There is a lot of debate about this and a lot of misinformation that has been disseminated over the years. So, let’s clear it up and help you to stop worrying about it.

First a little history

No one really knows when the practice of genital mutilation on males began, but suffice it to say, it precedes the biblical account of such practices. It is presumed that the practice began as a way to “purify” the male, as the foreskin or “prepuce” is a pleasure producing organ and as such, by removing it, the presumption is that the individual is better able to focus on the spiritual aspects of his being, rather than his carnal ones.

But we know of course that this is nonsense. Circumcised males are just as horny as uncircumcised ones and perhaps even more so. Why would this be? Because as a result of removing the foreskin, the highly sensitive glans (the tip of the penis), is unprotected from contact with friction produced by clothing and as such, a circumcised male is compromised in the pleasure department. The sensitivity of his penis is greatly reduced and he may feel he needs more and greater stimulation to satisfy his urges.

This may be why many men like anal sex, as the anus, being a very tight canal, may produce more friction during sex, which translates to greater stimulation. Regular coital sex may no longer provide sufficient stimulation for him, especially after his partner has had children. Additionally, many men like or even prefer oral sex for the same reason.

Now this is not to suggest that uncircumcised men have no interest in oral or anal sex, but for a man whose sensitivity is as nature intended, normal vaginal sex may be all he needs.

What about the cleanliness factor?

Here is where a lot of myth and misinformation has clouded the facts. If a person is un-hygienic, male or female, unpleasant issues will arise. Certainly, folds and wet places are not exclusive to men, all women have them and for the majority, they are clean and pleasant areas to visit. But if men or women do not inspect and care for their hidden places, cleanliness will suffer. Having said that, the uncircumcised male is no more likely to produce unpleasant odors or excretions than his cut contemporaries.

American men and women are accustomed to seeing the cut penis in the locker room or the bedroom. Therefore, the appearance of an intact organ often results in the owner having to provide some education to the uninitiated, because of the misinformation disseminated by myths and popular media.

If you're an uncut man then, it's very likely that from time to time you'll need to present a reassuring argument in favor of the intact organ, in order to correct inaccuracies and allay unfounded fears.

Here is How the Uncut Male Can Sing the Praises of His Natural Organ

"This is how every man is born. In most parts of the world a man is allowed to remain uncut at birth. When circumcision is forced on young girls (mainly in African tribal cultures), it is called "Female Sexual Mutilation" and frowned upon, as it should be, by the civilized world. But somehow, antiquated religious practices that proscribed the removal the male foreskin for spiritual reasons, became mainstream in the West and were later, erroneously associated with cleanliness and health. As a result, many men have missed out on the greater pleasure they might have enjoyed, had they been left as Nature intended".

"Therefore, thanks to my "natural organ", I am able to achieve greater satisfaction for myself and my partner. Like any man concerned with personal hygiene, I maintain my manhood in prime condition. For these reasons, every woman should and will learn to prefer a man who looks and functions like the Ancient Gods of Rome".

Pleasure for the Woman is Increased with an Uncut Male

During intercourse, the glans of the penis rubs up against the ceiling of the vaginal canal, where a broad distribution of nerves picks up the motion and sends signals to the brain that result in pleasure. But for many women, thrusting of the "cut" penis does not provide stimulation sufficient to produce orgasm .

Hormonal changes, childbirth, lack of lubrication and other factors can negatively impact her experience. The uncircumcised penis is designed to help with all of these. As the shaft thrusts inward, the foreskin, which is folded back, forms a ring around the penis, increasing it’s perceived thickness.

As this ring follows the glans during penetration, it makes a second pass along the clitoral network at the top of the canal, doubling the amount of stimulation. Additionally, the foreskin serves as a gasket, keeping essential lubrication inside, where it’s needed.

So for these reasons and many others, for heavens sake, don’t eliminate a male prospect just because you’ve learned he’s not circumcised. Hopefully now, you may actually perceive this as an advantage. If you’re single and curious, find a safe individual who is still intact and try it on for size. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

02/22/2016

When I was a young lad, I collected toy cars. Cars of all kinds: hot wheels and later, slot cars that I would race at the local velodrome. Even at the age of two, I remember having a mini dashboard, complete with a steering wheel. I imagined a perilous journey through the streets of Los Angeles, where I grew up.

Indeed, they became even more dangerous when at the ripe old age of 15 -1/2, my dad surprised me with a gift: His 1964 Buick Riviera, 465 Wildcat.

The car I admired for years as a passenger was now mine. And Wow! What a car it was. I blew the doors of Corvettes with that thing.

I don’t know what my Dad was thinking, putting such a force of Nature in my hands. But then again, his first car was a 1941 Cadillac. I’m sure somewhere in the back of his mind, he was trying to ignite in me the same life-long passion for cars that he enjoyed. And indeed he did.

Now and then, when I drive or care for my classic, but practical, baby boomer bomb, a ’98 Toyota 4Runner, I wonder: When did man’s fascination for machines begin?

And as I allow my mind to leap backwards through time, I cannot conceive of any period when men were not trying to harness the power of materials and physics to some advantage.

It’s not beyond the realm of reason to assume that Roman soldiers applied a “spit shine” to their chariots before going into battle. Thereby perhaps blinding their opponents with the glint of shiny metal, just before they met their end.

In fact war, as brutal and unfortunate as it is, has probably been the greatest single driver of ingenuity in the area of machine technology.

Certainly, the first weapon used by early man was a club. With it, he could batter enemies into submission or clobber meat on the hoof to feed the family.

But clubs are short and still require the user to be within striking distance of an opponent or a dangerous animal’s teeth and claws. Enter the first military machine ever invented, the bow and arrow.

With the bow and arrow, a hunter or warrior could deliver a deadly spike into the body of his prey, while remaining at a safe distance. Of course as opposing armies became equally matched, one or the other would have to up the ante to gain yet a greater advantage.

And there in lies the psychological basis for man’s fascination with evolving machines. Especially automobiles.

The constant effort to make cars that would go faster and look better doing it, rapidly expanded automotive technology from the days of the Model T to the current drool-worthy beauty, the Tesla, Model Coupe. Now the fastest production car on the market and remarkably achieving that status using zero gasoline.

But when you strip away all the trappings and technology, all the power and prestige inherent in fine cars, what remains is a human drive to create. A primordial, hardwired aptitude for imagining “a better mousetrap”, as the saying goes.

As we look throughout history, humanity’s story is replete with examples of men and women who sought ways to solve a problem. Whether that solution improved one life or revolutionized a culture, the creative energy emanated from the same place. A life force that is linked to the Natural world through the power of creation.

To understand man’s fascination with machines and cars, we must first accept that to create something is to imbue that item with a piece of your own spirit, your own life energy.

The more complex the item and the more individuals needed to bring it to life, the greater it’s residual spirit it embodies.

Therefore, when a man climbs into a car, whether he is aware of it or not, the subconscious experience is one of becoming part of a synergistic organism that is greater than the sum of it’s parts. In essence, it is alive.

It is no wonder than that cars have so often been endowed with names inspired by Nature: Impala, Jaguar, Mustang Eagle, Barracuda, Cobra, Cougar, Stingray,Thunderbird and Wildcat, to name but a few. What are animals anyway, but incredibly complex machines?

And if Nature could create machines that were alive, it stands to reason that man would eventually ask, why couldn't he?.

You see, on the deepest subconscious level, when a man, (or a woman for that matter), cares for their car, they are caring for a living, breathing machine. When they wash it before a long trip, they are unwittingly beseeching the spirit of that living entity to deliver themselves and their family safely to their destination.

So the next time you catch your loved one admiring a shiny new vehicle on the street or in a showroom, understand, that what he really sees is, in every sense of the word powerful stallion, beckoning him to meld souls and experience the ride of his life.

Yes, that is why they call it “horsepower”. Can you imagine any word more drenched in testosterone than that?

09/04/2015

Ladies, this is not meant to vilify you or to suggest that men are never at fault for messing up their relationships, there is certainly plenty of blame on both sides of the fence. But this article for men will be upcoming. Today, we will focus on mistakes you might be making that could be causing your partnership to stagnate or worse, become irreparably damaged.

1. Don’t make men go shopping with you.

Girls, I know that it feels nice when your man buys you something, but don’t drag him to the dress shop, for heaven’s sake. Men have a different relationship to shopping than you do. They buy when they need something, like a new tool, when the old one breaks. True, they do tend to spend lavishly on big ticket items, like cars and gadgets, but they generally do their research online first, or by asking their friends and associates. They don’t just go the the mall and peruse. For men there is nothing more boring than standing around looking at clothes. And when a man is bored, what does he do? He fantasizes about women. And what better place to do that then at a woman’s dress shop or the mall. That’s one reason this is not a good strategy.

08/15/2015

It’s the age old problem, men will pass up the nice girl in lieu of pursuing the hot girl. Then they wonder why they get burned when the hot girl falls for the “hotter” guy later on. But do they learn? Hell no. They do it over and over again. And on the rare occasion that they get and keep the hot girl, or settle for the nice girl, it isn’t long before they’re off pursuing another conquest.

It’s mostly biology. That is not an excuse, it’s a fact. And I am not trying to exonerate the behavior, I am only trying to enlighten you as to why it happens. For all our so called evolution and sophistication, human beings are still, at our core, driven by the same baser instincts as our ancestors.

If you, as a woman think you’re immune: how many times have you checked out the guy in the fancy car or who you just learned is a high-roller in the financial world?

You may find yourself less concerned with appearance than with more practical matters, such as what kind of lifestyle he could provide or the exotic vacations you might be able to enjoy together.

This all goes back to women seeking a stable partner who will be able to defend and provide for the family. Even if you don’t plan on having kids or already have them, the rich, mysterious, successful guy is intriguing. If he’s good looking so much the better. But that may not be your priority.

For men, the primordial instincts are also still at play, but very different ones. He doesn’t care how much you earn, if you’re a successful business woman, have a great ride or a second home on the Riviera. He is more attracted by your appearance. Why? Because his hard-wired programming tells him to seek and mate with women who have good physical proportions, thereby able to pass on strong, healthy genes, carry a child to full term and who are able to deliver adequate milk while nursing. These of course all occur below the conscious mind.

So, once he finds and marries that perfect woman, (which might be you), why does he eventually get bored and begin sneaking around?

Because, that is also part of his natural programming. You see, Nature doesn’t care if you’re married, engaged, have children already, or a marital contract. All Nature is concerned with is perpetuating the species. That is accomplished through testosterone and sex drive. Men are driven to have as many partners as possible. Yes, if most men could, they would have two, three or more women to mate with.

On a practical level of course, that would be a disaster for him, because he would then have to buy houses for each one, have kids with each one and keep them all sexually and economically satisfied. He’d be too worn out to enjoy his harem. But nonetheless, his little head tells him, this would be the greatest thing ever! That is until his current partner finds out about the other one(s), then suddenly, he declares the whole thing was a mistake..

Movies like “Fatal Attraction” shocked many men, by revealing what could really happen when they allow their “little head” to do the thinking. For some, this was enough to scare them straight. But for most males the lure of the next sexual conquest is so strong, they cannot resist it. The future of the entire human race depends on them pollinating as many flowers as possible, (or so instinct leads them to believe). It may not be fair, you may not like it, but this is the real psychology behind cheaters and womanizers.

So, it sounds pretty hopeless for women seeking a good man that will be faithful. Right? No, not necessarily. It all comes down to maturity. We all have these biological drives and desires and if allowed to rule our lives, they will get us in trouble every time. The mature man, (and woman), realizes this and is aware of his programming, but chooses a higher calling. Men who have spent extended periods as bachelors, having partner after partner, living for sex and conquest, describe the monotony of it all. Eventually he comes to a point where he can’t remember the names, the experiences, the scents, the feelings. It eventually all runs together and adds up to nothing. At the end of the day, he’s alone, with no one to care for and no one who cares for him. Sex becomes a recreational activity he uses to drown out the hollow sound of his own loneliness and the insignificance of his life.

But, unfortunately, many men need to have a period like this in their lives, to realize that it leads nowhere. Until then, they fantasize about new, exciting, sexual adventures and allow themselves to be led by their hormones rather than their rational mind.

Other factors to keep in mind are: men, like women, become stressed with all their responsibilities, they lament the loss of their hair and their youth, etc. Unlike women however, that cannot kibitz about it with their friends. Men have trouble opening up. If they try to talk to their buddies about their issues, they’ll just get shut down:

“Dude, I’m not your therapist. Chin up and deal!"

The only other outlets they have are team sports or drinking with their buddies to dull the pain. But these only provide short term relief. An affair on the other hand boosts their ego, gets their mind off of everyday annoyances and gives them someone to talk to besides their wife or girlfriend, who they are loathe to confide in out of fear that they will be judged.

If you are a woman seeking a man who will see and value your unique qualities, you must narrow your search to men who have sowed their oats, learned from the experience and have chosen meaning over serial conquest.

Additionally, you want one who has done a fair amount of living and found more effective ways of dealing with his stress.

OK, maybe not him, but you know what I mean.

He needs to have hobbies or passions that occupy his mind and transport him from the trials of daily life. How to identify such a man takes time and practice. If you’re getting serious, ask a lot of questions, listen carefully to his answers. People will tell you all you need to know, if you give them enough time.

If you’re currently with a man who seems to be losing interest in you, there may be nothing you can do. But if he has positive traits that you value, you might want to try to keep him around. Evaluate the stimulation of your relationship.

Has sex become perfunctory? Have you allowed your appearance to decline? Perhaps he just needs mental stimulation. Consider an activity you can do together that will bring more joy and intimacy into your lives.

Men will always be visual creatures and will be fighting their urge to look at a sexy girl walking by, whether they’re 17 or 70. Just because he does, doesn’t mean he’s falling out of love with you. You may love the man, but don’t forget his animal nature. Both of you will struggle to find a balance between these disparate poles. When the two of you finally reach that understanding and you come to accept his wandering eye, he will be more willing to support your passion for shoes, purses and jewelry.

-Shane Mathias

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08/11/2015

Thank you for visiting Men Decoded. The goal of this content is to enlighten women on the sometimes confusing behavior of men, what drives them, how they think, how to pick a good one and how to create and maintain a great relationship with them.

We will enjoy a no-holds-barred discussion that covers every topic from sex to finances, work to psychology. I look forward to receiving your questions and feedback.

In a small rural village, word spread that a man had arrived, seemingly out of no where, claiming to be a Prophet. People began asking him questions regarding the mysteries of life and he revealed many truths and enlightened many souls with his words.

One woman in the crowd, who was coming of age to be wed asked the wise man: "Tell me of Men. Why do their ways seem so strange?"

The people gathered there first began to laugh at her question, but quickly became quiet as the sage proceeded to reveal the inner Nature of Men.

The Prophet said:

"Men are very much the same today, as they were one-hundred thousand years ago. Nature has instilled them with an ability to focus keenly on an objective. Their passions are powerful and when they set their intention on something or someone, they can expend limitless energy in the achievement of their goals. This quality of passion served man well in earlier times, when food had to be hunted, when his sexual drive was not limited by societal restraints and when his home needed to be protected from marauders and neighboring tribes. The successful man of that time honed his warlike skills, cared for his weapons and provided for his family.

Humankind began spreading out and covering the globe about ten-thousand years ago and competition for land, game and women became fierce. Concurrently, in many parts of the world, agriculture was being developed. It was now possible not only to have grains and vegetables available for an entire village, some of the harvest could feed livestock, making hunting and foraging skills virtually obsolete.

Soon, it became clear that some men now had the time and inclination to develop different skills, such as painting stories on cave walls, innovating ways to communicate with symbols and creating valuable items for trade to neighboring villages. Yet most men found it difficult to live this new settled life. In their dreams they imagined themselves still bravely hunting wild game and defeating other warriors. To them, this was their one and only purpose, their inner drive was to conquer, to become strong and admired.

Today, the descendants of these men are still amongst us. They seek competition, battle and glory but society and laws constrain this type of behavior. So men must find other outlets to satisfy their deepest desires. They play and watch games of simulated war, they purchase weapons to hunt down animals, even when food is plentiful, they buy fast machines in an effort to compete with one another, they lift heavy weights over and over, building their muscles in an attempt to appear intimidating, they act out in all sorts aggressive ways to address what their deep biological programming dictates. Some even feel the need to leave their family, job and home to fight in far away lands, without fully understanding the nature of the conflict.

These are the baser instincts of men. They are for the most part admirable traits that have allowed mankind to endure many challenges over the millennia, yet still thrive. These are the qualities that compel men to rush into a burning building, when common sense would suggest to run the other way. Yet they proceed without fear or concern for their personal safety, driven by the chance to save another life. These are the firemen, the police, the security guards, the men who wield tons of steel every day at dizzying heights, to construct massive buildings where many live and work.

These are the heroes of all kinds that rise aloft on wings of courage.

But those same qualities of competition and willingness to confront danger may compel some men to commit crimes, to injure or kill others out of anger or frustration. This is the nefarious side of glory: seeking to injure or eliminate through violence, perceived opponents: individuals or groups who represent oppression (a type of passive war).This is what happens when a young man's energy is not channeled and encouraged by lessons and example to be utilized in the pursuit of good rather than evil.

Many of the men you see around you today are decendents of early warriors, hunters and defenders. But evolution has tamed the warlike nature of some men. In fact, so much so that they have begun to acquire more feminine characteristics. Society's imperative to rein in the aggressiveness of men has resulted in new strains of the male gender that are suited to more intellectual pursuits and some that are just plain lazy. The rise of women in the home and place of work has also had a dampening effect on the collective psyche of men. Many quietly wonder if they are becoming obsolete in a world where women can even bare children without having a man in their lives. Men are complicit in this - handing over their seed in exchange for a small remuneration, unwittingly relegating man-kind to even greater irrelevance.

Young lady, when you decide to settle down with a man, remember, deep inside of him resides his warlike ancestors. Much of his mysterious behavior results from his lack of control over his own deep impulses. He is in many ways, like a wild beast who has been forced to don the trappings of civility for generations. He struggles, he copes, yet sometimes his instincts get the better of him. Yet he is quite simple and pure of heart.

Treat him with respect, admire and encourage his demonstrations of strength and restraint. Feed his passions with good food and boundless affection and with any luck, he will find the right balance between the warrior that he was and the gentleman he is trying to become."

-S.E. Mathias

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