I have been thinking about this question for some weeks now, after a good friend of mine told me about his life earthquake.

We often hear that time will heal any kind of trauma? Does it? Really?

Are we really getting back to our old self or are we building a new self?

I have been confronted to that reflection for the last three years. I, now, consider, I am not exactly the same, not so different but definitely changed forever.

Life trauma will force anyone to reflect and choose a new roadmap. We bear the scars and that is not always negative. However, the way will look at things will change. We might not care about things we cared about before and be sensitive to others that we used to be more distant before.

Tragic experience changes us, how could it not? When we live through life events that hurt us so deeply, how can we be the same? The pain doesn’t really ever go away. Maybe we think about it less as life moves on, but the experience is still there. It’s not all negative. Maybe we help others to cope with a similar situation or maybe we are better prepared if we have to face a tragedy again.