Jan 13, 2011

Weddings or dress ups?

Same-sex marriage is a fiction. Even if everyone believes that the fiction is

Stuart Schneiderman who has taught English literature and practiced psychoanalytic psychotherapy states:

If they want to make their marriage real, they must consummate it. And that means that the meaning of marriage lies in the possibility of procreation. A marriage unconsummated is not a marriage. It is nullified, as though the ceremony had never happened.

To become real, a marriage requires the possibility of conception. It does not require conception. Failure to conceive has never been grounds for nullification. Older, presumably infertile, couples are allowed to marry because if they had performed the same act in the past they might have conceived a child.

From its inception, the institution of marriage has always granted male/female couples the presumption of fertility. A couple that can never, between themselves, perform the generative sexual act cannot be married, regardless of what the state and the courts say.

He concludes:

Most people know that same-sex couples are not really married. Some of them are too polite to say so. Others are being cowed into going along.

After all, it’s just a harmless illusion, so why not just go along?

Not to be too dramatic, but what happens to us when we are forced to accept that reality is what we say it is? What happens to us when we believe that we can change reality by controlling what people say and how they think?