(Closed) Do I send a gift to a wedding I’m not invited to?

My second cousin is getting married in June. It will be a small wedding, so I’m not invited. However, I’m getting married in September and he and his then wife will be invited. Should I send a small gift?

Why not? I received wedding gifts from friends and family that weren’t invited to the wedding. It’s a sweet gesture and lets the couple know that you are supporting them and sending your love even if you’re not invited. Send them a small gift to say congrats! But consider sending the gift close to the wedding date so that they don’t think you’re fishing for an invitation.

That’s a really nice gesture. Depending on the couple, you might try to keep it small. I know I’m having a small wedding and would probably get a little uncomfortable if someone who wasn’t invited bought us a gift. I would worry that I should have just invited them in the first place. However, I also tend to overthink things. I think a gift would be wonderful if you want to give one. 🙂

I agree with everyone else that you aren’t required to since you didn’t get an invite but it would be a nice gesture. However are you sending them a gift b/c you are inviting them to your wedding and would like a gift from them in return?