Does He Have Soulmate Potential?

Does he have soulmate potential?

There are some very important and surprising questions to ask yourself to find out, does he have soulmate potential?

As I covered in our last blog, the first question to ask yourself is: Is he crazy about me? (Go here to read the blog and take the quiz to find out.)

The second key question you must ask yourself is:

Is he willing to grow?

Why does this matter so much? Well, there are no perfect guys! You want to make sure you’re with someone who is open to self-improvement and working on himself as a person. If he is crazy about you and if he respects you and your own growth process, he will want to evolve along a similar path as yours.

I’ve designed this particular quiz to help you assess the very important question: Is he willing to grow? Give your partner 1 point for each of these eleven characteristics.

Takes suggestions/advice.

Is self-reflective.

Can tell you what he (not his partner) did wrong in his last relationship.

Is willing to go to therapy or life coaching.

Has a mentor at work.

Takes growth courses.

Meditates/prays.

Was or is in a 12-step program or men’s group.

Has made positive changes in his behavior or his ability to speak his truth.

Is growing in self-esteem and self-confidence.

Has grown or reinvented himself in his career.

So… Does he have soulmate potential? Is he willing to grow?

A score of 6 or more indicates that your guy is an open and evolving person. He has the potential to become a wonderful life partner who continuously reinvents himself. A man who reinvents himself is a guy who understands that new vistas in work, career, or helping others will also fill your lives with passion.

On a personal note, this growth quality in my husband, Sam, is what keeps me crazy about him after decades of marriage! He has reinvented himself several times over, and I never know quite what to expect. He has worked as a clinical psychologist, run a postgraduate training institute for marriage and family therapists, served as a management consultant to large family-owned businesses, co-authored books for therapists and investors, and in his spare time acted as my business manager. Actually I feel like I am having an affair with an old and new lover a lot of the time!

Bottom line: There are no perfect princes. But a frog-prince who is evolving could make a great and wonderful partner.

Tell me below, how does your partner fair? Does he have soulmate potential?

About Dr. Diana Kirschner

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed relationship advice book, "Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love", and of the best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter.“Diana Kirschner’s work is life-changing, love-affirming and wonderfully effective.”
~Dr. Christiane Northrup, Internationally bestselling author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.