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PSA – hidden in today’s updates I saw that Facebook has decided to change how often I see things from groups. Not just a few groups, it’s actually applied this to to all my groups (unless you had all notifications set to off under “in-app notifications” of which I had a couple.) If a certain group is vital to get all posts from, be sure to watch for this change and switch the group(s) back to “all posts.”

I don’t mind a new default but I dislike when they’ve decided to change existing settings in a way that might mess with what I’ve chosen for myself. Sure, some groups are too talkative and this will help cut back on some of the noise but the perfect example of where this is a terrible idea is say an event planning group (reunions for example) or a security notice group.

This is very much the kind of reason why Facebook can’t replace the internet even though it wants to.

I also recommend subscribing to blogs and news websites with a feed reader like feedly. Facebook should not be your one and only.

Edit: it’s worse than I realized, it turned ON notifications which I’m fairly certain I had turned off notifications for all groups (because I’m not a member of any group that’s important enough to get that kind of immediate attention on my phone.)

The person or group you snooze will NOT be notified of your decision to snooze them.

4) we’re friends & I unfollowed you because you ONLY post super negative or political posts but aren’t so bad I should unfriend you.

Unlike snooze, unfollow is not a temporary 30 days. It lasts until you decide to follow someone again. But again, the person you are friends with will not know that you are not seeing their posts. And like snooze, this can also be done on pages you’ve liked as well.For people and pages: https://www.facebook.com/help/276458109035418

5) we’re friends but I added you to the restricted list so you don’t see non-public/friends only posts. (See also “Acquaintances” list.)

Often this is the result of someone being argumentative without listening or regularly being condescending. 75-100% of their comments are this way. And and sometimes the behavior is online only and they are very different IRL. And occasionally these are people worthy of unfriending but too integrated into friends groups to go this far.

See “Q&A” at the bottom of this post for instructions on adding people to the restricted list.

6) we used to be friends but I unfriended you. This is rare. I think under 10 times total.

Examples:a) someone has made a blatantly unquestionably racist post (and I realized don’t have their phone number and did not know them well enough to have a proper personal conversation about it)b) someone regularly argues in a condescending manner and has no substantial ties to friends groups – aka doesn’t listen and brings no value to the “friendship.”c) the person broke up with someone and got engaged to someone else so I know they aren’t getting back together with someone in my friends group (and honestly I found this person way creepy to begin with but didn’t want to unfriend them if they were going to keep showing up to parties or get back together with a certain someone.)

7) blocked someone completely.

I don’t think I’ve done this yet to anyone (maybe 1 person) but would consider doing it if someone who regularly says mean and condescending things were to persist in doing so regularly on my public and business posts even after being unfriended. Snots, trolls, bullies. (For business I would recommend inviting them into a DM to discuss and exhaust all options before resorting to this measure. Some people just need to be heard.)

From a computer go to: – https://www.facebook.com/bookmarks/lists/– Find the Acquaintances link and click it.– Top right you’ll now see a manage list button. Click that and it will say “edit list” – click that. – Then you’ll get a screen that shows you who is currently on the list. – If you want to add people, top left of that screen will have a drop down and you should select “friends” from that and then you can add more people to the Acquaintances list.

IF you want certain people to only see your posts that are public, you’ll want to put a lot of people on the Restricted list instead of the Acquaintances list. Acquaintances only reduces the number of posts that people see unless you use the “Friends except acquaintances” option. You can follow the same process to batch add people to the restricted list as well.

Additionally you can also add ONE OR TWO PEOPLE QUICKLY to the acquaintance or restricted lists…

Via computer or iphone app:

go to the person’s profile and look for “Friends” with the down arrow.

On the computer hover, on a smartphone, tap. You will get a dropdown from that.

From the dropdown either select “Add to another list” on the computer or “Edit Friends List” on the smartphone.

The EU General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) will become enforceable from 25 May 2018 onward. It’s important to note that the GDPR doesn’t just apply to organizations located within the EU but also those collecting data of EU citizens.