Best Thing For Children?

The purpose of this letter to the editor is simply get them thinking about the con side of homosexuality.

Right now in the United States, there are extreme pressures to redefine the meaning of matrimony. Specifically, Pennsylvania is being sued by the federal government because it has not changed its laws to legalize same-sex marriage. Marriage has an enormous impact on society, as well as an individual’s well being, so its definition should not be taken lightly.

According to the ACLU homosexual couples are just as loving and committed as heterosexual couples. They believe gays should have equal opportunities in everything, including marriage. However, can homosexual couples offer the diversity heterosexual couples offer?

For example, observe a father and a mother on the playground. What do you often hear? The father is probably encouraging the child to climb higher and run faster, whereas the mother is usually cautioning the child to be careful and not get hurt. In addition, fathers are more focused on doing things with their children while mothers are typically more concerned with communicating. According to Kyle D. Pruett, author of The Nurturing Father, “Father love and mother love are qualitatively different kinds of love.”

In extreme, either kind of love can be damaging. An abundance of motherly affection and protection may cause children to be timid and stunt their confidence and growth as human beings. On the other hand, a plethora of being pushed to take risks may cause children to leap without considering the consequences. It takes both a mother and a father to create a healthy balance for a child to be brave and bold but not foolish.

Simply put, marriage impacts the people around you. Parents play a major role in their children’s outcome. If marriage is redefined in Pennsylvania, deliberately depriving children of either a mother or a father, how could this be best for the children?

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"However, can homosexual couples offer the diversisty heterosexual couples offer?" Absoultly, yes.
You've based this article on sterotyping and assumptions and have no scientific evidene supporting your claims thus they are invalid. All studies in the area in question have, while being admitedly small, never shown that children of LGBT couples are worse of than children off heterosexuals. Finally legalising gay marriage is an issue of legal equality, whether or not h... (more »)

This is one of the first times I have heard a point of view on gay marriage like yours, and it is interesting. However, I really agree with Nyoman. Your article was written concisely, with strategically placed questions. I was just wondering what case in PA you were talking about, with the federal government suing the state. Could you post a link to your source?

butterflybee123,
I am so sorry but I have not been able to locate the article.
I wrote this a few months ago and have googled a few things and have had no sucess.
However, I hope this will not hinder you from personally looking into the matter.
I appreciate you having an open mind to my opinion, even though it differs from yours. :)
~hazeleyes_95

I have to agree. I have always believed that a child needs the different sides of a parental partnership: the motherly side and the fatherly side. I think, though, there is a fundamental difference with single parents. These parents realize something is missing, I believe, and so they temper their love to appeal to both sides, though many times a figure outside of the immediate family supplies the missing part. The same could be said for same-sex marriages, but I still believe that one man and o... (more »)

If thats true then all children with single parents are screwed, which I don't belive is true. Even without this evidence I don't think this article is accurate. Try talking to actual homosexuals and their children.

Dear Nyoman,
I want to thank you for being honest with me in your opinion about my article.
In response to your saying single parents are screwed I want to respectfully disagree. Most single parents do not choose to be single parents, but often single parenthood comes as a result of divorce, death or unplanned pregnancy. Laws which deliberately deprive children of one gender are a different story. Because of this, I still think that children should have a father and a mother whenever possibl... (more »)