I know it is habit, not to mention the fact that it's just plain easier to type, but

HE'S NOT MINE, DAMMIT!

I refuse to claim him. He can be the perp, that perp, taxi guy, him, he, perp, or any number of other useful terms, but he is not mine.

In time I may even come to the place where I can feel sympathy for the broken man he was, but he still will not be MINE.

There! I feel better!

Lots of love,

John

_________________________"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

yeah, I tried to find Darrel's old thread on this topic, but couldn't locate it so started another one!

Lots of love,

John

_________________________"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

John it is so crazy that you brought this up because I have been having a problem with this one too. I hate to say that he is mine as you have described. Kind of like survivor Vs experienced. I just can't figure out what to call him, maybe the "guy who molested me" would be appropriate or the "depraved man" I am not sure but like you he is not mine.

Type in Depraved in Microsoft Word and look in the thesarus, that list just about describes them to me.

I never thought of it that way. How weird to claim possession of someone so damn grotesque! I know for a fact that the last perp I came in contact with (didn't say "my last perp") had many victims, I was just one of many. So, he was in no way MY perp.

They were all a part of me, but not mine. Like chicken pox, or skin cancers...something bad, but not something I would want to claim as mine.

Yes, it does feel great. "Claiming possession" of the perp was like keeping myself captive to his power over my life.

Throwing off that claim was liberating.

Rich, if you are old, that makes me much the same, and I reject the adjective, thank you very much! You can be what you want, I prefer to consider myself "experienced at life"

Lots of love,

John

_________________________"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

If you've said anything in your sojourn here at MS that has had meaning, that one ranks right up there at the top!

Lots of love,

John

_________________________"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

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