This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault. Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this relationship purgatory: where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

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Listener Opinions

Chris | 2/14/2014

" This was recommended by a friend, and I'm very glad to have looked into it. A quick read, Deal Breakers highlights important strategies for determining whether or not you can work through problems in a relationship. Unlike many self-help books which tend to project or look for an external villain, this book encourages you to take responsibility for bettering both yourself and your relationship. "

Laura Bailey | 2/12/2014

" Very insightful book. I found that my last 2 boyfriends fell into a few of the different categories that the author writes about. It was crazy that I found that they fell into 2 totally different categories, 2 different extremes. I learned alot from teh this about the warning signs of deal breaker personalities, and how to avoid them. I also learned which personalities im more tolerant of, and which personalities I quickly but heads with. "

Sonia | 2/11/2014

" Eh.This author seems to know what is right for everyone. Everyone's "deal breaker" is different. "

Alice | 2/6/2014

" This book really helped me to clarify some issues present in my current relationship. It gave me a lot to think about by clearly defining issues many couple have and offering clear solutions to follow. "

Nje | 1/12/2014

" systematic examples of why relationships get in a rut and how women can identify why. A lot of examples were about men but this book also helps women identify how they could also be the problem rather than their spouses. I agree with Dr. Marshall,before anything in a relationship becomes a deal breaker, you have to have a deal. lack of deals is why many women are disrespected in relationships. We need to change this! "

Leslie | 1/11/2014

" Helpful relationship book for women. "

Val | 1/5/2014

" Didn't finish it completely. It didn't keep my attention. And the type of men they described were not the type of men I've dated. So it didn't provide me w/ any advice. "

Nicole Gibson | 12/31/2013

" a good reminder to listen to my gut first, head second. "

Melissa | 12/11/2013

" Interesting. Only a few points related to my relationship, so a little hard for me to rate this book... I did learn some things. A quick and interesting read. "

Nakeita | 12/10/2013

" I was particularly interested in this book because I figured that I could read up about the types of guys out there. Not a bad read. I learned some things about myself as well. "

Heather | 10/31/2013

" Some interesting points, and some psychotherapy nonsense that I ignored. Dr. Marshall grouped together different types of emotional disorders, and listed examples for each one. Also, when to work on a relationship and when things are not going to change. "

Gaurav | 4/29/2013

" The cover says it all. A book by a woman from that woman's point of view. One dimensional. Only about deal breaking. Not much about deal making. "

Kellee | 4/28/2013

" Didnt finish it. Nothin special. You should be smart enough to know when to leave a relationship. You don't have to put the men in a category before you do it. "

Brandy | 4/19/2013

" Pretty interesting; I am sure we have all dated one in each category! "

Ursula | 11/30/2012

" Meh. Not quite what I was hoping for. Ms Marshall neatly boxes men into 5 different categories & overall her approach is pretty black & white, though does not lack common sense. "

Jen Berger | 8/26/2012

" This book was amazing, really quick read. I would encourage anyone to read this book who is having relationship isseus, or has recently gotten out of a relationship. This book was informative, funny and thought provoking. "

Gwen | 6/12/2012

" Read this book with a highlighter in hand. :) "

Nicole | 1/1/2012

" This book had some interesting ideas, and I could definitely relate to some of the deal breaker types. "

Debie Orrell | 9/18/2011

" Insights into the items that would be considered deal breakers. If I had read this earlier, I would have ended my desire to get back together much sooner and would have moved on with my life much earlier. But it's never too late. "

Mmcveety | 3/24/2011

" Very enjoyable read. Describes the different personality dating types if men. Women, you need to read this! "

Karen | 3/22/2011

" Read this before you're in a commited relationship, not after. "

Kim | 3/19/2011

" Another one for you single girls. I'm reading this one and it's great! Really highlights things to look for in men...especially red flags to RUN from! Lots of deal breakers we all know but reading about them again is always helpful :o) "

Nicole | 12/4/2010

" This book had some interesting ideas, and I could definitely relate to some of the deal breaker types.
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Karen | 1/6/2010

" Read this before you're in a commited relationship, not after.
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Nicole | 10/15/2009

" a good reminder to listen to my gut first, head second.
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Jen | 7/1/2009

" This book was amazing, really quick read. I would encourage anyone to read this book who is having relationship isseus, or has recently gotten out of a relationship. This book was informative, funny and thought provoking.
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Melissa | 4/11/2009

" Interesting. Only a few points related to my relationship, so a little hard for me to rate this book... I did learn some things. A quick and interesting read.
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Brandy | 4/6/2009

" Pretty interesting; I am sure we have all dated one in each category!
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Kellee | 10/1/2008

" Didnt finish it. Nothin special. You should be smart enough to know when to leave a relationship. You don't have to put the men in a category before you do it.
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Kim | 6/28/2008

" Another one for you single girls. I'm reading this one and it's great! Really highlights things to look for in men...especially red flags to RUN from! Lots of deal breakers we all know but reading about them again is always helpful :o)
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Debie | 9/1/2007

" Insights into the items that would be considered deal breakers. If I had read this earlier, I would have ended my desire to get back together much sooner and would have moved on with my life much earlier. But it's never too late.
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