It's pretty much a well known thing. But she's never actually come out and said, "I'm gay!"

She never did a press release, but she's been living as openly gay since before she went to Princeton. Speaking of which, I would think a Princeton graduate would be able to put together a more lucid public speach.

It's pretty much a well known thing. But she's never actually come out and said, "I'm gay!"

She never did a press release, but she's been living as openly gay since before she went to Princeton. Speaking of which, I would think a Princeton graduate would be able to put together a more lucid public speach.

It was my understanding that she's always skirted around the issue or refused to answer whenever anyone has inquired about her sexuality, which isn't really living openly as a homosexual. Although I may be wrong.

Cythraul:It was my understanding that she's always skirted around the issue or refused to answer whenever anyone has inquired about her sexuality, which isn't really living openly as a homosexual. Although I may be wrong.I'm not judging her for this, mind you. It's her business.

OK, here's what I heard: she's always been in the closet, although about 10 years ago a lot of questions started coming up about her sexuality, since she had a kid. People asking her how the kid had been made (since she was never pregnant), who the father was, etc. And she would never discuss her kids or anything on that subject. It was off-limits in interviews. Then she had another kid, and this made people even more curious about her personal life, and there were some pictures taken of her with a woman that she was with an awful lot of the time.

Then about five years ago she made a speech somewhere and she openly thanked her partner for her help and support all those years. It wasn't a big deal, red carpet speech, but a speech at a college or somewhere, so it wasn't a big announcement. Anyway, it was pretty well decided at that point that yes, she was gay, she'd admitted it, and that was her long-time partner. (I didn't "know" she was gay until I heard that, and I've always been a fan. But I don't care about her private life if she wants to keep it private.) And last night......it sounded like she was saying that yes, I'm gay, but the woman everyone was so curious about.....we broke up.

And those two red-haired kids with her must have been her kids, which up til now she has kept completely out of the public eye. I don't even think I've seen a picture of them outside of a few blurry paparazzi shots. So she was trying to make a statement of some kind, but no one seems to be sure what it was. Whatever it was, I"m sure she was completely sincere, or she wouldn't have been such a nervous wreck.

She only acts when she wants to anyway, so even if she quit it wouldn't be a huge thing.

It's pretty much a well known thing. But she's never actually come out and said, "I'm gay!"

Exactly, which is why she said that this wasn't a "coming out" speech, because she's been out to everyone that's mattered to her. What it was was her first really public acknowledgement of her sexuality. She had previously acknowleged her then-partner Cydney at a 2007 Hollywood function, but it didn't get a lot of press because it wasn't televised and was still pretty ambiguous ("My sweet Cydney").

Of course, even after last night, the press is still trying to parse Foster's words because she didn't say absolutely, unambiguously, "I'm gay" or "I'm a lesbian" or "I'm bisexual" (which might be the case). Which is pretty funny, considering Foster herself addressed that directly in her speech - the press and public's need for absolutisms (a press conference and reality show and fragrance heralding a "coming out") - and that she wants none of it. Just because someone is LGBT doesn't mean they should feel compelled to announce it to the world, and just because someone isn't compelled to announce it to the world doesn't mean they are closeted. And being a public figure should not obligate one to divulge every intimate detail of one's life, especially when they've never done anything but live honestly.

I think that given the occasion and the award she was receiving, Foster wanted very much to publicly acknowledge the role that Cydney has played in her personal and professional life. And to do that meant lowering her guard a bit, and so she did, albeit grudgingly and on her own terms. Privacy means everything to this woman, and can you blame her? She's been in the public spotlight since she was 3, and a guy once tried to kill the President in a crazed attempt to win her love. I commend her for the way she's chosen to live her life and protect her privacy, and I wish her well as she enters her next 50 years.

I thought she came out years ago. Didnt care much back then either. But oh well good on her. I jsut thought it was funny they kept showing parts from contact during her montage, what a steamer. Robert Downey Jr speech was good though gave me a few chuckles.

It's pretty much a well known thing. But she's never actually come out and said, "I'm gay!"

Exactly, which is why she said that this wasn't a "coming out" speech, because she's been out to everyone that's mattered to her. What it was was her first really public acknowledgement of her sexuality. She had previously acknowleged her then-partner Cydney at a 2007 Hollywood function, but it didn't get a lot of press because it wasn't televised and was still pretty ambiguous ("My sweet Cydney").

Of course, even after last night, the press is still trying to parse Foster's words because she didn't say absolutely, unambiguously, "I'm gay" or "I'm a lesbian" or "I'm bisexual" (which might be the case). Which is pretty funny, considering Foster herself addressed that directly in her speech - the press and public's need for absolutisms (a press conference and reality show and fragrance heralding a "coming out") - and that she wants none of it. Just because someone is LGBT doesn't mean they should feel compelled to announce it to the world, and just because someone isn't compelled to announce it to the world doesn't mean they are closeted. And being a public figure should not obligate one to divulge every intimate detail of one's life, especially when they've never done anything but live honestly.

I think that given the occasion and the award she was receiving, Foster wanted very much to publicly acknowledge the role that Cydney has played in her personal and professional life. And to do that meant lowering her guard a bit, and so she did, albeit grudgingly and on her own terms. Privacy means everything to this woman, and can you blame her? She's been in the public spotlight since she was 3, and a guy once tried to kill the President in a crazed attempt to win her love. I commend her for the way she's chosen to live her life and protect her privacy, and I wish her well as she enters her next 50 years.

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And I think that's the way it should it be. The sooner we stop dramatizing some celebrity's big "coming out", the sooner people stop caring. And the sooner we stop putting a spotlight on it, the sooner people will realize it doesn't matter and we can move on from this ridiculous discussion. Let people be who ever the hell they want to be.

/wife's first date movie was "Hot Shots Part Deux". A fun evening was had by all...

You must be joking...

What would make you say that?

Neither the wife nor I care for movies that put you through the emotional wringer. No tearjerkers, no "feel good" bullshiat, no rom coms, none of that. If someone purposely wants to shell out good money to see something that is going to reduce them to a blubbering wreck 3/4's of the way through, that's their business. We choose otherwise.

Most of the time we end seeing kids movies! Hard to wrong with something like Madagascar 3 or Hotel Transylvania.

/wife's first date movie was "Hot Shots Part Deux". A fun evening was had by all...

You must be joking...

What would make you say that?

Neither the wife nor I care for movies that put you through the emotional wringer. No tearjerkers, no "feel good" bullshiat, no rom coms, none of that. If someone purposely wants to shell out good money to see something that is going to reduce them to a blubbering wreck 3/4's of the way through, that's their business. We choose otherwise.

Most of the time we end seeing kids movies! Hard to wrong with something like Madagascar 3 or Hotel Transylvania.

/wife's first date movie was "Hot Shots Part Deux". A fun evening was had by all...

You must be joking...

What would make you say that?

Neither the wife nor I care for movies that put you through the emotional wringer. No tearjerkers, no "feel good" bullshiat, no rom coms, none of that. If someone purposely wants to shell out good money to see something that is going to reduce them to a blubbering wreck 3/4's of the way through, that's their business. We choose otherwise.

Most of the time we end seeing kids movies! Hard to wrong with something like Madagascar 3 or Hotel Transylvania.

I was making a hot shots reference....

Ah...well, I don't honestly remember much of the dialogue from the film so that one sailed right over my head.