A girl should not have to ask you on a date. You should be able to overcome your nervousness and approach her. It's not as if you are moving up to breech the door on a house filled with insurgents waiting to kill you. It's a chick who will either say yes, or no. Maybe at extreme worst case scenario, slap you, which is actually funny. It's a situation with a chance to win, and no real chance to significantly lose.

I know, i'm bad in that respect, but the point concerning 'equal rights, equal responsibilities' remains.

I know a guy who tried asking a girl out at work, and she dragged the whole 'sexual harrassment' deal up.

Not trying to butt in...but it's a two way street. I'd be dissappointed in more than just our womenfolk. How does it go about pointing the finger?..

You need to be more assertive. If you catch a girl's eye...why the heck would you snub them by looking away?...be polite...give them a smile, and return the gesture. There are so many problems for everyone. If you can take their\your mind off the problems just for a while, it's worth the effort.

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If you catch a girl's eye...why the heck would you snub them by looking away?

Because if you show interest they won't look back (as it happens so many times)?

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Originally Posted by 88Warchild14

Well said.

A girl should not have to ask you on a date. You should be able to overcome your nervousness and approach her. It's not as if you are moving up to breech the door on a house filled with insurgents waiting to kill you. It's a chick who will either say yes, or no. Maybe at extreme worst case scenario, slap you, which is actually funny. It's a situation with a chance to win, and no real chance to significantly lose.

Nothing except that if she says no you will be publicly embarrassed in front of everyone around, will lose any probability of getting any girl that sees it, and will have whatever confidence you had totally destroyed.

Nothing except that if she says no you will be publicly embarrassed in front of everyone around, will lose any probability of getting any girl that sees it, and will have whatever confidence you had totally destroyed.

So? You get told no all the time. TV tells you no, the govmt tells you know, you spent your entire childhood having your parents tell you no, your friends will often tell you no, your boss tells you no, cops tell you no, and so on etc etc.

Why should you be scared of a cute chick telling you no?

You should be scared that she might have said yes, and you blew a once in a lifetime chance, because your ego was too fragile to risk another no.

So? You get told no all the time. TV tells you no, the govmt tells you know, you spent your entire childhood having your parents tell you no, your friends will often tell you no, your boss tells you no, cops tell you no, and so on etc etc.

Why should you be scared of a cute chick telling you no?

You should be scared that she might have said yes, and you blew a once in a lifetime chance, because your ego was too fragile to risk another no.

You're right, mate. While there are many disruptive factors for a White man to overcome in relationships nowadays, I have admitted that my lack of confidence is part of it.

However, it runs deeper than that. Many of the problems are beyond my control, and cannot really be remedied by me. Like trying to compete with ethnics. White girls in the U.K are the worst in the Western World for miscegnation and 'jungle fever'. The truly decent girls are few, far-between and usually confine their search for a partner to the upper-middle/upper classes. The rest, to put it bluntly, are usually teenage welfare mums, nymphos with twenty men on-the-go, or monkey meat. Sad but true.

'They say that there are two tragedies in life; one is not getting what you want. The other is getting it'. I'm not even sure that I can be bothered with a relationship and all of the worrying, emotional turmoil, time, money, effort. I'd be paranoid about what she is doing, who she is with, etc, the whole time.

I'm sure, as a veteran, you think that I am being a pussy. But it really is quite bad here. Massive ethnic presence, ethnics in power, very crowded, one-in-five families have never worked, afraid to walk the streets, aggressive, hostile culture, no jobs at all... the list goes on and on.