Miscellaneous Musings of a Mom

Fed Up!

A few weeks back my husband received a call from BM with an update about Kierra’s doctor visit.Kierra had been complaining of chest pains and her doctor had referred her to a specialist.Well, today is her scheduled appointment and my husband asked me to go with him.This will be the fist time all have attended a doctor’s visit together.I had considered calling BM to break the ice before going.I wanted to avoid feeling awkward. But something happened last Wednesday that caused me to change my mind.

As we are finishing dinner the phone rang and I answered.It was BM.She asked me to tell Kierra that she was on her way.Then she asked if my husband was home.I handed him the phone and his expression instantly turned serious. All of a sudden he stormed out of the house.I figured something was wrong because BM sounded frantic when I answered the phone.When he came back in, it was clear that he was upset.He then told me that BM was calling to confront him.Apparently some kid that goes to her oldest daughter’s school told her daughter that my husband was talking about her at his place of business.Instead of consoling her daughter and assuring her that husband wouldn’t do anything like that, BM added fuel to the fire.

BM was hollering and screaming that she has a right to call him and complain about what he supposedly said.She had already assumed that this kid was telling the truth.My husband told her not to call him unless it concerned Kierra.The next day he talked to her oldest daughter.She told my husband what the boy said.It seems as though BM had added more lies to the pot.

A while back Kierra and her sister had a two hour delay from school.BM called our home asking my husband to take Kierra to school because the bus didn’t show up.Husband asks BM if she wanted him to take Kierra’s sister as well.BM told my husband that she already had a ride.So when my husband got there, he questioned Kierra about missing the bus and found out that they just didn’t want to go to school.So he told the sister to get in the car and he was taking her to school, too.He then called BM to tell her that THEY were being sneaky.BM went into this story of how her oldest daughter loves school and Kierra is the one that doesn’t like school.So husband dropped it.

BM had apparently mixed that conversation into what this boy said and made it a big mess.Because of this, my husband does not want to talk to her at all.She constantly makes up these stories for no reason.

On Saturday Kierra called my husband and said that BM wants to know if “Kierra” could borrow $20 for her co-pay.My husband told Kierra that BM needed to write a check.Yesterday, Kierra called her dad and said that BM wanted to talk to him.She went into this story about how she doesn’t have any money because she has to give the girls lunch money for school.(Last week Kierra called my husband wanting to know if he could give her money for lunch because BM didn’t have any money.He gave Kierra money for lunch.)She went on and on about she needed the little money she had to feed the kids and for gas.He told her that she had three weeks to prepare for Kierra’s appointment and that he had to think about it.

$20 is really no big deal but it is the principle of the matter.He just gave Kierra money for lunch.He is so fed up with BM right now.He said he would pay the co-pay himself and get the receipt.I’m sure BM will have nothing to say to either of us today.