A recent project in school required my kid to print the lyrics of a song and write about them. He chose Sam Smith’s Stay with Me and explained that he likes it because it’s about needing love and affection. In his explanation, my son referenced ‘his girlfriend’, to which my partner said ‘Actually, boyfriend – Sam Smith is gay’. To which my kid said ‘What? I didn’t know that.’

We then had a short convo about assumptions (why would anyone assume Sam Smith is straight or gay in the first place?) and how this song is universal and can apply to anyone no matter what their sexual orientation. The song is also a goodie for talking about how men are emotional, want (and deserve) love and affection, and do not always seek one night stands.

I’m so glad he loves Sam Smith but oh. my. god. it kills me that he needs to listen to the same songs over and over and over again.
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