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How do you deal, when horrible child abuse is within your own family Updated in red

How do I deal with the fact that someone in my family is guilty of crimes on their own children? I'm so sickened, disgusted, and completely floored that I don't know how to deal with this. I am not getting into details due to the fact that this person has not yet been charged, and is denying the allegations horribly, but I don't doubt for a moment this person is completely guilty.

It doesn't make any sense, there were no signs beforehand, we are not a violent family, hell we don't have a single person who has a conviction for anything. How the hell does this happen?

I'm so baffled, hurt, I want to take this person and beat ever loving shit out them. I want to scream and choke this person. I can't even bring myself to remember this person's good qualities. I'm just floored. I don't know how to deal and neither do this person's parents. We are all in shock.

PS, no the family is not supporting what this person did, however we are attempting to have this person committed.

She actually has been proven innoncent of the accusation. What happened was two of the children where fighting horribly, she had been in the shower, the oldest was on top of the younger child choking him and beating his head into the floor. She grabbed him by the arm and spanked him pretty hard, she has admitted to loosing her temper and going overboard. The children had been coached by the other parent to lie about her, and they had been doing it for a while. When the school called CPS and they were questioned, out of fear of the other parent, they stretched the truth and blamed her for all the bruises.

They were removed, a child psychologist spent a great many hours with them and the middle child is the one who finally broke, his conscious got to him.

The children are back with her and the entire family is in counseling. The court has been notified about the father and actions according to CPS are being taken. CPS is very much involved and will stay that way as long as it takes.

She is an excellent mother, who acted without thinking, she made a mistake but the bruises were almost all made by the children physically fighting because of their parents divorce. She recognizes the need for her and the children to receive counseling.

As you all can imagine, this has been an extremely stressful time for our family. I remain, as I always have, very much believing in her. The bruises she caused were when she grabbed the oldest and were extremely small. According to CPS, it has been ruled a family in need of counseling to deal with the changes and hurt. They wrote on the report that she is an excellent mother who panicked and over reacted to what the oldest was doing.

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