Tag: mindfulness

It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to will end up having power over you. If you allow it.

How many minutes a day are you spending just worrying? Worrying about the future or even past? How many minutes or even hours have gone by without you even noticing the present moment? It is probably more than you think. And because you have clicked on this post I hope that you are willing to change that.

Once I came across a great quote which said: If it does not matter anymore in 5 years don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it!

This made me think about how much we actually need to worry. The answer is simple, we don’t need to worry at all. We don’t function better if we worry and nothing is changing by us worrying about it. There is no need to worry. Your worry is not going to change anything!

The same goes for frustration, anxiety, anger and shame. And all those other emotions that don’t change a thing but make us feel very bad.

Ask yourself. Is it really necessary to get angry or frustrated if your partner forgets to take the garbage out or empty the dishwasher? Is your frustration changing anything or doing the work? No! The only thing that changes is your mood and probably the rest of your day. For the worse.

Is it really necessary to be afraid of your boss and to stress out about work? No! It is very unlikely your boss is going to kill you. The only reason all the animals on this planet, including us humans are meant to be stressed is in a life or death situation or a fight or flight situation. So there is no need for you to have sweaty hands, a racing heart or even constipation unless you are chased by a bear. How many times do you feel stressed and how many times are you chased by a bear?

Start to think about the things that really deserve your energy. What are the things that are really important in your life? The unwashed dishes or your health? The job you hate or your friends and family? You only have a limited amount of fu**s to give in your day. Chose wisely. The things in which you are investing your energy will grow. So if you spend most of your day worrying about your job you will end up even more worrying about your job tomorrow. It’s like planting seeds. Stop planting seeds for things that make you unhappy and start growing the things that make you happy. It’s your life. You can decide what is important in it. So if you don’t want to go and meet with people you don’t like. That’s okay. No need to worry about it. You have the right to spend every minute in your life exactly the way you want to. Free yourself from worry and start living.

So you wake up in the morning feeling good and looking forward to enjoying the rest of the day. Out of a sudden you are running into another person and you start losing energy and start feeling bad. Most likely this has happened to you more than once. So let’s see how we can fix this.

What has happened is a very natural reaction and that is simple energy exchange. Everybody on this planet is surrounded by an energy field that protects us. If your energy shield is in tact, there is no chance an other person’s bad vibes or energies would affect you. However, if other people affect your mood simply by their presence, that’s a sign that you have holes in your energy shield. Which means that you are way more unstable than you think.

So let’s fix it:

Sit quiet for a couple of minutes and think about the things that maybe bother or worry you. Then slowly start to release them. Be mindful.

Release all kinds of stress and tensions.

Simply visualize an energy shield around you. Start to feel the energy inside of you.

Focus your mind and use all your senses to fully experience the energy shield around you.

Make the intention to only let good things pass through your shield in both ways, for example love.

Remember how this energy shield feels like and bring it back in case you need it again.

This may remind you of Star Wars but I dare you to give it a try. It may be more helpful than you think.

Life sucks! I get it. More than once everyone is going through a rough time. Life is not always easy and sometimes it just doesn’t make any sense. However, no matter what is happening to us, we are left with exactly two choices. Either we accept it and move on or fight against it and be miserable.

Life is unpredictable but these two choices bring the power back into our hands. If we choose to accept and let go, we can free ourselves. No matter how miserable we feel, we cannot change the situation for the better. On the contrary, we are attracting more misery.

On the other hand, if we feel good from the inside in every situation, we are changing things for the better. There is no rule that forces us to be feeling sad or angry. We can choose the way we feel and act.

Getting rid of stuff might be more important than you think. Nowadays we live in a capitalistic society in which it is important to own a lot of stuff. The more you own the happier you are – That’s what they try to sell us.

However, this couldn’t be more far from the truth. It is the opposite. We learned to believe that we can buy happiness. We only need to open a magazine or watch TV. Everyday we are flooded by a wave of products that promise us more happiness and a better life. We may be happy for a couple of minutes but then we tend to be more miserable than before.

It is important to understand that we cannot buy happiness. Happiness comes from the inside. Nothing and nobody can make us happy. Happiness is a choice we make every single second.

Our things don’t just occupy space in our house or apartment they also occupy space in our mind. The more we have the more we have to think about. This space could be used more efficiently if it wouldn’t be filled with stuff. The less you have the less you have to worry about. Getting rid of things brings freedom. More time and space that you can use for the moments that really make you happy. You can focus on the present and future instead of holding on to things from the past.

Lesson 18

It’s okay to have no plan.

It’s okay to just live in the moment and not knowing what will happen tomorrow. Life is never going to be certain and predictable no matter how much we try. Be spontaneous and open for new opportunities.