Archive for April 2009

Emotions are often referred to as action feelings. They are how we react when something happens to disrupt our lives, either in a good way or a bad way. In some cases, people feel emotions even if not in a conflict with another person. Sometimes, just thinking about a conflict is enough to bring on a rush of emotions. Emotions are not always happy. They can run the full gamut from devastated to gleeful. It is important to realize that not everyone reacts in the same way to conflict. While one person may cry when presented with a conflict, another may remain silent. Another may shout. Everyone has a different way of dealing with their emotions. Some will keep everything hidden and
others will, as they say, let it all hang out.

Conflict is all around us all of the time. It is conflict that usually forces us to make decisions that we use in our everyday lives. When we think about conflict, we often imagine it to be bad conflict. Bad conflict it that which stresses us out and makes us either angry or scared.
Good conflict is all around us. It usually involves us making some sort of choice. When we go out to eat, for example, we cannot possibly order all of the food on the menu, no matter how good it looks. This is an example of a good conflict. For most people, the choice on a menu will
not deter them from eating out. They will welcome this conflict as it gives them an opportunity to make a decision. In this case, the decision will be what they should eat for dinner.

Most of us do not welcome bad conflict into our lives, yet yet it comes in anyway. Bad conflict is that which causes us some sort of stress. The reason that bad conflict causes us stress is because we do not know how to handle it. The more we can learn how to resolve conflict through conflict coaching, the more we can allow bad conflict turn into good conflict and the less stressed we will be.