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31 Jan / You Should Probably Know…I Love You

It’s true. The more I walk this path of healing and love, the more I feel the truth that we are all connected – our healing circles and series’ are a huge reminder of this truth as well. I also realize that I can only love you as much as I love myself (for more on this check out Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection).

Big, right?
We are living in a culture that says we’re not quite lovable unless we look like this (insert whatever you tell yourself the standard of beauty is), we make this much money, we have a partner who also looks like _____ and makes this much money and is lust-worthy by others. Oh and yes, of course, that we are happy every minute of every day.

And while logically we know this is all crap – not to mention completely impossible (we came here to experience the full range of emotions!) – I know I find myself succumbing to its impact on various occasions. You know, looking in the mirror wishing that if my _____ (belly, triceps, etc.) were thinner I would have the courage to wear that sexy outfit that’s hiding in my closet. Or emotionally eating a bag of raw, organic cookies (I polished off a bag of Go Raw Lemon Cookies the other week – I’m still trying to decide if that was emotional eating or just really amazing, healthy cookies!) or whatever bag your hand is in.

We all have moments of engaging in this less than self-loving behavior. But what I think we forget is that this less-than-self-loving behavior makes it tougher for us to love those around us. If I hate myself I can’t love you.

When I love myself, I love everyone. When I am connected to the love within me, I am connected to the love within us all. So when “tragedy” occurs or “bad things” happen, I see the divine truth of the matter – we are all here for a purpose and things unfold exactly as intended. Nothing is ever going “wrong” in the eyes of our divine, true self. When I am not in a place of self-loving, I am irritated, angry, frustrated and unable to understand why things are the way they are. I blame. I look for what’s wrong. I am without connection to my divine self.

BodyTalk has been my reminder of this fact. I absolutely believe it is a path to wholeness and a path to fully self-loving. With it, we receive direct guidance and healing from our innate wisdom – who we really are – the part of us that knows that getting sick, our friend yelling at us, a break-up, losing a job, losing a loved one – all of it has a divine purpose. I am honored to witness these reminders each day with my one-on-one clients and during my healing circles/series.

Everything, and I mean, every thing, is unfolding exactly as it is meant to. Because it is. Our job is to connect to our divinity within, to the love within so that we can share and feel it for everyone around us. BodyTalk is one of the paths to this self-loving wholeness.

And you can do something right now to begin that journey back to fully loving yourself, therefore loving all of those around you, and loving the world and all that exists in it.

Now, go over to the person nearest to you and say, “I love you.” They don’t have to get it or understand it or say it back. Just share that love shining forth from you.

And finally, I will leave you with this quote from Marianne Williamson’s new book The Law of Divine Compensation which illustrates that love is really what we’re all here for:

“Love makes us wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose and a flow of creative ideas. Love floods our nervous system with positive energy, making us far more attractive to prospective employers, clients, and creative partners. Love fills us with a powerful charisma, enabling us to produce new ideas and new projects, even within circumstances that seem to be limited. Love leads us to atone for our errors and clean up the mess when we’ve made mistakes. Love leads us to act with impeccability, integrity, and excellence. Love leads us to serve, to forgive, and to hope. Those things are the opposite of a poverty consciousness; they’re the stuff of spiritual wealth creation.”

Oh, and btw, I love you!

Get in on the self-loving and relationship loving action here.
Want some inspiration on the love path? Read my novelThe Quest – only 99 cents for the month of February!Manifest Your Dream (to self-love, love another, love your life, etc.), March 5-27.