wwyd? regarding baby shower

My good friends are throwing me a baby shower at the end of February, and I am so excited and very grateful. Even though my Mom is also throwing me a shower, she has been invited to attend this other shower as well. My two gf's who are throwing the shower are huge drinkers(borderline alcoholic, I worry about them.) I was informed tonight by a mutual friend that this shower is going to include cocktails. I wasn't asked my opinion on having drinks which I think it would be nice if the asked my opinion.
Anyways, my question- my mom is a recovering alcoholic who is just past 100 days sober, and I am very proud of her progress. Should I ask my friends not to serve cocktails? Or should I just let my mom know that there could be cocktails served? I hope I don't sound snotty, but they get very out of control when they drink, and I don't want to make my mom uncomfortable or tempted. Maybe there would be a nice way to suggest wine or sangria in place of cocktails? Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry if there are any typos, I'm on my "not so smart" phone. Thanks ladies :)

I don't know that's a toughy! So sweet of your friends to throw you a shower. You should have some input on the alcohol though. I myself am CRAVING a drink and would be annoyed if everyone else was enjoying that and I couldn't partake. ...this is all outside the facts about your mom's recovery.

I think it would be a nice sign of solidarity if you friends offered virgin cocktails only, also as a tribute to you and your pregnancy (then it really has nothing to do with mom and mom will feel comfortable too)

I would suggest no alcohol. Not only is your mom a recovering alcoholic but it is a baby shower and honestly you don't need to have alcohol there to have a good time. :) They should understand and respect your wishes.

You should tell your friends that you don't want alcohol served. I have some friends that drink a lot and I made it clear that the baby shower was dry. Even though it was at a restaurant that served beer. But then again my friends wouldn't ever serve drinks without my ok first. Lol

Thank you ladies for your input. I don't want to be rude to my friends, but I'm a little shocked that they never asked my opinion. I'm a little offended that they would decide this without asking how I feel about it being that I cannot have a cocktail myself.

I'd ask for none. My one and only friend when I lived California came to my baby shower with her two kids under age three got smashed (at a Restraunt) and everyone was threatening to call cops including Restraunt because she was supposed to drive those kids home. Someone found the baby 1 ft from the road (the road the mall is on). I had to go in bathroom and call her future husband who had made her agree to no drinking or the wedding was off and ask him to come get her!

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Mommy(25) to Cadence(4), Wife to Daniel(31), and expecting my second baby girl in March.

I think either option is good, asking them to not serve them or telling your mom. I'm not sure if it is exactly the same but when I quit smoking I didn't avoid smokers because I was gonna have to get used to being around them. Now it doesn't even bother me to see others smoking. But I would lean more to asking them not to to be honest. Just because it is out of respect for your mother's accomplishment. Congrats to your mom on 100 days sober!

I would ask for no alcohol to be served. I have to agree with PP...I don't understand the need for alcohol at a "baby shower" anyway. Maybe I'm weird, just a strange situation to me, doesn't necessarily go together?

I totally agree with most of the ladies here. I would definitely ask them to not serve alcohol. Your mom's recovery is so important! And if they decided to go ahead and serve it, then make sure your mom knows and let her know that you will be right there with her to help her out. But I agree, there's really no need for a baby shower to have alcohol. Hope it goes well!