Is it too late to discipline their kid?

Hey guys. Let me introduce you to my crazy in laws and their kids. So here’s some background: my husbands mom let’s their kids 18, and 14 do whatever they want. I’m not joking. Many times they’ve both gotten into fights and she wouldn’t do anything. And then they’ve gotten into verbal fights with their dad and the 14 year old has punched him in the face on multiple occasions and his dad wouldn’t do anything and his mom yells at his dad to not touch his son. His dad does say things and do things that are messed up to where he got what he deserved but I don’t think taking hits from a 14 year old is right. This kid also does the same thing where he will start something by saying or doing something to them but I don’t believe it should get to the point of him almost knocking his dad out. And so his mom acts like she doesn’t know what to do with him and y’all, if I did any of that to my parents I might be dead. But she sees him as a troubled child so he gets to do what he wants. Anyways, my husband thinks it’s too late for his parents to discipline him. I think there are steps they could take like taking his phone or games. I just couldn’t imagine loving with a kid who gets to decide what he wants to do and bully the father. I’m trying not to make this too long but there are many examples of the brother and dad acting out if y’all want to know more. Is it too late? What would y’all do in this situation?

If they don’t teach him a lesson some other person will and who knows how that’ll end up. His dad did threaten to call the police department but his mom threatened the dad he would have to find somewhere else to sleep

So this is your MIL that's preventing discipline?
Was she like this wit...

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09/12/2018

So this is your MIL that's preventing discipline?

Was she like this with your dh?

Yes, my mil. And my husband said that he wouldn’t be able to get away with the things his brothers did. They gave my husband the belt and spankings. He did say that his dad said messed up things to him. Examples: his dad said to my husband “we will never be close” and my husband said he liked this girl in his class and he goes “well I can finally now say you aren’t gay” and this is when he’s in middle school. So yea his dad has told my husband things but has never hit his dad. But his mom lets him do what he wants bc he’s troubled and says he wants to kill himself and that his dad isn’t allowed to discipline him

Yes, my mil. And my husband said that he wouldn’t be able to get away with ...

Posted
09/12/2018

Yes, my mil. And my husband said that he wouldn’t be able to get away with the things his brothers did. They gave my husband the belt and spankings. He did say that his dad said messed up things to him. Examples: his dad said to my husband “we will never be close” and my husband said he liked this girl in his class and he goes “well I can finally now say you aren’t gay” and this is when he’s in middle school. So yea his dad has told my husband things but has never hit his dad. But his mom lets him do what he wants bc he’s troubled and says he wants to kill himself and that his dad isn’t allowed to discipline him

If his brother is threatening to kill himself and is "troubled", he doesn't need to be disciplined, he needs therapy.

Yes, my mil. And my husband said that he wouldn’t be able to get away with ...

Posted
09/12/2018

Yes, my mil. And my husband said that he wouldn’t be able to get away with the things his brothers did. They gave my husband the belt and spankings. He did say that his dad said messed up things to him. Examples: his dad said to my husband “we will never be close” and my husband said he liked this girl in his class and he goes “well I can finally now say you aren’t gay” and this is when he’s in middle school. So yea his dad has told my husband things but has never hit his dad. But his mom lets him do what he wants bc he’s troubled and says he wants to kill himself and that his dad isn’t allowed to discipline him

If he says he wants to kill himself, he needs to go to the hospital. It doesn't matter if Mom took away his phone or dad said some crazy shit to him.

CPS needs to be called because that's neglect (on top of probable verbal abuse).

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