I'm so sick of this!

Why is it that some (hint some) gay guys feel that they have to stand out in the crowd and make themselves look really dumb?

I mean the fake tans...

The crappy bars...

The crazy hair styles...

Whatever happened to just normal, down to earth people?

The reason I posted this on Real Jock is because I had completely lost faith in gay guys on Myspace...

I was browsing threw a couple of Myspace groups and EVERY single guy on there had to stand out with some lame background music and crazy 'model' pics...

It's a HUGE HUGE HUGE turnoff for me and it reassures me to know that on RJ there are good looking 'wholesome' gay guys that don't feel they have to make their sexuality their entire lifestyle.

Ok, I honestly have no clue where this is going but I just don't understand why if gay people (including myself) want to be treated as INDIVIDUALS and not bashed upon because of sexual preference, why must we do things to make ourselves look utterly ridiculous?

I completely agree. One of the things that I've never understood is why there has to be drag at every gay or gay pride event. It's the one thing that all the media focus on and it's no wonder that people's perception of us is negative.

You talk about being treated as individuals, but you've just taken a whole group of people you don't know, made a judgement and insulted them for the choices they've made in regards to their appearance and choice of music on, of all places, MySpace.

-Why is it that some (hint some) straight people feel they have to stand out in the crowd and make themselves look really dumb?

-Whatever happened to just normal, down to earth people?

What's the difference?

And what happens to individuality when they all conform to a standard you find acceptable?

Ok, I honestly have no clue where this is going but I just don't understand why if gay people (including myself) want to be treated as INDIVIDUALS and not bashed upon because of sexual preference, why must we do things to make ourselves look utterly ridiculous?

'wholesome' gay guys that don't feel they have to make their sexuality their entire lifestyle.

I really could care less what straight people think of me. If my biggest concern was how straight people view me, if I took the time to analyze my look and behaviour so that it conforms with what straight people find acceptable, then that would make my sexuality my entire lifestyle.

Without guys with the guts to be camp, life would really be boring. We need a little fabulous outrageousness in our lives. One of the advantages to being an oppressed minority is the license to be colorful. I think it's great.

willie1991 saidWhy is it that some (hint some) gay guys feel that they have to stand out in the crowd and make themselves look really dumb?

I mean the fake tans...

The crappy bars...

The crazy hair styles...

Whatever happened to just normal, down to earth people?

The reason I posted this on Real Jock is because I had completely lost faith in gay guys on Myspace...

I was browsing threw a couple of Myspace groups and EVERY single guy on there had to stand out with some lame background music and crazy 'model' pics...

It's a HUGE HUGE HUGE turnoff for me and it reassures me to know that on RJ there are good looking 'wholesome' gay guys that don't feel they have to make their sexuality their entire lifestyle.

Ok, I honestly have no clue where this is going but I just don't understand why if gay people (including myself) want to be treated as INDIVIDUALS and not bashed upon because of sexual preference, why must we do things to make ourselves look utterly ridiculous?

Feel free to disagree

Mmmmm..I never knew that it was only gay people with fake tans, crappy bars, crazy hairstyles,and doing things that make them look ridiculous.....

I always love it how it seems to be guys with either hidden/deleted profiles or profiles with no pics that seem to whine about other people. And thats all it really is, whining. Grow a sack, deal with the fact that everyone is not like you and then just don't associate with them if you don't like it. F**king get over it dude.

Indeed, stupidity and narrowmindedness run rampant through all populations and demographics, sadly including communities with "RJ" in the name, from time to time. Happily, not everybody shares the same values of what's ' crazy' and 'normal' or 'down to earth.'...cuz that would make things pretty damned boring.

People...are people...are people. Get over it, and get on with it. When I don't like the company somewhere.....

I think people have a problem with this post because it seems to be an attack on someone because of who they are. I totally agree that people who feel they should be flamboyant and in your face for some political reason are completely wrong, but there are some people who are just that way because thats just them.

Rhodielifter saidI always love it how it seems to be guys with either hidden/deleted profiles or profiles with no pics that seem to whine about other people. And thats all it really is, whining. Grow a sack, deal with the fact that everyone is not like you and then just don't associate with them if you don't like it. F**king get over it dude.

So rower, Shawn said you are cofortable with your sexuality. So questioning his comment indicates that you are not comfortable with your sexuality? Well then you have no right to be dissing others for the way they express theirs.

"Act natural"...see, that's just offensive to every guy here that's struggled to come to terms with his identity, dude.

At the risk of sounding like Chucky: littering your profile with protestations of straight-actingness and normalcy and urging a vast population of men who you don't know to subordinate their versions of normal to your version of normal...just smacks of internalized homophobia and self-loathing.

zdrew said"Act natural"...see, that's just offensive to every guy here that's struggled to come to terms with his identity, dude.

At the risk of sounding like Chucky: littering your profile with protestations of straight-actingness and normalcy and urging a vast population of men who you don't know to subordinate their versions of normal to your version of normal...just smacks of internalized homophobia and self-loathing.

There. I said it. Now if you need me, I'll be at the buffet.

That kind of turned me on a bit zdrew. Can you slap me around a few times?

zdrew said"Act natural"...see, that's just offensive to every guy here that's struggled to come to terms with his identity, dude.

At the risk of sounding like Chucky: littering your profile with protestations of straight-actingness and normalcy and urging a vast population of men who you don't know to subordinate their versions of normal to your version of normal...just smacks of internalized homophobia and self-loathing.

zdrew said"Act natural"...see, that's just offensive to every guy here that's struggled to come to terms with his identity, dude.

At the risk of sounding like Chucky: littering your profile with protestations of straight-actingness and normalcy and urging a vast population of men who you don't know to subordinate their versions of normal to your version of normal...just smacks of internalized homophobia and self-loathing.

There. I said it. Now if you need me, I'll be at the buffet.

...gotta keep feeding those plump breats...I mean...pecs ......damn! I knew I would slip up one day ...

And what happens to individuality when they all conform to a standard you find acceptable?

OK Shawn, I understand what your point was but after just looking at your post regarding gay marriage and the comments you made related to the pic of the couple you posted, I"m wondering how you can play both sides of this coin! I think humor is important, but at who's expense and I think perception is important, but at the elimination or limitation of how much individuality?

I think criticizing the writer and then posting what you posted might be viewed as conflicting.