Archive for October 2008

Riverhouse ePress is releasing free, PDF-file review copies of its newly-upgraded “Style Matters: The Kraybill Conflict Style Inventory.” Similar to the Thomas Kilmann instrument in its five-styles-of-conflict framework, the Kraybill inventory is also culturally sensitive and provides differing instructions for users from individualist and collectivist cultural backgrounds. The 24 page 2008 version incorporates user feedback from trainers and features colorful new graphics and simplified instructions for interpretation. The “Hot Tips” for each style and discussion questions have been expanded, notes on cultural dimensions of conflict have been added, and the accompanying free Trainers Guide updated.

Interested trainers, educators, mediators, and consultants can send an email to: StyleMattersOffer@RiverhouseEpress.com and receive a download link by automated reply. For more information, email Center@RiverhouseEpress.com

Anger is a secondary emotion. One of the most pervasive emotions that mask anger is hurt. Deep feelings of hurt often go unexpressed instead it is safe to let off some steam by letting the other party have a “piece of our mind”–this maybe cathartic but is hardly effective. Let me be clear by saying that I am not talking about wearing our emotions on our sleeve and letting the whole world know that we have been hurt. Sometimes it is enough to acknowledge that one feels is hurt not anger. This first step can lead to honest dialogue and resolution of conflicts. Consider an anger management class to learn the skills to manage anger and reduce conflict in your life. We are nationwide using video-conferencing. Visit us at www.masteringanger.com

Anger management is a learned skill. Whenever you feel you are losing your temper in a way that may harm you, or others, you should look for professional help. Every one of us has lost temper at once or another. Anger management becomes issuing only when we are no longer able to control our anger.

When your anger controls you, it can cause you to do things you normally would never do, and even things you could regret for the rest of your life. Studies have shown that anger causes your pulse rate and blood pressure to rise. Hormones internal secretions like adrenaline and noradrenalin also rise when you are angry. Anger can push you backwards emotionally effecting your life in the areas of your personal relationships with others, it effects you physically as well.

In order to develop good anger management techniques, you must understand that our body naturally responds to any perceived threat by producing adrenalin to protect you and prepare for “fight”.Every person has triggers that set off their anger. Here are the most common reasons people become angry:

Threat to their values.

When someone insists they do something they don’t want to do.

When someone is hurt or betray making to feel a loss of trust.

When they attempt to escape guilty feelings over something they do not want to feel or admit to them.

When they believe their feelings are discounted, and their sense of self esteem is compromised.

What could you do with six hours? We recommend you use it to take our fast-track anger management class. Sessions held in our Charlotte, North Carolina office or through video conferencing. Call 704-804-0841 for details.

Anger is considered usual, not an abnormal human emotion and temporary psychological state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage, healthful when it is controlled, emotionally accompanied by physiological and biological changes. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenalin.

We act physically expressing the anger on rare occasions. Normally as human beings we have the linguistic process of language, verbal abusing and speak insulting, then only physical fury is followed if angry is not moderated.

When anger is repressed, bottled and not allowed for outward expression, it may turn toward your mind and soul. It may induce high blood pressure, hypertension or depressive disorder. If the angriness is not set forth in words, manifest or communicate it may produce also additional troubles. It may produce either passive or aggressive behavior which will flunk you to establish successful relations with others. In conclusion, if you’ll be able to calm down inside your internally reactions and visibly expressing one’s inner feelings, your mental state and behavior will be controlled.

Whenever, if these methods are not successful, then anger can be moderated by tools of relaxation method such as deep breathing serving to calm down the angry feelings. Breathing deeply and repeating words like “calm down” will enable you to reduce these angry feelings. Feel please free and practice this technique daily, it is rude health behind yoga and meditation, as another way to relax.

The other method is to change the way you think. Furious people some of the times are excommunicating, swearing or speaking in an extremely colorful term. Once we’re angry our thoughts are amplified and turned to be extremely dramatic. If we’ll succeed to replace it with more noetic and rational thoughts, it will help you a lot. You have to remind yourself that getting angry is not going to solve anything.

We’ll have to learn to face our problems, slowing down and thinking carefully, it will surely solve our problems.

It is good to love your job and probably even be a workaholic. However if you trample certain limits, then it’s surely dangerous and hazardous to your health and physical well being. Working overtime or for longer schedules is by far the single biggest cause of stress and stress related ailments are a silent killer. They have an indirect impact on the person’s physical and mental health. Longer working hours means lower productivity as it tends to cause concentration lapses. It is wiser for the business to work smarter than longer.

Long work hours can also put off sexual intimacy between partners as one of them is always working which leads to frustration and depression. Meeting friends, socializing, community service, personal health and fitness and hobbies are all put on the back burner because of excessive working hours. It simply makes your life a mess. You feel pressurized and stressed all the time due to lack of sleep, concentration lapses and unwanted family squabbles. Losing on sleep during weekends because you are still putting in those extra hours leads to irritability and anger outbursts. Excess work hours also mean erratic food habits which can disrupt your digestion and further aggravate health issues. In this highly competitive modern day world, working long hours has become a trend. It creates stress and tension that can severely hamper your major organs that may lead to heart attacks, kidney problems and high blood pressure. Since employees are the backbone of the company, their health and physical well being are of utmost importance. Working long hours results in a tired brain, low concentration and eventually poor productivity. This adversely affects the company and may result in resignation or recruitment problems. This causes irritability among employees. We cannot ignore the fact that working hard is essential to earn a livelihood but that doesn’t permit you to work late and sacrifice your health and time.