songbird. yes it comes down to preference ultimately... your's, your peers, casting directors, etc etc etc. in the world of talent and originality, quality always comes before quantity hands down. but it's your decision. if you are drawn to getting them simply to enhance yourself, then you need to decide if it's worth it. if you're doing it in an attempt to get closer to perfection.. well, i personally think (from dealing with my own perfectionist tendencies) plastic surgery is not the route to take. i think it could become an obsession and that's just not healthy. i used to look at before and after photos too but i stopped because it was contributing to unnecessary thoughts about my boobs, and i've since realized there is much more that needs and deserves my attention. i'm just sayin..

I think I will still struggle but I really do feel that I am in the process of accepting myself. I've just always wanyed to be "perfect."

As far as the acting thing goes, I actually am not planning to pursue films but live theatre. The thing is that even away from Hollywood, so many women get implants to make themselves more noticeable and it's hard not to want to do that too or risk being unnoticed. But I am trying to focus on the fact that most of the time the real porn star looking chicks (and I think there's at least one in every show) end up getting the parts that are fun but cliche and typecast based on looks not real talent.

And not to be too tacky but do you know what else has helped me recently? Going onto plastic surgery websites and looking at the before and after photos. Especially the breast reduction ones, because then it's easy to see that the grass isn't so green on the other side. A lot of the big boobs out there are just bizarrely huge and floppy! Some don't even look too great after surgery. All that and back ache too - no thanks! LOL Also the pictures of fake ones look good but so very plastic.

Then I did some soul searching and realized that I don't really want implants, i just want to feel good about myself finally and that actually even with implants I would still hate my breasts because then they would just be fake!

that is exactly the same thing i struggled with in my early twenties. i did not want to sell out and go against my beliefs, knowing that getting implants is (IMO) a complete waste of time, energy and money. and it's totally feeding into the misconception that in order for a woman to be considered attractive or desirable she must fit this virtually impossible, unnatural, unrealistic ideal of the female form. i thought the same thing, if i gave into getting them, i would probably hate myself more for being (what i perceived to be) weak.

re: acting. what type of acting do you want to get into? what type of movies? what type of roles? i think that is what you should consider. you'll notice a lot of natural looking women in many foreign or independent films and such because the audience they are entertaining is a much more intelligent/creative/sophisticated/cultured bunch. even still, it depends on what the producer is looking for. if she is looking for a busty woman, well then you wont be chosen for that role.

instead of noticing all the well endowed women in the industry, start to notice ALL the petite women who may be a bit more demure and inconspicuous. they can and are just as successful (see: kate hudson)

I am brand new to this lounge and I knew this would be the group for me. I have been struggling so much with how small my chest is lately, that until yesterday, I was sure that I was going to just get implants. Fortunately, I found this site, read some of the threads and realized there are plenty of other people in the same boat. Then I did some soul searching and realized that I don't really want implants, i just want to feel good about myself finally and that actually even with implants I would still hate my breasts because then they would just be fake!

So now hopefully I can start some dialogue with other women who are so much more than a pair of breasts!

Also I believe it was karategirl who posted the story about the actress who had her implants taken out. I just want to say thank you for that because I too am an actress and have always felt like having bigger breasts would suddenly make me more marketable. But I can see now that it wouldn't actually help me get more positive attention but I'd probably end up with some pretty negative attention and be offered more sleazy roles. Plus, I would hate to go through all that and then decide to just be natural later anyway.

karategrrl, when i was 20, i thought i might use the pill to get my tits to grow so i got my nurse practicioner to put me on the highest estrogen dose possible. it only succeeded in making me an INSANE person and my breasts didn't change one bit. i think the girls who grow when they go on bc maybe weren't done developing or their development got interrupted for whatever reason. me? i'm dealing with genetics, plain and simple. my mom always had nice, full C's, and i remember the moment of realization when i looked at my dad's sisters and my grandma (who are little waifs like keira knightley). i was like, oh fuck, those are the genes i inherited. waddya gonna do? i soldier on with the support of my bust sistahs, my friends and my lovahs.

lux, me and sr. monkey are doing just fine, thank for asking, i'm counting down the days until i'm out of the tropics and back in his arms (about six weeks, aargh!)

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"To lose everything at the edge of such a glorious eternity is far sweeter than to win by plodding through a cautious, painless, and featureless life."

I'm checking your posts after not doing so for awhile, so forgive me while I touch on a lot of things that have been said.

Yes, Victoria's Secret sucks. My biggest beef with them is how they show their (already well-endowed) models wearing all sorts of padding, push-up, etc. in their bras. THEY DON'T NEED IT! And it only makes them look utterly ridiculous--I mean, boobs pushed up so far they almost touch your chin??? Cripes. I usually toss the catalog straight in the trash when it comes in, and go look at my collage of small-busted hotties instead.

I like the wrap top as well. V-necks look really good on small-boobers like me--more so than round necks, I've found. Almost all my tops are v-neck. Apparently, a lot of folks think V-necks are supposedly only for large-breasted women trying to show off cleavage. Just not so! Wrap tops are especially flattering for us gals!

Okay, why am I the ONLY woman on Earth, it seems, whose breasts did NOT get larger when she went on the pill? I mean, the first couple of weeks, they puffed up a tad and I was jumping for joy and checking them every damn day...then they stabilized and went right back, where they have stayed the 2 years since. Curses. I griped to my gyno about this and he kind of jokingly said, "Well, I can put you on something stronger," but they are working just fine and I don't want to fuck with my health for the sake of bigger boobs.

Someone wanted to know where to find good-fitting tops. I don't know if there's an H&M near you, but I've had terrific luck there, particularly with tops--nice and tailored, bust-flattering and womanly. I NEVER wore button-down shirts before because they always made me look manly and the boobs disappear. Not these! And their prices are reasonable for what you get--good quality.

most my bikini tops i've had have been halter neck type (i've no idea what you call them). i like them because they lift my boobs from my armpits and you don't have to worry about the straps falling. but i think i should try a bandeau top, because they're so cute!

my mom always says, that it was freaky beeing pregnant/breastfeeding, because she suddenly got the things on the front that were always on her way. i would imagine jumping from a to c is a bit of a shock for anyone.

i used to have this awesome baby blue bandeau bikini that i LOVED and now the top has vanished. i wore that thing since i was 16. sigh. they do look ever so hot on ladies like us. that is a really cute top, anonymoose, thanks for sharing!

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"To lose everything at the edge of such a glorious eternity is far sweeter than to win by plodding through a cautious, painless, and featureless life."

I recently discovered that shirts that have this kind of cut on top http://media.kohls.com.edgesuite.net/is/im...mp;op_sharpen=1 actually look good on small gals. I didn't think it would because of the v-neck but the way the fabric criss crosses up there and the ties that many of them have under the bust actually shows off what we have rather nicely! Even more on the upside, since most of us don't really have much in the way of cleaveage they don't have more boobage sticking out than would be appropriate for work, they just look really nice! I'm just excited about my discovery and wanted to pass it along

Knorl for some reason bandeau tops look fucking fabulous on small breasts. That just reminded me of bra shopping with my friend recently for strapless bras and I tried on a bandeau and she said she couldn't wear them because her boobs were too big. She then had to try on something with underwires and padding galore so she could get support. So every time I feel bad about how I look I just remember that I don't have to wear those horrible underwire bras ( I hate them! ) or even a bra at all.

hi small busted busties,i haven't been in the lounge for quite some time now and wanted to stop by and see what's going on. i wanted to relate how funny it is that at normally 34AAs, for the first time (i'm 6 weeks post partum), I've got 34B-Cs and now it just feels like they get in the way! it doesn't help that i'm breastfeeding obviously, so they are leaky and sore somewhat, but I was laying on my stomach and my boob got squished. obviously, i don't know if normally bigger boobed gals feel this way, but possibly it's just when you've got a particular way of moving in the world, all of a sudden, there are these things on your chest.

but i love that being tiny boobed to begin with, i just have perky boobs now. and you really get the sense of what these things are on your chest - to nourish your lovable new beebob baby! all of a sudden (not as if it didn't occur to me before) there is something even more shallow about women with their fake silicone silos. i do respect ppl's choices about their bodies, but that's just how it sort of feels - that if you can't do anything with them other than look at them, well what's the point?

ps. bathing suits. i just bought a new one. it's bandeau top and small bottoms... white with blue trim and fishnet overtop. no padding really but because of the cut it gives the illusion of more curves up top.

dj biz: glad to hear you've met a rad guy who finds everything about you sexy.. makes you feel so much better about yourself and about getting down and dirty with him. i know when i am comfortable with someone, i can be less inhibited. and that makes it more fun for everyone. luckily, i've only dated one guy when i was 18 who told me i should get my boobs done. other than that guys have been more than content with my perky titties. in fact, many of them have told me i could be a stripper if i wanted, so that tells me they think i'm sexy despite the fact i dont fit the feminine ideal. they are more than willing to offer compliments when they come to mind. but again i think it's the type of guys i date. they're real passionate and expressive and like me for who i am. what i've learned is the more sure you are of yourself, the more guys will be attracted to your style.

this whole suicide girls trend just proves that guys like lots of different things about women, but mostly they just like women. i've said it before and i'll say it again, unfortunately i think women are more critical of other women's bodies than men are of women. i think if more women challenge the ideal of feminity and accept themselves as they are, we'd start to notice that carry over to the media and into society as a whole. i think if more women realized how immature it is to determine their worth based on their bodies, they'd be more successful and overall contented with their lives.

Some triangle tops look good on me, others, horrid. I have one great bikini that is made of a thicker crochet material. Because it's thick it doesn't pucker or look weird when it gets wet, and I tie it real tight halter style so I almost have cleavage, and everything stays put.

just got back from an utterly amazing vacation with my now, after some serious discussion, boyfriend. i had my buddies back in the states mail me some cute bra and panty sets since all my underwear here is for working in the field (read, stained and full of holes) and not appropriate for long nights of hot jungle sex. but, of course, the bras they sent me were super padded and my boy said the sweetest thing, 'sure, they look all fancy, but they feel like shit.' he kept trying to feel me up and getting frustrated that he couldn't get to 'the soft, tender part,' fast enough. he ended up just poking at the part of my breasts that were being pushed up at the top and reaching in under the cups. in the end it was 'take that silly thing off and let me see the real, gorgeous you.' long story short, he adores my breasts and can't keep his hands off them. i've been with guys in the past that just skipped over them entirely. not this one, he makes me feel confident and sexy, thank goodness!

yes, yes, yes, knorl and sassafrass, fuck vickies. and if buying a bra that gives you more shape makes you feel confident (regardless of false advertising) then you should do it! knorl, totally with you on the type of guys, if he gets pissed off or disappointed that you're wearing a water-bra, he's obviously way too superficial to be worthwhile.

as for being tiny on top and more blessed on the bottom (pun intended), do y'all get totally frustrated shopping for bikinis? this makes me insano, especially when the mix and match sizes selections cost $20 more than the pre-paired ones. ugh. i just bought a super skimpy costa rican suit, mix and match, for only $15. of course, it will probably melt once i get it in the ocean, but it looks good.... i recommend tiny tiny, tight triangle tops for us, at least for my A's, it makes them look super hot, almost, dare i say, modelesque.

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"To lose everything at the edge of such a glorious eternity is far sweeter than to win by plodding through a cautious, painless, and featureless life."

false advertising ha. yeah. i could be accused of that, and i dont really care. waterbras and turkey fillets are some great inventions. i figure, any guy who i'm gonna let feel me up isnt a guy who likes me for my breasts anyway so i'm not too worried about it. it's our little secret.

re: grown up clothes. that's a tough call. i was working in sales for a while so i had to buy a bunch of suits.. and i could not find any OTR that fit me well. i never had the money to have them tailored so i would be swimming in the size 4 suit coats. it looked "nice" but i just felt like i was wearing my mommy's clothes.

re: viki secret bras. hate them. not only do they not fit right, they do not hold up long either.

You all seem to have the same body I do! My measurements are like 33-26-37 or something like that!Do any of you all have a hard time finding shirts that fit you? I want to dress like the adult I am, but since I am so small on top (and have a long torso and stick arms), I can only fit into the junior section stuff! does anyone know of a place (that is CHEAP!) that makes nice clothes for peaple like me?

dj-bizmonkey: YES!! I hate Victoria's Secret, too. Their stuff does not fit well. Not the panties, not the bras. Uhg. It's like it's all designed by a man who has no concept of how the female body really works. I feel the same way about padding: sometimes I want a little---just enough to shield my nipple-nubs from the world---but not enough to be accused of false advertising. They're hard to find...