How to Throw the Ultimate Anti-Valentine’s Party

For lone birds and the consciously uncoupled, Valentine’s Day can be a blatant reminder that the only person sending you something on February 14 is quite possibly your mother. Yet even the cuffed, cohabitating, and married among us tend to roll our eyes at first mention of the saccharine holiday.

Perhaps the best way to celebrate February’s day of single-shaming without any “woe is me” negativity is with an anti-party of sorts. Like Galentine’s Day—invented by the fictional Leslie Knope of Parks and Recreation and slated annually for February 13—this party celebrates the best of the best: your BFFs. Forget the fancy prix fixe, or that uncomfortable dress you were planning on wearing; this party is good vibes only.

Family StyleForget plating and courses; this is a casual, communal event. Encourage guests to indulge by setting up a serve-yourself situation. It’s more convivial that way.

RSV-PJ’sIf you haven’t guessed already, pajamas are practically required. But, please, no lacy, fancy ones. Comfort is the name of the game.

Gift SwapValentine’s Day does have one redeeming quality: presents. Turn the theme on its head with inspiring books by female authors or a heartfelt, hand-written card. Also, chocolate—chocolate works for everyone.

Do GoodMake packages to donate to a local women’s shelter, collect canned goods, or even get out there and deliver meals to the homeless. Banding together to help others in need takes the focus off of you—and helps cultivate gratitude for what you do have on a holiday that, at the end of the day, is all about spreading the love.