scared to death

This is my first post. My wife and I were expecting a child almost exactly one year ago. Unfortunately at 9 weeks she began what we thought was spotting. The doctor brout her in for the audio heartbeat check... thing. There was nothing. An ultrasound later determined the baby had stopped growing at week 6. Now it is one year later and we are expecting again. I want to jump up and down in happiness. This would be our first. But the frightening possibility of repeating another miscarriage is overpowering. Like a huge dark cloud surrounding my head. I cant enjoy the pregnancy as i should, or want to. I leave it in the hands of God as always but im 28 now and we've earned the privilege of being parents. Has anybody shared this concern?

This is my first post. My wife and I were expecting a child almost exactly one year ago. Unfortunately at 9 weeks she began what we thought was spotting. The doctor brout her in for the audio heartbeat check... thing. There was nothing. An ultrasound later determined the baby had stopped growing at week 6. Now it is one year later and we are expecting again. I want to jump up and down in happiness. This would be our first. But the frightening possibility of repeating another miscarriage is overpowering. Like a huge dark cloud surrounding my head. I cant enjoy the pregnancy as i should, or want to. I leave it in the hands of God as always but im 28 now and we've earned the privilege of being parents. Has anybody shared this concern?

We had that. First was like what you had (but know spotting). One week she was growing fine. Next week slow growth. Week after, no heartbeat. Second pregnancy was having bleeding. Turned out to be an ectopic the doctor missed. It ruptured and nearly killed her. Third time some early spotting, but everything worked out. It is hard, but you can still enjoy it and our total time from first trying to birth was 9.5 years and I was 42 when it finally happened.

We had that. First was like what you had (but know spotting). One week she was growing fine. Next week slow growth. Week after, no heartbeat. Second pregnancy was having bleeding. Turned out to be an ectopic the doctor missed. It ruptured and nearly killed her. Third time some early spotting, but everything worked out. It is hard, but you can still enjoy it and our total time from first trying to birth was 9.5 years and I was 42 when it finally happened.

We went through this too. Went on to have a second completely normal pregnancy. It's probably just a random, one off occurrence. Remember that if it's going to happen, no amount of worrying and shielding yourself will stop it from happening, so you might as well relax and enjoy it. Breathe :). Sorry for your loss, I know it can be devastating.

We went through this too. Went on to have a second completely normal pregnancy. It's probably just a random, one off occurrence. Remember that if it's going to happen, no amount of worrying and shielding yourself will stop it from happening, so you might as well relax and enjoy it. Breathe :). Sorry for your loss, I know it can be devastating.

Ditto here on our first try. Almost the exact same spot to.. stopped growing at 6 weeks. If your wife was on BC before then from what I seen MC's are fairly common. That stuff stays in your system forever.

On the bright side very few people have back to back MC's. We were hesitant on our second try too and didn't announce it to anyone until we were safely out of the 1st trimester. Now we're at 38 weeks and everything looks great.

Try not to stress too much on it. MC's in the first few months are way more common then people realize. Don't get too excited until your at 13.33 weeks then you can go nuts :)

Ditto here on our first try. Almost the exact same spot to.. stopped growing at 6 weeks. If your wife was on BC before then from what I seen MC's are fairly common. That stuff stays in your system forever.

On the bright side very few people have back to back MC's. We were hesitant on our second try too and didn't announce it to anyone until we were safely out of the 1st trimester. Now we're at 38 weeks and everything looks great.

Try not to stress too much on it. MC's in the first few months are way more common then people realize. Don't get too excited until your at 13.33 weeks then you can go nuts :)

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