I came right sumhow, Im dtill not to sure what I did but I think Courier was faulty or not working so I deleted and insatalled another pop server and it works.

poppy I think its called. Just out of curiosity will that impact the ispconfig setup or settings at all. I have noticed small things like the quotas for all my users I have setup I have to changes from -1(which used to be unlimited) to say 50 in order for it to work otherwise it gives inbox is full and bounces the mail.

plus in my main.cf I have to physically put the destination for all my domains or it rejects it saying relay access denied or summin like that.

Thanks for the help Falko and till I really appreciate it. At least the crises is over but I am still worried the original ispconfig setup is not 100%

Nope.. I have 3 domains setup on my box. previously all I had under destinations was localdomain and the server name and it was fine. since reloading I had to add the other domains I setup in ispconfig to the main.cf.