Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Give my husband a new wife

Our pastor's wife gave us an excerpt out of the book "Power of a Praying Wife" a few months ago that I've found a great summary of how I should be praying for my husband and a great summary of what my Biblical view of my marriage should be. Too good not to pass on . . .

Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don't have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with your battering ram of revelations. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22, 23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.

Make me my husband's helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul, and spirit, Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.

I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect, and I look to you to perfect us.

Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other's faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). May we be "perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment" (1 Corinthians 1:10).

I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as You made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe Your life into this marriage.

Make me a new person, Lord. Give me fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You've given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.

2 comments:

Amen! Beautifully written! We just finished a study on marriage in the Sunday School we have been visiting...the speaker ended asking women why when we are engaged, we talk so wonderfully about our soon to be husband and then 10 years after being married, we talk only about what he is not ;-) anyway thank you for such an inspiring post!

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I am blessed to be the mom of four beautiful, brilliant children (no bias here!) and the wife of a handsome, intelligent man! Awww! I work as a fitness instructor part-time, which ensures I get my stress-relieving workout daily -- and that I can occasionally eat cookies without too much cellulite damage (I stress the 'too much'). We are originally from a small town near Hot Springs, Arkansas, and have lived in Greenwood for about 4 years now. We are University of Arkansas and University of Missouri - Columbia alums and members of First Baptist Greenwood. I can't say that I have any serious hobbies right now -- did I mention that I have four kids, ages 6 and under!! Ha!