Family issue

My aunt's son is having a wedding in October. I will be 28 weeks pregnant. They sent invites in July, to RSVP by Aug 5th. Since it was far away and I didn't know how I am going to feel, I RSVP and said we will skip the reception but come to church. I didn't want to cancel last minute if I wasn't feeling ok. When I called my aunt, she said I hurt everybody's feelings, and how can I do that to them, pregnancy is not a sickness and they don't want to talk to me. Not to mention she never called me before to ask how I feel, how the LO etc. I felt bad so I called aunt's son and said to change our RSVP that we will come after all. I haven't called my aunt since, needless to say she never called me either, the wedding is in a month and I feel weird about the whole thing. I understand she only cares about her son and the wedding but I feel hurt she won't even ask me how we are doing and it's seems so selfish to me. Should I call her and appologize?

My aunt's son is having a wedding in October. I will be 28 weeks pregnant. They sent invites in July, to RSVP by Aug 5th. Since it was far away and I didn't know how I am going to feel, I RSVP and said we will skip the reception but come to church. I didn't want to cancel last minute if I wasn't feeling ok. When I called my aunt, she said I hurt everybody's feelings, and how can I do that to them, pregnancy is not a sickness and they don't want to talk to me. Not to mention she never called me before to ask how I feel, how the LO etc. I felt bad so I called aunt's son and said to change our RSVP that we will come after all. I haven't called my aunt since, needless to say she never called me either, the wedding is in a month and I feel weird about the whole thing. I understand she only cares about her son and the wedding but I feel hurt she won't even ask me how we are doing and it's seems so selfish to me. Should I call her and appologize?

I wouldn't call and apologize. What would you apologize for - you now RSVPed that you are going so she should be happy. Like you said, your aunt is probably totally engrossed in this wedding and thinking about little else. You are thinking about your pregnancy. Pregnancy isn't a sickness but everyone has different pregnancies - I cancelled a dinner before because a ridiculous case of heartburn. If you can, I would just go to the wedding and reception. If your aunt brings it up, then you say something - that you wished she had called to ask how you were doing. That's what i would do....good luck and sorry you have to go through this.

I wouldn't call and apologize. What would you apologize for - you now RSVPed that you are going so she should be happy. Like you said, your aunt is probably totally engrossed in this wedding and thinking about little else. You are thinking about your pregnancy. Pregnancy isn't a sickness but everyone has different pregnancies - I cancelled a dinner before because a ridiculous case of heartburn. If you can, I would just go to the wedding and reception. If your aunt brings it up, then you say something - that you wished she had called to ask how you were doing. That's what i would do....good luck and sorry you have to go through this.

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