Archive for October, 2014

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets.

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget.

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

Launched in June 2013, ClassPass has become the major player on the scene over the past few months, with tons of 20-something New Yorkers signing up to take advantage of the chance to access so many high-caliber studios at an affordable price. “We started ClassPass to make fitness accessible and motivating for everyone,” says founder Payal Kadakia. Until recently, membership got you 10 classes per month, but it’s since switched to unlimited bookings.

How much it costs: $99 per monthNumber of classes included: UnlimitedRestrictions: No more than three classes per month can be used at the same studio (AKA it’s not the best idea if you only love one or two workouts)Number of participating studios: More than 250Participating studios:AKT in Motion, Barry’s Bootcamp, Exhale, Flex Studios, Flywheel, The Monster Cycle, Tone House, Torque Cycling & Fitness, and Yoga Shanti, to name a fewPros: There are so many studios to choose from. ClassPass is also in Boston, Los Angeles, and San Francisco, and just debuted in Chicago, which makes it the most far-reaching booking tool out there.Cons: Classes book up quickly. Chaise Fitness and Barry’s Bootcamp, for example, either book up right away or have just a few spots available to ClassPass members. Users also complain that they’ve gotten kicked out of classes even when they’ve received a confirmation email due to over-booking. You’re also prone to get not-so-popular bikes in spin classes.

If you were to press your heart close up against somebody else’s heart eventually your hearts will start beating at the same time. And two little babies in an incubator, their hearts will beat at the same time. Love that. So if you have somebody in your life that is prone to anxiety, like myself, and if you happen to be a calm person, you could come up and hug me heart to heart and my heart hopefully would slow to yours. And I just love that idea. Or maybe yours would speed up to mine. But either way, we’ll be there together.

Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. If it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually’, just do it and correct the course along the way.