(Closed) Would you be upset?

If someone posted a picture on FB of your Fiance with 2 half naked girls? Ring girls, but without any such label on their “outfits”, no logo or anything.

Received a text… “did he go to a strip club??”

Strip clubs were not an option for either of us, known in our relationship… although his friends reallllly tried.

I asked the person who posted it to just label it “Ring girls” to avoid questions. I did not even hint for him to take it down. And the response I got was “uptight much?!” Also, Fiance had asked for the picture to NOT be posted, but still was, by someone who didn’t hear him ask.

MOHlookingForIdeas:CurlyCue: I honestly am fine with the picture being posted. I think facebook is a weird place for it, but whatever. My issue is that I’m “uptight” for wanting a caption on it after I got questioned if he had strippers! Lol MEN!

I would only be upset if the picture was a surprise to me. If I didn’t know that H had gone somewhere that involved ring girls and I didn’t know that pictures were taken, I would be annoyed to find out about it via the internet.

AccioShoes: I knew he was going to a fight… which usually means ring girls. I didn’t know he posed for pictures with said girls but they’re not inappropriate pictures… He literally has a hand on each of their shoulders.

Jw1724: In that situation, I would let it go. His friend is a jerk for posting the picture without his permission and then calling you uptight for asking him to clarify the caption, but getting upset about it and calling him out is only going to make you look like a jealous, overreacting wife who doesn’t want to let her husband have any fun.

To be clear: I’m not saying that you ARE jealous and overreacting, just that this guy will use your reaction to make you look that way to his friends and this situation doesn’t seem like it’s worth it.

Could you or your Fiance make that comment on the picture? Could he untag himself?

I would be upset with the friend that didn’t adhere to his wishes too, especially since it became an issue after the fact. However, it sounds like you are OK that it happened- you just didn’t want to have to answer the crappy questions that came after… Sounds like whoever texted you might have been trying to start something too… I feel like I’d have a quick “really?” moment with them too.

AccioShoes:wvlefty: So funny story- the person who posted it is FI’s brother! Who is married with 2 kids. So FI’s brother is the one who posted it, without permission, and called me uptight for asking for a caption. So it hurt, because I do consider us pretty close.

Fiance texted him later on and said “Jw1724 is really upset because she thinks you think poorly of her, she was uncomfortable with getting texts asking if they were strippers and just wanted that caption.” His reply was “I don’t have any bad thoughts lol, I’m just sick of the stripper talk.”

So we left it at that. But he’s kind of being insensitive in my mind. Wouldve been much easier to just caption it “ring girls” and go about your day, but oh well. I have to see FI’s brother today. If he says anything, I’m going to just tell him I don’t want to talk about it…