Worked on my car for a few hours this afternoon, pretty productive.Dont get wrapped up and out to the bars till around 12:30, but thats still plenty of time.

Had some theanine and other supplements to help with my anxiety levels.

Get to the bar. Meet up with friends and start hitting it up. Probably do 10-15 approaches at least, just building up the social momentum. They dont go "well" but I keep my chill centered vibe throughout the night and just continue to express my socialization muscle.

So at about 1:45 we meet these girls, me and my wing on the 40DC by now. There is connection when we talk, im doing well with my girl and hes doing well with his, time to pull.

My wing suggests pizza, which is not a productive pull move IMO, hes kinda new so I take leadership of this pull going down. Man I feel pretty cool how smoothly the execution of the pull went.Figure out logistics quick. I live nearby, the girls valet their car, wing also drove. 2 cars, hmmm. Wing also wants to get pizza. I suggest weed, girls bite at it. Ok cool. I have none its at my wings house. Hes like okay ill go drive to get it and meet you back at your place.Im thinking no that is not a good idea for set chemistry. I want to keep the group together.Okay, so wing is parked on the street his car can chill for a while.

Go downstairs to valet to get the girls car. Babystep the pull they dont really know whats going on but they just follow my instructions. Get into car, she starts playing electronic music I love, and I love her for that. Im just enjoying the music bouncing around in the front seat fistpumping, instructing her how to get to my wings place which is about 10-15 minutes away. Of course I babystep and FTC that ok its 5 minutes just up the street.

Drive to his place, he grabs the stuff. He has roomates so no go chilling at my house. So then the girls drive back to my place. And we chill.

These girls were not the most attractive, but they were super cool and chill. So we spend time chilling, relaxing, smoking, hugging, massaging each other. Very much physical rapport. Very much time is your ally. Very much leave the front door with the girl. Very much alex style game.

All 4 of us are chillin in my living room, im trying to figure out how to isolate and escalate. I think it would be akward for me to just hard lead and be like hey you come here.So my girl goes to the bathroom in my room, I take this as the opportunity for isolation. Walk back and try to kiss her, she is tottally turned on and down, but shes like noooooo youre super cool, but I cant I have a boyfriend. Serious boyfriend shes with him for 1.5 yrs and know him for 5 years. Plus she has to work at 9am. So logistics weren't there. No sex boo hoo. I supposed if I really wanted it I could have screened better.

But honestly, no sex, no big deal. I had an amazing night. Sticking with the process of taking action, just keep talking to girls and eventually one will come around, which they did. Then we chilled for a couple hours, hugs, massages, weeds, electronic music, cool chill girls. It was an amazing time, everything I love we did. I really cannot ask for anymore. So that was really fucking cool night.

Interesting, that also reminds me of the idea of "Social Exclusion" in the book "Reinventing Your Life" by Jeffrey Young about a super awesome method of therapy called "Schema Therapy." Here the focus is on a core belief that you are not "part of the group." I saw that in LOTS of parts of my life, childhood onwards. Its getting better with mindful awareness and attuning my RAS to contradictory evidence.

Also, the idea of "disconnection" in Daniel Seigel's "Mindsight." The idea that you're not having empathy for yourself, and so you're needing someone around you to give you that empathy. Not that I know enough about your life situation and history to say whether this really is related or not, but for me at least, this kind of stuff all stems from the fact that my parents couldn't really give me proper attention, my dad worked a ton, like many many dads, and my mom really can't focus on what I'm talking about as an adult, and I saw this video of myself as a kid where my mom is zoned out and I'm just like in this little world all by myself. Made me really sad and tear up to see that, but also kind of made so much sense of my past. But so refreshing when it helps you assemble your life story in your head into this coherent narrative as opposed to this fucktard disconnected series of fragments that really don't allow you to make sense of yourself.

roadrally Wrote:

dave7- Wrote:

Reminds me of the idea of "invisibility" that was mentioned in "6 pillars of self esteem." Maybe you might benefit from looking into that concept. It ties in to not believing your thoughts/feelings/opinions have value.

roadrally Wrote:

11-9 Friday night uptown.

Man, theres this crazy duality of reality I experience. Like its a friday night its cold out not crowded, so the girls that are out really want to be out. And people are making out all around me, and I feel like a visitor in a foreign country. Its quite wierd. I felt this way when I was in ukraine as well. Like its hard for me to relate to people or relating to myself as a social person almost.

OK that sounds spot on, And I have that book. Ill check it out again. Thanks for the tip sir.

Dude I can so relate to this FR. The new wing all happy and bubbly and shit, but you're the one who knows the deal of logistics and shit. Funny to see you have the same situation I've seen so many times before haha.

Can't say I always handled it well though, several times I literally flipped my shit with a WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?? Hilarious to think about rn actually haha.

roadrally Wrote:

11-9 Saturday.

Soundtrack for field report - enjoy :)

Worked on my car for a few hours this afternoon, pretty productive.Dont get wrapped up and out to the bars till around 12:30, but thats still plenty of time.

Had some theanine and other supplements to help with my anxiety levels.

Get to the bar. Meet up with friends and start hitting it up. Probably do 10-15 approaches at least, just building up the social momentum. They dont go "well" but I keep my chill centered vibe throughout the night and just continue to express my socialization muscle.

So at about 1:45 we meet these girls, me and my wing on the 40DC by now. There is connection when we talk, im doing well with my girl and hes doing well with his, time to pull.

My wing suggests pizza, which is not a productive pull move IMO, hes kinda new so I take leadership of this pull going down. Man I feel pretty cool how smoothly the execution of the pull went.Figure out logistics quick. I live nearby, the girls valet their car, wing also drove. 2 cars, hmmm. Wing also wants to get pizza. I suggest weed, girls bite at it. Ok cool. I have none its at my wings house. Hes like okay ill go drive to get it and meet you back at your place.Im thinking no that is not a good idea for set chemistry. I want to keep the group together.Okay, so wing is parked on the street his car can chill for a while.

Go downstairs to valet to get the girls car. Babystep the pull they dont really know whats going on but they just follow my instructions. Get into car, she starts playing electronic music I love, and I love her for that. Im just enjoying the music bouncing around in the front seat fistpumping, instructing her how to get to my wings place which is about 10-15 minutes away. Of course I babystep and FTC that ok its 5 minutes just up the street.

Drive to his place, he grabs the stuff. He has roomates so no go chilling at my house. So then the girls drive back to my place. And we chill.

These girls were not the most attractive, but they were super cool and chill. So we spend time chilling, relaxing, smoking, hugging, massaging each other. Very much physical rapport. Very much time is your ally. Very much leave the front door with the girl. Very much alex style game.

All 4 of us are chillin in my living room, im trying to figure out how to isolate and escalate. I think it would be akward for me to just hard lead and be like hey you come here.So my girl goes to the bathroom in my room, I take this as the opportunity for isolation. Walk back and try to kiss her, she is tottally turned on and down, but shes like noooooo youre super cool, but I cant I have a boyfriend. Serious boyfriend shes with him for 1.5 yrs and know him for 5 years. Plus she has to work at 9am. So logistics weren't there. No sex boo hoo. I supposed if I really wanted it I could have screened better.

But honestly, no sex, no big deal. I had an amazing night. Sticking with the process of taking action, just keep talking to girls and eventually one will come around, which they did. Then we chilled for a couple hours, hugs, massages, weeds, electronic music, cool chill girls. It was an amazing time, everything I love we did. I really cannot ask for anymore. So that was really fucking cool night.

Dude I can so relate to this FR. The new wing all happy and bubbly and shit, but you're the one who knows the deal of logistics and shit. Funny to see you have the same situation I've seen so many times before haha.

Can't say I always handled it well though, several times I literally flipped my shit with a WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?? Hilarious to think about rn actually haha.

roadrally Wrote:

11-9 Saturday.

Soundtrack for field report - enjoy :)

Worked on my car for a few hours this afternoon, pretty productive.Dont get wrapped up and out to the bars till around 12:30, but thats still plenty of time.

Had some theanine and other supplements to help with my anxiety levels.

Get to the bar. Meet up with friends and start hitting it up. Probably do 10-15 approaches at least, just building up the social momentum. They dont go "well" but I keep my chill centered vibe throughout the night and just continue to express my socialization muscle.

So at about 1:45 we meet these girls, me and my wing on the 40DC by now. There is connection when we talk, im doing well with my girl and hes doing well with his, time to pull.

My wing suggests pizza, which is not a productive pull move IMO, hes kinda new so I take leadership of this pull going down. Man I feel pretty cool how smoothly the execution of the pull went.Figure out logistics quick. I live nearby, the girls valet their car, wing also drove. 2 cars, hmmm. Wing also wants to get pizza. I suggest weed, girls bite at it. Ok cool. I have none its at my wings house. Hes like okay ill go drive to get it and meet you back at your place.Im thinking no that is not a good idea for set chemistry. I want to keep the group together.Okay, so wing is parked on the street his car can chill for a while.

Go downstairs to valet to get the girls car. Babystep the pull they dont really know whats going on but they just follow my instructions. Get into car, she starts playing electronic music I love, and I love her for that. Im just enjoying the music bouncing around in the front seat fistpumping, instructing her how to get to my wings place which is about 10-15 minutes away. Of course I babystep and FTC that ok its 5 minutes just up the street.

Drive to his place, he grabs the stuff. He has roomates so no go chilling at my house. So then the girls drive back to my place. And we chill.

These girls were not the most attractive, but they were super cool and chill. So we spend time chilling, relaxing, smoking, hugging, massaging each other. Very much physical rapport. Very much time is your ally. Very much leave the front door with the girl. Very much alex style game.

All 4 of us are chillin in my living room, im trying to figure out how to isolate and escalate. I think it would be akward for me to just hard lead and be like hey you come here.So my girl goes to the bathroom in my room, I take this as the opportunity for isolation. Walk back and try to kiss her, she is tottally turned on and down, but shes like noooooo youre super cool, but I cant I have a boyfriend. Serious boyfriend shes with him for 1.5 yrs and know him for 5 years. Plus she has to work at 9am. So logistics weren't there. No sex boo hoo. I supposed if I really wanted it I could have screened better.

But honestly, no sex, no big deal. I had an amazing night. Sticking with the process of taking action, just keep talking to girls and eventually one will come around, which they did. Then we chilled for a couple hours, hugs, massages, weeds, electronic music, cool chill girls. It was an amazing time, everything I love we did. I really cannot ask for anymore. So that was really fucking cool night.

Glad to see you still banging it out man. I didn't know you were up in D Town now. Saw you at Todd Hotseat a month or two ago in Austin, but still good to see you going strong. I was out there for 4 days and had a blast on 6th.

Not to ruin it for you, but I didn't like Dallas as much as Austin game-wise. I lived in Dallas for a little while last year near Plano though so I had more of a commute. You in Uptown is an ideal spot.

Anyways, keep it up. Im out in San Francisco in an LTR right now but I'm looking to get out soon and get back in the game (just POFing right now lol). I'll be most likely living out in Phoenix next year but will be making rounds to LV and Texas as usual.

Drive down from dallas on thursday night. Make it out to 6th street at about midnight. I am so happy to be in the city, and I notice that my entitlement is through the roof. I walk up to girls on the street and expect them to talk to me. Of course they do. Meet up with some dallas guys who are here for the weekend, and Dave7 also. End of the night during street game, I see this really hot girl, she jumps on me because I opened her earlier in the night she was like oh hey. That was a super interesting set because she was also with her gf and the GFs brother. The girl was basically trying to setup logisitics and straight up telling my girl to bang her brother. My girl was not down for that. It was interesting to see, I was expecting to get blown out by the group but since my girl blatantly invited me in, they couldnt be a dick to me and dismiss me as usual. I walk my girl back to her car alex style try to do some afterparty shit but shes not down. I should have took her number. Oops.

Friday head out to the track for a bit, walk into this super vip section at T15 by just acting like I was supposed to be there. That was awesome.Go out at night, with some dallas guys, they get quite drunk pregaming and are a little bit too intense energy for me. I end up roaming around solo for a bit. Tried to meet up with some girls but doesnt work out. Kinda forget what happened. Nothing too special really.

Saturday night, I go out with civilian friends to 6th street. Just kind of chilled again.

Something I have been thinking about recently. Especially reading Dave7 FR and hanging out/talking with him. This whole consistency deal. Sometimes I think whats the point of going out for 10 or 20 minutes and doing one or two approaches, its same as 0 essentially. But one thing I noticed, is that I like to make up alot of reasons as to why it wont or cannot work in terms of me meeting girls.

Like now im sorta homeless between dallas and Austin, so I can easily rationalize in my head oh no point because im moving around I wont be around etc. That is a very powerful concept that I want to change around in my head/thoughts.

Start beliveing in whats possible, instead of coming up with reasons why it wont work and then making myself be right about that.

Thursday nightSold my bed on craigslist yay me. Got rid of all of my big furniture!! Was not able to move bed out till 9:30 pm then pack the car up with stuff to move. I get to 6th street at about 1:45. Go out for 15 mins, enjoy the nostalgia and the 75 degree warm weather. Basically say hi to a few girls then head in for the night.

Fridayi have a phone interview in the day which goes well. The weather goes to 40 and raining... 6th street would be no fun. Want to go see adventure club play. Tickets are sold out. A girl I met last weekend calls me around 6pm. Apparently she's been drinking and wants to go see adventure club with me. Meet her at the venue real early we ask people if they have extra tickets. Nobody does. Sad face. She grabs a bite to eat, then we come back to look for tickets. End up paying $80. For tix ouch!!Amazing show. Get in around 830 super early for me. Well call this girl Eskimo. She introduces me to her friends. 3 other girls. Alex style friendly man game paying dividends. Me + 4 girls yay. Have a blast cuz I love electronic music. Grind on a girl for 20 mins up front on the dance floor. Also kiss a girl randomly who is orbiting me. I have alot of fun jumping around to the music and. I notice girls "orbiting" I need to igure out a smooth way to open them when they come by. Anyway kiss a girl randomly. Lose my camera cuz I jump too much and it flies out of my pocket. Lights on at the show I'm looking for a camera. One of the girls in the group actually found it. So that was sweet. I lost an iPhone at a show cuz I get too excited and stuff leaves pockets lol. After the show ends I see a girl that I've gone on a couple dates with in Austin. I pull her to the backseat of my car in the parking lot. I take her boobs out and my dick too. She plays with it and sucks. She's bad at BJs so I get half hard and she just stops and is like I'm going.gotta go lol. I make her stay jerk myself off mostly and come in her mouth. It was sweet. Then she's like okay so I have a place to stay in Hawaii?? ...

Go home

saturday. Girls from last night text me. They're meeting up at 8 ten going to see dirty south. I'm in on that plan. Get there it's the girl and couple. Just waste time eating food then go to the show. Show is very fun. I dance with one girl who's with 4 guys it's kind of wierd to me I ask if that's her boyfriend she's like no. But for some reason I got hesitant because she was with te guys nearby. It was a good show and 35 degrees outside so couldn't really street game after. They drove together and went home so did I alone.

it was cool to have these girls come into my life and join me in fun and electronic music shows. Basically I did that all weekend and had hot girls to hang out with. I could see how this is a self sustainable form of game with compounding returns in effect..very cool. Thank you Alex you are a genius.

Also I bought edc 2014 tickets , and these girls from this weekend are talking about it. It would be sweet to hang out for a weekend with them. They like to party. Talking about eat sleep rave repeat. Edc then pool party then edc then pool party oh god that would be an amazing weekend!!

hectic times been driving around alot Dallas to Austin and back... Just handling my stuff. Taking more action doing more and less resistance to what needs to be done. I tend to be lazy and want the easy way.. That only works in bs institutions like school. In the real world you gotta sack up and hustle and get shit done. Learning lessons on life even when I ain't out pimping. Pretty pimp!!

Wed nightmade it out to Austin late I think. Met up with some friends and hung out basically maybe 1 or 2 approaches.

thursday Ate alot of food and chilled for the night stayed in

fridayit was really cold and not many people out. Did a drive around then 15 mins out just 3 approaches

saturdayI spent the day in Dallas. Hung out with a girl I met off cold approach. We blazed then went to a restaurant and had a hookah and food just chilled. Nice day out. Lovin life. Last day in Dallas. Always bittersweet and mildly emotional when I move cities. I really didn't like Dallas much and quite happy to leave. Girl comes back to my place and helps me pack up the rest of my stuff into the car. Wing buddy from Dallas also stops by and we share one last bowl. Good times. Farewell Dallas and off to Austin I go.

Get down to Austin at around 1130. Eat a bunch of mushrooms that I had since I'm not takig it on the plane with me.haha very interesting night. Had a few other guys out. Saw sooners, poky, even out ofbacon. I couldn't hang out with those guys though. It was like an intense attack pack of 6 dudes swarming at girls. O. Course they get defensive and run off. I end up solo on 6th st. For good times sakes. I chill and look at some trees. Talk to these really hot girls for a while. It's crazy how indifferent girls are to guys as long as you're enough. As long as you never creep them out they are always happy to see you when you reapproah or see them again later in the night. I end up letting these girls leave. In retrospect I could have probably gone with them and all would be good. But I need to lead more.

In Texas for 2 more days finalizing logistics for the move back to Honolulu. Plan to hit it hard on the beaches over there. Had a first bench mark 2 years ago on Waikiki. Excited to see the difference in me after two years of living in Texas and traveling the country. I am super greatful for my oppurtunities to travel as I do.

been back in Honolulu for about a week now. Another life transition so I've been doing alot of soul searching the past week to figure out what course to take for the next few years of my life. Been dealing with sadness/depression a bit. Not having a clear idea of my future + oh I'm in Hawaii everything is supposed to be amazing. It's not. Nice weather and stuff but yeah reality also happens here. It's all my perspective on shit I know and I gotta work through this and figure shit out.

Been goin to Waikiki for beach game most days. I think I went out 5 of the last 7 days but I've been struggling. Going out and trying to talk to girls inspite of my bad emotions. It's been tough and I've averaged just a couple approaches each day.

Today I had a breakthrough though. I watched the Ted video in Tyler's article today about remembering that you're batman so that was pretty neat. I still have bad sad woe is me feelings and I walk along the beach for an hour just passing up girls. My reaction time is like 15 minutes. Aka I don't approach. I'm just focuses on cutting that down to 3 seconds then trusting myself once I put myself infront of the girl.

i guess I had enough of this low achievement bs so today after 1 hour of sadness I stepped it up. Told myself I wasn't going home until I did 5 approaches and accomplished my mission. The first two approaches were akward and forced, but then I kind of remembered that I am batman. Just saw girl and went had the social momentum. Had like 3 5+ minute interactions.this super friendly hot Cali girl. I just went in assumed it and we had a nice chat. I kept talking for the first minute so I that was goodshe walks away to go home cuz the sun is setting I go over to another girl sitting nearby. Hot teacher girl who is grading papers. She's more into grading her papers then talking to me. There's no reason why I'm not enough so who cares. She does yoga at the same place as me so maybe I'll see her again probably not. Then she goes home. Then I talk to this cutie German girl who just got to Hawaii. We facebook friend it up and she has a boyfriend back in Germany surprise. Then I'm walking to my car. I chase down this cutie. Haha just as I approach this beach bum black guy comes behind and tries to amog by making comments and stuff. I'm pretty annoyed but I just ignore him and keep talking to the girl that was pretty boss feeling. He fucks off after about a minute of my ignoring him.

It was cool to get into the flow of things first time in a while. It's sweet though, if I keep going out things will just build onto itself and I will have better and better results. Remembering that I'm batman! And I can do this shit. Feels great.