How can Mindfulness Save your Relationship

Suhail is a father of three who loves nurturing them day and night. Profession wise he is a recruitment consultant with strong interposal skills. He likes to share his tough life experiences with the world and save people from those troubles he had to run into.

Is your relationship on the verge of crumbling apart? And you have no idea how to fix it? Start by practicing mindfulness to save your relationship. In some places, it is used as a therapy to mend broken relations. People indulge themselves in mindful conversations to patch up with their loved ones.

Practicing Mindfulness

Here are a few things that you need to keep in mind to save your relationship.

Think Twice Before your Speak

Three things never come back; the spent arrow, the lost opportunity and the word spoken in haste. In your close relations, it’s even more important to think your words through. When you blurt out, you may say something hurtful that can cause permanent damage to other person’s feelings. In some cases, you can make up to the harsh things you say, but at other times, you end up destroying your relationship. Words are powerful enough to pierce through even the strongest of hearts, so be careful what you’re about to say before you actually say it. The kind words can save your relationship.

Create a Balance between Speaking and Listening in a Conversation

To save your relationship, it is mindful to listen to what your significant other has to say. We often become so selfish that we just think about ourselves and forget that we are all made of the same composition. Help your partner loosen up a bit, letting out all the feelings and unburdening the heart. Just as you feel relieved when someone listens to you, your partner will feel the same.

Moderation between speaking and listening is the key to ‘mindful conversation’. Make sure that you’re fully attentive. Look into the eyes of your partner as he/she expresses his/her feelings to prove that you’re interested. Also, take care of the facial expressions and physical responses you give. Provide any suggestion if needed and remain cool if the conversation gets nasty. These gestures will show your better half what he/she means to you and in return your partner will value your feelings the same way.

Do Little Things to Value your Partner

In an effort to save your relationship, little things matter the most. They are the building blocks that mold your relation into something incredibly beautiful or extremely dreadful. What are these little things you may ask? Little things are words of appreciation when your partner cooks you a delicious meal, paying gratitude to them for being a part of your life, being generous with your love, taking some time out to spend with them and always looking at them with a loving smile on your face. All these little tokens of affection will melt their hearts and generate positive vibes. Thank your partner time to time for all their efforts to make them feel special. In return, they will invest more in your relationship.

Value the Positive Aspects of your Partner

Everyone has a positive side and a negative side, and in a relationship, no one is superior than the other. Be modest and appreciate the good things in your partner. If they feel low or insecure about their imperfections, comfort them and tell them they are perfect in your eyes. Always weigh their positive aspects more than the negative ones, and you will automatically grow fond of them.

Let Go of Resentment

Feelings of resentment are normal to come to anyone. The real question is how you deal with these feelings. If something disturbing happened in your past and you didn’t react in a way that you should have had, there is no point of revising it again and again in your mind. Reliving the past does no good to anyone. Some people start living in a world of fantasy by altering those bad memories in their minds. By doing this,they drift far away from reality and become mentally unstable. Don’t do that! It will not just affect you, but your relations too. Instead of taking your frustration out on the people you love, you have to accept the fact that whatever happened in the past is over now. Don’t spoil what you have for something that is long gone. Move on from the past and let bygones be bygones! It would help you a lot to save your relationship.

Learn to Compromise

Another way to save your relationship is by respecting the opinions of your partner. You should build patience and learn to compromise. Everyone has their own needs; you cannot force a person to do something they don’t like or restrict them from something they love. Treat them in the way you want them to treat you. Mutual consent and compromise make a bond stronger. When you respect the likes and dislikes of your partner, they will do the same for you. A beautiful relationship is the one that provides each partner with adequate space and does not bind them in the shackles of commitment.

Get Rid of your Judgmental Attitude

Save your judgments for strangers. When you’re in a relationship you’ve left the judgmental stage far behind, so stop labeling what your partner does ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Judgmental attitude will only spark hatred and highlight the negative aspects of your partner. No person is created perfect;you should accept the flaws in your partner and spot the flaws in your own personality too. Work on the flaws together to make them better, instead of pointing out for the sake of each other’s embarrassment.