Top 5 Qualities Godly Women Want in a Godly Man

I feel honored to be guest posting over here at Fearless Men. I run a lifestyle blog called Preciously Preserved and love writing about Biblical principles, current events, DIY projects, and my little life out here in San Diego, CA. I’ve been married to my amazing hubby for over a year; have a precious 7 pound doggy named Bella Dolce, and a degree in English. Go ahead and take a look at my blog, but be sure and come back and read what qualities Godly women find alluring in a man!

Godly women want a Godly man. Well, at least, those who are not called to be celibate. 😉 I know I wanted a man who was Godly….and after dating a few frogs I knew the qualities my man had to possess. But I also remembered that I wasn’t perfect and neither could I expect my future mate to be. I had to be willing to love him through his mistakes and sins as he would love me through mine.

My husband turned out to be an amazing Godly man and our love story still leaves my mouth gaping. It was only though God’s providence and HIS handiwork that we met and became one. So, if you are the hunt looking for your wife….allow the Lord to work and allow His handiwork to be displayed—He loves getting the glory. And don’t forget to check out these qualities that may help you become the man your future wife (or even your wife) needs.

A Servant Leader – Women want to be led. We may act as though we can handle it on our own and as if we have it all under control….but that is just what that is, an act. God said that we would want control over you men (Genesis 3:16). Please men, step up, and lead! A leader should be trustworthy, sacrificial, loving, kind, and gentle (Ephesians 5:25-33, 1 Peter 3:7). Of course, you won’t be perfect, neither will she, but with the strength and empowerment of the Holy Spirit you both can work toward that end.

Humility – We women love to see a humble heart. Of course all of us have pride issues….pride is the root of every sin, but we want to see a man marked with humility. Pride should be something that he is daily giving up to the Lord. We can trust a man who has a humble heart (1 Samuel 2:3, Proverbs 11:2, Proverbs 29:23). We don’t feel secure with a man whose pride is flagrant and who acts as though he has it wired. Who would feel secure? I know, as a woman, I need to know that my husband has flaws….it makes me feel less alone. It also helps me to know how to pray for my man when there is humility and openness. It also makes me significantly more attracted to my husband when I see humility…

A Planner – Are you the type of guy to fly by the seat of your pants? Well, chances are your prospective gal isn’t too appreciative of that. That “fly by the seat of your pants” mentality probably trickles into your relationship making her feel a bit less treasured. May I suggest that you start planning? Women love to see initiative taken (in every area of life). We feel prized when we know there is a plan….why? Well, because we know we have been thought about and we weren’t an afterthought. Wherever your relationship is, it is never too early to start planning!

A Gentleman – Every lady loves a gentleman….and every lady who tells you she doesn’t is lying. Well, either that or she is what my husband and I call a “femi-nazi.” If so, run away, and run away fast. I am from the South so I am accustomed to doors being opened and men stepping out of the way for women. The South has some positives that you men should take note of! Open our doors, keep a tight rein on your tongue (aka, stop the potty mouth!), and treat us like a Princess; because every woman is one deep down.

Hygiene – I know, this is random since I have been only noting character traits. However, this needs to be addressed! I don’t know how many guys I run into on a daily basis that look like they just rolled out of bed. Now, I’m not talking about having to go out and buy a $1,000 wardrobe. I’m talking about taking a shower, getting a haircut, shaving, and being presentable. When you take a lady out on a date don’t wear a t-shirt! I mean, come on. Where are the days of dressing up and looking nice? You don’t have to look like you stepped of a GQ magazine, but you at least must look like you cared enough to iron a button down/polo and gel your hair. Trust me, if you don’t try ….well, we probably won’t try to get back in touch with you.

There are obviously tons of qualities left that I haven’t broached! However, you can find all of them in God’s Word. Crack it open and ask Him (the Holy Spirit) to guide, convict and change you. I promise you, you won’t lack in anything if you ask Him to equip you (James 1:5-6).

No one is perfect, and no one will be until the day we see Jesus face to face. However, in order to woo a woman, you have to ask God to change you and make you a man (and future husband) worthy of that high calling.

Comments

I couldn’t have said this better myself. This is a great article. I’m totally blown away at the guy God has brought into my life that possesses all these qualities. It took me a few “frogs” too before he was brought to me, and I’m so thankful I didn’t settle for something less. All of these traits are really important, but the one that stuck out to me was “planner.” Lack of planning, flying by the seat of your pants DOES make us feel less important.

Thank you so much! And isn’t God great to gives us men who desire to follow after Him and love us as Christ loves the church? I am completely humbled by His gracious provisions in my life. Praise Him for giving us His best. I’m so glad we both have gentlemen who love Jesus and treat us like Princesses…it’s rare.

To continue the thought before…If you’re like me and you tend to not plan, just put in a little effort to plan ahead. When you do that, you’ll feel better about yourself and whomever you’re with will too.

This is a great list for sure! This would be the same list that any godly wife would like as well. I am sure my wife would agree! One of the biggest things a newly wed guy needs to know is that he must continue to be the man he was when he was dating his girl. Don’t stop being the man she fell in love with.

Paul,
Thank you for your comment. AND so very true! It is easy to become lax when you get married and settle into the routine, but that is when you must truly be on guard. That relationship is the most important; second to the one with Christ.

Thanks so much for your encouragement, Nick! I appreciate the high compliment. Keep living for Jesus and desiring to exemplify Him and He will gives you the desires of your heart. As my Dad always said (quoting Nancy Leigh DeMoss) when I was frustrating with the dating pool, “If you’re running towards Christ full speed ahead and you see in your peripheral someone running in the same direction, then he/she could very well be the one God has for you.” And I’m sure I didn’t quote it exactly, but you get the point!

Makes a lot of sense Hannah Unfortunately I have none of those qualities lol. I guess that explains why I’m single. I just don’t have a lot of confidence to talk to women. Maybe I need a little help from God. I’m Glad I ran into this post though. I will start with the easier ones you mentioned and try to be more gentlemanly and become better groomed ;D

Well, each and every one of us need A LOT of help from the Lord. And thankfully, if we ask, he promises to equip us. It says in Philippians 4:!3 that, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” Keep asking Him for His strength and He will sanctify you. If you don’t have a relationship with Christ then that’s your first step! Believe on Him and what he did through His death on the cross and resurrection from the grave and ask Him to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. Get in God’s Word and watch as the sanctification process unfolds before your eyes….HE is faithful and “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” (Philippians 1:6). Thanks for the comment!

Great article! So many great points and then to finish on Hygiene was fantastic. But no doubt needs to be said!

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