Spirituality

Words: Louise Mazanti Over the last weeks and months I have felt a truth presenting itself strongly in my body, slowly forming in my mind with greater clarity: We need to completely rethink our relationship with ‘sex’! Sex is not something that can be boxed and labelled as ‘an activity’…

Our sexual energy is commonly also called erotic energy. The word erotic derives from the Greek god Eros. Eros was the god of love but it is the love of life that he celebrates. The word erotic has come to be reduced to meaning sexual but its true meaning is…

Sex is such a variety of activities, that the only thing they have in common is the energy that arises in us; the felt experience. As suggested, this energy can move from not being felt at all to a highly charged state. How does his happen? How do we create…

In helping us understand our sexual selves we need to understand the nature of desire. The basis of all desire is that most fundamental impulse to seek connection. I see this as a two-stage process and I could include in this not only desire for sex but also any type…

Have you ever wondered why it may be so hard to be happy? Why it can be so difficult to have a fulfilling relationship? It may be that part of the answer lies in our family history. Could it be that feelings of shame, insecurity or rage are inherited from…

All relationships are based on open and hidden dynamics. Part of why you are together is probably obvious to you – physical attraction, stability or excitement, making each other laugh and so on. Most people have some sense of what it is about the other person which is attractive to…

The majority of my work with women as a sex therapist is helping them give themselves permission to be the fully sexual beings that they naturally are. I believe that this is one of the most important pieces of work I can do with someone who has sexual issues and…

When it comes to sex, a lot of our thoughts, feelings and desires get edited out. So of what gets edited out is due to how we imagine our desires may be judged by others. We may feel uncomfortable in letting our partner know that we want to try something…

One of the most common questions I get asked is “how do you sustain a long-term relationship?” Today, I’d like to share with you one of my top tips for sustaining love and intimacy. It is something so subtle that it is easily missed. However, if we pay attention to…

If you have tendency to feign a headache tonight, you might ask yourself why. For some women it can be because life experiences have put them off sex – either they’ve learnt that “good girls don’t….” and they feel uncomfortable with their sexuality or they may have been unfortunate enough…