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Gullible !

My mother came to stay with her parents during her 4th month of pregnancy and she never went back.

My parents got divorced legally after few years. So I was raised at my mom's parent's place. Everything about their separation is a huge story which I may not or may be able to share later.

Yesterday I was thinking of a word beginning from 'G', I remembered my late Grandmother( my mom's mother). Cant remember much about my grandfather as he passed away when I was little.

For the first time in my entire life, I realized am thinking only about my maternal side what about my paternal grandparents.

I don't have a slightest clue about my fathers parent's, what they did, where they lived , how they looked because I never seen them in real nor in pictures. They never met me, I have never spoke to them, I just don't know a thing about them. I wanted to ask my mother about them, but as usual I choose not too. For reasons best known to me !

P.S: I am SORRY if I sound rude. But I just wrote these lines with the exact thought expressed, it was just a question in my mind which lasted for few minutes, never arised before nor will later. BUT I don't feel hurt about not knowing them, I am not upset nor the thought that they never tried to meet me saddens me. It's something I have accepted in my childhood days, so no void, no feelings attached. I thank you all for reading my life, showering your love and concern for me :) I cannot tell you what it means to me !

Ananya, I can feel for you. Sorry to rub some salt here, but they may be missing you as well. You know better, but its never too late to know your other family, dad, and their kin. :) hugs to you dear!!

It must have been tough for your mom.If there had been no endeavour from your dad's side to see you,it is good to leave it at that.Even when parents are not divorced,I have found children gravitate more to mom's relatives than dad's.I don't know why.

Life is full of pain why add them. on the other hand, you can not avoid thinking about your grandparents or Father whatever they did. I share your tears, pains and I pray that let the unbearable pain not bother you any more or let it be lessened.

I've been hearing a lot about you and your posts. All good of course. So was curious, and I wasn't disappointed at all. Kudos to you for opening up your world, that too your personal one and sharing them with us. I look forward to reading you regularly :)

I have never known my grandparents, either from my father's side or mother's side. All of them died even before I was born. So I would say you are lucky at least you knew one of your grand parents. See it's all about perspective :)

hopped in from the A-Z challenge.....and what i found was a heartfelt post.... Ananya, life is like a giant jigsaw puzzle, and we really don't know how the pieces fit into our lives and when we will find the right piece....but we will get what we are destined to get, how, when and where, leave it to the Master....

somethings are better not known! though i know and stay with my paternal grandparents, its nt a grt experience! may b some day i wil gather enuf courage like u to share about it n let go of the emotional baggage

I think it is only better that you don't know. There must be a reason why you don't. I know not knowing hurts, I also have many unanswered questions in my life but like you I have also accepted few things in life. Somethings are just not meant to be. Sometimes I wish it could all be perfect :)

I am glad you are giving your mom the space by not asking anything about your grandparents... btw grandparents are the relationship I have no clue about, before my birth, my Nana, Nani, Dada, Dadi passed away... I have no idea how i feels to be a grandson...

I may not be right if I say I understand what you mean of feel. I would just like say that sometimes its better to have not known someone if they were never going to be alongside you. Knowing them may would have given an opening for expectations or may be not, but still the void would have come to the fore and would have made it more difficult for you to accept the facts and move on.

You have also shown a very mature approach by not asking your mom the difficult questions and let her be in her space. more power to you girl, god bless you :)

This is touching....U dnt need 2 clarify anything.....life goes on & we mst strive every moment 2 achieve success..so those who may b in heaven, who r on earth & kno or dont know U will also FOR SURE know U! :)

There are things best left unknown and unexplored. Coming to my Grandparents I never had much feeling for them, I never felt any real love towards them. That's I guess because I was born Numb to emotions to a wide set of people.