I HATE the habit my generation has of sort of flitting from one thing to the next or just ignoring times/dates altogether. It makes it impossible for me to plan anything, be it a brunch or even a card game. The other day I asked 7 people if they'd like to play Cards Against Humanity and only two showed up at the time I said the game started. One was late, one responded that yeah she wanted to play and when I asked where she was (after the game started) she said that she would only be back three hours later. One girl said she'd "be there in 15 minutes" and tried to act put out when we were done in an hour and she finally came downstairs. When I asked her why she wasn't there she said a friend of a friend had shown up with liquor so she "couldn't just leave."

And for all of the people who would tell me to "get different friends" this seems to be pretty universal. It's driving me nuts. When I say I'll be somewhere at a certain time, I'm there or I say in advance that I won't be. Sometimes you can't get a game started, can't get a headcount for a party, don't know how much food to make, etc.

It gets on my last nerve as a Meetup organizer that people don't bother to read event notices thoroughly. I get notifications about the comments area of the pages and find questions about things that are clearly stated in the original notice.

I always respond with some form of "As stated above..." to bring home the point that reading this notice would have avoided the question. I could understand if this were verbal speech in a public place with distracting sounds but I don't think there is any excuse for this carelessness or lack of respect.

It gets on my last nerve as a Meetup organizer that people don't bother to read event notices thoroughly. I get notifications about the comments area of the pages and find questions about things that are clearly stated in the original notice.

I always respond with some form of "As stated above..." to bring home the point that reading this notice would have avoided the question. I could understand if this were verbal speech in a public place with distracting sounds but I don't think there is any excuse for this carelessness or lack of respect.

I've learned not to bother, my members tend to put them straight. I also send out a quarterly message reminding people of the rules and to READ the entire event description before asking questions.

DH at our dinner out last night. We don't have many opportunities to go out for a Nice Dinner (no kids, upscale restaurant, fancy date night style). Maybe twice a year, so it's a splurge and dress up type situation.

Every time, without fail, at the end of the evening DH will comment negatively about the bill, and more often than not, about the food and/or service. Almost every time, I've had a great meal and no complaints, and i can do basic math in my head so the bill is not a surprise and I'm absolutely okay with spending that much on a night out. Anyway, it completely spoils the experience for me. In the past I've tried several different ways of explaining why his comments bug me, to no avail. last night was no exception and it ended on a pretty sour note.

My friend's DH is the same way, so I told her we should just date each other when we want a night out (we already are two of a three-woman crew that does monthly girls' nights out!).

DH at our dinner out last night. We don't have many opportunities to go out for a Nice Dinner (no kids, upscale restaurant, fancy date night style). Maybe twice a year, so it's a splurge and dress up type situation.

Every time, without fail, at the end of the evening DH will comment negatively about the bill, and more often than not, about the food and/or service. Almost every time, I've had a great meal and no complaints, and i can do basic math in my head so the bill is not a surprise and I'm absolutely okay with spending that much on a night out. Anyway, it completely spoils the experience for me. In the past I've tried several different ways of explaining why his comments bug me, to no avail. last night was no exception and it ended on a pretty sour note.

My friend's DH is the same way, so I told her we should just date each other when we want a night out (we already are two of a three-woman crew that does monthly girls' nights out!).

Maybe it's his passive agressive way of saying "I wanted us to go some place else." Tell him bluntly "When we go on date night, you complain too much. So here's how we're gonna fix that: next date night, you get to surprise me. You pick the destinations / activities. And in exchange, you gotta promise not to gripe about the bill or the service. If you gripe during the date, I will walk out to the parking lot and drive myself home, because I expect respect from you."

Valentine's Day. Now, don't get me wrong! I have nothing special against the idea, but I myself am single, and happy to be so. This year, I almost posted "Happy Singles Awareness Day" on my FB wall, but I caught myself in time. I saw someone else post it before, and I thought it was cute and kind of funny, so I did the same thing last year. It didn't go over very well. I had couples coming out of the woodwork, telling me how offended they were by it.

Fine, fair enough...but if I have to put up with lovey-dovey status updates, goofy selfies, baby pictures galore (and there is nothing wrong with that, but a couple people I'm FB friends with take it to a major extreme), then why can't they just roll their eyes and move on like I do (and do...and do...and do...).

Did I mention that most of those couples are no longer together?

Not bitter about being single, just bitter about not being allowed to have a sense of humor about it!

Valentine's Day. Now, don't get me wrong! I have nothing special against the idea, but I myself am single, and happy to be so. This year, I almost posted "Happy Singles Awareness Day" on my FB wall, but I caught myself in time. I saw someone else post it before, and I thought it was cute and kind of funny, so I did the same thing last year. It didn't go over very well. I had couples coming out of the woodwork, telling me how offended they were by it.

Fine, fair enough...but if I have to put up with lovey-dovey status updates, goofy selfies, baby pictures galore (and there is nothing wrong with that, but a couple people I'm FB friends with take it to a major extreme), then why can't they just roll their eyes and move on like I do (and do...and do...and do...).

Did I mention that most of those couples are no longer together?

Not bitter about being single, just bitter about not being allowed to have a sense of humor about it!

If I were you, I would honestly tell those people that they can hide posts and feeds they don't want to see, and that my posts aren't a reflection on their lives.

Valentine's Day. Now, don't get me wrong! I have nothing special against the idea, but I myself am single, and happy to be so. This year, I almost posted "Happy Singles Awareness Day" on my FB wall, but I caught myself in time. I saw someone else post it before, and I thought it was cute and kind of funny, so I did the same thing last year. It didn't go over very well. I had couples coming out of the woodwork, telling me how offended they were by it.

Fine, fair enough...but if I have to put up with lovey-dovey status updates, goofy selfies, baby pictures galore (and there is nothing wrong with that, but a couple people I'm FB friends with take it to a major extreme), then why can't they just roll their eyes and move on like I do (and do...and do...and do...).

Did I mention that most of those couples are no longer together?

Not bitter about being single, just bitter about not being allowed to have a sense of humor about it!

Honestly, it's because I have single friends that I don't say much about that day on my fbook wall. We do little things for each other like give one another candy (I got chocolate, he got a My Little Pony tin of candies and a Fluttershy Funko Pop figure.) but we don't really make a huge deal of it.

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Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

A few single friends that publicly moped about Valentine's Day, herefore referred to as VD.

They actually posted a status that said they wished they could stay in bed until Sunday, then used the "lonely" emoticon. One of them posted multiple times how much it bothers her. I didn't do it, but I think next time I will send her a private message that she could just stay off social media for the day. I do that quite often when something bugs me (like election day).

DH wrote something negative in the card he gave me last night. He has been informed that I would rather have no card.

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ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."-J.R.R Tolkien

Valentine's Day. Now, don't get me wrong! I have nothing special against the idea, but I myself am single, and happy to be so. This year, I almost posted "Happy Singles Awareness Day" on my FB wall, but I caught myself in time. I saw someone else post it before, and I thought it was cute and kind of funny, so I did the same thing last year. It didn't go over very well. I had couples coming out of the woodwork, telling me how offended they were by it.

Fine, fair enough...but if I have to put up with lovey-dovey status updates, goofy selfies, baby pictures galore (and there is nothing wrong with that, but a couple people I'm FB friends with take it to a major extreme), then why can't they just roll their eyes and move on like I do (and do...and do...and do...).

Did I mention that most of those couples are no longer together?

Not bitter about being single, just bitter about not being allowed to have a sense of humor about it!

Per the bolded: OTT reaction. I posted some nice things about V. Day, but also posted a Grumpy Cat meme that dissed it a bit...but in an inoffensive way, IMO. People need to not take things like that so personally.