i sent a wink to a man & got no reply.a long time later, he sends me a note asking why i prefer to date white men(he says he never saw the wink).i tell him i am not offended then ask him why does he care.he tries to back out of the conversation.

i tell him some men prefer only blondes,some only date women half their age,& most click off every race but black as acceptable to date.that is their preference, like dating white men is mine.i do not ask them why & i am sure he does not either.

i guess he was looking for some "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" type tale instead of an intelligent conversation.i said that it was strange how people could ask something online they would never say face to face.i waited for a real apology,then i blocked him.

around that time, someone added me to their favorites list, if that was you,i apologize for being rash.it was just a bit entitled & rude & i need a man with manners.i have no interest in "training" a full grown man as to how to act in polite society.

i sent a wink to a man & got no reply.a long time later, he sends me a note asking why i prefer to date white men(he says he never saw the wink).i tell him i am not offended then ask him why does he care.he tries to back out of the conversation.

i tell him some men prefer only blondes,some only date women half their age,& most click off every race but black as acceptable to date.that is their preference, like dating white men is mine.i do not ask them why & i am sure he does not either.

i guess he was looking for some "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" type tale instead of an intelligent conversation.i said that it was strange how people could ask something online they would never say face to face.i waited for a real apology,then i blocked him.

around that time, someone added me to their favorites list, if that was you,i apologize for being rash.it was just a bit entitled & rude & i need a man with manners.i have no interest in "training" a full grown man as to how to act in polite society.

Oh, ok......so here's a general comment back. When a "boy" rocks a woman to the core, she is likely to over-look a few other things. In fact, his boyishness may be part of his charm.

Fun people, tend to like other fun people to hang out with.

I have no problem with Cougars. If you can keep those 25-40 year olds occupied it leaves their female counterparts single and ready to mingle with some of us geezers. Even though, in some cultures I'd be placed on a slab of ice and floated out to sea I can still cause a tingle every now and then.

If you tire of video games and endless hours of sports women also have an inanimate object option not afforded men. A Jack Rabbit with a large supply of batteries could have the same "rock" you to the core effect..... and a plus is that it might even be able to provide some scintillating conversation.

P... I don't consider Mary, my blow up doll, inanimate.

Quoting Diana3316:

Oh, ok......so here's a general comment back. When a "boy" rocks a woman to the core, she is likely to over-look a few other things. In fact, his boyishness may be part of his charm.

Fun people, tend to like other fun people to hang out with.

I have no problem with Cougars. If you can keep those 25-40 year olds occupied it leaves their female counterparts single and ready to mingle with some of us geezers. Even though, in some cultures I'd be placed on a slab of ice and floated out to sea I can still cause a tingle every now and then.

If you tire of video games and endless hours of sports women also have an inanimate object option not afforded men. A Jack Rabbit with a large supply of batteries could have the same "rock" you to the core effect..... and a plus is that it might even be able to provide some scintillating conversation.

I think things will get better when you stop dating boys and start dating men. Men appreciate women and will take the time to get to know who they are and what they're passionate about. We're all part of the human race.

Quoting 3345roc:

I think things will get better when you stop dating boys and start dating men. Men appreciate women and will take the time to get to know who they are and what they're passionate about. We're all part of the human race.

I think things will get better when you stop dating boys and start dating men. Men appreciate women and will take the time to get to know who they are and what they're passionate about. We're all part of the human race.

I think things will get better when you stop dating boys and start dating men. Men appreciate women and will take the time to get to know who they are and what they're passionate about. We're all part of the human race.

I spent 5 years in germany and I had guys interested in me all the time.

It was black girl heaven....LOL

If, I wasn't going back to school full time again soon. I would be packing my bags for europe.

It was so bad, they were asking me out on high speed rail...lol

You need a european trip, that will cheer you up.

Deinefrau~

I totally agree with you on the European men! In my experience they have far fewer hangups than American men. A younger European man won't even blink at asking an older woman out if he is attracted to her. He doesn't care what her age is! American men are more concerned with status and what their buddies may think of her.

I dated a man 10yrs younger than me for 6 yrs (my last bf). He would say things (in front of me) to his buddies like, "Isn't she hot? She's 50yrs old". It was like he wanted to make the excuse of me being "hot" for dating me. He brought up my age all the time! Next time around, I want to be the younger one. lolol

Greek and French men are awesome.

Quoting deinefrau:

That's not always the case...

I spent 5 years in germany and I had guys interested in me all the time.

It was black girl heaven....LOL

If, I wasn't going back to school full time again soon. I would be packing my bags for europe.

It was so bad, they were asking me out on high speed rail...lol

You need a european trip, that will cheer you up.

Deinefrau~

I totally agree with you on the European men! In my experience they have far fewer hangups than American men. A younger European man won't even blink at asking an older woman out if he is attracted to her. He doesn't care what her age is! American men are more concerned with status and what their buddies may think of her.

I dated a man 10yrs younger than me for 6 yrs (my last bf). He would say things (in front of me) to his buddies like, "Isn't she hot? She's 50yrs old". It was like he wanted to make the excuse of me being "hot" for dating me. He brought up my age all the time! Next time around, I want to be the younger one. lolol

You know, I've got your back! How good is my Spanish? No where near as good as your English, my dear. You, my friend, are wonderful and bilingual. For what it is worth, your English is brilliant!

You know, Lulu, your last sentence "....you may carry on!!" made me chuckle because there was a British TV series many years ago called 'Carry On'. Sarah may know it. Infact, it is so old, most of the actors are dead. The shenanigans on that series are the envy of great Television programming. You should Google it and see if it's online. You will surely have a blast and get a taste of classic British humour! I sure do hope that this particular blog doesn't soon bud into a mini 'Carry On' series. But if that fella really wants to showcase his ignorance, I will only be too happy to indulge him. I have been let out of court session for a little while - I only have 3 court hearings between now and the next 2 weeks - so I have a little spare time on my hands to explore the NAAA theory with the amateur parochial theorist.

Anyway, Lulu - have a fantastic day!

Liv.

Quoting RealtorLulu:

Just my two and a half cents;

Hi Maxx and welcome to the blogs. By the way I am not as well versed as my friends here when it comes to the language which makes me check and double check my notes before posting them and yet, I still mess up.

I understand why Dallas felt offended but I also understand that some people, both men and women, do not express themselves in a manner that's understandable by most. I feel the man's question was as straight and honest as it could possibly be. Dallas did not expect it and, as they say, "took it with a grain of salt." I honestly have never understood that phrase.

Dallas, you are a beautiful young woman and as such, you may have grown to expect that men would accept you as you appear to be without bothering to question anything you say or do. I do apologize if what I say upsets you but we are all being honest. You, as Hope said, may have jumped the gun. The man's question may have just required a straight answer at which point, he might have had a rebuttal. Who knows what kind of relationship could have come from it!!

I don't like confrontations and try to listen to what's being said (most of the time since I'm a bit ADD) before reacting. It has kept me from some not so pleasant situations.

Oh! Liv, I agree with you on Dallas’ "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" comment. I thought it was brilliant and hilarious.

Ok, you may carry on!! I was not here. Hugs!

Quoting RealtorLulu:

Just my two and a half cents;

Hi Maxx and welcome to the blogs. By the way I am not as well versed as my friends here when it comes to the language which makes me check and double check my notes before posting them and yet, I still mess up.

I understand why Dallas felt offended but I also understand that some people, both men and women, do not express themselves in a manner that's understandable by most. I feel the man's question was as straight and honest as it could possibly be. Dallas did not expect it and, as they say, "took it with a grain of salt." I honestly have never understood that phrase.

Dallas, you are a beautiful young woman and as such, you may have grown to expect that men would accept you as you appear to be without bothering to question anything you say or do. I do apologize if what I say upsets you but we are all being honest. You, as Hope said, may have jumped the gun. The man's question may have just required a straight answer at which point, he might have had a rebuttal. Who knows what kind of relationship could have come from it!!

I don't like confrontations and try to listen to what's being said (most of the time since I'm a bit ADD) before reacting. It has kept me from some not so pleasant situations.

Oh! Liv, I agree with you on Dallas’ "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" comment. I thought it was brilliant and hilarious.

Ok, you may carry on!! I was not here. Hugs!

Lulu,

You know, I've got your back! How good is my Spanish? No where near as good as your English, my dear. You, my friend, are wonderful and bilingual. For what it is worth, your English is brilliant!

You know, Lulu, your last sentence "....you may carry on!!" made me chuckle because there was a British TV series many years ago called 'Carry On'. Sarah may know it. Infact, it is so old, most of the actors are dead. The shenanigans on that series are the envy of great Television programming. You should Google it and see if it's online. You will surely have a blast and get a taste of classic British humour! I sure do hope that this particular blog doesn't soon bud into a mini 'Carry On' series. But if that fella really wants to showcase his ignorance, I will only be too happy to indulge him. I have been let out of court session for a little while - I only have 3 court hearings between now and the next 2 weeks - so I have a little spare time on my hands to explore the NAAA theory with the amateur parochial theorist.

Hi Maxx and welcome to the blogs. By the way I am not as well versed as my friends here when it comes to the language which makes me check and double check my notes before posting them and yet, I still mess up.

I understand why Dallas felt offended but I also understand that some people, both men and women, do not express themselves in a manner that's understandable by most. I feel the man's question was as straight and honest as it could possibly be. Dallas did not expect it and, as they say, "took it with a grain of salt." I honestly have never understood that phrase.

Dallas, you are a beautiful young woman and as such, you may have grown to expect that men would accept you as you appear to be without bothering to question anything you say or do. I do apologize if what I say upsets you but we are all being honest. You, as Hope said, may have jumped the gun. The man's question may have just required a straight answer at which point, he might have had a rebuttal. Who knows what kind of relationship could have come from it!!

I don't like confrontations and try to listen to what's being said (most of the time since I'm a bit ADD) before reacting. It has kept me from some not so pleasant situations.

Oh! Liv, I agree with you on Dallas’ "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" comment. I thought it was brilliant and hilarious.

Ok, you may carry on!! I was not here. Hugs!

Just my two and a half cents;

Hi Maxx and welcome to the blogs. By the way I am not as well versed as my friends here when it comes to the language which makes me check and double check my notes before posting them and yet, I still mess up.

I understand why Dallas felt offended but I also understand that some people, both men and women, do not express themselves in a manner that's understandable by most. I feel the man's question was as straight and honest as it could possibly be. Dallas did not expect it and, as they say, "took it with a grain of salt." I honestly have never understood that phrase.

Dallas, you are a beautiful young woman and as such, you may have grown to expect that men would accept you as you appear to be without bothering to question anything you say or do. I do apologize if what I say upsets you but we are all being honest. You, as Hope said, may have jumped the gun. The man's question may have just required a straight answer at which point, he might have had a rebuttal. Who knows what kind of relationship could have come from it!!

I don't like confrontations and try to listen to what's being said (most of the time since I'm a bit ADD) before reacting. It has kept me from some not so pleasant situations.

Oh! Liv, I agree with you on Dallas’ "tyrone beat me,leroy abandoned our baby, i am a self hating negress" comment. I thought it was brilliant and hilarious.

Good on you Maxwell Wright, that you have taken the time to lay the fangs into yourself for what you term your STUPIDITY, quoting you "....Boy, I was I stupid! (sic)". Poor command of the English language when English is your first language is never endearing. This clearly goes beyond your lack of typing skills, as you put it.

I will now comment on your post which has, presumably, been removed by MM due to the apparent lack of decorum. It has however been quoted as above. Whilst I neither attacked you, nor any other men on here, you found it necessary and acceptable to attack me completely unprovoked. That says a lot about you:

Firstly, I don’t know you. I’ve never seen you until today; and you don't know me either, yet you somehow have a crystal ball to tell that I have been rejected by Black men. On one hand, I find this quite laughable but on the other hand, and quite worryingly, clearly you have an axe to grind with Dallas - you two have history: you approached her, she rejected you. So, you declare war on all African women who date interracially? Yet you are coming on here and putting yourself forward as someone looking to build a sustainable future with someone decent? Your rejection by Dallas or any other woman puts you in no position to attack women of African descent who choose to date interracially or any other woman for that matter. That sort of trait is a little psychopathic and worrying. This your rejection which, it appears, you are still struggling with as you see fit to stalk this woman from blog to blog puts you in no position to ungraciously attack me or anyone else who has not attacked you. Clearly, if you are seeking to attract women who like men with no tact, no class, and no finesse, then you are truly and firmly on your way to a resounding success. Besides, as we are all aware, Dallas's physique had not undergone some sudden metamorphosis from 'big backside' to 'no backside' at all; so it makes me wonder why you would approach a woman, whose physique you now publicly deplore! This stinks of soured grapes to me. But please note I stand to be corrected if by some happenstance, you are able to muster some perfectly logical, non-self-serving explanation to that incongruity.

I can clearly see the animosity I have been warned goes on in the US against Black ladies who date outside their race. I am sorry that in Britain we have zero tolerance for this sort of nonsense.

Secondly, if you have ever read my blogs or posts, you will be hard pressed for evidence to support your ludicrous claim to my supposed ‘absolute illogicality’. There is something clearly, seriously, wrong with jumping in like this and attacking an innocent person – really, it is worse than putting your foot in your mouth.

Furthermore, my original comment on Dallas' blog was not even in support of her position, but rather a clear explanation of the varying positions with the question she appeared to have an issue with. I found humour in a part of her blog and since I love humour and hate confrontation (please I do not ever cower from a good fight nonetheless), I commented on her humour. All these seem perfectly lost on you.

Quoting you, “…..with these two ladies and their perspection.”, Maxwell Wright, I hope you do realise that that word PERSPECTION does not exist? You therefore make absolutely no sense at all. I do humbly empathise with your terribly poor command of the English language.

My humble advice to you is that when next you spur yourself on to a voluntary spar of words, the least you can do is to ensure that you can actually effectively communicate in your language of choice particularly if that language of choice is your first language. There is clearly no excuse there, barring your ham-fisted attempt at a pre-emptive apology. I must confess that, as a result of your obvious handicap in communication skills, I will not burden you with any further comments except for the fact that:

The Black men that I have known and come to learn about are wonderful, dignified, tenacious, strong, respectable and respectful. Clearly, I have been privileged to know the best, and I am delighted that I don’t know you.

I am British and I say it like it is without the need to be abusive or rude.

Liv.

Good on you Maxwell Wright, that you have taken the time to lay the fangs into yourself for what you term your STUPIDITY, quoting you "....Boy, I was I stupid! (sic)". Poor command of the English language when English is your first language is never endearing. This clearly goes beyond your lack of typing skills, as you put it.

I will now comment on your post which has, presumably, been removed by MM due to the apparent lack of decorum. It has however been quoted as above. Whilst I neither attacked you, nor any other men on here, you found it necessary and acceptable to attack me completely unprovoked. That says a lot about you:

Firstly, I don’t know you. I’ve never seen you until today; and you don't know me either, yet you somehow have a crystal ball to tell that I have been rejected by Black men. On one hand, I find this quite laughable but on the other hand, and quite worryingly, clearly you have an axe to grind with Dallas - you two have history: you approached her, she rejected you. So, you declare war on all African women who date interracially? Yet you are coming on here and putting yourself forward as someone looking to build a sustainable future with someone decent? Your rejection by Dallas or any other woman puts you in no position to attack women of African descent who choose to date interracially or any other woman for that matter. That sort of trait is a little psychopathic and worrying. This your rejection which, it appears, you are still struggling with as you see fit to stalk this woman from blog to blog puts you in no position to ungraciously attack me or anyone else who has not attacked you. Clearly, if you are seeking to attract women who like men with no tact, no class, and no finesse, then you are truly and firmly on your way to a resounding success. Besides, as we are all aware, Dallas's physique had not undergone some sudden metamorphosis from 'big backside' to 'no backside' at all; so it makes me wonder why you would approach a woman, whose physique you now publicly deplore! This stinks of soured grapes to me. But please note I stand to be corrected if by some happenstance, you are able to muster some perfectly logical, non-self-serving explanation to that incongruity.

I can clearly see the animosity I have been warned goes on in the US against Black ladies who date outside their race. I am sorry that in Britain we have zero tolerance for this sort of nonsense.

Secondly, if you have ever read my blogs or posts, you will be hard pressed for evidence to support your ludicrous claim to my supposed ‘absolute illogicality’. There is something clearly, seriously, wrong with jumping in like this and attacking an innocent person – really, it is worse than putting your foot in your mouth.

Furthermore, my original comment on Dallas' blog was not even in support of her position, but rather a clear explanation of the varying positions with the question she appeared to have an issue with. I found humour in a part of her blog and since I love humour and hate confrontation (please I do not ever cower from a good fight nonetheless), I commented on her humour. All these seem perfectly lost on you.

Quoting you, “…..with these two ladies and their perspection.”, Maxwell Wright, I hope you do realise that that word PERSPECTION does not exist? You therefore make absolutely no sense at all. I do humbly empathise with your terribly poor command of the English language.

My humble advice to you is that when next you spur yourself on to a voluntary spar of words, the least you can do is to ensure that you can actually effectively communicate in your language of choice particularly if that language of choice is your first language. There is clearly no excuse there, barring your ham-fisted attempt at a pre-emptive apology. I must confess that, as a result of your obvious handicap in communication skills, I will not burden you with any further comments except for the fact that:

The Black men that I have known and come to learn about are wonderful, dignified, tenacious, strong, respectable and respectful. Clearly, I have been privileged to know the best, and I am delighted that I don’t know you.

I am British and I say it like it is without the need to be abusive or rude.

oh & i forgot to add that one of these posters here (who will not be named) was the subject of my "confrontational negress" blog. maybe he is mad because i hurt his pride by rejecting him. funny how before i blocked him, my figure was all that he desired & more.naaa? lolololololololol

Is that right? And yet, suddenly black men don't like your and my type of physique??? Well, that is soooo funny. What a waste of my time and space.....

Liv.

Quoting 90210dallas:

oh & i forgot to add that one of these posters here (who will not be named) was the subject of my "confrontational negress" blog. maybe he is mad because i hurt his pride by rejecting him. funny how before i blocked him, my figure was all that he desired & more.naaa? lolololololololol

oh & i forgot to add that one of these posters here (who will not be named) was the subject of my "confrontational negress" blog. maybe he is mad because i hurt his pride by rejecting him. funny how before i blocked him, my figure was all that he desired & more.naaa? lolololololololol

oh & i forgot to add that one of these posters here (who will not be named) was the subject of my "confrontational negress" blog. maybe he is mad because i hurt his pride by rejecting him. funny how before i blocked him, my figure was all that he desired & more.naaa? lolololololololol

I'm not quite the adroit typist like the majority of you ladies. I type 10 words per hour(smile) and with my diminishing vision the probability of typing a paragraph error free is slim to none..... And slim left town last year, which leaves NONE!

I know it might be difficult to conclude that I did attain a 3.85 GPA on my quest to acquire a BS degree in Biology(major)/Physics(minor). "Back in the day" we actually wrote our papers via "hands", not on an Ipad or Laptop. I regret not taking a typing class. Typing was considered a feminine subject by ignorant people like myself back then..... Boy, I was I stupid!

So, my preemptive move at this point is to extend my most humble and sincere apology for the typos and any additional massacre of the King's language.

I'm not quite the adroit typist like the majority of you ladies. I type 10 words per hour(smile) and with my diminishing vision the probability of typing a paragraph error free is slim to none..... And slim left town last year, which leaves NONE!

I know it might be difficult to conclude that I did attain a 3.85 GPA on my quest to acquire a BS degree in Biology(major)/Physics(minor). "Back in the day" we actually wrote our papers via "hands", not on an Ipad or Laptop. I regret not taking a typing class. Typing was considered a feminine subject by ignorant people like myself back then..... Boy, I was I stupid!

So, my preemptive move at this point is to extend my most humble and sincere apology for the typos and any additional massacre of the King's language.

My apologies in not understanding you DID answer his question. I guess your response is really, "It's what I am attracted to." Perhaps he wanted more detail in WHY you are attracted to white men? Did he have on his profile he was seeking "black women?" Or did he perhaps see the wink and wanted to diss you?

He could absolutely just be a "rude" person! I have dealt with rude men before. I change "income" for what I seek frequently on one date site I am on, but never click under $75,000. I had one man be so rude as to INITIATE CONTACT with me degrading me as to WHY I placed a higher income level? I told him point blank--

"I am NOT a well established "career woman" and money is the LEAST of what I have to offer, so I want to ensure a man is financially stable BEFORE we meet. I also find most men in my age bracket are paying child support and I do not wish to be a burden to a man, as this would only create more friction in a budding relationship. Despite infidelity, MONEY remains a main issue for WHY people stay married, as well as get divorced." DALLAS, I even went so far as to "get personal" and explained to him I had lost my home in foreclosure years ago due to my ex, who was solely responsible for that small mortgage ($600) --- My ex is like his parents were, and horrible with finances! I desire a man who does not have the same issues that drove my ex and I apart. Money management was one of them! I even told him about the "pretty boy" I ended up supporting for a few months---- And the man STILL BLASTED ME! WHY? Was it B/C he stated on his profile he made "up to" $50K? Or is he just "an angry white man?" LOL.. I mean, WHY did he even bother to write me other than to insult me? I GUESS HE WAS BORED! So sweetie, I DO understand your dilemma! SOME PEOPLE JUST HINGE ON BEING RUDE REGARDLESS AND THERE IS NOTHNG WE CAN DO ABOUT IT! But I do still try to give others the "benefit of the doubt." (At times to no avail!)

This "man" went so far as to judge me on "God" and being a "Christian" stating I was a money grubbing **** and said horribe things about my parents, (though my parents were never mentioned previously) and said women like me were the problem with society today! All for putting $75 0r $100K in a box I clicked on a profile?

SO I DO GET IT! Some men are just jerks.. (as are some women) And NOTHING we say/do can change that! I don't have "black men" checked for my "preferences" on date sites, but if you read my response to the gentleman MAXXWRIGHT, obviously I am not opposed to dating a black man, where once my view differed! But "date sites" allow us the option to check what we are more inclined to be attracted to.. If they had TALL, MUSULAR MEN, WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL, FINANCIALLY STABLE, NON-JUDGMENTAL, CHRISTIAN, NOT MUCH FACIAL HAIR, WORK OUT REGULARLY, ENJOY MARTINIS AND RED WINE, FINE DINING AND EXPLORING AND WILL STOMACH MY COUNTRY KARAOKE NOW AND THEN!!" Well, I wouldn't even check any race! ;)

And NO, I would NOT go up to strangers and ask them, "Why are you not dating your own race?" Many of my white GF are married to Hispanics and vice versa. I grew up in south Texas where inter-racial is prevalent w/ whites and Hispanics. I also don't word things as that to begin with, nor do I view inter-racial dating as a "bad" thing. I would however ask a couple I just met if we were coversing, "What issues have you endured, if any, by dating another race? Are people mean or give you dirty looks?" How do I know I would do this? B/C I asked a man similar questions when he wanted to meet me and he was a stranger who was black and I had never dated another race. I am the type of personality who, when my daughter and I were at the library many years ago, (she was young, about 5) Well, she kept "staring" at a man in a wheel chair. I said, "Don't stare at people, it's not nice baby doll. It makes people feel bad." She said, "What hapened to him mommy? Why is he in that thing?" It was something she had never encountered before, much like my dating another race. I said, "Well, let's go ask him." (MY analogy was "better to ask than for my daughter to stare") I politely went up to him with my little one and told him our conversation. He thanked me for encuraging my daughter not to stare, as a lot of children stare and told me I was the first mom who ever came to ask him. He explained his injury and we chatted a few moments.

I believe in asking questions. If we know the WHY's of a person's behavior, it envelops better "acceptance" of their views and we "grow" as individuals. JMHO

Hope you find what you are seeking! You are a unique individual and I enjoy sharing varied experiences! I just hope you have a more positive experience--- soon! ;)

i guess because he really had nothing to say, nothing to back it up with.

but let me ask you something. if you see an interracial couple walking down the street.you don't know them, they say hello. would your 1st question be to them, "why are you not dating your own race?"

Hi DALLAS---

My apologies in not understanding you DID answer his question. I guess your response is really, "It's what I am attracted to." Perhaps he wanted more detail in WHY you are attracted to white men? Did he have on his profile he was seeking "black women?" Or did he perhaps see the wink and wanted to diss you?

He could absolutely just be a "rude" person! I have dealt with rude men before. I change "income" for what I seek frequently on one date site I am on, but never click under $75,000. I had one man be so rude as to INITIATE CONTACT with me degrading me as to WHY I placed a higher income level? I told him point blank--

"I am NOT a well established "career woman" and money is the LEAST of what I have to offer, so I want to ensure a man is financially stable BEFORE we meet. I also find most men in my age bracket are paying child support and I do not wish to be a burden to a man, as this would only create more friction in a budding relationship. Despite infidelity, MONEY remains a main issue for WHY people stay married, as well as get divorced." DALLAS, I even went so far as to "get personal" and explained to him I had lost my home in foreclosure years ago due to my ex, who was solely responsible for that small mortgage ($600) --- My ex is like his parents were, and horrible with finances! I desire a man who does not have the same issues that drove my ex and I apart. Money management was one of them! I even told him about the "pretty boy" I ended up supporting for a few months---- And the man STILL BLASTED ME! WHY? Was it B/C he stated on his profile he made "up to" $50K? Or is he just "an angry white man?" LOL.. I mean, WHY did he even bother to write me other than to insult me? I GUESS HE WAS BORED! So sweetie, I DO understand your dilemma! SOME PEOPLE JUST HINGE ON BEING RUDE REGARDLESS AND THERE IS NOTHNG WE CAN DO ABOUT IT! But I do still try to give others the "benefit of the doubt." (At times to no avail!)

This "man" went so far as to judge me on "God" and being a "Christian" stating I was a money grubbing **** and said horribe things about my parents, (though my parents were never mentioned previously) and said women like me were the problem with society today! All for putting $75 0r $100K in a box I clicked on a profile?

SO I DO GET IT! Some men are just jerks.. (as are some women) And NOTHING we say/do can change that! I don't have "black men" checked for my "preferences" on date sites, but if you read my response to the gentleman MAXXWRIGHT, obviously I am not opposed to dating a black man, where once my view differed! But "date sites" allow us the option to check what we are more inclined to be attracted to.. If they had TALL, MUSULAR MEN, WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL, FINANCIALLY STABLE, NON-JUDGMENTAL, CHRISTIAN, NOT MUCH FACIAL HAIR, WORK OUT REGULARLY, ENJOY MARTINIS AND RED WINE, FINE DINING AND EXPLORING AND WILL STOMACH MY COUNTRY KARAOKE NOW AND THEN!!" Well, I wouldn't even check any race! ;)

And NO, I would NOT go up to strangers and ask them, "Why are you not dating your own race?" Many of my white GF are married to Hispanics and vice versa. I grew up in south Texas where inter-racial is prevalent w/ whites and Hispanics. I also don't word things as that to begin with, nor do I view inter-racial dating as a "bad" thing. I would however ask a couple I just met if we were coversing, "What issues have you endured, if any, by dating another race? Are people mean or give you dirty looks?" How do I know I would do this? B/C I asked a man similar questions when he wanted to meet me and he was a stranger who was black and I had never dated another race. I am the type of personality who, when my daughter and I were at the library many years ago, (she was young, about 5) Well, she kept "staring" at a man in a wheel chair. I said, "Don't stare at people, it's not nice baby doll. It makes people feel bad." She said, "What hapened to him mommy? Why is he in that thing?" It was something she had never encountered before, much like my dating another race. I said, "Well, let's go ask him." (MY analogy was "better to ask than for my daughter to stare") I politely went up to him with my little one and told him our conversation. He thanked me for encuraging my daughter not to stare, as a lot of children stare and told me I was the first mom who ever came to ask him. He explained his injury and we chatted a few moments.

I believe in asking questions. If we know the WHY's of a person's behavior, it envelops better "acceptance" of their views and we "grow" as individuals. JMHO

Hope you find what you are seeking! You are a unique individual and I enjoy sharing varied experiences! I just hope you have a more positive experience--- soon! ;)

Good Morning MAXXWRIGHT,,, and WELCOME to the blogs!! It's always wonderful to meet new people and engage in several perspectives on a view! (and THANK YOU for the compliment!)

I would "agree" with your concept but one thing... I have perused these forums almost 2 years now, and some women are simply more "negative" period. DALLAS has shone to be one of those I find who writes blogs entailing a more "negative" persona. I believe we get what we give. I engage time to time, as I do find her an attractive and enjoyable woman, (no, not in THAT way-- I ONLY LOVE MEN!!) But I find her to be an attractive and unique woman and I am one who enjoys probing into other's minds. (Keeps me out of mine! LOL) I ENJOY PEOPLE, PERIOD!

For me, it is all about ATTRACTION! I've met jerk offs for men, but yet I still go for tall and more muscular type,,, even after being battered and bruised physically and emotionally. (We all have scars, therefore your "theory" on WHY SO CYNICAL does not work for me, as if a woman's sole source of dating one race is rejection from another, this displays an error in "her" psyche, not mens'. We have all been blown the card of rejection at one time or another!)

Now in saying this, I will state, I have only dated one black man, twice, the latter part of last year. I had never been around any black men, but this man was extremely articulate and kept writing and complimenting me, even when I failed to respond. Well, I started feeling GUILTY for ignoring him, so I finally mustered up the gumption (white girl words? LOL) to speak to him. IN MY FIRST LETTER, I told the man forthright, I have never dated a black man, nor have I ever been around black men or felt an attraction. I also "confessed," in the area I lived in California many years ago, we moved back to Florida due to Cryps and Bloods, and we moved out of the Chicago area years later much for same reason, therefore MY ONLY CONNECTION to black men has been watching violence occur between "misguided thugs." I even so much as admitted I was AFRAID. Now, some people might take this as being "prejudice." But he was far more mature, and realised I was only going by the cards I had been given thus far! He THANKED ME for finally responding and for being so OPEN AND HONEST! He said most women would not have the gall to be so forward and he has found most women LIE about who they are. He said it was "refreshing" to meet a forthright individual, regardless how my thought process worked! I told him how badly I felt for ignoring his emails and I felt he "warranted" an explanation. We continued emailing. I asked him all kinds of questions regarding how others responded to inter-racial dating. Turns out, few people even notice in Atlanta! LOL... I had asked him how people treated him, if anyone ever wanted to fight him, say nasty things, etc. He said, "Sweetie, I have dealt with sneers or muffled words a few times, but I would not take you to a town in the country. That might be asking for trouble! But here in Buckhead, this is not really an issue."

We had a spontaneous first date on Halloween! It was a RIOT! He NEVER ONCE "judged me" for my naivety or ignorance, and never once considered me prejudice! We still remain friends today. He had to leave the state for some time due to an ill father right after, and we never dated again before I left Atlanta; but this "gentleman" taught me A LOT in regard to busting down some of my own psychic barriers. He still writes to see how I am! :)

My point is---- Perhaps if someone asks a question, it REALLY IS "JUST a QUESTION" with no ulterior motives! And WHY did I have these questions? Because in addition to my own "conditioning," everywhere I turn I see women AND men writing about how another race is not interested in them, people are soooo prejudice, or how "people treat you differently" if you date another race. Turns out, I was the only one who had the issue. It wasn't being prejudice. I LOVE PEOPLE! But I lacked the EXPERIENCE to break down the wall and I was further pushed away emotionally due to all the negativity surrounding some views that were not my own! My friend told me, "I will make you get over your fear of black men." And guess what? HE DID!

AND HE DIDN'T DO THIS BY CRITIQUING WHY I ASKED HIM THE THINGS I DID IN MY FIRST LETTER! He placed himself in MY SHOES, LISTENED to my thoughts and now I am blessed to have grown as an individual! WHY? B/C one black man took the time to get to know me a little and saw a side of me I had never displayed to anyone before. And it was a side I hadn't even known existed. I was scared of the "unknown", esp. after hearing all the "bad" regarding inter-racial dating...

And now? Well, now I even read black men's profiles if I think they might be cute! Because, well, you just never know now do you! :)

Sign Me-- Queen of the NAAA-- Yet black men STILL pursue! LOL...

DISCLAIMER: NOTHING in this response is meant to "offend," "condemn" or show in poor reflection to ANYONE, regardless of color or belief. It is just MY THOUGHT PROCESS and I am in hopes EVERYONE reads as such. Thank you, Hope~~

Quoting maxxwright:

Well spoken/written @Hoping4Love2000. Why so CYNICAL, you asked? She is cynical because of constant rejection by black men.

If you were built (anatomically speaking) like 90210dallas and Livnlov you would prefer white men because most black men would reject you (NAAA). Most black men are attracted to "women" with BIG rear ends(asses). Please review exhibit A(90210's photos) and exhibit B(Livnlov's photos) -Hahaha

This is a partial explanation of why "such a short fuse" (@90210), why "disdain and/or distrust" towards men.

NAAA = (No Ass At All)

90210 is not 100% at fault (constant rejection and easily discarded by black males - she is emotionally bankrupted with the treatment ). This is not an attempt to justify her contemptuous distrust of men ..... Her sardonic attitude towards men (black and white) is a reflection of constant rejection year after year. To find solace she(they) elect to date men that are more inclined to accept her/them with their natural defects (NAAA).

Your attempts to logically/pragmatically and methodically dissect and make an intelligent argument about points one - four is futility at best. Logic has absolutely nothing to do with these two ladies and their perspection. It's 100% psychological.

Quoting maxxwright:

Well spoken/written @Hoping4Love2000. Why so CYNICAL, you asked? She is cynical because of constant rejection by black men.

If you were built (anatomically speaking) like 90210dallas and Livnlov you would prefer white men because most black men would reject you (NAAA). Most black men are attracted to "women" with BIG rear ends(asses). Please review exhibit A(90210's photos) and exhibit B(Livnlov's photos) -Hahaha

This is a partial explanation of why "such a short fuse" (@90210), why "disdain and/or distrust" towards men.

NAAA = (No Ass At All)

90210 is not 100% at fault (constant rejection and easily discarded by black males - she is emotionally bankrupted with the treatment ). This is not an attempt to justify her contemptuous distrust of men ..... Her sardonic attitude towards men (black and white) is a reflection of constant rejection year after year. To find solace she(they) elect to date men that are more inclined to accept her/them with their natural defects (NAAA).

Your attempts to logically/pragmatically and methodically dissect and make an intelligent argument about points one - four is futility at best. Logic has absolutely nothing to do with these two ladies and their perspection. It's 100% psychological.

Good Morning MAXXWRIGHT,,, and WELCOME to the blogs!! It's always wonderful to meet new people and engage in several perspectives on a view! (and THANK YOU for the compliment!)

I would "agree" with your concept but one thing... I have perused these forums almost 2 years now, and some women are simply more "negative" period. DALLAS has shone to be one of those I find who writes blogs entailing a more "negative" persona. I believe we get what we give. I engage time to time, as I do find her an attractive and enjoyable woman, (no, not in THAT way-- I ONLY LOVE MEN!!) But I find her to be an attractive and unique woman and I am one who enjoys probing into other's minds. (Keeps me out of mine! LOL) I ENJOY PEOPLE, PERIOD!

For me, it is all about ATTRACTION! I've met jerk offs for men, but yet I still go for tall and more muscular type,,, even after being battered and bruised physically and emotionally. (We all have scars, therefore your "theory" on WHY SO CYNICAL does not work for me, as if a woman's sole source of dating one race is rejection from another, this displays an error in "her" psyche, not mens'. We have all been blown the card of rejection at one time or another!)

Now in saying this, I will state, I have only dated one black man, twice, the latter part of last year. I had never been around any black men, but this man was extremely articulate and kept writing and complimenting me, even when I failed to respond. Well, I started feeling GUILTY for ignoring him, so I finally mustered up the gumption (white girl words? LOL) to speak to him. IN MY FIRST LETTER, I told the man forthright, I have never dated a black man, nor have I ever been around black men or felt an attraction. I also "confessed," in the area I lived in California many years ago, we moved back to Florida due to Cryps and Bloods, and we moved out of the Chicago area years later much for same reason, therefore MY ONLY CONNECTION to black men has been watching violence occur between "misguided thugs." I even so much as admitted I was AFRAID. Now, some people might take this as being "prejudice." But he was far more mature, and realised I was only going by the cards I had been given thus far! He THANKED ME for finally responding and for being so OPEN AND HONEST! He said most women would not have the gall to be so forward and he has found most women LIE about who they are. He said it was "refreshing" to meet a forthright individual, regardless how my thought process worked! I told him how badly I felt for ignoring his emails and I felt he "warranted" an explanation. We continued emailing. I asked him all kinds of questions regarding how others responded to inter-racial dating. Turns out, few people even notice in Atlanta! LOL... I had asked him how people treated him, if anyone ever wanted to fight him, say nasty things, etc. He said, "Sweetie, I have dealt with sneers or muffled words a few times, but I would not take you to a town in the country. That might be asking for trouble! But here in Buckhead, this is not really an issue."

We had a spontaneous first date on Halloween! It was a RIOT! He NEVER ONCE "judged me" for my naivety or ignorance, and never once considered me prejudice! We still remain friends today. He had to leave the state for some time due to an ill father right after, and we never dated again before I left Atlanta; but this "gentleman" taught me A LOT in regard to busting down some of my own psychic barriers. He still writes to see how I am! :)

My point is---- Perhaps if someone asks a question, it REALLY IS "JUST a QUESTION" with no ulterior motives! And WHY did I have these questions? Because in addition to my own "conditioning," everywhere I turn I see women AND men writing about how another race is not interested in them, people are soooo prejudice, or how "people treat you differently" if you date another race. Turns out, I was the only one who had the issue. It wasn't being prejudice. I LOVE PEOPLE! But I lacked the EXPERIENCE to break down the wall and I was further pushed away emotionally due to all the negativity surrounding some views that were not my own! My friend told me, "I will make you get over your fear of black men." And guess what? HE DID!

AND HE DIDN'T DO THIS BY CRITIQUING WHY I ASKED HIM THE THINGS I DID IN MY FIRST LETTER! He placed himself in MY SHOES, LISTENED to my thoughts and now I am blessed to have grown as an individual! WHY? B/C one black man took the time to get to know me a little and saw a side of me I had never displayed to anyone before. And it was a side I hadn't even known existed. I was scared of the "unknown", esp. after hearing all the "bad" regarding inter-racial dating...

And now? Well, now I even read black men's profiles if I think they might be cute! Because, well, you just never know now do you! :)

Sign Me-- Queen of the NAAA-- Yet black men STILL pursue! LOL...

DISCLAIMER: NOTHING in this response is meant to "offend," "condemn" or show in poor reflection to ANYONE, regardless of color or belief. It is just MY THOUGHT PROCESS and I am in hopes EVERYONE reads as such. Thank you, Hope~~