It’s something called ‘the inner child’. Something from our childhood that keep remaining inside of us and made us what we became today.

There is a little child inside of us that no one can see it, but it reflects on who we are at present. Inner child kita adalah bagaimana masa kecil kita menentukan siapa dan bagaimana karakter kita sekarang, dan menentukan bagaimana kita membesarkan anak-anak kita.

In our early years of life, we might experienced many unexpected things. Trauma, abandonment, neglect, abuse, mental suffering, and ignorance. Less love, support, compassion and trust. Things which left a footprint in our minds, left a hole in our souls.

Quoting a good article titled 6 Steps to Help Heal Your Inner Child from psychcentral.com:

“Staying with this last layer of painful feelings is the hardest part of the grief process. “The only way out is through,” we say in therapy. It’s hard to stay at that level of shame and loneliness; but as we embrace these feelings, we come out the other side.

We encounter the self that’s been in hiding. You see, because we hid it from others, we hid it from ourselves. In embracing our shame and loneliness, we begin to touch our truest self.”

Allah created us on a purpose. So accept yourself. Heal the emotional wound. Let go of the pain. What is done cannot be undone. Move on with life. Let the past makes you better, not bitter.