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Topic: newbie here (Read 5183 times)

My name is Sean and I am a 30 yr old gay male. I have been browsing around this site for a couple weeks now. I thank the God's for it.

I tested positive back in March. I had a partner of 4 years that I loved and thought loved me. turns out he was sleeping around, so he brought hiv home to me.I haven't really had anyone that I can talk to about it that really "knows" what it's like to be dealing with this.when I am doing well I am doing well. when I am doing badly, I am doing really badly. it's a rollercoaster of feelings.

Hi Sean,Welcome to the forums - you will find that the members here are always a friendly lot and when you need hugs, thats what you will get and if you need advice, your questions will be answered and if you need a smile - there are plenty of those around here too!

Welcome. I was diagnosed back in February of 2006. I became undetectable shortly after starting my HAART regimen.

The first six months were really tough for me also, but the good news is that I feel 'normal' now and living better than I have before.

My ex was also doing things behind my back and chances and although the doctors can not say how or when, I have a feeling that is how I was infected. I can't change the past, all I can do is move forward and live each day with joy.

Hi Sean, glad you found the place~ Sorry about what's happened. This place saved my sanity a year and a half ago, and I know the people here will help you deal as well. Don't be afraid to post your feelings, rant, etc.

Hey guy, I am glad you found a safe place for support. I found out I was positive in January 2006, a year and half later and I am doing well. I was lucky enough to find support on the internet and have made some wonderful friends that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I know when I found out I was up and down just like you are describing, some days are better then others. As time moves along, so to will the bad days. I live life as before, although I have to be a lot more frugal with money to afford the costs of meds. I have learned from reading the HIV forums that if there is a will there is a way, there is much inspiration to be found amoung these great people. Again, welcome. D

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Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'Press On' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. Calvin Coolidge

Happy to have you - though the price for admission is a bit of a steep one.

I've been poz since July 2005, and I know well those rollercoasters of emotions. It does get better. Time has a way of working that out.

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Hi Sean, Welcome!I'm sorry about your recent diagnosis. I know how hard it is to go through what you are experiencing right now and I wish you all the strength to get through the initial shock of it all.When I first tested POZ what really upset me was the fact that this is how I found out my BF was cheating on me. It wasn't the HIV that hurt the most.Focus on yourself now and try to keep a positive attitude (no pun intended)We here for each other.

Rich

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Was the same age when I was diagnosed. That was 2 years ago and, knock wood, still doing well. It will get easier to deal with in time so try not to stress out too much. This is a great site to ease your fears and get all the info.

I to am sorry to hear about you recent news... But am glad you found this site early! It has helped me and so many ways.... Hang in there bud... I am only 6 months in the club but it is starting to get better every day I think about it less and less...

It's good you found this place; it sure has helped me a lot. I was diagnosed in March '06, so I still consider myself fairly new to this all. You're right; the emotions can really be a rollercoaster. At this point, I think I'm heading back 'up' again, but who knows; it can be a bit overwhelming at times. This nasty virus still scares the crap out of me; I don't know when / if that'll change. Finding out as much as I can about it, how others deal with it, and just talking about it with others has helped me a lot. I think you've found a great group of people here. Check the 'AM Gatherings' link on the left side of the page. If you're able to attend, you'll meet a lot of us in person this September in San Francisco! Take care.

Things can become and will most likely become more "normal" in time. We all know the rollercoaster too well and, for many, things settle and become much less overwhelming and very manageable.

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Hey, I would rather not have the opportunity to welcome someone to this forum... but, I must say I've been bugged out since 1991... I've had deppression... suicidal thoughts... prepared for my death... lost count after 50 for friends passing... all in all.. I'm alive doing well and I am now 46... 1589 cd4 count... non-detectable and still here... so if you need to ask questions... listen to someone elses thoughts... or just bullshit with others who have the same challenges in life as yourself... everyones here... and some have good suggestions and imput...Your not alone... and I welcome you to our little world... sincerely, John

Welcome to the family, good buddy. Not to worry you are not alone. I am so glad you found us.I suspect you'll find this a very supportive group....I have! Hang in there....it does get better. It takes time to adjustto come to terms with HIV and all that it entails but it is possible to manage it. Let me suggest if you haven't alreadyto check out the lessons part of this site and learn as much about HIV as you can....knowledge is power and it will helpyou to face the days ahead.... Again WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!