I think the question touches on a very interesting topic. Personally, we are in the fantasy stage and trying to get our fantasy to become a reality (see my topic about that), I have no inclination at all to have a friend involved and neither does my wife. Friends are at an established level of social interaction and that level is, one might even say actively, a-sexual. Otherwise it would already have evolved to some kind of sexual level. Which is interesting because my wife is bisexuel and she has had sexual experiences with female friends, but those friends were also looking for a bisexual experience with her and only her, hence, I have never been involved (sadly )
We are at the moment trying very hard to get a steady housefriend so to speak, and the difficulties involved are already big enough, having young children that need lots of attention and still have the habit of waking up at all times, living in a small village in a remote area (neareast Highway is 1 hour drive). On the one hand I can imagine the big pay off of, in our Situation, having a friend as a housefriend (all neat and tidy), but also the downside (trash talk of someone who's ego has been bruised etc.) if for some reason the click isn't there or worse.
Which brings me to my point, why contact a "best friend" as the first option in the first place? Or is there bi (homo) sexual attraction involved that has not been outet yet?

A hopefull development, the man I mentioned in the above post, send a picture and my wife wasn't displeased at all! She could totally agree with him having her. I also send him a picture of us and he also wasn't turned of by us, which is also quite important.
Interestingly enough however, my wife still seems to interpret the whole adventure as a fantasy. As if I just took a picture from someone on the internet and proposed a fantasy. When I noticed this I told her I really contacted the guy and as far as I can tell, he is real. My wife reacted only with: "you really want this don't you?" And I said "Yes!, don't you?" She admitted she also finds it very hot if the fantasy becomes reality. At the same time, I sensed some kind of inhibition, or irritation from her, and she said "but now I just want you to want me". I feel we reached a tipping point here. She wants it, but is also afraid I'm not attracted to her somehow, only to the fantasy. Which is partly true. The fantasy is so strong, it has a high attraction rate. But it's not as if I find my wife less attractive, to the contrary.
Any tips, or help are of course welcome!
Hopefully we will be able to have our real first date next week or the week after that, assuming my wife still wants to continue, despite said doubts, and the guy is indeed real and not just a picture.
I will update when things develop

Sometimes you lose momentum. Luckily a good fantasy doesn't just die off but just keeps coming back
Although it didn't come to a date yet, my wife and I have been talking more and more about it and she is really getting more into the fantasie as well! Foremost being that she would really like to be used as a sex object by some man. Her ultimate fantasie being blindfolded and having her hands tied behind her back and me letting an (to her) unknown number of men into the room. Hinting at a maximum of about 5 men. First she has to give them all a blowjob and have them cum in her mouth and then the rules are off, just letting them use her anyway they like, without her ever knowing who they are. At some time her hands are untied so she can satisfy more men at the same time but she'd like the blindfold to stay on. Also I'm not allowed to join in, just watch. Then, when all the men are all spend, all the men leave, I take off her blindfold and I finally get the chance to reclaim her.
We're pretty far from that ultimate fantasy to happen haha! But it is a hot fantasy I'd really like to see happen some day!
Another interesting shift in fantasies is that I would really like to suck a cock until it comes in my mouth, and to be honest, to my surprise, my wife admitted she would really like to see that. So I asked her what she would like more, see me suck a cock untill I get a mouthfull or lick her clean after another man fucked her. I was a bit shocked that she would much prefer the latter. Which is really surprising to me because she doesn't like to have her pussy licked (not just by me, also her ex's), she says it's just to sensitive for her. On the one hand I was really happy because I would really like to really lick her pussy (which I haven't been able to because of said sensitivity), on the other hand, the thought of licking another man's cum from her pussy does somehow not really appeal to me at the moment. Which also confuses me a little because I do like the fantasy of a man cumming in my mouth. Mixed feelings there that I do not really understand.
Meanwhile I have found another man living nearby who would really like to use my wife, let me suck him dry AND have me clean them both up after they have fucked... I'm hoping to set up a date next week so that my wife gets to know him, if she's game, it's on! So hopefully it really is a man living nearby, because thusfar we only had contact online. Keeping my fingers crossed.
Just trying to get the fantasy into a reality

great read and very nice foto's! I would really suggest finding a friend nearby. Who can also promptly call you guys that he needs to fuck her, either coming for dinner (unexpectedly or not) or asking (demanding) her to stop by his place asap.

That's exactly what I'm looking for, a guy I can suck on a regular basis, or who calls me when he needs to be sucked, but who also on occasion fucks my wife while I watch and then get to have sloppy seconds.

Hi, a bit of bad luck, my wife developped sinusitus (forehead inflamation?) so we cancelled the date. Hopefully it is now on, next wednesday, the 6th of December! I will write about it when now it does happen.

To the first, I will!, To the second, I sure hope we will enjoy it too, but even if things turn out to be disappointing, I will report on it. Like I wrote, maybe somebody can learn from how we find our way to our fantasy. Or not, and learn from that. But I expect very exciting evenings!

Hi,
An interest for a virile, hung stud, especially if you can visit us regularly, is certainly there. We however have no impregnation fantasies. Getting pregnant has proven to be problematic, and especially the pregnancies. That's why we've had long hospital stays. That takes a lot of the fun and desire away. Our lusts in this regard are purely sexual and psychological, not at are regarding actual procreation. We have of course spoken about potential pregnancies. If it would happen, we would raise the child as our own. We wouldn't do a DNA test, just accept that my wife is pregnant. To be clear, although I, as you say, naturally and even happily step aside for other men, and really enjoy seeing my wife have sex with other men, I do also have sex with her myself. It wouldn't be unlikely that I would actually be the father anyway.

I see no reason why not, although for physical contact you'd need to live more or less in the area for it to be able to develop into regular contact. And as I said, due to health issues, for now my wife is not interested in one night stands or such.

Thank you Alex, posing for sexy pictures might help a lot. Maybe not a topic that is discusses much, but what a couple of pregnancies does to a woman's body does leave a mark, regarding self-worth and self-confidence. Which are both, I think, strongly linked to her feeling of (still) being sexy. That has in fact been a strong motive for me, help her regain her sexual self-confidence. I didn't think of posing for pictures since she might be averse to them. But to help things along, once the contact goes well and our date on wednesday is indeed interested in her (and she in him), that might speed things along.
As to the cock sucking, I would really love to try it again, but I also realize the chances are slim, at first. My wife probably wants his cock and his cum. Maybe later if he is indeed house-friend material, is in need of an orgasm but my wife is busy/away etc. Then I can help her boyfriend (lover?) by sucking his cock. But who knows, maybe my wife will expect it from me once the relationship between her and our date solidifies.