A vibe can be a couple's best friend. The question is, how do you help HIM see it that way (and make sure he doesn't feel "replaced")?

Historically, sex toys were marketed towards the single lady. That's certainly changed in the last few years with the popularity of the We-Vibe and other couple toys, but it can still be tricky to introduce a vibe to a lover without implying they're doing something wrong. That's why our #1 tip is to make it clear that toys are all about adding to the existing pleasure (we can always have more fun!) Here are some other suggestions for introducing some buzz into the bedroom without hurting anyone's feelings:

Shop together so he feels part of the process. Bonus: looking at all those fun accoutrements might just spark some other experimentation.

Choose something that's versatile. That way, if it turns out you don't love using it together, you can always use it solo.

The media really isn't doing us any favours with their depictions of sex. Most of what we see is missionary-style intercourse and yet the woman seems to come every time. In reality, 70% of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. Seventy percent! Knowing that, it makes sense to add some extra stimulation :)

Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.

Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for people seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.

Red Tent Sisters

Holistic Reproductive, Fertility & Sexuality Solutions

Kim & Amy Sedgwick are the Co-Founders of Red Tent Sisters, a business that has been providing holistic fertility, sexuality and contraceptive solutions since 2007. Amy is trained as a Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner who specializes in helping women coming off the pill adopt natural, effective birth control using the Justisse Method. Kim runs their “sister” business, ecosex.ca (Canada’s first eco-friendly sexuality store) and coaches women who are ready to begin claiming and communicating their erotic desires. Together they provide support to women worldwide through their online courses, YouTube videos, and social media channels, and are known for their professional yet candid sisterly advice.