Wanting Ladies to Love Who They Are

Month: May 2014

It must be a wonderful feeling in your heart when you can pick up the phone and hear your mother’s voice on the other end. Well I dont have that feeling anymore. I have seen people mistreat their mothers. Do and say anything to them as if they were trash. That angers me cause I would give anything just to see her smile. I want to hear your voice. See understand that this is the flesh talking. The part of me that misses being able to share the things that are going on in my life with my mother. I have to say that she really was my best friend. We talked about everything. I shared my darkest secrets with her. She was my rock when I couldn’t stand on my own. I wake up some days and look at my phone knowing that I can’t call you. Some nights I cry myself to sleep because it hurts so much. I do take comfort in the fact that your not here suffering anymore. But there is a void in my heart that I know only the Lord can fill. Ma sometimes I just dont know how to allow Him to do that. You were everthing to me. Even when you thought I wasnt listening to you I heard every word. You never gave up on me even when I had given up on life. You were there to pull me up, you dusted me off and let me know it would be okay. When others thought I would be the mud on the bottom of their shoes, you let me know those same ppl would be my stepping stones.A mothers Love is the best thing in this world. Its to be cherished not take for granted. Cause once its gone you can never go back and change things. Its then gone forever. Im thankful that the Lord gave me the chance to say all the things I wanted and needed to say before you left this earth. I can find peace in that you knew just how much you meant to me. And how grateful I was for all you did for me and my children. As Im sitting here writing I just feel this empty place in my heart. God this hurts so much. I always thought it would get better but it seems harder. There is so much I want to tell you. Right now you would be praying telling me Angel God is in control so whatever His will is let it be done. Then you would tell me not to worry. Ma Im not worried anymore because I do have in my heart all that you taught me. I close my eyes and I see and hear you speaking to me. With that I have comfort with whats going on. You have been with me through every major thing in my life and now I just feel lost at times. Ma I Love You and I Miss You more than words could ever say. So if you still have your mother here on this earth with you be sure to let her know just what she means to you. If there is a rift between you and your mother ask God to help you find a way to fix it, heal from it and move on. When their gone thats it you will never have the chance to say or do the things you want to with them. Just something to think about.

As I was sitting here looking out my window at the sun shining and the trees moving I see God with me. When you are living the single life at times you can feel alone. Well in actuality you are not alone you are just feeling lonely. There is truly a difference between the two words. Alone means having no one else present: on one’s own. Lonely means sad because one has no friends or company; without companion. Now you may look at this and say well they seem the same to me. Well lets take the time to really look at this. We will also look at what the Bible has to say about loneliness.

There may come a time in your life when you find yourself alone. Meaning during this time you are not in a relationship or dating at all. Understand that this time is the best time of your life. And I say this from a spiritual stand point. We tend to think at this point that we are at the end of the world because we don’t have a spouse. Well have you ever thought that you don’t have one because you keep choosing the wrong one. We must understand that God has already predestined this for us. As long as we continue to get in his way this will never come to pass. Every time you step in Gods way you prolong the blessing that He is trying to give you. But because we don’t want to be alone we continue to go out and pick for ourselves. Gen 2:18 ” Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” The word didn’t say for us to go out and find man for ourselves. God does not desire for us to be alone. He said so in His word. Living the single life is a time to be in relationship with God. During this time allow God to purge you. Purge meaning allow God to remove any unwanted feeling, memory or condition that is causing you not to be in relationship with Him. In this season become focused on Kingdom business. It should be all about you and God. During that time is when you realize that you are truly not ALONE!!

Now you may be overwhelmed with that sad feeling of loneliness. Isaiah 41:10 “fear not, for I an with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” During this time we depend totally on The Lord our God. Is this a hard time? Yes it is! As a single woman I understand how hard it is. You want to be able to have that companion to share how your day went. You want someone there to help you with the children. You don’t want to feel like you are running the house on your own. When you go to the movies or dinner you would love to be sharing that moment with a spouse. I truly understand all that goes through the mind at this point. And I know oh to well that feeling of loneliness. But I also understand that this is where I have to be so God can prepare me to be a wife for my husband. So I will continue to allow Him to purge me in this season. Also, I will continue to do what God is calling me to do and when He is ready my husband will come to me. Proverbs 18:22 ” He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord.” Allow God to prepare you to be that good thing that man finds!

“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15 (NLT)

I had someone ask me “How can you forgive a person after they have hurt you so bad?” I pondered that question for a minute before I could give her an answer. See there is nothing like having a person hurt you to the core of your heart. To have someone you love and trust with your life turn around and destroy your very being.

When you’re living in a world of un-forgiveness you’re in darkness. This life will cause you to become cold and distant to others. It will cause you to not have compassion for others. You become hateful in a sense. And that person or persons that hurt you has total control over you. I think a part of forgiving means that you have moved past the hurt. You become a better person when you learn how to forgive those that have caused you the worst pain. And then they no longer have control over who you are. When you forgive you take your life back!! Why would you want a person that hurt you to have control over you?

I have to think of it in terms of if God can forgive me for all my wrong who am I not to forgive my fellow man?