Questions & Answers: Feeling Left Out? Drop Them!

That’s right! You heard it here first! Today I’m bringing everyone another Q & A – a Q & A from an individual in Asia.

“Hello, I see you do a lot of podcasts on friends and speak a lot about well-being. I have a class with friends and we chat in a line group. For the past month, they haven’t been replying to any of my messages. They send 30 messages a day to one another, but they leave me out. What should I do?”

See, that’s simple. I went over a couple of things in my podcast in terms of this, but I’ll give you guys my story in bulk and how I handle “worry” situations.

Now, let me try to break this down as much as I can.

I was suppose to go to Spartan Thailand in two weeks with my original friends from the last Spartan. Because one didn’t like pushing himself, “powerlifters do zero cardio,” I decided that I needed to go with some others.

I came across a gym called the Lab last September and loved them ever since….given the fact that everyone from there had done the Spartan Race before.

However, there was a little bit of a discrepancy of late. Because it’s a distance (the race) away, I asked anyone and everyone about transportation (in the same group you’re in — Line)…….*crickets*

No one said anything and no direct messages were given. This is called not acknowledging what other people are saying. However, within a few minutes, someone brought up another random topic and completely ignored mine.

Push came to shove….I’m 3 weeks away and I found out the other guy I was going to would be staying in rat-infested Pattaya — the city with the most prostitutes in the Eastern Hemisphere. I, having the dignity I do, don’t want to stay there. But because he’s the driver, I have no choice.

I woke up this morning and I said, “ok, Arsenio. You woke up with those asses on your mind. They now have your attention. They have your self-control. You no longer have control over something so microscopic. My question is….what are you going to do?”

I went to the group…..clicked “leave group.”

It’s that simple. They completely ignored me and have been for weeks, no one is setting up transportation, and everyone is doing their own individual thing…yet they all have a team for the race (but no one converses with me?).

They’re undeserving of your attention, your work, your personality, and your well-being in general. Maybe I’m going a little overboard, but if they’re bringing nothing to the table and you see them constantly talking to one another in the group, what’s the f***ing point of even having them in your group? What are they giving to your tree? It sounds like they’re a bunch of ants who have mauled a dying tree, and if that’s the case, I would say “bye bye.”