So, My SO has talked to my dad and recieved his blessing…..(well actually he got both parents blessings)…..we have the ring….hes asked his best friend to be his best man (hes agreed no matter when the date!), the only thing he hadnt done was talk to his parents (primarily due to some recent drama, with his parents, and the loss of his grannie)….

Well, yesterday SOs dad asked me to go for a drive with him, wich was REALLY unusual, like has happened 2 times (including this time) in our 6 year relationship…..SO encouraged me to go….and though i didnt want to Im rather glad i did….

On our drive we drove to the country and his dad had me get out of the truck and go sit on the tailgate with him…..i was nervous….but he insisted….(hed been really quite until this point)…..Well he apologized for everything…..(he even cried a little….and this man dosent cry….EVER!) He apologized for me not being included as part of the family and for blowing up that im “not family”….he apologized for not including me in family talks and situations….he said he realized how wrong he had been, and that he forgets that ive been around and part of his family (his words….) he said he hadnt realized itd been 6 years….it had donned on him when he realized that SOs birthday was in 2 weeks and how old he would be turning….hed been so busy with work and the loss of family members including his mom and his dads failing health that he didnt realize it was 2013…..he was just so used to me being around and being with SO that he just didnt bother to realize how “important to the family” i had become, including to him….he said he realized it sitting with his dad at his moms bedside, and while he had his son and wife with him ( i had been unable to go at that point due to work so i could save as much PTO as i could incase she didnt rally and turn around this time)….he said he knew something was wrong….in his defense he did text me literally every 20 minutes with updates through the night while i was at work…..and checking to make sure that i was ok being by myself with out SO…..he said it was then with out me(where he had tried to be convinced mainly by his step-daughter who is a whole post to herself….that i shouldnt be there….he realized he needed me there and wanted me there)….

He cried several times during his apology even though you could tell that he was trying not too…..he said he hadnt wanted me to see him emotionally compromised….and he did apologize for absolutely everything…..and promised things would change….and so far they have….He said he could never thank me enough for everything i did for him, SO, his dad, and the whole family during his moms funeral…..he couldnt believe that after everything they had put me through…all the times hed upset me and made me feel unwanted and un loved….that i still went and stood by SO through everything and was able to hold any negative emotion i had towards him in, and be there for the family……he asked me to forgive him for everything….he has realized in the week since the funeral that his step-daughter is a pice of s**t…and that she only wanted to be around him when there is a show to be made….since she came in and only had anything to do with him/his family during the funeral….and then wouldnt even speak to him and went out with friends….and didnt even say good by (this was after she was all “daddy i love you….I cant believe Kansas_nurse came….i dont want her here….) and used the death as an excuse to get a discount flight in for the funeral said she couldnt stay more then 3 days….(she was with the family for 1 day the funeral day and then with friends the rest of the time partying….) because turns out her and her hubby the next week decided to take an impromptu vaca to flordia….and lied to the family about it…her spontaneous trip she booked through a friend WHILE SHE WAS HOME)….anywho

his dad is really trying….and after he took me home….SO and him went for a drive and when SO came back he was grinning from ear to ear….he said his dad had told him everything that we talked about…..and told him he would be the biggest moron in the world if he let me go….and offered to help him buy me an engagement ring….to which SO replied he had one and showed him the ring….and his dad gave him his blessing to ask me to join their family officially…..and said if he didnt he would adopt me…..so while im still a little leary….things are defenitly on the up and up….and now all i need is for my sisters wedding to pass so SO can make this official…..

bees im excited it seems things are on the up and up….and progressing to where they should be….

thanks for all the love and support u have given and im sure will continue to give through the rest of my journey on the bee….sorry for the novel….i feel lighter already….

@kansas_nurse: That is really great. It sounds a lot like he was very emotional about his mothers passing and didn’t mean to hurt you. It is great that he gave you such a heartfelt apology and that he gave his son his blessing to marry you. Seems like you, your FI and his dad are already getting great at resolving issues that come up in relationships.

@WannaBeeMrsB: Thank you….his dad is not a touchy feely kinda guy and is more reserved with his emotions….sooo i know it took ALOT for him to do that….

@Snuggle: Thanks! we are trying…..I think things should be on the up and up from here on out…i think he realized alot about me and about the strength of SO and I’s relationship….and i think it was a huge wake up call to how much of a puke his step-daughter really is….and i think he realized he’d been played by her esp to find out she had some not so nice things to say about him during the funeral…esp about him being a loser and her “give me what ever my real dad wont give me dad….and if not the guy married to my mom”….shes a b***h…..so im glad he realizes this and has apologized so we can start the next step with no animosity between us….