Psychology younger man dating older women

“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.

“The man shouldn’t use his being younger as an excuse or justification for mistakes or irresponsible behaviour,” says Shah, adding, “But in most instances that I have seen, men enjoy the company of older women as they find them more relaxed, confident and focused.

Certainly a 50-year-old man dating a 22-year-old woman is better than a 58-year-old-man marrying an 8-year-old girl, but how much better exactly?

According to Hugo Schwyzer, this age dynamic is sexist and hurts men and women alike.

“Men tend to want to be with women who can let them be the way they are,” she says. Pandya adds that dating older women has a few advantages.

Young and wise Stock broker Naman Shah (29), for instance, met Manali Ghorpade (38) when he was only 23. “They are not insecure because they are more mature, and that adds to the comfort level,” she says. She was financially stable and sensitive to my needs.

Now that I’m single in my 30’s, I really only want to date guys very close to my age.

Less than a handful of years younger would be okay, and maybe one or two years older, but that’s about it.

Sure, the difference of 24 years between them made a few jaws drop, but the ‘older woman-younger man romance’ per se isn’t a new phenomenon. But every now and then, especially when news appears of such alliances ending in separation or divorce — actor Demi Moore (52) and ex-husband-actor Ashton Kutcher’s (37) age difference was apparently responsible for them parting ways — one wonders whether these relationships work in the long run.

Relationship expert Kinjal Pandya says the longevity of such bonds depends on the reason behind why the partners are together in the first place.

“With time, it becomes hard for the man in the relationship to get along with the woman,” she says.

As a result, the woman loses interest because “she hits midlife sooner”.

Schwyzer, on the other hand, believes that men are not hardwired to be attracted to younger women.