My horse Stardust loves his friends which is very cute. But when it comes to riding he sticks to them like glue and I can't pull away because he fights back with his fat head, I don't want to pull too hard on the reins, so I don't ,encase I hurt his mouth.

Once he was so close I nearly got kicked by his friend friend freddie and freddie is one fat horse!!!

Whats a simple solution to make him stop doing this?
One day not just me but he is going to get badly hurt, and I don't want that to happen

It sounds to me like your horse is very herd-sour right now. You might be right that he's nervous since he's new to your farm and he wants to stay close to the other horses. There's nothing wrong with admitting that. Many horses experience that.

I think your horse is also testing you. Your "simple solution" is to use your reins to guide him away from the rest of the horses and use your legs to bump him back over. It is simple but it will take a lot of consistency before your horse realizes, "oh man, she means business!"

I would trot circles (out of the kicking zone, of course) around the other horses changing directions often until his tongue is hanging out and he's wore out, then ride him away from the group to rest. He'll soon learn that being with his "buddies" only gets him tired ans sweaty.

Dusty, just a FYI, you do not need to post consecutive posts. You have some time after you post that you can edit your post so there is no reason to post several consecutive posts (you have done it in many threads).

He definitely is herd bound, and definitely has your number. In not wanting to "hurt" him, you've shown him that you don't mean business, and he can do whatever he pleases. That is not good, and not safe. You need to become the leader, and get respect from this horse.
In my opinion, you need a coach to teach you how to be assertive and steer with your whole body (legs, mostly) so you know how to get out of unsafe situations. By learning to steer properly, you won't have to rely on your reins and just pulling.
Bottom line is, though, that if he has endangered you by getting within kicking distance, you absolutely should use your reins and get into a safe place. Please consider using a snaffle bit, so you can pull to the side and actually get a lateral reaction. If you use a curb bit and only pull on one rein, the signal gets garbled. Beyond that, he doesn't sound neck-rein trained, so a curb bit is even more pointless other than sheer stopping power. You very likely won't hurt his mouth - besides, what would you prefer: getting kicked, or pulling on the bit?Posted via Mobile Device

Yes, he most definitely is herdbound. Especially so since he's in a new place and the other horses represent security to him.

You sound young and inexperienced, and unable to properly handle a badly herdbound animal. If you don't have a trainer or at least an experienced adult to help you, you need one.

Since she hasn't replied yet I will, we are bestfriends in real life. :)
She is rather experienced and her Mum is a riding instructor.
Infact, her Mum teaches students to ride and show horses at a high school. :)
She has been riding since she was very young, attends pony club & shows. I know this probally means nothing to you though, by saying that, showing and pony club don't really mean anything to me. (I'm not saying they don't mean anything to you, because they might mean alot!).
By the way, she only got Stardust this year. :)

Olivia:
Get the bit I ride Aussie with, it should help alot, that one you have at the moment was not working for him & I.
If you are harsh on his mouth, he should learn to behave since they don't like the harsh pulling.
If you can't turn him away from the other horses, make the reins very short and tight then turn. If it does not work try turning him in sharp circles with your reins tight and short still. Still use your legs though! :P
Hope he gets better! :)

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