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I tried getting used to a low-to-no-sex life in a previous relationship, and it just ended up being stressful for me. There were other serious issues involved that ended the relationship, so I don't know if I would have adjusted, but I still felt like it was going to be a problem even after several years of trying to cope.

Like you, that was my first sexual relationship and I found myself wondering how much sex I was going to miss out on over a lifetime. That really started to bug me after a while.

Oddly enough, during that relationship I was also asked by my SO how I felt about doing an MFF with her. Because it was out of the blue, and I had never even considered it before, my religious upbringing kicked in and I said it was wrong and I had no interest. A few years later, I'd had time to think about it and was all for it, so don't assume that your boyfriend might not change his mind.

As far as bringing it up, I would just start with trying to be open about the libido mismatch (assuming you haven't done that yet), and try to figure out how to make you both happy. I don't think I'd want to start discussing bringing in other people until I'd had some time to discuss the mismatch and maybe try some things to address it with just you two.

We have discussed the libido mismatch but no solutions have prevented themselves. He is happy with how things are, and I don't think he understands how frustrating it is for me (although I've tried to explain it.) Every conversation I start seems to end with him feeling either annoyed that I've brought it up again, or guilty for not having sex more (I've tried to tell him that's not his fault, and I definitely don't want him forcing himself.)

I think you're right though, I'd like to have a more productive discussion about this before even thinking of introducing the idea of an open relationship or some variation of that.

One more thing that people usually suggest: is he having any performance problems when you do have sex? Sometimes people will avoid having sex if they feel inadequate in some way (even if it's something completely beyond their control), and if it's an actual medical problem, fixing that will sometimes also get rid of the lack of libido.

No, he's never had a problem getting/staying hard, and he almost always lasts long enough to make me cum (and if I don't finishes me some other way, which he knows I like too.)

However he has had body image issues for the past year and I think that's contributing to it. He just slowly stopped taking of his shirt during sex, and now he typically leaves his boxers on as well (just pulls himself through the hole.) We've discussed this and he mostly blames it on not having time to shave "down there," which is something I told him I've never cared one way or the other about. He has no explanation for the shirt. I've talked a lot about this with him but to no avail, I've made it clear I find him perfectly attractive and sexy and would support him through any issues he's having, but he just shrugs it off.