so angry!!

dd woke up at 3 this morning and my partner woke up for once. but instead of feeding her he just wrapped her & rocked her back to sleep. and of course cause she didn't get fed like usual she woke up at 4:30am again and is now wide awake thinking its time to wake up for the day because its light outside. all while he sleeps peacefully -.- i even took her back into our room hoping her noise would wake him but all he did was roll over and put the blanket over his head. no "do you need a hand babe" or a "you go back to sleep ill do it seeing as you ALWAYS do it"gah i hate men!!!

dd woke up at 3 this morning and my partner woke up for once. but instead of feeding her he just wrapped her & rocked her back to sleep. and of course cause she didn't get fed like usual she woke up at 4:30am again and is now wide awake thinking its time to wake up for the day because its light outside. all while he sleeps peacefully -.- i even took her back into our room hoping her noise would wake him but all he did was roll over and put the blanket over his head. no "do you need a hand babe" or a "you go back to sleep ill do it seeing as you ALWAYS do it"gah i hate men!!!

The most valuable lesson I learnt after no 1 is that you need to spell it out for them. Don't assume they know what u want them to do. They tend to fear that everything they do is wrong. I would suggest thanking him for getting up but gently suggest that next time he gives bub a feed. I am sure he is feeling quite chuffed at himself for getting up, lol. GL

The most valuable lesson I learnt after no 1 is that you need to spell it out for them. Don't assume they know what u want them to do. They tend to fear that everything they do is wrong. I would suggest thanking him for getting up but gently suggest that next time he gives bub a feed. I am sure he is feeling quite chuffed at himself for getting up, lol. GL

I agree with MissM...despite the fact that we should NOT have to spell it out....we DO!! They don't think, and when they do, they don't want to do it wrong or get in trouble. I agree that he probably thought he was doing the right thing! Also my DH has sighed a few times when I've fed DS in the middle of the night and I cracked it at him....he had no idea or memory in the morning of doing it....too sleepy!! So the moral of this (what I'm learning 4 months in) is tell him what you need when you need it...don't wait for him to just be nice....you could be waiting a while!

I agree with MissM...despite the fact that we should NOT have to spell it out....we DO!! They don't think, and when they do, they don't want to do it wrong or get in trouble. I agree that he probably thought he was doing the right thing! Also my DH has sighed a few times when I've fed DS in the middle of the night and I cracked it at him....he had no idea or memory in the morning of doing it....too sleepy!! So the moral of this (what I'm learning 4 months in) is tell him what you need when you need it...don't wait for him to just be nice....you could be waiting a while!

My DH always used to think that when baby cried, he needed to be put back to sleep. I was like- have you checked his nappy? Is he cold/hot/hungry?! It's not always because they need to sleep!We had a big argument about it, turns out that the last time I had suggested he rock him to sleep so he just though crying = rock him to sleep. ESPECIALLY in the middle of the night, they don't stop to consider it, they just do what worked (ie- stopped the crying) last time. Men!

My DH always used to think that when baby cried, he needed to be put back to sleep. I was like- have you checked his nappy? Is he cold/hot/hungry?! It's not always because they need to sleep!We had a big argument about it, turns out that the last time I had suggested he rock him to sleep so he just though crying = rock him to sleep. ESPECIALLY in the middle of the night, they don't stop to consider it, they just do what worked (ie- stopped the crying) last time. Men!

haha they just don't get it!! he knows her schedule. shes been in a routine now for 3 weeks. she goes to bed at 8, wakes up at 3-3:30 for a feed & nappy change then goes back to sleep till 7. i even said id make a bottle for him this morning but he put her back to sleep because he didn't want to have to stay awake to feed her

haha they just don't get it!! he knows her schedule. shes been in a routine now for 3 weeks. she goes to bed at 8, wakes up at 3-3:30 for a feed & nappy change then goes back to sleep till 7. i even said id make a bottle for him this morning but he put her back to sleep because he didn't want to have to stay awake to feed her

My DH hasn't done a night feed once for our formula fed DS. He's on Christmas holidays and I told him I need him to help a bit so I can catch up on sleep. So far 3 nights and I'm still the only one getting up. I don't honestly understand how they don't hear their baby cry!!!

My DH hasn't done a night feed once for our formula fed DS. He's on Christmas holidays and I told him I need him to help a bit so I can catch up on sleep. So far 3 nights and I'm still the only one getting up. I don't honestly understand how they don't hear their baby cry!!!

DF has never gotten up once to DS and never will and its not expected. He works full time so I can be a SAHM. He needs his sleep, I can sleep during the day when DS naps. I'd be stoked if he got up to DS if he woke at night. But he gets up at 6:30 on Saturdays and takes care of DS so I can have a sleep in. I wouldn't change how it we're doing our sleeping/getting up nights for anything.

DF has never gotten up once to DS and never will and its not expected. He works full time so I can be a SAHM. He needs his sleep, I can sleep during the day when DS naps. I'd be stoked if he got up to DS if he woke at night. But he gets up at 6:30 on Saturdays and takes care of DS so I can have a sleep in. I wouldn't change how it we're doing our sleeping/getting up nights for anything.

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