No sleep training?

Hi, I'm from the march 2012 board and was wondering anyone not sleep train your babies and they developed their own healthy sleep habit? I chose to post here because you mummies now have 1 year olds....

Hi, I'm from the march 2012 board and was wondering anyone not sleep train your babies and they developed their own healthy sleep habit? I chose to post here because you mummies now have 1 year olds....

Im interpreting "healthy sleep habit" as babies who sleep through the night, say from 7-7 and dont require any help to get to sleep. I went through this with my son and I can tell you what happened with my other friends who have kids here. We are a group of 13 Moms. 11 ended up sleep training at various points, some as early as 1 month and some as late as 13 months. The one who started at one month has a baby that feeds every 4 hours and sleeps through from 7-3 am then from 3-7. He is only 2 months old now. The ones who did it earlier had the easiest time. Some waited until later. I waited until my baby was 4 months old. I wasnt getting any sleep and was exhausted and desperate for something to change as he was co-sleeping with me and waking every 2-3 hours to feed. I dont have any family here and my husband travels alot so I am mostly on my own. We worked for a month to get him on track and now he sleeps great. I felt like a human again and was able to do more and think better, it was such a relief! 11 of the 13 Moms I know sleep trained. 2 didnt. Those two still have to spend over an hour getting their kids to sleep. One is almost two and still not sleeping through the night, still making my friend stay with her to go to sleep. She sleeps in a bed right next to my friend and wakes her a few times a night. Each time requiring alot to get back to sleep. My friend has not slept properly in almost 2 years. The other one is a Mom to a 7 month old. They are co-sleeping and her baby is waking up 4 times a night to feed. My friend works full time, but luckily lives in Kenya and has two nannies so she can get some sleep during the day. I suspect if she didnt have that help she would have been desperate enough to make a change. But for now she is sticking to no sleep training as this is what she feels is best for her and her baby. So thats all I can tell you. It didnt take very long to change things once I made a decision to get serious about changing things. But it would be good if others would give their opinions too so you can hear other experiences.If you go that path, I would try the Baby Whisperer method as it is a gentler method and easier for Moms who feel stressed when baby gets upset. But you must follow the directions exactly (meaning dont comfort for too long) or you will end up creating other bad habits (I did this at first). Good luck!!!

Im interpreting "healthy sleep habit" as babies who sleep through the night, say from 7-7 and dont require any help to get to sleep. I went through this with my son and I can tell you what happened with my other friends who have kids here. We are a group of 13 Moms. 11 ended up sleep training at various points, some as early as 1 month and some as late as 13 months. The one who started at one month has a baby that feeds every 4 hours and sleeps through from 7-3 am then from 3-7. He is only 2 months old now. The ones who did it earlier had the easiest time. Some waited until later. I waited until my baby was 4 months old. I wasnt getting any sleep and was exhausted and desperate for something to change as he was co-sleeping with me and waking every 2-3 hours to feed. I dont have any family here and my husband travels alot so I am mostly on my own. We worked for a month to get him on track and now he sleeps great. I felt like a human again and was able to do more and think better, it was such a relief! 11 of the 13 Moms I know sleep trained. 2 didnt. Those two still have to spend over an hour getting their kids to sleep. One is almost two and still not sleeping through the night, still making my friend stay with her to go to sleep. She sleeps in a bed right next to my friend and wakes her a few times a night. Each time requiring alot to get back to sleep. My friend has not slept properly in almost 2 years. The other one is a Mom to a 7 month old. They are co-sleeping and her baby is waking up 4 times a night to feed. My friend works full time, but luckily lives in Kenya and has two nannies so she can get some sleep during the day. I suspect if she didnt have that help she would have been desperate enough to make a change. But for now she is sticking to no sleep training as this is what she feels is best for her and her baby. So thats all I can tell you. It didnt take very long to change things once I made a decision to get serious about changing things. But it would be good if others would give their opinions too so you can hear other experiences.If you go that path, I would try the Baby Whisperer method as it is a gentler method and easier for Moms who feel stressed when baby gets upset. But you must follow the directions exactly (meaning dont comfort for too long) or you will end up creating other bad habits (I did this at first). Good luck!!!

I never sleep trained. I just put my daughter down a little bit before I knew she would get tired and she would fall asleep on her own. She fell into the 2-3-4 nap schedule too. She still woke once a night until about 8 months when she stopped wanting to be nursed and switched to the bottle. As soon as we went to the bottle though she slept from 6-6. :)

I never sleep trained. I just put my daughter down a little bit before I knew she would get tired and she would fall asleep on her own. She fell into the 2-3-4 nap schedule too. She still woke once a night until about 8 months when she stopped wanting to be nursed and switched to the bottle. As soon as we went to the bottle though she slept from 6-6. :)

My son has been sleeping 6-6 since 7months. He was just ready one day and we put him in a nighttime diaper and left him alone. I tried cry it out as well, but really once you stop the nighttime bottle or nursing it is easier to have them sleep. Just remember, you don't wakeup to eat during the night, why should your child. That is how you develop healthy sleep habits.

My son has been sleeping 6-6 since 7months. He was just ready one day and we put him in a nighttime diaper and left him alone. I tried cry it out as well, but really once you stop the nighttime bottle or nursing it is easier to have them sleep. Just remember, you don't wakeup to eat during the night, why should your child. That is how you develop healthy sleep habits.

I never had to sleep train. I think what helped us is that we started a bedtime routine the first week she was home from the hospital though. When she was a nb we would sponge bathe, feed her,swaddle her, and lay her in her bassinet with her paci around 9:30 or so, as that was the time I felt she was getting tired. I would go in.and check on her about every 5 min. and at first shed stare, then slowly her eyes would get heavy and by 10 min shed be asleep. I never wanted feeding to be associated with sleeping, nor did I want to rock or hold her to fall sleep at night. As I've had several friends do that and it resulted in issues as their kids got older cause they didn't stop it at a certain point. As she got older and even now the bedtime routine is still pretty much the same although things have been added in like brushing teeth and books but overall its the same bath,books,bed. I hand her a blanket give her a kiss, say its night night time, and put her in her crib,shut the lights and walk out.... she rolls around a bit,talks to herself and goes to bed. she's 13 months old and I have to say she's rarely ever cried at bedtime.

I never had to sleep train. I think what helped us is that we started a bedtime routine the first week she was home from the hospital though. When she was a nb we would sponge bathe, feed her,swaddle her, and lay her in her bassinet with her paci around 9:30 or so, as that was the time I felt she was getting tired. I would go in.and check on her about every 5 min. and at first shed stare, then slowly her eyes would get heavy and by 10 min shed be asleep. I never wanted feeding to be associated with sleeping, nor did I want to rock or hold her to fall sleep at night. As I've had several friends do that and it resulted in issues as their kids got older cause they didn't stop it at a certain point. As she got older and even now the bedtime routine is still pretty much the same although things have been added in like brushing teeth and books but overall its the same bath,books,bed. I hand her a blanket give her a kiss, say its night night time, and put her in her crib,shut the lights and walk out.... she rolls around a bit,talks to herself and goes to bed. she's 13 months old and I have to say she's rarely ever cried at bedtime.

We always followed our LO's lead and never sleep trained or worried about schedules (still had loose routines, though). I always nurse LO to sleep and then put her in her crib, which is right next to our bed. At some point during the night she will wake up for a feeding, and then I just bring her into our bed and we are all back to sleep in less than 30 seconds. We cosleep until morning. LO sleeps about 11 hours total, usually 9-8.

We always followed our LO's lead and never sleep trained or worried about schedules (still had loose routines, though). I always nurse LO to sleep and then put her in her crib, which is right next to our bed. At some point during the night she will wake up for a feeding, and then I just bring her into our bed and we are all back to sleep in less than 30 seconds. We cosleep until morning. LO sleeps about 11 hours total, usually 9-8.

Even if you do not plan to do CIO, I suggest reading a few books; like the Sleep Lady. I feel that it was the setting of a set routine that was the biggest help. We follow the same routine each night, right down to the same bedtime story. My little guy even claps at the end before we close the book. I feel that these procedures and routines are just as much of sleep training as CIO. The routine let's my LO know what is expected and that now is the time to sleep. We did end up doing the sleep Lady Shuffle which in all fairness is a modified CIO, but my LO is a good sleeper- except right now when he is teething. Even with that he goes to sleep great, but is night waking in pain and holding his poor mouth. (I think we are getting our first molar.). Best of luck, but I think my main advice is to read and do some research!

Even if you do not plan to do CIO, I suggest reading a few books; like the Sleep Lady. I feel that it was the setting of a set routine that was the biggest help. We follow the same routine each night, right down to the same bedtime story. My little guy even claps at the end before we close the book. I feel that these procedures and routines are just as much of sleep training as CIO. The routine let's my LO know what is expected and that now is the time to sleep. We did end up doing the sleep Lady Shuffle which in all fairness is a modified CIO, but my LO is a good sleeper- except right now when he is teething. Even with that he goes to sleep great, but is night waking in pain and holding his poor mouth. (I think we are getting our first molar.). Best of luck, but I think my main advice is to read and do some research!

U ladies are lucky that ur baby sleeps through the night my DD wakes up every hour and I nurse when I try to put her in bed she won't let me go. She is attach to my boob till morning:( she used to be good now all the sudden she wants me 24/7 uugghhh hope she gets better b4 I go crazy lol

U ladies are lucky that ur baby sleeps through the night my DD wakes up every hour and I nurse when I try to put her in bed she won't let me go. She is attach to my boob till morning:( she used to be good now all the sudden she wants me 24/7 uugghhh hope she gets better b4 I go crazy lol

One thing my pedi told me is if I feed my guy too often it makes their tummy upset. So maybe she has refux or her tummy is getting upset from being fed so much. It stays in their stomach for four hours so if you are putting fresh milk on old milk they say it can make them upset. Is she also spitting up alot? I went through this about the same age and what we did was stretch out the feeding times slowly and he was much better once we got him to feed once every four hours. Might want to check with your pedi about that one. I agree with the others that Sleep Lady is good too. The earlier you try to get a schedule the easier it is I think. Either way, good luck!!! Hope it all works out for you soon.

One thing my pedi told me is if I feed my guy too often it makes their tummy upset. So maybe she has refux or her tummy is getting upset from being fed so much. It stays in their stomach for four hours so if you are putting fresh milk on old milk they say it can make them upset. Is she also spitting up alot? I went through this about the same age and what we did was stretch out the feeding times slowly and he was much better once we got him to feed once every four hours. Might want to check with your pedi about that one. I agree with the others that Sleep Lady is good too. The earlier you try to get a schedule the easier it is I think. Either way, good luck!!! Hope it all works out for you soon.

Oh my goodness to hear people say "don't comfort too much"...just makes me sad. Of course it's your choice to do what you want and what you feel is best, but I know for me personally that's not something I would be OK with. I didn't sleep train one bit, I fed him every 2-3 hours as needed until he got older. No, he didn't sleep through the night right off but now (and for the last couple of months) he's slept through the night. I responded when he cried, cuddled when he couldn't get back to sleep, nursed him when he was having a really hard time and now I have a great sleeper who very rarely wakes up. When he does, I just have to rub his back for a few mins and he's right back asleep. I feel like since I responded to his cries early on that he learned he was in a safe, secure place and that helped him with his sleeping :)

Oh my goodness to hear people say "don't comfort too much"...just makes me sad. Of course it's your choice to do what you want and what you feel is best, but I know for me personally that's not something I would be OK with. I didn't sleep train one bit, I fed him every 2-3 hours as needed until he got older. No, he didn't sleep through the night right off but now (and for the last couple of months) he's slept through the night. I responded when he cried, cuddled when he couldn't get back to sleep, nursed him when he was having a really hard time and now I have a great sleeper who very rarely wakes up. When he does, I just have to rub his back for a few mins and he's right back asleep. I feel like since I responded to his cries early on that he learned he was in a safe, secure place and that helped him with his sleeping :)

Thank you all for your replies! It helps knowing that there actually are moms that didn't sleep train at all. There's so many theories and strategies out there that I am really confused. I feel like I should carry on the way I always have so far with my 19 week old and hope that when he's a bit older he will sleep through the night when he is ready. I just don't know if I'm letting my fear of sleep training and hearing him cry misguide my decision making.

Thank you all for your replies! It helps knowing that there actually are moms that didn't sleep train at all. There's so many theories and strategies out there that I am really confused. I feel like I should carry on the way I always have so far with my 19 week old and hope that when he's a bit older he will sleep through the night when he is ready. I just don't know if I'm letting my fear of sleep training and hearing him cry misguide my decision making.

To be quite honest, I'm not exactly sure what 'sleep training' is! We put our daughter in her own bed in her own room on night two. I agree that The Baby Whisperer is a great resource, and that routine is key! We did the same thing every night, and at 6.5 weeks, she slept through the night and has ever since!

To be quite honest, I'm not exactly sure what 'sleep training' is! We put our daughter in her own bed in her own room on night two. I agree that The Baby Whisperer is a great resource, and that routine is key! We did the same thing every night, and at 6.5 weeks, she slept through the night and has ever since!

Following your instincts is a great way to go. It has worked really well for us. There was also a very interesting article published in Psychology Today a few months back. The title is The Dangers of Crying It Out. Unfortunately I can't link to it from this app, but you can google the title and it'll be the first link that pops up.

Following your instincts is a great way to go. It has worked really well for us. There was also a very interesting article published in Psychology Today a few months back. The title is The Dangers of Crying It Out. Unfortunately I can't link to it from this app, but you can google the title and it'll be the first link that pops up.

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