While perusing Elite Daily one morning, I came across an article that discusses the rage you feel when a person who used to be obsessed with you moves on.

It caught my attention because it’s a feeling a lot of us have had at some point.

Granted, it may be more common among women, but I know a fair share of guys out there who have felt the same way.

It’s the age-old human condition of wanting something you can’t have, even though you could’ve had it so easily when it was readily available to you.

It all goes back to the psychological principle of scarcity, which was detailed by psychologist Robert Cialdini in his seminal work, “Influence.”

We humans generally regard scarce things to have a higher value than things that are readily available.

This is the essence of why gold is highly priced.

Gold cannot be manufactured (economically, anyway), and so we only have what already exists of it on the planet.

Because of this scarcity, the price of gold will always be much higher than silver, which is higher in supply and can also be produced.

It’s basic supply and demand.

But, these factors work just as much in our subconscious minds, playing out in our daily lives like they do in economics.

It’s the same when someone who’s obsessed with you moves on.

When the person wanted you, he or she was so easy to have.

The person chased you, bent over backwards to accommodate you and generally did whatever he or she could to please you.

This person was essentially in “high supply.” Since he or she was so easy to have, you didn’t want him or her.

There’s less value in things that are easy to obtain.

But when the person moves on, you’re suddenly left with an empty hole where this person used to be, regardless of how his or her previous actions may have annoyed you.

The person then becomes scarce because he or she is no longer available to you when you want him or her.

This scarcity makes the person seem more valuable to you.

You miss what you once had.

There’s another facet to scarcity that has a part to play here. We humans, in our infinite (and somewhat pointless) complexity, hate to lose pleasures or freedoms we already possess.

Once we’re used to something — be it a certain standard of living, a certain person’s constant attention or even a specific type of burger we can only get from that one joint — we become accustomed to it being the norm, and our focus goes to other things.

If we have to give up our existing standards, freedoms or pleasures, we have a very hard time because our minds subconsciously tell us we’re taking a step backwards.

We feel we’re already entitled to these things. We should not have to do without them.

Your subconscious will push you to try to get them back, should they be taken away.

This is a significant reason behind revolts in society.

If a new government takes office and denies its people freedoms they already possess, revolution is likely to follow.

So, when that person retracts his or her constant obsessive attention, you’re losing a pleasure you already possessed. Your mind will try to fight against this.

Some of you may be thinking, “I didn’t want the attention in the first place. I’m so glad this person is now out of my life.”

This is fair. But to those who find themselves saying this and still experiencing those conflicting feelings of loss and emptiness, there is another aspect to the situation.

Humans are vain.

Anything that makes us feel more attractive, more important or more desirable is generally welcomed, as all these things pump up our vanity.

So, having someone who is obsessed with you can be incredibly flattering to your personal sense of vanity.

But when this person moves on, your vanity is no longer regularly stroked.

You’ve lost something you’ve already become accustomed to. His or her attention becomes scarce.

Being a father requires little emotional investment. Being a dad is a dedicated and lifelong duty, many men would call a joy.

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Many years ago, I realized the difference between a father and a dad.

They both may get up and go to work to provide for their family even if they hate their job. Not just to put a roof over their family and food on the table, but also to give them the ability to afford extras like flute lessons or a family vacation.

They both may be physically “present” at their kids’ sports games or events.

However, the “difference’” I’m speaking of is deeper, more under-the-surface and more vital to each and every kid. It’s a difference, that for me, truly encapsulates what “Dad” means.

Here is a list of these attributes in no significant order. If your dad has these count yourself lucky, if you have them then you have earned, in my mind, the title of Dad.

They think before they comment. Sounds simple right? But how many times have you caught your own tongue when about to answer your kid’s question what do you really think about this Dad? There’s a big difference between being brutally honest and being thoughtfully honest. Consider the child’s real reason for asking, perhaps it’s more out of seeking your approval or in the hopes of making you proud instead of really wanting to hear your philosophical understanding of the issue.

They interact and play on the child’s level. This reminds me of the saying “Real men have tea parties with their daughters.” It’s true, a real dad plays on his kids’ level; he doesn’t just interact with his child when it’s something he’s interested in doing himself. He reads that same annoying and boring book three times until he becomes the voices of Mr. Teddy and Mr. Unicorn, and he lets his nails or hair suffer styling to the point that even his best friend won’t recognize him. These may be minor moments in the day for a dad, but they are lasting memories for his child and they help to form a level of trust and comfort in his son or daughter that will solidify their loving view of him.

They are a good example. A dad shows love, compassion and patience not only with his family, but with people as a whole. He doesn’t participate in road rage when someone flips him off. He doesn’t verbally or physically abuse people, or belittle them when they disagree with him. A dad doesn’t insult his kids’ Mom or use his kids as pawns to get revenge on his ex. You may think some of these examples are obvious, but many times when emotions are running high people don’t stop and take a minute to think how their actions might be physically endangering or emotionally harming to their child. This doesn’t mean you’re expected to be perfect and untouched by the stresses of life. We are all affected by these tensions. What I’m saying is take five seconds to refocus and think before you act. Five seconds to bring yourself back to the reality of what is really important.

They protect their children. If your child ever comes to you and tells you someone has acted inappropriately towards them, your first comment shouldn’t be to tell them they are probably misunderstanding the person’s actions. Dads don’t assume the kid has gotten it wrong; they listen. They ask questions and then they act. Real dads immediately reassure the child they did nothing wrong and tell them they did the right thing by confiding what happened to them. They let their kids know they’ll do everything to make sure nothing bad happens again. It’s hard to believe that in this day and age, some people still assume a child is mistaken if they report that a family friend or relative has touched them, that the child somehow misunderstood the intention of the action. A real dad first and foremost, sees and understands something has occurred to make their child uncomfortable enough to seek comfort and protection. A real dad immediately lets this person know that the too-long hug or overly-pushy kiss on the cheek is not going to be allowed. If it makes your child uncomfortable, respect their physical boundaries and personal space. This differs from teaching your child to show people respect. Yes, they should be polite and say hello, but they should never be made to hug or kiss someone with whom they are not comfortable. Obviously it goes without saying, if your child reports something much more serious in nature than an uncomfortable hug you need to take things to a more serious and official level to ensure their safety.

Being a father is easy and requires little emotional investment. Being a dad, to me, is a dedicated, difficult and lifelong responsibility.

You automatically become a father when your child is born, but you earn the title of dad.

As a coach, Sile Walsh has seen a lot of self-hate and life-limiting choices because of male body image. And it makes her sad.

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In my years of coaching men, I have had many opportunities to hear what men feel and think about their bodies. I have been privileged to have been given this awareness, but it certainly shocked me at first.

Men want to be desired appreciated and validated physically as much as woman do.

I am sharing this from a place of compassion and education for the men that have shared with me, for the men who haven’t yet shared with anyone, and for all the people who love the men in their lives!

What working with men has taught me about male body image:

Men want to be desired appreciated and validated physically as much as woman do.

Body image has a massive impact on some men’s self-esteem.

Because men are hard wired to be competitive and alpha, they often struggle more with their bodies being good enough, because good is never enough in the Alpha world. Only the best will ever be good enough.

Depending on the influences in their life, the body ideal a man aspires to differs, however recent studies do suggest that more muscle is one of the most common ‘improvements’ a man desires about his body.

Men tend not to share with each other about their body image issues, when I have asked why I have heard again and again how men bond over teasing. Yet this is such a sensitive topic, bonding or not, they really don’t want to be teased about it.

Fears I have heard males express about their body:

Not being tall enough, or being too tall.

Being too fat, or being too skinny.

Having a small penis.

Not being muscular enough, having flab, having a beer gut.

Having funny ears, or a big nose.

Being too dark, or being too light.

Being too hairy, or not being hairy enough.

I don’t think I have ever heard a part of a man’s body not criticized by a man. It’s a silent stigma in male society because they don’t share it with each other. I makes them feel too vulnerable, but men do feel it and some feel it intensely!

The effects on how a man “shows up” in his life can be limiting, even devastating.

Men tell me that they feel so uncomfortable with their bodies they:

Won’t go swimming.

Stop having sex.

Stop wearing certain clothes.

Stop getting changed in the team’s locker room.

Stop buying fashionable clothes.

Stop initiating dates.

Buy clothes two or three sizes too big in order to hide imperfections.

Go running in the dark so no one sees them.

Puts themselves on secret diets so their male friends won’t know.

Cry over their body’s imperfections.

Feel unlovable.

Has a man in your life stopped doing things they love, cried or dieted in secret, or started hiding from the world’s view?

The answer is yes, remember that these choices are reflections of things men do in an attempt to manage how they feel about their bodies.

They believe it’s only them, that it isn’t normal for a man to worry about his body image.

Before you think this is vanity, know that it runs much deeper. It’s not about vanity, it is about self-worth, self-esteem and value as a person.

These men are equating their lack of body love to their ability to be lovable!

What does this mean then, if so many men are walking around with this secret insecurity and feeling really limited because of it?

Often these men feel shame, they start avoiding intimacy with partners, they start believing they are unworthy because of an aspect of their body and ultimately it means they feel dis-empowered.

Worse yet, they think they are alone. They believe it’s only them, that it isn’t normal for a man to worry about his body image.

We need to break the silence, bring the compassion, ditch the comparison and make an effort to change ideas about body image, not just for woman but for men too.

The thing is, I know they are not alone. I have heard all of these complaints from many men and I have heard the affect it has on them too. We need to break the silence, bring the compassion, ditch the comparison and make an effort to change ideas about body image, not just for woman but for men too.

So how do we help men love themselves again?

We stop pretending that someone’s worth is based on their body. We start by not thinking like that about ourselves and then demonstrating this to the men in our lives.

We stop comparing people, ourselves, our partners, our siblings. We start accepting people as they are. Drop the comparison and you drop the judgment, it just is what it is.

We start having a wider conversation about what self-worth really is, about what makes a person valuable, and about what really matters.

We start validating instead of pointing out flaws. Don’t point out his beer belly or anything else. Believe me, he already knows it’s there, it is his body after all. Instead point out what you appreciate about him, what looks good, what suits him. You can never build up someone else’s self-worth but you can avoid tearing it apart!

We stop joking about men’s bodies, we stop pointing out the guys with the “dream body,” and we start to see that this mildly playful process can be truly damaging to the men we love.

We stop calling men vain when they express their feelings about their bodies.

We stop poking at his belly, joking about his big nose and using his body as a form of comedy in any way.

We start reminding him of his worth, his ability, his value, and we do this because we mean it.

What could you do differently today to help how we view male body image and how men value themselves?

It’s good for you to let go of your anger and forgive, but forgetting isn’t required or even necessarily healthy.

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When it comes to long-standing relationships, forgiveness is an integral part of communing, of experiencing deeper intimacy and of showing love (and acceptance.) Without it relationships would not stand and deep bonds cannot be formed.

If you cannot respect someone, a relationship with them will be lopsided; stretched too far, too fast in all the wrong places and ultimately will not be a great fit.

On the other hand, forgetting can often be close to impossible for many of us as people’s words and actions inherently play repeatedly in our memories like a song stuck on repeat. However, not being able to forget may not be such a bad thing and it certainly does not mean you have not forgiven. Forgiveness in its simplest form is defined as letting go of anger. Forgiving someone does not necessarily involve any of the widely popular markers, such as forgetting, or any of the shoulds and shouldn’ts we often attach to it. Here are two reasons why you should always forgive and never forget:

Self-respect

Self-respect is the basis to healthy relationships. Someone wronging you and insisting that you forgive and forget their offense, allowing them to potentially repeat the offense without a plan in place averting this from occurring again, is not the greatest show of respect. If you cannot respect someone, a relationship with them will be lopsided; stretched too far, too fast in all the wrong places and ultimately will not be a great fit.

Respecting yourself enough to speak up once wronged may seem like it might cause a rift in the relationship but in a scenario where the other person is a healthy, confident person, speaking up for oneself, in an appropriate way, will most likely have the adverse effect and bring you two closer.

Although you are no longer angry about the time they borrowed $500 and promised to give it back as soon as they got their tax returns but failed to, you have learned that they are not good with returning money to you when they said they would. It is nothing personal.

Confrontation often breeds closeness. Remember, it is not a crime to protect yourself. Healthy people understand that a confrontation or someone saying “no” to a particular type of treatment is not a rejection of them. A “no” often times is a way of people protecting their own interests as well as themselves. Healthy people understand that it’s not always personal. You can think of a confrontation in these terms as a test of whether the person is someone who will respect your needs, wishes and fears in the long run.

Accountability

You have to hold your friends, family, peers and colleagues accountable for their actions and inactions. If they gave their word saying that they’d do something for you like take good care of your property and didn’t or that they’d never do something like be unfaithful and they do, you need to hold them accountable.

An effective way of doing so is not by throwing events in their face any chance you get to punish or wound them, instead keeping in mind their track record with a particular subject like paying back money on time and in full, is more effective. The next time they ask to borrow money, regardless of the situation, being hesitant to lend and saying “no,” are appropriate responses to their history with you concerning money. Although you are no longer angry about the time they borrowed $500 and promised to give it back as soon as they got their tax returns but failed to, you have learned that they are not good with returning money to you when they said they would. It is nothing personal. It is the reality of the situation. You have a right to protect your money and yourself. Firmly saying “no” when asked and then calmly reminding them the reason you don’t feel comfortable lending them money is because of them not returning your money in full when they said they would. That is accountability. Not many people like being held accountable for their actions or their promises but it is imperative that you do this, lest you enjoy being walked all over and hurt time and time again.

The most admirable people to me are those who have been burned badly by love and still find the will to recover and love again.

Don’t get me wrong, keeping score and going tit for tat when it comes to relationships is not what I am disseminating. It is important to develop healthy habits that you exercise through your relationships though, and for you to do your part to increase the peace.

The most important thing to take away from this is to never take love for granted. Never take out your frustrations over the world being an unfair, cold place on the people around you. That is incongruous. The most admirable people to me are those who have been burned badly by love and still find the will to recover and love again. And I think, the only people who deserve them are those who don’t wish to get over on anyone, be misleading or expect more (forgiveness) from someone else than they are willing to give themselves.

Sometimes kids can surprise you in the most hopeful ways.

“My life goal is to buy her a house. That would make my life worth it.”

Hesaid this as I drove him home yesterday. Back to his house where many nights he and his older brother sleep by themselves. He’s 14. His brother is 16.

His mom, the one who will receive the house someday, is in and out of the hospital. Lung problems are her latest issue.

Dad “pops in on occasion” he said as we drove. “He’s lazy though, notreliable, mom told him to stay away.” Dad is in and out of jail.

His older brother goes to work “five or six days a week, a buddy picks him up, sometimes he walks the 5 miles.”

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His next check, he’s buying both of us our basketball shoes.

He calls me his mentor. I’m the world’s worst mentor. Inconsistent, sporadic, often too busy with my own crazy life to lean into his. But for five years, on occasion, I show up. Pick him up, buy him lunch, ask him a million questions, and have him hang with our family.

He’s the best at that. He slides right in and plays baseball with Silas. Holds Henley’s hand when she’s upset. Picks on the three big girls. We tease him about his Kansas Jayhawks gear. We tell him we’ll get him some black and gold Mizzou stuff for next time.

“Mom’s on disability, she gets $720 a month. But rent is $640. It doesn’t leave hardly anything for the stuff we need.”

I honestly don’t know what to say. We have a similar conversation each time. As much as I want to understand, I can’t.

“But (older bro) is helping her out with the bills. He gets $250 or so a month and he gives half to her. He keeps a little bit of it and then he pays for both of our cell phones with the rest. His next check, he’s buying both of us our basketball shoes. The season starts in three weeks.”

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The resolve, determination and grit of a kid, two of them actually, that shouldn’t have to be dealing with the crap they’re dealing with. The weight is so heavy that I awkwardly switch the subject.

I ask him if he’s still dating the girl he was seeing the last time we were together.

This is a far different reality than she lives, than our entire family lives.

“Nah, I was losing focus. It’s all school and sports now. I have the first C I’ve ever had, I had to end it so I can get that grade back up.”

The maturity of a man, not a boy.

“My bro has all A’s and B’s, he’s shooting for a full ride. He’s the best player on the team, a kid that wasn’t half as good as him got a full ride to Avila last year. My brother is better than him. See? It’s possible.”

Rowan, our middle child, is in the backseat. Listening to music mainly but listening to this conversation too. This is a far different reality than she lives, than our entire family lives.

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Supposedly, I’m the one that’s shaping and helping him. Reminding him of his opportunities. But the opposite is true. Perhaps I should call him the mentor. He’s even impacting our children.

We rolled up into his neighborhood and I asked him if it is a big week at school this week.

“Yeah. We have a career day Wednesday. If sports don’t work out for me, I’m going to be a nurse. I like taking care of people, plus there will always be a job. People always need nurses.”

I gave him a bro hug, the kind he taught me, and told him that I loved him.

You’re right bro, they always will. Especially big-hearted, mature, determined ones. It was after the nurse dialogue, when he said that his life goal is to buy his mom a house. In cash. So she can use all $720 each month on bills and stuff she needs.

I pulled up into the driveway.

“Oh, dad’s here. He must know mom is in the hospital.”

I asked him if it was OK that dad was there or if he needed to come back to our house.

“It’s all good, part of it. I’ll call mom before bed. I have a big week.”

I gave him a bro hug, the kind he taught me, and told him that I loved him. I said to keep going, keep your head up, and keep working hard.

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Leaving, I felt angry, sad, and frustrated.

A few miles up the road though, I felt hopeful. This young man has stepped into a role many avoid.

But being a man, like this 14 year old man, is tough.

Our neighborhoods are full of boys that never become men. Guys that shrink back, withdraw, and excuse their childish ways.

Being a boy is easy.

But being a man, like this 14 year old man, is tough.

He gave me his new cell phone number, the 5th or 6th one he’s had the past few years. I texted him this morning saying I was proud of him and it was great to see him.

Your mom is a bold, fierce, amazing woman. She has taught you everything you know. She’s your biggest role model and most supportive fan. You wouldn’t trade that awesome lady for any other.

The relationship you have with your mom is your greatest bond, especially when you’re best friends.

Now, there are definitely upsides and downsides to being best friends with your mom. She knows you better than anyone else, and this can sometimes cause problems. Any girl who is besties with her mother can tell you it isn’t always pretty.

Below we explore the good, bad and straight-up ugly circumstances associated with being friends with your mom.

You always have someone to talk to.

The Good: Your mom is your best friend so you tell her everything. She can always keep a secret. She won’t judge you because she’s your mom.

The Bad: At times, you can both offer too much information (TMI). You want to tell her about your love life, but it can be too much for her. She doesn’t want to hear intimate details about her baby’s love life. On the other hand, she will divulge some seriously gritty details about her love life that you will NEVER be old enough to hear.

The Ugly: She can be overbearing and a little critical. Moms are great at giving unsolicited advice.

You can count on her to be your biggest social media fan.

The Good: She makes you feel good about yourself. There is nothing like a proud mama, and she is sure to let you know you are the twinkle of her eye. She’s the perfect person to offer a pick-me-up when you need it most.

The Bad: She Facebook stalks you, and it can get out of control. You introduced your mom to Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and now, it’s like you’ve created a monster. She spends hours upon hours online posting pictures of her garden and correcting other people’s grammar.

The Ugly: She likes, favorites and comments on everything you do on social media. She will often leave pretty embarrassing comments on photos and statuses because she has absolutely no proper social media etiquette. Bless her heart.

You basically have two closets.

The Good: You can wear all of her awesome vintage outfits. Velvet and leopard print have made a comeback, and you are ready to pillage all of those timeless pieces. Having your mom as your best friend means having the boldest of style icons.

The Bad: She calls you out when you steal said vintage outfits. You constantly have to assure her you didn’t sneak anything into your suitcase every single time you visit home (you did), only to be caught in the act when she comments on the Instagram you posted wearing her favorite cashmere coat from the 80s.

The Ugly: You love the “what’s mine is yours” policy you and your mother share. The downside? It can be annoying to come home to find your closet completely raided while your mom is dressed up in one of your going out dresses.

She’s your number-one wing-woman.

The Good: She’s great at talking to cute guys for you. Moms are disarming and adorable. What guy wouldn’t be smitten?

The Bad: A lot of the time, it’s her friend’s son… or literally anyone with a pulse. She’s desperate for you to find someone “special” and settle down. So, she tries to set you up with every single guy she can get her hands on.

The Ugly: She gives your number to strangers she meets in delis or on public transportation and tells you after the fact.

The two of you share the best memories.

The Good: She remembers everything: all the cute things you did as a kid, the shopping trips you’ve shared, that trip to France. She’s been there from the beginning, and she gets you better than anyone else.

The Bad: You also have bad memories; not every memory a girl has with her mom is positive. There are fights; there are words thrown around, and there are times that aren’t easily forgotten. But she’s your mom, so you get over it.

The Ugly: She often shares the most embarrassing memories with your love interests and friends, such as the time you spent your entire prom with your dress tucked into your underwear.

You know she’ll always be there for you no matter what.

The Good: She’s your mom, so there is no such thing as breaking up. You and your mom are in this for life, and that is very comforting. She fits in well with your friend group and everyone loves her. She’s going to be your best friend until the end.

The Bad: She’s literally always there. She’s calling at work; she’s texting you when you’re out with BAE. Your mom might be your best friend, but her nest is empty now. She’s lonely, and she wants to hear from you all the time. It’s also possible that your friends like her a little TOO much. She’s always around. It can be smothering.

The Ugly: She invites herself to everything. She will show up to brunch with your friends and she will come to your apartment unannounced. It can be a little hard to spread your wings when you have mom there all the time. Whenever you leave her, you find that you’re the one worrying if she’s okay without you.

The mother daughter relationship is complex, but there is nothing more rewarding than calling your mom your best friend. Check out the complicated, emotional and loving mother-daughter relationships on Oxygen’s “Fix My Mom.” The new series premieres Tuesday, October 27 at 9/8c.

Have you ever Googled someone you met on an online dating site? Sandy Weiner did, and what she discovered was shocking.

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Since my divorce, I’ve had two significant relationships with men I met through online dating sites. After my last relationship ended 6 months ago, I took a few months off for some ‘me’ time before dating again. Now that I’m back online, I’ve been on a series of first-date-wonders. No second dates. I just wasn’t feeling a connection with anyone until a few days ago.

My heart did a little happy dance when I received an email from a man who seemed interesting, smart, cool, and dare I say…normal! On paper, we seemed to have a lot in common. We exchanged a few emails and set up a time to talk.

Our phone conversation was fun and easy.

He seemed to have a spark to him, a little fire in his belly, which is very attractive to me. I am young at heart, actively engaged in my life, always learning and growing.

As I hung up the phone, I was smiling. Finally, a man who seemed to have his act together.

I am looking for a partner who is alive with excitement for life, intellectually curious, and interested in self-growth, too.

We set a tentative date for Wednesday afternoon.

As I hung up the phone, I was smiling. Finally, a man who seemed to have his act together (unlike the guy last week who canceled our date at the last minute because his cell phone broke. Is that the new dating version of ‘the dog ate my homework’ excuse?).

As I thought about our upcoming date, I began to get an uncomfortable feeling in my gut.

There were a few things he had said on the phone that felt a little off. He said he was a real estate lawyer, but he had been forced to retire early several years ago. It was a blessing in disguise, he said, because he likes working for himself and doesn’t like to take orders from anyone.

He also mentioned that he was different from most men his age, because he likes extreme sports and rides a motorcycle. Something about his forced retirement combined with his love of daredevil high-risk sports made me Google him to see if I could learn more.

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I don’t usually Google my dates before meeting, because I think it’s good to go in with an open mind.

With this guy, my gut was telling me to do a little snooping, and I was shocked by what I found!

I trust my intuition to alert me if anything feels off with a potential date, and if it does, I will either check him out on Google or just say no to a first date. With this guy, my gut was telling me to do a little snooping, and I was shocked by what I found!

There were over 18 articles and court records stating that he was disbarred for Grand Larceny ($700,000), possession of a forged instrument, and attempted bribery. He was convicted and sent to prison for a 4-year term.

What do you do when you learn that your potential date is a felon?

Since we had already set a date to meet, I felt I had to somehow address what my friend Google had revealed. I emailed him one of the article links and asked if it was him. And if so, could he explain.

“Yes, it’s me”, he said. “There’s an explanation, but it’s too much to write about. I’ll just say I was given a bad rap and the charges were false. I never stole any money, yada yada yada…” He said he’d be happy to talk about it and tell me the truth.

Um. No thanks. I was not going to ask a convicted felon for his version of the truth. I already knew everything I needed to know. I ignored his email and moved on in my search for love online.

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This story is not meant to turn you off from dating online. If you want to find love, online dating is one of your best options, especially if you’re over 40. I tell this tale with the hope that it could help you dodge a bullet (literally or figuratively).

Please don’t be afraid to date online. Do stay safe, and remember to trust your intuition. It knows the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

Have you ever Googled a date and discovered something alarming? Please let us know in the comments below.