abusive ex defending divorce

Just that really. Emotionally abusive and controlling ex, who was arrested but released without charge, is defending the divorce petition. Says he won't agree to any amendments and that it's all lies made up by me to get legal aid. I have photos of the state of the home, social services were involved, I have letters, a support worker, I'm in therapy, I have an outreach worker from women's aid etc.

He's quoting Owens Vs Owens. To my mind it's not relevant at all but I'm really worried about facing him in court. Any advice? I do have a solicitor but they can't represent me in court under legal aid, I will have my outreach worker.

My solicitor told me that you can't really do contest a divorce. If you have enough reasons for unreasonable behaviour then that is fine. You can't make someone stay married but worse case scenario is you wait 2 years from separation.

Owens vs Owens was a point of law in that the case was not fully proven.If your case that your exH was unreasonable or unfaithful or whatever is strong enough then the divorce will be granted.Prepare your application well.

He has replied to my solicitor saying he intends to defend it. He says he has legal advice but the letter is written by him not a legal representative. Essentially we sent him a draft copy expecting there to be amendments but he's planning on defending.

My solicitor has said just apply for it anyway as it could be just a threat. It appears that he's self representing too. I suspect he's talked to a few of his mates that think they know a lot about the law, and is going ahead with that advice.

It's just so strange. He was awful to live with, I mean... He was OK as long as I did as I was told. When I finally had enough begging him to change and stood up to him he got really nasty. Called me all sorts. He used to throw out my clothes if they were too low cut or tight, and would drop rubbish on the floor for me to pick up. Apparently though, according to him, there's nothing wrong with our marriage. I've got out for my sanity and my kids. I just want to be free.

Yeah it's what I'm planning. Even if he does file an answer I'm still going for it. I don't see how any judge can say we were OK living together. I'm not willing to just take it like he wants me to. It's scary though!