NEW YORK — Talat Hamdani traveled to Mecca to pray that her missing son, an EMT, was safe in the days after 9/11. She held out hope that his Muslim background had led to his detention as a suspect, considering it better than the alternative.

When part of his body was returned to her — his lower half shattered into 34 pieces — it was final proof he had indeed been killed when Islamic extremists brought down the World Trade Center. As Americans take sides over plans to build an Islamic cultural center and mosque blocks away, Hamdani says it feels personal.

"Why are we paying the price? Why are we being ostracized? Our loved ones died," she said at her Lake Grove, N.Y., home. "America was founded on the grounds of religious freedom," and opposition to the cultural center "is un-American. It's unethical. And it is wrong."

The thousands of relatives of the 2,976 victims have no single representative and no unified voice, even as another 9/11 anniversary approaches. The conflict is dividing a group that in many ways has never been united, with some saying the cultural center would reopen old wounds too close to hallowed ground and others say that opposing it is tantamount to bigotry.

And some, like Vandna Jain, walk a middle ground.

"It is unfair to persecute the group, however, in turn, there should be some respect for the feelings of the people that are forever attached to this site due to their losses," the New City, N.Y., resident, whose father, Yudh, died in the north tower, wrote in an e-mail. "I think people have a right to be upset about it, just as much as people have a right to build a mosque."

Jim Riches, a former New York Fire Department deputy chief whose son, Jimmy, was killed at the trade center, believes the dispute has nothing to do with religious freedom.

"We're not telling them not to practice their religion. ... It's about location, location, location," he said, asking why the mosque couldn't be built farther away from the land that he still considers a cemetery.

"It's disrespectful. You wouldn't put a Japanese cultural center at Pearl Harbor."

Liza Murphy feels differently. Her brother, Charlie, died at ground zero, but she says she doesn't lay claim to the sprawling, 16-acre site.

"It's a place where a terrible tragedy took place, but I don't see what makes it sacred," said the Brooklyn resident. "Nine years later, that now belongs to the public. And my brother and his death are private and belong to me."

Murphy says she has no objection to the planned mosque and wouldn't want to judge one group of Muslims based on the actions of another.

But Peter Gadiel says he owes no apologies for singling one group out. Since his son, James, was killed at the trade center, Gadiel has argued publicly that all Muslims should share some collective guilt for what happened on 9/11.

"The fact is that Islam does not coexist well with other religions, and you can't separate that from Islam," the Kent, Conn., resident said, explaining his stand against the mosque. "If that sounds intolerant on my part, that's too bad."

The families' impassioned responses to the prospect of the mosque have influenced the public debate.

Gov. David Paterson has suggested moving the project further away from the trade center site out of respect for opponents' feelings, while Mayor Michael Bloomberg came out in support of the mosque, calling it a test of the separation of church and state.

President Barack Obama has said he believes Muslims have the right to build the Islamic center as a matter of religious freedom, though he's also said he won't take a position on whether they should actually build it.

Relatives of those slain on Sept. 11 have made their diverging voices heard on a number of issues over the years — from whether to try the suspects in a civilian court to the location of a proposed freedom museum at ground zero that is no longer planned for the site.

Charles Wolf, who lost his wife, Katherine, at the trade center, says emotions among family members are especially raw right now.

"This is anniversary season. It's really, really hard," the Manhattanite said. "Passions are up and this is bringing up a lot of hurt in people."

He says he worries that any decision to respond to public pressure and move the mosque would be used by extremists to paint Americans as intolerant.

"The powers of evil were piloting those airplanes," he said of the Sept. 11 attackers.

Now, with the mosque dispute, "here is where we're falling into the terrorists' trap ... trying to tear each other apart. Good people fighting other good people — does that sound like evil at work?"

———The Associated Presss David B. Caruso and Karen Matthews in New York and Martha Raffaele in Philadelphia contributed to this report.

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First this is a NY thing,....as a Georgian my opinion doesn't matter at all.
Still I have a couple of questions that nobody else seems to ask. ( or at least report)
1 When did they purchase the property? ( pre or post 911 )
2 What did they pay for it? Fair market value or any " extra" just to obtain that location.
answering these simple questions may tell if this is a property owner exercising their rights, or possibly a " hidden agenda" designed to divide a country still in morning of a modern tragedy.

I agree with the president, that just because they can...doesn't make it a good decision.

and when the towers were hit one of the planes landing gear went threw this property. I think they need to find another place to build. Just out of respect to the families. There are many places they can build.Why there?

I recently read an article that stated there was a mosque as part of the memorial built just 80 feet from where the plane hit the pentagon on 9/11. I guess it's OK inside the headquarters of the DOD, but not 2 blocks away from ground zero. As a side note there were 300 muslims killed at the trade center that day. That's about 10% of the deaths.

Mr. Larry Silverstein, who purchased the towers in July, collected close to $4 billion in insurance money after 911. Larry never failed to have his breakfast each and every morning in a restaurant in one of the towers, however he didn't show up on the morning of 911. Who were the five "dancing Israelis" who were arrested at the foot of the George Washington Bridge filming the plane crashes and dancing about in jubilation? They were later released and ordered back to Israel. Why was Thermite found in the melted pools of steel at the base of each tower's support column, when it is known that there was no Thermite stored in the towers or on either plane? Why did Building 7 collapse at 5:30 pm that day, having never been hit by a plane at all? (Have a careful look at Building 7 going down on some of the corporate press tapes of that day. If that isn't a controlled demolition, then I've never seen one.) When did jet
fuel ( refined kerosene) develop heat sufficient to melt steel? Why is the hole in the Pentagon wall at the wrong height and opening width for an incoming jetliner, and how is it that the entire plane is said to have literally flown inside the Pentagon, wings and all, yet there is no rubble from the wings outside the building, and no entry-marks where they would have flown inside as we are told? Why is it that no bodies of survivors were ever produced from the Pentagon crash? The broader question remains--why is our Constitution being trashed daily, our freedoms gradually slipping away and our tax money being tossed down a rathole in Vietnamistan?

After all, there were muslims on the planes, and probably some members of the nation of islam in the buildings. Of course, associating the nation of islam with arabic fundamentalists is about like comparing Girl Scouts and hookers. Yep, they're female.