50 Example Sexting Ideas You Can Use Right Now

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Now, onto today's topic: how to up your sexting game, in 50 example sexting ideas you can use right now.

Q: My partner likes sending naughty text messages and emails. I’ve never done this with another partner, and I feel like I’m horrible at it! I’m in serious need of some inspiration. How do I sext? Do you have any sexting example ideas I can use to start me off? I always feel so awkward.

A: Thanks for the question! Shy and uncreative texters rejoice: I’m sharing 50 examples of sexy messages you can send to your partner right now! The examples are broken down by category; you can also use the categories to help you think of further examples. Dirty talk is very personal, so you’re not going to love every idea on this list. Fortunately, I’ve got you covered with ways to tailor these examples to suit your relationship.

Sext Type #5: Past Memories

I want you to do exactly what you did last time we [fill in the blank].

I can’t imagine ever coming as hard as I did when you [fill in the blank].

Sext Type #6: Compliments

You always feel so good inside of me.

I love staring at your [fill in the blank].

You make me so wet.

I love the way you make me feel.

I’ve never felt as attracted to anyone else as I am to you.

I can’t control myself when I’m near you.

The anticipation is killing me.

I can’t get enough of you.

Sext Type #7: When You Need To Respond But Can’t Think Of Anything To Say

That turns me on so much.

What else will you do to me?

What are you wearing right now?

Tell me more.

I love when you talk like that.

Your messages have me so distracted.

Other Tips

When you’re sexting, use the words you and your partner typically use for your body parts. For example, you might feel way more comfortable using “dick” than “cock”.

Incorporate any inside jokes or personal memories that the two of you have. One of the easiest ways to start dirty talking is to simply rehash one of your favorite sexual memories (of the two of you together, to start anyway). You won’t get stuck trying to come up with things to say because you have the full memory already.

Adjust your level of explicitness. Dirty talk doesn’t have to be triple-X to be sexy. Sometimes being less explicit can actually be more of a tease. For example, “wait until you see what I’ve got on underneath my work clothes,” can be plenty sexy.