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Topic: Exchanges with People that Make Your Brain Hurt (Read 2105164 times)

Re the soy milk question: When I see comments like that, I usually assume that they are asking the other readers rather than the original author of the recipe. The one thing that drives me nuts regarding recipes... when someone goes, "This really wasn't very good. Oh, and I substituted X for Y, used half of Z, omitted W..." Really? And you're saying the recipe sucked after you made a zillion revisions to it? I realize that certain subs (applesauce for oil, etc) are decently well known and reasonable, but if you're going to substantially alter the recipe and then say it's bad, you're not even giving accurate feedback on the original recipe! On the flip side, I've seen some that say "This recipe was great! I added Z and reduced W by a little bit..." OK, that's relatively useful information...

Re the soy milk question: When I see comments like that, I usually assume that they are asking the other readers rather than the original author of the recipe. The one thing that drives me nuts regarding recipes... when someone goes, "This really wasn't very good. Oh, and I substituted X for Y, used half of Z, omitted W..." Really? And you're saying the recipe sucked after you made a zillion revisions to it? I realize that certain subs (applesauce for oil, etc) are decently well known and reasonable, but if you're going to substantially alter the recipe and then say it's bad, you're not even giving accurate feedback on the original recipe! On the flip side, I've seen some that say "This recipe was great! I added Z and reduced W by a little bit..." OK, that's relatively useful information...

I love those comments. I like knowing what I can do to adjust a recipe if I don't like an ingredient or want something heartier, etc. I'm not a very creative chef, so seeing how someone else has modified it is very helpfully.

I have a book from my library that has a recipe for a chocolate cream filling. I began making it yesterday, then realized my heavy whipping cream was frozen, and after cold defrosting, it had separated. I spent hours trying to whip, then chill, then trying again, with no success.

I then found a recipe for pastry cream that used half & half, and followed the basic instructions, stirring the chocolate, butter and rum mixture into it at the end. It came out well, but I can't judge the original recipe, since I didn't have what it required. However, I would still consider my version suitable to share with others who run into a similar situation. I just wouldn't judge then end result off the original recipe.

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ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."-J.R.R Tolkien

<snip>On the flip side, I've seen some that say "This recipe was great! I added Z and reduced W by a little bit..." OK, that's relatively useful information...

I was on the fence about posting a comment like that to a recipe, since I know it's kind of a running joke that most of the comments on a recipe are people talking about their modifications while still rating the original recipe. I mean, I know it's probably a good original recipe, but if it appears that a number of people changed it and only had the modified version, what they're rating really isn't the original. Especially if they give it 5 stars but talk about how they changed something because they felt the original recipe wouldn't have turned out so well.

My changes were to a highly rated cream of chicken and wild rice soup. I used turkey (stock and meat), half n half instead of cream, left out celery, and added couscous in addition to rice - turned out really well! But it wasn't the original recipe, so it's not really fair of me to rate it...

A bit long, and part brain-hurt with a side of wall driving.I was tricked into answering the landline today (which I never do at my parent's house since it's never for me) and it was one of my mom's "friend" (friend from the variety of 'she driving me bonker but she's having trouble, and her health, and the daughter who did that, and the SIL who blah-blah-blah' - old family friend that my mom somewhat has pity for. Long story, her and her daughter could fill up ehell for a good few years.)Anyway, I had to chit-chat while telling her that my mom wasn't home. She asked if I wasn't working today, I said that no, I had finished my internship recently so I was looking for work. Most people when told that give me the compulsory "oh, I hope you'll find something you'll like / I'm sure that won't be too hard for you / I'll cross my fingers for you.." but with a cheery 'everything is going to be fine tone'. We all know finding work isn't easy but there's no need to be a Debby downer, even more if I've barely started applying/looking for jobs.Well she was. All pity like in her voice, all "well it's going to be tough. maybe you'll find something to keep you waiting until you find something you like".I was all , that's not something to say! Even if your life is miserable, I didn't ask you for your opinion so if you have nothing nice to say don't say it.

It's clear you don't like this woman, but that sounds like a sympathetic "don't give up", even if she phrased it oddly.

It was the tone of her voice, it's not easy to describe but that made all the difference. It was almost like she was implying that I wouldn't be worthy of actually getting a job I would like. I haven't spoken in ages with her but it struck me as odd and a bit mean, not what I was expecting. I'm sorry that she has had all that happened to her, I only hear bywords of what is up with her everyonce in a while and I do think that she's pretty brave with all the things life's handed her on a plate. And I understand that people in her situation can become somewhat bitter - it's just that she's barely an acquaintance of mine now, so I wasn't expecting the slighting.

It's clear you don't like this woman, but that sounds like a sympathetic "don't give up", even if she phrased it oddly.

It was the tone of her voice, it's not easy to describe but that made all the difference. It was almost like she was implying that I wouldn't be worthy of actually getting a job I would like. I haven't spoken in ages with her but it struck me as odd and a bit mean, not what I was expecting.

I think I know the type, actually. I have a friend who I don't go shopping with nearly as much anymore, because she talks like neither of us "deserve" things we actually like and should be grateful for whatever the store is selling. More than once I've dithered about an item because the store didn't have exactly what I wanted, and her response was "Well, you're not going to find what you want, so you'll just have to get something." And I'm like "the heck with that, I'm trying another store!" Stores aren't putting out goods as a kindness to me! It's business and I can give my money to someone else who has what I want! She does this with stuff she's buying for herself too.