unreasonable request?

I've 7 weeks left, threatening early labour, contracting all the time. Is it unreasonable to ask partner not to have more than one drink'? I don't want to be in position where I need to get to hospital 40 min away and have to ask someone else yo take me as he's over the limit.

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Um no, not unreasonable. I did the same with mine. No more than 1 or 2 now. I am 4 weeks away from due date and I have the same fear. Hopefully he understands that! My SO did and said he thought of that as well.

It's not unreasonable in and of itself, but it also depends on you and your partner and your dynamic.

I know when I ask my partner to do something (especially lately), sometimes it's not 100% about the thing itself so much as it's about needing reassurance that he's going to be there for me and that he's prepared to put everything aside for me and our LO. I could see myself asking him to not have more than one drink and being really hurt if he felt like this wasn't necessary -- when really maybe it *isn't* strictly necessary, but I would need him to just do what I ask for reassurance and security's sake. Is this something you want him to do partly out of support for you? If so, you may need to make it clear that this is both a practical AND an emotional request. If he understands that, then he might be more willing to go along with it even if he doesn't think it's truly necessary.

Do you know if you're in danger of needing to go to the hospital at a moment's notice? I don't know how threatened preterm labor differs from regular labor. I know I personally have to remind myself that when my labor begins, I'm likely going to have several HOURS of early labor before I'll actually need to go to the hospital - it's helped me calm down about things like what my DH drinks on a saturday, etc, because realistically he'd have plenty of time to sober up if he needed to. If that's not true for threatened early labor, do you think you need some kind of back up plan in case your partner does not agree to limit his drinking?

Is drinking frequently a problem between the two of you? Do you think your partner might feel like he "needs" more than one drink because it's his way of coping with his worry/stress about your health and the baby's health?

He's normally so supportive. We had this conversation a dozen times, then I have to say it again. He does get it but I feel he's a tad huffed.....ah well, he'll
get over it....I've coped without any drink thus far!!!

I know the questions were posed to op but I know with my preterm labor I've already completed early labor. So if I start getting painful contractions its a go immediately type thing. I didn't even feel the first 3cm of dilation so if I feel it we were told to drop everything and go.
Op might be different but I wanted to throw that info out there :)

Not at all. I would tell him i refuse to bother someone else with something that is obviously his responsibility so if im not comfortable riding with him the night it happens HE gets to figure out how to pay an ambulance bill