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Now that health problems are in the rear view mirror its looking like we will be moving to the Kenai Peninsula this summer. I have seen lotsa people say dont bring Cali. with you. You dont need to worry about the politics as thats a major reason we are leaving but what other attitudes are you refering to?
I know with my mother born and raised in Cali, when she moved to Utah the hardest thing for her was every one looking her in the eye! In Cali. thats subconscious aggresive behavior!
Thoughts?

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Now that health problems are in the rear view mirror its looking like we will be moving to the Kenai Peninsula this summer. I have seen lotsa people say dont bring Cali. with you. You dont need to worry about the politics as thats a major reason we are leaving but what other attitudes are you refering to?
I know with my mother born and raised in Cali, when she moved to Utah the hardest thing for her was every one looking her in the eye! In Cali. thats subconscious aggresive behavior!
Thoughts?

I'm glad you're able to come up; just be yourself and you'll be fine.

Prepare for a bit of culture shock....the looking people in the eye business is pretty strange, isn't it? It's normal for both Prince of Wales Island and my little town in Oregon; but when I go to the city I learned to curtail that.

That's something that I think is great, looking someone in the eye while talking, saying hi, or even just passing by. You can tell a lot from the eyes.

Do that in many places, and you'll find that everyone sort of shuns you. The obvious indication being that you don't trust them (and hence they should clearly not trust you either).

It isn't so much true today as it was a few decades back, but when I first went to western Alaska most people there thought the rudest thng that Outsiders do was to look at someone in the eye, and then ask a direct question. Every new school teacher, for example, would look kids in the eye and ask "What's your name?". The kids would look down in embarassment, shrug their shoulders, and in an attempt to be polite, say "I don't know." Teachers thought the kids were dumb, kids thought the teachers were dumb.

I realist that. I worked for a native government for the past 7 years, or there abouts. Looking someone in the eye was a big thing, showing that you had interest and trust in the person you were with or talking to. They were Odawa Anishnabee, some of the best people I have ever known.

Why do you need to look them in the eye to judge them, if you trust them????

Continuously looking someone in the eye while talking to them is a very good indication that you don't trust them. The question then is if that distrust is an insult, or not. In many cultures, where everyone is individually responsible for themselves, it is assumed that virtually everyone is out to get the best of you, and that is part of the discussion. But in cultures where people are thought to be responsible for each other's well being, it is an insult to insinuate that the person you are talking to is trying in some way to get the best of you.

It fits right in with the affront that asking direct questions can be. It puts a person on the spot, forcing them to tell you they know something you don't. That is socially unacceptable in some cultures. It amounts to calling someone a braggard.

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