posted 01-28-200605:23 PM
My friend is anorexic and I have been noticing she is falling back into old habits. I want her to stop because I know she is at a dangerous weight. But am afraid because last time I hinted something was wrong she ignored me, never was honest to me about everything, and barly talked to me. She was later hospitalised. I don't want to lose her as a friend, expecially if I don't help at all. What should I do?
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posted 01-28-200605:52 PM
If she's been to the hospital before, then there are other adults around you who know and are also concerned for her health. Say something to one of them. If she's relapsing into this behavior, she still needs help.
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posted 01-29-200607:33 PM
i'll second what DarkChild said, but let me add: I know you're concerned about upsetting her, but think about it this way: it's a lot better to let her get pissed off at you if it means she gets the help and the treatment she needs than to let her sicken and possibly die if while you stay silent. True friends don't stand idly and let their friends get hurt.

posted 01-30-200609:19 PM
You take her aside and try to talk to her in private. Tell her you're worried about her. Tell her you mean well, but you're afraid she'll hurt herself. Then if she admit there's something wrong, stay with her and try to hatch a plan together.

And whether or not she shuns you, you need to tell an adult. Her parents. Her teachers. Somebody who can intervene.

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