Pages

Tuesday, 1 May 2018

Common Relationship Problems Couples Face & How To Resolve Them

Every
couple faces problems at some point in their relationship. It doesn’t
matter how long you’ve been together or how much you love each
other, life isn’t perfect, and will throw you a curveball every now
and then. Perhaps you got a promotion and are having to work late
most nights, or your mother-in-law throws you daggers every time you
go over for dinner. Your partner may have even cheated, and you’re
struggling to get over it. Whatever the problem, and however big or
small it may be, it’s how you handle it that’s important. With
that in mind, here are fifteen common relationship problems and what
you can do to resolve them.

1.
There’s A Lack Of Trust

Trust
is a vital part of any relationship, so when you’re struggling to
trust your partner, it can cause some major issues. Your partner may
not have even done anything to lose your trust - More often than not,
this problem rears its head because of issues you have related to
past relationships, and sometimes even for no reason at all. To build
the trustback
up again, you both need to make an effort to be honest, respectful,
consistent, and trustworthy.

2.
Not Enough Time Together

If
you feel as though you and your partner don’t see each other
enough, this can be challenging and upsetting. Because of this, it’s
important that you plan your time together in advance so that nothing
gets in the way of your plans. If you live in different countries,
you should find out more
informationabout
partner visas, so that you can be together properly. When you’re
not together physically, you can still text, call, and facetime, so
that you don’t miss each other too much.

If
you spend too much time together, this can be a problem too,
especially if you’re living together. It’s easy to start feeling
overwhelmed and suffocated if you and your partner are never away
from one another, and this can cause tension, which results in
arguments. Because of this, it’s vital that you have some time
apart to grow. This means you should plan to go out with friends,
take part in your hobbies, see your family, and whatever else you
want to alone.

4.
You’re Insecure About The Future

You
might want to travel the world, but your partner might want to settle
down and start planning
your wedding.
When you love your partner, but know that your paths aren’t leading
in the same direction, it can get pretty scary. You start to worry
about the future and how long your relationship is going to be able
to last. But before you start freaking out too much, speak to each
other and see if you can come to a compromise that makes both of you
happy.

5.
You Don’t Like Their Parents

No
one can choose their parents, but that fact doesn’t make your life
any easier when you don’t hit it off with your partner’s. Rather
than focus on the negatives, try to focus on the positive, and
remember that, as impossible as your partner’s mom and dad may
seem, they raised the person you love. If this doesn’t help, and
they continue to be rude to you, then tell your partner how you feel.
They may be his parents, but he should defend you when they’re in
the wrong.

While
your partner can’t choose his parents, he did choose his friends,
which might make things a little awkward for you if you and his pals
don’t get along. Rather than give your partner an ultimatum and
expect him to pick you over his friends, explain how you feel and
what issues you have. He can then either decide to intervene or just
meet up with his buddies without you, while you meet up with yours.
You don’t have to spend every moment of the day together after all.

7.
They Don’t Understand You

Everyone
goes through stuff that no one but them can completely understand.
However, when you feel as though this stuff is causing distance in
your relationship, it’s time to take some action. You need to be
vocal and explain the things you’ve been through and how they’ve
made you feel. You should also be patient and answer any questions
your partner may have. Communication is vital in a relationship, so
learn to express yourself, and everything will go a lot smoother.

8.
Arguments Are Constant And Repetitive

Fighting
constantly about the same topics is only ever going to lead to a
miserable relationship or the end of one. It doesn’t matter whether
you’re fighting about your friends, how much money they’ve spent,
who needs to do the laundry, or whatever else, the more you argue,
the less chance you’ll actually resolve anything. Instead, take a
step back and deconstruct your issues together, in a calm and
productive way. This will help you get to the core of the problem and
ultimately resolve it.

9.
Chores Result In Wars

Some
of the biggest arguments that couples have are always about chores.
Of course, it’s easy to lose your temper when it seems like you’re
doing all of the housework every single day and your partner’s
doing nothing, but you need to keep your cool. Rather than fight
about it, sit down together and make a list of everything that needs
to be done. Then calmly decide who’s going to do what each day, and
try to stick to your lists as much as possible. You may need to
compromise at times, but that’s what relationships are all about.

10.
You Argue About Money

Money
is another huge cause of conflict within relationships, and it’s
one that needs to be addressed right away. When you and your partner
start to get serious, you
need to talkabout
how each of you is with money. This way, you can be prepared and
start to compromise before problems arise. If you get into money
trouble, don’t take your stress out on each other, and instead work
together to resolve your problems.

11.
Their Vices Are An Issue

If
your partner smokes or drinks, and you don’t, this could make you
feel uncomfortable and cause tension between the two of you. It would
be easy to suggest telling them to quit, but your partner shouldn’t
have to change their lifestyle because you want them to. They need to
want to change for themselves. However, that doesn’t mean that you
can’t compromise with them, by asking that they only smoke outside,
for example.

When
you’ve been with someone for a while, it becomes easy to take them
for granted and put other things above your relationship. Sure, you
may have a date planned, but there’s no harm in canceling to go out
with your friends, right? Wrong. No matter what else is going on, you
need to make time for each other, and follow through with plans
you’ve committed to. If your partner isn’t doing this, then speak
to them about it and tell them how it makes you feel.

13.
You Have Different Beliefs

Lots
of people live long and happy lives with partners who have different
religious and political beliefs to them, so if you’re struggling
with a partner that doesn't agree with you, don't give up hope just
yet. Communication is essential in these situations, so be open about
how you feel, and let your partner know when they’re not being
respectful of your beliefs. You should also discuss how your
different beliefs might affect your future before it becomes a
problem.

14.
They had An Affair

When
you find out that your partner has cheated, whether it be on you or a
partner in the past, your whole world can feel like it’s falling
apart. Of course, it will always be more devastating to learn that
you’ve been cheated on yourself, but to find out that your partner
has cheated at all can cause a lot of trust issues. If you’re
willing to forgive your partner for their mistakes, then you need to
speak to them about things that they can do to earn your trust. You,
in return, have to promise not to use their past as a weapon in
arguments, as this will cause more problems.

15.
You’ve Both Got Bored

When
you’ve been with the same person for years, boredom becomes a
pretty common issue. Whether you admit it or not, you might find that
your whole relationship just feels stale and that you barely feel
like a couple anymore. When this happens, speak to your partner and
come up with a few ways that you could spice
things up a bit.
Often, just going on a date can bring back those feelings you
experienced during the “honeymoon period” of your relationship.