Do people really like the chase and if their isn't any they get bored of it or dont bother because they know they can have the person?

Just I been told most people won't go after you mostly guys if their isn't abit if chase and well im not the person to do that i want the person to know im interested. But is it true that people won't bother if your to avilable or make your feelings known to fast. I just dont see why we have to play games why can't we justbe upfront when we like someone and say how we feel wouldn't it be better to know where we stand and then if nothin happens we move on to the next?

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I absolutely hate this 'chasing' crap. First of all, I feel its really unfair that in spite of so many changes in gender roles, men are STILL expected to ALWAYS make the first move. I firmly believe that it doesn't matter who makes the first move as long as it works out.Having said that, 'chasing' is out of the question. I have other, more important things to do than waste my time 'chasing' someone, when I'm not even sure if she likes me or not. I don't mind making the first move if I'm really interested. But if she expects to be 'chased', then she's gonna be let off my hook instantly. Its her loss, not mine.

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No I agree. Your right. All I expect it once I am in a relatinship the guy makes time as I do for him. And to fight alil bit as I will for the relationship. I only expect it once were dating other wise it fair dont expect much.

Wow, now that's refreshing! I'm sick and tired of coming across so many girls who fall head over heels with a guy, and when I ask them if they haven't told him yet, they casually say "I can't do that, I'm a girl. Its a man's job to approach a girl first and ask her out". I'd really like to stick my middle finger in the faces of such girls, but I don't do that because its none of my business and I maintain a certain level of dignity.

Well it good you reframe your self from doing that lol But no we girls should just make it known some are shy but so are guys we all are just the same dont want to be rejected but someone gotta make the move or it not going to go anywhereI told a guy not to long I like him and I didn't expect him i feel the same way and I still wanred to friendship but he didn't want either so it hurt but at least i knew where i stand and it now that i did it once it won't hurt to do it again! Lol

Yeah, agreed! Girls are sometimes so hypocritical when they say that men shouldn't be afraid of rejection, when that's exactly what is preventing them from ever making the first movie. The stuff they say, like "What's the worse that could happen? She can only say yes or no?", applies to girls as well. For heaven's sake, women's ability to communicate and express their feelings isn't any lesser than that of men in any way, and perhaps even better. Its not like women are born with a conditional lock over their mouths which engage only when they have to ask men out. Ridiculous.And regarding what happened with that guy, I'm sorry about that. But my general advice to anyone, irrespective of gender, is that if someone rejects you its the other person's loss because he/she lost someone who had feelings for them, but you just got rid of someone who never had feelings for you. :)

Your absolutely right. The worse is a simple no. And as you said it is their loss if they can't see what was in front of them. Someone else will for sure and it be a yes. And your right now i dont have someone that doesn't care for me im not wasting my time. It best to find out then wonder if you hard a change or not best to have no regrets. ^_^

Wow, that's the spirit! Getting rejected should be seen as a new beginning rather than the end of the world, irrespective of gender. And people who expect to be 'chased', just have inflated ego and they believe that they're really 'desirable' (which is far from true).

You know, a few years back I was interested in someone who wanted me to 'chase her, and I obviously lost interest in her immediately after I realized that she needed a chase. But to bring her back to her senses, I pretended to chase her aggressively. Finally, she said "Ok, you've impressed me enough to date me", to which I replied "When did I ever say i would date you? We both had our share of fun chasing and being chases, so that's it. End of the story". The constipated look on her face at that point was a treat to behold!

Anyway, kudos to you for breaking out of the mold and confess your feelings to a guy. If more girls were as open-minded as you, it would make the dating lives of guys a lot simpler! :)

It deff not the end of the world it just means your getting redirected to someone that would appreciated you for you, see your self worth.

Lmfao haha that a story to tell and feel proud of I feel at least a oerson should act like that idc that would rub me wrong what she did. But good for you!

Lol believe me it took two past relationships and friends that come and go plus fam to help me to get where I am today. To have an understanding. Life funny way of molding us into the person we pick to be! ^_^

Irrespective of what inspired you, I just hope you yourself become an inspiration for other girls to approach guys at least sometimes, because we guys are fair enough not to expect to be approached always! :P

Yeah right! If a girl was to approach me or ask me out (which has happened several times to me), I'd definitely give her a chance even if I didn't like her at that point, due to sheer admiration for her courage and practical thinking!

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I hate "the chase." If a girl is playing hard to get then I assume she's not interested and I move on. The sad thing is that I heard some girls like being chased, they also think that if a guy doesn't chase them then it MUST mean that he is not interested - which is complete bull shit.

So I agree with you completely. It's all just a stupid game in my eyes. If those folks want to play it then let them play. You, me and other people like us will do our thing and find each other someday.

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Exactly. It annoys me and I dont wanna be figuring it out just be honest. And I can't wait for the day that we the ones that aren't into that do meet.

If I would enjoy chasing it's more like I see someone, and think "Hmmm can I get her? Let's try" while if I actually want a relationship, I'm not really looking for that same excitement, if you know what I mean?

What Girls Said 2

I love the chase, I love playing a little hard to get and the flirting with sexual undertones. I love the whole 'you can have me if you play your cards right' banter you can have, and I think the sexual tension that is created when you know you both want it, but can't fulfill those desires just yet makes you want it so much more, making the end result so much more worthwhile. However this is something I do with men I only intend to sleep with, and perhaps things would be different if there was an emotional attachment as opposed to a sexual desire.