@Ruby Ryder This has made me feel like a 16 year old kid again and I have re-fallen in love with my wife like a dumbstruck kid. She is being so cool and sexy about it, teasing me. A year ago, I would have never believed that doing THIS would have that effect and be so damn HOT! The vision of her doing it is driving me crazy! In a good way.

@xtimedt69 - This is exactly what I do - I take an immense amount of pleasure from my partner's pleasure. Even if I don't orgasm, I am dripping when I'm done pegging. Pegging is not how I come but it's what I love. And it turns my crank like nothing else. So I guess I'm different from her in that it does absolutely make me horny. But give thanks that she enjoys pegging you! Perhaps she will get to the point where she freely admits it turns her on before long. But even if she doesn't - she's pegging you!

Tantus just came out with a 7.25 inch x 1.25 diameter dildo called the Slow Drive Long which would be just right for you, I think.

"Right now it is important that I am able to see and feel and kiss her."

@Ruby Ryder well I am hooked and I know she likes it, even if she is coy about admitting it. She is a woman who even if she likes something will rarely initiate it. I have told her my dreams and fantasies, but she almost never reveals hers.

I just feel more connected to the experience when I can see and touch her and it was a huge turn on (for Both) when I grabbed her ass and pulled her in harder. She liked that! You know anything about the Tantus P-Spot? That one looked interesting.

@inhope not bad or dangerous for the prostate unless one is being unnecessarily rough or beating away on it with reckless abandon and ignoring all signals of pain. Pegging is not always vigorous...a lot of vids show it that way, but there are some (the one's i prefer) that are not, they are more intimate.

inhope said:Shouldn't pegging be bad/dangerous for the prostate? The vigorous nature of it? I thought prostate stimulation was about subtlety and being gentle?

Excellent question. Prostates seem to respond to a variety of different intensities of stimulation. Since it is a gland - one must take care not to batter it. But that's not really what is happening with pegging. The idea of pegging may seem very harsh after the subtleties of the Aneros sessions. But consider the angle. You are sliding along the side of the gland in most cases, not poking it directly. Quite vigorous sessions of pegging take place every day all around the world and men are not popping up with prostate damage because of it (or they'd be talking about it somewhere on the internet). There's no science, but a health professional told me the prostate can get bruised. So nothing sharp, trim nails and don't use hard objects, which is why I don't use glass or ceramic dildos for pegging.

@inhope my experience so far is quite good. It is not violent on the prostate it is rather like a firm massage. I had to slow her down. But when she got it it is quite nice. Then the next day it is like it wants more.

My experience is that pegging does not cause any prostate soreness. We go either slow and deep, or shallow and rapid, using a double dildo: Tango by Happy Valley in a Spareparts harness. However, my wife has noticed that she can get sore if her end is not lubed really well.

@inhope...thinking of what @xtimedt69 stated his pegging results were (increased prostate sensations)...maybe a good pegging would enhance your Aneros results...just a thought, I know you've been having a tough time at this, it might help.

@inhope, deva may be on to something. Once a month or so I have used my Njoy Pure wand as a pegging device with very pleasurable results. I know its shape is not that of a dildo but it has worked for me. A couple of people have recommended the swirly dildo as an inexpensive tool which might be better.

I have only done this when I was feeling aroused and had very little time for a more relaxed session.

A caution would be that because this process requires manual activity on your part it may be counter to the relaxing into Aneros orgasms which you have been working on.

@canacan, somewhere in the forum there is both discussion and examples about solo pegging where men use dildo's to peg themselves, in some cases using a suction cup attachment to hold the dildo. What would you call that?

Don't mean to confuse you or anyone else in the event I am using the wrong term

@didymus Yeah I know, the other thread is to blame. It has been told to the OP already... He should change his thread's name. Of course none of what is said there is about pegging. Starting with that any anal insertion would be pegging. Soon aneros would be considered pegging too... There is no limit.

This is the real subject where we talk of the real thing.

Sorry for being so bothersome. Just trying to avoid the nonsense spreading.

...I also happen to love pegging with passion and be turned down by solo dildo play. See? The subjects really are distinct.

In one of her blog posts the lovely and gracious @ruby Ryder wrote this about a guy who had just had his first pegging orgasm:

"Who is ever prepared for an orgasm ten times more powerful than anything you have ever experienced? People can tell you it’s more intense but not until you feel everything tighten up just before you come, which intensifies the feeling of that toy sliding in and out of your ass, and then the sensation of all that come exploding out of your cock with more force than you’ve ever experienced, or perhaps taking you back to when you were 18. I’ve been told it will blow your mind."

@Canacan NO S^&T! It has been 20 years since I was hornier after than before and I am so hot for her right now. I was telling @devajones that pegging feeds my desire for her and then she feeds my desire for pegging it is a vicious cycle.

I'm sorry but when I've used the aneros in the past, using it GENTLY it caused me bruising and damage, not amazing orgasms. I just don't see it.

Also you shoot when you cum from this? not a prostate O?

What kind of damage? If using the aneros gently caused you bruising and "damage" you might want to consult with an MD. Find one who knows about pelvic floor dysfunction in men, because tight muscles could cause an oversensitive prostate. You are not the only one who is this sensitive to prostate stimulation.

Well my friends, I think I mentioned the awkwardness of making the missionary position work on the first two sessions, well she must have been thinking about it, because she figured it out and it was pure bliss.

Hmmm ... about a month ago I discussed pegging with the wife ... it came up a couple of more times ... I showed her some toys ... now she is HOT for it. Kind of surprised.

In addition to the fact that she is thinking about it, she has NEVER had any interest in butt play, but the other night she had me rub on hers. For 20 years, if I got close she would close her ass cheeks like a jail door.

xtimedt69: I tried to quote your post then add a comment but it wouldn't work.

Anyway, it took me 18 years before I could approach my wife about pegging. When I did, I was surprised she was curious about it too. She allowed my to play with her rear but I wanted her to play with mine. With a little internet research on her part, she was all for it. After the first couple of tries, she started to get the hang of it and now when we have the time to, it is amazing. She really gets into it and that makes it more intense for me as well. The orgasms are amazing! Happy Pegging!

@married2mywife My wife sure seems to like it, but she says she likes it mostly because I do, but she musters great enthusiasm. I have nicknamed her peg, she calls me Peg-E when she is frisky. Today she texted me "Thinking about you, Peg"

@xtimedt69 Sounds awesome! Which way do you prefer? So far for me being on bottom has given me the most intense orgasms. We use the Share by fun factory. It took my wife some time to be able to keep it in without a harness, but she has gotten good at it. She has always had strong PC muscles. :D

@married2mywife we have tried her on top and her behind. Her on top is MUCHO better. I showed her the Share and she says she wants to master this one first. Does she say it feels good to her?

I think for her, the closeness and the skin contact brings more pleasure than having the bulb inside her. Not having a "barrier" with the harness feels great. It will take practice to be able to hold the bulb inside. You may even have to "prepare" her before you will be able to insert the bulb end. Strong PC muscles go a long way to be able to hold it in.