10 Things You Should Never Say To A Working Mom

I’m sorry but no one else is raising my children but my husband & I. Someone else might be WATCHING them, but raising them no. I still get the luxury of washing clothes, reading books before bed, co-sleeping, fixing meals, running errands, etc. Not to mention, my kids are pretty young so them staying home alone is not a safe option.

2. I couldn’t miss all of the first’s my children do.

I don’t miss any firsts. Firsts don’t just happen between the hours of 9-5 M-F. Firsts are just as important the 3rd, 4th, & 10th time they happen.

3. I thought your husband made good money.

Oh he does. And so do I. 😉

4. I am so glad my husband sacrifices all he does so I can stay home.

I would much rather have my husband home with us then working all of the time just so I can stay home. But that’s just me. My husband sacrifies a lot, & so do it. He shouldn’t have to shoulder the burden alone. If it is important for me to be with my kids as much as possible, the same goes for Daddy.

5. It must be nice to get a break from the kids.

Riiiight. A break. What’s a break? I am too busy answering phones, meeting with clients, going to meetings, & preparing time-sensetive documents to get a break. Oh….you must mean that 10 min. quiet time I get that is also known as lunch.

6. At least you get adult interaction.

Yeah most of the time TOO much. I would give anything most days to be talking to my children most of the day instead of my clients. Most SAHM’s go to play dates & run errands & DO THINGS. Everytime I hear this, I get annoyed.

7. It’s so nice that you have become so relaxed about your housework since you are so busy!

I don’t know about you but working moms & SAHM’s BOTH suck in the house cleaning department. Probably because we both have children.

8. Women should be at home with their children.

Wow. Old school much? Things have changed since 1954. Women can be anything they want to be now. Did you know women have even ran for President & Vice-President? It’s true!

9. I would miss my children too much if I worked.

And I don’t? I miss my kids ALL day long. But bills have to paid & someone has to pay for all of the food we eat & clothes we wear. Just because I am not home with them doesn’t mean they aren’t on my mind all day long.

10. Do you really have to work?

No. I don’t. I work because I like being super stressed out. It keeps me on my toes.

This was in no way written to insult SAHM’s. This is merely the point of view from a working mother.

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I think that working mothers sacrifice a lot. SAHM are very fortunate to be able to be with their children all the time. I respected my bother so much for juggling work, cleaning, cooking, and taking care of us. To me she was super woman!
Children and living in general is expensive. With bills being high, sometimes women have to work to. Or they want to put the degree they worked hard for into good use. Either way, kudos to you for being able to juggle a job and children.

BAHAHAHAHA! I would have to disagree with the Adult Interaction one though! I seriously LOVE going to WalMart these days so that I can just look at other adults!! That’s one of the perks of working! I missed Adult Interaction BEFORE I had Blitz and I just worked at home away from civilization!

LOL as a working mother, i appreciate this. But everyone has their opinion on every different type of mother and they are all wrong. Only we know what’s best for our families and that’s what we are strive to achieve!

But, then there is the hard part, how much is it worth to you to work/stay home? I also looked at what we could afford to live with out to make it happen, what we REALLY need to have to pay our bills and save a little for emergency.

When it came down to it there was no way that I could stay home. But, I am alright with it. I hate leaving my babies in daycare but I love what I do. It is a trade off.

I wish I could afford the luxury of being a stay at home mom, but life hasn’t dealt me that hand in my first mommy experience, nor do I have the means to change that reality right now. Being a single mom working/commuting/traveling 40+ hours every week, working 5-10 overnight shifts every 8 weeks was not the fantasy parenting picture I painted for my life, or my child’s.

But there’s food on the table, clothes on his back, and family/friends that have circled around us for support! No, it isn’t ideal, and is often a painful reality of the sacrifices we make as parents, but we’re happy and healthy.

So, the next time someone makes any of the above ridiculous/insulting remarks (it happens often), I’ll appreciate the small arsenal of responses you’ve posted here!

I love love LOVE this. 1 and 9 really hit home. Like I let someone else raise my son and like HELL I don’t miss him while I’m working. I’ve heard almost every single one of those and each one ticks me off. Being a working Mom has it’s own set of difficulties as does staying home. I don’t get how people can be so insensitive either way. I’m glad this got reposted for me to read. Thank you!

I get these comments and questions ALL THE TIME from my SAHM friends. It’s nice to know that other women know that I’m not just a selfish person who only loves my babies before 8 am and after 5pm. My husband and I both work hard to provide the best life possible for them.
This really made my day!

I love this post. I only have to work 4 nights a week, but I bartend and it’s almost more exhausting than my kid! It was especially difficult when he was sick and not sleeping last week, my biggest pet peeve is when my coworkers are SO tired because they stayed up until 4 drinking but slept til noon.