Thomas Marc Castiglia

Thomas Marc Castiglia, 50, of San Diego, passed away on January 26, 2019.

He lived enthusiastically and was passionate about his family. His greatest joy was his son Ben, and he married his true love, Martha Aldana. He loved hiking, going out with friends, and being part of the Scripps Ranch community. He achieved his dream of owning a technology consulting firm, DocFluix, LLC.

Predeceased by his father, Daniel Castiglia, he is survived by his mother, Eileen Kramer, and his sister, Stacey Castiglia Stacey, her husband, Tom, and their two children.

A memorial service will be held at 10:00 am, Tuesday, February 5 that St. Gregory the Great, 11451 Blue Cypress Drive, San Diego.

In lieu of flowers, donations to the American Heart Association are appreciated.

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This site was created in the memory of Thomas Castiglia. We will remember him forever... husband, father, colleague, mentor and friend.

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My favorite memory of Tom was at SharePoint Saturday San Diego in 2018. It was the final session of the day and Tom approached me to say we should end the day early and cut the final sessions, which happened to be the lightning talks and my talk happened to be last. After some discussion, I asked Tom to trust me and I gave my talk. When I came off the stage, I was ready to hand the mic over to ... read more ...

Tom was my close friend and roommate in the early-mid 1990s in San Diego. We met at the San Diego CalPIRG office where I was a recent college grad and new canvasser, and he was also a recent college grad and our trainer and supervisor. I didn't last long at door-to-door fundraising, but Tom was tenacious, responsible, and hardworking, skills that I personally lacked and admired in him. Those skills served him well throughout his life and career.We had a large group of common friends and had a lot of fun in our early 20s, going to the beach, concerts, road trips, local rock-and-roll shows, and rollerblading on the Pacific Beach boardwalk. Tom could be funny and goofy. I had the honor to be best man at his wedding.He worked for most of a year for my mother's small sales office, where he made sales calls and developed a new contact database. I think this is how he originally caught the technology bug.I moved to the Bay Area in 1997 to start my own career in tech and through the years we saw each other occasionally but eventually less frequently and drifted apart. I had not seen him in the last few years and now deeply regret not reaching out. I'll miss Tom.

My favorite memory of Tom was at SharePoint Saturday San Diego in 2018. It was the final session of the day and Tom approached me to say we should end the day early and cut the final sessions, which happened to be the lightning talks and my talk happened to be last. After some discussion, I asked Tom to trust me and I gave my talk. When I came off the stage, I was ready to hand the mic over to Tom and it was the look on his face I'll never forget; it was the look of someone that just realized he was part of something bigger, that sense of Esprit de Corps. Tom whispered to me as I handed the mic over: "That was fantastic, you're a great speaker". Later that evening I asked him how he felt about the lightning talks and he told me it was incredible. Thank you for trusting in me Tom, thank you for challenging me, thank you for your incredible support, for empowering me and being my fan club president. All of those things, no one else could do, but you just made it look easy. You have inspired me in so many ways I can't even express. May you always shine down on the SharePoint Saturday's in San Diego and inspire future lightning talks. Sweet water and light laughter until next we meet my friend.

Tom is not gone to us forever, in fact according to God’s word he has a wonderful future ahead that includes us. I find comfort in the Bible book of John where it’s promised that those in the memorial tombs will come out to life again with us. Like Jesus’s friend Lazarus, Tom will enjoy life as never before on a paradise earth. No more will there be fear of pain, suffering, or death! At Revelation 21:3,4 God plainly tells us such things will be done away with. Tom will be with us forever!

Tom and I had many good times together, both here and at events around the country. He was always there to lend a hand, take extra responsibility, lead by example, and put others before self. My good friend, I'll miss our hikes, our social events, our talks covering all kinds of subjects.

I will never forget your laugh Tom. You knew how to be a good friend, a community leader, a valued co-worker, a great family man and wonderful father. Thank you for letting me see all of those sides of you and call you friend.

Over the short two years I knew you, you made a genuine impact and left an indelible mark in my heart. Your talent, passion, attention to detail, collaborative spirit, and dedication to craft was a joy to witness. Technology brought us together but I am most thankful to know you personally. You brought me into the SharePoint community and your inner circle of amazing friends. I will miss your quirky smile and the kind hearted gleam in your eyes. You listened attentively and always kept it real. Whenever I go to IAMCP, SharePoint Saturday, SharePint, the user group, and out partying with your beautiful friends, you will be with us. I know it.

Going to a SharePoint conference, SharePoint user group meeting and especially a SharePint will never be the same without you. Thanks for letting me into your life, you will live in my heart and memories for the rest of mine.

Your cho cho cho quirky sounds have been ringing in my ears during the last few days. I keep remembering your melodramatic sighs when you tried to express your frustrations and it brings a smile to my face. I know how much you enjoyed when I set up a reunion whenever I came to San Diego for a visit. We are getting together at the hotel next to the office on Monday to reminisce all the great times we all had with you. I know that you are very busy with your new gig, but I'm sure that you will make the time to at least show up for a Samuel Adams or two. You will greatly be missed.

I miss you Tom. I want to go on a hike! I want to go to a concert. Let's pick a far off land and help the community, create a SharePoint Saturday or relive the crazy trip to Cuba. We had such a great time. I miss you so much Tom. Yes, please bring Martha.