When a man is
able to identify the right female companion for whom he has great
enthusiasm and passion, he has the potential to forge a wonderful love
filled relationship that brings years of happiness, fun, romance and
deep seeded friendship. Being able to identify and approach your dream
girl, gauge your compatibility with her, and grow a relationship that
brings mutual fulfillment to both you and her can come naturally as you
learn to master your relationships.

It is commonplace for men to complain that they do not understand
women. Most men have expressed this sentiment at one time or another.
When men express such a sentiment it is a manifestation of the
confusion they experience when linking their assumptions about women
compared with the behavioral attributes they observe in women when
engaged in interpersonal relationships. Women conveniently use this
confusion and perpetuate the myth that women are very complex and
intricate while men are very shallow and simple. Such a societal myth
allows women to act without accountability. When acting in a manner
that is hurtful, harmful, manipulative, or inconsiderate to their male
companion, they can always use the women are complex and intricate myth for cover. From a woman’s point of view, why not?

In reality, the holistic makeup of human behavior in both men and women
is complex. There is a complex dynamic interchange between conscious
and subconscious thought that drives behavior. In spite of these
complexities, both men and women are driven by powerful primordial
instincts that have evolutionary roots which have been under
development for thousands of years. These primordial instincts are
powerful drivers for behavior in both men and women. Because men and
women are equipped with different attributes for survival, the
primordial behavioral drivers are different. If men can get one thing
out of this book it is to understand that the primordial behavioral
drivers for women are different from those of men. Understanding these
drivers is the key to being able to predict, or at least understand,
how women will react or behave under different circumstances. Knowledge
is power.

This book
will introduce the Thirteen Steps to help you master your interpersonal
relationships with women. This book is designed for young men in the
dating phase of life to experiment with the Thirteen Steps and use them
as a means to better understand women and how they will react or behave
under a variety of circumstances. Men will learn to gain control over
their relationships by understanding how women will react to different
impulses. In addition, men will learn the virtues of being a man and
how to take accountability their own actions. Only through practice can
men gain confidence in managing their relationships. As young men
navigate the dating landscape, they will inevitably encounter many
different women. The Thirteen Steps will help you take control of your
relationships and make the best with whomever you are dating. Men
cannot learn to fully trust until they appreciate the nature of women
and gain an understanding and expectation of their behavioral
characteristics. The Thirteen Steps are intended to give men that
understanding, and when you meet your dream girl you will have the
confidence and knowledge to develop a long lasting and loving
relationship with her. The Thirteen Steps are not intended to be used
as a vehicle for manipulation. Long term relationships can only be
established on a solid foundation of love and trust.

Young men who enter into dating need to know that among many wonderful
young ladies, there are many that aim to set traps and use men for
personal gain or convenience. Such behavior is ugly and banal and is
not to be ignored or glossed over. Many women who engage in such
behavior do not typically consider their actions to be objectionable
because society has taught them that women are good and men are bad.
The Thirteen Steps will help men to recognize such women and how to
identify and avoid traps. This work is aimed at helping men to
understand their own true nature and gain a solid appreciation of who
they are and embrace their differences from women. As men implement and
experiment with the Thirteen Steps in their relationships over a number
of years, they will grow their self-confidence and learn how to
identify a potential long term partner who can satisfy their needs.
Until a man gains self-confidence in dealing with women, he is not
ready for a lifelong partner.

Another category of men who can benefit from the Thirteen Steps are
recently separated or divorced men who are looking to re-enter the
dating scene. Such men are prime targets for women who seek to prey off
of men. These groups of men are particularly vulnerable because they
have recently experienced the trauma of a failed relationship with a
woman. In many instances, the trauma involves a female partner who
continually berates her male partner by verbalizing to him that he is
inadequate, is a failure, is not a good man, cannot meet her needs, is
inconsiderate, is lazy, is selfish, is a Neanderthal, etc... Just
because a woman thinks such thoughts does not make them true. However,
after living in a poisoned environment for a length of time, it is
typical to lose confidence and subconsciously begin to believe the
negative thoughts that float around such an environment. The problem is
compounded by the fact that divorced or separated men quite often are
well established and have significant assets for unscrupulous women to
pursue.

One of the
biggest mistakes that recently separated or divorced men make is to
believe that they need to get into another committed relationship that
will lead to marriage. The reason for this misconception is that these
men have been in marriage for a period of time. They do not visualize
themselves in anything but such a relationship. Furthermore, their
self-confidence is usually broken, and a committed relationship
provides an ego boost and a familiar setting that initially feels very
soothing. Recently divorced or separated men should avoid jumping into
another committed relationship until they have extensively dated and
learn to understand what kind of woman they need and how to identify
that woman. The Thirteen Steps will help men repair their egos, regain
self-confidence, and learn to discriminate between women who are
genuine and those who make a habit of using men. Again, it is important
to emphasize that the art of truly grasping the Thirteen Steps requires
considerable practice—knowledge through practice. Men who engage in the
Thirteen Steps will develop a self-awareness like they have never
before experienced. As this self-awareness develops they may decide
that marriage is not what they seek from new relationships. Or they may
decide that marriage is precisely what they seek in a long term
committed relationship. The point is that men need to know what they
want and how to get it. With knowledge of the Thirteen Steps, men will
be empowered to approach marriage with confidence to develop a loving
and passionate relationship that brings with it health, happiness, and
a life filled with love and companionship.