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Topic: Condom Slip Uk, ARS? (Read 14297 times)

Three weeks ago i met a girl in a bar who i didnt know, we ended up having drunken protected sex after. Right at the end the condom slipped off and i didnt notice untill pulled out and to my horror i was not protected. I looked inside and there was cum inside the condom so i could not have been inside her long unprotected, i was erect when i pulled out so my head was exposed. Three weeks after and im suffering from flu like symptoms of sore armpits and groin, and also stiff neck and headaches. i have also been waking up in cold sweats through the night. i have not had any rash though or fever. these symptoms have lasted for ten days now and im really worried it could be ARS. Does this sound like ARS to you guys? And do you think the risk presents a big worry?

If you were able to look inside the condom and discover cum, then I'm assuming the condom was hanging out of her and not pushed up inside. What this means is that the condom came off as you withdrew and you weren't at risk. You need to hold on to the base of the condom whenever you remove your penis from another person's body, otherwise you risk leaving it behind and scaring yourself silly.

You had protected intercourse and you did not have a risk.

Please read the Welcome Thread for more information on hiv transmission.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you don't need to test over this specific incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

It's highly unlikely that you were infected through this very brief incident. You're more likely to walk outside your door and find a multi-million winning lottery ticket lying in the gutter. However, if you feel you've been at risk then you need to test at three months past this encounter.

As a sexually active adult, you should be having regular, routine sexual health care check ups anyway. You were far more likely to end up with something like chlamydia from this brief encounter, so you might want to get an STD panel at around two weeks.

Your symptoms are meaningless when it comes to hiv. And think about it, you're stressed out and you have a stiff neck and aching muscles? Relax and get someone to rub your shoulders for you. If you continue to feel unwell, see your doctor.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

i have took an elisa test today at 26 days based on the thought that if this is seroconversion i would be producing antibodys now, also a result after 26 days will give me a bit of peace of mind one way or another:) i will be getting the results tomorrow, i hope to god its negative:) The doctor also told me it was highly unlikely to catch it like this, but it dosent stop you thinking that you might be that one:(, do you know of any incidences of someone catching hiv from a condom falling off during sex?

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

thanks for your kind words ann, fingers crossed for the result tomorrow, i know its not conclusive but at least it will dispel any fears i have about this illness i have at the moment being seroconversion. because if i was going through seroconversion it would show antibodys. thanks for yor help, iwill post back with my result tomorrow, all i can do now is pray.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I got a negative at 4 weeks on the elisa test, is that a good indication?? I have been suffering with cronic stiff neck and stomuch ache and sore groin area and cronic fatigue:( I hope this test was a indication:)

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Thanks ann, your kind words have got me through a very dark time, Its frightening when you just dont know. In the last week i have been activly looking at all the advances and avenues for new meds to keep my hope up just incase. And whatever the outcome i will never forget the support that you guys give on here.

Yes, I see you were briefly without a condom. Taking into consideration that it was very brief, and one-time only exposure and you already have a negative test result, I expect you will continue to test negative.

ok andy i will do that. if i was seroconverting would my body be producing antibodys? i have had this dredfull muscle aches and general tiredness feeling for 7-10 days now. If i was seroconverting would you expect that to show on an elisa test? my fear really is attributed to this illness i have within the 2-6 week window.

There is absolutely nothing even remotely HIV specific about the symptoms which are concerning you. And the non-specificity of symptoms is exactly why they ought never to be taken as an indication of HIV status. Only an HIV test done at the proper time will give you a reliable answer.

And I still expect you to test negative. Discuss your symptoms with your doctor if they persist.

I still have aching muscles in my legs and groin area, im hoing insane with worry and i feel like my hole world is shutting down. I have never had a illness last this long and i feel helpless to stop it:((

Look mate, you're more likely to walk outside your house and find a few-million pound winning Lotto ticket lying in the gutter than you are to have become infected from this encounter. For a start, you wore a condom. It slipped off toward the end - quite possibly (and most likely) when you withdrew. This is not a situation where there is great cause for alarm and I certainly do not expect a positive result.

If you feel ill, go see a doctor. There are an awful lot of cold and flu viruses around right now - I had a mild one at the end of last week.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

You've been reading this forum for long enough now to realise that we do NOT discuss symptoms in the context of hiv infection. It would be totally meaningless for us to do so because hiv has NO specific symptoms - and many people have NO symptoms whatsoever, but yet have been infected.

If your glands are bothering you, see your doctor. Swollen glands are a sign of infection in the body, ANY infection. If the ones in your groin are bothering you, then perhaps you need to test for the other STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea, ones that you were MUCH more likely to pick up from this mostly-protected encounter.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

hi again, i woke up this morning and felt so ill i went to my a and e department where they hit me with a barrarge of tests. They said that my glands was not swollen( but they feel sore) they said my globin was normal and my white cell count was normal, everything was normal. I told them of my fear for HIV and they phoned my consultant dealing with my test i took after 4 weeks. i was having these horrible symptoms from the middle of the second week after the incident. He said that he not only did an elisa test on me he did a p24 antigen test as well, he said if it was seroconversion that i was going through with this illlness i have it would have picked up an irregular maybe not positive reading but inconclusive. My reading was 100 percent neg on both tests. and he also said that he is sure as he can be that i dont have HIV. he also said that there would be a sign of an infection in my hemoglobin levels as well.

I've been telling you all along that it sounds to me like you lost the condom on withdrawal and had no risk. I'm not surprised your doctor thinks you're hiv negative - I do too. You were never likely to become infected from this encounter.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

well i know i was definatly exposed when i pulled out. because the condom stayed inside her. they said i dont really need to test after 3 months but i can if i wish for peace of mind. its funny when you have all these people telling you stuff and yet you still think you have it. thankks for your reply ann

can anyone tell me if a complete negative on a p24 antigen test and antibody test at 26 days is a strong indicator of hiv negativity? i found a website that put it a 99.8 percent negative. is this right?

i used it in conjunction with an antibody test. a DUO test. usually at the point of the p24 protien not being detectable the antibody is. the website said it was 99.8 conclusive when done in tandem with an antibody test. The condom was inside her and i was exposed at the end. maximum of 45 seconds.

Look mate, you're on the verge of being timed out here. Your chance of ending up hiv positeve from this encounter are about the same as my chances of becoming the Queen of England next week. Give it a rest.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I got tested today 7 weeks after the incident, will this test be near conclusive? also that test i had done before was not an antigen test it was just an antibody test. I was told this today.... Which worried me more now as an antibody test is unlikely to be positive after 26 days.

I got given a negative result today at 7 weeks. Im so happy, Does this mean that im nearly out of the woods? Do you know the percentage of people that convert after 7 weeks? Also if this lymph gland soreness i have been experencing in my groin area for a month now was anything to do with seroconversion would i be producing detectable antibodys by now?

Once again thanks for all your help, you guys are so clued up with statistics and everything. My GP was struggling to answer my questions