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I love the Law of Attraction, the more I learn about how to use it, the more wonderful the results I get. But, yet, there are still a few areas of my life, that no matter how hard I try to apply the Law of Attraction…I can’t seem to get any results.

Recently I saw a video clip somewhere that asked a very simple but profound question.

Why do I want…. ( in my case it was more money)?

This got me to thinking…. before anyone uses the Law of Attraction, they should always ask themselves why do I want that.

If you want more money to pay off debt… chances are, your focus is on debt…so you will just get more debt. If you want a relationship because you are lonely… then your focus is on being lonely.

In life coaching, we often encourage our client to focus on what they are moving towards, instead of what they are moving away from. Instead of debt, maybe focus on financial security. Instead of focusing on moving away from loneliness, focus on finding ways to feel you belong, or ways to have fun.

And maybe, on the odd occasion, you may just find that, you don’t really want what you were asking for.

Even if you aren’t a believer in the Law of Attraction, asking yourself why you want what you want, is always a good starting step in reaching your goals.

This is one saying I remind myself of frequently. I often have fleeting bouts of motivation. If you are like me, then you may need to take a daily dose of motivation too…just like you take your vitamins.

I have occasionally been subject to bouts of insomnia over the years. I have something that I do, that works 80% of the time for me, but I have never heard of anyone else doing it, so I figured I would share it here in hopes it might help someone else.

Sleep the opposite way around in your bed.

Go to bed normally and if you can’t sleep, put your pillow at the foot of your bed and adjust your bedding accordingly. It will still take you about 10 or 20 min to fall asleep.

I have no idea why it works…if anyone has any insights I would love to hear.

I often hear people say that one person can’t change the world. Or maybe you are like me, and find a goal like changing the world too big… too daunting. I found a wonderful inspiration for this, from an unexpected source.

I was watching The Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D earlier today, and the conversation went something like this:

C1: Well, I don’t have the solution.

C2: Neither do I, but if 100 people have 1% of the answer…then we have the solution.

That got me thinking… maybe one person can’t change the world… but if everybody did their best to make their piece of the world a better place…. then maybe we can change the world.

Every second of every day, you are bombarded with billions upon billions of bits of information. Some sources say even as high as 400 billion. Out of all these bits of information, your brain can process and interpret a mere…..2,000 bits of information. That means roughly…. there are 399,999,998,000 bits of information you are missing out on every second.

Now…our subconscious absolutely loves when we encounter things that support our already formed beliefs. So, chances are, the bulk of those 2,000 bits, is information that support your beliefs.

Maybe you had bossy parents, or a bossy teacher that you didn’t really like. So you developed a belief that bossy people suck. Now your brain will actively look for people who are demonstrating bossy behaviors……. and it drives you nuts! Everywhere you go people are so damn bossy (or loud, rude, annoying, full of themselves, etc.). Why oh why do you always attract annoying bossy people!!!

If you want to be less judgmental, you have to become aware, that chances are, when you are judging people… you are only seeing the bits that already support those judgments.

Here is my challenge to you…think about what is your 2,000 bits…. and ask yourself do you really like what you see. Changing your 2,000 bits can be as simple as deciding that for the next 24 hrs you want to see happy people ( or whatever you want to see), and suddenly you will start seeing happy people. It may take some practice… but be patient with yourself.

I am a person who frequently beats myself up, for being off-track…again! I set goals for myself, and somehow on the way to reaching them, I find myself off in the woods (metaphorically speaking).

I have been “off-track” since last January. Within the past few weeks, I found myself to be back on-track…again….out of the blue. I do know, in the time since January, I have certainly learnt many lessons…. lessons that are going to be a great help to me now that I am on-track again.

So the question is, was I ever really off-track? Or maybe…I just took a detour, or even the scenic route.

I think when trying to reach a goal, too many people beat themselves up. They are so busy keeping their eyes firmly on the goal and running for it full tilt, that they miss the value of the journey around them.

So if you are finding yourself off-track again…take a minute to look around. Maybe there is something of value waiting for you where you are. And…stop beating yourself up! See this as just a detour in your journey. You might take a little longer than you would like to get to your goal… but you are still on the way.

I am a strong believer in the law of attraction, and for the most part I seem to be pretty good at it. Anything I truly set my mind to, ends up coming into my life. The only exception to this was trying to attract a partner. I tried, and tried, and tried…. for almost 2 years with pretty much no success. I tried various techniques……making a very detailed list of what I wanted, to a very small list and let the universe fill in the rest. Nothing seemed to work at all.

Finally one day I got so pissed off and frustrated, I just screamed at the universe inside my head. “FINE! You don’t want to send me someone that I want then send me someone that I need.” And with that I released the need to know how…the need to decide what that person was going to be like…I just let go. I was so fed up with waiting, that I just let go of the outcome and just accepted what may come.

About a week after I let go, I met someone. He may not be everything that I wanted… but he is certainly everything that I need. I very much wanted someone who would help me grow on my journey and had assumed that would come from someone who is very spiritual. What I didn’t realize is that I am very proficient with being spiritual… what I really need is someone who grounds me. Also, I am in the process of starting my own coaching practice… and this new, science minded man in my life reminded me that there are a lot of people out there who are not comfortable with spiritual language and who still prefer the scientific terminology. I was about to start my new company…and because I am a spiritual person, assumed everyone would understand what I had to say, on my terms…. I was about to alienate a large amount of the population, right out of the gate.

Now… I am not saying this is “the guy”, I have only know him 3 weeks…. but he is, without a doubt, the man that I need in my life right now.

If you are having trouble manifesting something in your life… ask yourself… is it something you need… or something you just want. The universe is far wiser than you…maybe you just need to let go of what you think you want… and let it give you what you need.