In an interview with Sharpe, Harrison mentioned her "complicated" past several times (her entirely family died when she was younger). Sharpe also referred to her past that way, noting that Bachelor Ben Higgins "didn't see my complicated past as a huge obstacle."

"I know you can't control how complicated you are," Harrison said at one point. "You might be complicated…but I hope you realize you're a pretty special woman."

Apparently that touched a nerve with Schumer. "There is nothing wrong with complicated' women, Chris Harrison," she wrote on Twitter. "You treat it like something she should fight. A woman shouldn't try to be less complicated so as to hopefully attract a man."

She's right, says Manhattan-based licensed clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona, Psy.D. "We all have histories and issues and things from our past experiences that impact who we are today, as well as our relationships," he says. "This is normal and human."

People who have more unusual or extreme experiences are simply more unique in that sense, he says—and it shouldn't impact their relationships. "Healthy relationships have honest and clear communication, mutual trust, and mutual respect, regardless of the histories and life experiences of each person, complicated' or not," he says.

Being "complicated" can actually make someone more attractive, says clinical psychologist John Mayer, Ph.D., author of Family Fit: Find Your Balance in Life. "Complicated translates psychologically into interesting, and interesting morphs into seductive," he says. "Seductive evolves into desirable, and being desirable brings on bonding."

If you have something important from your past that you want to share in a new relationship, Mayer says it's usually best to do so once the relationship becomes more serious and you're committed to each other. "Before that, I specifically tell people that being with each other should be about fun, enjoyment, and getting to know each other through sharing slowly and carefully, like peeling away the layers of an onion," he says.

Cilona says it all depends on what you're comfortable with, though. "This is a very individual thing and should be driven by levels of trust, safety, and comfort," he says. "Authentic trust develops when there is consistency in someone's behavior over time. So, it should take time for a certain level of trust to develop."

While it's easy to focus on the negative from a troubling issue or experience from your past, Cilona says it's a good idea (for your own sake) to do some self-reflection about what positive consequences have results from past struggles. For example, maybe you became more independent and driven after a parent died when you were young, leading you to have a great career.

Above all, Cilona stresses that having a past is nothing to be ashamed of. "People that survive struggle, hardship, and complications,' often learn and evolve as people," he says. "They can ultimately be enriched and made better by those experiences."