This is a huge factor in many people’s lives. Every person in the world has a past. It doesn’t mean it was a bad one or they have closets bursting with skeletons. Nevertheless, we all have a past with something, we don’t like or may even be ashamed of. So how do we move forward.

There are many ways in which this can be done. However, it really does depend on the actual event that took place & the memories that were stored.

For example; If a person who was a victim of bullying growing up, never resolved the issues related to the situation, more often than not, they will have serious repressed emotions & feelings. Leaving them wide open to unconscious emotional triggers. Almost, every time they experience a similar situation they will react with, a fight or flight response, anger, sadness, etc.

“Who controls the past controls the future.

Who controls the present controls the past.”

George Orwell

So how do we resolve this.

Accept the fact that it did happen. The only thing achieved by denying it clarification, is, you can’t move forward. We have a tendency to deny things in order to protect ourselves. We have a belief that if we actually admit it to ourselves it will somehow make us a lesser person. It won’t, if anything, it will make you a much stronger person. This is a very important step.

Become aware of yourself. Hmmm what the hell does this mean. Ok, start to actually realise how you feel before you blow & yes you will feel it. Can you name a person, place, or situation off right now that you know sets you off.

What is the initial thought, person, place, object etc. that starts it all off;

When you figure that part out ask yourself, why ? Is it something they said, did, that reminded your of your past situation. If this is the case can you see how it is related to the past not the present. By reacting to the past guess where you are living ???

You have to, actually catch yourself before you are triggered, this is not easy but is possible with lots of practice. However, when you become aware of it you will be able to stop yourself. It is an excellent accomplishment.

Get blame our of your vocabulary. Blame is a great way to take the heat of our self; Especially, if we are the one in the wrong. I believe, unconsciously, we know when we are wrong. Blaming the other person with you said this & that & this which made me feel blah blah blah. You just gave away your power. If they said something to make you flip, What was it ??? That is your emotional trigger from a past situation. (((Evaluate)))

Be open to change. A lot of people get so stuck, that they actually, get in their own way. Wanting everything to be the same forever. Where is the fun in that.

Realize, we cannot under any circumstances, change the past it is impossible. None the less, we can use it as a guide to help us create a better future. No matter what happened don’t allow it to rule your present.

Ps: Their can be external influences that remind you of the past. However, it’s usually our own internal dialogue that leads the way & we are the only one who can change it.

In the case of any sort of trauma I would advise getting professional help it will help you progress much quicker.

My Motto

"Everyone wants a wonderful world filled with peace, happiness, joy, etc. but we have no intentions of looking at ourselves, our minds, our behaviour or what comes out of our own mouth. Its very important to always remember, as much as anyone else, change for you, starts with you.

Topics

Acceptance Use

Please be aware when using this site there may be some subjects and/or opinions that you do not agree with. If this happens to be the case, please respect others opinions, even if you don't agree with them, thats fine, but that is your opinion don't try push it on others. Just because it's not true for you, it may very well be, for that person. Refrain from using abusive language or behaviour towards others. It is not acceptable.

Hi everyone my name is siobhan, Im from Dublin, Ireland.
Me & my sister began to travel the 🌎 in 2012 we lived in Australia for 2 years & Canada for six months just visiting all the other places for shorter periods. In that time everything in my life changed, i woke up 💯Now I would call myself a fully self-aware person. In my opinion travel is the best teacher in the whole world it will take every belief you have & make you question it. I learned so much about myself & the world.
I've taken part in many courses which have been really enjoyable & life changing. One of my favourites is psychology. I just ❤️ it so much. It explains everything in such a way I can totally understand & I love Sigmund Frueds work. In my opinion it explains everything in a nutshell & I believe he understood the world & the people in on it very well 😁
Some of my favourite things are:
Photography 🎥
Psychology 🤔
Animals 🐶
Nature 🌿
Food 🥘
I have two blogs my photography blog & personal development blog. I hope there is something on either of them that you find of interest. Enjoy :)p

Disclaimer

Please be advised and aware that any information on this site is not to replace medical, legal or any other professional advice. If you or anyone you know needs any sort of medical, psychiatric, legal or any professional advise. Please seek it from a fully licensed, qualified & competent provider.

The information is being provided as a guide & the provider of this website will not be held responsible for your interpretation of it as anything else.