I didn't ask for her Dad's blessing, technically, but I did speak with her parents before proposing. I told them my intentions to propose and explicitly said that I wasn't asking for their permission, but that it meant a lot to me and my wife if we had their support.

It went over pretty well. I don't think that it's expected anymore to ask permission, but I know it is appreciated by a lot of old timers if you at least make your intentions known. Most parents realize that their kids will do what they want with or without their support.

Are you talking about my hypothetical daughter at this point? If my daughter is at the point that she'd happily marry someone like that, I'd have already failed.

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True.

Would you decide to care less then?

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Also, I never meant to create the impression that I don't care whether her dad/family like me or not - I care about that very much.

So on both fronts, deep down, you can admit it's important to look that man in the eye and be good?...

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"He had no teeth, and he was slobbering all over himself. I'm thinking, 'You can have your money back, just get me out of here. Let me go be an accountant." I can't tell you how badly I wanted out of there."Denver rookie QB John Elway, on Jack Lambert, after Lambert and the Steelers knocked Elway out of his first game as a pro (1983).

I didn't ask for her Dad's blessing, technically, but I did speak with her parents before proposing. I told them my intentions to propose and explicitly said that I wasn't asking for their permission, but that it meant a lot to me and my wife if we had their support.

It went over pretty well. I don't think that it's expected anymore to ask permission, but I know it is appreciated by a lot of old timers if you at least make your intentions known. Most parents realize that their kids will do what they want with or without their support.

I'm using the term kids in the sense that they were birthed from their mother and raised by their parents at some point in the past. I'm well aware of the fact that people are legal adults by the time they get married.