5 Steps to Creating Your Ideal Relationship: Part 2

bySherie

In Part 1, we talked about the first 3 steps to creating your ideal relationship. We discussed Step 1, knowing what you want in an ideal relationship. Also, Step 2, clear out your negative beliefs about relationships. Step 3 was letting go of old, less than ideal relationships.

If you’re still with me, good for you! You want to create your ideal relationship and that is a huge part of success!

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships." ~ Anthony Robbins

Step 4: The 3 Words that Describe your Ideal Relationship

If you were to think of the first three words that come to your mind when I ask this question, what would they be? Don’t think too hard, usually the first words are the ones that are the most important.

Here is the question: “What 3 words come to your mind that describe in the most magnificent way the way you think an ideal relationship could really be?” That’s right…let that question bring up those 3 words…are you surprised? Are you relieved? How do you feel about the words that you have let yourself see?

For some people, the words that they have come up with to describe their ideal relationship are words like these:

Loyalty

Trust

Respect

Attraction

Fun

Honesty

Partnership

Deep Love

That is more than three words but you get the drift, don’t you? What are the top 3 words you came up with? Write them down and put them on a post it note where you can see it. The words most people come up with have nothing to do with looks, height, etc. They have to do with personal qualities that we value.

Step 5: Catching a Vision for Your Ideal Relationship

You know that visualization can be a very important technique for creating your future, right? One of the techniques that I used to help my ability to visualize my ideal relationship was a type of vision board, a scrapbook. Don’t throw your hands up in the air here.

As a tool to help your imagination, they can work well. I found that it can be a very effective clarity tool. While you are sitting there with a pile of papers, magazines, scissors and glue, you have time to think. It can be highly meditative.

You can use poster board, a scrapbook, whatever you like. The important part of making this vision tool is that it helps you to decide what it is that you really want. Where do you want to live? What kinds of activities are you going to do? Are you going to have children? Will you have your own business and work together? Where would you like to vacation? And so on. You decide what the questions are.

Make a mission statement for your relationship. Make your mission statement as grand and as believable as you can. Reach down inside your heart and discover the values that you want to share with a partner in your ideal relationship.Put that on your vision board. Use powerful words, like the three words you come up with it in the previous step.

If you are in relationship already, this can be a bonding experience, if you do this together. When you work on a project like this, it leads to a greater sense of connection. You will find those values that you hold in common and that is a very good thing.

And then, each morning and night, look at that vision board or scrapbook….and feel…deep inside….how it would feel….right now…having that special relationship…that you deserve…feel it…as if now…and let that feeling sink in to your heart…that's right….

You can create an ideal relationship. All of these steps are just tools to help you connect with yourself. When you have a deeper connection with yourself and know what you really want, you can create that relationship that you want.

Try it and see…and remember, you do deserve it…let go of the past, create a new and exciting future…just the way you want it to be…why create it any other way?

Sherie

I am a Relationship Coach who helps others create happy, healthy, loving relationships…including the relationship they have with themselves…by breaking through those blocks and barriers to success. I use various techniques gathered through training as a Master Practitioner of NLP, timeline, hypnosis and common sense gathered through life experience.

Wonderful post, Sherie! You’ve broken down the steps and spelled them out–which is what people need because relationships don’t come with an instruction manual.

As for me, I don’t expect anyone to be perfect. It’s more important that they are kind. I become deeply committed, and what I mostly expect back is deep love, appreciation, and understanding–because I’m not perfect either, but I do go far for a person.

Yes,none of us are perfect and those people who are perfect for us are not necessarily “perfect”. Kindness, deep love, appreciation and understanding are great qualities to look for in a potential partner…you have defined what you want and that is the first and best step! Thank you, Eva!

Sherie this is a beautiful Post!~ I am taking part in a relationship and how to move on chat tonight.. come and say these things!! That is awesome and what I tell my singles. Be what you seek! Find joy then someone to share it with! See yourself with someone that loves you for who you are! I love this!!! If you would like to do a guest post like this.. I would love to have you!

Liz, I would be honored to write a guest post for you! I will see if I can get into that chat tonight, let me know what time. Thank you for the very lovely and kind words, I so appreciate them and you!!

Exactly! It does take planning if you want to get what you want….in everything, including relationships…and if you have gotten what you wanted without any conscious knowledge of planning, it’s because your default setting was in alignment with what you wanted! Make sense? Thanks for the comment, Rob!!