No one at Ok Cupid read any actual user messages to compile this post.2 View All Next »There’s a lot to love about online dating.As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.) that are all clearly referencing something important to the sender, the recipient, or, ideally, both.Talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection, and we have proof here that it works.

A lot of real-world dating advice tells men to be more confident, but apparently hemming and hawing a little works well online.It can help your love life, and, besides, if there really was a god, wouldn’t first messages Though this post talks in detail about the content of people’s messages on Ok Cupid, all messages have been anonymized, with sender and recipient data and all IP and timestamp information stripped out.In addition, our analysis program looked at messages only two or three words at a time, to track the success of certain words or phrases (like “what’s up” vs. The program then aggregated results by phrase before presenting the data.Of course, there’s nothing quite so frustrating when you put all of that effort into your profile and start sending out all of those messages… In fact, that’s the reason why so many men quit online dating entirely; who wants to expend all of that emotional energy only to get kicked in the metaphorical nuts by that empty inbox every time you log in? Well, to mangle an old saying: once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times means you’re doing something wrong. It looks for all the world like a normal account, but the person who owns it hasn’t logged on in over three months… Sending messages, winks, pokes, flowers or other signs of interest is the digital equivalent to ringing the doorbell of an abandoned house. Zombie profiles litter their account – something that many dating sites make as difficult as possible in order to artificially inflate their numbers.They may have set up the profile on a lark and forgot about it after moving on when some other social network caught their attention.