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Well if we don't have a right to tell others, then what does it matter what a woman "should" do, in our opinion?

I mean of course you will get general agreement that people should take care of their kids.

I guess I'm not getting it. This seems to me another single mom bashing post. One on the board is enough.

Quoting Radarma:

Clarification, none of us "have a right" to tell others what they can or cannot do with their bodies (unless you are a cop, and they wanna off themselves, you can tell them they can't do that because it is illegal and all...) BUT/AND, we can still say what we think others "should" do, and what we think is acceptable or not.

yes. because i believe a woman has the 100% complete right to control her reproduction. no one has a right to override her.HOWEVER - i fully believe in the right for authorities to take children from anyone who cannot or does not care for them properly (i am not speaking of low income people or imperfect people.. i am speaking of people who harm children) - indefinitely or until they are able to do so.

Sure, she can HAVE as many children as she wants. What she can't do is expect someone else to pay for their expenses.We are all responsible for the consequences of our actions. My husband and I waited to have a child until we were financially prepared to take care of her, and right now we wouldn't be able to afford another child. So we're being careful not to get pregnant again until we can.

I don't like to tell people what they can or cannot do with their lives, but if a person really truly couldn't afford to care for another child then I think it would be very irresponsible to have one. If someone really wanted more children, then they should work on bettering they're financial situation first. I personally would like to have one more in a few years, but we wont unless we're in a better financial place by then. Right now we make just enough to stay afloat, and I want to be able to fully provide for the child I already have. It wouldn't be fair to dd or the new baby to have to deprive either of them of the things they need.

No, I find that to be idiotic. No one (or two) person/s can take care of 15 kids. When you start having that many the rest suffer, go with out, and are often forced to raise their siblings. Besides most middle class people can't really afford more than two.

I'm a firm believer in only having what you can afford and take care of. I find it to be extreamly selfish to just pop them out because you want a family. Families are like everything esle, you have to earn them.

I wholeheartedly agree. Unfortunatly, we can't take such rights away or we slowly lost all rights.

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