No one to talk to?

I am also a stay at home mom. I have a 3 year old son. I recently joined our local MOPS. So I am getting to know more moms of young children. I have a lot of family near me and a few friends, but they either work or don't have much in common. I don't really have many people to talk about my fitness goals. I invite any of you to friend me or what ever it is that they call it here. Maybe we can email back and forth or something.

And, here I am, 78 years young and living alone for the past 3 years....yes, I have children, but they are knee deep in their own work, family and friends situations...I see them but not so often that they get tired of me or I them...I speak almost daily to the one who is furthest away from me. Other than that, there are one or two neighbors that we speak when we see each other, but nothing jointly to do. I make myself happy with what I do at home (recently, with the help of Spark, I'm cooking MORE, not less), playing on my computer and a trip to the doctors or shopping. At my age, while I'm in good health, I don't push my luck with what I do and where I go...used to do a lot of cruising, but even that's stopped because my friends also don't want to make plans. So, you see, you are not alone and life is what you make it. Keep a positive attitude and don't get down...yes, maybe a car would help...even if you just drove to the local mall or whatever.

I too am in a situation where I have people around but NOT really people who I can talk to about this. I talk to YOU (all of the YOU who are out there sharing my journey with me). I live with my son - he has made some changes for HIS health and so I sometimes can talk to him but he is one of those wonderful people who ALWAYS knows better, ALWAYS is right, and so forth. I have friends but they also are really not interested in my eating, healthy living, etc. A couple of them could use some of this but are NOT interested and one is outspokenly determined NOT to eat anything healthy, another, eats doughnuts, snack cakes, etc. EVERY morning and throughout the day. The last is pretty skinny, but she is HOPELESSLY ignorant about HEALTHY eating or HEALTHY foods, or anything to do with that. She is always sick, eats WAY too much salt, fat, and processed food, cooks everything in fat, and is not really interested in actually learning about healthy lifestyles.

I kind of feel the same way...I am a full time student, and I don't work. I don't belong to any social clubs, or really have any friends. I am isolated in this tiny town here in Monmouth Oregon, and am limited because I don't have a car. I am now beginning to think that selling my car was the stupidest thing I could have done because at least if I had a car, I could visit my family who lives about 14 miles away. I have my fiance and we talk sure, but it's not really the same. I'm doing fine with everything, but I'm at that point where I'm starting to feel like "what's the point?". Right now, the only thing keeping me going is knowing that I'll regret it if I quit. I am at the lowest weight I've ever been as an adult, and I just can't let that slip away again.

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2/28/13 3:45 P

I think that's one of the really great things about SparkPeople-- no matter what our age or background or life circumstances, we're all here because we want a healthy lifestyle. So it gives us something in common, right off the bat.

I don't have anyone else around me, either, who wants to talk about it. I can mention "healthy choices" maybe once a day to my DH and then his eyes glaze over and he's done hearing about it.

I'd definitely suggest that you join a couple Spark Teams, if you haven't done so already. There are Teams for all kinds of things-- your age, pounds to lose, geographic location, hobbies and other interests, just all kinds of stuff. Some of them are more active than others so you have to look around a little and see if it's a good fit for you. Many of them will do monthly challenges, and those can help keep you motivated. You can get a lot of support and encouragement from your fellow team members.

Does anyone feel they have no one to talk to about staying motivated or about there weight loss? I do, I am 28 and I stay 85% of my week inside my house. I do not have anyone that I can share or talk to about any of this. I am a full time mom and house wife. I have came here to Spark people to try to keep my self motivated and find others to talk to.

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