Seen a horribly oppressed transethnic otherkin blog their plight? Wept at how terrible it is for the suffering of multiple systems to go unheard every day? Been unable to even live with the thought of the identities of someone's headmates being cisdenied?

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I'm sorry. You see, the last time I, a cishet white male, approached a fat chick, I was very clearly informed that any attraction at all to fat bodies is fat fetishizing and that's not okay, so I checked my privilege and now I stick to skinny chicks.

I try not to anymore but I slipped up last night. Standing in the store and two PoC walk in. One Asian, one Black. I just couldn't help myself and couldn't check my privilege before my primal white male cis-master instincts took over. I flew right by them swiping the Asian's chopsticks and the Black's bandana. The Black stares in disbelief at a white male who just appropriated and figuratively stole the art of stealing from PoC. I don't remember what gender they were but I didn't have an overwhelming urge to oppress so they must have been cisgender males.

I bolt down the street and hear them yelling behind me, but I've already started attempting to appropriate the items I stole. I put on the bandana and instantly know how to speak in ebonics, but am at a loss for how to quickly appropriate the chopsticks into my lack of white culture. I see a mexican trans-MtF eating some pulled pork with rice and beans. I quickly scoop it out of xher hands as I run by and begin eating it with the chopsticks. I have now achieved the trifecta. My White-Male-Cis-Mind can't comprehend the trans female, and am confused as to whether I should oppress and ask why xhe isn't in the kitchen or say "Thanks, dawg". I hear the Black and Asian catching up so I haul ass all the way back to my gated white cis-gender-only neighborhood and tell them of my victory and share my spoils with the others.

Not exactly, many people simply extrapolate the canonical content and draw up relationships between characters that make sense because it can be fun, but as with everything there are assholes who take the whole thing too far and write canon-raping slashfics because it makes them moist.

Yes. There's writing Ron/Hermione fics which can absolutely be G-rated and freaking adorable, and then there's shipping Harry/Dumbledore and writing porn to go with it. For every fandom there is crazy. The crazy tends to get the most attention.

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and have never even thought of being with a man. Not because I’m a prude or because I’m “saving myself,”

Fat privilege is expecting sex just because you're in your twenties.

but because I literally can not imagine myself in a sexual situation. At all.

Sounds like a user error.

Any fantasies I have are always with the “perfect” body and it sucks. I can’t phantom anyone being attracted to my bloated fat body, even though I know that it’s possible. The idea of me being intimate with someone makes me sick to my stomach because the idea of my body in the nude makes me sick to my stomach, and it sucks.

Your options are 1) further indoctrination while crying as you scribble "Dear TITP…" or 2) fix your body, which is actually possible. So many people wish they could be in your shoes.

I’ve been taught to find my body so unattractive that I can’t even enjoy my body or imagine someone else enjoying my body.

I've been taught to find my body unattractive because I am not tall, I am not rich, I am not establiahed, I am not ripped, and I am male. Since I am not Justin Gordin-Levitt, the rare woman who takes an interest in me is pitying me or is desperate. Alas!

Almost all media is devoid of a normal, sexual relationship with fat bodies that isn’t a fetish and it really sucks…

Almost all media is devoid of any sexual relationship with anyone resembling me. Even fetishes.

You have a fixable problem. Fix it, get help to fix it, or write in your diary and die miserable. Am I callous? Yes. Do I hate you? No. Do I think you should nut up or shut up? Rhetorical question. Your entitlement has moderately rustled my jimmies.

Fat privilege is having a "woe is me" attitude to life and getting patted on the back for it.

"Society" has made them think of themself as unattractive, but TiTP says that they can't and shouldn't try to change their body.

One would think that TiTP would want them to accept their body and stop hating it, yet TiTP is unable to tell an overweight person that their way of thinking is wrong and needs to change. Instead, it's everyone else that needs to stop hating their body even when they explicitly say that the problem is in their own mind.

It's a common theme among SJWs. Typically, they have no inclination towards (or ability to) actually help people with actual problems. They can only blame society for the formation of the problems and then wait for society to change. Never mind the fact that it can take generations for this to actually happen.

So her low self-esteem is the result of thin privilege. What's sad about these people is that instead of fixing their poor self image, they just bitch about how it's societies fault. Seriously, how pathetic can you get?

This isn't even thin privilege or society's pressure, she's just complaining about her body and inability to get off her fat ass and change it. OP just tacked that last part on to make it semi-relevant.

That's not thin privilege, that's just not having a good image of yourself. If you're fat, you're fat. It is your choice/option or whatever. But self-love/acceptance isn't a terrible thing. If you're gonna own, own it. Don't blame everyone else for YOUR problem. geez louise

I can’t phantom anyone being attracted to my bloated fat body, even though I know that it’s possible. The idea of me being intimate with someone makes me sick to my stomach because the idea of my body in the nude makes me sick to my stomach, and it sucks.

I'm beginning to suspect that someone is trolling TITP hard. Several of their recent posts contain pretty strong fat-shaming language. I mean, the poster in effect shamed and called fat people disgusting in several inventive ways, then slapped "... and that's thin privilege" as if that was supposed to make it non-offensive somehow, but not really of course.

I wonder if I should submit a short story about somebody directly insulting and degrading the fat protagonist for a while, who then goes home and weeps for an hour, with no comeback or anything, just pure humiliation without redress.

[–]cucchiaioSailorsenshikin and our headspace is the negaverse9 points10 points11 points4 years ago(1 child)

You don't even have to be anorexic. I think I'm generally weird looking. I've never been comfortable with my legs, my face is weird, I have a slight muffin top at times, I have weirdly shaped feet that don't look good in sandals, etc... My boyfriend always tells me I'm crazy, but thin people don't have to be anorexic or otherwise disordered to have a less than perfect body image.

I'm betting most people grapple with that, even people that work out regularly. Hell, they might be the most sensitive to it since they're actively working on it.

This is just typical grass-is-greener nonsense. I've never been overweight, but was still a virgin until after college. Sometimes you just have weird self-esteem shit you have to work though. For this girl it's her weight and I hope she finds the will-power to do something about it. For me it was some intimacy and commitment shit I had to figure out. Everyone's got their own struggle.

To be honest, this person really could use some fat acceptance - of herself.

Plenty of fat women do in fact have sex lives, and not all based on fetish either.

So many of the posts on TiTP boil down to people hating themselves and being incredibly over the top self-conscious. They have a voice in their heads mocking them 24/7. It's not other people remarking on what they buy at the market, it's that voice in their heads saying "people are going to assume you're buying that all for yourself, they're mocking you" and "people see you're out of breath, they're all laughing."

People like the OP would do well to eliminate as much advertising as possible from life, and purposely LOOK AROUND and see the various fat or overweight people around them who ARE out there living their lives and not hiding in a burka in the basement somewhere. Make a point to look around, see someone else, hey, that person is fatter than me or as fat as me, but is out there in shorts and enjoying life!

That's not to say it isn't healthy to lose some weight, but even if you do, it doesn't happen overnight and there's no reason to sit around hating yourself in the meantime. Hell, it's probably helpful for fitness goals too if you have enough self-confidence to leave the house in whatever clothes you have and just GET OUT THERE and doing stuff!

TiTP is one of the more depressing blogs featured here, under all the crazy extremism.

God forbid someone be ~20 and a virgin. I'm what would be considered reasonably attractive but people aren't lining up to fuck me. Big fucking deal, but hey maybe I'm a weirdo for not giving a shit about sex. I figure I've got more important things to do with my time like video games and school.

Her problem isn't that she's fat, it's that she's got shitty self esteem and it probably radiates from her like a fucking beacon. I've seen it before in guys and girls, and nearly everyone else can tell when you've got a low opinion of yourself. It shows and it's horribly unattractive to anyone that's not a fucking creep.

Instead of complaining about privilege she could lose weight or learn to accept and love herself (as most of us have to for whatever reason, nobody's perfect). But I guess then there would be no one else to blame.

Yes, your personal self image and self esteem issues are the faults of eeeeeevvvvveryone else. Other people looking how they want to look do it just to make you feel bad about yourself, and in no way, shape, or form do it to feel good about themselves.

Perhaps there are those of you who ask: What about when someone’s so fat it’s medically unhealthy, shouldn’t you tell them to lose weight, out of friendly/familial concern? - Hell no. Why would your friends be a better witness to your experience than you are? If they are, then don’t you have bigger presumed problems than your weight? Why would they know what’s healthy for you, better than you do? Again, if they do, don’t you have bigger presumed problems than your weight? How in the world could you possibly avoid hearing, in our current cultural climate, that fat people should ‘lose weight for their health’? Treat people with respect. Don’t infantilize or condescend to them. This is Adult Interaction 101, here.