My dramatic life lately

Okay so my car was stolen between Thursday night and Friday morning last week. I've filed with insurance and the police. If my car isn't found in 2 weeks, it's a total loss and I can buy a new one. (thank goodness for my good credit rating)...

My ex-husband texts me yesterday while I'm on my way to my attorney's office to let me know he is considering dropping the proceedings if we can come to a common ground on visitation. Fine by me, I've always met him half way since our divorce. He then brings up the plane thing again - I'm sorry, I am not allowing our 6 year old child to fly to Dallas with strangers. Not happening. I told him that if he would fly up to get DS and fly back when it was time for him to come home then I would agree. Or even if one of his sisters accompanied him. Even his dad. But not alone. He's just too young...he said "Well, court will proceed."

Fine with me. I'd rather go to court and let the judge decide because then ex-husband would realize he can't scare me with BS. He is claiming contempt, but I have gas receipts and phone records to prove that I've been meeting him in Texarkana on a regular basis, as well as talking to DS on the phone regularly. He said I denied him visitation in March - not true. DS had spring break that month and ex-husband told me he had trouble finding daycare. That's not my problem - he chose not to see him in March. There was one weekend where DS was very sick with a sinus infection and fever and I couldn't send him to Dallas because I needed to take him to the after hours clinic to get an antibiotic. Ex-husband asked me where my documentation was for not denying him and I replied with "His doctor visit that Saturday." I also said, "I told you spring break was coming up 2 weeks beforehand and you said you couldn't find daycare. How is that denying you your visitation?"

I have worked around ex's schedule for 3 years...I'm not doing it anymore. I've tried compromise...Now it's up to the judge.

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the flying alone thing really bothers me too. i see it frequently on the stepparent board, people send their kids and think nothing of it. i guess when its from the other parent's perspective they just want to see the kid they don't care how the child gets there. i would never let DS travel alone and he has been on enough flights with me to know the drill with security and all but still, i wouldn't. i don't understand why mother's are chastised for leaving their kids in daycare or with babysitters but letting them fly with strangers is OK.

I would suggest you get one his therapists to write his recommendation that traveling alone at this age would not be a good idea for him. I had to do the same when ex wanted the kids to go 1 wk @ his house & 1 wk @ mine..... that's not a good idea for kids even without special needs, right?

oh I absolutely have all of DS's medical professionals on my side. All of his medical records are here....His pediatrician and OT would definitely think and recommend him not travelling alone! To me, doing that is just neglect!

For some kids, I think travelling without their parents at that age isn't so bad. They're safe and looked after, have flown lots before, and know they'll be met at the other end. Some kids. Not all. I've sat beside little ones on the airplane who were traveling on their own, who were totally cool with it and excited... and others who were decidedly NOT.

But you know your kid, and know that this would NOT be a good thing!

Perhaps call the airlines and see if a child with specail needs like yours is acceptable to them for flying on their own. They may have clauses concerning this that will give you an out?