No word from awesome date guy. Am i that bad at reading signals? Oh well...

Have you contacted him and he hasn't answered? Or were you waiting for him to make first contact? I don't think people should be allowed to end a date with a kiss and a "do you want to hang out again?" if they don't mean it.

No word from awesome date guy. Am i that bad at reading signals? Oh well...

Have you contacted him and he hasn't answered? Or were you waiting for him to make first contact? I don't think people should be allowed to end a date with a kiss and a "do you want to hang out again?" if they don't mean it.

I did. Called last night and left a voicemail; emailed a quick message to him today. And I totally agree, mt. I can usually tell when guys aren't into me. Didn't think I was that dense.

That sucks SD! Maybe he's just been super busy. I keep my fingers crossed that he'll answer with a realistic reason why he hasn't replied and all will be well.

Why on earth would you send a message that says "hi how are you" to someone you have 5% match with and 62% enemy??!? And who lives on the other side of the world? I'm sure California is great, but...I mean... seriously man. Get real.

Another one instead sent a nice message, and we have 97% match. But! He has a picture holding a dead fish, in his things he couldn't do without has bacon and mac&cheese, and mentions BBQ as a religion. He only wants to go out as friends as he's visiting Munich from Alaska, but I fear that the non-veganness would be way too much...

_________________I dunno, I guess I just get enthused over eating big ol' squishy balls. - Interrobang?!

Can I say, that I am completely perplexed by the zero to 60 and then 60 to zero relationships? It happened to a friend of mine, and its another guy in his 40s who at first was so excited to spend every minute with her, went on and on about how amazing she was so she was always the one slowing things down, and then boom out of the blue it ended. And no real explanation, just that he couldn't do this right now.

Its just so weird that someone would go to all the trouble of telegraphing a depth of commitment that they really don't yet feel. Or if they feel it, that they can end it so fast. I just don't even get it.

_________________My oven is bigger on the inside, and it produces lots of wibbly wobbly, cake wakey... stuff. - The PoopieB.

Can I say, that I am completely perplexed by the zero to 60 and then 60 to zero relationships? It happened to a friend of mine, and its another guy in his 40s who at first was so excited to spend every minute with her, went on and on about how amazing she was so she was always the one slowing things down, and then boom out of the blue it ended. And no real explanation, just that he couldn't do this right now.

Its just so weird that someone would go to all the trouble of telegraphing a depth of commitment that they really don't yet feel. Or if they feel it, that they can end it so fast. I just don't even get it.

It is such a head fork. Tattoo guy said he got a lot of the same, he noticed that the switch seemed to happen when he stopped holding them back and let himself like them. I noticed it was the same. Is it just a personality type that wants what it can't have?

Mentioned in the crush thread about someone who has a crush on me but i'm not there yet, shall see. Am I just too wussy to even get one anymore? Don't know! Staying @ her house but no expectations (and a couch bed), its just because she lives 2 hrs away and im stopping there on the way home from outta town...

_________________Evolved a vascular system, so I went from bryophyte to lycophyte.

lycophyte--I'm with you. I'm there. I'm having a hard time throwing myself into this dating thing. I want it, I really do, so what's the problem? I keep thinking if I lived in Asheville I would be surrounded by fairy dust and fantastic queers and life would be full of kittens and pie. That's not good thinking, though.

ITA about guys holding dead animals (fish, etc). Such a turnoff. Why would that impress any potential date?

Coming at it from the other side, I've noticed lots of women looking for cowboy-types. Like a lot of "I want a real man who hunts/fishes/drunk drives a pick-up truck"

this is why you filter by 'vegan only, fork you'

The problem with that is that in certain areas this is a guaranteed way to remain single.

_________________A whole lot of access and privilege goes into being sanctimonious pricks J-DubDessert is currently a big bowl of sanctimonious, passive aggressive vegan enduced boak. FezzaYou people are way less funny than Pandacookie. Sucks to be you.-interrobang?!

lycophyte--I'm with you. I'm there. I'm having a hard time throwing myself into this dating thing. I want it, I really do, so what's the problem? I keep thinking if I lived in Asheville I would be surrounded by fairy dust and fantastic queers and life would be full of kittens and pie. That's not good thinking, though.

Oh it is...but you have to get out more then me I suspect. And I think I'd have to see outside of the internet too. That's more work and more nervousness! But if you are off Monday's if there is another awesome Sunday night dance some time soon I'll let you know. It was awesomeness, but sadly I think they only happen a few times a year.

_________________Evolved a vascular system, so I went from bryophyte to lycophyte.

Unless it happens in December, I probably can't go :( or November 11th. But yes, getting out of the house. It's hard when you're "old." And don't have much time. And don't like social gatherings. And they don't happen frequently. Ah well. Sending positivity to you! And keep me in da loop for real life dance parties! :D

Went for an impromptu coffee this morning, laughed until my face hurt. He's not looking for a relationship, so I'd say it'll be no more than friendship, but we swore up a storm in the local fancy pants art building and I think everyone could hear the roars and cackles of us. Think it's the most I've ever laughed with a complete stranger, and exactly what I needed this week.

Super nice date with kinky guy last night after he returned from vacation. Had a long conversation about hows and whats and now we'll be exploring. And snuggles this morning, which is a great way to start the day even when it's horribly early.

Yay fezza! Laughing fun dates are such a mood lift! Glad you had a good time!

_________________I dunno, I guess I just get enthused over eating big ol' squishy balls. - Interrobang?!

Well, we're definitely hanging out again, and definitely only as friends. He says I'm great craic, called me his 'wee pal' and says I remind him of his sister. Yeah, never going to be any more than friendship when you're reminded of siblings! Do hope we hang out again though, reckon there's a good chance of someone laughing til they snort next time!

Going round to Thai boxers for vegan soup and whitterings later, still loving our little friendship and all our bickering!