He is 45 and is the primary carer of our three children (including a toddler) and his 88-year-old mother

How does he feel about this? Not what he says, but what are the actual feelings he feels inside? A lot of women would find this emotionally, if not physically, exhausting and men have a whole 'nother level of cultural sneering to deal with. Being man enough to be willing to do what his family needs is my kind of man, though.

Originally Posted by PaleoMum

He hates being so fat, hates his gut, feels ashamed and judged. Any help or advice, people? I love him and I want him to be happy and healthy.

Feeling bad, especially about yourself, is a *horrible* place to start when taking on a challenge.

Only you and he (actually, only he) can judge what the problem is, but I drink a lot of beer, eat moderate carb and the only thing that was holding me back - for 25 years - was where my head was.

Your poor fat husband. Too much advice and now it's going to become a choco carb/calorie rant. Good luck to him. I hope he finds something that works.

The only thing more obnoxious than obviously false CW statements revolving around the dangers of saturated fat and cholesterol is the blind paleotard statements around calories and carbohydrates. I'm guessing if a thread popped up about eggs being unhealthy due to cholesterol content it would blow up. Statements revolving around insulin fairy tales and the inherent fattening properties of grains should be equally negatively accosted, if not more as they insult the intelligence of the community as a whole.

Don't put your trust in anyone on this forum, including me. You are the key to your own success.

The only thing more obnoxious than obviously false CW statements revolving around the dangers of saturated fat and cholesterol is the blind paleotard statements around calories and carbohydrates. I'm guessing if a thread popped up about eggs being unhealthy due to cholesterol content it would blow up. Statements revolving around insulin fairy tales and the inherent fattening properties of grains should be equally negatively accosted, if not more as they insult the intelligence of the community as a whole.

Thanks everyone. I'm not sure about the recommendations to get tests done at the doctor - we're in the UK and you can't really get that sort of stuff done on the NHS. His doctor wants to put him on weight-loss pills (don't worry, there's no way we would go for that). We had a long chat about it last night with the upshot that he's either going to try some IF or maybe a combination of LC and calorie-control. I'm also going to keep working on him to take more exercise. Fingers crossed!

Thanks everyone. I'm not sure about the recommendations to get tests done at the doctor - we're in the UK and you can't really get that sort of stuff done on the NHS. His doctor wants to put him on weight-loss pills (don't worry, there's no way we would go for that). We had a long chat about it last night with the upshot that he's either going to try some IF or maybe a combination of LC and calorie-control. I'm also going to keep working on him to take more exercise. Fingers crossed!

I am no expert on thyroid tests , but you could do some more reading on it. My own situation
was that my regular general practitioner did standard blood tests for me and my thyroid blood
work turned up nothing. I went later to a doctor specializing in environmental medicine, and he
said my symptoms were classic of low thyroid function and that the standard thyroid blood test
was missing things in most people with low thyroid. He knew of a newer blood test protocol which
he wanted to do, so he had me tested and then put on thyroid medicine.
Since going on the thyroid medicine my energy surged and I began losing weight.
There may be some way your husband can benefit from this, its only a blood test .

PaleoMom, I am in the same situation, being in Canada, where the plethora of testing is simply not available, but one thing I would recommend is taking a look at Practical Paleo, and if any of the profile fits, trying out the food selections recommended for 30 days. All of the approaches are perfectly healthy, and if one of them shows signs of improvement over what you are doing currently, then that would be a good outcome. If it doesn't work, well, you are back to Square 1.

The only thing more obnoxious than obviously false CW statements revolving around the dangers of saturated fat and cholesterol is the blind paleotard statements around calories and carbohydrates. I'm guessing if a thread popped up about eggs being unhealthy due to cholesterol content it would blow up. Statements revolving around insulin fairy tales and the inherent fattening properties of grains should be equally negatively accosted, if not more as they insult the intelligence of the community as a whole.

Yours was the only advice I thought was worthwhile. But you couldn't leave it at that.