Whatever type of self-sabotaging flavor you choose to engage in, the fact is, it’s destructive to self-esteem, confidence and happiness.

“Rethinking the way we think to overcome this damaging self-chatter in our thoughts is critical to make the most of a happy life,” said life coach Jack Dennis with My Action Potential (MAP) at a recent seminar on happiness and life energy in San Antonio, Texas.

“Negative self-talk is an erosion of who you truly are and with each unsuccessful effort, you prove to yourself that you can’t or should do the things you want,” explained Dennis.

“It doesn’t take long before you start spiraling down into a perpetual whirlpool of frustration, anger and discouragement with yourself,” Dennis added. “Then you are trapped, unless you can break free.”

What’s the solution?

The best results come from changing the way we think about stress, problems and worries, according to Dennis, who adds this advice:

Our beliefs can drastically change how we react to things and what emotions we have. If we actually believe we can’t do something, the odds are we won’t. Changing our beliefs can transform the outcome.

If our belief is that our failures, stresses and worries are something we can use as a tool to learn from and achieve something, we increase the probabilities for success. By turning our thinking around, by “reframing” or using these obstacles and concerns to our advantage, we can fundamentally react and improve toward more positive results.

Live in the moment instead of dwelling on problems are being stuck in the past.

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Raised in San Antonio, Jack Dennis' early experiences were as a newspaper reporter and private investigator. With a Texas State University bachelor's degree, Jack studied journalism and won numerous awards, including Investigative Reporter of 1976 from Rocky Mountain Press Association. Jack has interviewed Elvis Presley, Clint Eastwood, George W. Bush, Bill Clinton, B.B. King and Buzz Aldrin. As Director of Facilities at H.E.B. Foods for 20 years, Jack co-founded Professional Retail Store Maintenance Association (PRSM) and was elected President to establish PRSM magazine. Jack is a writer and life coach based out of the Texas Hill Country near San Antonio.