dresses for a fall southern cali wedding

i mentioned a post or so back that i’m headed on a little vacay for t-day. tad and i are going to southern california for his cousin’s wedding, then spending a few days in venice before we head to playa del carman and then tulum for turkey day.

this whole wedding in the foreign country of california in the fall (do they even celebrate fall there!?) is tripping me out. i instagrammed about the cute off the shoulder cynthia rowley dress but honestly, i just didn’t feel it enough to pull the trigger.

it’s black tie optional (wtf, life is life-optional. you can eat breakfast, you can’t. you can like dogs, you can like cats. you can wear athletic wear leisurely, you can support him or her or it. we’ve got so many OPTIONALS. so i’m just gonna wear what i want. once i decide what pray tell that is. i have three days left to decide.

and sidebar, my therapist and i are working on this fun little concept that some people choose to accept already – that everyone isn’t paying attention to you all of the time. or really, any of the time! (this is news to me – i’m the archetype of an only child, i literally think i am at the epicenter of everyone’s focus, for better or oftentimes, worse) so once i embrace that, perhaps i can start caring less about what i’m wearing to this wedding where i know 3 people, and more about, well. more about who to vote for? i have about .01% of my brain occupied for that (how does one find the time to fully educate themselves on who to vote for so they can make an informed decision, and then what happens when you think you understand that person and then they change?). oh bother.