I Wish She Were Mine, But...

I met this....I would like to think....this perfect girl about a year ago. She's everything a guy could want. Beautiful, smart, and really caring. We talk often and she listens to me whenever I have a problem. She gives me advice and helps me overcome my issues. She really makes me feel good and knows how to make me laugh to put a smile on my face. Everytime I see her, my heart races and I feel flushed. I try not to show her how I feel about her because I know it's not right. She is so right for me that I sometimes wish we never met. Yeah....the reason I can't have her is because she's my best friends girlfriend. How do I live with that?

Just think on the positive side, she may not be your best friends' girlfriend forever. Their relationship could end. just make sure that she knows she can come to you when/if that day happens or any bad day for her happens. Patience is key in a relationship you want. It won't happen overnight. Don't take advantage of her either in her drunk state of mind, if you ever see it. Just be protective and caring. Does your best friend talk about her to you? If not, he may not be that into her.

I can feel you on that man. Had a similar experience, all you can do is let it be and let her be happy and especially because its your best friend, if he means anything to you, you'll find a way to live with it. Stay hopeful man, she's not the only awesome lady in the world, there's plenty more. Hope you find someone just as awesome one day :)

I did find that someone, but she belongs to someone else right now. But I am slowly getting over it. Who knows.....maybe I'll meet a wonderful stranger in Vegas, hit the Jack pot, celebrate, and get married. ;)

ouch.. it really is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.. but if u really prefer the best friend.. why don't u just tell ur girlfriend how u feel.. u know cant stay in a relationship when u don't feel happy anymore..its like wasting time

Whoa, that's rough. I guess there are quite a few options, but the main ones I can think of are move on and possibly live life wondering "what if?" or talk to your friend's girlfriend about this and consider the possibility that you may lose a friend. There's the other option of telling them both and trying to keep your distance for awhile to try and move on..Sort of like the first options put together I guess.. Whichever decision you make, you should always consider weighing what you will lose and/or gain from it. I know this isn't much help, but it just seems more realistic..

Damn. I can only imagine how much that sucks for you. :(<br /><br />From reading your story, I've concluded two options for you. One, to just accept that you two aren't meant for each other and move on. This one will take time and it will probably hurt like hell, especially since she's your best friend's girl - which means you will see her often, with her boyfriend. The second option, is to throw caution to the wind and tell her how you really feel. It's risky and levelling danger waters, but if you do this, there will be no 'if only's' or 'what if's'.<br /><br />Anyway, no matter what opinion I tell you, in the end, it all boils down to the decision being your call. I just hope that you choose what you think is best. <br /><br />PS. Your situation reminded me of the song 'If I Don't Tell You Now' by Ronan Keating. If you haven't heard it yet, you should. It totally fits your story. <br /><br />Good luck on making the right choice! :)

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