Month: November 2016

A month already passed since Adrian was born. He has gained 1.2 kilos in this time. It is more than 20% of his weight. Quite impressing!
In one way it feels like he was born yesterday in the other way…no sleeping at nights it feels like an eternity.
Here is the first picture I managed to take when he smiled for real. It is quite funny how small infants without hair and teeth are cute while old people with no hair and no teeth are not really considered beauties 🙂
Prošao je tačno mjesec kako se Adrian rodio. Dobio je 1.2kg za tih mjesec dana. To je baš impresivno kad pomislim da je to više od 20% njegove kilaže!
Na jedan način se osjeća kao da se jučer rodio…a u drugu ruku se osjeća kao vječnost zbog nenaspavanih noćiju.
Evo prve slike gdje se zapravo smije što sam uspijela uslikati. Zar nije smiješno kako su mala djeca slatka iako su krezava i ćelava a stari ćelavi i krezavi nisu baš gledani kao ljepotice/ ljepotani… 🙂

The Pareto principle states that for many events the 80/20 rule could be applied. It means 20% of the input makes 80% of the output. Some mean that reality is even 99/1 ratio, meaning that 99% of your output comes from 1% input.
So how can we use this to improve our every day life?
First of all, imagine you have very clear goals.
When you have it, it is easier to prioritize which of the goals is the most important for you. Which is second most important and so on.
Now write down all the sub goals you have to reach to reach your main goals. The more detailed the list is the better.
Once you have the list of sub goals write down every single thing you need to do to reach that goal.
Prioritize! Here the Pareto principle gets important. Of 10 tasks to do 2 are more much much more important and give higher impact on your future than all the others together. You have to find out which two tasks are “the top 20% ones”.
Once you know them proceed with the task and do not stop until you finished the task. Also do not start with some less important tasks.
Here the difficulties for me, and most of the people, is that we tend to procrastinate the more difficult tasks that often happen to be the ones that are “top20%”, and do the 80% of the less valueable tasks.
So what should we do?

Make a list of all our key goals, activities, projects and responsibilities in your life today. Find out which of these represent the top 20% tasks that represent the 80% of the results?

When a person is drowning they usually panic and grab everyone that is trying to save them. That is dangerous because they try to “climb” the person to get to the surface and thus can kill the supposed to be savior.
I was thought on a course that in these moments there are two things one can do to to force him/ her let go off you 1) is to dive deeper and the person will let you go, because he wants to the surface or 2) is to knock him out. I always wondered if it possible to knock a person out in the water.
Two days back all this came back to me when a hysterical Ada screamed in front of me. It was real hysteria and I was wondering in that moment if it isn´t better to slap her ( just for notice, I didn´t slap her) to calm her down, than looking how she is hysterically crying for an hour.. not able to calm her down.
I have always been and I am against hitting children, but in this moment I really remembered the story of drowning people and I started to wonder if is possible that there is some truth behind the way how to calm them down?
For something that felt like an eternity we were trying to clam Ada down by talking and hugging. In the end she was so exhausted that she fell asleep. I felt so sad for her. The whole thing with moving, kindergarten and a new brother that is taking her mother away was simply too much for her. How do You deal with a hysterical child?
Kad se osoba počne gušiti obično paničari i hvata se za svakog što hoće da mu pomogne. To je opasno jer se probava “popeti” na površinu preko osobe i tako može ugušiti „spasioca“.

If you want to understand the financial crisis of 2007 – 2008 take a look at this great movie “The big short” based on the 2010 book The Big Short: Inside the Doomsday Machine by Michael Lewis. Financial instruments and words like subprime loans, CDO´s , tranche are explained in a very simple and easy way and makes you wonder how people working in banking business where so blind to see what was coming. Not to say how blind we are to what is coming. The problem is that things haven´t changed a bit so I guess we will just have more such crisis but in shorter intervals, making me reflect about how to save for the future.Ako hoćeš da razumiješ financijsku krizu od 2007-2008 pogledaj super film “The big short” (Opklada vijeka), baziran na knjizi (2010) istog imena od Michaela Lewis. Financijski instrumenti i riječi popu subprime krediti, CDO´s, tranche su objašnjene na jednostavan i lagan način i dovede te da razmišljaš o tome kako je moguće da ljudi koji su radili sa tim stvarima nisu vidjeli na šta će to sve izaći. I mi smo doduše slijepi tome što dolazi. Problem je što se stvari ništa nisu promijenile tako da sam sigurna da će krize poput 2007 sve češće dolaziti, što mene dovede da razmišljam o tome kako ustvari štediti za budućnost

I celebrated my birthday on 14 .th of November. The same day my son celebrated his second week. Such a fantastic gift! Even if he has been with us just for two weeks it feels like he has been around for ever.
For Ada though it is a mega shock. It took her two weeks to accept him and still she is fighting with the fear that I, her mother, will forget her.
First, she didn’t want to take Adrian home, but she would have preferred us to leave the baby in the hospital.
At home when she understood that the baby will stay, she used every “opportunity” to try to “kiss” (throw something on) the baby. Then that phase was over and she turned into a big baby. Suddenly from time to time, she wants to wear diapers and have a pacifier.
For the whole week now Ada has been sick and at home with me and the baby so I hope this is just some kind of a temporary adaption phase.
Last three days she has started to kiss the baby (without throwing things at him) but she is still quite jealous and fears that she will lose me. I feel sorry for my little girl and hope her fear will pass fast, but in meantime that Ada adapts I´ll continue kissing and cuddling with her 🙂
14.g novembra sam slavila rodjedan. Isti dan je Adrian slavio svoju drugu sedmicu. Predivan poklon! Iako je tu samo dvije sedmice meni se čini da je bio tu vječno.
Za Adu, međutim, je on jedan megašok. Trebalo joj je maltene dvije sedmice da ga prihvati i još uvijek se boji da ću je ja, njezina mama, ostaviti ili zaboraviti.
Prvo, nije htjela Adriana ni kući da dovedemo, nego ga htjela ostaviti u bolnici.
Kad smo došli kući i kad je vidjela da je vrag odnio šalu, da Adrian stvarno ostaje sa nama, onda je iskorištavala svaku priliku da ga „poljubi“ (nešto slučajno baci na njega). Kad je prošla ta faza onda je htjela da je tretiramo kao bebu- da joj obučemo pelene i htjela je cuclu.
Čitavu sedmicu je Ada bila bolesna i bila je kod kuće sa nama tako da se nadam da je samo jedna prolazna navikavajuća faza.
Zadnja tri dana je počela zaprave ljubiti brata bez da baca stvari na njega, ali je i dalje dosta ljubomorna i boji se još uvijek da će me izgubiti.
Moram reći da mi je žao kad vidim kako se bezveze boji i nadam se da će je brzo proći. A u međuvremenu ću je ja ljubiti i maziti 🙂

Today Adrian laughed at me for the first time. It is so cute, even if it still isn´t on purpose :). The mother instinct wakes up and one would want to have 10 children in that moment. It is interesting that blind children that have never seen a smiling person, also smile themselves.
Danas se Adrian prvi put meni nasmijao. To je tako slatko iako to jos nije namjerno. Odmah se majčinski instinkt probudi i volila bih imati 10. djece u tom momentu. Zanimljivo je da je smijeh instinkt i da se čak i slijepa djeca, koja nikad nisu vidjeli nekog kako se smije, smiju.