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Pretty soon holiday music will be blasting from mall speakers and someone somewhere in North Dakota will be enjoying some "chestnuts roasting on an open fire". People in Florida will still be wearing flip flops and shorts but we will all be in the Holiday Spirit nonetheless. It's the norm. Before saying goodbye to 2018 and hello to a whole lotta holiday debt may I challenge you to find ways to readjust yourself and your life so that you are transforming into a better version of YOUrself as opposed to conforming to the version of those around you? There is still time: time in the year, time in your day, time in your life. There is still time to live your best life.

When me and my children left the States and relocated to
Paris, everyone around me was in an uproar. I was shaking up a norm and they
did not like it. There was no malicious intent in their concern, I know. But if
I had given in to their protests, I would have stifled my growth and blanded my
story. You see, n…

Am I an expert on forgiveness? Nope
Is that fact gonna stop me from sharing my experiences with you? No way!

I understand how hard it can be to forgive. I understand that forgiving others and moving on past the hurt and past the tragedy can make you feel weak, victimized and further taken advantage of.
I know many, many, many people have written about this topic so there is nothing new to say about it.

So I will not try to convince you to forgive. I will just share a bit of my story instead:

Back in 2017, on another blog platform, I shared a blog post about my issues with a group I had joined. I shared the blog post because I felt that staying silent would mislead other women. I wanted them to read my truth and then make their own informed decisions.

But many women still had questions and my inbox overflowed with their inquiries. It was overwhelming and I went on a serious hiatus from Facebook. I also unfriended and blocked several people who I’d befriended from my time in the grou…

Do not let your children live in ignorance of your sacrifices….
“I will literally go hungry so that you can eat”

I recently said this to my children because I had become
tired of the teenage angst moments: you know, the sighing, eye rolling, foot-stomping,
under the breath moments that typically come with teen years ( I wrote typically
because teen angst may come earlier or not at all; it is not to be expected or
feared, but rightly confronted if it does appear).

I had just told my children to eject a movie they’d set
their sights on watching. It was R-rated and totally inappropriate, so they were
asked to eject it ( I didn’t buy the movie and it’s not my house, but it was my
place to prevent them from watching it). They huffed, puffed, whined “whyyyy??” and upon
ejecting, I heard some mumbling under the breath. I was hurt. Why? Because I
would do anything for my children: rescue them from a burning building, stand
in front of a moving bus, go hungry so they could be fed, stop them …

You must teach your family to be compassionate. Compassionless children, compassionless husbands, compassionless family members are the number one cause of stress, tension, anxiety and depression in women. This is not a scientific fact, but I would put money on it.

A husband who lacks compassion lacks the ability to truly connect with his wife.
Children who lack compassion cannot share, cannot empathize, and cannot relate to anyone’s needs but their own
Family members who lack compassion will convince you to prioritize their desires over yours and their needs over your own often. You will be made to feel guilty (and possibly even alienated) if you do not.

Compassion is defined as “sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it”. Synonyms include kindness, mercy, humanity, kindheartedness, sensitivity, understanding, benevolence.

I want a husband who alleviates my stress. I want a husband who notices my stress! And I want my ch…

6. Manners are essential. Don’t be a Moody Judy, not in text, talk or mannerisms. Like mama used to say, if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. Treat people like people, not as tools to be used and then disposed of after usage. Address your mom, sister, husband, hairstylist or coworkers with a friendly greeting BEFORE making a request. A simple, “Good morning, how are you?” of “I hope your day is going good” goes a long way. The people we interact with need to know that they matter to us. We cannot assume they know this all of the time.
When out on a date and you are bored out of your mind? don’t be rude to the guy. Excuse yourself from the table, visit the restroom and give yourself a pep talk, sing a song, do a dance, say your gratitude list out loud, something! So that when you exit, you feel better. Determine to be polite, cordial and kind for the remainder of the date; however, it is perfectly fine to excuse yourself early from a date to attend to an “em…

The Transformational Femininity Webinar (my first webinar EVER!) was a HUGE success! It was an honor and a blessing to share with such radical women.I do hope you'll join us for the next one!

Okay, now for our post....

1. There is no real growth without a significant investment in your personal development. Pay for that coaching session, attend that seminar, buy that book, listen to that podcast. There is so much information available out there for you to grow your business,grow your wealth, grow your perspective, grow your relationships...a radival feminine woman knows that she must take advantage of those tools to grow herself so she is not left behind in life with a bunch of regrets.

2. You are a brand, represent your brand well (from your mouth to your mood). "I am a Global Teacher and Wealthy wife who lives in Paris, France". This is what I tell myself every single day before I leave the house. So I dress like it, eat like it, exercise like it, teach like it, spend a…

Your femininity is deeper than pink dresses, pretty lipstick and cute nails. And although marriage is uber important to you staying in feminine energy all your years, that hubby can't make you feminine. He cannot make you nurturing. You must have those skills on deck when he meets you (ever read Proverbs 18:22? The woman is already a wife when he finds her).

What will your husband, daughters, granddaughters, sisters, nieces, best friends or even clients say aboutyour femininity? Is that a thought for you? Do you care?If your first thought is no, let me help you out.How people remember uswhen we are gone is how they know us while we are here. Having trouble convincing othersthat you are NOT a superwoman? Or super strong? That you are not an ATM or payday loanoffice? Or that somethimes you DO need a rest or a break?How can they know this and even value this about you if you are always showing them theopposite?If you want to stop being viewed as the provider or the protector of your …

Hi, my name is Dominique and I have mastered the feminine mindset. Five years ago I was overweight and over life. I was struggling on my own, single with two children, and finding it hard to make ends meet. On top of that I was dating this guy who was way less than God’s best for me and just really feeling like I wanted more and deserved better. On top of that I was deeply impacted by all the killings of black people by police that’s been going on and asked God how I could help. What could I do to help myself, my people and ultimately the world. I knew I’d been created for a purpose, but now it was time to ask: Why am I here?
My big brother told me about this one blog that led to another blog and then I watched a host of youtube videos about femininity, read countless books on womanhood, Law of Attraction, etc as well as attended in person seminars and well, here I am! I have learned too much to keep it to myself and as I watch single and married women struggle in their relationships and responsibilities as working women and nurturers it gives me pain because I know I can help. So, that’s what this blog is about: helping YOU.