tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post8299934336411394853..comments2017-12-20T14:07:51.504-08:00Comments on Sugar and Spice: Time for changeKatie Millshttps://plus.google.com/114580142628515454720noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-33614023218176770922016-04-19T12:14:24.322-07:002016-04-19T12:14:24.322-07:00Thank you.Thank you.Katie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-58327131984174526822016-04-17T10:43:52.729-07:002016-04-17T10:43:52.729-07:00Hi Katie - Yes, your fear does make sense but you ...Hi Katie - Yes, your fear does make sense but you must be comfortable in your own skin. The therapist should help you immensely since your expectations of what you can physically become on hormones may be unrealistic. However, not all women are drop dead gorgeous but virtually all women are pretty/cute/attractive. The real key is confidence and how you &quot;carry&quot; yourself. Best of luck in your very brave quest. babycakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189128565734971036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-38611282961493160672016-04-07T05:13:33.232-07:002016-04-07T05:13:33.232-07:00Oh Dani, that&#39;s wonderful news. I&#39;m so gla...Oh Dani, that&#39;s wonderful news. I&#39;m so glad that your nephew and you are close enough that you have an outlet. At the very least you have someone to talk to. And that helps so much.<br /><br />And I&#39;m glad you can pass the way you do. I wish I had the body for that. It&#39;s so important to be able to feel good in your skin and be so confident.<br /><br />And going out and shopping is amazing. I hope I can feel so comfortable in the future.<br /><br />I&#39;m glad our discussion was inspiring. Keep me posted when you go on adventures and what you do for your birthday. I&#39;d love to hear about it. :)<br /><br />xoxoxo Katie MillsKatie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-5329700383710407192016-04-07T01:58:18.178-07:002016-04-07T01:58:18.178-07:00Thank you for your encouragements. I had a wonderf...Thank you for your encouragements. I had a wonderful time on Monday with my nephew. I got to be his Aunt for the day and we talked and I found out he has a whole network of friends who are in transition or have already transitioned. He has encouraged me to visit with him more and I will take him up on his offer. We are already planing on getting together for our birthdays (we are four days apart). His boyfriend is a cross-dresser like me and that helps with him understanding what I&#39;m going through. I felt so inspired after my visit that I went out the next day for a shopping trip dressed. I can pass as a woman with no problems and very little effort. I had lost some weight this past year and I still have some for the flab that with the right under garments I look the part. I think now most of my problem is mental and I may ask him who he is seeing and if maybe they could see me as well. That will be for my next visit with him. <br /><br />xoxoxo DaniDan Waltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430068962718638474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-5169294764223283232016-04-06T17:32:00.823-07:002016-04-06T17:32:00.823-07:00Thanks for the comment Lauren.
Im not sure how I...Thanks for the comment Lauren. <br /><br />Im not sure how I relate. I have a closet full of female clothes. I have at least ten pairs of shoes. I have panties, Pantyhose, thigh highs, tights, camisole&#39;s etc. I have makeup Andi even have real silicone breast forms with bras to boot. But I haven&#39;t had the urge to dress up. Not in a long time. I enjoy dressing up and it certainly makes me feel feminine but I also feel like a fraud too. Like pretending isn&#39;t good enough.<br /><br />And my biggest fear is the doctor telling me I&#39;m transgendered and even if I begin to transition, my masculine body will change slightly but it won&#39;t make me a petite pretty woman and I&#39;ll still feel like a fraud.<br /><br />Does that make any sense to anyone?<br /><br />Katie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-80163381236723432612016-04-06T17:17:57.815-07:002016-04-06T17:17:57.815-07:00It really is a good idea to talk to a gender thera...It really is a good idea to talk to a gender therapist at this point. I was able to talk with a psychiatrist nearly 10 years ago when my wife first learned I liked to crossdress. The psychiatrist felt that I was doing well to follow my desires. My wife thought she was full of shit, so that pretty much negated my continuing the visits. I am still keeping my crossdressing as hidden from my wife as I can but it does frustrate me to have to do so. It also limits my ability to enjoy myself by dressing more often. I hope you find the answers to your questions and make peace with yourself. I did tell my daughter of my crossdressing and she accepted it very well, She was in her thirties at teh time so it really doesn&#39;t relate to your situation. <br /><br />I will continue to look for your Captions since I find them very enjoyable.<br /> Lauren Millarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191298511846211092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-60059535556137873972016-04-05T05:54:21.916-07:002016-04-05T05:54:21.916-07:00Thank you Rina. I appreciate it.
I&#39;m not brav...Thank you Rina. I appreciate it.<br /><br />I&#39;m not brave, I&#39;m just ready. I think it&#39;s a decision we all have to make at some point for people in our community.<br /><br />Believe me, I&#39;m terrified.<br /><br />xoxoxo Katie<br /><br />Katie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-30374270478163135192016-04-05T05:28:00.701-07:002016-04-05T05:28:00.701-07:00I understand Dan, and if the whole situation is an...I understand Dan, and if the whole situation is anything, it&#39;s confusing. And your nephew is doing what I wish I did when I was younger. (I&#39;m assuming he&#39;s younger than us.) And we all have our reasons why we didn&#39;t. Mine were that my parents were hardcore Catholic. And I feel like being trans is more acknowledged now than before. More talked about. It&#39;s still a difficult topic, especially with family. But it&#39;s a little bit more understood every day that goes by.<br /><br />Let&#39;s face it, when I was four or five it would&#39;ve been hard to put together a power point on why I wanted to be a little girl instead when my parents had &quot;God made you this way&quot; on their side.<br /><br />Anyway, find what&#39;s holding you back. I found that you can make an appointment with a therapist where you talk over the phone. It&#39;s a baby step to make you feel more comfortable.And keep in mind that the therapist I made an appointment with specialises in Gender Therapy but she sees other patients as well. And she is very understanding to what I am feeling. But if I don&#39;t feel comfortable and we don&#39;t click I&#39;m going to keep looking until I find a therapist I do feel comfortable with.<br /><br />But in the end, I obviously have some gender issues. I know I do. But I have no idea what that means. And the only way we can find these answers is by seeking them.<br /><br />Listen Dan, I get it. I do. And my age is a factor. But we get but 1 single life to live. And I already regret not doing this when I was younger now. I don&#39;t want to miss my chance. And your nephew has already done you a big service. He paved the way for you to start your journey. It&#39;s a topic that&#39;s already being discussed between your family so it may be a little easier.<br /><br />Any decisions you make, you can always come here where you&#39;re always welcome.And if he would be comfortable, your nephew is welcome here as well.<br /><br />xoxoxo KatieKatie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-33530705074457320992016-04-05T02:26:29.210-07:002016-04-05T02:26:29.210-07:00Good for you! I agree with Sue Do Nim you&#39;re b...Good for you! I agree with Sue Do Nim you&#39;re brave at the time you made the appoinment. Good luck to you and everybody here 😊Rina Jeansahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01511569210251536432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-50050733017437970112016-04-05T00:48:43.119-07:002016-04-05T00:48:43.119-07:00Congratulations on your next big steps. I too feel...Congratulations on your next big steps. I too feel that I don&#39;t know if I&#39;m trans or not. I feel comfortable when I dress but I don&#39;t do it as often as I would like because some people in my life may not see it the way I do which is that I am who I feel I should be at that moment in time. I found out that my niece is in transition and I have been in contact with him (yes he wants to identified as a he and not she). So now I have some one who I can be myself with and will not be judged, because when I&#39;m dressed as his Aunt he refers to me as such. With me I am older than you (I&#39;m 43) but I have never been married or have children so I still don&#39;t know what to do with my life. Do I stay male or start the process and become female? Maybe some more time with my nephew will help me make up my mind. Dan Waltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430068962718638474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-64246899441165138582016-04-04T21:17:20.938-07:002016-04-04T21:17:20.938-07:00Sue, you&#39;re not alone... And that&#39;s the ma...Sue, you&#39;re not alone... And that&#39;s the main reason I want to start making my blog more about the real issues. We can talk about anything. <br /><br />And if you want to go to the next step, I promise I&#39;ll be right here for you. I know most of the girls at the Haven care as well. Reach out...<br /><br />Katie Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221510966233140117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7981571395013638790.post-49904879405560619672016-04-04T21:13:35.767-07:002016-04-04T21:13:35.767-07:00It&#39;s funny that we are almost in the same boat...It&#39;s funny that we are almost in the same boat,except no kid here. You&#39;re very fortunate you have someone in RL to talk to about this stuff. It&#39;s scary and lonely when you feel no one will understand. Anyway congratulations on the big step, you&#39;re very brave just by making an appointment in my opinion. Thank you to you and a bunch of other cappers. Reading this stuff helps me feel not so alone.Sue Do Nimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14118449530109762894noreply@blogger.com