“I should have…” “I shouldn’t have…” “I wish I had said…” “This is all my fault…”

If thoughts along those lines are keeping you up at night, you may find it helpful to talk to a chaplain or another trusted counselor.

Some of those thoughts may be legitimate. We have regrets, and sometimes we need to make amends. But some of them are probably your own desperate attempts to make sense of a senseless circumstance. Faced with the unthinkable, our minds naturally try to produce an explanation. “If only I hadn’t stopped at the store on the way home from work…” A chaplain or another trusted counselor can help you sort out what’s yours and what’s not. And then make a plan from there.