Anyone else get nothing for Mother's Day?

I honestly didn't expect DH to get me anything, but was kind of hoping he would surprise me. DS didn't even make anything in daycare :(

It's totally not about the gift...I'd much prefer a card or handmade drawing from DS, but nothing? Kinda sorta bummed. I did spend the whole day with my little man. I did not fold one item of laundry or clean one thing, I just played and played =)

I know DH just doesn't think of things like that so I can't be mad at him, just sometimes I wish he'd think outside the box a little bit.

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I made a big fancy brunch for my mom, grandma, and aunt, while DH took DS shopping/running errands on Saturday afternoon/Sunday morning to keep him out of my hair while I cooked. Afterwards, my dad cleaned up my kitchen until it sparkled (it never gets to that state under my care) and organized our garden shed. :)

I didn't get anything either. I knew he'd forget though so I wasn't surprised. It was a repeat of valentines day.....the day before he figured out what the next day was, and I just got an oops I forgot

My parents came over though, and my dad made my favorite meal, so that was AWESOME, and we had the left overs today

We went out to breakfast for mother's day...though that was my suggestion. My husband bought mother's day cards from him and LO, but they are currently still sitting in the car in the walgreens bag not signed yet. I'm not really surprised, though. It's quite typical. Make sure you don't do anything for him on father's day. I won't be making a big deal for father's day at all. I know my husband doesn't really mean anything by it so I don't get upset. It's much the same for birthdays. He'll take me out to dinner, which is nice, but that's it. I would take him out for dinner on the weekend around his birthday. On the actual day of his birthday I'd make a dinner of his request and make a homemade cake. I don't do the dinner and homemade cake anymore. After me doing that for 3-4 years and never getting the favor returned on my birthday, I gave up.

My DH left super early on Mother's Day for a month of working out of state. So, that's all I got: a month of missing my DH, and trying to be a single mommy while going to grad school. :( Not my favorite Mother's Day.

I got breakfast in bed and some homemade cards. DH isn't one for presents. He doesn't get me anything for Valentine's day or our anniversary either. We celebrate them, just with a card and dinner or something like that. I never know how to tell him that I don't need a present every time but a surprise once in awhile would be nice.

All I wanted was flowers, no cooking on mothers day and maybe a raised garden bed. I thought I was gonna get nothing as usually and was quietly crying in the morning. Surprisingly hubs made breakfast, went in the evening to get flowers and we ordered out whatever I wanted for dinner and he tiled the soil in the garden. No raised bed tho. I think having low expectation is the key and being straight about what you want.

I read an article last week about how the day after mother's day resulted in a huge jump in membership for a dating site created specifically for married people wanting to cheat on their spouses. It was the biggest new membership day of the year for them actually. The theory is that it isn't the lack of material gifts that moms receive, it's that we all have high hopes for acknowledgement for all the things we do on Mother's day in particular. A lack of acknowledgement on the holiday brings the daily feelings of being unappreciated and under valued into a much sharper focus. "He can't even be bothered to appreciate me one day a year? Why should I bother?"

The problem is that if there is a continual lack of appreciation in a marriage, one halmark holiday isn't going to solve the root problem, but the greeting card companies and jewelery stores WANT us to think it will. Then when a routinely unappreciative husband fails to utilize that day to make up for a year worth of taking his wife for granted, it's like a magnifying glass on the problem.

Unfortunately, I don't think ignoring father's day will accomplish much. Men (generally) don't think of father's day like we think of mother's day. They aren't placing a year's worth of neglect and ingratitude into one day. They won't really notice if the day is ignored.

I think the real key is communicating the problem with him. Also, make expressing gratitude a habit for both of you. In our house, even everyday tasks solicit a "thank you". When DH cleans off the high chairs or I cook dinner, we say "thank you". Even things that are specifically assigned tasks for each of us deserve a thank you like him mowing the lawn, scooping dog poop, changing diapers or me doing laundry, sweeping and mopping, or folding clothes. It's amazing how much a simple thank you makes you feel valued and acknowledged and if you feel that way in a small part everyday, mother's day doesn't hold the same heartbreaking power over you. If he insists he DOES appreciate you, but doesn't need to SAY it, stress that you FEEL unappreciated BECAUSE he doesn't express his gratitude. Your feelings are valid and although I'm sure he does appreciate you, the key is expressing that appreciation regularly so animosity doesn't build up. Besides, saying "thank you" all the time is a GREAT way to teach our LO's to be polite and thankful. They learn best by example. :)

Although I regularly feel appreciated, I do still desire special recognition that day. Who doesn't? Lol. So I make sure to remind DH about a week in advance that mother's day is coming and he'd better plan ahead. The only special days he can remember consistently are my birthday and our anniversary. Hell, Valentine's day, Christmas, and the Fourth of July are always on the same freaking day and they still sneak up on him, lol. The day doesn't hold any less meaning because I had to remind him, though. I realize remembering holidays is his weakness so not reminding him and then getting upset when he forgets is just setting him up for failure.