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my dh tells me i love you every 5 minutes, and it bugs the crap out of me so i get it but in the reverse lol, it only bugs me because i have become so used to it that i respond with i love you too and he didnt even say it lol, we laugh about it.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 1:53 AM on Dec. 24, 2009

I would just ask him why he doesn't say it back. Begin there.....

And if he doesn't really know or doesn't have a reason that makes sense, simply tell him that it bothers you and that you wish he would respond back. Some people have a hard time saying it or think it loses its "shimmer" if stated too often.....

If you KNOW he loves you, then do you really NEED for him to respond??? Can you live without it? If you are uncertain about his feelings, then it is this uncertainty that bothers you, and the problem is deeper than the words.....

I can tell you that I don't say it back to my husband, because I don't feel the same way....he actually stopped saying it because I would answer, "uh huh" or "Awww that's nice." or "you're cool too." or "you're ai-ight."

That's just it. When we first got together he was always the one to say it first. Until I really did love him I didn't respond. He knew why. Then one day I started responding then saying it when we'd leave eachother or end a phone conversation. Now I get a ya and I can't help but be bugged by it.

It would really only bother me if his actions didn't indicate that he loved me. If he was still showing me all the time that he loved me, then althought it might be a little disappointing, I wouldn't let it really get to me. I also would just sit down and tell him it bothers me if it did. My boyfriend said it to me first the first time, and 9 times out of 10 he says it first anyway. It's actually funny, I randomly said it to him last night, and he's like, "I love you, too. What'd I do wrong?" I have heard the words said by people who didn't really mean it, so they don't mean as much to me as they probably should, although he is changing that for me.

Given the fact that he used to say it and just up and quit then yeah, if I were you, it would bug me. Talk to him about it and see what is going on. Communication is a very big foundation stone in a great relationship. (=

Some guys are not into touchy feely. I know SO would walk away if I said that so I spend my time showing him instead. He's ok with that and he can show his feelings for me as well bc hell would freeze over before he said something mushy!