How The Discrimination Against Short Men Is Perpetuated By Women

I’ve had so many conversations with girls that go something like this:

“Get real! Guys have it SO-O-O easy. They don’t have to spend two hours in front of the mirror putting on make up, just to be considered sexually attractive. Why do you have to judge us based on the way a girl looks? Why do you want us only for SEX? I’m more than just my body!”

So it would seem that women once again find a new way to set themselves as the victim class, thus earn the precious pity that purchases for them their power. Feminism seeks to absolve women of the act of sexual objectification and retain women as the pure, righteous judges of a man’s character rather than base animal lust. It is the popular notion that, while a man will fall for the woman with the best body, women will fall for the man who treats them the best -- a nice guy, her best friend, someone who drapes his coat over every puddle so she can walk without getting her feet wet.

HA.

Oh. That's a good one.

Women are just as capable -- perhaps even more so -- of objectifying men.

It is true that women of girth are hampered from romantic pursuits. However, there are fat-fetishes and a fat-acceptance movement that is building up steam, and these are reversing that trend. There are even online communities such as Fantasy Feeder, where people get their sexual kicks out of either gorging someone else or being fattened up themselves. It's a sight you cannot unsee.

But there is a pervasive form of discrimination faced predominantly by men. It is called heightism -- the hatred of short men.

An obese woman can (often) work off her weight while a misfigured woman can pepper some makeup on her face. But a man has no ability to change his height. And, so far as I have researched, there is no fetish for short men to save them. Meanwhile, women are able to find themselves sexually attractive no matter their height -- there a men who love petite women, and men who love long-legged, statuesque Russian wonders. But a short man -- unless he has compensated for his lack of height by obtaining a great job, a lot of money, an expensive car, a charismatic personality, or simply greater musculature -- has virtually no hope of finding a lover.

Clocking in at 5' 10'', I think barely escape the "short man" threshold, though I still face much more lonely existence than my 6-foot tall brothers, whose lives are saturated and enriched by plenty of sexual encounters.

But then there's my friend -- he's 5'7'’ and 22 years old. For the sake of his future public image, he will remain the Anonymous Short Man.

The Anonymous Short Man has never had a girlfriend, only ever kissed his mother, and he's had more than his fair share of debilitating rejection than I. He is entreated with the same old, trite advice from women: "Be her friend!" or "Just wait and the right one will find you! Trust and believe!"

People ask this Anonymous Short Man if he is old enough to smoke. People talk down to him, condescend him at job interviews. Twelve-year-olds flirt with him, while the gazes of older women just pass over him. Literally.

When a grown man is treated like a boy, it is humiliating. When a grown woman is treated like a girl, it is romantic.

Short men are obviously discriminated. Contrary to what every Feminist will claim -- that a system of "hegemonic masculinity" means men are the causes of their own problems -- it is women, not other men, who are setting upon us the height standard.

Women wish to be dwarfed. It hearkens back to our biological ancestry. Women want to be protected by men. They might view a small man -- not a tall man -- as a threat to their femininity, since his subordinate status competes like a quasi-femininity. This peer-reviewed study from the UK among 12,000 couples reveals that, for 92.5 percent of couples, the man was 5.6 inches taller than the woman. One might question this, since men are after all typically taller than women, and perhaps women are pressured by a patriarchal culture to select taller men. But a joint study out of Rice University and the University of Texas concluded that, of all the relevant factors, 49 percent of women only wanted to date men taller than themselves, whereas only 13.5 percent of men only wanted to date women shorter than they were. Women have much stronger height preferences than men.

Despite Feminists claiming that women want to be equal with their partners, these studies prove consistently that women don't really want equality -- they want to be paired with their betters, including according to height, even if that looks very similar to a patriarchy.

Here comes the Feminist lynch mob ...

In evolutionary terms, of course it makes sense that females prefer tall men. Height indicates strength, authority, and virility more often than not. Tallness means the male has more access to limited resources. This means that, when the biological cards of the mating game are dealt, the Anonymous Short Man is getting the short end of the stick.

It's not that women are unreasonable or even cruel for preferring taller men. We are all entitled to our choices, no matter how shallow or stupid our criteria may seem. We deserve to hold standards -- but, likewise, we will also be held to others' standards. It's when young men are kept in the dark, perhaps even deceived about a woman's standards, that his lot in life can be declared one of cultural oppression.

Why do (many) women lie about, or lack the ability to express, their preferences? Perhaps they are trying to preserve the image of virtue society sets upon women -- an image that is ironically more chauvinistic than Feminist. Like men, who are shamed by women and the media as predators for expressing sexual interest, women are "slut-shamed" by other women for taking advantage of their sexual powers too often. Dealing with the pressure that women set upon each other, women will naturally tell men "slanted" advice in order to save face on their reputation.

This hidden double standard women hold against men is a legitimate problem for society. The issue goes beyond height. The media, academia, and popular culture tells one message to young men, that they will be loved by women if they follow one set of criteria -- if they are nice, if they become a woman's friend, if they just "wait for the right one," and if they persistently defend the rights of women by becoming a white-knight Feminist. Tactics that never work, of course.

Young men then apply these tactics in their real life relationships with women, but they still remain single -- they are relegated to the Friend Zone, ignored, or even mocked by the very women they love. It is men of height, facial hair, and the "bad boy" personality that are winning women away. They are tired of seeing the very men that Feminism decries as "toxically masculine," are the only ones who are permitted to have sex.

Now we are seeing a rising generation of angry short men who are devolving into true, outspoken misogynists. But Feminism is not solving this problem. Feminism creates it.

The suffering and loneliness many millions of short beta males is either ignored, or worse, mocked and degraded as a lowling form of misogyny by the very people -- Feminists -- who claim to stand for their sexual rights and equality. It proves that they do not actually care about the issues of men, they do not care about equality, only the appearance of equality.

Challenging this problem doesn't require a glorious revolution. Women, and the Feminists who supposedly speak on their behalf, simply need to take a deeper look at themselves. Do not spread one message out to men in the light, and leave them to find the truth in the darkness.

Superficial qualities such as height aren't everything for men -- but it means much more to women and society than they ever dare admit.

An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Yes, I'm That Girl Who Is 'Always The Bridesmaid, Never The Bride'— And I Embrace It

Side bar: I am in no way, shape, or form dissing my boyfriend. We have had plenty of long talks about where our relationship with marriage stands.

To the girl who feels like she's the lead actress in "27 Dresses.."

The constant Facebook relationship changes, the texts with ring pictures, the save the dates and wedding invitations, bridal showers and bachelorette events; these all serve as constant reminders to me of the one thing in life that at the moment I don't have.

Don't get me wrong though, when my friends are getting married, I am incredibly happy for them.I know that they too have longed for this day in their lives to come and are overwhelmed with thankfulness and gratitude for what the Lord has given them. I am honored that they have chosen me to be a part of their special day in whatever capacity I am serving in, but there's always a little part of me that says, "Lord, when will I be next?"

It always amazes me how I can be so happy for my friends but sad for myself at the same time.

I continue to go back and forth with myself on the matter of marriage. You know "Ring before Spring" kind of thing? One day I can be totally bummed that an engagement hasn't fit into my story yet; when the next day I'm happy I don't have to deal with the pressure of planning a wedding.

As a 22-year old girl who graduates college in less than 6 months with a long-term boyfriend… it's there. The pressures of deciding to get married or not, but sometimes it's just not the right time.

Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope and a future."

But this isn't about taking turns. Life and relationships aren't a game and God isn't skipping our turn when we feel like he is. It's easy to get caught up in emotions as you step into yet another bridesmaid dress or fake a smile for another one of your friends in love that you're really trying to be happy for.

I'd rather say, embrace the season you're in. I'd rather remind you that there's a reason God has you right where you are, that you're appreciated, and your current role is needed in big and mighty ways. I know it's tempting and normal to step into a lonely pity party but I dare you to own your loneliness instead of letting it own you. Don't throw your heart walls up in protection or your hands up in surrender. Both are isolating and discouraging places and you're better than that.

Whether you're in a serious relationship or not, it's important to maintain a healthy, happy outlook on your life. If one day becoming the bride is something that's important to you, be hopeful that it will happen. And when it does, all of those friends who were fortunate enough to count you as their bridesmaid will gladly return the favor. For now, invest in the other aspects of your life that you are happy with. Travel, read, cook, pick up and move across the country—you really can do anything you want.