There is no single definition of what love really is. But to describe it simply, it’s like there wasn’t anyone that made you happier. There wasn’t anyone who made you laugh harder. And there wasn’t anyone you would have done more for.

Perhaps love is looking at someone and their presence in your life makes you a better version of yourself. When you can have really deep conversations and still walk away with the respect you have for each other. When you hurt one another and say the wrong things but you still find forgiveness because your life without them wouldn’t be as wonderful if they just walked away. It’s wanting to know everything about someone even the little things. It’s not being able to go a day without speaking to them because every day with them is the best day of your life.

But at the end of the day, love is finding someone who simply makes you happy to be alive and values the relationship you do have, whatever that relationship may be. It’s looking at someone and believing you can do anything because you know they will be there to support you. It’s looking at someone and just being grateful they exist. It’s being the best version of yourself because of their influence and what they do give you.

May 2018 be a year of pursuit. To finally focus on yourself and to go after what you want and what makes you happy.

May this be the year you say goodbye to every doubt in your mind and to those “it is impossible” or “I can’t do this” thoughts. Because impossible is only a state of mind. Stop thinking of those “what if”. You will never know until you try. So take a deep breath and pursue where your heart leads you.

Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you from doing what you love. Stop letting people tell you what you can or cannot do. Because you only have one life and you shouldn’t live it for anyone else, but yourself. Stop living based on the world’s expectations and perspective. We all go through different challenges and no journey is the same. Continue reading →

When we were all kids, our parents are the ones that took care of us and making sure that we are growing strong and healthy. They will give us their best in providing our needs and there is nothing for us to worry because we knew that they will always be there for us. But as we grow older, we want to explore and try new things and that’s when the problem begins – they couldn’t let go.

This post is specially written to all the parents out there who find it hard to let their children go. Here’s an inside scoop on what’s going on in their mind and why they want to leave home. I’m writing this as a perspective of a daughter and I’m not here to condemn anyone but to express my opinions. My mum and dad are one of those parents that couldn’t let me go. And I’m already 22 years old!

But first, to the not-so-little children out there (I’m referring to those that are already 18 years old and above)… As we grow older, we would want to see the world and there are so many things out there for us to explore, and sometimes we would like to further our studies or apply for a job in another state or country. But the our only obstacle is our parents; partly because our they don’t allow us to go and come out with all sorts of reasons like “that place isn’t safe”, “it’s too far”, “you won’t be able to handle it on your own”, “you’re not independent enough” or the most common one… “There are lots of universities and colleges here. Why would you want to go so far just to get a certificate back?” Those reasons are valid, but we all know there were all excuses and not their main reason on why we cannot go.

You see… Partly they don’t want you to go is because they love you and they couldn’t imagine you living in a dangerous world without them. They couldn’t stop thinking what if something bad would happen to you and they’re not there to protect you. I don’t blame them for this because they have been with us for at least 17 years! That’s a long time and it’s hard to let go of something you treasure so much. Imagine giving away something you love!

But parents… If we never get out of our comfort zone now, then when can we ever get out of our comfy bubble? One day we will have to move out and move on as a young adult to tackle our own issues, without the security of knowing that your watchful care is always going to be near. If we don’t fall and fail, how can we ever grow and learn? Dr. Jonas Salk once said “Good parents give their children roots and wings—roots to know where home is and wings to fly off and practice what has been taught them.” How can we practice what you’ve taught us when we can’t use our wings? It’s like you’ve given us wings, but don’t want us to fly.

CBN.com says that if you never let a child test their wings by moving a little further away from the parents’ care, then sometimes they end up developing the symptoms of fear, extreme shyness or a social phobia and end up being afraid of moving forward in life. Not all kids will develop psychological or emotional fears because of overprotective parents, but it can be one of several factors that slow down their personal development and inner strength to move forward toward the next stage of life. Yes, I know it’s hard for you to do it because of love, but remember, part of that love is to equip us (your children) and prepare us to one day leave the nest to literally launch forward. Continue reading →

Friends… We love them to bits because they bring joy and meaning to our lives. But the tragedy is when things go bad and we end up hating and walking out of each other lives. Isn’t it sad? One moment, you could be the best friends, sharing secrets and hanging out almost everyday but become awkward strangers the next season.

Most friendships come and go with time, place and circumstances. Strangers may turn into friends, friends into something more… and yet, sometimes, two people can just naturally drift apart without a reason or explanation; perhaps priorities changed, or we just did and there is no longer a connection between friends. No need for apologies or goodbyes. We just go on and get by. Friends become strangers… Strangers with memories. Memories of a time and moment when we were once friends.

Strangers. Friends. Good friends. Close friends. Best friends. They each mean something distinctly different to each of us. A friend may just mean two people who met and know each other through circumstances or maybe situational settings. Same class, same college, etc… You get along. Maybe you need to get along because you need each other. It could be a class projects or work. Two people don’t really care that much about each other, but get along just for the sake of needing each other for a certain purpose. Continue reading →

Was scrolling down Facebook feeds when I came across this article that my friend posted. I find it interesting and true. Hence, a little something to share it with y’all.

Angels. It happens like this:

One day, you meet someone and for some inexplicable reason, you feel more connected to this stranger than anyone else – closer to them than your closest family. Perhaps this person carries within them an angel – one sent to you for some higher purpose; to teach you an important lesson or to keep you safe during a perilous time. What you must do is to trust in them – even if they come hand in hand with pain or suffering – the reason for their presence will become clear in due time. Continue reading →