Have we been played for fools?

V long story short, DP's XW broke all communication for the past 11 years until DP's DD and DS were adults. They have been in contact now for one year.

DP's DS is more forthcoming. Dp's DD is much less so. Occasional emails from her (about 6/7 or so this year, her choice not to progress to phone calls/meets). Aside from responding to DP's emails this year, DP's DD sent a completely-out-of-the-blue father's day email wishing him a lovely day.

A few days before Christmas she sent an email hinting at money worries (her family is very monied, but we are assuming she is having to make her own way). We replied, part of which was asking for rough numbers re debts. She replied the same night (unprecedented) and vaguely hinted at a figure that would be of great benefit to her. We spent a few hours going through our finances and working out a way to get this to her. Replied by email to say (among other things) that it was on its way to her. Her signature confirmed she received this the day before cmas eve.

Since then we've heard nothing from her. fb intimates she may have been at a family gathering we had been told she couldn't attend. Have we been played for fools do you think?

Laurie because she is DP's DD. She said she was in debt. DP has been in debt and knows what it feels like. We would do anything in our power to make sure his DS and DD don't have to go through that.

coconutty we've heard nothing since her last email saying the amt she was in debt by. I sent the parcel (extra xmas pressie because she's short of money, plus cheque) by special delivery so could see who had signed.

ashtray 1) I don't know, she wouldn't talk to us - changed phone nos, wouldn't answer correspondence. 2) He did, as much as money would allow. We couldn't afford to go through the courts. It was £450, which is a large sum to us.