Men want to chase, they just don’t want to be caught. If you turn the tables and chase him, he will lose interest.

2. Don’t get too comfortable. Courtship is about one person chasing the other. The amount a man invests in winning you over will set the tone for the entire relationship.

If you get too comfortable and forget the importance of courtship. You might think it’s not necessary however, I assure you it is. Men fall in love when they give.

3. It has to be his idea. A man on the chase will stay on the chase as long as he’s running after you. He has to think; he has to work hard to win you over, and he could lose you if he isn’t attentive.

This requires a bit of patience on your part. Wait until he calls you. Wait until he plans a next date. This is important because you want to find out how he handles reality.

If you want a relationship that lasts it has to be his idea.

If you don’t chase him he will chase you. If you resist the urge to get comfortable, he will do the work of courting you. With a little bit of patience, sit back and let being in a relationship be his idea.

James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you’re a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.