OT: to tell or not to tell

Ok I was with my SO for three years LO will be here January 9. All this time I thought he was separated turns outs not. He is on vacation with his wife and kids. I knew about this vacation cuz it was for the kids to see a sick relative and his wife didn't want to go alone I was told. Well up till Tuesday my SO was texting me telling me he loves and misses me then Wednesday tells me we need to talk when he gets back and cuz he now thinks he needs to work out things with his wife. She has no idea I am pregnant. I guess I know why now cuz he was lying to me. He tried to tell me to give our son up and I laughed and said no you will pay child support. Well my question is do I tell his wife I am pregnant or just wait till I serve him child support papers.

Ok I was with my SO for three years LO will be here January 9. All this time I thought he was separated turns outs not. He is on vacation with his wife and kids. I knew about this vacation cuz it was for the kids to see a sick relative and his wife didn't want to go alone I was told. Well up till Tuesday my SO was texting me telling me he loves and misses me then Wednesday tells me we need to talk when he gets back and cuz he now thinks he needs to work out things with his wife. She has no idea I am pregnant. I guess I know why now cuz he was lying to me. He tried to tell me to give our son up and I laughed and said no you will pay child support. Well my question is do I tell his wife I am pregnant or just wait till I serve him child support papers.

Naw eff that tell her if she already knows tell her what's really going on because if they do decide to work things out you she will know what she has to deal with ur baby is his child too don't play the sideline role PURPOSELY just let her know your child will be taken care of too

Naw eff that tell her if she already knows tell her what's really going on because if they do decide to work things out you she will know what she has to deal with ur baby is his child too don't play the sideline role PURPOSELY just let her know your child will be taken care of too

The truth is that regardless if he was separated he was still married. I'm still trying to figure out why you would get into a serious relationship with a married man for 3 years. After the 1st year you should have seen that he was not going to get a divorce and let him go. He could have never seriously committed himself to you while being married. You had to have known before this that it wasn't completely over between him and wife. Now you've gotten yourself in a pickle. You can tell her, but if she already knows about you she might decide to stick with him just to see you doing bad. He's said that he wants to stay with her knowing that he knocked you up. I'm sorry, but I'd prepare to be a single parent.

The truth is that regardless if he was separated he was still married. I'm still trying to figure out why you would get into a serious relationship with a married man for 3 years. After the 1st year you should have seen that he was not going to get a divorce and let him go. He could have never seriously committed himself to you while being married. You had to have known before this that it wasn't completely over between him and wife. Now you've gotten yourself in a pickle. You can tell her, but if she already knows about you she might decide to stick with him just to see you doing bad. He's said that he wants to stay with her knowing that he knocked you up. I'm sorry, but I'd prepare to be a single parent.

I agree that the wife deserves to know, but I'm not sure she needs to hear it from you. To me thats like pouring salt on a wound. When he gets served with papers and has to pay child she'll find out anyway. Hopefully he'll tell her before then. But it's not her you are upset with right? So I just don't think its good to inject yourself into her life when she was probably just as much a victim as you are.

I agree that the wife deserves to know, but I'm not sure she needs to hear it from you. To me thats like pouring salt on a wound. When he gets served with papers and has to pay child she'll find out anyway. Hopefully he'll tell her before then. But it's not her you are upset with right? So I just don't think its good to inject yourself into her life when she was probably just as much a victim as you are.

I would tell her ASAP, imagine her going on vacation with him thinking everything is ok, then you dropping the bomb. I don't think that's fair for any of you ladies. Do what you think is best but honestly fb is a no-no to me, I'd prefer it done in person. GL and sorry that your going through this.

I would tell her ASAP, imagine her going on vacation with him thinking everything is ok, then you dropping the bomb. I don't think that's fair for any of you ladies. Do what you think is best but honestly fb is a no-no to me, I'd prefer it done in person. GL and sorry that your going through this.

Id tell her. Don't yell at her or anything. Just calmly explain your whole relationship and that your pregnant and that he knows your pregnant. If you let him tell her he will probably make **** up. Explain that you just want to make sure she knows the truth. Try to be nice to her though. Your not the only victim of this two-timing @$$hole.

Id tell her. Don't yell at her or anything. Just calmly explain your whole relationship and that your pregnant and that he knows your pregnant. If you let him tell her he will probably make **** up. Explain that you just want to make sure she knows the truth. Try to be nice to her though. Your not the only victim of this two-timing @$$hole.

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