If you're here because you or someone you care about is struggling with BPD, or wondering about it, it might be helpful to know I've been there.

Although no longer the case, for many years I lived within the confines of borderline personality disorder. I know in the same way that you do the excruciating and often debilitating pain that comes with it. I know the frustrations and shame, and remember the hopelessness. I was lucky to eventually find the support I needed, but it wasn't always easy to get help. I continue to hear from clients how difficult the stigma still makes things.

Fortunately for me, the journey to being a therapist, along with a LOT of therapy and self-study of BPD and DBT (Thank you Marsha Linehan!) helped me come out the other side of being a slave to the relentless and intense emotions. I now use a combination of what I learned: through my own lived experience, through nearly 13 years of being a trauma therapist, and DBT informed practices to help BPDers tap in to their own intuition and empathy.

I will help you understand your emotions in the context of your experiences, and work with you on developing skills to manage them in more effective ways.

There's no magic solution, and there is a lot of work involved! But healing can happen when you have help understanding your own experiences and how they make sense in the context of your life up to now. Understanding helps with the shame, and as the shame lessens, your ability to recognize and regulate your emotions can increase -- with lots of homework of course!

The more you practice, the easier it gets. And with someone in your corner who understand the level of pain you're in, well, sometimes that can make it just a little bit easier.