Tag: self reconstruction

Keeping up with the lessons learned from fairytales and gaining a better understanding as to why I’m so drawn to one particular fairytale (Cinderella) more than the rest, here’s another quote I simply adore.

The greatest risk any of us will take, is to be seen as who we are.

~ Cinderella

The greatest and most rewarding risk I say.

I truelly believe that we are only free, once we don’t allow what people think of us, affect us.

In a world that demands you to think, feel, look and act in a certain way, it’s becoming more and more difficult to see somebody stay true to who they are. And when you do, it is just simply amazing.

We all go through a phase where we lose sleep over what others may think or say about us. That phase where we will do or wear a certain thing just to fit in. If you’ve never been affected by this, lol kudos to you. But I can definitely relate.

Now though, I really couldn’t be bothered with what folk have to say because remaining true to my self and who I am will always take first presidence!

I do whatever feels good within my soul, even if it doesn’t fit the norm or standards of society. I wear whatever feels good on the day, whether it’s tracks, a tee and slops or whether it’s the prettiest dress with the cutest of sandals. I brush my hair when I feel like and then other days I don’t bother. My make up will be on fleek some days and then on others, I leave the house make-upless ( not sure if that’s a word but it’s fitting). I do what I need to do for ME and never have I been more comfortable in my own skin.
I also have been really insecure about my weight. It’s a struggle I’ve been battling out for years now. This still bothers me from time to time however, I’ve realized that if I can’t love myself the way I am now, how do I expect anybody else to love me the way that I am and so whilst losing weight to be healthier is still a thing to do, I’m learning to love myself the way that I currently am, curves, extra rolls and all!
It’s an amazing feeling, not being consumed by what other people think, say or feel when it comes to you. I reckon when and only when you’re comfortable and happy with yourself are you then able to be happy and comfortable and around and with others.

Be who you are meant to be.

BeYOUtiful.

Be the original version of yourself and not a copy of somebody else. It’s worth loads more!

You were put on this earth for a purpose, stay true to that purpose. For there will only ever be one you!
❤️|💡and 🌈 from just an ordinary girl

For the longest time I’ve hated my body, you would rarely find full-body pics of me uploaded on social media. If ever you’ve had a weight struggle you would understand why.

How I feel about my weight can be compared to that of a stone stuck in your shoe; the most Irritating, agonizing feeling ever. I have certain medical issues which make my weight loss a lot harder but I believe it’s no excuse.I really can’t explain It but one would think that I would wanna do something to change this especially because it worries me so much…but for the longest time I’ve been putting getting healthier off.

In this journey of me getting to know myself and learning to love myself unconditionally, I understand now that I need to accept myself. Only once I do this will I be able to constructively work towards any changes that I desire.

It baffles me that I am successful in every other aspect of my life ( by the permission and Grace of The Almighty) but my weight has always been a struggle, I think it’s because food has always been my comfort, my safety net.

I also now understand that before I can love somebody else unconditionally, I need to love myself and in order to love and value myself, I need to be somebody that I am proud of before I can be anybody else’s pride.

I am happy to say that I am learning to accept myself and am looking forward to being the best version of me, the version that I will be proud of.

This journey of self reconstruction is by far, the most fulfilling yet complicated journey that I’ve ever been on. I once thought my journey of forgiveness was the hardest lol but I take that back.

Prophet Muhammed ( may peace and salutations be upon him always) delivered his final sermon to mankind on the 9th day of Dhul Hijjah ( the last month of the Islamic calendar)

His words were directed to all of mankind as a reminder of how to conduct ourselves and what our purpose is on this earth.

The farewell sermon

*”O people, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether, after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY.*

*O people, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as sacred, so regard the life and property of every muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your lord and that He will indeed reckon your deeds. ALLAH has forbidden you to take usury (interest). Therefore all interst obligation shall henceforth be waived.*

*Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in things, so beware of following him in small things.*

*O people, it is true that you have the right with regards to your woman, but they also have rights over you. If they abide by your rights then to them belong the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it approve, as well as never commit adultery.*

*O people, listen to me in earnest, worship ALLAH, say your five time daily prayers (salat) fast during the month of ramadan, and give your wealth in zakat. Perform Hajj if you can afford to. You know that every muslim is the brother of another muslim. YOU ARE ALL EQUAL.. No body has superiority over another except by piety and good action.*

*Remember, one day you will appear before ALLAH and answer for your deeds. O beware, do not stray from the part of righteousness after I am gone.*

*O people, NO PROPHET OR APOSTLE WILL COME AFTER ME AND NO NEW FAITH WILL BE BORN. Reason well, therefore people, understand my word, which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my SUNNAH and if you follow these you will not go astray.*

those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again, and may the last understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness O ALLAH, that I have convyed your message to the people.”

May Allah bless our prophets abundantly, may we always look at their lives and reflect and take lessons of good will. May Allah ta Allah make us part of those whom he choose to guide on the straight path. May we always turn back to Allah ta Allah even when we fall. May we walk in the foot steps of Allahs most loved. Inshallah aameen.

Reading this sermon just created an urge in me to do and be better, before we look to others flaws, let’s look at our own and work on correcting them inshallah. Not today satan, not today
Posted by a humble, ordinary girl.

When ever any calamity strikes, it’s important for us to ponder over why it’s striking and what lessons are meant to be learnt from it.
It’s equally important for us to take a step back and see how we as individuals can better ourselves from it; Making us grow as people and stronger in and more faithful to our deen (faith) Allahuakbar: Allah really is the greatest.

Lessons learnt by an ordinary girl through life’s ordinary hurdles.

May we all strive to be patient when a calamity strikes and be better when we approach them, by the almighty’a grace, aameen