Posted Nov 21, 2009

Many enter the Sugarbowl anticipating that success will depend on mutual flexibility, and while long-distance sugar may not be everyone’s cup of tea, there are many who seek travel and adventure in their arrangements. Whether it’s a gathering of SD’s and SB’s from the blog, or a typical one-on-one arrangement sought on SA, coordinating a time and place is not always an easy feat.

“…as a SD I (a) worry about an SB’s safety traveling alone by train or bus into or back from the city, esp. at night; and (b) if she gets all dolled up she might greatly prefer a comfortable car ride door to door rather than having to struggle with strap-hangers in close quarters in a semi-air conditioned vehicle. If I had a NJ SB and we met in daytime thats one thing, but for evenings out I’m a little leery of public transport, even though I recognize you SBs are often intrepid travelers with lots of spunk and independence!” – NYGent

From Texas to Orange County, Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies have to find realistic solutions to bridge gaps of distance and availability in a mutually beneficial way. Everyone’s situation is different, yet ideally, any traveling done in a sugar arrangement will feel more like a private fiesta than a struggle.

Have you ever had to compromise with a Sugar Daddy or Baby about when and where to meet? Was it successful?

Do you have any tips for making travel with a sugar sweet?

Does anyone plan on meeting with a sugar(s) this holiday season? Care to share?

What pet peeves (if any) do you have with the opposite gender and/or sugar-type?

okay! haha thank you for not leaving me behind

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

Jumping to the new blog topic…just noticed the only SD on today. Being single has its advantages

NapaSBsays:

SDN- I am a huge doberman person, i already have one and he is my son! dobermans get a bad reputation because of irresponsible owners, raised properly they are phenomenal, sweet, loving, and gentle dogs…until someone trys to mess with their family.

Thanks Napa! Just got back from errands and McDonald’s! Will starting packing now….*fingers crossed* Hopefully I can get on the road in about 2 hours or so.

Looks like there’s a new blog….

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

NapaSB: Nothing nuts about it. I am not a big doberman person but they are a nice dog and we see them in protection on occasion. If the protection training is done correctly you should have a nice gentle dog that you can allow around strangers and children without worry. Not a mean vicious dog.

Well, since I scared everyone away….lol……I guess I’ll go run the few errands I need to take care of before starting my 4 hour drive in the afternoon.

Later!

TXSBsays:

NapaSB & SDN:
Happy Thanksgiving to both of you!

Flo Rida: oh. oh. hadn’t seen that at all. will do since i love couch with beer evenings as much if not more than i love everything else combined
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photogirl i can’t remember where “this way” is for you?
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CASB: don’t “play with” your elbow. remember RICE: rest/ice/elevate. for ice i recommend a bag of frozen peas. do this in a ten minutes on/ten minutes off rotation about three times and then let it be. the less you use it the better it will heal. every time you “try the joint” you just hurt it more.

my doctor friend says “if it doesn’t get appreciably better within two weeks? go to the doctor. if it keeps getting worse, go to the doctor”

I’m going to try to get a little bit of rest, if I can. I will check my email when I get up. Happy Thanksgiving everyone.. you’re all so great! I’m thankful for all of you!

CASBsays:

Trust me, there’s nothing to put a lien on (which is why I haven’t seen a dime yet) — it’s not that he wasn’t willing to pay me (BEFORE), it’s that he didn’t have anything TO pay me. As of a few days ago he barely has enough money for rent, and may even be a bit short. The business is a website that hasn’t had enough growth to really be profitable yet. He works extra jobs here and there to pay bills as it is. That’s why I hope that he only gets probation so that he can be out to be able to work so I can hopefully start getting money back. He needs a wakeup call and something that changes his life, but not something that makes him so angry and bitter that he won’t pay me back or that he tries to hurt me for revenge.

Sorry to here about your problems with Shepherds photogirl. Mine is protection trained but very gentle, well unless someone tries to hurt me

TXSBsays:

Done

Flo Ridasays:

CASB – the legal process moves slowly, don’t be surprised if it takes time. He’ll be arraigned first – or maybe this has happened already (i’m assuming you don’t need to be there for this). Getting a lien is tough if you haven’t documented (perfected) the loan.

A lien stops assets being sold – a better way is to ‘garnish his wages’ but that’s tough for documentary reasons.

Also if he’s being prosecuted for assault his willingness to pay you back the loan will be very slim.

NY Gent – I know this isn’t your area but aren’t you a lawyer – can you help CASB?

Cleo – love the profile

BUT you do realize you are targeting a man who likes adventure & maybe a bit of a wild fun time. some SD’s are really stressed & just want a therapist-counsellor to relax & chill so only if you want – you can add (i know) a sentence on appealing to the above man.

also as I said before some men may be intimidated withyou being 5ft 11 and though I never advocate lying maybe 5-9 might scare less people off? i’m 5ft 9 & I know i’ve scared off some men in my life

Having said that you know Toronto men better than I do as i’ve only spent 1 month total in Toronto in my life.

photogirlsays:

I have a very good friend of 20yrs in Studio City. Can someone please pass along my email address to CASB?

Hello back TXSB

CASBsays:

I’m probably about 10 minutes or so from Studio City.

My elbow hurts pretty badly. I think now that the stinging from the brush burn it got from the skin being torn open on the carpet has faded a bit I’m feeling the pain in the actual bone. I think I landed harder than I thought.. I must have been to shocked/upset to realize. I’m sure it’s just a bruise though, I can move it alright.

TXSBsays:

Hey NapaSB, CABS, and Photogirl!

photogirlsays:

Cleo – I too enjoy road trips. How long did it take when you drove to Florida? If you make it down this way again, please let me know.

SDN – Love shepards too, but had a unfortunate experience with them as a kid. I have an 80lb black lab. He acts like a kangaroo and sounds like a horse when runs/plays and thinks he is a lap dog.

CASB – I am so sorry you had to go through that. You have been given very good advice from others already but yes, YOU NEED to change the locks asap. If I were there, I’d let you stay with me. How far are you from Studio City?

CASBsays:

Thank you all for the advice and kind words. There’s so much to process and find out. I’m going to try to get some rest while I can (hopefully) and try to be with my friend later and hopefully get some answers tomorrow after the holiday. Thank you all again and I hope you have a fabulous Thanksgiving!

CASB:
I’m soooo sorry to hear what you’re going through. Looks like Flo Rida and others already gave you some good advise to I won’t pile on any more. Check your e-mail in a little bit. *HUG*

NapaSBsays:

hello all! you still on CASB?

I’m not a lawyer! You do need to listen to the lawyers and you may get a call from a social worker.
I had to deal with a stalking ex that made a few mistakes. I stuck to my convictions and it’s a much nore peaceful situation now.

Flo Ridasays:

Cleo – i’ll look at profile later – gotta run now.

CASB – sorry but you need to call your property management company and insist that they change the locks – or reimburse you for you changing locks – if he has keys this is endangering you. Let the property management company know that if anything happens to you, you will hold them culpable (for not changing locks).

Also you must prepare for the worst and hope for the best, as I said before people with bad intentions can find ways to hurt you – they have friends on the outside – he can post collateral for a bail bondsman (ok this might be a stretch) so please prepare for safety reasons.

in terms of evidence – did the police take a statement and take pictures of bruises cuts – were you medically examined? i’m assuming yes – if not go back to the police and insist upon this.

it is highly likely if not a certainty that you will need to be there (maybe not an arraignment but the courtroom) but you should go through this with the state prosecutor & police & if you want a 3rd opinion legal aid.

still not a lawyer.

Good morning sugars and Happy Thanksgiving!

CASB – It sucks to go through that and to feel that fear. Flo is right about finding a safe place and getting rest. You definately need a restraining or no contact order (let them know if he has any weapons). If you have friends that live a few hours away, it might give you a respite for a day or two. As far as the loan, you may either have to let that go, or consult a lalawyer about putting a lein on any of his property (home, business, etc). If he tries to sell anything, the lein will hopefully get paid. Whatever you do, DO NOT get intouch with him for any reason from this point forward. The authorities will support you and back you up as long as you don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation. Press charges and let him know you mean business and will not tolerate that behavior. It’s a long difficult road, but stay strong and seek help. If you absolutely have nowhere to go and still feel in danger, ask the police for the location of a woman’s shelter.

CASBsays:

Just looked at lasuperiorcourt.com and courts are closed both Thanksgiving and day after Thanksgiving so the soonest he will be seen will be Monday and I doubt that will happen because they are probably backed up a day because people booked the night before him would have been seen today but it’s closed, so he’ll probably go to court Tuesday.

Flo Rida: you did not seem rude at all i must say… i hope my words don’t imply that

the thing about a restraining order is that if he attacks you and you can’t prosecute for that you can at least have the whole ‘violating the restraining order’ thing documented. if that happens more than a couple of times you have a bit more luck getting them arrested.

but, like you said so correctly, i’m not a lawyer either and even if i were the laws are very different here.

CASBsays:

Flo Rida: I believe in CA there is no option to drop charges. They’re filed by the state and cannot be reversed (this is to protect victims from cohersement or threats if they testify).. the charges remain filed regardless of whether victims testify. I honestly just want him to get probation and domestic violence counseling. He doesn’t think he has a problem and clearly he does. I don’t want him to go to jail because he owes me $20k and if he’s in prison there is no way for him to get money to pay me back, if he’s on probation he can at least work and make payments to me.

Flo Ridasays:

Cleo – Sorry if I seemed rude.

I agree with a restraining order as it does get it on the record BUT the police will say if you – we are going to prosecute you don’t need a restraining order as he’ll either be guilty (and then judge will determine court conditions – assuming this is not a grand jury) or innocent (and then a restraining order might not be granted).

if she drops charges or the state does not wish to prosecute (then a restraining order could be an option)

CASB needs to understand her legal options and make informed decisions – this should be done with the police and with attorneys.

i’m still not a lawyer.

CASBsays:

I live in an apartment complex that is far from secure (the front door never locks shut) and he has keys anyway (we lived together and had broken up a while back and were in the process of figuring moving out, we essentially just went about our lives without noticing the other existed other than to help with the dog). I’m going to lock myself in my bedroom with my dog and wait for my friend to wake up and call me. I’m going to spend the day with them and maybe stay there tonight depending how my dog is. I highly doubt that he’ll get out very soon since it’s Thanksgiving and it’s a felony (he doesn’t have money to post bail, especially since it costs 10% in CA so it’d cost him $5,000 he’d never get back and he doesn’t have that) so he’ll definitely have to be seen in court. I imagine the soonest he’d be seen is Friday, but even then might be pushing it b/c of the holiday, so maybe not til Monday. I don’t know how the court thing works though.. will I have to go in and testify? Or is it just him and the judge? Is it a one-day thing? I can’t find much information online, just a bunch of lawyers saying to call them if you need representation.

Flo Rida: oh i agree with everything you said to CASB and that no one should be along on thanksgiving. it’s funny though, i almost got a canadian and a usa t-giving this year but i can’t make it to the usa one…
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and i think your profile advice is great. you told me it was too long and to shorten without losing content… and you told me to smile. these are both solid things to say to someone and i’ve done one and am working on the other.

would be curious about your opinion now if you have a minute?

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Flo Ridasays:

Cleo – today sucks becoz it’s txsgiving BUT CASB could ask a neighbour (apartment or home) to check in on a schedule – she could also call her property management company (though they won’t be much help). She should really stay with friends (eve with a dog) – no one should be on their own on txsgving (sorry!)

also please don’t be angry @ me if my profile advice sucks. men (& women) have basic 1st reactions and a warm smiling face goes a long way. the perfect profile makes someone think ‘i’ll enjoy meeting her and she’ll like me as she’s just described me i’m going to contact her’ of course it can’t be too narrow but u know what I mean. have fun in Toronto.

Flo Rida: the only reason i suggest a restraining order is for history if he does do anything.

Flo Ridasays:

CASB – he does not have a felony on his record he has an ‘arrest’ on his record. He has not been charged and he has not been convicted. You are emotional and scared and maybe angry and you need to calm down. after you’ve arranged security (see above) you need to stop thinking about this (i know it’s tough) you have time to make your next move (you could withdraw charges or you could agree to prosecute).

a restraining order is an option (but he can easily break it once or even twice).

also someone in jail can still call out and ask friends to do something so don’t feel completely safe (be careful). you will need to ‘up’ your physical safety plan for a while – I know this is scary – but prepare physically & emotionally for your safety

Flo Rida: with the exception of your photo advice which i can’t take because i don’t actually HAVE a smiling face shot that’s recent (friend of mine and i have a ‘let’s take silly snaps’ day planned to fix this) i have taken your advice about trying to shorten my profile and keep it’s…. mood. thanks for it by the way.

also, that is some very good advice you gave CASB, how would it change if she lived in an apartment building?

Flo Ridasays:

CASB – i’ve been off blog for a while. If u r in ur bedroom barricade the doors-windows (or sleep somewhere where you can barricade) keep your phone fully charged with a spare battery (a landline can be cut) if anything happens call immediately 911. also keep a baseball bat (or something similar) with you as no knives though as they are too dangerous. also agree a ‘check in’ schedule with your best friend so that if you don’t check by cell call or txt in she’ll call the police. After that you MUST sleep (decisions based on lack of sleep are often poor). i’m sorry this happened to you & hope u have a peaceful thanksgiving.

CASB: call a women’s help line… seriously. not to come get you, not to move in with, just to talk to. i’m pretty sure it will help

Tru: i did the toronto/washington drive last year with a couple of friends. we stopped and toured the hershey factory and trust me, we had more fun than ANY of the kids there
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SDN: i love dogs but not in the city. i only like them in places where they have a lot of space to roam… otherwise? cats. but i raise funny cats, i raise cats that are smart, friendly, independent and polite so even cat haters like my girls.
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CASB: wow

have you got a restraining order against him? do you know if this is enough to get one?

CASBsays:

I’m back. I just checked the LA County Sheriff’s website and he was arrested, it’s a felony. Bail is $50,000. I’m literally sick to my stomach and shaking right now. I’m scared. If this is what he does when he has no reason to be angry, I’m afraid of what he will do when he gets out after having a felony on his record now thanks to me.

Irish SBsays:

Take it easy CASB and try to relax. Im studying today so if im not on the blog you can get me at my email if you want.

Irish
xx

CASBsays:

Thank you SDN (and Irish and Tru). I really appreciate the support, you don’t know how much I needed it. I’m going to go lock myself in the bedroom (just incase) and try to get some sleep. Going to call the police back in an hour-ish to see if they’ve got him booked.

Irish SBsays:

And such a quiet day for the blog! I dont think he would be stupid enough to go back but keep your wits about you.

CASBsays:

I know.. I tried to call my other best friend for the past 2 hours and she’s not answering. It’s not even 6am here yet. I haven’t slept. I called the police info line and they don’t have him in the system. There’s a chance he hasn’t been booked yet or they didn’t arrest him. I don’t have anywhere else to go and to make matters more complicated, I have a senior dog with a heart condition and other medical conditions so I can’t just leave her alone.

Sorry for bringing the blog down guys.. I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Irish SBsays:

Maybe you should you get out of where it happened. You need to do something for you today.

CASBsays:

I’m trying to find out online if there’s a way to find out if he’s been arrested. I’m honestly scared to go to sleep. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I’m scared he’ll kill me in my sleep.. nothing surprises me anymore.

I told the police I didn’t need an ambulance/EMT. I don’t have health insurance so I can’t go get checked out. I’m 99% sure I’m okay though, just scrapes/scratches and lots of shaken nerves.

CASBsays:

Thanks Irish. I’m kind of feeling claustrophobic, like trapped inside myself right now, a very weird feeling. I don’t really have many friends out here because I haven’t lived here all that long and LA people aren’t really the truest of friends. My best friend is out of state for the holiday. My ex is very cunning and will do everything in his power to never pay me back a dime. He has no money to now, but I know he’ll make sure that it looks like he never does either so long as it means I don’t get paid back. He actually won a lawsuit himself last year for $100k+ and hasn’t seen any of that from the guy who owes it to him so I’m sure he’ll use the same tricks to do it to me. I’m sure him getting arrested will make him even more vengeful to not pay me anything. I’m literally just sick over this right now. I don’t know any civil lawyers in that field either.

CASB – omg i hope your ok but Irish SB is right you can’t be on your own and you need to get checked out make sure you are fine.

Irish SBsays:

CASB – Oh my god that is awful. Are you sure your ok did you get yourself checked out? This has probably not all sunk in yet and it could be days until it hits you what you have gone through. You are going to feel shook up for a while. You did the right time with calling the police i hope he was arrested. You should get yourself a lawyer especially if he owes you all that money – you cant personally deal with him now. I understand its Thanksgiving so theres little you can do. I hope you friends or family you can spend the day with instead.

sorry …. I saw that show…

Trusays:

Irish SB – I show that show what your talking about and that week I took my dog to the vets to get check lol

CASBsays:

Morning sugar family. I’m sorry to bring negativity to the blog, but you all are so supportive and I could really use some of that right now. A little over an hour and a half ago my ex grabbed me by the neck and threw me to the ground. Luckily, I landed on carpet, but I got brush burn on my elbow and finger and was bleeding and then he threw me down again and I slammed my face/nose off the arm of the couch, but thankfully, there was no real injury there. I’m just really shaken up and kind of feel lost. Even though we’re not together, I was hoping that we could be amicable and maybe even friends (he owes me $20k that I loaned him for his business so I wanted it to be friendly, of course), I even thought we might have Thanksgiving dinner together.. I never expected this to happen. The police went to his office (where he went) after taking a report from me and said they were going to arrest him if he was there, which I assume he was because his car was there. Ugh.. I’m just a ball of emotions right now. Thank you for taking the time to listen.. and if this is inappropriate for here, I completely understand if you delete it.

Trusays:

SD NEOhio – S he is cute dog but I don’t have her much as im always away travelling so my mum has her more then me.

Irish SB – Thanks for that I will email you later if that’s cool, that’s great that you have already met a few people already, im hoping for someone in London, USA (LA or SD) as that’s where i am alot. But im happy to travel for the right person

Irish SBsays:

Haha SDN you gotta love that 5+ hour time difference!!

Im not a fan of breeding at all because there are many out there that give the business a bad name and iv seen so many german shepards coming into the vets to get weekly injections just so they can walk.

There was a great documentry shown over here on pedigree dogs and as a result of it BBC refused to coverage Cruffs (one the best dog shows in the world) This was a huge deal as they did it every year. I love king charles and use to have one – but dont watch that programme if you think of getting another one!

Irish SBsays:

Tru – i joined about 2 months ago i let it slip a bit with studies and im only on blog 2wks. The interest im getting is either from Uk or the states which suits me fine. A guy from london came to Ireland for a meeting but i found him way too sleazy. I met a great guy and went to the states for a week to meet him after about a month of emailing but he wanted a real life GF and was uncomfortable with an allowance and just wanted to spend it on shopping so i ended that. I cant shop with other people! But i had a great time there. So im back to conversing with a few english and american guys again!

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

Got to say I am loving having all this attention from the English/Irish SBs

Mine has good hips. I go with the working dog lines versus the “show” dogs. All the breeding to get that “look” is part of the cause of bad hips. We still get them with working dogs but it is less likely.

No such thing as a nerdy question…intelligent women make the best SBs if you ask me.

guess not…well, HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL!!!!!

NapaSBsays:

hello hello! anyone awake?

Trusays:

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! XXX

Trusays:

cleo – It was me talking about a road trip, in October I did Toronto – Washington DC it was so much fun I loved it next year im doing NYC – San Diego with lots of stop overs in all the cool places can’t wait.

To add to Dee’s Beatles post, the move Across the Universe is a great movie for those who love the Beatles.

Irish SBsays:

Have a good one Anna Molly!

Sorry Irish SB, I’m all out of fun, excitement and entertainment this evening….lol. I’m tired and just wanted to stop by and wish everyone a happy Thanksgiving. I’m off to bed, I have to get up and drive to MA. tomorrow. Have a safe and happy holiday! Talk to you all soon

Just Dee in NCsays:

Hi, Anna Molly!

Just Dee in NCsays:

The History CHannel is showing a fantastic show about the Beatles, using movie and television and video clips as well as extensive interviews with the 4 of them over the years. This is so interesting, watching and listening to them talking about the songs and how they wrote and why they did some things.

TexaSDsays:

Irish- If you are on XP, you wouldn’t want vista, just skip it altogether, and get windows 7 (if you don’t buy a mac)

Rudysays:

TexaSD: I see them every Sunday and sometimes during the week. I am the ‘on-call’ babysitter:) What about you? I noticed you were talking about profiles, I am getting views from people who obviously have hidden profiles and I cannot see them….weird and I am a Premium member.

Irish- lol Where is my clue

Rudy- Do you see them often?

Irish SBsays:

TexaSD – Ok im assuming your in Texas, how about age then there is 1302 of ye!

Rudysays:

Just Dee: I am about an hour and 30min away from Spring Hill

TexaSD: My nephew is three and my niece is one AND they are both going through the terrible 2s!

SDN: You are quite the cook! The lobster corn chowder sounds tasty! I love to cook and I was getting hungry reading the blog this morning. I wanted to chime in but for some reason I couldn’t post on my blackberry.

Taz: Hi! I didn’t attempt to read them, I don’t think I would like them either

TexaSDsays:

Irish- Brunette lol and 5’9, give me a few clues lol

Lunaesays:

Rudy- Hiya Hun, I’m new here so that’s why we haven’t met.

JustDee- MMMMMmmmm How bad of you to mention Chocolate from the Netherlands. I just recently ran out of my chocolate coffee a friend sent me and now with winter coming up on us I am so wishing I could get my hands on more!

I have not read any of the Twilight Series or seen either movie. But I am so looking forward to Blind Side. I tend to cry at all sports movies from Rudy to Radio and Remember the Titans had be boohoo-ing the entire way. Another Film I am looking forward to is Avatar. It’s Sci-fi and the CGI looks amazing.

Tazsays:

Did anyone see New Moon? That is what it is called right?? Lol..I am soo out of the loop 😛 I did see the first movie and it was hmm pretty good – better than I thought it would be – and do want to see this one as well – but as for reading the series – too much of a time investment when it really doesn’t interest me thaaaat much…

And heres me thinking i was unique! Truth be told I dont be looking for Irish SBs! Ok give me a few clues and il go looking for you.

P.s im brunette 5’6.

Trusays:

Rudy – I love the Twilight series but im very much into the whole vampire thing, it funny cos I not to long finished filming a vampire film but sadly i wasn’t the vampire i was a vampire killer. Oh well maybe next time.

IrishSb- are you tall? like 5’11 blonde hair? lol I am looking threw people who looked at my profile, thats the only Irish I see

Just Dee in NCsays:

Irish, it’s a copyright thing. There are 2 organizations in the USA – BMI and ASCAP – and artists have to belong to those in order to sell recordings here. These organizations are the ones that oversee things like royalties to writers, etc. If she isn’t a member, then she wouldn’t be able to release music for sale here. It’s a complicated bunch of laws and I don’t quite understand all of it.

Tazsays:

Rudy – I have the Twilight series and love to read but couldn’t get into them for some reason…

Rudysays:

Just Dee: Personally, I like fiction i.e..romance, legal thrillers and such. I LOVE to read anything about politics too. I will admit I liked Harry Potter, but vampires don’t appeal to me. As for “The Blind Side” I have herd it’s a great movie and the leading lady is one of my favorite actresses. I like football so I think I will enjoy the movie. Have you hear about the one called “Precious”? I don’t think I can watch that one; too dramatic.

Irish SBsays:

TexaSD – iv no nephews or nieces so i think that beats your 1yr old!

Rudysays:

Tru: Hi My day went well, but it was busy. I was trying to wrap up as much work as possible before I left for the holiday. Have you read any of the Twilight Series? I mentioned before some of my friend love the books, but I haven’t read any of them.

Rudy, how far are you from Spring Hill? My nephew graduates from high school in May and there’s no way I wouldn’t show up for that.

Rudysays:

I meant ‘wore me out’ I am typing too fast!

Just Dee in NCsays:

Irish, I tried a couple of years ago to order her CDs from amazon.com, amazon.co.uk, and even her own website, and none of them could complete the order when I put in my shipping address in the US. Maybe in the meantime she’s join the organizations that let her sell music in the US. I’ll check again!

The CDs that I do have, the parents of a friend brought with them when they came to visit – they’re from the Netherlands. I hope they come back soon – I want them to bring some more chocolate!

TexaSD – Yes maybe I should look for SD in the states… and yes I do have family who are American and still live there.

Rudy – Hey how’s your day going?

Just Dee in NCsays:

I read all 4 of the Twilight books, Rudy, and they’re AWFUL. “Blind Side” looks fabulous. I saw an interview with the real people it’s based on, and the story will just make you cry. I have babysitting duty on Friday, though, so daughter can shop. Then Saturday she and I are going to the ballet. So movies will have to wait. By Sunday, I don’t expect to have enough energy left to dial Domino’s.

Ok post with my email is being moderated probably for that reason.

Just Dee cant you order on line? I googled it there and cdwow have them. I can send onto you if you want – my email is sbirish09 at google male.

Rudysays:

Just Dee: Honeybaked Hams are so good! It sounds like you are going to have a nice spread. Several of my friends have seen “New Moon” I can’t seem to get into Vampires, but they enjoyed it. I would like to see “Blind Side”

Irish SB – I love the states I go about 3-4 times a year and stay 2-6wks at a time I go Canada 2-3 times a year I love to snowboard there around late jan early feb there.

Just Dee in NCsays:

I’m taking it easy, Rudy – a Honeybaked Ham, vegetables, and Pillsbury yeast rolls. Easy fix, easy clean-up. And then babysitting the sweetest little boy in the world tomorrow night while his mama and daddy go see “New Moon.”

Irish- lol thats funny

Tru- Well, a suggestion, have you looked for a job over here, last time I checked the skilled Visa’s haven’t all been taken for the year

Lunaesays:

Evening Everyone

Just got off work and need to finish my studies but I thought I would pop in and see how how everyone was doing. Lets see it’s 8pm now, I figure I’ll do class work until 10pm then off to the gym till midnight. I work tomorrow and am so not impressed with that but eh it pays the bills. Hope you all have a great day tomorrow. And for you lucky ones enjoy all the great Black Friday sales…again I have to work and miss out on all the good stuff.

Tru- Immigration if fairly easy for persons from Europe. We have special arrangements for most of the countries included within that union. Based on Occupation you could, in theory, be here in no time.
Skilled Educated Professionals are very welcome in the States esp. if you are multilingual.

Just Dee in NCsays:

Hi, TexaSD!! Have you had dinner yet?

Trusays:

Just Dee – I was going to try for my occupation but its still hard because of the type of job I do (im an actress)

TexaSD – College!! thats funny… nah looked at that root and college is expensive and you can only work 20hpw and the type of jobs I will be looking for I would have to work more then that. boo hoo Canada it is.

Just Dee in NCsays:

I have some chocolate ice cream in the freezer. Who wants some? Want bananas and/or peanuts?

I need a chocolate fix.

lisasays:

Just Dee: I could never even find someone to give me a ride home from church when I used to go. I don’t think many people in my immediate area would be into anything like that. Anyway when I mention I don’t have a car to a potential sd or even when I was doing regular dating, it’s like I had some disease or something and everyone poofed.

SDN- The “favorites” question is not linited to the ladies on the blog…care to share?

PS – Make sure you wish ASB a Happy Thanksgiving (not that you need advice). We are rooting for you

Just Dee in NCsays:

I only know about Larry Bird because we lived in Indiana for a few years, and those people up there treat basketball like a religion. I enjoy college basketball now, but the NBA isn’t worth watching.

Lisa, have you tried Meetup.com? I know there are tons of Meet-up groups here, and there have to be many times more groups in Houston. The nice thing about the groups is you can choose the groups you want to get into based on your interests and there are usually enough people all over the area for someone to be willing to give you a ride.

Check it out.

lisasays:

edit Horse racing, not horse raising. I hate horses but I like to watch them race.

lisasays:

I don’t keep up with sports. The only sports I can tolerate are baseball and horseraising. I used to watch the horseraces on tv every saturday night when I was a little girl living near Arlington Park, Ill back in the early 70’s. There is a race park here somewhere, but again it’s not in HOuston, no way to get there without a car.

lisasays:

my ex husband married me, Had to go to Canada a year later to reenter the US legally and get a temporary card, two years later, he had an interview, 6 months later he received his permanent green card, left me two weeks later, 8 months pregnant. I won’t even date a person who isn’t a US born citizen now.

Hey Yaz and Just Dee!

Irish SBsays:

TexaSD you are the third person iv had the apple conversation with, you may be right!

Just Dee in NCsays:

Larry Bird played college basketball at Indiana University and then played for years in the NBA for the Celtics. He’s one of the extremely talented players who is actually a man of character and class – not your typical dumb, self-centered jock.

Tru- Not that I heard, but if you are in a hurry to get here, get registered to a community college, and get a student visa, you will be here in no time lol

Just Dee in NCsays:

Tru, I don’t think so. I’m not familiar with immigration law, but I do know that a man from Europe who immigrated to Canada came to the US to live and work, got married here, went back to Canada for his honeymoon, and then wasn’t allowed to re-enter the US.

Have you tried researching other reasons for getting a green card other than family? One of my Facebook acquaintances is German and just applied last week for her green card, and she has been told she should have an answer next July. But I think she said her application was based on her occupation.

Favorite Christmas memory – The first time my son was old enough to wake up at the crack of dawn anxious to see if Santa had come. I’ve had great holidays with family, but this was special.

Favorite exotic place: Haven’t been there yet, but I’m sure it’s some remote coastal town in Italy!

Trusays:

SD NEOhio – Hey did you have anything nice for dinner?

Just Dee – I might still but im in the middle of doing my Canadian visa which should only take about 4-6 months, I heard awhile back that the usa and Canada was joining so say i got a Canadian visa i can then live and work in the usa is this true?

lisasays:

I have vista home premium and have never had a problem with it.

lisasays:

Just Dee: I just never learned to drive. I see no point in learning since I will never own a car, it’s quite pointless.

As far a public transport in Houston, it sucks, one rail line that only operates from downtown to the sports arenas, and buses that run late and the stops are always far away from where you need to go.

Irish SBsays:

No SDN i havnt , very good observation though! My profile is extremely short, in all honestly im crap at the whole profile thing anyway. So i make up for it in my emails! Can picture it being pulled apart by everyone. 😉 But a select few have seen it though email!

TexaSD – im fighting a losing battle at the minute with my laptop and vista and considering its 1.30am for me i think its going to win.

Yaz10says:

Lol just received the email from Tuxedo dude for the $1000 offer. Gimme a break

lisasays:

I thinks it’s about 30 miles or so, actually Salem is around 45 miles from Louisvilel KY. I haven’t lived in Salem since I was 4 and haven’t visited since I was 18. I always thought French Lick sounded kinda kinky. I just picture someone coming at me with their tongue darting.

Trusays:

TexaSD – Oh wonderful South London just like me, i’ve always been South im SW4 LOL how funny.

Irish SB – I only joined a couple of days ago so still just checking it out.

Lisa – Ive not been there yet but im planning a road trip in June and i think that might be on the list, im also not eating red meat and I try not eat after 7pm lol its very hard tho.
London transport is good cos you can get to almost any where but it way too expensive always delays and way too packed i drive most places its less stressful.

Just Dee in NCsays:

Lisa, why don’t you drive?

Tru, go ahead and apply for your green card. That 6 or 8 years is going to pass no matter what you do or don’t do. You might as well apply so that in 6 or 8 years you’ll have another option. And who knows, it might not take as long as they think.

My favorite Christmas? Oh gee. Every Christmas when I was a kid and had my parents and grandparents and brother and Dad’s sister’s family, and especially the years we were all in the TN mountains at my grandparents’ house. One of the hardest parts about losing my grandparents is that their house was sold out of the family. I miss having everyone together in that house for Christmas.

But as for favorite – all of them. Even the Christmas when I was 12 and I was sick for a solid week, with low fevers and stomach pain, and every photo of me from that year shows me with my right leg drawn up to my chest. Spent New Year’s Eve recuperating from an emergency appendectomy. But I was 12 and still wanted to be a nurse, so I thought it was incredibly cool. And I honestly have no memories of being sick through Christmas.

Hi! im a new sugar babe and was wondering if any of you guys have any tips for me or suggestions to help me out. Thank you!

I’m in 3rd smallest city Not really, but close.

lisasays:

It used to be 3rd but Los Angeles bypassed it in population a few years back. It’s one of the suckiest cities I’ve been in. Since I don’t have a car, I can’t get anywhere as so much of the stuff to do is not actually in Houston proper. There are cities 35 miles away that are still considered Houston.

We have no outdoor newstands, no outdoor fruit stands, no flowers for sale on the sidewalks, no hot dog vendors, none of what I consider part of a city landscape.

I always enjoy sitting in Russel square when i’m in London. I also love spending time in Covent garden. Everything so accesible via the tube

lisasays:

Tru i’m in Texas, Houston, 4th largest city in the US. Not like other world cities though, ugly and crime ridden. Lacking the charm of the European cities. No one walks, everyone’s fat, etc.

I have given up the junk food. I moved 4 years ago and noticed I was gaining some weight although I’m still slim, it was unusual for me. But I live next door to fast food restaraunts and had started eating out daily, junk food, etc. Gave up beef a few weeks ago and eat mainly fish, nuts, fruits, and chicken. I had to eat fast food today though because my mom brought it over to me for thanksgiving.

TexaSDsays:

TRU- I used to live in London SW3 on Paradise Road 😉

Irish SBsays:

Tru – Im only new to the blog about a week or two and i think iv only come across one british person! But dont quote me on it some of the people on here might know others. Im pretty sure im the only irish one anyways!
How is your search going?

Trusays:

Lisa – its funny how people from the states always say that lol I would love so much to get my green card I have American family and I looked into getting my green card and was told because of the back log for family visa im looking at around a 6-8yr wait !!!!!…. What part in the states are you? Thats great on your weight lost well done babe, im wanting to lose 7-14bls any tips? x

Irish SB – I have yet to go to Ireland, its weird that you say not many people on here from London

Midwest SB – Prepaid card is a good idea

Lisa – Thanks for sharing…those sound perfect! You are not alone this holiday XO!

Irish SBsays:

Croatia was the most beautiful place iv ever been to. I love places that you can sit outside eating until midnight. We use to sit outside a restuarant in the marina and watch all the wealthly people partying on the yachts. Hmmm jealous…

lisasays:

favorite holiday memory: Christmas 84, I had just started dating my first boyfriend so I was already high from experiencing some of life’s pleasures for the first time, and then all my gifts were geared towards my trip to London in January

Favorite exotic location: maybe not exotic, but I really liked Switzerland. Went to Lucern in 92, our little hotel was next to a lake with mountians in the background, and a little train depot in front of the lake. Staring out the window looked like a postcard, especially when the trains went by.

Now I spent my holidays alone because I always have to work, then it’s too late to visit family or for them to come over to my place.

I use a prepaid card for online banking. It’s a little extra effort for the card, but worth the protection.

lisasays:

I’m staying away from internet shopping, that’s probably how my debit card got stolen this past week, now i’m wihout a debit card for about 10 days. Still trying to get down to 100 lbs.

IrishSB my mom sent me in 85 for my graduation, we went in 92 on a European vacation, whole family, mom, dad, me, daughter went in 2000 and 2003. It’s such a great city for people like me who don’t drive.

lisasays:

London is a great city. I’ve been 4 times and would trade my us citizenship to live there in a moment. Wonderful walkable city

lisasays:

Good evening everyone
Lousy day at work but mom came over afterwards and brought me kfc and something to eat tomorrow when I get home from work, since I won’t have time to see them:( someone gave them a pecan pie which they gave to me and I checked the calories, 540 calories per slice, that pie is going to the dumpster tomorrow. I have lost 5 lbs in 3 weeks, down to 105 now and don’t want to gain it back.

Just have to get through tonight and fastforward through tomorrow till black friday. The only fun day of the whole holiday for me.

Hey Tru well im from Dublin, thats prob as close you will get a the moment! There is a SB from London but she hasnt been on the blog in a while.

Evening sugars!

Trusays:

Hey all, i’m new to SA and thought I would give this another go. Ive been reading some of your blogs and it looks like everyone is real friendly which is so nice. Im from London but travel lot to the States and Canada. Where is everyone else from anyone else from London?
x

*** Looks like Muse will be off the blog for the next 5 days. If anyone has my e-mail AND hers, could you e-mail me her contact. I would really appreciate it.

TXSBsays:

Hi NapaSB, Cleo!!!

TXSBsays:

SDN:
I see the other ladies already convinved you but I wanted to add in my vote too! Give this pot SB another chance. Although I do find it odd that she wants a “pay per play” arrangement at first….IIRC, this is the first time I’ve heard of a SB requesting it here on the blog!

Anyway, good luck with her….and as someone else wrote earlier….trust your gut instinct!

I really like her and want this to work out, I will let you know how it goes…now I have no plans for tonight

May have to go somewhere expensive for dinner and spoil myself

Thank you so much for reading and responding!

SDN: take her up on her one and a half to two hour availability. see what she says, how she dresses, where she suggests you meet, what time she’s free. ask leading questions and just let her ramble, chances are she’s more nervous and thus more likely to fill the silences…

i suspect you can figure out from that if she’s a professional or just a different type of SB as most folks incriminate themselves.

…there is only one way to find out if you are wrong, and its up to you to decide whether it is worth it to you to figure out the answer Happy almost Turkey Day!!

NapaSBsays:

Well I am off to my mani/pedi appt hope everyone has a fantastic Thanksgiving!!

SDN – imo it seems like it wouldnt be a huge compromise to give her one more chance to set up a first date with you, as i am sure you understand sometimes work gets in the way of life in ways that cant be controlled. it would be a shame for you to miss out on a good sugar connection because she had to work. my vote is to give her another chance, however i am a big supporter of “going with your gut instinct” and you are the only one who knows if this situation is setting off bells for you and i am sure you are a good judge of character and situation.

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

cleo: lol…you have a point, but then again if they are going to the linux users group they may have never talked to a woman that wasn’t at the drive through.

a2s: you are welcome. We are all here to help each other.

OK: I need some SB advice. Met a pot SB last week. Went well but she was very eager to enter an arrangement. I want a real connection with my SB and that doesn’t happen fast. I am not talking months or even weeks but lets get to know each other.

Also I like to give a weekly allowance and then move to monthly. She wanted a per date allowance and then move to monthly, that set off alarms but she seemed very nice, conversation went well so I thought, I don’t do “pay to play” but maybe she doesn’t want to commit, go on a couple dates see how it goes…I know stupid right?

Tonight was supposed to be our first date. She just let me know she has to work tonight so our “date” would be an 1 1/2 maybe 2 hours. I have a feeling I know what this is and it isn’t what I want.

Ok, I’m done packing etc and I’m off. I won’t be checking the blog at my mom’s so try not to give me too much to catch up with on Monday.

And Happy Thanksgiving all.

NapaSBsays:

ah, that sounds nice. i think it is very important for there to be traditions in your life, also it is always hard to be scattered around for the holidays since it seems like (at least for my family) that those are some of the only opportunities to really see some of your extended family.

always2sweetsays:

thanks SO much SDN, the changes you suggest are small, but I think very important and will be effective. Its always the smallest things that make the biggest difference. And I am thinking that even though I dont have the pics that I want to use, that I am going to go ahead and change that 2nd one now to something a bit more smiley and pretty lol. I thought it would be a cool pic to use(its from a photoshoot that I did with a friend) but for the purposes of finding a SD, it is no good. Again, thank you, it was VERY helpful.

Napa, I am hosting TG for the first time. Normally we have it at my uncles, but he and my aunt are getting divorced, so last year we were all scattered to the wind(and it was our first holiday since my mom passed), so I wanted this year to be a new tradition for me and my fam

NapaSBsays:

SDN you are like a profile guru!

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

OK a2s you might figure out my profile but keep it secret. K?

Part of the issue with lack of views may be your location. Don’t know how many SDs are near you. I like your first picture, nice smile. I wish you were smiling in the second one, you have such a pretty one.

Sorry this is just a quick edit but I have shortened what you wrote, took out some words and tried to make you more sound approachable to me.

First Description:
My interests vary from shopping and traveling, I would love to see [name a place], to a new episode of Dexter or a night with a glass of [red?] wine and a good book, one of my favorite authors is [name an author].

My disposition is sweet and fun, I want someone to share that fun with! Like any girl, I love being pampered and treated like a princess, but in romance a man should be treated like a man.

Whether it comes to loving or listening, I give just as good as I get. I am looking for only one SD, I am not one to spread myself thin. Anything else you may want to know, well I guess you’ll just have to ask

Second Description:
While I am open to an arrangement I expect to be treated like a lady, your kindness will be rewarded! I prefer Caucasian/Mediterranean men, but that doesn’t necessarily exclude anyone else so take a chance and write me – a great personality has limitless possibilities!

Irish SBsays:

Im still here, iv discovered there is a fine line between studying and checking the blog out every now and again!

always2sweetsays:

so, this is completely off topic, but are there any SDs around right now who might want to take a look at my profile, maybe give me some hints on what is working in there and what can be changed? Maybe some tips on what else I can add, that maybe I hadnt thought of? I have been threatening to change my profile for a few weeks now, and I am noticing that my profile is not get many views at all. Which means that its not getting read much, so when it does actually get viewed, I would like for it to be as effective as possible. As it stands right now, something is obviously not working, b/c I have been on here for almost 2 months now, and have yet to even get 1 serious interested pot. SB critique is much welcome and appreciated too, I just figured an SD POV would probably be pretty useful.

always2sweetsays:

sorry that you havent been feeling well Taz, but atleast the pot was understanding. Hope you get to feeling better!

SDN: i’m not a guru…. i’m just not a thief. i don’t like windows enough to pay for it so i use linux on my desktop and have a very old freebsd server in my closet running mail. not sure i could make that server now…

i used sunos at work when i did tech support and was in high school when the unisys icon flavour of unix was used in schools… so, unintentionally, i became a unix user though i don’t consider myself sysadmin level

NeOhio SB:
I sent you an e-mail….could you please confirm when you get it. I just want to make sure I sent it to the right addy. Thanks!

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

Hey everyone…finished last meeting, doing email as needed but otherwise in holiday mode!

TXSBsays:

Cleo:
Awww….yes…I do trust him A LOT (heck he has a key to the sugar pad and come/go as he pleases!). But based on my personal experiences in life, I’m always careful. After all….people are always amazing when things are good. But when the “break up” happens (whether it’s b/t friends, husband/wife, bf/gf, or SD/SB), that’s when things have the potential to turn real nasty. Many times that’s when people’s true character comes out.

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Taz:
Sorry to hear about the cold. Looks like the pot already got some “brownie points” for being understanding.

Taz, I’m sorry you’re sick, but glad you have such an understanding pot

Hi Taz ~ No I haven’t heard anything from the too close for comfort SD yet. He said he would call me this weekend. We’ll see what happens with that one. I’m still not sure about it, I don’t know if I want a SD that lives that close.

AM – I don`t have any tattoos at all…

TXSB: Realistic seems like the kind of classy guy i would trust with my photos… you know, if i trusted anyone *g*

TXSBsays:

Cleo:
Believe me, I’m glad too! As for “pics”, for my own privacy, I always cut off my head from the pics if it’s of a private nature. I figure if it do it right, he shouldn’t be looking at my face anyway! LOL! And I always send it from a different e-mail…never from my main e-mail. For the privacy of recipient, I always *warn* them. I let them know that I have send them an e-mail which they should open only when alone. But I agree with you….pics are definately risky for both parties.

there are tramp stamps and there are beautiful tattoos that live at the base of your spine… but oh it is oh so fine a line….
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Irish: omg rofl.

i might answer that, he has an extremely unique writing style but it’s funny and very clear.
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TXSB: so glad he bought it!

NC Gentsays:

Just for clarification — the photos I received weren’t nude ones. Also, I had a PO Box to receive things from my SB, and there is plenty of storage in my office and building. Discretion is required of course!

Irish SBsays:

The tin of tuna as a pet is original i have to say! Theres nothing better than having good banter but iv no idea who this guy is. There are some carzy accountants out there i suppose! Its ruined my whole outlook on accountants now ! Lol

TXSB – i sent you mail (i hope!)

NYGent: cologne is only okay if it is applied very sparingly or i’ll get a headache. besides, when i lick your neck i really, really, really hope i don’t have to lap up cologne to get there…
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SincereSD: that was the gist i was feeling myself. i can’t help hoping that my mature gorgeousness will inspire some man who wants a woman with experience rather than a girl. nothing wrong with girls and i have a great 23 year old lady friend who i treasure… just some people prefer a different dynamic.

i did figure the huge volume of schools here was going to be a problem.

are there any bars/restos you would recommend ‘hanging out’ at while looking fiiiiiine?
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NYC SB: happy birthday! what a great gift to get your ‘lost’ things back!
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on the subject of gifts: i am having a tough year business wise, pilates is considered a luxury even when people are badly injured and need it desperately. yes, even when it’s actually making them feel better. since i lost my source of referrals at the same time (his office moved too far away from my studio) i’m sorta dithering about what to do.

ideas are in the pipeline but things take time. so, not just if i had an SD but for my entire giant circle of gift recipients i need to do things that are cheap. but i don’t want to give fat to fat people who are fighting their weight…

and yet my chocolate chip banana bread is deadly…

as for SD’s… you can give them things that look like they would have bought them themselves or a guy would have given it to them. cigars. high end pens. super awesome leather watchbands. belt buckles. snack food. desktop toys. darwin fish magnet for their car… you know. guy things…

the sending of lingerie or photos is great but VERY risky in a lot of ways… and frankly i don’t want anybody having nude photos of me…

I also have the I hate to say ‘tramp stamp'(do not like the term) but have been told it is a beautiful tattoo by the few who have seen it
It holds a lot of meaning with me as well…

TXSBsays:

IrishSB:
Yikes! Based on this guy’s writing skills/style, and the grammar (lack of it in this case), I honestly thought this was someone in junior high/high school! He’s an Accountant? Wow! *shakes head in disbelief*

**sigh** oh yes I agree

TXSBsays:

Hi Beach_girl, 2CHic, IrishSB!

VillaC:
Glad to hear the hand’s doing better….good luck on the date!!!

Irish SBsays:

Heya everyone just had to share this message i got off some random guy i dont know on facebook

Mmm dnt know much about ye so the only reason at the moment is cos u r very pretty (well infact very very pretty). anyway im not a stalker im…..human!… im almost sure!!some of the main turn ons are, water and the light! i love animals, especially in a black bean sauce, and my last pet was a tin of tuna,any time it stepped out of line i threatened it with a tin opener!..i have an irrational fear of radishes, and if im in a nursery garden, i can attack at random!
there is no truth in the rumour that i was seen staring wildly with a shotgun, with a sign reading” pick yer own, go on i dare ya”..im still wanted in 7 countries for obtaining Haagen Daz ice cream with menaces! oh dis message is gettin longer n longer think i still suffer from verbal diahorrea lol this must be the longest and most random msg u have ever recieved i know i know im rambling but its only to make u laugh im an accountant by the way i know u wont believe it lol. oh evening salute how u doin huh? i just love this “HUH” lol

There are really no words to say after that but why. I like his humour but from someone who you dont know on their first message to you is strange? And it was facebook!!

Welcome to the Fam, Robin.

2Chicsays:

Thanks BeachG

2Chicsays:

Yep, that’s him alright, Lunae I hope you got that dear.

TXSBsays:

Robin:
Welcome! Glad to hear your 1st date went well….

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Muse:
I’m on the same boat as you regarding giving gift to a married SD. It can’t be anything that he needs to take home. At his work, he doesn’t really have a “office” so I can’t give him anything to keep there either.

Hi TXSB ~ Thanks for the advice
You’re right, I’m going with the wait and see approach

Robin ~ Thanks and you’re welcome

TXSBsays:

Anna:
I do not have any tattoos.

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NYGent:
I loooove it when a man wear sexy cologne. One of my fav. is Chanel Allure.

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Since you all were discussing bad bday gifts, so far I think I have everyone beat: A few years ago, I caught my BF of 8 months at that time cheating on my Bday. He told me he couldn’t spend that evening with me b/c of a “family emergency”. So I made dinner/drink plans with other friends. After dinner, we went to drinks at a bar and guess who I saw there….with someone who was OBVIOUSLY not a platonic friend. (and no, he didn’t buy me anything at all….not even a chia pet! ;))

TXSBsays:

I logged on but had to run off earlier….they finally delivered the coffee table at the sugar pad.

Photogirl & Dee:
Yes, I did receive a call this morning. Thanks to you two, cleo, and TexaSD, I went with the “it was a horrible mistake” story. I think he bought it! Although he did laugh at me (A LOT) and I believe I will get laughed at for this for quite a whie!

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NYGent:
Have a safe trip!

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Anna Molly:
Congrats with the new pot SD! Looks like things are going well! As for hiding the profile, personally, I don’t think you should hide your profile until an arrangement had been agreed on and BOTH of you mutually decide to stop looking. Plenty of men out there offers gifts…but dissappear before an arrangement. With my SD, my profile was up until he offered an arrangement and I agreed.

good news – just had xray, wrist is healing and have a hot date on the 17th december to have the cast cut off! 😀

Robin ~ All I can say is OOO LA LA

Musesays:

NYC SB – HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope that it’s full of happiness, cake and lots of loveliness.

Lunae – I was going to mention that profile too. As I recall, he was pretty cute. Just search NY for him.

NC Gent- Thank you for that great idea. I may hold off ’til Valentines day though. Somehow seems more appropriate then…

Everyone- I love this gift discussion. Let’s keep it going. My SD is married so anything I get him would have to be discreet. I thought of getting him a small gift, more as a “so you can think of me when you use it” thing than anything extravagant that would be noticed by his family. Noticeable things would be more typical gifts like cologne. Advice?

NC Gent, thank you, that is usually the comment I hear… The tattoo actually means something to me and it’s in my favorite shape, a heart, so I love it!

I used gravatar to get my avi to appear in my posts. As for the proflie issue, just copy your profile URL then paste it where it says website then, when you post, a person can click on your name and see your profile as long as you’re logged into SA. Hope this helps

Robin — that tattoo sounds very sexy as i said, I think small discreetly placed tattoos are sexy. NYGent is right — tattoos seem to be pervasive with younger people.

Lunaesays:

That would be a great 2Chic thank you.

Well I’m off to work. Take care everyone.

Robinsays:

Anna Molly – since I’m new to this and finding myself technologically challenged, LOL.. how do you get your picture to come up on the blog and also how did you sign in so that someone can click on your name and be taken to your profile? Or do you have to be a “board member” to have that?

I used to be totally anti-tattoo but have come to accept them unless they are garish or pervasive. So many younger SBs have them that it would eliminate a large pool of pots to take a no-tattoo attitude. Done tastefully they can add to the allure . . .

If I come across his profile again, I will definitely post it for you. I believe there are a few undercover “bad boys” . I do not have tatts, but I like a “bad boy” too…. lol.

Hmmm, tattoos. How many sugars here have tattoos?

Lunaesays:

NC Gent- I too call lower back tattoos “tramp stamps” in most cases that phrase fits. I do not have that type of tattoo but I am banished to long sleeves at work. Although my tattoos are tasteful and girly, orchids and tree frogs backed with a rain forest theme, I am hopeful that there are some SDs with a taste that leans more to the Kat Von D look. Most people that meet me are accepting of my tattooed pin up look. Here’s to hoping the old saying ” there’s someone for everyone” is true.

2Chic – yes I have seen the same profile… and briefly chatted with the man… i wish i saved it so i can provide the profile number… his monthly allowance was quite high as well

ok well im off from work… have a great break everyone… im going to visit fam and eat lots and lots of cake 😀

SincereSDsays:

Cleo & AznRose

Saw the both of you had previous questions about the Toronto SD scene. Here’s what I’ve gathered and observed so far.

1. Ratio of active SB to active SD is about 9:1 in Ontario. Active SB are defined as logged in within 30 days; active SD are defined as premium members.
2. If I remember correctly, active Ontario SD are about 125 with about 100 in Toronto and 25 outside Toronto.
3. Due to the large population of students in Hamilton and London, there is a significant demand for SD in those areas.
4. The majority of SB I’ve met have not been on many SD dates.

Robinsays:

Anna Molly – Thanks for the welcome! Glad to be on board, all of you seem very sweet and have really good advice! After being on the sight for one week, I had my first date and it went very well, asked for another and that one was a lot of fun, looking forward to December!

NC Gent – I’m so happy you responded and your ideas were great, thank you!! And as far as cologne, a women has many eroneous zones, I don’t think it’s all touch either, scent is definitely one of them! Most women love when a man smells so good, you just have to keep getting closer so can take it in.

2Chicsays:

Lunae

I recently came across a profile of a very handsome gentleman who called himself something like a tattoo junkie (something like that) disguised as an investment banker. His picture was quiet cute, he was dressed in a dress shirt, with the slacks sitting at a parlor with his arm sleeve rolled up getting a tat, while on his cell phone. He stated he wanted a tattooed female, who would also be willing to get more.

NC Gentsays:

Lunae — personally I find discreetly placed tattoos to be sexy – something like a rose low on the hip…. I really don’t like obvious tattoos. I also don’t care for the ones on the lower back — this may be harsh but some people call them “tramp stamps” for a reason. There are different tastes out there, so I am sure you may find an SD that loves them. However, I think most SDs are fairly conservative business types that don’t care for them.

Thanks OC – just got word that my luggage which was lost on my flight back (filled with about 10k of shoes plus all my clothes) has been delivered… thats the best bday gift ever 😀

Lunaesays:

Since you all seem so open, considerate and honest I was wondering if I could get your opinion on something.

I have a profile on another SD site and yes I can already see it does not hold a candle to this one I have not seen much come from it.

Here is my question. As a tattooed female, I have 4 tattoos, I was wondering what your thoughts were on this. I can say that I find them darling and hope to get more in the future. Then again being raised in and around tattoo parlors I am biased in my opinion.

Hi NeOhioSB!!!!

Yaz10says:

NYGent: Cologne on a man is sexy, especially when he is whispering in my ear and that is all I can smell.

NeOhio SBsays:

NCGent ~~ Have to comment on your lingerie gift….All i can say, is she “gets it”…..ive done that one myself a few times…and trust me…the immaterial rewards are “priceless”…….:) Seduction must begin with the mind and imagination….nothing less. Safe travels to you…..Have a gr. Holiday.

I bake gifts all the time
On Valentines day my favorite thing to do is bake a red velvet cake in heart shaped pans and write Happy Valentines Day on the top.

Thanks for the advice NC

Lunaesays:

NC Gent- I just might have to keep that one in mind. I can see its motivational value. 😉

NC Gentsays:

Lunae — that reminds me of another gift I got from an SB — she bought some sexy lingerie, scented it with her perfume and put a note in that she couldn’t wait to model the lingerie for me — I had to book a trip to see her ASAP lol

NC Gentsays:

Anna — I recommend keeping your profile up until you have an arrangement. Sugar arrangements are very fluid and can go awry for a number of reasons.

Robin — personalized gifts that don’t cost much are great gifts for an SD. I’ve had an SB during the holidays and birthdays and she did things like baked goods, “special” photos with a card, a special note or letter – like top 10 reasons she was so happy to have me in her life…. things like that go a long way without breaking your budget. They do take some time which an SD will recognize

Lunae ~ That is so sweet…

To SD’s ~ Perfume, body spray or nothing at all? I never know what to do.

Lunaesays:

I love cologne on a man. In fact it sounds kind of silly but one of the sweetest gift I received was a small teddy bear that was sprayed with the cologne an ex wore. It came in the mail with a small note with pressed flowers and I still have it. The smell has long since faded but the romantic in me smiles every time I see it.

YAY

I think as far as gifts to SDs the old adage “it’s the thought that counts” definitely applies. It could be something quite small. I personally would be shocked (and pleasantly so) to receive any gift from my current SB. I received some platinum egoiste chanel cologne from a former and it was greatly appreciated. Which raises a question: how do SBs feel about cologne on a man (assuming it’s high quality and not overdone). Yay or nay?

Lunaesays:

The Best gift I ever received was a surprise visit from a very special man who came all the way from the Netherlands to wisk me away for 2 weeks in Vegas on my birthday. The trip was fantastic including shows, shopping, dining and an amazing weekend camping out in the desert. At the time Vegas was my town, I lived nearby and went often but I think what made it so much fun was the chance to see it through his eyes and show him some of the hidden treasures of that area.

Hi Robin

photogirl ~ Yesterday was our second date and he said he wanted to get together again for a third. No specific plans yet, I guess he’s waiting until the holidays are over…then again, I may never see him again

I’m not sure what to do with my profile. He hasn’t suspended his, so should I keep mine up? No arrangement, but he has show intrest with a monetary gift. What should I do?

Lunaesays:

Hello Robin,

I do not have the pleasure of having a SD but if I did I would get him a gift. That is if it is something I know he would be comfortable with. It is true that SDs can pretty much get anything their heart desires but many are lacking that personal touch. Say your SD have a favorite author or musician assuming it is possible maybe an autographed edition or even a 1st edition would be an acceptable gift. In order to get these things they can require a lot of time and effort and I think that knowing this would mean a lot to a SD.

Robin – I can’t answer that one as I have not had a SD during the holidays nor on their birthdays… But I would like to think it would something more personal rather than a material item.

CrèmeBruléeNYsays:

Have a great holiday everyone!

Robinsays:

Hello girls, wow, some of you got some really bad gifts, what??? Do these men not know, especiall appliances, come on!! My question to you is, do you get your SD a gift for the holidays?? And if so what have you done, not sure what is appropriate and what on earth do you get for someone who can get anything they want??

Oh joy, I just got a phone call informing me I have to work Thanksgiving. ~sighs~ This was not the joyful phone call I was expecting at all.

Irish SBsays:

Hey everyone!
Think there is too many to mention at this stage but Happy Birthday NYC SB.

Regarding crappy presents, on my 23rd birthday i received a smoothy maker from my 9 month BF. He actually spent a good bit of money on it, c’mon a kitchen appliance! I didnt need or want one. It did not even come with a card and he accidentially dropped it and broke it 3 days later. Worse present ever.

NYGent ~ Safe travels to you and enjoy the Cali. weather
Good luck with the pot SB if you decide to see her. I sent in my RSVP, hope you got it. Happy Thanksgiving!

I just got the $1000 offer too….LOL

Hello all — happy birthday NYC SB and, in advance, to Photogirl and tXSB. I am heading to ohio for T-giving with family then on to my place in Cali for the weekend. Scheduled dinner with a pot in SF but I think she is flaking on me, so may just go with a friend out there.

YoungEbony: if you’re reading we’re still waiting to hear confirm from you for the 8th (nobody has your contact info). I think everyone else has either formally RSVP’ed (en francais no less) or plans to.

Happy holiday to all!

Photogirl ~ Shopping went great, but I still didn’t find a dress. I did get a nice outfit though and pot daddy loved it
Said I had good taste, but I already knew that….LOL
My eye was fine, thank goodness.
Ended up at Bar Amaericain instead of Nobu and let me tell you the place was amazing! The food was so good! I watch Bobby Flay on Food Network all the time so it was a real treat for me

Thanks for asking

you know i totally want the blanket with arms… i know it’s lame but i live in an apartment with steam heat and if i don’t open the windows i die in here… so a snuggie sounds kinda nice.

but only from a GIRL friend or a guy who already knows i want it…

that said, i think it’s a little sweet.
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yay i fixed my profile!
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NYC SB: it means i am comfortable using linux and freebsd and sunos which are all flavours of unix. in nerd speak you would say use *nix cause * is a wildcard and fills in all the possibilities…
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TexaSD: sorry, i had company and i try to value real people over online ones… TRY

Lunaesays:

Good Morning Photo =)

I remember travel after Katrina and you are right that was just not fun. I had to travel to Florida right after that hurricane and not only was the trip more of a pain then it was worth, it was seriously depressing.

Cleo: I think you have a wonderful profile. Not that I am experienced at judging them but I think you have a success on your hands.

NYC SBsays:

yaz – no email from you

NYC SBsays:

NC Gent – yeah i definitely should consider it…not

my problem with this character is that he needs to put you on his pay roll for 1k… this just doesnt sit well with me… plus consulting services (which is what i would be under) are a 1099 misc form for tax returns and they are taxed at 40% as no deductions are paid by employer… so it really comes out to $40 per meeting… that buys me 2 snuggies hahahah

IRL admirer really did mean well however it was just very funny… the look on my face must have been priceless

NC Gentsays:

oops Happy Birthday NYC SB — wow so that turns out to be about $80 per meeting — how could you not take that seriously???

Lunaesays:

I do not care for the snuggies either but apparently some people are going crazy for them.

Short story for you.
Yesterday I took my mother out shopping and while we were checking out a woman came up to the counter asking about them. The cashier told her they were sold out and the woman quickly got rather upset over this information. I finally had to speak up and tell the women where I had seen them in stock and sent her on her way. The poor cashier was blushing and very flustered from the tongue lashing she had just received. I told her how sorry I was for her and I hoped her day went better. Poor girl has to work over the holidays and she was fairly sure it was just going to get worse. Apparently that was not the first blow up over the lack of snuggies in the store.

NYC SB — I am noting to to bring any of my corporate snuggies as dinner gifts lol

If you are dating a sugar must be rough competition for the IRL bf — I know I was broke as heck until I was about 27

Lunaesays:

Good Morning Everyone,

I am new to this site so no worries if you are wondering “who is this person.”

I just thought I would wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and offer my best wishes to all.

To put my two cents into the mix regarding travel, I must say that since I am a bit of a gypsy, road trips of 3-4 hours is not an issue. I actually find them very relaxing and enjoy any excuse to take the old blazer out on the road, or off road for that matter. 😉

For longer journeys I would prefer to fly out to meet someone. This is mainly because I do own a older truck.

I do not mind taking off to meet someone for the first time. If there isn’t any chemistry then that’s OK with me. I am a big fan of setting up back up plans and “rainy day” slush funds. Just in case.

I learned a long time ago that you have to find the best in any situation.

Again, take care of yourselves and I hope you all have the best of times this week.

Sorry not gone yet…you have to be kidding? a Snuggie? I may not be the best shopper but I wouldn’t bring a snuggie, unless you let me know you wanted one. Hey at least he tried.

NYC SB ~ Happy B-Day! As for the snuggie…I’m sorry. That is almost as bad as receiving a Chia Pet…lol.

NYC SBsays:

SDN – my my my what a lucky SB!

So this guy im dating IRL (non sugar) came over this morning to wish me a happy bday with coffee and a glazed donut in hand… then he gave me … now ya all sit down… A PINK SNUGGIE… ::shakes head in disbelief::

I don’t know if anyone is still here – hello? Lol…well I have a cold Was nice to sleep all day…just wish it was under different circumstances.

NapaSBsays:

well goodnight everyone!

NapaSBsays:

umm…small town*

NapaSBsays:

TexaSD – i am a huge wine aficionado so i love being so close to all the great winerys and the weather is phenomenal, however the area i live in is kind of same town and that drives me a little crazy…although i suppose i cant complain too much since i live so close to san fran

Azn, where have you been lol,

Napa- ohh back to the food lol… on the pics, i kinda think that is a little weird, I mean, I wouldn’t if I were you, there are plenty of guys if he goes poof

TXSBsays:

TexaSD:
Thanks!

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NapaSB:
Welcome! I’m about to leave but wanted to respond to your question before I left.

There are many fake “SDs” on this site who contact girls and ask for intimate pics. We usually refer to them as “pic collectors” here on the blog. I’m sure TexaSD and other SDs will add their thoughts on this when they see your post but please keep the following 2 things in mind:

1) A true SD is a gentleman. And a gentleman will not ask a SB to send him anything sexual (whether it’s intimate pics, web cam) etc. Especially if he does not have an arrangment with you and has never even met you IRL.

2) When meeting pot SDs, NEVER do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Just like IRL dating, men will try to pressure you into things (whether it’s to send pics, getting involved physicall before you’re ready etc). Please remember that at the end of the day, a SB is not a escort. Never let go of your own values and comfort levels for a man.

** On a side note, my SD NEVER asked me for any sexual pics. We’ve been together for almost 2 months and even ’til this day, he never pressures me into doing anything I don’t want to. He always treats me like a lady.

But what if he’s a photocollector? then he’ll disappear.

NapaSBsays:

p.s. all this talk of whataburger is really making me miss Texas…

NapaSBsays:

Hi everyone! So I am pretty new on SA, but I have been reading the blogs and trying to learn from the regulars as ya’ll seem to give really good advice. I have a “pot SD” that I spoke with on the phone the other day and I am really interested in him, he has a great personality and he seems to be interested in the same type of arrangement that I am…he asked me to send him some rather intimate pictures before we move any farther though, and I dont know if I am comfortable with it…is this common? .help.

TexaSD:
So if a female friend told you the story about attaching the wrong pic….you’d believe it? Grrrr….never mind the quality of it! LOL

TexaSDsays:

TXSB– I think you can get away with it, besides if its a good picture, he will just get a laugh lol

TXSBsays:

TexaSD:

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CASB:
Nah….this friend knows me too well. So I just sent him an e-mail saying that when he sees that other e-mail…that he should just call me sometime tomorrow and I’ll explain. I’m just gonna come clean with him. I certainly learned my lesson….always double check the frigging address!!!!!!!

Asian, whats the debate on?

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- ya go with that lol, that sounds like that might work,

CASBsays:

Ohhh noooooo!!!!! So sorry TXSB!!!! Maybe tell him you were trying to send him a funny picture and accidentally attached that one by mistake?? At least it’s a good friend so it won’t be AS awkward, you can (trust me, eventually) just laugh it off! Could be worse.. could be a girlfriend or your Mom you sent it to instead of him!

Maybe you could call him and get his password to his email and go in and delete it? If you’re good friends he should trust you enough to let you do that. Worth a shot!

AsianSB: Not funny missy! *pout* I have no idea. All I know is that as soon as I realized what I did….I went to my “sent” box and it shows it went through just fine.

AsianSBsays:

TXSB- LOL, okay I’m happy I stayed on long enough to see that post 😛 heh, it’s alright, but I did hear about hotmail implementing a way to stop drunk e-mails? Is there an option to take back your e-mail?

AsianSB- politics….. i love it lol… you could also say for Pro side,”necessary for anti corruption efforts, IE food safety”

TXSBsays:

AsianSB:
Later….good luck on the debate!

TXSBsays:

CASB:
That’s the #1 problem….the e-mail didn’t really say much. It was more of a …umm…errr….visual e-mail. *hides face in shame*

This friend has known me for years and he actually knows pretty much everything about me except sugar dating. I also told a few days ago while chatting that I’m totally single. Poor guy….he’s going to have an interesting start to his day tomorrow….

Okays, I’m off to prepare for my debate.. Pro side for “Democracy is necessary for sustained economic growth in China”

Nighty TexaSD, TXSB, and anyone else who is on.

CASBsays:

Soooo I’m hoping to find an SD by the holidays (wouldn’t that be a great way to kick off the holidays?!), but time is a-ticking! Does my profile get seen more if I log in more often or stay logged in? I never log in unless I see that I’ve been sent a message. Maybe that’s not helping?

TexaSD:
Good….that’ll make it easy since she lives on campus. LOL…hey you have all the info. you need to find out about his experience with Htown SBs….whether or not you choose to use it is upto you.

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AsianSB:
I don’t want to reveal it but I have no choice. There’s no logical explanation for the e-mail he got.

CASBsays:

That’s it, I’m swearing off the blog. Every time I come here you’re talking about food and now I’m hungry again. haha I have been craving Panda Express orange chicken for the past few days (and yesterday I had been craving In N Out). Do you do this to torture me?!?!?! lol

Asian-I have had authentic, I lived in the New Territories for like 1 month, I just love american chinese ( i think the best cooks came here lol)

AsianSBsays:

TXSB- Do you want to reveal it though? Isn’t there another way to cover it up, if you want to cover it up? Like you can definitely make an excuse or something.. But it might be better to come out clean..

Good night Lara 😛 Let us know what you are cooking tomorrow, can’t wait to hear

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- not far, maybe 15mins, Ya that would be pretty cool, then he can give me the low down on some of the H town SB’s lol

AsianSBsays:

TexaSD- … … … American Chinese Food! Arhhh runnn, I actually like Tomato beef chow mien. Glad to see that you’ll be in Tokyo for atleast 3 months, so the chance of meeting is still there :)! Once you are in Asia though, we must take you to authentic Chinese food, HK has the best Chinese food!

TXSBsays:

It’s not funny. It’s really embarrasing and now I have to reveal my sugar dating to him.

TXSBsays:

TexaSD:
I need to check with my sis on her class dates and such. I’m only going to see her to drop something off to her…it’s surprise for her. How far are you from the UT campus? If you’re there and I end coming, I’ll try to see if RSD can make it too.

Cleo, TXSB and TexasSD today I had chinese for dinner , no time for grocery shoping and or cooking.

I will go to bed early so I can get the cooking rolling tomorrow.

Have fun, ttyl.

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- ya, I got the details mixed up, i should know by the 3rd of december, but i think its the 12th of january, or maybe i will know the 12th of december and its the 3rd of january,( i will find out soon lol) OIC, that must be a funny story lol. Well If I am not going to Manila this month, I will most likely be here in Austin, find out and so will I lol.

Asian- aww don’t say that lol, Lets just see how it goes, but ya that would blow, But i will be in Tokyo I think for at least 3 months so, who knows

AsianSBsays:

TexaSD- I think I’m flying out of HK to head back to Hangzhou around 12-18th.. Then I’ll be in the Shanghai/Hangzhou area until the 7-11th of Jan.. Eek, this would really blow if we weren’t able to meet up.

TXSBsays:

Not gone yet….need to write an e-mail explaning to my friend about the earlier e-mail mishap I had….plus finishing up an apple.

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- Oic, Ok Well I will get the final details by December 3rd. As far as I know I want to be in Manila by the 18th, and I think I will be in Tokyo by the 3rd, although I think I over heard someone say it would be the 12th,

Good Night Everyone

AsianSBsays:

Rudy- You just reminded me that I have a yoga lesson tonight, heh I’m excited now 😀

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- Ya I had 1 in SA (San Antonio) she was a single mother, I thought i shared that with someone before, sorry if I didn’t. Well I thought it worked out pretty well, so I thought I try it again, sometimes I don’t have time to date, sometimes I do, and I kind of like not having to worry about it..

AsianSBsays:

TexaSD- You want to be missed like I miss Mexican food? 😛 I don’t think that’s a fair comparison, haha. But, yes you were missed on your brief dinner break

I would love to cook if I had my own pots/pans and kitchen, but sadly in the dorms the supplies are so limited.. Cooking your own food is healthier and yummier than fast food 😛 even though chicken fajitas sound really good right now (even after my lunch, haha)

AsianSBsays:

Oh I miss Mexican food here, the only place I can get it here is when my brother is sweet enough to cook some, heh.

TXSBsays:

Rudy:
I don’t take pilates but am interested in it. Currently I do mainly weight lifting with some cardio. Personally I love it when I’m sore after a good workout. It makes me feel like I actually accomplished something!

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AsianSB:
Yes, he needs to eat dinner faster! 😉

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I’m waiting for RSD to either text me or make an appearance. I don’t like going to sleep without hearing from him. But it looks like it may not happen tonight. *sigh*

Midwest- Oo, good luck on the pot date, keep us updated.

Rudy- It really is a great opportunity to chat with everyone about sharing the same experiences and just getting to know everyone on this blog.

Rudysays:

TXSB: Seriously, I like being able to go to sleep at night laughing instead of stressing about ‘the day’. You had mentioned before you take Pilates, I tried this new class Friday called Balletone, it’s a combination of Pilates and Ballet moves. I enjoyed the class, but I am sore:)

Rudy:
We’re here……although I think we scared TexaSD away…

AsianSBsays:

Mummy instincts! heh, I feel very well taken care of on this blog, thanks to you and TXSB, and many others.

Rudysays:

Hi! is anyone out there? I stepped away for a moment.

Midwest SB: With regard to the profile views, I have the same thing happening to me. I think people with hidden profiles are viewing mine, but I can’t see them at all. However, I have new views each time I log in.

2chic: I am jealous you had a massage

Asian SB: Hi! I don’t believe I have met you. I usually blog in the evenings so I don’t have the opportunity to chat with some SBs at all because I miss you during the day.

AsianSBsays:

Yup, but turned out to be lunch instead, yummy lasagna.

Just Dee in NCsays:

Asian sweetie, I could have given birth to you, and that means you are TOO YOUNG to be thinking about sex.

What can I say? It’s the “mama” in me coming out! That and the fact that inside my head, I don’t feel any older than Asian or TX. It’s just my driver’s license and the occasional hormonal misfire that reminds me where the number actually falls these days. And my younger brothers. They delight in reminding me just exactly how old I am.

Random question: Can anyone tell me why I can get 20 views a day and I am only able to see a few of them? Are they repeat visitors? Do they have hidden profiles?

2Chicsays:

In my line of work, I am surrounded by very beautiful people. Some young handsome will try to work me over, and then I ask one question: “do you think you know how to satisfy me” they always say yes. …. Wrong Answer.

2Chicsays:

Sorry about the typos, fingers going faster than brain… lol.

2Chicsays:

Younger guys refused to realize that they do not know it all when it comes to pleasing a woman. That the big problem, the take it personally you try to correct them. In time they realize what it takes. ….. just like fine wine…. yum.

photogirlsays:

I second that about the older men 2Chic. I’ve only dated 2 men my age or younger who didn’t ‘rush’.

TXSBsays:

2Chic says:
Older men take the time to learn a woman, to know what she wants and how. It makes you feel like you are the bomb, even though you may not be…. lol. They are willing to admit that they want to know how to personally please you.

This is sooo true. In my experience younger guys are always in a rush….they don’t have the patience to learn.

TexaSDsays:

Ok I am going to get dinner lol

2Chicsays:

Take notes TxSd. Insider secrets being exposed.

2Chicsays:

Young guys are yummy to admire, but I just don’t want to establish anything romantic with them. I have had experience with my own age, and I still had to say “no, I don’t like that”, where as with an older man he will ask me if I like. Older men take the time to learn a woman, to know what she wants and how. It makes you feel like you are the bomb, even though you may not be…. lol. They are willing to admit that they want to know how to personally please you.

Midwest:
LOL!!! Wouldn’t that be great! I would LOOVE to have another “blog couple”….especially when both of the people are soooo frigging cute!

AznCanadian Rosesays:

Texas SD and Asian SB:

Heehee..Almost all of my ex.bf’s were in their mid 20’s and up- I’m good friends with them to this day except my first bf who was my age.
Even though it was years ago, he’s still talking bad about me!
D:<

So no more young guys for me!

Do I see a repeat of TXSB/RSD coming our way??? Stay tuned…

TexasSD – who needs tv when you have the blog?!

Hi/Bye Asian.

2Chic – Happens to me a lot too. I’ve only had one relationship with a younger guy…it was great in many aspects, but our goals, career drive and experience were not always a match. The others I’ve been on dates, but nothing serious. There just isn’t much of a dating pool here, regardless of age.

Pht Gr.

I would love to assist you with that. Would prob be twitching something awful though…. lol

the wine has already gone to my head fam.

AsianSBsays:

A little more input before breakfast..

2 Chic- I like the way you think, “I like to teach, but then I want to be educated too.” In a SD/SB relationship, actually in any relationship, I would like to be the one learning, not educating. Yes I can educate them on things I’ve gone through, living in another country/different culture/not being able to speak the language. But when it comes to just thoughts and ideas, I rather experience new things/learn, instead of teaching and not learning. I guess I like being the student, lol.

2Chic – The bigger the wedding party the better I got to pin the boutonnière on 7 tuxed men last weekend.

2Chicsays:

I like to teach, but then I want to be educated too.

TXSBsays:

AsianSB:
Hi!!!

2Chicsays:

Asn B:
I have had many conversations with younger guys who try to come on to me, they assume I am younger than my age. The conversations are intelligent, but when it gets right down to it…. they are not telling me anything new.

I have tentative plans for b-day with a friend but now I am not sure it is going to work out. If not, then I will spend the day with my girls

TexaSDsays:

AsianSB- emailing a pot… but don’t you worry, when i am going on a date, I promise to let everyone know lol

AsianSBsays:

Photogirl: I’ve learned that it isn’t about the actual age of the person, but how they present themselves and how they act/take care of themselves.. Like I’ve been on a Non-SD date with people in their 30’s while I am only 19 (like Azn Rose :p ) But I really enjoyed their company because we had things in common and could hold an interesting conversations..

While being in University in HK, I realized the University students of Asia(China/HongKong) they are a lot more sheltered therefore young in the mind.. But it seems as though the exchange students who come to HK from the West (America/Canada) and Europe, are more worldly and exciting/fun.

But then it just might be a culture thing, since I feel I’m stuck between two cultures lol.

Just woke up, heh from a good night’s rest..

So much action on the blog already!!

The first thing that caught my eye is TexaSD is going on a date? or e-mailing a pot? 😮

photogirlsays:

The first time I dated an older man I was 17 and he was 26. Before I get any scorns, I was a very mature 17 and I knew the man for almost a year before we dated, he was neighbor. I have also been the older one… by almost 10 years. I am far more attracted to the older than the younger.

Her profile is long and I also just kinda skimmped through it. I liked the face that from her pics and the lines I did read…she seems “real” and down to earth.

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TexaSD:
Yes….there MAY be a 1 year difference depending on when your bday is…but otherwise yes.

2Chicsays:

Rudy that is funny, the massage was extremely nice, OMG, and he loves giving them. I was nervous at first, but when his hands touched my back I was in la-la land. Yet just knowing who he was, and the age stopped my blood from boiling.

Yes! Thank U Muse. Exactly, they just have that savoir faire about them. hmmmm and me hitting the peak is not making it any better. Especially when I see one in a tux. Ughh!

TXSBsays:

Glad to see I’m not the only one dating older men. When I was 23, I dated someone who was 42 (no he’s wasn’t a SD, we dated IRL for 7 months). And my last BF was 32 (ok maybe not that much older than me but still older!).

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TexaSD:
Yes….mine is the day before Photogirl’s. BTW, I 2nd 2Chic. This girls seems nice….WRITE HER!

TexasSD – I’ve become as bad as a guy. Her photos are nice but her profile was so long I ended up skimming and then spacing out. But if she caught your eye, you should definitely email her.

Hi Rudy!

Rudysays:

2Chic: I am with you in regards to the age issue. It’s just a preference; I prefer to date someone older than me. I don’t know why but I can’t handle they guy being a year younger than me! For some reason, I prefer men in their 40s or 50s. However, I would give him a chance….aromatherapy massages that makes him very tempting

TXSB– your bday is soon? are you older than me, or younger, did we ever figure that out?

Photo and TXSB– I am just a little slow geez lol

2Chicsays:

I am a new forty and love it, but I just can’t get into the young fellas. I have tried. My problems is I am going to meet a POT who has really caught my attention. This may place me in the vicinity my young friend is in. I do not want to hurt him, he is so sweet and dear to me, but in no way did I lead him to think that there could be more. I just don’t want to hurt him, nor loose him as a friend.

TexaSDsays:

2chic- One of the girls I am thinking about emailing is older than me 373675

Rudysays:

Hi Just Dee, MidWest

Kerbear: My advice is “next”….there has been discussion about your scenario before and most SDs will at least pay for your travel if they want you to come see them first. Also, safety is a huge concern; it sounds as if he is not going to any lengths to make sure you feel comfortable. It’s obvious you have given this careful thought and I agree; you stand the risk of travel, and no chemistry. There should be some give and take on both sides and this looks one-sided to me. You should feel comfortable about meeting him regardless of the outcome.

TXSBsays:

photogirl says:
TexasSD – It is about time

I 2nd that!

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2Chic:
Due to my age (late 20’s), I’m attracted to older men. Most guys who’re younger than me are either in college or just out of college, and I’m not attracted to them. However….if/when I’m let’s say….45…..I don’t think I’d have a problem dating a 35 year old.

2Chic – I have consistently dated men somewhat younger than me in traditional dating. My scenario lends itself to that as I am older than most moms with a 6 y.o. Men my age and older are almost or completely done raising kids, so I don’t appeal to them. I enjoy the younger man’s enthusiasm but certainly prefer older men in a serious relationship. I don’t know how this will play out in the sugar bowl. All three pots are 3-4 years younger only by chance. I don’t talk about my family life in my profile as I am able to keep sugar and personal life fairly separated.

lisasays:

TXSB it’s one of those “oops” moments lol

TXSBsays:

Photogirl:
Too late..

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Dee:
*sigh* It’s a very good male friend who currently lives overseas. He knows everything about me EXCEPT the “sugar dating”. And no, telling him not to open it isn’t going to help. I’m definately getting a call EARLY tomorrow morning from him. First he’ll laugh b/c he’ll realize it’s obviously not meant for him. Then he’ll demand an explanation. I was just chatting with him 4 days ago and told him I’m totally single.

TXSB – uh-oh. Is this a good enough friend that if you called and said you’d mistakenly sent them a personal email, they could be trusted to delete it?

2Chicsays:

How do you ladies feel about dating younger men. I have a 34 yr old, (not from the site) who has a major crush on me. He is so sweet, and very handsome, but not for me. He is very well established, but I am not feeling him. We talk a lot, and I consider him a friend above all. He has developed a serious crush. One of his hobbies is giving aromatherapy massages. He wanted to give me one for a while, so I finally let him. It was very nice, but that is all I allowed was the massage. I told him before I let him give the massage that it is what it is. Now he wants what I don’t have to give him. I really tried to dig him, but its the “young” guy thing. I can’t go for it. I am just naturally turned on by older men. Am I the only one who feels like this…. sugas help me out.

Photo- Lol ya I was thinking maybe practice on some women or something

Just Dee in NCsays:

What did you do, TX?

I lived in TX for four years and never met a farmer. I understand the ranches/ farms are further south below Austin. Very remote areas with tons of land. I guess they all turned in their combines for oil rigs.

TexaSD:
LOL….I’m not going to tell you. You have her contact info. now. Write her!!!! Believe me she’ll be happy to hear from you…finally!

Umm….what’s a silo?

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Photogirl:
Hi!

We have farmers in all shapes and sizes. This place is what country music is written about! Unfortunately, they do not make for good SDs…or boyfriends for that matter. It’s fun watching them work though…many are shrewd business men too. They are similar to NYSE Brokers, just with a Budwieser in the middle of a corn field

TXSD – I’ll get ESPN just for you :-X .
If it helps any, I didn’t have a tv for four years by choice. Mine died and after a few weeks I realized how useless it was. If I wanted to see something, I went to a movie or a sports bar. Don’t know if I could do it again though.
This too shall pass, and your home will be beautiful and back to normal. I miss having a fireplace. I had two in GA and it was a real treat on winter days.

Has anyone heard form Beachgirl? I have not seen her online.

TexasSD – you have buttons and dials to keep you occupied… practice with getting your ‘after’ shots of the remodeling.

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- Ditto, never met a farmer, but I haven’t been her nearly as long as you… Which reminds me of the time I went to OK, I think we were on a farm, and I asked my friend what that big metal tube thing was, she said,”a silo” . Which then I replied, ” Seriously, there is a missile in there”?… I felt stupid after that lol

Midwest:
LOL! I’ve been in Texas for almost 16 years and never met a pig farmer (or any other type of farmer for that matter).

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Photogirl:
Hey!

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- Iol, what can I say, I m honest. What is she doing now, school?

photogirlsays:

hamburgers…. ick. I caved and ate one a few weeks ago. It had probably been 10 years or so since I’d had one before that. It made me sick. But then again. I don’t eat red meat. Keep mostly to a vegetarian diet but recently started eating chicken again. And yes…this has been an issue with pot SDs. Not many veggie SDs out there.

Kerbear- Ok, I didn’t understand everything you wrote, so if I ask stupid questions just bear with me, did he offer to pay for the travel expenses to see you?

Rudysays:

Good Evening Sweet Sugar Family!

I am still trying to catch up on this blog! I miss all the interesting conversations that occur during the day:)

SDN: Congrats and best wishes with your SB

OCSugarBaby, SF SD & NCGent: I was reading a previous blog topic (the 20/20 interview) I pulled a wealth of good advice from your comments regarding getting to know a pot SD via email before meeting with regards to allowance and intimacy. It’s very easy to unintentionally send the wrong message that will immediately raise a red flag to a pot SD.

TXSD: I can’t remember the last time I had a hamburger period….now I am craving one

I will be back, just got home from the gym and I need to grab a bite to eat!

TexaSDsays:

2Chic- I think I speak for the whole Crew, We are doing ok, how about yourself?
lol

Kerbearsays:

ok i just have to vent about one thing.

SD offering you compensation for meeting. I love this, it allows us to pay for sitters, and time that we take off of work (being a dancer i make close to $500 a night)

I feel like since the SB is taking time away from these things, its a nice gesture on the SD part.

So here is the story: i was offered an allowance to come and meet this SD, then i said well if we decide that we will meet i expect my travel paid for, of course, and half of my allowance up front.

He said no, well i dont understand why not?? he offered it. what if i just wanted to buy some outfits to come meet you?? Or make sure my child had enough food for when i left for 2 days or so????

So what if i fly out and he decided he did not like me enough to give me an allowance, or any compensation then what? i go home empty handed and pay for my own sitter and have to work extra to make up for what i lost, i already have had to do this once, and i personally feel if you dont want to offer an allowance, then dont!
Think about the SB she has to give you all her personal info to even receive any money, or for the plane ticket…how safe do you think she feels doing this? i feel like there should just be more of a trust on both parts. ughhh

Cleo:
LOL….you can have my dinner too if there’s a Luby’s near you!

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CASB & 2Chic (and anyone else that’s just joined us):
Hi!!

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TexaSD:
She had a pot SD but things didn’t work out.

TexaSDsays:

CASB- ya, there is a lot of eye candy in LA, lol, they are probably sorting them out, before they get to you, even I am amazed how many there is… don’t feel bad, I am sure even the porn stars are still looking, I still see their profiles up

TXSB- AsianSB found a SD now? I think I saw that back in one of the Old blogs…

2Chicsays:

Anyone cooking yet?

lisasays:

Yes stop with the food talk. All i’ve had to eat today was oatmeal for breakfast and candy for lunch. None of the fast food places near me will take a 100 dollar bill so I’m screwed.
My parents are going to bring me some food over tomorrow when I get home from work, but it’s ham and I don’t eat much pork, I want oatmeal, fish and fruits

you guys are killing me getting hungry now lol

okay i want to try this whataburger place… (and in n out)

TXSB: omg that sounds amazing. i am short ingredients so i can’t start my ribs and i think for idnner i’ll just stir fry some frozen vegetables… but man, i want YOUR dinneR!
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TexaSD: i decided to do the ribs in red wine, how’s that?

pick the place where you can take a surf lesson (because, since it’s all about me, is chosen for the ocean and the possibility of the surf lessons i haven’t taken yet
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Flo Rida: still crazy though…

lisasays:

TXSB: Please stop mentioning Whataburger, It’s my fave place to get burgers and it’s only 2 blocks down the street and it’s already dark, I have no debit card, and I gave up beef 3 weeks ago, eat something healthy. lol

3 more days till black friday, turkey day sucks for me

CASBsays:

Evening all. Just stopping in before I make myself dinner and try to get my dog to eat.

I swear I can’t get a message from a SD to save my life. I’m beginning to think there aren’t any here in L.A. Actually, it’s probably the opposite, that there are too many attractive girls on this site for me to get any hits. C’est la vie!

Only 2 more days til turkey!!!! MMMM!!!

lisasays:

Photogirl I have a med size roller that can be checked and a normal size carry on. I had that problem when I went to Europe though. Back then, 2003, you could have 2 checked bags on British Airways. What I did was back the smaller suitcase, put it inside the larger so that I would have plenty of room for everything I bought. I learned that the hardway after my trip in 2000 when I had to buy an additional case to get everything back home. I had also bought some heavy antique irons at Covent garden that I had to put in my parents’ luggage because they weighed closed to 20 lbs together.

Cleo:
PBI but tonight, I’m ready for ya! I got chicken fried chicken, macaroni & cheese, and corn leftovers from lunch! No last minute trip to Whataburger at 2:00 a.m. tonight for me!

photogirlsays:

Lisa – I believe you are allowed one ‘checked bag’ (they recently changed I think they charge you for the second checked bag) but watch the weight, as if it is over 60lbs you will be charged an additional fee unless you can transfer some of it into your carry on bag. I found this out the hard way working catastrophe duty after one of the hurricanes…we ALWAYS came home with more than we arrived with!

Flo Ridasays:

Sorry I crossed over to the dark side of the force! Luke!!

Texa – yes I know Narita Tokyo would be a rip off but I had too much luggage (female problem) – Seoul is approx $140 and Gatwick – London is about $200 – $300 so it’s all relative. i’m waiting for traffic from Shanghai airport to be horrific as well.

Cleo – for the record i’ve never been to Jo-berg that was SD story. Also the kidnapping was due to unpaid drinking bills! Anyway Luke is crossing to the Yoda side of the force! i’ll cheer up now!

TexaSDsays:

Just dee- How are you?

TexaSDsays:

TXSB- Ya i will contact her, I will be in tokyo i think Jan 3rd

TXSBsays:

Lisa:
Someone else will correct me if I’m wrong since I almost never travel…but since you’re just going to another state, I’m assuming you’ll just have a carry on…in which case it’s with you the entire time. You don’t “check it in”.

TexaSDsays:

Flo Rida- OMG you did a cab from Narita to Tokyo, thats just crazy lol… Did the cabby tell you about his dislikes of the chinese?

TXSBsays:

Muse:
Yes, it’s exciting to have so many sagittarians on here!

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Dee:
No…I didn’t include your comment on the e-mail since it was going through a 3rd party.

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TexaSD:
LOL….Glad you got it. I felt the need to pass on the “message”…now I’m at peace. BTW, AsianSB wrote me today….she’s still hoping you contact her! I’m ok….how’re you? How’s the remodeling going?

Lisa- Ok, I thought it was just me, it always throws me off, when I get into the blog, I don’t know when the last post was sometimes lol

Flo Ridasays:

NYC SB – welcome back – sorry about lost luggage. I got delayed for 3 hrs in Heathrow Terminal 5 because of mis-routed luggage.

Travelling is fun but I had a travelling bag stolen on a train from Utrech to Arnhem. SD had a camera and phone stolen in Cuba, I had a ipod, Treo, $500 stolen in Amsterdam, one of our group was taken hostage in Bangkok and we paid $5k ransom (long story), eaten alive by mosquitoes in the Mekong Delta, seeing abject poverty in Mexico City & Mumbai, $600 cab fare between Narita airport and Tokyo downtown, stomach intestinal issues in Mumbai, armored personnel carriers in Jo-berg – bomb scares in London, a close friend overdosing & dying when you’re out of town in New Orleans – travelling isn’t all upside.

Happy Birthday NYC SB – Have a cocktail on me!

PS – My new bed came in today…wink, wink!

Evening sugars!!!

NYC SB – Glad to see you are back (I changed my name from New SB in SB). Your SD sounds like a true gentleman…If you luggage doesn’t show something tells me you wouldn’t be without for long. I hope it does show up though.

SDN – Congrats on the deal. It still holds a charm for me too. It’s somewhat addictive and carries you through the lulls.

Travel? One afternoon in Canada when I was a teenager. One Caribbean cruise. And 9 days in Los Angeles/Orange County a while back, and that really should count as being out of the country!

Just Dee in NCsays:

Good evening, everyone. Wow, a lot gets missed in a day of not reading!

Interesting scenario up above. I tend to think that in a group of 100 college-age girls, there is going to be at least one who is an outsider in the group and doesn’t care what the other girls think, and she would be the one to take up the offer.

But Cleo, “dissipated”??? You seen Sean Connery lately? That man is better looking now than he was when he was 30-something. But I know what you mean. I’ve met more than one man who is within 3 or 4 years either way of my age, but he has looked to be at least my dad’s age.

NYC SBsays:

TXSB – no real plans… they lost my luggage on the flight back so im hoping it makes its return to me… tons of louboutins and pretty much most of my wardrobe there… so i will lay low and see the family… the party takes place on saturday

photogirl – he really does have a good heart… and he admited to having feelings for me… however… he is to busy for me to be able to develop anything meaningful… either way it was fun having him there for couple of days…

TX SB – I am 100% going to meet up with the gang… it will be fun… im looking forward to meeting everyone and seeing NY Gent and Miss CB again

My bday is tomorrow btw… a lot of november babies on blog

lisasays:

I check my account 3 times a day, this charge came in pending yesterday morning. I only get cash when I need to put money on my bus card or need laundry money and I always get it when I buy something at the store I work at, cash back. I only deal with the hassle of going to the bank once a month when I get my rent money.
Thanksgiving is going to suck big time, I just want to fastwind to friday when I’m finally off from work.

TXSBsays:

SDN:
Bye!

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Lisa:
It has happened to me once too. That’s why I always check my account every other day or so. Is it possible for you to carry on the cash you think you’ll use? For example: maybe carry $10-$15 daily on hand….that’s what I usually do. And if I know I’m going to buy groceries or shopping or something else, I’ll carry more.

TXSB – I have ONLY been to vegas (once) and to Europe (once…and I was one :P) so don’t feel too bad! Other than that I have not traveled at all lol..

lisasays:

Good afternoon everyone

Hi Villa. sorry to say I had candy for lunch it seems my debit card was compromised some way. I found an unauthorized charge for 20 dollars yesterday and contacted the bank, the blocked the charge but also cancelled my debit card, didint’ tell me though so I had an embarrasing moment at the store when I was trying to get something for lunch and some groceries to bring home. So I ate leftover halloween candy that was in the breakroom. Won’t have a new debit card till the end of next week and can’t get to the bank till friday so it sucks. I can’t figure out how it happened. Anyway if anyone finds a charge from PhaseV corporation out of Nj, beware, it’s a fake site that is used to verify that stolen debit card numbers are valid.

NC – I can’t imagine you creeping out the ladies. Even if you tried, you’d still come across as classy.

NYC SBsays:

Young Ebony – I was away for 2 weeks on a lovely vacation… seasoned blogger…

NYC SBsays:

So to share a bit of my vacation excitement… for the seasoned bloggers (as there are many fresh new names) Mr NYSE paid me a visit in my home town … it was so cool… i gave him a grand tour … he ended up meeting some of my family. My young cousin just got out of some very expensive ( to their standards) surgery and Mr NYSE bought him a lap top and unknown to us left him more than enough for all the bills to disappear…. he hid the money in the lap top bag… it was incredibly sweet… the price of the treatment was 2000 euros and he left him 3 with the instruction that the remainder be spent in whatever else he needs.

It was such an eye opening experience to see how people live there … ugh… still pretty shaken from the trip and in a good way

LOL…no working a deal and bringing it home is one of the best feelings in the world!

NC Gentsays:

In this economy, closing a big deal IS a big deal. Has it ever lost its thrill for you?

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

I have been to all three with NYC being my home away from home.

Toronto has great restaurants and is on par with NYC but I have to give the nod to NYC. So big, so many, 24 hours, etc…Vegas is good but not in the same league as Toronto and NYC. No offense to anyone just my preference.

Haven’t taken an SB to either one but my current is a performing artist and we are planning a trip to NYC. She hasn’t been there.

SD NEOhio (SDN)says:

Thanks NC…you are a gentleman.

I keep my sugar life discreet but figured the sugar community would appreciate and understand : )

NYC SB/RX8sb i haven’t been to vegas so i can’t comment…

i’ve been to nyc but not to enough places to really have a sense yet. it’s hard as a non-local to find the good stuff… most of the places i’ve been in nyc were heavy on atmosphere and not so heavy on great food… which is exactly where non-locals end up.

so i can’t compare properly.

i do know nyc is the only place i’ve been that compares. in europe there is less variety in the cities than in north america

what i like in toronto is the mix. you go down the danforth and in three blocks you can get (authentic) tapas, mexican, greek, japanese, thai, etc… and mixed in will be a japanese/jamaican fusion place and all you can eat sushi…

Yaz, Taz, NYC SB, Irish SB, Cleo (and anyone else I missed):
Hi!!!

TXSBsays:

NC Gent:
I’m sure you won’t/don’t creep out women!

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Photogirl:
Wow….I only have 1 # and that’s RSD! I bow down to you “oh the # getter”. You must show me your ways…. 😉

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2Chic:
Food again? You’re killing me…. 😉

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SG2:
Thank you for that scenario! I agree with cleo though. The specific University (rich girls vs. average/poor girls), and the age/”look” of the SD would make a huge differencen.

And to be honest, knowing the way many girls are….if 1 girl did respond and became this SDs SB, once the other girls found out, they will get jealous and antagonize her (ie. getting money to sleep with him).

2Chicsays:

Thanks Cleo. You are so lovely.

2Chicsays:

PH.Gr I am not originally from Danville, move out here from NC. I do love the area though. But looks like I will be relocating to the LA area soon. But I will still be visiting in the area. OOOh I forgot… I guess the move could all depend on how well a meeting goes with a POT in the Bay area now. I just agreed to meet him after the holiday.

I leave to refuel and miss all the banter!

VC – I think iv seen it about 3 times now! ‘Carlos not at the table’ so wrong but sooo funny!

photogirl: yeah but really, i get basically nothing from it. have been emailed by 4 men… one rude, one who sends the same email weekly, one i couldn’t call when i said i would who hasn’t answered my rescheduling email and one i had a lovely dinner with but who never contacted me again…

methinks that’s because i refused, categorically, to go back to his hotel with him after dinner.

2chic i in fact used words as suggested by someone on the blog.. so steal away

photogirlsays:

2chic – Danville? I went to Middle, Junior and 1 yr of H.S. there. I do miss the area and still keep in touch with a few friends from school. We may just know each other.

Midewest – The Ugly Truth was great, just watched that the other night. I still want to see The Hangover though.

YoungEbonySB says:
I would love to travel to another city to meet a SD. Never was given the offer though, I only been on here for a few days though. Everyone told me I need patience and im trying to take the advice

I agree YoungESB…patience indeed. I have been on SA for a few months. I have been extremely patient and maybe too picky for others taste. But I have great pot SD in my life right now who I have been talking with for a couple of months now. We will be meeting soon…just need to be a little more patient Wish you the best on your search.

TXSB says:
She has your phone # too?! Dang….the girl has skills if she got you to share all that with her!

lol….no my skills aren’t that good…wait…maybe it is. I do have a few blogger SDs #’s but not TexasSDs

SG2: yeah, i agree, someone would take him up on it for sure… the percentage is unknowable without having more details

NC Gentsays:

Hi Yaz – and I will bring your check (aka bribe) to the dinner party.

NCGent: given a choice i would far rather be attractive to a man than a boy… i imagine it’s the same for y’all.
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yaz10: actually i assume a lot of the SDs on the blog are attractive, they have a certain assurance

2Chicsays:

Yaz, hi dear. So good to see you.

SouthernGent2says:

Thanks for the feedback everyone. Just wanted to stimulate the brilliant minds in here a bit.

My question came from a conversation I had with a former the other day. She admitted to a fear of being caught and having to explain herself to her sorority. I told her that was understandable, but I also told her that if a decent SD walked into her sorority house and offered a legit deal, there would be someone to take him up on it. She fully agreed interestingly enough, because she did say that the girls in the house often have conversations about having SD’s (she just has to smile and keep her private thoughts to herself lol).

That was self-deprecating humor (and not very good) on my part Cleo. Nothing was taken personally Not to say I still wouldn’t creep out girls lol hopefully won’t creep out women

Yaz10says:

Cleo, NCGent is HOT!
back to lurk mode

Yaz10says:

test

NCGent: i was picturing someone who had utterly let themselves go… the kind of older man that would creep out girls like that. i haven’t seen your picture but your words certainly don’t come across that way…

NC Gentsays:

Thanks for the tip — Unfortunately I can do anything to remedy the “dissipation” that already has occurred!

funny you aren’t asking the question i would ask at all…
we can’t know how many girls will respond until we know things like:
1. is this sorority filled with rich girls? scholarship girls? nerds?
2. is the SD attractive?
3. how old is the SD in question…? they are far more likely to email if he’s in his early thirties and cute than if he is 55 and looks dissipated
4. is it an easy to remember email address?

Hello SDN, Asian SB, Rose, Irish SB, TXSB.

What I want to know is what SD has the kahunas to stand in front of 100 sorority girls making a pitch?

AznCanadian Rosesays:

Asian SB: I’m just saying that it happens,right?

There will always be some girls who will see things in a misguided way(competition in everything; beauty, popularity, even sleeping with the most # of guys…etc-Hell, I was in an all-girls dorm for 1st year, tons of weird stuff).

And this is a sorority of 100 girls- *shudders* too much estrogen in one place, man.

Irish SBsays:

Good morning everyone!

AznCanadian Rose – i was trying to work out the time difference there alright!

SG2 – Personally i dont think many would respond , who here on the blog who are well versed in the world of sugar would take an offer of an arrangement without A) getting to know the person B) not knowing if you are compatible and C) I dont think the SB would have much say in the arrangement.

I apologise if i misread the question or over analysed, its a good question though!

AsianSBsays:

Azn Canadian Rose: I don’t really like number 2, since it seems just so.. mean. But I guess, some can view it as a competition. I by all means, am a very sporty person and I love to win, but that just sounds like, blindsighting/misleading the other team/girls in this instance.

Young Ebony SB — I believe we still have an opening for the dinner if you are able to make it. Transportation and lodging are your responsibility.

TXSBsays:

Good Morning SDN, AsianSB, SG2, and TLG!

SouthernGent2says:

Food for thought and discussion, as I put this scenario into a former’s head last week in conversation:

SD walks into a sorority house on a college campus. Face to face, he meets the entire sorority in a meeting room where there are 100 sorority sisters in the room. He gets up and makes an arrangement proposal (just for this discussion, let’s say two visits per month, with an allowance of 2k per month) to the entire group of girls. He gives out an email address and says that if anyone is interested, you must reply by email within 48 hours. Will any of these girls reply? And if so, how many out of 100?

CASBsays:

Evening all.. glad to see I’m not the lone soldier this late for once. You all made me so hungry though, need to feed my tummy!

TXSBsays:

TexaSD:
I’m starving. But in order to get real food, I have to change clothes, walk to my car which is parked on the other side of my large apt. complex, and drive to the nearest fast food place. I’m just waaay too lazy for all that at 1:30 a.m. So for now, just munching on random crap that I can find in the kitchen.