Sunday, 20 December 2015

If a
lack of being loved, respected, etc. is a problem, what could you do, in order
to feel safer in yourself?

If loss of innocence is a problem, is it likely to
prevent you from gaining a perspective that is kinder to you and to those you
meet?

If nightmares and the fears attached to them
are a problem, what could you do to ensure that you overcome those fears?

What fears do you have that seems to be preventing
you from moving on?

What could you do in order those fears?

Do you think that the abuse you survived wasn't as
bad as others suffered, therefore you don’t need support and help?

Having started to wake up to the realisation
that your life has been affected by the abuse you suffered, in every way
imaginable, what are you going to do about it?

There are often deep rooted and hidden secrets that
you wouldn’t feel safe talking about, but those are the issues that you have to
start talking about, and recover from, otherwise it will remain as a stumbling
block to your recovery.

Think about what it is that you need to do in
order to ensure you are free from the thoughts that haunt you, and then do
something about it.

What could you do to leave behind the negative
thoughts, and move forward?

What are your immediate thoughts, and
feelings, when faced with a memory of the abuse you suffered?

How hard do you find it to be honest with yourself,
and others? Why is that, and where does it come from?

Why do you find it difficult to be free and
honest in speech and manner?

Do you avoid having sex, or being intimate, because
it reminds you of what happened to you when abused?

What could you do to regain control of your
sexual life?

It's your life after all, and the memories that
prevent you having or enjoying sex is your abusers way of stopping you live
your life, but don't allow them to control you any longer.

2 comments:

This is the first time I've seen this blog. I think it's wonderful that there's a blog out there for male survivors of sexual abuse, which still carries such a stigma, unfortunately. It's time to do something about that and it's definitely time to heal:)