Kesiena Boomhttp://kesienaboom.com
Writer and SpeakerSat, 14 Oct 2017 09:43:09 +0000en-UShourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.2How to be the Ultimate Sex Party Guesthttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-to-be-the-ultimate-sex-party-guest/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-to-be-the-ultimate-sex-party-guest/#commentsSat, 14 Oct 2017 09:36:42 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=262So you’re going to a sex party, because why the fuck not? It’s 2017 and you definitely should make some time for a little bit of sex partying before the world ends right? Maybe this is your first time, or maybe you’ve been to a couple before. Either way, the following tips will ensure that you’re the ultimate sex party… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-to-be-the-ultimate-sex-party-guest/feed/0How Polyamory Can Improve a Relationshiphttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-polyamory-can-improve-a-relationship/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-polyamory-can-improve-a-relationship/#commentsWed, 23 Aug 2017 18:02:56 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=251Polyamory…what is it?! Well, it’s just a word for “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy“. That is, a poly person will openly engage in (or be open to engaging in) more than one intimate relationship at a time. One might have two girlfriends, or a husband and a boyfriend, or be casually dating multiple people. The scope and scale of what a poly… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/how-polyamory-can-improve-a-relationship/feed/0When a Fetish Becomes Harmfulhttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/when-a-fetish-becomes-harmful/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/when-a-fetish-becomes-harmful/#commentsTue, 25 Jul 2017 09:59:33 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=244Our sex lives are highly personal, so it makes sense that when certain aspects of them are scrutinized, people can become defensive. However, sex is not part of a magical separate sphere immune to social structures of oppression. Therefore, the doors of the bedroom are not a hard line where all critique disappears when it’s crossed. It’s important to remember… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/when-a-fetish-becomes-harmful/feed/0Society’s Obsession with Penetrative Sex is Messing with our Orgasmshttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/societys-obsession-with-penetrative-sex-is-messing-with-our-orgasms/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/societys-obsession-with-penetrative-sex-is-messing-with-our-orgasms/#commentsTue, 20 Jun 2017 16:08:12 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=241Hi! So I recently landed a twice-a-month sex column writing for Unbound, a New York based female owned/run sex toy start up who make beautiful sex toys which double up as elegant jewellery. My first column instalment focuses on the joys of non-penetrative sex and questions why penetration is seen as the be all and end all. Check out an… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/societys-obsession-with-penetrative-sex-is-messing-with-our-orgasms/feed/0Hollow Rhetoric: Why Theresa May and Justine Greening Aren’t Enough for LGBT Womenhttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/hollow-rhetoric-why-theresa-may-and-justine-greening-arent-enough-for-lgbt-women/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/hollow-rhetoric-why-theresa-may-and-justine-greening-arent-enough-for-lgbt-women/#commentsSun, 18 Sep 2016 14:52:29 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=230Read my latest article in the October 2016 issue of DIVA Magazine available to purchase here: http://divadigital.co.uk/viewmagazine.aspx?title=DIVA+Magazine&titleid=33 The article exposes how Theresa May and Justine Greening’s rhetoric of social justice is merely a facade covering a deeply unprogressive and hurtful voting record. Their appointments to Prime Minister and Women + Equalities/Education Minister are far from good news for lesbian/bisexual… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/hollow-rhetoric-why-theresa-may-and-justine-greening-arent-enough-for-lgbt-women/feed/0Why I’m A Lesbian In A Queer Erahttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/why-im-a-lesbian-in-a-queer-era/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/why-im-a-lesbian-in-a-queer-era/#commentsSat, 24 Oct 2015 18:01:47 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=220This is an excerpt from my essay in the November 2015 issue of DIVA, available to buy here – http://www.divamag.co.uk/subscriptions/digital.aspx “Lesbians face derision from all angles- we still need physical places to have as our own, to name as our own and to build community in. Women’s marginalisation is not the sole preserve of the heterosexual world and if we… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/queer-sex-compulsory-sexuality-and-sex-positivity/feed/04 Tired Tropes That Perfectly Explain What Misogynoir Is – And How You Can Stop Ithttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/4-tired-tropes-that-perfectly-explain-what-misogynoir-is-and-how-you-can-stop-it/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/4-tired-tropes-that-perfectly-explain-what-misogynoir-is-and-how-you-can-stop-it/#commentsTue, 04 Aug 2015 13:09:54 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=209A few weeks ago, a white woman came up to me as I walked through my city’s queer district. She leered at me, barked “You’re hot” in my face, and reached out and roughly grabbed my breast. Now, this wasn’t the first time a stranger had touched my chest in public without my consent. And so while I was hurt… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/4-tired-tropes-that-perfectly-explain-what-misogynoir-is-and-how-you-can-stop-it/feed/0Thanks For Nothing: Black Women Don’t Owe White Feminism A Damn Thinghttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/thanks-for-nothing-black-women-dont-owe-white-feminism-a-damn-thing/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/thanks-for-nothing-black-women-dont-owe-white-feminism-a-damn-thing/#commentsSun, 26 Jul 2015 11:30:53 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=206White women’s mediocrity and propensity for wanting credit where none is due are the background noise of basic-ass feminism. This low level buzzing of bullshit is annoying as hell, but I’ve mainly gotten used to it and can usually go about my business without paying it much mind. Sometimes, however, the buzz becomes so high pitched and ridiculous that I… Read more →

]]>http://kesienaboom.com/writing/thanks-for-nothing-black-women-dont-owe-white-feminism-a-damn-thing/feed/0On the Nurturing Potential of Black Lesbian Relationshipshttp://kesienaboom.com/writing/on-the-nurturing-potential-of-black-lesbian-relationships/
http://kesienaboom.com/writing/on-the-nurturing-potential-of-black-lesbian-relationships/#commentsSun, 19 Jul 2015 17:54:15 +0000http://kesienaboom.com/?p=202For anyone who knows me — and quite a few people who don’t (thanks to this essay I recently published about the whole sorry mess) — it’s no secret that I have made some really awful decisions with regard to my love life. To be specific, it is widely known that for a significant period of time I dated and lusted… Read more →