Just pop it on if the sex is planned (ie, romantic night in) or if it's a bit more spontaneous, just say "Hang on", jump off the bed and put one on, you don't have to make a big deal of it. I haven't met anyone who makes a big deal of that kind of thing (nor does it kill the mood). If it ever did and someone was insistent on me not wearing one, I'd just get dressed and leave.

If she is expecting to go bare the first time you guys hook up, you might want to reconsider hooking up with her.

I'm going to quote this, not because I agree 100%, but because it does show a bit of 'wtf' to me. If this is your first time getting it on, and she wants it bare? Ya no.

I would just tell her "Hey look, we both need to get tested, because it's the right thing to do" not because you want to be romantic or whatever. If she's not ok with getting tested to have sex with a guy long term (it is longer than 1 night obviously right?) then she's not ok with you man.

It's nothing personal, it's just the fact that you don't want to end up on your own with HIV or Chlamydia or something.

If it was 1 night, wrap it up... If it's long term (more than 3+ in my book) wrap it up until you get tested.. And even then, I'd still wrap it up until you were ready 100% to have a kid TOGETHER.. Because "I have an implant" is about as confirming as my doctor was when he told me "You'll grow out of getting fat don't worry." shit that I heard forever ago.

Just pop it on if the sex is planned (ie, romantic night in) or if it's a bit more spontaneous, just say "Hang on", jump off the bed and put one on, you don't have to make a big deal of it. I haven't met anyone who makes a big deal of that kind of thing (nor does it kill the mood). If it ever did and someone was insistent on me not wearing one, I'd just get dressed and leave.

3rd option.

Start rubbing her while putting it on one handed, and double check it before you actually get going.

Condoms are expensive. Sex clinics give free condoms. When I went there with my first date, we got two or three paper baggies full of condoms - lasted us a good while, and no one gave us a second look.

Even with ladies I trust, I put on a condom as part of the normal routine, just because it's, well, normal. (Also I'm paranoid.)

I would concur with others that you should always use protection. Its not a matter of debate since you should be using it all the time anyway. Its not a bareback issue, its a safety issue. Cover your own ass and use protection.

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When you know it's gonna be a lasting relationship sit her down and simply say, there's something I want / need to talk to you about and then just be honest. Explain that it's important to you to be sure that you both are disease free so that you both can enjoy the benefits of condom free sex. Just being honest and speaking from the heart is the only way to go about it. Just say how you feel.

However, this does not protect you against unwanted pregnancies or in the case of cheating, diseases. So be careful still.

It's not that they are just dying to get pregnant from college kids so much as there is really no verifiable way to be certain she actually has one in and women lie about things like that as well. It's not just guys that are asses when it comes to stuff like this.

Right, if it's a woman that's good with jumping straight to unprotected sex and has no interest in asking me about STI status, I'm going to be a bit skeptical of her.

Meh, maybe she's just not jaded and freaked out by the idea. You know how it is, you feel invincible until you get screwed over. Granted I always wrap up and don't really stress out, I try to keep myself aimed towards... clean, for lack of a better word, looking women. The pea brained ditsy chicks are the ones I worry about.

Seriously though, I use a condom because I'm not ready to have kids. Regardless if she has birth control or a disease, I'm using one every fucking time.

---------- Post added 2012-12-06 at 07:31 AM ----------

Originally Posted by Purlina

Exactly. You don't want to have to run out to the store in the middle of things.

One in the wallet. One hidden in the glove box. One in the center console. One box in the tire well with the spare tire. Fuckin' prepared for an orgy if it happens.

Last edited by xxf2dxx; 2012-12-06 at 03:33 PM.

Originally Posted by Sarcasm

It's not that drugs are for people who can't handle reality. Reality is for people who can't handle drugs.

I don't know what kind of relationships you all have been in, but I'm actually shocked that anyone would have trouble with this. Why would you be concerned with your partner's reaction if you're bringing up a legitimate precaution? I would be furious if my girlfriend reacted negatively to me trying to make a responsible health choice.

Sexually transmitted diseases aren't bound to any implication of 'whoring' one's self out. My fiance was born with Herpes, and she let me know from the start of our relationship what we were getting in to. At no point does that brand her a slut, and sometimes diseases like that can lay dormant. She didn't get her first outbreak until her late teen's.

TL: DR; If your partner gets upset with you for trying to be responsible, it's not your fault. In fact, they have a serious character flaw.

They do a pretty good job preventing HIV, which is the scariest of them.

---------- Post added 2012-12-06 at 03:42 PM ----------

Originally Posted by SaintCree

I don't know what kind of relationships you all have been in, but I'm actually shocked that anyone would have trouble with this. Why would you be concerned with your partner's reaction if you're bringing up a legitimate precaution? I would be furious if my girlfriend reacted negatively to me trying to make a responsible health choice.

Sexually transmitted diseases aren't bound to any implication of 'whoring' one's self out. My fiance was born with Herpes, and she let me know from the start of our relationship what we were getting in to. At no point does that brand her a slut, and sometimes diseases like that can lay dormant. She didn't get her first outbreak until her late teen's.

TL: DR; If your partner gets upset with you for trying to be responsible, it's not your fault. In fact, they have a serious character flaw.

Yeah, it would be a huge flaming red flag to me if a girl got upset when I said we needed to get tested before having sex without a condom.

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And there they lay I damn me eyes
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