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“The Lee County (Ala.) Sheriff’s Department came up with an elaborate way to catch more than a dozen deadbeat parents: tell them to show up at a location in Opelika and claim tickets to this year’s Auburn-Alabama game. Operation “Iron Snare” didn’t round up all the suspects deputies were looking for, but it got quite a few. They mailed out over 140 letters for people with at least $10,000 of unpaid child support. It just goes to prove, in the state of Alabama, they’ll do anything, often without thinking about it…in order to get tickets to their version of a holy war.”

Comments (76)

lorelaismom07 said on 07-10-2012

Its pretty funny that once theres something in it for them they come running. And to Jack boot its a damn shame that a solider is treated that way, and I am sorry to hear that its dispicable, thank you for your service. HOWEVER why do your children have to suffer? There are states in this country, such as arizona I believe, that do no enforcement what so ever so maybe theres an alternative to living in a foreign country…. and its men who pull stunts like yours that give non-custodial parents a bad name and that makes child support authority necessary for women like me to get any assistance, if it wasn’t for child support authority I would recieve nothing, NOTHING I go through child support because he demnds to be a part of my kids life but never never never has done a damn thing about it and I have begged and begged for him to visit to see her to move from texas back to wyoming and he could be apart of her life, I’ve gone out of my way to make the last year easy as possible for him (fyi my daughter is 5 hes only been around for a year, if it hadnt been for csa he would still be out there living, well the same life he lives now but with $200 more in his pocket every other month) I use the money I get on doing things with my daughter I dont depend on it because theres only a matter of time before it stops BUT if he wants to threaten to take custody and tell me how much he loves his daughter though he hasnt seen her since last christmas nor has he tried to get in touch with her since april though all lines of communication are open and I have told him repeatedly he were to visit he would have access to her, then he can contribute to her, if he would admit he wants out then I’d call it even and wish him the best and finally be able to sleep at night knowing theres no way I’ll be served with custody payments from a man who doesnt even know the childs dob, but its men like him who prattle on about being a father and loving their kid and bad mouthing the mother whos only ever wanted her child to have a healthy happy relationship with their father, that make child support authority a necessary evil until the majority is men stepping up and contributing ON THEIR OWN rather than via a court order.

lorelaismom07 said on 07-10-2012

oh and to “thewhole truth” when I met the father of my baby his was in college and working NOW he is a pot smoking alcoholic bum who specifically avoids work so as to avoid real life responsibility with the excuse that he “cant afford” to come see his daughter and rather than moving to find a job nearby that he is trained educated experienced and therefore qualified for that would allow him to spend two solid weeks a month with my five year old his excuse for that is he “just doesnt want to move” but I guess magically should have seen that coming eh? ANd for the record there are plenty of women take responsibility for their lives (aint that right mr Romney) I worked two jobs while i was pregnant and have worked everyday the last five years, its only been last year that the other party has even admitted to being a father at all, spose I shoulda seen that one coming too.

molckc said on 11-10-2012

DEION Sanders court ordered to pay 10,500 in child support and hasn’t paid a dime. His wife just her utilities shut off! 3 kids in tow! He’s NOT a role model

nontoxic007 said on 26-11-2012

that was awesome! I am so proud of the The Lee County (Ala.) Sheriff’s Department

CharlotteGraciemom said on 27-11-2012

@Jack Boot, I have read several of your posts, I am shocked and saddened you hardly even mentioned you children at all, You reap what you sow and all that you are going to end up with are children who despise you, and money. And when you are old and frail and the money is gone, you will have nobody. May god have mercy on you.

Jack Boot said on 13-12-2012

To all my “wellwishers” and friends, a warm FU in the A from sunny SE Asia. Please, please, do NOT waste your prayers on me.

Some people here talk about karma, like they know what it is. Karma is you not getting you “child” support when you were thinking you were going to just be a stay-at-home mom, eat bon-bons on the couch, and watch soaps all day, while that hapless brute of ex-husband pays you child support, and alimony, and your legal bills, and takes care of the kids for you to slut around with college students. Wrong thinking, on so many levels.
The truth is that most women initiate divorce when they get bored of the husband, or they get some bad advice from some jealous feminist “friend”, or they “fall in love” with some tall handsome stranger.
At any rate, this is a self-inflicting wound, ladies, and you must now sleep in the bed that you laid.

You seen, men got wise to your trickery, and are obviously reacting to your actions. My refusal to pay child support, in an excessive amount, to the state, is an act of civil disobedience. I don’t know if you can wrap up your mind around this concept, since you are the recipient of this benefit. You can’t claim ignorance of the injustice of the child support system, either. All you have to do is google it. So you are knowing partners in injustice perpetrated against men. You should be so ashamed of yourselves, but obviously, this feeling is not existent with the new, entitled woman.

The results are obvious: more delinquent children growing up without fathers, more single-parent families living at the edge of poverty, dependent on government assistance, more hatred between genders. Why? Because of your greed and misplaced anger, enforced by state authority. Well, men are sick and tired of this state of affairs. So, most of us decided to boycott your doings by refusing to pay. What are going to do about it? Maybe, change the way you do business?
Young men are learning about the perils of child support and divorce from their older relatives, their friends and the internet. Recently, a man was freed from jail after 14 years, because he couldn’t pay his ex-wife 2.2 million dollars, the money was simply not there. So men get scared when they hear things like that, and refuse to marry you and even to date you. Once you have children, you are a danger to unmarried men, so they do not want to have anything to do with you. Men want to be their own kids’ fathers, not some surrogate parent.
Another thing you should consider is not having children if you can’t afford them. Honestly ask your men if they want that 3rd or 4th child. You as women get validated by your children, but men have to support them with the sweat of their brow. You, as women, can stop a pregnancy through the birth control methods available. Stop blaming men.

And finally, we need you to do away with the no-fault divorce. It is either till death do us part, or none at all. There is no middle ground. It is a serious commitment, and you should fight to make it such. No-fault divorce imposes a large penalty on men, as the property is unevenly divided, if hardly at all. In my case, our property was not divided at all, the ex took 100% of all marital property – a furnished house, two cars, all liquid assets? I didn’t ask for divorce. It was forced upon me for “no-fault”.

Another thing that needs to end is ex-parte restraining orders. You have the gall to throw the man that is paying for the mortgage out of his own house? Blaming him for shouting at you? Maybe there’s some good reason. You are afraid because the husband caught you cheating? Maybe wasting family resources on nonsense? And you want him (because the police always arrest HIM) out of his own house when YOU don’t have a job? How smart is that? Better make your mate decisions wisely, listen to your parents in doing so, and he should listen to his parents. Better meet him at the library, not in the bar. Better understand his needs. Don’t get smarter than your husband. And you will be friends forever. But if you listen to your girlfriends, and heed the advice of lawyers, you will end up in a world of confrontation and violence.

timidlady said on 13-12-2012

Jack,

There are ways a man can prevent a woman from having a baby that don’t require her consent or even her knowledge for that matter. This is not entirely a woman’s decision. I feel really sad for you that you feel you don’t have any control over what a woman does with her body. The decision is yours, too. Here’s a run down of your birth control options (starting with abstinence, since that is the obvious and most easy). You can also use condoms, participate in sexual acts which don’t require vaginal contact. You can also talk to your doctor about a vasectomy and they are developing a male birth control pill that might be available by now. I don’t have the answer to that.

Sometimes divorce is necessary. Are you saying a woman should be forced to stay in a marriage with someone who is abusive? Or a man for that matter?

Divorces are difficult to obtain and marriage is easy. Maybe we have that process backwards. Maybe the process of marriage should be difficult and divorce easy because then the people getting married aren’t just lust and crushes. And people getting divorces who are abused, can. And will escape their abuser without any trouble at all.

Good luck to you in your endeavors. I am a payee in my child support case. I have never been behind paying. I always fight for my son, even when the judge seems against me. I would never run from my son. And when I am done raising him I’ll cry with relief to be released from this whole situation.

timidlady said on 13-12-2012

Jack,

There are ways a man can prevent a woman from having a baby that don’t require her consent or even her knowledge for that matter. This is not entirely a woman’s decision. I feel really sad for you that you feel you don’t have any control over what a woman does with her body. The decision is yours, too. Here’s a run down of your birth control options (starting with abstinence, since that is the obvious and most easy). You can also use condoms, participate in sexual acts which don’t require vaginal contact. You can also talk to your doctor about a vasectomy and they are developing a male birth control pill that might be available by now. I don’t have the answer to that.

Sometimes divorce is necessary. Are you saying a woman should be forced to stay in a marriage with someone who is abusive? Or a man for that matter?

Divorces are difficult to obtain and marriage is easy. Maybe we have that process backwards. Maybe the process of marriage should be difficult and divorce easy because then the people getting married aren’t just lust and crushes. And people getting divorces who are abused, can. And will escape their abuser without any trouble at all.

Good luck to you in your endeavors.

IHateFreakingLosers said on 13-12-2012

I remember when I used to get CS on a regular basis, it paid for my child to go to an afterschool martial arts academy. Of course, when my exhusband got out of the military and stopped making payments, I had to take my child out of that program because I couldn’ t afford it anymore.

There are woman out there who truly aren’t worth a damn..They see dollar signs and a meal ticket when they get pregnant or when they get divorced. Unfortunately, they own up to the phrase “Baby Mama Drama.” But there are actually women out there who work full time, and try to raise their children without help from sperm donors. It’s not easy raising a child on your own. It’s even harder when you have to pay for full time daycare. That money could be used for so many other necessities for the children. For me, I never asked for alimony or a big CS amount.Even though I would have had no problem getting those. I just asked for enough to pay for childcare.

Like I said, I’m not receiving anything right now because my child’s father stopped paying. I proudly work for a living and I don’t receive federal or state assistance. It’s frustrating around Christmas time because I can’t afford to do for my child as I would like. I don’t regret my divorce, as it was unfortunately necessary.

Bare in mind, I have seen both sides of CS. Mama is having a hard time making ends meet. It takes Daddy a long time to recover after a Divorce. Alot of men don’t have high paying jobs and then child support leaves them with 1/2 of their pay to live on. Which can,in turn, cause daddy to not pay because he can’t afford it. Really… anything is better than nothing. Every little bit helps.

I wish everyone the best!

IHateFreakingLosers said on 13-12-2012

I would also like to add this..

The thing that bothers me about my CS issue is that I have raised my child without assistance from my ex-husband or government assistance. He refuses to work and sadly mooches off of unsuspecting women. He is capable of working and would be capable of paying his child support since he lives with others. He has no children to raise on his own, so any man in the same situation cannot use the excuse of not being able to afford CS. That, in my book, is a true deadbeat. Someone capable of paying but refuses to. I haven’t mentioned the fact that he is a pathalogical liar, grandiose, and I would guarentee that he would probably be diagnosed with a personality disorder if he were to be evaluated. Sadly because of those reasons, I have had to interfere with the little contact he’s had with our child. Stay safe!

Jack Boot said on 14-12-2012

Greetings to all the fine ladies who ask why do the children have to sufferer, etc. etc. I am sacrificing my lunch hour to clarify a few points.

When a woman with dependents asks for any type of federal help, the child support automatically becomes enforced by state and federal laws. The woman must declare who the father is. Otherwise, she does not get benefits.

Theoretically, in the course of a divorce, a couple can agree on child support, but the judge can overrule and put in the number he sees fit. Judges can impute income to a non-custodial parent based on previous earnings, and completely disregard the situation at the time of the divorce.

Another thing that happened to me is that, while I was away from home (for close to a year), the ex filed for a restraining order (that was never served). She claimed that she was afraid I was coming home. So, what this did was 1) It froze all the joint accounts against me and 2) Forbade any personal contact with the ex and the children, even by phone.
So, the only communication channel could have been between her lawyer (which she promptly hired) and the non-existent lawyer that I could not hire even if I wanted, because I was left a pauper with money in the bank. Of course, the lawyer pushed for irrational amounts of child support, alimony, legal fees and health insurance. I was penniless, living at my parents’ house, (for whose support I want to publicly thank) and working a part-time school bus driver, which is all I could immediately find as I moved to the state where my parents lived. Financially, we went from $5,000 + / month to $450/mo. because the ex wanted a divorce, and I couldn’t do anything to stop it, as we now have no-fault divorce.

Keep in mind, I did not think it was a good idea to have a second child, since at that time our finances were extremely shaky, but she forced the issue, refused sex unless for procreation, refused the use of condom, and generally behaved as a harpy until she got what she wanted, a second child. So please tell me, as a husband, what was I supposed to do? I did not want more children, but when the boy came, I supported him, equally, until the divorce day.

Regarding the military, she entered the marriage fully aware of the situation, knowing that I have to be gone long stretches at a time. My first tour was Korea, that is a 1-year unaccompanied tour, and she bitched and complained that we were all seeing prostitutes, screwing around, etc. which is the exact opposite of the reality, where we lived on a closed base, and as an officer, I could not commit adultery or fraternize, or get in serious trouble. Besides, the monthly check went directly in the family account, so she can’t say that I hid money from her, either.

So, now you see that once war was declared, I had to fight it, and fight to win. I moved overseas to do my Master’s degree, and I found the environment in that particular country to be quite favorable. I worked during the day, went to school at night, did homework over the weekend. It was easy finding work, and although the salary is small compared to the US, it is enough to feed and house me and my wife. Work here is based on contract – in other words, the total opposite of employee-at-will, where you can be fired at any time for any or no reason. The cost of living is relatively low, but since my wife is relatively advanced in age (57), she can’t work, so we live on one income. Very few luxuries. No car, as it is not necessary. I own a motorbike, but I prefer to go to work by bike.

I just want to say that the ladies that understand the situation are in the minority. The genie, so to speak, is out of the bottle, and the bureaucratic entities meant to enslave (mostly) men have been created and imbued with life. The laws are on the books, and are enforced, as we speak. It requires an effort equal to or greater to revert all the harm that has been done. And it will take a lot of time to heal all the injustice that harmed so many people.

IHateFreakingLosers said on 14-12-2012

I must say that I definitely understand your situation. Too many women marry active duty military without fully understanding the hardship that entails. Being a “brat,” I understood that completely and had no problem adjusting. Sadly there are too many marriages that don’t last because of that. I find it petty, low, and cowardly for those who leave or cheat on any service member while deployed. I detest ppl who do that. It’s so disrespectful. I can take into account for extenuating circumstances i.e. true abusive relationships, but most who hit below the belt don’t even begin to qualify.

I haven’t had the pleasure of receiving government assistance as far as food stamps or what not. The only assistance I had to apply for was CS Enforcement, which I had to apply and pay for. My divorce and custody arrangements were organized by a very costly attorney. My involvement in the case was minimal and non painful since my ex-husband didn’t bother to show up for anything, despite his ability to do so.

I agree that the system is broken. I personally am not impressed with the CS Enforcement system, but I’m sure there are those who didn’t pay for the services who are getting more favorable results than I am. Many of these posts are emotionally driven. Although they make for interesting reading and the general idea of “warning” woman to stay away from this or that is refreshing, I do believe the purpose of the site is to expose ppl who are not paying child support and aid in the location of said “dead beats.” Unfortunately, many posts expose more than just “dead beats.” I’ll just leave it at that..lol

IHateFreakingLosers said on 14-12-2012

I feel that I need to make one thing very clear. Despite the fact that I understand your situation as to how things “went down” with you and the ex wife, Jack, I must say that we all make choices and decisions based on what’s presented to us at the time. The fact that you conceived a baby with her, against your better judgement, was a choice that you made. Whether or not you feel you were forced into the decision does not matter. You made a conscience choice and thus I believe you need to pay what is owed. Your decision to have a baby with her was selfish. You wanted to save your marriage. Unfortunately, you just delayed the inevitable. The simple fact that she forced the issue upon you was a red flag and you should have gotten out while you could. Now, look at how much you owe for that simple blunder. I’m not trying pass judgement in any way. I’m just telling you how I see it.

Live and learn.. KNOW who you’re marrying or sleeping with and take steps to protect yourself from situations you know you can’t handle. Hind sight is 20/20. We need to educate our children to make better decisions and to learn from our mistakes. You can’t fix a relationship by having a baby. If you know someone is not a responsible person, don’t have a baby with that person.

IHateFreakingLosers said on 14-12-2012

“Child Support Recovery Act
In 1992, a law was passed in the United States making it a federal crime to intentionally “not pay a child support obligation for a child living in another state.”

Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act
In 1998, the federal government placed another law into effect to help enforce the Child Support Recovery Act. The Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act states that those parents found guilty of intentionally not paying child support could face criminal penalties such as fines and jail time.

State Involvement
Every state in the United States has a Child Support Enforcement (CSE) Program. Though each state may operate under different laws, all CSE Programs follow federal guidelines. This ensures that enforcement of the federal acts can be enforced and help those families needing child support.
Different states offer different methods of enforcing child support collection. Usually these methods are used prior to the enforcement of the federal criminal procedures.

Income Withholding Orders
An Income Withholding Order (IWO) is the order sent to the parent’s employer stating the amount of child support to withhold from wages earned.
Federal guidelines state that if a parent who owes child support has a job, an IWO should be used as an easy and efficient way to collect the child support obligation.

Federal Penalties Used to Enforce Child Support
As a general rule, when a child support obligation is delinquent more than a year and/or is more than $5,000 past due, federal penalties can be used.
• Federal Tax Refund Interception: If a parent is owed a refund by the federal government but in turn owes delinquent child support, then the refund can be taken. The refund is then applied to the delinquent child support balance.
• Passport Sanction: CSE programs typically assist the federal government by monitoring the amount of delinquent child support owed. When the parent meets the requirement for federal penalties due to delinquent child support, a passport sanction is put into place and is not released until the obligation is paid.
• Contempt of Court: Child support is a court-ordered obligation. When a parent fails to pay child support, he is ignoring a judge’s ruling, which is illegal and taken very seriously. When found in contempt of court, a person may have to pay a fine to the court and serve a jail sentence.”

Contempt of Court – It is possible to file a petition with your local Clerk of Court given certain requirements are met.

FredKlapp said on 01-05-2013

DANVERS,MASSACHUSETTS :
James Pollock is such a deadbeat dad….he is currently going to move out of state to live with his mommy, who has money up the wazzoo. He has taken considerable assets away from his kids and has yet to pay any money to keep them fed, warm, and housed. So far his future ex-wife is scraping by with help from her sister, but when the mortgage and heating bills suffer, where is the fat-ass dad? he could be making a $#!+-load of money, yet refuses to get a job! The unemployment rate is so high in the state of Michigan ( where he’s moving ) compared to Massachuswetts that it’s ludicrous to believe that he would be taking any steps to rectify his situation. As for his business of Fishman Advisors, I wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole ! PAY UP SCUMBAG !

Alabama Mom said on 04-07-2013

Jack Boot you are a disgusting waste of humanity. All that time, effort and energy wasted to avoid supporting your children.

Alabama Mom said on 11-07-2013

Deadbeat parents in the State of Alabama are causing tremendous economic hardship in two ways: by not paying the state the money they owe, and overwhelming entitlement programs. The children they abandon are victims, and they are forced onto Medicaid, free lunch, TANF (welfare), etc. etc. That affects every Alabamian paying taxes. The Sheriff of Lee County should be re-elected. It just goes to show, if he can do it, the other 66 sheriffs can do it.

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santana1 said on 28-08-2013

Jermel Mayers is a deadbeat dad. He has 11 kids all under age ten with one on the way. He don’t have a job so he don’t have to pay child support to the five mothers. He only saw my daughter twice and never helped me out and his family could care less. He had two other women pregnant while I was pregnant. Brooklyn watch out, he is straight garbage.

santana1 said on 28-08-2013

Jermel Mayers is a deadbeat dad. He has 11 kids all under age ten with one on the way. He don’t have a job so he don’t have to pay child support to the five mothers. He only saw my daughter twice and never helped me out and his family could care less. He had two other women pregnant while I was pregnant. Brooklyn watch out, he is straight garbage. He need to stop.

A1ParentShow said on 30-08-2013

@santana1 state to state is hard! If the parents live in other states it is almost imposable to get Child Support. It does take a lawyer and a skipper tracer. So I wish you luck but I doubt you will get anywhere. You might receive Tax refunds but like our “friend” stated many deadbeat parents try to owe.

A1ParentShow said on 30-08-2013

Oops Sorry Santana that post was for another poster asking about state to state claims.

Your issue however is most concerning… did any of the mothers know he was like this? He sounds like a hot mess! Just hurting people with out a bit of concern. I may say many things about my ex but at least he only has one child. Why do people like him male or female do such selfish things? All I think about are the poor kids People need to grow up!

Sher88 said on 21-10-2013

I’m a stupid whore.

Rebeccalb said on 19-03-2014

gf

amandathomson said on 27-03-2015

In the state of Texas, if the deadbeat bounces a check to the OAG, the OAG sends you a letter saying its your responsibility to pay the money back. I am livid. They’ve already allowed JEREMY TROY PRIDDY of Midlothian, Texas to become over $3k behind and now they want money out of me? I know other moms are owed more than this, but can you really put a dollar sign on being in contempt of court and breaking the law?

Whateveryousay said on 12-12-2016

How specifically does the system makes money for its collections from the federal government?

Re- Jack Boot Said On 18-08-2012
“One more thing I should mention, if you do not pay through the child support system, and instead you pay directly to the wife or children, it is to the judge as you didn’t pay at all. That is how the system makes some of its money, as a bonus % of collections from the federal government…”

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