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8.13.2010

I keep going back to wondering what is the motivation for rape. Of, course though there is the statement that sex is about power, so rape is both. That's not really what I wanted to talk about, though. Well, Rape was on the list, but not so much the power vs. lust. More on the what-the-fuck-are-people-thinking-?

Uganda. That's some pretty F-ed up stuff there. (have I sworn on this before?) Back to Uganda. I just read Harper's article on it. I think it scared the shit out of me. The author talked about one uhm, man. At least I think the person is a man, maybe they are or maybe she is just pretending to be one. I wasn't clear on that. But I was clear that at this person at least used to be female and a lesbian. She didn't feel comfortable in a dress so the Church decided that she was possessed by a male spirit. They thought it best that performing an exorcism would be best. The men held her, talked in tongues, took off her clothes (exorcising evil spirits in those too?) fondled her– while it was all being called "holy" and eventually locked her in a room and raped her––– for a week. Then they called her "cured".okay for one how does anyone ever start to think that raping someone is going to turn them straight? because they will realize they enjoy hetro sex? last time I read anything about rape it still said that it wasn't enjoyable. In fact I don't think I ever ran into the phrase "I was raped and it was fucking awesome." I don't think that will change. If homosexuality was a choice, which it isn't, by the way, I'd imagine lesbians would be like "fuck this shit, guys are douche bags."

But back to the context. This was at a church. Now, the article didn't say if there were any white guys at this church, however there were white guys at other churches Blessed had been to. Blessed is the gay man the author talked with. Okay context, they are in a church they believe homosexuality is a sin because it is in the Bible. What else is in the bible? rape is 'punishable' ie wrong. Now, let's say she didn't say no, let's say she didn't "cry out". In fact even if we go as far to say she wanted it. (which clearly she hadn't.) The author, Jeff Sharlet, went to several abstinence parties. There where signs in one of the churches among "Say no to homosexuality." there was "Avoid sex before marriage" and "always say no to sex." sooo, Sex is okay if it's to get a male spirit/demon out of the body? a mob mentality and because it was curing her it was okay for them to give in to their sick thoughts and rape this poor girl.

8.01.2010

Boyfriend and I were hanging out with a friend at his grandma's house. The guys were playing Magic, I was drawing and the grandma was watching TV. The TV ended up on a movie called Disclosure. (there is a novel that I need to read.) First thing I want to mention in the beginning the main character's(Tom) daughter didn't want to put on her coat, so he said something like "you should always listen to your father." her reply was "Rachel doesn't have a father she has two mommies." Uh, I approve.The second point is that Tom is sexually harassed. They of course went into that "sex is about power." but even if we are 100% certain of this it's- more of a wanting of power, the need to control something. Not necessarily actually having that power and doing what you will with it. (which would make it more sexual.) Tom had said "sexually harassment is about power, when did I have the power?"The female claimed he did it. In trying to say that he did it her lawyer was suggesting that Tom, who was attracted to the woman, had just "lost control" and had to have sex with her. Lost control? isn't that the opposite of being in control– having power? So, his lack of thought would have made him commit a crime. (not of course saying that raping someone because you are aroused is an excuse.) and they were just trying to get him to admit to raping her. This is all just fiction, of course, but I still have to question.Of course sex itself is/can be about power. Which kinda confuses the sex/power myths about rape.Mostly, I mentioned the movie, because a women can sexually harass a man. Due to the nature of the sexes it is less likely to happen, but it can.

I'm reading at the moment a Year of Living Biblically at one point he states that the idea of avoiding a woman while she's on her period isn't misogynistic– it's like grieving for the death of a potential life, but do we grieve for ever sperm a male ejaculates that doesn't end up as a life??

at the mall, today my boyfriend and I were looking for the Borders again and I was like "oh, it's this way. by the naked girls. Did you not remember passing the naked girls?" "No," he said. "because I am happily in a relationship." "I notices the naked girls." I don't know how he missed or forgot about the mostly naked girls.