Domestic Discipline

I read a post in another forum tonight where a girl is considering asking her DH to have a domestic discipline type of relationship between the two of them. I googled it to see what it even is. Apparently the husband is head of household and sets the rules and makes the decisions. If the wife disobeys or is dishonest or disrespectful, the husband disciplines the wife in some way- spanking being the most common. I'm not bashing this girl or anyone who chooses this type of relationship but I, personally would never consider it. I find it absurd and degrading. What are your thoughts on this type if relationship? Is anyone in a relationship like this? Would you consider it.

I read a post in another forum tonight where a girl is considering asking her DH to have a domestic discipline type of relationship between the two of them. I googled it to see what it even is. Apparently the husband is head of household and sets the rules and makes the decisions. If the wife disobeys or is dishonest or disrespectful, the husband disciplines the wife in some way- spanking being the most common. I'm not bashing this girl or anyone who chooses this type of relationship but I, personally would never consider it. I find it absurd and degrading. What are your thoughts on this type if relationship? Is anyone in a relationship like this? Would you consider it.

If that's what the person chooses, then it's ok for them. I don't know if I would like to see kids in that type of household though, because I believe that would make them think all relationships have to be like that. I wouldn't be in a relationship like that, I'm way to outspoken to be told what to do.

If that's what the person chooses, then it's ok for them. I don't know if I would like to see kids in that type of household though, because I believe that would make them think all relationships have to be like that. I wouldn't be in a relationship like that, I'm way to outspoken to be told what to do.

For some, I think it is just a way for christians to wrap their BDSM leanings in a pretty package. For them, I say go for it but quit hating on the leathers because this really is no different. For others, it is a means to justify domestic violence and abuse, which I find reprehensible. It sounds like this individual is considering entering into this arrangement voluntarily; if that is the case, I have no issue with it even though it isn't something that would work in my life.

For some, I think it is just a way for christians to wrap their BDSM leanings in a pretty package. For them, I say go for it but quit hating on the leathers because this really is no different. For others, it is a means to justify domestic violence and abuse, which I find reprehensible. It sounds like this individual is considering entering into this arrangement voluntarily; if that is the case, I have no issue with it even though it isn't something that would work in my life.

For others, if this is what they both (man and woman) voluntarily choose...so be it. For me, I wouldn't do it. I personally find it to be demeaning. I want to raise my son to see women as equals and how could that be achieved if he saw his father discipline me? I know that some couples would do the discipline in private or away from the kids, but, when people live in the same house and when kids get of a certain age...some things are just bound to be seen or heard and how are they going to explain it?

For others, if this is what they both (man and woman) voluntarily choose...so be it. For me, I wouldn't do it. I personally find it to be demeaning. I want to raise my son to see women as equals and how could that be achieved if he saw his father discipline me? I know that some couples would do the discipline in private or away from the kids, but, when people live in the same house and when kids get of a certain age...some things are just bound to be seen or heard and how are they going to explain it?

It's basically a way to pretty up a BDSM relationship as far as I'm concerned. That said, DH and I are very much in one though we don't call it that. Flame away but we like our BDSM and it works for us.

We don't intend to make it obvious to our children and there's not going to be any "wait 'til I tell your father" moments, either. Our children won't see anything we don't want them to see. What they will see is a couple/parents who love each other, genuinely respect each other, and are strong through deployments and separations. Feel free not to like it and not to respect our choices but it works well in our house.

It's basically a way to pretty up a BDSM relationship as far as I'm concerned. That said, DH and I are very much in one though we don't call it that. Flame away but we like our BDSM and it works for us.

We don't intend to make it obvious to our children and there's not going to be any "wait 'til I tell your father" moments, either. Our children won't see anything we don't want them to see. What they will see is a couple/parents who love each other, genuinely respect each other, and are strong through deployments and separations. Feel free not to like it and not to respect our choices but it works well in our house.

I respect your choice. It's just definitely not for me. What does BDSM stand for? If you don't mind me asking, what kinds of things have you been disciplined for? Do you get spanked? Or disciplined a different way? Did you go into the relationship knowing and accepting it would be this way? Or did it just start happening and you accepted it?

I respect your choice. It's just definitely not for me. What does BDSM stand for? If you don't mind me asking, what kinds of things have you been disciplined for? Do you get spanked? Or disciplined a different way? Did you go into the relationship knowing and accepting it would be this way? Or did it just start happening and you accepted it?

There was a story from a few years ago about this kind of relationship. A woman and her nursing baby had driven several hours a way (to visit a relative maybe.) Any way she was driving back but the baby was crying to be fed so she called her husband to ask permission to stop and nurse. He said no she should keep driving and nurse the baby. A cop saw what was happening and put on his lights. She didn't stop right away because again she had to call her husband to ask permission to stop. Of course she was arrested, cited with child endangerment, reckless driving etc. I think this is an extreme case, but to give up that kind of self determination is ridiculous and harmful to all involved. Using "Domestic Disciple" to pretty up bdsm is one thing but to live this way is something else entirely. It's abuse.

There was a story from a few years ago about this kind of relationship. A woman and her nursing baby had driven several hours a way (to visit a relative maybe.) Any way she was driving back but the baby was crying to be fed so she called her husband to ask permission to stop and nurse. He said no she should keep driving and nurse the baby. A cop saw what was happening and put on his lights. She didn't stop right away because again she had to call her husband to ask permission to stop. Of course she was arrested, cited with child endangerment, reckless driving etc. I think this is an extreme case, but to give up that kind of self determination is ridiculous and harmful to all involved. Using "Domestic Disciple" to pretty up bdsm is one thing but to live this way is something else entirely. It's abuse.

How is this different than domestic violence? I've been in a relationship where he made the rules, and I was frequently punched in the face for simple things, like taking too long at the grocery store, or answering the front door if he wasn't at home.

I have absolutely no understanding of why someone would willingly go into a relationship to be told what to do, and to have rules. I grew up, and moved out of my parents house a long time ago. I'm an adult. I know right from wrong. I don't need my SO telling me what I should and should not be doing, or disciplining me for not following his rules.

That type of relationship will never work for me. I would never allow my child to live in a household like that. My SO knows that if he tries to tell me what I can/cannot do, or EVER hits me, I'm gone, along with his son.

How is this different than domestic violence? I've been in a relationship where he made the rules, and I was frequently punched in the face for simple things, like taking too long at the grocery store, or answering the front door if he wasn't at home.

I have absolutely no understanding of why someone would willingly go into a relationship to be told what to do, and to have rules. I grew up, and moved out of my parents house a long time ago. I'm an adult. I know right from wrong. I don't need my SO telling me what I should and should not be doing, or disciplining me for not following his rules.

That type of relationship will never work for me. I would never allow my child to live in a household like that. My SO knows that if he tries to tell me what I can/cannot do, or EVER hits me, I'm gone, along with his son.

How does it work well for your family? Genuinely curious how it works. If you do something that your DH disapproves of or somehow offends him, he spanks you? I have read also that some women get spankings just as a reminder to stop them from doing anything "bad". What kinds of things qualify for spankings? If he does something that really ticks you off or he is disrespectful or offensive to you, do you get to spank him?

How does it work well for your family? Genuinely curious how it works. If you do something that your DH disapproves of or somehow offends him, he spanks you? I have read also that some women get spankings just as a reminder to stop them from doing anything "bad". What kinds of things qualify for spankings? If he does something that really ticks you off or he is disrespectful or offensive to you, do you get to spank him?

Bdsm is bondage, domination, submission and M (?). Google bdsm or go to wikipedia it give you all the gory details. One aspect of bdsm is the idea of a submissive and a dominant in a relationship. Sort of ties in to the idea of domestic discipline.

Bdsm is bondage, domination, submission and M (?). Google bdsm or go to wikipedia it give you all the gory details. One aspect of bdsm is the idea of a submissive and a dominant in a relationship. Sort of ties in to the idea of domestic discipline.

This came up before and I was telling my husband about it and his response was dang I could have fifty kids I want a partner. We value our equalness ( I think I am making that word up) in our relasonship. I couldn't imagine making him be the only adult in the house, nor could I be a child. Except when being silly.

Me and dh about a year into our living together came to the great conclusion that I wasn't his mother and he wasn't my father. We could ask each other to do something, but not tell them to. We keep our stuff put up and when something needs to be done we do it. That thought process makes us one of the strongest couples I know. After 18 years it works for us.

This came up before and I was telling my husband about it and his response was dang I could have fifty kids I want a partner. We value our equalness ( I think I am making that word up) in our relasonship. I couldn't imagine making him be the only adult in the house, nor could I be a child. Except when being silly.

Me and dh about a year into our living together came to the great conclusion that I wasn't his mother and he wasn't my father. We could ask each other to do something, but not tell them to. We keep our stuff put up and when something needs to be done we do it. That thought process makes us one of the strongest couples I know. After 18 years it works for us.

Usually it stands for some combination of bondage, domination, submission, sadism and masochism. For obvious reasons not everyone practices all of those things.

DH and I fell into it rather naturally stemming from kinky sex. It was something we explored gradually and found we enjoyed and that it worked for us. Occasionally I get spanked as discipline, other times it's writing lines to re-enforce the memorization of something I should, quite frankly, know or have remembered to do. Discipline/punishment depends entirely on the infraction.

If it has to do with the kids and that feeding thing like someone posted below my call would be to notify DH that I would be late b/c I had to stop & nurse not to ask if I could. No way would he have me do something severely dangerous and illegal so that I got home on time.

Usually it stands for some combination of bondage, domination, submission, sadism and masochism. For obvious reasons not everyone practices all of those things.

DH and I fell into it rather naturally stemming from kinky sex. It was something we explored gradually and found we enjoyed and that it worked for us. Occasionally I get spanked as discipline, other times it's writing lines to re-enforce the memorization of something I should, quite frankly, know or have remembered to do. Discipline/punishment depends entirely on the infraction.

If it has to do with the kids and that feeding thing like someone posted below my call would be to notify DH that I would be late b/c I had to stop & nurse not to ask if I could. No way would he have me do something severely dangerous and illegal so that I got home on time.

I'm not going to post a list of rules, mostly because we don't have one that spells everything out. I've got some generic ones- don't be deliberately disrespectful, etc. And I follow the rules because I choose to. If I told DH I was unhappy with our type of relationship we would discuss why and how. I'm not a SAHM but I do work part time so most of the household stuff falls to me. I'm expected to do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. If I don't have a good reason for having things done by a certain time there are consequences.

No, I don't spank DH when he ticks me off and he certainly does. If we disagree or I have a problem with something I'm free to bring it up at any time (within reason) as long as I remain respectful. Doesn't mean we never get angry or yell at each other but we do our best not to. Yes we do goof around and I've swatted him on the bum before but it's truly all in fun. DH has also never left a mark in anger- that's how I know it'll never become abuse. Sure, there are people who use BDSM to justify abuse but that's not all of us.

I'm not going to post a list of rules, mostly because we don't have one that spells everything out. I've got some generic ones- don't be deliberately disrespectful, etc. And I follow the rules because I choose to. If I told DH I was unhappy with our type of relationship we would discuss why and how. I'm not a SAHM but I do work part time so most of the household stuff falls to me. I'm expected to do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. If I don't have a good reason for having things done by a certain time there are consequences.

No, I don't spank DH when he ticks me off and he certainly does. If we disagree or I have a problem with something I'm free to bring it up at any time (within reason) as long as I remain respectful. Doesn't mean we never get angry or yell at each other but we do our best not to. Yes we do goof around and I've swatted him on the bum before but it's truly all in fun. DH has also never left a mark in anger- that's how I know it'll never become abuse. Sure, there are people who use BDSM to justify abuse but that's not all of us.

DH and I have equal control of the $$ and our kids. He doesn't control all aspects of life and discipline in our house- just mine. That said, he doesn't treat me like a child when I'm very clearly not. I'm a fully functioning adult and able to reason my way through most things (calculus still makes no sense to me) fairly well.

DH and I have equal control of the $$ and our kids. He doesn't control all aspects of life and discipline in our house- just mine. That said, he doesn't treat me like a child when I'm very clearly not. I'm a fully functioning adult and able to reason my way through most things (calculus still makes no sense to me) fairly well.

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