Revealing Body Language

Before you even get up from the couch, your girlfriend already knows what you are up to. Before you know it, she tells you there's no more beer in the fridge. You can't hide anymore; she has all your moves figured out.

You're sitting at the end of the bar, admiring a beautiful woman. The next thing you know, your eyes meet. You courageously decide to walk up to her, and before you open your mouth, she tells you that she's waiting for her boyfriend.

If a woman is able to predict your every move, or guess the words that are going to wriggle out of your mouth, you have a problem. You are either too predictable, or your body language is signaling out your every thought to the opposite sex. This is a big problem. You can't allow for women to know every thought that goes through your mind. In the dating game, the element of surprise is the secret to catching your prize.

It's time you learn which signs women look out for in your body language, and how to use this to your advantage. In some cases, you might want to let her know what you are thinking, and in others, it might be a little too risky to divulge your thoughts. It's also time to turn the tables, and read her body language after she has successfully read yours.

claiming your territory

Women know that you give out four signs when you are interested in them. The signs they look for are:

1. Running your hands through your hair to draw attention to how thick it is, and sucking in your gut.2. Moving between her and another man to create a more intimate space between her and yourself (you're also creating a wall to block other male rivals).3. Making excuses to touch her.4. Your pupils are dilated. If you like what you see, your pupils will actually get bigger.

Her Move: If she's interested in you, she'll act flirtatiously to show you that she's hearing your signals. She'll probably give you dreamy five-second gazes, each one interrupted by three to five seconds of looking away. As you become more into her , she'll cut her look-away time in half, until she finally has you hooked.

Tip: If you're single, use these signals to your advantage by consciously signaling to her at the right times. If you are actually out with another woman, try to avoid the top four signs. Remember, your girlfriend/wife will also notice that you're signaling to somebody other than her.

"I want to walk" signals

When you start to fidget — i.e. making napkin sculptures, peeling the label off beer bottles, or fiddling with a pen — it usually means that you have something on your mind. Women know this, and they'll be sure to ask you what you are thinking about.

Her Move: If a woman can tell that you want to start a conversation with her, she'll learn towards you across the bar or table to show that she's open and willing to listen to what you have to say. But, she'll keep her legs crossed to maintain the I'm not that easy below the waist distance .