Your Strength Is Acting Like a Weakness :: This Volume Dial Will Tell You Why

I held my breath as we started out on our night-time road trip. The kids were in their pajamas, and they were ready to crash. I knew David and I would have hours to fill.

And those hours are what I was both looking forward to and dreading.

It is rare that we set aside hours just to talk. He especially needs it {as a Relator #1, he shrivels without it}, and I do too in the end. But every time we had even minutes to look at each other in the eyes and connect, he was talking about our unknown future.

Every. Single. Time.

Every time, there was a different scenario playing out in his head that he’d want to run by me or try out on me.

Because of his Futuristic Strength, I have learned that this dreaming fuels him and inspires him. This time, it was wearing me out.

As we drove out onto the freeway during the road trip, and our kids settled in the back seats, it all began. He threw as many futures up on the wall as there are possible color swatches of paint for a new house. I let him talk, but inside I was fading.

His dreaming was so all over the place that it was lost on me.

His Strength was acting like a weakness.

When Your Strength Acts Like a Weakness

Gallup uses a definition of weakness that I love.

A weakness is a shortage or misapplication of a talent, skill, or knowledge that causes problems for you and others.

A weakness is a talent in the way.

Sometimes it is getting in the way because you do not actually have much of that talent. And other times {which is more often the case} it is because you have a talent that is being misapplied.

You are using too much of it, or you are using too little of it.

Volume Control Can Mitigate the Weakness

The number one most helpful word picture that helps put your Strengths into action and make a significant impact on your work or in your marriage is this idea of Volume Control.

Today, volume control can help you mitigate the things that are showing up in your life as a weakness.

This is especially true if you see your Top 5 Strengths and have a visceral reaction to one or more of them. If you have said, “Yeah that’s true about me…but…it is not a strength,” then this Volume Dial word picture and exercise is for you.

Volume Dial Word Picture

Imagine that you are at dinner with a dear friend. You have been looking forward to catching up together and you chose a restaurant where you knew you could choose a corner table and chat the night away.

When you get there, it is all going well. You grab your table and wait for your friend to arrive. You notice the vintage decor and the folksy jazz playing in the background. The evening is off to a great start.

Just as your friend arrives, however, the volume of the background music suddenly elevates. You stand to hug your friend and have to lean in closely just to say hello.

As you sit down, you almost laugh at how outrageous the music is. You try to chat with your friend, but you may as well be trying to have a conversation at a U2 concert. Even leaning way across the table toward each other, you would have to read lips in order to truly understand each other.

What was once a key element in setting the perfect ambiance, is now the one thing that is keeping you from your only desire for the evening—to talk and catch up.

The Volume Dial that Turns Weakness to Strength

Your Strengths act just like that folksy jazz. When they are dialed in the appropriate level, they add so much depth and richness to your circles of influence. They help you achieve at work. They help you connect in your marriage. They help you parent your kids.

But when they are not fine-tuned, when they are too loud or too soft, the same Strength can cause aggravation and be a stumbling block to achieving your goals or building relationships.

The best part about understanding this is that you can truly do something about it. You are the fingers that control the Volume Dials of your Strengths, that turn those Talents from weakness—something that gets in the way—to Strength, a talent productively applied.

The free Volume Control guide we created walks you through the thought process it takes to begin to be the master dialer of the volume of your Strengths.

To David’s self-reflective credit, not long into the road trip, he stopped himself. He looked over at me and said, “you know, I think I’m using my Futuristic strength like an unrestrained fire hose. I think I need to reign it in.”

That minor revelation created a major adjustment in the Volume of his strength. And huge bit of fresh air for me!

As he took control of the Volume Dial, he turned an aggravating weakness into a value-adding, enriching Strength. So, as the kids snored away, we connected in a fulfilling and meaningful way, all because he was willing to hear the volume of his Strength, and do something about it.