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Chapter 1: As Death ApproachesChecklist:
• Who's in charge before the death?
• Does the person have an advance medical directive, also called a durable power of attorney for health care?
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If you’re visiting this website, there’s a good chance someone you love has just died. Both of us have recently lost loved ones, and we’ve endured the grief that now consumes you. But this is not a book about grief or grieving. This is a succinct, step-by-step guide to all the practical things you must do after someone dies. Read more

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When Dad dies, Mom is Executor, but Mom has dementia and is not capable of making decisions. Children are Power of Attorney. Is the POA still in effect or is the Will now in effect? If Will is now in effect, can children access Dad's financials to pay for Mom's care?

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First, Mom is not qualified to be executor. Technically, you should follow the will, which likely specifies who becomes executor if first one fails. You would become the new executor by attestation to the court or to people. You can use your power of attorney to act instead of Mom but there are issues with... read more

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If paternity was never established between child and bio-father... while bio-father was alive......and no child support was asked for by the mother or for that matter, ever received ...and one day bio-father dies...can mother then ask for a paternity test via surviving siblings to determine paternity...to then ask for SS benefits for that surviving child.

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This is a very complicated question, and one which I regret I cannot answer. You need to speak to a family law attorney. Good luck.

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