When the infatuation ends

I will do anything for love! Yes, this is simply how a lot of us feel at the beginning of the romantic journey. Like Siamese twins, the two lovebirds hang onto each other, moving on if what binds them truly is love. Conversely, if the emotional wireworks are held together by infatuation then they may just have many rivers to cross.

Some actually get stuck at this stage and find it almost impossible to move onto the next phase of the relationship because what they feel for each other is not skin deep. This turning point can very turbulent and some actually stick to the erroneous conclusion that women (men) are not to be trusted when the relationship falls apart.

Of course, we all know that it is possible for a man or woman to be abandoned for different reasons. If your partner turns out to be morally bankrupt, then it can be really painful. In this kind of situation, it is better to move on as you pass through a healing process.

The qualities that sustain a loving and healthy relationship aren’t the expensive gifts or romantic treats that you dole out to the one you love from time to time. Interestingly, love is sustained by the small, repeated show of kindness that costs little in money or time. The big question that you are likely to ask at this point is how can you achieve this kind of attitude as well as sustain it?

Experts believe that you can open the window (s) of emotional possibilities with a loving and caring attitude towards your partner. In addition to all these, you need to be thoughtful about the things that would captivate the one you adore as well as make him or her shed tears of affection and joy.

You can also achieve this by doing everything that you have always imagined about your dream partner to the one that you finally find yourself entangled with for life. All you need to do is an ’emotional transfusion’. This is a situation where you do everything on your affectionate list to the other person without holding anything back.

Just give and give as much as you can and somehow you would discover that you are going to derive joy doing this too. By making someone happy you are investing in happiness for yourself too and before you know it, it would be time to reap this emotional seeds in thousands. It is important to do this as often as you can and you can be sure of a great transformation in your relationship.

If the challenge that you were experiencing was from your partner, then you are going to find that your partner will now become more caring, loving and thoughtful towards you. Here, you would find that the energy of your unselfish acts resonates in the loving space of your partner.

Staying together is very pertinent. Instead of having a sweet emotional nest with lots of love everywhere, what you find in many emotional havens is a battleground; a place where arguments and all kinds of other arguments fly around like missiles. Instead of enjoying the space as should be, they become individuals running for emotional cover elsewhere.

If you are in doubt then you can come around to see what happens to some couples in the bedroom where they should be united. For those who are involved, the argument is that sleep-starved couples seek a night apart when the emotional bond is on the edge.

According to a new study, one in six couples reports that they regularly, if not always, sleep in separate beds. And while couples initially sleep apart in an effort to protect their union, the research has revealed that two thirds of lone sleepers claim that the separate sleeping has actually had a negative impact on their relationship, specifically making them feel more distant and harming their sex life.

Separate sleeping is most commonly put down to ‘differing bedtime habits’, and 86 per cent report that they get a better night’s sleep when spared from their partner’s nocturnal faux pas.

Described as ‘single sleepers’, reasons cited for ditching bedfellows include one party wanting to watch television or read, one party snoring – or simply the desire to sleep in one’s own bed.

When asked if sleeping separately had impacted upon their relationship with their partner in any way, two thirds of those sleeping separately admitted that it had had a ‘negative impact’ on their relationship.

Of these, more than half (51 per cent) admitted that it had made them feel ‘distant’ from their partner; whilst 42 per cent said it had ‘negatively impacted on their sex life.’

When asked why they had opted to sleep in a separate bed from their partner, the largest group (43 per cent) admitted that it was down to ‘differing bedtime habits’ such as different bedtimes, or one party preferring to watch TV/ read. Over a third put it down to themselves or their partner ‘snoring’, whilst a fifth simply explained that they preferred to sleep in a separate bed.