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OPP: Responsible For Cheating

by Slacker And Steve,posted Apr 10 2013 4:39PM

Yi!

Today’s OPP,

“Yi! My husband just discovered I was having an affair. We're trying to work things out, but he says I'm 100% to blame. I completely disagree and I think he's partly to blame. I cheated because he never spends time with me and refused to address issues in our marriage. I needed someone to turn to because he wasn’t there. He’s just as much to blame as me, right?
Casey”

Although Slacker says she’s 100% to blame, Slacker also believes that the blame could be put somewhat on the husband. He thinks the blame could be 80/20 because there are certain factors on the husband’s part that could have lead her to go find solace in someone else’s company. Steve thinks the blame should be an evenly cut 50/50.

What advice do you have?

I understand that her husband may have neglected his wife on an emotional level, but she’s the one who went out and cheated. She can’t funnel her guilt and throw it on him because there are other ways of getting what you need that don’t result in going outside of your marriage. In the end, her husband didn’t make her do anything and she needs to face her guilt.

Wish I could have given my 2 cents after Casey went on air...I understand some of what she's go

I was waiting to be put on the air (psudonem Candy)...I wish I has been able to answer Casey back. I really feel like I have something constructive to offer this situation. I cheated when I was married and trust me my circumstances were horrible in what lead up to me cheating but ultimately I was to blame for the final decision to cheat. If she wants to save her marriage still and he still does also then I would be happy to offer some constructive non-judgemental advice...

04/10/2013 5:11PM

Let me talk to her...

I was waiting to be put on the air (psudonem Candy) I wish I has been able to answer Casey back. I really feel like I have something constructive to offer this situation. I cheated when I was married and trust me my circumstances were horrible in what lead up to me cheating but ultimately I was to blame for the final decision to cheat. If she wants to save her marriage still and he still does also then I would be happy to offer some constructive non-judgemental advice...

04/10/2013 5:15PM

oops

I accidently posted twice because the system was calling my post spam at first...can one of my posts get deleted so I don't look like a idiot lol

04/10/2013 5:36PM

She's to blame

She is completely to blame, and its pathetic of her to try and blame her husband for her mistake. It was 100% her decision to do it, she didn't have to but she choose to do it. When you are in a relationship unless it has been discussed and it is agreed upon, you are with that other person 100% If you no longer want to be with that person completely then terminate the relationship. Because when that other person finds out what you have done, you are going to hurt them, and to be cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world. If your man isn't paying attention to you, bring it to his attention, if he doesn't want to talk about it make him. Tell him you need to talk about the relationship or else there will be no relationship to talk about. Relationships are hard and if you want to succeed sometimes you have to fight for it. Nothing truely good in life comes easy.