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Laura’s Link-Up

Hello Friends and Fellow Bloggers,

Although my blog is still considerably small, it’s growing everyday. If you are a reader, writer, blogger or just someone who wants to connect with others…I’m hoping you will be interested in this community.

Laura’s Link-Up was not created to gain more followers. Blog stats and numbers may be what some are looking for, but for me…I just enjoy linking-up with fellow writers, bloggers and readers who want to share their inspiration with others.

How it works: Laura’s Link-Up will be posted two Mondays of each month. Within the post, there will be a Question or Topic Discussion to kick off the post. Once you see the blog post, it’s totally in your hands. You can ignore, delete it, or link-up. To link up, all you need to do is share your blog link with one word describing your blog. For example: Inspirational, Photography, Poetry, Fashion/Beauty, Book Reviews, etc.) Once you have posted your link, you are free to comment on the Post Question/Discussion. Sharing comments/replying back and connecting with other blogs will bring you the most success from the link-ups.

Why is building a community important?

It gives encouragement. Sometimes the right words are said just at the right time to make all the difference in a mindset.

It gives constructive feedback from those who may see things from a different perspective.

It gives options for various social sites that you may benefit from.

It gives opportunities and possibilities to network, explore and learn and grow from those who are more experienced.

It gives the satisfaction of helping fellow bloggers by Paying-It-Forward.

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46 thoughts on “Laura’s Link-Up”

I’m Gebby/Grace and my blog is about doing what you love and loving what you do. I’m from the South so I have been taught never to be insulting, disrespectful, or rude. Therefore, if someone asks me if their two-story birthday cake hat looks nice, I automatically say something like, “It looks nice on you.” If someone asks me if they look fat in a certain outfit that is not flattering to her, I would usually say something like, “Aren’t those skinny jeans supposed to be tight?” So, yes, I think there are times when lying is appropriate.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Col. 4:6

On the other hand, I think misleading another person, or conning another person, or manipulating another person is what God had in mind when He said: “Thou shalt not lie.” For me, it is all wrapped up, most of the time, in whether the falsehood is petty or serious, and the possible results that could occur because of one’s falsehoods.

It’s easy for any of us to SAY it’s never good to lie. I completely agree with that. But upon examination of our lives, are there moments we tell those little white lies in order to protect someone from a harsh reality, or to keep peace in our families, or to calm down a good friend? I know if I am brutally honest with myself, I have those moments when I tell those “little ones” for the greater good. How about you? The second question I have would be if withholding information that you know someone should know is classified as lying?

Pete, these are some great thoughts and a very interesting question, as well. First, I must say…I have been lied to over the years. I have also lied in my past. With that said, I have made it a practice to not lie. Why? Because in every situation where I lied and was lied to, each time was hurtful and no good has ever come from it. The lies I told ended up hurting those I lied to. The lies told to me caused big trust issues. I was told the reason I was lied to was to protect me, but each time, it hurt. Also, people may say they lie to protect the other person, when most of the time, it’s to protect themselves. The biggest lie of all. As you can see, I don’t like to be lied to and for a valid reason. To me, the truth is always the best. If I’m going to be hurt, I’d rather here the truth. Your question brings up a great topic for discussion: You probably already know my answer…LOL But I believe that withholding information back from someone and making them believe a lie is the same as lying. If I purposely want someone to believe something that’s not true and I am the cause for them to not knowing the truth…to me it’s the same as a lie. Who am I to know what is best for the other person? For me, I want to be told the truth, but obviously…others felt it better to lie or withhold the some of the facts to make me believe something different. Lying is more of a cop-out for those doing it. Just an excuse to get by with something, deceive to gain control, or keep from getting caught. Yep, truth is always better. And yet, it is hard sometimes being completely honest. Especially those times when someone will ask, “How are you doing?” and the response is “Fine.” when you know it’s not fine. Maybe I need to start saying Dave Ramsey’s answer…”Better than I deserve.” LOL Thanks so much for your input. I really appreciate it. Hope you come back.

Hi everyone! I have to chime in on this first link up of Laura’s. I feel a lie is not ok at all. I am going to read other’s takes on this but my number one thing never lie to me. I can’t stand even lies by omission is just the same as a lie to me. But, don’t we lie to our kids at an early age with Santa and the Tooth Fairy. Boy, that is a tuff one! In general, a lie is not ok to me!

I’m always a day late and more than a dollar short…story of my life. Better late than never I suppose.

There are moments I wish I had never spoken the truth. To this day my honest words haunt me. I have found the beauty of silence in some cases. I suppose it’s best to live in such a manner that I don’t find myself in a truth vs. lie situation.

My blog is thejourneyofamillionmiles.com where I’ve been writing about my travels. Currently, I’m at home in Missouri learning a whole new set of lessons. In a nutshell, it’s really about God. I once was lost, but now I’m found!http://www.thejourneyofamillionmiles.com/?p=662

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I too am a few days late and a few dollars short! More than that, though, Laura and Anonymous and I could have some interesting exchanges, mostly through my family, though. That’s based on the nomadic ways of my oldest daughter who has recently resided in both Missouri and Virginia,among other places, and my “mixed marriage” as a JAP/California girl who was born and raised in a Jewish family in So Cal but married a Mormon boy! The subjects I originally intended to blog about were • Beliefs and faith • Benefits of aging • Friendships and new starts • Handling emotions • Jobs and careers • Marriage • Personality traits and evaluation • Politics but I have recently extended its purpose to act as an extended draft of my memoirs. Those posts are on the Places of My Life page and, if you want to know another reason why I think we’d have some lively exchanges, check out my posts about Israel and Brentwood on that page.

Now, Do I think there is ever a good or right time to lie? No! As an Old Fart, I don’t have time, or probably the brain capacity, to keep track of lies. My mom says “Lies walk the streets” which means they’ll usually catch up with you anyway, sooner or later. My Old Fartness also limits my ability to sugarcoat the truth, to be politically correct. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it, too, which means I believe in brutal honesty!

Thanks so much for your brutal honesty. I’m a firm believer in hitting me with the truth and still being able to respect the person after the hurt has gone. Once a lie has been told, it’s hard to go back. I’ve never heard your mom’s saying before…”lies walk the streets.” My mom always said, “you reap what you so,” which usually meant “Laura, be careful what you say and do, because I will eventually find out.” LOL and she always did. 🙂 Ha Ha

Lying is not good even though we all commit little white lies out of kindness. It is better to tell the truth in a gentle way and help the person deal with the answer. I know I have been lied to when the truth even though painful would have been more helpful. I am a big believer in staying out of people’s lives and not imposing my views, beliefs or reactions on others.
Before I answer or comment I try to ask myself: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind/helpful?
My blog is Lori Greer in Portland http://www.readlorigreer.com.
My goal is to share my journey as a widow in an effort to help others facing loss.
Thank you for this opportunity!

Thank so much Lori! You have a great view on this. I too, believe the truth told in love is always better. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your link. I hope you come back to visit again. I will be sharing links in an upcoming posts!😃

Lying is never good and good time or not, it should never be done. Sure the truth hurts, but rather that than live a lie like a fool. That said I’d do the harmless lie if I have to like telling my kids the chocolate is finished when I’m keeping them for myself. 😀

Here’s me at grubbsncritters.com where you can find recipes, stories on parenting, kids, travel and life as a guest in a foreign land. Nice to meet you, Laura!

I blog about being organized by sharing quick tips that will save you time. Because clutter steals time. Think about how much time you have spent looking for you keys, shoe, glasses….
Thanks for hosting the link up.

Thanks so much for contributing to the link. I totally agree with your statement ‘tell the truth and take your medicine.’ Sometimes, more often than not, the truth hurts. I think I would rather be hurt by the truth rather than a lie. Thank you for leaving your link. I hope to share links in a post in the near future, In the meantime, I try to be clutter free….uh, somewhat…sometimes…:) LOL

I completely understand what you’re saying. But, there are times when I was told a lie in order to keep from hurting me but the end result was…I found out the truth and the lie was more hurtful than the truth. Sometimes, the one lying may not know what is really best for the other person and sometimes, the reason the lie was told may be to protect themselves more than the other person. It’s definitely a topic to not take lightly. I really appreciate your comments and respect your opinion. Thanks so much for participating and posting your link. I’m not a follower and look forward to reading your future posts. 🙂

Sure! 🙂
Yessss..There can be situations like this when you wish you were told the truth.
But then again you, me or anyone should think from other person’s perspective too, then maybe we might understand their opinion and not get that hurt.

There’s another thing too, you don’t get to decide how much upset other person should get from your wrong deeds.

N I believe in both the statements, so it’s kinda dilemma which side shall I support! 😛

While it may never be “right” to lie, there are times where telling the unfiltered truth may be just as harmful, if not more so. I think it is critical to take time to think about the impact and intent of your words before they are spoken.

I do not believe it’s ever right to lie because of what the bible says about lying. I think with concerted effort, you can find a “way of escape” to avoid lying (1 Corinthians 10:13).

In everyday situations, there are many ways to avoid lying, while also avoiding hurting someone’s feelings. For example: You are thinking a friend’s shirt is ugly as they ask, “Don’t you just love my new shirt?!”

You can focus on one aspect of it that you do like: “That is such a pretty color green in the pattern!” or “Those little buttons on the sleeves are so cute!” or “I love shirts made of that type of material. They are so comfortable, aren’t they?” or “It really fits you well!” or “That blue brings out your eyes and makes their color pop!”

You can distract: “I’ve never had one like that. Where did you get it?” or “Hey! My friend used to have one almost just like that! It was one of her favorites!”

You can be blunt: “It’s not my kind of thing, but if you like it, that’s awesome! Everyone is different, and that’s what makes this world so interesting! I do like the color, though.”

Thank you for the wisdom in your answer. I appreciate your thoughtfulness in your explanation and you explained yourself well through the examples. If you don’t mind, I’m saving my remaining comments on this for a future post. It will sum it all up perfectly. And I’ve been following your blog for a while and truly enjoy all your inspiration. That’s no lie! 🙂

Thanks for hosting!
Hmmm . . . .I for sure thing honesty is the way to go. Out right lying or fabricating stories and details isn’t right. However. . .. I have told white lies to avoid hurting someones feelings.

Thank you for your honesty in your answer. Like the saying goes…Honesty is the best policy. But, I think it’s much more than a policy. I think it’s a value. And it’s very tempting to tell the little white lies.

I’m following your blog and in all HONESTY… I love it but anything chocolate is my downfall. 🙂

I think in some situations lying might be the lesser of two evils. I would never want to intentionally hurt someone with the “truth”. It’s not something I make a habit of, but to spare someone’s feelings, I have skirted the truth. Is that considered lying? And my blog is just about my thoughts on processing life as I get older. It really is therapeutic for me!

Thanks so so much for your comments. I really appreciate your thoughts. I think lying is different for everyone. But, when it’s all said and done…I think it’s still being dishonest no matter what the reasons may be. Because we are human, I think it’s something that comes easy and sometimes we don’t think much about the “little white lies.” But who’s to say what’s BIG and little when it comes to lies? 🙂 Thanks for sharing your link. I’m now a follower and looking forward to your posts.

Hey, that’s a great idea! And a great question. Nope I don’t think there’s ever a good time for a lie. Having said that, there are moments in which a lie might do less damage as brutal honesty. Like when someone asked if a person who passed away suffered in the last moments and you know that person did but would you say it? I think I wouldn’t be honest in such a moment and would just lie to make the other person feel slightly better. I guess moments like these are the only moments a lie is better than the truth.

Thanks so much for your comments. This is such an interesting subject. I’m finding the answers very intriguing. So, there’s never a good time to lie except for the times when a lie is better than the truth? I think many are saying the same as you. Only lie if it keeps from hurting the person.

Thanks for sharing my link on your blog. Is there a reblog on this page? I don’t see one on my end but when I go to my settings, it shows it’s used as an option.

I am working on my story to email you. It may take a while but I will, eventually send it. My husband says he tells the story better, so I guess I have to collaborate with him. YIKES! 🙂

One can find themselves in a situation where they must lie, not for any gain of their own, but for the safety or well being of another individual maybe. I guess lying could be ethically justified when it’s the morally right option to choose.

Lets say two people are involved in a abuse relationship of some sort, one of the two is angry and looks pretty aggressive and asks you if you know where their partner is. You might know where the person is, but you would lie/pretend not to know their whereabouts for the greater good of them staying safe. It’s all very vague, but I guess you see where I’m coming from here.

Hi Shandra. Wow! Let’s see…If you mean, when was I baptized; I was baptized during a Vacation Bible School. I remember it well. The song “I Am Resolved” was being sung…I walked up front during the last verse into the chorus, which goes…”I will hasten to Him. Hasten so glad and free. Jesus, greatest, highest. I will come to thee.” I had to talk to my mom and ask if it was ok. My dad worked overtime that night and I didn’t want to wait but I also wanted my dad there. My mom said he would be proud and wouldn’t want me to wait. That was 40 years ago. Since that moment, I have met the Lord many times…on my knees in tears of grief and in tears of happiness. I try to always keep my life God centered. Thanks for the great question. I appreciate it. How about you? When did you meet the Lord? And do you have any thoughts on the Link Question?