It’s important to choose your spouse wisely. But you’re already married! When your relationship goes sideways it’s easy to feel as though things would be wonderful if you were just married to Mr. or Ms. Right instead of the uncaring, miserable, blockhead of a person that is your spouse. You ask, Did I marry the wrong person?

You’re a woman feeling rejected. Part of you believes it shouldn’t bother you so much, but it does. You thought things would be different being married. Every now and then it’s really good. In those moments he makes you feel so cherished and special. Why can’t he do that all the time? But those good moments are few and far between. Am I always going to feel unimportant and lonely?

“He hasn’t touched me in years.”

She fought back the tears in saying it. She had learned to live with her husband’s physical and emotional distance, but her heart still longed and needed to be wanted, desired, and touched sexually. What do you do when your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you?

Hear the word “submission” and “marriage” in the same sentence and you probably feel something visceral rising up inside your soul. Your heart may explode with anger, terror, or guilt, or collapse in hopelessness and resignation. Surely that’s not what God meant when He used those words together in the New Testament. So what should submission in Christian marriage look like?