Author: asliceylan

I am coming back from an amazing journey. It includes new people, places and experiences. I feel full of joy and happiness. I saw that we have some turning points in our every day. Suddenly you have to decide which way is the better.

First what I learned I always wondering inside of the typical houses in London. How do they live and their inner world. So this time I saw. Last time I remember me looking at the houses and try to figure out their insides so I know now. I stayed 2 friends of mine in 2 different houses in London and stayed another of my friend in Glasgow. I felt like I was living there as a local and made me feel more oriented.

This time I went also Glasgow and Edinburgh.

Glasgow is like little London but not crowded like it and also reachable to every places easily. And it has more boutique and old English style streets, pubs, vintage stores and cafes.

And in Glasgow I tried a delicious soup in Stereo Cafe. They cook all foods organic. I liked the taste of all foods I have eaten there:)

Glasgow can be a alternative shopping place. From London people are coming for shopping because it has more reachable prices.

I liked old, historical buildings in Glasgow. The buildings made me feel I was in old England.

The day after Glasgow I have been to Edinburgh. Edinburgh was like tale city.

With buildings, castles, mystic atmosphere it was full if awesomeness.

What I learned that day there would be Torchlight Procession- Hogmanay. I haven’t known it so I was planned to leave Edinburgh at 06.00 pm but Hogmanay was supposed to start at 07.00 pm. And also most of ways were closed because of this event. I had to decide that I could try to arrive airport and maybe next year to see this event or change my flight and attend this event. So with a quick decision I stayed and I can tell you that it was amazing and blow- minding. People started walking after Viking costumed men with Scottish music and torchlights in their hands. We were walking to a hill in the darkness just listening wonderful music and sounds of people’s foot steps. It was so magical. At the top of the hill they burned the fire with their torchlights and fireworks started with lovely songs. All we were screaming loudly because it was so beautiful that I can not explain maybe. I felt sorry that why I was not aware of this event. I had amazing moments with those people with feeling this atmosphere.

And there I met a travel blogger and learned that night they have a dinner so asked me to come there. Actually I was not a travel blogger but it was a chance for me to see all my favourite bloggers together. That night by chance I met a travel blogger from Portugal and it opened me an another perspective to see other people’s lifestyles.

Edinburgh taught me new things and made me feel wonderful.

After returning London in the new year eve, I was having an another big excitement because I was going to run Serpentine New Year’s Day 10K race in Hyde Park. It was one of my targets that run in a race in a different country. And I had a chance to attend in London, as London being my favourite city I was so happy. I am proudly tell you that it was a great race especially running all around Hyde Park and the lake.

Another day I went out to explore the city. I was wondering “The Lamb“. It is known one of the oldest pubs in London. I can tell you that I loved there. It was so nice place to be in. I met a lady there and we talked about our lives, what we learned and shared our experiences. It was a lovely conversation and I was so happy to learn another person who is thinking like me too and I inspired of her. She has an adorable life living in London and Bordeaux. She travelled most of the world. Her children were living in London and New Zealand. And she founded a windsurf course that she was doing it for 20 years. We both told each other let us know if our paths cross.

I saw another person’s life and it was a nice experience to learn.

The next day when I was at tube station I saw an advertisement saying explore Bordeaux. So I thought what a coincidence. It was like a sign for me. That made me think that maybe we have lots of signs in our daily lives but to see them is our choice. Isn’t it so interesting?

After 4 train, 2 bus travel and 4 plane flight, visited 3 cities and 2 countries in United Kingdom and finally I am back to my hometown.

This travel showed me that people around the world are living their own unique world. If we are aware of it we can inspire of them. Maybe we should just try to see the signs!

After watching this movie, these questions has recently appeared in my mind.

Rebecca’s daughter asks to her mum why does she continue photo shooting even she is in danger situations. She says that when she is taking pictures she is feeling calm down and stopping her anger to the world. Because she wants to show what is happening all over the world and make them feel awareness. She is so brave for her attitude and there is no fear in her eyes while she is focusing her responsibility.

While she is doing her job on the other hand she has a husband and two daughters. And for them to see their mother walking through death is not easy.

Rebecca knows who she is and want to be a part of the world. She has an impressive perspective and tries to other people understand what is going on.

Sure there is no only one reality here. On the other side she has a family and she has responsibilities for them. If I see with her husband’s eyes, I can say that Rebecca is a selfish woman and does not understand the meaning of being family.

So maybe not every human being should have a family. It is a big dilemma.

While you are realizing yourself also you should try to balance all areas in your life.

I guess it is another big talent we should have.

At last but not least “A Thousand Times Good Night” made me think different perspectives and ask myself about my life expectations that’s why I am telling you that it is worth watching!

Some people face with their fears very deeply and this could be your best friend, your girlfriend or sister.

Generally we judge them as “you changed”. We say “You are not the person as I always know”.

It is the worst way to communicate. Because first we should try to understand with in her/his shoes. What was the reasons for her/him to act like that or do we know each other well?

To be close with someone seems so easy but to communicating with touching souls is very difficult. Even though he/she is your best friend for 15 years, you can not know his/her deepest fairs or passions. And I think maybe we should not to know also.

Everyone has an inner world and we are the owner of our own worlds. So sometimes there can be major earthquakes that we should care about.

If we are close to beloved ones maybe we only let them understand whatever you struggle just know that I believe you and I will be your side when you need me.

Everyone has a dark side. Sometimes we can mess up while we are not done with our inner side and show our darkest side. With a moment we can be labelled as the worst person in the world. But if we try to understand the other side maybe all communication problems will be solved.

I learned that in an African tribe, when someone does something wrong, they take the person to the center of the village there the tribe surrounds him and for 2 days say all the good he has done. The tribe believes each person is good but sometimes people make mistakes, which are really a cry for help. They unite to reconnect him with his good nature.

This story means a lot for me. I believe that I am a transition period to the best version of me. It will take a while to reach but on this way I will try to do my best. But I learned my first lesson and I won’t judge somebody because of his/her attitude. We really should be so kind to other people and help them to achieve this transition smoothly.

I was in my friend’s birthday party. I was talking with our mutual friend. She told me that she was going to start running the next morning.

I just asked “Can I join?”

She kindly said yes and we agreed to meet at 7.00 am in the next morning.

When we met she told me that she was not waiting me because it was too early. But I said you have my words and I am here so let’s start running.

So my running journey has started on March 2013 like this.

We continued running every week. Even in sunny & rainy or cold days …

After a while I continued running alone because I found out that it was a way to find myself. I was feeling nothing is impossible. I was challenging myself and trying to push my limits everytime.

After these runs I also attended races like 7K, 10K, 15K and a Half Marathon.

Running made me feel free and confident.

I can easily tell you now what I want or don’t want.

After I started running also I started hiking and traveled more than ever before.

And when I traveled far far away I also ran every places I have seen. Because I noticed that it was a great way to explore a new city with running.

Also it is a very special time for me to stay alone with myself. Because I noticed that until that time I was always surrounded with people. But now I can listen myself and have a chance to ask “Are you all right?” or “Is that really you want?” So it makes me think logically with my inner voice.

Last days I read an article. It was about everyone should have a passion for something to be a happier person. I thought and yes I have a passion for running. It makes me feel great and day by day it improves me to be a better person.

I believe if we can find out what we have passion for then we can be happier people.

So it is important for me to see other people who are caring themselves and listen themselves.

First of all sorry for not writing for a while because I was trying to handle my birthday depression. Haven’t you heard it? Then you should check it out! Please click here!

My last decision for birthdays they are not welcomed by me anymore. I can’t find any meaning to find it special. Not because of I feel depressed or anything else, I really thought and could not find any reason to celebrate if somebody is born. If I do something well then you can celebrate me but I didn’t show any success to be born so I think we should celebrate our moms.

Let’s come back to our subject today!

I have an impossible list that I have to complete in my entire life. Some of them are so impossible but I try to push myself to believe nothing is impossible.

I am going to confess you my failure about marathon running.

Actually I was going well as you see below about my list. I completed nice races including a half marathon.

I was supposed to run a marathon. But one day before marathon, I changed my mind and changed the category to 15K.

Why did I do it? Because after half marathon I realized that I was not very practised to run a marathon. I should run more often and increase my pace. So I decided to prepare for next year’s marathon.

I ran 15K in 1.41 minutes. My pace was 6.50 “/km. According to my previous runs, it improved.

But another part of me is also a little bit sad for not attending marathon.

But time to prepare for future!

I experienced a disappointment but I should move on for my other targets.

It is so interesting to race with myself. My struggle is with me. Sometimes I mess up everything, sometimes I can move forward so fastly. I surprise when I see my actions in different situations but I belive they make me stronger.

So time to go on now!

I should focus on what I want and think about new strategies to have it and let you know!

Nate Bagley wanted to learn what is the secret of a happy relationship. And he quited his job and traveled all around the world to find the answer.

You can read all the interview from the link Business Insider below.

I am impressed the sentence that says “Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.”

It reminds me another quote from one of my friend that I found also so impressive:

“For a happy relationship a man should love, a woman should like at least”.

So there are two opinions now:

If we want a sustainable happy relationship is it related if a man loves more or it can be possible also a woman loves more?

It made my mind a little bit confused.

We have an example of a successful relationship that woman tells us I guess she loves more her husband but on the other side we all believe if a woman loves more it means a man will be get bored easily of it and want to get rid of this relationship. Because in their nature they should struggle to have something, there are naturally born hunters.

We have two cases but I think there is no only one answer to all these questions.

Another case one couple said that they belive they found their better half.

I would love to hear your experiences about better half!

It reminds me “500 Days of Summer“. The guy thought that they were soulmates because he wants to see what he wants. It took a time to understand that it was just a dream.

And last but not least what do you think? I really appreciate if you tell me your comments!

Here are the datas that our guy has found while traveling all around the world.

Self Love: The happiest couples always consisted of two (sometimes more) emotionally healthy and independently happy individuals. These people practiced self-love. They treated themselves with the same type of care that they treated their partner… or at least they tried to.

Emotionally healthy people know how to forgive, they are able to acknowledge their part in any disagreement or conflict and take responsibility for it. They are self-aware enough to be assertive, to pull their weight, and to give love when it’s most difficult.

Commitment: After that emotional health came an unquestioning level of commitment. The happiest couples knew that if shit got real, their significant other wasn’t going to walk out on them. They knew that even if things got hard – no, especially if things got hard — they were better off together. The sum of the parts is greater than the whole.

Trust: Happy couples trust each other… and they have earned each others’ trust. They don’t worry about the other person trying to undermine them or sabotage them, because they’ve proven over and over again that they are each other’s biggest advocate. That trust is built through actions, not words. It’s day after day after day of fidelity, service, emotional security, reliability.

Intentionality: This is the icing on the cake. There’s a difference between the couple who drives through the rainstorm and the couple who pulls their car to the side of the road to make out in the rain. (Yes, that’s a true story.) There’s a difference between the couple who kisses for 10 seconds or longer when they say goodbye to each other rather than just giving each other a peck… or nothing at all. There’s a difference between the couples who encourage each other to pursue their personal goals at the expense of their own discomfort or inconvenience… even if it means their partner has to stage kiss another woman.

The couples who try on a daily basis to experience some sort of meaningful connection, or create a fun memory are the couples who shattered my perception of what was possible in a loving relationship.”

On the best advice he was given:

“One woman in Georgia gave some pretty amazing advice. She and and her husband have been married for over 60 years, and after being asked what her best relationship advice would be, she paused and said…

‘Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.'”

On the best way to solve disagreements:

“Resolving disagreements was one of the topics that came up the most.

Here’s what he learned:

Don’t Fight To Win: A huge number of couples talked about how they didn’t fight against each other. I mean, if you’re in love, you should be playing for the same team. Your goal should be to resolve the issue, not to emerge victorious over the love of your life… and let’s be honest, you just feel guilty when you win anyway.

Seek to Understand:If you’re having a hard time playing on the same team, stop fighting and instead try to understand why your partner is upset. Typically what’s being talked about isn’t the real issue. People are inherently bad at being vulnerable, especially in threatening situations. Be willing to ask sincere questions. Let the answers sink in. If she is complaining that you’re spending too much time at work, maybe the real issue is that she misses you, and wants to feel connected with you. Rather than arguing about how you’re providing for the family, and she needs to respect how hard you work, try to listen to what she’s really saying. Then hold her. Come home early one day, and surprise her with a date, or some special one-on-one time. Reassure her that she, and your relationship, are a priority for you. If you don’t want that same issue to arise again, keep investing in the solution.

Just Be Nice To Each Other Seriously. Don’t be a jerk. Don’t call names. Don’t take jabs. Don’t try to hurt the other person. Argue naked if it helps… but just be kind and civil ad respectful. It will prevent so many bad things from happening.”

And his favorite quote from all the interviews:

“At the end of Ty’s life, I want him to be able to say, ‘Terri was the greatest earthly blessing in my life — the best thing that ever happened to me — and that I’m a better man because of how she loved me.’ And that’s the goal that I live with every day. That’s how I want to love this man.”