Why actually ? Because she gets 1000s of it or there's another reason ?

Short answer? Because it's creepy and weird.

The long answer: because it feels gross and objectifying. Because looks fade. Because no woman wants to feel like you don't care what she has to say or who she is, that you just like her because you think she's hot. Women, very broadly and generally speaking, are looking for a relationship with someone she actually likes as a person and who likes her back as a person, not just someone who gets turned on by her body. A body that will change with age, could change significantly after child birth and what if a possible accident happens that leaves her disfigured somehow?

Like Sweets pointed out, that's the reason some women put "say something interesting" on their profiles. It's not about getting sex ASAP. I myself typically write something along the lines of "tell me about your favorite animal" or some other silly thing that will both start a conversation (I love animals) and prove that they read my profile. Then if they fail to do that I know they:

1. Didn't bother reading my profile, or
2. They read it, but don't care about what I want to talk about

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if i were you, my answer would be" "inspire me". Or just be authentic and tell her you don't know what to do with that question as you find it more interesting to get to know her than tell her something, and then ask her a personal question like " what would you love to happen when you meet someone here?" That way you take controle and women love it when men do that (well i do!) and you can get a more real conversation.

if i were you, my answer would be" "inspire me". Or just be authentic and tell her you don't know what to do with that question as you find it more interesting to get to know her than tell her something, and then ask her a personal question like " what would you love to happen when you meet someone here?" That way you take controle and women love it when men do that (well i do!) and you can get a more real conversation.

This is why it's tricky to give exact answers, because both of these would make me shake my head and think he's too much of a control freak or picked up the line from a cheesy "how to talk to women" guide. I get a bad Fifty Shades of Grey feeling from the first one especially.

Just be yourself, that's a super cliché answer, I know, but it's true. You can only fake being someone else for so long before your true self pops out, and women are particularly good at spotting it. If you naturally take control, go ahead and do it and attract women who like that and ya'll will have a good time. If you're someone who wants to have equal say, do that and attract women who like that (I do). If you like women who take charge, join the club.

I get a bad Fifty Shades of Grey feeling from the first one especially.

Haha your feeling is not so much off... i love playing with polarity To me it's very natural and i feel a lot of love in supporting men to their natural state of being by loving the crap out of them instead of playing drama's or responding from historical abuse, but that would be an off topic conversation

The long answer: because it feels gross and objectifying. Because looks fade. Because no woman wants to feel like you don't care what she has to say or who she is, that you just like her because you think she's hot. Women, very broadly and generally speaking, are looking for a relationship with someone she actually likes as a person and who likes her back as a person, not just someone who gets turned on by her body. A body that will change with age, could change significantly after child birth and what if a possible accident happens that leaves her disfigured somehow?

Plus everyone puts themselves in a good light for profile pic on these sites even men. And, Userguide- women are always evaluated on their looks-plain and simple. People can say otherwise but its true. We already have to rebuff advances, harassment and the like (not to get on a soap box) and on dating sites it can be worse then real life... Sorry to hijack

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Like Sweets pointed out, that's the reason some women put "say something interesting" on their profiles. It's not about getting sex ASAP. I myself typically write something along the lines of "tell me about your favorite animal" or some other silly thing that will both start a conversation (I love animals) and prove that they read my profile. Then if they fail to do that I know they:

1. Didn't bother reading my profile, or
2. They read it, but don't care about what I want to talk about

Sometimes it helps to make a statement like you said above but then in turn ask a question when contacted.

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if i were you, my answer would be" "inspire me". Or just be authentic and tell her you don't know what to do with that question as you find it more interesting to get to know her than tell her something, and then ask her a personal question like " what would you love to happen when you meet someone here?" That way you take controle and women love it when men do that (well i do!) and you can get a more real conversation.

Not to be contrary but men generally have the upper hand or control so not all women want that. I think most women want a little yin and yang- equality.

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Haha your feeling is not so much off... i love playing with polarity To me it's very natural and i feel a lot of love in supporting men to their natural state of being by loving the crap out of them instead of playing drama's or responding from historical abuse, but that would be an off topic conversation

I don't use dating sites but last time I browsed one, I saw most girls didn't have more than a generic description, but almost always a carefully picked picture (makeup, good light, nice scenery) - so isn't that funny I can't compliment her on that and should make guesses about her personality (of which I have no idea)?

I don't use dating sites but last time I browsed one, I saw most girls didn't have more than a generic description, but almost always a carefully picked picture (makeup, good light, nice scenery) - so isn't that funny I can't compliment her on that and should make guesses about her personality (of which I have no idea)?

Of course you are able to appreciate and compliment her on that- why wouldnt you be able to?