Why do guys ignore texts, messages, phone calls, etc. from girls that are interested in them?

I finally got the answer on whether or not my crush likes me, and he doesn't. He has ignored two messages that I have sent him over messenger. Why can't he just say that he's not interested instead of ignoring me? Ignoring someone is so rude. There are plenty of respectful ways of getting your feelings across.

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Anyway, I am a shy guy, doesn't mean I should have been disrespectful. I liked a girl very much, texted her and went back and forth, I heard from a friend she liked me, so I was hyped, nervous, but doubted myself a lot. So I stopped texting her, then my phone broke. And now it has been 7 months and haven't talked to her since. I was playing the game, the texting game where "ohh should I wait a few minutes so I don't see to needy" "Should I say this" "Don't say that say this" I wasn't just being genuine and wasn't in a good place at the time.

I learned to just be genuine and not care about that crap. I am glad I learned this, however it sucks I had to lose the opportunity to be with an awesome girl. I never said anything to her, that is what the problem was. Actions can be bad, but so can the failure to act. Now, I am not afraid to go for someone I want to pursue which is good.

They may be in fear, playing the game, "Should I say X, Y, or Z?" "dada dada"

Maybe they aren't interested, busy, or have a girl already. However if they don't let you know, that is wrong as well.

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I hate to be ignored too. My boyfriend didn't talk to me for a week when he went to caribbean island for his grandfather's funeral. I was so sure that he ghosted on me and ditched me. finally he got back to me after 6 days saying that no wifi where he was. (i saw him active on messenger, also he didn't check my messages)I would rather be told "I want to break up with you" straight us than just being ignored and cliff hanging with the relationship. Girl, you tell him hey what's going on. if he still acting coward just forget about him.

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Girls do it FAR more then guys do. Ignoring is easier because it avoids confrontation and people are generally afraid of confrontation. He doesn't know how you'll react, if you'll become aggressive etc etc.

Yeah, it's rude. You deserve some form of acknowledgement, but it's just one of those things you have to accept.

I don't disagree. I'm just explaining one possibility. Put yourself in the shoes of a very sensitive person who doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Also, now a days, ghosting, blocking, deleting have become a way of life for the people who don't care.

People see what they want to see. Life aka media told us how relationship works which if we ask our parent they will tell us it is a whole bullshit. Coming back to your question, there are two possible scenarios to it namely1. He may be not interested to you2. He is too shy to admit it due to exp.

See shyness and ignorance are quite same on the above, but digging deeply into each of them then revealed the truth about it.

Only his true friend can help you and if he is shy, you will have to do the work.

Well as a guy I find that I have probably been accused of the same thing. Often when I'm working I'm busy and I cannot answer messages or texts or even private phone calls until I am finished. Which sometimes leads to being accused of blatant disregard of her feelings. Also I have had my notifications shut off for no reason on certain apps which has kept me from replying sometimes a couple of days. I would back off a little and not be too critical of it. If he has feelings then he will most certainly message or text you to make sure you still continue to care. It's hard to do but if you start now you will understand that works that way in almost all new relationship

Let's be frank. A couple of messages, depending on what's going on with someone's life really can be nothing.

That said, assuming there aren't serious problems going on there, he might have thought he was being polite by stating his lack of interest without stating his lack of interest. He was clearly wrong about it, no matter the exact motivation, but I guess I can't criticise too much in that situation. There are all too many bad routes to go down there and I understand that there are bigger dick moves that could be made in that situation.