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Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

My first impression was that it was a place that I felt like I didn't fit in, as long as I didn't show a picture of me I would be fine because only my personality will show through my posts.

I made friends with a lot of older (in age) members and as I saw them disappear off of JUB I made friends with people through private message. Again I still feel the same impression as I did 9 years ago I don't feel like I fit in. BUT, I still talk to some JUB members through private message and visit a few in Fun & Games.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

My first impression back in 2006 was of an intimidating bunch of posters who didn't take to new people well and were extremely cliquey.

I originally joined in 2006, posted for a couple of weeks and stopped coming here. I got a reminder email a few months later, one of those form things saying I was missed it reminded me of the site so I popped back and decided to give it another go.

I ended up forming a couple of close postships with some of the posters at the time and stopped worrying about offending people. I've been here ever since if you don't count the self-delete tantrum a year or so ago when my life hit the shit.

When I joined JUB I was pretty fragile, coming out the tag end of a particularly bad real life situation that saw me have a complete breakdown. When I started to wake up after the storm and started to talk to people I found a large group of rather nice people who have an amazing tendency to stop and try and pick you up whether they know you or not.

I've had good times and bad times on here. Friendships formed, friendships lost, laughter, tears, hate and love. As much as I may lament the "good old days" from time to time I wouldn't change being here for anything. My only regret on JUB is it doesn't have an alcohol breath analyser when you self-delete in the middle of a tantrum It's going to take forever to get back to the 11,000 posts I had when I deleted.

JUB is what you make it. There's always someone to get into a barney with, always someone to flirt with and always someone who will reach out to you when you're in trouble. I'll never forget the poster who messaged me in a particularly bad time when I was facing bankruptcy and offered to wire me money from the US. Actually there were several who offered to help during that time.

The term "community" is bandied about a lot and can be quite meaningless, but when a JUBBER hits the floor the truth behind so many of the profiles comes out, even if it's done in PM where no-one else can see.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

I was honestly impressed at the range and the variety of forums, topics, threads, etc. Bear in mind that I'd NEVER seen a forum or message board before I saw this place. Before that, I had imagined them to be only one gigantic thread, with everybody posting there. I was very unfamiliar with online social communication when I first came here. Finding JUB was a literal life-changer for me. It's still a great place to be.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

well, didn't know what to think at first. however, i'll admit that i thought you guys were a bit too serious for me when i started posting. the surprising part is that you guys gave me the benefit of the doubt when i was acting an ass in here and gave me a chance to prove myself. i would like to thank you all for that.

one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

My first impression was that it was a place that I felt like I didn't fit in, as long as I didn't show a picture of me I would be fine because only my personality will show through my posts.

I made friends with a lot of older (in age) members and as I saw them disappear off of JUB I made friends with people through private message. Again I still feel the same impression as I did 9 years ago I don't feel like I fit in. BUT, I still talk to some JUB members through private message and visit a few in Fun & Games.

SINCE I've had the PLEASURE of meeting YOU in PERSON...

I'm going to be OPENLY candid...

YOU are a GREAT LOOKING guy with an AWESOME personality and INCREDIBLE intellect...

Yet -- YOU are ALWAYS so HARD on yourself...

As the WISE woman said in the INFINITELY famous movie "The Object of my Affection"...

"Chin up young person"...

"Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it..." Goethe

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

JUB forum - community . Mainly consisting of and directed at single gay men . I expected to find representatives of an alienated oppressed minority , what I found was a group trying very hard to be accepted and respectable . Not Stonewall street-fighters but members of the Better Business Bureau and would-be Masons . Gay marriage is really the most respectable thing . Progress doubtless . Stonewall was transvestites and street-kids at a bar owned by the Mafia . Not on our street thank you .

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Porn. But wasn't that much interested. Came back sometimes. Discovered there was a forum. Was deep in depression, read a lot of threads in pretty much all the sub forums, then one day I gathered my courage and made a profile and posted. I was shocked and impressed by the amount of good people here and the interesting things and caring this lot had to offer. Was so helpful to uplift my mood when I was in the dark.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Most gay men and most JUB members are urban , more well educated with a higher average income than most . We will not wear eye liner and skin tight leather pants that emphasize your ass but tweeds and loafers . New drag .

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Originally Posted by Ram

I remember how cool and intelligent the posters were and I felt super intimidated by them. Everyone appeared to be gorgeous and suave.

I've never been cool or intelligent ... but I was gorgeous and suave when I first joined. Alas, 8 years of slumping in front of my computer stuffing my face with pies whilst I browse JUB has taken a terrible toll on my formerly almost god-like body.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Originally Posted by HoodedRat

I've never been cool or intelligent ... but I was gorgeous and suave when I first joined. Alas, 8 years of slumping in front of my computer stuffing my face with pies whilst I browse JUB has taken a terrible toll on my formerly almost god-like body.

Oh my god -- no! You are one of the JUBbers I admire deeply.

If you get to see yourself through the eyes of others, you are brilliant.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

I came on and off for a few years for the free porn. Then I found the forum. When I found a post that I wanted to comment on, I had to join up. I don't have any experience with other forums on the internet. I have mixed feelings about the forums, but mostly good feelings. Some of the members intellect and wisdom really surprises me. I like the variety of topics, if I don't have an interest in one topic there are others to delve into.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Ended up on a page in the Show Yourself Off Forum doing a porn search and then noticed that there was a whole backstage area inhabited by lots of incredibly funny and erudite people.

And after they all left....I stayed around anyway.

jk.

Seriously, though, I found that it is like dropping in to your favourite bar after work. Which we don't have here in the country.

And then I found that it was like dropping into the local diner for breakfast and shooting the shit with the other members of the village brain trust.

And now on some days, we have lunch together. Or the equivalent of a smoke break during the day.

And why?

Because it takes me out of myself. I can stop thinking about whether we are all having a good day in the office or not...whether the people who inhabit our world of business are behaving like psychotic asshats or deadbeats or whatever....

My partner and I spend 24 hours per day together, so we each need our own time sometimes as well and I get to tell him what the posters (whom he calls 'the girls') are up to today.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

At first it struck me as a cliquey kind of place with a lot of inside jokes. I was a little intimidated, but eventually I found some friendly people to interact with. Oddly enough, many of them are no longer here.

Recently I heard a 'wise guy' story that I had a party at my home for twenty-five men. It's an interesting story, but I don't know twenty-five men I'd want to invite to a party. ~Joan Crawford

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Originally Posted by LilBit

At first it struck me as a cliquey kind of place with a lot of inside jokes. I was a little intimidated, but eventually I found some friendly people to interact with. Oddly enough, many of them are no longer here.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

I stumbled across JUB quite by accident.

I was searching for information on a drug, and there happened to be a thread on that drug here on JUB, which Google search picked up. There was so much misinformation posted in that thread that I felt compelled to register a membership here so that I could dispel some of notions that were being posted.

The fact that this is a gay forum, and I happen to be gay, was just a coincidence. I actually did not know that there were gay bulletin boards on the internet, and I found it liberating. A place where you could come and discuss stuff and not get attacked for being a faggot.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Yeah, it was a tough first few months for me. There were like major cliques but after the revolution, this place changed a lot. It's easier to make friends now but by the looks of the newcomers, it's hard to find any.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Originally Posted by LilBit

At first it struck me as a cliquey kind of place with a lot of inside jokes. I was a little intimidated, but eventually I found some friendly people to interact with. Oddly enough, many of them are no longer here.

Same. I pretty much didn't post until I'd read enough to feel like I knew the most frequent posters and stuff because the place does appear very cliquish to someone new.

Which might have contributed to people thinking I was a sock puppet when I showed up and knew some of the names and lingo.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Hmmm..... I made some clarifications and added in some forgotten cliques.

Not true!

Li'l Bit had an abortion.

Originally Posted by xbuzzerx

The entire place is cliquish when you're looking at it as someone with 0 post count.

Yeah, I remember quite a few newbies sending me PMs or post comments asking if Ram and I really hate each other. That kind of inside joke can seem alienating to someone who doesn't know the context. I felt the same way about RL's wildebeest and Moms Mabley jokes at first. But eventually I got into them.

Recently I heard a 'wise guy' story that I had a party at my home for twenty-five men. It's an interesting story, but I don't know twenty-five men I'd want to invite to a party. ~Joan Crawford

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

Originally Posted by LilBit

Yeah, I remember quite a few newbies sending me PMs or post comments asking if Ram and I really hate each other. That kind of inside joke can seem alienating to someone who doesn't know the context. I felt the same way about RL's wildebeest and Moms Mabley jokes at first. But eventually I got into them.

Omg, they sent you PMs? And not to me? They thought I was the baddie?

I think I had to explain a few newbies before but that was like ages ago. I can't remember well. Some felt I crossed the line when I was just dishing out the facts. They were cool after that.

Oh dear, I did not want to alienate anyone. You guys are free to insult Lilbit as much as you want.

Re: What was your first impression of Justusboys?

I don't see any cliques in JUB at this point of time. Maybe I am far too deep into the system to see it but I can't think of any.

breh, there's a lot.

never understood the point of web cliques anyway. it's stupid. if you can't stand on your own two on the internet out of all places, then you might as well retire.

this other spot i go to actually had folks that were making internet gangs which would basically try to make other posters lives difficult. the losers had to roll together in order to make some sort of impact and they would follow folks that they claim they didn't like too like cheerleaders. would laugh at each other jokes too even when they were snooze worthy.

one thing about the closet/you don't have to hurry/it will be bad tomorrow/so brother, don't you worry