Wrap 'em up. I'll take one of each. Except the pornstar with the tattooed scalp - he vibes as entirely too convinced of his own prettiness - an erection killer for me...

I hear guys say stuff like this all the time, and it just makes me shake my head. I call it the DEFR (desire, envy, fear, rejection) syndrome. Person A wants/envies person B, but feeling insecure and intimidated, person A rejects person B before (A assumes) B has a chance to reject person A.

Are we so insecure as gay men that a simple photograph of a (good looking) guy brings this about? I wonder if straight guys experience this syndrome with hot women?

If you're not attracted to a guy that's cool, but rejecting someone because you perceive a "vibe" about his prettiness seems like a commentary on your own insecurity.

The guy is a hottie. Don't hate him because he's beautiful.

Gay men have come a long way in the last 50 years, but insecurity is still a major handicap in our community.