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Pure Stay-At-Home Mom

In James's Military Intelligence Career Course, there were guys that were known as "Pure Military Intelligence." This meant that they were MI from their commissioning in the beginning. James was Infantry up until this course, so he switched over branches and became MI. So for James, there is this asterisk. Yep, I'm MI now, but I have Infantry experience.

I feel like I've been a "Stay-at-home mom" with an asterisk. Yep, I stay at home, but I work as a programmer part-time. Well.. unfortunately the working hours of my team in Seattle-area do not translate well to hours in Korea. It's pretty much exactly when I'll be sleeping over there. To phone into team meetings, I would have had to get up in the middle of the night.

So.. I gave my two weeks notice just a few days after we found out about Korea. We are moving soon (just a few weeks now until household goods come) and there is organizing and vet appointments and well-baby appointments and all this paperwork that has to happen.

I have a lot of feelings about not working right now. I go in between this:

And this:

I'm more sad than I thought I would be. I was already missing my team by being one of the only remote workers when I used to be physically there, but the finality of quitting (at least for the next two years) still was really sad for me.

Was it impossible to still work from Korea? No. But was it more stress than it was going to be worth? Probably. Also, I was to be able to take advantage of being in another country. The problem with working from home is that you are stuck at home. We are going to be right in the heart of downtown Seoul (I almost said right in the "soul" heh) and I want to be able to explore with Jensen during the day.

We got our command sponsorship approved. And our flights are booked. The five of us (Me, James, Baby, Dog, and Cat) all have spots on a patriot express flight to Korea. It's happening.

I've already scoped out that there are two big marathons that happen in Seoul. There is a huge running community there. Seoul is just a really freaking cool city. It's going to be awesome.

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I completely understand your struggle of emotions! That is awesome that you are able to join your husband in Korea! I have a friend who went there with her husband and she loved it there! I do not think you will be sorry for going!

Hi there! I found your blog a few months ago and "refound" it again today. My husband is in the Army Reserves and leaves for a 10 month deployment in January. This will be his second deployment during our marriage (of 2.5 years!). Anyway, I've enjoyed reading through a few of your posts and would love to keep reading during your adventure in Korea. Thanks for having this blog, it's been an encouragement to me!

Hi there! I found your blog a few months ago and "refound" it again today. My husband is in the Army Reserves and leaves for a 10 month deployment in January. This will be his second deployment during our marriage (of 2.5 years!). Anyway, I've enjoyed reading through a few of your posts and would love to keep reading during your adventure in Korea. Thanks for having this blog, it's been an encouragement to me!

Hi Melissa! Thanks for commenting! Every time I get lazy about this blog and wonder if very many people actually read it, I feel like I get a really nice comment from someone like you. Thank you! I hope the 10 months go by really fast for you both!

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