Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics

Tuesday, 4 November 2014

The routes to hot women being with average looking men

“On the road to
hell are paves of good intentions.”

There
is a lot of talk that consists within emotional conversations to how curious it
is when you see a hot woman with a lesser looking man. This is also relevant to the higher end of
cute women too. Remember that the
quantity of cute women outweigh the numbers of hot women by nearly 10 to 1
within the female age spectrum of 16 to 40 - the age range that is most
applicable to female physical attractiveness.

When
you consider the usual case of a hot woman being with a less striking man in a
visual perspective, the rope is pulled from both ends. For example, hot women don’t go out at the
weekend to actively locate a lesser looking man. If anything, they ignore lesser looking men
in favour of being seen with good looking men or local status characters. However, this can often be for attention and
ego needs as opposed to taking things further.
But when you see the same woman the next day walking with a man who
naïve bystanders wouldn’t have put her alongside in objective terms, it can
leave the more inquisitive folk scratching their heads. Something happens in between.

Where
I believe the community slips up is by not divulging into the reasons behind
these frequent occurrences, and in turn not actually seeking out the
fundamental truth. It really is
pointless logging onto a female blog or forum with regards to this subject,
because you will rarely see any true and accurate reasoning. At the risk of sounding harsh, almost all of
it is bullshit. “Doesn’t he have a great
personality” or “lesser looking men are cool to be with” will be your typical
female justifications. If men choose to
go down this reading route then good for them, but don’t expect any benefit
from it. But this blog doesn’t care
about pride, egos or weaknesses. You
will always get the truth based on what you see in reality, and not what suits
my agenda.

I
pin-point these passages of hot women and their male choices into 4 areas:

Reputation/Social
Status/Popularity

Most
typical of women under 23, but not alien to women above this age too, the local
bad boy will be that guy who is known in the local town vicinity amongst
many. This is the mistake many people’s
minds make. Jerks are rarely the best
looking men, as they in fact are the men with the highest social status.

This
is a perfect ingredient for a woman, as her ego is maintained in tack due to
not being with a man more eye catching than her, but she gains through the thought
of being with one so popular. This
ultimately spearheads her status too.
Everything is relative, but a man in this category could be a bar owner,
club promoter or even a fat dense doorman.
If they’re really scraping the barrel for status searching, throw in a
bartender who earns £7/hour as well. So
when you see hoards of women hanging around a man who isn’t visually the best
in the bunch, there is more than a fair chance he has a degree of local profile.

Without
wanting to get into the race issue, and as the son of a black man I couldn’t be
accused of this anyway, there is also a stigma attached to the Afro-Caribbean
ethnicity belonging to the bad boy theme.
I know plenty of men from this segment who are great guys, so this
cannot be taken as a given. But this
race also predominantly offers the manifestation of more rugged looks (as
opposed to instinctive good looks) and bad boy image. Once again, this is a good recipe for women
who hold these inclinations to tick all the boxes.

High
Occupational Status

After
women reach 25, but sometimes prior to this age, they will start to go through
physical, emotional and psychological changes that have crept up in an
imperceptible manner. A hot woman will
have been accustomed to tracking down bad boys in her late teens and early 20s,
but it hasn’t gone unnoticed that a couple of physical flaws now show up in the
mirror. In addition, due to her
diminishing appetite for girls nights out, along with her female friends now
starting to settle down with men stupid enough willing to commit at an
early age, edgy men she was once accustomed to are no longer so prominent.

However,
although there are negligible signs of beauty fragmentation, the opinion of her
worth is still strong enough to know she can demand qualities in a man that are
from the high end of male calibre. She
has reached the age where men in workplaces portray status, power and working
confidence, and whilst they are not the easiest on the eye portraits, what
these men can offer her will compensate for physical shortcomings. So the view of his oversized waistline and
saggy man breasts can be taken as an oversight in respect to the offerings he
can give her. The nice house, expensive
holidays and credit cards are a mitigating fix to cloud over any sexual
limitations she will inevitably encounter.

Company
directors or senior management staff are typical of men fitting this bill, but
I wouldn’t be going out on a limb by predicting a large percentage of men in
this compartment who are with a hot or very cute woman will be formed from an
inter-company link. This is primarily
because he would find it extremely difficult to appeal to her in any other
social environment.

The
Run of The Mill Guy

Because
of the shortage of men from the above two groups mentioned in comparison to the
higher supply of hot and very cute women, you will actually find a lot more
women with these average kinds of men.
Genuine guys as they are, they are just average looking, average status,
average earning, along with decent personalities and desirables. What they are above the male benchmark in,
especially when they track down a hotter female partner, is willingness to
commit.

Dynamics
of this kind – average guy with hot woman – are often conspicuous to a more
naïve observer, but the sexual value gap does close as time passes by. For example, take it as the normal course of
events that they both meet in their mid 20s.
If the hotter woman gets pregnant relatively soon in the relationship,
her appeal to more “in-demand” men will be cut in half. No man with high quality would (should)
choose a woman with baggage, as he should have the confidence to attain someone
just as attractive without a child.

But
probably even more important is the ever closing physical bridge as the years
pass. You will see most women with men
who are 10% to 15% less physically attractive up to the female age of 35, but
in some cases this can even be a 25% upgrading on the man’s behalf. I’m sure you’ve seen some 8/10 women with
6.5/10 men. At the age of 25, this may
be the case, but fast forward time 10 years and the visual grading difference
will be much closer. Women know this,
even at an early age, and they allow for a contingency factor of safety to ease
their impending insecurity concerns.

The
Equally Good Looking Man

I’ve
left this to the end because so many people still believe every physically
attractive man (>8/10) is with a woman of looks parity. This isn’t what you see on a regular basis in
the real world. I’ve observed couples
far and wide in various international cities over the last few years, and I can
honestly say that I’ve seen less than half a dozen bonds that ticked this
dynamic.

The
supply and demand consideration should in fact make it that you see this all
the time. Women from the top end of
physical attractiveness are, by my observations, 3.5 times greater in quantity
than the likewise male population. With
this in mind, a man should have a good number of hot women and very cute women
to choose from. But female mate
requirements, trust issues and egoism irritabilities can take women the other
way.

Nevertheless,
there are always going to be a minority of women who do place high emphasis on
male aesthetic value. I don’t think
there are many women above the age of 23, in percentage terms, who place it as
priority number one in the same way as the majority of men focus on female
beauty, but there is a small percentage (somewhere between 15% to 20%) who will
not automatically disqualify an eye catching man through ego reasons
alone. But when you spend a Saturday
night out in UK cities, and only see 3 to 4 hot women out of thousands, it isn’t
hard to comprehend that the viewing of hot woman and hot man is sparse. This reason alone is perhaps explainable to
seeing many hot men with cute, but not hot, women.

You
will often hear friends of hot women, or even these hot women themselves,
inform you that women of high scale beauty find it difficult to locate men
because men feel intimidated to approach them.This is true to a point, but I wouldn’t get the violins out too
soon.Yes, the majority of men – average
looking guys – do feel anxious to interact with these women because they
assume, often wrongly, that they are not good looking or wealthy enough to
entertain them.However, a lot of men do
approach these women, and their minds are caught between the devil and the deep
blue sea.

Many
of these men may not to be to the physical liking, and she naturally rejects
them through a lack of attraction. This
is fair enough. But I can bet you that
some men of equal physical attractiveness to these women also hedge their bets,
and many of these women sustain an irritable feeling in being with one as eye
catching. So when a woman does state
words along the lines of being unable to make men feel comfortable, it is a
back-handed self-compliment. Basically,
it is an overrated and overused excuse to deploy any blame away from her.

Women
might say stupid things that make no sense in emotional terms on a daily basis,
but they are far from stupid in the way they think out their plan of life. Nothing epitomizes this more than their choices
decisions in male sexual mates. Believe
me, the vast majority of women are far more clued up with their plan of life in
this respect than the majority of men.
Men act with their penis first and think of the consequences later. Women think of what is in it for them first,
and then act accordingly. Some may call
it cunning and manipulative, but if you can get away with it then fair play to
them. From this perspective, men would
do well by taking a leaf out of women’s books.

About Me

Tough and sensitive. Firm but kind. Happy to help, but not here to be used. Once naive, now astute. Versatile and ranged. Balanced yet peripheral. Stylish but not extravagant. Stands out at the same time as blending in.