104. The Substratum and Content of the
Sacramental Sign of Spousal Communion

By Pope John Paul II

1. "I take
you as my wife"; "I take you as my husband"—these words are at the center of the
liturgy of marriage as a sacrament of the Church. These words spoken by the
engaged couple are inserted in the following formula of consent: "I promise to
be faithful to you always, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and
to love and honor you all the days of my life." With these words the engaged
couple enter the marriage contract and at the same time receive the sacrament of
which both are the ministers. Both of them, the man and the woman, administer
the sacrament. They do it before witnesses. The priest is a qualified witness,
and at the same time he blesses the marriage and presides over the whole
sacramental liturgy. Moreover, all those participating in the marriage rite are
in a certain sense witnesses, and some of them (usually two) are called
specifically to act as witnesses in an official way. They must testify that the
marriage was contracted before God and confirmed by the Church. In the ordinary
course of events sacramental marriage is a public act by means of which two
persons, a man and a woman, become husband and wife before the ecclesial
society, that is, they become the actual subject of the marriage vocation and
life.

2. Marriage is a sacrament which is contracted by means of the word which is a
sacramental sign by reason of its content: "I take you as my wife—as my
husband—and I promise to be always faithful to you, in joy and sorrow, in
sickness and in health, and to love you and honor you all the days of my life."
However, this sacramental word is, per se, merely the sign of the coming into
being of marriage. The coming into being of marriage is distinguished from its
consummation, to the extent that without this consummation the marriage is not
yet constituted in its full reality. The fact that a marriage is juridically
contracted but not consummated (ratum—non consummatum) corresponds to the
fact that it has not been fully constituted as a marriage. Indeed the very words
"I take you as my wife—my husband" refer not only to a determinate reality, but
they can be fulfilled only by means of conjugal intercourse. This reality
(conjugal intercourse) has moreover been determined from the very beginning by
institution of the Creator: "Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother
and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh" (cf. Gn 2:24).

3. Thus then, from the words whereby the man and the woman express their
willingness to become "one flesh" according to the eternal truth established in
the mystery of creation, we pass to the reality which corresponds to these
words. Both the one and the other element are important in regard to the
structure of the sacramental sign, to which it is fitting to devote the
remainder of the present reflections. Granted that the sacrament is a sign which
expresses and at the same time effects the saving reality of grace and of the
covenant, one must now consider it under the aspect of sign, whereas the
previous reflections were dedicated to the reality of grace and of the covenant.

Marriage, as a sacrament of the Church, is contracted by means of the words of
the ministers, that is, of the newlyweds. These words signify and indicate, in
the order of intention, that which (or rather, who) both have decided to be from
now on, the one for the other and the one with the other. The words of the
newlyweds form a part of the integral structure of the sacramental sign, not
merely for what they signify but also, in a certain sense, with what they
signify and determine. The sacramental sign is constituted in the order of
intention insofar as it is simultaneously constituted in the real order.

4. Consequently, the sacramental sign of marriage is constituted by the words of
the newlyweds inasmuch as the "reality" which they themselves constitute
corresponds to those words. Both of them, as man and woman, being the ministers
of the sacrament in the moment of contracting marriage, constitute at the same
time the full and real visible sign of the sacrament itself. The words spoken by
them would not per se constitute the sacramental sign of marriage unless there
corresponded to them the human subjectivity of the engaged couple and at the
same time the awareness of the body, linked to the masculinity and femininity of
the husband and wife. Here it is necessary to recall to mind the whole series of
our previous analyses in regard to Genesis (cf. Gn 1:2). The structure of the
sacramental sign remains essentially the same as "in the beginning." In a
certain sense, it is determined by the language of the body. This is inasmuch as
the man and the woman, who through marriage should become one flesh, express in
this sign the reciprocal gift of masculinity and femininity as the basis of the
conjugal union of the persons.

5. The sacramental sign of marriage is constituted by the fact that the words
spoken by the newlyweds use again the same language of the body as at the
"beginning," and in any case they give a concrete and unique expression to it.
They give it an intentional expression on the level of intellect and will, of
consciousness and of the heart. The words "I take you as my wife—as my husband"
imply precisely that perennial, unique and unrepeatable language of the body. At
the same time they situate it in the context of the communion of the persons: "I
promise to be always faithful to you, in joy and in sadness, in sickness and in
health, and to love you and honor you all the days of my life." In this way the
enduring and ever new language of the body is not only the "substratum." But in
a certain sense, it is the constitutive element of the communion of the persons.
The persons—man and woman—become for each other a mutual gift. They become that
gift in their masculinity and femininity, discovering the spousal significance
of the body and referring it reciprocally to themselves in an irreversible
manner—in a life-long dimension.

6. Thus the sacrament of marriage as a sign enables us to understand the words
of the newlyweds. These words confer a new aspect on their life in a dimension
strictly personal (and interpersonal: communio personarum), on the basis
of the language of the body. The administration of the sacrament consists in
this: that in the moment of contracting marriage the man and the woman, by means
of suitable words and recalling the perennial language of the body, form a sign,
an unrepeatable sign, which has also a significance for the future: "all the
days of my life," that is to say, until death. This is a visible and efficacious
sign of the covenant with God in Christ, that is, of grace which in this sign
should become a part of them as "their own special gift" (according to the
expression of 1Cor 7:7).

7. Expressing this matter in socio-juridical terms, one can say that between the
newlyweds there is a stipulated, well-defined conjugal pact. It can also be said
that following upon this pact, they have become spouses in a manner socially
recognized, and that in this way the family as the fundamental social cell is
also constituted in germ. This manner of understanding it is obviously in
agreement with the human reality of marriage. Indeed, it is also fundamental in
the religious and religious-moral sense. However, from the point of view of the
theology of the sacrament, the key for the understanding of marriage is always
the reality of the sign whereby marriage is constituted on the basis of the
covenant of man with God in Christ and in the Church. It is constituted in the
supernatural order of the sacred bond requiring grace. In this order marriage is
a visible and efficacious sign. Having its origin in the mystery of creation, it
derives its new origin from the mystery of redemption at the service of the
"union of the sons of God in truth and in love" (Gaudium et Spes 24). The
liturgy of the sacrament of marriage gave a form to that sign: directly, during
the sacramental rite, on the basis of the ensemble of its eloquent
expressions; indirectly, throughout the whole of life. As spouses, the man and
woman bear this sign throughout the whole of their lives and they remain as that
sign until death.