How would you feel? More on the advice needed scale

Okay so this past weekend my son went to visit his dads family, this has always been a positive experience and I welcome the idea of my son spending time with his father and his grandparents as well as other extended family members. Saturday I had spoken to his grandma and she asked if I would like to meet somewhere for lunch when I picked Kade up from them. I said that it sounded like a great idea, I get to the restaurant and here is Kade, grandma, dad and dads girlfriend. We proceeded to sit down and they started showing pics from the past weekend on their digital camera. I was shocked to see pictures of dads girlfriend with my son, and it kind of bothered me. I didnt really say anything about it just looked at them and later when I was driving home with my son I found myself almost crying. Am I getting upset over something trivial here? I have never been in this type of situation before so I do not know what to say about this.

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I think that it was very insensitive of them to show you the pictures of her and ds. I don't think it is trivial. It hurt your feelings and that is all that matters. I am very happy to be divorced. I want and know that my exh is dating someone else and that my girls met her last time they were with him. I do NOT want to see pictures of them with her. Maybe if they got married I would be okay with it, but I don't know. I am so sorry that they did that to you.

You might mention to our ex that you are glad that he has found someone new and that ds liked her but that you would prefer not to see photos of them together. He should respect that. I'm sure he does not want to see your son with your boyfriend.

Had you met gf before this lunch? Or was Grandma trying to have you meet her without telling you in fear you would say no? If you had met her before great, and if you get along with her even better. On to the pictures, totally out of line. to me, and please forgive me if i am wrong, but grandma seems to be a little overbearing here. I would nicely ask grandma and ex to respect your feelings right now and not throw things like that in your face. Explain to them you think its great that he has met someone and its working, but feelings are a little raw still when it comes to the breaking of your "family" and you would prefer to not see pictures of the new girl with your son. Explain to them that things like this take time, and it may not be on their time schedule you are talking, that it is totally on yours and they should not over step that whole thing.

yep I have.. an it's very hard.. When me and my ex(kayla's dad) first broke up, he ended up dating someone after 3 months and we were together for almost 7 yrs. It's very hard,but you will get passed that feeling eventually.

No I had not met her before this at all so it was kind of unexpected. I really do not mind him being her relationship wise however but really the pics of my son and her well then thats another story. Im planning on talking to them about it before my son goes over next time.

I wouldn't say anything to him about it. It would just let him know it bothers you and give him unnecessary attention. My ex brought his now ex girlfriend every time he picked up and dropped off his daughter. I hated it! She never said hi or introduced herself. It was really disrespectful, but they are going to do what they want to. If he is controlling I wouldn't give him that power. Just dont meet up or look at their pictures anymore.