How to (Politely) Respond to Prying Questions About Your Wedding

As soon as you get engaged, everyone will have questions. How did he ask? Where’s the wedding? What are you planning? And while some of the questions are good-natured (especially the ones making sure you’re handling the stress all right!), others can feel totally prying. We asked our experts for a few tips on addressing—and avoiding—those wedding questions you just don’t want to answer.

While some questions are welcome (and expected), others can just rub a bride the wrong way. From inquiries about your wedding budget to questions about whether you’ll lose weight for the wedding or have a baby right away, it’s easy to want to just say “It’s none of your business!” and walk away. And while that does work if your goal is just to end the conversation, something a little more thought-out will probably go over better.

Do your best to shift the focus of the conversation back to what really matters: The person you’re marrying and why the two of you are making this big decision. Talk about how supportive or helpful he or she has been, or bring up a way they’ve surprised you as you’ve taken on the tasks of arranging a wedding. A simple statement like “None of the details matter as much as how excited I am to marry Sam!” should get the point across. You could also talk more about the feeling you’re trying to create for your wedding, instead of how much you’re spending or what details you have planned. After all, creating a fun and celebratory evening with your family and friends is what a wedding is all about!

Are the questions you’re getting more personal than you’re comfortable with? If shifting the focus isn’t getting you anywhere, let your inquisitor know it’s something you’d rather not talk about, and change the subject. Weddings can be touchy—and highly emotional—so don’t force yourself to discuss something that makes it awkward for you, with someone who doesn’t need to know everything you're planning.