I have been dating for 6 years and have always believed that meeting soon after a mutual exchange of emails is important. Talking to someone and meeting will immediately give you a good feel for who your date is. The profile is only a starting point. One must move quickly past it.

After a first date and if there is some kind of interest, I often will go on a second date. However, if no spark exists after the second date for either I suggest the “next” factor which my sister laughs at, however agrees.

I have gone out with some truly good women from Jdate and have several friends and relatives who met and married from Jdate.

So good luck to all, however, meet and see if something is there.

Bruce

]]>By: Terhttps://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/#comment-4593
Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:08:15 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4593I can see where you might be frustrated. I guess like anything else its just a numbers game. I believe it is so easy to hide behind the screen for both gendures. Somehow when that happens we think we can be rude and it goes un-noticed, which is obviously untrue from your comments and many other men I have heard from. I do personally respond to every email(not flirts) even if I am not interested, I say thanks for taking the time to send a note, but I don’t think we’d be a good match and best of luck in your search. Keep trying and keep things fresh, eventually a woman who is truly worth your time will respond.
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Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:39:14 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4592Ter, what do you suggest I use in the subject matter instead of Hi or Good Afternoon? I really can’t think of anything that can be published on these comments! Your feedback would be greatly appreciated and I hope it can break my dating drought!
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Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:34:45 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4591Ter, thanks for the advice but I had already EMAILED at least 20 attractive ladies, without a response, with a hi in the subject matter and commenting about their profile after reading it. The flirts and ecards were sent years ago, the emails were done recently. Therefore I am completely at a loss as my profile photo is good too.
]]>By: Terhttps://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/#comment-4590
Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:48:28 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4590Jeremy…I have heard from many men that the women don’t respond to an email. I do have a word of advice for you. You mentioned specifically they don’t respond to flirts. I personally don’t either. If a man cannot write something in his own words, I don’t even open the email. I want a man who can think, who I know has read my profile and can make a comment on it in some way. Be creative and make a bit more of an effort and use a subject line that says more than “hi” or “good afternoon”. Just like any good ad you have to catch our eye and attention. As for Cheryl, she doesn’t seem realistic.
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Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:55:38 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4589Peggy I have emailed attractive women my age and attractive women up to 7 years older and they still don’t reply! The older ones don’t want younger guys and the ones my age are just as picky as the rest of them. By the way, Peggy, Cheryl did mention on another of these current JMag articles that she gets emails from guys aged 25 to 63!
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Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:06:51 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4588Cheryl,
The second date factor works the other way too! I dated a woman for 9 wonderful months, but I was not sure after the first date. We ended up wanting different things, but I would not have missed it for the world. It was on date number two that I figured out we had a spark.
]]>By: Daniel Remyhttps://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/#comment-4587
Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:11:57 +0000https://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-4587This is OUTSTANDING advice. Both my wife and my second love did not find me a “chemisty churner” or see any fireworks. What they saw was an attractive man who listened and was intresting when he spoke and smiled a lot. The first, my wife, became my great love for 30 years (widower). The other, was my partner for 6 years before life events tore us apart.
When we did touch in a meaningful way and my passion exploded, the chemistry became a fire that endured many years. I should mention that men also can be too demanding even on a first date. That is as bad as superficial rejection. In both cases, a lady is left alone. You cannot control rude men, but this advice to give it at least 2-3 dates is a road to finding the right man. By the way, both of my ladies were extraordinary beauties, but they didn’t seem to know it. That was my chemistry…a rose who sees other flowers as equally beautiful.
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