Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

People with borderline or narcissistic personality disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling - in the extreme.

The Narcissist You Know: Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About-Me Age

In today's social media and selfie-obsessed culture, we are living in an age of narcissism - and a society that often celebrates this potentially harmful trait rather than understanding it as a psychological disorder. Scientists are beginning to learn that narcissism exists on a spectrum - much like autism - and most of us exhibit some mild narcissistic tendencies.

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Publisher's Summary

It is said that there is an epidemic of narcissists in the world today. Many people go out in the dating world, trying to find someone who is relatively willing and able to have a committed relationship after a certain amount of time. Many of us want partners who are emotionally mature, able to communicate with us, and able to provide intimacy and trust in the relationship.

There is no way to get a completely accurate picture of how many narcissists there truly are in the world. Sam Vaknin indicates in his book Malignant Self Love-Revisited that it could be around 15 percent, but people with narcissistic traits and those with full-blown narcissistic personality disorder would rarely seek treatment long enough to be diagnosed, would be likely to lie on any tests or questionnaires, and would not pursue treatment. In other words, the numbers could truly be much higher because of the inability to really capture this subgenre of individuals to count them all.

Narcissists are generally seriously damaged inside by some type of narcissistic injury. Some people with narcissistic traits may have had head injuries or may have some form of autistic spectrum disorder. They may have been born lacking certain areas of their brain that help them to empathize with others, to read social cues, and to break out of their repetition. They may have experienced intrusive, abusive, or neglectful parents who taught them maladjusted ways to relate in the world.

People who display narcissistic tendencies may have been born with severely underdeveloped areas of the brain that even lead to psychopathic traits and behaviors (impulsivity, lack of remorse, intense boredom, criminal behavior). Some of these individuals go on to become CEOs while others go on to become serial killers or spouse batterers.