Do not be ashamed, keep it there as it is reinforcing how well you have done. Congratulations.Addicted to wine is an interesting concept, it certainly does have a more powerful draw than other drinks for me.

I can see why your DF wants to sweep it under the carpet and forget about a dreadful episode in all your lives, but I can also understand how you need to be proud of your huge achievement and shout it from the rooftops.

For you it's important to not forget a bad time but to celebrate your achievement so I would leave it and explain to your DF how important it is to acknowledge how far you have come

Be proud. I feel very strongly on this issue... I've seen the damage alcoholism can do in my own family, your family should be celebrating with you, not trying to make you hide your recovery.

I suspect your dad is more worried about his own feelings than what others may think - he probably hasn't considered that. If the family members are drinkers - they won't care. If they are anti-alcohol, they should be pleased that you've quit. They might only be judgmental if they're inclined to be anyway, in which case, stuff them!

Thanks. Yes, I feel my dad thinks it reflects poorly on him as a parent that I have had issues with alcohol and food.

Obviously the fact he called me thunder thighs/legs like tree trunks and made me run around with bags of sugar and made jokes about liposuction before I was a flower girl at age 8 and had to ask my grandmother what that was, that was all fine and it's my own fault that I am overweight. Apparently at one stage he "couldn't even bear to look at me". I was 14 stone.

I was about to post that for a parent there is nothing worse than seeing your child, at any age, in pain or suffering and your post will be a reminder of that terrible time. However, I have just read your post that your Dad called you names as a child. How bloody horrendous of him.

You should be very proud of yourself. Leave the post us. Your Dad has no say in what you post or any right to comment, particularly as his past behaviour was a contributing factor.