Why does this girl my brother is seeing think he is lying?

I got a text from him and he's really down about this. Here's what he wrote:

I told her that I couldn't pay for her uber to come over because my bank card was cancelled today. Someone tried to withdraw money from 2 ATMs with my account. The bank called me today and cancelled my card. I told her we can get together another night.

The she asked if I could pick her up. I told her I have no car insurance and I have to find a new carrier. My insurance kept jacking up my premium every six months and I got sick of it. I told her I've been taking the train to work.

She called and screamed at me telling me that I'm full of crap and that I just want to be cheap and not put any effort in and believes I just want to do all the work. She says she smells bs. I don't know what to say but thirst things really did happen and I don't know why she's trippin. She called me a lying conniving fabricated SOB. Why won't she just believe me?------------------------------So, I'm just as confused as he is.

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Here's a text she sent him:

"How is it that both things happen at once? I always come to you. You don't even ask me to text you when I get home anymore. It's like you don't care. You took a long time to reply which seems like you were working real hard to conjure the perfect excuse to get out of getting off your ass to make an effort to see me. I'm tired of this one sided bullshit."

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sounds like she's a stuck up bitch, look if i can't find a girl to hang out through the worst n only during good times, then she can fuck off. Life has a lot of ups and a lot of downs too n you gotta be able to take the ride both ways, n if not then fuck ya i dont need u.

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It's not that she's not there for him. She doesn't believe him. She thinks he's playing her. She wrote him this:

"Well paying penalty fees will cost you more than your insurance jacking up your prices. Your insurance company notifies the DMV that your insurance has lapsed. Something doesn't make sense."

I don't know does he even still like her? How long have they been dating? Cause it kinda sounds like he's avoiding her a bit. Which in a good relationship wouldn't happen. Also I don't get why she doesn't try to help him get it fixed instead of bitching to him about it. If they have been dating a while then why don't they go in together on insurance? A lot of my friends do it to save money and they aren't even dating. I don't know it's kinda hard not knowing what kind of people they are. All in all tho if your brother is indeed unhappy with her and trying to avoid her then it might be a good idea for him to scrap the relationship. See I don't know if he doesn't want to talk to her as much or if he's tired of having to ask her to talk to him. Most girls that I have been with have had no problem texting calling, or snap chatting, or whatever girls do, without me asking her. If he does still like her then he should ask her for help and solve the problem together. Problem solving is a great way to build a relationsh

its just she said he doesn't ask her to text him when she gets home from work anymore. I don't know exactly what it means, is it cause he doesn't want her to text him? Is she just making it up? If he really still likes her then he needs to get on the phone n start explaining and start including her more. She sounds kinda self centered but it doesn't matter what I think about her, just what ur brother thinks.

I don't know the best thing to do is just try to help him out as best u can. And see if u can help him get something figured out with his girlfriend and try to just be there for him and be supportive. Why does she think he's lying? we may never. she is a woman and it's kinda hard to tell. Best thing to do is just to try to show her that he just needs her trust and wants to work on it together.

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It's possible she was once hurt before?My ex lied to me lots of times but it was one lie that I thought he was telling the truth and it was him being faithful and not cheating. Found out he was cheating on me. So it was hard at first to trust my current boyfriend at first but after talking to him and telling him about my ex I felt better and started to trust my boyfriend.She shouldn't have overreacted because it is possible for something like that to happen. I have had 3 bad things happen to me all at once. That's life it happens. I think this is something they should talk out. Relationships is about communicating and understanding. Something like this shouldn't be over a text. They should just figure out a day to meet and talk.

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That's another complaint of hers. He never communicates about things in person. she also though he started sleeping with other women because after 5 months he wanted to start using condoms again. He said he was just tying to be responsible and her response was why now all of a sudden? Why not before?

She might have a point about the insurance lapsing. I told him that he can get screwed. If I was trying to save money I'd never let my insurance lapse and I would try to find a better deal before that happens.

cold someone you know have driven her? and why doesn't she get the Uber?

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She says she feels she does all the work. Always drives and alll she wanted was for him to give back a little which I can understand. What I don't understand is why she thinks he's lying about this stuff.

and honestly the whole bank account seems like a crazy excuse (I know it's true though)anyway she should have came over by her own means and your brother could have shown her that he cares in a different way by perhaps making her a nice meal or something romantic like that.

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She's insecure and explosive. She doesn't trust him and doesn't communicate well. It seems she is trying to make him feel bad because she is not getting what she wants.

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She usually is the one who drives to him and I do think it's rude of him to not contribute. What I don't get is how she picked apart everything. She says it's common knowledge not to let your insurance lapse which was the main reason why she thinks he was bullshiting her.

Well, the fact that she is always making more of an effort than him and driving out to see him has probably caused her to view him as lazy and untrustworthy. She may have made up some narrative in her head about him to explain to herself why he barely puts in any effort. Maybe, she thinks he doesn't really want to see her or that he's unfaithful.

yeah... everybody wants an easy life really no one wanna live a hard life... I don't think bad of any person making things easier for them just don't cause trouble to others... people can have their life being easy but only with the person that's willing to tolerate if not, it's best to part... but that's just my opinion