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Lori Palatnik is a writer and Jewish educator who has appeared on television and radio. She is the Founding Director of The Jewish Women's Renaissance Project, an international initiative that brings thousands of women to Israel each year from 18 different countries on highly subsidized programs to inspire them with the beauty and wisdom of their heritage (www.jwrp.org). She is a much sought-after international speaker, having lectured in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, U.K., Central America, South America, South Africa and Israel, including featured talks at Yale, Brown and Penn. She lives in the Washington, D.C. area with her husband, Rabbi Yaakov Palatnik, and is the busy mother of five children, ages 25 to 15.

Visitor Comments: 228

Please do , Lori!
You will feel more proud than words can describe!
I have been your devoted reader of your books, student, and fan since you spoke in Jacksonville Fl, April 2005.

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,
June 29, 2010 5:25 PM

YES, YOU SHOULD BECOME AN AMERICAN

Dear Mrs. Palatnik: First of all my most strongest congratulations for all your one better than the other videos. I believe you should become an american for the following reasons: you mentioned to be greatful to live in a country who is a friend of Israel, eventhough your children were born in Canada they for sure received their education in America, also I believe that since you can maintain a dual citicenship you have nothing to loose, and finally because in life, as you took the choise to become a bal-teshuva (instead of staying only a jewish person) one should take a definite position in the sake of respect to the country in which you happily and greatfully live in.

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Anonymous,
January 7, 2009 4:11 PM

The question is does it bother your family more then it bothers you? What are the pros besides politcs? I do appreciate your honesty.

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Karen,
September 10, 2008 3:54 PM

Not becoming a citizen is limiting you.

Become an American citizen. It will give you the right to vote. Your comments seem to suggest that the most powerful reason you have for not becoming a citizen is to not create conflict in political discussions with friends. Once you become a citizen, let everyone know who inquires about your politics that you want to tread lightly on the subject since it is the reason you almost didn't become a citizen. Ask friends for their understanding and patience. Good Luck.

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jim d,
July 21, 2008 4:49 PM

Just do it!!!

Judging by your thought provoking material on this website, I think the USA needs more people like you. gl

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tamar,
July 4, 2008 7:22 PM

Do it!

Mrs. Palatnik, i think its very important to become an american because then you have the right to vote- and the vote of even one person can have an effect. become an american so you can vote for people who show more favor to Israel! vote for a politician that you know will take actions to protect israel and fight the arab threat! if you have the power to influence who will become president, you should use it because there's no such thing as being nuetral- if you dont vote for one candidate, its as if you're validating another

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Charles B.,
April 16, 2008 10:41 PM

Be a role model to your children.

Being an American citizen would ensure you a right that many people around the world do not have. That is the right to vote. Help make sure that America stays pro Israel by voting for politicians that support pro-Israel policies. You can't do that if you are not a citizen.

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Esteban Alvarez,
April 9, 2008 12:43 AM

no!

I think you should not be an american. Why?Canada is considered one of the most educated countries in the world. They have an excelent relationship with Israel, and, if you keep your citizenship, people from other parts of the world will not associate you with the stereotype of "arrogance" and "ignorance" that shadows the USA today.

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Anonymous,
April 6, 2008 5:10 PM

Be private about it

Thank you for your weekly divrey Torah. I love your videos.If you want to become American, do it and don't worry about the rest of the world. Just don't tell anyone what you are or who you want to vote for. People don't have to know everything about you. Keep it to yourself. Thank you for spreading Torah to all of us.

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Melissa (from Texas),
March 18, 2008 8:05 PM

America needs more citizens like you!

America would be honored to have you as a citizen. And maybe you could do as one of my best friends does when it comes to politics. When my friend is asked which party she belongs to, she answers that she is an Independent and that she votes for issues not parties.

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Erica,
March 15, 2008 8:03 PM

Become an American citizen?

Laurie,I think that you should really think about the pros and cons. Ask your self why? Why do you want to be am american citizen, and what are you gain? What door can open for you? Like you said you don't have to give up your canadian citizenship. I personally dont think you own it to anyone to become an american citizen. But if you are in to politics, way the matter carefully. Your voice will still be herd for the Jewish people american citizen or not. When I am going to do something big, first I ask G-d , and when I wait and when it's been a few months and my mind had not changed than I do it. I love being an american, and I love politics. What is G-d telling you?Erica

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Sarah,
March 9, 2008 10:58 AM

Yeah!

Dear Lori,First of all I love all your movies and second of all come on be a citizen and vote Because"Every vote counts!"

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Michelle,
March 6, 2008 6:54 PM

Go for it!

It would be a great honor to have you as an official US Citizen.

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mike,
March 4, 2008 7:42 PM

American citizen dispute

Dear Laurie,This is one time where you are really wrong! If you live and enjoy being in America, you have a responsibility to become a citizen. You cannot sit back and not have political opinions. You can, of course, keep them to yourself if you want, but you are a doer, not a sit-back-and-watch-it-happen person. You owe it to the rest of the American citizens to be part of what makes this country one that you enjoy and like living in. You make a difference and your views count. So does your vote! You absolutely must become a citizen for your family's sake if nothing else. You stand up for Jewish rights. Now stand up for American rights.Mike

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Marvin Rosner,
March 4, 2008 3:09 PM

Yes become a proud USA citizen. You are already an American.

If you choose to live in the USA and receive all the benefits of bing a citizen, I think you are obliged to become a proud citizen of the USA.

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Elonna,
March 3, 2008 2:24 PM

Go American!

Isn't the saying, "Don't talk to STRANGERS about politics or religion" (especially at the dinner table)?! You should be able to talk to your FRIENDS about those things! If people can't handle your politics, too bad for them. What kind of friend is that? I have friends from different religions and political parties! It doesn't kill us!

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Anonymous,
March 3, 2008 9:59 AM

I am a Canadian now with dual citizenship living in Florida. I used to think living in the US would be great. Now that I see it from the inside out I think the nicenst thing about living in the US is the weather.

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Ray,
March 3, 2008 6:03 AM

Third Option

Since I have 77 years, I feel eminently qualified to suggest a third option. Marry me and become a Jamaican.

P.S. I would not ask you to convert.

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Richard Busch,
March 2, 2008 10:49 PM

Brief answer

Lori, get your USA citizenship with great pride and register as an independent. You are a Jew of this world and the world to come. The rest is commentary.Richard Busch, Pittsburgh

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aliza,
March 2, 2008 7:22 PM

went the opposite direction

I'm an American who married a Canadian and am now living in Canada, contemplating Canadian citizenship ;)

Here's my take: if you want to have a "say" in your community by voting, get citizenship. If you want to have a "say" in how your taxes are spent, get citizenship. If you are afraid of losing your perceived neutrality in front of your students or guests, just use a variation of the Canadian excuse: because you're Canadian and didn't grow up with American politics, you are taking your time deciding where you stand and aren't joining any party until - if ever - you've completed your research.

Whatever you decide, good luck!

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Tim,
March 2, 2008 4:09 PM

America's best friend

I believe we all need to be equally yoked, and so our party affiliation then becomes as important as religion. I agree with your husband and children

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Natanya,
March 2, 2008 3:26 PM

If you have to ask, you should not become a citizen. I am really suprised and disappointed that you would initiate a discussion about this topic. It is really of no concern to anyone whether you want or don't want to become an American citizen. There are so many people who would be proud to call America their home,just as my parents and grandparents did so long ago. It would be a shame if you took a slot away from someone who really wants to be here or needs to be here to make a better life for themselves and for their family.Don't do us any favors by becoming a citizen. We should focus more on what unites us as Jews, than on your citizenship issues.

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Ellen,
March 2, 2008 12:44 PM

Yes you should

I feel if you live here & enjoy the benefits of our country, your children are American - YEs, Yes, Yes.My son (the american) is married to a Canadian (Toronto) and though she has a green card & works here, I feel she should be a dual citizen also.

PS I just love to listen to you . . .

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Anonymous,
March 2, 2008 10:06 AM

response to politics, shmolitics

Hi Lori, Last Pesach we were at the Ritz in Puerto Rico, and I had the pleasure of hearing you speak. I wanted to get a chance to speak with you, but it was crowded and the opportunity never arose. But, after we got home I discovered your weekly Live with Lori segments and they have been a wonderful contribution to my search to regain a spiritual or religious footing in my life. Today, I was surprised by your solicitation of people's opinions about your becoming a U.S. citizen. Somehow, I think the answer will come to you. Yes, maybe something someone will say will sway you in one direction or another, but answers seem to come to you in much more interesting ways. The recent segment of the "Burning Bush" comes to mind! Good luck, I will look forward to hearing about how you make your decision. Be well.

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Sandra,
March 2, 2008 6:39 AM

I have a different suggestion for you, Lori.

I am both an American and an Israeli. I have family who live in Canada and I have visited with them many tmes. I understand your dilemma. My suggestion to you is to plan Aliyah and then, become an Israeli citizen. I see no advantage to you as an American citizen, except the privilege to vote in the forthcoming Presidential Elections. Whatever you do, you know that it is all in Hashem's hands. His will, not ours be done. All the best to you!

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Karen,
March 1, 2008 9:26 PM

...and when they came for me...

Not becoming an American because you don't want to have to proclaim your political party affiliation? First, you can register as unaffiliated (as I and many, many Americans do). Second, just because you are not a citizen doesn't mean you do not have an opinion, and just because I am an American citizen doesn't mean I'm required to share mine. Finally, and most importantly to me personally, is that you are the mother of American children. Don't you want a say in what happens to your children's country? You don't even have to give up the citizenship of your own country.

Everything I feel about my country, I feel four times stronger (one time for each child) than I did before I had children. My children's future depends upon what happens here. Not to vote in every election is tantamount to me to not feeding my children. I consider it my duty as a mother.

Just my opinion.

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David Tzvi Hersh,
March 1, 2008 9:02 PM

Cop out

Since when does being a Canadian mean you can have no opinion about American politics? Since when does being an American require you to participate in political discussion?

I believe that you are using this tiny conflict as an excuse and you really have a much deeper issue about becoming an American Citizen. Look at it this way, what would you say to me if I was reluctant to become an Israeli citizen, just because I was afraid of getting involved in a discussion about Israeli politics, after living in Israel for many years? You would probably give me a long list of advantages of being a full participant in Israeli society, along with all the atributes and benefits of being a voting citizen. None of which include being required to discuss Israeli politics at Shabbat dinner.

Better examine your real issues and motives. For now, you should not be a citizen. Not until you really know what's inside your head.

Good Luck Lori,

David

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Anonymous,
March 1, 2008 9:00 PM

stay a mystery!

hi lori- been a long time since the karans have been in touch! my wife saraalso refuses to take on american citizenship- and i would stay neutralon politics and leave them guessing.i have strong feelings as you knowon just about everything but in kiruv-generally, it is wise to keep it close to the chest, especially re: partyaffiliation, there are enough challenges in our generation breaking through all the klipot of materialism,ignorance, misconceptions and resistance to the discipline of learning and the performance of mitzvoth.- all the best to you and yourgreat family!

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C.Sam,
March 1, 2008 8:15 PM

Me too

I too felt the same way, born in Jamaica, live in America for 21 years before becoming. so goahead Become an American.

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Yecheskel,
March 1, 2008 7:50 PM

Lori - Become an american

Dear Rebbitzen,

You have done a gret service to the Jewish people over the years. We want you as an American as weel. America has done much for the Jews, join us. You don't have to be overly political.

All the Best,

YM

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Judah Rosen,
March 1, 2008 7:20 PM

What a typical Canadian dilemna

that's all I have to say

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moshe palatnik,
March 1, 2008 6:23 PM

Dear Ima,I have told you for years and years that who cares about becoming an american. whats the benefit??? YOU GET TO VOTE!!!!! WOOPDIDOO!!! WHO CARES, it doesnt make you a better person. and you dont have to get involved in politics talk. if someone says "who are you voting for" you can say I am Canadian!!!! GO CANADA!!!!

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al resnick,
March 1, 2008 2:26 PM

If you moved out of Washington, politics is not usually a topic for discussion, nor important for a relationship. Become a citizen and keep your political views private. NY Mayor Blumberg of NYC has officially left both parties and has become neutral.

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DAVID FRANKEL,
March 1, 2008 10:44 AM

NO STAY AS YOU ARE

BEING A CETEZEN ITS ONLY A PIECE APAPER THERE IS MILLIONS OF USA CITIZENS WHO HATE USA ITS NOT WHAT YOU PROCLAIM ITS WHATE YOU DO

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Alex,
March 1, 2008 9:35 AM

Shalom Lorry,

I understand your dilemma. Many people in you situation will feel the same, Included myself.

I had problems of identity as I was born in DR Congo, not from a Jewish family and now I'm livivng in the UK.

The person I thought was my father was not, and I realised that only 16 years ago when I was 16 years old.

All these mix-up confused me and my identity. I started to feel ok only when I started to learn the Torah on the net. I don't know what attracted me in Judaism, I can not explain it. But I'm going to tell you what I learnt form you personally,with G-O and Torah messages that you send.

I would like you not only to think about the answer but feel it too. Feel why you have been passing to people the message of G-D and Torah. Feel why you should share the same identity with your love one's, then you will have the right answer for the dilemma.

You will became American citizen as you and your love one's want it,or you will be " politically correct" by avoiding to become American citizen and be neuter to prevent any political polarisation, that will protect your message of G-D and Torah.

I learnt from you that I should have G-O in all my decisions, that helped me to resolve my problems of identity.

The right answer is the one that has a place for G-D.

Bless be His Name.

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Anonymous,
February 29, 2008 9:34 PM

Become an American

Those are the three words I have for you, nothing else.

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Paul Elder,
February 29, 2008 4:56 PM

Up to you.

Shalom! Lori,The decision to become an American seemed to lack any Canadian input. Do you feel patriotism for Canucks? Go with that. If not, I disagree with X who said it is coming between you & your family. I feel love when I watch your wisdom videos from Aish. You seem to be close to Hashem. Bless you, Lori.

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theo koopmanschap,
February 29, 2008 3:23 PM

be yourself

yust be an american, you strong enough to still be yourself

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gwendoline lamb,
February 29, 2008 1:19 PM

What I think!

Lori....Yes, become n American to regularise the whole mishpochoh! If you are grateful for Anerica`s support of Israel, then become an American and have dual nationality! Why Not! Shabbat Shalom gwendoline

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Dr Jack Shiffman,
February 29, 2008 12:21 PM

Canadian is not a dirty word.

I am a Canadian snow bird and have been for the last twelve years. US politics is certainly much more complicated than ours at home and is taken much more seriously. In a way that is good thing but taken to the extreme it can be dangerous. The Canadian sytstem is definitely simpler but also in certain cases leaves a lot to be desired. With regards to American Jews my observations lead me to think that Jews here want to be accepted as Americans only and hide their Jewishness, even to the extent of taking the side of the antizionizts. Keep your Canadian citizenship your Jewishness and be proud of it.

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Ilene Benzman,
February 29, 2008 10:51 AM

American Citizenship

Go for it! As long as you have your dual citizenship, what's the problem? You can be a PROUD American and a PROUD Canadian. There is no law that says you must reveal to others which party you feel represents your viewpoints, nor do you have to share the "why" of your selection in the voting booth. It is no one's business. Nothing has to change except your response. Instead of saying, "I am Canadian and can't vote," all you have to say is "I wish to keep this part of my life private." It seems simple to me! Shame on people, anyway, for asking such a private question. Good luck with your decision. I know you will make the right choice . . . for you!

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Rheachel Smith,
February 29, 2008 10:24 AM

Be an American!

Dear Lori, My family contains some hardline conservatives,liberal Democrats even Independants. I am an Independant conservative with a bit of a bleeding heart. I drive my husband nuts but he keeps on loving me. As an American I have always respected everyones right to thier own opinion.Washinton DC is a different animal. Be an American I would be honored. Rheachel Smith

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Matityahu,
February 29, 2008 10:22 AM

Do what your heart calls

Not everyone who is American takes on that politics are of most greatly important. I couldn't care less what party I am in (and I have none) nor do I care what party someone else is. Yet I was born American. I think that if it a big deal to your family, you should become American and keep your politics personal and to yourself and know in your heart what is you. It's all legality anyway and serves only Man in this world. If it truely makes no difference to your family (and you can ask them with all seriousness) then perhaps you shouldn't unless it makes it easier for you living here. Ask yourself what the benefits are for becoming an American vs. what they are for not. Ask yourself what the benefits are about being dual and what they are for not.

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Annette,
February 29, 2008 9:57 AM

Is the Lord Your Shepperd?

Talk to G-d!what would Rabbi Weinberg tell you? will you be making aliyah or will you remain in North America the rest of your life?if you'll make aliyah... why would you care about US citizenship?? especially since you don't have to give up your Canadian citizenship! Being Canadian is Great and nothing to snub, however being a Jew First and Foremost is THE bestWe have both Canadians and Americans in our family, it does not pose any barriers; we have both Jews and non Jews in our family: THAT poses barriers! Talk to HaShem, talk to your Rabbi, listen to those who are wiser than us.I can't imangine taking on 'this one' or that one's' citizenship should be an issue.

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Yisraela "Izzy",
February 29, 2008 8:55 AM

Trust G-d is leading you

I trust so much that G-d is leading you with this...it reminds me of Elijah and some of the strange things G-d asked him to do in order to be a symbol. Being different causes people to stop and think. Sometimes the Spirit of G-d leads a person to step out of the boxes that humans have designed and say, "Hey, there is a higher way of doing things...we don't have to be so caught up in all these worldly things that we forget about the higher things of G-d." I appreciate you so much, Lori. I didn't have the gift of being raised Jewish and your teachings are a real comfort to me and take some of the pain away.

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Bonnie,
February 29, 2008 8:32 AM

Strong discussions are a sign of THINKING about issues but nevertheless do not necessitate your participation.

Dear Lori, I "discovered" you two years ago, and ever since, your thoughts and commentary have been a true inspiration to me in my daily life. Thank you!

I cannot advise you on becoming or not becoming a US citizen. That is something only you can decide after thinking and praying about it and perhaps, reading others' thoughts. However, it is difficult for me to realize that you, as such a thoughtful person, nevertheless, is so concerned and maybe somewhat fearful at the prospect of dealing with strong conversations on politics. As others have well said before me, that is not necessary if you don't want to participate. But you should realize also, that these strong discussions are evidence that individuals are THINKING about issues. I would much rather that they think about and discuss these important issues that have such great affect on their daily lives than not. My own family is quite ecumenical, both in the religious and political sense, and it does make for lively discssions around our table! More often than not, some of us have to just "agree to disagree" on some issues.

Once again, nothing says that you, as a citizen or as a non-citizen, must participate in such discussions. And, by the way, becoming a citizen does not in itself necessitate such discussions.

Lori, I wish you the best in making this personal decision!

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Anonymous,
February 29, 2008 7:14 AM

Yes, definitely become a citizen

Because you are living here, you have a responsibility to become a citizen and vote in elections. As an American you can express your feelings to our government about all aspects of our lives , including Israel and other Jewish topics. As far as your Shabbos table, you can tell others that you keep your politics private and you are open to all ideas no matter what party. I personally am an independent.

I love your blog.Thank you and have a great Shabbos.

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jeff roden,
February 29, 2008 4:32 AM

neither counry is a place for Jews

I think it is time to consider coming home to a Jews only real country. If a Jew does not vacate voluntarily the diaspora eventually the diaspora will vacate the Jew only it might not be pretty! So perform the most important mitzvah. Rejection of this mitzva as the sages said are equal to rejecting the whole Torah and is akin to idol worship!!Rambam, Rmban and even Rashi.

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Batya,
February 29, 2008 1:04 AM

I understand

Hello Lori,Although I am an American citizen (by birth), I think I have a pretty good understanding of your Washington, DC dilemna. When I was in DC, politics was very much in the forefront of everyone's thinking and speaking. Being from the midwest, I was not used to the rabid stance that people take on such matters in common, casual situations. So while there, I simply responded that "I prefer to keep my political views to myself". Your calling is obviously to bring Torah to all Jews. That is something which you are not leary about speaking, and I love that about you. This topic reminds me of something you once "almost live'd" about. Some things are nobody's business but your own. It is at a time like that in which you indicated that it was ok to "lie". In this case you wouldn't be lying. Just conveying that you are not comfortable voicing your political affiliation. There is nothing wrong with that. It seems to me that in Colorado you were excited about taking dual citizenship. The only thing that has changed is the city in which you live. I have to admit if I lived in DC I would most likely not favor discussing politics 24/7. As for Shabbos, there is nothing wrong with saying "check your politics at the door" because this is the time in which we speak of G-d and Torah and families and love. Ultimately you will decide what is right for you. But please don't let the political atmosphere in DC be the deciding factor. Aferall, you may not live there forever. Back in the "real world" people may have friends for years and never know their political affiliation. And we can all still be good friends. =)

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paula wagner,
February 29, 2008 12:24 AM

citizenship

Dear Lori,

Hashem understands you much better than anyone of us who could comment or advise. He knows the secrets of your heart and what disturbs you and what your greatest need is. If I were you, I think I would take a long walk in the sunshine and have a heart to heart with your "dad." Ask for help. Ask for guidence then "wait on the Lord." Your answer will come...you can trust that. I think our King David said it best..."the Lord is my shepherd..." not the government, not opinions, not politics, or even family as much as we love them and want to make them happy. Hashem made you the way you are and brings you to many places for many reasons that only he can understand. Relax about this Lori, and remember...God is in charge...Pray about it.

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Anonymous,
February 28, 2008 10:35 PM

Yes become a citizen

Become a citizen for your sake as well as your family. Not being a citizen puts a barrier between you and your family. Nothing says you must be drawn into political discussions...

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Hinda,
February 28, 2008 9:47 PM

Become an American

There is a definite chisaron in showing your children that you are not willing to take a stand on matters that concern this country. The very gift that America offered to the Jews was freedom of religion and freedom of expression. What better way of acknowledging the advantages that this country has given to you and your family then by becoming an American Citizen. But remember we are Jews first and Americans second. As far as your political affiliation is concerned, you don't have to belong to either party, and you could judge each election on its own merit. In our family we are both republicans and democrats, and it makes for a very lively Shabbos discussion indeed. Having an input into who will lead this country should concern every single Jew. Meet you at the voting booth.

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Rey,
February 28, 2008 9:04 PM

AmeriMexci

Dear Lori I love your on-line comment, I wonder when you are coming to Radio, So that I can hear the New American Citizen on the waves of America. Yes you should hold the dual Citizenship if you become an American, I did! Your Jewish Heritage is in your Heart, your body comes from Canada, but your life will continue in America. Baby with all do respect, arrived already. Just do it the Lori way, Join us in upgrading American way of life. Your comments have already changed life's. Love you Lori keep up the good work, Shalom. Rey.

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Paul Leddy,
February 28, 2008 8:28 PM

You have to want to become a citizen in order to become a citizen

Dear Lori,G_d bless you for you.Since you asked: as in my summary above, you have to want to be an American to be an American. If it isn't your heart's desire, then why become a citizen?America is home for me. When you ask what you should do, to me it means, you're asking: "where do I call home?" Is this question one of convenience or principal, or of emotion.And, what's the deal with dual citizenship? Are you hedging your bets? Do you weigh your options when things don't go well in the States? or in Canada? It may feel safe, dual citizenship; but if (G_d forbid) you have to make a choice, do you base it on convenience or principal?If you decide to make America your home, perhaps then, there's no doubt of what your answer will be, it will always be America.peace-PaulWashington, DC

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Anonymous,
February 28, 2008 6:34 PM

benefits outweigh risks

This is a wonderful country that needs wonderful, intelligent citizens voting. Please become a citizen and place your votes. You can still avoid talking politics. Plenty of people do! I think it would be a nice message to send to your family, that you are "officially" joining the community to which they belong. "Do not separate yourself from the community."You can do it, Lori!

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Deborah,
February 28, 2008 6:15 PM

Yes, become American

Lori - I love listening to your videos and hearing you in person. You are a marvelous and inspirational speaker. I hope I can articulate my feelings half as well.

I think you should become American. Follow your heart with this decision. Remember to differentiate between feeling nervous and listening to the quite voice of intuition.

America is a wonderful country, why? We are founded on the right to pursue. All those political discussions, as uncomfortable as they may be, are possible in America, without threat to your life and family! Also, in America we are afforded the opportunity to make more of ourselves and our lives. I am proud to be American, I am proud of the foresight our forefathers had in drawing up the Constitution. I feel blessed to live in this country. You have the right to decline to speak about politics; you do not have to share.

I live in the DC metro area and it does get very heated around here at election time! However, government is the business in DC and that's how it is.

One last note . . . my family is very colorful politically. We have Republicans, Democrats, Independents, Marines, police officers, Peace Activists and Switzerland (me):). We get along!

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Herb Friedberg,
February 28, 2008 5:41 PM

If u can become tri-citizens, Canada, Israel, Usa yes if not, become Can-Israeli. Thats what a Jew should do.

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sol margoli,
February 28, 2008 4:21 PM

Become an American citizen

Lori - Strictly to facilitate your coming and going. Will be much happier when you join us and become an Israeli citizen.

Rita & Sol

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Barry E Lerner,
February 28, 2008 4:09 PM

citizenship

We Americans deal with the politics question all the time. C'mon, join the fun; with your people skills you'll have no problem.

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Anonymous,
February 28, 2008 1:17 PM

Get your United States citizenship, without fail.

I love listening to you and have heard most if not all of your tapes. I wasparticularly impressed by your description of what happens to a Jewish person after they die.Since you can keep dual citizenship with Canads, there should be no hesitation on your part to get a U S citizenship.

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Martin,
February 28, 2008 12:51 PM

Go for it why not?

Im not an American & I dont even live in America but if I was in your shoes I think that an American citizenship would definitelly be a worthwile endeavour..I say go for it. Why not? If you just want a yes or no adice then mine is a yes..anything more and..well Im confused already! Good luck!

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BEV.,
February 28, 2008 12:46 PM

Become an American!!

your family is american, you live in america then i feel you should become an american. by not making a choice ,you have made a choice!! not to be a part of this GREAT country,shame on you.BR

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Lea,
February 28, 2008 12:04 PM

Passports are not our identities

Dear Lori,with pleasur I alloud myself to give you an (hopefully good)advice. I am European, and European Jews don't identify themselves with the citizeship from where they live, like the American Jews. We have passports because it helps us to vote, to fight against antisemits, to have certain rights. But we all know that we are strangers in strager lands, and our final destination is Israel. I honestly don't understand your big question. You will not become different than what you are with a canadian passport, you will be always you, Lori. Concerning other people asking what you vote, well, remember you spoke about privacy once? Use it! In Europe is very private to ask for whom you vote.And I think you have the right to keep it for yourself. Kol Tuv, Lea.

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Anonymous,
February 28, 2008 11:56 AM

Leaving your power behind shouldn't be an option

Just as you speak about the U.S. as a friend to Israel, remember that part of that reason stems from the strength we have as Jews in America. Politicians do care what we think and consider us when taking a stand. Sometimes WE need to take a stand as well. By remaining neutral, you lose your ability to vote and make a difference in the political landscape of our country which ultimately does impact Israel. I don't think you're really someone who is afraid to take a stand. So, get past it and do what you must - if for nothing else - than for Israel.

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Aviva,
February 28, 2008 11:54 AM

Become an American

Hi, Lori,I watch your video each week. I say go ahead and become an American. Otherwise, over time, you will be frustrated by the American political process and it will be too time-consuming later on to become a citizen in time to use your voice to do something about it. Spend the time now and become a citizen. Then you can choose whether or not to have an opinion and support a candidate. I am an American, born and bred, and I still prefer to avoid politics with people even though I have opinions and choose to vote. It's too fiery a topic to share with others outside your family anyway.Be well,Aviva

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Nancy,
February 28, 2008 11:34 AM

You Already Know!

Lori, no one can tell you what to do. The answer is within you. Listen to your heart. Becoming a citizen is a huge thing. If it is not right for you, you already know. You may feel differently at another time in your life, but if you need to ask others what to do, the time is not now.

I am in the public eye a lot, so this is what I do: I make my own decisions, and keep these out of my conversations.

I think that you have a right to do the same!

And, by all means, Yes! Please Do become an 'American!

Sincerely,

Felice

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Jill,
February 28, 2008 11:02 AM

solution: don't live in dc. move to brooklyn.

please don't confuse the issues. washington dc is not a real city. move to brooklyn. become american - don't become a citizen of dc.

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Vadim,
February 28, 2008 10:59 AM

The number of responses that this topic has received is quite surprising. The fact that Lori lived in the US so long without the US citizenship shows how insiginificant the issue is. It is Green Card that is important, not the citizenship

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Philip,
February 28, 2008 10:27 AM

LORI, DONT DO IT!!!!!!

Dear Lori,My wife is Canadian and she is here with a green card. We love Canada so much!. We are actually moving to Canada because it's definitely a better place to live than AMERICA.Remember, free healthcare plan, as soon as enter to Canada, people are friendlier than here, they never argue political view as much as Americans do, you can actually breath clean air in Canada.We love you so much. remember where you came from. Regards

Philip

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Ann,
February 28, 2008 7:03 AM

Citizen or not

If let me tell you that I look forward to your articles and I intend on purchasing your tapes.s far as citizenship, does it mattter. If its a concern, do it..Why should it even be a qustion of to be or not to be. If you intend to continue living here, you should be a citizen.As your family is.

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Linda Kopans,
February 28, 2008 6:10 AM

What a world! Be a tri-citizen! Do you agree with all Canadians on all subjects? Do you agree with all Israelis on all subjects? Don't Canadians and Israelis get hot under the collar about issues? This country is founded (partly) on each person's right to have and express any opinion. So the real issue is people's difficulty with disagreement. That is not something to base a citizenship decision on. Become a citizen if it means something to you. Otherwise, what does it matter? We are all citizens of G-d. Meditate on it. Pray on it. Then follow your neshamah.

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David Turner,
February 28, 2008 5:28 AM

dont become american

Your delemma is not wether you should have dual American Canadian citizenship it should be dual Canadian Israeli citizenship. If you love Israel as you say you do then the natural place for you to be is here in Israel.If you cannot for reasons of parnassa then wait....and when the time is right make the move...taking the identity of another country is another barrier to you and the promised land.An expat Canadian living in Isral

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Scott,
February 28, 2008 1:44 AM

Follow your gut!

I'm a flag waving Viet Nam Veteran, and even though I know about America's foibles I still an "America Love it Or Leave It" kind'a guy, if provoked, because I'm also from Brooklyn. Canada? personally I think Jackson should've kicked the French and English out after he was done with the Spaniards, but what the hell. As far as you dual citizen issue, the only two you should hold is Israel and America. Why? Their might be a lot of anti semites in America, but when that day, and you know what day I'm talking about, comes along, there is no place on gods earth that will be safe for Jews except where Jews have the money and power and it will be a hell of a lot easier to round up the Jews in Canada then in the land of the 2nd amendment. Nachas baby ;-)

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Dale Dunn,
February 27, 2008 11:11 PM

Becoming an American

Dear Lori: Yes, you should absolutely become a citizen, but only if you keep dual citizenship. First, do it for your family just because they want you to. You're giving them a gift & you're giving yourself a gift and you're not losing anything at all...which you will come to realize with time. While you are living here & enjoying all that thiscountry has to give, why not have the privilege of voting? Knowing that yourvote counts & is just as important as everyone's will give you such a sense of pride that you will be amazed. Also, itis another bond with your husband.Toronto will always be your heart is but after becoming a citizen & while you are living here, this will truly feel like home. Then, home will really be whereveryou are with your family. Remember, youhave nothing to lose and will be gainingso much! You'll see! Take my advice; Ialways take yours! Your friend, Dale

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Anonymous,
February 27, 2008 11:05 PM

Not Very Becoming

Regardless of what you decide, remember what, I believe Rav Yaakov Kaminetsky (once a Rav in Canada), said referring to Jewish immigrants from Russia. He said they are NOT Russian Jews, bur rather Jews from Russia.

The point being we do not -- or hopefully do not -- become Americans, or for that matter Canadians, Italian, German, or any other nationality. We are Jews who live in these countries. In the case of the USA we are very happy to live in this country. Perhaps gratitude suggests we become a citizen. But to become an American is not very becoming. Their cuture, musoc, mode of dress, use of language, etc. are all not very Jewish to say the least.

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Robert,
February 27, 2008 9:20 PM

Yes

You're welcome, Lori.

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Phil,
February 27, 2008 9:06 PM

Become one of the few truly North Americans - become a dual citizen

Don't let politics get in the way of becoming one of the few truly North Americans. Be proud of both your Canadian and US lives and share in the privileges of both. Become a citizen and vote however your thoughts move you. You can always register as an independent and keep out of some of the debates.

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ron,
February 27, 2008 7:45 PM

Becoming an American

Lori- What a choice, become an American so you can vote and have a say in the politics and governing of your adopted country or choose to live in America but not vote! It points out to me that Americans and Canadians are so close , so similar, (especially in my part of the country, western NY where we travel back and forth with ease)that it is almost arbitrary where we were born. It won't change who you are as you will still be Lori and I assume that your strongeest identification is as a Jew. Some 34 years ago as my wife and I contiplated marraige and we wondered how it would change us, and it didn't change us in reality, but when I speak to young people who ask why get married we are committed to each other without the formality and the document> I respond that there is some special undescribable magic in the marriage, its a deeper promise to each other. So American citizanship, will it change anything other than voting? I believe so , I believe tyhat there is a special magic aspecial thank you to the country that has been the best friend to us Jews ever in the history of this planet and a great friend to Israel. By the way, if I had taken a job in Canada to live in Toronto, I would have taken joint Canadian citizenship. i welcome you to America. You can still keep your politics private. We need more Jewish voters. Let me know what you decide. I very musch enjoy your videos. ShalomRon (Rueven Ben Eliezar) Newman

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Stacey,
February 27, 2008 4:39 PM

Be whatever you want to be

One of the great things about America is the freedom to choose. If you decide to become American, you have the freedom to choose a party or not to choose a party. In fact, for quite some time, (until I was encouraged otherwise), I called myself an independent, since I shared views with both parties. My point, don't let a silly thing, like choosing a political party get in the way of becoming part of a country you hold so dear. However, if you want to stay a Canadian, thats cool too. Remember....freedom to choose!

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Joseph,
February 27, 2008 4:37 PM

no, you should become israeli!!

your country!! needs you!!

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Ari Jacobson,
February 27, 2008 4:05 PM

Taking sides: "Jewish Protestant" or "Jewish Catholic"?

People you meet insist you take a side? Reminds me of the Jew in Belfast during the "Troubles". He's accosted by a gunman in an alley, who demands to know his affiliation: "Protestant or Catholic?" A wrong answer will be fatal. For once, he can safely announce: "Jewish", and begins to walk away.Unsatisfied, the gunman demands to know: "Jewish Catholic or Jewish Protestant?"

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Anonymous,
February 27, 2008 3:08 PM

Lori, Lori, Lori,

Lori,

I watch your "Lori almost Live" weekly and am frankly surprised to be hearing you express this concern. A strong, smart, confident, brave, proud Jew, and you are afraid of someone asking you a question---so much so that you'd avoid becoming a citizen of this great country?

There are plenty of folks just like you here who are religious and handle any political questions just fine. You really don't have to hide behind the Candadian flag and say, "I can't vote." Quite frankly, if I asked you which candidate you liked, and you gave me that answer, I'd simply follow up with, "Well fine, but if you COULD vote, who would you vote for." So, you wouldn't be able to avoid it anyway.

I don't know you well enough to say this, but if you were my close friend, I'd say, "Lori, get over it." Become an American citizen and enjoy all of the benefits of full citizenship, which include the right to vote.

One last thing, consider that your vote for a pro-Israel candidate just might make a difference one day between a pro (or anti-Israel)candidate winning or losing at some level of government. If you aren't a citizen, you obviously can't vote.

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Sarita,
February 27, 2008 1:29 PM

I enjoyed your speach, and understand your feelings.

You asked for advice. Well, being that your husband and children are U.S. citizens, it is easier and makes sense to become an American. Remember, you will be on the same line when passing customs.As to your politics, you can say that your an Independent, end of questioning.I enjoy listening to you, you make sense.Shalom, and maybe send me a reply?

Sarita

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Batya,
February 27, 2008 12:52 PM

You are a Canadian

Lori,you have already made up your mind.If you wanted to take out American citizenship you would have done it years ago.Listen to your inner voice.

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Dan Salomon,
February 27, 2008 12:34 PM

Your Life

Lori,The best advice saying I could give you is the following:Its your life...Do what you feel is right, regardless of what you think others will say. Based on the video, I can tell that you are a:-Woman of substance and valor (Haset Hial)-Someone who knows right from wrong.-Follows the torah.-Loves Israel.-And is a G_D fearing person.So, why would you ask me (or anyone for that matter) what you should do?You are already the best (and most qualified) person to answer this question."This above all, to thine own self be true".In closing, I will tell you, that as an American (who just moved back here after living in Israel for eight years) I welcome you as a positive influence (I believe you to be) to this fine land of ours.

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Bill Vanderhoof,
February 27, 2008 11:47 AM

Choose one

Lori;Choose one!!The Bible tells me that no one can serve two masters for they wil hate one and love the other.Don't have your children become torn between but rather have them make a decision for one or the other when they are mature enough to choose wisely.Bill

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Scott,
February 27, 2008 11:43 AM

What does God want for you?

Lori, have you prayed about becoming a US citizen? Maybe god has brought you to this place to show you both sides of living in the US. Now the opportunities for you to help perfect the world are more evident. Only you can decide, the choice is yours alone.

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Miriam,
February 27, 2008 11:36 AM

An American Family

Hi Lori,Your family is looking for cohesiveness, not only in religion, but also in citizenship. They are encouraging you to decide to join them to help create a complete American family.

It has been noted that Hashem blesses America because America protects Israel and the Jews. Israel has no better friend. Hashem brought you to America to bring Judaism back to to the Jews. As an American, you will add to Hashem's blessing.

We welcome you you to be part of this great imperfect nation because we love you.

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Anonymous,
February 27, 2008 11:26 AM

A,merica is NOT Israel's friend

if you believe that America is Israel's best friend in the world then you do not understand Israel or Israeli life or how we are suffering because of how YOUR America is not allowing our government to do what they have to do to stop our wars on two fronts right now. And dont think it will get better after your upcoming elections - with all the candididates running it will only get worse... hence we and we alone are our own friend and we alone will have to take care of both the Hamas and the Hisboulah and the American govt can take a hike .

ACCORDING TO YOUR SITE MY ISRAELI EMAIL ADDRESS ISNT EVEN VALID AND I HAVE TO USE ONE THAT IS AMERICAN BASE

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steven fox,
February 27, 2008 11:15 AM

YES you should....

But why???? America needs people like you... People who care, and are able to say why they care

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Graciela Gerber,
February 27, 2008 10:27 AM

You are your own person

Lri, I do not think anybody can doubt you honesty or your strong Jewish beliefs. Be yourself, if you feel strongly about being neutral because of your Canadian citizenship. Stay Canadian. Nobody should dictate to another person how to feel or what to believ.

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Margaret,
February 27, 2008 9:52 AM

Don't worry about it!

Hi LoriJust tell people that the politics are very complicated and that you have no interest in finding out the ins and out of the situation, the country is doing fine and you don't think that they need one extra vote from you. I don't think anyone feel badly about your opinion, just be honest, they will appreciate that. (There are millions of people who are eligible to vote and they don't so you could become a citizen, have a US passport and still decide not to vote if you don't want to vote.) If you don't want to be involved discussions, just tell people that you have no interest and finding out the situation, you leave it to people who are more informed and I think that people will be happy with that response from you.Looking forward to hearing your decision - good luck!!

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Chaya,
February 27, 2008 8:55 AM

No Lori, You are Not an American

You are a Canadian. You were born in Canada. You are not entitled to be an American just because you married one. It is clear you disdain American politics and pooh-pooh our party system. My bet is that your heart thrills to the sound of Oh! Canada! not The Star-Spangled Banner. Sure, the benefits here are great. Sure, we've got great baseball teams. Sure, we're rich. But you are a Canadian. Be satisfied with your green card. Don't take advantage.

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Dave,
February 27, 2008 7:48 AM

Need You

You are smart, articulate, thoughtful and productive. What better fellow citizen could I possibly ask for. You could provide intelligent discourse on politics as well as religion. Love it!

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Anonymous,
February 27, 2008 7:30 AM

Your Heart

Do what is in YOUR heart. No body jumped right on the kidney donation BUT look at the blessing that came from that. He will show you the right way for YOU. Thanks for all you do. ~iris

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George Miller,
February 27, 2008 4:31 AM

On becoming American

Lori.., you are a beacon in the dark. I find your presentations very inspiring. It isn't necessary for you to become American. You are a success in 'your own right'. Becoming American could possibly 'complicate' a well rounded Lady. From an American by birth. Mazel Tov...Am Israel Chai... George miller

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Natalie,
February 27, 2008 3:36 AM

Yes go for it!

Hi Lori, thanks for asking us. Yes I think go for it, you are getting all the benefits, let them benefit from having you! And enjoy your dual citizenship. ( I would love USA citizenship but dont want to have to leave my country to come live in USA)

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Anonymous,
February 27, 2008 2:12 AM

Politics is a part of life...

Lori,Firstly thank you for valuing your readers' opinions. That is very "American" of you :-). Secondly, it seems to me that there is no way to escape politics, dafka because you are a Jew. If I am not mistaken, living in Israel is no different in terms of where you stand in the religious "political" spectrum. Is it not true that the Haredim in Eretz Yisrael are in one political party and keepah srugah in another? Isn't it also true that a yeshivish woman would probably not date a guy with a keepah srugah in Eretz Yisrael? Isn't it also true that when someone asks you where you stand in the Orthodox spectrum (yeshivish, modern orthodox, hassidish etc) your answer may cause the person who asked the question to think of you in a certain way? In my mind, labeling yourself a Republican, Democrat or Independent is no different than religious labels. L'havdil, of course a person's relationship with G-d is more important than an election. However, if you think about it, at the end of the day you are still Lori. Yeshivish, modern, hassidish....it doesn't matter you are still the same person. The labels just serve as a way to show yourself and the world HOW you relate to G-d and what you stand for. In the end we are ALL Jews. Republican, Democrat, Independent...this just shows how one realtes to a precious thing called a democracy, and also what one stands for. In the end we are ALL Americans! I do hope that I have made a parallel here and not a comparison. Like I said, I also agree that G-d comes first.It just seems as though we as human beings have created these labels in most areas of our lives. Thanks so much for your continued insight!

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Yale,
February 27, 2008 12:40 AM

Became an American

We need citizens like you. Become an American. You can always remain neutral in your stated opinions. Listening to you often, I personally feel good about how you would vote behind that curtain.Thanks for your messages.

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miriam lane,
February 27, 2008 12:17 AM

Become an American, Keep your Vote Confidential

One important aspect of American democracy is voting confidentiality. If you consistently refuse to discuss your political positions, most decent people will respect this. My mother,aleha hashalom, would never reveal whom she voted for despite everyone's nagging and badgering. I think she was right. By the way, I think it is always positive for a Jew to have more than one citizenship, if possible. It increases our options.In view of Jewish history,one just never knows what might come in handy, hopefully only for good reasons. Behatzlacha in your decision!

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Janna,
February 26, 2008 11:45 PM

We need you! Go for it!

Your biggest concern seems to be the heated political passions of the people who are your friends and neighbors in Washington, D.C. If you were to drive a few hundred miles from your home in any direction (New England, the mid-Atlantic states, the Midwest), you would find a very different environment politically...and that is what our country is all about. Just as Canada is a big country, ours, too, stretches for more than three thousands miles from east to west. Between coasts are many different kinds of people - but we all are united by the fact that, though we may not agree with each other, we will staunchly defend our individual rights to an opinion. Washington is what it is...a town ruled by politics and politicians. Go to L.A. and you will find a town ruled by actors and the movie industry! That doesn't mean you'd have to get your Screen Actors Guild card to continue to live there! Don't let your decision be affected negatively by the people and lifestyles of the (relatively) small part of the country where you live. Even though I am registered in a political party, I tell people I am an independent and will vote my conscience when the time comes. No one bothers me about voicing a favorite here in NY, and I'd venture to say no one would bother you anywhere else in the U.S., either. Of course people want you to be on "their" side - that's what all the brouhaha is about right now! Ultimately, it's all about freedom of choice - and freedom, if you so desire, to keep that choice to yourself until you vote. I hope you will decide to become an American citizen, because we need more thoughtful, caring citizens (who support Israel!!!) like you here. Go for it!

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moshe,
February 26, 2008 11:08 PM

i don't think it really matters. whatever you decide it should be the right one!- hatzlacha

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Ella Adler,
February 26, 2008 10:57 PM

I don't think it makes a difference because we are living in extremely critical times. The entire country/world could change drastically at any given moment. There's a saying " if it aint broke, don't fix it!" Hatzlacha Lori- regards,. Ella Adler ( Jewish Aeorobics) close friend of Rebbitzen Leah Cohen) YOu're sooooo good!

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Cheryl Sanger-Morrison,
February 26, 2008 9:52 PM

Lori Becoming a Citizen of USA

Love ya Lori. Yes, do become a citizen of the country in which you you reside and the country that is accomodating you in so many ways. Your hubby and kids are right. Listen to them.

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G.M. Grena,
February 26, 2008 9:27 PM

Lori, Help Us in the US!

The fact that so many idiots have already voted for Obama & McCain is proof-positive that we need every intelligent person like you that we can get!

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Leonard,
February 26, 2008 9:19 PM

Go ahead. Just don't talk about politics.

I understand that you wish to avoid political arguments. However, you could still be asked, "Well, if you were an American, then which party would you support?" What would be your response to that? I'm sure you would have a polite method of changing the subject. Couldn't you use the same response if you became an American?

I think that you should become an American. Just think about all the countries throughout history where Jews were not allowed to become citizens even if they had been born there. You were not born in America, but you have a chance to become a citizen anyway. That is not something to be taken lightly. If you already have a green card, then you have been through the hardest part of the process. Go ahead. Listen to your family.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 9:19 PM

You already know the answer

Shalom! Lori,First and foremost take it to HaShem!Now,I will tell you a quick story. My youngest son Joanthan, works for his Dad, in his Dad's machine shop. He runs a lathe. My son Jonathan also plays bass guitar. One day while he was machining parts, his hand got caught in the lathe machine, and cut his right hand. He called me on the phone, to ask my opinion if he should go get stitches or not, since his Dad felt stitches were not needed. I told him this, son why are you calling to ask my opinion, when you already know the answer? It turned out he went to E.R. and got stitches. The Dr. told him he made the right decision. So will you, Lori!!! Hashem is in your daily life, and you wil make the right decision! Keep this in mind, since my husband is Canadian with his green card, and has lived and worked here in the U.S.about 22 + years, if he should die a Canadian, before me, all his social security benefits will go back to the government.I won't get a penny of it, and I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and with some heart problems, and may have to retire, soon. He's going for his American citizenship because he says it is the right thing to do.

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Bruce Birnberg,
February 26, 2008 8:29 PM

Falling in love with America

It sounds to me like you've already fallen in love with America. Declaring your love thru becoming a citizen, sound like a natural progression.

My 13 year old daughter and i always enjoy your videos...and i enjoy the way you pronounce "almost" when you say "Lori, almost live."

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David from TEXAS!,
February 26, 2008 8:26 PM

Become an American, but.....

....keep your politics a secret. It WILL affect our perception of what you say. We may miss something that we need to hear while we are wondering "How could that seemingly intelligent woman be a DEMOCRAT!!!"LOL, please keep your politics a secret!

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Alan Bunin MD,
February 26, 2008 8:24 PM

You can help us more by staying Canadian

Americans tend to love Canadians and British people. Love and respect are very similar emotions. That bank of good will can be channelled like a bully pulpit.Yasher Koach

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Oscar Carillo,
February 26, 2008 8:21 PM

Follow your instinct; follow your heart's desire

Shalom Lori,My suggestion? Follow your heart's desire. I am a Canadian and Australian myself...I did it because I wanted it. I am also from Toronto. Ask HaShem.

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Marlene,
February 26, 2008 8:11 PM

Stay Canadien in my humble opinion there is a great power in be able to be neutral in any situation, so really I don't see any really important point in giving up that neutrality power.

something to think about it :-)

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Ruth Kaplan,
February 26, 2008 7:36 PM

If you hesitate to become American only because we are passionate about our politics, don't bother.

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Carmin Rosenthal,
February 26, 2008 7:28 PM

We belong to G-D

Follow your heart. No matter Where you live or which country you claim, in the eyes of Hashem you will continue to do His work and by the way,you do it very well.

Shalom

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Penny,
February 26, 2008 7:24 PM

When in doubt - don't!

Why not base your decision upon what is right for you, not upon what others suggest? If you lean strongly in one direction or the other - go for it. For me, I like to wait until clarity comes from within on the 'big' stuff. In the mean time, keep up the wonderful work you do - it is usually a mid day bracha to stop and listen to the short clips that give a lift! Todah Rabah

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 7:16 PM

Chicken

Do what is in your heart. Don't rely upon other people to make the decision for you. If you want my opinion, however, you sound Anti-American by saying, after living in this country for years, that you are not sure you want to become an American. If you truly do not like what America has to offer, then let me politely tell you to go back to Canada. You can continue your Jewish work from there. America has enough problems and does not need non-Americans living here telling them they are undecided about American culture.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 6:35 PM

do it!

Become an American so you can vote. I watch you every week and really enjoy it.

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Moishe,
February 26, 2008 6:21 PM

Yes

Shalom Lori,

I asked myself the same question long time ago, I am a Venezuelian (South America)born jew who grew up in Berlin Germany and because of the avantages of the EU, Ihad to choose becoming a German citizen,so you could imagine as grandchild of survivor of the holocaust how difficult was for me by then to take that decision of becoming German...and I am German now. America has not such a past history, so Go for it, you should be proud of. In addition, that's how you are going to pay back US for letting you be there, becoming a grateful citizen. Besides you pay taxes and live in a country you have not the right to vote? In a country like the US, a symbol of a strong democracy...How many people, how many countries would envy you for that?Your family and friends will be happy, you will still be Canadian and no matter what passport you are holding there is one thing nobody can take us away, we are jews, we are "am israel", we are a unity. May H' bless you and your family.I love your articles, keep going.Zei gezunt!

Moishe

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 6:09 PM

Go for it!

Hi Lori,I too, born in Ontario, married to an American, was very reluctant to become an American citizen.There is a certain pride being with Americans, and standing out as a Canadian! However, my sisters and I opted to become Americans, so that we could sponsor our parents. Just do it....you won't regret it.Good luck (your accent will still give you away, no matter what!)

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francine,
February 26, 2008 6:03 PM

Be an "Independent"!

Definitely you should become a citizen. When they ask you what party you belong to just say you are an Independent!

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Stephen Mohr,
February 26, 2008 5:41 PM

Lori,I think you should go for dual citizenship, because it can give you a voice in American politics.By the way, I have a soft spot in my heart for Jews from Toronto, as my father was a cousin of Freda Lyons, the wife of former mayor Nathan Phillips, who I met as a teenager.

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Nate,
February 26, 2008 5:29 PM

Apathetical

I am also living in Washington DC. I however, do not vote or take a stance on politics. Why? I do this because rather than politics making us closer as Americans, it seperates us and is destructive. My opinion? It is a wonderful thing to become American. Remember, in Pirkei Avos it is stated that one should not become overly farmilliar with the government. Pirkei Avos really was forshadowing the way politics can form people.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 5:17 PM

Re: YES!

All that said, you should remain a citizen of Canada. It sounds like your country means a great deal to you, and I encourage you to remain a citizen there.

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yonah,
February 26, 2008 5:17 PM

thumbs down to becomming an American

Stay above the fray by being a non partisan, apolitical, non citizen.

In a highly politicized environment such as Washington D.C., your non citizenship is an assest that allows you to effortlessly sidestep the polarization phenomenon you describe.

I agree with you that you will dilute your all important message about G-d, and Torah if you open the door to the quagmire of American politics by becomming an American citizen.

Tell your husband and kids that your choice to be a non citizen isn't about appreciation, loyalty or patriotism. It is about pragmatism in a highly politicized environment.

Brocha v'hatzlocha in whatever decision you make.

All the best,Yonah GinsburgMonsey, New York

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 5:00 PM

YES!

I think you should become an American because of your views about Israel and America. If you believe that America is Israel's best friend in the world, then you should give yourself a voice on the issue. There are plenty of candidates in this country who disagree with you, and do not like Israel, and vice-versa. Don't you want to ensure that America remains the friend of Israel? If yes, then you need to have the ability to vote.

As for your neutrality, by having views about US policy towards Israel, you automatically lose your neutrality. With all due respect, I believe that you have convinced yourself that you remain neutral, when really, you only perceive the illusion of neutrality.

While I believe that you should give yourself a voice and vote FOR Israel in our elections, I think that you should be very careful not to become a "one purpose voter." This is a very dangerous thing, but I know, from watching your videos that you are able to look at all sides of the argument, so please DO!

Finally, I would just like to say that you are obligated as a Jew to become a citizen here. The Jewish people have been persecuted from the beginning of our faith. Nebuchadnezer and his army raided Israel and the holy city and took the Jews captive. Later, under Cyrus the Great, the Jews flourished in Babylon. However, time after time the Jewish people have fallen into a government that eventually changes unfavorably. If you are a productive member of American society, and want to ensure equality for the Jewish people, you MUST become a citizen, and raise your voice with a vote or a megaphone (or a short video clip on our favorite educational website). If you truly want to be taken seriously when you really for strong, positive US policy towards Israel, you need to tell everyone that you have the ability to vote for what you believe in because you have become a citizen.

I urge you to understand the impact you will have as a citizen. To quote Mahatma Gandhi "be the change you wish to see in this world."

B'shalom,Joseph

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Channie,
February 26, 2008 4:50 PM

There is a certain responsibility we have, especially as Jews, and hakoras hatov to a country that has embraced us and has been such a strong ally of Israel for so many years. Perhaps the best way of exercising this responsibilty and giving concreteness to our hakoras hatov is by becoming full citizens of the country that has given us the opportunity to be full citizens, and by exexcising all the rights, privileges, and additonal responsibilities citizenship confers. Continued hatzlacha in all you do.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 4:33 PM

If you are not sure, don't do it

Commiting to be a US citizen is a big step. If you are not comfortable taking that step, don't do it. For me,if people want to judge me entirely on my politics, then it's their choice...and their loss. It is their choice not to be adults about differences in thought. This is a great country with many freedoms. Be comfortable with your decision. After all, it is yours when you live here.

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Gail,
February 26, 2008 4:29 PM

Be a Citizen and remain neutral

I have an answer for you. Become an American citizen. Your children, your husband and you will be happy. Now, as far as remaining neutral...tell everyone you are neither Democrat or Republican but you are an independent so you vote as your heart and mind dictate at the time. Also, one of the most important things about this country is "the secret vote". You don't have to tell, that's one of our rights. We've fought wars for our freedoms and that is one of them.So don't let living in the seat of our democracy drive you nuts. The rest of us keep our politics a bit more 'tamped down'.

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Raymond,
February 26, 2008 4:25 PM

Problem solved!

Can I complicate things further? Why not make aliyah?!

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 4:14 PM

Canadians are Americans too.

The last I looked, Canada is still a part of North America. Geographically you are already an American. Your question really is should I be a United States Citizen. There are plenty of United States citizens who are politically neutral and/or politically ignorant. In fact more Canadians vote in their elections tnan US citizens vote in theirs. It seems to me that becoming a US citizen basically increases your options as you are also potentially an Israeli citizen by having the right of return. If it doesn't cost you anything more than a small fee and an easy civics test;and if your family wants you to be an American, I see no harm in acquiesing to their wishes. I wish you well whatever your final choice.

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Katie,
February 26, 2008 4:12 PM

Become an American

Blessings to you. You raise valid points, but I think you can always NOT discuss politics. It is no ones business how you vote. In a pinch, you can always say you are an Independent!

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ralph,
February 26, 2008 3:58 PM

Shalom sisterYou needn't worry about this, work on the important things, the mitzvos, and continue to teach others to do the same. r

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Karen,
February 26, 2008 3:54 PM

neutrality and pleurality are gifts

Lori, I WAS born in the US and have often wished I could be a citizen of a more open-minded and less political country. You have that in Canadian citizenship. By residing lawfully in the US you also have the benefits without the need for citizenship or partisanship. Do not feel pressured to take a step that is not firmly resolved in your heart. Your husband does not feel pressured to take Canadian citizenship just because your children have dual citizenship. Be a citizen of the world, the rest is just detail.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 3:36 PM

Dear Lori;I'm a Canadian, married to an American (from New York, in fact)-and I'm an American citizen as well (I became an American before I met my wife). The reason is that I'm proud to be Canadian but I'm also grateful to America for being the wonderful country that it is to Israel, the Jewish People and to all people. I'm proud of what the USA stands for and, yes, I believe that "America is different." Even as a "green card," I would never feel an integral part of this country. As a citizen, however, I'm not an outsider but part and parcel of the "woof and warp" of America. With all good wishes,Your fellow Torontonian,Howard

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Ronald M. Landau,
February 26, 2008 3:29 PM

Go for it, Lori!

I totally agree with (1) below. You need to stand up and be heard, not only on Shabbat among our Lundsmen, but within our greater community (in this case, the entire USA). Welcome to the family, Lori.Shalom. Ron

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David,
February 26, 2008 3:27 PM

Do it!

One of the best things about being an American is that it is OK to agree to disagree. I sure it doesn't seem that way in DC. But, the USA really follows to lines of the Passover story. "Let My people go that they may worship Me". There can be no freedom without responsibility. In the USA that responsibility is a voice, a vote, a letter to your congress person.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 3:26 PM

No.

I don't think you're yet ready for citizenship. The love and loyalty, the deep commitment that you feel to Israel should also be part of your feelings for America . . . along with an attachment, whether literal or emotional, to its past, which would help you smile forgivingly at those whose bad manners permit them to demand to know your "stand" on the political parties.

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George Gumbiner,
February 26, 2008 3:18 PM

response

Hi Lori, I hope you're feeling well. I am going to show Sheera your trip to Israel for couples. Regarding being a U.S citizen, I think you are doing well for U.S. Jews with your vidios. It is your choice if you want to vote or not.yours, George Gumbiner

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Dina,
February 26, 2008 3:05 PM

Go for it.

I was born in Montreal to a Canadian mother and a naturalized German-American father. We moved to the states when I was 3 weeks old. Mom was a dual national, as am I and my kids. Dad and bro are just American. You can stay neutral. Use the excuse you already use - - it is not considered advisable to discuss religion or politics, but since you always discuss religion, you simply choose not to discuss politics. Being a dual national gives you options, and options are great!

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Susan,
February 26, 2008 3:04 PM

I don't know either

You're talking about becoming a citizen; I'm wondering if I want to be one and I was born here. Our government has become a joke and when I vote, it is always for the lesser of two evils. Leaving is not an option as my children and grandchildren are here. Israel with all its dangers sounds better every day. Good luck with your decision.

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Pat Toensmeier,
February 26, 2008 2:55 PM

Take the Plungeâ€”Become an American

There are opinionated and vexatious people everywhere. (I was once hectored at the Toronto airport by a Canadian complaining about cutbacks in government healthcare.) But good people like you make good citizens, something America needs to maintain its vitality and promise. Take the plunge, become a citizen. You'd be very welcome.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 2:45 PM

It's interesting that you mention that you don't want to be an American because of the conflicts with your family and friends between Democrats and Republicans. There are many ways to be a Citizen other than choosing what party to belong to or trying to make peace with others in their decisions. What it means to be an American is accepting the constitutionand what are founders put in the Declaration of Independence. If you believe in that, it would seem best to become a citizen for all those reasons and not only to vote Democrat or Republican. There are many Independents,Libertarians and members of the Green Party that take other positions. You must choose to be an American not only to have the liberty to vote but what America means to you.This is a diecision no one else can make but you. Keep looking and being open to yourself on what it means to be an American. G-d Bless you.

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Micki,
February 26, 2008 2:37 PM

Go for it, Lori

I think you should become an American since that is where you live. It is most important that you vote to keep those freedoms that you value. You really don't have to tell people what party you belong to...you can always vote as an Independent and not declare a party. I have lived in Maryland close to DC for almost 17 years and I make it a point not to talk politics.. (except with a very few close friends)So, I say go for it Lori! We need thoughtful people like you in the US.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 2:31 PM

Hi Lori, I am married to an Israeli, and can assure you that the Dems and Republicans are amateurs when discussing politics. You haven't lived until you've listened to two Israelis, one on the right and a leftist, discuss politics. Now we're talking! Lori, I am a faithful reader...please join us and become an American...and keep your Canadian citizenship for sentimentality....thanks for reading, "almost live."

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KAren Kaplan,
February 26, 2008 2:28 PM

Be an American

LoriI watch your spot every week and read your writings. I think you are very intelligent I have learned so much from you. You really have a pretty good handle on life I think you would be an awesome American and I know that your vote would always stand for the right thingThnaksKAren

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Suzanne,
February 26, 2008 2:24 PM

Think twice

I am a proud American, and I am also a proud Israeli. I know that Israel will always be there for me, in times of trouble and in times of celebration. That is not always true here. But the other side is, if you are not able to vote, then you are not able to affect change. One more point that really needs some thinking is, Hitler came to power due to ONE vote. Your vote does count.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 2:24 PM

If you really desire to be an American citizen, you should. Although American citizens are politically divided, they unite behind each other because of our common link as American. It doesn't matter what race, religion, or political stance people hold, you will be defended if people insult/assault you. Why? Because you would be a fellow citizen. Although we may not agree on everything, we are united together.

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Meira D. Lerman,
February 26, 2008 2:20 PM

My vote for you

Dear Lori, yes, neutral position is necessity of today life and I absolutely agree with you. If I had a choice I were staying Caucasian ( I'm from Caucasus) and quit my American Citizenship now.It's a kind of treatment, when the impair organ is isolated from the main blood supply for a while to reinforce its potential.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 2:12 PM

Become a citizen

Become a citizen so you can participate as an American. And then, tell people when asked, "I don't discuss politics"instead, let's talk about God since He doesn't recognize politics and we can talk about what is important.

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Elam,
February 26, 2008 2:02 PM

To question one's self....

To question one's self is a true mark of inteligence. I lived in Alaska as a child and as a teenager. Many State citizens in Alaska are also Canadians and I have heard this question many times. If you become a dual citizen you will always be Canadian and American....if not...you will always be asking this question. You love both places and they are both your homes. And, gues what....you don't have to vote unless you want to...that's the beauty of being American. You are a smart teacher ... you will do the right thing!

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Wes Peaker,
February 26, 2008 1:41 PM

Lori....I was delighted to learn you are from Toronto where I was born and raised. Don't do it. I am always dismayed when one of our home brews is successful, moves, and converts. Would you give up being a Jew. I don't think so. So, why would you give up being an All Canadian Gal.

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Michael Fenton,
February 26, 2008 1:32 PM

yes, you should become American

In your video, you site the uncomfortable nature of American politics as reason for neutrality. Being an American has it's privileges many that I am sure you enjoy. It also has its responsibilities, some of which I am sure you do not enjoy. To enjoy the benefits without the responsibilities is to short change yourself and is simply a cop out. I think you can make the same argument about what it means to be a Jew. I love your videos!

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 1:29 PM

Become an American, and participate more fully in the dynamics and influence of the world's most powerful democracy. America's greatness and virtues are undeniable, as are its impact on the world and Israel. You don't have to buy into the politically polarized atmosphere of D.C., and as a Jew, the privilege of voting for the President of the United States - or any government official - is not something to take lightly.

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Reva Van Leeuwen,
February 26, 2008 1:28 PM

I have a better idea!

This is a heartfelt suggestion: Come on aliya with your wonderful family and have Israeli citizenship! Teach Torah in English here in Israel, where so many people need it. Am Yisrael should be together here in Israel!!!

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Dick Kent,
February 26, 2008 1:28 PM

Go for it !

Avoiding conflict is not a good way to conduct your life. All of life is contest and conflict - embrace it. In confronting differences with an opposing individual or group, you often find that you have a lot in common and become friends who "agree to disagree". This is far superior to pretending that differences don't exist or deliberately avoiding half of humanity. Conflict adds spice to life!

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Kay,
February 26, 2008 1:23 PM

get your citizenship

If you are worried about how people will judge or accept you according to your political viewpoint, then do you really want to be friends with those people? If they are true friends they will respect your opinions and leave it at that. I love your video's!

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ELLI,
February 26, 2008 12:17 PM

DONT BE A COWARD

You don't want to become an American citizen just so that you don't have to tell people what political party you support? That sounds childish (in a bratty sort of way)and cowardly ; and here's why.Think about how many people would die to become American citizens, and you are refusing to get your's so you have the comfort of not having to defend yourself or have to argue with people from the opposing party. Its like a 12 year old girl that doesn't want her parents to throw her a birthday party because they didn't buy her the cake she wanted. So she crosses her hand raises her shoulders, looks away and guff's. That's pretty much what you are doing Mrs. Palatnik.

And its cowardly because what's so bad about showing your colors? You're afraid people will judge you? Don't want to sound too corny, but stand up for what you believe. You don't have to fight with people, you can be subtle about it. Or if you don't want to let people know what party you stand with, tell them you are a registered independent and you simply haven't decided what presidential candidate you want to support.

Being a registered independent also puts you in a "neutral" zone in America. "Your life is not an open book". That's a direct quote from you. I have utilized that concept into my life after I saw your blog about lying, ironically most of the time it had to do with things regarding politics.

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MIKE,
February 26, 2008 12:10 PM

TOO GOOD FOR JUST ONE COUNTRY

WITH ALL THE POLARIZATION AND NEGATIVITY THAT GOES ON IN WASHINGTON, AND THE ENTIRE U.S., WE NEED YOUR POSITIVE INFLUENCE FOR GOOD,TO HELP US STRIKE A BALANCE. YOU'RE JUST TOO GOOD FOR ONLY ONE COUNTRY.

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David,
February 26, 2008 12:09 PM

Bite the Bullet

Dear Lori,

I think you should bite the bullet and take part in the democratic process that has always provided the wonderful and necessary American support for Israel.

Sincerly,

David

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 12:08 PM

Yes

Lori,You know that until you become an American, this decision will always hang over you. You are the one who encourages us all to do the difficult thing--so don't back away from it yourself!Surely, when you lived in Israel it was a highly politicized environment. You can handle it, and then give us tips as well!By the way--I keep a one line summary of each of your videos for reference!

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Walter Leipurts,
February 26, 2008 12:03 PM

Citizenship

I'm from Toronto and am sorry we lost you to the U.S. but ultimately our allegiance lies with Israel. Make Aliya and carry three passports. Nothing like keeping more options open.

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mickey,
February 26, 2008 11:56 AM

US CITIZENSHIP

Lori,

If you intend to stay living in the US then it would benefit you and the US for you to have duel citizenship as we do need the input of everyone who is legally living here. And if you are not a citizen as you know you cannot give your input by your vote. America needs you!!

Mickey

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 11:53 AM

Become an American

When someone asks you who you are voting for, tell them it is your secret. In fact no one is allowed to pressure you to vote for their candidate that is not the American way.

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Sharon,
February 26, 2008 11:36 AM

Citizenship

Lori:You could actually have three citizenships. First and formost, is the citizenship of Heaven. G-d's Kingdom is a bit different then what we currently have. This citizenship will become a reality when Messiah comes later. Being Jewish, loving, G-d, and looking forward to His Kingdom to come is where we will be later, forever. For now though, were born in Canada, but your life, and your family are here in the U.S. and you are not independent from your husband, but one with him. So becoming a citizen will strengthen your bond with your husband as well, then the privileges of being an American citizen as well. Shalom always,Sharon

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abb,
February 26, 2008 11:35 AM

First - let me say I LOVE your shirum!!! Keep them coming - you give a lot of hizuk and food for growth without even meeting me!! I can relate to your dilema even though I'm an American! Last election I really didn't want to wote for Bush but was worried about the consequences for Israel so I asked a shila. It was a great learning tool for my children who are too young to vote but not too young to understand the importance of Daas Torah.

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sheila,
February 26, 2008 11:30 AM

become an American

Of course you should become a citizen. How else can you utilize your wisdom and vote for issues you feel strongly about? People will respect you for your views whether or not they agree with you. Add a little spice to your Shabbat dinners and use your right to vote. Many have sacrificed to give you that privledge.

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Pietrina,
February 26, 2008 11:21 AM

Your passion is evident.

I think you have a passion about the right thing in life. Politics just muddies the thinking and takes too much energy. Studying and teaching Torah gives life. Stay the course that has eternal value.

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Lynn,
February 26, 2008 11:14 AM

Yes, become a citizen.

Being a US citizen is a privilege and, in my opinion, a way of showing respect for the country you live in. You're a strong, spiritual and tactful woman. I believe you have the ability and right to voice your opinions, political or otherwise. "What other people think of me is none of my business"....I believe the same goes for you. If people judge you by your politics, they are not really good friends. By the way, I so much enjoy listening to you....you're a breath of freshs air!!

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chava,
February 26, 2008 11:10 AM

come home

I'm not so sure that America is such a "friend" of Israel, certainly not lately. Why not convince your husband and kids and yourself, and come home here to Israel. Get an Israeli passport. (If you think Washington DC is politicized, try Jerusalaem, or almost anywhere here in Israel.)

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Bob Reid,
February 26, 2008 11:08 AM

Canadians helping Israel

I don't see the canadians rushing to help Israel like the Americans do. It would appear you enjoy the socialist type of government more than the democratic/capitialistic life style..I suggest you remain a canadian so the government can take care of all your needs...

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Charles Goldgeier,
February 26, 2008 11:07 AM

Become an American

B"HI agree with coment # 1 from "Anonymous". Also comment #2 from Joey. Keep in mind, if you become an American, you can always just say, "Well, I don't like to talk about politics"---or something like that. If you moved to Israel, would you become an Israaeli citizen? I believe you would. Talk about politics, it seems that is topic # 1 in Israel.

I do enjoy your videos very much.May G-d Bless you and your family with Health, Happiness and Peace.Shalom,Charles

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Charlie,
February 26, 2008 11:06 AM

Neutrality

The Swiss liked to be Neutral too in the 1930s, and they supported whichever side was in power, including the Nazis. If you can't stand for something, you stand for nothing. If people want to go out of their way to dislike you because of your choice of party, they are too close-minded and you would be better off without them in your life. People must learn to accept all other people and make connections with those that are different. Jewish people are known for their range of opinions, but we are also known to be people that are able to accept those that do not have the same opinions as ourselves.Neutrality is not all its cracked up to be.

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Yisroel,
February 26, 2008 11:03 AM

How to Handle the Politics

Yes, do become an American citizen for all the reasons mentioned by others. Your real dilemma is how to handle the political controversy. I suggest you put on your "kiruv cap" and prepare a short and tactful explanation of the Jewish view regarding respecting others opinions and political views and show others that you respect and admire them even if you don't agree with their views. Yes, you are going "out on a limb" but you do that in kiruv work, too. But, it may be worth the mesiras nefesh!! It is easy for me to give advice as I am Yisroel, not even "almost live."

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Barbara,
February 26, 2008 10:53 AM

Well Lori, as your former Toronto friend, now ensconced in St. Louis, I too had the same dilemma. My son (aged 9!) bugged me for ages to get my citizenship, and my husband's urging became much more urgent last year when the application rates were about to go up considerably. I had resisted forever because I really had a strong attachment to my "roots." But then I realized that I really wanted to vote in this upcoming election. This is my home now, and I feel that I can't complain about anything if I don't vote to make change happen. I think it's perfectly acceptable to put up a sign "Leave your politics at the door" - or to make it known that you don't want to talk about it. BTW, I sailed through the interview last month (boy, was I nervous...memorizing those 13 colonies was a killer...) and am just awaiting my swearing in ceremony! You can do it!

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David Ostriker,
February 26, 2008 10:45 AM

You live in the US you benefit from the US you should become a citizen. It privacy of the ballot box is a sacred trust to Americans and can be extended to discussion. I know this from personal experince as I grew up in the NY of Tammany Hall and my father was a dress manufacturer and my mother was the founder of the NYC teachers union. It can be done.Be well

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Joyce,
February 26, 2008 10:45 AM

No need to reveal vote

Lori, the thing to remember about our voting system is that we vote by *secret* ballots. Nobody is entitled to an answer if they ask you who you're voting for. The best response may be to change the subject, for example: "Oh I'm still deciding. How is your dear mother?" Or something else like that.As long as you're polite and persistent, most folks will get the hint and, sooner or later, stop asking.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 10:20 AM

Become an Israeli!

Come to Israel, and become an Israeli. we need every Jewish American we can get. G'd bless you!

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Sarah,
February 26, 2008 10:14 AM

love your column

Judith is right on. Making Aliyah at some point is the most important thing for you and your family.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 10:13 AM

Yes, become an American

American citizenship is precious and the most sought after in the world; but, more than that, as long as you are living here you should want to participate in and influence your country about the things that are important yo you.

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Carol,
February 26, 2008 10:03 AM

Come live in Israel!!! We need you here!

Come live in Israel. We need you here!

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Gedaliah Engel,
February 26, 2008 9:55 AM

go for it!

Dear Lori,

I'm in a similar situation. Born in Toronto, married an American, living in the States (Brooklyn). Got my Green card in '87, still not a US citizen. But soon to become one. My reasoning is as follows: When you live in a country and want to show hakoras hatov, becoming a citizen is committing to try and make a difference. Voting, though what's one vote going to do, is investing of yourself in the country's future.

We hope Mashiach comes very soon, and we'll be living in the Holy Land. Until then, however, Jews should demonstrate their allegiance to our host country.

Hatzlocho, eh!

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 9:53 AM

I think you can become an American but chose not to vote when it comes time. I don't always vote and I don't let myself become involved in Political conversations.

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 9:40 AM

I think you should become an American because to truly participate in American society you have to vote. We can easily lose our freedoms if people who don't value those freedoms are in the majority and vote those freedoms out. In summary, to preserve society the way you would want it, you have to participate in the voting process.

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Joey,
February 26, 2008 9:33 AM

Hmm...apparently I would fit in well in D.C. ...That's probably something to be ashamed of, though. ;-)

Keep in mind, if you become an American, you can always just say, "Well, I don't like to talk about politics"---or something like that. Best of luck with whatever you decide, and God bless!

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Anonymous,
February 26, 2008 9:01 AM

2 passports

Shalom Lori,Get the American passport, and keep the Canadian also. Who cares it's only a paper. Important is that we belong to Hashem. We can be pride to have Israeli citinzenship, that's totally different. I do have many passports; it's good to have many of them because we never know what will happen in the future so it's a luxury to have the choise & right to have many passports. Just Do It. Your family will be happy, and don't we have to do or hear the advice of our husbands?judith from paris.P.S.: You are great! I love your video, I watch you every single week. Thank YOU

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Devorah Leah,
February 26, 2008 1:13 AM

Iam also a Canadian married to an American living in the US. My husband keeps asking me to become an American because he found out that when someone is not an American citizen they can not collect their spouse's social security in the event that something happens to their spouse

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Debra,
February 26, 2008 12:17 AM

Yes!

Yes, Lori, if you love America, then do become an American-- we need more Americans who actually love their country! Too many people here seem to get caught up in the journalistic traps set by the media, and spend too much time focusing on criticising our fair land, and lose sight of what a gift we have here and what a gift their citizenship provides them. And, just as importantly, we need you to become an American so you can be smart and vote your issues, not join a party. Then you can be sure to choose what you need to choose and vote the way you need to vote to protect and support Israel and freedoms here at home for your children.

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yosef,
February 25, 2008 11:54 PM

Citizenship

No sofek yes be an American.Does ur country Canada do for Israel what the US does, in spite of all the hatred it gets .If u dont u have very little sechel and havanah and appreciation of hakoras hatov of the greatest malchus shel chesed ever. For u this should be a kasha????????????an isha pekeches?

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Richard Wald,
February 25, 2008 11:10 PM

It is your duty to become a citizen.

A fewe weeks ago the Moetzes Gedoles (Counsel of Torah Sages) issued a call on all Jews in America to vote. It is Hakoras Hatov (Paying back the good that was done you). America has given Jews great freedom and support for Israel and we have to show our gratitude. Therefore do become a citizen and do vote. There is one further reason to vote. Politicians look to see which communities vote and give services, favors and help to those communities that vote heavily. They want to get reelected and therefore cater to those commuities.

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Jason,
February 25, 2008 7:52 PM

America to the Jews is like a Self-Inflicted Holocaust.

Nope, don't become an American citizen. There was a time in Jewish history where Jews committed themselves, gave their WHOLE HEART to the "Fatherland" Germany. Look what happened... And now.. In many respects, we are doing the same thing with our commitment to North America. No Lori, the answer for you and your family is not to stay in America or give your heart completely to the U.S.A., instead... head in the direction you know you were meant for... head EAST! MOSHIACH NOW!!!

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Lorrie Fein,
February 25, 2008 4:56 PM

Have voice!

I enjoy your site each week. Become a citizen and have a right to vote, you are paying the taxes anyway! Politicians and pollsters are able to tell what groups are voting for whom and Eretz Yisroel needs us.

As I chose to become a member of C'lal Yisrael 34 years ago, I believe that you should become one with both your family and your community by becoming an American citizen. My late mother-in-law and late father-in-law did this and never regretted it. Kol Tuv!

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Irene,
February 25, 2008 1:50 PM

If you become a citizen your vote can help achieve good things

f you become a citizen your vote can influence the policies of this country and thus help achieve good things. in addition the more Jewish citizens we have the better when pollsters analyze the country.

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Chana Zelasko,
February 25, 2008 12:41 PM

A bracha to you

Whatever you decide, my bracha to you is you is that a this should be the most difficult decision you should ever have to make.

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Lynn,
February 25, 2008 12:02 PM

Independent Status

Do become an American citizen. You are already living an American life; citizenship will enhance it. But when it comes to politics, be INDEPENDENT! You do not have to be one or the other; sometimes you will agree with a Republican canditate over a Democrat, and vice versa. Independent does NOT mean you don't know your mind; if anything I believe it means you use your mind more, because you listen to the individual.

And like one poster said: politics shouldn't be discussed around dinner--especially Shabbos dinner, when you most want shalom bayit--anyway.

Being an American is a wonderful thing. Support our Israeli support by taking that oath.

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Debora,
February 25, 2008 6:24 AM

Status Quo

Don't!There isn't political system that can be just and right and fair.Everything invented by humans is doomed to fail. Sooner or later.

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Clifford Felder,
February 25, 2008 3:21 AM

Lori, do become an American citizen

Why to be an American citizen: 1) If you live in the US, be responsible and vote. Take an interest how the country you live in is run. 2) When I moved from the US to Israel, I became an Israeli citizen because it felt the right thing to do. If I live here, I should be a citizen here, as well as in the US. 3) Don't discuss politics at the dinner table, no matter where you are a citizen.

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Kenny Laitin,
February 25, 2008 12:16 AM

Become American to vote for what's best for America

And what's best for America is usually what's best for Israel. Not discussing politics will be more difficult. But I know you can do it.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 10:28 PM

How Would Your Life change?

It seems to me you have the best of both worlds! How I wish I could claim such neutrality. Should you become an American? Other than losing that great tactful "excuse" -- how would your life change? You would still be under no rule to reveal your political bent. When I am asked, I either fire back with, "Why do you ask? We have the right to secret ballot here." Or - to keep it light, I usually say I plan to write in the name of my dog -- he'd be really good!

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David N. Friedman,
February 24, 2008 9:21 PM

An easy call

Yes, Lori, you should become a citizen since you live in America, you married an American and your children are Americans. Since you are living as a veritable citizen, you should make it official and this is a pretty easy call.

On the matter of politics, you are right to tread lightly since this can be a potential problem. If your audience understood that your affections were with one party and not neutral, it could affect their yiddishchiet if they disagreed with you. As a businessman, I try my best to hide my complete feelings unless I know I am in "safe" company. This is called tactful and not dishonest.

However, there are issues in the political domain which may require your commentary and I believe you should not be shy about expressing your opinion concerning how Judaism views such issues, even if this is controversial and could potentially offend people.

Such commentary should be handled carefully and I sense, if some advocate is pushing you to the wall, you can demonstrate tact by indicating that this is merely one issue where party x has it more right than wrong.

So please tell us all when you have become "citizen Lori."

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Zissi,
February 24, 2008 7:32 PM

Go for it

Go for it. Go all the way and commit-you live here, work here-you might as well do everything else that a citizen has to do.

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Mark Douglas Obenour,
February 24, 2008 6:50 PM

Don't Deny yourself the benefits of becoming American!

Dear Lori,I enjoy your videos each week teaching a new lesson. I would hate to see younot avail yourself of the benefits ofbecoming an American, especially when your children are dual citizens. My wife ultimately decided to have her two children who were Canadian citizens to become Americans as they were born in Canada. We have not regretted the decision one bit. You can't get help from human services or other services If you are not American. From studying Judaism we know this ultimately is not our home, no matter which country we live in. Home in this life is literally where we hang our hat. We know from the study of Judaism that we are only travelers and pilgrims on this earth and we are in this physical existance to perform a mission only we can do that has been assigned by Hashem and to learn and overcome our shortcomings in the process. I would hate to see you deprive yourself of the benefits of being a dual citizen if that is available to you! Go for it! Don't let the politics of partisan Washington D.C. turn you off to the U.S.A., but I did like your idea of putting a sign on your door, Please check your politics at the door. I would say "please leave your politics outside the door". My son and I are asthmatic with allergies. I put a NO SMOKING sign on my door. I told my friends I don't mind If you smoke just please do it outside where it will not bother my son and I. When I worked with smokers I made sure my co-workers got time for their smoke breaks even during a busy and trying day. I even married a courteous smoker, who never smokes inside around me or my son. Politics can be overcome by the politically courteous, just assmokers and non-smokers can get along.I will tune in to your videos whether you are Canadian, American, or Israilite (or all 3). My mother alwaystold me Don't let the A##Holes spoil your day. I Concur. Best wishes. Obey ; )

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Marie,
February 24, 2008 5:18 PM

I too, am proud to live here....

and I would be proud to share citizenship with Canada. Americans are not welcomed in many places aroung the globe. However, there is pride in her citizens, and millions have left their homeland for good to come here for religious, personal, political and various other facets of freedom. We are not a perfect country, we don't have all the answers to the worlds ills, much less our own, but we are "one nation under G-d" and we welcome you.

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esther e,
February 24, 2008 5:07 PM

being american rocks definately become one of us true freedom will then will be dhown!!

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Bracha Leah,
February 24, 2008 4:26 PM

rationalizing

I think you should, Abba thinks you should, Shoshana, Zev, Moshie, and Malkie do to. Remember, when you try to rationalize why you shouldn't, your'e just making "rational lies":)

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Sara,
February 24, 2008 4:22 PM

I think it's in your best interest to become an American, even if you don't vote. Lord knows what will happen to immigration policies in the future, and you don't want to get shut out inadvertently. I'm an American, born and raised, and have made the decision not to vote, for various reasons. People like to yell at me for it, but it's my decision, not theirs.

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Joe,
February 24, 2008 3:36 PM

If you are proud to live here, you should become a citizen

Shalom Lori,

I think that you should become a citizen. You don't have to chose to be a democrat or republican, you can choose to be an independent. You don't have to vote in elections also. The reason you should become a citizen is to show your love for America and the fact that it supports Israel.

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Sharon,
February 24, 2008 2:28 PM

Your citizenship won't pose a problem

You'll just joke with people that since you can't stay off the topic of religion, you're compensating by staying out of politics in your conversations. I am a dual citizen Israeli/ American who happened to be in the US in the year 2000. I was sure I knew who would be the better candidate and looking back I realize that I was very wrong. I think that it's very hard to know, so even though I got my proxy ballot for the primaries, I decided not to vote. G-d runs this world and there are a lot more ways I can influence the world than through the ballot where since my last residence was California, I'm not making a difference anyway.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 2:12 PM

a number of weeks ago, you said that it's ok to lie if someone asks you a question that's none of their business. there is a good reason why one votes in a private booth- because it's nobody's business who you vote for! so become a citizen, and if anybody asks, you caneither tell them it's not for them to know, or you can omit the fact that you became a citizen and continue to be a neutral canadian.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 1:31 PM

a kosher woman

a kosher woman does her husband's will. If your husband thinks that you should be a citizen then you probably should.

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Gavriel,
February 24, 2008 12:19 PM

Yes I also think you should and keep teaching about Torah and G-d. As an American it would be an honor to share my citizenship with you.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 12:06 PM

Become an American

Please become an American. We need you and want you.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 11:57 AM

What does your gut say?

I think women should listen to their gut much more than they are taught to do. Hashem gave us extra intuition. Your gut will never lead you wrong.

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Rosen,
February 24, 2008 10:15 AM

political tensions vs. unification

When people cross the border from Mexico, they are not well-respected here because they are not always willing to speak English, and tend to be considered as illegal immigrants. With Canada, it's a greyer picture because more people from Canada know how to speak English (and French). So, Lori, why not go for dual citizenship for both the US and Canada? It would certainly be more diplomatic and unifying. I have a cousin who has dual citizenship between the US and Israel. Of course, there is likely a long bureaucratic process involved to make your citizenship status permanent, but it probably would be easier for you since you know English better than those who cross the border from Mexico to help the economy to some degree, but often erode Americans from working with jobs they most likely CAN do - forget about what Americans won't do, because it's all about attitude...As for voting for either a democrat and republican to get into the White House, many consider Obama to be a uniter, McCain a "straight-talker" which hasn't always settled in well for most of the American public since we've had that political sameness in Washington for the past 7 years under a president who calls himself a "compassionate conservative" leaving no child left behind, but falls short on his promises getting distracted by Iraq and fighting a "war on terror" that either may or may not exist globally. I know that Israel is better prepared for such terrorism in seeking those who look suspicious, as opposed to toothcombing/searching everyone. All in all, Lori, I can see that you have good diplomacy among Canada, the US, and Israel, so I don't see any reason why you shouldn't apply for dual (or triple) citizenship. And, assuming you register to vote on time, I hope you vote for someone who works for the needs of the country, not just his/her own needs. Remember this election happens to be the most significant one in the past 40 years. A country's citizens usually know what they want out of their leaders usually more than the leaders know themselves. Thus, a government that listens to the needs of the citizens helps keep western civilization still going.

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Ariella,
February 24, 2008 9:42 AM

Come join us in Israel!

Become Israeli- every Jew counts!

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 9:04 AM

Doing the "right" thing

There is only one way to do the "right" thing. Ask your Rav. Only his answers are politics-free.

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Dominic Borg,
February 24, 2008 8:57 AM

Yes, I think you should

Because you can have dual citizenhip (I am Maltese and Canadian) it helps that you bear responsibility to put your input in the direction of the Country you are living ; one vote counts! If you had to give up your Canadian, then for sure:NO WAY. You have contributed a lot with your knowldge and inspirational charismatic insights. A Job well done and with love. You speak from your heart and your head. Keep it up. Thanks for your service towards a better world. May Hashem bless you and yours: Shalom.Fr Dominic Borg,ocd

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 8:55 AM

Your Talk Last Week Has the Answer

Last week you spoke about mens' "tribal loyalty" to their home sports team ("Men, Sports & Synagogue"). Washington politics is the exact same syndrome - tribal loyalty. You can explain that to anyone who asks you about who you will vote for - and then feel freer to opt in for USA citizenship.

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Yehoshua,
February 24, 2008 8:53 AM

Here's how I relate to you dilema...

I am a US citizen. When I was living in America, I voted like every good citizen voted. But do you know whom I voted for? Whoever was supposedly good for Israel. Nothing else mattered at all. I'm not telling anyone what to do. But if I was at a dinner table in Washington dc and we got around to talking politics, I'd pop in with, "Do you think that's good for Israel, though?" If the answer was affirmative, I'd say-- "You're my kind of guy". Democrat, republican, independent--- didn't matter. Did the guy identify with Israel? That was the criterion. In the end, of course, I voted with my feet and finally got here. American citizenship never mattered to me. Israel mattered. Of course today it's much more complex-- because EVEN IN ISRAEL no body seems to know what's good for Israel. So what would we expect from Americans?! Anyway, I suppose none of this helps you decide what to do. It it's any conselation, just remember that here is Israel, that political ID problem is often even more profound than where you live. Any why not? Here it's not just money and ego. Here it's Torah or no Torah, settlements or shrinking into nothingness, life or death.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 8:11 AM

don't change

Dear Lori

You and your family have a big zechus in all your holy work.

As someone who has a tremedous influence on people, you should not change, as you can show others taht " this is not the most important thing in the world" and they should judge you for what you are not which party you belong to htzlacha from the UK

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 7:34 AM

Hi Lori, I live in Sweden, and here it's concidered rude to ask people about who they vote for. It's private. Maybe you just could tell people that you would like to keep that confidential.

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Aaron,
February 24, 2008 7:05 AM

I think, You've answered your own question...

Lori,I listen to your Video Blog often. You teach some nice messages. Anyways, you mentioned in one of your videos that if someone is being nosy - or asking questions that are 'none of their business' - than you are in fact permitted to lie for the sake of your privacy. In that case, Even if you do become American - you can still use your "I'm Canadian" response to stay neutral.(-:

Now with the neutrality issue out of the way - I think you should become an American citizen for the following reasons: 1)you live there 2)you will make your husband happy.3)you will make your kids happy.3)you will influence the American elections and make a difference.4)Depending on where you travel you will now have 3 passports to choose from - this always makes things easier. 5)when you finally come back home to Israel and people call you an "Amerikai" you wont need to respond by saying "I am canadian"

I think there are enough pros here to make a decision.

I hope this helps you,Lori, Almost American. (-:

FYI - I am a Canadian -married to an American Living in Israel.

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Anonymous,
February 24, 2008 6:50 AM

do it

I think if you live in this country, you should vote, and be willing to do jury duty, etc...etc...go for it!

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Alejandro,
February 24, 2008 5:21 AM

Tax

Dear Lori

Fear enough to care about the political view, but I think you should also consider the tax aspect of becoming an American... Politics is something that will follow you in the USA in Israel in Venezuela... but American Tax... good luck...

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peter kraynik,
February 24, 2008 5:21 AM

Neutral

Have duel citizenship. Perhaps as a citizen of the U.S.; as I, be a "no party", in reguards to voting. This way you can vote any party in the general election. In other words, you vote for the person, not the party. However you can not vote in the primary, because that is party related. It is possible that no matter who a person votes for, it is G-D who decides will be a leader, to fulfill HIS plan.