This Reader Wants To Wear a YELLOW Wedding Dress—But Her MoH Is Freaking Out! What Should She Do? (Plus, 5 Yellow Wedding Dresses I Like!)

I'm definitely not a traditional bride, and I have my heart set on wearing a bright yellow wedding dress. I'd like to find something knee-length with a '50s- or '60s-style silhouette, but I'm not having any luck.

I'm also not getting all the support I'd hoped for. My parents, friends, and fiance all agree it would be weird for me to wear a traditional long white dress. They want me to wear what makes me happy.

My sister, however, who is my maid of honor, flat-out said I would look stupid in a bright yellow dress and people would laugh at me. She's also butting heads with the other bridesmaids, my friends, who she's written off as "weirdos."

Assuming I can even find a yellow wedding dress, how do I deal with my sister's attitude? And is wearing a bright yellow wedding dress weird?

Here are my thoughts:

You know what would be weird? Wearing a wedding dress that didn't feel like "you" because you were worried about your sister or your guests Tsk, tsk-ing behind your back.

You should spend your wedding day surrounded by the people who love you and know you best, and I hope that your nearest and dearest will be happy to be there even if you show up in a potato sack.

It sucks that your sister is being a bitch, but my sister and I get on like balloons and porcupines, so I get that you can still love her, even if you don't see eye-to-eye on style. Still, it's super-rude of her to pick on you, so I'd have a comeback ready the next time she pushes your buttons.

While I was wedding planning, here's how I dealt with my in-laws, who had a different "vision" for our wedding:

Kim: We're going to do long tables at the reception.Father of the groom: LONG tables? You can't have long tables at a reception!Kim: What shape tables did you choose for your wedding?Father of the groom: Round!Kim: And were you happy with your choice?Father of the groom: Of course! Round tables are the best!Kim: Well, now it's our wedding and our turn to choose. We'd like long tables, and we'd appreciate it if you'd respect our decision.

This was an actual conversation, by the way. And Rory's dad was so offended by the idea of long tables that we wound up mixing round and long tables so he wouldn't have to sit at a long table. For reals.

I know this sounds a little rude, but you have to fight fire with fire and rude with rude, in my opinion.

Plus, as I tell every couple, you're never going to make everyone happy, so you might as well try to make yourselves happy!

Now, onto the happy news!

If you do decide to wear a bright yellow wedding dress—and I really think you should!—I think you'll find tons of great options! I wouldn't bother going to a department store, where the bright yellow dresses will be few and far between. (Plus, if you shop for a mass-market dress, you'll risk one of your guests showing up in your "wedding" dress!) Instead, I'd consider trying on a bunch of bridesmaid dresses, which come in every single color and a bazillion shapes.