Many of the couples I work with are feeling more trust with their partner who cheated after 2 to 5 years. Some say they will never get it back completely, and still others say they feel closer to their partner after the affair because their confidence in the marriage is stronger as they have learned to talk about all issues. There is no doubt cheating is destructive to the blind trust you may have once had, but with constant work, forgiveness and a desire to stay married, your marriage can survive and continue growing. This article offers tips for your marriage surviving infidelity.
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In dual income couples, the largest problem is finding the time, and therefore this statistic will most likely increase. If you don’t make time for sex and intimacy, or if you don’t prioritize your sex life, it will be replaced by other things that need to be done. Those other things may be important, but the intimacy and sexual connection within a relationship is the number two reason for marital discord. Number one is communication. Usually in a failing relationship the communication becomes talk about why we aren’t having sex. This article offers suggestions.
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You may not have to hire your professionally trained hugger or cuddlier right now, but it would be wise to begin the practice with your partner. Most people appreciate being touched, hugged and talked to softly when they are stressed. With today’s technology, that is most likely most days for most of us. No other drug can restore calm as quickly and effectively as a warm hug. This article explains the health benefits of hugging. Don’t forget to hug your kids too, no matter how old or big they are.
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Every healthy happy married couple I know has had bad years. It is normal; it is to be anticipated. I would be nervous about marrying anyone who wasn’t open to talking about how to handle the difficult times prior to becoming my partner. Marriage is a lifestyle. It is an incredible shared journey with another person. That person will be your teacher, lover, best friend, worst friend, and co-parent. They deserve the best of you, the worst of you, and the truth of you. It’s not about being married “Happily ever after,” it’s about being married “Authentically ever after…and finding the happiness in that.” This article offers help in saving your marriage.
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A kid learns empathy, respect for authority, and respect for others at home. If the parents aren’t at home, have no respect for one another or their child, and don’t set examples of morality, empathy and respect, how in the world is their child going to value those characteristics?If or when a child cannot be polite and respectful, before I look too deeply into their eyes, I am going to look into the parent’s. Kids are mirrors of the home. Helpful suggestions are in this article.
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I don’t think the question is, “Can women have it all?” I think the question is, “Will I know it and appreciate it when I have it all?” There is a consequence for every behavior, and weighing the cost of the pros and cons of each choice is a better way to teach women what having it all involves. For more suggestions in regards to “Can women have it all” read this article.
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In order to become the best version of ourselves, we need to set goals. Real friends support our goals and want the best for us. If you set a goal and notice others trying to dissuade you or make you feel less fun, less worthwhile, or shamed in any way, that is a red flag the person you thought was a friend is terrified of their failure if you succeed. Gently back away and leave the room. This article helps you identify and deal with fake friends.
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Having kids means learning to let go, watch them grow, and yet somehow be the net underneath them when they fall. For many of our kids, failing at a marriage is a fall. Let them know…home is always going to be home. This article offers helpful advice if your children are considering a divorce.
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It doesn’t really matter in a marriage who does what, but how one feels about what they do is everything. When I talk to couples about getting married this is one area most of them haven’t discussed or thought about. When it is first mentioned the guy looks at me and says, “We are going to share EVERYTHING.” I want to believe him, I really do, but the statistics will not support him. If you want a happy contented relationship, talk about who does what prior to someone getting angry. If you aren’t doing your fair share, step up to the plate. The guys who pitch in the most, and do their fair share, have more time to enjoy intimacy. Their wife is usually happier and more receptive as well. This article helps you plan who will do what.
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Every human I know has made at least one promise they didn’t keep. Hopefully, it’s only one or two. If this is a consistent pattern for you, it’s time to work on this. If you destroy someone’s ability to trust you, you have destroyed someone who had faith in you at one time. With each year that passes, you will realize there are less and less people who have faith in you. Life gets lonely when no one trusts you anymore. Life becomes hell when you don’t trust yourself anymore. 5 important ways to make amends with people who no longer believe your words.
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