Got a mark back for an assignment and felt myself slipping back into stressed out/anxious mode again. Think I really need to lower my target but i feel by doing that I'm a failure and of course by not meeting my expectations I'm a failure

(Original post by 22KT22)
Got a mark back for an assignment and felt myself slipping back into stressed out/anxious mode again. Think I really need to lower my target but i feel by doing that I'm a failure and of course by not meeting my expectations I'm a failure

The fact you're already at uni proves you're not a failure Not everyone gets there

I KNOW I won't allowed to go.
I KNOW there is no one I can go with.
I KNOW I'm vulnerable - aspergers, depression, complete social isolation therefore no experience of such an environment.

But STILL my mind doesn't understand that it is better that I'm not going and I shouldn't feel low about it. But why do I still feel like this? I need to wait till I'm away from my parents and learn social skills. GET THAT IN YOUR MIND

Feel better now

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my HTC Wildfire S

(Original post by Exopaladin)
Took about a month for me, that was after I'd failed on citalopram and duloxetine/was clearly a more complex case than the GP could deal with.

I'm very much a similar case, currently on my 5th antidepressant, Venlafaxine. Glad to hear you didn't have to wait too long for your appointment, I would absolutely detest having to wait for 7 months like Saber. I suppose it depends on the area and how busy it is.

I'm a new poster on here. I'm just feeling so down and upset right now. I feel like a huge failure. My parents aren't helping, they're continuously complaining about me not finding a job but don't understand that by them doing that it makes me feel worse and depressed about my life.

(Original post by 22KT22)
Yeah I know except all my friends back home did and tbh they went to better unis and have jobs and high 2:1s and 1sts.

You shouldn't compare yourself to others It's only downhill once you start doing that Some people are going to end up at better universities. It's inevitable; it doesn't make you a failure. You're at university. Full stop. Be proud of that ^^ Compare yourself to yourself and not others.

(Original post by Deyesy)
You shouldn't compare yourself to others It's only downhill once you start doing that Some people are going to end up at better universities. It's inevitable; it doesn't make you a failure. You're at university. Full stop. Be proud of that ^^ Compare yourself to yourself and not others.

That doesn't help because I should have got a better grade at college and I should be on track for a 1st but both times I've screwed up majorly. I am capable of doing so much better but apparently my brain doesn't want me to.

(Original post by Wheek)
I think its about £7/8 in tesco. Have you spoken to a dr at all about how you are feeling (sorry if you have already said and I missed it, brain is like a sieve) as it might be worth trying to get some kind of talking therapy to help with your anxiety and to teach you relaxation techniques and coping stratagies

yeah, my teacher said i should probably go to the Dr as well, but if this is gonna help, i dont want to go to the Dr for the same effect, if you get what i mean? if it happens again, i'll have to go and get a note from my Dr anyway

my teacher has suggested i go to the doctor and get them to write me a note about my panic attack during the exam so they can send it on to the exam boards, cause it has never happened before. but i have no idea what i would say when i go there, any suggestions? do i literally just sit down and be like "i had a panic attack, i need a note", or is there some sort of procedure involved??

(Original post by SciFiBoy)
you enjoy the festival and stuff at least?

sorry to hear that, if you need to talk to them do you have contact details for them atm? that sounds very confusing yeah :/ hopefully they contact you soon so you know what's going on!

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feeling slightly more stable than I was this morning, though still pretty low, slept a bit more, now watching the football which so far is distracting enough, probably means I be up all night again, which feeling this low really won't be good idk.

First of all: *massive hugs* Sorry you're not feeling so great right now!

Download was okay. Tiring and I missed most of the bands because of working. And everything kept shouting at me for things completely out of my control - it's not my fault they bring stupid cars to park in a field for a weekend but they still shouted at me for it. Almost cried a couple of times. Think I'm just a bit squishy at the moment

I have no details for my therapist - meeting with her next Wednesday but I really don't feel like she cares about it at all. Three weeks between my first and second appointment, no phone details, no email or anything. She said she'd email me two weeks ago and I've had nothing

(Original post by Meaty_man)
oo oo oo how was download? :0 This was the first year for a while that i haven't gone to a festival, the lineup for download this year was pretty awesome but i just wasn't feeling it this time around. I heard it was really rainy this year?

With the OCD thing, im pretty sure most people have some degree of it. I've never been told i have it but some of the things i do would suggest i do. In a similar way a lot of people are dyslexic, but in such a way that most people would never notice.

It was okay - I was working a lot of hours so I missed almost all of the bands. Caught The Prodigy though and they were awesome. I have a squick about breaking bones so I didn't go into the arena after that because the mud was just so dangerous. Three of my friends broke limbs over the weekend! The rain was insane! Spent my entire weekend pushing cars around the car parks!

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Feeling a little dreadful today. Two of my gerbils died yesterday and it looks like they'd been fighting with each other before it happened. I'm also really tired from all of the working I did last week. I'm sorting through my inbox and I just found a photo of me from my girlfriend's first year at uni - I am so thin. My clavicles are really sticking out and the dress I'm wearing barely fits me and has empty spaces around my hips and waist. I thought I was huge back then but I am so small and I can see why my mum was panicking about my weight loss. I wish I could be like that again