My wife and I met at work. We have been married over a decade. Additionally, she was a maid-of-honor and a bridesmaid for marriages that started at the same workplace. All the marriages are over a decade without divorce.

Congrats man!!!!!!!!!! that is really rare in the grand scheme of things.

Tell me about it. I made that mistake years earlier, vowed to never do it again and here I am in the same position.

Something's up with her, she won't say what but I think it's over; to which I am glad but now comes the awkwardness. I have to see her almost everyday and to be honest I'm pissed off because of this attitude she now has that I don't deserve. I've been nothing short of nice to her and I get treated like an a-hole when she was the one coming onto me all this time.

sorry man. Just remember next time you consider it this feeling and stay out of that circumstance. Or move to where PTM is work with him and find a mate . The best place to find a wife is walking in God's will for your life.

Thank you all so much. Thanks for the PM support too from some of you. I have kept secretive about this from almost everyone, but this support makes me realize what a family we have on this forum. Matt is right he has the best fans in the world, but he also has the best family of fans too.

Yeah, I usually try to have kids, get married, fall in love, then have sex.

Weren't you ever taunted on the playground in grade school?

"Ben and ______ sitting in a tree - K-I-S-S-I-N-G. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Ben with a baby carriage."

__________________"Be of good comfort, Master Ridley, and play the man! We shall this day light such a candle, by God's grace, in England, as I trust shall never be put out."
--Hugh Latimer, October 16, 1555

Great idea! Birth control is about ninety six percent effective, so if you have sex twenty five times she’ll only get pregnant once. All your decisions from then on will be pretty much made for you, PROBLEM SOLVED!!!

If those odds were accurate, I'd have hundreds of kids, maybe thousands.

If those odds were accurate, I'd have hundreds of kids, maybe thousands.

Let’s hit the middle and say one thousand, which according to my odds means you’ve hit the hoohaa twenty five thousand times. Let’s assume you’re around fifty, and you started your... ahem, ‘career’ at about fifteen years old, that works out to about twice a day for thirty five years, including weekends and holidays.

So, is that why you have to stay in shape, or is this how you stay in shape?

Let’s hit the middle and say one thousand, which according to my odds means you’ve hit the hoohaa twenty five thousand times. Let’s assume you’re around fifty, and you started your... ahem, ‘career’ at about fifteen years old, that works out to about twice a day for thirty five years, including weekends and holidays.

So, is that why you have to stay in shape, or is this how you stay in shape?

OK, let's call it low hundreds. Still though, your 1/25 is only for the contraception to fail (ie: condom breaks, etc.). You also have to factor in the odds of the women ovulating at the time, about 1/7 (4/28) and also the odds of fertilization actually occurring (no idea the odds on that).

So, for an accidental pregnancy to occur while wearing a condom, the odds are MUCH lower than 1/25. I've been "busy" from the age of 18 to my current age of 42 and have never had an accidental occurrence. My one and only child was planned and that one took on our first try.

I realize this strays from the advice asked for in the original post. I just didn't want the 1/25 odds to become an unrealistic scare factor.

EDIT: After a little more math, I guess my number of children in the 1/25 scenario would be closer to 100, rather than "hundreds". Assuming only twice per week for 20 years.