Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

does it ever stop hurting?

The divorce is just about final...all we're waiting on are the papers to be signed. I finally see a light at the end of the tunnel and can start planning a new life (and believe me, there's a lot to plan when you've been a SAHM for 3+ years, don't know where you're going to work, don't know where you're going to live and have to provide a sense of stability for a 3-year old). I'm feeling free, no longer under his thumb, no longer walking on eggshells...and no more lies and deceit. But...when will it stop hurting? Will the pain of infidelity and lies ever go away? Will the questions ever stop (wondering what was real in our marriage and what was just an act?)?

Just hurting today...I want to continue to move forward and heal, but I feel like every time I take a few steps forward, I'm fall back a little because it still hurts so much. And I'm afraid I'm always going to hurt.

(((hugs)))) when this is behind you, the pain will become less and less. Time doesn't seem like our friend but it really is.
start living today and don't put it off til the divorce is final.
Take a class or do something you like now to help prepare you for your future now....enough time has been wasted worrying about the future or all the useless questions about your marriage.
I wish you the best!

Anna I understand completely which is why I have been in a funk the last few days. I was/am a stay at home mom for the last 2 years, and now have been forced to get a job (I really don't want or that pays poorly) just so I could be at home to do homework, have to pay for insurance, find daycare, way too much. I wish I knew when it would stop hurting...they say take it day by day...that is all I can offer. Also, the people on here are great and help with support so much..like an extended family. I wish I could meet some of them for a road trip sometime.

It has to stop hurting at some point. I am usually fine with all of it. then there are the days where I just want to crawl back in to bed and pull the covers over my head. You are strong enough to get through this. You can and will do what needs to be done for your child. Time really does heal us. It's been almost two years since my marraige fell apart, at first I just got up and went through the motions everyday. Now, I am starting to realize how much I was missing when I was in that stage. Hugs

There will be a time when you will stop hurting or the hurting will become more manageable. Like Deb said, it will take time. You heal a little every day. Also, I know how hard it is to do things while you are in the healing process, but start the wheels in motion (again, like Deb said) to prepare yourself for working outside the home.

what was real, you and your child. how you felt was real. and yes yes yes, it does stop hurting in time. i wish there was a switch or time limit, but there isn't. one day at a time. i wish we all the answers we seek. we may never know. all i can say is concentrate on you and your baby. plan, make goals and dreams and then start to work towards them. it's so scary, but your free. you are moving forward and you are in the healing process. it's ok to have sad days. i promise, your not always going to hurt. we are all going to get through this being stronger, healthier and happier. there are reasons why some doors slam shut and others open to greater things. we have to beleive. xoxoxoxoxoxox

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