You are under no obligation to be the same person you were 10 years ago, 1 year ago, 1 month ago, 1 week ago or even 1 day ago.

Who you are is based on the thoughts you choose to think now. You can always begin to choose other thoughts that more accurately reflect who you want to be, now.

Your past is over and done with and need not affect you negatively at all. You can choose to let all your past experiences fuel your inner desire and let it inspire you to focus more clearly on who you now know you want to be and what you now know you want to experience. ❤

Today I got some hurtful criticism from my boss that brought me to my knees. At first I was furious because it felt so unfair. And now I just feel sad about it.

My co-workers were so supportive of me and tried to sooth me back into feeling better. They were on my side and thought my boss had acted without taking the time to get all the facts straight first. I used to think he was a supportive boss but right now it feels far from that. Even the thought of resigning from work has occured to me tonight.

But, I will work on regaining my emotional balance again by focusing on the bigger picture. He really does mean well. He really does know I do a great job. He cares about his teachers, he wants them to feel satisfied with their work. I do feel rather good about having him as my boss. He cares a lot about his students. He wants our students to succeed and feel good. He also wants to do a good job and meet the expectations of others. I think I understand him now, I see the bigger picture. I really do value his caring and his decisiveness. 🌹

It does feel better. I feel like I can breathe again. Writing is one of the best ways I know to find relief and feel better.

It was not the sexual abuse, it was not the physical abuse, it was not the mental abuse, it was not the eating disorders, it was not the bullying, it was not the loneliness, it was not my alcoholic parents, it was not the deaths of my parents… or any of the other things that happened to me.

I was the one who let the opinions of others affect my opinion of me, which ripped me apart.

And I was the one who decided to start liking myself again.

No matter what – YOU – have all the power you will ever need within. ❤

“To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the opportunity to eradicate your defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application.”

– Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

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This is an interesting view on how to see your difficulties. Everything can be of value and everything can inspire you to becomestronger as a person. You can find value in everything that happens to you – including the behaviour of others – especially those who treat you badly.

Those who love you and always approve of you and what you do don’t teach you to love unconditionally. They are just easy to appreciate and love because they act in loving ways. But those who behave in deterimental ways, they are your true inspirers and teachers of unconditional love and unconditional happiness. If you can find your way to love again and to feel happy again – even though they did this awful thing – now you are free. You don’t need them to behave in ways that please you, in order to feel pleased. What an empowered gift! ❤❤❤

Can everything be to your advantage? Yes! Can everything bring something good with it? Yes! Are there positive sides to everything? Yes! Are there positive aspects in everyone? Yes!!! Is there more good in the world today than ever before? Yes!!!!

How you view life, how you view other people and how you view everything that happens – no matter how big or small – will affect how you feel about it. And yes there are good and bad sides to everything but you can choose what you focus on and even seemingly evil or bad deeds and experiences give you the opportunity to focus more on how you now know you want things to be instead.

So yes, there is goodness everywhere and there is love, value, beauty, hope, faith, confidence, freedom and empowerment to bee seen, heard, felt and experienced everywhere.

Wouldn’t itfeel great to look at what went right, speak of what you enjoyed most, listen to what excites you and focus on the things that feel best to you?

Imagine the relief if you stopped complaining about your situation, if you stopped telling others about the difficulties. Let it inspire you to talk more about what you have learned from this experience and how you want it to play out next time...

It might seem like an insignificant change of focus but it is the most valuable change you could ever make!

Everything – no matter how big or small – began with a tiny thought. When you change your thoughts you will change what happens to you as well, that is how powerful your focus is! ❤

Why not be more light hearted about everything? Why not spend your time either appreciating something, enjoying something, seeing the humor in the situation or soothing yourself into relief – no matter what the situation might be.

You don’t have to spend your moments pointing out flaws, criticising or feeling bad about something. You don’t have to spend your life feeling guilty, blameful or sad because of some injustice that happened. You always have a choice. You can let your experiences strenghten you by focusing even more clearly on who you now know you WANT to be, how you WANT to feel and what you WANT to experience.