This very unique and helpful website is maintained by Philippines
pediatrician Rhodora Damaso Diaz.

Challenged by one of her child patients who expressed
continued rebellion, negativism and hostility, and whose mother had resented the
pregnancy, Dr. Diaz suggested that the mother talk to her son while he was sleeping,
preferably during REM time.

Dr. Diaz then made similar suggestions to a second mother. When she received
highly positive feedback from the first two mothers, she began to give the same
suggestion to others. Now she recommends this technique for helping any child with
puzzling or persistent problems. Her inspiring website offers many encouraging
stories and letters from parents who have used this approach with great success. Dr.
Diaz is currently collecting stories for a forthcoming book on the subject.

The Sleep Talking script consists of four parts:

Statement of love

Statement of the problem

Proposal for a solution

Statement of love (closing statement)

Dr. Diaz suggests limiting the Sleep Talk session to 5 or 10 minutes. She
recently gave this elaboration of the technique:

"As an example, I would have a mother tell her daughter, as part of number
1, that she is much loved by both parents and by the rest of her family. The
mother should include such things as her pleasure upon seeing the baby for the
first time, special things the child did as a baby or when she was growing up and
how proud her parents have been of her. She can modify this and talk of other
things during the next 'sessions'.

"For the second portion, I usually have them start with 'I have been
worried about your recent change in behavior...' or 'I don't know why you are more
fearful, or angry, or moody...'. The parent can say things like, 'We feel such
pain when we see you like this, or people are upset to see you doing that'.
Details can be supplied by them.

"The third part should include the parent's explanation or understanding
of why this behavior is manifesting. She can explain any current difficulties in
the home or within the marriage: 'We know you are worried because of the problem
your father and I have. We are sorry, but please understand that people do have
problems they may not solve right away, so they fight and they create heartaches
for everyone. This is our problem and we are working on it. Whatever happens, our
love for you will not change, and we will try to make it easier for you. We are
not perfect and we are learning from this. We are sorry that this is happening.'
The parent may even explain some of the details, emphasizing that there is always
a solution.

"Occasionally, I have the mother encourage an older child to 'tell Mom how
you feel,' especially if the child is not willing to talk about it when awake. Of
course, there can be many variations in this portion, and sometimes the mother
will find herself crying. That's okay, too.

"The final part is just a repetition of loving thoughts and the parent's
reiteration of her commitment to helping her child grow up healthy and
aware."

Visit this fascinating website to learn more about this gentle, compassionate and
useful technique.