Recently, my boyfriend asked for a role play in which I make him put on embarrassing underwear and then ridicule him for wearing said underwear.

Problem is: humiliation is the one thing I can’t handle! I get so embarrassed watching people get humiliated in movies that I hide my face. Forget scary movies — a Todd Solondz film is more likely to make me duck under the blankets.

It would be hard enough not to laugh and cry simultaneously, but it would be impossible to keep an erection. What do I do?

Easily embarrassed,Johnny

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Dear Johnny,

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Allow me: you sound like a terrible lay.

Your BF is literally asking for it. Humiliate the dirty fucker, really teach him a lesson. And don’t stop at the lace panties — get Victoria’s Secret on his ass. Make him prance around like a show horse in pink garters and peek-a-boo panties, before you do your best Ann Romney and ride him like an olympian.

Another effective way to make him feel like a slag is to force him to clean your flat in a jockstrap and Mutant Ninja Turtles backpack. Then ignore him… Only when it’s spotless, spunk in his face and demand he takes public transport back to his. Demand status updates with pics of him cum-covered at back of the bus.

Now is no time to be squeamish. You’ll get into it soon enough, and when you do, you’ll discover what your boyfriend already knows: humiliation equals liberation.

myvisagewasted: Dear Matt, I am BEYOND excited and eager for ODY-C, (Matt Fraction's new comic book, retelling of Homer's Odyssey) but I'm concerned that a strict genderswapping may inadvertently contribute to the erasure of people who do not identify with the gender binary by implying gender is a one-or-the-other type of thing. Is there any chance of us seeing nonbinary individuals in ODY-C?

mattfractionblog: hey, that is a really great note. i suppose i should say it’s not exactly a strict swapping, but the idea of voiding the binary entirely honestly hadn’t occurred to me (the proper writing hasn’t started so, y’know, fucking nothing has really occurred to me yet). that said, thank you for occurring this at me? to me? thanks. yes. there will be. and that’s because of you. i’d like to believe i’d have considered it once the typing started but i’d also like to believe that i am and have always been a sophisticated, evolved, and empathetic person with understanding and consideration for all people everywhere. This, alas, is not the case, and everything is a process of growing. Right? Right. so thank you. yes.

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