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Are Single Women Making Guys Bitter?

Kay Hymowitz, author of Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men into Boys, has been studying what she calls “pre-adulthood”—the period of time when people are in their 20s and early 30s. She says that guys in this age group are growing increasingly bitter—particularly guys “who find the young women they might have hoped to hang out with entitled, dishonest, self-involved, slutty, manipulative, shallow, controlling—and did I mention gold-digging?” She recently broke it down for us on The Daily Beast

She says women are making guys bitter for a few main reasons. They are:

Many women want to be equal in the boardroom and on the treadmill, but when it comes to dating, they want to date (or they want the option to date) old-fashioned gentlemen who will open doors and pay for dinner.

Many women will say they like nice guys but frequently go out with bad boys.

I was very intrigued by this. She might be right. I think we’re all confused about what we think our roles are and what we want from the opposite sex. And that confusion definitely does not improve communication. But here is someone she quoted from the Seattle Post- Intelligencer who had no problem putting it explicitly:

“Sorry ladies. In the age of PlayStation 3s, 24-hours-a-day sports channels, and free Internet porn, you are now obsolete. All that nagging, whining, and stealing our hard earned cash have finally caught up to you."

Oh, snap!

Hymowitz believes that bitter comments like this come from a combo of immaturity, the Internet as “an escape valve for decades of pent-up rebellion against political correctness,” and “good, old-fashioned misogyny.”

Are you meeting guys who are bitter? Do you think they have reason to be, or do you think these dudes are ridiculous? Are you bitter?