tantra

For the latest episode of Himeros LIVE, my weekly podcast about gay sex, we did something different. Along with sex coach Finn Deerhart, we invited a tantric instructor named Brad Amberheart to explain the principles of ‘tapas’ and ‘spanda’ – and how they can transform your experience of sex. It’s a wide-ranging conversation that will change the way you approach gay sex.…

When I was a child, my mother loved cooking her family recipe for fried potatoes. On a high flame, she’d place a shallow, cast iron pan filled with potatoes and oil. The grease would boil right up to the edge of the pan, just an inch away from the flame – and dangerously close to burning our entire house down.…

It’s not because I am too busy or didn’t get around to it. It’s because I’m in it, and I feel very vulnerable, embarrassed and – if I’m being totally honest – a bit of shame from the little Catholic school boy within me.…