Today, I’m excited to share the first of our four-part series on the Elements of Desire. This video series is designed to help you have better sex and discover more about your identity as an erotic being. Developed by sex and intimacy coach Finn Deerhart, the elements are love, luxury, license and lust.

Each element presents a different experience of sex. With love, for example, we focus on connection, slow touch and intimacy. As much as sex is about our cock, love encourages us to experience sex through our heart and soul. In today’s video, love is embodied by Ray Dexter and Calvin Banks. With lots of eye contact and soft embraces, the two men set an intention and speak affirmations to each other.

But the Elements of Desire aren’t a judgement. The element of love, for example, doesn’t preclude raw, animalistic or anonymous sex. Instead, these elements encourage us to mindfully step into the experience of sex that we desire – and give us the tools to make it happen. Instead of just using sex as a way to “get off”, the Elements of Desire help us acknowledge and satisfy our underlying motivators.

Every few months, we’ll release a different Element of Desire for you to explore; each video will show sex and fucking through the lens of that element. Still to come are the elements of luxury, license and lust. In the meantime, I’d encourage you to have fun playing and experimenting.

As Finn Deerhart writes:

In the Elements of Desire, each Element emphasizes a specific set of skills that build upon each other and can be experienced in layers. These skills are useful in creating an interpretive framework around what sex means to us, personally. Think of practicing these Elements like playing scales so that you can then play chords, so that you can compose beautiful music that emanates from the core of your being.

Here’s to creating some beautiful music.

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