Self-Pity

I have been experiencing some sad things recently. Yesterday I was thinking that perhaps everything in my life up the point when I’ve started my recovery had been horrible. Nothing ever went the way I wanted it to go. I have just never gotten a break. Self-pity and feelings of helplessness were self-indulgent and exemplified how I had been consumed only with myself and completely ignored the pain and suffering going on around me. I honestly believed that I’m the only one suffering in this world.

Those feelings of self-pity were and sometimes still are damaging my spirit and my future. Big time!

If I look closer, most people are to some extent in some kind of pain. It is the media and our society as a whole that sets us up to feel badly about ourselves. We are conditioned to desire better clothes, better cars, better jobs, better bodies. It’s all more, better, faster, thinner. Even if a person has most of everything anyone could want, there surely is something else that’s missing.

I surly know this pain and depression well.

But that’s not life. It’s hell.

I should be the happiest woman in the world. I have enough! Despite those bad moments, which are temporary.

And of course I’m dreaming of more. But not obsessing over it. I have LIFE. And I should celebrate it.

Yesterday I’ve feasted on some divine wine.

Do you sometimes experience feelings of self-pity? How do you deal with them?

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8 thoughts on “Self-Pity”

when i tell myself that i can do better, work harder, be smarter, be more beautiful, i really force myself to translate that into positive motivation to accept new challenges for progress. i see that as a good thing because the desire for more doesn’t make me depressed, it just flames my spirit.

but when i see power couples achieving more because they have double the income, double the brains, double everything, it makes me sad because i don’t want someone else right now . . . so i do beat myself up that i’m a girl without that opportunity to be the best because i don’t have a mate. and then i tell my brain to shut the hell up and focus on myself again. so don’t ever feel bad about thinking about yourself. you are what matters. your kind soul takes care of everyone else. x

Thank you, friend. This comment is amazing.
You’ve come so far with your recovery keeping a positive attitude to life which wasn’t pleasant to you in the past. You are so strong I envy you big time.
Please keep inspiring me!
xo.

I’m very often filled with self-pity! I can be such a victim. It’s a part of myself I really dislike.
But I don’t think your self-pity is unreasonable at present – you’ve been through a lot lately. Don’t be too hard on yourself. And I’m pleased to see wine is back on the menu – enjoy it!

All the time, I find myself thinking, why me, it’s not fair, I’ve missed out on so much.. but really I haven’t. i truly believe in there being a reason for everything and that my journey is very different to that of other people but not necessarily not as worthy. And i know that I DO know how fortunate i am because of the hard nature of my journey thus far. It can be hard though – we all have our really low times, when it really does seem that everything horrible life could find to throw at us, it has. All we can do then is just keep our heads above water – keep swimming.
I think you are amazing xxxxx

I’m Greta. I live in a small country in Europe. I am recovering from an eating disorder. But this blog is not only about that. It’s a cozy corner of my little life, full of passions for fashion, food, books and movies. Oh, and coffee... Coffee is the best thing to douse the sunrise with.

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