tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post554742447830959070..comments2016-12-04T07:46:33.595-06:00Comments on People I Want to Punch in the Throat: I am the World's Okayest MomJen Piwtpitthttps://plus.google.com/100873754701380222226noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-8649552864015166592014-11-10T12:35:35.987-06:002014-11-10T12:35:35.987-06:00Um, I&#39;m one of those women &quot;relying&quot;...Um, I&#39;m one of those women &quot;relying&quot; on my husband to make the &quot;oodles&quot;. I put him through grad school by working as a nanny. That&#39;s why I &quot;get to&quot; stay at home - because we spent years working towards that. Maybe the women you&#39;re referring to are horrible people, but it&#39;s not necessary to insult SAHMs in general. It&#39;s really hard to be supportive of working moms who feel the need to bash us at-home moms. Not everyone is able to be an automotive mechanic OR a SAHM. Face it - not a lot of women could be at home with 5 kids and still be successful, sane, and organized enough to run the household at the same time. Many of us at-homers are just as busy and highly skilled as you are. Your kids should be proud of you for doing what you can to give them a better life - not because you are making money. I don&#39;t respect my at-home dad any less than my working mom - they both were awesome parents. OAMs come in &quot;working&quot; and &quot;at-home&quot; varieties, BTW. Maybe us mellow mamas should stick together instead of claiming that either having a career or staying at home is something your kids should admire.JuniperSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02200070408917287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-11606486163757413802014-11-10T12:18:32.397-06:002014-11-10T12:18:32.397-06:00If you are simply kind to her and interested in he...If you are simply kind to her and interested in her life, you are already better than 90% of stepparents. Just be a friend and someday you will suddenly realize that you have become a mom. :-)JuniperSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02200070408917287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-10242552935594400722014-11-10T12:16:10.848-06:002014-11-10T12:16:10.848-06:00I just snorted coffee through my nose. Yeah, it w...I just snorted coffee through my nose. Yeah, it won&#39;t get done. LOLJuniperSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02200070408917287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-17424669290517913032014-11-10T12:13:55.145-06:002014-11-10T12:13:55.145-06:00LOL I&#39;ll take my popsicle-stained, tangled-ha...LOL I&#39;ll take my popsicle-stained, tangled-hair kiddos any day because they are *actually* happy, not &quot;photo happy&quot;.JuniperSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02200070408917287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-29647250616226286542014-11-10T12:12:38.544-06:002014-11-10T12:12:38.544-06:00As a SAHM, I heartily endorse this sentiment! We ...As a SAHM, I heartily endorse this sentiment! We all need to let go of the guilt.JuniperSunshinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02200070408917287691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-76905754757503680532014-01-01T19:16:22.562-06:002014-01-01T19:16:22.562-06:00It&#39;s like we&#39;re the same person!It&#39;s like we&#39;re the same person!Keara Cochranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14806646796969321176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-40256311392296236752013-12-11T00:16:21.921-06:002013-12-11T00:16:21.921-06:00Since she was 3, my kid has known that elves are i...Since she was 3, my kid has known that elves are invisible. Every time the vents kick out hot air (thereby disturbing the dust bunnies) I&#39;ll say &quot;OMG did you see that freaking elf move?! What were you up to? It better be giving a good report you spy elf!&quot; Then she&#39;ll spend 5 minutes searching for said elf. Once she even took out a butterfly net out of her toy bin to capture it. No way will I ever spend $30 to buy one of those generic ones from the store, it would ruin the magic.SMiracleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17569883051447779915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-46746353481340891782013-12-05T07:40:33.132-06:002013-12-05T07:40:33.132-06:00I just came across your blog, and I must say, you ...I just came across your blog, and I must say, you have got it all right! I&#39;m a working mom and it&#39;s very hard to find time for the normal things in life, without worrying about how I&#39;m going to create memories doing cute(but time consuming) traditions. Honestly, because I don&#39;t fit the profile of stay at home mom who has all these ideas of parenting grandeur, sports lessons, dance lessons, elf on the shelf making freaking cookies at 3 am and still manage to wake up as susie delightful. I don&#39;t have the time to bake 4000 cupcakes for my kids class, I can&#39;t get in to be helper parent, and I see my kids teachers once, maybe twice a year. In the town I live in, a lot of moms get to stay at home because their husbands make oodles of money in the oil field, and they tend to lord that over others, thinking that because they can buy the best brands and give their kids wonderful memories they are better than me. I&#39;ve dealt with the guilt of that for a long time, but honestly, instead of being that mom who relies on her husband to make the oodles, I will be the one making the dough. My kids know I work my ass of for them, and they have everything they need, albeit not everything they want. If they want something they have to earn it. I often feel less than adequate as a mom, and after reading this, I thank you that I won&#39;t feel that way anymore. I hope that when my kids are older they will know that their mom busted her butt to become what not a lot of women could be, an automotive mechanic despite all the old fashioned stereotypes that hover around women in trades. Thanks for this, you made my day K LaFountainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00310885384240784010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-75271008857959475832013-12-03T12:39:48.233-06:002013-12-03T12:39:48.233-06:00This is a great post. Glad I found your blog. I do...This is a great post. Glad I found your blog. I don&#39;t repost those &quot;repost if you love your son/daughter&quot; things on Facebook because I don&#39;t care if Facebook knows I love my kids. I love my kids and they know it. That is the most important thing.<br />You and Jenny Lawson make my day! Mr. Hendrixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07363458645411103051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-38297752771249019902013-11-17T10:47:47.812-06:002013-11-17T10:47:47.812-06:00Exactly. Let memorable moments happen naturally. T...Exactly. Let memorable moments happen naturally. Those are the best memories not manufactered ones.Sparklehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14146737413519671479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-75044842950429773632013-11-13T22:52:27.549-06:002013-11-13T22:52:27.549-06:00Ha! That&#39;s awesome :-)Ha! That&#39;s awesome :-) Laura Schmidthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06830232928240545054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-21937073635899740862013-11-13T19:46:48.022-06:002013-11-13T19:46:48.022-06:00You know, sometimes I feel out of the loop with mo...You know, sometimes I feel out of the loop with moms these days. I don&#39;t feel guilty as a mom, unless I lose my temper with my kids, in which case I apologize and move on. I don&#39;t feel harried - and I have 4 children under 5. I don&#39;t always love being a SAHM but I don&#39;t hate it either. I know we are lucky and our lives are relatively calm, even boring sometimes. I guess we keep it simple and I don&#39;t find a lot of other people who do. Glad to have found one in you! Great post!Nicole S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04073857953370420287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-63917343214646172072013-11-13T15:24:59.691-06:002013-11-13T15:24:59.691-06:00I love this. I am currently pregnant with my first...I love this. I am currently pregnant with my first child, and I had dreams of grandeur of being one of these &quot;Best Moms&quot; starting with pregnancy. Well, 22 weeks in and I have already failed miserably!! I was going to eat healthy and exercise daily and take all the classes, etc... So far all I really want to eat are carbs, I have an aversion to most things healthy (esp things like kale and quinoa, which I used to like), and just walking from the parking lot into work makes my uterine fibroids start to hurt.<br /><br />It took me 4 1/2 yrs and a round of IVF to get pregnant, and I used to get so annoyed when women complained about being uncomfortable while pregnant. I always said if I ever got pregnant, I&#39;d be so damn grateful I would never utter a single complaint. Well, balls to that. I&#39;m just over half way there and I&#39;m ready for this shit to be over. This pregnancy has helped me see that though I can make all these plans for all these grand things for my child, life is going to happen the way it wants to, and I&#39;m just along for the ride. So I may say I&#39;m going to make all his baby food with organic fruits and veggies, and I&#39;m going to read to him every day and teach him how to read before he&#39;s 3, and our holidays will be nothing but magic and glitter and cookies and lights (I am currently kinda crafty, but I&#39;m sure that will change), but I am learning very quickly that though those are all noble aspirations, they probably won&#39;t happen. At least, not the way I want them to. <br /><br />What I do know is I already love this little guy more than life itself, and I will do whatever I need to in order to make him happy. But I also know that I am not perfect, and that life doesn&#39;t usually follow my plans. So as long as he knows how much I love him, and he feels safe with me, then we&#39;ll all turn out just fine. Even if that means the occasional happy meal, store bought cookies for xmas, a skipped birthday or holiday photo shoot, or not always getting everything he wants. We&#39;re all OK!! :)<br />Sorry that was so long, I can be a long winded bitch sometimes. lolchunkydunkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15214444050075044421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-60538640128311488042013-11-13T15:20:33.263-06:002013-11-13T15:20:33.263-06:00This made me laugh... just wanted to &quot;Like&qu...This made me laugh... just wanted to &quot;Like&quot; it. ;)Serena Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08181700257270329515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-43808728402815539892013-11-13T15:05:43.552-06:002013-11-13T15:05:43.552-06:00Hahahaha!! Love it!Hahahaha!! Love it!chunkydunkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15214444050075044421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-40163275006251274632013-11-13T14:50:14.824-06:002013-11-13T14:50:14.824-06:00The idea of &quot;creating memories&quot; is silly...The idea of &quot;creating memories&quot; is silly. You cannot predict what anyone will remember, no matter how special you think something is. Try to remember your childhood Christmases and see what sticks out to you now - 20, 30, 40 years later. Likely it&#39;s not much. Erin Neffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05624898713672688322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-56168890268942887952013-11-13T14:47:19.179-06:002013-11-13T14:47:19.179-06:00I agree - I also will not be doing Elf on the Shel...I agree - I also will not be doing Elf on the Shelf for my daughter b/c she is an infant, and I&#39;m not committing to that crap for the next 12+ years until she figures it out! And if Grandma or Grandpa buy her one, that elf will stay at their house :) Erin Neffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05624898713672688322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-57936766197615726972013-11-13T14:12:41.845-06:002013-11-13T14:12:41.845-06:00Love this! Our kids are only young once and the me...Love this! Our kids are only young once and the memories we choose to create will stay with them forever! ♡tyla francishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16352921581853525273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-68755666117062368662013-11-13T13:45:34.646-06:002013-11-13T13:45:34.646-06:00would you like to come to my cookie exchange this ...would you like to come to my cookie exchange this year?Mike Regionehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10401948114884926344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-33177229054629669802013-11-13T10:55:34.374-06:002013-11-13T10:55:34.374-06:00I&#39;m a new step mom to a 15 year old and I have...I&#39;m a new step mom to a 15 year old and I have been living in that fog of guilt of screwing her up.<br /><br />No more.<br /><br />I suck at this mom crap. And that&#39;s ok. I don&#39;t abuse or neglect her. I love her more than life but that doesn&#39;t make me suck less.<br /><br />But I&#39;m with you. Too much of this holiday crap can get old quick.<br /><br />OK is perfectly good enough for me. You&#39;re the bomb. =)Carrie - ASassyRedhead.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01630927332651091393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-20623952409364312892013-11-13T10:00:42.705-06:002013-11-13T10:00:42.705-06:00We&#39;re about to adopt our first baby and this c...We&#39;re about to adopt our first baby and this could not come at a better time! Thank you for this post - I&#39;ll refer to it often.Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12381424960731634285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-74426392143940007222013-11-13T09:26:49.487-06:002013-11-13T09:26:49.487-06:00AMEN! Well said, JenAMEN! Well said, JenMaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14541408836278969022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-46846810367084296702013-11-13T09:11:14.038-06:002013-11-13T09:11:14.038-06:00I&#39;m not even a mom but I tell my sisters thing...I&#39;m not even a mom but I tell my sisters things like this all the time. They are not doing their children any favors rushing here to there stressed out trying to get them to activities while stuffing fast food in their mouths in an effort to get SOME food in them before a ball game or dance practice. My mom was like you and I thought she was the world&#39;s greatest mom. :) YOU are the one doing it right. Tara aka Bunnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06620854717779501239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-75321220997293622622013-11-13T08:30:06.041-06:002013-11-13T08:30:06.041-06:00&quot;Okayestness&quot; sounds like the perfect wo...&quot;Okayestness&quot; sounds like the perfect word--and the perfect goal to me. Thanks for telling it like it SHOULD be, Jen. Meredithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16807400887814224333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5984487997306130330.post-79985479334325154602013-11-13T08:16:58.597-06:002013-11-13T08:16:58.597-06:00Amen to it all! Step one: break up with women who ...Amen to it all! Step one: break up with women who think Pinterest is a how-to manual for Excellent Mommying. Step two: cocktails! That is my new two-step manual for happy parenting.KrisThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04565434898255670918noreply@blogger.com