First Date Advice for Women

If you are getting ready to go on a first date, or have already had a few that have been a bit of a disaster then you need to know what first date advice for women is all about. The time women take to prepare for their first dates, takes several nerve-wracking hours before that first date, or minutes before without a second thought. Let’s remember that the first date is not a major life event. Depending on how much information you have about the person. The truth is, there’s a higher likelihood this person is not going to be the “love” of your life. From my experience and from the thousands of singles that have shared their dating stories with me, the avid dater in search of a “keeper” will go on many first dates! Be sure to also read up on our first date don’ts.

First Date Advice for Women: Tip 1 – Have Fun & Smile lot!

The first rule of thumb in my professional opinion is to always have a positive attitude and have fun in every situation. Smiles are contagious, and men often comment about a woman’s smile. It is a very attractive quality for men, because it all boils down to what makes him feel good. Knowing that a smile is important ladies, I would do whatever I could to highlight and showcase that beautiful smile. Great oral hygiene is a must! And I would absolutely recommend teeth whitening especially for women that smoke. There is nothing less attractive than staring into someone’s mouth and noticing discolored teeth or smelling bad breath.

First Date Advice for Women: Tip 2 – Show Confidence

All of our dating research identifies the importance of feeling good about yourself, being confident and comfortable in the dating arena. You can build confidence by working on the skills and areas about you, that you need to improve. Maybe you are a bit shy and need to work on better communication skills, and asking more questions. It could be that you TALK TOO MUCH and have to learn to be quiet and avoid interrupting. As a woman that’s used to doing a lot of talking and full of ideas, it’s something that I am constantly working on. Genuinely feel good about self means that you are doing all the things that make YOU feel good, and you can’t be attractive to a man when you’re own self-worth needs improvement.

First Date Advice for Women: Tip 3 – Feel Pretty.

Men are very visual creatures and they like feminine women. It’s always safer to select an outfit that leans towards a “feminine and fun” look rather than too conservative or overtly sexual. You don’t have to expose everything on your first date to make him interested, and a lot of men have confessed how they undress women and imagine what’s under their clothes. It makes it more mysterious and exciting. If you take the time to feel pretty, men will appreciate that and notice you for making the effort. Be cautious not to drown yourself in strong perfume either, some people may even have allergies to strong scents, or put off by certain scents. Maybe you want to treat yourself to a new lip stick or lip gloss, or buy a new mascara to highlight those beautiful eyes! Wearing the right amount of make up is important for your first date in making a good impression as well. Go to the beauty section at a major department store or ask the beauty consultant at your local pharmacy for tips and advice on colors that match your skin tone and personality.

First Date Advice for Women: Tip 4 – Relax.

Lots of women admit to being very nervous before a date. They tend to be even more anxious if it has been a long time, or if it’s with someone who they’re very excited about or have high hopes for. Try NOT to set yourself up for failure, with all these expectations and high hopes that you will meet Prince Charming and live happily ever after. A great way to relax before a date is to do something stress relieving. Depending on the time of the date, you may want to go to the gym or treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure. Schedule a massage or relax at home and read a positive self-help or feel good book? Listen to some calm music or do some yoga.

The intention is not to overwhelm yourself playing out the date, and planning everything you are going to say and do like it’s dress rehearsal and opening night starts at 6:00pm. The best thing to do, is to be as comfortable and natural as possible. Don’t try to take on too many extra things before date night. Only do activities that are fun and stress free, to motivate relaxation.

First Date Advice for Women: Tip 5 – Don’t talk to much.

The main point to remember here ladies, is that first dates are not an opportunity to spill the beans and treat your date like a counseling session. He will most likely think you have a screw or two loose. It will get you nowhere. Do not engage in deep relationship conversation, or anything negative for your 1st date conversation! Keep it light, keep your focus on asking great questions and taking an interest in what your date likes. Men love attention. Be a better listener than story teller.

Dating should be a fun and rewarding experience if you allow it to be. You will realize that if you appreciate the opportunities and take each date as chance to practice at becoming a better dater and more attractive as a person you will be on your way to finding, meeting and keeping the right one!

Carmelia Ray is a dating, matchmaking & relationship expert with over 20 years experience working in the dating industry. She has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles all over North America. She is passionate about helping people find love.

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