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Whoever asks or organizes the date should pay. As a guy I make sure that I can pay for at least the first few as I would have asked her out and organized the dates. I've dated some girls who insisted on splitting or paying for our dates. It was always a good feeling that they wanted to impress me as much as I wanted to impress them

If you want to take initiative then and to plan a date so that you are in an environment that you feel most comfortable in and would like to show him some of the things you like then be prepared to pay

What Guys Said 11

The guy should at least pay for the first date. Beyond that I see nothing wrong with it being more of a team effort.

For women: if you could, imagine for a second what a role-reversal would feel like here. Imagine if you were expected to pay for all/most of your dates because that's "what the woman does." Doesn't it seem silly and antiquated to you? (And I totally understand that there's PLENTY of times when men would benefit from walking a mile in a woman's shoes, too. Believe me, I get that)

I'll say yes but not because that's how I think it should be all the time. If I want to get a girl into bed, I have to make her feel special. If I have to spend money on her to make her feel special then so be it. Means to an end really.

I did, however, spend money on a girl I liked. I took her out and everything. Then when I went to pay I got a serious bitch-face from her, as if I was doing something really wrong by paying. It sorta sent the wrong message that I shouldn't be paying, but I don't know.

Anyways, it's a very polarizing issue because, on the one hand, girls want to feel provided for. However, on the other hand, guys tend to feel like their wallets are being abused in doing so. We've all heard the stories of girls using guys for free stuff. I don't think most guys would have a problem spending money on a girl if he knew she wasn't just using him, leeching off of him, and that his efforts were appreciated.

The key for you girls is to differentiate yourselves from these money-grubbing women.

I believe, It should be who ever done the asking out. If the guy asked the girl out than he should pay for the first date, and if the girl asked the guy out than she should pay. After the first couple of dates it doesn't really matter who pays, as long as people are happy.

No! As your username suggests, you are confused. Your statement that women make $.75 to every $1 a man does in the same job position is 100% false. Women on average make less money than men because of their own choices, but NOT for the same job. That is illegal and human resource managers do not allow it. There are lawsuits if/when it happens, which means it's rare. If companies could hire women and pay them 75% of what they'd have to pay men, they would never hire men. THINK about it!

When studies control for things like job / position, education, work experience, time in the workforce and hours worked per week, women make as much as men and in fact some studies show they make more. This is all just part of you women wanting to have their cake and eat it too. You want to have your choices but you don't want to pay the price men would have to for making the same choices. You want equality except when you don't. It's pure, unadulterated hypocrisy.

Confused one: your text books are outdated and your professors have their heads up their butts. The gender pay gap has been thoroughly debunked for years now. Please read the links I provided. By the way, I have two business degrees including an MBA.

QA: it is 100% illegal for employers to discriminate against women. How do you think all those companies are getting away with it without being sued? The answer: they are not.

Answer me this, ladies: why are women who are so rabid about abolishing gender roles still trying so hard to preserve the ones that go against men?

OK, then you're not a hypocrite. It's the women who "say" they want equality AND to have men pay for dates who are hypocrites.

You really should get informed on the pay thing. Your facts are very outdated. It's something I have studied pretty extensively and the facts show that women are not paid less than men when all factors are equal (education, hours worked, etc.). At least read the first few paragraphs of this link so you're not completely in the dark...

What Girls Said 11

I don't think so. I think it depends on what you're doing. I don't think it's fair to say that if a guy doesn't pay for you it means he doesn't care about you? When did caring become about money? In this day and age where a girl can actually earn more than a guy how is it fair that he should pay when you're perfectly capable yourself?If a guy offers to pay for me ill offer to split if they insist upon paying i'll let them, but i'm perfectly ok with splitting it. I don't see how there's this big thing about a guy taking you out means he has to pay. Imagine if the date went badly? He then has to pay for your food and your shit company. How is that fair?

I think if we want to live in a 'girls are equal to guys' world then we can't just expect a guy to pay. I earn £7.20 an hour whilst the guy i'm dating only earns £2.68 because he's an apprentice. How is it fair that i should expect him to pay fully whenever we go out on dates? Not would it mean we would go on less dates because he can't afford to pay for it all the time, but it's also not respectful to him. Why should i make him broke? Does that show i care? Is that what caring is for a girl?

I don't think so. If a guy insists on paying then fine, but no way should a girl ever expect it. It doesn't mean they care about you more if they pay for you, it just means they have the money to spend. Measuring how much someone cares for you by whether they pay for you or not makes you just as bad as a gold digger.

Completely agree with what Chanelxoxc has said. Unfortunately, in our American society, we're taught otherwise. I'm sure there are women that share the same opinion that you do, but trust me when I tell you that when it comes to paying for a date, the majority of women in America could care less of she was making more than the guy. He'll be paying for that date no doubt and he'd better not even think about asking her if she could split the bill with him. It would be over if he did that.

I'm going to get a lot of shit for this, but I think the guy should pay for MOST dates. Not all but a good 3/4 of the time. Hate if you must but I like being taken out and he usually makes more money than me.

I've been in a relationship for 3 years and he still almost always pays. We both prefer it that way. I think he feels too embarrassed to let me pay if it's at a restaurant. If it's coffees or a movie I'll pitch. I think his pride gets in the way and I'm not complaining.

Whoever asked out should pay for that date. Most of the time it is the guy who asks the girl out first, so that's why most of the time the guy will pay for the first date. I think they should alternate after that. It's only fair - no one person should be forced to pay for everything all the time.

I think for the first date the guy should always pay, but after that, it all depends on the situation. If you guys are going out to a fancy dinner, or doing something romantic, i think its best the guy pays, it always seems more gentlemen like. But if its a casual date like mini golf or fast food, i think either of you could pay and it would be acceptable. Whatever works for your particular situation.