Author: Namaste

I awakened this morning thinking about relationships. One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is to try to make her husband/boyfriend into her best GIRLfriend.

Don’t get me wrong my loves, my King is definitely my BESTfriend and Favorite Human… But He’s not my girl friend and there’s a distinction with a Huge difference in that.

Many women don’t understand or realize how they do this nor are they conscious of why they do this or the eroding this does to the relationship.

Let’s start with why…
In a time where Masculine and Feminine distinction isn’t really recognized and where even those who do recognize it often also suggest that everyone should cultivate both, many women don’t consciously see or respect the distinction between the Masculine and the Feminine beyond genitalia.

Many women grew up without seeing examples of masculinity and the examples they saw were dismissed as irrelevant, incapable or impotent. None of which creates a good ground for understanding in a deeper way Masculine/Feminine distinction. Instead there is a misformed belief that all love looks like Feminine love. As if Feminine love is the ONLY way that real love can look.

Feminine women now desire a Masculine Man and yet continue to expect and demand Feminine behaviors from him and call it support, care, love.

In other words, many women only recognize feminine support (even in Shadow) as BEING support and love.

Anything other than this is deemed callous, toxic, narcissistic and other incendiary and pyschopathologizing terms.

This doesn’t give men any acceptance for their innate way of being, the cost of her love being his emasculation, (and even then she will often find herself less and less attracted to him the more he gives.)

Add to this the tendency to expect one’s partner to substitute for Self Love… And you end up with Feminine women who want Masculine men who are also Feminine…

Unfortunately, my love, while this pattern of belief is based on a deep wounding, many have convinced themselves that this is really an evolved state for men which just further solidifies the problematic thought structure…

You may have noticed the idea of having or expressing gender normative behavior has become somewhat of a pejorative. I hesitated to share this due to the sensitivity of the topic and my desire to not wound those whose biologic sex and energetic gender are are not the same. That said I’ve been told that this is important enough to need saying and so I ask that it is read in the spirit of love, life and compassion that it is offered.

Those on the Path of “Conscious Mastery” and “I Am Embodiment” as the consciousness expands beyond the little “self” consciousness and the connection to the collective and I Am consciousness (that is always present but not always known) becomes known and visible then have the ability to know more clearly the distinction between what they are experiencing and what is in the mind and heart of others.

No longer running and being blown to any and every idea, they are aware of what is for them and what is, in fact, an emotion attached to an idea that is not for their direct localized individual experience at this time and place but belongs to another localized expression (person). Once this distinction begins to occur… Everything changes. Continue reading “Lessons in Alchemy: Cosmic Compersion”

Teaching.. Consciousness and expansion into True Self as All… And the place of Masculine and Feminine essence within that paradigm…

Based on my comment to another post…It is long but worth it
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The distinction between Masculine Essenced beings and Feminine Essenced beings is part of my great Work at this point in the space time continuum and it is typically not discussed in many consciousness oriented circles beyond saying that everyone has both and does both if they get to high enough consciousness- which is true in part when viewed through one facet but incomplete in many ways and definitely does not make other facets less relevant or lower in consciousness. It’s as if what is being expressed subtly is “we are one with everything” while not acknowledging that the expression of my localized self, a table and a chair each have distinct and valid positions in their current form in relationship to each other, and that distinction is also a facet and actually an expression of the Absolute not a departure from it. Continue reading “The Way Through Duality”

For all the little girls that will be born tomorrow and the little girls crying within the women of today….

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If you love her… Leave her Soft.

Don’t harden her and toughen her up.
Let her be a princess, a ballerina, let her wear tiaras and tutus. Being Feral is just another word for being neglected and living without love. Don’t demand she hustle and grind and “use her head”.

Ladies, when you understand the great power of the Feminine you’ll begin to understand the nature of the responsibility that comes with it. When you begin to embody it All dialogue about victimization will disappear.

The change you desire resides within your own body, it lies dormant in your being. It is not your howling at the wind nor taking up arms, but feel free my love to play that game as long as you desire to. It is not your judgment nor gnashing teeth. It is so much deeper.

Your place in the world is so much more than you realize, and how it is actualized is so much other than you think. That which you have rejected is in Truth the cornerstone of Creation.
Remember…
Remember
REMEMBER.

In the Sacred text there is a story, sit a bit, my love, here’s tea and pastry….and let us open our Eye to it…

The Divine showed Yosef his greatness, and Yosef in his innocence shared with his brothers, who were angry at his arrogance, bound him, took the symbol of his father’s favor, and sold him into slavery.

There are deep layers we could go into here, and perhaps we will another time, but for today….What is here for us as Feminine women specifically?

In the story we are everyone. We are Yosef and the Brothers. And there is a drama playing out today in like manner.

This has been such a RICH weekend. One of the best moments was when the Fabulous Goddess I mentor said: “EVERY MOMENT has been rich, meaningful and transformative”.

Here’s why this is so powerful. I don’t work like coaches (which is why I stopped attempting to label what I do coaching years ago). Not one-on-one and not in SOFT. There’s no to-do list. No schedule, no list of mandatory things. We soaked in hot tubs naked, we were massaged and scrubbed, we ate FABULOUS food and tried all sorts of drinks. We ENJOYED each other and in the process… in the BEING… HUGE gems were transmitted from Source. Shifts occurred.

Because we think differently and have distinct needs it is of high benefit for us to begin to engage with one another based on the reality of what we desire and how we connect – rather than based on the judgment that He should be like She and vice versa.