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Re: improving anal sex/ question

I started with a butt plug, moved up to small dildo's then I wrapped a condom around the wife's vibrator.

I've still not had a man back there but I think about it. I will eventually find a guy with a 6 inch or smaller dick and ride him. The only thing that gets me harder is when I imagine a woman sucking my dick while I ride that cock.

Start small, work your way into it. Talk to your boyfriend about maybe a little butt play with toys for a while.

Keep in mind, this advice comes from a guy who's never had a mans dick in his ass. I am guessing that the guy doing the work is what would cause the pain so for the first time, I'd want him on his back and me doing all the work to control the sensations.

Re: improving anal sex/ question

Originally Posted by spanishguy

thanks I have tried toys ( is just not the same) for some reason i close up when the guy try to get in..What i remember having the guy inside me IT WAS AMAZING but just never been able to relax ever since. I have never tried anal plug i will get one...my BF is an 8 incher does not intimidate me is the process that does...LOL

Re: improving anal sex/ question

a little alcohol to get a small buzz, maybe? much more foreplay with plenty of lube, relaxing more and a very patient top.

I understand the negative side effects that some guys experience, but if you use poppers responsibly they are not dangerous and for an inexperienced guy who is trying to bottom, poppers will relax that sphincter...but the key is to use them responsibly....the OP though, indicated that they give him migraines, so it's a no go for him, but for others who are reading this thread, poppers could be helpful if you are still experiencing difficulties taking a cock up your ass....

Re: improving anal sex/ question

Originally Posted by spanishguy

It has been recommended to me to use NUMBING ANAL LUBE is that advisable? would you recommend that? I have read that is not because you are not able to tell if it hurts but others have told me it would help..so little confused. I will do a lot of foreplay. I bought an anal plug and will play around with that first..

Keep in mind that what numbs your ass will also numb his cock, so you both loose sensation, therefore stimulation. So that might mean he can't keep it up, or if he can, not be able to cum easily, which can be a problem for both of you, though for different reasons.

Go slow, LOTS of lube, you control the speed and depth - both telling him and by your motions.

Re: improving anal sex/ question

Originally Posted by spanishguy

It has been recommended to me to use NUMBING ANAL LUBE is that advisable? would you recommend that? I have read that is not because you are not able to tell if it hurts but others have told me it would help..so little confused. I will do a lot of foreplay. I bought an anal plug and will play around with that first..

I would reiterate that you should never use numbing anal lube for the reasons outlined here. You should be able to feel pain if that occurs. Pain is often the body's way of saying that you should be careful and perhaps stop what you are engaging in. The best way to prepare for anal sex as a bottom is to follow the advice of others. Plenty of lube, go slow, practice with a dildo (use varying sizes as you progress) and do your best to consciously relax - breathing exercises as well. Being a bottom is as much what is going on between your ears as much as it is what is going on between your legs. You have to want to be penetrated, you have to want to submit to your top and allow him to use your body for his pleasure. Your pleasure will flow from this. It can be a very, very intense feeling. Good luck in this. Let us know how it goes/went.

Re: improving anal sex/ question

Good news!

In my experience, the most comfortable position for a beginning bottom is to climb up and straddle the top, leaning back on his cock. You get to control how much cock you are taking. After lots of rimming, stimulation and lube, of course.

Glad to hear things went well and he penetrated you with ease. Keep us posted!