I have been seeing an older man for just over six months now. He is wonderful and I love him. He has three grownup children who are a similar age to me. I feel guilty for saying this but I resent them. They are extremely demanding. Despite them all having jobs they expect him to pay for everything and drive them everywhere, at any time of day or night. It is impacting on our relationship; we don't spend half as much time together as we would like, and it is making me feel second best. Should I accept that I am not his priority or try to make him compromise?

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