Narcissists’ True Love: Money

To a narcissist, money isn’t just fancy ink printed on fancy paper…a necessary evil earned and exchanged for services and products. Nay, it’s much, much more.

Security

Like most of us, narcissists see money as security. The ability to go on living, hopefully forever, in the manner to which they are accustomed and keeping up with the Joneses. A generous account balance, a few quid in the mattress, some “safe” investments give them a sense that “all will be well.”

Well, in the United States, money is merely fiat currency. As Wikipedia phrases it, “In monetary economics, fiat money is an intrinsically useless object or record that is widely accepted as a means of payment.” It’s no longer underpinned by gold, silver or any precious item. Cash is just fancy ink on fancy paper. Bank balances are merely numbers on a computer screen.

In other words…money is nothing…nothing but a big, fat numbers game. And nobody, but nobody, plays games better than a narcissist. “Game playing” is their middle name!

Ego

For a narcissist with a good work ethic, playing the numbers game is not just a means to an end. The game is an end in itself, a replacement for their non-existent egos.

The prestige of being Mr. Big Shot is as important to them as the paycheck they receive for playing that role. That’s why they’re apt to rise to the top of their profession. Why? Because they’ve got what it takes and no scruples to stop ’em.

Lying? No problem! After all, narcissists are by nature pathological liars.

Acting confident and know-it-all? A very well-rehearsed act indeed (But you’ll be shocked how inept they truly are if you go through their files. For all their high-falutin’ talk, their workload may actually be a bloody mess! I discovered this first hand! All wind and whitewash.)

With professional accomplishment comes not only monetary gain but the privilege to lord-it-over others. Call the shots. Condescend to their underlings. Play the Head Honcho.

But that comes naturally to narcissists, doesn’t it. I mean, they’re gonna act like the Big Boss, whether they have the position…or not.

Control

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In the quite unlikely event that a narcissist actually gives a monetary gift to a friend or family member, that “gift” comes with invisible strings. The law may state that an intervivos gift is irrevocable, but narcissists have their own set of laws. In their version of reality, the giftee is eternally beholden to them. Bound by golden chains. Obligated to do their bidding. To worship at their altar.

Most importantly, accepting money from a narcissist binds you to eternal blind belief in the false persona they verbally create and impress on your grateful mind. Dare to see through to the real person behind the mask, to peak behind the curtain or, worse yet, tell the truth about them publicly and they will demand the return of their inter vivos gift.

This article is for informational and educational purposes only. Under no circumstances should it be considered therapy nor replace therapy and treatment. If you are feeling suicidal, thinking about hurting yourself, or are concerned that someone you know may be in danger of hurting himself or herself, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). It is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and is staffed by certified crisis response professionals. The content of these blogs and all blogs written by Lenora Thompson are merely her opinion. If you are in need of help, please contact qualified mental health professionals.

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About Lenora Thompson

Lenora Thompson is a syndicated Huffington Post and YourTango freelance writer and Pyrography Artist. Her readers call her the "Edward Snowden" and "Wikileaks" of narcissism because of her no-holds-barred-take-no-prisoners approach to writing about narcissism.
“Narcissism Meets Normalcy” is the real-life, ongoing story of her recent escape from being held “hostage” by a multi-generational, cult-like narcissistic family. It's gritty and real, bloody and bruised, humorous and sarcastic. Lenora Thompson considers herself a “whistleblower,” shining a spotlight on narcissistic abuse so others can also claim their freedom and experience healing.
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