It was the fourth of July. You know: Firecrackers and banners? Well, I got myself a porno video and started watching it. It lasted about two hours. It was with Latino actors and very cheaply made. Since the actors were Latinos, I was able to measure up and compare with them. The last scene was … Read moreprolonged multiorgasms

So you feel comfortable with your sexuality, you’re certain of who and what, turns you on. You might be happy being described as hetero, homo, bi, or trans sexual, there again you might prefer the often vague, but equally satisfactory, “I’m just me”. However for those of you seeking a more specific name for your … Read morepsycho sexualise

Most men have a deep-down instinct for male friendships. It’s true most men are “homosexual” in their social relationships. Beside, our base instincts tells us to “compare” to other men, especially in looks, athletic figure, cock size, cut or uncut. We all human beings wish to have more freedom even to the point of touching another man’s body, cock, etc. Perhaps even trying to fuck a man or vice-versa. This does not mean that all males are either bisexual or gay, but there is something there, according to Freud, that makes kinky when we think about other men, especially close male friends. So, having an obsession with gay porno, doesn’t necessarily mean that you are gay. Most of us keep this obsession for gay porno and large dicks hidden in out hearts. We have been repressed by society, Judeo-Christian religion, and our own manliness. Most men would love to feel free and touch their closest male friend’s cock, even some would love to suck it, or vice-versa. We males are not 0ne hundred percent straight. That’s for sure! So, don’t feel bad. Anon

Greetings Seb! I’ve read your email several times and finally found time to respond. There are two things related to aromas and their impact on man toman sex that I’d like to share. The first is a bit of a puzzle to me, and I’ve done some research in an attempt to understand the source. After some effort I believe I have found the answer.

Here’s the situation: I have a best friend of nearly eight years, and we met through a mutual friend. We started off having a mutual interest in man-to-man sex. At first his newness was a turn on and attraction to me, along with the fact that he is extraordinarily handsome. But after a while I began to notice something rather unique. When we would greet in private we would hug one another, and I found myself wanting to breath deeply and almost “sniff” him around the forehead and hairline. When I did, I would get an instant erection. As we would engage in sex I noticed that I would get extremely turned on when we were face to face or when I had my face around his hair or hairline. Being eternally curious about things, it made me take notice and I began my research. I’ve never had this response with another guy. I had heard about pheromones but had little insight into the impact of them.

What I discovered in my research was that some people have stronger and more potent pheromones than others. I have deduced that this is the situation with my best friend. Just breathing in his natural man-smell gives me a tremendous hardon. I have to be careful not to let it happen in the wrong setting (we are both bi, and I’m married). I’ve noticed how other people react to my best friend as well. Occasionally when we’re out with other friends and spouses, he will invite one of the ladies to dance.

They seem to get clingy to him and to turn on to him. While my wife is totally unaware of his and my private relationship, she has said how attractive he is and there is “something mysterious” about how attractive he can be. I’ve noticed women dancing with him who suddenly began getting sexual with him, and one lady actually reached down and rubbed his crotch while dancing with him. So, all of that being said, I believe he exudes very strong pheromones. There isn’t a discernable smell about him, other than a clean “just-showered” smell. But I have tested my response, and know that if I want to get rock hard all I have to do is smell around his hairline, in front or back of his head or around his ears, and I am ready to fuck.

The second thing I’ve notice relative to sex and aroma is somewhat akin to the Pavlov dog experiments. My best friend and I use a particular kind of oily lubricant when we’re having sex. After having used it for a while, just the smell of it now will give me an erection. I’ve used it during the winter for dry skin, and when I start applying it after a shower I get an erection from the smell. (Along with wildly stimulating daydreams about him.) I’m not sure what your thoughts were about the topic, and I hope you find this somewhat helpful. If you would like further details, Warmest Regards, A devoted reader! D

I read this article with great interest. I am a man who considers myself to be essentially 100% str8 but I have slept with lots of men and have recently been seeing a man in a full-blown relationship.

When I say I am str8 I mean that I am not physically attracted to men at all. However I am ‘sexually‘ attracted to men. I dumped my last girlfriend (I have usually had two relationships at once – with a man and a woman) because my male lover satisfied me more. I am openly ‘bi-sexual’ but no one understands if I tell them I’m str8 but sometimes prefer gay sex.

For me being adventurous and having relaxed fun with sex is more important than someone’s gender. I will look back here in a short while to see if anyone has identified with this. Thanks for the article.

Hey man i know i can relate in the opposite sense, im commonly referred to as gay cause i guess sometimes i can act that way. But gender doesn’t bother me when it comes to sexual activity. Guys sometimes turn me on but I have never tried with a girl so have no idea what one is capable of in the bedroom…Will

It’s beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind. Someone that wants to undress your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you’ve built up around your mind and let them inside. Anon Class 777 : Finding Your HaPenis

Dear Mr Cox, Two years ago i discovered casual sex. Since then i just can’t get enough. Am i out of control. Am i suffering from some sort of sexual addiction. Eddie, Bolton, Uk

Mr Cox Replies : I don’t really bi into this hole idea of sexual addiction. I think, as good men we are designed for sex, that’s how we were created, it’s the fucking essence of us. Casual sex is god’s greatest gift, god’s greatest medication and meditation. For me it’s an intention to be “fucking excellent”. To be honest, i will never bi average, and i have absolutely no interest in having, or doing, what everyone else has, had or done. I am looking for and creating something that is unique as the journey is more important that the fucking destination. HaPenis Days!

if anyone has the bollox to ask me about my sexuality, I always reply that the only thing they need to know about my sexuality is that I’m fucking excellent. That I am extraordinarily good, at fucking.

In fact I am so good, that I misspend my youth doing it professionally, providing a sexual excellence service for both men and women. Listen m8, we have no culturally approved scripts for life; we pretty much need to write our own. To write your own script requires a lot of effort and a lot of bollox, and is the kind of hard work that brings just rewards, eventually. You might find the right way for you, and three years latter decide you want to live a different way. You write the script, you get to make the choices, and you get to change your fucking mind. Happy Days. Seb Cox

Men don’t want to expose themselves for several reasons. One of which is that this heterosexual fear, like that every man wants to put their mouth on it, if it is exposed. Like this unbelievably appetizing thing, when in reality the penis is the most heinous looking device in the universe. It’s like a bean … Read moreunbelievably appetizing

You are amazing at times, sex has been for ever, and there are rules and rules for centuries that regulate sex…but, it is in the body and mind and tissue of the being….so, have your wank and get the best you can…everytime…porn is a profligacy, like a condom…..besides most porn persons are really ugly and … Read moreporn is a profligacy, like a condom

Your penis is the very core of you. Nurture your penis and you nurture your entire being. Give your penis a blessing, and you bless your spirit. And as you slowly massage your magnificence, you are also sensually opening your mind. CUMM, everyday of your life. As a man your penis is your best asset, … Read moreIn search of ha-penis?

I wonder how men feel about having their cocks touched by a friend? I have a friend and have been considering what he’d think if I was to reach out and very gently touched this clothed penis. Would he consider it a major breach of male etiquette, or would it be something that he’d like … Read morea major breach of male etiquette

“Having a penis can be like having an illusory prize dangled in front of you. It symbolizes a historical birthright to power, respect and pride.” ― Grayson Perry, The Descent of Man Catholics have more extreme sex lives Discuss

I’m only temporarily curious every now and then, about once every couple of months for one night, but as a straight guy i have many sexual fantasies that include men, and sometime i dream about being with many men like about 10 of different races, diff size cocks, all of which i would like to … Read moreStraight Men’s Gay Fantasies

Dear Mr Cox, I’m writing with a question – but first let me just say that you have what I think is a very enlightened and enlightening website. Personally, I find the references to Sacred Sexuality and the emphasis on masculine adult male sexuality very refreshing. There truly IS a HEALTHY side to it, and I’m so glad to see someone out there who knows that. I cut my teeth on Aleister Crowley, by the way, too.

My question, sir – I saw a quote on your website that said something to the effect of ‘All psychological neuroses can be cured by constant and repeated sexual gratification.’ I’m wondering if you could tell me WHO that quote was from? So I might read some of his thoughts further? I’m an ‘ugly’ dude, with a 200 IQ, and yes, I’ve finally settled on being certifiably nuts and retiring from the world. Too many double standards, stigmas, etc. What is going on REALLY is NOT what they TELL you is going on, and so on. Life is a beauty contest, at the expense of some much deeper things. So anyways, I really think that quote is very true. Not ALL neuroses could be thusly cured, but healthier, realistic views on sex would sure HELP a lot. You know, for example – All the beautiful people running around breeding willy-nilly, but how many of them even KNOW what Sacred Sexuality even is? Or the obsession with beauty? No problem there, but when it turns into the hate of the ugly, then there’s a problem.

I could go on and on – this is the story of my life. But anyways, it would be so much appreciated if you might reply and tell me the name of the Psychoanylist who made the statement about sexual gratification as the cure-all? Bliss Out, RB

In college my wife was hired to go to this man’s place twice a week to do general cleaning and cook him dinner. Her third week on the job she started tending to his 8 inch, thicker then my wrist cock. Almost a year after she started working for him is when we met and … Read morethicker then my wrist cock.