Preparing a FUNERAL. Church of Saint Boniface Cold Spring, Minnesota

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1 Preparing a FUNERAL Church of Saint Boniface Cold Spring, Minnesota

2 A Note from the Pastor Dear Friends, Death is never easy, whether expected or unexpected. The funeral liturgy, the Rite of Christian Burial, is the Church s expression of our faith and hope rooted in the death and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, and it helps us to honor the life of one whom we loved. In it we acknowledge the reality of death in our world and in our lives, we remember the ways in which God has blessed us through the life of the deceased person, and we commend our loved one to the mercy and compassion of God. This booklet is intended to help you with the planning process of a funeral in our parish. We hope that it helps you in this significant time to express your love, your faith and your hope. We want to walk with you through this time of darkness into the light and hope offered by Jesus Christ. We also invite you to stay in contact with the parish following the funeral. The parish has a number of ministries to help you through the process of grief. Please contact us to get more information about these ministries. Peace, Father Matthew Luft, OSB Pastor In Christ the hope of blessed resurrection has dawned, that those saddened by the certainty of dying might be consoled by the promise of immortality to come. Indeed, for your faithful, Lord, life is changed not ended, and, when this earthly dwelling turns to dust, an eternal dwelling is made ready for them in heaven. (from the Roman Missal prayers for a funeral) Readings For the funeral mass, three readings are proclaimed: an Old Testament Reading a New Testament Reading a Gospel Reading. Additionally, some scripture readings are proclaimed at the Vigil service (Parish Prayers). These would usually consist of either an Old or New Testament reading and a Gospel. The priest or deacon will proclaim the Gospel reading, but a family member or friend of the family should proclaim the other readings at the Funeral Mass. If none are available, the parish will provide a reader. A different person may proclaim each reading, or one person may read all readings. Reading options can be found in the supplemental book: Readings and Music for Funerals. A sheet that will be completed by the family is also included in the front of the book. Offertory Procession Gifts of bread and wine (paten of hosts and cruet of wine) are brought forward at the Offertory of the Funeral Mass. At least two people are needed, but more could accompany them in the procession.

3 Prayers of the Faithful (Petitions) Pall The petitions are presented at mass following the homily. Typical petitions for the funeral mass are available in the supplemental book, Readings and Music for Funerals. They can be tailored to include the names of family members who have died, as well as other special intentions. Normally, a family member or friend reads the petitions. The funeral pall is draped over the casket in the entryway before the funeral mass begins. The large white pall is a reminder of the dignity of Baptism, where the white garment was worn. We encourage the family to draw the pall open over the casket. In the case of cremation before the funeral liturgy, a pall is not placed over the cremated remains. The Role of Music Pallbearers Music is a strong part of the funeral liturgy. It allows the community to express beliefs and feelings that words alone fail to express. It has the power to console, and uplift mourners. The texts of the songs chosen should express the paschal mystery of the Lord's suffering, death and triumph over death." (Order of Christian Funerals, no. 30). In this respect, the music is intimately connected to the readings and focused on the Resurrection. It should also be familiar to family and friends. Since music can evoke strong feeling, music should he chosen with great care. Music should support, console, and uplift the community and create in them a spirit of hope in Christ s victory over death. Pallbearers are needed to accompany the body of the deceased both physically and spiritually. Families are free to select at least six people, male or female, who are physically able to lift and carry the coffin. Songs listed in the supplemental book, Readings and Music for Funerals, can be found in the Gather Comprehensive hymnals. The Saint Boniface Resurrection Choir is ready and able to provide the music for the Funeral Mass. This Choir consists of Saint Boniface parishioners who volunteer to provide this music ministry. In the case of a Funeral Mass with cremated remains, families may choose Honorary Pallbearers who spiritually accompany the cremated remains of the body of a loved one. Priest, Deacon, Musicians and Servers The pastor normally presides at the funeral mass. A deacon normally presides at the Vigil (Wake). Ministers of Music from the parish are provided, as well as servers for the Mass.

4 Tributes and Eulogies The most appropriate time for tributes and eulogies is at the Vigil (Wake) service. A time is provided in that service for family members and loved ones to share brief stories. The reception (lunch) following the funeral Mass provides a good opportunity for informal sharing. A display of pictures (including computer/electronically produced) could be displayed. Families who wish to offer a tribute during the Funeral Liturgy may do so at the beginning of the Mass. Only one eulogy is permitted, and it must be typed out on the front of one single sheet of paper. The homily at the funeral Mass is the priest s time to speak of God s Word and of practicing it in our lives. Flowers Flowers used at the funeral home for the Vigil service may be brought to the church. They are most appropriate in the main entryway along with the guest book and, possibly, some photos. The environment of the sanctuary is set for the liturgical season. The altar, ambo, priest s chair, and the congregation are the primary symbols of the liturgy. For the funeral, the casket with the draped pall is placed before the Easter Candle at the head of the center aisle. The symbols of liturgy speak loudly and boldly when additional items do not detract. The space should be simple and dignified rather than crowded, cluttered, or busy. Flowers and photos in the entryway may also be taken to the Parish Center during the lunch. Lunch The parish hosts a lunch for the family and guests in the Parish Center either immediately following the funeral Mass (if the burial is to take place later or the body will be cremated and interred at a later time) or following the burial. The Christian Women of the parish volunteer to serve this lunch and clean up afterwards. The family will be charged only for the cost of food all other aspects of the funeral lunch are provided. Families are free to bring in an outside caterer if they so wish. The Christian Women will still provide volunteers to staff the kitchen and clean up. Fees and Stipends Burying the dead is one of the Corporal Works of Mercy. As such, the Church of Saint Boniface does not charge families for the use of facilities or the like. The only fees, stipends or other costs are the following: Food for Funeral Lunch cost from Teal s and the Cold Spring Bakery Accompanist $70 Solo Cantor $70 Families who wish to make donations to the parish or to the celebrant are free to do so.

5 Mass Offerings The Diocese of Saint Cloud requests that Funeral Homes collect all requests for Masses to be said for the deceased to be given to the Parish to insure that the Masses are said in a timely manner. (Canon Law dictates that the Masses must be said within one year of the offering.) The Parish Administrative Assistant will take the Mass envelopes during the Funeral Mass to remove the offerings and record the number of Masses requested, returning the envelopes to the family so that they might write thank you notes. The parish will make sure three Masses are offered in the coming year for the deceased person, and then will send the other Mass intentions to other priests to be said within the year. Families who would like to request Masses said at the parishes of family members should inform the Parish Administrative Assistant of this desire. Vigil (Wake) Service Years ago an official Catholic Vigil service did not exist. Family and friends would gather and pray the rosary together. Now, the church has an official service, which includes prayers, scripture readings, and homily. The service then provides some flexibility in content. Family and friends may share some stories, letters, tributes, songs, poems, and other memories of their loved one. If praying the rosary was an important part of the deceased s life or of the family, a decade of the rosary would be appropriate at this time. Our parish deacon normally presides at the Vigil. He is most willing to discuss options with the family and arrange a plan for the Vigil service.

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