“I think a lot of women nowadays focus on their career first,” Tyler, 43, told the Tom Joyner Morning Show. “I loved what I did and I was working very hard and everybody thinks nowadays with all the medical miracles that you have plenty of time, that you have all the time in the world. Whenever you’re ready to get pregnant, that stuff will be there for you. The fact of the matter is that it isn’t.

Whenever you go in and they tell you the likelihood of getting pregnant after 40 is 10% and for most people it’s 2-7%, couples focus on that and not the 97% that its likely that you’re not going to get pregnant.” Tyler says that she and her husband of 21 years, Jeff Tietjens, were not the only one of their friends who struggled to get pregnant.

She says after a year-and-a-half of trying, it was a devastating moment for her to realize it wasn’t going to happen for them, something she tearfully shared on “The Talk.”

“The more we thought about it, the more we were going through it, it’s a very expensive and painful process, you’re giving yourself shots every day, we just decided we were going to stop. We went through two rounds and we realized how many rounds we were going to have to go through to even be effective to even have a chance at this and we decided we were going to stop.”