to expect dh to actually think!

Dh work are talking about sending him to San Francisco for work, time period unknown. They have given him date of june 6th to go. Possibly for a week. Upsetting enough EXCEPT I'm 33 weeks pregnant. I'm due 26th June with baby number 3. So I told him I would prefer if he was in the country from 5th June on - I'll be 37 weeks. Now granted I went over on both other pregnancies but had very short labours (less than 2 hours on ds2). So he trudged off into work today to tell them "MY WIFE doesnt want me to go past 5th June" and "MY WIFE Only wants me to go for a week". AIBU to expect him to have a set of balls and say under no circumstances will he leave the country once I'm past 37 weeks and that it's HIS decision not mine!!!!!!!!

Difficult to know without knowing all the other factors.You've already said you went over with both your first two.We don't know what other support you have aroundWe don't know how well you've been in pregnancy and how old / challenging the other 2 dc areWe don't know what the circumstances are around this work in the states - it might be something that's only happening on that date, or it might be something that can be done anytime. It might be your dh is the only one who can do what needs to be done or that there are several options. It might be it's possible to support the work via IT link ups or it might not.

Personally, I'd have preferred dh to go before the baby arrived than once I had a newborn, but maybe that's just me ?

Thanks for replies. To answer some questions, I have a lot of support around and have decided I want sil to come to hospital with me if anything happens while he's gone. However my DPs have decided this is not acceptable and that DM will be the one to go even though I don't want her there - she'll stress me out and upset me in the labour ward so I have that to fight yet. Other pregnancies I had spd at the end (and can feel the extreme pressure/pain starting this time again). Ds1 is 3 ds2 is 15 months. It can be done any time up until end of Aug and they've said he will have to go a second time during the summer. I don't mind when baby is here as I will be able to go out to DM and to MIL as I won't have to pay for nursery (ds1 finished mid July in nursery) while I will have to pay even if he isn't there in June.

Icimoi believe me I know, but this is them they've decided who will look after children and everything. Because it's all going to run to their plan anyway!

The thing it its not my decision, I told him 5th June but only if he was ok with this. He realised (after I told him there was no point me even telling him I was in labour as he would be 11 hours away). The reason I wanted him to be vocal that it's his decision is the company have a reputation of walking over people - and have on one or 2 previous occasions told people they are going over for 1/2 weeks and they've been longer over there.