Let's talk about sex...or not?

Intimacy issues

Many couples who comes in for therapy have some concurrent issue with sex. This is because sex is such an important and underestimated part of being human and when things go wrong in a relationship, sexual problems are part of the picture. Unfortunately, sex is one of those things that is not discussed openly and this can perpetuate the problem where couples;

Don't know how to talk about sex with each other

Try to repress or ignore their sexuality

Feel their sex life is lacking something but can't really express what it is

Ignore the important role sex can play in expressing love, having fun and feeling free

Don't really understand what they would like to get from their sexual relationship

Misuse sex as acts of power, performance or currency

Most couples enjoy early relationship sex,Then time passes and problems arise...

She doesn't want it after baby arrives.

He seems to want it all the time.

She can't come and he feels inadequate.

He comes too soon and she feels disappointed.

He stops getting erections and she thinks it's because she's unattractive.

He looses his drive and he thinks he's getting it elsewhere.

She doesn't like her smell and she feels rejected.

So many things can get in the way of good sex it's understandable that 92% of couples experience some degree of problems with desire at some stage in their relationship!

There is a range of sexual difficulties Clarissa is familiar with and can help you with, others you may need to be referred to specialist for. But know one thing, you are not alone in your problems and things can get better with time and attention.

Difficulties with desire will be experienced by the large majority of couples at some point. There are various explanations for this but to the couple it can seem insurmountable. A further percentage of couples will experience more significant sexual issues that may or may not have been a problem prior to the relationship.

Common problems that can be discussed in couples counselling

Low or unmatched libido

Lack of desire for each other

Feeling bored in the bedroom

Vaginimus and dyspareunia

Erectile dysfunction

Inability to orgasm

Porn addiction

Lack luster sex

People have very different ideas and expectations regarding sex however, and verbalizing them can be difficult. It is not the aim of sex therapy to make you feel guilty, weird, uncomfortable or confess your wildest fantasies. It's about increasing intimacy in a way that is meaningful to the couple according to their age, stage and values. Moreover it is important you know that some form of sexual issue happens to nearly all couples at some point and it is okay to discuss it if you want. While it might feel embarrassing to talk about sex, it's worse to let the problem continue to erode your relationship. Many problems are temporary and can be resolved within couples counselling.

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Couples Counselling in Sydney

No matter how strong your relationship with your partner is, it is likely that at some point in your time together you will experience problems or difficulties. No matter what issues you are experiencing, Clarissa Mosley’s relationship counselling in Sydney will be able to help you repair your relationship and help restore happiness to your lives. With a degree in psychology, specialist training in couples therapy and an in-depth understanding of a wide variety of related fields, Clarissa has all the knowledge and experience required to help you and your partner deal with any issues that you may be experiencing.

Relationship issues can occur for a variety of reasons, whether you are experiencing money problems, issues with your sex life, or just a general dissatisfaction with how things are. No matter what the problem, before you take any drastic measures, it is good to explore the issue together by completing relationship counselling in Sydney. Too often nowadays couples are willing to end a relationship as soon as they being experiencing problems, when often the relationship is more than salvageable. What many couples don’t seem to realise is that even the best relationship can still be hard work. Although we are constantly told that as long as you love your partner everything will be fine, this is simply not the case. Problems occur because there is an issue that needs to be addressed.

Clarissa conducts all relationship counselling in Sydney with a positive view of the situation. She believes that although problems can be difficult to work through, they are a ultimately a good thing because they present a chance for a couple to become closer, and more understanding of each other’s wants and needs.

A lot of the success of a relationship depends on how well you and your partner communicate. When partners communicate badly problems arise, and because of the lack of good communication, they become much harder to fix. Perhaps either you or your partner withhold affection to get what you want or punish the other? Perhaps every conversation you have turns into a shouting match, or is all about dominance? Whatever the issue, Clarissa can help you begin to work through it by giving you techniques to begin communicating more effectively with each other. By understanding each other, you will begin to strengthen and repair your relationship.

Contact Clarissa Mosley on 0412 206 531 to book in for your couples relationship counselling in Sydney today