It’s the crazy time of year in the world of travel softball. As a coach I receive numerous emails, texts and phone calls daily concerning tryouts for the coming year. Every year that begins earlier and earlier. “How many spots do you have open?” “Are you looking for a shortstop?” “What’s your tourney schedule looking like?” “My daughter is an all-conference superstar in high school; just wanted to let you know that before tryouts.” “Can my daughter get a private tryout?”

That last question is probably the most popular. I get it. Most travel clubs conduct their tryouts during the same dates and often times, so it’s difficult or impossible to make them all. I had a relatively easy time as a parent with my youngest daughter with tryouts. But for my middle daughter, it was more stressful. We want what’s best for our baby girls, so I remind myself each year of the anxiety parents and players are experiencing.

Since the last post was a bit negative, I thought I would write a little something more typical of this blog. Every year I meet with my 16u team’s parents and discuss the college recruiting process as well as the team and club rules. I encourage them to read some of my previous posts such as, “When Parents Wave Red Flags.” We’ve just finished our second tourney (Michigan’s first weekend is June 14-17) and my parents have been a pleasure, as have the players.

Get to the field on time, say good bye to their parents, meet me at my car, carry the equipment together to the field, warm up, play the game, brief post-game meeting, carry equipment back to my car and then they can talk to their parents. No helicoptering near the dugout. Take it easy on the umpires (minor chirping only….LOL). They get it. And that makes my job a lot easier. No red flags waving so far.

Last weekend the high school season ended with the semi-finals and finals taking place, while the official beginning of summer travel softball began for Michigan teams. It can be very chaotic for coaches, parents and players, since in Michigan players are not allowed to play travel softball until their high school seasons have officially ended. I had players taking exams and attending their school banquets Thursday and Friday, missing our pool games and two players playing in championship games for their varsity teams.

Well, this new required training was concerning sexual abuse, mandatory reporting of harassment and abuse and bullying.

I had to borrow players from our 14u team or my 16u team would not have been able to play. Next year, our A teams in 14u, 16u and 18u will not be playing in a tournament that first weekend. It’s just too stressful. Instead, we’ll get our teams together, divvy them up, scrimmage and have a big cookout. That is something we have been doing in the fall and it’s a great experience.

While that will help relieve much of the stress of ensuring we have enough players between the three teams to be able to play, there are other concerns that continue to come up each year. My team competes in ASA (USA), PGF and USA Elite Select. Each has their requirements in order for your team to be eligible to play in their tourneys. It takes an incredible amount of time registering your team and rosters each year. Birth certificates, parents have to login and approve their players, Captain U, ACE Certifications for ASA coaching and team insurance, concussion training, etc..

But, apparently that’s not enough. This year there’s an additional requirement from ASA (USA), which must be met in order to carry our team insurance. Last week our coaches received emails stating we must take the online Safe Sport training. And it had to be completed by June 22. “Hmm, I wonder what kind of training this is,” I thought. Well, this new required training was concerning sexual abuse, mandatory reporting of harassment and abuse and bullying.

In recent years I've seen more softball players experience burnout. Last year there were 3 (varsity level) players from our club who had the ability to play at the collegiate level, but instead chose to quit playing travel ball. I'm not sure if they're even going to play for their schools this year.

Our High School tryouts are the 2nd week of March. After that, their next break won't be until the middle of October. Think about that!

It pains me to see players go through this, because it's mostly preventable. Yet more and more fellow coaches tell me of high school aged talented players who've burned out and quit the game. There are many factors that lead to this such as year round practicing & training, college camps and tournaments.

I read this article today, “Year-Round Sports: Growing Old and Wearing Thin?”, and felt compelled to write about it. Those outside of the travel sports (softball) world often do not understand why parents, players and coaches do it. While the author offers an outsider’s view to travel sports, she does not do so in a condescending manner and brings up some good points and questions. I would encourage you to read her article before my response.

You have tryouts, pick your team, collect money, have a few practices and jump right back into playing tournaments. It’s like summer softball never ended. That is except for the change in weather, girls going back to school and the constant player availability problems.

The sport has grown so much that some teams play as many tournaments in the fall as they do during the summer. You try to determine which tournaments to attend based on cost, exposure opportunities and the talent level of your team. After that is figured out, because they fill up quickly, you pay and register your team. Then it is time to practice. Easy enough, right?

Photo of our club inter-squad scrimmage day in the fall of 2016 (16u & 18u)

I’ve been putting off writing this article for a few reasons. It will likely be misinterpreted by some people, while possibly offending others. Regardless, I can’t put if off any longer. My goal for this post is to help parents make the best decisions for their daughters and families concerning their options on playing travel softball. I will even share with you how much I paid for my youngest daughter's travel softball career.

First of all, I am a strong advocate for travel softball. Two of my daughters played travel softball at different levels for years. That is where they learned the game, fundamental and advanced skills, how to handle failure and success, how to deal with getting cut, how to earn playing time and to compete against other teams. They did not learn these things in the recreation league and certainly not in school.

I want to help you by sharing my thoughts on college softball camps. Through the years my daughter attended too many to count or name and now she works them as a member of her college softball team. Today as a 16U travel coach I am encouraging my players to attend camps.

Which ones? How many? What types? Why? Those are some of the most common questions I’m asked. I’ll answer these and more in this article, which I hope you will share with other parents in your softball circles.

Another weekend of the 2015 summer travel softball season has just passed. And with it, sadly, more stories of the unbelievable behavior of parents. From a coach jumping a fence to break up a fight to a mom using her vehicle to block the tournament gate, you cannot make up the kind of lunacy that happens all too frequently at youth sporting events.

I had a long conversation with a couple of Division 1 college coaches this weekend who reiterated, with emphasis, what I’ve been told over recent years: PARENTS ARE BEING RECRUITED TOO!