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ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT) – An Online Resource

I used to think that being a perfectionist was a good thing to be. It isn’t! It’s a burden and it weighs a ton!

Perfectionists pride themselves on their high standards, but the flip-side is that they often fail to make a start and get things done. They never feel good enough.

Perfectionists say that they are only interested in the best things in life, but the flip-side is that they miss out on all those lovely little treasures, the “beautiful ordinary”, which is everywhere if they just look. Life never feels good enough.

Perfectionists expect people to be at their best all of the time, especially in regards to them, but the flip-side is that they cut themselves off from the warmth of real relationships. People are never good enough.

You get the picture???

The life of a perfectionist isn’t much fun. It is filled with criticism, of one-self and of others, it is full of disappointment and regret and there is always a feeling that things could be better, we could be better, life could be better. It’s all a bit of a let-down.

For those perfectionists amongst you who suspect that perfectionism is not really working for you, that in fact it is costing you dear, help is at hand.

ACT is not a fan of perfectionism. In fact it regards it as a problematic thinking style. More of that in the next post!

HOW ABOUT YOU?

Do you suspect that perfectionism might be getting in the way of your happiness?