what is true love

Saturday, April 28, 2012

Love Quotations: On First LoveQuotes on the meaning and emotions of a first love.

"First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever." - Rosemary Rogers
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First love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity."- George Bernard Shaw
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end." - Benjamin Disraeli
"We never forget those who make us blush." - Jean-François De La Harpe
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Young love is from the earth, and late love is from heaven." - Turkish Proverb
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First love is dangerous only when it is also the last." - Branislav Nusic
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Sex is something I really don't understand too hot. You never know where the hell you are. I keep making up these sex rules for myself, and then I break them right away." - Holden Caulfield, The Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinge

The definition of love has challenged and perplexed thinkers and lovers since the beginning of time. Cogent explanations follow below.
"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles
"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant
"We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni
"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker
"Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown
"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe
"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken
"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong
"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer
"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes
"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum
"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker
"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman
"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous
"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke
"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud
"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston
"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain
"True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart." - Honore de Balzac.
"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks
"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde
"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg
"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov
"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown
"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm
"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times
"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning
"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
A medley of extemporanea;
And love is a thing that can never go wrong;
And I am Marie of Roumania."
- Dorothy Parker
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen

4) i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling
i fear

- i carry your heart with me
e.e. cummings

5) I love thee with the passion put to use

In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

With my lost saints,--I love thee with the breath,

Smiles, tears, of all my life!--and, if God choose,

I shall but love thee better after death.

- How Do I Love Thee?
Elizabeth Barrett Browning

6) I wish I could remember the first day,

First hour, first moment of your meeting me;

If bright or dim the season it might be;

Summer or winter for aught I can say.

So, unrecorded did it slip away,

So blind was i to see and to forsee,

So dull to mark the budding of my tree

That would not blossom, yet, for many a May.
- The First Day
Christina Rossetti

7) Drink to me, only with thine eyes

And I will pledge with mine;

Or leave a kiss but in the cup,

And I'll not look for wine.

The thirst that from the soul doth rise

Doth ask a drink divine:

But might I of Jove's nectar sup

I would not change for thine.

- Song: To Celia
Ben Jonson

8) Love is not love,

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove.

Oh, no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests.. and is never shaken.

- Sonnet CXVI
William Shakespeare

9) Her voice is low and sweet

And she's all the world to me

And for bonnie Annie Laurie

I'd lay me down and die.
- Annie Laurie
William Douglas

10) Neither love me for

Thine own dear pity's wiping my cheeks dry,

A creature might forget to weep, who bore

Thy comfort long, and lose thy love, thereby!

But love me for love's sake, that evermore

Thou mayst love on, through love's eternity.

- Sonnets from the Portuguese, XIV
Elizabeth Barrett Browning

11) She walks in beauty, like the night

Of cloudless climes and starry skies;

And all that's best of dark and bright

Meet in her aspect and her eyes:

- She Walks In Beauty Like the Night
Lord Tennyson

12) How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true;
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face.

- When You Are Old
William Butler Yeats

13) This feeling is like a wonderful sting.
I want this feeling to hold me captive.
I wouldn't give this up, not even for all four seasons to be spring.
It doesn't need to be masked as attractive,
This unstable beautiful pain is mine, its what I want, what I need!

- A Wonderful Sting
David P. Leverett

14) My love is as a fever, longing still
For that which longer nurseth the disease,
Feeding on that which doth preserve the ill,
Th' uncertain sickly appetite to please.
My reason, the physician to my love,
Angry that his prescriptions are not kept,
Hath left me, and I desperate now approve
Desire is death, which physic did except.

- My love is as a fever – Sonnet 147
William Shakespeare

15) Were spirits free from mortal mesh
And love not bound in hearts of flesh
No aching breasts would yearn to meet
And find their ecstasy complete.

For who is there that lives and knows
The secret powers by which he grows?

- Because She Would Ask Me Why I Loved Her?
Christopher Brennan

16) Where true Love burns Desire is Love's pure flame;
It is the reflex of our earthly frame,
That takes its meaning from the nobler part,
And but translates the language of the heart.

- Desire
Samuel Taylor Coleridge

17) I love thee as I love the tone
Of some soft-breathing flute
Whose soul is wak'd for me alone,
When all beside is mute.

- I Love Thee
Eliza Acton

18) I count no more my wasted tears;
They left no echo of their fall;
I mourn no more my lonesome years;
This blessed hour atones for all.
I fear not all that Time or Fate
May bring to burden heart or brow,—
Strong in the love that came so late,
Our souls shall keep it always now!

- At Last
Elizabeth Akers Allen

19) My love is such that Rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee, give recompence.
Thy love is such I can no way repay,
The heavens reward thee manifold I pray.

- To My Dear and Loving Husband
Anne Bradstreet

20) Love seeketh not Itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care;
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hells despair.

- The Clod and the Pebble
William Blake

21) I never saw so sweet a face
As that I stood before.
My heart has left its dwelling place
And can return no more.

- First Love
John Clare

21) Well: Love and Pain
Be kinfolks twain;
Yet would, Oh would I could Love again.

- A Song of Love
Sidney Lanier

22) You & I, Love, together we ratify the silence,
while the sea destroys its perpetual statues,
collapses its towers of wild speed and whiteness:

because in the weavings of those invisible fabrics,
galloping water, incessant sand,
we make the only permanent tenderness.

- Love Sonnet IX
Pablo Neruda

23) Oh, may your silhouette never dissolve on the beach;
may your eyelids never flutter into the empty
distance.
Don't leave me for a second, my dearest.

- Love Sonnet XLV
Pablo Neruda

24) He brought me to the banqueting house,
and his banner over me was love.
Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples:
for I am sick of love.

- The Rose of Sharon
Solomon

25) Beauty and love are all my dream;
They change not with the changing day;
Love stays forever like a stream
That flows but never flows away;

- Beauty and Love
Andrew Young

25) But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

- If You Forget Me
Pablo Neruda

26) Then came a moment of renaissance,
I looked up - you again are there,
A fleeting vision, the quintessence
Of all that`s beautiful and rare.

- A Magic Moment I Remember
Alexander Pushkin

27) Whenever Beauty looks,
Love is also there;
Whenever beauty shows a rosy cheek
Love lights Her fire from that flame.
When beauty dwells in the dark folds of night
Love comes and finds a heart
entangled in tresses.
Beauty and Love are as body and soul.
Beauty is the mine, Love is the diamond.

- All Through Eternity
Rumi

28) is the lasting beauty:
its lips give to drink
of the water of life.
Truly it is the water,
that which pours,
and the one who drinks.

The Beauty of the Heart
Rumi

29) What is love? 'Tis not hereafter;
Present mirth hath present laughter;
What's to come is still unsure:
In delay there lies not plenty;
Then, come kiss me, sweet and twenty,
Youth's a stuff will not endure.

- O Mistress Mine
William Shakespeare

30) Again and again, however we know the landscape of love
and the little churchyard there, with its sorrowing names,
and the frighteningly silent abyss into which the others
fall: again and again the two of us walk out together

She went to sleep as she always had, immediately and deeply. She awoke, choking, in a room filled with smoke and to a kind of fear she had never experienced before. She was 21 years old, and she was confronted with the very real thought that her life might be finite.
She couldn’t have known that, after she went to sleep, her roommate’s boyfriend had left a burning cigarette in the ashtray next to the couch. She slept while the end table was jostled and the ashtray tilted and the cigarette rolled into the groove between the couch arm and the cushion. She slept while later, after her roommate’s boyfriend left and her roommate went to sleep, the couch exploded in flames and ignited everything around it. She slept while her roommate, closer to the smoke, leapt out of her own bed and threw open her window and hung from the ledge outside her window.
She ran to the bedroom door. It was hot to the touch, and she knew not to open it. She ran to the window, opened that, sat on the sill with one leg dangling down, seven stories above the ground. She saw her roommate hanging for her life on the ledge under her bedroom window. She assumed her life was over.
Some minutes later, she heard someone come into her room and she heard the words, “You’re going to be OK now.” She felt a damp towel being placed over her head and strong arms pulling her from the window sill. The arms stayed around her along the hallway, down seven flights of stairs, and onto a couch in the lobby. The towel was removed and she heard the same words, “You’re going to be OK now.” She didn’t see the speaker. She saw her roommate brought into the lobby on a stretcher and she heard a firefighter say, “We can’t find the other girl.” She went up to them and told them that she was the “other girl.”
The firefighter asked her how she had gotten out of the apartment, and she told him someone came into her room and saved her. He said that was impossible. The apartment door had been locked. They had to break the door down to get to the roommate. They knew no firefighter could have entered before that.
She called her mother. Before she could speak, her mother asked “What happened? I know something terrible happened. Your grandmother came to me in a dream and kept crying and saying ‘Something happened to my end table! It’s gone!”
The end table, along with everything else in the apartment was, indeed, gone. The mystery “person” who saved Susan’s life was never found. Susan never expected that he would be. She doesn’t know where her grandmother’s powerful spirit resides. She is simply grateful that love transcends both death and displeasure over ruined furniture.

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It is not an easy job to know whether a woman likes you. Women are by nature, nurturers. It is natural for them to lavish affection and care. So if a woman you like pampers you like a baby, don't take it for granted that she is in love with you. However, if she goes out of her way to make you feel special, then there may be chances that she really likes you. A woman gives strong yet subtle signs that she loves you. Read on further for ways to find if a girl likes you. You will find a definite answer to the question of how to know if she loves you.

Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You

Whenever you compliment her, her cheeks turn pink. If she blushes when you are around, it means she is smitten by you.

She shows public display of affection. Women are not always comfortable with showing affection in public. But if she runs her fingers through your locks, or strokes your cheek, take notice.

The way she looks at you with those dreamy eyes, is a dead give away that she likes you.

Check out her body language when you sit with her. If she sits with cross legs facing you, it means she is interested in you. Also, if she touches your shoulders or rests her palm on yours, it is a sign that she likes you.

When going out with you, she takes extra care to look good. She adds sensuality to her whole outfit combined with simplicity and elegance.

The way she smiles and laughs at your jokes is a sign that she likes you.

She pays extra attention to you and takes interest in the activities you do, it means she definitely has a soft corner for you.

While talking to her friends and family, if she brags about you, know for sure that you are definitely someone special for her.

If she talks to you for long hours and avoids calls from her friends during the time of conversation, know for sure that you are being given more importance than others, which is a direct road to being loved.

If she always encourages you to go forward with your plans and chips in good advice for you to move ahead in personal and professional life, she is definitely an ideal lover.

If she wants to spend some extra time with you and help you in all ways possible, it means she is in love with you.

The willingness to sacrifice is a clear cut answer to know if she loves you or not. She would go that extra mile to make you happy, even if that means sacrificing her hobby.

Although the feeling of jealousy is not good, sometimes healthy jealousy gives hint that the other person is afraid of losing you and has feelings for you.

Worrying about your safety and whereabouts is one thing through which women often show their love and care. If your girl feels in the same way, know for sure you are her special one.

During a conversation with you, if she blinks her eye, know that the girl in question is trying to give you hints.

By now you should be sure as to what are the signs to watch out for if a girl truly likes you. More than anything else, it is important to respect her emotions than play with them. So if the woman you like is showing these signs, don't be hesitant to go and speak out your mind to her. Who knows you may be in for a pleasant surprise!!

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Millions of couples endure the nightmare of relationship breakdown every year and the divorce rate shows no sign of slowing. It seems that many people find it very difficult to form lasting, happy relationships and here are 5 common mistakes that kill relationships. Get rid of them from your relationship and you'll enjoy a happier love life.

1. Without doubt, the single worst way to spoil your relationship is to be argumentative because you need to be right. This is DEADLY. Argumentative people will argue to the nth degree until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider their partner's viewpoints and will rarely if ever compromise. Any criticism, even if fair and justified will be met with defensive and sometimes angry responses as the need to be right overrides the need to compromise and improve the relationship. Try not to get into silly, futile arguments and remember that winning arguments isn't the objective, but what is best for your relationship - if you want it to last.

2.Respect for each is absolutely fundamental. This means accepting and loving your partner for the wonderful, unique human being they are. However, many people actually believe they "own" their partner, and expect them to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more like slavery than love! Your partner is not your private property, they certainly aren't your slave and it isn't conducive to a happy relationship to restrict their freedoms by treating them this way. Your partner may want to grow in ways you may not like or even feel comfortable with but preventing their growth not only stifles them but you as well. Because your partner will treat you in the same way. Instead of restricting each other's freedoms, it is far better encourage your partner to grow and become the person they want to be. Indeed, this is the only way true love can flourish.

3. John Lennon told us "all you need is love" and while it's a great song, it simply isn't true. Successful relationships require more than love if they are to last. People aren't perfect and all of us have our quirks and habits that can grate on our partners. Life also throws us some pretty trying times and getting through these times takes determination and hard work and many relationships flounder during such times. Along with the changes we all have do deal with such as children and aging to name but two, you can see that love - while it must be there - isn't the only ingredient needed for a successful relationship.
4. Keeping the spark alive in a relationship is something many couples fail to do. Contentment sets in, you start to take your partner for granted and gradually, the spark fades and dies. It's so easy to fall into the contentment trap and the result is you stop making an effort for your partner. Your appearance changes, you don't go out as much, and lots of other activities you used to do have been ditched. The mystery has gone, the challenge has gone, the spark just isn't there! Keep it alive by making the effort to do new things, to enjoy new adventures and remember to do things separate from each other as well as with each other and you'll reap the rewards.

5.Routines can kill relationships in double quick time, they are that bad. OK, we all need a certain amount of routine in our lives but when there is so much routine life becomes totally predictable, the boredom critter creeps in and eats away at your relationship. Imagine being in a relationship where you do the same things each and every week, nothing new is tried, no excitement, no adventure, no buzz!

You know what happens to a garden if it isn't watered? It withers and dies. That's what's happening here. Make the effort to keep the spark alive by doing and enjoying new experiences and keep the boredom critter away!

These super tips will strengthen your relationship and both you and your partner will enjoy long lasting happiness and a deeper loving bond.