(Closed) Bachelorette party HELP! :(

I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding this summer. I am in the process of planning her Bachelorette Party, and her sister emailed me to see how plans were coming along. I emailed her the “itinerary” thus far, and she wrote me back saying she was shocked to see that there was no mention of a male stripper. Now I know the bride said she does NOT want a male stripper, and her sister knows that too … but now her sister is saying that she wants to get one to come to the hotel where we’ll be playing games & having cocktails before going out. I know that the bride will think it’s funny and will laugh about it at the time if we were to have one come in, but then again she could get really upset, especially since she already told us she DIDN’T want one. This night is about HER, not her sister! I don’t want the bride to think that I didn’t take her thoughts about her party into consideration – if there’s something she doesn’t want, why would I get it?

How do I stop her sister from potentially ruining the bride’s night? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I think it’s disrespectful of her sister to ruin the party plans just because she wants a stripper. I am meeting up with the bride this week to help stuff envelopes for her wedding invites – would it be wrong for me to bring it up to her? How can I mention it without ruining a “surprise” (if we DO go through with it)? Or should I tell her sister that I know she absolutely does not want a stripper? I am putting a LOT of time and money into this planning, I just do not want the night to turn out bad!

I don’t think you should tell the bride. I always see brides on here who get dragged into bachelorette/shower drama when it is totally unecessary. Just tell the sister the bride does not want a stripper and you think it would ruin her night.

Thanks! I would not be surprised if the sister booked one behind our backs. I wish I didn’t have to say that, but it’s the truth

I don’t think I will say anything to the bride – you’re completely right @LGenz – that’s the last thing I would want to happen is for her to worry about her bachelorette party – the night she should be having a blast & be carefree!

I will try to talk the sister out of it in the nicest way possible. I just hope I’m not too much of a pushover in the end

Just send the sister an email reminding her that the bride said she did not want any strippers. Try to avoid bringing it up with the bride. But, if you have to when you see her, you can casually mention: “so, you’re sure you really don’t want strippers?”

I would be kind of upset if there was a stripper at my Bridal Party. If my Maid/Matron of Honor were to call me and say my sister was thinking of hiring a stripper, I would call my sister myself and say, under no circustances, is she to hire one. Done and done. I wouldn’t feel stressed and I’d rather have that than a stripper at the party.

But- if you don’t want to bother the bride, really drive it home to the sister that there are to be no strippers and hope she doesn’t hire one. :/

I would just tell the sister that the bride informed you she doesn’t want a stripper. Tell her you’re not going to get one. If the sister decides to do it on her own.. that’s her deal. Sisters tend to fight and do what they want, so that’s a battle between the two of them. I wouldn’t get too much into it. But I also wouldn’t bother the bride about it.

@kperry3: That’s what I decided to do. I told her sister that I knew she didn’t want one, and I didn’t have the room in my budget for it anyway, so I was not going to get one. She knows the plans for the night so if she wants to get one, whatever – she can take care of it! But I did not mention anything to the bride – I don’t want her to think about that and I definitely don’t want anything to get in the way of a fun night!

@kperry3: That’s what I decided to do. I told her sister that I knew she didn’t want one, and I didn’t have the room in my budget for it anyway, so I was not going to get one. She knows the plans for the night so if she wants to get one, whatever – she can take care of it! But I did not mention anything to the bride – I don’t want her to think about that and I definitely don’t want anything to get in the way of a fun night!

The party was last night and it was great! Well… for the most part. Everything turned out just as I had hoped – NO stripper, yet somehow we had a pair of mens boxers in our hotel room at the end of the night? The bride and everyone else had an amazing time and she will NOT stop thanking me! Makes me feel good 🙂