You are not eating for two!

From:
DufusMaguire

To: MMQContrary

Posted: Jul-04 12:53 PM (62 of 263)

I'm 43 with a 6 week old baby. I walked out of hospital weighing less than before I fell pregnant. With my first, 23 years ago I put on excessive weight. It was different this time because I am more aware of nutrition and exercise being beneficial not only for my baby but for me and my psychological health. Plus I knew that had I put on too much fat, it would be so much harder to lose at my age.

I'm 43 with a 6 week old baby. I walked out of hospital weighing less than before I fell pregnant. With my first, 23 years ago I put on excessive weight. It was different this time because I am more aware of nutrition and exercise being beneficial not only for my baby but for me and my psychological health. Plus I knew that had I put on too much fat, it would be so much harder to lose at my age.

Sure, I want to lose some weight, but I've lost all but 2 lbs I gained, which was 30, without trying. Just by being me. And I'm 29. I disagree on older vs. younger. I believe it has everythig to do with what you looked like pre-pregnancy, not necessarily how you eat during. Also, metabolism is higher during pregnancy, so your theory of young people with already faster metabolisms can generally eat for 2 and have little problem.

Sure, I want to lose some weight, but I've lost all but 2 lbs I gained, which was 30, without trying. Just by being me. And I'm 29. I disagree on older vs. younger. I believe it has everythig to do with what you looked like pre-pregnancy, not necessarily how you eat during. Also, metabolism is higher during pregnancy, so your theory of young people with already faster metabolisms can generally eat for 2 and have little problem.

You know since this is the perfect place to ask, for women who had a lot of water weight swelling, how long did it take to go away? I don't have pre e or anything, but I do have pretty bad edema in my legs. My ankles are a distant memory at this point. It is kinda fun to press down on a point and leave a dent though.

You know since this is the perfect place to ask, for women who had a lot of water weight swelling, how long did it take to go away? I don't have pre e or anything, but I do have pretty bad edema in my legs. My ankles are a distant memory at this point. It is kinda fun to press down on a point and leave a dent though.

In general, I agree that you are not eating for two and it shouldn't be a free-for-all, but I don't think it's divided between old and young.

Younger people with higher metabolisms should theoretically lose all the weight fast as well, once their eating returns to "for one", right?

The bigger you are (in general) the less you need to gain. You can kind of live off of your hump, no matter your age. If you are smaller, you generally are able to (and sometimes should) gain more.

The first time around, I was advised to gain 25-35 lbs. I gained 29. I lost it all relatively quickly when I wanted to. This time, I was told to gain 30-40. So far I have gained one. Your body will do what it needs, as long as you do not get out of control.

I think that most people have to work (or just pay attention) to lose the weight, old or young.

It depends on a lot of things.

In general, I agree that you are not eating for two and it shouldn't be a free-for-all, but I don't think it's divided between old and young.

Younger people with higher metabolisms should theoretically lose all the weight fast as well, once their eating returns to "for one", right?

The bigger you are (in general) the less you need to gain. You can kind of live off of your hump, no matter your age. If you are smaller, you generally are able to (and sometimes should) gain more.

The first time around, I was advised to gain 25-35 lbs. I gained 29. I lost it all relatively quickly when I wanted to. This time, I was told to gain 30-40. So far I have gained one. Your body will do what it needs, as long as you do not get out of control.

I think that most people have to work (or just pay attention) to lose the weight, old or young.

With a body belt I walked out of hospital 2 days after my baby was born wearing my pre-preggo jeans. I was wearing them when I went in for my emergency c section with a rubber band around the button. I have put ON 4 kilos since coming home from hospital and put the blame for yhat on my boobage.:D

With a body belt I walked out of hospital 2 days after my baby was born wearing my pre-preggo jeans. I was wearing them when I went in for my emergency c section with a rubber band around the button. I have put ON 4 kilos since coming home from hospital and put the blame for yhat on my boobage.:D

With my first, I was 20 years old and I ate like crap. Jack in the Box, pizza... fast food all the time. I gained 35lbs and I looked good and could wear my old clothes 5 months later without working out at all while pregnant or after.

With my 2nd, I was 26, smarter, and more inclined to be healthy. I ate right 99% of the time and exercised. Started swelling up at around 6 months and my feet got so fat and painful that I could barely walk. I gained 60 pounds. It took me more than 2 months to lose it because the water and swelling didn't all leave with the baby - I was still swollen (not as badly, but it was still there) 6 months later. Took forever because my metabolism had started to crap out with my age. Oh, and I was still breastfeeding (for 20 months) which for some people causes weight to drop off, but for me my body holds on to the weight like Im going to starve myself any minute.

With my 3rd, I had FINALLY started to make a good amount of progress with weight from my 2nd and I got pregnant again. I was eating healthy with good portions, but to lose weight I HAVE to exercise now, I can't lose by diet alone anymore. About 4 months into it I sprained my ankle and was layed up. When that finally healed, I had about a month where I could move around again and then I got sciatica, AND a muscle in my thigh seized up so my leg would randomly give out. I basically spent my last 3 months of pregnancy on the couch with an ice pack and a heating pad, switching them from back to leg every so often. My leg and back are still bothering me, though I have started exercising again, certain exercises send a shooting pain all the way down that leg and other exercises or positions cause a part of my back to go numb. I have to go easy on it, so it's probably going to be a while.

I made this tl;dr post to show that it wasn't just laziness or overeating that caused me to gain more weight than is recommended. Also, it takes 9 months to put on all the weight you gain, so I don't think it's unreasonable that it would take more than 2 months to get it off. Good for you for going back to normal so quickly though. Yay you!

With my first, I was 20 years old and I ate like crap. Jack in the Box, pizza... fast food all the time. I gained 35lbs and I looked good and could wear my old clothes 5 months later without working out at all while pregnant or after.

With my 2nd, I was 26, smarter, and more inclined to be healthy. I ate right 99% of the time and exercised. Started swelling up at around 6 months and my feet got so fat and painful that I could barely walk. I gained 60 pounds. It took me more than 2 months to lose it because the water and swelling didn't all leave with the baby - I was still swollen (not as badly, but it was still there) 6 months later. Took forever because my metabolism had started to crap out with my age. Oh, and I was still breastfeeding (for 20 months) which for some people causes weight to drop off, but for me my body holds on to the weight like Im going to starve myself any minute.

With my 3rd, I had FINALLY started to make a good amount of progress with weight from my 2nd and I got pregnant again. I was eating healthy with good portions, but to lose weight I HAVE to exercise now, I can't lose by diet alone anymore. About 4 months into it I sprained my ankle and was layed up. When that finally healed, I had about a month where I could move around again and then I got sciatica, AND a muscle in my thigh seized up so my leg would randomly give out. I basically spent my last 3 months of pregnancy on the couch with an ice pack and a heating pad, switching them from back to leg every so often. My leg and back are still bothering me, though I have started exercising again, certain exercises send a shooting pain all the way down that leg and other exercises or positions cause a part of my back to go numb. I have to go easy on it, so it's probably going to be a while.

I made this tl;dr post to show that it wasn't just laziness or overeating that caused me to gain more weight than is recommended. Also, it takes 9 months to put on all the weight you gain, so I don't think it's unreasonable that it would take more than 2 months to get it off. Good for you for going back to normal so quickly though. Yay you!

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Judgmental much today? My first pregnancy I was 19/20 years old and in a size 10. I gained 55 lbs and had pre e. Most of the weight gain was water. I never got a big belly...I wore a size 12 to deliver. I left the hospital in a size 8. Second pregnancy I gained six lbs until my 32 wk. Then I got pre e and hellp and gained a lot of weight at the end. And you know what? I'm two yes pp and still haven't lost the six lbs. Truthfully I think it gas more to do with the fact that I recently weaned and less to do with age or food I eat.

Judgmental much today? My first pregnancy I was 19/20 years old and in a size 10. I gained 55 lbs and had pre e. Most of the weight gain was water. I never got a big belly...I wore a size 12 to deliver. I left the hospital in a size 8. Second pregnancy I gained six lbs until my 32 wk. Then I got pre e and hellp and gained a lot of weight at the end. And you know what? I'm two yes pp and still haven't lost the six lbs. Truthfully I think it gas more to do with the fact that I recently weaned and less to do with age or food I eat.

Its possible? It could also be related to how many pregnancies you have had as well. Also thinner women are more likely to gain more weight than overweight women, because they are expected to.

I was 21 when I got pregnant and gained 45 lbs. I worked out almost every day a week (as usual) up until 6 months. I gained all the weight at the end, I think it could be related to when I was put on strict bed rest. :( I ate my usual diet, with the exception of a whole lot of halloween chocolates (damn things) lol

Postpartum I went down 25lbs almost instantely. It was the other 20 lbs that took ages to get rid of. Weight loss from pregnancy was somehow different than regular weight gain.

Its possible? It could also be related to how many pregnancies you have had as well. Also thinner women are more likely to gain more weight than overweight women, because they are expected to.

I was 21 when I got pregnant and gained 45 lbs. I worked out almost every day a week (as usual) up until 6 months. I gained all the weight at the end, I think it could be related to when I was put on strict bed rest. :( I ate my usual diet, with the exception of a whole lot of halloween chocolates (damn things) lol

Postpartum I went down 25lbs almost instantely. It was the other 20 lbs that took ages to get rid of. Weight loss from pregnancy was somehow different than regular weight gain.

what a load of judgmental bs. I'm 23 so a relatively young-ish mum and to quote how my df described my eating habits during pregnancy, I wasn't eating for two I was eating for octuplets. I - was - effing - ravenous, still am now I'm bf, just not as bad. Now I gained about 15-20kg, which is 5-10kg over the "ideal" gain, but Sierra is only four weeks and I have already lost it all and my baby is perfectly healthy. So how much Someone gains and their age and what they eat and how fast they loose it have nothing to do with each other, nor does it really matter, the babies health is what matters and I'm glad I didn't put my weight before my babies health.

what a load of judgmental bs. I'm 23 so a relatively young-ish mum and to quote how my df described my eating habits during pregnancy, I wasn't eating for two I was eating for octuplets. I - was - effing - ravenous, still am now I'm bf, just not as bad. Now I gained about 15-20kg, which is 5-10kg over the "ideal" gain, but Sierra is only four weeks and I have already lost it all and my baby is perfectly healthy. So how much Someone gains and their age and what they eat and how fast they loose it have nothing to do with each other, nor does it really matter, the babies health is what matters and I'm glad I didn't put my weight before my babies health.

Newsflash - you dont get to dictate to anyone how much they should eat."This is a deflection technique. You are trying to remove the focus of the discussion from the element of what is a healthy weight gain and how that is achieved to a finger pointing of personal rights. I don't give a sh`t how you choose to eat during your pregnancy. I don't care how anyone chooses to eat. But I'm not going to blow sunshine and roses up your ass and tell you its all the same. It isn't.

No dear this isnt a deflection technique. What you dont seem to understand is that for you the focus of the discussion is on healthy weight gain. It actually is my personal right to call out someone for such a ridiculously inflamatory post. The topic is not 'hot' in my opinion. I'mm allowed to think that. I to dont give a sh!t what people gain during pregnancy either. I gained 28lbs, lost 25lbs and and now back up to 28lbs over pre pregnancy weight. So what? If someone dared to tell me what they thought was healthy weight when I was pregnant I'd have slapped them. I educated myself fully when pregnant and am well aware what the medical profession advises. If I'd gained more I couldnt have cared. I'm the mum, I'll manage my pregnancy in my way. Likewise other mothers have the same priviledge regardless of what others including judgy mcjudgerson think. And IMO it is entirely unecessary for op to post such poorly thought out insulting garbage whilst simultaneously trying to shove in there how controlled and conscientious she was.

Newsflash - you dont get to dictate to anyone how much they should eat."This is a deflection technique. You are trying to remove the focus of the discussion from the element of what is a healthy weight gain and how that is achieved to a finger pointing of personal rights. I don't give a sh`t how you choose to eat during your pregnancy. I don't care how anyone chooses to eat. But I'm not going to blow sunshine and roses up your ass and tell you its all the same. It isn't.

No dear this isnt a deflection technique. What you dont seem to understand is that for you the focus of the discussion is on healthy weight gain. It actually is my personal right to call out someone for such a ridiculously inflamatory post. The topic is not 'hot' in my opinion. I'mm allowed to think that. I to dont give a sh!t what people gain during pregnancy either. I gained 28lbs, lost 25lbs and and now back up to 28lbs over pre pregnancy weight. So what? If someone dared to tell me what they thought was healthy weight when I was pregnant I'd have slapped them. I educated myself fully when pregnant and am well aware what the medical profession advises. If I'd gained more I couldnt have cared. I'm the mum, I'll manage my pregnancy in my way. Likewise other mothers have the same priviledge regardless of what others including judgy mcjudgerson think. And IMO it is entirely unecessary for op to post such poorly thought out insulting garbage whilst simultaneously trying to shove in there how controlled and conscientious she was.

It's amazing to me that in your pp your only concern was gaining enough weight so you could lose it quickly after baby's birth. Never once did you say that you ate healthy and tried to maintain your weight so your baby may have a healthy delivery, or anything having to do with your baby. Your whole outlook sounds very ignorant, and drs only tell patients to stop eating or lower their calorie intake because they've gained too much weight already. As women weight is a constant thought for us, as pregnant women, it's in our heads constantly. I've had tons of complications this pregnancy and one of them is GD. I've gained 21lbs in 35 weeks. Even though it's only 21 lbs, there's not one day that goes by that I don't think about how my body has changed. I don't think that you have a right to judge anyone...

It's amazing to me that in your pp your only concern was gaining enough weight so you could lose it quickly after baby's birth. Never once did you say that you ate healthy and tried to maintain your weight so your baby may have a healthy delivery, or anything having to do with your baby. Your whole outlook sounds very ignorant, and drs only tell patients to stop eating or lower their calorie intake because they've gained too much weight already. As women weight is a constant thought for us, as pregnant women, it's in our heads constantly. I've had tons of complications this pregnancy and one of them is GD. I've gained 21lbs in 35 weeks. Even though it's only 21 lbs, there's not one day that goes by that I don't think about how my body has changed. I don't think that you have a right to judge anyone...

Some women (myself included) gained about 30 lbs in pure water weight while being pregnant.

Same here. My first two pregnancies I gained 60 pounds EACH. The bulk of that was water retention. I had no problem peeing out the weight and was down to pre-pregnancy weight within three months both times. I didn't have any complications either (no pre-E or anything like that), I just retained water like a camel.

This time around I can still see my ankle bones at 34 weeks and my weight gain is considered "normal." Every pregnancy is different!

Some women (myself included) gained about 30 lbs in pure water weight while being pregnant.

Same here. My first two pregnancies I gained 60 pounds EACH. The bulk of that was water retention. I had no problem peeing out the weight and was down to pre-pregnancy weight within three months both times. I didn't have any complications either (no pre-E or anything like that), I just retained water like a camel.

This time around I can still see my ankle bones at 34 weeks and my weight gain is considered "normal." Every pregnancy is different!

The recommended pregnancy weight gain typically varies based upon the woman's starting weight, under weight is up to 40 pounds whereas as obese is as little as 10 pounds. I was over weight and my doctor said 20-25 pounds (my max was 22) and I was at my pre-pregnancy weight at 2 weeks and back in my pre-preggo clothes at 1 month. I was 34 years old at delivery, but I don't think that my age was the difference. I think it was my willpower and perspective.

I do agree with some of the previous posters, after 8 weeks post delivery what you haven't lost is probably excess weight gain. I'm sure that there are some exceptions especially for those who had complications, huge water gain or multiples and that the excess weight (especially for those who are underweight pre-pregnancy) may not be bad. I hated people asking me about weight gain when I was pregnant and make a point to steer away from that question with my pregnant family and friends.

Edit: added thought

The recommended pregnancy weight gain typically varies based upon the woman's starting weight, under weight is up to 40 pounds whereas as obese is as little as 10 pounds. I was over weight and my doctor said 20-25 pounds (my max was 22) and I was at my pre-pregnancy weight at 2 weeks and back in my pre-preggo clothes at 1 month. I was 34 years old at delivery, but I don't think that my age was the difference. I think it was my willpower and perspective.

I do agree with some of the previous posters, after 8 weeks post delivery what you haven't lost is probably excess weight gain. I'm sure that there are some exceptions especially for those who had complications, huge water gain or multiples and that the excess weight (especially for those who are underweight pre-pregnancy) may not be bad. I hated people asking me about weight gain when I was pregnant and make a point to steer away from that question with my pregnant family and friends.

I gained 25 pounds and I hardly ate anything. I had a big baby and retained a ton of water.I was sick my entire pregnancy. I didn't eat everything in sight. All food made me sick and not eating made me sick. And I was 24.

I gained 25 pounds and I hardly ate anything. I had a big baby and retained a ton of water.I was sick my entire pregnancy. I didn't eat everything in sight. All food made me sick and not eating made me sick. And I was 24.

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