Bereavement Support Group

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staying online to avoid the real pain?

I am having a really hard day today. I miss dad so much. I want him back. I want to sleep, but I feel guilty because I have had time for myself to grieve. I haven\'t focused more time on my father and how much he meant to me. I guess I ahve been avoiding it. my hand hurts from typing.

I have found that I stay up really late (since my mom passed). The second my head hits the pillow, I think of her and it hurts so bad that I usually stay up until I\'m about to pass out! I know it\'s not healthy... but it\'s my way of coping, right now.

it is not so strange. The entire weekend I left my internet connection up and running and just surfed the days away. I have some Xanax from the doctor that I use to help me sleep. It doesn\'t make me tired, but what it does is shut off my brain and I can stop thinking for a while, then my body\'s own exhaustion takes over so I can sleep.

I try not to use it too much though as I hate to put chemicals into my body, but right now, if it helps me get through this I am going to use it.

I am so sorry that you are missing your dad. I was having a really hard night last night too... I missed my dad so much that I just couldn\'t take it! I wish I could tell you how to deal with this, but i\'m not sure how to either. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

Also, isn\'t it awful that as soon as you lay your head down on the pillow, that is when all the thoughts come racing in. I have cried almost every night since he died. Last night I did something different though... I couldn\'t sleep and was upset, so I called my best friend and just said to her \&quot;I miss my dad so much it hurts. I want him back and I want to talk to him.\&quot; After I said this and we talked for a few minutes, I was able to fall asleep. It was as if saying it outloud made me feel a little better.

I find my thoughts wandering and resting on the fact that my mom is no longer here. The crying seems to have slowed down, last night it started again for a bit. I find that if I let my mind wander I will think of my mom. We had such a tight connection that I truly do feel her strength and know that it is her strength that is getting me through this.

We still have our morning time together, I talk to her and tell her how things are going (this helps allot) I also yelled at her after she died and told her I was not ready for her to leave me.

The letters she left me helped allot, the talking to her helps make the days easier, the fact that I know she is no longer in pain and is no longer suffering comforts me.

I don\'t know if this helps but just wanted to share how I have been coping....

I decided tonight I am going to read all the topics in this community, and it is taking longer than I thought. It is now 2AM. I like to stay up late once in a while, and have not had the energy to do so for a long time. So for me, I think it is a good thing. As long as you don\'t do it extensively and it does not drag you down.

Grief is about focusing on your own loss and it precedes bereavement, which is focusing on the person you lost rather than what that loss means in terms of your getting on with your life, so don't feel guilty. It takes a good year to get past your own emotions to be able to really honor the person and even then it's hard. We're the ones that carry on, keep going, move forward, while our loved ones are at peace. Sounds like you've been journaling and getting those feelings out and that's very healthy. I am sorry for your loss and hope you start feeling a little better.

friv.com has thumbnail pictures of 200 games. Gemcraft is my favorite. It's in the second column. The thumbnails get bigger if you go to full screen, F11. They have some great games that are addicting. paxcon is another cool one (as long as it isn't pausing occasionaly, throwing the game off a bit). Samorost is a fun point and click adventure. There all on that site. I found it using Stumbleupon.com. A great site for finding the best of the best of what others have already found, on any topic.

My partner gave me Scrabble for Christmas. It's nice because it has a noncompetitie mode where you can take as long as you want to play the game, and consult the dictionary. Just what someone with &quot;cognitive deficit&quot; needs.

I only hope everyone that can does this for thirty minutes in silence with a candle outside of your home. Please spread the word. I believe this can happen, I believe we deserve this vigil and I believe we have long enough for a breakthrough. Its time. I don't care if you and two people are the only ones out there; do it anyway, it we keep a vigil on a day once a year we have made progress. Thanks

Travian is good as it requires little &amp; often to play in short bursts...so long as you have a netbook/latop by your bed. It's a game where you build villages, form alliances (you get to know people).

I play all sorts of video/pc games depending on my mood &amp; ability to focus. There are times when scrabble would be just too much but driving around GTA worlds can be quite relaxing(as it relies on long term memory rather than short term pressure)But I find I have to be very careful on the camera view point &amp; where I remember I need to look on the screen or I get very nauseaous within a few seconds.

This is a great list! I've gotten totally addicted to this silly pseudo-rpg game kingdomofloathing.com. It's all very tongue-in-cheek and intelligently lighthearted. On my good days I can tackle the more complex quests that require thought and on my brain-foggy days I can just fight things to gain meat (the currency of the game).

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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