Monday, August 27, 2012

You may
feel quite shaken up in your view of the human race. Any woman who suffers
serious mistreatment from a partner she had loved and trusted struggles with
feelings of betrayal. And betrayal can
knock you off your foundation at a core level, so that:

·the world starts to feel like an unsafe
place.

·everyone’s motives start to be suspect

·you start to question your sense of what is
real

If your partner
were terrible all the time, it would actually be easier to deal with in many
ways; you would tell yourself, “Well, he turned out to be a jerk.” But when
someone you love goes back and forth between kindness and cruelty,
generosity and selfishness, tenderness and intimidation, loving you and
cheating on you, you can come to feel that it’s impossible to understand
people. Your feelings for the primary person in your life tend to carry over
into how you view everyone.

Your
partner may further feed the problem by encouraging you to think badly of
others. He may tell you that people are lying to you or taking advantage of
you; that your friends have hidden motives; that you are naïve in your dealings
with people; that “everyone is just out for themselves.” He’s talking about
himself, though he probably doesn’t know it.

And
yes, there are sharks out there. But the world is also full of so many
thoughtful, caring, honest individuals. Most people don’t use other people, or trick them, or threaten them. In fact,
most people are doing their best to live ethical lives and to be decent and
responsible for other people.

So
don’t let your partner (or ex-partner) distort your outlook on your species. Look for the good
in people, and notice their efforts to make human connection. Be smart, yes,
but don’t harden your heart. You will find many gems in the human race.

“I will stay open to
people and give them a chance. I’m keeping my heart alive.”

Saturday, August 18, 2012

For those of you who have been following the "Wendi G." case that I've been blogging about for a year now -- and for those of you who are new to it -- a document that I have recently put up on my website should stun you -- because Judge Jon Hulsing won't allow this "Forensic Report" into evidence. He has declared that Wendi is lying, and that she manipulated her children into making statements, and on that basis ordered Wendi to jail for 90 days -- but he won't allow into evidence the only thorough and objective interview that was done with the children.And to make matters even more stark, it was an interview that was conducted by a team that specializes in interviewing children.

I believe that you if you read the full report, you will find yourself entertaining serious questions about why Judge Hulsing wouldn't allow this into evidence at hearings or at the trial. This is the type of case the FBI should investigate.

If you feel concerned after reading the report, please call the Michigan governor at:

(517) 373-3400

and request an investigation into Judge Hulsing's conduct. (This is only one case among several that have been brought to my attention regarding misconduct on Judge Hulsing's part.)AN UPDATE ON THE CASE: Wendi is out of legal options for the moment, though additional routes are likely to open up in the future. In the mean time, she is seeing her children regularly (once per month) with supervision, as ordered by the court. I would like to write more about what happened at the trial, but I am still waiting to find out what I can say about the children's statements at trial, which is the most important thing to write about.