(Closed) Patience is NOT my Virtue

Bees, how many of you are genuinely patient? You don’t snoop – you don’t take mental notes – you aren’t clever with wording questions in ways to receive specific answers – you don’t piece the puzzle(s) together – – you genuinely allow each second of everyday to keep ticking without any mind question, thought interruption, or idea jot down of your special day to be!!!!!!!!!

I am, which I’m sure makes him happy but it’s making me slightly crazed. I’m not snooping, I’m not sending pictures of rings, etc.

On the other hand I don’t think I’m in the same boat as a lot of you ladies–we’ve only had one tentative talk on the idea of marriage. I’m not even 100% sure he will propose, although our talk was positive. He’s very closed lipped about the whole thing and mentioned wanting the whole thing (ring, proposal, etc.) to be a surprise.

I promised myself I would wait until he was out of school (3 more months) and then we’re going to have a serious sit down conversation about the future. He might want it to be a surprise but on the other hand I might not wait around much longer unless I know it’s coming. 😛

I am absolutely not patient, but I have become so after his musings of getting engaged before his brother’s wedding made me crazy. He finally said that he had decided to wait until after the wedding, and after he meets my parents.

Of course, he would have never told me had I not bluntly asked what the scoop was. Now that I know, it’s smooth sailing again (thank God) and I’m on autopilot.

Umm I think it was Jay-Z that said “I have no patience, I hate waiting” and it’s true with everything. I always strive to do what I want when I want it and it has catupulted me into great situations in my professional world, in the personal world, not so much lol….

I’d like to think that I am. Other people bother BF about it much more than I do.

I never really daydreamed or expected it in the first place, so I guess I’m fine with hanging around until. I think it’s good, because I don’t really have anything to pressure him over. (Okay, maybe there is that ring that I think is awesome, but when the time comes…)

I don’t *snoop*, I mean, I get bored and will look through random things, but not as a “oh is he hiding this? that? ring? other?”, but as a “oh here is this container, I will look in it. I don’t check his email or facebook, even though I know the passwords.

It will happen when it happens, you know? I don’t want to rush him into anything, even though he’s made his plans known. Or, end goal, he says he doesn’t know what/how things are going to happen. That’s fine, I don’t either.

Well, I was patient until he started saying little things like, “I got you something for your left hand for Xmas.” Then his mom said she’s coming to visit earlier than expected and didn’t provide a reason why. Then he sends me the e-card proposal as a joke. Then today he sends me an IM to confirm my ring size (by the way, he has done this like 5 or 6 times over the past month or so and doesn’t really add much to my lack of patience). So, I no longer have much patience at all. I am constantly wondering… “what is he up to?” He also made a comment about us being engaged before our 1 year anniversary last night, but when I said, “whatcha talkin ’bout Brady,” he dismissed it as a joke. I bought him a fairly affordable diamond ring for his right hand for xmas today. I had to get it because it was one of those deals you don’t pass up (less than $60 after all the mark downs – BTW, Kohls is having an awesome holiday sale ladies). I wonder… if he doesn’t propose on Xmas, will this “right hand” ring gift to him add some pressure and make him realize how impatient I actually am? Maybe I should save it for a gift on our 1 year anniversary. It might give the impression I’m trying to get my engagement ring now and I surely hope he doesn’t mistake this simple ring as his engagement ring. Wow… see PATIENCE left the building earlier today.

@crebre: yes! His mom is for coming to visit in May. She always comes during her summer vacation around late June or early July. So her coming early caught me by surprise and got me all worked up. But our 1 year anniversary is in May. Now, his little comments and questions have caused me to think it might happen at Xmas or New Year’s. I’m not sure. But the wait is suddenly driving me crazy. LOL!!!

oh okay i remembered May.. why else would he say it if it wasn’t going to happen? i hate when they give those strange arse statements, you know?! M kills me with that poop. I am like look just shut up about it or do it.

My job requires patience – working with the public, i find it easy to have patience with those who don’t understand something or who struggle to do something.I will take all the time and care in the world to get something just right.

I find it somewhat challenging in having patience with someone who I know has little concept of planning, has all the cards with something I can’t possibly control. It feels like he’s grinning maniacally at me while he watches me squirm with not being able to do anything about it. I’m NOT happy waiting. It gets me terribly down. If he wants to be with me why not just do it? There have been plenty of lovely opportunities if he was after the right moment. I’ve stopped pushing him on it now. I know he knows how I feel. So yeah, I’m not digging as much as I used to, not overanalysing as much as I used to. Feel a little better for it really.

Honestly, I was not patient at all. However, I had to suffer completely alone because weddingbee didn’t exist when I was waiting! I do try to take mental notes about things but I always end up forgetting things too!

I’m usually a very patient person. When it comes to our engagement I like to think that I’ve been as patient as possible…until we went to the mall last week and he too me through every single jewelry store there! Literally every single one. He said it was just to look, but then kept asking what kind of styles I liked and so on. We’ve been talking a lot about getting engaged, but decided it would be best to wait until sometime next fall when we have some more money and we’re settled in to whatever city we’re going to for his grad school (he won’t find out until March or so). But then he told me after we got home from shopping that there’s a very high chance that I’ll be getting “rocks” for Christmas. I want to know what kind of rocks lol!

i can be patient when the situation calls for it but i find patience to be extremely taxing. lol. actually, i’m really only impatient when it’s something that i really, really, REALLY want and i really, really, REALLY want to marry my guy…so this patience thing is a definite work in progress!