And sometimes--especially with the music stuff--I get messages from you about the circus life.

"Obsessed with these Snaps. Music video shoot?? SO COOL!!!!!! Ugh I hate my job. I have this amazing idea and you just reminded me that I just soooo need to go and do it, haha ahhhh I'm so jealous of your lifeeeeeee."

You know the messages I mean. And if you've sent me one, do not feel silly--it's actually really cool!! The thing is, they're really hard to answer. Because what you're asking isn't really straightforward. It's kinda hidden in the nuance.

You're asking me how to run off and join the circus.

For ease of explanation, let's define....

Running off to join the circus (v): bringing your normal life to an immediate halt and focusing exclusively on your fantasy passion project from tomorrow onwards

I bring it up this week because I too have been considering running off to join the circus recently. I've considered it many, many times--and in many, many ways I've also kinda successfully done it.

I know that sounds impossible (to both consider and to do) but stick with me.

Here's the thing though: Your perspective, as an audience member of the circus or as a potential future joiner of said circus, comes with some blind spots. It comes with some envy. It comes with some rose-colored glasses and some unrealistic expectations.

I know many people inside the circus and many people outside the circus, and I could literally talk about this topic forever. The circus is a complicated, sexy, messy thing and it's a different thing for everyone.

So, if you're considering joining the circus. I have three thoughts for you today....

(1) The circus is not for the faint of heart.

You know that "If it was easy, everyone would do it" phrase? That's very real.

I know this because I know a lot of 'circus at all cost' people.

They are what you probably refer to as 'working' artists, or 'working' musicians, or 'working' actors. They are not famous. They are extremely talented. They would rather play at an extra wedding this weekend instead of go get any kind of day job.

They aren't making a ton of money, but they are living full-time in the circus tent. Sometimes literally living in the circus tent.

They are not waiting for this to 'pay off' at some later point, though of course it might. This is just their life. This is their real life, and it is a lifestyle, and they generally enjoy it.

But it is not for everyone.

And even if your 'thing' is less artistic and more potentially profitable (say, starting a company), the joy will not be immediate. It will never be immediate.

And a lack of immediacy is not for the faint of heart.

(2) Liking your day job makes it a whole lot easier and more sustainable to join the circus.

I am not a 'circus at all cost' person. I am the second type -- the 'I do X so I can do the circus' person.

And my secret is that my X -- my day job -- is something I genuinely and completely adore doing. I don't waste any energy throughout the day on disliking a boss, or wishing I was doing something else.

Do you know how much energy that gives me back?

I remember one day last year when I was working a pretty full-on, full-time contract.

I cannot stress enough how much more energy you'll have for your 'thing' when you're not panicking about escaping your day job.

(3) Finally, you need to slow down and find your next step towards becoming an acrobat.

Shift your focus. Stop thinking about the escape, and start thinking realistically about what comes next on the path to being in the circus.

You want to be a singer? Track down your new band. You want to start a YouTube show? Set up the channel. You want to podcast? Buy the microphone. You want to be a stylist? Schedule a date to style your friend. You want to write a screenplay? Sit down and outline it for one hour tonight. You want to move to Europe? Set the date and work backwards.