I have recently become a T1 para and can get an sustain an erection using Viagra etc. However at this stage I have had no luck getting an orgasm. My partner and I have tried pretty dam hard to get a result but with no luck.Are we wasting our time and are orgasms a thing of the past?I still enjoy sex but it would be nice to have relief at the end of lovemaking.

Im a T12 para and the enjoyment from sex for me is a big part of intimacy and love making. However, just to confirm, do you mean orgasm or ejaculation? As they are 2 different things, sometimes us men tend to think they're the same thing.

It is possible to have an orgasm (not the same as before) and really enjoy it, without having ejaculation.Without getting to deep, is there a slim chance you might be focusing on the orgasm (or ejaculation) too much? I've heard that on occasion changing the focus to purely enjoyment can have results.

What do you think?

Also, have you checked out the FAQ's? There's a few bits and bobs in there as well.

I know ejuaculation is a thing of the past, and I do enjoy lovemaking, the trip rather than the destination and all that but I have not reached climax/had an orgasim since my SCI. I heard that heavy duty vibrators can help. Has anyone got any advice?

Its just orgasm & ejaculation or two diff things. Vibration could help with ejaculation but not sure if it would help with climax... Still, these things are worth a go, especially if both you and your partner are keen Go for gold.

losmek wrote:I know ejuaculation is a thing of the past, and I do enjoy lovemaking, the trip rather than the destination and all that but I have not reached climax/had an orgasim since my SCI. I heard that heavy duty vibrators can help. Has anyone got any advice?

Hey Guys i use an hitachi love wand and have reached both orgasm and ejaculation with it. Hardest part seems to be locating the "sweet spot"as what works on a sunday may not work on a wednesday. I hear people rave about ferticare but at the cost its at it is just to much of a risk to find it not working or working less than the wand

You said you recently became a T1 para. It might just need a bit more time. It was 18 months after my injury (L2-3) before I could orgasm again. I have read of people still getting recovery 8 years after injury so keep trying.