Chastity

I want to thank all those that have made comments both through this blog and social media on the recent topic of male chastity. One of Brisbane’s GLBTIQ and leather community supporters has included one of the chastity blogs on their business blog so go and check them out in store or online:

There is more to come on Male Chastity but here are the first two blog posts and you can also find it on the Spunk’D Blog and Dave94015. be sure to check out there blogs they are full of great articles and information.

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Male Chastity is a great addition to play whether it be for singles, couples, thruple (polyamory) or a D/s style relationship. It allows for the development of trust and is designed to allow the caged guy to really ensure that his play partner is looked after so he is released in order to also ejaculate. Keeping in mind that this is also a fetish and many guys or couples explore this as a lifestyle and the caged guy may go from a short term caged experience to a more long term 24/7 caged lifestyle that could go on for days, weeks or months.

For my Brisbane based readers, Spunk’D Leather and Fetish Store (www.spunkd.com.au) have experienced retail staff that will be happy to assist you with both the right fight, the device that you are after and generalised advice on male chastity. By all means drop by as you never know when the pup will be there to assist you.

Whether you will be playing with a partner or alone, Enforced Chastity

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

requires hardware that will safely keep your penis out of trouble and safely under the control of your Key-holder.

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term key-holder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device.

In a Dom/sub relationship generally speaking the key-holder is the Dominant, however there are instances where other negotiations occur, an example of this is that if a person is in a D/s and also in a partnership/relationship with another person. The other partner (not in the D/s) may also be a key-holder. Another example the submissive may also be trusted with a key, say a long distance releationship.

For long term wear, more than an hour or two, any device must be able to:

Prevent useful erections. Your body will try to get you hard no matter what device you wear. However, an effective one will contain the effort and deny any sexual pleasure.

Prevent masturbation.

Allow you to perform the usual bodily functions. If you can’t pee wearing it, the amount of time you can stay locked up is very short.

Permit ventilation. Human skin is not meant to be wet all the time. Any device that prevents sweat, pee, or any other moisture from evaporating will promote irritations and infections.

Let you keep it clean. Even if you have a chastity belt that prevents getting close to your penis, it must allow you to get water inside to keep you clean. It doesn’t take very long for a really bad smell to develop if you can’t clean up.

Wear Comfortably. If you are in pain while you are caged, you and your key-holder will become tired of Enforced male chastity. The Getting A Good Fit section offers valuable advice.

Provide reasonable security. More about that later.

There is a lot of mythology about chastity belts. Supposedly, men locked up their women before heading out to the Crusades. The fact is that there is no evidence of any chastity devices existing prior to the Victorian era. In that time, chastity belts and other devices were developed for “medical” reasons; namely to prevent excessive male masturbation. It was believed that erection and masturbation by boys would damage their minds and promote insanity. Female chastity devices have never been very successful. The myths would have us believe that men of yore locked up their women to prevent them from bearing bastards. The fact is that any attempt to block the vagina also blocks its ability to keep itself clean. Fungal infections and worse occur frequently. Fortunately, we males don’t have that problem and can be safely locked up for extensive long periods of time.

Security

A common fantasy is that you are locked in an escape-proof device and will never be able to free your penis or stimulate it without your key-holder’s permission. A decade ago the most popular male chastity pass time was to defeat the latest devices. This is an expensive hobby since high end chastity devices can run hundreds of dollars. Virtually all of these “escape artists” were single men who locked themselves up. There were relatively few couples practicing male chastity in the pan community.

Chastity in the gay BDSM community has been more commonly used and in the 1960’s and 70’s these devices were more common in such specialty leather and fetish stores, such as Mr – S – Leather and Eagle Leather. These days the devices are more readily available both online and at many adult and fetish outlets. In Brisbane Spunk’d is one such outlet that has these devices both in store and online. It is a common practice that within many gay D/s dynamics that the submissive (also may be referred to as the slave or boy) experienced being caged, as a part of his training. This generally meant he could only be allowed to cum, with the permission of the key-holder.

This wasn’t just an occurrence in the male to male (gay) D/s this was also common in other BDSM relationships with a female lead role as a Dominatrix or Mistress.

Just as the internet became such an essential aspect of our daily lives, it played a role in BDSM – Including the D/s and M/s relationships. It is now possible to have a key-holder across the other side of the country or the world, who would give you permission to release yourself. As technology developed and demand changed chastity devices also evolved from just being available in metal to also being available in plastics and now silicone. The result of this advance has meant that the locked boy could have the device on for longer periods, and whilst in transit, such as going through airport security.

There are instances that I am aware of where Master and boy reside in different parts of the globe for work reasons, and they have found the use of Chastity and gaining such permission for release has strengthened both their trust and the dynamics behind their power exchange relationship. This strengthening some have reported has alleviated some of the stresses between the distances between the individuals.

Below is a range of male chastity devices currently on the market, it is a small selection compared to what is available.

The reason escape-proof devices are so elusive is that male sexual anatomy is surprisingly adaptable. The human penis has no bone. Other mammals have penile bones that support the penis during intercourse. The human penis is essentially an inflatable toy. When not aroused the penis is an extremely flexible little tube. It’s flaccid. As such, it can be compressed, stretched, bent, and twisted. Since the purpose of enforced chastity is to keep that little guy in the flaccid state, any device must be designed to prevent it from using that very flexibility to defeat it.

A completely normal penis can shrink down to less than an inch in length. Since any cage or tube needs a gap that will allow the scrotum to hang below the cage, this tiny guy can be encouraged to escape through that gap. Once out, it can enjoy itself without permission or supervision.

To prevent this, some devices have blunt pins on the body end of the cage that are supposed to cause pain if extraction is attempted. Pins can be quite long and cause serious discomfort for a naughty boy. Some are even sharpened. This won’t completely prevent escape, but it will discourage it. There is a problem: each time the little guy tries to get hard its diameter increases. If there is an anti-pullout pin, that pin will dig painfully into the shaft. You might be thinking, “Well isn’t that the point?” Not completely. Every male has involuntary erections in his sleep. So, if you don’t enjoy being awakened a couple of times a night by a painful jab in your penis, you will find the anti-pullout pins unbearable.

Back in the day of escape artist play, several companies around the world made full male chastity belts. These belts effectively prevented any possibility of escape. However, the belts are made of metal and must be sized for each wearer. If the male gains or loses weight, the belt will no longer fit. These belts are expensive too and prevent a full range of motion. For most of us they are simply impractical.

For the rest of us who can’t wear full belts, we need to cooperate with our key-holders. Obviously, any practical device has the potential of escape. How much potential is a trade between comfort and security. Since we are asking or consenting to be locked up, we should have the self control to not attempt escape. Those of us who are locked 24/7 need the ability to enjoy uninterrupted sleep and to go about our daily business while remaining caged. The trade off is that we have to not attempt escape.

In a D/s situation the submissive should be wanting to please his Dominant It was our idea, we should be able to do that. Right? On the other hand, we also want to feel that we are securely locked up and that our key-holders truly own our cocks. I know that I can’t easily escape my cage and I am pretty sure that if I do, I won’t be able to get it back in so my transgression will be noticed. I don’t want to think about what would happen if it is discovered that the cage went on an independent field trip. That is sufficient deterrent for me.

I wondered if I secretly unlocked myself because I wanted to play with someone, would there be visual evidence. It turns out there is. I was out of my cage for almost six days and It would be completely obvious to anyone who looked that I wear a device. It’s just like the mark left when the wedding ring is removed. Enough said.

Comfort

Let’s face it, our fantasies never consider the comfort of our confinement. However, spend thirty minutes in an uncomfortable device and you will see that comfort jumps to the top of the priority list. Having rigid steel or plastic enclosing our genitals is a comfort challenge. Sensitive skin can easily be pinched, scratched and bruised. Imagine sitting at your desk while your cage is cutting into your little penis. Very distracting to say the least.

More times then not, when you experience discomfort that turns to pain you will be begging for release in no time.

The original author at male chasitity journal has set up a page on how to get a good fit, I suggest you follow that link as it will help getting things right – Getting A Good Fit

A boy who is both secure and reasonably comfortable will be able to be caged for a longer period, and will not be concerned about disappointing his Dominant to have the device removed before the desired timeframe. You submit to please your Dominant, and when you do not meet such expectations (weather actual or self perceived) it can cause you anguish. However when you are experiencing the wrong sort of pain or discomfort, it is essential to speak up and communicate this, as your Dominant wants to know this so adjustments can be made. Generally your training and enjoyment is just as important to him, as it is to you. Remember your submission is your gift to him, and he is the protector of both your submission and trust.

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article. While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article. While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

A good fit is a very good start. Next, consider what you wear with your device. Most of the good chastity devices are virtually invisible under clothing. Generally no one can tell when a guy is caged. However, invisibility is only one factor. The second is support. We are all built differently and how we and our key-holder’s cage work together will determine how comfortable we are when wearing clothes. Your jocks can spell the difference between a comfortable day and a miserable one. I personally like either briefs or jockstraps, I have found in the limited use of a cage jock straps work best for me and I can carry out all daily functions. However the source of this article suggests the following:

I like briefs and have been wearing Ex-Officio briefs for years. However, with my cage on, they just didn’t provide the support and cushioning I need to get through my day pain free. By chance I discovered Wearever men’s incontinence underwear. These are very normal looking briefs that have some padding in the front and down through the crotch. They even have a fly. It turns out that the combination of the way the brief is made and the padding provides a nice resting place for my key-holder’s toy. I can sit, walk, run, and move about without any discomfort. The underwear looks fine so that even if I am seen in it, no one would guess there is anything going on. An added benefit is that the padding further hides any edges of my cage from showing through my pants, even tight jeans. The padding is also treated to kill any odours, so if I drip, which sometimes happens after I pee, there is no trace.

While the primary objective of enforced male chastity may be transfer of ownership and control of your penis to your key-holder, just as important is to be able to safely and comfortably wear their cage for as long as yoy like. If you are uncomfortable, you won’t be able to make this dream come true. Communication with your key holder is essential.

Generally as a university graduate I never refer to wikipedia, however in this instance I am going to make an exemption and provide a link for some additional reading:

Glossary:

Enforced Chastity:

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

Keyholder:

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term keyholder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device

Enforced Male Chastity:

Control of a male’s penis, usually with a device. Masturbation, sex, orgasm, and erections are controlled by the key-holder.

Edging (edge play):

Edging is bringing someone right up to the edge of orgasm and stopping the stimulation before he ejaculates, this can be used in milking or adding stimulation to keep the locked boy wanting more. See further reading: Orgasm Control

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Note I have not edited the text in this article in anyway or form, whilst it is aimed at the pan community it can be easily viewed in a similar way for the gay community. If I have comments I have added them after each point. The author and his Mistress come across as very experienced and well educated on this topic.

There article commences below, My comments if any are in Blue:

There is a lot of information floating around on male chastity. I’ve done some research to try to separate fact from fiction when it comes to some of these questions.

It is dangerous for a male not to ejaculate for a long time: According to medical authorities, there is no adverse effect if a male doesn’t ejaculate for months or even years. So-called blue balls and stories of prostate problems are not true. According to Pepper Schwartz, PhD, “There is some data published by the Journal ofAmerican Medical Association that higher emissions were correlated with a lower rate of prostate cancer– but this is over a long period of time-and the increment of health is slight. ”

Whilst I agree it is a myth, I also belive that the dude in chastity needs to be able to ejaculate every so often, and this needs to be allowed by the negotiation between the locked boy and their keyholder.

Locked up and unable to achieve an erection, a male can still orgasm and ejaculate

In fact, both men and women can achieve orgasm without any direct genital stimulation. Some can reach orgasm just with nipple or anal stimulation. Most men have at some point in their lives, had an orgasm during the night without any physical stimulation.

After being locked in a Chastity Device, a male will become more attentive and interested in his partner

A key storyline in many male chastity fantasies is that the male will immediately redirect his sexual energy to pleasing his partner. This, the fantasy says, is the result of the device being locked on his penis. There is no physical difference between being locked in a chastity device and simply abstaining from sex voluntarily. While it is certainly true a caged male will try to find ways to get his Keyholder to give him an orgasm, there is absolutely no evidence that there is an automatic transference of sexual satisfaction to his keyholder. However, like many myths of this type, if you believe it you can make it true for you.

After being locked in a chastity device, a male automatically becomes submissive and desires to do household chores.

Many chastity fantasies claim that when a keyholder takes control of a male’s penis, he automatically becomes a docile domestic slave. That’s certainly not true of me or of many men who are caged. At the very lowest level, a desire to wear a chastity device simply means that the wearer wants someone else to control his ability to orgasm. That’s it; nothing more. Now, many males have more complex agendas. They want more than simple orgasm control. I know that I want Mrs. Lion to take full sexual charge and have the power to make rules for me and discipline me when I displease her. None of that has a thing to do with the device on my penis. I’ve always shared chores. I am not doing any more now than before.

There should be some pain associated with wearing a chastity device.

This is a big one. A well-designed chastity device should not hurt to wear. Too many males buy inexpensive plastic cages that irritate the skin behind their balls or other areas on their genitals. Devices like the CB6000 commonly cause this irritation. Some males have no problem wearing them. If you wear or are planning to wear your device for more than a weekend at a time, you should invest in a good-fitting device that you won’t even notice most of the time. If you have to apply lube to prevent the device from hurting you, it isn’t right for your body. I wear a Mature Metal Jail Bird 24/7 with no discomfort or lube needed (Mrs. Lion uses a little hand cream to ease my penis into its cage). See our guide to getting a good fit for information about how to properly measure for a chastity device.

The keyholder gets many benefits from locking up her male

Let’s face it, being a keyholder is work. She has to deal with all the extras that a caged male wants, such as regular teasing, maintaining some release schedule, and accommodating the fantasies that go along with Enforced Chastity

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.”>enforced chastity

. The fantasies claim she gets endless sexual pleasure and a docile male to do housework, laundry, and paint her nails. Just read Mrs. Lion’s posts on the topic. Being my keyholder holds few benefits for her beyond giving me something I really want. Your keyholder has given you a gift. Ignore the fantasies and recognize what she is doing for you.

Forced male chastity improves a marriage In our case, caging me has brought us closer in ways that were completely unexpected. Our communications have improved, and we are much more sexually active than we were before. It’s ironic that caging my penis has improved my sex life. It has. Chastity won’t cure marital problems. Caging a man who cheated may prevent future extracurricular sex, but won’t erase the betrayal the cheating produced. A thoughtless husband won’t become more thoughtful. No wife really wants to beat her husband into being good to her. However, like us, many couples find that the chastity device forces more focus on intimate pleasures that a busy life may have pushed into the background.

In the research I have done personally and what I have read and been told I tend to agree with this, a locked boy certainly will become more closer and attentive to their partners needs, this works well in a Dom/ sub dynamic. It would be what I would consider a behaviour that the locked boy would want to be able to experience orgasm and requires the assistance of the keyholder in order to achieve this, therefore the locked boy would be willing to please his sexual partner to be rewarded.

The first chastity belts were used by soldiers leaving to fight in the Crusades in order to keep their women pure

This myth started in Victorian times. In fact, many museums were sold “chastity belts” that were supposed to come from that period. They turned out to be fakes. The first known chastity devices were actually created in Victorian times. In those days a popular idea was that masturbation led to insanity or criminal behavior. Devices were created to prevent boys from masturbating. Female chastity devices were never popular. Women don’t need access to their genitals to orgasm and any chastity device will make it difficult for hygiene. Chastity devices have always been intended for males.

Chastity Device

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Keyholder

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