Big News! My Boyfriend Is Officially Moving In! (“V” Configuration)

It has been a very busy time indeed in my life – both personally and professionally. Some members of our community know that I have been doing quite a bit of traveling over the last two months. I’ve been fortunate enough to enjoy adventures first with my boyfriend and friends in Nashville, Tennessee for live music, then I got to swing “across the pond” to the beautiful and magical Scandinavia with my husband’s family. All remarkable. I’ve also engaged in a few business trips that have done nothing short of blown my mind and inspired me for all that is to come and that I plan to welcome into my life – much of which I plan to share with all of you! Exciting things are afoot indeed – including a brand new 2.0 website design for Loving Without Boundaries! I have been hard at work on that endeavor and am very excited to introduce you all to the truly awesome changes very soon.

Personally though, the most exciting thing in my life is that my boyfriend is officially moving in! Like right now! We are now way past the trial run period and are on the road to YES!!!! He’s about to give notice at his Washington DC-based apartment that he’s leaving their premises, and brought his first carload of stuff over to my house last night. It initially felt truly official when my husband emptied an entire large closet for him last weekend, and then my boyfriend proceeded to take down all of the existing shelving to redo it all to his liking. He apparently is rather particular in how his closets are arranged, organized, outfitted, and filled up (giggity). I absolutely love the geeky, über organized, I-gotta-have-it-my-way-ness of this spectacular, dorky yet devastatingly handsome man. And seeing both of my men playing with spackle and a putty knife, all while scantily clad (or naked – my boyfriend’s favorite outfit) just gets me all mushy with love and simultaneously turned on. Oh my goodness, it really feels like my life completely rocks! And I am such a lucky, lucky girl indeed.

My life has certainly not always been this rosy. As recently as a year ago this month actually, I had a devastating breakup with my last beau that I wrote about here (my “most read post of all time” ironically – guess we all love reading about a can’t-take-your-eyes-off-it “train wreck”). I want to express my gratitude again here. I genuinely could not have gotten through that period without all of the fantastic support of this wonderful community that we have created together. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Knowing I was not alone on my unusual path experiencing a polyamorous loss by myself – and that many of you had been through similar experiences of ironically getting cheated on in an open relationship truly helped me quickly go through the grief stages that I needed to go through. Then several months later, I felt strong and healed enough to get back on the poly dating bandwagon. Sometimes we have to let go of things or people that no longer serve our lives to create the space for something amazing to happen. Within a short period of time (and some hilarious dates kissing some toads), I eventually met my current boyfriend in my local OkCupid circuit. Thank goodness for that! Honestly even though I was actively looking, I did not expect to meet someone so spectacular and fall in love so quickly. By the time we had our fourth date and I got the thumbs up from my husband that I “picked a good one”, I was totally and completely smitten. And I cherish the realization that those feelings were reciprocated.

Oh my gosh! My boyfriend is joining my family! And moving into my house!(sorry, got a little excited and had to scream from the mountaintops again to peeps who “get it”. Thank you!)

I shared this quote earlier, but I believe it is worth sharing again:

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.”

If there is anything that I have learned through the experiences that I have had over the last year, it is this: In order to achieve great things, we have to dare greatly. Staying warm and safe and in our comfort zone might feel cozy, but you are not going to get very far in life that way. Want to have an amazing life? Stick your neck out every now and then, get out of your comfort zone, achieve more, be courageous, be authentically YOU with no apologies needed. You are beautiful! Let your light shine – it is your duty! And you might be surprised at the miracles that happen when you share yourself, your light, your beauty with others and the world around you. We are all waiting to bask in the glory that is you! Don’t make us wait any longer!

How about you? Where are you at on your polyamorous journey? Do you have any stories that you would like to share, good or bad? All of our stories don’t have to be perfect – as a matter of fact – I think they are more beautiful when they are completely imperfect. That’s real life. That’s authenticity. Sometimes, it’s even wonderfully hilarious. And laughter feels so damn good, doesn’t it?

I wish my wife was as open as you. If she had a boyfriend, we’d just have 2 sexually frustrated men in the house…

July 11, 2016 at 9:11 am

sexyadventurer69

Thank you for the congratulatory words, Marlo. I wish you all of the best as well, including a lovely relationship with your wife. Love her well.

July 11, 2016 at 4:26 pm

Vanessa

Congrats!! Recently, my husband and I entered into a sexual relationship with my bff. She’s divorced not that long ago, and needed a “release”, and I gave consent. She isn’t bi, but I am. She lives almost two hrs from us right now. It’s progressed, and I’m not sure the direction this is going, but I am hoping it could be more. Just so many feelings and such to work through. She’s told me several times, she wishes I were a man. Lol. We love each other dearly. And I know she has feeling for my dh. Rambling now, sorry. Just loving the idea of loving the two most important people in my life, in a poss v triad situation. 🙂