what you'll find in my LJ: - stories of my experiences and my reflections on them. - skillsharing, especially when I learn a skill for relationships &/or consent. - examinations of injustice and privilege. - analysing patterns in myself or society or relationships. - my spirituality and how I invest in it. - dreams; occasionally with interpretations. - polls & interactive memes; me seeking to learn more of you. - my core values and progress toward goals based on them.

I aim to write daily and usually end up writing 2 or 3 times a week. Almost everything is public: I occasionally lock things that are about work or friends who want privacy.

what I want to read on my friends list: - everything in the categories that I write in, especially if the intention is openness and honesty. - stuff that is free from slurs.

I look for LJ friends who are very self-aware and growth-focused: taking in other people's self-examination is exceedingly inspiring to me. I want friends who share at least the "justice" and "respect" part of my core values; friends who notice the evil injustice in the world and react by doing their best to make it better.

I aim to read my flist daily but usually end up going on a several-hour readathon once or twice a week (I read very fast).

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what you'll get from me as a friend:- I'll be honest and open with you; call me on it if you think I'm not living up to this.- I'll encourage you to pursue your goals and remind you of your worth.- I'll help you when I can, with whatever resources I can spare.- If we build connection, I will work shit out with you if you make a mistake (I am excellent at handling conflict with compassion).- I'll skillshare and practice with you so we can develop our empathy and intimacy.- I'll share my creativity in the hopes of inspiring you.- I'll do my best to educate myself on any differences between you and I, especially if the difference privileges me.- If I hurt you accidentally and you tell me, I will do my best to not hurt you like that again.- If we have compatible spiritualities, I will do ritual and practice with you (if you want).

on friending and removing:Add away! my journal is 95% public, and I certainly don't mind you adding me. If you want me to add you back, please comment on my latest entry to let me know you added me: LJ has been really bad about not letting me know when people add me. I love the chance of a new friendship! I'm also not offended if you add me and then change your mind after a little while.