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Vef is a global community project seeking to clearly explain the meaning of a word. This foundation is about gender equal rights and opportunities. Vef speaks and says gender equality can happen when cultural attitudes are ready. Written/spoken language is a subtle way of persuasion and changing minds.

Vef equals proper use of language and can be adopted by any society. Vef is a word that has the potential to change worlds. It's not about segregation rather it is to do with bringing us closer together. So now let's embrace our freedom.

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Dear Reader,
I’ll keep this brief and to the point as I’m not sure if anyone is online at this darkest time of night. Sitting in front of computer and maybe I’m all alone by myself and wouldn’t that be so tragic. Oh it looks eerie outside as thick fog envelopes trees and that’s a lot of e’s mixed in with several t’s. Blah! I just wrote that sentence because I’m bored. Ha!Ha!

Okay! On I go with typing as it makes me feel a lot better. I’ve always been too hasty when posting and often go back to do revisions. These waking hours I simply think and ponder on a gorgeous word. Can you guess? Oh! Vef is a supremely beautiful word originating from a celestial place (Venus) and that’s reason I’m writing a lengthy blog. I hope you enjoy a change of username, it’s certainly more attractive than before.

I’d like to thank everybody who came to visit and especially for the nice comments. I’m not doing much on the holidays. However it’s good to go walking in my local park and stroll down by the river where city sights are amazing. Promise I shall return soon better than ever. So now let the party begin.

Would I lie to you? So okay, Vef might not be suitable to include in English language or any other language, however philosophy of this word opens my eyes to many incredible things. I often practice typing/reading vef in a sentence and I’m the first to admit that it doesn’t make a lot of sense. Well not always. Sometimes Vef is easy to distinguish and makes a lot of sense. If I juggle around the words I’m using and place them in correct order it works. Oh no, I most definitely wouldn’t lie to you baby. Ha!Ha!

Hello friend,
I often ask myself why do I enjoy solitude? Oh I’ve tried for so long to squeeze another blog post out of my crazy mind. Sometimes I get serious writer’s block and the words just don’t flow easily. I’m a blogger and writer so I enjoy a solitary lifestyle. How about you? Do artists, composers and writers need solitude to create their works, or are we just eccentric and lonely people?

As usual I’m at home alone on this rainy Monday evening in my small apartment, enjoying an alcoholic beverage and listening to music. Dinner is eaten so now I’m sitting in front of computer and blogging. It’s not that I’m anti-social, quite the reverse. I like other people but I feel uncomfortable in close social situations. Recently I moved to a new suburb of my big city to be among a mix of different cultures. It’s easier for me to feel at ease in a multi-cultural place. My neighbours are from such diverse countries as Ethiopia, Greece, India, Pakistan and Vietnam. I get along well with all of them.

Solitude
1 : the quality or state of being alone or remote from others in society.
2 : a lonely place (as a desert)

Perhaps I suffer from a mental health condition which is known as: Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle.

Lately I’m unsure of many things including the role of feminism in our world. That’s something I’ll ponder on for a while longer.

Is it time to get out and about? Should I become more socially engaged? Wish you a good life.

Hello. I’m giving a lot of thought to the issue of social justice and how it relates to gender equality. Girls are a long way behind boys in some countries, in fact many girls never go to school or earn a descent living. Can a gorgeous word ~ Vef ~ put them in front or not? Perhaps I’m overly infatuated with the letter f .. Haha! I write on this blog in trying to educate myself about how language can help solve the problem. I’m always reading books and finding unusual words. So it’s wee small hours of the night and I’ve been hard at work trying to get everything organized before going to sleep. Listening to music is one of my greatest pleasures and I often dig out old classics. Wow! These song lyrics by The Cranberries are sure to melt a girl’s heart and they go like this.

I swore, I swore I would be true, and honey, so did you.
So why were you holding her hand? Is that the way we stand?
Were you lying all the time? Was it just a game to you?

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Oh, I thought the world of you.
I thought nothing could go wrong,
But I was wrong. I was wrong.
If you, if you could get by, trying not to lie,
Things wouldn’t be so confused and I wouldn’t feel so used,
But you always really knew, I just wanna be with you.

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Song is from the Album – Everybody else is doing it so why can’t we (1992).

Hello,
Vef (Venus flower) has resumed posting on blog after a long break. I’m in the mood for a song and what better way is there to uplift my spirits at this time of year?

Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

When the blazing sun is gone,
When there’s nothing she shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, through the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

In the dark blue sky so deep
Through my curtains often peep
For you never close your eyes
Til the morning sun does rise
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are.

So this nursery rhyme was originally a poem written by English poet and novelist Jane Taylor (1783-1824) in 1806 at the age of 23. Apparently it is sung to the tune of the French melody “Ah! vous dirais-je, Maman”, which was published in 1761 and later arranged by Mozart for a famous set of variations. You can watch a video clip of it here: Rhymes for the Nursery

I’ve made a small alteration to these lyrics and changed ‘he to she’ as is proper with gender equality. I get so annoyed when everything in this world seems to be about him and not her. Grrr!

Hello. Well after months of pondering I’ve decided to combine my WordPress blogs into one website. It hasn’t been easy to make this choice as I love both of these blogs and their personal written content. What I am going to do is this. In an hour or two I will buy site re-direct and give it a go. Oh! It’s a lot of work but I’m ready to give this a good try. My other blog is taking shape and I can easily move pictures and words. Many of you already follow both blogs and I’m sure it will be for the best if I only have one blog to manage in future. Can I now say thanks to everyone one of you, this is a wonderful trip and the journey is not yet over. I’ve enjoyed the many comments and likes. I’m making a list of all blogs that follow this blog and will be following them back shortly. I recently upgraded to a premium theme and last month Trademark approval was granted. I’d be wise to integrate my limited time and resources in the one place. It will be a true delight in anyone’s language to see you over at my other blog when the move is complete, or even before.

Hello dear readers,
Apologies my WordPress blog posts are occasional due to contracting a viral infection. Well actually I need to slow down a bit so I can research my articles properly. That said I’m very upset by the way girls are often portrayed as sex objects in the media. I’ve just completed a week of study into the topic of sexualization of girls and I have concluded that there is a general lack of action regarding this serious problem. It’s a vicious circle and girls are groomed from a young age to take part in seemingly innocent photo opportunities. This to me is a sexual no-no and it’s a vast global industry fuelled in large part by corporate greed, social media and digital technology. The exact definition of no-no is something that should not be done or is against the rules. Sexualization of girls in media is a disturbing and often unnoticed modern-day trend. There’s a difference between owning your sexuality and being sexualized. It’s a fact that girls are faced with everyday. Sexualization of girls in media is forbidden or not advisable, as because of being improper or unsafe.

Magazines, television, video games and music videos all have a harmful effect, a task force from the American Psychological Association has reported. The proliferation of sexualized images of young girls in advertising, merchandising and media is harming girls’ self-image and healthy development. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression are the most common mental health problems in girls. The Report of The American Psychological Association (APA) Task Force on The Sexualization of Girls , issued in 2007, points out the connection between these problems and the sexualization of girls. The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that the proliferation of sexual images of girls in the media is harming their self-image and development. “We have ample evidence to conclude that sexualization has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, and healthy sexual development,” said Dr Eileen Zurbriggen, Chair of the APA Task Force. “The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” she said. The (APA) task force was set up after mounting public concern about the sexualization of young girls. Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when;

1. a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics.2. a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy.3. a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making.4. sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present as any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children.

Images of sexualized girls are becoming increasingly common in advertising and marketing material. Girls who seem aged 12 years and under are dressed, posed and made up in the same way as sexy adult models. “Corporate pedophilia” is a metaphor used to describe advertising and marketing that sexualizes girls in these ways.

So how important is language in our acceptance of girls as sex objects? Well as far as I’m concerned it’s right up there as a primary cause. Woman is the problem because it’s an out-dated word that gives perceived ownership of girls to men. I’m reminded of the lyrics of a popular song by Neil Diamond: “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon. Soon you’ll need a man.” Yuck! Woman is a man’s word and thus gives rise to a man’s world. Gender possessive references like this to girls are found in all areas of our society. The need is urgent and gender correct terms included in our vocabulary are a big part of the solution. Vef needs to be embraced as the proper word to describe an adult female person. Oh yes! Positive change will take a long time but it must be done for the sake of both sexes. Vef Foundation is actively encouraging the notion of gender equality for boys and girls. Would you like to participate in this discussion and if so I urge you to leave a comment. Thanks.

Recently I came across a proverb that I’m rather fond and here it is. To say I’m fond of this adage means that I don’t like it? Well it’s good but I’m not madly in love with it. Oh yes! I’m also fond of nature photography.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is, not on the strength of the branch, but on the power of her own wings. So the motto is always believe in yourself.”

I’ve worked very hard on my word project for almost ten years. It’s tough going and for all my efforts nothing much has happened apart from a lot of time and money invested. I guess that’s just the way it is with many ambitious endeavours. Personal feelings and emotions often slow me down. Blogging is one way of learning how to piece things together and gain knowledge of English language.

I’d write more in posts about gender equality however I’m not sure if anyone is reading. There’s plenty of good material about this subject on Vef Foundation home page.