Thursday, April 21, 2011

Having a child changes so much of your life, it’s impossible for me to imagine what or who I’d be if I weren’t my kids’ mom. That would be like regretting having blue eyes, or being an English speaker. I can’t change these things, they’re part of the fabric of who I am.

I thought the author expressed quite well the uselessness of trying to ask this question and get answers with a societal meaning.

"In a survey by daily deal site Eversave, 57 percent of women said they have a 'proud mom' friend on Facebook who annoys the pants off of them. Before you run off crying, a word. Buck up mom; this isn't high school. That's their problem, not ours.

Oh, get over your persecution complex. They don't hate you because you're a mom. They hate you because you're boring. We get annoyed with people who post constant banal updates, and are amused by those who tell funny stories or post interesting articles.

The trouble is, moms are more likely to be annoying. So are people who just started going to the gym. And new dog owners. When your life revolves around something only you find interesting (or you think people will be impressed by), there's a temptation to post updates on that. If you give in to that temptation, especially to the exclusion of the good stuff (which is probably in short supply if you just replaced adventures with evenings in) you become boring.

I myself had to get a Dogster account, since after two days I realized my desire to post such updates would lead me in that direction. My dog doesn't like rain! Look at these 17 pictures of her with her Kong! New parents and those with new puppies also spend way more time dealing with the scatological. If this leaks into your Facebook world - voila! You're now boring AND an oversharer.