No Face More Beautiful

Recently the closer blogging community of which I am a part lost one of its members in a very tragic way. Someone who seemed so vibrant, was so kind and loving took her own life unable to bear her own inner pain. Naturally, it made us all really sad and those of us who were closer to her blamed ourselves a little bit for not reaching out more to her. Those of us who didn’t know her too well wondered why we didn’t take the trouble to connect with her more, and how we hadn’t guessed she was in pain.

The more I have reflected on this, the more I realize that perhaps even if all of us had reached out to her, it wouldn’t have stopped her from doing what she did. Because from all I gathered, this beautiful young woman didn’t believe in her own loveliness, the beauty of her heart.

Today, as I remember her with sadness, I also want to reach out to you dear reader and my blogging friends with this message: You are Enough. No matter what you are going through at this point in your life, believe this.

You must take the time and make the effort to find the beauty of YOURSELF. No more, ‘I wish I could be like………’ or ‘If only I had not made bad choices………’ Whatever has happened in the past, whatever is going on at present, believe me when I say that you have the resources within yourself to make it through. Believe in your own beauty, in your own strength, in your own purpose. You have an important role to play in this world – and even if you are not sure of it at this moment, it will be revealed to you in time. Believe.

You suppose you are the trouble
But you are the cure
You suppose that you are the lock on the door
But you are the key that opens it
It’s too bad that you want to be someone elseYou don’t see your own face, your own beauty Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours.
~ Rumi

Dear Corinne, what happened affected all of us – all on different levels. I don`t know what else to say apart from praying for her family and friends to come to terms with what had happened. Thank you for this post, I am glad that you wrote it. xxxnelieta recently posted..Long lay-overs at airports

Dear Corinne, thanks for this message today. ‘Believe’ is the keyword and one needs to practice seeing the beauty in oneself. The news came as a shock to all of us and drilled in the fact that an impulsive second can wreck havoc. We also need to hold out to each other in this belief system — An organic system that binds all of us in every emotional need.

Corinne, this was a beautiful and unflinchingly honest post about a sensitive topic. I appreciate your straight forward way of saying things here. I am still saddened by our loss and I asked myself a lot of questions after it happened. I do believe your words will help someone and I pray that we will reach out to one another if we need help. I’m putting it here that anyone can feel free to contact me if they need to talk. I am a good listener. As long as we stay engaged we can be a blessing for others. Continuous prayers go out to the family and friends of our lost sister in blogging.Tameka (BloggerPoet) ( recently posted..Lyric Fire: NaPoWriMo 2012 – Day 29 of 30 Poems in 30 Days – My Release & Joy (Two Poems)

A beautiful and touching post -I have tears rolling down my face right now. Will remember your message ” You are Enough. No matter what you are going through at this point in your life, believe this.” everytime I am down and also remind people around me when they are.

I was waiting all this while for you to say something Corinne. We have all written for her. And reading what you wrote has brought tears to my eyes. Yes she didn’t think she was enough. No matter what I could have told her or had told her would have been enough if she felt life was hopeless. I am coming to terms with this fact, that I didn’t talk to her the last few days and even if I had she would have done it at some point in her life. But I will always regret not seeing the signs and urging her to go to a professional. I thought my friendship was enough, my chats with her everyday, my visits to her place and the fact that I was always available for her if she needed me. Thank you for calling me that day, when I was so low and devastated. Loving you for always being there for us.rimly recently posted..DUSK

I’m so very sorry about your friend. I have lost several friends over the years to depression/suicide. It is so tragic. The one friend who survived the attempt was able to tell me what it is like to get to that point. What I learned is that, just as you said, there is nothing that others can do if someone is determined. Continuing to offer love and support, and whatever intervention is possible, is all we can do. Peace and blessings to you and all your friends who are sad and mourning now.Galen Pearl recently posted..A Legacy of Blessing

Although I know what you are trying to say but I strongly feel that maybe if blogging world had connected maybe just maybe she could have been maybe made to change her mind. Maybe no one did and she was left alone to deal with whatever she was.
I find it sad that we have such a big family and missed something.
I am so sorry for the loss.bikram recently posted..olympics 2012 and UK

Beautifully said, Corinne. Sancheeta shared her beautiful spirit in every contact I had with her. The only other thing I want to add is to thank you for all the wisdom you impart to all of us and for fostering a sense of community among us. God bless.

All I wanna say is ……..”thanks a ton Corinne”…Am really sorry and sad for yr friend, cuz I hv gone thru something similar in my personal life. Corinne its very difficult to reach out to a person who is in that state of mind, even if physically you are next to him/her, as you said we should understand our own worth. Once again I wanna thank you, your words hv reached me just at the RIGHT time…..

Could not add anything to your words Corrine!! I agree 100% and you stated the message 1000% times better then I could. It is always sad when someone ends the ride but your right no one could have stopped her from going down that path at this time, it would have taken a lifetime of pain to make her do the ultimate act of desperation

It is indeed sad that we sometimes fail to see what goodness we have inside us, as we concentrate on what the world thinks of us form the outside…Emotional pain is sometimes so overwhelming that only the person going through it would know only the pain he/she is going through and from experience no matter how much you have people to support and pull you out of it, it is ONLY YOU who needs to take the step to let go and move on or to wallow in the pain.

My heart goes out to your friend who had to fight with her inner self……May her soul rest in peace……..

I’m sorry to hear about your friend.
I guess all of us have some inner struggle. I myself have trouble coming to terms with not knowing how my life will turn out or if there is still a kind of bright future ahead. I get cynical and sad.. I turn to blogging and writing fro hope and inspiration. It helps and I’m happier… Glori recently posted..10 Introvert Quotes to Get You Thinking… and Smiling

I don’t know what to say. Nobody can stop anyone else from making the tragic choice of ending their own life. In a way it’s almost pompous to think this is possible. Having said that, I try each day to nudge myself and others toward more powerful versions of ourselves in the hopes that we can not only stay alive but be FULLY engaged in life. XOXOXDangerous Linda recently posted..picture window

A really touching message Corinne. I was very sad as well when we all lost a beautiful member of our community. It’s always sad when a candle blows out in the world, it loses a little of its light. Sometimes we are so busy appreciating others, having compassion on others, that we lose the sense of who we are and how important we are in this world.
Beautiful Rumi quote.

I pondered on your reflection today, I acknowledged a ‘hurt’ and a ‘longing’ inside. It’s a pain I guess that only God can heal whether it was the demise of a friend or a loss of a loved one…and a ‘longing’ that someone could just be truly present esp. when times get rough…

And you are right, no matter how much we convince a person to be open to other options, we couldn’t. I think we have to know the psyche of depressed people… to truly grasp what they’re going through…

I wish I could be physically present to those hurting people … but I can’t…

“You are enough” you wrote. This is self-empowerment. It’s an acknowledgment of our own inner strength ~ that no matter what happens, we could always bounce back to life. Tutto passa (Everything passes)…I pray people to have faith not only in themselves but in God… one is never alone.

Oh thanks so much BS. I think I got carried away… there’s still so much to say…I’ll just continue in your inbox 😛 Lots of love :*

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I do not know her, but I wish her the best in the afterlife and hope that she is able to find peace. Your words are so beautiful. I am sure they will reach many that need to hear them.femmefrugality recently posted..How to Stretch Your Body and Your Soul

I am so filled with mixed emotions..I have been where “SHE” was…. I understand it so well from both sides….yet I understand nothing…. I have been in that moment where the inner pain becomes so unbearable that you intend on taking your own life…I know at that moment nothing anyone said or did would have made a difference…at that point you are not rational..you just can’t see clear… and though I have been there , I find myself thinking of “her”often…wondering why…. all I pray is that “she”is at peace..where there is no more pain….. I think this post was is a beautiful tribute to “her”….Thank you Corinne…. loving you…As always…XOXOXOXOXOBongo recently posted..IS IT A FULL MOON

So perfectly expressed and truly from your heart, Corinne. Yes, we should all know and believe that we are enough, right here and right now, and beloved in the sight of God.
Rumi’s quotation reminds me of lyrics from Stephen Curtis Chapman’s song, “Fingerprints of God” – “The person in the mirror doesn’t look like a magazine, but when I look at you, it’s clear to me. I can see the Fingerprints of God.”
That we would all see His fingerprints when we look at our reflections.
Blessings, my friend, and thank you for this most sensitive post.Martha Orlando recently posted..Why? Because We’ve Always Done it This Way!

I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of one of your friends in the blogging community. It is hard to lose someone we care about–especially fellow bloggers–because while we may never meet them physically–it is as if we meet them (through their writing) on a spiritual level and that connection can be strong. I think your assessment is correct–that no matter how much you would have reached out–if she did not believe in her own beauty, her own value–no one could do that for her. Still how sad that she could not see this of herself. Many hugs to you and those that knew her. I’m sure there is a hole in your heart from this loss.

Thank you, Jenn for understanding the bond between us bloggers. It’s hard to explain that to ‘outsiders’ – that these relationships are so real. Yes, the saddest part is that this lovely woman couldn’t see what we all could.

This is so true! I’m trying to figure out what happened. I’ve been away from all of my blogging communities. Sending hugs and prayers of peace to her family and friends because during this time, they will ask the questions that unfortunately have no answers.Sili recently posted..Read and Play Community Recap

Oh Corinne I have tears rolling down my face, sadness and so touched by your words. You have no idea how appropriate they are for me today. Loving you always is so easy to write and not be authentic. I have never meant it more in my life. You have been a savior so many times with your words. Today is especially difficult and today you were there. <3<3<3Jan Neel recently posted..Kylie and Her 2nd Grade Soccer Game

blogging friendships are complicated; most often, we never actually meet or speak to the person. I have a close group of women who I connected with daily. More so, than most people I know as we are all stay at home moms, and that can be isolating. I would be devastated to lose one of them. Weird. I’ve never met them. weird.Sandra Tyler recently posted..I am so behind with my reading and commenting, but…