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This post will hopefully build on my other posts where I talk about MODERN SOCIETAL MENTALITY:

Chase Pleasure. Avoid Pain.

I have talked about pain before – it is just a FEELING like any other, so you can’t really make any decisions in life based on the fact that there’s a possibility of pain, – you cannot chase FEELINGS whether they be good or bad. Why? Because they are one and the same animal. That’s right, they are BOTH the same child of your brain but from the animal kingdom. Because this child is from the animal kingdom, it’s impossible to rationalize or understand them: there’s no rhyme nor reason to feelings, only primal instincts and reactions which we sometimes relate to survival. Soggy feelings such as sadness and depression are hard (sometimes impossible) to understand. Anger is justifyable and easy to understand, yet because it comes and goes so quickly and clouds our minds, is NOT a good asset. In fact if you make a decision based on anger, you are bound to regret it later, when your pet animal is gone. So what can we learn from dealing with feelings;

1.They come quickly like the wind, and can seem intense, in trying to influence our Human Brain. Imagine your large pet-dog, a pitbull named BIlly, jumping on you and trying to convince you to take him out for a walk. It’s entirely up to YOU whether you listen to your dog, or you tame your dog and make him listen to you. But the moral of the story is: YOU DON”T HAVE TO. In fact, I urge you NOT TO. You may or may not love your feelings, but you still have to be the one in control. Example of this is people who enjoy to be scared and thrill-seekers who love roller-coasters, horror houses, horror movies, ect. They intentionally put themselves into situations where they experience intense feelings, in this case of fear, but they are entirely in CONTROL. So these people are like a good pet owners who are taking their pets for a scheduled walk – rather than letting their pets run their house and run away whenever they please. You can still love your pets and be a good master. If you love your feelings and want to nurture them, great! SCHEDULE times when you will do so, and feel to your heart’s content.

2.In case with pain, this is easy to comprehend. This “pet” is only loved by a handful of people on earth, namely masochists. The majority of people despise and hate pain, so this animal has a tremendous power of influence, just by the threat of appearing! This feeling can make you do ANYTHING. Think about it. Pain is unpleasant and scary and SO POWERFUL by association with death (again a primal feeling, since you can train animals easily by using a whip) that it’s a no-brainer that it made into human subconscious. But it can be harnessed! Winners are not afraid of pain because they don’t live their lives nurturing their little pets. Winners are “of this world” because they are less selfish and they have humanitarian goals that are REAL and material. If you are to belong to the real world, then letting go of your attachment to feelings and taking control, is THE WAY TO GO. Don’t be afraid of your feelings – just recognize them for what they are, and every time they make way into your consciousness, you can simply dismiss them: “I know who you are. Now, shoo. I have some grown-up work to do here. We’ll play later.”

3.Now in case of PLEASURE SEEKING, I will probably meet a lot of opposition here, because we people just love our fun and leisure time. I may get shot trying to prove you otherwise – with counter-arguments being, “we live to be happy”, “happiness is a meaning of life”, “do what makes you happy”. It won’t be a stretch to say that we live in a HAPPINESS ORIENTED SOCIETY. Just like it’s beneficial for pharmaceutical companies to keep us all drugged up, so is for the few “in-power” people to tell you to keep on chasing your little joy-rides here and there, instead of laser-focusing on achieving large goals, rather that driving the society somewhere, you should be concerned only with your own skin. The truth is there can be only so many people in power (very few). So what’s to do for the millions of “masses”? Well, for them we have cheap and not-so-cheap entertainment, movies, Facebook, roller coasters, gadgets and porn. You can chase accessible pleasures, buy iPads and collect vintage cars – whatever it IS that makes you ‘happy’ – i.e. whatever will make your brain go numb, and the “fuzzy feelings” activated, will FOOL you into false sense of fulfillment. It’s a distraction, nothing more.

Talk about our entrapment on the physical plane. These “fuzzy feelings” are just as dangerous as the “saber-toothed feelings” , because they CONTROL US via our desires!!!

TO RELEASE YOUR ATTACHMENT TO YOUR HAPPINESS IS TO RELEASE THE CHAINS THIS WORLD HAS CAST UPON US. The poisonous venom of PLEASURE intoxicates us into this world and takes us under it’s spell with the ILLUSION of this world and the promise of TRUE happiness. But it’s not true happiness. Only ACHIEVEMENT and it’s evolved pet-animal TRIUMPH (otherwise known as satisfaction) , spell the true happiness and the destination of successful journey from point A to point B, measured in TIME units.

How many of us tell themselves at night: “If only I had more things that gave me pleasure! To be happier, I need a new AppleWatch. Or an iPhone. Or a bike. Or a new shiny car. Or a better man/woman. Or “that” house. Whatever your particular craving maybe!!!.” But of course, that leads to more insatiable desires. You get the new phone, and a newer version comes out. Your car becomes the old news. You get a divorce. You move from New York to California, for United States to the Foreign Lands. Talk about seeking for Greener Pastures….

ALL THAT….IN THE NEVER ENDING PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.

But if you have been reading my blog, you should be getting my drift by now. Hopefully, little by little, you are waking up. For WE CAN NEVER HAVE ENOUGH. We have been fooled by our own feelings (primal instincts, an old operating system of the brain, our creative children, but I like to call them our brain’s PET ANIMALS) because we gave them far too much importance and power in our lives. Only their conscious HUMAN counterpart, the driver at the wheel, is capable of stripping us of the objects of our desires, revealing a somber truth. And the truth is…

NOTHING OF THIS WORLD GIVES US SECURITY AND PERMANENCE. NOTHING OF THIS MATERIAL WORLD LASTS. WE ARE BORN NAKED AND WE LEAVE THIS WORLD WITH NOTHING.

And I didn’t just come up with this, folks. This is the ancient wisdom of Maya. I am only the voice. Just how do you apply it depends on how evolved you are and your willingness to grow.

Let us review the 4 states of everything that exists in this vast Universe:

1.Nonliving

2.Plant

3.Animal

4.Human

Every reality can be described in the following 4 categories:

1.Space

2.Time

3.Energy

4.Information

I will complicate things further by adding 4 more verbs:

1.Thinking

2.Reciprocity

3.Movement

4.Development

As we know the fractional theory that everything in the Universe is build based on the same matrix. Yet even the smallest non-living stone has it’s own, however primitive, consciousness and principle. So this simple principle is always communicated through the material, communicating itself through its vibration. We all vibrate on our own level.

So I have been sounding off to you, my readers. about the rhymes and reasons of our existence. But we all have our OWN tools of perception of the outside world. One of them, undoubtedly, is a THOUGHT (which characterizes an intelligent being). And yet we are NOT all very intelligent, and not all decision-making where the thought is present, is intelligent.

So what I want to ask yourself today is:

Is the thought an INSTRUMENT to get across a FEELING (because it should be visa versa)? If so, write down WHAT FEELING?. Is it a feeling of:

Hurt, anger?

Fear, love?

Greed, jealousy?

Responsibility, unity?

Notice that the feeling (emotion) is always connected to the material. Just like the MATERIAL AND NON-MATERIAL WORLDS ARE NATURALLY INTERCONNECTED – reflecting on the dual nature of this world. Number 4 is so selfless and so rare, that only 1 in thousands will have it, as this rare type thinks of the whole, rather than in parts, and has the ability to DEVELOP and create something new, and has the ability to lead.

But more than anything, writing down the feeling should prompt you to “catch the beast” and tame your animal, your emotion as the driving force behind your decisions/actions.

By giving this animal a MASTER – one who controls him, it’s possible to harness and control the amount of “energy” you have, and achieve more than you ever dreamt of.

This will be a short know-how of how to deal with your brain freeze. It’s not uncommon even for people of a superior intellect with a super-high IQ, to freeze up and draw a complete blank (“the black screen of death”) – when brain computes in one of those old DOS command-prompts a simple phrase: I DONT KNOW.

This post will address the I don’t know cure, and you can try it yourself and let me know how it worked for you. Give it a Like if it did, or let me know how you’ve dealt with it!

So I’ll get to the cure: if your brain refuses to compute and you are drawing a total blank, the best thing to do is to stop thinking about YOU (to become totally detached), and act only in best interests of the person/ or problem you are dealing with. You can even imagine that you are wearing the red cape and you are a superhero of your choice (Batman, Superman and Spiderman are my all time favorites).

Now, there are SOME people who are naturally empathetic who love to sacrifice themselves in some noble helpfulness. My Neighbour C. is such a person – he helps me to install my furniture, carry stuff, and even alerts me of fire hazards. When he sees “suspicious activity”, he is not the one to ignore it. Oh and it would insult him if you offered him any sort of gift – he helps just because he wants to be useful. He is a prime example of a Christian who loves his brother/neighbour as he does himself. I am truly lucky with my neighbours 🙂

Anyways, back to the cure, you have to enter a superhero mode and “SOLVE A PROBLEM” by taking a complete responsibility and that means you must make a decision yourself (don’t let the other person make a decision and don’t ask them to) . Another caveat: be helpful by all means and go out of your way, to solve a problem YOURSELF, but do not seek an immediate reward. Just be the boss of the situation, be the HERO and save the day. The reward will come later – trust me. Even if it seems like a “lost cause”. The key is to be completely selfless in this MOMENT of helplessness, and take charge. And yes, it takes courage to be the hero!!!

What’s the difference btw the winner and the loser?
1.The winner jumps over an obstacle, the loser lets the obstacle overcome him. Focus on overcoming a problem, BE the solution, and don’t seek a reward(this is what I have learned many times over).
2.The winner takes charge, the loser let’s others take charge, thus becoming helpless, becoming a victim of circumstances. If you make a pact to always take charge, I can guarantee you that helplessness will get replaced with feeling in control and being empowered.
3.The winner has patience and leaves emotions out of the equation while the loser loses his marbles and becomes too frustrated to deal with something. (The winner is in control of his emotions, the loser is a slave to his emotions).
4. The winner can, the loser can’t. I just will say, you will hear the loser loud and clear, because they complain, blame others, and often become defensive – they are “passive-aggressive”, while the winners are “active-assertive” and rather than focusing on the “why it was too hard”, they focus on finding the right answer. Losers will spare no detail explaining and exaggerating a problem so it seems bigger than it really is.
5. The winner is not afraid to lose, and thus they take more risks. I will expand further on this – the winners are again in control of their base emotion, which is fear. The losers DON’T ACT, they await for the right moment and sit on the fence (can’t decide).

Hmmm. A footnote – It’s more than OK to pause and do your DUE DILIGENCE, researching your subject matter to the full extent so that your actions are based on solid data, rather than hearsay and a wonderful spiel. Remember: “not all is gold that glitters”!

SO I don’t 100% agree with this statement because we can’t blindly agree to everything just because “we have no fear” or we want to risk thousands of dollars for the sake of being bold. We absolutely must take CALCULATED risks, but BE SMART ABOUT IT.

We’ve been programmed /wired/ with our “old operating system” to get pleasure and avoid pain. In fact, pain is so uncomfortable we will do almost anything to rid of it. Once I put it out there I realized once more how primitive we are and how attached to our “children” – here we go again, Phoenix is gonna give another lecture on harm from FEELINGS!!! Yes and don’t mind if I do!!! I am a strong believer in higher consciousness and discipline – and this can only be achieved when your brain is not detrimented, and your focus is not weakened. Focus is the power of energy. And feelings is the only uncontrollable force that stands in the way of a rational and calm human being and a fearful “nervous” animal. If I could kill that animal, I would. If I could hire a designer and cut out all but a bunchful of feelings like some tangled up wires with my wire cutters , I would do so in a heartbeat! Feelings are my enemies – and I try as hard as I can to fight them.
While exercise, working, and physical activity helps, I still wish there was an OFF switch to sad, glad, mad. I am actually going to try meditation this week to dis-attach myself and experience complete calm, like the calm of still lake… Not a wave! Not one feeling. Just determination to succeed and be satisfied – instead of ape’s constant drive “to please himself”, and to base his every decision on what feels good; I make the decision on “what is the healthiest choice”… I make the decision to learn to be smarter, tougher, and more evolved from the primitive ape!!! I also want to be closer to God – God is the calm storm himself, and we have nothing but a very old 10-rule testament to guide us. God really needs to update his “website!!! ” Quite some time has passed. How about: “Thou shall not feel”? We could really avoid murder with this one(just stop feeling angry). How to we prevent lying? Stop feeling fear. How do we stop cheating? Stop doubting. Stop coveting at your neighbours wife? Stop feeling lustful and self-entitled.
It is this easy. Feelings are good for the theatre – where they are paid for. Or the movies, where tears run like rivers threatening to destroy cities (btw I hate watching those drama-filled tear-jerkers). Are you going to miss your feelings? Try it! Try living the anti-feeling life for yourself, simply dismissing emotions like the wind because they don’t matter, they are not important, and they are as fleeting as the weather. (And just as destructive!) It’s not necessary to get yourself from sad to happy – if you are sad (which happens sometimes for no reason, even to me), you say to yourself:”I have NO feelings”, and carry on!

Adopting such an attitude doesn’t make you a robot. On the opposite it makes you smarter and helps you make better, rational decisions. Listen to your brain! Love your brain! Make friends with your brain – not your brain’s pet! And rewards will be numerous. I already noticed an unhealthy level of distrust to myself, questioning myself without my touchy-feeley self. But I am finding it more and more liberating each day, it’s definitely working for me or I would have already quit. 🙂

I hope to have peaked your curiosity and wishing you evolutionary progress whenever you might be ~~>
Your cyber-friend,
Phoenix

Doubts! Another negative pesky feeling that stands in a way of decisive action. Doubts disguise themselves as thoughts, but don’t let them fool you: your horses are trying to run away with the carriage again and prevent a positive action which leads to a goal achievement. Had I told you that I decided to fire my feelings this month? As a challenge I decided to dismiss ALL of my feelings, ignoring them – bad or good. I only allow good feelings of satisfaction AFTER a goal completion but otherwise I forbade myself any pleasures – no more TV, games, no more fake happiness and false fulfillment. My horses will have to earn their living now by being obedient and giving me only what I want, when I want it. Did I ask for doubts? No. I have no place in my life right now for ANY negative emotion, period. I am only allowed to feel satisfaction when I have earned it. And this month, I am announcing a NO PLEASURE month. That’s right – no conscious pleasure of any kind. Will I survive? I am actually excited about trying this.

I will keep you posted!!!
All the best in your fulfillment in life!!!
Yours,
Phoenix!

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