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These photos create the most conversations because they break the ice.We find ourselves making snap decisions based on superficial… By now you’ve hopefully experienced the new and improved e Harmony — there’s a lot of useful stuff to introduce but before we do, we’d just like to say one thing; you had everything to do with this. A recent study determined that the most effective online dating messages were fewer than 100 characters. You’ve joined e Harmony, set up your profile, and now you’re looking for pictures.This makes sense since we’re so used to communicating via text with everyone else in our lives. You realize all of your recent pictures are selfies, with friends or even worse – with your ex."Men prefer physical fitness in women gained via yoga, aerobics and gym, not via rugby and bodybuilding," explains Prof Khan, "while women prefer bravery, courage and a willingness to take risks rather than kindness and altruism in their partners." Another recent study showed that words such as "skiing", "yoga" and "the ocean" help men get dates; "sweet", "running" and "dance" help women get dates online. Liking Radiohead, Homeland, Pulp Fiction and The Great Gatsby are effective date words, and mentioning cats is fine, as long as you don't say "my cats".Men who refer to women as "females" or "women" rather than "girls" are more likely to find a mate, as are men who use the word "whom" (31 per cent more online communication).