I’ve been immersed in a life-changing program called “Coherence Lab” ably captained by Fabeku Fatunmise. When I say life-changing, I mean the way I see myself, my work and my life has all been tossed up into the Universe and I’m putting the pieces together as they fall back down. In the Lab, Fabeku talks about the concept of BIGNESS which he defines as “the clearest part of you that’s most connected to your power and potency.”

What does it mean to live into your BIGNESS? It means choosing love over fear every time. It means being willing to be seen. It means being willing to take up space.

It means bringing that part of you out in every possible instance and not being affected by fear. “BIGNESS sees possibilities that smallness can’t ever see,” Fabuku says.

The last two months have crystallized work I’ve been doing for years, looking at what it means to be seen. I’ve asked the Universe and my Guides to assist me with that work and help me take the big leap.

So, it did.

(Photo by Michael Ochs Archives/Getty Images)

Last Thursday, I was online when the reports of Prince’s death started making the rounds and I just flat out went into shock. Prince has been a presence in my life since I was 19 and his music has been my soundtrack. It was like time stood still and all I did was read online comments and cry.

Part of me knew that this grief, this extraordinary grief, was not just about Prince, although he was the catalyst for it. It was about losses never truly mourned when my dad died (I was 14) and when my goddaughter Lauren died in 2006. All of it came rushing to the surface and almost took me down.

Almost.

When the dust cleared, I came to understand this event, the work I’ve been doing and how it was dovetailing together. All three of those pivotal people in my life, my dad, goddaughter and Prince, lived their BIGNESS. Without apology. Sure, it looked different in them all but each one fully expressed his or her self with potency and power.

When the biggest part of the grief had ebbed away, I was not the same person. I wasn’t. I knew that the work I did leading up to this plus the shock release of enormous grief catapulted me to the other side really fast. My part was to feel the deep well of sadness and keep walking forward.

I spent the better part of three days posting on FB about my grief and sadness worrying that I was bothering people with it all. Here’s what I shared:
I have been feeling really bad about “spamming” everyone’s FB wall with my sorrow and grief over Prince. I know that’s my smallness talking – it’s the part of me that is scared to take up space with my stuff. (Interestingly, this is work I am doing in a life-changing program and the question he asks us to look at is “Are you willing to be seen? Are you willing to take up space?” Coincidence? Naw.)

My BIGNESS says that maybe my openly processing what’s going on with me helps someone else. I know I’ve been helped when others share their emotions, even if I don’t always understand it.

It’s a process. One step.

It’s a process. One step.

This lovely quote by Mira Jacob (thank you!) helped me not worry about grieving and posting so much. As Fabeku would say, this is what’s called “Being willing to take up space”. I chose to take up space unapologetically (mostly).

Mira Jacob
April 23 at 10:18am · New York, NY ·
I’ve been noticing a funny phenomenon of some of my friends being embarrassed by the intensity of their grief over Prince. I didn’t know him, they say. It’s not like we were friends. I’m sorry I’m so emotional. They act like they’ve co-opted their sadness, like they’re squatting in a feeling that isn’t theirs to inhabit. Which, I just want to say, as lovingly as possible, is total bullshit. Of course you knew him. Of course you are shattered. That’s the whole deal with art—it doesn’t give a shit about the boundaries of flesh. You never held Prince? So what. The way he spoke to you, the way he shaped you and transformed you into someone you couldn’t have imagined is just as real and vital as any relationship you will ever have. I mean listen, if we as a people need to apologize for something, I will gladly nominate global warming, or the Kardashians, or fat-free cream cheese. But loving and grieving a man we never touched? That is us at our very, very best. No apology necessary.

Okay, then. None given.

Lessons, Lisa?

There are several, really:

1. When you ask the Universe to support your intention, don’t be surprised if it does that in a way that isn’t pleasant. Your most favorite performer doesn’t have to suddenly depart this earth, as was my case, but if you’re ready for that shift, it WILL come.

2. When you’re ready to really BE your BIGNESS, it feels scary as all hell. Then, POOF! You’re there. You know what it feels like and you can access it whenever you want. Just tell smallness to hush and go back to shining. You can’t tell me at some point (maybe more than one) Prince had those voices and fears rise up. He chose to show up BIG every time.

3. This is work I’ve been doing with my clients all along but didn’t have it quite as focused as I do now. Sometimes, it takes a brick to the head to see what’s been there all along. Prince’s sudden death was my brick.

This week, I received an email from one of my dear readers that really stopped me in my tracks.

She shared that with all my talk of re-branding, her concern was that I’d leave behind all the unique things that made Practically Intuitive so dear to her heart.

Things like intuitive readings, helping connect people with their Guides and Teachers and being open to guiding people where they are, whether they are in business or not. Things I’ve done since the very beginning of Practically Intuitive in 2010.

Maybe from YOUR perspective, too?

In all my excitement about expanding, I didn’t really make it clear that Practically Intuitive isn’t going away. I’m just creating an addition to what I’ve done all along with an even clearer focus on guiding people to imagine, believe in and achieve their biggest vision.

And I’m doing it the way I always have – by getting on the phone with you and holding the space for what’s possible. So many amazing things can come from being in a space where someone sees your heart and soul and reflects that back to you.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ve watched my path open up and it’s because I was willing to get in there and look at myself, my life and what I know I’m here to do AND make changes as I go. I didn’t just wake up one morning and decide all my visibility issues or fears of not being good enough were gone.I talked, thrashed and cried my way through. I have someone who holds this space for me and it’s thanks to her that I am where I am in my life.

I can be that person for you – the one who meets you where you are, takes your hand and walks forward with you.

(I use this picture a lot because it carries the energy of my work with my clients.)

Whatever that vision is for you – whether it’s a more empowered life, a business that makes your soul sing, or a relationship that supports you fully, I’m here to help in a way that lifts you up and supports your growth.

It’s what I’ve done in many different ways over the past five years.

If you’d like to talk with me – about anything and get perspectives, guidance and support, you can do that now at a significant savings.

How does it get better than that?

This is not a special and it has no expiration date. Buy it now, buy it later, it’s all good. While it’s on the site as a reading with your Spirit Guides still, you can use it for anything you want. (Truly!)

Isn’t life that way, lots of times? The stories we tell ourselves (and show others) can sometimes be very different than what’s going on. I find it’s that way in the entrepreneurial world, too. Look behind the curtain of flashy websites and claims of $10,000 months and it’s all there.

This is why alignment of your inner and outer self is so important, not just in business but in your life. When you go with the flow (of your skills, of your inner desires, etc.) life seems to get a lot easier. Not saying it’s all easy but easier.

As I’m studying Beth Grant’s Archetype Alignment Grid for Certification, I’m looking at all the different natural styles (Truth Guide, Guru Star, Connector and Supporter). Where I see people run aground is trying to market in a style that isn’t natural for them. In other words, they’re trying to be what they’re not. And it shows. (And it shows up really big energetically. If your clients are highly conscious people, they’ll know right off the bat.)

Whether it’s on Instagram, Facebook or some other online platform, jut be who you are. I don’t mean you have to wander around in your pajamas with messed up hair all the time (is that just me?) but show us the real you.

That’s what people crave. Authenticity.

So, here you go – an authentic picture of me, messy hair on the beach and all. Enjoy! 🙂

I’ll start this post out by saying that I have a very difficult time receiving. I much prefer giving because, well, it’s easier and more fun for me. Picking out just the right card and gift is an art and it’s one I’m quite good at doing, thankyouverymuch.

Still, if you’re always giving and not often receiving (gifts, compliments, help, etc.) then the balance is way off. You aren’t being re-fueled in a way that supports you. Before you know it, you’re depleted and resentful.

This was me, several weeks ago. I was all grumbly and sad because it felt like I was giving a lot and no one was giving back.I asked a few trusted friends if I put off the energy of not needing anything and I got a pretty unequivocal YES.

It was kind of humbling to realize that I was the one shutting myself off from getting what I most wanted. I was so afraid that I’d come across as a whiny 5-year old, begging someone to pay attention to me, that I managed to go in the opposite direction and act like I needed nothing.Then I ran around feeling hurt because no one paid attention to me.

Geez, Lisa.

Ah! But there’s a silver lining!

Since I’m the one blocking the way, I’m also the one that can move. The shift is mine to make. I’m not sitting around waiting on someone else to change so I can be happy and get what I need. It’s all in my hands.

What about you?

Are you a perpetual giver but a craptastic receiver?

Why might that balance be off?

What payoff are you getting for never allowing anything in?

(There’s always a payoff! Mine was a desperate fear of looking needy so the payoff wasno one could judge me for looking needy if I refused to show what I need. As if I had any control over what others thought about me anyway!)

Once upon a time in a land far away (better known as 2010) I created something called“Email Coaching with your Guide Team”.

Here’s how it worked: each Sunday, I channeled a message from my client’s Guide Team for them to take action on during the week. They’d correspond with me and let me know what happened as a result of that action.

Sounded good to me in theory. In practice, not so much.

What happened was I started getting emails from my clients asking “what do the guides think I should do about this?” or “what do my guides say I need to do now?”

Hmmm. That wasn’t how I envisioned it.

What happened was that I created a space (unintentionally) that fostered a dependence on whatever edict was handed down from the Guide team. Shoot. Once I saw that, I ended that program quickly because that is so NOT the way to work with these high vibrational beings.

They do not wish to foster dependence on their words for they are not the ones taking action here in the physical. You are. You must always be the one to make those choices and when you wait with bated breath for their next utterance, you are giving away your self-authority.

If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I’m big on self-authority. Here’s what I wrote about it back in 2011:

Self-authority (as I understand it) means having the ability to discern what is for your highest good and acting on it.

For example, society’s mores say that you won’t get a good job without a college degree. Your parents think it, your friends think it but what if you don’t? What if you feel like it’s not something you want to pursue and decide to go your own way? To stand up to those who believe otherwise is using your own self-authority.

Self authority means making decisions and accepting the consequences of those decisions without blaming it on another. It means knowing that everything that comes your way, good, bad or neutral, is a result of decisions you’ve made. It means stepping out of the victim shoes and into your own powerful ones.

Spirit Guides are amazing beings of light but they are not there to tell you what to do. Whether that’s in your business, in your love life, in your inner thoughts, it all comes back to you.

Don’t outsource your authority to them – they won’t take it (and will always turn the question back to you) and you are putting yourself in a position of powerlessness. And that position will not serve you in the long run.

Co-Create with your Guides – that’s what they’re there for. Be in charge of your life and ask your trusted advisors (both in spirit and in human form!) for their input and suggestions. But it all comes down to YOU.

I’ve kept a personal blog for over twelve years (hey! I have a lot to say!) and found this entry from 2011 and thought I’d share it.

(BTW, “Duty” is what I call my husband since he’s all about it)

For reals: OMFG, y’all

So, let’s recap, shall we:

1. I have sincere conversation with Duty about a timeline for my leaving pain in the ass day job. He says “$6000 in the bank and a possible part time job and then I might feel okay about it.”

1a. I haz a sad about it because I cannot stand day job any more.

2. Vow that no one shall stand in the way of what I want. Choose $3000/empowerment for manifesting amount and words, mindful that this is double what I had last month but what the hell, right? I can stand a bit of chaos.

2a. Universe laughs. And the thunder chaos rolls.

3. Forced to take on 3x the amount of responsibility at work. Whole office is in uproar as the departure of one person has created a tear in the time-space continuum and all goes to hell on board the USS Enterprise.

4. At night, brain too fried to create classes as planned. Whole month’s income goes down the toilet as I barely make $1000.

5. Begin to make peace with the fact that $3000 and an “I will show all of you not to get in my way” attitude does not an abundant month make.

6. Work diligently at creating a more peaceful space and let go of the urgency to leave that damn job NOW.

7. Take a class on energy and family dynamics wherein I am told that a big part of my work now is to forgive myself for all that I have done or not done and to move on from that place. Truly forgive from a heartful place of compassion.

8. Take 2nd glass of wine, sit out under the stars and cry into a place of self-forgiveness for all manner of stupid shit in life.

9. Begin again to feel at peace with the flow of things.

10. Damn near crap my pants as $6000 falls into my lap out of nowhere. (I am so not kidding. It really did.)

11. Listen to Duty nearly crap his pants as I point out to him that he said if I had $6000 in the bank, I could quit day job. Know that he’s going to rain on my parade with this somehow but hope he gets that this is a gift from the Universe delivered through a specific channel. He both rains and gets.

12. Remind him that he told me last summer “I’m not sure I totally understand all this stuff you do but I have to say that weird things do happen around you that I can’t explain.”

13. Mention that I am not planning on leaving job tomorrow (or even in a month) but September is what I’m shooting for. Hear him heave a sigh of relief.

14. Laugh to myself about how the Universe and my Angels always, always amaze me.

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Hi, I'm LIsa!

I help intuitives, soul-preneurs and healers expand their gifts and build a solid business so they can stop giving their gifts away for free, get the tools and strategies to reach more people and make a real impact in the world!