I wanted to discuss a topic with you that has been on my mind for a long time… And one that I find is never adequately addressed – yep, it’s about how to start a conversation with a woman.

What irks me really is that no matter how hard you try, it seems impossible to find a no-nonsense, no-bullshit, jargon-free, straight up guide to doing this properly.

And yet, it shouldn’t be all that complicated no? I mean, by all accounts, starting up a conversation with a woman should be damned well easy… it should be fun!

So finally, I’ve decided to put this guide together for you.

Yes, for YOU.

And I won’t load it with stupid hype and frankly useless garbage like ‘the preapproach’ and ‘attraction triggers’ and whatever other nonsense is peddled by the usual charlatans these days.

Nope. I’m going to give you the literal, straight to the point way to start a conversation with a beautiful woman that you can begin using today, regardless of whether you’re young or old, completely new or seasoned…

I wanted to make sure this works anywhere – if you’re by yourself walking down the street and spot a stunner… Or if you’re with your buddies pounding back jagerbombs and a gorgeous blondie walks in with a crew of friends. It’s all the same.

So here it is…

You see her… Green eyes… Light brown hair… Ponytail… tight yoga pants… and a smile so crushingly beautiful it makes you forget your own name… You want her (of course you do).

But where to start?

Why, at the beginning…

The Single Greatest Supreme Intergalactic Opener Of All Time

I wasn’t sure I wanted to share this with you.

I was seriously hesitant but Cliff convinced me, so without further ado, here goes…

Hi, I wanted to meet you.

Now before you take up the torches and pitchforks to lynch me, allow me to explain.

You see, most guys have this idea that starting a conversation with a beautiful woman is something terrifying…

That women are almost programmed to violently and mercilessly shoot down anyone who just doesn’t cut it, and so the anxiety of finding the perfect thing to say builds up and who is ready to capitalize on that fear? Supposed seduction expert gurus! Which reminds me – buy my Super Mega Awesome Daygame Opener Guide (Kidding!)

But seriously… The fact of the matter is that most women are cool, fun, down to earth, nice girls who love to meet new people. Why do I know this? Because most people are cool, fun, down to earth, nice people who love to meet new people.

Have I never been rudely ‘shot down’? Yeah once or twice, but believe me I lived – and so will you. But it happens way less often than you think. Take your current assumption and shrink it by 100, then shrink it by another 100.

Anyway I digress…

The best part about starting a conversation with a beautiful woman like this is because of just how incredibly versatile it is. You can use it in clubs, in low key bars, in restaurants, at the mall, in church, while skydiving, during a mud-wrestling tournament, your grandmother’s funeral – you name it, it’ll work!

Once you’ve delivered this neatly packaged nuclear bomb of an opener, usually she will be pleasantly intrigued and ask “hi! Uhm… Why?”

In which case, if you’re still a little shy, you can explain that “I’m a little shy but you seem interesting and I want to meet new people”.

If you’re feeling hardcore though, I highly advise you to get used to asking for what you want from life – be it a beautiful woman, or a the job you might not be fully qualified for, or the promotion, or the upgrade at the airport – push your boundaries. When she asks why, look her right in the eye and speak your truth;

Because from the moment I saw you, I couldn’t take my eyes off you. That’s why. I’m Pat.

Can it be so simple??

Well… Yeah. And you should lynch anyone who tells you otherwise (please don’t.) The goal is to think less, to worry less, to stress less and to be less anxious overall!

Life isn’t about staying comfortable all the time – you don’t grow that way. And searching for complicated methods and techniques only means one thing; you are seeking certainty.

You think a system and method and step by step guide will give you every possible outcome and have you prepared. But what it actually does is help you avoid yourself. It stacks up more noise in your mind and pulls you away from your heart – and your heart is a powerful tool brother.

You know those deeply happy people who never seem to get stressed out over anything? Those guys are heart-connected. And did you notice how people – not just women mind you, but interesting people and great friends – all tend to gravitate towards them, invite them to the coolest parties, want to have them around and just basically adore them?

Simple really – forgo the complicated, toss the mechanics out the window, and simplify your life. Like a breath of fresh air!

It’s called joie de vivre brother. Starting a conversation with a beautiful woman is fun! It’s exciting! It’s enjoyable – but you can’t connect to that feeling when you’re stuck in your head trying to simultaneously change your life and defend yourself. You need to pick one.

When you’ve made your decision to glide peacefully through life – to shamelessly show up for what you want with a big giant ‘let’s do this’ enthusiastic smile on your face, I’ll be here waiting for you, cheering you on!

Patrick is a scoundrel, rogue, vagabond and founder of the Centered Man Project. He teaches men how to overcome their social anxiety and fear of rejection, by unleashing their unshakable self-confidence.