Divorce Diaries

Another Movie For The Post-Divorce Set

I have found a new movie to add to the list of great stuff to watch as a single woman. An old high school friend recently recommended this one when I polled my Facebook friend list for movie suggestions. I checked Netflix and it wasn't available streaming, but coincidentally, Wal-Mart had it for $7 that night when I visited, so I dropped it in my cart. I am so glad I did!

The movie is "P.S. I Love You" with Gerard Butler (YUM) and Hillary Swank. If you haven't read the book, the premise is that a woman loses her husband to a brain tumor, and after his death he has a series of letters delivered to her, most with a task she has to complete like cleaning out his closet or singing karaoke. He even arranges a trip for her and her girlfriends to take abroad. It's wonderful, it's romantic, and it was beautiful the way it dealt with loss of all kinds.

A key character in the movie is the woman's mother (played by the phenomenal Kathy Bates), who became a single mother abruptly when the daughter was fourteen after her husband walked out and never came back. A pivotal moment in the movie comes when the mother and daughter reconnect, discussing their losses and how it shaped them. Mom had a key bit of advice, and I replayed the DVD four times just so I could quote it right:

"Alone or not, you gotta walk ahead. The thing to remember is, if we're all alone, then we're all together in that, too."

It also made me believe in true love, romance, and knowing infallibly when you meet Mr. Right. I'm trying to find the right mix of hopeful and realistic when I look at the future. I want to believe the right guy will be coming along eventually, but I'm smart enough to make sure I'm the right Ellie first. I also realize that Mr. Right can come in a lot of guises or maybe not at all. We'll just have to see how it plays out. Till then, I'll keep on walking ahead.

About The Author

Ellie DeLano

Ellie DeLano is a parenting and relationship blogger, a freelance writer, a full-time working single mom, and frequently exhausted. She's slogging her way through the world of single parenting, mid-life dating and reinventing herself with a pop-tart in one hand and a glass of wine in the other.

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