Ways to Be a Better Parent if Getting a Divorce

19 Jul Ways to Be a Better Parent if Getting a Divorce

One of the biggest worries of parents when going through a divorce is ensuring they continue to prioritize their child. Bloom Law Office attorneys have seen this situation many times, but there’s good news. Every divorce is unique, and when children are involved things can get pretty sticky. Fortunately, there are many ways to be a great parent, and even improve upon your parenting skills, in the midst of a divorce.

Good Parenting Advice In A Divorce

It can be tempting to talk badly about your soon to be ex in front of the children, or even use the children as “messengers.” Emotions and stakes are high, and many people aren’t in their best emotional or mental state during a divorce. Here’s how you can improve your parenting during—and after—a divorce:

1. Start individual and family counseling. Everyone in the family, including yourself and your children, deserve the many benefits of mental health. Research and find a therapist who specializes in families and divorce. It’s a good idea for everyone, yourself included, to attend both personal and family/group sessions.

2. Regardless of what your partner does, make a promise to never speak poorly about each other in front of your child. This can be extremely difficult, especially when children are too young to understand the many implications of adult relationships. However, make it your job, goal, and responsibility to give them the gift of a childhood where they have the freedom to love and respect both parents.

3. Work towards creating a custody plan that puts the child first. The custody arrangement might not seem “fair” to you, but is it fair to the child? That’s all that matters. Remember, custody agreements can be and are often changed and adjusted. Working with divorce attorneys to craft an agreement is always faster and more efficient than trying to do so on your own.

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New Jersey Attorney Jeffrey M. Bloom is a family law, personal injury and workers’ compensation lawyer for people in the Bergen County, Hudson County, and North Jersey Areas. We offer free consultations on all workers' comp cases – (855) 208-3650. Read more about the firm.