(Closed) Dealing with pressure from co-workers

Let me preface this by saying that I have been feeling very calm and patient lately regarding the waiting progress. Unfortunately, I have a coworker who seems to be more impatient about my impending proposal than I am :-/

She will frequently ask me questions like “So do you think he will propose on this-and-this occasion?”, “When do you think it will happen” etc. I have previously been able to shrug her behaviour off, but I feel like it’s reaching a point where it is getting on my nerves.

Today we had a new girl starting, and me and the previously mentioned coworker (who I sit next to) were talking to the new girl. The new girl asked us if we were in relationships (because the coworker asked the new girl first), and the coworker said “I am not, but BellsforHer is soon-to-be engaged!”. I felt a bit embarrassed by this because I don’t know this new girl and I prefer not to discuss my relationship with people I don’t know well.

The new girl asked what she meant, and the coworker starting talking about how my boyfriend should just propose soon to make me happy, that he’s dragging his feet, that I need to put my foot down etc. I felt MORTIFIED and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. She made my boyfriend sound like some lazy deadbeat who only makes me unhappy, which could not be further from the truth. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I will wait for as long as it takes for him to be ready, because I want him to be happy too. Other people making comments like that really doesn’t make it any easier for me to wait.

I know that this coworker, who is in her 30s, wants nothing more than to get married and have children. She hasn’t met the right man yet and I think that her impatience regarding MY engagement is really just her projecting her own desire to get married onto me, so I don’t want to be rude to her or anything like that… but I really can’t take more of her broadcasting my relationship to the entire office. Any ideas what I should say if she does it again?

And this is where you nip it in the bud. Tell her you don’t know where she’s getting those things from but you don’t want her discussing you and your Fiance like that anymore. It’s all in your power to stop her.

Do what I did, I have a co-worker who would ask me every Monday when I came into work if I got engaged, and every Friday would ask if I’m getting engaged over the weekend. So finally a couple weeks ago, she asked me if I was getting engaged over the weekend. I said depends, are you getting a boyfriend over the weekend?

@bRooklynRocks: I agree completely. You need to be polite, but firm, and ask her to stop broadcasting these details to other people in the office.

You may also want to start distancing yourself from her, if you can. Once you actually do get engaged, she is going to ask you all the time about picking a date and all your wedding plans, so it’s just downhill from here!