You've said that the church "uses love as a commodity." What do you mean?

Miller: We sometimes take a Darwinian approach with
love—if we are against somebody's ideas, we starve them out. If we
disagree with somebody's political ideas, or sexual identity, we just
don't "pay" them. We refuse to "condone the behavior" by offering any
love.

This approach has created a Christian culture that is completely
unaware what the greater culture thinks of us. We don't interact with
people who don't validate our ideas. There is nothing revolutionary
here. This mindset is hardly a breath of fresh air to a world that uses
the exact same kinds of techniques.