Getting a girl to go to a dance with you is pretty easy, but asking her in a creative way that she is sure to remember is a bit more challenging. This article will describe many techniques so you can find the one that works for you.

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Steps

Method 1 of 6: Breaking the Ice

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Write a note asking her to Prom. At the top, write "Now that we've broken the ice, will you go to Prom/Homecoming with me?" Be sure to include her name somewhere, so she knows for sure that you're asking her, and sign your name at the bottom.

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Laminate the note. Laminate the note with plastic so that it won't melt or disintegrate in the next steps.

Or, if you don't have time to laminate it, put it into a resealable plastic sandwich bag. If you have to go with this method, try to make it a little more romantic by putting rose petals or candy into the bag with the note.

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Find a clear plastic bin. Dig around your kitchen for a large plastic dish with a lid. Or pick one up at the grocery store — they're usually marketed as containers for leftovers.

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Put the note into the container, and fill it with water. Remember that the water will expand a little as it becomes ice, so don't fill it all the way to the top.

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Freeze the container. Leaving it in your freezer overnight should do the trick.

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Give her the container. Have a friend deliver it to her, or leave it in a place you know she'll find it. Just be careful that you don't let it sit for so long that it melts! When she gets it, she'll have to literally break the ice to get to the note.

Method 2 of 6: Balloons

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Buy some balloons. How many you get depends on where you'll be leaving them. If you're going to leave them in her car, get four or five; if you'll be leaving them in a room, like her bedroom, get seven or eight.

Pick a color scheme. If you know this girl loves purple, get balloons that are varying shades of purple. If you're both really into school spirit, choose your school colors. Or, if you're at a loss, you can't go wrong with pink, red and white.

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Put cute items into the empty balloons. One of the balloons will need a slip of paper with your name on it, so she knows who's asking her. Don't just leave the others empty, though! Try filling them with these things:

A small gift, like a bracelet or other trinket she can wear to the dance

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Blow up the balloons. Blow them up yourself, or take them down to your local grocery store or flower shop and ask for them to be filled with helium. (Just warn the person behind the counter that the balloons have small items in them!)

Tie ribbons at the end. If you fill your balloons at a shop, they'll do this for you. If you're doing it yourself, though, simply tie a ribbon around the end of the balloon, and use scissors to curl the ends. See How to Curl Ribbon for more help.

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Write the note. Say something like "[Girl's name], you make me feel lighter than air. Go to Prom/Homecoming with me?" Tape a pin or needle to the note, so she knows she has to pop the balloons.

If you went to a floral shop to fill the balloons, ask if you can have a pin with a colored end, that florists use for corsages.

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Leave the balloons where she'll find them. You can ask her parents if you can leave them in her room, or you could get one of her friends to help you leave them in her car.

Method 3 of 6: Candles

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Get permission first. For this method, you'll be lighting items on fire in her parents' driveway, and nothing would be less romantic than her dad busting you before she sees the message. Call or drop by her house when you know she won't be there, and let her parents in on the plan. They can even help distract her while you're getting set up!

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Buy a bag of tea candles. Small tea candles, which are short and round, can be bought at most craft or home improvement stores. You'll need a lot to spell a word, so buy a bag of 50 to 100.

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Get a single rose. Ask the florist to trim any thorns and tie a pretty ribbon around it. Or, if you know she prefers another flower over roses, get that instead.

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Arrange the candles in her driveway. Wait until after dark, then move in to arrange the candles before you light them. Take a step back and make sure they look good before you move on to the next step.

If you're asking her to Prom, spell out "PROM?" with the question mark. (Capital letters are generally easier to write out with the candles.)

If you're asking her to another dance, spell out her name instead. This works well for something like Homecoming, which would take a lot of candles and a long driveway.

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Light the candles. Once everything's laid out, light them up!

This step will go a lot faster if you have a long-handled lighter, but a regular lighter and matches will work, too.

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Stand behind the letters with your rose. Make sure you're not in the way, so she can see all the candles.

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Get her to come outside. Text or call her to lure her outside, so she can see the message. Or, if her parents are helping you out, have them send her outside on a chore like bringing in the garbage cans as soon as they know you're ready.

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Give her a second to read the message. Don't step forward immediately — let the gesture sink in and enjoy the surprised (and hopefully delighted) look on her face.

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Step forward and ask. Once she's seen the candles, step forward, offer her the rose, and ask if she'd do you the honor of going to the dance with you.

Method 4 of 6: Chalk Message

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Check the weather forecast. This method won't work if it's going to rain or snow in the next week, so make sure you're set for sunny skies.

Be careful of sprinklers, too. You're going to leave her a message in sidewalk chalk every morning for a few days, and you don't want your beautiful work erased by a timed sprinkler. If you'll be writing on her parents' driveway, call them beforehand and mention sprinklers while you're asking permission.

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Come up with the whole message. You're going to spread this out over four or five days, so write something that you can easily space into parts.

For instance, you might write a small couplet like "So you wear a dress / And I'll wear a suit / With you as my Prom date / We'll be awfully cute!"

This warns her that an invitation is happening, so she's less likely to accept another offer in the meantime.

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Write the message in sidewalk chalk. Place it so that she's sure to see it when she leaves the house to go to school.

Go early in the morning. It'll take some dedication, but she'll be impressed later. For instance, if you know she gets up at 6 to get ready for school, write the message at 5:30. It has to be waiting for her when she wakes up!

Don't sign your name. You're going to leave her in suspense until the very last day.

Be creative! Draw block letters, and add borders or little doodles. If you're not the artsy type, ask a talented friend to help you.

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Write another message in the same place the next day. Continue on with this for a few days, until you come to the end of the message.

Stay stealthy. Now she knows someone is coming, so you'll have to go out of your way to avoid getting caught in the act of chalking her driveway. If you started out by going early in the morning, change it up and write the message late at night instead.

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Go big on the last day. Make this one your magnum opus! Draw it on an extra large area, or spend more time adding more embellishment.

Be sweet. You could use this opportunity to tell her a little bit about how you feel by writing something like, "Ashley, You're the most beautiful girl I know. Go to the Prom with me?"

Sign your name. This is the big reveal! Sign your final chalk message, and make sure it's big enough that she can't miss it.

Method 5 of 6: Treasure Hunt

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Enlist help. A treasure hunt can be a complicated operation, but the pay-off is great if she appreciates that you went to a ton of effort. Get one of her friends involved, and make sure you have plenty of back-up on your end.

Ask one of her friends to go with her. Tell her friend what's going on, and ask for help making sure that the girl gets through the treasure hunt. Her friend will probably be more than happy to help! Plus, it's more fun for the girl you're asking if she has someone else to go with.

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Set up a route. Before you write out clues, decide where you want her to go. Here are a few different ideas:

If she's going to be walking, stick to the neighborhood immediately around her house or your school.

If she can have a friend drive her, spread out a little to fun landmarks around town, like parks or cafes.

Decide on the last place. This is the most important planning decision — where do you want to be when you actually ask her to the dance at the end? Try to pick a location that's cute and romantic, like a tree-lined sidewalk, a gazebo at a park, a pretty fountain in the city, etc.

Consider the time of day, as well. If you want to ask her at sunset, for instance, try to plan the route so that she's able to get there on-time.

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Write up clues. Good treasure hunt clues should take a second for her to work out, but they shouldn't be so complicated that she's stumped.

Write out each clue on a small piece of paper. Try to keep them short and mysterious!

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Attach each clue to a rose. Buy as many roses as you have clues, plus one extra for you to give her at the end. She'll gather a bouquet of roses as she finds more clues, and eventually you'll hand her the last one! For a classic number, write up eleven clues so she'll end up with a dozen roses.

Punch a hole through the corner of each clue. Or, if you don't have a hole-punch, use scissors to make a small circle.

Use a ribbon to attach each clue to a rose. Curl the ends of the ribbons with scissors. (See How to Curl Ribbon for more help.)

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Place the roses. Right before the treasure hunt, deposit all the roses at their clue locations. Make sure they're in the right order — you don't want her getting lost!

When you leave the roses for her to find, make sure that they'll only be picked up by her. For instance, if you're leaving one on her doorstep, assign a friend to hang out across the street and make sure that only she gets it. Otherwise, your friend can run up to whoever else picks it up and explain what's going on. Or, if you're directing her to a store or restaurant, leave the rose with the person at the counter and describe the girl who will be retrieving it.

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Wait at the final location with the last rose. When you see the girl approaching, put on your biggest smile, confidently greet her, and ask her to the dance.

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You can merge other ways of asking her to prom in this last step of the hunt. For example, spell "PROM?" with chocolate icing on a box of macaroons. Or feel free to merge the other options listed here such as the candles and balloons at the end of the hunt.

If you had one of her friends go with her, make sure this friend knows when to back away so you have a little privacy. For instance, her friend might drop her off just before the last location and let her walk the last little distance alone.

Method 6 of 6: Cheering Them On

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Get a couple friends together to help you out. This asking will be taking place mostly at a halftime during your soon-to-be date's sport game, so make sure that none of the group is busy on the night you are going to be asking.

Assign 1-3 people to be taking video. Person #1 should be stationed in front of the dancing. Person #2 could be another angle. Person #3 should have a view of the person who you are asking's face to catch their reaction.

Another person who may or may not be dancing should go and find the person who you are going to ask and bring them to the front of the crowd so they can see everything and you can talk to them.

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Choreograph a 30-80 second dance to a song that means winning or inspiration. Here are some ideas:

Eye of the Tiger - by Survivor

Hall of Fame - by The Script

We Are the Champions - by Queen

All Fired Up - by Pat Benatar

or even just a regular song like: I'm A Believer - by The Monkees

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Get together some outfits.

To make it fun, guys should wear cheerleader uniforms with colors that match the team colors of the person they are asking.

But, if it turns out a girl is reading this for tips on Sadie's, girls could dress up in snapbacks and t-shirts and do the same thing.

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Go to a game that your soon-to-be date is playing in.

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Wait until halftime, then start the music and the dance.

When you start dancing, the person who is supposed to drag the person you are asking should do that then so that by the time a crowd forms, they are already at the front.

Make sure to keep eye contact throughout the whole dance with the person you are asking.

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At the end of the dance, or you could even weave this into the dance moves, step forward, maybe with a flower, and ask the person the question on your mind.

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Tips

Remember, a single red rose can be just as romantic as a dozen red roses. You don't have to drop $50 on flowers!

Keep her personality in mind. If she's more extroverted, she might like being asked in a way that makes her the center of attention; if she tends to be shy, though, stick to a quieter invitation.

Figure out her favorite kind of flower. If you know she likes daisies more than roses, she might appreciate you took the time to give her something more personalized.

Take rejection gracefully. Just smile and say her date is a lucky guy. You never know, she might really want to go with you but she already committed to someone else. Behaving like a gentleman shows her you're worth her time, and maybe she'll go to the next dance with you!

If you do any trick involving flowers or plants, make sure that the girl doesn't suffer from hay fever. It's not romantic to make the girl you like sneeze.