I ignored him out of hand because he was way too short for my liking and made it very clear on his profile that he wanted kids—I don’t mess around with people who have diametrically opposed life goals than mine, and kids are at the top of that list. I got drawn in by his charismatic message...and then got raging mad when he gave me a proverbially pat on the head.

I mean, why don’t any of these conversations surrounding kids and not wanting them ever go the other way—”oh, you want kids, but you haven’t met me, so you might change your mind.” No, it’s always expected that the person NOT wanting kids will change their mind for the person who DOES want them. I’ve gotten this bullshit from too many people.