This is getting way too serious

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old FemaleI've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now...he's very very short tempered and says things that honestly makes me wanna die...but in the past month it became worse as he pushes me when we fight and grabs my wrist very roughly....i know this is serious and what i always hear is i have to leave him before it gets even worse but the bigger problem that i cant talk to anyone about is that he made me loose my virginity...and in my family any girl that looses her virginity deserves to die or at least be abandoned forever...and he always tells me that if he decides to leave me thats it im done...and no there is no one in my family or relatives or friends that i can talk to about this because it is just out of the question in my town...i know one thing and that i would never hurt myself...but psychologically im seriously damaged and my life is just one big huge nightmare that i know i will never wake up from...i hate him...im scared...and i regret the moment i met him....help me...i beg you

RomanceClass.com AdviceYou have my sympathy for the situation you are in.

I'm guessing you are from a non-USA culture because the way you describe your family and town are very strange.

Whatever the case, my advice is to take the risk to break up with your boyfriend and if he tells your family that you lost your virginity with him then you should simply lie and say what he is saying is not true.

Be very firm in what you are saying and deny it over and over. Your family will want to believe you so it shouldn't be too hard to convince them. Tell them that he was very abusive and he threatened to tell this lie if you broke up with him.

Be sure to be gentle when you break up with him and make it easy for him to accept. This will work better if he is a little sympathetic to you.