Life After Divorce Support Group

This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.

New here.....

I crossed over from the BU/D group to this one and need support. Looking forward in getting to know you all.
My divorce was final in Nov. and I'm STILL sad about it. Sometimes I still can't believe we're divorced. Now he's engaged to the skank he left me for. WE were suppose to be together forever! I'm having a very difficult time dealing w/all this. We have 2 kids ages 6 and almost 3 so I have to see him every weekend along w/the skank.
We separated on May 19th and within one month I managed (w/help from family) to find a place to live and got my old job back. I was a stay at home mom for a year. It took my kids awhile to adjust to new schedules. I miss my ex so much and still love him. He told me 2 weeks ago that he misses me. Sometimes when he drops off the kids he'll hug and kiss me (more than a peck on the cheek). But I put a stop to it. If he REALLY misses me and loves me then he'd be here w/ME not her. I can't take it anymore. He's even asked me if my door was open to him if it doesn't work out w/them. Well apparently it is working out if they're engaged. I'm NOT going to be his plan B. His 2nd best. And that's exactly what I was doing but not anymore.
I just want to move on and be happy. I need to take care of myself so I can take care of my kids. I want my kids and I to be happy. I know it's a long progress and it takes time. I wish I could go a day w/o thinking of him and I wish I didn't have to hide in the bathroom and cry so my kids won't see me. I'm sooooooooo ready to move on and be happy. I just need a BIG BOOST!!!

Welcome to the group Shanna! We've all been where you are now. Each of us has to feel our way through the mess and eventually you emerge a bit happier, a bit more yourself, and ready to move on with your life. We all know how hard it is even if we don't know your particulars. You will get through it and you will reach a point where you don't think about him every day. The pain and bitterness fades away and all of a sudden you feel strong and ready to live again! Maybe you'll meet someone new when the time is right for you and that man will show you what a healthy loving relationship can be like!

Just take one day at a time and cry all you need to. All you have to do is take care of yourself and your children and put one foot in front of the other. You'll get there!

Good Morning and welcome to this side of the world.....lol....it really didn't feel any different for me post divorce verus during the divorce.....they only difference was I knew the final judgment and that he couldn't hurt me any more......it was a weight lifted from my shoulder....but I stray fromt he topic here....Welcome! We're here when you need us!

Hugs to you and keep strong, if he really wanted you he would have the effort to stay with you and not the skank. I am still in the throes of divorce, but you have to look forward now and not behind you and definately not be Plan B. You can do this, look at what you have already done and keep moving forward.

Hey Shanna, welcome to the group. I know what you mean. I'm having a rough time moving on also, but in order to be happy again we must do that. Sometimes time can be our worst enemy and sometimes our best friend. Hopefully, one day we will get to a point of happiness and not think about it anymore. Hang in there:)

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