My boyfriend have been dating 3 years

Everybody says if one of you moves away, you’re destined to get a Dear John letter someday, or one will cheat on the other or you’ll just get ghosted until you come back home for Christmas and find out he got married to your high school enemy.

But actually, I realized it’s totally possible to make a long distance relationship work. We were together for six months before he transferred schools and moved an hour away.

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I will share two powerful exercises that will build self-esteem and move your love life forward to commitment. Maybe you blurted out something about the future only to find your heart sinking as your Beloved pulls away and actually leaves you. Maybe you are in a long term ON-AGAIN, OFF-AGAIN relationship where one or the other of you periodically withdraws or sees other people.

Perhaps you've met the One only to see him or her come on like crazy, and then pull back for no apparent reason. Have you ever been involved and in love with someone for months, or even years, only to find that they simply cannot or will not take that next step into living together or marriage? Usually, if things drag on in an uncommitted state much beyond a few years, the relationship will tend to go downhill and eventually die.

It doesn’t matter who you are or how hard you try — if you do long distance, you’re never going to make it.In Sealing the Deal, I devote three entire chapters to not only building self-esteem but also setting the stage for commitment; how to have the talk so he will listen; and what to do if he/she won't commit.Throughout the book I share my own personal stories and those of others who built up their self-worth from NOTHING and then were able to form committed, lasting love relationships.After we’d been dating for about five months, I told him that I loved him one night while drunk.It wasn’t ideal, and when we talked about it the next day, I made it clear that I didn’t want to pressure him but that was how I felt and I wanted him to know. At one point he asked me what love means to me and I said, “It means I have a lot of good feelings for you, I care about you, and I want to date you for the foreseeable future,” and he said he was on board with those things.If you already have a relatively healthy relationship with your family members (in other words, you feel safe talking to them and aren’t worried about them becoming verbally or physically abusive), it could help to find out what their specific objections are to your partner/relationship. Do they not like the way your partner talks to you?