Sex counsel: I’m not interested in oral sex

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Q: I prefer giving rather than receiving oral sex. It’s nothing to do with
technique, I’ve just never really been interested. The problem is that my
husband finds it erotic giving oral sex. How can we find a compromise?

A: I’ve had letters from women who don’t like receiving oral sex
because it makes them feel insecure. They may have been put off by poor
technique, or they can’t relax, or they hate the feeling of powerlessness
that goes with having a partner “perform” a sex act on them. Or they just
don’t find it pleasurable. However, I’ve never, in