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Monday, January 30, 2017

Humans were meant to be partnered. We live longer when we have someone who cares about us and generally we are much happier than those who live alone. It is certainly more fun to have sex with a partner than by ourselves and shopping, eating and doing the mundane are much more enjoyable when we have someone to share our lives with.

Find out about my six-week course to shift core beliefs and patterns about love.

Yet, so many people live alone. Why?

We don't want to leap.

We block ourselves with our thinking. Do any of these statements sound like you?

There's no one out there who would love me

I'm too old

I'm not attractive enough

I'm not intelligent enough

I don't want to be hurt again

I want someone, but it's too painful to even think about

It's too much trouble to date

I don't even know what to do or where to start

What if I get hurt again

I don't want to go through another heartache or breakup

I'm too set in my ways

We focus on what we don't want rather than what we do want. We keep attracting exactly what we don't want. I will help you get past those blocks and get out of your own way to feel sacred, loved, appreciated and adored. Yes, it is possible. Our beliefs stand in our way of having love. If we don't believe love is possible, we won't find it. If we feel we are unworthy of love, or unloveable, we won't have the bravery we need to go for it. We get in our own way. It isn't that all the good guys have been taken, or that there are no women left worth having.

Clear those debilitating beliefs that prevent you from having love

Understand how your thoughts have created the life you have

Recognize the red flags and stop explaining them away

Notice when actions don't match words

Don't settle - you don't have to

Find out why we stay with people we shouldn't and get the tools to prevent repeating this damaging behavior

You deserve love

You are loveable

Tainted To True Love begins in May. Go beyond where you have before and take the LEAP to have the love you have been waiting for.

This course is highly beneficial to couples and singles. It will shift your negative thinking about love, your partner or potential partner.

Sunday, January 29, 2017

Cows kill more people each year (22) than sharks or terrorists, perhaps the ban should be on cows?

With Muslim bans in effect, those of us with Green cards feel our rights have been stepped on and removed. What is the truth about terrorism? Is what we are hearing true or simply Donald Tump's fear mongering?

The truth? You are more likely to be killed by a coconut falling on your head than a terrorist. You are more likely to be killed by a cow or 55 times more likely to be killed by a television falling on your head than a terrorist. You are 58 times more likely to be killed by the police than a terrorist. (The FBI has now released new information which reveals an average of 545 people killed by local and state law enforcement officers in the US went uncounted in their prior crime statistics provided every year for almost a decade.)

Alex Nowrasteh of the Cato Institute breaks the numbers of American deaths by the Muslim countries under the current immigration ban as follows:

The chances of getting killed by a terrorist from the countries banned over the 41 year period are 1 in 3.6 million. You are far more likely to have a coconut fall on your head (155 annually) than be killed by a terrorist. Coconuts kill more people annually than sharks (5).

How Many Deaths By Terrorists By Countries NOT ON the ban?

Saudi Arabia 2,369 (If you believe in the 911 propaganda)

Egypt 162

UAE 314

Fact: None of the countries on the list have a Trump hotel or office. See the map where Trump's hotels are in the Middle East. Was this because of Trump's business dealings? No. This bill was signed into effect by Former President Obama did. It looks as if the countries selected were handpicked by President Trump, but that is not the case. The Department of Homeland Security announced in a February 2016 press release that restrictions would be forthcoming.

The countries off the list are Saudi Arabia where 2,369 people have been killed by terrorists from this country.

Egypt also off the ban, yet 162 people have been killed by terrorists from Egypt.

UAE - also off the list where 314 people have been killed by terrorists from The United Arab Emirates.

Friday, January 20, 2017

“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” ~Wayne Dyer

The more we try to change a situation, the more we suffer. The more we resist, fight and protest what is present in our world, the more we suffer. Change happens because it is needed. Chaos is always present in our world.

The Law of Chaos And The Universal Law of Order

The Law of Chaos and Order are simple. When we fight the flow of The Universe, we suffer and chaos ensues. When we embrace the ebb and flow of change order results.

Situations happen. We can't see the end-game because we are in the middle of the situation. We can only see what is occurring in the present. We might be in fear because of what we don't know. Once we trust that all is well and in Divine Order, the fears fall away. Chaos and order work together for our good.

We might feel a penalty should be called, but we aren't in control of others actions. For something new, different and of a better design to be birthed the old has to fall apart. Experiencing this feeling of change can cause us to feel uncertain or worried.

Don't Like The Way Things Are Going?

Maybe your partner divorced you. Perhaps your kids smoke pot. Maybe your mother won't validate you. Maybe your boss is a bitch and treats you like crap. We might end up divorced and then have regrets that we didn't try harder. The shadowy parts of humanity that have not been dealt with are playing out in our global events. If you aretriggered by our current events, you have inner work to do.

An emotional reaction to events in our outer world is due to unfinished business within ourselves. If we feel triggered, or upset about something it is because there are parts of ourselves that need love, forgiveness, and release so that they can be healed.

The Universe Supports You And All Life

The Universe was designed to support life and growth. If we don't learn from the past the present and future will challenge us even more. Each event that occurs is another lesson for us to grow and evolve. Each time we resist, fight or joust at windmills we suffer.

Change is inevitable. Suffering is optional. JEM

Truth

The Universe isn't out to get you.

The Universe doesn't make mistakes.

The more you resist, the more pain you experience.

The more you try to control or change the outcome the more you suffer.

Instead of being upset about others actions that you can't control be in childlike wonder. "I wonder what he'll do or say next?"

If you aren't happy with what is going on in your outer world, check inside and see what work needs to be done to let go of control or fear. Under all the hoopla, protests and struggle is a Divine plan that will create needed change.Soul First AidYour soul is a Divine expression of love, therefore, your soul is happiest when it is giving and receiving love and in gratitude.

Breathe deeply. Slowing your breath and breathing deeply will help you to release tension and stress, raise oxygen levels, help

you overcome depression and help you get grounded.

Get out in nature!Sit down on a rock, beach or the earth to ground yourself. If you can walk on the earth or grass barefoot. We are energetic beings. When we move into fear we tend to be out of our body therefore, ungrounded and scattered. Breathing will help you come back into your body, as will sitting or walking on the earth. Barefoot is best if you can. Touch your

forehead to a tree trunk and ask the tree to take away your pain and suffering. You will be surprised how much better you feel after doing this simple exercise. Say "thank you," to the tree!

Quiet the debilitatingmind chatter. Mental chatter can increase stress levels, anxiety, cause us to spin in a fearful spiral downward that can create panic attacks and depression. Quieting the mind chatter can be done by listening to one of my podcasts on my FREE APP.

Be in gratitude. Gratitude will help to raise your vibration and take you out of fear by writing down all your blessings. We create more positive flow into our lives when we are grateful for what we have currently. When we complain we block the flow and create more situations in our life that are negative. There are many powerful reasons to be grateful and write these blessings in a notebook. Writing is more powerful than thought. We can channel our higher self with a pen and paper and tap into our Divine connection.

Thursday, January 12, 2017

The moon affects births, moods, emotions, tides, menstruation and everything in between. A full moon in the emotional water sign of Cancer is one of the most potent and powerful energies we can experience. Love-making, nurturing, loving and letting go together can be an amazing experience tonight! Let the loving and releasing begin!

A Grand Cardinal Cross is being activated with this full moon that will be in place through the year 2020. In January 2020, Saturn will couple with Pluto and conjunct initiating a new economic boom cycle.Corporations, large organizations, new earth energy will be bringing in people and environment first and profit second in this new earth.Our Divine Destiny is to take care of the earth.

Politics are playing out these roles right now. January is all about your foundation, taking care of you. Are you kind to you? Do you make sure you have plenty of rest, exercise, take extreme self-care? Pluto opposing this moon brings in our personal needs rather than egoic will.

Trump is the disruptor. He is ruled by Uranus. Uranus is awakening us to our emotional needs. It may not seem like it, but he is who we asked for. What do you need to feel good? The whole reason you are here is to be creative.

How can you be more creative? Tap into your inner child. The childlike innocence and purity will take you there. Play, have fun, focus on your unique talents and abilities. Nourish your talent. You came here to be you. Follow your own personal star. Channel your cosmic child and talent within you. Stop allowing others to dictate to you how you should be.

The abuse of power that we see in the world today is moving out. There is a polarization occurring that is playing out in our political arena. We may be projecting out our inner demons onto others and then blame others for what we are doing. We may not be aware of. We might not like what others are doing - but used to be that way ourselves.

This first full moon of the year is asking us to be very conscious and be aware of the shadow, power struggles, and emotions. We can find ourselves feeling righteous. Righteousness can condone bad behavior in an abusive way. This shadow is being illuminated. Don't get caught up in power struggles and power plays that you see in the workplace or world.

It is an innovative and inspiring combination. It is a time of fulfillment, nurture and belonging, creating this with your loved ones and family is a powerful use of this energy.

Libra, Aries, Cancer, Capricorn will be affected greatly through this astrologically expansive energy. It's all about collaboration, partnering and asking to be nurtured. This is a perfect time to be moving forward, meeting with a study or literary group. Potlucks that nurture your body and soul with loved ones during the next two weeks is a lovely way to utilize this energy.

The planet Venus is exalted in Pisces (very sensitive energy) combined with Venus the planet that rules love.

A full moon is a time of coming to fruition. This cancer moon is nurturing, more grounding. Cancer is about the home and nurturing. Healing the inner child and looking at those places where we need to access the tender, gentle space. Being more vulnerable and authentic will allow you to step into a sexy, spiritual bonding with our partners.

Cancer shows it's inner emotions and Pisces energy is creating a poetic vibe. We will be able to access wounded places within during the next two weeks.

How can I expand my relationships in a personal genius type of way (to impact the collective)?

What new things am I bringing out into the world?

What messages are inspiring me?

How do you view your relationships?

Are you awakening together in your relationships?

Are you gathering together with those of a like mind?

Are you opening your mind right now?Are you loving yourself more than the need to fit in?Don't give your power away.Watching a romantic movie, dining over candlelight, massage and accessing something holy between you is a powerful way to use this Cancer full moon. When our spirits and souls experience each other, we expand together. What could be more lovely?Find your voice. Speak your truth. Take care of and nurture yourself. Be patient. The more you do your homework, the more successful you will be. Careful planning as your strategy will assist you to be successful in this beautiful year! There is no one like you on the planet. Be kind to you. Be your own champion and cheerleader!

Join me in the powerful Courage To Be Authentic You Summit with Sohaila for FREE. It's a 21-day Free summit with 21 unique and powerful healers and coaches.E-mail Jennifer for your personal discovery session to find out if Jennifer's work is a good fit for your authentic discovery and learn how to dance to your own soul's music.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Many people fill the holes they feel inside with stuff. Whether it is collections, clothing, cars, televisions or furniture too much stuff weighs us down and creates a heavy burden which makes us very unhappy.

Part of being happy is letting go of all the laden collections, multiple televisions, couches, armoires and family heirlooms.

Our stuff doesn't make us happier, in fact, too much stuff makes us very unhappy. JEM

Storage units are rented by one out of every eleven US households an increase according to a recent survey of 75 percent since 1995. There are 1.875 billion square feet of storage space in America with nearly 40,000 facilities.

When I moved from Georgia to Boulder, Colorado, I sold everything and stored very little. After over two years of paying for two storage units, one in Georgia and one in California I dumped both when I realized I didn't want any of it. In fact, the storage unit in California that cost me over $1,000 housed only cardboard boxes and a few tools.

Shopping addiction to fill the void

The caveat here is that I have lost everything to mold or given everything away three times. I used to have a tremendous amount of stuff. I was a shopaholic replacing one addiction with another. My closets were stuffed to the gills with clothes I hadn't worn, some with tags still on. I had hundreds of books and collections from my travels and living abroad. Now I live simply and am so much happier as a result. I had clutter everywhere, especially papers. Now my home is tidy, organized and simple.

When We Hoard

Hoarding

Earlier in 2016, I had a woman call me from Georgia for landscaping. Though I don't have For Heaven Scapes, Ltd any longer, she ended up talking to me for a while once she heard what I am doing now. She told me she could use some help becoming happier.

As we talked about her propensity to create crafts and hang onto them, rather than sell them, I asked her if she had a difficult time letting go of emotions. At first, she didn't understand me. I explained when we get upset about something but can't let go we are an emotional hoarder. She said, "Yes, I guess that is me."She paid for a session because she had so much stuff her husband didn't want to buy another home till she got rid of all her crafty stuff. She was attempting to fill the hole in her heart she felt with her crafts. She had lost herself and didn't know what she wanted. She had so much she had a pod in the driveway as well as the largest storage unit she could have.

When Things Are More Important Than People

Sometimes it is easier to have relationships with things rather than people. Things don't yell, complain or criticize. If we grew up in a household where we didn't feel loved, we may be attempting to fill that void inside us that is longing to be loved with our stuff. When we don't love ourselves unconditionally, others won't either. It may be challenging to let go of our things because we feel a sense of loss when we do.

Things Are Just Things

Loving ourselves unconditionally means loving all of us - even the shadowy parts that aren't the best parts of ourselves. We all have them. Imagine if you lost everything like I did to mold, or fire. What if you lost the ones you love? Putting too much importance on things means your life is out of balance. Ask Yourself These Questions To Assist With Give-Away and DeCluttering

Have I worn or used this in the past year?

Does this item make me feel good (happy) or sad?

Is this item something that I want because I love it or do I feel a need to keep it due to guilt or some other negative emotion?

Am I hanging onto this only because I know how much it cost rather than because I love it or use it daily?

Do I really need ____ (five) of this item?

This following list that will help you keep life and your stuff in perspective they are more important than material things and will help you fill the void you feel inside.

Self-improvement. Learning is something we need to do daily. Even if you have multiple degrees learning is something we need to do to stay thriving and positive. Learning is exciting and uplifting. Expanding ourselves is what we are here to do.

Self-love and acceptance. Loving the self is key to happiness and great relationships. Without self-love we are needy, looking for someone else to fill us up. We might even rely on our things to make us happy - but things can't hug us back, or touch our soul. Being Beautiful And Happy With You.

Family bonds. Love is what makes the world go around. Forgive everyone and love everyone.

Friendship. Life is more fun with friends. Having someone to talk to can lift our spirits and help us stay positive. Choose friends who are positive rather than negative.

Daily meditation. Meditation helps you stay grounded and recognize what is important. Having a practice of stillness and listening to the inner voice will help you stay balanced.

Healthy diet. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables with protein is an important part of feeling good. If we don't eat a healthy diet we aren't thriving. Fast food causes depression.

Regular exercise. Exercise has been scientifically proven to ward off depression. Whether it is Zumba, yoga or a daily walk daily exercise is best, three times a week average will make you happier. Once a week isn't going to provide you what a daily walk will do. Go to a mall and put blinders on so you don't stop and shop. Walk around the mall when the weather is bad - till springtime.

Philanthropy. Giving back is a tremendous source of joy and happiness. Helping others in some way could be as simple as volunteering at a local animal shelter, giving pet food to a shelter or money, teaching English to those who can't speak it. Envision what our world would be like if everyone was able to help each other out.

Time Management. Being able to balance work, social activities, exercise and sleep is a large part of having a life you enjoy. When you have enough time for everything important you can create time for hobbies, organizing and decluttering. The more orderly your home is, the more enjoyable it will be to spend time at home. Getting to bed early will help you sleep well. When you are well-rested you will feel better and be less likely to be depressed.

Love. Having a healthy balanced and loving relationship will certainly help you to be happier and more fulfilled. Finding the best person for you certainly, could take some effort. Knowing yourself well and your core values will help. Knowing what you want in a relationship or partner is something that I can help you with in my From Tainted To True Love course which begins on February 1st. A relationship requires work, compromise on both sides. When we have a loving relationship we become bigger, stronger with their loving words and support.

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Starting January 16th!

Are you ready to reclaim and embrace your own authenticity?

There is nothing better than getting training and insights directly from the experts—the business owners and coaches who are living the life you are trying to build. I’m honored to be among the featured guests for the “Courage to be Authentic and bring out the REAL You!” Summit starting on January 16th. So sign up and mark your calendar right now! There are over $5,000 in gifts from these experts including one lucky winner of my free tuition for my From Tainted To True Love course a $247.00 value!

Sohaila Handelsman has brought together some of the best and brightest to share their best ideas and tips and strategies. Come join us...it’s free! Sign up here!

I discovered this past Christmas how we can keep ourselves vibrantly healthy with our thoughts of gratitude and conversely how quickly our health can be taken away when we get upset (angry or hurt) and take our health for granted.

"To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him." ~Buddha

I have not been sick in years. In fact, I can't remember the last time I got a cold, the flu or anything. Focusing on how I feel in any given moment rather than on what others are doing is a large part of why I feel so happy with myself and my life. I know that being happy and grateful have been paramount in my healthy constitution. Daily meditation and being content with my life, fulfilled by my work all have contributed to my daily inner peace.

What I am about to share is giving you inside information of both my life and how we create disease and illness with our thoughts and emotions. Putting these two things together could save you from serious illness and even cancer later on.

Karma is a part of my family she loves to travel with me

When I visit my children in Colorado, I drive. Why do I drive? Besides the fact that driving is enjoyable to me, I drive because I bring my dogs who are part of my family in my car. Karma is going on nineteen years old. Putting an old dog on a plane is both inhumane and inconsiderate. I won't do either to her.

Grand Canyon, Arizona

I also enjoy the drive across our beautiful country watching the change in topography from the beige sand and mundane landscape of the Mojave desert into Nevada, Los Vegas, Arizona, Utah then Colorado.

I watch the terrain and weather change become rocky and breathtakingly beautiful. Driving is a moving meditation. I usually drive in the 1,000-mile drive in silence with occasional music when I feel fatigued. I am always excited to see my family, so the drive is part of that experience.

I left home on December 13th so that I could help my daughter move from her apartment in Longmont where she had lived alone to Thornton where she and a college friend would share in the expenses. The trip from where I live in California with a stop in

Arizona to visit a client who just had a baby was 1,164 miles or 17 hours of drive-time.

I stopped at the home I was staying at to unload my car and finally arrived at my daughter's apartment in

Longmont, Colorado at 8:00 PM on the third day.

It was cold and snowy in Colorado when I arrived and didn't warm

up for days. Ariel was totally packed when I arrived, but waiting on tape that I brought with me. As soon as I arrived in Longmont, I began taping up boxes so that we would be ready for the move the following day. It was after 11:00 PM before I was driving home to Boulder to sleep. To say I was already exhausted is an understatement. Ariel spent her last night in her apartment.

On Friday, December 16th, I was up at 6:00 AM. I grabbed something quick to eat, walked Yoda and Karma and loaded them in my cold car my breath making little white puffs of condensation and drove about twelve miles to Ariel's apartment.

We moved boxes around a little and dissembled her Queen-sized wooden bed frame so that it would fit through the narrow outdoor entryway of the girls' new apartment complex. I found it hard to believe that we needed to do this, but Ariel insisted and for good reason. I left Ariel's apartment with Yoda and Karma and picked up the U-haul truck in the cold.

I waited in line for over an hour while others were processed for their rental trucks by the one young Irish man that owned the dealership. I left my car and attempted to arrange the dogs in the cab of the truck. Karma was miserable on the cold floor with little space to lie down. In another twenty minutes, I was back at Ariel's apartment to load up.

Ariel's boyfriend threw the U-haul truck door quickly surreptitiously causing a spill immediately of Ariel's precariously placed belongings at the back of the truck onto the concrete sidewalk behind the truck. Her Brita water filter smashed and Ariel unleashed angry and ungrateful words onto Josh and then me. Ariel's temper was short from her stress over the move and lack of money and I was exhausted from my trip. The combination of all three of our emotions led to a stressful emptying of the truck.

Yoda still a puppy with Ariel

I suggested that the dogs should be at least allowed to stay in Ariel's bathroom or closet so they would be out of the way during the move-in as they were cold and uncomfortable in the truck. Ariel's response to me felt unappreciative of the travel the dogs and I had just made. Ariel won. The dogs lost. Karma's foot was bleeding from falling between the seats in the U-Haul. She wasn't a happy first dog nor was I.

Between the cold and the stairs my knees took a beating carrying heavy boxes down two flights and then up three flights of stairs at the new apartment.

Yoda was making his discomfort known in the cab of the cold U-haul truck. He had been barking for over an hour to get out of the truck. Even though I walked the dogs in a park before we began emptying the truck, he wasn't happy sitting alone.

Ariel didn't want the dogs in the apartment until we had totally unloaded. Both girls moved in simultaneously with her roommate's entire family present. Eleven people helping these two girls created bedlam for approximately three hours. I understood Ariel's reasoning about the dogs, but they had already spent three days in the back of a car on our long journey.

David with Ray

I was exhausted by 2:00 PM when the truck was emptied, David, my middle son showed up just in time to see us closing the U-haul truck door and we flopped on my daughter's bedroom floor sharing the pizza that I bought for everyone. David and another friend of Ariel's put her bed together and got her television and couch set up in the living room. Josh left in a huff before David arrived.

Beautiful Colorado

David followed me as I returned the U-Haul to a local dealership and took me back to Ariel's apartment, then Ariel drove me the thirty odd miles back up to Longmont to my icy cold car. I spent Friday night alone, all day Saturday alone and then went to Ariel's old apartment to clean it from top to bottom early Sunday morning, leaving my dogs in Boulder.

I cleaned the kitchen, oven, microwave, cabinets, pantry and in between the washer and dryer, the dryer vent while Ariel scrubbed the red, purple, green and various other hair dye colors from the tile and grout in her bathroom.

I made three trips to Home Depot and The Dollar Store buying cleaning products and stove replacement parts that were forgotten. I attempted to match her carpet color that had burn holes (Colorado is a legal state to smoke marijuana) and to remedy the hair dye stains on her grout.

We cleaned for ten hours missing a party we were invited to as we weren't done. Finally, at 8:00 PM we called it quits for the day. The burn holes in her living room and bedroom carpet from her recreational smoking remained. A $600 deposit hung in the

balance. I attempted to fix one burn hole in the living room without the aid of overhead lighting and gave up frustrated. I spent Sunday night alone.

Monday, Ariel was back at work and as I drove the 40 miles to Denver to meet with two of my long-term favorite clients, my son David called. My oldest son Adam and his girlfriend Mel landed at

Mel, Adam Jennifer and Ariel near SouthPark, CO

the Denver airport at noon. Instead of coming to Boulder to stay with me David asked if I minded if they spent the night with him in Littleton, Co. I said no problem.

The next day, I was asked to be flexible again, changing my plans to accommodate their desire to stay at David's another night, leaving me in Boulder another night alone.

I hired with Mel's help a carpet installer to fix the burn holes for $125.00. I hired a carpet cleaning company and babysat and paid them. I spent most of the day Thursday back and forth from Home Depot, carpet stores trying to find the right carpet to match. I couldn't. I spent tons of money, time and energy helping Ariel to get her apartment in shape for her walkthrough.I spent five days of my Christmas vacation working like a dog so that Ariel would get her deposit back.

Mel and Adam spent two nights with me at the house in Boulder. David joined us in Boulder one afternoon and we all, expect Ariel who was working walked through the shops and ate copious amounts of sugary treats. I was astounded at how much sugar we consumed when most of us don't eat it on a daily basis. We were mindlessly eating sweets I feel because we were all together and sugar deprived!

I drove back and forth to Denver three more times and spent part of the afternoon shopping with my oldest children at an outlet mall. Shopping is one of my least favorite activities, but I did it for the family. That night we also fit in a trip to the Denver Botanical Gardens for their Christmas light show, which we all enjoyed in the snow.

The exact time-frame doesn't matter. What does matter is that I began to feel a combination of anger and self-pity. I had driven half-way across the country to be with my family and here I was was ~ alone. I love being alone. I enjoy my own company. However, I traveled 1,100 miles for days to spend time with my family. I could have stayed at home!

I could be alone in my own home in the sunny warmth of California! I didn't need to be freezing my ass off in Colorado winter spending my money on an ungrateful little girl who didn't seem to appreciate all I had done! I had spent very little time with David and Adam and felt unappreciated and angry. I sent texts to both Ariel and David that exemplified my emotional state.

I vented out loud in the kitchen to anyone who would listen. The dogs began to get nervous. My anger was coming from an old pain of being unappreciated. My kids loved me, I knew that, but in this moment I didn't feel it. I felt undervalued and angry. I woke up Christmas eve feeling weird, out of sorts and uncomfortable.

Ariel showed up with a chip on her shoulder (not chocolate) and her Kitchen Aid mixer, to grudgingly bake for a party we were attending that night. We were both exhausted. Both of us felt angry. We both ended up shouting at one another and Ariel was ready to go home to her apartment because she felt terrible she didn't have money for Christmas gifts.

A perfect storm of emotions, pain, suffering, self-pity created a toxic vortex for us both. That very night Ariel and I got sick we had similar manifestations of illness. My nose began to run, I sneezed and sneezed and felt a general malaise. I knew I was getting a sinus infection.

Sinus problems: Irritation to one person, someone close. I was obviously irritated with Ariel. I felt undervalued, unappreciated and taken for granted. I had spent five days doing things for her, spending my money, time and energy and felt she didn't care. MANTRA: I declare peace and harmony indwell me and surround me at all times. All is well. (Louis Hay You Can Heal Your Body)

Post-Nasal Drip: Inner crying, childish tears. Victim. MANTRA: I acknowledge and accept that I am the creative power in my world. I now choose to enjoy my life.

Colds Upper Respiratory Illness: Too much going on at once. Mental confusion, disorder. Small hurts. MANTRA: I allow my mind to relax and be at peace. Clarity and harmony are within me and surround me. All is well. (Louis Hay You Can Heal Your Body)

How To Choose Differently

I know how to move emotions and energy. I know how to clear myself. However, I was too stuck in my ego to clear myself. I was too stuck in my feelings of self-righteous indignation and self-pity to do all that I knew to do. I could have used my quick mood-changers. I could have breathed deeply and allowed myself to feel the feelings inside, I could have cried or breathed deeply and allow them to move through me.

I could have taken a fast-paced walk out in the cold and asked Mother Nature and the trees to clear me. I could have taken an Epsom salts bath and meditated. But I didn't. I was stuck in self-pity. No one was doing anything TO ME. I am not a victim. No one is a victim. I chose this. I invited all these events in. I watched as the illness began to engulf me. I wasn't grateful in this moment. I wasn't appreciating anyone else.

Learning From Experience

We always have a choice. We can choose differently for ourselves rather than be the victim. When we reside in self-righteousness we lose love. From an empowered place we can heal ourselves. We can tap, sing, breathe, meditate and move the energy through us rather than revel in the pain and suffering and stuckness. Our negative thoughts and toxic emotions create disease and even autoimmune issues and diseases, I know I used to have Fibromyalgia and Epstein Barr and auto-immune disease.

Away From Home

When we are out of our place of sacredness and sanctity of our own space we can feel out of sorts. I wasn't in my home. I wasn't in my sacred space. We have to be able to find a place where we can be safe to meditate and sit in silence. When we are exhausted we aren't present. Pushing our bodies beyond where they are comfortable isn't good either. I pushed myself too hard with the travel, seeing clients and then working physically, up and down stairs acting as a moving man. I was doing things I wasn't used to. All of this created a perfect storm for me to witness how we create illness for ourselves.

At home, I meditate twice a day most days. I sit in silence and have peace in my home. The last five days of my stay in Colorado I slept on the floor on an air mattress at David's apartment with five other people plus five dogs and two cats. It was lovely to be together with my family. However, it was too much time without alone time for me. There was no place for me to meditate alone. It was far too cold to sit outside on the ground and meditate. Everyone needs silence. Silence allows us to regroup, center and be one with all that is.

I would love to hear from you. Did this article help you in any way? Will it help you recognize how we create disease and illness with our choices? Please share this with your friends and family!

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GRATITUDE

Whoever has gratitude will be given more!

Join me in this 28-day challenge it will only take fifteen minutes a night.I said PRIZES!I thought I would sweeten the pot a little to give you something other than more money, better relationships, more success and happiness in your life - as if that isn't enough. The point of this exercise is that nothing is impossible and magic is available to everyone. Couldn't you use a little more magic in your life?Here's what you need to do if you choose to accept this challenge:

Beginning today or as soon as you read this e-mail start noticing the good in your life.

Write down each thing that you are grateful for. If you want better health, be grateful for your vibrant health. If you want more money, be grateful for all the money in your bank account, in your purse or wallet, and on its way to you right now! The more gratitude, the better your life will become. Don't focus on your outer circumstances.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Write down the list of items each night before turning off your light and going to sleep. The thoughts of gratitude right before sleep will be indelibly imprinted on your unconscious mind bringing more good to you.

Find a rock that will fit in your hand and place it next to your bed. I am using an amethyst that was given to me for Christmas.

Hold the rock in your hand and say out loud after you have written your list the best thing that occurred today that you are grateful for. Each night the energy of this gratitude will expand the energy of this rock.

Eventually, all you will have to do is look at the rock and feel gratitude!

Send me an update once a week, or whenever something seems exciting enough to mention. Write down your successes even when they are small - like your cell phone provider gave you an extra day to pay your phone bill because a check hadn't cleared with the bank holiday. That my friends is a great thing! Whether it seems big or small, write it down.

Friday, January 6, 2017

Day 5 of The Gratitude Challenge:

I woke up dreaming of fresh homemade pie! I love pie. Since I began the 28-day gratitude challenge I have slept more deeply, awakened more rested and had better dreams.

After 5 days, I would love to hear what the rest of you have experienced. It isn't too late to start. It is never too late to begin a happier, more peaceful existence. I'll do it with you!

What is most interesting to me is that when I called my oldest brother, Tim in Ontario, Canada this morning, he informed me he was in the middle of making the very pie I had my dream about. I woke up tasting Razzleberry pie!

What does this mean? We can create anything we want with gratitude. We can dream bigger and have the gratitude for it and attract the success, the love, the job, the clients. We have all kinds of dreams and gratitude affects them. I am going to bake and eat a fresh raspberry, blueberry, and blackberry pie too tonight! And, you betcha it will have homemade whipped cream on top.

Pie for breakfast first in Boulder, Colorado with my family

Sometimes we have to indulge ourselves. I have been working very hard this week and sleeping just as hard. I am recuperating from my trip to Colorado and back, my daughter's move and the holidays.

Sunday, I have a really juicy story for you where I will get really vulnerable with you about what happened over the holidays. You won't want to miss this personal story. Until then here is the latest on gratitude.

Write a description of what you want your life to look like.

Write a description of what you want your work to look like.

Write how you want your relationship to be.

How do you want your relationship to be with your mother, children, father, siblings....

How do you want your social life to be?

What do you want your income to be?

What do you want for your spiritual life?

How many vacations a year do you want?

Where do you want to travel?

How do you want to FEEL?

Knowing what you want for your life is important. You can't manifest anything better if you can't describe it or dream it. Right now I am tasting that berry pie. I am off to buy the supplies and I'll let you know how delicious it was. I am treating myself. I don't eat a lot of sweets but when I do, I enjoy them. I savor the flavor in my mouth and slowly eat the deliciousness. I love to eat delicious food. Sex and food kind of go together. I love sex too. I love life. I love it all! What about you?

What are you grateful for today? What are your blessings? Are you grateful for your health? Are you grateful for your income, your paycheck, your pets, your home? Are you grateful for the delicious food you eat? Being grateful for each blessing you have will bring you more.

I love pie! With David in Boulder, CO

Anything you take for granted are things you are not grateful for. I am grateful for those people who support my work. I am grateful for my clients. I am grateful for my family, my mother, my siblings and especially my brother Tim who shared his pie recipe with me!

I am grateful for you reading my blog. Let me know how you are doing with this gratitude challenge. Remember there are prizes for the best stories! Send me an e-mail or message me on FaceBook with your gratitude story.

About Me

Born in Toronto, Ontario and a graduate of Emery Collegiate Institute, manifested her dream job at 19 as a flight attendant for Air Canada. From the age of 16 Jennifer knew that life had more to offer than merely existing. Jennifer is free of the ego mind, happy in the moment and able to see past the suffering and pain in each experience to the gift. She is a gypsy at heart and has traveled much of the world as a student of life. She has lived in Montreal, Gaithersburg, Maryland, London, England, Atlanta, Georgia, Boulder, Colorado and now lives in the Mojave desert in California.

Jennifer has three children, ages 32, 29 and 17. She is a certified transformational Life and Sex coach, teacher of Metaphysics, hynotherapist, Medium, psychic and reads the Akashic Records. Jennifer is a catalyst for healing. People often begin to cry just from a word, or touch from Jennifer as she allows people's blocked emotions to surface. She has travelled to India and Bali to study with masters and teachers.

Her first book, Odyssey Victim to Victory is available on Amazon.com. Her second book, Orgasm For Life, a no holds-barred guide to BLISS. Although men and women are wired differently, we want the same things, to love, be loved and be happy. Relationships can bring us great joy, but they can cause us great pain. Building trust through authenticity, transparency and honest couples can have more meaningful sex with greater passion. Love is the foundation, but sex is the glue that helps to deepen intimacy and connection between a loving couple.

Her first radio show, INTO THE MYSTIC, a journey of self empowerment and self awareness, was on Voice America.

A Georgia Master Gardener and Landscape professional, For Heaven Scapes, Ltd, owned and operated by Jennifer for 11 years gave Jennifer tremendous joy and enlivened a passion for the earth and all its creatures.