Ammonia means there is still bacteria in your diapers. They are not getting clean enough or sanitized while washing. Bleach would take care of the current problem, but it will just come back unless...

Agree with Polliwog. It will more likely shatter her latter in life than it would to just talk about it now. I have yet to see any research on adoption that recommends waiting until a child is older...

I'm sorry, it seems like they are doing some weird things, but mostly the posts just make you sound really judgmental of them. Maybe their son does have special needs. Maybe you don't have any idea...