I have always had issues with control. I have a deep seeded belief that 1 – I’m the only one that can really take care of everything and 2 – When things happen without my “permission” it makes me feel disoriented. As neither one of these beliefs are true and/or sustainable, I’ve had to work on myself.

I’m the only one that can take care of everything is a God like complex which doesn’t give much trust to others and overwhelms the self. The way I have found to deal with this is to let go. I do what I can and the rest I let go. And if things don’t turn out quite the way I expected, I deal with that once it comes to pass. I literally say to myself: “Let go”. And then I ask: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” And then I finally end with: “Taking care of everything all the time is an impossible and exhausting way to live. Truly you don’t want to live like that.” After these three questions and statements, I’m ready to let go followed by a long deep breath.