Bring IT! What Sets You Apart from Other Bloggers?

I hope you’re ready for round 5 of Bring IT! (This should have been a direct link to the series, but for some annoying reason, my links to categories isn’t working properly! Grrr…Sorry about that folks, you’ll just have to do it the old fashioned way until I screw on my techie hat.)

So, I decided not to pierce your eardrums again by telling you how amazing this series has been so far and how generous people have been in sharing their thoughts. You’ll just have to go see for yourself.

Dammit! I think I just deafen’d you a little more. Ooops ;)!

So, I’ve got a good question for you to chew on. You may wanna’ start sharpening your teeth and stretching your jaw muscles cause I’m expecting you to grind like M@&#% and then spit!

Here goes…

What Sets You Apart from Other Bloggers?

Country singer Loretta Lynn once said that you have to be “the first, best or different”. It’s also good Marketing advice to keep in mind.

There are literally millions of bloggers out there – whether in your niche or not. And many of them are exceptional. Some may even share the same brilliant content as you.

But…

What sets you apart or makes you different?

What is your USP?

What do you do or have that keeps your readers coming back?

As for Me…

I have a few things which I think allow me to stand out somehow. I’m gonna’ try and limit my answers so as not to leave you with a trilogy but in case I don’t I’ll try and make sure you enjoy the line sequels.

First and foremost – I have CHARISMA. Don’t get me wrong – I’m far from being conceited. But much like you, I know a few of my qualities.

It’s one thing to rely on your smarts and great ideas or content, but I think the way you deliver them makes all the difference. I believe that monotony and blandness are your enemies.

Take a multi-national company for example. Is it always the hard-working and smart person that gets promoted? Sure they should be, but alas…Much like a political election or that of your high school prom king – charisma plays a key role.

I”m choosing to ignore looks as a deciding factor here. Not all bloggers look like Cindy Crawford or Gerard Butler (those are my pretty people and I’m sticking to them) and yet they rock in every which way.

Have you seen a few of the talk show hosts out there?

Charismatic nature trumps (should) physical appearance!

I’m full of life and it shows. I’ve learned how to grasp people’s attention when talking to and with them. I actually think it’s innate.

I emit an air of confidence but one that doesn’t exude arrogance. I find wits, smarts, humor and even sarcasm to be my strongest weapons. My faults are less apparent online and thank God for that lol.

I NETWORK without it being work. I build relationships that later turn into friendships. I don’t do it simply because I can benefit from them. Sure it pays off, but I never abuse it. To this day, I don’t think I’ve asked anyone to comment or share something of mine. But that’s because I suck at self-promotion lol.

I do it because I love it. I do it because the “social” part of “media” comes naturally to me. If I’m interested in someone’s work, I automatically become interested in them. If I’m comfortable interacting with a person, they’ll know it. But regardless, I will give the appropriate time of day to anyone who gives it to me and my blog posts.

MY WRITING STYLE is a huge asset – or so I’m told. I write the way I talk – which makes the reading (often long) a little more bearable.

I don’t mimic other people’s writing styles because they’re not me. Only I can sound like me and I certainly don’t want to be anyone else.

This blog is called nittyGriddy and I’m Griddy!

I can only compete with myself for my voice is my own much like you have yours. We can share similar writing styles or even sound the same to many who are reading, but the bottom line is – we’re not identical writing twins. When I present my experiences or views, I do so with my unique style and tone. But in doing so, I’m HONEST and GENUINE.

I write COMPELLING CONTENT. It’s not always worthy of sharing; it’s not revolutionary or life changing in any way; but it’s usually written in an entertaining way. I have a passion for writing and blogging and I think it’s evident.

I may be somewhat of a thought-leader, but my topics cannot possibly interest everyone. However, I’ll try and present them in a way that might interest someone who might not have been otherwise and I do so in aCONSISTENT manner. I may not have a set frequency or publishing schedule, but I’m usually consistent.

I try and PUT MYSELF IN MY READERS SHOES. I play the roles of author and critic. When I write a blog post, I re-read it 100 times before I press publish. It has to sound good to me first. If it does, it means a few of you will like it too.

I don’t know all the tips and tricks of blogging, but I’m loving the learning journey.

I rely on COMMON SENSE and what I’m KNOWLEDGEABLE in. My line of work revolves around all aspects of Communications, and I’m not too shabby at what I do. In general, if I’m covering a related topic, I’d like to think I know what I’m talking about.

About the Author

Ingrid Abboud aka 'Griddy' is a whole lot of things with a ridiculous amount of interests. For one, I'm a Social Media enthusiast with a tremendous passion for writing and blogging. I'm also a pretty cool Copywriter but a more serious MarCom Consultant. But most of all, I'm the proud owner and driving force behind nittyGriddy.com - A Kinda Social Media Journal with Net News & more.

I will be sure to bookmark it and return to read more of your useful info. Thank you for sharing it. I will absolutely be back again.

http://twitter.com/CleanCutMedia Clean Cut Media

Hey Ingrid,

Not sure where best to ask this question, but I was wondering what you use to display the top 20 talkers of the month widget. It’s great. Is that a plugin? Do you have experience with other plugins that rewards commenters in a similar fashion?

first time visitor here. going to dig around your blog about.

thanks,

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hi Paul ( I hope that’s your name – I went to your Twitter account to try and make sure),
I’m glad you like that plugin – it’s actually a really simple one called top commenters – you will find it by plugging those words in your search. You can also customize it to appear the way you like – it’s easy to do – just little boxes to check and so forth – no coding or anything like that.

Right now – it’s the only one I use and I’m pretty happy with it. I’m sure there are others but this one does the trick. Definitely check it out and let me know what you think.

Best of luck to you. I hope to see you around these parts more often.

Have a nice week.
Cheers

PS – if there’s anything else – please don’t hesitate to ask. I’d be happy to help out in any way I can.

Our voice is our voice. When being genuine and acting from the heart it’s easy to stand out. The problems arise when we try to imitate others. Use certain success principles but be sure to put your stamp on it. Be you, not somebody else’s version of you.

Thanks for sharing Ingrid!

RB

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Ryan,
Crap – I can’t believe I only saw this comment now. I’m so sorry for my very late reply! I recently switched over my email notifications to another account because for the last 2 months or so they had all been going to my junk folder for some reason. Anyhow – thanks so much for your patience and for your input here. And my bad once again for keeping you waiting so long.

You know – we can only imitate others for so long until we’re found out. Plus – I feel that you’d need to work a lot harder and it would be rather un-natural to try and be someone you’re not! Being yourself should come naturally to you – it should be easy but it also takes time to get comfortable.

I only know how to be me – because only I am ME! Simple as that. I could try to be Danny Brown or Brian Clark or whoever else all day long but why would people want to come over and read what I have to regurgitate from those guys when they can go interact with them directly? People come to nittyGriddy because they want to talk with Griddy and the other community members here. They want to know a real person is behind the blog and that that person has a mind and voice of their own. A personality like null other…

Anyhow, I’ve rambled enough but I hope you get my point and it seems we think very much alike when it comes to this topic :).

Thanks for joining the conversation here. I hope to see you around these parts more often.
Have a great week.

Cheers

http://www.omnificdesign.com.au/ GraphicDesignMelbourne

Hi, Ingrid. I admire your being able to list all your strengths because so far as I’ve noticed, they are all true. As for me, I’d like to think that I am different because I listen. It is about what my customers want all the time. Everything that I give them, whether concepts or suggestions are there because I listen.

– Wes –

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Wes,
Always a pleasure to have you here :). Thanks for your kind words – I appreciate it.

I think many of us know a few of our strengths and weaknesses – and when we don’t – we have friends to remind us.

Listening has got to be one of the best skills to possess. Many people like to hear themselves talk and they forget to listen to what the person in front of them is saying. When you ask a customer what they want or what they’re looking for when they come to you – you better be ready to listen to their needs and deliver in kind.

It certainly seems that the age old saying of “the customer is kind” is very much in place for you. Always nice to to know that – especially from a client’s perspective.

To your continued success.
Cheers

http://www.webguide4u.com Vivek Parmar

The way of presentation i present my content to my readers + Free WordPress Installation Service and all the skiils i possed. All these sets me apart from others.

Free WordPress Installation is a great perk and added value. And the way we present is unique to each one of us (at least I hope) for we each have our own style and voice.
Sounds like you’re doing a lot of things right :). Good for you.

Have a good week.
Cheers

http://www.givejonadollar.com/ Give Jon a Dollar

I would have to go with my great humor, my intellectual superiority, and of course, my ass cheeks. No blogger has ass cheeks like mine. Nobody!

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Lol.
Well – it looks like these things are working for you Jon ;). All I can say is keep working out then.
Thanks for sharing.
Cheers

http://easypublicspeaking.co.uk/ Keith Davis

Hi Ingrid
” I believe that monotony and blandness are your enemies.”
Oh yes, oh yes… I try and add snippets of humour throughout my posts and recently I’ve started adding links to and comments about other bloggers.
Helps everyone feel part of the community.

I also answer all comments and… leave a comment on my commenters sites.

In a nutshell… fun and a comment.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hola Keith
Phewww…I’m happy you agree with that little statement of mine as you certainly are a reference when it comes to public speech – which obviously includes the writing part as well :-).

I think adding humor whenever possible is a great tactic and certainly makes a post more agreeable to read. As for adding links to comments and so forth – well, that goes without saying and I completely agree that it does make people feel like they’re a part of the community.

Fun and comments are certainly working for you my friend. Keep doing what you do so well and you’ll be making it fun for many others in no time! Well, you already do actually hehe.

Thanks so much for adding your valuable pennies here. It’s great to see the the different things and ways that people go about blogging.

Have a great week
Cheers

http://www.informationjunkiesanonymous.com Ryah Albatros

I’ve been thinking about this on and off all week. And then I remembered what a friend said last week:

“Ryah inspires me to do more (and better) — not by inspirational quotes, but by personal example.”

It’s not that it makes me unique as such, but is why people stay in touch with me, and they offer me so much support! It should really be me saying the same words back to them!

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hi Ryah and welcome

It’s funny but I just came across one of your comments earlier over at my friend Brankica’s blog – Live Your Love :).

Not only would that be something that sets you apart but I presume hearing something wonderful like that would serve as a great motivator to keep doing what you do. We all have our own examples or stories – and those are what make them unique to us. We are all unique in some way or other – but our experiences are our own.

When people see that you’re human and that you listen and reply to them all while providing them with something of interest – they will offer their support. And it seems that you are doing all these things for them to think that about you :).

I look forward to getting to know you and to seeing you around these parts more often Ryah. Thank you for taking the time to add to the conversation here and once again welcome to this awesome community.

Happy Sunday
Cheers

http://www.blokube.com Devesh

What an awesome post Griddy (or should i call you spry? ) LOL !!
I love your writing style, you write as you talk.

I don’t have the ability to write as i talk. Actually my write style is very different then how talk..!!

Btw. I love how you build friendships with other bloggers. You ROCK !!

Thanks for sharing this awesome post and a big thanks to kiesha for submitting it on Blokube.

Have a great weekend.

~Dev

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Devesh,
I kinda like Bryan’s little word for me hahaha
But I guess Griddy still has its weight after so many years 😉

Thank you so much for your kind words Devesh – very cool of you! And I’m sure you know how much you rock as well. What you’re doing is certainly working for you!

I’ll make sure to thank Kiesha for sending this post your way and for the Blokube vote :). By the way – great job you’re doing over there.
Thanks again for the encouragement and support. I really appreciate it.

And personally – I couldn’t agree more hehe. But I’m presuming athletic as well?
It’s funny – it looks like you and I share those same exact qualities hahaha. (this is where my sarcasm emoticon would go if there was one)

Great of you to drop by Brandon. Thank you
Happy weekend to ya
Cheers

Adrienne

Hi Ingrid,

Love this post and it can really get people to digging down deep and finding what does set them apart.

I have a brand new blog I just created (only 3 months old) where I am posting about my journey of what I’m doing to build my affiliate marketing business. Now that is a niche that is SO darn competitive and I’m probably crazy for even doing this. But I know that what sets me apart is that I’m genuine, I care, I’m eager to help others learn, I’m approachable, I’m honest, I tell it like it is, I have a bubbly personality, a good sense of humor, I write with the new marketer in mind so they can understand, I take time to respond to all comments and emails and I network with some of the most awesome people online. I am having the best time with this and I love reading other people’s blog that don’t even relate to what I’m doing. It helps give me a different outlook on things at times.

As soon as I push “Post” I’m sure I’m going to come up with a lot more but that will do for now. That’s what I can think of off the top of my head at least.

Enjoyed the post and will be back again for more visits. Thanks for making me really think about this subject. I’m sure it will help others as well.

Adrienne

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Adrienne,
I’m glad you enjoyed this post – it does indeed make each one of us think of our own differentiators.

Although it’s a competitive niche – it’s one that interests you and that you like writing for. That’s what matters! It’s important that you write about something you’re somewhat passionate about and something you know. And from a reader’s perspective – it has to sound honest and genuine. It has to sound like you’re not out just to make a quick buck – that you’re writing or blogging about a particular topic because you have something to share and not simply sell. At least that’s the way I see it.

It’s great that you know your strengths so well and from what I know of you – they are certainly visible :). You are indeed very approachable and kind and your comments/posts are more than caring and genuine. Bubbly personality is a given. You have a lot of presence and it’s definitely an agreeable one. People can sense these things – I know I do :).

It’s reall great how people have opened up here and shared a part of themselves. It’s almost like a small personal development exercise and I’m grateful for all the opinions and self-explorations that have been expressed so far. I always said – that there is so much more you can learn from people’s comments than from an actual post.

I’ll be looking forward to seeing you back here. Always a pleasure. Thanks for participating and being a wonderful member of this community.

Ingrid, Your friend over at We Blog Better, Kiesha posted this at Blog Interact. It is nice to “meet” you. You are quite the spry, “Griddy” one you make no bones about! Talking about your writing style…you write the way you talk. I wish that I had this ability. I am so much more “analytical”, that I find myself always writing the way I was taught. Outline your thoughts, develop the story in a particular format, and post away. It almost sounds boring, but it works for me (especially my “main” niche), which requires spelling things out and often “holding the hand” of the reader. Anyway, nice post, I’ll stop the rambling. BTW, cool sidebar “Social Media Counter” widget! Bryan

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Bryan and welcome
I’m gonna have to make sure to thank Kiesha for adding it over there and you for coming over here today with that awesome comment! Thank you :).

I haven’t heard the word spry in quite a while now hehe. Still like the sound of it though ;).

I actually just went to Blog Interact now and signed up. Loved it – nicely done!

I write the way I talk because I’m comfortable that way. Plus, it comes a lot more naturally to me cause I’m usually mouthing the words as I type haha. Plus, I think it portrays a part of our personality which allows people to connect with us more. After all – we’re all human and I’m pretty sure we want to talk and engage with a human.

I think bloggers should write in the manner they’re comfortable with. If you’re okay with your style and it works for you – then you should keep doing just that. You have your audience and you probably know your audience. If they’re enjoying your work and you see that they’re coming back – then you’re obviously doing something right to captivate them.

I think you’ve broken it down quite well for all the writing styles out there. I’m sure my posts would be a lot more succinct if I were to follow the good advice you’ve set for yourself lol ;).

Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts here. Much appreciated. I look forward to seeing you around these parts more often. I’m sure you’ll be seeing some more of me over at Blog Interact.

Have a good weekend.
Cheers

http://www.thesaleslion.com/ Marcus Sheridan,The Sales Lion

Pretty nice description of yourself Ingrid. I think one quality that really makes a blogger great is their ability to be able to look in the mirror and recognize their strenghts…and embrace said strengths, which is what makes your work such a joy each time I stop by….but hey, you already knew that 😉

As for me, I have the hottest looking mane on the internet, need I say more?? 😉

Marcus

http://www.thefriendlyblogger.com/ Lisa

the hottest mane huh??! Quite true but geesh Marcus!!

I believe people are as wonderful as those they surround themselves with…so besides me infusing my posts with laughter and education….it’s those I follow that make me better. (including u hot mane.)

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

The hottest mane indeed my dear Wooty ;).

It’s funny – what you said reminded me of an old proverb (not sure who said it and too lazy to Google it right now lol) that says “If you want to know the character a man, look at his friends”. Not sure that it’s ALWAYS true but it does hold a ton of ground.

You said it quite well Lisa – those we follow and build relationships with enrich us in some way or other. And I will second what you said – you certainly infuse your posts with those and a hell of a lot more!

Thanks for chipping in.
BTW – did Marcus get a haiku too? hehe

Ciao

http://www.thesaleslion.com/ Marcus Sheridan,The Sales Lion

You ladies are freaking awesome

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Right back at ya Marcus 😉

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Marcus,
Great to see here as always :).

I think you make a great point in being able to recognize our strengths. But I think it’s also equally important to be able to recognize a few of our weaknesses as well. And I have quite my share of those lol. But luckily for me I didn’t specify the need to include them here – or else you would have been left reading “The Book of Faults” haha.

Thank you for your ego-boosting words. They’re very encouraging to say the least.

And yes, you do have BY FAR the hottest and fiercest looking mane on the net lol ;). He definitely looks determined as he seems to have spotted his objectives and is going after them in full force.

You have excellent personal branding – in any way you look at it!

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts Mr. Sales Lion.
Have a great weekend.
Cheers

http://www.allisondevelopmentgroup.com Erica Allison

Finally! I made it over here! What a wonderful topic…I did read it when you posted it, but alas…had to think before I responded. And then it hit me…I’m a thoughtful blogger! I seriously have to ‘chew’ on something a bit before I can write. Once I do, it flows. When I honor the ‘thoughtful’ process, I think (IMHO – to borrow one of Davina’s acronyms) I write a better post. When I ignore that process and post simply because I think I should or have some self-imposed timeline (make that HAD a timeline), I think my blog posts are not nearly as good. I don’t think I’ve ever just ‘dialed one in’, but I know when I’ve given them more time, thought and reflection, they are winners.

And you, my dear, are everything you said AND a box of chocolates. I agree with Tony Hastings wholeheartedly – confidence is one description you overlooked. Your confidence ROCKS and I so value that in a person. I tend to be that way myself – much to my hubs dismay at times – but, I am who I am! And you are who you are and together…well, I’m just glad to know you!

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Well hello there Erica

Hope you had a good week and are looking forward to a nice and relaxing weekend. Or a crazy and rowdy one! Whichever you prefer :).

I suppose this is one of those topics that makes us scratch our heads a bit before writing. But I’m glad you took the time to come by and share – as always.

That’s a great trait! I think I sit and chew for quite some time before I begin writing – but once I do – I gotta tell myself to stop haha.

I think you make a great point about posting just for the sake of posting on particular day. I actually wrote an article about that here not long ago called “Crap, I have nothing to post” – the title should give you a small idea of what to expect lol. Much like everything else – it’s quality over quantity – and if it takes you a bit longer to think of a post you could turn into a quality piece – then so be it. As long as there is some kind of consistency – your readers shouldn’t forget about you – and you won’t forget about yourself either.

Thank you so much for that kind compliment. You and Tony have made me blush a little. As I told him, I like to think I’m confident – but I suppose it depends what I should be confident about. There are times I feel I can conquer the world and other times not so much haha. I think confidence is essential to have – as long as it doesn’t turn into arrogance. I’m not a big fan of that one.

You’re right Erica – we are who we are – and I’m sure that your hubs loves you because or despite of that. Either way – you rock and this community greatly values you and I for one am happy that our paths have crossed and that we are able to learn a little more about each other everyday.

Basically – I’m more than glad to know you too :)!

Thanks again for that wonderful comment and for being such a lovely person and supporter.
All the best

http://twitter.com/lifeforinstance Life, for instance

Griddy,

Wait, what? Don’t tell me you’re going to do a post on the BAD qualities, because I’m definitely not down with that! But seriously, one of the most interesting things about blogging is that you HAVE to be yourself! What a relief! Do you know what I mean? You get to be you and that’s just fine.

“We are all unique in our own ways.” I believe as bloggers we are more transparent than most people realize. No matter how much we edit, our personality shines through. And when it comes to commenting, we’re much less likely to take a lot of time to edit, so….ooopsy!

I suppose the other thing we have which sets us apart from others is our story. It’s hard to blog and not be inspired by that story, relate to it, or share it in some way. We each have different ones, uniquely our own.

This “Bring It” series is a great way for bloggers to come to come to understand themselves and their craft better. I’m really enjoying it! What are we talking about next!?!? 😉

Lori

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

BAD qualities?! Heavens no my dear. That would require a book on my part lol ;).

You’re very right Lori – we each have our own stories, memories or experiences and those are unique to us alone. That’s why I find them so meaningful when the author takes the time to integrate them in their posts. You learn so much more both about the person and from them. Stories are easier to remember.

I’m really happy that you’re enjoying this series – I’m loving it as well. I think we’re all learning so much. In a way – it’s kind of like a personal development meets social media series so far hehe.

Now I could tell you what next week’s topic is but you’d have to come in closer…closer…closer Lori – I have to whisper so the others don’t see me. Okay, you don’t feel like moving? Alright then, I guess you’ll just have to wait another 5 days to find out ;). lol

Thanks for always coming back here my new Candaian/Lebanese blooded friend! By the way – did you know that Lebanon and Canada are the only two flags in the world to have a tree or leaf on them? I think that’s right – you guys have the clover and we (well, you too) have the cedar tree. Pretty cool eh?!

I guess my way of writing is a little different from others and the fact I try not to make my articles too long for people to read, I try to keep it as short and sweet as possible.

Some of my articles are about my failed experiences in the passed which I am not embarrassed to share with others. Its quite a good laugh to be honest, and it lets me hear other peoples thoughts on how I could overcome those failures.

I am not scared to step out of my own comfort zone.

My Blog design is different from most others too I guess… But that’s about it I think! Thanks for the interesting questions Ingrid.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Phil,

Awesome to see you here again :).That definitely counts my friend – but that would be physical appearance – and there’s so much more to each one of us than our looks or height. You’re a great blogger because you manage to captivate readers by the useful and compelling content you share. I was actually just over at your blog earlier :). Great stuff!!!

Keeping posts short and sweet is a good thing – but if you know me and my writing (which I think you do) then you know I generally write 1000 word posts. But I believe that it’s how you present them that will decide whether your reader will stay or leave. I think doing a mix of both is also great. As long as you’re in your comfort zone then I think we should write what works for us – 500 words or 2000 – if you know your audience well enough – you’ll know whether they’ll read it or not. I actually wrote a guest post called How Long is Too Long on Spin Sucks not long ago – it covers the long vs. short post debate in somewhat of an entertaining way ;).

I think it’s wonderful that you open up to your audience about your experiences. There is so much more to learn from failed attempts than from successful ones. I think your audience can greatly benefit from reading about your mistakes and what you learned from them and did differently.

It’s great that you do that Phil :)!

I think there’s a lot more to you and I look forward to discovering more and more about you with time.

Thanks for being such a great member of this community and for sharing your valuable input. I appreciate it a lot.

Wishing you a great week.
Cheers

http://twitter.com/Shanty2 Chantal Akkary

That is one really interesting topic!!
It’s really important for every blogger to have his own character and not just copy paste someone else’s style!
Well, for me, my style is simple, not so complicated posts and i just write what’s on my mind. I guess this is what’s keeping my readers coming

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Chantal,
Welcome back my loyal Bring IT! gal ;).

You’re absolutely right on that one. Having our own unique voice – however it may be – is what allows our blog to shine. It allows us to share a part of ourselves with our readers.

Writing what you want and what you know is the best part about blogging. I write for myself first and in the process try to captivate my readers with my words. But I have to be interested in what I’m writing about. There’s no passion in trying to talk about something that we don’t like.

Thanks for sharing – as always :).
Have a great weekend.

Cheers

http://blog.esimplestudios.com Gabriele Maidecchi

Having a style that sets you apart is probably the hardest thing when starting a blog. That’s because we just read too much, and we are inclined to copy what we like the most. For a period, everyone wanted to be Chris Brogan if you remember it (well still now).
I am not sure what really defines my blog or my style in general, I know I definitely don’t do it for money so I keep a colloquial tone opposed to the “sell at all costs” one I see often around.
Probably my best blogging assets is the ability to showcase technical demos of what we do in our business, which is a pretty unusual thing and often attracts tons of visitors because quite honestly you don’t see much of this stuff flying around.
Eventually, it takes a while to reach a point where you can feel satisfied with your writing style and/or general mood of your posts, but it’s part of the learning process, and probably also what makes everything a little more interesting.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Gabriele,
Thanks for coming by and sharing.
You’re quite right – when we first start on the blogging journey – we’re not quite sure who or what we should sound like. We look at others and wonder if that’s how we should write and that’s what we should say. We forget all along that we should sound like ourselves – just like the person we are normally.

One of the early blogs I can came across was Mashable – can you imagine what it was like trying to decipher and figure out who to sound like there? lol 😉

You bring up a good point about having a tone which isn’t conveyed as a “sell at all costs” one. I have nothing to sell here and this blog is not monetized – so my persuasive sales speeches have no room here. And I think that even if I did have a few products here and there – my style and tone would remain as is.

Technical demos are a great asset to folks. A great way to learn. That’s definitely something that sets you apart.

Like you said – it’s all a learning process. And it’s without a doubt an ongoing one. I think the more we write – the more we become comfortable and better at it.

Thanks for that awesome comment. I appreciate you bringing your value to the table. I look forward to seeing you around these parts more often.

Have a nice weekend
Cheers

http://www.expatlifecoach.com/blog John Falchetto

Screw SEO and Keyword search, we are here because we love the blog and your approach to blogging.
Google is great at scanning keywords but really sucks at finding personality and the qualities you have there ain’t any SEO technique to rank for those.

I read some top A-list bloggers (sometimes) because I get teased by a headline and see what they want to say but I always feel a bit let down. This doesn’t happen here, you can’t SEO charisma and genuine caring for your readers.

I read your blog and learn, this whole blogging thing is so new that I have yet to really understand what it’s all about. Thanks for showing me the path.
Keep rocking it ya Nitty Griddy!

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hell yeah John! Screw SEO indeed hahah.
And I love that you guys are here – heck if I could have you here everyday I would! :))

“Google is great at scanning keywords but really sucks at finding personality…” – love that! Ha! So true – it’s one thing that can’t be measured or ranked I suppose.

I try to abide by “what you see is what you get” and although I can’t please everyone, I’m doing the best I can in pleasing myself first (with my writing) and then my amazing community.

There are a ton of people out there with charisma – and no doubt that you are one of those too – but each of us has our own way of projecting it through our words.

My dear John, I am also on the learning path when it comes to blogging. Each day I learn more and more from my friends and from other blogs I visit. I think it’s a non-stop process and at some point we just realize what we want to take-in and who from. I’m just happy I’m one of those “who” for you :).

Ishta ya John 😉
Thanks again for being, well…you!

Have an awesome weekend with your family.
All the best

http://twitter.com/lavenderuses Patricia Millman

Hi Ingrid

I like the quote: “Be first, best or different”. Will have to use that in a post sometime soon 😉 How am I different…..who else would blog about a single flowere lol I will leave it to my blogging buddies to comment on what sets me apart….if anything! Enjoyed your post about what qualities set you apart. You are definitely making your mark in the blogosphere Comment Queen That’s for sure.

Patricia Perth Australia

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Patricia,
I’ve often used that quote – ever since one of my Marketing Professors told it to me way back when. I think it’s so true!

My dear Lavender Lady you make an excellent point. Who else indeed?!! And with such style and charisma might I add!

Thanks for what you said Patricia. It means a lot that you and others think that I’m making a mark somehow. Always encouraging and somewhat reassuring to hear that :).

Happy Friday to you (as I presume that’s when you’ll see this reply)
Cheers

http://twitter.com/lavenderuses Patricia Millman

You’re right Comment Queen. Friday it is and the weather people are telling us we should have relief from the very warm weather…..soon!

I read your whole post but after reading Gerard Butler everything is mist….

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hahaha
Hello – you there? Or are you still lost the mist somewhere with GB? 😉 lol

http://live-your-love.com/ Brankica U

OK, after a good night sleep and getting up I am going to try to disregard that part of the post and reply to the rest.

What sets me apart is that I have the awesomest online friends anyone could ever have. Would not trade them even for a Milka chocolate. Or Cherry Coke. That is how dear they are to me.

And what’s gonna set me apart is a serious threat to who ever took my medal away.

You forgot to mention the snake when it comes to thing that set you apart…oh, I bet you thought I forgot about that

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

LOL Brankica :)!

Okay, I’ll give – who would you have chose as one of your pretty people?
That’s an amazing point that you brought up! YES, YES! Our online friends who rock! Thank you for pointing that out. I wouldn’t trade them either – not even for a Toblerone or strawberry banana smoothie ;).

Speaking of the medal – that counter resets every month :(. I thought to keep it for a year would be too long – and a few months would as well. A week is too short so I figured a month is okay. And now it’s 7 comments for a medal. Our favorite number my dear :).

BTW – I’ll be writing a short post about that plugin very soon. I’ll keep you posted. I’m sure there will be a small mention of you in there hehe.

What snake? I have a phobia of snakes! I really do. But no clue what you’re referring to haha. Don’t you worry Sharp Shooter – I would never underestimate your memory or anything about you!

http://internetmarketing.ricklapoint.com/blog Rick LaPoint

I Think outside the Box, but I Colour inside the Lines.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

That has to be one of the best positioning statements I’ve heard Rick lol ;)!

http://www.lifeasanexperiment.com James D. Burrell II

What sets me apart? Dios mío.

Is it the distance? I don’t see a blogger opposite me on my couch, so that must be it, right? No. Is it my sarcastic wit? Can’t be because, you and/or Joey Strawn have ousted me as a champion from that category.

Maybe its my graciousness for readership and genuine support, but as we saw on your Guest Post over at Danny Brown’s clubhouse, we are a community of full of gratitude.

Does word count make the list? I am often long-winded, or more eloquently put, verbose. But, I don’t hold a candle to others.

In all honesty, I cannot say this quality sets me apart from the other great voices here on the blogsphere, but it has to be my most defining one. With each post, however similar as they may seem, I try to be as open and candid as possible. It is my hope to share my stories of hardship & adversity and success & accomplishment sincerely and passionately so that they may speak to readers experiencing similar situations in their lives. I hope that I may help someone along their journey as I know my readers, friends, and followers have aided me in my own.

Another superb discussion, Griddy. Oh, and we all know you’re everything you listed but so much more. Thanks for being such a great friend in this endeavor to us all.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Dios Mio indeed Jimbo ;).
I believe that your sarcasm is right up there with mine and Joey’s and a couple other friends that we share in common hehe.

Your graciousness and genuine support are most definitely worthy of being differentiators Jamey. I’ve gotten to know you over the past months and I will vouch for that!!!

Word count – I think you’re beating me on that one haha. Both your awesome comments and captivating posts should attest to this.

You are as candid as they come my friend and you consistently share a part of yourself openly. You stories of hardships and accomplishments are surely helping others for they serve as good lessons to learn from. Just by being the friend that you are – you are helping folks – whether you realize it or not. Putting a smile on someone’s face with a few little words – is helping someone – and we both know your natural and genuine talent for doing that :).

Thank you for continuously being the great support that you are. It’s always amazing to read what you have to contribute.

Right back at ya Jamey!

Happy Sunday and stay safe
Cheers

http://www.lifeasanexperiment.com James D. Burrell II

I apologize for the egregious delay in getting back over here. I was detained by the powers of mediocre cinematography on the eve of this day. Kicking and screaming, clearly against my will, I was forced to endure Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time — which it seemed would run out before the rolling of the ending credits.

Enough of padding my excuse. I certainly appreciate the support you throw back my way. Makes me think of the scene in Forrest Gump when Bubba suggests to Forrest that they lean on each other “that way [they] don’t have to sleep with [their] heads in the mud” while in Vietnam. You’ve got some other great support over here — look at those shiny medals — but you’ve certainly helped me keep my head out of the mud even if I just toss you the occasional towel to wipe your face off. (I really drug that analogy out, didn’t I? Like, right through the mud).

Life is the kiln in which we fire our character, yet if we do not examine what we put in the kiln, we can never understand what comes out. That’s my hope through Life as an Experiment: to discover an understanding of who I am. That way, when I pull myself from the flames, I’m not only fortified by the lessons and experiences of life but by a a profound comprehension of them.

I’m sure that as I age and mature, I’ll come to understand these goals are not only lofty & unattainable, but youthfully naive. So be it. Better that I try and continue forward and fail than remain idle standing forever where the journey once may have begun but never did.

Only 2 more days to round 6. I eagerly await the opportunity to return. Happy Monday to you, lassie. (oh, I have Scottish ancestry, so I can say lassie).

http://jimijones.com/ Jimi Jones

Gee, gaining separation from the crowded field of bloggers is not a strong focus of mine, I simply represent myself in the truest of terms, being just who I am. We share many of the same qualities and traits, which is why we pretty much hit it off from jump street.

I do try to be a community contributor and all-around good cyber-citizen and I think that goes a long way toward building an acceptable brand. The thing is, there is no difference in the life I live online as opposed to offline, just different venues.

Not being afraid to speak your mind, take a stand or admit when you’re wrong is a great quality to have and one that everyone can relate to.

So, I guess the thing I am most cognizant of is being a helpful contributor to the blogosphere. I believe when you live from that standpoint opportunities always flow your direction and people develop a level of respect for what you represent.

Another great topic for discussion, my friend. This one really created a moment of self-reflection.

Keep rockin!

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Well Mr. Jones,
It seems I’ve kept you waiting more than I should have :(. But I’m here now and I sincerely apologize for the lateness of my reply.

Being true to who you are is what makes you and your blog so pleasant and inviting. And yes, I must say we hit it off right from the start :).

You mention an excellent point – about how similarly we live our lives online and off. In all honesty – the way I interact here is very similar to the way I do so in the “real” world my friends. When writing these traits – I realized I could have been publishing a piece on self-development or something because they truly do intertwine with my everyday life. Obviously – it’s not the exact same thing – but our characters online – if we’re being true to ourselves – should somewhat represent our characters offline.

You are most definitely a great contributor to this blogosphere my friend and I for one have a ton of respect for you and your work. You’ve shown to be a great engager and supporter and I think that people can clearly see that. Having a little charisma – being courteous and supportive towards others – and displaying a little knowledge – can go a long way.

I’m thrilled that you’re enjoying this series – and it’s been great having you add on to the conversation and sharing your thoughts every time. Thank you Jimi.

Wishing you a great week ahead.
Cheers

http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

What a great topic….again

I think what sets me apart is that I have absolutely no rules in terms of type of content.

I’ll do podcasts, video, text…soon infographics if I can get my shit together

I’ll write 4000 word posts as well as 10 words posts and everything in between.

I think it keeps my readership on a variable reward system…they never know what they’re gonna get lol I guess Im like a box of chocolates that way yummy now I want some chocolate …I hope the milky way in my pocket didnt melt

Score!!..Milky way is fine

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hola Mr. Dogan,
That’s actually what I love about your blog Dino. That when I go there I know not what to expect – one of those 3 in general but still. Sometimes it’s podcast interview, other times it’s a long novel or a short thought-provoking piece. Let us not forget your Dino style commercial deconstructions. I love those – actually I love all of them!

I also think you have a ton of charisma and that’s obvious both through your writing and your videos when we here you speak. You know how to keep your audience captivated till the end.

Dammit Dino – all this talk about chocolate makes me crave a Toblerone at this late hour! It will be your fault if my face and shape start to shift a little hahaha.

Thank you for adding to the conversation my friend. Always amazing to read what you have to share.

Enjoy your weekend.
Cheers

http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

I LOVE TOBLERONE …you know..there’s been so many people I’ve met who dont even know what that is….poor, deprived bastards.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

YaY! I knew I liked you Dino :).
Oh, and that’s because I don’t think it’s easy to find Toblerone in the US – at least it wasn’t available when I lived there. But yes, they are indeed deprived of yumminess. And by the way – I settle with a mini one – just the 3 tiny bars instead of the massive jumbo one – you know – like the one you buy in airports haha.

http://www.twitter.com/fitzternet John Fitzgerald

I believe Toblerone is standard issue in US hotel mini-bars. Never had it but I was introduced via Stewie in Family Guy. I won’t gross you out – Google it for details.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

I’ll have to Google it John – I rarely ever watch Family Guy for some reason. Not sure why – cause the few episodes I’ve seen were pretty funny :).

http://www.thetop10blog.com/ Tony Hastings

Well Missy Griddy, what a good question to get us thinking about ourselves!

First off I agree with what you say about yourself but I would add that another thing that sets you apart is that you have the confidence to say it!

It’s hard to add anything to your 3 previous commenters who all speak so eloquently about the elements that can set us part but I do think that it’s our personalities that must shine through if we are to be different whatever design and content we choose. Without that our efforts will just merge in with all the other ‘noise’ out there.

So what as a reserved Englishman am I prepared to say sets my blogging efforts out from the crowd? Well it certainly isn’t design skills, experience or technical knowledge. I would like to think it’s a little bit of charm, a good dollop of humour, a lot of variety, an ability to get on with people so that they enjoy working with me (still waiting for your GP!!), a willingness to be be open and honest and the ability not to take myself too seriously. In other words the essence of the things that make me what I am.

I am actually a grumpy, miserable old recluse who hides behind this flimsy veneer!

Well done for another thought provoking question, looking forward to the next challenge.

Tony (The Grump)

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hola Mr. Hastings,
Hope you had a good week.

I’m really aiming for a personal development blog it seems haha. But yes, this one does get us to think a bit. But the good thing is we only get to share the positive things about ourselves hehe.

It’s funny – although I do like to think of myself of being confident – I do lack it in many other ways. I often question myself and the decisions I make but oh well…

I think those are some tremendous points you share about yourself. And some are blatantly obvious to those who have gotten to know you over the past months or so. You are indeed loaded with charm and humor. You are also kind and supportive and you make the effort to engage with people. I’m sure you’ve left out a lot as well for you certainly are a gentleman Tony.

I don’t have the technical skills or the design skills that many bloggers do. I mostly rely on my words and the way I put them out there. But everyone has their forte’s I suppose.

And I don’t believe the grumpy part – that’s just bullocks! hahaha
And you’re absolutely right – I did not forget that I owe you a guest post – I hoe you don’t hate me for being about 7 years late to deliver. I promise that I will though :). And thank you for being so patient with me.

Hi Ingrid:
After few days, I visited your site and got a good taste of reading enjoyable outstanding script here. Loved reading it, you have painted a real picture of yourself. It is to the point. You nurture your community and community nurtures you. I feel that way. How about you? Combination of common sense and knowledge makes it elite expression. Keep up the good work.

Fran A

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Hey Fran
Thanks so much for your kind words. I love having you stop by here and sharing your input with us :).
I’ve done my best to try and give my readers a feel for who and what I am without going in to the nitty-gritty details of my life. Those I like to keep private. But I think most people who come here or who see me elsewhere have a decent idea of the kind of person I am.

I’m blessed to have such a wonderful community who takes the time to get to know me and leave incredible comments. to say that they’re lengthy and thorough would be an understatement. People really make the effort to connect here with me and each other and it’s great to see that. And I think they know how much I appreciate that and how I’ll always reply.

Thanks so much for all that you said. I really appreciate it :).

What about you Fran? What sets you apart as a blogger? What are your unique attributes?

“I think the way you deliver them makes all the difference. I believe that monotony and blandness are your enemies.” Don’t care if it’s called style or charisma, everyone has a voice that’s unique to themselves. And if not, they shouldn’t try to copy someone else like you said! My writing as freed up a bit as I’ve become more comfortable, confident and trusting of my “style.”

“Is it always the hard-working and smart person that gets promoted? Sure they should be, but alas…” Been there, lived that. Naively thought that doing a great job was enough, but the interpersonal, the office politics, the “charisma” and much more that often makes a difference.

“I will give the appropriate time of day to anyone who gives it to me and my blog posts.” I will happily look for a blog post to comment or RT if someone has done so for me, part of the networking relationship thing. One of the first “social” lessons I learned was giving everyone their due time. If you want readers to take the time to read, comment, RT, do the same for them. Before you jump in with your own comment on their posts, give others the courtesy of reading theirs so you don’t duplicate what’s been said, so you can really add to a discussion.

“I write a blog post, I re-read it 100 times before I press publish.” Do this too, have so many things in draft b/c they’re not scalable, readable, shareable. Too hard a critic.

So, What sets me apart in this blogosphere? Well I really liked Lori’s “I hope I have the ability to get you to think about things you might not have thought about otherwise.” I don’t always come up with new topics or info, but I do try to write about them differently. Like you I (attempt) use humor, creativity so that it’s not the same old boring crap. I use plenty of links to offer value beyond my own voice, design posts with natural breaks so they are easy to read, pick clever graphics to give readers a laugh. I am really grateful for the community I’m developing, so I give monster comments like this one. FWIW.

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

Oh My Davina – that’s a hell of a comment. Love it and thank you for being so generous with your time and words. It’s truly appreciated and it’s great to have you here :).

What can I say – it seems you and I share the same thoughts and much of the same qualities.

You’re right – everyone has their own style or their particular attributes which makes them unique. In that sense – we all share that. We all have our own voice – as long as we’re not trying to mimic that of others.

As for the job promotion example – I’ve seen so many people being passed on because of that. Being on top of things is a huge asset but having that extra oumphh or charismatic power – which in my opinion is one of the strongest powers to have – is what helps you out in life. People are attracted to someone who breathes life and energy. To someone who can hold the attention of others in the palm of their hands. Office politics often suck as well – I know of people who didn’t get promoted because of their nationality. How pathetic is that?!!! Not to mention unethical as well! And believe me when I tell you – this person is not only brilliant and the best at what he does, his charisma is hypnotizing and his worldly connections are quite impressive. But oh well…

As for having a few things in drafts – I’m at 76 right now hahaha.

I liked what Lori said as well. Offering links to other people’s posts is a great way of backing what you say. It’s funny what you said about graphics – it usually takes me over 30 minutes to choose one that I like or that I think my readers will get a kick out of. I’m silly and anal that way but it’s important to me.

And yes – your monster comments (much like mine and a few other people) are definitely something that make you stand out – not to mention your fantastic acronyms :).

Obviously I could go on and on here and touch upon every point you made because I honestly can and do relate to each – but I think you know that already :).

Thanks for being such a wonderful commenter and engager Davina. I hope to see you around these parts more often.

That promotion story is sad, hope that individual sued somebody! It’s still a frustration of mine that sometimes charisma, office politicing and let’s face it, butt kissing sometimes matter more than quality of work. But it’s of course the whole package that matters. *shrugs* Now of to undraft something, find a crazy graphic for tomorrow. 😉

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

I think ass kissing is the big one. It’s funny – I would think it gets tiresome and annoying after a while – for both the ass kisser and the ass kissee ;).

Unfortunately Davina – suing works best in the US – but this story didn’t take place there.

My hair doesn’t move in the wind? Oh, I guess that wouldn’t really set me apart……

I’m not blogging yet, but the reason I will read and continue to follow someone are most of the reasons Griddy says. Yes, I think your true personality comes out online and helps if you have charisma and are personable. I like people who are serious about whatever their passion is, but don’t take themselves to seriously. Some people will have different online personas, but deep down the real you will eventually show……I think people like ‘genuineness’ if that’s a word.

Regardless of the topic if you can relate on some level and the responder is acknowledged in some form or fashion promotes more of an incentive to stay engaged w/ a particular blogger.

Finally, the connectivity; what is your 7 degrees of separation? How well have you developed your network. In developing your network there is a certain amount of reciprocity needed and if you develop the right network it will make it much easier to get plugged in and get noticed. Just be prepared your life as you know it might change and you will never be able to just jump in car and go out in public again without be hounded for autographs and/or pictures.

Now all you have to do is write, huh?

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

I’m devastated Bill! It doesn’t? 😉 lol

I admire that you read blogs and make the effort to comment and join the community. I think it’s great. Before I started blogging – I didn’t do any of that. I actually didn’t start commenting on blogs until months after starting my own – but then again – I had no clue as to what I was doing and what the whole blogging thing entailed.

I think you’re doing an excellent job of communicating and getting to know the authors you enjoy reading. I think the day you do decide to start blogging – this will be an added value to you. In a sense – you won’t be starting from scratch. So yes, all YOU have to do is write ;).

And you’re right – we can only hide our true selves for so long until it starts to show.

How well you develop your network is important both online and off. But I believe in doing it for genuine reasons. When I comment on a blog – I don’t care who the author is. Heck, I didn’t even know about backlinks and all that stuff until a few months ago. I just commented because I had something to say – their post inspired me somehow. It’s the same thing in real life – smart people can smell opportunists a mile away. But sure, knowing the “right” people definitely helps. But knowing them for who they are and not simply for what they are – helps even more. To me – that’s what turns relationships into friendships.

And you’re right about be hounded by the paparazzi – I’m scared to leave my house as we speak. They’re bombarding me with their flashes all day long ;). Hahaha Kidding of course!

I really appreciate you coming back here post after post and sharing a part of you and your valuable input with us. It’s great to have you here Bill. And I think we all look forward to you starting to blog (although you already do so in comments) one day :).

Keep rockin’ Mr. Dorman
Cheers

http://twitter.com/lifeforinstance Life, for instance

Griddy, (Sorry, I was calling your Ingrid – are we friends yet!?)

You certainly have a lot which sets you apart as a blogger. How can anyone follow this exemplary act?! Your personality comes through, right from the “Hello My Lovelies”. (You sound like one of my cousins!)

As for myself, I’m so new at this that I’m really not sure what sets me apart. What I hope will set me apart as I develop my blogging voice is an ability I have offline, that of community building. I love watching a community come together and go through the phases of community building!

What do I have that keeps people coming back, you ask. I hope I have the ability to get you to think about things you might not have thought about otherwise. I hope you want to take a break and see what everyone’s talking about over at Life,forinstance. I hope you will know in trying to figure out this ordinary, day-to-day, wonderful thing called life you’re not alone!

I can’t wait to hear what others have to Bring to this table! Great post!

Your Canadian-born Lebanese (new) friend,
Lori

http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

We are most definitely friends Lori and by all means please do call me Griddy ;). Everyone does.

LOL! I only included the qualities in there Lori – believe when I say there are a lot of faults/weaknesses to go with them. But lucky for me – I didn’t have to share them this time round hehe.

In all honestly – I wasn’t quite sure what made me different – but I know we are all unique in our own ways. And the points I mentioned – although very true – could apply to many people out there. We all have our personality that shines in some way or other – some more some less. Our writing styles – as long as we’re not plagiarizing and trying to be someone else – is our own.

And you and I (as well as many) share the part about nurturing our community and making the effort to engage – you do this tremendously well Lori! You take the time to get to know the authors of posts that captivate you and that’s a great thing. You’re friendly and genuine and are willing to share a part of yourself with your community.

Thank you for sharing your uniqueness with us here Lori. I really appreciate it as always my Canadian-born Lebanese friend :).