Emotions, Events, & Actions

The women I read for are strong, determined, and willing to take some responsibility for their lives. They understand that it’s important for them to go out and get what they need — that’s freewill. But of course, like any other normal human being they also want to know what will happen to them — this is destiny.

While I’m perfectly content in looking at what might happen to you, I most often like to focus on what a seeker can do to rock their world. All you need is you.

Anyway, the following questions come up a lot in my readings:

Will I ever get married?

Will I ever find true love?

Who is my true love?

The first answers (or my responses) are:

Yes, if you want to.

Yes, if you want to.

I don’t know. Who is your true love?

Just kidding a bit on the last response. 🙂 But in all three cases I didn’t touch one esoteric or psychic tool. I just spoke from the heart and instincts. It’s just a gut reaction to say that someone will have whatever they want to.
Sure, I can easily take a look at the likely probability of who your true love is, what they look like, so on and so forth; however, wouldn’t it be so much better if YOU decided who that would be? And by the way, that’s what most of us are looking for: a life partner, not a true love.

Do you really want to leave your precious life and future up to a fortune telling parlour game?

HOMEWORK

Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Start looking for love in the right places!

Draw up a list of qualities that you WANT in a mate. Get VERY specific. If you don’t have a certain “look” in mind than ensure that everything else is specific.

Here are some examples:

General: Loves to cook Specific: Loves to cook for me and my kids

General: Likes to go out Specific: Likes to go out and see movies, play sports, visit with friends, etc..

General: Employed Specific: Employed doing what he loves to do and preferably in the medical field

General: Has great eyes Specific: Eyes are clear, big, and wide full of wonder and love

General: Has children Specific: Has children that are around my children’s age / moved out / adopted, etc. etc.

It’s OKAY to want things. It’s OKAY to be happy with the person you want to be with.

Now draw up a list of DEAL BREAKERS. These are things that induce warning bells, sirens, and stop signs! Again get VERY specific on what you DO NOT WANT in your life.

General: Has kids Specific: Has kids that spend every weekend with him.

General: Overweight Specific: Has unhealthy extra pounds that he doesn’t want to get rid of / not due to medical reasons / etc. etc.

General: Dislikes his family Specific: Doesn’t visit family on holidays / talks badly about them / has no relationship with them / etc. etc.

General: Doesn’t want the same future Specific: Isn’t interested in travelling around the world and seeing life like a joyride.

It’s OKAY to be a little superficial — we are HUMAN. 🙂
Everyone’s list is going to be different, I hope. Mine? I already found my life partner. Here’s my mini Life Partner story:

When I was 12 I had a birthday cake and a birthday wish. I wished on meeting my true love — I was a romantic, even early on. I wished a number of things about my future soulmate including them needing me to take care of him and that he was rough around the edges but that I could “fix” him. Oh and just to mention, I drew up a list before the birthday festivities that included other faulty yet charming characteristics of my perfect soulmate (on paper noless — I was an imaginative child but had no clue that I was sealing my fate for a good chunk of my life) HA! Anyway, very silly of me to wish such things because that’s all I ever got until I was in my twenties and then I remembered that I had made that wish. So I drew up a new list of must have’s and dealbreakers and this time one of my must have’s was that he was an artist and loved me. Well, those men starting coming into my life too but there was still something missing. When an engagement failed into a breakup in my early thirties I was alerted to a stark reality that if I didn’t get my act together, I wouldn’t be able to start that family and be a happy Mrs’. I said to myself: “You better figure out what you REALLY want in a life partner!” So I got very specific on what I wanted and he materialized!! My life partner and I have been happily married for close to five years now. yay!! 🙂

So, it’s true. All you have to do is wish upon a star but it’s very important to know exactly what you are wishing for because what you wish for, you will get!

Now, going back to you (you are my favourite subject btw — not kidding!!)…

Take a look at the dealbreakers. How many times have you dated those? Maybe you are even involved with one right now. Does that make sense? Logically, no. Emotionally, yes. As humans we are often drawn to what isn’t good for us and because we know it deep down, it makes the whole experience really stinky after we are finished and that leads to beating ourselves up, not moving forward, above & beyond, etc. etc.
But I digress… Point is… You are likely to not want what you have even though you brought it upon yourself. Yes, you did. That doesn’t mean a naughty boy who treats you like trash should be doing that or that you deserve that but if you choose to take some responsibility for the choices you make, then you will see that you kind of brought it upon yourself. Suck it up sister! *hugs*
Just make peace with this and start again. Start again with the person you are with even (if it’s healthy and you can), but start again. Know what you don’t want and then push away from it. By writing it down, your subconscious will take over and will not send those “Hey, I’m attracted to you you hunk of burning love” vibes to the WRONG MEN. Because, you are not attracted to them, right? You said so yourself, if it’s a dealbreaker you want no leading lady part in that drama. You. are. not. interested. It’s that simple. Unwasted time & emotions. And that’s the vibe that will be sent their way and you know what, “They won’t even make themselves known to you — guys are great like that… well, most of them.”

So do yourself a favour and wish like a kid under the christmass tree but be smart, not like I was way back when because you get what you wish for.

By the way, this applies to women who love women, and men who love men. It’s just that most of my clients seem to be heterosexual women who want a man as a life partner and this little piece of writing is mainly for the women I serve on a regular basis!

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Abella Arthur is a certified professional psychic. She uses coaching, counseling, consulting, guiding and reading skills coupled with tools such as Tarot, Astrology, Numerology and Palmistry to provide a simply life-changing experience. Contact Abella to receive private and special event entertainment readings, fortune greeting cards, or learn how to do what she does. http://www.knowtheway.ca

Last night Ryan and I were reading for a bunch of very nice patrons of a favourite restaurant of ours (one in which we will be holding monthly “readings” — stay tuned) and a fellow asked me if I would hold his hands and see what I could get from it. Sure, why not. I do a bit of psychometry (even though it’s not a main thing) and I’m clairvoyant (even though that’s not strong because I don’t want it to be — I prefer being clairsentient) and telepathic.

I also felt “comfortable” with seeing whatever came into view with this gentleman and the first thing I saw was a star and then it seemed to be drawing itself in a shape of the Star of David and I told him what I saw but it didn’t seem to mean anything to him so I said, “Are you jewish? Do you know of anyone Jewish who is helping you with something at work for financial reasons (i.e. the star = success).” And he said no. Then a couple of minutes later he said quite seriously, “What’s your name? I’m David”. And I found that to be quite bizarre given I saw the “Star of David” so in his case it meant that David is a star which is what I had been telling him during his reading. And after I explained that to him he “got” the Star of David reference.

By the way, my partner Ryan just told me that David introduced himself to Ryan “before” I gave him a reading because after writing this entry, I myself wondered if he just said “I’m David” to humour me but that wasn’t the case and I didn’t get that at the time either. I tend to be very analytical and like to seek the truth and will question my experiences to find it. 🙂
I don’t normally find names (because I haven’t seemed to care about them) but who knows, maybe that’s coming up for me now so I shall try a bit of psychometry in the future when I see people in-person.

Anyway, the moral of the psychic experience story is this: Accurate interpretation of symbols and signs can take a very long time and requires a lot of practice with feedback. When you start to use your psychic faculties in varying ways, just say what you see rather than describing what it could be. The sitter is likely to know what you are talking about even if you don’t. *grin* But sometimes in the case of David, it might be hard to see the connections because even if they are obvious, if it’s slanted in a particular direction it can be hard to open it up to another direction.
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btw, it was really nice to chat with the people I read for while Ryan was reading for them. I was just talking about myself and my experiences while “reading them”. We shared some wine and dinner was on the house later on. These are special times and the reason why I like doing special events where I can connect with seekers outside of readings. Socializing, connecting, expressing. This is hard to do when I’m reading the whole time which is why I will only be doing a few readings at our Halloween Psychic Party in October. I want to be able to sit down and chat with seekers in a relaxed and friendly way in a group setting where I’m not “on-the-clock”. 🙂 When someone gets paid, myself included, the time isn’t often as enjoyable as “freestyling”.

It doesnt interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love-for your dream-for the adventure of being alive.

It doesnt interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by lifes betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain-mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy-mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toeswithout cautioning us to be careful to be realistic or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesnt interest me if the story you are telling me is true.I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, Yes.

It doesnt interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesnt interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesnt interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments….
–Oriah Mountaindreamer