Sunday, 4 May 2014

what makes us unhappy????

What is the difference between happy
and miserable? I have been always wondering that will there be something that unhappy
people can do to be better-off? I believe there is.

Let me narrate you a story to
illustrate this observation.

A long time ago in a distant village
lived a man, who was very egoistic and where everyone avoided him. He was the
kind of person who believed that there was only one who is better off in anythg
he does.futhermore, he was never contented with anything. His clothes never
felt comfortable. His shoes never fit his feet. He complains a lot in whatever
things he does. He complains a lot about food. Even if food is special, he
would have something to complain about. Nonetheless, nothing satisfies his
mind.

Briefly speaking, he has a sense of ordering,
criticizing, and dissatisfies about the deeds of everyone in the world.

Unluckily, the man got married,
which matters became very worse. No matter whatever his wife did, in his eyes
it turns everything to be wrong. Whatever his wife did to him,it was never
satisfactory and he proved her always wrong, Because he lack in acceptance,
gratefulness to others. She tried her best to be a good wife, but it seemed to
be in vain, the less she pleased him. Finally, one morning she confessed to
him.

“let’s exchanged our work program ,”
she told him. “From today, I will do your chores and you will do mine.”

“But you cannot do my chores,” the
man replied. “You don’t know first thing about ploughing, irrigating.”But the
woman has fervent determination to do whatever work assigned to her. So,she let
her man to believe where he didn’t dare disagree.

So in the following day,the wife
went off to the fields and the man began their exchanged chores.

Unluckily, nothing went according to
his way of thinking. Nevertheless, whatever he does, everything turned into opposite
way. He broke the plates, spilled everything on the floor, burned the dinner,
and at last set the house on fire, and nearly he could escape from fire.

Until wife returned from work,she
observe her husband lying helplessly on thd floor ,smoke not yet stpped rising
from his clothes.immediately,she helped him to get rid from evrythg .

From that dayonwards, the man
stopped complaining about anyone and anything.he has started respecting for
others views,opinions and deeds of others.

So to be precise, the story teaches
us that those who complains about anything whoch come along their life, creates
their own and others’ lives in trouble. It also teaches us that pride will neva
make man successful and also teaches us not to judge others until and unless we
walk in their shoes for a while.

In our story, it was the absence of
absence of acceptance of others deeds. He lacks to appreciate others and he wasn’t
in a position to acknowledge others contributions.

I think the world would be a happier
place, less stressful, less angry, and more spiritual if we have sense of
gratefulness to others and if we are avoid our egoistic behaviors to others.One
of the great leaders said that, Pride destroys our happiness and sets up
selfishness in its place.

One Sunday afternoon,i asked one of
my friends,sangay pem. What makes her unhappy?though I am not really a scholar in
such things,i just told her that, appreciation should be present in us, we have
something to rely on and think of someone who do not haf what we are possessing in times of unhappy state…

I believe that many people are
unhappy because they have not learned to be thankful and appreciative. Some are
in to the burden of anger. Some pass their days as though suffering a deep
sadness they aren’t sure of . Others are unhappy because life didn’t turn out to
the way they expected it to be.

“If only I had that much money,”
some might say to themselves, “then I could be happy and go for shopping.”

“If only I were better looking would
have wore that…………….”

“If only I had a new car, a college
degree, a job, a wife,. or I were 12 inches taller,if I and thin,for some,if am
fat……..”

If we keep on yearning for what we
we don’t have,there are a thousand and one reasons for us not to be happy,unhappiness
is for sure.i would simply say that, unhappiness is on the things we lack in
life. The problem doesn’t solved itself if we keep om folloeing the path of
what we lack in life. The only problem is, the more single-mindedness on the
things we don’t have, the more unhappy and more sad we become.

Over the course of my judgments
made, One thing I could share is: we cannot guess happiness by the amount of
money we have, name and fame we have in life, or power we possess. The fact is
that the materialistic things so valued by the world are sure birth giver of
unhappiness in the world.

One thing I got to experienced that
we should never became angry. Whenever anger grow in us, we should always think,
it’s useless, it’s only a way to be unhappy and resentful.when life itself is unpredictable,
what’s there to bury ourselves in angry nest, simple thing, better give up and
be calm down..

Our minds have a wonderful capacity
to notice the unusual .

To be happy one should be openhearted.

We must let go of the negative emotions,
Anger, resentment, and bitterness. Nobody including me would never agree to
take bathe in muddy water, so, why should we let our spirits bath with negative
thoughts and feelings?

Pray with all your heart. Don’t
waste another moment feeling unhappy and sad over useless things. Every day
drain from your heart the feelings of resentment, rage, and defeat that do nothing
but discourage and destroy state of happiness.

Don’t wait to start new day. Bring a
new life with new thoughts burried of positive thinkings..:D…

2 comments:

pace and happiness is within us and neva drain out our happiness by materialistic and beauty is wat i learned from ua thought with being grateful, respectful...... :) the wonderful thought , that gave me grt lesson for my life...happy writing ahead ..:)