Trauma after dating girl with bpd

They shower their targets with attention, compliments and literally sweep them off their feet.

A relationship with a Narcissist always follows three phases, the over-evaluations phase, the devaluation phase and the discard phase.

The Over-evaluation Phase A Narcissist is very careful when choosing a target.

They do not feel love and they lack the ability to connect and form normal attachment bonds with others. Because their entire sense of self-esteem and self-worth is dependent on the admiration of others, their emotions are a precarious balance of needing others and needing to be left alone. This void is ever present and the only thing that fills it, is the love and esteem of another. A Narcissist describes it this way, “It’s like my brain is constantly seeking something.

It’s like I’m always chasing a carrot at the end of a stick. I feel like I only do things because I’m supposed to, because society does it.

The greater the status, the higher the value the Narcissist places on the Supply derived.

Once a target has been chosen, it’s almost like the Narcissist gets tunnel vision.

I don’t feel like I belong anywhere or with anyone.” Narcissists are completely self-absorbed and are oblivious to the wants and needs of others.

They enter into relationships in an attempt to fill this void and to make sure that they have someone who is always available for sex, an ego stroke or whatever need they may have.

A relationship with a Narcissist has been compared to being on a roller coaster, with immense highs and immense lows.

They have been described as the proverbial Jekyll and Hyde, one way one minute, another the next.