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Why is it that the first question people ask me when i tell them Im pregnant is...?

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..."when are you getting married"? im 5 weeks, 4 days, my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years, i will be 27 next month, he just turned 28. we both have good stable jobs, will be moving into our house in a month, and are very much committed to each other. Its his decision when he will pop the question. i know we will be just fine either way. so what if im not doing it the "right" way :) what can i tell people to get off my back about the marriage part without sounding so rude? thanks ladies for your advice. I'm so looking forward to this journey of being pregnant and becoming a mother.

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My husband and I had been together less than two months when he asked me to marry him. Everyone swore up and down that I was pregnant. I say do what you and your mate feel is best and don't let the rest of the world sway your decision.

my now husband and i were only bf gf when we found out we were pregnant with out first child and we got the same thing. we told people we would get married when it was right as marrige is between you and your boyfriend and nobody else and it wont change how much you love your child at one point i just had to tell people off (i even stoped answering calls from my father for a few days) but i found that some of the most polite ways were to to shrug and smile or in a very happy ton say that you have other things to worry about also try saying somthing about how you want to look in your wedding dress. i hope this helped

If you are happy, then by all means, continue doing what makes you happy. I, myself, have been married for over 10 years, and I love it! But getting married just because you are pregnant is dumb! My mom got married to her 1st husband cuz she was pregnant w/ my brother, divorced cuz she got pregnant w/ my other brother & he didn't want any more kids, married a 2nd time, had me, divorced my dad cuz he cheated (ALOT), married a 3rd time cuz my grandfather said she needed a "father" for of us, divorced him because he was abusive, and finally married for love at 43 years old - but he turned out to be a blazing alcoholic! Getting married is not always the right thing for all people...and maybe my mom's life is a bad example. So just tell all of those "old fashioned" people to get over themselves! If it was me, I'd tell them that "we will get married when straight, gay & transexuals are ALL allowed to get married" That'll probably get the rude, old fashioned people to shut up about it!

Haha! Old people are so 'funny'. Don't worry about it-go along with it, say something like "Well you'll have to ask my bf" ot throw them off track altogether and tell them you've booked a wedding for 2020.....

Older people, especially, don't realize the world we live in. It is almost 2012...it seems that no one is getting married before they have children anymore. If they did then there would be no need for Maury Povich. j/k. Anyway, my husband and I have been married for over 4 years, married for 2, and we're just expecting our first child. We're just lucky that it happend that way because we weren't doing anything to prevent pregnancy before we got married. It's good to be married before you have children or at least have the intentions. Now the whole baby daddy scenario is what I don't understand. Good luck!

i recently just found out i was pregnant and im not married either. yes we are engaged but we have been that way for a year (wanted a long engagment) everyone is asking me the same thing and i dont really know what to say either....thank you for helping me out a little bit

I got that a lot when I was pregnant with my daughter, my (now) husband and I weren't married. We had discussed it, but had agreed to wait until we had enough money to do it the way we wanted since neither of our parents could really help out with that. When people would ask me when we were going to get married, I would simply say " When we decide to" and leave it at that. We did have a few people that had negative things to say but you just have to block them out. I know people now who have lived a whole life together, had kids, raised them and sent them off to college and never felt the need to get married. What does it really do for you if you are already in a comitted relationship? It doesn't guarantee anything anymore.

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