I’ve got a big anger problem. I usually don’t assert myself, so I just suppress my rage. Then one day, I just explode on some innocent person. And once I start, nothing stops me, I’m just so stubborn, and I’m not proud of it.

This has been a recurring theme in my life for a long time, and it makes me feel very guilty. I seriously don’t get it why I’m so calm and patient when the situation demands assertiveness. I think it’s because I usually think a lot before I act or say something. In fact, I think too much sometimes, and that makes me very slow.

I really want to get over my anger problems, because it can be very irrational. Is there any astrological reason for this?

Thanks,Miss Problematic
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Dear Miss,

Do you know you have your Sun, rising, Venus, Mercury, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and your north node in Capricorn? Well you do.

And boy I’m impressed with you. No one reading this would guess you’re fourteen years old! Talk about taking responsibility! There are people three times your age who couldn’t write a piece like this. Know why? Because they’re still blaming others. You are one stout chick and don’t you forget it!

Now I’ll try to help you with your problem. It’s like this: you have Mars in Taurus. Mars rules anger and Taurus is famous for patience and stubbornness. So you see, you know yourself excellently well. Taurus is a Venus sign. It moves slowly and likes pleasantness. You see what you’re doing here? You’re keeping the peace until you blow…

And you do blow! And Pluto is involved too, so the plot thickens. You pack a punch, babe. And when you do, it freaks your Taurus out because there is anything but peace when you’re through. It freaks out your Capricorn too, because of the loss of control…and last, it freaks out your very sensitive Moon in Pisces.

So what to do? Well you need a channel and here’s my idea. I think it’s a good one, but it’s the principle here I want you to grasp.

Taurus & Venus = Art. I would like you to study dance. It’s very hard work, which suits your Capricorn. It’s physical which suits Mars. If you’re good at it (and you will be), it is a powerful (Pluto) expression of artistic (Taurus) physical prowess (Mars).

Further, it works for your Pisces which is all about illusion. See, I’m thinking ballet for you, because it’s one hell of a trick to make the dancing look easy. It’s an illusion. And I can tell you for a fact that the Capricorn body (and I am sure you have one) is well suited to ballet. That’s because Capricorn has CONTROL.

So what do you think about this? I think you may be poor and dance training costs money. But you can get books and get started. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Your Pisces understands this, yes? But mostly I want you to imagine yourself with this kind of command. Can you see how you would have much less need to act out? Because your energy, your power, your Pluto-side… it would be focused on creating art.

hey elsa,
i got a big problem! i’m so scared of failure and rejection that i tend to over think and study my problems and involvements with other people from every angle! that makes me ambivalent and indecisive specially when it comes to love. my biggest issue is that i’m more head than heart! i know the basic moon, sun and rising sign but the rest not a clue! so maybe my problem is astrological maybe??

thanks
miss constant thinker

Rashmi

Hi Elsa,
M more concerned towards what others think of me AND NOT what I want in my life. always looks for constant approval of myself from others. m a big self critic n constantly think about my self only. Can you help? my B’day is July 27, 1982. birth place is New delhi India.

steve

Hello, may I submit an astrological question? I have a stellium of planets in Capricorn (5), and I’d like some solace on a particular issue which would take a paragraph or two for me to explain in proper respect. May I ask here?