ladies—in order to not tarnish our good names. Which totally harks of outdated, old-timey (and, dare we say, sexist?) dating standards.

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It's pretty crazy-slash-sad that in 2013, it's considered acceptable to have loveless, meaningless sex that you can blame on being drunk, but getting busy with someone you might actually like, when you have all of wits about you, is cause for major judgment. Something just isn't right about that…