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Sometimes you need a bit of help getting in with someone new at a party or the club. Well that’s what friends are for. So how’s your wingman game? You’ll hear from sex and relationships therapist Amanda Lambros on what the best way to approach is.

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Break ups are pretty horrible, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t sometimes worth it.Thanks to a certain pop star, there’s been a lot of chat lately about why we should be grateful for our exes rather than just bitter. Find out why when we're joined by a psyc.

Dating after a break up can be hard as it is, but imagine dating when you’re single because your partner had passed away.Many young people have experienced losing a friend or family member, but it’s rare to be a widow in your 20s. Find out the challenges faced and how to overcome them.

If you’ve used drugs before, you might be aware of the way drugs alter your sense of state, and if you’ve used a lot of drugs, you might be aware of how addictive and potentially destructive they can be. Add sex to the mix, and it could be one nasty cocktail.Recently we were contacted by Bryce, who’s in his mid-twenties and is recovering from a ...…

People with intellectual and cognitive disabilities can love sex and want to be in relationships as much as anyone else. But there can be obstacles to making these relationships to happen.Find out what those barriers are and how to overcome them.Featuring:Amie O'Shea, Research Fellow in the School of Health & Social Development, Deakin Universi ...…

It’s just three little words, eight letters. So why do we find it so damn hard to say ‘I Love You’? The build up to it can feel excruciating, and what do you do if you say it, and the person you love doesn’t say it back?Featuring relationships therapist Desiree Spierings.

If you get your period regularly, you might be all around the menstrual cup, and prefer it over traditional hygiene products like tampons or pads… Find out what the rage is about these “period keep cups” and why you might want to try one too.

If you’re in your 20s and in a long term relationship, there’s a good chance you haven’t been in a relationship with anyone else. You might not have even had sex with anyone else…So it’d be reasonable for you to think “is there anything else out there, or is this is - forever?”... Find out if the relationship break is for you.…

If you’re a guy in your 20s, your fertility or the ability to get someone pregnant is probably not something you’re worrying about. Seeing we’re at the end of Movember, a month raising awareness for men’s health, we thought we’d take a look at male infertility myths… are things you’re doing now potentially screwing things up for your future self?…

It’s November and some of you might be taking part in no-fap or no-nut November where you don’t masturbate for a whole month.Find out if taking a break can be good for you, if it’s even worth it, and why this no masturbating for a month is even a thing.Featuring Dr Lauren Rosewarne and sex therapist Gemma Cribb.…

Last month, 28-year-old Melbourne boy Jack Chapman passed away. He was in a sub/dom relationship with a guy in America - where he’d been living.Find out how you can manage your sub/dom relationship and make sure it doesn't take over your life.Featuring Dr Lauren Rosewarne, kink educator Aleni De Viate and kink-friendly GP Dr George Forgan-Smith.…

Have you been dating someone for ages to suddenly find they remind you heaps of your Mum or Dad? It seems like your worst nightmare, ending up with someone like your parent, but how common is it? Hear from a psych on whether it’s common for us to be attracted to people who act like our parents, and how we can break the cycle.…

Sometimes, you might be having sex and wonder whether your lover is actually enjoying it, or just letting you do your thing. If it’s the latter, it doesn’t come across all that enthusiastic, and that can have you wondering whether it’s really consensual. So what’s the deal in this situation?Turns out there’s a way you can work all this out. It’ ...…

Have you been in a relationship where you think everything’s going fine, but then all of a sudden your partner thinks they’re not good enough for you? Find out how to deal with that, and if you're the one feeling you're not good enough, how to improve your self worth.

A report out recently revealed that gay conversion therapy has been happening in Australia since at least the 70s. And more surprisingly it's still happening.It comes under the banner of ‘ex-gay’ therapy, which is the idea in a few religious sects and communities that same-sex attraction is a disorder you can treat or heal.They might try and ‘p ...…

Syphilis, a disease that we’d nearly eradicated, is back and has been on the rise in Australia every year since 2010, with rates having more than tripled in the last 8 years. So what is it, how can you protect yourself, and why is it returning with a vengeance?

Sometimes you need a bit of help getting in with someone new at a party or the club. Well that’s what friends are for. So how’s your wingman game? You’ll hear from sex and relationships therapist Amanda Lambros on what the best way to approach is.

If you were dating someone and it turned out they had to move cities, even countries, be it for work or study or family, you basically have three options: break up, do it long distance, or move for your partner.So how do you make it work?

Say you’re in a relationship, but you’ve been watching cam girls stripping, or wanking on chatroulette without their knowledge. Maybe you were looking at porn, or hiding a secret sex toy? Do you feel guilty not telling your partner? Does it count as cheating?

Have you ever been in a situation with your partner, where you’re about to head off somewhere but you have a few minutes to kill, so you think, hey, why not have a quickie?If you don’t know what you’re doing, you might leave a quickie feeling unsatisfied, sex therapist, Chantelle Otten is here to help so you can have a safe and sensual quick sesh.…

Making out in the street or having sex in your hotel might be something we can do freely and safely here at home, but it can get you in trouble in many popular locations we go on holidays too. It could get you in jail or even deported. We get the lowdown with Chris Zeiger from Lonely Planet.Plus, being overseas can make you more vulnerable to s ...…

When you’re holidaying overseas, it’s a pretty good opportunity to have some fun. But being in a foreign place can also leave you vulnerable. What do you do if something goes wrong? Featuring: Cynthia Pollard - clinical nurse consultant, Marie Stopes Australia

Gay, bi and trans dating app Gridr launched Kindr this month, a campaign against racial discrimination on its platform. We’re looking at the dating experiences of queer people of colour, why there’s so much in your face racism and what we can do about it.

Recently, Sir Paul McCartney of the Beatles revealed a bit more than we bargained for in a GQ interview about sex acts he’d performed in front of his writing partner, John Lennon. Which lead us to ask, how many of us masturbate with our mates and is there anything wrong with that? Featuring lecturer from the School of Political and Social Scien ...…

Ever thought of putting a steel rod into your urethra for sexual pleasure? Sounding can be done no matter what genitals you have. You’ll hear from Mistress Tokyo on what’s involved with this act and why it might be best left to the pros, and producer James Findlay goes to a sounding workshop to see how to sound a penis first hand.…

While it’s rough being cheated on, what’s it like to be the ‘other lover'? How can you reconcile the conflicting feelings around being that person, hoping that one day they might leave their partner and be with you? You can also find yourself in a spiral of thoughts finding reasons to justify your actions……

If you’re having sex with a partner and they don’t cum, do you feel inadequate? Not cumming during intercourse is usually something we associate with cis, hetro women, but it happens to a number of guys as well. It can leave the guy feeling unsatisfied and leave their partner feeling like they’re not good enough. Especially when guys are assume ...…

Have you ever experienced clinginess in a relationship or have stayed with someone because you’d rather not be alone? It might be because of something that happened when you were just a kid. Learn about the fear of abandonment and attachment styles when a psychologist drops by and hear how a listener's fear of abandonment has been effecting his ...…

Have you ever used a blindfold during sex? How about mummification? Ok that’s more extreme, but both these things are classed as sensory deprivation. You’ll hear about how playing with your senses can make sex a bit more interesting.

You may have heard of people having a leather fetish, but have you heard much of rubber and latex fetish? It’s where you wear special latex and rubber costumes.Can you imagine how hard they might be to put on…?! You'll meet Mistress Mynx, a kink personal trainer and latex enthusiast and a young Melbourne guy who became the country's first Rubbe ...…

Have you ever been out at a bar or a club with your partner, or maybe someone you just picked up, and thought, “I can’t wait, I just want to have sex right now … in front of all these people…” Well, there are special places where that can happen. They’re called sex on premises venues, bars, clubs and spaces where you can have sex, right there, ...…

If you go on a lot of dates, you might be burning a hole in your wallet trying to find love. There’s the food, the movie tickets, that flash new outfit, and if you’re going on several dates a week it can add up. So how can you woo someone on a budget? New research from dating site eHarmony has found that young Aussies are spending around $2000 ...…

BDSM usually conjures images of whips, chains, ropes and restriction AKA implements of pain! But for some people, it’s a way of overcoming physical, psychological and sexual trauma. On this podcast, we’re exploring the world of bondage therapy. You’ll hear from sex therapist Jeremy Shub on why it works, and holistic councillor Bianca Wolff on w ...…

Kissing is fun and it’s a great way to get to know someone intimately, but it’s pretty easy to get it wrong. How much tongue is too much? Eyes open or closed? And what do you do with your hands? Welcome to The Hook Up's Kissing Masterclass with sexuality and relationship educator Emma "The Tonguinator" Power.…

If you or a mate are getting married any time soon, you might have to deal with the last hurrah: the bachelor or bachelorette party. On this podcast, we’re looking at where the idea of the debaucherous last night of freedom comes from and what to do when your hens or bucks goes too far and ruins your big day. You’ll hear from theatre maker, sex ...…

You made it to part three of our podcast mini-series on consent. On this episode you’ll find out how to navigate consent when alcohol is involved and dominatrix Mistress Tokyo will teach us how consent works in BDSM. We continue our conversation with sex therapist Tanya Koens and psychologist Dr Stephen Andrew. And you’ll hear from singer Tia G ...…

This is part two of our podcast mini-series on consent. On this podcast, we look at what enthusiastic consent is and how you can apply it in the bedroom. You’ll hear from sex therapist Tanya Koens about how we define consent, psychologist Dr Stephen Andrew on why some might think they have consent when they don’t and Dr Nikki Goldstein on how a ...…

Welcome to part one of our podcast mini-series on the C word. Yep, we're talking about consent. We’ve been told it’s as simple as making a cup of tea, so why are so many people so confused about it? We’re getting into every aspect of consent in this mini-series. On this podcast, you’ll learn how to apply consent when meeting new people at the b ...…

Have you ever had a partner who insists everything needs to be super tidy? Imagine every time you’d catch up with them, they feel the need to clean. You, sitting in the bathroom having a chat while they’re cleaning the shower…Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can have a real effect on your relationships. You’ll hear from a psych on how you can work ...…

How much do you know about Hepatitis C? Up until recently the medication to treat people with Hep C had a lot of side effects, but recent medical advances have made Hep C really easy to get rid of - especially now the government is helping to pay for the medication.While it’s not technically and STI, it can be transmitted during sex. Featuring ...…

If you’re a big music lover, or a movie buff, how do you deal when your partner doesn’t share your taste? Is it a dealbreaker for you? You’ll hear from relationships therapist Amanda Lambros on how you can reconcile your differences and Junkee music writer Jared Richards on when he dated someone who's cultural tastes just didn't match.…

Robert Yang is a game designer from New York, a lot of his games focus on gay sex in pretty full on ways. So full on, he’s been constantly banned from the Steam online game store and Twitch, the livestreaming game platform. Nat also checks out his game 'Ruck Me', a game about AFL and homosexuality.

You might not think about them at all, but some people are kinda obsessed with them. On the podcast you’ll hear a little about foreskin fetish with a sex therapist Cat O'Dowd and you’ll also find out why it’s so important to keep it clean (among other things) with Dr Brad.

Have you noticed that certain people smell REALLY attractive? And that certain scents can get you all kinds of excited? You’ll hear from Dr Brad on if you can change the way you smell, a Cat O'Dowd on smells as fetishes, and a Professor Mark Elgar who specialises in evolutionary biology will tell us how (and if!) pheromones work.…

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