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Is it wrong to seek fertility treatments in order to have twins or more babies?

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I don't have fertility problems, but I would like IVF because it would be better for my career and lifestyle if I could give birth to multiples rather than prolong my family planning. Is it immoral to want fertility treatments to become pregnant with more than one baby?

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What's best for us isn't always the most convenient. If having children is contingent on how they will fit into your life you are in for a shock. Your life will be turned up-side down whether you have 1 baby or more. This is a decision only you can make and I say this with abolutely no judgement; If you believe in God at all, trust that He will give you what is best for you. You may be surprised to find out your plan wasn't the best plan!

Yes we live in a time and place where medical technology is available, but IMO it's not the same thing as having surgery to get thin etc. (as another poster compared it.) This is not just YOUR body we're talking about, it's also the health of innocent babies. If you conceive twins they'll probably come early, might spend time in the ICU, maybe have other problems as a result of prematurity. And what if you don't conceive twins? If you get four babies? Greater risk of health issues, plus there goes that career and lifestyle you're so concerned about. Heck have ONE child and you'll have to alter your lifestyle. Children don't fit into the parents' lifestyle after all, it's the parents' job to accomodate the child's. If you or anyone reading this is really set on getting more than one child at a time, consider adopting a set of siblings.

More power to you for doing what you feel is right for you. i dont feel it is immoral persay to want ivf for twins, but i believe that what is natural is what is right. if you are meant to bear twins it will happen. Some bodies are built for babies and some are not, the only way to know is to try naturally first.
I respect your desire to work children into your lifestyle properly rather than saying "hey, i feel like having a baby today" and just jumping into it. Timing a family is a lot of work and you have taken the time to decide when it is right for you. Kudos! As far as having multiples just so you have more time for work, chances are it will be harder and you will actually work less. I have had teachers that have worked up until their due date, but have heard of women being put on bedrest barely 20 weeks with just twins... maybe their bodies werent ready for it, maybe yours will be...i won't resort to science to have a baby but i cant say you cant. im into vitamins and such.

if your husband wants twins that badly, look for adoption.. otherwise there are no sure deals in pregnancy... speaking as someone who used to take fertility treatments but now doesnt need them (had gastric bypass, now had no probs getting preg- was on them back in 1999, now preg w twins no meds) the thing is, there are no sure deals... perhaps it would be nice, but we cant or in my belief, shouldnt try to special order children. also just on a purely medical note, if you have no fertility problems, no dr would prescribe the drugs to you and if you did obtain them, the fact that you have no problems on your own would put you at a high risk for more than twins. from what i understand that woman from africa was on meds she didnt need when she got the sextuplets... that would really ruin any chance at having a career and what would you do if it ended up to be triplets, quads ect? chances are alot higher if you didnt need the meds to begin with... fertility meds dont assure just twins...

I would love to have twins too. I've thought about taking fertility drugs then I would just go through one more pregnancy and one more c-section. I've already had 2 c-sections and they say the more you have the more dangerous it is. So I'm all for having two together. If you are healthy and believe you can meet the physical demands (before and after birth) then go for it!

I say go for it. If your doctor hasn't a problem with it. It is easy for those going through different situations to pass judgement. But I personally think it's wonderful that you want more than one child at once. Double the blessing. Go for it!

personally, anyone who puts their career first should not be having kids yet. there is a fine line between being lucky that you can get pregnant naturally and deciding to try to play god and go for IVF just for multiples...leave the IVF for the infertile couples who really need it.

It's not a matter of morality, really. I think this is a somewhat foolish and naive view of things. IVF is intended to be a last-ditch measure for women who cannot conceive. It is quite expensive, not guaranteed to be successful, and it is potentially risky. Two well-spaced healthy babies are likely to "disrupt" your lifestyle less then twins born prematurely and requiring a lot of medical care, think about that. Again, please consider that IVF is really a measure of desperation, when all else fails. Women who are infertile are willing to take the risks, but why should someone undergo this procedure electively, for greater convenience?? In the long run, it is probably the wrong decision.

Children and convenience do not belong in the same sentence. There's nothing wrong with wanting to advance your career. But I seriously doubt your maturity if you're even considering IFV for the convenience of yiour lifestlye and career. Either grow up, or get a pair of puppies.

Ha ha. Your career and lifestyle will change the second you actually concieve no matter how many. Even with only one your priorities will change drastically. Listen to the women who have already had twins to see if that is really what you want. If you still do talk to your doctor or a specialist and find out the risks. It's your decision and your money. Be careful and don't let people tell you that you are being immoral or a bad person for having an idea and being curious. You asked a question and they should have the courtesy to answer without insults. Good luck with your decision.

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