WDYT - TOO MANY MALE FRIENDS

January 13, 2017
Elijah Ogidi-Olu
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Hello Sir,

Compliments of the season to you. My name is Emmanuel. I am a
Journalist and a newscaster. I’m happily married and I don’t have any issue per
say, but here I am, still writing what might probably go live on your website, on any of these Friday's What Do You Think Series.

The thing is, my wife, who I’ve been married to for 3 years now,
has too many friends. I wouldn’t have had any problem with that, or probably
not as much problem with that as I have now, except these many friends are male
friends. She has so many male friends to an extent that I feel is inappropriate
for a married woman.

I’m not typically a jealous type but I must be very honest, this
scenario, on several occasions test my ability to not be jealous. I don’t know
how she came about them all but they’re always multiplying or something. I know
she’s a marketer in her bank but I’m not sure if that is how every “married”
female bank marketers have a congregation of male friends.

I wouldn’t want to say this whole scenario isn’t getting to
me – at least, here I am writing a letter about it, but I just want to know
what do to get along with the flow (even though I'll rather end it). She has always had a few male friends
before we got married but it didn’t bother me then. From the childhood friend,
the ex-school mate, the brother in the church, the colleague at work, the
social media chat buddy, even to her phone repairer (like who the hell keep tabs
with their phone repairers?!)

Many of them like that. Although one thing I'm very sure of is
that she’s not cheating on me. Not because I sniff around for signs but because
I trust my gut and she’s a terrible liar. So, I feel the moment she starts cheating,
it won’t take long for me to know. But these her friends are something to write
home about. Every time I bring it up, she says “when did it become
a crime to have friends, whether as a single or married person?” She just seem oblivious of the point.

I sound like I’m ranting but the thing is paining me because
it’s slowly getting to a point where she’ll have to choose between us or her
fans (as I call them). I don’t know if any of your readers are in any similar
situation, and maybe they can help out with how to deal with situations like this. It’s
frustrating and I’m really getting fed up.

What do you think I should do? Do I just look the other way
and just be thankful that at least, she isn’t cheating, or do I put my foot
down and tell her to be done with her male friends?... or is there any other
better way to go about this?

Hello. I'm Ogidi-Olu Elijah. A Creative Content Developer, Freelance writer and Blogger. I also help people manage their blogs via content management. Thanks for checking me out on MMT. Where, we talk with no holds barred. Got something for me? Kindly send me a mail. It's good to have you here. Let's have some fun!

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