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I have recieved numerous messages and IMs and have gotten
no replies back. What is the purpose of reaching out and
not saying a thing. Makes you wonder why. Post a response
and share your thoughts on one. I'm sure there's
plenty of people on here would like to know how you feel.

There is maybe a perception that all messages deserve a
response. However, as a woman who chooses to interact in
an adult forum online, I would suggest maybe less emphasis
is placed on the recipient responding and perhaps the senders
have less expectations. I would take the attitude, if a message of mine is not responded
to they are not interested or simply too busy. As I too have
messaged ...

I learned that when you dont ask a specific question for
someone to reply to, you limit the odds of receiving a reply.
Not even a no thanks is given very often which I dont get.
I understand what the site if for, but why the lack of common
kindness?! I'm thinking it's due to the lack of,
they will never know me, so why waste the time. I say, kindness
is a heart condition. ...

I get messaged way more by men than women on here. I have my
profile set as straight(women only) but somehow men are
messaging me. Is there anyway I can put a spot to this.
don’t have a problem with gay or bi people but it’s just
not for . Any advice would be great because it’s getting
ridiculous. Thanks

I understand the possible stigma's or asshole-ish
responses might get from jerks who think they are owed sex
because (who knows why.) But Is it really hard, especially
in a virtual setting, or in a , to just say "sorry,
I changed my mind, " or flat out, "no."
asking because I feel as though some women who did
not tell me they had changed their minds and just decided
to ...

I feel if someone takes the time to acknowledge you,
you should be taking the time to acknowledge them back even
if your not interested! Do others feel it is rude to not respond
to a message sent to you? Or am I alone on this one?

You know what I truly enjoy? Hitting on dudes I know are gonna
be uncomfortable when I do so. Not cause I expect a positive
response, but because the negative responses lead to my
favorite thing to tell a dude: 's how you make women
feel. I especially love to do this after witnessing them
making an ass out of themselves when hitting on one of my
friends. <br><br>
This applies to ...

I see a few people asking why can't women just say "no,
thank you" instead of not replying? Well, here's
this, not all people take gracefully. Some decide
to berate you or to continually contact you after you've
declined. I've had to say no to the same individuals
multiple times until I've had to block them. Is
okay? If someone doesn't respond to me, I take ...

I normally have to plan my playtimes, for very specific
days and hours. Frequently I get into conversations with
guys who get very rude when I can't drop things and '
now' to take care of their wants. not turning
them down, just letting them know I have time constraints,
like most folks have. I get every response from the usual
'you're missing a good thing' to the ...

Why don't more women just say "no thanks"?
It can be frustrating to figure if a woman wants to meetup
or not. Not replying in I get for standard users, but
gold members don't bother. Makes me want to delete
this

I came to this site after i lost my wife to cancer. I was a lost
man who was spoiled and loved at same time. I am here to learn
what women of today want and what i can bring from the past
to today and still enjoy . But to my shock after 4 years of
great marrage that some women not all women on here are only
after Itune cards or other things to have me buy for them.
But im not here to buy ...

I have always said honesty is the best policy unless you
are cheating. If you make a date after meeting a person and
then decide it is not for you, do you ghost them or be honest
and say no thanks after more thought i am not looking for
what you offer? It sounds so lame via text.

I know not everyone is going to want to meet up, or even chat.
But why can't people at least be civil and say they're
not interested? sure this topic has been discussed
ad nauseum, but it's really been burr in my saddle lately.

This is something that happened several years ago. I started
talking to a woman on here and hit it off very well. After
some erotic chat and phone conversation, we decided to
meet in person. It was very exciting, because we had some
great conversation. <br><br>
Since I had roommates, I couldn't host easily. She
provided me with the option to meet her at her apartment.
I agreed. I ...

So, I was sitting here thinking, 'How hard is it really
to just reply and say "No Thank You, I'm (We're)
not interested." <br><br>
I know there are people who will be ultimately be idiots
and not take the simple straight forward hint, but those
should be the exception and not the norm. <br><br>
If we all were to make a concerted effort to be more ...

It really needs to be understood that just because you said
"yes" to sex, doesn't mean you're
obligated to continue. <br><br>
People get uncomfortable. They have second-thoughts,
lose interest, or just decide they aren't ready. <br><br>
And that's totally okay. <br><br>
This especially applies to women, but for everyone out
there - you ...

Why is it so difficult to say "no thanks" if the
person is not interested? It's frustrating enough
being rejected, but there's no to completely
ignore a request (unless they are harassing you). <br><br>
Thoughts?

I would often attend a sex on premises venue where men, often
older men, get the opportunities to cruise dimly lit maze
style halls and rooms in search of a cock to suck. I must admit
that I get horny when attending these places but do not find
old guys attractive, in fact only really have an amazing
nterest in nice looking hot, large cocks. Anybody in the
same boat?

Call me old fashioned but I feel that if smeone says hi to
you in a chat setting, or Im even if you aren't interested
you should say smething and not just ignore the person.
m I wrong in this or is it right to just say ahhhh to hell with
them....

No thanks can be tricky. Meeting someone for the first time
and they look nothing like their pics that have been posted.
The best way I feel to deal with that situation is to tell
them that they misrepresented themselves.

I get it that free members have limited chats, but once in
a while just saying "no thanks" to someone is
helpful if you are being messaged first. Does help with
the process of not hitting them up again....

Last night I went to my local water hole. When I got there
it was the same locals relaxing around the bar. About half
way through my beer, a slender red head girl walked in. She
sat down a few stools down from me wearing a form fitting
white button down shirt and tight black jeans. When the
bartender asked her for a drink, she said just water she
was waiting for her date. ...

Why can’t men jus take no for answer? I myself respect
it when a woman says no and I leave her alone. I have heard
men and talked to men that say they will not take no for an
answer and they will continue to push to get what they want.
Men should just respect it when a woman tells them no. How
many of you out there agree with this?

i have come across a few that i wasnt interested or they werent
interested i dont have a problem saying it but you have some
that juust end up disappearing instead of saying there
not interested is it that hard for some to actually say it
and be truthful

It seems people contact people but say nothing... of they
just start with nasty openings.. Seem even though this
site is to meet people ... I think being nice should be standard..
<br><br>
fee members or paid members should get the same respect
<br><br>
be smart be nice be safe

I understand not everyone is interested in Black Cock and
I don’t try to force it on any female. Ladies if it’s
not your thing I understand but don’t insult us at the
same time you are rejecting the BBC. We are all big girls
and boys I would hope so insults are not needed. Now if you
want to explore the BBC there is a way to do that as well. Hit
me up and let me give you a tip!!

Okay so I can’t stand bots on sites. They drive me crazy!
When your using a sit and you have to pay for sending messages,
it really sucks when you start chatting with a bot, and don’t
realize it at first. Why? Why do they do this? In all honesty
I know why, but come on? Really?

It's hard to get to know someone without chatting with
them to see if you click. But once they say no thanks, I do
my best to stop bugging them. <br><br>
Sometimes I say no thanks but that's normally just
to the perv guys, lol... <br><br>
Hope you all respect others.

You are laughing at my jokes telling me about you and we have
several exchanges and then I send a pic and crickets...and
or blocked I dont get think I am that ugly as have several
dimes in my life...Figured all this out when went to email
and no typo box....Just rude say no thanks and move on. Its
just proper.

So if you meet someone from here and find out the chemistry
is just not there, how do you handle it? Do you treat it like
any regular date, or because it started with an emphasis
on meeting for adult fun, end the encounter quickly. Either
way, i think its best to be thoughtful of the impact on others
feelings.

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...

Rejection is difficult for some to hear. As always, try to be polite and circumvent negative words.
This includes "No." <br><br>
Most people who I have met are very understanding and come
across as being mature. <br><br>
So, in lieu of saying "No", try to express my
preferences and thank them for the compliment.

I love all the people on here that take these amazing pictures
that fool you into thinking they look amazing. Then they
send you a more real picture, this is when I feel lied to!
LOL I know that makes me sound shallow but I have a wide sweep
in taste and some of these pictures are scary. I always get
these after chatting for a while and then I never know what
to say. I don't want to be rude ...

Wondering what every ones thought are on the IM here. Is
it just me or does it seem extremely rude to not at least say
no thanks to a chat request. I understand some people get
bombarded with requests but when I can see that it has been
read at least say no thank you and move on.

If someone writes you or even IMs you and you are not interested
... Please have the courtesy to say "no thanks"
or "Sorry Im not interested". Dont keep them
guessing if you are just busy. Thats how everyone on here
gets annoyed and frustrated. Just a thought that might
help others

I'm sort of torn commenting on this. <br><br>
I love it when a woman is confident and strong or submissive
and meek, either is attractive. It's hard to say no
when someone is "desperate" though, too handsy,
overly aggressive and sloppy...ya no thanks.

How hard is it to say "No thanks." or "I'll
pass". With the sketchy performance of TV TS Dating's
Messenger, how is any to know if an actual message is
getting through? I don't mind saying, "Sorry,
not what I'm looking for at this time." but...nothing???
That's just rude anytime and anywhere. Your thoughts?

I have made it clear in my profile as to my sexual orientation,
preference. I enjoy doing webcast and interacting with
the viewers. If you have seen any of the very few cast I have
done I address the woman, but if i'm asked a question
I'm going to answer or tell the guys to read the profile.
I don't care who watches but if your not tipping or buzzing
I'm going to block you. I ...

I get it quite a bit from couples... but the persistence
these days when you say no thank you is crazy. I don't
like reporting or ignoring people, but they continually
think they are going to change you mind. This is especially
the case with couples and gay men on here. <br><br>
Anyone else running into this?

So if some takes the time out of their day to message me,
and I still have a chat request remaining (yea it's
ridiculous I need a chat request to REPLY to an incoming
message, thanks new TV TS Dating) even if I'm not interested
if the person was at least some who I might have considered
I like to answer and just say no thank you. What I don't
like to do is just ignore them, leave the room ...

I use this site frm almost eight years and found here a lot
of fake ID's. And many mention they are here for real
fun but when any one contact them they said they are here
for fun but they were passing their tym.with chat only.
So I think it's better to say no instead of making other
fool.

I know this is a pay site and prohibitive to people who aren't
paying. I would just like people to tell me they're
no interested instead of seeing a pic and ghosting. I am
an adult. it's not like we all haven't had rejection
in our lives. <br><br>
please just communicate. <br><br>
Thank you

Let me tell you all something, we all find out the hard way
sometimes. It comes down to ppl are not raised right. They
don't have a backbone and common courtesy. What is
right? Just say NO thank you, and move on. BUT, people play
you a long, play fucking ring a round the posey, beat around
the bush. Ultimately you have pissed off people.

One of the best ways is to simply say "Thank you, but
I'm not interested. I wish you luck." This works great, as long as it is sincere. If people get
upset at it, that isn't your fault, and you've
done your part.

its hard when you meet someone and they are just not attracted
or into you. I always just try be happy and move on but I always
wonder why they don't like me. I wonder if it was just
the way I look or if it is something I said I didn't say.
I wonder if I could have said something different or if they
just were not attracted to me or maybe its just the sound
of my voice or the way I talk.

I find it very funny how many people on here pose as couple,
when it is just a bi guy. I also get a kick out of the number
of women on here that are gun hoe till they find out you are
not a young hunk. I myself don't see the need for a young
hunk or a young woman to be here? I know they can find all the
sex they want on their own. I was wondering how many people
here find this site to be a ...

Sometimes you will find couples that want to do things together,
whether you are into that or not is not the point of this,
it is more to say that if you are up front with your limits
or what you want out of something instead of hoping you can
sneak it in you will get a lot farther in life and relationships.

It seems I am having to say no thanks to a number of men simply
because they can't or don't read my whole profile.
I am a young 65 year old who does prefer a younger man. As my
profile states though please no one under 30 or over 55.
It is not that difficult to understand yet I am having to
say no thank you to a number of men. I am always polite say
hello then tell them sorry no the ...

Is it so very negligent to leave your pets all about and without
proper behavior? Really I'd rather swim in the ocean
and find gold perhaps at the bottom of the abyss than date
a bismol. That way the never ending battle I had with Achilles
and guess what. I offer his soul back up to Zues himself.
The little pixie liked to pick the wrong fights and found
out that I'm superman compared to his ...

Whenever I make contact to anyone, If I am not going to enjoy
time with them... 1. I don't lead them on 2. I am always polite 3. If asked to get together, it's easy to refuse and
let the (person or individual) know I will not be meeting
them.

Sooo, why is it so difficult for other to do that? Many members
I have found do not ever let you know, we are not a match!

I was offered one time to meet two guys at a park. I told them
I was not interested in that. Then one guy was talking to
me and asked if I would just meet him for an exchange blowjob.
I said I would consider that. So we made arrangements to
meet. The park was about 40 miles to get to for each of us.
When I got there he had a camper trailer attached. He was
parked in one of the more inside the ...

when you are out partying trying to enjoy your night when
all of a sudden you get a gut feeling knowing something isnt
right with the girl thats trying to get with you fallow the
gut on feelings that night i had that feeling then found
out that girl that was trying to get with me got locked up
for having a shit ton of drugs in her car

Don't knock it till you try it, don't judge it before
you've had a chance to understand it don't deny
it before you've had a chance to accept it.. I think
that it's rude when somebody hit you up even if they
are outside spectrum of Desire or expectations as far as
what you're looking for on this site or every day in
the world. I think the bypass somebody or not consider them
simply because of ...

We recently became members to this site... We have gotten
several flirts, emails, and our profile has been viewed
by many. We have been busy checking out profiles that fit
what we are looking for and I must say we enjoy and are having
fun already.. However there are a couple of single men that
have commented and sent us emails and we have found that
even though we didnt request single men they ...

Why does it seem like on this site women are significantly
more interested in just ignoring emails rather than saying
no thanks. I get the emails that are short, 3 or 4 words, but
when a guy takes the time to compose a thoughtful email,
shouldn't that at least deserve some kind of response?
What happened to common decency?

I'm beginning to think everyone is pic collectors.
No one wants to meet without pictures. Remember when we
didn't have the internet and we met for drinks. I have
never had a problem meeting in person and either you are
into them and great or one of you is not into the other and
gi your separate ways. We're all adults. Once someone
has had their identity stolen, fake profiles made and see
how hard ...

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While riding the train downtown last evening (yes
we now have light rail trains in and around Los Angeles)
to the Lakers / Brooklyn Nets game(at Staples Center) my
phone blew up (figuratively not literally) with texts
from not one but two former booty calls. What was strange
is both of the booty calls have from time to time tried to
reconnect with me a time or two in the past. I have ...

SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are
they worth it? A few days ago, at the Lakers home game / season opener, I
ran in to a good friend and an acquaintance I've know
since high school. It was nice to see them and talk to them
at the game and catch up since we don't talk on a regular
basis, except at a gathering, social event or party once
or twice every year. They were both in ...

This guy seemed nice in beginning conversation. We only
conversated on the phone. After awhile, he began having
notions that I would video us and put it on this site. If you
go to his profile you will see that he is definitely not the
type of male you guys would want to see in a video with me.
Anyway, he kept talking about us being videoed. He began
going over and over again about being videoed ...

I think it should be fine to just message back saying you
are simply not interested. I have had people tell me they
aren't interested for one reason or another and I think
you just have to remember that we are all individuals with
individual taste. How many of us would be left out if we all
had to fit into a specific mold? That being said I also don't
think people should get all pissed off when ...

I want to offer some friendly advice, not only to men but
to women too. Please beware of the little foxes and wolves on this site who are
on here targeting us innocent people on here just trying
to have fun and meet great people.

We have to remember that some people are on here with BAD and DESTRUCTIVE motives.
Be sure to keep ...

Typically, more commonly than not, men are the ones being
rejected when approaching someone of interest, for this
or that reasons. Reasons are not really the subject of my
post. But I was curious, how often does it happen to the ladies?
how did you girls react to the rejection? Did you think it was acceptable, totally unfair, did you
get upset or were you oblivious to it and moved on as fast
as ...

I'm all about equality in life, every human being has
a fundamental right to try to make a living and find happiness.
I may not like some aspects of how a given group of people
approach their ethical practices towards others, but
it is behavior that transcends race and creed.

That being said, I was recently approached on another site
by a woman. Nice, similar cultural interests, ...

One of the more difficult things we encounter is to 'not
feel the same way' as someone we might meet. In other
words- we simply are not attracted to them and would prefer
not having intimate relations. How best to let someone
down

In my experience candor with compassion is the best way.
We are all humans with many insecurities and doubts. No
one is perfect and no one is for everyone. ...

Some people just don't take "no thanks"
very well. If someone gets on your nerves...

My advice:

When it comes to blocking memebers, don't forget to
be on the FULL site (go through My Account, Blocked Members)
so that you can check ALL the boxes to block them from seeing
your profile (which contains multiple vulnerabilities).
Just blocking someone on the MOBILE site only ...

I have no problem responding back, even if I dont want a meet
and greet. But sometimes I may want to still talk. So many
guys on here are so focus on the meet and greet that they miss
out on other opportunities. Like phone sex, I would be open
to that or playing sex games on the IM. Not everytime you
message a girl will lead to an physical encounter, but at
least there is still fun to be had.

you know it really bites when you're trying to just
say hello on the IM and people don't respond. Id much
rather hear not interested than wonder if my IM isn't
working. then it's me sitting there wasting my time
and points trying to get a message through to the person
and not understanding why this isn't working?

I have gotten a lot of response to my profile that are younger
then what I am looking for. My profile heading is even Coffee
Buddy 60+ w/benefits". I don't want to be rude,
just I am not looking for younger. A few times I had the same
couples ask repeatedly and finally had to block them.

With so many people from all over the world on this site,
it's fair to say you'll find someone you're
interested in meeting with pretty quickly, though it's
also fairly likely that that person may not be interested
in meeting you, for whatever reason.

That's fine, but as far as I'm concerned, basic
courtesy dictates that if you receive a message, then you
at last reply to it, if only to ...

OK so this actually happened to me in about 10 years ago.
I was out partying with my best friend and his wife and we
went to a local bar where we live just to have a good time and
play pool..... As The night went on we all were getting pretty
buzzed up....Now let me say Jennifer his wife is extremely
gorgeous and I admit I've fanatized about her, anyway
I made my way to the bathroom when ...

my own policy when it comes to turning someone down on an
adult site is simply to say, no thank you, thank you for understanding.
There is no advantage at a point of rejection to be offering
specific excuses, as it only creates a defensive situation.

It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other
end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation.
I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile
so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't
work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the
emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't
help either cause they continue to email ...

There are some people who think that "no" is
the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them.
Some people believe if you say "no" you will
lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless
and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put
you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's
actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...

There are some people who think that "no" is
the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them.
Some people believe if you say "no" you will
lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless
and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put
you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's
actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...

Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone
from TV TS Dating over with adult fun in mind only to find they are
not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm
sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe
there was something that just turned you off when they finally
got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?

Remembering my fun days i just sit back and smile. Always
been great at showing my passion when i have sex. Saying
this to say i have had a lot of unforgettable times. But time
stops for no one if you don't take care of your self it
shows. So when a old sex partner hits me up on social media
I look sometimes and be like damn what happened. No thanks
even if i remember how delightful your pussy ...

This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone.
Because they thought they may be interested in them or may
possibly give them a chance however when the individual
decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man
dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the
chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the
flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...

some people just do not like to accept "i don't
like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case?
one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining
the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which
case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning

Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that
= NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless,
but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble.
Listen and comply.

Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site
they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying
to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for
something as serious as giving my body to someone for their
pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely
picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are
desperate to get laid your expectations ...

Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send
genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this
is my stuff do you like....um I don't even know anything
about you yet...immediate turn off

I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude
here on TV TS Dating. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor.
4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.

In response to the email I received asking if I am interested
in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly
in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically
I would simply not take the time to read through a profile
without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence
and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive
than the homeliest ...

If something is not working out, just let the other person
know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or
pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things
are not working out, why they are not working out, and then
tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons,
try not to blame ...

There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this
site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually
getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't
include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones
on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man
should be. Some people just don't get it though. All
I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...

I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back
and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to
continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent,
constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep
or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys
I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry,
I don't respond. I also have a message that ...

If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will
likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.

If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck",
"me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"...
You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe"
anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's
part of the territory in this community. If you don't
get a response......don't be ...

The way respond to unwanted emails or IMs is based on the
request we've received. If the person messaging us
is polite we'll respond with "thank you for your
interested, but you aren't what we're looking
for."

Sometimes people say things that we can't actually
respond to so we leave those messages unanswered. Messages
like "Hi, I want to cum on your face" don't
get responses.

Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail
and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually
unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with
them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the
adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline
the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm
not ...

I've been here for while. I've been successful.
I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies.
I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that
I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly
good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot.
I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.

How do you best say your not interested in another couple
in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being
honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases
are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....

I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all
it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every
jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks
I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM
is working.

I get a lot of men that are not in my desired target (too old,
couples, everything but single, live too far away) messaging
me. I put in my profile specifically what I'm looking
for but the majority of contacts I get are not what I'm
looking for. What's the best way to say, no thanks I'm interested
or don't hit me up.

It is always better to know whether a person likes you or
not..Or better to tell another person that you do not like
them. Why leave a person hanging. If you go to a meet and the
person is not the same as the picture, or is just someone
you do not feel is what you are looking for, then let them
know. I prefer to know and have had a few ladies tell me why and it
makes me understand their point ...

Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit
repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys?
We have jobs we don't need another one answering all
the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense
and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.

Like anyone who has been on TV TS Dating for any length of time and
has tried to make contact with someone, I have received
my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies.
I have been told however, that my response to those "No
Thanks" replies is quite different than what most
women receive from those kinds of replies.

I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No
Thanks". I do not whine or ...

What is the outlook on this? Do people prefer to hear back
even if it is not the response they would like to hear or will
being ignored also do the job. Also if you have to deal with unwanted attention do you prefer
to let them know or simply ignore it and the potential backlash
of a "sore loser" along with it?

As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks"
page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page
were all regarding the fact that women here often don't
give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed.
I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for
not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in
the future "why are women so rude" questions,
but here goes ...

I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted
on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so
many people just don't have the time to reply with a
polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody
is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high
esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you
are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...

A couple of years ago I was really into nipples. Human nipples
in particular (you wanted to take it there). I loved the
way my partner’s nips felt up against my skin, and the
way mine felt against their man-chest and lips. I loved
the sensation and the eroticism of the little weird evolutionary
phenomenon. I think my curiosity turned into a playful
exploration of all the cool things you could ...

Whenever I talk or chat with someone about meeting, I try
to make it very clear that even though it may sound like a
match and a hot time ahead, you don't know if it works
for you until you meet. Everyone has their own preferences
and attractions, I always meet with the agreement that
if it won't work for either one, it is a thanks, but no
thanks, a handshake, and good luck to you. I am not ...

Yes i like both men and women but at this time I'm looking
for only women to play with but these men seem to think they
can change you mine by saying I need dick if i want dick i will
get dick but i want and need pussy no thank you another black
men s

I wish that people on this site would try a little to be polite.
If somebody sends you a message and you are not interested
in them; just respond back and say that you appreciate their
interest in you, but you are not interested.

I do not think it is very nice to just ignore their message.
Think of it like this: they found you attractive enough
to take the time to send a message, you ...

What's the best way for a girl to tell you that they aren't
interested? Do you want a response? Is an explanation needed
or is "no thanks" enough? Do guys realize that
many will send back a response that mimics the attitude
that the interest is given?

If you send someone a friend request and your YIM and then
suddenly start ignoring all messages, even those that
say "Hey, it's ok if you are not interested, JUST
LET ME KNOW, " that is rude. Please just say "Sorry,
I am really not interested in pursuing anything further
with you." Believe me, most people on here are mature
enough to say in response, "OK, good luck, "
and move on to the next ...

TV TS Dating has been a good platform for like minded people to get
to know each other...express themselves. But i guess the
reality is very different. Many a times the profiles are
misleading. The response one gets is so different that
what's in profile. Knowing well that with distance, different priorities
and in general the circumstances it would not be possible
to always meet in person. The big ...

That's what the blogger wrote on my blog awhile back:
"No reply is also a reply." I wonder about that
really? I mean, I know it could be, but I also have found that
days later after I have made an inquiry with someone by sending
them an introductory email, they respond and not always
in a negative fashion.

"I've just been so inundated by emails."
one sweet lady wrote. Another said she ...

I listen when someone tells me no. I respect their choice,
and will ask, if it is appropriate, what led to their decision.
I prefer conversation to conflict, and think that feedback
allows me to make changes if needed. However, that doesn't
mean I won't ever ask again! There is a place for persistence,
and I have even been called stubborn (really). I had a work place encounter that ...

Ok, so you are not interested. How about just say: "Thanks
- but no thanks". Believe me, it is more elegant to
say No Thanks, than to disappear after countless exchanges,
or a lame excuse, like "the dog ate my _ _ _ _ _".
We are all adults here (ok, that's a long shot). The
fact is that there's power in saying no. Where negativity
is an ongoing attitude, No is a moment of clear choice. It ...

Women on this site are such ass wipes if u dou wanna take to
a guy wen he sends a message tel them that don't not send
a message and then I keep replieyin thinkin u didn't
get my massage and then al of a sudden am a freak yr such ass
hole

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a whore and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from TV TS Dating.

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a whore and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from TV TS Dating.

Browsing down the categories to see where I should post
this and the SAYING 'NO THANKS' heading waved
and whistled at me..... Been married 35 years and it is a very strong marriage with
some severe tests along the way; great highs, painful lows
and buckets of tears and laughter along the way. We are very close and are best friends and the only secret
I have from my wife is my registration on ...

Do you take the time to right back to the person and say why
you aren't interested? Do you just reply with a simple
NO? Do you reply with a rude turn down? Or do you just ignore
the emailer if you're not interested.

there seems to be a culture that says saying no is insulting,
i have to disagree, asserting your right to make the choice
you want without fear of peer pressure is fundamental part
of life. admittedly i dont get to say no much on here!

One of the tougher reasons to just say, especially if a woman
on this site is showing interest and there is just no attraction
towards her, but in the few cases, I have tried to be honest
instead of just leaving it go. Thoughts?

People come on here, and verbally abuse young women when
they are not interested. over and over again, messaging,
not giving it up, it almost makes me scared to come on here.
i wish there was a way to stop it.

We have a couple we like and have been talking to on a regular
basis for nearly two years. Both are extremely hot and both
tell us that they want to take their first plunge with us,
which I believe, but Danny is skeptical.

I say they're afraid to take the plunge, that it is erotica
for them to talk to us, share pictures with us, talk of swapping;
of their fantasies.

Well I had to come here and post an article. It is also a pet
peeve of mine about sending out completely nice and respectful
emails and never hearing a reply back. Sure, it's hard
to say no thank you but it then leaves no doubt you're
not interested.

Also what I hate even more is when I start an email conversation,
goes for 1-2 messages and the woman stop replying. She's
on but ...

you email you chat you share picks and you decide that you
would like to me... You make the plans and you meet and on the surface all is cool...but
under the conversation and laughter that lil spark required
to get naked isnt what it should be.....you know it will
never happen

been there done that...it just isnt easy since the underlying
reason for meeting was to get naked.....I would ...

We once had to have the most awkward of "No -Way back
in the beginning, our first encounter actually..before
the internet..so you spent time on the phone getting info
and mental pictures from their descriptions. After a number
of conversations we all agreed to drive half the distance
to the other and meet for coffee.

They had got there first and looking for the car we drove
and as we ...

I have come to notice that most people on this site are either
to full of them selves to be polite or just don't care.

Personally, being ignored is a personal pet peeve and is
the quickest way to piss me off. When you get a email or IM
from me and take the time to look at my profile even if you
are not interest you could do me the courtesy of saying sorry
not interested vs just deleting ...

I am into swinging life style for last 8 years and over the
years I have met many Couples and women.My experiences
told me that No is a wonderful thing and one should accept
it very gracefully. Not every one I met went forward to have
sex. Many occasions we met and chemistry didn't worked
out so we had our coffee or drink and left.Not many could
take it gracefully and they bitch about you but few ...

saying no can be harder than saying yes? right? sometimes
it is just easier to go with the flow and just sleep with a
partner because easier than to say i dont like y64, that's
life, you got to be strong.

The best way to do say no on the IM chat is to do it quickly,
otherwise the message sender thinks you've stepped
away from your computer for a moment (or whatever) and they'll
keep sending messages and bugging u. Oh, and hoping that
they'll read your profile to see what your preferences
might be (a polite thing to do for sure) is a lost hope. Some
people are just going to do what they do but if ...

We can't account for the behavior of other people but
we can account for our own behavior. Being on an adult sight
doesn't give anyone a license to be a jerk.

There are lots of folks here without photos or any identifying
information which I understand completely but the shame
is that this level of anonymity often leads to very bad behavior...in
other words a lack of general human ...

I say over and over No thankyou .why cant a person understand
No thankyou Im alergic to tobbacco. No matter how you try
cover it up how sexy you think you are or how youll quit after
No thankyou .I like to breathe

Have you ever had that one guy that no matter how much you
tell yourself no and that you can do better still gets to
you some how? Well I have a guy like that. Ever since the first
time we hooked up I just cant say no. He can go without talking
to me for a month but when he calls me or texts me to hook up
I fight a little or make myself unavailable, but the sex
is so hot that I just give in ...

I reject people who live more than 100 miles away and they
get very upset typically. I dont understand why so many
long distance people contact me and why they get huffy when
I say no. Just happened todat with somone over 2000 miles
away, and NO photo to send!

My profile plainly states im looking for a specific thing
so please dont be a dick when you contact me and show what
you dont have and im not interested. I know that makes me
sound like a bitch i just know what i want and if you dont have
it dont pretend you do in my opion your actualy the douch
for wasting our time.

I get a number of emails, some i find very interesting and
others i don't...I have no problem with respectfully
declineing anyone if i don't feel there is a honest
attraction....But i have noticed that i get alot of rude
and tasteless emails as a reply, so my question is should
i just ignore those that i'm not interested in or do
i continue being repectful and letting them know that i'm
not ...

I have found that when I am not interested in someone that
being honest is best, you should try to be polite but firm,
that way it spares hard feelings and embarasment for them.
the honesty should be appreciated.their feelings may
be a little hurt, but they will respect you for being honest.

On my wife and I's couples profile we have experienced
a lot of people not taking no for an answer. On several occasions
had men and couple hound us even after we said we're
not interested. When did saying no become saying yes? It
seems people think it is ok to hound someone for sex just
because this is a "hook up" site.

Why do people find it so hard to say "no thank you"?
And for others to accept that response. We have a few couples
that even though we have chatted a number of times and each
time have come to the conclusion that we are not compatible
together for various reasons. (For example one wants us
to be exclusive to them only until they decide otherwise,
they say it is for safety reasons being worried ...

I get it...not everyone is gonna be compatible and there
is some amount of pure physical attraction that needs to
go on for a connection to happen. BUT if there isn't,
why can't people just say "thanks, nice meeting
you, but i'm not interested".

Dunno, seems pretty simple and much nicer than ending the
conversation, never to hear from them again - message is
the same, but just a more ...

Dont dilly-dally, come right home I dont see why I must go home When in the streets the niceties Come pouring out and over me Its three oclock and here they come So many that my eyes are numb Familiar faces each and all But I've been ordered not to stall Thanks but no thanks, anywa I know that youre all OK, but My orders come from ...

Lately I have seen a whole lot of complaints about people
saying no thank you and being rude about it. Just a simple
"Thank you for your interest, but I/we are not interested
at this time" suffices. No need to go into details
or get too wordy.

I seen the same with people getting aggressive and nasty
when getting a no thank you from a member. Not everyone is
going to say yes, it's a fact. ...

I have met women in the past for dates and right away I know
I am not interested. I would hate to have a girl come to my
house for the first time and not want to have sex with her
from this site. I would feel guilty and give it to her anyway.
What is the best way to figure out if this girl is worthy?
Do you meet them somewhere real quick in public and make
sure the sexual connection is there??

i have been rejected a couple of times because i want to wear
condoms all the time...why do women turn me away because
i am concerned about my health, not to mention i might have
no idea if they are 100% clean or not?

A few years back while going to college in fresno california
i met a very pretty girl there while in political science
class. we started chatting and as break time came along
we went to the breakroom to get something to eat, while there
we chatted and got to know one another a little bettter.
she had been adopted when she was a child and told me about
her family background and her ambitions and ...

For months Bill had been Lynn`s devoted admirer. At long
last he had collected sufficient courage to ask her the
momentousquestion."There are quite a lot of advantages
to being a bachelor, " Bill began, "but there
comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another
being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol;
whom one can treat as one`s absolute own; who will be kind
and ...

Well I'm not sure if I should let you in a on little secret.
What's so special about my horny wife that I just have
to tell every one who can read the printed word ? Fair enough
keep reading and see for yourself.I've changed the
names of all involved. So if you shout out her name in the
heat of well.....now you know.

I'm having to say no thanks to guys that are looking
to be submissive. I say that Two bottoms don't make
a top. Im a feminine submissive bottom bitch and Im woman
enough for a strong masculine man. I dont need someone else
waring panties, waving their ass, and being a subby bitch.

I even put hat on my profile, that I am only a submissive looking
for a dom.

So, I sgree to meet this guy form here. The last couple of
meetings before him were actually pretty good. Not bad
at all. One was just a little TOO horny, but still not bad.
One was perfect. Another was good too.

But this one guy from this week..... omg. He forgot to tell me he was missing half his front teeth.
Among other things. I was completely...turned...off...and
felt that he was ...

Sometimes, I will get replies from guys that read my profile,
notice that they are NOT what I am lookiung for, yet still
contact me. I think thats rude and a waiset of time. They
also get "beggy" and presistant. Sometimes,
I have to get ugly.

If a person sends you an email try to be nice enough to reply
back even if you are not interested. Lots on here use points
to send emails and are not sure if the email was even received.
So be nice enough to send a reply.

the simple way of doing it is just be as polite as you can and
just simply say no thanks. if they cant handle it its not
your problem and if they get pissy i say oh well its not the
first time someone has been mad at me and damn sure wont be
the last so they have a long line to stand in lol

Ok boys and girls this is just a quick little piece on "saying
no". We all know we have been in situations that put
us in a position of weakness or addiction, especially when
it comes to matters of lust and love. How we comprehend and
what actions we take regarding this weakness is what makes
the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic
one. Any time you feel the need to justify, ...

My profile(check it out) is written to weed out the "undesireables."
Sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't. There
always has to be one that thinks if he can just get you to say
yes to meeting him he can sweet talk you into giving up some
of that sweet stuff. You know the one I'm talking about...

I need a little perspective on why people will start chatting
and emailing you on here and you seem to get along well ...
then you agree to exchange pics and then "POOF"
once the woman gets your pic they disappear without a word.
I mean I can understand that they get the pic and see that
one is not their type ... but is it really all that hard to
just say that so there is closure? Why do people ...

it's been years since i've been but the best way
i've found to get rid of strippers who want to table
dance for you is to have a line ready. mine have been, "sorry, you look too much like my wife."
and "sorry, i'm saving all my money for the massage
parlor afterwards".

When meeting for the first coffee, I am not always interested
in following through. But I also feel like I can't say
no at that point. I have, and it wasn't well received
even though I did try to be gentle.

I am wondering if the male stereotype comes into play: men
don't say no to sex.

After reading people's articles in the category "No
Thanks", I literally started to laugh out loud. I
find it funny that people take so much offense from other's
actions on their passion.com. "Come on people",
please you are on the internet. You are not having one on
one face time with people on-line. If your feelings are
getting hurt becaue of people saying rude comments to you
or because ...

sometimes it seems like i am very careful to pick my wording
in my response, and i am still treated very rudely to someone
i didn't pursue in the first place. i try to say things
that won't hurt any feelings, stay respectful, and
still are firm that i am not interested. i am wondering what
everyone else does when this doesn't seem to do the
trick and now some rude person won't leave me alone.

Overview: It's a good practice to let job candidates
know when they haven't gotten the job. Use this sample
thanks-but-no-thanks letter to build goodwill with people
who may be a better match for future positions.

One of the least pleasant aspects of the hiring process
is conveying to candidates your decision to pass them over.
But if you've decided to eliminate someone from contention ...

Well having read a few of the articles - it seems we're
all more or less on the same frequency as it were.

Ive had quite a few occasions in the past where despite what
my profile says - ie in a relationship and not looking to
play, a few folks have been rather insistent - Ive found
it an exercise in politeness but also firmness.

It came suddenly I'm sure for my husband but one night,
I asked him how he would feel about suspending our TV TS Dating account
temporarily. He asked why...my reply....I just want to
take a break. It seemed like so much pressure to have sex
with EVERYONE and that is NOT who I am or he is for that matter.
I wanted to slow down and get back to us and remember what
it was to feel passion instead of just ...