RULES OF LOVE (RULE 4)

Remember we have been studying Richard Templar's bestselling book 'Rules of Love'.

Here is the Rule 4.
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RULE 4: YOU 'ILL KNOW THEM WHEN YOU MEET THEM

To be quite honest, I’m not sure this is entirely true. Some people do know the instant they meet their future partner that this is the person they’ve been looking for all their life.

But it doesn’t work like that for everyone.

The real Rule1 is that if you’re not sure if this is the right one, don’t take a gamble on it. If they are the right one, you will know it, even if it takes a bit of time.

In other words, if it’s right you will be sure—either straight away, or a bit later—but you will know.

If you’re absolutely sure this is the right person the moment you lock eyes on them, you’re very lucky. (Unless it happens to you every time, in which case you need to stop kidding yourself.)

The important thing is not to commit yourself until you’re cer- tain.
How many divorced people have you heard say, “Do you know, even on my wedding day I was wondering if I was doing the right thing.”

Well, I can tell you. If you’re still wondering about it on your wedding day, you are not doing the right thing. You are making a big mistake.

Marriage and/or kids are tough enough when you are sure you are with the right person. It’s lunacy to enter into it without being certain.

If you aren’t sure right at the beginning, that’s normal. It may take weeks, months, or even years to be sure, especially if you’re of a naturally doubtful persuasion.
That’s all fine. It’s just that until you are sure, you shouldn’t be making a permanent com- mitment.

Your new partner, of course, may be sure sooner than you are.
We’re all different.
But don’t allow them to pressure you into making a decision before you’re ready. It’s understandable that they want you to commit yourself—you’re a wonderful person, why wouldn’t they want to be with you? But no one will benefit if you make the wrong decision.

If this is really the right person for you to spend your life with, you won’t be thinking, “I don’t know. Is it me? I’m just not sure if this is right.” You’ll be thinking, “Yes, yes, yes, let’s get on with it!” If you’re not thinking that, you’re not ready to commit yourself.