Wiley and Sage – Wise and Witty Journeys – the radio show that talks all about: LOVE, LUST, & LAUGHTER.

Archive for October 2016

Nikki Leigh is a certified Master Sexpert and a Certified Love Coach – certified by Dr. Ava Cadell’s LOVEOLOGY U. (www.sexpert.com). Nikki is the host and producer of Ready for Love radio on New Visions Radio Network (www.readyforloveradio.com). A big mission for Nikki is helping women with strict, religious backgrounds who feel they can’t or shouldn’t enjoy sex and pleasure. Often religion can be used as a force of oppression; indeed, the Bible has many negative things to say about women and sex. Nikki’s upbringing included such messages…about how women are subservient to men and masturbation is really, really bad. Many religious women feel guilty about enjoying themselves – consequently, they may have trouble truly letting go, surrendering to orgasm. “The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” ~ Wilhelm Reich. Orgasm is a product of a sexually healthy lifestyle and sexual health is derived from positive sex education!

Carl Frankel – www.CarlFrankel.com – and Dr. Diana began the show with a discussion of Donald Trump, sex and boundaries. Here’s an example: A 17-year-old who has been volunteering for the Trump campaign was explaining that Trump’s comments weren’t predatory because they let him do it because he’s a star, and that is a form of consent. Anderson Cooper sought to determine Trump’s ability to mentally process the charges against him. “You described kissing women without consent, grabbing their genitals. You bragged that you have sexually assaulted women. Do you understand that?” Of course, The Donald did not because he is not well in his head; he has a personality disorder. Carl Frankel has many wise things to say about boundaries. How does one avoid violating boundaries? Check-in (“May I?”), and frame opinions as opinions, not as truths. Clear communication around boundaries are necessary in dating, in committed relationships, in BDSM, and in three-somes – to mention only four areas. Please tune-in for stimulating talk! Carl’s book is “Secrets of the Sex Masters.”

Sheri Winston, author of Succulent Sex Craft – www.IntimateArtsCenter.com – returned to the program. She is witty, wise, uninhibited! Dr. Diana and Sheri had another discussion that was sexually frank and exuberant. Last week in the name of Partner Pleasure, we discussed communication, touch, settings, and dealing with challenges. This week the themes were positivity, fun, orgasms – as well as how to create and then play inside a “conjoined erotic trance.” The experience of orgasm often feels like a burst of pleasure, bliss, emotional and physical release because the amygdala, the fear center of the brain, has taken a nap. A woman needs to feel safe with her man. “Sex pleasure in women is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.” - Simone de Beauvoir. Sheri explains how she and her partner “run the highlights reel” after lovemaking as a way to lovingly process the experience. They also practice “changing the channel” if something is amiss and they want, with no blame, to change to something that would be more satisfying. Energy sex which can lead to the “conjoined erotic trance,” allows couples to take a vacation from fight-and-flight. Not only is it good for your overall health, it’s like lying on a Hawaiian beach – with orgasms!