17. Why does everyone believe women are the ones "hunting for evidence" of porn use?

We don't have "his" or "hers" computers here, we have a laptop and a desktop that we share interchangeably. Similarly we have used each other's phones to get numbers or text messages from each other.

Furthermore, I pay the bills. If a weird charge came up, I'd ask him about it. If it were porn, I'd know. If our internet usage suddenly went up, I'd similarly know.

So if my husband were into porn, yeah, I'd definitely discover it but it wouldn't be evidence that I was on the hunt. Lastly, if you have to "hide" the porn on a personal device so your partner or spouse doesn't know then the problem resides with YOU and not the partner if they come across it.