Weddings and Liquor. What do you think of the below idea? For any wedding receptions that serves liquor, that no cars of guests are?

allowed at the venue. They have to either be dropped off and picked up by someone (not attending the event) or they need to take a cab there and back. This would completely eliminate any chance of any of the guests becoming drunk drivers and getting into any accident.
I feel as the bride or groom, I would not... show more allowed at the venue. They have to either be dropped off and picked up by someone (not attending the event) or they need to take a cab there and back. This would completely eliminate any chance of any of the guests becoming drunk drivers and getting into any accident.

I feel as the bride or groom, I would not want to be in any way responsible or feel guilty if someone who drank at the wedding and drove from killing someone or themselves.

What are your thoughts on this? Good Idea or Not? WHY?

Update: I LEARNED MY LESSON -- NO MORE ANSWERS NEEDED -- I NOW REALIZE THIS IS A VERY BAD IDEA.

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Bad idea. You are not their momma to tell grown adults what to do, and imposing conditions of attendance is offensive. It is supposed to be a party not a visit to Alcatraz. If you think of your guests as irresponsible barbarians that don’t know any better then might as well not invite them.

That is why people hire LIMOS, to chauffeur guests and family. That is why hosts give a list of nearby HOTELS for people to stay overnight if they choose to drink. That is why people have designated drivers, taxis and Uber. That is why some people don’t drink at all.

To scold your guests months before the event and barking orders seems like a huge turn off.

Even though your concern is legitimate, the way you are going about it is rude. For my wedding, I hired a party limo bus to for 7 hours to get people to and from wherever they needed to go back to the hotels where they were staying.

Well, it's a bad idea because no one would come to your wedding. These are adults you're talking about. It's admirable that you care so much about their safety but they are responsible for their actions. I own a bar and face the same moral dilemma. We call ubers, taxis, wives and do our best to physically prevent drunks from driving (hiding keys, driving them home...) Perhaps you could get a relative to fulfill this role. Enjoy your wedding.

Bad idea. I drink very little and can easily attend a wedding reception without drinking when I know I am driving. My daughter and her husband don’t drink at all.
I don’t need you to regulate me.

I don’t want to go on a limo bus. I want to leave when I want to leave. Not when a group of guests want to leave.
I would not attend.
Elderly guest may take a pass too. My mom would want to leave rather early from a reception.
Have your reception at a hotel. Give guests a list of hotels, taxi services.

You can not order guests about like this. You need to allow adults to be adults.

I think there are other things you can do. One would be to have it at a hotel where people can stay the night. Another would be to have trained bartenders who cut off drunk people. Another would be to have designated drivers who don't drink. Another would be to decide not to have alcohol at your wedding. You can also cut off the bar an hour before you close down the party, so they have an hour to sober up. And you could have a valet who parks the cars and doesn't retrieve a car for anyone who is drunk.

With your way, I think you penalize people whether they drink or not, whether they only have one drink, whether they bring a designated driver, and more.

Your intentions are good, but you would be overstepping your bounds and assuming an inappropriate role by setting it up this way. You could , at least, stop serving liquor at some time before the event is over...you could stress on your invitation that guests should not drink and drive, or , you could not serve liquor at all ? If anyone drinks and drives, if anyone gets into an accident because of this,it won't be your fault or your responsibility...it will be theirs alone. Or, you could provide alternate transport at your own expense, for those who might like to use it. But that gets complicated and also expensive. Most wedding receptions serve some form of alcohol, e.g., wine, champagne, etc., and most guests do not get in their cars and crash. You will have far enough else to worry about and plan for, I wouldn't worry about this aspect. Congrats on your forthcoming wedding!

My family have weddings at hotels.
One reason we live all over the place, there is always a good amount traveling to the wedding. What I have notice, there a lot of friends that share rooms and stay the night at the hotel. That it just not family that is traveling to far.

Having a wedding at a hotel, that will give guest a break on the hotel, maybe better than what you are thinking.

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I'll tell you what: If you (for whatever reason) told me that I could not drive my own car to the wedding venue; or if you tried to dictate what mode of transportation I would be required to use to arrive and depart, then I would NOT be interested in attending your wedding reception and I would NOT attend.

Most adults know not to drive if they're drunk. If there's any hotels near your venue you can block off some rooms so guests can take a taxi, or have some one drive them there and sleep it off over night. You can even have a shuttle buss or limo run between the venue and hotels.
You're not liable for letting that happen (if you're doing your part to help prevent some one from driving drunk), it's the person's decision to drive drunk. It's the venue that's partially liable for over serving the guest drinks.
Weddings can get a bit boring for some people if there's no alcohol. If you don't want that happening then it's a good idea.