The Cancer Orgasm

When having an orgasm, our heart beats faster and our breathing speeds up and gets heavier. I'd like to know one cancer patient that does not experience this feeling upon hearing their diagnosis. Or while waiting for their scan results? When having to make plans for their end-of-life care? When thinking about legacy and what they will leave behind? But these are points of stress -- where is the pleasure? Well, that's a choice we make.

I've always fancied myself as taking the scenic route in life. But my journey has had so many eventful directional changes I'm honestly surprised I've managed to stay on course. Over the past few months since my book Holy Cancer: How A Cow Saved My Life released, there has been tremendous interest in my story. The readers who've reached out to me have been taken by my unwillingness to let my predefined fate decide my remaining days. For me, this euphoric state of positive light can only be described as my cancer orgasm.

More often than not we shy away from speaking about our illness with pride. There is fear that what consumes our days will literally eat up our time until death. But there is a thrill a disease like cancer gives us that many fail to recognise. Having a report giving us a final destination, in writing, offers up a pre-set guarantee of our inevitable end.

Given that sex, whether alone or with a partner can conclude in a sensational climax, why shouldn't we then make our cancer journeys follow a similar beat?

When having an orgasm, our heart beats faster and our breathing speeds up and gets heavier. I'd like to know one cancer patient that does not experience this feeling upon hearing their diagnosis. Or while waiting for their scan results? When having to make plans for their end-of-life care? When thinking about legacy and what they will leave behind?

But these are points of stress -- where is the pleasure? Well, that's a choice we make. Why can't these questions have positive spins? Do we need to receive good news in order to climax? For me, I've been blessed by an extended lease on life, which I happen to call my tantric life because I've managed to put joy on the journey and make the climax just that, the end.

While I don't necessarily have absolute control of my end, why should I let the intense pleasure my body is able to produce only matter at climax? Can't I enjoy foreplay as much as climax? Study after study details the power and scientifically demonstrated benefits of positive thinking. Positive thinking creates a window of opportunity for happiness. Happiness in turn leaves emotional room for joy and laughter. Joy and laughter ultimately create a perfect stage for euphoria. Euphoria is the crux of climax, thus, the big O and the big C become one big WOAH!

Bad sex like bad news can make an experience feel unpleasant. But similarly, bad sex and bad news can still result in a positive climactic outcome. It may not have been the kind of foreplay that turns us on but it is enough to result in a release that gives our body physical and mental satisfaction.

What's amazing about the cancer orgasm is that like sex, it does not require the presence of any other person. The pleasure we can give ourselves and the ability for us to reach that heightened state individually is something that need not be taught -- it is just part of human nature. This self-reliance to emit positivity can be such an important drug for us -- far more powerful than any type of therapy.

Once the understanding and acknowledgment is there that our bodies are capable of providing the medicine we need, we open ourselves up to the possibility that positivity is indeed the aphrodisiac needed to reach a permanent state of orgasm.

Bad sex like bad news can make an experience feel unpleasant. But similarly, bad sex and bad news can still result in a positive climactic outcome.

The comparison may seem strange. One of the most feared and dreaded diseases in the world is cancer. One of the most celebrated, talked about and enjoyable activities in the world is sex. Both consume us and can lead to addictions. While we shouldn't chase extremes, it is ultimately our choice how to find the right balance and our version of satisfaction. We decide if we wish to make the journey a positive experience or a negative one.

Given that sex, whether alone or with a partner can conclude in a sensational climax, why shouldn't we then make our cancer journeys follow a similar beat?

I for one am unwilling to let go of my cancer orgasm because it has provided me the relationship I needed to develop with myself to find a path for my own recovery.

Understanding that our health is in our own hands and we are truly the master of our own domains provides us the power to choose how and when we climax and with whom, if anyone. Let's stop looking for others to tell us what pleasure or pain means and focus on healing ourselves by achieving our cancer orgasm.