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<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Anonymous</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Big divides in highly age-disparate relationship" id="md1" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My boyfriend and I have been together about 6 months. We are very compatible in terms of interests and values (the outdoors, conservation of resources, frugal living, healthy eating, etc). I am 22 and he is 60. Both of us have had sex with only one other person in our lives--me, my ex-boyfriend and him, his ex-wife.
He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He&#039;s a man. I understand that. I enjoy sex when we have it (1-2 times a week), but I don&#039;t want to push myself to have it when I&#039;m not in the mood. My boyfriend is very understanding intellectually, but his body wants much more. We&#039;ve been talking about this quite a bit, and the fact that he is willing to talk tells me he is a good man. I don&#039;t want any strife over this, so I was wondering if you knew of any coping strategies that might work to help us compromise.
On a deeper level, he acknowledges that he uses time with me as an escape from his worries, whereas I tend to bring my worries into the time we have (I&#039;m a student, so I have to do homework on weekends, for example. I can&#039;t just forget about work.) He tends to be very goofy, knocking me onto the bed, tickling me, etc., and it gets tiring responding to this. He says, &quot;I&#039;m sorry I like you more than you like me.&quot; How am I supposed to respond to that? DUDE! He&#039;s old and I was knocked flat with desire the week I met him! I pursued him because I couldn&#039;t imagine letting him slip through my fingers.
He says he wants to live with me, and get married. I don&#039;t think that&#039;s a good idea if he uses my company to escape his troubles--we won&#039;t get through anything if he keeps using my company as an escape. Understand that he is a decent, principled man; he married the girl he got pregnant 40 years ago and stayed with her to raise the child. Consequently, he wants to be understanding of my needs and is compulsive about birth control. We simply have a conflict due to our respective sexes and sex drives. I wonder what we can do.</div></div></div>Fri, 07 Dec 2007 05:02:26 +0000Heather Corinna1385 at http://www.scarleteen.com