Fighting for Your Marriage: 3 Tips for Busy and Exhausted Couples

When you’ve got crazy schedules, kids and who knows how many other demands, fighting for your marriage isn’t always on the forefront of your mind. But unless you want to end up just roommates, that’s when you need to fight for it the most!

It was 11 p.m. on a weeknight during the holidays and I was wiped out.

My husband and I had just finished up watching one of our favorite shows on Netflix. I was ready to sleep, but he wasn’t feeling connected with me and wanted to spend more time together.

We got into the same argument we’ve had probably hundreds of times. The night owl versus the queen of routine. Whose needs would take priority? Or to look at it another way, who was being more selfish?

It’s a common problem in marriage: We get busy, and by the time we reconnect at the end of the day, we’re just done.

It’s so tempting to follow our individual desires, rather than work on strengthening the relationship.

But that’s a surefire way to let your marriage drift apart, especially during the busy years of raising kids.

I can’t tell you how many couples I know of who are hardly more than roommates by the time their kids move out. Physical and emotional intimacy are distant memories.

That’s why it’s so important to fight for your marriage during the exhausting years.

With three kids and the demands of work, community and running a home, we’re in the thick of “busyness.” We’ve argued many times about how we spend our time together. And while I can’t say we’ve found the magic answer to this issue, we’ve landed on a few really helpful strategies.

Let’s talk: how’s your marriage doing in your current season and how are you fighting for it?

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I'm Gina, a happily married mom of three and stress management coach. I help exhausted, overwhelmed moms find peace and purpose in the everyday. Be sure to sign up for tons of free resources that will help you stop just surviving and start thriving! Read More…