And you’re gonna get married? Not till after your friends throw you a kicking Bachelorette Party! But is that really possible in NYC? Since most of us sophisticated “Sex in this City” gals wouldn’t be caught dead in a Strippendale’s-type scenario, what other options could make the night an outrageous adventure action-packed and full of fun? I know it’s the people who make the party, but we did a little digging on our own – and instead of giving you tips on how to take on the “Task Jar,” loveable ways to load the bride’s shirt with lifesavers for licking, or planning a “Bridal Party Survivor Island” scavenger hunt – we’ve devised our own little Top 10 to do list of fun things in the Big Apple that can help bring your bride-to-be a night of merriment and maybe a little mayhem. Check out some of these swinging suggestions for a good time around town, they range from loud to low key to basking in beauty or doing some dance-floor damage. Regardless, I’m you’re sure to will come up with some tall tales to tell, and hopefully these hints can get you going.

1) For the Dancing Queens
Ladies looking to bust a move with some bridal party grooves should become audience members of The Donkey Show (www.thedonkeyshow.com) because everyone will feel the love from this retro disco take on Sleek Willy Shakespeare’s Midsummer’s Night Dream. The story is told with a little help from some classics 70’s dance ditties – that everyone in the party will know by heart – such as “Ring My Bell” and “Car Wash.” The experience comes complete with crazy circus mirror balls, feathered divas, glittered roller skaters and hustle queens! Audience participation is definitely encouraged, and parties and groups are warmly welcomed.

2) A Traditional Take – With a Twist
A wedding day is all about sharing that special day with the ones you love – so why not give your bride a little taste of the experience by bringing together her Bachelorette Party with someone else’s? Enter “Birdy’s Bachelorette Party” (www.birdysbp.com). From the co-creator of “Tony n’ Tina’s Wedding” comes an amazing atmosphere of up-to-the minute events at… Birdy’s Bachelorette Party. Audience members are her special guests and the actors blend in so seamlessly with all the events held that nobody knows who’s part of the show and who isn’t! The evening comes complete with party favors, booty box dances, sex karaoke, an adult game of truth or dare, and much more. To top it all off – the blessed event takes place at NYC’s 80’s hot spot The Culture Club. So you can reminisce and an attempt to rock out afterwards, if the groove’s still in your heart…

3-5) Three-Part Harmony
The show entitled “Naked Boys Singing” (www.nakedboyssinging.com) is a musical revue celebrating male nudity in song, dance, and comedy. It’s not sketchy like a strip club; instead it’s just hilariously revealing. They offer several packages for bridal parties, which offers different incentives and are aptly named “12-inch,” “8-inch,” or “3-inch.” (You figure out which one gives you the most!) In addition to the show – my number 4 here – bridal parties can also get dinner packages from kitschy cool restaurants Lips or Lucky Cheng’s that include a free ticket to it. And last but not least–for number 5 – if the gang wants to get good looking before they go, there’s also an offer from the Anderson French Salon for mini-makeovers and cocktail hours (that also incorporate a free ticket) to indulge in before heading to hear the barely dressed boys belt it out.

6) Beautiful Bundles
Cheek to chic (www.cheektochic.com) is a super idea for bridal party participants all about beauty (which would be… hmmm… all of us reading and writing here!!!). The concept comes from personal makeup consultant Raychel Wade, whose makeup prep parties are all the rage. They’ve been featured on the Style channel, on “Extreme Makeovers,” in New York magazine, and Lucky. There are four fabulous options to choose from – The Foxy Lady Party, The Hog Wild Party, The Hen Party, or the Randy Bachelorette – which range in offerings of makeup lessons to full makeovers.

7) A Spa in Your Space
Another terrific trend bursting on to the bridal scene is mobileSPA (www.mobilespa.com). This is a network of SPA professionals who “travel to you.” Licensed and seasonal professionals head to your home to spoil you and your guests in secrecy. All equipment and necessities, such as tables and candles, come with the package. The Bachelorette Bash features certified skin advisors who revitalize and pamper participants as they prepare for the big day. Spa menus are also an option to be created in combination with tlc.

8) LOL
I’m a sucker for a great joke. And wouldn’t want one of your last nights as a single gal to make you laugh? Comedy clubs are key in this department. I recommend the following as funny finds for an evening of side-splitting service. Gotham Comedy Club is a Flatiron favorite that has comics coming from “The Late Show with David Letterman” and “The Tonight Show” with Jay Leno. Laugh Lounge is loved by those on the Lower East Side and is frequented by funny men from “Comedy Central” and “Late Night with Conan O’Brien.” And the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre takes on excellent improve and super silly sketch comedy to all new high.

9) Sing Out, Sister!
Ok, I admit it; karaoke really kicks it for me. Any chance to make an ass out of myself I will surely take – especially for the enjoyment of my best bride-to-be buddies, and there are so many amazing places to sing aside from my shower! The following is a brief list of some of my favorites: Second on Second, where you can enjoy Japanese cuisine and bit of a bar scene while breaking out a few bars of “I’ve Got You Babe”; Sing Sing Karaoke Box & Bar, where plenty of rooms (some with soundproofing) makes even the most timid of wallflowers let loose with a little bit of “Wild Things”; and Village Karaoke, a place that stays open until the last note is sung. It’s BYOB, though, so if you can moderate yourselves it might make the mood more manageable – or not.

10) Ate, Drink and Be Merry!
Dinner and drinks? Always the best move for the bride-to-be, whether that’s where the night begins or ends. A fun new place for fondue would be Dip – it’s making a splash in the East 30s. A great new joint for music and mojitos – Agozar takes aim and burns brightly on Bowery. Seeking to sip champagne? Raise a glass (or more) at Flute near Gramercy Park.

Regardless of the venue, you wanna give your gal pal the best possible send off…just keep in mind that it is all about having fun, so don’t overload her (or yourself) with plans that will cause undue stress. And remember, for the love of god, to bring cover-up to the wedding the next day (all the fun you had can stay “just between the girls”)…NOBODY wants to see a bride with a green face!