yeah, i certainly wouldn't focus on the bad experiences. they don't all end up like that. my older brother and his girlfriend got pregnant when they were 17, had the baby when they were 18...he now has 3 kids, and he is the one who takes care of them because the mother decided she didn't want to be a mother anymore. he still managed to go through college AFTER the 3rd was born while working, and while my mom was concerned when they got pregnant at 17, she never treated him horribly. she still supported him and those children are her life. she didn't raise them for him...he still had to be a parent and give up the extra stuff, but it's not like she let him fall on his a**, refusing to help at all. i agree it's not easy, but it can be done and people do it everyday.