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The journey from victim to survivorSat, 15 Dec 2018 16:54:22 +0000hourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=5.0.3Comment on Stories from Female victims by Kbhttps://romancescamsurvivor.org/stories-from-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-2918
Sat, 15 Dec 2018 16:54:22 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2918Well said. I could never understand how people could be so utterly gullible and hand over cash like that, until it happened to me. I will never forget the shame and embarrassment I feel at being duped and doubt I’ll ever trust again. My biggest crime was falling in love. How dare he be so judgemental without any real experience. That shows pure ignorance
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Wed, 12 Dec 2018 21:23:06 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2907My friend is being scammed. She has fallen head over heals in love with a man who wants to marry her. He paid over one of her credit cards/ now that account is supposedly closed. They’ve been communicating for around 6 months now. She thinks they are going to get married as soon as her divorce is final. Just recently he said he was sending her a huge amount of cash from Dubai, where he was working, but hadn’t been pain. It was a cash parcel because that is how they were paid. He is a widower from UK, has a son in boarding school and is an engineer on a ship in ?? She has no idea where he is due to security. She is supposed to pick him up at LAX along with his son, after the cash is delivered by a diplomat. She has been receiving emails from the diplomat and the cash is supposed to be delivered on Thursday. Supposedly, his lawyer has paid the $7000 delivery fee so all should go as planned and they can buy a house and be married in the near future. As hard as I try to convince her that this is a scam, she is still texting him and accepting all the emails from the so called diplomat. I know, she wants to believe the man in the picture is the man she’s in love with and doesn’t want to believe otherwise until she meets him,
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Thu, 29 Nov 2018 18:44:16 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2866Hello Mari,

I believe in love also.

Don’t feel alone because I happen to be in the same situation. This year, I thought I found a woman online and what ended up happening is that I lost almost 100,000 in American dollars and I not only had to take out four loans and against my 401k, but this person claimed to be a Marine and had even better excuses for me to fall the trap. The true person whose photo was used is now married, and there are times I worry how it will affect my job.

We will get through this together.

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Thu, 29 Nov 2018 16:43:31 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2864I had been on MATCH for about 6 months when I met someone who in no time made me feel like the only woman in the world
so special that I knew in a month he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. He worked in the military or at least
he made me believe he worked for the US army and that he was stationed in Africa. I wasn’t warned or anything. He was so smooth
and loving and naturally, I fell for him. In no time the money request started coming in and I kept on sending like a fool, By the time It
occured to me I had lost almost quarter of a million dollars to someone I never met. I was in distraught, depressed and almost took my
own life.
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Tue, 27 Nov 2018 15:50:54 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2855Hi Guys,
I’ve had some really colorful people try to scam me. the first one said he was a “General” in the Navy. Ha! He must really believe women are stupid. I decided to play with him a bit. I asked him when he went to the War College in Jacksonville, Fl. He said a long time ago. I asked him how he like Jacksonville and did he get a chance to enjoy the mountains. He said that he was originally from an area that had no mountains so he loved them. By this time I was about ready to wet my pants I was laughing so hard. First, the War College is in Montgomery, Alabama. Jacksonville, Florida has NO mountains-they have beaches. And the best…..you cannot be a General in the Navy. You are an Admiral. I finally told him, look goof. If you want to scaam someone atleast get your info correct. I happen to be the wife of a Naval Aviator so I do know a bit about how the military works.

The second guy sends me a message saying that I am the most elegant, beautiful woman he has ever seen and he wants to have a relationship with me. I’m not a dog, but who starts a conversation llike that? I was too tired to play around with him but the next one will get my full attention.

We do constantly get the phone calls supoosedly from the IRS saying we will be arrested at once if wwe do not comply with them. We have a very good CPA do our taxes so we know exactly what we owe and it’s paid correctly by our CPA at once. I just tell them to come get me.

Ladies, when you’re contacted by one of these people. Ask questions about the area they’re from, about their so called jobs, etc. Watch the terminology. Do they speak like the area they are supposed to be from. The first guy that contacted, I knew at once that English was not his first language. If you’re using a computer, check facts on your phone while talking to them. Do anything you can to trip them up.

Ona positive note though. My sister did meet a man on the internet that did turn out to be a millionaire. He actually is the CEO of an International Company and makes a million a year. They married about 3 years ago and he has given her the most wonderful life. She was married before to such a jerk. I’m really so happy for her. So, it does happen, just take the time to fact check and don’t let yourselves get so involved that you blindly send money. Men should always offer to help you, not the other way around. Good luck!

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Sat, 24 Nov 2018 12:01:17 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2826My story is not all that unlike others. I am a male I was scammed by a woman posing to be an army sergeant to come home soon. She sent pictures of her young beautiful self and yes I am a 61-year-old typical mail. I have been to a recent break up or is recovering from that 15 year relationship . “Vonora bowl and never that lucky and love all my life. Already been treated for depression taking meds and going to group therapy weekly. But successfully employed for over 20 years, homeowner wear some savings and retirement and everything I own paid for. So when this luscious sweet talking affectionate woman proposes to me I guess I went into some sort of zone. Hi center a care package just cause I Liked her & she didn’t even ask for it. After that she told me she had an inheritance or $6 million in gold and diamond put away in the security company called VAS 24 and she had spent all her money hanging onto it making payments to the security company and needed help getting it shipped to the states for when she joined me and our happy future. She presented a certificate that looked official to me and I looked up the company online and they did exist. The golden Domands would be need transferred to my name so i wired $1250 to have it put into my in joint name. I am presented with a certificate of joint ownership of $6 million in gold and diamond.
It is going to cost $27,000 to have these goods ship it to my front doorstep. So fool heartedly I go to the bank make a lien against my truck and boat for $27,000 and wire her the money. I receive notice that the gold & diamond are on the way. About a week later I get a notice that customs has held shipping up in New York in for Clarence taxes, feed & now she say now I need 111,000 for The shipment to really make it to my front door. I am beside myself and she acts as if she is to although still declaring her deep love and blah blah blah for me. She says she will talk to her army commander and ask him if he can help. Her and Army commanders plan after talking to a banker friend is having me run around buying iPhones and Mac Pro book charging them to credit cards 5 of which after I gave over my identity this Commanders friend created. I am to ship them overseas for sales with the proceeds going back on credit cards to wire money to get this shipment to me so my love and money then come home . Well my last wire went out Nov. 9th , I realized I was scammed. 150,000 in debt. Most of which is credit card. So far in two weeks since I woke up from this zone this is what I have done;
Filed reports with
FBI
FTC
Local law enforcement
Joined a legal support membership
Got an appointment w/attorney
Cut off/blocked contact w/scammers

I cry everyday. Feel I can’t tell my family as they will add to the shame. Some days it is very hard to focus. The recommendation I’m getting is to declare bankruptcy. I live in Texas and from what I can tell unless the credit cards companies come at me real real hard I can keep my homesteader home , most of my things but will have to make a 682.00$ monthly for lien at bank. No credit for 10 years. And if I get real lucky the credit card debit would be released. Not sure on any of this but from reading and talking to people this is what I gather. It would be very difficult. Especially since on my job my income is about 40,000 yearly and I’m hanging by a thread for running my mouth. I’ve been written up several times and given a final warning if I am rude, aggressive or insulting one more time I’m fired. So I go to my group therapy weekly, take my meds, attend church weekly. Pray and write letters to God. I try to hope for some sort of do able future without so much suffering and isolation. Hope is not easy to have in the midst of this. But I know NO MONEY TO STRANGERS. Most days I go around with a big knot in my stomach until I can cry it all out. Then I feel better for a while until the fear, anger and shame return. This cycle repeats and I’m told it’s part of my healing. I’m anxious about seeing this attorney next week and hope his solutions are workable. If your a praying person reading this , I ask that you stop for 30 seconds and ask God to send me relief and help for as long as I need it to get through this horrible ordeal.

]]>Comment on Stories from Female victims by Jan Marshallhttps://romancescamsurvivor.org/stories-from-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-2797
Fri, 16 Nov 2018 02:28:56 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2797Hi Cristin, yes a familiar story. Please show her my site and my book. All the details of what happened to me are there… let me know how it goes.
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Fri, 16 Nov 2018 00:30:04 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2796I believe my roommate is being scammed. He contacted her on either Facebook or POF. It’s been one month and there are red flags. He is in Dubai as an engineer. He flew there after sweeping her off her feet in less than 10 days. They talk on the phone all hours. He sends live pictures to prove he is real but Skype wouldn’t work. She sent sexy pics and he sent flowery poetry. She has fallen in love. He then of course had his emergency and asked her for $5000. She could have come up with it in time but he needed it then. He yelled and berrated her horribly. Then he threatened to blackmail her to her son as well as on Facebook. She was heart broken. Not angry just so hurt. They broke up but he is contacting her again. Apologizing for everything and again proclaiming his love. I made a copy of this site and I plan to show it to her.
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Fri, 02 Nov 2018 11:47:50 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2781Hi , can relate so

well to what you have shared. What is it that keeps us so encaptured
by these cruel., insensitive men , who blatantly beguile and decieve for personal gain. They are an addiction that is really hard to break free from even knowing that they are fraudulent. It’s very sad.

]]>Comment on Stories from Female victims by Sophiehttps://romancescamsurvivor.org/stories-from-victims/comment-page-1/#comment-2779
Wed, 31 Oct 2018 14:21:39 +0000https://romancescamsurvivor.org/?page_id=612#comment-2779To “Story 11”
Your story is similar to mine.
Every second of every minute of every hour of every day, I wonder how was it possible? I am educated and so on, but I have been scammed for over 200 000$canadian.