WHY I’M OVER NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS (and you should be too)

Every year, even before Christmas, I am always the one thinking ahead to New Years Resolutions. Goals motivate the heck out of me. Flippin love them. This year, however, has been the first year that I’ve actually really struggled to come up with goals that I really want to achieve next year.

Who are you and what have you done with regular Hayley?!

I’ve been racking my brain for weeks trying to pluck out some goals from somewhere, and I have managed to come up with a few things that I would like to focus on this year, but when I say few, I mean like two. I usually have around 10-15 goals with a detailed five-point plan to go with each one. As you can imagine, this is unfamiliar territory for me.

My mind was recently BLOWN by the wonder that is Candice Brathwaite – if you don’t know her on Instagram, for goodness sake, give that woman a follow. She gave the most incredible advice that really spoke to me about setting goals for the New Year. She said that instead of setting goals for the new year, she tries to ‘be amazing every day.’

I gotta say, I can’t really relate to that. I’m not an amazing every day person. I’m not even an amazing every week person! (Note to self: one of my New Years goals should be not to be so hard on myself.)

But what she said next was so simple and blew me away.

‘You don’t have to set goals, you BUILD ON what you’ve achieved this year.’

OMFG.

This spoke right to my soul. It’s fair to say that this year has been a HUGE learning curve for me. Learning how to be a mother, and basically having to find myself as a human being again (anyone relate?!) To set goals now would be trying to run before I can walk. I’m still fumbling around trying to do my best on a daily basis, and next year, instead of getting all side tracked with healthy eating, drinking more water and going vegan, I just want to DO BETTER. I just want to BE BETTER.

I want to focus this year on progressing from where I am at this very point. Progressing in every sense of the word, physically, mentally (especially), emotionally, and spiritually. I want to be able to look back on 2018 and think, ‘wow, look how far I’ve come.’ I know I can most definitely do that for 2017, even if it has been baby steps. And that feeling beats ticking off boxes that I got 1000 more subs on YouTube.

This puts next year in a whole new perspective for me. I want to grow, be better, do better, and feel more comfortable in my own skin. Sure, these are things that aren’t really measureable, but at the end of 2018, I will just know, you know?

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Hello! I’m Hayley

Vlogger, blogger and first time mama, living in the middle of England with my husband, Daniel, and our (not so) little peanut, Lawson. He has shaken our world so much, that I decided to quit my job to be a stay at home mum and pursue my dreams right here on this blog.