Is it possible to be single and happy?

Many people tend to think that being single means
being lonely or unhappy. But this is simply not the case. It is just a myth.
The truth is that the only singles that are lonely are those who choose to be
lonely. Singles are not without life. Many people tend to think that
they can be happy by getting into a relationship. If you don't feel good about
yourself, then you need to work on that before seeking a relationship. One must
be happy with you first. Relationships are not for filling voids but to share
you with another person. Expecting someone to fill the emptiness in life
can lead to disappointment and resentment. You have to be happy with yourself
before you can expect to be happy with someone else. A lack of a marriage or
dating partner does not make one happy or sad. A relationship is not a
guarantee for happiness, satisfaction, or fulfillment. Happiness is within us
and we are only responsible for our happiness and no one else.

Many people also tend to think that being a Single
means being a failure. I have seen mothers cursing daughters because they have
not caught the attention of an eligible single man. Being single or in
relationship is no way to measure a victory or failure. In fact there are more benefits of being single compared to
being in a relationship including cheaper living,
freedom from responsibilities, job growth opportunities and lack of stress that
come with relationships. Being single may give you more time for hobbies,
education and career, travels and relaxation, being with friends and family
etc. Being Single helps one to be independent. One should make the
most of this time in your life instead of wasting time in unnecessary
despair. Some people even go one step ahead and declare that something is
wrong with you if you are single. This is a wrong way to look at things. Being
a single or not is a choice. Regardless of how many times you have
attempted and failed to get into a relationship it does not mean anything is
wrong with you. It simply means that there might be changes that you need
to make or improve.

Society also may not look kindly at guys or girls
who are above the age of marriage but are still singles. But that is no reason
to get into a committed relationship. We have to put efforts to please
ourselves first and not the society. Don't put your life on hold just
because you are single. You are the only one that decides how you want to
live your life. Do not get into a relationship just because some may
think that being single is unacceptable. If you do so then you would be getting
into a relationship for relationship sake and that would be the worst mistake
you could commit. There is no need to feel bad if you are Single and not dating
anyone. This is the golden time and you should enjoy it while you can. So till
you find the right person to settle down with enjoy your freedom. Ultimately
you are only responsible for your own happiness and being in a relationship or
not have nothing to do with it.

Comments

Jan 5, 2010 8:01am

drelayaraja
Being single is not always happy. A relationship can change us and make us happy most of the time :)

Sep 22, 2010 11:01am

JoSwann
Anamika, you're absolutely right. There is no reason why we can't be single and happy. Now I'm married, I look back with happiness on my single years - they were great! As always, a great article from a great wordsmith!