Good morning brothers and sisters! Sounds like a revival meeting doesn't
it? I grew up in a large family the oldest of 6 so it is easy to think
in terms of big family. I greet you today as my family of spiritual kinship,
one of my chosen families.

The organization of this Family Day is a living enactment of one of
the most fascinating truths of the 5th Epochal Revelation - that when we
live in conscious family relationship we are building the living temple
of the Divine Mother Supreme..

The First Urantia Society of LA, the School of Meanings and Values,
and SURF have worked together to actualize a vision which we can carry
with us in our everyday lives. I applaud the work of the leaders of these
organizations, and thank all of you for joining us.

On the first page of your handout there is a short grace from Maya Angelou.
Let's raise our voices up and read this grace together:

HERE ON THE PULSE OF THIS NEW DAY,
YOU MAY HAVE THE GRACE TO LOOK UP AND OUT
AND INTO YOUR SISTER'S EYES,
AND INTO YOUR BROTHER'S FACE, YOUR COUNTRY,
AND SAY SIMPLY, VERY SIMPLY,
WITH HOPE - GOOD MORNING!

Day by day the portals of the 21st century are opening. We are counting
the days. I think there might be 434/435 days left. Let's ask ourselves
the question What are going to bring with us through these portals? What
do we have to offer that is going to make the world a better place?

YOU DON'T HAVE TO RAISE YOUR HANDS. How many of you in your mind's eye
pictured yourself carrying a Urantia Book through these portals? As important
as the Urantia Book is, the truths will come alive ONLY through the way
we live them. This places a great responsibility on each of us.

When the UB was given to our isolated planet, we received direct word
from our spiritual benefactors that we are NOT isolated and they proceed
to tell us WHY and HOW as we learn about a Universe filled with RELATIONSHIPS
from the elegant relationship God has with His ETERNAL SON to the relationship
He has with each us - HIS infinitely loved children. Throughout this revelation
God calls us to be brothers and sisters in HIS family, and this is the
good news that most have still not heard.

We know about the major secular global networks which show clearly how
we are all connected. Information is rapidly shared across the global networks
of Economics, transportation, news media, communication, medical, and science
communities. The discovery of killer T cells in Finland can affect research
and lives in all other parts of the globe with a click of a button.

What is not so obvious and yet desperately needed is for our neighbors
and the world to know that we are a global family, and part of God's universal
family. "[We] are ever drawn towards his Paradise presence by that
kinship of being which constitutes the vast and universal family circle
and fraternal circuit of the eternal God. " (71)

This is the GOOD NEWS that we can carry with us through the portals
of the 21st century. We can offer the vision of universal family. We can't
hide behind our books, because we have to LIVE this truth. And that's what
we are doing today.

It may seem that I am preaching to the choir, but I am not sure we understand
about the reality of universal family when I hear such things from long
time readers of The Urantia Book as: "The use of family is just a
metaphor; they have to find a way to speak to our limited human minds."
"I don't have any family; what does family have to do with me?"
" I am gay and I will never have kids. I don't know how to interact
with this concept of family." "If we talk about all of us being
family, we will dilute the parent/child family."

I wonder if we are afraid of the intimacy which goes along with being
family? If we think the family concept or ideal should be reserved for
just those related by blood and genes, if we do not have a vision of the
reality of universal family and put it into practice in our every day lives,
if we do not know how to live as family in its many manifestations, how
can we share one of the most essential truths of this fifth epochal revelation,
which we are called to do? How are we going to take up our responsibility
and be "The people of another age" and SPEAK to the people of
another age? 2000 years ago Michael said to his apostles:

"The people of another age will better understand the gospel of
the kingdom when it is presented in terms expressive of the family relationship."?
(1603)

We have some work to do. We must develop the ideals and live the realities
of HEALTHY family so clearly that we live in conscious family relationship
all the time.

In your handouts you will see a depiction of the Temple of the Divine
Mother which I have come to believe through my studies of the Supreme is
made up of FAMILY, in all of the possible arenas of experience from our
inner family to the universal family. Robert Burns has offered his talented
artistry in its expression; thank you to Saskia Raevouri's permission to
use Chick Montgomery's rendition of Universal Family as seen on the cover
of How I Found the Urantia Book. I would like to acknowledge Marvin Gawryn
and Dave and Marta Elders for their contribution to the development of
this model. Also in your handout you will find the essence of some writings
from our culture that are giving us most excellent guidelines for healthy
family - especially from Stephen Covey and Deepak Chopra.

To go along with the depiction of the Temple of the Divine Mother, you
will find a summary of the 7 arenas of the Family of the Supreme. There
may be other models, but I certainly had a lot of fun developing this and
working with Robert on the aesthetic aspects. He made it come alive. We
offer this as a working structure, a visual image, of how we can contribute
to the building of the living temple of the Divine Mother Supreme, which
in this model is made up of 7 arenas of family.

This is one way to visualize our connections with each other - our familial
relationships from Cradle to Eternity. We are in relationship from the
moment we are conceived in the womb of our earthly mother, all the way
up through our experience with the Supreme and Divine Mother, where once
again we will find ourselves being born into the worlds of service. We
read: "As God is your Divine Father, so is the Supreme your divine
Mother - in whom you are nurtured throughout your lives as universe creatures."
(1288)

EACH OF US HERE TODAY PROBABLY REPRESENT AND EXPERIENCE AT LEAST 4 OR
5 OF THESE 7 ARENAS. Let's do a little show and tell, a living representation
of our model; quickly raise your hands in response to the following. You
will pump a bit of oxygen. Look around as we do this exercise.

HOW MANY OF YOU ARE PARENTS? GRANDPARENTS? CHILDREN OF PARENTS? HOW
MANY OF YOU ARE BROTHERS/SISTERS? AUNTS/UNCLES/NEPHEWS/NIECES? HOW MANY
OF YOU SPEND TIME WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL FATHER? ACKNOWLEDGE THE PRESENCE
OF THE SPIRIT OF TRUTH and THE ANGELS? HOW MANY OF YOU ARE NEIGHBORS? GO
TO A JOB? DO VOLUNTEER WORK? GO TO CHURCH? ATTEND STUDY GROUPS? LIVE IN
A COMMUNITY? HOW MANY OF YOU ARE INVOLVED IN THE WORK OF THE FIFTH EPOCHAL
REVELATION? ARE INVOLVED IN INTERFAITH WORK? ARE INVOLVED WITH GLOBAL CONCERNS
SUCH AS ECOLOGY?

If there is a person sitting next to you that did not raise their hand,
try especially hard to make a loving and deep contact with this person,
because that person may be feeling unrelated.

To readers of the UB these 7 arenas of family might be obvious. However
we can assume that they are not even conceptualized by most of the people
on the planet and that's where OUR work is... .to so live that those around
us feel that they are in a meaningful family relationship.

I am not going to go into details for about these 7 arenas of family
life - that could be a good workshop - but I would like to quickly point
out a few things in each.

1. INNER FAMILY ARENA The inner family is the foundational family relationship
which will extend outward to all other arenas of family. This is where
we experience our relationship with God our Father and with the Eternal
Mother Son through the Spirit of Truth. Actually this family is quite extensive
and active because I would imagine that it is within this arena that our
angels and Thought Adjuster also "live".

Our soul is the home of our inner family. We can consider our soul as
our refuge from the isolation of our materialistic ego self and its worldly
concerns; we can enter it as our sacred place of peace wherein the Spirit
of our Father dwells and communes in loving fellowship with the spirit
of his son, the Spirit of Truth." Even just talking about this place
makes me want to be there.

As we build up and out from this INNER foundational family relationship,
we will construct the glorious living temple of the Supreme Mother through
our work in 6 other arenas of family, and it is in these arenas that our
souls build their muscle; where our bodies and hearts connect to get some
work done.

2. FAMILY OF ORIGIN (BIOLOGICAL FAMILY) Most of us grew up in a family
- in our biological family. This arena has provided us with our genetic
makeup, some of our abilities and disabilities, our disposition, our talents.
Some of us have spent years healing from the wounds experienced in this
family. And hopefully most of us maintain intimate connections with members
of this family.

3. HOME FAMILY - PARENT/CHILD/CURRENT FAMILY/CHOSEN FAMILY Our HOME
FAMILY is the arena of family in which we live NOW - whether we are parents
with children in the home, students in a fraternity house, children in
an orphanage, or folks in a retirement center. This is our laboratory,
our training ground, our crucible. It is here that we experience family
in the most intimate ways of association. As individuals, as a society,
as a global community, we must support, and uplift the basic home family,
the nuclear family made up of parents and kids, for it is in this arena
that the long term fundamental paradigms of life and feelings of oneself
and the universe are developed. We should do whatever we can do as a "village"
to help parents raise their children, and our children.

We are learning to manage families more like businesses. There are habits
which apply in all arenas of family relationship which will help us become
healthy in our relationships. We will mention a couple of these in a moment.

4. COMMUNITY/WORK/SCHOOL FAMILY Whenever we walk out of our home family
door we enter this arena - going to school, the cleaners, the gas station,
the grocery store. And we are offered endless opportunities to be in relationship
with brothers or sisters. As someone once said, "There is no such
thing as a stranger, just a brother or sister we haven't met."

I wheeled my grocery cart next to the melons a couple of weeks ago,
and was attempting to choose a ripe one. An old man walked up and right
off stated he was alone and was wondering if I knew how to tell if a melon
was ripe or not. We discussed and thumped melons for quite a while. We
had a relationship, albeit over melons, and I felt such a surge of caring
for this old guy, alone, and so desirous of some kind of relationship with
another that he would discuss melons with a stranger.

It appears that the work environment is becoming more family like. The
term "Work family" is appearing more often. Strong and intimate
relationships are developing in the work place, another environmental opportunity
for intimacy with brothers and sisters.

I am director of a large school age day care center, and we interact
with at least 1000 personalities what with over 200 kids and all of the
family members who pick them up. When parents bring a tender little one
of 4 or 5 years into such an intense environment they are scared for their
child. Once I explain that we all live as one huge family, that image usually
erases their fears.

In the school environment it is usually the isolated and lonely ones
who are doing terrible things in their isolation. Maybe we can do something
about this if our young people are brought up the vision that all are members
of God's universal family. This vision perhaps can create the courage to
reach out to those who have low self-esteem.

5. FAMILY OF SPIRITUAL KINSHIP - That's us! Those who are spiritually
like minded. Being here today speaks eloquently of our desire to be family.
We are building the living temple of spiritual brotherhood. Like minded
in the sense that most us of read and believe that the UB is the 5th Epochal
Revelation to our planet; AND that Jesus was and is who he said he was:
t he the Son of the living God. 2000 years ago Jesus said that "....upon
this foundation will I build the brotherhood of the kingdom of heaven.
Upon this rock of spiritual reality will I build the living temple of spiritual
fellowship in the eternal realities of my Father's kingdom. " He calls
all who believe this truth the "...human fraternity of the divine
spirit." (1748)

Isn't that a beautiful term: "....THE HUMAN FRATERNITY OF THE DIVINE
SPIRIT" ? Now there's an organizational name for someone to grab onto.

And Jesus is building that living temple today with all who are self-conscious
sons of God as his stones. "And ever since that day this same Jesus
has been building that living temple upon that same eternal foundation
of his divine sonship, and those who thereby become self-conscious sons
of God are the human stones which constitute this living temple of sonship
erecting to the glory and honor of the wisdom and love of the eternal Father
of sprits." (1748)

6. INTERFAITH FAMILY Our interfaith family is made up of all peoples
of the various spiritual paths who are following their highest light. "As
the universe looks upon an inhabited world, it likewise discerns two great
classes: those who know God and those who do not.." Interfaith movements
are gaining great impetus as people of faith are experiencing the desire
to come together. I believe that our work in this arena of family, is to
learn more about the truths of other religious paths, and how that truth
is expressed...kind of like Jesus and Ganid did as they gathered the highest
truths from the world's religions. As we honor diversity of spiritual expression,
we help build the temple of the Supreme.

7. GLOBAL FAMILY The global family can be summed up in one sentence
: Every mortal on this planet who has the capacity of knowing God is a
member of the global family, the world wide family of God.

All 7 of these family arenas make up the family of the Supreme (along
with the others from all of the other inhabited planets.)

Let's look at what healthy family is NOT: It is NOT being abused or
abusing either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. It is
NOT being manipulated or manipulating. Almost any negative form of expression
by either child or adult can be an attempt to manipulate the world to their
desires instead of the more rigorous work of adjusting to the world. Such
behaviors as raging, withdrawing, blaming, shaming, sulking, anger, guilting,
seductiveness can be behaviors that in any arena of family can be manipulative
ploys. If we recognize these as attempts to manipulate, we will not become
victims. It is NOT ooey-gooey/lovey-dovey no problems. We have two media
wrought concepts of family - the lovey/dovey one and the 5 dysfunctional
things happening all at once like in the daily soaps. Healthy family operates
somewhere on a fluid continuum.

You can count on it: FAMILY AT ALL LEVELS MEANS PROBLEMS. Healthy families
solve problems not kill each other emotionally.

WHAT CONTRIBUTES TO THE
HEALTH OF FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS?

Our culture now has 50 some years of research on healthy family relationships.
From this it appears that much of what has been discovered about the healthy
home family can be applied to the other arenas of our model. Healthy families
relate, trust, communicate, be silent together, respect space, share goals,
work, play, pray, disagree, argue, cry and suffer.

Stephen Covey talks about habits which build healthy families in his
book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families. These are listed in your handouts.
I would like to point out a just a couple of these:

Habit # 4 THINK WIN WIN - Moving from me to we. In cultivating this
habit we want what's best for everyone involved. This is one of the main
concepts of the Supreme - desiring the greatest good for the greatest number.
Acting in behalf of a whole.

Whether we are acting in our INNER FAMILY, our WORK FAMILY, HOME FAMILY,
asking the question 'What can I do to help?' Rather than 'What's in it
for me?' will make the difference in whether you create positive or negative
energy around you. Deepak Chopra says that when we in our inner dialogue
ask the question: HOW CAN I HELP? Rather than WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME? we speed
up the unconscious energy fields around us. I am quite sure what that means,
but it sounds like a good thing to happen :) :) :)

Another habit Covey says can help make healthy families is habit #5
- SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND AND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD. Covey tells the story
of a teen who was a basketball player and who had developed a good shot
from 10 feet away. He helped his team score many points with this shot
and received a lot of attention for it. Also on the team was one of his
best friends, Pam, who didn't like the attention he was getting and stopped
passing the ball to him. After several games played like this, he talked
to his father who told him to give the ball to Pam every time he got it.
He thought that was the stupidest idea he had ever heard. He set out on
a mission to ruin the next game for Pam. He got the ball and was going
to give one of his point making shots when he heard his father's loud booming
voice from the din of the audience, "GIVE HER THE BALL!" He hesitated
for one second then did what he knew was right. She scored two points.
He continued to give her the ball whenever he got it; she continued to
make points, and THEN she began to give the ball back to him and together
got a reputation for winning games as a dynamic duo. (185)

A global vision is developing with the idea that doing small, simple,
spontaneous things for others can have profound consequences. Japan has
a SMALL KINDNESS MOVEMENT which has handed our more than 3 million awards.
It began in 1964 to encourage Japanese to provide a warm welcome during
the 1964 Tokyo Olympic Games. It is now a global group linking with like-minded
organization in many countries. The president of the University of Tokyo,
Seiji Kaya told his audience to "be brave in practicing small kindnesses,
thereby creating a wave of kindness that will someday wash over all of
Japanese society." And the Random Acts of Kindness movement is going
full speed ahead with an 800 number.

. Jesus smiled as he passed by. These momentary contacts can make a
difference. A young man was walking a group of mentally challenged adults
across a street. He stood in the middle of the street holding up traffic
after all but one had crossed, a down syndrom young adult. He went to the
sidewalk where he was and bent down to tie his shoe for him while they
waited for the light to change to join the others. As he was on his knees
tying the shoe, I told him that I had been there done that and he was doing
a great service. I remember him looking up for a moment into my eyes and
said that he had done this kind of work in Louisiana and it was hard. I
told him as I began to cross when my light came on that the angels are
working with you....the light went on in his eyes and I bet he felt of
more worth in this difficult job. The Spirit of Truth is always present
to keep truth DOERS from feelings of loneliness and isolation.

We are not talking about a complex thing here. It is easy to smile.
Look for something that someone wants done, and do it for them. You have
heard of the KISS - keep is simple stupid. I always cringed when I heard
that; it seems so negative and negating. But it's catchy. So I suggest
a bit of a revamp: KISSS - Keep it small, simple, and spontaneous. KISSS
EACH OTHER!

WHAT CAN THIS INCLUSIVE MODEL OF FAMILY DO FOR US? If we can visualize
something we can do it. The Olympic champions visualize themselves winning
a race, jumping the highest or swimming the fastest. My yoga teacher says
that if one cannot do a particular position, then just visualizing it can
have positive effects. So if we can visualize a working model of family,
see ourselves as family wherever we are, then we are more likely to act
like healthy family. And instead of evaluating a person on the merit of
their dress, their age, their work, their position, their influence, their
money, their success, their words, OR THEIR ORGANIZATION, we can look into
our brother's and sister's eyes and see the light of God and FEEL THE DIVINE
ENERGY FLOWING BETWEEN ME AND THEE.

When we feel and experience that all whom we meet are our brothers and
sisters, we will then be able to truly be the "people of another age"
that Jesus refers to: "The people of another age will better understand
the gospel of the kingdom when it is presented in terms expressive of the
family relationship..." (1603)

As the people of another age, and as the active participants and carriers
of the 5th Epochal Revelation we are being called to live as family all
the time. When we do this we are living in accordance with the trend of
the universe and are following the pathway of the Supreme. And then we
will be ready to walk through the portals of the 21st century filled to
overflowing with the love of God in our hearts, watering the dry ground
of craving for relationship all around us.

THE SUPREME IS BUILDING HER TEMPLE WITH US AS LIVING STONES AND OUR
SPIRITUAL FATHER IS USING OUR DESIRE TO BE FAMILY AS THE MORTAR OF LOVE.

AND THIS IS THE GOOD NEWS WE ARE CALLED TO SHARE: WE ARE IN FAMILY RELATIONSHIP
FROM CRADLE TO ETERNITY.