Message 1: You got exposed but this is not the end of the world. You can try and salvage things by telling your wife about this so she can at least live longer and take care of your family. Pray that God may lead every step of your life.

Message 2: To protect her, don't mention the sexual exposure, say you were exposed through a different way. Mentioning the affair may bring total disharmony and unnecessary quarrels, which might never end soon.

Always be careful when with your girlfriend, I wish you a happy marriage.