Cooperative Divorce Mediation

Divorce Without Dispute- a cooperative method for resolving divorce and child custody

The traditional practice and procedures of divorce and child custody are adversarial, by nature. The spouses each hire an attorney to argue their respective viewpoints on any disputed issue regarding the division of property or the custody of children.

They each may hire expert consultants to produce a business evaluation, financial analysis or a custody evaluation using a “psychological profile”. This leads to the inevitable problem of “dueling” experts with differing opinions. The lawyers argue these positions in court, as the fees go higher and time drags on. Because of the very litigation itself, the spouses grow in animosity for each other and the estate is depleted before it can be divided. They often overlook the important need to plan for a fair distribution of the assets and the proper consideration of financial security for each in the post-divorce years. The children are often left in the middle of the dispute and awash in the harsher feelings that develop between their parents because of the litigation.

Now, attorneys, mental health professionals and financial planners have collaborated together to develop a different, non-adversarial, practice for divorce and child custody cases. Divorcing couples may now come together to settle their case and resolve their differences in an atmosphere of cooperation. After an initial consultation with the team, and in preparation for the mediation, the three disciplines have a role:

The financial planner works up their inventory and helps with budgeting and long-term planning. Post-divorce financial issues are often a source of great anxiety and should be addressed carefully. This is done pre-mediation and revised during mediation.

If there are children, the MHP may work with the parties to create the parenting plan. The MHP is also able to provide personality testing to assist the individuals in resolving disagreements inherent in the divorce and to give them new tools for managing future relationships.

A mediator/attorney conducts the mediation and guides the parties to a settlement. He or she draws up the mediated settlement agreement to be signed as evidence of an agreement.

Another attorney files the divorce, beginning the 60-day waiting period. He answers questions concerning legal issues. After the mediation is complete, this attorney writes the divorce decree and “proves up” in court accompanied by one of the parties. This is typically the only court involvement and takes only a few minutes in front of a judge.

The spouses may need to attend a second mediation session if difficult issues prevent settlement at the first. They are meeting with mediators to rationally discuss their concerns and develop reasonable, mutually satisfying solutions. Co-mediators can be financial planners, psychologists or family-law attorneys, each using the tools of their trade to facilitate each session and produce written agreements of the once-disputed issues.

The attorney is there to supply facts of law and will draw up the decree based on the mediated settlement agreement reached during mediation. The financial planner creates the spreadsheet to divide assets, bringing the previously completed planning spreadsheets and reviewing the long-term effect of a proposed settlement on each party. (This long-term analysis is optional). The mental health professional acts as a communications coach, helping the parties to focus on the future instead of past blame or pain.

In this manner, divorcing couples save time and money and avoid the bitter arguments and harsh feelings that usually deplete the marital estate and destroy any hope for reasonable post-divorce co-parenting. Rather, in their post-divorce life, each spouse enjoys a fair-share of the divided assets, avoids becoming enemies with the ex-spouse, and the children benefit from an atmosphere of cooperation between their two parents.

The members of the Cooperative Divorces™ Practice group include: Patricia Barrett, C.F.P., Manny Caiati, Esq., Mary Ann Knoelle, Ph.D., and attorney Amy Fearnow. Following are three different scenarios in which Cooperative Divorces can serve to smooth the process and save money:

In the simplest case, the financial planner, working with a husband and wife, with no children, produces a binding settlement agreement dividing the marital estate.
A lawyer from the Cooperative practice group is hired by either one of the spouses to prepare a petition for divorce and file suit before or at any time during the settlement process. The lawyer will also prepare a waiver, and a decree of divorce conforming to the settlement agreement. The lawyer and client present the final result to the court, using the uncontested docket to serve the final divorce.
It is understood that the other spouse will not hire a lawyer because of the high degree of confidence in the fair and equitable work of the financial planner and the soundness of the settlement.

In another scenario- family mediator may be hired by a divorcing couple to produce a binding settlement before suit is filed.
The couple has already worked with the financial professional to settle the marital estate or provide other financial analysis. There may be one or more mediation sessions. Then a lawyer from the practice group, hired by either one of the spouses, prepares the document necessary to secure a divorce from the court.

In another scenario, a couple already in divorce litigation, may decide to begin a more cooperative process and hire co-mediators, from the practice group, to help facilitate a final agreement.
The co-mediator team may be comprised of an attorney mediator with either a financial planner or a psychologist. Each spouse may continue to retain their own attorney for advice and counsel.

In every case, and at any point in the process, the couple may choose to see the group’s psychologist to facilitate settlement or to begin the process leading to a healthy post-divorce lifestyle.

In any case involving children, the psychologist will provide valuable insight regarding the best interests of the children. Working with the psychologist, the couple can resolve all of the important issues of conservatorship and also develop a final post-divorce co-parenting plan.

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Information provided in this website is not meant to be construed as legal advice and does not necessarily predict decisions that will eventually be made by a court of law. It is strongly recommended that you consult competent legal advice if your divorce includes children or property issues.