If your SO cheated on you – but it was a one time mistake guaranteed never to happen again – would you want to know?

Would it matter to you how far the cheating went? Kissing vs Sex?

Or if the people were drunk or sober?

As for me, if SO had a one time indiscretion that is guaranteed never to happen again, I really, really don’t want to know. Ignorance is bliss and knowing isn’t going to help me or our relationship, IMO. I think it will either cause us to break up or ruin what we have. I guess a part of me also says this knowing what a wonderful man he is and how he would never do this to me anyway, but people make mistakes and it happens to the best of us, so who knows. As long as he stays with me, never does it again, didn’t put my health at risk and treats me like I should be treated, then I wouldn’t want to know.

No I would not. I’m with you- ignorance is bliss. The guilt would be enough punishment for him, and I would remain happy. Once you know something like that you can never unknow (or forget) it, even if you forgive.

Glad I’m not alone in this. What I don’t know can’t hurt me. But I would hope he suffers with guilt. He wouldn’t deserve to feel better for telling me. He would ruin everything because I couldn’t forgive that.

Say whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? Hell yes I would want to know. Would it hurt? Absolutely. But if you’re going to have the audacity to do it, you better have the balls to tell me. To people saying it would only hurt your relationship, doesn’t the cheating hurt the relationship? That’s not a relationship I’d necessarily like to be apart of, because we clearly don’t value our relationship the same way. I would have a lot of thinking and crying to do.

@futuremrsk18: I’d want to know so I can make the decision. Depending on what was done would determine if I would want to stay or leave. He made his decision to cheat, I get to decide if that’s something I can live with.

I would want to know. If my SO cheated on me it would mean there was something seriously wrong with the relationship, even if it was a drunken one time thing. I wouldn’t automatically break up with him, but we would have to reevaluate our relationship.

Hell yes I would want to know!!! I want to know the character and actions of the person I am spending my life with. I’d rather know and be single than not know and be tied to someone who doesn’t really love and respect me, damn straight I would. 😉

The cheating was a one-time thing, but the lie is every single day, moment, etc. that he doesn’t tell me. That kind of betrayal I can’t handle.

I can’t say whether or not it would end the relationship, because I’m not in that position. If he had sex with someone else right now? Yes, I would leave. We’re not married yet, we have no kids, there is no reason for me to stay. Later in life the factors may change.

Heck no. The only way I want to know is if my health is at risk and he contracted something from it in the process, or if it an ongoing affair. Otherwise, a one-time thing that will never happen again, telling me is going to be bad.

All telling me would do, is hurt me and make me never fully trust him again, so strippers and porn? Yeah that would no longer be ok.