Posts Tagged ‘women’

According to some sources the prevelance of Aspergers is 1 in 250 people, while others argue that it is less common and others argue that it is more common. Therefore, what I am going to discuss next may not be as relevant to every case as I am sure this does not affect everyone in the community and many have not come forward or do not even think about it. The diagnosis, however, means that it should relate to everyone, however, depending on where they fit on the spectrum.
In the previous post, I discussed who has the power in society and resolved that it was unclear and that there was actually shared power in different areas of life. The point of discussing who has it better is often to try and get at the matter of who has it easier in society. I am now going to try and look at that issue in the Asperger community.

Men with Aspergers (AS) have a much harder time in the social area not only than NT but also women with Aspergers. As a result of biology discussed above we will be less in demand than women not only among our own community but also among NTs. In addition, women tend to form stronger social skills than males as a result of how they interact at a young age choosing talking over playing sports. Therefore, they will have better and more friendships than the males. Men with AS, therefore, are more likely going to be more obvious and therefore, receive more assistance and have less stigma attached. Nevertheless, many will not have as many romantic partners and this is very stigmatising by the rest of society. They will also, probably have fewer friends as a result of the weaker social skills. This is very hard.
In comparison, some women with AS may not know until much later and may not understand what is causing problems in their lives which is extremely fustrating. In addition, not knowing why things happen in your life also leaves you more vulnerable to be a victim. They may, however, have a much more interesting romantic life and therefore, feel less sidelined.

Where does the power really lie? I mean women keep saying that men have all the power and they have good arguments on their side it is true that men earn more money for doing the exact same job than women do. There are more men in corporate positions and they tend to be the higher-ups. This could easily be argued as a structured form of power, naturally working in men’s favor.
Therefore, if the saying whoever has the gold makes the rules is true than men unfairly have the power.
It is also true that most of the victims of domestic abuse are women. The cases of domestic abuse are not even close and yet women go back to these abusive men, therefore, there is a clear case for women being the victims of society and this supports feminism. That is, however, if these women are attracted to these men simply because they hold a position of power in our society. This second point, is more questionable because some women prefer bad boys and this can get them into these positions where they are with abusive men and thus creates the domestic abuse cycle. This quality is not unique to women as men often also chase after a girl who treats them badly, even if it is not domestic abuse.
If women make the argument that men have all the power because they earn way more per hour than where does all this extra cash go. Are men going to resorts just for men which are of higher quality than the ones women can afford to go? Are men simply working less hours because they can make the same money therefore, end up with the same amount of pay in half the time? As far as I know they are both working equal hours. No, instead the extra money is partly going towards buying girls drinks at the bar. There is unequal pressure on the man to buy all the drinks. In addition, whenever men do anything often one of the first things that come into consideration is whether this will make me more or less attractive to women. Therefore, it is easy to make the argument that women have more relational power.
If society was equal would there be less nights where girls get in for free? I don’t think so.
Therefore, one could argue that men have economic power while women have more social and biological power. If society legislates all the financial power away by giving equal pay will these elements change how we view sexuality? Or will it make society severely unbalanced as women have all the power?

This morning I woke up and there was a pimple the size of a small city on my face. At first I thought my eyes must simply be blurry, or that I had food on my face, nothing to really get worked up about. When I took a closer look, however, it was still there staring back and mocking me. Being like “I am going to mess up your day, and there is nothing you can do about it.” Shut up stupid zit your not the boss of me. I don’t care if I have to wash my face a million times before you are gone you are not sticking around. The zit simply replied, what’s on tv?”

It was absolutely terrible I thought I was done with acne when I reached the 20’s mark and that it was only something that people between the ages of 13-18 had to deal with. That it was a right of passage that you learnt how to drive, you gained your independence but you also had to deal with acne. Therefore, I was extremely suprised when my body decided to become repulsive on me. While I have always been terrible at talking to women I have always thought that at least I had my good looks to get me through the door if not the bedroom. Now, however, as I age and I have to worry more and more about my looks I am caught up in a terrible cycle emotionally. On one hand, I think what is the point of taking care of my looks because girls will continue to reject me even if I am as good looking as Brad Pitt because of my Aspergers. Now that I am beginning to lose my looks, to things like an onset of adult acne, my chances of getting a girl interested become even slimmer. My chances with girls right now make Tyra Banks look obese. There is absolutely nothing worse than adult acne. When you’re young and you get acne its natural its just a consequence of your teenage hormones being out of control, something you will grow out of. That is understandable and as a society we can accept it. We, however, can’t accept adult acne because it suggests moral weakness. It’s usually caused by an unhealthy lifestyle or stress. In my case, however, I don’t have much or I didn’t have much to stress about until I started getting it. Also, in terms of lifestyle I eat a balanced diet, I go to the gym regularly but it is all for naught.

As a result, every time I go down the street I think everyone is looking at my big pimple and judging me. Always staring and judging and always making negative assumptions about my character. When you don’t have a winning personality but have good looks you are fine and vice versa, however, when you don’t have either you are royally screwed.