My male sits on eggs but not as much as the female. Jill are you sure you don't have the sexes mixed up. Maybe the one you think is the female may be the male. But hey don't be upset if the male is the one sitting on the eggs and the female feeding the male, you should be happy they are taking care of the eggs. When the eggs hatch you should see a difference and the female should be the one sitting on the chicks