I see myself as somehow intelligent, probably creative, outspoken,
opinionated and slightly misanthropic but mostly harmless.

I am easily bored by most people. On the other hand, intellect
paired with a creative / mischievous streak is a huge turn-on for
me. I try to only touch people I like.

Originally, I was on OkCupid because I wanted to fall recklessly in
love with a stranger
– or failing that, at least meet lots of interesting people and
have a mediocre-to-good time. When the falling in love part
actually happened, most of it was nice, but I found that breakups
make me very sad and the sadness does not go away. Now I do not
want to fall in love again so soon.

I have an attention deficit disorder (ADD) and take
Methylphenidatehydrosomething to stay awake and to be able to
concentrate for more than twenty minutes. This means I have to take
a pill every four hours and know quite some people who claim I am
just faking it.

I moved to Berlin
in 2008, where I pretend to study philosophy and computer science. I am also
trying to become a hacker and artist - for me that means that I am
trying to find out how to make this world a little bit like the one
I would like to live in. I blog, did a podcast with friends, contributed to the
free
softwareminecraft clone minetest, and did a short-lived
webcomic in my
spare time. Meeting strangers off the internet is a central part of
my procrastination agenda.

I am loud. A coward. Probably unshaved. A guy once told me I “ask
questions like a cop”; it was not meant as a compliment.

A former friend said I talk like people on LSD do when I am sober.
Since having been her tripsitter, I do understand what she
means.

Often people – even some of my sex partners – think that I have
more sex than I actually do have. This weirds me out.

A common misconception of people who do not know me is that I
cannot empathize with their feelings or that I do not like them. I
suspect something is wrong with my intonation and/or my facial
expressions.

Apparently I can say “no” in a really provocative way. This has
lead to people yelling at me – most often right after me not
wanting to talk or have sex with them. One woman claimed that not
wanting to have sex with her but wanting to have sex with others
was “like eating a burger in front of someone who is starving”.

Oxygen, water, food, shelter - well, for me about the only
artificial things one had to invent if they weren't already there
are personal computers and the
internet,
everything else would probably sort itself out then ...

You deem yourself intelligent, creative, mischievous and interested
in all aspects of the world, acting on an overwhelming urge to take
it apart. If you want to have a kinky, safe, intimate sexual
experience with a person able to spell “consent”. If you are
looking for someone to talk to and eat and drink with and play
board or card games.

If you message me, be direct. Tell me what you find interesting
about me and what you are looking for – especially if you are
aiming looking for a hookup! If you just write “Hi!” and have a lot
of generic profile text (“You should message me if … you want
to.”), I will most likely ignore you – even if your profile
includes nice (even hot) pictures. The less your message looks like
some kind of copy-paste drivel, the more likely I am to
respond.

If you message me looking for casual sex, note that while I
self-identify as an ethical slut, I prefer getting to know people a
bit beforehand – I only want to have sex with people I can be
friends with. That said, I certainly do kiss, cuddle and fuck on
the first date if mood, attitude, personality and body odor fit. I
do safer sex
only and usually have condoms and latex gloves with me in case sex
happens.

If you message me because you are looking for new friends or
activity partners, please tell me if you play or would like to play
Magic:
The Gathering. Me and a friend of mine often only have each
other to play again and she and I would like to play with others. I
am also looking for people who would like to play the board games
Arimaa and
Zombicide.

If you message me because we are both looking for a short- or
long-term relationship, note that I cannot
guarantee that outcome. I tend to have a match score of around 95%
or more with my partners. Many of my long-term relationships
resulted from friendships that grew to include casual sex. Most of
my relationships were with non-monogamoussex-positivefeminists.

Please absolutely refrain from messaging me if:
• You cannot handle your anger or jealousy.
• You tend to lie to make others feel good.
• You cannot handle honest answers.
• You do not want to accept a “No”.
• You tend to “forget“ condoms.