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You’re crushing, they’re dating – what next?

Text: Nicola Davidson; Photography: Getty Images

November 7, 2017

You’ve had a crush on someone for ages – maybe a friend, a colleague or an acquaintance. Although they don’t know your feelings for them, you’ve secretly been hoping that at some point your platonic relationship could become something more. But then, horror of all horrors, they start dating someone! What do you do?

Don’t be a hater

Just because they picked someone other than you doesn’t automatically make their new partner a bad person. Putting them down will only make you seem mean and petty. Be the strong woman you are and say nice things like you mean them.

Resist the temptation to Facebook stalk

Don’t start following their every move on social media – it’ll only drive you crazy. Get out of the house and live your own life. The sooner you stop obsessing, the sooner you can enjoy doing your own thing.

Don’t get down on yourself

So they like someone else, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Chemistry is a tricky thing; you either have it or you don’t. Just because you and your crush don’t have it, doesn’t mean you won’t have it with someone else.

Stay friends

It might sting at first, but feelings change and you should be able to move past it. The fact is, you have a connection with this person, even if it’s not the type you secretly long for. Ending your friendship won’t serve either of you and could leave you feeling worse in the long run.

Take the plunge

How serious is the new relationship? Is it fairly casual or do you think it could develop into something more serious? If it’s the latter, perhaps this is just the incentive you need to make your feelings known. Who knows, you could get just the outcome you’re looking for!

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