"There
are times when we make others feel guilty for what's really our own
inability to love – that's truly malicious. We rob the other’s energy
for us to feel more powerful; and this brings us a momentary
satisfaction. But the load of taking someone away from their path by
putting the blame on them is very heavy. We point the finger at them and
say, ‘You are guilty for my misery.’ The person then has to go to hell
and back to be accepted by you. The needier the person is, the greater
their need will be to please you."

Americans tend to be impatient. We think if Buddhism has been here
for a hundred and fifty years, of course it should be totally American.
But that ignores the fact that in Asia it took centuries for Buddhism to
become fully acculturated when it moved to a new cultural region. . . .
It will take time.