I don’t know if any of us can say the grass is greener on the other side. I don’t think it’s any easier being bi than it is being a lesbian, and although the flak is different, it’s in no way less hurtful or demeaning. As an out lesbian I have to face my own problems, but at least one of them isn’t complete denial of my sexuality, or being told I’m a tourist or greedy. Denial of my sexuality does still happen (e.g. you just haven’t met the right man yet), but I don’t think it’s any easier to be bi.

Actually Tom avoided using the words ‘gay’ or ‘bisexual’ in describing himself in the video. He states that he is in a relationship with someone of the same sex but didn’t label himself as either bisexual or gay. Who knows in a few years time he may choose to use one of the labels we all seem to give ourselves, until then I am just happy that his is in a happy, loving relationship. Congrats to him!

I am particularly glad that Tom avoided the use of any labels and just announced that he was dating someone of the same sex. Roll on the day when this sort of announcement isn’t considered any more news worthy than the colour of the eyes of the person you were in a relationship with. But given the present situation, well done Tom. You will have helped many people.

Hopefully his statement will change lives and make it much easier for anyone of any age to be who they want to be. To be content and feel safe in their sexuality. I felt the need to wait unitl i was 21( the then age of consent) to anounce to my parents that i was gay even though i had been with my boyfriend for several years. It does take a leap of faith in those around you and you certainly find out who your true supporters and mates are. He did this in such a relaxed and casual way, i feel that Tom feels contented too with his current relationship status. So glad for him. If he’s happy, then thats all that really matters. Best Wishes Tom. x