Judge or Learn?

When you enter into a conversation do you tend to be open to possibilities or do you tend to assume you know the outcome...and it's not good? When engaging with others are you considering the self-interests of others or are you trying to figure out who is at fault?The idea at the core of Marilee Adams' book Change Your Questions, Change Your Life may sound too basic, too much like a pop self-help book to be substantial and potentially transformative...but it isn't. Check out the online choice map. Do you choose to judge or to learn?One application of Adams' approach to questions is in reflective conversation. If your goal is to be a more helpful reflection partner, to aid others in making meaningful discoveries through conversation consider the power of questions and the difference between asking learning questions and judging questions. Would you rather process your life with a judger or a learner?