6-8 weeks with weak heartbeat - doc says to end it

i didn't know where to turn ...maybe some of you have had similar experience and can share yours or give me ANY advice.. (hope you never experience this)

I have been going to have u/s done every week for the past 3 weeks. Doc says technically I should be at 8 weeks at this point.

First ultra sound - which i thought should be 6 weeks they measured at 5w4d and said there was only gestational sacSecond u./s - which should have been 6w4d measured at 6 weeks and they saw a yolk sac, fetal pole, and 90bmp heartbeat. this worried them so they ordered me to come againThird u/s (today) - they measured at 6w2d (so barely any progress at all) and did not have any easy time finding anything but eventually found a fetal pole and measured a heartbeat of 82bpm.Doc talked to me after and said that basically this is not a good pregnancy - it will either end naturally or I should have D&C.

I am so sorry for your loss-Â When I had my first mc the doctor told me the heart beat was measuring at 7w and i was at 9. She told me that my body was in the process of a mc. I was given 3 options, naturally, a vaginal pill, or a d&c. I opted to let my body make that decision for me as like you, I could not picture myself making an appointment for a d&c when there was still a heart beat. My body passed the pregnancy 4 days later. I hope this helps. No one can make this decision for you, it is yours to make. I hope you find the strength to make it Â through this hard time.

I had the same thing with my first pregnancy. They gave me the option to end it although my baby still had a heart beat. THe nurse in me said that it was over and I should end it. The mom in me said no way and I should give the baby a chance. I waited. At 10w5d the baby no longer had a heartbeat and never grew past 6w6d. I then thought I m/c naturally as did my doctor. The bleeding stopped and I felt I could move on. THen a month later she sent me for a follow up u/s where they found the baby had not passed. I had to have a D&C then although so much time had passed I had a massive infection from it. It took a year to get pregnant again and was able to have my beautiful DD. If I had to do it again I know I would end it rather than waiting although at the time I really felt I was doing what was right. I am not writing this to scare you but to let you know what happens. It also shows that you have to make the decision yourself and everyone will be here for you. So sorry this is happening to you :(Paige

i agree with one of the other posters to have ur HCGs checked. I went for 3 u/s's and they couldnt find heartbeats in any of them (through Emergancy Room), I was told to schedule my D&C, they refered me to an office where I scheduled the D&C. Iwent for my appointment snd the Doctor thst was suppose to do the D&C refused to do it that day b/c she couldnt understand why i was still closed up, she send me for daily rounds b/t 2 different offices for 5 days and my levels were rising still so they done an ultrasound and found a strong heartbeat, according to my LMP i was due Dec. 27th of 2007 according to ultrasound I was due January 13th od 2008, I delivered a beautiful Emalie Faith on January 12th 2008 8lbs 12 ozs. Then Delivered a handsome little boy on Dec. 12th of 2009 at 7 lbs 10 ozs and 4 weeks early.

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