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Help! I Don’t Know What To Do!

“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” Isaiah 40:11

“You can only learn so much from books. You can only learn so much from education. Ultimately, it is the wisdom of God that will carry you through in the toughest situations of life.” Ravi Zacharias

It’s time to meet with your Jesus. He is the One who longs to hold you close and teach you all you need to know. Rejoice today, knowing that He delights in you, His dear daughter, coming to Him about anything and everything. He loves to hear your voice and He never tires of hearing it.

Read John 10:27-30. Read the whole chapter if you have time. Write verse 27 in your journal.

Help! I Don’t Know What To Do!

Do you ever get confused with all of the “parenting wisdom” available in the world: to spank or not to spank, timeouts or time-ins, boundaries or no boundaries, homeschool or public school, immunizations or no immunizations? And the list goes on and on and on. It seems like everywhere we turn, we hear conflicting stories about how we should parent our children.

We all want to do our best and raise up successful men and women who love God, so what’s a poor mother to do?

I remember feeling so confused as a mom. Not only did I feel inadequate because I wasn’t raised in a Christian home and had no idea how to have one, but I also felt lost because of all of the parenting advice out there.

To complicate matters, I had some great friends in my life, but their children weren’t the same as mine; theirs were easy and compliant. Their advice wasn’t always helpful because they didn’t understand everything that was going on. And, to make matters worse, I compared my children’s behavior to theirs and felt even more defeated. Then, it would all go downhill from there…

Do you ever feel like I did—overwhelmed and confused about what to do with all of the parenting advice? It doesn’t have to be like this. There is another way, and it’s really simple; learn to go to God first. He knows your children better than you do. After all, He created them! And He loves your children with a wide and long and high and deep love that exceeds our human understanding.

As a Christ-follower, you have the capability to hear God’s voice. You have the Holy Spirit living inside of you and He speaks to you, deep on the inside, especially as you are reading the Bible and whenever you are praying.

I know this may sound oversimplified, but this one habit can change your life and the way you parent your children. It can increase your confidence and help you to feel like a strong mom who knows her kids and how to raise them in the power of the Holy Spirit.

As we learn to listen to God’s voice, we can hear Him speaking to us about our children and everything else going on in our lives.

So mama, before you pick up the phone to call a friend or surf the internet for expert advice, simply stop, pick up your Bible, and pray. Advice from other moms and authors is so important, and can really help us to become a good mom (Proverbs 13:20), but the first and foremost place we should go for help is God, then to our husband. But that’s another devotion for another day…

Blessings and Love,

Deb

Questions to Ponder

If you were being completely honest, do you go to God first or do you go to people? What would help you to turn to God first?

Where do you need help? Write it down? Ask God for wisdom in this area.

Faith-Filled Ideas

Establishing a daily quiet time has completely changed my life. You will be amazed at how easy it is and how much it helps.

Here are a few simple ideas I have learned over the years:

If you do not read the Bible regularly, ask God to help you! Ask Him to give you the time and energy and desire to do it. He wants to help you (John 15:5-8).

Read your Bible and pray most days, even if it’s just for a few moments. As you begin your time with God, ask Him to speak to you. He will! Be sure to pray for wisdom. God will give it to you (James 1:5).

Make sure to write down anything that you sense God is telling you. It could simply be a Scripture that stood out to you or a specific inclination you may feel in your heart or mind. Write it down and remember to come back to it later on in the week to add anything you may have learned from your other times with God. Regularly look back over your journal to prayerfully identify any patterns in what you are writing down. This just may be your answer (John 16:13).

If you don’t feel like you hear God speak to you, that’s okay! The more time you spend praying and reading the Word of God, the easier it will be for you to learn to hear His voice. Understanding the Scriptures and hearing the voice of God is a little like learning a foreign language; the more you practice and speak it, the better you get at it (Romans 12:2).

Pray with your husband and ask his advice about what’s going on with your child or what you are struggling with (Ephesians 5:22-24).

Pray with a friend. Don’t forget that a big component of the Help Club for Moms is praying with a prayer partner! It’s soooo powerful to pray regularly with a friend (James 5:16).

Last, but certainly not least, is to obey! Do what God tells you to do in His Word. Ask Jesus to help you to do what He is telling you to do. And remember, God will never tell you to do anything that does not align with the Word of God (2 Timothy 3:16-17).

You can do it, mama! You were made for this! Remember, you are not alone—never, ever, ever. Jesus is with you each and every day.

My name is Deb Weakly and I helped create the Help Club for Moms with one goal in mind: to create a community in which moms help moms to know the love of Christ. My own childhood was difficult and filled with sadness. I didn’t grow up in a Christian home, so when I became a Christian (and soon after, a mom), I had no idea what I was doing; I didn’t know what it meant to raise Christ-centered kids, but I so desperately wanted to learn.

I remember going into my daughter's room night after night and kneeling beside her bed and crying my heart out to God because I didn’t know how to be a Christian mom; I felt like I had no idea what I was doing. You know what? God is so faithful! He answered me and simply said, “Spend time with me, Deb.” And so I did. I began arising 15-30 minutes earlier each day so I could read my Bible and pray, and plan out my day with my family.

If there was one thing I would love to share with you is that God is personal and loves you as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by our amazing God! Come as you are! His loving presence can be practically known and experienced. He is not a God who is far away, He is near and easily found. He longs for you to come to Him!

Deb is married to her soulmate of 28 years, Randy. They have two grown children, Christie and Jack, and one precious, answer to prayer son-in-law named Alex.