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Are you a married man, or in a relationship with a woman, and have feelings towards men?

Do you want to chat and socialise in a confidential environment with other men in a similar situation to you?

Then the Married Men's Group might be for you.

I was with my wife for around eight years and whilst always knowing there was something different about my sexual orientation, I just tried to ignore it in the hope that it would go away. But it never really went away, not if I'm honest. I just became a lost person and buried myself in work.

Eventually I started feeling quite down. I'd became the least important person in my life. I couldn't have cared if I lived or died, which was so sad and unnecessary, looking back at it. Certain things happened in my life and I decided that I wanted to live a gay lifestyle - whatever that was.

I did not even know that other gay people existed outside London, never mind other married gay men. But at the time, it didn't matter. I just wanted to not feel guilty about the things I thought about. So I told her. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. There were times I didn't think I had the strength to make it as I didn't have anyone I could talk to.

I didn't know about such things as support for people like me, and didn't even think I was worthy of support. But that was 15 years ago and things are fine now. I feel like a real human being and able to take on the world as a full member of society. And that's why I got involved with the Married Men's Group: to help blokes who are in a similar situation to me all those years ago.