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Years ago it was thought that husbands had affairs and wives did not. Really. I was thrown off several radio shows for insisting that the legions of men having affairs across the globe were not, as these talk-show hosts thought, sleeping only with a small pool of unmarried women, but with other wives as well. That I had spoken with these wives and reported on their feelings about affairs, as I did for my first book, The Erotic Silence of the American Wife, made me almost as evil on these shows as the wives themselves. (I was called “a witch” on the Larry King show.)

In a piece in The Times Style section last Sunday about sexting, a study revealed that yes, online dalliances occur. And women, the study showed, sext more than men do. Women also send naked pictures of themselves to men. One of the study’s researchers, Dr. Kholos Wysocki, a professor of sociology and women’s studies at the Universityof Nebraska at Kearney said she didn’t feel the internet was causing infidelity, but that “something is going on with marriage that’s the bigger social issue. Before, people would just get a divorce. For some reason, people are staying and cheating instead.”

About Dalma

Dalma Heyn is a psychotherapist, consultant, and a passionate speaker on the evolution of women's issues and new trends in love, marriage and relationships. Her work has been called "revolutionary" for investigating the deepest places in our culture and our psyches, and for telling the truth about women’s experience by reporting their own words-- rather than reporting on how women are interpreted or judged.

Dalma is the author of several New York Times bestselling books, including The Erotic Silence of The American Wife, Marriage Shock: The Transformation of Women into Wives; Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy, and most recently, A Godsend: A Love Story For Grownups, written with her husband Richard Marek. Learn more about Dalma