Self-Care Basics: Love Yourself Enough to Leave [Meme]

You’re no more likely to get the love, decency, acceptance and empathy you want from your narcissistic, borderline, psychopathic, alcoholic, toxic spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend as an adult then you were able to get that love as a child from a similarly troubled parent. The first step to self-care is loving yourself enough to say, “No more” no matter how much it takes you back to that painful childhood place. That’s what needs healing. Do that and whatever the narcissist does or doesn’t do ceases to matter.

Typically, two things need to occur:

1) The pain of remaining in the relationship becomes greater than the pain of losing the relationship.

2) You acknowledge that you matter and love yourself enough to leave the toxic relationship.

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