“My Guy Used A Vibrating Cock Ring During Sex — Here’s What It Was Like”

The anticipation of every buzzy thrust was insane.

Women's Health |
7 February 2019

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Photograph by James Garaghty

We need to talk about something that happened to me recently. I had a First Time Feels moment. And no, it wasn’t anal… It was a vibrating cock ring.

When our Sex Ed held out the Screaming O Work-It High Intensity Vibrating Ring, I was a bit worried about the size – it dwarfed her palm. Maybe I’m over-exaggerating. I am exaggerating. But it looked… oafish. Then there was the name: Screaming O brings to mind more Edvard Munch than, you know, sexy.

But BF had mentioned us trying a cock ring, so…

BF is away a lot for work, so I figured I’d just show him when he got back and we’d save it for after we’d run the full gamut of desperate/loving/kitchen counter/couch/bed/shower/dresser/loving again/ready for kink on the stoep cycle. So basically the next day. (He’s away A LOT. He is also the sexiest man on Earth.)

But no. We jumped straight in. We had no idea what we were doing – it really was like being a teenager again (which actually upped the deliciousness of it exponentially). I admit I can’t recall much from that first time except we went from laughing and fumbling to suddenly getting it right, feeling this “Whoa, what’s that?” sensation and orgasming in record time.

I immediately wanted to do it again

The second time was more about actually testing what this now very precious, totally non-oafish (how could I have even thought that?!) gift could bestow on us rather than imploding in our mutual amazingness. Though that too…

So let me rewind to the technicalities. He wears the ring at the base of his shaft. It’s made from silicone, so it’s soft and flexible; not a strangulation device (don’t fret!), but rather a way of restricting blood flow out of the penis, resulting in firmer, longer-lasting erections. But what elevates this baby from a simple cock ring is the vibrating head, which can be positioned in a bunch of different ways, depending on what takes your fancy.

Positioning the head on top of his penis gives you intense clitoral stimulation with each thrust (trust me). Like a little anal action? Placing the head underneath his penis dishes up all-over anal stimulation. And all the while he’s scoring high-frequency vibrations running through his shaft.

Seriously, the anticipation of every buzzy thrust and that extra surface stimulation each time we connected was insane.

Mutual amazingness and other positive vibes

What’s also really great is that (other than increased and consistent hardness, plus all that shaft action) it freed BF up to not have to use his hands for anything other than what made HIM feel good – so he could, say, grip my ass instead of having to reach around and stimulate me.

I’m also not a girl who needs massive amounts of external stimulation, so we didn’t manage to get past, like, the third acceleration, but for those of you who are, there are 20 different functions, differing in intensity from “slow and steady to deep and rumbling”.

We tried a bunch of different positions and it worked well for some (not so much for others) – you can’t win them all – but we kept coming back to, well, the back. It works like a charm from behind, whereas we found it had a tendency to slide away from your sensitive bits with front-facing positions.

We also learnt pretty quickly that this is an excellent blow-job/hand-job accessory and gives the balls the attention they often don’t get but thoroughly deserve (it’s punted as being ace for solo guy masturbation – and I can fully see why). I won’t go into detail. Just try it.

The verdict

And while we won’t be using it all the time (I still love regular sex with just our bodies best), it’s the first thing I’ll reach for if we do want to have a hyper-stimulating quickie. Or if we’ve had an extra glass, or seven, of red and want to make love but are in danger of falling asleep on the job (me) or losing an erection (basically every guy ever).