(Closed) Waiting..Hoping…Help me relax–Long Winded..Sorry

Hi All… I need some help learning to relax! I’m a newbee and yes waiting. My SO and I have dated for 6 years…and I have patiently (NOT) waited for the last 6 mos for a ring. We have had discussions of marriage…but I typically start them. He doesn’t shy away from the conversation, when he discusses the future I’m always included…so what I’m saying is that I know he loves me and I know he only sees me as the woman in his life forever. So what is my problem? I basically psyched myself up over Christmas thinking I was getting a ring…there was NO indication (except in my brain) that I was getting a ring. I was disappointed – even cried. So I put that out of my head over the next couple of months and in February this year – he wanted us to go out to dinner for Valentine’s Day…we have never done this and even though I told him I think it would be best for us to just be at home and have a nice meal – he insisted we go out. The card I rec’d on Valentine’s Day w/ my roses were so beautiful -he spoke of being soul mates and me being his best friend & that people search a lifetime for what we have…all of my female coworkers swooned over his words and said they just knew he was going to propose. When I spoke to my mom, she said she thought along the same lines. I freaked out – knowing that he wanted to do dinner and then I got this card?? I was shaking so badly when dinner finally rolled around that I needed a drink terribly to calm down. When I went in to hug him…I let my hands drop to his pockets (they were pretty flat. (no ring) – Needless to say i didn’t get a ring (or I wouldn’t be posting here lol). My gift? An upcoming cruise that he said was VERY IMPORTANT for us to go on in May. I had hoped my face didn’t show the complete confusion…so wait? I have to wait 3 mos for my Valentine’s Day gift? SO knows that I’m the least patient person, that I’m a planner..I can’t watch a movie w/o trying to find out the ending, I can’t even go to theme parks (we go to Orlando every few mos) w/o writing down plans on paper. I research hotels, I go online, I dig, dig, dig. So here we are now 3 weeks (21 days & counting) till our “very important” cruise (BTW – we are traveling to my birth place of Bahamas) and I am freaking out!! It’s back in my head..hell that is how I found all of you…doing a search of how will I know he is ready to propose? ARGH!! I want to relax and really really try to enjoy the days leading up to and during our vacation.

He isn’t typically the most romantic person…he has immense love for me…but he is definitely more of a reserved soul. Oh I guess I can confess that I tried to weasel some sort of revelation out of him-We did speak this weekend of activities we can do on the cruise – I asked if they had a not so Newlywed game would he do it? To my surprise, he said yes…and of course on of the questions i tested with was…what kind of proposal would she want? Private or public…he said the right answer…UGH

@Hopeful3120: I think he will do it on the cruise! But girl, I am right there with you…34 days until my Bahamas cruise and freaking out as well, so while I can’t be of much help- I guess what I can suggest is that you try to turn the intense feelings you have into excitement of what is soon to be! This is the only time in your life you will ever get to feel this way, knowing that soon enough the love of your life will be making a commitment to you for you and him to be forever yours :)–how exciting!!!! Try to think of the “waiting” in a more positive light!

@Dell79: See those are some words I was looking for. “Try to think of the “waiting” in a more positive light!” Have you looked up the romance packages as well on your cruise line? If not, then neither did I..so scratch that lol. I have read everyone’s posts on these boards..I have lurked through the proposed boards and wondered if SO would be that romantic LOL. I have gotten some ideas on venues, rings, etc..UGH! I did tell him though, that men & women use different words to express their feelings and him saying these words thus far has made his Girlfriend just want to know every plan..hee hee.

Have you been to the Bahamas before? What cruiseline are you going on?