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I see two people doing their best in this world. The paths have intersected, maybe even twined for a while, but it just doesn't feel... strong.
A lot of effort and care has been placed in this relationship - and those are beautiful for their sentimentality alone - lessons learned all around and much to be thankful for.
Relationships take work, but maybe this one feels like its just a little too much work. Starting to feel a little forced.
People grow. Are you growing together?
It kind of feels like your two energies keep floating around one another, but never really connecting. Always in the same neighborhood, but never in the same house. Weird question - but how do you feel about kids? I'm getting one 'pro' and one 'meh'.

I get this feeling that you love him very much but that he relies on you, or you prop him up quite a bit. I get the feeling that he has a few internal struggles, maybe a short temper, I get that he can be a bit lost sometimes.

I feel like you worry he doesn't love you as much as you love him or some other feeling of not getting back what you're putting in and I feel like he does love you but is too wrapped up in his own self to give as much as you give and he probably wouldn't realise just how much he loves you until it's too late.

I'm suddenly getting pins and needles in my middle finger on my right hand - no idea if that is related to this at all.

I think you are at a crossroads and you could go one of two ways, you could stick with him and make it work but there will always be this thing of you giving more or you could go your own way - I also get the impression that there could be someone else for you, a friend you might already have or are to meet (blue eyes?) he's kinder, softer and really into you.

I hope I haven't hurt you with anything I've said and I must also say I'm really new to this, I'm just telling you what my instinct says but of course I could be totally wrong.

Please do let me know if anything I've said rings true! Sending good and positive vibes to you both.

I also sense something similar that he is moody at times and that puts a strain on things.
You think you have found the man you need and have invested a lot of thought in this but I am not sure he has the same investment in you. I'm not sure you can mold this man to fit your ideal.
I see a holiday to Crete or time spent there, but the rest of the vibe is Italian - like you love Italy and it's food - and it's men.
Maybe that is how it will work out for you.
I wish you the best for the next few years, but I would keep your bank accounts separate.

Hi Rowan222
Thank you for your message. He is Italian and we spend a lot of time in Italy. He is not moody but at the same he can be very quiet and doesn't generally express negative feelings. Which is good and bad at the same time.

I also sense something similar that he is moody at times and that puts a strain on things.
You think you have found the man you need and have invested a lot of thought in this but I am not sure he has the same investment in you. I'm not sure you can mold this man to fit your ideal.
I see a holiday to Crete or time spent there, but the rest of the vibe is Italian - like you love Italy and it's food - and it's men.
Maybe that is how it will work out for you.
I wish you the best for the next few years, but I would keep your bank accounts separate.