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Have you ever been blamed for not being too nice? Yeah? And for being fake because you overdid the nice thing? Settle down and get ready to relate. I’ve seen people going complete nuts when someone is overly nice with them. “God she is so fake” like sentences are literally everywhere. So either way, they’re gonna judge you.”What do people want exactly? ” Is officially the most asked question in my head and most of the heads.

There are some self-proclaimed expert people in our society who think they have some kind of special power to rate and judge people. Like, hello u there? Can’t you just mind your own Fanta business?

The thing is you can never ever change the perspective of others. But you can do something bigger than that. You can embrace yourself and quit being a social snob. Yes being yourself is a huge thing. We are all sometimes wore on by the weight of being “Nice” and being “Liked” that we lose our authenticity. Is it all worth it if in the end you’re still gonna get labeled?

I was always viewed as being a stuck-up and arrogant person. I don’t know maybe my demeanor be like “Bugger off ” but honestly I was just a regular not-so-exuberant girl. You feel me? But you see these people don’t come from a different planet. They’re among us. In fact, THAT’S US most of the times.

Recently I read 13 REASONS WHY – Jay asher. And I would recommend all those people to read it who think their teeny tiny remarks about someone and their mean comments on someone won’t make much difference and who think people are too cool to sit and think about such small things in life. Well NO. “Everything affects Everything”. Your actions matter to the people around you. You probably think there is so much going on in everyone’s life that people don’t give a fuck. But guess what? Your actions only added to their troubles. It’s like the Snowball effect. It only grows bigger.

You know why people commit suicide? They’re not paid attention to. Or they don’t let people pay attention to them. Either they detach themselves or we detach them. How can we stop these things?

-Don’t miss out on the signs.

-Don’t ignore the bullies.

-Don’t be one of them.

I am not even asking you to go out and look for people to help. But don’t ignore the ones around you. Love Isn’t love till you give it away. And the world won’t be saved if we keep going this way.

Every day I feel like talking to certain people. People I have never talked to.But I back out. I don’t know why? Clouds of thoughts, Blurring my mind and then showering me with millions of doubts.My mind speaks a million things, But the sound is too disjointed for me to make out the words. It ends on this question. Can you believe I’m just one “Hi” away from talking to someone or even saving them from something and all I can think about is “Will it look okay?” “Won’t I come off as a creep?” We always underestimate the power an individual carries within them.You have the power to Save, Kill, Destroy, Heal lives. You can save the person next to you.You’re full of Spring baby. You’re full of Colors.

Your smallest act can make someone’s day. Your “You look beautiful” can boost up a girl’s self-confidence. Your ” I like being with you” can make someone like themselves and fight self-consciousness. Your “I am here for you” can make someone feel at home. Your “I love you” can change someone’s world. Your “You can trust me” can make someone feel safe. These are some golden words. These and many more of them which can be used every day to make someone smile and love themselves or their life 🙂 Is it too hard to do?

I know It’s been a long Looooooooong time since i last posted. That’s mainly because :

I’m an Engineering student So a lot of project work you know.

I only write out of experiences so was looking for a good topic to write on.

I’m glad you’re still reading coz i was probably just making excuses .

Okay so I apologize for not being frequent lately. But the good part is , I got a lot of things to discuss. Last two months were actually pretty illuminating for me. And by no means I’m talking about my college education here. In fact everything except that.

So i started with a book the day before yesterday and it’s title really made me wonder about the “Lies we tell ourselves“. What lies have i told myself so far? Maybe i’m not the only one who might find this question a little bizarre.But soon it will prick you and suddenly it will sound like the most thought provoking question ever. It will penetrate deep in your mind.As soon as the above mentioned phenomenon happened to me , I recalled every lil lie i told myslef. It’s not the same with everyone though. Not all of you must know when you’re lying to yourself. But being aware of it can certainly help you in avoiding it.

So what happened with me when i realized i’ve been lying to myself for several reasons ?Well , At first i thought what’s the issue? If it makes me feel better about my life and myself. But there is INFACT a big issue. One needs to be true to oneself. If something is bad , It’s bad . We ought to deceive ourselves about situations in life we fear to face. But we need to go through these storms to come out cleaner and stronger.I lied to myself whenever i saw something strenuous coming my way but i realised i shud’ve just prepared myself for it rather than keeping myself content. It’s like a big heavy stone is coming your way but since you tend to avoid yourself getting paranoid so you choose to turn your face away. Yeah maybe for some freaky seconds you won’t see the stone anymore.But what happens after that ? I hope you dig the metaphor. We maybe avoding self-awareness to run away from things but we clearly can’t run longer with those shackles of responsibilities.

I’ve been lying at times when rationalizing my behaviour to myself. Just to make sure everything i did was allright. But sometimes it’s not Allright.It’s all wrong. Better we fix ourselves for this rampant self-deception or we land up masquerading all the time.

Trust me when you fix these issues , You feel so light inside. Light as a feather. Nothing compares with the feeling of being true to yourself. If you know yourself and your flaws, You can easily hack the code to success.

Hello world 🙂 I’m here with my second post . Sharing one of my personal realization of a bug in our system which doesn’t let us produce the results we desire. 😛

Dreaming about future is probably a favorite hobby for some of us. By no means i’m referring to any future prediction or Precognitive dreams. Because stuff like that has no existence. I’m talking about a whole different phenomenon. The first time this interesting “phenomenon” came to my knowledge is when i was reading John Green’s Looking for Alaska.(Also One of my favorite books)

Looking for Alaska-John Green.

These lines were so powerful they changed my whole damn perspective about life in a minute second. I mean woah we really do that thing.Honestly i know there’s no wrong when we think about future to drive ourselves to do stuff .Sometimes you need a lil push to go beyond your boundaries and do things.Imagining a future scenario to motivate yourself to do efforts and hardwork seems legit. But What if you’re overdoing it? What if you’re doing it to the point where you’re using the future to escape from present? O O Problem detected!

Future promises nothing. Nothing is certain and no one can ever predict it . Who knows if a meteoroid is already lined up for earth? But we sure can be the builders of our own future and for that wheresoever we are we have to be present there with our whole mind and heart. This labyrinth of life offers us so many paths.There’s no right path and there’s hell no wrong path.Nothing is certain.SO why not follow the one your heart leads you to ? And once you take this one,It becomes the right path you’ll be leaded by your own footsteps . Everything you need is Offered by TODAY. Your PRESENT. All the chances , the risks, the opportunities. Open up your eyes to the numerous things you could do today but you kept reserving them for tomorrow. Ever Wondered what would’ve happened if all the discoveries and inventions were procrastinated? We’d still be posting letters to each other. When you stop just merely existing and start living you’ll have a beautiful world to explore . Don’t be lost too much in a future that is yet to come ,that you loose all what you have in your Present.

Be Brave enought to take risks and speak your heart out.Stay tuned for more.