Abortion Issues

So, I asked my boyfriend to watch our son so I could have a day to myself and he doesn't want to. His main reason why? He doesn't think he should since he wanted an abortion. He feels that on certain things he shouldn't be responsible for his son because he didn't want him in the world. I told him while I was pregnant and after that he could leave whenever he wants to but he claims that he wants to be with me and with his son. This doesn't make any sense to me, I tired of hearing how I ruined his life and I'm thinking of leaving him. Does anybody have any suggestions/ideas?

So, I asked my boyfriend to watch our son so I could have a day to myself and he doesn't want to. His main reason why? He doesn't think he should since he wanted an abortion. He feels that on certain things he shouldn't be responsible for his son because he didn't want him in the world. I told him while I was pregnant and after that he could leave whenever he wants to but he claims that he wants to be with me and with his son. This doesn't make any sense to me, I tired of hearing how I ruined his life and I'm thinking of leaving him. Does anybody have any suggestions/ideas?

I cat see how you are staying with you who even has the nerve to talk to you lie that. I guess its a good thing he was there with you during the pregnancy because mines isnt man enough to stick around but really are you even happy know you are with a man who doesnt want responsibility for his own blood that he helped you to make cause you didnt do it on your own. One thing I have learned from experience is sweetheart when you are tired of a man you dont proclaim you tired you do something about it.

I cat see how you are staying with you who even has the nerve to talk to you lie that. I guess its a good thing he was there with you during the pregnancy because mines isnt man enough to stick around but really are you even happy know you are with a man who doesnt want responsibility for his own blood that he helped you to make cause you didnt do it on your own. One thing I have learned from experience is sweetheart when you are tired of a man you dont proclaim you tired you do something about it.

Hmm...that's tough! I personally would not be able to stay with a man that talked to me or about our child that way. Even if you don't end your relationship completely you might want to think of taking some time apart where he can hopefully grow up. If the behavior doesn't stop what is going to happen when your son hear's him say something like that? How will you explain to your child that your boyfriend/his father says he should of been an abotion. No one can tell you what to do but there is something really wrong with a man who would say that about his own child! I wish you luck and hope everything works out.

Hmm...that's tough! I personally would not be able to stay with a man that talked to me or about our child that way. Even if you don't end your relationship completely you might want to think of taking some time apart where he can hopefully grow up. If the behavior doesn't stop what is going to happen when your son hear's him say something like that? How will you explain to your child that your boyfriend/his father says he should of been an abotion. No one can tell you what to do but there is something really wrong with a man who would say that about his own child! I wish you luck and hope everything works out.

this man makes no sense at all...he wants to be with you and your son but yet says he shouldn't have to watch HIS son b/c he wanted you to have an abortion? I'm sorry hun but you need to get rid of this guy...if he can't even watch his son...what kind of father does that make him? Beside that, I would fear for my son's safety if he has clearly stated he didn't want the child in the first place...just be careful.

this man makes no sense at all...he wants to be with you and your son but yet says he shouldn't have to watch HIS son b/c he wanted you to have an abortion? I'm sorry hun but you need to get rid of this guy...if he can't even watch his son...what kind of father does that make him? Beside that, I would fear for my son's safety if he has clearly stated he didn't want the child in the first place...just be careful.

well if was you, just ignore him when he talks like that. he has to deal with it. i know its hurts to hear someone say that especially a person you are about. i have been told things by my bd. he told me to have an abortion cause he was mad and dont want to be put on child support. so i have a jerk as a bd. men say stupid things especailly ones that have not grown up yet. that baby is a blessing to have. he needs to be responsible and help out. i can say us women are stronger then these men these days.

well if was you, just ignore him when he talks like that. he has to deal with it. i know its hurts to hear someone say that especially a person you are about. i have been told things by my bd. he told me to have an abortion cause he was mad and dont want to be put on child support. so i have a jerk as a bd. men say stupid things especailly ones that have not grown up yet. that baby is a blessing to have. he needs to be responsible and help out. i can say us women are stronger then these men these days.

My sons "father" told me that once and I told him to @#$% off!! And he doesnt see him anymore. If thats the way that he really feels then you need to leave. It will only get worse. He will start to resent you and your son. Its not a good situation to be in.

As far as why acts this way. He is your typical man! He wants to have his cake and eat it too..so to speak. He wants to have a family without having any responsibility. You desreve and your son deserve to have a man in your life who will support and care for the both of you (and i dont just mean financially) But i am sure that you will make the decision that is right for both you and your son.. Believe me I know that making those decisions isnt easy!

My sons "father" told me that once and I told him to @#$% off!! And he doesnt see him anymore. If thats the way that he really feels then you need to leave. It will only get worse. He will start to resent you and your son. Its not a good situation to be in.

As far as why acts this way. He is your typical man! He wants to have his cake and eat it too..so to speak. He wants to have a family without having any responsibility. You desreve and your son deserve to have a man in your life who will support and care for the both of you (and i dont just mean financially) But i am sure that you will make the decision that is right for both you and your son.. Believe me I know that making those decisions isnt easy!

If I were in your shoes, I'd tell him that you didn't have an abortion and the child is alive and how can he resent your child for being alive. You should ask him to make a decision.. either he be with you and your child and stop using the "i didn't want the baby" card, or leave you guys. He can't be with you guys and saying that!

If I were in your shoes, I'd tell him that you didn't have an abortion and the child is alive and how can he resent your child for being alive. You should ask him to make a decision.. either he be with you and your child and stop using the "i didn't want the baby" card, or leave you guys. He can't be with you guys and saying that!

OMG girl! i cant believe he said that. What i would do, is exactly what i did with my daughter's father: drop that loser, put his ass on child support, and just tell him to go to hell! How dare he say something like that! i wouldn't even want my kid around that donor. Fine, he didnt want the baby but thats no reason to take it out on the baby. It feels really good to plant the seeds, but when the flowers grow the men want to cry about it. Hun, you or your baby dont deserve that, you deserve better. Dont be afraid to be a single mom either. I did it and my baby is 4 now, and my life style is waaay better than that loser's is alone. I make more cash than him, have a car and my own place. You dont need him, there's plenty of other good guys out there. Good luck =)

OMG girl! i cant believe he said that. What i would do, is exactly what i did with my daughter's father: drop that loser, put his ass on child support, and just tell him to go to hell! How dare he say something like that! i wouldn't even want my kid around that donor. Fine, he didnt want the baby but thats no reason to take it out on the baby. It feels really good to plant the seeds, but when the flowers grow the men want to cry about it. Hun, you or your baby dont deserve that, you deserve better. Dont be afraid to be a single mom either. I did it and my baby is 4 now, and my life style is waaay better than that loser's is alone. I make more cash than him, have a car and my own place. You dont need him, there's plenty of other good guys out there. Good luck =)

He helped make that child. Killing what is inconvenient is not an adult choice (in MY opinion). Give him an ultimatum- accept and love this child and help care for him, or get the hell out of your way while you do so. He's being immature and irrational.

He helped make that child. Killing what is inconvenient is not an adult choice (in MY opinion). Give him an ultimatum- accept and love this child and help care for him, or get the hell out of your way while you do so. He's being immature and irrational.

Forgive me if this sounds blunt...but i'd have a serious talk with this guy. Keep it short and simple - "You say you want to be in my life as well as our son's. If you want that to happen, you need to start taking responsibility for our son and help me out. If you're unwilling to do this, sorry, but I need to move on."

Honestly, it's the dumbest excuse i've ever heard! "I shouldn't have to help because I wanted you to have an abortion."?!?! Holy moron batman! You have WAY too many other important things to worry about my friend...tell this guy to get on the bandwagon or dumb his sorry butt!

Forgive me if this sounds blunt...but i'd have a serious talk with this guy. Keep it short and simple - "You say you want to be in my life as well as our son's. If you want that to happen, you need to start taking responsibility for our son and help me out. If you're unwilling to do this, sorry, but I need to move on."

Honestly, it's the dumbest excuse i've ever heard! "I shouldn't have to help because I wanted you to have an abortion."?!?! Holy moron batman! You have WAY too many other important things to worry about my friend...tell this guy to get on the bandwagon or dumb his sorry butt!

He is a jerk you can do bad by yourself. I would leave him take him for child support and everything else if he didnt want kids he should have been responsible enough to protect his self (condoms, sounds familiar better yet vasectomy) he is selfish and he dont deserve either one of you girl take my advice leave his ass

He is a jerk you can do bad by yourself. I would leave him take him for child support and everything else if he didnt want kids he should have been responsible enough to protect his self (condoms, sounds familiar better yet vasectomy) he is selfish and he dont deserve either one of you girl take my advice leave his ass

A man who can say that, can do something to hurt your child in the future especially when it comes to being ordered to pay child support.... so PLEASE be very careful with this situation. PLEASE

I would totally leave him however, I raised my oldest on my own. I did a damn fine job too if I may brag. He sounds like he is regretting what happened, and you don't want your child raised around that type of attitude. You don't want your child subjected to that type of talk and to hear that he "wasn't wanted".

Screw it, pack your ****, and get the hell out on your own. I hope you have family or friends to fall back on. And apply to get that child support ASAP, but PLEASE becareful with him around that baby....

A man who can say that, can do something to hurt your child in the future especially when it comes to being ordered to pay child support.... so PLEASE be very careful with this situation. PLEASE

I would totally leave him however, I raised my oldest on my own. I did a damn fine job too if I may brag. He sounds like he is regretting what happened, and you don't want your child raised around that type of attitude. You don't want your child subjected to that type of talk and to hear that he "wasn't wanted".

Screw it, pack your ****, and get the hell out on your own. I hope you have family or friends to fall back on. And apply to get that child support ASAP, but PLEASE becareful with him around that baby....

Tell him that he needs to step up or step aside. Whether or not he wanted an abortion is beside the point, he has a son and he needs to step up and take responsibility for him like a man. So if he won't do that, then he needs to step aside so that you can live your life and give your son a better life. Maybe even give your son a good male role model. That's it. Those are the only two options in my book. Just my two cents though.

Tell him that he needs to step up or step aside. Whether or not he wanted an abortion is beside the point, he has a son and he needs to step up and take responsibility for him like a man. So if he won't do that, then he needs to step aside so that you can live your life and give your son a better life. Maybe even give your son a good male role model. That's it. Those are the only two options in my book. Just my two cents though.

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