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It doesn't have to turn all bad. Sit down and chat with her about how her emotions may change. Tell her that although she may be felling upset, irritable at times she still must remain respectful. Also make sure she know that you are always available to her, I think if you could share some coming of age stories that helps a lot. It puts you in the OK category and not like you some alien that never been through it. Make sure the boys know to go easy on her.

13 isn't a magic number to suddenly wake up with boobs and a period. She either has the beginnings of all this now or she doesn't. What made you think she was going to wake up on her 13th birthday and be a totally rude, ungrateful, hateful disrespectful brat?

She's already developed her boobs. She hasn't had her period yet, but she is well on her way.

I don't think she's going to wake up on her birthday and be a little bitch, but today's teenager's ARE little bitches. They're disrespectful, full of attitude, use horrible language and do not respect their boundaries.

And THAT'S what I don't want my daughter to be. I've raised her to be a respectful young lady and that's how she is today and I don't want that to change.

Geesh.

Quoting Linagma03:

13 isn't a magic number to suddenly wake up with boobs and a period. She either has the beginnings of all this now or she doesn't. What made you think she was going to wake up on her 13th birthday and be a totally rude, ungrateful, hateful disrespectful brat?

You are going on as if she is going to do just that. If you raised her to be respectful, and a good person then turning 13 isn't going to change that. The people she hangs with might, allowing her to get away with things might. I raised 4 girls and 2 boys and never had that problem. They were raised to be respectful and when they forgot that they got put in their place quick like. My kids weren't disrespectful to me or dh but once in a great while as they were growing up and believe me when I say that they remembered right fast who they were talking to. I've got a 15 year old girl right now who is going through the process of spreading her wings and on occassion she forgets who she is speaking to and gets in trouble for it. A small amount of what you are worried about is going to happen no matter what as she grows to be independant how you deal with it is how she will turn out.

Quoting Mickshelle15:

No of course not!

She's already developed her boobs. She hasn't had her period yet, but she is well on her way.

I don't think she's going to wake up on her birthday and be a little bitch, but today's teenager's ARE little bitches. They're disrespectful, full of attitude, use horrible language and do not respect their boundaries.

And THAT'S what I don't want my daughter to be. I've raised her to be a respectful young lady and that's how she is today and I don't want that to change.

Geesh.

Quoting Linagma03:

13 isn't a magic number to suddenly wake up with boobs and a period. She either has the beginnings of all this now or she doesn't. What made you think she was going to wake up on her 13th birthday and be a totally rude, ungrateful, hateful disrespectful brat?

She's already developed her boobs. She hasn't had her period yet, but she is well on her way.

I don't think she's going to wake up on her birthday and be a little bitch, but today's teenager's ARE little bitches. They're disrespectful, full of attitude, use horrible language and do not respect their boundaries.

And THAT'S what I don't want my daughter to be. I've raised her to be a respectful young lady and that's how she is today and I don't want that to change.

Geesh.

Quoting Linagma03:

13 isn't a magic number to suddenly wake up with boobs and a period. She either has the beginnings of all this now or she doesn't. What made you think she was going to wake up on her 13th birthday and be a totally rude, ungrateful, hateful disrespectful brat?

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