I can factually back that up, I got in a fight where I was knocked out and my nose broken when I was in high school and had to go to hospital. I kept getting a whiff of this odour every so often that was just evil even through my blocked up blood encrusted nostrils.

I even asked a number of people who were with me if they noticed it and everyone said they did not.

Got home went into the shower, took my pants of and a full load of mr whippy style poo like a good few logs worth had spread out to cover pretty much the entire top half of both legs with a sizable dollop still left in the underwear.

So to answer your question factually, yes if you smell shit everywhere you go then it is a good idea to check yourself.

Hey so this is gonna sound weird but your username is similar to a friend of mine's also named James who also quit Facebook (sorry snooped your account), so did you used to go to school in reading England

By boss is very creepy by way of how narcissistic he is. A few weeks ago, he went on vacation with his brother on he and his wife’s anniversary. To be clear, he didn’t bring her. It was a booze cruise. He came back with this story about how there was this chick just walking around the ship completely naked. He snapped some pictures as proof and showed them to everyone. usually his story involved “almost sleeping with her.” When asked “dude, what about your wife?” He would simply say “ you can go pretty far without cheating.”

On Valentine’s Day, he took a trip to Las Vegas by himself to golf.

He is always trying to get me and all of my coworkers to his house to have a BBQ, but the last time we were all there we had an awkward moment. His wife was telling a charming anecdote about how she was trying to take a candid picture of him but accidentally caught him with an ugly face. Then he screamed “YOU’RE UGLY” at her in front of everyone. You could tell that he didn’t see this as an overreaction.

I think this is me these days, at least with women. I'm a classic case of "Neville Longbottoming," where the dork grew up to be pretty attractive/successful. To anyone out there, it can 100% be learned.

People love to talk about themselves, be genuinely interested.

Don't give anyone a pass on their bullshit. Everyone knows when they're being an ass or being rude or trying to take advantage. They respect you more if you call them out rather than take it lying down because you want them to like you.

Make people feel special in some specific way. Let them feel like you've shared a part of your life with them that you haven't shared with anyone else.

Follow up teasing with a genuine, specific compliment.

Let awkward silences happen if they're going to happen. It's only awkward if you let it be, and if you just look at them expectingly they'll shoulder the blame for it right along with you. If you stammer to try to end it, it'll seem like you can't carry a conversation.

Finally, be completely honest in your intentions with people. Resentment and anger comes from feeling rejected 95% of the time. When people know where you're at upfront, they don't feel rejected when it happens the way you said it would.

That's really all it takes. The first is the most important by far. Ask people about themselves and you'll never have to worry about awkward silences. The second will keep you from getting run over. The third will help build much stronger connections. The final one helps ensure you're not leaving tiny train wrecks all around town with your social life and makes you a better person overall.

A lot of men are really manipulative when it comes to getting woman. I thought this was a high school thing that people grew out of eventually. Nope, those same people are still out there telling lies upon lies in order to get a woman to sleep with them. The relationship usually doesn't last long.

Oh, man, is that true. My girlfriend's brother in law is very charming. Everyone loves him. But he doesn't like me and he can be the biggest asshole in the world. He just doesn't show that side of himself to most people.

Yee. I think that personality type is considered pathological. Dangerous people lie somewhere within the Narcissist-Psychopath-Sociopath triangle. And they always operate the same way, charming up front, fucking insane weeks later.

I agree they start out charming, but there are almost ALWAYS signs of narcissism that rear their ugly head well before the deal is sealed. Those signs are usually downplayed, excuses made, and one tells themself it will all be better after the deal is sealed... but it’s not of course.

While this is totally true it pisses me off. I have depression but don't like it when I feel like my shitty feeling are someone else's burden so I try to be nice and charming, and honestly sometimes it even helps me feel a bit better but now I'm wondering if I come off too charming.... Fucking hell

There's a big difference. You aren't changing your attitude to manipulate people into getting your way. You're trying to be conscientious of other people's feelings. Your motivation is the key difference.

My cousin is currently going through this with her newish boyfriend. He lured her in with gifts and effectively isolated her from the rest of our family and she isn't disagreeing because she's "in luvv". Used to see her every week, now I haven't seen or talked to her in over 5 months. So many of us have tried to open her eyes to what's going on but she just doesn't see it. She's even considering moving across the country with him (he's trying to outrun an aggrivated assault charge). She has a kid which makes it even worse. I don't get how some women just completely change who they are with certain men.

Some times people change. Other times they hide it well until after the wedding. Other times it's such an abusive relationship that the partner thinks it's normal, or that no ome else could ever love them.

To be fair some people also think their asshole partners will change or 'grow up'.

They value their good qualities and view their bad qualities as a passing thing that's finite, temporary, and will even resolve itself in some situation rather than needing serious therapy or w.e else to fix.

And they repeat this mantra over and over. Good things happen? Gold star. Bad things happen? Itll pass. Rinse and repeat until either one of them completely fucking breaks or they die old and miserable.

Emotional abuse can really fuck the mind up. He had no qualms about insulting her and talks himself up, its really sad because she sounds sweet but its possible she (incorrectly) sees him as best she can get.

Confidence and charisma make up 90% of finding a partner. Attractive and well-off people who are riddled with insecurity can go years without a date while deeply flawed, schlubby, scummy people who move with confidence and speak with a silver tongue will get married three different times in the same time frame. Does the guy in OP’s story sound insecure or self-doubting to you?

Close call for me but it was all an act. He admitted to me I was his ‘project’. It’s really difficult if he’s faking in front of you and your friends and family don’t share their suspicions out of kindness or respect, but also because there’s no clear proof something might be wrong.

Some of these people are really good at hiding. Or telling the ‘right’ people. In case of OP’s story, would anyone tell his wife? I don’t think so. Nobody feels it’s their place to do such a thing.

I have a coworker that is 20 years older than me, almost 50. It’s pretty obvious he is not happy with his wife out of a purely physical standpoint. We work on a boat together and crew change happens at the end of a pier at the beach, many times he will talk about how cute the girls on the beach are, and it’s very close to the line of minors/not minors. He usually just makes comments and hopes me and the other guy will continue the conversation but we won’t. Sometime he goes far enough where I’ll ask how his wife is doing. He is a pervert and wants to talk about it and I won’t reciprocate.

EDIT: he also asked why a female coast guard inspector would care about a bunch of porn found on our boat (long before I got onto this crew) because “it’s a man’s world, women are just here because we’ve given them permission.”

As much as I can understand why you leave that alone...if you’re a guy, we really need you to speak up in times like this. It’s scary enough being a woman being like “fuck you”, because best case someone like that will be like “you’re a stupid woman, you don’t get it” and worst case they’ll attack you. So when a guy speaks up and is like “no man, you’re an ass”, they’ll take it more seriously.

I do agree with you, and if it was on of my friends who said something like that, I would absolutely speak up.

But for this guy, it really is no seeing from any other standpoint than his. He’s the most childish adult I’ve ever met, as soon as he gets challenged he either gets really angry or just breaks down and gets really silent.

If I thought he was a real threat, it might be something to discuss with him also. He behaves like an animal when it’s around us guys, but we went to a coworkers wedding and he brought his wife and her friend, Ive never seen him so docile. He was choosing his words very carefully around them and my wife, and his personality was completely different than on a normal workday.

Pretty easy perspective to have when the world isn't allowed to kick your ass 🙄. All we can do is be an example and not contribute. I'm not taking a fist to the jaw because some dude i don't kick it with is a misogynist. Especially when I'm not gonna change their mind about anything anyway. Not the hill I'm dying on.

Knew a guy in high school who was always the last one you would call to hang out, basically. But he lived right next to a couple people we knew and he had an area in his house we could hang out in and drink beer without being disturbed so a good amount of time, we would end up there. I never really understood why he was creepy until a friend told me they caught him groping a passed out friend of ours.

Years later, he was jailed for molesting his teenage step daughter.

Also, his bathroom was always completely covered in baby powder.

Edit: typo

Knew a guy in high school who was always the last one you would call to hang out, basically. But he lived right next to a couple people we knew and he had an area in his house we could hang out in and drink beer without being disturbed so a good amount of time, we would end up there. I never really understood why he was creepy until a friend told me they caught him grouping a passed out friend of ours.

My mother did the same. I would often get white stains on my fresh pair of trousers because they'd brush against the floor when putting them on. I also sometimes got them just by leaving my clothes on the side without putting a towel down first.

My mother's husband is an anti vaxer, homophobe, racist, climate change denier, anti semite, believes in the big lie, everything the media tells you is a lie. He's a snowflake, complete moron and my boss. The one thing he is not is a flat earther. I don't know if it makes it better or worse

Edit 3: also forgot: government allowing big buisness to put poisonous pesticides poisoning food (like all of it), big pharma shutting down herbal remedies to force people to use "chemicals medicine", and also withholding more effective medicine to keep people sick so they spend more money. Government spraying chemicals from planes to make people sick(that's why the trails stay in the air so long), the jews not only fabricated the holocaust but also started the war. The Jews are in control of the U.S. government.

Nah it's really awesome. We don't celebrate it! EU RO PA, EU RO PA!(chant as you would U S A) But it's part of the reason I chose to throw my own Christmas instead of celebrating it as family. As a single, childfree man in my early 20's.

They are miserable people. I guess they are happy together in their unique corupt way.

I asked my mother about him virtually being a Nazi (she is a bad person without believing any of the nonsense) and her defence was that he doesn't talk about it with her because she asked him to stop. The strategy doesn't work for me.

Yeah some things should be dealbreakers. I had to leave a discord group I was in for probably a year because one of the members was talking about how he wanted a Crusade in Europe against all the Muslims that were there. He was a walking Dunning-Kruger who got all his information from some Breitbart-esque website. It's a shame because I actually liked the group as a whole but none of the others seemed to think it was nearly as big of a problem as I did.

College drop out (really bad anxiety issues couldnt finish my last final project so i failed and anxiety kept me from trying again), with a lot of shitty jobs on his cv. Long story really it's kinda the best I can do for now. The money is alright, I quite like the job and the guys i work with show more interest and kindness to me than my family ever did. But the main reason is because I got into debt which was ok but then I lost my job and was unemployed for 2 month which made the debt not ok. He offered me a job. Works me like a dog, treats me like shit but I have a roof over my head and slowly pay ba k what I owe.

He believes in the holocaust but claims that “only” 2 million Jewish people were killed. As though that makes it more reasonable and people are just upset about nothing.

Strangely, he loves the African American and Jewish people he knows, but somehow has decided that all the non-white/Jewish people he meets are the exceptions to the rule but all the rest are bad.

My mother, who has a lot of patience and sees it as a mental illness as he is lovely to everyone he meets (and we’re pretty sure he’s undiagnosed BD or BPD), just keeps reminding him that she will not listen to him spew hatred based on lies. He listens to her but it keeps resurfacing.

So strange, he never uttered even a hint of prejudice around any of us for decades, not until Obama became president. It was a shock to the rest of the family, all of whom adore the Obamas.

Ahhhh, racists: it turns out they look like everyone else! I’m no longer shocked by finding out someone I (used to) like is a rapist or a bigot. It’s like, well yeah, someone is doing all this shit and its probably someone you know.

Sheesh, I guess I needed to get that off my chest.

Glad to know your racist isn’t also a flat earther, that’s just unforgivable;-)

I actually did. Well not that exactly but he believes that all sorts of food are poisoned and full of "chemicals" that cause cancer and give you autism. And that the government is spraying chemicals from planes. To poison people I guess?

Yeah, the first is more the Monsanto/GMO conspiracy, and the latter is chemtrails. Yeah, generally the belief is that the government/Illuminati is trying to sterilize the populous to try to bring the population down to manageable levels.

Source: Conspiracy Theory family. Generally these people are actually quite smart, but they want to believe they're some of the "few" who have the hidden knowledge. It's an ego centered elitist mindset, and it makes family gatherings predictable. Like a prewritten cycle of mutual mental masturbation, everyone getting off on how the uninformed sheep can't see the truth right in front of them 🤮🤮🤮

Wait, is the "Big Lie" he believes that the Jews/Allies were fabricating 'colossal untruths' or is it Hitler's "Big Lie" that the Jews were some secret cabal that controlled the world? I just confused myself so I'm just gonna assume he's a Nazi.

Im pretty Jewish and I've talked about the Jews fabricating the Holocaust, but that was in the same statement where I said the Moon was actually the lost city of Atlantis and that there was some Jewish Civil War between the 'purist' Jews who lived on the Moon and the progressive Jews who chose to stay on Earth.

Both. The Jews started the war the jews fabricated the holocaust, caused the 2008 recession etc, etc they (you, my merciful overlord pulling the strings in my life) are in charge of everything. He thinks they want to turn everyone into "goy" some sort of subserwant to jews?

I think "goy" is the singular form of "goyim" I was once told that it meant something along the lines of "cattle" but it apparently just means "nation."

As with all languages which use a different alphabet you have to be especially careful as often the literal translation(in this case "nation") isn't the actual meaning of the word or phrase. Goy/Goyim could mean any number of things like nation, ethnicity, country, or non-Jew(s).

If a Hasidic(Big hat, large black jacket) Jew calls you a Goy it's probably meant as an insult. Most regular Jews wouldn't say that and stick to normal insults.

Same. I don't even argue about it anymore. I just walk away when he starts up.

I'm not even mad, just amazed. Thank God he doesn't have the balls to do anything.

It is kind of amazing how used people in the family are to it, but honestly, it still gets on my nerves. His wife kind of does a: "Oh, he's a kind soul..." thing, which blows my mind. But your right, for all their talk they won't do anything, even though they like to make it seem like they would.

Oh no I challenge him on it pretty much every time but more and more it's I just think it's not worth my time. I'm a social sciences nerd, I got the evidence and knowlage to prove him wrong. But I'm "young and I'll think different when I'm older." And I'm indoctrinated by the school system and by the media.

Oh no I challenge him on it pretty much every time but more and more it's I just think it's not worth my time.

Yeah, I used to challenge him a lot, but I've known him for almost 10 years and it gets old. I'm not the best debater, but I've "won" a few of these discussions. He never agrees with me or my positions, but I think I've bruised his ego enough that he mostly talks about his crazy stuff to people that agree with him. He doesn't really directly engage me anymore, but I walk away when he brings up crazy stuff in a group conversation.

I'm a social sciences nerd, I got the evidence and knowlage to prove him wrong.

Man, I used to do this. I'd use my education and sources to attack his position. But I found that the good ol' Socratic method is the best thing to use. It keeps emotions down in the conversation, but most importantly it shows that they really have no clue what they are talking about. At least with my BIL, he believes he is a critical thinker but he really isn't. It depends on the topic but sometimes I'm surprised how easy it is to show that he has holes in his argument and to have him understand he has holes in his argument. They like to use the rhetoric that you mentioned like "your indoctrinated by the school system/media/etc." but once you get them out of that game they're a lot easier to deal with.

Snowflake. At least I think it's the attention. He is knowlegable in his trade, good at other stuff aswell but he lacks self awareness and can't take blame for anything. He is not stupid per se(e?)just lacks world experience and just wants to hate.

Nah, crippling anxiety and no confidence in getting a job. Don't really have anything on my resume to think I can get a better job. Just living the miserable life of having a shitty life and no opportunities.

My dad cheated on my mother when I was 10 and they got divorced. After the initial, anger, resentment etc faded away the only thing that confused me was that he didn't do it sooner. She is horrible, horrible person.

Let me start by saying he sounds like an asshole and kind of a bad person.

You ever consider finding another job? You are putting yourself in a strange position, you should never take handouts from someone you hate. When you work for "family" regardless of your contribution, a lot of the time the family member who gave you the job will feel like they are doing you a favor.

My co worker is one. Super nice guy and hard worker but he’s a little crazy.
Show up 100% proof that goes against his theory and he will say it’s all fake. Every single time. Show him a picture? Fake. Show him a video proving something? All the technology to prove that is made by the government and it’s all fake.
Unreal

They do. It only seems like they only exist online because it's not something they generally feel comfortable talking about in real life. They think the whole world is being deceived by this giant conspiracy because reasons, and that they are are the fucking Galileos of the world being persecuted for knowing the truth. So unless they feel safe talking about it they generally don't. And it's such an assumed thing that everyone understands this basic thing that it rarely just pops up in conversation.

I met one at a bar. His fundamental understanding of the world was incredibly wrong. He claimed that basic aspects of science, politics, etc. were false and used to manipulate people. His idea of reality was like a house built on a mudslide.

Not without a lot of hassle. I don't know the exact sequence of events, but I think he knocked her up then they got married. And she already has two kids from a previous marriage so I'm guessing she wanted to lock in a dad for her kids. I'm imagining the conversation didn't pop up until she was way too deep into it. We were getting drunk at celebration of life kinda thing and I quietly asked her how she deals with it.

There's a guys who literally has had a mental breakdown in a lab (college student) before over nothing. I'm talking screaming, grabbing tools for no reason, slamming his fists on the table. We've got some stuff organized in neat rows off to the side and he went over and just screwed it up, throwing stuff in the floor. He also oftentimes gets way too close for comfort, ignores boundaries, talks about some seriously worrying things. It seems like he has a lot of mental health problems, but he doesn't know and no one will tell him otherwise. I'm worried one day he'll just go too far.

It's a fairly small school, so it's kinda an issue and I think people are looking into it. Idk

There's a guys who literally has had a mental breakdown in a lab (college student) before over nothing. I'm talking screaming, grabbing tools for no reason, slamming his fists on the table. We some stuff organized in neat rows off to the side and he went over and just screwed it up, throwing stuff in the floor. He also oftentimes gets way too close for comfort, ignores boundaries, talks about some seriously worrying things. It seems like he has a lot of mental health problems, but he doesn't know and no one will tell him otherwise. I'm worried one day he'll just go too far.

There's a guys who literally has had a mental breakdown in a shop (mechanic) before over nothing. I'm talking screaming, grabbing tools for no reason, slamming his fists on the table. We've got some stuff organized in neat rows off to the side and he went over and just screwed it up, throwing stuff in the floor. He also oftentimes gets way too close for comfort, ignores boundaries, talks about some seriously worrying things. It seems like he has a lot of mental health problems, but he doesn't know and no one will tell him otherwise. I'm worried one day he'll just go too far.

It's a fairly small shop, so it's kinda an issue and I think people are looking into it. Idk

Asperghers is a very broad issue. Completely fine to say that for now. But there’s other things on top of that clearly. Talking about very worrying things is what would worry me. If what he might say is truly that disturbing, then someone needs to check him out pronto

I'm of the mind that every human should be measured during their school years many times for potential physical and mental health issues, in the same way that we're all measured for our vocational abilities.

It's basically just a space for art students to come and work on our stuff, kinda like a club but with professor oversight and advice. It gives freedom and space to work without a classes time constraint

The professor is trying to deal with it. He's not too stable so they don't want to just kick him out, so she's working on it. Plus he hasn't damaged equipment or actually harmed anyone, just messed stuff up and made people pretty uncomfortable, so it's not like he can be expelled or something. They know about it though

The times that I've had something like a mental break down it was nothing like this. It was inward destruction, nothing outward and even that terrified me. What are these worrying things he talks about?

I mean, the professor doesn't seem to care much, she's not too concerned with it and he doesn't come around when she's in there. It's not like a formal "get paid to work lab", it's more of a "come and work on your stuff" art lab. He always "apologizes" and says he won't do it again, but give it awhile and he'll be doing something again

I had a friend like this in college. We did an intervention. Turns out he’d been prescribed insane amounts of adderall or some similar medication since high school and the side effects were causing the outbursts and mood swings.

I’d never recommend this, but he took it upon himself to wean himself off the meds. He is now the kindest, most stable, best friend I’ve had. It wasn’t him. It was side effects of his medication.

That’s why we have school shooters. Handling these basket cases with care. They don’t handle anything with care, why do they deserve care? They need to be taught how to care. They need to be told in a very blunt manner that their behavior is not accepted in society.

Had something similar happening to a friend of mine in uni, he was a bit awkward but nice, he started hanging out with people pot heads and moved in with them, he was then smoking like 5 joints per day at least. During exam term he had a complete breakdown and got obsessed about concpiracies and saw number patterns everywhere, he was coming to class with a plastic bag containing caps from plastic bottles that had certain numbers in them, he thought the fbi was after him, he started getting violent when we tried to help him. We had to call his family and an ambulance... Was horrible.

Im pretty sure weed had something to do with it. But his friends didn't believe me that weed could trigger schizophrenia...

I hope people are keeping open minds and not just treating him like a maniac or specimen. Don’t some of these things line up with something like undiagnosed asperger’s or autism? My ex-girlfriend’s sister wasn’t formally diagnosed until her twenties when she started flying off the handle.

This is also good advice for jobs. You know the shitty, useless coworker no one likes? Well, he still has a job. That means you definitely won't be the first guy they axe next time layoffs come around.

I think you’re joking, but it sounds so much like what an asshole would really say that it makes me worried that an asshole is gonna see this and feel validated in having that as his real opinion, thus feeling permitted to do creepy shit like that.

No longer in that circle but I went downstairs to get something to munch on. Guy I didn’t know much came downstairs after me and said “came here to rape you, oops I meant talk to you hahahhahahahahhahahaha.” That creeped me out so I didn’t acknowledge him and he started saying that I’m rude and a bitch that I shouldn’t ignore him, that he’s a nice guy and just wanted to give me company. Friends came downstairs and some sides with him. I walked out.

But I would hope that normal humans would side with the "cornering someone and telling rape jokes is creepy" thought process that OP is describing. Especially when he follows it up with demanding attention.

If he started being a little bit loud it could seem like she was rude. He seems like the kind of dirtperson that manipulates those around him if he doesn't get it his way. Good on her for just leaving, not much else that can be done in a stupid situation like that.

You're right, fuck me for having interests in things. I can't believe I enjoy checks notes an entire medium of varied stories and participate in communities with similar interests to me, using jokes that have entered the mainstream from that community, and I really should be ashamed that other people who independently enjoy that same interest are weird.

I mean, it kinda sounded insulting when "super neckbeard" is the stereotype you jumped to because I used a meme. Sorry if I got overly defensive but in my neck of the woods people usually assume all anime is hentai and/or Pokemon so I'm touchy about it.

A friend's boyfriend. He truly believes the Matrix is a documentary, and is a complete conspiracy theorist. However, what really makes my skin crawl, is he'd previously dated another girl, who was a red head. He demands that my friend dye her hair a specific shade of red, and go by the same nickname as his ex. She and the ex have similar names think Laura and Lauren, he insists Lauren go by Lori. He's even purchased outfits based on things I know Laura used to wear. Friend has also mentioned that he's jokingly talked about poking holes in condoms to get her pregnant.

I'm creeped out by his desire to literally turn my friend in to a carbon copy of his ex and try to trap her into a pregnancy.

Many many times, even my husband has tried approaching her. We just get "You don't know him like I do! He gets me!" The denial is strong with that one.

She's always been insecure and was a late bloomer in the dating scene; didn't get her first boyfriend until her late 20s. He's fully taken advantage of that. Several of us in the group all agree he's bad news and creepy as hell; but we agree to stay by her side and hopefully provide a supportive place to land when she decides to end it. Honestly, that's all we can do.

Edit: at the very least, we did convince her to go on BC. So fingers crossed that will at least prevent a pregnancy.

Did you ever read the post on here about the guy who knew his sister-in-law was being abused, but also knew she'd never admit it?

He found one of her posts on social media (pretty sure it was reddit,) and followed her account. Then proceeded to gently encourage her to seek help from her family.

He would say things like, "I'm sure your sister and her husband would be happy to have you stay with them if you need a safe place to stay." And, "I bet your family will support you, no questions asked." Or, "it's not okay for someone who claims to love you to treat you that way."

It took a few months, but his encouragement finally sunk in, and she left her abusive husband to stay with her sister and brother in law.

He was able to stay anonymous through the whole process, so she was able to protect her pride.

You are so right and I so love these stories. I had to do something similar for my sister in law, and I legitimately feel like we (being my wife and I) saved her life. If not her ACTUAL life (which I do think plausible) certainly her emotional life.

Never hesitate to look for a way to help... it not overtly then something more subtle. It can help and you can truly change/save a life.
If anyone has a link to that story, shoot it over, I’d love to read that.

Being there for your friend is the best thing you can do. It took me years to realize I was in an abusive relationship. It was only through confiding in my sister that I gradually started realizing how bad it was as I admitted things aloud. She knew he was awful and has confessed that it killed her seeing how he treated me. But she also knew that I wasn't ready to hear the truth and it might damage our relationship. The best thing she did for me when I'd talk to her about a particularly bad incident was ask: "Do you want me to listen, or do you want my advice?" That approach was enormously helpful to me, because I was able to confide in her and eventually come to realize what I had become trapped in as my daily "normal." I am so grateful that she stuck by me all those years even when she wanted to punch my ex in the face.

Just to be devils advocate I hope they end up super happy together, raising awesome well adjusted kids who get scholarships and attend ivy league schools for free, and develop basically cures for cancer, then I hope they take the money the put away for their kids college and put it into a trust for them and use some remaining funds to travel the world and retire in a location of their choosing and being great grandparents.

This one speaks to me because I've been the Lauren in nearly the exact same situation. I didn't realize this type of thing could be common. Eventually I realized he was trying to turn me into his ex and dumped his ass. I hope your friend does too.

I DM for a couple groups of friends, and let’s just say there is 1 individual who is very touchy feely to my wife and 3 year old when he came over. He is not allowed over anymore. Luckily I sensed some bad juju right away and never allowed him to be alone with either of my family. The worst was during a session where he tried to rub my wife’s leg and she didn’t want to upset the table so she got up and left saying she needed to run an Errand she forgot. He was banished that very night.

I think I might be that guy in my social group; like all extraverts I enjoy being the centre of attention occasionally, however when I’m in a group and nobody is talking I have to fill the silence. I usually do this by trying to make people laugh (telling jokes, anecdotes or just being silly). This was okay and actually worked really well whilst I was a teen but I’m now in my mid twenties and I think it just pisses people off. I hate that I do it and tried to make a conscious effort to stop but I can’t!

I have the same issue with filling the silence. One of the things that helped me was counting to ten, or coming up with ten different things to say before I started talking. It helped me let other people join or rejoin the conversation, and when I was the one to break the silence it helped me have engaging things to say so people viewed it as me making conversation instead of interrupting.

I still struggle but now I feel like when I slip up, people are less annoyed.

I personally don't think that traid is as negative as perspected, I feel the same way. I'm often the guy that starts conversations during silent moments, tough I don't have the feeling yet that they dislike it.

Im introvert when im sober but extrovert when im drunk and I love to make ppl laugh and love to get a room going. But that extrovertness gives me the worst anxiety the day after. Like "i talked too much" "i was probably so annoying" and way too attention seeking.

I love who i am while drunk, like the selfesteem fits my persona and who I'd like to be but my low self esteem when I'm sober really punishes me.

Yeah I'm the same way. I've stopped drinking as much as I used to because watching my friends snapchat stories afterward would make me cringe hard. Even though everyone else is just as drunk and acting as funny as I was. I like my introverted self more and have been trying to be able to just have a small buzz and chat like a normal person lol. Ever since I've been regulating my drinking when out with friends, over noticed I have more interesting and meaningful conversations. Instead of being a drunk fool, I can have a heart to heart with some close friends and I feel so much better afterward. Every once in a blue moon though, it's fun to be a drunk fool lol.

As an introvert with this kind of person in my group, I'm just going to say that we don't care about the silence. We actually prefer it most times with my group. But that extrovert ALWAYS needs to ask us how are days are, how did test go, etc. It just ends up falling flat and feeling fake to me.

I’ve heard that from other folk that lean more introvert. I’m more extrovert, and at least in my anecdotal experience we don’t mean any conversation in a fake way. Socializing is human life, as small as the talk may be.

I understand the introvert POV, and I try to give space and not push to drag those friends out when I know they’re low on energy.

If an extrovert is trying to talk with an introvert, and the introvert doesn’t really converse, that when I find the conversation feels dead, and I can see that many people would take that lack of response as either rudeness, or that the person doesn’t like them.

I don’t get how that can be fake if the person is making an effort to ask you ? That’s how I am not necessarily with every silence but if there’s a prolonged period of inaction and I ask that question it shows that you’re caring for what the other person has to say

I don't think it's "creepy". It's just that when you constantly fill the silence, you take away people's ability to use silence to let a direction of conversation they aren't interested in talking about more die out. So, it can make conversations feel like beating a dead horse and make it hard to find a good transition.

Probably talking all the time, even when there's just a few moments silence. Sometimes when you're so focussed on filling the space, the quality of what you're saying will go down and down as you think of new things to say.

It's hard to tell without seeing it in person, but from what he's saying it's too much, despite having good intentions. If he was just putting in a bit of effort to normal conversation then it wouldnt be a problem.

Edit: Comma + plural "things"

Probably talking all the time, even when there's just a few moments silence. Sometimes when you're so focussed on filling the space the quality of what you're saying will go down and down as you think of new thing to say.

one of my best friends is like this. he just keeps posting random memes and videos he finds if no one in our group is talking. at least he doesn't get offended if no one watches them or asks about them, even. our group is aged around late 20's to early 30's.

Used to know one guy who fell in love with literally every girl he met. It was really awkward but we just sort of put up with it. Then one time he followed my Sister and a bunch of her friends on the way home, stared at her breasts the whole time and even got on their bus, which went way out of his way. Obviously she was uncomfortable and that was when we knew he was potentially dangerous so I told him to stay away. That was about 2 or 3 years ago, haven't spoken to him since. Although I did find out from someone else that he started dating someone underage, which adds to his creep factor

Not related to this story, but I had a female friend that could quickly become attracted to any male, good looking or not. She never wanted to fuck, she never wanted to have any sort of sex (she wasn't moved by this) but simply wanted some company/attention. Sometimes people just want attention, good type of it, but may do very bad and instead deliver the opposite effect..

I try to compliment strangers a lot. My reasoning is that if I thought something nice about them, and if it’s possible, why not tell them? I love it when strangers give me compliments so I figure others would do, too. I genuinely can't think of a time I've complimented someone and they didn't get a big smile and appreciate it. It's just nice to spread the love around ¯_(ツ)_/¯

There’s a guy in my grad program that does the same thing. He targets me and a few other women specifically and gives us “compliments” constantly. They’re always centered upon our looks. He often shouts them across the room at us. He’s also followed a few of us after class to our cars/bus stops. So inappropriate and so not flattering.

When I’m cold to him, some people try to call me out for being “mean”. Yet, if I were nice to him I would be “leading him on”. There’s really no winning.

Yeah, it can be. Some guys are just hella awkward about delivery and it’s less charisma and charm than it is full on uncomfortable. Especially when guys are younger and think somehow it’s going to magically work lol. I’d rather someone say “you look really nice today” than “you’re gorgeous” because it’s so embarrassing, especially in public. What am I supposed to say to that?

Oh I do that too! It’s nice to compliment people and I love having the opportunity to tell a man or woman if something they’re doing looks good. and I’ll gladly take someone telling me my outfit looks nice, or my hair, makeup, etc. it is friendly and can be slightly flirty. Someone coming up to me and staring at me and saying “you are gorgeous” is just a lot. I never know how to react and it just makes me feel weird and out of place. I’ll usually get flustered and mutter a thank you and then find a way to excuse myself from them.

I also feel like I immediately assume that person is kind of a douche, or fake, or arrogant. It’s just not the right foot to get off on imo.

Yeah that’s usually the answer, doesn’t mean I’m enjoying the bizarre encounter. It is still awkward and uncomfortable.

If I’m chatting with someone for a long time or flirting and they say it, fine. It’s another thing to completely drop it the moment they start talking to you. “Wow, you’re gorgeous” is way too much and usually puts people on edge lol. Like wtf just happened?

I do this but I'm female. Not sure if it matters though. I started doing it as an ice breaker because of social anxiety, i.e. 'say something nice!' I worry sometimes that it's really gotten away from me lol.

These days I've been doing my best to pick my friends carefully, so fortunately there aren't any creeps in my group.

However, in high school there was a guy I fucking hated. He was a complete creep, but usually couched it in humor well enough to hide it from people, and/or was just funny enough in other categories to get away with it. He once talked about how much he liked to walk through crowds at concerts grabbing women's butts as he went by because they couldn't tell it was him.

I'm terrified of crowds because I've been molested so often. They will often grab breasts, esp large ones, then blame it on you running into them if you say anything. It happens every time im in a crowd during a 'fun' event like concert, bar, etc. A butt grab is more common, I've had someone grab butt and breast and the same time blatantly then just walk away.

Last time I saw a concert all I could think about was trying not to make the girl in front of me feel uncomfortable, as we were in the front and I was being pushed up against her. The last thing I want to do is make someone feel uncomfortable and be labeled a creep.

This! I finally went to see my favorite band ever and when I made it to the front I was being grabbed constantly. My ass and boobs. I started sticking out my elbow to keep distance from the guy behind me who I’m pretty sure was the one. He got pissed and said to stop pushing and I said stop grabbing my ass then, he said he wasn’t and the whole crowd turned on me. Called me a bitch. I left all the way to the back crying. This all happened in the 5 minutes my bf left to go to the bathroom. Ruined the concert I had spent years looking forward to.

Ugh I agree. I went to a Green Day concert when I was 16 with a couple of girlfriends. We got "lucky" enough to somehow end up a couple feet away from the stage. People pushed so much you literally cannot take a step and the people by the rails would faint from the heat and pushing. A bunch of gross bodies rubbing up against yours. I got groped, I saw a guy lean his whole front part of his body against my friends entire backside, disgusting. I haven't been to anything that close to crowded since.

I'm a large man and have that experience in every mosh pit and just about every rock concert I've been at the stage for. I've lost count of number of times I've had my cock and balls grabbed let alone the number of old women who've grabbed my ass in passing.

I actually skipped a Journey show because I didn't want to put up with the cougars hunting.

This is a two way issue that everyone needs to address. I'd love to punch one of these women who's grabbed my balls in the face..... But I'd end up with an aggravated assault charge and they'd end up being made out to be the victim.

Jesus. People do it so much, you would think they sometimes get a positive response to touching people inappropriately. I know you can't protect your butt, but maybe wearing a jockstrap with a hard cup? Lol

You wouldn't. I've had my ass grabbed, my dick grabbed, arms, chest, etc. I'll admit that there is a double standard, I get wayyy more defensive when a dude does it rather than a chick, but that's because they're more physically imposing. No one is getting arrested tho, too big of crowds, too little security, it's dark, loud. You get the picture.

A friend of mine got his ass groped at a concert, since he has long hair, feminine hips and is short, from behind he can look like a girl. He turned to look at who groped him, the guy that did it noticed that my friend was a dude, turned red and walked away.

Waaay back in the day, went to a RUSH concert in Hampton, VA. Aside from the audience being totally hammered and tone deaf while trying to sing along, it was a great time... except, I noticed whenever a girl would walk by, guys would just reach out to cop a feel. One of my buddies was going to try his luck, but I told him if he touched anyone, he would walk back to school (I was the DD and school was 20+ miles away). I haven’t been to a concert since then because of the crowd’s conduct and terrible singing.

I'm not in that circle anymore, but I had a group of friends who I did martial arts tricking with. One of the guys was probably around 19, and he seemed a bit off, like he had trouble with social cues. Anytime we were at a gymnastics gym, he'd insert himself into groups of younger girls (probably in the 11-14 range) and attempt to show off and help them with techniques.

I never saw him get grabby or try to spot anyone, and it's not a bad thing to help people once in a while, but it seemed he always gravitated to the younger girls almost every session and it was a bit unsettling.

Yeah I personally wouldn't label him as pedophile so quick, he seemed really immature overall.

There was a time we were all in a park doing our kicks and flips and whatnot, and a guy walking around came over to us and told us he was really impressed with what we were doing, then he continued walking.

This guy was 5 feet away when the kid shouts "HE CAME ALL THE WAY OVER HERE TO SAY THAT? WHAT A WEIRDO!" causing all of us to glare at him and tell him to shut the fuck up.

Whenever I'm wrestling with girls I get really nervous whether I'm attracted to then or not. I'm generally not an aggressive sparrer, but I'm big and like to throw my weight around wrestling, but with girls I just can't be rough. Only when using swords and I have to pump myself up to do it. I'm always so nervous about appearing creepy and really trying not to be when practicing. I never got how people could stomach being so fucking schmarmy.

My Dad... Kissed my wife at my wedding (no, not on the cheek) claiming that it was due to Polish tradition... When he’s NEVER practiced any sort of Polish tradition, can’t cook any Polish dishes, etc... Had been accused of molesting both my sisters... Had my younger brother be his “bed buddy” and sleep in his bed with him on and off for 2-3 years when my parents split up... My Mom claims he forced her to have relations with dogs (he claims she wanted to, but I digress.)

The day he kissed my wife though I set some ground rules, we see each other MAYBE twice a year and has been told he will NEVER be alone with one of my kids because I simply don’t know if the allegations are true, and even if they aren’t... Having a child sleep in your bed with you because you’re sad (even going to such lengths as, I’ll let you off your grounding early if you be my bed buddy tonight or I’ll buy you this toy if you be my bed buddy tonight) is just wrong. Now if my Son has nightmares or goes through a phase of being afraid of the dark when he gets older, sure he can sleep in our room. But it’ll be because HE wants to, not I/My Wife/We want him to.

Believe me... Working on it... But it's so hard to cut a parent out of your life after being raised not to even talk back to them... The weight and guilt on your mind afterwards is insane. At least I can use his teachings as a "Parenting No-No" guide for raising my kid. ;)

My dude, is just cease communication. All of you collectively shut him out forever and never look back. That man is dangerous. I know he’s your father, but he is legitimacy threatening your family dynamic that you have worked to build.

Honestly, it's how I was raised... He was a Marine and didn't raise my siblings and I as a parent, he raised us as a Marine... With a very heavy hand and a penchant for using it. I can't tell you how often my brother and I got yelled at for having a differing opinion, and punished for voicing it because we were "disrespecting" a parent. While I am older now and understand that I wasn't disrespecting either parent, but rather disagreeing it is very hard to combat the 18 years of being conditioned to obey what a parent says. I have been out of my parent's house for 11 years now and am just to the point where I can tell him that he is wrong and correct him - Which then results in an argument where I exercise my right to hang up the phone. I have under one circumstance told him to leave my family alone and if he comes to my house I will call the cops, but after the first apology I have ever heard him give I gave him limited access to my family - Through the phone and when I choose to visit him which hasn't happened in over a year if that tells you how often it occurs.

Yeah, my brother and I have come to terms that we weren't raised to be Marines, Men or even self-aware individuals... We were raised to be followers and door mats, to do what we were told. But, we are both working on correcting all those years of incorrect parenting, it just takes time.

I can relate. I have said almost the exact same thing about my dad after hearing him try to justify his behavior with something like “well I made you strong didn’t I? That’s what all that was for.” No I’m not strong. I have suffered with depression and anxiety my entire life. I talk too quiet most of the time that people tel me I’m mumbling, I’m afraid of raising my voice even when it makes sense to do so. Looking people in the eyes is terrifying. if I disagree with someone I just listen to them rant and nod my head. You didn’t raise a strong son, dad, you handmade a walking taking human punching bag. Thanks

I can talk to people and can function quite well when needed, but if I'm around people I don't know I tend to sit back and observe and play along with a conversation. I also tend to avoid disagreements as in my past it has led to physical confrontation. But yeah... You basically hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately I'm sure we're not alone...

Edit: As far as the medical front goes, I have since been diagnosed with Bi-Polar Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and OCD... Fun times...

You should never feel obligated to be involved with someone just because they're related to you. Not saying to cut him out of your life completely, but it would be justified if he did. I mean, you don't want to have proof those allegations are true..

Me neither... That was a major contesting point of it and the very moment I started pushing him further from my life. I've never heard of ANY custom that warrants kissing a newly-wed bride or groom and probably for good reason.

I think I’m the psycho in the friend group. I’ve asked my friends if I creep them out and they always say things like “No, of course not!” and “Dude, you’re great lmao,” and “holy shit how’d you get in my house.”

I had a friend who once told me that she broke into my moms house looking for me one day when we were in high school. Apparently nobody was home at the time, and i guess my neighbors didn't notice this either. She'd climbed in through our kitchen window apparently.

The really over weight guy who was very quiet and snarky, only had ever slept with prostitutes. Later found out he had a mental break down and tried to kill his co-worker because he had a girlfriend and a nice life. Was gonna gourge his eyes out but he cops showed up so he tried to make it seem like a sex type thing by putting on the coworker’s clothes.

And by “I later found out” I mean he told me. Kinda stopped chilling with the group after that.

The really over weight guy who was very quiet and snarky, only had ever slept with prostitutes. Later found out he had a mental break down and tried to kill his co-worker because he had a girlfriend and a nice life. Was gonna gorge his eyes out but he cops showed up so he tried to make it seem like a sex type thing by putting on the coworker’s clothes.

We talked a lot. We both had been diagnosed with bipolar type 2 so he figured I got a lot of the shit he said. And yes those were the words he used. He’s openly proud of the fact he’s only slept with whores as well, treating them like an addiction, as a fix.

He was sent to the psych ward, now he shamelessly lives with his mom, collects disability and all his money goes to weed and eating out. But he’s convinced he’s a better person than the prostitutes he fucks. Real winner of a guy.

I’m a gay dude, nobody really knows unless I tell them as I’m a pretty run of the mill masculine guy. Most of my social circle is made up of similar straight guys, but one dude who is heavily closeted (despite having sex with me twice) and literally everyone knows it in this social circle.

The dude is weirdly obsessed with being touchy when we all drink, and when someone called him out on it (in a teasing way) he claimed he was just a huggy drunk. Thing was - he literally never gets huggy with our female friends.

On top of that, he’s always suggesting really thinly-veiled attempts at seeing some of us naked. Things like daring people to streak, always waiting to piss until someone else goes to piss, jokingly making comments about dick size, once or twice asked to see vids of our friends having sex. Lots of other small stuff that is included in all this, but you get the idea.

This has gotten to a point where a lot of the guys are starting to talk shit behind his back, and I don’t really know how to talk to him about it without pissing him off about being a closet case.

To be fair, I'm a "huggy drunk" with dudes but I'm also man enough to admit I'm basically a bro and I appreciate the subtle nuances of the bromance. The trying to see yall nekked stuff...yeah, he needs to do some self introspection.

No making out or eye contact, only trading blow jobs and then asking me to fuck him. Once he came he’d change his mind and say we should stop, I’d go back to my apartment or to my bedroom and jerk away the blue balls.

So, to answer your question, mediocre but unique since he was “””””””””straight””””””””””

I had a friend like this except he wasn't in the closet. He was new to our group and pretty normal at first, but we all eventually became better friends and he started getting comfortable. Very handsy when he got drunk and knew that we were all straight. It got to the point where he was pinching nipples and stuff like that. It made me so uncomfortable I couldn't even confront him I had to have another one of our friends do it. After their talk he was a lot less touchy but it was obvious he didn't like me very much for whatever reason. He was upset for a little bit but it didn't really damage our group.

I think that if you want to bring it up with him you should. There isn't really going to be a great way to do it unfortunately. His behavior is clearly inappropriate in the group based on how uncomfortable everyone sounds with the idea. I'd say there is a list of importance as to what needs to be brought up.
1. He needs to acknowledge his sexual interest in men, be he gay, bi, pan, whatever. That's clearly seems to be the clear motivator for the actions, at least as you tell it. The interest is perfectly fine and acceptable, and he needs to be able to accept that about himself and maybe be open about it with people.
2. The actions he takes based on those interests are highly inappropriate and make people uncomfortable. He needs to be told this, it will suck, but not knowing isn't going to help him change his behavior. Although his interest is acceptable, his actions aren't.
3. He needs to find a better outlet for his interests so that he isn't creeping on his friends and making everyone uncomfortable. I imagine if he finds a real outlet for these interests, he'll have an easier time restraining himself from creeping on his friends.

There's a guy in my friend's circle that watches gore videos for fun, and will definitely shove a video of a dog getting beaten to death down your throat, just to fuck with you. He also keeps repeating how he's gonna cut himself and that everyone else should do it too. He's also a really big self aware asshole. Angry mfker too. His girl humiliated him in a group chat thinking it was funny, and he dumped her there and then. Not only that, he threatened to punch her unrecognizable if he she was infront of him rn. What's weird is he's usually kinda awkward and innocent. Gets provoked and acts out. The circle is lowkey afraid of him though I believe he's harmless.

He once opened up a little about being a really weak kid and getting bullied when he was younger, so I think he maintain this edgy persona to deliberately creep people out or just to stand out maybe. But sometimes I wonder if this is taking over him. Had an exam today and he was real stressed. Wouldn't stop moving. Kept running his hands over his face and chest. Eyes bloodshot. Looked like he was in actual physical pain. Punched his own temple. Kept repeating how he's gonna kill himself if things don't work out. He jokes about suicide, self harm and depression so much no one really knows what to do with him cause he'll make you feel real dumb if you take his jokes seriously. I bet we'll see him next week, his usual intimidating self.

Showing people disgusting, upsetting videos and threatening to beat his girlfriend (well, ex) is not "harmless"

You just called him intimidating and unsettling. Why are you friends with this person? You all need to cut him out of your circle. He has serious issues and he actually could be dangerous in the future.

I don't really pay much though to what he says. It wouldn't be like him. He's actually a funny dude, also a straight A student. He himself said, "I'm all bark and no bite" I believe he gets frustrated with things and feels helpless, so talks shit.

He got dumped by this girl twice before for "religious reasons". But still treated him like they were together, when he made it obvious he wanted to be left alone. She also started talking to other guys. So I kinda feel like his frustration was justified. Plus, he said that on text. Pretty easy to say something when you're hiding behind a screen.

I'm kinda biased here, I consider him to be a good friend, I'm not offended or scared easily so it's easy for me to look past his weird shit. Plus, I'm sort of used to it atp.

:(
"joking"
i kinda recognize myself in what youre saying...
i did that type of shit at my lowest point.. an exam too (among other low points)
im pretty sure others must have thought i was pretty crazy too

shooting pain in my foreams, the need to punch myself (i did it on my leg, theres a nerve there, hurts like hell its "perfect"), terrible anxiety
i always forced myself to believe dying was stupid tho, even though i kept considering it.. and i ended up going to a therapist, which, really really helped me. (now im fine yay)
also
one of my best friends, kinda same deal

gets fucking scary violent when hes at his worst
he shouldnt hurt a fly, but yet.. punches his own temple, punches a hole through my table, tells us hes gonna kill himself, "nahhh im joking haha", "no im gonna kill myself", "nahhh lol", i take him on a walk, he cries in my arms, laughs maniacally, "nothing is real", "theres no point"...

hes also better now

idk what im trying to say

being self-aware is fun until you become aware that nothing is real and nothing matters and you could just kill yourself maybe

A boy aged 19, he keeps posting images of my uncle on social media with captions that he copy-pasted from the internet about love and spirituality and other stuff.

The weird thing is that my uncle is a totally normal guy, he is not a saint, he is just regular 57 year old grandfather who loves his children.

I have unfollowed this weirdo who posts images of my uncle on all media platforms except for WhatsApp. And today I accidentally opened his status, and lo and behold it's an image of my uncle reading some Quran, and of course there was a caption in that picture, I immediately deleted him from my contact list.

When I see his posts of my uncle, I cringe and get the feeling of disgust at the same time, I also get creeped out, damn, I actually lose my stupid mind over this stupidity.

I get baffled, like this dude is an immature childish and selfish idiot whom in no ways like my uncle.

Well,I don't know if my uncle knows, I told this guy more than once to stop his act and that it was really absurd. My cousins sometimes joke about him and tell him "who gets infatuated with a guy that's older than his own father?"

But either way, I don't see any of the people I mentioned nowadays, only on some occasions.

In high school one of my friends was kinda off. Not really creepy but you could tell something wasn’t quite right.

He had made fairly detailed plans to carry a shooting at our school. Had a list of names. Details (who was in which class at what time, etc.)

He thankfully got caught (parents find his notebook) before he could carry out any of it.

I’m honestly not really sure why we were friends. I kind of thought he was just blowing smoke about all of it, but a part of me hoped since we were friends I’d get a “don’t come to school” text if he actually did it.

Honestly, I was that guy who creeped people out for a while, it wasn't until I made a concious effort to be more attractive, connect with people better, know what no to to talk about, how to not stare awkwardly, keep a conversation, loose weight, dress nicer etc etc.

The moment I started dating a woman who was out of my league, and I was dating up, suddenly I was invited to more social gatherings, my female friends were more open and friendlier to me etc.

Listen, I do that shit subconsciously all the time and then shortly thereafter consciously realize what happened. Those conversations you already had that you rehearse with yourself in the shower are the worst.

Her: "I like your hair. The messy look is cute on you."

Me: (visibly frustrated) "It's so windy outside that trying to fix my hair in the morning is pointless."

Dating people hotter than you. People are laughing because he's acting like people can just "get" someone out of their league. An intrinsic part of someone being out of your league is them usually having better choices, which is why people usually end up with people roughly as attractive as them.

Got a friend who sometimes says things like "do you ever just want to follow a girl around, see where she is going?"

uhhh, no. I don't. that's called stalking.

he also sometimes tries to hit on girls but just doesn't say the right things. Instead of getting their number for a date or meet up later, he might ask something like "when do you get off work? you should go on a walk with me." I think he just doesn't get the threat women feel from those sort of things.

Maybe try helping him out a bit and find the right direction. I used to be socially clueless with girls. Lots of trial and error. Was able to figure it out eventually. Some good friends of mine really helped show me the way over the course of a few years.

There was this one guy we hung out with a few+ years ago who had this habit of un(consciously) backing people into corners when you talked to him. The first time I met him I swear we started talking in the middle, next to everyone else, and 10 minutes later I realize he's got me cornered. I didn't think much of it, but over time a lot of girls started commenting on how creepy and "rapey" he was. I guess he was cornering them too lol

There's this one kid who has the same lunch period as I do. For context, I'm I'm a high school freshman, this kid is a junior. And he knows I'm 14.

At the beginning of the school year, he gave off kinda weird vibes, but I decided to ignore it. Then I realized he was CONVINCED that one of my friends who did not go to the same middle school as this kid, DID go to the same school. Everyone in the group knew this was false (I went to one of the schools) but this kid wouldn't leave my friend alone!

A few months later, I was walking alone in a hallway before 1st hour started. This motherfucker approaches me and tries to start a conversation. I ignore him but he's only a few inches away from me so there's nothing I can really do. He then says I "inspire him to be more awesome." I continued to not say anything and he kept walking way too close to me until I got to the music department area thing and he was like "oh I can't go into the band hallway anymore" and turned a corner.

My 6th hour class is there because I have severe adhd and tend to have trouble getting work done because of executive dysfunction. The class doesn't really help me but they try. My 2nd day taking that class, that kid walks in and sat next to me with a chromebook. I put my earbuds in as an attempt to make him know not to talk to me. He's still hella close to me, and tried to have a conversation but I once again, ignored the bitch.

A few weeks ago at lunch, I was wearing my earbuds again and he asked me if I wanted to meet him at some meeting thing that's near my house, but not near the school. I used the excuse of "oh I have band" and that got him to fuck off for then. Several minutes later, I'm carrying a few handfuls of food, earbuds in, music blaring, and he asks me again. I repeat that I probably have band and he hasn't talked to me since.
Sometimes I see him look at me from across the cafeteria and it makes me SO UNCOMFORTABLE. Especially with me being 4"11 and him being like 5"10.

I'm going to continue to ignore him until he does another thing. One of my other friends said that once that kid pulled up another friend's shirt to see her chest, so maybe I'm getting weird vibes for a reason.

We have a guy that left our friend's group for a few years because his fiancee didn't allow him to hang out. He tries to guilt trip people into doing things (if we're drinking casually, he tries to get everyone to do shots), and he hits on all the girls in our group now that he is single.

He's just trying to remember who he was. I imagine the divorce has him pretty fucked up inside. He's probably not trying to be a creep, he's just trying to put a bandaid on the guilt he feels from walking away from friends. Maybe pull him aside and ask if everything is alright?

My roommate is not too good socially, I’ve known him for years so I kinda just put up with it but we’ve had a couple house parties and once I heard him drunkenly say to a girl “I’m sorry in advance for anything weird I might say or do” and I immediately saw her face change to total discomfort and she did her best to avoid him the rest of the night but he kept trying to hit on her.. he doesn’t seem to know when he’s shot himself in the foot..

What they didn't say is that there is still a nuance to this. There are ways to say "I'm sorry in advance for anything weird I might do" with a lesser chance (can't guarantee it won't happen) of the person becoming uncomfortable immediately. Something like "If i do anything to make you uncomfortable let me know, I won't be bothered and I'll do my best to stop". Still hella awkward, definitely still a chance they'll still immediately attempt to avoid you, but its a bit more on the side of "I mean no ill intent".

Yikes, sounds like something I would have said while drunk at 19. I assume other than awkward encounters like that your friend is a good person, so hopefully they can learn from a mistake like this and grow!

That's what we're thinking. We obviously don't care if he's gay. We're just wondering why it's a big deal. I think it's because he thinks his parents would not like him. But why would we tell his parents? Idek.

It usually stems from a corrupted thought pattern brought on by the way he was raised, there's a good chance he personally believes its wrong to be gay and hates himself for being that way, rather than actually caring what other people think (although that's most likely part of it)

I'm probably that guy with some people just as a product of being quiet and an introvert.

My freshman year of college, one of my roommates had a girl on speakerphone from the next dorm over and invited her and her group of friends over to hang out. The girl responded "But JLynn943 will be there...." I lived in a room with 3 other guys, and all 3 of my roommates and I knew what she meant. They tried to play it off, but I knew. I felt really awful after that. It's one of those things you try to forget, but it creeps back up every now and again.

Your boys should have told her "yes he will be, thats fine though, invitation retracted".

Your boys should have your back, unless its genuinely your fault. Maybe ask em if youre putting out any "off" vibes. If youre not, fuck those skanks anyways. If you ARE, then work on it and try not to take it personally.

I feel for you. I've always had the feeling that I'm that guy at work (I work at a small company where most of the people are pretty close), though nothing like what you described has happened to me yet.

There's a narsacistic 19 year old I work with that is probably the most infuriating individual I've had the displeasure of working with that comes to mind. He creeps me out because so much of his personality relies on metaphorical dick measuring, guns/gun culture, and his 17 year old girlfriend. If their relationship ends I'm convinced that someone is going to end up dead; I'm just unsure whether that's going to be him, her, or their coworkers.

Sometimes my buddy Chris will cross the line. He once bought a girl a rare brand of Potato Chips and when she asked how he knew they were her favorite he responded “I noticed them in your Trash Can in your room” she didnt respond and did that side eye thing and ended up leaving. Fukn Chris bro, also he comments on Girl’s feet. No doubt dude has a fetish.

There's a fine line. My freshman year of high school there was a girl in my friend group who's birthday was the same as my dads (and my cats). I knew this because it was on her facebook. I made mention that her birthday was coming up and what day it was, she was pretty weirded out by it. I even told her "I only know it because that's the same as my dads, and my cats and its on your facebook" (This was the days where myspace was dying).

A few years ago I was working in the backroom of a Walmart. There was a girl who worked the frozen/dairy section, and would frequently chat with most of us on the unloading crew. There was one day I asked what days she usually worked, just to make conversation. Shortly after, she happened to come into work on a day she said she didn't usually work. I exclaimed "What are you doing here, you don't usually work Mondays?". She was confused and asked how I knew that. When I told her "Oh, you had told me just the other week that you don't work mondays". Her response was "Aw, thats so sweet that you remembered", I was actually a little confused by that, but eh.

My guess is that if you haven't been told a personal detail directly, or it isn't something that is pretty apparent, its probably going to be considered creepy if you bring it up. I think if "Chris" had been able to truthfully say "I've seen you eating these chips before" it probably would have been a lot less creepy than, "I saw something in your trash can". One sounds like a passive observation, the other is "Why the fuck were you paying so much attention to my trash?". Its incredibly easy to accidentally partake in creepy behaviors.

Minus the feet thing, he has the same social problem that I do. The fine line of ‘Wording things so they aren’t creepy’. Noticed the bag the trash last time you are over? Just say that you thought you remember that person liking the brand.

I don't talk much at work (benefits of being an engineer) but there's this one old fucker who is the creepiest old guy I've ever met. Bald, hunched over as fuck, slow walker, the whole gambit. Seriously, he's so creepy. A few months ago one of my previous coworkers was a few days from retirement, and creepy old guy walks over to my coworker's desk and says "I heard you're retiring! Gosh, that's great, I'm going to miss that beautiful smile of yours, it lights up my world." Keep in mind creepy old guy is married, my old coworker is a quiet, timid Asian man who speaks broken English and never really talked to anyone. I never saw the two of them interact in person before that moment.

He loves giving very awkward, creepy compliments to people too. Old creepy guy is also very handsy with literally everyone he says hello to. He'll aggressively grab someone's shoulders/traps and start massaging them. He doesn't discriminate either, he targets men and women of all ages, shapes/sizes, and ethnic backgrounds. Luckily he hasn't touched me or talked to me yet. I'm just waiting for it to happen because I'm the youngest and biggest guy in the office so I'm prime target for a creepy (seemingly bisexual) old guy to harass.

He'll aggressively grab someone's shoulders/traps and start massaging them. He doesn't discriminate either, he targets men and women of all ages, shapes/sizes, and ethnic backgrounds.

I knew someone who would do that. In every other way he was a normal dude, no creepy red flags except that, as a sales person, he did have a little of the "I'm showing you a fabricated face" kind of inauthentic vibe, but this guy knew how to turn that off.

Anyway, he did it to me once, I didn't hear him coming and I tensed way up, and he immediately took his hands away and said "Woah, you're really tense!" I replied "Yeah, I'm not used to people touching me." He apologized and never did it again.

He’s seeking tactile input. He needs weekly massage (yes a real massage I have to say sternly) to fulfill that or maybe a weighted blanket. It’s creepy but remember not everyone is lucky enough to have someone in their life for compassionate touch

Wait a minute I’m on reddit, this is all just bullshit and here I was trying to be a therapist

Yeah, I definitely have been involved in "locker room talk" when we're shooting the shit in the warehouse, but this guy is just constant and nonstop sex talk. When he brought up pussy regarding the trash smell, I just thought, "that smell is so revolting, how did your head go to sex?" It was possibly the least sexy smell I could imagine

My best friend’s on again/off again (thank god, currently off) boyfriend. I know from her that he is basically a malignant narcissist in private, but even in public he frightening. Holding a conversation with him is like watching someone trying to act out a script of being a normal human. Like none of the words are wrong but the affect is just...

My husband is normally socially oblivious, but after meeting the guy hubs immediately told me “That psychopath is not allowed to know where we live.” I didn’t even poison the well with some of the bad behavior, boyfriend is just that obviously off that my husband picked up on the creep factor after a single dinner that was pleasant enough on the surface.

It’s hard to explain, because there is literally nothing he says that’s wrong. It’s the way he says it. Almost like he’s been watching YouTube videos of “normal people” and rehearsing the responses. There is a bit of an uncanny valley effect and I don’t mean to be hyperbolic, but if you’ve ever been out in the woods with a predator (like a mountain lion) nearby, it’s the same sort of feeling.

The maître d’ stops by to say hello to McDermott, then notices we don’t have our complimentary Bellinis, and runs off before any of us can stop him. I’m not sure how McDermott knows Alain so well—maybe Cecelia?—and it slightly pisses me off but I decide to even up the score a little bit by showing everyone my new business card. I pull it out of my gazelleskin wallet (Barney’s, $850) and slap it on the table, waiting for reactions.

I have a dude (straight) in my social circle who makes everyone uncomfortable, even other male friends.
Everyone just blows it off, like oh that's just how so-and-so is. And jokes about it.

I told him off basically one day and he got pissed off at me and hasn't talked to me since. I asked him to stop hitting on all my friends or at least tone it down a bit, and that he was making them uncomfortable.
He took it as, I was just being jealous. And responded by saying, if they are uncomfortable they should just tell him stop themselves. I tried to explain not everyone is comfortable doing that, or even that assertive to be able to stand up for themselves.

He also does shit like grope my male gay friends, under the impression that they are male and gay, they should like any kind of physical attention from another man.

One time at a party I had a low cut tank top on underneath a hoodie, he sat down beside me and unzipped my hoodie 'to see what logo was on my tank top'. I almost flashed the party from him doing that, my boobs were pretty exposed but I thought because I had a zipped up hoodie to cover my top.

He's just known as the creepy friend of the bunch, and it probably won't ever change. Even if his behaviour does change, he'll still always be known as the creepy dude.
You don't want to be that guy.

He's just known as the creepy friend of the bunch, and it probably won't ever change. Even if he behaviour does change, it'll be what he always been known for.

Have a friend from my gamer group that talks to twitch streamers like they’re his closest friends. Also found out later he donates hundreds of dollars to girl streamers and jacks off to them while they’re streaming. 🤨

Agreed, and that goes for ANY pundit. I have particularly disdainful feelings about Shapiro and his ilk, but anyone who can't shut up about a political personality for an hour isn't living a life that allows them to adequately connect with their fellow humans.

Not current but my freshman year of college there was a guy whose hand accidentally bumped into my ass while walking around the grocery store and the first thing out of his mouth was "I'm kinda jealous of your boyfriend now".

No "oops my bad" or "I'm sorry". Honestly saying nothing would have been better.

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Not current but my freshman year of college there was a guy who hand accidentally bumped into my ass while walking around the grocery store and the first thing out of his mouth was "I'm kinda jealous of your boyfriend now".

Dudes...if there's a creepy dude in your social circle who's a potential danger to women or other men, its your responsibility to friend check them and tell them what's up. Don't just let egregious shit slide simply because they're "a nice guy."

with the knowledge you've been given, you are now on the inside of what I like to call... "the Byrnes family circle of trust." I keep nothing from you, you keep nothing from me... and round and round we go.

had a guy in my high school friend group. whenever we went to any of our friends' houses, he'd always awkwardly say that he had to take a phone call and then disappear for 45min - 1hour. one day his phone was connected to the bluetooth speaker that we were using for music. during his disappearance (into the bathroom), the audio briefly switched to that of what seemed to be an amateur sex tape, and then shut off (he disconnected). he came back without an explanation, and we never mentioned it again.

Hes been trying to date me for the past 5 years. Every time i told him no. I was kinda into this other guy in the group and we cuddled while watching a movie drunk with the rest of the(drunk) group - the creep left in the middle and sent me a long ass message about still wanting to date me. He then found and looked through my reddit and told me about posts he saw (i blocked him thank god). Everytime we hang out/he sends a message in the group chat i just get extremely angry because of his past actions... i think only one friend from that group knows how weird and creepy he is.

I may be misunderstanding what you mean by blocked, but I believe you can only block someone from contacting you, not browsing your posts. If you're using the same posting name he knows there is nothing that would stop him from just creating a new account or browsing it without logging in.
Sorry if I've misunderstood but I felt it was worth bringing up just incase.

So 6 years ago I dated a guy for almost a year. He had a friend who didnt seem to like me. Actually my ex turned out to be a major jerk,and the friend was actually okay. In the past 6 years, him and I only hung out like once..

I moved across the country a few months ago. Before I left he wanted to come hang. We did. Nothing weird happened and we did have fun.

He constantly tags me in cat memes. Every day. I do love my cats..but like... dude,we aren't really that close at all? He also loves all the things I post. Not just like, loves. I dont think he has a crush on me. He has a girlfriend who I have met and they are very much in love. Idk why his love for me creeps me out. Haha. Am I being a total bitch?

Edit:some of my friends have mentioned hes obsessed with me because they notice what he does on facebook too.

A guy I work with is always quiet. Another guy never shuts the fuck up. Loudmouth guy likes to playfully talk shit to people. Everyone knows he’s just being a jackass and we all play along. Quiet guy was working diligently on something, and loudmouth guy kept picking at him. Quiet guy just got quieter and quieter until finally he just looked at him calmly and said “If you don’t shut the fuck up, I will rip the eyes out of your face and then fuck the holes.” Then turned back to his work. Loudmouth guy would normally have a quick comeback and keep the laugh going. Not this time. He didn’t say a word. He just quietly mumbled “sorry, man.” and didn’t say anything else.

It took one glance and one sentence to let everyone in the room know that quiet guy is not to be fucked with. He’s a super nice guy, he’s just not someone to keep pestering. Not unless you want to be blinded and skull-fucked.

Have a mate who says some weird stuff. The best example of this was when he was trip sitting a few of us on mushrooms and during our peak he asked one of us "bro, do you reckon you'd be able to get naked and get a hard on in front of the boys". That comment changed the vibe for a minute before our brains went somewhere else.

He isn't currently in my friend group, but was in highschool. He was extremely sexually frustrated and angry that girls didn't want to go out with him, so he ended up driving away any girls that wanted to be friends or just hang out with others in the group. This guy would constantly talk about sex in great detail to the point where nobody would talk anymore and just look around awkwardly, then get mad at everyone for making it weird.

The final blow for this friendship was during a gap year before college where most of our circle had gone off to school and only a few of us stayed back a year to work. He hung out with me alone and insisted that I had to take his virginity or I wasn't a good friend and I was setting him up to go to school with no experience and ruining any future relationships he may have. I was also in a three year relationship at the time, so that was a big fat no.

One of my "friends" who is way too into anime, I mean this dude is INTO anime. In High School he always tried to get me to watch all this different anime that I didn't want to, he gave me a stack of them and told me he would quiz me on them by the end of the weekend. Like, dude, no. He was always the pushy one too, always had to have things be his way, he crossdressed for a while until he found his current girlfriend, and hoo boy. I thought *he* was weird.

My oldest friend never grew up. He always acted like he was 12 and tell the same stories that we thought were funny as a kid but aren’t in adulthood. Everyone always asked who was that weird guy. Ended up raping 2 underage girls and went to prison.

I have a male friend-of-a-friend who decides he's in love with every new single girl that appears in our lives. Coworkers, acquaintances, people's sisters and cousins, anybody seems to be fair game. It wouldn't be all that bad if he just expressed honest, polite interest in going on dates with the women he found attractive, but he goes always overboard with the feelings, talking about them to his friends for weeks ahead of time and reading into every little thing they'll say or do. He truly seems to think he's destined to be with every woman, and once he's asked them out and they say no, he continues to make it weird. I asked him once if he realizes that he's built up a reputation for asking out or professing feelings for everyone he meets and he didn't seem to care.

The thing is, he's very dorky and not physically foreboding, so as far as I know, none of these women has found him creepy or frightening, but I think it's just a matter of time. I find his pattern of behavior creepy because he just seems to be inserting every woman into his fantasy and he never learns anything from the rejection. Every woman just goes from a stranger to a literal goddess to irrelevant in his mind.

I feel you brother, one minute you're at your nest waiting for your bird to return with food and then the couple next to you loses an egg. Before you can stop yourself, you say "looks like omelettes are on the menu!" Not a good look but it makes some people squawk.

This guy who hit on my new girlfriend while I was on a business trip in Europe, then spent two years third wheeling us and taking photos of my gf and I (secretly) whenever we kissed, THEN proceeded to call me an asshole in front of the whole school for not inviting him to a party.

This may seem more douchebag the creepy, but here’s a description
-trench coat
-purple three piece suit
-leather briefcase carrying his gaming computer
-bright red New Balance sneakers
And to top it all off,
-fedora

In high school in our circle of friends we had this one kid who was very loud and obnoxious. After high school when we’d all keep in touch and continue to hang out but he was never there, we all soon came to the conclusion that no one liked him and everyone thought he was someone else’s friend which is why he was tolerated.

I actually found out that I got ghosted (deleted as a facebook friend) by a guy who used to be my best friend. We haven't been close for a couple of years, and I'm one of the last people from our mutual friend group to maintain contact. I have a firm belief that (speaking as a man) your 20s are all about making the mistakes that force you to become the man you need to be. I dont like to judge anyone too harshly for living life they way they want to, but he's....let's say that quite a few people I know find him to be a hard person to respect. If anyone cares, I can elucidate on that.

The final straw for me was when he decided that in order to be happy, truly happy, he needed an open marriage. He and his wife have been together for 12 years, and have two kids, and I guess after all that time, he sort of...wasnt feeling the mojo...ok, well...lots of people make open marriages work, and if that's what he wants...well...his relationship with his wife is his call. The caveat: he is worried that if his wife meets someone, she might leave him, so...only he is allowed to meet, date, and sleep with other people. I told him that I thought it was a terribly selfish, immature, and creepy thing to do, but it was his call. Soon after, he caused a bunch of drama by making a pass at his wife's (married) best friend. the It didnt go well, and she decided to cut contact with him/them. He called me one night raving about how he didn't understand why she wasnt interested, and how he could show her that it could work if they wanted it to...

I said some slightly supportive stuff and haven't spoken to him since. I sort of feel bad about it, but I was really getting a creepy vibe from him, and just didnt want to get anymore involved.

The guy who used to touch my ass when we would be drinking. He only stopped when I called him out on it and he said he didn't realize he was doing it. I don't directly invite him to anything I host anymore but he still shows up.

follows me closely, to the point he has stepped on my heel numerous times

stares. All. The. Time. I don’t think he knows where to put his eyes, which I understand, but it can be unsettling, especially when:

stares at my tits and just cannot tear his eyes away

makes random noises at his desk (we work together)

terrible posture, black trench coat, terrible shoes (I feel horrible for saying this, because each of these things are not creepy on its own, but when combined with the other characteristics, the overall effect is just 😬). Men, if you sit up straight and have one nice pair of shoes, you’ll be surprised at the difference it can make.

lots of comments about what I’m wearing/how I look. (Again, this depends on the person and situation, but I don’t appreciate this in the work place, I’m not his friend, there’s no reason for him to talk about how I look... I think he’s trying to connect but doesn’t quite understand that it’s inappropriate for the situation.)

constant interjection of himself into conversations that have nothing to do with him/were not addressed to him. He pops up out of nowhere and is always listening...

Yes I call him out on things occasionally. Yes I understand he might be on the spectrum, or have some sort of social anxiety disorder, though he has never said that to me. I try my best to be understanding, but sometimes I do snap at him. I just can’t help it, he creeps me out 🤷🏻‍♀️

Edit: oh fuck this is askmen. Sorry. Apparently I needed to vent 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm sorry, not to be rude or anything but how do you specifically go to a subreddit called askmen, scroll down several questions meant for other men, read through several answers and still not notice?
I genuinely don't understand how that's possible. And you're not even the first, u/pianolexcat also did the exact same thing, apparently by accident as well?

Got a friend who will say "I'd put it in her butt" whenever he sees a cute girl. I've had multiple friends who are girls who have expressed to me that they don't feel comfortable around him because of his crude commentary. I feel bad but like bro you're 23, you should know better.

He’s not creepy per say, but he is definitely the weird person in the group.

He’s quite obviously uncomfortable with himself in terms of how he looks, so he compensates by being overly friendly and it comes off as being a bit strange, especially when it comes to talking to women. He doesn’t buy clothes that fit him, so we can basically always see his high ankles, belly, lower back, etc., and this is just due to a lack of self awareness. The main issue is that whenever we discuss something, he will google that thing instantly so that it either disproves something someone else said, or proves his point right, which just makes it impossible to talk to him about anything, and it puts people off pretty quickly. He’s a nice guy, and we love him, but he just doesn’t know how to interact with people in a non awkward way.

Ok, I've grown into myself after college, a marriage (and a divorce), and with the advent of a good career that his really socialized me. But, in high school, I am certain I was a creep and what memories I have really make me cringe with regret. A few cathartic highlights...

1) never wore underwear

2) would openly sleep in class if I could, right in front of people, even with those I called consistent friends at lunch

3) never brought lunch with me to school and begged for finger food

4) wrote really awkward and irrelevant articles for the school newspaper criticizing popular culture

5) read the neceronomicon

6) brought the necronomicon to school

7) talked about satanic spells during that phase

8) dressed really weird, wore make-up once (the worst)

9) claimed to be a misfit who was picked on by others, but in fact legit bullied at least one kid I remember (sorry Dan, you were just a nice kid)

10) super creepy with the girls I crushed on, definitely remember trying to guilt a girl into breaking up with her boyfriend (without realizing that's what I was doing)

11) awkward hugs

12) wrote essays on loneliness for English class peer review

13) spread rumors I was OCD and couldn't step on cracks

14) openly used drugs, bragged about it.

I truly regret how I behaved in high school. I was really depressed and had a lot of anger that I didn't overcome until I was older. This behavior, suffice it to say, out me in friendships with the worst influences and this was a vicious cycle.Things changed when I met my eventual wife, in college when I had a whole new social network and no one knew me, and when I got into counseling for drug abuse. More than anything I was judgmental ....one day a counselor told me that about things I was saying and it was a really revelatory moment.

Not really in my social circle, but exists in my social bubble (i.e. my dorm).

A kid we've nicknamed jingles (we don't know his real name).

He walks very quickly up and down the halls and tosses his keys up and down in the air (Hence "jingles"). He does this while taking really long, animated steps. He walks with terrible posture, sort of hunched over and head pushed out forward.

To add to that, he has just a really creepy demeanor around him when he's standing still. He has an absent minded smile like a person who's not all there and his face is generally unkempt. He has longish sorta dirty looking hair and an unkempt beard.

He wears jeans that end about an inch above the top of his shoes and always has his 8th-grade-science-fair style shirt tucked in and a belt on.

Other people who have seen him around always think he's creepy as well. Maybe it's just how he fits exactly 0 conventions of other people our age, but for sure the fast-pacing up and down the halls while throwing your keys and whistling is creepy. You'll just be walking to a room and BAM here he comes around the corner, he'll either stop and wait for you to pass or bump into you and turn and look you in the eye and say sorry.

Well creep is a strong word for him but when I first started dating my now husband one of his friends kept making shitty remarks like "omg youre dating this guy" and "why him" sorta stuff. My husband was drunk on screwdrivers and like the kindest man alive so he didnt even register what he said. Buuut I did. I told my husband after a few weeks and while he wasnt bothered I stilll cant take the guy seriously anymore. I got the vibes he was either hitting on me or putting my husband down and both of those creep me out.

Thinking you are hot shit is creepy when you still live in your dads basement.

I have a group of friends from elementary school. One of the guys has never really grown up. He lived with his mom till his late-30's and is socially awkward. We're all married and deep into our respective careers and he's struggling with an endless string of entry level helpdesk jobs (despite a Masters) and with no prospects for marriage. He gives all our wives the creeps so we have a tendency to not invite him to our group social functions. He's never come out and said it, but (we think) he's basically looking for a replacement for his mother (do all housework)/sex slave and he's having a hard time realizing that those type of girls don't really exist.

You could try to learn about reading body language, and then use what you learn (there’s books and stuff out there) and then gauge people’s reactions to what you say/do and learn what’s socially acceptable in your group and what’s not

I have one friend who is 36 but pretty much exclusively dates girls who are like 20-24. We have always thought it was weird, and it’s only gotten weirder as he’s gotten older. We will go get brunch or hang out and he will bring a girl who is in college to hang out, it’s awkward as hell.

Why would you have someone in your social circle that creeps you out? I guess if it's a friend of a friend who's there sometimes or something, but why would you willingly hang out with people you don't like?

Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a well-calibrated creep-detector, nor is everyone confident enough to cast out people that make them uncomfortable. A lot of people get gaslit into thinking their discomfort is their fault.

In both romantic and platonic relationships, there are a LOT of people who would rather have shitty or creepy friends or partners than none.

so I don’t directly interact with him anymore,but he’s in the outer rings of my social circle. This guy who I for a while, thought I was friends with, until the one time we hung out alone, he kept talking about how my boyfriend was ‘SO COOL for /letting/ me hang out with guys’ and then went on and on and on about how he just REALLY REALLY REALLY wants a Blowjob and I would say ‘sorry to hear that I guess?’ and he’d go on and on about how he just really really really wanted to facefuck /someone/ right now, while looking me dead in the eyes. I had to kick him out because It skeeved me the fuck out. all my good friends stood with me about it, but some people are starting to forgive him and hang out with him again and it really nauseates me to be around him, even in groups. he Knew how uncomfortable he was making me, he did it intentionally.

tldr:ex-friend implied that my boyfriend owns me, then proceeded to sexually harass me until I had to forcefully kick him out.

So this bro of mine he's too good at conducting searches and research.. on people and their social medias...

Like he's capable of staying up until the a.m. 'researching' for girls he finds on instagram/Facebook and almost 95% of the time he's never met or seen these girls in person he'll just keep going any going and it doesn't seem to phase him that is borderline social media stalking.

From time to time he'll send me photos of women I've never seen or have no idea of whilst raving about them every time and I just act indifferent to it because he knows I'm not one to entertain such things

As a guy I get there are some truly gorgeous women and girls online but reality is most if not all of it is scripted and without meeting these people you're allowing yourself to be fixated on infatuation creeps in too

I feel like I’m kinda the creepy kid at school ,I usually keep to myself because of my depression and really bad anxiety but sometimes I’ll let something slip and I’m pretty sure people can sense my happiness is a facade but all they can tell is I’m acting fake and it unnerves them I wish I could talk and act like myself but it’s been so long since I’ve truly felt happy :(

I have a friend who will basically do anything to get access to girls phones. He will phish them for iCloud passwords, either via email or texting from burner numbers. If they leave their android phone, he will connect it via USB to his laptop and suck down all the data.

He creates fake tinder profiles and matches with girls he knows IRL, usually who work at the same place he does, and befriends them, then gets them to send nudes and videos etc. They will come to work and proclaim they are dating this attractive dude who’s a doctor, and he will listen to them, knowing full well it’s him messaging them.

He is in his late 30s and has a cute and loyal wife, and a couple kids.

In one of my circles there's a guy that I know to be a complete fake. He does a very good job of presenting himself as this trustworthy respectable dude but when two of our mutual friends had issues he avoided them and told.me he didn't want to get involved whilst still telling other people he was there for them if they needed his help. I was close to his girlfriend for a while and she's recently broken up with him, she looks muuuch happier now.

In another group I discovered one of our friends was a paedophile.

In another group a former friend told me how his girlfriend was the one he'd always wanted, how they met a decade before they got together and were always just missing out on eachother like ships in the night until they finally told eachother how they felt. A few weeks later his 5 year old son told her about the other woman that comes over to make daddy happy. Creep.

And in another, former, social circle there's a guy that dated my ex girlfriend after me. He used to go through her phone, computer, mail, cupboards trying to find proof that she was still seeing me. Then he wrote his initials in four foot high letters on the hallway outside her apartment. Then he tried to jump me in the street and take my phone, that didn't end well for him.
A few weeks later they broke up, a lot of that group of friends blamed me entirely and said he could possibly be at fault because he's such a nice guy. Idiots.

Dude who frequently pokes/touches a girl in a friend group I recently left, she has a bf and talks about how this dude constantly looks at certain body parts of her extremely undiscreetly. Idk, maybe just a series of coincidences/exaggerations but something about him is just... offputting

Not creepy only since I’ve known him for a while but the last time we were tripping on mushrooms we all took our metaphorical masks off. He told us about how he has no sympathy for other humans and he has a strong urge to kill. He’s never killed any small animals or anything like that but he says that when he sees a hurt person he just doesn’t feel anything. So that’s a little weird

A guy in our ciique has pedophile characteristics and we all dont know if it will become worse nor how to approach. It started with anime and hentai and I think everyone of us might have watched a hentai once but he never stopped and got some kind of desire for these younger girls. He dated his first girl that was 13 or 14 when he was already 18 if not even 19 already. He wanted to go really slow on her and not to push anything but as it seemed she wanted the total opposite and she dumped him. Years went by and he started fucking girls that arent that young but still underage. He is now 22 and sometimes he travels for 3 hours to meet a cute looking 16 yo young girl to fuck. All he has to say is that itd be a challenge for him to dig up younger girls but he never dated a girl in his age although he is very athletic looking. Women in his age are often disgusted by him, especially when he is drunk in a club. When he goes to the club, he prefers to go "o16 parties". Thats parties in the club for teenagers above 16 that can legally dance and drink beer until 0:00 or so.

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All that wouldnt be such a big deal I think if he hadnt these psycho moments where he seems to fall in a role of someone who tries to get the control over you. He tries to force you to do stuff in a very creepy way. It first starts by being nice "come on i need you", then he becomes very accusing "dont you wanna help your friend" "i mean i know you gotta do stuff but you should help out your friend today, dont you?" and after that he starts getting aggressive and saying the most creepy things ever. He tried to force someone to continue drinking (because he didnt want to go downtown and he thought by getting him drunk hed come with him) by saying stuff like "you wont get out of here if you dont drink. dont worry i promise you this. you wont get past me if you wanna go home". often he switches between the moods.

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we know that he needs a therapist but there is nothing we could do. telling him to get one wont work. we tried to highlight his creepy behavior and we think he knows that the has some problems with his affection for younger girls but he reached a point where he doesnt give a shit about it.

Back in college that guy was a friend who had no shame when talking to girls. A lack of shame is not inerantly a bad thing, but he pushed things too far and couldn't take a hint. Constantly created uncomfortable situations for girls. Lot's of, "Hey man lets go talk to them" "No we don't know th.." "Hey what's up ladies"

This one guy. He is by far the most narcissistic person I have ever met.

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It's his way or the highway with everything. He does not take input very well. He is the type of guy that says the rudest most obnoxious things but phrases it as a joke and says "If I wasn't teasing you, it means I don't like you" but really it's just an excuse to be an asshole. He is a toucher so he's always touching shoulders or arms even when you don't want him to be. He will happily go on spouting all kinds of "knowledge" about stuff he has no actual knowledge on. Very few people can stand him and he cannot understand that it's because he is an creepy asshole.

There's an Indian dude who's really nice, but he's unusually touchy with me, and he told me over Instagram that he fell in love with me, and it made me really uncomfortable bc we barely know each other and he doesn't use deodorant so now I avoid him like the plague.

For a while my group knew this guy 2hos real name I won't say, but Mr. MOO is what most called him and that nick name is EARNED folks. Not that he has a history with cows or anything, but a name so ridiculous fit such a ridiculous man. So very long story as short as it can be.
After high school and drinking my way out of community college, I decided a needed a change and just moved to new olreans. I moved around a bit more and amidst one of these moves I temporarily left a van with everything I owned in it down in new Orleans for two weeks while I visited the north. I think I was moving back up north but my sister was also moving her cats down to a place she had been living down south. I'm sorry theres so much back story to this. My best friend had become a pretty successful dealer while I was away and had some interesting "new friends".
So my sister and I are all packed, in the north, ready to leave at 6 am to drive to new Orleans. And my best friend comes over with some dude to see us off. There we meet this guy Moo. He stood in our door way with high woods socks, flip flops, a patterned hippie shirt, and one of those Irish hats. Seemed normal enough for us and once he heard we were headed to New Orleans, his first and only question was "you guys have an extra seat?". We end up taking this guy and two cats to new Orleans. Shit got weird pretty fast, I cant claim innocence here because I was doing free lance tattoos to save money to get home but this guy had no real concept of boundries or danger to any degree.
While in new Orleans this kid is meeting "new friends" going to go pick pounds of mushrooms and well get profits and what not. I'm now just going to rifle some of these off for times sake.

I saw mr. Moo make a mix drink of melted coolpop juice, taaka vodka(crack head vodka), and a drink he found from the night before.

I once saw mr. Moo just get out of the car at 65 mph on a highway, grabs the door and the roof to "skate on the street".

I once saw Mr. Moo, scream in a gas station when I just "dropped a Bango in ya mothas Onion" throwing a spoon onto the floor.

I knew a guy in high school who legitimately believed every girl was in love with him. He believed it so fully that he would tell people about how these girls would follow him.

The thing is, this guy was about the ugliest dude I've ever seen, and he only felt the super attractive, very popular girls were into him.

I once saw him burn his own arm with a cigarette. When the gym teacher saw it and asked what happened, he told him that his girlfriend had caught him with another girl, and burned him in retaliation.

He openly told people he was dating one of the prettiest girls in our school. People would ask, and he would tell them, even if she was standing right there and denying it the whole time. He would play it off like it was a joke between the two of them.

He would constantly talk to himself, and sometimes punch random things.

Looking at it as an adult with a medical background, it's obviously an untreated mental illness. Back then I just thought he was weird.

A group of us at work have become close. One guy who is a part of this group is very intelligent but there is something a little off about him. He also clearly has a drinking problem. One day, some coworkers, myself, plus him go out and he gets belligerently drunk and starts shouting gang names around a hip hop crowd. We are all uncomfortable and walk away from him. Next day, we confront him about how uncomfortable and dangerous that situation was, and he sends a recording of the convo to try to defend himself.

1) the recording only proved we were right.

2) why the hell were you recording us???

He said it was an accident but everyone is a little creeped out. Fast forward about a month, someone discovered his phone is tethered to the network at work and some of us are able to see media on his phone. He has dozens on recordings of people, some VERY disturbing and inappropriate recordings.

He doesn't know the phone is tethered and I'm not telling him, but it's really creepy he does this....

There's this guy who I have quite a few mutual friends with and apparently some shit went down and now everyone sees him different. I'm basically summarizing someone else's story, but it still changed how I view this guy.

Apparently a bunch of people in the friend group threw a big party at someone's house outside of town. I'm friends with a lot of stoners and partiers, and apparently pretty much everyone in the house was on LSD. I'm not exactly sure how it escalated to this point, but the one dude starts screaming and throwing shit. He punched holes in some walls and broke a door; started threatening to hurt people. The owner of the house was pretty scared/pissed and they eventually had to call the cops, which no one wanted to do because they're pretty much all tripping and no one was sober. Dude gets taken away in a cop car and I'm not sure where they took him, but whenever I see him at a party, it's a little awkward.

Friend's (thankfully now) ex-boyfriend. Really bad drunk (like borderline alcoholic, sloppy, mean etc), came out as a 9/11-truther near the end, and always wanted to "coach" the single people in the circle on how to make a move on people in the bar, usually pretty sleazy tips when he was like that.

There is a guy in my circle who is generally nice, but when he gets really drunk, he gets sexist and homophobic. This only really happens when he gets black out drunk, and he apologizes and claims not to remember afterwards, but it makes me uncomfortable, especially the homophobic comments because i’m a closeted bisexual (he is not aware of this)

My new co worker. Second time meeting him, and he wants a hug. Fucking idiot. He is 37 years old, and is wildly inappropriate. Of course, he is up for a promotion. American corporate: just be an inappropriate, overly jokey asshat that touches female co workers. You will go far. Just look at Drumpf.

Late to the party but F it. I creep myself out! I know I am a bodge of issues but when the atmosphere is rigth, I feel like I am watching a movie of myself performing a super extroverted, fond of myself, half jerk, half cool who can have amazing lines of thouth but poor judgement. I kind of see it happen as I am unable to stop it in time. The worst part is that there doesn't even need to be alcohol involved... just a specific atmosphere.

I guess this pertains to my family more than anything since it’s an in-law. But he’s just socially awkward around everyone. We’ve known each other for a good 15 years, see each other at family functions regularly. I just can’t keep a conversation going with him since it takes him forever to just say what he wants to say. He also tells the worst jokes in the world that no one ever laughs at. I do feel bad for him because he is of another ethnicity and doesn’t speak our language (I am terrible at speaking but can generally understand it).

The worst part is he is really creepy towards all the females in the family. Like he goes out of his way to greet any of my female cousins, but will straight up ignore me if I’m arriving to a family party. When my cousins and I first met him, we were in elementary/middle school. But he would always take candid photos of girl cousins. He would try to be slick about it but you could always tell he was trying to get these photos at odd angles. I guess I would be fine with it if we actually saw the photos he took, but til this day I can’t say I’ve seen any photos he’s taken. Makes me wonder...

When I lived in GA, my wife and I were part of a group of people that met on a meetup group. It was mainly couples and a few single guys and girls. One of the guys was kinda creepy to some of the women in the group, but they generally tolerated him because he didn't do anything strange enough to kick him out of the group. Eventually he became an issue saying creepy things to certain girls and he was removed from the circle of friends and we all agreed that he would not be invited or included in any get togethers. About 2 months later I saw his photo in a newspaper focused on arrests. He was sending dick pics to an undercover Georgia state policeman who he thought was a 12 year old girl. Best (worst) part, he was a cop.

I mean there's nothing suuuper weird but we've got a vid of him screaming in a super low voice outside with like 20-30 people around him, he stuck a fry in his ass and is generally just an unwashed wehraboo

I'm not really part of that social circle anymore, but there were two really creepy guys on my previous group of male friends. We were all married, our wives knew each other, some of them already had kids growing together, and both of them still acted like if they were in highschool.

one of them used to take creepshots of women every time he could, and fucking everywhere. and of course, he thought it was cool to share that with us in the chat group. The guy was really sick. The most fucked up photo he sent us was some elaborate under-the-skirt shot he managed to setup in a meeting with his daughter's pre-school teacher.

The other creepy fucker constantly sent porn, and he was the one that encouraged the other idiot to take the creepshots. He used to get super defensive when the rest of us tried to discourage their shitty behaviors. A friend of the group straight up told him that he was really uncomfortable receiving those pictures on his phone, he didn't want any part of it and he was really close to report it to the police.

What did the second creeper did? he drunk called him at 2 in the morning one of the following days threatening him to "fuck him up beyond recognition" if he told anyone about what was happening in the chat.

That second guy also cheated on his wife and the "side chick" was menacing him to tell his wife about it, and he paid some thugs to scare the girl off. They beat her up and wrecked her car.

This was some years ago, and I still regret never reporting any of them to the authorities... the background of "good friendship" before all that shit started made everything complicated. I just slowly ghosted that guys "as a group", but I still see some of the "good ones" regularly.

One of my housemates is the most standoffish person I've ever met. He will never acknowledge your presence when you walk into the same room. Never, not even with a nod, unless you specifically greet him. I dislike small talk myself, but even I find it offputting how aloof he is. Even when something urgently needs to be communicated about (like, say, a burglary), he will usually write a long text about it rather than communicate about it face to face. I don't even think it's depression or mental health-related at all, because he does have friends. He just seems to detest everyone else in the house.

David, not friends anymore. He was massively overweight, stank of shit and BO, stalked all the girls in the group on facebook. He had written an erotic fan fiction about them as well. He made sexist and racist comments and thought that because he needed crutches to walk no one could say shit to hit. After 6th form we all called him out and cut all contact with the guy. We would of done it at 6th form but the teachers made us include him at lunch and in class etc...

An good friend of mine is a pretty special dude if you catch my meaning. He's a bit like that edgy kid everybody knows from high school but in a good way if that's possible.

He sure as hell has an undiagnosed mental disorder of some sort. I'm pretty sure it's Schizophrenia because he told me a couple of times now how he sees an black, smoke like creature with glowing red eyes and an deep raspy voice. Sometimes it speaks to him "normally" sometimes it yells at him and other times it's just there looking at him or just being "present".
He also told me that he had paranoia attacks in the past. I mean Paranoia and Hallucinations are both main symptoms of Schizophrenia I believe.

Otherwise he's an pretty chill bro guy that's maybe a bit too much of an weapons fanatic.
But since I'm pretty fond of an good M1 garand or an good ol' Kar98k myself it doesn't bother me at all.
But yeah dude creeped me out a little at first but I got used to it pretty fast.

Friend of a friend always has to loudly announce who he wants to fuck wherever we go. We were at the bar and he announced he wanted to fuck the bartender into Swiss cheese, took a long while for us to get drinks from her for the rest of the night. There’s guy talk but he goes 10 steps past that imo.

One dude in my social circle is really handsy with women, shows them porn on his phone when it wasn't asked for, and his girlfriend often tries to copy the SOs of the other dudes in the group. There was a whole summer where she dressed and even did her make up exactly like that of someone else's SO, and we have a feeling this is something he has asked her to do rather than her just suddenly liking someone else's style.

I (used to) have a friend who I’ll call D just for privacy reasons, and this guy was an absolute freak by the end of our friendship.

I had known D since elementary school, as we grew close together among some others due to our similar interests in reading and basic nerdy stuff. He was rather normal during these years, albeit a bit more contrarian than most in a way where he would go out of his way to not do something because everyone else did it. The kind of kid to wear a t-shirt in the freezing cold just to prove this point.

Middle school comes around, and the majority of our small group of friends had outgrown our outcast-like personalities and followed our interests in healthy ways, without isolation. But D, on the other hand, begun his decline pretty damn hard. It’s a stereotype at this point, but he truly was becoming something akin to a “Neckbeard”. I didn’t see it at first, as it was just normal things... an interest in anime, lack of bodily care, concentration on technology over most things.

But as we entered into high school, things truly began to go awful with D. It seemed as if he had completely given up on all motivation in living as a decent human and having some resemblance of a positive member of general society. He would talk about nothing but anime, openly boast about his interests in hentai (Even having some as the background of his phone, showing it off just to wig people out), wear what seemed to be the same damn clothes every other day (Pikachu hat, Attack on Titan jacket, dragon shirt, some necklace). He also became incredibly hateful and insulting towards anyone, including myself, who had stuck with him since elementary school despite his growing flaws. I held my hand out to help him, and improve his mental state, but he responded with spreading lies about me and acting as hateful as he could towards me. It seemed that he didn’t want help, really, and he considered his flaws as a central part of his personality. The whole thing was a horror story, and he’s kinda become a running joke with my friends. I don’t talk about it much, out of some respect, but it’s hard to retain that even now.

I have countless other horror stories that involve this guy, ones that sound like they’re straight from a comedy skit.

He doesn't "creep" any of us out per se... But he definitely doesn't fit in, knows it, and intentionally goes out of his way to point it out often. Which is just weird if anything.

He also very much likes to experiment with all the drugs, some at the same time, has been in the hospital for some domestic stuff as well as mental psyche evals, he's tried to kill himself too. This dude is like 50 different shades of crazy. Why do we keep him around? 2 reasons I suppose... First, he's the younger brother of one of the other members of the group and he's explained to us that his brother has his problems for sure but we only keep him around on 2 different Saturdays a month... Which leads to the next reason... The second reason being that we're probably the only form of stability in his life that he has and he kinda needs it. If it weren't for us we're positive that he'd either be dead in a ditch somewhere or going out and doing much worse shit to other people, potentially doing a lot more harm.

While I'd like to believe that's true, and it probably is, I still can't help but feel like our friend group would benefit from him not being there and this weird dude would benefit from either being behind bars or inside a padded room, one of the two. He definitely needs help, just not the kind that we can give him.

This one guy in my social group, who really isn't in it? He looks like Randall Weems from Recess, and he is friends with my best friends abusive ex. No one talks to him and he's been hanging around us for WEEKS.

Normally, when you join a new friend group, you usually try to observe and learn how to "join in and be like them", right? Like I said, he's been around us for WEEKS and hasn't even tried to learn out behaviors, it's always insulting us and our likes or making bad jokes.

Now to the creepy part, he fucking checks me out ALL THE TIME. He barely tries to hide it, he just looks me up and down, all the fucking time.

Theres an individual in our extended friend group who we are all pretty sure has Histrionic Personality Disorder. He lies constantly and will just pretty much mirror everything everyone says. Gives me the creeps.

My best friends fiancé has this guy that he works with that we hung out with on New Years. We were all pretty hammered and he was cute and fun while we were out and long story short we ended up hooking up. Fast forward to the next morning and everyone is hungover and we have to drive him back to his car. This is when I realized he’s so damn annoying. I’m talking will not shut the fuck up even after I looked him dead in the eyes and said “please stop talking my head hurts and you’re not helping”. He just laughed and kept going. I wanted to strangle him. On top of all this he’s a face talker. Like one of those people who gets up really close to you to talk, almost like he’s breathing into your mouth with every word. He’s not a bad guy by any means but he’s annoying and the things he says are just cringe af. Definitely one of my more regrettable hookups but yeah we don’t really hang out with him as much anymore

I am a sort of a sociopath, I send gore and shit I find on 4chan into our group chat. I either don't talk at all for a couple days or I talk too much and I become boring.
They think I'm just joking, because that isn't how I act in school. But little do they know, how I usually act in school is basically a character I made to normiefy myself to not creep people out and I'm acting like me when I'm with them.

One of my best buddies growing up seemed pretty normal to me. But for some reason he always gave off a weird vibe to women. No one could ever pinpoint exactly what it was, not even my wife. They just said that he was weird.

My friend group is on the more touchy feely side, but there's this one dude who just acts plain weird. He has had crushes on multiple girls within the group, switches them around relatively often, confessed to them multiple times (despite them not liking him), and still acts very cuddly on top of that. In addition, he acts as edgy as a 12 year old boy who's diagnosed himself with depression. He most likely is depressed, but the way he handles is terrible, and hurts others in the friend group. When we all hang out, he's either on his laptop or on his phone, and he always cries late at night, and won't tell anyone else why, despite clearly needing help. He's also just a giant dick sometimes, especially to kids. Overall, it's just strange to me that everyone tolerates him the way he is.

When I married Ted [Cruz], we got back from our honeymoon, and he went off to the store and came home by himself. And I was completely shocked to see that he arrived back at our apartment with literally 100 cans of Campbell’s Chunky soup. I never bought 100 of anything. This was shocking to me, so we had a tough conversation about it. I said, “You don’t buy 100 of anything, much less canned soup. We can’t do this. I’ll be making things.” He said, “No, I know you. you won’t be making things.” So the next morning, it was a weekend morning, I loaded up our car before he woke up and returned every single can. And when I got home, I called my mother just to make sure I’d done the right thing as a newlywed. And she emphatically disagreed with me. And so when Ted opened the pantry, I had to quickly tell him that I would go back and buy those cans again.

There’s this one guy who has a lot of animals, nothing weird there, but what is weird is how the only thing he talks about are his ants. That I can deal with, but when he started staring at random girls in our social group, and eventually followed one of them home.

We had this one guy who would somehow always end up at our parties and in our group outings even when the person who put together the outing, usually me, purposefully didnt invite him. All the women in our group did not want him there because he crept or stalked them one way or another. Most recent examples were he tried to creep on my good friend's fiance to get her to break it off and date him but writing her shitty poetry and saying her fiance wasn't a "real man" and tried to hit on my current girlfriend numerous times in the past and getting denied every time. That and he believes he is superior to all the other guys in our friend groups in one way or another while not being able to hold a job for more than a month or 2 and i believe last i heard, his parents took the car they bought for him away from him. He's also around 26-27.

He's my friends buddy, I still don't know why but in highschool he was kicked out of his home at age 16 for no reason (according to my friend and him). So my friend's mom, being the kind lady she is, takes him in. Over the next several years he posts a ton of stuff on FB how handouts are ridiculous, people should get jobs and work themselves out of troubles, social security is a scam and welfare users are trash etc etc etc. He never sees the ironyn despite his claims of being a kind Christian.

But this isn't really creepy behavior is it? Well now that you've had a taste of "that" guy lets dive in! Fast forward to opening night of Force Awakens. For most of the group this is the first time we have gotten to see eachother in months due to work, school, life and we are all catching up and introducing friends to new significant others and just being happy in general. Well last to show up is "that" guy but he does with a girl and we all greet him and I politely smile and say good to see ya.

He then introduces us to the girl he came with, which caught my gf off guard cuz she looks like a pre teen (we are all mid to late 20 somethings) and turns out she is of questionable age. She was 18, but only just and clearly she was incredibly immature. And it just got weird from there. He couldn't understand why my friend's gf was giving him a hard time dating such a young girl when clearly they had little in common. The girl hadn't even graduated high school and they left pretty quick cuz he felt attacked.

Now lets time hop a few months. My buddy moves in with his gf and "that" guy is upset because he can't move in with them. So he moves in with my friend's ex and her husband. I should mention that "that" guy always had a creepy crush on her (he saved a bunch of pics of her and cropped my friend out kind of creepy). Don't know the full details of this next story but basically the ex's husband caught him snooping around her room one day when he thought they were gone. Somehow he still lives there with them.

My group has since drifted apart due to life, age, maturity, etc., but from the ages of 13-25 we were all inseparable. There was one member who was always a bit off, older than the rest of us, drop out, and obviously a little slower on the uptick. None of this bothered us, we accepted him regardless, but some of the things he says/said still stick with me.

I haven’t seen him in a couple years but the past 4-5 times I’ve run into him was in the Walmart toy section. He’s looking at toys for himself and I would be looking for pool toys for the pool I used to run. Every time you talk to him, he references a conspiracy theory and talks about what he heard from “them” or “they.” He never tells you who “they” are, even when you ask. It’s really bizarre.

I’m 31 now and he’s gotta be around 36-38. He randomly sends me dms on Instagram from time to time but it’s always something really creepy or offputting. Creepy masks or horror footage, weapons, articles on related subjects, clown videos, etc.. I stopped responding. It weirds me out.

The dude is the angry, socially awkward white dude everyone warns about. He can't talk to girls and when he gets angry he puts holes in the drywall. Multiple female friends have said to me that he makes them uncomfortable.

It's actually used by women as "eww a guy IM NOT ATTRACTED TO hit on me, and wouldn't take no for an answer and made me afraid" but you're so cool and edgy for discarding a real problem like harrasment as just an overdramatized mild annoyance.

That would be me. I (jokingly) flirt with everyone. Girl or guy (straight guy). There's also the very dark jokes I can make while talking about anything, and the fact that I can't take anything seriously and joke about everything. I guess I like to make people laugh, even though I dislike being the center of attention, but the reason I do it might be that I don't want others to feel the emptiness inside me.

My brother's getting married in three weeks. His new family? Frankly the whole fucking clan of them freak me out. Churchgoers, first off (which, in Britain in the 21st century, is fucking barbaric), but also the men are soldiers/police. Take a salary to help in the subjugation, bombing and occupation of sovereign countries? Take a salary to maintain inequality here, at the end of the age of capitalism? Fuck you.

What are you gonna do? His soon-to-be wife is a bully, too. I can't think where she gets it...

Why are men being "creeped" out by other men in their social circles? Are we 12? Never been creeped out but definitely noticed the extra weird guy who maybe has no idea he is sending all the wrong signals to men around him.

As a guy, I find it offputting when other guys try to start conversations with me over text. Only one of my friends is guilty of this and it makes me uncomfortable every time. I like talking and hanging out with him In person, but long, one on one conversations over text are a no-go for me.

His worst fear is getting old without a gf/wife, so he's at the club every single weekend for like the last 3 years. He started working as a promoter and loves to be "that guy" that everyone knows, shakes hands with everyone and tries to use his "connections" to get with young girls. Also if you're trying to have a conversation with him, and a girl shows up, you're instantly viewed as an obstacle or distraction from the girl.

Another guy is a douche just as much as he is creepy. He thinks he's so important and witty cause he manages high school kids (age 16+) and loves to creep on them. He posts on IG with the sole goal of trying to get as much likes as possible and posts pics that make him look as important and as "cool" as possible. He also has the corniest jokes that he thinks are so hilarious that girls will have to fall for him. It gives me second hand embarrassment and I'm ashamed to bring him around.

Just one, but I eliminated him from my social circle in October. He always creeped me out, but I found out last year that he'd been accused of date raping a woman with another full on accusing him of rape. That was more than I needed to sever ties entirely.

In terms of why he always creeped me out, he was always weird around women. Would walk up behind them and smell their hair, was very pushy, etc. I put up with it because I thought he was a decent friend otherwise, and I explained it away as just him being drunk. Also no one ever told him to fuck off, but I was young and naive to swipe it to the side. In actuality he was an entirely self serving narcissistic predator, and I made a mistake to overlook these things.

To everyone else in this thread, if there's someone in your social circle and you think they're a creep. Get ahead of it. Don't let it fester before it blows up. Creeps depend on complacent / complicit friends to get what they want. I regret being naive to it in my late teens / early 20s.

When someone shows you their true face, regardless of the state they're in, believe it.

There was a guy who was in my friend group about ten years ago. Some of my other friends knew him from college. I always got a weird vibe from him, like he was the kind of guy that tries too hard to be likable. But whatever, not a big deal.

When we were hanging out early on he told us that a girl in high school had falsely accused him of rape and it almost ruined his life. His story was suspiciously vague but I thought, hey, crazier things have happened. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

A year or two later, he got pretty drunk and told us the full story of what happened. Turns out he did actually force himself on a girl in his room, but he let her go when she started crying, so he didn’t consider it actual rape. He thought she overreacted by telling her parents and getting the police involved.

At one of my jobs is a dude who is just . . . off. He clearly doesn't understand the real world, never tries at anything he is responsible for, is bad at the stuff he wants to do, and is frequently upset/mad/angry because things don't go his way or 'are against him'.

It is pretty much accepted that he is an active shooter in waiting. We all try to be nice to him and mentor him to an extent, but the dude is just broken.

Added bonus, he is a twin and seems to have only done some things because he isn't comfortable not being connected at the hip with his brother.

The brother is a little weird too, but he tries to kick ass at anything he does so it's more tolerable.