Suspicious wives are increasingly hiring so-called "honey-trap girls" to purposely come on to their husbands to test their commitments to their marriages.

According to a report in the Melbourne Herald Sun, women are paying licensed investigators to flirt with their husbands to see how they will react.

"It's a very rewarding job. I love it," Amber confessed to the paper. She had just spent time with a client's husband in a bar. The man, married four years with two young children, gave Amber his telephone number before the evening was over.

"I never let them kiss me, and it's not entrapment because I never ask them for anything," she points out. Entrapment, where the woman initiates contact with the man, is illegal in the area Amber plies her trade.

The woman explained she "smiled in a flirtatious way" when the man first entered the bar.

According to the report, clients are paying thousands of dollars for such fidelity checks. In Europe, the Australian paper said, a company called The Honey Trap is advertising for attractive recruits.

Don Doolan, president of the Association of Investigators and Security Professionals, told the Herald Sun demand for such services is booming in Australia.

"These techniques have always been used, but in the past 10 years there has probably been a five-fold increase," he said.

The process involves getting the attention of the "target" and then waiting for him to make the first move. Doolan says that often happens in a matter of minutes.

"Most blokes think below their belly button," Doolan told the paper.

The manager of another service, Kirri Cleaver of Gotcha Enterprises, says 40 percent of the targeted men do not tell the female investigator they are in a committed relationship.

One investigator shared an even worse statistic.

"In our experience, subjects are innocent in only about 10 percent of cases," Dalla Riva is quoted as saying.

Said Cleaver:"Women don't want to waste their time, or be used or have their heart broken. You buy a house, you're going to have it checked for rising damp, but you get into a relationship and nobody asks any questions."

If I had a sweetheart who pulled that sort of stunt on me and I found out about it, she'd get the Righteous Boot Out The Door in a heartbeat. Relationships are supposed to be founded on trust. I could not live with any woman who bore that sort of distrust toward me. Such creatures can NEVER be satisfied with ANY honest answer, no matter how forthright you are!

That said, I wouldn't mind unleashing a few of these "honey traps" on Bill Clinton and the whole gaggle of Dumbocrat candidates...

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posted on 12/21/2003 2:19:13 AM PST
by Prime Choice
(Leftist opinions may be free, but I still feel like I'm getting ripped off every time I receive one.)

I see no problem with this, quite frankly. To quote from the example cited in the article:

"She had just spent time with a client's husband in a bar. The man, married four years with two young children, gave Amber his telephone number before the evening was over."

Remain faithful to your marriage vows; don't let Mr. Winky do all of your thinking for you; and you have nothing whatsoever to worry about. In this, as in so many other instances: constancy and a few baseline moral standards are their own rewards, ultimately.

I agree that they are some folks out there (men AND women) whose suspicions can never be calmed, but in that event you're probably being subjected to some nasty controlling efforts by the individual anyway and should be out of the relationship.

For everyone else, you're either committed to the relationship or ya ain't. Judging from the experiences of these "honey-trap girls", I'd say there's a lot of uncommitted folks fibbing to their sweethearts.

If I had a sweetheart who pulled that sort of stunt on me...she'd get the Righteous Boot Out The Door in a heartbeat... I could not live with any woman who bore that sort of distrust toward me. Such creatures can NEVER be satisfied with ANY honest answer, no matter how forthright you are!

I have found that women who have such a childish proclivity to distrust are themselves distrustful.

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posted on 12/21/2003 2:35:21 AM PST
by Chief_Joe
(From where the sun now sits, I will fight on -FOREVER!)

If a woman hires one of these girls, and the guy is guilty, they deserve each other. I can't imagine a marriage based on anything but complete trust. What a stupid waste of time, if you commit your life to someone that you don't REALLY know.

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posted on 12/21/2003 4:01:16 AM PST
by ovrtaxt
( http://www.fairtax.org ** God may not be a Republican, but Satan is definitely a Democrat!)

When various studies have shown that 10-15% of all children born to married women have a different biological father than the husband, one can safely say that this is an issue for both genders. Just imagine what the NOW gang and other feminazis would do if male models were hired to check out the faithfulness of girlfriends and wives.

re: For everyone else, you're either committed to the relationship or ya ain't. Judging from the experiences of these "honey-trap girls", I'd say there's a lot of uncommitted folks fibbing to their sweethearts.)))

The stats might be a bit tweaked by the fact that if a woman is suspicious enough to hire cheat-bait...she probably already *knows*...

That wife must be a truly charming woman. Through a deceitful subterfuge she has found out that her husband has very little affection for an insecure, deceitful woman and will offer his phone number like a rope thrown to a drowning man to the first pretty thing that bats her eyelashes. If she can't hold onto that man I doubt she will hold onto any other. Its a whole lot easier to get a man than to hold on to one.

(BTW, I have been married 25 yrs to the most interesting woman I have ever met and there isn't any woman on earth who is going get me from my wife. Its not a great feat when you are truly in love.)

The man, married four years with two young children, gave Amber his telephone number before the evening was over.

Back when I knew an attractive flight attendant (stewardess) who used to give pesky guys, hitting on her for a telephone number, the # of a bug extermination firm. Maybe married guys in Aussie land should do the same thing ...

Nothing good can possibly happen when a member of the opposite sex is overly friendly at the first meeting. 50+ years experience speaking. This new form of temptation, the tattletale temptress, is particularly hideous because it is unleashed by a supposed loved one.

IMHO, It's far better to found that relationship upon faith in God first, then by faith an impersonal love for the spouse in premarriage courtship and then personal love and devotion as a couple in marriage through faith in God.

In Scripture, God never tempts anybody. One indication that one is dealing with a person without faith is if they continually tempt to sin. Sex within marriage isn't sinful per se, but this tactic indicates the wife bases her relationship upon trust rather than faith. It's doomed from the start.

Exposing the marriage to only trust, provides avenues for mistrust in any contrived thought or argument which has begun on a false premise.

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