Daddy issues? (Sorry for the length)

Okay so my daughter's dad has been in and out of the picture. He was there from the time she was born until she was about four months old, but in that time he wouldn't hold her to his chest more than a minute, refused to feed her a bottle if I pumped, wouldn't rock her to sleep, change her, or bathe her. He's changed 5 diapers in nearly fifteen months. After he left he waited almost 9 months to visit her again, a week after she turned one. He visited for thirty minutes and brought his girlfriend. He's had trouble with the law, drugs, drinking, anger, etc in the past. But now he wants to start visiting her more often, so he says. I don't know how to feel. I don't want to keep him from his daughter or vice versa but he is really hard to trust.

We're working on getting him the papers for child support right now, and the DNA test, so they can do the custody. We went to the prosecuting attorney in June and they haven't got back to us which is kind of annoying but I'm sure there are a million cases ahead of mine. I'm sure they would give supervised visits being he has a criminal record and has bounced in and out of rehab a few times.

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1st Sep '13

Imo no dad is better than a sometimes dad. I'd take him to court for supervised visitation until he can prove he wants to be around.

Quoting Punk'sElmo:" We're working on getting him the papers for child support right now, and the DNA test, so they can do ... [snip!] ... I'm sure they would give supervised visits being he has a criminal record and has bounced in and out of rehab a few times."

Not necessarily. You'd be surprised what someone has to do to get supervised visitation....

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Not necessarily. You'd be surprised what someone has to do to get supervised visitation...."

Do you think they would give joint custody with it being he has no stable home right now and no job? (not sarcasm) I'm just concerned because he's never been the daddy type and I don't trust him further than I could throw him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Punk'sElmo:</b>" Do you think they would give joint custody with it being he has no stable home right now and no job? ... [snip!] ... (not sarcasm) I'm just concerned because he's never been the daddy type and I don't trust him further than I could throw him."</blockquote>

No. He can't have her overnight if there is not a suitable living environment