Why do people think its cool to make self harm jokes?

my friend Amanda cuts and she has thought about suiside, she says she wants to go to a suicide asslylum. her bf is trying to guilt her into having sex and he has the same issues. I'm the one who tells her not to have sex with him but should I let her, it's her decision but I would probs look after her kid more if she had one. we are 13? there is a pic on fb that shows a pic of someone cutting and a bloody arm and it says is your joke still funny and my friend rayon keeps coming up to Amanda and saying cut for bieber and making jokes why does he do that? at my school there is the high archy wich is rayon Conner Luke Malik and nick and I'm one of the higher up girls buty friends aren't btw? I also like nick check out my other questions?!?

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I just want to say your doing an amazing thing by helping your friend Amanda do the right thing, keep it up!In modern society kids have developed an immature state of social exclusion. They find harmful things funny, because it makes them feel more powerful and feel less self conscious. It empowers them by making themselves an alpha in a group of friends which they all try to achieve. As they are, each one try's to do the most harmful thing; the one who does is considered the "coolest" or most popular. In other words, they hurt other people to make themselves feel good and it shows dominance over their friends.You should decide who your real friends are and stick with them. Popularity is definitely something everyone wants, but it mostly comes from physical appeal. (the hottest girls are usually the popular ones).Talk to your popular friends and try to convince them to stop harassing your other friends. If they don't stop, terminate your friendship and stay friends with Amanda. Also, if you like Nick and he's abusing Amanda, there shouldn't be any reason that you like him. Find another guy who has sympathy for others, or he will treat you the same way he treats Amanda. Remember, the most popular or hottest guys shouldn't be your first choice for relationships. Most of them are in relationships only for sex (but of course not all are).

thank you. nick is probably the nicest out of them all and I've liked him for like 3 years but I don't think he likes me back. he talks and flirts with me a lot but not around his friends. Amanda doesn't like any of my "popular" friends when I was in grade 6 she didn't even wanna hang around me because of them so I don't think talking to them will help she is also bi and wants to date the most slutty girl ever wich I suppose is better than her bf but still not the best Amanda likes this girl (Layla) better than her bf what should she do? she won't dump him

your friend needs a friend. It sounds like her boyfriend isn't being a good one. Telling her not to follow through with the sex thing is a good thing also. If this continues, And it probably will. A good friend would let her friends parents know what is going on. The self harm thing is not funny and it is very dangerous. I'd be very offended if someone was making jokes like that around me.

You would help them more by telling a school counselor,Your parents or CPS. They need help or really could be a suicide case.I am a past Christian youth counselor and recognize they need help and their home situation needs to be looked into right away.If can't tell the above teacher as teachers are ordered to get help for them and must be as soon as possible because a very large per cent of those who threaten killing themselves go and do just that so it means that they need immediate help, and yes being their friend may save their life. keep it up and report it asap.

she sees a counselor and she hates it it makes her more depressed her grandmother doesn't care and my teacher knows my teacher is the best option probably but nobody seems to be helping my other friend Emily is having bullying probs and she is also bi and likes me (I'm two years older) people are writing Emily= bi and Emily = slut on the bathroom stalls and she comes to me crying every night

Try telling all to a Baptist Pastor & if He is a good one his church will be growing and he will give good advice as he is guided by God and if he is not called by God the church will be dead and so find one where people's lives get changed at the alter of every service where you will feel God's presence changing lives.

bullying is difficult to deal with, most people through out grade school, middle school and high school have been bullied in one way or another. I think what your friend needs is some new friends. obviously the friends she has right now are not really friends. If you know any good christian friends, I'd introduce her to them. These problems like depression, threats of suicide they come from being bullied, abused, bad friends ect.

Try Baptist Churches, they go by the Bible and Catholics go by their church doctrine & not all by the Bible which is the only thing that God honors.The book of Revelations shows God's anger at the Church of Rome in scriptures identified as the Harlot sitting in the city of seven mountains(Rome)Need prayer or how to be a real Christian just ask as I am one of His humble Servants.

Personally I think that it's sad that people make these kind of jokes because most of my friends have or still do self harm. My boyfriend used to self harm loads but he doesn't as much anymore because I said to him (and some of my friends) that if they didn't stop I'd eat less or harm myself in some way. This has actually made more than half of them stop because I helped them realise the effects that they have on others. This probably won't help anyone but I felt like my story could be helpful although I highly doubt it. If anyone wants to talk I know what it's like to self harm, to starve yourself, to have depression and anxiety. I know the pain.