The biggest lesson I have learned by being part of my sorority is that you never be disrepectful to your sisters, especially the alumnae. Rejecting a legacy, the sister/daughter/granddaughter of one of your sisters is the highest level of disrespect that you can show. In a situation like this you are called to be a friend and help the legacy if needed. I’m sorry that your sorority experience has not taught you what sisterhood is all about.