I dont know what to do anymore!

As the title says I just really am at the end of what to Do! We have been ttc our 1st for nearly 5 years! We have tried tracking, ovulation kits, dressing up, dates, endless conversations! We have been told nothing is wrong but next step is ivf! My husband told me how much he longs for a child so again we had a conversation about trying to do it more but taking away ttc as the reason! This morning we had a cuddle and i tried to make a move and he wasn't interested cue me getting upset and again another conversation!! I literally just don't knoe what to Do! Is it me? Am I being crazy? Do we just stop altogether and accept it really isn't gona happen?

Comments (9)

It can happen hun. Don’t give up. You’ve come this far with dh (dear husband) and it can be so hard on both of you. Stop “actively trying” and just put love and energy into your relationship, don’t make it a chore. And if you need to, try the ivf route. It doesn’t make you lesser, it just gives you one step closer to the longed for little one you dream of ♥️

OH (other half) & I ttc for 6 years with dd1 and it was like a neverending battle. Have you not been to the doctors for hormone testing and semen analysis?. If you havent i would suggest doing that. We conceived with fertility treatment but we had also given up on the idea of conceiving but decided to continue with the treatment and it worked for us. X

Thank you! I have tried to stop thinking about it but I just don't know how to let go! Im about half a stone away from the bmi which I need to be to fit the criteria for ivf so I feel stuck but also because the weight is taking ages to come off I feel that it's my fault! Im also one of these people who needs control and i find it so hard to just go with the flow!!

Please don't give up! I've been to that dark place and it's not nice and it took me a while to get back.

DH (dear husband) and I have been off protection for 5 years been really interested and trying for at least three. We ended up at the g.p. he referred us to a fertility clinic. We had tests and were diagnosed as 'unknown infertility'. We started IUI (intrauterine insemination) last month. It's had its hiccups as they have found something up.. so it's been cancelled. The consultant is saying we should at least be a step closer to finding out what's wrong.

It's a hard journey and we have had tears, shouting, cuddles, despair and not wanting sex along the way! But we will get there. Whether it be natural or through help. If you need to chat. Let me know as sometimes (as I know) it can be nice to just rant or talk about it.

Sending luck and baby dust xx

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Me (29)DH (30)

TTC 3 yrs +, diagnosed as unknown infertility.

Currently undergoing medicated IUI: Cancelled, having to have more tests.

I agree with the other posters. Also, if you’ve not already, might be a good idea to get vitamins D levels in you both and maybe take vitamin D3 supplements....it’s needed to make the sex hormones in men and women and a whopping 93% of women with fertility problems in one study didn’t have enough vitamins D. X

Thank you! I have tried to stop thinking about it but I just don't know h...

Posted
14/05/2018

Thank you! I have tried to stop thinking about it but I just don't know how to let go! Im about half a stone away from the bmi which I need to be to fit the criteria for ivf so I feel stuck but also because the weight is taking ages to come off I feel that it's my fault! Im also one of these people who needs control and i find it so hard to just go with the flow!!

With trying to loose weight and and having pcos i found the best way to loose weight and help my medical issues was to eliminate carbs and weight literally fell off. X

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