Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group

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My son did this to his sister

My daughter told her sister in June and on Aug 12 the police and everyone will get together to see if they are going to press charges. She is 7 and he is 17. He hasn't admitted to anything and he stepdad doesn't want to have anything to do with him. I understand and respect that. I just don't know how to feel. My daughter would lie about that at all. I wish he would tell the truth. After reading this I feel so much better. I am not alone. If they press charges and he is 17 would he be an adult. The police says they wish he would admit to it and they can give him help. Most of the time I am crying. Because I love both of them so much. I am trying to figure out how to have a relationship with him. Which is very hard. He lives with my mom and she don't call me at all. I feel like she hates me for reporting it but doesn't say so. My sister says she doesn't believe he did it. But she wouldn't lie like that especially on her brother that she is very close too.

She definately wouldn&#039;t make it up! And yes he will be charged as an adult! I know this must be so difficult for you but, you did the right thing! If you swept it under the carpet your daughter would have major issues and your son would do it again to someone else or again to your daughter! My nephew sexually abused my daughter and he admitted it yet, his parents still don&#039;t believe it! Good luck Stay strong for your little girl!!

I think you should trust your daughter. She will need your support and love. I don&#039;t think the brother will admit anything and he may find his own support system within the family. Think about your daughter, listen to her. Somewhere down the road you may have more information and understanding about this and maybe he will get help-maybe other things will be revealed too-was he molested/abused by someone or maybe he was exposed to pornography.

You are an awesome Mom for trusting your daughter. My situation is almost identical to yours, except my son is 14 and my daughter is 4. I am not telling you what to do, but here is what we did. We are working with the State Attorney. if our son will admit what he did then we are willing to reduce the charges and get him the help he needs, if he won&#039;t hold himself accountable for his actions, then we are going to allow the state attorney to prosecute. Our family is torn also. My husbands mom has our son and is downplaying the seriousness of the situation.
You are doing the right thing. Your daughter came to you for help and you are standing up for her. If your son can acknowledge that he needs help, then you should stand up for him too. Our next court date is 4 days after yours. good luck to your family and remember that not everyone is capable of dealing with this and the only people that matter are your son and daughter. It won&#039;t be easy, but nothing worth fighting for is.

So sorry to hear your story. You must be very proud of your little girl for coming forward. I bet that was hard for her to do. How is she doing?
7 year olds do not make this up. sorry your family is in denial. Very common. My inlaws are in denial that my father in law is a child molester and we are pretty much made out to be the bad guys. It is a shame that families side with the perp all the time and the victim is made to feel like the one that did wrong.
You can stop this cycle in your family. Your son was probably abused by someone and he did what he learned. Hopefully he will admit it and share what happened to him and get help.
A friend of mine was in a similar situation and her son denied what he did. They were going to give him a lie detector test and he got scared and confessed. Maybe that is an option for your son.
Prayers and hugs to you.

I totally feel for your situation. My son lied at first too. It is important for him to know that although you are not wanting him to admit to something if he really &quot;didn&#039;t&quot; do it, the process would be a lot easier and freindlier to him if he admits guilt. HAving just been through the process, truth comes out regardless, and when it does if it looks like someone who hurt a child, continues to hurt one by protecting themselves, it will not reflect in his favor. All wrong things can begin to be made right through truth. And an innocent 7 year old, as well as your son, can begin to get the the help they need.

You are right, children don&#039;t lie about abuse. They have absolutely nothing to gain from lying. People you thought would be on your side won&#039;t be but you still have to do the right thing. You will find comfort and support here. Take care.

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