Thanks everyone for your replies! This person is a "her", and she is quite the busy body. The thing is, I just flat out don't trust anyone to set me up! I have in the past, and it's like people have dug up the worst possible people to be my potential "suitors". All your replies have been wonderful and I will apply some of each of them!

It does so often seem like this particular type of busy-body's only qualification for potential dates for others is that, possibly, the guy (or more rarely, the girl) is single! Sometimes they don't even check that part out very well...

I see you've met my mom's BFF, aka my second mom. She's tried that a couple of times, one was a disaster, the other, well, her daughter helped me weasel out! I've told my mom I think she thinks of me as her third daughter she needs to marry off!

One Easter, when my folks and I were at their house, she just happened to mention that the son of a friend was home for Easter, and perhaps after we ate her one daughter and I could "take a walk over" so I could meet him!!!! Don't know if his mom was in on the plot, if he even had a clue, and knew absolutely nothing about him, aside from the fact both he and I were single. I don't know, maybe he prefers men to women, maybe he's dating someone, or maybe he's simply not interested. for whatever reason.

Thankfully, her daughter felt my pain, and we managed to divert her attention elsewhere.

Of course, when you DO want help, suddenly the people you know don't know anybody...

Yeah...this is my problem. In my 30s, looking, and no one I know knows any single men my age. That's the problem in my area when you don't marry your high school (or college) sweetheart.

But still, if you aren't looking, Thanks but no thanks, should be good enough. People who harp on the issue are kind of awful.

That was sort of my issue, too. I never met any single men my age in my area. I told people I was open to being set up, but no one ever did. So then I went online, and met my now-husband. We later discovered that we had three or four friends in common, none of whom ever thought to introduce us.

(Granted, at the time one of these friends was in regular contact with both of us, I was fourteen and my now-husband was twenty, so it would have been a bit early).

Yup. At age 48, many of my "local" friends are anywhere from 7-10 years younger than me, and either married or don't know any one who's single. that would be suitable. So if I ever want to explore that avenue, its going to be online.

DD got a call from a married friend Suzy, (wife of former co-worker Joe) a couple of weeks ago. Suzy has tried for several years to find a quality guy for DD, but things have never worked out, due to time and distance considerations.

Suzy excitedly told her about a young man who would be "perfect" for her. He is friends with another former co-worker Sam, and works at the college where DD is going to grad school. Then she described him.

DD said she ROFL! Suzy asked what was so funny! She told her she's known Mr. Perfect for 9 years & they're talking about seeing where things go once she gets to GradSchool.