Work 4 Peace,Hold All Life Sacred,Eliminate Violence! This is my often neglected blog mostly about my travels across country in my mobile billboard truck as I attempt to engage in dialogue with people in hopes to wake us up and inspire action to change our country and communities and selves. And it is froth with my opinions, insights, analyses toward that end of holding all life sacred, dismantling the empire and eliminating violence while creating the society and life we want

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Strategies

A middle-aged white male approaches me in front of the Berkeley Bowl, saying he is visiting from South Carolina and recognizes me from the news. It’s probably the hat! He assures me that whereas he supports CodePINK, and he’s VERY liberal, he doesn’t like CodePINK’s “antics” at Congressional hearings.

I know from his stance he is going to lecture but I am somewhat surprised this is what he chooses to focus on – I haven’t recently heard many criticisms, only glowing appreciation and admiration, of our actions in D.C. I ask him if he came all the way from South Carolina to tell me this – D.C. seems closer.

He seems to think I’m going to grab my cell phone and call everyone in CodePINK to let them know Eddie doesn’t like our ‘antics’ with the signs, the slogans, the hot pink courage spreading through D.C. and certainly catching his attention.

I let him know first about our agreement in CodePINK: that his criticism only holds as much weight as the work you do, AND that if you do criticize you have to be willing to do the work you see as the alternative to what you are criticizing.

So, I ask, what is your alternative? I am assuming he hasn’t done any work – and he allows that assumption to float between us as his cheeks tinge pink, and not from our Bay Area sun!

I’m expecting him to say the usual: call, email, write – the ‘make a sound but not seen’ approach. He admits he doesn’t have an alternative and quickly informs me that Barney Frank has even threatened to have us kicked out.

I wait a few seconds longer than comfort dictates and I say I don’t care what Barney Frank thinks.

Eddie then seems to miss the fact that I am a lesbian – he’s not one of our California trained males obviously – and tells me our ‘antics’ are akin to those transvestites that used to slip into the Gay Parades in the days when Gays were fighting for gay rights. (my term ‘slip’ – he might have used something more akin to invasion…) He then further digs his hole claiming his knowledge of some “gay people as people” even.

I had to laugh. To myself of course. I look at him and, even tho I know I’m getting off the subject, I say, oh I recognize him as one of those fellas who thinks god made certain clothes for females, certain for males, eh? Deepening his shade of pink.

I then conclude by informing him of what his belittling of the ‘antics’ he refers to has done for our movement and for change: first, it’s caught his attention and second these brilliant strategies has made us one of the best know anti-war groups in the nation if not the world and has hurtled our movement forward to be a catalyst for change in this country.

I told him I understand he admires straight-appearing, staid, non-strutting, Madison Ave types and behaviors more appealing than ‘show-girl transvestites’ (his words).

But we care about people who are committed to ending war, committed to human rights, committed to caring for our fellow human beings, no matter what they wear, look like, appreciate or not, whether they live up to my standards of dress or behavior or attitude - because it is only those who deeply care NO MATTER WHAT that are really dependable change makers.

So I ask Eddie to find the group he approves of and just work as hard as he is capable of to end this occupation of Iraq, to prevent the escalation against Afghanistan, and to end the drone bombing in Pakistan. And in the future to refer to any of CodePINK’s actions as strategies. And all gay people as people, no matter what they're wearing.

He will not comment about Gays but promises he will call his Senators and Congress people every day until the Supplemental comes up for a vote. I give him our “talking points” and “what can I do” flyer. It was crumpled and dirty, which I’m sure he doesn’t appreciate, but it’s the only one I can find on me and I HAVE to give him something to take away with him.

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i'm now a 66 yr old (still with a golden age pass to get into national parks FREE) jewish lesbian anti-racist mother - and grandmother - striving radical womonist/feminist; daughter & granddaughter of survivors of the holocaust, mother of a young amazon healer & amazing human being, lover of wimmin & student of conscious living............even tho i am the one actually driving the truck, i could not even head out from home if it were not for the support of many, many, many wimmin (and several men as well). i am now working on trying to publish my book "But What Can I Do? A Handbook for change: myself, my community, my country. I still continue to offer Racism Awareness workshops geared for White people, NO DRONES workshops, and any other that is needed. if you want to help support this journey, please click the "Make a Donation" link below- it's secure!