“Psychology Today” decided to map out where we’re (almost) finding love by looking at top spots for missed connections by state. It turns out “bus” is the most frequently cited spot for near-loves in Washington. And Oregon.

In California, “24-four fitness” was the hot location, while “Walmart” was key in the South. Other places across the country were “bars” and “supermarkets,” but the best has to be Kansas’ most popular spot for missed love: “McDonald’s.”

Psychology Today also found that women here are bolder than everywhere else. Washington has the highest rate of missed-connection Craigslist ads from women seeking men and women seeking women of all states. Idaho had the highest rate of ads by straight guys. Hawaii had the highest rate of ads by gay guys.

So what does that say about us? Time to look up from the phone when you’re on the bus and see who’s making eyes at you.

Of course, our famous so-called “Seattle freeze” may be complicating those missed connections, in which case, here are some tips to overcome that, compiled with help from Reddit and seattlepi.com readers:

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PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE, via Reddit user player2: “Go make your own party. Hang out at the bar, play pool, and say hi to people. Go to a coffee shop, read a book, and make chitchat with other patrons. You gotta put yourself out there in this town.” less

PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE, via Reddit user player2: “Go make your own party. Hang out at the bar, play pool, and say hi to people. Go to a coffee shop, read a book, and make chitchat with other patrons. You ... more

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DRINK UP, via seattlepi.com reader John: “I just moved here about a year ago (to work for Amazon, of course) and have had no problem making friends. One thing that I've found that actually makes it easier meeting people is that most of the folks I meet out aren't actually from here. They're transplants like me.

Also, people shouldn't forget the wonders of alcohol as a social lubricant. Sometimes it's just easier to start a conversation with people when you've have a couple of drinks and you're not feeling so anxious about meeting people. less

DRINK UP, via seattlepi.com reader John: “I just moved here about a year ago (to work for Amazon, of course) and have had no problem making friends. One thing that I've found that actually makes it easier ... more

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KEEP AN OPEN MIND, via seattlepi.com reader Kati: “I think that Seattle culture has adopted the Northern European style of personal interacting which seems to someone like myself, shallow, often insincere (a lot of saying "yes" and then acting "no") and self absorbed. The worst part, however is the complete lack of open and genuine exchange of thoughts and feelings. The intense polarization we see politically around here is a by product of this way of interacting. Because of people's discomfort with "conflict", they tend to create a very narrow focus of what is "right" and feel personally attacked and defensive when their limited ideas are challenged. This problem will not go away until people can create strong relationships based on good will that support these opportunities for discovery and exchange of ideas.” less

KEEP AN OPEN MIND, via seattlepi.com reader Kati: “I think that Seattle culture has adopted the Northern European style of personal interacting which seems to someone like myself, shallow, often insincere (a ... more

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BE A JOINER, via Reddit user Menelaus: “The only way to meet people in Seattle is by joining affinity groups. That's how people socialize here. Reddit meetups, community councils, REI hiking clubs, mountaineers, fly fishing clubs, church (oh no's!), volunteering, taking a class (glassblowing, kayaking) joining a small MMA gym. Whatever you like to do just find some sort of affinity club that suits your interest.” less

BE A JOINER, via Reddit user Menelaus: “The only way to meet people in Seattle is by joining affinity groups. That's how people socialize here. Reddit meetups, community councils, REI hiking clubs, ... more

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NETWORK ALREADY, via seattlepi.com reader Andrew: “We network here. Dozens of the people I have come to know since moving back from California are in my social circle because other people I know do things like gather to play board games every week or play bridge. These may not appeal to everyone, but they work as examples from which others may generalize. less

NETWORK ALREADY, via seattlepi.com reader Andrew: “We network here. Dozens of the people I have come to know since moving back from California are in my social circle because other people I know do things ... more

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NERDS NEEDED, via REDDIT user DrZealot: “If you're a nerd, feel free to join us at the Chao Bistro after 6pm on Sundays and Wednesdays for BarCraft. It's an epically good time.”

NERDS NEEDED, via REDDIT user DrZealot: “If you're a nerd, feel free to join us at the Chao Bistro after 6pm on Sundays and Wednesdays for BarCraft. It's an epically good time.”

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LOOSEN THE SCHEDULE, via seattlepi.com reader Loren: People in Seattle, more than any place I've lived, hold their obscenely booked-out schedules like a status symbol. Not having any unallocated time for months out seems to be commonplace here, and for people not from here, it's mind-bending to have to schedule a casual social engagement four months in advance. Oh, you want to go to a movie? Sure, I have a Friday available in October. People who, like me, prefer more spontaneity and less jammed schedules just can’t make connections with people who plan most everything months in advance. less

LOOSEN THE SCHEDULE, via seattlepi.com reader Loren: People in Seattle, more than any place I've lived, hold their obscenely booked-out schedules like a status symbol. Not having any unallocated time for ... more

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CHECK OUT THE ART, via Reddit user meurig: First Thursdays have tended to be pretty rad when I've gone. I also just learned about art walks on Cap Hill on the second Thursday of each month.

CHECK OUT THE ART, via Reddit user meurig: First Thursdays have tended to be pretty rad when I've gone. I also just learned about art walks on Cap Hill on the second Thursday of each month.

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HAVE A BEER, via Reddit user forgetful_vegan: "Fun to me is finding a warm spot with my sketchbook. A beer or two may be involved. I've met many people this way. so if that sounds like fun we could be the best of friends." less

HAVE A BEER, via Reddit user forgetful_vegan: "Fun to me is finding a warm spot with my sketchbook. A beer or two may be involved. I've met many people this way. so if that sounds like fun we could be the best ... more

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PEDAL SOMEWHERE, via Reddit user BillTanwiener" "Go ride bikes with point83. There's a weekly ride that meets Thursday at 7:30 at Westlake Center downtown. It's basically just a bike ride to various places to drink. Noobs show up all the time." less

PEDAL SOMEWHERE, via Reddit user BillTanwiener" "Go ride bikes with point83. There's a weekly ride that meets Thursday at 7:30 at Westlake Center downtown. It's basically just a bike ride to various places to ... more

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WALK IT OFF, via Reddit user Poppycorn: "I've had luck meeting people through my old job and just walking around Greenlake (I used to live by it)."

WALK IT OFF, via Reddit user Poppycorn: "I've had luck meeting people through my old job and just walking around Greenlake (I used to live by it)."

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LAUGH A LITTLE, via Reddit user GlenMYoshioka: "I work from home now as well, and I have to be much more proactive in meeting new people. Recently I've started going to Jet City Improv on Mondays (they have a drop in class) and have met some really amazing people." less

LAUGH A LITTLE, via Reddit user GlenMYoshioka: "I work from home now as well, and I have to be much more proactive in meeting new people. Recently I've started going to Jet City Improv on Mondays (they have a ... more

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CLIMB THE SOCIAL LADDER, via Reddit user theawddone: If you are interested in trying an alternative form of exercise, I'd recommend checking out one of the climbing gyms in the area. There's a vertical world near Queen Anne, and if you are willing to drive, the Seattle Bouldering Project in south Seattle is awesome. less

CLIMB THE SOCIAL LADDER, via Reddit user theawddone: If you are interested in trying an alternative form of exercise, I'd recommend checking out one of the climbing gyms in the area. There's a vertical world ... more

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DANCE YOUR HEAD OFF, via Reddit user puterTDI: "The Swing and Blues dance community in Seattle is great. If you're interested look into the Russian center (Thursdays), Century Ballroom on sundays, and Wade's on Tuesdays." less

DANCE YOUR HEAD OFF, via Reddit user puterTDI: "The Swing and Blues dance community in Seattle is great. If you're interested look into the Russian center (Thursdays), Century Ballroom on sundays, and Wade's ... more

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GIVE BACK, via Reddit user spfan79: "I recommend volunteering. I don't have much experience with the activities you listed but I have volunteered at events that sounded interesting to me, like Comic-Con and PAX, and being thrown into an environment where you have to work in small groups helped those personal walls come down and before I knew it I had three new friends." less

GIVE BACK, via Reddit user spfan79: "I recommend volunteering. I don't have much experience with the activities you listed but I have volunteered at events that sounded interesting to me, like Comic-Con and ... more

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Reddit user futant462: "I hear that there are a few "offices" in seattle where people who normally work from home can go in together and have a social environment while they work. Many companies will pay for the "rent" you have to throw in. That would definitely get you amongst some like minded people." less

Reddit user futant462: "I hear that there are a few "offices" in seattle where people who normally work from home can go in together and have a social environment while they work. Many companies will pay for ... more

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TAP INTO WORK, via Reddit user MaxSoftcore: "Through work... all of my local friends are former co-workers from the first job I got when I moved here."

TAP INTO WORK, via Reddit user MaxSoftcore: "Through work... all of my local friends are former co-workers from the first job I got when I moved here."