Write down all the books you have read in the sidebar and one sentence about what you learned from each one (even if you haven't finished it yet). What was your main takeaway from the other erroneous material referenced in TRP sidebar and here?

Get your testosterone levels checked and write them down

Write down your ratio of sexual initiations/rejections

Write down the number of women besides your wife you could call right now to chill this weekend

Shit, write down the name of the last girl you flirted with who isn't your wife

Write down how many days over the past 15 you have actively gamed your wife

Write down two things you do that make you a good catch

Write down what you would do today if you did not have a wife/kids to go home to

Write down what Dread Level you are on

Write down how many more months you have to go until you are an attractive man with options

If you do this exercise and still don't have an answer to your dumb fuck question, post it. Here, I'll go first, sans the pic.

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Demographic Summary

I am 33, self-employed with small company of three. She is 34, still pretty hot. Together we have 6year old child.

Story

A couple years ago when I was 27/28 I nearly went bankrupt through a bad deal handled wrong. As you would imagine it didn't last long until my wife filed for divorce and the only reason she didn't pull through was that the paperwork was too much effort on her part and I managed to get on the ascending branch again. So she backpaddled and withdrew the divorce.

Now the last two years we are living together again. She is a fine girl but I don't have the bluepill trust in romantic relationships anymore. (Thank you MRP).

Since then I changed the legal form of my current business to a limited company and protected the business through a retroactive prenub. And yes, here were I live these prenubs are worth a damn. Location: Western Europe.

Couple weeks ago I found a 480.000€ real estate investment and went through with it, without even telling her about it. She still doesn't know. For reasons of financing I couldn't do the investment through my limited company and had to do it through myself as a person. Since we are still legally married, what I own personally I have to share with her 50/50 in case of another divorce.

The notarial real estate purchase agreement was done last month and for the love of god, I totally forgot that I was married. Seriously. Now I don't own the real estate yet, because the payment isn't through until the end of april 2019 and I have time to let my current wife sign a marital property separation contract that states that I can keep what I earn 100% (not sure if she will do this). She said she will sign it, but after that her hamster started spinning for reasons not to sign it (She doesn't know about the real estate purchase).

My marriage is on the rocks. I am to blame for the problems. I've basically been a drunk captain this entire time. I never owned my own shit.

It has been ten years of me acting like a bitch, complaining about not getting enough sex, getting into screaming fights with my wife and two boy when things don't go right, etc.

I'm 40 years old and weigh 215lbs. In spite of my excess weight, I'm still fairly good looking. She is 41 and weighs closer to 250lbs and her looks are starting to weather. We weren't always like this. I used to be 185lbs when we got married. She too was much less. In spite of her looks today vs mine, she has complete frame and control and perceives her SMV as being much higher than mine.

Our sex life is in shambles. I feel like I don't get enough. I used to feel like I deserved it. But she thinks otherwise. She hasn't kissed me passionately in years. Blowjobs are non-existent. She doesn't let me touch her breasts. When I try to run my hands between her legs she tells me that she is good and doesn't need to be looked after. She is repulsed by my touch. She is checked out from me.

I am thinner than her. Better looking than her. Have more potential than her and she is the one who is checked out in this relationship. I am to blame for the problems.

When sex does happen, its for my pleasure and benefit and mainly to shut me up. "Do what you need to do" is what she says on nights she is willing to close to her eyes and wait for things to be over.

Last night I wanted her and she declined. Today I had a bad day at work, brought the bad day home. I yelled at my wife. I yelled at my kids and tonight she comes out swinging at me mocking me for being a little bitch because I didn't get what I wanted from her last night...... and you know what? She is right. I am a bitch.

She also knows that I'm her bitch. A good provider with a job in the $150k range. I am a safe bet for her. She puts up with me because she gets first crack at the money for the house, the kids, etc which I have always allowed.

This admittance on my part has been hard for me to write out. Mainly because it shows my true self. A loser. A lost little boy.

So I had taken a break from spinning multiple plates and have picked them up again. One plate that is a solid in the bed, no crazies, and laid back happens to be playing the same plate game.

I was out on a date with another plate and I ran into the mentioned plate who was clearly on a date. She didn’t go crazy on the new plate, but she did the head nod and later in the night did the accidental “bump” and introduced me to her date who was shorter than her, and probably like me years ago.

She introduced me as a friend to get a raise out of him in which he did. As she was hugging me to leave she whispered she was going to call me after they went to dinner as she wasn’t going to fuck him that night.

After my night ended, like clockwork the plate called up and came over. We fucked like we both were turned on by the fact that the other was seeing someone else. Afterwards she mentioned it to me in which I told her I didn’t care too hear about some other dude.

This morning I’m trying to see if I should accept a plate spinning plates or just keep changing them if they start spinning? Respect the game and wrap the it up double or just next them?

So I been dating this chick for almost 9 months now. Before the relationship I ran my map and created a whole new life for myself. I’m jacked (I run gear) I’d say I’m in the top percent of looks. I have a great job. That’s allowing me to get out of all the debt my addiction caused (2 years clean now). Upped my style. My game has always been on point. I used to be into PUA before red pill (high N count). My mission has been laid out and written down. It mostly consist of the person I want to become. And how to get there. Along with being a dad. Family man. And building my business, my hobbies, and other things.

Met this chick and I was ready this time to be a better captain. I laid boundaries. I had all my shit together and till this day she says she never met anyone like me. She tells me all this shit she loves about me everyday. She’s more than obsessed and we are on the same page with a lot of shit. It’s fun as fuck to be around her and no lie at this point we fuck anywhere from 1-3 times a day. The fact that things are so good has me absorbed in this woman. I can totally see myself marrying her and having kids with her one day.

BUT I can tell im beginning to develop oneitis. Which is weird bc I have always had abundance and would cheat bc of all the chicks I would have hitting on me and mostly validation issues. This time I said I wouldn’t cheat to myself. So I have been working on myself and the relationship but I find my self thinking about it all day. I have never been this good to a woman before and I’m afraid it’s going to bite me in the ass. Im afraid of too much beta killing the attraction. She says she loves everything I do for her. She constantly brags about it. But all I can think about is you have to keep up your alpha. So I draw back at the slightest unpleasant behavior. I lift. I do bjj. Snowboard. Stocks. Plan run shit And hangout with my boys at least once a week. But still I feel like I’m more beta to her than I have ever been to anyone. As I do a lot for her constantly. I do it because I want to but I still have a fear of it biting me in the ass and down the road leading to less or no sex. Bc right now I can’t even go to the store without her blowing me in the car. I realize this fear sounds crazy but I have it. And I’m sick of dwelling on it.

I’m constantly Trying to keep things perfect. If one thing goes wrong. Like this morning. I had to get ready for work and I was fucking her and she stopped me. And told me to get ready. I could feel myself getting butthurt and thinking. I know how much time I have to get there. Don’t stop me. Then I think I need to withdrawal, I need to withdrawal attention. But When I do she can’t handle it it seems and it makes things worse. Almost like I’m giving unfair punishment. Which I probably am.

I’m causing myself to legit go crazy. I can see myself becoming insecure for no reason. Bc she works at a bar. I get insecure. Thinking about her exes. Or certain shit she says. I get butthurt inside. And I don’t even know why. I stfu but I still get quiet. The thing is I KNOW this is a me issue. That this shit sounds stupid to you guys who been here a while. But it’s real for me. And I could use some advice or perspective. How to cut this shit. I’m literally internally on the verge of ruining a great relationship. For no other reason than my mind. I think a huge reason is because I’ve slept with so many dudes girlfriends. It fucked me up to be on the other end.

I have dread. Get hit on when we’re out. I have almost everything it seems going for me. On paper I’m the fucking prize. My hamster to myself is. Go cheat so you can take your mind off her. And stop caring so much.

I legit feel like a pussy inside and idk where the fuck it came from or what steps to take to get rid of it. I’m lifting. I’m thinking about her. I’m working. Her. It’s becoming too much. And I need a perspective change to keep me happy and relationship healthy.

I've been swallowing the Red Pill for 2 years. I've read the side bar. Read some of it twice. I'm better. Marriage is better. Many good things have results from lifting, reading, actively changing as a man, and leading.

Let me preface this by saying my wife is pretty impressive, but then again, I know the concept of AWALT.

However, I have plenty of work to do. The question I have arrive to lately is "How do I determine what's my shirt versus what's her shit?". Basically, the wife and I have had some major conflict lately that I am struggling to resolve. I recognize, on my end, that I need to improve frame and confidence. I know this this because of how much she has frustrated the fuck out of me lately. So, I work on frame. I also try to operate in the kind of frame in which I get the outcome I want in a way that benefits everyone involved (Ecology Frame). I'm pretty assertive and typically do well with setting boundaries and enforcing them. Overall, I do well with responding in a quality manner.

On the flip-side, I also understand that no matter how much I own my shit, she is not without fault, too. I try to make it a point to look at what I'm doing and see if I need to correct my behavior before I confront her with something. In other words, I try not to be a victim nor do I try to make her the enemy.

I stumbled across briffaults law again, which states that every condition of the association with a male in a relationship is determined by her.

We say, we should be the captain in the relationship, she is the first boatsman.

I see a slight disconception here. As far as I interpret it and bring both together is, she at any point can say (as you can) I am getting off that boat when she doesn't see any remedy anymore to associate with you (including all the subcontext of BL like past invested equity from your side, doesn't mean shit today etc.), but you basically steer it, give it direction. So in other words, she determines the starting point and you determine where and how the ship is going.

Am I right in this corse assumption? I hope maybe some seasoned sailors can chime in here, as I (as one can see from my last posts) have stumbled upon some roadblocks hahaha.