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Sanity Savers for 2014: Pick Your “No’s.”

Created on 1/16/2014 9:47:33 PMLearn to Decline Gracefully
Often the most stressful tasks are those we could have avoided if we knew how to say “no.”
It’s imperative to figure out what kind of “no” you want to use before you reply.

By “futuring” untimely requests, you can buy yourself some time without feeling guilty. Say, “I can’t take you to the store right now, but I promise to take you on Thursday.” This approach works especially well with children.

If you simply can’t take on a new obligation (like running a bake sale), say, “I wish I could help you out, but I just can’t right now.” Then suggest another person for the job.

If you still can’t say “no” visualize the outcome of saying “yes.” If you know you’ll kick yourself later for agreeing, realize that as painful as it might be to say “no” now, it’s better than feeling bad about yourself for giving in, and resenting the obligation you agreed to.

Stand firm and don’t let yourself be talked out of your refusal; balance not guilt needs to be your goal and your guide!