This is the Question of the Week, a way to stimulate conversation. It occurs every other Tuesday. What’s one thing you wish non-asexuals knew about the asexual spectrum? (For this question, please consider “non-asexuals” to be those people who are not asexual, grey-asexual, or demisexual.)

I wish people wouldn’t conflate being a “man” or a “woman” with being sexual. The same terms that are used to denote us as human beings, are also used to denote us as sexual beings. I can’t think of any more fundamental denial and rejection than that.

I wish people realized that just because you “look straight” doesn’t mean you’re “basically straight.” According to some people, since I don’t “look queer” (whatever that means) and I date someone who uses he/him pronouns, I am basically a straight person. (Then again, this isn’t something that’s limited to aces, ’cause a lot of my bi friends have the same problem…)