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We get tasty recipes too? This blog is awesome! Perhaps another recipe is in order?
Sweet Potato Asparagus Thing (I’m not good with names)
-1 thing of asparagus. (bundle? bunch?)
-3ish sweet potatoes.
-1/2 lb of chicken breast. Unless you’re hungry, then 1 lb
-1 large onion
-1 or 2 bell peppers (red looks more colorful here)
-Some green beans
-A few mushrooms
-Other assorted vegetables that interest you. Carrots are decent, and I’ve been meaning to try water chestnuts. Start carrots early if you use them though. They take forever.

-Skin the sweet potatoes, and chop into bit sized pieces. Place in a pan on high heat with a very small amount of olive oil. Stir occasionally.
-While you wait, chop vegetables and chicken into pieces. After the sweet potatoes have been going for 12ish minutes, place all vegetables into a second pan, and fry with some olive oil. About three minutes later, toss the chicken in with the sweet potato. Continue to stir both pans.
-Sprinkle some salt and pepper over the chicken and sweet potatoes. Spice the vegetables however you like. Tarragon works well, but you have to use quite a bit since its a very mild spice. I’ve done cumin as well with good results.
-10 minutes after the vegetables went on (22 minutes after potatoes), combine everything. Give it a minute or two for the tastes to mix, then serve. Serves 3 to 6 depending on how generous you were with ingredients up top.
-No idea how well it reheats. We’ve never had leftovers. Tastier than it sounds at first description.

Reading your post, there are some things I agree with, and
some things I disagree with.

I agree it isn’t right for them to give you guidelines, and
then after you followed the guidelines, paid your money and arrived there with
friends to change the rules on you. I also
agree it wasn’t fair to not be consistent and to allow other girls with shorter
dresses to stay while making you leave.
That is where *they* were wrong.

Now where you were wrong is that you say you looked “hot”. What does that mean? We get that term from the idea of animals
(including humans) being in heat. Ready
for sex. So what the parents didn’t
want, reasonably I would say, would be for girls dressing to look hot. They wanted them dressing to look pretty, or
feminine, or lovely, or beautiful, or cute, or sophisticated, or gorgeous, or
classy, or attractive. But not hot, not
in heat, not ready for sex.

We can go too far in one direction, where women are
expected to wear burkas (or burqas) and
when a woman gets raped it is considered her fault. Or we can go too far in the other direction,
where you blame a man for being sexually aroused when a prostitute dresses in
such a way to try to sexually arouse him.

It is normal and healthy for single women to try and be
sexually attractive to men. And women
are constantly doing a balancing act of trying to dress sexually attractively, while
not going to extremes. Not being too
obvious. Not being too immodest. Not showing too much. A prostitute tries too hard, because that is
her job. Many women go to those lengths,
but I think most of us would agree that it is a sign of a depravity. If a woman is trying that hard, is that desperate
for male attention, she doesn’t have a healthy self image. She doesn’t seem to respect herself, and it
is difficult for us to respect her.

As Christians, we know that lust is sinful. So it falls on men to control their eyes and
their thoughts (of course women can also be lustful) and it falls on women to
dress modestly. Modesty is a virtue. Not in our society, but in Christianity and
possibly all world religions. It is the
norm in our country for women to dress immodestly, and it usually gives women
more of the attention they like if they dress immodestly, without going to
extremes. So this makes it difficult to
compete for male attention while dressing modestly.

Another side point I would make is that you don’t know that the
dads were feeling lustful. If a woman
had said you were dressed inappropriately, you would not have accused her of
being lustful. It isn’t right to assume
when a man makes the same observation that he is feeling lustful towards you.

I am also tall (5’11”).
Maybe they should have their guideline be that it needs to be at least
fingertip length and no more than three inches above the knees. It is sad to me when things like this get so
legalistic, but I think it helps when everyone has clear objective rules for
events like this so you don’t have a situation like yours where you feel shamed
and are asked to leave when you tried to follow the guidelines.