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s/o if you were pregnant before marriage

Does it bother your children? At one point, we all do the math of when our parents got married and the date we were born. Just wondering in this day and age, if it even phases kids to know mommy was preggers first.

My daughters know I was pregnant before marriage...I had one as a teen and was 8 months pregnant with dd #2 when I got married the first time. I never made a big deal about it and they have never seem to care. My mom was pregnant with me when she got married and she always tried to hide that fact from me...I remember doing the math and figuring it out. My husband's mom always claimed she was a virgin bride even when he pointed out that his birthday is 6 months after their wedding day ( he was definitely not a preemie 9 lbs. 2 oz). It bugged him for a long time.

My oldest is 1, it's never been brought up. Idon't know why she would care to even "do the math" , lol.

I guess I don't get why it would even be talked about.

by Anonymous 2
on Nov. 27, 2013 at 2:43 PM

We were married before we got pregnant, but my parents were not married when they first got pregnant. They lost that baby as a f/t stillborn, but I never thought anything much of it. I saw pictures of my mom pregnant at their wedding.

It doesn't phase my kids that I was pregnant both times before ever being married. Now that they're 21 and 19 they know how I feel about marriage so they realize it's amazing I was actually ever married at all.

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