How I Began My BDSM Journey.

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I’ve always been a lover of books so it’s no surprise that I prefer my pornography in prose. I got tired of the typical bodice ripping romance novels and turned to the internet to stir my arousal. Something was always missing in those books. Even when the plot was addicting, the smut was lackluster.

Enter literotica.com, where they meticulously organize their stories by category. As I browsed their index I found a category for bdsm. Curious, I clicked on it and scrolled through their offerings.

What I found there was filled with passion and fulfillment. It was there that I found what I had been craving for so long.

I wanted to learn more and decided to search around on Facebook for some pages and groups. There I found a wonderful, accepting community. The group BDSM Info was the most helpful (I have provided a link to them in the menu) and I began my research in their extensive collection of files.

Later I was lead to fetlife.com where I discovered local communities that met in person regularly.

Dating in this world was interesting. I tried a few bdsm dating sites that turned up nothing but posers and people hundreds of miles away. So I turned to conventional dating sites and carefully worded my profile to attract a potential dominant partner.

There were a lot of ups and downs, a lot of questioning myself, and a lot of people who thought I was into abuse. It’s been an amazing journey though.