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Month: May 2017

A RETURN TO WHO YOU WERE WHEN YOU WERE DATING

Tawny May

When we were “just friends” and dating, my husband would frequently tell me that he appreciated how “down” I was–ready for an adventure, chill enough to do nothing (when applicable), easy-going, and the antithesis of demanding. I took pride in that attribute and really tried to embody it in our relationship. I remember hearing him describe me to his friends, and I’d blush when he told them how good I was for him.

​We dated, courted, got married, and basically just swam together in a sea of bliss every day.

But you know how it is–life happens…you can’t stay in your proverbial Kauai forever. Years passed. Work sucked. Free time was scarce. A baby was born. Responsibilities mounted high.

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DON’T GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU KNOW THE ANSWERS TO THESE 14 QUESTIONS

Lindsey Miller

Make sure you ask the tough questions before you tie the knot. You’ll be grateful you did.

Marriage is wonderful, but it takes hard work to build a solid relationship that will develop into a great relationship. There are a million things to think about when trying to choose a life partner – which is why it’s so important to know what you’re getting into.

Having answers to these questions will help you work at your relationship, have a better understanding of each other and make sure your needs and your partner’s needs are being met. Do you know the answers to these 14 questions?

The idea of starting over being a bad thing is baked right into the fabric of our society’s education system. We send our children to a university when they’re 17 or 18, and basically tell them to choose a career path they’ll be happy with for the next 40 years. “But, what if I choose wrong?” I remember thinking to myself. And that’s exactly what I did, in more ways than one.

Kevin values his quality time with Kim, and regularly organizes date nights for them. While Kim does find him sweet, she wants to spend more time with her friends. Kevin says this makes him feel lonely. This makes Kim feel suffocated and exhausted by his “neediness.”

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How do we heighten our happiness? There are many ways and one size does not fit all. Below I discuss a few key things that has worked for me and those closest to me – how a small group of us went from downbeat and drained to a happy and hopeful in a few short years…

1. Savor the joy of simple pleasures. – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.

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5 THINGS I WANT MY WIFE TO KNOW ABOUT HER BODY

Aaron & April Jacob

In a world full of all kinds of messages regarding a woman’s body, here are five things I want my wife to know about hers.

As a husband, I know my wife faces a lot of pressure when it comes to appearance. Those pressures are real, and they come from just about everywhere. Regardless of all the voices out there spreading innumerable false messages, here are five things I want my wife to know about her body.

YOU ARE AS TROUBLED AS THE RELATIONSHIP YOU’RE IN

“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the [person] to which we are attached by love.” -Baruch Spinoza

Meet Steven. Steven has decided to become a psychoanalyst. Before starting class, the graduate school requires students to spend a year in therapy.

Six months in, Steven was doing well. He showed signs of a healthy and stable mind. So much so that his assigned therapist believed he wouldn’t need more than a few years, compared to other students who need an average of four.

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Once you welcome a sweet new baby into your home, naturally your focus immediately shifts to keeping your little person alive. Your thoughts seem to revolve around making sure the baby has enough food, a clean diaper, and a perfect nap schedule. Somehow your marriage slips by the wayside and that new baby takes over as the #1 priority in both of your lives. It doesn’t have to be this way, though.

Although having a new baby can consume your life, it is so important to choose to take time to nurture your marriage. We’ve compiled a list of 52 best dates for new parents – for every season of the year. A lot of these are things you can do at home, or with your new baby in-tow, but some of them need to simply be one-on-one dates, while a babysitter watches your new one (the baby will survive, trust us). It doesn’t really matter what you do for date night, as long as you are intentional about making it happen.

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Everyone knows that going on regular dates is key to a happy and healthy marriage. Why? Because couples need alone time. Time to be husband and wife – not mom or dad, dentist, HR director, PTA member, or fire chief.

When was the last time you asked that dashing husband or wife of yours, out on a date? Silence. Awkward silence.

You’re married. You don’t have to ask your spouse out anymore, right? You just tell them what you are doing, or ask on Friday morning, “So, what are we going to do tonight?” Read more