Weird responses to your pregnancy news

My mom said, in fact the first thin she said, "your hubby is stressed with work and I know up don't get paid till dec 31, two months of no pay. So if for any reason the blood test comes back negative it's for the better". (I was speehless)

Paternal grandma- "oh so you will have two kids. Stop sleeping around. Two is too many." Granted she's been married four times (me once and hubby is father to both kids) and she had three kids so its like, really?

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Sorry to hear all of these stories! We are waiting until Christmas to announce this pregnancy. We were with dh's family yesterday, and we were asked by everyone when we were going to have a baby. I cringe whenever people ask that of anyone. I have a few friends who struggled with infertility, and I remember how hurtful it was for them to hear the comments when they had been trying to get pg for so long.

DH was very convincing about telling people that we decided not to have any. I have 2 from a previous marriage, and he said that is enough. Everyone seemed disappointed, so I can't wait to see their reactions when we tell them!!!

I haven't told anyone about this baby yet - other than a close group of girls that I 'met' on BBC when I was pregnant with our 2nd (and they were all really happy and supportive).

I'm a bit nervous to tell my family, to be honest. My parents will be happy to have a 3rd grandchild, and I *know* they will. But we also just bought a new house (hopefully, we do the home inspection today), and I know they think we'll be financially stressed with the new house - my mom even said "I know you want a third baby, but if you get this house, you may have to prepare yourself to only have the two boys". Which is fine, I know she's just looking out for me.But I'm worried those feelings may end up tainting her happiness of a new grandchild - that feeling will most likely be short lived though, since she tends to get excited quickly.

My FIL, when told we were expecting our first, replied "I didn't know you could get pregnant by swallowing" .......... really? Awkward.

I am dreading telling the news about this one because of these! My family is going to just as bad as some of these, but hopefully not as bad as I expect. With my YDD, I got, "This is going to be your last, right?" and, "you guys don't need anymore after this one." Three out of four of my kids have been unexpected and unplanned, one wasn't planned, but not prevented either. Don't people think before they speak sometimes?? Grrr...

I haven't heard any negative reactions, but my husband keeps hearing weird things from his coworkers. His boss, who seems to telegraph his own issues onto us, will randomly talk about how hard 3 kids will be. Their janitor spent about half an hour while cleaning talking about how having 3 kids is just so stupid and that you're guaranteed that one of them will be a screw-up. Finally after half an hour of this, he asked what religion we were, and when my husband told him (Mormon), he changed his mind and was irritated that he hadn't been told that originally. I guess being from a religion known for having lots of kids excuses us from his strange rants, thankfully!

My mom is happy and that's just hard for her personality (she is a huge worrier). A few days after her telling me she was going to "embrace my pregnancy" she started to tell me how she is so broke and can't help me as much (wtf? She does NOT help me! When SHE wants she buys my two kids presents usually with kohls cash, she works at a grocery store and if there is a great deal she picks it up for me. She has a second job doing Rx delivery making $15 per trip and when she works I do it for her and se never pays me. She also won't even babysit my kids when I need her to- and she gave her boyfriend a car and pays for my brothers) so for her to gripe that MY new baby will cause HER financial difficulty really pisses me off.

My mom didn't want to believe it, she kept on insisting that my cold symptoms and the medication I took for it could have caused the pink line. lol Really mom, Medication causes HCG now? I'm so tired of not being supported when something GREAT happens. I'm over it though, its my family and that's all that matters.