Monday, June 17, 2013

Things Could Always Be Worse

By Mark W. Danielson

Recently, one of my dear friends underwent his umpteenth
back surgery.His latest came less than
three months after they sliced him in half, front and back, neck to hips because
his pins and screws were already coming out.A week or so ago they pronounced his latest surgery a success.Time will tell.I always think of him daily when I get that
stabbing pain in my lower back.Whenever
it gets especially bad, I think of how much my friend has endured and suddenly my
discomfort isn’t so bad.

Another friend lost his home in the Colorado Springs Black
Forest fire.They have yet to see the
carnage and have no knowledge of whether their beloved dog survived.As an animal lover, I cannot imagine what
they are going through right now.When I
think of the computer problems, broken glasses, phone problems and my car dying
I experienced recently, my problems seem petty.My heart truly goes out to all those who have lost homes in this fire,
and recent tornadoes.

Pain is part of writing, too.Every writer experiences trials and tribulations,
and no matter how bad things are, they could always get worse.Need another example?In 1991, flames engulfed the Oakland hills,
killed over twenty people including two first-responders, and destroyed over
three thousand residences.Among the
homeless was an author who had spent two years writing her manuscript.On the day of the fire, she woke up and ran
for her life.Having no time to gather personal
belongings, her manuscript burned with her house, and not having backed it up meant
it was gone forever.She never re-wrote
that particular manuscript, but she turned a negative into a positive by transferring
her fear onto her characters.Only first-hand
experience can capture such emotion.

Have you ever received a rejection letter?It’s impossible to forget, isn’t it? But the pain of rejection isn’t so bad if it
helps you grow as an author.Sure,
sometimes the person who wrote that letter was having a bad day and may have
misjudged your work, but most of the time your letter arrived because your work
needed improvement.Learning from
rejection not only reduces the sting, it makes you a better writer.

Whether in life or in fiction, misery is whatever we create.Whenever you experience physical or emotional
pain, realize there will always be people far worse off than you.