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Michelle - posted on 05/02/2016

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Kids will adjust. It's never a good thing to stay together for the children as it does have an effect on them growing up in an unhappy house.You can co-parent effectively and have a very well balanced young man as he grows up. It just takes communication.I have been doing 50/50 shared care for 11 years and my boys are very well behaved young men.

Kindra--he is ten years old. He is going to know that something is going on and you need to tell him the truth...mom and dad can not live in the same house anymore. You do not have to get into details as to why because he does not need to know all that. What he does need to know is that you guys both still love him just as much as you did when together. Try to work out some sort of parenting plan where maybe you can do some activities or things together as a family unit for your son's benefit. Meet at the park for a picnic or to play for a few hours. Take him to a movie together. But do get the court orders for custody, visitation and such lined out. You can not keep stuff from kids. They do know things go on and they may not know what if you keep it from them.