Once, at a smart wedding in Northamptonshire when I was about 30, someone handed me a newborn baby and my skin broke out in hot hives.

In Brazil, I met a ten-year-old street kid. I fed him, let him sleep and shower in my hotel room, bought him clothes, and felt an overwhelming desire to protect and nurture him.

I had never before felt such a forceful maternal instinct. These events were profoundly physical reactions, both shocking to me.

Just around the time of my trip to Brazil, the ghost of my never-born came back to haunt me. I began imagining what he might have been like  a tall and sandy-haired boy, who would have been 17 at the time. I was 35, the age when the experts say your eggs and fertility start declining.

Its embarrassing to reveal these visions of my never-born son, and important to understand their significance. This imagined son was not some moral spectre come to punish me; it was my subconscious reminding me to wake up and face reality.

So many bought the feminism (I have a career, what more would a baby provide?) Now, they see the freight train coming at them called the nursing home where 75% of the inhabitants are unvisited females. What joy? They are going to sit around and rot and tell each other about their careers? How sad!

A generation following liberalism’s call into sinning and suffering is why one of the big ten is “obey your father and your mother.” If the boomers had obeyed their parents, so much sin and suffering would have been avoided for our society.

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posted on 04/25/2012 10:03:26 PM PDT
by qam1
(There's been a huge party. All plates and the bottles are empty, all that's left is the bill to pay)

>What a useless piece of self-indulgent tripe. She really doesnt feel bad about murdering her child. She only cares about herself, still, at age 42.
>
>Im disgusted.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who saw that (and found it off-putting).
Motherhood [and fatherhood] is primarily not about self, it’s about the child (otherwise they wouldn’t be parents).
That said, there’s something wrong with a woman whose only sense of motherhood revolves around ‘I’.

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posted on 04/25/2012 10:08:21 PM PDT
by OneWingedShark
(Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)

A generation following liberalisms call into sinning and suffering is why one of the big ten is obey your father and your mother. If the boomers had obeyed their parents, so much sin and suffering would have been avoided for our society.

It wasn't the "boomers" that took God out of our schools. Nor did the "boomers" give us Roe vs. Wade. Our social decay was well on its way when the boomers became of age.

No, it is certainly not her fault that her parents and society have cut her slack but she will still face the consequences of her actions even if she was encouraged to make bad decisions. As will we all.

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posted on 04/25/2012 10:32:23 PM PDT
by TigersEye
(Life is about choices. Your choices. Make good ones.)

This is what happens when a person does not recognize a force that is bigger and more important than themselves.

That force is God. When we put God first, everything else to include parenting, makes logical sense. Without God, there is nothing more important than self. This is why we have so many sociopathic personalities in America today. This is why we have a society focused on what government can do for them with no thought of future generations or the ethics/morals of taking from others to provide for them. This is why feminist achieved their goals. This is why we have so many dysfunctional families. This is why so many husbands and fathers fail.

My world makes sense when I follow God. When I fail to follow God (place myself above him) it does not work and it’s reflected in every aspect of my life.

I am certain that it is healthy for a human being to believe in something that is bigger than all of us. It provides the perspective that is necessary for a meaningful and fulfilling life. Our Creator designed us that way.

My world makes sense when I follow God. When I fail to follow God (place myself above him) it does not work and its reflected in every aspect of my life.

Indeed, this is true. It is to my shame that I am struggling, in fits and starts, and fairly discouraged in my walk with God... and in a macabre/catch-22 way it feeds on itself: wanting to do better, I try [and fail], I beat myself up for thinking I can do it (i.e. not relying on God), then I find myself wanting to do better...

I am certain that it is healthy for a human being to believe in something that is bigger than all of us. It provides the perspective that is necessary for a meaningful and fulfilling life. Our Creator designed us that way.

And it is sad that there is so much noise* drowning out our Creator's call, but then simply because it is effective is why the Enemy would employ the tactic.

* Note: just see what happens when one tries to move something 'broken' back into its proper place; all sorts of "screaming" and crying, sometimes emotional/hysterical & sometimes logical/cold, but 'screaming' nonetheless. You can see this in society WRT firearms; the reason they are all barred in so many places is not because of safety but control, and this control stems from the underlying assumption that "rights" stem from government/society/anything-but-God. It repeats itself in abortion; the unborn cannot be a 'person' (because abortion would then neoclassical be murder) because: "it's a woman's right," "it's part of my body," "it's got abnormalities," "it's settled law," "it can't survive on its own"... again, anything but "a baby is human, made in God's image."

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posted on 04/25/2012 10:55:25 PM PDT
by OneWingedShark
(Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)

>>This is why so many husbands and fathers fail.
>
>Excuse me... Since when have husbands and fathers been demanding abortions???

Is it enough to not demand abortions?
Does not evil flourish when good men do nothing?
And how could a good man conscience this infanticide?

And all the timesuch is the tragi-comedy of our [educational*] situationwe continue to clamour for those very qualities we are rendering impossible. You can hardly open a periodical without coming across the statement that our civilization needs more drive, or dynamism, or self-sacrifice, or creativity. In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests [hearts] and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.
 C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man

* Educational because we are TAUGHT by society that these things are of little/negligible/no value.

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posted on 04/25/2012 11:00:36 PM PDT
by OneWingedShark
(Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)

That depends on what you call hate. I hate to see people delude themselves about their actions. As long as she can’t clearly see that she took a human life she won’t be able to see reality and will have no hope of happiness. I can’t simultaneously hope for her well being and hope she never sees the truth. That is hoping for nothing.

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posted on 04/25/2012 11:07:23 PM PDT
by TigersEye
(Life is about choices. Your choices. Make good ones.)

Life is not confined to the four corners of an article, essay, or editorial. Don’t you think men impact the decisions of women for the same selfish reasons this lady chose to abort her baby?

Abortion is the result of placing yourself above an innocent life. They value themselves more than the child they conceived. They engaged in behavior that they knew could result in a pregnancy and she, he, or they choose to destroy the consequence out of convenience.

If you don’t think men have a responsibility in the number of abortions you did not understand what I wrote. There are two people responsible for a pregnancy (outside of a lab) and the danger of feminism and “pro-choice” is that men abdicate their responsibility to the woman and the child they fathered for a temporary high.

I know a man who demanded his young girlfriend get an abortion many years ago. It is his biggest regret. I have another friend who found out after the fact and struggles with the result of a decision he was not even aware of. However, he would be the first to tell you that he created the situation.

Examining the root cause of this woman’s decision goes far beyond the “sacred right” foisted on us by the left that makes it a choice based on their foundation that “nothing is bigger than me”. That foundation is found throughout the agenda of the left.

Young women were lied to for decades by the feminist elite, and their enablers in the media and medical professions. They were told to delay childbirth, until their career had been well established -- that they could take their time about getting pregnant. Only recently, has it been revealed to them that it is increasingly difficult (or extremely expensive) to become pregnant after 40. Also, little was said about the increasing probability of birth defects, as the mother ages.

I struggle every day because the task is impossible and he told me so. We all have a sinful nature and I fail miserably. However, by his grace, endeavoring to stay centered, and the wisdom of his word, I believe the goal to be certain and I know it is for you also.

I am always dumbstruck that most threads that discuss abortion on this forum fail to mention the responsibility of the other half of the equation. The indoctrination by the left has been terribly effective and it goes far beyond the issue of abortion.

By seperating the responsibility of the male who impregnated his tortured soul, we buy into the dogma of the left to divide us based on sex, race, demographic, and the laws of man/government. This is the world according to man, not God the Creator. God made men and women for his purposes, yet society tells us throughout our life that it’s about career, convenience, whatever feels good, and celebrating ourselves. The left tells us there is nothing more sacred than a woman’s right to choose. Those ideas will never fulfill the very reason for our existence. Those ideas are doomed to fail.

Young women were lied to for decades by the feminist elite, and their enablers in the media and medical professions. They were told to delay childbirth, until their career had been well established -- that they could take their time about getting pregnant. Only recently, has it been revealed to them that it is increasingly difficult (or extremely expensive) to become pregnant after 40. Also, little was said about the increasing probability of birth defects, as the mother ages.

Very good points.

These liars also reached the young men of that generation, and told them that sex was just for fun, and settling down and gettiing married was a backwards thing to do, a ball and chain on a young life meant for adventure.

Even if a young woman of that generation wanted to get married she had greater problems (than someone of 20 years earlier) in flagging down a young man her own age and steering him toward the altar.

Young people between the ages of 15 and 25 are in their prime courtship and marriage years -- but are they being encouraged in the direction of marriage at all?

Contemporary culture ridicules the woman who wants to conceive and bear a child -- "Oh, her biological clock is ticking." Tsk tsk. At the same time it tells the man, "You can have babies until you're a hundred" -- never mind that an elderly father won't be able to watch his children grow up, and let's not even mention that studies have shown a connection between advanced paternal age and mental disabilities in the children conceived (younger fathers make healthier babies).

The culture that tells men and women that these are their only options is a culture of death, not of life and hope.

“Excuse me... Since when have husbands and fathers been demanding abortions???”

Very frequently, in my work at a crisis pregnancy center.

I could just about predict if a baby would be carried to term - that is, if the mom had a baby daddy who wanted her to keep it.

Now, there were a few men trying to save kids that the moms wanted to abort. There were some dads who did not know they were a dad - mom kept it from them. And there were a few moms who rather heroically carried on even though boyfriends but the pressure on them. Sometimes, very harsh pressure.

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