Free Love Readings

Love is a wonderful gift from Oshun. It is the reason mankind hasn’t died out. Every creature from the tiniest microbe to the largest sea mammal seeks some sort of union and affection in its way. As crucial as love is to life though, it can be wrought with fear and frustration. To help clear away some confusion and figure out whether you are compatible with someone you love, or if there may be some problem, I do a love reading. It’s a fast way to at least know where things stand at the moment.

If you just want to know quickly what the Orishas have to say about your relationship right now, here it is:

Eshu has closed the way back.

This means you cannot return to where you were or to whom you were with. You may only move forward or it will stop where it is.

If you are currently with someone and you have not made a claim or they haven’t then you both need to commit to one another or the relationship will break.

If you have left someone or they have left you, then you may not go back. Either they won’t accept you or it will break even if they do.

If you are in a stable, committed relationship, this means that there is something from the past that must not be allowed to affect your relationship anymore in the future. It may not seem like a threat, but it is. Be cautious especially of ex partners.

The Ancestors say that you are not a match.

The person you are asking about does not belong in your family, or the time that they have spent with you is enough. They have served their purpose and are of no further use to you.

If you have children with them already, and they are not abusive, you should try to maintain amicable relations with them for the sake of the children. Otherwise, walk away and do not look back.

Oshun demands investment.

Oshun, the Orisha of love is also the Orisha of prosperity, and a spouse of the Orisha of currency, Aje Shaluga. There is a saying, “There is no ebbo without Aje Shaluga.”

In African belief systems, we never go to the spirits emptyhanded. This would be disrespectful. Metaphysically, across all belief systems, esoterics and mystics understand that energy flows, and if we want our prayers answered, the energy to make things manifest must come from somewhere. So we give offerings.

If you get this message, it could mean that you need to give offerings to Oshun. If you are taking or anticipating the provider role in your relationship, it could also mean that you need to invest more resources in your partner or potential partner. Take them on a real date. Buy them gifts. Do something to show that you are willing to invest resources in your relationships.

…and also give offerings to Oshun since she is the provider of romantic and bonding sentiments.

If you are the more conventionally feminine, homemaking, and nurturing partner in your relationship, this message could mean that it is your loved one who is too stingy with their resources. Their lack of investment indicates either a lack of commitment, or that you are not expressing your needs enough.

You have no call to be insecure. Your worth is not measured in how much money you make or don’t, same as theirs. You love them even though they are giving you little or nothing materially. They should love you the same.

The only difference is one of delegation of roles. Whatever gender either of you are, if you are the one who tends to cook, make sure everyone is well, clean up, and take care of people’s practical needs, your partner needs to be supportive, or this relationship will not make it into the long term.

If they make you feel bad for asking for things like going on a real date or things to make your life easier so you have time and energy for them, something is wrong there. Change it sooner rather than later or you are teaching them a bad lesson about life and love. “Love is a verb.”

Be more old fashioned.

Times have changed, and now people have many choices for the kinds of relationships that are possible. In many places, you can now live in at least a relative peace with your male, female, intersex, or multiple partners. You are even free to explore yourself and change, or to never choose a specific label. This is a wonderful time to live in because even where there isn’t so much freedom, it is clear that freedom is coming. It is inevitable because love is stronger than hate.

Thing is, though the times have changed and most of us have more options, people still need to eat, to sleep, and have other basic needs that have to be met. So ideals are wonderful, but you need good practical actions to make your dreams a reality.

Think about the goals of your relationship. You love them and they may love you too, but love neither pays the bills nor cleans the toilets. In order for people to stay alive in today’s world, there needs to be providers of resources and managers of resources. Historically, these jobs went to at least two different people, usually more when extended family was available.

If you are finding that your relationships stagnate or fizzle out or break when things start to get serious, it may be that you don’t have the practical skills it takes to be more than amusement, or you are choosing partners who don’t. This or because someone who anticipates a role as a provider of resources does not see you as a good manager, or someone who anticipates being a manager does not see you as a good provider. Perhaps someone with a combination of skills doesn’t see you as a compatible balance.

If you’re seeing this message, you need to think about your role. What do you see yourself actually doing for your partner? What are you bringing to the table? It may not be all about gender roles anymore, but some do coincide with practical skills and abilities and biological realities.

Male, female, or somewhere in between, we all need to have home building skills to build homes.

This does not necessarily mean that everything is okay or that all hope is lost. It’s just speaking as to how things are at this moment, or what could be if things continue the way they are going.

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