It’s never easy discussing death. Bereavement is the state of mourning and sadness we endure after the death of a loved one. Grief is that process we endure, either in anticipation of death or in bereavement. Humans have been shown to systematically show grief in a predictable way. This Kubler-Ross model famously describes the response of those dying.

Denial, accompanied with simultaneous emotional numbness

Anger over the loss

Bargaining, as if the possibility of staying alive exists

Depression and intense mourning

Acceptance

The real point of bringing up the grieving process is to point out that the loss of a loved one is an extremely dangerous time for those left behind. In fact, the death of a spouse is the single highest risk factor for one’s own death. I’m sure many of us can think back to an elderly couple who died months apart. The period of bereavement is a time when people need to come together, provide support and take care of each other. It’s very important that you and your loved ones know that the emotions you will experience are universal and normal. Try to keep that in mind when the time comes. Be reminded that normal grief can last over a year. Don’t feel abnormal because of the difficulties you may be having moving on. It’s healthy to work through your pain. Common psychological thought describe four trajectories we take in bereavement.

Resilience – the attempt to ‘stay strong’ through it all

Recovery – evolution toward a healthy honoring and appreciation of the life of the lost

Chronic dysfunction – the unfortunate circumstance of being stuck in the mourning process such that it cripples your existence

Delayed grief or trauma – the subsequent release and expression of those suppressed emotions

It’s never easy discussing death. Bereavement is the state of mourning and sadness we endure after the death of a loved one. Grief is that process we endure, either in anticipation of death or in bereavement. Humans have been shown to systematically show grief in a predictable way. This Kubler-Ross model famously describes the response of those dying.

Denial, accompanied with simultaneous emotional numbness

Anger over the loss

Bargaining, as if the possibility of staying alive exists

Depression and intense mourning

Acceptance

The real point of bringing up the grieving process is to point out that the loss of a loved one is an extremely dangerous time for those left behind. In fact, the death of a spouse is the single highest risk factor for one’s own death. I’m sure many of us can think back to an elderly couple who died months apart. The period of bereavement is a time when people need to come together, provide support and take care of each other. It’s very important that you and your loved ones know that the emotions you will experience are universal and normal. Try to keep that in mind when the time comes. Be reminded that normal grief can last over a year. Don’t feel abnormal because of the difficulties you may be having moving on. It’s healthy to work through your pain. Common psychological thought describe four trajectories we take in bereavement.

Resilience – the attempt to ‘stay strong’ through it all

Recovery – evolution toward an healthy honoring and appreciation of the life of the lost

Chronic dysfunction – the unfortunate circumstance of being stuck in the mourning process such that it cripples your existence

Delayed grief or trauma – the subsequent release and expression of those suppressed emotions

Grief is to be considered a necessary and healthy part of a recovery process that we should learn to embrace.