Is she agreeing to the date just to be nice?

You’re about to read a Sean story. So, if you’re one of the readers who finds his tales grating, stay away (rather than commenting to complain how much you dislike him). Otherwise, enjoy (and comment).

It was a Friday night and they met at a bar. Plans were made for lunch on Sunday, then he never called. He says he got distracted, and thought maybe she was going to call him. He took it as her blowing him off.

Weeks went by and he’d all but forgotten about her. Then, they crossed paths again.

She tore into him for not calling, saying “I left my whole Sunday open for you.”

He apologized.

She wasn’t having it.

This, of course, made him want her more. So he e-mailed — without consulting me first, I may add.

Eventually, she called. The e-mail won her over.

They went out last Friday. Conversation was tough, at first, but got better as the night wore on.

When he went to the bathroom, a woman in the restaurant came over to “Maggie” to tell her she could tell they were on a first date. She also said that, by Sean’s body language, she could tell he was really into her.

She was right.

Sean took Maggie home and said good-bye. As she was getting out of the cab, he told her he had a great time and asked if she’d like to go out again sometime. She hesitated at first, then agreed.

Later that night she texted him: “good seeing you (sean), gnite :)”

This was a good sign, he thought, so he went to work planning their next date.

The plan: ice skating. He bought gloves, a hat and scarf and mailed them — along with a note telling her he was taking her iceskating — to her apartment. The gift arrived Wednesday (FedEx tracking). By yesterday, he still hadn’t heard.

He called her apartment to confirm she had picked the package up from the rental office. She had.

Not hearing from her was a bad sign, he thought.

I agreed.

Last night he couldn’t wait anymore, she he texted to see if she got the package.

Two hours later she responded:”yes i did :). Im a disaster ice skating, but very thoughtful. When were you thinking?”

It’s cute that he mailed gloves, etc. to her. But I think that’s the kind of thing you do when you’re 100% sure the person is into you. The fact that she hesitated before agreeing to another date makes me think that when she received a package from him, it was viewed as coming on too strong. Sean puts too much effort in, way too quickly.

Seems like she’s trying to be nice and give it a chance, but seems very doubtful in the back of her head. Probably the type that hates rejecting others and making them feel bad with all the effort they put in.

Personally, I think mailing her the stuff for skating is adorable. Even if she isn’t a good skater, and assuming that she likes him, she could use it as an excuse to be close to him – a “hold me up so I don’t fall” sorta deal. They could have had a few laughs, while trying to stay upright on the skates. But the fact that she didn’t call when she received the package is a bad sign.

I agree with Lisa. I’m probably the worst ice skater in the Capitol Region and would still think it is awesome he put that much thought into it. I might be a little scared off if he was just buying gifts so soon, but this is ok since it’s for a themed date. :) Too cute!

Sounds like he was trying to make up for messing up the 1st time w/her. AND she texted HIM when they left each other the 2nd time. If she wasn’t into him, why would she do that?! That he took the time and effort to mail the package is awesome! She definetly should have called him, EITHER WAY, at least just to say I got it and thanks! Truly, who is a GREAT skater? It’s a fun activity to spend time together and yes, maybe holding onto an arm or a hand, to get around the rink. I went on a skating date last year, had a BLAST, then went out for lunch and a cocktail after. Great date and one that sticks out in my memory of “good ones!”…

I would have been totally turned off if a guy I went out with once mailed me gloves and a scarf and an invitation to go iceskating. Trite! And presumptive. He’s trying too hard. Chicks can smell desperation like blood in the water. Just chill out, Sean.

Sounds like she was more interested when she thought he wasn’t interested. I did think the idea was cute….I would probably be hesitant if I were her only because I just should not be on ice skates….EVER for any reason at any time no matter what!!! As I have told Kristi – I can trip walking down the hall let alone putting blades on the bottom of me feet and venturing out onto ice. YIKES!!! I think he should just let it go now and see if she contacts him.

Ahh leave it to Sean to decide he likes a girl just because she’s not interested. Tell him to cut his losses and run. And the next time he likes someone he should propose a second date before the first one ends.

Male Reader #17 – I like guys who put thought into their relationship.

She might be interested, it doesn’t say much about her schedule here. I know me, I work a lot. I could see me not having the time to call simply based on time management. I’d want to set aside time to talk, and some days that I’m on for 15 hours…well, it takes me out for awhile. Meeting people and all that is actually an effort for me, but I still make it. On a pretty regular basis, too.

Anywho…I wouldn’t knock Sean. Lots of people are interested in another person who doesn’t seem interested. Lots call that a game.

He sends her a package, she receives it, and does not acknowledge the gift immediately. He has to call her to find out if she got it to get a response from her. To me, that looks like a glaring clue right there. She was not happy to get it, and it is possible that she felt so awkward that she did not feel ready to call him to ask him not to pursue her any further.

After reading “mike in albany” I completely agree with him. I overlooked that part…where she got a gift and didn’t even say thank you. He needs to just move on…she isn’t worth it if she has THAT little thought for him. I feel bad for him…but he should find someone that is equally into him.

Goose, she had agreed to a second date and had texted to say she had a good time on the first. Trust me, I believe her current behavior screams “I’m not into you,” but her texting him after the first date was not out of necessity, but out of some sort of interest.

I think getting a FedEx package is creepy after only 1 date. How did he get my address? Did he Google Earth my house? I think I am paranoid though. I always meet @ the place on a first date, never let them pick me up, just in case.

I know, I clearly have stalker issues, but I think that is an ok thing to have these days.

Making plans for lunch, not calling and then blaming Maggie for blowing him off, saying he would like to see her again before the first date has ended, sending her a gift for an activity in which she apparently doesn’t wish to participate, makes Sean come across as too needy, desperate and immature. Women are NOT attracted to men who act like that, at least not in the long run.

Sean, go over to AskMen.com and read some of their advice to wussies. You really need a strong, male role model to slap you upside the head when it comes to the way you rush into relationships.

first off, you never ask for the next date while you’re on the current date! Where is the mystery in that? Lame. Sending the stuff in the mail was way lame as well. Can you say NEEDY or DESPERATE? Never let your interest level get above hers man, play it cool.