I was too exhausted to work at night, my only productive time was when the girls were away.

Even during those hours, I couldn’t use my time entirely on my work…a lot was spent on house chores and errands.

It’s all about your priority, I guess. I just couldn’t let my home get cluttered with stuff…and I just need to eat food that is homemade and yummy. And I wanted to spend time for my daughters to go to her violin lessons and practice.

Afterall, I just couldn’t prioritize my work over these things. And we can only do so much everyday.

It was possible to finish my dissertation even with this much work, and successfully defend it. But the problem was, I didn’t get to do the extra work to get a job after I get my PhD…that is to build up my resume by teaching, publishing, presenting, etc.

I wonder what I could have done differently, and if I should have done differently.

I thought my journey was over, but seems that I’m still trying to figure out how to make sense of my journey.

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Welcome!

Hello. I’m Ai.
I am a mom of two little girls, who just finished the long winding journey of a PhD student life at the University of British Columbia.

In this blog, I would like to share with you what I’ve learned about balancing parenthood and PhD studenthood.

From coping with pregnancy, overcoming parental guilt for sending a child to daycare, having a clutter-free home life so that you won’t go nuts, to juggling housework and deadlines (and keep your sanity), and successfully finishing your PhD.
Let the journey begin!

Sincerely yours,
Aixoxo

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