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Thursday, November 15, 2012

Fat Acceptance Bloggers

Here it is a little after 6 a.m. and I have to run the route today so I don't have time to expand upon the topic. I like waiting on your comments and answering each thought individually so it's all good. After I run the route and have my mammogram (ouch) and get some groceries I will be able to come home and add my thoughts.

This should set Norma off so I will have given her time to vent a bit :-)

NSV - I got into a 36C bra today down from a 38D. Women usually don't like this to happen but I am excited about it. Less for the mammogram to deal with. OK - stop Myra - guys read this.

Do you know any fat acceptance bloggers? What is typical on their blogs?

8 comments:

Oh, Miss Myra...there is not enough space in all of cyberspace for me to address this topic sufficiently.

To be as succinct as possible, as I tried to say when that issue of the overweight TV news reporter who got the critical e-mail was making headlines: if a person is truly'okay' with being overweight, he or she would not constantly TALK ABOUT WEIGHT.

If a person constantly declares "I'm totally okay with being 300 pounds!" and repeatedly insists that his/her (usually, if it's a HAES blogger, it's a her) health is great and her quality of life is off-the-charts amazing and she is very happy with her appearance and has NO PROBLEM AT ALL wearing size 32 jeans, I tend to call BS.

If you're fine with yourself, you just live your life, you do what you do, you're comfortable with your decisions and you don't make your weight your identity (but then get upset when others do. If you're truly fine with yourself, you don't constantly point out what you're eating or not eating, etc. It's very annoying when I'm at a social event with an overweight person and she either indulges in every fatty/sugary food option available but constantly makes self-deprecating comments while doing so: "Oooh, I just can't resist! Just one more taste. Like I really need another piece of that cheesecake! Hahaha!" (I used to do this as a fat girl) or she makes a big production out of picking on raw vegetables and drinking bottled water to "prove" she's not some gluttonous stereotype.

I was supposed to have a mammo this week myself, but the office rescheduled it for January.

It absolves them of doing something about it when they declare that they are just fine with it and there are no regrets and this is me. I don't believe it for a minute. There is something in us, especially women I think, that wants to be sexy and attractive even if only for our own self-image. I remember trying to climb stairs. I remember galded (sp?) inner thighs. I remember jeans and slacks that wore out on the inner thighs because my legs rubbed together. I remember not being able to cross my legs. I remember not being able to find any clothes that were attractive. This is the talk of someone who won't do anything about it, has accepted it, and wants everyone else to do the same.

Myra: I'm proud of you. I have always been an exercise fanatic, but as I got older, my metabolism did change. I became a vegetarian (actually a pescatarian) and it did help me maintain control. However, it takes a lifestyle, not a diet. Keep going.

I read this post last week and it has been at the back of my mind all week.

I don't know any fat acceptance bloggers, I just read the examples that were given. I think that the fat acceptance bloggers have been hurt, verbally or otherwise, for their weight in the past. This makes them defensive of it. I think somewhere along they way someone (maybe themselves) made their weight equivalent to their worth as a human being. Their blog may be saying "I am 300 pounds and proud of it" but perhaps they are saying "I am 300 pounds and not a bad person because I weigh that much".

I was near 300 pounds at my heaviest and I would have rare moments of disliking my body, but I always loved myself. I knew I was a person of worth and that my friends loved me no matter what size. I may not have liked my body the way it was, but at least I can recognize that losing weight would not effect(affect? oh grammar) my self-worth. I am still the same person, just 50 pounds lighter and I can do all of these things that I could not do 50 pounds ago. I will not starve myself or workout to the extreme, but I will give my body what it needs to improve.

I hope that makes sense. Basically, I think the fat acceptance bloggers are lashing out at those who think a size 0 should be the norm and that they should take any and all steps to get to that size.

Thanks for replying. You may very well be right about people being hurt and taking a stand about their worth. I can remember countless hurts and it affected me negatively. BTW, the way to tell whether the correct word is affect (verb) or effect (noun) is that the word "the" is usually followed by a noun and it ends in "e" so effect is the correct form for a noun. Affect is a verb. You have now had your grammar lesson for the day :-) I am glad to read that you have a sense of worth and know you deserve to be healthy. Let's not accept being fat. I'm tired of it, how about you? I had heard "changing your lifestyle" so many times and it has finally sunk in. I have changed. I drink the water because I want to and it's good for me not because I want to lose weight. I exercise because I want to be healthy and be able to do things not because I want to lose weight. I stopped eating sugar because it is a white killer not because I want to lose weight. Losing weight is a by-product of a healthier lifestyle. Be careful out there today.