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Millions of people just like you are looking for a discreet connection

Every day thousands of people join Ashley Madison to find discreet relationships of all kinds. Single, attached, looking to explore, or just curious to discover what's out there — Ashley Madison is the most open-minded dating community in the world.

Discretion matters

We know you value your privacy, and we do too. We will never ask you to log in using a public social network account, and we have several features designed to help you keep your private life private—whatever your reasons.

Completely independent

You don't need to link your Ashley Madison account to any other social network. In fact, you can't. Instead use a private email address (for even more discretion, we recommend using a unique email just for this account).

Discreet photos

You control exactly what you want people to see! Want to show off your smile in your profile photo? Great! But if you’re looking to add a bit more of an air of mystery, you can use our blur or mask tools. For even more discretion, you can mark photos as private and only share those with members who catch your eye.

Inbox control

We know sometimes it can be daunting to see an inbox full of messages. We help you manage your time and your connections with our Quick Reply feature. If you have too many winks or favorites, you can quickly and easily let those members know you'd be happy to respond to a full message. That means less time spent replying to people you may not be the best match with, and more time finding the discreet relationship you really want.

Travel perks

The excitement of traveling to a new city can be amplified when it includes meeting someone new. With Traveling Man and Traveling Woman features, you can find those connections before you’ve even packed your bags. Message members in your destination city ahead of time to mix business with pleasure.

It only takes a moment

It's all too easy to get caught up in the routine. We count down the hours instead of enjoy our time and we long for something more, but in the end we are left with the mundane, boring, everyday activities that make up our lives.

Once in a while, something special happens. A fleeting glance, an accidental touch, a returned smile: these moments show us a glimpse of something different, something more. We think about them and what they could mean for us, the path not taken and the life not lived.

But what if you could make those moments happen yourself? Feel the butterflies, experience the desire, and know what it is not to just live but to really come alive? Ashley Madison is the place to start your journey, to find your moment.

Ashley Madison is for everyone

Whatever brings you to Ashley Madison, you can feel safe knowing that you're not alone. Our members are single, attached and seeking an affair partner, or attached and seeking something polyamorous. They are looking for online flirtation, for something casual, and for discreet relationships. They are students, stay-at-home moms and dads, office workers, tradespeople, entrepreneurs, retirees, and everyone in between. Sexual orientation, relationship status, age, wealth, and religion are unimportant here. Everyone has different reasons for joining a dating site like Ashley Madison, but they are united in a desire to seek out real, discreet connections. No matter your reason, circumstances, or what you're looking for, you'll find what's missing at Ashley Madison.

The first online dating site of its kind

When Ashley Madison started in 2001, there weren't many places adults could go for discreet dating. Meeting someone at work or through friends is too risky when discretion is your number one concern. Many turned to traditional online dating websites, but found it difficult to connect with people looking for a similar type of arrangement. And so Ashley Madison was created as the first website that was open and honest about what you could find there: like-minded people looking for married dating. As a place free of judgement, Ashley Madison revolves around the idea that consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want in private. What began over a decade ago soon grew to be the international leader in the affair dating space. Originally designed specifically for married men and women looking to have extramarital affairs in the most discreet way possible, it has since evolved to be so much more.

More than an affair site

Ashley Madison today is about so much more than infidelity. In fact, a large number of our millions of members around the globe are singles drawn to the site because they want the kind of discretion Ashley Madison has been synonymous with for over a decade. Many members are in fulfilling relationships and need a safe place to explore polyamory together. Others still are looking for same-sex relationships but want to keep it separate from their personal and professional networks. Of course, there are still men and women seeking an affair on Ashley Madison, but we don't let that define us and neither should you. Ashley Madison is the best place to find real, discreet relationships with open-minded adults.