7 Kinky Sex Positions That She'll Love

Are you interested in a little experimentation? Intrigued by the idea of kink, but unsure as to what that actually means?

First things first, let's talk about what you’re getting into. Kink means departure from sexual norms, whether that’s by inserting props—handcuffs, feathers, paddles, plugs—into your routine, or exploring sexual fantasies (role play, anyone?), BDSM, or rough sex, to name a few examples. Whatever you’re into, know that there are tons of people out there who get off on precisely the same thing.

If you've never had kinky sex before, licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin suggests easing your way in. "I think a lot of people, for some reason, have this idea that if you’re going to try kink, you have to go all the way in, and that’s still really intimidating and can actually lead to a lot of difficulties," she tells WomensHealthMag.com. Testing out nipple clamps or choking during your first foray, for example, may not be the most approachable place to start.

Before springing bondage gear on your partner, you should get on the same page about what you're both down to try. It might be a good idea to set a safe word in case either of you gets uncomfortable and wants to call things off.

So how do you dip your toe in kink’s waters? Depending on what you like, kinkifying your sex life might be as simple as adding a few simple maneuvers to your erotic menu. Here are seven suggestions for moves that can easily accommodate a little (or a lot) of kink.

1 Man's Best Friend

For people who are just starting out with kink, Marin recommends this classic: "Probably the easiest position to try...is doggy style," she explains, "because it already feels like a little more animalistic position and lends itself really well to spanking, to hair-pulling, to things like pinching the nipples."

Enter your partner from behind while she's kneeling on all fours, either while you're standing or on your knees. Either way, if she says she wants it slightly rougher, try lightly tweaking her nipples, grabbing her hair, or smacking her butt. (Just make sure she's OK with it first — not every woman is.)

2. Seated Wheelbarrow

Here’s a fun one for those of you who like a little spanking or anal play during PIV sex: the seated wheelbarrow.

Sit on the edge of the bed—or couch, or kitchen chair—and position her on your lap with the tops of her thighs pressed against yours and her legs stretching behind your back. If she's into anal play, have her lean forward with both palms on the floor and insert a well-lubricated finger while you enter her from behind, maybe pulling it out just as she's on the brink of orgasm.

Anal beads and butt plugs could be a next step, but take baby steps: "Get started with your fingers first," Marin suggests.

3. Cowgirl

Cowgirl presents an optimal opportunity for her to take the reins and dominate you. Before she straddles you, consider blindfolding her: Marin recommends household items, like a silk scarf or tie, for this job.

In any case, cowgirl puts her in charge, so she could experiment with tweaking or twisting your nipples, or lightly grabbing your balls.

4. 69

If you’re looking to inject a little bit of kink into mutual oral, consider throwing in some toys: while you should consider a butt plug or a vibrating cock ring ($29.99, amazon.com).

Arguably the easiest way to accomplish 69 is to have both of you lie on your sides, with your heads positioned at each other's genitals, but you could also ramp things up with under-the-bed restraints: One person can lie flat on their back with their hands and feet tied down, while the other partner kneels over them.

5. Spider

The spider is a solid option for any couple: Sit facing one another with your legs staggered so that you end up crotch to crotch.

If you like anal play, amp up the kink with the addition of a butt plug: Maybe consider a motorized option — like the b-Vibe ($37.99, amazon.com) — that one of you can control with a handheld remote.

6. Pinball Wizard

In this position, have her lie with her back flat on the mattress and tie her hands to the bedpost or headboard. (Or, prop her hips up on pillows and brace her legs around your hips, so she can anchor her wrists above her head.)

With her hands out of play, you're free to explore her body. Then, when you’re both primed and ready, lift up her butt and enter her while you're kneeling between her legs.

7. Cross buttocks

If you like to be spanked, the cross buttocks is a standout option. Lie across her lap, with her hips tipped up so you can enter her. With your butt in the air, she'll be perfectly positioned to give you a little smack—with her hand, or if you're feeling more ambitious, with a paddle.

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