Just the other day I found an ad for a male doula or 'dudela'. His services are geared towards assisting the father with his duties of providing social networking and text messaging updates. Although his 'dudela' ad was created in jest, there is an underlying cry for more support from expectant fathers worldwide. As a childbirth educator, I would love to know what I can do to better support the support people out there. Please feel free to email me or leave a comment with your thoughts. Moms to be, here is your challenge: try to find out what your partners need. Quiz them, question them, do what you can to find out now what will help and seek out that information or resource. With so much attention on the new mom and baby, the needs of the father can sometimes go unnoticed and unmet. Let's work together to support the support people!

I was just reading this post and thought about my own experiences with labour and how my husband reacted in different situations. I think maybe even just creating a "Man-list" of things they should know or have in their back pocket during the labour. For instance, the doctor's name! Or their wife's pain relief preferences. Numbers to call when it happens. A list of things to grab on the way out the door. I guess it depends on the guy, but mine definately does well with lists!

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Lisa is a fitness junkie, personal chef for two little foodies, and childbirth educator in Calgary, Alberta.