Love Nuggets Part 2: No One's Perfect

Below is part two in our five-part series of "Love Nuggets" - Curated by Suzzana Mathews, The Date Maven.

2. Know that there is no one perfect partner out there.

Chemistry is exciting but it often blinds us to the faults and flaws of our beloved. Then once the blinders come off, we tend to resent them for not keeping the chemistry going. That less-than-endearing trait is near-universal. In other words, your partner may have the same complaint – about you.

You might do well to remember that perhaps you’re not “the one” they were waiting for, “the one” they wanted – because nobody is.

You become “the one” for someone else just by virtue of the fact that they’re willing to say you are.

People will sometimes query about finding their soul mate, which is lovely and ambitious and I’m not going to rain on any soul mate parade . . . BUT we might be wise to define terms. What do you have in mind when you say soul mate? No two people are perfect for each other, I’ll remind you. No two people are 100% emotionally, financially, mentally, sexually, and spiritually compatible with one another; no 2 people want the same things all the time. And your loved one isn’t always going to make you feel good.

So, when your “soul mate” is not making you feel good and not measuring up to what you deem “compatible,” release them for disappointing you as the one who was supposed to make you happy and whole.

And if you can’t reconcile yourself to that, you probably won’t have relationships that last longer than a season.

About Suzanna Mathews

Suzanna is one of North America's leading trainers in interpersonal communication and social strategy — for cultivating business, friendship, or romance. A published writer and frequent radio, TV, and podcast guest, she is best known for foundingThe Date Maven, LLC, a boutique date coaching and matchmaking consultancy serving professional singles across the country. Businesses also seek out Suzanna to serve as a spokesperson and micro-influencer.