Ask Baba Yaga: I’ve Been Single for 9 Years & I Feel Like I’m Missing All the Boats

I’m 33 years old, and I have been single for almost NINE YEARS. I haven’t been unhappy! Or at least only sort of. But I feel like I’m hiding from life in my endless single-ness. I think I could be happy in a relationship, but I haven’t even really tried. I haven’t really sought out, or stumbled on, anything. Everywhere I look, friends are getting married and having babies. I feel like I’m missing the boat. I feel like I’m missing all the boats! What should I do? Should I force myself to “get out there?” Should I accept myself as-is? Love feels so distant, and alien and unfathomable to me now.

BABA YAGA:

) You are too young to stand on the land forever. There will always be boats, but is it truly that you wish to catch your first when you are Crone? –To be . a true Well & Good Crone as I you must have had many transformations, many lives & shapes. What is : distant alien unfathomable is what boat-riders go in seek of. You have much time yet to spend in comfort & the being with things you know. If unspoken to, what is alien & unfathomable in you will drag behind you ( always like a mangled & uncared-for boat.

Previously: “Is Intuition Even a Thing?”
Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She’s taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.