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On Your Own? No Problem!

So you're getting a divorce. It may feel like the end of the world, but it's not. Divorces are devastating enough without practical issues. These can pile on top of an already enormous emotional strain. Your heart is heavy, and what you thought was going to be forever is now gone. How are you suppose to cope and move on? On top of thinking about being feeling forever alone, it's essential you begin to consider the practical elements of divorce. They are possessions, money, pets and possibly even children to consider. As hard as it's going to be to think methodically, you need to try to collect your thoughts enough to get you through the next few months.

1. Look after your health

First of all, you need to stay as healthy as possible. Self-medicating with a bottle of wine every night and prescription pills or drugs just isn't going to help you at all. These things may take you higher during you doing them, but they'll also take you lower than you've ever been before. A hangover on top of potential depression is a recipe for disaster. Reach out to your friends to maintain a regular conversation. Eat properly and don't skip meals. It's also a terrible idea to rely on junk food. Push yourself to exercise daily to tire yourself out and put yourself to bed at the same time every evening. Install as much routine into your day-to-day as possible.

2. Think practically

You're inevitably going to have to divide up your stuff, and you might be moving to a new place to live. Try to stay wise and aware, though. Look after yourself financially and make sure you consider the most economical options possible. Explore electricity options and think about the location of the new place you're moving into. Also consider whether or not you're near family or friends. These might feel like unimportant details when you're dealing with everything else. In the long run, they're important to consider sooner rather than later.

3. Consider the kids

It goes without saying that if you're going through a divorce and you're a parent, you're kids are going through a divorce too. And it’s going to be tough on them. The best thing you can do is be as honest and as thoughtful as possible. You might not want to ever see your ex-spouse again, but that's going to be impossible if you have children. It's essential that you open your mind and be forgiving. Keep the lines of communication very open and try to be considerate. The last thing you want is your children feeling resentful towards you because you refuse to talk to Dad.

4. Stay positive

It might feel like the end of something but try to put a positive spin on things. It's actually the beginning of something new for you. It;s a whole new adventure and you never know what is just around the corner.