Well – I’m so looking forward to the videos . . .and wouldn’t blame you for making some that were more NC17+
I’m somewhat in agreement with the no ex situation and getting looked down upon while also finding relief there isn’t that contention, but what about us mothers that have children from more than one father? Though I haven’t dated under this circumstance yet, if I didn’t get looked down upon before, I am certain I will now because of having 3 kids by two fathers, neither of whom I married. Of course this may just be a great weeding out process for potential mates . . . thoughts?

Chiming in here. I once dated someone who had a teenage daughter, but I think as Tracey posted, he was one of those guys who was not so interested in dating someone with a little kid. He seemed to prefer to date unattached women.

I have also dated non dads, and that also had its issues, as covered above. Now I would like to try dating someone whose child is close in age to mine. How much fun it would be for each of our kids to have a playmate, and for us each to have a playmate

Anyway, RJ and Rachel…can’t wait to see your vlogs! I guess a question I have is: what is your secret to balancing dating and parenthood? That is one I am personally always needing ideas on.

RJ,
Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I only “bash” here and occasionally to loved ones when my daughter isn’t around, but never ever to her. She adores her father and I would never do anything to compromise that, because she will see it all on her own as she gets older. But even then, I will encourage her to talk to him directly about it, since only he can answer for his actions. It just blows my mind how any parent can turn away from his/her own flesh and blood and not look back. (He has been in and out of her life since birth, but never the constant that she deserves.)But I’m a leo, too, so you know I’m very strong.

Rachel and I have very similar situations, dealing with exes with addictions, but we’re both blessed to have beautiful daughters who are the joy of our lives. All else is secondary…

But enough about my drama. You have a very admirable upbringing and it was evident in how you conduct yourself as an adult.

Have fun with Rachel, and don’t feel at all pressured. You both have so may fans that you could BOMB in the videos and still get rave reviews!
LEM

Funny…I think you got mixed up for a second there. I’m actually a single dad in San Diego. I have my kids 4 days a week and they’re with their mom the other 3. That’s why I asked.

Sometimes it’s hard to make the commitment (like baking 2 birthday cakes the weekend before a huge trade show) but it’s worth it to see how much it means to my twins. It’s nice to see other committed dads even if it’s only online. Have a great trip.

Wow, after going through all of these posts (and reading about how adorable RJ is), I want to add my two cents here. First, RJ really is great. He’s an amazing father, son and friend. He genuinely loves, and he loves what he’s doing. I’m truly honored to share in his vision at SingleDad.com.

As for whether or not single Dads like dating single moms or single women, it really depends on the woman. I believe in love above all else, and if I’m able to find another woman who can love me and my sons, it honestly wouldn’t matter whether she had children or not. That also goes for women who have never married and have children. I wouldn’t be intimidated or judgmental in either case. I’d simply want to make sure that when you look in my eyes and I look in yours, we both know that nothing in this world can pull us apart. If we can share that look, that understanding, does anything else matter? I don’t think it would. But you have to come to that place and make that connection, and you have to want it. Just my two cents…

First I’d like to say that I always wanted children. I had good parents but I always thought I could do better with my own children and inspire them and motivate them rather than heap guilt on them for failing to meet my expectations. Having said that I should also mention that I have custody of my son and I am very thankful… my ex didn’t want children but didn’t understand the concept of birth control so my son was born 9 months after we were married. And he is a blast. She ultimately left for a trailer park relationship and I was left being the responsible parent. I was pretty miserable. Here I had thought I wanted this relationship to work out but I was the only one. Then a met a friend. Her name is Angel and she now has three children from three different fathers and the relationships are not functional even now. But she has been kind to me and I adore her children – I even helped her through her last pregnancy. To me, children from other men are not an issue… I can be a good mentor and role model and don’t have to be a new daddy. I acknowledge they have other fathers but while I’m around I want to help the kids establish good values, with their mother, that they can carry with them through their lives. This is something I hope to do for Angel and her children. She’s just starting to warm up to me by letting me a little bit further into her life.