Your husband is a predator, and you are a clueless enabler. You might want to brush up on what the exact nature of such animals is, by visiting the website Darkness To Light (www.darkness2light.org). Your husband has probably abused many more children. Pedophiles don't always target their own children, knowing it may get them caught sooner. However, they target vulnerable children they have access to. As a mother, you are an utter failure if you defend him. You risk the very lives (because it DOES destroy a child's life!!) of every child he comes into contact with. Your simpering sycophant fawning for this pedophile is nauseating. Wake up. Educate yourself. Stop sacrificing children to your husband's depraved sickness.

I am truly amazed that you could write things like "Cody doesn't perceive himself as a victim" and that he "was not damaged by Neal's actions" I pity your daughter for having a mother who does not recognize that being on porn sites, as a child, would not have a damaging effect on someone. That thinking someone robbing you of your innocence does not have a damaging effect on someone. That you gauge a boy in high school theatrics as an indication of his mental health. I am appalled that you look at this as a loving, caring mistake instead of the unconscionable act of an adult abusing a child. I pity Margaret and hope the world does not do to her what your husband did to another child.

Wow lady, you are truly in denial. That entire letter is very self-centered. Your entire letter is pointless and nothing in it has any evidence of your husband's deserving of lesser time in jail. It is all a bunch of "feel sorry for me". If you had a clue, you would know that the best thing for you daughter is to have this guy out of your life forever. If anyone should ever touch your daughter inappropriately, I would hope you wouldn't be so gullible and naive. How can you say this has not affected this young man. So self-centered. Maybe you should do some time too so you can think about what it's like to lose your peace.

What kind of mother are you? You allow your husband to have sex with children and think nothing of it. You are just as guilty as he is and should be tried as well. Your child should be taken away from you. You knowingly let your pedophile husband go to camp with young children. You make me sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You would be well served as would the entire community by reading the ACE study by Vincent Filletti and Robert Anda. Also the work of Frank Putman at Cincinnati Children's hospital would be of value. He has studied the intergenerational effects of child sexual abuse. The internalized feelings of guilt and shame can lead many adult survivors of child sexual abuse to suicide. I hope this does not occur in this or any case but read the woks of Judith Herman and Bessel van der Kolk from Harvard. Child sexual abuse is NOT a simple mistake. It is an abusive matter and usually leads the child victim to intense feelings of deep and intense guilt and shame. I hope you folks get some much needed education.