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Naive to Paranoid – a Short Dangerous Road

One may at times feel they are too gullible, especially after being duped by a master of deception, and that they need to change their approach to other people altogether. It’s normal to be defensive, to play the lone wolf while healing – as long as the line between reality and delusion remains firm and visible.

Although many guides on identifying people on the ASPD spectrum (narcissists, psychopaths etc) may seem complex and reliable, not to mention relatable, genuine experts will always advise (and stress it) to use extreme caution when deciding whether a person you know fits that description to a tee, as most people display some of the warning signs, temporarily or permanently, without deserving that label.

Those who immediately tell you to run, often with an imperative tone, cannot be trusted as impartial sources of information and authoritative figures on the issue. You should indeed run – from them and their groups, that is.

More often than not, they stretch and bend every story to fit into the narrative they are fixated on, as the legendary Procrustes would; many may do it with a good intention, not realising the error of a rushed judgement. It’s not difficult for a group’s members to reinforce this perception regarding their lives and those of their peers, causing mass confusion.

Many such platforms provide information regarding the alleged percentage of psychopaths in society and insist that you should be wary of people in general based on those numbers.

Psychopath Free goes even further and invites you to keep an eye out for psychopaths everywhere you turn – including their forum. One moderator is set on this idea; it wouldn’t surprise me one bit if they tried to predict the number of psychopaths based on the number of members and then identify them.

They argue there are such people at every social gathering, in every building, at every party etc. Whilst that may well be true in many cases, I believe – and surely I’m not alone – that actively looking for them in every social situation is a sign of mental imbalance and definitely not the way to a peaceful life.

Imagine that everyone around you is relaxing with a pint, and meanwhile, your mind goes 90 miles an hour trying to ”spot the psycho” in the room, trying to pick up negative vibes, behavioural patterns, chit-chat between others etc. At that moment, there is one definite anti-social individual in there and that is you. It is my belief nobody really wants to fall into that trap.

However, if you find yourself overwhelmed by the fear of disordered people, here is PF to the rescue:

”Spot a NSP within the first or second post”. And just over a dozen members agree.

To think that others spend decades studying this phenomenon and still fail to identify them sometimes.These people are better than Derren Brown! It’s a shame these brilliant minds waste their God given gift on a forum instead of saving the whole of humanity.

Seriously, this claim is being made by PF staff. Which means their members are both naive and paranoid at the same time.

I know; it’s worrying as many members are already depressed, emotionally unstable and have problems with social anxiety. If they went to a therapist, the therapist would try to help them out of that mindset, not give them a shovel to dig themselves deeper into the pit of isolation.

I must admit that the more time I spent on PF, the more paranoid I became of coworkers, family, friends and neighbors. Everywhere I looked there were psychopaths. I isolated myself from family by going no contact on anyone who was not perfect, basically. There is a counter under members names on how long they have been no contact and if it is broken or you talk about the reasons and repeatedly slip up, you become a target. I’ve seen that happen many times. My lifeline DID become PF as another person has mentioned here and that is damn scary. Members admit they have no friends or family to rely upon. There are moderators and administrators who have voiced the exact same thing.

Once I stepped back and took breaks from it, stopped participating in discussions, I started to see how dependent I had become on the site. It has taken me a long time to re-establish relationships with real people and to mend fences for the downright rude behavior I have displayed towards people in my life because I thought they were toxic or psychopathic. I cringe thinking of what I did out of blind trust and belief in a very small group of complete strangers.

YES. The moderators and administrators openly state that psychopaths are lurking every where and visit the site frequently to get their supply of whatever it is they need to keep functioning as evil people. Peace continually touts his advanced technology and mega secure servers that protect everyone on PF from harm and that are keeping the evil forces at bay. Once he shared that the site had been hacked from some international site and that it was saved, though, from heroic efforts of his tech team and that new and improved safeguards were now in place. The comments from followers were beyond thankful. This is just fear mongering at its worse. Why would you make public statements like that, even if it were true (the hacking part)?

You are not alone; I’ve done the same and I’m sure many others have. Depression does strange things to someone’s mind and the material in their so-called library is convincing at first sight.
Like many, when I first found the articles they seemed accurate; I had no idea they were just improvising.

Thank you, Maria. I read through the library and other posts by the leaders nonstop. When I look at these same posts today, I realize two things: 1) they say the same thing over and over and over yet with just different background props and a sprinkling of personal anecdotes, and 2) the only way to heal or move forward from all of this is is to keep reading these posts and remain no contact status with the abuser. Some people have stopped contact with entire families! I get that all of this can be helpful for some, yet if you really are a person who has been traumatized by an abuser or family member or friend, not talking to them while re-reading the articles can’t be the only thing you do to heal. You need help that is way beyond fluffy articles, a psychopath bible, and cheerleaders complimenting you on the no contact ticker underneath your username.

I need to ask a question out of my own ignorance, and if anyone can answer it I would be very grateful.

How is this blog (and people who are opening up about what is going on over there) safe from being sued for defamation of Psychopathfree and the people who run it?

I ask this because I’m scared and I’m curious. A certain administrator over there has shared several times that PF has lawyers who hunt down imposters or people who have tried to infiltrate or do other things on the site that could threaten its welfare. This administrator has stated someone was once served cease and desist orders and prosecuted. Is this just another one of the fear tactics or is there really truth to this? I especially ask because the author of the book is using his real name now and building a brand for himself.

Well, to start with, there is no defamation involved; what is being commented on is taken straight from their website; I kept print screens of all the pages I linked to and posted some here. Defamation would have to include false claims. At the moment, all the pages written about here are still on their website, so they’re not too bothered about how people might react to them.

I have done the same, since text may be later removed (as seen in the case with Quesionmark). The whole situation with Quesionmark creeped me out so much at the time that I saved some of the exchanges in order to eventually make sense of my “gut feeling”. If you stick to evidence on the site, it is compelling enough.

Eileen, do you remember the Broken Teddy member who was banned and all the things that went down about him? It was horrific at the time. I followed him a lot and saw eventually what was going down. What they claim happened is not the truth — that he exposed a supposed psychopath who had hurt him by posting information about her such as her picture, name and address. I tried to find what they were talking about regarding what he had posted and could not locate one thing. This lead me to believe at the time that the leaders had sophisticated spyware available that tracked his internet footprint for whatever their reasons. Broken Teddy deleted a great deal of his stories and posts right before he was banned. You could see that he knew what they were doing to him.

Maybe the member had posted it on the site, and moderators had removed it before anyone saw it. So many members wanted to “out” psychopaths, so it’s not surprising if someone tried to do it via the site. If PF became a site to post such things, it would lose it’s “mission” so I could see removing the information if that is what happened. But it seems if it did happen the member could have just been reminded it is not appropriate to do that via the site. That would have been compassionate, knowing sometimes survivors may be inclined to do odd things at times.