How can I get a response from guy I fell in love with at the beach?

Over the summer I met this guy at the beach and it was like love at first sight. I dint have a phone at the time, so he asked me for my name so we could talk on Facebook. Well we are talking and he says he loves me and that we should of kissed at the beach. The last message he sent to me was that I was the most beautiful girl and that he wanted to meet me and wanted me to be his. I replied back to him saying that I felt the same. He has never replied back, but I saw that he was on like 20 minutes ago. He won't respond back. I am in love with him,and I don't want to keep messaging him askin why he won't reply bcz I don't want to be desperate.but he is so hot. I'm so surprised that he likes me. What do I do?

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maybe I'm just getting old and out of touch, but I have a hard time understanding the idea of falling for someone via the internet. sounds to me like you just have a heavy crush on the guy. people throw the word "love" around too loosely. I'm not sure I could fall in love with someone if it wasn't mostly in person, or at least through phone conversation. but I don't think the younger crowd even have phone conversations anymore, just texting, Facebook, etc. the world has passed me by, hahaha. but I'd just play it cool. you messaged him, the ball is in his court. for all you know, he already has a girlfriend and he's just playing with you. from what you wrote, it sounds like you're infatuated with his looks more than anything. I'm a sucker for a pretty face too, but you can't make a fool of yourself over it. good looking people come a dime a dozen. and I see that you live in Beverly Hills. every idiot that's the best looking person in their small town in Iowa or wherever goes to LA to try to "make it." he's not the last looker you're going to meet. you live in a city of 4 million people, they'll be out there, I promise you.

in unrelated news, I went to LA a couple times last summer...you must know Sprinkles cupcakes down near Rodeo Drive, right? had a S'mores cupcake with dark chocolate ice cream...possibly the best thing I ever ate. I would weigh 400 lbs if I lived out there, hahaha.

try not to take it personal. don't feel bad about yourself, even if he's playing around with you, his initial attraction to you was probably real. a lot of people who look good love attention and reassurance. I wouldn't call myself a show-stopper, but I've always gotten pretty good reviews. I was pretty full of myself back in the day, especially at your age. I didn't really know how to handle female attention. I think I just wanted to be wanted. I probably led a few girls on unfairly. but...

...i still didn't mess with girls I didn't think were cute to begin with. I never strung anyone along too badly, but I grew up pre-internet, so everything was face-to-face, or at least phone conversations. nowadays it's easy to hide behind the wall that is the internet, so you can probably get away with a lot more. but don't even waste time being sad over it. be flattered that he was even a little interested, and just charge it to the game, as they say. I've been on both ends of it, and you...

...will too. my mom told me along time ago, "over the course of your life, you're going to get your heart broken, and you're going to break others' hearts, sometimes without even knowing it." the good news is, it's not the end of the world. in high school, everything seemed so urgent. I thought it was the end of the world if I didn't get the girl I wanted. trust me, you'll barely remember this kid's name in a year or two. older people tried to tell me stuff like that when I was your age too...

...and I didn't believe them. but one thing I've learned as I get older is that most of the advice I got from older folks when I was younger turned out to be true. you don't want to hear it and you think we don't know what it's like to be a kid, but I feel like I was your age just yesterday. we're not as out of touch as you think! so my advice would be to hit up Sprinkles, take in about 1500 calories, and forget this dude. the next one will be along before you know it! good luck! :)

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If you really want to get a reply, saying something like, "I really liked you when we were face to face, you were so nice and true, and I really respected you. But since we've talked online you're like a different person and I don't think you're actually that for real."

He''ll kick off and be nasty but then it will start to bug him like crazy and he (probably) won't be able to resist trying to find out what you mean and get you to switch back to liking him again.

(Basically what it does is tell him that you have lost respect for him - men HATE that and almost can't help themselves but try to get it back).

But seriously, why bother with the jerk?! He's clearly been playing you and if you kick it off again what you'll get is a compulsive liar trying desperately to find a way to be the one that comes out the winner.

I don't mean to undermine your feelings, but you've got to get your head out of the clouds so to speak and see the bigger picture. It's been just about 6 months since you met, conversation has mostly been online, and you two love each other? Love is an incredibly strong word, and it does not equal having a complete crush on someone.

Simply put, it's too much too soon, especially given your age, so relax a bit and take things slow, don't fret over him not responding for now.

You haven't spent enough time around this guy in order for you to call it love. Is it his looks you're falling for? If so, looks will fade with age. Maybe you should take the ignored text as a good sign for you. Bottom line: He sounds like a player.

I do that a lot of times when I'm interested in a girl's looks NOT her...so pretty much he wants to make out and some sex with you, he's doesn't really wanna be in a relationship...I would've responded if I'm really interested in her but I wouldn't respond when things get serious...But hey that's just me so I'm not %100 sure if he's doing the same...but I have a feeling that he just wants sex and he thought you would want the same but you proved him wrong..Its just my opinion NOT a fact

If he's as hot as you make him out to be, he has other girls probably crawling all over him. It is the same thing with a super hot girl, guys that are smart ignore such women, as they have men banging down their door as well. Seriously, if he's ignoring you, he's moved on and it is time you did as well. Block/unfriend him on Facebook and talk to new men.

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!st off that is not love. You can fall for someone online but from what I gather you and him did not speak long enough and know each other long enough. Secondly he just used you as an ego boost. Move on as he only wanted to get a girl to say she loves him.