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Just wondering if you’ve ever been in a what if debate with yourself. You know the type of debate that holds your aspirations hostage. You have an idea or dream to go for a certain goal you want to attain, be it starting a business, applying for a job even as simple as purchasing a gift for someone you love. The what if debate talks us out of the desires of our hearts by simply weighing the outcome of things on the negative side of if. For example: “I want to start a book club but what if no one joins”. I thought about this a little further and realized that what if has more than likely been the demise of many great ideas. I have a challenge for you and the what if’s in your life. For the next week try to assume every if is positive. Here’s what I mean, take the example above, “what if I start a book club and have numerous members”. Here are 3 tips that’ll help you redirect your negative what if thoughts.

Recognize when the negative if’s thoughts are happening

Picture yourself in the midst of the exact scenario if the idea happened just how you desired

Push past the fear and take action anyway.

Don’t get me wrong, there will be times when things don’t go the way you plan, however, if you never try it’ll never go the way you plan. Don’t allow what if’s to paralyze your dreams, goals, and aspirations instead allow them to be the fuel to move you to go after everything you want.

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Surely you’ve heard the saying “we are our own worst critic”. This sad but undeniable truth can oftentimes be more detrimental to our emotional health then we know. There are instances when we are extremely hard or ourselves and we offer compassion to anyone but ourselves. The idea of self-compassion is not a leeway to self-pity; instead, it’s intended to help us learn from what we perceive our mistakes are. Consider this; if a close friend or your child were to share a situation they were really down on themselves about you’d have the ability to pull various positive aspects of their situation. You’d convey to them different approaches they could try in the future as well as what skill and or lessons they could learn from their situation. Why is this process so difficult for individuals to implement? Check out this video I found by School of Life on YouTube. Self-Compassion Exercise by, The School of Life

You may also find the following emotional balancing tools useful when dealing with Self-compassionContinue reading

Some things we experience are just difficult to accept. Life has the tenancy to (at times) slap the taste from your mouth (metaphorically speaking of course). Acceptance can be tough, however, it isn’t mentally healthy to dwell in a constant state of disbelief. At some point, your mental health requires a connection to reality. In other words, prolonged denial is detrimental to self-growth and personal development. Below I have outlined three things that are absolutely essential to avoiding detrimental denial.

Accept People: Accepting people for who they are can be a difficult task especially if the individuals happen to be loved ones. An attempt to reveal to an individual their unrealized potential can be compared to “beating a dead horse”. This is also true if a person has certain character traits that are not in alignment with yours. The two of you just may not be ethically compatible. These people may like to do things that you don’t like and you aren’t in agreement with. Heck, they may have done something to you on more than one occasion and you keep deciding to deal with them the SAME WAY (and then you get mad).There’s a saying “if a dog bites you once shame on it if the dog bites you twice shame on you”. Know people for who they tell and show you they are.Continue reading

In the world of which we live, unfortunately there are countless ways for us to have or enter into a negative emotional state. Let’s think about this it for a second, even if life is wonderful for you right now, everything is working in your favor and life is looking up negativity can come . As soon as you get out of bed there is potential for your emotions to be shifted to a negative place. Imagine this; you decide you want to be dressed for the weather and you turn your local news station on, more than likely you will hear something disturbing. This is just one of the many ways that negativity organically seeps into our minds.

Check out ways to activate a positive state of mind below.

Practice Gratitude. The only way (in my opinion) to open doors for new and bigger opportunities is to be grateful for the ones you already have. This is not to suggest you become comfortable or content with where you are at all. It’s a great thing to have the desire to do more. On the other hand however, one has to be careful not to sit in a seat of ungratefulness just because the desires of your heart are grand

I know there are many times in life where we feel we could or should have done some things differently in our lives. Whelp as we all are aware each passing moment is irretrievable. The best thing we can do is move forward with intention.

There is a good saying that I myself should to go by a little more; “if you fail to plan you plan to fail”. My weekends at times are all over the place because I will plan maybe one event and play the remainder of my weekend by ear.

With this strategy, before I know it the weekend is OVER and I have not achieved even half of what I would’ve like to. I’m not sure if you can relate but this week (including the weekend) I am goal setting, planning my time and following the regimen, hopefully, you will create your own set of plans to go by.

Here are a few things I’ve learned have the potential to be major setbacks in goal setting and or planning:Continue reading

Most people would agree that when a person has wronged someone he or she should render an apology. This very popular opinion, however, is not always the case. To be quite frank, many times the offender will never apologize for whatever reason. Consider these reasons as a motivation to forgive even if you never receive an apology.

Forgiveness is not intended to release the offender its purpose is to free the offended. Oftentimes we believe if we forgive we are forgiving the hurtful act. This is not true, forgiveness in many cases can be used as a tool to regain your mental power in an effort not to be held hostage by the issue.

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