Why I’ve spent a year researching comparison

In the fall of 2013, I had a conversation with Tanya Geisler that turned into a year-long collaboration. Both of us are leadership coaches; both of us have worked extensively on impostor syndrome; and both of us want passionately to see a world where people’s inner critics stop holding them back from creating, stepping forward, and leading the lives they really want to live.

What emerged that day was a mutual realization that there was a deep habit underlying many people’s experiences with the inner critic and with impostor syndrome – the habit of chronic, compulsive comparison.

What could you create if you were free from your compulsion to compare?

I’ve come to see comparison as a three-dimensional thing:

We compare up (looking to heroes and role models, deferring to authority, and so on) and we compare down (judging and disdaining others, claiming we’d never sink so low).

And we experience comparison both from the standpoint of the person doing the comparing, and on the receiving end, where other people project their dreams and fears on us, placing us on pedestals or using harsh, personal criticisms. Either way, they are attempting to put us in our place.

It’s a complex system, and however you experience it, it holds many of us back.

I’m deeply proud of this work. And I’d love for you to experience it, if it calls to you.

You can do the program as a solo pursuit, or in a group – your choice. It’s totally self-paced. And those who’ve had early access are calling it “powerful,” “transformative,” and “substance served up right.”

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Hi. I'm Lauren.

I'm a seasoned tech entrepreneur and author who asks a lot of questions. I offer strategy and coaching for creatives, entrepreneurs, and accidental bosses who want to infuse more joy, curiosity, and ease into their lives and work – and create growth that has meaning and purpose.
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