Many people in relationships with narcissists, psychopaths, borderlines, histrionics and other personality disordered abusers often find themselves living by a set of rules, spoken and unspoken, determined by their abuser. Narcissists don’t force their victims to live by these rules. Adult victims comply hoping to preserve the relationship for a variety of typically misguided, unhealthy […]

In an era of social media over-sharing, data mining by Silicon Valley vultures, government agencies, hackers and bot farms, it can be easy to forget that we have a right to privacy. We also have a right to privacy in our intimate relationships — even if we “have nothing to hide.” I hear that quite […]

Their lips are moving. The End. That’s a facile and clichéd answer, but, more often than not, an accurate one. Sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists, borderlines and histrionics lie for many reasons. Self-preservation (e.g., to avoid jail or other unwanted natural consequences for their bad behavior), to manipulate or exploit others to get money, sympathy, power, attention, security, a relationship […]