1. Don’t look on the bright side: “Managing any negative emotion takes at least 48 hours,” says Deborah Grayson Riegel, a behavior and communication expert and author of Oy Vey! Isn’t a Strategy. During that time, you should communicate only with those who won’t try to prematurely cheer you up. “Avoid the ‘hurry up and get over it’ people,” she says. “I want a friend who says, ‘Oh my god, that sucks! That is the worst!’”

2. Accept that you’re not perfect: “In our culture, people treat failure as the exception rather than an ongoing process,” says Karen Steinberg, a therapist and executive coach based in New York. What can you learn from failing at work? “Maybe you were mismatched with a particular client,” says Steinberg. “Or you don’t have the skill set you thought you did. Maybe this was a sign that it’s time to get out.”

3. Watch out for paranoia: “Worrying about being unliked actually makes you more unlikable,” says Karl Aquino, a professor at the University of British Columbia Sauder School of Business. Remember: “Other people really aren’t thinking about you,” he says. “They’re preoccupied with their own lives and careers.”

4. Try not to be a jerk: Resist the instinct to talk to whoever rejected you. “Are you honestly trying to repair the relationship,” asks Riegel, “or are you letting off some emotional steam? If your objective is ‘They made me feel like s-&#8205;-&#8205;- so I’m going to make them feel like it,’ that’s a good sign you shouldn’t have that conversation.”

Who in life is trained to get this stuff right the first time through?

So we end-up as adults, having done a lot wrong on our way to an older age...having been less than stellar victims....having resented our parent's neglect etc. We see things that others will never know even exist.

So is it too late at that point? I think some stains will never wash off no matter how badly we want them gone.

I think these are all good point he reveals, but they are better suited for High Schoolers...with some road in front of them.

I
agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and
chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole
discretion of MaleSurvivor. I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor
resources are AT-WILL,
and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for
any reason by MaleSurvivor.