Women who insist on controlling people exist pretty much everywhere. Even if you are lucky enough not to be one and not to be married to one, chances are that you know at least one controlling woman. These are the people that no one enjoys being around. They are overbearing, domineering, and difficult to get along with most of the time. If you aren’t quite sure if you are one of these fearful women who live to grasp the gold ring and spend your days controlling the lives of others, read on.

Do you have to be in charge? Do you get out of sorts if you cannot have things your way? Are you one of those women who need to orchestrate everything? Do you feel angry when your significant other does not do as you ask or dare I say tell him? Do you begin to explode into invectives and long tirades when the people around you simply do not behave in line with your plans?

Does any of this sound familiar? Well, if it does and if you have answered yes to most of these questions, then you are a woman who obviously likes to have control. Exactly how controlling are you? Are you happy with the results of your need to control and dictate over every person and every tiny detail? Do you like the woman you have become and what people think of you and your controlling ways?

How did you get that way in the first place? Will you ever change? How did you become a woman who has an incessant need to be controlling day in and day out? Can you even understand your obsessive nature? What are you afraid of and why can’t you relax?

What would you find if you were to look into the mind of a controlling woman or into your own mind for that matter? Do you think that all you would see is the thought that she has to be in charge and call all the shots? Or would you see anger, bitterness, or despair? Maybe you would see extreme disappointment and the fear that intense hurt and pain are around the corner if she lets go of her hold even temporarily.

How do you deal with a controlling woman? What attracted you to her in the first place or is it by default? Do you simply learn how to manipulate her into the direction that you want her to go? Do you forgive and forget? Is there ever such a think as forgive and forget?

Just because some women are controlling does not mean that they do not love their men. However, what do men put up with when they marry controlling women? Do they see women as dictators or jailors who want them all to themselves and who do not want to share them with anyone, even for a little while? Perhaps, there is some small part of each of the men that feels safe and comfortable knowing that the women are there to guide them each day. Perhaps they never realized just how difficult it would become to have these women control their every move.

Men might actually love the women who are controlling them but they might also worry throughout their day. They might worry over whether they have done everything they are supposed to do. Women who are excessively controlling always want to know what the men did so they have that knowledge and the power of knowing. The men often do things because they know it is expected. Behaving according to the women’s plan, avoids arguments.

In fact, everything will go smoothly in relationships where woman are controlling the men as long as the men allow the women to control their every move. If the man even voices the possibility that he might not be in agreement with his mate, it’s a problem. If he suggests that he might actually step out of the parameters that she has so carefully imposed for him, the entire balance of the relationship is off and the level of tension between the two accelerates to a pitching crescendo that eventually erupts into a tumultuous fiasco. Does this sound familiar? Is this the relationship you have?

How can any relationship that is so unequal be healthy or satisfying for both parties? Are women controlling their men so much so that they have no possibility to pursue their own interests unless it is the woman’s idea? Quite often support and encouragement are missing as well because no recognition of the needs of the man comes into play. No need exists to bolster his self-esteem because that would put her domination of him at risk. Perhaps, none of this comes into play simply because controlling women are interested in results rather than feelings and emotions.

If you are the woman who lives her life controlling everyone around her, you might not see it as controlling. In fact, you know who you are and you have no reason to change because you are getting what you need. Unfortunately, other people might not be so content with who you are. Indeed, they might be tired of your controlling and domineering ways and regard you only as one of those women that should be avoided at all cost.

It follows that controlling women might become unpleasant and difficult to talk with so that they can get their way. After all, it is easier to give in to an overbearing person than not. However, controlling women actually deprive men and others of their freedom to choose. They might see it as their duty or responsibility to guide their men along the right path. They might not realize that they are, in fact, controlling every move their men take. Controlling women are strong women who honestly believe that they know what is best. The men might see it as their duty or responsibility to stay with their women.

Women often manipulate their men seductively. They control their men where they live, so to speak. They might not have the need to offer affection or even to receive it as long as they get compliance with their wishes. However, the men involved in a relationship with women who are controlling in every sense of the word and in every aspect of their lives, might feel emasculated. The authoritative manner of the women overrides every other aspect of the relationship including the manhood of the men.

Controlling mothers and mothers-in-laws limit the ability of their children to grow and discover the world on their own. In fact, they might be teaching their children to grow up to become controlling men and women in their own right.

Change is difficult for many of us, but change imposed on us from external sources is almost certainly distressing to deal with on a minor level and terribly difficult to deal with in the grand scheme of things. With controlling women, very little leeway exists as far as change until they have determined that it is time to change the way they live their lives. However, if you are one of these controlling women and you want to save your relationship from falling apart, learn to compromise and share. Change for the better together.

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