I think it's safer for the community, and your own sanity, to keep the "if you can't be assed to manually follow a thread you posted on, it's not that important to you anyway"-policy.

No, not really, I sometimes post something that gets lost 7-8 pages in by the time i get back from work, there is nothing lazy about wanting to trawl through 8 pages to see if anyone actually replied, and sometimes I might reply to 20 odd threads, some of which just dissapear over time, and sometimes I cant log in for a week. The assumption its laziness is not correct.

No, not really, I sometimes post something that gets lost 7-8 pages in by the time i get back from work, there is nothing lazy about wanting to trawl through 8 pages to see if anyone actually replied, and sometimes I might reply to 20 odd threads, some of which just dissapear over time, and sometimes I cant log in for a week. The assumption its laziness is not correct.

I agree with this, it would be useful. Besides, sometimes threads continue after weeks or even months and you end up quoted. I'd like this feature but I don't think it'll be easy to implement...

The easiest way to find out if someone quoted you is by using the search function. Go into an individual thread (or on the forum itself but you'll need to check "posts"), and type in your own name. It will come up with any post where your name is in the quote or someone mentioned your name.