Grr @mil

So I told my mil that I'm changing to cloth diapers and got an "ewwww" Out of her. And then she said she refuses to use the cloth, that she's getting disposables. Problem is, lilah's but is always red. Even with diaper cream, drying off, airing out, etc. so I'm thinking the chemicals in the regular diapers might effect her, one of the reasons for the change. She said nope. That babies' butts are always red. I hate that she is going against something that is so important to me that might help Lilah. Meh, she's also the queen of "I told you so," about everything. Solids, sleeping, age, you name it, it's an I told you so. I told my hubby tonight that I respect his parents as family, but as people, they were very disappointing. He agreed. Yay he's on my side. I'm afraid that they are going to go against my beliefs and wishes and brainwash my kid....they are already saying ew to the kitty book she has, to her, because they hate cats. Great, since we have a cat. Thanks for statin to teach my child to hate the family pet. What the f*ck is wrong with people?!?!? /sigh

So I told my mil that I'm changing to cloth diapers and got an "ewwww" Out of her. And then she said she refuses to use the cloth, that she's getting disposables. Problem is, lilah's but is always red. Even with diaper cream, drying off, airing out, etc. so I'm thinking the chemicals in the regular diapers might effect her, one of the reasons for the change. She said nope. That babies' butts are always red. I hate that she is going against something that is so important to me that might help Lilah. Meh, she's also the queen of "I told you so," about everything. Solids, sleeping, age, you name it, it's an I told you so. I told my hubby tonight that I respect his parents as family, but as people, they were very disappointing. He agreed. Yay he's on my side. I'm afraid that they are going to go against my beliefs and wishes and brainwash my kid....they are already saying ew to the kitty book she has, to her, because they hate cats. Great, since we have a cat. Thanks for statin to teach my child to hate the family pet. What the f*ck is wrong with people?!?!? /sigh

I can't stand cats, honestly, I love animals and I'm the first to pull over and save a dang turtle in the road, whether they bite or not. And when my friend was in LA, and San Diego county was on fire and she couldn't get home, I broke into to her house (at her request) and saved both her cat and her hawk. You know, big bird of prey with talons that was not happy to see me. That was fun. Her house didn't catch fire, but the smoke was horrendous and would have killed them. But other than the compassion for living creatures that overrides my distaste, I cannot stand cats. And I would NEVER tell a child that any animal was yucky, especially if they had said animal. how heartless of them. That kitty is going to be her first furry love. And what's next? Are they going to teach her to swat at it to make it go away? That's a recipe for disaster. And what did the cat do to them? Ugh that just aggravates me. And then there's her butt. Is your mil butt always red and inflamed? I'd ask her. I can't believe she wouldn't do whatever she could to make baby comfy. And does she realize that cloth diapers rock now? It's not what she had to do. They're easy now. I'm disappointed in her for you :(

I can't stand cats, honestly, I love animals and I'm the first to pull over and save a dang turtle in the road, whether they bite or not. And when my friend was in LA, and San Diego county was on fire and she couldn't get home, I broke into to her house (at her request) and saved both her cat and her hawk. You know, big bird of prey with talons that was not happy to see me. That was fun. Her house didn't catch fire, but the smoke was horrendous and would have killed them. But other than the compassion for living creatures that overrides my distaste, I cannot stand cats. And I would NEVER tell a child that any animal was yucky, especially if they had said animal. how heartless of them. That kitty is going to be her first furry love. And what's next? Are they going to teach her to swat at it to make it go away? That's a recipe for disaster. And what did the cat do to them? Ugh that just aggravates me. And then there's her butt. Is your mil butt always red and inflamed? I'd ask her. I can't believe she wouldn't do whatever she could to make baby comfy. And does she realize that cloth diapers rock now? It's not what she had to do. They're easy now. I'm disappointed in her for you :(

They sound weird. haha Ew to the cat? Because dogs are so much cleaner? At least cats don't eat sh!t, lick their butts, and then lick a babies face. I love dogs and cats, but that's just rude. I would have your husband say something. They should respect *almost* any decision you make as the parent. If we, as normal and polite humans, should have to smile and nod at their nonsense, they should have the same respect for you. Don't like it, don't make a snarky comment!

They sound weird. haha Ew to the cat? Because dogs are so much cleaner? At least cats don't eat sh!t, lick their butts, and then lick a babies face. I love dogs and cats, but that's just rude. I would have your husband say something. They should respect *almost* any decision you make as the parent. If we, as normal and polite humans, should have to smile and nod at their nonsense, they should have the same respect for you. Don't like it, don't make a snarky comment!

So sorry you are dealing with such impossible in laws. They should respect y'all's parenting decisions especially if it is something as simple as switching to cloth diapers. And no babies butts aren't supposed to be red. Geez! And bashing the family pet isn't cool either. That will be your LO first fur buddy. All LO will know is that his grandparents don't like the little fur buddy that LO has grown to love. Maybe have dh talk to them. If they can't respect your decisions then the least they can do is keep their mouths shut. Best of luck.

So sorry you are dealing with such impossible in laws. They should respect y'all's parenting decisions especially if it is something as simple as switching to cloth diapers. And no babies butts aren't supposed to be red. Geez! And bashing the family pet isn't cool either. That will be your LO first fur buddy. All LO will know is that his grandparents don't like the little fur buddy that LO has grown to love. Maybe have dh talk to them. If they can't respect your decisions then the least they can do is keep their mouths shut. Best of luck.

(Hugs) stupid people who want to use babies /children to score points (I told you so's, etc) irritate the heck out of me. Just so dumb because kids are smarter than they think and in no time at all, your LO won't think "I don't like our kitty", she'll think "grandma is weird"... The diaper thing is just ridiculous, you are switching for LO's health (not that you should have to give her a reason) so she is actually trying to cause her granddaughter pain by going against your wishes! Definitely stand your ground on that! If she doesn't let it go, maybe buy her a set of very uncomfortable looking underpants (do they have plastic adult underwear??!) and give them to her and tell her they might make her butt sore, but you think they are better and butts are supposed to be red anyway...

(Hugs) stupid people who want to use babies /children to score points (I told you so's, etc) irritate the heck out of me. Just so dumb because kids are smarter than they think and in no time at all, your LO won't think "I don't like our kitty", she'll think "grandma is weird"... The diaper thing is just ridiculous, you are switching for LO's health (not that you should have to give her a reason) so she is actually trying to cause her granddaughter pain by going against your wishes! Definitely stand your ground on that! If she doesn't let it go, maybe buy her a set of very uncomfortable looking underpants (do they have plastic adult underwear??!) and give them to her and tell her they might make her butt sore, but you think they are better and butts are supposed to be red anyway...

If this seems to help Lilah, then tell mil it's all that's is being used and if she wants to babysit she has to follow that rule. Or if you rely on her a lot and have no other options, she will prob use disposables anyway but not much you can do if she doesn't listen.

If this seems to help Lilah, then tell mil it's all that's is being used and if she wants to babysit she has to follow that rule. Or if you rely on her a lot and have no other options, she will prob use disposables anyway but not much you can do if she doesn't listen.

I was thinking of getting the disposable liners for the cloth diapers for them. Seems like a compromise but still. And yes they love dogs. And to support the dog butt licking point, my dog cleans my cat's butt for him...ew.

I was thinking of getting the disposable liners for the cloth diapers for them. Seems like a compromise but still. And yes they love dogs. And to support the dog butt licking point, my dog cleans my cat's butt for him...ew.

Does your MIL babysit a lot? At your house or theirs? If it's all on your turf, with the cloth (which helps prevent rash IMO) say that is what is being used. She can just take them off and put them in the bag, bucket or whatever and you'll take care of it when you get home. So for her no different than disposables. If she buys disposables tell her they will be donated, If she watches LO at her house tougher road to battle. As for the book, when you hear her doing it just say to your LO is a sweet voice, "Oh mean granny doesn't mean that sweetheart. She knows you love (insert cat name)"

Does your MIL babysit a lot? At your house or theirs? If it's all on your turf, with the cloth (which helps prevent rash IMO) say that is what is being used. She can just take them off and put them in the bag, bucket or whatever and you'll take care of it when you get home. So for her no different than disposables. If she buys disposables tell her they will be donated, If she watches LO at her house tougher road to battle. As for the book, when you hear her doing it just say to your LO is a sweet voice, "Oh mean granny doesn't mean that sweetheart. She knows you love (insert cat name)"

Her turf, we always have to bring her over. They live 5 min away, how hard is it to come over here lol. I'll have to try the insert cat name idea. I don't think she knows how much cloth diapers have changed. However she always tosses the diapers in the outside trash. I asked her what she was going to do when I brought her over when she was in a cloth diaper and she said she would take it off and put it in a ziplock bag.....so what's the issue with putting a new one on? Lol

Her turf, we always have to bring her over. They live 5 min away, how hard is it to come over here lol. I'll have to try the insert cat name idea. I don't think she knows how much cloth diapers have changed. However she always tosses the diapers in the outside trash. I asked her what she was going to do when I brought her over when she was in a cloth diaper and she said she would take it off and put it in a ziplock bag.....so what's the issue with putting a new one on? Lol

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