Above All: Be Love, But Then Live In An "As If" Fashion So That You Can Enjoy Love As A Relative Expression Of ABSOLUTE, REAL LOVE As Well

(Part Two, Continued: What Real Love Is Not)

9. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which results when your limbic brain system releases pleasure-producing chemicals when you are attracted to someone? That part of the brain recognizes the familiarity of your “caretakers,” ignoring whether that caretaking was effective or harmful, relatively speaking. It is a chemical reaction, not a “love-reaction,” when “others” attract you because of a subconscious response that you can neither trigger willingly nor halt on your own.

10. Is it possible that Love is NOT the “repetition compulsion” that drives persons to recreate unhealthy relationship models from the past (with a hidden agenda of bringing about what you believe would be a more positive outcome)? Suppose you’re a young woman now whose father during your youth could not express love. Are you seeking men with a fatherly-image who seem willing to love you unconditionally? Are you taking that to be “love” when you're really addressing a subconscious need that is rooted in childhood disappointments?

[Relatedly, have you ever seen a person who is only attracted, over and over again, to psychos and who rejects all persons who are fairly healthy in terms of psychic development and integration? Investigate the domestication and conditioning that such a person was exposed to in the childhood home and the causes behind the mystery of "Why does he / she repeatedly go for those types?" or "Why do I repeatedly go for those types?" will usually be revealed.]

Furthermore, is True Love ever needy, really? Absolutely not. Are you from a broken home and are now being driven subconsciously to try to form a family and to “get it right” this time? Are you assuming erroneously that it is Real Love that is driving that desire?

11. Is it possible that Love is NOT real if it drives self-destructive behavior or if it drives you to try to please at any cost . . . even the cost of never finding out who "you" truly are as you subjugate yourself to another person?

12. Is it possible that Love is NOT the purely physical response that automatically drives all species to propagate?

13. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which is a product of the many subconscious and unconscious factors that drive persons to try to treat with "love" the plethora of mental and emotional issues that need addressing?

14. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which drives you to expend so much of your energy in an effort to find something that will heal the wounds of your childhood trauma and / or your adulthood trauma?

15. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which drives persons to unite in order to feel whole? Are you aware that those drives are rooted in not knowing the unicity, in imagining that the duality of “separation” is "real," and in believing that the duality of "aloneness" or "apartness" are “real?” If you complete the "Seven-Step Journey to Reality," you will understand that the word "aloneness" is a corruption of the original term, "all-oneness."

16. Is it possible that Love is NOT what it is taken to be by anyone involved in “self” (personas, false selves) nor by anyone who has not Fully Realized, nor by anyone who has not come to know the unicity of all via True Self Awareness?

17. Is it possible that Love is NOT what it is taken to be by persons who are unaware of the selflessness beyond this manifestation?

18. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which persons are driven to search for as a result of the desires, the perceived emotional needs, and the fears of their ego-states?

19. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which drives persons to try to find a partner to provide now what they wanted in childhood but did not get?

20. Is it possible that Love is NOT that which is supposed to meet regularly your physical desires and is NOT that which is supposed to provide for your economic welfare?

21. Is it possible that one's desire to buy you with money - to have you sell yourself - is

(a) NOT at all a display of how much that person must surely love you and is

(b) NOT evidence of how fantastic you must surely be?
Is it possible, instead, that a monetary or material offer - no matter how nobly or philanthropically or altruistically or "lovingly" the proposition is packaged - is itself evidence of that person's narcissism-based arrogance, of that person's desire to own and possess and jealously control, and of that person's propensity to downgrade you (along with any others whom that person has likely been able to buy before you)?

What other beliefs need to be abandoned in order for you to look objectively at your past and present beliefs and thoughts and behavioral patterns in regard to relationships and "love" and then be able to differentiate between what Real Love is vs. what Real Love is not?

To be continued.

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