This is the surest sign we’ve had yet, and not to get your hopes up, but it seems as though Southern Charm stars Ashley Jacobs and Thomas Ravenel may have finally broken up.

After a little scrolling on the ol’ Instagram today, we realized she deleted all of her posts from the last 16 months, with her most recent being from April 21, 2017 — aka, right before she even met Thomas in that fateful bar in Santa Barbara. All those lovey pictures and the declarations of standing by her man: gone. Perhaps the Southern Charm cast members urging her to go back to California and have a nice life during the season five reunion finally got through to her.

Ashley took to Instagram to address the change by posting a selfie (in a field maybe?) with the following reflective caption:

I am who I am today because of my failures. I am compassionate because I’ve failed. I am understanding because I’ve failed. I am more emotionally aware because I’ve failed. I’m smarter because I’ve failed. And I understand the values and beliefs of the things that matter in life because of those failures. So I would never take them back. I would never go back in time and change a single thing. As C.S. Lewis stated so beautifully, “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” ♥️ #NewAccount#NewMe

If we’re being totally honest, this is perhaps the best and most relaxed she’s looked in quite some time.

This may also be happy news for Kathryn Dennis, who was never too thrilled about the woman hanging around the father of her children, it’s surely sad news for the couple — and also us as well! It’s unclear if Thomas will even be returning to the next season of Southern Charm, but the cameras won’t be rolling for some time, so we won’t even get to see how it all went down! Something tells us even as the #NewMe she declares to be, Ashley will let a few details slip from time to time.