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Just friends after sex?

2008-01-23, 12:29 AM

A man has a primarily sexual casual relationship with a woman, while separated from a girlfriend of many years. As always, he decides to return to the ex.

He tells the other woman that the nature of their relationship has to now become one of friendship, one which he hopes not to lose. Since the gf is aware of the other woman, he says he probably shouldn't meet or talk with the other woman-- but, he emphasizes, only for a very, very short amount of time.

What are his intentions? Why does he insist to clarify that this is not the end for the other woman, and he'll be back soon? Does he really want to continue as platonic "friends," as he says?

wants the other woman on the back burner in case getting back with the ex doesnt work. he probably doesnt even want to date the other woman, just wants to keep everything civil so that he can sleep with her again.

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wants the other woman on the back burner in case getting back with the ex doesnt work. he probably doesnt even want to date the other woman, just wants to keep everything civil so that he can sleep with her again.

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wants the other woman on the back burner in case getting back with the ex doesnt work. he probably doesnt even want to date the other woman, just wants to keep everything civil so that he can sleep with her again.

Buyin BZ a beer...

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I'm just trying to figure out if I agree to see him now that he is in a relationship, or when he asks to hang out, if this is an infedility waiting to happen, or if we can truly just be innocent friends.

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I'm just trying to figure out if I agree to see him now that he is in a relationship, or when he asks to hang out, if this is an infedility waiting to happen, or if we can truly just be innocent friends.

The odds are highly stacked against that happening... the truth hurts.

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What are his intentions? Why does he insist to clarify that this is not the end for the other woman, and he'll be back soon? Does he really want to continue as platonic "friends," as he says?

I think another question should be asked here: Why dowomen presume some people on a message board can read a guys mind when she herself has never asked him these same questions and gotten some straightforward answers from him?