Re: Intense session » crushedout

In reply to Intense session, posted by crushedout on September 26, 2005, at 15:10:57

Oh crushed out that was an intense session! But how brave and courageous of you to be so honest! I think one of the most painful things in my own therapy is the realisations that my T can’t give me everything I need (or want) when it feels like she could give it to me but just *won’t*, like she’s withholding or something. What was your relationship with your mother like? I wonder if your T is triggering childhood longings from your childhood? (if I’m way off I’m sorry, I’m a psych student can't help it!). I think the best advice I can give you is to keep being as honest as you can with her, even when it’s really embarrassing. I’ve learnt that being honest about my feelings for my T is the only way through them… apparently by going ‘through’ we’ll eventually get to the other side.

I’m also not sure how these needs can be met elsewhere; I have some very affectionate and loving friends but hugging them is not the same as I imagine it would be like for my T to hold me. So I kinda know how you feel, and I’m sorry because it’s sooo painful!