<quoted text>Mine is a little fob-style one that comes on a keychain. I *could* attach it to my keys but I choose not to.

I have not seen those. Will have to look into that if I ever need to replace my garage door opener. My friend told me about one that is wifi enabled so if you leave the house and can't remember if you closed the door, you can hop on the web and do it. That would be cool.

<quoted text>I have not seen those. Will have to look into that if I ever need to replace my garage door opener. My friend told me about one that is wifi enabled so if you leave the house and can't remember if you closed the door, you can hop on the web and do it. That would be cool.

Last night, I was thinking about my college boyfriend. Nothing scandalous, and I haven't really thought of him in quite a few years, and I was only wondering how old his kids would be right now. NO big deal.

Then today I Get an email from him. He's living in a hotel, is on his second divorce (First one wasn't his doing)... and he thinks he might be a woman on the inside. Reached out to me because of my PFLAG/GLBT background.

Last night, I was thinking about my college boyfriend. Nothing scandalous, and I haven't really thought of him in quite a few years, and I was only wondering how old his kids would be right now. NO big deal.Then today I Get an email from him. He's living in a hotel, is on his second divorce (First one wasn't his doing)... and he thinks he might be a woman on the inside. Reached out to me because of my PFLAG/GLBT background.Holy. Crapoly.

Last night, I was thinking about my college boyfriend. Nothing scandalous, and I haven't really thought of him in quite a few years, and I was only wondering how old his kids would be right now. NO big deal.Then today I Get an email from him. He's living in a hotel, is on his second divorce (First one wasn't his doing)... and he thinks he might be a woman on the inside. Reached out to me because of my PFLAG/GLBT background.Holy. Crapoly.

Speaking of dreams... last night I dreamed about Jasper moving away and us breaking up. In the dream, I was *devastated* but when I woke up, I remembered that my pain is less than that now. It was the opposite of what has happened a few times over the past several months: dreaming that we're still together and waking up to realize we're not, and being sadder IRL than in the dream.

Speaking of dreams... last night I dreamed about Jasper moving away and us breaking up. In the dream, I was *devastated* but when I woke up, I remembered that my pain is less than that now. It was the opposite of what has happened a few times over the past several months: dreaming that we're still together and waking up to realize we're not, and being sadder IRL than in the dream.Progress?

Sounds like you're starting to accept the change. Not that you didn't, but more like a subconscious understanding that this is how things are instead of this is how you want things to be and reality being different. Does that make sense? Still working on my first coffee. LOL

Speaking of dreams... last night I dreamed about Jasper moving away and us breaking up. In the dream, I was *devastated* but when I woke up, I remembered that my pain is less than that now. It was the opposite of what has happened a few times over the past several months: dreaming that we're still together and waking up to realize we're not, and being sadder IRL than in the dream.Progress?

Progress! That's great!

You know, I think part of the problem might be... you both hung onto the relationship longer than you might have had your circumstances been different (like taking into account his long stint of being unemployed), so when you finally did end things, it was done from a different place in your mind and heart than if you'd had the breakup sooner (which also may have been an uglier breakup).

<quoted text>Sounds like you're starting to accept the change. Not that you didn't, but more like a subconscious understanding that this is how things are instead of this is how you want things to be and reality being different. Does that make sense? Still working on my first coffee. LOL

It makes perfect sense.

Did I tell you guys about what my friend C said to me a few weeks ago? I told her I missed my life, and she kindly said to me "This IS your life now." I think that concept is finally permeating my subconscious.

<quoted text>Progress! That's great!You know, I think part of the problem might be... you both hung onto the relationship longer than you might have had your circumstances been different (like taking into account his long stint of being unemployed), so when you finally did end things, it was done from a different place in your mind and heart than if you'd had the breakup sooner (which also may have been an uglier breakup).

You're right. And I'm sure in some ways that was damaging, but from where I'm sitting right now, I'm really glad we didn't have an ugly, hateful breakup. I'm not planning the future more than a couple of weeks in advance right now - haha - but I still hold out hope that once enough time has passed, we can be friends. Probably not talk-on-the-phone-several-time s-a-week friends, but talking every couple of months with a random text, email, or Facebook comment thrown in here and there. I know he wants that, and I want it too... but I have to make sure I'm okay with it.

Last night, I was thinking about my college boyfriend. Nothing scandalous, and I haven't really thought of him in quite a few years, and I was only wondering how old his kids would be right now. NO big deal.Then today I Get an email from him. He's living in a hotel, is on his second divorce (First one wasn't his doing)... and he thinks he might be a woman on the inside. Reached out to me because of my PFLAG/GLBT background.Holy. Crapoly.

<quoted text>You're right. And I'm sure in some ways that was damaging, but from where I'm sitting right now, I'm really glad we didn't have an ugly, hateful breakup. I'm not planning the future more than a couple of weeks in advance right now - haha - but I still hold out hope that once enough time has passed, we can be friends. Probably not talk-on-the-phone-several-time s-a-week friends, but talking every couple of months with a random text, email, or Facebook comment thrown in here and there. I know he wants that, and I want it too... but I have to make sure I'm okay with it.

And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.

I got a photo in an email today.

this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.

I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.

And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.

I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)

<quoted text>And then in 20 years he can tellyou he thinks he wants to be a woman.I got a photo in an email today.this is going to be weirder than I thought. I decided that I need to (1) decide how much support I'm wiling to give , and know that it's for the long haul, because it would be cruel to pullthe rug out from under a friend after a year of being there ("soryr, I'm just done, later"), and (2) find out what Nick is willing to accept, find out what his feelings are on this (I've told him what I've told you guys). I think Nick will say that so long as it doesn't impact our relationship in a serious way, and that he doesn't have to hear all about it, he is fine with my supporting an ex/old friend through a weird time. I think that's a perfectly fine stance.I'm not giong to keep talking abuot this -- it's just thati t's a new thing that shocked me and is HUGE... This was a wonderful LTR and I would have married him in a heartbeat. In top 3 boyfriends ever. My ex husband isn't in that top 3.And it's not my business, it's his -- his to share, not for me to share.I promise, the comments will be kept to a minimum and I'm going to aim for a Matilda-inspired posting style (like how if her dad had his way, she'd be half asian) for any comments I may have about it. ;)

Darn! I wanted to hear all about it. To me it's foreign and it would be a window into someone's life that I can't imagine experiencing. Yet, I think it would be helpful to understand what some people go through.

I feel for him but I am puzzled by the little bit you have told -- not by you but by the situation. I can't imagine how puzzled he must be.

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