I have met a young lady recently. We have struck up a friendship that has quickly heated up, and is now on the brink of a sexual relationship. We have met twice in person, and text each other constantly.

In our earlier correspondence, this young woman said some things that led me to believe she desired to be a submissive. I decided to take a chance and began addressing her in a way that I imagined a Dom would address his sub. Nothing too outlandish, just powerful, assertive statements about what I required of her, as well as what her punishments would be should she disobey me.

Needless to say her response was overwhelmingly willing and enthusiastic. She confessed to me that being dominated was a longtime fantasy of hers.

I was surprised to find myself becoming very aroused by how she was deferring to me, and the thought of her surrendering herself to me seemed very appealing.

To make a long story short, we have planned to have a sexual rendezvous soon where we will explore this new dynamic of our relationship.

Here is my dilemma: I know next to nothing about being a Dom. Up to this point I have just been following my natural instincts, to some success. However I fear I may have "talked too good of a game", so to speak, because my potential sub now believes that I know precisely what I am doing, at all times, and that I have some grand master plan laid out for us. Unfortunately, this couldn't be farther from the truth.

I am currently in the midst of my own preliminary research, but I wondered if some of the more experienced among you might be willing to share some basic pointers about what a prospective Dom should be doing to prepare for this type of relationship. Sort of a Doms 101 type discourse.

I like to use my own real life experiences for inspiration. I feel like you're at your best when you're writing about what you know. Often the most mundane and ordinary scenarios can end up being very erotic. Keep an eye out for situations in which you were really turned on, then go back and expound or exaggerate it until you have the workings of a story.

For instance, my story "Search and Seizure" is based on my own real life experiences. I used to work as a detention officer, and I once had a beautiful female coworker show me how to properly frisk a female, using herself as the guinea pig. The entire experience was incredibly arousing, and I knew that it would make a good story.

“Jacobs, you’re gonna be with the bitches today.” That was Sergeant Fox, my supervisor, a man so fat that his girth threatened to shear off the armrests on either side of the spindly office chair that was currently groaning underneath his immense bulk. “We had two call out,” he continued, “so Troyer’s on her own over there. Get over to Women’s Holding and help her out.” At this news...