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A Question for ALL parents...this will be fun!

Should our children SURPASS our expectations? And...if they do, are our expectations to low? And...if they don't are our expectations to high? I am talking about the day to day...not like with their life or whatever. What you expect them to do and not do as your child. (Call and check in, clean their room, watch only PG movies, even at a friends house)

i really dont have any for my kids after almost losing one of my kids i eased off my kids and i let them be kids but they stay in my house i control what movies they watch i dont make them call caz they cant touch phones

I dont really have any expectaions of my children all i want is to be given respect from them, I expect them to tidy their toys but they never actually do it lol,
with 3to care for all so close together i dont have a lot of time, My 4 year old is way to old for his age, He doesnt go to school yet he can allready read a book. his favorite tv shoe is whose line is it anyway :0 thats the hubby's fault lol, but i worry that with all his reading and watching adult show's he is missing out on some play development and not sure wat to do.
Rachael

ditto ref respect and manners. I guess thats all I can expect from a 3.5yr old really. There are milestones that I hope he will reach - all the obvious ones, walking/talking etc etc I would also like to think that he wouldnt be nasty to others and other than that I guess no expectations - At this age anyway. I guess that as he gets older i will expect more of him

i am simply floored that at 3 and a half all you expect is manners! My 3 and a half year old has a complete daily routine and she LOVES it. I would not settle for less from either of my older girls. My 23 month old is even learning to do dishes and laundry and put away her bed! I guess I am just too old fashioned. WAIT...I know what it is, you all must be working moms? That would explain it.

Jaclynnbaker you crack me up LOL yep I'm not sure about these Moms. My kids are expected to clean up after them selves; dishes, toys, clothes. My 5 year old makes her bed every morning, my kids love doing chores and helping me out. The one thing I do have a problem with is a strict bed time; like it is really hard for me to enforce it, but I am trying because we start kindergarden in a week. It looks like there are going to be a bunch of messy irresponsible kids because parents just don't care. and p.s. ormosen &quot;almost&quot; losing a kids is WAY different than losing one and it doesn't mean you shouldn't have standards for your living children you still need to be a parent. I am in a pissy mood and I really feel like screaming at you but I wont :)(fake smile)

I think everyone has expectations, maybe they just use a different word to describe them i.e. rules, values. I don't think there are any &quot;shoulds&quot; here. You set basic ground rules, maybe treat each other with respect would be one. It just depends on the individual child when and how they learn to do this. I think it's important to keep in mind where your child is developmentally and whether your expectation is realistic and appropriate. If you make expectations to high, then you may end up frustrating yourself and your child. I think the most important thing is to be fair and consistent. It's hard! I have three little ones, and my 3 year old is very spirited! Hope I made sense:)

By the way, kids like stucture and they like to help out. It's a good idea to start young when it's not a power struggle and get kids to start helping around the house. The consistency thing works here. At first, it may be a struggle but if you do it every time they eventually get the hint that you won't give in. Ok, done with my two cents. :)

It must be nice to try and set guidelines for everyone else's &quot;Brats&quot; as you have called our kids in your very same post in the Parenting Big Kids board.

Not everyone has the same expectations as you, nor do we need to be told by you on how to make our children behave. Kids sometimes have meltdowns and unless you know what goes on in our lives 24/7 you really have no room for comment.

I think your attacks on parents that don't share your exact views are as attrocious as you make our children out to be. You may have some issues from your childhood that you are trying to deal with.

ok, help for the bedtime thing. My girls have slept on their own, in their beds, when I tell them to...since birth pretty much. lol
YOU set the bedtime. Ok, guys bedtime is 9pm and mommy has decided that we are not staying up asking for drinks or snacks or stories all night. At 9pm the lights are out, and that is it. As soon as you get dressed, get your drink and brush your teeth, let me know and we will have a story and talk about tommoorow! Now, the sooner that you are ready for bed, the longer that we will have to visit. you have to be firm, and turn out those lights at 9 (or whenever) like you said. NO MATTER WHAT! in 2 weeks TOPS u should be flying!

OK, I just reread one of your previous posts and you have decided that the problem is that we are working mothers. What they hell does that have to do with behaviour of chilfren. You in fact have added to your profile that your &quot;perfect&quot; daughter had to be carried kicking and screaming to the truck.....I guess you have joined the ranks of the crap parents with bratty kids. Get off your high horse, you are no better than any other mother here and have upset a couple of us.

I am sorry to all. I do feel that alot of children misbehave because of a working mom situation. Not all, but I have expereinced plenty. Yes, my 3 yr old little Zoe LOVES being here with mommy and cleaning and working in the house so much that she does not even want to go have fun at preschool. I admit I have discipline issues with my children. It really did upset me the response that I got though. NOT FROM YOU! From moms that do not have any expectations from thier children besides respect and manners. To each his own, but I believe that is setting them up for failure.
I am sorry for all that I hav said, please don't hate me. I am just very passionate about TRYING to raise children up to be prepared for this world.

Maybe you should just worry about your own parenting skills instead of trying to bring the rest of us down. You have NO right to tell working mothers that they are the cause of their childrens misbehavior. Again, you are NO better than the rest of us and I am certainly glad that I do not know you in real life.

Who cares what expectations other parents have for their kids aside from respect and manners? What difference does it make to you? You remind me of someone who has nothing better to do than berate other people to make yourself feel better since you obviously dont have a total grip on your own parenting.

I rarely go on the warpath with other mothers here, but you have no respect for others who don't share your opinion.

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