wedding weight blues

thanks! just let me know if you need me i will be waiting to pep you up. If i had any advice, i would really suggest not waiting untill the last month and a half to realize that you have been lazy lol Michelle

It's funny, our goals are almost identical. I'm getting married first week of August and I'm finding it really hard also. I just wanted to let you know that I have days where it seems impossible, that darn ten pounds or so is really hard to come off. But, then today, I ate well, I'm going to the gym, I went for a tan, and I feel great. Today, I can do it, and so can you. And if you feel bad, just go look at some of the amazing women who have had to lose many more pounds then us, and the amount of will and strength and conviction that took. You have major hottie potential girl, go get it!!! (You may need to send me this pep talk back tomorrow!! Haha)

Well, another things that add to my personal wedding weight loss blues is the grooms mother. It's selfish, but anyway. She has lost a lot of weight, with my wedding being the modivation. Which in fact, i am proud of her. But it pains me to see how strong this woman is ( she actully quite smoking too) and here i am having not lost a pound. It's not that i want her to be unhealthy, but sitting next to her eating is awful. I am embarrased. I wish i didn't really feel that way. I hope this doesn't some across as selfish as it sounds, i just envy that stregth she has. I know one day i might master it...but untill then

I was stressed about my weight too, but then I thought about it my fiance loves me unconditionally. I cold the scales at 1000 lbs and he would love me the same. I know I want to lose the weight and I haven't given up but I'm not going to beat myself up either. I will continue to walk and work out but I'm coming to appreciate that there are much more important things in life.

I'm in the same boat that you're in. I have 6 months until my wedding day. I've only lost 2 pounds, and i've been at this since the beginning of March. It's extremely frustrating!! I still have 40 more pounds to go, and my dress was already purchased for more motivation. Arrrggghh!!!

I understand exactly how you all feel. I am getting married on a beach, not Pamela Anderson style...but none the less I have to be in a bikini for 5 days with all of my friends and family. Talk about needing motivation. I'm really struggling with this weight loss battle. I don't even know how I let myself get to this weight....

I am right with you. I am really hurting because the last month or so i have actually gained around 4 pounds, and i am really feeling the stress of getting it off, but the stress of it is causing me to feel tired and making excuses! i just don't feel like i can lose the weight i would like to before June 13th. I really love my dress, and it looks great on me, but for some reason i can't stop concentrating on the little weight gain in the middle ....it's sad there is so much pressure to look flawless on that day ( of course my fiancÚ loves me just as is.....but it doesn't change how i feel about myself)

Don't sweat it! I was about there when I first went shopping and I still found a dress that I felt like a princess in. I took a very "real" friend with me and she helped me see the flaws in each dress...then, when I tried my dress on she said, "Wow...that makes your butt look smallish..." Turns out that it was the one!

My best advice is also allow the consultant to make *some* suggestions even if you think you'll hate it! Chances are she's done this enough that she'll be able to help. However, when you do this you do have to be strong enough to say "ENOUGH!" if it isn't turning out how you'd like!

I am so there with you ladies. I'm getting married first week of August, and haven't looked for a dress yet. I am going this upcoming weekend... and dreading it! Basically because I always wanted to feel "pretty" shopping for my dress, and at 220 lbs, there's not a chance of that happening. Yes, my fiance loves me exactly how I am... but I feel like a cow and am totally down on myself for not being skinnier by now. I guess the best I can do is to focus on losing whatever I can between now and the wedding, and just trying to be OK with whatever that is... *sigh*

I agree with the previous posters, but also have empathy for what you are feeling. I started off great and lost about 30 pounds since last June...then, since December, I've only lost four more! I am exercising, eating better (mostly), and really focused--but am having a hard time getting it off. I am feeling very frustrated with myself. I've just got to remember to keep my head high and keep working...I hope you can do the same.

If you haven't already done it--join some spark teams! My favorite is a team of girls who ALWAYS seem to be there for me. We chat on Yahoo Messenger frequently during the day which is handy--especially when there is chocolate cake in the teacher's lounge! Hang in there and if you need a buddy let me know!

something i have to remind myself when i'm feeling that way is that i am marrying someone who already loves me the way i am and everyone at our wedding will be happy for us whether i reach my weight goal or not. it will be one of the best days of your life no matter what.

Hang in there! I know how tough it is but you can do it. I've found that the thirty or sixty minutes I take each day to exercise has been a great time to just let all the planning stress go. I just focus on myself and getting a good workout AND I'm losing weight! You can do it! Good Luck!!

I am getting married soon, and I couldn't be more unhappy about my weight. We have been engaged for 16 months already (which is when I joined a gym and got "serious"). Anyway, we are getting married in 2 months now, and I haven't really lost much weight at all. I've been just so busy and the ups and downs of life has halted my weight goals. I hope to lose at least a little weight before the big day. I am still optimistic, but I don't have much time left.

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