Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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i need help coping

my daughter and i are getting ready to move from my dream house to a small apartment my husband bought me out because i can no longer take care of the property and 3 dogs on my own. i am heartbroken and scared i am so confused and can't afford an atty he says he doesn't want divorce but to be closer to us (he now lives 100 miles away. he says he is too afraid to live with me because i called the police in late july do to physical violence. i really dont want to leave my home but feel i have got to i am so sad i feel paralized. there is also the possibilty i will have to care for my 2 year old grandaughter the worry and the stress are eating me alive. i don't feel i can cope much longer please anyone HELP

Taking care of your 2 year old grandaughter would not be a good idea. You sound like you a getting way too much on your plate. This is very dangerous for you. I don't know if you have any family or friends who can take of her instead. Your husband sound like he just trying to runaway from the situation. This is not good. This separtion is not going to help your marriage. Will he go with you to counseling? And about the house, property and 3 dogs. Can your family afford to hire help to take care of these things? If he can afford an apartment for you, he can hire a maid, a landscaper and dog walker I would think. There is also considering giving up all or some of your dogs. You don't have to give the dogs to strangers. You can give them to people who live near you so you can see them once and a awhile. If you haven't already, discuss these options with your husband.

there is no one else that would be able to take maddy. i would get help but,i am afraid not as much as i would need. my husband and i have been seprated already for 6months. i feel like i am in limbo he wants 6 more he sent me roses yesterday for our wedding aniversery i am getting such conflicting messages from him which further add to my confusion

If your daughter is under 18, you should be able to stay in the house with his financial help. I don't know what arrangements you have worked out with him, but your husband should be able to do that for you as opposed to purchasing an apartment to move you closer, in my opinion, that is a little on the selfish side, for him.
I agree that the granddaughter coming into the mix may be a bit too much. I understand you say she has no where else to go, but what about her father's family. I don't mean to be rude, just trying to think of you first.

her fathers family including her father is not interested.they have had very little contact since she was born. my husband says this move is just temporary for me. i am afraid it's not. he claims he wants the marraige to work but is afraid he will go to jail if a situation escaled. he is now in anger management

I'm really worried about you. I have dealt with the control and mental abuse for 23 years. When he drank he was Physical. I felt horrid when I finally had him removed from the house. I was so guilty. I woke up several times a night worried about him and what I had done. I only ask my self would I rather have the abuse back , and it is easy to see no matter how hard, I made the right choice.
I'm worried he(your husband) is only securing his position to take everything. Beg borrow what ever you can to get an attorney. If he can afford to do what you are saying he can also pay for your attorney. Courts are really good of deferring filing fees. Try the women's crisis hotline in your area and see if they can help you get an attorney. Do This Soon Please!!! Abusers rarely change. Don't give up anymore than the court says you have to.
How old is your daughter? Either get support for her or tell her to get a job. This is an emergency. Hopefully you have not signed off the house. Even if something works out between you and him it won't hurt to cover your self with legal support..
Believe me if you can deal with the abuse. You are a survivor. You can and must protect yourself, your daughter and granddaughter. God bless you.

He wants to be close to you-I'm not sure I understand. If you had to call the police on your husband for his physical violence. Why are you not seeking help through one of the local women's abuse shelter? Most have advocacy programs in place for women seeking a way out of abuse situations with attorney assistance and helping you find stable housing. Now is not the time to be paralized if you need help. Help is out there. Please know that I know what it is like to feel as if you are all alone. You're not.
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There are 24 hour hotlines open and help even if you just need to attend the support groups. Most don't encourage you to leave your marrriage until you are ready!!

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