So many of us are wading around in this undercurrent of confusion about relationships, despite all the wonderful things we do and are

but it doesn't have to stay that way...

Through personal commitment, accepting the possibility of change and looking in the right places, we can find happiness

These places, of course, are as much inside us as outside - our way of thinking shapes our reality and our future

Lasting change is self-lead, but sometimes we need a different perspective (or a good reminder) to see the way forward.

In "Healthy Loving Relationships", the key ingredients for change and finding happiness in relationships are clearly presented, for anyone who could use a helping hand in this area.

Learn how to get more intimacy, understanding and acceptance, bring more excitement and passion into a relationship, overcome fears, resolve conflict, and more - it's all in "Healthy Loving Relationships".

You can also read some free chapters from the book directly on Free chapters

Audio and Video resources coming soon.

Here are some other resources we like:

Meditation can do wonders for your general health and clarity of mind. This website has some good, free guides and information on this valuable practice.wildmind.org

NVC (Nonviolent Communication) is about connecting on a deeper level with yourself and others, through developing empathy, avoiding judgement and looking for outcomes which are mutually beneficial. It is used to great effect for many types conflict resolution, from marriage councelling, to treating unhealthy eating habits, to peace talks in the middle-east. It also gives a natural way to express joy and appreciation that avoids some of the unwanted side effects of judgemental language. cnvc.org

A great video by a leader in the field of self-mastery, about getting in touch with what drives you and the power of contribution; both key factors in having the most fulfilling relationships. Also, the website that hosts this video, ted.com is a fantastic resource for inspiration, motivation and hope.

NLP and general self-development articles. This site contains a good 101 introduction to NLP (neuro-linguistic-programming), a powerful toolbox for developing better rapport with yourself and others, rapid and effective learning and overcoming of self-limiting habits of thought and behaviour. lifecoachesblog.com

If you don't do it already, voluntary work is a great way to meet interesting people, get a real sense of positive contribution and develop yourself. The internet, your library and your local authorities are all good places to find out what volunteering opportunities are near you. If you're in the UK, you might take a look at timebank.org.uk. idealist.org is another great, international option.

Get support when you need it. Sometimes what you most want is for someone to just listen and try to understand. Just being heard and not judged can be such a profound relief, when you're feeling at your wits end. The Samaritans are there to listen, free of charge, and help support you through feelings of distress or dispair - whether the cause be relationship issues or otherwise. (They are also very grateful for volunteers) samaritans.org

Being physically fit and healthy, not only helps you look good it also makes you feel good. Both will help you in having a fulfilling relationship. freetrainers.com contains free personalized fitness programs as well as message boards to help you get started on this sometimes difficult goal.

your feedback

What people have said about the book, “Healthy Loving Relationships”:

It's a very warm and charming book, offering a lot of recognition to a lot of people I'm sure. It shows a great amount of understanding to how we work in relationships as we people do, and offers a good deal of useful tips to connecting with others in a comfortable and self-aware way in our search for partnership. Besides that the book made me laugh out loud, for it's being written so funny, witty and personal ! Thanks to the author for sharing his helpful...

Annelies Osterbaan

I'm constantly amazed how perceptive and helpful this book is, even to 'old timers' like me; you're never too old to learn. It's a book one can dip into or read from cover to cover and you'll gain something valuable from it each and every time.

Rosalind Meadow

I just wanted to say thanks as I found your writing very relevant.

E. Blanshard

clear and detailed

Anonymous

I read the ebook and I found myself in it big time quite scary but real it is amazing how you can describe feeling and situations you are so spot on ...

Gilda Pixie

has a nice warm tone throughout, making allowance for people's differences and needs to discover things for themself ...