We anticipated it for a whole year but it was worth the wait! This episode was recorded LIVE in the disco at Desire RM where a flatteringly huge audience of people took time away from the week-long naked party to join us and help answer questions. It was another epic week for us and this recording gives you just a taste of the kind of sexy, provocative and fascinating conversations that were had in the jacuzzi every afternoon.

In the Best of the Lifestyle segment our live audience discussed a breakdown of the differences and similarities between Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Then we shifted gears to discuss the best way to make an invitation to another couple for play. Finally, we all struggled with the question of age in the LS. How young is too young and can you ever get over the weirdness of playing with people who are your kids’ ages?

Our Diary Story in this show was a very fresh memory. It actually happened at Desire the very night before we recorded. Although we are Desire veterans and experienced swingers, even we struggle with “sealing the deal”. This situation reminded us of the importance of being clear and bold in making the invitation to play, even when it’s with great friends, or you just might miss out on some fantastic experiences.

After an unusual week when we found ourselves in two different Midwest lifestyle clubs in two different states in only 48 hours, we got to thinking about clubs and what makes some better or worse to us for our particular party preferences. So, in this episode’s, The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we review Midwest clubs. Because we live in the Midwest, we’ve been to quite a few but not nearly all of them so we’d love to hear listeners’ opinions about their experiences too.

Our question for this episode is about whether swingers like the “shock factor” of being able to confuse and titilate observers and eavesdroppers when they are in vanilla settings. To us it seems like the answer comes down to a personal enjoyment or aversion to being an exhibitionist at heart. Our listener’s question comes from a single guy who plays separately with a hall pass and he asks if it’s really necessary or even fair that so many couples seem to require verification from his wife before they play. After all, we are all consenting adults aren’t we? But on the other hand, nobody wants to be a home-wrecker either.

While most of our diary stories are of our memories of fun sexy play experiences with other people, what’s rarely said on our podcast is that at the end of a fun night of clubbing, we often end up just wanting to play together. Sometimes, like in this episode’s story, just the flirting and watching and sexy atmosphere is all the entertainment we need and the show that naturally exists at a great lifestyle club leads to a hot encounter for just the two of us.

As we begin Book 3 of Swinger Diaries, we recall the milestones we’ve passed on our podcasting journey and then introduce our new format which involves answering one question of our’s, one directly from a listener, and our new segment, The Best of the Lifestyle, where we review the largest swinger’s convention in Canada. It’s a huge hotel takeover that happens every year in the beginning of February and its called Valentines in Niagra.

As we will in all Book 3 episodes, we discuss one philosophical question of ours. This time it’s about the veto power and who uses it more often, him or her. Then we we have a conversation about a related question that was asked by a listener about how to handle an unequal attraction to another couple.

Our diary story is one of the hardest we’ve ever re-told. We have avoided recounting it many times in past episodes because, even years later, the memory is still so painful for Paige. It’s an emotional story for us but it reminds us that sometimes, in the sensitive world of the lifestyle, tact and sensitivity are as important as honesty. While growth may come from the discomfort of challenging yourself, for us, first and foremost, this lifestyle adventure is about our fun as a couple and so we consciously choose to pursue only the encounters that we both enjoy.

In this, our final episode of Book 2, we take a few minutes to look back, look around, and look forward to the future of Swinger Diaries. We never imagined that this podcast would become so well-received as it has or that we would make so many contacts with amazing people through it, but as we contemplate the potential of Book 3, we can’t help but ask ourselves if we are nearing the end of our show. We think not.

The final three questions for Book 2 are as challenging as usual. In this episode we ask our listeners for their opinions on the topic of whether or not its acceptable to prefer play with a person based solely on his or her ethnicity or race. Then we discuss the best tactics for playing “defense”. Lastly, we give our opinions and hear from listeners about whether it’s better to go on swinging vacations with a group or just the two of you.

As huge Desire fans, we knew where we wanted to go for our 25th wedding anniversary, but we didn’t know that we would be sharing the celebration with a couple from the other side of the world. While everybody believes they are selective, sometimes, in just the right mood, with the just right attitude, on just the right night, sexy encounters can find you when you aren’t expecting them. This night, the source of our pleasure came in the form of an exotic accent that was so charming that it was irresistible to Paige.

We’re back from another amazing swinger cruise and we’ve got some fantastic memories and stories to tell. On this sexy trip we spent a week floating around the Caribbean with stops in Key West, Nassau and Havana. It was an epic adventure for sure. The ports were fascinating and the action on the cruise ship was hot and steamy. We had so much to reminisce about that this show ran few minutes longer than usual.

One great thing about being on a boat with hundreds of experienced swingers is that it gave Penn the chance to ask this episode’s three questions to tons of people… and did he ever! From our newest friends on the ship, we heard answers to questions about their biggest fears when they first got involved in swinging; about whether or not, at clubs and events, it’s fair and wise to charge singles a different rate than couples; and about if they have ever had full swap sex with a person who’s name they didn’t know. The responses from our shipmates were as insightful and interesting as the ones written in by our listeners.

We do enjoy the occasional encounter with a charming, sexy, single man. The problem is that good ones are very tough to find. That’s not because men are pigs but because most guys around the swinging scene are just too inexperienced to know the rules, and etiquette required for making a good impression on real couples. In this episode’s diary story, we remember an experience with a single guy who was still learning the ropes and finding his way as he entered into the swinging lifestyle.

If you listen to shows like ours, its easy to think that all swingers live this constant, wild, sex-crazed life, but in reality thats not true. 99% of our life is made up of typical, common, routine, vanilla joys and responsibilities, just like yours. As swingers our interest in the lifestyle actually ebbs and flows and, to be quite honest, lately we’ve been in a rut. Luckily, we have an exciting swingers cruise coming up in just a few days that will surly break us out of our funk. As always, we should have some amazing stories to tell when we return.

This episode’s questions were again inspired by listeners. They wanted our audience’s collective opinions on questions like, who mages your online communications, him or her? They also wanted to know, is it ok to play with a couple if you know they don’t always use condoms? Lastly, they asked, who has more pressure in a first play situation, newbies or vets? All are interesting and easily debatable questions. We tapped into our listeners’ advice and did our best to give our own opinions too.

For this show’s diary story we went back and listened to a very early recording from our past to refresh our memories about what is was like to be brand new. The encounter we heard and retell in this episode is one where we relied on the careful and kind direction of an extremely responsible, experienced couple. Don’t misunderstand, enthusiastic consent is sexy, but there is also such a thing as too much coddling in a first play situation, even for scared timing inexperienced newbies.

Passionate Hedo fanatics might want to look away from this one. We are back from our second visit to the world’s most infamous swingers resort and we can’t help but offer our review. We had a great time, as we always do, but in our considerable lifestyle travel experience, the epic reputation of Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica is a little overhyped considering all of the other amazing opportunities that exist out there for sexy fun.

As usual, three interesting questions are discussed in this episode including topics like, the most common reasons people leave the lifestyle, with whom it’s best to share your sexy secrets, and the most effective ways to ensure that a couple is real before meeting them.

Our favorite experiences occur when the conditions are just right and we are able to take the time to get to know a couple. The tempting environment that exists at classy, sensual resorts is our favorite because the slow erotic build up sometimes culminates in an explosive encounter. In this episode’s diary story we recount just such an experience with listeners for whom, after hours of hearing our stories, when we met, they had full confidence that we really are who we say we are.

Our whirlwind travel schedule continues as we reminisce about our recent trip to the Napa Valley and the sexy encounter we had with experienced friends who showed us the finest places that the Northern California Wine Country has to offer. Luckily, we appreciate great sex more than we appreciate great wine.

This episode’s topics have a slant toward questions dealing with newbies. In it we discuss the query of whether our listeners prefer play with new or experienced couples. Then we dive into a conversation about the delicate situation of sharing a hotel room with another couple. Finally, we hear from listeners as to how we should reply to the most common email question we receive, what’s the best way to get started in swinging?

As long-time listeners know, Swinger Diaries started as our private recordings which we created to remember our adventures. To this day, after every encounter, in order to preserve the memory, we still pull out our phone and record the experience by making an entry in our intimate audio journal. We always swore that those recordings were far too personal to ever share… until today. For the first time, this episode’s diary story is the actual, groggy, morning-after recording of our observations after a wonderful evening in which special friends generously trusted us to explore a new sexual boundary with them. The audio is bad but the sentiment is unfiltered and real.

While we know that our show is designed to stay focused on asking and exploring the unanswerable questions of the swinging lifestyle, this month we selfishly just can’t resist reveling in a quick recap of our amazing trip to Naughty in N’awlins 2018 and then also our follow up excursion to Toronto for our anniversary just ten days later. It was a whirlwind couple of weeks full of new friends, wild parties and some of the most thrilling play experiences we’ve ever had. We’re already booked for more fun next year.

Happily, we get so many answers from listeners to our episodes’ questions that these days, our show practically writes itself. All we have to do is read the intelligent, creative, insightful answers written in by listeners. There were so many this month that we couldn’t even hope to pack them all in. In this episode, our listeners answer questions about why swingers use the word “play”; about whether it’s preferred to play in a hotel room with one king bed or two queen beds; and whether swingers become more or less selective with experience.

This episode’s diary story is a recent memory from a hotel takeover. We were glad we had a room with two beds in order to handle the fantastic free-flowing orgy that happened when we mingled an exciting, new, eager couple with some of our favorite sexy, experienced, friends. The encounter was the perfect example of the playfulness that occurs when six, openminded, adventurous, naked friends get together for an evening of casual, sexy fun.

We’ve just returned home from Naughty in Nawlins 2018 and yes, it was awesome! However, because we knew that we wouldn’t have time to record and edit this episode after returning, and because we also knew that our listeners tune into this podcast in order to hear thoughtful, challenging questions about lifestyle topics and not to listen to us brag about our mind-blowing vacations; we recorded this episode before NIN. Therefore, if you really want a recap of the fantastic times that were had, check out some of our friends and fellow podcasters; Average Swingers, Two or More to Tango and Sex Uninterrupted.

In this episode, all three questions are a little provocative and challenging. This time we discuss the most commonly heard rule in the lifestyle and ask if its ever ok to “take one for the team”. Then we talk about the etiquette and protocol for taking pics in playtime situations. Finally we explore the meaning of the word “straight” when a woman identifies herself that way in a couple’s online profile.

The experience recounted in our diary story describes the grey area that exists in the idea of taking one for the team and the unexpected affects and consequences we had when our communication about a planned playtime wasn’t as strong as we’d have liked it to have been.

As avid podcast listeners, we never understand why lifestyle podcasters think people would be interested in hearing their version of yet another “Here’s what we did on our vacation” recap which is a format we find to be desperately tired and overdone. After all, who wants to hear about the mundane details of someones travel experience? Does anybody really like looking at other peoples’ vacation photos? Of course not. As a result, we prefer to structure our show so that the events described have a purpose for listeners and produce a lesson or a moral that we’ve learned.We aspire to make our podcast’s content evergreen so it can be used as a resource for others and not just for our own selfish memories and musings. However, we just returned from two very interesting events and, at our listeners’ request, we are compelled to share some of our insights and observations about the Friction hotel takeovers and the New York City lifestyle club scene.

After reviewing our adventures over the past month, we dive into our questions. We discuss what, if anything, is so fun about flipping vanillas. Then Penn gets on his soapbox for a rant about whether or not singles in the lifestyle can be considered swingers. Finally, we take listeners’ advice about the best ways to spot other swingers in vanilla settings and make a call to all swingers to reclaim the use of the black ring to identify ourselves to each other.

From the beginning of our swinging career we have always insisted on a very clear boundary between our swinging activities and our vanilla life. To preserve our privacy and anonymity, we regularly travel for our sexy fun. We promised ourselves from the start that we would never allow those two parts of our lives to mingle… well, except this once. This episode’s diary story is the memory of what happened when we broke our own rule and allowed our two parallel worlds to mix for just a few hours.

We love meeting up with listeners and our awesome upcoming travel schedule offers lots of opportunities. In addition to our usual tour of clubs and hotel takeovers, New York, New Orleans, Toronto, Negril, Havana and Cancun are all on this years agenda. Its going to be a fantastic year of sexy fun.

This episode has some philosophical questions to be discussed by us and our listeners. This month we talk about our “play percentage” in a variety of different scenarios. Then we struggle with the puzzle of whether good kissing is an objective or subjective skill. Finally, we explore the answers to a listener’s question about how to clean up after a playtime.

Although we travel often, the highlight of our upcoming year will be our visit to Desire RM with friends and listeners in March of 2019. In this entry into our diary, we remember some wild encounters that happened on last year’s Desire trip. While we aren’t usually orgy fans, the memory told in this story is seared into our minds as one of the most epically erotic and sensual group play experiences we’ve ever had.

Lifestyle travel is a huge part of our swinging experience and we are loving the fact that so many of our listeners want to make memories with us. Last month, on our 16th visit to Desire, we were joined by dozens of friends and listeners who made it one of the best trips we’ve ever had. We are excited to announce that we are doing it all again next year, March 24-30, 2019. In the mean time, we also have a full travel schedule planned for this year and we would love to have you join us on one of our many adventures.

Three great listener questions are discussed on this episode. We answer questions about how the lifestyle has changed and about how to handle contacting playmates on the morning after a play experience, and then we scratch the surface on one of the biggest challenges for newbies to the swinging lifestyle, jealousy.

As we listen back to the 60 diary stories we’ve told over the years, one thing seems obvious, we love variety. Every encounter is unique and each one teaches us a new lesson about ourselves, our playmates and the swinging lifestyle. This story reminds us that even after years of experience and even with our closest and most trusted friends, that weird unexplainable pang of jealousy is always a possibility.

For the first time ever, this episode was recorded live, in front of an audience, with the sea breeze on our skin, and the tropical birds chirping in the background while overlooking the ocean from the Passion Suite at Desire Resort and Spa in Riviera Maya, Mexico. Dozens of friends and listeners traveled with us to this amazing place and after days of tequila and naked flirting in the rooftop jacuzzi, some of our newest and best friends joined us for this episode to try to answer three new challenging listener questions.

In this show, we ask our live audience for their opinions on what they think is the sexiest position for a foursome. Then, we all reach a surprising consensus on the question of whether or not its ok to fake an orgasm in a swinging play situation. Finally, we crowd source the advantages and disadvantages of being the hunter or the prey at a lifestyle club or event.

After the crowd left us, we sat together and remembered an encounter that we had a few years ago on the group bed in the playrooms at the largest swingers convention in the world, Naughty in N’awlins. That night, the hunters became the prey in an anonymous experience that gave us some unexpected sexy fun and the memory of one of our favorite foursome positions.

After one full year of recording Book 2 of Swinger Diaries, we are surprised to realize that, in this new format alone, we’ve covered over 70 topics! Podcasts are such a fantastic resource for learning about the swinging lifestyle and there are some great shows that have just begun releasing new episodes. Listeners are hungry for information as evidenced by the long list of questions we’ve compiled written in by our listeners for our show. It looks like we’ve got a few listener question episodes coming up.

Like none before, the questions in this show got us challenging our beliefs about ourselves and others self perception. In this episode, we talk at length about our “number” and how others gauge theirs too. Then we discuss the preference among experienced swingers and new swingers for FMF or MFM encounters. Finally, we call ourselves out as being somewhat foolish and irrational about STIs by agreeing with the common play standard which is that we never use condoms for oral sex.

We love getting away for intimate reconnection weekends and we always seem to work in a little sexy fun when we go. This diary story is about an afternoon delight that we had with a well-vetted single guy and the amazing souvenir Penn has from the encounter.

Podcasting is a labor of love for us. Its like a secret hobby within our secret hobby. Its so fun to make connections and spread the news about the joys of the swinging lifestyle, but its also a lot of work. In order to make sure that we protect the privacy of our friends and produce a content filled product that we are proud of, a lot of editing is required. To make sure we can continue to look forward to recording our stories and not allow this show to turn into a job, in this episode we are announcing a new release schedule for Swinger Diaries.

This episode’s questions are big ones. Full swap vs. Soft swap; the best conversation starters for meeting new couples; and the explanations for why its so common that “she’s hot… he’s not” are all discussed on this show and as always our listeners had some great comments, observations and explanations.

Our diary story is a memory from early in our swinging experiences when we were adamant about our self imposed boundary of being a “soft swap only” couple. While the invitation to play was awkward, the playtime itself was comfortable, respectful and fun. Its an example of how different styles and levels of play can be intimidating but if the rules are clear in advance, everyone can relax and just enjoy the pleasures of the moment.

As our next eagerly-anticipated visit to Desire approaches, we are enjoying the use of a modern messaging service to get to know others who will be sharing jacuzzi water with us. Kik is the most common chatting app among swingers because it doesn’t require much personal information to establish an account. Unfortunately, when the group gets huge, it loses some of the personal touch and at the top of this show Paige goes on a little rant about one of her personal annoyances in large group chats.

As always we have three interesting questions to discuss. In this episode we talk about why swingers regularly discuss the prevention of STIs but almost never talk about the possibility of pregnancy. Then we tackle a question from a listener who wanted to know how often is too often for sexy fun and how to keep your swinging and vanilla life in balance. Finally we explore answers from listeners about the advantages and disadvantages of going to events as a couple and as a foursome.

Our diary story is the memory of our experiences with a very young couple for whom pregnancy was a real concern and a barrier to full swap sex. We remember the awkwardness and challenges of attending a club with them and also the sexy playtime that resulted. Having a scheduled encounter with a couple has its advantages but there were plenty of inconveniences and weird moments too.

Even though Paige’s foot is in a protective boot which is temporarily cramping our style and limiting our playtime opportunities, we won’t let it mess up our recording schedule. Luckily for us, she will be fully healed in time for our upcoming weekend getaway to Trapeze in Atlanta and she will have her dancing heels ready for our fast approaching trip to paradise in March.

We got pages and pages of responses to this episode’s questions about the regional expectation of condoms during play; the debate over the best lifestyle resort in North America, Desire or Hedo; and the most common origin for swingers. Are they repressed rule-followers, or just life long adventurers?

We take some time in making our diary entry to remember our own origin and the resistance we had to joining into the naughty fun of this wild lifestyle. It was a slow process for us, but in this episode we remember a big step. We recount one of our first playtimes at Desire with experienced swingers. We talk all about the resulting shock and self-doubt that came from pressing our boundaries and the way, like all newbies, we just had to take our time to process the experience.

As we look forward to going out for the first time in years to a New Years Eve party, we take note of the fact that for us, swinging, like life, is all about attitude. We don’t waste time looking backwards with regret or lamenting challenges we’ve met throughout the year. We never forget that we are living an amazing life and so we are, as always, looking forward to what next year will bring in our vanilla and swinging lifestyles.

This episode has three fairly commonly discussed topics, but with our listeners’ help we try to approach each with a slightly new perspective. We talk about what to do when you can’t get (or stay) hard during play, the best piece of advice for single females aspiring to be swinging unicorns, and the secret signals couples exchange to express interest in potential play partners.

While unicorns are not necessarily our favorite play choice, we have had some awesome encounters with quite a few. In our diary story, we remember a slightly awkward playtime with a beautiful, but very selective single girl who joined us in a playroom at a house party and the way she enhanced our sexual experience that night.

Once again we have a listener question episode. Our listeners are always sending questions and topic suggestions and, since we certainly don’t have all the answers, occasionally we select three great inquiries to crowd-source the best advice.

In this episode we discuss the debrief conversations that we have on the car ride home and how they have actually lead to the creation this podcast. Then we gingerly talk about the challenging topic of being overweight and how it potentially affects your lifestyle experiences. Finally, we present a listener question that has appeared on our Kasidie Community wall and hear the responses of other listeners about whether or not its bad swinger etiquette for a guy not to orgasm during play.

Our journal entry is the story of a playtime encounter that was memorable to us because it was so peculiar. Never before have we had a play session in which our experiences were so completely different. For Penn, it was fantastic, energetic, exciting, fun, wild and amazing. For Paige, well, we’ll let her describe it for you. It made for a very interesting and challenging debrief on the long car ride home.

We are still recovering from another fantastic Desire adventure. We had a great time meeting listeners and indulging ourselves in the opulent luxury that is the new Desire Villas. Just in time, the Thanksgiving holiday came right when we got home allowing us to rest and rebalance ourselves with family and friends. Although swinging is an amazingly fun hobby, our vanilla life is our true priority and we never want to forget it.

In this episode, our three topics discuss how much you really want to know about your play partners; the best advice for single men who want to get into the swinging lifestyle; and the tricky topic of adjusting your alcohol consumption if you think play is on the table for that night.

In our journal, we remember an encounter with a man who is that rare find; a charming, sexy, interesting, clean, reliable, respectful, classy, sexy, single guy. This memory is an example of how we view the valuable roll that single men can fill in our lifestyle and how they can truly enhance a mature, secure, committed couple’s love making.

Some day when we are 85, sitting in rocking chairs, sipping lemonade, and holding hands on our front porch, we want to be able to bring up these recordings, push play, and listen back to our stories as we knowingly smile and nod our heads to each other confirming to ourselves that… we lived! As a result we prefer to recollect the best of our experiences. Why remember the disappointments when the triumphs are so amazing? However, we realize that this show is more than just a diary of our memories for our own keeping. Its also a resource and many of our listeners need more than just the hot stories. They also need the real, balanced truth about swinging too. Hence, this episode’s story.

As always, we discuss crowd-sourced answers to three questions from our list. We talk about accidentally sexting vanilla friends, the uncomfortable topic of how to answer questions about work at swinger parties and whether or not its ok to lower your standards for play while on a lifestyle vacation, which brings back a tumultuous memory.

Swinging is an adventure for us and as such, we want to enjoy the ride no matter where it takes us. We never want to second-guess or dwell on experiences that don’t quite turn out the way we expected or even would have preferred, but in this episode we remember an encounter that honestly, we hate admitting is part of our swinging memories, Paige’s one regret.

It’s the swingers’ high holy day, Halloween. To be truthful, Halloween blowouts aren’t our favorite swinger parties but on a few awesome occasions those newbie-filled, overcrowded, makeup-laced events have produced a some fantastic memories for us.

We have another three great questions for this episode, but in this show, the conversations about determining your swinger “number” and the best icebreaker games for swingers were almost lost in the deluge of answers we received about one of the most polarizing and opinion inducing questions we have explored. It seems that everybody has a opinion about… the bush!

In honor of Halloween and in preparation for this episode’s diary story, we listened back to one of our very first private swinger diary recordings. It made us both giggle and shake our heads at ourselves as we listened our wide-eyed recollections. The memory we heard, and now re-tell here, was about our very first swinger Halloween party and how, in one unexpected night, our “number” doubled, from one to two.

When we pushed “record” for the first time, almost three years ago, we honestly didn’t think we would repeat the posting process 50 times, but here we are. This podcast started as our diary which we created to remember the amazing adventures that this lifestyle has provided, but it has grown into more than that. Now, its a resource for our audience and a priceless way to make connections between us and our listeners.

If we had to direct new listeners to our podcast toward just one episode to understand what we and this show are about, this is it. You might say this is our manifesto. In this ridiculously long episode, we tackle an epic challenge, to list the top 50 things that we and our listeners say are the best things about the swinging lifestyle. It was a huge endeavor. We dare you to try to take it all in!

One of the best parts of this show is the influence it has on explaining the joys and benefits of swinging to those who are curious and nervous. In this episode, we tell the story of how our podcast has aided the journey of one such couple. We are proud to have helped expose them to the wonders and pleasures of swinging and humbled to call them friends.

As we approach the Episode 50 milestone, we announce the introduction of our new logo and renew our invitation for listeners to send us their lists of their favorite things about the swinging lifestyle for our upcoming Top 50 countdown.

As the title of this show suggests, in this episode we discuss listeners’ preferences for variety vs. having a “type” when it comes to play partners; the question of whether or not we could walk away from swinging and be content with only one partner for the rest of our lives; and some conversation about the nature of the term “vanilla” in the lifestyle.

All of our stories are very real, after all, they are our memories, but in this episode we talk about the motivations behind one of our encounters with a couple who were very unlike our usual type and the way that for us the swinging lifestyle is a fantastic vehicle to allow us to bond, blow off steam and continually renew our love and commitment to each other.

We are back from a last minute Labor Day weekend trip to Florida where we snuck in some recon at a place thats been on our bucket list for a while, Caliente. We had a great time laying naked in the sunshine all day and partying all night. We do travel to some amazing lifestyle destinations and we’d love to have you to join us.

In this episode, in addition to answering our listeners’ questions about accepting compliments, using fake names, and the best playtime music in the swinging lifestyle; we announce an upcoming event that we need your help with. For our fast-approaching 50th Episode, we are compiling the top 50 things that we, and you our listeners, love about the swinging lifestyle. Send us your answers.

Our diary story is the memory of a classic playtime encounter in which the casual, honest, genuine connection and the perfect playtime environment, resulted in a rare and exciting play experience… twice!

We are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime.

True to our format, after recapping our fantastic swinger cruise, in this episode we discuss the question of how long it should take to get into swinging. We talk about tips and advice for keeping the sexy spark alive with a couple in anticipation of a date that is still far away. Then we expose our own occasional crisis of confidence and talk about when and why we sometimes think that we suck at swinging.

Though almost all of our diary entries are memories of our sexiest encounters, not every evening ends with mind-blowing orgasms. This journal entry is the memory of a night when we left the club with unfulfilled fantasies. Sometimes you just lose your mojo and when that happens, you have to wisely assess the situation, pack up, make a graceful exit, and know that there will always be more sexy opportunities in the future.

As we excitedly pack our bags for our much anticipated Mediterranean swingers cruise, we are smashing every sexy outfit we own into the suitcases for what will be the longest vacation of our lives. Unfortunately there won’t be any room for podcasting equipment so, for the first time, we will only be releasing one episode in the upcoming month of August but we promise to return with stories of what is sure to be an epic adventure.

As always, in this episode we crowd source the answers to our three questions. We talk about the wisdom or folly of sticking to the plan of not playing on the first date. We discuss playing with couples who have a “no kissing” rule. Then we explore advice on how to occasionally explain to people, with whom you’ve been intimate at least once, that you don’t want to do it again.

Our diary story is from our very first encounters in the swinging lifestyle and the newbie excitements and challenges of exploring boundaries for the first time. Those first experiences are always emotionally charged and can lead to some awkward decisions and impulsive rules.

Please excuse our raspy smokers’ voices as we are still recovering from another awesome Naughty in N’awlins convention! Although we were flattered and humbled by meeting so many fans of our show at NiN who were curious about our impressions of the largest swingers convention in the world, as our regular listeners know, our format isn’t really about interviews or event reviews. Instead, we will leave it to all of other podcasting friends to offer their recount of the week. In our traditional style, rather than recapping all of the parties, friends, theme nights and playroom adventures we had, in this show we dive right into our three questions which were answered, as always, by you, our listeners.

This episode’s questions deal with how to handle that awkward transitional moment during play when the condoms come out, what to do if you get your period when you had a sexy encounter planned, and a sensitive, philosophical question about being “too slutty”.

Our diary story is part sexy memory, and part sobering lesson as we recall a quick connection and the powerful sexual momentum that resulted in an impulsive and hot playtime with a couple on a trip to Hedo Then we remember how we later second guessed ourselves about the experience after watching them interact with others. We cant deny it, for better or worse, like almost everybody in the swinging lifestyle, we are a little judgy.

Play preferences with circumcised men, soft swap finishes, and the vanilla world’s biggest misconception about the lifestyle; those are the topics discussed on this episode.

As always, we received so many great responses to our questions and, in particular, people had clear and passionate opinions on all the ways that the vanilla world misunderstands swinging. While we aren’t ready to be the poster-children for the swinging lifestyle, we do hope that our little podcast helps the cause of explaining the joys and wonders that swinging can bring to a healthy, mature, loving marriage.

In our diary story, we recall yet another of our many fantastic experiences at our favorite place on earth, Desire Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Our journal entry is the memory of our first ever soft swap experience with a couple who’s man had an uncircumcised cock. Bucket list… check!

An overwhelming number of responses made this episode easy to record. Sometimes our questions solicit more replies than others but these questions must have touched a nerve because we had pages and pages of replies.

In this episode we discuss answers to the question about playing with bisexual people and the challenges and intimidations of that delicate situation. Then we give commentary about profile stats and tap dance on the narrow line of using an online profile to put your best foot forward but also the importance of being honest and accurate. Lastly, we explore the commonly heard and almost universally agreed trope that, “women run the lifestyle”.

In our diary story we remember an encounter with a comfortable, charming single man which allowed Paige to call all the shots and be the center of attention. This gentleman is one of those rarest of swingers; a classy, openminded, sexy, respectful single guy. Because we were all so comfortable with each other and he was so willing to please, this experience challenged the boundaries of Penn’s straight sensitivity, all in the interest of Paige’s pleasure.

One of the unexpected but wonderful advantages of this podcast has been the fantastic relationships we have developed with you, our listeners. Through your emails and social media messages, we have discovered that podcast listeners are indeed genuine, curious, engaged and often very sexy, a fact that we have recently verified.

For the first time in what is sure to be many more, in this episode we discuss three questions posed by you, our listeners. As always, we crowd-sourced the answers to your questions. Using other listeners advice as a guide, we discuss our own opinions and experiences about researching a couple on social media sites; the frequency and preference of using sex toys in swinging play; and one of the most common worries, the best language to use in order to tell a couple that you aren’t interested getting physical with them.

When we took a hiatus from podcasting last year, we were still very active in the swinging lifestyle. When we would come home from a party or date with new exciting memories, we were often disappointed and frustrated to know that we no longer had a podcast through which to re-live the night’s events. The stories would bubble up inside us and we felt like we just needed to tell somebody. Generously, our good friends the Joneses from the We Gotta Thing podcast allowed us to use them as our private audience during that time period and they became an occasional outlet for our stories. This episode’s diary story is one that we originally recorded for their ears only about a year and a half ago. It is a sexy story about an experience using a certain sex toy that was a first for us. It was such a hot memory that, rather than re-tell it, we just spliced the original, unfiltered version right here into this show. Hope you enjoy it.

With summer upon us and therefore kids out of school, we are trying to figure out how to adjust our habits a little to continue to preserve our sexy secrets from an always inquisitive family. We learned recently how frighteningly important that is. Despite the wonderful benefits of swinging, the vanilla world is not ready for our lifestyle no matter how amazing it is.

In this slightly longer than usual episode, as always we cover three new topics. We tell the story of our introduction to squirting and reflect on how our attitudes about it have developed and changed. Then, we talk about the practical problem of selecting the best alcohol for an evening of sexy fun. Finally, we explore the spectrum of what counts as dirty talk and what’s appropriate and preferred with a new partner.

Our diary story is a memory of one of the very first things we ever did in this lifestyle. Back when we were brand new and nervous, we made a road trip to visit a couple. While it was a sexy encounter, as four eager but inexperienced swingers will do, we made some classic, newbie mistakes.

This episode exposes the fact that some swinging questions are unanswerable. While we got lots of replies to our questions about the length of time for a play session, and a seemingly universal agreement about strip clubs, absolutely nobody seems to know why people enter the swingers clubs after 1:00 in the morning. Its still a mystery.

In this show, we give out our preferences and read some of your answers and then we announce that in the next episode we will be asking questions sent in by our listeners.

Our diary story is about a club night when we coyly flirted with a sexy couple and, taking advantage of the seductively erotic show in the playrooms and the right casual atmosphere for experimentation, we coaxed them into a wild, hot and very wet playtime.

Our quest to crowd source the answers to the unknown mysteries of the swinging lifestyle continues. We are excited about the dozens of responses we again received in order to help us answer our queries and we are thrilled by the surprising number of listeners who have written to pose new questions to ask our audience. We see a “listener question” episode coming soon.

In this episode we explore the puzzle of why so many swinging dating profiles have no pics of men. Then we spend some time talking about the personal preference to give or to receive oral sex with a new play partner. Finally, we explore the reasons our listeners say they enjoy lifestyle podcasts and what they get out of listening to them.

In our diary story, we remember an encounter that incorporates all three of this episode’s questions as we tell about a road trip to meet new friends and the unexpected situation that provided us a rare and exciting opportunity in which Penn was able to have a fantasy fulfilled that he didn’t even realize he had.

Paige is not so crazy about these new episode titles but in this show, we answer our customary three questions and this time they deal with motorcycles, advice for curious adult children and the grey area of kissing and telling.

We rely heavily on listeners emails about their experiences with the motorcycle culture since we don’t have (or want) a bike. Then, we imagine the hypothetical world in which we had to give one of our six children advice about swinging. Lastly, as a couple with a podcast that describes the very intimate details of our sexy encounters, we try not to be too hypocritical in exploring the etiquette of how much detail is acceptable when we inevitably kiss and tell about our play experiences with others.

Our diary story is the memory of a Las Vegas getaway with Harley-Davidson loving friends and the unusual and steamy opportunity that exchanging hotel room keys provided us.

Recorded from the Passion Suite at Desire RM in Mexico, in this episode you’ll have to excuse our over-partied, raspy, smokers’ voices. Lets just say it was an intense week with the Lifestyle Lounge takeover group.

In answering this episodes’s questions, in this show we read listeners’ feedback and give our own opinions as we talk about smokers, reconnection sex and the best themes in the lifestyle. Thank you to all who contributed your opinions. Keep your replies coming. We need your advice.

Our diary entry is about a surprisingly selfish experience with a young, intimidated, newbie, single guy who willingly acted as the perfect playtoy for us.

Welcome to Book 2 of our diary. Recently, as we happened to come across one of our older episodes, we realized that in the past our show could rightfully be considered by some listeners to be a bit… shall we say, dry? Because up until now, we were purposefully and gingerly addressing an audience who are new to this awesome lifestyle, our shows were carefully scripted to give as much information as possible, but now our intended audience (and our style) shifts as we begin to discuss the more nuanced topics which are of interest to more experienced swingers.

Thank you all of you amazing responses to our first three questions. In this episode we talk about our opinions and your input on penis size, the sexy secret of swinging and same room play preferences. Please be sure to keep your advice coming. We need more opinions as we announce our next episode’s questions at the end of the show.

Our diary story is about an experience that touches on two of this episode’s questions. With a couple with whom we has a very special and intimate connection, a few years ago we explored the boundary of separate room play. As we expected, the excitement was intense but the emotional and logistic challenges were also very real.

As we wrap up Book One of our podcast, we answer the last of our initial newbie questions about the swinging lifestyle. Swinging is our hobby and like any other recreation, we are willing to spend a little money for our entertainment. How much to spend is a personal choice, but for us swinging is so fun and rewarding that we prioritize it and make room for it’s expenses in our budget.

In this episode we discuss the range of costs for the different swinging activities and as always, we give specific dollar amounts about what you can expect to pay for various events.

In an encounter that happened just a couple of days ago, our diary story is an example of one of the simplest experiences in the lifestyle and the fact that some of the hottest and most exciting memories cost absolutely nothing.

As we begin Book Two of our show, we need your help. We introduce the first three questions that will be discussed on our next episode in order to solicit advice from our audience. These are swinging queries that despite our years of experience, we still don’t know the answers to.

Does penis size/shape really matter with a new play partner?

Isn’t the fact that we all keep our adventures secret, part of the fun of swinging?

Big changes are coming to Swinger Diaries. As we approach 35 episodes, we feel as though we’ve accomplished our initial goal of answering the most common newbie questions through our show topics. Its now time for Book Two on our diary in which we turn our attention to more complicated, advanced and challenging swinger topics. In this episode, we announce an upcoming change to our format and make a request of our listeners who have gained something form our podcast.

We were introduced to the swinging lifestyle in baby steps through many trips to our favorite vacation resort, Desire, but in this episode we discuss alternate swinger vacations that don’t require such intense commitments of time and money as flying all the way to Mexico for sexy adult fun requires. We’ve visited clubs and parties all over North America and in this show we give tips and suggestions so you can craft your own awesome swinger vacation.

Sexy vacations are a rare and exciting opportunity to be adventurous and daring and our recent weekend in Toronto took us to a club on Cougar Night were Paige got the chance to fulfill a longtime bucket list fantasy.

Because for us swinging is really like dating for couples, we always want to look our best and feel our best in order to have the confidence we need to make a great first impression on new friends. Unfortunately, like everyone else, we have our own body issues that we are constantly battling to overcome.

This is a very personal episode in which we openly discuss our own insecurities about our bodies. We talk about the efforts and commitments that we make in order to constantly improve our fitness, our self-image and our health and also about the way the lifestyle has encouraged us in that endeavor.

Our diary story is the memory of an encounter that we had on a swingers cruise with longtime friends that are so genuine and so dear to us that we could all completely and comfortably bare our bodies to each other without embarrassment or shame. That special level of connection that we have with each other made for an intimate, tender playtime and a uniquely personal swinging experience.

Opening up a couple’s swinger bag is like digging through a woman’s purse. Its very personal. It exposes a lot about the people who own it. Its full of intimate private details about them and the way they play. Most swingers develop a bag of necessities for their lifestyle adventures. We have too.

Inspired by questions from listeners that ask about the details of our playtimes, and with the understanding that not all listeners invest the time to hear every one of our past shows for the answers which are covered in some of the previous shows, in this episode, to better understand our style and motivations in the swinging lifestyle, we open that bag.

After emptying the contents of our swinger bag, in our journal we remember a hot experience from our favorite place on Earth, the rooftop hot tub beds at Desire, which was enjoyed with a foursome that knew what they wanted and weren’t shy about asking for it. It was an intense evening for the senses and as always, we were happy we had our swinger bag handy. Easy accessibility to all of the critically important supplies it provides, made that playtime flow perfectly.

In today’s digital age when we all carry camera phones with us at all times, we’ve become very used to the idea that it is common and safe to share our images freely with friends and on social media but when you get into swinging, privacy becomes a huge concern. Almost everyone in the swinging lifestyle keeps this part of their life a secret and would not want their friends and family knowing what they did last Saturday night.

In this episode, we talk about the two reasons we take sexy pictures in the swinging lifestyle, for sharing and for remembering. We discuss tips for taking good pictures in both situations and talk about suggestions for how, when, and with whom its appropriate and wise to share those pictures.

Our diary story is a special one. One of the many benefits of recording a podcast has been developing relationships with listeners and with other podcasters too. In this episode, we remember a recent surprise birthday party thrown for a new podcasting friend. Although we were the surprise gift to her, the evening with these sexy people became an amazing gift to us… and we’ve go the the pictures to prove it!

One of the touchiest topics in the swinging community is the subject of age and as a result we have avoided this topic for a long time now but if you’re new to swinging, you are understandably curious about this obvious question, “How old is too old and how young is too young to swing?”

While we hear plenty of politically correct answers to this question like, “You’re only as old as you feel” or “Age is just a number”, it is disingenuous and foolish to ignore the obvious fact that we are all attracted to a youthful appearance. Age actually is an important factor in the probability of making connections with people, both physically and socially. Its normal and even understandable that people tend to gravitate to others of their age range. Age does matter, but its not the only factor in making connections.

In our usual way, in this episode we talk plainly and directly about the range of ages of people that we have played with and also about the average age of the people you can expect to see in the lifestyle. In our sexy journal entry, we recall a date and playtime with a couple who was much younger than we were and remember the challenges that naturally occur between people of different ages and experience levels in the lifestyle.

Flirting is a skill and just like any other, if you don’t practice it regularly, you can get a little rusty. One of the first realizations for new swingers is that it’s probably been a long time since they’ve flirted with others and they often need to brush up on their moves.

In this episode, we remind listeners of the basics of flirting. We walk through what a typical evening in a club is like for us and talk about our personal flirting styles. As always, we give practice tips and techniques for moving from that awkward introduction phase to actually “sealing the deal”.

In our sexy journal entry, we recall a date with a charming, experienced, flirty couple which lit the fuse for a slow burn that eventually culminated in an inevitably explosive encounter.

Now, come on. The stereotype of the 70’s swingers is obviously, just not a reality anymore. In truth, as you might expect, swingers are actually very fashion savvy. After all, the whole reason swingers go out to parties and events is to meet new friends and make connections and we all know how important first impressions are.

Inspired by many emails from listeners asking us about what to wear to a swinger’s party, in this episode we talk about all aspects of swingers’ fashion. From jeans to dresses to lingerie and accessories, dressing smart for swinger events shows off your body’s best attributes and demonstrates respect for others. At a lifestyle party, it’s very important to dress to impress.

At a new hotel takeover, we were sadly disappointed by the crowd until we encountered some new friends who’s sexy style caught our attention right away. While the conditions in the playroom of the party were far from optimal for private, intimate, steamy, fun; this couple was so alluring to us that our wild encounter with them was irresistible.

The idea of an orgy is one of the most common fantasies that lures newbies into the lifestyle and it is true that the excitement of a pile of writhing naked skin really is as amazing as people imagine, but like everything in the lifestyle, orgies have their advantaged and disadvantages too.

In this episode we discuss the difference between group sex and orgies. We also talk about our experiences in orgies and what we like and don’t like about them. We explore tips to make your experience the best it can be and give some advice to avoid pitfalls when the fantasy becomes reality.

Our diary entry is a memory of an encounter with two other couples where distractions during play were a problem for us. We reflect on the tricky dance that inevitably happens in a playroom when not everybody in the orgy is equally attracted to each other. It’s a classic illustration of what to be prepared for when presented with the real-life opportunity to fulfill your orgy fantasy.

We all have different faces that we use for various settings in our lives. We naturally change our styles and attitudes when we are at work, at church, at sporting events, in front of our kids, when we are relaxing with friends and even on lazy Sunday mornings. We all have many moods and many sides and for us, there is nothing more obvious than the difference between our “vanilla” personalities and our “swinger” personas.

In this episode we describe each other’s personalities in both settings and talk about how the lifestyle has affected our relationships with vanilla friends. We have a conversation about how to spot swingers in a vanilla setting and give a few tips that we use to improve that all-important skill of remembering people’s names when we have our full swinger “A-game” going.

Our sexy story is about an intense connection we made with a charming couple on a Swinger’s Cruise. Although the environment was tricky, they were patient with us and they gave us the time we needed to transition out of being Mom and Dad and become the fun, happy, party-loving couple that we are when we transform into our swinger alter-egos.

Fantasies are a huge part of everyone’s sex life and so many swingers get into the lifestyle to fulfill the fantasies they’ve developed through open conversation and pillow talk with their partner.

In this episode we discuss how our fantasies developed and how we began to realize that in the lifestyle, because exciting fantasies are so frequently fulfilled, many swingers actually begin to develop a whole list of experiences they would like to have. Like many swingers we have really developed two lists.

Usually we create our episodes by identifying a topic, writing the notes and then selecting a story from our past that illustrates the topic, but this time we have a story that is so amazing that we designed the topic around it. Listen as we remember how we got the chance to fulfill the fantasies of a very special friend as we checked some new things off our own list too. Of all of our experiences, this is one of our very favorite memories.

As we say on just about all of our shows, one of the main reasons we started this podcast was to help curious, nervous newbies navigate their way into the wild, sexy, but daunting world of swinging, because we remember what it was like to be new, intimidated and very scared.

In this episode, we look back at our original fears and apprehensions about the lifestyle and we explore the question; if we could go back and talk to the frightened, timid, vanilla couple that we were when we stumbled into Desire years ago, what advice would we give ourselves? With that prompt, we offer the top 5 things that we, and all newbies, should, but probably don’t know about swingers and the lifestyle.

Our diary story is about an encounter with a newbie couple that actually pursued us in order to take their first steps into their swinging adventure and the way, as ambassadors for the lifestyle, we both let them down and gave them an amazing experience to remember.

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Who we are…

Penn and Paige are a mid-forties swinging couple living in the midwest. We have been in the swinging lifestyle since 2010 and host a podcast that seeks to inform, educate and expose people to the joys and benefits of swinging and to record a journal of a few of our sexy experiences.

As a committed faithful, loving couple with a large family, a fulfilling and strong 20 year marriage, and a happy, contented sex life, a few years ago we stumbled on Desire Resort in Riviera Maya Mexico and were exposed to a sexy new world that slowly changed our lives.

After many visits to that amazing place, and countless thrilling friendships, we were coaxed into the lifestyle by the sincerity, charm, playfulness, and genuine sex appeal of the fantastic people called swingers. Over time, this excitement crept into our everyday lives and now through new friends, clubs, parties, and dates, we live a closeted but very active swinging lifestyle.

We are deeply in love. We were high school sweethearts that have never lost our teenage crushes on each other and this wild adventure has made our passion for each other even more intense.

Come along for the ride. You’ll find our Swinger Diaries podcast on iTunes, PodBean and Stitcher.

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Who we are…

Penn and Paige are a mid-forties swinging couple living in the midwest. We have been in the swinging lifestyle since 2010 and host a podcast that seeks to inform, educate and expose people to the joys and benefits of swinging and to record a journal of a few of our sexy experiences.
As a committed faithful, loving couple with a large family, a fulfilling and strong 20 year marriage, and a happy, contented sex life, a few years ago we stumbled on Desire Resort in Riviera Maya Mexico and were exposed to a sexy new world that slowly changed our lives.
After many visits to that amazing place, and countless thrilling friendships, we were coaxed into the lifestyle by the sincerity, charm, playfulness, and genuine sex appeal of the fantastic people called swingers. Over time, this excitement crept into our everyday lives and now through new friends, clubs, parties, and dates, we live a closeted but very active swinging lifestyle.
We are deeply in love. We were high school sweethearts that have never lost our teenage crushes on each other and this wild adventure has made our passion for each other even more intense.
Come along for the ride. You'll find our Swinger Diaries podcast on iTunes, PodBean and Stitcher.