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March 03, 2009,
W.D.
asks from
Charlotte, NC
on
February 22, 2009

Birth Control Is a HOAX!!!!!!!!

Wow.....I just want to know if anyone out there has ever gotten pregnant on birth control?!?!? My beautiful baby girl was born on October 3, 2008. She was 7lbs 5oz and 21 inches long. She was truly a blessing because my husband and I had a few miscarriages before we got pregnant with her. I nursed her for a while and because I did My doctor prescribed yaz for me becaue it is a low hormone pill. I took a test a few days ago and I am prgnant AGAIN!!!!!Ahhhh!!!We were really trying really hard not to have another baby. I've been on birth control before and I've never had this happen. I am sure I was using it correctly everyday at the same time...I even set a stupid alarm on my cellphone!!!! What is this about?!??!I love my daughter and I love being a mother but one is all I can handle right now!!! I have a good full time job and I'm almost finished with my degree!!!! Furthermore, my husband is actually a little excited...he thinks that "this might be the baby boy we need to complete our family"...GIVE ME A BREAK!!! What is really going on with all of this?!?! Has this happened to other people or am I just that unlucky 0.1 percent?!?!

The only birth control that is absolutely 100% effective is abstinence. Drugs help but they do not always work. I think you need to relax and think about the situation. You have another beautiful baby inside you that you will not regret having. I think you are just freaking out right now due to the hormones. Take it easy. Everything will work out.

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M.J.
answers from
Raleigh
on
February 23, 2009

NO birth control is ever 100%...only if you don't have sex or have your uterus taken out is it 100%. If you think being blessed with another baby is unlucky, then I suggest that you check your heart status...you have some issues. Children are a blessing...when you have sex...you take the risk of making children....period. I have 4 awesome children and not all were planned, but I thank God for them. There is always a way to do what you need to do for your child...whether it was palanned or not. Have you ever given any thought to a new way of thinking?...this child is meant to be! So suck it up mom...and thank God for the gift that so many women want to be blessed with and will never be able to experience!

Girl, I think you are of the 1% & that you are in shock. I too am trying to not have another child just yet. I am stepmom to a 9 yr. old boy. I am in collegeworking toward a Ph.D. My husband & I drive a truck together running all 48 states (continental) for the Dept. of Defense & we have a tree farm. I would ideally like to wait until we retire from driving in 4 yrs. before we have a baby. However, if we are surprised with one & our plans have to change, so be it. There are bad things that can happen to a person/family, a baby is not one of them! Work hard & love harder, your family will make it & will thrive!! God bless you & your strong-willed baby who has already proven to be a fighter just in being conceived! Scream aloud if you have to to let the shock wear off, then adjust your plans/schedules to accomodate a new member of your blessed family. Remember you have support when you need it. As I always tell my hubby & myself, if you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans=)

There may be an answer. If you have been on antibiotics they make the pill nul and void. They cancel out the pill. My nieces sister got pregnant 4 times and it was the 4th time when she found out how it happened. She had been on the pill every time and couldn't figure it out.

Bless this baby and you will fall in love with it as you did the first one. Gos works in mysterious ways! This child may be one of his great works!

Wow, Im glad I read all of your responses. I've always been on the pill- for 13 years and never got pregnant till I went off. I know it is not 100% effective, but to hear so many people getting pregnant while on it is scary!!!
You will be okay, this child was just meant to be!

W.:Ever heard of miracles? you said that you had several miscariages so this is truly a miracle. Enjoy it. Many of us have tried and couldnt get pregnant and when we stopped trying we got pregnant.In 2 or 3 months you will be thinking more clearly and be excited. You bet it will be hard but that's what family and f riends are 4. there are plenty of women who would love to be in your shoes. God bless your family
G.

This will not change your situation but just know you are not alone. My husband and I tried for years to get pregnant. Thankfully God finally blessed us a perfect baby. I had many complications during my pregnancy and almost bleed to death during childbirth so my OBGYN strongly urged me to get a tubal ligation (have my tubes tied) so I did. Even after that I got pregnant! I was frustrated, scared and angry. Even though this certainly was not planned I knew God had a reason so we just excepted it as God's will. Unfortunately I miscarried the baby. It's so strange because I so badly did NOT want another baby but after I lost him it nearly crushed me. I mourn him to this day. I hope you will confide in your Pastor or a counselor. If you decide it is best for your family not to raise another child at this time there are so many good couples praying each day for a baby to adopt. You and your family will be in my prayers.

The only birth control that is absolutely 100% effective is abstinence. Drugs help but they do not always work. I think you need to relax and think about the situation. You have another beautiful baby inside you that you will not regret having. I think you are just freaking out right now due to the hormones. Take it easy. Everything will work out.

My daughter had the very same thing happen to her. Her son was born 12/10/04 and her second son was born in 03/12/06. When she found out she was pregnant again she was very upset. I just told her, it was God's plan and there was nothing to do but accept it and love that little guy like she does the older one.

She is "surviving", although it was quite tough at the start with two in diapers ETC. You too will be O.K.

I did get pregnant on the pill. My two oldest children are 11 months apart. And, believe me, I was trying very hard to prevent another pregnancy. I was upset for a lot of my second pregnancy, the first baby had colic and screamed for hours on end. I figured there was no way we could go through all of that again. Especially so soon. However, in the end, it was one of the best things that ever happened to us. We went on to have two more children after the second was born. Good luck to you, it will work out fine. Be thankful for your supportive husband.

There are a whole lot of factors that can contribute to birth control failure, and the biggest one is YOU! LOL
Low dose hormone pills have to be taken at EXACTLY the same time everyday. Different medications can affect the effectiveness of birth control as well. The pill is never foolproof unfortunately, only sterilization and abstinance are almost 100% effective. Oh yeah- even if you are on the pill, try avoiding sex around the time you should be ovulating- 14 days after the first day of your period.

Thanks for sharing your story W.. I'm so sorry it's stressful for you right now. Just as a little encouragement, my sister and I are 11 months apart, I was the "oops". We had a rough time through the teen years but we always had someone to play with, share clothes and a room with, and now we are the best of friends as adults. So although this is going to be a hard few months, in the end my hope is that your children become best friends as my sister and I are. Take care and God bless. :)

I understand where you're comming from. I've gotten pregnant four times on birth control. I've been told that the first month you take it you're MORE likely to get pregnant than if you weren't taking anything at all, and anytime you take an antibiotic the same is true for an entire 40 days (per several pharmacists).

With my first child, I was on the patch, we used a condom, and spermicide because I didn't want to get pregnant rght after getting married. Yeah didn't matter.

Perhaps you're like me and you're one of those people it just doesn't work for. Like I said - pregnant four times on BC. Stopped taking it completely four months ago and it's the longest I've not been pregnant but sexually active. Try condoms exclusively....it's working for us.

Also, don't feel guilty at any point for hating that ur pregnant again. It's EXTREMELY difficult to share your body with another very DEMANDING individual (even if it your baby) for the duration of the pregnancy and then to breastfeed and then to find out you're pregnant AGAIN and you've got ANOTHER two years of this? (got pregnant 5 mos after second child was born) It's alot to handle. ESPECIALLY the thought of having to tear your heart out every morning as you leave another little one at daycare...that is so incredibly hard.

But, I also agree that there's a reason for the pregnancy. God definitely wants you to have this child if He gave you the baby now even tho you're doing everything short of abstinance to avoid pregnancy. Pray for strength and acceptance and it will come.

And btw, boys are SOOOOOO much easier than girls. and SOOOOOO much fun!!!

Girl, it's the best thing having kids that close in age. Not easy in the begining but later one it will be great.I have never been on BC, but we are using natural methods and it has been working great. Gosh how many times I wished for this oops moment, but hubby says he is not ready:(
Be thankfull , it will work out

First of all....BREATHE!!! Congratulations! I'm sorry to say you are not the only one...myself, I was successful with birth control, however, I knew a soldier's wife who became pregnant three separate times while on birth control. It's all about the hormones and some people's bodies just respond differently. As for the "time period" try not to stress too much. I became pregnant with our third child while going to college full time, working part time, raising a 4yr and 7 yr old girls and my husband transferred to Alaska 2 weeks after we found out...it was a struggle and he was born with a serious heart defect to go along with the strain. Thankfully, he is now a 4yr healthy boy and the light of our lives. Yes those couple of years were tough, but I am stronger and happier for him. Just try to relax and look at the positives. Best of luck and remember we are here if you need us!

Hey W.,
I got pregnant while on birth control as well. We were engaged at the time, and wound up having to move up our wedding so I would still fit into my dress :) I was shocked to say the least, however I was not as vigilant as you at taking them at the same time every day. I just had to concede that it meant that my daughter was destined to be a part of our family.
She is 2 and a half now, and I can't picture my life without her. The funny thing is, that when we started trying for our second, it took us a year WITHOUT birth control to conceive. Irony?
Anyway, I know it's not what you were expecting, and you have one still so young that it can seem overwhelming, but trust me, once this baby is in your arms you would not erase it for anything. Best of luck to you, and congratulations.
-K.

Sounds like you are very fertile, and your birth control pill isn't quite the one for you. Does your husband object to using a condom? If I were you, after you have baby number two, use two forms of birth control. Of course, if your hubby feels like the family is "complete" after your second, maybe he would agree to a vasectomy. That's easier than you having your tubes tied.

My cousin got pregnant while on the mini-pill shortly after her daughter was born, so it does happen. I'm sorry that this second baby is not part of your plan right now, and it is understandably a very stressful situation for you. The only encouragement I can give is that sometimes God's plans for us and our families are different than what we think we want, and all will work out well in the end. And you are going to be very busy in the early months of baby #2's life--having kids close together is really rough at the start, but once they get older, it's great! They become built-in playmates and will keep each other occupied.

Also, it's perfectly okay to be upset and angry right now. You were doing what you thought you needed to do to prevent this situation, so take the time to truly vent your anger and frustration. And next time you can try two forms of birth control just to be on the safe side. Good luck!--I hope that in the end you'll feel that this is a blessing in disguise.

its going to be hard but itll work my 2 are 15 months apart and the reason is because i was switching from one bc to another after i decided to quit breastfeeding my daughter and i wasnt told anything about changing like i had to use another form for x amount of months or anything so i went on from one to the other not missing a dose and then found out about my son but everything will work kout god never gives anyone more than he thinks they can handle

There is only one foolproof birth control - Abstinence! :-) All joking aside, low dose hormones are much more sensitive than regular birth control pills. You have to REALLY make sure you take them as directed, which even includes making sure you take them at the same time every day.

Sounds like you are going to have a busy couple of years, but I know others in your situation and it doesn't seem that bad. One benefit is that you only have to go through the hectic years once.

Oh W., congradulations! I'm sorry that your so stressed by this news. I do completely understand why you would be. I know many women who have gotten pregnant while on birth control. You are not alone! I know many people who have children that are less than 12 months apart. My boys are 21 months apart and it was really great! Your kids will most likely be very close and really enjoy each other. Thank God that you're almost finished with your degree. That's a good thing. It sounds like you guys have a lot going for you, just know that you must be extremely fertile! Keep that in mind after the second baby is born. I wish you lot's of luck, and pray that your second baby will be healthy, happy and a great sleeper! M.

Yup, I got prego on the pill. Never missed one, wasn't taking medicine. I can say that it was a blessing though because i've never gotten pregnant again and she's now 11 years old. Thank god it happened because I might have never been a mommy. I'm sure you're feeling very stressed but you will be so happy once the baby is born. Everything will work out, it always does. Take care.

Welcome to the .1% club. I have 4 boys and the first two were conceived when I was on birth control. The first time I was on a high dose pill and was religious about taking it because I was 22 and had just gotten married. We welcomed our first child 5 days after our first anniversary! I nursed that child and was on Yaz and got pregnant again when he was 5 months old. Yes, we were very careful! My last two boys were actually planned. It is hard having them close together. But honestly later on they will be so close. My oldest two kids are 15 months apart and they even share a lot of the same friends. They are best buds. Hang in there!!! You may have to stop nursing. I ended up having to wean my first child sooner than I wanted to because I was so exhausted from nursing and being pregnant at the same time.

Hi, I have felt your pain. I got pregnant 2 times using birth control giving me a 4 yr, 2yr, 1 yr and new born. It was a busy time but I still enjoyed it. I did use the pill again and it worked and I was able to space my last 2 each 2 years apart. I remeber crying the day I found out I was pregnant with my daughter who was my 4th, 3rd in two years time! I also new I wouldn't do anything to change the fact that I was pregnant and changed my attitude and looked forward to the pregnancy. I wouldn't have changed anything in the world. All 6 of my children have been a wonderful blessing in my life. The worst part about having 3 kids in 2 years is that I have had a senior for the past 3 years and once the graduate they move out. I really worried how it would be with having 4 and 5 teenagers at the same time and I have to say it has been great. They are all awesome kids and enjoy being with my husband and I and each other. We have had many challenges health wise with 2 of our children in particular, one have brain cancer and having 2 brain surgeries. He is now 19 and doing great and clear of cancer for the past 3 years. Our 15 year old has Ulcertive Colitis and we just found out they are going to have to remove his whole colon because none of the medicines are working. It is challenging but I wouldn't trade any of them for anything in the world. They are truely my life and I love being their mother. I know you didn't necessarily plan on another pregnancy so soon but it can be very joyous and they will most likely be very close as they grow up. All of mine are and they love being with each other. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Hon, I feel your pain! I was on some form of birth control with all three of my pregnacies! I was told at a young age that due to some problems, I would never be able to have children. When my hubby & I got married, I was on the pill to help with my menstruals. We had been married for 3 months when we found out I was pregnant. After Wyatt was born, I was on a different form of the pill then and it worked for about a year. There are 22 months between Wyatt & Breanna. Then a little over a year of a different pill plus spermicide, we find out that Kaelyn was on the way. There are 2 years exactly between Breanna and Kaelyn, as Kaelyn was born on Breanna's 2nd birthday! I'm freaking now about what to do, as due to some health complications, I couldn't have my tubes tied this time. While we didn't plan on trying to have kids so soon after we were married, and then we didn't plan on having 3 so close together, our three are all miracles and when people ask me about it, I simply say, well, it wasn't our plans, but apparently it was in God's plans for us.

Oh, all three pregnancies came with PERFECT use of the pills. Same time every day, no interfering medications, etc. And to top it all off, both of my mom's pregnancies (me & then my sis) happened while on the pill as well! So, no, you definitely are not the only one to get pregnant on the pill.

W., I know this is frustrating for you. After my first I had the same feelings. Unfortunately, my issues were related to postpartum depression. Not saying you have it or anything but I do sympathize with your feelings. I really don't think that getting pregnant on BC is all that uncommon. My sister-in-law got pregnant with BOTH of her boys while on BC, talk about crazy. I know other women who have also gotten pregant while on BC. Good luck! I hope that things will go well for you. Katie

When taking low dose hormone pills, your chances of getting pregnant are higher. When beginning/switching BC, you need to use condoms in addition to the pills for the first 2-3 months (3 months to be safe). You also have to take BC at the EXACT same time everyday. It seems like you need to switch from the lower dose of hormones to a higher dose. Hope that helps!

Hi there! Ok, relax, breath, you're going to be ok. Yes having two babies about 15 months apart is not going to be a walk in the park, but it's ok. I had the same thing happen to me, sort of. I was not on birth control, but believe whole heartedly that exclusive breastfeeding would help prevent that from happening. That obviously did not work, but we're ok, and i LOVE them to death, as you will come to find out now.

To help understand or give insight into what happened to you.... Birth control as you know is only 99.9% effective there are those rare cases where you can get pregnant while on the pill, my girlfriend had that happen to her. You still have to take the pill everyday at the same time and not forget a pill. It sounds like you did that.

However, in your situation, since you were breastfeeding (whoo hoo, go you!) you had to be careful what you took into your body, especially hormones as they may affect your milk supply. Yaz...hmmm...I'm not an expert, but I have not heard many good things about that particular birth control, but then again, everyone is different.

If you had stopped breastfeeding and were continuing to take the same birth control, then it was not going to be quite as effective. You would have had to start a new stronger birth control to help prevent pregnancy.

You WILL be able to handle two, promise. It does sound like a lot, but think of it like this. They will grow up to be closer, you will go through similar stages of development closer and you'll know what to do "right" the next time, as you will learn with your first child. (You think you know everything, and then they throw you a curve ball!)

Good luck, this is a blessing, especially if you were unable to conceive right away with your first, then this might be what God has planned for you. That's how I look at it!

On a side note....if you are still breastfeeding then you may experience that your milk supply may start to dry up. Don't worry, it is common, do as much as you can to increase your supply, feed on demand, pump, pump, pump, drinks LOTS of water. But don't be discourage if you are unable to continue to breast feed. I had the same thing happened to me. I got pregnant again when my daughter was 6 months old. I noticed a BIG change happened and it slowly slowed down to nothing. We slowly gave her formula and breastmilk, but breastmilk was used first and was most important to me. In the end, we had to go all formula, but she made it 9 months breastfeeding.

*cracking up* Sorry. Truly not laughing at your situation. Just thinking about one that I know of. My very best friend was a seriously unplanned pregnancy. Her parents were using like around three different birth control methods at the time, one of them being the pill; and she still came about. Definitely a child meant to be here. I myself was a pill-baby. My mother was late one time taking her pill, and only an hour at that. Boom. There I was. Granted back then the advertisement on the box was a baby shooting down a slide with a pill-hat on its head. Excellent advertising for non-effectiveness.

I am part of that .1% club also! I got pregnant on the pill when my other 2 were 11 and 8. I was faithful about taking my pill, but it really is not 100% effective. We tend to forget that.
We were finished as far as we were concerned. God said, "Nope, one more." After the initial shock and tears, I had to laugh. You would not believe the number of women who came to me and told me about their "oops" babies and their menopause babies. You will laugh about it later, I promise.

Hey W., I feel your stress girl. I got prego with #2 when #1 had started weening himself. I was on the mini pill, but when my hormones changed as I wasn't nursing as often, there I was with a 8 month old and one on the way. I'm glad it happend like that. I've two beautiful boys who are constant companions. Canyon never remembers a time when his brother wasn't here and we didn't have any "new baby jealousy" issues. They are seventeen months apart, and I think it was perfect that God gave us Phoenix when he did. I was a basketcase for a while, but I have a loving husband and family close by so I had help.

Now my boys are four and five, they are in preschool, and I'm back in school, finishing my degree. I don't have a full time job, just work a little from home, but I'm able to volunteer at their school and church and stuff. And that gives me enough outside contact for now. I don't know if, financially you would be able to stay at home for a little while, but that really helped me. Everyone is different though.

And remember we are pregnant for nearly 10 months, so you've got time to prepare. Be thankful your husband is excited, because eventually you will be too. And you'll be glad he didn't add more stress to the situation. Start planning, be flexible, pray...

ahh, I have two friends that got prego on birth control pills. Not the yaz though, that is new. There is not much you can do now, just get ready! Be happy that you have kick started your body and God is making up for those miscarriages. :O) The siblings will be at least a year apart or more. At least you will get the baby stage out of the way quick! :o) After the shock you will be happy, try to finish your degree as soon as you can and about the job, I have a friend who had THREE children all under 4 years and each time she takes 12 weeks and goes back to work. If you make enough to pay childcare you go back, if you don't, you stay at home with your little ones! Start saving money now and lining up child care. In your home would be easiest for you so you don't have to get them ready and out the door and they are home when you get home.

I have three children, two are the product of failed birth control - my third, the only girl, i was usuing birth control, and spermicide......oh, and the baby was only 8 months old when i got pregnant again while still nursing
...I was devestated sat in the dr.s office for two hours crying my eyes out in distraught.....but now i wouldn't give anyhting for her , or the two boys now ages 3,5,7

I'm on that boat with you! Both of mine were conceived while on birth control. We joked that we were going to name our first born "Patch" since I was on Ortho-Evra and the second "Yaz." I know of a lot of women that have become pregnant while on Yaz. It seems like I was told there's a 90-day grace period for it to become fully effective with the lower dosed birth control. Just look at it as what blessing to get it all over with at once and how they will be best friends. Mine are inseparable! My youngest really potty-trained herself really early watching big brother and wanting to be just like him! I was really relieved!