Curse Of Surname

I recorded Tony Allen playing fiddle yesterday on a record I’m finishing.

Typically when producing a record I say things like“Think you need to check your tuning.” or “Could you play quicker? Slower?”
And typically someone like Tony responds “Okay.” Or “Sure, like this? Is that what you mean?”

In the past when I ventured into the same territory with a girlfriend it was not so simple. From screaming to breaking up to not talking to each other the rest of the night (month).

I do not think it a good idea to be in a band with your partner/ spouse [insert whatever fave definition here]. I do think it is possible but I am reluctant.