Confidence Crash

I'm not sure if it's the changing seasons or supreme exhaustion, but lately, when it comes to guys, I've just been feeling...blah. Like I can't get up the enthusiasm to really get into the dating scene. As you know, I haven't seen anyone since Nondisclosure Guy and that ended in mid-September.

Last night, I explored my new neighborhood with a friend, and we ended up at a nearly-empty bar where we drank sangria and began playing Connect 4 (the bar was one of those kitschy ones with board games set up on the bar) All of a sudden, a guy burst in.

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"Want to play two on two?" He asked. We shrugged at each other.

"Great, I'll get my friend." Then he burst out and showed up five minutes later with a British guy. We played Connect 4 — us against them. We won on the diagonal. The one guy went off into a rant about how that was just like women to be sneaky and not clear and pull a move no one was expecting. It was banter, but it was weird—normally I'd be all down for playfully following that line of thought but last night I just wasn't.

I know I'm in a slump right now, but it just feels like I've had the same flirtatious conversation a hundred — no, a thousand — times in my life. And I think I'm trying to look for something more "real" (augh, cliche alert!) but yet unsure of how to do that.

Again, I know it's a phase and it'll get better with sleep, a constructive attitude, and a little bit of luck.

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