SINGLEHOOD: A PHASE NOT A PLAGUE

Singlehood is the state of being single and having no romantic partner; either as a bachelor or a bachelorette.

In the society we live, the sad reality we are plagued with is that those who are still single at a certain age have a problem that needs urgent attention. It is quite unfortunate that while there are both male and female singles, the worst hit of this kind of poor mindset is the single lady in the society.

Once a woman hits her mid-twenties, the next thing expected of her is to go get settled in her husband’s house. Many times these ladies are not given the opportunity to achieve what they set out to achieve due to the undue pressure they receive from family and peers. Rather than pursue their dreams, they get into the rat race of having to get a husband before they become ‘castaways’.

This poor mentality has pushed many young promising women, who have been made to see nothing else beyond marriage to get into unhealthy relationships so as to fit into the mould the society has made for them. This is not to say getting married at an early age is bad; as I long to get married early, but this should not stop you from forging ahead in fulfilling your dreams and reaching your potentials.

There are many things to be done as a single, be you male and female; being single should be used as a journey to self-discovery: discover God’s plan for your life, discover your potentials and maximise it to the fullest.

There might be less marital clashes if women and men do not hurry to get married so as to fit into the societies’ mould. By the way, who set a specific age for a person to get married? In my opinion, I feel the time a person wants to get married should be a matter of choice and not public opinion.

Your single-hood is not a plague.

Viewing singlehood as a plague, not as a phase preparing you for another would make the ‘waiting’ period a burden rather than a blessing. There are many things to be done as a single, be you male and female; being single should be used as a journey to self-discovery: discover God’s plan for your life, discover your potentials and maximise it to the fullest. This is a period you have all the time to explore and make reasonable adventures before getting ‘hooked’ in marriage

Being single should be used as a journey to self-discovery

There is more to being single than waiting to get married. Get into your zone and get something doing, there are things that being married may not afford you because of the responsibilities that come with the marital status, that being single affords you its luxury. Rather than waste profitable time in your waiting period, do something your married self would be happy for.

To all the singles out there, don’t put yourself under societal pressure. Singlehood is a phase, not a plague; savour every bit of it, and you’d be glad you did.

Enjoy every phase of your life.

P.S: I do not mean that a desire to get married is wrong, all I mean is that your choice of when to marry should be a personal one and not based on public opinion.