Easy – do you ever ask a girl for her phone number? Do you ever ask a girl out on a date? What about asking a date to come back to you place or to spend the night once she is already there?

Every one of those situations will be way more likely to work out in your favor when you use the word, because.

Think about it, what would work better on you:

“Why don’t you give me your number?”

“Why don’t you give me your number because I really want to call you later?”

It’s a fact of human nature – we are far more likely to comply with a request – almost any request – when we are given a reason for doing it.

On top of that, almost any reason can work.

Here’s a little more to keep in mind:

When you ask for something really simple and, I’ll say “low value”; something that doesn’t require much of the person being asked; then saying “because” followed by almost any reason usually works.

When asking for something of higher value, saying “because” followed by any reason still works a lot of the time. But the better the reason, the more likely it will be to work.

So using the example above about asking for a phone number, just saying you want to call her later is a pretty good reason. Even so, I would still make it more compelling: “…because I’m enjoying this conversation and I really want to talk to you more later.”

When asking for a movie date you might ask her and add, “…because I hear it’s a great movie and I’d like to see it with someone who can appreciate it”. “We should go together because we’ll both have a really good time”.

I would also say to think about it a little like a marketer. You are sort of selling an idea. You are pitching a suggestion and you are going to give a reason. Like we’ve seen, any reason is good; but give a reason that shows benefit to the person you are asking.

Marketers don’t try get you to buy things because that’s good for them. They try to convince you to buy things because it will be good for you.

When asking a girl on a date or for her number, always give her a reason to do it. But anytime that you can give her a reason that shows her a benefit to herself, your odds of success go way up.

Go give it a try and prove to yourself that the psychology of seduction works.