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Jody Lynn Vance: Her Father’s Remembrance

***Jody Lynn Vance: 1985-2011***

Jody was born at sunrise on a bright, sunny, cold, snowy Groundhog’s Day and from Day One she was a gift to everyone around her. Her infectious laugh and rambunctious spirit made her the center of attention where ever she happened to be.

She and her Dad would watch Sesame Street and sing at the top of our voices (and quite out of key) all of the songs. She enjoyed having Mom fix her hair so it was fancy and just right.

As a toddler she had quite an impressive vocabulary and often had a lot to say. One time Dad was headed out the door to go to work and she pointed her finger and said, “No. No. No. Don’t go anywhere!“

Jody was very seldom crabby, always happy and she wasted no time in spreading that joy to everyone around her. Jody’s favorite place was to be perched on the lap of Mom or Dad or playing with her toys spread out all over the floor. Jody was always affectionate, wanting hugs and “moochies” as she called smooches on the cheek.

At around two, Jody’s illness began to attack her. It took a beautiful, innocent child and put her through untold pain and suffering,

I know that through all of that she was not afraid. She had the heart and spirit of lion. She never gave up; time after countless time, she would open her eyes and there would come that smile. Jody lost her speech, but never was at a loss for words. She could say more with a look or a half smile than most people do yakking all day long.

After numerous doctor, hospital, and specialist visits, we were given the news of her illness. I remember that moment frozen in time … it was as if the entire world stopped. It was in that brief moment we both knew that we must make the very most of the time we had remaining together and not dwell on the despair of all of the things that would never be.

Jody was not expected to live more than three or so - but she had too many things to do and stories to tell, so she cruised by that birthday and over two more decades of birthdays, Christmases and millions of smiles and hugs. Jody was well-liked by other kids; once when she was being wheeled into her classroom at Handicare, one of the children yelled, “Hey everybody, Jody’s here” and all the kids cheered.

Two of the biggest joys in her life were her two little brothers, Joey and Sammy. She would just beam with joy when they would sit next to her and when they began to get older she’d love to listen to them running through the house and playing together. The two of them would start laughing and Jody would laugh right along with them. She would listen intently to everything they did and they would include her as often as they could. The three of them loved watching Saturday morning cartoons and The Three Stooges.

Joe and Sam did without a lot of things that other kids had, did and took for granted … and they never once complained or were resentful of the way things were. That shows a special kind of love and a special kind of family.

As the years went by and the boys grew up into strong and healthy, Jody’s health slowly and steadily declined. She would have long stretches where she was fairly stable and then would become so very ill.

Many times we were sure the end was near and then she would open those sparkling blue eyes and stretch just like nothing had happened at all.

Once she was in the hospital with her usual bout of pneumonia and lapsed into a coma; this went on for 8 days. One Dr. came in, examined her and just shook his head. Later that night Jody’s eyes popped open and she was refreshed from her cat- nap.

People over the years have commented, ”I don’t know how you do it. ”This always struck me as odd. My thoughts would always be: How could you even think of turning your back on someone who needs you that much?

It was always our promise to Jody that she would always live at home with her family and I think she found comfort in knowing that.

But, no one person can take the credit for caring for this wonderful young woman. It has taken an army of doctors, nurses, teachers, aides, pharmacists, friends, and family over the years to maintain Jody at home, and we could never begin to thank you enough.

Jody always kept her head held high and never seemed to be afraid; she has truly been my inspiration on many occasions. When things were gloomy and seemed hopeless, just one smile and a hug was all I needed to go on. Jody will always be my hero. I love her and will treasure the time we had together.

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You’re looking for the leaning cow aren’t you? Ah, well this is the clematis that blooms on the side of the Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse in the summer. We’re off the main road a bit and quite often (maybe because of a little sign chicanery on the main road) we get some folks new to the area stopping in. They have their stories, too. We let them use the restroom even if they don’t buy a soda pop, but they usually do.

The cow is in the little clearing down our little road a bit.

We didn’t tip her; she was partway over when conscience struck and we exclaimed, “What ARE we doing?” Okay, so we left her tilted a little; she likes it that way – makes it easier in a wind.

Actually we never tip sacred cows, we just lean on them a little. Sacred bulls? Well, we run from them.

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The Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse is a real place – each person just perceives it a bit different from another. Or maybe a lot different, for all that I know. I’d say it would be a stretch to see it as modern, sleek nightclub, but I guess if you got a group of those folks lost out here in these parts, they could enjoy themselves sitting and talking and digging down in the soda pop cooler. The stove that we put wood in for heat – not the cooking kind – might take them aback, but it’s a pretty fine thing on a cool morning come dawn or a cold winter day.

Most of us agree the floor is pretty much narrow hardwood, although we’ve got some big, wide and thick planks in a couple of areas. We’ve got a counter and stools and tables and chairs and I wouldn’t say too many things match. Got a couple or big real rag rugs and a couple of fake Persian, threadbare they are. There’s an aroma in the place, a mixture of woodsmoke and your favorite fragrance. Some swear it’s citrus and sage, others insist it’s macintosh and peach and every now and then we all agree it’s the scent of rhubarb cooking down to a sauce.

We’ve got Friday, our dog, you used to live in meadow in Vermont until he died and came here. I guess technically he’s a dog-angel – but we don’t get technical here.

Duck decoy on porch windowsill

Mother in 1927

Robert Grismore and his grandson, Robert – Kingman, Indiana 1971

Great-Great Aunt Sara and me: 1949

Woodpile low in spring

Liddy, our piano player

William A. Vance in San Diego

Not the leaning cow

If you click, you will see Woo’s head. She’s a regular here.

Click and see Emoos and learn what they are by checking the Emoo page.

Okay, she got served crunchy instead of creamy.

Our lighthouse lamp

Mirror from Bryon Grismore’s house – See Humphrey Bogart reflected in it?

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So true. My kids surprise me daily with the way they see tihngs so differently than we as grown ups view the world and how it works. I am lucky enough to have a few friends who are the wonderful kind you refer to in your article today and I am very thankful that they are here for me when I need them! Wing has taken some wonderful pictures!! Katherine is loving looking at all your new tenants.

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The Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse

The Peanut Butter Cafe & Roadhouse is a real place - each person just perceives it a bit different from another. Or maybe a lot different, for all that I know. I'd say it would be a stretch to see it as modern, sleek nightclub, but I guess if you got a group of those folks lost out here in these parts, they could enjoy themselves sitting and talking and digging down in the soda pop cooler. The stove that we put wood in for heat - not the cooking kind - might take them aback, but it's a pretty fine thing on a cool morning come dawn or a cold winter day.
Most of us agree the floor is pretty much narrow hardwood, although we've got some big, wide and thick planks in a couple of areas. We've got a counter and stools and tables and chairs and I wouldn't say too many things match. Got a couple or big real rag rugs and a couple of fake Persian, threadbare they are. There's an aroma in the place, a mixture of woodsmoke and your favorite fragrance. Some swear it's citrus and sage, others insist it's macintosh and peach and every now and then we all agree it's the scent of rhubarb cooking down to a sauce.
We've got Friday, our dog, who used to live in meadow in Vermont until he died and came here. I guess technically he's a dog-angel - but we don't get technical here.
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