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rmap59

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Aug 14, 2008 - 8:44 pm

Well I havent been on this site in about 2 weeks. I have continued to pray for each and every one of you. This family has helped me get through cancer/chemo last year and I am forever grateful. Last Thursday my son attempted suicide, he has been addicted to drugs for several years, suffers from depression and has had numerous legal infractions against him. He is 20 years old and we had to kick him out of our house about 6 weeks ago, could not enable him anymore. I dont know what his future holds, I took him to a psychiatric hospital after the attempt and now he is in therapy. Please pray for him, his name is Jackson. Maybe I should go to a different group for this one but you all are close to my heart even though I may never see you.
Robin

Hi Robin,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. My nephew was in a very similar situation. To my knowledge he has not attempted suicide but my brother went through the same thing you are dealing with with his son. My brother is a surgeon and he is very straight laced and conservative. It seems his son rebelled by going in the opposite direction. At first my nephew was only smoking pot, etc. which Eric did not think was that huge of a big deal, but by and by my brother discovered needles and a white powder in his son's coat pocket. He ended up confronting him about it and they sent him to a rehab. My nephew was very resentful and was in total denial. To make a long story short, he ended up moving out and living with his girlfriend who he has since broken up with. This was all horrifying to my brother and certainly has aged him beyond belief. I don't know how he could function at work, operating on people, while dealing with this sort of thing at home. I know this does not ease your pain, but hopefully you know that you are not alone. I guess all you can do is hope for the best and that your son will move past this phase of his life. I hope that he can. We will all pray that it happens. and never think you cannot get support here, it doesn't have to be about cancer!
Love,
Susan H.

Robin- I will put Jackson on my prayer list of people that I pray for everyday. In situations like this, when you feel powerless, prayer is the best weapon. My prayers have been very successful. Please know that we are all walking by your side. You have been a comfort to me in your posts and now you need comfort in return. Carol

Oh, Robin. You have my prayers. That's such a tough situation. I had a nephew who was totally addicted to drugs for several years, and it was so hard on my sister and brother in-law. Thankfully my nephew went in the army and is all staightened out now. Don't give up hope. Just keep praying for him and loving him.

My sympathies, Robin. Hopefully the therapy will help him. It helped me tremendously when i had similar problems as a young adult. Have faith that his attempted suicide was probably more of a cry for help than an intended death.

Robin, my heart goes out to you and your family. Addiction to anything, be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, you name it, the price is incredibly high. And it is not just the person who is addicted that seems to have to pay the price... the whole family gets hurt... for something they did not do or choose to do.

My older brother is addicted to gambling. It is unbelievable how much it has affected the rest of the family (there are four of us siblings and my father... my mother has passed away so isn't here to witness it). My brother is NOT a young adult, which makes it hard to believe that an older adult can have such an affect on his family... but I guess age really does not matter.

For my other siblings and I, we have finally come to terms with the fact there is nothing we can do to make him stop... at the same time, we are not going to be in a position of enabling him, either. Basically, we have had to do the same thing... kick him out of our lives because we are not going to let his behaviour poison the rest of the family so that we all end up arguing with each other (should we all pretend to understand, should we all refuse to take part, should we listen to his excuses, etc).

Your son is young, which makes it all the harder... and as a parent, I can only imagine how much this is tearing your heart out. The one thing you must remind yourself EVERY DAY... YOU are not at fault in any way, shape or form. YOU did not make him take drugs. YOU did not say/do anything that made him turn to drugs. Although addiction is a sickness, it had to start out at some point as a choice and no one can make anyone choose drugs. That is something we all have the choice of saying yes or no.

I agree with Krista. I'm sure he was not attempting death. It was a cry for help because he can probably see that his life is a mess right now but is not quite willing to accept the responsibility for it being the way it is.

I hope and will send out positive thoughts that the rehab will help him big time... both for the sake of his own life, and for the rest of the family who rarely gets recognized as victims when addiction is involved.

Robin. I agree with you that anything that happens to our children is worse than cancer.MY son experienced with drugs too, when he was a teenager, I was convinced that everything was o.k. but recently during vacatioing in a beach in S.C. I catched him smoking pot on the beach in the morning, I was devastated and our relationship has been damaged a lot I'm always afraid of something happening as a result of drinking or drugs. I will pray for Jackson and for you.

Hi Robin,
I'm sending positive thoughts your way for Jackson.
My daughter, who will be 30 next month was addicted to drugs when she was a teenager. She never attempted suicide, but made many threats. She has been drug free for many years and is now married and has 3 little boys. I just wanted you to know that there is hope and it is possible for him to turn things around.
Take care,
Jamie

Robin--I'm so sorry for what you are going through. You and your son are in my prayers. It is so difficult to see our children go through hard times and feel so helpless. I pray that your son gets the help he needs. Please keep us posted, we all do care!

Robin you did the right thing by kicking him out.
I went though a similar thing...my niece was on drugs...so we started to go to those meetings for parents of drug addicts.We were told we HAD to throw her out...her only place to go if she wanted to get out of it would be to fo to desintox...and she did after reaching the lowest ...
Somoene has to convince Jackson to go to desintox.I am not from usa I am french canadian so I cannot help..BUT for sure he can get out of it with help...must be some help where u are..
HUGS

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