10 Personality Traits That Are More Attractive To Women Than Your Appearance

You don’t have to be an underwear model to catch a woman’s attention… and in fact, there are plenty of hot guys out there whose terrible personalities actually repel women. Looks do matter in the dating world, but these characteristics can make you way hotter than a chiseled jaw ever could:

Sense of humor. Honestly, you don’t have to be the world’s greatest undiscovered comedian to win women over. The simple ability to find humor in everyday situations and not take life too seriously is super attractive in itself. If you can crack a few jokes that appeal to the woman you like, you’ll instantly be hotter to her.

Generosity. Whether your giving nature comes in the form of donating to charity or just prioritizing your partner’s pleasure in the bedroom, the effort to put other people first is an attractive quality in anyone you’d hope to surround yourself with. Most women have already dealt with too many selfish guys, and being generous will make you stand out in the best way possible.

Responsibility. Women quickly grow tired of men who don’t clean up after themselves, constantly arrive late, and don’t pay enough attention to their dogs. Showing basic responsibility instantly puts you ahead of even the hottest guys who can’t get their lives together.

Confidence. Never underestimate the power of believing in yourself. Even if you aren’t confident, fake it ’til you make it — hold your head high, square your shoulders, and graciously accept compliments instead of shutting them down. You don’t need to (and shouldn’t) act arrogant, but if you act like you know you have something you bring to the table, women will believe it.

Attentiveness. Women pay attention to everything, so details are important. Don’t be That Guy who sits on his phone throughout half the date; actively listen to what your date is saying, and make mental notes of small, but important details. If you mention her friends, family members, or pets by name in a later conversation, she’ll appreciate that way more than she’ll appreciate your biceps.

Work ethic. You don’t need to have a six-figure job to be more attractive to women — just push yourself a bit, whether in your career, volunteer work, or a hobby. Having a drive to improve is incredibly sexy, so even if you’re happy where you are at work and have no desire to become a CEO, at least make sure you’re constantly making moves to improve other areas of your life.

Humility. The importance of being confident doesn’t negate the importance of being willing to admit when you’re wrong. A healthy amount of pride is good, but being able to step back and recognize that you’re not perfect and make mistakes can be the difference between a short fling and a serious relationship, in a woman’s eyes. No one wants to be with a person who can’t say “sorry,” so being humble gives you a huge leg up in the dating world.

Independence. Women want a man they can date, not a man they have to mother. Being self-sufficient is a must-have if you want to be more attractive from the inside out. If you’ve moved out of your parents’ house, pay your own bills, and can handle yourself well as a single man, you’re already clearing a bar that a lot of men fail to meet.

Self-respect. The way you present and take care of yourself says a lot about who you are as a whole. There are lots of would-be attractive guys out there who get turned down by women because they dress like they didn’t check the mirror before they left the house, don’t practice basic hygiene, or get sloppy-drunk way too often. Treat and conduct yourself in the way that you want women to see you, and — surprise — they’ll actually see you as a well-dressed, healthy, put-together man.

Passion. You don’t need to be on a mission to cure cancer or solve world hunger (though it’s great if you are), but have something in your life that excites you. There are so many boring people out there who don’t have any hobbies beyond scrolling through the internet and watching TV — don’t be one of them. Whether it’s building up an impressive insect collection, playing hockey, writing horror stories, or something else, that passion will do wonders for you in the dating world.