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Go Ahead: Tell Him [or her] How You Feel

Today I want to take a second to talk about telling your crush how you feel. I am the speak my mind kind of lady. I always have been and I hope I always will be. So when it comes to relationships, naturally, this is something that comes out. If someone doesn't know how I feel about something, it's more likely than not that they just weren't listening because I am ALWAYS speaking my mind.

Whenever I hear someone talking about unrequited love, or the fact that they haven't told someone their heart beats for that they like them, I am always in awe. This is partly because if I tried to keep my feeling in, I would explode. So when I see someone able to keep it in, I am like, "how do you do that?!?!?!"

But the truth of the matter is, there are a lot of flames that are put out simply because no one fanned the fire. I am a fire fanner when it comes to love, and if there is nothing ventured there is nothing gained. It's the same in business, really, if you think about it.

When it comes to love and relationships, I am an advocate of feeling the fear, but taking that leap of faith anyway. Why not?

With love, you will sometimes be disappointed--that is a fact of life that no one escapes at one time or another. There are times that person will say "no" or they won't return your feelings. But other times, they will. By staying silent, or waiting for another person to make a move, you might be passing up something really and truly great because of fear.

A lot of people like to sit back and wait. We all have different reasons for doing this at different times. In love, one of the major reasons for waiting or playing coy (for ladies at least) is that we want our Prince Charming to come and sweep us off our feet. We want that fairytale that we have been conditioned to expect. You are waiting, essentially, for a Disney movie. And the fact of the matter is we are a long way from Disney in the modern world.

When you want something in life, sometimes you have to go out and get it. That may require you to act fearlessly. I did not say you have to actually BE fearless--people who act fearlessly may still have fear--but you must tally fourth as though you are sure.

Another argument often heard is the "I don't want to ruin a friendship" thing. This is partially legitimate. If you have a great friendship with someone, it can be hard to risk. But I have heard it said time and again that true friendships are a unmovable force...and think on this a moment--have you ever really lost a true friend? Perhaps you have lost fair weather friends, shallow friends, mean friends, or momentary friends. But not once have I ever lost a TRUE friend.

So, if you are secretly pining away and wondering if you should confess your feelings to someone, then I would have to go with "YES!" Honestly is a great and wonderful thing. You never know where it will lead. Possibilities are unlimited in this world; people, however, tend to limit themselves an awful lot because of fear of rejection and the unknown.

I say, around the corner from every rejection is another opportunity. Go and find out what that might be!!!