How can I stop liking boy who doesn’t fancy me?

I AM 14 and really like a boy at school but I know he doesn’t like me back.

If we have to act being a couple in drama he makes it clear he is disgusted at
the suggestion. In fact he makes it pretty obvious that he doesn’t find me
attractive at all. I play along with it saying stuff like I wouldn’t be
caught dead with him.

The trouble is it makes me feel fat and ugly. I have even considered making
myself sick in order to lose weight, even though I know I am a healthy
weight.

It doesn’t help that he is so gorgeous and has a great body.

When it is just him and me talking he is really nice to me and we joke around.
This makes me like him even more but when we get to school everything
changes and I end up hating myself.

It doesn’t help that I get the mick taken out of me because I don’t have a
boyfriend. I haven’t had a boyfriend since last year.

All I want is to be with this boy or stop liking him. Liking him but getting
nowhere is not doing me any favours.

DEIDRE SAYS

This lad does like you or he wouldn’t be so nice to you when no one is around
to hear.

He doesn’t want anyone to know because he doesn’t feel mature enough to cope
with a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship or with the teasing he would
probably get from his mates.

He may grow out of this anxiety to do what he thinks his friends will approve
of, or he may not. Meanwhile comfort yourself with the fact that he does
like your company, even if it is only outside school.

If things don’t move on with this boy, there will be someone else for you.
Don’t mess with your weight or your looks. You are just fine as you are.

I’m emailing you my leaflet Learning To Love which explains how we find
romance and relationships as we mature.