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When God begins to bless you, your opportunities can outrun your strength, your experience, and your resources. God’s blessings can actually ‘overtake’ you (Deuteronomy 28:2). Imagine having more business than you can handle, more opportunities than you can respond to, more demands on your gift than you can fulfill l. That’s the reason Jabez prayed, ‘When I’m successful, keep me dependent on you!’

Why do you think the Bible says, ‘… if riches increase, set not your heart upon them’ (Psalm 62:10). Or, ‘Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you!’ (Luke 6:26). God’s saying, ‘When you’re successful, don’t get out of balance. Keep first things first! Always lean on me!’ Big-screen heroes may not put much stock in dependence, but you and I were made for it. God’s plan has never been to make you great, but to keep you humble, and become great through you. Listen: ‘The eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His…’ (2 Chronicles 16:9). Doug McKnight was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at 32. Over the next 16 years, it would cost him his career, his mobility and eventually his life. But he never lost his sense of gratitude. When his church friends asked him to compile a list of prayer requests, he responded by sending them 18 blessings for which to be grateful, and six concerns for which to be prayerful. His blessings were three times greater than his needs. Doug discovered that what he had in God was greater than whatever he didn’t have in life. Have you?

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When God begins to bless you, your opportunities can outrun your strength, your experience, and your resources. God’s blessings can actually ‘overtake’ you (Deuteronomy 28:2). Imagine having more business than you can handle, more opportunities than you can respond to, more demands on your gift than you can fulfill l. That’s the reason Jabez prayed, ‘When I’m successful, keep me dependent on you!’

Why do you think the Bible says, ‘… if riches increase, set not your heart upon them’ (Psalm 62:10). Or, ‘Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you!’ (Luke 6:26). God’s saying, ‘When you’re successful, don’t get out of balance. Keep first things first! Always lean on me!’ Big-screen heroes may not put much stock in dependence, but you and I were made for it. God’s plan has never been to make you great, but to keep you humble, and become great through you. Listen: ‘The eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His…’ (2 Chronicles 16:9). Doug McKnight was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at 32. Over the next 16 years, it would cost him his career, his mobility and eventually his life. But he never lost his sense of gratitude. When his church friends asked him to compile a list of prayer requests, he responded by sending them 18 blessings for which to be grateful, and six concerns for which to be prayerful. His blessings were three times greater than his needs. Doug discovered that what he had in God was greater than whatever he didn’t have in life. Have you?

One of the most difficult experiences in life is to be betrayed, whether in a relationship, business or work environment. It cuts so deep and the damage is devastating, and the betrayed take a lot of time to trust people in relationships, business or church relations. Talking to several women from all over the world, from different cultures and ethnicity backgrounds one statement ,” All men are the same !” though I beg to differ with my friends women on that one. I still struggle to convince many to believe me when I say, not all men are the same.” You will also hear most men say openly,” All women are the same!” If you don’t read between the lines you can pick it up this statement is from people who have been betrayed, cheated and taken advantage of. By far the most asked about question is that of lack of trust in relationships.

As I continue with my article of letting go your ex-lover, I pray that those who had lost the desire and the joy to love again, dust themselves and move on, yes after betrayal, heartbreak and being let down, you can still wake up from the pain and find love in someone again. I beg to differ with many ladies that all men are the same, no its not true. If you find some bad apples on the tree it doesn’t mean all are bad .They may all be apples but believe you me they don’t taste the same. Many people speak of their fear of being betrayed by a partner, or perhaps a friend or even colleague or church folks. Allow me to explain why people have such fears and hope to show how people can manage their fears and re-build trust to love and relate again. I would like to look at it from two angles, that one of the victim and perpetrator and the betrayer and the betrayed.

People are betrayed in so many ways, firstly when our needs aren’t being met in relationships. Any relationship can collapse if needs are neglected, as the relationship grows and matures. Most needs have to be met perfectly in the teething stage of the relationship. The gradually both partners reduce the amount of giving and receiving of love and affection and they start squabbles and drifting apart. The comes the temptation to search for another person, because you begin to feel that something is missing. And most of the times one turns to an affair or just fantasizes about other people. At this stage it is very defining to re-discover the qualities that were present and dominant when you met your partner. Though its not always that simple, but t would be good to have a simple heart to heart honest chat, and openly talk about what each partner is missing in the relationship.

Then there are those who have not been betrayed, but just have the fear that their partner will stray, become paranoid or jealous. One may ask, “How an I deal with these feelings and fears”? The truth is its not about trying to change your partner, but its time to look into your inner self. This sounds unbelievable but very true indeed, “People have a fear of betrayal because they just don’t trust themselves!” To those who are familiar with the bible, will recall some words by Job, in the Old Testament when he said, “What I feared most has fallen on me.!” Though it sounds preposterous but the truth is, “Everything you fear tends to occur in your life. “If you get into a relationship with the fear of betrayal its worse than betrayal itself.

It is always good for an individual to deal with their fears, so that they can learn to trust again, than hold on to past hurts and betrayal experiences. If betrayal or the fear of it is recurring pattern in your life, or the guilty of having betrayed or have the potential to betray somebody. You usually end up having the fear that the same thing will happen to you again, you will be haunted by the thought that relationships will end up in betrayal too. Bt this are getting rid of the need for you to learn to trust, despite the previous betrayals. You might have eaten one bad apple, but they don’t all taste that bad, you happened to have just tasted one of the bad ones unfortunately. But don’t label all apples because of the taste of the one you tasted. With such fears of betrayal you will struggle to trust your partner, and by so failing to enjoy any new relationship. Most of the times in our formative years, we probably had experiences of being abandoned and betrayed. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a dramatic event like being left, or rejected, but you may have felt the pain and shame of being let down or emotionally abandoned. It becomes clear as you probe deeper into your mind, that you will realize that every resentment or negative belief you harbor about somebody is mirrored in a belief about you. You end up dealing with guilty and pain of whether you caused the other person to abandon you. Yet it happened and you should free yourself from guilty and move on.

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Internet and modern day technology has created a great platform to do business, fellowship, make friends etc you name it. But the sad thing in our generation is that this global village that has been created for the good others haven’t been able to seize it and maximize it to the fullest. I firmly believe that facebook and many other social networks are not being fully utilized because very few have comprehended the connecting and networking aspect.

But the big worry is do we all see how business has been brought right to our doorsteps through these social networks. In Tunisia and Egypt internet was the result of a great revolution, that shaped the destiny not only of a people, country, but of millions on people and generations to come. The gospel is easily propagated now through these and many social networks; business` deals have been clinched, lives have been inspired, transformed through the power or the pen. History will record that facebook and Google were in the forefront of a revolution in Tunisia and Egypt, these were bread and butter issues, destiny was at stake and the response was overwhelming. Others quickly dismiss social internet networks are platforms for getting more and more women, I beg to differ though. For me as a public speaker, counselor, author and poet doors have flung open far and beyond in almost every country on the planet. But the key is to see what others aren’t seeing and get what others are afraid to get. Believe you me we all need each other, other have found real genuine lasting love, though other have been heartbroken several times in the name of love. What will your legacy be on facebook and other networks when you are gone? This is sobering, think and reconsider.

My encouragement to you all is to see beyond what everybody else is seeing, and tap into your destiny, there are great and wonderful people on these social networks, though the sad part is almost everybody seems to be hunting for a Mr. Right and Mrs. Right on these networks, and thousand have been disappointed on these networks when it comes to love. I guess the reason for disappointments we have too many crooks and hypocrites parading as potential husbands and wives, though there are some few genuine on these networks. But honestly we can’t make love our only reason for being on these networks, there is more to all than love. There are people great poets, great orators, authors, gifted people I have met and have quality relationships with now, we are iron being brought into one pot to sharpen each other for better and maximum influence and impact. Don’t get lost in your own island of isolation, get connected and learn from other, the skills to take you to your next phase .Check this down here:

Andrew Carnegie said, ‘It marks a big step in your development when you realize that other people can help you do a better job than you can do by yourself.’ (After all, you can’t whistle a symphony; it takes an orchestra!) Your future is connected to certain people. Without them, your destiny will be incomplete. If you’re humble enough to accept that, your possibilities are unlimited.

A key player in the Billy Graham Association was his childhood friend, Grady Wilson. In 1948, Billy asked Grady to come and work with him. At first he said no. But Billy persisted: ‘God’s told me you’re to come and work with me. I need an evangelist; somebody who knows me and my ministry, somebody I can trust.’ ‘I didn’t want to come,’ Wilson later recalled. ‘After all, I already had a successful ministry of my own holding citywide crusades.’ But after praying, he made the decision to follow Billy Graham (and God). He set aside his own dreams to be part of another man’s. That decision made a huge difference, not only in his life but also in the lives of the multitudes they reached together. Sometimes you have to sacrifice a smaller dream in order to fulfill a bigger one. It takes both courage and humility to do that. But look at the results. Heaven alone knows the impact Grady Wilson and Billy Graham had together. And what was Wilson’s view on his decision? ‘I never regretted it!’

I am better today, because of the thousands of friendships and relationships that I have made and continue to make and have constantly on the many networks. And there are great people with great talents, potential than ever imagined. And like Grady Wilson, I have never regretted not once on being connected to people on these networks. Get in touch inbox me, email us and let’s get connected, we can become the most formidable team ever on planet earth and achieve our goals.

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The average couple spends about 37 minutes a week in meaningful communication. They spend five times more each day watching television! No wonder we’re in trouble! Like anything else, good communication doesn’t just happen; it must be developed and that takes time and effor

You want to communicate better? Here’s how:

1.Build platforms for communication. Be creative. Take walks together as a family. Call your partner during the day. Try to meet for lunch once a week. Drive the kids to soccer practice so you can talk to them. Communication can happen anywhere

2.Control communication killers.TVs and phones are the chief culprits. Restrict the time you give them and you’ll be amazed how much more time you’ll have together.

3.Encourage honesty and transparency. Differences of opinion are healthy and normal in any family. Encourage every member to speak his or her mind, and, when they do, don’t criticize or retaliate.

4.Adopt a positive communication style.Be conscious of the way you interact with your family. You may unwittingly have adopted a style that stifles communication.

The fastest way to do this is to:

A. Retaliate; that has a degrading effect

B. Dominate; that has an intimidating effect

c. Isolate; go off in a huff; that has a frustrating effect. Instead, cooperate; that has an encouraging effect.

If you’re in the habit of using any communication style other than a cooperative one, start working immediately to change it. You’ll have to if you want to build a good with your workers, teammates, people around your life and relationship with your family.

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More than 20 million children in the world grow up without a father; 75 per cent of them in poverty. It gets worse; these children are five times more likely to commit suicide, ten times more likely to take drugs and 20 times more likely to go to prison. We have a crisis about fatherhood and you and me must respond urgently and passionately for the good of many generations’ to come.

Luther Burbank said, ‘If we paid as much attention to our plants as we do our children, we’d be living in a jungle of weeds.’ Father, answer these three questions:

1. Are you giving your children things instead of yourself?By the time they’re 12, they’ll have learned 75 per cent of all they’ll ever know. The question is who will their teachers be? Television? Some drugged-out rap artist? Their peers? As the twig is bent, so grows the tree.

2. Are you giving your best to your career or to them?If you spend all your energy at work and leave none for your family, you’ll pay a high price. Remember, you get only one bite at the apple. Your children will grow up either to resent you, repeat your mistakes or rejoice in the memory of a home where love was spelled T.I.M.E.

3. Are you setting a spiritual tone for your family? Or does your wife run circles around you in this area? Thank God for mothers who ‘stand in the gap,’ but the Bible holds fathers responsible for the spiritual training of their children.

Listen: ‘Fathers…bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord’ (Ephesians 6:4 ). Ten or twenty years from now, what are you going to wish you’d done today? Start doing it!

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There are few things better than a good marriage or worse than a bad one. Sadly, most fall into the in-between category: just mediocre. Why? They’ve gone too long without maintenance and repairs. How’s yours today? Has it quietly fashioned itself into a smooth well-worn rut? Do you take each other for granted or do you, like the ones that ‘go the distances,’ find new ways of renewing your love and keeping the relationship fresh?

Sam Levison said, ‘Love at first sight is nothing special. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for 25 years that it becomes a miracle.’ Listen: Wives, understand and support your husbands … Husbands, go all out in your ‘love for your wives’ (Ephesians 5:22-25 . Max Lucado writes, ‘Someday is a snake whose tongue has mastered the talk of deception. “Someday,” it hisses, “I’ll take her on that cruise … we’ll have time to sit and chat…” But you know the truth before I even write it, don’t you? Someday never comes! Wise up! Invest the time. Send the flowers. Write the letter. Make the apology. Take the trip. Purchase the gift. Do it! The seized opportunity brings joy – the neglected one brings only regret!’

The emotional intensity level in your home is like the volume on your radio; when it’s set too high, you live in an atmosphere of continual crisis. One disagreement and you’re headed for the divorce court. Your child misses their curfew by five minutes and it’s World War III and let’s not even talk about how you when you’re behind the wheel of a car! Listen: ‘Do not be quickly provoked…for behave anger resides in the lap of fools’ (Ecclesiastes 7:9 NIV).So, how’s your volume level these days? When it’s set too high, your emotions dictate your reactions, you talk without thinking and you leave a trail of bitterness and pain.

Dad, every time you storm out of the house because you don’t get what you want, when you want it, the way you want it, has it occurred to you that you’re teaching your children to do the same? Mum, when your daughter hears you say, ‘All men are alike; they’re no good,’ has it dawned on you that she might grow up never trusting or allowing herself to be emotionally available to anybody? How will you feel living with that? Reduce the volume! Lower the intensity level! Destinies are being shaped by your words, your behavior, and your attitudes. God says, ‘Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil’(Psalm 37:8 NIV). Today, listen to what He’s telling you!

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I have thought it worth our while to free our minds, relax and look again at the subject that is mostly talked about these days, the subject of Personal Development. What is it and what does it entails?

When we go through life the need for rewarding relationships and influence is evident in all of us. People in every setting make frantic effort to like, be liked and attract meaningful relationships into their lives. Sometimes, in a work environment, employees work towards eliciting favour from their bosses and colleagues. In social settings they try to attract the admiration of highly influential people. Regrettably, more often than not, this is done in desperate and wrong ways. We still have in our societies the majority that subscribe to the crab mentality of pulling others down in order for them to go up the ladder of success. They want to play expert all the time while strutting in borrowed plumage. They keep up appearances as they are not themselves.

Personal Development is closely related to the essence of the origin of the word “Character.” This word originates from Greek meaning chisel or the mark of a chisel. A good character is formed after deliberately taking a chisel and getting rid of the undesirable elements from your character until you become a man or woman of good character. This is by no means an easy task.

Personal development is about working on yourself. It has nothing to do with how others see or treat you. The effort you apply in working on yourself is what will determine your level of personal development.

Unlike many products where you need to purchase raw materials for processing into finished goods, you are the raw material that is needed to chisel out a good personality out of yourself. It is unfortunate that self-development is a duty that cannot be delegated to subordinates. You need to personally attend classes, read books, watch educational movies, listen to tapes and apply the information that you get. The better you become the more income you attract in your life and the better and rewarding relationships that you attract.

Why it is important to work on yourself is this fact: In life you attract what you are and not what others are. Many believe that they have what they have because of what was offered to them, notwithstanding they attract what they have by becoming the persons that they are. Rewarding relationships and success are not attracted by what you have but by who you are. It is only you that have the keys to lock or unlock the flow of joy and happiness into your life b pursuing personal development.

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It’s time to meet the person responsible for life you live right now. This person created your income, your debt, your relationships, your health, your fitness level, your weight, your attitudes and your behaviors. Who is it? To introduce yourself, walk to your closest mirror and say hello! This person is you! An although the popular myth circulating is that external factors determine how you live, the truth of the matter is that you are in complete control of the quality of your life.

It’s time to look at the life you’ve created and decide what is working and what is not. Certainly there are wonderful things happening in your life, whether it’s your job, your spouse, your grades, your children, your friends, or your income level. Congratulate yourself on these successes; you are creating them for yourself! And then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?

It’s time to stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness. When you realize that you create your own experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and create new experiences whenever you want. But you must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times. When you stop blaming, you can take that energy and redirect it to focus on creating a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up energy.

It’s also time to stop complaining. Look at what you are complaining about. Really examine it. More than likely it is something that you can do something about. Are you unhappy about something that is happening? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable to you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? Face the fact that you can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.

Successful people take 100% responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize and the actions they take. They do not waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.

Taking responsibility requires you to first decide to believe that you create all your experiences. Second, to pay attention to yourself, your behavior, and your life experiences. And last, to face the truth and deal with what is not working in your life. You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want.

Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your success do not depend on someone else? Commit to taking 100% responsibility for your every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!

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Without struggle, you’ll never develop your potential! Have you ever watched an ant carrying home a piece of bread that’s bigger than him? Success belongs to those too small to carry what they believe in, but too stubborn to leave it behind! If God the Creator lives within you, then you are ‘creative.’ That means when you can’t find a job, you can go out and create one. If success doesn’t come after you, get up and go after it. There are no risk-free plans.

A young man once asked an old man, ‘What’s the secret of your success?’ ‘Good decisions,’ he replied. ‘How did you learn to make good decisions?’ the young man asked. ‘By making bad ones,’ the old man replied. Once you discover your gift and identify your dream – get on your mark, get set, go! Stop waiting for opportunity. You have what it takes to scale the heights of success, just go for it. There are people in life who keep complaining that they never gave me an opportunity. It’s not really being given an opportunity it’s also about creating them for your own good. We are all faced with opportunities’ in life day in and day out.

Opportunity is the breath in your body and the strength of your mind. If you use your God-given gifts wisely, there’s no telling what you can do. But you must be a ‘doer’! God does not give us wealth – He gives us the power to get wealth. There’s a big difference. Too many of us sit down and wait for Him to drop everything into our lap. A dream without corresponding action only aggravates the soul and amounts to nothing. God will give you the power to succeed (Deuteronomy8:18), but you have to take it, develop a plan, and work at it OK?

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"Its all up to you what you are going to be tomorrow is personal decision and not a people decision"

My father once said to me, "If you want to have friends, you must be a friend". In other words friendship is something active, not passive. It requires your involvement. I keep in touch by with through text messages,Skype friends far away. I look for opportunities to encourage and let them know how much they mean to me. I've learned to say "I love you"

Herbert Mtowo

Herbert Mtowo is a Speaker,Counselor, Author and Life/Relationship Coach who specializes in Empowering Your Life's Dreams. His passion lies in helping people discover their Dreams and navigate the transitions of Life's interesting challenges.
Success has many faces and looks different to each and every one of us. Discovering your Life's Dreams unlocks the key to a better life,I have learnt to be relenteless and keep on keeping on towards my dreams and aspirations.
With several years of experience in Personal Development Training,Writing and Public Speaking, Herbert brings a wealth of practical knowledge and experience to his coaching.
Herbert Mtowo is the Executive Director of Jordan Touch Communications a fast growing consultancy and events management Company..
I love the Lord Jesus Christ and am proud to be born again.Visit my blog and give me feedback on some of my writings.I love you all,peace and love.
www.herbertmtowo.wordpress.com
read my articles in the Ultdream Journal www.ultdream.wordpress.com
www.jordantouch.com

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Herbert Mtowo is a Speaker,Counselor, Author and Life/Relationship Coach who specializes in Empowering Your Life's Dreams. His passion lies in helping people discover their Dreams and navigate the transitions of Life's interesting challenges.
Success has many faces and looks different to each and every one of us. Discovering your Life's Dreams unlocks the key to a better life,I have learnt to be relenteless and keep on keeping on towards my dreams and aspirations.
With several years of experience in Personal Development Training,Writing and Public Speaking, Herbert brings a wealth of practical knowledge and experience to his coaching.
Herbert Mtowo is the Executive Director of Jordan Touch Communications a fast growing consultancy and events management Company..
I love the Lord Jesus Christ and am proud to be born again.Visit my blog and give me feedback on some of my writings.I love you all,peace and love.
www.herbertmtowo.wordpress.com
read my articles in the Ultdream Journal www.ultdream.wordpress.com
www.jordantouch.com

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Herbert Mtowo is a Speaker,Counselor, Author and Life/Relationship Coach who specializes in Empowering Your Life's Dreams. His passion lies in helping people discover their Dreams and navigate the transitions of Life's interesting challenges.
Success has many faces and looks different to each and every one of us. Discovering your Life's Dreams unlocks the key to a better life,I have learnt to be relenteless and keep on keeping on towards my dreams and aspirations.
With several years of experience in Personal Development Training,Writing and Public Speaking, Herbert brings a wealth of practical knowledge and experience to his coaching.
Herbert Mtowo is the Executive Director of Jordan Touch Communications a fast growing consultancy and events management Company..
I love the Lord Jesus Christ and am proud to be born again.Visit my blog and give me feedback on some of my writings.I love you all,peace and love.
www.herbertmtowo.wordpress.com
read my articles in the Ultdream Journal www.ultdream.wordpress.com
www.jordantouch.com

A blog for lovers and teachers of interfaith as inter-spiritual living. An ongoing stream of interspiritual Nondual & interfaith resources for realizing happiness by finding our way home to our true Self. How do we find our way home to our true Self? Through 'realizing Oneness', via 'the changeless faith' & perennial wisdom - the mystical heart - of the great Traditions - including Taoist, Sufi-Islamic, Jewish, Hindu, Christian, Buddhist, and Baha’i Teachings. The soul needs ‘The Interspiritual Way’ - a ‘One Garden: living inter-spiritually, realizing Oneness - interfaith in the 21stC.’

A blog for lovers and teachers of interfaith as inter-spiritual living. An ongoing stream of interspiritual Nondual & interfaith resources for realizing happiness by finding our way home to our true Self. How do we find our way home to our true Self? Through 'realizing Oneness', via 'the changeless faith' & perennial wisdom - the mystical heart - of the great Traditions - including Taoist, Sufi-Islamic, Jewish, Hindu, Christian, Buddhist, and Baha’i Teachings. The soul needs ‘The Interspiritual Way’ - a ‘One Garden: living inter-spiritually, realizing Oneness - interfaith in the 21stC.’