RULES OF THE BOARD. READ HERE BEFORE POSTING!

First and foremost. If you are in an abusive relationship please read and use this information to be safe:

This is the national hotline for women in the USA.

***If English is not your first language, there are interpreters for over 170 languages***

National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

If you need immediate help please use the right number for you below:

N USA-- 911 N Australia-- 000 N Canada-- 911 N The UK-- 999

Some reminders:

1) Sarcasm isn't a personal attack.

2) Swearing is allowed here. You can swear in the body of your post however, Community (the people that own and run this site) has decreed that it is a violation to swear in the titles of your posts.

3) Unless you are positing about being abused or leaving an abusive situation your thread will not be deleted when you have your ass handed to you. Closed maybe.

4) The support on this board is given with a side of honesty. We aren't going to kiss your bottom and tell you what you want to hear. We will support you in having good communication with your spouse, we will support you in leaving abusive situations, and we will support you and you work through issues in your relationship. We will tell you when we think you are wrong, and we will tell you when we think something could be a mistake.

5) This is a public board. If you put it out there folks are going to read it and respond to it. You don't get to dictate how folks respond to you.

This rule isn't carte blanche for folks to be nasty by calling OPs names, questioning their moral code because you don't agree with their life or marriage choices (see rule #8). There is a way to be civil and direct and then there is just being nasty.

6) C&P is standard here and applied across the board. Rules on a deletion of a C&P are the same as the rules on deletion of a post.

It isn't a vio. BBC has decided it isn't a violation and understands that we do it to protect GO's and posters from false reports.

If folks didn't hairflip, delete and abuse the report button we wouldn't need to C&P so we have a record of original posts.

So blame the bad apples that spoiled it for the rest of you.

7) Threads created to disrupt this board, bitch about this board or the GO's on this board will be closed. Continued posting about it will result in a complaint filed with Community.

8) If you can't be tolerant then this might not be the board for you. There are many types of marriages. Some are open, some are not. Some are abusive, some are not. Some have cheating, some don't. Some are faith based, some are not.

All posters are welcome here to post their stories and experiences.

All constructive advice is welcomed. (Ewww that's so sick is not constructive in case you were wondering)

If you aren't a fan of how this board is open to all marriage types and situations please feel free to start your own featuring marriages that are exactly like yours.

9) This is the Internet. What you put on here stays on here and the content never really goes away. If you post a photo on this board it will be able to be Googled long after you thought no one can find it. It's called cache.

To the Posters BEWARE. This is a PUBLIC site on the INTERNET. There is ZERO guarentee of privacy and once you put it out there it will be out there forever.

10) This is the internet and if you want to sling mud at someone don't get your panties in a bunch when people call you on it. Or when people sling mud back. Pot meet kettle.

11) This isn't a venting board either. Just because you put I just need to vent/Venting/Just a Vent on something doesn't mean you get carte blanche to post whatever you want and expect folks to not respond or hold back what they really think.

This goes hand in hand with rules #4 and #5.

12) Textspeak posts, poor grammar, and auto correct fails make it hard for people to not only understand you but fully understand your problem(s). If you really wish to get advice from this group we highly encourage using words that are at least not a collection of letters and numbers.

Kr8tive speling maks u hrd 2 fall-o. Typos happen but turn off your autocorrect if you find you are constantly asking for anal instead of advice.

Futher to that point paragraphs are good mmmmkay. Walls of text are just hard to read.

Posting in all caps is considered yelling at someone. It is considered rude to do it. If folks aren't responding to you or asking why you are yelling all the time this could be why.

13) It is considered polite to contact a GO prior to posting a link to your new board.

14) Nobody needs you to remind them that they aren't posting lovey dovey my marriage is so wonderful posts. Folks come here to talk when they are having issues and problems like many of the advice boards on BBC. No one needs to be chided about how negative it is around here. I don't think there is a Marriage - Rainbows and Unicorns board. Feel free to start one.

15) We can't give you legal advice or medical advice. If you need legal advice please contact a local lawyer. If you find you can't afford one please contact the local law school as many of them run free law clinics with last year students getting hands on experience. If you need medical or psychological advice please contact your Dr or head into a walk in clinic. It is against guidelines for any poster here to give you legal or medical advice.

16) The report button isn't for when you get your feelings hurt because someone spoke frankly to you. Someone being frank isn't being rude and it isn't a violation of guidelines therefore your report will be ignored.

17) Any poster that is abused in a PAN is strongly encouraged to report that to Community.

18) You don't have to like these rules however, keep in mind that while they will be enforced against you they will also be enforced for you when you are on the other end of someone's opinion.

19) It is a violation of guidelines to link to threads from other boards on Babycenter. This is common knowledge. Folks that violate that guideline will find their posts deleted and their accounts reported to Community.

20) We don't tolerate man bashing here. Yes, the men talked about on this board are often not going to be finalists for Man of the Year. That doesn't give you carte blanche to start using generalizations and your own tainted experiences as fact about all men. Your posts will be deleted and you will be warned the first time. The next time you will be reported to Community as a disruption.

21) Your opinion isn't a recognizable fact. Doesn't matter if you think it is true I doubt it can be located in a set of Encyclopedia Brittanicas.

22) We don't mind the occassional OT, we post them ourselves, but if you are wondering if you are pregnant (for example) there are boards whose entire purpose is to discuss your cycles and your bodily functions. So if you want to talk the ins and outs of pregnancy check those boards, if you want to debate The Debate Team would love to have you stop by, and if you aren't sure it should be here then please ask a GO before posting.

23) You WILL NOT call posts fake or imply that posters are trolls. This is a violation of Community's Guidelines and not some random rule. Yes, sometimes things can be unbelievable but that doesn't automatically make them fake.

24) Unless Eva Braun is posting here, and that seems very unlikely given her current deceased status, any posts comparing anyone to Hitler will be deleted and reported as being disruptive. That is just not called for.

25) This just came down from Community. It is a violation to use the terms Parenting Fail/ Fail. It is also a violation to state that you feel sorry for the children in a situation.

26) In case folks aren't up on the hirarchy around here, and given recent hissy fit in my direction seems some aren't, Community has their set rules and guidelines. You agree to them when you agree to the Terms of Service when activating your account. Community's rules are enforced by Group Owners. If you don't like when a GO enforces the rules as set by Community please reach out to a Moderator with your complaints.

27) To clarify what kind of board we are. We give advice and our honest opinions. That is how we give support to those who post on here. We are not going to blindly pat posters on the back when they post. We are not going to sing "Sisters Are Doing It For Themselves" with posters who stay in or keep their children in dangerous situations. Our support is to empower and encourage our posters to do what is best for them.

28) Effective immediately any thread that has a "PAN me the background from another board request" will be closed. Asking for PANs is considered Disruption of Community. No warnings will be given. If someone has information you want then PAN them directly and ask for it.

Shirley

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2Gs Out!

Now 3 Geminis, 1 Aries and 1 Libra...

"Well, like the philosopher Jagger once said, “You can’t always get what you want.” - Greg House

3) Unless you are positing about being abused or leaving an abusive situation your thread will not be deleted when you have your ass handed to you. Closed maybe.

4) This is an advice board not a support board. There is a difference. We've got strong minded posters and they aren't afraid to tell you what they really think. If you want support please go to your birth board because that is support board.

5) This is a public board. If you put it out there folks are going to read it and respond to it. You don't get to dictate how folks respond to you.

That is all. Find me in the Sheriff's office.

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I was TRYING to get a SPANKING! But geez, it didn't work. How about if I and then run away?