Word on the street is that the baby remains unnamed and Mayer sent out a mass email asking friends and family to offer up name suggestions, but nobody seems to care that the new 37-year-old mom is using crowd-sourcing to find a unique moniker that will do well in search engine results.

Instead everyone is focused on Mayer’s abbreviated maternity leave. Mayer said she’d only take a few weeks when she first became CEO but nobody believed her. Birth and motherhood will change her, everyone assumed. But now that she has a baby in her arms, she’s singing the same tune and expected to be back at Yahoo in two weeks.

The average leave length in the U.S. is 10 weeks, but Mayer is taking what many women would consider the perfect length for a family Hawaiian vacation. Often women don’t take extended leaves because they can’t afford to, but Mayer could obviously afford to stay at home a few extra weeks to bond with her baby, learn to change diapers, and rock her bundle of joy to sleep.

When Mayer first announced her new position at Yahoo in July and revealed that she was also 7 months pregnant the very same day, she quickly became the face of working moms. Of the Fortune 500 companies, a record 20 have female CEOs. Mayer is the youngest woman ever in the Fortune 500 and women were excited to have a smart, motivated woman turning around a company and passing out smart phones to all her employees. She was to become the working mom’s role model, as she blazed trails for all the women trying to climb the corporate ladder.

But now people are questioning whether she’s really helping—or hurting—women. Some moms are mad. Mayer is setting the bar way too high for other working moms, they say. If Mayer is stepping back into the office a week after her milk comes in, then will all new working moms be expected to do the same? When we tell our bosses that we want three months off, will they look at us and say, “Marissa Mayer only took two weeks off! So can you!”?

Mayer didn’t just have foot surgery. She birthed a tiny human being. A baby who needs stuff. And, no, I don’t mean breast milk stuff. I don’t care whether Mayer breast-feeds or goes the formula route. I don’t care if she pumps at work or is currently experiencing the very painful process of having her breasts swell with milk and then slowly dry out. I don’t care if she co-sleeps (though I can’t imagine) or puts her baby all the way in the other wing of her house. I don’t care if she lets her baby stay in the car seat much longer than doctors recommend, because that’s the only place the baby will sleep. But I do think she has a responsibility to, you know, parent her infant full time for awhile.

But then again, is Mayer’s leave any of our business? Is it fair to pull her into one of these Great Mommy Debates? It’s her life, her career, her child and who are we to judge?

It’s not fair, of course, to position her as a role model in the broader debate over what working mothers can or can’t do. Mayer has vastly more resources than most (she can afford round-the-clock nannies and cooks and maids). She has more freedom to control her schedule because she’s in charge (ask any working mother what’s harder, long hours or unpredictable hours, and it’s the latter that will prompt more complaints). And she apparently thrives off of hard work and may personally miss being away from it more than some others do (Mayer has said she likes “to stay in the rhythm of things” and that she can get by on as little as four to six hours of sleep).