I'm a thoughtful person. I start out reserved, but when I get to know you, I laugh long and loud.

I'm a native Angeleno, at home in the Valley and in the city, along the Pacific Ocean and atop the Santa Monica Mountains.

I'm feminist and anti-racist. I've spent time learning the theory, but I know that it's usually best just to listen to those who choose to speak, and not impose upon those who don't.

I'm a game player. I get together with friends to play a board games, card games, or role-playing games, and I play videogames on my exercise bike when I'm at home by myself.

I'm a thinker, and I take great joy in giving traditional art and modern pop culture the same careful analysis.

My friends want me to tell you that I'm a considerate friend, and that I'm amusing when I'm tipsy.

What I’m doing with my life

During the day, I work an office job. It's not the best, but it's not the worst. At night, I spend time with my friends around the Southland.

I’m really good at

Solving puzzles; playing games; talking late into the night about just about anything; respecting boundaries; helping people figure out what they wanted to say in the first place; getting a read on people long after it would do anybody any good; and mocking bad television, and then analyzing its social messages and artistic aesthetics.

The first things people usually notice about me

I'm tall. I don't notice it so much, but when people first meet me, they tell me that I'm bigger than they expected. I take it as a compliment.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

I don't like picking favorites, because I always get worried about leaving things out. So I just add a few things to this list every time I play around with the profile.

I think about gender, race, and the ways society shapes us, with and without us noticing.

I think about language, how it works and how much there is to learn.

I think about games and puzzles, and I think about art, and I think about how to think of games and puzzles as art.

I think about music and beauty.

I think about my future, and how that future has changed from what I thought it would be.

I drive around Los Angeles, and I look to the hills and mountains and imagine how glorious it would be to hike up there and look out to the Pacific.

On a typical Friday night I am

Going out to meet with friends around Los Angeles. Heading to the Aero to catch a show. Wandering around the Santa Monica Promenade or Palisades Park. Or falling asleep early because I did all of that stuff early in the week too.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

I am polyamorous; I don't believe in strict monogamy. I'm in a long-term, committed relationship with a woman who is a little bit more on the monogamous side, and together we have a sort of open relationship that could be called "monogamish." I'm open to being intimate with amenable friends, and to making new friends who may be similarly amenable.

You should message me if

You should message me if you want to go out, have fun, make friends, and see where things go.

Or if you just want someone to talk to. I promise to be as interesting as my caffeine level will allow.