The Tip of The Sexual Violence-Berg

This past week was a big week if you know anyone who’s ever been to or who is ever going to go to college in the United States of America.

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The US Department of Education released a list of 55 schools (full list below) that have open Title IX sexual violence investigations, bringing a new era of transparency to the conversation around the sexual assault epidemic at college.

The general media reaction to this list has been, “Wow, look at all those good schools on the list… who would have guessed?” When the real question should be, “is this list a sign of things to come, are we seeing the tip of the iceberg?”

One of the common misconceptions is that sexual violence doesn’t happen in “my neighborhood” or “my socio-economic class” or “my religion.” When in fact sexual violence crosses all demographic borders. It is a crisis that unifies us. It is woven into our culture in subtle, often insidious ways. It is happening at every single school.

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One of the most effective ways to prevent sexual violence is to get men involved in addressing cultural norms.

Research has shown that 3% of college men account for 90-95% of all sexual assaults on college campuses. And those 3% – the high-risk men – are proven to commit 40% fewer coercive acts if they’re part of a men’s program. Get that? The vast majority of men are good, are not the problem, and are actually the solution – if we band together.

The vast majority of men are good, are not the problem, and are actually the solution – if we band together

The White House has started to catch on.

This list came on the heels of a report and a brilliant (albeit short) PSA from the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault (which is increasingly looking like a particular pet project for President Obama).

The PSA titled “1 is 2 Many” is aimed squarely at men, approaching the two main areas where men can do the most good in the campaign to end sexual assault. The first area is called “Bystander Intervention” – which is similar to the designated driver concept… guys we have to intervene to “stop sexual assault.” The second area is sometimes called the “Secondary Survivor” role – which is when we are given the opportunity to help a survivor without blame or shame.

While the video isn’t expansive about how or what to do, it’s definitely a step in the right direction for raising awareness. And hopefully someone on the Task Force understands that successful intervention starts way before the situation goes sour… the best research shows that prevention of sexual violence begins with cultural norms around masculinity (which is why The Good Men Project is so vitally important to this cause).

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And if you really don’t think you know anyone who has been assaulted, here’s a logical reason to get on this bandwagon: research from the End Violence Against Women campaign has shown that violence against women costs society $67 billion each year, with each sexual offense costing an estimated $203,740.

Sexual violence creates more than just an emotional or physical scarring, every sexual trauma creates tangible ripples throughout families, communities, and our whole society.

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For the first time in more than a decade of working with college assault prevention, I have to say, personally, this is the most encouraged I’ve ever been about the legitimate prospect of ending sexual violence on campus. It’s still fresh, but with the White House now involved, and Title IX hanging over the heads of schools… we may be seeing the tip of the iceberg.

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To be clear up front, the White House Task Force is all about turning out single women to vote in November, because that demographic votes D by a 35% margin, and the D’s are scared witless about losing the Senate. Also to be clear up front, the problem is real — the best available data shows 1 in 5 college women are sexually assaulted. It happened to one of my daughters — acquaintance rape — he just had to push it in. But the use of the Lisak & Miller data is misleading. It is not just 3% to 4%… Read more »

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To be clear up front, the White House Task Force is all about turning out single women to vote in November, because that demographic votes D by a 35% margin, and the D’s are scared witless about losing the Senate. Also to be clear up front, the problem is real — the best available data shows 1 in 5 college women are sexually assaulted. It happened to one of my daughters — acquaintance rape — he just had to push it in. But the use of the Lisak & Miller data is misleading. It is not just 3% to 4%… Read more »

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Just read FIRES first report on the white house report. “Perhaps most worryingly, the Task Force appears to be enthusiastic about essentially eliminating hearings altogether for students accused of assault and harassment. The Task Force is exploring a “single investigator” model, where a sole administrator would be empowered to serve as detective, judge and jury, affording the accused no chance to challenge his or her accuser’s testimony. Tellingly, the Task Force expresses only the most meager sense of the rights necessary to secure fundamentally fair hearings, noting that it believes the single investigator model would still “safeguard[] an alleged perpetrator’s… Read more »

@ John Anderson .. You stated “Male on female rape is more readily discussed because men’s instinct is to protect women. They would focus on prevention / prosecution and women would be supportive of victims.” I think we need to change a lot of our thinking in relationship to protecting: “Boy, 7, sexually assaulted in Little Village restaurant bathroom” http://abclocal.go.com/wls/story?section=news/local/chicago_news&id=9522588. I would like to add that this is a gang ridden area, I suspect that the perp is more then likely affiliated with a gang and maybe even the same guy who raped a former client of mine who was… Read more »

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@ Dale @ Joanna

“Research has shown that 3% of college men account for 90-95% of all sexual assaults on college campuses”

I was just considering something and I may have misinterpreted the statement. Dale, did you mean that 3% of men committed 90 – 95% of all sexual assaults OF WOMEN on college campuses or that 3% of men committed 90 – 95% of ALL sexual assaults on college campuses? I suppose it could also come down to the definition of campus.

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What I’ve come to largely learn about rape articles on GMP is that it’s rarely, if ever, appropriate to write an article when women are the victims and discussing the situations that is unique to women. (By the way, the discussion of rape will *always* be a gender discussion and frankly, it should be. There are specific nuances that men deal with when they are victims that should be addressed specific to the experience of men in our society. And the same goes for women. By glossing over the specifics in a misguided idea of what equality is, we are… Read more »

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The discussion turns to pointing out that these people mislead the public with their misrepresentation of sexual assault and domestic violence.

The inclusion of the half the story that these people don’t want people to know or talk about, isn’t making it specifically about men – its illuminating a human problem thats misrepresented as a gender problem for political and financial ends.

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@ Erin For myself, I see certain distinctions when I read articles on violence against women and violence against men on GMP. Sometimes it’s simply the although most victims are female or although most violence us caused by males disclaimer, but I think the biggest difference is the article’s focus itself. When men’s violence against women is discussed, the articles focus on the perpetrator. On the rare occurrence when women’s violence against men is discussed, the articles focus on the victims. Where does this article focus? From what I remember when articles have focused on how men can support women… Read more »

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“What I’ve come to largely learn about rape articles on GMP is that it’s rarely, if ever, appropriate to write an article when women are the victims and discussing the situations that is unique to women” But, that’s not what this article is saying. It’s saying that effort needs to be directed at kind men to intercede into peoples private affairs. This article is yet another of the long jackhammer in the street sound pollution that “men are all responsible for rape”. Firstly, other than some mra sites like genderratic tgmp is the only place people can post their thoughts… Read more »

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“But, that’s not what this article is saying.” Of course that’s not what the article is saying, that’s what alot of the male responders are saying. That it’s inappriopiate to address the topic of rape unless using these words, “people”, “boys”, “men” and “males” as victims. You guys say it’s not about gender. It’s so about gender. When articles exclusively address male victims, no man comes into the discussion saying “but you are ignoring the fact that females are also raped.” If men do not want to discuss the female gender as victims of rape, then GMP should stop crafting… Read more »

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You’re just ignoring a ton of what I said, and then contributing to me inferences you saw that I never stating nor implied. I don’t have any issue with female centered stories about abuse survivors. I specifically pointed out that the two things I don’t appreciate from this site or the many others that talk about female abuse victims is A) the lopsided coverage of male victims vs female victims and B) the demonizing of men when we talk about female survivors. I have NEVER seen an author on tgmp talking about male survivors of female sexual aggression say (as… Read more »

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meant to flip the genders of that last quote from the article. Flip the genders in Vaughn’s quotes, or better yet insert race in place of genders and the discrimination literally screams off the page.

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While I might agree with Dale’s assertion: “One of the most effective ways to prevent sexual violence is to get men involved in addressing cultural norms.” Where are women mentoring other women to avoid becoming victims of sexual assault? Often the norm is for binge drinking on weekends and many “rapes” happen because young women put themselves in compromising positions and voluntarily become inebriated. I am not saying this is an invitation to rape, but it surely blurs the lines when it comes to consent. Raging hormones dulls the executive functions combined with alcohol and drugs, regretful things happen. Women… Read more »

JohnH, I think you bring up a good point but then you run into the issue that women should be able to do what they want,when they want and where they want without the worry of being abused. So the proverbial “hand book” of taking precautions makes it appear that the female may be “asking for it” because of her behaviors. So’we’re back to square one and that is men are rapists and they have to stop raping.

No Tom, I think it is more complicated that just telling men to stop raping. One thing that is not being discussed here is that most perpetrators have been victims of violence themselves. Because this happened in their youth, many have very conflicted ideas of what constitutes acceptable sexual behavior (many women as well). There are a lot of questionable statistics thrown about in this article, but this one more closely targets the underlying problem: “8% of men admit committing acts that meet the legal definition of rape or attempted rape. Of these men who committed rape, 84% said that… Read more »

JohhH … I wish I had more time but here goes a short version.I agree. I know it’s more complicated and that why I said what I did in that it reflects the kind of so called “education” that we typically see. “Stop Raping” …… Now what? And it’s the “now what” that’s not being remotely addressed. Kind of falls in line with where some conversation was going with the article about “a rapist, you’re not my brother.” Where you start to go beyond the the act and delve into the person who is doing the crime. Like I said,… Read more »

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Well what exactly is covered by “sexual violence”

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Wendy Maltz’s The Sexual Healing Journey defines sexual violence as acts of violence involving or harming sexual parts of the victim’s body. It’s within a range of violations under the umbrella term of ‘sexual abuse’, which are basically any gender and/or sexually motivated behaviour acted upon an unwilling (or unaware) recipient (and not all include violence). An example: a friend of mine was punched and choked by her boyfriend. He’d have been charged with assault, had he not also attempted to shove a necklace that he’d given her into her vagina. It was thus categorised as sexual violence, and he… Read more »

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Actual, serious question here: Doesn’t that definition include the ubiquitous “Ow! My balls!” gag in popular entertainment as sexual violence?

This task force report is not very useful when it goes to getting at the root problems. It would be so much more effective if it could be more specific about these crimes instead of giving in to panic mode. For example, schools are supposed to keep track of “rape on campus,” as they certainly should, and they should certainly do more to prevent it and punish it. No argument there. However, “rape on campus” is also supposed to include any rape of a current student anywhere, whether it happened on campus or not. It could happen off campus, in… Read more »

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I picked 5 of the schools at random from the list and read the government reports. According to the reports I read, the schools under-reported rape and sexual assault. That’s a serious problem. Meanwhile, in 4 out of 5 cases the report said the school under-reported ALL crimes on the list: burglary, theft, non-sexual assault, weapons violations, drug violations, even murder and manslaughter. For example, at Oregon State University, the school under-reported every crime category except one. See: http://studentaid.ed.gov/sites/default/files/fsawg/datacenter/cleryact/oregonstate/1824_001.pdf If a school is failing to keep track of aggravated assault, gun crimes, AND rape, I’d suggest there is an even… Read more »

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Such nonsense. A recent study on college men found that half of them had been sexually assaulted mainly by women. “Sexual Victimization Among Male College Students: Assault Severity, Sexual Functioning, and Health Risk Behaviors Jessica A. Turchik Veterans Affairs Palo Alto Health Care System and Stanford University Medical School The purpose of this study was to examine the relationship between college men’s sexual victimization experiences, engagement in a number of health risk behaviors, and sexual functioning. The study also examined sexual victimization by assault severity categories and utilized a multiitem, behaviorally speciﬁc, gender-neutral measure. Three hundred and two male college… Read more »

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Sexual assault against men, and society’s response to it, is a problem and should be discussed. If you have that data then write an article or blog post, increase awareness, educate people, or start a campaign (and I’m curious about the study if you could share). However, commenting on an article that focuses on sexual assault against women and complaining that it doesn’t bring up issues affecting men is counter-productive and missing the point. These are not zero sum conversations. Saying “sexual assault against women happens, and here’s how to help” is not saying “no sexual assault happens against men.”… Read more »

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I was experiencing frustration reading the comments so far, however this comment has defined my concern. Well said.

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It sure does look like a conspiracy against men when multiple studies have proven high levels of sexual assault against men, yet ALL of these government actions focus on men as perps, women as victims. Either the people in charge are bigots against men, or they are extremely incompetent to overlook male victims and female perpetrators.

Archy, if he mentions ONE KIND OF RAPE that doesn’t mean he thinks the other kinds of rape don’t exist.

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@ Joanna Schroeder

“yet ALL of these government actions focus on men as perps, women as victims. Either the people in charge are bigots against men, or they are extremely incompetent to overlook male victims and female perpetrators.”

Archy wasn’t talking about the author. He was talking about the government. Maybe the government does acknowledge that other types of rape exists, but by their actions it sure seems that ONLY ONE type of rape MATTERS.

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Not entirely true that it’s talking about “one kind of rape”. A kind of rape is a modality of rape – the situational factors, motivational factors, location, whether it was force or alcohol or emotional manipulation used. This is useful, because tackling each type is a slightly different thing. In this case, you’re deciding which rapes are worth talking about based solely on the victims. I don’t consider it to be a different “type of rape” if it’s a drunken guy taken advantage of or a drunken woman. No, that’s just an excuse to pretend it doesn’t count. Differentiating by… Read more »

Hi Joanna, I wish that I could agree with you but the article as many do, focuses on “male on female” rape. Put yourself in the shoes of a new reader …. Male or female, they come to the site and read this article. They have no history with the site and what they get from this and many other GMP articles is a sense that there is a focus on “male in female” rape. Should they assume that GMP is referencing all inclusive rape scenarios by reading this article? A male survivor of rape comes to the site expecting… Read more »

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@ Tom Brechlin

True, but in this article in particualr, Dale is partly reporting on the PSA. When GMP posts articles on male on female rape because they’re reporting on something outside, they can’t be held accountable for the outside world being unconcerned with any other rapes. I would though challenge GMP on how they allow these reports to be framed so as not to give the potential male survivor the impression that his situation is somehow unique.

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Johanna, Would you also agree that the collection, constant publishing of data on rapes by and calls to legislate against black men and only black men, with the omission of rapes by all other people is not someone trying to erase and misrepresent rape by omission? If you want to illuminate the things the men point out here, all you have to do is swap the genders or swap gender for race and you can see how awful these people really are. Its only for the fact its normalized when its against men as a group that it takes on… Read more »

Response to chad You can just google my copy and paste and it will bring you to the study. “Sexual assault against men, and society’s response to it, is a problem and should be discussed. If you have that data then write an article or blog post, increase awareness, educate people, or start a campaign (and I’m curious about the study if you could share). However, commenting on an article that focuses on sexual assault against women and complaining that it doesn’t bring up issues affecting men is counter-productive and missing the point.” Its only counterproductive to those that want… Read more »

Maybe in 1988, if people would acknowledge the problem, many men/boys would have never sufferred.

How about this one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0myCCFBjTQ … Key statement from one of these gentleman is about how we’re all educated on “male on female” rape but not much about female on male. Were were/are these celebrities speaking up for males who are raped, do they even acknowledge to any significant level that it happens?

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I hugely disagree with the idea that “we’re all educated on “male on female” rape”. It’s still a huge problem in our culture. It happens with disgusting regularity.

Even in the example you’ve used about the men/boys that suffered, those boys and men suffered at the hands of other men.

Hello Erin,I respectfully disagree about the educational level we’ve had on male to female rape. In fact it’s the only education that’s been presented for as long as I can remember. VAWA alone and the millions of dollars that’s resulted for education, backs my claim. But if you’re correct, then it’s a failed system,not unlike the “war on drugs” that good money has been thrown away on ineffective system and programs.

That being said, you question is one that I would be interested in hearing others responses.

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Erin

I didn’t say it was failed system. I said it’s still a huge problem in our culture. If we are all educated enough on it, why is it still a problem?

Lets just be honest, alot of the readers of GMP are not interested in articles about violence against women.

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“Lets just be honest, alot of the readers of GMP are not interested in articles about violence against women.” I think that’s a very hyperbolic statement couched in its own casual dismissive-ness. There are many kinds of honesty and dishonesty. I think the juxtaposition of gender onto discussions of violence is intellectually dishonest (or at very least incomplete, misguided and problematic) because it belies and obscures the true nature of both violence AND gender. I think it’s intellectually dishonest to imply that because people DON’T subscribe to the belief that gender is the central structuring dynamic in violence (and that… Read more »

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Male on male rape is rarely discussed because women don’t see it as their problem (“Even in the example you’ve used about the men/boys that suffered, those boys and men suffered at the hands of other men”) and many men have a difficult enough time articulating their own feelings let alone be supportive of another’s. There is probably also the belief that these rapes are violent, stranger rapes so being concerned about them (focusing on prevention) to some men may admit personal weakness. Society doesn’t allow men to be weak. Male on female rape is more readily discussed because men’s… Read more »

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Erin

What the heck John, pointing out men were largely perpetuators in Tom’s example does not imply that I or other women think the rape of boys/men isn’t something not to be concerned about. It was to highlight the relationship between male victims and male perpetuators. A lot of readers of GMP don’t want to talk about rape when men are even perpetuators of sexual violence toward other men. But they are very ready to talk about sexual violence when it’s women as perpetuators. As for your comment about men having difficult time articulating their feelings, there are two ways I… Read more »

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“I am not so sure men want to protect women anymore.” That’s a misunderstanding and a convergence of two phenomena. The first was the feminist inspired women can do anything a man can do, equality of the sexes. The second was the MRM belief in society’s belief that men are disposable. Putting myself at risk to defend a woman so that she does not have to put herself at risk to defend herself, me placing my life, safety, and happiness as subordinate to hers is rejected because the MRM believes a man’s life is as valuable as a woman’s. The… Read more »

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@ Erin When I read the article, I was prepared to let it go. I’ve read the complaints from individuals and though they get DOZENS of articles that express concern for them as opposed to the rare article that looks at other victims / perpetrators, I was going to let the article be. Male perpetrated rape against women is a problem and should be addressed. Bystander intervention seems to have a positive effect and although I don’t think we have good research on it’s effectiveness, I don’t see a reason why we shouldn’t teach it and if it ultimately is… Read more »

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Who I want to be as a person isn’t contingent on what other people do or don’t do for me. I do things for other people because that’s the kind of person *I* want to be. It use to really get to me when I’d do something considerate of someone and they would act like I was suppose to do it and/or didn’t acknowledge that I had. Then I realized that it’s not about them acknowledging it or even about if they would have done it for me, it’s about the kind of person I want to be. Plus, sometimes… Read more »

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@ Erin I’ve noticed two other things about the comments and articles. On the rare article that does talk about female perpetrators, you’ll often see a comment along the lines of yes, we need to talk about this even though men commit most of the violence or even though women are the bigger victims, men get victimized too, which actually does demand that we at least recognize female victims or male abusers in an article about female abusers or male victims. There’s more than one way to bring the topic to what the commenter wants to discuss. These comments are… Read more »

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“Research has shown that 3% of college men account for 90-95% of all sexual assaults on college campuses.”

Some research has shown. I’ve seen other research that found that about 1 in 7 men were sexually assaulted by women in college. If society ever chooses to look, I think we’d find that men sexually assaulting women in college may not be the tip of the sexual assault iceberg, but it’s no where near the end of it.

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And this is why I object to the gendering of the campaigns against it.

If this is done with other crimes – focusing on the non-essential characteristics of the majority offenders (like race, etc) – it is rightly called bigotry.

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I most definitely agree! I’ve always been a strong opponent to injecting gender into any large-sweeping campaign. -I see many DV posters with evil-looking men and a bruised, helpless woman. Never the reverse, which is basically as common. And even if it weren’t gendering it only makes things worse. -Here in Chicago, I’m seeing all kinds of posters of women saying “I don’t want to lose my home”, while men make up 90% of the homeless, turning a strongly male-dominated issue into a perceived women-exclusive issue. I would only ask for gender-neutrality. -I’ve been a strong opponent of VAWA since… Read more »

The truth is this: nobody deserves to be assaulted, abused, coerced or bullied. I did not even insinuate that women are the only benefactors of reduced sexual violence. However, the overwhelming majority of all forms of violence are male-perpetrated, and this is the reason why we need to approach male culture so directly. As we do this, we also directly and indirectly help male survivors. We really are all on the same team. Your voices ARE heard. Keep speaking up, your voice does matter; but also try to be an ally for the positive change to male culture. All of… Read more »

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@ Dale I do want to make a point, which I think gets lost. When we focus on male = perpetrator / female = victim, it does hurt male survivors. I’ve spoken with male survivors and this has recently been a concern mentioned by RAINN and even Hanna Rosin in a recent Slate article. When we talk about female on male rape as aberrant, only 3% or a tiny fraction or however you want to phrase it, it not only prevents people from seeing men as possible victims. It also prevents men from seeing or acknowledging themselves as victims. When… Read more »

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Physical violence may be male dominated, yet emotional violence is just as female dominated. We also dismiss the amount of violence that is female directed rather than perpetrated.

As a culture we avoid looking too deeply into women’s violent tendencies,doing so dangerously weakens a very basic part of the mythology that modern western culture is built upon.

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“The overwhelming majority of all forms of violence are male-perpetrated, and this is the reason why we need to approach male culture so directly.” That sentence there so artfully captures the epically misguided and reductionist thinking that’s at the cornerstone of gender politics: Once again, it conflates correlation with causation; the notion that that one characteristic -gender- is at the heart and soul of violence, and hence, it’s solution. It’s not. It bears repeating that there is a crucial difference here that’s being ignored; between saying that ‘the majority of people who commit violence are male’ and saying or implying that… Read more »

That’s like saying, “I like steak” and then you assuming that I’m saying it’s the only food I eat.

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That’s true. The few rapists out there could probably rape so often that it ratchets this statistic up. It’s disturbing how long they could get away with it. At the same time, how to we catch the early? Rape is NOT EASY to prove and has DEVESTATING effects on the accused: to the point of being seen as worse than mass-murder. It also disturbs me what could cause someone to disregard consent when it is SO. OFTEN. DISCUSSED. I mean, I have issues even SUGGESTING the idea of doing sexual things on the basis that I feel like it’s insulting,… Read more »

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@ Webz “That’s true. The few rapists out there could probably rape so often that it ratchets this statistic up. It’s disturbing how long they could get away with it. At the same time, how to we catch the early?” That’s one of the things that bothers me about the discussion when I hear that men do most of the raping. Look at the prosecutions. How many women are actually getting prosecuted? Do people really believe that they just stop on their own. One day they just come to the conclusion that raping people is wrong and stop? Their opportunities… Read more »

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@ Joanna Schroeder “John, the data Dale cites doesn’t, in ANY WAY, contradict what you’re citing here.” This is where I disagree with you although that’s not my major purpose. If one in seven college men were raped by a woman and that equaled at most 10% of all rapes in college then men would have to rape the equivalent of 9/7 of the student male population or 19/7 at 95%. Granted there might be male on male rape and granted if they’re counting individual rapes not victims, people can be raped multiple times, I still would doubt that they… Read more »

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Kate

I agree with a lot of comments here – mainly that not acknowledging the male victims is damaging. It makes it so much harder for them to seek out help or for others to realise they may need support. I recognise this article is not saying it doesnt happen to men. I see a big problem with that video though. Mostly it has a good message with one exception. It doesnt not mention male victims but speaks of females as the victims. If they stated “violence against women happens to ur daughter/wife/etc” thats fine but they r making a blanket… Read more »

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4 years ago

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Ross Steinborn

Here is a link to –http://www.davidlisak.com/wpcontent/uploads/pdf/RepeatRapeinUndetectedRapists.pdf- the research that suggests about 3% of men account for 90% of sexual assaults on college campuses.

Could you please send a link or reference for the fact that 1 in 7 men are sexually assaulted by women? Because the CDC’s numbers from 2010 have that 1 in 5 men will be sexually assaulted in their life times but a majority of perps of these assaults will be men.

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4 years ago

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John Anderson

@ Ross Steinborn I’ll see if I can find the link. It was to a page listing about 40 different research studies on male victimization / female perpetration., however, the number I provided was a moderate number. It wasn’t the high end number. Here’s a link to a GMP article by Noah Brand where he cites about 20 such studies. Some of the studies focus on college. You’d need to look. https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/the-rape-nobody-talks-about/ If it’s an issue of gotcha, then we can always retract the 1 in 7 number and replace it with 1 in 4. “Struckman-Johnson and Struckman-Johnson (1998) –… Read more »

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4 years ago

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John Anderson

@ Ross Steinborn Here’s another paper. I’m not sure if the sources intersect. From Deviance to Normalcy: Women as Sexual Aggressors – Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Volume 5, October 23, 2002 “Rates of sexually aggressive behaviors among women vary from one segment of the United States to another, but the evidence presented here shows that as many as 7% of women self-report the use of physical force to obtain sex, 40% self-report sexual coercion, and over 50% self-report initiating sexual contact with a man while his judgment was impaired by drugs or alcohol (Anderson, 1998). Given these numbers, it… Read more »

Ross Steinborn; Because the CDC’s numbers from 2010 have that 1 in 5 men will be sexually assaulted in their life times but a majority of perps of these assaults will be men. This is blatanntly false. CDC’s NISVS 2010 Report page 19 4.8% of men reportsever having been “made to penetrate someone else”. That is about 1 in 5 men made to have nonconsensual sexual intercourse. CDC’s NISVS 2010 Report page 25: For three of the other forms of sexual violence, a majority of male victims reported only female perpetrators: being made to penetrate (79.2%), sexual coercion (83.6%), and… Read more »

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4 years ago

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John Anderson

@ Tamen

“This is blatanntly false.”

That’s why he didn’t include the CDC link and citation in a comment requesting supporting evidence. Much easier to flat out lie then.