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If you’re in a long term relationship, it’s understandable that you’d feel dissatisfied after a time, especially if you’ve been together for more than a few years. It’s inevitable that things will begin to feel a bit too routine and then you’re stuck in a rut or maybe just feel less-than happy with how things are going. Because I know this is quite a common issue, I’ve come up with a few ways you can get satisfaction out of your relationship {without becoming a naughty cheater!} that will help you feel happier, healthier, and more fulfilled.

How to Get Satisfaction In A Relationship

{Without Becoming A Naughty Cheater!}

Talk to your partner about any existing concerns. If there is something that is bothering you in a relationship, whatever it is, you have the right and also owe it to your partner(s) to speak with them about it. After all, they might have no idea you even have a problem! When you sit down and discuss what’s bothering you, you might find that either your partner is having the same issue as you or maybe they had no idea you were having that issue. Either way, once the concerns are brought to light, you may find that you have a more positive and open dialogue between your partner(s) that allows you to air out concerns, fantasies, etc. and work through things together instead of just fighting through it all on your own.

Mix Things Up! Sometimes, routine feels nice, but other times, it can feel dull and boring. When it gets to the point that things are automatic and you’re no longer fully experiencing every erotic exchange between you and your partner, you know it’s time to mix things up! This can be as simple as trying new sex positions or as complicated as taking on a new sexual lifestyle such as a BDSM relationship, trying out anal for the first time, or indulging your yiff fantasies! Anything new will give you that much needed refresh that you sex life needs.

Focus on giving one another new kinds of sexual sensations. Again, sometimes you just need to mix up your routine, but this tip specifically focuses on giving pleasure to one another. That means spending extra time on foreplay and really focusing on making the other person feel good. I know a lot of people think foreplay is overrated, but it’s truly not, I promise!

Get in touch with your own self-pleasure. Lastly, if everything else is going great and you still feel a bit dissatisfied, then maybe your own self-love routine needs a pick-me-up. After all, you deserve love and attention just as much as your partner, you deserve ME time and a little masturbation never hurt anyone. Many people find that masturbation improves the overall happiness and quality of a relationship so, if you’re contemplating buying that new sex toy, now’s the time to invest in yourself 😉

Sexual health is an important factor in our lives and whether that means getting enough sleep, getting your annual checkup or eating well, all of them play a part. Today’s post is sharing a few tips on which foods will benefit you the most when it comes to your sexual health and which can benefit you if you’re having issues with your sexual health, whether hormonal or impotency issues, the best way to assist these concerns is always through diet!

Sexual health is one of those things that can bring your whole life up or down depending on it’s status, but it all depends on how balanced your sex hormones are. In truth, balancing your hormones can do a whole lot more than improve your sex life like help you lose weight, build muscle, feel happier, and have more energy so today’s foods are all focusing on how to help you balance your hormones, especially sex hormones, and give you the best sex of your life 😉

Eat These for Awesome Sex

Wheatgrass. Wheatgrass is like a shot of potent vitamins and minerals and will give you instant energy boosts throughout the day, but without the crash, so it’s ideal for improving libido and sexual stamina!

Spinach. Avocados. Bananas. High in vitamin B6, among others, spinach, bananas and avocados all help alleviate progesterone imbalances in both men and women which, in terms of sexual health, assists with the proper function of egg and sperm production.

Meat! Many kinds of meat are high in zinc which is a major contributing factor to the production of testosterone ( which is needed for both men and women’s sexual health) Try: Beef, lamb, crab or oysters.

Dark Chocolate. Also high on the zinc meter is dark chocolate, but it also has added benefits because it includes beneficial flavonoids (only dark chocolate!) and some also claim it has aphrodisiac-like effects.

Fish & Eggs. Fish and eggs are high in the ultimate omega-3 fatty acids which are responsible for building strong cellular walls within the body. This allows hormones to reach their proper destinations so it’s optimal for sexual health. Try: Salmon, walnuts, tuna and oysters.

Fruits. Fruits are high in flavonoids which help to balance hormones as well. Try: Citrus fruits like oranges and grapefruits and all kinds of berries.

With the new year, it’s time for another check on your sexual health, but there are many ways you can keep your sexual health at peak performance. There’s the obvious physical health that you should be looking after, but there’s also intimacy, mental health and other things that should all be accounted for as well. Since we’ve covered many topics regarding sexual health, how sex can improve your health, and techniques which will improve your health overall as well as make sex more enjoyable, I thought I’d share them with you all so you can get a good handle on your health in all areas: sexually, mentally, and physically.

Since yesterday’s post seems to have made such a splash on the blog, I decided to do another post continuing on the idea of helping to persuade your partner to try new things in bed! The obvious next step once you’ve convinced them to be more open to try new things in bed is to start throwing ideas out there, but you don’t want to scare them off by coming off too extreme (at least, not right away!) so I’ve come up with a list of ideas to help you all out if there are certain things you’d like to try out and how to slowly break your partner into that idea.

If you want to try New Positions, Try This: Woman on Top, Doggie Style, or Up Against the Wall. Trying new positions is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to new things, but if you’re just starting out, it’s a great place to start. There are tons of fun sex positions that range from easy to more difficult and a lot of it depends on your level of fitness, but you can always start with easy, less intimidating ones and work your way up! For more inspiration, check out this post.

If you want to try Sex Toys (for the first time), Try This: Slimline Vibrators, small and medium sized Realistic Dildos & simple Cock Rings. Simple small toys with simple functions are the best place to start when you’re new to the sex toy game and, as with sex position exploration, you can always work your way up. For more ideas, check out this post.

If you want to try Anal, Try This: Anal beads or Small Butt Plugs. Anal is really scary for a lot of people so getting them used to the idea slowly is the best route for success and optimal enjoyment for everyone. Starting out with small anal toys and beads can help your partner get used to anal stimulation and sensations and acclimate to the differing sensations. This is leaps and bounds better than jumping straight into anal sex, especially for someone who is totally new to that avenue of pleasure. For more inspiration on this, check out this post.

If you want to have a Threesome, Try This: Unique Fidelity Threesome toys! For some people, asking for a threesome is grounds for a break-up so tread carefully around this topic. The best advice I can offer s to bring it up as a hypothetical question first and then, if they’re open to the idea, to bring up threesome toys as an option as it allows you both to enjoy that pleasure without adding a third wheel to the mix!

If you want to try Bondage, Try This: Soft Cuffs, Blindfolds, Feathers and Spanking.Bondage can be a tough topic to approach, but you can start things out really mild and easy and transition into more extreme play later on ( if you so choose ). The best way to start is with simple things like blindfolds, spanking, feather, soft handcuffs, and simple sex toys like vibrators. For more information on bondage, check out this post and for more information on spanking, check out this post.

If you want to try Extensions, Try This: 1.75″ Veinzy Penis Extension. This is one of our simplest extensions and it’s realistic design won’t be so far out of the realm that your partner will panic so it’s a safe bet for your first extension experience! For more reasons on why you should try penis extensions, check out this post.

If you want to try Yiff / Furry role play, Try This: Animal Dildos.Telling someone to dress up in realistic animal costumes and roleplay doesn’t always bode well if they’re unfamiliar with the niche. I think this fetish can be a lot of fun with the right mood, the right toys and a sense of humor about it. Everyone has an animal that they feel an affinity for and if you can tap into that, offering to roleplay with some toys (before costumes) is a great way to ease your partner into things without overwhelming them.

If you have a Fetish, Try This: Fetish Toys. Inviting your partner to engage in your fetish with you is a great way to increase your intimacy quality and bond, but if you’re just coming out about your fetish on the whole, you may want to ease them into things. Take it slow, keep it casual, and try out some toys to get a feel for things.

Our boss discovered this little gem at a local antique store over the weekend and we discovered that it was manufactured in 1902! Don’t cringe away from this little treasure, though – the vibrational powers are pretty strong considering it’s over 100 years old, though it does have a cord and need to be plugged into the wall. Even though you can’t see it, there’s a little black ball joint on the other side of the wand that is the vibrating bit on this; the rest is just the handle and the mechanism – crazy right?!

If you read the chronicle of the vibrator that I’ve written below, you’ll see that it’s likely this vintage vibrator was one of the first electric ones available to the everyday consumer and also makes it 112 years old! Read on below to get the scoop on the history and evolution of vibrators 😉

The vibrator has been around a LONG time.

Doctors had already been treating women for “hysteria” as well as a variety of so-called illnesses by performing what we now call masturbation for a few hundred years, but the first vibrator wasn’t invented until 1734 in France and was called the Tremoussoir.

Steam Power

The first steam-powered vibrator was invented by American physician George Taylor in 1869 and called the “Manipulator.” It was created to help relieve doctors of persistent wrist and hand pains due to “relieving” women from “hysteria” among others. Dr. Joseph Mortimer Granville was the first to invent an electromechanical vibrator around 1880.

Around the late 1800’s to early 1900’s Gustav Zander created a device that was meant to aid and prevent eating disorders, but was commonly used to achieve orgasms.

The First Electric Vibrator

It wasn’t until 1902 that Hamilton Beach patented the first electric vibrator that was available to mainstream consumers. This release made the vibrator the fifth electronic appliance that was available to the masses, right behind the fan, sewing machine, tea kettle and the toaster. They were then advertised as any appliance would be in various magazines and periodicals.

In the 1920’s, vibrators began to appear in pornographies and thus disappeared from mainstream advertisements (as they could no longer dispute what the vibrators were actually being used for).

Going Mainstream & Cordless

The vibrator did not make a re-appearance until the 1960’s sexual revolution and then a cordless version was made available. Shortly after, varied versions with multiple speeds and functions were released as well.

Vibrators became much more mainstream during the 1980’s and even more so in the 1990’s, appearing on mainstream television for the first time.

Today, the vibrator is more available than ever and you can purchase one from your local pharmacy, convenient store, and nearly anywhere online.

Trying new things in bed sounds easy enough, but what happens when one partner isn’t up for new adventures?

Since we know some of you out there may have this issue in your relationships, we’ve put our heads together to figure out the best ways to help persuade your partner(s) to try new and exciting things in bed!

Be Nice About It. Nagging your partner or getting angry that they don’t want to do what you want will only make things worse so, instead, try a little kindness on for size and ask them nicely. Let them know it’s important to you to explore together and that it’s something you want, but think they will enjoy as well.

Reassure Them of Your Mutual Trust, Respect, & Acceptance.Sometimes when people don’t want to try new things with you, it’s simply because they’re afraid. Of course this is a natural response, but if you reassure them of your mutual trust, respect and acceptance for one another, they may be more open to trying new things with you once they realize they’re not alone and they’re in a safe environment.

Establish Boundaries.Once you have them opening up to the idea of trying new things together, establish what you both are willing to do/try. Sometimes, there are some people who just are not into anal sex; this doesn’t mean they’re not into other things, but obviously establishing boundaries will help move the exploration forward in a positive way.

Get Them Excited About It! After you have them nearly convinced, get them excited to try new things with you in bed! You can look up things to try together online, talk it over and even shop online for some new toys, lubricants, and more!

What better time to try a new sex position (or 3) than Valentine’s Day, I always say!

The Spoon. This is done in the typical “spooning” position where you slide into your partner from behind (or vice versa). This can create a totally different sensation to typical intercourse. For added kink, have the spoonee (as opposed to the spooner 😉 ) spread their legs open as wide as they can with their legs wrapping around the spooner’s body (as is comfortable; this may take some flexibility!). For a more tantric style, keep the traditional spooning position and go as slow as you can.

Heart to Heart.This position is basically a fun version of “Woman on Top.” For added kink, do it backwards AKA reverse cowgirl otherwise, for a more tantric feel, rock slowly into one another with your arms wrapped around one another. If you want to avoid reverse cowgirl, you can add some intensity to the basic “woman on top” position by also having your partner on bottom bend their knees to slightly lift you; this will tilt your pelvis slightly downward for a unique sensation as well. Again, do what’s comfortable for you both!

Swept Off My Feet! This is a more advanced position, but if your partner (or you) has the strength to lift you up for an extended period of time, this could be really enjoyable! Basically, they (or you) lift you off the ground and you wrap your legs around their waist. For a more tantric style, go very very slow and make eye contact. For a kinkier style, do the position against a wall.