why do people think its ok to be so rude when you're pregnant?????

I am 29 weeks pregnant and am stunned by the way people feel they have a right to be so rude and personal when you're pregnant!
its bad enough walking into work everyday and being told how Huge/massive/enormous/fat etc i am-just because im pregnant doesnt mean i dont feel unattractive and am sensitive to this subject!
i have been asked how many cup sizes I have increased by..(3 if you're wondering!!) how much weight i have gained, how heavy was i beforehand.
When i first told everyone I was expecting I was asked if i was keeping it?? am i pleased, will i now be marrying the father-oh and is he sticking around, was it planned, was i not using contraception....the list goes on!!!
the worst was a colleague telling everyone to 'get back and stand clear' every single time i walked into the room and then clearing 3 chairs for me to sit on in a staff meeting-and commenting there may not be enough room-very proffesional eh??

I expect there will be a resounding yes to my question but has anyone else found that people suddenly think you're not human, you have no feelings and its ok to be the butt of everyone's jokes becasue you're pregnant and now you are public property!![smilie=013.gif]

I went into the garden centre at the weekend and the woman said woooah your bump is big! I guess to me its like stating the obvious so I dont get offended by it, yes my bump is big but then i am pregnant.

I have had people who wouldnt normally speak chat with me, delivery men making sure I dont lift anything (bless) and it is usually the men that have the most tact imo, the women just go in for the kill without thinking about it lol.

Generally I think people love pregnant women and its like asking a taxi driver "are you busy" want to speak but not sure what to say

I'm with you on this one Amy, I hate it when people say to me ohh your getting big aren't you and then proceed to touch my bump!!!!!! or, are you sure you've just got the one in there? I feel so much more sensitive to it this time around than first time.

The best one was when I found out I was having another boy I got told several times, never mind you can aleays try again for a girl?????? WTF, I like the idea of having 2 boys and hadn't planned on having anymore, should I have been disappointed that I was having another boy????

Some people are just so rude. [smilie=013.gif][smilie=013.gif][smilie=013.gif]

I had a car sales guy look at me as I got out the car and say 'whoops - what happened to you?!' then he saw me get 2 mindee's out the car and said 'crikey - I thought you'd have learnt your lesson from the first time'

It is funny how total strangers think they can make jibes.When I go out with my 3 little ones and my huge gigantic bump I am guaranteed to get some form of comment - not all bad!! I normally get "My God u should go get yourself a TV!") - This is due to the amount of children I have and because they are allstill under 3. I also get "you must be mad" because I have so many children. And someone asked me why I am having a 4th child when most people these days only have 2 children. What a strange thing to say!!!
I love my babies all 3 and bump very very much and yes they are a handful sometimes but they are absolutely gorgeous.
A lady in a chinese herbal store asked me if I wanted to join their weigh loss programme yesterday (which my OH thought was hilarious!) - I mean come on I have 7 weeks left til I give birth so excuse me for not being at my slimmest!!
I don'treally get offended but it can be annoying!!! Anyway Good Luck with you pregnancies! Take carexxx

And if you say no it wasn't they look at you and say/or have that look like...oh so it was a mistake?. Ummmm no. I didn't think i'd be able to have kids and while our daughter was a surprise she was a welcome one

I have to agree with all the above, my worst one is "OMG you're huge", now i just say well at least mine is only temporary That seems to make them stop & think!
Also it worse when its someone you dont know, at least with friends & family you can say something back.

i rememebr when i was preganant n i got that too n ppl made me feel like an infilid n like i cudnt do stuff. thing is im very independent n once i get use to summit its hard for me to change it if you know what i mean so it realy annoyed me although it was nice at times.

I agree with all of them.people who normally don't even speak to me normally are stopping and asking me.Last week when it was hot all i got at the school was "you must be feeling the heat" so i answered every time"not really it's the weight i'm feeling" then comes the killer question"so how long you got left?"which is what i believe they really wanted to know.The one i keep getting at the moment is you look ready to pop!I didn't realise i was a balloon!

I hate the looks i get just walkin down the street. I'm only 21 but have been married a year and people look at me like i'm a teenage mother and irresponsible. I live on a RAF base so you'd think people would guess that I am married!!

i know hw ya mean about being a young mum. im only just turned 21 i was 20 when i had dd n i look young for my age n i got those klinda looks too.

it must be harder on the RAF camp thou as most are older women i bet n prob women that kinda look down at ppl having kids in there early 20's.

You would think so but theres quite a few younger ones here aswell. My Brother in law lives round the corner and says most people in the area are aged 20 - 30. We have only just moved here so dont know many people but if they keep looking down their noses at me then i dont think i will ever get to know them! lol.

With this bub I had some bleeding around 6wks so went to the early preg unit.... saw a nurse, then another nurse with a sit in doctor, the radiologist and then another nurse before going home. EVERY single one asked me if my pregnancy was planned. What difference does that make?

It was, we'd tried for 8months but got my back up cos my first wasn't and doesn't mean I love her any less. Asked my MW why they kept asking and she said she has no idea and that it was very odd. Perhaps its because i'm 22 ... i'm married as well but not like that makes a difference in all honesty

With this bub I had some bleeding around 6wks so went to the early preg unit.... saw a nurse, then another nurse with a sit in doctor, the radiologist and then another nurse before going home. EVERY single one asked me if my pregnancy was planned. What difference does that make?

It was, we'd tried for 8months but got my back up cos my first wasn't and doesn't mean I love her any less. Asked my MW why they kept asking and she said she has no idea and that it was very odd. Perhaps its because i'm 22 ... i'm married as well but not like that makes a difference in all honesty

My midwife asked me if it was planned and there is a section in my notes where she had to tick to say whether it was planned or not. I think its because of its not planned they offer you more support or something

Right from the beginning, it felt like I was getting judged for being pregnant at my age, which is 21.

My previous midwife asked me if the father was in the picture: Being he was sat in the room with me - uh yes. She then asked me what I did for a living: I told her I'm a full-time student and her face dropped.mg: She then proceeded to say, "So this wasn't a planned pregnancy, then." It wasn't even a cautious question, it was a statement. When I told her that it was definately planned, she looked at my partner and asked him what he does for a living, as if afraid he was going to say he was a student too - when he said he's a mechanic, she breathed a sigh of relief! [smilie=013.gif]

My OH's family kind of annoyed me. As you might know, I have problems with my MIL. She also asked if it was planned - NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! She seemed annoyed though when OH said it was - another story though. Another thing I get is: "Sit down" from EVERYONE!!!! I'm pregnant - not injured!!! If I need to, or want to sit down then I will. [smilie=013.gif]

A lot of people my own age in my area can be very limited in their thoughts about being young and pregnant - someone asked me if I'd gotten pregnant to get a council flat!!!! Err... no, I didn't.