Hand Job Help! A How-to Guide to Getting Him Off

The ability to give a good handjob is an important, often overlooked, skill when it comes to satisfying your partner. It seems that many times handjobs are passed over for oral stimulation or straight-to-the-point penetration. However, handjobs can provide a sense of intimacy and make for a slow building orgasm that is often times unable to achieve with other forms of stimulation.

One of the most important aspects of giving a good handjob is the same as every part of relationships, sexual or not, communication. Knowing what your partner likes, how they like getting off, and what feels nice to them will go a long way in knowing just how to stroke him under your spell. The shaft of the penis may be the main focus of a handjob but it’s also important to remember that erogenous zones are located all around the body to add to the experience.

Just under the head, the base of the penis, and the area below the balls are all highly sensual areas that can be fondled for added excitement for him. However, areas like the neck, nipples, and thighs also provide an intensely pleasurable sensation when used as foreplay to the actual handjob, or in conjunction with stroking tips mentioned below. Nipple suckers work great for added stimulation!

Even though it’s called a handjob, it’s important not to get too ‘heavy handed’ when you’re getting him off. The fingers, and touch in general, are important to providing the most pleasurable experience possible.

The pads of the fingers are where it’s at! Allowing the pads to glide up and down the shaft will provide a surprisingly pleasurable sensation in a way he may have never had before!

Use both hands! Using both hands works in two ways. Pun definitely intended! First, a two-handed hand job again provides your man with a sensation he may have seen in adult films but never experienced for himself. Secondly, using one hand to support the base of the penis allows the other to focus on providing stimulation to the shaft through the finger pads.

Pay attention to your Partner’s reaction! Though you may have thoroughly communicated before, paying attention in the moment may lead to you realizing things about your partner’s likes and dislikes they may not even know. Listen for increased breathing, watch for muscle twitches, and focus on his reaction to increases in speed, tightness, or anything else during the handjob.

It is important to remember that, like many aspects of sexuality, giving a good handjob is a mostly mental process. The handjob was most likely your guy’s first sexual experience via masturbation so take this time to get in his head and figure out what he likes. Start out slow and figure out just how he likes to be touched, stroked, and played with. Using lube can provide extra stimulation as well. Consider the Sensuva Handi Pop Handjob Massage Gel or, for a prolonged handjob experience, Endless Love for Men.

Toys can also add a completely new sensuality to a handjob. If you and your partner have thoroughly discussed the use of toys, there are many different ways of adding new layers to your handjob game. Consider prostate stimulators, butt plugs, anal beads, or even strokers. Check out Adam’s Prostate Pal if you’re looking for a way to give your partner an intense orgasm that they’ll never forget, or try out the Stroke It Pussy for that ‘other woman’ feel.