Q&A: What Counts as Sex?

All of my friends talk about having sex with their boyfriends, but I have a girlfriend. If two girls have sex, does it count?

Sincerely,

Sex Confused

Dear Sex Confused,

Short answer: yes, two women are able to have sex. With each other.

Long answer: I hate the cis heteronormative narrative that sex equals penis in vagina. Or that sex is penetrative only. You don’t have a penis and are not interested in those with a penis? That’s cool. Sex can be performed with a great array of toys, limbs (aka fingers), mouth (tongue), etc.. Sex is defined by how you and your partner consensually define sex. Go forth, be safe and have consensual fun!