I am by no means an expert on this, but I do share your time constraints (full time job, busy family life) so can relate to being able to find the time to figure all this out.

For what it’s worth, this has what has worked for me:
– write frequently – you already do this
– make sure you are tagging posts to appropriate categories
– visit other sites and like and comment – you also seem to be going this
– use a simple but conversational writing style – short paragraphs and sentences, correct grammar
– promote your posts through other social media outlets – I don;t do this but I know some of the most successful bloggers use twitter and Facebook to cross promote
– finally (although perhaps initially),try to figure out why you are blogging… is it because you want to share stories, because you want to interact with others with similar interests, or you want to become a known writer. I am no expert, but I think your blogging strategy would be different depending on which of these objectives drives you,

I don’t want to pretend I have this figured out, but those are my 2 cents

thanks, basically I want to share our lifestyle. I know there are so many out there that can relate, but it is like homosexuality was…it’s taboo. Obviously I am still in the “closet” to some degree because I’m writing under a different name. We do have a lot of friends who know, two of children and some family members but not ready for it to be public knowledge. I come from a very Bible thumping family and this would send a good deal of them over the top. So, I write for my release and with the hopes that maybe I can help someone else be able to open up and discuss their experiences.

I think its great that you’re trying to build awareness and acceptability of the swinging lifestyle. I think society’s judgment of swinging is a big, complex issue caught up in the culture’s simultaneous obsession and repulsion of sexuality. Untangling that, and showing that good, ‘normal’ people are swingers is really important so I wish you luck