The other night I was getting down with my boyfriend and out of nowhere a sudden rush of happy and loving emotions just hit me all at once. I felt tingly all over and I felt butterflies in my stomach. I just looked up at him and started tearing up. My heart felt warm and full and nourished. I couldn’t help but continue crying a little but trying to hide it.

I hugged him really tight and wouldn’t let go. He was confused and questioned why I was suddenly pausing to hug him so tight and all I could really whisper without giving off that I was crying was “I’m just so in love with you” and then I just told him it was making me cry since he’d end up noticing anyways, and he hugged back and we just hugged for a while.

I have never cried literal tears of joy before.. I never cry in general... this is a crazy experience for me

The first time I gave my current girlfriend an orgasm.. she cried. I. Was. Freaked. I was beside myself.are you ok? Have I done something wrong? What's happened? Have I hurt you? All these things.

Jesus freaking Christ.

Ladies. Be aware. If you tell a man that you cry when you orgasm, and then actually orgasm.. and then ya know.. cry like... Expect the man to be in pieces if it's his first the dealing with a crowd. Cuz even now.. when it happens.. it freaks me out.

My abusive ex cried during sex as a form of manipulation.
Many guys experience the crying during sex in a negative setting.
It shouldn’t be this way, but it is. A lot of guys I know personally just get a skin crawling feeling at tears.

I don’t trust many people. I’m skeptical of most tears. I’ve built a dam across a river of crocodile tears.

I told my fiancée about this and she said she wasn’t surprised. 2019 has made a lot of people just give up on relationships, or even reasonable sex. She told me about someone she worked with. He just put his clothes on and left when the crying during sex thing happened.
Just silently dressed and left.
This was with his (then) fiancée - he mentally could not process the “tears of joy”.

The biggest thing here is that tears are an instant “this is wrong” signal. 2019, most men I know stop, break up and leave it there.

It sucks but it’s true.
I’ll take my downvote(s) being honest or whatever.

Yeah, guys freak the fuck out at tears. Most guys get paranoid and start thinking things that aren’t true.
So you are having sex. She cries and your libido dies. Now your mind is racing like “is this rape?”
Without explanation, tears can fuck up someone’s mind state.
Mental impotence is a an issue.

I’ve done this before too!! My boyfriend was away for a couple of weeks and he surprised me by coming home early. We were literally having sex and I got all of these emotions and started crying and he freaked out and thought that he had hurt me!! I had to calm him down because he was so worried he’d done something wrong. It was just the moment where I had missed him and realised how much I freaking love him and bam the waterworks started. I also think that sex is super emotional and intense anyway so it always gets me in the feels

amazing. I am a guy and have a huge foot fetish. still haven't been able to talk with my girlfriend of 8 years and now fiance. A long time ago when we first started dating she had made a comment about sucking toes being nasty and now I have never been able to get passed it. So now i live a life of an unfulfilled foot fetish which sucks because Im turned on by feet alllll the time.

In 8 years these types of thoughts can change a lot. You shouldn't let something she expressed 8 years ago prevent you from bringing it up. I used to be horrified and grossed out by the idea of anal and now I find it sexy and taboo. All that took was time.

My boyfriend did this just this past Saturday night after he came. He started to say something like “I don’t know why I’m like this right now...” but i stopped him right there and told him that I completely understood because i saw it in his eyes. It was the first time something like this happened to him and he was as shocked as i was)

It’s a beautiful feeling and one that not many get to experience. Savor every minute of it.

Both times (I think) it was because of how REEEEELAAAAXED I felt. I used to have pretty significant social (and of course relational) anxiety, which I have been dealing with / letting go of, so ... I guess I just ... relaxed so much, that it all just came out my eyes? I don't understand it entirely, but there you go.

I've had it too with my ex gf, being a dude it was really vulnerable for me but I just hugged her and explained, and pretty much the same thing happened as it did to you, she ended up being mad cause it ended the sex and honestly i felt pretty hurt

Happened to me and my now wife of 10 years. Started dating 16 years ago and that happened to us in our first month. We even stopped and talked about it. We also felt like we saw things in black and white. Married 10 years on the 16th of this month and I can honestly say I love her more and more each day.

I'm a guy, and have had this without crying, was like a strong energy in my body just flowed and flowed, during and after orgasm for a long while.. I couldn't let go of her.. very immersed in the moment..

Sex with someone you love can get super emotional. My ex once cried in a similar manner. Very sweet and you feel very loved :) it's just so confusing when it happens in the middle of going down on her 😅

Oh man, I thought I was the only one who had done this. To me it happened right after an orgasm as well, I was so embarassed! I was scared that I was totally killing the mood but luckily my boyfriend understood and comforted me.

I’ve never cried during sex, but I did start laughing uncontrollably after having a mind blowing orgasm. For me the whole experience made me really happy and that’s why I started laughing. I assume similar feelings triggered it, but people react differently. My parter didn’t think I was laughing at them btw

That was beautiful, thank you so much for sharing your experience. You made me tear up a little haha. I feel this with my fiancee too, I know exactly the feeling you're describing. It's how I know I've found my soulmate <3

Connection and pleasure can evoke some overwhelming feelings. It's beautiful. I've only recently experienced a similar phenomenon and wonder how I made it my whole life without that level of satisfaction, trust, and love... just grateful for it now. What the hell else can you do?

This is true for me as well. I didn’t even know that it was a thing (separate from the single tear after sex trope). I get an intense wave of emotion and just want to ball my eyes out. It freaked him out at first because he thought he was hurting me. We both looked it up afterwards and now I think it still worries him but he almost looks forward to it because of the connective aspect.

Yep, I used to do it all of the time years ago. When my husband and I first started having sex, he was 18, and I was 16, and afterwards, quite a few times, I would shake uncontrollably for a while, and he would break out in hives head to toe! It didn't last too long, but, and neither of us have ever shaken or had hives anytime I the 23 since!

Crying before, during, or after sex is totally normal! I remember my first time, I was SUPER embarrassed. Yet all my ex did was hug me and tell me that he appreciates me and loves me. It's just, like you mentioned, a wave of positive emotions! For me, it would always happen once I felt super connected and in love and at peace. Enjoy it! It's a beautiful feeling!

This has happened to me twice. Once was very concerning at the time. We were sexing and things were going well. I could feel I was building up to something. I'm going to be go honest and say I thought I was going to orgasm, but just ended up sobbing very suddenly and intensely. He was very concerned. I still don't really know why I was crying. The other one made more sense. He had been gone for a week and we had sex the minute he got home and I cried. I was just so happy to have him back.

I do that all the time, and a lot of other women do after sex. It's something normal and my boyfriend even told me that he heard somewhere that women do tend to get very emotional after sex and it's something to do with the orgasm.

I cry during sex on a fairly regular basis, often after particularly strong orgasms. I'm sure it's some combination of endorphin release and emotional vulnerability. I once burst into tears and my husband asked what I was thinking and I told him that he during my orgasm he was looking at me like I was the most precious thing in the world...so very tied to emotion, too.

This is wonderful :) I've cried, sobbed, utterly blobbed MANY MANY times after orgasm with my husband. There's a lot going on for me - complete trust within vulnerability. And also, not to be all "woo woo" (tho I totally am) it's tantric energy that we all have the ability to experience. When I cry, I actually feel like the universe(?) is making love with me/us too. Weird I know, but in the moment it's all there. That's oxytocin for you! Enjoy and savor it.

I'm not gonna lie.. stories like these are simply beautiful!! To have some love you as much as emotion like this is just beautiful!! I hope you guys many more wonderful times together!! Thank you for sharing!!

This happened one of the first times my BF and I were together. We were in missionary at the time and we caught each others eye for a second, stopped, and both started tearing up at the same time and smiling like idiots ☺️ We were so connected and happy, it was amazing

This happens to me every so often! Never fails to embarrass me. But every single freaking time, since the first time, my boyfriend has been an absolute gem through it. He just holds me tight and kisses my face and smiles his beautiful smile at me, and patiently waits for me to let it out. Each time I'm a little less embarrassed because of how wonderfully he responds to it :)

Once, because I got happily emotional as in "oh my god I love this dude so much" and once because I was extremely stressed, couldn't concentrate or get wet (an absolute first for me) and generally couldn't enjoy it, even though he was doing everything right. I was uncomfortable, it hurt and I stressed myself even more by thinking "what the fuck is wrong with you? He's doing everything you love, why are you drier than Sahara?". We just gave up that day but yeah, crying is apparently normal for a lot of reasons.

I've experienced this several times too.. it's a weird feeling & it hits you hard in the chest. And you don't want to move .. you just want to take the feeling in. Idk what causes it to happen but at that moment you know you're in love with the person.. it's like a joy of happiness flows through your system and all you can do to release it is to cry.

This happens to my gf every time after sex. It scared me a lot at first because it's like wtf did I hurt you????. But no after awhile I get it now. She is happy that she is with me and that we are together and love each other. It's totally ok and is totally valid, you aren't the only one lady!

Yes!!!! I've been there with my boyfriend. I think I scared him because I have cried in the past due to trauma I experienced. Poor thing was worried he upset me. He really just makes me feel amazing in so many ways.

This has happened to [M]e during sex and during intense masturbation (with toys). Most recently was with toys, while fantasizing about my best friend (he's straight but we have sex every couple of weeks) and also coming to a realization that absolutely in love with him and I don't think he feels the same way. It was beautiful, sad and eye-opening all at the same time.

I experienced the same type of thing once with my bf. We were in his car doing stuff and as I was on top of him I just stopped and stared at him and he looked at me like “what?” And I just was like “god I love you so much” and we stopped and just cuddled. I didn’t cry or anything but I don’t know what it was but like..... yeah something just kinda clicked and was like “woah!” I love those moments

Whoa this happened to me last night. But kinda for different reasons. I had a really really intense orgasm and shed what I will call tears of ecstasy. Had never experienced that before so i was confused for a moment but just let it happen. Funny enough, my fuck buddy thought it was the hottest thing lol

Happened recently with my girlfriend. After we came, she was super quiet while she stayed on top with her legs and arms tucked under me, head on my shoulder and I was still inside of her. We were covered in sweat and breathing heavily, but it slowed down and she quietly cried. I just held her and kissed her. I wasn't 100 percent sure she was crying until she told me afterwards, but kinda thought she was. It was an emotional and deeply connected feeling. Not sure it was tears of joy, though. She's had some trauma previously and it may have been a mixture of emotions. Either way, good for you! It's special.

That’s happened to me with my now husband and it used to freak me out.. and freak me out that he was weirded out but he wasn’t and it’s totally okay. That is a crazy feeling- hasn’t happened in a while but it’s nice that you can feel so comforted and connected to have your body show that physically.

Oooo recently there was an episode about this on August MacLaighlin’s Girl Boner podcast recently (about crying during sex and about sex for emotionally sensitive people) - I’d recommend checking that out for anyone who wants to know more

I’m glad you had sex so good it made you cry tears of joy!! That’s wonderful!!

i use to know a Lady that would sometimes pass out afterwards , freaked me out first time I thought at first she was Dead , would last like 6/10 minuets , kinda scares the hell outta you first time it happens , ,

It's an amazing feeling to experience this and happens to me about 60% of the time. But generally my reaction begins with uncontrollable laughter ( you know, the contagious kind that leaves you gasping for air?) and occasionally devolves intro tears.

The first time it happened was shocking, but after a while I came to expect it and even look forward to it. Then I changed partners, and I'll never forget the look of panic on his face the first time it happened. Now I make sure to warn people but it's a weird thing to try and explain.

Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Your relationship is something to be admired.
I've found myself in the same position. I told my partner about the passion that I experienced with them. It was scary at first, but I found out it was mutual. Instead of hiding it, I don't have to anymore. Emotions during sex are completely natural! You should absolutely be able to let your heart be free, man. Talk to your partner about it. I'm sure they'll understand mate! Sex is a big ass thing for some people. Let it being you both together dude!

I have had this happen twice in my life. It's a good thing. Sex is (or for some people can be) a very emotional thing. Last week after we finished I start sobbing uncontrollably. There was just such a huge release and a lot going on personally in our lives, that the rush of endorphins and being able to find a safe space to zone everything else out for 30 minutes (or whatever it was) was just so completely overwhelming and such a huge release, that I just lost it.

To some of you who left comments: Crying is a totally human expression of emotion and nothing to freak out about. Be grateful that your partner is opening up to you emotionally! To the OP: thank you for this beautiful post! 💚

I've done it before a few times with my high school sweetheart. It's a raw emotional experience! One time it was a special occasion between him and I and I sat facing him whilst I rode him. He held me and we maintained eye contact then come the waterworks. I felt. It was a beautiful thing. Embrace it!

It has happened to me couple of times of joy and also of "sadness". When having mindful sex you open the emotions gate and everything just flow. Actually is very therapeutic, my boyfriend taught me how to do it.

So i do it every now and then to release hidden emotions. Last i did it with a guy i have been seeing for couple of times, but not bf. It gets a bit weird because is very intimate.

This is sweet, awesome, and whatever happy subjective one can think of! I, as a guy, have never cried during sex. But, I've cried elsewhere because of how happy I've been. I wish you two the best and hope that you two stay as happy as this.

I’ve only had one girl cry during or just after sex. The best part is how close and loving the cuddle feels afterward. It’s okay to cry anytime! Cuddling is the best time to communicate that. I’m happy for you. :)

Just don't condition your happiness on emotional reciprocity, you may end up badly disappointed. Try to realize, instead, that your happiness comes from within and is your own. Being with him may help bringing it out, but don't let him be the sole reason for these feelings. Doing so makes it a hell of a thing to live up to for him and is unfair on both of you. Source: Am mid-aged happily married dad who attempted a suicide over a girl in my youth (not whom I ended up marrying).

Happened to me about a week ago. Me and my ex girl broke up. After a while she showed up at my place unannounced... we fucked. Then when we were just about done she burst into tears. I was so confused! I thought I hurt her or something 🙆🏽‍♂️

I’ve been struggling to cum lately - I’ve felt broken and unlovable and my girlfriends are so patient about it. Yesterday my primary partner was going down on me and I felt SO connected to myself and to her and everything I was feeling and I got so relaxed and felt so safe, and then she made me cum with just her tongue and fingers and I immediately started weeping in relief and happiness and just... i dunno, release?