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Healthy Relationship Quiz

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship
is healthy? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to
record your responses. At the end, you'll find out how to score your answers.

The Person I'm With

Is very supportive of things that I do.

Encourages me to try new things.

Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.

Understands that I have my own life too.

Is not liked very well by my friends.

Says I'm too involved in different activities.

Texts me or calls me all the time.

Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice.

Gets extremely jealous or possessive.

Accuses me of flirting or cheating.

Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.

Controls what I wear or how I look.

Tries to control what I do and who I see.

Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.

Has big mood swings, getting angry and yelling at me one minute but being sweet and
apologetic the next.

Makes me feel nervous or like I'm "walking on eggshells".

Puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me.

Makes me feel like I can't do anything right or blames me for problems.

Scoring

Give yourself one point for every no you answered to numbers 1-4, one point for every
yes response to numbers 5-8 and five points for every yes to numbers 9 and above.

Now that you're finished and have your score, the next step is to find out what it
means. Simply take your total score and see which of the categories below apply to
you.

Score: 0 Points

You got a score of zero? Don't worry -- it's a good thing! It sounds like your relationship
is on a pretty healthy track. Maintaining healthy relationships takes some work --
keep it up! Remember that while you may have a healthy relationship, it's possible
that a friend of yours does not. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship,
find out how you can help them by visiting loveisrespect.org.

Score: 1-2 Points

If you scored one or two points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your
relationship that are unhealthy, but it doesn't necessarily mean they are warning
signs. It's still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn't an unhealthy
pattern developing.

The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and
don't like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important
when building a healthy relationship. It's also good to be informed so you can recognize
the different types of abuse.

Score: 3-4 Points

If you scored three or four points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning
signs of an abusive relationship. Don't ignore these red flags. Something that starts
small can grow much worse over time. No relationship is perfect -- it takeswork! But in a healthy relationship you won't find abusive behaviors.

Score: 5 or More Points

If you scored five or points, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in
an abusive relationship. Remember the most important thing is your safety -- consider
making a safety plan.