Single Expat Women In The UAE Are Lonely!!!

I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!

The following article appeared in Gulf News today (Jan. 10, 2008)

Despite the 1:2 ratio loneliness remains a sticking point for single women in UAE

By Dina El Shammaa, Staff Reporter
Published: January 09, 2009, 23:48

Abu Dhabi: Loneliness is a big issue in the UAE for single women from their 20s to 40s in addition to career challenges and the fact that they hardly have any free time.

For Francys Arias C, 25, a production engineer from Venezuela, mall-hopping, catching up with friends and roaming the streets freely without fear, are just a few of the activities women can enjoy in Abu Dhabi.

"But loneliness is a big issue, despite the fact there are more men than women here," she says.

However, she does love the privileges women enjoy in this male-dominated society. Privileges such as women-only queues.

When Arias first settled in Abu Dhabi, she felt the mix of cultures would help her find a suitable partner.

However, after two years, she started to realise that Abu Dhabi is a "transitional place" which made her feel like "an old woman at a train station watching passers-by come and go."

"It's routine life," she said. "Waking up at seven, working for eight hours, burning calories at the gym, then going back home. It is a hard and competitive, hard world. It can be boring, but this is the price you pay as a female who has the opportunity to save money and live a high standard of living, which one cannot easily find in another country," she said.

Arias is invited to at least two farewell parties a month.

"The chance of finding a single guy and starting a relationship is next to nil," she says.

When Filipina engineer Cheryl Trugillo, 27, decided to move to Abu Dhabi, she was convinced she would grow professionally. She enjoys being part of a multi-cultural society. Her biggest challenge is finding a life partner.

"Meeting people is not hard, but finding real friends who are not transitional is difficult. I think of my life here as temporary, and feel that if a girl finds a partner these days, she's simply lucky. If not, then she only focuses on her career and enjoys the life this country has to offer," she says.

Born and raised in Abu Dhabi and now working as an engineer, Abeer Karameh who is Lebanese and 24, feels that it is not only singles who suffer, but also married women, who face torrid times being "hit on" by men.

Women with demanding jobs have no time to enjoy their lives. "As for women who have a 9 to 5 job, these are the ones that need to fill their time with activities, which are costly."

German national Jelena Bundesmann, 45, is head of business administration in one company, and feels that life in Abu Dhabi is different than that in Europe, in spite of it being open minded, multi-cultural and safe. This is her first time to live and work in an Arab country.

"I have worked in an international company for many years. I have to say that Abu Dhabi has so far brought me no surprises as a white European, non-Muslim woman. I feel accepted and welcomed here," she said.

She appreciates the time one can spend at various sports and hobbies. "I love yoga and fitness offers here, and I use them!"

Annaliese Regan Adelaide, an Australian aged 32, feels that living in Abu Dhabi requires patience, understanding and the need to be respectful of local and various cultures.

Independent women

Single women everywhere know that being single is fun. Here's why?

You don't have to fight for the remote control

You have control over what you spend

There will be no shoes in the middle of the room to trip over at six in the morning.

You don't have anyone saying, "You're not going to wear that, are you?'"

You can have as many mood swings as you want

You have the freedom to choose.

You can sleep peacefully without any snoring to keep you awake and irritate you.

Dubai Rose wrote:I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!

The cut? Please clarify.

I know one lady who throws herself at money men or blokes with high powered salaries - sorry - jobs and she isn't getting anywhere, apart from being shagged left right and centre.

I told her to forget money, go for someone who's OK and hope for the best.

Chocoholic wrote:Well yes, if you're a superficial, shallow person only after money etc then you're never going to find any decent guys are you.

I'm really sad, I had the most amazing date with an awsome guy, got along like a house on fire. Sadly he's leaving Dubai - damn it!

By saying “they don’t make the cut” I didn’t mean they don’t make a lot of money….!!!???

Making the cut is an American idiomatic expression meaning they don’t meet one’s expectations. Just like also saying “they don’t make the grade.”

I keep forgetting that this a multinational community and people here don not always understand American idioms!

The last criterion for me in evaluating any prospect is probably how much money he makes. I make plenty of money myself, with a big salary and bonuses, so money is not, and has never been, an issue for me.
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Dubai Rose wrote:I agree. There are a lot of men in Dubai, but the vast majority of them just don’t make the cut!!

The cut? Please clarify.

I know one lady who throws herself at money men or blokes with high powered salaries - sorry - jobs and she isn't getting anywhere, apart from being shagged left right and centre.

I told her to forget money, go for someone who's OK and hope for the best.

Chocoholic wrote:Well yes, if you're a superficial, shallow person only after money etc then you're never going to find any decent guys are you.

I'm really sad, I had the most amazing date with an awsome guy, got along like a house on fire. Sadly he's leaving Dubai - damn it!

By saying “they don’t make the cut” I didn’t mean they don’t make a lot of money….!!!???

Making the cut is an American idiomatic expression meaning they don’t meet one’s expectations. Just like also saying “they don’t make the grade.”

I keep forgetting that this a multinational community and people here don not always understand American idioms!

The last criterion for me in evaluating any prospect is probably how much money he makes. I make plenty of money myself, with a big salary and bonuses, so money is not, and has never been, an issue for me..

That's why I said please clarify. I was hoping you didn't mean a guy with filoos.
You still haven't clarified, by the way.

just having a question, real relationship does this lead to marriage? or just respect and care.
Is it expected to be a life time, or to be ended ASAP, or ended once we find a chance to end it up?
Is it real LOVE?
Does it guarantee the rights of each one over the other?
again I am asking about "REAL".
cheers.
M.

Mahmoud04 wrote:just having a question, real relationship does this lead to marriage? or just respect and care.Is it expected to be a life time, or to be ended ASAP, or ended once we find a chance to end it up?Is it real LOVE?Does it guarantee the rights of each one over the other?again I am asking about "REAL".cheers.M.

A real relationship is where each person cares about each other, is in love - not merely lust. They want to know how each other's day went, they want to spend time together doing hobbies, eating etc. They get to know each other and the relationship grows deeper. I know this dating culture doesn't mesh with some other's cultural beliefs, but for others it is essential for choosing who they marry. True, not everyone gets married, but still have a personal commitment to each other like a marriage. The commitment, love and respect is what is important. (Although, when it comes time to have kids I don't know why couples don't get married. Kids are more permanent than a piece of paper attesting marriage.)

I sense a business opportunity here.
Gonna put up my own business in supplying high quality male company for lonely women in Dubai.

The business would only focus on single (succesful) men and women that seek some warm evening of company like it was your spous. Costs of the evening are for the person who brings the incentive or can be shared upon agreement with my (proposed) agency.

Small fee for the agent, thats me for the coupling part and to keep privacy at maximum. No need for stalking afterwards.

bhomes wrote:It is really frustrating to be all alone. To be an outsider while among the crowd is painful.

Who says being single means being alone? Most single people are socially active and have a lot of friends.

But there comes a time in the life of the single person where he or she wants to settle down and starts a family of their own. It’s more acute and pressing for a woman to do so because of her biological clock which starts ticking in her late 20’s.

bhomes wrote:It is really frustrating to be all alone. To be an outsider while among the crowd is painful.

Who says being single means being alone? Most single people are socially active and have a lot of friends.

But there comes a time in the life of the single person where he or she wants to settle down and starts a family of their own. It’s more acute and pressing for a woman to do so because of her biological clock which starts ticking in her late 20’s.

But she first has to find the elusive Mr. Right.

How to find him is the $64,000 question!!!

I think this is changing nowadays. The human life expectancy is growing every day by our technology driven health care system. So I don't think timing is a problem you have to deal with anymore, regarding having kids.

Doctors still say that receiving a child healthy without the growing risk of complications is optimum before the age of 35. But this consensus is changing rapidly if you ask me. Soon this age will be lifted to 40 maybe 45.

Just look at Ryan & Kate plus 8 !!! From zero chance of getting babies, to eight in one row. Jippie Ai Yee....NOT

bhomes wrote:It is really frustrating to be all alone. To be an outsider while among the crowd is painful.

Who says being single means being alone? Most single people are socially active and have a lot of friends.

But there comes a time in the life of the single person where he or she wants to settle down and starts a family of their own. It’s more acute and pressing for a woman to do so because of her biological clock which starts ticking in her late 20’s.

But she first has to find the elusive Mr. Right.

How to find him is the $64,000 question!!!

Every girl is looking for Mr Right. You have to find a lot of Mr Wrongs and one or two Mr Maybe's before you settle on the man of your dreams. An evening over dinner or in a club is not going to give enough information and it is a slow process.

Where to meet them? That has been covered here many times. People here can give you advice but not find him for you, that would be like RobbyG's dating service...which would end up with you spending $64,000 and him spending some time in jail!

bhomes wrote:It is really frustrating to be all alone. To be an outsider while among the crowd is painful.

Who says being single means being alone? Most single people are socially active and have a lot of friends.

But there comes a time in the life of the single person where he or she wants to settle down and starts a family of their own. It’s more acute and pressing for a woman to do so because of her biological clock which starts ticking in her late 20’s.

But she first has to find the elusive Mr. Right.

How to find him is the $64,000 question!!!

Every girl is looking for Mr Right. You have to find a lot of Mr Wrongs and one or two Mr Maybe's before you settle on the man of your dreams. An evening over dinner or in a club is not going to give enough information and it is a slow process.

Where to meet them? That has been covered here many times. People here can give you advice but not find him for you, that would be like RobbyG's dating service...which would end up with you spending $64,000 and him spending some time in jail!

Knight

Having second thoughts over here...
Wait...I'll make it an cross-border service agency. I'll keep the Company registered under Dutch law (everything is possible here with some scrutiny) and you subscribe to me. Then this way, YOU all will be held accountable for your deedzzz

Mahmoud04 wrote:just having a question, real relationship does this lead to marriage? or just respect and care.Is it expected to be a life time, or to be ended ASAP, or ended once we find a chance to end it up?Is it real LOVE?Does it guarantee the rights of each one over the other?again I am asking about "REAL".cheers.M.

A real relationship is where each person cares about each other, is in love - not merely lust. They want to know how each other's day went, they want to spend time together doing hobbies, eating etc. They get to know each other and the relationship grows deeper. I know this dating culture doesn't mesh with some other's cultural beliefs, but for others it is essential for choosing who they marry. True, not everyone gets married, but still have a personal commitment to each other like a marriage. The commitment, love and respect is what is important. (Although, when it comes time to have kids I don't know why couples don't get married. Kids are more permanent than a piece of paper attesting marriage.)

the 3 words u used are just great, and I wish all the girls now know if her partner do really offer that, same to men some women knows nothing about respecting her man's wishes or opinion..... specially when it comes to shopping M.

Mahmoud04 wrote:just having a question, real relationship does this lead to marriage? or just respect and care.Is it expected to be a life time, or to be ended ASAP, or ended once we find a chance to end it up?Is it real LOVE?Does it guarantee the rights of each one over the other?again I am asking about "REAL".cheers.M.

A real relationship is where each person cares about each other, is in love - not merely lust. They want to know how each other's day went, they want to spend time together doing hobbies, eating etc. They get to know each other and the relationship grows deeper. I know this dating culture doesn't mesh with some other's cultural beliefs, but for others it is essential for choosing who they marry. True, not everyone gets married, but still have a personal commitment to each other like a marriage. The commitment, love and respect is what is important. (Although, when it comes time to have kids I don't know why couples don't get married. Kids are more permanent than a piece of paper attesting marriage.)

the 3 words u used are just great, and I wish all the girls now know if her partner do really offer that, same to men some women knows nothing about respecting her man's wishes or opinion..... specially when it comes to shopping M.

Wait, not too fast.
If you commit to shopping, you commit your wallet son, its a simple as that.

yea but you know what!!! if you really love her from your soul, you will enjoy every cent she spent .... actually your joy is seeing her happy, but that doesn't apply for nasty women, they are happy spending anyone's money..
M.

Mahmoud04 wrote:yea but you know what!!! if you really love her from your soul, you will enjoy every cent she spent .... actually your joy is seeing her happy, but that doesn't apply for nasty women, they are happy spending anyone's money..M.

I'm with ya Mahmoud,

LADIES, we have a caring Casanova here !!!
Lock Stock and One smoking barrel waiting to get shopped