Palestinian refugees should be allowed to choose and decide, based on informed opinions, whether or not they wish to return to their homes. This is their legal and moral right. Is it also their right to participate in discussions about their future? If so, how should they participate?

Interweaving excerpts from my personal journal with research and literature about mixed race, interfaith, and bicultural experience, I use autoethnograhic methods to explore the experience of mothering in an American-Jewish and Palestinian-Muslim family. I push the theoretical discussion beyond the experiences of “mixed” people to consider how the identity of otherwise monoracial/monocultural parents may be transformed through the experience of parenting across socially/politically significant differences, particularly national origin, culture and faith. I also extend theoretical discussion beyond the confines of identity to consider parenting a s a political process with an impact within and beyond families.