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The way you prepare to give oral sex (giving guys a blow job or going down on a girl and giving her cunnilingus) for the first time will have a big influence on whether you find the experience fun and enjoyable, or horrible and disgusting.

Let’s deal with blow jobs first. Here are some tips for getting used to the idea of giving a guy head before you actually perform the act of fellatio itself.

Watch some adult movies. To get a good idea of what is expected in giving a guy head, get hold of some adult movies that are geared towards blow jobs. Believe it or not, the very best ones are from the gay range. The reason to observe how gay men go about the business of oral sex is simple: they are full of enthusiasm, and you can tell just from watching that they love doing it. For some first-timer girls who have never had a man’s penis in their mouth, this can be a real eye-opener.

Practice on a banana, carrot or other phallic object. Select an object that is at least five or six inches long and with a bit of girth. There is a fair chance you have not even seen your man’s penis (unless you have already given him a hand job or two), so you might be in for a shock. If his manhood is bigger than this, don’t worry – you don’t need to take the whole length down your throat.

However, some women to their own surprise discover a talent for deep-throating. This knowledge usually comes as her oral sex experience increases. The main reason for practising with objects first is to gauge what sort of gag reaction (reflex) you will have. If you find yourself gagging easily, then you will not be giving very deep blow jobs – at least while you are a beginner.

Also be prepared for the following. Your guy’s penis may have a slight odor, which is normal. If it is too much to bear, you may have to ask him to wash. Don’t be embarrassed to ask, because if he wants a blow job badly enough, he will literally run to the bathroom.

If you are worried about the taste and texture of semen, tell your man beforehand to give you some warning before he comes. If you are adventurous and want to taste, by all means try it. But, have a tissue, rag or towel handy, and also some water to rinse in case he comes in your mouth accidentally when you have asked him not too. You may find the taste and texture not to your liking. People are different about how they deal with a guy’s sperm, there is no right and wrong here.

Cunnilingus – Oral Sex for Women

The taste of a woman’s vagina is different to a man’s penis. For a start, it is constantly moist (usually), and secreting fluids. When you get your mouth on a vagina for the first time it can be quite a shock.

As with men, do not be afraid to tell your woman if her genitals need a quick wash. If she likes being eaten out, she will oblige. Unlike men, the chances are much less that your girl will ejaculate in your mouth, although it can’t be ruled out. Just be prepared that it might happen.

Also, have a look at some lesbian adult movies to get an idea of what you might like to try when you perform oral sex on a women. There are a million and one techniques, but the main thing to remember is: give all of her parts some attention – the clitoris, labia, even inserting your tongue inside can be delightful for the giver and the receiver. Licking a woman’s urethra soon after she has urinated may also cause a bit of a taste shock, so be ready for that.

Finally, with cunnilingus, your partner may be shaved or not. If shaved, her vaginal odor will usually be milder (but not always), and you can also get into the whole area much easier to give her all the oral pleasure she deserves.

With oral sex for both men and women, the main thing is to be patient, attentive and aware tasting that bodily fluids is your ultimate reward for giving head well.

I’m not a doctor, I’m writing this article to share for purposes of encouragement, support, and genuine love for helping others through tough times. Whether male or female, we’re human and we have issues with our bodies or we’re faced with dealing with issues other family members, friends, and loved ones have with their bodies. We’re born and we’ll be out of here someday, along the way we need help.

Cancer problems and emotional trauma over cancer are not new to me. My grandmothers both had Cancer. I watched them suffer. My husband’s prostate Cancer was a shock but thank-God, with different results.

When Gary was at work he worked hard. Some would say he had the managerial case of workaholism. He didn’t want to go to a doctor, but he was having some difficult with sexual performance. His body wasn’t cooperating with his mind. He wanted more and his body was reacting less. This is not going to be an x-rated article. It’s very clean. I just want to be clear.

He told his boss about not having the results he wanted with his body and how he felt frustrated. His boss kept telling him to see a doctor, don’t let it go, don’t make light of this. Deal with it. Get an examination and ask for help.

Finally, Gary went to the doctor and was told he had Prostate Cancer. He denied the diagnosis until he finally sought the best medical doctor he could be recommended to in the field. He ultimately had the prostate removed in a procedure that did not damage the nerves so that he would has the best possible chance of resuming sexual activity with some time.

First, there’s definitely different experiences to understand after the removal of the prostate. When a man ejaculates, there’s no fluids coming out. No messy sheets or partners, yet it feels good. That’s different. How does a man emotionally feel about not having the fluids shoot out? It takes adjustment and since that’s not coming back, he has to adjust to the physical difference, if he wants to recover better emotionally.

What happens when the desire for sexual experiences exist after the surgery and the body is not ready to cooperate with the mind, what can you do to help. A partner should be positively supportive of the desires. Sometimes, men will seek out equipment to aid with sexual processes and functions and these devices can be expensive and sometimes cause more frustration than they are worth.

For couples, it can be so helpful to find as many other loving things to do to each other, in addition to the concept of intercourse. There’s so much more to explore in the areas of sensuality and gratification of the senses. They are worth exploring.

Find other ways of enjoyment for each other whether it’s the adult-type movies, massage, and other fun activities. Talk about your issues and concerns and ask questions of professionals as much as you need or want help.

Another embarrassing sexual issue for a Prostate Cancer patient is following the removal of the prostate, there tends to be more urine leakage and that’s not always something which can be controlled so be prepared with extra underwear and paper towels around the house to ease embarrassment. It’s also great to take a change of pants to keep in the trunk of the car if you feel you need to change.

There’s no magical date that you can declare for when your body will return to normal functioning after the prostate has been removed, but Gary was told to expect about 3 years and that was accurate for him. At first, nighttime relations after working all day were not the best time of day for us, morning was best. With a little more time, day or night became the same and we’re much happier and very thankful for having each other, being patient and loving, and for always believing we’d experience loving like before the surgery.

Sex is not always a sport and, although sex games and sex positions abound, it should never be a competition. However, if you want to become a gold medalist in bed, you can’t expect to sit back and hope that the best sex of your life descends on you by magic or is somehow passed down through the genes of your ancestors. You have to train.

Superstar coaches of practically every sport on the planet train their aspiring athletes with the same basic principle. No matter what the sport, competition, or activity, the best training always consists of two essential parts: mental and physical. Training must be 50% mental and 50% physical.

The physical 50% is the kind everyone who has ever watched a sports movie is all too familiar with. In sports, it involves those ten-mile hikes through the mud in the rain at 5 AM. It involves charging through barriers made of foam, stepping through gauntlets made of tires, and passing the ball back and forth until it becomes second nature.

In the arena of adult sex, the physical 50% means that you need to get as much practice as you possibly can. Know your own body like… the back of your hand. Get to know the body or bodies of your spouse, partner, or friends with benefits until you can trace them in your sleep. Don’t expect to have mind-blowing sex every time right away. Expect only to practice.

But just like in any sport, the physical 50% is not enough.

For athletes, the mental 50% involves both watching other professionals perform the right way the actions they hope to excel at and also playing back the tapes of their own performances in order to spot their own weak areas. The mental 50% is all about studying, immersing their minds in the sport, activity, or action so much so that when they get on the field, their bodies automatically follow suit.

In sex, the mental 50% can be accomplished in a number of ways.

Reading is one of the easiest ways to train your mind in the art of sex. Sex advice is readily available in large and free quantities online, so find a sex blog or sex advice portal that you love and visit it often.

Playing the tapes back is another great way to get in the mental 50%, so don’t be ashamed to find some tasteful erotica and take notes. If your partners or friends with benefits are adventurous enough, you may find it equal parts enjoyable and educational to film yourselves in various states of undress performing various sex positions and sexual acts. When you watch yourselves later, you can highlight the things you did that really made your partner scream as well as make a mental note of the things they did that sent shivers through your spine.

Casual sex movies make it all seem so easy. Two people meet up at a bar, share a quick drink, and then are seen passionately bouncing off hallway walls as they try to get each other’s clothes off. But is it really all so simple? And if it is, then why aren’t all bar room hallways bursting at the seams with horny hookups? The answer is…they’re not and the science behind attraction and a woman’s desire for casual sex gives a little insight into why.

In several studies, the original one conducted in 1989 and a follow-up one conducted more recently, both men and women were asked if they would have casual sex with a platonic friend – a friends with benefits arrangement – or if they would have casual sex with a complete stranger. In both studies it showed that men were more likely to agree to a quickie than their female counterpart. So if you are a man and want to get a more favorable response to the question, “Will you go to bed with me?” there are few basic things that you need to understand about the women who are most likely to say yes.

Whether you meet a potential partner through an adult online dating site, through a friend, or in a pub, the basics of getting that person to agree to a one night stand or no strings attached relationship include a little flirting. Yes, even with casual sex you need a little flirting.

Science has suggested two theories explaining what women look for. The first theory reaches back to our caveman roots and the evolutionary reasons for having sex – survival of the species. In this explanation the woman needs to be choosy about their hook up mate since they expect them to stick around to help change diapers and buy formula. They want a man they can depend on.

The second theory is one that we can better get our minds around when talking about casual sex and that is the Pleasure Theory. We are all hardwired to pursue pleasure. This is the type of wiring that you guys need to stand up and take notice of. Yes, woman will be more likely to say yes to a casual relationship when they perceive that they are going to get a little pleasure from it…or more likely, a lot of pleasure. Women want to orgasm and they will be more willing to give it a shot with a guy (or girl) that is likely to provide it.

So let’s put the two theories together and create a better mousetrap. Guys, if you want casual sex then you need to convince a woman that they can depend on you to give them an orgasm!

How is this done? Well, to discover that you may just want to follow me and get some advice on some good old fashioned flirting and seduction. That is something that never goes out of style no matter if it’s casual sex or true love sex that you are after.

Everywhere you look online today there are hundreds of people asking for ways at improving sex for couples. My guess is that some people just don’t know where to start when it comes to looking for ways to spice up their sex lives. One of easiest ways to kick start your sex life is to use your imagination and get creative.

Sit back and think about what turns you on, talk to your partner to learn more about what really turns them on and then put on that thinking cap. Improving sex for couples is actually one the easier things you can do in your relationship yet sadly it seems to be one of the most neglected aspects for couples. It is no wonder that so many complain about mundane sex.

If you are someone who struggles with creativity but would love new ways for improving sex for couples then consider the following:

Change Up Foreplay: Use ice or something cold to touch your partners body, then slowly go over that area with your warm tongue. Explore the whole body and then have your partner do the same thing to you. Try adding blindfold into the mix so your partner never knows where the cool shock will come from. This is an excellent method of foreplay and great at improving sex for couples. You will be pleasantly surprised how much more aware you become of each others bodies and how much closer you become.
Sex Toys: Toys are wonderful for improving sex for couples. Research and learn about them together, make your purchases and spend time discovering a whole other side of sex that will drive the two of you wild.
Adult Films: Watching an adult movie together is a great way to help you get in the mood. Be open to what interests both partners and consider watching a feature adult movie if it is your first time doing this. Keep the remote handy to speed by anything you may not like and consider acting out some scenes together.
Try New Positions: This is the easiest way at improving sex for couples. There are hundreds of different positions to try and you will be amazed at how something as simple as trying different positions can really spice up a lovemaking session

The online world is actually inundated with adult sex guides. Just try searching for them on your favorite search engine and you are going to see such a lot of them waiting for you. They are all priced differently according to what they are supposed to contain and they contain different things as well. But, the point is, do you really need an adult sex guide?

The question you have to ask yourself is why you are looking for such a book to help you. Definitely the answer is that you are looking at improving your sexual performance. You are looking at giving your woman greater pleasure in bed. And you are hoping that the tantalizing sex guide you are looking forward to download will help you with it.

But, the fact is, no sex guide can help you if you don’t help yourself. These are some points you have to consider beforehand.

1. Good sex doesn’t come without a good equation with your partner. Yes, there are books that will train you in the pure art of carnal sex, but if you are in a long term committed relationship, then such a book won’t help you. Probably you will need a book that will tell you how to construct a better relationship with your partner than just some meaningless sex.

2. If you indulge in a great deal of foreplay, you can arouse your woman immensely. This is something that can really help you in what lies ahead. Maybe you won’t need the adult sex guide to spice up your act after that.

3. Another thing you have to consider is that you will need to actually implement the things that are mentioned in the guide if you want it to be effective for you. You cannot just read the book and then not implement it. Then it would be a futile exercise. In all probability the book is going to tell you about how you can have some more daring sexual experiences to make things more exciting-you have to be able to use that.

These are some of the things that you have to consider before downloading any adult sex guide. Will you be able to do it? That’s the question you have to answer.

I think there comes a point when we have to stop being a society in denial. The internet is a place of all sorts and adult sex dating is one of the realities of the internet-dating world. Not everyone is looking for a relationship and not everyone is looking for a date to spend the night. There are some of us with a clear understanding of exactly what they want in life and I think I can applaud them for being honest with themselves. Dating sites that are specific about their intent and their demographic are quite readily available online, with varying names – some famous and some not.

They also are quite a few that cater to very specific sexual and niche interests, I mean the world is made up of all sorts and the internet has allowed them to find a place in the world where they can find like minded individuals who would be able to share their same likes and dislikes. Some of us have higher libidos than other’s and are much more comfortable with our own sexualities. This is the driving force behind these websites and dating services. It isn’t because that society has become perverted and that they need to run to the corners of the digital world to see their interests expressed.

It is much the other way around. Some of us have matured more than others and we need to see that human are murals of expression and we are built with different colours of the human spectrum. We cannot always have a negative thought to those who are honest about themselves, we cannot treat them as outcasts of society just because we cannot understand them. We must be patient, we must be accepting, we must be enlightened. Yes the adult sex dating scene is a dangerous world with potential stalkers and nefarious beings but these dating sites are pretty secure in their treatment of their subject matter. Privacy is at an all time high and the quality websites filter all the potential malware, scams, pornographic companies that try to infiltrate their databases to garner more business. Adult sex dating is all about the physical relationship and the discovery of both pleasure and physical attraction. But this does not mean that it cannot be pure.

There are those who will take advantage of the system and there are those who are in it because it is a part of their lifestyle. Normally, the end users of these websites will be able to weed out these individuals and get them banned. There are quite a few quality adult sex dating sites online and you can spot them because of the fact that they are discreet, offer a comprehensive security warning, have many pages of disclaimers and require that you complete and fill out a personal particulars form before you continue – one that has to be verified through email. These precautions and more are there to keep out the black hats and make adult sex dating a safer experience for those who would like to find an avenue to express themselves.