Interesting evening

Well, I was period-free for a long time. Had my first one after my son was born at 18 months (August 21). That lasted 5 days minimal cramping. 15 days from the start of the first one I got it again. Cramping was like contractions in labour for 12 hours or so. That lasted 10 days. 17 days after the start of the second one (today) I have uncomfortable cramping and low and behold I am bleeding again. What is going on? Well it turns out I went to a walk-in clinic since it is Friday night and I found out I am pregnant! I had tested negative 2 weeks before my first "period" came (7 or 8 weeks ago) so I know absolutely nothing about this pregnancy except that it is anywhere between 3-9 weeks.
Going by all the bleeding and cramps, the doctors gave me paperwork for an ultrasound to check to see if it is ectopic. I am not really sure how I should feel. I am still bleeding (not BRIGHT red but it's definitely red and it's not gushing but definitely flowing). I don't even know what to think because of all the bleeding and cramping.
Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? Thanks for reading my huge post.

Well, I was period-free for a long time. Had my first one after my son was born at 18 months (August 21). That lasted 5 days minimal cramping. 15 days from the start of the first one I got it again. Cramping was like contractions in labour for 12 hours or so. That lasted 10 days. 17 days after the start of the second one (today) I have uncomfortable cramping and low and behold I am bleeding again. What is going on? Well it turns out I went to a walk-in clinic since it is Friday night and I found out I am pregnant! I had tested negative 2 weeks before my first "period" came (7 or 8 weeks ago) so I know absolutely nothing about this pregnancy except that it is anywhere between 3-9 weeks.
Going by all the bleeding and cramps, the doctors gave me paperwork for an ultrasound to check to see if it is ectopic. I am not really sure how I should feel. I am still bleeding (not BRIGHT red but it's definitely red and it's not gushing but definitely flowing). I don't even know what to think because of all the bleeding and cramping.
Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice? Thanks for reading my huge post.

Just wanted to update... Not sure if it's a miscarriage or I'm not very far along. Hcg levels were 800 and they did an ultrasound (with an outdated machine apparently) and saw an enlarged uterus but nothing else. I am being sent to the fertility center on Monday for monitoring. They will be doing a vaginal ultrasound and bloodwork again to see if the levels are rising or falling. The doctor suspects they were initially around 20,000 and have been decreasing steadily. Guess I have to wait and see. Thanks for reading, I had to get this out there. It's so strange because this was a complete surprise last night but now I feel like I'm already grieving a loss...

Just wanted to update... Not sure if it's a miscarriage or I'm not very far along. Hcg levels were 800 and they did an ultrasound (with an outdated machine apparently) and saw an enlarged uterus but nothing else. I am being sent to the fertility center on Monday for monitoring. They will be doing a vaginal ultrasound and bloodwork again to see if the levels are rising or falling. The doctor suspects they were initially around 20,000 and have been decreasing steadily. Guess I have to wait and see. Thanks for reading, I had to get this out there. It's so strange because this was a complete surprise last night but now I feel like I'm already grieving a loss...

I have another ultrasound and bloodwork at 1:30 tomorrow. Really want to know which way the HCG levels are trending. I assume that they will not be able to see much on the ultrasound if a) the miscarriage has occurred or b) it is only 4-5 weeks along (which I am guessing based on HCG and assuming Aug 21 was a period and not another form of bleeding)

I have another ultrasound and bloodwork at 1:30 tomorrow. Really want to know which way the HCG levels are trending. I assume that they will not be able to see much on the ultrasound if a) the miscarriage has occurred or b) it is only 4-5 weeks along (which I am guessing based on HCG and assuming Aug 21 was a period and not another form of bleeding)

So I had bloodwork and an ultrasound. They couldn't find anything with the ultrasound and told me it could be too early too see anything or that the baby could have passed already. I have more bloodwork Wednesday and then we go over the results on Friday. Of course I bled a little after the ultrasound. I don't even know what I would be checking for to know I miscarried. Its just so confusing. The one minute I am thinking of names, deciding how to rearrange our rooms and making a list of what we would need. The next I am ready to cry because if I'm not pregnant I miscarried a few weeks ago since there's nothing visible on the ultrasound. I wonder if it would have been better not to find out I am or was pregnant...

So I had bloodwork and an ultrasound. They couldn't find anything with the ultrasound and told me it could be too early too see anything or that the baby could have passed already. I have more bloodwork Wednesday and then we go over the results on Friday. Of course I bled a little after the ultrasound. I don't even know what I would be checking for to know I miscarried. Its just so confusing. The one minute I am thinking of names, deciding how to rearrange our rooms and making a list of what we would need. The next I am ready to cry because if I'm not pregnant I miscarried a few weeks ago since there's nothing visible on the ultrasound. I wonder if it would have been better not to find out I am or was pregnant...

Update:
Well it was ectopic. They found it on my ovary and due to size (I was 8 weeks along or so), they highly recommended I get treated with methotrexate today. I was told it is unsafe to nurse for several weeks. This is harder on me than losing the pregnancy. It is breaking my heart :'(
The treatment is done but I have follow-up visits to ensure growth was stopped. We felt the risk of this medication was lower than abdominal surgery. It's effective about 90% of the time but as time goes on the success rate decreases.
The embryo was on my ovary so it's probably not functional anymore either. I feel like I lost my baby boy since he cannot nurse anymore, my unborn child, and possibly the chance at future children since they counseled me that is probably the case as well. Also I am now at high risk for future ectopic pregnancies. It has been a horrible day.
How can I make this as easy on my little guy as possible? He's 19.5 months and was still nursing 2-3 times nightly and 2-4 times a day.
Tonight was just awful. I have never hear him cry like that. It's breaking my heart. We cuddled, I sang songs and rubbed his back and he fell asleep crying :(

Update:
Well it was ectopic. They found it on my ovary and due to size (I was 8 weeks along or so), they highly recommended I get treated with methotrexate today. I was told it is unsafe to nurse for several weeks. This is harder on me than losing the pregnancy. It is breaking my heart :'(
The treatment is done but I have follow-up visits to ensure growth was stopped. We felt the risk of this medication was lower than abdominal surgery. It's effective about 90% of the time but as time goes on the success rate decreases.
The embryo was on my ovary so it's probably not functional anymore either. I feel like I lost my baby boy since he cannot nurse anymore, my unborn child, and possibly the chance at future children since they counseled me that is probably the case as well. Also I am now at high risk for future ectopic pregnancies. It has been a horrible day.
How can I make this as easy on my little guy as possible? He's 19.5 months and was still nursing 2-3 times nightly and 2-4 times a day.
Tonight was just awful. I have never hear him cry like that. It's breaking my heart. We cuddled, I sang songs and rubbed his back and he fell asleep crying :(

I am so sorry...I rarely post these days but am also suffering the grief of a miscarriage this week and came to the boards for some solace. I feel so sad for what you are going through. It will not be easy to wean your baby boy in the midst of your loss but I pray it will not be too hard on either of you.

I am so sorry...I rarely post these days but am also suffering the grief of a miscarriage this week and came to the boards for some solace. I feel so sad for what you are going through. It will not be easy to wean your baby boy in the midst of your loss but I pray it will not be too hard on either of you.

Thank you. So far he has cried himself to sleep, sometimes in my arms, sometimes rejecting me and going as far away from me as possible on the bed, sometimes comforted by daddy. I have never heard him cry like this before. It is really heartbreaking :( He keeps using his special word and trying to get rid of my sweater. I know for him it's all about the skin to skin. I have gotten hickeys on my boob before when he's been half asleep and missed the target :) but I don't want to expose him accidentally while its still so potent in my system so the whole area is off-limits. After talking to motherisk, a pharmacist and la leche league, I found out I can resume but the times are all different (immediately according to motherisk and 5 days according to the pharmacist). I think I will try to talk to another pharmacist tomorrow and decide how long to wait. When I found out it wasn't going to be several weeks, I was so happy I cried. I don't think the doctor realized the gravity of the blanket statement he issued. I feel 100x better. The rest of the losses do not even come close to the grief I felt at ending the nursing relationship with the child I already have. Thank you for your support

Thank you. So far he has cried himself to sleep, sometimes in my arms, sometimes rejecting me and going as far away from me as possible on the bed, sometimes comforted by daddy. I have never heard him cry like this before. It is really heartbreaking :( He keeps using his special word and trying to get rid of my sweater. I know for him it's all about the skin to skin. I have gotten hickeys on my boob before when he's been half asleep and missed the target :) but I don't want to expose him accidentally while its still so potent in my system so the whole area is off-limits. After talking to motherisk, a pharmacist and la leche league, I found out I can resume but the times are all different (immediately according to motherisk and 5 days according to the pharmacist). I think I will try to talk to another pharmacist tomorrow and decide how long to wait. When I found out it wasn't going to be several weeks, I was so happy I cried. I don't think the doctor realized the gravity of the blanket statement he issued. I feel 100x better. The rest of the losses do not even come close to the grief I felt at ending the nursing relationship with the child I already have. Thank you for your support

You were really wise to seek additional consultation! Our little ones are so resilient and yet so vulnerable that it can be hard to know what to do when the professionals recommendations don't fit baby's obvious needs - thank God for Mommy's intuition! I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts and hoping this break in nursing is very brief.

You were really wise to seek additional consultation! Our little ones are so resilient and yet so vulnerable that it can be hard to know what to do when the professionals recommendations don't fit baby's obvious needs - thank God for Mommy's intuition! I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts and hoping this break in nursing is very brief.

Thank you. He is a happy boy once more and much more insistent than before with nursing now. I don't mind so far as it keeps me calm (except for the crazy toddler nursing acrobats and the lazy latch :) )

Thank you. He is a happy boy once more and much more insistent than before with nursing now. I don't mind so far as it keeps me calm (except for the crazy toddler nursing acrobats and the lazy latch :) )

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