My first golden shower

This post is a bit unusual and not a typical topic I like to talk about, but I think it is interesting in a way. I am always interested in the out of the ordinary things in life, so let’s give it a go. So I’ll tell you why I write about golden shower this time: There is a client who keeps asking me about pee-pee sex, so I decided to search the internet for more information and perhaps some scientific knowledge to understand why people like to do this odd thing during sex. After all, sexual behaviour of humans are rather versatile and it may consists of various actions other than just good-old-plain intercourse and a blow job. Some of us really enjoys doing stuff which isn’t common and I would say rather extreme.

While urinating does not necessarily belong to traditional sexual habits, certainly some folks find it arousing and sexy. During the search, I came across some valuable information of the so-called golden shower all summarized in a funny little article. It may not be exactly the academic piece I was looking for, it is good enough to cover the foundation of this act, and I believe there are some useful info in it as well. However, I still believe that the rise of adult videos has brought the increasing interest for wee-sex and the majority of people just want to try it for the fun of it, without being some genetically modified sex freaks.

“Let's start with the very basics: 'golden showers' – also sometimes known as 'watersports' – are sex acts that involve urine. The technical term for a urine fetish is 'urolagnia', but honestly I've never met a kinkster who refers to it by its medical name, as you've probably never biological words like 'frenulum' during foreplay. Watersports, golden showers, piss play: whatever you want to call it, it appears to seen a quite rapid surge in popularity. PornHub reported a whopping 287% increase in searches for golden-showers-related terms on the 11th of January, after US President Elect and walking Black Mirror episode Donald Trump was accused of getting up to some watery shenanigans in a Moscow hotel room.

We need to be careful here, because the accusations have absolutely not been substantiated, so I'll summarize carefully for those of you who've been living not just under a rock but potentially on a meteor in an entirely different galaxy. Allegedly Donald Trump, when staying in Moscow, hired some sex workers to pee all over a bed that Barack and Michelle Obama had once slept in. Allegedly. Trump has naturally denied these allegations on the grounds that he's a germaphobe, and that he'd never do anything like that because he knows how sneaky spies can be with all their tiny cameras.

I'm usually delighted to hear about other people's sticky and creative explorations, yet even I was kind of horrified when I learned I might share a penchant for piss- play with that guy. Still, those of us who enjoy them can reclaim golden showers by doing them purely for our own sexual gratification, rather than in an attempt to humiliate someone we barely know. If you're even slightly turned on by the idea of giving – or getting – a golden shower, here's how to go about doing it without ruining a mattress of your own.

Golden Showers, why are they a turn on?

Watersports are hot for a variety of reasons. Some people associate piss-play with humiliation, so they want to incorporate it into a hot BDSM scene. Others (me me me) just really get off on watching guys wee, and find it horny to join in. I know that might sound bizarre to those of you who don't personally like it, but if you think that's weird let me tell you about this one time we got drunk and tried to both pee at the same time, to see what would happen if we crossed the streams (not much, but it made us giggle).

Beyond just urinating on each other, some watersports enthusiasts do other things like drinking each other's urine, or engaging in tease-and-denial games. For instance, one person is instructed to drink a bottle of water then hold their wee for as long as possible, while their partner does other sexy things to them.

Is it safe to do golden shower?

Naturally, given that we usually flush urine directly down the toilet, there's a lot of squeamishness about whether playing with wee in a sexual context is hygienic or not. I'm delighted to tell you that it's basically fine: urine itself is sterile, and unless your partner has been drinking battery acid it's not going to do any damage just falling onto your skin. It can smell quite strong if that person is dehydrated (and/or drunk – six pints of cider is not as 'hydrating' as Strongbow adverts make out) but you can always top up with a glass or two of water before you get started if the strong smell puts you off.

The only safety considerations you need to bear in mind with golden showers are: 1. drinking. While it's safe to drink your own urine (or that of other people), the start of your 'flow' might contain bacteria that's been hanging around at the entrance to the urethra. So if you want to drink it, you need to make sure you start from somewhere in the middle of the stream. Just as you sometimes have to run the cold tap for a bit to get to the fresh water that's not been standing in the pipes. 2. over-hydration. This probably isn't going to be a problem for the amateur watersports hobbyist, but if you're combining power-play with piss-play then there can be a risk of water intoxication. Didn't realize that was a thing? It is. In fact, it was water intoxication brought on by ecstasy use which caused the death of Leah Betts. So if you're engaging in golden showers, make sure you're hydrated but don't go overboard.

Key importance: The Location

You don't need me to tell you that the living room at your rental flat is not the best place to get showered. Unless you have the worst landlord of all time, you'll probably want to confine your golden gallivanting to the bathroom. Wet rooms are the easiest, because afterwards all you need to do is wash the whole thing down with water: lots more people pee in the shower than you think, and you won't cause a neighbourhood scandal if you and your partner do the same. If you don't have a wet room then a bath will do, although make sure you have something to hold onto to stop yourself falling over.

That doesn't mean that the bedroom is out of bounds, though: there is actually a lot of products designed to make it easier for you to indulge some of your messier fetishes in the bedroom without causing permanent damage to your soft furnishings.”