Attraction And Race

Backstory: Today someone said I am probably a racist, because I have never dated outside my own race. Myself, I find the idea absurd, that someone
could equate not being sexually attracted to people outside your race as hating other races. But it did give me an idea for this thread. Collecting
data is fun, and I have always been very interested in psychology.

1) Do you find yourself attracted to any race more than others?

2) Does it happen to be the race you were born into?

3) Do you believe that we somehow choose who were are attracted to?

4) Any thoughts you have about the topic you think might bring up some interesting discussion?

You have no obligation to date someone of a different race to "prove" you are not racist. That's emotional blackmail. I've seen it used by males
of one race trying to hit on females of another race. They say, "You won't date me because I'm (insert race here)." People using that line deserve
no respect at all.

Having said that, I, personally, am attracted to all races. I can see beauty in all of them.

Oh for the record, I am half native north american, and half white. At least 90% of the women I have been attracted to are white. I think the reason
is that I grew up in the country, and most people are white there. Can't say I am ashamed or feel bad about it, I sure don't remember sitting down
when I was 6 or so and deciding what I would be attracted to

I think that is true for most men, it is just each person has their own definition of hot. Some like them curvy etc. Personally I go for the athletic
build, probably because I am also of an athletic build.

Typically I'm more attracted to whites, but that doesn't mean I haven't been attracted (or been with) those of other races.

2) Does it happen to be the race you were born into?

Yes.

3) Do you believe that we somehow choose who were are attracted to?

Absolutely, we all have different turn ons and turn offs.

4) Any thoughts you have about the topic you think might bring up some interesting discussion?

For me, race isn't a criteria.
I'm an eyes guy. I like bright, light eyes. As it happens, most other races have dark eyes, so that's why I'm attracted to more whites. But, look
at Rihanna for example (very light eyes). I'd hit that in a heartbeat...hehe...

I've been with an Asian gal before, and with a Black gal before, so I can appreciate women of different ethnic varieties...but being attracted mostly
to your own race doesn't make you racist. Thinking your race is better than others or is somehow superior, now THAT makes one a racist.

Think about what attributes you are really attracted to, and that's likely why those meeting the criteria are of your own race. For example, there
are certain cultural preferences that you may not like that are more identified with another race, and if you don't share those preferences, then
it's less likely you'll meet someone of that race that fits the bill.

4) Any thoughts you have about the topic you think might bring up some interesting discussion?

1) Other than my white race......Mexicans. I like their passion. And if it counts as a race....Europeans. They seem to have a different oulook on
things that I like.

2) I'm white

3) Of course. Who else is going to choose for me?

4)I don't associate with the type of person who is going to use the emotional blackmail route to make me feel guilty that I choose to be with white
women more than any other. If I'm out looking for a good time I'll look around. If I want something meanigful and long lasting I'm going to stick
to my own race. That doesn't necessarily mean I'm going to find it there, hell I could find a Tibetan woman who would turm out to be my soul mate
for all I know. Possible....but not probable. The point is that I'm going to look at white women first because that's simply my preference. No need
to read anything else into it because there is nothing else to it.

You go through like a thought process to decide if you are attracted to someone or not? In most things, I have a whole lot of internal chatter and
analyzing going on, not attraction though. It seems like an autopilot type response for me. Some girls can walk by and I don't give it a second
thought or glance. But some it's just like BAM! Eyes follow by themself lol.

It seems kind of like playing the odds if you are sticking to your own race or culture maybe. More likely to get along with someone that was brought
up in the same kind of environment. I am a country boy, and I tend to be more attracted to country girls. City girls seem to be more into things, and
counrty girls seem to be more into experiences if that makes any sense lol.

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