It means challenging the idea that because something istraditional to some part of a culture, calling for
change is automatically bigotry and ethnocentrism. I could commit a
major act of cliche here and invoke practices like bleeding sick people,
foot binding, infant exposure, slavery, and a host of other things, and
actually, I just did.

It means that if you're going "eeeeewwwww, nobody wants hear about that, it's gross!" or "you're such a downer for throwing this in my face" or "you're making me feel icky and that's bad", you should try being one of the women that has to endure it. Or one of the ones that didn't live to.

The only reason she's not you or your daughter or your sister or your mother is a chance of geography, people