Sunday, June 2, 2013

In January my partner and I were able to get legally
married here in the great state of Washington after being together for over 12
years. It was a wonderful day filled with friends, love and lots of incredible
food. For the most part it was like any other intimate and personal in-home
wedding but with two grooms. There were vows that were spoken and rings that
were exchanged as part of the marriage ceremony itself but there was more at
work than just the formal words and deeds. The entire day and all the smaller
events within it were part of our larger wedding ceremony. The event was
magical for sure but it has had me reflecting on the role and importance of
“ceremony” ever since.

As a culture we have lots of formal and informal
ceremonies which we are a part of all the time. Most of the ceremonies that we
are part of don’t have a formal ceremonial structure but we do them as part of
the rituals which have been passed down to us for generations often without
even thinking of it as a ceremony. Birthday parties for example are ceremonies
celebrating and commemorating the birth of an individual but they are done so
informally that no one thinks of them as a ceremony but they really are.
Funerals are another ceremony that we engage in often without even knowing that
we are doing something much larger than mourning the dead in a public way.
Graduations, memorials, church services, sporting events and many other
informal events are actually following a ceremonial structure often times
without us even being aware of it.

Ceremonies serve an energetic purpose and when they are
done in a conscious way with directed intention and attention, they can
accomplish a great deal. The unfortunate thing with most ceremonies that we
have now is that time has taken its toll on the structure of the event and
we’ve lost the ceremonial container and its purpose leaving us with only small
ritualized activities that we’ve held
onto often times without even knowing why. Our ancestors understood the value
and purpose of ceremony and ritual and passed them along to us as best they
could which is why we still do many of them today. Some cultures have preserved
the various ceremonies better than others, some have modified them to suit
their needs and most have been lost along the way in the river of time.

CEREMONIAL
STRUCTURE

At its base, a ceremony is created with the intent to
hold, grow and direct energy toward a specific purpose. When done in a
conscious, formalized fashion a ceremony has four main components to it which
are what helps to give the ceremony its power. First there is the energetic
structure, or “container”, to hold the energy raised during the ceremony, the
intention for the ceremony, the enactment of the rituals within the container
and finally the releasing of the energies. Ceremonies can occur without these
components but the full energetic potential of the ceremony is lost without
them. For the purposes of this discussion, I will refer to those non-container
ceremonies as “events”.

One important thing to know about ceremony is that it
serves as a focal point for energy. As such when containers are used more
energy can be raised and directed than when the exact same activities are done
without them. With ceremony not only do you have the attention and awareness of
the physical participants but you also gain the energy of the structure for the
ceremony. That structure includes those powers imbued into the ceremony itself
by those who created the original ceremony and all of those who have used it
through time. A marriage ceremony is the best example I can think of to
illustrate that. The more of us that experience that ceremony, the stronger the
impact of the ceremony will be because now more of us know what it means from
experience and how it feels and what it does. In a small way, each of us
becomes an energetic part of the wedding ceremonial container for everyone who
will experience the ceremony after us because we help to shape and define it.
This is one of the main reasons why allowing gay people to marry is a great
thing because it will help to strengthen the institution of marriage itself
rather than destroy it as some falsely claim.

INTENTION

The first component for any truly purposeful ceremony is
the intention. Everything that we see in our world is the result of a thought.
This is why spiritual philosophers say that a thought is the most powerful force in the Universe. Everything
that has ever been created started with a thought. At some point random thoughts
and ideas swirled around in someone’s head enough that the person chose to
manifest those activities in the physical world. Often times the intention for
doing that is simply to create a physical object that can be used in some way
for a particular purpose. The intention, or purpose, for doing that is very
subtle and informal and often undirected. There was the idea, some physical
activities and an eventual end product. The success or failure of the end
result is almost always based upon the level of intent that went into its
creation.

When we choose to formalize the process and create with
a purpose, that purpose is what will drive the process. An intention is a
statement which contains the purpose for doing an activity and becomes what
guides and directs the energy of the activity. When an intention is set it gives meaning to our actions and directs
our energy consciously. Without an intention, we simply have randomly
occurring activities and events which may or may not serve a purpose and that
often unnecessarily waste our energy.

CONTAINER

An energetic container can be thought of as serving the
same function as a physical container used to hold something. The difference of
course between them is how they are made and what they are made of. An
energetic container is nothing more than a thought-form (remember, energy
follows awareness) that is built out of intention.

If you think about a physical container (let’s use a
bowl for this example) we tend to think of its function as simply being to hold
what we pour into it. It obviously contains
what is inside but it also protects what
is inside from what is outside by keeping the inside separate. The size of the
bowl also defines the maximum
quantity for what may be put in the bowl. So in essence the bowl contains,
protects and defines. An energetic container does the exact same things.

An energetic container is woven by intentions. It is
created by first determining what its purpose is. For example, our wedding container
was created with the purpose of holding the energy of our marriage ceremony so
that we could use it nourish, enrich, empower and deepen our relationship. It was
defined by us choosing the location for our ceremony (our home), who we invited
(which was now limited by the size of our space), what activities we planned, as
well as the date and time. The container allowed for us to have a calm,
beautiful and smooth flowing event where everyone was nourished physically,
energetically, emotionally and spiritually.

Formal ceremonial containers are typically created with
physical anchors which are aligned to the physical compass directions. The
anchors could be rocks (which are great holders of energy), crystals or
specially created objects specific to that direction. Each of the directions
holds an energetic for us as a species and brings us specific gifts and
teachings from that direction. There are a vast number of techniques for
building energetic containers and they vary depending upon the lineage the
techniques come from. For example the technique I use comes from the Mayan teachings
and is called a “20-count” because it has 20 points in its structure. It is a
thought-form that has been passed down for generations and by using it I am
using a structure which has been tried and tested by time and refined by the
wisdom of those who passed it on all the way down the line to me. Unfortunately
because of the complexity involved in creating a 20-count container and the
energetic teachings which underpin it, it is far beyond what I can cover here
so I won’t attempt to explain its usage. However I do want to give you a structure
so that you can begin to try this for yourself so I offer the following guidance
on creating a simple container.

5-COUNT
CONTAINER

This structure is aligned with the four cardinal
directions of North, South, East and West and the 5th direction which
is Center. The Center is the focal point for the container. As you create this
energetic structure, you assign and align the energies of each direction based
upon the following which comes from Native American teachings:

Direction

CENTER

EAST

SOUTH

WEST

NORTH

Element

The
Void

Wind

Fire

Water

Earth

Energetic
qualities

Wanka-tanka,
Great Spirit, Sacred Power, Universe, the Light, the Divine

New
beginnings, possibility, awakening, sunrise, the mind

Transformation,
change, rebirth, the Moon, the dark of night, the spirit

Cleansing,
smoothing, purifying, sunset, the emotions

Manifestation,
physicality, structure, completion, the Sun, the light of day, the body

ENERGETIC
ANCHORS

For each of the directions, I have listed the element
and energetics associated with that direction. This information comes from the
Lakota tradition. If you search the web you will no doubt find different
teachings from different lineages that align the elements with different
directions and often includes allies or animals associated with that direction.
They are all correct because they are based upon the teachings of the lineage
which created the structure. The above is just one example from many possible
teachings. The energetics I’ve listed are simply a starting point. As you build
your container you may choose to add additional energies there which speak to
you intuitively. Experiment with it and see what feels best for you.

Think about building your container as if you were doing
it with the help of your friends. The friend is the “element”. Today you might
describe your friend Chuck by some of his qualities (energetics) “strength,
compassion, protection” but you know that he is also a great many other things.
Another day you might describe Chuck by some of his other qualities such as “masculinity,
courage, father”. All of these qualities, and many more, describe Chuck but you
want to select the specific qualities that speak to you as you build the
container. Since you can’t name them all, you are selecting those out as a
reference point to define the energetic that Chuck is representing. When you
choose the qualities to reference Chuck, you also get all of Chuck’s qualities
with him because you are referencing Chuck and not the qualities. As you build
your matrix (the structure that defines the container) reference the qualities
of the elements, rather than just the name of the element, which speak to you as
you create each of the directional points on the matrix. Trust your intuition
and know that you can’t do it wrong.

TECHNIQUE

Now that you have a feel for the pieces of the tool,
let’s look at how you might construct a container for yourself. While most
containers are created to hold the energy of formal ceremonies, you might
expand your definition of ceremony to encompass things like parties,
meditation, work, a meal with your family, a workout or anything where you know
there is a beginning, the activity itself and an end. So for this example let’s
say that you want to have an important discussion with a family member about a
specific topic. You know that it could become very emotional and heated but you
know it needs to happen and you want it to be productive and ultimately
accomplish a useful purpose. Let’s say that you are going to have the
discussion in your living room and so you want to prepare the space before you
begin.

Go into the living room and determine which
wall is aligned with which compass direction. Move to the center of the room
and think about what you are going to do and why. Take a moment to center and
ground yourself. Get your Basics in place so that you can manage the energy as you set this up. You can’t
manage outside energies if you can’t manage your own internal energy.

Move to the East wall so that you can stand
in the space facing where you want to place the energy for that direction. Don’t
stand in the spot where you want to place it because you don’t want to place
the energy IN you, you want it in the space. There are four steps which are essential
for creating each point on the
matrix. When these are not done the ceremonial container will often feel empty,
unsafe or chaotic because the energies are only called and never directed. The
steps are as follows

Call
the energy – this is the verbalizing of what energy you are going to put in
what space and its definition or qualities.

Connect
to the field – think about the qualities of the energy (not the direction
itself) that you are calling in to hold the space for that direction and what
they mean to you. For example what all does “sunrise” bring to mind for you and
what qualities (energetics) do you associate with it?

Open
a portal – think about the container that you are creating as being a big ball
that encompasses the entire room. To get something into that ball you need to
open a hole (or portal) so that you can pull the energy in. Think of this as a
hole that opens for you to pull the energy in and then it closes afterwards to
seal the space again. You could see it as opening and closing a window or the
opening and closing of a camera shutter.

Place
the energy – as you pull the energy in through the portal, imagine gathering it
all up and then setting it in the space for that direction. If you are using
physical objects to hold the energetic this would be where you put it in the
bowl, rock, crystal or other object. If you aren’t using ceremonial objects,
imagine it as if you were setting a bundle of wood, pile of clothes or
something similar in that space. Your goal here is to set the energetic down
and have it stay in that space.

An example of how that might look is : “In
the East, I call upon Wind with the energy of newness and awakening; a breath
of fresh air”. Then connect to the field (think about what newness and
awakening feels like), open a portal and pull the energy in (use an inhale to
help with that), close the portal (hold the breath here) and direct your
attention to the space on the floor right next to the wall and then feel like
you place the energy in that space (use an exhale to send the energy into its
point on your matrix). Spend a few moments there to allow the energy to settle
into the place where you’ve put it. The more you do this, the more you’ll
actually feel the energies move and settle, but until then just keep your focus
on the physical place and image it settling as if you are filling a bowl with
water. As you pour the water into the bowl, it will slosh around a bit and then
come to a resting place and smooth out. Energy moves the same way.

Move to the South wall and repeat the
process

Move to the West wall and repeat the process

Move to the North wall and repeat the
process

Move near the center of the room again so
that you are off to one side of the center and not directly in the center where
you will place the energy and repeat the process again

Now feel like you connect the center space
to each of the directions and each of the directions to each of the other
directions. That will ultimately look something like this image:

Speak your intention for creating this
container into the field of the container. An example of that might be “I
create this container to hold safe space for our discussion about our
relationship. I intend for all energies raised here to be directed towards the healing
of our relationship in a way that is in alignment with all of our greatest
good.”

You then have the space ready for the ceremony (or as in
this example, the discussion). Holding your awareness on the structure that you
have created is what will hold the container in place. It is a good idea to do
this as close to immediately before the ceremony as you can but at a minimum do
it on the same day.

RELEASING
THE ENERGY

After you have completed the ceremony itself then it is
time to release the energy from within the container and the container itself so
that the flow of energy is returned to the space. To give you an idea of what
is happening with the container that you are creating within time and space,
try to imagine that you are standing in a very shallow stream of water that
barely covers your feet and you want to take a bath. You of course could sit in
the shallow water and splash water around to get yourself wet, soap up and then
splash more water around to hopefully rinse all the soap off. That would get
you clean but there is a lot of wasted energy and effort to accomplish the
task.

A more effective way to take a bath however would be to
learn from the beavers and make a damn to create a pool of water. You could put
a pile of rocks across the stream to slow the water from leaving the area where
you are and then let the water flow in and make a small pool of water. You
could easily dunk yourself in that water, soap up and rinse yourself
completely. When you are done, you would want to remove the block you created
in the stream and let the water continue on downstream. (Please understand that
I’m trying to give you a visual here and not trying to say that moving rocks is
less effort than splashing water.)

Let’s now use that visual of the bath and relate it to
your ceremony. Using the rocks to block the water and create a pool is the same
as building your ceremonial container. The intention for doing it was “to
create a pool to allow me to wash my body and rinse away the dirt and soap”.
Just like in the example when you are done and no longer need the pool, in the
ceremony you want to free the energies to go do their work and let the space
return to normal.

When you are done with the ceremony, move back to the
center and begin releasing the energies in the reverse order that you called them in. All you need to do here is
say something as simple as “Energies of the center, I thank you for your work
and I release you”. As you say that put your awareness in the center and feel
like you lift up the bowl of energy that you created and toss it up and out of
the circle as if you were setting it free. When you feel that releasing has
completed then move to North, West, South and end at East and repeat that
process at each location. The last thing to do is to dissolve the container that
you created for those energies. To do that simply imagine what that connected
group of points would look like [think about the picture above] in the space
and then simply use that visual to shrink it down, down, down, down to the size
of a dot that ultimately dissolves away.

LEARN
THROUGH EXPERIENCE

Like anything else that you do, the more you do this and
thus the more practiced at this you become, the stronger and more powerful your
containers will become. The key thing to remember is that it is all about
intention and awareness. Really hold your focus on the visual of what you are
trying to accomplish so that you give the attention and awareness for the
energy to follow because as I’ve said many times in this blog “energy follows
awareness” and this is a prime example of that.As you do the steps to pull in the energies, in addition to moving to
the space and focusing on the actions for calling, connecting, opening and
placing, notice how it feels inside when you do it at each step. Each time you
do this, you’ll begin to feel the energies move more and more easily because
you will teach your body how it feels through experience so don’t expect to
feel it right away. Until that happens, trust that it is happening and keep
your focus strong. Your intention for doing it will make it happen.

REAL-LIFE
USES

There are an infinite number of way you can incorporate energetic
containers into your life. It doesn’t have to be just for large formal or
ceremonial events. I’m sure once you start using this process for smaller
things you’ll begin to see more and more uses for it as you begin to see the
results of using it versus not using it. For example, I use it to create
ceremonial space inside my work studio to help me hold and manage the energies
which arise during my sessions so that we feel supported and protected as we
work together. I put a 20-count matrix up each day in my studio and center it
around the massage table where I work. My intention for it is that it “holds
sacred space for healing to occur for everyone involved so that we can learn,
grow, heal and evolve in the deepest way possible at this time that is in
alignment with our individual greatest good.” Since my work studio is on the
ground floor of my home I want to contain all that goes on there so that it
doesn’t affect my partner and our home life. The container holds the energy
inside and protects and separates it from the outside. It also protects the
outside from the energies inside the container.

This process can also be used to create space for your
meditation practice, around your desk at work, around your home, for parties or
events, and any number of other uses. For the spaces where you want the
energetics there all the time, you don’t need to do the releasing and
dissolving of the matrix each time. These situations are ones where you should
consider using objects to hold the points of the matrix so that you have those
visual cues there each day to help you reengage your awareness on the container
and reenergize it each time. For the retained containers, it’s a good idea to
still put your awareness on the container, its intention and points each day
before you engage it so that you reenergize it. That could include calling in
the energies to each matrix point each day, or simply holding your awareness on
the full structure by holding a visual in your mind of the ball that you created
with the structure and its intention.

POINTS
TO CONSIDER

Here are a few pointers to keep in mind when you are
creating containers:

When you are involving others in your
ceremony, what they need and are ready for is very different than what you
need, so state your intention in a manner that allows for that to happen. Phrases
like “for the highest good of all involved at the level we can accommodate at
this time” help to open space for that.

Do not set “controlling intentions” like “to
make my boss see things my way and give me a raise” because you are seeding the
container with manipulation and since you will be in the container you will be
manipulated. The words are just a tool
for referencing energy and the energy is what fills the space not the words so
be aware of what you call in.

You are creating sacred space. When we feel
safe, secure and supported we can do anything. By creating this safe space for
yourself and others, each individual can get what they can accommodate in the
moment and not take on more than they can handle.

You are a part of this so when you set it up
you too are going to get back what you put into it. If you are attempting to
force an outcome with your intention that will come back to you through the
process so think beyond just your needs as you create this container. Leave
room for all options rather than defining a limiting or specific result.

When you create sacred ceremonial space, you
are making space for support from the non-physical spirit realm as well. This
allows for everyone involved to access more energies than they could alone by
connecting with the wisdom of those who used these tools before you and imbued
them with their consciousness as well as each person’s higher-self (their full
energetic potential) and not just their human body.

Energy is in a constant state of flow and
flux. Until you create a place for the energy to come to rest it will be like
trying to bathe in that tiny stream rather than a small pool of water.

Physically walking the matrix is not a
requirement but it does help to guide and direct your energy more easily.
Remember this is all energy and done by intention and awareness. Start with
physically moving around the container and learn the process by teaching your
physical body how it feels until you reach the point where you can do it
without the movement.

If you are part of a ceremony that you
didn’t set up and you don’t feel safe within the event, you can put your own
matrix around what they have created so that your container contains theirs (if
they have one), that way there is no interference with their structure. As with
all things in life, you have to take care of your needs and be responsible for
yourself and allow others to do the same for themselves.

A good experiment to see how this works for
yourself is to find a simple event that happens frequently (office staff
meetings, family gatherings, etc.) that you have been doing without any
container and notice how it goes. The next time that event is going to happen,
put a container in place to make a ceremony out of it and notice your results.
Things will flow more smoothly during the event, more will be accomplished,
less drama will be present and you’ll feel safer doing it. Exploring this for
yourself is the best teaching possible.

AFTERTHOUGHTS

I
hope that this information helps you to create containers for the experiences
in your life. The most important thing you can do is practice this process.
Start with something simple and do each step with your full awareness and
attention. Teach your body how it feels to do each step and then take a moment
after each step to notice how it feels when the step is done and again at the
end to notice how the completed container feels. This “body knowledge” will
help you in the future by letting you know when something isn’t right because
it won’t feel safe and contained the way you are used to it feeling.

Life
is one large ceremony which encompasses the many smaller ceremonies of the
experiences which shape our lives. Can you find a way to approach each one with
the respect and reverence that you give to formal ceremonies?

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Greetings. Here it is, May 8th and it feels
good to be back. I’ve taken the last few months off by virtue of life getting
the best of me and while unplanned, it certainly wasn’t uneventful. Thanks to
the great state of Washington and its voters that favor marriage equality, on
January 27th I was able to legally marry my partner. He and I have
been together for over 12 years and being able to get married was an experience
that we both grew up expecting to never have. Now that we’ve gotten to go
through it however we see why so many people do it. It was an experience that
has propelled our relationship forward in so many beautiful ways. It was well
worth every bit of the planning, time, effort and money that went into it. The
beautiful (and sunny) Hawaiian honeymoon that we had afterwards was icing on an
amazing cake for us.

In all of that, entropy took over and I found myself
choosing to sleep in rather than getting up at 5:30 to write. I allowed myself
to just be lazy and take some time off from writing to recharge my batteries.
Over the last couple of months I’ve seen where my procrastination and laziness
have been showing up way too much however and so now I have to begin the
process of pushing through that and getting things moving in my life again. When
I write things like this that I share with others, it becomes motivation for me
because I feel that I have to stick to my word and the commitments I make.

It is my desire to continue sharing the information
which I have been taught and learned through experience with you in the hopes
that something I say can benefit others in some way. If any reader has any
question on anything I’ve shared in the past or that I will share, please feel
free to email me and I’ll try to clarify. Your question might be the key to me
pulling out information which I might have otherwise missed or explaining
something in a way that helps someone understand it better. I always welcome
your questions, comments and feedback.

As I’ve shared before in this blog, it takes us 22 days
to form a new habit. My habit for the last few months has been to be lazy and
so there may be struggles ahead as I try to re-engage the blogging process but
please stay with me as I go through it. Every experience has the ability to
teach us something about ourselves or life and that’s where I draw my
inspiration for the information I share. What I’ll ask you in return is that if
you benefit from these teachings, please “like” or “share” my postings on Facebook so
that your friends will see them and hopefully that will help to grow my
readership which will further motivate me to get out of bed and do the writing
that brings me so much joy and fulfillment. It’s a beautiful feedback loop
where everyone wins.

Thank you for the support and encouragement that you’ve
shown me along the way on this journey. Your responses have meant a great deal
to me and let me know that others are finding value in the information I share.
That has been a big blessing in my life and I thank you for that.

May you always be guided to your highest and greatest
good in all that you do.