Don’t you dare – I have a protective order.

Look to your left and look to your right. Chances are you are looking at a victim of domestic violence. Man or woman. Don’t argue with the statistics. It’s true.

Here I sit behind the white ivory tower of my keyboard and tell those who are abused to get out of the relationship, get safe and get a protective order. I read the articles. I know trying to get out could get you killed. Stay safe but don’t lose hope.

Once a judge grants a protective order, and it is served, violations could result in a year in jail and fines. Repeat violations are 3rd degree felonies. It’s a big deal. It’s there to help you reclaim your liberty. Use it.

It’s not easy to get. The hardest part is showing a “clear and present danger with a likelihood of future family violence” per the Texas Family Code. The police, the District Attorney and your lawyer can help you with this. Pack a bag, get a temporary phone, have extra keys, have a lawyer, know where the shelters are.