This past Sunday was April Fool's Day/Easter. Usually every year my husband and I will go to a family lunch or a get together of sorts to celebrate. It's never usually a problem but, this year, since it landed on April Fool's Day, it became one. My husband likes to celebrate April Fool's every year as much as Easter. He pulls pranks at my expense and I brush them off as good old fashion fun but it's starting to get on my last nerves!

This year especially on the day we were supposed to visit family, he outdoes himself. He mixed in some clear glue into my styling gel, and when I put it in my hair, it clumped up! I ended up having to cut some off!!! I was more than livid considering not only did I have to cut my hair but, that I had to go see my family a few hours after. I think it's getting to a point where he's taking it too far. It's not charming or cute anymore but borderline abusive. I'm afraid if I talk to him that he won't take it seriously or he'll be offended or something like that. What do I do?

It's called April fools, not let's be an ass. What you described goes outside the realm of a good joke or prank. Apparently your husband is one of those idiots that are to stupid to understand the concept. Bitch slap some sense into him.

Valentines' Day just passed and, like many of you probably did, I did something special for the significant other. But, it's not that I really wanted to. I felt obligated to because well, it's Valentine's Day. Also, don't mistake me for a common ass either. Of course, I would love to do something special for my girlfriend but, it just irks me that there's a whole day dedicated to the ooey-gooey and the stigma that follows.

One, why is there a holiday that tries to condense something as magnificent as love into a typical ceremony? Two, why should there be a day that dictates when I should be doing something nice for someone? I feel like if I hadn't done anything then I would automatically be condemned for it (I dare you to prove me wrong). And, lastly, it's a day that excludes a great deal of people; ya know, people that aren't in relationships. Yes, some are happily single yet, for those others, this day really exacerbates that feeling of loneliness. And, to top it all off, I simply believe this is just a capitalist rake-in (don't think I didn't notice the $10 mark up on roses, Safeway).

But, I digress. Am I the only one that has a problem with this? What are your thoughts?

I think my opinion changes on this periodically. I think it just depends on how you want to approach it. If you want it to be stupid, it can be stupid. If you want to make the most of it and spread the love, then it can be fun too!

FitnessTrainer52w

While I do try to do something special for the day, I am well aware of like you said the stupidity of the holiday for the reasons you stated. Luckily for me, my girlfriend also agrees, it should always be more about doing something special with your SO rather than focusing on that particular day. So, while I know that it's just a contrived capitalist holiday to make money it is still a nice excuse to do something special. While single though, especially as a guy since there is galentines day but not guyentines day, it does kinda feel like a reminder that you don't have someone special in your life like other people.

While this situation has nothing really to do with me, it's something that seems odd at the very least if not downright wrong, and I'm wondering how others view the situation? Back when I was a junior in high school, a 19 or 20-year old transferred into my grade, he'd been held back a couple years at other schools, that's why he was so much older. While he was in school I always got the sense that he was hitting on one of our younger teachers, but I'm pretty sure nothing ever developed while we were still students. Fast forward a few years to now, I just found out that that guy is now dating the teacher he was hitting on while a student, I know this for sure. Is it weird or wrong for a teacher to date a former student, or is it just me?

I'm currently abroad, and one of my friends from home wants to come visit me for a few weeks. However, I know what she's like when she travels (she tends to complain, needs luxury, spends a lot of money). I am the complete opposite. Seeing her would be nice, but I know she would take away from my journey (I went traveling alone for a reason). Do I convey this to her, or let her come meet me and get over it?

My friend recently expressed to me that he has feelings for me. I view him solely as a friend, and didn't really know what to say when he told me. I now feel friction in our relationship, and I miss what we used to have. I'm acting the same, but I feel like he is taking it as an insult. Should I talk to him about it, or let him come to me?

I once lost a friend because I didn't talk to him about it - so if your friend is anything like my former friend, I say talk to him. But be careful, his feelings are hurt so you don't want to make it worse.

FitnessTrainer1 Feb, 2018

So I've actually been a similar situation before, as the guy though. I developed a crush for my best friend in college, but she had a long term boyfriend. While I didn't straight out tell her I had a crush on her, I did ask her to stop talking about her boyfriend with me (so basically telling her all she needed to know). It took me awhile, but I did eventually realized that our friendship meant more to me than her seeing me in a romantic light. The reason I say let him come to you is that you don't owe him anything. Unrequited love happens all the time, and if he truly values your friendship then he'll find a way to live with the fact that you don't have romantic feelings for him. Until then, just keep being his friend. I really hope he comes around and realizes that a lost friendship isn't worth unrequited feelings.

ANONYMOUS9 Feb, 2018

Typical Woman. A guy who will treat you like a true Queen comes along and you shit on him. A dude comes along and treats you like shit and you can't get enough.

I'm single, and recently at a party I met a fun group of people. Several of them are now my facebook friends. One guy, who happens to be married, messaged me about going running. We had all been talking about a running group at the party, so he might be just trying to be nice, but I've been hit on by married men in the past so I'm very cautious about spending time with men who are married.

So, my girlfriend who has been "dating" her second married guy is now down and out again because she got dumped. Her last "boyfriend," who was also married, dumped her over the summer and now the day before NYE, she's crying about the latest break-up. I'm seriously so worn out and sick of her crying about these obviously smarmy losers who are just using her for sex. I am thinking about actually distancing myself from her before cutting her out of my life altogether. Am I a horrible person?

Have you talked to her about not dating married men? I think, as a friend you owe it to her, yourself, and your friendship to at least try to stage an intervention or something to show her what she's doing isn't healthy for anyone involved.

G.Patterson2 Jan, 2018

I'd wager she's trying to trap you. Guilt is a powerful tool.

EverydayQuandary2 Jan, 2018

I have talked to her about it on several occasions, and sometimes upset her enough in the process that she doesn't talk to me for a week at a time. Sigh. That's why I think it's time that I just take a chunk of distance.

SplatterVenal477 Jan, 2018

I had a similar situation growing up with my childhood friend, about 2005 was when I reached my limit. I had the audacity to point out that maybe random guys on a dating site (that she was lying about her age on, she was not legal yet) were not the

SplatterVenal477 Jan, 2018

(Cont) best source for trying to get into a meaningful relationship. They would use her and ditch her, and I had to be her shoulder to cry on for the lows, and she would TMI brag about them before they went sour.
So one day I told her exactly what I thought. Told her I had to focus on my own relationship instead of her drama-cycle that would only end when she stopped lying and letting guys use her. We stopped speaking after that. She eventually tried dating a coworker (25 when she turned 18) instead and ended up marrying him a couple years later. Maybe my "leaving" snapped some sense into her, or maybe she just turned to crying on his shoulder instead and he pounced at the opportunity. ---------- Anyways, it felt bad for a while cutting her off, but she never tried to get back into my life either. Take a step back and see how your life changes when you don't need to be someone else's pillar.

I've recently started talking to my ex again after barely speaking for over 2 years. I barely thought about him these past 2 years, and have dated other people in the mean time. To be fair, I was out of the country for the 2 years, so having recently returned home, we started talking again. It's nice being with him, but I feel like these feelings I'm developing for him are only coming back because I am now home. I'm also leaving the country (again) soon for an unknown amount of time. Should I keep seeing him and see what happens, or should I cut it off before it gets serious?

Ultimately both people are going to have their own opinion, so it probably comes down to which person feels more strongly about something and which one is willing to compromise. If neither person is willing to compromise...you have a problem!

concernedcitizen3 Nov, 2017

It's like any partnership. You set up roles and responsibilities up front. That way when it comes time for conflict, you already know who gets to make the call.

I get along really well with my ex husband most of the time, but he gets jealous whenever I start dating a new guy. It's been years. Every time there's a man's car in my driveway, he'll start showing up in the neighborhood randomly. He's never been violent, but it's an invasion of my privacy. Should I say something? Part of me doesn't want to rock the boat, since we share custody of our kids.

I'd say you should definitely make it clear to him that he is not part of your life anymore (except for sharing custody of the kids) and that he should stay away when he's neither picking up or dropping off the kids.