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When is the last time you got Stuck? It’s a yucky feeling, right? Trust me, I’ve been there! There are many reasons for getting Stuck. Unfortunately it’s a real place. An actual location on the map, and for one reason or another, our internal GPS thinks Stuck is true North. There are no road signs or mile markers showing that you are approaching “Stucksville” (borrowed from my Daddy, the late, great Linwood Curley.) It’s hidden between the crevices of our busy-ness, uncertainty and confusion. Stuck is where we end up getting, when “There” is elusive. So where is “There”?

Where do you want to go?You have to set your destination with intention, if you want to avoid getting get Stuck. Is it a promotion at work? A new level in your MLM business? Is it a different dress size or a completed marathon? Are you after a more peaceful relationship with your teenage son or middle school daughter? Would you like to write a book or start a blog or create a painting? Does getting along with your elderly mom resonate with you? Or do you see yourself getting your financial future in order? Where are you wanting to go? The destination is not the point. You get permission to set that. So take a few days and set a goal to where you want to be. Because where is never the issue. It’s in the why and how that Stuck takes over.

Why is this important? Why is always a toughie. Why questions you and wants to know right away. Why shows you absolutely no mercy. and when you cannot figure out your Why in any and every given situation, Stuck is sure to ensue. Why? (See, I’m not even kidding on this!) Because without the answer of Why there is no drive. No motive. No fire. No energy. And absolutely No Positivity. It’s as if a “No Trespassing” sign were nailed over the destination to your goal. Even if you attempt to tread lightly in the direction of your goal, without the answer to Why…you will very likely call the cops on your very own self. You won’t believe you belong there, so you arrest yourself. Yep, it’s not a pretty sight. Imagine you holding yourself with your hands behind your back…Miranda rights being read…head bowed as you get in the police car and get dragged further and further away from your dreams. Just figure this one out and you will spare yourself this dramatic scene. Now all you have to think about is How – and that is the easiest one of all!

How are you getting there? OK, so I was teasing just a bit. How has its challenges but nothing like Why. How is challenging simply because there are so many different ways to do what you want. And if you have already struggled with Why, chances are the How you will reach your destination without getting Stuck is going to take time. The funny thing is, no matter what the sense of urgency is, time is never really an issue. In this day and time we are beings that rush. We are working to cram as much life in as we can. Period. So the best scenario is to take the needed time (not too much time, lest Stuck make an ugly appearance) and make the best decisions you can. Want to lose weight? How does it make you feel to work alone? Would a food or health coach make sense? Do you like groups? How do you feel about the gym? Would you prefer to run on the street or the treadmill? How do you feel about trainers? Get what I’m saying? Each of these choices will most likely get you to your destination. Taking the time to determine in positivity how you will get there, is a cornerstone to arriving with minimal detours, roadblock, u-turns and avoiding “Stucksville”.

What NOT To Do

Get overly busy.

Belittle yourself.

Forget to sew into self-worth.

Take action without thought or based on someone else’s agenda.

What TO Do

Program your GPS Where you want to go according to your highest intentions.

Discover your Why.

Examine How you want to get there.

Pick only one mode of transportation at a time.

Along your many journeys and adventures this year, don’t visit Stucksville. Instead grab your most colorful push-pins and put them into the Destination of your Dreams and enjoy the ride!

“The poorest person is not one without a dollar, but one without a dream.”

This quote is often posted on Facebook and Twitter and yet it resonates deeply each and every time. It’s not surprising. Whether one lives in poverty or the penthouse, is a front office clerk, or corner office CEO, when dreams, aspirations, and visions reside within, there is energy for another day. The simple truth is, the human happiness quotient is not based on outside things. It is based on what is within.

The biggest challenge is not dream development or creation. It’s keeping them alive when the light above them dims. It’s remembering to take them out for intimate dates, even after being married to them for 20 years. And as the quote insinuates, it’s in making sure that other goals don’t replace what’s really important. Sometimes, our dreams don’t need more money – they need a place to lay their tired heads.

It’s true that some of our more “creative” ideas may have an expiration date based on timing or circumstances. You may not be able to join the circus at 39 years old and perform as a trapeze artist, but can you go to a TRX or Pilates class and learn to strength train while suspended – closing your eyes and imagining yourself in the big tent? In other words, if you hold your dream tightly enough, and know the intrinsic worth for you alone, you will find a way to make the essence of it a reality.

The chances of me becoming a professional dancer now are slim, but no holds barre (pun intended), I am great and graceful when I’m in cardio dance classes…(well, theoretically…when my ankle is not swollen!) For an hour I compassionately stroke the head of that tiny farfetched dream. And guess what? My positivity, energy, and happiness are always higher than before I started.

If you can make authenticity boil over, it is multi-faceted, brilliant, and far more valuable than the world’s most expensive diamond.

Ready to reinvigorate your dreams? Read on!

Discovery:

What dream of mine keeps coming back year after year?

What am I doing with it?

If I’m not doing enough, what can I do to inch toward that part of myself?

What’s the best thing that can happen if I simply go for it?

Why am I waiting?

No matter how thin or worn or frayed the edges become, put your dream in your pocket or your purse. Sling it over your shoulder and carry at least one with you at all times. Be open to taking it out and showing it off, like you would a picture of your daughter or son, or kitty or pup. Don’t hide it and don’t run from it. Remember, your dreams are not going anywhere. Where ever you go, there they are, patiently waiting for you to take them out for a spin.