I think they’re unnecessary if all of the guests are from the area where the wedding will be held. But if most guests will have to travel to the location and spend the night, I definitely think it’s a courtesy to give them enough notice to find deals on hotels and transportation.

I don’t think they are stupid, but I don’t think they are a necessity. We didn’t send them, we just alerted all our out of town guests via email, but if you have them, and you love them, then embrace the the Save The Date and send them out!

I think they’re unecessary. That’s what the invitations are for! For some people, STDs are a fun extra they can afford. *shrugs* In my situation they wouldn’t be worth my time or money. That’s no reason for you to not have them, though. Personal choice. 🙂

We considered them necessary because so many of our guests are from out of town and will have to fly. We wanted to give everyone as much lead time as possible to book flights and hotels for cheap without having to mail out invitations nine months in advance.

If you’re having a wedding far away, sure… But they’re really just a new formality. We skipped them, but sent our invitations early for our DW. We also have a very detailed and fabulous website that our guests could check. We thought that was more practical.. i voted “no” above.

I think they are necessary at least for OOT guests so they can arrange for traveling to your wedding ahead of time. 100% of my guests are from OOT and not all of them know my date so I think for us, it’s necessary.

I am sending them. I like them and think they give a good heads up, especially because I am at the age where a LOT of people are getting married. Even for guests who will not have to travel far, it gives them a heads up on the wedding information so you have a better chance that you friends and loved ones will be free to join in your celebration!

Well, I sent out Save the Dates, we got engagement pics and we have a wedding website (well, I made it!) I don’t think these things are stupid. Totally optional? Yes.

I’m glad we did STDs, our friends and families really liked them. I got a ton of texts/facebook messages saying things like “I got your Save the Date, it’s so cute!” and so forth. Pretty much everyone seemed to know what they were… and if they didn’t, they played dumb 🙂

*edit to add* Our wedding is on an “off” day and we’re getting married during peak vacation time… which is a big reason why we sent them too.

I don’t think they’re stupid but I don’t think they’re necessary either. We did end up sending them out because we’re getting married over Labor Day weekend. We wanted to make sure people knew about it ahead of time & didn’t make plans for the holiday. If we had picked another date or a non-holiday weekend wedding… I would’ve skipped them & just sent the invites.