Reasons Why Failing Makes You More Confident

"I’ve seen that failing has got me new wings of confidence
and a great deal of learning, I’ll never get any other way. So I don’t fear
failing anymore. "

The fears of failure sabotage our confidence levels, and we start
moving away from our goals. But what if I tell you that; “failing no way makes
you a failure, but definitely a confident person!" This came from my
experience. I was once nowhere, and by failing again and again in too many
phases of my life; I accepted that- "I'm no good." More often than
not it still tries to pop its head up to remind me- how many times I have
failed in everything in my past? Failure is a very tough word; mighty enough to
smack your confidence, and to bring down your faith on yourself.

But don't stop just because you failed to do something once! Keep
trying. Keep dreaming.

But you must be still wondering; why did I even say that,
"failing makes you more confident?"

Yes, I'm coming to that!

Read on to know why?

First of all failing in something doesn’t tell you that you are
not good at it, or you’ll never succeed? Failing is not a sign of weakness!

A very well-known actor and a comedian, Bill Cosby once said in
his statement, “the desire to succeed must
be greater than the fear of failure.”

But one of my favorite quotes is also the one said by Albert
Einstein, “if you have never failed,
you’ve never tried anything new.”

I believe our success completely depends upon realizing what we
want to do, and why? If we are clear about the answers to these two vital
questions, we will embrace failure without any fear.

When we are in our twenties, it can be hard to understand why are we
failing? But fast forwarding my life in my thirties I understood that,
“sometimes it’s good not to get everything that you ask for!” God had some
beautiful plans for me, and (I know) I took this long to understand! If you
don’t take a chance, don’t take a leap to get yourself out of your comfort zone
and try different things; you’ll never know what you are good at?

When I failed in many attempts I decided, I will work hard. And I took
a step back to understand where I was lacking? And how I can improve? I’m still
working on my efforts to do much better, improve each passing day- I still fail,
but I don’t give up!Ever since I met my new-self; I decided that I must keep
moving forward and release all my regrets and doubts, and must leave them
behind me. I understood that there’s no use dwelling on them- I must explore
every opportunity that is coming my way, and must try to shape my future. I can
never go back and change my past, but I can definitely write my future; and I’m hundred percent confident about it.

Even if you fail again and again-
just don’t stop.

Not
trying at all is easier than failing. Isn’t it? But instead of living in guilt,
throughout your life that you did not try doing something just because you did not
want to fail- it is better to try and fail. And even if you fail, don’t let
that stop you from trying! In the process of trying to achieve our goals, we
will meet innumerable victories or defeats; but if we can overcome these
hurdles to reach our “destination,” we’ll surely achieve success someday.

Don’t attach failure to your
identity.

Don’t
think “failing” again and again makes you a failure person. Don’t attach your identity
to being a failure in life! Just because you haven’t been successful yet, doesn’t
mean you will never achieve success. Don’t personalize failure.

Failure
drives us to change.

Make peace with failure by
accepting it. Readjust your focus and try to revisit your approach. Take ideas
from the lessons and work hard to try it in a different way this time.

I believe success must come
with lots of learning and experience. Therefore it’s good if we don’t succeed
in our first few attempts. The more we try, the more we become fearless and
confident.

Stop
seeking others’ approval.

Often our fear of failure
is deeply connected to our fear of being judged and criticized. We worry more
about what people will think about us, what will they say if we fail? I used to
be like that! But if you give more power to others’ opinions and approvals, you
will ultimately lose confidence in your ability to succeed. We will never be
able to see how efficient and capable we are in achieving success in life!
All we need to do is to drift away from such people and circumstances. Work in
silent. Believe in yourself. And make it happen.

Come, let’s break this
stigma together that, “a failure in the past is always a failure!” I will try
every possible way to make my dream happen, to be successful one day, and to be
equally respected by them- who said, “I cannot achieve my dreams, my goals!

Comments

Oh Epsita, this post couldn't have come at the right time. The few weeks have been very poor because I failed at something I've been trying so hard to avoid. Felt and still feel miserable, but reading this post has surely helped. Thanks for sharing.

Epsita... this is so truthful... the only way to eventually succeed is to go all in and fail... but then keep getting up and even if we fail 10 times in a row... we can still succeed one day... We need top believe in ourselves xox