My Complicatedly Simple Life

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Wednesday, May 22, 2013

I'm not a parent by accident and I don't know that I believe anyone is. We might not chose the perfect time or be in the perfect situation but we all make the choice to be a parent. I choose daily to love my kids. I choose to take care of them, to nurture them and to make sure that they're happy. I choose to show them how to be the best that they can be by trying to give them my best.

Everyday I'm reminded why I chose to be a parent.
And everyday I'm thankful I did.

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

I love to eat healthy. I also love bacon, chocolate, cookies and margartias. There's been a lot in the media about obese children in society and how the parents play a vital role in that outcome. I fully agree. But living at either end of that spectrum is not what it might seem. Hell, some of us are just happy IF our kids eat ANYTHING. My kids are somewhere in the middle. Thing 1 loves oranges, Thing 2 despises them. T2 loves cottage cheese, T1 refuses. They both love apples, meat, and carbs but share a hatred for leafy greens, chili, tomatoes, and potatoes. Correction, they love fries and hashbrowns.Every morning we eat breakfast. EVERY MORNING. Because we don't have a snack after dinner (dessert is naturally a part of our meal), I know that they're hungry when they wake up. I give them a cup of milk and a snack, mainly toast or a banana, within 10 minutes of venturing downstairs. This buys me time to get something to drink and open the curtains. Breakfast itself comes within an hour. Don't think that I'm June Clever and have eggs, bacon, pancakes, freshed sqeezzed orange juice, and coffe cake ready to go. No. Some mornings it's eggs and toast. Somedays it's cheese quesadillas. Today it was chocolate chip banana pancakes.T1 had syrup with hers and T2 had yogurt with his (he hates syrup). Healthy, not at all. But there are somedays when I throw healthy out the damn door and am just thankful they ate off a plate. Today was one of those days.

Monday, April 8, 2013

I'm hoping it's that simple. Any time you stop doing something and then start trying, everyone always says "It's easy, it's like riding a bike." When's the last time you rode a bike? For me it's been longer than this blog has existed, and that's four years. So let me tell you that I'm nervous. I have thought about starting up numerous times. I sit and think about what I want to post and things I'd like to share my opinion on. I've been putting off starting again and I don't know why. Fear of not keeping up with it, again. Fear of no one ever reading it. Fear of having my thoughts and experiences out there for the world to see. Fear of people telling me to shut up. I can never seem to get out of my own head sometimes. I have great ideas, big projects and grand dreams that I'd love to complete but then like a goldfish with a shiny new rock, I lose focus. I've been told before that I have great work ethic, leadership and do good work but I struggle with time management. Duh! Have you met me?! Add "socializes too much" and that would be every report card I ever got in school. Always a problem with tons of solutions, none that work for me because they're not mine. It's time to fix that. You'd think that by early 30's there'd be certain aspects in life that I'd improve on. Time management in not one of those. I still wait til the night before Christmas to wrap gifts, the hour before leaving town to pack a bag or start vacuuming 10 minutes before people show up. Some might say that I have a case of "procrastination" but I don't like that word so I don't use it. "Time Management Avoidance" sounds a little better so that's what we;re going with.

My vow: To be better. To leave a better trail of advice and antics that come from living my life. To have something to look back and laugh at, enjoy and remember.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

I've been thinking a lot lately about what I want my blog to be. I started it with the intentions of just being a way to keep friends and family updated on our lives without having to write or call everyone individually. Three and half years ago I thought I'd update it every week with wonderful stories about how it was being a new mom with a perfect baby and a fairytale life. And then the next day came. And the next. And the next.
What no one told me was that life gets in the way, EVERY DAY! Being married was hard and when I finally got that one figured out I threw motherhood into the mix. That's when I learned what "hard" really was. I LOVE my life, as you will all learn to know, but there are days when I want to quit, throw in the towel and walk away. Be honest, you probably have too! Is it all worth it in the end? ABSOLUTELY! Every bit of hard work that goes into everything I do is always worth it whether I know it in that moment or not.
So I've realized, I don't want this blog to just be an update on my family every week, or month. I want it to be a chronicle of my journey through my family, my life and the experience I have of learning who I am. With that, we'll take the first step...

Monday, October 15, 2012

I absolutely LOVE the fall! With the chznging of the season I'm going to be changing a lot in our life as well. New look to the blog, back on twitter, new home changes, maybe even a new look! I'm excited for the chance to be able to shake things up a bit. Hope you continue to love me along the way. If not, maybe you can check back in around winter...we all know my OCD/ADD habits will change by then!

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Wow...a month already? It's amazing how life can go by so fast at some times and so slow at others. The past month has been full of hot summer weather, stuffy noses, sleepless nights and yet we still have found time to have great times with wonderful friends!One of the things I have loved about living in the Willamette Valley and
especially in Yamhill County is that there is always something to do.
Sometimes you just have to find it. Lately our saving grace has been a
wonderful swimming hole that is locally called The Donkey Ponds. We love
this place! The waters are slow moving and shallow enough that both of
the Things can play in the waters edge with no worries. We have enjoyed
this little oasis so much that we wanted to share our fun times with
good friends. It the days that we have together, watching our kids play
that makes leaving here so much harder....

Monday, August 13, 2012

It's not as easy to make friends as an adult as it was as a kid. The girl can walk up to another kid on the playground and say "I like the slide" and the next thing you know, they're chasing each other around and laughing like crazy. As a grown woman, I can't exactly walk up to another lady at the grocery store and say "I like tomatoes, want to be my friend?" Or can I? Before I had kids I had great friends, great hobbies and a great figure. Then my time started to slowly get consumed by the baby. Then there were 2 babies. I still have great friends, I forgot my hobbies and my figure....that's another place at another time!Since moving to McMinnville, I've made some great friends and learned
some great lessons. Not only about gardening, organic foods, and
different parenting styles but about who I am, the kind of mother I want
to be and to forgive myself for not being perfect. I've learned how to
slow down and relax. Being able to step back and see life from a new
view point has given me the ability to fall in love with my kids all
over again. Not that I didn't love them already, but I think that there
are times in life when focus isn't always in the right place. I've been super lucky to be a part of a great community of people who
are supportive parents, friends and neighbors. There's been many of
times that I have been helped and helped others with things that most
would take for granted. Whether it be a ride, garden veggies, clothes, or just a ear to listen...I will never forget the wonderful group of women that have come into my life this past 18 months!