I think I want to end this

This was a planned pregnancy w my husband. There hasn't been any joy though for either of us. I've been sick, all we do is fight, he only is supportive when it suits him.I went for my first midwife appointment today and find out they don't take my insurance.I was really hoping for this appointment so I could try and get some connection to this pregnancy- a heart beat, a sonogram anything.I've been questioning of this was right. I'm coming to the conclusion that we are not cut out for this and I should end it before it ruins both out lives.

This was a planned pregnancy w my husband. There hasn't been any joy though for either of us. I've been sick, all we do is fight, he only is supportive when it suits him.I went for my first midwife appointment today and find out they don't take my insurance.I was really hoping for this appointment so I could try and get some connection to this pregnancy- a heart beat, a sonogram anything.I've been questioning of this was right. I'm coming to the conclusion that we are not cut out for this and I should end it before it ruins both out lives.

This is your decision and we can't tell you what to do. I just hope that you really think about it. The first trimester is really hard but it does get easier. And the end result is so amazing!! There is nothing like it. And that this is permanent and you have to live with it for the rest of your life. Just something to think about. I pray that you really think about and do what is best for you and your baby. As far as finding a dr or a midwife when you call the next clinic make sure they take your insurance first. And please see a dr or midwife before making you decision so that you can see you baby before you make your decision it really makes it real.

This is your decision and we can't tell you what to do. I just hope that you really think about it. The first trimester is really hard but it does get easier. And the end result is so amazing!! There is nothing like it. And that this is permanent and you have to live with it for the rest of your life. Just something to think about. I pray that you really think about and do what is best for you and your baby. As far as finding a dr or a midwife when you call the next clinic make sure they take your insurance first. And please see a dr or midwife before making you decision so that you can see you baby before you make your decision it really makes it real.

Thats how i felt w my first pregnancy but i stuck with it1) because this child has no fault in what is going on around my life2) even though i was miserable i had my friends and family for support3) i can find help when i need itDont give up.. Give it some timeIt will pass as far as the sickness goesMy son is my bestest friend and i cant imagine my life without him. Yes being a mother is hard but that is the decision u made when ur goal was to become pregnant. In my opinion ending a helpless life is a way of running away from your problems and there is no guarantee ur life will be better if u end that life.

Thats how i felt w my first pregnancy but i stuck with it1) because this child has no fault in what is going on around my life2) even though i was miserable i had my friends and family for support3) i can find help when i need itDont give up.. Give it some timeIt will pass as far as the sickness goesMy son is my bestest friend and i cant imagine my life without him. Yes being a mother is hard but that is the decision u made when ur goal was to become pregnant. In my opinion ending a helpless life is a way of running away from your problems and there is no guarantee ur life will be better if u end that life.

I definitely recommend at least hearing a heartbeat before you make a decision. Remember that pregnancy is temporary and if it's the baby that is wrong for you right now, it might be the right time for someone else who desperately wants a child. Adoption is always an option. As someone who has struggled with infertility, it burdens me to think of who might be able to love your baby like you night not be able to right now.

I definitely recommend at least hearing a heartbeat before you make a decision. Remember that pregnancy is temporary and if it's the baby that is wrong for you right now, it might be the right time for someone else who desperately wants a child. Adoption is always an option. As someone who has struggled with infertility, it burdens me to think of who might be able to love your baby like you night not be able to right now.

:( Well you won't get the 'don't kill your baby' speech from me. I've terminated when the timing/finances weren't right. But I will say that the first trimester is the hardest emotionally and if you wanted this before and it was planned, then I think you should go through with it. I was a complete mess with my first pregnancy and went through a few weeks of 'what the hell am I doing?' and 'should I go through with this?' So I completely understand those emotions. But now I have a beautiful 13 month old daughter and she is my world and she is also my husband's world. Even though it's rocky with your husband now, it might not be after the baby is here, especially if he wanted a baby too and you think he would be a loving father. Things will get better, emotionally at least, in a few weeks.

:( Well you won't get the 'don't kill your baby' speech from me. I've terminated when the timing/finances weren't right. But I will say that the first trimester is the hardest emotionally and if you wanted this before and it was planned, then I think you should go through with it. I was a complete mess with my first pregnancy and went through a few weeks of 'what the hell am I doing?' and 'should I go through with this?' So I completely understand those emotions. But now I have a beautiful 13 month old daughter and she is my world and she is also my husband's world. Even though it's rocky with your husband now, it might not be after the baby is here, especially if he wanted a baby too and you think he would be a loving father. Things will get better, emotionally at least, in a few weeks.

Please don't. I too am having the worst time with sickness I even had my hours cut at work because I kept getting sick. Went from full time to 2 days a week. It will get better!! And think of that little bundle that is already growing inside you. Think of how amazing it will be to hold him/her in your arms. I don't know your exact situation but I know it's tough and I know it will get better. Sending you hugs!!

Please don't. I too am having the worst time with sickness I even had my hours cut at work because I kept getting sick. Went from full time to 2 days a week. It will get better!! And think of that little bundle that is already growing inside you. Think of how amazing it will be to hold him/her in your arms. I don't know your exact situation but I know it's tough and I know it will get better. Sending you hugs!!

No one can tell you what to do but it seems like its more of way of getting out instead of dealing with stuff. Maybe try counseling? Can you go to another midwife or a regular OB? To me it just seems senseless to consider ending a life that you planned in the first place.

No one can tell you what to do but it seems like its more of way of getting out instead of dealing with stuff. Maybe try counseling? Can you go to another midwife or a regular OB? To me it just seems senseless to consider ending a life that you planned in the first place.

I would not suggest getting an abortion that is your personal decision. From experience of which I have never had an abortion but came scarely close. I was a single woman who was threatened by the dad to get an abortion even offered a significant amount of money by him not to have the baby not because he had anything to hide only his selfishness. I however personally could not live the rest of my life thinking about my unborn and God willing I was having my baby in the worst circumstances I had remained a single unmarried mom for 6 years and it has been the most blessed part of my life. Please just pray and simply ask if you should keep the baby take the time to listen to God and you will find your answer and please take the opportunity to listen to the heart beat of your little one. You can do this with or without your hubby.

I would not suggest getting an abortion that is your personal decision. From experience of which I have never had an abortion but came scarely close. I was a single woman who was threatened by the dad to get an abortion even offered a significant amount of money by him not to have the baby not because he had anything to hide only his selfishness. I however personally could not live the rest of my life thinking about my unborn and God willing I was having my baby in the worst circumstances I had remained a single unmarried mom for 6 years and it has been the most blessed part of my life. Please just pray and simply ask if you should keep the baby take the time to listen to God and you will find your answer and please take the opportunity to listen to the heart beat of your little one. You can do this with or without your hubby.

I too am finding this first trimester challenging but you have to think longer term and how amazing it will feel to hold that little baby in your arms! It may seem bad right now but the darkest clouds always come just before the sunshine and at least wait and see your baby on the scan then decide x

I too am finding this first trimester challenging but you have to think longer term and how amazing it will feel to hold that little baby in your arms! It may seem bad right now but the darkest clouds always come just before the sunshine and at least wait and see your baby on the scan then decide x

No one...absolutely no one can make or help you with this decision. It is YOUR body. But...it is true...the first trimester can play with your head. I will get better. Tell your husband and/or doctor how you feel. Maybe they will schedule an ultrasound for you. It may solidify whatever decision you choose. Good luck with YOUR decision:)

No one...absolutely no one can make or help you with this decision. It is YOUR body. But...it is true...the first trimester can play with your head. I will get better. Tell your husband and/or doctor how you feel. Maybe they will schedule an ultrasound for you. It may solidify whatever decision you choose. Good luck with YOUR decision:)

I am sorry but I find this post so inappropriate for this board. Yes we should be able to vent about 24/7 morning sickness, lousy husbands and financial burdens. But for a board that has many moms who have struggled to get pregnant and many more who are struggling to stay pregnant, I just don't think that this is appropriate. There are so many forums out there for this type of discussion. I was a member of the February 2009 board, and the topic of abortion was never brought up as many times as I have seen it on here. I am not insensitive to your circumstances but if you are honestly considering abortion, this might not be the place to make that declaration. With that being said, best of luck in making a decision that is right for your family.

I am sorry but I find this post so inappropriate for this board. Yes we should be able to vent about 24/7 morning sickness, lousy husbands and financial burdens. But for a board that has many moms who have struggled to get pregnant and many more who are struggling to stay pregnant, I just don't think that this is appropriate. There are so many forums out there for this type of discussion. I was a member of the February 2009 board, and the topic of abortion was never brought up as many times as I have seen it on here. I am not insensitive to your circumstances but if you are honestly considering abortion, this might not be the place to make that declaration. With that being said, best of luck in making a decision that is right for your family.

From what I have gathered based on previous posts you pretty much are an all organic want a natural birth with limited interventions and you are not for current medical interventions and prefer "natural" or "homeopathic" alternatives. Well you realize an abortion is a huge intervention. Pregnancy sucks. If it was easy men would be able to do it. But once you hit 14 ish weeks you should feel better and if it's that bad maybe it's time to use medical interventions to make it better and bearable. Sometimes our preconceived notions end up hurting us versus helping us. Find an ob that takes your insurance and try and get an emergency appointment and discuss your options and bring your husband. That way you are all on the same page.

From what I have gathered based on previous posts you pretty much are an all organic want a natural birth with limited interventions and you are not for current medical interventions and prefer "natural" or "homeopathic" alternatives. Well you realize an abortion is a huge intervention. Pregnancy sucks. If it was easy men would be able to do it. But once you hit 14 ish weeks you should feel better and if it's that bad maybe it's time to use medical interventions to make it better and bearable. Sometimes our preconceived notions end up hurting us versus helping us. Find an ob that takes your insurance and try and get an emergency appointment and discuss your options and bring your husband. That way you are all on the same page.

Amen! Too many of us are struggling...wishing and praying with every pain, sickness, constipation, drops of blood, and hormonal mess, that we keep our baby. Some of us are scared every moment, that this could be the last day we are pregnant. I'm not pro-life, but this doesn't belong here...

Amen! Too many of us are struggling...wishing and praying with every pain, sickness, constipation, drops of blood, and hormonal mess, that we keep our baby. Some of us are scared every moment, that this could be the last day we are pregnant. I'm not pro-life, but this doesn't belong here...

Hey, some of your problems annoy the hell out of me, I don't tell you what you can complain about online. Don't like it? DONT READ IT. It's not a misleading topic- you know exactly what I'm venting about. I definitely need to breath and take a step back, but I've been having these thoughts for a few weeks, it's not just sickness and an ass for a husband, it's the whole life change, being a full time working mom- Maybe I honestly made an mistake.

Anyhow, thanks all your thoughts. I need to do some serious thinking.

Hey, some of your problems annoy the hell out of me, I don't tell you what you can complain about online. Don't like it? DONT READ IT. It's not a misleading topic- you know exactly what I'm venting about. I definitely need to breath and take a step back, but I've been having these thoughts for a few weeks, it's not just sickness and an ass for a husband, it's the whole life change, being a full time working mom- Maybe I honestly made an mistake.

I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation. But I can not sympathize with you. You put yourself purposely in this situation. This is a pregnancy/parenting forum. It is to support people during their pregnancy, those having trouble conceiving, those who do desperately want a sticky pregnancy but time and time again end in devastating miscarriage. This is not an abortion support forum. I apologize to anyone who thinks I'm being rude but I just don't think this is the place to post this, it's like rubbing salt into the wounds of those who would love to have the baby your thinking of aborting. Maybe you could try talking to a doctor who does accept your insurance, or look for support groups on people thinking of abortion, they may be better places to vent and get advise from.

I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation. But I can not sympathize with you. You put yourself purposely in this situation. This is a pregnancy/parenting forum. It is to support people during their pregnancy, those having trouble conceiving, those who do desperately want a sticky pregnancy but time and time again end in devastating miscarriage. This is not an abortion support forum. I apologize to anyone who thinks I'm being rude but I just don't think this is the place to post this, it's like rubbing salt into the wounds of those who would love to have the baby your thinking of aborting. Maybe you could try talking to a doctor who does accept your insurance, or look for support groups on people thinking of abortion, they may be better places to vent and get advise from.

Don't let others pressure you into continuing with your pregnancy if you feel you can't do it. This you and your husband's decision only. I will tell you not to jump into such a permanent solution too quickly, though. Give it a full week's thought and see of you still feel the same. Good luck to you.

Don't let others pressure you into continuing with your pregnancy if you feel you can't do it. This you and your husband's decision only. I will tell you not to jump into such a permanent solution too quickly, though. Give it a full week's thought and see of you still feel the same. Good luck to you.

Ladies c'mon we should be helping this woman not bashing her down for being unsure of what she wants!!! I am pro life but we all know how much the hormones do play on ur mind especially in first trimester and how helpless we feel at some stage. I feel ur pain hun this is pregnancy #4 for me and definately not planned. I am struggling to come to terms with it however could never terminate-it's just not something I myself could live with. I have had ms from 4 weeks, a virus for another 2 weeks and been fighting with hubby basically since we found out not to mention anxiety meds I had to come off cold =*| oh and on top of that I absolutely hate my pregnancies and don't enjoy them one bit! But the end result is miraculous :) Go for a walk get some fresh air have a bath get a pedicure a facial a massage-something u wouldn't normally treat urself with and then take the time to sit and think about what u really want. It's a horrible way to feel and if u had of told me these feelings during any one of my last pregnancies I wouldn't have understood them either, until u actually feel it urself u can't judge. I have a couple of close friends who have had multiple mc and I really struggled to tell them I was pregnant basically because I knew they would be able to tell I was happy about it and you know what they were so supportive regardless of their own circumstances they just told me u can't help how u feel and u know it will change once bubby comes along-this is what has kept me feeling positive :) Stay strong and have some time out u will be ok :) best of luck.

Ladies c'mon we should be helping this woman not bashing her down for being unsure of what she wants!!! I am pro life but we all know how much the hormones do play on ur mind especially in first trimester and how helpless we feel at some stage. I feel ur pain hun this is pregnancy #4 for me and definately not planned. I am struggling to come to terms with it however could never terminate-it's just not something I myself could live with. I have had ms from 4 weeks, a virus for another 2 weeks and been fighting with hubby basically since we found out not to mention anxiety meds I had to come off cold =*| oh and on top of that I absolutely hate my pregnancies and don't enjoy them one bit! But the end result is miraculous :) Go for a walk get some fresh air have a bath get a pedicure a facial a massage-something u wouldn't normally treat urself with and then take the time to sit and think about what u really want. It's a horrible way to feel and if u had of told me these feelings during any one of my last pregnancies I wouldn't have understood them either, until u actually feel it urself u can't judge. I have a couple of close friends who have had multiple mc and I really struggled to tell them I was pregnant basically because I knew they would be able to tell I was happy about it and you know what they were so supportive regardless of their own circumstances they just told me u can't help how u feel and u know it will change once bubby comes along-this is what has kept me feeling positive :) Stay strong and have some time out u will be ok :) best of luck.

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