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Sunday, December 20, 2009

We both felt an immediate attraction and knew there was something worth exploring. That was the mutual feeling we had about each other the first time my ex and I locked eyes.

And what was my ex doing at the time? Being cradled in the lap of an ex! On querying this later I was told: ‘they were just good friends…’

Yeah, right!

When the time comes, we publicly declare our intimate relationships null, void and very over. But women in particular are notorious for not knowing how to break up. Read: masochistically prolonging emotional suffering.

The all-consuming time, energy and pain of the process most of us put ourselves through when the end is nigh is often a spectacular drama of our own creation.We direct our own many miserable scenes, until the moment we finally decide to bring that curtain down.

After all, how many times does it have to hurt seeing our ex partner involved with his/her new love before we are willing to let go and free ourselves?Just like our ex has.

Making the physical departure out of someone’s life during a break-up has little bearing on the slow psychological departure back to emotional health each of us has to make. Unless, of course, you’ve gradually been making that departure for years under the radar while you’ve purportedly been ‘content’ in the relationship?

But whether you’re the dumper, the dumped or it’s a mutual arrangement, you cannot escape the process. If you’re the dumped, you’ll likely be in shock and denial initially.

From my own experience, I’ve realized ending an important, intimate relationship of whatever length means being willing to go through the five stages of loss – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But not necessarily in that order, because it’s always such a personal and individual process.

Be conscious of what you are feeling as often as you can, because getting stuck in any one of the stages could spell danger. If that’s the case, you’re likely unwilling or unable to move through the entire process towards your healing. And you may need some help at this point.

If you’re in a situation where one or both parties don’t possess enough emotional maturity to sit down and talk things through amicably, you may want to count this as a blessing instead. Why? Although more painful in the short run, in the long run this is far better for your de-cording process.

For your what?

I’ve come to understand that a third, very real energetic entity is forged when you enter a relationship with someone.These are the energetic cords, the ties that bind us to each other. And due to its subtle but powerful influence, it is often the force that is the most difficult to dissolve. However, it is one that you need to begin dismantling as part of your quest to return you to you.

You may like to see them as invisible strands or fragments of your own being or power that you gave away to your beloved.During a relationship’s good times most women want nothing more than to be bound as it produces the feeling of caring and being cared for.

But after it’s over, these are the cords that pull on you, creating the emotional pain when those charged feelings of longing, regret and past/future fantasizing, amongst others, come up for you.

An unhealthy symptom of cording post the relationship, though, is the all-consuming obsessive feelings it triggers. Most humans feel incomplete within themselves. And cords are how we contract to ‘feeding’ each other psychically, emotionally and energetically. Though this agreement usually takes place unconsciously, it’s always a two-way street even if it appears differently to you. From a soul/Higher Self perspective, you wished to experience all you are.When I’m working on dissolvingcords in my own life I constantly see them as a separate but connected third entity, in existence both internally and externally.

De-cording is all about pulling back your own essence into you once again. Sometimes, it could be for the first time ever in your life, depending on your history before this. There are several ways to do this, but personally, I find the power of intention works the best and quickest for me.Before I discovered this, it once took me almost as long as the life of a relationship itself to fully release an ex, healing and freeing myself.

Years ago, someone who could actually see cordings between people said: ‘Imagine fine tubes criss-crossing between people currently in relationship, between the dead and the living and between ex-lovers. It’s like a zillion mini-highways constantly moving between humans’.Even if you can’t see these, it doesn’t mean they’re not there, keeping you energetically fragmented until you decide you want to do something to retrieve those lost parts of yourself.

Of course, there’s always a payoff for not wanting to release/retrieve cords and holding onto the past. And clearly why so many do. Going into a memory of what was between the two of you – no matter how distorted you may have allowed time to recreate it – can still produce that warm, fuzzy inner glow.

You may find yourself years later and in another relationship still quietly pining for your old love.Confirmation enough that the cord to that person was never properly released/retrieved when you originally parted company. Even though you entered a new relationship.

Not letting go is also a great mechanism for dealingwith hurt (or not dealing with it) by being automatically unavailable to vulnerability, and thus from further potential hurt.

And while I constantly encourage those I see to work with the ‘feeling is healing’ approach, sometimes the pain is just too overwhelming and some people do succumb to denial.You know, ‘everything’s fine’ and ‘I’m totally over the relationship now’, etc. When this happens, as one psychologist puts it, the feelings have to come out ‘sideways’. This can result in all manner of denial symptoms from the start of addictive behaviour (drugs, gambling, fitness) to numerous escape tactics or mental disorders such as depression or anxiety. In an attempt to numb out all feelings, you’re creating an extra load of issues that will also, sooner or later, need to be dealt with.

It is okay to allow and feel loneliness, sadness, anger and all those other emotions deemed ‘negative'. In fact, it really is the wisest way forward for your personal healing.

As spiritual teacher and author of The Seat of the Soul, Gary Zukav says: ‘your soul speaks to you in the language of emotions’.

[Mail me if you’d like me to share my intention formula on this with you]

PEARLS OF WISDOM

From Heavenletter #164

To Great Wonder

'...our vision and truth will be inseparable, for it is My vision that will be yours.

Wouldn't you rather see through My eyes than your nearsighted ones?

Wouldn't you rather use My heart and My breath? The truth is that My heart and My breath are what are and what you have been using. Partly. You have none of your own. Your heart beats through Mine and I breathe your breath.'

New Era Relationship : The Q & A Of Intimate Intelligence

DNA awakening and spiritual/consciousness expansion are reliant on our emotional intelligence (EI) for growth. Our intimate relationships perfectly mirror the work that we’ve done, as well as what still needs doing towards greater integration and balance within. [E]motion (energy in motion) is our prime navigational tool. Here's a space to ask and explore everything you ever wanted to know on how to do relationships that return you to your own power...

(I will be going into some of these Q's in depth in upcoming relationship articles, as this space only provides for short responses)

Q:Our relationship seems to have entered the mundane;we no longer inspire each other, we take each other for granted,are not open or honest in the way we once were with each other and distance and misstrust seems to have set in. What can we do?

A:Because you haven't said any different, I'm assuming there are no external factors that may have contributed to your current relationship experience. Road blocks like these can help us reconnect in a more authentic way. First to ourselves and then to our partners. Perhaps our initial connection with each other was based on the other making us feel ‘safe’ and ‘complete’. And when we have that we often become comfortable and complacent. Which often invites stagnation in in turn. We need to ask: ‘Where are the places within where we don’t feel safe and complete. And why?’. As this is what motivated our need to be filled up externally in the first instance. You may want to blame something or someone outside of yourself for what is occurring. But the best contribution you can make to your relationship healing now is to explore where and when you stopped feeling safe, trusting and started feeling incomplete in your history. Once aware, memories trapped in your emotional bodies that have created such imbalances can begin being brought up for release. This will eventually lead to a more ‘whole’ relationship response by you. Here you'll have more of you to bring to a relationship and less needs to be filled by another. New era relationships avoid power imbalances, so having a partner who is equally responsible for him/herself emotionally is crucial to its success.

Q: How much damage can resentment (from one or both partners) create in a relationship? And is this repairable if it has been going on for many years?

A: Resentment is like a cancer that can eat away at the core of all that remains good in your togetherness. If you don’t understand it and allow it. It produces numerous symptoms, ranging from anger to withdrawal. As with much else that creates relationship havoc, it is a result of dishonesty and mistrust - mostly of the Self. Yet, to heal it is necessary to explore and purge this slow-cooking (e)motion at cause to ensure the relationship's forward movement. Rather than managing a symptom or two only to have resentment return down the line. If this happens, you'll know the root cause was not reached sufficiently. Additionally, acknowledging, separating, returning and fully owning which issues belong to whom, energetically-speaking, is the start of honouring the Self. Because the chief relationship that runs our external ones is the inner one we have first with our Selves.

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About Me

A decades-long preparation is about to pay off...I can feel it!
I believe the future of all of our choosing is about to begin.
I've never been convinced that being positive and performing rituals which comfort can alone answer the requirements of what's energetically needed to free ourselves from the 3rd Dimension/Fear Matrix. And the downside is these sometimes serve to keep us in that holding pattern of denial or idealism. I think of myself as an optimistic realist! Especially when I real-ised the work involved in growing ourselves.
To answer this need I developed EmoAlchemy - a variation of the ancient mystery school teachings. Like the alchemy of old which involved the transmutation of base metals into gold, taking full advantage of the current Ascension offerings requires the turning of base emotional states into (the gold of) higher frequency ones. It means constantly reviewing, releasing and integrating imbalanced parts of yourself in order to have a physically-successful effect on your biology, subsequently 'awakening' your dormant DNA.
And part of what we're needing to survive Earth's rising frequencies at this time.

Hollow/Inner Earth Map

See Forum Below

Hollow Earth

En-Trance

INNER EARTH Q & A FORUM:

This year I've received loads of questions about the inner earth humans, life in their cities and their relationship to us. Of course, there have been some who have told me outright that I need to get myself to the nearest nuthouse asap! :-) But seriously, rather than relay what I've learned through an article, I thought it would be great to facilitate direct dialogue between you via channelled responses.To get the ball rolling, send your question/s so everyone can benefit. If you're thinking about it, chances are so is someone else!

Q (KN): Do the inner earth beings need my help?

A

Q (SK): How on earth can humans survive in the inner earth? Isn't it too hot, and dark?

A (Bohar): Your governments have farmed out so-called 'official lines' to top scientists and geophysicists to convey to the public on such questions. This is mostly the (dis)information that makes the mainstream media and helps decide public opinion on this and other topics. Yet, there's a growing group of independent scientists who understand and accept the earth as being a hollow entity. Rather than hot malten magma at the earth's core, heat is generated by our sun. You will find our Agarthan crystalline cities hundreds of miles into the interior. Powered by an inner earth sun, it creates both perfect warmth and light for our sustenance. Gravity, as you know it, ceases to exist - which accounts for our living in a timeless/ageless existence.Close to the surface entrances are a system of caverns. All manner of non 5th Dimensional beings reside there and yes, it is dark and dank in places.Q (Jules): How do we get there and what mode of transport do you use?

A (Bohar):Numerous surface folk have tried to access the inner earth via various means over the past centuries. However, recently we've had to seal entrances in greater measure to prevent harm being inflicted on us by surface dwellers- mostly shadow government groups. Those that do come here either have a soul contract to do so or come due to to the upstanding nature of their character, which warrants access.

We, ourselves, get around via our underground monorail vehicles or via our space shuttles when we leave this sphere. Here we make use of various surface entrances/exits including the North and South Poles.Q (Jules): I'm studying photography. Is it possible to capture images of your world with our digital camera technology, should we ever be able to visit?

A (Bohar):We would only need to make some minor adjustment to your cameras to make them inner earth-friendly. We would also make another camera adjustment on your departure. Other than that, we see no problem with capturing images of our world, much as you do on the surface.