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Does anyone really have an "open" marriage anymore?

They seemed really popular back in the 70's, and then last year there was that great too-short-lived show on CBS called "Swingers" that had open marriages, and I was just wondering if anyone still did that.
I don't think I could do it........
But if more people did, don't you think there would be less "cheating" since it would be an accepted practice of the marriage? I think some people only cheat for the thrill that they could get caught.

I'm in an open marriage but looking at getting a divorce for other reasons. But I'm still going to be in an open relationship.
Some folks need the taboo, want the taboo to break so I really think if open marriages were common place, a lot of folks would be frustrated. There would be less cheating but in some ways a lot less sex too.

I know someone who is married and they are "swingers". I personally don't like to idea of it. I think it's disgusting.

He was married before, got divorced because he was always cheating. Married someone, she didn't like him cheating, so she agreed to be a swinger. They have soooo many kids between the two of them and I don't think it sets a positive example.

furthermore - why get married if you both want to sleep with other people? wouldn't it be easier and less emotionally painful to just stay single and do it? i always thought the point of marrying someone was to love *only* them til death do part.

i dont believe in open marriages - imo they go against the sanctity of marriage and everything you stood there and vowed for. yea, there might be less cheating if it were widely accepted but it still would be violating your vows. jmho

The point of marriage is that you share things that only a married couple share. In my opinion, what hurts when a spouse cheats is not that he slip, fell and accidentally jabbed in dick in another women it that that action is meant for us (the wives) and us alone and he's just now shared a private part of our relationship with someone else so that action is not longer special for us. So to answer your question, open marriages don't work because if you marriage is open, then you don't really have a marriage.