(Closed) Do we have to do favors?

I keep hearing how half the time brides stress about favors and then half the guests leave without them or throw them away. We’re doing really cute out of town bags for our out of town guests… Our budget is pretty tight… is it completely tacky if we don’t do favors?

They aren’t required, nor is it rude to not have any. Most people skip them because they don’t care about them or aren’t able to afford them, and if they do attend a wedding that has favors, the favors go completely unnoticed, even when edible, or else they get tossed out when the guests get home. Most guests prefer that you save your money and don’t do them at all.

No you do not need to do them! They are just extra and will go unnoticed anyways! Seriously the past 2 weddings I have gone to did not have any favors (I only noticed because as a soon to be bride I am looking out for them for ideas!) and no one cared!!

We won’t be doing favors, we’re paying for a nice meal, open bar and providing transportation for people who drink too much–we can’t really afford more than that! If they really want a favor that badly they can take a flower or something from the centerpieces 😉

Favors aren’t a requirement. The last wedding I was at, the bride just used some colorful tulle bags and slipped a few hershey kisses in them. Before we left, I noticed TONS on the tables still. My FI took a couple extra for himself…lol…but it seemed like a lot of money was wasted. ): We will be doing favors, but only because the FMIL is crafty and wanted to take on the task herself, so it won’t be coming from our budget. I have planned a ‘candy bar’ at the reception, and was going to do that in place of favors. Any extra candy left over sure wouldn’t go to waste between the FI and our family members, so I figured that would be a good replacement. All in all, I agree with the other ladies…not worth the time or the the money, unless you have it to spare.

FI and I wanted to skip the favors as well. There is nothing we’re really excited about doing and they cost a lot of money so we thought, lets skip ’em! Anyway, when I mentioned this to FSIL she said we should do them. She said technically, the favor is the “Thank You” on the day. I was like, WTF?? I have to give a favor to say Thank You? What about the cocktail hour, dinner, and open bar we are providing? And also the Thank You card I will personally write out and mail to you after the wedding? I personally think favors are unnecessary but now after her comments I am paranoid that other people will feel the same way she does if we don’t do them 🙁

Honestly, I don’t think people now day care about wedding favors. Most of them are cheap store-bought trinkets that people either forget or trash. I think wedding favors are perfect for a smaller, intimate wedding where the favors are maybe handmade or more significant. To answer your question, NO you don’t have to give out favors.

In my culture, favours are a given. Yet, I’ve always found them unnecessary and more often than not I forget to take them with me when I leave the wedding. However, my parents are insisting, and everybody going to the wedding will be mortified if we don’t have them, so we’re doing them. I’m determined not to spend too much on them though.