I can't forget my husbands' affair

You have done terribly well by really talking things through and you have both worked hard at getting the relationship back together. But it is still very early days so give yourself more time.

You are struggling to forgive him but are bound to have times when you feel angry and humiliated. It was a double betrayal by two people you trusted. So when your anger spills over he has to be prepared to cope with that.

By being loving and reassuring he can help restore your self-esteem, which always takes a huge battering when there has been an affair. These feelings will reduce and become more controllable and sometimes you will need to say something.

But at other times try to deflect these feelings by going and doing something that gives you pleasure, like seeing friends, treating yourself to a little luxury or doing something fun with him or as a family.

If she still lives next door it is doubly hard. Moving is expensive but it would also help if they moved away or if you were able to move house, but perhaps this has already happened.