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How to Stop Premature Ejaculation by Dr. Chuck Vivan

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE)—coming too soon—is men’s number one sexual complaint. From the teen years until age 60, it affects around one third of American men. After 60, erectile dysfunctionbecomes more prevalent, but even among older men, a University of Chicago study suggests that 20 to 25 percent continue to have trouble with ejaculatory control.

What can be done about PE? There no question that professional sex therapy helps. According to the best studies I’ve seen, sex therapy resolves the problem in more than 80 percent of cases, with some therapists claiming cure rates of 90 percent or better. But sex therapy is pricey. Most therapists I know charge at least $100 an hour, and curing PE can take several months of weekly sessions and cost upwards of $1500.

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation: Self-Help in 3 Steps

Ok, so now you know what doesn’t work, let’s discuss what does work and the 3 proven ways you can increase stamina in bed, starting from today.

1. Work On Your Pubococcygeus Muscle (PC Muscle)

Your PC muscle is what helps to control the intensity of your orgasms and the the ejaculation stage itself, by flexing the PC muscle.

Meaning you can stop yourself from shooting too early, if you work out this muscle daily and learn to control it. It can also induce a full climax WITHOUT ejaculating.

The best way to work out this muscle is by doing what are known as Kegel exercises, which were developed by a guy called Arnold Kegel.

This is how to do them:

Find the muscle – The next time you want to pee, try stopping yourself mid flow. Sounds strange but the flexing you did to stop you from peeing is the same flexing you need to work out the muscle. Another way to tell if you’re flexing it right is by making your erection go up and down. This is going to target the PC area and can also strengthen your erection.

Flex the muscle daily – Take 10 minutes a day to flex this muscle, just flex… hold for 5 seconds and release. Do as many reps as you can in 10 minutes and then do the same thing the next day.

2. Triple The Amount Of Foreplay You Have

Hold on a minute, foreplay won’t make me last longer will it? Actually yes it will. By introducing triple the amount of foreplay before penetrating her, will affect you in two different ways:

Lowers sexual excitement – Without foreplay the idea of you having sex with a girl and being inside her is just far too exciting and mentally stimulating, which increases the chance of you blowing your load. The longer you spend on foreplay, the less likely you are to get too excited too quickly.

Make the girl orgasm a lot more – Most women can’t actually orgasm without foreplay, so the longer you spend getting her turned on and wet, the better it will be for you, because it won’t matter whether you last for 10 minutes… she’ll still achieve an orgasm in that time because you used some killer foreplay techniques.

3. Pull and Squeeze

This is an easy one, but works a treat, so make sure you use it.

The next time you’re inside a girl and you feel yourself about to blow… take it out, squeeze the head for 5 seconds with your forefinger and thumb, wait for the sensation to go.

Once it’s gone, get down to business again.

It’s more or less a quick fix, but it still gets the job done.

A Short term Fix For Impatient Men

If you’re just far too lazy to use the Kegel exercises or even do any kind of foreplay (you’re a naughty selfish boy) then you should give “Stamina condoms” a try.

They have a special lubricant inside the that numbs your little guy, helping you last alot longer than you normally would. Go for something like Durex Performax and you should be fine.

I’d also suggest that if it ever happens say something like “wow, I was so turned on there, give me a few mins and we’ll go again, but you are sooo sexy I just couldn’t control myself”. I think she’ll be cool with it.

You can also try just slowing way down for a bit and usually focusing on her pleasure over yours can help. Even pulling out and licking her a little can do the trick.

So How Long Should You Be Lasting In Bed?

Well there isn’t a set time unfortunately… however the answer is simple.

You need to last as long as it takes for you to give a girl a penetrative orgasm. In terms of time, it will be different for EVERY woman.

Some women can orgasm in 5 minutes, whilst others can take 30 minutes or more. For most however it will be around the 15-20 minute mark. It can also be much quicker if you do the foreplay right.

Conclusion

Here’s a rundown of what you need to do:

Do Kegal exerices daily

Use more foreplay before sex

Grab some stamina condoms, if you can’t be bothered with foreplay

So that’s how to last longer in bed and finally put a STOP to premature ejaculation.

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