Basically I'd self-comfort and reassure myself that things DO get better and that problems will workthemselves out, but I'd advise being more proactive in solving/shaping my issues rather than turning away from them and risking the fact that they may or may solve themselves.

In all respect, I pretty much understood what you meant, initially. But, I appreciate for going deeper and elaborating. Maybe that's what I should have done in my first response?

I guess my main idea is that it's the thought that counts. If you know your lady is particular about whatshe wears, then just give her the money, gift card, etc. When you're gifting, IMO, nothing matters excepther being pleased about the gift.

...But I can't bring myself to pretend to be anything I'm not/not feeling, regardless of situation. I'm basicallyhonest to a fault (with proper consideration about tactfulness). She can be pissed at me for the moment, that's fine, but she won't have to deal with skepticism when she asks of my opinion, and I say she looks fantastic. :)

I don't think asking about the "why" is discussing real counts of incest. Nor do I think the inquisitorsare seeking such material. A question is a question. Is it wrong to ask questions, regardless of howobvious it might seem to others?

And speaking of questions...

Who can tell whether or not stories are fictitious? Just like anyone here can claim things about themselves;just like anyone can post pictures and claim that's really them; just like someone can claim things about their experiences, embellishing or misleading--couldn't the same can be done with the origins of stories?

Please note that I'm not trying to attack anyone or anything. I'm just curious.

I know you asked the gals, but I advise you not to waste your time or your money. Men and women both suck at buying lingerie. Prostitutes succeed because they learn financially what sells. Almost all men, consciously or not, buy lingerie to reveal what they want to reveal. Almost all women, consciously or not, buy lingerie to conceal what they want to conceal. The odds of success are infinitessimally small. The dramas involved play out in almost every relationship with the same results. The lingerie goes unworn or the guy acts impressed with something that isn't all that impressive.

A gift certificate lets her waste your money the way she wants to. So if your only goal is to do that, try to act convincingly pleased when she shows it to you. That a better option than buying what you think she'll look good in. That pleases neither of you, because it will sit in the back of her lingerie drawer until the faeries ruin the elastic. If you make the mistake of going shopping with her, try to correctly guess her hints about what she wants to buy and let her buy it. It doesn't matter if it does nothing for you. She will never understand that you can't control what appeals to you and she will punish you for that. You're supposed to give her credit for trying no matter how unsuccessful the result. This is one of those things where a true meeting of the desires is extremely rare. One or the other is sacrificing for the sake of the other. It might as well be the guy, because, let's face it, we can be satisfied with anything that doesn't require a nuclear bomb to get into.

I think you touched on some interesting points here. The guy picks what he wants to be revealed, and the girl picks what shewants concealed. But I'd like to think that's it's not a waste of money to give her funds for lingerie if whatever she has in her collection has pleased you before. It also wouldn't be a waste if you just wanted to do something nice for her, regardless of what's in it for you (like visual pleasure).

I've personally never been punished for asking "her" to try something that appeals to me. If the answer is "No," it's no big deal;I leave it as that and I keep it moving. But since I generally love lingerie on women, it's hard for me to be dissatisfied.

But I guess the main thing here is experience and personal tastes. I'm speaking from my own perspectives on both, so that'sprobably why our opinions differ.

Make up is beautiful, but not in the sense of what it does to a woman's face (or body), but what it does to her confidence and her attitude when she goes out to face the day.

Unless you're in a specific religion, then there's really no way to hide your face, and why would you? So if a woman wants to hide her imperfection(s) that really stunt her self-esteem, make up allows her.

Who am I to say she shouldn't? If it's done well, all's well.

Fake tans? Whatever. If she doesn't turn orange, it's fine, but I personally don't entertain the idea thattans are sexy, or youthful, or make you look healthy . If nothing else, I'd love it if she'd love her naturalcomplexion and stop obsessing over how "pale" she is.

Someone once said that nobody is 100% straight. I think that's true. I find myself admiring attractive people of both genders when I'm out in public. But I would never consider becoming intimate with a man. I have watched gay porn but I found it curiously dull because there were no delectible female bodies in it. I guess that makes me mostly straight.

I watch a lot of straight porn and I get more enjoyment out of it when I find both the women and the men in it attractive. I really don't like seeing some gorgeous, slim twentysomething chick with a fat, balding, wrinkly old guy. It has nothing to do with being straight or gay but it has everything to do with aesthetics and personal taste.

I get your point, and I agree with majority of it, but here's my opinion:

Recognising attractive features in the same sex doesn't really make a person less than 100% straight. If we didn't recognise these characteristics, there probablywouldn't be so many people who wish things looked differently on themselves, or strive to be just as/more attractive to compete.

I think some people just have an even keener appreciation for beauty that's lessfocused on gender but more on characteristics. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

And I'm with you on the porn, mate. I guess it's the fantasy that it's possible to geta smokin' hot girl in bed with you even if you're a slob, or maybe it's the dirtinessfactor that a slob is nailing this PYT. Either way, it's not my style. I'd rather see twoattractive people myself, lol.

Veronica sighed softly, admiring the slumbering figure in her bed. He was much younger than she, with less experience as well, but that lent to the sweet eroticism between them. A dim overlay of light shone softly on his face. Feathery breaths escaped parted lips; dewy and rich, capable of broad, curlicue smirks. He wore a snowy shirt in bed, three buttons left unfastened at the hem. One of...