Sexual freedom for women is a big deal deal. A very big deal. And unfortunately, to some people my choice to take this freedom and choose to not have sex seems like a betrayal. Or perhaps, a sign that I’m not as free as I think.

It is critical to not just pay lip service to asexuality, but to actively learn about it; by talking to asexual people, by exploring resources we design for ourselves, by including us in discussions to take advantage of the experience we can bring to the table.

There is more than one type of sex, just as there is more than one type of love. For some reason, no one is examining types of sex. Sex is sex is sex. Only it’s not. Not for me. And there don’t appear to be words with which to explain this.

I’ve tried to make asexual characters more times than I can count, in an effort to do the whole ‘YEAH! BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD!’ thing (most recently: Chrome was originally going to be played as asexual) but as soon as I start getting some chemistry-like CR with another character I just drop it like it’s hot, because I can’t stop thinking about how hard those interactions are for me in Real Life and I just … don’t want to put my characters through that. This is fantasy, and in my fantasy, I can be some sembiance of ‘normal’.

I just think it’s kind of weird and maybe a bit stupid that it seems from my answers that people HAVE to have sexual characters, and that asexual characters in mainstream writing just plain don’t exist/get noticed, for however much that’s true. Maybe that’s my point.

“We are created to procreate.” What a simplistic view of humanity–or of life in general, of any species. This statement is not just acephobic; it also invalidates the love of couples who can’t procreate, like homosexuals, those who don’t fit into the heteronormative mold, or even just people who are infertile–it is like saying, because you have no desire to or cannot procreate, you are worthless. I like to think that my worth is located somewhere other than in my pants.

I’m reluctant to post and don’t have much to say. As long as Asexuality is considered to be part of the problem, these statistics will not be tracked. This is difficult for me because my mother, who was not Asexual died because America’s mental health system failed her.