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I'm a John too. And so are you

Good. Let's continue. Because John isn't alone. Everyone is a John (sometimes). Maybe you are one now, or you sometimes just want to be left alone.

It's hard to balance your own job with helping others, showing appreciation, accepting that not everyone has the same knowledge you have. But you know what happens when you become John? You become self-entitled and believe the amount of knowledge you have is enough to get you through your job.

I've been doing this for x years. I know what I'm doing.

Do you? Do you know what you're doing? You're belittling your colleagues and feel the urge to proof you're above them. And in that process, belittle them. Aurynn Shaw didn't give the person a name. But it's that guy and with doing so, the workplace becomes a toxic place, where you can't trust each other, where you want to be better and belittle others, to make yourself feel good.

Have you ever had to explain something three times? Consider that maybe, just maybe, the person you're explaining to isn't used to the standards. Or doesn't know any better and wants to make sure the way forward is the right way of doing so.

Of course, there are those moments where you think "Come on, you should know this". And sometimes, although you may be right, it doesn't mean you have to belittle them. They are falling back in to old habits, and the problem is you. Or me. Yes. I get frustrated when I'm asked for the 4th time how to do something, feeling I'm wasting my time. But looking at the other side of the coin, there's someone unsure of what to do and needs help.

Do I always provide help? No. Sometimes I need my isolation and do my own part of the job in a team. (And my team is pretty awesome. (Just the name, Ninja Unicorns. You can't beat that! ;) )).

It's not just in IT, but in all segments of society, where one feels the need to be better than others. Let go of that feeling you need to be better than others and start feeling you want to improve yourself. And that's a hard thing to do.

And for me? I try to be there, and try to help wherever I can. But sometimes, I can't/won't/am unable. I'm sorry, I'm only human.

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I'm working on a new posting-addon.
As of today, I noticed I kinda need to make an English and/or Dutch mirror for some of my posts here.
So, I'm working on that. The ability to post an article in Dutch, then repost the same in English, but only show one...