Hi,background I'm 39 and my one remaining tube is blocked. All other tests are good. My husband is 33 and his tests are all good.

My Bmi is 39 at the moment and I've recently lost 2 stone. I'm with a consultant in Edinburgh but I cant be even referred until I lose another 5 stone, bmi 29, and then they've said waiting time might be several months after that.

I'm obviously trying to lose the weight as fast as possible, but it's taking a while. I'm concerned that the longer we wait, the less chance of success with my own eggs.

I've heard of people having ivf privately with higher bmi than 29, which I've been told I need to get to before my first appointment.

Does anyone have experience or information about places in Scotland, rest of UK or even Europe where a higher bmi of 35-38 would be accepted, in a woman approaching 40, for own egg ivf? We are not interested in donor eggs.

Does anyone have experience they can share of how long referral etc took, what the costs were, how many trips you had to make for a cycle and any other useful information. Any information would be really appreciated.

Would prefer to stay in UK, but have heard good stories on the grapevine from some older women going abroad.

BMI requirements for private treatment is 35 but in my experience you don't need to wait to reach it for your first appointment. I live in Scotland and have a BMI of 36 currently having brought it down from 40 at the beginning of the year and we have had our first appointment earlier this month and started our investigations with treatment expected to start next month. I held off thinking I needed to reach my BMI first but booked my appointment as a bit of a deadline to work to - I didn't make it but was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't such a big deal (having previously been rejected for NHS treatment with a BMI of 34 which then sent my weight into an upward spiral).