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If he's willing to try dating when he arrives, try dating... if you're worried about being used, keep your legs together for a few dates

What something witty said^^^^^^

if you don't know, don't do it, date and find out..................but you take the chance it was sex, so he won't date you after he realies your holding back..................toss a coin it is a crap shot either way, sleep with him, lose or gain him, don't sleep with him, lose or gain him........But if ya'all haven't seen each other in a few years, then you realy don't know who he is now at this present time. People change.

My opinion is, if you're more comfortable coming here and asking us rather than having a discussion with him about it, then you have your answer already. But, for some reason, there is this need to put guys in the emotionally unavailable category. Add sex to the mix, and boom, guys are merely pigs and horn dawgs.

Meanwhile, you had sex with him previously and obviously without any guarantee or assurance that there was 'more' there. Why would he think there would be more there now? Have the two of you remained celibate while apart? Were you exclusive and just waiting to get back together? How much did you two talk while he's been away?

Let's be honest here...you don't care about him and he doesn't care about you. If y'all did, you'd be together already...no matter what it took. If the 'circumstances' you mentioned were that serious where you just couldn't, then you both would have waited for one another...if there actually were feelings there.

That's what one part of love is...sacrifice...in order to appreciate it all the more.

I agree that it takes two to tango cutiepiehoneybunch. But I resent the generalization that "guys are such pigs." Ill admit most of us are. But not all. Ive always prided myself on just the opposite of being a pig.

"Is all we are just sex?" is, to a guy, like an elbow to the head. It's an accusation that all this time he was misrepresenting himself, exploiting you, abusing your good nature and violating your trust. Often, it is a manipulative technique used to extract concessions in a relationship, as it forces the man to either grovel or break up. His response was careful, probably because he is giving you the benefit of the doubt. If he didn't like you, he would probably have broken up with you. He still might, and maybe it would be for the best.

"Is all we are just sex?" is, to a guy, like an elbow to the head. It's an accusation that all this time he was misrepresenting himself, exploiting you, abusing your good nature and violating your trust. Often, it is a manipulative technique used to extract concessions in a relationship, as it forces the man to either grovel or break up. His response was careful, probably because he is giving you the benefit of the doubt. If he didn't like you, he would probably have broken up with you. He still might, and maybe it would be for the best.

This is pretty accurate... I'd also like to add that the guy may just be having fun enjoying your company, and doesn't want to f*ck it up by telling you that he doesn't see the two of you going the distance as an LTR.