Hi Reddit. It was requested that I make this post awhile ago, but I'm using a throwaway account just in case the boy in question should ever find out my regular username. That could be awkward. AMA! And to clarify, I'm a girl.

This I agree with. My current girl, age 21, sees sex as a reward for me, not something she desires. I once tried to see if I could out wait her before begging for sex. Made it 3 weeks before I gave up.

Did you fuck him gently? Or was it rough and wild? Both? How long? How did it go down? Where were you? Can we get a play by play? Are you going to do it again? How many partners have you had? Is he your bf now? Are you going to get married and have lots of babies? What is Zanzibar? Can I have one? Delivered? Gawdamn I love Tenacious D.

It was gentle until he figured out that he wasn't going to hurt me. Then it got much rougher... and much better.

From foreplay to finish was about an hour or so, but keep in mind there was time taken for him to get used to the movements and position changes and keeping the flag at full mast.

We were on a date. We went for dinner, then a walk to a park, then back to his place for the tapping.

Play by play... well. We were making out, clothes coming off, etc. He went down on me but that's also new for him and he was trying real hard, but I just knew I wasn't going to cum. So at some point I told him to get a condom. I started off on top, then we switched around a few times.

I am definitely going to do it again. Someone needs to train him.

He is my second partner.

He is not really my boyfriend yet. We haven't had that talk. I have a feeling he thinks I'm his girlfriend though.

Marriage and babies scare me.

Zanzibar is actually a strip club here in Toronto. That's what I think of when I hear that song. I don't know if they deliver strippers. You should find out.

I had a girl i talked to a bunch and slept with last week. I tried to hang out with her the next few days and she wasn't in to it. After talking about it, she said she wanted it to be a one night stand.

Honestly, it kinda hurt a bit simply because I had already emotionally attached. If I knew what was happening going in to it, I would have had no problem.

I once had a one night stand that I wanted to be a one night stand, but the girl called me the next day and told me her husband stole her purse to go buy cocaine, and she thought she and I were a really great match, and did I want to come over and hang out. So be thankful you had it the other way around.

I've had situations where I was fucking a girl many nights in a row, by all accounts she loved it (so far as telling friends etc.) But the second I even casually ask "lets go for a meal or something" BAM no opportunity for average sized penis.

So I guess what I'm saying is that he may just be an intolerable person, but good as a "sex animal". It still sorta hurts, but it's pretty hard to get teary eyed about some girl who "only wants to give me blowjobs." Attempting to whine to my friends about it always results in LOLs.

Very nice. Tell the boy, no, MAN!, that reddit says high five. One hour is very impressive even with breaks. I remember my first blowjob, there was so much foreplay and tension and excitement and she had been telling me all about how...well anyways I came as soon as her lips hit the head. So, good work defloweree. Edit: I guess wearing a hat helps.

Did he know he was tappin that that night? Or was it a surprise? What is your favorite position? How many dates you been on? You mentioned that you had done "other stuff" I believe.

Zanzibars is a strip club!? Jack Black....I am disappoint. Actually on second thought no I'm not. Keep it real Mr. Black. Speaking of delivered strippers I recently met 3 lovely ladies from Winnipeg. I was like "hey, where you from?"

"Winnipeg".

And I had nothing to follow that with. Manitoba. Canada. That is my entire knowledge of Winnipeg. Now I hear that they deliver strippers in Toronto. So I think I'm going to go on a road trip through Canadia. Vancouver, Calgary, Edmonton, whatever is in Saskatchewan, Winnipeg, Toronto, uh..., Ottawa, Montreal, Quebec, ..uhhh PEI? Would that be sweet? And can I crash at your place in T-town? Do they speak French there? Or is that just Montreal? I love the girls from Montreal accent? Do you talk like that?

P.S. What is with all Canadian cities being right up against the U.S. border? Why don't you just annex yourselves into America already. America's fucking hat. With hot Montreal girls. And T-town chicks who take your v-card.

He did not know. I sort of did. I knew I'd be tapping him soon and things went well on the date, so I thought, why the fuck not. I like it doggystyle. It was out third technical date, but we've seen each other more than that due to a mutual friend.

I live in the shit part of Toronto with my parents, but yea, come on down! We have a nice couch with lots of cushions. You should also hit New Brunswick, beautiful province. Don't get suckered into the magnetic hill. Not much French here, even Montreal you can get by with English no problem. I do not have an accent, but I'm told the one I adopt when speaking French is sexy.

Average 12 pack in Ontario is between $18-$22. We Canadians get ripped off with our beer. I love going to the states and getting 30 keystone light for like $15. Bringing back to Canada and i feel like im drinking for free. like what...i actually have money in my wallet? i thought i bought beer today..

Pathetic as it is I had to google map New Brunswick. It took me to Jersey. "New Brunswick, Canada" got me there. I know Europe and SE Asia better than my own continent. Thus my desire to road trip North America.

Is doggystyle easy for girls? I mean effort wise. As a guy missionary if fun and all sensation wise, but a lot of work too. Girl on top, reverse cowgirl, are awesome cause you just get to sit back and enjoy it more or less. Doggstyle for a man is low-medium on the effort scale. How is it for the ladies? I suppose you like the angle most of all?

I know nothing of Toronto. Much less the shite part. I'm on wikipedia as I type this verbose, eloquent, and vino induced message. 4.7 millian urban, big. 25% of Canada's population in The Golden Horseshoe. 49% of the population were born outside of Canada. Wow. I like it. The Economist (my favorite mag) lists it as one of the most livable cities. Most expensive Canadian city. Hah. Loonies.

Torontonians.

Your weather sucks. In the winter at least. Is there good skiing nearby? How is the lake in summer? Good boating?

The Distillery District. Getting better.

What is a magnetic hill? Tourist trap? Nevermind google saves the day as usual.

Despite having an extremely French last name, and being Metis, I speak no French. Black sheep, family shame, dishonored, etc etc, not really but you know. Seeing as I speak other romance languages, and French is a romance language, it is pretty easy to get by with a little guessing and some hand language.

Doggystyle can get a little tiresome if the guy starts leaning on you too hard, because then we're working on keeping our asses up as well as the guy. Can be perfectly comfy if you find a good position. Always worth it for the angle, plus it's easy to reach under for some clit stimulation.

I've really actually come to love Toronto. Great city. The rest of Canada hates us, but please come visit. There's skiing at Blue Mountain, 2ish hours north of Toronto. The lake is nice, but you can't swim in it and I don't boat anyway. It's nice to walk along the beach.

I'm part Metis myself. But not enough that it matters. Mostly just Acadian.

The lake is too dirty for swimming. Torontonians tend to just "head up North" which means cottage country. A popular spot is Wasaga Beach, which is near Blue Mountain. I went there myself this summer. Great swimming.

My girlfriend's a skier and is trying to get me to go when I visit her in December. Trying to be honest, I explain that I'm willing to try it, but don't see how it could possibly be fun. She's been unable to explain the appeal. Could you hook the proverbial brother up with such an explanation?

I ask you, since your comment seems to indicate that you like it. Either that or you're doing your part to cleanse the population of skiers by sending them to a death trap. That part's unclear.

My husband is a skiier, he used to go twice a year. I had never been skiing before until we went on a trip together in high school. I have since been twice.

Skiing is probably 80-90% the most miserable feeling ever. You have to wear heavy boots that make you walk funny, you have to carry skis around that are heavy and just a pain in the ass, you have to wear lots and lots of clothes because it's cold (but if you ever get warm there's nowhere to put them). If you go to ski school they teach you how to do a snowplow stop which is the stupidest thing ever, it will not stop you if you get going faster than a few mph so you have to flop over and hope you don't break anything. Riding the lift is fun...until you have to get off because not only do you have to try not to veer into the people you're sitting next to (which can be difficult because not everyone knows what they're doing) but you have to make sure you don't hit anyone that has congregated in front of the ski lift.

That said, once you actually wade through all the crap and get to the actually skiing bit, it's really fun. You get to go really fast down a big hill that is covered in snow (so falling down doesn't hurt quite so bad) while trying not to fall over and trying not to hit anyone skiing around you. I still don't think it's worth all the trouble, but my husband seems to think so. It's definitely worth a try.

Also, don't go on anything worse than a green until you can do a hockey stop.

As opposed to never having liberated yourself from a crappy world empire. God save the queen.

You only mentioned a few cities near the U.S. border. You need to learn geography before you say stuff like this.

If you read my comment (paragraph 5, beginning with "And I had nothing to follow that with") as well as my next one referring to my lack of knowledge of the North American continent you would gather that I was admitting to not knowing enough about Canadia.

Despite these obvious geographical shortcomings I managed to nail the top 8 metropolitan areas. To round out the top 10 - London and Hamilton are sandwiched between Detroit and Buffalo.

Also, I discovered where I will be going in Saskatchewan. Saskatoon! What a lovely word.Saskatoon.Saskatoon.Saskatoon. Google maps informs me that Saskatoon (perhaps Saskatchewan in general) is a very orderly place. At least the surrounding roads are laid out in nearly perfect NS/EW grids. And it looks very much like Portland, OR. And the University of Saskatchewan appears to be enormous.

Finally, you take life, the internet, and me in particular, far too seriously.

p.s. Did you know that about 75% of Canadia's population live within 90 miles of the United States border?

God save the Queen of Canada indeed. It's great that the Maple Crown is a separate entity from the British Crown, and that we could have a different monarch at any time.

Google maps informs me that Saskatoon (perhaps Saskatchewan in general) is a very orderly place. At least the surrounding roads are laid out in nearly perfect NS/EW grids.

This is true. I lived in Regina for many years, and it is utterly stunning to find any moderately sized hill and to look out over the quilt patchwork of farmland that stretches until you can see the very curve of the Earth. Saskatoon berries are also really tasty.

I recommend you visit the Canadian Rockies in Alberta, and B.C. British Columbia is one of the most beautiful places on Earth, you can see endless forests, towering mountains, and ocean surrounded by endless forests and towering mountains. A few weeks ago the Northern Lights were in full swing and great curtains of white, red, green and blue fell from the sky in shimmering waves.

Finally, you take life, the internet, and me in particular, far too seriously.

Nah, it just gets frustrating to see people say stuff like "oh hey, you should just become Americans," you can't really understand this concept because you live in the United States. Canada has been invaded by the United States twice (1775, 1812) we've had to put up with "Manifest Destiny," most other countries scoffing at us and saying "you're not a real country, you're the 51st State," Australians call us "Smiling Americans," Americans say "oh, you have a Queen, how quaint! Too bad you're still part of the British Empire!" I guess I could say "why doesn't the United States get annexed by Mexico already?" except that sounds silly, improbable and not based on any sort of reality.

To be honest, I rarely see Manifest Destiny anymore, so what you wrote came as a bit of a shock. Sorry for ranting, I'm glad you have some interest in my country anyway. If you do your research, you could be like the American from Corner Gas (that was a funny episode.)

Did you know that about 75% of Canadia's population live within 90 miles of the United States border?

I'm aware of this, it's the natural consequence of cold weather and a very long border with the United States (if you think about it, people living in the Yukon and B.C. can live within 90 miles of the U.S. border) but many of the places you named (such as Edmonton and PEI) are nowhere near the U.S. border.

From your perspective, how did he feel, as a 21 year-old virgin, finally losing his virginity after all those years? Did he say anything to you before or after that you found very interesting or striking?

He seemed pretty darn pleased with himself! When we were done I just looked at him and went, "hey buddy, you're not a virgin anymore!" and he grinned really big and went "YESSSS!" Quite cute really.

If he was actually bothered by being a 21-year-old virgin, he didn't say anything. He seemed pretty comfortable with his inexperience. Although I'd just as easily guess that he was insecure about it but didn't let me know.

Ah, that's really cool of him then. I'm just about to turn 18 this week and the virginity itself doesn't bother me, but the lack of real relationships sort of does. But I guess I'm young. Thanks for replying!

Yeah I didn't have my first (and current) girlfriend until the tail-end of my senior year of high school. And I met her because we're going to school together, and, until 10 days from now, it's long-distance, so it doesn't reallyyy count as a high-school relationship. I was always worried that if I didn't have a high-school girlfriend, i would be the least experienced at college and I'd be left behind. Turns out that's really not the case.

That's too bad. The best part of losing your virginity isn't necessarily the act itself, it's afterwards knowing that you're not a virgin anymore. It feels good. I hope you at least had some friends who congratulated you?

Yeah, I agree the act itself isn't necessarily that important. Maybe I should have started this talk myself.
I didn't have a close friend at that time to talk about this kind of thing (met my girlfriend after moving to another city, none of my old friends knew much about her). A female friend of mine actually congratulated me much later when I went back to the city I lived before and met her in person, which actually made me a bit more uncomfortable about the whole situation. I guess I am just too introverted and shy to talk about my sex life with my friends.

When we were done I just looked at him and went, "hey buddy, you're not a virgin anymore!"

Awww, that's cute! I wish my first time had been with somebody as caring as you -- she had had a few partners before me, but she still essentially just lay there and let me do my thing. Most memorable moment was when I struggled to get the condom on and she told me to "let her know when I'm done."

So, kudos to you. You did well, he's a very lucky guy and he'll never forget you. Be proud!

Speaking for myself, I never had a problem being a virgin when I was 21. A few years later I was getting a bit insecure (I was something of a late bloomer and didn't have sex until I was 28), but 21 isn't particularly late.

Why is it always a challenge? I have the same deal (love sex, fully enjoy it, has nothing to do with the lover's lack of skills or whatnot, for the record), and I've always hated the guys that try to prove to me that everyone who came before them was just bad at it--because they weren't. And if you're just trying to meet a goal, it's not sexy.

I'm really going to have to blame him. He was not a virgin, but he couldn't keep it up after about 5 minutes. And that was that. He must have been really nervous, so it's possible I did something that made him uncomfortable. Or he was just nervous because it was my first time, and he was a pretty sensitive fella.

No, because I just don't want all this in my regular account's comment history. If he manages to see the request, then goes to check old IAmA posts, then maybe it could be an issue. But considering he has never visited Reddit despite how often I reference it, I think I'll be okay.

You sound exactly like a girl I fooled around with in High School. She was 17 when I was 14, and it seemed like she was 'showing me the ropes', heh. Anyway, do you have feelings for him, or was it just something to do?

No, it can suck. Having been on the receiving, girl end, it can suck. You wonder if you're not attractive, or doing it right, even if you know that's not the case. And even when you do have mind blowing sex, as one hour turns into two or more, it stops being mind blowing, and things start to hurt. Friction happens. And if you don't have a lot of time, you can never indulge in a quickie. My first couple (well the second and third, the first guy I had sex with it was only twice) of sexual boyfriends were like that, one of them not coming at all (did eventually get him over that), and it was annoying as shit. I'd have done anything for a nice twenty minute fuck.

As a tiny girl, I rabidly refute the myth that women want oversized cocks that last forever.

Yeah so he impresses the ladies but think how much it sucks to have to schedule in your fap time because it takes three quarters of an hour. Besides, the woman will only like it if she's getting pleasure the whole time rather than just in-out-in-out.