In an ideal world, parents would always be patient and nurturing, and kids would always be cooperative and make smart choices. This is not an ideal world, so we parents need a few sneaky strategies to preserve our sanity when the days are much too long and our patience much too thin.

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Offer a Bad Choice

My mom, a retired pediatrician, used to ask her patients and my siblings and I when we were younger if we wanted "one shot or two?" It's the classic psych trick of creating a false choice. Although this trick wears out quickly and is easy for older (or just wiser) kids to see through, it could be a way to make an unpleasant necessity (like a shot or foul-tasting medicine) the lesser of two evils.

An alternative is to offer two choices, either of which would be acceptable to you. For example, "We need to get these chores done before the party. Do you want to clean up your room or do the dishes?" Both strategies give kids a sense of control, while giving them a narrow window of options.

One final mind hack you could use is the "but you are free" technique: Strongly advise the option you prefer, but emphasize the child has a choice. (As with the other tactics, though, you'll have to accept the choices they make or give up the game.)

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Disguise the Good Things They Object to in Stuff They Like

Parents of picky eaters sometimes resort to smuggling healthy ingredients into sweets and all the bland things kids like to eat. Your child refuses to eat spinach? Just bake it into a brownie! (Jessica Seinfeld has "deceptively delicious" cookbooks centered around this trickery.) You could also try letting your kids add the secret ingredients themselves to encourage more variety while being a little more upfront about the ingredients.

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Either way, sometimes you have to hide the fact that something is good for them to get kids to cooperate. This might just be a (non-evil) part of parenting overall too. It's funny how creative we have to become with communication tricks like turning everything into a game and surrounding a boring chore (grocery shopping) with entertaining options (scavenger hunt) just to avoid frustration—and make things fun.

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Praise Effusively and Let Them Win

Praise might not seem like a manipulative move, but playing the cheerleader or encouraging healthy family competition (where the kid wins by doing what you want him or her to) could motivate even the most recalcitrant kid. For example, a daily tradition where the first person to get dressed in the morning gets to pick breakfast for the whole family—from a list of healthy options—is a kind of manipulation, but also sort of fun for everyone. (Well, except for mom and dad who have to eat plain English muffins every morning when the kids win.)

Like other human beings, kids like to feel accomplished and special, and you can use that to your advantage. Just reminding them of how well-behaved they've been in the past can prime them for that behavior again later.

Leverage Their Weaknesses and Fears

Manipulation is all about knowing what makes people tick and using that to your advantage. Parenting is similar, only you use it to both your and the child's benefit. For example, when you know your kid's favorite thing is a certain television show, you can get him or her to jump right out of bed in the morning just by saying if they want to watch it they have to get up early. It still surprises me how much I can get my daughter to do (brush her teeth, do extra book reports, go the f**k to sleep) when I get her to teach her stuffed animals to do what I want.

This post is part of our Evil Week series at Lifehacker, where we look at the dark side of getting things done. Knowing evil means knowing how to beat it, so you can use your sinister powers for good. Want more? Check out our evil week tag page.