I get this from my clients all of the time. In fact I used to say this too. That's a woman's desire for a man's masculinity, his initiative taking and overcoming → you aren’t wrong for wanting this from men.

However here is where it is off in us ladies—and it’s easy to turn around:

A man won't approach a woman who isn't open, especially nowadays with so many important conversations around consent.

A woman who seems like she isn’t open can come off as shut down or as a masculine energy woman (or at least in that moment.)

What do I mean by an open woman?

Well, just like you as a woman have a radar for masculine energy, so does a man for feminine energy.

If a woman isn't approachable, warm, open, inviting it signals to him at a primal level that you aren't up for being approached or even more so that a woman isn’t in her Feminine. Women in their masculine energy with men feel like they could become emasculating woman in relationship and could also constantly be in competition with him, so possibly derail his purpose/mission as a man.

So an example:

He looks at you across the room…

Do you pretend not to see him?

Or do you make warm eye contact and smile back (open).

As a woman you want strong boundaries, you want to filter men out that aren’t a fit for you and by no means accept anything that is disrespectful, but you also need to make sure your energy is undefended, unguarded, open, approachable, warm→ Use your b!t$h shield only when truly needed.

B!t$h Shield = Masculinity.

Your heart is your Feminine core, show it to them men you want to approach you.

I hear this a lot from men," I don't know any man who is married and is happy. My best friend was full of life for all the years I knew him. He married this woman who literally keeps him on a leash and his light just went out. He is a ghost of who he was. No man I know who is married feels appreciated, in fact they all tell me they feel neglected and like nothing they do is enough."

"I sometimes feel women are open and beautiful and so fun and playful and as soon as they want commitment or something from you they change, no more fun at concerts and intimate talks, it's like it all just changes."

Entrapment and Obligation are men’s 2 biggest fears when it comes to commitment—when you step into your High Value energy as a woman and irresistible goddess, you learn how it is so easy for us as women to put our happiness on a man and to use obligation to try to get what we want— when we don’t have to do any of that! Your feminine energy and your authentic are so powerful! Powerful enough to inspire all the devotion, commitment, fulfillment, passion, attraction and more with the man who is right for you.

We believe in women showing up in their best for relationships and also receiving the BEST they deserve from men. It goes both ways.

If only someone threw us a “real bone” when it comes to learning how to actually do relationship. Relationship or the art of relating to each other is the prerequisite to succeeding at companionship, closeness, commitment, safety and excitement within intimate partnership.

How do you do intimacy?

How emotionally available are you really?

Can you respect your partner’s boundaries? Inspire respect yourself?

How do you communicate?

How do you show up whole instead of a “black hole” sucking out all the good inside your relationship?

We think feelings are all we need but we all know how quickly feelings change with unmet needs, objectification, boundary violation, misinterpretation and more.

Our brain loves to pine instead of grow. To long for instead of mature in Love. Fantasies of relationship or marriage feel good, but the real thing, done well, is so much better.