Yoga For Gentle Sleep

by kayris on January 14, 2010

Some children are natural sleepers. They require little to no bedtime routine, go to sleep easily and sleep all night. They have no comfort objects and sleep just as well away from home. Some of the parents of natural sleepers are the first to object to co-sleeping and easily point fingers when it comes to a child that doesn’t sleep well. According to some, if a child has sleep problems, those problems must have been created by co-sleeping or some other action on the part of the parent. In other words, the parent did something wrong.

I have two children. My three-year-old is a natural sleeper. My five-year-old is not. I spent plenty of time when he was younger reading books about child sleep, trying various methods, and even more time pulling my hair out over why he didn’t sleep well. Several years and another child later, I can see that it’s simply the way he is wired. We’ve parented both kids in exactly the same way. Our daughter sleeps well and always has. Our son does not. It’s just the way it is.

It didn’t feel like it at the time though. Everyone had an opinion.

He needs a warm bath and a story before bed, they said. We tried that. Bath time was more of a wild and wet splashing party and he emerged from the tub more wired than when he went in.

He needs to go to bed earlier, they said. We tried. He needs to go to bed later, they said. We tried.

Just let him cry and he’ll give up and go to sleep, they said. It didn’t feel right to us. We tried it once. It was a spectacular disaster and I apologized over and over and vowed to never do it again.

Eventually, our experience led us to co-sleeping, which we did on and off for over a year. He left on his own, and now sleeps in his own bed in his own room. Once he goes to sleep, most of the time, he stays asleep until morning.

However, he is still not a great sleeper when it comes to falling asleep. One night, a few weeks ago, I peeked into his bedroom and was rather horrified to see that while he had been put to bed three hours earlier, he was still awake. In bed and quiet, but still awake. When I asked him, “Why are you still awake? It’s 11PM!” he gave me a very revealing answer.

He said, “I can’t sleep, I can’t make my brain stop thinking.”

It stopped me in my tracks.

I can certainly relate. Being able to shut my thoughts off and go to sleep is something that I struggle with too, and considering the vast numbers of people who use sleep aid medications, he and I aren’t the only ones.

But how do you teach someone to “go to sleep?” If put to bed and instructed to “go to sleep,” what 5 year old would be able to figure that out on their own?

Puzzled, I pulled out our sleep book and turned to the section on the things children need for healthy sleep, but it seemed like we were already doing everything right. Enough physical activity during the day. Check. Avoid sleep preventing foods and feed sleep producing foods. Check. Gentle bedtime routine. Appropriate bed time. Sleep inducing environment. Check, check and check.

Then I turned the page and the word jumped out at me.

Yoga.

Bingo!

Personally, I do yoga almost daily and on nights when I just can’t settle down and fall asleep, I get out of bed and practice some calming poses to help me nod off. I figured it was worth a try with my 5 year old.

Within a week, he came to expect the bedtime practice, and I really think it has helped him fall asleep faster. On the couple of nights we skipped it, he was in and out of bed and up much later than he should have been. My three year old is also very interested and the ease at which children can slip their limber bodies into challenging poses is amazing. I usually aim for about 10 minutes, because beyond that their attention starts to slip, and I vary the poses based on how they are feeling that day and what physical activities they did that day. For example, on days when my son has been ice skating for school, we do a lot of forward bends to stretch out his legs.

You will need comfortable clothes (we usually do the sequence after the kids are in their jammies and ready for bed) and enough space to lie flat on your back with arms and legs extended. If your floor is hard or cold, you might want to consider a yoga mat or a blanket for padding, but be careful of slippage if you use a blanket. You should be barefoot.

Great post. I started yoga 2 years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter. I’ve since become quite an advocate from the benefits regular practice provides. Why didn’t I think of involving my daughter instead of only sneaking in classes over the lunch hour or when she’s engaged in other activities? Thanks for the podcasts too!

Wow, thank you, thank you, thank you! I am the mother of one, age two, who still wakes up multiple times a night and often needs me in her room with her for over half an hour in order to fall asleep. This has been beyond exhausting, frustrating, and stressful for my husband and I. It has been so big for us that, currently, we don’t dare to try for #2 because we just know we can’t handle it. That’s how tired we are! Long story short: I will share these links with my husband and we will learn about yoga, because, like you, everything else on the list is checked off.