Clingy older child

Has anyone else’s older child started getting super clingy as your due date approaches? My son just turned three and I don’t know if it’s just a stage or if he can sense things are about to change but he’s completely obsessed with me!
He wants me to do everything for him and doesn’t want my husband to help him with anything, which sucks because I’m so tired and it’s making everything into a big battle. Instead of playing with toys or watching cartoons while I cook dinner he clings to my legs and asks for cuddles.

I actually don’t know how I’m going to cope when the baby arrives I’m sure it’s going to get so much worse! Any suggestions on how to encourage him to be more independent?

Thad tough to say if it’s a phase or pregnancy- I feel like usually kids have a harder time when the baby is actually there - so maybe it’s just a phase?

Fill his cup as much as you can now before the baby comes.
I also thought a small gift from the baby to the older sibling when the baby was born was a nice transition. We gave DD (dear daughter) a little something when she met her little brother in the hospital for the first time. It helped a lot and it’s still very special to her.

It’s gonna be hard but figuring out how to snuggle 2 babies at once as key too. There where so many times I would be nursing with baby on the boppy and little sister snuggled up under one arm with her head resting on the boppy too. You just do the best you can!!!

Thad tough to say if it’s a phase or pregnancy- I feel like usually kids ha...

Posted
08/21/2018

Thad tough to say if it’s a phase or pregnancy- I feel like usually kids have a harder time when the baby is actually there - so maybe it’s just a phase?

Fill his cup as much as you can now before the baby comes.
I also thought a small gift from the baby to the older sibling when the baby was born was a nice transition. We gave DD a little something when she met her little brother in the hospital for the first time. It helped a lot and it’s still very special to her.

It’s gonna be hard but figuring out how to snuggle 2 babies at once as key too. There where so many times I would be nursing with baby on the boppy and little sister snuggled up under one arm with her head resting on the boppy too. You just do the best you can!!!

Yes I wonder if it might just be his developmental stage as we’ve been talking about the new baby for months now and he also won’t have any concept of just how much things are going to change!

He’s definitely in a pushing boundaries stage where he tries to push back on every single thing we tell him to do so maybe it’s just part of that. He was such an easy cheerful two year old it’s like turning 3 has totally changed him!

Yes I wonder if it might just be his developmental stage as we’ve been talk...

Posted
08/21/2018

Yes I wonder if it might just be his developmental stage as we’ve been talking about the new baby for months now and he also won’t have any concept of just how much things are going to change!
He’s definitely in a pushing boundaries stage where he tries to push back on every single thing we tell him to do so maybe it’s just part of that. He was such an easy cheerful two year old it’s like turning 3 has totally changed him!

Ohhhhhhhh ok. Yes yes... now it makes sense. terrible 2’s is a myth lol. I loved the 2’s!!

Honestly- the “threenager” phase is the worst!!!!!! The first few months of being 3 is so hard!!! They all of a sudden have all this attitude!!! You just gotta ride the wave mama!!! It does stink it’s coming to a head right when your due. But it will get better! This is a common phase for all kiddos

I’m in the same boat! He’s always been a big mamas boy but this last week it’s like ten fold! He doesn’t want to go to school anymore and wakes frequently in the night calling for me, which he’s never done before either. It’s very tiring, plus he’s gonna be in a new class room at school his year, being bumped for age. I’m worried it’s all gonna be too much. No advice, just solidarity! ✊🏾✊🏾

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