tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post2149437538016116517..comments2017-11-28T08:04:00.736-05:00Comments on It's All About the Walls: DV RuminationsAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-87535882534651884622013-06-05T21:26:38.278-05:002013-06-05T21:26:38.278-05:00Hey Val, nice to meet you! Yes, the snakes are a ...Hey Val, nice to meet you! Yes, the snakes are a constant source of entertainment :) Okay, so they mostly sit there... but they entertain me by doing that.<br /><br />Maybe I&#39;m easy to please? LOL<br /><br />Nah, I just like having them, caring for them, and serving as a snake treadmill. They&#39;re just awesome.<br /><br />I&#39;m sorry you&#39;ve had a similar experience to mine. Feel free to point your husband to this. I work to be as &quot;over&quot; my past as possible but just last night I had to leave the room because Choreboy was getting stressed over something piddly, so he was sighing and whatnot. Perfectly normal, right?<br /><br />Well, my ex used to <i>start</i> with sighing which would quickl move to hitting the desk, cursing, then the throwing would commence... bleah. So even sighing just raises my hackles a bit. Fortunately Choreboy understands. He knows he didn&#39;t do anything wrong, and he knows <i>I</i> know it. But I can&#39;t be around it.<br /><br />Sucks, but there it is.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-89031882649970015752013-06-05T16:48:50.310-05:002013-06-05T16:48:50.310-05:00Great post! I followed you over from Allan&#39;s ...Great post! I followed you over from Allan&#39;s &amp; I&#39;m tickled to read you have herps (the universe just sent us a half-starved redtail boa)... My teenager named him Pablo Escobar &amp; we&#39;re busily feeding him up. Need to post before &amp; after pix.<br />(Fellow veteran of psychological warfare in 1st marriage so your words truly resonate w/me - I&#39;m tempted to forward to H2 so he might &quot;get&quot; why I&#39;m Not Over It Yet, and likely won&#39;t be until my son reaches adulthood &amp; we don&#39;t have to do that crazy co-parenting dance anymore...)Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-11928427291988785302013-03-09T10:44:26.480-05:002013-03-09T10:44:26.480-05:00PP, it does absolutely. I think we all want to kn...PP, it does absolutely. I think we all want to know that we&#39;re heard, that we&#39;re seen; I think that becomes even more critical when we&#39;ve been deliberately squelched into silence and invisibility by those who should care most.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-85303333870073488552013-03-09T09:20:25.749-05:002013-03-09T09:20:25.749-05:00Words like these need to be written and read. It i...Words like these need to be written and read. It is unfortunate that so many degrees of domestic violence (violence) in general occur on a daily basis. Knowing that you/we&#39;re not alone gives great strength. PlumPetalshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16879841900594034234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-86654398963478751532013-03-09T08:03:54.185-05:002013-03-09T08:03:54.185-05:00You bet, Norma -- I know it was just a bunch of li...You bet, Norma -- I know it was just a bunch of little things like running across an article or blog entry like this that finally led to me leaving/ initiating divorce back in 2007 with my second husband.<br /><br />So I have to speak up, because staying quiet means that someone who might need to see this wouldn&#39;t otherwise. That would be more than a pity.<br /><br />Choreboy&#39;s a fluke. I wasn&#39;t planning to get remarried ever. I hadn&#39;t done a good job of picking the two times before, yanno? But the man is just flat-out awesome. Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-86267764130824125822013-03-09T06:54:13.873-05:002013-03-09T06:54:13.873-05:00Thanks for putting this out there, mon ami. You n...Thanks for putting this out there, mon ami. You never know who is reading, who might stumble upon it, and who might hear their own future self speaking to them in your words.Normahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949876371473945014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-1226685470086925412013-03-08T15:17:04.292-05:002013-03-08T15:17:04.292-05:00Agreed, regarding the lack of gender distinction. ...Agreed, regarding the lack of gender distinction. I usually try to be inclusive. I am a woman and my focus is there for varying reasons, but I&#39;m rather intimately aware that domestic violence doesn&#39;t discriminate on the basis of the presenting gender of either perpetrator or victim.<br /><br />I&#39;d go back and edit it, but I think I&#39;ll leave the post as stands because your point is well taken.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775794907218052899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31322943.post-57133102386366739312013-03-08T15:04:10.540-05:002013-03-08T15:04:10.540-05:00I agree with all you&#39;ve written bar &#39;I&#39...I agree with all you&#39;ve written bar &#39;I&#39;d like fewer women...&#39; though an undoubtedly gendered crime, there are many men who also suffer from DV, especially the type of emotional abuse you&#39;ve mentioned. But you&#39;re completely right, just because there&#39;s no physical abuse, it doesn&#39;t mean that there&#39;s no domestic violence.Riahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766568687129911679noreply@blogger.com