If you have a crush on someone and want them to feel the same way about you, there are lots of things you can do to try to get their attention. Try being their friend first by supporting your crush and learning about their interests and hobbies. Show them all of the amazing qualities about yourself, like sense of style, confidence in yourself, and ability to have fun. By showing your crush that you like them by doing small things like smiling and making eye contact, your crush may start liking you too.

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Forming a Friendship

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Share your interests with your crush so they get to know you. Tell your crush what you like to do, whether it's playing a sport, learning new languages, or spending time outdoors. Opening up about your likes and dislikes will help your crush learn more about you to see what you both have in common.[1]

For example, invite your crush to a basketball game if you love watching basketball, or tell them about the food drive you organized to support your favorite nonprofit.

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Find out what they’re passionate about. This includes things like music, sports, books, and hobbies. Finding out what types of things your crush loves will give you something to talk about with them, and you might even find a common interest that you both share.[2]

For example, maybe they’re passionate about volunteering at a nursing home, sailing, and woodworking.

Find out about their passions by asking them what they’re interested in, asking one of their friends, or looking at their social media profiles.

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Ask questions about their interests and life. This is one of the best ways to show someone you’re interested while establishing a strong connection. Ask them about their family, pets, hobbies, or any other topic that helps you get to know them. This shows that you’re interested in their life.[3]

For example, you might ask them what they’d like to study in college, what the names of their pets are, or how they learned to play the guitar.

Asking questions will likely encourage them to ask questions about your life in return so that you both get to know each other on a deeper level.

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Spend lots of time with them. The more time you spend around someone, the more likely they are to become attracted to you. Try to hang out with your crush as much as possible, whether it’s in a large group, with just a few other friends, or alone.[4]

Try doing different activities when you’re with each other, like going to a movie, hanging out in a park with friends, or even just sitting together at lunch.

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Be a shoulder your crush can lean on by actively listening. This means showing the signs of a good listener by looking at your crush when they’re talking and avoiding interrupting them. Try to remember things they’ve told you to show that you really listen and want to hear more of what they have to say.[5]

Let your crush tell you all about their bad day, an exciting achievement, or whatever is on their mind.

If you're talking to them over text or social media, try to respond to their messages quickly and answer in a thoughtful way.

For example, if your crush told you they love a certain musician, you might let them know when that musician is performing near you to show that you were listening to their interests.

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Become friends with your crush's friends. If your crush's friends think you're a fun person to hang out with, your crush likely will too. Try suggesting that you all hang out together by going to a movie, attending a sports game, or just hanging out at a friend's house. Being in a group environment will make both you and your crush more comfortable.[6]

Ask your crush's friends questions about their interests to try to get to know them and find something you have in common.

Forming friendships with your crush's friends may also encourage the friends to talk you up in front of your crush.

Be careful not to flirt with your crush's friends, as this sends mixed signals.

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Flirting with Your Crush

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Show them your playful and fun side. If your crush sees you having a good time, they’ll be more likely to want to spend time with you so they have fun too. Try telling your crush funny stories about yourself or just being laid-back and goofy around them to show your humorous side.[7]

Consider being playful and flirty by giving your crush a gentle shove or tap.

Show off your wit or any jokes you know when you’re around your crush or over text.

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Compliment your crush on things you like about them. Maybe your crush is a great basketball player, gets awesome grades in math, or does a great job telling jokes. Let your crush know what specifically you like about them, boosting your crush's confidence while hinting that you like them.[8]

For example, you might tell your crush, "You have a great sense of humor!" or "I saw you playing soccer yesterday—you were awesome!"

You can also tell your crush that you like their smile, outfit, or personality.

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Maintain a level of mysteriousness. Instead of telling your crush everything about yourself at once, try to take it slow and let them learn about you in small tidbits. Constantly talking about yourself is going to overwhelm your crush. Instead, space out the information you tell them, making them want to hear more about you.[9]

If your crush asks you a question about your life like, “What’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?” you could answer the question and then ask your crush a question to keep the conversation flowing naturally.

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Smile as often as possible. A smile will immediately brighten your entire look, making it a simple way to help attract your crush. Try to smile more often when you’re around your crush, even if you’re not directly talking to them. It will make you look and feel naturally happier![10]

Smile at your crush if you see them in the hallway or give them a smile when talking to them about their weekend plans.

If you're texting your crush or using social media, try sending them a smiley face symbol or emoji.

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Avoid acting differently just to impress your crush and stay confident. Try not to pretend to be interested in things you’re not just so that your crush will like you. When you’re being your true self, you’ll give off more confidence than you would if you were faking it, making it more likely for your crush to be attracted to you.[11]

Share your passions with your crush to show them what you’re interested in and find out whether you have any common interests.

Remember that your crush is just a normal person, and there's no need to get super nervous when around them.

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Showing Your Interest

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Hold eye contact to show that you like them. When your crush looks at you, hold their gaze for a few seconds before looking away. This extra eye contact hints that you're interested and it may stir up feelings inside of them too.[12]

If you’re talking to your crush, look into their eyes as you’re speaking.

If your crush notices you looking at them, hold the eye contact for a few seconds and give them a smile.

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Lean in when you’re talking to them. This shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying or doing. Whether you’re sitting across from them at a table or standing a few feet from one another, try to lean towards them a couple of inches to show that you’re engaged.[13]

For example, if you’re sitting in class at separate desks, lean your body towards them when asking your crush a question or telling them about your day.

Pointing your body towards someone is a signal that you’re attracted to them.

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Text or message your crush outside of school. While your crush might not think much of it if you just talk to them at school, getting their number and texting them outside of school hours shows that you're really interested in talking to them. Text your crush about things like homework, after-school activities, or weekend plans.[14]

If your crush has social media like Facebook or Instagram, try sending them messages on these platforms, too.

Try not to bombard your crush with texts or messages—you don't want them to be overwhelmed.

You might text your crush something like, "What did you think about that test today?" or "Are you doing anything fun this weekend?"

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Ask to spend one-on-one time with your crush. If you spend time with your crush mostly in groups of other people, they might not realize that you really like them. Try asking them if they want to hang out with just you by going to a movie, getting a bite to eat, or going to a school event together.[15]

Try to make it clear that you want to spend time alone with them by saying something like, "Would you want to hang out just the two of us sometime?"

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Tell your crush how you feel if you want to know whether they like you for sure. If you really like your crush and just want an answer as to whether they like you back, go ahead and tell them! Even if they don't end up returning the feelings, you'll feel better that you got it off your chest.[16]

Try to tell them in person if possible, away from others so that the two of you can have a real conversation.

If you're too nervous to tell them in person, you can also do it over text. Just be super confident in what you have to say, as a text or message might be saved.

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How do you know if your crush likes you?

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You can tell that your crush likes you if he or she finds excuses to talk to you or touch you. If your crush is shy, he or she might just stare at you from a distance, and smile or look embarrassed when you notice.

Take an honest look at your old relationship and why it ended. Don't try to start it again unless you see good evidence that something has changed for the better. This is very difficult to do if the breakup was recent.

If you have a crush on someone and you want them to like you back, spend time talking to them so you can find things you have in common. Be supportive when they’re feeling down, offer to help them if they’re having trouble with something, and tell jokes to make them laugh so they can see what a good friend you are. Try to act relaxed and comfortable when the person is around, and pursue your own interests and hobbies so they’ll see you as an interesting person with an exciting life. To learn more about when to start flirting and how to get to know them more, keep reading!