How To Cope With an Aging parent

As your parents age, they tend to get more and more difficult. We’ve all heard the expression “they got difficult in their old age”, but until you are trying to cope with an aging parent, you don’t really understand the intricacies of the saying. Of course, we still love them, and will do almost anything for them, but it is still okay to admit that an aging parent can be immensely difficult to deal with. Today we’re going to give you a few tips for coping with an aging parent.

Put Time Aside for You

The first tip has little to do with your parents, and more with you. You’re going to be frustrated and tired and irritated with your parents at times. What you want to avoid is being in that emotional state all the time. You can prevent yourself from becoming a tad bit resentful by making sure you take time out for yourself. This doesn’t mean you’re neglecting your parent, of course, just that you take a break from it from time to time when you can.

Don’t Let Them Get You Down

A parent with dementia may not remember all the things you do for them, so they may not be as appreciative of what you do as they once might have been. Don’t let that fool you or get you down. They appreciate you; they just can’t do it anymore. People with dementia often experience personality changes, paranoia, and suspicion, which they may unleash on you. You can’t take it personally or you won’t cope very well with the situation and you’ll end up having your own break down.

It’s Your Duty

When you get to the point where you think you can’t take it any more, remember all the things they did for you when you were young. The bailed you out financially when they could, they were the shoulder you used to cry on when your first crush said no, they were there for you always. Now it is your turn, and it is your duty (as it was theirs) to stand beside them and be as helpful as you can be.

Know You Can’t Do Everything

Remember that you’re not a god you’re human. You need breaks, and you can’t do everything. There are special home care services for those with dementia, such as Comprehensive Home Care, and it is probably a good idea to get their help if you’re not up to the task. Do what you can, love them, and everything will be okay. That’s what you have to remember, is that time will go on, and that you have to live your life, and do your best.