How to talk to teens about sex

Generally, sex is an akward subject and is still so between parents/guardians and teenagers.If you wish to talk to your teens about sex, some motivational thoughts should come to mind and trigger your determination. These includes

Why you should.

What could happpen if you don’t.

What to expect and how to go about it.

What to say<

Why you should : With protection as a major reason,parents or guardians often wish to(and ought to) talk to their teens about sex.Research has shown that teens who had sex advise from their parents were able to make better decisions concerning sex such as safety in sex, choosing the right partner and abstinence as the best protection from sexually transmitted diseases.

What could happen if you dont :Teenagers are generally curious and experimental. If you don’t give them the sex knowledge, they will get it from somewhere else with a high risk of getting the information from the wrong sources such as peers who might just be as ignorant as themselves. So it is safer when you do it which brings special advantages such as:

Getting you closer to your teen : Teens are normally embarassed and awkward with all the changes going on in their body and new discoveries so, they tend to cling to their peers at this age believing that they understand each other.As a result, parents and their teens seem to have a distant relationship. When you talk to them about sex at this age, a closeness will build and bridge that gap because sex kiss even of paramount interest at this age and if they can get the information from you,you are doing them a favor they will be grateful for.

Earning their trust : If you can talk to them about sex, they will seek your advice for almost about anything and you will know what they are up to.

What to expect and how to go about it : As sex is an awkward topic, mentioning it to your kids may trigger equally awkward reactions such as embarassment,such as wanting to hide their faces, or even wanting to run out the door or smug looks.

whatever the case, the best way to go about it is to tell them how well you understand their curiosity. And you are prepared to talk to them about it, making sure to remind them that you was once like them so that they can be able to identify with you.

What to say : It is better to go straight to the point than beating around the bush. It saves time and stress.

Make it a conversation and not a preaching. Ask them what they think about relationships and sexuality and whatever they say be sure to give them honest answers.

Talk about relationships : let them know about feelings of attraction between the opposite sex and how to handle it. Let them know it is unnecesary at their age. And it shouldn’t be a priority because they still have a long way to go. Tell them that it is better to keep the friendship by getting to know each other and doing interesting things together like reading and fun things like movies and games or discussing their hopes and dreams of what they will like to be in the future.Emphasize that there is time for everything.

Talk about protection : Eventually, some teenagers will have sex. Tell them about protection. Be open.Tell them about the types of protection that are available, the common one being condoms(letting them know that it is not 100% safe(To assist in decision making if they should be tempted to have sex)

Tell them about the benefits of abstinence and control : Talk about the risks involved in having sex like pregnancy and STDs when protection fails or is not used. Let them know the responsibilities that come with pregnancy like supporting the child and delay in education (especially with girls).

Tell them how they will be doing the wrong thing : at the wrong time while their mates will be going to school.And tell them how humiliating and painful it will be to have STDs, going with the common ones like Gonorrhea for guys and genital herpes for girls.They should know that with abstinence and control, they wouldn’t have to worry about STDs and pregnancy.

Make sure you let them know that it may not be easy but emphasize that it is better if they try.

Finally, know that talking to your teenagers about sex in a frank way is the best option as opposed to silence so that chances for negative surprises are slim as you will be closer to them more than ever.

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