I’ve written many times about my thoughts on control. This word can encompass a variety of definitions. I’d advocate for control in the sense that we must be in control of ourselves as parents.We all have learned patterns of behaviour. What’s important is to limit the effect that our behaviour and reactions have on our children’s. We must endeavour to think [...][Continue Reading...]

You make me feel hurt. You make me feel happy. You make me feel sad. You make me feel like a bad parent. You make me feel inadequate. You make me feel like I can’t do it. Wow. It’s so disempowering to believe that anyone can make you feel a certain way! Fortunately, the reality is [...][Continue Reading...]

That is the question. At least for today. Is having our children obey really an important thing to insist on as a parent? Should are kids always obey us even if they don’t want to say or do something? Children are innately social. They will naturally want to follow our lead and even obey. Of [...][Continue Reading...]

Why must some adults talk to children as if they always want to manipulate them? Why can’t all adults just talk to children like the people they are? There’s nothing worst than an overly obnoxious adult using sing song super praise at a volume that could be heard over a freight train. Okay, it is worst [...][Continue Reading...]

I certainly think so. At least in the way that they are usually talked about in parenting circles. As if natural consequences are a tool to be used in raising our children. If a child drops a cup of water on the floor the natural consequence would be that the floor is wet. However, what [...][Continue Reading...]

Withdrawing love to change behaviour is saying to the child, indirectly, that until you behave the way I want you to, I won’t love you/be near you/talk to you/play with you etc. I think it’s important to accept that like ourselves children won’t always act or feel like others would like them to or what [...][Continue Reading...]