Carolyn Hax: Give racist mom a chance to change her mind about boyfriend

7:04 PM,
Jan. 17, 2013

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Dear Carolyn: I'm very lucky to be with the most supportive, kind, brilliant, hardworking, and genuine person I've ever met. We've been together more than a year, and discuss getting married.

My mother, however, has been extremely negative because I am white and my boyfriend is African. My mom agrees he's a great guy, but she remains judgmental. She makes a big deal of keeping our serious relationship "secret" from extended family. She genuinely thinks it would cause my grandmother, already dealing with multiple illnesses, horrible emotional pain if she found out.