The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #6

Jul 15

#6 The Potential Cracks In The Walls – Don’t Get Derailed By Childish Outbursts

There are a few things that can make a parent feel guilty and even give in at times to their child’s behavior/desires. The first is temper tantrums. When a toddler is told no or doesn’t get their way and throws a fit, it is very tempting as a parent to give in and allow the child to have what they want. It seems so much easier short term to give in and attempt to preserve peace and not have to deal with the temper on top of saying no. However, this is detrimental in the long run and you are actually training your toddler to throw a tantrum to get their way.

A second thing that can derail a parent is the “that’s not fair” comment. Again if you are not careful you can allow that comment to cause you to question your decision. If you are consistent in your parenting and are giving out consequences consistently for behaviors then you have no reason to question. The old parenting adage must apply, “say what you mean and mean what you say.” If you are not being consistent in your consequences then it isn’t fair to your children because they don’t know what to expect.

Always keep in mind that we are raising children, not mini adults, we should have the expectation that they will act like children!