May 17, 2010

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The shop owners had actually rented out a big house. The toilet in that house did not have a ceiling. One could easily peep into the toilet from neighboring terraces, shops and houses. There was scarcity of water as well. If the second day of my period fell on a Sunday, I did not have to take leave, Natural Substitue For Diflucan. At other times, I took leave and the owner questioned me angrily. My sense of self never let me cry before him. I controlled my tears and worked. One day, the wife of one the owners came to the shop. Natural Substitue For Diflucan, She was a compassionate person though she came from a rich family. Seeing me looking extremely tired, she asked, “why are you looking so ill?” I replied, “what to do, I wish I could die, but I am unable to.” I was 20 at that time. She felt very bad.

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After I got married, my husband’s eyes filled with tears seeing me in such pain, Natural Substitue For Diflucan. That eased my pain greatly. In fact, I even felt proud. In the second month, he was slightly upset. In the third month, he left for a movie. Natural Substitue For Diflucan, When asked, he said, “what do I do when you are under so much pain. At least, I’ll go and watch a movie.” I was numb with grief. Of course, he can’t take away my pain. But if he was under such pain, would I look around for joy.

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He’s actually not a male chauvinist. He treated my family as if they were his family. He never beat me. But he hurt me with his scathing words, just like any regular man, Natural Substitue For Diflucan. I am not sure whether the incident I just described would affect men. In all probability, they will think that I am making a big deal out small things. But it’s funny that men, who need their wives to take care of them even for a headache, call women the weaker sex.

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When women take off on certain days, the sarcastic smiles of their male colleagues, their talk about how women use this as an excuse to not work, managers who remind women about responsibility at work, women who suffer all this in silence, being unable to voice their problems to their managers, etc…these are things that even women from middle class households suffer every day.

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Last month, I was at the medical shop buying sanitary napkins. There was some drainage work happening on the road, Natural Substitue For Diflucan. I saw a 16-year-old girl carrying the pebbles to be mixed with the concrete. She was dark and beautiful. She was wearing a faded polyester skirt; perhaps bought for her puberty function. I remembered wearing such a new skirt at my puberty function. Natural Substitue For Diflucan, Filling the container with pebbles, she looked around to see if someone would help her lift it. There was no one. She didn’t even ask anyone. Gnashing her teeth, she lifted the container herself. A sharp pain shot through me. I remembered the days of stock-taking in that electrical shop. That young girl returned to refill the container. I felt a little proud at that sight.

Sankari is a member of People's Art and Literary Association(PALA), Tamilnadu. She works in a private company and lives in Chennai. PALA is a revolutionary cultural organization that fights against Recolonisation and Brahminical Fascism.
Anu Roy is a member of People's Art and Literary Association (PALA), Tamilnadu, a communist in the making, and an occasional translator.

This story touched my heart. I am also working for Menstrual Hygiene Management. In Rural India many of the women / girls have not even seen napkin and they use same set of old cloths years together. You may also be interested in a paper that my collegue from London and I had published in Gender and Development Journal (to subscribers) which is also available on the WaterAid website (as a pre-publication version).

@sunita: Yes sunita, there are NGO’s running these kind of campaigns. Whisper provides free sanitary napkins to the girl children in delhi govt schools but lack of knowledge prevents them in adapting to these new and hygienic ways.

[...] after painful month Posted on May 18, 2010 by starsinmeyes I felt so so terrible reading this article on Ultraviolet, about a poor young Indian girl’s struggle with hygiene and pain during her menstrual [...]

This was such a moving article. I have always envied women who do not have menstrual cramps/pain. but after reading your story, I realise how lucky I have been! I hope awareness spreads, and more people have access to good toilet facilities and hopefully, sanitary napkins too. I mean, its such a basic necessity….!!

Good job done by Sankari and Anu Roy.The pain and agony of women!! Those four, five days of my period, I think about having “Hysterectomy” done. There is no such word to express the PMS and the roller coaster mood swings.

I can imagine how these poor socio, economic factors/conditions make this(period) even worse for women in India.

Bride’s comment tends us to think of the Two Indias, where in one India, even a most cheap sanitary napkin is a luxury for many. starsinmeyes also touches the same note but with much more better and sharp words.

There’s so much we take for granted…sanitary napkins being one of them.

Yes. we realize our affordability and of our safe cocoons, when we read the painful lines of sankari. But, i think, it would be simplistic if one holds on to that momentary guilt alone. I think one being unaware of the conditions of women like sankari, is not because of any personal inability to grasp the reality but a class phenomenon. If we read this article to one dalit manual scavenger woman in Tamilnadu, she may ask why we make so much fuss out of it and may politely utter that, it’s common and not something unknown. I think alienation from the downtrodden classes is the reason for our breathtaking shock and tears. I don’t think that this alienation will be an exception in one’s point of view and i would wonder if one says it won’t reflect in a person’s entire perspective on women’s liberation.

The issue here is not just about menstruation, rather about a more nuanced, deeper, and sinister system that subjugates women from working classes in unique ways. The article touches upon several areas: poverty, women’s health, availability of basic toilet facilities, working conditions for women, etc. The one thing that is common to the subjugation that women face in all these areas is class. Perhaps, we need to think along these lines, if we ever were to actually work out a real solution; and not just a stop gap arrangement, such as cheap napkins for poor people. As if the poor people and rich people are designed differently!

As rathi says, it’s bad enough that nature has been unfair to women, it’s only worse that the socio-economic factors contribute their bit. The socio-economic factor is nothing but the class society.

The article establishes the fact that Sankari’s story is not an isolated one; it is the story of several million women of this country! And, that’s outrageous, especially because we supposedly live in a democracy that is running at a break neck speed to become a super power!

Just to respond to Thippu’s comment above, I do agree that there is a class issue at work here. But I feel that it’s not just alienation from the downtrodden in general – I admit I am less aware of the problems of rural women but I wouldn’t say that I am alienated from the concerns of urban economically-backward women altogether. After all, in big cities our lives cross at so many points. It’s not even that I was unaware that some women use cloths while women like me have an array of choices. It was the details of the hardships faced as a result of using the same cloth over and over that touched me, as also the hardship of going to school or working when in severe pain. It is these details that we don’t hear so often, because as you pointed out with your example of a Dalit woman in Tamil Nadu, it is just considered normal. But the fact is that it is not normal! Whether it is a young girl in a village fainting from the pain or an executive in a city passing out in the middle of a business meeting, why are we always told to grin and bear it? I’ve only recently discovered that the pain may be attributable to causes that can be treated and if left untreated could cause infertility which renders the whole “get married and your problem will be solved” idea fallacious. Again, I’m acknowledging that the economically-backward classes have it much much worse, but my point is that in this situation it is not just economics but the idea that there is always silence and shame surrounding menstruation and that’s why problems relating to it get sidelined.

Anu, firstly thank you for sending us this piece. You are right to point out that it addresses many issues beyond the physical condition of menstruation. I think the piece is written and translated excellently and conveys that.

I think the physical is also an important point of engagement though. As Bride points out, the diminishing of women’s physical / gynac issues is something that often cuts across class. So eliminating poverty will not automatically ensure that women are better treated in these ways, will it? I think it’s important to highlight that menstruation is a possibly debilitating condition, that it has real physical effects, and that women should not and need not be ashamed to say that it does. Cheap sanitary napkins is not the point, but it is certainly one of the things to consider. Also labour laws that allow menstruation cramps as cause for leave? I’m just saying that sometimes the little things are not to be scoffed at, even while fighting the big fight.

Secondly, the point about diminishing of a woman’s physical issues cutting across class. I just want to make a point here: diminishing happens across class, but the degree varies exponentially, and if I may add, diminishing thro’ class assumes alarming proportions. Nextly, this whole idea of shame or even the idea of pollution associated with menstruation is very ‘class’ thing. I am just thinking aloud; is just de-shaming and cheap napkins the way out? Aren’t we looking at solution, docked safely in our classy little pockets?

Finally, I am not scoffing at cheap napkins, rather making a very stern point there; these stop-gap arrangements actually blunt a longer-term (and a real) solution and in fact, serve as shock absorbers. In this context, Bride’s words, “It is these details that we don’t hear so often, because as you pointed out with your example of a Dalit woman in Tamil Nadu, it is just considered normal. But the fact is that it is not normal!” speak of a real anger and outrage at the system; the system that has somehow normalized this agonizing existence for the majority, so that a small minority can live the ‘normal’ life.

A very good translation! This piece brings to surface the fact that we choose to ignore and remain silent about the issues of women with respect to hygiene and wellness, especially when it is relevant to working class women. No doubt, right now, the voices are getting stronger for the importance of the health and hygiene for women. But, the question is are we even talking about women from marginalised class? Haven’t those voices always been mainstream and classy! When was the last time we saw a campaign or ad that addresses the issue of a woman belonging to the working class! This artcile makes it clear about the conditions of working class women, the lack of affordability and proper sanitary facilities in public places.

Anu,
A very well and proper translation work, u kept the original message intact, congratulation and if possible try to translate Nanjil Nadan’s article about the Girls toilet facility in schools, that article came on Aanandha vikadan and it got published as a book also(Thethum Nandrum)…

I feel its a social issue and every body are part of this problem and so its everybody’s duty to fix this issue…

Indeed a fabulous piece! This is a fact that still many women in India are not availing the facility of using napkins during their periods. I have recently married and my in-laws belong to a small town in UP. I was really shocked to see that some of the relatives there use thick cotton cloth instead of a sanitary napkin. On asking, the girl told me, “napkin is for modern people, we are traditional.”
She was not allowed to complain about the pains even to her mother.
Enlightenment is a far cry in such families..

As you know… infertility is not always a women’s issue, some men are also diagnosed with very low semen counts (like in my case – it was my husband) that categorise them as infertile but the good thing is we were able to treat it and have have kids…

The book “Half the Sky” by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn is a good primer on marginalized women’s issues all over the world, and one of the topics that they discussed was this issue of distributing sanitary napkins-they wrote that FemCare, the arm of Proctor & Gamble that makes Tampax tampons and Always sanitary napkins, started its own project to distribute free napkins in Africa, but then ran into unexpected challenges (like the lack of toilets where girls could change their pads, and cultural taboos about blood and resistance to disposing of used napkins in the garbage), that led them to have to build toilets and even distribute incinerators.
Ditricuting pads is a also a strategy used by some NGO’s to make sure girls don’t miss school during their menstrual periods.
Why doesn’t this website address marginalized women’s issues more often? I’d love to see more articles on this site concerning issues that affect marginalized/working-class women and girls in India, not just middle and upper class ones…

I am touched by this piece and will admit how ignorant i am about some very real issues poor women face. I don’t think it is impossible to go beyond disection of humanity into men and women or poor men and poor women, and be able to just see eveyone as fellow beings…i guess if one can truly see that, then so many of us will not be able to sit still and will do what best we can. But till then…..

Since i work in the so called ‘development’ sector, i am quite surprised at the type of issues related to women that people in this sector usually address; usually economic onces, for others we use big words “empowerment’, ‘rights’, and if you look beyond the jargon, at the real substance of what is done, it is difficult to shake the feeling that the ‘upper class’ and its worldview, the ‘professional developmentwala’ and her/his concerns, name, frame, and decide what is important. SO many women in this sector claim pride of place on the discourse that ‘we as women understand issues of women’; but do you really, as a rule? Is this really why you are there? Is your identify of ‘class’ or ‘upper cast’, to be forgoten, and not likely to guide decision and viewing ‘lense’? How much is all this about about seruring jucy jobs; gain social success, driven by individual ambition and desire of comfort….just like most fellow professional ‘men’ around you?

I really wish we had a system of actually having the same women who suffer, from porr urban and rural backgrounds placed in decision making roles, defining priorities, given the resources and institutional space to act. Sure we will need sensitive ‘uper class’ women and men to partner with them…the vanguard ins any social change.
Decentralization and devolution is likely to work for our governance challenges, it will also work for addressing the real chalenges of women…and for almost the same reasons!