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Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. Galations 6:7

You reap what you sow. This biblical truth plays out in many areas of our lives. Whatever you put effort & time into you will receive the benefits & effects back.

If you put time & effort into exercise, you will be rewarded with better health, weight loss and stronger muscles.

When you put time & effort into your marriage, you will see the results through better communication, more love, respect, & general harmony.

We can also reap negative things if we put our time and efforts into activities that are not wise and even destructive.

Those who spend much time in a bar drinking will experience hangovers, fractured relationships, and poor health.

If you chase women for one night stands you will reap STDs, divorce, and shame & guilt.

What about those of us who have used or use pornography? What are we reaping with the sowing of countless hours in front of the computer? Do you think that there are no effects to you? What are you reaping by sowing the seeds of pornography into your life?

I was pondering this question myself just yesterday: If I had not been introduced to pornography in my early teens, what would be different in my life today?

First off you need to understand that my first introduction to pornography started me off on a journey that led to pornography addiction. That first taste of seeing that scantily clad, beautiful woman started a fire in me that fueled my lust for many years.

If I had not been introduced to pornography at the age of 12 or 13, my life would be different today. How so? For starters, I would not have wasted countless hours looking at porn. I wouldn’t have had my view of women changed from looking at them as mothers, daughters, and friends to sex objects, and only there for my sensual satisfaction. If I was not introduced to porn, I would know how to better relate to women. I would have learned how to communicate with them and appreciate them as human beings with personalities and souls. Other questions arise that seem water under the bridge – Would I have married my wife? Would I have had enough courage to talk to that one girl I had a crush on?

Where would you be today had you not been introduced to pornography and used it?

Maybe you would not have lost your marriage

You may not have lost your job due to watching porn on the computer

Maybe you would not be in jail for child porn or molestation

Would you have a more fullfilling and deeper relationship with your spouse?

Would you not be such an introvert and have the guts to talk to someone of the opposite sex?

Maybe you wouldn’t fanticize so much and undress others with your eyes

In case you don’t know me, I am anti-pornography. The reason for my stance relates to my beliefs that porn is a misuse of sex as the way that God created it. Another reason I am against porn is because of the way it had a hold on me when I was addicted to it. I believe that porn screwed up my view of women and the way I related to everyone. Porn turned me into more of a selfish, pleasure seeking jerk who was interested in his own satisfaction.

The reason that porn has this effect on its users is because of the themes that run through porn films. The main theme of porn films is a guy who just shows up in everyday circumstances and encounters women who want him. A bit of flirting and a few suggestive words then they are stripping each others clothes off. This theme runs through out heads in our everyday life. We look for those situations and we often daydream about them as we go about our days. Life is really not about sexual conquest at every turn. The things that happen in porn films don’t actually happen in real life.

This theme in porn harms our sex life with our spouses. There is very little (if any) caressing, kissing, and caring for the other partner in a porn film. When we rush into the act of sex, we are missing out on a very satisfying and intimate time – the foreplay. Rushing into sex without the foreplay puts us on the level as a dog or other animal that just gets the duty done. Aren’t we better than animals?

People who use porn are really longing for that intimacy before, during and after sex. We all need to be loved and to love someone else. The intimacy that happens through the whole sexual encounter satisfies our souls and makes us different and special when compared to the animal kingdom.

Cutting out all foreplay & interactions from porno:

Will this mean that porn films will be more destructive if they cut out every bit of foreplay and get down right to the sex? — I think more people adopt these new themes of porn and further destroy intimacy in sex.

Will pornography suffer from cutting this out? — I think so. If anything, people want more of the intimacy involved before sex.