AMarriage counsellor can provide an Expert opinion about Viability of your relationship if you’re unsure

When you feel hurt, it can seem like you could never heal.

The worst thing you can do is threaten or just go to a lawyer to decide whether to stay or go. The adversarial nature of the legal process prevents any chance of reconciliation or growing through the bad event/period.

When your partner finds out that you’ve gone to a lawyer, not a counsellor; it destroys their motivation to be sorry and try to heal your hurt.

If you tell them that you’ve been to a counsellor, and the professional advice was to make a joint appointment – your partner feels important to you and is much more likely to consider that process.

Only if your partner then refuses to join you in an appointment with a marriage counsellor, you could give an ultimatum that you would have no option but to leave the relationship, because the issue cannot be swept under the carpet.

Note:- if there has been domestic violence, do NOT give the above ultimatum. Attend counselling on your own and follow the marriage counsellor’s recommendations.