shocked by gender results....

Ok so it's completely ridiculous that I'm disappointed that we are having a boy. My husband and I really thought the baby was a girl and are having a really "off" day coming to terms with the shock. We had a miscarriage in October of last year and it's terrible that these emotions are getting the best of us!! Hubby is shocked but getting excited, I on the other hand feel like I'm loosing a fantasy of lace and ribbons and pink! I know I will love him to pieces, I just hadn't given much thought to gi joes, tonka trucks and well.....boy stuff! We want at least two kids so I know we can and will try again and instead of sadness I should be elated that he is healthy and that this baby is alive inside of me!! Anyone else experience this? Please, please, please no judgement. I know it sounds terrible and I may regret this post, but I'm being honest and hoping I'm not going crazy!

Ok so it's completely ridiculous that I'm disappointed that we are having a boy. My husband and I really thought the baby was a girl and are having a really "off" day coming to terms with the shock. We had a miscarriage in October of last year and it's terrible that these emotions are getting the best of us!! Hubby is shocked but getting excited, I on the other hand feel like I'm loosing a fantasy of lace and ribbons and pink! I know I will love him to pieces, I just hadn't given much thought to gi joes, tonka trucks and well.....boy stuff! We want at least two kids so I know we can and will try again and instead of sadness I should be elated that he is healthy and that this baby is alive inside of me!! Anyone else experience this? Please, please, please no judgement. I know it sounds terrible and I may regret this post, but I'm being honest and hoping I'm not going crazy!

I am pregnant with my second boy now. When I found put the gender with my first, I was disappointed, but ok with it. I was very much afraid I would have nothing in common with him and have no way to relate with him. And I had no idea how to care for a penis. He is almost two now and I love him more than anything in this world. None of my fears or disappointments matter. That being said, I did grieve for the girl I will probably never have when I found out our second was a boy. Not because I didn't love the baby growing inside me, but because I was never going to get the chance at pink lace and to raise the strong independent girl I had always thought I would raise one day. Long and short of it is, no you are not crazy and boy stuff is pretty fun once you get use to it.

I am pregnant with my second boy now. When I found put the gender with my first, I was disappointed, but ok with it. I was very much afraid I would have nothing in common with him and have no way to relate with him. And I had no idea how to care for a penis. He is almost two now and I love him more than anything in this world. None of my fears or disappointments matter. That being said, I did grieve for the girl I will probably never have when I found out our second was a boy. Not because I didn't love the baby growing inside me, but because I was never going to get the chance at pink lace and to raise the strong independent girl I had always thought I would raise one day. Long and short of it is, no you are not crazy and boy stuff is pretty fun once you get use to it.

No judgement here. I bawled and cried when they said my DS was a boy. My husband has 3 sons from his first marriage and I wanted this baby to be different. DH actually told me my reaction was embarrassing. With that being said once you accept that little penis and look and boy stuff I bet you get excited. It took me a few days to even shop for boy stuff. I had my Bentley Mack in March and he is all boy but boys love their mamas. He's so cuddly and sweet and has my heart. There is a special connection between boys and mamas. Even my stepsons 12, 9 and 7 run right past their dad to me, cry for me when they are sick and expect me to solve serious matters... I love being a sports mom and watching my boys run and play. I'm actually excited for you. I know it's not pink and bows but that little boy is going to melt your heart.

No judgement here. I bawled and cried when they said my DS was a boy. My husband has 3 sons from his first marriage and I wanted this baby to be different. DH actually told me my reaction was embarrassing. With that being said once you accept that little penis and look and boy stuff I bet you get excited. It took me a few days to even shop for boy stuff. I had my Bentley Mack in March and he is all boy but boys love their mamas. He's so cuddly and sweet and has my heart. There is a special connection between boys and mamas. Even my stepsons 12, 9 and 7 run right past their dad to me, cry for me when they are sick and expect me to solve serious matters... I love being a sports mom and watching my boys run and play. I'm actually excited for you. I know it's not pink and bows but that little boy is going to melt your heart.

I was the same way. I wasn't dissapointed, but I was so shocked. I wanted a girl, and really felt like it was a girl. Every old wives tale pointed to girl.. I was so convinced. It took me a few hours for it to sink in, and then my sister and I went shopping. That got me SO excited! It's been 4 weeks since we found out and I'm so in love with my little boy! We want to have 3-4 kids so I'll most likely get my girl one day :) She'll have a big brother(s) to look after her. Congratulations on your baby boy <3

I was the same way. I wasn't dissapointed, but I was so shocked. I wanted a girl, and really felt like it was a girl. Every old wives tale pointed to girl.. I was so convinced. It took me a few hours for it to sink in, and then my sister and I went shopping. That got me SO excited! It's been 4 weeks since we found out and I'm so in love with my little boy! We want to have 3-4 kids so I'll most likely get my girl one day :) She'll have a big brother(s) to look after her. Congratulations on your baby boy <3

I had the same thing when I found out my lil boy was gonna be a boy. But hes almost 3 now and I never knew I could love something this much and now, in a way, im kind of thankful I didnt have a girl cause I wouldnt know what to do lol

I had the same thing when I found out my lil boy was gonna be a boy. But hes almost 3 now and I never knew I could love something this much and now, in a way, im kind of thankful I didnt have a girl cause I wouldnt know what to do lol

I have a Dd from a previous & due any day now (hopefully soon, contractions have started!!) with me & DH's son. DH is over the moon, but it took me a while to "come to terms" with it. While I already have a 5 yr old girl, I know how to "do" girls. Know what I mean? The idea of a boy TERRIFIED ME. It took a few weeks, & I still find myself wishing despite having seen his mondo-baby balls that he was a girl, but I'm now pretty excited about it. The more I look at baby boy stuff, the more fun it seems to get! Don't worry - its ok if it takes time. If he truly is a little boy, you'll find a way to get excited about monster onesies & newsie hats & dinosaur pjs. Promise :)

I have a Dd from a previous & due any day now (hopefully soon, contractions have started!!) with me & DH's son. DH is over the moon, but it took me a while to "come to terms" with it. While I already have a 5 yr old girl, I know how to "do" girls. Know what I mean? The idea of a boy TERRIFIED ME. It took a few weeks, & I still find myself wishing despite having seen his mondo-baby balls that he was a girl, but I'm now pretty excited about it. The more I look at baby boy stuff, the more fun it seems to get! Don't worry - its ok if it takes time. If he truly is a little boy, you'll find a way to get excited about monster onesies & newsie hats & dinosaur pjs. Promise :)

It's one of the reasons why my husband and i are waiting to find out the gender until delivery day. I really think you'll be excited once you hold your new little man in your arms, but think of it this way you'll be able to teach him how to melt a girls heart...and one day you'll have a great daughter in law!! My mother in law had two boys but always wanted a girl. She always made sure to grow flowers in the backyard so her sons can give their girlfriends flowers all the time, so my husband is good at surprise bouquets! My mother in law and I have a great relationship and I make sure she's a big part of my life bc I know how much she wanted a daughter. You'll get a daughter one day, just through marriage! Plus you don't have to go through the horrid teenage girl days. My mom and me had a very rocky relationship between ages 14-18, but are better now. I always joke with my mother in law that she got me on my best years (after age 18)! Haha

It's one of the reasons why my husband and i are waiting to find out the gender until delivery day. I really think you'll be excited once you hold your new little man in your arms, but think of it this way you'll be able to teach him how to melt a girls heart...and one day you'll have a great daughter in law!! My mother in law had two boys but always wanted a girl. She always made sure to grow flowers in the backyard so her sons can give their girlfriends flowers all the time, so my husband is good at surprise bouquets! My mother in law and I have a great relationship and I make sure she's a big part of my life bc I know how much she wanted a daughter. You'll get a daughter one day, just through marriage! Plus you don't have to go through the horrid teenage girl days. My mom and me had a very rocky relationship between ages 14-18, but are better now. I always joke with my mother in law that she got me on my best years (after age 18)! Haha

My df felt like that when we found out we were expecting girl #2. And for medical reasons this will be our last. He has now accepted the idea that he is going to be outnumbered. You will love t having a boy!

My df felt like that when we found out we were expecting girl #2. And for medical reasons this will be our last. He has now accepted the idea that he is going to be outnumbered. You will love t having a boy!

Well I cried for 3 days and then got the "look" from my hubby that said, knock it off and get on board!! We already had a name picked out (Marshall) and every day since its been easier to transition to trucks, Legos and all things boy! My hubby is a great help in cleaning and cooking so hopefully baby will indulge me too! He will be tough but know his way around a kitchen and be self sufficient! Haha, it's helped a lot that my friends with girls have all decided to become diva children!! Now I want a boy instead of a dramatic girl! My MIL wanted a girl cause she had 3 boys but shes super excited and spoiling me (the favorite daughter in law!) I know we are so blessed and that my melt down was blown out of proportions with raging hormones! So glad we can all vent our frustrations and fears here!! Thanks for all the encouragement! Everything is still surreal until he arrives (mid nov) and I'm soooo ready for due date AND COOLER WEATHER!!!

Well I cried for 3 days and then got the "look" from my hubby that said, knock it off and get on board!! We already had a name picked out (Marshall) and every day since its been easier to transition to trucks, Legos and all things boy! My hubby is a great help in cleaning and cooking so hopefully baby will indulge me too! He will be tough but know his way around a kitchen and be self sufficient! Haha, it's helped a lot that my friends with girls have all decided to become diva children!! Now I want a boy instead of a dramatic girl! My MIL wanted a girl cause she had 3 boys but shes super excited and spoiling me (the favorite daughter in law!) I know we are so blessed and that my melt down was blown out of proportions with raging hormones! So glad we can all vent our frustrations and fears here!! Thanks for all the encouragement! Everything is still surreal until he arrives (mid nov) and I'm soooo ready for due date AND COOLER WEATHER!!!

I know how you feel! I'm SUPER convinced I'm having a boy, but my husband and I keep saying "...what of we're wrong?" lol! What a shock that will be! I think I'd be a little "disappointed"...until I got in "girl mode". I always thought I'd want a girl first, but I'm so hoping for a boy. Go to baby gap and check out all the cute boy clothes. That will get you excited haha.

I know how you feel! I'm SUPER convinced I'm having a boy, but my husband and I keep saying "...what of we're wrong?" lol! What a shock that will be! I think I'd be a little "disappointed"...until I got in "girl mode". I always thought I'd want a girl first, but I'm so hoping for a boy. Go to baby gap and check out all the cute boy clothes. That will get you excited haha.

Honestly now that I think about it the idea of having a girl completely terrifies me. Boys are so much easier it seems! So much less complicated! You are going to adore your beautiful son no matter what. I guarantee it!

Honestly now that I think about it the idea of having a girl completely terrifies me. Boys are so much easier it seems! So much less complicated! You are going to adore your beautiful son no matter what. I guarantee it!

My little boy is going to turn two in 2 weeks, and I just found out I'm expecting again!! We would love to have a girl, but of course either way we will be happy to have a new baby at home! I do think having boys is easier, specially when they are teenagers. I was playing with the "Chinese calendar gender predictor" and it says boy, but I'm still hoping for a girl. Has anybody else played with that calendar?

My little boy is going to turn two in 2 weeks, and I just found out I'm expecting again!! We would love to have a girl, but of course either way we will be happy to have a new baby at home! I do think having boys is easier, specially when they are teenagers. I was playing with the "Chinese calendar gender predictor" and it says boy, but I'm still hoping for a girl. Has anybody else played with that calendar?

Some people were a bit Judgy when I said I didn't want to do a gender reveal party bc I would be visible disappointed if it was a girl. You can't help your preferences. It's perfectly healthy. I know some people really don't care either way, but I'm not one to sit back and say "as long as its healthy I don't care" if that is not the truth.

Some people were a bit Judgy when I said I didn't want to do a gender reveal party bc I would be visible disappointed if it was a girl. You can't help your preferences. It's perfectly healthy. I know some people really don't care either way, but I'm not one to sit back and say "as long as its healthy I don't care" if that is not the truth.

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