More and more couples these days are considering trying swinging, or recreational sex with other people. In fact, a recent survey showed that more than 20% of couples have discussed it and thought about it seriously. There are many thousands of couples worldwide who already take part in swinging and finding other couples to swing with is not at all difficult. Most major towns contain at least one swing club, and of course the internet is the obvious place to find other couples if you are looking for something more private.

However, although the vast majority of couples who take part in swinging on a regular basis report that it actually enhances their relationship, there are several important things you should know before you take the plunge. It could mean the difference between having a lot of fun (and maybe having found a new hobby!) or, at the other end of the scale, the end of your relationship. It is not an activity to be entered into lightly.

Firstly, you must ensure this is something you both want to do. If you have to persuade, coerce or even trick you partner into trying it with you it will most certainly backfire on you. Many men, in particular, think that by taking their wife to a swingers club or inviting some swingers around for a ‘drink’ that it will somehow get her worked up, turned on and want to dive into it. In reality, this just doesn’t happen. If you are preparing any some sort of event behind your partner’s back they will feel 1) extremely pressured to take part in something they might not be happy about and 2) a lack of trust for you and your motives.