I've always told work that I'm doing IVF (coming late everyday for a few weeks, and then needing time off for the retreival/transfer, plus all the doctors appts, etc) -- and everywhere I've worked, someone else has said "oh, I did IVF" and they focus much more supporting me through the process instead of bugging me about needing time off.

I always feel bad that I need so much time off... but on the other hand, legally, it's my right to take time off for fertility treatments. And, as I like to point out, anyone who hires a mid-20s married woman EXPECTS that at some point they will have to deal with maternity leave.... and I've *never* taken maternity leave... so while I need time off for IVF, it's a lot less than maternity leave would have been in the last 5 years had things "gone as planned"

Legally, you can't be fired while doing treatments (just like a pregnant woman can't be fired). I was laid off while cycling, but my company was closing, which is considered a different set of rules (they could have laid me off even if I was 9 months pregnant or whatever). Boo.

Elana - I didn't know you were an IVFer! Where did you do your treatment?