self feeding

So recently, my dd is insisting on holding her spoon(s) at mealtimes and will not let me feed her. She will eat finger food no bother of course but nothing that needs to be fed to her. The problem is she takes the spoon but is not even trying to feed herself, she just stabs the food in the bowl with her cutlery. She'll eat some if it gets stuck to her spoon but that's it. Anyone else going through this?

So recently, my dd is insisting on holding her spoon(s) at mealtimes and will not let me feed her. She will eat finger food no bother of course but nothing that needs to be fed to her. The problem is she takes the spoon but is not even trying to feed herself, she just stabs the food in the bowl with her cutlery. She'll eat some if it gets stuck to her spoon but that's it. Anyone else going through this?

My son does this sometimes. We give him the spoon and let him play. It helps to have 2 spoons... One for you and one for him. He likes to stir more than anything, but as long as his hands are busy he'll allow us to feed him.

My son does this sometimes. We give him the spoon and let him play. It helps to have 2 spoons... One for you and one for him. He likes to stir more than anything, but as long as his hands are busy he'll allow us to feed him.

mine also insists on feeding herself, however she has been using cutlery for about 2 months now and is pretty proficient. I just give her a fork and spoon and let her go to town. at first she practiced and would give up and use her hands. then she started using the fork more and more and actuskky getting food. then I let her try a spoon and yogurt and she did surprisingly well. she's an absolute mess after she eats, but gets better everyday. she eats things like mac n cheese and spaghetti with a fork.

mine also insists on feeding herself, however she has been using cutlery for about 2 months now and is pretty proficient. I just give her a fork and spoon and let her go to town. at first she practiced and would give up and use her hands. then she started using the fork more and more and actuskky getting food. then I let her try a spoon and yogurt and she did surprisingly well. she's an absolute mess after she eats, but gets better everyday. she eats things like mac n cheese and spaghetti with a fork.

My dd can use a spoon pretty well although sometimes she gets frustrated with the pace of doing it herself and hands it back to me to do it for her. She starts doing the stabbing motion you described more towards the end, when she's not as interested in eating as playing. I thinks she's actually trying to stir it up but it looks more like she thinks it's a fork and is trying to stab stuff. I let her play as long as some of it goes in the mouth too and sometimes I help guide her hand through the motions. Otherwise, I take the spoon and feed her if she will let me or get a second spoon to use while she plays. It's super messy this way but I figure it's the only way she'll learn to use it so I just go with it.

My dd can use a spoon pretty well although sometimes she gets frustrated with the pace of doing it herself and hands it back to me to do it for her. She starts doing the stabbing motion you described more towards the end, when she's not as interested in eating as playing. I thinks she's actually trying to stir it up but it looks more like she thinks it's a fork and is trying to stab stuff. I let her play as long as some of it goes in the mouth too and sometimes I help guide her hand through the motions. Otherwise, I take the spoon and feed her if she will let me or get a second spoon to use while she plays. It's super messy this way but I figure it's the only way she'll learn to use it so I just go with it.

Thanks everyone. I think she's not trying to feed herself at the moment cause she's been sick and has not got a great appetite but things are improving so hopefully she'll start trying to feed soon. She used to try and also let me guide her hand or put stuff on her fork for her to feed but now she is adamant not to let me!

Thanks everyone. I think she's not trying to feed herself at the moment cause she's been sick and has not got a great appetite but things are improving so hopefully she'll start trying to feed soon. She used to try and also let me guide her hand or put stuff on her fork for her to feed but now she is adamant not to let me!

Thanks everyone. I think she's not trying to feed herself at the moment cause she's been sick and has not got a great appetite but things are improving so hopefully she'll start trying to feed soon. She used to try and also let me guide her hand or put stuff on her fork for her to feed but now she is adamant not to let me!

Thanks everyone. I think she's not trying to feed herself at the moment cause she's been sick and has not got a great appetite but things are improving so hopefully she'll start trying to feed soon. She used to try and also let me guide her hand or put stuff on her fork for her to feed but now she is adamant not to let me!

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