Gay Husband in Pakistan?

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What should she do? Divorce? [Find Out - Read..]

WE DO NOT OFFER FATWAH(Religious Rulings)."It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matterthat they should have any option in their decision."Quran [33:36]

Bismillah Rahman RaheemAnswer #03-05-24 1:04p

A sister asks what to do since she found out her husband, a child specialist doctor, is a gay (homosexual)?www.IslamsWomen.comprovides us with a deep look into the answer on this one. He answered the Muslim sister as follows:

My husband is a medical doctor, a child specialist to be exact, living in Pakistan. I know my husband is a gay and he says he's a Muslim. He says he's a Muslim, but he prefers men in his life. I don't see him pray but I do see him looking online for other 'gays' to meet up with (he says there is no sex, just love). How or what does that mean?

My family don't know but if they did, they would hate him and me too, just for being married to him. They are strict Muslims, pray every day and go to the Friday prayers regularly. My father reads Quran in Arabic and does Ramazan prayers too. He would go mad if he knows this.

I read Muslims can't be married to gays, even heard gays cannot be Muslims at all. I'm loosing my mind worrying about all of this. What do I do as a Muslimah?

Bismillah Was salat was salam ala Rasoolullah. Allahu 'Alim.

Sister, this type of situation is a most unfortunate circumstance, without doubt. However, we must always keep in mind that everything that happens to us is a test from Allah. We must keep our heads about us and deal with each situation with the firm belief that this is only a trial from Allah and He is watching and recording all that we are doing about the situations that He puts us into.

Having said that, we encourage you to read something placed on the Internet by us some years ago on this very same subject: Islam Tomorrow.com/gays.htm

__________________________________________You know your situation better than anyone else. However, it might be that the other person could read this pages and then rethink their position and perhaps turn away from this way before it is too late for him.

If any gay person wants to go straight and make taubah, they should cut all relationships withÂ previous acquaintances involved in this. They may do well to relocate in another place, inshallah.

We have heard from several scholars, it someone has no intention of leaving this unnatural and forbidden practice, then the spouse has no choice except for divorce, but Allah Knows best.___________________________________________Sometimes people are doing things that they do not consider to be haram or forbidden, due to their lack of knowledge of real Islam.

We find that when people know better, they do better. So ask these people to read from our pages about Islam and the purpose of life at:

Chat Islam (Listen to lectures and advise of real scholars of Islam = in plain English - you can even ask scholars questions while chatting with them).

We suggest you speak to respected scholars and authorities in your own country to learn more of the rulings and legal information regarding this topic.

Also pray for these people to be rightly Guided by Allah Subhannah wa Ta'ala, Who Says in His Book:

O you who believe! Enter perfectly in Islam (by obeying all the rules and regulations of the Islamic religion) and follow not the footsteps of Shayton (Satan). Verily! He is to you a plain enemy.Quran 2:208:

Comments

my husband is a bisexual, he has this account on a dating website under man seeking men, he talks to these guys go to meet them.i understand hes not into sex but hes looking for love from a guy.and i dont know if he ever had a sexual relatoioin ship with anyone.but thats disturbing for me. i dont know what to do.

If you are sure that your husband is homosexual, then you should advise him and remind him of Allaah and of His severe Punishment in this life and in the Hereafter for whoever commits this act; look how Allaah punished the people of Lot (Lut) because of this abominable act. __As regards the treatment of this, then it is easy for whoever Allaah made it easy for him. If your husband really wants to get rid of this bad habit, then he has to be sincere with Allaah, and he should be really determined to refrain from it, as Allaah does not forsake whoever is sincere with Him; Allaah Says (what means): {As for he who gives and fears Allaah. And believes in the best [reward]. We will ease him toward ease.}[Quran 92:5-7] Besides, the Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam said about one of his companions: “He was true to Allaah, so Allaah was true to him [i.e. fulfilled his needs].” [Abdur-Razaaq] __Moreover, he should earnestly supplicate to Allaah as much as possible; Allaah Says (what means): {And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me-indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me.}[Quran 2:186] __In addition to this, he should avoid the bad environment that helps him to commit this sin, and he should be keen on keeping company with righteous people. It is reported in a Hadeeth that a person killed 99 persons and he wanted to repent, so a scholar told him: “Go to such and such land as there are people who worship Allaah there, so worship Allaah with them, and do not go back to your land, as it is an evil land.” [Muslim]__It should be mentioned here that residing in a non-Muslim country could be a means of much temptation, so if you are able to migrate to a Muslim country, then you should do so, as this will help your husband to repent. __If he repents, then all perfect praise be to Allaah, but if he insists on this condition and his wife fears to be harmed by staying with him, then she may ask him for divorce. If he refuses, she may take the case to the authorities which are specialized in dealing with the personal affairs of Muslims, like Islamic centres, so that they will divorce her from him even in return for compensation (which she pays to him).