What touches us is genuine connection, speaking from the heart. That it is unexpected, and seems rare, is perhaps the greatest tragedy of our time and describes much that is wrong with our lives. But that it is so powerful, and so easy, can be our salvation.

Unlike the spider, we are both blessed and cursed with a choice about the meaning we make of our life. We – you, I – have a choice, today, right now. We can lament our lot in life, or we can take it for granted. We can lord our bounty over others, or we can share it, recognizing that our riches are just as fleeting as the spider’s web.

If you want to know how people change, read this post. Change your mind, change your mood, change your life. What follows combines two of my favorite subjects: the psychology of belief and the need for radical civility in political discourse. Doesn’t sound all that sexy, I admit. But understanding why we hate ambiguity is the […]

Jim Wright said it better than I will. He’s a powerful writer, and a credible guy. He is retired military; I’m not. 54,000 people shared his post. And since Jim said it better, I needn’t bother. But I’m going to say it anyway. Colin Kaepernick, the 49ers quarterback who may currently be the most hated man […]

Here’s what I mostly learned from my post on the EpiPen controversy and what it said about greed in health care: civil discourse is an endangered species, hovering on the edge of extinction. And it’s not just on the right. Left wing bigotry is alive and well. And dangerous. Facts are an endangered species As of last night the Facebook share […]

There is something wrong with healthcare in this country. Greed. Greed is what’s killing healthcare. It isn’t President Obama’s fault, and it isn’t the Affordable Care Act. Let’s just get that out of the way so that those of you with no interest in hearing an alternative explanation can stop reading now. Greed is what’s […]

As a psychologist, one of the most common questions I get – right up there with the ever-popular “oh, so are you analyzing me?” – is some version of, “how do I go about finding the right shrink?” In part 1 I wrote about the idea of fit, and the importance of the relationship. The […]

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Every year I tell myself I’m going to write a new post about losing a child. I never do. Today I realized that in this post, I left it all on the table. So I’m just going to republish it with a few minor changes. Because whether or not it needs saying, I want to […]

It was official May 31. I got fired. Again. At least, that’s how it felt. Getting fired sucks, even when it’s not personal. Maybe especially then. I’d actually known since the 9th. That’s when the conversational rubicon was first crossed, that moment when it’s spoken aloud that the company perhaps can’t keep your role intact. […]

The “debate” (read: ranting) about healthcare policy on my media feeds is – there is no other way to put this – mostly bullshit. At best, it’s magical thinking. At worst, it’s a cold-hearted, callous disregard for those who can least afford the “luxury” of participating in the most technologically advanced heath care delivery system in […]