Living with humility

There is no doubt in my mind that our past is responsible for shaping the way we see and live our life in the present moment and for some of us that becomes a humbling experience, for others it can be a nightmare.

Regardless of how we grow up and how our lives have been previously shaped, it’s important for us to live our lives with humility, so that we appreciate the little things, the things we often take for granted, the things that we’ve got, want and can get if we don’t have them.

When we grow up with very little, it’s easier to present with a more humbling existence and attitude, but it can also throw us into a must have mentality, where we will stand at nothing, until we get what we want.

I believe that without bringing a more spiritual understanding into our lives, it will be difficult to achieve humility, value our lives and other people. It is the spiritual existence that brings about empathy, compassion and tolerance and it is those things, which give us humility.

It took me a long time to learn the difference between humility and humiliation! People often confuse the two, as I did, which made my life very difficult. I would refuse to ask for help, since it was pretty much a sin in the world I grew up in.

We always had the shadow over our heads that if we did ask for help, we would be taken away from our parents, so it was beyond torturous at times. Quite often I think we would have been a lot better off if we had been taken away, but we would have been separated which would have been harder for us.

The only reason we survived is because we stuck together which, in the end, didn’t help us in the real world!

Thanks Randy. Yes it will have been very hard to have grown up with your humility in tact, given your upbringing.

Even though we may think we don’t have it, when we come to branch out and move on from our childhood, I think we eventually do go on to create our own sense of being, where we begin to see ourselves in a whole new light. I think there is a part of us that knows how we really are even if how we are is hidden from our families or from the world.

I totally see this on an almost daily basis. I grew up not really wanting for anything. Some of the things I did want, I didn’t get though. My daughter on the other hand got everything she wanted whether she really needed it or not, thanks to my mom.

Now she thinks everyone owes her or something. But she also will needlessly provides for others, including her time in which she should be spending with her daughter.