This week we are talking "resiliency". First let’s talk definition. Resilience is the ability to “bounce back” when faced with hardship and challenges.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself this week:

// Do I consider myself resilient?

// How do I react during trials and adversity?

// Do I come up with solutions rather than being reactive and getting into scarcity (lack) mindset?

// Is this something I need to work on?

// How is it affecting me in my business?

First, I want to share a few tips that have worked for myself and my clients:

1. First know that resiliency isn’t something you automatically have. It’s a skill that is developed over time through hard work and dedication.

2. The best way to start paving the way to a resilient mindset is to start looking at the world different. We all know that mindset is really perspective, the way you view the world and the situations happening around you. You have have a CHOICE. You can scream and cry when you’re stuck in traffic OR you can make the most of the time you have in the car (since there is nothing you can do to change it) AND look at it as possibly a detour in the road to protect you from something. When I worked as a social worker in bad neighborhoods this was something I learned quickly. And specifically, because an appointment was canceled I literally was saved from being shot in the head. I have example after example of ways God has protected my life by not allowing things to go as I planned.

3. Ask yourself, how have my past disappointments and heartaches, shaped me into who I am today? Know that no matter how painful and trying your life has been, that it is possible to “bounce back”. I love how Carl Lentz quotes “You have a CHOICE. You can allow your pain to become your PRISON or your PLATFORM”. Which have you decided on? I know it’s not easy to see the bright side of pain, but the first step is saying it outloud and then vowing to practice acceptance around.

4. Acceptance does NOT mean approval or agreement. I do not approve or agree with the painful things I experienced in my lifetime, but I can accept that they happened and MOVE on. I can take that pain and use it as a tool to empathize and understand others better. I can turn that pain into a passion to fire my mission.

Make sense?

+++++We all have a choice…….we can get back up even stronger or stay down++++

Now I'm gunna get a little personal! Not because it’s fun for me, but I believe it’s important to use past pains as a platform to give encouragement when it’s appropriate. Most of my life I had a pretty crappy mindset. I experienced a lot of emotional pain, disappointments, people pleasing, and self pity. I was always in the mindset of “why does EVERYTHING always happen to ME. I can never catch a break. The world and my life are just against me.”

Ok not cool and not certainly not an ideal way to go about your life. I walked around (or should I say wandered) in a “lack” mindset. In 2009 while I was getting my Masters at Columbia U I realized I was sick and tired of living this way. I called up health services and asked to see a therapist. Over the next 12 weeks I learned skills and ways of shifting my mindset that I was never exposed to. I had no idea this was something that could be changed. From that day on I accepted the past pain I experienced and decided to not allow it to control my life any further.

I am telling you this because I want to see you succeed and stop staying stuck in lack mindset loves! We all have a CHOICE. If you want to bounce back after hardship you need to continually work on your mindset. And remember, mindset is not something that you “master” and move on. It’s something you continually need to nurture each and every day.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Have you overcome a lack mindset or is this something you know you’d like to work on? Do any of the tips or story hit home or confirm something you've been feeling for some time? I’d love to hear your feedback and even experience with this. Please share below in the comments.

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What are those things that are stressing you out today?
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Just a little love nudge and reminder for you........ and you’re probably not going to like what I have to say,
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Most likely, those things are the things you begged God for this time last year.
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BOOM
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Puts things into perspective right?
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So take a moment to THANK God for the BLESSINGS He’s placed in your hands today💛
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Happy happy Tuesday loves!!
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Today I have a simple Q for you👉🏼👉🏼
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💡What does building a business of freedom💡 mean to you?
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I’ll go first!
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Having the freedom to continually reinvent and adapt the business as life changes✨✨
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I’ve found that right when I get comfortable and am ready to sit back and cruise, that’s when I receive a divine download or am forced (in a good way!!) to rethink the way that I’m serving.
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It’s all about doing what works best for you in THIS SEASON and being adaptable when things are shifting.
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This time last year I was praying for the responsibilities in my hands today AND in order to accept those gifts, other things needed to be given up. For some this may feel hard, but remember, it’s for a SEASON.
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Last year I was able to serve almost a dozen women at a time through VIP coaching because I had the time. And this season, in order to take on new blessings, (book, baby, hubs new biz), I needed to strategize and find ways to lead and support my ladies in group settings—my Mastermind and through mentoring mamas looking to make residual income to spend more time with their babies✌🏼
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As you can see, doing the uncomfortable and giving up one thing, brought even more blessings and FREEDOM in my life.
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I’d love to hear from you now! What does building a business of freedom look like for you?!
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Happy Monday friends✌🏼
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We’ve just been soaking up this long weekend with the hubs home. Lots of family time, from the kids museum to play dates and friends over to visiting family, pancakes at the diner and the girls seeing jellyfish at the aquarium for the first time. My favorite was the seals!
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Was chatting with the hubs in the car about how fortunate we are in this day and age— how anyone can start a business as long as you have a phone and some free WiFi to connect to.
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We talked about how it’s not always easy not having a strict 9-5 schedule, but working here and there in little pockets of time is just the best way for me to run a business for our family today. And I actually enjoy it this way because there’s never a pressure to stay within a confined schedule. .
I’m curious today who my ladies are!!
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A...Have you been running a business for some time, but craving more ease and time freedom in your life? Maybe you’re feeling weighed down by the responsibility and it no longer feels fun.
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B...Are you running a side hustle while at your 9-5, praying you can bring in enough income to leave that corporate job and take on your dream full time.
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C...You’re either at a 9-5 or a stay at home mom wanting to do something more. Either earn more income to start creating a 9-5 exit plan or learn how to create extra money to provide for your family or just have some extra spending cash to splurge a little.
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D...You’re feeling perfect right where you are!
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Which one are you? I’ve been in all of these categories, starting as a broke social worker wanting to make a little extra cash to shop! I started by hosting Chloe + Isabel jewelry parties to now having multiple bizs, always researching ways to create more with what I have to make the biggest impact.
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So today, which letter are you?? Drop your letter below and tell us where you wanna be!
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