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Topic: How to Respond? (Read 5932 times)

Oh for the vils of Facebook. I recently posted some non-professional pictures of our recent wedding, to share with people who were there and people who couldn't make it (a dear friend of ours live in Hong Kong now). We got a lot of well wishes from people who weren't there, many who weren't invited, polite well wishes which made me smile and then there was this comment:

"Nice picture you look gorgeous, sorry I wasn't there but you know I didn't get an invite lol."

I honestly have no idea how to respond to that. It was made by a girl I grew up (who was one of my best friend's once, but we've long since drifted apart and haven't been more than casual acquaintances in years). What makes me feel awkward is that I think she might think that she should have been invited since we'd known each other so long and that might be her way of letting me know. Is there any polite way to comment or should I just ignore it?

I think OP is asking whether she should ignore it as PA dig or treat it as a compliment with a silly joke tacked on.

OP I hear it as a PA dig and would ignore it. You know your friend though is she type to ramble and have things come out wrong ramble a bit more and make things worse? ........ Oh love the pictures , I would have loved to been there (ohhh wait she might think I expected an invite let me fix that) But I wasn't invited (yeah that's better*send* hmmm maybe that was worse I'm sure she'll figure out what I meant)

There's certainly nothing wrong with ignoring it. I might be tempted to treat it as a sincere compliment & write "Thanks!" as a response. It depends on how you think she'd react, because I wouldn't want to provoke a Facebook fight.

You know your friend though is she type to ramble and have things come out wrong ramble a bit more and make things worse? ........ Oh love the pictures , I would have loved to been there (ohhh wait she might think I expected an invite let me fix that) But I wasn't invited (yeah that's better*send* hmmm maybe that was worse I'm sure she'll figure out what I meant)

Exactly, it could easily be something like that. I'm leaning towards seeing it as a clumsy joke & compliment, but ultimately you know this person best, OP.

Either way, I think the best thing to do is ignore the ambiguous bit and accept the compliment

Is this relationship exactly where you feel it should be? If she pulls back more, would you be hurt or fine with it? The reason I ask is because of the suggestions to respond "thanks". If she is PA, this may say to her 'you really don't love me anymore' and may lead to more antics.

Is this rel@tionship exactly where you feel it should be? If she pulls back more, would you be hurt or fine with it? The reason I ask is because of the suggestions to respond "thanks". If she is PA, this may say to her 'you really don't love me anymore' and may lead to more antics.

Personally, I would go with ignore.

I'm perfectly fine with the relationship as it is. We were best friends in grade school, drifted apart in high school, occasionally partied together in our early 20s and lost touch almost completely when I moved away from home five years ago, though we reconnected on Facebook. She's not really a part of my life at all anymore and I'm ok with that.