Deadly Personalities Are Relationship Disasters

What goes on behind closed doors.

When
a relationship comes to an end, it might come as a shock to friends
and family. It can't be real, the couple appeared to be happy and
compatible. They went places together, smiled at all the right
times, joked and laughed. What could have happened to break this
couple apart?

Couples
can break apart with just one beat of the heart. The length of a
relationship may not equate to its strength or quality. Even if
couples been together for a long time, things and people change. If
one or the other person refuses to evolve and grow within these
changes, they can be setting themselves up for failure.

Men
or women can want to be the controlling factor in a relationship.
Self-serving and demanding attitudes can ruin any chance for them to
succeed. This is not to say that individual opinions or desires
should be overlooked. However, wanting to be the Lord of all Lords
just is not going to maintain a healthy relationship.

Some
people develop intolerable language, such as swearing. Offensive
vocal expressions that are unappreciated or offensive to the other
partner, can surely deepen the wedge between people. It's doubtful
that either person could say they had no idea that their words were
unacceptable to the other. You know, if you've been in the
relationship longer than a week or two, you've had ample opportunity
to assess what pleases the other person.

There
are people who turn into the voice of gloom and doom. It seems
nothing in their life makes them happy, and enjoyment is not in their
vocabulary. They appear to possess no abilities or needs to smile,
be gracious, or pleasant to be associated with. Days come and go and
they see nothing, appreciate nothing, and give nothing. These people
will never be happy, and nothing is going to change them. Whether
it's a personality trait or a way of life, these types of people will
find it hard to make friends or enjoy happy relationships.

People
who display anger and abusive traits possess a one-way ticket to
rejection. No one wants to be subjected to there explosive temper
tantrums or vocal outbreaks. Usually, men are guilty of using these
tactics to get their way or intimidate their partners, but may
eventually find themselves left behind. No one wants, needs or
deserves to be victimized by a partner's vocal attacks. These people
do not care who hears them or where they display their ugly
inner-self. Perhaps they think showing anger, yelling and verbal
abuse makes them powerful, but they are wrong, so very wrong. The
only thing this type of behavior shows is how much of an 'ass' they
really are.

Lying
is a devastating trait. When a partner lies to get their way, win
their points, or to cover up their true personalities the
relationship will we weakened and destroyed. Lying shows an
unhealthy, self-serving disrespect for their partner and the
relationship. This type of person values no one but themselves.
They have commitment abilities, morality or conscience to offer, and
will never offer worthwhile attributes. In fact, they destroy trust
and bring nothing but bring pain and sorrow into a relationship.

Cheating
not only indicates lack of love, but it can describe a self-hatred.
Many people who cheat on their partners need to feel that they are
desirable, wanted or powerful. They do not care who they step on, or
who gets hurt, as long as they can keep playing the game. Often
times, they have low self-esteem and believe each new conquest will
bring them happiness. They seem to have no remorse about their
actions, and often possess winning smiles and outgoing personalities.
Some appear to be angelic or just one of the 'good ole' boys, just
never turn your back or trust them with your heart.

Communicating
is often suggested as a way to keep relationships strong. But,
dealing or living with any of these personality types, day after day,
can lock the doors of communication. It becomes tiring and
problematic to continue living with someone that has no intention of
changing or thinks they are not at fault. Trying to converse and
work things out when any of these undesirable traits are present is
all but impossible.

Often
times these people bounce from one relationship to another, and blame
their failures on previous partners. But, in reality, their failures
lie within themselves. Usually, they present themselves with a
'poor, poor me' attitude or that they were victimized, but once you
get to know them, you realize why others chose to walk away. When
all or any of these behaviors become the driving force in a
relationship, it's doubtful that communication can survive.