Get her off the meds! Haven't your heard the psych industry is a factory of death and family disarray? Get her on some daily vitamins and get her butt outside walking or something. That means your butt will need to be out walking or doing something too.

Also start on your weekly date night this week and start buying her a little token gift every couple weeks. Like a flower or little crystal for the window or pack of gum. Little stuff that is a constant reminder to her that you thought of her. And start cleaning the house vigorously right in front of her. She will get in the spirit of things and start helping. Then set a weekly schedule perhaps the morning after date night you both clean.

You should also both leave the house for a week or two and change your environment so she can snap out of it. Like a vacation. And join a church or martial arts club or hiking club or something that you can drag her along with long enough so she makes some social connections and starts involving that in her life.

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since for years ago my wife started taking the "antidepressant" crap from the death peddlers, the relationship and the family went to shit. Despite I have told her so then, she had chosen the devil.

You know people get hooked on the anti-depressants and then are afraid to come off them. They really alter the chemistry of the brain. I think you have to come off of them very slowly and carefully.

I think people get insomnia and a worse depression when they start to taper off. It is important to get off of them before you completely lose your mind and all ability to function and have normal feelings.

It would be a sad state of existence to never be able to cry hard or never be able to feel the peace and calm after. Emotions are what make us human.

If you are not connected to your pain, how can you know what is wrong in your life so that you can change it? If you can't change it, you get stuck in a rut. Pain is very important to survival.

The one who stays home the most should do most of the basic chores, such as vacuuming, dishes, cooking, etc. other chores such as bathroom cleaning, laundry, etc can be split up.

Let her know you just want to see her making an effort to appreciate your long days at work. Youre not being unreasonable.

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Sit down and have a talk. Tell her exactly how you feel and that it you don't think you two are sharing the work load evenly. Explain all your feelings. Sometimes women don't get it if you just drop a few hints. You need to talk it out. Communicate your feeling to her in a nice way. If you don't, your anger and resentment will build and it could destroy your marriage.

First she needs to be on the same schedule as you, tell her you want to spend time with her, and if she is sleeping on a different schedule then you, well this is going to drift you guys apart. Next, ask her if she could please vacuum, do the dishes, and clean the bathrooms today, while you are working ten hours. Then the next day, maybe suggest can you do a load of laundry. Maybe leave a note for her each day, and tell her you love her. Maybe she'll come around. Just don't fight about it. Being in a dirty house is depressing in itself.

Sounds like 99% of the young girls in America....(totally fucking useless)

I recommend you use the option of traveling to another European country and finding one. Perhaps find a girl from an impoverished country who will actually put effort into making her man happy. Then you in turn can take her to romantic places etc etc.

St. Johns Wort, my son took this in college from slight depression due to work overload and it worked for him extremely well. And guess what it doesnt come from The Pharmaceutical Companies it's completely natural. Research It. Good Luck.

Try to identify your wife's unique "love language", and then try using HER SPECIFIC language to "fill her tank" for 3 weeks--- you will see a massive change if she isn't chronically ill. Here are the 5 love languages:

OP have you ever considered that YOU have this effect on her? My husband is a lazy, fat slob that doesn't want to do anything. I handle the "brains" of our business and he really doesn't do much when he comes home except maybe give the baby a bath once in a while. He will lay on the bed and watch the baby do a Tazmanian Devil act on the house within his view and he will just lay there and let her tear the house up...to lazy to even say NO or STOP. Meanwhile, I am cooking, cleaning up (behind 3 people and a cat), straightening up, washing and all the fine tuning that goes into running a house that he never thinks of. Do you pay attention to anything she does? Is your home a complete mess? Are there clothes piled up? I'm sure she does things you just don't want to credit her for doing it. Cooking is a fine art, a skill, even an alchemy. It doesn't come overnight, and though I enjoy it and am good at it...when my husband pisses me off, I sometimes fix easy things for the kids and say FUCK IT. Why should I waste my energy doing for him when he never does for me? She sounds resentful, not lazy. A consequence of living with a spouse you have come to resent is depression.

The one who stays home the most should do most of the basic chores, such as vacuuming, dishes, cooking, etc. other chores such as bathroom cleaning, laundry, etc can be split up.

Let her know you just want to see her making an effort to appreciate your long days at work. Youre not being unreasonable.

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I agree, its not sexist as I have worked many times when my man was at home and he kept the house and did laundry etc..it has gone both ways. I lived with one BF who also did nothing all day, literally nothing while I worked 60 hrs a week and supported him and 2 kids. I booted him out the door. If she isnt working then yes, house should be clean, laundry caught up, dishes done and even dinner made its only fair. That way on the time off the other person has, they can do things together that might be more fun, or just be lazy, or even do things together that need more than one person for etc. Its only fair

If I sat in front of a tv all day playing games, I'd be depressed too ! I hate those stupid games. I went out with a guy that did that ALL day in his PJ's and he also was a slob, thank God he is now gone. Don't teach her how to use your computer, even if it's for jobs...you will be sorry.

She sounds lazy and that's no good ! I'd be straight with her and tell her just how you are feeling. Communication is very important, even if it starts out for a negative reason, it could get her butt moving out of the couch or chair. I would also throw out that stupid PS3. I wish they never invented those games, they are a waste of time and bad for people.

Try to identify your wife's unique "love language", and then try using HER SPECIFIC language to "fill her tank" for 3 weeks--- you will see a massive change if she isn't chronically ill. Here are the 5 love languages:

She sounds lazy and that's no good ! I'd be straight with her and tell her just how you are feeling. Communication is very important, even if it starts out for a negative reason, it could get her butt moving out of the couch or chair. I would also throw out that stupid PS3. I wish they never invented those games, they are a waste of time and bad for people.