my girlfriend is moaning about working all day then watching our hyperactive 3 year old all night...' where is the life? ' she was shouting at me...then this morning i get my usual texts from my ex telling me i aint giving her enough money for my 12 year old son and i aint spending enough time with him ( funnily enough..my girlfriend says the same to me ).....then telling me i aint seeing him again...i just took my son away for a few days last week to an amusement park and spend hundreds of pounds on him...all the while worrying about having to pay the mortgage and working shifts and watching my little 3 year old daughter during the day before going to work at night...

The ex can just fuck off. You have a custody agreement, correct? It is what it is.

The GF needs to chill the fuck out and get real. I don't remember the details, but you posted some shit before about that, right? Not getting any better, huh?

Listen...as long as you take care of their needs and spend quality time with them to the best of your abilities, then you are doing good.

Back when I was the sole bread-winner and working 50-60 hours a week to maintain my family, the soon-to-be-ex used to bitch ALL THE TIME about me "not being home enough" and "not spending time with the kids" and "not helping around the house". So when the youngest went to school full-time and it was her turn to get a job and allow me some breathing room, it was "the kids need their momma at home" and "why can't you make enough to support us yourself" and "I miss being home all the time" and shit.

You can't please people all of the time dude. Make sure you do for YOU b/c at the end of the day, the long hours and sweating over bills and credit scores - none of that bullshit really matters when they decide they want "more out of life" and move on.

Just focus on your relationship with your children. THAT is what is truly important.

Sounds that you'r not handling it in a way that serves those involved very well.

You can't change the people around you, however, you might try to improve your own behaviour for the sake of everybody's benefit. Did you think about how you contribute yourself to these kind of stressfull situations? And did you ask people what you can do to improve the situation?

that sound so stressful! i don't know why women nag so much? my husband is working overnights from 7pm-8am in a very stressful job. i can't imagine him coming home after working his ass off all night and being a nag to him. i understand that he is doing his best, and works to take care of his family, that he needs to come home and eat a good breakfast, take a shower and sleep. i'm at home all day, so i can deal with other stuff that comes up. some women are too darn needy and full of drama.

my ex telling me i aint giving her enough money for my 12 year old son and i aint spending enough time with him ( funnily enough..my girlfriend says the same to me ).....then telling me i aint seeing him again...i just took my son away for a few days last week to an amusement park and spend hundreds of pounds on him...

Is this what she understands as attention and spending money for him or do the two of you have different opinions on what kind of attention and monetary recources he needs?

I think Bob is just venting folks. I think you need to express that you are time limited and try to get that message across to your girlfriends (x and current). Get them to see you are trying, perhaps then they will be more understanding of your stance on your problems.

And if it doesn't work you could dump current girlfriend for that personal love device you tried a while back. What did you name her?

Thanks for the replies...I love my kids to bits and I don't regret having them one bit...I just wish the adults could behave themselves a bit better...I am only one Guy and can't do everything...maybe I am feeling sorry for myself because I feel I have always tried my best and I just get almost constant grief for it...I miss my son but I can't do anything about it other than see him when I can...anyway....just having a rant...I feel stressed and letting off some steam.....thanks for listening...

Thanks for the replies...I love my kids to bits and I don't regret having them one bit...I just wish the adults could behave themselves a bit better...I am only one Guy and can't do everything...maybe I am feeling sorry for myself because I feel I have always tried my best and I just get almost constant grief for it...I miss my son but I can't do anything about it other than see him when I can...anyway....just having a rant...I feel stressed and letting off some steam.....thanks for listening...

I think we all feel your pain dude. have you tried being honest with them? Cuz it seems like you're doing all you can.

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Thanks for the replies...I love my kids to bits and I don't regret having them one bit...I just wish the adults could behave themselves a bit better...I am only one Guy and can't do everything...maybe I am feeling sorry for myself because I feel I have always tried my best and I just get almost constant grief for it...I miss my son but I can't do anything about it other than see him when I can...anyway....just having a rant...I feel stressed and letting off some steam.....thanks for listening...

No one ever tells u how utterly exhausting it is having babies, well it is totally knackering!Hope things work out ok wi ur weans blackbob. Living apart from ur older child must be so difficult. But it is definitely stressful sometimes, I'm wi u 100% on that![Edited 8/25/11 8:23am]

My x wife lives in same town as me she goes 2 a kingdom hall within 5mins of where eye live yet ive only seen her 3 times in 10 years......Angels protect me...... ....She wouldnt dream of hassling me...Infact eye f**king dare her!!!!!...Look after urself BlackBob....

My x wife lives in same town as me she goes 2 a kingdom hall within 5mins of where eye live yet ive only seen her 3 times in 10 years......Angels protect me......:clap: ....She wouldnt dream of hassling me...Infact eye f**king dare her!!!!!...Look after urself BlackBob....

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My x wife lives in same town as me she goes 2 a kingdom hall within 5mins of where eye live yet ive only seen her 3 times in 10 years......Angels protect me......:clap: ....She wouldnt dream of hassling me...Infact eye f**king dare her!!!!!...Look after urself BlackBob....

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Blackbob having trouble........women give men trouble cuz they no they can!!!!!!!!.........cuz they dare....eye would hate 2b in blackbob position.....it will never happen thats the point i was making who wants trouble from xs.....