Vayeitzei -
The Truth of Deceit

By Rabbi Aron Tendler

Tales of prophecies, divinations, manipulations and conspiracies fill this
week's Parsha. Yaakov had escaped the wrath of Eisav only to find that he had
gone from the frying pan into the fire. Lavan, the master of deception was
interested in only one thing, the perversion or if need be, the destruction
of Yaakov. This was not a simple matter of a devious and evil uncle desiring
power or wealth. This was a battle between titans for the soul of humanity.

Why did this profoundly important and historic challenge have to be fought
through deceit? Why did Yaakov have to be trained by Rivkah to recognize and
combat deception with deception? Why couldn't there have been an open
engagement between Yaakov's truth and Lavan's falsehood? Why did the final
open confrontation between Lavan and Yaakov first take place after all the 12
tribes had either been born or conceived?

Ninety-seven years earlier, the young Lavan and his father Bisuel attempted
to kill Eliezar, the servant of Avraham (Rashi 24:55) Why? Their reason for
doing so was that they did not want Yitzchak to marry Rivkah. By interfering
with the next stage of Jewish nationality, they would be able to stop G-d
from being proclaimed and known in the world. They would be able to persist
in defining their own morals and values without concern for G-d. Whether or
not they fully understood the stakes involved is difficult to say. However,
they certainly knew that Avraham and his descendents were monotheistic and
determined to teach their beliefs to the rest of humanity. They, in turn,
were determined to stop them from doing so.

The teachings of Avraham had already caused great stirrings and conflicts.
Avraham and his two brothers, Nachor and Haran, grew to adulthood during the
reign of Nimrod and the building of the Tower of Baval. Nimrod claimed to be
divine and the civilized world supported his claim. Avraham was the only one
to openly challenge Nimrod. Nachor, on the other hand, was fully invested in
the theological debate of the times and supported Nimrod. Haran, the third
brother, was caught between the other two and wavered in his resolve from
side to side.

The incident with the fiery furnace took place when Nimrod entered the fray.
Nachor wanted his brother to die in the fiery furnace. Instead, Haran died
and Avraham miraculously emerged victorious and more influential than before.
Nimrod, on the other hand was publicly humiliated. Worse of all was
Nimrod's own son resigning his prince hood and subjugating himself to Avraham
and his teachings. Eliezar the servant of Avraham was the son of Nimrod.

Nachor's hatred for Avraham grew with Avraham's fame. The greater Avraham
became the more Nachor hated him. Nachor was determined to do everything
possible to undermine Avraham's mission. It is possible that part of the
hatred had been fueled by Terach's fall from grace. Terach, Avraham and
Nachor's father, had been Nimrod's right hand man. It was due to Avraham's
birth and his subsequent challenge to Nimrod's divinity that Terach was
demoted from his illustrious position. Nachor might have deeply resented
Avraham for the loss of what he may have considered his personal right and
destiny.

Nachor imparted his hatred for Avraham and his teachings to his children and
grandchildren. Bisuel and Lavan were the products of that education. Bisuel
died when he attempted to kill Eliezar, and Lavan fully embraced his father
and grandfather's mandate to oppose and destroy Avraham's descendents.
The method which Nachor, Bisuel, and Lavan employed in battling Avraham was
deceit. They did not confront Avraham or his descendents directly. At
first, they hid behind the throne of Nimrod. Even after the miracle of the
fiery furnace, Nimrod attempted to kill or imprison Avraham. However,
Avraham managed to escape all the attempts and conspiracies. With the
destruction of the Tower of Baval Nimrod's power began to wane and soon
enough Nachor was on his own in plotting Avraham's destruction.

My understanding of Nachor's methods suggests a profound recognition on his
part as to how G-d would be revealed to the world. It was clear to Nachor
that if openly challenged G-d would do miracles. An open rebellion against
G-d is the greatest opportunity for sanctifying or desecrating G-d's name.
(Kiddush or Chillul Hashem). So long as there is no one to champion good and
oppose evil, G-d remains hidden within the workings of nature and history.
However, whenever a champion arises to defend G-d, assuming that the champion
is truly "for the sake of heaven" G-d will openly respond. Therefore, Nachor
and his descendents decided to resort to indirect methods for undermining G-d
and His servants.

In fact, the indirect method became societies greatest tool against the Jew.
The Jew has always survived the direct challenges of inquisitions and
pogroms. It is the indirect methods of assimilation that have done the
greatest damage to us.

In the lifetime of Nachor there were two instances when G-d openly revealed
His presence. Avraham, being saved from the fiery furnace and the
destruction of the Tower of Baval. In both instances, there had been an open
confrontation with G-d. In the instance of the fiery furnace Avraham was the
obvious champion. In the story of the Tower of Baval, Nimrod had rallied the
world against G-d. Therefore, even-though there was no one identified
champion, G-d had to intervene.
With Avraham, His intervention was openly miraculous, seeming to defy the
laws of nature. With the tower of Baval, because there wasn't a champion,
G-d utilized nature to destroy the tower, disperse the people and thwart
Nimrod's plans.

Nachor witnessed these events and gleaned a basic understanding of G-d's
methods. Therefore, Nachor decided to avoid direct confrontation with
Avraham and G-d and taught his descendents the ways of deceit and trickery.
Those were his only hope for successfully battling G-d.

Nachor's understanding went even deeper. Nachor recognized that in the
aftermath of the sin of Adam and Chava, G-d would only reveal Himself openly
if forced to do so. Gan Eden was the way the world might have functioned if
Adam and Chava had not sinned. G-d's presence would have been openly
manifest in the workings of nature, and prophecy would have been either
unnecessary or commonplace. Once Adam and Chava sinned and they were exiled
from Gan Eden, G-d secreted Himself within the workings of nature and history.

As a whole, the world was not deserving of G-d's manifest presence.
Therefore, the only ways to learn about G-d were to personally discover Him
(like Avraham had) or to be taught that He existed (like Avraham did).
However, there was a third way. If G-d would be openly challenged, G-d might
do a miracle, and miracles openly proclaim G-d's existence.

As far as Nachor was concerned, any method that proclaimed G-d's existence
had to be avoided at all costs. Miracles would allow others, such as what
happened to Eliezar, to discover G-d on their own; therefore, open
confrontation had to be avoided. Avraham's teachings would continue to make
converts for as long as Avraham and Sarah lived. However, once they died,
Nachor was convinced that their teachings would die with them.
Nachor was very successful in enlisting Bisuel and Lavan in his cause. They
too became committed to using deception to undermine Avraham, and avoid
miracles by avoiding open confrontation with G-d. So long as Avraham and
Sarah had no children, Nachor, Bisuel and Lavan were able to relax and focus
on themselves. Once Yitzchak was born, the situation changed. Therefore,
when the occasion arose to kill Eliezar and undermine Yitzchak's marriage to
Rivkah, Bisuel and Lavan attempted it. First of all, the death of Eliezar
the son of Nimrod was a worthy enough prize. Secondly, they could interfere
with the next stage of Jewish nationality. Of course, they did not do so
directly. They only used deceit and trickery.

With the birth of Yaakov and Eisav, Lavan again saw his long awaited
opportunity to destroy the children of Avraham. Rashi (29:17) references the
Medresh that explains why Leah's eyes were weak, or red from crying.
"Everyone use to say, Lavan had two daughters and Rivkah had two sons. The
older daughter (Leah) for the older son (Eisav) and the younger daughter
(Rachel) for the younger son (Yaakov)." The idea of marrying someone like
Eisav was so reprehensible to Leah that she cried all the time. Lavan, on
the other hand, knew that Yitzchak would eventually turn to his family when
looking to marry off his sons, just as Avraham had done. In time, he would
be given the opportunity to pervert or destroy the next generation of Jews.

The Parsha details Lavan's numerous attempts at undermining Yaakov's and G-d's
intentions. Of course, it was all done with deceit and deception. Open
confrontation and miracles had to be avoided at all costs. Therefore, Lavan
first switches Leah for Rachel, and then does everything in his power to keep
Yaakov from returning to the protection of Yitzchak and Rivkah.

At the end of the 20 years, after the first twelve children had been born
(including Dina) Lavan chases after Yaakov and openly confronts him! Why?
If our understanding of Lavan's methods is true, why didn't Yaakov turn the
tables on Lavan and force more confrontations, thereby eliciting more
miracles? Why did Rivkah train Yaakov to buy into Nachor's deceitful agenda?

As explained before, following Gan Eden G-d secreted Himself within the
workings of nature and history. Except for some rare occasions, G-d did not
perform open miracles. This means that miracles are not the best way to get
to know G-d. In fact, miracles alone never had a lasting affect on anyone.
Miracles in conjunction with a lifestyle of commitment and responsibility can
be very powerful. The reason is that the most effective way for teaching
about G-d is by modeling a lifestyle that naturally weaves an awareness of
G-d into everything that we do. Had we not sinned with the Tree of
Knowledge, Nature would have revealed G-d's presence. Once we sinned, we had
to reveal His presence.

The purpose of exposing G-d's actuality is to teach the other nations and
carry on Avraham's teachings. In order to do so we had to become more than
just Avraham and Sarah, more than just Yitzchak and Rivkah. We had to become
a family. We had to become a nation. A nation that believes in G-d and
lives accordingly is far more powerful than the individual who believes in
G-d.

So long as all the children had not been born, Yaakov could not claim to be a
nation, Yaakov was not Shalaim - whole. (28:21). Once the family was
complete, the nation was on its way. (The fulfillment of Lech Lecha). (As
to why Binyamin was not yet born is another discussion.)As a nation, Yaakov
could expect miracles. As a functioning family miracles would be woven into
a lifestyle of belief and performance. Therefore, Yaakov felt empowered to
leave Lavan and return to Eretz Yisroel.

On the other hand, once Yaakov had escaped, Lavan became desperate. His last
chance at fulfilling Nachor's mandate was to physically catch and destroy the
infant nation. Lavan even risked open confrontation and possible miracle.
However, as we know, G-d privately confronted Lavan in a dream and thereby
prevented the danger to Yaakov and his family.

The truth is that once the Bnai Yisroel were born G-d did reveal Himself
openly to the world. The greatest revelation and miracle in history is the
existence of the Jewish nation, the Bnai Yisroel.