communication - Musings of Unayok

2005 Mar 12

15:25communication

When there's no attempts at communication, I don't assume that everything is tickety-boo. That would be foolish. First I attempt to start the communication — I keep myself available for responses. Rebuffed or ignored, I implement contingencies.

One might think this would be a rather blantant indication that some communication is needed. However, in the immediate case, it appears to be a trigger for going to other people to start drama. Odd.

Comments:

Do you want me to communicate, or would you just rather "deal with" me?

o.O

When you need the support of friends, generally they need to know why you need their support. I haven't asked anyone to get involved in anything, what they do is totally under their control.

When the lock on the door is changed after one leaves because they're fed up and need some space, it generally doesn't score very many popularity points. What kind of message do you think that sends out to not just me, but anyone else?

I'm making arrangements to move my stuff out from your basement, probably in the next couple of weeks, it'll be gone and you'll have more space.

I have no problem talking in person, so I'll do that when I come over to pick up the rest of my stuff.

I definitely want to communicate. That involves listening, comprehending, speaking and sharing on both our parts. Definitely want communication.

I'm here, ready to communicate — have been since the day after you bolted. If you want to "just deal", then there's nothing much I can do beyond that in return. The ball really is in your court here.

For detail of my reasoning and timing, please see the post that is locked for your eyes only. Then, if you still want to have a discussion in public, that's fine. I posted more privately to see how much could be resolved without (further) public drama.

Our mutual friends are showing quite a reassuring maturity in wanting to not get involved. I don't want to involve them in any case. This should just be between you and me.

I really didn't want things to get to this point, but communication has always been a problem between us.