There are two things I’m sick of around the holidays. One, I’m not a fan of the over-marketed, consumer-hungry messages that are plastered everywhere, telling me that in order to have a happy holiday I need to give and receive lots of material things. Second to that are the exaggerated counter-messages that attempt to remind me that the holidays not about gifs and materialism. Both sides of the spectrum tend to leverage guilt and fantasies of what life “should” look like but never seems to turn out that way.