Saturday, January 30, 2016

I am currently watching #ItsNotYouItsMen, the newest talk show featuring great recording artist and actor Tyrese and legendary hip hop star Rev. Run talking openly and honestly about sex, love and relationships. They are giving you the perspective from a single and very married man. I love the concept of the show because it addresses topics that women may discuss with few friends but is never addressed with your spouse or partner that you are in a relationship with. Also, the show shows the biblical/spiritual perspective from Rev. Run and the more free spirited thoughts from Tyrese.

As a young woman, I love hearing the two sides of the many topics discussed such as born again virgins, marriage longevity, purity, and relationship decisions. You get to hear their honest thoughts on what is right and what they do.

Tyrese is correct when he says "How can you naturally be a wife/husband when you don't have a representation of it in your life?" It is hard for many of us to know what the roles, position, place and value of a husband/wife really is because we were not raised by people in healthy, successful marriages. This show is opening up to that misperceptions of "I want to be a wife" without knowing what that actually means.

I love when Rev. Run says he didn't touch his wife before marrying her because he knew the fruits of his labour would be rewarded for his obedience. His lifestyle is a representation of the perspective he's shares on the show.

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Hey Everyone, I know if you are in the #DMV area, you are probably netflixing and chilling right now as it is a blizzard outside so I wanted to share a poem with you that I wrote in about twenty minutes at noon. Comment with your thoughts!!

Apologize for Black

In 2016, it's okay for us to feel

Like our black skin isn't realReal-ly the reason you view me differently than beforeHeard me on the phoneWas willing to open a doorAnd let me walk in with no apologiesFor my skinBeing black, we are so used to apologizing for who we areI'm sorry that my skin caused you to think I stealI'm sorry that my skin caused you to feelLike you had to run or hide, or even stay inside My, my, you had to swallow your pride and sayYou're not what I expected, so differentYour decision you regret it Crazy how I walked away thinking I didn't do everything I couldHad the answers down to a tee, a resume that surely impressed meBut he said "No" and now I'm thinking I could've done moreThen Mama says there's no more u can doIn this world, babyI have to tell you the truthThey don't see your intelligence, dedication or motivationThey see a thug, a thief, a drug dealer, an absent father and most of all, A Black ManA Black ManA Black Man that to them is great for being the helpIs good enough to lift, push and pull Is good enough to move, work, and playBut to offer a positionPermanent at that, is the biggest regretBecause deep down they knowThat if ever offered an opportunity to be on the same levelThat your position will be threatenedCareer will be reckonedAnd not that his intentions made it soBut honestly, your perfect grammar and your White collar suitSuits you for the position much better than I Oh, Why?My black is only good enough for basketball and rappingI could never be the CEOI could never be the ownerBecause then, I am owning a part of me that isn't trueBlack Brothers, it's not in uEver to be greater than your skin has allowed you to beAnd they want you down on your kneesBegging and pleading, pleaseMaster, don't kill meWith your hands up in surrenderanceYour future to him lies dependenceThen I say to MamaYou've always said I was a KingWell, that's because to me my son, you areAnd I don't ever want you to apologize for being blackYou are smart, handsome, strong, hardworking, kind, caring, one of a kindAnd Baby, you're mineSo don't ever for one second thinkYou have to.... Apologize for Black

Saturday, January 9, 2016

Many of you may say "very" and there are few who may say "not at all." The few who would say "not at all" is the group I most relate to but I would like to speak to the "very" group tonight. Very ordinary may seem like an extreme compliment because it doesn't seperate you, outcasts you, point you out or condemns you in any manner but the not at all classifies you as weird, crazy, different, and something wrong. When in all actuality, there is something wrong with desiring to be just like everyone else, wishing, hoping to be like everyone else. I've come across a thousand teenagers in high school and they all sound the same, dress the same, look the same and began to act the same in school causing me not to be able to differentiate one from another. Why is that? I believe in our childhood we are often taught that being different is a problem, if you sit and everyone else is standing, you are pointed out and ridiculed; if you cry while everyone else is laughing, you are ridiculed without question or concern as to why and that is what causes kids to form a misperceptions that being different, standing out is a problem and it is better to fit in with society, agree with society's standards then form your own mindset and way of thinking. By the time most kids are in middle school, they are trying to discover who they feel they are at a young age and are curious as to so many things that their natural childlike mind would not dare to think. By high school, a huge misconception is formed that right is where the majority is, not what God says, not what God has spoken but what the majority feels is okay and acceptable. Is there anybody willing to be bold and honest about who they are and not give two cents of thought to what someone else feels about who they are? Stop living to be cool, everyone you're trying to impress could careless about you so start living to please God. At the end of the day, he is the one person that never leaves you nor forsake you. God could never see you fall and not pick you up. Trust him in all that you do and know that who he created to be is perfect for you and is not up to anyone else to like, love or appreciate.

Monday, January 4, 2016

So, I was watching 'The Real' as they were discussing a "Dear 15 Me" segment and boom, a message that a celebrity posted clicked "You're going to be scared, do it anyway," A message that she would tell her fifteen year old self was to do it anyway even though she would be scared. This is a message that I wanted to send to you, whatever it is that you want to do that is positive and good for you, DO IT!! Do it inspite of the fear, shame, guilt, concern for others thoughts or feelings. You are the one who has to live in your shoes and you do not want to be hindered because of all of the what ifs, how and it might not. Go for it and if doesn't work, try again. If you never give up, you can never lose. You may wonder how it's going to get done, how much time it would take but if you begin putting in the work, you will see results. Fear will forever hold you back. Let Go of everything that is telling you not to and do it anyway. Fear is there, push pass it!!

Sunday, January 3, 2016

I would like to cordially introduce you to my new blog "How to Turn A Mess into A Message." Technically, this blog is not new but the information will be. It will still encompass celebrity news and entertainment but I've noticed my platform even with celebrity news has always been to change lives positively. Therefore, I am reforming my blog a bit to focus on turning "A Mess into A Message."