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Relationship expert: Discouraged job hunter

Life and Love

Relationship expert: Discouraged job hunter

Dear Susan: I recently applied for a job that I have applied for unsuccessfully three times in the past. I got my hopes up this time because they called me in for two interviews. It came down to me and another candidate and I lost out. It was pretty devastating as I am certain I would have loved the work. I also would have enjoyed earning a decent wage for the first time in years. I'm feeling quite discouraged. What's holding me back? Is it my attitude? Generally speaking I would say I'm happy with my life and I am very proud that I was able to buy a place for my daughter and I to live. Besides my work troubles, I'm feeling sad that over the years I seem to have alienated my siblings. I don't think I've done anything wrong but I suspect my mother is behind this. They have all worked hard and made it and I sense they all feel I should be able to find a better paying job. I need to come to terms with the shame I feel, but don't know how. How can I improve my work and family life? Defeated

Dear Defeated: You can start by eradicating the word shame from your head. A hardworking woman who has bought home for herself and daughter has nothing to be ashamed about. It is your mindset that holds you back, not your spirit. You have lost sight of your achievements. Who in your family has faced the emotional difficulties that you have over the last decade? I will tell you none. One cannot endure such turmoil, and then do what you have done without having a strong spirit and drive. You still have that; you just don't see it. Keep going after new jobs. I guarantee you that if you keep trying a door will open. You have a lot to offer. You're conscientious, intelligent and experienced. On the home front, I suspect you've grown away form your family because you don't open up to them and therefore seem aloof. I that's not the case. I would encourage you to reconnect with them. Spring 2008 will see new work opportunities for you if you just have little faith.

The first woman on a Canadian bank note has been named

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The first woman on a Canadian bank note has been named

There's an excting (and long overdue TBH) change coming to Canada's $10 bills: They will now feature the face of an extraordinary Canadian woman.

The shortlist for the spot was announced earlier this year, and included the suffragette Idola Saint-Jean and Olympian Bobbie Rosenfeld, but it was civl rights activist Viola Desmond who the Bank of Canada ultimately chose for the prime spot on our blue bank note.

It was for such a time as this that Heritage Minutes were created, so we'll refer you to the spot released about Ms. Desmond last year for the full primer on the Nova Scotia native (but the TL:DR version is that she was an entrepreneur ahead of her time who played a pivotal role in the Canadian civil rights struggle):

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Rihanna is over people creating a competition between her and Beyoncé

The Rihanna Navy and the Beyhive have been on not-so-friendly terms on social media following the announcement of the 2017 Grammy Awards nominations.

Although RiRi expressed gratitude for her whopping eight nods, the Navy felt that she was snubbed after Anti didn't receive a nom for Album of the Year over Beyoncé's Lemonade. Naturally, Bey's fans wasted no time in coming to the defence of their Queen.

But Rihanna quickly cleared things up on the 'gram, commenting on a fan's photo, "I'm petty af, yes. But this is just unnecessary! I wish y'all would drop this topic and see things from the bigger picture! We don't need to be putting black women against each other! We deserve to be celebrated and the Grammy Academy agrees!"

Frank + Oak and the NBA team up on Raptors merch

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Frank + Oak and the NBA team up on Raptors merch

Canadian fashion label Frank + Oak is always up to something, and tomorrow the Montreal-based brand will drop a 9-piece Raptors collection in collaboration with the NBA. The pieces that make up the line are directional, minimal and best of all—unisex. The pieces include a crisp Oxford shirt patterned with a subtle team logo, a heather grey waffle knit mock-neck and a leather backpack. The coolest piece might be the two-tone pop-over shirt. The Oxford's mock-neck collar and mix of materials offer a completely new take on fan gear. Even fair-weather fans (hey, no judgement) will be tempted by this sleek collab.

The collection will launch tomorrow online and at Frank + Oak's Queen West and CF Sherway Gardens outposts as well as the Real Sports Apparel shop at the Air Canada Center. The brand is set to release merch for 5 more NBA teams in 2017. Until then, go Raptors, go!

WATCH: Estee Lalonde plays Fishbowl Frenzy

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WATCH: Estee Lalonde plays Fishbowl Frenzy

A few weeks back we had Youtube sensation Estee Lalonde into the ELLE Canada Closet to play a little game of Fishbowl Frenzy! Don't forget to pick up our January 2017 issue to see an exclusive portrait of the Internet star...and now IRL author of a new memoir / life advice book, Bloom.