When I was young, a good friend of mine had parents that would walk around with matching ridiculous tourist sweatshirts, like “Myrtle Beach”. I remember being just shocked and disgusted by the whole embarrassing thing. Now that I’m older, I look back at that couple with complete respect and awe. They weren’t wearing “Myrtle Beach” sweatshirts as much as “we’re a team, we’re in love, and we don’t give a shit what you think” sweatshirt. The guy died recently, and it makes me sad to think about her wearing one half of one of those ridiculous matching outfits.

Once, I broke up with a guy during the fall when it was still jacket weather. In early winter, we met over coffee to return various items that we’d left at each other’s houses. In the time period that we were alone, the weather had gotten cold and we both went out and bought new coats. Identical coats. Neither of us had any idea that the other had the coat.

So here we are in an awkward and tense situation. His new girlfriend was extremely jealous and came along for the transaction. We were in a bookstore and people passed us by saying “Awww look at the cute couple with their matching coats! That’s so sweet!”

I think it is ridiculous. It means one of them can’t dress them (him) self.

I once went on an organized bicycle tour of Vermont. On the trip was a honeymooning couple, and they wore identical clothing the whole time. It got a bit nauseating, and the consensus of the rest of us was that HE would be under her thumb the rest of his life.

My hubby has been asking me to match shirts and…tattoos. He thinks it’s cute. At this point in my life a tattoo is not going to touch my body. Ditto the identical t-shirt. But I do get why he wants to.

@Keep_on_running The OP doesn’t mention anything related to that one way or the other. And while some people see it as cute or dorky, I don’t, and see it more as one person who can’t choose his own clothing. And I see women dictating this much more than a man; the women I know would not wear anything chosen by their husbands.

@zenvelo I just didn’t think when reading the tags “love”, “dating”, “cheesy” etc. that meant underlying controlling, ”under the thumb” issues. I’m not on some defending crusade of couples wearing the same shirts – I’ve never done it – but, I don’t think we can assume such things about the man or woman in that situation.

My husband thought that we should get matching shirts or sweaters.
Go back up and look at @downtide ‘s link. That is most likely what he had in mind, and I’m not kidding.
He got angry when I said no, I didn’t want to wear matching shirts. He accused me of not wanting to be seen as part of a couple, with him.I wonder if one of you could get through to him?

Augh! I don’t know why I didn’t think of this. I probably worked hard to burn it out of my memory. Before my stepdad had a massive heart attack and now takes medication that doesn’t allow him to be in the sun, he and my mom used to be really into tandem biking.

The tandem biking crowd can be extremely hokey. They used to wear identical matching bike suits. From the helmet to the bike shoes with those stupid cleat things in the bottom that rabid bikers wear that weld their feet to the place where pedals should be, they were a perfect match. Bike suits look really dorky. Two people in matching suits are even worse. And men should be banned from wearing bike shorts in the first place. It covers so much, yet leaves so little to the imagination. ULP!

On two occasions, I have bought 14 matching shirts for the whole family to wear at our family reunion/February birthday celebration. We used to get together in February because 5 members have their birthdays in Feb (I just missed by two days), and the December birthday boys got a chance to have a real party too, instead of combined with Xmas.

Wouldn’t think of it myself. The only time I try to influence what my husband wears is for a special occasion, and even then my success rate isn’t very high. I’m doing well if I can get us to look like we’re going to the same event instead of one of us (not saying which one) in faded jeans and a plaid flannel shirt and the other in a dress and heels and gemstone earrings.

When I see others dressed to match, I guess I think it looks a little precious, but it’s not worth a lot of my attention.

@zenvelo my husband will not get dressed for an occasion, without my help in choosing his clothes. I wish that he would. I find it tedious enough choosing my own clothes, I really don’t want the chore of choosing his as well.Somehow he believes that it’s part of my job as his wife, to tell him what to wear when the occasion calls for more that jeans and a denim or flannel shirt.sigh…