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Learn How to Avoid Common Adoption Pitfalls

In the state of Montana, most couples should able to complete an adoption in under two years, however many fall prey to the common pitfalls that slow the adoption process or even put their adoption in legal jeopardy. Just as with any new endeavor, it is vital that you learn the basics before you spend valuable time and hard-earned money toward your adoption.

Many families have found themselves led down a road of dreams, only to be abandoned, without the resources to take another try at adoption, and heartbroken over the realization that parenthood may never happen. Tom and Nancy were one of these families…

Tom and Nancy were a couple in their early forties, who had been trying to conceive for four years. Due to their age and unexplained infertility, their specialist finally encouraged them to pursue adoption.

They went home, opened their yellow pages, and called the first adoption referral listed. This agency was very helpful with the home study, something required in Montana and all other states, and answered all the questions the couple had. In fact, they were so kind and professional, Tom and Nancy never thought to consider that they should ask for references or research other professionals.

As the waiting process began, Tom and Nancy were patient, knowing their baby would come. But when four years had passed with little activity, they knew they had made a mistake, costing them money, and precious, precious time.

Face it, most of us don’t begin the adoption process because we want to — it is a miraculous blessing born out of desperate need. It is this desperate need that unscrupulous people will take advantage of.

Many families find themselves learning about adoption after they have already wasted valuable time and money on bad adoption plans, scams, and frauds. Armed with some very basic knowledge, you will have a huge advantage over other adoptive families and you will complete your adoption far sooner.

1. If it sounds too good to be true, it is!

The reality is, you have to trust someone when it comes to your adoption. How do you determine if someone is worthy of your trust? Beware of anyone who promises something that simply sounds too perfect. This may mean an extremely low cost, very short wait time, or especially a multiple birth. This is your adoption. You are putting your family into a position of trusting another individual and you need to know that you’ve done all you can to protect your investment of time, money, and emotion.

2. Don’t give money to anyone without verifying their legitimacy.

Never give anyone money without knowing more about who you are dealing with. Not only can you end up losing the money, you may be putting yourself at legal risk. Consult with your attorney or adoption professional before paying any pregnancy or living expenses.

3. Research all adoption professionals you choose to work with.

Some adoption professionals may make promises that seem way out of line with others you’ve spoken with. Research any adoption professional before signing any agreement. Ask for references, contact the local Better Business Bureau, and read any contracts thoroughly. Don’t be shy about asking to speak with past clients.

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The Key to
Adoption Success:Education

There is nothing more vital to your adoption than taking the opportunity to learn all you can about the process, the personnel, and the pitfalls in adoption. With knowledge, you will be able to complete your family safely and successfully, while saving time and money. We recommend that all Montana families begin their adoption journey by learning all they can. Here are the top three ways that you can learn more about adoption:

1. Talk to People.

Many times, once you have found someone who has adopted or is an adoption professional, you learn more about the reality of adoption. If you are interested in speaking with a professional, such as Lifetime Adoption or African American Adoptions Online, pick up the phone and give them a call. Ask them your questions and see what they may recommend for your situation.

2. Attend a Meeting, either via teleconference or in your area.

This is another way to learn about adoption and ways in which professionals or support groups can help you through the process. Many times you will meet other potential adoptive families and realize that you are definitely not alone! To learn more about free adoption informational meetings that are available in your area, visit this page.

3. A great way to begin is by reading.

There is a wonderful book that covers adoption start to finish and answers most any questions prospective adoptive families may have. It is written by, Mardie Caldwell, an adoption professional with 20 years of experience and host of a radio program called Let’s Talk Adoption. The book is called AdoptingOnline.com and is available online via the website, as well as in local bookstores. It covers different types of adoption available in Montana, as well as over 1,200 resources to help you get started.