Like vs. attraction

Getting girls attracted to you is actually very simple. Generally and naturally, girls react on an urge or a whim based on the present circumstance. Some might call this a “pussy tingle” in which their vagina leads to them act in a certain manner or get on board with an idea at the time, with no thought about future consequences or what the situation will lead to.

I’m sure many of you guys who are reading this have some experience in getting girls attracted to you. Attraction is something that happens with a short term display of confidence, bravado or being good looking. Whatever works for you, works for you. They all come with the same result.

However, attraction doesn’t mean that you’re going to land the girl in bed or get her to come on a date with you. There are certain other elements that come into play that will make a girl like you enough to follow up on the attraction.

As guys, we have an ideal girl in our heads about what we’d love to settle down with. Whether you’re looking to have sex with lots of girls and only aim for a certain quality, or you’d like a girlfriend that has a certain look about her, then you have an ideal. Other girls you may be attracted to in some way or another, but she doesn’t have enough to pull you into opening her or asking her out (except for you spam-crazy PUAs on Oxford Street).

It’s no different for girls too. As much as people make fun of girls on this side of the internet for wanting the knight in shining armour, there is a certain guy that a girl will just completely fall for without any effort on his part. Broad shoulders? Chiseled jaw? Tall? Short? Something about you will make a certain girl illogically and irrationally fall for you based on your looks.

For me, I love big breasts. I love toned legs and I love those “cat eyes” that some girls have. The cat eyes are enough, but big breasts can send me gaga. I’m a sucker for them, much in the way large biceps might send a girl into a frenzy.

The cat eyes of a previous conquest

That certain type is enough for me to be attracted to a girl, and like her enough to approach her and say hi.

Whether she likes me back is a completely different thing. I can certainly ensure that she gets attracted to me with a series of different factors such as telling her about my life, displaying my natural confidence and charisma, and complimenting her to the point her knees begin to give way.

I could have the best conversation of my life with that girl, get her number, and walk away feeling as though something great is going to happen with her, only to have her not reply to my message. What was it? Maybe the clothes I was wearing? Maybe I was too tall or not tall enough? Or maybe I wasn’t the right age.

In my opinion, it all goes back to ideals, and it certainly helps when I get rejected by a girl to think that something just quite didn’t click with her – in the same way I’ve spoken to a girl and not bothered sending her a message after getting her number.

A couple of months ago I had a conversation with a hot girl that I used to work with. She’s now a model and she confessed that she used to really like me when I was working with her, but I wasn’t at the right age (despite being 2 years older than her). It came as a surprise to me as I wasn’t particularly in good shape and I didn’t have much going for me back then (going on nearly 4 years ago), but it didn’t go anywhere because of my age.

Now, back in June, Jimmy was talking to a girl that he was having a really good conversation with. He told me that he didn’t feel as though it was going anywhere, despite her attraction to him, but as soon as he mentioned that he was in his mid-30s, “her eyes lit up like a firework display on Chinese New Year”.

The display of confidence worked to attract her, but without him telling her his age, she most likely wouldn’t have replied to his message after he got her number. It’s a simple thing like that, that won’t make a good chat with a girl into something more.

I’ve had girls tell me before that they would fuck me all night if they were single. One particular case was documented here but her boyfriend earns loads of money, almost 5 times what I was earning back then and I had a good salary, and it just wasn’t enough for her to do anything with me. She couldn’t justify trading the moneymaker for the guy that had her wet in her pants all night.

Had I earned more money than him? Well, I’m sure it would’ve been a different story. Had I been older when the model liked me? I’m sure I would’ve dated her.

The thing is, you can’t beat yourself up when a girl rejects you. They won’t ever tell you the real reason they have because they’re shithouses and will just not reply, but sometimes attraction just isn’t enough. Some girls can have their switches flicked really very easily, but they may only date white guys or they may only date black guys. It differs from person to person.

The best thing you can do is maximise your sexual market value by improving your life and making it easier for girls to like you, whether you’re looking for a quick fuck or you’d like a girlfriend. Alternatively, you can join the monkeys on Oxford Street that will just approach hundreds of girls. It’s up to you!

Yup. Totally true. Ironically, I find that often they just abotage themselves. Attraction is there, they give sublte cues for you that they’d like you to go to the party.. a heavy makeout on a dancefloor etc…grinding you…next day (social circle), they are nervous, put up that high value girl mask, reject a coffee invitation and you get kind of disgusted by this behaviour as well and it goes nowhere. Sometimes this may be genuine attraction loss in the process, but sometimes this is her inability to relate to you on honest level without alcohol, or maybe lack of aggresive leading on my side. But hot girls blow hot and cold…how do you solve these situations? Going strong for direct clarification of the situation – “the talk”, or do you accept this as rejection, or other solution? I’m talking about nines, FSU princesses, if we use this weird terminology.

You’ve got to remember with 9s and above, you’re fighting a lot of competition for her affections. Whether guys are genuinely trying to pull her or it’s just social media likes and favourites, then her attention is hard to keep more often than not.

A lot of times, it can be a lack of confidence on their part. I know a girl that looks quite hot when she has make-up on and dresses slutty to get attention from guys with her fake boobs popping out of her top. No matter how much fun she has in the bar or club, or how much a situation escalates, she won’t go home with anyone because she looks rotten without her make-up. She really needs to trust a guy in order to do so. Imagine her grinding on you in a club and kissing you passionately only to, without reason, say no to any more advances. Won’t even hand her number out. Girls are weird like that.

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“They won’t ever tell you the real reason they have because they’re shithouses and will just not reply..” Hehe – loved that one. I’ve talked with girls sometimes on why they did not like that guy who hit on her. Their reasons are strange – when it is something as clear as age or money, then it is frankly a rare treat. Most often it is a guy’s Beta frame and lack of Game that I can recognize. But of course you are talking here about the difference when you already make her panties wet, but she still rejects her.
Recently I had this 29yo lawyer in Warsaw – cute, full make-out, panties soaking wet for sure. I already made out with her in the club I met her. Then I went on another date with her and even more of the stuff. The Game was squarely in the lover category, because I told her I was leaving in 2 days. She was very much into me, but no bang. She will never tell me the reason for the non-bang, but it very well could be that she is 29 and single. In her mind she decided to try to get the future Husband in line. Would have worked with 2 more days probably, but on the other hand – who cares to put in so much work for a 29yo 6-7 (albeit very slim and younger looking)? On the other hand if you catch a woman on the right side of her fertile days, it gets a lot easier to convince her conscious brain to do nasty things with you right now.