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is it really alone if it is all you have ever known, family friends are around, but that has never taken from you that feeling , how can you believe and trust in others when you have only ever had yourself to rely on, how can you know if you are in someones heart, when you don't understand your own, you know the feeling but how can you act, ok so i'm dribbling any comments would be good even if they consist of "HUH?????"

you need to know yourself before you can offer that to others.
alone and loneliness is not about a crowd but about feeling no one sees you or connects with you.. and if you don&#039;t connect with some little part of you then you have little to beam out to others for them to catch and respond

I know how you feel...I use to be like that...But now I finally or think I know who I am...I&#039;m just starting to let other to get to know me...It takes a while but it&#039;s worth it at the end...I could only image still trying to find myself right now I would be completely lost...I&#039;m glad I found myself when I did cuz I have so many friends I can go to know for help...So while looking for urself you might feel its taking forever but it&#039;s worth the wait at the end to see who you really are...-Sarah

I hear ya! It&#039;s just so easy to keep to yourself and rely on only yourself that way you don&#039;t get disappointed or have your trust betrayed, however having said that wouldn&#039;t it be nice if a friend called you just to say hi or want to have a coffee with you? I used to give all I had to friends only to get my heart stomped all over so up went the walls and I pushed them all out and yes no longer am I disappointed but sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. I&#039;m trying to let people back in but it&#039;s on my terms and I find here is a good place to start because if computer friends can be so nice then maybe there out in the real world too ... mmn, something to think about.

I think I know myself really well...but that hasn&#039;t helped in making friends, building trust, and ending the lonesliness. I have a lot of the same question you have AngstRidden. Unfortunately, I don&#039;t have any answers.

I do think that there is a difference between being alone and lonesliness. Being alone is normally by choice...whether it is for a short period of time or a lifetime (i.e. the lifestyle of a monk). On the other hand, lonesliness is when once does not have close friendships/family...not by there own choice...yet desires those closefriends....and desires NOT to be alone.

Maybe I can&#039;t answer your question because I still feel that way myself. You never can know, you just have to wait and see. I hear all the time that I have trust issues, but so many times I have been hurt or taken advantage of. When people I know take the extra step and do something out of the kindness of their heart for me - I notice. So many people are only interested in their selves. When you are down and out, pay attention to who comes to take care of you and in what ways they do it. Sometimes the smallest, most unconventional thing can be more special than grandiose acts. And sometimes finding someone who will simply take the time to sit next to you when the rest of the world continues to blindly pass you by, even for a little while, can be all you need.

I’m hoping to find friends that understand feeling so lonely and lost. I live with chronic pain on a daily basis. I try to be as normal as possible but it makes it really hard to do what most people would consider “normal” everyday activities. I was a loner before the chronic pain took over so much of my life. Now, I’m even more so. I would like to change that.

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