Guy probably knew better than anybody that at this point, it didn't matter whether he would be found guilty or cleared of wrongdoing, in the eyes of the justice department and his co-workers, he likes kiddie porn, and his life was over.

I'd probably go ahead and put myself out of my misery too, because there are some things you'll never recover from, and being an accused kiddy diddler is one of them, whether you ever did it or not.

buzzcut73:Guy probably knew better than anybody that at this point, it didn't matter whether he would be found guilty or cleared of wrongdoing, in the eyes of the justice department and his co-workers, he likes kiddie porn, and his life was over.

I'd probably go ahead and put myself out of my misery too, because there are some things you'll never recover from, and being an accused kiddy diddler is one of them, whether you ever did it or not.

While I agree with the sentiment to some degree, people generally aren't targeted by the DHS for something like this, most especially a fellow law enforcement officer. He's heard the same stories as the rest of us about prison's impact on Pedos and Cops.

Even if your brain is broken and you can't suppress the obsession with certain thoughts, there are lines you still shouldn't cross. There is plenty of adult, fantasy role-playing he could have entertained himself with instead.

If it weren't for the icky press it would generate, I wonder if some anonymous millionaire would otherwise be willing to put up lots o' dollars to find a cure or failsafe treatment to keep grown men (and women) from acting sexually upon immature humans who aren't capable of processing "sex" in their brains.

Surely there's an organic malfunction that can be either repaired or neutralized.

Stories like this one sadden me from the perpetrator's standpoint -- "he was a great guy, except ..." -- as well as the victim's.

Ok to stop kiddie porn and all that, but why was Homepland Security investigating? Wasn't Homeland Security supposed to be about terrorism and the like and not get involved in ordinary domestic law enforcement?

zulius:My ex friend was caught with the kiddie stuff when they caught him trying to do a 6-year old, hopefully when he gets out, he'll do the same thing...

I worked with a guy (we were lunch buddies) who's childhood best friend was a pedophile. Caught and convicted, though he actually did molest someone. Was a group of 3 guys all best friends growing up. Other guy was unforgiving. Anyone because of my background in psych he wanted to know if his friend could be treated/cured/fixed. I gave him all the data around back then (pre-google) and then like now, the answer is pretty much 'no'.

Beyond the csb, it was the first time I'd seen someone go through that, though of course people who commit heinous crimes of course have friends and family who once or still does love them. I can't imagine going through that though. I'm not conflating the damage done as equal or close to that done to the kids, but it was my first introduction to how much damage is done to the people who once cared for and trusted these people. Even though he still loved his friend and wanted to salvage, he was reflecting on every past moment. Asking over and over what he missed. Why was his friend like this? How could he do this?

Anyway whole point was, I wanted to say I'm sorry for what you must have gone through with that. I don't think a lot of people recognize how horrific that is too.

Lady Indica:zulius: My ex friend was caught with the kiddie stuff when they caught him trying to do a 6-year old, hopefully when he gets out, he'll do the same thing...

I worked with a guy (we were lunch buddies) who's childhood best friend was a pedophile. Caught and convicted, though he actually did molest someone. Was a group of 3 guys all best friends growing up. Other guy was unforgiving. Anyone because of my background in psych he wanted to know if his friend could be treated/cured/fixed. I gave him all the data around back then (pre-google) and then like now, the answer is pretty much 'no'.

Beyond the csb, it was the first time I'd seen someone go through that, though of course people who commit heinous crimes of course have friends and family who once or still does love them. I can't imagine going through that though. I'm not conflating the damage done as equal or close to that done to the kids, but it was my first introduction to how much damage is done to the people who once cared for and trusted these people. Even though he still loved his friend and wanted to salvage, he was reflecting on every past moment. Asking over and over what he missed. Why was his friend like this? How could he do this?

Anyway whole point was, I wanted to say I'm sorry for what you must have gone through with that. I don't think a lot of people recognize how horrific that is too.

On the plus side, you guys banished Pennywise, so we thank you for that.

Lady Indica:zulius: My ex friend was caught with the kiddie stuff when they caught him trying to do a 6-year old, hopefully when he gets out, he'll do the same thing...

I worked with a guy (we were lunch buddies) who's childhood best friend was a pedophile. Caught and convicted, though he actually did molest someone. Was a group of 3 guys all best friends growing up. Other guy was unforgiving. Anyone because of my background in psych he wanted to know if his friend could be treated/cured/fixed. I gave him all the data around back then (pre-google) and then like now, the answer is pretty much 'no'.

Beyond the csb, it was the first time I'd seen someone go through that, though of course people who commit heinous crimes of course have friends and family who once or still does love them. I can't imagine going through that though. I'm not conflating the damage done as equal or close to that done to the kids, but it was my first introduction to how much damage is done to the people who once cared for and trusted these people. Even though he still loved his friend and wanted to salvage, he was reflecting on every past moment. Asking over and over what he missed. Why was his friend like this? How could he do this?

Anyway whole point was, I wanted to say I'm sorry for what you must have gone through with that. I don't think a lot of people recognize how horrific that is too.

Thank you (are you sure we're not talking about the same person here? he was a childhood friend...)

I only recently realized how many pictures he isn't in, except for one last family photo before his lies came unraveled, and told him I am grateful because that photo I can no longer enjoy looking at, seeing her face and realizing the huge secret she was about to tell me and my stupid face not realizing what was happening in my house. But there are others he isn't in, so I can still enjoy them without being reminded of his presence.

He served some time and is on probation living with his mother, telling whoever whatever he wants to say about what happened, sure not the truth, instead letting his guilty verdict speak for itself.

I didn't want him hurt or to die because it is enough having to explain to our kids, our son, that he's gone and can't be a part of our lives the way that he was without having to add his death to the reasons to grieve.

One of my childhood friends had his life turned upside down after his step dad (friend considered him his dad) killed his mom and then turned the gun on himself. Unfortunetly, my friend who was 12 or 13 at the time (we had moved out of the neighborhood) discovered the grisly mess.

I still pass by that house from time to time. Not often mind you, but everytime I see that house I alwsys wonder if the folks who live there now wven know what happened.

I mean, I know they don't. It happened in the early 90s but I still wonder.

I only recently realized how many pictures he isn't in, except for one last family photo before his lies came unraveled, and told him I am grateful because that photo I can no longer enjoy looking at, seeing her face and realizing the huge secret she was about to tell me and my stupid face not realizing what was happening in my house. But there are others he isn't in, so I can still enjoy them without being reminded of his presence.

He served some time and is on probation living with his mother, telling whoever whatever he wants to say about what happened, sure not the truth, instead letting his guilty verdict speak for itself.

I didn't want him hurt or to die because it is enough having to explain to our kids, our son, that he's gone and can't be a part of our lives the way that he was without having to add his death to the reasons to grieve.

I am very sorry.I have been friends(mentor, "big brother"?) to a young man who was four when I rented a room from his mother. His father was in jail for molesting his step sister. He's 20 now, but it most definitely has been tough. The ripples of pain that radiated outward from this man's actions have devastated two families and countless others.