Broke up at 14 weeks

So my boyfriend and I broke up, I’m 14 weeks pregnant right now and super super emotional.
He’s been slowly moving his and his kids stuff out of our house. But since the kids don’t know they are still staying here.
I’m a wreck. I feel so uncomfortable in my house. We don’t speak, he won’t even look at me. But at night he sleeps in my bed and holds on to me like we normally sleep. So I wake up even more upset. I barely get maybe 3 hours of sleep each night and I’ve barely eaten all week.
Stress isn’t good for the baby. But I’m freakin lost right now.

We made this home together and started this family. and I just don’t know what to do any more

I’m sorry you’re dealing with such an awful situation at this time. But he needs to get a hotel room or sleep in a different room because bunking in the same bed after you’re supposed to be seperated is not appropriate and he sounds super weird if he’s still holding you but won’t even look at you??

Im broken for you because he cuddles to you every night but doesnt want to be with you?? Like wth.

I feel like thats kind of a slap in the face.
Hugs mama i cant even imagine!

I wouldnt be able tp sleep in your situation either. And probably just to keep the kids out of the situation id move myself to the couch thats just way too uncomfortable for me to even hear i cant even imagine how you feel.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would tell him that if he wants to leave, he needs to not sleep in the same bed as you at night. It isn’t fair to you. I’m guessing he still holds you because of the baby, but either way, that’s not acceptable behavior

Umm yea, get this guy out of your bed! If he is going to stay and make it work, then he may have a right to the bed and snuggles (only if you’re both comfortable with it). If he is not going to stay and try to make it work, he needs to get his ass in gear and get out so you can focus on rebuilding you.
If you’re uncomfortable with this relationship limbo that you’re in, put your foot down and demand he commit to his decision. It’s more then just you’re life that he’s playing with.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with such an awful situation at this time. But h...

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10/27/2018

I’m sorry you’re dealing with such an awful situation at this time. But he needs to get a hotel room or sleep in a different room because bunking in the same bed after you’re supposed to be seperated is not appropriate and he sounds super weird if he’s still holding you but won’t even look at you??

I agree. But. He refuses to leave because he is a “resident” and “doesn’t have to for 30 days”

I can’t force him to sleep on the couch. I can’t force him to do anything. He’s an asshole.

For as hash as it may sound, you may need to start break away from him also. Which means no more cuddling at night. Either have him sleep on the couch, but since it sounds like he's an asshole, you may need to be the one to sleep on the couch until he's gone. And if he wants to slowly move out, maybe not watching him do it would be better for you. Go stay with a friend or family during the day and come home at night just to sleep. Have him see what it's really gonna be like with out you. Stay strong..

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