I need to make one thing clear – that I didn’t in my post — and that is that I would NEVER have a boyfriend stay over unless I knew it was serious. LIke get married serious. I wouldn’t even introduce him to my kids without that.

In saying that, could I make a mistake? Could I think that I am going to marry somebody & then have it end up that we don’t? Sure. But like most things in life you have to take that leap of faith… and I have to trust myself and my feelings… and my kids.

I agree with singlemom – sex is not bad. If you do not believe in sex before/without marriage then that is one thing… but if you are ok with it – then…

I am in no way advocating that my chidren are old enough to know/talk about sex (6 & 8) – but I am saying that they can understand that I love my boyfriend and we want to be together. Like couples do.

wow-i’m a little late,but this conversation is amazing. this is my 1st post. i am a SM of an amazing 7yr old & i agree 100% w/ Bee & Legal! it has only been him & I for so long, i couldn’t imagine the confusion in his head if i had to explain to him a very heavy, complex situation like seeing me in bed w/ someone. my son is very intelligent & very bright. i will not put him through that. it just not necessary. we are adults-we have the burden to make the difficult choices. i can look at this from two perspectives: i was raised by a SM & i remember “sleepovers” when i was 6,15,& coming home from college at 19. believe me, it does affect your views about sex & love! it also affected the way i saw my mom at times. and she was a good mom-she did an amazing job. however,the sleepover thing is a slippery slope-even when you think you’ve found “the one”.

I have been divorced for three years. I relocated to a new city and started dating a man a couple months ago. He has started staying over. I have a five year old daughter. They know and like each other and I truly think he is a good person and we are in a committed relationship. My daughter sleeps downstairs but at night while we are sleeping, she wakes up and comes in my room. She has seen him there and asked why he is in my bed. She seems fine with it but I cannot help but feel guilty. Her father is not part of her life at all. Is this wring? Am I scarring her somehow? It seems fine but I am just not sure. Any ideas?