Joseph Nicosia, b. 1905 and son Charles of NY

I am working on a mystery regarding Margaret Heckler ofthe Cheektowaga, NY area. She married Henry Bilz and had children starting 1905 through 1921. Apparently one of her kids had a best friend named Joseph Nicosia. If I had to guess I'd say it was Henry Charles Bilz because he and Joseph were both born in 1905. Rumor has it Joseph and Henry's mom Margaret took a liking to each other and they ran off together to PA. They married at some point and had a child named Charles, which again was Henry's middle name. Anyway, there are several obituaries that list Margaret's last name as something different. Bilz (Henry), James (Edwin), Nicosia (Joseph), and Smith. I am told that there was such an uproar over what they did that they changed their name from Nicosia to Smith (in an effort to blend in). If anyone would like to see these obituaries just let me know. Again, my family (Hecklers) came from Buffalo, NY. I'd love to know more about Joseph and learn more about their relationship and family.