I've cloth diapered two kiddos and am 35 weeks pregnant with #3, preparing to CD again. For the newborn stage I mostly use AIO's and after that, prefolds with PUL or wool, or pockets. I also have a friend passing along some of her stash, not sure what's in it. We have an HE front-loader and apparently hard water. I tried several detergents (Allen's, Charlie's, Country Save) and ultimately have stuck with Charlie's for all our laundry. I did have stink issues when were diapering and my husband's clothes (he works out a lot) were also not smelling clean. After years of him begging me, I finally got Tide and use it on his clothes (still using Charlie's on mine and the kids'). I hate than even with an extra rinse, his clothes still smell like Tide. Our good friends own a diaper store and are RDA leaders, and they use/recommend Tide for diapers because they too have hard water. So, I'm planning to try it when we start diapering the newbie as I know it's a common choice for CD's (even though it seems to go against some rules!), but I'm wondering if others who use it rinse more than they otherwise would with a more natural detergent? I normally do a rinse/drain/spin with no detergent, then a heavy duty hot wash with detergent and an extra rinse. Will that be enough or will there still be Tide residue?

Next question, we also have a huge static problem with DH's clothes, especially because he has a lot of synthetic fabrics. I've tried many natural remedies and finally after years of begging on this issue too, I bought some Mrs. Meyers dryer sheets that I've been using on his laundry only. It hasn't eliminated the problem but has helped a little. Will the dryer sheets leave residue in our dryer and affect diapers? What about if we have wool dryer balls in there, will they collect residue and expose the diapers?

Last question, while I have used wool in the past and wool nursing pads, I decided I was a wool failure. Even immediately post-wash, the soakers would have a hard/cakey area in the crotch from urine and my nursing pads from dried milk, and the soakers would smell after a pee. I think my problem may have been overlanolizing, as I was lanolizing every time I washed. I have Eucalan now so I'd like to try again, but I would need to somehow strip/clean my soakers and nursing pads before starting again. Is there a way to do this?