Moving Past Faking Confidence

It’s funny how a smile on the outside doesn’t always take away the insecurity on the inside. Faking confidence is a hard life to live. Sadly, there are many among us that have lived with a silent agony that eats them from the inside out. Maybe you know someone that lives this way. Maybe that someone is you.

You have learned to fake your way to the front of the crowd, but inside you feel like you are the last in line. It’s more common than you might think to fake confidence.

There are many people who have mastered faking confidence. They hide their shyness behind a smile. They have learned a smile creates an impression that all is well on the inside. Many people make a fast decision like when picking out clothing to buy or what meal to order, thus painting the false impression they are not indecisive. Often, strong eye contact is a learned and practiced skill that portrays inner confidence.

Now don’t get me wrong, all of the above-mentioned things are not wrong. In fact, they can be true signs of true confidence and can help build confidence as well. However, you know the truth. You are the one that actually knows what is going on deep inside of you. After many years of reflection on this issue I’m convinced that the greatest enemy of true confidence on the inside is fear, the fear that you are not good enough, the fear that you are not truly unconditional loved by anyone.

Until you come to believe that God loves you unconditionally and entirely, you will never have the proper foundation of pure confidence that is God’s gift of grace to those who find their value in His love for them alone. 1 John 4:18, teaches us, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” Accepting the perfect love of God into your life drives out fear! Period! Once fear of, not being unconditionally loved is gone, you are free to live in the gift of confidence that has always been there.

By design, God has placed in your life- worth and extreme value. He created you and He didn’t make a mistake. You are not a mistake. You are His and that is enough. You will never feel confident at all times. However, the fastest way to recapture confidence on the inside is to pause for just a few moments and say within your heart, “God created me out of His love, therefore I’m priceless in His eyes, and that is all I need.”

Philippians 1:6 “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”