You’re being sloppy. If you’re drinking with your lover during the day, if you’ve having steamy baths and he’s leaving his pants under the bed, then your man can sense that something is going on. The wet towels? The messed-up house? The drunk wife?

Give him some credit. I suspect he’s coming home from work each day with a heavy heart, not knowing what to expect.

He suspects something is up, but he needs to hear it from you. He wants you to start being honest with him and to tell him the truth.

So what’s stopping you?

You know that this is an unreal situation, one that can’t go on. You’ve allowed yourself to get carried away by a charming man who makes you laugh and fills your afternoons with lust.

But it’s not right, is it?

Your lover is clearly only in it for a bit of fun.

But this is your marriage and your life that you’re playing with. What on earth has your husband ever done to expect this kind of treatment?