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He doesn't know you and he is already falling? If so, what he is falling for is not you, because he doesn't know you. He is simply falling for the idea of being in love, desperate to have a relationship so he can think of himself as normal. Whatever he is calling "love," it is not what happens in mature relationships. I think this guy will be very needy, very clingy, and push you to commit to an instant relationship.

OMG SAME.. WHILE YOU STILL CAN! HE IS DESPERATE (: I've had a similar experience where we just talked for a week and he wanted me to be his girlfriend and tried to kiss me and hold hands and looked like a horny little bitch... TOTALLY UNATTRACTIVE😂 RUUUUUUUUN GIIIIIRL

I think this is pretty assumptive bs as I've been gut punched by love before on a first date. Age plays a huge factor too. Anything under 18 Id veto.Maybe take things for face value instead of what the masses cheer. That obviously independence is good and anything else is desperate.Dont assume. Be cautious. Dont run like a little girl. Grow balls and give a real chance.We dont say the l word lightly. (Unless theyre a sociopath)

Love on the first date when you're much older is rare as hell if at all. But when you're young and its fresh and new... who are you to dictate that what the young guy says isn't genuine. It happened to me once and I wouldve done anything to have kept that alive... so it sure as hell isn't make believe.

Too bad it's just an opinion lol... There's enough pros and cons on the comment section for her to decide what she is gonna do.. I was just sayin an experience of mine besides Neither you or I know his intentions so we BOTH might be wrong ✌️

@thenoahdude2 No opinion, given from a distance, on the basis of limited information, has any guarantee of 100% accuracy and we all know that. Experience has taught many of us that people who "fall in love" before they even know someone are simply desperate to fall in love and whoever their partner is at that time is merely a matter of happenstance. If you want to call that love, you can, just as I can call myself Paul McCartney; that is not what most of us call "love." Love at first sight happens in fairy tales, it happens with children who are desperate to have an adult experience, and it happens with adults who have not developed a mature appreciation for all of the wonderful things that combine to create love.

You may persist in your beliefs but the number of votes for my opinion (25-3 at present) says that a very large majority of users agree with my assessment.

The things that he has said to me made me stick with him (I do like him besides what he has told me) we went through a situation and I told him I think we were going a little fast and he agreed. So he suggested to stay good friends and see where it goes.. It's kind of a long story and I don't know if I want to broadcast what happened to everyone.

Sometimes people feed parts of us we starve for a reason, I don't know about you guys but I've felt empty and missing for as long as I remember and I've met people online or otherwise that made me whole even for a second.

What Guys Said 92

I hate this kind of stuff. Love isn't a state of being, its a verb. Love isn't all flowery and emotional, its cold and committed and strong. It is iron, but its portrayed as silver in media.

You don't "fall in love at first sight" because those commitments take time and that trust takes time to build.

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I completely agree with you, I do believe though you can strongly like someone\feel a connection with someone when you first meet them. It has happened to me. Love & trust takes time. I was skeptical when he said that and later on he agreed we were going too fast.

I mean, maybe he's rushing it but if you think about those married couples who have that great chemistry, often they tell you they knew pretty soon. Its definetely possible, just know that a lot of it is emotion and you still need to see how you are with each other

I would say the clingy weirdo is probably what happens about 90% of the time when someone falls in "love" on the first date. But, me personally, believe in love at first sight. It's awesome and rare. Though we eventually broke up, I knew the first second I saw her. It was like getting the wind knocked out of me, skydiving, and punched in the face by Mike Tyson in one instant. I found out later in our relationship she felt the same way. My point is if this "love" on the first date is one-sided, it's probably an emotional maniac who can't control themselves. Any normal person who actually felt what I felt wouldn't just blurt something personal like that out and risk the chance of ruining everything.

You're basically falling in love with the person you see currently - yes that's possible...and it's also possible it's real true love as long as the dynamic and personalities stay consistent and keeping growing

but most often, the excitement tapers down and sometimes skeletons start emerging - basically meaning at first you haven't really experienced the negatives yet... that's why you're so in love...

I think you're only meeting the best of the person on a first date because everyone wants to make a great first impression. For that reason alone, I've never fallen for someone on a first date. Everyone has both pros and cons and we can't only notice the pros to make a good decision.

Falling in love starts much earlier for men than for girls. We fall in love most first 3 seconds, where girls usually fall in love over more time... Falling love over a date is mostly an illusion for both men and women. I'd say it's very very rare falling in love happens on a specific encounter. More likely, would say what does it means to really fall in love? and what level of love?

I only went on a actual date and that was when I was 11 years old which didn't go well. So my answer is no I've never fell in love on a first date. However I've fell in love at first sight. And for those that say that's not possible, those loves of my life were as far back as when I was like first second grade, well actually even before school and I still remember them all.

I have heard of people who claimed it happened to them but I think it is looking back with rosy coloured glasses and reinterpreting history. Who knows you may fall in love eventually but I think it is unlikely at first meeting.

Y not if has a great character, attitude, personality, that cute little face with a smile, make me happy with jokes, make me laugh or laughing upon my dumbest joke etc etc!. Atlast i have add one more thing and it is that i have to know her at least on a friends level to go upon with her on a date!

Dont listen to older guys. Theyre jaded about the past. Clingy and desperation is what you'll hear. That may be true but isn't as likely if you two are quite young. Things are new and feeling often innocent and genuine. Loving the first time is amazing because of how raw and real and fast it can be. Nothing ever matches it later. It still happens... its slower... it won't be like the first though.

My first date turned from lunch into an 8 hour trip around the city... How TF can you not fall in love with someone that you can talk to naturally for 10 consecutive hours? Bad thing is that I set the bar too high for myself lmao.

What Girls Said 53

You cannot fall in love on one date. That would mean you base "love" off superficial attributes such as looks which isn't love. You cannot truly love someone or fall in love till you know the person and you do not know someone after a week or a date. Of course it is possible to feel lust and excitement over someone you find attractive but that is not love or even close to love. It is lust which feels like love but is more superficial.

The problem is you do not know the entire person. Most people will put up a front on the first date or honeymoon phase. Everyone has bad habits and traits. You do not see them on date number 1. You see the charming happy caring person but you haven't seen them on their bad days. It is just lust that you are feeling.

No, and honestly, I don't think it's possible to fall in love on the first date, at least not actual love. If that happens, I would imagine the person is really only in love with the "idea" of you because you can't really know someone on a deep level after only one date. It doesn't make sense to say you're in love with someone when you haven't seen who they REALLY are yet, flaws and all.

I think we shouldn't abuse the word "love" but it is true that you can tell if you like someone or not on the first date and you know if you can develop feelings for them. There is some kind of chemistry. People often confuse love with infatuation. I think we should be more cautious at the beginning of any relationship/friendship when you don't know someone really well. But I have experienced something you could call "love at first sight" and it lasted for many years...

My current boyfriend fell in love with me on our first date, which was a week after "talking". However, we were friends for years before dating and he had the biggest crush on me, so it's not like it was love at first sight

It’s virtually impossible. If anything, he’s falling for the idea of you. His mind is filling in all the blanks with what it wants prior to getting the chance to actually know you and fill in those blanks naturally.

he could fall in lust, but not love. love requires a deeper connection and a real trust, appreciating all that there is about that person. You can't learn all that in a week or on a first date, it takes time to get to a deeper level

Girl run while you can. You can be infatuated with someone before knowing them but you can't truly love someone until you know all of them. He's crazy for you no doubt, and that don't mean he's not worth considering, but that is a red flag and I'd tell him to slow tf down before someone gets hurt whether it be you or him. Taking things slow is never a bad idea.

1) Attraction2) Compatibility3) Sexuality4) AffectionBlend all these factors together, there you go that's the short description of love to me. You can fall in love with someone on your first date, but the real question is about "How much do u love the other person". It'd nearly impossible to fall in love with someone enough to marry them in your future and have kids with them.(lol definitely NOPE).. So it's actually a process.. its about how much u fall in love everyday with that person for a long time commitment. Since Attraction is a factor when it comes to love, u might love the person.. but u gotta ask yourself "Is this enough?" You will get your answers then :). I hope it goes well for you *winks*

With my best friend of 5 years, I was in love with him long before we got together.With a guy I have only been talking to for a week? Nope. Sounds like he’s promising a relationship just to get in your panties

I don't think that you can fall in love on the first date (i think love is something that needs time and patience) but surely have a crush on someone. As for me I was interested in that guy after the first day I met him and now literally 10 years after he's my beloved husband.