Onwards And Upwards

Change…this is something I have never been afraid of. I’m a bit brave like that, I tend to trust my gut instinct (which is always pretty much right!) but it isn’t that easy for everyone. Change means things are different, whether you made the decision to adjust things yourself or not. But one important thing to remember is…everything happens for a reason.

This last week has seen a whole lotta transformation. Six of my friends have either resigned from their current job, started a new job or moved homes. That’s a whole lot of change! When things become peculiar, it can have funny effects on us. It can cause us to freak out, feel stressed, worried or it can have the opposite effect where some can embrace it with attitude and say, ‘Right what’s next?’

Photo Cred: Carl Heyerdahl

Change brings opportunity.

Change can be unavoidable and they say it is the only thing which is constant. Nothing ever stays the same and if it did, wouldn’t that be boring? I think it isn’t the actual shift which can unnerve people, it’s the discomfort around the uncertainty. This combined with fear about that dreaded question, ‘What will people think?’ This is when I think what’s the point in worrying as that doesn’t change anything other than your health which can deteriorate the more you worry. Sometimes we are uneasy about things that are totally out of our control, what that does in my opinion is take away todays peace. I say this as I am probably one of the worlds biggest worriers and it’s something I am working on, not allowing it to take over my thoughts.

5 Ways To Help Deal With Change:

BELIEVE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

I know this is easier said than done, especially if it is a breakup of a relationship or something just as harrowing, but regardless, whatever has happened is still a lesson. Up until now think of all the things you have achieved and even some of them you wouldn’t have accomplished if you hadn’t gone through the previous change. It’s comforting to think that everything happens for a reason, good things will be coming your way.

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GO AHEAD, FEEL EMOTIONAL…IT’S OK

You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t have some sort of emotional reaction to change. Even if it is a personal decision such as a new job or home, it’s no easy feat. It can drain you, make you feel emotional but no matter what the situation is, it could be the loss of a loved one (which I know is deeply painful) but it doesn’t change anything and there is only so long you can stay in a dark place. Feel it, accept it but don’t let it become an elongated pity party, it will only make you feel worse.

ACKNOWLEDGE AND EMBRACE THE CHANGE

Just taking a small step back and realising what is different, then accepting it really can help you to move forward. The more you embrace it, the more positive you will feel about it and soon enough it will be part of your day to day life and you will wonder what the fuss was all about. Remind yourself of how far you have come already, all those changes you have already adapted to are a testimony of your strength. An awesome feeling right?

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BE PART OF THE CHANGE

Get involved! Get in the driving seat and steer the change to the direction you want and be in control.

GIVE IN TO RELAXATION

You won’t be of any use if you are stressed, constantly worrying and suffering from insomnia (which by the way gives you massive eyebags and no amount of eye cream can fix that!). Part of my daily routine is meditation, just a few minutes to be still and focus on my breathing helps keep me feeling positive and happy. Try it, it will help!

Photo Cred: Caroline Veronez

Change is hard at first, messy in the middle but gorgeous in the end.

~Robin Sharma

I hope this helps anyone going through change right now, remember it is only temporary.

N x

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Hi, I’m Nicci – writer and founder of niccimcshane.com. My lifestyle blog journey began as an expat in 2016 looking for methods of self improvement through confidence, inner peace and independence. Follow me as I continue to share experiences on how to love ourselves and to not just exist, but live.