Anyone else sex life suck?

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cassieboca wrote:

Since getting pregnant our sex life totally sucks. First trimester I wasn’t pretty sick so I think my husband was just overly sweet and knew I felt awful. But now, second trimester is here and I feel so much better... but it’s like his libido is totally shot. Anyone else?

Honestly.. my sex life is amazing.. was like that with my first too. Until a few weeks before birth then sex drive went right down.. poor hubby lol barely got any before delivery then no sex for 6 weeks 😂

Sex?? What is this sex you are talking about? Lol. I’ve been so tired and sick and my husband works nights most of the time we hardly see each other except for dinner. Plus we have a 3 year old. We didn’t even have sex for this March baby...we did ivf! Poor hubby...he’s a good sport about it though. Things will improve and get back to normal soon. 😊

Haha yes! First trimester I was so nervous to have sex that I didn’t really want to, now that I have a bit of a bump going I find it to just be too uncomfortable but we try to do it once every week or two before I get TOO big. Hub thinks he will be like Seth Rogen on “Knocked Up” - scared to poke the baby haha! I doubt we’ll have sex at all past the 6 or 7 month mark

I had about 2 weeks where my sex Drive was up. Now? I feel like I’ve been so moody and sensitive that sex is the last thing I want to do. Plus DH has been working 14 hour days so his patience is thin too. 😔

I've been cramping for the last couple weeks and avoiding it we're usually a very active couple but we finally had successful IVF after 5 years TTC so i'm being cautious. I wanted to wait until my apt monday before we did anything but I was feeling ok today so I told him just to be gentle. I haven't really been into it lately but I still let him get his satisfaction. I've also been very short of breath so I basically let him do everything cause I literally can't do anything without being winded. it's not the best sex but I don't want to deprive him. He's amazing so I'll suck it up for him!!

You are not alone. I feel like I'm the opposite of everyone that has commented so far. The last two weeks, my sex drive came back but DH seems to not want anything to do with me. He says that he doesn't want to hurt the baby (no matter how many times I tell him that's not going to happen). He works 14+ hour days, but even on his days off, he doesn't initiate or anything. I've practically had to beg. I can't help but feel like it's me. I'm bloated, hormonal, and fell EXTREMELY unattractive. His lack of interest isn't helping.

First trimester it was me not wanting any...the exhaustion and morning sickness were awful. Now that I’m in the second trimester my husband is weirded out by the small baby bump so it looks like no sex for me!! 🙃🙃🙃

So far I’ve not been in the mood much but go with it about once a week at least. Last time I was all about sex for much of the 2nd and 3rd trimesters but he hit a bit of a wall the last 1 or 2 months. I think it was because the baby was really active. I eventually asked him and he said he felt a little weird about it, which I understood but it left me a it frustrated for a while.

Yeah, no sex here since we found out. I’ve just not been into it at all. I have IBS, and all this progesterone is making it worse. I’m either crampy with IBS issues, nauseous, or plain exhausted. Poor man. I have noticed I’m a little better this week so I might give it a shot this weekend... ?

My husband and I are newlyweds, so I've been trying so so hard to keep things going in the bedroom. We've been having sex a few times a week. It's been HARD! I have been so sick, tired, and sensitive down there, and he doesn't seem to understand that he needs to be gentle and leave the freaking boobs alone! Then yesterday we tried a quicky, and I just couldn't make it happen. I got slapped with "Wow you can't even get wet for your man." Guess how likely I am to keep trying to make it happen? Ya. Not. I am SO done with sex right now!

Yes my husband is scared he will hurt the baby. I even had him ask the OB so he heard it from a doctor. He is still the best hubby, he cares so much about not doing anything wrong that it kills the mood :(