Escaping The Labyrinth.

So, You Do?

I don’t know why am I even writing about this but I need to get it out of my system. Very badly. The thing is that today I was traveling in a bus and the girl sitting behind me was on the phone with her boyfriend. I know it is bad to eavesdrop, especially when it is too very private, but she was sitting right behind me and she was very loud. Then I thought ‘Oh, what the hell!’ and invaded her personal space.

The beginning of her conversation was very stale. It was all that stuff that makes you want to throw up. The real thing that made me lost my effing mind started after a long long time. Yes, I did not play a good co passenger and no, please don’t judge me.

“I cannot wait to get married and start living together!”

According to me, either the girl was old fashioned (that’s okay) or she hadn’t heard of ‘live in relationships’ (not okay).

Whatever, I don’t care about the girl or her marriage, the thing I care about is why people think that it is necessary to get married. I don’t mean to say that getting hitched to someone is bad. No. What I mean to say is that when two people are in love, why do they need to take the permission of other thousands of people to live together and have babies? Why are marriages even necessary? I don’t see the need of getting “married” to someone I love even if I want to spend the rest of my life with them.

So here are some of the points why I think getting hitched is not necessary:

1. The lavish wedding cake is not going to hold your souls together, but the love you share is definitely going to.2. None of bridesmaids is going to sort out the things when you two are in a fight. It is you who will have do the talking.3. Not even a single guest is going to remember your wedding after the next day. It will only be the two of you with every single detail weaved in your souls. Good or bad.4. No gift given will be matchable to the gift you two give to each other without even getting married, that is, obviously your love.5. If you are not a good dancer, you will have to live with the embarrassment of your ‘first dance’ for the rest of your life, but on the brighter side if you don’t get married, you won’t have to. 😛

So, all of the things mentioned above are possible without even getting married. Also, without getting married you might even know if the person was worth loving or not, because if you are walking down the aisle with that person on the grounds that they might run away, then you need to get your $#it straightened. But on the other hand if he/she is the one and you are not settling down, then I don’t think there is any harm and also it would add a little bit of thrill to your life. Maybe.

Most of the people, after getting married, tend to develop a sense of ownership over their spouse and then they think that any type of a mistake is forgivable but, what good is that?

The only reason which comes to my mind for getting married is that when you apply for a loan (having it named under the wife’s name makes it easy to get one and lessens the interest).

Please don’t think of me as a depressed creep who has a grudge against weddings because I don’t. In fact, I like to attend them. Not because two beautiful souls are going to be blessed by God and all the other tens of millions of guests are going witness the ceremony after which both of them are going to stay together for say, ten years and then get divorced mostly because of each others in-laws, I like to attend them because of the food that is served. 😀

It is unbelievable how much a person/family can spend on a wedding. Frankly, most of it is mere show off. Believe me, I live in India and I have seen those people spend lavishly on a wedding who have no idea from where are they going to arrange the next day’s meal.

Maybe I am too young to understand the concept of a lavish party at a sacred wedding and maybe I am too going to do the same things when I come of the age, but right now I don’t understand the concept of the ‘big idea’ and nor do I want to.

Post navigation

15 thoughts on “So, You Do?”

What are you thinking of breaking marriages or what? XD Because the reasons you have were pretty solid. Lol.
But in all seriousness, I think weddings are a way of celebrating a couple’s new life together. It’s merely a way to make the inception of their new life memorable. At least that’s my take on it.

But what you said, makes a lot of sense to my teenager HUNGRY self. XD Weddings are for food!
Booyeah! 😛

Marriage in general is a ceremony for making a commitment to be together forever between two consensual individuals; thats what the definition says 😀 so this commitment could be a register marriage or even a lavish party 😀 As the Indian society hasn’t yet completely come to terms with live in relationships, marriage become necessary for officializing a family ! May be in the future, things may be different 🙂

I used to think like that but when I actually got married, it did make a difference. The public declaration of love, to my mind, made our relationship deeper and more profound. I honestly wasn’t expecting it to.

Marriage is a good thing that’s all I can say at this moment. You will learn with each passing day what challenges life brings with it and how thoughts and perspectives gets change at different levels of age. However, good to see the young generation has voice to raise among the crowd. Keep going 🙂

Haha I couldn’t agree more with all your points ! When this matter was in the news, I used to argue with my dad talking about the same things like show off, no guarantee of a life-long relationship, useless spending etc. And none of his reasons could convince me but one (which was a funny one). He said, “There is nothing like a sacred ceremony. It is actually a way to ensure that the girl or the boy, don’t fabricate facts later and use them against each other. For example, if a mishap happens with either of them, the other one cannot deny accountability or refuse to have any relationship with the matter. As there are hundreds of witnesses, thousands of pictures and video recordings which certify that – beta tu hass raha tha baitha hua wahan, poore hosh me tha” 😀
And yes the free food is the only sensible ritual about marriages 😉