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I've seen the threads and I can relate,complaining about girlfriends or wive's not have enthusiasm in the bedroom.

I've seen many a thread where guys go on and on about their kinks and such.

And gosh, I have a huge list of kinks I love. I love foot play, i have a panty fetish, a fetish for nylons/pantyhose, some bdsm (being dom or sub), fantasies about impregnation (not really acted out though), i've done a fair bit of cum play (snowballs, creampie cleanup, etc) with a number of girls in my past. I have a huge kink in seeing the woman i'm attracted to with other men, the list is rather endless.

I visit sexual alternative communities and almost as a rule it's an 80% male population and the female population seems to just adore posting pics and receiving praise.

I guess what I'm asking is.. do women have fetishes? Do they have kinks that they adore? It seems every girl i've ever been with might like a certain position or to be kissed or nibbled in a certain erogenous zone but none have what i could call a full fledged fantasy that just overwhelms their thoughts from time to time, and they definitely have never expressed any fetishes to me.

I think women tend to have the same fetishes as men. I'm sure some have a higher occurrence in one gender over another, but I don't think there's anything that different in female psychology or physiology that would make them not have fetishes when men do. Of course I can't cite any sources for this, so take it with a grain of salt.

I would guess that the main reason we don't hear about women with fetishes as much is because women tend to be so much less open with their sexuality, mostly due to social and cultural pressures. I think if we were living in a truly sex-positive egalitarian society then there'd be a lot more women exploring their kinks and fantasies.

Although another thing to keep in mind is that fetishes can arise in situations of repression. If someone can't explore their identity or desires sexually, then those desires tend to be transplanted on to something else that's possibly non-sexual, resulting in a fetish. Not that this is where all fetishes come from. And once again I can't cite sources - I don't know for sure where they do come from, or if research even exists to attempt to answer that question. (If someone does, I'd love to see it.) But I understand that this is one possible way for someone to have a fetish, and if we do indeed find a greater incidence of fetishes in men rather than women (or vise versa), then this would be the first thing I would look into - what's going on in the prevalent male and female psychology, and how their dominant sexual desires are being repressed in a way that would incline one gender over another to develop a fetish.

edit: I should add that when I say fetishes arise from repression, I'm talking about big fetishes, like someone who can only get off when urine is involved, not someone who's inclined to think feet are sexy. So I'm not trying to say that everyone here that has a kink or fetish is repressed in some way, I'm talking about the people that have a strong enough fetish that it's the main, if not only way they enjoy sex.

And also I don't have any sources or research to cite for any of the last two paragraphs, and after writing them I'm not so sure if I believe them myself, since they're full of so much conjecture or information where I don't remember where I got it. So maybe it's not worth taking any of it seriously.

voyeuristic fantasies (watching.... any of the above and more, one friend has a thing for watching gay guys)

Gosh, and those are just the most recent few mentioned over the last set of beers/wine....

As women are sexual beings, this list will be endless.... the problem is a lot of women are not in touch with themselves and/or are too humiliated by it -- given the social "norms" re. (female) sexuality we are all (men and women) subjected to, it requires a) someone who really knows and loves themselves and b) trust to get her to divulge her fetish/fantasy

I have a school-girl fetish (imagining myself as the school-girl). So far, it's only been to the extent that I talk dirty about it while having sex. If I could get really in to it, it would involve me in a uniform and going the full 9 with the role-play.

i think fetish implies that its an obsession, but i would say i have kinks, and i certainly go through phases with different interests.

fantasies i'm not planning to act on now (or perhaps at all)
lactation,
bestiality

activities i could act on:
pussy pumping,
fisting

and there are some vague situations that intrigue me sexually- like not being able to control when sexual stimulation ends

of course i never told my vanilla ex-partner that got weirded out when i suggested we try anal any of this. maybe if you are open with your fantasies, with an understanding that you'll get one from her in return for each you tell her, you might learn more of her fantasies? or maybe the ladies commenting here are unicorns. who knows

I really love having my hair pulled and being bitten quite hard. I seem to get turned on by frustration..so i've always had a fantasy about being restrained.. handcuffed (no fuzzy cuffs.. just metal) to the bed and blindfolded. I also have fantasies about dominating a man..something about having complete control is exciting.
I forgot to add that i love fishnet stockings,garter belts, anything with lace, and high heels.