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Sunday, March 15, 2015

A father admitted in the ICU of a hospital was
dying. His wife who was waiting outside the ICU was brought in to see him. She
was looking very sad and distressed. He opened his eyes looked at her and told
her he wanted to see his son. Although it was not allowed to make a call inside
the ICU, she was given special permission. She called her son and told him to
come soon to the hospital, since the dying father wanted to see him. Then she
looked at her husband and told him that the son will come immediately. The
father nodded his head and lay quietly with his eyes closed. His breathing was
becoming more and more difficult. After sometime with great difficulty he
opened his eyes and asked for the son. The mother once again called the son on
the mobile and spoke to him. Then she told her husband that he is stuck up in a
traffic jam and would come quickly. The father nodded his head but he was
finding it difficult to breathe. Soon there was a loud chortling sound in his
throat as though he was choking and breathed his last without seeing his son.
The wife started wailing. After a little while a stretcher was wheeled in and
the dead body was taken to the cold storage to be released when the son turns
up at the hospital.

What do you think the father
was thinking at the time of dying? Can you not feel the pain and anguish he
must have been feeling at not seeing his son at the time of his death?

Well, the son will come to claim the
dead body, arrange the funeral, accept the condolences of those present at the
funeral and carry on with his life as usual.

If this is the case, why should we
have children?

Here are some extracts from
interesting comments in my previous posts.

I have three children and all were married but
one chose not to have children. I am happy to say that she and her husband just
celebrated 25 years of marriage and don't feel any loss because they give so
much time and love to others. I guess it's a choice that only the couple can
make ...that is if they live in a country that allows open thinking.

Ginnie
says that one of her children chose not to have children and they have
celebrated 25 years of marriage and they don’t feel any loss at not having
children.

John -----A very interesting post and representative of the changing
world we live in. It is hard to imagine though missing out on the absolute joy
of being a parent and holding that precious bundle in your arms for the first
time. It does require work and sacrifice and each parent and child is
different, it all comes down to choices!

John talks of the absolute
joy of being a parent and holding the precious bundle in your arms.

Christine ------ I feel it's good to have your own kids if you can, even
adoption is a good thing.

Christine
says if you can’t have your own children, it is a good idea to adopt.

Ramakrishnan Ramanathan--------- some parents are also scared of their son/daughter/son in
law/daughter in law. There are instances where parents have been killed by
children/their agents for money/property.

Such
terrible things do happen some times. I remember an old lady selling tea
telling me that her eldest son who is a drunkard, frequently comes to the tea
shop and tries to strangle her because she has not given his share of the
property.

Cathy Tittle -----a law to
safeguard care of parents is a good one I think.

If it is a tragedy to have a law to
support elderly parents, then why should we have children?

jonathan ------India had done something good to protect the rights of the
elderly. I, myself, have seen how my own siblings are treating my dad badly
when all of them, were dependent on him for a very, long time.

Jonathan comes out with another
instance of children treating the parent badly

Shamu Boo -------I have never considered a concept such as this. How terrible
it would be to have to drag your own children into court, but if it meant that
or suffering then it must be done. Such a difficult issue.

Shamu Boo thinks that it is terrible
to drag children to court.

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All this boils down to one question.
If we can be happy without having children, if the state has to enact a law to
get an allowance from children, if the children are not going to take care of
their old parents voluntarily out of love, if the parents are going to feel
terrible to drag their children to court, if the children are going to
misbehave and ill treat their old parents, then, would it not be better not to
have children?

I hope you will put on your thinking
caps and write a detailed comment on this interesting subject. Please let your
thoughts flow.

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