Struggling at Work? Try Building a Better Working Relationship With Your Boss.

When leading a team, it’s natural to want to focus most of your attention on them. After all, they are the ones you are meant to be supporting, motivating and developing.

At Thoughtful Leader, I receive emails from managers around the world who are struggling with various issues. A common problem I’ve observed is that many leaders are getting stuck because of the working relationship they have with their own bosses.

A Poor Working Relationship With Your Boss Limits Your Effectiveness

Unfortunately, we can’t just forget about our bosses, even when things seem to be going well. The working relationship we have with our boss sets the tone for what we can achieve with our teams.

A Poor Working Relationship Results in Micromanagement

Micromanagement is a common problem. If your boss is constantly monitoring your actions and your calendar, and sticking their head into your business every day, you’ve got a problem.

Firstly, this isn’t all your fault. Some bosses have a tendency to micromanage more than others. You might not be able to fix this completely, but you can reduce its impact.

Often when a boss micromanages you, it’s because they are missing something. There is something they aren’t getting from you which is causing them discomfort. The problem is, many bosses won’t tell you what that is directly, and they leave you to figure it out.

The root cause of micromanagement is usually because your boss:

Doesn’t think that you have the skills or capability to do the job; or

You can’t help it if your boss is an insecure person. But they are missing something from you which is reinforcing this, and your life will be easier if you can help them feel more secure.

A Poor Working Relationship Stops You From Making Change in Your Team

One of the most common problems is that leaders are prevented from making changes in their team, because their boss stops it from happening.

You might have a disruptive, poorly performing team member. It’s clear that you need to performance manage them.

But guess what? Your boss happens to have a good relationship with this person, and you can’t do anything.

Or perhaps you want to bring a new person into your team, but your boss doesn’t think you need it.

Maybe you’d like to introduce a new tool to improve productivity in your team, but your boss won’t approve it (and they need to approve everything!)

Before you know it, you are not working independently. You’re having everything checked twice by your own manager.

With no autonomy, this almost defeats the purpose of your role in the first place.

How to Improve Your Working Relationship With Your Boss and Release the Shackles

Improving your working relationship with your manager can be quite simple. Sometimes, you need to compromise and adjust your focus from your team for a moment.

The magic question in the workplace continues to be “What’s in it for me?” and your boss is no different than anyone else. Below are three simple steps you can take to try to improve your working relationship.

There are probably a lot of things you want to do with your team. Perhaps you want to work more efficiently, or introduce new ways of doing things.

This is all good. But only if the goals you are aiming for are also going to help your boss in some way. Otherwise, your boss will not see them as important things to be focusing on.

You need to be helping your boss get to where they want to go. If your team goals are at odds with theirs, then you won’t get any traction.

If you want to use a new task-tracking system to improve the visibility of work in your team, how does this help your manager, and why should they care? Does this help them get to where they want to go?

Your goals and your manager’s don’t need to be perfectly in line, but there must be at least some common ground. Because that’s when your team is going to seem the most helpful.

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How have you improved your working relationship with your boss? And what struggles have you had? Tell me your stories below and help other leaders!

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