Do one thing every day towards your dream

The previous blog focused on finding hope in your new life and talked about making a daily choice to live one day at a time, believing each day is a fresh start, a chance to begin again. This blog develops that thought further of pursuing your dreams by taking a small step every day.

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Achieving the dream

When you are thinking about your purpose, you come to the dream. What would you like to do or what do you want your life to look like in 5 years time? Without constricting your ideas with limitations like saying, ‘I can’t possibly do that’, write them down. Now make a plan to get there. Here are some ideas to help you on your way:

Start with a small step

Don’t give up; be determined

Set and review goals

Place a reminder on the fridge or somewhere visible of what you wish to achieve

Share with like-minded people – people who will inspire, encourage and celebrate with you, not people who will put the dream down

Celebrate achievements – the small steps you take along the way

Visualise yourself achieving the goal.

I used to visualise seeing my book New Life in the Mourning, on the shelf of a book store. It took some years but the dream became reality and I did. See photo proof! If I can do it so can you!

Being real

I wrote that and I practice it, yet sometimes I wobble and sink back into woes and worry. Last month was such a time when I went into the, ‘why am I bothering, I’m not getting anywhere’, ‘this is too hard’ mode. In self-pity I began to imagine a life without chasing my dreams where I had more time to watch TV, and could do roles for other ministries that I am capable of but don’t inspire me. I’d still be helping others in their kingdom dreams – just not pursuing my own purpose. I would have more time but the fire of my dreams that helps get me out of bed would be gone. A piece of my soul would die and I would be back to looking at an empty future and that would be detrimental to my mental health.

The alternative though, is that I could choose a path where every day I take a step towards the dream. I then had a penny drop moment when I realised that I was exhausting myself trying to run kilometres every day on the path to my dream. I had become obsessed and pushed myself day and night to get there.

Instead, I just needed to take one step every day.

One step

So maybe you can do one step. New life at the end of a relationship is about daily choices – not big ones, but one choice per day that will move you forward to where you want to be. What does your new life look like? What is the one thing you can do to get there today? No pressure – just enjoy it. Let it give you hope toward the future. One step at a time. Be happy instead of distressed because you are overwhelmed, trying to do everything at once.

Move toward your vision, one step every day.

“Just do something you love everyday” – Sally Henderson

Six years ago Sally Henderson experienced the end of her marriage and became a single mum to five children. Since then she has gone back to study, gotten part-time work, paid off debt and started her own coaching business – ‘Extraordinary Success with Sally Henderson’.

She has recreated her life amidst the challenges. Sally says, “I am making use of my own experience and what I’ve learned, to give back.” Her coaching mantra is, ‘Just do something you love everyday’. She explains, “When you are pursuing long term goals there are some things you are going to have to do that you don’t want to do, but if you relate them back to your purpose they become something you love.”

Have a support team

Community plays an important part in building your new life. The blog, ‘5 steps to overcome loneliness’ talks about this. In pursuing your dreams you need a support team – people with whom you can share your vision and who will encourage you in the journey. Be careful who you choose to share with because some will be negative about your dream. Establish a group of people who will cheer you on, problem solve with you when you encounter obstacles and celebrate your achievements.