Need some advice please

Hi ladies. This is my first post in this forum as have been in ttc since last august.

I'll start at the beginning then.... I was on the deperova injection for around 5 years and decided to start planning a baby so came off it in the July of 2007 on the understanding that af should return within a year. My first af was exactly one year after I came off the injection in the July of 2008. We have been ttc ever since with no luck at all.

I have fairly short but extremely regular cycles. They are always 23 or 24 days and I ov on day 12 shown by my CBFM. Myself and hubby are both 31, in normal weight range and neither of us smoke. I have a slightly fast heartbeat so take a betablocker everyday which I'm told doesn't affect fertility. I am taking the pregnacare supplement with omega 3 also.

What I'm getting at is should I be going to the doctor or wait another couple of months to see what happens? When do you say enough is enough? I'm just worried that I'm 32 at the end of the year and not even close to having my first baby.

So sorry for the long post. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks in advance. CB xxx

I'm slightly confused as you said you've been trying since last August but also since July 2008? If it's the latter definitely go and see the doc, if not, it's still fairly early days and the doc won't see you until you've been ttc for a year. I'm nearing 33 so don't worry yet - the docs treat you the same as everyone else until you're 35.

Hi mrsj36. Sorry to be confusing, I meant I only joined BE ttc forum in aug last year. We have actually been ttc since July 2008 so well over a year now. I started off using OPK's then moved onto a CBFM, have used zestica etc but have never done temps before. I guess I'm just worried what the doctor will say... stupid I know. How long have you been ttc? If you don't mind me asking. Thanks for your reply xxx

I have pretty much the same length as you - since my Aug/Sept cycle 2008. So yes definitely go! My doc sent me to the fertility specialist (gynao) at the hospital who then sent me for HSG to check for blocked tubes, scan to check ovaries and other things (I think!) and bloods (I've had to do them again as they sent me on the wrong day). Also OH was sent for SA which for us have been the only things to come back low. I was kind of expecting it as he has only one testicle after testicular cancer and has had mumps as a kid. He has now been referred to HIS specialist (no idea why we have to see 2 separate ones) and sent for another test. I just have a feeling it'll be 6 more months (we were referred last sept) before we get any options!

Try not to be scared, knowing what (if anything) is wrong means at least you can concentrate on those things. Ie for us OH has lost weight, is now taking male conception vitamins, cut down on drinking etc. It could be worth you looking into conception vits for yours - won't do him any harm anyway!

It would be worth temping, that way I found out I was definitely ovulating (though of course the docs need to do bloods to confirm). If you join fertility friend they chart it for you and help work out when you've ovulated. Obviously not great to pinpoint when to bd, but it's nice when you see your temp rise! I've used the cbfm too which has been great as I have irregular periods.

Thank you so much I really appreciate your help. You're right, if I know what the problems are (if any) I can hopefully deal with them. I'm gonna look into the pills for hubby, like you say it can't hurt. And I think I'll go onto fertility friend now and check out the temping.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply. It sounds like you've had a rough time of it but hopefully you'll get some options soon. Now I know what to expect a little more I think I'll find it a bit easier to take the plunge and go see the gp. xxx

I echo mrs j36. I have been trying since March 08 had a mc July 08 and nothing since it is a long and heartbreaking journey. I can completely sympathise with the GP thing,. I have been and been offered bloods, that was almost 6 months ago and I have been too scared to actually go. I made it my new years resolution to get them done, perhaps I should have specified a month on the reolution! Hubby has had his SA and it was all fine. Make the appointment. Good luck xx

chelseablue - good luck - keep us posted! The gp will definitely take notice after 1 1/2 years and hopefully you'll get some answers soon.

Socks - have you considered CBT (cogniative behavioural therapy spelt wrong!) for your fear of needles? (I presume it's needles?) I had it for my ibs and it worked to a certain excent but is best for almost irrational fears such as fear of spiders. Basically, you write down all your thoughts you have about it - the fears, worries, basically anything that comes into your head. Then go into each one and have a reply for it - basically reassuring you that what you think may happen, won't. There are online courses you can do I think - just a thought!

Not that it will help, but it really doesn't hurt - my period pains this month were FAR worse!x