“We had that moment of ‘It’s a boy!’ and we had that moment of joy that every parent gets to enjoy, and then out of the corner of my eye I see the baby was getting some respiratory assistance and a bunch of doctors and some nurses were in a crowd and I knew that something was not normal, but yet they kept our spirits up,” said Josh.

Little Jordan Alex Dubrow had meconium, a substance made of materials ingested during time in the uterus, in his lungs and he was struggling to breathe.

During this trying time, they say the doctors and nurses at North Shore University Hospital in Manhasset were extraordinary.

“From the minute I gave birth to Jordan, they were just very caring and very sympathetic and anything I needed, they got it for me. If I needed a hug they gave me a hug,” Stacey told Adams. “Never at one point did I ever feel that they weren’t doing everything that they needed to be doing for Jordan. I never felt that they were giving up on the situation. They were constantly fighting.”

“We did develop this really sincere admiration for the entire staff at the NICU,” Josh said.

“We didn’t want people sending food and flowers. We felt that the money could be better spent making a donation towards the NICU,” Stacey said.

In their darkest hour, Josh and Stacey started the JAD Fund. Their goal is to purchase a blood-gas measurement machine for the neo-natal intensive care unit.

“We knew that our outcome wasn’t, obviously, what we wanted. We hope other people can have a much better outcome,” she said.

“This is absolutely extraordinary to just think of other people and the future rather than looking over the past,” said chief of neonatology Richard Schandler. “Shows you the strength that they had, the strength… to be able to look beyond their tragedy.”

“I think it’s helped us with the healing process. Instead of focusing on all the bad that happened and the sadness, we felt it all and we still feel it today, but there’s a part of us that feels good,” said Stacey. “I think it’s taken our terrible, devastating experience and given a little bit of a positive twist to it.”

How dare you say the doctors didn’t do everything to save him! Do you know the whole story? This is a small bit of what happened, and rather is focusing on the good that came from this tragedy rather than sadness. That baby got the best possible care, and experienced a tragedy that most respected OBs don’t see in their entire career. Shame on you people.

I am not so sure that the doctors did everything they could. This happened with my baby and the doctors knew when my water broke that there was meconium in the fluid. There were NICU doctors in the delivery room and they did not let my baby take a breath. He was immediately intubated and the meconium was sucked out. I had a good outcome. This is horrible. My heart goes out to the parents.