Sex with Old Coworker

What’s your gender? WomanHow old are you? 19What’s your race/ethnicity? BlackWhat continent do you live on? North AmericaWhat country and/or city do you live in? USAHighest education received: Some college (currently in college)What’s your current relationship status? SingleReligious affiliation:How religious are you? A littleWhat’s your sexual orientation? HeterosexualHow many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2

Sex with Old Coworker

How long ago did this hookup happen? September ’16

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was 17 when I first met my coworker at my then job. He’s about 3 years older than me & he’s white (I’m black.) Working at mcdonalds, we would always flirt a little bit while there. At this time, I’m a virgin and have only kissed one person in my life. Eventually, a mutual coworker of ours texted me saying that he wanted my number.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We would try every now and again to hangout outside of work but me still being in high school & having strict parents, the chance never really came. He would mainly try to invite me out to parties. Eventually, he ended up leaving McDonald’s and got another job. Maybe about close to a year later we ended up at a house party together. I was already pretty drunk by the time he got there and I was still drinking. I remember I had went to the bathroom to try to get myself together, and when I left he was sitting on the couch. He told me to come over there, so, me being drunk, I kind of just went and layed in his lap. He starts petting me and rubbing my butt and soon he was like “wanna head to my car?” I say yeah and he carries me outside to his car. The party’s still going on and we’re making out in the backseat of his car until my friends come up banging on the door catching us. She’s screaming at him saying, “Uh uh, you’re not gonna do anything with her, she’s a virgin. I’m not gonna let you fuck her up like that.” Blah blah etc. By this time it’s 1AM and I really needed to get home. My friend who drove me there told me then that she was spending the night, & my old coworker offered to take me home.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? However, he did NOT take me home and we went to a school parking lot. We started making out again, & I ended up giving him head. (My first time ever doing that.) We’re both half naked, & I’m just sitting on top of him making out and all of a sudden I see bright lights pulling up behind us. It was a police car! So I’m trying to scurry and put my bra and shirt back on, & the cops basically just said they had a noise complaint(??) but they let us off the hook and told us to just head home. But, AGAIN, I guess just him being horny, he did not take me home. He pulled over into one of his friends neighborhood and I don’t really remember but I guess we just made out some more and I gave him head again. I did not end up getting home until 4AM and my parents were PISSED.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There’s definitely a part two to this story. Of course, right after the situation I was very excited that I had finally did “something” with a slight crush I’ve had for a while. I didn’t really know what I expected after that happened but I knew that we’d eventually meet up again. Currently, I have not spoken to him in months.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friends. They were definitely excited for me lol.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? This hookup I do not completely regret. It’s the fact that this was the first hookup that led to a few more from him that I regret.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I finally could say I gave someone head.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He didn’t care enough that I had to get back home when I asked him, causing me to get in trouble for coming home so late.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative