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Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Trust (IWSG)

I don’t
know about you, but for me trust is important when conversing about my writing.
I want to know and feel like I can share my secret life with
someone who’s trustworthy and who wouldn't laugh or disperse info about my projects.
Finding such a person or several persons is very rare. But
they are out there, even for an introverted homebody like me. For me, it’s all about my gut. It
lets me know who's trustworthy and who isn't.

More
importantly, trusting yourself is even harder. I second guess my choices all
the time and rarely trust my own judgment, even if my gut tells me I’m on the
right track. But, I’m working on it.

Do you
trust easily? Do you trust yourself? Do you share your writer experiences
with anyone?

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28 comments
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When I was younger I trusted more easily, but not so much now. However, trusting myself is the big one, because the other stems from losing trust in myself at some point I think. I am working on that one. I have found some wonderful people in the community and a few I can share with that part of me and I am grateful.

Thank you for sharing with me. I agree, I use to be more trusting when I was younger too. I have to edit my manuscript and once again I have lost a lot of trust in myself. I hope your get some of your self-trust back. We can be so hard on ourselves sometimes. Thank you for following. This is such an amazing community.

I don't trust easily either. And, yes, I second-guess myself and my writing as a result all the time. But I was lucky enough to find a reader for my latest project that I trust very much to give me honest feedback. Felt like a gift. :)

The self-doubt monster does indeed have a big mouth. He knocks me around all the time. Don't worry, I'm weary of trusting new people too. It takes me quite a while to warm up to someone new. Thank you for visiting.

Your post is kinda on the same theme as me this month - although you've worded it much better than I could :). I don't tend to trust that easily either - although lately, I have been opening up more about my writing, and I've been pleasantly surprised when people haven't laughed in my face! But I definitely have self-trust issues - I find it very difficult sometimes to trust that I'm doing the right things in my writing. Like Pat, I think it's probably a confidence issue too. But I think you should definitely trust your instincts, especially when it comes to something as personal as writing - at the end of the day, so long as you're happy and proud of what you've achieved, that's all that matters :).

I think you worded it pretty well. You are so spot on when you say that as long as we're happy with our work and can be proud of it, that is all that matters. I should focus more on that than doubting myself all the time. I do have a problem with my writer's confidence too. We should be so much nicer to ourselves. Thank you for popping in.

I'm all over the place on trust. Sometimes I run around trusting everyone I meet. Other times, not so much. Same for self trust. Sometimes I'm sure my opinions have all kinds of value. More often, I figure I'm an idiot.

I've been wrong about people in the past when I followed logic, but I should have trusted my heart or gut. It hasn't failed me yet. I just hope it keeps on helping me make good choices. Thank you for visiting.

I agree. My private life is private, which is why I write under a pen name. Some blogger friends really make me feel like they can be trusted, but I don't think I would be so trusting of a random person I meet. My love of privacy made me very hated among work colleagues, which is why I love my new job that involves me working from home. My brother is the best boss ever. Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

As mentioned in my IWSG, I have been part of a writing group for several years. Overall, it's the best thing I've done for my writing, but it does come with challenges. Not my relationship with the members of my group, they are both dear friends that I love to death, but it's a forum to always compare yourself to other writers which can sometimes make you doubt your own talents.