sideline - Musings of Unayok

2004 Jul 22

17:50sideline

Someone was supposed to visit this weekend. At the time, he seemed very much looking forward to coming by. And so was I.

Then silence. (Which is becoming standard behaviour, unfortunately.)

Now I've learned he's not coming up after all. I learned this through an general in-game message. No direct communication as yet.

Well, I'm glad I didn't have to wait around on Friday for him not to show up. It also means I can go off to Grand Bend (near Sarnia) to watch a GT Paintball tourney on Saturday. Maybe I'll take my gear along if they have a pickup field set up.

Even if one loses enthusiasm for something agreed to in advance, it would be adult-like to say so directly to involved persons; there's no good reason to silently stand someone up unless you wanted to disrespect them.

I actually ran across him online last night and we chatted. I did not bring up his intended visit this weekend to see how he would bring up his not visiting.

He didn't. Instead, he mentioned needing to go idle to pack for the event he's really going to this weekend. So it definitely looks like it just fell out of his mind when this other event became a possibility.

I'm still glad I found out ahead of time, and could find something else interesting to do. The repetition of this bothers me some.

I try not to name people in a public forum when it's negative. I would rather discuss the issue, not introduce unnecessary Drama. But yes, you know the person. Perhaps some more specific discussion in private later on.