Love and Marriage

Over and over though life we hear about love. I love _______. You can fill in the blank with many different things. For me I love, God, my wife, my daughter, etc. In today’s world though we get such twisted views of love. We don’t have all the other words that other languages have. We use the word love for the feelings we have for our spouse, kids, that cheeseburger at lunch. It just doesn’t have the same meaning even though it is the same word.

But when we think about the love that you have for your spouse or loved ones, we think of the type of love that would go to the ends of the earth for the other person. It is this love that makes you say that you would do anything for that person, you would be willing to give your life for that person. This is what we hear about so much in songs and in movies, the guy saves the girl from the car at the last second, or the line from the Bruno Mars song, I’ll catch a grenade for you. The fact that I would risk life and limb for my wife and daughter is a no brainer.

The main question to ask yourself when you know that you are in love, is not if you would stop a bullet for the other person or stop a run away train. Ask yourself if at the end of your longest hardest day, are you willing to tell your wife go relax let me do the dishes, let me run the sweeper. True love is looking at the relationship from both sides as an 80/20 split, I can take care of my wife, ensuring that her needs are met and she gets what she needs to be happy. This fulfills my 20 percent for myself and lets her know that in everything that I do I am think of her.

Remember these things next time you tell someone you love them, and think of how you really mean it. Look at the one you love and tell them that not only would you die for them, you will do the dishes or clean the bathroom. Find out that one thing that they hate doing but have to, and do it for them, even though you hate it more.
And He said to him, ” ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’38“This is the great and foremost commandment.39“The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’40“On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”
Matthew 22:37-40 (New American Standard Bible)