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When we discipline our ego and control it, we win the toughest war in life.

Educated and wise people have a balanced and well-rounded ego because they know how small they are in the realm of universe. On the other hand, those who know little, think they know everything and have big egos.

A big ego is the source of all pain. It prevents a person from loving, opening up and seeing the truth.

A big ego takes everything personally and makes it a big thing affecting all relationships negatively.

A big ego wants to win every time, and at any expense.

A big ego wants to be superior and have things its way.

A big ego feels powerful and uses this power to destroy others.

A big ego holds you back.

People who have big ego tend to blame, judge, criticize, complain and gossip.

Big egos identify themselves with all positive traits, and apply negative traits to others. They like to label people their own way.

Big egos feel entitled to happiness, success, and all material possessions, and think they have the right to get angry and upset at situations. They don’t understand the randomness of life.

Big egos need others. They need them to reflect and enhance their own image.

According to Eckhart Tolle, in his book “A new Earth”, anger, resentment, fear and envy are products of the ego: “The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person and family history, belief systems, and often nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”

He leads us to the way to free ourselves from the Ego. Tolle suggests we

Observe our thinking and recognize any negative thoughts.

Distinguish between the voice of Ego and the real situation.

Change pessimism to optimism because pessimism is limiting. You do that by describing the situation without getting too emotional: “This happened. I have to deal with the new situation and do that.”

Don’t fight our ego because this way we make it stronger. We just need to recognize it in our thinking and approach situations with little or no expectations.

Ego is the ‘I’ that differentiates us from others and shows our uniqueness and individuality. A healthy uninflated ego will open our mind, heart and life to true happiness.

These days, we are too busy listening to the world around us that we don’t pay attention to our own voice. And the world is too noisy!

What do we hear when we listen to the world?

Voice of media and commercials: loud music, 24-hr. TV, pop-ups on the net, visuals that encourage us to buy (and feel bad when we don’t), ads that tell us how to look, what to eat, how to dress, violence and wars, terrorism, destruction and fear, etc…

Voice of the community (tradition): Things are done in one way “We have always done it this way!” and there is no room for the individual to think wisely for a change for the better.

Voice of authority, be it government or religion: “We will tell what is right and what is wrong”. “The others are coming after us to kill us! Be afraid! Here, you take some weapons to defend yourself!”

Voice of competition and material success: “To succeed, you must be famous and rich”. It also means paying for media to collect fake awards and recognitions as well as followers on social media.

Voice of perfection: The world makes you believe things can be perfect. Not true. Better compete with yourself to improve, and be realistic about getting to be perfect.

Losing yourself is the most painful feeling, while the biggest satisfaction comes from being yourself.

Mindfulness and listening to our own voice is a very courageous act, and for that we need to be ready to be ourselves, a unique person with unique ideas. With the essence of humanity deep in our soul, we can overcome all threats to achieving our own distinction.

We should trust our own voice. We need to believe in ourselves, in the good in ourselves and in others.

We need to slow down and not do too much to the degree that we don’t have time to sit quietly with our own souls.

We need to find a quiet place to listen to our souls to allow for dreaming and creating. Our inner voice leads our way and recharge us every minute of the day to overcome challenges.

Pray, meditate, dream! There are many routes to tap into ourselves and discover what lies within.

Our voice is who we really are.

Listen to others. BUT do not lose your own voice! “Be yourself”. Don’t allow yourself to be judged by the wrong people and their standards. By those I mean the negative people who doubt you and your abilities to achieve your dream.