Divine Muva Diva: April 5, 2020

How do we as women harness and take hold of our feminine energy? Why is having masculine energy seen as an awful trait in us?

Yet, everything that I see on Google, speaks of feminine energy “leaning back and receiving” while masculine energy is “leaning forward and taking”. “Other searches, have revealed that being masculine is about doing and it is about moving with purpose and taking action — that they are to “hunt” and “chase.”

Please help me to make sense of it all.

Signed Why cant I be both?

Dear Why can’t I be both:

Before responding to your question/query, I went online and typed in masculine energy. The first thing that came up was a quote from Tony Robbins which said

“Woman, it’s time to surrender the masculine energy! A woman acting in her masculine energy is a woman chasing and texting the man, following him on social media, obsessing over and committing to him before he steps up to clean her and the relationship.“

Because the traditional views of masculinity and femininity are black-and-white for the most part, allow me a little bit of space to answer your question from my personal lens.

Right now, there are women around the globe that are leading large organizations, creating tangible changes left and right, leading countries, as well as leading their homes and their offices.

In a more non-traditional sense, many women are working while their spouses or partners stay at home to take care of the children. If we are to follow the logic that men are hunters and gatherers, and women are to stay home and cook the meals and do what needs to be done to keep the home fires burning, then life as we know it today, would be a little strained.

What I think far too many failed to take into consideration is this; long gone are the days when men would do the gathering and women sit at home and wait for them to come with what they have gathered. Life dictates today that we need both partners working in the home and therefore, duties that would normally be relegated to women only be shared between both partners and rightfully so.

To fully answer your question, I firmly believe that women can have masculine energy and by that I mean, they can take charge of certain situations -doing what they need to do to get ahead in life, and be feminine too. It’s not either or, it’s both and. Some people are completely old-fashioned and believe that things should remain as they were in biblical times. To them I have no argument as they will continue to do what they have always done. To those of us however who have seen what can be accomplished when we step into our God-given roles to be creative and to change lives from the core of our being, we don’t worry about masculine versus feminine energy; the only thing that should concern us at this point, is how we treat each other and what we are doing for those who are around us that can do nothing for themselves.

Some women are content with taking a more passive role in their lives. I see nothing wrong with that if that is what works for them. Conversely, I also see nothing wrong with a woman who is willing to step up and take charge and live her life the best way she knows how to put with the love and support of a partner by her side if that is what she chooses to do.

The bottom line is this, do what works for you.

Dear Muva,

How do we practice physical distancing from our mates who are essential workers during this pandemic with the coronavirus? I want to hug my partner daily, but have no idea what is safe and what isn’t. Can you give me some idea of what I should do?

Signed, I need a hug

Dear I need a hug:

As hard as it is for you right now, I am going to ask that you practice the guidelines that are given by the Center for Disease Control (CDC), and the World Health Organization (WHO).

In simple terms, if your loved one is an essential worker and has to be around people everyday, when they get home the first thing they need to do is discard everything that they’re wearing at the door. And to be even safer, have wipes and a cleaning solvent ready to use before stepping inside would make a difference.

They should also remove their shoes and leave them outside. Many people take a shower right away and isolate themselves from their family, because it takes 14 days sometimes for the virus to present itself. As a direct result, while you may miss that hug, it is worth it to keep you from being infected. All around us in America right now we see the results of people not social distancing.

It is projected, that almost 200,000 Americans will die from this virus and over 100 million will be infected. Those are not numbers to be taken lightly, so anything you can do to stop the spread would be greatly appreciated.

You will be able to hold your partner soon enough-and hopefully, both of you will be in good health when the time comes.

Be well.

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