I had to get this out somewhere... and you ladies are always dependable.

MIL just got news from her doctor that she has to start this treatment for her cancer in the next month or so or he's afraid that her cancer is going to be so aggressive that she won't make it. Basically gave her (without the treatment) an expectation to live another 3-4 months...and even with the treatment it's... well, unlikely she'll make it. Sort of 50/50.

We (DH, and BILs and myself) were with MIL when she got the news, heard it from the doctor's mouth and she's pretty devastated. Her insurance turned down the treatment but her doctor has gotten her in through some sort of law about treating terminal patients regardless. Anyway, BIL is firmly aware that she may pass away very soon. That she is extremely...EXTREMELY ill and has dumped his girlfriend's 3 year old off at her apartment for the ENTIRE weekend so he can go play chitty chitty bang bang with his girlfriend.

I am.... soooo peeved about this. MIL is just "too nice" to say no about babysitting... and I'm just furious! FURIOUS! I know I shouldn't be since she didn't have the backbone to say no, but really? He couldn't hire a babysitter or have someone who might not be dying as we speak, keeling over on the sidewalk, watch the kid?

Do you think that I have any sort of responsibility to "help" MIL out with the kid this weekend?

I don't want to, to be honest... the kid is a total brat... doesn't listen, cusses, doesn't share.. kicks my 3 year old DD (we ended playdates because of this) and I have a 1 year old as well..but GF's kid is fine with him... I'm just wondering... since my home is stable, and everyone is healthy if I have some kind of responsibility to call BIL and his GF and offer to take GF's DD for the remainder of the weekend so that MIL doesn't get over worked or potentially pass while she's watching this kid. She DOES have her 76 year old mother living across the hall, who checks in a few times a day...but I'm still concerned.

What is my responsibility here?

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That's what you get for bein' a dumb bitch, Bitch. - SimonsCat's DH (during better times) on a thread.

I agree with Kato. And maybe send your MIL over to DWIL. Just curious, is it even BIL's kid? Like is MIL even related to the child? If not, where are the child's biological grandparents? Why couldn't they watch the child if BIL and GF just HAD to have a kid-free weekend?

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Trashy and Slutty

How does one ralk? Is there swagger involved with a side of pimp limp? --camcamsmommy

They've done this before, actually. They went away about a month back for the weekend, left the 3 year old with MIL and I get a call from her at 5am one morning begging for me to take the kid for a day. 3 year olds have lots of energy... more than she has.

She's a chain smoker to boot, BLECH! Totally unhealthy environment. And...FTR, my kids are never at her apartment. YUCK!

Anyway, yes, BIL is a douche. I can't believe (especially knowing this) that he'd drop the kid off at MIL's. Insensitive jerk!

Okay, so could I get in trouble for taking the kid off MILs hands without the mom's permission? I don't want to do jail time haha

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That's what you get for bein' a dumb bitch, Bitch. - SimonsCat's DH (during better times) on a thread.

No, this kid is not related to BIL. GF had it with some other guy in another state that wants nothing to do with her or the kid. Nice huh? BIL met her through a friend.

The GF's mom does daycare for the girl 5 days a week while GF goes to work. I'm thinking they neglected to ask her either because she'd require to be paid or because she would say no since she already watches the kid weekly for 8+ hours a day.

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That's what you get for bein' a dumb bitch, Bitch. - SimonsCat's DH (during better times) on a thread.

Where is your DH during all this? He's the one who needs to get on the phone and set BIL straight. The last thing MIL needs right now is a bratty kid to take care of. Pick the kid up and have DH make the call to the love birds to come pick up the kid.