Giving thanks for the network of evil step dads and their help, prayer and advice

When I gathered my family for Thanksgiving, I gave a quiet prayer for that network of evil step fathers.

This year, I am celebrating nearly 13 years as an “ESD.” When I remarried, I knew my step daughter would be a challenge. And, I was right.

In retrospect, I learned that when a child becomes a teen, they don’t care for their natural parents. Somehow, having a new parent in the mix only intensifies the experience.

I am not going to embarrass my daughter with some of her escapades. Just know that there were times that I questioned my decision to marry her mother. And, the network of evil step fathers stepped in to help.

Through the years, my friends at church and in the Catholic ACTS community shared their stories as ESDs. Their simple message was to wait and pray. Step children will grow out of their rebellious teen years and become adults.

My oldest graduates from law school in six months. The guys in the San Antonio chapter of ESDs were right. After she turned 21, she became a normal human being again.

So, to all evil step dads out there, I would say it’s hard to parent a step daughter or son. Only time, love, patience and prayer will help.