Tonight we’re talking about a movie called “BlameBusters” that I’m making up.

It’s about people who blame others for where they’re at.

I say a lot of controversial statements about people who are cheated on by telling them that they are at fault for it, because they ignored the patterns and the signs.

It doesn’t matter what it is- if you’re cheated on or if you have weight issues- you are constantly manifesting it. You have a tape recorder in you that says “this won’t work for me” because it’s easier to blame others for where you’re at.

What do you do if a deal doesn’t work out for you like it was supposed to?
Do you go back and sue the person? Do you bully the person?

There seems to be lawyers just for buyer’s remorse.
Lawyers don’t care about buyers and their remorse, it’s just their job.

Lawyers seem to be those kids who were picked on in life and they wanted to get people back. They create havoc.

But then I think about doctors and some of the things they do. Doctors seem to really care about people.

Think about the people you know in life and think about their jobs and if they fit.
Can you look at your kid’s friends and see which will be the lawyer and which will be the doctor?
Are you truly utilizing your skills that you were blessed with?

This is negative programming that people use to keep themselves in the equation thinking that everything they’ve tried to achieve won’t work, so it keeps us from trying again.

We have to get to the root of it and look at the loop that’s been holding us back. We’ve bought all the programs to help us, we tried them, we gave up.

We listen to the voices that tell us it won’t work. We do that because we’re pussies. We’re afraid of failure. We’d rather stay the way we are than do something to try to be better and possibly fail so we have to try again.

The failure is going to make us feel worse than feeling shitty about ourselves.

We need to take ourselves out of that equation. We need to stop rationalizing the doubt. Those voices in our heads are just fucking with us.

The night before Thanksgiving was always a huge night and one of my favorite memories was going with my friends in NY to watch the floats get blown up before being used the next day in the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade. It’s a big going out night to party and reconnect with friends.

I’m thinking about Black Friday and how many people choose to wake up super early to battle crowds because of marketing and programming when we should be sitting in and staying thankful after the day spent with family.

What does Thanksgiving mean to you? What are you thankful for this year?
It’s not about the deals we’re going to get on Black Friday.
It’s a time to reflect and connect.
And you should take time to thank yourself for making it through another year.

I’m watching a hierarchy in my daughter’s fish tank. The Angel fish is the top fish and just parades around being the boss. And they go in order from there. The lazy catfish is managing to not be lazy anymore.

Some fish just kind of float by. They aren’t aggressive at all.

Then there’s the hustler fish who scrub the tank and get the work done.

Which fish are you? The one that hangs out and does nothing, or the one that digs and scrubs and does everything it can to find what it’s looking for?

How was your year? If you had to grade your year, what would your grade be?

Did you push yourself or did you hardly get by and quit?

How would you honestly grade yourself?

Think it through. Grade your year and see where you can mark improvement.

There’s SO much stimulation out there that we can’t focus on what our correct path should be.

If you’re like me, it’s just “fight or flight” CONSTANTLY and sometimes we can’t fully let our guard down.

Eventually, you hit a wall. You start to notice the bad programming you learned from a bad source in your past.

Are you enjoying life in this moment? Are you stuck living to “prove something” to someone in your past?

Sometimes “healing” means letting go of old negative patterns to finally be able to THRIVE, instead of just survive. Whether it’s weight loss, mental health, emotional maturity, or eating habits, the things that hold us back will hold ALL parts of us back.

You KNOW what you need to do.

Your heart knows. Your body knows. Look at your health, What do you need? Be honest with yourself.

What are you going to do? Are you willing to do what it takes to heal and thrive?

Join me and my guest, holistic nutritionist and lifestyle cleanse expert Elissa Goodman, as we discuss how you can not just survive, but thrive!

You’ve told yourself over and over again, recreated the stories in your life that validate your negativity. When I’m coaching people, I hear that negativity – and I give you a 100%, totally unbiased opinion.

I don’t know you.

I hear you – and that’s better. A good coach doesn’t have to like you, or know you, a good coach has to hear you. And with a good coach, you do the work.

I need to connect the dots, hear your stories, and be able to break through the BS.

Part of what I do when I work with people is help them develop a new way of doing things. The human condition is all about trying to reinfect YOUR way into the program, into the process – and inevitably, it always fails.

When you do things your coach’s way for 30 days or 30 nights, THEIR way becomes YOUR way, and you’re no longer triggered by your own frustration because you’re no longer doing things THAT way anymore.