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We Want to Know How You Feel

We will never stop trying to get you to tell us how you feel.

Why:
You have feelings sometimes. And mostly, you feel like keeping them to
yourself. Women, however, believe that all feelings, from tiny good
ones ("Oh my God, I put the perfect amount of sugar in my coffee
today!") to big, bad ones ("Sometimes I hate myself") deserve to make
the miraculous journey from our mouths to your ears. We yearn for a
similar emotional play-by-play from you.

What you've been doing:
Naturally, you've looked deep into your soul for the words to describe
your thoughts, feelings, and ideas. You've tried to string them all
together with as much believable filler as possible, hoping that your
true feelings—frustration that you're not in bed, enjoying a
Manhattan and CSI—aren't too apparent.

What you should do:
Chances are, if you're engaged in the process of "becoming more
emotionally communicative," you've allowed this to take up a lot of
space in the relationship. It's time to introduce a new concept
entirely: Men should probably share their feelings a little more, but
women need to share theirs less. The truth is, we're totally jealous of
your stiff upper lips. We're embarrassed about our compulsion to run
off to Camp Introspection with you, our friends, or perfect strangers.

Take advantage of this. Next time she begs you to emote, instead of
responding with guilt and a promise to open a vein and/or tear duct,
say, "I think I'm just more comfortable weighing things in my own head
than you are. Maybe I need less validation." She'll start to panic that
there's something wrong with her. And because of the very nature of
what she's panicking about, she'll do it quietly. Which means less
chatter during CSI.