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Topic: "I kissed a girl," she said. (Read 10390 times)

I remember sitting in the chair, waiting for the results. I remember the faces of the people who once stood behind me in line, nervous, anxiously awaiting their results. I remember each one of their numbers being called... while I sat, waiting, deep down already knowing...

"Amanda, you're test came back reactive to HIV antibodies"

HIV+

I am 29, I live in Utah (not exactly the best place to live a liberal lifestyle, but I like it here). I'm from Massachusetts, well, not really... I was born there, but my family played military Uhaul hopscotch pretty much my entire young life.

I moved to Utah to attend BYU. It was great... The University of Utah was better...

I live with my partner (Jess) together we have four children (biologically, they are hers)... I love her, and the children, they are my life. Kids are: 17, 13, 10 & 7 I feel like I'm always busy. Probably because I am. But without them I'd be causing trouble somewhere I'm sure.

Hmm.. I work as an Engineer for a Fire Sprinkler Company. Been there almost 6-years. Love it.

Well, that's about it, that's me...

Oh yeah, I forgot the basics... I like the color blue, love to read, snowboard, mountain bike, and well.. write.

All the best,

Amanda

PS. I look forward to forming lifelong friendships with individuals here on the forums... Utah is a lonely place as a 29-year-old HIV+ non-Mormon female...

Welcome to the Forums. Your life sounds hectic, amazing and full of love! (Even if it is in Utah! - Hear it is a beautiful State tho and would love to visit someday.)

I, and my husband, are from Scotland but presently living in Texas (cannot wait to get back home again as I miss my family!). Also, its just too hot here for me! Love being able to travel around the States tho.

- well I certainly have and really quite a few but not for some years!.

Although am bisexual and at one time counted myself as fully lesbian and was hugely involved in the feminist, lesbian separatist movement in the UK in the 1970s I have been faithful married to a man since I was 32ish ( mid 80s) - funny how life changes!!!!

So I have not kissed anyone but him for all those years!! sad isn't it really as he did ( i.e he kissed another girl) and gave me HIV!!

great - I have looked at your blog, support anyone who blogs on theses issues so if I can afford it after the new year I will donate something if it goes to help those with HIV - what do you do with donations?

but for me I was lucky in that it did not lead to any adverse reactions or consequences that we had not already had through HIv itself

In fact what it led to was absolutely no reaction at all!! No one was interested at all really and I wished that had been.

but while I wish my going public had had more of a result as while it might look like it was easy it was not in fact easy for me to do and took me a lot of courage.....................................

my heart goes out to you that this has been the consequences for you.Perhaps why it has not had any ongoing negative consequences for me is that I had already semi-retired form work due to a disability and so I could not lose my job and my husband lost his job automatically when he was diagnosed ( as his company do not allow seamen with HIv to hold a valid seamans ticket so he can no longer got to sea and do his job)

But I am pretty certain had I don't this when I was working as a youth worker for a local authority it may have been the same for me