Best Friend

What’s your gender? WomanHow old are you? 21What’s your race/ethnicity? White / CaucasianWhat continent do you live on? North AmericaWhat country and/or city do you live in? USAHighest education received: Some college (not currently in college)What’s your occupation? TranslatorWhat’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)Religious affiliation: AtheistHow religious are you? Not at allWhat’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexualHow many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20ishHow many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Best Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My best friend since middle school, she is tall, thin, blonde, blue eyes. We met in 7th grade, and had been best friends throughout high school, although I left to travel for a small portion. This happened sophomore year of college, she had transferred to my school for the spring semester.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had gone to a music festival and had a lot of fun. It was raining and muddy, and it was at a brewery so everyone was super stoned and drunk. A kid from one of our classes was there, and I had had a small crush on him. He started hanging out, getting touchy with us. We are both blonde and are of similar height and build, and it wasn’t the first time we had teased someone with the idea of a threesome. We ended up in the parking lot at the end of the night making out with this kid and each other. Kissing, touching, leading up to something. Then he fell over and hit his head, later we found out he got a concussion. We drove back to school and decided to sleep outside because it was a nice night.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We ended up on the tennis court for some reason. We were still super fucked up, and at this point all the hormones were flowing from the near threesome. We had had a sleepover with another friend the previous year where there was some touching, but thats it. She leaned over and kissed me, and started playing with my nipples. She has always been less experienced, so after a minute of her casual questioning I took charge. I climbed on top of her and kissed her, pulling off her shirt. I sucked her nipples and toyed with them and she started to involuntarily thrust. I laughed and she did too, we had been best friends for so long, it was funny to be doing this. She spent a minute taking my pants off, and started fingering me and I did the same. After a while of her hands in my pussy I rolled over and started licking her clit, while playing with her nipples. She couldn’t handle it, I could tell she was near an orgasm. I licked and sucked her pussy and started fingering her, and she lost it and had an orgasm so powerful she screamed and sat up. She told me later it was the best sex she had ever had.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We just laughed it off, said that friends were there to help each other out. We had made out a couple times afterwords but I was always almost embarrassed about it and didnt want her drunk self to be trying to kiss me when other people could potentially see. I think I was kind of an asshole about it. Now its just a joke, like oh, we could do this, but we are both in serious relationships now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Our third friend who had been at the sleepover and started touching us prior to this event. She laughed and proceeded to tell me the story of a threesome her and this girl had had where the third friends boyfriend came inside the friend from the hookup.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Giving her the orgasm of a lifetime was amazing. Thinking about it even after all this time makes me wet.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It makes it weird sometimes. Like I think now sex will always kind of be a part of our friendship.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? it made me think about girls for a minute, but i think it was kind of a phase.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? try to have sex with friends! its fun!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Ive had bad rapey experiences, and erotic sex on the beach experiences. I have slept with around 20 people and only 2 of them have been partners. I enjoy sleeping with a partner more though. It makes me feel better about myself. Ive always had a complex surrounding my weight, even though I am not really obese at all. I did find that when I would just fuck someone, I would feel great the next day and then like shit the next week. And I always blamed myself for no one being attracted to ‘me’ but instead attracted to ‘sex’. I think it took my young brain a long time to realize that there was a difference between sex and me and that just because someone is attracted to sex doesnt mean they are good for you.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its super cool. Great research, great outlet.