Wednesday, June 7, 2017

The invisibility switch

Like so many girls of my generation, I took myself far too seriously and was quick to mistake kindness or generosity for sexism. I would never let a man pay for dinner (or I would never admit to it, at any rate) and I wore ugly shoes I could walk in, rather than have to accept a lift home in high heels. As for winking, thigh-patting and the occasional wolf-whistle — woe betide the man who dared.

Now, aged 50, I realise how silly I was to get so wound up about such things. If I had my time again, I would accept those gestures for what they are: crude but flattering demonstrations of male admiration. And I would appreciate them all the more as I know how much I miss them now they’re gone.

Nowadays, I’d be positively overjoyed by the attention. To today’s right-on students, these must sound like the demented ramblings of a Fifties housewife. But until you’ve experienced the invisibility switch for yourself, you really have no idea what it feels like.

Trust me, there is only one thing worse than attracting unwanted attention, and that’s attracting no attention at all. Even the most impeccably turned-out women find that, after a certain age, you practically have to send up a flare to get served at a busy bar.

PJ O'Rourke nailed it when he described "the lonely Hell of the formerly cute". Female beauty is ephemeral, which is why it must be appreciated while it lasts.

Ah, it never gets old to see the high and proud brought low and humble. Not that she is humble. I don't think that is possible for her. She still manages to humble-brag.

It is rare indeed for a man to take his experiences at being brought down and using it to add value to the world, such as King Solomon who wrote Proverbs on his way up, and Ecclesiastes on his way down. I haven't been able to think of a female example, however.

She's not invisible because she's 50, she's invisible because she's fat and ugly. Looking like that at 25 would make her just as invisible. Not that getting old doesn't do what you say but she's the typical terrible example the press comes up with.

A post-wall, female friend made a similar observation to me twenty years ago, except that she also included invisibility even to other women. And a Ukrainian girl a few years before that said that for girls life is over at 26.

Her inability to transition from the attention of young men to the admiration of a husband, children, and grandchildren is testament that feminism is cancer. She is invisible by her own choice, and deserves to be in the lonely Hell of the formerly cute.

My post-menopausal 50's wife is losing weight and has started getting male attention again, which surprised her. I told her that was great and I was proud of her. She has long dark hair and is stacked which helps immensely.

What I want to know is why the age of street harassment is never studied like its the subject no one wants to even know about. Academics avoid the issue like its radioactive. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3249ff/women_of_reddit_when_did_you_first_notice_that/That was a big post on reddit with many women saying the were getting cat called at 11 or 12. Is it that it will point out that women aren't harassed or raped out of power but for sexual reasons? Is it because the people doing the call calls are minorities that can't be named? Is it because men would rather look at a 12 year old than a 40 year old and even men don't want that investigated?At the very least you would think someone would get grants to "protect the children" but no literally nothing. Like the subject does not exist and so shall not be discussed. Same data on rape crimes is available (except oddly US data) that the peak age for rape is 14 with 11-22 being peak ages with large drop offs at 24 and 10. Its like the subject that shall not be named.

Trust me, there is only one thing worse than attracting unwanted attention, and that’s attracting no attention at all. Even the most impeccably turned-out women find that, after a certain age, you practically have to send up a flare to get served at a busy bar.

Tear in my eye; Now she has to live in the same reality that 98.65% of all men are stuck with as a matter of course. Feminists may promise women "equality," but time and old age guarantee that they will receive it, good and hard.

A married friend of mine remarked that she couldn't imagine dating at this age/stage. She's 36 and married to her one and only, the high school sweetheart. They still look at each other like the teens they were when they fell in love. Beautiful.

She knows the worth of that relationship and cherishes it. Another mutual friend (a man) recently divorced and began dating again. He has a much wider range of options than his ex-wife.

This isn't rocket science, all you need do is look around you, examples abound.

Pride does indeed goeth before a fall. Those proud boobs in the hot babe pic of the articles subject...oh and yeah, agreed, she got fat which has a lot to do with attractiveness regardless of age.

Are we supposed to feel something? I don't even feel schadenfreude, because this is just a regurgitation of the bleedin' obvious.

The final two paragraphs are a hoot, though:

"The worst part of it, though, is that, if anything, you feel happier and more comfortable in your skin than ever before"

So she's happy and comfortable being lonely and visible? If so, what's the point of this story?

"That is the awful irony. Young women have it all, but don’t know it; older women know it all, but no longer have it. Somewhere in between, there’s a golden moment when it all comes together. But blink and you’ll miss it."

I realize that's little more than a pile of cliches intended to give assurance ("older women know it all"), she still really wants to believe it's not her fault ("blink and you'll miss it").

My nominee for White Knight of the Year goes to Lazlo Toth1, of the Mail comments:

"I never wolf whistled. But when I was younger, I found older women who took care of themselves to be insanely alluring - even more appealing than women my age, because the older women had the mystique of experience and wisdom. Of course, at that age I kept that to myself. I'm 61 now and I still find that about women in my age group and am not particularly attracted to women under 50 or 55 - women older than that still have the same mystique and allure, and the comfort we all have with ourselves adds to the eroticism when we let it."

It's an amazing thing when a woman stays beautiful past her youth. Younger women in my experience ruin their physical beauty with their terrible personalities, and when an older woman is still hot, and has a cool and flirty personality, it is really amazing.

And while some of them are younger, the evils depths they can go to are unbelievable. Good warning for blokes dating crazy bitches:

"Michelle Carter urged her boyfriend to commit suicide so she could play a grieving girlfriend, a US court hears."http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-40181522

Scroll way down in this article and you can find the huge string of texts over WEEKS where she manipulated him into it: http://www.masslive.com/news/index.ssf/2017/06/take_a_look_at_the_text_messag.html

Also at the Daily Mail Christie Brinkley age 63 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-4583104/Christie-Brinkley-puts-toned-legs-maximal-display.html At 13 years older then Sarah Vine, if you saw them both alone in a bar, which one would you go after? I'm thinking the old lady.

Way back when, on our local TV, they did one of those semi-serious doco/experiments: they got an attractive, early-twenties woman and put her in overalls, tucked her hair up under a cap, made up some bum-fluff on her face and got her to work as a gas station attendant for a day.

Her bubbly, out-going personality evaporated over the course of the day as almost every single customer, male or female, young or old, ignored her attempts at conversation and by the end of the day she was utterly dejected.

At the post-experiment debrief she said it was horrible and she couldn't wait to be a girl again; when you're a guy you're nothing, like a piece of furniture.

I don't know about you guys but a female is hottest between 16 and 23. Ok, maybe until 25 but that is stretching it. I can usually tell when a girl is past 24 and I definitely look at her different. I don't know why people say they have until 30. Weird.

As for winking, thigh-patting and the occasional wolf-whistle — woe betide the man who dared.

Unless this twat lives in a Third World Country (or parts of Southern Europe), there is NO WAY she was ever "wolf-whistled," the last documented instance of which took place in 1972 before the practice was criminalized with penalties more severe than those for assault or rape.

More to the point, no obese, attitudinous, tattooed and pierced she-beast (i.e., the majority of women today) is ever going to be the target of that kind of positive attention signal, even if it was still socially acceptable. Even non-she-beasts exhibit the same attitude, so most men just can't be bothered. "Wolf-whistling" is an ancient behavior that has gone almost extinct, much like feminine behavior in western women.

Thanks for the trip down memory lane on PJ O'Rourke's "lonely hell of the formerly cute" remark which was directed at a forlorn Bianca Jagger, the morning after Ortega's electoral loss in Nicaragua(I think).

PJ's other gem that stuck with me: "It's always tempting to impute unlikely virtues to the cute".

@liberranter - To be fair, many sections of most modern Western cities are a Turd World countries, not that any of these puce-coiffed progtards ever venture anywhere near the "bad side of town." Hell, it's difficult enough to imagine them walking, period.