Due to my incompetence of dealing wih my problems and wasting forum space on my threads regarding my family and 'give up', I just find the whole effort of expressing myself pointless.

I have made up my mind, and that's I am leaving this site. I am just an annoying shite who goes on and on about himself. There are probably tons of people much worse off than me, and that's what makes me feel so fucking dumb. I complain and make a big deal about stuff, when there's people dying by the thousands all the time. I'm fucked up piece of work, and no matter how much you guys deny it, I know you get fed up of me. When I'm gone I may 'help' myself if I can, whether that be cutting, killing myself straight out or leaving home - it will most likely be one of them. If I chicken out, then I'll end up living my life as a recluse.

Bye.

Sometimes we say things that hurt ourselves and others that were not meant, so I leapt from my life's struggles and long running regret

Has anyone said that we're 'fed up' of you.......face it hon people say what they think on here, and i know no-one has said that......
We're not fed up of you hon, don't go - hope you read this post.........cos if you don't its just me talking to myself again and the doctor said i would have to tell him the next time i did that LOL

We all have problems. Reading others people's problems is how we find out that we're not alone. You may very well inspire people when they learn there's another person that feels the same way they do. Don't leave, you're really not bothering us - in fact, you're helping us find who we really are.

I for one would hate to see a person leave who has so much to show, and has made so many intelligent posts. You're an essential asset to this forum, and don't let yourself think otherwise :grin:

I'm willing to give it another go, purely because I really am in a bit of a situation atm.

Earlier today I wanted to try and fix things - really try and do something about my problems. So I found a place that specializes in anxiety, ‘great’ I thought and made an appointment. I told my mum about it and she supported it, my dad wasn’t there so I couldn’t tell him. That is until, he got in. He got home and I gave him time to sort of settle before I made my approach. So I told him about it and he was like ‘yeah sounds good’ etc, then all of a sudden he’s like ‘yeah you do what you want you always do’. He starts getting angry and then starts throwing his weight around. He rings up my mum as she went out and started having a go at her, he was really aggressive, and so slammed the phone down on her. He then proceeded to abruptly leave the house and go out. This is the sort of crap I do not understand. Why the hell is my father like this? It’s almost as if he just changes. He becomes really childish - throws a tantrum, sulks, calls names and dwells. He’s been like this all my life and it just makes me feel so hurt inside that he has to upset other people (as it seems)to make himself feel better about something or deal with something. How am I ever going to do anything in my life if I have a father like this?

He controls our family, he's very strict. And I believe it runs in the family, as his father was just the same, but much worse. He's very quick to be nasty and it's like his preferable mood. He never speaks to me about my problems he very quickly to dimiss it, my mum is the only person who helps me do anything. He orders people around and by that I mean if we had just eaten dinner he'll refuse to take his own plate in - he's last to finish and even when heading to the kitchen. He'll refuse to make himself tea, he makes other people do it, he won't iron his own clothes, wash up or anything of that kind. And when confronted about it he's like 'Why should I make changes to something I'm happy with?'

Sometimes we say things that hurt ourselves and others that were not meant, so I leapt from my life's struggles and long running regret

It sounds like your dad is very immature, and even though its not a good thing to hide stuff from your family, I don't think you should try to tell your dad if you have problems. Well, some you would have to tell him, serious ones like this, but if he is unwilling to help you with your problems, I don't see why you should tell him about them. And I know what type of person he is, I know a few myself, if he finds out that you didn't tell him, even if he doesn't care about your problems, he will sulk about you not telling him, but he is going to do it either way so you might as well do the thing that helps you more.

And about the way your dad acts around the house, if he says that hes happy with the way things are then leave them that way. Don't iron his clothes or make his tea or anything, let him see how much would get done if he didn't have you guys.

I hope atleast some part of this helps, and good luck with that anxiety place.

ima be honest, notsogood. You're dad sounds like a complete asshole. He's probably depressed himself. Unhappy with his life in some way.

Now, this isnt very loving advice. But i would basically disconnect from him. I think i'd have a talk aobut him with your mom to see what she thinks. Becuase it isnt normal for someone to behave that way. Unforutnantely people dont usually change when they're like that. Not without some massive friction. He'll probably be a complete ass if you start to ignore him or whatever. But then i dont know your dad.

Anyway, you dont need to follow any of that advice. But i know my dad all the same. Hes sometimes a little annoying, He controls my mom a lot nothing near what you described though.

I think my dad is a little upset with me. Most dads you know they want their kid to play football and stuff or do something they never got to do. Mine doesnt show it that bad. But your dad probably has a lot of regrets. Sometimes people will be dicks just because they feel like crap and take it out on other people. ACtually i dont know thats one scenerio though. He could just honestly think he should control though.

If hes not helpfull, then dont bother with him. Its ok to do that. I do a lot of stuff with my mom or dad because my mom or dad cant handle it. screw em