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i agree with mommy style. i do take a break when i feel exasperated at home. and as much as possible, i don't go home immediately when i'm still in my work mode. dapat naka-relax muna ako before i leave the office kahit 10 minutes lang. then, i tend to daydream while commuting para pagdating sa bahay, relaxed na ang mind ko.

but there are really instances, that i'm irritable especially when the kids get too noisy and things are not well with hubby. i just go to the bathroom and take a bath.

This once happened to me and I want to scream "I hate you all". It was a rare moment na nagkasabay-sabay silang lahat. I was nursing my little boy to sleep when my panganay kept screaming for me for some petty thing. This woke up her small brother causing him to cough and vomit on the bed and my hubby scolding me in the middle of it all. I swear I want to walk out and have a drink. Kaya lang baka pagsarhan ako ng gate, hindi na ako makauwi. I took it on my panganay and scolded her bad that she cried herself to sleep and I didn't care. When everyone's asleep and my baby bfeeding making me feel like a cow again, I swear I want to tie them all up and set the house on fire. We'll all see each other in hell. Tinulog ko na lang ang galit ko.

Looking back after a few weeks, I keep thinking how I could've managed the situation. I talked to a friend a week after which I think is good kasi I was composed na, rather than call her immediately, baka kung ano pa ang makuwento ko na ikasasama ng sarili at family ko. She told me I had a breakdown. I do believe that I snapped that night.

Another good thing I did the day after is to apologize to my panganay. I explained how a grown-up's mind works when we get a mix of bad feelings. We worry a lot because we have things to do (responsibiities) and we get angry for bad things we didn't want to happen. That when all these feelings come together, we can't think straight and we say things we don't think about. I know what she did was wrong but it doesn't deserve a major scolding if not for the other situations. I promised her that I will do my best next time for me to be stronger to win over the bad feelings (prayer ko din yun siyempre).

When I took a Red Cross seminar (as I remember it), we were told of 4 situations we need to assess. 1) minor injury2) serious injuries3) life and death case (no breathing and/or no heartbeat)4) victim already deadIn an emergency situation like a house burning, sinong uunahin mo? The answer is no.3. No matter how loud the screaming of the dead victim's family, wala ka nang magagawa, patay na yon. Nos 1 and 2 can wait.

In my situation, what I should have done is:1) deal with the vomitting baby first2) tell my panganay to help herself because I can't3) ignore my husband

For nos 2 and 3, I can make up for it the day after. I'm not superman today, but I can be tomorrow when the kryptonite is gone. Loving yourself helps a lot but I think in your situation, deal with the things that stresses you. Bawasan mo ang responsibilities mo at work if that's what causing your stress. Say no to people (other than your own family) who is demanding too much from you. Put off housework that can wait, wala namang magi-inspect.

Lesson learned:1) learn how to say no or at least "I'm sorry I can't help you right now."2) ask for help. You'll be helping yourself if you tell your husband how he can help or worsten the situation. "Darling, hindi kita mapakinggan kapag pagod ako kasabay ng iyak ng bata..."3) take a deep breath and say to yourself "here we go again" and apply the solution you have thought of after the last time this happened.4) assess the situation. 4a) Ano ba ang mas importante ngayon (as in this very minute), ipahinga muna yung pagod ko o yung pinupuntirya ng anak/asawa ko?4b) Ano ba ang puwede kong ipagpaliban muna?5) admit to yourself and let husband know na nangyayari talaga ang ganitong situation and you should have some form of plan to avoid and to handle this (ang daling sabihin ano?). Kung wala man, at least napagusapan ninyo and it will flashback should it happen again.

Hayyyy, so hindi lang pala ako ang ganito, hmmmppp, kasi tao tayo hindi ROBOT. I've been there many times. Imagine, i have 3 boys without yaya, but that's my choice. Nandun may nagkalat ng toys, nag-suka at may nagkalat ng *ae, super bad trip ako, madalas yan mang-yari, pero what i did, I assessed myself already that its gonna happen again and again and again. Kaya when it happens again, i calmly do the chores instead of crying while shouting in distressed. And because of my shouting attitude with matching bad words coming out from my mouth, my MIL noticed it, i felt ashamed also for my children. Since that noticing happen, i prayed a lot to God to guard my heart and my mouth. Since i prayed, i become more patient to my children. Prayers really help a lot, just pray sis.

@mommyjazz - i learned a lot.. thanks! i've been experiencing so much stress lately (w/ work, w/ my partner, w/ my kids) and i'm very guilty kasi i know i'm not handling it properly... there was one time that i really broke down. i felt that i wasn't being a good worker, mom & partner... so yun, i shouted, i cried, i just completely shut down... nagkulong ako sa room... afterwards, ang una kong kinausap are my kids then my partner & i talked as well... i don't know... i just don't want that to happen again...

just want to share... may binigay sa amin na leaflet sa office "Stress Management"... one way to manage stress is to change stressful situations - "there may be a need to leave a job or a relationship"... mga sis, take note, this was quoted from Stress Management for Dummies!