Grief & Loss

Scared of a natural miscarriage

celestesbaby wrote:

I'm now joining you from the October boards. This is my 4th loss, even after we saw the heartbeat the baby stopped growing. I've already had 2 D&C's and my Dr. doesn't want to do another one because of the future problems it may cause. So I have decided to bear it naturally but I am scared. When will my body start the process? What if I'm at work? What if the cramps are terribly bad? For how long will I bleed for? This all really worries me.

I am still shocked that this baby did not make it. I think we are going to wait awhile before trying again and we are going to see a RE. I just would like some answers as to why this keeps happening to me.

Any advice would be appreciated.I guess I have to change my signature now, *sigh*

Words cannot explain how deeply sorry I am for your losses. I went through a natrual m/c 6/08. My m/c started a week after I found out I was pregnant. The pain was horrible the first few days. I passed alot of tissue. I bleed from 6/7/08-6/27/08. If you can maybe you can explain to your employer what's going on and what's to come so that if you need time off they'll understand. The cramping is bad and the bleeding is bad for some women. Mine was, but some of the other women's wasn't. Try not to worry hun. If the pain becomes too much ask your phyican if there's something he can prescribe for you. I'm sorry that this keeps happening to you, but I've known alot of women who've had alot of success seeing an RE. I hope that you and your dh get the answers that you need. I'll be praying for you hun. If you ever wanna talk I am here for you. ***BIG HUGS & COMFORT***

I'm so sorry for you guys, its just not fair is it. I'm 7 weeks and just started bleeding today, hoping and praying I will not start my second m/c but trying to accept that's what will most likely happen.

I had an m/c at 11 weeks in 07. Had first Dr. apt at 8 weeks, confirmed prego and u/s at 10wks had no heartbeat. Once week later I miscarried. I did it as home and it was very tough but do-able. I actually took a warm bath because I was very crampy and uncomfortable (dr said baths ok) and it really helped. It was not a pretty site as I actually contracted and delivered so it was very emotional. It was done after about 45 minutes--it was an extreme about of blood and tissue--I don't know how it would have been possible to just pass it in a pad, sorry for TMI. Although it sounds horrible, I'm glad I did it that way, since I didn't get to have my baby, I at least wanted to go through that pain. I know it sounds bit crazy.

You can do it, just make sure to get all the info from your doctor and if it lasts too long go to the er. Good luck, you are in my prayers.

Awe honey!!! I'm sooo sorry you're going thru this. I had my first pg/m/c and it was natural...

When will my body start the process? Mine started RIGHT AWAY. @ 230 i started cramping thinking it was gas or i needed to take a massive BM...then about an hour later I felt myself start to bleed... I knew something was up. I was done passing everything in a few hours...just bled after that. I was expecting to pass everyhting over days... guess i got lucky :o/

What if I'm at work? I was @ work when it started...I thought it was just part of being pg, since i have never been around someone pg constantly before. If you can, take off... I left work the next day b/c i was vomiting constantly--i was told to wait to have my hCG retested...so that was the scared to DEATH day...I assume it was my hormones going crazy. We dont have sick days so i have to use vacation...i only took that rest of the day off...wish i cld have taken the rest of the week off. EVERYONE seemed to be asking about the baby that week too... GAH!!!!

What if the cramps are terribly bad? Can't help you there.. I was just in pain that first day with cramps...and byt the time i got to the ER, it was all said and done. My stomach was pretty sore for a week though from the cramps... 4 wheeler riding 4 days after my m/c didnt help--and no i dindt care that it wasnt safe. i think i wanted to hurt myself. Heating pads help me when i cramp during AF...altho theyre barely there (i barely cramp and when I do i cant take it, low tolerance for pain). I didnt get a chance to use a heating pad though...

For how long will I bleed for? i bled for a week. I wasnt preg long though...5w3d... After the 3rd day it was super light.

it all depends on your body like they always say. I WISH i cld give you a good answer...all i can tell you is what happened to me. If you need to talk or rant or vent...we're here.

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celestesbaby

@celestesbaby Thank you everyone, it still hasn't started yet. But I've been cramping off and on for the past few days so I expect it this week. I'm definitely going to take the time off from work, it will be to emotional for me to be there. and too hard for me to run back and forth to the bathroom every 15 minutes.My third pregnancy was chemical and that passed naturally, I had cramps and heavy bleeding, it was like a heavy period just worse. But my first pregnancy was molar and I had such a bad experience with that one. I bled heavy and passed huge clots for 2 weeks before my Doctor did the D&C and even after that I had bleeding for over a week. It was horrible.My cousin told me that she took some pills to induce her miscarriage, has anyone else heard of this? I called my Doctor to ask but they didn't call me back.

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mimibrooklyn

@celestesbaby i just m/c at 10 weeks last night. i left work early because i new something wasn't right. i'd been spotting for over a week and my dr told me that i would miscarry. my sister gave me great advice. she said to be prepared with pads and aleve. i was terribly scared waiting for it and completely understand. my cramps were so bad that they made me cry but the worst of it only lasted for a couple of hours. i landed up passing some big clots but could feel them so i went to the bathroom. you will absolutely want to be home and if you start to feel strange and have uncomfortable cramping i'd suggest putting on a pad and going home. i'm so sorry that you are going through this too. it was a rough night with lots of sobbing. today i woke sad but relieved that the stressful wait was over. and if you have someone to call to be with you it might help. i wish you all the best. be strong you will get through it.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Please know that just as no two pregnancies are alike, nor are two miscarriages alike.

Last week I had my 1st miscarriage. I too was terrified of a natural miscarriage and requested a D&C as soon as I realized I was losing the pregnancy. I am a labour and delivery nurse and did not want to have to suffer an impending miscarriage, not knowing when it would happen, while I was at work helping another women labour and deliver her healthy baby.

Two days before I started bleeding I had been told that an ultrasound had shown no fetal pole, no heartbeat - just an empty sac at 7 weeks. I was also told my hcg had stopped doubling. So when the spotting started I knew it was all over. I called my work and spoke to the OB on call and told her what was happening and that I wanted a D&C as soon as possible. She told me come in right away. However, after discussing the risks of the D&C, I decided to try the natural way 1st. I know the risk of scarring is rare, but I knew that if I had difficulty trying to conceive later, I would never forgive myself for not at least trying the natural method first. So to protect my future self/ego, and despite my fear of a natural miscarriage, I agreed to have a medication called misoprostol inserted into my vagina as close to the cervix as possible to expedite the miscarriage process. This medication dilates the cervix and promotes uterine contractions. I was given a prescription for naproxen and oxycodone for pain relief and it was helpful although the cramps were not much more than that of amplified menstrual cramps. I passed clots and tissue for about 2 days and continued to bleed a moderate flow for about 5 more days. It's been 9 days since I took the misoprostol and the physical pain of the miscarriage has long since ended. The emotional pain however strongly lingers.

I think what I learned from this experience is that all miscarriage experiences will be different. Despite the horror stories I've heard previously, I was blessed with an experience that has wounded me deeply, changed me in many ways, but I can honestly say not scarred me for life. I hope that your experience is one that you can look back on with sadness but also feel good about the decisions you made and know that you did what was best for you and your loved ones at the time.

My thoughts are with you Celeste.

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Cindy728

@tmcheval Thanks so much for posting this. I went to the dtr. yesterday after a few days of bleeding and spotting, and there was only a sac. I have to go back tomorrow and they will decide what we will do next. I am scared of the D & C, and hope to do this naturally. Reading messages from everyone on these message boards makes me feel a little better.

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Livviecat

@celestesbaby I'm so sorry hun. I was on October too. I'm not anymore. It gets harder with each loss, and I'm on number 3. I am at a loss for encouragement, but I have had 2 natural m/c before, and will probably with this one. It's hard because I haven't started bleeding yet either, and I'm wondering when it will start. If it has to happen, I want it over and done with. Just keep some heavy duty pads on hand, and wear liners. Once you feel it starting, you'll have to bear through it. I was at work one day for the worst part of it, and another day I was at home. I took hot baths to help get through it. Good Luck to you, and I hope you get a sticky healthy pregnancy soon!

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celestesbaby

Well I believe the worst is over. It started late Tuesday but it was just kinda period like, onto Wednesday and then yesterday it was heavy bleeding and passed clots throughout the night and this morning and now it has let up to period like again. So relieved, it wasn't as bad as I was letting myself think it was going to be. I didn't miss any work, I just took ALOT of bathroom breaks and stocked up on pads. Now I just want my cycles to get back to normal, whatever that may be for me.Thanks everyone for all your advice and stories. It really helped me get through this.

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