If I knew you and you invited me asking for a book signed for the baby instead of a card, I would think you were a genius! Small books cost about the same as a card anyway and how cute would it be to have all those books from friends and family with the signed messages inside them?

If I knew you and you invited me asking for a book signed for the baby instead of a card, I would think you were a genius! Small books cost about the same as a card anyway and how cute would it be to have all those books from friends and family with the signed messages inside them?

I don't think there's anything wrong with the book. Its still.voluntary. If they don't have the funds for the book they can still attend. I think its cute and would go with it. Its very different from a cover charge or a required gift.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the book. Its still.voluntary. If they don't have the funds for the book they can still attend. I think its cute and would go with it. Its very different from a cover charge or a required gift.

You're right, it's totally different. Nobody expects gifts or cards. The couple just profits off the sale of auction tickets and booze ( generally a drink costs about 80 cents do when you charge two bucks you're making a fair bit per drink). We spent about $4000 on our social (liquor, food, dj, hall, prizes, bartenders etc) and came away with just over $15,000. Everyone is invited. The bridal party sells tickets to friends and family who also invite their friends and family and on and on. I once went to a social and spent $40 on tickets. I won three prizes including a leather jacket, a spa day, a hot air balloon ride and a turkey deep fryer. It was awesome. Again I would never pay to go to a shower though.

You're right, it's totally different. Nobody expects gifts or cards. The couple just profits off the sale of auction tickets and booze ( generally a drink costs about 80 cents do when you charge two bucks you're making a fair bit per drink). We spent about $4000 on our social (liquor, food, dj, hall, prizes, bartenders etc) and came away with just over $15,000. Everyone is invited. The bridal party sells tickets to friends and family who also invite their friends and family and on and on. I once went to a social and spent $40 on tickets. I won three prizes including a leather jacket, a spa day, a hot air balloon ride and a turkey deep fryer. It was awesome. Again I would never pay to go to a shower though.

I wouldn't rethink it at all! Everyone is right- you can definitely get a book for the amount of a card and its a sweet alternative. Plus, as another poster said, it IS optional. My whole point was they just asked you to bring one, not in lieu of a card or anything and THEN did the raffle. The raffle was what did me in when I already sprung for a gift and a book....I've also received an invitation to a shower that said "no clothes please". I declined the invitation but for a split second, I considered showing up naked ;)

I wouldn't rethink it at all! Everyone is right- you can definitely get a book for the amount of a card and its a sweet alternative. Plus, as another poster said, it IS optional. My whole point was they just asked you to bring one, not in lieu of a card or anything and THEN did the raffle. The raffle was what did me in when I already sprung for a gift and a book....I've also received an invitation to a shower that said "no clothes please". I declined the invitation but for a split second, I considered showing up naked ;)

I think it is super tacky. I have seen a very well off couple hold a "meet the baby" party. On the invitations they put "please no gifts for lo but we will be taking donations for less fortunate new families" everyone thought it was an amazing idea. They had a whole truck load of items that they took to the family centre.

I think it is super tacky. I have seen a very well off couple hold a "meet the baby" party. On the invitations they put "please no gifts for lo but we will be taking donations for less fortunate new families" everyone thought it was an amazing idea. They had a whole truck load of items that they took to the family centre.

LOL. yes, yes it was. Only our lovely home city would think that its OK. The problem is that everyone is so busy trying to keep up with what's "cool" they are willing to throw manners to the wayside. Its a freaking baby shower, were not going to the club! Or were they??? LOL crazy people.

LOL. yes, yes it was. Only our lovely home city would think that its OK. The problem is that everyone is so busy trying to keep up with what's "cool" they are willing to throw manners to the wayside. Its a freaking baby shower, were not going to the club! Or were they??? LOL crazy people.

Do what?! What a bunch of greedy, inconsiderate people! They want to charge a person to bring them a gift, at a party to celebrate the upcoming birth of their child? I would literally laugh in that persons face!!

Do what?! What a bunch of greedy, inconsiderate people! They want to charge a person to bring them a gift, at a party to celebrate the upcoming birth of their child? I would literally laugh in that persons face!!

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