Tantrums :(

So my lo is 15 months now an for the past few days everytime we go out in public she throws a fit. Examples: were atthe mall I let her play in the car toy there for 15 min, then it's time to go I try to say it's bye bye and take her away but she throws herself back screaming and keeps crying and won't let me put her back into the stroller (this happens for 10 minutes or so) I stay calm and tell her we can come back another time but she keeps freaking out! Then yesterday dh an I attempt to go out for dinner with her we put her in the high chair give her some crayons to play with an then she starts freaking out throwing a tantrum tryin to get the salt and pepper I explain no you can't have that let play with tour crayons she keeps screaming and I take out of the high chair by that time our food arrived and I try to get er to eat shes still screaming and throwing a fit so dh eats his food then I Truro eat
My food one bite and I get a hair in my food, by then I'm soo embarrased and angry I get mad at the manager about my the hair and leve the resterant (lo still throwing a fit) omg I don know what to do!! She's really good at home and it's just when were out in public she does this, I Try give her milk,snacks a toy and they all end up bieng thrown on the floor.... I get really embarassed and this disscourages me to even attempt to leave the house! Any help please!! Idk what to do!! I try talking calmly telling her no, redirecting her attention it does NOT work.. I really need some help please :(

So my lo is 15 months now an for the past few days everytime we go out in public she throws a fit. Examples: were atthe mall I let her play in the car toy there for 15 min, then it's time to go I try to say it's bye bye and take her away but she throws herself back screaming and keeps crying and won't let me put her back into the stroller (this happens for 10 minutes or so) I stay calm and tell her we can come back another time but she keeps freaking out! Then yesterday dh an I attempt to go out for dinner with her we put her in the high chair give her some crayons to play with an then she starts freaking out throwing a tantrum tryin to get the salt and pepper I explain no you can't have that let play with tour crayons she keeps screaming and I take out of the high chair by that time our food arrived and I try to get er to eat shes still screaming and throwing a fit so dh eats his food then I Truro eat
My food one bite and I get a hair in my food, by then I'm soo embarrased and angry I get mad at the manager about my the hair and leve the resterant (lo still throwing a fit) omg I don know what to do!! She's really good at home and it's just when were out in public she does this, I Try give her milk,snacks a toy and they all end up bieng thrown on the floor.... I get really embarassed and this disscourages me to even attempt to leave the house! Any help please!! Idk what to do!! I try talking calmly telling her no, redirecting her attention it does NOT work.. I really need some help please :(

I feel you...the tantrums have started at our house too. Â Thankfully, so far we haven't had any tantrums in public, and at home we've been managing ok. Â If I can tell what has upset LO, I try the things you've tried - reasoning with him, redirecting his attention..stuff like that. If he ignores me and keeps freaking out, or if the tantrum is for no apparent reason, I make sure he's not hurting himself and just ignore him. Â So far, one way or another he usually gets over it within a few minutes. Â If not, it's usually time for a nap. Â I have been pondering what I will do when this inevitably happens when we are out and about and I think my game plan will be to basically take him somewhere by himself (out of the store or restaurant or to the ladies room - anywhere that he'll be at least less disturbing to other people) and just have like a cool-down-time-out...not like he's being punished necessarily, but like, "We'll just sit here until you've calmed down and we can address whatever has upset you or you forget about it."....Not sure how well it'll work....but that's my plan. Good luck. You're not alone...I hear we're heading into a very difficult age for awhile. :/

I feel you...the tantrums have started at our house too. Â Thankfully, so far we haven't had any tantrums in public, and at home we've been managing ok. Â If I can tell what has upset LO, I try the things you've tried - reasoning with him, redirecting his attention..stuff like that. If he ignores me and keeps freaking out, or if the tantrum is for no apparent reason, I make sure he's not hurting himself and just ignore him. Â So far, one way or another he usually gets over it within a few minutes. Â If not, it's usually time for a nap. Â I have been pondering what I will do when this inevitably happens when we are out and about and I think my game plan will be to basically take him somewhere by himself (out of the store or restaurant or to the ladies room - anywhere that he'll be at least less disturbing to other people) and just have like a cool-down-time-out...not like he's being punished necessarily, but like, "We'll just sit here until you've calmed down and we can address whatever has upset you or you forget about it."....Not sure how well it'll work....but that's my plan. Good luck. You're not alone...I hear we're heading into a very difficult age for awhile. :/

Us too!! She throws them in public when we go out and she can't have what she wants. Most important advice I cam give u is don't be embarrassed about it, one day that might come back to u and the child will react to get that reaction (if u allow ur embarrassment to give in to child demands). I follow all the things u do too...I think u r handling it very well so feel proud about that. Lot of times when eating out and ebtertaining her has not worked ill put her in my lap it usually stops her. But sometimes she will act out again. If i ask her to stop and she does i give her praises. For me if she dosent stop or break the tantrum I usually pick her up and take her outside away from disturbing ppl and give a stern "no unacceptable". Once she calms down I give her huge praises with kisses. So far it works...but it gets to the point where I don't want to go out. But she has to learn in other surroundings. We can't be prisoners. So it takes patients and diligence. Like pp it is a stage that will pass, just a time where we go from being caretakers to now instructors, Educators.

Us too!! She throws them in public when we go out and she can't have what she wants. Most important advice I cam give u is don't be embarrassed about it, one day that might come back to u and the child will react to get that reaction (if u allow ur embarrassment to give in to child demands). I follow all the things u do too...I think u r handling it very well so feel proud about that. Lot of times when eating out and ebtertaining her has not worked ill put her in my lap it usually stops her. But sometimes she will act out again. If i ask her to stop and she does i give her praises. For me if she dosent stop or break the tantrum I usually pick her up and take her outside away from disturbing ppl and give a stern "no unacceptable". Once she calms down I give her huge praises with kisses. So far it works...but it gets to the point where I don't want to go out. But she has to learn in other surroundings. We can't be prisoners. So it takes patients and diligence. Like pp it is a stage that will pass, just a time where we go from being caretakers to now instructors, Educators.

My LO isn't really throwing tantrums yet, so I don't have personal advice. But I read about an idea I wondered if anyone has tried (you probably have). It said to verbalize for them what you think they are feeling, like, "You don't want to sit in your high chair. You want to walk around. We will do that as soon as we finish eating." The book said that sometimes tantrums occur when toddlers are frustrated at not being able to explain their feelings because their language isn't caught up to the complexity of their thoughts and emotions. Has anyone tried this approach? Does it help? Or during a tantrum are they too worked up to care what we say?

My LO isn't really throwing tantrums yet, so I don't have personal advice. But I read about an idea I wondered if anyone has tried (you probably have). It said to verbalize for them what you think they are feeling, like, "You don't want to sit in your high chair. You want to walk around. We will do that as soon as we finish eating." The book said that sometimes tantrums occur when toddlers are frustrated at not being able to explain their feelings because their language isn't caught up to the complexity of their thoughts and emotions. Has anyone tried this approach? Does it help? Or during a tantrum are they too worked up to care what we say?

I actually have tried that. It's from happiest toddler on the block, but is really just a form of active listening. I can't tell whether it helps w/ our DD. Most of her tantrums are short, but she threw a 15 minute scream fest one the other day. Yikes!!

I actually have tried that. It's from happiest toddler on the block, but is really just a form of active listening. I can't tell whether it helps w/ our DD. Most of her tantrums are short, but she threw a 15 minute scream fest one the other day. Yikes!!

Oh gosh ladies thanks for the reasurance! Felt like I'm the only one experiancing this here!! One thing I have not done was remove her from the situtation. I just tried to calm her down, that's somethings I'm deffiantly going to try. I know it's just te age but I want to fix the problem now and seems like we all could use some support on this one :) but thanks I'm goin to try these tips.

Oh gosh ladies thanks for the reasurance! Felt like I'm the only one experiancing this here!! One thing I have not done was remove her from the situtation. I just tried to calm her down, that's somethings I'm deffiantly going to try. I know it's just te age but I want to fix the problem now and seems like we all could use some support on this one :) but thanks I'm goin to try these tips.

Thankfully my lo isn't doing the full on tantrums but he has been squeling with me and it drives me nuts. I've also read that it's good to remove them from the sitution and give them a chance to calm down. Hope that works for you and this stage isn't too bad. :)

Thankfully my lo isn't doing the full on tantrums but he has been squeling with me and it drives me nuts. I've also read that it's good to remove them from the sitution and give them a chance to calm down. Hope that works for you and this stage isn't too bad. :)

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