You may recall the Christian forum I linked to in my post From cornerstone to stepping stone; the mainstream Christian view of marriage. They are outraged that their private conversation on the internet has been quoted on this site! How dare I use their own words to show how soft on marriage they are! Christian forums is supposed to be a place where Christian women (and perhaps Christian men?) can be soft on marriage without ever being called on it. If Christians can’t be soft on marriage there, what place is safe?

I think it’s shortsighted to judge people who divorce because they have been very unhappy for a long time. The unhappiness is the symptom of what is seriously wrong with the relationship…and if that can’t be fixed (because one spouse is unwilling) then it can feel quite soul-destroying to stay, stay, stay. I believe in commitment and working for the marriage in the face of all kinds of adversity, BUT i think there needs to be more love and grace offered to those IN or even LEAVING unhappy marriages. “I’m unhappy” may sounds trivial on the surface, but that feeling is generally just the result of something more seriously wrong.

For extra irony points, I learned about the thread after the site itself sent me a pingback to the discussion. For that I want to personally thank dreamer1982 for linking to my blog when she created the thread. I hope she appreciates that I went ahead and approved the pingback, and even offered the extra bloggers courtesy of making a separate post linking back to her topic.

120 Responses to The women at Christianforums are outraged!

I got through about 4 pages worth of postings at the CF link and failed to find a single substantive argument against the content of the Dalrock site. They’re just not haaaapppyy, that’s all. And they can’t say why.

And they are upset that no CF men have gone over to Dalrock’s to defend them. To which one poster responded,

“…I will say that one possible reason that none of the men from here stood up and said anything is that what’s being done to the women there isn’t really all that different than what those same women do to the men here….”

Haha, their posts remind me of this video – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vt4Dfa4fOEY#t=01m00s – ‘How English sounds to non-English speakers.’ At first, it sounds like they’re speaking English, and you try to discern what they’re saying. Slowly, it dawns upon you they’re speaking complete gibberish, it just sounds indistinguishable from English.

At first I thought the posters at CF were making arguments. But when I tried to identify their claims, I came up empty. It’s just empty emotional gibberish. When met with an argument, as the user chaz provided, the only result is more gibberish.

“…I will say that one possible reason that none of the men from here stood up and said anything is that what’s being done to the women there isn’t really all that different than what those same women do to the men here….”

Not quite. Here we dislike women who dump out of a non-abusive/non-adulterous marriage because they can’t figure out how to be haaaaappy. or define “abusive” as “doesn’t do what I want him to” without realizing that obligations are supposed to be reciprocal.

In other words – that act like children.

(and for all that women smirk about “boys and their toys,” we usually a) pay for them, and b) deal with the messes, etc. we create.)

1. There are women who make solemn, serious promises before witnesses.
2. Later on, sometimes a few years later, some women break those promises because they are no longer made “happy” by keeping their promises.
3. Men don’t like women who break promises for unserious reasons, and “not happy” is not a serious reason. And now, finally, groups of men are making their anger over promise-breaking known, in sometimes very blunt language.

That’s it. That’s what there is. So if there are wimmenz who want to defend promise-breakers they won’t find this site very pleasant.

… I will say that one possible reason that none of the men from here stood up and said anything is that what’s being done to the women there isn’t really all that different than what those same women do to the men here….”

1) How was it that the discussion on marriage went 44 (maybe longer) pages without a serious challenge to the comments I referenced? They couldn’t have the discussion there, so we had it here.
2) On the whole chivalry nonsense, why should Christian men defend women who are making arguments in defense of frivolous divorce? If anyone deserves these men’s protection, it is the children placed at risk by this type of argument. To the extent that the men there failed in their chivalrous duty to protect the weak, it was to the children, not the women scolding others to keep an open mind regarding frivolous divorce.

I also get a kick out of the fact that the Christianforums.com site keeps sending me pingbacks on a thread where the women are complaining that I linked to their site. Christianforums does this to generate traffic from other blogs. I think I’ve already approved 3 or 4 today from them. They really have no clue.

First mentioning private e-mails, now linking to public discussions. Where will it end?! Next thing, you’ll be commenting on articles published in major newspapers, with not a whit of concern for the author’s and editor’s privacy and feeeeeeeeelings.

I don’t think they even understand what the issue is. Or why there are problems with their view of marriage. For instance,

#64, bottom of the post:

“Dont you think its at least KIND of funny Dreamer?”Happilly married man” ..bashing women who divorce becasue they arent happy?Mocking and ridiculing THEM for even puttign importance on that and further talkign about them like they are criminals because if they arent happy they leave the marriage?But yet when he has ONE line to descirbe HIMSELF in his MARRIAGE thats the word he chooses?Not ‘just married”..or ‘sometimes happily married” or uhappilly marreid” …but HAPPILY MARRIED..I think its hoot..people crack me up with ther absurdity..all the time..I love people..”

They admit they divorce because they are unhappy. They just don’t like to be criticized for it. Perhaps the problem is that they feel all of their choices should be affirmed.

I thought Page 5 was a riot. Here’s one:

#44: “You guys are beyond ridiculous.
What it boils down to is you didn’t defend us because you agree that we are what that NON-Christian misogynist says we are.
And then you want us to believe you’re the “spiritual leaders”. Bah.”

So criticizing does work. To be criticized is almost unbearable for them.

DalrockI also get a kick out of the fact that the Christianforums.com site keeps sending me pingbacks on a thread where the women are complaining that I linked to their site. Christianforums does this to generate traffic from other blogs. I think I’ve already approved 3 or 4 today from them. They really have no clue.

Well, most people do not really understand much about teh intertubes. So I am willing to cut some slack on this last bit. Heck, there are people who think that making their Facebook page private somehow means people can’t see older postings. I’m thinking of college students who “private” in their senior year, only to find out that the Spring Break images from a couple of years back are still quite easy to find – and some potential employers do a fairly good search of the web on potential new hires. Oopsy.

Still, someone should inform the Angry Christian Women about the reality of auto pingbacks & what the site they are posting to actually does for revenue.

Which brings me to that great disclaimer: given the way all the spiders and ‘bots crawl the web for Google, wayback and other such sites, good luck on enforcing that disclaimer.

By the way, I would suggest printing the pages to PDF if you want them for later reference. I can’t imagine their mods will let that thread survive very long. It makes the entire site look just plain ridiculous. They were caught writing really embarrassing things over a very long period of time, and their only response is that they didn’t know anyone was listening. As Prof Hale put it, that’s going to leave a mark.

It is unbearable, and it will not be tolerated there. You cannot even mention divorce being a bad thing, lest you are said to want to enslave women in bloody abusive marriages, you cannot question ….QUESTION mind you, haaaaaapiness as the measure of a marriage, you cannot discuss modesty, lest you be avoiding responsibility for your male proclivity, you cannot mention pornography unless you spew angry venom, mention grace and you are a porn addict, you cannot question the absurd definitions of “abuse” or you are abusive, submission is so controversial its a disallowed topic and no matter where you come down on it, you are an ogre who demands obedience and fealty…

why am I writing this here, you all know all this because its the same tactics of feminism, just adapted to the church.

I saw the derogatory term used to describe women that starts with an “s” and ends with a “t” on that blog more times in my 20 minutes of skimming than I ever have heard or read it in my entire life.

Sophist? Secular humanist? Silly twat?

I love how these delicate little flowers have no problems blowing up their families, screwing over their children, and stealing from their ex-husbands, but if they see strong language it’s time for the fainting couch.

So if there are wimmenz who want to defend promise-breakers they won’t find this site very pleasant.

PROMISEBREAKERS… a new spiritual movement for Christian divorcees….. filling stadiums at a city near you. Reserve your tickets online… Come and get encouraged in your sin… Childcare and hamstercare available onsite….

1. In case people are not seeing this, the point of the “Cornerstone to stepping stone” post was that leaving a marriage because you’re not haaaappy is not at all Christian. Leaving a marriage because that is easier than staying and working through the unhaaaaappiness or letting your unhaaaaappiness pass is not at all Christian. Leaving a marriage because you don’t love each other or no longer love each other or your love is of a different, less satisfying character than it was, is not at all Christian.

In fact, “I’m not haaappy” is not a biblically sanctioned reason for divorce. “I’m no longer in love” or “I love you but I’m not in love with you” are not biblically sanctioned reaons for divorce. Period. Full stop. End of discussion. One would expect professing Christians to have deep knowledge and understanding of this.

Seriously: These tenets are (or at least should be) beyond any debate for an orthodox Christian. How can there be any serious discussion or disagreement about them?

But also, I was personally surprised to see such secular ideas expressed and even overtly advocated on a Christian message board. More evidence to me of how feminism has thoroughly infected western Christendom.

2. It’s said that “I’m not haaappy” is just a symptom of a larger problem. But most of the time it is not what a wife thinks it is. Many times it’s hypergamy. She’s seeing what she believes are better men — nicer looking men, richer men, more interesting men. Or he’s let himself go and is not as physically attractive as he was. Or she tingles at them and thinks “these other men are more attractive. That means my husband doesn’t make me happy!” Or something is broken in her — maybe she can’t pair bond or never pair bonded or chose not to. Maybe she married her husband for the wrong reasons. Or he’s too beta, formed from years of trying to keep her pleased.

That said, none of these things — NOT ONE — are a biblically sanctioned ground for divorce.

Seriously: Why are Christians even entertaining such concepts? That’s the point of the Cornerstone thread.

3. The women at CF in the linked privacy alert thread were chastising the men for not defending them. Oy.

4. If you’re going to write something on a public forum in a public blog, especially something that might engender controversy, expect to be challenged on it, expect disagreement, and expect to be quoted. It’s no different than being out on a public forum and saying something to a broadcast journalist; or to a newspaper reporter.

I read the entire thread. Compress the entire thread (minus the signatures with huge graphics and other cutesy/childish elements) and there’s not much to read. And when you actually look at what they’re saying, it boils down to “you’re a big meanie.” No real substantial disagreement, just immature whining. Some of them take it farther and decide to play armchair shrink, talking about someone’s “neuroses” and “mental illness.” Pretty silly stuff.

That thread is like the gift that keeps on giving — a virtual endless font of stupidity which serves to confirm most of the themes of this blog over the past few years, and especially the past several months. And the most entertaining, quite deliciously entertaining, aspect of it is that this is completely lost on them — oh the sweet irony!

Happily married. Virgin til marriage. Never commited rape or sexual harassment. Attentive involved father. Church every Sunday. Tithe. Just the kind of man they praise over at CT

Soi…why do I sympathize with the MRA? Because “good Christian girls” treated me like DIRT back in my single days, and the MRAs are the only ones who addressed the question… “Why?” The manosphere told the truth — when nobody else would — and helped me make sense of my heart-breaking, soul-shredding treatment I received at the hands of “Christian” women during my long and agonizing wife-quest.

BTW the manosphere and the ideas thereof, can be a pretty good litmus test for women, if you’re still single. If she says, “Gee, you’re right, a lot of women are like that”, continue. If she goes into raging denial, immediately dump her.

Guys don’t turn MRA because they hate women; they do it because they want to be associated with people who actually care about what they’ve been through and want to encourage them to have a genuine hope for the future. They do it because they have no faith the the general trend in our society.

I would add: Guys don’t turn MRA because they hate women – they turn MRA because they loved women, and their love was repaid with hatred. This hatred could be expressed in decades of baseless and rude rejection — being passed over in favor of bad boys — losing kids, home, and even freedom in an ujustified divorce… being cheated on…. many things could be the trigger.

“Because “good Christian girls” treated me like DIRT back in my single days, and the MRAs are the only ones who addressed the question… “Why?””

And this, especially after we were expressly told
1. Christian girls were different from secular girls
2. Christian girls don’t sleep around and are virgins
3. Christian girls want to date and marry Christian men
4. Christian women are better wives and mothers than non-Christian women because they are specifically trained for marriage and motherhood
5. there will be a wide selection of Christian women at church just aching and dying to meet, date and marry nice Christian men like you

I stuck it out long enough to read the first six pages. Absolutely cringeworthy. Post after post of the most sniveling, self-justifying bullshit—hamsters on steriods, the lot of them.

In the end they can’t confront the basic issue: why they are so soft on the core tenants of Christian sexual morality. Instead they machine-gun the messenger or upbraid manginas for not white knighting hard enough for them. Those women are irrefutable evidence of the rot at the core of Christian congregations.

The service done here in chronicling their dumbassery is indispensable.

Be very careful how you guys tread over there. I realized something when I got into an argument about female clergy (I am strongly against them) with proponents of women’s ordination. I could reason with the men, but with none of the women. I was accused of being an abuser and a misogynist, and one woman ( a ‘Reverend’) had to excuse herself because my remarks (mostly Scripture and interpretation thereof) were ‘triggering flashbacks’ of previous abuse. At that point, everything I posted was filtered through the lens of ‘what I did to poor Marie’.

It is a rare woman that can be convinced in the same way a man is convinced. Usually, they have to be wooed, which is entirely different, and it should be done by the men in their lives. I have my hands full with my own woman. I can’t be bothered with trying to lecture other men’s women.

“I’m puzzled listening to my female friends tell me they don’t understand men. This is like a rocket scientist telling you she can’t figure out how a flush toilet works. … There are lots of good men out there and if you don’t seem to run across any of them then you’re probably doing something wrong.”

At the risk of being labelled a hater, too many christian girls were –

1. Focussed on getting a career, because of course, marriages fail you know.
2. Sexually active, but presumably there is forgiveness available for that on a weekly basis.
3. Very demanding, with expectations the man would be a charismatic leader, a productive business man with a rippling body, but very sensitive, a good listener and good with children.
4. Completely useless in the kitchen and deeply in debt for consumer items, and
5. Active liars whose behaviour was at odds with their espoused beliefs.

Had i not had any belief, i would have notched the bed post with secular women. Ironically, that probably would have scored extra points amongst the vagina carriers at church.

After those experiences, finding a wife that actually behaves like one was completely unexpected.

““All I want is a warm bed, a kind word, and unlimited power.” Kind of says it all, doesn’t it?”

That’s incredible Suz, that women who think they are Christians are incapable of recognizing just how absurdly un-Christian some of the things they say are. Sometimes I wonder though, if a lot of these women are just there to try to manipulate discussion towards the “Team Woman” position, and that they may n some cases be consciously subversive. Still, it’s simply extraordinary. It’s what happens when women don’t have authorities that can put them in their place – this woman has taken the “ye shall be as gods” message to heart.

Anonymous – “7 Mistakes Women Make with Men,” by John Hawkins, PJ Lifestyle on PJ Media

Thank you for linking that article here. The comment thread was also worth reading. One female poster, Dee, had this to say of an article seeking to advise woman on how to avoid relationship mistake swith men:

“Never got past the first paragraph. Just another female bashing article from PJ Media.”

I’m guessing she’d fit right in over there at CF, seeing as how she believes that suggesting that women might make mistakes and might be able to learn something about men from a man is a form of female bashing. I guess she must have been to angry at such a level of misogyny that she neglected to excoriate men for not white-knighting on behalf of her deeply offended sensibilities.

Men: We agree with what the bible says about marriage if that’s what you mean.

Women:…… you guys are mean.

I haven’t read all of it (but I intend to, it’s a hoot and a half!), so maybe they’re onto a new argument now. I personally love the poster with the white tiger avatar who can’t spell who has diagnosed Dalrock as a psychotic, narcissistic woman hater with mother issues all because he identifies himself as happily married. It’s also quite amusing that they think of Dalrock as a coward because he doesn’t reveal his true identity (of course all the women posting are using screen names). Dalrock publicly posts opinions that go against everything our feminist society stands for, how is that cowardly?

“Privacy Alert” – it’s a hysterical abuse of language. If it’s an invasion of privacy to read and quote their posts, is it stalking to read their threads? Words have meanings, but that doesn’t stop these insane women. Which is why men are going to have to put their foot down if there’s going to be any hope for a sane and decent society in the future.

“Hate to put it so bluntly..but why cant ya’ll beleive this is what you are encountering?And you cant really “argue” a man or a woman out of beign this..its a menatl illness..like sociopahty or narcissim..in fact you might find sociopaths narcissist AMONGST them..and of course there are differnt severities of this affliction but still..”

No one can argue with creatures who use these tactics they’ve unconsciously imbibed from the cultural marxists.

Those women at CF are most likely registered voters and have hostages(children)
Damn Dalrock you are having way to much fun with this computer stuff and the blogging. Did you ever imagine what you would find when you started 2 years ago?

I will never be embarrassed by Christ, but those ladies on the ‘christian’ forums embarrass me greatly. From my brief lurking on that site, it seems they exhibit as many Christ-like attributes as an old sock. It’s heartbreaking to see. The fox is truly in the hen house.

The rot of feminism has spread like a cancer thru the church. The tumor is so engrained and widespread it’s difficult to discern the healthy tissue from the bad. We have no hope of removing this sickness on our own, it requires the ‘Great Physician.’ The most we can do is point this out to other men as a warning and rely on Christ to fix this. Thank you Dalrock for once again shining the light on the rot.

@Deti 14:29
“And this, especially after we were expressly told
1. Christian girls were different from secular girls
2. Christian girls don’t sleep around and are virgins
3. Christian girls want to date and marry Christian men
4. Christian women are better wives and mothers than non-Christian women because they are specifically trained for marriage and motherhood
5. there will be a wide selection of Christian women at church just aching and dying to meet, date and marry nice Christian men like you

Lies. All of them.”

BINGO. EXACTLY!!! And they wonder why men are leaving churchianity in droves.
Christian women = secular women with a thin coat of white paint and a superior attitude. Maybe this wasn’t always true but it certainly is today. Anybody that tells you otherwise is flat out lying to you. And when somebody like Dalrock calls them on it, they will scream bloody murder and call on their Christian ‘brothers’ to defend them. Too bad they’ve crapped on their Christian brothers for years.

Oy, I win second place for vilification , maybe first, Id have to count. Darock, I ran interference for you unintentionally, because, well, Im under your pooowwwweeeeerrrr.

“The spirits are about to speak”

Look, I have mentioned that forum here a few times and now you can see why. But lets be clear, the problem is not that forum, the forum is fine, most of the folks who volunteer there are fine, enough are however hamstrung by the gynocentrism and the kafka trapping and all the rest of the forensically dubious things that are said to not see that its happening. And why? We know why. Because this is nothing extreme or extraordinary. This is not an outlier, so there is nothing especially bad or wrong there, they needn’t take anything personally because they actually represent the mainstream of Christian gender discourse and biblical interpretations on relationships and marriage. It IS the group here that are extreme, meaning the views are outside the norm.

Like so many have said, if there is something that needs refuting, anyone can post here. Its no secret hiding place.

If someone wants to argue their position on divorce they can. I doubt it will happen because the responses won’t be moderated, and hence stopped. When it is attempted to express a conservative view there it is mis-characterized as some really ugly thing. Then when attempting to clear that up, others jump in having read the accusation of the ugly thing. Before you know it 10 women are indignant because you have been PRO porn or something ridiculous you never said. Finally one gets frustrated and they get shut down.

Anyway, Im glad some get a glimpse of mainstream Christian discourse on relationship, because it truly is not a better bet to recommend to a son, first and foremost find a “good Christian girl”. She may be soft on divorce AND have the scripture to back it up

Not to be a blog whore but I started posting my own after getting kicked from there for the language I used in my anti-divorce stand. For some reason I was thinking about vanity and narcissism, but I can’t imagine why………

1. Ultrahypergamous “daughters of the King”: Their expectations for men are stratospheric. Not a man alive could meet their requirements. He has to meet absolutely every single item on the 463 bullet point checklist or he is not “the One God has prepared for me.” He has to be wealthy, fantastically good looking, and have a pastor’s knowledge of Scripture. Turned up their noses at Christian men, but would give it up for the hot guys: the bad boys, the football team quarterback or the rock band drummer. She’ll have sex, but only with the very top men (preferably not Christian men, so as to preserve her virginal reputation).

2. Homely girls/weird girls: These women can’t seem to fit in anywhere but at church. Female omegas, true unfortunates. They can’t dress, they can’t carry on a conversation, they can’t hold their own in groups.

3. “Reformed sluts”: (Scare quotes required because there are “reformed sluts” and then there are true reformed sluts.) These women have pasts and partner counts that would make your toes curl. If it can be done sexually, she’s done it. She is divorced or never married, between ages 30 and 45, above average in physical attractiveness, well versed in Christianese. In no uncertain terms, she’s there to look for potential husbands. Dresses provocatively, calculated to draw male attention. Has a “hard” look about her from years of hard partying.

Extremely evasive, then defensive, when asked about her past or her life. When pressed about her past, she explains it as “youthful indiscretions” or “mistakes” but she “is not like that anymore” and is “turning over a new leaf” to find the “man God has for me”. Deploys out of context scripture passages to justify her past behavior. She has memorized and skillfully recites “Judge not lest ye be judged” and “remove the log from your eye before attempting to remove the speck from my eye”.

Bahahaha, this post just made my day. Absolutely gold in entertainment value. Many thanks Big D. for relaying to us this scary estrogen frenzy.

I do feel compassion for some of the male commenters over there. They are trying to use logic on those screeching harpies, are attempting to calmly explain things to the “dearies”. And of course it’s not working particularly well.

Instead these men’s perceived unwillingness to bravely ride out against those fiendish MRAs and their Dalrock Anti-Christ is bitterly noted, and they themselves have become targets of fury, vitriol and suspicion. Heh, I’d say the CF forum itself might be in for quite a storm.

@CF men:

This thread of yours in all clarity exposes the essentially unchristian, cryptofeminist nature of many of your women. Wake up, brothers, take the ‘Red Pill’ and join with us! You have feminist scorpions in your midst, playing the victim, who would weep snake’s tears to get you to fight us…and then when you are no longer useful…would stab you in the back.

This is really hilarious how childish these people are. Especially the women.
1. Let me clear up something about the Internet. You are posting on a public internet forum. That means everything you write is available for EVERYONE to use in however they see fit. That includes quoting it up on another forum for discussion. Your “I give no permission” garbage is meaningless. If you don’t want your thoughts out in public don’t put them in public.
2. I’M NOT HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAPY! is not a valid reason for divorce. God hates divorce. But God especially hates divorce for this reason. Divorce for any and every reason is the work of Satan.
3. Even more childish is this: Children cry about “things not being fair” and “you’re a big meanie” or even cry at all when people challenge them. Given the above point #2, you deserve to be challenged. In fact, you deserve to be revealed for the unmarriageable and immature little children you are. As it says in the Bible, all that is in the darkness will be revealed in the light. And you are crying like little children because this has done so.
4. What you have chosen to say in the referenced thread and others like it is indefensible, therefore your “CF Men” haven’t come over here to defend you. Most people know a fool’s errand when they see one.
5. As for myself, you all just handed me a gigantically huge and effective red pill I can read when I think about marriage and be reminded of how completely foolish marriage is, especially with the average “Christian woman” who believes her happiness takes precedence over God’s design for marriage and the intent of covenant. I took Dalrock’s suggestion and PDF printed this thread!

No. We can have loved women and never experienced the travesties you’ve listed. Some of us are pro-active about not being burned or are crusaders that see the general problem and want to address it before it gets out of control because, well, its _unchristian_.

@Deti

On female Omega’s…sometimes they clean up in amazing ways. There was a young home schooled girl that was about 13 when I met her. Complete loss from the outside. One of my younger friends decided to take a chance on her when she turned 18. She dropped about fifty pounds, shaved her legs for the first time in her life, and started wearing a smidgeon of make up. Total transformation. She’s still awkward but a very good catch and is pretty much a gold standard for “good” and a perfect match for the friend in question. For the same reason we hold women to account for ignoring beta’s we have to be careful to develop those women who have zero training in social poise.

Any form of male assertion has now been defined as “abuse”. I noticed this on my own blog recently. Anything a woman or a mangina might dislike is now abusive, apparently.

From a Catholic perspective, we speak of “crosses” to bear in life. For some, it is work problems, for others problems with children, others have health problems, others have difficult or disappointing marriages. I suspect these women just won’t accept that their life is not perfect, that their marriage is a bit blah. They have no endurance. No guts. They are cowards, in a word.

From an Australian perspective, this is where the “pursuit of happiness” leads. To people with no stoicism.

To second Brendan’s point. Just think about what those stats mean. Americans have 5% of the world’s Catholics and 80% of the world’s annulments. What does that say about Catholic men and women in America? Especially, I suspect, the women. No guts.

It never ceases to amaze me when certain women who are Christo-feminist Crypto-Marxists insist that we love them as “sisters in Christ” and anyone who pulls back the curtain get’s labeled a non-Christian misogynistic hater. Kafka-trapping as high art.

From an Australian perspective, this is where the “pursuit of happiness” leads. To people with no stoicism.

I think it comes from a lack of understanding as to what happiness is. People normally think of it as kind of synonymous with “fun” and “good feelings”, or some kind of pleasure that one attains when one has reached some goal or other; but it is possible to be content in many circumstances.

Perhaps the Founding Fathers were thinking more of the latter, but then, the word “pursuit” suggests an endless striving for something that is not so much an end in and of itself but a by-product of doing something you enjoy, something useful, spiritual practice, etc..

David Collard says:
March 14, 2012 at 6:17 pm
“From an Australian perspective, this is where the “pursuit of happiness” leads. To people with no stoicism.”

From a USA prespective, the pursuit of happiness is up there with life and liberty. Of course even our secular declaration states nothing on getting it. How they square it with their god is unbelievable.

But the sort of christianity I find over there largely makes me sick. I thought I would go over there and have some fun but I really can’t stomach it. People got their heads so far up their own asses that I know it’s a lost cause. They don’t even know how to just be regular people.

I hate that stuff. People so immersed in their indoctrinations that they can’t even have a normal discussion. I can lend very few of them credibility, for that reason, and cannot count myself among them.

I gave up on Christian girls when a friend (who was raised in a church and whose father was the most upright man I had ever known) confided in me that during the whole time she was married she was banging a junky stripper (a mutual friend). She even laughingly showed me the text message from the guy implying that he would commit suicide if she didn’t leave her husband.

This, after offering me a blow job in the work toilets. Justice be damned, she ended up marrying a millionaire beta even after I told the dude about her history.

Oh yeh, she even showed me the pics of an orgy (fivesome) she had with a female porn star (I couldn’t make this shit up even if I tried).

If Christian women are so exceptional, why do they appear so unchristian and behave so unchristian-like when put under a bit of scrutiny?

The men here are using logic and are not anti-woman. But we are trying to point out difficulties. Do these Christian women not realize that at times Christians have been persecuted? At those times women NEED a strong man and a man NEEDS a woman he can rely on that will be supportive of him, listen to him and not be defiant.

A time like this may soon be upon us. It is high time women figure out that disrespecting men and exploiting men is NOT in their long term interest. But this would involve realization of implications and consequences of events and actions, future thinking. My observation is that women are not good at this, which may be why God designed the man to be the head of the woman. Therefore the man is dominant and the woman is submissive. It is just a hierarchy and a specialization of roles and does not mean men and women are not equal in worth.

There is a pervasive “feeling” among both men and women that something is not right in the world. There is a dread of what the future might hold. This inflames the battle of the sexes. If the SHTF, then the best thing for a woman, is to have a good, strong, unbendable, “not NICE” man in her life. Men are waking up and preparing for this and it is advisable that the smart women learn to support men. Hey, this has historically been necessary for survival. Maybe this time it will be different, but I doubt it.

Simple 3rd grade math, will demonstrate that the current financial promises and economic situation cannot be sustained. Wake Up! (Whether this happens in 6 months or 2 years of 5 years, matters little.) Women should invest in a good man and this does not mean controlling him, nagging him or divorcing him because she is not HAAAAPY!

Since when has happiness been a entitlement flowing from Christianity?

Wow, just wow. I just finished reading the faux outrage thread from CF and it just floored me on many levels. In summary, the women acting so indignant are outraged that the opinions they expressed were criticized in largely reasoned principled fashion, albeit in a slightly mocking tenor.

Ladies, get over it and yourselves.

You expressed a series of opinions and you were criticized by people who disagree with them. Then in a fit of hypocrisy you cried foul because people pointed out the obvious flaws in your arguments. You used every liberal trope to silence debate and dissent instead of furthering the debate with facts and logic. You then screamed “Violation of privacy’, “you hate women”, “You’re just stone age throwbacks like the KKK”, and other ignorant, ill-informed hysterical rants. That’s just not dishonest, it is anti-intellectual, it is anti-free speech. The critic is under no compunction to conform to the subjects idea of ‘fairness’. If you don’t believe in that you don’t believe in free speech or intellectual honesty.

If ideas mean to be anything more they should be able to survive the rigamorale of debate and analysis, else they are NOT ideas worthy of being defended. That few if any women were willing or able to defend their positions points to their intellectual, if not moral bankruptcy.

Re the forgiveness thing. What i was summarising was the typical christian whose actions during the week usually preceded much repenting of a sunday. One in particular did this repeatedly until she got pregnant out of wedlock to an unknown alpha who promptly did as expected.

It was a baptist church, and there was much support and empathy offered for her instant sainthood, oops, single parent status.

Whilst this is an extreme example, it was common for nice church girls to have lots of sexual sin to repent of. Whilst this caused them much grief, it was so addictive many of them continued to fall for the puas that used game on them.

The delta and gamma men of the church were of course constantly shamed into marrying the used goods. Needless to say, damaged ability to pair bond, ongoing unaddressed hypergamy and overlooked refusal to submit meant lots of divorce. Most of my male friends who married are now divorced, and none the wiser for it.

The nature of women is not being held to account. Hence, women get lots of forgiveness, empathy and understanding, because the poor dears were not haaaaaaaaapy. And the men got roasted for not trying hard enough.

“The nature of women is not being held to account.”
There’s the problem right there. The church genuinely believes that women either can’t or shouldn’t be held to account. The church refuses to see that women who ARE held to account, become rather smart, rather quickly.

To second Brendan’s point. Just think about what those stats mean. Americans have 5% of the world’s Catholics and 80% of the world’s annulments. What does that say about Catholic men and women in America? Especially, I suspect, the women. No guts.

I think it has two aspects to it.

One is that this has been the practice now for a few decades that even more conservative hierarchs coming in are slow to change it — it’s become a part of accepted practice here now.

Another is that more divorced Catholics want to get remarried in the Church, here, than in other countries (e.g., France, Spain, Italy, Germany, Austria, etc.) — in many other very feminist Western yet Catholic countries, Catholics who divorce will simply walk away from the Church or get remarried outside the Church. Americans are more outwardly religious, and are more likely to care about getting an annulment than are more relaxed and less religious Catholics in other feminist countries that are even more Catholic (nominally) than the US. So the demand for annulments is much higher than elsewhere. In part that’s because people know they can get them (usually easy enough to show a defect in intention on one or the other’s part — that’s the most used ground for declaring an annulment) if they are willing to go through the process. But in part it’s also because they are more likely to *want* one.

@Brendan, @David Collard
I think it’s a bit more pragmatic – think “follow the money”. Quite a bit of money coming in from the annulments they get. Not talking about the donation for the procedure/process itself, but about the follow-on donations the newly free to marry bunch give down the road. Which is why the American Catholic Church goes along for the ride.

As a Catholic, it pained me to say that, but have to see the flawed messengers apart from the message.

I am horrified and disgusted. My palm is slammed so hard against my face that I think it’s going to meld into my head. I honestly can’t blame men for their thoughts when you have supposedly “Christian women” like this parading around. The hypocrisy is just…. overwhelming and infuriating.

Also, they need to learn how the internet works. Posts on a public forum are free game. You don’t want people making comments on what you say? Don’t freaking post it then.

“The unhappiness is the symptom of what is seriously wrong with the relationship…and if that can’t be fixed (because one spouse is unwilling) then it can feel quite soul-destroying to stay, stay, stay.”
Jeepers, lady, have a heart. He has to stay loyal to you too, and from what I understand about Father Time and the female face/libido, that relationship doesn’t end well.
Or is reciprocity a foreign word to your mind?

I am disappointed you linked their site. I read most of the comments made on that site and I believe I may have suffered a loss of IQ from the experience. I did not find a single salient point of any value in the torrid vomit of feelings, emotions and nonsense dribble.

As best as one could discern from the emotionally and intellectually retarded spew it boiled down to a chastising of men for not toeing the party line and rushing to the defence of a broken cause.

I have known christian women, I have lived with christian women, I have loved christian women. These women however are not christian in any meaningful sense of the word.

“Americans are more outwardly religious, and are more likely to care about getting an annulment than are more relaxed and less religious Catholics in other feminist countries that are even more Catholic (nominally) than the US. So the demand for annulments is much higher than elsewhere.”

This is a surreal point – Americans care more about the status symbol of getting remarried in the Church than Europeans, and so they work to undermine the sanctity of churchly marriage itself in order to whitewash their initial debasement of the institution via frivolous divorce in the first place.

I have been suspended at CF for
1) Using the phrase “pussy pass” in inverted commas when describing their misandry, and
2) Flaming, by pointing out that a woman who had called me a troll and was supporting divorce had not declared an interest in that she was a divorce lawyer.

I have suggested they remove me from their members list permanently.

The women and some of the men on that site need lessons in basic theology. They need to learn to check out the facts and not assume that what they hear as anecdote is fact. And they need to learn to put a watertight argument together.

Interestingly, Sheila Wray Gregoire (whom Dalrock thinks is soft on women) had a vlog put on the site for discussion and that vlog was dismissed as being misogynist by some of the women there.

For a serious Christian discussion on marriage or any of the problems associated with it, far better to go to The Marriage Bed where nobody gets an easy ride if they try for a logical non-sequitur or a pussy pass.

Yea, I was banned permanently because of calling outside attention to them. The final moderation comment was from the most angry feminist on their staff, kafka trapping me, shaming, etc.

Here is the thing that makes the site significant, while I wish it was a fringe, it is maybe the biggest most heavily trafficked Christian site (English) online. It has to be in the top few if not the biggest. I am comfortable saying it is a good random snapshot of the English speaking church. That ought to concern anyone who claims Christ.

There is not a wits difference between their beliefs and the most socially liberal atheists beliefs. I have to think that the mega church growth in the US is directly correlated to this feel good stuff and gynocentrism. Women love clubs, and love being administrators of clubs. Church is perfect. They even get authority.

Of course they found Sheila misogynistic. First, not a single one of them ever even heard of Sheila, (their belief set is as deep as their own experience, nothing more) and all it took was a hint that Sheila could be less than full accommodating on divorce for them to cry:

” I’m not saying that it has no right to be on the forums. It just has nothing whatsoever to do with marriage. It does not compute, to use your own metaphor. It is in the wrong place.

” But if this is, in the considered opoinion of the mods, relevant to marriage, that perhaps explains why the men on Dalrock mock weomen on CF so much.”

And the original post on the Married Forum by illudium phosdex was

“Happy First Contact Day!
On this day, April 5th, in the year 2063, Dr. Zefram Cochrane will pilot the first warp ship, the Phoenix. This will attract the attention of a passing Vulcan ship and forever change the history of the world.

I just had to pipe in here. I believe I may have just been “ousted” from http://www.christianforums.com
all because I listed several if not numerous of Gods Scriptures about remarriage and adultery, etc. Some guy (or 2) seemed to take a disliking to the Scriptures and actually attacked me calling me “legalistic” ,etc,etc,!!! Wow, well I guess if reading Gods Word and taking it for exactly what it means is “legalistic”, then GOD BLESS LEGALISM IN SCRIPTURE!!! heehee, it seemed like all of a sudden everything started running really slow and wouldn’t respond, so I shut down everything, and turned back on, and no matter even when I try to get back onto the website from the emails in my inbox, it won’t let me go to the site at all!! What the ##@??? What happened? So thats what they do to people if you put down scriptures they don’t like because they are not “adhering” to those particular scriptures?? Wow, like wow. I don’t even know what more to say about an online “christian” blog site like that. They’re definitely NOT CHRISTIANS that are moderating and doing the decision making.

I’m coming to this discussion late but I have a question. If it is o.k. to frivorce because you’re husband doesn’t make you haaaaaaapppyyyyy, does that mean if your wife doesn’t make your penis haaaaappppppyyyyyy, it’s o.k. to use porn? If both are wrong and both are sins, why is one o.k. but the other isn’t? At least with porn the marriage is still intact for the children.

“Master, is it permissible to divorce for any reason?”
“Moses allowed you to divorce because of the hardness of your hearts, but from the beginning God never intended it to be so.”

The hardness of man’s heart has not changed in 2,000 years. Sadly, in that time it appears to be woman’s heart that has turned to granite.

Whatever gave you the idea that because they call themselves “Christians” they are God’s children?

Jesus never called his children “Christians” so if they cannot get that first thing right…THE NAME! Does it surprise you they don’t do anything right?

Christian forums.com

Have you searched for yourselves for the truth and found it?

1Peter 4:16 “suffer as a Christian” is not the correct translation of the word Peter used.

Peter intentionally uses the word “Chrestian” which the world gave the disciples. This name was given them in Antioch in the vicinity of Greece where the disciples fled persecution in the early days.

This name was given as an insult to the meaning of the name “Christ” The anointed one.

Now if you point this out to “Christians” which they are not You will be persecuted by the mods with dog collars around their necks proving exactly what the word “Chrestian” means “Cretan”

There is great fault found in the site “Christian forums.com” it is built in a way that directly opposes every sound teaching of Christ and his disciples.

IT IS BUILT TO DIVIDE IT PROMOTES ARGUING IT MAKES IT ILLEGAL TO PREACH THE GOSPEL TO THE UNSAVED WORLD. THE MODERATORS ACTUALLY BOAST THAT IS A WEBSITE DESIGNED NOT TO SPREAD THE GOSPEL BUT TO MAKE MONEY AND THAT THEY WILL PERSECUTE THE LORDS ANOINTED WITHOUT REMORSE.

It’s just like the apostle said, “They gather around them many (moderators) to hear what their itching ears want to hear.”

For someone who longs for the truth, for a better place, for deliverance from evil.

You will not find it in “Christian forums.com”

This review is posted on October 25 2016 by one who knows what it means to fear the Lord.

Seek his face “Christian” is not the name God calls you. You must belong to God You must be born again

Now recall Jesus words, “If the head of the household is Beelzebub how much more it’s members.”