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The evening news comes on to report about the protests in New York – the 1% protests. The reporter clutches her microphone as she gestures with her other arm at the crowds behind her with a serious and solemn expression.

Body confidence is a huge issue when it comes to being sexual. Study after study, in all areas of the globe, continue to show that more than half of women are concerned about their body image. Many men are affected by this as well, with gay men showing even higher rates of body dissatisfaction than women.

This month the writers of SexIs are focusing on the things that make people feel ready for sex. I decided to just focus on the difference between men and women using a purely stereotypical but strangely realistic algorithm ... made up entirely by me.

The author contemplates if we are “one step closer to saying good-bye to an era when simply being a woman is treated as a preexisting condition” as Senator Barbara Mikulski stated, or heading into the equivalent of the sexual dark ages in our own civilized backyards?

The biggest thing I learned about sex in 2011 is that, like life, it's unpredictable. Every time I thought I had a handle on my desire(s), on what I'm looking for, and not looking for, the universe threw me a curve, a challenge, a dare. I was engaged in a power play scene with the universe and it was my master, big time.

Vaginal pain is the number one reason why marriages are unconsummated, but treating and healing this condition is possible. Tinamarie discusses this all-to-common problem and reveals publically for the first time her experiences with a sexually debilitating condition.

It wasn’t until a long-time friend confided in her about her a midlife lesbian affair that the author was willing to investigate female sexual fluidity, and not just from a scientific distance — new research suggests a woman’s libidinous nature expands as she ages — but also psychologically.

Age has been on my mind since I'm about to turn 36 on November 10th. I'm often told I don't look my age, and I certainly don't feel my age, but I can't deny that what I want out of sex and relationships has changed since I was 26, and even from when I was 30. Sometimes I think the older I get, the less I know about how sex works — not so much the physical side, but the rest of it.

Is a woman frigid if her partner can't get her off? This common problem can be a source of great stress in a relationship. He feels like a failure for not being able to get her off. She feels frigid and ashamed. How can an otherwise happy couple solve the problem of no big O?

Nothing polarizes debate like birth control. Though many high-profile arguments rage on about abortion, the “morning-after” pill, and insurance payments for birth control pills, sterilization is an often overlooked but equally charged form of contraception.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how one’s sexual experience shapes their outlook on sex and relationships. Is more experience, not necessarily your “number,” but practical experience with other sexual partners, helpful when it comes to knowing what to do with a new partner?

Plenty of folks are eager to warn you of the dangers of vaginal fisting: you'll either tear something, be loose forever, or end up desperate to find bigger and stranger insertables until the point of absurdity, right? Wrong! In fact, you might actually find some health benefits to the gentle act of handballing. Let’s check it out.

What if everything we’ve ever learned about our basic motivation to have sex — the procreation of the species — is unequivocally wrong? What if making babies is a byproduct of the real purpose of our couplings?

If a “John” is a guy who buys sex, is a woman who buys sex a “Jane”? The last installment of “The Secret Life of Johns” asked: Who are these men that buy sex and why do they do it? But now I propose the question: Does “Jane” exist?

Inga Muscio came into my life on my first trip to New York City. A daft, nineteen-year-old, budding feminist, I scanned the shelves of St. Mark’s Bookshop and one bold title caught my eye: Cunt. I plucked the book from its resting place to view its pink daisy laden cover and the words “a declaration of independence.” Clearly, I had to read this book.

The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.

Maybe, just maybe, you're a girl who's kissed a girl ... or wanted to. Maybe, just maybe, you wanted more than just a kiss. You're curious. Maybe you're more than curious. So what the hell do you do now?

I’ve already told you about the purple stripes that crisscrossed my backside after my first flogging. They were thick and wide as the suede strips of the flogger, and concentrated on the roundest part of my ass.

For some, third base is a handjob. For others, it’s knife play and Velcro sheets. Regardless of where your line is, you know you’ve thought about crossing it. To those bold enough to step over, I raise my sugar cone in salute.

One week, 140 characters...and your imagination. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: What is the taste of a woman that's most enticing to your tongue?

Like certain other physical activities—surfing, yoga, running—belly dance more than just exercise; it becomes a way of life for some people—a way of carrying yourself, enjoying your body and moving proudly and sensually through the world.

Many women prefer oral sex to intercourse, because it has the potential to give them exceptional orgasms. And for those of you who need loads of direct clit contact to get off, mouth-to-clit stimulation is one of the easiest, most enjoyable ways to get make that happen.

So, you've got your period, you want to have sex but you aren't crazy about the mess? There are options for those who don't want to give up sex for a week just because Aunt Flo's town. This week, Nina talks about ideas on how prevent the mess while enjoying sex on your period.

When you’ve spent most of your life fighting to be taken seriously as a woman, it can be extraordinarily grating to discover that you want to call any man “sir.” This, then, is the plight of the feminist sexual submissive—how do you maintain your identity as a strong, intelligent, independent woman when you also get off on letting people push you around?

In her witty, tongue-in-cheek tale, Cutting Up Playgirl: A Memoir of Sexual Disappointment, author Carrie Jones chronicles a life without orgasms and her quest for the ever-elusive climax to her story.

She was smart, attractive, unemployed…and good in bed. Fed up with getting screwed by the corporate world, she decided to take destiny in her own hands, have sex on her own terms, and put a new twist on the world’s oldest profession.

Today, women take contraception for granted. Many even consider having to take a daily dose a chore. In response, a proliferation of once-monthly, and even once-quarterly forms of birth control have flooded the marketplace … but it wasn’t so long ago that sex minus fertility wasn’t an option—even if you were married. How the introduction of one little pill changed the modern world.

Scientists do many things in the name of progress. They seek cures for diseases; explore the nature of the universe, and the universe of nature. But sometimes, their findings can be flawed, faulty—or downright eff’d up. In other words: Put back that planet, and take your paws off my G-Spot!

When it comes to producing natural lubrication, no two women are exactly alike. And since lubrication is essential during sex—no matter how aroused you are—it’s more than a good idea to have a bottle nearby.

As a happily married woman who had spent a considerable amount of time learning how to do a striptease, I figured it was high time to go see the real thing. Yes, Virginia—it’s time to find out what really goes on at the strip club!

My sex life was completely, 100 percent, definitely no question about it attributed to my high and low moods. So, I stepped away from the computer and told a doctor in real life. I was easily diagnosed as bipolar, in part because of the record setting, in addition to the fact that I was unbalanced and moody. Since, bipolar has been written on my metaphorical psychiatric permanent record.

I used to be a prude, but I didn’t know it. I had what I thought was good sex. My husband then (now ex) and I played around a little bit, did things like “69” and the occasional blindfolding. Seemed shocking and kinky at the time.

Although in the United States, a woman’s ability to get wet is often valued as a sign of her sexual interest in her partner, appreciation for women’s self-lubricating potential (we are the original self-lubricating beings…) is not universal. In some cultures it is dry sex that is held up as the ideal, and women become smooth about avoiding becoming slick.

No matter your experience level, no matter what you know (or think you know)—there is need for a little remedial sex-ed from time to time. The one and only Dr. Dick has a surprise or two for you this week, as he sets about a little sexual mythbusting of his own (sans handlebar moustache and/or beret).

The last relationship I had before I met my husband was with a woman. Yes, I am a bi-sexual woman, although I am not a great fan of labels and can’t truly, with all honesty, say that I know that I fit the definition of that title to a tee. Nor do I really care.

I’m a newly single mother with a ridiculous libido, a penchant for deep throating and the ability to grind a man into orgasmic hyperventilation. (Not to toot my own horn, but a girl must be confident in her talents even though I’m too chicken shit to try them out on anyone new.) I’ve left my comfort zone sexually, the place in which I was pretty happy and complacent: marriage.

One of life’s inevitabilities as a parent (besides tax credits) is the knowledge that at some point, your kids are going to catch you in delicto flagrante. So—do you cease all sexual activity until they’re 18, or do you invest heavily in Disney? Or...is there another option?

It’s time to enjoy a glimpse into the world of your typical suburban mom (played by me), and how sex fits (or more appropriately doesn’t fit) into it. It’s not pretty, it’s not glamorous and it certainly isn’t all that sexy. But here it is, stripped down to the bone. It might just look a little familiar…

Last night I slept with Christian, my ex-husband, for the first time since he became my ex-husband. In so doing, I knowingly exacerbated his feelings for me, opened my own heart back up to him…and betrayed both of our significant others.

Some would have you believe that sex is the exclusive domain of twentysomethings – or, if you’re being strictly procreative about it, thirtysomethings as well. The swollen, glistening truth of the matter is that you can keep on having great sex for as long as you want to.

The vagina, while being the one-stop destination of choice for millions of people the world over, also bears the unfortunate distinction of being one of the most misunderstood areas of the human body, from makeup to function.