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What Guys Said 15

Only a fool gets on his knees, surrender his pride and beg for something.

I decided little things and little choices through a libra scale. If i was that guy, I would realize that my pride is a pillar of strength. I would then think and decided if I should abandon my pride for love. Not knowing if this love would be beneficial to me. Would it give me the same strength as my pride? Would it make me become a stronger version of myself? Or will it set me up for a failure and live in a painted world?

People make mistakes. The problem is accepting the fact that the person you made your mistake to, might not welcome you with open arms

Begging in not hard wired into me. So no I would not pursue said love and beg. If it were love at all I wouldn't have to. So if begging is required , in my eyes there was nothing there worth chasing to begin with

What Girls Said 9

Yes, if; the issue that caused us to break up was resolved, it was entirely on me, and I felt confident I could prevent whatever caused the break up from happening again. Also, if we were truly very compatible and good for each other despite this cause for breaking up.

No, if; the issue was persistent, un-fixable, something that caused them to not want to ever speak to me again. I would leave well enough alone.

i dont know what to do. we decided to forget about each other while he was away at school so that he could figure out what he wants to do with his life and get himself back on track and although i told him id be supportive of his decision i miss his terribly. my brain keeps telling me to not contact him, but my heart wants to just say hi to him. i dont know what to do. we are meant for each other but our timing was off and we never got to date, but we have expressed to each other that we felt this undeniable connection between us. when weve kissed we couldnt get enough of each other and i could feel from the way he kissed me that it wasn't just about fun but there were emotions behind his kisses even though he wasn't ready to admit having feelings for me. so its now been 2 months since i last spoken to him or had any communication with him. the first 2 weeks i was alright, but i feel so broken right now and i miss him tremendously. he's the kinda guy who ruins all other guys for you. w

I understand exactly how you feel. If he did tell you that he likes you too, then I am sure it wouldn't hurt to text him and say hello. Maybe he feels shy like you. Tell you what, why don't you text him and see how it goes. Don't pour your heart and soul out like how you did here. Just keep it casual and maybe say that you miss him. What your brain is telling you is what pride is!! HAHA. But yeah I would say hello to him, talk to him, and try my best to keep a distance. Be there for him and if it doesn't work out, then you will hurt for a little bit but then you will get over it within like a month or something.

im not sure if he changed his number cuz he's in a dif state for school right now. and he's not shy. he approached me out of nowhere one day to introduce himself. but i dont know if he truly had real feelings. i think he did but sinc ehe'd just broken up with his ex for me i think he wasn't prepared to have feelings for two people at once

Well that is good news. If he did change his number then that is it then. Do you have his Facebook or some other website? You were obviously an important factor in his life so a message from you is expected. I guess a message will serve as an ultimatum for a two way street- Whether he will repsond kindly to it or mean to it will definitely give you closure.

that is true. if he doesn't respond it means i know he's moved on. if he does then i just want to say hi and find out how he's doing. and noing us we'll end up in a really deep conversation about our situation, but ill try to avoid it. he doesn't really go on fb though but is it worth it? or should i let him come to me. he said we can see where were both at when he comes home

i know he's checked up on me a few times, but i donno. do i let him come back to me? he said he i deserved better and that he wished he could give me what i want and deserve but that he couldnt. it was two months ago. UGH!!! i dont know!!1

When people say that, it usually means that they don't want to hold you down but wish they were with you. But if I was you I would say hello and see where it goes. As you said, you dont need to get deep unless he wants to.

gah!!! and thats what i got from it. he did too many things to prove i wasn't just fun even though he said i was kinda just fun, but im sorry no guy willingly comes over to watch a movie when we decided to not pursue anything and just be friends and not cuddling while watching. he was respecting my wishes but i cracked and made out with him lmao.

i know. plus he addmited we'd be dating if he didn't move to a dif school. :( i think i might. i dont think he'd not answer me. i actually think he may be happy to hear from me. he's probs wondering when im gonna cave cuz I've always been the first one to text (turns out he hates texting lol)

Don't be scared. I am sure you will be fine. What I like to do if I am scared is I type the message out, then if I can't hit send, I would tell my friend to do it for me then yell at her when she does hhahaha

he actually had a gf and admitted that he shouldn't have approached me that same day he did. he said he was sorry. we just connected so well and he actually broke up with his ex to date me but he wasn't ready yet so we didn't date even though we both wanted to see what it was between us cuz we knew something was there. he actually moved here to live with his ex and then moved out once he broke up with her. he actually asked me what i thought (in our first convo ever)

so basically, i was the reason why he broke up with her. but i saw that he recently commented on a photo on her fb wall but then again i know that theyre friends, but he never told anyone about me even though he was never shy about hanging out with me on campus. and he felt awful about it cuz he wants to right for me but he isn't right now

he basically said "Hey ____:) schools been ok but I'm loving everything else out here lol how's back home?" so i answered "really? like what? its been alright. the gym is not nearly as fun without our weekly "stretching" sessions haha" he responded "Ahah yah 'stretching' lol I'm getting out ice climbing every once in a while and just seeing lots of friends and music" and i said (to which im not sure if he got cuz he hasn't seen it yet and sometimes messages dont go through) "we were 'stretching' our minds and conversation skills lol. i think that still counts. that sounds perfect for you! i didn't know _______ had good ice climbing places... excellent lobster, yes, but climbing no."

and i risk looking needy. a little backgorund on the 'stretching.' he used to come to the gym 30 mins before his workout class in hopes of bumping into me and once we figured out when we'd both be there we'd purposely go at that time cuz we knew the other would be there. and everytime he'd end up sitting with me and we'd flirt and have really deep convos instead of actually stretching