#THISIS30: Carla Measer-Costamagna

Carla Measer-Costamagna is a Buffalo-based wedding planner and designer. She is 37.

Tell us about a moment when you felt like an adult.

I have those with my kids all the time. When you have to take care of other human beings, you have to be an adult, and so I feel like an adult with them a lot. ... Taking care of them, making them their lunch, and feeding them, bathing them.

When you were 13, what did you think your life would be like at 30 and how is it different?

I probably thought I was going to be an architect. I always wanted to be something that was creative. An architect, an interior designer, a photographer, a florist, a painter. ... I had the opposite problem of a lot of my friends who had no idea what they wanted to do because they didn't like anything. I liked too many things.

Are you or are you not turning into your mother?

I hope that I'm turning into her in the good ways. She was an incredible mother. Very loving and very dedicated. And I hope to be half as good as she was with me and my sister.

And in other ways, no, because she was very much a homebody, and she was a stay-at-home mom, and even though she might have had career goals, she sacrificed everything for us. And that's not what I'm doing. I'm trying to juggle both.

What's your relationship with your body like at 30 and how is it different than 10 years ago?

I was very worried about what people thought of me. Always on a diet and always worried "my legs are crooked," or "my teeth are big." Or all these different things that you're like all worried, and then in the 20s, they're still there.

Now I have 2 kids. I have stretch marks. I'm not 118 pounds anymore, I'm 135 pounds. But I don't really care as much. I'm just happy with the way I am. So, of course sometimes I would love to fit in a certain dress or a certain thing that doesn't really look as good on me anymore. But it doesn't matter as much anymore.

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