I am in two minds about this I have to say. I believe physical chemistry and sexual compatibility is important( yes perhaps not the most important) and perhaps not have sex too soon but sooner or later you need to do it. Who wants to date for 6 weeks or even 6 months just to find that physically you guys are not compatible. Also why is it that people are just not matured enough to handle being physical does not matter when it enters into a relationship. I know of many couples that did actually do it on the 1st date and they are STILL married toay. I am not saying it should be the norm, I reckon you should really do what suits you best and you are the only one that can figure it out. But my point is this, when you click on all the other levels, their is the intellectual stimulation and you gel and laugh your heads off, the next thing is obviously to explore physical chemistry. I don"t want to be right or wrong in this, it is just an opinion.

I am in two minds about this I have to say. I believe physical chemistry and sexual compatibility is important( yes perhaps not the most important) and perhaps not have sex too soon but sooner or later you need to do it. Who wants to date for 6 weeks or even 6 months just to find that physically you guys are not compatible. Also why is it that people are just not matured enough to handle being physical does not matter when it enters into a relationship. I know of many couples that did actually do it on the 1st date and they are STILL married toay. I am not saying it should be the norm, I reckon you should really do what suits you best and you are the only one that can figure it out. But my point is this, when you click on all the other levels, their is the intellectual stimulation and you gel and laugh your heads off, the next thing is obviously to explore physical chemistry. I don"t want to be right or wrong in this, it is just an opinion.

Yes, I do understand your thoughts... I am a "Lay it on the Line" kind of gal myself....

BUT, I have learned this much...

A WOMAN'S ACTIONS SPEAK MUCH LOUDER THAN WORDS.

IE: If a man starts speaking sex when we barely know one another,

HE'S AXED Darlin! (Unless I have conveyed to him, sex is what I am seeking..)

That's it! It's just that simple!

LADIES, if a man has the audacity to start up a conversation w/ you regarding sex before he meets you.... or shortly after....

SEX IS WHAT HE IS SEEKING.... PERIOD!!!

He has a ONE TRACK MIND and is not interested in anything more...

There are many "CLASSY MEN" who desire a genuine relationship, and THEY DON'T SPEAK OF SEX IN THE BEGINNING OF ANYTHING!!

IN FACT: I will gladly throw a few genuine "relationship seeking men" under the bus now, from what I can tell of their behaviors.

DAKOTA, ORLANDO, FISHY, CONYERS, NGL, DONTFITMOLD, RMAC, and several more, just on this board!

I would "almost" bet my life, none of these men start speaking of sex in the beginning of meeting a woman! And if a woman starts speaking of sex, it would be a turn off, as he is not one to display such behavior to a "lady" AND THEY ARE DISGUSTED BY THE MEN WHO DO!

WOMEN NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS MUCH ABOUT MEN---

LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY, FIRST!!

MEN TELL US WHAT THEY WANT!!

MOST WOMEN JUST REFUSE TO LISTEN AND TRY TO "CHANGE" THEM!!

IF he talks about sex right away, SEX is what he seeks!

It isn't that difficult to figure out!

But,,,, if YOU open that door???

You are far more likely for a man to take you out, show you he will do fun stuff, (B/C he heard what you said, you want to do fun things) So he does this to show you he isn't all about sex. Then he will bed you and bid you good-bye,,,,,,,

Man caves since he knows the only way to get what he wants is to do what she wants first. Takes her to a couple of dinners and maybe a movie.

She now thinks "He really likes me!!! He's doing stuff with me!!" So she caves!

Sex occurs and the "fun stuff" stops, as do many of the text, phone calls etc..

And WHY?

B/C HE ALREADY TOLD YOU HE JUST WANTED SEX IN THE BEGINNING, BUT YOU FAILED TO LISTEN TO HIM!!

He now has moved on to the next woman who is either a new experience or conquest, or perhaps he doesn't have to work as hard or spend as much money on her....

Then later, he has nothing better to do but call you again since he has pissed the last girl off, so he calls, makes chit chat to see how "receptive" you are, might even apologise,,,,

The woman then "justifies" his behavior saying to herself, "OH he was just scared! I KNEW he REALLY liked me!"

And BAM! A dinner "maybe" ,,,,,,, and back in bed!

Women need to GROW UP and realise there are lots of men who just seek sex!

And they are the ones who mention sex right away!

THIS AIN'T ROCKET SCIENCE PEOPLE!

If you dont seek sex and desire a GENUINE RELATIONSHIP...

Do NOT entertain men who discuss sex right way, and do NOT talk of sex under some delusion you are "setting him straight!"

MEN DESIRING A REAL RELATIONSHIP?

THEY DON'T NEED TO BE SET STRAIGHT!!

Class dismissed.... ;)

SZEMAN--

Yes, I do understand your thoughts... I am a "Lay it on the Line" kind of gal myself....

BUT, I have learned this much...

A WOMAN'S ACTIONS SPEAK MUCH LOUDER THAN WORDS.

IE: If a man starts speaking sex when we barely know one another,

HE'S AXED Darlin! (Unless I have conveyed to him, sex is what I am seeking..)

That's it! It's just that simple!

LADIES, if a man has the audacity to start up a conversation w/ you regarding sex before he meets you.... or shortly after....

SEX IS WHAT HE IS SEEKING.... PERIOD!!!

He has a ONE TRACK MIND and is not interested in anything more...

There are many "CLASSY MEN" who desire a genuine relationship, and THEY DON'T SPEAK OF SEX IN THE BEGINNING OF ANYTHING!!

IN FACT: I will gladly throw a few genuine "relationship seeking men" under the bus now, from what I can tell of their behaviors.

DAKOTA, ORLANDO, FISHY, CONYERS, NGL, DONTFITMOLD, RMAC, and several more, just on this board!

I would "almost" bet my life, none of these men start speaking of sex in the beginning of meeting a woman! And if a woman starts speaking of sex, it would be a turn off, as he is not one to display such behavior to a "lady" AND THEY ARE DISGUSTED BY THE MEN WHO DO!

WOMEN NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS MUCH ABOUT MEN---

LISTEN TO WHAT THEY SAY, FIRST!!

MEN TELL US WHAT THEY WANT!!

MOST WOMEN JUST REFUSE TO LISTEN AND TRY TO "CHANGE" THEM!!

IF he talks about sex right away, SEX is what he seeks!

It isn't that difficult to figure out!

But,,,, if YOU open that door???

You are far more likely for a man to take you out, show you he will do fun stuff, (B/C he heard what you said, you want to do fun things) So he does this to show you he isn't all about sex. Then he will bed you and bid you good-bye,,,,,,,

Thanks for your response. However, there are men that want sex right away, even if you don't mention it on the first date. I was thinking more of an intellectual conversation on setting some boundaries regarding sex, on the first date.

I hope that I make myself clear.

Hope,

Thanks for your response. However, there are men that want sex right away, even if you don't mention it on the first date. I was thinking more of an intellectual conversation on setting some boundaries regarding sex, on the first date.

Sex can be accomplished without a partner. However, it isn't very fulfilling. I believe the act of sex should be an act of love. Sex without love is physical gratification but it isn't personally gratifying.

Sex can be accomplished without a partner. However, it isn't very fulfilling. I believe the act of sex should be an act of love. Sex without love is physical gratification but it isn't personally gratifying.

I would caution you on speaking about sex on the first date, or even second; especially if you do not want sex very soon and wish to really "know" the man and enjoy other things. I would focus on having fun and doing the other things. The intimacy can and will work itself out in the proper time if you do.

We set the presence for the relationship when we meet. If you speak of sex to a man, I doubt you will find one who won't be thinking of it from there on out, regardless of how "understanding" he is! LOL...

WELCOME to the blogs! :)

HI SZMAN,

I would caution you on speaking about sex on the first date, or even second; especially if you do not want sex very soon and wish to really "know" the man and enjoy other things. I would focus on having fun and doing the other things. The intimacy can and will work itself out in the proper time if you do.

We set the presence for the relationship when we meet. If you speak of sex to a man, I doubt you will find one who won't be thinking of it from there on out, regardless of how "understanding" he is! LOL...