It's a shame to think that simply because the husband is military, that he should go unpunished when BREAKING THE LAW (UCMJ). This is no different than if he got a DUI or hit his wife.

As commissioned officers, you're held to a much higher standard than PVT Joe. Everyone automatically assumes the motive is revenge. Of course, part of it is. But, how about the motive being ensuring people are held accountable for their actions? Would anyone give the same “think about the money” advice if he hit her during a heated argument?

It's not an easy situation to be in. Truth be told, based on our Army's operation tempo, the more-than-likely scenario is that both officers get a General Letter of Reprimand. What’s this mean? It means they are going to have a difficult time fast tracking a promotion and will be removed from a leadership position; which is the right course of action.

All in all, the argument works for both sides. But, don’t ever think about it as you’re the one ruining their careers. They ruined it themselves. They can’t blame you for that at all. I know this topic is a little dated, so, you should be on your way to “recovery.” GOD Bless and take care.