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Topic: Kinda Nervous (Read 7880 times)

I'm getting nervous. In a couple of weeks when hubby goes for his checkup and his labs i will get my first yearly HIV test. It has been a year since I had my last one...LOL I guess that's why they call it yearly. Its the test where they prick your finger and the test takes 20 minutes. I know I am fine so why am i getting so nervous. Haven't had any risky sex, always use a condom and they are always intact when we finish. So why am I so nervous!

My partner was always a bit nervous during the first few years of routine testing. Once he had a few negatives under his belt, he didn't stress so much about it and became more confident in our practices. Hopefully you'll find the same reaction in yourself.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Hi Teresa, my 6 week test comes up next Friday. I really have not thought that much about it for the past couple of weeks, but, yeah, I am very nervous now. It's like, next week could be a major turning point in my life. I am really suffering from survivor's guilt. I feel caught in the middle. The negative people see me as "the guy who is/was dating someone hiv +", and the positive people see me as a "tourist". I am a minority within a minority. It is the most precarious situation. I am so uncomfortable in my life. I do the best I can to make the best of it, but that blasted test looms over our heads. I absolutely hate it! It is not fair to anyone involved!

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7 weeks post exposure, tested HIV Negative.

Be Kind To Everyone You Meet, For You Do Not Know What Battles They Have Fought That Day.

I know some of how you feel. There are no support groups for negative women married to HIV+/AIDS men. My sister knows about us and since I told her it seems that we aren't as close as before. I thought she just needed time to get used to the idea that I'm married to a guy with AIDS but it has been over a year and its still the same. Oh well.. I know if i really needed her she would be there for me.

Like I said it has been over a year for us and things are pretty much back to normal for us. I use to come here to the forums everyday and be here like all day and now I just come by maybe once or twice a week to read and see how everyone is doing. I know if i have a question or a fear this is the place to come and i will get answers or support...whatever i need. Like Ann told me once i get a few of the yearly tests under my belt I wont be stressing so much when they are due.

wishing you and your partner all the best! You hang in there..it does get easier....i promise

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts