Nauseous and Anti-social

I’m secretly 10 weeks pregnant. My vomiting has become routine throughout the day. My friend for whom I was recently a bridesmaid keeps inviting me to things. She gets hurt if I don’t commit on FB right away. I’m hesitant to commit because I feel so lousy day to day. I literally take a bucket to my OB appointments. How do demonstrate I value our friendship without tipping my hand about my pregnancy?

I would tell her you’re under the whether, and that you are not able to comitt…if you feel better you would love to go. Besides, in 2 weeks or so you could be in the clear to spill the beans, if you wish.

She shouldn’t get “hurt” if you don’t commit on FB right away..that’s odd.

I’d be making up a lot of excuses…. such as… you already had plans, family is in town, spouse is working/not working, house renovations, money is tight/trying to save $, flu bug etc etc. I’d fib a little until you are ready to tell her 🙂

Would you consider telling her the truth at this point? If she knew how sick you were she could offer you more support and not be stressing you out and making you feel guilty! I personally think its ok to tell close family and trusted friends before 12 weeks because I wouldn’t want to suffer alone in silence if something went wrong. There is also very little difference in miscarriage risk between 10 and 12 weeks, so I personally would tell her the truth why you can’t make plans with her so she is not insulted.

@beebot: +1. I would consider letting her in on the secret. It will make things immensley easier on you, and will give her a reason to be supportive as opposed to hurt. If you are not ready to share the news with her, for whatever reason, I would tell her you have not been feeling well and need to get some rest, and that you will let her know when you’re feeling better and able to do things. This will get her off your back without actually lying to her.