<< Life would be poor indeed if we stopped making the first
sort of offerings to each other. However, the second kind of offering makes
two judgements about the offeree(s): one, that you believe that they have a
need or lack in some area, and two, that you believe that they should
address this need or lack with a different priority than they themselves
have applied to it (otherwise, they would be approaching you). It is this
second kind of offering which I believe Sudbury model schools are wary of
making.
>>

Yes. It's the spirit and attitude in which the offering is made. Offering
as in, "I'd like you to do this with me because I enjoy your company",
instead of, "I'd like you to do this because I think you might benefit from
it."