Why do feminists think they are doing men a favor by making them pay child support?
The counter argument I often hear when men complain about being discriminated against in the family courts is, “The mother has to deal with a screaming brat. The least you could do is pay her child support.”

Well, I didn’t ask for any favors from you. I want custody of my daughter and unlike you money grubbing gold diggers, I won’t pursue child support. Stealing my child from me is not helpful to me at all.

So, why do you feminists think you’re helping me by taking my child and confiscating my pay check?
@Dark Eyes: The point zoomed right past you.
@Dark Eyes: At what point did it become accepted that taking a child from the father and awarding primary custody to the mother is what is best for the child? You’re implying that if I were made the custodial parent, it would be detrimental to the child. When did this become “common sense.”

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Answer by Chlor FormYeah, no sh!t.

The less time they have with their kids, the more child support they have to pay.

Answer by MADLUVI don’t think fems think they are doing a favor. i think they are trying to get what they want out of life and the world lets them have it!

frankl i think childsupport should be done completely different but it would break a hole lot of laws.

rule 1 if you have a baby it’s both responsiblities.. meaning your stuck together in the same house reguardless if you can or can not get along.
screw marriage the kid is your marriage.

this will aslo keep people from having meaningless sex. oh shoot wait i need to rethink this.

Answer by vintnerI’ve never heard anyone make that argument. My ex husband was the one who initiated his child support payments, because his paycheck varied by a lot each month and he wanted the court to figure out the whole thing for him. So they did. I think he is unusual for that; most men would rather not pay child support.

Answer by PhotonNews Flash: Feminists hate men. ANYTHING they do, their very existance, is something they consider to be a favor to men. In their little minds, men should only exist only if it pleases them.

IMO The stupid ancient laws that are still on the books seriously need to be changed to eliminate gender as a factor.

Answer by dark eyesYou’re one of those that consider child support as a punishment, instead of what is best for your child… Until men’s mentality changes regarding child support, a judge will see that the non-custodial parent’s best interests is not in their child, but only in themselves.

It’s not about a screaming “brat”, it’s about providing shelter, utilities, food, clothing, medical expenses, school tuition/fees, etc… Not even a half a person can live on the amount most custodial parents get in child support…

If you’re complaining about child support, then having custody of the child costs much, much, much, much more than the average child support check…

Answer by Teresa JYour case is somewhat unusual in that you wanted custody of your child. In most cases it’s the woman who’s left to care for “the screaming brat” and she needs the money to feed and clothe the child.

If the couple had stayed together the father would be supporting the child so why should he not help support his own flesh and blood if they break up?

Bitterness aside it is supposed to be about the child having the basics of life. Few women are getting rich off of child support.

Your child needs you in his life and I hope your ex doesn’t make visitation difficult. Good luck.

Answer by CarolineI think your question is somewhat misguided. Feminists in general don’t advocate helping men but women, so I don’t get why you’re saying that feminists think they’re helping you by taking your child and your check. Feminists, the rabid anti-male ones, that is, would prefer to hurt you in this way. But, not all feminists feel this way about men or about child support. I, for example, consider myself a feminist but to me that means equal rights for all, not just supporting women and purely feminist agendas. Moreover, I think that fathers play a crucial role in their child’s development and should be encouraged to participate rather than punished or forced. Also, I think most fathers get a really raw deal in family courts and there are plenty of women out there who take advantage of the court system to screw the fathers but only end up hurting their children. That, to me, is shameful.

Answer by Know It AllThat’s a silly argument, meant to discourage men from talking about such issues AND establish the “fact” that women are the sole owners of this issue. Two birds, one stone.

I’m not surprised though. This is on par with the dialogue which passes off as “intelligent” debate on here [and in other online forums too, where women group together and attack men for wanting to discuss divorce laws].

I don’t understand why ANYTIME a man wants to discuss custody, Feminists and bitter women change it into a “You don’t love your child.” argument. Does lack of something coherent to say warrant using shaming language?

Answer by AnnThis is from your child…please shut up and try and get along. I cannot take the stress it guilt you two bring to my life. You brought me into this world. Why do you want to torture me? Shut up and be nice.

Answer by hvapFeminists are bully’s and they will try to tell men how to think , so although they are kicking men in the face they expect us to be thankful for it. Feminism is a hate movement only concerned with whatever suits women. Part of the reason they want men’s money is just to deliberately spite men and using the money for the children is just an excuse for women to spend it on there greedy selves.
Feminists are sexist hypocrites.