Q: Why do I feel that I’ll lose my husband when he starts talking to another woman? I can’t understand my insecurity!

-Donna C.

A: Hi Donna,

I’m sorry to read about your insecurity. This type of insecurity or fear is either founded, because he has a history of cheating behavior, or unfounded, in which there’s no reason for it. Either way, this kind of thinking will lead to a tortuous and unhappy life that threatens the very relationship you fear losing. I think it’s time for this kind of thinking to end, Donna.

Since I don’t know if your fear and insecurity is based on your man’s past behavior or your previous experience in relationships, I suggest you meet with a therapist to talk this all out. If your guy has a history of wandering, I’d ask him to go to the therapist with you. But if this fear is unfounded and only exists in your imagination or from a past relationship you had, you should go alone first. Conquering your insecurity will eliminate this mental torture and help strengthen your trust in your partner.