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• Don’t move them unless the wheelchair user in question says you can. Even if we’re not in them at the time! Shout-out to the nurse who, during my last hospital trip, tried to put my wheelchair in the nurse’s station, thus effectively stopping me from going TO THE TOILET without asking someone. And, of course, various shout-outs to people who thought *I* was furniture and moved my chair while I was in it.

• Don’t lean on them unless you have permission from the wheelchair user in question. Again, they aren’t FURNITURE. They’re part of us. Lean on stuff that’s stuff, not stuff that’s people.

• If you walk into someone’s wheelchair, while someone is in that wheelchair, you’re walking into a person. You’re jolting us, shaking us, and potentially causing us pain (I have chronic conditions, and YOU ARE HURTING ME). Do what you do anytime you walk into someone, and apologise. It doesn’t need to be any more than, “Oop, sorry,” it doesn’t have to be a big thing (please don’t make it a big thing) but ACKNOWLEDGE US jesus christ this is so alienating. I get walked into all the time and excepting my loved ones I can’t even remember the last time I got an apology.

Wheelchairs are not furniture. They’re assistive devices. They are, for all intents and purposes, part of us and it is frankly incredibly rude not to treat them as such.

Being female-assigned, female-presenting nonbinary on International Women’s Day just highlights how much our language fails people with liminal identities.

There aren’t easy words to describe people whose identities are tied together by our external experiences. We’ve got acronyms– FAAB or AFAB– to describe our physiology, but that feels blank and statistical, and assuming external experience is associated only with physiology is flawed and gender-essentialist in its own way. “Woman” and “female” both belong to people who share an internal identity I don’t share. Female-presenting centers the absence of identity, makes me feel as if the only way to describe myself is as an empty facade. Femme is inaccurate; femme is a word that belongs to a different type of identity that I don’t inhabit.

Self-describing “as a woman” not only erases my own nonbinary identity, but also does a great discredit to transgender women by suggesting that “woman” is a descriptor tied to physiology or external experience rather than identity or expression.

What we don’t have is a word that ties together all of us who share an external experience based on how we are perceived because of our gender assignment and/or perceived presentation. That’s not womanhood, not for all of us, and it’s not the only kind of womanhood. Womanhood, our understanding of womanhood, needs to belong both to women who were never seen for who they were because they were assigned female and women who were never seen for who they were because they were assigned male.

I share a kinship based on experience with both cis women and trans women, and some things I share more with cis women, and other things I share more with trans women, and some things I share with both and other things I share with neither. But we have no language that lets me relate simply and accurately, because my internal identity isn’t theirs, and we have words to describe internal identity, but none to describe experiencing the same things as a group without truly being part of that group– none that feel right, none that feel inclusive rather than sidelining ourselves by definition. And it makes it hard to claim and relate experiences, even in places where I feel welcome, without feeling in some way deceitful or erased.

I want a word to describe internal identity, another to describe physiology, another to describe external experience, because all of those are valid things to identify with and to talk about in regard to their commonalities, but it needs to be very clear in our language that they’re all different things, and that they’re not mutually inclusive in the way our society still generally implies they must be.

So, anyway. I’m feeling very much on the outside looking in, feeling strong solidarity but no way to express it with the words I’ve got access to. But thanks to all the women out there and all the people our world defines as women for being yourselves and for doing the work you do.

Lo is known, I think, primarily for her
Kylux/Reader work, so I’ve included one of those, here—but she has great work
outside of that, too. Her work gets straight to the fucking (hohoho) point and
is just excellent smutty fun.

Whenever I Want: This is a Kylo Ren/Hux/Reader threesome—and it’s one of those
that, despite me not being into Hux, like, at all, I find myself still thinking
about. I think that alone is a testament
to its hotness—but it also has some good, nasty shit like cum-sharing and
snowballing.

Kylo Gets Off: The title is self-explanatory. We all love Kylo Ren jerking off.
But getting nearly 1000 words of it is such a blessing. He jerks off to the
thought of fucking Hux and Reader at the same time. Usually I don’t like
sharing someone’s fantasy spotlight, but I love this.

Punishment:I’ve recc’d this before on, like, two other lists, but I won’t stop
reccing it, because I love it so much. This was, I think, one of the first
sub!Kylo fics I read and loved. I still think about the line, “It’s so good,” he answered. “So warm and
fucking wet…” Like, kill me please.

If you’re looking for weird stuff, sad stuff,
or bloody stuff, Jinx is your girl. Not only does she have unique takes on
certain AUs—her writing is fantastic. Her descriptive language is dark and
poetic and beautiful.

A Full Confession: Okay, this seems self-aggrandizing, but hear me out. Almost
all of the ideas in this fic, and a ton of the gorgeous/tongue-in-cheek imagery
come from her. It’s easily some of her best writing, and you’d be doing
yourself a disservice not to check it out for that reason.

Exposed:I really love vampires. I really love Kylo Ren. So why not both? This
is the answer to that question. Good imagery, hot sex. Is there any more we can
ask for from a Vampire!Kylo fic?

The Angst Files, Chapter 3:All of the chapters in this collection are great,
but this one is a favorite. Not only for the idea of Kylo Ren getting hard from
his own tears, but the sex is visceral, too. A Sad Boy Sex Hall of Famer, for
sure.

Maybe even more than she loves writing Kylo
Ren, Beth loves writing Ben Solo. Her Ben Solo work is fantastic, and I’ve
included one of my faves. Her smut is raunchy and her dirty talk is nasty as
fuck. She pulls no punches.

Frozen NSFW: Beth will probably kill me for putting this here, but oh well, I’ll
face death bravely. Frozen NSFW is a fantastic collection of dubcon/noncon scenes
as Reader navigates her life as Kylo Ren’s new sex slave. And Kylo is just… an
asshole. A hot, sexy, asshole.

Solidarity: I’ve recc’d this before, too, but, look. I said this was the
greatest hits, goddammit. The sequel to another piece she so thoughtfully wrote
for me, you’ll find doggy-style dubcon inside. I frequently think about the
line, “Fuck this is the perfect little
cunt. I think I need this to greet me at the end of every day.” Christ.

A Hasty Landing: Just one of many great Ben Solo pieces, this is one of my
faves because of the intimacy and heat captured. I love the way Ben is written—snarky
and naughty and fun.

It was hard narrowing down the list of Fae’s
fantastic works to just three. There’s so much by her that I truly love. She’s
incredible at laying down themes in even the shortest one-shots, her
characterization is always engaging, and her imagery is unique and evocative.

On the Desk: I’ll be honest. I’ve probably gotten off to this thing like five
or six times. Professor AUs are hot, but this is just beyond everything I could
want from one. Professor Ren is dirty as hell.

Okay, Fine: No smut in this—but it’s one of my favorites. A twist on the
sweetness of a Coffee Shop AU, this fic instead features an antagonistic relationship between Kylo (in
his triplet form) and Reader. Enemies to Lovers, perhaps? Great dialogue, great
characterization, great narrative. It’s good-feelsiest fic around.

Don’t Tell Kylo: In this fic, you’re double-teamed by Organa Solo triplets Ben
and Matt. This fic is a perfect hallmark of Fae’s style—it’s hot with a
consistent thematic foundation and strong emotions.

Because Kat is known most widely for Love
is a Four Letter Word, I wanted to take this time to point out a few of their
other excellent works. Kat’s narrative style is so immediate and engaging, and
their language has the ability to drag tears of out of me, which is, like,
unheard of.

All Tied Up:This work is heavy noncon. Reader is kidnapped by the twisted
triplets and horrible things happen. You should absolutely not read this if it
isn’t your thing, but I could not fail to recommend it because if it is your thing, it’s fucking hot as hell,
and you’ll love it.

On Display: Reader is fucked against a window by Kylo Ren, an officer gets off
to the show. Exhibitionism/voyeurism are one of my big kinks, and this piece
just… hits all the right spots. One
of my faves.

Infraction: In relative terms of the
Kylo Ren fandom, this piece is older. But it’s still one of the hottest in my
memory. It has one of my favorite lines in fanfiction ever: “Yes, you would. You’d never leave, the only
thing you’d ever have to do is get fucked.” *SWEATS*

I’m going to imagine Tora will be shocked
I even included her, but she hardly gives herself enough credit. She’s been the
only person who’s managed to get me to enjoy Hux outside of a Kylo/Hux/Reader
context. Her sense of humor and sass come through brilliantly in her writing.

Valentine’s Day:I have to be honest. I really enjoy these Hux drabbles. As
mentioned, Hux isn’t my guy. But the banter and snark here makes me think maybe
he could be my guy.

Untitled: Another Hux/Reader drabble, which I won’t title as “this is dumb”
because it isn’t. There’s great sexual tension captured between Reader and Hux,
and the unexpected cigarette burn is so salacious.

De-Stressing: This piece is Kylo/Reader—and there’s daddy kink. Look, y’all know I don’t typically go for daddy kink,
but this one is enjoyable. If it’s your thing, this is right up your alley.

Acknowledging that nonbinary people are nonbinary and respecting that is not fucking fetishizing. As a nonbinary person I am a million times more comfortable with some hypothetical guy who is attracted to women and me iding as bi in order to respect my gender identity then I am with anyone who decides to just group me in with a binary gender.

“You did not just try to kick me there!”“That tickled.”“Are you okay?! Did I hit you too hard?”“I’m seeing stars.”“Do birds go moo instead of tweet?”“I am so sorry!”“That looks bad…”“You broke my nose.”“You have one hell of a punch!”“I dare you to try!”“Come at me bro!”“I WILL defeat you!”“You cannot beat me.”“This is fun!”“You’re fun!”“Augh!”“Ugh…”“How many fingers do you see?”“That’s going to hurt in the morning.”“Why can’t I beat you?!”“Better luck next time.”“Next time I will win!”“I think you gave me a concussion.”“Twinkle twinkle little-” and down they go!“The student has surpassed the teacher.”“I accept defeat.”“You win!”“NOT THE FACE!”“I’m proud of you.”“That was my favorite tooth.”“Give up!”“No you don’t!”“Here, let me help you up.”“Can you teach me how to do that?”“I admire your skills.”“We need to get you to the hospital.”“Yeah, it’s broken.”“Got ya!”“What just happened?”“Lollipop…lollipop… Oh lolli lolli lolli-”