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You want to make a change. You believe your life has become stagnant. Your relationship is beginning to bore you. You still haven't gone after your dreams and you believe time is running out. These thoughts will inevitably pass through your mind at various times in your life. The question is not wondering if your thoughts are valid, because they are. The question is what will you do about it.

You need to decide if you will let these feelings pass (and eventually they will on their own) or if you will take action and make a change. There's really no right or wrong choice, there's simply a time to choose. But before you choose to ignore that tugging feeling that tells you something needs to shift, I invite you to take a look at what is most likely stopping you from taking a risk and creating change.

Some may say that your reasons for wanting a change are impractical, irrational, or unreasonable. Some may warn you that you're better off with what you have than risking the unknown. Others will convince you that your desires are childish and irresponsible. You, yourself will create doubt and uncertainty as to the reasons behind your restlessness or the validity of what you want to do. The bottom line is you and your well meaning friends and family are experiencing the same thing... Fear.

So how do you overcome your fear? There's only one simple answer. You take a leap of faith. I know that some of you are assuming I mean you trust that God or the Universe or Whatever will be watching over you and taking care of you and your choices. And there's nothing wrong with defining that statement in that way. But I'm talking about a different kind of faith--the faith I'm referring to is faith in YOURSELF.

Here's what's important for you to remember about yourself when you're feeling scared about change.

You have been through many changes in your life already and have survived each and every one of them.

You have fallen down more than once, picked yourself up off the ground, and moved on until life became more manageable.

You have developed a support system whether you know it or not. There has been someone somewhere who has helped you during times of crisis, change and uncertainty.

You know how to ask for help and accept help when you need it.

You have coping skills that have been developing since you were born. You have more of them than you realize.

You learn from your experiences (you can't help but do this as your brain is hard-wired to) and apply those learnings to other things.

You know that most things in life are worth the risk--love, adventure, joy, accomplishments, growth.

You know that without change, growth does not occur; without growth, things wither and die.

You know that you can't control much but what you can control can make a difference to yourself and others.

You know that even with risk, you may not get to your desired destination.

You also know that some of the best destinations are unplanned.

Take a leap of faith today...in yourself.

Believe in your ability to create, learn, problem-solve, adapt, deal with disappointment and celebrate life.

Be bold. Take a leap of faith. Jump into your next adventure.

Be well, Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to make a change in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.