anyone ever felt like a living zombie?

i found out today my girlfriend is cheating on me again and i wasnt suprised.After that my whole day was a blurr and all i could think of was what a failure i am. i walked around and seriously didnt hear, see or feel anything( i felt like a zombie). i just walked around and ended on my bed.i <Mod Edit: methods> but stopped because of the pain. I thought about my son and that made me stop too. But what will happen tomorrow? will i go too far and kill myself. I'm sick of being a failure. i'm sick <Mod edit: unneeded> !! are there seriously any good women out there anymore.every woman i kno that i thought was a good person has dissapointed me. Seriously i'm gonna kill myself.......I dont wanna be a zombie anymore!!!!!!!!! :faint:

I definitely feel like a zombie. And I agree that there aren't any nice people available as romantic partners. I think the only thing you can really do is try and figure out something you can do by yourself that you really enjoy so you won't be let down by anyone. It's impossible to find someone who will never let you down because we all have such high expectations of each other.

I haven't felt like a zombie, but I have just lay there in bed with my mind completely blank. No one I speak with about this thinks I am crazy.They say you have to be thinking about something. I am dead serious I don't think about nothing. Maybe it is a defence mechanizam.

i found out today my girlfriend is cheating on me again and i wasnt suprised.After that my whole day was a blurr and all i could think of was what a failure i am. i walked around and seriously didnt hear, see or feel anything( i felt like a zombie). i just walked around and ended on my bed.i <Mod Edit: methods> but stopped because of the pain. I thought about my son and that made me stop too. But what will happen tomorrow? will i go too far and kill myself. I'm sick of being a failure. i'm sick <Mod edit: unneeded> !! are there seriously any good women out there anymore.every woman i kno that i thought was a good person has dissapointed me. Seriously i'm gonna kill myself.......I dont wanna be a zombie anymore!!!!!!!!! :faint:

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>>anyone ever felt like a living zombie?<<

I had already assumed that's what we all were. now I'm confused
that would be a "Yes" then, I suppose.

>>I found out today my girlfriend is cheating on me again and I wasnt suprised<<

again? and you weren't surprised? well, if it's again, meaning this is an
established pattern, I guess not being surprised is fairly reasonable.

>>After that my whole day was a blur and all I could think of was what a failure I am<<

a normal reaction, but grossly exaggerated and completely erroneous. why 'failure'? because
your girlfriend cheated on you? not fair to yourself, in the scheme of things really.

>>I walked around and seriously didnt hear, see or feel anything( I felt like a zombie).
I just walked around and ended on my bed<<<

probably a good place to end up. try sleeping on it for awhile, your bed I mean.
it helps alleviate some of that zombie-ism

>>>will I go too far and kill myself?<<

sounds like a pretty bad idea in general

>>I'm sick of being a failure<<<

if you don't think of it as being a 'failure' but rather as being a human being, part of a large
highly dysfunctional race of beings, it isn't so gloom and doom. we humans are not always
faithful to a partner or a spouse. some of us are not entirely clear that being faithful was
something that was expected of us in the first place. is your GF or by this time hopefully
EX GF your sons Mom?

>>are there seriously any good women out there anymore<<

probably....what is "GOOD"??

>>every woman I know that I thought was a good person has dissapointed me<<

I definitely feel like a zombie. And I agree that there aren't any nice people available as romantic partners. I think the only thing you can really do is try and figure out something you can do by yourself that you really enjoy so you won't be let down by anyone. It's impossible to find someone who will never let you down because we all have such high expectations of each other.

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I think that your expectations of women/men are just too high. I think this is partly the reason why I'm still single too. We look for people who are perfect and when they don't live up to our unrealistic standards, we feel disappointed. It's human nature to 'cheat.' Monogamy is actually quite rare in the animal kingdom. Maybe lower your expectations might help? Remember people are just human after all and will make mistakes.

Man i dont even know what to say.My views on women just completely changin everyday with what i am seeing.i dont expect alot at all.just a honest guy who ran into some of the worse women. i appreciate evveryone replying and feel a little better after reading.but i still got a long wayy to go.wish there was someone to talk to tho.....cuz jus sittin here alone.. all i can do is slip into this zombie mode all da time and i dont like it

unfortunately there are alot of people (men and women) who care more about themselves then their partners and will always hurt and betray those closest to them, but not all people are like this. like all things, the worst of us tend to stand out and give the rest a bad name. don't give up on just yet, but do consider taking some time for yourself before diving into another relationship.

i'm very sorry she betrayed you. there are plenty of people here happy to talk when you have need, myself included. :biggrin:

I totally know how you feel by the zombie thing. The thing with your girlfriend is definitely a result of failed expectations and there are a lot of people who fall into that trap. When ultimately you have no control over anyone else there isn’t much you can do but hope for the best and when that simple expectation of trust isn’t met to move onto something else. I know it sounds cliché as hell but there are plenty of fish in the see and for every one that will fuck around and cheat on you there has to be one of those “Happy Fifty Years” kinds of girls.

It isn’t right to let someone like that or something like that affect your mood. You seem alright to me.

Sure you can feel sad about it but you shouldn't let someone else's actions ultimately decide your fate

I haven't felt like a zombie, but I have just lay there in bed with my mind completely blank. No one I speak with about this thinks I am crazy.They say you have to be thinking about something. I am dead serious I don't think about nothing. Maybe it is a defence mechanizam.

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it's not crazy at all stranger1. you obviously have a diciplined mind.
nothing is good. most people, myself included have a million voices in their
heads all the time. I do anyway. it's particularly weird when trying to
sleep. I literally have to say "shut up!" and "nah, you're buggin me" and
things like that out loud to keep my internal mind from badgering me.
THAT's crazy.

i found out today my girlfriend is cheating on me again and i wasnt suprised.After that my whole day was a blurr and all i could think of was what a failure i am. i walked around and seriously didnt hear, see or feel anything( i felt like a zombie). i just walked around and ended on my bed.i <Mod Edit: methods> but stopped because of the pain. I thought about my son and that made me stop too. But what will happen tomorrow? will i go too far and kill myself. I'm sick of being a failure. i'm sick <Mod edit: unneeded> !! are there seriously any good women out there anymore.every woman i kno that i thought was a good person has dissapointed me. Seriously i'm gonna kill myself.......I dont wanna be a zombie anymore!!!!!!!!! :faint:

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oh! I remember THIS thread now :biggrin:

you get shed of that woman yet? prolly a good plan. if ya don't like
being cheated on. if you didn't mind, you wouldn't have said anything.
if you are a monogomous type, then that is what you need in a
signifigant other. there's no black or white on this one.

people with 'open' relationships don't call it 'cheating' this is not
the case with you. move on, if you haven't. or give her one more
chance. then, don't KILL yourself if she nukes ya one last time for
heavens sake. just find a more suitable partner.

I know how you feel about failed relationships. Everyone I have been with has cheated on me. I use to work all the time to get the things everyone wants out of life. When I was home all I wanted to do was sit down and have a couple of drinks (who are we kidding I would have more like ten or twelve). I always met the women I thought I could have a relationship with in bars. My therapist Gina says I always picked the wrong women because I liked the excitement. I don't know if I beleive that. I think more on the lines that I am just a bad judge of who I am with.~Joseph~