I seem to be sabotaging my own job search- every interview I go on (which I think go well), I walk out thinking of the reasons I don't want the job- like yesterday, I didn't like the man because he had dirty fingernails and a horrible smelling cologne (sounds silly, doesn't it!!??) I have another interview scheduled for next week, and already I have looked at the company's website and decided that the people there don't look friendly. I know this is all caused by fear, but with my current job ending soon, I have to get over this so that I can make a rational decision about a job, without letting fear paralyze me. I do have confidence in my abilities, but anytime I have started a new job I have had trouble adjusting to the change. Any suggestions????????? Thanks!!

I'm in a similar situation. The project I'm working on is ending soon, and my company will probably lay me off because they have no other contracts at the moment. Apparently, my method of sabotage is to not even bother sending out my resume. I even have a couple of leads but haven't followed up on them.

In the past, I've always had some difficulty with transition, too. More specifically, it's the anticipation that really gets to me. Once I actually start a job it's not usually as bad as I thought it was going to be. I think probably everyone suffers this to a point, but obviously it's going to be worse for those with anxiety disorders.

My only advice would be to remind yourself that the transition is only a very temporary period. Once you begin work you'll feel more comfortable by the day, especially if you're confident.

I have same problem. Last week I had to go for a exam and for some reason I coudln't study at all. I felt frozen. I am searching for a job and for the past 3 months I have been on the job search. At times, I feel so overwhelmed by the situation and I start getting anxious. But I can't understand why I feel this way. I went for the exam not knowing anything. I too, feel I am purposely sabotaging my chances?

Tommorrow I have an interview to go for. I have been already told that I have to study about the company on the website. I went on the website, but I don't know what to study or to know about the company?

A.L. - are you the one who is losing the job you've had for a very long time and really like because of a buy-out? (Sorry, I sometimes have trouble keeping everyone straight!). If this IS your situation, you are probably beingextra tough on those people and companies as a result. Try to not compare them to what you are leaving.

When the offers start coming in, pick what you think is the best. Remember - you can always look around again if it turns out not to suit you. "It's easier to find a job when you have one."

Yes, Karen, I am losing my job after 18 years because a new management company is coming in. And, you are so right, I keep comparing my current job to every company I interview with, and I know I have to stop doing that. I am just having such a hard time facing the fact that I have to start something new!! Only two weeks left at my current job, and the tears are flowing!!