I love him - he's with someone else

We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.

Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old FemaleI've been seeing this guy for a year now and I feel that I really do love him. I've done so many things for this man and we talk everyday. The only problem is that he's already put a ring on someone else's finger, long before we knew each other. He's 24 now and I'm 17. He tells me that he loves me and that we're going to be together as soon as I turn 18. Is he just playing with me? How should I go about letting go of him?

User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old MaleDo less harm

what if the guy wants to leave his wife but has to do it slowly as not to hurt her as well. sometimes love dies out. why stay together. yet do it in a way that doesn't hurt the wife.