I strongly recommend nxserver. It gives the best out of the box, no manual init expereince so far.
I am pressed for time but if you search on this and my name you should find my doc (in the forum) on how to install it.

Hey inmsweantitrust, How did you get it too run during startup? i added that line too /etc/xbmc/live.d/11-x11vnc.sh without success... if i ssh manully it works fine but never works during start up..... I have had this working many times before but i cant for the life off me remember what i did :/

(2012-07-26 01:14)edhen Wrote: Hey inmsweantitrust, How did you get it too run during startup? i added that line too /etc/xbmc/live.d/11-x11vnc.sh without success... if i ssh manully it works fine but never works during start up..... I have had this working many times before but i cant for the life off me remember what i did :/

I created a new script in /etc/init.d/ then did sudo update-rc.d <script>