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Saturday, 30 January 2016

Rape Culture

Blessington. When he was 14, this man raped and killed
Janine Balding. He was locked up in the jail for his entire life. And he is asking for “clemency”. Why isn’t that good?

For me, how it ends up is
good. He should never be set free. He
can just rot away in this jail for what he did to Janine Balding, and the grief
he caused to her family. When I read the history I cried. I thought about my
own rape, the rape of Jyoti in India, the rape of so many women. “Clemency”? He should never receive “clemency”!

Rape happens… every… single… day.

Too many women are murdered.

Too many women are “blamed”.

Too many women become mentally ill when they try to
live with their memories.

Too many women have to live with it.

Women don’t report it because they don’t trust courts
to believe them. Why not? Because men can just say that they “loved her”. Or
they didn’t “touch her”. Or they were “taught to be nice to her”.

I read an extremely wrongarticle by “Dr”Tara J. Palmatier who supported “A Voice for Men”
to turn against “Rape Culture”. Palmatier knows nothing about women who were raped by men. Who were very hurt by
the insertion of … a metal stick (Jyoti) or a bayonet (me) during rape. Who was
killed because the men (boys) thought
that would finish whatever for them! FFS, get real “Dr” Palmatier!!!

Any man jailed for rape
might adhere to rape by men. Why are they being raped? Because the men who
conduct this crime think they have the crime which the men already committed.
Why isn’t that in court? Because the men
who claim they have been raped already raped a woman!!!

This Time article on 20 March 2014 says that “rape
culture” doesn’t exist. I wonder if the woman who wrote this understands what
has happened in the last 40 years? Valenti said “Rape-culture theory
is doing little to help victims, but its power to poison the minds of young
women and lead to hostile environments for innocent males is immense.” Oh how
much I really wish that 40 years ago I could have reported my rape to police
and expected the disgusting men to end up in jail! Nowadays? YES, I could
expect that! That is not a culture, it’s a law,
and must be kept alive!

Ending “rape
culture” will not end rape. Ending “rape culture” will not assist women who are
raped. Ending “rape culture” will not, ever, lock a man into jail for the rest
of his life because the anti-rape-culture society think he did something small
wrong and has paid for it and needs to start a new life!

What
about women who are raped? Will they ever start a “new life”? They can, only if
rape is seen to be a backwards “culture”. They can, only if they can expect the
law to back them. They can, only if the disgusting rapists are locked away, hopefully for
the rest of their lives! That is a law, and must be kept alive!