What real women say:Reality versus fiction. What real women say about sex and orgasm is very different to how women’s responsiveness is portrayed in pornography and other erotic fiction.

Orgasm techniques: Orgasm does not ‘just happen’! A woman has to use erotic turn-ons (just as men do) to achieve the kind of sexual arousal that leads to orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

The politics of sex: Sex often defies logic! Unfortunately discussions of female orgasm are typically aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being realistic accounts of how women truly orgasm.

Men & sex play: For the sexually adventurous! How couples can bring variety to their sex play by taking the focus off intercourse so that other activities become a more routine part of their sex life.

I write about sex and sexuality. My aim is to open up the discussion of women’s sexuality in particular. I believe it is vital to differentiate between erotic fiction and the much less popular research findings.