The Wisconsin man hasn't come to terms with the disappearance of his daughter, news of the all the blood left behind in her home and the murder charges against the man she married in 2010.

Jay Steger is angry his daughter is gone. He's angry at his son-in-law. He's angry his world has come undone.

"I'm angry at myself, because I wasn't there to help her," Steger said Friday, March 15. "I feel so helpless."

This weekend, Steger, his family and volunteers will undertake searches in the Twin Cities in hopes of finding his missing daughter -- and some peace.

The search is not something the Marshfield, Wis., man wants to do, but he said he doesn't have a choice.

"She's my daughter," Steger said. "I love this girl, and I have to do it."

Her disappearance has been unbearable for her family, he said, and searching for her feels like looking for a needle in a haystack.

"It's destroying us," he said. "We want so much to have her home, so we can get closure, know that she's home safe, give her a proper burial that this beautiful woman deserves."

Thinking back now, the message Trevino sent her father Jan. 6 breaks his heart.

" 'I haven't told mom yet, don't say anything,' " Steger said she wrote on Facebook, " 'but I may be looking for my own apartment. ... I'm just not sure what's going on in my life right now.' "

She asked her father for help, and he wishes he'd been able to get her out of whatever was going on in her life.

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The 30-year-old woman also confided to her mother that her husband was controlling and trying to monitor her activities, according to a court document.

After Jeffrey Trevino, 39, reported his wife missing Feb. 24, Steger said, he wanted to believe at first that it wasn't serious. He thought he would travel to the Twin Cities, learn that his daughter and son-in-law had a fight, and she had gone to a stay with a friend.

But when Steger and other relatives reached Minnesota two days later, his daughter's car had been found abandoned at Mall of America. Blood was discovered around the car's trunk opening and on a trunk liner found nearby, investigators say.

Reality started to sink in, Steger said.

There were other red flags, too, he said. Calls to her cellphone went directly to voicemail. Her usual birthday greeting to her dad was not posted on Facebook when he turned 49 on the day she was reported missing.

And she never would have left home willingly without her beloved dog, Steger said.

Steger said his daughter met her future husband about eight years ago, when she was living in Wausau, Wis., and he was working construction in the area.

Kira Trevino was bartending -- a job that was a good fit for her outgoing, "people person" personality, her father said -- and Jeffery Trevino started frequenting the bar, Steger said.

They became closer and Kira Trevino moved with him to the Twin Cities, Steger said. The couple married in Costa Rica, a place she loved, in 2010.

Steger said he never met or talked to his son-in-law.

"Every time I tried to get together with Kira, I had to meet her elsewhere. I had to meet her to go out to eat. I had to meet her at the Mall of America," Steger said.

He said he believed her husband didn't want him around his own daughter.

Jeffery Trevino also didn't let other relatives of his wife into their lives much, though they had met him, Steger said.

After Trevino reported his wife missing, her mother, Marcie Steger, told police the couple had been having problems. She expressed concern he might have harmed her daughter, according to the criminal complaint charging Trevino with two counts of second-degree murder.

Trevino's attorney, John Conard, said Friday that he wouldn't comment about specific allegations, but added, "There's absolutely no history of any domestic or abuse in any of Jeffery's past, as borne out by court documents."

Conard says police are "pointing in the wrong direction." On Thursday, he tried to have Trevino's $1 million bail lowered, but a judge refused after a prosecutor argued he was a flight risk.

Police recovered surveillance video of the missing woman leaving the megamall, where she worked, on Feb. 21 and she hasn't been seen publicly since. Investigators concluded she is dead because of the large amount of blood in her car and home.

More than 100 tips have come in to a special police tip line.

Community members who didn't know the woman have organized several public searches. Her uncle and grandfather drove from Louisiana with a family friend to search this weekend, and her sister, father and aunt will also be there.

Her uncle, Buddy Kelch, and Steger expressed their sincere appreciation to the community for their help in searching.

"Everybody in our family loves Kira and I just want to help the family find her," Kelch said. "That's all that's on our minds."

Anyone with information in the case is asked to call police at 651-560-3277. A fund has been set up to help Kira Trevino's family with expenses. Donations can be made to the "Kira Steger Trevino Fund" at River Valley Bank, 327 N. 17th Ave., Wausau, WI 54401.