Shy About Phone Sex? We Can Fix That!

Phone sex is one of the hottest forms of dirty talk, and for good reason – when you’re having phone sex, it’s easier to let your inhibitions go. Talking to someone over the phone is much less intimidating as breaking out the dirty talk when you’re face-to-face.

Phone sex also still holds a bit of a “taboo” feel – years ago it was something done in strict privacy with a stranger on the other end of the line. Even though many loving couples now use phone sex as a way to rev up their relationship, that salacious quality to the act still exists. It adds an exciting “we shouldn’t be doing this!” feeling to the thrill.

But even if you’re used to phone sex with your partner, there are times when you can get tongue-tied. There are times when it feels like you’ve said it all before. That uncertainty can lead to shyness when it comes time to turn loose and rev up the phone sex with your partner!

One of the best ways to overcome your shyness about phone sex is to let someone else do the talking.

Yes, you read that right! If you aren’t sure of what to say or it feels like your phone sex is getting stale, put some spark into it by introducing someone else’s words. Pick up an anthology of erotic short stories from your local bookstore (or go online and get that book if you’re shy about handing it over to the woman at the register!). Make sure the theme of the anthology is something you will both enjoy – there are erotic anthologies that focus on everything from music to bondage.

Settle in and read a few of the stories. Which ones turn you on the most? Which ones will your partner love? Pick out one to share with him over the phone. Ask him to sit back, close his eyes, and put himself in the story as you read it. Your sultry voice on the other end of the line, spinning such a naughty tale, will definitely get his attention!

Listen to his reactions as you read the story. Keep in mind which parts turn him on the most – you can use those ideas in the future! Keep your voice steady and sultry, and if you stumble over a word, simply keep going. When you get to the really juicy parts, speak slowly and make sure your partner hears every word. If you’re turned on, let him know – throw in little moans and gasps and pauses when you feel like doing so.

And of course, when the story is finished, it’s time to do what comes naturally!

Reading erotic stories to your lover opens up a whole new world of possibilities, throws open a door to fetishes and new ideas, and gives you something to work with when it seems your own dirty talk is becoming a little routine. Erotic stories are the spice that keeps the dirty talk flowing!

Confident, fun, well-rounded and sexy. Those are words that describe author Denise Brienne, a thirty-something woman who has a knack for giving the best advice to those who want to spice up their intimate relationships.