Am I being selfish?

. My now husband and I have been best friends since freshmen year of hugh school. When were 19 we finally got it that we had been in love for years and moved in together three months after we started officially dating. His mother was not happy. His family is VERY religious on top of that they are tea party supports. After almost two years my husband asked me to marry him. My in laws couldn't must even a fake smile. She cried and his father rolled his eyes and talked about how much money my husband wasted. Four months later whike planning the wedding we found out we were expecting. His mother once again cried and told my husband she was "heartbroken knowing her unborn grandbaby was already bound for hell."

My husband then told his older brother the news and his brother told him I was trying to trap him. When he reminded him we were already engaged and he watched me take my birth control nightly and we were using condoms! (Kid was magic) His brother then told him the baby must not be his. During my pregnancy he would call our son the bastard. When I finally hit my braking point I pointed out that his first child would also be a bastard since he and his now wife were only hook up buddies they got pregnant. Being Christian s they believe life starts at conception right even though they through a quicky wedding before she gave birth.

My sister in laws (above brothers wife) was even worse. She sent me books in how to be a good wife. And later spread a terrible rumor about me getting an abortion at 19 weeks years before I had my son. My husband grandparents totally believe it too. They have thanked me for not killing anymore babies. The truth is I am a liberal feminists. I do believe in a woman's right to choose, I personally haven't made that choice but don't hate others who do. Part 2 of the truth at 16 ( after having sex one time with my time bf) I got pregnant and LOST the baby at 17 weeks! Two days after learning I was having a little girl. Pain I will carry the rest of my life.

When our son turned 1 we finally got married. The night before our wedding both my sil and bil called my husband telling him to not marry me. Telling him he is breaking the family's hearts by marrying a non Christian whore. When my husband defended me telling hus brother that I am his best friend, mother of his child and future children and told him he needed to apologize to me or not come to the wedding. His brother took that as "your no longer my brother. " He then called everyone in their family and told some crazy story which caused everyine but his partents and younger siblings to protest the wedding.

We haven't spoken to them since. My mil (mother-in-law) is always trying to guilt my husband into calling or talking to my bil. She constantly talks about how sad it is brothers don't speak "because their wives are being silly"

We have since had a second son and they have had a third child. My husband has 9 year old twin brothers and at their bday in Oct my son sat next to bil's son (my son has no clue who he is) their son pushed my son and yelled at him to go away and get the hell away from him. My son was totally in shock he had no clue why this kid hated him. I wanted to say something to my sil but didn't want to make a scene at a child's bday. But really whi teaches their child to hate another child?

Now two months later at two family events I was unable to attend because I had to stay home with our kids. My bil is talking to my husband like nothing happend like they have been totally ok these last three years. Apparently this summer he is moving out of state due to work.

Here is my question after this long ramble. Am I wrong to be upset that my husband would even fake being friendly to his brother, without him apologizing to me and pretending the last three years didn't happen? The fact that two months ago their kids were told to be mean to our kids?

Am I being selfish?

. My now husband and I have been best friends since freshmen year of hugh school. When were 19 we finally got it that we had been in love for years and moved in together three months after we started officially dating. His mother was not happy. His family is VERY religious on top of that they are tea party supports. After almost two years my husband asked me to marry him. My in laws couldn't must even a fake smile. She cried and his father rolled his eyes and talked about how much money my husband wasted. Four months later whike planning the wedding we found out we were expecting. His mother once again cried and told my husband she was "heartbroken knowing her unborn grandbaby was already bound for hell."

My husband then told his older brother the news and his brother told him I was trying to trap him. When he reminded him we were already engaged and he watched me take my birth control nightly and we were using condoms! (Kid was magic) His brother then told him the baby must not be his. During my pregnancy he would call our son the bastard. When I finally hit my braking point I pointed out that his first child would also be a bastard since he and his now wife were only hook up buddies they got pregnant. Being Christian s they believe life starts at conception right even though they through a quicky wedding before she gave birth.

My sister in laws (above brothers wife) was even worse. She sent me books in how to be a good wife. And later spread a terrible rumor about me getting an abortion at 19 weeks years before I had my son. My husband grandparents totally believe it too. They have thanked me for not killing anymore babies. The truth is I am a liberal feminists. I do believe in a woman's right to choose, I personally haven't made that choice but don't hate others who do. Part 2 of the truth at 16 ( after having sex one time with my time bf) I got pregnant and LOST the baby at 17 weeks! Two days after learning I was having a little girl. Pain I will carry the rest of my life.

When our son turned 1 we finally got married. The night before our wedding both my sil and bil called my husband telling him to not marry me. Telling him he is breaking the family's hearts by marrying a non Christian whore. When my husband defended me telling hus brother that I am his best friend, mother of his child and future children and told him he needed to apologize to me or not come to the wedding. His brother took that as "your no longer my brother. " He then called everyone in their family and told some crazy story which caused everyine but his partents and younger siblings to protest the wedding.

We haven't spoken to them since. My mil (mother-in-law) is always trying to guilt my husband into calling or talking to my bil. She constantly talks about how sad it is brothers don't speak "because their wives are being silly"

We have since had a second son and they have had a third child. My husband has 9 year old twin brothers and at their bday in Oct my son sat next to bil's son (my son has no clue who he is) their son pushed my son and yelled at him to go away and get the hell away from him. My son was totally in shock he had no clue why this kid hated him. I wanted to say something to my sil but didn't want to make a scene at a child's bday. But really whi teaches their child to hate another child?

Now two months later at two family events I was unable to attend because I had to stay home with our kids. My bil is talking to my husband like nothing happend like they have been totally ok these last three years. Apparently this summer he is moving out of state due to work.

Here is my question after this long ramble. Am I wrong to be upset that my husband would even fake being friendly to his brother, without him apologizing to me and pretending the last three years didn't happen? The fact that two months ago their kids were told to be mean to our kids?

You are not wrong to be upset. Why is your husband so dismissive of their assholeish behavior? He is accepting and tellling them "hey it's ok that you guys were total dicks to my wife, son, and even me. Friends?"

I agree, be rid of them. They all sound fucking crazy and it's got nothing to do with being tea party supporters, ffs. One's political foundation doesn't make you go nuts on someone else like that, unless you were nuts already.

I agree that in normal people their political views shouldnt stand in the way of a relationship. I am a bleeding heart liberal as is my husband. We are also gulp atheists. I have friends who are republican and Christian and we can have a friendly chat about politics, the world around us and respect each other after. With my in laws everything is turned political. We have yet to have a dinner without my fil (father-in-law) quoting trump, Bachmann, fox news anchors and making crazy statements like " slavery is a good thing." "China has the right idea, we need to turn Detroit into work camps."

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