Anyway, been meaning to write a little on this 'misyar' issue that's been in the news lately. An esteemed Professor was quoted in the newspaper suggesting that 'misyar' marriages be allowed in Malaysia. A simple description of misyar was "whereby a couple enters into matrimony with the understanding that the husband is free of any material obligations (nafkah zahir) and only has to perform conjugal obligations (nafkah bathin)"

Nice one, Prof. And to think, in uni I actually read your book which was a textbook for one of the course subjects, peh! Sorry, I'm not well-versed in religious matters to delve too deeply into what the arabs are practicing, but the way you put it (that is if the media quoted you correctly) looks like nothing better than to legalize f*ck-buddies. Cool! A toast, bring out the bubblies! Oopss sorry, no bubblies, because alchohol is still haram (f*ck all you like, as long as you don't get drunk??? LOL)

Kalau tujuan misyar ni untuk membantu wanita, I beg to differ. In fact, it will only lead to more misery for the womenfolk, who will have added responsibilities and yet no one to share it with. Habis manis, sepah dibuang. Kalau dapat anak, adakah misyar-ness (my word for 'irresponsibility') ni will be extended to the children?

These days, promiscuity is usually a matter of choice, not need. That's why some married people (also among my friends) have sex outside marriage just as much as some single people, clearly negating the Prof's suggestions of misyar to 'mengurangkan perlakuan maksiat'. Each to his own, kubur asing-asing, beb!

So after that, to balance out, and just for the fun of it, why not give the kuasa talak to the ladies? Scenario in a syariah court : "Tuan Hakim, saya mahu ceraikan suami saya sebab dia gagal memuaskan nafsu saya". OK whaaattt.....

*Sumimasen, Jie is emotionally stressed out lately, she's been on a diet, but the weighing scale needle still stubbornly points to the same number. Aaaarrrgggghhhhhh!!! So she had a double scoop of lecka-lecka's nockies yesterday afternoon.*

Incidentally, here's a pic of a mass wedding ceremony held in Saudi. The grooms are so brave, no? Tak takut tertukar bride ke hehehe :-)

5 comments:

we are actually lead by an outpost of the dajal's gomen... look at the policies they make, the symbols they use, the grand buildings and projects they undertake which one building has been described in 2 of the 4 books... the new version of religion they unleash etc... i dont want to go deep in my theories here, just let me be happy with them :) kawin misyar, logo halal, OIC and all is a big scam...

just wondering who's the prof that you're talking about??? i want to look her/his articles up and see... i bet media twisted his/her words? ada bezaka ngan what he/she tought you way back when you were a scholar? i mean whats orinted in the papers and how he/she used to teach... if berbeza, media is at it again...

Those are pretty strong words, bro :-) Sometimes the world becomes black & white, no fuzzy greys, where good guys get rich and the babes, and bad guys get jailtime and repent. And then suddenly the alarm clock rings, and we wake up to the real world and drag our sorry butts to the office just like we did yesterday. Reality bites lah...

The scholar I quoted is a lecturer in UM, and I don't think I've come across any blatant statements from him before. Oh well, if the media did quote him wrongly, he should get them to correct it.

Thank you, your feedback is very much appreciated. What was written earlier is my own opinion based on discussions & interviews in the media and is not meant as a religious statement. I think a small percentage of married couples already apply this concept without realizing it actually exists and recognized as 'misyar', but if both parties are agreeable even though it is against the norm, then so be it, caveat emptor.

What I am concerned about is if it is legalized, some people may take advantage of it by marrying for sexual purposes only, which in the end may leave the other party in dire straits. Just like the concept of poligamy was initialized back then out of necessity, when many men had died in wars leaving widows and children who needed to be protected by other men as their second, third or fourth families. How many people these days take on widows and divorcees only as their second, third or fourth wives, for the sake of building up the ummah as a religious duty?

Brother, I do not wish to argue with Allah's rules. The rules are divine and just, but the application by some of us might be waylaid so as to seem unfair. And it doesn't help either if in trying to educate the public, learned scholars make statements or explain it in a way that insults some of us.

Thank you again for your kind info, please do drop by often. One of the beauties of blogs is that we can all learn from each other :-)

Yuu actually cannot put words into the medias mouth... they'll say what they want as they have big bosses that answer to bigger bosses... lately medias' new aresenal is to use intelectuals to strengthen an issue... that makes the scholar look dumb... so you think your ex teacher from UM really said this? be sure... i'm seeing a ot of parallelism between media tactics between democratic nations... off topic dah ni...