What lights you up? I mean, generally?

To begin sexual healing, or explore new adventures on your path, it’s important to understand our own excitement.

This can be difficult when we’re used to denying our own needs, or we’ve lost touch with this part of ourselves.

Here’s a place to start:

Make a list of 10 things that excite you. These can have an erotic dimension, but they don’t have to. Examples include reading a book in the bathtub, dancing naked, or eating an ice cream cone in the park on a gorgeous day. It would be great if every item makes your heart pound a little.

What’s critically important is that you only put on the list things you’re really jazzed about, not items that please your partner (it’s OK if they coincide).

About this Blog

This is a blog about healing from sexual violation, as well as from any other issue that can keep us from enjoying the full experience and expression of our sexuality. It’s inspired by my journey seeing 15 practitioners and trying 30 different modalities so I could rid myself of the last vestiges of my childhood sexual abuse. Along the way, I learned the cutting edge of trauma recovery, female pleasure, overcoming bedroom dysfunction, and having awesome relationships. The pink couch is where I share where I learned, and where I hear from you too. So pull up a chair…

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