Cursed Be

By Rabbi Daniel Travis

And Rachel diedÖ (Bereshith 35:19)

Rachel did not die from natural causes.1 When Lavan accused Yaakov and his family of stealing
his gods, Yaakov, totally unaware that Rachel had taken them, was
infuriated. In asserting his innocence, he cursed anyone who actually
stole Lavanís idols. This curse was realized in Rachelís death.

The dreadful consequence of his words taught Yaakov a lesson about the
power of speech that he never forgot. Decades later, when Shimon was being
held prisoner in Egypt until the brothers would return to prove their
innocence, Yaakov was careful not to curse whoever had imprisoned Shimon.
Since Yaakov did not know who was responsible for Shimonís imprisonment,
he would not take any chances. In fact the captor was Yosef, and had
Yaakov cursed him, Yosef would have met a fate similar to that of his
mother Rachel.2

No matter how much someone aggravates you, you must never curse your
fellow. The spoken word has sublime ramifications, and even if one is
motivated by anger and has no harmful intentions, a simple remark can
cause tremendous harm.

The Gemara tells the story of someone who had just come from a long
journey and was feeling ill. His host, who was familiar with medical
practices, gave him special foods in order to relieve him of his pain. His
idea backfired, and actually caused the guest to suffer even more.
Exasperated by all that had transpired, the guest said that one who causes
pain to others should not have children. Although his words were merely an
expression of his frustration, they were fulfilled, and his host did not
have any more offspring.3