Can You Ever Really Be Enough for Someone?

Or is monogamy just an illusion in a gay relationship?

I’m 19 and have been in a relationship with a 29 year old man for the past two years. I knew he had his share of problems and self image issues when I agreed to “marry him.”

Now two years later, he’s about to turn 30 and has been told he was too old by some people. So now he’s being depressed.

When I told him people grow old and guys loose interest but in the end what matters is that your partner is still attracted to you and loves you, his reply was that he wants other people to want him too.

3 COMMENTS

Umm, so what’s the point of being “married?” You are definitely enough to the right person. Your “man” has some insecurity issues with his age, which means him accepting other’s opinions aside from the one that matters (yours) is a sign… I predict it won’t be him dealing with the majority of the issues that will come from this. You’re still young, which I think is your time to go crazy and explore before settling down so soon, especially if it’s not being reciprocated. Be a friend, but don’t waste your energy if he’s not willing to control his appetite. Believe me, he would if he was serious about “marriage.”

Dan Chiasson I really believe that what you said is true. Throughout my life I always looked at the poor and wondered why they are not moving up in the world. I am now living with them and seeing them for who they really are. I am 60 years of age and I am finally seeing myself for who I really am. A person who sees the poor as someone who needs help and I am one who will be there for them every step of the way.