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If I were single, I would be very uncomfortable being in a relationship with a man that wasn't circumcised and would find it a significant turn off. It really isn't about appearance for me, just that I've never known anyone who wasn't. I don't think you're shallow, it depends on where you grew up. In the area I grew up, it would have been very strange to not be circumcised.View Thread

I don't understand your post. I wasn't trying to bring other issues into the debate. I was merely trying to explain why this issue is too personal for me and apologize to the PP because I let personal feelings cloud my judgement and debates are supposed to be logical. Sorry for any confusion.View Thread

I'm really torn on this issue.. I used to feel that spanking should be used as a last resort for dangerous situations but, the closer my son gets to an age where discipline will become an issue, the harder it is for me to imagine ever spanking him. He is almost 8 months old and the other day, he was playing at my mother's house and he kept trying to play with the TV. I grabbed him and redirected his attention two or three times and my mother said that if he did it again, I should tap his hand... I couldn't do it.. he's still a baby! I ended up just picking him up and holding him in my lap. I do not think someone who spanks their child is in the wrong, I just don't think that it's the discipline of choice for our house.View Thread

I've been thinking that perhaps I am not the right person to be commenting on this debate. My DH was a heavy child and we were discussing it yesterday and he estimated that he weighed about 200 lbs at that age too. He and I are both very close to his parents and the level of love and friendship between them is something I've rarely seen, certainly not in my family. He also grew up 20 years ago and we know a lot more now. He did express anger at the idea of his mother being blamed for his weight and stated that if he had been removed from his parents custody that it would have been quite devastating for him. My parents were the opposite and pushed me so hard to look perfect that I ended up with some pretty serious issues as a result. Which is worse, accepting your child the way they are even when you should really be helping them be healthier or being so critical about weight that your child ends up feeling like it's wrong to digest food? On the other hand, in this day and age, by the time our son was even 10 or 20lbs overweight, we would be implementing all kinds of plans to make exercise and healthy eating fun.. before it got any further. I think it probably best if due to the bias I have concerning this subject that I exit this debate. I've learned a lot from reading everyones thoughts on this issue! Thank you and Happy Holiday's, Everyone! Happy Hanukkah, Boyzmomee View Thread

It's not always the women making the decision. In our case it was actually my husband that made the decision to circumcise our son based on the recommendation of one of his family members, who is a nurse practitioner. I wasn't sure how I felt about it and was actually leaning towards not having it done, despite having known someone who had to have his foreskin removed due to severe infection. I was convinced by some compelling evidence, including the information concerning HIV/ AIDS. Someone does not have to be gay to be exposed. I recognize that you have strong feelings concerning this issue and I respect that. However, I was convinced by medical professionals that circumcision was the best thing for my son and I do not regret that decision.View Thread

I do not feel that any child should have to suffer or be left behind. But, I also know a lot of women who feed for comfort. My SO has been quite heavy since he was a small child and the doctors have never found anything more than genetic predisposition that could be causing it. His mother is a wonderful, loving and supportive mom who adores her son. Many women from previous generations used food as a way to show their love for their family. They have passed this on to their daughters. Without more information, I cannot see this as deliberate and malicious abuse or neglect towards this child. My view of this situation is that it is a matter of ignorance on the part of the mother. When I was young, I saw first hand how horribly traumatizing it was for a friend of mine to be taken away from his parents because the state claimed they were not doing enough to ensure his health and safety. It was a similar situation although it did not have to do with weight. He is still angry about it 30 years later and feels that what the state did to him and his parents ruined his life. He and his parents remain quite close, as they were at the time of separation. Perhaps if I had more information and knew exactly what lengths the state went to before making the decision to remove this child from his mother's custody I would feel differently but, with the information I have I do not feel that this child would be better off away from his mother. There are so many children who are tortured by their parents and the state does nothing dispite having evidence.. What made this a situation that warrented the childs removal from the home? what key information do we not have concerning this issue? Because my experience is that other than a few unusual cases where children are taken away that maybe should not have been <see above>, the state does not usually do this except in extreme cases.. I'm just wondering what we are missing..View Thread

In my household, my SO does almost everything around the house but, he stays home with our 7 month old son. I do what I can when I'm not working huge amounts of OT but, he tends to get almost everything done before I get home. If I had to say, I think he does more than I do..View Thread

I was curious as to where you got the information concerning the mother's arguments in court. I didn't see that in the article and I would like to see all the information concerning this issue before I make a firm decision on my opinion towards this matter. Thanks!View Thread