Dear Abby

Dear Abby-

Throughout my years on Earth I have always heard people talking about how “you don’t realize how much you love and miss someone until they are gone.” I usually shrug off statements like that, rolling my eyes.

Part of life seems to be here one day and gone the next. I always just thought it was something you have to learn to deal with and ‘roll with the punches.’ But now that it has happened to me, I realize my thought process was all wrong, and I should have been more considerate and caring over the years.

We got together on May 23rd, 2010 when I was home from work for a wedding that I was in. I did feel love at first sight, but have to admit that my feelings got stronger and stronger as time went on. Just days into the relationship I was hooked and wanted to spend as much time together as I could. Within weeks we were inseparable, and months turned into obsession.

Things have been going great ever since and I could not have been happier. I was receiving everything that I was ever looking for and felt that nothing could tear this bond apart. There was never any fighting or arguments, just pure and simple compatibility. We flew together, learned together, grew to respect one another.

Well, as the famous quotes say, “nothing is perfect,” and “all great things must come to an end.” For the first time since May 23rd, 2010, we are separated, and I have no idea when we will get back together. So Abby, I ask for your help and advice. Please share some of your expert wisdom and assist me in carving a path to survive this difficult time while my Parkzone P-51BL is in my shop getting fixed.

Your problem is not uncommon. Many people out there find themselves in relationships that are too possessive, even one-sided. I can sense from your letter that you are very upset that your Loved One has faltered. Take a moment to calm down and think clearly. Please listen to me. It's time to become more involved in life. Enroll in adult education classes, learn to paint, take an acting class, or consider a substitute…possibly a simulator relationship. Join a gym or health club. Take rotary wing lessons. Go to the flying field and ask your friends to bring a spare… And let your friends know you're available. You may not meet the perfect “somebody” right away, but you'll make new friends, and you may land the One who's perfect for you.

My advice to you is not to shut “PZ-P” out entirely. If she feels you still care for her, she may be content to share you with others. If things get “patched up,” you’ll both be stronger for it. But if the worst should happen, you’ll already be in the process of moving on. Whatever happens, be strong and stay oriented…I’m wishing you a soft landing.

Dear Lost and Lonely;
Play the field, there are many other starfish in the sea.
Don't get in a rut. Moss doesn't grow on a rolling stone!
Consider the ant, oh sluggard!
What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.
If you love something, hold it loosely. If it flies away, it was never yours.
If it returns, you have one mighty fine boomerang!