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Chastity Training is a fine art in the realm of Dominance and submission. The ability to control a man's primal urges for frequent sexual release poses as one of the more challenging disciplines of the Mistress and slave dynamic. A central focal point of his daily rhythm and distraction, the very thought of handing the keys of his virile vehicle over to a Mistress can be downright terrifying. The notion that a Woman should dictate the timing of his orgasms as well as when he may even have skin contact with his main member is not for the slave who merely wishes to dabble and dally. For most men, their modus operandi is the lifelong reliance upon self-gratification that often takes on the form of compulsive, less-than-satisfying, linear starts to finishes.

Nevertheless, orgasm control is a common fantasy amongst enthusiastic submissive men. Challenging as it will certainly be in the beginning stages of chastity training for both slave and key holder, the long-terms benefits of a well-behaved locked-up slave is far reaching. The initial period of penis imprisonment will be most trying for the chastised male. A newly caged male may feel intense anxiety, longing to be "freed", frustrations over this foreign blockade, and the screaming urge to remove the device as soon as possible. After merely a few hours of encasement, he will become increasingly aware of the alien appendage tucked between his thighs. This new presence will be progressively imposed upon his psyche and can manifest in different ways. Men have an almost unconscious, monkey-like habit of touching themselves (without chastity) throughout the day, many times a day. As the realization of his helplessness sets in so does despair. Although discomfort is minor, the emotional impact is extreme. He may have a change of heart and convince himself that his consensual lock-down was a mistake, crawling back to his Mistress and BEG (I love it when they beg) to be freed. Needless to say, the Mistress will not be doing him any favors by relenting.

Upon surviving the early adjustment period of chastity, the slave will begin to reap the rewards of lock-down. Every hour of endurance bolsters his commitment to serve his key holder. His submissive pride blossoms, making his Owner pleased with his growing fortitude and capitulation.

Denial of orgasm has two diametrically opposed intentions. The function of the chastity device is to prevent sexual fulfillment while simultaneously providing a potent stimulant. A constant and obsessive reminder of sexual thoughts without access to his favorite organ, chastity tortures and rejuvenates the slave with a sense of conflicting arousal that is now directly associated with his key holder. The Mistress, full of discipline and composure (an emphatic statement of Her superiority), will ensure the proper level of in-cock-ceration and timely release. A locked slave will refocus his attention from himself to that of pleasing his Mistress, ensuring that his performance meets Her standards and carefully avoiding that which would result in Her disapproval or--worse--disappointment. Chastity thus becomes an incentive for self-improvement.

Freedom from furious masturbation (quite undignified might I add) is also achieved through being caged. No longer is the male specimen obsessively preocuppied with gratifying himself throughout the day (a good slave should not be so easily distracted). His very sexual core is now being efficiently managed by his key holder who will ensure his good behavior and reward him when She deems it appropriate to do so. He will become more productive in his work, more attentive to Her needs, more balanced in general. His orgasms, when he is allowed such, will also increase in intensity after being locked for prolonged periods of denial. If the Mistress is generous She may even place him on a regular 'milking' schedule so that he is "free and clear" for all other services on Her itinerary. What was once a primitive, self-indulgent creature is now elevated to that of a disciplined slave of newfound clarity in thought and purpose.

When male chastity is well managed, the Mistress can more easily exert control over Her subject. Artful teasing and the promise or threat of orgasm denial can greatly enhance their D/s dynamic, as well as turning the most boorish and self-centered Y-primates into considerate, adoring beings. At some point the male slave willingly waives his right to have an orgasm, trusting that his Mistress will grant or withhold one with sound reason and judgment. His penis, his orgasms, his erections, his very sexual being all belong to Her and those are for Her to use, on Her terms, for the sake of Her pleasure and satisfaction. Upon deciding that She will reward him with a release, She may bring him to the point of abject desperation before allowing a merciful completion. When a Woman controls that which controls a man, the amount of power She holds is immense--and rightfully so given that Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Chastity embraces this damnable social reality by converting it into a game of winners for both parties.

Chastity training is reserved for the advanced slave not by virtue of experience but defined as those who are clearly able to separate the fantasy from the logistical confines of reality. Interested slaves who are serious or D/s couples seeking guidance are welcome to reach out to Me for questions and training.