'I'm suffering from premature ejaculation'

Q. I am taking Forzest 10 mg for last 5 years and enjoying sex, but still suffering from premature ejaculation. I want to know whether Dapox will solve my both problem or should I take both at a time? Please help me.A. Forzest is Tadalafil, you may continue that. Please do not take more than 1 tablet in 24 hours. Forzest will help in increasing the rigidity of penis, it has no effect whatsoever on the ejaculation. You may take Dapoxetine 60 mg along with Forzest with a glass of water. Forzest will help in better rigidity and Dapoxetine will help in delaying your orgasm/ejaculation.

Q. I am 35 years old and married. We have a 2-year-old daughter and my wife is convincing me for a second child but my problem is that I am not having interest in sex. Please suggest any medicine to improve my sexual life.A. One needs to find what the exact cause of losing the sexual desire. Is it monotony, or lack of response from the partner or increased social or financial problems, depression is another common cause for the decline of sexual desire. Sometimes dislike of the partner, dislike of the partner’s body odour or even dislike of the partner’s behavior could be responsible for decline in sexual desire. I have come across cases where people have lost desire suddenly just by discovering that the partner is having an affair. So the ideal way to treat this is to find the cause and treat it. You can make use of fantasy at the moment because for most people fantasies are always more colourful than realities. The other alternative would be to do sensate focus exercises; these are pleasuring sessions devised by well-known US authorities Masters and Johnson. This involves sensuous interplay by avoiding sexual interactions. Intercourse is forbidden initially and the couple is immersed in a situation of total physical intimacy which involves a lot of sensuous touch. The emphasis is whatever is sensual could be sexual. I do not want to advise any medicine to you because some of the medicines advocated to increase the sexual desire can itself paralyze the sexual system and when one can solve the problem without the drugs why use them.

You can ask your most intimate questions to Dr Prakash Kothari. Send an email to sexologist@mid-day.com. India’s top sexologist will answer them right here.