Have you ever wondered why we do some of the things we do?

Have you ever started a new job and asked ‘why do you do it that way’ when you can see there is a much simpler way?

More often than not the answer comes back ‘I’m not sure we just always have’.

Well I think that is the way of divorce in this country and probably worldwide too is delivered.

It still amazes me when someone calls for the first time because they have heard the radio advert which states that you don’t need two solicitors to get divorced. The call starts with ‘I heard your advert on the radio. I didn’t know that you didn’t have to have two solicitors’

Well you don’t and my advice is; you only need two solicitors if you have lots of money to throw away. I am sure the solicitor is very grateful that you have just paid for their next holiday in the Caribbean when you cannot afford to take you and your children to Cornwall or Spain.

We are so often led down the road of being sheep because we are ill informed.

Nothing is nicer to my ears when I hear a potential new client thank me for talking in straight English rather than in legal jargon. The law is designed so we uninformed public think we have to follow in the steps of our ancestors. Divorce should not and does not cost tens of thousands of pounds. Hundreds of thousands in some case.

It was recently recorded by a high court Judge that our family law was not fit for purpose and I could not agree with him more. We went down the road of marriage together why can’t we go down the road of divorce together?

At Divorce Negotiator hundreds of well-informed couples have. We meet for coffee, tea or a glass of wine and we sit and work out what is best for you both and the children in the kindest possible fashion because when all is said and done and living in two separate households you will still be a family. So let’s keep the arguments to a minimum, the costs to a minimum and children will see happier parents. I remember hearing once it is better to come from a broken home than to live in one. And this is so true but only providing you stop throwing mud and accusations at each other. That really is not the example you should be setting for your children.

When we fall out of love or as often happens, one does before the other we end up in this situation where one party acts like the parent the other acts like a child and no one is acting like the adult. Let us help you and guide you back to adulthood so you can both talk together again for the sake of your finances and your children.

Carol Sullivan

Divorce Negotiator

Have you ever wondered why we do some of the things we do? was last modified: May 7th, 2019 by Carol Sullivan