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Cherry, dressing in a lovely little black dress.
Pretty Cherry.
Punished in a cold room and crying, for herself and for every other Cherry all over the world. Cherry is full of hope and sparkling with the strength of her dreams, a girl with short hair and a head full of wonders.
She always smiles, you’d find it hard to believe that now Cherry’s cry alone in a cold room wearing that lovely little black dress.
Cherry is not a one person, though this tells the story of a single individual, Cherry’s every young woman being punished by a society so cruel they only see her as a product.

Now.
Once upon a time, little Cherry draw a door. A colorful door on the wall, her mama-dementor said its a sin to dream of happiness and to wish for freedom. Why? Because she’s a girl. Her mama-dementor put a lock on her door for a very long time and Cherry stayed inside keeping books for friends.

Then one day Cherry -powered by her little bubble of words- demanded freedom, and again was called a sinner, she got locked again. Then her bubble couldn’t watch in silence anymore, the words bubble helped her by biting the lock on her door so she could go out and see that happiness is not a sin. Cherry went out that day and came back stronger, the truth finally came to light and she knew that happiness is possible.

She went out the next day, the day after and in every opportunity Cherry went out to learn and grow stronger. Her fun journeys to the outside world were tough but that gave her strength unlike the locked door.

One day Cherry came back to find mama-dementor standing by the open door and she hit Cherry, Cherry is not young now and she tried to defend herself. I am not a sinner is what she said and that made mama-dementor feel that she’s losing control so with the help of other dementors, they locked Cherry in the cold lonely room and Cherry cried for so long. Cherry will keep cry but she is not a sinner and she will fight for herself and every other Cherry crying alone too.

This is a true story, it happens in this world every day, it may not be close to you and the other Cherry girls are not speaking loudly but its true, its painful and it happens everyday.

Cherry like all the other girls around her are all considered products, personal property that every abusive parent have birthright of ownership over. Cherry and all the other Cherry girls understand that happiness and freedom are no sin and they are no sinners, Cherry will keep fighting till the end because happiness and freedom are no sin.

Being a feminist is not all ’bout women rights and freedom, the one true drive behind feminism is respect.

Right now, the need for respect is building the revolution of women that will change the picture men of this era created of females.

As a middle eastern young woman, I first thought its just this area of the world that treat women with much disrespect. Nothing changed except knowing that even if women here are treated with much disrespect, in everywhere in the world women are being treated unfairly in almost every possible way.

But to be more accurate I will only mention the things I observed around me generally.

“Msh 3ayza Atgawez” my title which means literally I don’t want to get married is pretty much considered a forbidden line that turns a good woman to a ‘bad‘ one in front of this society, that considers a woman without a man either ‘bad’ or ‘insane’.

With bad here I meant like the same way western societies look at a man with many affairs as a ‘Playboy‘ but if its a woman it makes her a ‘Slut’.

This is how bad they consider a woman who refuses the whole idealistic marriage idea.

As a 20 something here its official that I should be in the market as a product available for marriage, I did not like that and I made a statement to make it clear Msh 3ayza Atgawez.

It was like waking a sleeping volcano in a very disturbing climate, things changed from normal colors to black and the worst when my mother said I looked like a whore when I said that.

The disagreement between us “me and my mum” is quite normal with every subject, but this time it really developed to a very dangerous point.

Suddenly I went from a normal daughter to a girl my mum can’t trust and need to monitor her every move, going out makes her feel like I will run away from that lovely squashing prison that I call home, any idea of developing in my career away from her firm grip on me and my life is obviously refused to the point that sometimes I feel like she will lock me home just to make sure I won’t even go to work.

The issue between me and my mum is not the real problem, its being itemized as ‘bad’ just ’cause I refuse to have a man in my life.

I’m a normal girl who date and go out, work and go shopping, independent compared to everyone in my age, hard working with a promising future, so now do I really need a man in my life??? My answer is no, my society would say yes BECAUSE its how its supposed to be.

I can’t live, dream or breathe until I marry someone and officially then I will be considered a human being, by then I would be considered someone’s wife and the society would say that he’s my priority now which would cancel living dreaming and breathing again.

So I either accept or turn into ‘bad’?

Another problem that I saw around is that many girls actually believe that they are nothing without a husband!!!

I can’t possibly think of that as normal even with everyone around giving me that look that says you re just a crazy bitch, I certainly can’t even understand the reasons behind believing in such a thing!!!… [To be continued]

In our Middle East Culture the Psychiatrist is rejected!!!! I always wondered about problem in that?????

Lets take a better look, when you are under stress it can manifest itself in a wide variety of health and other issues, which often leads to even more stress, and as a result, even more health issues. Dr. Melanie Schlatter explain that in the middle east doctor’s web site.

Now for Mental disorder From Wikipedia

“A mental disorder or mental illness is a psychological or behavioral pattern generally associated with subjective distress or disability that occurs in an individual, and which are not a part of normal development or culture. The recognition and understanding of mental health conditions has changed over time and across cultures, and there are still variations in the definition, assessment, and classification of mental disorders, although standard guideline criteria are widely accepted. A few mental disorders are diagnosed based on the harm to others, regardless of the subject’s perception of distress. Over a third of people in most countries report meeting criteria for the major categories at some point in their lives…..”

It’s quit normal for our souls to need care too like our bodies, so give it a chance and look for a solution in a better way.