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Saturday's With Stef: Run! A Red flag!!!

12:00 AM

I play for keeps. I play for sincerity. Honesty. Consistency. Trustworthy and REAL!

Someone who knows what they have when they have me!

Dating sucks.

I will be the first to admit this. But with all the changes in my life right now, I am ready for KEEPS. If that makes ANY sense.

A friend Nancy said something to me the other day after a fiasco, "BE OPEN."

I went to bed thinking, "So simple yet so complicated"

But yesterday I woke up feeling like I need to remember my worth. To remember that I am amazing. I would be my own best friend. Yes, I said it. If I met me I would be my own friend.

I think somehow, someway, the love I have for myself got lost. That should have been a red flag that I wasn't fit for the situation. I had been CONSTANTLY questioning myself. Constantly over-thinking. Constantly feeling like I am insecure.

So not who I am! That seriously should have been the FIRST sign I wasn't in the right place. I need to be AWARE of those signs. Because it could have saved me tears!

So with that said, I hope many of you listen to those signs and see the red flags. They are RED for a reason.

This topic surrounds my life on a daily basis. I am always the one giving relationship advice and doing counseling couples. Tough job.

However, I notice the same common denominator in every couple....

most women do not know their worth therefore they settle for less. No woman should be searching for a husband or commitment until they know what they want out of life, out of their partner, out of their careers etc. Forget thinking about LOVE that is the easy part. The difficult part is figuring out how to make relationships conducive to both parties. I can go on forever...

However, focus on what you want out of life and where you want to be in life. Hang out in the places that you love. Places that inspire you and watch the people you begin to draw in.