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What to say to guys on Grindr?

I just tried using Grindr for the first time about a month ago. Haven't spent much time there but I keep getting messages from guys, some of them I'm interested in. I haven't got anything besides "hey" or "hi". What am I supposed to reply back to that? "Hey...wanna fuck?" Seems a bit forward...but...it is Grindr...

I'm not on Grindr but if anyone ever sent me a message like that, I'd SOOO be tempted to reply:

"Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

Originally Posted by ChickenGuy

"Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

I don't quite understand why this such an issue with guys. I feel like greeting someone with "hi" is a fairly well-established social convention. They say "hi", I say "hello, how are you?"/"good morning, handsome, I liked your profile", conversation ensues.

Having said that, I never start with just "hi". I'm more likely to comment on their pic or something they've written.

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

Originally Posted by NaughtyArousal

The reason all these apps suck is because of the small talk. No one downloads an app, picks out a nice photo and sets up a profile to get stuck in a perpetual limbo of "Hey sup?"/"Hi there"/""How ya doin'?"/"How was your day?"

Like get to the motherfucking point already! Jeez! If I wanted unnecessary small talk that goes nowhere, I'd move to a small town and strike conversation with mall employees.

Yes and that sort of gets to the nub of the issue...if it's all small talk then how can you ever meet your next bf through these? You are better off with other meeting options????

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

"hey, how's it going?" seems standard. Though loads of guys will go for "fuck?", "hung?" or just a picture of their gaping black hole. Those messages will NOT receive an answer.

Originally Posted by ChickenGuy

I'm not on Grindr but if anyone ever sent me a message like that, I'd SOOO be tempted to reply:

"Thankyou for your fleeting and temporary interest in my sexual situation, you may be rest assured that I will inspect your profile with all due diligence and will offer you a reply within the next while, albeit with the caveat that suspicious or creepy activity will most likely garner no response. Have a pleasant day."

I had this theory that it might have a social non-hook-up uses that would perhaps permit my guy and i to socialise overseas. Hah!

It has been deleted for a while.

If I got a picture of a giant gaping hole, I doubt I could stop myself from saying "I wonder if a duck's quack would echo in there…" Can't help myself.

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Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

I'm from a small town so all the local gays/closets are on every gay app. I downloaded Growlr and all i get is messages from guys from foreign countries its so nice they are not picky about looks like American guys are. The guys on Growlr crack me up one guy had a list on how he wanted his "Dream Man" to look like "blue eyes, No bears, Blonde hair, Waist size etc.

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

I reply with hi and wait for them to initate the convo. When I do message people I tailor it to their info and or pic. So like if the guy has very white teeth I will be like... "Hey. You have really nice teeth. What toothpaste do you use?"

Re: What to say to guys on Grindr?

What's wrong with the Graigslist? There is good app for iPad,by the way.. People in here,where I am,probably wouldn't even have ever heard about it,but I have looked much of it,just for fun,to see (supposedly) real pics from real persons,in "men seeking men" sector,with truckload of guys (supposedly) looking for hookups.

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