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I have a collaboration coming up at the end of this month with Dr Todd Grande. In the collaboration I will be asking him questioms for him to answer. So – if you have a question you would like answered by a Dr, then please ask it in the comments below this video!

Today I kick off ‘The spirituality series’ with the first episode. You do not to have to be religious or spiritual to benefit from this series. This series is here to introduce new topics to you, to help you ask questions and for you to use as a basic guide in your recovery from your […]

This focuses on relationship effectiveness – how to get, keep and maintain relationships. Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy Manner. It sounds simple enough but many of us struggle with our relationships and this is a wonderful skill to have.

Today we look at the acronym Dear Man – Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindful, Appear, Negotiate. This is objective Effectiveness – we can use these skills to help us get our objective, goals or needs met.

Today we have Trey Jones doing a video for us. Trey’s channel is linked below – please please go and check it out and subscribe for loads of helpful and informative videos! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2fgc5EQmUVHsPibTlIX7cQ

Today I discuss the first step of the 10 steps that I have developed to combat this disorder. Admitting we have a problem sounds easier than it actually is. To admit we have a problem means we stop blaming other people and past events and finally accept that the problem lies within us.

There are times when we may end a relationship because it simply isn’t working for us…only to find months and months later that our ex has moved on with someone else and we are left heart-broken! Why does this happen when we were the ones to end it? Are we entitled to feel this way? […]

For many of us with BPD, the help just isn’t available, whether that’s due to where we live, finances or waiting lists. Does that mean recovery just isn’t possible? Nooooo! We can still recover and today I discuss this in todays video. I also discuss my new website, bpdtribe.com, which will hopefully be launching in […]

Today I discuss my journey with DBT. The difficulties at the beginning, how I didn’t think it would work for me and how eventually it did. I also have a favour to ask of you! Message me on instagram, twitter or facebook. Links to my social network pages are on my channel homepage.

Hi my lovelies – if you are interested in pre-ordering my book which comes out at the end of the year you can now do so if you go to www.unhookedmedia.com . You can also sign up for notifications about any events I may be attending. Also… myself and my good friend (and publisher), Megan […]

When someone we love passes away we can be left absolutely devestated. For those of us with BPD the emotions we experience are so intense and all consuming and we often turn to unhelpful coping mechanisms such as self-harming, drinking or using drugs. Today I discuss helathy ways of coping with grief.

Suffering with our mental health can cause us to be very lonely. Suffering with anxiety can stop us doing something about this. Here are some tips on overcoming these problems and learning to make friends.

Not everyone is offered DBT – sometimes people are on a waiting list for 2 years or more and other people can’t afford it. What does it mean for these people? Should they just give up on recovery if they are not offered therapy? Absolutely not! Recovery is possible for everyone.

The word resentment comes from the from the french word re (as in to do again) and sentir which comes from the Latin word Sentire meaning to feel. So resentment means ‘to re-feel’. I discuss how resentments start and how they continue and grow and the importance of letting them go.

If you want to receive you own Black Sheep Pin message me privately on here or on Instagram with your name and address and I will get one out to you ASAP! Remember once you have your pin – to 1. Wear it with pride! and 2. Take a Selfie of yourself wearing it and […]

I have been through this where as I have been in recovery a while and all of a sudden feel like the BPD is back!! That is not the case though and is all part of the recovery process. If you are going through this just keep going! You are doing AMAZING!

I HATED therapy to start with so I understand how others feel regarding this. Here I tell my story and how therapy can help everyone. I believe we can all take something out of therapy no matter how big or small – but how much you put in effects how much you get out.

I believe there are different options for different addicts – are you dual diagnose or have you just been having a bit too much fun that has got out of hand? Or could you be an ‘addict of the hopeless variety’?

If you want to have a great job, relationship etc and you are really struggling with the BPD, you need to put those things on hold for now and focus on your recovery. Once the BPD is under control you can have all those things that you want and finally enjoy life.

Building positive experiences in to your life is so important as you need to balance out the negative experiences! In this video I give some ideas on how to build these positive experiences in to your life.

Steps 6 and 7 are taken together, thus the video is of them both together. These steps are about becomming willing to have our defects removed. One thing to note is that by doing these steps we are not trying to be perfect – just better than we were!

In this video I talk about the first skill of distress tolerance – Distracting. If you want some skills to put in place when dealing with distress or pain then watch this video. I used to either drink, use drugs, self harm or attempt suicide whenever I dealt with a painful situation. These skills helped […]

In this video I briefly explain what DBT is and what the four sections are that make it up. I don’t yet go i n to teaching you any of the skills I have learnt through DBT – those videos will be coming over the next few weeks.

In this video I discuss alcohol and heroin detox. I must add that detox alone is not an effective addiction treatment. BUT – it’s a vital first step. If someone is not clean, chances are treating them for addiction will not be effective.

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