'I lifted weights... And pulled my groin': Men and women confess the clever, cunning and downright bizarre 'sexcuses' they use to avoid physical intimacy with their partners

Despite 'sexcuses' being a stereotypical taboo mostly to women, it has been revealed that more than two thirds of men admit to having one - or several - excuses on hand that they can use when they just don't feel 'in the mood' for physical intimacy.

According to new research, nearly 70 per cent of men have used a 'sexcuse' in the past - and confess that they will likely do so again at some point in the future.

And one newly-released video clip sees men and women confessing their most frequently-used reasons for avoiding intimacy with their partners, with the answers ranging from the obvious to the downright bizarre.

'We don't have air conditioning and it's hot,' one man admitted to saying to his partner when he didn't feel in the mood one night.

'I lifted some weights and they were a little too heavy and I pulled my groin,' another man revealed he had told his partner, while a third added: 'I tripped... And I hurt myself, and I'm in pain!'

TOP FIVE 'SEXCUSES'

I'm tired/I'm sleepy

I have a headache

I have to get up early tomorrow/I have to work the next day

I don't feel well/I have body aches/I'm sore/I'm in pain

I am too stressed/distracted

When it comes to the top excuses favored by both men and women however, there were five clear front-runners, with 'I'm sleepy' topping the list, which also included 'I'm too stressed', 'I have a headache', 'I have an early morning' and 'I don't feel well' also featuring.

And despite a whopping 98 per cent of women admitting to regularly avoiding physical intimacy for one 'sexcuse' or another, it seems men are almost just as fond of offering up excuses for their lack of enthusiasm in the bedroom.

A survey of 1,000 people from across the country by adult toy expert AdamandEve.com, saw 66 per cent of men confess that they come up with an excuse not to have sex with their partner, with 74 per cent of those men saying they do so between one and five times per month.

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What's your excuse? A new video sees men and women of all ages being asked what their top 'sexcuses' are, with this man saying that he thinks boredom is the main reason men would want to avoid physical intimacy

Injuries: A number of men admitted to blaming an injury, with one of the participants (right) confessing that he made up a weight-lifting induced groin injury to avoid sex

Guilty parties: Although a whopping 98 per cent of women confessed to having used a 'sexcuse', a huge number of men also made the same admission, with 70 per cent revealing they were guilty of the same lie

'Contrary to popular belief, men don't want to have sex all the time,' said a spokesperson from Adam and Eve.

'And because of that stereotype, many men feel as if they have to make up an excuse to cover the fact that they just don't want to have sex at the moment.'

Interestingly, a number of the men surveyed said that they knew their partners were aware their 'sexcuses' weren't really legitimate - but admitted that they still felt the need to come up with a reason for why they weren't in the mood.

'She didn't let me know that she had found out that I made up an excuse,' said one man surveyed, adding: 'However, I knew that she knew. I supposed she did not say anything to avoid a dispute.'

With 34 per cent percent of men saying their partner has caught them lying about not wanting to have sex, a huge number added that their significant other was angry, frustrated, upset or sad after they were refused sex.

Fan favorites: Although some of the excuses featured in the video were incredibly creative, there were some clear front-runners, such as 'I'm too tired' and 'I have a headache'

Love hurts: While many women admitted to having used a 'sexcuse' in the past, the majority also admitted to feeling sad and upset when their partners have refused to have sex with them

Spiraling out of control: Some participants admitted that using too many excuses to avoid intimacy had led to break-ups, divorces and even infidelity

Meanwhile 60 per cent of women admitted to feeling upset after being refused sex, and 30 per cent said they were frustrated after their partner gave them an excuse for not feeling in the mood.

'People naturally expect their partner to give them sexual pleasure,' says a spokesperson from Adam and Eve.

'So when that pleasure is denied, it can really be devastating. Denying your partner that kind of pleasure can easily have disastrous effects on any relationship.'

Not surprisingly, this is putting a strain on a lot of relationships, with more than half of the male participants saying their excuses have made things awkward between them and their spouse, and 30 per cent of men saying they had conversations about ending their relationships because of their excuses to not have sex.

Some respondents also admitted to being mildly annoyed their partners were not upfront and honest about how they felt, while others said the issue led to a break-up, divorce or even infidelity.