how to get revenge vs my mother

Get away from her. You will never change her. She is an abusive bitch and there isn't anything you can do about it. Don't listen to all the forgiveness, love her assholes, they have no idea what you are talking about. She is cancer and you need to cut her out of your life.

Her fuck up ness may not be her fault but there is no reason for it to affect your life any longer. Everything she does is just more manipulation and pain for you. The best thing to do is run away and don't look back.

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

foregiveness is NOT the key. i know and undrstand what you talking bout. thou don't revenge yourselve. just act like she doesn't exist. and proof you're better. when she dies, she'll see a life without a son/daughter. you can't have a sweeter revenge than this. when she dies she will know she failed. and she 'll be restless till the end of days.

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

foregiveness is NOT the key. i know and undrstand what you talking bout. thou don't revenge yourselve. just act like she doesn't exist. and proof you're better. when she dies, she'll see a life without a son/daughter. you can't have a sweeter revenge than this. when she dies she will know she failed. and she 'll be restless till the end of days.

bye momie

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9133668

forgiveness

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1463055

Quoting: smokahontas

Screw forgiveness,I discovered early on that the vodka stupor that fueled her abuse,also left her a near mindless shell with no real awarness later.It was theraputic to jack off in the drinks she ordered me to make her or seeing how a little street drug improved her self inflicted stupor.Ive put her to bed so hammered that dribbling a turkey baster of vodka in her mouth passed out was no risk at all.Watching her wake up enough to puke all over herself in bed offset her earlier vicious vebal assaults that I had to silently endure.It did'nt matter that she didnt know.I did and it made me just smile at her.

It won't work. Nothing you can do will undo what she did. I was abused, too. Best thing you can do is to just walk away. If you DO anything to her, it will just justify what SHE did...she'll be like the drunk who justifies the abuse by saying "she MADE me hit her". If she had a conscience it would have bothered her a long time ago. Hatred is NOT the opposite of love...apathy is...and it will eat you up. You need to let your wounds heal...and they never will until you choose to get on with living. The best revenge is living well.

Quoting: weegie

i totally agree. i was abused my whole life physically emotionally and mentally. walk away. cut her off. thats what i decided to do a few years ago. we speak now because she stopped the abuse...but when shes starts going off again i cut her off. i decided that she is no longer in control of my emotions. i figured out she is mentally ill and there is nothing i can do to get her to change. i tried for years to get her to acknowledge what shes done to me and she has a totally different memory of my life. she thinks she was the worlds best mom. the last time she punched me was when i was eight months pregnant and i decided then i would take no more. tell her to fuck off. dont let her know how or what ur doing. make it clear to her that your success is not because of her...but because of you. she will never change, but you can. i know it seems unfair that ur the one that has to change, it took me a long time to get over that fact...but once i did it was liberating. shes kissing MY ass now and its fanfu*kingtastic let me tell you.

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

A person such as yourself carrying that much hate needs to be in a better place. Did she ever explain to you why she never gave you up for adoption??? or had an abortion???

but if I go and live a good life it is like she won. because she said, the reason she acts this way is so that I become tough and strong. she would think that all of her actions were justified. I want to die, to punish her.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

That feeling is only a false sense of comfort - you are basking in her misery. She created this for you, but it's not yours dear. Wanting to die is simply a feeling of indulgence. You know you cannot undo the past, so time to live and let live.

Since your mother's problems were her own, and never yours, you must take charge. Clear out your own path. Channel those feelings of revenge into a greater expression, and find a greater outlet for that emotion ... whether it be art, travel, children, or just a type of job that brings you satisfaction, it doesn't matter, just DO IT. By channeling those feelings of revenge into something positive, it will start to create Peace within you. This I can assure you.

The fact you were born to an abusive mother should clearly show you where your true strength lies. Now use this as a gift, a gift of Understanding, that it may begin to shine the light on the fact your mother is just like a very ill child; one in need of healing. You cannot do this for her.

You see, the gift of Understanding lies in the unconditional Love for others, no matter what happened in the past. Having unconditional Love for her, even if you cannot be near her, or cannot stomach her. Praying for those who are sick will literally work miracles in your own Life, both for healing and for emotional acceptance of your past.

So imagine yourself a year from now; turn around to see how you let your Life continue its course ahead, and how, like water flowing down the River, you just decided to let go and swim for yourself.

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

Ditto. My life too. Best thing to do is just ignore her and only speak or see her at funerals and weddings. Fuck forgiving. Spend your life being abused and then forgive? Bullshit. No way.

well..you can always create an accident for her...without her knowing that you are behind it...make her to become a handicap person...the medical bills will be going off the roof..and insurance coverage will run out soon plus for sure your sibling will give up paying the her medical bills sooner of later due to financial crisis ...will that satisfy your needs?

I posted a similar question earlier.My mom abused me as a child.I got on with my life I made it thru fine, but I am now after getting all that anger I had bottled up coming back up to the surface.I know if I confront her she will just use it to abuse me more.I do not want to stop feeling angry at her, I want to treasure this hatred for ever.but I discover today I want to revenge against her again what she did to me was very bad. she abused me every day. is there any revenge i can have that would give me the power back in my life?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1367714

let it go. by holding it she wins, by letting it go you get your revenge.

It's so sad. These mothers have no idea the damage they've done to their children. My own mother completely denies any abuse, claims to be a devout christian and told me that I would spend eternity in the lake of fire. Such love.

I truly hope you will find a way to move past it, but from my own experience nothing ever worked for me. I'm no longer a young woman yet my dreams still repeat the abuse from the past.

It's so sad. These mothers have no idea the damage they've done to their children. My own mother completely denies any abuse, claims to be a devout christian and told me that I would spend eternity in the lake of fire. Such love.

I truly hope you will find a way to move past it, but from my own experience nothing ever worked for me. I'm no longer a young woman yet my dreams still repeat the abuse from the past.

Good luck to you.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 4545733

No, they don't know. My mother never physically abused me, but I was much bigger than her. One of the perks to being adopted, I guess? She denies it as well and has done nothing wrong in her mind. Like you said, nothing has ever really worked for me other than cutting her out of my life at least physically. I moved to my husband's home state and have no contact with her. I still remember things said, but she at least can't repeat those actions and can't inflict them on my family. I am better off knowing she can't hurt me except for through the things I remember and those things hurt a little less as I live my life successfully.

OP- live your life to spite her and live it well. Don't repeat her cycle of abuse and cut her out of your life. Don't let her rule you anymore.

Guenwyfar

"Karma is like a rubberband.. it can only stretch so far before it comes back and smacks you in the face."

"Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition."

"Religion is like a penis, it's fine to have one and be proud of it, but when you take it out and wave it in my face, that's when we have a problem."

Get away from her. You will never change her. She is an abusive bitch and there isn't anything you can do about it. Don't listen to all the forgiveness, love her assholes, they have no idea what you are talking about. She is cancer and you need to cut her out of your life.

Her fuck up ness may not be her fault but there is no reason for it to affect your life any longer. Everything she does is just more manipulation and pain for you. The best thing to do is run away and don't look back.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 9988101

fuckin A.

Narcissistic personality disorder mothers are fucking horrid beasts that WILL destroy your life and make every second hell.

That's right. You can't change people. Some people really arent' meant to be parents. Some people who seem most unsuitable are absolutely the best parents. You just don't know. There's always some glitch.

I'm assuming you're an adult OP.The best revenge you can have on her is to live a full and rewarding life. Don't hold a grudge. Forgive her and live your life without anger or resentment towards her. If anything you should pity her. She did everything she could to break you but you were stronger than she ever thought you could be.She probably thought abusing you made her a more important person. You and she both know that in reality it made her weaker and you stronger.

As long as there are no more kids being abused there is no further need for revenge.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1452644

This ^

....and never speak to her again. I had to do this, and it was hard at first. They're still your parents. But I'm so much better off now. My only sibling has always maintained a close relationship with them and her life is a basket case because of it. Break the cycle.