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we ask Allah to bless us all to see this month through. Alhamdulillah for having been given the opportunity to live to see another Ramadan. We should truly be grateful for this blessing, for verily many have left before the start of this month, and many more will leave us during the month, wth some not seeing the end. Consider yourself blessed! May Allah grant us goodness in this world and the next Ameen

There are times, days and some months and years that we all go thru in life experiencing great hardships, unease and discomfort. However, during those moments of great hardship and sadness we forget ourself whilst the problem engulfs every piece of us…but then something amazing happens to a believer. The amazing realization that Allah promises us many a thing..but the most of all He promised us during these testing times…EASE! Yes you read right…He, Allah Ta’Alla promised us ease not once but twice.

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا (94:5

إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا (94:6

Thus with this promise we break from the shackles of worry, discomfort, sadness, loss, wound, disappointment and whatever else is eating away our mind, body and soul.

For verily we read these verses more often but we never reflect on the beauty hidden between these verses.

And so I said to my soul; my sufferings became easier because my Lord promised me ease, not once but twice! 🙏💕

We pray our readers are in the best of health and high iman. Something occurred to me the other day…isn’t it amazing how Great Allah is yet we humans find many ways to disobey him?

Take for example the medical field.. there are so many different specialist within one hospital all dealing with different parts of the body. You can’t find a doctor that is able to deal with the whole body in a specialized manner.. yet we see ourselves better than the one who granted us that skill. At the end of the day, we must remember…Allah is Greater than we can imagine and we are extremely limited in what we are able to do. Never think yourself bigger!

Its very strange nowadays what once use to be an admirable trait is seen as not so admirable and vic-a-versa. A beautiful trait that you often won’t find these days-hayaa (shyness/modesty)

Shyness is of two types:

1. What consists of character and disposition and cannot be acquired. Shyness is the behavior Allaah granted the servant. The Prophet (sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said ” _Shyness brings about nothing but good_.” It prohibits a person from committing despicable actions and displaying degrading behavior.

2. What is attainable through knowing Allah and knowing His greatness as well as His closeness to His servants. His overseeing them, and His knowledge of what deceives the eyes while being hidden in the chests.

*Shyness from Allah may be caused by witnessing and reflecting over His blessings and the shortcomings associated with being thankful for them.*

The _praiseworthy shyness_ is the behavior that encourages the performing of commendable actions and abandoning the wretched.

Concerning the statement: _” If you do not feel shy then do as you wish_.”
🔹One meaning is that it does _not_ command to do whatever you wish, but it conveys a meaning of blame and prohibition. One way of interpreting it is that *it conveys a threat/warning*.
🔹The second way to interpret it is that _it is a way of conveying information_. The thing that prohibits a person from doing bad actions is shyness.

An-Nawawee said ,
The Scholars said that the reality of shyness is the character that encourages the abandonment of despicable actions and prevents against negligence concerning the rights of the people who possess rights over others.

Aboo Al Qaasim al Junayd said Shyness is recognizing Allaah’s favors, meaning His blessings and the recognizing of ones own negligence in light of them both.

_*When shyness is lost, every type of evil is committed.*_

*~There are five signs of wretchedness~* :

🚫1. The harshness in the hearts
🚫2. The unflinching eye
🚫3. The lack of shyness
🚫4. The seeking of worldy pleasures.
🚫5. Longevity in life

An example of shyness is Asmaa bint Aboo Bakr in the hadeeth where she carried the date stones and was offered to ride behind the Prophet (sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) but was too shy.

A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm?

You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise waiting for you in the living room raises your blood pressure so much that you lose control over yourself.
The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and juice spilled all over.

Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us.

Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases!

For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it really quite tempting.

إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ
Except for those who are patient and do righteous deeds; those will have forgiveness and great reward.
(Qur’an 11:11)

Many more such verses enhance the importance of patience.

As Muslimah mothers, it is very clear to us that being patient is not just about controlling our anger in order to be a good mother, but firstly it is to obey Allah.
Here are some smart tactics to save yourself from regrets:

🎈Absorb the fact that your kids are an amanah from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This will help you be extra cautious when you are dealing with them.

🎈Understand and keep reminding yourself that there are a whole lot of women doing whatever they can in order to conceive. Being a mother is a gift.

🎈If we are able to live with and take care of our children then we should be more grateful because there are so many mothers who are separated from their little sweethearts for various reasons.

🎈Patiently taking care of little children 24*7 is no easy task. But we can try and with Allah’s help nothing is impossible. Don’t stop making dua.

🎈أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek refuge with Allah from
the accursed Shaitaan) is the best dua to stop shaitaan from attacking you.

🎈Health issues or hormonal imbalances can result in physical and mental stress. Keeping a helper or ordering in from a restaurant will definitely give you time to relax.

🎈Managing more than two or three toddlers is real work. If you end up shouting or smacking, don’t hesitate to apologise. A sorry card or simply a tight hug can do wonders, but make sure you tell them you were hurt by their actions.

🎈Be what you want your child to be. They copy what they see.

🎈Most of us must have read the statement : “Excuse the mess, we are making memories”. Yes you are. Treasure the moments.

🎈But also remember: Less mess less stress. To avoid mess create a play area for kids so that the toys stop finding other places to hide.

🎈Children grow up so quickly and with each passing year they become more independent. The present phase of life is passing away so try to grab it in the most beautiful manner.

🎈Children are children. Let them be. Tidying up is essential but don’t get obsessed to the extent that you restrict your children from being themselves.

🎈When you find it difficult to stay patient remind yourself of single mothers or a mother taking care of a disabled child. Our test of patience is nothing compared to theirs.

So, the next time you see spilt water, cushions on the floor or the sofa being used as a trampoline, take a deep breath and say Alhamdullilah.

A final note:
وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ
… And the angels will enter upon them from every gate, [saying],
“Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home.”
(Qur’an 13:23-24)

What more do we want?

I pray that you and I be able to make an effort to be more patient. آمين

Life can sometimes put you in very compromising situations or even worse might test every bit of you possible! During these difficult times it’s hard not to crack….but having good thoughts of Allah and knowing that He can bring you out if it can lighten the burden. Remember you are not alone. Alhamdulillah

Allah says in Surah Najm Verse 43

وَأَنَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَىٰ

And that it is He who makes [one] laugh and weep

Therefore seek Him and always busy yourself with His remembrance.

A beautiful reminder from a Sister

It’s easy for the believer to face highs and lows in terms of emaan, the road is never just a straight one, so from time to time you will undoubtedly waver and even at times fall.
Sometimes you might even hit an all time low, one which completely pushes you in the wrong direction due to the force of shaytaan. But the moment you feel this force, you need to muster enough strength to redirect yourself, and push yourself towards Allah.

Any form of emptiness or hollowness which you may be experiencing may be an indication towards the absence of Allah’s remembrance from your heart, and His mentioning from your tongue. Hence it’s imperative that you bring back His remembrance in to your life.

Imagine the abundant blessings which come with being remembered by Allah. Imagine the angels acknowledging you, specifically you.
Will this not be a natural cause of the descent of mercy from Allah? Will such mercy not fill the emptiness within the depth of your inner self?
Undoubtedly yes!

The mercy of Allah includes safety, blessings and forgiveness. All of these combined and bestowed upon you can only mean ease and relief. Relief from any hardship, ease from anything which deters you from Allah.
So give all that you can in the remembrance of Allah, take hold of solitude and comfort yourself with His remembrance and He will comfort you with His mercy and companionship.

May Allah enable us to find ultimate peace in Him and His book, Al Quran Al Kareem. آمين.

Subhanallah we surely are living in times of many trials. It’s hard not to become emotional and sad about what’s going on in the Muslim world. You look to every corner where there’s muslims and in one way or another there’s oppression, suffering or massacre. It’s hard not to want to crawl into an empty hole and shut your eyes and cover your ears….all because we feel helpless and we are overcome with such despair.

Alhamdulillah we have so many charities that are working tirelessly to try and provide basic essentials to help the needy live a little bit better than what they are currently undergoing….but the biggest help we can give is DUAH too!

We have forgotten the power of duah that we are only reminded when a situation is dire. But no, it should be done regardless. Duah is the only weapon of a believer…we should make Duah for them day and night, whenever we can.

Duah and istighfar go hand in hand…ask Allah to forgive us for our sins and pardon us. Because our sins could be a barrier for those that are suffering. Cry to your lord and ask Him to save the Ummah and grant us all the ability to wake up and see everything clearly.

Make Duah for the people stuck in East Aleppo, in mainland Syria, Africa, Burma, Pakistan

VERILY The Prophet SAW made it categorical that ” Make profit out of five things before five things over took you.
Your youthfulness before the old age
Your health before illness
Your affluence before austerity
Your free time before busy moment
Your life before your death

NB: If your daily routine is empty of the following activities, be quick and insert them NOW… or NEVER :-
*2 Raka’at of Dhuha
*Daily Quranic recitation routine
*Qiyamul layl
*Alms giving /supporting the needy
*Spreading good word/nasiha/salam
May Allah SWT continue to help us against the satanic whispers and evils of our own souls.Salam alaykum.

Mothers are special people..they understand what her child never utters! The problems and difficult situations they have to endure is amazing.

Recently there was a mother who spoke about her day and she explained how on two occasions she placed food on the table with the intention of eating with her kids, only for her baby to start crying which meant she left the table. Once she had calmed the baby and had returned, the food was finished. She thought to herself “I really wanted to have some too!” This happened several times in her life but the two times she recalled this she thought to herself…mothers do so much but how can a child ever repay that back?

Subhanallah the daily challenges they have to overcome and the circumstances that they so happily accept even though it goes against what they use to believe and hold on to.

May Allah bless all mothers and grant them khayr in this world and the next. Ameen. ❤️🙏

Two beggars knocked on the door asking for bread. One beggar was given a loaf and sent away. The other was kept waiting and waiting. At length, the second beggar became concerned. “Why am I being denied? What is so lacking in me that the other one was favoured over me?” he asked himself. Unknown to the beggar, a fresh loaf was being baked for him inside the house.

Let’s remember that Allah’s delays are not always His denials. His timing is always perfect.

Allah has perfect timing..never early, never late. It takes a little patience and it takes a lot of faith but its worth the wait.

We dont know what tomorrow holds but know who holds tomorrow – ALLAH, The Most Merciful, The Most Loving, The All Wise.

“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.” – {Imam Ash-Shafi}.