I’m going to talk about something that’s a little uncomfortable. Considering how short life is, it doesn’t make sense to hold onto things that make us unhappy, let go and move on. This may sound a bit harsh but its true take my word for it, if you do this you will stay happy. I once read that a part of growing up and becoming an individual is learning when It’s time to call it a day. You might put so much effort caring only to receive nothing back and it feels like a slap on the face.
In life you might encounter different types of people; the good, the bad and the detrimental and at the end of the day the only person you can rely on is yourself. Once you cut out the negativity in your life you will realize how freshly you can breathe again. Nothing changes until we do, look out for yourself even if it means distancing yourself from the people that bring you down. It is okay to want your own happiness, you are not obligated to just sit there and take every bit of shit that everyone heaps on you. You ain’t a toy, you’re human and obligated to set boundaries for respectful interactions. The rest of the world will act offended when you exercise it, but it’s your life.
Not that I’m anywhere near perfect . I do have my fair share of negative thoughts and outbursts and I wouldn’t be surprised if someone has cut me off from their life. But I’ve learned what I’m willing to tolerate and what I’m not and I finally reached a point where I had to cut off a couple of people because they contributed more bad than good in my life. I’m not an asshole and I know people come into our lives for reasons and shit but when it gets real out of hand, I will cut you out. If you feel like someone is toxic in your well being, that’s enough, you don’t need to explain yourself, you don’t owe anyone anything and you deserve to have a piece of mind and a positive environment.
You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend—you don’t need to make room for people who cause you pain or makes you feel small. It’s one thing when someone owns up to their behavior and make an effort to change. But If a person disregards your feelings and continues to treat you badly, THEY GOT TO GO. Yes, loneliness is not good for you but the question is, should you continue to mingle with people if they are not supportive and they don’t treat you with kindness? One thing you should understand though is that not everyone deserves to go out of your life, take your time and evaluate. Be picky about who you keep around you. Personalities, words and traits do rub off naturally.