Wednesday, March 9, 2011

It is The Greatest of Faults for a Person to be Two Faced in his Affection!

Bismillah Hir Rehman Nir Raheem "

'Assalaamu Alaykum Warahmatulla hee Wa Barakaatuhu '.

Muhammad ibnul Hussain ibn Qutaybah in 'Asqalaan informed me that Ibraheem al Hawraani…on the authority of Sahl who said that the Messenger of Allaah{ Peace be upon Him } said:-

"There is no good in a companion who does not observe the same rights towards you as you observe towards him."

Abu Haatim [may Allaah be pleased with him] said:-

It is compulsory for an intelligent individual who was blessed by Allaah to have love for a Muslim, to stay close/cling on to him. He should accustom himself to stay in contact with him if he cuts him off, to turn towards him if he turns away, to give him if he withholds, to draw close to him if he distances himself, to the point that he is like a pillar in his life.

It is from the greatest of faults for a person to be two faced in his affection.

Al Muntasir ibn Bilaal al Ansaaree recited (this poem) to me:-

How many a friend displays affection with his tongue,

but is deceitful in my absence and is not regretful.

He unwillingly amuses me so I may love him,

but his words in my absence strike me like arrows.

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Abu Haatim said:-

The intelligent individual is not deficient in his affection, he does not have two faces or two hearts. Rather, what he conceals is identical to what he reveals, his actions are in accordance to his speech. There is no good in two companions where deficiency grows between them, and their state increases in corruption.

The intelligent one does not befriend one who is two-faced, or one who has two hearts. He does not reveal anymore affection that what he conceals, and he does not conceal any less love than what he reveals. He should not be, when hardships arise, any different than he were before they arose or before getting involved, because a friendship that is unlike this is not praiseworthy.

A man from Khuzaa'ah recited to Muhammad ibn Khalaf at Taymee, who recited to Muhammad ibnul Mundhir, who recited to me:-