Dave Greenbaum

Nobody enjoys getting chewed out by the boss, but it happens to the best of us. Starting the discussion with "what" helps you focus on constructive feedback.

The Wall Street Journal interviewed experts on the best ways to accept criticism in the workplace. One expert suggests focusing on the specifics of the problem by choosing your first words carefully:

"What" questions, such as "What evidence did you see?" tend to draw out more helpful information, says productivity-training consultant Garrett Miller. Questions that begin with "why," such as, "Why are you saying that?" breed resentment and bog down the conversation, says Mr. Miller, chief executive of CoTria, Tranquility, N.J.

When both of you focus on the problems instead of emotions, you'll be able to make the changes requested without feeling attacked or resentful.

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Check out the link's tips for accepting negative feedback in a positive way.