NYC single mommy; Three time Columbia University Alumna (BA in Psychology; MA and EdM in Psychological Counseling); Educator and Adjunct Professor by day, Freelance Writer/Lifestyle Blogger by night; Stylista at heart; Kids fashion is my thing. My life is filled with all things pink (and purple), except for the one bit of blue -- my rambunctious 7-year-old son; Perfect combo of sweet, chic, edgy, and badass. Small gal with big dreams and determined to #walkbyfaith

Friday, April 25, 2014

Getting My Grown Woman On

I'm turning 30 tomorrow, and as I get my grown woman on, I'm learning a few things. Slowly, but surely.

Like, it's okay...

...To not try so hard to make Aiden's life magical and perfect and filled with all things exceptional.
Don't get me wrong, I love Aiden with every fiber of my being. And, more than anyone else, I want him to have a good life. But I need not fill his days with 10 different extracurricular activities, and his evenings with 15 different craft projects, and his weekends with 20 magical trips and lavish dinners and even more epic outings. Two extracurricular activities at a time is quite alright, and a couple cultural outings a month works just fine. Anything more is heading into "overkill" territory.

...To sleep in on Saturday mornings.
I work long hours throughout the week. And I work hard. These days, I've been saying to Aiden, "It's Saturday and it's not time for me to wake up yet. You need to wait until 8:00am to speak to me." And I'm starting not to feel guilty about it. Heck, he needs to learn to think of other people's feelings.

...To make blueberry pancakes and turkey bacon for dinner.
Sometimes it's rough in these streets, and after a rough day, breakfast for dinner is the way to go!

...To say "No" without further explanation.
"No" is a complete sentence. That is all.

...To unapologetically be who I am.
I'm done with trying to please others by changing my core self.

...To be self-aware and introspect enough to know when I do need to change something.
Like this thing about my communication. I'm on the struggle bus, y'all, but I'm working on it.

...To not be okay.
Sometimes folks put me in a "Superwoman" box and make it feel as though I've got it all together. But, truth be told, I don't always feel like I've got it all together and I don't always feel inspirational and I don't always feel like I'm getting my superwoman on... And that's okay. Everybody's got something and we all need help sometimes.

...To not wait for permission to be great.
My new motto: Don't wait for permission to be great, just do that damn thing.

Happy Belated ...i think you've done so much in your 20s...i can't wait to see what life has to offer you and Aiden in your 30s....Do that damn thing lady!! And yes for breakfast for dinner especially when it's pancakes!!