He has been here for me through everything-the loss of my family, little A’s father abandoning her and he stopped me from making the biggest mistake of my life.

But now I just don’t know. It has nothing to do with him. I will still love and miss him everyday for the rest of my life. Losing him may very well be the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

It’s his family. They just hate me so much. I’m a whore, a bitch, a snob, and now apparently the worst parent ever. Cause ya know, autism is caused by bad parenting apparently. No matter what I do, I am wrong. It’s way more than just them not thinking I’m good enough for their son.

I just can’t do it anymore. How can I commit to spending the rest of my life with people who hate me and disrespect me at every turn? His family is local and Mr A has a young son so we see them constantly. We’re actually spending a few days with them right now. I am locked in my bedroom now.

I just sat through a lecture from his mom and niece about how bad of a stepmom I am. I have had to take on a major role in the little boys life and all I get is shit on. And because of this, his son treats me with absolutely no respect. He screams at me, tells everyone he hates me and refuses to listen to even the simplest command. And his family allows this to continue to happen.

And when he is around, everyone treats Little A like she’s the redheaded stepchild.

Mr. A has been put in this horrible position of his family hating the woman he loves. He can’t take anymore. Since its his family, I can’t make him choice me or them.

I feel so broken inside right now. And I feel completely alone in the world.

First off I am so sorry. I cannot even imagine how you feel right now. My family is crazy and treats me like his family treats you however its easier for me because I just choose not to speak to them. I would sit down and talk to him and tell him everything you have just told us. Good luck my dear I hope things work out for you!

This? You should not have to. This isn’t your problem. It’s theirs. They have created a situation where they are causing drama. It’s time for him to take sides because thats what men do. If you cannot change the situation to make a peaceful life for yourself then he HAS to do it. And without your asking, because you shouldn’t have to.

If he’s unable or unwilling to man up, then he’s made his choice. You need to do whats best for you and your daughter.

Oh hun I am so so very sorry. You don’t deserve this at all, and honestly his family deserves to burn in hell for not only being so cruel to you, but to your darling daughter. I think that there can be a future for you and Mr. A. You two have been through so much together. And you love him.

But you have to have him draw the line. You cannot be associated with his family while they treat you like this. You need to tell him that it is breaking you apart. He needs to know that you are considering leaving him over them. I have a very strong suspicion that he does not want to lose you after all you have been through.

I wish I could give you more advice, and I wish there was more than I can do, but I am so sorry because NO ONE deserves to be treated like this. And it literally makes me sick to my stomach that anyone could treat someone so poorly, and be cruel to a young child. Like I said…they’re going to burn in hell.

I am so sorry u have to go through this. one thing that stood out to me about your post is that you are currently spending a few days with them. so it must seem to be at its worst when you are with them directly. is it possible to skip these things in the future. you are committed to mr. A, not his family. the only problem i can foresee you two as a couple is if Mr.A doesnt see this. but everything else you have ever written on here about Mr.A, i dont think he would just drop you like that because of his family. Just hang in there and avoid his family at all costs. in an ideal world, you could join his family and they would welcome and accept you, but if thats not the case, i dont think you need to continually put yourself and Annabelle in that situation. next time he needs to spend time with his family, go out for some mother daughter time just you and Annabelle and feel amazing doing it!

FYI, i have a friend whose husbands mother is horrible is to her ,just horrible. its so bad that when they got pregnant, they didnt tell his mother until after the baby was born! she didnt want undue stress during her pregnancy. sounds crazy, but you gotta do what you gotta do! and that does NOT mean you cant be with Mr.A, just maybe not his family, but from how you talk about them, why would you want to be anywhere near them??

@CorgiTales: Agreed. You took the words right out of my metaphorical mouth.

If his family treats you so badly, he should be sticking up for you and making sure YOU are happy above all else (beside the children, naturally). I know you can’t ask him to choose between his family and you, but would he be willing to make the decision himself?

@SoontobeMrsA: He’s clearly not standing up to them enough though. “You talk shit about her one more time and I leave and you don’t see me and you don’t see my son again, not for ten minutes, until you learn to show the woman I love respect. Case closed.” That’s it. That’s the bottom line. Respect is not a negotiation. When you get married (or plan to) you choose your spouse. #1 above all else. They are your family now.