Good Safe Words And Interesting Uses In Media

For those of you who are new to the game, a safe word is something the submissive can say to make all play instantly stop. It communicates that they are nearing or at their limits, or there is a problem that the Dominant needs to address.

There is no such thing as a BAD safe word. The only bad thing would be engaging in any BDSM game (light or otherwise) without one – and do not listen to those who say you “don’t need one.”

A GOOD safe word is something clear, easy to remember, and something you wouldn’t normally shout out in the middle of pillow play.

SOME COMMON SAFE WORDS

Most candidates on the list are no-brainers…

Stop, No, Safe Word, Safe, and Mercy. Even Red and Yellow are understandable because of the traffic light association.

Then we get into the next biggest category – FRUIT.

Specifically, Pineapple, Banana, Apple, and Orange.

Why are they popular? They are easy to remember, AND they are certainly not a word you would expect to hear, hence their effectiveness in making the top pay attention.

Finally, the odd kids of the family – Oklahoma, and Purple.

THE REDDIT THEORY:“Once you’ve hit Oklahoma, you know the good times are over.”

UNIQUE SAFEWORDS: Beetlejuice, Foliage, and Justin Beiber.

SAFEWORDS IN MOVIES AND TV

There are plenty of movies and tv shows that touch on this idea (some serious, some joking).

If you’re at work, and can’t watch (NSFW), don’t worry. I’ve included a quick overview of the scene.

“BANANA” FROM FAMILY GUY

THE RUNDOWN – Lois and Peter are having a responsible and highly “parental” conversation regarding their concerns about kids and drugs in school … all the while getting decked out in their BDSM gear.

“Flüggåɘnk∂čhiœßøl∫ên.” FROM EURO TRIP

THE RUNDOWN – The horniest member of the group runs to a dungeon in Amsterdam, where head Dominatrix (played by Lucy Lawless) passes him a paper with the safe word … which he ignores. When the sexy ladies leave, the male doms come out, and the scariness begins, Copper mispronounces the safe word.

The end result has him limping home. Obviously, it’s a poor example of SSC (safe, sane, consensual) practices and something a professional Dom would never let happen, but it’s still good for a giggle.

INSTANCES IN COMPUTER GAMES

Examples: Dishonored, Saints Row, Payday2, and Magicka(which is hilarious because Magicka is the least sexual game you could ever play, aside from candy crush or something. Remember, the safety word is “Banana”.)

However, Dragon Age: Inquisition is by far the most positive.

In the fantasy RPG, Dragon Age, you can choose which character you want to romance – and there is always some sort of sex/making love scene that follows. In my first playthrough, I chose the big, bulky warrior…

The scene that made me smile most was where they discussed “watchwords” (aka safe words) after one of their romps in bed – talking about the other characters in the game and what words these people might choose if they were in similar situations. The humorous aspects won’t be there unless you’ve played the game, but it’s still interesting to watch.