Forget Small Talk And Use Good Get To Know You Questions

There
are
times
when
we
spend
time
with
people
we
don't
know
particularly
well.
In
those
cases,
it
can
be
challenging
to
come
up
with
topics
of
conversation
because
you
don't
really
know
what
the
person
enjoys
or
knows
about.
Usually,
one
of
two
things
happen.
Either
we
will
clam
up
or
overshare
awkwardly.
But
thankfully,
there
is
an
easy
solution
to
getting
to
know
someone
that
doesn't
involve
awkward
silence
or
weird
topics
of
conversation.
The
key
is
asking
questions
that
allow
you
to
find
out
more
about
who
they
are.
Nearly
everyone
enjoys
talking
about
themselves
and
learning
the
answers
to
the
appropriate
"get
to
know
you
questions"
will
help
you
move
the
conversation
forward.

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No
reason
for
meaningless
conversations

Have
you
ever
been
in
a
discussion
where
you
awkwardly
bring
up
a
topic
that
you
don't
enjoy
or
care
about,
and
it
seems
like
the
other
person
feels
the
exact
same
way?
Maybe
at
lunch
with
coworkers,
you
don't
really
want
to
get
close
to
or
at
a
family
cook-out
with
fourth
cousins
you
share
nothing
in
common
with
other
than
an
ancestor.
After
these
types
of
conversations
are
over,
it
can
feel
like
you've
wasted
your
time
and
maybe
a
few
brain
cells.
But
you
don't
have
to
feel
that
way
when
you
talk
to
someone
you
don't
know
well
or
just
aren't
close
to.

Instead,
make
the
most
of
the
unexpected
encounter.
Maybe
you're
with
a
group
of
friends,
and
the
person
you
know
gets
up
to
go
to
the
bathroom,
leaving
you
at
the
table
with
someone
you've
never
talked
to
before.
Maybe
you're
on
a
first
date
and
don't
know
a
lot
about
this
person
yet.
Or
perhaps
you're
at
an
event
related
to
your
job
and
want
to
learn
to
the
network
rather
than
standing
around
in
by
yourself.
Whatever
the
reason,
you
can
offer
an
interesting
question
to
get
the
conversation
started.

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rawpixel.com

Good
get
to
know
you
questions

There's
a
difference
between
questions
you
don't
really
care
about
the
answer
to
any
questions
that
help
you
form
connections
with
people.
All
the
items
listed
here
will
help
you
get
to
know
someone
better.
Choose
the
ones
that
sound
most
interesting
to
you
and
make
sense
given
the
environment
the
next
time
you
don't
know
what
to
talk
about
with
someone.

Get
to
know
you
questions
for
business-In
a
business
setting,
it
is
important
to
make
sure
that
the
questions
are
interesting
yet
not
too
personal.
Inquiries
about
friends,
family,
and
other
private
information
are
off
limits.
Instead,
keep
questions
about
business,
self-motivation,
and
ambition
focused.

Who
inspires
you
the
most?

If
you
could
choose
one
workplace
perk
to
add,
what
could
it
be?

What
are
you
most
passionate
about?

Do
you
volunteer
anywhere?

What
lead
you
to
this
field?

If
you
could
paint
this
office
any
color
you
wanted
to,
what
would
it
be?

What
was
your
first
job?

Have
you
been
anywhere
recently
for
the
first
time?

What's
the
most
exciting
book
you've
ever
read?

What's
the
biggest
thing
you're
working
on
right
now?

Who
would
you
choose
to
be
your
mentor
if
you
had
a
choice?

If
you
could
pick
up
a
new
skill
in
an
instant
what
would
it
be?

What
was
the
first
thing
you
bought
with
your
own
money?

What's
something
you
want
to
accomplish
in
the
next
year?

Do
you
have
a
favorite
charity
that
you
wish
people
knew
more
about?

If
you
could
live
to
see
1
future
event,
what
would
it
be?

What
is
your
ultimate
life
goal?

Get
to
know
you
questions
for
friends
and
family-
In
situations
where
you
are
in
a
social
setting
with
friends
and
family,
you
can
ask
deeper,
more
personal
questions.
Some
of
these
questions
are
appropriate
for
strangers
as
well
(i.e.,
when
you're
making
small
talk
at
the
bar.)
It
will
be
up
to
you
to
decide
which
inquiries
are
appropriate
and
which
might
be
too
deep
to
ask.

What's
your
favorite
family
tradition?

What
was
the
first/best
concert
you
ever
attended?

What
is
one
of
your
best
memories?

What
qualities
do
you
look
for
in
a
best
friend?

What's
your
perfect
weekend?

Do
you
think
people
of
opposite
genders
can
be
best
friends?

What
is
the
most
important
lesson
you've
learned?

What's
the
craziest
thing
you've
ever
done?

If
you
could
live
in
a
book,
which
one
would
it
be?

If
you
could
master
one
new
skill,
what
would
it
be?

Where
did
you
and
your
husband
take
your
honeymoon?

What's
your
favorite
type
of
cuisine?

Do
you
have
a
favorite
movie
genre?

What
was
the
most
exotic
vacation
you've
been
on?

Are
you
a
pet
or
a
plant
person?

Did
you
have
a
favorite
cartoon
character
as
a
child?

If
you
could
be
on
any
TV
game
show,
which
one
would
it
be?

Get
to
know
you
questions
to
ask
while
on
a
date-
More
than
with
any
other
social
situation
where
'get
to
know
you
questions'
are
required,
a
first
date
can
be
the
most
awkward
especially
if
you
don't
know
what
to
say.
Staring
in
awkward
silence
as
you
sip
your
drink
or
snack
on
appetizers
don't
have
to
happen.
Instead,
ask
and
discuss
a
couple
of
these
questions.

If
you
could
instantly
learn
another
language,
which
one
would
it
be?

Have
you
ever
won
anything?
If
so,
what
was
it?

What's
your
favorite
thing
to
do
on
the
weekend?

Have
you
ever
sung
karaoke?
If
so,
what's
'your
song?'

What's
a
fear
you've
overcome?

If
you
could
change
one
thing
about
yourself,
what
would
be?

What
sports
teams
do
you
root
for?

Beer
or
wine?

What's
your
most
embarrassing
moment?

What's
the
worst
pick-up
line
you've
ever
heard?

Can
you
name
one
thing
you're
really
grateful
for?

Summer
or
winter?

Who
is
the
most
interesting
person
you
know?

Out
of
all
your
family
members,
who
is
your
favorite?

What's
your
favorite
brand
of
clothing?

If
you
could
only
keep
one
of
your
possessions,
which
one
would
it
be?

Which
color
reflects
your
personality
and
why?

If
you
found
a
briefcase
of
money
on
the
street,
would
you
keep
it?

Now
that
you
have
a
list
of
questions,
what
will
you
do
with
it?
Rambling
off
random
questions
won't
get
you
any
closer
than
you
were
before.
First,
you
have
to
be
genuine.
Don't
ask
anything
you
don't
feel
like
learning
the
answer
to.

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Then,
once
you've
asked
a
question,
make
sure
you
give
the
person
time
to
respond
with
their
answer.
And
don't
be
in
a
rush
to
pose
another
question
immediately
after
the
response.
Assess
if
their
response
leads
to
further
conversation.
Explore
the
topics
that
are
brought
up
through
the
question
until
the
conversation
leads
somewhere
else
or
slows
down.

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