I think that there's some of that in every man, yet most porn portrays women as highly sexed, willing and as active as men - the image of themselves but in the female body. While that could be true for some I believe the majority secretly yearn for a more submissive woman, There's no doubt in my mind that sexually speaking men and women have vastly different physical and mental needs. Men are generally more selfish while women think about the enjoyment of the couple as a whole. Men are more visually driven, with more a need to dominate, while women are more mentally driven and more interesting in pleasing a partner.

I disagree. The biggest hoax they've pulled on both sexes is that man are selfish while women are caring and self sacrificing. But for generations men have sacrificed everything to care for their families. Whatever personal ambition they had they put aside to make sure their families were well provided for and taken care of. They even sacrificed their lives by dying in the millions in the many wars that have plagued humanity. They say there are no atheists in fox holes, but similarly there are no feminists when a ship goes down and there are not enough life boats, because who gets to stay behind? And now that we have easy divorce, alimony and custody laws, which sex is proving itself to be more selfish? Not men. And in my experience women in general do not appreciate or care of the sacrifices we men make for them.

Even with sex, what makes a man feel more like he's ten feet tall and built like John Holmes? If the woman tells him, or he can notice that he fucked her brains out and made her cum like there was no tomorrow.

We are the less selfish sex. Maybe a reader may think of me as a bitter dude for having said all that, but actually I feel liberated for thinking like that. The truth will set you free and I do not hate women, or blame them for what they are. They are what billions of years of evolution have made them into. Made all of us to into. Only by truly understanding who and what we are, and what makes us tick do we gain any true freedom. Both for men and women.

A male need for anal is just taking all of this to it's logical conclusion and there is a lot to like in this fantasy (or the reality!) because it appeals directly to our natures, both for men and women. There is something very sexy about a woman giving up her anus, as you say regardless if it is what she wants at the time. Making it about pussy denial is the clearest indication that this is all about the male needs.

I wish there was more porn of the kind we've been discussing but the current trend is for assertive women going at it like rabbits, which doesn't do much for me personally.

I think its about knowing what your main market is. Young men have been bombarded by feminist propaganda and demonisation of everything masculine for decades now. A whole generation of men has grown up who are confused about their masculinity. It's all about submitting to the female narrative nowadays. That they have to be nice guys all the time. Happy wife, happy life, I have to ask the missus permission for basically everything down to tying my shoelaces. So porn that caters to that demographic, that an assertive women will come up to them and still bang their brains out, rather then ignore them as happens in real life, is appealing to them. In short, it's nerd porn.

I disagree. The biggest hoax they've pulled on both sexes is that man are selfish while women are caring and self sacrificing. But for generations men have sacrificed everything to care for their families. Whatever personal ambition they had they put aside to make sure their families were well provided for and taken care of. They even sacrificed their lives by dying in the millions in the many wars that have plagued humanity. They say there are no atheists in fox holes, but similarly there are no feminists when a ship goes down and there are not enough life boats, because who gets to stay behind? And now that we have easy divorce, alimony and custody laws, which sex is proving itself to be more selfish? Not men. And in my experience women in general do not appreciate or care of the sacrifices we men make for them.

Even with sex, what makes a man feel more like he's ten feet tall and built like John Holmes? If the woman tells him, or he can notice that he fucked her brains out and made her cum like there was no tomorrow.

We are the less selfish sex. Maybe a reader may think of me as a bitter dude for having said all that, but actually I feel liberated for thinking like that. The truth will set you free and I do not hate women, or blame them for what they are. They are what billions of years of evolution have made them into. Made all of us to into. Only by truly understanding who and what we are, and what makes us tick do we gain any true freedom. Both for men and women.

I think its about knowing what your main market is. Young men have been bombarded by feminist propaganda and demonisation of everything masculine for decades now. A whole generation of men has grown up who are confused about their masculinity. It's all about submitting to the female narrative nowadays. That they have to be nice guys all the time. Happy wife, happy life, I have to ask the missus permission for basically everything down to tying my shoelaces. So porn that caters to that demographic, that an assertive women will come up to them and still bang their brains out, rather then ignore them as happens in real life, is appealing to them. In short, it's nerd porn.

I agree with much of what you've said. I think the men are selfless in some ways, just as women are in others. The social contract was that men would be providers and protects, sometimes making the ultimate sacrifice, and in return women would be the home carers and provide sex, and in the latter role were expected to do so submissively and in a selfless way. That worked for hundreds of thousands of years. Now the whole thing has been turned on its head by radical feminism, which has attempted to remove all distinction, making millions of men and women confused and unhappy. Neither men or women know who they are or what they want anymore. I think many of the social developments of the last 50 or so years have been a huge mistake. Lots of people mistake these views with misogyny or think men and women have differing worth but thats not how I see it.

I think its great to be having this discussion. I wish I could do so elsewhere but the PC climate makes that nigh impossible to do without people getting the wrong idea and shouting you down. I'm getting a sense that change is in the air so perhaps it'll be possible soon.

I disagree. The biggest hoax they've pulled on both sexes is that man are selfish while women are caring and self sacrificing. But for generations men have sacrificed everything to care for their families. Whatever personal ambition they had they put aside to make sure their families were well provided for and taken care of. They even sacrificed their lives by dying in the millions in the many wars that have plagued humanity. They say there are no atheists in fox holes, but similarly there are no feminists when a ship goes down and there are not enough life boats, because who gets to stay behind?

Glad to see someone gets it. Men's lives have always been disposable compared to women. Most good men try their best to be good husbands & fathers. Those of us who choose to be soldiers like I did, are & were ready to put our lives on the line to protect others can't or couldn't protect themselves (or wouldn't protect themselves or others. Even when we were hated or looked down for choosing to be soldiers.)

And now that we have easy divorce, alimony and custody laws, which sex is proving itself to be more selfish? Not men. And in my experience women in general do not appreciate or care of the sacrifices we men make for them.

As for this part. Some men can be just selfish as women in these cases.

About the Anal Only Lifestyle

This community is focused on an anal only (AO) lifestyle, a term used as much to refer to vaginal abandonment as to anal sex. Whether you've already made a commitment to only have anal sex with a partner or are just turned on by the idea and were led here by perverted curiosity, you'll find yourself in good company. Everyone has their own little take on what anal only means to them, and the only thing that is strictly not allowed in the lifestyle is vaginal penetration. The transition to being anal only can take time and while some women may need clitoral stimulation along the way, the long term goal for many is typically to train the body to achieve orgasm from anal sex alone.