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My kids hate me

I swear they do. Any mess or mistake they make is fodder for DHs rants of how useless and stupid I am.
Yesterday DD3 had a black marker which I quickly grabbed off her and put on top of the fridge out of reach, or so I thought. Not long ago I went and bf baby girl on the bed and DH got home and he had to go to town when he noticed a mark on the car. Dd6 had climbed on a chair and got the marker while I was feeding baby girl and 1 of them drew on the car. Ugh.
You can imagine what his reaction was like, luckily it's a dark grey car.

i'd leave the kids alone and beat the crap outta your hubby. any mere man that told me i was stupid and/or worthless would soon wake up w/ his balls tied in a knot and firmly duct taped to the nearest bedpost. your kids will NEVER be respectful of you, if your hubby ain't gonna be. they're learning from him! put your foot down... firmly... right between his eyes. you really don't have to take that kinda crap from ANYONE, least of all the person that is sposed to be your biggest supporter!

Continue to be firm with the children and consistent with rules and policies. Your husband is very wrong to call you such name and is actually guilty of verbal abuse. Seek counseling for yourself at least, and hopefully couples counseling. Also you could talk with your religious leader. Meanwhile, it may be a good idea to make sure that you can get a job- get job training if you don't already have some, and look around for jobs, in case it comes to your needing to support yourself and your children. Also ask a lawyer about what you should be preparing to do if the marriage falls apart.

I very much agree with this. His reaction to kids being kids (which is annoying in itself) is abuse.

Quoting Bmat:

Continue to be firm with the children and consistent with rules and policies. Your husband is very wrong to call you such name and is actually guilty of verbal abuse. Seek counseling for yourself at least, and hopefully couples counseling. Also you could talk with your religious leader. Meanwhile, it may be a good idea to make sure that you can get a job- get job training if you don't already have some, and look around for jobs, in case it comes to your needing to support yourself and your children. Also ask a lawyer about what you should be preparing to do if the marriage falls apart.

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