I suffer from Pudental Neuralgia and have had one nerve block injection performed by the only pain consultant in London who performs this procedure. I have to have another nerve block injection soon and I am almost frightened of this consultant as he is so abrupt and has no bedside manner whatsoever. I have chronic pain from a trapped nerve in this area and need to know how I can find the courage to face him again. I know I have to have this procedure done again and I am not afraid of the procedure itself, only of him. His fees are also enormous - I don't mind that - it's just that I can hardly face him again, but this is the only procedure, which may (or may not) help to diagnose the chronic pain I am living with at the moment. Please help me to have the courage to face him again.

I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering physically and then have the added strain of seeing a consultant who makes you feel uncomfortable.

That sounds very challenging and having had experience of dealing with consultants lacking in bedside manner I do appreciate how this can can be so disconcerting when you already feel vulnerable.

I wonder if you have thought of doing either of the following:1) Taking a friend or family member with you who you do feel very comfortable with and supported by?2) Seeing your own GP to discuss whether or not there maybe a different consultant to whom you could be referred. When we are paying to see a Consultant, we often do have a greater choice?

Generally consultants details are usually available on the Internet as well so we can check their specific interests and areas of medical expertise.

In terms of what we at A Vogel can offer to support your situation, we do have a flower essence which can help to balance emotions in challenging situations, particularly if you have had a troubling experience that has knocked your confidence previously.

You could also combine it with our Emergency Essence which also works to balance emotions when faced with shocking or stressful events.

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Did you know?

When we feel stressed or anxious our body responds as though we are under attack, releasing a surge of adrenaline which can cause a number of baffling bodily behaviours including palpitations, shortness of breath and even a dry mouth!