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Saturday, July 8, 2017

THE 10 LIES YOU HEAR EVERY DAY

I recently came across an article (primarily directed toward
men rather than women, but for the most part it applies to all) listing 10 lies
that we all hear (and say) on a daily basis…things you don't necessarily think
of as lies. These are usually considered
as slight exaggerations, an attempt to be polite rather than confrontational,
or merely being nice rather than hurt someone's feelings. But no matter how you rationalize it, they
are still lies.

1) "Everything's great."

It's the usual response in a restaurant when your server
asks how everything is, a brush-off even though the soup is too salty. And the possible consequences of this
insignificant little lie? The chef never
finds out he's heavy-handed with the seasonings, people stop coming to his
restaurant, and you end up with the same too-salty soup everyone else was also
reluctant to mention. You might be doing
the chef a favor if you tell your server—politely—that something is off.

2) "I'm fine."

Reality check for men: No woman who says this to you is
actually fine. Something's wrong and you need a strategy to
figure out how to fix it. Most of the
time it's as easy as asking her how she really feels.

3) "I love your new haircut."

People usually compliment anything that catches their eye as
new or different—no matter how ugly it may be or how much they don't like
it. If your significant other has a
different opinion on your new hair style—or jacket, or shoes—than your chipper
coworker, trust your significant other's take.
The I get so many compliments on
this defense doesn't hold up.

4) "No thanks, I've got it."

Guys, in particular, feel guilty accepting assistance from
others, especially from a woman—even if they could really use it. If you have to ask, "Can I give you a
hand with that?" you should already be helping—not offering to lend a
hand.

5) "I couldn't find time to look at that
today."

It doesn't matter if your boss said that, a client, or
someone else, rest assured that you're being bluffed. If you need the feedback right away but fear
you might irritate your boss or client with repeated requests, you'll need to
come up with a new way to present your need.

6) "It's so great to see you."

Is it really great?
Your wife's or husband's friend from college looks to be in a huge
hurry, and you don't really know the person that well. This is a polite lie that really means,
"I want to stop talking to you now."
Offer a quick smile then you can both get on with your day.

7) "That's interesting."

People throw out this meaningless phrase so often it's
become more of a cliché or silence-filler than a lie. Instead, consider what you actually think
before speaking, and come up with a more insightful adjective (and "That's
stupid!" doesn't count).

8) "Your email ended up in my spam
folder."

Of all the emails you've successfully sent this person and
it's this one that mysteriously ended
up in the spam folder? No need to call
this person out on it. Recognize this
deception for what it is and figure out a better way to grab this person's
attention next time.

9) "I just saw your text."

Your friends have no problem lying about being busy when
they're actually looking at other things or surfing the net. But when they actually have a lot on their plates, they become reluctant about
admitting it (sometimes for fear that it sounds like a flimsy excuse). This text message is their polite way of
saying, "I was too busy to answer you right away."

10) "Sorry."

Admit it: Even you toss out apologies as readily as you
would a losing lottery ticket. At least
95 percent of the time you tell someone you're sorry when you really mean,
"That's too bad." Don't
apologize unless there's something you need to apologize for and you mean it.

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