Legendary actress Ruby Dee has died at age 91, a family member confirmed Thursday.

The Grammy-winning actress is best known for her stage and screen work in films such as “A Raisin in the Sun” (1961), Spike Lee’s “Do the Right Thing” (1989), and the 1979 TV movie “Roots: The Next Generation”. Ruby Dee and her husband of 57 years, actor Ossie Davis, had an open marriage.

“It occurred to us, from observation and reasoning, that extramarital sex was not what really destroyed marriages, but rather the lies and deception that invariably accompanied it — that was the culprit,” Ossie, 97, wrote in their joint autobiography.

He wrote that they gave each other permission to sleep with other partners — as long as they were “honest as well as private, and that neither of us exposed the family to scandal or disease.”

“But looking back, I’d say no matter what did or did not happen, we freed each other. And in doing that, we also freed ourselves…Sex is fine, but love is better,” he wrote.

Ruby wrote:

“We both came to realize that we were very fortunate that, in all of the deep profound, fundamental ways, we really, really only wanted each other. It was like a rediscovery of something from the beginning. It’s not something that you’d recommend to everybody. But often Ossie has said – and I’ve though too – the best way to have somebody is to let it go. If it doesn’t come back you are free in another kind of sense – in that you find the strength to let go and wish somebody well. So, we thought an open marriage was appropriate for us but it turned out not to be. But then that’s what we’re all about, we are moving from one position to another in the process of trying to unravel this thing call life.”

R.I.P. Ruby Dee! Now I didn’t know she and Ossie divorced. I do recall him being found dead in a Miami hotel room, no more info was released about his death whether he was alone or if he had a heart attack.

http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

Thanks @ LaceJagger.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

Dey got divorced? is nothing sacred?

http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

Every newspaper has an obituary already written for every living star. All they have to do is plug in the dates.

MissHarlem

JENIE I too was confused as to why sex was written in the post.

Afiya

AWWW, Rest in Peace Lovely Lady…your man awaits you!

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

Legendary actress Ruby Dee has died at age 91, a family member confirmed Thursday.
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We know it weren’t Missy J who told cause she just found out

Tea Is Finally Here

Anybody see this headline on Yahoo?…..Kelly Rowland Pregnant with Future Personal Assistant to Blue Ivy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

the best way to have somebody is to let it go.
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I understood what the old heads meant when they used to say this, but now I GET it.

I guess they saying that when J.Ho and Kimmy Cakes die they gonna be saints too. ppl cant wait til you die so they can say what they wouldnt have said if you were alive. nobody was talking about how Maya Angelou used to be a stripper until she passed. The media is weird that way.

luVn_liFe…

BEAUTIFUL WOMAN! she lived a long life.

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

WAYMENT I am just getting to the write up and I saw open marriage
We gone drag on her life exit? #weak

The both of them I admired but for the record not for their marital things …. hell I have my parents for that …. but Ossie and Ruby were great activist…. my parents put me on as a younging… you can’t help but admire people that fought for a cause this is sad…. let me call my mamma BRB!

luVn_liFe…

WEIRD

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

So if they ended up divorced when they was both “old as hell” btw ( hey Jennie). What does that say about open marriages?

Tea Is Finally Here

Oh the shade…..Congratulations to Kelly Rowland and Blue Ivy Carter! May the future Rowland-Witherspoon child be as fastidious at signing non-disclosure agreements as he/she will be at carrying out Starbucks orders.

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Buttercup says:

the best way to have somebody is to let it go.
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I understood what the old heads meant when they used to say this, but now I GET it.

I’m happy that she lived a long life.
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“Im lettin her do her and in turn she’s doin me” one of my favorite Jay Z verses (among many)

that extramarital sex was not what really destroyed marriages, but rather the lies and deception that invariably accompanied it

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Where @Man at? He need to read this right here!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

Everyone on here in the single digits? As far as partners go?

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Nah I’m around LTL if anyone speaks freight and logistics j/k

by missyJ on Jun 12, 2014 at 1:40 pm
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I was just wonder cause folk is lettin jlo have it. In this day and age a woman in her 40 s prob has done a lot ijs

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

Everyone on here in the single digits? As far as partners go?
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I replied downstairs

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I was just wonder cause folk is lettin jlo have it. In this day and age a woman in her 40 s prob has done a lot ijs
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yes, but not usually back to back to back to back to back

you are right tho, single ppl do get it in but the kitty cat needs a nap sometimes. let that monkey rest before it falls out the socket

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

We’ll one that looks like jlo anyway men been after datazz since she was 12 prolly

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

“Im lettin her do her and in turn she’s doin me” one of my favorite Jay Z verses (among many)
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Knowing that someone could spend time and effort on anyone else, but they choose to spend it with you is one way we should determine if things are real.

*blows non-existent bangs* I need to lay on the blog’s couch for a minute. Y’all feel like being shyt for a few minutes?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

In this day and age a woman in her 40 s prob has done a lot ijs

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What folks you know?? Yo people be goin to them “parties” getting the gift or something?

Just Looking

RIP RUBY DEE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

*blows non-existent bangs* I need to lay on the blog’s couch for a minute. Y’all feel like being shyt for a few minutes?

for the record, iont care bout lopez’s count, her c0cks, her cooch, her c.u.next tuesday, her nothing but, hey, everyone’s entitled to their opinion
seems odd though, that lopez is worth defending, but there was a whole list of ‘thou shalt nots’ that Beyonce shoulda been observing ‘because she’s a mother now’ all based on her attire (or lack thereof ), so, lopez can put it in a blender and serve her milkshake to ALL the boys and i’m still not interested. her mileage don’t put wear & tear on my vehicle. also, she’s a public figure, so folks gonna comment on nearly everything she does.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

RIP Ruby Dee!!

essenze

Rip Ruby Dee. Yeah I didn’t need to know all of THAT about her and Ossie but different strokes for BBB different folks. As far as partners that’s between me and the man upstairs but let’s just say Ms. Essenze has lived quite a life while she was in her 20’s

Beta

Why fo Luvn

aRoTh

RIP Ruby.

Wasn’t she was in American Gangsta as well?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

So Honey Dip and I have a mutual friend who is a male. He was Honey Dip’s friend first, and I met him later (before Honey Dip and I got together), so we each have our one relationship with him, and it just made the times the 3 of us would hang out that much easier.

Just as I did with my girl freeeens, I let him know that I was in town and would like to catch up. We went to dinner and to a chill bar afterwards. He paid for dinner, and I paid forth drinks. During outing he would say things like he shouldnt have introduced Honey Dip and I, he likes women with my build, he wants to marry a woman who is a nurturing woman like myself, etc. Before Honey Dip and I got together, I knew dude had a crush on me, but I was never interested in being more than friends with him.

Fast forward to a couple of nights ago, we had dinner and he took me to see the place he just bought. Then he asks me to pinky promise something I said okay, because I understaood where he was getting at. He then said that he’s really enjoyed my company the last 2 timed we hung out. He liked me before Honey Dip and I got together. He just felt that he should let me know because he feels he’s missed out on good women because he didn’t open his mouth. I basically said, “Oh, that’s nice.”

I really didn’t think anything of it until the next morning- blame the merlot. Then I started to get pissed. I feel like he put me in a tough spot. Even though we’re technically together, I don’t want to keep things from Honey Dip. Honey Dip considers this guy to be a good friend- like groomsman type good friend. Then again, I told dude that I wouldn’t say anything. I’m torn

MrsL

RIP Soror.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

Butter it has been 15 minutes nah! WHere is yew?

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

:offtopic; walking back to work and to avoid talking to someone I put my earphones and started moving my mouth like I was talking. The person got the hint. But I just realized I had no sound coming out I was just mouthing…. They probably was like But I don’t even care. Stuff petty people do

Just Looking

yes, but not usually back to back to back to back to back
you are right tho, single ppl do get it in but the kitty cat needs a nap sometimes. let that monkey rest before it falls out the socket
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I’ve know people mostly men, that have slept with multiple people in the same day.

Now on to the 40 thang.

Didn’t have sex until I was 20.

Unfortunately; there were times, I felt like I should have experienced more DYCK, but now I’m glad I didn’t. Because, i’m thankful I know about VALTREX through commercials.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

Please excuse the typos. I am on my ipad and was rushing for MsT

aRoTh

@Butter

Sounds like a setup to see if YOU “loyal”.

I hate men right now anyway, so.

luVn_liFe…

Butter
I wouldn’t mention it NOR would I continue to associate on that type of level with the male friend either

Just Looking

luVn_liFe… says:

StankBUGG!
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Hey Girl *giggles

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

Buttercup – I wouldn’t say anything. Just know that man is jacking off at thoughts of you and Mr. Buttercup He may even have pics of you and Mr. but he put a pic of his face over Mr’s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

*Honey Dip and I technically AREN’ T together

aRoTh

luVn_liFe… says:

Butter
I wouldn’t mention it NOR would I continue to associate on that type of level with the male friend either

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…THEY on some “bros before hoes” type chit right now. I can feel it. LOL

Just Looking

MisTaken is #unbothered says:

:offtopic; walking back to work and to avoid talking to someone I put my earphones and started moving my mouth like I was talking. The person got the hint. But I just realized I had no sound coming out I was just mouthing…. They probably was like But I don’t even care. Stuff petty people do
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This made me bust out laughing. I do this all the time…ONce I pretended I was on the phone and the phone rang…..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

But I just realized I had no sound coming out I was just mouthing….

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You are contained

luVn_liFe…

I just realized I had no sound coming out I was just mouthing…. They probably was like But I don’t even care.
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I’ve know people mostly men, that have slept with multiple people in the same day.
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I do too. just seems like a lot of work for my lazy ass

also, fuxing and being in a public relationship when you have kids are two different things. I dont want my kids to have that many “uncles” but J. Lo cant live her life for me…..or her kids either for that matter. she gotta get in wherever she fits in and apparently she fits in some of everythang. she got that universal remote pussay.

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

Butter Even if you don’t tell your Honey you and dude can’t hang like that anymore Ouy of respect to him. At least that’s how I operate. My husband might not ever ask me to cut ties bc he wouldn’t wanna seen jealous but best believe if I told him he would approach the dude. And to prevent somebody get they legs bent byke like paper clips and their ceiling end up missing I’d rather tell dude toodles. And if he gets mad then he’s not a real friend nor the type of man you thought he was. If he was with you he wouldn’t want you hanging with a man who liked you and basically is pursuing you. After all you two are long distance right now… Things can get dicey real quick.. Temptation is real

SOTHERNGRL

@Butter on one hand you did promise no to say anything and on the other hand ol dude did put you in a tough spot by proclaiming his feelings. I dont think you should say anything to Honey Dip it would be different if he had tried to kiss you or something. Now that you know how he feels I would just try to steer clear of him. This is just my opinion. I never been in this kind of predicament and would hate to tell you some wrong azz chit. But here

luVn_liFe…

Just Looking says: Hey Girl *giggles
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This sunDAy IS DEDDY’s day, whatchu doing for Mister?

aRoTh

Buttercup says:

*Honey Dip and I technically AREN’ T together
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SEE, TOTAL SET UP! THEY frens and they trying to test YOU out. Don’t fall for it. Next thing you know, Honey Dip gone come with a ring out the blue.

THEY done talked about this amongst themselves. Dip done confided in him and then they hatched the plan. I promise this sound like some of that “nigg@” chit dudes be on. I PROMISE! Watch how this chit plays out.

bama_n_jersey

Rest in Peace my beautiful Soror.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

Sounds like a setup to see if YOU “loyal”.
============ I could buy that, but we’ve been together 6 years. Long gone are the days of playing those games.

This dude always tries to one-up Honey Dip too. When Honey Dip was looking at purchasing his condo, dude asked if he could afford it. ” Just because I don’t talk about my money doesn’t mean I’m not getting it.” <—-Honey Dip's response.

He didn’t TRY anything so I wouldn’t say anything. You do need to quit playing frens with this guy and say there will never be a you and I, regardless of my relationship with Honey Dip.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

SEE, TOTAL SET UP!

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I hope not, because that would be the dumbest test ever. He’d be better off getting someone she didn’t know to try to holler. Not his boy, who she’s also friends with.

Naw that nucca just feeling Butter. That’s why he’s out here panky promising and ish which is rather wack .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

Rich people and shyt

aRoTh

….and b/c I been on the “fuvk nigg@s they ain’t chit” tip since Jan…what type of dude makes you “pinky” swear? Type of chit is THAT? Even if he and Dip ain’t trying to test you, he’s shady for even doing this behind his back. Should have kept his damn feelin’s to his damn self. I would have blew him off (like you sorta did) when he started talking that crap. Boi bye witcho ole shady messy boots ass. Ugh.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

Follow up question:

Have you ever told HD about the things he has said previously?

luVn_liFe…

aRoTh

Vdot says:

I hope not, because that would be the dumbest test ever. He’d be better off getting someone she didn’t know to try to holler. Not his boy, who she’s also friends with
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Nigg@ ARE DUMB! They do DUMB CHIT! Ask me how I know. LOL

Hearts~n~Kisses

@Buttah, He ain’t try to kiss or feel on you so I’d keep it to myself. Honey Dip fukk around and turn it on you on some “well you shouldn’t have went to his place in the first place” ****.

aRoTh

Vdot says:

That’s why he’s out here panky promising and ish which is rather wack
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See #98. LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

Ask me how I know.

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How you know? I sense a lot of anger and hurt in your font. Let’s discuss. Something in regards to your “situation”?

Just Looking

luVn_liFe… says:

Just Looking says: Hey Girl *giggles
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This sunDAy IS DEDDY’s day, whatchu doing for Mister?
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Hey booga- Ummm we going to my daddy house tonight in NJ – Dropping one kid off
Coming back on Saturday – Dropping another off at airport
Sunday – We are going to witness the the I DO’s

Cooking him some Lamb, Mashed Cauliflowers, and Kale (tossed with lemon juice) not cooked
Got him a gift card at the running store….and in my new nightie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

But if I put the shoe on the other foot, I would feel that Honey Dip lied through omission by not telling me. That could start to chip away at trust. Ultimately, my loyalty lies with Honey Dip. Then again I swore to secrecy.

I’m getting all over again. Why put someone in that situation? I kinda feel like Honey Dip should know that he isn’t loyal. Even if we had been broken up for years, it still wouldn’t be okay to date your dude’s ex. I probably should tell y’all that one of Honey Dip’s friendships has ended for this very thing. Dude and ole girl just got married. Honey Dip felt it was super grimey that his friend didn’t tell him he was dating his ex.

Wow, Butter. you can’t know what this guy’s ‘game’ might be. but you CAN keep it real with all parties involved. tell dude that although you ‘promised’ not to say anything, he needs to back-off and respect whatever you & honey dip got going on right now (you say yall not together technically but dude don’t need that level of detail. use this time to decide where YOU want your ‘situationship’ to go). and if you do suspect that he’s testing you, tell him that in the event you decide to marry HD, that lil pinky promise is gon be arse out, cause you aint finna rent no tux for him w/out HD knowing the deal.

Hearts~n~Kisses

@Buttah, Do what you feel is best for y’all. Only you know the ins and outs and full dynamics of your relationship. You know how Honey Dip operates. I feel you on him needing to know that niggah ain’t loyal too. Loyalty is EVERYTHING! Now I’m mad at his ass for putting you in that situation.

aRoTh

VDot says:

Ask me how I know.

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How you know? I sense a lot of anger and hurt in your font. Let’s discuss. Something in regards to your “situation”?
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Not hurting……anymore. LOL There is no longer a “situation”. It’s all taken care of. Let’s just say…

When you nignore a nig after it’s “over”, they tend to do stupid chit like:

A.) slash your tire
B.) put a nail in your tire after you didn’t respond to the slashed tire
C.) leave TWO tips of a knife in your tire after you get the nail tire fixed AND still don’t respond or react to the nail in your tire
D.) when THAT doesn’t work, they spend all day riding by your house……in broad daylight
E.) when you don’t respond to THAT they run up on your porch and yell HAPPY MOTHERS DAY in your window and go and get back in their car like that’s normal
F.) when you tell them that normal ppl don’t do that and they need to get some bizness bout theyself they
G.) send you a text msg a week later asking for a make-up date/truce
H.) then leaves a $100 bill in your mailbox

No problems here. LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi9ruVd5Vc8 VDot

Ummmmm that chit sounds CRAZY!!!

Hearts~n~Kisses

E.) when you don’t respond to THAT they run up on your porch and yell HAPPY MOTHERS DAY in your window and go and get back in their car like that’s normal
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This is HILARIOUS!! You had a straight lunatic!

http://youtu.be/Lx58GQtmE50 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

*hope I made sense earlier I am phone posting*
Let me go back and read what I wrote lol

free

“So, we thought an open marriage was appropriate for us but it turned out not to be.” doesn’t it always….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nAbQogbMOk Buttercup

MsT, your message was crystal clear Thank you, sugar.

free

MisTaken is #unbothered says: And to prevent somebody get they legs bent byke like paper clips and their ceiling end up missing

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free

Buttercup says: Just as I did with my girl freeeens, I let him know that I was in town and would like to catch up.

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Bill Duke —> “You done ****ed up, you know that don’t you?”

OpinionHated

I don’t get open marriages – why be married if you want to phuck other people just be single – the very term open marriage is an oxymoron – open marriage is what sex crazed people use as an excuse to double dip – if you with me be with me if you want to phuck an occassional random puzzy then leave me alone…. if it works for you great but I don’t share dyck or pannies…

Nakeya_J or Keke thanks to Unshake

Butter, tell honey dip the truth. Fuggin his friend. The pastor just told us these how’s ain’t loyal!! Tell him. He loves you and your kid. Do right.

http://www.swedishsoul.com lovebites

they did not divorce he died……

SoNastyandSoRude

how can someone be 97 and they are deceased…ozzie died like almost 10 yrs ago