My question is: Are you someone else on line? Are you braver on line than in person?
For me, I think I am braver on line then when I am looking into someones eyes. Even though I mean everything I said, I'm, sadly, not sure I would say the same things face to face. I'm embarrassed to say this, but thinking back, I think it rings true for me. What about you?
Nisi32132 *** News story below***
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A married couple are divorcing after they chatted each other up on the Internet using fake names.
S*** and husband A*** poured their hearts out to each other over their marriage troubles.
Using the names 'Sweetie' and 'Prince of Joy' in a online chatroom, the pair thought they had found a soulmate with whom to spend the rest of their lives.
It should have turned out like a real-life version of the 1979 Rupert Holmes song, Escape, where a couple meet through advert by someone 'who likes pina coladas and getting caught in the rain'.
But, unlike in the song, there was no happy ending after they turned up for a date and realised their mistake. Now the pair, are divorcing after accusing each other of being unfaithful.
S***, 27, said: 'I was suddenly in love. It was amazing, we seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriages. How right that turned out to be.'
Okay, I took the real names out of this and the area where they live, but this is real.
But when it dawned on her what had happened, she said: 'I felt so betrayed.'
A***, 32, said: 'I still find it hard to believe that Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years.'

My question is: Are you someone else on line? Are you braver on line than in person? For me, I think I am braver on line then when I am looking into someones eyes. Even though I mean everything I said, I'm, sadly, not sure I would say the same things face to face. I'm embarrassed to say this, but thinking back, I think it rings true for me. What about you? Nisi32132 *** News story below*** *************** A married couple are divorcing after they chatted each other up on the Internet using fake names. S*** and husband A*** poured their hearts out to each other over their marriage troubles. Using the names 'Sweetie' and 'Prince of Joy' in a online chatroom, the pair thought they had found a soulmate with whom to spend the rest of their lives. It should have turned out like a real-life version of the 1979 Rupert Holmes song, Escape, where a couple meet through advert by someone 'who likes pina coladas and getting caught in the rain'. But, unlike in the song, there was no happy ending after they turned up for a date and realised their mistake. Now the pair, are divorcing after accusing each other of being unfaithful. S***, 27, said: 'I was suddenly in love. It was amazing, we seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriages. How right that turned out to be.' Okay, I took the real names out of this and the area where they live, but this is real. But when it dawned on her what had happened, she said: 'I felt so betrayed.' A***, 32, said: 'I still find it hard to believe that Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years.'

You are far too sweet and too much fun to be alone.
All the women in Oz must be blind/deaf to miss a cutie like you.
I said the exact same thing to my beau when we were first getting to know each other.
And if I weren't so madly in love with him?
Well honey, I'd be all over you like white on rice. But then again, maybe our friend Wylde is a bit more your type... ;)

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Timothy5 write:
... then go off home alone to watch the hands on the clock move...

Re: Timothy5 write: ... then go off home alone to watch the hands on the clock move...

You are far too sweet and too much fun to be alone. All the women in Oz must be blind/deaf to miss a cutie like you. I said the exact same thing to my beau when we were first getting to know each other. And if I weren't so madly in love with him? Well honey, I'd be all over you like white on rice. But then again, maybe our friend Wylde is a bit more your type... ;)

I have more bravado on line...I'm fairly shy mostly and unfortunately can be rather dense when it comes to reading signals emanating from wonton women lol mostly because I think my parents told me it would fall off if I did 'that.'

I have more bravado on line...I'm fairly shy mostly and unfortunately can be rather dense when it comes to reading signals emanating from wonton women lol mostly because I think my parents told me it would fall off if I did 'that.'

I am kinda sorry to say I am someone else online. I am so shy in person I barely that to people but on here I can talk about myself and even ask the ladies personal questions that I have a hard time asking in person. Why shouldn't I be more aggreive here tho after all I am (on here) 6'5" and posed in GQ...LOL i cant eventell that lie here lol

I am kinda sorry to say I am someone else online. I am so shy in person I barely that to people but on here I can talk about myself and even ask the ladies personal questions that I have a hard time asking in person. Why shouldn't I be more aggreive here tho after all I am (on here) 6'5" and posed in GQ...LOL i cant eventell that lie here lol

Awwwwwwwww... thanks!! You make a lot of sense!!! You always have the right words to say!!!
Thanks again!!!

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Nisi32132 write:
CoverGirl, that's not a fault it's a gift. You're wise enough to know how and when to use it.
Please the right people, please the ones that deserve to be pleased. You're the judge of who gets what and when. I'm also a people pleaser, I've FINALLY learned that I also MUST please me as well. IF I don't please me, I won't please them.
Nisi32132
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CoverGirl write:
Online I'm ten feet tall and bullet proof. In person... I'm 5 foot 8 and can be a bit of a push over. :-(
I have a personality fault... I'm a people pleaser.

Re: Nisi32132 write: CoverGirl, that's not a fault it's a gift. You're wise enough to know how and when to use it. Please the right people, please the ones that deserve to be pleased. You're the judge of who gets what and when. I'm also a people pleaser, I've FINALLY learned that I also MUST please me as well. IF I don't please me, I won't please them. Nisi32132 Re: CoverGirl write: Online I'm ten feet tall and bullet proof. In person... I'm 5 foot 8 and can be a bit of a push over. :-( I have a personality fault... I'm a people pleaser.

Awwwwwwwww... thanks!! You make a lot of sense!!! You always have the right words to say!!! Thanks again!!!

CoverGirl, that's not a fault it's a gift. You're wise enough to know how and when to use it.
Please the right people, please the ones that deserve to be pleased. You're the judge of who gets what and when. I'm also a people pleaser, I've FINALLY learned that I also MUST please me as well. IF I don't please me, I won't please them.
Nisi32132
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CoverGirl write:
Online I'm ten feet tall and bullet proof. In person... I'm 5 foot 8 and can be a bit of a push over. :-(
I have a personality fault... I'm a people pleaser.

CoverGirl, that's not a fault it's a gift. You're wise enough to know how and when to use it. Please the right people, please the ones that deserve to be pleased. You're the judge of who gets what and when. I'm also a people pleaser, I've FINALLY learned that I also MUST please me as well. IF I don't please me, I won't please them. Nisi32132 Re: CoverGirl write: Online I'm ten feet tall and bullet proof. In person... I'm 5 foot 8 and can be a bit of a push over. :-( I have a personality fault... I'm a people pleaser.

Yeah. I'm quite a bit braver online.
Online I can laugh right out loud (and did!) at confrontation with someone who insults me knowing it can't possibly be personal because they know NOTHING about me. I come across as confident and assured - and I guess a bit scary, lol.
In real life confrontation is something I don't do well and I tend to take things personally. I get my feelings hurt fairly easily. In real life if someone insults me - even if they don't know me - I start to wonder if there might be something to what they have said.
All those guys looking for a "confident woman" would look right through me.
Guess its a good thing my guy loves me just the way I am.

Yeah. I'm quite a bit braver online. Online I can laugh right out loud (and did!) at confrontation with someone who insults me knowing it can't possibly be personal because they know NOTHING about me. I come across as confident and assured - and I guess a bit scary, lol. In real life confrontation is something I don't do well and I tend to take things personally. I get my feelings hurt fairly easily. In real life if someone insults me - even if they don't know me - I start to wonder if there might be something to what they have said. All those guys looking for a "confident woman" would look right through me. Guess its a good thing my guy loves me just the way I am.

Well, sorry to see that exchange...although, I saw it coming.
So am I the same person? My intention is to be the same but I do not think it necessarily translates. I am fairly open, nerdy, creative and direct...and in dating situations or with my small circle of close friends I am intimate and open as well. I am the sort that has a few very close friends but I am freindly with lots of people. It is not uncommon for folks to think they know me better than they do though. Oh and just to explain...the small circle is because I am completely and extremly tenderhearted and vulnerable once folks get that close...so I am careful and cautious about letting folks in...*shrugs*. Oddly there are a handlful of folks on LF that have wormed there way into my heart...and it has only been folks on the blogs...and mostly women.
I may come off as one who is more "active" socially than I am. I am adventurous and exploratory in many ways but I am safe emotionally and physically and I am smart, so I do think things through before acting...does not take me very long to think things through buuut that little bit of cerebral time makes a big difference in my actions.

Well, sorry to see that exchange...although, I saw it coming. So am I the same person? My intention is to be the same but I do not think it necessarily translates. I am fairly open, nerdy, creative and direct...and in dating situations or with my small circle of close friends I am intimate and open as well. I am the sort that has a few very close friends but I am freindly with lots of people. It is not uncommon for folks to think they know me better than they do though. Oh and just to explain...the small circle is because I am completely and extremly tenderhearted and vulnerable once folks get that close...so I am careful and cautious about letting folks in...*shrugs*. Oddly there are a handlful of folks on LF that have wormed there way into my heart...and it has only been folks on the blogs...and mostly women. I may come off as one who is more "active" socially than I am. I am adventurous and exploratory in many ways but I am safe emotionally and physically and I am smart, so I do think things through before acting...does not take me very long to think things through buuut that little bit of cerebral time makes a big difference in my actions.

I am a bit more restrained here than I am in real life. Perhaps that is because I don't want to come off as abrasive or judgemental. When I respond to a blog, I am usually fearful that I will be misunderstood. But as in real life, it doesn't stop me from putting my two cents in if I feel that I have something to say.

I am a bit more restrained here than I am in real life. Perhaps that is because I don't want to come off as abrasive or judgemental. When I respond to a blog, I am usually fearful that I will be misunderstood. But as in real life, it doesn't stop me from putting my two cents in if I feel that I have something to say.

My oh my ...
I do need to say to Lazy that Betterman did not out you on this blog. Yes, he made a snide comment but only you and a handful of people knew what the true meaning of the comment was.
Lazy, you told me you met someone in New York but you didn't tell me who. Even I didn't know it was AmuseMe until reading your comments on this blog.
And AmuseMe ... honey, we should talk.

My oh my ... I do need to say to Lazy that Betterman did not out you on this blog. Yes, he made a snide comment but only you and a handful of people knew what the true meaning of the comment was. Lazy, you told me you met someone in New York but you didn't tell me who. Even I didn't know it was AmuseMe until reading your comments on this blog. And AmuseMe ... honey, we should talk.

Ugh, Penn Station? Blah, at least GCS would have been a bit more interesting, less NY scuz these days.
Although the need to discuss personal business on the blogs I find distasteful. Whatever went on between you and Amuse is between the two of you unless agreed upon to discuss with the general public. I am more than hip to satisfying one's desires, believe me, but certainly I have no need to share my little black book either.

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LazyAfternoons write:
Mmmm.
Do I get all serious and berate BestMan for his huge lack of discretion or do I keep it humorous and just poke fun at his crappy, almost embarrassing use of the word ?wuv? on whatever other thread that he posted it on?
....
So there you have it. Your go BestMan.
LA

Re: LazyAfternoons write: Mmmm. Do I get all serious and berate BestMan for his huge lack of discretion or do I keep it humorous and just poke fun at his crappy, almost embarrassing use of the word ?wuv? on whatever other thread that he posted it on? .... So there you have it. Your go BestMan. LA

Ugh, Penn Station? Blah, at least GCS would have been a bit more interesting, less NY scuz these days. Although the need to discuss personal business on the blogs I find distasteful. Whatever went on between you and Amuse is between the two of you unless agreed upon to discuss with the general public. I am more than hip to satisfying one's desires, believe me, but certainly I have no need to share my little black book either.

Lazy, you censure BestMan for his lack of 'discretion' and follow up with a short pr?cis of our little get-together in NY that all of maybe 5 people knew about? What IS fair to me here? Naturally as BestMan and I spend a lot of time involved in phone conversations he was aware of my little foray into New York to meet you last December. I also explained to him how brave I was to go into New York alone at night from the airport, no matter the reasons you had to not accompany me. He knows a lot about you and I Lazy and that's ok. What is also ok is BestMan's desire to right a wrong he feels was doled to me on your behalf, given certain things which came to light after I flew out - those being too personal to air here, among friends some of us here wouldn't otherwise have if closets were laid bare. What should not be ignored is the fact that I went to meet you last December with the intention of never seeing you again. I bought into your advertisement. It was to be a fling to serve several purposes for me, one being I felt I deserved some pampering. I needed an adventure and Lazy was promising. Was I disappointed with the trip? No? and yes. I don't regret meeting you and I don't regret not being met at the airport. I discovered that I can be quite resourceful when I need to be... and that you can get from 49th Street in Manhattan to the airport in Newark in just under 30 minutes if you tip well. Was I completely happy with the cards I was dealt? No, I wasn't, but I played them anyway and made the most out of a weekend that otherwise could have been horrendous had I let it be. There are underlying circumstances which I will not discuss here that gives me pause, none of them have anything to do with arriving at an airport alone. They do, however, have everything to do with the abrupt and surly attitude BestMan has towards you and I will not hold that against him. I suggest we all pick up our dragging lips and call it a night. Close the subject. Thank you.

Lazy, you censure BestMan for his lack of 'discretion' and follow up with a short pr?cis of our little get-together in NY that all of maybe 5 people knew about? What IS fair to me here? Naturally as BestMan and I spend a lot of time involved in phone conversations he was aware of my little foray into New York to meet you last December. I also explained to him how brave I was to go into New York alone at night from the airport, no matter the reasons you had to not accompany me. He knows a lot about you and I Lazy and that's ok. What is also ok is BestMan's desire to right a wrong he feels was doled to me on your behalf, given certain things which came to light after I flew out - those being too personal to air here, among friends some of us here wouldn't otherwise have if closets were laid bare. What should not be ignored is the fact that I went to meet you last December with the intention of never seeing you again. I bought into your advertisement. It was to be a fling to serve several purposes for me, one being I felt I deserved some pampering. I needed an adventure and Lazy was promising. Was I disappointed with the trip? No? and yes. I don't regret meeting you and I don't regret not being met at the airport. I discovered that I can be quite resourceful when I need to be... and that you can get from 49th Street in Manhattan to the airport in Newark in just under 30 minutes if you tip well. Was I completely happy with the cards I was dealt? No, I wasn't, but I played them anyway and made the most out of a weekend that otherwise could have been horrendous had I let it be. There are underlying circumstances which I will not discuss here that gives me pause, none of them have anything to do with arriving at an airport alone. They do, however, have everything to do with the abrupt and surly attitude BestMan has towards you and I will not hold that against him. I suggest we all pick up our dragging lips and call it a night. Close the subject. Thank you.

In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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LazyAfternoons write:
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Betterman351 write:
Yes in real life I'm a bigger wussie than LazyAfternoons.
Mmmm. I'm not sure if thems fighting words BestMan...come on come on....puddem up puddem up....(as per the Lion in The Wizard of Oz).

Re: LazyAfternoons write: Re: Betterman351 write: Yes in real life I'm a bigger wussie than LazyAfternoons. Mmmm. I'm not sure if thems fighting words BestMan...come on come on....puddem up puddem up....(as per the Lion in The Wizard of Oz).