Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Listen to the mustn’ts, child.
Listen to the don’ts.
Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts.Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me…Anything can happen, child.
Anything can be.

Shel Silverstein
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The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person’s determination.

Tommy Lasorda

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By nature we have no defect that could not become a strength,

no strength that could not become a defect.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end.Â Nothing is easier than fault finding.Â Â All it will do is discolor my personality so that none will want to associate with me.Â That was my old life.Â No more.

Today a I received a post from FlyEffect for the Motivational post of the last week. It contained a nice quote which I consider it needs to be presented separately too. So here it is.

An inconvenient truth, for some of us:

Another reason why we do not regard others as precious is that we pay attention to their faults whilst ignoring their good qualities. Unfortunately we have become very skilled in recognizing the faults of others, and we devote a great deal of mental energy to listing them, analyzing them, and even meditating on them! With this critical attitude, if we disagree with our partner or colleagues about something, instead of trying to understand their point of view we repeatedly think of many reasons why we are right and they are wrong. By focusing exclusively on their faults and limitations we become angry and resentful, and rather than cherishing them we develop the wish to harm or discredit them. In this way small disagreements can easily turn into conflicts that simmer for months.
An advice:Do not look for faults in others, but look for faults in yourself, and purge them like bad blood.

Do not contemplate your own good qualities, but contemplate the good qualities of others, and respect everyone as a servant would.