Heck, I had my hands up, swaying back and forth in time to the music in my head.

... um, why is everyone in the office staring at me?

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My cousin's memoir of love and loneliness while raising a child with multiple disabilities will be out on Amazon soon! Know the Night, by Maria Mutch, has been called "full of hope, light, and companionship for surviving the small hours of the night."

Our neighbor, the one with whom I went out to lunch with and the bully seemed to have a problem with the whole notion of our being friends, had a party for, "the big game" this past Sunday. The bully and her family were not invited. The neigbor who had the party made a point of telling me that she was NOT included and wouldn't be there. She said at one point in the evening that she and other people at the party made bets on how quickly it would be before the bully and her family were at the door. Thankfully they never showed.

The neighbor's daughter, who is fifteen, was telling me that the bully tries to bully her and pick fights with her! How awful for a grown woman to do that to a child!

Now, the bully has called my cell phone twice today and called the neighbor who had the party, too. Both of us are ignoring her calls and she is not leaving messages. And you know what? I'm not all bothered and shaken up by it, as I would have been in the past.

Because of your help, e-hellion friends, I'm getting better! THANK YOU! (I hope it lasts if I see her in person!)

"Hey not sure if you're up to it but I was wondering if you had a few minutes to chat. I've been bothered about something and I can't get it off my mind. I tried calling you earlier but I figured you were just busy with the kids. If you can please give me a ring. Thanks"

I'm going to ignore it - at least for now. If I do respond, I'll probably say I've been busy. But why does she feel she needs to talk to me about something that's bothering her (I'm assuming about me)? And I'm to ease her mind? I don't think so.

If you have any additional advice or another way to handle this, I'm all ears.

"Hey not sure if you're up to it but I was wondering if you had a few minutes to chat. I've been bothered about something and I can't get it off my mind. I tried calling you earlier but I figured you were just busy with the kids. If you can please give me a ring. Thanks"

I'm going to ignore it - at least for now. If I do respond, I'll probably say I've been busy. But why does she feel she needs to talk to me about something that's bothering her (I'm assuming about me)? And I'm to ease her mind? I don't think so.

If you have any additional advice or another way to handle this, I'm all ears.

I'd ignore for now. Maybe forever. But if you do reply, at least give it a day or so, and then something vague "yeah been busy, hope all is resolved!" and that's that. I wouldn't speak to her on the phone though. I think ignoring is the best thing, but because she is your neighbor I understand if you don't want to total cut direct.

(I'm betting whats bugging her is she knows your other neighbor had a party and that you and several others went and she is hurt she wasn't invited.)

I'd ignore for now. Maybe forever. But if you do reply, at least give it a day or so, and then something vague "yeah been busy, hope all is resolved!" and that's that. I wouldn't speak to her on the phone though. I think ignoring is the best thing, but because she is your neighbor I understand if you don't want to total cut direct.

(I'm betting whats bugging her is she knows your other neighbor had a party and that you and several others went and she is hurt she wasn't invited.)

I love the, "Hope all is resolved"! That's perfect!

True about not wanting to cut direct because we're neighbors. I'm fine with a wave hello or a general facebook post - which she sent me last week and I acknowledged. But I'm done reaching out to her or giving her the opportunity to attact me.