5 things you should never ask on a first date

What you should ask and what you shouldn’t on a first date has been a hot topic of discussion for a long time now. All you need to do is make a good impression, and if you like the person, being natural and yourself is the best way to go. Yet, there are a few things that you should steer clear of asking so early on. Read on and take notes.

Why are you still single?

You don’t want to come outright and ask it since the question lends itself to a feeling that there is something wrong with him and therefore he is single. Another one in this category to avoid would be: Why did you leave your ex? You may think that you are only innocently asking, but the repercussion could be deep-rooted, even if you are okay to provide similar information about yourself.

Why did you decide to meet me?

If you want compliments, behave well and you will get them. Don’t fish for them. There will come a time later, on following dates, where he will open up and tell you what he liked about you and the reason why he decided to meet up. Wait for that time.

Do you own a house/ car?

This question stinks! Are you looking to meet a great guy or his house and car? Of course, before becoming serious you would like to understand the person's financial stability, but the first date is not the most apt instance to ask this question. Besides, if he does own either or both, it is likely to come up in conversations. Just be patient. This also goes for the question: How much money do you make?

Where do you think this is going?

Or something to the effect of—do you want kids in the future? How soon do you want to get married? Jeez, it’s just the first date! Hold your horses, everything will surface in due course. If you want to know whether he likes kids, talk about a kid around you to see his reaction. You can be subtle!

So what do you want to know about me?

You have a mental list and are watching how many points he ticks off, but offer him the privacy to do so about you. The ideal way to get to know each other is asking questions subtly that turn into conversations you both can enjoy. Keep it spontaneous.