My husband (of almost 43 years) and I often hold hands. A man younger than us commented that it was nice to see. He grandparents held hands a lot and he appreciated that you don't have to be young to do so.
May you enjoy every blessing and be able to handle every trial that come your way today.

aknan

May 21, 2015

Continue holding hands, aussie - the loving contact is always needed, and life's too short to care what others think about something so personal. After almost 35 years, my dearly beloved and I still hold hands and have been known to give a discreet kiss to one another in public!

cindyj28

May 21, 2015

My sister always told me if you hold hands you don't fight. So she held her hands with her husband a lot.

bmoo1952

May 21, 2015

I always thought it was sweet to see the elderly couples holding hands..now I find that we are just trying to hold each other up!

pixipixil

May 21, 2015

My husband won't and sometimes it really dirves me nuts that he won't.

aussiesapphire

May 21, 2015

Thank you all, it is so nice to see affection being displayed in public and bmoo that made me laugh lol. Aknan and jozeey lovely thoughts. Hugs.

pixipixil

May 22, 2015

Lol bmoo.
Does anybody else think this sand looks like bird seed?

ninanita

May 22, 2015

Can you all please send some warm hugs to this ol'gal?!
I feel a Little blue and lonly to night...
I wish you all good! Night, night!

seaview

May 22, 2015

Hugs ninanita! I know what its like to feel like that. Even though I have 8 children but they are all on their own, I don't hear from all of them and the baby just moved to California and I never thought the baby would be the farthest one away.
Have a boyfriend but that's a 70 mile round trip and I am alone more then not. I get pretty low a lot because of things like this.
The son that lives the closest never calls and some of the others don't either that are farther away. Rest of family are over 300 miles away but I always hear from Dad and Mom and they are my biggest emotional support and don't know what I would do without them.
Now that I got into C4J I feel like there is a lot of support and a caring type of people. Sometimes when I am blue and lonely I get on here and read a comment that makes me laugh or picks me up and I feel a lot better even if I have nobody around to talk to.
I don't know your situation but I know what its like to feel like that. Hope you get to feeling better today. Hugs again!!

pixipixil

May 22, 2015

HI Ninanita. Big warm hugs on the way. I know that feeling. Let's turn those blues to pinks.

aussiesapphire

May 22, 2015

Dearest seaview, eight children!!!!! WOW you are a marvel. Sad to hear they don't all keep in touch, I know what that is like. I only had one which I thought was a miracle and she has had nothing to do with me for three years because I remarried. Also have two teenage grandchildren who don't even know who I am which is quite sad. So can understand how you must feel at times. And you are right about this site, it is like an extended, loving and caring family. I appreciate you and the comments you post on here, and I too, love to read what others say. Take care and God bless. Hugs.

aussiesapphire

May 22, 2015

Nininita how lovely to see you on here, don't believe I have read any comments from you, but I could be wrong. Just know that there are many caring souls on here and we feel your pain and share you joy. So here is a big hug for you. (((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

ninanita

May 23, 2015

Thank you all for Lovely Words and warm hugs!
They where still warm after all that way to Sweden!! :D

seaview

May 23, 2015

Aussie this is exactly what I mean, Got back on here and read your comment (the one about the 8 children) and its nice to see how someone knows how you feel because they are going thru a lot of the same type of thing so they know the right thing to say also.
When you come across people in person that have never been thru anything like that sometimes they have a tendency to say very harsh rude comments that sure don't make you feel better. You probably know what I mean!
That's what I like about this site. Even if its just one short comment to make me laugh or if its a comment that picks me up, or to know someone is going thru the same thing, that makes it all worthwhile to be on this site!
The thing that makes it hard in my situation with some of my children, and I don't understand either, is I had to raise them a lot of years by myself with no help at all from my x- husband. So I was there 24/ 7 for my kids and my x totally cut them off except for one son. My youngest is 23 and his dad hasn't seen him since he was 9 years old just to show you how long its been (my youngest does keep in touch but moved to California recently) so go figure why I am the one cut off???
My x is also the one running after mail order brides and the kids saw all that and hes on his 2nd mail order bride now.
Some of my sons got with girlfriends that have totally split the family up because of the things they do and the vicious lies they tell, but some of my sons cut off their family instead of trying to straighten out things. I see in their girlfriends a lot of my sons dads personality. The whole thing is strange to me. I cant understand why they are with women like that and they know they are like that too, but its like they gave up and got jobs where they are gone a month or more at a time away from home, but they don't contact me even when they are
away from girlfriend. Don't understand it.
I got where I couldn't deal with the drama queens anymore and I am glad I am not around them but at the same time its caused some of my sons to cut some of the brothers and sisters off and I see a lot of hurt and anger with them and I cant do a thing about it.
I am sure glad I found this site because its a release for me also, along with a pick me up and a time to find a laugh. I even laugh at myself when I post a comment and look at it and the comment is a letter, lol!!!
You take care too aussie and tell your husband to keep right on doing what hes doing, making sure your not over doing it. Hugs!

aussiesapphire

May 23, 2015

Dear ninanita, I travelled through Sweden many years ago and it is a beautiful country. Loved all the lakes and islands. And my husband's mother came from there so he spells his name the European way. I never met her, she passed away before I met KC, but from all accounts, she was a very interesting woman. Take care and know we all care about you. Hugs.

aussiesapphire

May 23, 2015

Dear seaview, it seems to be a generational thing. A lot of my friends are going through the same thing. It is hard to let go, but sometimes that is what we have to do and just put them in God's hands. Not always easy and even though people tell me she will regret the way she is acting now, it doesn't hurt any less. You said there is nothing you can do, but there is. Pray :) sometimes the last resort for the hurt. God loves all our children and has them in the palm of his hand. He must think we are strong enough to cope, and we do :) Hugs.

seaview

May 24, 2015

Aussie that was the decision I made last fall to let go and I had to text my son since he would not answer his phone or call me and told him his girlfriend was not welcome in my house. It might sound harsh but I could tell all the drama and fighting she caused was making me sick and I couldn't deal with all the stress anymore. It was to the point that if it kept up that I was heading to be really sick and in the hospital.
My boyfriend saw all the stress I was going thru and didn't like what was going on and he said he would never put up with all that. My Mom said the same and I knew how my Dad and boyfriend would of handled it. The trouble would of got kicked out the door!
I have told my boyfriend and parents that I feel so much better since I did what I did and if some of my sons don't want anything to do with me now so be it because I wont put up with all that fighting in my house and drama, and my sons know better but some of them joined in with the drama queens so they can stay away too.
You know whats really odd aussie. When my kids were living at home this wasn't going on, and they were pretty close. Everyone knew that every one of my kids would back each other up and if you do something wrong to one of them you have to deal with the whole pack of them, like a bunch of wolves, lol. Everything was ok till they got certain girlfriends and it all changed. Odd, isn't it?
What I meant by there is nothing I can do is I cant change any of them or what they do. I know that prayer is the only thing but I worded it wrong. Sorry about that. I should of said it different.
It did go from 4 kids out of 8 having contact with me up to 5 kids out of 8 this year, so that's better then none, and the 3 left are all sons that don't have contact, and instead of half of them no contact out of all the kids we are one up now. Hugs!

Reminds me of some little mini cactus my Grandma used to grow in her house. She had a lot of different types of cactus she grew and they all did well. I tried growing some on and off but killed them every time but now realize I was probably over watering them. Maybe I should give it a try again sometime. I do love the looks of all the cactus.

I had cacti when I was in school. Most of them died UNTIL a friend told to check the weather in Arizona to determine how much to water them.

KNadineM

May 21, 2015

Hey seaview, is it your birthday today or did you just want an icon of a birthday cake? If it's your birthday, Happy Birthday!

pixipixil

May 21, 2015

Second that and many more.

seaview

May 22, 2015

Thank-you pixie! My birthday was Sunday May 17 and so was my grand daughters. My grandson May 14, my daughter in laws May 16 and a niece either the 29th or 30th of May and my Dad and Moms anniversary was May 15th! I also had a Grandpa I never knew in May (died before I was born) and Mothers day to top it off for the month!

KNadineM

May 22, 2015

I have a friend whose birthday was on May 16, my late grandfather's was on May 14, my nephew's was yesterday, one my sister's and another friend's is today, I have another friend whose was on May 19 and my late grandmother's was born on May 28. A couple from my old church have an anniversary today.

pixipixil

May 22, 2015

Sounds like a lot of babies in your families were conceived on Valentine's Day.

KNadineM

May 23, 2015

Actually, I think they would have been conceived around August/September

pixipixil

May 23, 2015

Oops. I counted backwards 3 months instead of forwards. You are so right. Must have been that back to school freedom that gave the impetus instead of romance.

KNadineM My birthday was on Sunday May 17th and so was my grand daughter. My grandson was May 14, my Dad and Moms anniversary the 15th, my daughter in law the 16th, and a niece either the 29th or 30th, and my Grandpa I never knew (died before I was born) was in May also, and then Mothers day this month also so I thought I should just keep the icon on the whole month since so many birthdays and things this month, plus non relatives birthdays in May also. But thank-you KNadineM.