~Tuesday, July 09, 2013

One of the blogs I've been reading since the inception of my own blog is [Miscellany], written by a woman I only know as M or Mez. She is wonderful. She sketches comics. She has excellent taste in books and movies. And she lives in Australia, which sounds deeply exotic to this American.

We are the puzzle pieces who seldom fit with other puzzle pieces. Romantics, idealists, eccentrics, we inhabit singledom as our natural resting state. In a world where proms and marriage define the social order, we are, by force of our personalities and inner strength, rebels.

For the quirkyalone, there is no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. We want a miracle. Out of millions, we have to find the one who will understand.

Quirkyalones are not just women. And they aren't asexual. They aren't people who never leave the apartment. They are romantics who don't settle.

I don't think I ever was a quirkyalone. I was really good at dating for the sake of dating. I think true quirkyalones have this peace about being single that I never had.

The book is as quirky as the movement. Pages are filled with bios of other quirkyalones and sketches. There is advice for online dating, what to do when your friend becomes coupled up (Vent! But not to the person in the relationship!), and how to go to the movies alone. It's just a great little book for those who inhabit singledom as their natural resting state.

If you think you might be a quirkyalone and would like to win this book, leave a comment!

I don't know how someone needs a 'how-to' on going to the movies alone. You just go. Its like, "Oh, I want to see World War Z, what time does it start? What time is it now? Okay cool" and that should be the end of it.

This is my story and I would love to win this book. I am about to be 56 years old and have never been married. People think any number of things bit I have never heard of this "quirky alone" but think it describes me to a t.

This is me (quirky aloe), although, for some years there, I *didn't* leave the apartment. ;) I would daydream about having a relationship (healthy), but I didn't feel the need to be dating just for the sake of it.

In the past few years, something changed, after I met the one that flipped my lid (I don't know why: I no longer see one attractive thing about him, inside or out). I wanted so badly to be loved, and felt like I was running out of time. having been rejected since then, and just feeling like I'm old, and unattractive, and unlikely to find someone that I like and am attracted to - I gave up. Especially after yet another guy tried to cheat with me, and then all of the stuff with my sister and her now-husband (history of his hitting on me, there). I'm disgusted. I was just reminded of everything that had me feeling much better alone.

I can relate to her most recent post, too. :( I find that I'm throwing myself in at the deep end at times, as I should have been all along, because I feel like I can barely breathe anymore. I don't remember the last time I was actually happy, for more than an hour or two that surprised me out of nowhere.

About the Author

Friends

Harvey: Super beautiful, super funny, super fabulous girlfriend from college and de facto leader of group of friends.Lawyered: Jewish guyfriend from kickball. His new wife is converting.Mel: Oldest friend in the world. Known each other since 13. This enables her to take the tough love response.Swayze: Sports fan and 80's music nut. Former feminine delinquent, he has since turned a pro dater on Match.com--Katie: Longtime girlfriend who was in a relationship with Schmoozer. Now living with boyfriend.Schmoozer: Extrovert male friend with a stubborn streak.Jenna: Katie's sister. In a relationship with Government Mule.Government Mule: Male friend who's sarcastic, but extremely generous.