]]>http://www.musoapbox.net/topic/258/random-linksRSS for NodeWed, 19 Dec 2018 10:34:16 GMTFri, 10 Apr 2015 16:44:44 GMT60I didn't know where to stick this so we might as well have a generic thread to put in weird/cutesy/creepy stuff in, right? :)

]]>http://www.musoapbox.net/post/8988http://www.musoapbox.net/post/8988Thu, 16 Apr 2015 16:43:07 GMT/r/InternetIsBeautiful is my go-to for awesome websites. Mostly for web tools, unique free services and toys to pass the time in between poses/posts.

Handy for those like myself who are dumb but want to be considerate of transgender people.

I've long understood the distinction between gender assigned at birth, gender identification, expression, etc, but haven't really known which terms are considered polite and which offensive. Granted, just being generally respectful of people and addressing them according to the way they express themselves as been pretty okay.

The Vanity Fair thing seems cool to me. A lot of people are going to get worked up and dumb about it but in the US at least we need a lot of reinforcement of the idea that gender isn't binary and is multidimensional.

]]>http://www.musoapbox.net/post/12967http://www.musoapbox.net/post/12967Mon, 01 Jun 2015 22:36:48 GMTReally, the reason it becomes complicated is because there are assholes who get told "hey, these are my pronouns" and the assholes go "fuck you and your pronouns."

I heard a comparison once where it's like your name is Robert and you like to go by Robert and some asshole is like, hah hah no I'm gonna call you Bob, and you go, hey please call me Robert that's what I like to go by, and the asshole is all, HAH HAH NOPE. People act like it's SUCH AN IMPOSITION, and yeah sometimes it goes against your instinct and you have to be more conscious of it, but really if someone tells you their preference and you refuse, you're pretty much just an asshole.

Really, the reason it becomes complicated is because there are assholes who get told "hey, these are my pronouns" and the assholes go "fuck you and your pronouns."

I heard a comparison once where it's like your name is Robert and you like to go by Robert and some asshole is like, hah hah no I'm gonna call you Bob, and you go, hey please call me Robert that's what I like to go by, and the asshole is all, HAH HAH NOPE. People act like it's SUCH AN IMPOSITION, and yeah sometimes it goes against your instinct and you have to be more conscious of it, but really if someone tells you their preference and you refuse, you're pretty much just an asshole.

I solve this by just assigning people random gender pronouns that have nothing to do with their appearance or my knowledge one way or another, and then just sticking with that for them forever. I even have a little random gender generator app to help me decide, I give my phone a shake and whatever it pops up I tag to the person's name. My wife was lucky enough to get a she, but unfortunately my best friend is a big bear of a dude who I'll forever refer to as she/her, and my sister is a solid it/its.