Dealing with mama's death

When I was seven, my mom died. I’m having a really hard time lately and I can't take it anymore! I cry myself to sleep at night. I only have one other friend whose mom died. Both of our moms had cancer.

My dad is going on this dating website like chatting with other women. He didn't tell me, but he recently went out on a date.

I know he is lonely, but he never told me! I need help... BAD! Please?

Hey girl,

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I can’t imagine the frustration and pain you must be going through. But don’t lose your hope and don’t forget that you can (and will!) get through this.

Let it out

It’s great that you have a chica who can understand and relate to you. Around her, you can just let your feelings flow. But don’t limit yourself to that one gal. Sure, she might be the only friend who went through what you’re going through, but that doesn’t mean she’s the only friend who cares about you. If you’ve got some other girlies who you trust, try opening up to them. Chances are they’ll want to help you get through this and they just might have a fresh way of viewing this whole sitch.

Pop's point of view

There’s no doubt that you’re a big part of your dad’s life. And because of that, he won’t make any hasty decisions without thinking about you first. Sure, he could and should’ve told you about his date, but please know this was a tough decision for him, too. He probably was just as frustrated as you were when he made his decision to go on the date—and he was really stressing over whether he should tell you or keep it secret. If you look at it that way, your dad and you kinda share something in common.

Facing your father

Now, keeping that in mind, you should talk to him. That’s the only way you’ll make sure that your voice is heard. Your dad needs to know how you feel and you’ll feel better if you tell him. Let him know that you want him to tell you what’s going on in his life and his feelings. That way, you’ll be able to talk to him more and hopefully, get through this together. It might be hard at first, but you’ll appreciate it when you get through this with people who care about you.

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