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Watching Porn On Line!!!

I caught my husband watching porn on line. I think that as long as it's fee, it's fair game if it's done on an occasional basis. However, if he has to create a profile to get it, I have a problem with that and I think it's some sort of cheating. Am I wrong?

The real problem is that you feel uncomfortable, and if that fact is not dealt with, down the road there will be issues. Does he care how you feel? Can you talk about it without him shutting down or getting angry? Do you think his behavior is escalating? (Did he start out free and then go to profiles?)

As a guy I do not think it is a big deal as long as it is in done on occasion and not viewing children or other stuff as a previous post. I guess it depends on how much. Just like drinking or gambling, it depends if it is done in moderation. I do not think there is one male out there who does not look at it on occasion.

No you are not wrong, look at my history, I have destroyed my life because of an addiction on a computer, I have to live with the label of a Sex Offender when thats not who Iam, After 2 1/2 years my Girlfriend finally left me, even though I did not think I was cheating on her by these conversations, I now realize I was wrong and she had every right to think I was. I love her with all my heart and im so Sorry for all this. So if you are Married, or dating its cheating whether you want to believe it or not. Take it from someone who has basically lost his entire way of life.

Ok here I come with my left field point of view. Is there an addiction to porn or voyerism? There's a difference. I personally love porn. Some days I can take it somedays I can leave it. My ex husband knew I watched it and he hated it. I never hid it. I felt if he wanted me to not watch it he would put forth a little effort and have sex with me himself. but since none of theat was happening I wanted to see others have the fun I wasn't. At a point I probably was watching it everyday or every other day but initially it was because it was so taboo and I wasn't supposed to be watching it. After a while once you've seen one who-who you've seen them all. Talk to your husband about it. don't accuse him and don't be so serious about it..just see wear his mind is. For me if it came down to porn everyday or sex everyday I'd definatley chose sex because it's the real thing.

Yeah I think that porn viewing leads to addiction and experimentation. You can't look at these images and not be affected. Plus they always start moving the ages younger and younger to stimulate an apetite for something illegal of just plain immoral. Then when you are hooked someone finds out and it can ruin your life. I think that it is cheating too, and it wrecks commited relationships. You can have great sex with your partner without involving a third party!

well, this is a &quot;sticky situation&quot;..oh, sorry. I went through this with mine and no, I didn't like it. It did kind of hurt my feelings, but I didn't want to feel like some kind of a weird prude. And there were other times I was just happy he was &quot;with someone&quot; online and not me.. I was tired of the obligation of any kind of sex. Thank goodness that is over.

U know I never really had an issue with it. But My feeling on nit is once you are in a relationship with a person either marriage or boyfriend and girlfriend, then it shouldn't be there. I got married and my hubby told he got rid of it all. Only a month or two down the road I caught him numerous times doing the naughty with porn. What's not to say he's not doing something else online with his webcam. That is how we met. It always stems from one thing to another. It just started get worse from there. I later found out I was pregant. After my little girl was born he did the unthinkable again. The baby woke up and I was breastfeeding her and she was still hungry so I asked him to get up and get a bottle he said ok. I waited 5min. It doesn't take 5min to get a bottle. So I got up and dit and started feeding her in my arms. I saw some light coming in from the spare room so I opened the door and he's sitting there infront of the computer doing the naughty with porn. I WAS PISSED AND SHOCKED! He took his needs first from the baby. I knew there was an issue then and he continued on with it now. I left him last Nov. 3rd. I'm divorcing him. It's just for that this he was also abusive. He would do the porn around during the day with our little girl in the house. It's just wrong. Family comes first. Pleasure is the last thing. My own father and mother has caught him numerous times when they came out distances away to visit. His own mother has as well. It's embarassing.

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