When you decide to become swingers, it is important to draw up a list of boundaries that you will adhere to as swingers, and what you wish other swingers to adhere to when interacting with you. What would you be comfortable with doing to other swingers? What wouldn't you feel comfortable about your partner doing with swingers? Are there things you couldn't handle? Or, what have you wanted to see your partner do with swingers? What have you always wanted to try with swingers? Why have you decided to be swingers? What are your motivating factors for trying the swingers' lifestyle?

If you are a single swinger, do you have a partner? Are they not a swinger, or do they not know you're out at a swingers' club? How would you cope if they found out you were with swingers? Maybe they know you are with swingers, but only want you to do certain things and not others?

Then you can move onto the swingers' nitty-gritty. Full or soft? Do you think you could cope with seeing your partner touching other swingers? Maybe kissing is okay, or even oral, but penetration with other swingers is not on? Decide before you get to the club what your boundaries are. Anal with swingers might be a no-go, but you going down on a swinger might be fine. You might want oral sex with a swinger while her male partner watches, but if the partner is a female then you wouldn't be interested. Screen possible swingers together. Do you both want another couple? Do you both want to full swap (have sex with other swingers), or do you want to save penetration for each other only? If one has even a hint of reservations, then the arrangement should be off, or altered. Both people in a swingers' relationship should be happy with what occurs.

Condoms, no alcohol (at least not in excess) and no drugs are pretty much mandatory if you are swingers. If you wish to partake in drinking and/or recreational drugs, ask any prospective swingers you intend on being with if it is okay. And if you don't wish to be with swingers who take drugs or drink to excess, say so.

And lastly, talk to your partner, about everything. Recounting experiences might just turn you both on all over again. Being swingers can heighten your feelings for your partner, but only if you communicate about what you are experiencing and feeling.</td>
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