Thoughts and Musings of a young therapist, student, and professional people observer

Relationship Confusion

This article really caught my eye. However, the premise makes so much sense. In fact, this same topic came up while I was in a meeting today. As someone who completely believes attachment theory, I can easily see how the author came to his conclusion. Ambiguity is safe because it can trick us into thinking that we aren’t as emotionally involved as we really are. Commitment can be a big step because it requires a deliberate decision. This makes it that much easier to slip into the ambiguity of situationships, special-friendships, and friends-with-benefits. No one wants to get hurt and we tend to hide behind confusion or a non-defined relationship because doing so would me that we automatically assume the risk of getting our hearts broken. Keeping the relationship in the dark means that we can avoiding asking the hard questions.