NOT IMPRESSED *Slight Update*

Re: NOT IMPRESSED *Slight Update*

@hisgirlfriday13- lmao I cracked up reading that, because that is such an awesome thing to write, and I was thinking something along those lines in my head! And can I add that I forgot to DVR His Girl Friday because I was rushing to leave for the wedding?! I was planning on watching it tomorrow (lazy Sunday) with some Riesling. I'm going to look for it on netflix.

And thanks, it is great-aunt! I'm terrible when it comes to family trees!

@pinkcow13 thanks! She is awesome. The best part about my great-grandma is that she would straight up say that to their faces. She calls people out on stuff ALL the time. Like you never know what she is going to say. FYI I love the Peter Griffin shot glass!

@jdluvr06, I feel that sometimes some people need to be called out on their nonsense! I wish I was more blunt like that in general. And thanks! I think I got them as a gift (family guy shot glass set) a few years ago. Surprisingly, my cats have not broken any of those. The ones I collect from my trips? Yep, they knock those over.

Total agreement - I normally am reasonably polite, but I have no shame in being rude back. Or at least blunt.

Based on what I see - the rudeness related to the "No damages a child's self esteem." BS. They are now adults with no coping skills who think the world revolves around them. Yet, my toddler who is in the "I'd kill you if you weren't so dang adorable" brat stage knows exactly what no means. Yes, she was the center for a long time by need - and honestly hated that at times! - but she still has toddler level polite manners. Yay. A 4 year old is better behaved than grown adults.

But, be rude back. Crush that demented ego please people! Gee, you don't like being snarked at, perhaps you shouldn't throw the snark chum to the sharks.

Ugh @cookiepusher, it totally was. After that it definately is a party here! FI and I had some tequila, now he switched to beer. He randomly picked up a "beers of Mexico" assortment pack from Rite Aid last night haha.

@pinkcow13 I sort of wish you lived closer so I could come over there with a container of my lactose-free ice cream and some cupcakes to bitch about a bride-to-be that I recently went to a party for. Because holy crap, you could totally relate to the BS she's been up to. She's on the boards (I haven't seen her post here but who knows what she reads!) so I can't publicly list her etiquette-fails!

Ugh I know, I would love a night with you knotties right now @cookiepusher! And cupcakes see my weakness! As are chocolate chip cookies! It's so crazy how girls suddenly become bridezillas. I'm all for a cupcake fueled bridezilla bitch fest!

@jcbride2014- I didn't write anything snarky (yet). FI and I ended up having too much tequila instead last night, haha. I'm interested in the fallout from all this because I know that the word is starting to spread.

You should send a card saying you had a great gift to give, but by the time you learned that the wedding had been moved, you were very hungry. You had left all your money at home, knowing a good hostess would not require you to pay for anything. Sadly, you had to pawn their wedding gift for money so you could get food. Very sad. Or just send a picture of your middle finger. No further explanation needed.

But @HisGirlFriday13, you wound me a little. I know you were just talking about baiting them, but we actually are fairly poor. That will not stop us from having a lovely ceremony and hosting our guests properly on our wedding day. What is has meant is making difficult choices about who is really important for us to be there, and planning within our means. Pinkcow's cousin skipped those crucial steps, and ended up really offending people with unconscionable behavior!

But @HisGirlFriday13, you wound me a little. I know you were just talking about baiting them, but we actually are fairly poor. That will not stop us from having a lovely ceremony and hosting our guests properly on our wedding day. What is has meant is making difficult choices about who is really important for us to be there, and planning within our means. Pinkcow's cousin skipped those crucial steps, and ended up really offending people with unconscionable behavior!

*stuck in the effing box*

But you're having a fully hosted, etiquette-proper wedding. And I don't think these people are actually poor, I think they're rude, which is the difference.

If you attend a properly hosted wedding that's dry because the B/G can't afford alcohol, and you say something about that, you're a fucking asshole prick. Because they hosted you to their abilities, and you need to be a gracious guest.

If you attend an improperly hosted wedding in which the B/G have prioritised other things over their guests, such as in @pinkcow13's example, I have no problem 'pretending' to think they're poor and calling them out on it -- because it's not that they're poor, it's that they planned very badly, and they deserve to be called out on that.

DH and I had a very small budget, and we made it work. I would never, ever, EVER criticise someone for hosting what they can afford if they're poor or on a budget. But when you pull the stunt that these people pulled, I will publicly shame you. sorrynotsorry.

@HisGirlFriday13 I understand and agree with you 100% on the matters of etiquette and proper hosting behavior. I think we are eye to eye about hosting matters. What I was referring to is the very notion that your definition of public shaming is to call them poor. Again, I know this is meant to bait them and call them out on their rudeness, but it also equates bad manners with social class. This wasn't meant to be an attack on you or a defense of their behavior. It came from a more lighthearted place.

But @HisGirlFriday13, you wound me a little. I know you were just talking about baiting them, but we actually are fairly poor. That will not stop us from having a lovely ceremony and hosting our guests properly on our wedding day. What is has meant is making difficult choices about who is really important for us to be there, and planning within our means. Pinkcow's cousin skipped those crucial steps, and ended up really offending people with unconscionable behavior!

*stuck in the effing box*

But you're having a fully hosted, etiquette-proper wedding. And I don't think these people are actually poor, I think they're rude, which is the difference.

If you attend a properly hosted wedding that's dry because the B/G can't afford alcohol, and you say something about that, you're a fucking asshole prick. Because they hosted you to their abilities, and you need to be a gracious guest.

If you attend an improperly hosted wedding in which the B/G have prioritised other things over their guests, such as in @pinkcow13's example, I have no problem 'pretending' to think they're poor and calling them out on it -- because it's not that they're poor, it's that they planned very badly, and they deserve to be called out on that.

DH and I had a very small budget, and we made it work. I would never, ever, EVER criticise someone for hosting what they can afford if they're poor or on a budget. But when you pull the stunt that these people pulled, I will publicly shame you. sorrynotsorry.

I think the problem is that you propose to shame them by calling them poor. There is no shame in being poor.