Clever Parenting

Children
are a mandate from God. Then it is not light that the burden of the parents who
have received the trust from God. And because of the mandate, it should be
maintained and cared for in accordance with the message of the giving party,
which in this case is Allah SWT. For this reason, we as parents are required to
nurture and guide our children to Religion in accordance with nature (human
instincts) so that they have noble character and become devoted human beings.

They are like white paper. It is we who will give the color of the painting what we want. As Tabularasa’s Theory, where it is evident that children who have lived in a Jewish environment since childhood will become Jews, those who live in a Christian environment will also become Christians, Mothers and so on.

Therefore
caring for children should start early, because the development of the child’s
soul has begun to grow since he was small, according to his nature. Thus, we
channel the nature of humans, we guide and we direct to the path that should be
in accordance with its direction. Because as parents and teachers (educators in
schools) must really know that so much responsibility to Allah’azza wa jalla
for the education of their children.

Procedures
for good parenting:

1.
Behavior Formation Through Habit of Actions Since Children Are Still Small

A
famous failusuf, Charles Reade, said: “Even though you reap a habit, you
habit and you reap a character, character and you reap a destiny,” which
means freely, “If we are sure will be something of a view or mind so plant
that thought in an act, then you will reap (get results) which is called
behavior.

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2.
Parental authority

The
two things that have been explained before, namely about “Exemplary
Examples” and “Familiarizing Behavior from Childhood,” are very
closely related to the problem of PARENTS ‘AUTHORITY. Children will imitate the
example of parents and want to carry out behaviors that are accustomed to
parents’ instructions, if all of them feel reluctant to parents.

As a
result of reluctance to the authority of the parents arises a sense of
obedience and full submission willingly and peacefully. But when the child does
not have a sense of reluctance to parents, that is the sign that parents do not
have authority in the presence of the child. If the “Authority” and
the authority of the parent is gone or has faded, the child will be
“screwed up” because no one is “feared”.

3.
Clever Parenting

Parenting
is an art too. Even though there are also methodologies, the pedagogics are
equipped with general psychology, child psychology, or educational psychology,
but because they are faced with children who have souls, and besides their
mental and spiritual conditions are different, then without art, education is
less successful .
Until herein lies the
need for the nature of wisdom in caring for children. Parenting is clearly not
synonymous with authoritarianism, nor is it synonymous with paternalistic,
which protects the students too much. Although these two traits are sometimes
needed, the application should be in accordance with the conditions of the
child and the atmosphere of the events that occur.