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Monday, September 09, 2013

Sigh

I am trying mightily to get through all the mess of the family trials and tribulations. Who would have thought that the ex & I getting along would and acting like grownups have caused such problems. It's making me ill. I am sooooooo weary of it all. I wish I understood it but no one will talk about it.

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as I went back to read comments from others from yesterday... I clicked on the top where it said "About Me"..... go back and read it... because it is good.. and IT IS YOU.... read the words outloud.. and remember what you had in your heart when you wrote them... because believe it or not.. it is still true for the most part NOW... most part that isn't.. because you stepped off that path or was pushed off, temporarily... You see all those people that are having problems since your ex died.. are having troubles... some of it is grief... some of it is misery which they are trying to hand off to you... don't let them hand it to you.. it isn't your luggage to carry. It is theirs... return to the path of you.. if they want to walk that path with you.. in harmony fine, if not, tell them, this is your path.. and you don't share with those who don't want to get along. THEIR LUGGAGE...NOT YOURS.. so return to the path you were on before he died. Do what pleases YOU... after all it is you who counts now... and you don't want to join their misery. Go to lunch with a friend.. walk in a park.. do things that make you happy.. You have gave unselfishly for a couple years here to everyone.. family, Obama campaign, it is time for YOU...

It's all getting done, It just that everything has kept piling up -- as if there wasn't enough already -- and most of it really wasn't my problem but me being me, I try to be Wonder Woman. But today I finally told some people that I could only handle so much and they would have to wait! And my stuff -- for a change -- has gotta come first. AND a couple people can just back off -- I have to step back and prioritize. I can only manage so much.

You are doing the right thing, Kay. From my own experience with unpleasant relatives and (former) friends, I came to the conclusion that life is way too short to spend much time with that sort of person. Besides their company casts a blight over you, spiritually, psychically and physically. You can't handle their shit and yours both. Sorry for the lapse into Anglo-Saxon.

Sounds like you have a lot of smart readers (friends) who have dispatched some good advice. Especially that line about life being too short to spend trying to get on with people who sap all your energy as it sounds is happening here.