Alas, they won't give you an ordination without a permission. Nanachat is a very strict place to go. They won't give you ordination even with permission before you show yourself during a year or two.. or more.. ) During this period of testing you will have to wear white clothes and observe 8 precepts.

They won't give you ordination even with permission before you show yourself during a year or two.. or more.. ) During this period of testing you will have to wear white clothes and observe 8 precepts.

Eight, ten or 227 rules don't really matter if you are able to maintain mindfulness and are cautious. You would still be living in a monastery. Of course the more rules allow you to keep your life decreasingly complicated, so it would be a nice step eventually. From ten rules you can't have money anymore and don't have to worry about such things either.

Suffering is asking from life what it can never give you.

mindfulness, bliss and beyond (page 8) wrote:Do not linger on the past. Do not keep carrying around coffins full of dead moments

If you see any unskillful speech (or other action) from me let me know, so I can learn from it.

abhishek_laser wrote:But I've not been able to get my parent's permission for doing so.

I may be wrong but I don't think you need your parents permission to become a samanera.

Metta,Retro.

If you have asked me of the origination of unease, then I shall explain it to you in accordance with my understanding: Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)

Exalted in mind, just open and clearly aware, the recluse trained in the ways of the sages:One who is such, calmed and ever mindful, He has no sorrows! -- Udana IV, 7

One exception is if you threaten to burn down the monastery if the monks do not ordain you (seriously).See the articleCrosby, Kate 2005 Only if you let go of that Tree: Ordination without Parental Consent according to Theravåda Vinaya. Buddhist Studies Review available online.

I would say go and stay there anyway. For a young person who has already graduated or at least finished high school, one year out to reflect seriously on how they want to spend the rest of their life is not a long time. If, after one year, you decide that monastic life is not for you, at least you know what it entails, learnt something about meditation and the Dhamma, and gained some useful skills for lay life.

If you do find it is the right choice for you, by then your parents may have come around to accepting your choice. They may come out to visit you, and be happy to give their permission, or even participate by offering your monk's requisites, etc.

If they still don't agree, I guess there's still the "threaten to burn down the monastery" option

I know of a teenager in China who wanted to become a monk and his parents refused.He went to the monastery anyway.His parents brought him home and locked him in the house.The moment they let him out he ran back to the monastery.Again, the parents took him home.After repeating this several times, the parents relented and he became a monk.

I have a hypothetical question ie. If your parents refuse permission and you threaten to kill yourself. then your parents relent. Is this acceptable?

Have you stayed in a monastery as a layman before? If not you are thinking too far ahead.

I think you should have a 3 month retreat at Wat Pah Nanachat first, see how you like it. You'll have to leave the country to get a new visa anyway.

This might convince your parents you are serious and it's not a fad, or by talking to people there you might find out about monasteries closer to home that you want to check out, or you might find this life is not for you.

"Proper effort is not the effort to make something particular happen. It is the effort to be aware and awake each moment." - Ajahn Chah"When we see beyond self, we no longer cling to happiness. When we stop clinging, we can begin to be happy." - Ajahn Chah"Know and watch your heart. It’s pure but emotions come to colour it." — Ajahn Chah

you not alone in this, i have the same problemand and writing a letter to the monastery.and yes they put me in hospital against my willso it does not work in new york. parents specially mother will go to high extremes and use any lies to keep from going.even treat of taking of they own life.but i will outsmart them anyway.learn what their weakness and strong points.metta.

I have a hypothetical question ie. If your parents refuse permission and you threaten to kill yourself. then your parents relent. Is this acceptable?

It appears so according to the Theravada commentarial tradition.

Really? the commentaries suggest this? I'd have thought it was totally unethical.

"Proper effort is not the effort to make something particular happen. It is the effort to be aware and awake each moment." - Ajahn Chah"When we see beyond self, we no longer cling to happiness. When we stop clinging, we can begin to be happy." - Ajahn Chah"Know and watch your heart. It’s pure but emotions come to colour it." — Ajahn Chah

"And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting oneself one protects others? By the pursuit, development, and cultivation of the four establishments of mindfulness. It is in such a way that by protecting oneself one protects others.

"And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting others one protects oneself? By patience, harmlessness, goodwill, and sympathy. It is in such a way that by protecting others one protects oneself.- Sedaka Sutta [SN 47.19]

One exception is if you threaten to burn down the monastery if the monks do not ordain you (seriously).See the articleCrosby, Kate 2005 Only if you let go of that Tree: Ordination without Parental Consent according to Theravåda Vinaya. Buddhist Studies Review available online.

abhishek_laser wrote:Some of you have recommended that I stay in the monastery for 3 months or 1 year. But in the website for Wat Pah Nanachat they have mentioned that it is recommended that you need to stay there for 5 years, to really understand the monastic life

Go for it, man.Afterall, what have you got to lose.except maybe your 'self'

abhishek_laser wrote:Thank you for all the responses given so far.

I think threatening to burn down the monastery or threatening to commit suicide would be considered speaking lies if you don't really mean to do it, both of which I really would do.

Some of you have recommended that I stay in the monastery for 3 months or 1 year. But in the website for Wat Pah Nanachat they have mentioned that it is recommended that you need to stay there for 5 years, to really understand the monastic life and i've read in many of ajahn chah's talks that he too recommends anyone taking ordination to do it for 5 years since he feels that only then do you have 5% of the understanding of dhamma, before that you have 0% percent

I would not recommend becoming a monk before establishing a solid foundation for that in lay-life. Being a monk is not a fun, but a hard work and serious task. While disrobing is called by the Buddha "a death in the Discipline of the Noble Ones". Very few people stay in robes for all their life. Perhaps only 5% of those who's got ordination. All others "are dead".

abhishek_laser wrote:Some of you have recommended that I stay in the monastery for 3 months or 1 year. But in the website for Wat Pah Nanachat they have mentioned that it is recommended that you need to stay there for 5 years, to really understand the monastic life and i've read in many of ajahn chah's talks that he too recommends anyone taking ordination to do it for 5 years since he feels that only then do you have 5% of the understanding of dhamma, before that you have 0% percent :D

The 5 years is if you ordain, you haven't even got to the point where you can do that yet, the 3 months is to give a taste and make sure this life is for you, and hopefully convince your parents you are serious.

"Proper effort is not the effort to make something particular happen. It is the effort to be aware and awake each moment." - Ajahn Chah"When we see beyond self, we no longer cling to happiness. When we stop clinging, we can begin to be happy." - Ajahn Chah"Know and watch your heart. It’s pure but emotions come to colour it." — Ajahn Chah