Sunday, September 03, 2006

One Flaw In Women

Women have strengths that amaze men.They bear hardships and they carry burdens,but they hold happiness, love and joy.They smile when they want to scream.They sing when they want to cryThey cry when they are happyand laugh when they are nervous.They fight for what they believe in.They stand up to injustice.They don’t take “no” for an answerwhen they believe there is a better solutionThey go without so their family can have.They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.They love unconditionally.They cry when their children exceland cheer when their friends get awards.They are happy when they hear abouta birth or a wedding.Their hearts break when a friend dies.They grieve at the loss of a family member,yet they are strong when theythink there is no strength left.They know that a hug and a kisscan heal a broken heart.Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail youto show how much they care about you.The heart of a woman is whatmakes the world keep turning.They bring joy, hope and love.They have compassion and ideas.They give moral support to theirfamily and friends.Women have vital things to sayand everything to give.

HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Message: Read this "HATE letter". It is so funny and creative. This is a love letter from a boy to a girl... However, the girl's father does not like him and wants them to stop their relationship......and so....the boy wrote this letter to the girl....... He knows that the girl's father will definitely read this letter...

1 "The great love that I have for you2 is gone, and I find my dislike for you3 grows every day. When I see you,4 I do not even like your face;5 the one thing that I want to do is to6 look at other girls. I never wanted to7 marry you. Our last conversation8 was very boring and has not9 made me look forward to seeing you again.10 You think only of yourself.11 If we were married, I know that I would find12 life very difficult, and I would have no13 pleasure in living with you. I have a heart14 to give, but it is not something that15 I want to give to you. No one is more16 foolish and selfish than you, and you are not17 able to care for me and help me.18 I sincerely want you to understand that19 I speak the truth. You will do me a favor20 if you think this is the end. Do not try21 to answer this. Your letters are full of22 things that do not interest me. You have no23 true love for me. Good-bye! Believe me,24 I do not care for you. Please do not think that25 I am still your BOYFRIEND."

So bad!! However, before handing over the letter to the girl....the boy told the girl to "READ BETWEEN THE LINES", meaning-only to read 1.3.5.7.9.11.13 (Odd Nos.)

So... please try reading it again! It's so smart & sweet.... It is better to laugh about your problems than to cry about them.

Last week was my birthday and i didn’t feel very well waking up that morning. I went downstairs for breakfast hoping my wife would be pleasant and say, “happy birthday!”, and possibly have a present for me. As it turned out, she barely said good morning, let alone “happy birthday.”

I thought… well, that’s marriage for you, but the kids will remember. My kids came into breakfast and didn’t say a word. So when i left for the office, i was feeling pretty low and somewhat despondent.

As i walked into my office, my secretary jane said, “good morning, boss, happy birthday!” It felt a little better that at least someone had remembered. I worked until one o’clockand then jane knocked on my door and said, “you know, it’s such a beautiful day outside, and it’s your birthday, let’s go out to lunch, just you and me.”

I said, “thanks jane, that’s the greatest thing i’ve heard all day. Let’s go!” We went to lunch. But we didn’t go where we normally would go. We dined instead at a little place with a private table. We had two martinis each and i enjoyed the meal tremendously. On the way back to the office, jane said, “you know, it’s such a beautiful day… we don’t need to go back to the office, do we?” I responded, “i guess not. What do you have in mind?” She said, “let’s go to my apartment.”

After arriving at her apartment jane turned to me and said, “boss,if you don’t mind, i’m going to step into the bedroom for a moment. I’ll be right back.” “Ok.” I nervously replied.

She went into the bedroom and, after a couple of minutes, she came out carrying a huge birthday cake… followed by my wife, kid’s , and dozens of my friends and co-workers, all singing “happy birthday”.

You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for the bus:

1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

2. An old friend who once saved your life.

3. The perfect partner you have been dreamingabout.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car?

Think before you continue reading. . .

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.

You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first; Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.

The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants had no trouble coming up with his answer. He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."

Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."

- When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.

- When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship's over.)

- If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.

- When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt.

- A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually is not sure how to react to them.

- When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?

- If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.

- If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.

- Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).

- Never tell a girl that she is useless in any way.

- Being too serious can turn a girl off.

- When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.

- A smile means a lot to a girl.

- If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.

- If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave.

- But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.

- Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.

- Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.

- After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.

- If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.

- When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush before actually looking at herself.

- A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.

- Girls love having fun!

- A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.

- A girl's best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.

- Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.

- Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.

- Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.

Wednesday, August 16, 2006

FATHER FORGETS

by W. Livingston Larned

Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.

There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.

At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, "Goodbye, Daddy!" and I frowned, and said in reply, "Hold your shoulders back!"

Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive-and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!

Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. "What is it you want?" I snapped.

You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.

Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding-this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.

And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!

It is feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: "He is nothing but a boy-a little boy!"

I am afraid I have visualised you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother's arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much, yet given too little of myself. Promise me, as I teach you to have the manners of a man, that you will remind me how to have the loving spirit of a child.

Lady: You can’t even tell me the reason…How can you say you like me?How can you say you love me?

Man: I really don’t know the reason, but I canprove that I love you.

Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me thereason. My friend’s boyfriend can tell her whyhe loves her but not you!

Man: Ok ok!!! Erm… because you’re beautiful,because your voice is sweet,because you are caring, because you are loving,because you are thoughtful, because of yoursmile, because of your every movements..

Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady metwith an accident and became a vegetable. The Guythen placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:

Dearest,

Because of your sweet voice that I love you…Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot loveyou. Because of your care and concern that Ilike you.. Now that you cannot show them,therefore I cannot love you. Because of yoursmile, because of your every movements that I love you..Now can you smile? Now can you move?No, therefore I cannot love you…If love needs a reason, like now,there is no reason for me to love you anymore.But does love need a reason?I still love you… Because love doesn’t need one…

- flashing your smile to someone you don't want to see- bringing back the feeling you've learned to forget- showing that you care- finding a way to mend a broken heart- learning that you've been used by someone you truly love- saying “i love you” when you don't mean it- letting go of a person you've just learned to love- realizing that you love somebody you've just taken for granted- realizing that you love the person you've just broken up with- waiting for promises you know she or he'll never keep- saying your love for someone who loves somebody else- reminiscing the good times u shared together- shielding your heart to love somebody- trying to hide what you really feel- having a commitment w/ someone that you know would not last- trying to hide the tears that voluntarily fall from your eyes- sharing the one you love w/ someone else- loving a person too much- giving up someone you never thought of giving up- falling in love for the first time- loving someone you haven't seen- having the right love at the wrong time- exerting effort to make the relationship last or work- not being appreciated when you know you've given your best- taking the risk to fall in love again- hiding your relationship from someone else- controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a friend- choosing between two persons whom you really love- finding out that you can never have the person you just let go of- seeing the person you love with someone else- learning that the person who claimed to have loved you so much never really cared- seeing the one you love fall for someone else- falling for your best friend and knowing that things can never be the same again- learning to trust after you have been betrayed- accepting that it was not meant to be- smiling when all you want to do is cry- falling and knowing that it can never be- not being able to love the person who truly cares for you- saying that you can never love a person the way he loves you- hearing that he can never love you the way that you love him- saying that you are over someone you still love- being friends again and learning to let go of each other coz you both know it is better that way- convincing oneself that you are not in love when you know that you are- having to let go because you know that he deserves someone else- trying not to remember how perfect everything used to be

Girl: Slow down. Im scared.Guy: No this is fun.Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!Guy: Then tell me you love me.Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.*Girl hugs him*Guy: Can you take my helmet off & put it onyourself? Its bugging me.

(In the paper the next day):

A motorcycle had crashed into a building becauseof break failure. 2 people were on it, but only1 survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, theguy realized that his breaks broke, but hedidn’t want to let the girl know. Instead, hehad her say she loved him & felt her hug 1 lasttime, then had her wear his helmet so that shewould live even though it meant that he woulddie.

This ROMANTIC GUY folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl... Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future doesn't seemed too bright, they were very happy together.

Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she couldn't visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then...

Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regains his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of him....

Finally with all these hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company! You never fail until you stop trying.

One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn't take him long to realize those were his girl's parents... With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan...

He wanted them to know that he wasn't the same anymore; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He made it!

Before the guy can realize, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and he got out of his car and followed... and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes beside her...

Her parents saw him. He asks them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all... She was ill with cancer...

She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle!!... therefore she had chosen to leave him...

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again... he can take some of those back with him.

The guy just wept...The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.....

Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person whom you thought meant nothing to you...

He met her on a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised, but due to being polite, she promised.

They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, she thought, please, let me go home…. suddenly he asked the waiter. “would you please give me some salt? I’d like to put it in my coffee.”

Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red, but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously; why you have this hobby? He replied: “when I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there”. While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched.

That’s his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home. Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story.

They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!

Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life… And every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that’s the way he liked it.

After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said: “My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you—the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything.

Now I’m dying, I’m afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth: I don’t like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste. But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again”.

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1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.6. Don't force an attraction.7. Slower is better.8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.11. Don't settle.12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.24. Be honest and upfront.25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.36. Actions speak louder than words.37. Never let a man define who you are.38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.39. Never borrow someone else's man.40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the .1 person in your life.44. Love is a verb ...45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.