Step Children

Can Ours Baby live up to the hype? Are we putting too much pressure on you, nonexistent Ours Baby? You have to know that I want you, regardless of the experiences you bring that I long for. I want you the same way every happy couple wants a baby together, plus a million other reasons that both excite and frighten me.

Step mothers have the worst reputations ever. Even our fairytale stories are wrapped up in the "evil step-mother" prototype. We are the women who are portrayed as coming in and taking over the lives of children who are not ours and we are viewed as the women who steal the dad away.

One of the hardest jobs to take on is becoming a step-parent. The job becomes even more difficult if this is your first foray into parenthood. If you've never had the responsibility of being a mom or dad, the prospect of becoming one as a step-parent can be a frightening one.

It eventually came to me the beauty of the titles Julian was given at birth. Julian is actually "our" child; he is our family's child that created the force to celebrate the time we get to all be together, even if it is only "half" the time.

Today, for millions of women who are reaching that stage of life, is about more than just vanity. It raises other complicated feelings less common among women from previous generations. For better or for worse, grandmas are just not what they used to be.