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My GF: It depends on her mood. Sometimes she'll ask me to stop as soon as I start but if she's turned on it can get her moaning.

she cares so much I'm pretty sure she'd do pretty much anything I thought would spice up the bedroom

I get that. I recently did something a little more intense than usual and she seemed to like it. I asked her afterwards and she admitted it made her feel uncomfortable at times, but she carried on because I was so into it. I felt terrible. We talked it through and shit is okay.

I'm into it, he's into it. It's all super. Dunno about your gf.
For me it's about the helplessness and, this might sound silly... I love him to bits, and when he face-fucks me I kinda want to choke on him... Erm, I'll go now, this was awkward. :P

You don't have to have the same desire as I do, right? Sure, we could have the same desire, but, look, there's maybe something else that you desire or find sexy and hot about it, and that's yours.

The desire didn't jump in my face right at the first time. We did it slowly at first, then I asked him to go a bit faster. And that's how I got there.

An idea: Try to do this with your boyfriend. Tell him to take it slow and if you see that he's into it maybe you will enjoy it. And as he wants to go faster and maybe shows it, you'll want to grant him his wish, but not just yet. So you tease him and have control of it. :)

I am not an inexperienced lover, but it is possible that something about us is making me feel "underinspired" and that is probably something she feels. Relationship dynamics are a PITA, and I guess I am used to women who are just a little less passive while also having fewer expectations. (It's funny because I like submissive, but not if it's also passive...) Take her passivity and my lack of inspiration (at least compared to some previous lovers) and it's a disasta. Annoying because she is an incredibly awesome person (as in, everyone who meets her goes "Where did you find this amazing woman?" to me, which has never happened before)

I guess I kind of get why some women are into it, but it definitely isn't for me. Even the thought of a guy wanting to do it to me is a big turn-off for me. I don't think I could get off on doing something to a guy that would be very physically unpleasant for him, so I'm not too keen on the idea of a man thinking it'd be really hot to choke me with his dick.

I can only speak for myself though, of course. I have no idea what your gf's feeling on it are.

Thanks a lot, I understand my gf isn't all women. I've tried it a few times and she's taken it like a champ, but she cares so much I'm pretty sure she'd do pretty much anything I thought would spice up the bedroom. I'm just looking for a few different opinions

I'm afraid she would not be honest with me if she didn't because she's just too amazing! I'm just want to know a woman's point of view and some experiences with it and decide if I should stop trying or not

Doing something one does not enjoy so much, but isn't grossed out by is okay. But if she really doesn't enjoy it and she finds it rather degrading and does it for your sake.. then she's not gonna have a good time and it's gonna hurt her mentally. Seriously.

Source: Experienced it myself.

But, trying things is not a problem, except the things that make you wanna puke when you think about them. You should not try those. :P

It's all hypothetical but if she wasnt that into it, and is still willing to do that for me cause she cares about my pleasure and me i would say that she is definitely an amazing girl, and I should probably mention I recently have fallen head over heels for her ;)

Alright, I get that. Don't worry, I'm not saying you should't call her amazing. I'm just saying it so you make sure you know if she likes it or not. Cause the consequences might be bad if she isn't honest with you or herself. ;o;

That's fine if you don't enjoy it, but you clearly have some strong feelings about how bad you find the act, and I'm curious if you look down on others who do enjoy it. You said you don't care if someone else enjoys it, but does it alter your opinion of who the person is? I'm not attacking, just want clarification as you seem ready for the down votes.

Actually, I hold no negative opinion or question the psyche of women who enjoy that kind of thing. I'm trying to reflect on it, and I'm not coming up with anything other than being indifferent toward the preferences of other women (or men). Go figure o.O.

I totally agree with you... It's really not very pleasing for a woman, so it doesn't make sense when ppl say their gf is moaning... Sounds like an act to me. Not that there is anything wrong with doing a sexy thing that you like that makes things a little kinky, but don't kid yourselves into thinking it is pleasing for the female. She may like it as a helplessness thing like other people have said but it would be exceedingly rare, if not impossible, for a girl to orgasm from being facefucked alone. Maybe she will like it, but rip-roaring orgasms for her will not be the reason why. Just something to keep in mind.

What about all the women, myself included, in this thread that have said not only can it be a huge turn on but pleasurable? Sure the pleasure may not result in an orgasm but that hardly means it isn't enjoyable.

Just don't assume that because of your experience all women are putting on an act. Some of us really love it.

I guess we view the word pleasure differently. I definitely acknowledge plenty of women get turned on by it as evidenced by this thread, but would you go to a masseuse and ask them to ram things in your face as a form of massage? If it wasn't your partners penis would you just shove things in your face as a way of masturbating? I know that's not a perfect analogy but I just don't see how that could feel pleasurable on a throat. People wouldn't do it if their partner's penis was removed from the equation. People like to get a good face fucking because it turns them on mentally, not physically. Are we on the same page with that at least? I'm kind of curious, what is it about that sensation is it that pleases you or is it just a turn on?

That's not what I am saying. I am sure it is pleasing to people, for all the reasons you mentioned, but the pleasure derived from it is very cerebral. It may turn somebody on and they may love to do it, but it is not physically pleasing for the person getting facefucked.

ORLY? When is the last time you were able to control what you thought was sexy? So a guy should now feel guilty about what he finds to be a turn-on, hmmm? Does that sound reasonable to you?

I'm not a toy or rag to be treated like a cum dumpster prop

Wow... You are reading waaaaaay too much into this. Also, how is this different from a man fucking you while facing you with your legs doubled over, again? You can't exactly move much in that position either, yet it is hardly arguable that women who are sexed in that position are universally cum dumpster props. Geez.

You sound like the woman I dated who at first said she didn't like doggystyle because it was too animalistic.

At first...

Man, get over your hangups. You are going to be shocked by what guys like... as well as by what you yourself end up liking. Love is kissing Snow White who is laying daintily on her rose-petal-adorned mattress. Sex, meanwhile, is a biological function... and fucking is good (especially someone you love).

Someone did you a serious wrong, like a pervy uncle. Or religion.

I don't like bodyparts being mashed into my face; it's suffocating in a sense.

One of the other responses said she liked it because she loved her dude so much that she wanted to choke on him. So I guess that could go either way. You went the wrong way with that :O

I hate feeling like a non-participating prop

Who said you had to be non-participating? This is complete rationalization! You could play with his balls, grab his ass cheeks, rake his chest hair with your fingernails, actually get into the motions, moan (we love that), make sexy sucking noises, play with your clit, tell him how much you want him... You got the wrong idea about oral, period

whose only asset is a hole to fuck

You must not be a big fan of doggystyle then, either

and for me, that's how I feel when it happens...

And this perception is all in your head. I guarantee you that the guy is thinking absolutely none of these things.

When is the last time you were able to control what you thought was sexy? So a guy should now feel guilty about what he finds to be a turn-on, hmmm? Does that sound reasonable to you?

I'm not asking for guys to think a certain way. I specifically said that I prefer a partner who doesn't want/expect those things from me. That's a far cry from me telling people what to prefer. Likewise, I have some kinks that I don't expect unwilling parties to partake in.

FWIW, I actually absolutely love blow jobs. I love my partner's pleasure and all that. I like rough sex, etc. So calm down, man, jeez. I didn't go "the wrong way" with anything, so piss off. This is a thread asking for opinions and you can eat a dick for telling me mine are wrong and that I need to be more like what you think I should be. I don't want to be what you think I should be and I am glad for that.

But instead of referring to it as a hangup of mine that I just need to "get over" because it's something you clearly think I should like, how about respect it? You're being stupidly rude for associating my preferences (or lack of) for a hang-up. I am not damaged goods because I don't think being face-fucked is sexy or physically pleasant. I think it's a degrading act and physically unpleasant (which alone is enough of a reason). So what? I'm not going around shaming women who like it because it's not my business to care. If a couple loves sharing that, good for them - seriously.

And this perception is all in your head. I guarantee you that the guy is thinking absolutely none of these things.

I agree that most guys probably aren't thinking, "YEAH THIS IS SOME DEGRADING SHIT. I REALLY LOVE IT. LET ME MAKE THIS UNPLEASANT FOR HER, WOOHOOOOOOO." I still think it's a disturbing thing, though and I don't have to be a fan of why I think the desire for it exists in some people.

Some women like it, I've never tried but I know I'd hate it. It look awful. It seems like the most unpleasant thing to go through in sex, one of the few things I'd never even consider. We can't tell you what you're girlfriend does and doesn't like, you'll have to ask her.

I'm all about it, but 1. Not all women are and 2. It's not something I enjoy if my partner does it without knowing I like it. Then it feels more like a real power difference rather than sexual power play.