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Why transforming your life is so damn difficult!

Every one of us, at some point in our lives, have wanted to change… To transform our lives and ourselves. Some of us are on that path for a lifetime…

Do you want to change your life right now?

If you desire more in your life, if you deserve more from yourself, then you are on a journey… Along that journey you will face adversity in many forms – Below are a list of the biggest challenges I have faced on my journey… and ones you will most likely face on yours. All can be overcome – if you are prepared for what you will face, you will be ready and able to fight through!

Uncertainty

“It is how we embrace uncertainty in our lives, that leads to the great transformation of our souls.”

Brandon Trean

When you first embark on this journey to transform your life – Those first steps will be frightening as you are moving into the unknown – you will have no idea what will happen.

None of us can control the future and stepping into the unknown is absolutely terrifying, no matter who you are. You can find solace in the fact, we will never be sure of our final destination. But what we can be sure of is the direction we steer ourselves each day. Take action towards your long-term goal and trust yourself… If you get blown off course, then adjust your steering back towards your goal.

Other people

The world has people who will tell you you can’t transform your life. These people will laugh and make fun, they won’t support you and they will think that you are foolish for wanting more.

Always remember these two things about this type of person:

1. They are the minority. Most people are kind and supportive. However, it probably won’t feel like it, because the haters in this world tend to be a lot louder than everyone else! That noise they make… it’s just hot air.

2. When people make fun of you for chasing big dreams and working to transform your life, it is because they are hurting. They have already given up on their dreams and the fact that you won’t give up, illuminates their own deficiencies to them… and that hurts, so they lash out.

The bottom line is, nobody can tell you that you can’t.

If you want it desperately enough, there is nothing you can’t achieve. Let the people who have already quit on their lives, say what they want… You determine your life, nobody else.

Vulnerability

Showing vulnerability was, for me personally, one of the most petrifying things I have ever done.

When you share your hopes, dreams and values it will feel nerve-racking and dangerous. This is because things that are most important to you are also heavily protected by you. Putting your authentic self on display takes real bravery – bravery that is necessary if you are to ever get the life you desire.

What I can share with you is that once you pluck up the courage to show vulnerability, the feelings you get back are amazing, joyful and empowering.

It is hard work

Real change means you have to learn and grow.

There is one universal truth about learning and growth – Along the way there will be failures, rejections, personal sacrifice and you will require bucket loads of determination.

Of course transforming your life comes with positive factors… Like living the life of your dreams.

But you already know this – that’s why you push for more – that’s why you read blog posts like this.

When you live your life as the best version of you… life takes on a whole new dimension of success and fulfilment. Living your dream is possible, just be ready for the challenges on the way.

Comments

There are two aspects of my journey that relate to your post. One general thought on the overall post. As I work to adopt new healthful habits, I am mindful of the fact I am replacing habits that I spent a lifetime, in some cases, developing and reinforcing them.

That’s a Herculean task when you think about it. So I keep reminding myself I am taking baby steps and need to savor moments when change takes place.

Second, regarding other people, I’m on the same page. As part of my work, I strive to find compassion for those who scoff at me. It isn’t easy. When I do however, when I see why they may be hurting, I no longer feel threatened, nor defensive.

Finally, on my blog, I chronicle my midlife experiences first person, I think sharing my vulnerability is how people connect with my experiences.

Thanks Dak. Very concise and honest. For me, I have noticed not so much people telling me I can’t do something, so much as, “How’s it going, are you getting anywhere?” This in relation to my screenwriting.

Most people will say “Good for you!.” or “How exciting!” “Have you sold anything yet?” When I say no, I have to explain how competitive the industry is and “it’s more about making friends, making connections and it’s a long process.” In doing all that, I sometimes feel defeated and yet I don’t think that is what my friends intended at all.

There are others in my past that I know would have found ways to put my dreams to rest. I’m glad they are no longer in my life. Sometimes you have to clear out the debris and keep your cheerleaders around.

Joliesattic – Such humbling insight, thank you. Achieving your dreams is just a matter of time when you keep moving forward (like you do!) & having the right people around you is a critical factor in that.

Great points! The uncertainty and vulnerability of being honest with yourself and willing to try something new can be SUPER SCARY. Really, that means, to even try to change is SUPER BRAVE! I just read The Alchemist, a great read about taking the big leap to follow your dream. An serene, inspiring novel to drive home the point that if you aren’t living your dreams, the big change to follow them is worth it! Thanks for the great reminders Dax!