Sometimes it seems like we are just winging this whole marriage
thing one hour at a time. After being married 10 years, I can
officially say that many of the things people told me in the beginning
-- don't go to bed angry, always kiss goodbye -- haven't been the
"rules" that sustain us.

In fact, the things that have helped my marriage last are sometimes
things they tell you NOT to do -- junk food binges, sex when you don't
feel like it, and screaming at one another. They've actually helped a
marriage make it over the humps.

Sometimes it seems like the rules of the game are things you learn as
you go. And it makes sense, right? We are all individuals and we marry
individuals and no two marriages are the same. Still, there are SOME
absolutes, so with no further ado, I give you the 10 commandments of marriage. Read them and LEARN:

Thou shalt not cheat: Dang! Start with an easy one,
but seriously. This is so obvious. And yes, this includes sexting and
Facebooking old girlfriends. It includes anything your spouse (not you)
would consider a betrayal.

Thou shalt get medicine in the middle of the night:
If your hubby is sick, get your butt out of bed and get him his meds.
It's a small thing, and yes, he could do it himself, but wouldn't you
want him to do it for you?

Thou shalt forgo sex once in a while: It's not a written contract that you get sex whenever you want now. Respect your partner's right to body autonomy.

Thou shalt yell and scream when angry: Good couples fight. I don't care what anyone else says. If you are getting it out, you are doing well.