Should I Stop My Divorce

My divorce will be final Monday. Everyone says its for the best, except him and I. I know there's been problems, is it wrong to want it to work? Isn't it with God all things are possible, or just wishful thinking and a waste of time, life, and money to stop it now?

My husband has decided to divorce me, I am devastated. We have had problems and hurt eachother, but I have never stopped being in love with him. I never thought that he would fall out of love, he was the one to aggressively pursue me and wanted to marry right away. I keep asking what I can do to make it work, and he says he is not in love and has not been for a while!! I have never hurt so badly. He wants me to move out, and take the house, he makes enough for the payments and I don't. What can I do?

Tonya, This is a tough one, especially since we don't know who filed, and what led up divorce proceedings being started. Are you both Christians? Was there domestic violence? Are there children from the marriage? Who is giving you counsel? Is your pastor involved? Perhaps filling in some of those blanks could help us better serve you with our thoughts.

Tonya, it is NEVER wrong to reconcile a marriage. All things ARE possible through Christ. If it's something along the lines of abuse, adultery, addiction...these things can be worked out. It may take time before the two of you can live under one roof, but one can get delivered of those things through Christ. Keep the faith, don't lose hope in things unseen. My heart goes out to you, and I will be praying for you both.

Hello Tonya,I am seperated from my husband at this time. I have been through a lot with my husband. We both felt that we need to seperate for a while. He needs to get his self together before I go back into the marriage. I do not want a divorce and he does not either. I think you need to stop listening to everybody else and think about what God wants you to do. My best advice is to pray about it and wait on God.

Why not just separate instead of divorce? For the time being that would seem to make more sense and would give you both time to patch things up. You can always continue the divorcement later if you feel you have to but I totally believe anything can be fixed if both parties would try.

I filed. It started to get physically abusive, its the verbal that really hurt. I was raised a christian. He has alot of trust issues with woman and drank often, he blames it on his mother leaving when he was 12. After we were married he quit his job and did nothing but drink. If I asked for help, he would get mean & blame it on me, "they are your bills", even to keep the roof over our heads and food on the table. I don't want to be his mother. We went to see a counselor she didn't help at all.

Another option that is available in Alberta, which I used, is a legal separation. I had it prepared by a lawyer (not too expensive), and it protected both of our rights while we were not living together and attempting reconciliation. The marriage vows still apply but it gave us the chance to sort through our issues separately and try to get things back together. Separation was necessary as abuse was an issue here.

If both of you want it to work, and stay together, stop the divorce.But consider the history of the marriage. Has there been abuse or violence? I think that would be unlikely to stop.But otherwise, it is your live(s) and you should not have to feel you have to do what others tell you.