A doing word as I’m sure you guys know, is a word that conveys the action that you are DOING <<<< operative word ..DOING!

Hahahahaha! It’s soo nuts because when you come to realise the truth about something, it’s makes you query what you were taught and how you were taught it!!

Think about it though…

Society has taught us the noun love, and the definition of this is;

A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

Or…An intense emotional attachment, for something.

We’ve watched movies where people FALL in love …<<

Also the stories of love in the media, usually begin one sidedand end with the lover convincing or prooving their undying love for their desired lover. Or something drastic happening because they didn’t receive in return what they gave out.

But….

Erm … *scratches head*, when you say that out loud it sounds scary, why does it sound so negetive?

Why can’t people JUMP in love

Or SWIM in love

Or GLIDE in love??

No for real..I have a straight face on right now…

If we fall in love, wouldn’t that mean we should’ve been watching were we were walking? That saying makes it sounds like we will end up in a ditch all for love?

The way the word has been thrown around recklessly leaving us with a distorted view of love.

I’m not saying that love isn’t a noun, because there are however many words which can be a nouns and verbs,

For example :

Act, Broadcast, Care, Fight Look, Play, Race, Silence, to name a few…

But lets focus on the verb love..

Because genuine verb Love is good …

Definiton: To have charity foror unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.

We usually get images of this ‘good’ type of love which usually depicts someone giving presents which please the recipient.

But… according to God’s standards, Love is THE Greatest, it’s complete Selflessness, practically living for someone else and for the better of someone else.

I’m going to reference from the most obvious scripture ever..I mean the one quoted on most weddings and Valentines Day and Anniversaries but not ever really taken to heart…

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1 corinthians 13 v4-8

4:Love is patient.Love is not jealous or boastful or proud.

5:or rude.It does not demand its own way.It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.

6:It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out .

7:Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through very circumstance.

8:Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!

Verse 13.

13:Three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love- and the greatest of all of these is love.

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This is plain English as modern as it gets so I’m sure this is self explanitory…

So clearly actions speak louder than words according to God…

So next time you say you love someone try putting your name where love is in every verse of this chapter, and see if you really fit in this picture, painted by God.

Some peoplemight think this love is sooo boring especially those carnal minded people who are not married yet, but are dreaming of sexually charged passionate nights in with their dream partners …

Yeah you know who you are loool..if you feel weird reading this part its YOU 🙂 don’t worry thats the reason for this post!! 🙂

As a Christian, the Bible recommends that we should be led by the Holy Spirit and not by our emotions.

Galatians 5 v 16 -24

16:So I say let the Spirit guide your lives.Then you wont be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17:The sinful nature wants to do evil (carnal minded things, anything against God’s will)which is the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the spirit gives us desires of the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.

18:But when you are directed by the spirit you are not under the obligation to the law of Moses. 19:When you follow the desires ofthe sinful nature the results are very clear;sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20: idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarelling, jealousy, outburst of anger, selfish ambition, division, 21: envy, drunkness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

22:But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23:gentleness, and self control.There is no law against theses things. (so they must be good)

Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with passion but the passion we should uphold is the one of Christ for Christ and Christ like things, especially as we are now family members<< in the body of Christ, brothers and sisters!!

Do you fancy your blood relatives??…EXACTLY looool..I bet your cringing ..YOU SHOULD BE ..so don’t perve on your family in Christ.

You will however be able to enjoy this passion, when you are united as one with your husband or wife, which will eventually link you both together in the flesh making your bond stronger emotionally.

Let me give you examples so you don’t die of confusion and lack of knowledge! 🙂

Love (noun): The Bible does talk about emotional love, that is attatched to feelings…

Songs of Solomon 8 v 6-7

6:…For love is as strong as death, it’s jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. 7:Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.

Sounds like a kind of passion that is difficult to get rid of like a wild fire once ignited, so it has a possibility of being uncontrollable, which could lead to negetive outcomes…especially when its not accepted,or tamed it can turn into lust..

I’m sure you know the story of David and Bathsheba

2 Samuel 11 v2-5

and the story of Amnon and Tamar

2 samuel 13 v 1-21

Such burning passions untamed can result in negetive outcomes, someone getting hurt or abused.

So don’t confuse the logic of love (verb) with the emotional feelings of love (noun).

The love you should show towards you brothers and sisters in Christ:

1 John 4 v7-8:

7: Dear friends let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. 8: But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

1 John 2 v 9

9: If anyone claims, “I am living in the light”, but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is still living in darkness. 10:Anyone who loves another brother or sister is living in the light and does not cause others to stumble. 11: But anyone who hates another brother or sister is still living and walking in darkness. such person does not know the way to go, having been blinded by the darkness.

1 John 3 v 14- 15

13:If we love our Christian brothers and sisters, it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead. 15:Anyone who hates another brother or sister is really a murderer at heart.And you know that murderers dont have eternal life within them.

Hebrews 13 v 1-2

1:Keep loving each other as brothers and sisters. 2:Don’t forget to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realising it!

So as clear as this English is, we are to love our brothers and sisters in Christ as we would do our family..well as some of us do. Forgetting every wrong they may have done , giving them the benefit of the doubt in circumstances, being there to help them looking out for them and taking care of them as you would yourself.

If you are dating/in a relationship, the kind of love you should be reflecting and searching for in each other, is the kind of love God finds pleasing, an everlasting type of love that is not dependent on circumstances for it to be expressed, a constant selfless love that reflects that of Christ.

John 13 v 34-35

34:So now I am giving you a new commandment; Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. 35: Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.

John 15 v 12- 13

12:This is my commandment; Love each other in the same way that I have loved you. 13: There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friend.

If you are thinking but that says ‘friends‘ ..I’m sorry for you if you don’t long for your life partner to be your best friend, the relationship needs to last, and I’m sure you’re going to want it to last so why not marry a true friend? I also know there will be feelings for one another but those need to be tamed, so that time can reveal whether this person can stand as your backbone in Christ, through all types of trials.

Lust is not involved in this process neither is lust a positive thing it’s one of the commandments to not lust…

Lust is longing for something that you do not need, and usually something that is not nessecarily good for you .

Sexual lust is a craving for sexual intercourse, which can sometimes assume a violent or self-indulgent character, like rape, molestation, masturbation, in men and women.

Love requried in marriage:

Ephesians 5 v 21-23:

21: And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22: For wives this means submit to your husband as to the Lord. 23: For the husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church . He is the Savior of his body, the church.

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25: For husbands this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26:To make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of Gods word…

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28:In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.

1 Peter 3 v 6-7

6: For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husband might do. 7:In the same way, your husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat you wife with understanding as you live together. she may be weaker than you are (physically) but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should SO YOUR PRAYERS WILL NOT BE HINDERED.

I made the last part capitals because some weak guys tend to get excited when the Bible says women should submit.They fail to realise that that comes easier to women, because of the emotions that they are made with. So they’ll do things that they feel are right orfeelright, or because of thefeeling of love for something.

So calm your hype if you are a still a boy, because it takes more to LOVE. Remember to put your name in 1 Corinthians 13 where love is and see if your doing it right loool because this is a commandment from the Lord not from me :). Your prayers will be blocked Jesus will not be able to intercede until you do what is pleasing to Him.

Think super Mario and the Princess 🙂

So all in all its the everlasting undying love of Christ we need to begin to reflect and expect.

Check this out ‘For the True Man of God’ by P4CM

1 John 4 v 9-11

9:God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. 10: This is real love – not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. 11: Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.

Love (verb) without Love (noun)

So Love, without compassion, and actions, is incorrect. Saying you love someone but not being able to show it,is wrong and was corrected by Jesus in Matthew.

Matthew 5 v 38 – 45.

38:You have heard the law that says the punishment must match the injury. ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’

39: But I say, do not resist an evil person! If someone slaps you on the right cheek, offer the other cheek also. 40: If you are sued in court and your shirt is taken from you, give your coat, too.41: If a soldier demands that you carry his gear for a mile, carry it two miles. 42: Give to those who ask, and don’t turn away from those who want to borrow. 43: You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbour’ and hate your enemy. 44: But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! 45: In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in Heaven.

So now we are all capable of loving one and other with the help of the Holy Spirit now in us.

Romans 5 v 4-5

4: And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. 5:And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

Romans 12 v 9-10

9:Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. 10: Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honouring each other.

Romans 13 v 8 & 10

8: Owe nothing to anyone except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbour, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.

9:For the commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. you must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet.” These – and other such commandments – are summed up in this one commandement,” Love your neighbour as yourself.” 10: Love does no wrong to others, so fulfills the requirements of God’s law.

Don’t worry if someone throws your love back in your face, the love of Jesus was also rejected but definately worth it in the long run. Also don’t be full of fear of what might happen when you show love because the love of God is fear free!

1 John 4 v 18

18: Such love has no fear, beacause perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19:We love each other because he loved us first.

1 John 3 v16

16: We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up up our lives for our brothers and sisters.

I hope this post hasn’t left you feeling a bit guilty, inadequate and not fitting.. don’t worry that’s the reason Jesus died for us, he gives us 2nd changesas long as we are willing to try. The Bible also helps edify us, and show us where we are going wrong..

Be glad that Jesus came to show us the love required of God.

So don’t see this as me speaking but the Holy Spirit in me.

We all need Jesus man His holy spirit renews us everyday!

Listen to this by Tye Tribbett ‘I need you’

This post wouldn’t be if not for Him so thank Him for taking that plank out of your eye… and mine!! Don’t go thinking I’m perfect mate trust me God is a very gracious God!