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I do that sometimes even though I know it's not right to neglect or less prioritize our family. But fret not, just do what you feel right, at the right time so they won't feel left behind. *perasannaknasihatorgbesar*

This comment is very long and verge on TL; DR. If you hate it and want to delete it, it is ok.

Many times we have ihsan for other people, but very little for our family. It happens! The only thing is to remind yourself that although ihsan to others is ibadah, but there are degrees of priority. As long as you recall that and try to rectify, that is all right.

Me, I am guilty of the self-same problem! Just ask my Mum. :p The only thing I can do is remind myself and ask God that I keep trying my best.

As for getting friends you can cry with, it's about chemistry as well. What do you look for in a friend? Where do you find them? What do you expect of your friend? What do you want them to expect from you?

Unfortunately, people tend to disappoint (unlike God, cos He's you know, God) us because they are weak and so are we. So enjoy those with you, cherish the good times, and when it is over, walk away and find other people to make new happy memories.

Nothing is forever, not friends, not good times. Just enjoy it while it last, remember only the good stuff and discard the bad so that it doesn't poison your soul.

I gave up the concept of BFF way back in high school. I believe that you must have a variety of friends, everyone to fulfill your different needs. One friend for movies, one friend for music, one for books etc etc. A true friend, a good one, may not share all your interest but is willing to be a bulwark in the storm when necessary. That one is never easy to find, though.

*hugs*

If you follow the Laws of Attraction, it says to manifest the elements that you want to attract so that it will come to you. (It is not like magnets where only opposites attract). So radiate your sincerity and worthiness and those are the people who will come to you!

I do believe there is some truth in this. When I reflect upon the kind of friends that I have, I find that I got the good ones, the kind of friendships that last, when I tell myself: I will stop being jealous of others, I will try to be kinder, I will stop caring what other people think of me, I will have fun with myself and I will value people for what they are and not what they can bring to me.

There is no point to have so many friends when you still feel lonely in a crowd. :p