Without intending to offend anyone, I do not see the point in having a secular funeral with secular music. Also, one must point out the obvious, that one is not going to be there to appreciate the event.

Nevertheless, I was a church organist for many years, and if I had been at an important church where I was owed a great funeral, I would have a Renaissance requiem, Victoria preferably, along with his incomparable motet Versa est in luctum, which may be translated as follows:

My harp is turned to mourning, and my organ into the voice of those who weep. Help me, O God, my God, for little are my days.

There's nothing remarkable about it. All one has to do is hit the right keys at the right time and the instrument plays itself.
-- Johann Sebastian Bach

Not a classical piece. I've told my family I want them to play a recording of Billie Holliday singing Please don't talk about me when I'm gone.

Don't drink and drive. You might spill it.--J. Eugene Baker, aka my late father
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No one these days (at least amongst my kith and kin) is going to appreciate a full Requiem Mass, even Fricsay conducting Verdi, and to be honest it would seem a little contrived, if not overblown, to my taste and in my memory. But if my brother is still above ground, the funeral march from Chopin's piano sonata would be a must for personal, childish reasons.

Apart from that, I'd go for a smile or two. Somehow I think Derek & Clive's Cancer sketch would distress rather than amuse (as would Highway to Hell by AC/DC, Up Jumped the Devil by Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds and countless other such tunes), so I'd need a second list for the Wake.

These should be OK for the service:

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life by Monty PythonThose Were the Days by Mary HopkinSong for Guy by Elton John

Well, here is a point at which I'll be presumptious (I won't have to listen to any complaints!)

Before I quit playing the piano some forty years ago, I decided to leave an LP of some things I liked. Included was the Schubert A Major Sonata, D. 664, and I thought the second movement came out quite well.
Since two friends - the pianist Andrew Wilde and CMG's own Lance Hill - transferred the LP to a CD (Andrew) and made it into a beautifully produced CD jewel case (Lance) -two favors I can't forget - I feel I can't do better than sign off with two pages of Schubert.

What a lovely topic. I've posted on this question at laest twice on other forums, as many of us have.
I mentioned both times a selection of Rachmaninov's Vespers would be nice at my funeral. Not the entire Vespers of course, as I would not wish to take up anyones day. The shorter would be the better the ceremony.
But now that I'm still around, guess i still can change my answer, yes?
Then maybe a selection from one of Schnittke's 2 choral works. Choir Concerto or his Requiem. Which selection not sure as yet. But should make a decision, and will mention to my wife which selection tomorrow.
Man is she going to freak, she is superstitious on things like that. "oh don't talk death, are you crazy?"...Funny gal.

Psalm 118:22 The Stone that the builders rejected has become the chief cornerstone.
23 This is the Lord's doing , it is marvelous in our sight.

Brendan wrote:No one these days (at least amongst my kith and kin) is going to appreciate a full Requiem Mass,

I wasn't talking about a concert performance, and you of all people should have realized that. I would not expect a Catholic burial after my years of apostasy, but there is not much point (to me at least, obviously not to others here) in having any exsequies that are not religious in nature. The Victoria Requiem is no more than a setting of that service designed for service use, unlike the concert versions of later eras. It does not, thankfully, even include the Dies Irae, which I would not want at my funeral. Parts that are missing could be filled in by the Gregorian setting, which I also love. Of course all this would take place in a worthy church setting, perhaps St. Ignatius in New York, where the organist would play as a postlude Bach's "Schmuecke dich, O liebe Seele."

There's nothing remarkable about it. All one has to do is hit the right keys at the right time and the instrument plays itself.
-- Johann Sebastian Bach

I was not talking to or about anyone but myself and my friends and family (many Catholic) - and my (controlled) impulse for a complete Requiem Mass was in no way a reference to anything anyone else wrote.

Brendan wrote:I was not talking to or about anyone but myself and my friends and family (many Catholic) - and my (controlled) impulse for a complete Requiem Mass was in no way a reference to anything anyone else wrote.

I knew that. I was just giving you a genlte kid in the ribs.

This subject is more characteristic of the Good Mucus Guide, where it would actually be typical for someone to say he wanted the Verdi Requiem at his funeral.

There's nothing remarkable about it. All one has to do is hit the right keys at the right time and the instrument plays itself.
-- Johann Sebastian Bach

I wish I did live in a culture in which the Verdi would be considered an appropriate choice that doesn't impose on the attention of the mourners. I always listen to a Requiem at the death of kith or kin (and couldn't get the Dies Irae from Mozart's out of my head on and after 9/11). Playing Requiem by Killing Joke just doesn't have the same dignity.

I may save a little money ,so that my family and friends can hire a good organist and ,if possible, a good choir ( a few voices will do) - I won't come back from the hereafter if they use CD's...

A few works by Zoltan Kodaly : Esti dal, Veni Veni Emmanuel...
Anything by Bach they can master and or sing reasonably well
Jehan Alain's "Litanies" for organ
I mentioned before G.F.Telemann's Trauer Actus and the wonderfull chorus :
Schlaft Wohl, Ihr Seligen Gebeine
(Sleep well, thou glorious bones, untill the Lord wakes you back to life...)I'm an optimist!http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASI ... 97-0985266

My uncle Allan actually got his wish in this regard. At the funeral for his wife, about four years ago, a violinist from the community orchestra he belonged to played that old chestnut, the Meditation from Massenet's Thais (sp?). Uncle Allan thanked her and said, with his characteristic humor, "I'm booking you now for my funeral." For a variety of reasons, he didn't have a traditional funeral, but that piece was played, in fact, at the memorial meeting for my uncle on June 11. However, the player was his granddaughter, Ilana Goldstein, concertmaster of the Rhode Island Youth Symphony. Her expressive playing brought tears to the eyes of many in the audience.

Either the 'Bless the Lord, O my soul' or the 'Ave Maria' from Rachmaninov's All-night Vigil. If you want to hear/see how effective the first of these two choices can be at a funeral, watch the film 'Inside I'm Dancing' all the way to the end. If it doesn't bring a tear to your eye, you're already dead, so it's too late a pick a piece for your own funeral.

A bit ago, I said Billie Holliday singing Please don't talk about me when I'm gone.

I still want that, but only after they play Randy Newman's One More Hour from Ragtime.

Don't drink and drive. You might spill it.--J. Eugene Baker, aka my late father
"We're not generating enough angry white guys to stay in business for the long term."--Sen. Lindsey Graham, R-S. Carolina."Racism is America's Original Sin."--Francis Cardinal George, former Roman Catholic Archbishop of Chicago.

I plan to be cremated and have NO plans for a funeral ceremony as such. If my wife survives me, I'll probably suggest that a recording of the Om Namah Shivaya mantra be used as a sort of soundtrack for the spreading of ashes--either in Darbari Raga style (my current fave) or Bhupali style. If friends decide to hold a gathering anyway, then an ecstatic chant would be more appropriate (and a lot more fun for the participants). If I'm to have a vibratory send-off, that'll suit me fine.

dirkronk wrote:I plan to be cremated and have NO plans for a funeral ceremony as such. If my wife survives me, I'll probably suggest that a recording of the Om Namah Shivaya mantra be used as a sort of soundtrack for the spreading of ashes--either in Darbari Raga style (my current fave) or Bhupali style. If friends decide to hold a gathering anyway, then an ecstatic chant would be more appropriate (and a lot more fun for the participants). If I'm to have a vibratory send-off, that'll suit me fine.

Dirk

Cremation here, too. And if someone decides they'd like to erect a plaque or somesuch in my memory, the words in my signature will suffice.

Not sure about my own funeral, but when my father passed away some years ago I engaged a cellist friend with the local symphony to play Faure's "Elegie" at the gravesite. Some days later at the memorial service (per his request) was sung the fifth movement from Brahms' Requiem (for solo soprano), following which at a smaller gathering of family and close friends we played Strauss' "Four Last Songs" with Gundala Janowitz in his favorite recording. Nice.

Gregory Kleyn wrote:Not sure about my own funeral, but when my father passed away some years ago I engaged a cellist friend with the local symphony to play Faure's "Elegie" at the gravesite. Some days later at the memorial service (per his request) was sung the fifth movement from Brahms' Requiem (for solo soprano), following which at a smaller gathering of family and close friends we played Strauss' "Four Last Songs" with Gundala Janowitz in his favorite recording. Nice.

Nice selections. When my dad died a couple of years ago, I carefully searched his records for a version of the Lord's Prayer set to music and sung in English--he'd told me he wanted this played at his funeral. Found it no problem (Gordon MacRae or some such singer), but he had it only on LP and the funeral home had no turntable, no way to transfer it, and didn't have their own copy on tape or CD. No other version in their library either. Local CD stores...also no go. Then I found a version on cassette tape at dad's house: a cousin in Holland is in some choral society and she had sent him a tape of a concert they did. In this case the Lord's Prayer was in Dutch, but I figured it was better than going without entirely, especially since that had been his only musical request. As it turned out, the person from the funeral home who was supposed to turn on the cassette player (I had already cued it up precisely myself) managed to hit rewind instead of play and had to search for the selection as mourners endured tape squeal and fast-forward sounds. Not exactly a flawless performance. Hope dad at least got a kick out of that. At least once the proper tape position was found, the singing on the tape wasn't half bad. OTOH, the whole experience rather reinforced the feeling that formal funeral proceedings just aren't my own cup of tea.

Further to my earlier Rachmaninov choices, I'd like the assembled to leave after a rousing version of Saint-Saens 'Organ' Symphony. Take it from the section in the third movement, where the excitement rises as the opening of the fourth movement is hinted at ... that steadily rising music that has tingles running up and down my spine. Then, once the organ kicks in, don't be surprised if I'm actually raised from the dead.

If I could (I doubt I'd have the money) I would want to have Mozart's Requiem in D performed. One of my very favorite works to begin with, I should love to be ushered off from the mortal realm with such a beautiful mass.

OK, so if someone can bring a portable turntable, I'm pretty sure I can find a scratchy old copy of Wellington's Victory. Turned up to distortion level, this could be pretty much paul's all-around "descent into hell" music...even if he's headed in the other direction.

If one decided on a popular song for a funeral, how about Edith Piaf singing "Non je ne regrette rien." I was surprised to hear it burst forth from the screen during a children's animated film called "Valiant." Piaf is my favorite popular singer and this song is her greatest.

I agree Strauss' four last songs are a good choice for checking out of this world. Equally appropriate would be Brahms' four serious songs, especially the third. It has always struck me as one of the most marvellous songs ever written and the best one by Brahms. The composer makes a wonderful transition from the bitterness of death in youth to acceptability in old age. At the very end he embraces death like a lover.