Question about Custody

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and the father of my child left me for another woman when I was about 10-12 weeks pregnant. Our child was planned but he has yet to come to any doctors appts, ultrasounds, er visits due to complications and hasn't paid a dime for anything.. His reasoning,"it's called child support not pregnancy support." He says he's not involved because he can't Fu&@ing stand me and says he tempted to give up rights so he doesn't have to deal with me but he's afraid of what I might tell other people so he's wanting to take me to court for 50/50 custody. What are the chances hell get that, or any custody at all? I email him to keep him updated on my pregnancy but I get no responses now and I asked if he wanted to be in delivery and never got an answer, he denies our daughter as his and wants a paternity but when I asked if he was coming to the hospital to receive I again received no answer.. Help please!

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and the father of my child left me for another woman when I was about 10-12 weeks pregnant. Our child was planned but he has yet to come to any doctors appts, ultrasounds, er visits due to complications and hasn't paid a dime for anything.. His reasoning,"it's called child support not pregnancy support." He says he's not involved because he can't Fu&@ing stand me and says he tempted to give up rights so he doesn't have to deal with me but he's afraid of what I might tell other people so he's wanting to take me to court for 50/50 custody. What are the chances hell get that, or any custody at all? I email him to keep him updated on my pregnancy but I get no responses now and I asked if he wanted to be in delivery and never got an answer, he denies our daughter as his and wants a paternity but when I asked if he was coming to the hospital to receive I again received no answer.. Help please!

If he wont answer you and left you for another woman. I woild def. Cut him out of the picture. I know, myself, it would be hard to do but it sounds best. Dont put him on the b/c and if he really wants to bw involved he will but he doesnt seem like it. I Am trying to learn myself not to take junk from a stupid guy just because I am pregnant with his child(even though I am crazy about him and have been for years). I am sorry about your situation but congrats on your new baby. I am 15 weeks with my first and my babys father is being wishy washy now. Ugh men...

If he wont answer you and left you for another woman. I woild def. Cut him out of the picture. I know, myself, it would be hard to do but it sounds best. Dont put him on the b/c and if he really wants to bw involved he will but he doesnt seem like it. I Am trying to learn myself not to take junk from a stupid guy just because I am pregnant with his child(even though I am crazy about him and have been for years). I am sorry about your situation but congrats on your new baby. I am 15 weeks with my first and my babys father is being wishy washy now. Ugh men...

I know it's so frustrating, but it's even more annoying that he denies our planned daughter and the fact he's threatening custody. I did love him more than anything but if he can treat me the way he does now it concerns me that my daughter will get the same treatment and I should just cut all ties but do you think a judge will grant him custody?

I know it's so frustrating, but it's even more annoying that he denies our planned daughter and the fact he's threatening custody. I did love him more than anything but if he can treat me the way he does now it concerns me that my daughter will get the same treatment and I should just cut all ties but do you think a judge will grant him custody?

If you are worried ease your mind by not putting him on the birth certificate. You can still get child support. He will have to go to court and fight his way to get his name on the certificate and rights before he can do anything about fighting for custody. My bd threatened me with all that bs. My son is now two and the bd never followed through on any of his threats. They threaten you to upset you. So just ignore the threats. I have a male friend who spent 140 thousand on a lawyer to fight for custody and he didn't get much more than some extra days of visitation. And his baby's momma was not a saint. So don't worry. You're going to be alright.

If you are worried ease your mind by not putting him on the birth certificate. You can still get child support. He will have to go to court and fight his way to get his name on the certificate and rights before he can do anything about fighting for custody. My bd threatened me with all that bs. My son is now two and the bd never followed through on any of his threats. They threaten you to upset you. So just ignore the threats. I have a male friend who spent 140 thousand on a lawyer to fight for custody and he didn't get much more than some extra days of visitation. And his baby's momma was not a saint. So don't worry. You're going to be alright.

I am actually in the middle of a custody battle right now. My sons father left me when I was 34 weeks and we planned our DS too. So pathetic of these men to do this to us and our children. He is trying to get joint legal custody with me the primary custodian. I said F that. I have been the parent since day 1. He bailed out on his family, not me. So I am fighting for full custody. We go to court jan 17. I was nice like you and gave him the option to be in the delivery room and he did. I know that I was secretly hoping that would change his mind but it didn't at all. He still left. I'm sorry but if this man is being a total ass, why are you being so nice to him??? I feel like the emotions in pregnancy make us women make rash decisions. Stand up for yourself and don't try to force him to want to be there. It will do nothing but hurt you emotionally when he doesn't follow through as you want. If you don't put him on the bc, you will have I go to court to establish paternity to get child support. I put my sons father on the bc and also like an idiot gave my DS his last name, which I regret more than anything. My advice to you is don't let
Your hormones guide your decisions. Be honest with yourself and realize although you love this man he is a pos and you deserve better than that. Be strong. I know it's hard, trust me, I struggle with it everyday. He's denying your baby and not being a part of your pregnancy. Find a support group or support system. It helps a lot. If you need any advice feel free to contact me.

I am actually in the middle of a custody battle right now. My sons father left me when I was 34 weeks and we planned our DS too. So pathetic of these men to do this to us and our children. He is trying to get joint legal custody with me the primary custodian. I said F that. I have been the parent since day 1. He bailed out on his family, not me. So I am fighting for full custody. We go to court jan 17. I was nice like you and gave him the option to be in the delivery room and he did. I know that I was secretly hoping that would change his mind but it didn't at all. He still left. I'm sorry but if this man is being a total ass, why are you being so nice to him??? I feel like the emotions in pregnancy make us women make rash decisions. Stand up for yourself and don't try to force him to want to be there. It will do nothing but hurt you emotionally when he doesn't follow through as you want. If you don't put him on the bc, you will have I go to court to establish paternity to get child support. I put my sons father on the bc and also like an idiot gave my DS his last name, which I regret more than anything. My advice to you is don't let
Your hormones guide your decisions. Be honest with yourself and realize although you love this man he is a pos and you deserve better than that. Be strong. I know it's hard, trust me, I struggle with it everyday. He's denying your baby and not being a part of your pregnancy. Find a support group or support system. It helps a lot. If you need any advice feel free to contact me.

My advice would be to NEVER let your dd go with him. Ever. If you feel like he should be able to see her, he can come to you. Also, if your able, breast feed. I didn'tBreast feed exclusively (...and we half 50/50 custody...) but if you did it would make it harder for a judge to give him any custody. He sounds like an ass who probably won't even follow up with his court threats but if he does, good luck. If it makes you feel any better..my bd would say similar things to me but when dd was born it was love at first sight and now he's an above average daddy. Best of luck!!! Enjoy your pregnancy regardless of ANYTHING he does/says! You'll only be pregnant with this little girl once!

My advice would be to NEVER let your dd go with him. Ever. If you feel like he should be able to see her, he can come to you. Also, if your able, breast feed. I didn'tBreast feed exclusively (...and we half 50/50 custody...) but if you did it would make it harder for a judge to give him any custody. He sounds like an ass who probably won't even follow up with his court threats but if he does, good luck. If it makes you feel any better..my bd would say similar things to me but when dd was born it was love at first sight and now he's an above average daddy. Best of luck!!! Enjoy your pregnancy regardless of ANYTHING he does/says! You'll only be pregnant with this little girl once!

If he's not there at the delivery you can't put him on the BC. If he's there I would put him on. I mean why not? He is the dad right? Why play games and make him jump through hoops? No need to stoop to his level. You have the final day in baby's name so if he wants to Chang it later then it can go through court. I gave my son his dads last name even though he wasn't at the delivery. He won't get 50/50 physical custody but he will get joint meaning he can make decisions for baby.

If he's not there at the delivery you can't put him on the BC. If he's there I would put him on. I mean why not? He is the dad right? Why play games and make him jump through hoops? No need to stoop to his level. You have the final day in baby's name so if he wants to Chang it later then it can go through court. I gave my son his dads last name even though he wasn't at the delivery. He won't get 50/50 physical custody but he will get joint meaning he can make decisions for baby.

I went through the same thing. It's in your benefit that he has decided to stay away...the least likely he'll get 50/50. Believe me he will get what he deserves. He will have to pay 50/50 on all medical bills(during pregnancy too....prenatal) and child support. Be patient!!!! You can do this. Be smart about the whole thing....do not think with your heart!!! Stop all communication with him. My recommendation file when the baby is 6 months....too prolong visitation, OVERnight visits

I went through the same thing. It's in your benefit that he has decided to stay away...the least likely he'll get 50/50. Believe me he will get what he deserves. He will have to pay 50/50 on all medical bills(during pregnancy too....prenatal) and child support. Be patient!!!! You can do this. Be smart about the whole thing....do not think with your heart!!! Stop all communication with him. My recommendation file when the baby is 6 months....too prolong visitation, OVERnight visits

Hey! Thank you so much for your kind words. I recently emailed him asking if he wanted a say in a pediatricition and if he wanted to be in the birth etc and has received no response. I think eventually I want to go to court for full custody and no visitation because he clearly has no interest in this child and no respect for me so I don't see how we will raise a child jointly. He calls me names all the time and I don't want my child to be around and hear that. What do you thing

Hey! Thank you so much for your kind words. I recently emailed him asking if he wanted a say in a pediatricition and if he wanted to be in the birth etc and has received no response. I think eventually I want to go to court for full custody and no visitation because he clearly has no interest in this child and no respect for me so I don't see how we will raise a child jointly. He calls me names all the time and I don't want my child to be around and hear that. What do you thing

I think you should stop reaching out to him. At this point, you should have sufficient evidence to say that he is not open to communication and will not work with you to foster a relationship with the child, which is very important to the judge.

I think you should stop reaching out to him. At this point, you should have sufficient evidence to say that he is not open to communication and will not work with you to foster a relationship with the child, which is very important to the judge.

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