Commitment To Goals Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Change Your Mind Sometimes

so recently Liz and I and you hear a lot
about Liz she’s one of my really good friends and she’s on the same kind of
journey as Mina finding life finding mmm our true passions working with our true
passions and and passive income etc so so because I have a lot of these
conversations on on FaceTime or Skype or or or text and I just I don’t allow
these trigger something in me and I believe if it sure is something in me I
I believe it can help my readers and and my and the people who watch this video
so one of the things that we were discussing recently is fear of starting
now um the problem with with stirring something one of the main problems i
find is that as a commitment-phobe i feel like if i start something that
means i have to stick with it for the rest of my life it’s obviously I haven’t
been told about anyone a lot of project I work on aren’t really even a parent to
the public I do it on my own in my own on my own spare time no one will ever
see those projects will find out about it but it’s just something that I think
we’ve been told as children is that if you start something you have to end it
if you start something you have to stick with it for the rest of your life if you
start something you can’t give up halfway now I’m not saying that you just
give up every single time you start something obviously some things you’ll
start and you’ll realize oh you know what I don’t actually really like this I
don’t want to do this for the rest of my life or even for another time so you
give up on it some things you get your giving it up because it’s uncomfortable
and that’s something that you have to kind of stick through because
discomforts actually growth so obviously different things are you know they have
different connotations to different people so I’m not gonna say this is
applicable to everything but one of the things that Liz was having a hard time
was bit was with she wanted to start something with some artists that she was
working with but she was worried that if she starts this then this is it you know
she’s in her 30s then means that she has to do this for the rest of her life is
maybe 50 years more and that is just not right you know
people nowadays change their career every seven years you people that were
you know they’ve never tried slobbering they start snoring when in their 60s and
may become really proficient at it there are people who are who are lawyers who
quit quit become put all of their their jobs that all their schooling and they
become writers you know so nothing is forever nothing is permanent nothing is
perfect so you will start off something and you it will be perfect for you in
that moment in time it meant you’re meant to do that in that particular
moment in time that’s what was meant to happen that is what he did and that is
perfect in that moment in time a year later two years later ten years later
you realize hmm I’m a different person now I’ve learned and grown I’ve changed
I want to do something different i’m going to try something different it’s
the same thing what happens with a relationship right you start off a
certain way you’re you’re looking in the same direction you are you’re supposed
to be together you are meant to be together you are you have the same goals
the same aspirations you’re you’re you know you’re compatible but what happens
is over time you grow some people go together they they are they still have
the same goals and obviously they still stick together but other people they
realize that you know I’ve grown apart from this person because I’m different
and they’re they’re different and we just are not looking in the same
direction anymore we’re not moving towards the same direction we’re moving
apart from each other and so then they even believe each other it’s the same
thing with the projects that you might start things that you do just because
you spend ten years in school studying something doesn’t mean that after five
or six years of doing that you can’t you can’t blow all right you know what I’ve
done this I’ve tried it I liked it I while I was doing it but now it’s time
for me to move on to something different so it sort this kind of this thing where
you tell yourself you know what this is not the end I can I can do this I can do
this for the next three or four years or whatever time frame it might be and then
I can move to something different it kind of gives you a sense of relief
you know as soon I told lies that you know you don’t have to stick that with
this wherever this is just what you’re doing right now it was as if she just
suddenly relaxed and realized right this is not forever I can do this for as long
as I wish as long as I want to do it as long as it feels good it feels right and
then man doesn’t feel good anymore if it doesn’t feel right anymore if you if you
are if you realize not interested in any more then you move on to something
different this is the good thing about living in a world where you are so free
to do whatever you wish that you don’t need to eat focus on all these other
things you don’t need to worry about whether people are thinking you don’t
need to worry about you know parents society what they might say because
nothing matters the only thing that matters is your own happiness and so if
you’re if you’re interested do it if you’re not don’t do it change it move to
a different place um a big off your relationship whatever might be you know
that you’re thinking of so nothing is forever and that kind of when i tell my
coaching clients as well they just it kind of relaxes them because they
realize okay this is not the end-all of be all I am NOT stuck with this forever
if I don’t like it I can do something else and so you’re able to start with a
sense of freedom where you have more flexibility you don’t you’re not stuck
to the specific item and you’re able to start a little bit easier you’re less
hard on yourself and starting from that you know relax place is so much better
than starting from a place where you’re scared and anxious and and worried about
the future so taking it at one day at a time taking it one minute at a time when
are the time whatever you wish so I hope that something in this video trick or
something in you and you were able to you know you you’re able to use any of
these learnings to apply things in your own life but if you do need any help
with coaching or with your life golden egg anyway I’m obviously here on my
website is the Millennial life coach calm and I’m always always always
looking forward to hear from you even if you’re not interested
if you just want to have a conversation please message me I’m always always
willing to listen mommy’s willing to talk to anyone so I’m signing off now
but i hope i hope that you will stick around and listen to more of my videos
and in the future thank you