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When I first saw the title of this forum - I had to look again. I do understand your pain. Do not feel that you are alone. Your situation is familiar to more people than you realize. Most just do not want to either admit or even discuss because the pain goes deep and they fear judgment or embarrassment.

My take, after seeing so many suffer from the alienation from their children and grandchildren - due to messy divorce or just cruel gossip really is upsetting to me. However, do remember this -Our Heavenly Father has gifted both parents to a seat of honor. It specifically states in Ephesian 6:2,3 - "Honor your father and your mother" is the first command with a promise.

The scripture does not state that it is a suggestion it is a commandment. You will experience different types of emotion from anger, guilt, sadness, humiliation, resentment and many more emotions. However, know this....life has a way of unveiling the truth about a certain individual and even making those who judged you be judged. I am not saying to hold onto a revengeful spirit....no.....but love....yes, love what is healthy......continue to love your children and grandchildren....because the day will come when they may want to reach out to you and your heart has got to be open to accept them.

It amazes me how one person can distort or even be comfortable turning the love for their parents into "nothing." The many struggles and heartache suffered by each parent - not just one in raising their children. This is really a sensitive subject for me...as I witness my own parents suffer from such maltreatment.

All 5 of grandchildren were relocated to Olympia Washington, June 2016, after divorce of 17 yr marriage, 4 boys and youngest 1 girl, their mom, has not spoken to me, and no conversations, just like all, out pouring of love and help, forgotten, I understand "moving on"... But this hurts

Hello Nana,
It was like a death when my child 'disowned' me. Was utterly bewildered at hurt beyond words. The bio father disowned our children and I hurt for them. Loved them so much.
Once young adults they re-connected and I was happy for my children. My youngest knowing the pain of rejection did so to me. Had done nothing to deserve this. Yet, even if I had nothing not forgivable.
I loved, raised and protected them. Was a slap in the face to be treated as if I had neglected and made them miserable. Lost my grandchildren too.
Finally healed. You can throw oceans of love on another but if they do not want to receive it, there is nothing you can do but pray for them and mentally send LOVE.