Fell off the bandwagon...

So I had been doing really well at eating healthy 90% of the time since mid June and was feeling great, losing weight. The past week and a half have been awful though- I went on a 5 day car-camping trip with friends and most of the food that was made (we each took turns cooking meals) was really carby, greasy, and sugary. Then it was my friend's bachelorette party and there was a lot of pressure to eat the desserts bought for us and drink really sugary girly drinks the entire evening, and then go out for late night poutine afterwards (I live in Canada, eh). It's been three days since the bachelorette party and I have gained 5 pounds, feel awful, and can't seem to get back into my clean eating groove. I also have a wedding on Friday and then a family reunion over the weekend so there isn't a lot of room for me to control what food I am going to be eating and I am worried that I am going to gain even more weight.

Does anyone have any suggestions for how to say no in situations where you are being pressured to eat treats that you don't want to without seeming like a snob or hurting the people trying to give it you? What if the only options for food are unhealthy?

I went through a crazy stretch this past April, spring break vacation, then right into this odd heavy closed door intensive committee thing, where they were trucking in pizza at midnight to keep us working. It was a very bad 2 weeks, still stands out in my mind as the most gorging I have ever done.

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

You just have to 'stand your ground' so to speak. People will eventually get the idea that you don't want to eat crap. Eventually, they will stop offering or stop looking at you oddly. Let them see how good you look and feel, and set a good example for others.

It's unlikely that you gained 5 pounds of fat. You're probably holding water from the large amounts of carbs and sodium in the processed food and restaurant food.

My weight fluctuates 7-10 pounds at any given time. And when I am not training (so no fluctuation) I weigh 158 and am 5 ft 10 1/2. This is a rather large chunk.... But this is normal in runners. Don't be alarmed. To gain 5 pounds you would have to have a calorie surplus of 17,500 calories. I DOUBT you managed that one. Just enjoy the short splurge (albeit in moderation) and go back to it when you're able to.

I know for me it's not the number sometimes, it's the gross feeling. When I pig out like that I'm not happy about weight, but I think the bigger factor is really that yuck feeling. It might be part mental, but I think when you are doing well and eating healthy, lighter calories, then suddenly go for extra everything, and the extra also involves fat, sugar, salt, grease, then your body just doesn't feel right while it all moves through.

I also have a wedding on Friday and then a family reunion over the weekend so there isn't a lot of room for me to control what food I am going to be eating and I am worried that I am going to gain even more weight.

Unless you are tied down and literally forced to eat, you do have the choice.

"Does anyone have any suggestions for how to say no in situations where you are being pressured to eat treats that you don't want to without seeming like a snob or hurting the people trying to give it you? What if the only options for food are unhealthy?"

My suggestion is this: "No, thank you".

Eat a fulfilling nutritious breakfast, bring some healthy snacks and then you can enjoy a slice of cake without feeling like you have blown the entire day.

All you have to say is say "no, thanks" politely. You don't owe anyone an explanation or an apology.

That said, I wouldn't be too upset. I doubt you've actually gained 5 pounds - weight fluctuates a lot, and a few pounds is well within the normal variation.

Pick one time of day to weigh yourself, preferably a time when a couple of hours will have passed before your last large meal. This will help you get more standard results.

+1. I wouldn't worry too much about 5 lbs. Everyone goes through periods where we don't eat the best we can but we manage to get back on track. I'm sure once your commitments are done you'll be able to get back into the groove of healthy eating.

you just have to play the grouch. if people know you they will forgive you. where i work about 90% of the staff are overweight and they are constantly bringing in sweet stuff like cakes, pies and other nasty stuff like that and then pressure others to eat it to sooth their guilt. i just look at them and say "that stuff is bad for you". last time someone brought in some melted marshmallow popcorn thing with m&m's in it. i called it an abomination and walked away. did get some laughs there. now with beer that's another story

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

Nonsense. She doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. Would you suggest that a recovering alcoholic take "just a sip" to as not to hurt other people's precious feelings? She doesn't have to explain, preach, or scold, but neither does she have to give into any pressure to eat the stuff. If other people have a problem with her polite refusals, it's THEIR problem.

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

Nonsense. She doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. Would you suggest that a recovering alcoholic take "just a sip" to as not to hurt other people's precious feelings? She doesn't have to explain, preach, or scold, but neither does she have to give into any pressure to eat the stuff. If other people have a problem with her polite refusals, it's THEIR problem.

No. Not nonsense. Of course she doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. I was giving her a way to finesse it so she wasn't uncomfortable in a social situation. Whether she takes a bite or not, whether she puts something on her plate.... it's all up to her. Her question indicated that she was uncomfortable in a social situation with sticking to her food and drink choices. I was suggesting an solution.

FYI my DH is a recovering alcoholic and has 15 years of sobriety under his belt. So please refrain from asking me if I would suggest a recovering alcoholic just take a few sips to save other's people's feelings. You don't have a clue and cannot even begin to know how insulting that is to me. The comparision is ridiculous and you knew full well that wasn't what I meant.

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

Nonsense. She doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. Would you suggest that a recovering alcoholic take "just a sip" to as not to hurt other people's precious feelings? She doesn't have to explain, preach, or scold, but neither does she have to give into any pressure to eat the stuff. If other people have a problem with her polite refusals, it's THEIR problem.

No. Not nonsense. Of course she doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. I was giving her a way to finesse it so she wasn't uncomfortable in a social situation. Whether she takes a bite or not, whether she puts something on her plate.... it's all up to her. Her question indicated that she was uncomfortable in a social situation with sticking to her food and drink choices. I was suggesting an solution.

FYI my DH is a recovering alcoholic and has 15 years of sobriety under his belt. So please refrain from asking me if I would suggest a recovering alcoholic just take a few sips to save other's people's feelings. You don't have a clue and cannot even begin to know how insulting that is to me. The comparision is ridiculous and you knew full well that wasn't what I meant.

Go find someone else to argue with today.

It's unfortunate that you felt it necessary to reply with a personal attack, and not for the first time. I flagged your post for the moderators.

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

Nonsense. She doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. Would you suggest that a recovering alcoholic take "just a sip" to as not to hurt other people's precious feelings? She doesn't have to explain, preach, or scold, but neither does she have to give into any pressure to eat the stuff. If other people have a problem with her polite refusals, it's THEIR problem.

No. Not nonsense. Of course she doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. I was giving her a way to finesse it so she wasn't uncomfortable in a social situation. Whether she takes a bite or not, whether she puts something on her plate.... it's all up to her. Her question indicated that she was uncomfortable in a social situation with sticking to her food and drink choices. I was suggesting an solution.

FYI my DH is a recovering alcoholic and has 15 years of sobriety under his belt. So please refrain from asking me if I would suggest a recovering alcoholic just take a few sips to save other's people's feelings. You don't have a clue and cannot even begin to know how insulting that is to me. The comparision is ridiculous and you knew full well that wasn't what I meant.

Go find someone else to argue with today.

It's unfortunate that you felt it necessary to reply with a personal attack, and not for the first time. I flagged your post for the moderators.

I also have a wedding on Friday and then a family reunion over the weekend so there isn't a lot of room for me to control what food I am going to be eating and I am worried that I am going to gain even more weight.

Unless you are tied down and literally forced to eat, you do have the choice.

"Does anyone have any suggestions for how to say no in situations where you are being pressured to eat treats that you don't want to without seeming like a snob or hurting the people trying to give it you? What if the only options for food are unhealthy?"

My suggestion is this: "No, thank you".

Eat a fulfilling nutritious breakfast, bring some healthy snacks and then you can enjoy a slice of cake without feeling like you have blown the entire day.

I agree. A simple "no, thank you" will suffice. When you say that, just move the conversation forward. Usually if you say no a few times, people stop asking. If they're trying to make you feel guilty for not eating, its their problem, not yours.

The five pounds: Its likely water weight from the excess carbs, salt, and alcohol.

I also have a wedding on Friday and then a family reunion over the weekend so there isn't a lot of room for me to control what food I am going to be eating and I am worried that I am going to gain even more weight.

Unless you are tied down and literally forced to eat, you do have the choice.

"Does anyone have any suggestions for how to say no in situations where you are being pressured to eat treats that you don't want to without seeming like a snob or hurting the people trying to give it you? What if the only options for food are unhealthy?"

My suggestion is this: "No, thank you".

Eat a fulfilling nutritious breakfast, bring some healthy snacks and then you can enjoy a slice of cake without feeling like you have blown the entire day.

I agree. A simple "no, thank you" will suffice. When you say that, just move the conversation forward. Usually if you say no a few times, people stop asking. If they're trying to make you feel guilty for not eating, its their problem, not yours.

The five pounds: Its likely water weight from the excess carbs, salt, and alcohol.

Totally. Talking about what we like to eat is fun. Talking about what we don't eat is a big snooze at best and preachy and irritating at worst. :-)

But you move on. Even if you do remain off the wagon because of commitments you just have to climb back on when you can. You can also say "no" without offending. You can also put food on your plate and make a point of not eating all of it, you can try just a sample of everything but not a whole portion, or you can slide the food off to a nearby dog or plant Get through it as best you can then move back into the groove.

While I agree it's a choice and of course you can just say "no", sometimes social situations require a bit more finesse. I understand what you are dealing with. I do the above (not the food in the plant... ha ha!). I take what is offered, take a bite or two and leave it at that. They can't "make" you eat what's given to you. Once you've taken it and satisfied the social niceties, they will most likely leave you alone, not even noticing how much you eat or don't eat.

As far as the drinks.... just get a club soda and lime in a fancy glass and they will be none the wiser. Sometimes it's easier to do this than create a big thing about it.

Nonsense. She doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. Would you suggest that a recovering alcoholic take "just a sip" to as not to hurt other people's precious feelings? She doesn't have to explain, preach, or scold, but neither does she have to give into any pressure to eat the stuff. If other people have a problem with her polite refusals, it's THEIR problem.

No. Not nonsense. Of course she doesn't have to take a single bite of anything she doesn't want to. I was giving her a way to finesse it so she wasn't uncomfortable in a social situation. Whether she takes a bite or not, whether she puts something on her plate.... it's all up to her. Her question indicated that she was uncomfortable in a social situation with sticking to her food and drink choices. I was suggesting an solution.

FYI my DH is a recovering alcoholic and has 15 years of sobriety under his belt. So please refrain from asking me if I would suggest a recovering alcoholic just take a few sips to save other's people's feelings. You don't have a clue and cannot even begin to know how insulting that is to me. The comparision is ridiculous and you knew full well that wasn't what I meant.

Go find someone else to argue with today.

It's unfortunate that you felt it necessary to reply with a personal attack, and not for the first time. I flagged your post for the moderators.

Of course you did.

You might not like what I say (has anyone shown you the "block" function?) but I don't post ad hominem responses. Why would I? Your family's problems are of no interest to me.

As a clean eater this is how I look at it: No food is really inherently bad for you. How often you consume foods that are less than nutritional is what really determines whether or not a diet is healthy.

I have been on a lovely family vacation for almost two weeks. I have eaten more carbs, added, sugar, and drank more alcohol than I should. I've had ice cream, frozen pizza, hamburger helper, probably 2 loaves of zucchini bread (don't judge me), whip cream, beer shakes, potatoes loaded with butter, cream and cheese, lots of pasta, etc. Do I at all think that I have "fallen off the bandwagon"? Absolutely not. Because I never committed to clean eating thinking I was going to eat that way 100% of the time. I don't consider myself unhealthy because on occasion I will consume things I normally would avoid in my daily life.

You need to decide how to live your life. So if you want to eat clean 100% of the time, then you need to suck it up and say no when people encourage you to eat something you don't feel is in your best interests.

But don't feel bad about eating some things less than optimal when #1 you never intended to be clean 100% of the time and #2 are enjoying yourself. I hate it when people say things in argument to your diet choices like "but you have to enjoy yourself" because food is not happiness, food is not enjoyment, and eating poorly is NOT necessary to having a good time or living a quality of life. So again, if you are ok with eating poorly and doing so sometimes makes you happy, don't feel bad. If you are eating poorly when you don't want to and are therefore unhappy start learning to please yourself and say no. It's not selfish, rude, or mean.

When I'm pressured to eat food I don't want to eat, I just say no thank you and don't partake.

I will not however say no when I do want to eat the food lol.

I just went to a friend's wedding recently and I denied having any food at the wedding. I didn't feel bad for it nor did anyone scold me for it. I think feeling bad for saying no is really a fear generated by your mind. It's not rude to say no to food.

As a clean eater this is how I look at it: No food is really inherently bad for you. How often you consume foods that are less than nutritional is what really determines whether or not a diet is healthy.

I have been on a lovely family vacation for almost two weeks. I have eaten more carbs, added, sugar, and drank more alcohol than I should. I've had ice cream, frozen pizza, hamburger helper, probably 2 loaves of zucchini bread (don't judge me), whip cream, beer shakes, potatoes loaded with butter, cream and cheese, lots of pasta, etc. Do I at all think that I have "fallen off the bandwagon"? Absolutely not. Because I never committed to clean eating thinking I was going to eat that way 100% of the time. I don't consider myself unhealthy because on occasion I will consume things I normally would avoid in my daily life.

You need to decide how to live your life. So if you want to eat clean 100% of the time, then you need to suck it up and say no when people encourage you to eat something you don't feel is in your best interests.

But don't feel bad about eating some things less than optimal when #1 you never intended to be clean 100% of the time and #2 are enjoying yourself. I hate it when people say things in argument to your diet choices like "but you have to enjoy yourself" because food is not happiness, food is not enjoyment, and eating poorly is NOT necessary to having a good time or living a quality of life. So again, if you are ok with eating poorly and doing so sometimes makes you happy, don't feel bad. If you are eating poorly when you don't want to and are therefore unhappy start learning to please yourself and say no. It's not selfish, rude, or mean.

When I'm pressured to eat food I don't want to eat, I just say no thank you and don't partake.

I will not however say no when I do want to eat the food lol.

I just went to a friend's wedding recently and I denied having any food at the wedding. I didn't feel bad for it nor did anyone scold me for it. I think feeling bad for saying no is really a fear generated by your mind. It's not rude to say no to food.

If you girls want to do the drama queen thing, maybe you should take your little cat fight over to the opinion forum. You'll find yourselves in similar company.

I spend enough time in opinion and news fora - I come here for running stuff. I just put her on ignore, and hopefully she'll return the gesture. But there is no reason to ignore personal attacks, whether they're directed at you or another user. Moderation here is patchy at best.

Heck, I was poking fun and being sarcastic at the same time. And I was referring to RWOL's opinion forum, which is chock-full of girly-men acting like drama queens. It's worth a visit now and then - for entertainment purposes only.

If you girls want to do the drama queen thing, maybe you should take your little cat fight over to the opinion forum. You'll find yourselves in similar company.

I spend enough time in opinion and news fora - I come here for running stuff. I just put her on ignore, and hopefully she'll return the gesture. But there is no reason to ignore personal attacks, whether they're directed at you or another user. Moderation here is patchy at best.

I was going to let this go, and of course Noga won't see this since she has me on ignore , but I do not put people on ignore. I can take it. I don't mind being criticized, misunderstood or flamed. I don't mind reading viewpoints different than my own. I don't mind giving a viewpoint that others disagree with. I think it's important to continue to engage in order to work out any problems between two people, even on internet forums. I certainly didn't mean to "personally attack" Noga, and am doubtful that what I said falls under that category. Yet it's all subjective, so I could be wrong. It certainly was not my intention.

I dunno man, that's a bit too ascetic of a stance for me. Food sure can be enjoyable, kind of like how sex can be recreational and not just for reproduction.

I didn't say food couldn't be enjoyable. I just said it isn't happiness itself.

I get very frustrated with people who tell me that I need to "just relax and have fun" or "enjoy myself" at times when I don't partake in bad food. As if that means if I didn't eat poorly I wouldn't be enjoying my life.

So yes, eating can be an enjoyable experience, but it is not the end all be all of life.

I dunno man, that's a bit too ascetic of a stance for me. Food sure can be enjoyable, kind of like how sex can be recreational and not just for reproduction.

I didn't say food couldn't be enjoyable. I just said it isn't happiness itself.

I get very frustrated with people who tell me that I need to "just relax and have fun" or "enjoy myself" at times when I don't partake in bad food. As if that means if I didn't eat poorly I wouldn't be enjoying my life.

So yes, eating can be an enjoyable experience, but it is not the end all be all of life.

To eat healthy is not to sacrifice enjoyment.

That is one of my pet peeves too. I may just be that quirky that eating black beans and rice is my enjoyment. Part of the overall life feeling thing. Don't assume what I will find enjoyable

And "God Bless You" after a sneeze. Why are they bringing God up after a sneeze? That is seriously one of my pet peeves too. I would love to rid the world of that piece of garbage.

I dunno man, that's a bit too ascetic of a stance for me. Food sure can be enjoyable, kind of like how sex can be recreational and not just for reproduction.

I didn't say food couldn't be enjoyable. I just said it isn't happiness itself.

I get very frustrated with people who tell me that I need to "just relax and have fun" or "enjoy myself" at times when I don't partake in bad food. As if that means if I didn't eat poorly I wouldn't be enjoying my life.

So yes, eating can be an enjoyable experience, but it is not the end all be all of life.

To eat healthy is not to sacrifice enjoyment.

That is one of my pet peeves too. I may just be that quirky that eating black beans and rice is my enjoyment. Part of the overall life feeling thing. Don't assume what I will find enjoyable

And "God Bless You" after a sneeze. Why are they bringing God up after a sneeze? That is seriously one of my pet peeves too. I would love to rid the world of that piece of garbage.

The God Bless You phrase came from the Black Plague. When people sneezed it was a sign they may have contracted the horrible illness and it would likely lead to their death.

If you really think about it though, almost makes it more offensive haha.

If you like dirty (language) comedy have a listen to Dane Cook's "Atheist Sneeze" bit. Hilarious. I'm an Atheist and it makes me laugh every time.

And "God Bless You" after a sneeze. Why are they bringing God up after a sneeze? That is seriously one of my pet peeves too. I would love to rid the world of that piece of garbage.

lol same here! I don't say it nor respond when someone says it to me... I probably come off as rude as a result For me it has nothing to do with the mention of God and everything to do with it being a dumb tradition - just ignore my sneezes as you would a cough or a sniffle!

On topic: I'm not particularly strict about my diet so I tend not to mind indulging during vacations, weddings, etc. But I generally have no trouble saying "no thank you" to foods that I don't want - especially to the handful of foods that I simply detest, like anything with mayonnaise. In more delicate situations, for example my first night during a study abroad program when my host family served me something that I didn't care for, then I'll often suck it up and eat it, but those situations are rare.

When people say "bless you" after you sneeze they're just trying to be polite. They may be about as religious as someone who says "gesundheit" is German, so when I say "Jesus Christ you guys, quit being jerks" it doesn't mean I'm a man of God.

When people say "bless you" after you sneeze they're just trying to be polite. They may be about as religious as someone who says "gesundheit" is German, so when I say "Jesus Christ you guys, quit being jerks" it doesn't mean I'm a man of God.

Hahaha

I agree. I'm not a believer but I say "bless you" after someone sneezes. I also frequent the phrases "Jesus Christ, Jesus H. *insert bad expletive*, and "God *bleep* it!". And according to my mom the last one has been in my vocabulary since about 3, but surprisingly when appropriate.

When people say "bless you" after you sneeze they're just trying to be polite. They may be about as religious as someone who says "gesundheit" is German, so when I say "Jesus Christ you guys, quit being jerks" it doesn't mean I'm a man of God.

YA, being a Christian I think I would know your phrase would tell me just the opposite.

When people say "bless you" after you sneeze they're just trying to be polite.

Yes, but why does one have to say anything? My hangup isn't about the mention of God, it's about wishing we could end a silly tradition of acknowledging another person's sneeze. Maybe it's just because I'm extremely introverted, so I feel a little weird at the unwanted (even though very momentary) attention given to me by strangers just because I sneezed, and the awkwardness of interrupting a conversation to "bless" somebody that sneezed.

But then I tend to break with many traditions if I don't like them - I don't see any inherent value in doing something just because we've done it for a long time.

When people say "bless you" after you sneeze they're just trying to be polite. They may be about as religious as someone who says "gesundheit" is German, so when I say "Jesus Christ you guys, quit being jerks" it doesn't mean I'm a man of God.

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