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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+usI am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

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Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

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Friday, August 30, 2013

WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?????

Now that same sex couple marriage licenses are being issued in counties all over NM the question has been posed to us just about every day, multiple times a
day- WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?????

I do truly appreciate the enthusiasm, in which people are
asking us, and I am really looking forward to being legal as well, but I do not
want to have it in some courthouse with just us. I want my wife and slave to have
a proper wedding. You know - the dress, the ring, the ritual, the food, and the
honeymoon, just like any other traditional interracial leather lesbian couple.
HAHAHA!

So yes, we are talking about
getting married, again.

Honestly though – I am going to need to get past my anger
first. This may sound stupid, and maybe you won’t understand unless you are not
allowed to marry, but I am angry. I
guess now that we can be legal the last 11 years that I have loved, honored,
cared for and provided for my wife didn’t matter, and I am supposed to get all
excited because now it can matter? What about those years? What about our first
wedding – not legally recognized?

Why am I supposed to jump for joy because I get to jump
through government hoops for something that should have always been? So that I can have half a marriage certificate
that is still not state of federally recognized?

That is what makes me angry and hurt. That is why I am
taking this slow- yes I want to marry her legally- but WHAT IF? What if we go
get our license and the state does something completely out of left field and I
am left with a document that isn’t worth the price of the paper that it was printed
on. I can’t bear that thought. That we would marry again this time with the
hope and joy if it being legal only to be left holding piece of paper that would
be a running joke to those that had taken it away.

It would cut too deeply I think.

On one hand I hold this image of her- wedding gown, flowers,
surrounded by loved ones, walking down that isle with a veil. Putting on that
ring, doing that first “official” kiss of legal marriage, and the honey moon-
yea! That is so sexy- her and I on this big soft bed watching TV, the wedding cake
between us and only one spoon. (What did
you think we were going to do? PERVERT!!!)

But what about all of our other kisses, were they not real
enough, “official” enough, did they not matter?

I know – maybe I am over thinking this, but it is how I feel.
I know that when we start the official planning for the wedding, this will fall
away to the joy that I will feel being her wife in the legal world. But right
now- I am her wife. I always have been. We were married, legal or not, and we
have been for 8 years.

So when people say to me “so when are you going to get
married” I think, I already am married.

When people say this to me and they
know me and my wife and the fact that we had a wedding, and we have been together
for 11 years, it makes me pause. I know that they are well-meaning, but it
makes me feel like they never really saw us as a married couple. We didn’t go around
introducing ourselves as “partner” or “fiance” or “girlfriend” we have always
used the word “wife.” I know that isn’t their
intent; but it stings.

So after some talking, my wife and I decided that we weren’t
going to do this until we are ready, and that when we do get that piece of paper
for us it will be the renewing of vows.We found that was how we could both wrap
our heads around this concept of getting “married” again.

When it is time we will know. And the party will
be EPIC!

UPDATE: the IRS will recognize same sex marriages federally. Time to plan the party!

4 comments:

Peoples enthusiasm can often expose their ignorance, well meaning though it may be. I look forward to the renewing of your vows as that is what it is. Your first marriage was for you and your family and your wife that is what matters. The second marriage will be a reminder of that love, it will in no way diminish that love. Your family from NM will be there to support you and encourage you. All of them will know it is a renewing of your vows and will honor your time "served" as it were. So don't think of it as a reset but instead as passing through Go again on the board game of life. This time you get tax benefits when you file and social security protections for your slave. maybe my enthusiasm is exposing my ignorance, and please tell me if it is, but i can think of nothing more important then celebrating your love and adding another level of financial protections for your wife. Plus it's gonna be one hell of a party!

Thank you so much pepsquad! You are right, and I have worked past some of this and am starting to get excited about what this could mean. Your words have helped with me getting past some anger! You rock! And as far as an officiant---- I will definitely keep you in mind! HOW SWEET!!!!

In our eyes, you will be no more married when you make it "legal" than you are today. Without a doubt, you are an amazing married couple! With all that said, I am so grateful that New Mexico is finally realizing this is a civil rights issue.... that you deserve the right to get that piece of paper! When, and if that day comes, we will celebrate with you! Until then, and for ever more, we will honor you as the loving married couple you are today!

About Me

I am a Master identified lesbian. My slave and I have been together in in a 24/7 dynamic for 14years. This shows how patient she really is... I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us." It is available here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I love discussing M/s in real life terms, not just the ones put out there by unrealistic, holier then thou, better then everyone people. We are real people living a real life, it involves mistakes, miscommunication, undone chores, and the experiment gone wrong. ie... playing with emergency candle wax. And neither I nor she will put out there that our flawed lives are any better then anyone else's!!!