No matter who is going down on whom, the goal is to make it as pleasure filled as possible. But since hardly anyone talks about it, it's tough to get the good, juicy tips you need to make it mind-blowing. Well, at Cosmo we've never been afraid of doing the dirty work for you. So here are the best tricks for giving your guy lip lovin'. Oh, and some for you to pass along to him, so he gives as good as he gets.

"Invisible oral" can boost your pleasure.
A shocking number of women have trouble mentally letting go and enjoying oral. Sound like you? Try keeping the lights off so you can't see him. You'll have fewer distractions and be able to focus.

There's a gag-proof way to go deep.
Here's a trick that gives him the illusion that you're taking him all the way in: Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Then let his member hit the underside of your tongue.

You should have him at hello.
A Cosmo poll found that 34 percent of guys say they wish a girl would surprise them with oral when they walk in the door. Tell him to text you when he's almost home, then ambush him.

Suction isn't just for hickies.
Many women have complained to our experts that they have a hard time getting off when he's down south because their guy doesn't use enough pressure. Ask him to switch up his moves and try sucking on your clitoris instead — it provides a more intense pressure.

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He doesn't always want to finish.
Many guys don't actually want going down to be the main event. According to a Cosmo poll, 54 percent of men like oral action as foreplay.

His "boys" want to join the party.
Fifty-one percent of men complain that their girlfriends ignore their balls during oral. Try this trick: While your hand strokes his shaft, take one testicle at a time into your mouth and lightly suck.

There's a way he's never been licked.
The meatus — the hole on the tip of his penis — is super-sensitive. Stick the tip of your tongue on that spot and apply medium pressure. It's such a specific place, he probably doesn't even realize it has feel-good potential, so he'll love that you've discovered it.

Lube can taste good.
If you're going to be down there for a while, you may get a case of cotton mouth, which can cause chafing on his penis. Lube can fix that. Lots of companies are making flavored formulas that taste just slightly fruity or minty, not like candy-coated toxic waste. You can buy a sample pack online at babeland.com.

Shakira had the right idea.
Many chicks complain that their guy lacks variation in technique. If you don't want to speak up, physically move your hips, like you're squirming from all the pleasure. It'll give him the hint that he should vary his moves.

If you're into it, he's into it.
One thing that turns guys on is enthusiasm. In fact, lots of them have a hard time fully enjoying themselves because they worry that their partner hates being down there. Let him know you like it by softly moaning as you take him into your mouth.

Your hands can take it to the next level.

One Cosmo sex poll found that guys say their favorite thing is when a woman uses her mouth and hands on their package at the same time. Stack one hand on top of the other on his shaft, and gently twist in opposite directions. At the same time, flick your tongue—like a snake—over the tip.

Here's a secret erogenous zone that you should definitely hit while you're down there: Trail your tongue down his shaft to the area between his testicles and the base. Purse your lips together, and lightly suck on the patch of skin. It's packed with nerve endings, so any attention you give it will feel heavenly.

Multitasking leads to more Os for you.

Our experts say that being stimulated in multiple areas will help a woman reach climax more quickly. So while his tongue is at work, have him play with your nipples. In the beginning, he should softly stroke your tips, but as you get closer, he can squeeze.

69 isn't truly amazing until you've tried this.

Lie side-by-side, with your head near his penis. As you both lick, let your hands massage each other's booties—there are large muscles there, so rubbing them will make for an even greater release.

Cooling down can be very hot.

Your temperature rises slightly when you're aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while he's between your legs, you're feeling both warm from his mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send you over the edge.

A vice-grip can be nice.

The ridge of his penis—where the tip meets the shaft—is very sensitive to touch. Cover your teeth with your lips, and place them around that ridge like a vice. Apply firm pressure—like how you squeeze fruit—then release and repeat. This movement perks up the nerves there and then lets them relax, which can feel really good.

Sometimes thinking dirty is a bad idea.

The primary reason women give sex therapists for not wanting their guy down there is they worry they smell. Your guy probably loves your aroma, but you can eliminate that concern by taking a quick half-shower before a date. You will feel much fresher and won't worry about a funky fragrance.

You don't have to be on your back when you're on the receiving end of oral. Have him lie down, and then put your privates over his mouth. This gives you some control over the pace and motion, making it easier for you to orgasm. And experts tell us it can be erotic for a man to have your coochie that up close and personal.

There's a digital version of oral.

Here's a unique way to give his frenulum—the tiny bump on the underside of his penis where the shaft meets the tip—some special attention: Place the tip of your finger on it, then take his shaft (along with your finger) into your mouth. As you move your mouth up and down, rub your finger over the F-spot.

Feast his eyes.

You probably already know that guys are extremely visual, but it can be hard for him to get a decent view while you're down there lavishing his penis with love. Place a standing mirror next to you so he can check you out. The combo of feeling and seeing you will blow (pun intended) his mind.