Saturday, May 25, 2013

The time has come for parents to take responsibility and stop pointing
fingers at the smut makers. With the rapid growth of the digital porn
industry, it may be time for that "birds and bees" conversation to be
updated to something a little more hardcore. I think it's time parents
start considering watching porn with their kids.

"IT'S HAPPENED! Andrew Onyango has FINALLY lost his mind for real..."
Not even close. Stay with me on this train of thought. You might learn
something interesting.

When I was a kid we (the young boys in the "hood") used to meet at a
friend’s house to
watch pornographic videos when his parents were at work. Before the age
of fourteen I
already knew that “Juggs” was a very popular porn genre. Back then, porn
came in form of VHS tapes (yes, I am very AGED and unhappy about it).

The Hef hangin at the mansion with his flock. That's

one lucky bastard.

Then came the era of DVDs and internet. It did not take long for Hugh
Hefner and his
friends to pour into cyberspace. A friend of mine tells me that she read
a statistic indicating that the youth (especially males) today between
the ages of 11-21 spend at least two hours interacting with pornography
online every day. That is an unconfirmed number but thinking about it,
it sounds about right. The BRILLIANT effect this has on a child’s psyche
is
that they grow up idolizing bodies and “positions” so much that their
sexual
experiences are scared by the inability to live up to the porn set
expectations.

Hokage Sama!.... Anime is pretty messed up too if you think about it....

In real life, women do not have “Double D’s”
which defy gravity like superman to stay perfectly perky into their
“MILF”
years without the aid of a surgeon. In addition, men are not
anatomically incorrect to be carrying things
which only donkeys should be swinging in between their legs. I have
asked my female friends and relatives about this and they tell me it is
not a concern as much as men think it is. And THERE in lies the
problem...

There is another false fantasy in this picture. If you can see it,

you KNOW there is a problem.

REALITY is not
going to stop your teenage daughter from spending all day daydreaming
about a
boob job. After all, the boys WILL like her better, won't they? That's
what society has taught them is "good". JUGGS! Your son will be the
toast
of the female community for being “hung”. What was that term I heard
used in a TV show once? Oh yeah! "TRIPOD"...

Ever watch a James Bond movie and wonder at which point

HE decided he was going to bed the bond girl? Because we

ALL know it is usually up to HIM!

It is not just porn. Any James Bond fan can tell you that
the sexual standards were being pre-set long before “The Hef” had a
mansion.
Television, movies and music were creating weird sexual illusions long
before
the internet. Way back when MTV meant "Music" Television. But today the
reach of the media is much further than it has ever been. Almost every
middle class to wealthy background child has access to adult material on
their cell phones. Furthermore,
what they can’t see, they make. Sex tapes and nude pictures have found a
new
avenue of transmission here in Kenya. Most of my female friends have
raunchy pictures of themselves on their cell phones. It is mostly for
personal consumption, but like all things digital usually do, they get
out. I only know about it because for some reason my female friends
think I am asexual. Don't ask, I have spent a decade trying to figure
that one out...

Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, your "good" daughter who would

NEVER do such a thing... It's always someone else until it's you,

isn't it?

Your daughters are wearing what can only be described as
“handkerchiefs with sleeves” and “going out”. Where they are going, they
are
secretive about but apparently “nothing is going to happen” and you are
"overreacting". Sound familiar? But it is not your
daughter’s fault she wants to hang her bust out for the world to see and
judge.
To her, THAT IS WHAT IS SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN. If men do not react to you
as a sex object as prescribed by the media then there is something very
wrong with you as a woman, isn't there?

Empress Huddah and Vera Sidika... Yeah.... So.... Yeah....

The end result of letting the media take the wheel like this is that a
lot of parents have great difficulty convincing their children that they
are attractive. It does not matter how many times mom says
things like, “you are beautiful on the inside”, when you want to look
like
Vera Sidika on the outside! Right? See Vera Sidika be "Bogi Benda"
below...

Now, some things need to be said. Pornography is something
that exists in the world and cannot be removed without the aid of some kind of
"Old Testamentish" threat from the sky. Second, the media will
continue to set a sexual standard for both men and women. But the silver lining
is that parents AND individuals are responsible for what the sexual standard is
AT HOME. And it’s not just about understanding the self.

The kids need to be safely exposed to "adult themes" so that they can
start building tolerance and self assertion. Otherwise they jump into
puberty already somewhat confused and the hormone surge just finishes
them off.

This kid was born in an era where he can do this from the privacy of the computer in his bedroom.

So, as radical as it sounds, parents need to
talk to their kids about porn AND expose them to it (or mild forms of it
like any movie by National Lampoon) at some point (13-18 should
do for comfort of BOTH parties). They are GOING TO find it and interact
with it at some point. Especially in this digital age! Trust me, you
will want to explain some things before the confusion sets in.
Food for thought… Vera Sidika, Huddah Monroe, Pendo and all these other
women Ghafla calls "socialites" are
ACTUALLY famous in Kenya for being "sexy" AND have teen admirers. Think
about this. Who is setting the standards of "sexy" in your society?

Clarifications:

The U Guy video is NOT pornography. It is just testing the limits of social acceptance.... And winning.

I have nothing against Vera, Huddah or Pendo, they are women trying to get paid.... RESPECT!

I believe individuals (and parents) are responsible for the way they react to the world around them.