Baby Talk

Although I don’t buy the whole “everything happens for a reason” bologna, I do believe that good can come out of even the worst of situations. Although good may not be great, it’s better than bad. You get me? I knew that you would!

What’s the good, you ask? Well, I consider helping others as good….I hope to do just that.

Since having a miscarriage is a seriously taboo topic (who knew? trust me – I’ve found out that it is), I’ve had a hard time finding anyone with whom to relate. I’m a big blog follower and I found that there’s not much out there about women’s personal miscarriage experiences. Seeing as miscarriages are incredibly common…this made me incredibly annoyed. As we all know, not talking about particular taboo issues breeds shame. like a weed. and I am not having it.

[Here comes the good.]

My first blog just went live as a guest blogger on Babycenter.com [enter goosebumps – this is kind of a big deal for me!]. There will be 6 posts altogether over the next few weeks where I talk candidly about the devastating ins and outs of enduring a miscarriage…from finding out, to what it’s been like to go through, and finally to where we hope to go from here.

Please check out the first post and follow our journey. Maybe this opportunity will turn into something non-guestlike. A girl can dream!!!

Thank you for all of your positivity and support. I love my blog family!

COMMENTS

Wow Sarah, you are so brave to share… I just read all the wonderful responses people left on your guest post. Your baby will come, I’m sure your dad will make sure of that, I still can’t wait until you are preggers! You are going to be an adorable pregnant woman. :)

You are right — something good will always come out of a negative situation, as long as you let it. You have a positive outlook on life, and great things are coming from you. YOU KNOW THIS. And, don’t forget, you have AN ANGEL above you. :) :) xoxooxxo and big huge congrats on your article. I’m off to read it now.

You are so brave. What an amazing idea. This leaves such a hole in your heart and a feeling of blame. I am so happy to see that you are taking the healthy approach. This baby will come to you both. That much I know.

you are NOT weird for talking about it! i have several friends that have miscarried. and unfortunately it is quite common and yet so many women are ashamed to talk openly about it. miscarrying is nothing to be ashamed about and women should talk about it…i think it helps in the healing process.

I found your blog from your babycenter post, and it’s relieving to read someone’s honest view of having a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in the Spring of 2010, and it was so hard not to blame myself, and to just hear people gloss over – “everything happens for a reason” or “it’s really common” or even less sensitive “at least you weren’t very far along”. It’s devastating, and I remember just sitting in my car and crying on the phone with my husband – not even able to drive myself home. I’m glad you’ve found an outlet – because I think so many people just gloss it over and don’t deal with their feelings and never heal because they are told it’s not a true loss. It is a loss and I still grieve for our lost child – but I like to think that our child just wasn’t ready to be born yet. We did go onto to have a successful pregnancy and I like think that’s when our child was ready to meet the world. Also – for what it’s worth, I felt extremely jealous of everyone having a child during that time – I think that’s completely normal.

I’m so sorry for all that you’ve been through, Rebekah. I totally relate to what you’re saying. That was and always will be our first child. We are hopeful for good news in the near future. Thank you for writing!!!