I am currently in a heterosexual relationship, and our sex life is pretty good. However, I can only achieve orgasm during oral sex. I am getting sick and tired of hearing my friends talk about how great their respective lovers are, and I am feeling like a freak. Can you offer any advice?

You are absolutely not a freak! Your self-described “dilemma” is actually extremely common. Most women can achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation only or some combination of penetration and clit stimulation. And, from what I know, oral sex really does the trick for lots and lots of women. Yes, some women can come from penetration alone, however it’s a much lower percentage. My opinion is this: you are coming, and that’s a great thing. Remember, there are plenty of women who have never had an orgasm. Pat yourself and your partner on the back for a minute. If you’d like to experiment ways to come during intercourse, try touching yourself while your partner fucks you. Or, you can show him how to use his hand or a vibrator to stimulate your clit like he does with his mouth.

One Response to “Ask Tristan: Orgasm from Oral Sex Only”

Congratulations on achieving an orgasm! Firstly I have to say that I am in the same boat of not being able to achieve orgasm by penetration alone. Personally I don’t consider this to be a bad thing, my husband knows which buttons need to be pushed and when. Like most relationships it’s all about learning each others bodies and preferences. There is nothing to be ashamed of in having to provide clitoral stimulation to yourself. That said don’t be afraind to keep experimenting and trying new things, you never know what will do the trick.

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