Recovering from an affair - Making your marriage work again

Affairs destroy marriages. When discovered, an affair rips apart
all sense and reason in the betrayed spouse. As a wife who has
undergone such a soul-crushing event, you may think that there
is no hope – but there is: The right state of mind can help
you see things from a new perspective and accept the state of
your relationship to start building it again.

Recovering from an affair and making your marriage work after
an affair is possible. Even with the amount of pain, distrust
and betrayal that you feel – there is life after an affair.

An unfaithful husband and a betrayed wife can still reach a
better married life. It just takes a lot of work from both parties
and an ample time to heal. There is no shortcut or easy way
around it. There should be no illusions to recovering from an
affair. It will be difficult and will take time.

When a couple makes the effort to fix their marriage, it is important for both to focus
on renewing their bonds. The goal is not to get back to where
you were before the affair. You want to take the relationship
into a better and more fulfilling place.

Recognizing what happened is very important if you want to
make your marriage work. As the betrayed party, you should take
time to grieve and recognize the existence of pain.

You may
feel that support from your unfaithful husband is unacceptable.
If you feel this way, it is better to get support from your
close friends and family.

Your husband should also to take responsibility
for the affair. He should apologize and take measures to never
commit infidelity again. He should show remorse and prove to
you that he regrets cheating on you.

He should never blame YOU
for the affair. This is unfair, as well as unhelpful to fixing
the marriage.

After recognizing what happened, the next step is to accept
it. This goes for both parties.

As the betrayed spouse, you
should take time to accept what your husband did. However, this
does not mean being a doormat. This means seeing the bigger
picture and realizing what is more important to you, which is
your marriage.

At the same time, the unfaithful husband should
also accept that what he did is wrong. Your husband must show
and prove that he is repentant.

Foremost is stopping the affair
completely. Whether it was a sexual or an emotional extramarital
affair, the unfaithful spouse needs to end it instantly. This
means no more contact. Your husband also needs to come clean
with the details. If you ever doubt his honesty, it will not
come to any good.

Once both of you have accepted the situation, it is time
for you to take the time and forgive. This is a very
important step because recovering from an affair hinges on it and some
couples do not get past this stage.

Forgiveness is also a two-way
process. In order for this to work, your unfaithful husband
should empathize with you. Your husband should understand that
you will feel mixed emotions like anger, doubt and pain.

As
the betrayed party, you may have mixed feelings about continuing
the marriage or not. You may be prone to fits of blaming yourself
and bouts of self-pity. You may keep wondering what went wrong
with the marriage and why your husband cheated on you.

Your
husband should realize that these mixed emotions and endless
questions are natural. He should learn to understand your feelings
and be patient about it. He should also not expect an easy and
quick forgiveness. He should realize that forgiveness should
be given freely and at the right time as determined by you alone.

When all this is done by your husband, you will have an easier
time recovering. The marriage will have the positivity it needs
to heal and you can then start on the journey for the better.

Earning your trust and learning to trust again is vital if
you want to save your marriage. This can take months, or even
years.

It is not easy. It must be a constant effort from the
unfaithful husband on being honest and sincere in fixing the
marriage. It is accepting that the marriage may be threatened
again but the couple will trust that they can make it work.

As the betrayed spouse, it may be difficult for you to trust
your husband again. However, if you want to make your marriage
work, you should learn to let go of all doubts and fears. Let
go of the past and welcome your future with your husband. Continue
your commitment to each other and to your marriage.

Almost 40% of married couples have experienced an extramarital
affair in their relationships by the time they hit 40. Many
of these marriages end in divorce, career disaster and broken
families. However, given ample time, recovering from an affair
is still possible. You and your husband can survive and eventually
thrive in a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

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Can YOUR marriage survive your cheating husband's
affair?

Yes... it can. Just like thousands of other couples, you can avoid divorce
after an affair by working together through a marriage-healing plan. You follow
the right steps... in the right order... and end up with a marriage stronger
than it ever was before the infidelity.

Recent studies show divorce doesn't make women happier. And besides that,
if you never work through the trust issues caused by the affair you'll later
find it impossible to trust the next man you get close to.

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