Unlearning Fear to Be Love

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.” Marianne Williamson

I am not yet at the stage where I love everyone all the time or see love in all things. I do perceive with the eyes of judgment from time to time. If I were to see a mother terrorizing her toddler with blood curling screams, I would react with judgment and a desire to protect. I met such a situation years ago in New York and reacted with concern. Of course the mother snapped at me and told me to mind my business. Sadly, a few onlookers and I had to walk away as she was not beating up her child and had stopped the screaming.

Yet, I am aware that partly what stands in the way of being love as a state of BEing are my thoughts, my self-identification where I think I am really this body, even if I have had a few spiritual experiences, the mental stories I created about life and still believe. I am aware that it takes understanding and a willingness to shift from perceiving through the eyes of limitation (fear) to one of expansion (love).

I am fortunate I do not have issues with race, politics or religion. In that sense I do see unity in all as we are from the same Source. My challenge is to let go of the idea the world is not a safe place and to continue to accept that the tapestry of life is perfect. When something challenging happens in my personal space or in the world, it’s meant to be. I have known this for decades and seen the process of growth, yet when faced with a new challenge in my path, I realize once again there is more work to do in unlearning, and to accept that it’s not for my mortal mind to comprehend but for my heart to trust.

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22 thoughts on “Unlearning Fear to Be Love”

Isn’t it remarkable how much there is to unlearn….and to learn…and to open up to….I sometimes feel like my own learning process is a bit like the learning process of children with academic learning challenges….theirs are for academics…..mine are “glitches” that get in the way of living with an ongoing sense of peace and happiness..for the heart to trust…
Post it note: loco is right….it took me a few days to realize what was going on with those unknowing subscriptions to comments threads… Marie, that’s like what you wrote about in your post…word press is loco…a bit like our minds…our unknowing subscriptions to comments in our own heads…oh, can you believe they are similar??? : ) . Reminder to self: unclick that comments box.

Kathy, Kathy… I just had goosebumps all around my head in reading your comments. The analogy of the loco subscription to our thoughts is perfect! We can be concious of our thoughts and not subscribe, and when do unknowingly subscribe and realize the thoughts are creating imbalances we can unsubscribe. Thanks for this, it helped me! 😉

Isn’t that amazing how similar that “uncheck” comments box is???…that crossed my mind several times today when my mind came up with several unsolicited comments…. I’m thinking wordpress might change that option soon…possibly sooner than I’m able to change the way my mind keeps generating comments…but it sure is a wonderful analogy for me to remind myself!… maybe I’ll call them “loco subscriptions” from now on…great term, Marie!!! : ) .maybe I’ll play with that idea tonight…

oh no…in my play with this idea…I just added my own comment to other people’s unintended “loco” subscription from the glimmer post…Marie, this is getting kind of eerie…really it is…one of my biggest life lessons….learning to become “conscious of our thoughts and not subscribe, and when do unknowingly subscribe and realize the thoughts are creating imbalances we can unsubscribe….”….this lesson is going on and on…. 🙄

Haha, this is a fun way to be reminded not to subscribe to thoughts! 🙂 I too struggle with attaching to thoughts especially fearful ones, and as part of my self healing I am working on releasing this. What better way than to have some humor with it!

Hi Marie, I put together a post about the check box…. are you okay if I do a screen capture/copy of that little part of your post that says “post it note:…wordpress has gone loco…til the end of that section ” ?….
I did copy paste of my own comments..from your post and my post… and thinking and tied it in with your wonderful descriptor “loco subscription”…are you okay with that?

Kathy, I thought about your comments when I went for a an early evening walk, and I am going to also call the “loco subscriptions” from now on. 🙂 I have good news to share, will blog about it hopefully tonight. 🙂

I think it takes years before you reach that stage where you can love everyone, unconditionally. And then staying at that state of mind for a period of time is even more difficult.
Nevertheless, it is beautiful!

This is so wonderfully encouraging and challenging all at once, Marie. I, too, think I’ve been coming to new vistas of realization, probably for a long time now, but I am still definitely a “learner” and haven’t just arrived 🙂 It’s a long process to shift from the habit of holding onto control as much as possible and instead allowing things to be, as you say, as they were meant to be. I just love reading what you have to say, and finding a lot of encouragement in your words. Thank you. Debra

Debra, There is so much we will never understand about the nature of life’s experiences, some which we cannot control.Sages teaches about the importance of trusting and just being because resistance creates more suffering. Without resistance we will have more clarity as to what action to take if it’s needed.

Nancy, Exactly! I too am complacent about most things and do live with an open heart, but, I have boundaries about harming others. Hey, perhaps we can manifest a planet with woo-woo showers filled with love and send those who harm to stay there until they heal their fear and hate. 🙂

Haha true it has definitely gone loco..put a note myself too..my email was been flooded, took me by surprise.

This is a really powerful post Marie. Fear is such a limiting belief and when it takes root it robs us of our right to live life as we should. You have said it so well, “I realize once again there is more work to do in unlearning, and to accept that it’s not for my mortal mind to comprehend but for my heart to trust.” How hard it is sometimes to let things be truly believe that something good while come out even when it may seem impossible. I am grateful that God is always there a safe haven that we go to in all times. And every breath we take is like a hug from him/her. I really loved this post…naming fear makes it lose it’s power…

Veeh, reading your comments made my eyes wet: “I am grateful that God is always there a safe haven that we go to in all times. And every breath we take is like a hug from him/her” We all are on this earthly journey together even our experiences may differ yet we all share so much as spiritual beings having an earthly experience, so I feel grateful to connect with kindred souls like you and a few of my WP friends as I learn so much from everyone.

Catching up on my reading, once again, Marie! This post is beautifully stated, describing your struggles as a human being so well that we can all relate! You create connections, and I think that’s a big part of what this is all about! ♥♥