Children not giving up seats for guests at home

I wasn't really sure how to word the title. It doesn't sound right but I'll try to explain! This is a very very trivial Aibu by the way.

Went to visit some family friends of my inlaws yesterday. There was me DH, Mil, Fil, Sil and Bil. At the house was their friend, her daughter and her grandson (not this duaghter's son).

When we got there, we sat down but there was a lack of seating with 7 adults so the aunt of the boy asked him to move off the armchair he was in and to sit on the floor or at the dining table so Bil could sit down. The boy (7 yr old) refused and said 'I was say here first so the seat is mine'. Aunt sighed and then dragged a dining chair from across the room for Bil to sit down.

Was this rude of the child or not? I thought it was but then I have no clue as to how children are meant to behave. My DS is only 18 months and tbh if he refused to let a guest sit down as a 7 yr old I would be a bit embarrassed but short of dragging him off armchair there was very little aunt could do

Don't know if it makes any difference but we are all Indian and culturally (sweeping statement) Indians are very OTT when it comes to hospitality. The guest is king and all that!

AIBU to think it was rude of the child not to give up his seat? Just interested in the right etiquette really

I was expected to get off a chair DDs were expected to get off a chair they are older now and do it automatically , it is basic manners I dont care how precious anybody thinks their children are they give a seats to somebody older than you or at least offer,

I still seethe remembering my first visit to PIL'S house. Sat eating breakfast when DH's little sister got up - walked up to me and said "that's my chair". I expected her to be rebuked but was told matter of factly (no apologetic tone) that that was her seat. So i had to get up and move round the table.

I'm not Indian - this is about politeness. Unless there's a learning disability involved when you'd def not push the issue.

If I were his parent I'd have told him that I realize he was sitting there first but he must be needs to be polite and give up his seat for adults and guests and if he didn't do it willingly would have been lifted out of said seat

Depending on the circumstances I might have sweetened the request with the promise of a drink or some vague later treat but probably not

I am not Indian but if I take MIL out in the car i would expect my husband to give up the passenger seat for her to sit in (or anyone else older etc) I expect the children to give up their seats too and I also expect people to on the bus for my daughter who is physically disabled. I can tell you though that from experience people do not give up their seats at all, whatever their culture (on public transport at least) But i still carry on teaching my children to have a bit of respect for those older or more infirm, for whatever reason

I'm probably going to be in the minority here but IMO YABU excuse as I gather from your OP, There were chairs available for the guests only not as comfortable as an armchair, so as there were other chairs available I do not see why the children have to sit on the less comfy chairs and have to move for the adults to be honest - He was able to sit down, So I don't understand the problem?

However, If there were no other seats available and the child refused to move knowing this then he would be made to move.

Rude rude rude. Although it's the parents'/aunt's fault rather than the child's, obviously, for enabling it.

Mind you, one crowded Christmas I suggested to a roomful of people including DP's twattish friend an adult that those in the comfy chairs/sofas swap and sit in the dining chairs for a bit to give others a turn at the comfy seats. Twattish friend gave me a proper face and opened his mouth to object, but then someone else got up and swapped and he seemed to realise he'd be out of order to refuse.

It is rude, whatever background - I agree with the death stare- followed by telling him to move for visitors - followed by physically removing him. However, having had them from birth they would just have moved in the first place.

Most 7 year old DC I know would be up out of the seat before being asked. My own DC are 9, 7 and 2 so i know a fair few 7 year olds. My neice and nephew are 5 and they would both be standing too to great guests and would't dream of sitting on a chair when a guest or adult didn't have a seat.

The not getting up i'd have been a bit perplexed by but answering back when politely being asked mine would have been quietly escorted to one side and reminded what is polite/ given a few minutes tume out as necessary. for that matter so would any other children visiting me relatives or not. It takes a village and all that.