thoughts

Too many relationships are ruined by worrying about what other people think of us. We worry about what people will say, what people will think. I’ve seen many people disconnected from their loved ones in this way, with their only means of continued communication being social, or texting. They’re so afraid of expressing the things they should say, and so on.

If we could just remove our hardened shell and reveal who we really are, and allow our souls to sparkle, be authentic and keep it real with one another, I think we would connect perfectly.

In today’s world we are so brainwashed to think we have to be something we are not. I see so many people communicating, but putting on airs, acting like they are someone they are not, to try and impress, or to sell an idea, or sell themselves as someone else. It can take a toll on the body, mind, spirit. If only we could allow ourselves to show the world who we truly are, and to speak our truth, and sincerely connect with our loved ones, family members, friends, we would all have happier, richer lives.

Sometimes we stop being who we truly are, because the person we communicate with snaps at us, or has a problem with our opinions or how we view the world. When we share our thoughts and opinions freely, these people make us feel like we can’t be who we truly are around them.

He loves me, he loves me not. Do you find yourself daydreaming about love? Imagining your next partner, what they will look like and when they are going to arrive in your life? Maybe you’re wondering if the person that you are interested in is also into you? Or perhaps you’re simply contemplating your current relationship?

Whatever your current relationship status, I am sure that thoughts of romantic love creep into your mind from time to time. So, given that we manifest not only with our actions, but even more so with our thoughts, take heed! Manifesting real, meaningful love isn’t as hard as you may think.

I believe that a loving, fulfilling relationship should be available to everyone, and not just a few lucky people. So, if you’re struggling, let me try and help you get to the bottom of the problem.

Since the same rules of manifesting apply in all situations, no matter what the desired subject or outcome is, I’ll give you the four simple steps I’ve used hundreds of times to manifest things into my life. And let me ease your mind: they don’t work just for me. These easy, yet powerful steps have worked for many of my clients.

First, you need to decide, and I mean clearly decide, what type of relationship you want. You need to have an inner dialog with yourself, and ask: does this work? Is this who I want and need?

When a loved one dies, it is never easy. It is always traumatic to lose someone who we have lived with, taken care of, loved and nurtured – be it a partner, spouse, parent, sibling, relative or friend. The feeling of them suddenly no longer being here can be devastating. Even their little quirks, which sometimes annoyed you when they were alive, is forever missed. We suddenly miss everything about them!

Thankfully, the spirit of those we love remain very much alive after their passing. Despite the ‘vehicle they drove around in,’ namely their physical body, may no longer be around, their spirit is still around. They can hear and see us, and they can feel our emotions.

I can tell you that when we call our loved one’s name, they are with us. When we pray for them, they appreciate it. Greatly. The two best things you can do is pray for your loved ones and say their name out loud. Continue to talk to them. And when you talk to them, they respond through sending you thoughts and signs. They also come to us in the dream state when we are sleeping. Write them a letter and put it under your pillow, and try to remember your astral travels the next day.

Your loved ones are never far from you. Love is the energy that keeps us connected with our loved ones. Sometimes they will give you a little visit. Remember to ask and you shall receive. Knock and that door will open.

Nature thrives with abundance. Notice the number of pine cones, acorns or maple keys that just one tree yields. Turtles and fish produce dozens of eggs to ensure survival. There are millions and millions of examples of abundance in nature.

Abundance is your natural state as well. Even in times of hardship, it is important to understand that there is enough for all. One need not do without in order for someone else to have their basic needs met. In addition, when you thrive, you are not preventing anyone else from achieving their highest goals.

It is incumbent upon each of you to create the world in which you wish to live. Some people are born with the proverbial silver spoon in their mouths and manage to waste everything they have been given. Some people are born into poverty, yet grow to inspire millions and effect change in the world. Regardless of your position on Earth, you can create an environment of abundance.

First, it is important for you to determine what abundance means to you. Is it wealth, health, family, friendships, a committed partnership or perhaps a combination of these and more? Once you have determined what you are dreaming about, it is important to solidify your thoughts by putting them into goals.

Visualize your desired outcome in each of the categories you have identified. Show up to help make things happen by taking small steps to get started. Make a phone call. Do some research. Join a group. Take a class. Help a neighbor. Comfort a friend. Persevere and you will see your environment start to change and improve.

Simply defined, the Butterfly Effect is the phenomenon where a small, localized change in one part of a complex system can have large effects elsewhere, like an escalating ripple effect. The idea came to be known as such when a meteorology professor, Edward Lorenz, suggested that the flutter of just one butterfly’s wings could ultimately cause a tornado on the other side of the planet.

We all have beautiful opportunities to introduce the positive in our lives. We can do this by shifting our energy around with regards how we choose to view a particular person or situation. In this way our thoughts and actions can act as those butterfly wings that shifts and effects people, events, and even environments throughout the world.

It’s A Wonderful Life, a 1946 American Christmas fantasy film, demonstrates how every man’s life touches many other lives, and without the presence and actions of those other people, so many things might be different. The point is, we often have no idea how significantly our lives affect others. When we think back over our own life experiences, and the experiences of others, it often becomes clear how we have all been touched by the so-called Butterfly Effect.

Expressing our truth openly and honestly, provides a channel for further rites of passage in real intimacy. When we do not convey what is actually bothering us, we impede our communication and inadvertently cripple our relationships.

Because we are gods in the making, who have temporarily assumed a physical form as human beings, we are subjected to the basic emotions of earthly existence. These undeveloped emotional sensations constitute real and necessary experiences, while we take on the Earth experience.

When we are unwilling, or seemingly unable to express these innate feelings, an overt shyness takes hold which manifests as a manipulative need to gain control over other people. As paradoxical as this may seem, repressing our true feelings can make us ever more capable and adept at employing a favorable charismatic strategy over people and situations in order to remain ‘hidden.’

To cover up a deep sense of experiencing oneself as ‘wrong,’ accompanied by a genuine knowledge of presenting oneself as ‘phony,’ a loss of innate power is reverberated throughout the body and mind, coupled by the need to present oneself as invincible and correct.

The soul knows this act of contrition is deceptive, but will support the gesture, so that the human enacting her role may survive in her particular social environment. The person will continue to enact a subversive way of calculated behavior, by seeming to comply, but all the while, determined to be more perfect, right and flawless in personal presentation. In other words, to get her way in the end, a deceitful manner concocts undue pressure, along with the vulnerable defense of protecting one’s motivations from being detected.

I once had a client who wanted a marriage more than anything else in the world. She has been single for many years and not getting any younger. She wanted a loving partner, and she never gave up thinking about the qualities she needed in that partner. She even told me she could feel him when she thought about it.

I have never met anyone so determined. She would find men to date on the internet, and asked married friends to arrange some blind dates for her. Even her adult son would introduce her to some of his friends’ divorced fathers! Of course, some of her dating experiences were very disappointing and she would tell me a variety of weird and wonderful stories about some of the men she had met.

In time she decided to keep a list of what didn’t work for her from each dating experience. She would edit her list after every new date. Even I was amazed at her courage and conviction. She simply told herself Mr. Right will come at the right time and never gave up on her dream.

She also encouraged her friends in a similar predicament to stay positive and have faith. A group of these women would even go to dinner a couple of times per month and discuss their dating experiences. They would talk about their recent dates and make their own list at the dinner table. They made it fun; they finding relationships a positive experience.