Friday, March 28, 2014

Yep...it happened. My boys turned two. We had a great party with family and friends. I also think I had my first "Wow...time is passing" moment. I am the first one to say that the days are long and exhausting and I'm ready for them to be a little older. For a long time I have been wishing they were four or five or six and they could be a little more independent and I could bring them to plays, movies, carnivals, etc. I know everyone tells me I'll long for these infant and toddler years again and I believe you all...it just didn't hit me until a few days ago when I thought to myself that two out of 18 years are gone. But the time didn't go fast. I didn't feel like I missed out on anything. I don't wonder where the time went; my body and gray hair shows me the two years I've been through. It's just that I've realized that two years have gone by. I'm happy to have had so many days at home with my boys (most of the time) but I am still looking forward to what lies ahead.

I have been trying to think about what has happened in the last year. Here is what I remember...

They went from walking to running

Aaron still wakes up in the middle of the night every couple days

They probably know more than 100 signs

They started talking and definitely know more than 100 words

They like to dress and undress themselves even though they don't do it well

They like wearing two different colored socks (Jeff especially)

They are Thomas the Train addicts

They are getting good at brushing their teeth on their own

They love bath time

They are learning to share (hooray!)

They have definite likes and dislikes with food, toys, clothes, etc.

Jeff will wear anything with a bear on it

I'm sure there are a million more things I could say about them but these are some of the big ones. And here are a couple of my favorite videos. You'll see Aaron at just over 23 months singing his ABCs in his own Aaron way and Jeff at 22 months signing a book.

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

A lot of people have been asking me just what the boys call Derek and me. For almost two years I had said that I really didn't know what names Derek and I would have. A lot of two dad families have a "daddy" and a "papa" but "papa" just didn't feel right for either of us and neither one of us wanted that name.

I met a two Jewish moms who were married to non-Jewish moms. They both said that they thought about being called "ee-mah" which is the Hebrew word for mother but neither one of them felt strongly connected with their Jewish heritage to give up the name "mommy." I had considered using the Hebrew word for "father" as well, but "ah-bah" didn't feel right either. I kept thinking that I'd sound like my kids were fans of Swedish pop music from 30 years ago.

So Derek and I were "daddy and daddy" for a long time with no real way to distinguish us.

Once in a while, when talking to the boys, we would say something about "your other daddy blah blah blah" and my fear is that we would be known as "daddy and other daddy." It was confusing for Derek and me so I can't imagine how confusing it was for Jeff and Aaron as they started to really identify us as separate people.

Then one day I became "Michael."

Oy vey.

Yep, my kids had turned into Bart Simpson and started calling me by my first name. I really wasn't a fan of that, but it certainly was better than "other daddy." It made sense they picked it up, though. Derek was always calling me "Michael" so of course they would call me that too.

Over a few months of correcting them it has finally become "Daddy Michael." Whew...my kids are no longer on a first name basis with me.

As for Derek, he has an official name, too. And I have to emphasize that I didn't steer the kids into picking this name. I still called him "daddy" 99% of the time. The kids, however, have started calling him "Daddy Derek" which, of course, makes sense. I love watching how their brains figure out language.

I have come to learn, though, that "Derek" is a much harder word to say than "Michael." So while my name is clear as a bell from both Aaron and Jeff here are their names for "Daddy Derek."