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After the ritual stop at the Lawrence Hall of Science parking lot for the view of the bay, you might want to show your parents around your new home.

If you’re a Goth and want to give them a dose, you know where to find others of your kind. But don’t mi ss The Bone Room for atmospherics and jewelry (1569 Solano Ave., 526-5252), or the East Bay Vivarium for lovely snakes, lizards, and arachnids (1827-C Fifth St., 841-1400).

Mom’s a gardener? Take her to Mrs. Dalloway’s, a unique independent bookshop in t he Elmwood neighborhood (2904 College Ave., 704-8222). Dedicated to the literary and garden arts, the store has a thoughtful selection of books and periodicals, live plants and containers. It’s only one of our many alternatives to Barnes and Noble and Bor ders; others include Cody’s (stores on Telegraph Avenue and Fourth Street), Moe’s, Black Oak, Pegasus (stores on Shattuck and Solano avenues), Pendragon, Half Price Books (moving from Solano to Shattuck), and for genrephiles, Dark Carnival and Other Chang e of Hobbit.

If it’s the first Sunday of the month and the weather’s decent, give them a megadose of yesterday and the surreal for a mere $5 each at the Alameda Antiques Fair on the former Naval Air Station (follow Pacific Avenue; 522-7500). There’s no s hade, but there is chow, and you can listen to the folks exclaiming, “My mother has a pair of those!” or even, “I used to have that game!”

If they brought the dog along, they’ll all love the scene at Berkeley’s Cesar Chavez Park or Richmond’s Point Isabe l Regional Shoreline, where they can mingle with Catahoula hounds, komondors, and other canine curiosities. At Point Isabel, dogs that have gotten into the Bay can be hosed off at Mudpuppy’s Tub & Scrub.

For out-of-staters, the Oakland Museum of Californ ia provides a painless introduction to the state’s ecology, history, and art (100 Oak St., 238-2200). Check out the 1940’s kitchen and the beat and hippie exhibits.

Food and drink? There’s a wealth of options. For cocktails by the bay, try Hs Lordships a t the Berkeley Marina (199 Seawall Drive, 843-2733). Unlike many popular bars, you can actually have a conversation there. And for Hong Kong-style dim sum with a view, you can’t beat Emeryville’s East Ocean (3199 Powell St., 655-3388). For tiki and pupu a ficionados, Emeryville also has the legendary Trader Vic’s (9 Anchor Drive, 653-4300).

Eating your way down Solano Avenue can be a rewarding experience. Start with Ajanta (1888 Solano Ave., 526-4373 ) for some of the Bay Area’s best Indian food; other choices include Japanese, Thai, Nepalese, several kinds of Chinese and Mediterranean.

If your parents are more the meat-and-potatoes or fish-and-fries type, The Dead Fish is worth the drive to Crockett: crab and prime rib, white-tablecloth nautical decor, and a view of the Carquinez Straits (20050 San Pablo Ave., 787-3323).