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This is your tie today, boy. It’s romantic without being girly. (According to me). This weekend we would be attending my Grandfather’s memorial party. I think a nice charcoal suit, a shirt some shade of grey (very pale) and this silvery rose tie. Top it off with a hat, in the style of the 1930’s. Dress shoes.

Some women like shoes, not me. I’ve got two pairs of shoes and a pair of boots. I pretty much wear the same footwear all season long. I don’t love shoes. I do love new sheets, bedding and reading a great book in bed.

Today I found red flannel sheets at The Bay (a Canadian department store). I have another flannel set from The Bay and they are excellent. Not the pilly set which I bought (in a great masculine colour at another store). I bet this red set is just as wonderful, soft and thick. I’m really tempted to pull out my magic credit card, I even have a Bay store card which I haven’t used in awhile.

Would you love to fall asleep and wake up in these sheets?

Then I found pink or green polka dotted sheets in a cotton blend. Great colours. Very Spring! I know Winter is on the way but… how could you wake up feeling blue if you’re surrounded by pink, lime green an polka dots?!

Use this to make your own rules, if you like the idea of a slavery bracelet for your man.

The bracelet rules for the male:

Once it’s on your wrist, you are not allowed to take it off. And there are no exceptions. She is in charge now, and she is the only one who can take it off.

If you’ll take it off, it means you broke a contract you had with her, and she can decide on the punishment, and in addition she can claim your slavery for a double period of time.

As long as it’s on his wrist, you are her slave, and she is your owner. The status of your relationship or marriage has changed, and it will stay like this until she removes the bracelet.

At the moment, you are wearing the bracelet, you must bow down to the floor and kiss her feet/shoes until she decides it’s enough. By doing it, you admit that the status has change, and you are under her control.

During the time the bracelet is on you, you are obligated to accept her punishments. Once she calls you for punishment you cannot refuse. She is allowed to use the whip or leather belt to punish you as much as she wants.

Rules for the goddess:

You, and only you have the right to take the bracelet off and release him.

Before you put the bracelet, make sure that you are both know how long will be the period.

In case you both did not discuss how long he will be under your control, and for some reason the bracelet is on. The time will be the same as the last period.

If you decide that it will be for 14 days. You should release him after 14 days and don’t try to use your power to extend the time since he cannot take off the bracelet by himself, and he is depended on you to be released.

You cannot extend the period as punishment. If he was not obedient, punish him as much as you like. But do not extend the period because of it

You can extend the period only on one exception. If he missed a day, for some reason, you entitle to extend it in two days for every one day he missed.

For example: you both decided on 21 days. During the period, he needed to stay at work later one day, and he was sick and could not serve you for two days. He missed three days total and as compensation you have the right to extend the period in six days (two days for every day he missed). There will be no argument about it from his side.

Make sure to force these rules. He must respect these rules and the sacredness of the slavery bracelet.

I don’t know why these boots in particular interest me, but they do. Something about them is appealing in a masculine and sexy way. This boot in particular is expensive, from Jimmy Choo. But, I’ve seen the style before (in other price ranges) and always like it.

Looking for a way to make some extra money and think you could take on being a paid Domme? Let’s call it a Dominatrix. That usually seems more like the professional name for someone in the business of providing adult services.

How to Look Like a Dominatrix

There is an expected fashion when you get paid to act the role of Dominatrix.

Leather, latex or something designer the colour is most often black and the clothes are tight fitting. Corsets are in fashion.

Heels, high heels whether on thigh-high boots or shoes with spike heels, the Dominatrix does not wear comfortable shoes.

Hairstyles are likely pulled back from your face, out of the way and looking strict and severe.

Carry the tools of the trade, even if you don’t actually use them. A whip, chains and such make good extras.

How to Act Like a Dominatrix

Be aware of your presentation, how you stand, move and speak. Body language and posture can work in your favour. How you speak and what you say are also important. Be self aware. Study yourself in a mirror to see which poses and facial expressions work best for you.

Act confident and in charge. You aren’t actually in charge because you are playing a role for him. But, you need to give him the feeling that you are in charge and he is not. Confidence is easier to fake when you stand tall have a plan and a road map to follow.

The plan is important. You do not want to find yourself with a client expecting an hour spent serving you but you run out of things to do with him in the first ten minutes. Plan for more activities than you will need. You are also responsible for keeping him (and yourself) safe from harm. You need to know what you are doing. If he wants a fetish or kink you don’t know enough about be honest rather than taking things from pain pleasure to just plain pain. A safe word is not enough. You’re a professional, paid to know what you are doing, or at least make sure your client does not get more than he asked for.

Know your client’s needs and expectations before you begin. Also, know what you will need, tools and experience, to perform for the client. Know how far to go and what a real stop is versus a stop that is just his part of the game. Clients may want to beg you to stop but have you continue on as if you really were teasing, tormenting or torturing for your own amusement.

A Dominatrix does not have sex with her clients. Sex is not part of the performance/ service.

Learn the skills you need. Know how to use a whip before you pull one out and flick it around in the presence of a client. Know how to spank using anything from a hairbrush to your own hand. You are the professional and expected to have the knowledge to perform.

Pay attention to the stereotypes because you will be performing to the standards of your client and he (or she) has very likely built up a scenario based entirely on the stereotypical Dominatrix, kinks and fetishes.

My Mother has decided to make slippers for Christmas this year. She knits. I crochet and sew. We have tried two patterns found online so far. One did work but the slippers are pretty huge and floppy. I do like the chocolate brown colour she knit them in. They remind me of the sweater she knit me when I was still in high school, same colour and same style of knit.

We have looked at a lot of patterns. Some just don’t look right. Some are too cute for me to consider – maybe if I were still a child. Some patterns look so complicated I don’t think I’d want to start them as just a light-hearted project. But, a few look great. One I especially like but it’s a knit pattern and we need to get out and buy a set of four knitting needles for it. We haven’t done that yet. (It’s on the to-do list).

This whole winter slipper project started because I have bought so many slippers and then found them disappointing. One pair actually lasted a second winter, but then I decided to get a fresh pair and used the pink furry stuff they were made from for a holiday gingerbread man I was sewing up. If I had known those were the last slippers I would find to be good, I would have kept them. I bought three other pairs after that. All of them fell apart, became worn out or were awful because they didn’t have some tread – especially bad when the floors are a bit wet in the kitchen or bathroom.

So on the project goes. Between the two of us we will create a great pair of slippers, one method or another. I haven’t bought a pattern book, but looking online does make it tempting. I found one pair made from felt, those look warm and toasty for a cold winter.

One interesting thing I’ve discovered – in the US people leave their shoes on in the house. As a Canadian this sounds really odd. We take our shoes off at the door. That’s why we wear slippers in the house. Or, socks or just bare feet, if we don’t have slippers to put on.

Parkour is a philosophy as well as physical exercise. Parkour is running, dodging, jumping through an obstacle course, on foot and without any special equipment. Parkour is also about learning to live your life in a better way.

What Parkour Really Is: The Whole Picture

Parkour is more than physical exercise or an extreme sport. Parkour is not about buying equipment or gear. Parkour is not about performing tricks or competing or showing off. Parkour is available for any level of athlete, or non-athlete.

Parkour is a philosophy about moving within your environment (mental and physical) and dealing with the obstacles you face. Through Parkour you attempt to understand and improve yourself. Parkour helps us learn to understand and help others by giving us practical skills and the methods of using them.

Parkour teaches us to move in our environment in a way where we can gain the most ground, make real progression and learn how to manoeuvre in different variety of ways.

Parkour can take place in an urban environment. Also, in forests, deserts, any outdoor element or place where there are some obstacles and space to move around them.

Parkour practitioners are called tracuers or tracueses (for women).

One is not truly participating in Parkour without the combination of philosophy and exercise. Parkour is a physical and mental exercise to improve your body at any level of ability, to give you more confidence and change how you see and feel about the world.

How Did Parkour Start?

David Belle was influenced by his Father who grew up in Vietnam as a child soldier trained through obstacle courses known as Parcours. David Belle’s Grandfather taught him about Hebertism. Both of these merged with David’s own philosophy and experiences to become Parkour.

Getting Started: Keep Moving, That’s What Matters

Move around your personal space. Look at the objects in the room differently. Find new ways to move through the room. Take a different route. Walk backwards. Twirl while you move through the room. Skip or hop on one foot. Crawl or walk on your hands if you can. Simple movements are a start. (Don’t wreck the place, go outside to give yourself more room to move).

Remember the old kid’s games where the floor became something dangerous to step on. I used to swim in the public pool and pretend the stripes on the pool floor were giant whales side by side. I tried to avoid stepping on the dark lines between the whales – the dark space between them surely went on forever, sinking deep, down into the ocean. So, I had to swim over them to the next whale.

Important techniques for beginners are good jumping and landing techniques. The roll which limits impact and carries momentum to continue forward movement is an important beginner technique to master. Beginners also learn how to fall, because falling happens. Other beginning moves include monkey vaults and precision jumps.

Don’t start leaping from tall buildings. Find your way along at your own pace. Don’t consider Parkour only as a physical thing either. Think of ways you would like to move through your life, what is keeping you from moving? Could you find a new way to move and gain progress?

Train your mind for Parkour as well as your body. Take a look at puzzles, mazes, things that make you look at new solutions to find your way.

Getting Started: Equipment to Consider

Originally, Parkour was barefoot.

Of course, one nice feature about shoes is the protection of the feet. A tennis shoe should give better traction. Shoes for martial arts are popular for being close to being barefoot. You will want a shoe which is light, comfortable, flexible with a good grip on the ground. Consider snow, rain and sun too, Parkour goes well with the great outdoors.

You could look at wearing gloves to protect your hands. But, like shoes, Parkour doesn’t require any special gear.

You need fabric that can stretch and let your skin breathe, light, casual clothing which you can really move in and sweat in. It’s also important to avoid clothing which could get caught or snag on anything and slow you down or cause you injury.