Of course, I'm going to keep this thread on the group after the theme is over; we all need some guidance through problems at times. :]

Anyways, this forum thread is to help "heal your wounded hearts" or just help through some problems you have!
Everyone can ask and answer questions and help or bring up a problem!
You can ask pretty much ask for help for anything here; from problems with school to even just asking for inspiration for something!

I actually have a bit of a problem myself though o.o":
I went to the dentist the other day and found that I had a deep cavity. So they have to repair the tooth or something. Does it hurt? :X...I never had a cavity before...ahaha...

this is reeeeaally long so i'm gonna put it in spoilers to shorten it.

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i once knew this girl who used to be my friend for two years, but then i noticed her true colors other than being a naive and innocent girl. she was trying to fit in with some other "popular" group which made me feel like a jerk and friend-for-nothing. she changed her style, gossips about my best friends, says bad things about her little brother (he's mental but he's a nice guy!), and tries to get guys (eventhough they don't really like her). here i was, looking at her doing all these, wanting to stay out of her way. our friendship broke after that and we cried.
but all of the sudden, she's saying lies and gossips about my best friends AND ME! wtheck was that for?! she blamed on us for almost everything! she even tried to catch attention from others by forcing herself to cry! that's unfair! i even try to apologize to her but she doesn't accept it! it hurts to see that involving me. what can i do to tell her that life isn't always about popularity? i don't know when is the next time we can see each other again. i just want her life to be like old times! she doesn't have to be my friend, but she HAS to know this.

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

First of all, i was the one who announced to her that our friendship is over because i would just let her do her own thing in order to not cause sadness between us. as a result she cried. i cried too because i looked back at what i did to her and i hurt her. so i should be the one apologizing for that. BUT NO!!
Second of all, she is very fragile, which i mean that she is very sensitive. she cries easily and would take revenge on other ppl if they did something wrong. i know i deserve it, but at least she can just let it go and do something else HER way.
now that i think about it, i just wanna come up to her and tell her my true feelings, like we don't have to be friends, but let's just forget it and start over. However, your true friend is not being forced, but to have someone who cares about your feelings. i think i'm not that kind of friend to you. sorry. -_- i just wanna make up to her... =(

First of all, i was the one who announced to her that our friendship is over because i would just let her do her own thing in order to not cause sadness between us. as a result she cried. i cried too because i looked back at what i did to her and i hurt her. so i should be the one apologizing for that. BUT NO!!
Second of all, she is very fragile, which i mean that she is very sensitive. she cries easily and would take revenge on other ppl if they did something wrong. i know i deserve it, but at least she can just let it go and do something else HER way.
now that i think about it, i just wanna come up to her and tell her my true feelings, like we don't have to be friends, but let's just forget it and start over. However, your true friend is not being forced, but to have someone who cares about your feelings. i think i'm not that kind of friend to you. sorry. -_- i just wanna make up to her...

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You mean you should have broke things to her more gently,instead of just telling her that bluntly?Ah well,what's done,is done.Nothing can alter that,but you could still make amends after that,ne?

Wow...looks like he's not the type I'd ever want to anger(swt).For now,I think the best thing is to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and discuss over things together,not taking actions blindly alone.That way,maybe things will het smoothed over

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

Hmm. I didn't get my ears pierced, because 1) I'm afraid if it'll cause pain or an infection [I'm always scared about these kinds of things; getting hurt and whatnot...] 2) It's just extra jewelry.
But like many other probably have said; it's your choice. :]
Although you also have to think about it costing money to keep getting earrings if you want to keep changing what you wear.

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

First of all, i was the one who announced to her that our friendship is over because i would just let her do her own thing in order to not cause sadness between us. as a result she cried. i cried too because i looked back at what i did to her and i hurt her. so i should be the one apologizing for that. BUT NO!!
Second of all, she is very fragile, which i mean that she is very sensitive. she cries easily and would take revenge on other ppl if they did something wrong. i know i deserve it, but at least she can just let it go and do something else HER way.
now that i think about it, i just wanna come up to her and tell her my true feelings, like we don't have to be friends, but let's just forget it and start over. However, your true friend is not being forced, but to have someone who cares about your feelings. i think i'm not that kind of friend to you. sorry. -_- i just wanna make up to her... =(

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Lavender88's advice is really good. ^^
And I pretty much agree with her; you don't need to remain being friends with her.
But if you wanna make up to her, than just apologize, and if she's still towards the worse, than let it be.
People like your "friend" aren't worth bothering with if they always have to follow someone and can't stand on their own. It's nice to have someone you can rely on, but you still have to be independent sometimes, and it'll get to you again if she still isn't a good friend.

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

First of all, i was the one who announced to her that our friendship is over because i would just let her do her own thing in order to not cause sadness between us. as a result she cried. i cried too because i looked back at what i did to her and i hurt her. so i should be the one apologizing for that. BUT NO!!
Second of all, she is very fragile, which i mean that she is very sensitive. she cries easily and would take revenge on other ppl if they did something wrong. i know i deserve it, but at least she can just let it go and do something else HER way.
now that i think about it, i just wanna come up to her and tell her my true feelings, like we don't have to be friends, but let's just forget it and start over. However, your true friend is not being forced, but to have someone who cares about your feelings. i think i'm not that kind of friend to you. sorry. -_- i just wanna make up to her... =(

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Lavender88's advice is really good. ^^
And I pretty much agree with her; you don't need to remain being friends with her.
But if you wanna make up to her, than just apologize, and if she's still towards the worse, than let it be.
People like your "friend" aren't worth bothering with if they always have to follow someone and can't stand on their own. It's nice to have someone you can rely on, but you still have to be independent sometimes, and it'll get to you again if she still isn't a good friend.

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That's true... it's sometimes hard for me to get over the feelings that i hurt someone, y'know what i mean? i don't know when is our next meeting though because she moved. but hopefully hitsuzen let us meet each other again and let me do MY own personal confession. it might be difficult to catch her attention but i WILL do it before it's too late. otherwise, i'll forget it and continue with my life. :D

=_='' I don't know either,since I never encountered that problem.I asked my sister,she just said it was itchy and irritating >_< My mother(she's a dentist,bet you didn't know that) said it might hurt a little while the dentist inserts anaesthetic (if he does) but the pain would pass.

Wow,that was quite a rant there.You must have been really mad at your friend,huh?

But seriously,doesn't that kind of problem happen to most people? Some people tend to try to fit in with the popular group by acting like them to become one of them.Changes in her personality,speech,actions that you might not like or approve.Friends,even the closest,perhaps because of that very closeness.change into something else,there'll always be that feeling of bewildered disappointment,am I right?A lot of my former classmates changed too.It's like they were brainwashed(rofl) with all those girly stuff(makeup,fashion,boys).Ugh =[

Heck,why should you ever apologize to her? I'm sure she was the one at fault,not you.If she gossips about you,or does anything bad to you,ignore it.That may sound cliche and all,but it works.If she wants to play this way,then two can play at a game.Just stay firm and deny any accusation she makes against you.Sooner or later,other people will start seeing your way.

Plus,a nice person like you doesn't really need a friend like her,do you? You're probably better off without her.

Human nature is ever growing or retrogressing--never stationart.But still,with all our philosophy,none of us can repress a little feeling of bewildered disappointment when we learn that our friend is not..and never can be just the same as before-even though the change may be by way of improvement. -L.M.Mongomery

You're right.She HAS to know.So let's start with you.I remember in one of the recent chapters of xxxHOLiC,Kohane said that in order for her mother to gain happiness,she must first be happy herself so that she could show her mother what being happy is like.(It all boils down to CLAMP,huh??Lmao) So,you must show your friend first,kay? I'm rooting for you =] That's what I did to my friends anyway =]

LoL..first 'agony aunt' session =]That's just the advice on my part,though I wouldn't exactly say they'd would 100% work out.=p

First of all, i was the one who announced to her that our friendship is over because i would just let her do her own thing in order to not cause sadness between us. as a result she cried. i cried too because i looked back at what i did to her and i hurt her. so i should be the one apologizing for that. BUT NO!!
Second of all, she is very fragile, which i mean that she is very sensitive. she cries easily and would take revenge on other ppl if they did something wrong. i know i deserve it, but at least she can just let it go and do something else HER way.
now that i think about it, i just wanna come up to her and tell her my true feelings, like we don't have to be friends, but let's just forget it and start over. However, your true friend is not being forced, but to have someone who cares about your feelings. i think i'm not that kind of friend to you. sorry. -_- i just wanna make up to her... =(

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Lavender88's advice is really good. ^^
And I pretty much agree with her; you don't need to remain being friends with her.
But if you wanna make up to her, than just apologize, and if she's still towards the worse, than let it be.
People like your "friend" aren't worth bothering with if they always have to follow someone and can't stand on their own. It's nice to have someone you can rely on, but you still have to be independent sometimes, and it'll get to you again if she still isn't a good friend.

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That's true... it's sometimes hard for me to get over the feelings that i hurt someone, y'know what i mean? i don't know when is our next meeting though because she moved. but hopefully hitsuzen let us meet each other again and let me do MY own personal confession. it might be difficult to catch her attention but i WILL do it before it's too late. otherwise, i'll forget it and continue with my life. :D

Hmm.. I just need some help on my personality. You see, my friends complain to me about being too pessimistic and too much self-pitying. It's just that I can't help it that's why I'm running to you guys for advice. ( ",)

Hmm.. I just need some help on my personality. You see, my friends complain to me about being too pessimistic and too much self-pitying. It's just that I can't help it that's why I'm running to you guys for advice. ( ",)

I think my friends said the same thing to me for a short time too. ._.
But I try to be a bit more optimistic now, just bit by bit.
Just always remember that you can work things out, and it's not the end.
If you keep trying to at least see some light during those times where you're pessimistic, then it might start being a habit.
I think that's what I do to try and be less pessimistic, so tell me if it works. :X