If a committed exclusive relationship hasn't been established by now, then you're a jump off. don't fall into that trap. have fun]]>
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Author: HowardAlumAKASubject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 4:52pm

Idk. In this day and age I feel like they don't last....you soon realize you moved waaaay too fast]]>
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Author: Cream1970Subject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 3:55pm

Every fast relationship I have ever experienced has failed ... terribly.

I always take my time .. avoids dissapointment. Honestly, I don't go for this kind of TVland stuff - it's not realistic and things can go south real fast so I don't blame your parents from worrying. However.. telling someone your age something like this will just make you want it more - right?

Geesh ... when was I that young? (My poor mother)

So have your fun, but ... (use protection so you don't get knocked up or pick up an STDs ... and don't rush to get married anytime soon.) In other words .. have your fun but don't do anything that you can't UNDO in a heartbeat. Give it timmmme.

I just don't believe in this kind of thing so I kind of cring when I hear these stories.

I know people who have done this...it works for some and for others not so much. ]]>
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Author: ScorpioLuvSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:57am

Omg I'm in one I feel! It hasn't even been a year and like we are obsessed with each other and he has already stated that he wants things to move along in the future He is older though (less than 30) so it makes sense for him but I'm only 23!! Can't be getting all sprung before I have my own career ya know??]]>
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Author: ThatGurlDSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:35am

Hubby and I went way too fast. He said I love you after 3 weeks, asked me to marry him at 2 months. Got a place together at 7 months. Married at 17 months. Ten years later here we are. Tons of pros and cons like anything else but I'm happy. Like someone said different strokes for different folks.]]>
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Author: BunnyahhSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 10:25am

HowardAlumAKA wrote:

One of my LS is meeting a guy in person TONIGHT she met online last night....they've been talking on the phone and texting since last night and she said the connection is there

Am I the only one who is scared? How long should someone wait when online dating before meeting that person? days? Weeks? Months?

Catfish has opened my eyes

HowardAlumAKA wrote:

She met him and said everything panned out fine!!! He was exactly what she thought he would be and they are going out on another date tomorrow.

Every fast relationship I have ever experienced has failed ... terribly.

I always take my time .. avoids dissapointment. Honestly, I don't go for this kind of TVland stuff - it's not realistic and things can go south real fast so I don't blame your parents from worrying. However.. telling someone your age something like this will just make you want it more - right?

Geesh ... when was I that young? (My poor mother)

So have your fun, but ... (use protection so you don't get knocked up or pick up an STDs ... and don't rush to get married anytime soon.) In other words .. have your fun but don't do anything that you can't UNDO in a heartbeat. Give it timmmme.

I just don't believe in this kind of thing so I kind of cring when I hear these stories.

All of my relationships are like this. I stay bringin all the feelins to the yard.]]>
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Author: rickysroseSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 31 2012 at 12:47am

time will prove ... don't worry

before it happened to me, I wouldn't warned anyone to keep their side eyed peeled

I wouldn't call what you two have going on a "whirlwind" relationship because with the distance you guys have the chance to really talk and strengthen that mental connection. It is good you go to visit him on the holidays and weekends, but you should allow him to make the same effort...let him come to visit you as well. Other than that..sounds like you are off to a great start. Good luck! ]]>
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Author: used2braidSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:56pm

sexyandfamous wrote:

Flowing-Ice wrote:

why not build something where you are now?

why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home?

like... i don't get it.

I do agree with her (him?!). Long distance relationships just takes too much time and you have to really trust the person. You'll miss a lot of Sunday's dinner at his folk's house.....

Here's the real situation:

Me: Permanent full-time gov work in O-town.

Him: Permanent Full-time gov in O-town

I got transferred for 1 year (with possible extension) to another gov department in TO.

He and I met the night before I moved. It was just a simple date, I thought he was trying to hit it and quit it.

But no, he and I kept in touch while I'm Toronto. He's been asking me about my new job /helping me out with the new info and since we work for the same department, we talk all the time on our company chat. When I had an interview for a higher position back in my hometown in Otown, we went on a second date.

From then on, I've been coming back home back and forth for the holidays/long weekends and we've just been seeing/talking to each the whole time.

He's been now asking me what my intentions are in order to see what I want to do when my 1 year position is over to see where we'd be at then...

@used to braid that's good that ur getting customers. Let me go back to the op though, never really had a whirlwind relationship before, but just be cautious and update us..plz]]>
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Author: sexyandfamousSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:48pm

Flowing-Ice wrote:

why not build something where you are now?

why are you continually going 4 hrs from your home?

like... i don't get it.

I do agree with her (him?!). Long distance relationships just takes too much time and you have to really trust the person. You'll miss a lot of Sunday's dinner at his folk's house.....]]>
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Author: used2braidSubject: 352760Posted: Dec 30 2012 at 11:46pm

f8dagrate wrote:

used2braid wrote:

BBpants wrote:

You do sound a little crazy.....

Sound crazy...?

You don't know me. Get over yourself.

this cracked me up................... and hey used to braid how is work?

Work is really good. Thanks for asking! My job is basically to harass people on employment insurance to ask them if they've been looking for work so..very interesting. But I'm meeting alot of people...though its mostly because they want me to braid their hair. Life is good

it happened to me. ended up getting married. i'm happy, but I was young when we first got together (19) and in college. I wish I had met him later in life, so I could date more. also being in a LDR in college can sometimes be draining.

To each their own. I wanted my ex so bad when I first met him. I wanted to get married right away, I dreamed of our life, I picked the names, etc. He wanted me too but he was more like a step-by-step person: first get a good paying job, than buy things, then several years later get married, etc.We broke up after a couple years due to fights (not related to our future together) but I was thankful that we did not get married because now that I see him from far (aka: facebook and instagram) , I realize that he isn't nor does he has anything that I want.

I might meet a new guy a few months from now and we might get married. I don't know what will happen, love happens and changes everything but I have goals that don't involve a man and I need to achieve them with or without a man.

Make sure to use a condom to avoid unwanted pregnancy while you guys are in love. It could end tomorrow or you guys could marry soon.