Weddings alone

Weddings alone

In two days I go to a wedding alone. My self esteem isn’t doing all too well at the moment and I desperately need a way to be okay with going alone. It’s a friend who has friends that are all confident and in relationships. Then there’s me. In my head, I’ll be the only one alone, which most likely will not be true. Before I would just say to myself, “I have to go. But this is going to be horrible. I cannot wait until it is over.” But now I can say, “I am going to go. But I need to make the most out of it by digging deep into the situation and finding the good.” I already knew it would make me stronger. However, this one didn’t seem so appealing this time. I’ll be strong going alone. That’s great! But not enough this time. I even had to google it because these blueprints to finding the good in every situation isn’t working with my brain right at this moment. I at least found that it’s not strange to go alone. I learned that other people go alone as well as I. It’s an experience. Not everyone can say they went to a wedding alone. It’s an accomplishment especially when you have low self-esteem. Writing that right there made me more confident but I still feel my nerves all over my body. Lets turn this moment into a bucket list task. “I want to survive a wedding alone.” Now, this will be my second wedding of my life. The only other one was when I was twelve. So, when will my next wedding be? Another ten years? I have found that this is an experience that is tough to deal with. A situation that would be awesome to survive. So, why not put it on my bucket list if I’ll feel accomplished when it’s all over? I can’t skip out now. I won’t be able to check this off for another ten years. What fun would it be to live on the safe side all the time? Any time you are about to do something you think you will hate, just think about how strong you will feel and grab your bucket list and write, “I want to get through [insert experience here] and come out stronger.” Be careful though. Don’t say to yourself, “I have to go.” Maybe find a perfect way out of the situation and then just throw it aside. In the end you may not believe you’re strong enough because you really didn’t have a way out. You “had” to go. Your brain might tell you, “You’re actually weak because you couldn’t even say no.” Well, now you can fight back your negative thoughts with that excuse you never used. “I could have stayed home, but I went anyway.” Now that’s being a warrior.

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4 thoughts on “Weddings alone”

How about looking at it this way; go and enjoy the ceremony at the church (or wherever it may be), and then think about how much fun you WILL have at the reception. So you are not going with anybody. That in and of itself is not a bad thing. Feel free to go and have fun. Dance with whomever you please, eat what you want, and be happy you went there to have a wonderful time to celebrate your friend’s new marriage. It is a time of joy and celebration. And who knows, you may end up meeting somebody you would like to dance with. In other words… Give yourself permission to have fun and enjoy the day! 😊

Aw thank you! I will try!!!! I guess I can add some anticipation of fun in the mix! How could I miss that?! Anyway I’m doing well! I just graduated so I cannot get on here much but I’m hoping to catch up on my favorite blogs soon! How are you?!

why thank you! I’m looking forward to reading up on your posts. I just quickly threw this one together as I needed to write about it. XD and I have defiantly seen the daughter become the mom before! Take care of yourself too 🙂 though I think you know that already