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Summer is a time for reflection and for removing ourselves from the strain of everyday expectations. Whatever you’re doing this summer, whether you’re having a lovely STAYCATION in the UK, hanging out with your loved ones, or you’re heading off to new places, promise me, you’ll leave the NARCISSIST and all their baggage behind.

The Narcissist in your life thinks of nothing but themselves, so leave them to it, is my advice. Whether you’re just taking a break from their exhausting presence over the next few weeks, and decamping to a quieter zone with the people you care about, or you’ve decided to pull the plug and go no contact, remember that you NEED TO PUT DISTANCE BETWEEN YOURSELVES AND THEM, whether that’s just temporary or it’s a FOREVER thing.

Remember these things:

You’re whole

You’re beautiful

You don’t have to justify your presence to anyone

You can say NO

You have your own desires, your own dreams, your own inner thoughts, your own needs. Protect them. These things are your armour in life

You have rights; the right to a quiet life, the right to be heard and respected, the right to have a voice, the right to have your say. If the Narcissist does not acknowledge these rights of yours, WALK AWAY NOW!

The Narcissist is actually NOT YOUR PROBLEM, NOT YOUR ISSUE. If you are in contact with them, WATER DOWN YOUR INVOLVEMENT TO THE POINT OF PRACTISED INDIFFERENCE.

Keep your EMOTIONS under control. Just as you need to look after your physical body with nutritious food and exercise, you need to attend to your emotions. OVER-EMOTION causes disease and is just as bad for you as smoking. DON’T ALLOW THE NARCISSIST TO ENRAGE YOU. KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS ON LOW. IMAGINE YOUR EMOTIONS ARE THE GAUGE ON THE SHOWER UNIT. TURN THE GAUGE DOWN TO COOL AND KEEP IT THERE.

Give your time, energy and love to those who love you for who you are. IGNORE THE REST.

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My name is Miranda Ellis. I work as an author and I am studying European law. I live in Bristol, UK. I am married to an amazing man and have three beautiful adult sons. I live a happy life, one that I have carefully crafted to suit the type of person I am, but in the background of this, and throughout my life my relationship with my mother has been one of mutual dislike, antagonism and bitter sadness.
My mother is a narcissist. She is NOT a mild narcissist, if there ever was such a thing, she has an extreme Narcissistic Personality Disorder. My father was lovely, but my many siblings and half-siblings have developed - genetically - or through being exposed to the mother - strong narcissistic traits. I have not. I am the scapegoat, the 'black' sheep, the hated one. I live my life based on love, support and devotion to the people I care about. My mother has lived her life shallowly and cruelly. It's sad that she will die never having known the beauty of love - because I believe she has never really felt it - but that's her problem, not mine. Finally at the ripe old age of 48-and-a-half, I have decided to write down my thoughts on my mother, no holds barred, and to let off steam.
She continues to hurt me to this day and I don't know why I let her. I know my issues have everything to do with the way she has treated me through my life. I need to learn to let go. I have tried, and then I succeeded, then failed, then double failed to let her go.
Make no mistake narcissists are very dangerous people and the best thing to do when you meet one, is run as fast as you can. Never share anything with them. I hope you get some comfort from my diary, if you too are going through the same thing. Blessings to you, Miranda x
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