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“Just Ask Me”

One of my pet peeves is men who don’t fill out their dating profiles or who fill it out with very little information most of which is useless for starting a conversation because it’s so generic or pointless. They then message me wanting to chat. When I explain to them that they need to complete more of their profile, they almost always reply, “Just ask me.” They also usually include the words, “I’m an open book.”

No. Just no.

If you were an open book, you wouldn’t mind filling out your profile. Instead, you’ve left it empty. This indicates one of two things:

You have something to hide, often a girlfriend, partner or wife, and you don’t want her finding your profile; or more commonly

You’re just too fucking lazy to bother.

If you can’t be bothered to fill out your profile, do I really think you’ll be bothered to expend any effort on me during a relationship? If you can’t be burdened to tell me something about yourself when I point out your sparse profile, do I really think you’ll be an active contributor to the relationship? No, I don’t. I think you want a hole to fuck. You don’t want conversation. You don’t want to enjoy spending time with me outside of sex. You want me to do all the work in the relationship, and you want to reap all the benefits. You just want me to think you are a god and worship your wonderfulness.

So no, I won’t “just ask you.” If you want me, you need to make an effort to show it. It’s not asking too much to expect a man to put this very small amount of effort into wooing a woman. If you can’t do even that, you don’t deserve me. I wasn’t put on this planet to serve you.