It works for you. Vanity does not work overall. It may temporarily, but mother nature will win those who do this for vanity alone are in for a shock.

As to what really is fit, believe me, i inow fit, more than you can imagine.

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Thats not true. I know a lot of people who workout and we are all vain. Go in a gym and watch the ones who are really in shape, they are looking in those mirrors a lot. I've sustained it for 25+ years mostly because I am vain. I like looking good and I like feeling strong, I like the attention it gets me. That may be shallow but I don't try to complicate to many things in my life and accept my weaknesses. Health is a side effect for me and a true blessing. I rarely even catch a cold.

Everyone wants to make excuses. If you are working out for health reasons, fine, anything that keeps a person motivated is fair game. The question is still there why be fat? That certainly isn't "healthy".

When people think walking a mile around a few blocks is their "workout" it is pure fantasy. Better than sitting on a couch but it isn't a workout. I did some personal training and I got so sick of that sort of thing.

There are some people who have physiological reasons that cause weight gain, the ones 30-50lbs over aren't in that category. Sorry if that reality is too brutal but it is the bald truth.

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Working out for vain reasons is unsustainable. Working out for health reasons, is.

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I can understand the comfort thing ..normally.. But swingers? I personally feel the pressure to look good. Most of the ladies certainly do.

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I like to think I am in decent physical shape. With that said, I think it is a comfort issue. Men get comfortable in relationships and decide that their weight doesn't matter anymore. I workout and go to the gym because I want to be healthy, not because I am concerned how others view me, and I think if more men took that outlook, you choices would get better.

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Totally agree with YnotWeDo & AaronandBarb Not in it to find a mate for life. We already have that so it's nice to have some attraction to lure you in if you're considering having sex. You know...you want that guy that makes your pussy wet (with his appearance, nice cologne, personality, etc.) before he can even begin licking it!

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I agree one million percent. Plus for every what ten or twenty pounds you gain more cock, who doesn't want a bigger dick? And all you have to do is not order everything super sized. That's it! No pills, no BS.

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Everyone wants to "play nice" however this experience is about the "EXPERIENCE" fantasy - HWP - now everyone gets their feelings hurt when someone isn't going to "settle" - I am not here to settle! It's not about quantity it's about fun - sexy times for us. With that said - this isn't a 'life choice' I already made my life choice - We are a married committed couple so when selecting a single "person" or couple it about the allure and fun conversation and sexy time - I love the comments about Ken and Barbie - honestly I am too spicy for either of those two white trash folks.... And I don't want to hear the excuses about having children - I had 4 - but you can't tell unless they are with me that I had children. (and no they aren't on here) so here's the deal - get off the sofa and exercise and/or don't be upset or insulted that no one other than the NOT HWP wants you.

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Quip.

I agree after my son was born I'd be out walking him and every woman I was I wanted to impregnate. Not even really a sex thing, just a reproduction desire.

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Wait a minute! If someone desires sex with a LTR, whether they are male or female, automatically that makes them a pig? It'shardwired into the malebrain before we are even born, to want to breed with a lot of females. Look at nature. The dominant male of nearly every species, breeds with all the females. Just like it is hard wired into females brains, to find a mate, and nest and raiseyoung ones. It's what kept species from dying out, way back when! I'm not saying allpeople fit this mold, but in general it's how things are. There is saying, men use the promise of love to get sex, women use the promise of sex to get love. Largely I think that is true.