10 GREAT ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

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Trust is not always a given in a relationship. If you’ve been hurt in a previous relationship, it may be hard to trust when you start a new relationship. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, sometimes trust can be broken by one of the parties through their hurtful actions.

Either way, trust is not something that’s easy to
come by. It takes time and effort to build a foundation of trust in any
relationship. Yet it’s worth it. A deeper level of trust in any relationship
builds a stronger bond between you and the one you love.

Here
are 10 great ways to start building trust in your relationship:

1. Communicate
Openly

Communication is one of the biggest factors in trust
and it’s something that many people don’t do well. Communicating your needs
openly and honestly makes you vulnerable to your partner. Which tells them that
you’re trusting them with your feelings and you expect them to be gentle. And,
it opens the door for them to be open and honest with you as well; building a
stronger bond.

Skip the text messages and emails where so much can
get lost in translation. Instead, talk face-to-face where you can look in each
other’s eyes, hold hands, and make a connection.

2. Always Be
Earning Trust

Just as you shouldn’t take your partner for granted,
you shouldn’t take the level of trust in your relationship for granted either.
Always work to earn your partner’s trust through your words and actions. Give
them every reason to trust you and no reason to doubt you by remaining
conscious of your actions and how they may be perceived.

3. Keep
Secrets

Not from each other, of course, that would destroy
your trust. Instead, keep secrets for
each other. If your partner tells you something in confidence, make sure you
keep that secret for them. If your partner opens up to share something about
themselves with you that they wouldn’t want others to know, make sure you not
only keep it to yourself. Additionally,
never use it against them in a disagreement. Doing so will destroy their trust
and make them feel like they shouldn’t tell you things, instead, they will want
to keep secrets from you.

4. Always Keep
Your Promises

Broken Promises are not just a disappointment to
your partner, they are also a trust-breaker. Keeping promises is not just about
the big things, like taking time off work for a vacation, it’s also about the
little things. If they’ve asked you to do something for them, do it. Call if
you’re going to be late, remember to pick up the dry cleaning on the way home, reschedule
those cancelled plans. Little things can go a long way in building trust.

5. Allow
Yourself to Be Vulnerable

The ultimate sign that you trust someone is by
opening up to them. Opening yourself up
allows the other person to feel more comfortable about doing the same; therefore,
building a stronger foundation of trust between you. We all have a tendency to
keep things to ourselves at times; thoughts or ideas that we have, plans we’d
like to make, yet including your partner helps them feel closer to you. As if
the two of you have your own inner-circle secrets together. Allow yourself to
be more vulnerable where your partner is concerned to build trust in your
relationship.

6. Forgive
Often

We all make mistakes, big and small, doing and
saying things we shouldn’t. Being in a trusting relationship means trusting
that your partner will be able to forgive you when you make a mistake. And
doing the same for them. Some mistakes may take a little longer to get over
than others, yet in the end, you need to find your way to a place of
forgiveness for the sake of your relationship and building (or rebuilding)
trust.

7. Don’t Be
Judgmental

No two people are alike, we all have our
differences. It doesn’t matter why something is or isn’t as important to your
partner as it is to you, it only matters that your relationship is a safe-zone
for expressing your differences. You need to be able to respect each other, and
your differences, without judgement in order to build a trusting relationship.

8. Become a Better
You

When we take the time to better ourselves, we have
more to offer to our relationship. Personal, and individual, growth is not only
important to you, it’s important to your relationship. If you start to feel
stagnant in your own life, your relationship will suffer as well. You may not
always grow together in the same way at the same time so it’s important to
respect and support each other’s changes.
Becoming a better person will strengthen your relationship and build
your trust as your changes are accepted and encouraged.

9. Never
Argue in Public

Arguing in public can embarrass your partner and
cause a scene. Instead, take your disagreements home where you can discuss them
privately. Embarrassing and humiliating your partner in public will quickly
break down the lines of communication between you and destroy the trust your
partner has in you. It’s better to take your disagreements to a private place
where you have a respectful and non-judgmental conversation about the issue.

10. Always Be
Supportive

Being supportive of your partner will go a long way
in building the trust in your relationship. It’s important at any stage of your
relationship to know your partner has your back even if you make mistakes or
take risks. If you don’t feel that support, not only will it hold you back, it
will eat away at the trust your relationship already has or is trying to build.
When it feels like the whole world is against you, it’s important to know that
your partner is on your side, standing beside you no matter what.

A trusting relationship will be able to weather any
storm and come out better for it. And making a daily effort to work on your
relationship is work that will always pay off in the end.

In addition to these 10 tips for building trust in
your relationship long-term, here are a few simple ways you can work toward
building trust every day:

Flirt with your partner – when your
partner feels loved, they never worry about whether or not you’re being
unfaithful. It removes any doubt they may have about your feelings for them and
builds a strong bond of trust.

Socialize together – spend time with
your friends, your partners friends, and doing things with just the two of you.
You may not like each other’s friends, however if you’re willing to spend time
with them, it shows you’re committed to your relationship. And making special
plans for just the two of you to spend quality time together will let your
partner know just how important they are to you.

Don’t hide your friendships – even if
it’s only someone at work that you don’t spend much time with, be open about
who you talk to and spend time with. It doesn’t have to be a “confession,” yet
more of a “this is how I spent my day” type of conversation. Your partner will
know that if you are that open about things that don’t really matter, you must
also be open about the things that do and it will strengthen their trust in
you.

Trust is something that no relationship can ever be
without. When trust is lost, it must either be rebuilt or the relationship will
suffer and die out. The more you work to build trust with your partner every
day, the easier it will be to recover when a mistake is made and feelings are
hurt.

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