So fed up

I'm just so close to just breaking down. My daughter hasn't slept well in months, I get roughly about 3 hours sleep per night, my husband works nights mostly so no help, he tries when he is off but it's just not enough. My husband and I barely see each other and when we do I'm just snapping at him so we fight every day. I don't have that much support here to talk about it all and I just feel so tired, angry and resentful all the time. I've been trying so hard to be happy because I should be happy but I just can't take it anymore, I'm physically and emotionally exhausted and to top it off I started back work yesterday and I hate not being with my little girl. I feel as though I'm just falling apart and I don't know how much more I can take. Sorry I just had to get it out and vent.

I'm just so close to just breaking down. My daughter hasn't slept well in months, I get roughly about 3 hours sleep per night, my husband works nights mostly so no help, he tries when he is off but it's just not enough. My husband and I barely see each other and when we do I'm just snapping at him so we fight every day. I don't have that much support here to talk about it all and I just feel so tired, angry and resentful all the time. I've been trying so hard to be happy because I should be happy but I just can't take it anymore, I'm physically and emotionally exhausted and to top it off I started back work yesterday and I hate not being with my little girl. I feel as though I'm just falling apart and I don't know how much more I can take. Sorry I just had to get it out and vent.

:( where ru from? Have u joined the Facebook group of UK mums? It will get better, I felt like this and then all of a sudden it all fell into place! Can you take a day of annual leave and put lo in a day nursery just to get a bit of sleep? X

:( where ru from? Have u joined the Facebook group of UK mums? It will get better, I felt like this and then all of a sudden it all fell into place! Can you take a day of annual leave and put lo in a day nursery just to get a bit of sleep? X

Does she sleep with you? My little man wouldn't sleep the whole night in his cot and i was getting so sick of getting up 2-3 times a night that when he wakes usually at about 12 i bring him in bed with me and he sleeps the rest of the night like an angel. i know some people say cosleeping is bad but honestly sometimes you just have to do what works for you and your baby.

Does she sleep with you? My little man wouldn't sleep the whole night in his cot and i was getting so sick of getting up 2-3 times a night that when he wakes usually at about 12 i bring him in bed with me and he sleeps the rest of the night like an angel. i know some people say cosleeping is bad but honestly sometimes you just have to do what works for you and your baby.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My DH works nights as well so I understand how all the responsibility falls on mommy. You can't function like that though, you need to take care of yourself and 3 hours sleep is just not enough! Have you tried/considered sleep training? I know it's not for everybody but you can't go on like this. BIG ((HUGS))

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My DH works nights as well so I understand how all the responsibility falls on mommy. You can't function like that though, you need to take care of yourself and 3 hours sleep is just not enough! Have you tried/considered sleep training? I know it's not for everybody but you can't go on like this. BIG ((HUGS))

((((((hugs)))))) first of all, you really are doing great. Point in case: your baby is happy and healthy and the house hasn't burned down. Second, I also suggest co sleeping if you're not already. I do it and lemme tell ya, the nights I put lo in crib, its a pain in the butt when I have to get up, nurse, rock and put back down rather than roll over, nurse and go back to sleep. Third, going back to work is huge adjustment! Honey, I would think there was something wrong with you if you went back to work on lack of sleep and didn't miss your baby! Fourth, u and dh will get back sync, you just have to get some sleep and some time together (which I promise will happen)! We're here to listen. Hang in there! You can do this :)

((((((hugs)))))) first of all, you really are doing great. Point in case: your baby is happy and healthy and the house hasn't burned down. Second, I also suggest co sleeping if you're not already. I do it and lemme tell ya, the nights I put lo in crib, its a pain in the butt when I have to get up, nurse, rock and put back down rather than roll over, nurse and go back to sleep. Third, going back to work is huge adjustment! Honey, I would think there was something wrong with you if you went back to work on lack of sleep and didn't miss your baby! Fourth, u and dh will get back sync, you just have to get some sleep and some time together (which I promise will happen)! We're here to listen. Hang in there! You can do this :)

Thank you to you all, I'm in Devon in the uk and never joined the Facebook group, she is starting child care in January and they can't take her before then, my husband has five days off soon so hopefully I can sleep then. She has never slept with us but I will definitely consider it if I can do it safely. I have tried sleep training but she just gets inconsolable plus she is teething at the minute so I know she does need comfort. I am feeling a little better tonight a bit more in control of my emotions. My husband is being very understanding when I sat him down and explained how I was feeling so hopefully things will get better on that front as well. Thank you all again for just being there to listen, it was such a huge help to just get it all out x

Thank you to you all, I'm in Devon in the uk and never joined the Facebook group, she is starting child care in January and they can't take her before then, my husband has five days off soon so hopefully I can sleep then. She has never slept with us but I will definitely consider it if I can do it safely. I have tried sleep training but she just gets inconsolable plus she is teething at the minute so I know she does need comfort. I am feeling a little better tonight a bit more in control of my emotions. My husband is being very understanding when I sat him down and explained how I was feeling so hopefully things will get better on that front as well. Thank you all again for just being there to listen, it was such a huge help to just get it all out x

Co sleeping. Said I would never do it but now we do it every night. I put lo at the top of the bed so our heads are at her tummy. I also have a pretty firm roll pillow that goes on the daddy side so he has a buffer. It totally is better for my sleep. She stopped having her nightmares in our bed. I was up 5-7 times a night to console, walk, rock, nurse. Now 2 times to nurse. :) plus she has her own pillow and blanket also has her giraffe stuffed Animal to help her fall asleep.

Co sleeping. Said I would never do it but now we do it every night. I put lo at the top of the bed so our heads are at her tummy. I also have a pretty firm roll pillow that goes on the daddy side so he has a buffer. It totally is better for my sleep. She stopped having her nightmares in our bed. I was up 5-7 times a night to console, walk, rock, nurse. Now 2 times to nurse. :) plus she has her own pillow and blanket also has her giraffe stuffed Animal to help her fall asleep.

She finally slept from 11pm til 7am with one waking for a bottle and meds at 2. She would not sleep in the bed with me, she just thought it was a game. I rocked her in my arms, it took a lot of tears but she fell asleep and I slept next to her cot. I think she felt more secure having me right there x

She finally slept from 11pm til 7am with one waking for a bottle and meds at 2. She would not sleep in the bed with me, she just thought it was a game. I rocked her in my arms, it took a lot of tears but she fell asleep and I slept next to her cot. I think she felt more secure having me right there x

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