Dating Less Than 3 Months, How To Tell Him Im Pregnant?

I just wanted to get some tips from guys who may have been or even known someone in my situation,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months and I just found out that I'm pregnant. Going by the "conception calculator" I am 6 weeks pregnant.

My boyfriend is an amazing guy... whom I adore but I'm not too sure how to reveal to him that we are pregnant and Im so nervous about how he may or may not react.

We both have a lot going for us... I'm starting grad school in January and he is training to play basketball overseas. This news will change alot for the both of us.

I'm afraid of this entire situation... being a mother and I'm afraid that his fear of having a child now will eventually lead to me having to do this alone.

So I guess Im asking for advice on how to break this news to him and how to be understanding if he needs his space to take it all in? How do I get past this step when Im so afraid to even bring this up to him?

Any advice would help...

Hello guys...

I just wanted to get some tips from guys who may have been or even known someone in my situation,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months and I just found out that I'm pregnant. Going by the "conception calculator" I am 6 weeks pregnant.

My boyfriend is an amazing guy... whom I adore but I'm not too sure how to reveal to him that we are pregnant and Im so nervous about how he may or may not react.

We both have a lot going for us... I'm starting grad school in January and he is training to play basketball overseas. This news will change alot for the both of us.

I'm afraid of this entire situation... being a mother and I'm afraid that his fear of having a child now will eventually lead to me having to do this alone.

So I guess Im asking for advice on how to break this news to him and how to be understanding if he needs his space to take it all in? How do I get past this step when Im so afraid to even bring this up to him?

You just need to be honest with him. Tell him you have something important to talk about that could have a huge impact on both of you. It's a tough thing to deal with, but it's something you both need to deal with together.

I got pregnant from my husband 6 months after we started dating. It was very difficult for both of us as we lived an hour apart and neither of us were ready for a kid. Hell, we weren't even sure about each other at the time. I'm pretty sure when I told him, I said "We have a problem." We wound up deciding to terminate, but I had a lot of problems with that after the fact. I was hurting inside, and he didn't want to talk about it which caused problems for us in a lot of other ways. Eventually, we found our way out, and we've been married for 3 years now with our first planned child on the way.

You just need to be honest with him. Tell him you have something important to talk about that could have a huge impact on both of you. It's a tough thing to deal with, but it's something you both need to deal with together.

I got pregnant from my husband 6 months after we started dating. It was very difficult for both of us as we lived an hour apart and neither of us were ready for a kid. Hell, we weren't even sure about each other at the time. I'm pretty sure when I told him, I said "We have a problem." We wound up deciding to terminate, but I had a lot of problems with that after the fact. I was hurting inside, and he didn't want to talk about it which caused problems for us in a lot of other ways. Eventually, we found our way out, and we've been married for 3 years now with our first planned child on the way.

My boyfriend and I got pregnant after being together 3 and 1/2 months. He was and is the most perfect guy I have ever meet and I am proud to say I'm carrying his baby (I'm due in 2 weeks). With that being said we have had a lot of beautiful times and a lot of tough times. We even separated for 3 weeks because the situation became very over whelming. When we separated I knew he would come around just he had to deal with the life change in his own way. We are now stronger then ever. Though we understand that having our baby will change everything as well this is what wad ment to happen n it will work out. I say let him know and let him go if he needs time. If you are both mature enough then it's definatley do-able. Everything happens for a reason and things will work out. And remember (this is what keeps me going) if it doesn't work out, you are still going to be ok and it's still going to work out for you!

My boyfriend and I got pregnant after being together 3 and 1/2 months. He was and is the most perfect guy I have ever meet and I am proud to say I'm carrying his baby (I'm due in 2 weeks). With that being said we have had a lot of beautiful times and a lot of tough times. We even separated for 3 weeks because the situation became very over whelming. When we separated I knew he would come around just he had to deal with the life change in his own way. We are now stronger then ever. Though we understand that having our baby will change everything as well this is what wad ment to happen n it will work out. I say let him know and let him go if he needs time. If you are both mature enough then it's definatley do-able. Everything happens for a reason and things will work out. And remember (this is what keeps me going) if it doesn't work out, you are still going to be ok and it's still going to work out for you!

Thank you so much for telling your story... you have so much courage :)) Im sorry that you guys had to go through so much but I'm also glad that you have such a happy ending. Like you said, I will definitely be taking the honest approach. I just have to get over this fear...

Thank you so much for telling your story... you have so much courage :)) Im sorry that you guys had to go through so much but I'm also glad that you have such a happy ending. Like you said, I will definitely be taking the honest approach. I just have to get over this fear...

Wow, I can relate to you alot! Thank you so much for responding. I can only hope my boyfriend reacts as good as yours did!

He is a sweetheart... attentive and caring but I guess I'm just afraid that this news will instantly end the "honeymoon phase" and bring out a side of him I didn't think existed. Im praying that he embraces this news with maturity and although I expect him to be afraid I just hope he doesn't run away.

But like you said, even if he does I know I have the strength in me to do this alone. Thank you again... your story gave me so much hope :))

Wow, I can relate to you alot! Thank you so much for responding. I can only hope my boyfriend reacts as good as yours did!

He is a sweetheart... attentive and caring but I guess I'm just afraid that this news will instantly end the "honeymoon phase" and bring out a side of him I didn't think existed. Im praying that he embraces this news with maturity and although I expect him to be afraid I just hope he doesn't run away.

But like you said, even if he does I know I have the strength in me to do this alone. Thank you again... your story gave me so much hope :))

I got pregnant with my first after only a few months too. I didn't know how he'd react but I'd already made up my mind that I was keeping the baby no matter what. When I told him he was shocked but excited and told me he wanted to raise the baby together and I moved in with him. He proposed to me on my first mothers day after our daughter was born. Shes 15 months now and I'm due with our second in June. If he's a good guy he will take the news good.

I got pregnant with my first after only a few months too. I didn't know how he'd react but I'd already made up my mind that I was keeping the baby no matter what. When I told him he was shocked but excited and told me he wanted to raise the baby together and I moved in with him. He proposed to me on my first mothers day after our daughter was born. Shes 15 months now and I'm due with our second in June. If he's a good guy he will take the news good.

IMO you have to first decide what you want to do and stand by it no matter what. If you want to keep the baby think about the worth case scenario ( him not wanting to be part of ur life) can you afford to raise a child on ur own? Who will watch after it when ur in school/work? Will ur parents help u? I think having a clear plan will make it easier on u and u will not feel pressured if something goes wrong. He might be the happiest guy in the world, but he might also feel that he is trapped and will not be able to pursue his bb goals. Stay strong and be straightforward! I wish u all the best.

IMO you have to first decide what you want to do and stand by it no matter what. If you want to keep the baby think about the worth case scenario ( him not wanting to be part of ur life) can you afford to raise a child on ur own? Who will watch after it when ur in school/work? Will ur parents help u? I think having a clear plan will make it easier on u and u will not feel pressured if something goes wrong. He might be the happiest guy in the world, but he might also feel that he is trapped and will not be able to pursue his bb goals. Stay strong and be straightforward! I wish u all the best.

My boyfriend and i were dating for about two weeks before i got pregnant. i was supposed to be infertile. guess not! when i found out i was pregnant, we had been dating for about a month, and i had just signed a one year lease on a new apartment. i sent him a text message saying "we need to talk" and he said "you're not pregnant are you? lol" (since we'd already discussed my infertility he thought he was lightening the mood). kind of saved me the trouble of trying to figure out how to tell him! i was freaking out, because we hadn't been together long, and i'd already accepted that i was never going to be able to have children. he was actually way more calm about it than i was. everything worked out fine. we got rid of my apartment, moved me into his (he had a two bedroom, mine was only one bedroom). we're due january ninth, but the doctor said today that she expects me to have in within a week!

My boyfriend and i were dating for about two weeks before i got pregnant. i was supposed to be infertile. guess not! when i found out i was pregnant, we had been dating for about a month, and i had just signed a one year lease on a new apartment. i sent him a text message saying "we need to talk" and he said "you're not pregnant are you? lol" (since we'd already discussed my infertility he thought he was lightening the mood). kind of saved me the trouble of trying to figure out how to tell him! i was freaking out, because we hadn't been together long, and i'd already accepted that i was never going to be able to have children. he was actually way more calm about it than i was. everything worked out fine. we got rid of my apartment, moved me into his (he had a two bedroom, mine was only one bedroom). we're due january ninth, but the doctor said today that she expects me to have in within a week!

Same situation! Dating 5 weeks and found out I was prego. Really hope that your situation works out better than mine.He did not take the news well, said its unfair on the child and spoke of this great life we could have without the child. Only seen him twice since and this was weeks ago. Part of me hopes he will come around but I kind of know it will never be right between us now.I love this child and am bonding with it more and more all the time there's no way I can kill it! I just wish I got the reaction of the other posts as I would love the baby to have his dad around, I don't want to be alone either! So hope when you tell him the news his response is better! X

Same situation! Dating 5 weeks and found out I was prego. Really hope that your situation works out better than mine.He did not take the news well, said its unfair on the child and spoke of this great life we could have without the child. Only seen him twice since and this was weeks ago. Part of me hopes he will come around but I kind of know it will never be right between us now.I love this child and am bonding with it more and more all the time there's no way I can kill it! I just wish I got the reaction of the other posts as I would love the baby to have his dad around, I don't want to be alone either! So hope when you tell him the news his response is better! X

My boyfriend and i were together for 2 weeks when i got pregnant. Not even real serious. It was honestly more a booty call. I had just been thru a divorce and turned to him. But we ended up dating and found out at 6 wks that I was pregnant. He is so excited and I'm so happy that he dint walk out. We are truly in love now and can't wait to bring this baby into the world. But i was scared at first. Best of luck to you!!!

My boyfriend and i were together for 2 weeks when i got pregnant. Not even real serious. It was honestly more a booty call. I had just been thru a divorce and turned to him. But we ended up dating and found out at 6 wks that I was pregnant. He is so excited and I'm so happy that he dint walk out. We are truly in love now and can't wait to bring this baby into the world. But i was scared at first. Best of luck to you!!!

Hey sweetie. I understand what you're going through and it is definitely not a burden you want to bear alone. I was in the same situation. My boyfriend and I went on our first date Oct 1 and weren't even "officially dating" until Oct 17... The 30th I took a pregnancy test and SURPRISE... Nov 1 it was confirmed and Dec 15 I had u/s #1 only to find that we are having TWINS! I wish you the best and pray you have an easy pregnancy and delivery. I know it is scary... But it will be worth it. Much love to you darlin and good luck <3

Hey sweetie. I understand what you're going through and it is definitely not a burden you want to bear alone. I was in the same situation. My boyfriend and I went on our first date Oct 1 and weren't even "officially dating" until Oct 17... The 30th I took a pregnancy test and SURPRISE... Nov 1 it was confirmed and Dec 15 I had u/s #1 only to find that we are having TWINS! I wish you the best and pray you have an easy pregnancy and delivery. I know it is scary... But it will be worth it. Much love to you darlin and good luck <3

I sent the same text to my boyfriend lol we've been together 3 months before I found out he said it doesn't sound good what's up I texted I didn't want to tell him over the phone but he called anyways lol I just told him but he was happier than I was so it all worked out he's actually more supportive and loving than he was before which is great

I sent the same text to my boyfriend lol we've been together 3 months before I found out he said it doesn't sound good what's up I texted I didn't want to tell him over the phone but he called anyways lol I just told him but he was happier than I was so it all worked out he's actually more supportive and loving than he was before which is great

I understand exactly how u feel...my late husband and I got pregnant about a week into our "relationship" and at about 5 weeks I had to tell him. not knowing how he'd take the news I pretty much told him like it was the end of the world...I had decided to terminate and he said he would support me in whatever decision I made. about a week later my conscience got the best of me and I changed my mind...when I told him I wanted to keep the baby he was so relieved...he hadn't wanted to terminate but understood that he couldn't choose my life path for me...it was a tough road and things weren't perfect but he was there for me and our baby boy...we married 7 yrs later. I have so much respect for the way he handled the news. I hope that ur bf will stand up and be supportive of whatever u decide...and that u also take into consideration his feelings as well. wishing u the best.

I understand exactly how u feel...my late husband and I got pregnant about a week into our "relationship" and at about 5 weeks I had to tell him. not knowing how he'd take the news I pretty much told him like it was the end of the world...I had decided to terminate and he said he would support me in whatever decision I made. about a week later my conscience got the best of me and I changed my mind...when I told him I wanted to keep the baby he was so relieved...he hadn't wanted to terminate but understood that he couldn't choose my life path for me...it was a tough road and things weren't perfect but he was there for me and our baby boy...we married 7 yrs later. I have so much respect for the way he handled the news. I hope that ur bf will stand up and be supportive of whatever u decide...and that u also take into consideration his feelings as well. wishing u the best.

I got pregnant with my son less than a month after dating his sperm donor...when I found out we had already been broken up for 3 weeks. My story is a little different cuz my son's "father" is a complete ******* deadbeat. The day I found out I told him. I told him that I'd give him time to figure out what he wanted to do but I wouldn't wait forever either. that day he told me he would be there for me no matter what my decision was. My son just turned a year old on monday and his biological father has had nothing to do with him. make sure you tell him face to face. I wouldn't tell him over the phone or a text or fb or anything but face to face. Its scarey but being up front is the best way. From what you said he's an amazing guy and I hope he stands up and takes responsibility for the baby. I wish you the best of luck but also prepare yourself that he might be scared at first and stand offish about it. Unfortunately women become parents the day we find out we are pregnant, men become parents when they hold their son/daughter. Give him some time but also be firm about what you want! and if he turns into a d-bag dont' let him ruin your pregnancy!!!! Good Luck and keep us updated.

I got pregnant with my son less than a month after dating his sperm donor...when I found out we had already been broken up for 3 weeks. My story is a little different cuz my son's "father" is a complete ******* deadbeat. The day I found out I told him. I told him that I'd give him time to figure out what he wanted to do but I wouldn't wait forever either. that day he told me he would be there for me no matter what my decision was. My son just turned a year old on monday and his biological father has had nothing to do with him. make sure you tell him face to face. I wouldn't tell him over the phone or a text or fb or anything but face to face. Its scarey but being up front is the best way. From what you said he's an amazing guy and I hope he stands up and takes responsibility for the baby. I wish you the best of luck but also prepare yourself that he might be scared at first and stand offish about it. Unfortunately women become parents the day we find out we are pregnant, men become parents when they hold their son/daughter. Give him some time but also be firm about what you want! and if he turns into a d-bag dont' let him ruin your pregnancy!!!! Good Luck and keep us updated.

If it's any consolation I'd only been dating my bf for a month when I got pregnant. I didn't find out till I was 3 months, so I counted back the weeks and figured it out. I had a feeling I was so I took a test he bought and called him while he was going to work. He was very shocked at first, but now he can never stop rubbing my tummy, it's so cute. If he takes it half as well as my bf did u should do just fine. Good luck! :D

If it's any consolation I'd only been dating my bf for a month when I got pregnant. I didn't find out till I was 3 months, so I counted back the weeks and figured it out. I had a feeling I was so I took a test he bought and called him while he was going to work. He was very shocked at first, but now he can never stop rubbing my tummy, it's so cute. If he takes it half as well as my bf did u should do just fine. Good luck! :D

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