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Raye - posted on 11/07/2014

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I agree with the others. It is your spouse that must tell the aggressive co-worker to back off. It's possible that they enjoy the attention, even if they would not give in to the temptation. But for the health of your marriage, it's not the kind of thing that they should allow to continue.

Like the other ladies have said, You haven't said that something has happened between them just that she has a crush on your spouse.The only thing you can do is let him know that you are uncomfortable with the attention she gives him but he needs to tell her. You also don't want to look like the jealous wife and send him into her arms.

Well, no, it isn't clear that something inappropriate happened. It is merely clear from your post that someone has a desire to be with your spouse, not that anything happened. It is up to your spouse to handle it appropriately, not you.

I'm with Jodi, you don't really need to handle anything but your relationship with your spouse.

The way I see it, if he loves you and doesn't want to have an affair, he won't have an affair no matter what she does. It is his responsibility to let her know that and either make her back down or just keep pushing her off--some women are persistent, but she can't MAKE him do anything he doesn't want to. If he does want to have an affair, he will, and you have to decide if you're okay with that and stay with him, or if you're not okay with it and leave him. If he wants to have an affair, I would say THAT is the issue, not who he wants it with. If he wants an affair, does it really matter whether he does it with a chick who is throwing herself at him or if he does it with a chick he had to seek out himself? Wouldn't matter to me because in terms of his relationship to you, it has the same result.