Question: Is she trying to start something with me? (mixed signals)

When this girl was single last year (in between boyfriends, that is), she was pretty much a complete flirt. met her at a party and hung out with her a few times in group settings thereafter, thought maybe she liked me, but I then I thought it was clear that she didn't after realizing that she gives tens of guys attention every day and had maybe one hundred guys orbiting her life hoping to bang her. well the last time i saw her was when she drunkenly wandered into my bed while I laying there with the flu, started running her fingers through my hair and snuggling up against me and stuff. then she was kind of rambling and I heard her say she "kind of has a boyfriend," which I thought she said to keep me at arm's length, figuratively. (i looked on facebook the next day and saw that she had been in a relationship for a week or so.)

i just kinda forgot about her, did my own thing from then on and she didn't contact me either. i did run into her at a bar when i was there with my friends, and after greeting me she jumped onto her boyfriend and gave him a big kiss, which of course seemed to me an explicit way of showing me i'm a friendzoned loser, then she immediately started flirting with my friends and talking herself up. so yea iwas feeling like a loser at that point.

moved on completely, started pursuing other girls (and failed with a coworker lol). but now she's been contacting me again. texted be 3 times last week asking "bars?" but i couldn't go out any of those nights and also one night she drunktexted me a winky face asking "do you need any company? " which seemed suggestive. still has a boyfriend, according to facebook.

2 possibilities, as i see it. read on.

(1) op is a friendzoned loser and this girl wants him to be her bar buddy on nights when her boyfriend isn't around and she's bored. she doesn't mind drinking with op because she knows he's too much of a wuss to make a move on her. she is also an expert at leading guys on she knows how to play them like a violin. it is not worth op's time to respond to her ever agin.

(2) op might have a chance. she likes to make op jealous, which could be her way of encouraging him to go after her. he should take up her next offer to hit up the bars and he should try to man up and make a move on her.

What's your goal here? If you're looking to just bang her and have fun, it sounds like the window may be open for you. Or not. Who knows? Man up and make that move to see what happens -- what do you have to lose?

If you're looking for something more, I'd look elsewhere. I'm hearing a lot of flirting and drinking and drunken flirting in your post -- I don't think she's in a "something more" stage in her life.

Originally posted by Fischer Account:Hi, guys. first time posting. here it goes.

When this girl was single last year (in between boyfriends, that is), she was pretty much a complete flirt. met her at a party and hung out with her a few times in group settings thereafter, thought maybe she liked me, but I then I thought it was clear that she didn't after realizing that she gives tens of guys attention every day and had maybe one hundred guys orbiting her life hoping to bang her. well the last time i saw her was when she drunkenly wandered into my bed while I laying there with the flu, started running her fingers through my hair and snuggling up against me and stuff. then she was kind of rambling and I heard her say she "kind of has a boyfriend," which I thought she said to keep me at arm's length, figuratively. (i looked on facebook the next day and saw that she had been in a relationship for a week or so.)

i just kinda forgot about her, did my own thing from then on and she didn't contact me either. i did run into her at a bar when i was there with my friends, and after greeting me she jumped onto her boyfriend and gave him a big kiss, which of course seemed to me an explicit way of showing me i'm a friendzoned loser, then she immediately started flirting with my friends and talking herself up. so yea iwas feeling like a loser at that point.

moved on completely, started pursuing other girls (and failed with a coworker lol). but now she's been contacting me again. texted be 3 times last week asking "bars?" but i couldn't go out any of those nights and also one night she drunktexted me a winky face asking "do you need any company? " which seemed suggestive. still has a boyfriend, according to facebook.

2 possibilities, as i see it. read on.

(1) op is a friendzoned loser and this girl wants him to be her bar buddy on nights when her boyfriend isn't around and she's bored. she doesn't mind drinking with op because she knows he's too much of a wuss to make a move on her. she is also an expert at leading guys on she knows how to play them like a violin. it is not worth op's time to respond to her ever agin.

(2) op might have a chance. she likes to make op jealous, which could be her way of encouraging him to go after her. he should take up her next offer to hit up the bars and he should try to man up and make a move on her.

(3) find another woman, one with whom there's atleast a 50% chance won't be soliciting other guys while you're dating her. ??? Unless you're good with being part of a male harem. Then, go for it.