Thenkuzhal

This is the longest hiatus I have taken from my blog I think. Ashwin is now 2 years old; though he adamantly claims he is 3. He talks a ton. He clearly tells me who his friends are- it is so cute when he says appa friend, amma friend. We try to introduce new healthy foods as much as possible. But last night he chose murukku over spinach rotis. It is a delight to watch as he enjoys snacks I make for him. The effort of standing in front of the hot stove is worth it when he smiles ...

Becoming a Family

November is national adoption month, let’s all try to educate ourselves better on this topic.
Your baby looks just like you!! We know you mean well, but really we are not as beautiful as our little fellow. He makes our family look beautiful
Where is his real mother?? Seriously, we are all “real” None of us are playing house here. My son has two mothers, the one who birthed him and the one who is raising him. Trust me, we are both as real as can be.
You still keep in touch with them? Why? Did you think we will forget all about ...

Becoming a Family

November is national adoption month, let’s all try to educate ourselves better on this topic.
Your baby looks just like you!! We know you mean well, but really we are not as beautiful as our little fellow. He makes our family look beautiful
Where is his real mother?? Seriously, we are all “real” None of us are playing house here. My son has two mothers, the one who birthed him and the one who is raising him. Trust me, we are both as real as can be.
You still keep in touch with them? Why? Did you think we will forget all about ...

Our Thanks on National Adoption Day

Today is National Adoption Day and this month we see a lot of posts from folks giving thanks for a bunch of reasons starting from thanks to starbucks to thanking their mom. My cousin thanked the chicken that was sacrificed for a scrumptious thanksgiving meal two years ago.
Every day of our lives for the last two years, we have thanked two souls who have given us the immense wealth of parenthood. Ashwin tugs my heart strings when he calls out to me in his sleep. The word amma means so much to me now than ever. Rajesh & I talk ...

Dear Mom

Happy Mother’s day to each and every one of you – to mothers and mothers to be. Last year this time, I had lost all hope of ever being a mother and tried to stop obsessing about being a mother and paid tribute to the moms in my life. I felt terrific after the post and maybe just a small spark of hope. Today it is a reality, I am a MOM. I feel like shouting from a roof top that I am a mom too. There are no words to describe how I feel when Ashwin smiles at me ...

Coconut Rice

I know I know I know, it has been almost a year since we posted. While cooking has been my therapy, I have not had the mind to sit down and write a post. A lot of things happened in 2014. Ashwin turned 4, my dad passed away. I am slowly trying to focus only on the positive side of things. Ashwin is a riot to be around, a super picky eater, loves fruits, will run a mile away from rice and yet loves his idly and dosas, asks his teachers if his water is gluten free with a straight ...

Our Journey to Parenthood

Where should we start? When rice was showered on us while we were tying the knot and blessed to bring grand children to our parent’s lives? Or when I was about 12 years old and read a story on adoption and the only thing I wanted to do when I grow up was to adopt? We become mommies to our little cousins at our 3 day weddings when aunts would happily hand over the little ones to us the younger cousins who loved playing house house.
Questions started popping here and there about when we plan on having a child. While ...

Chicken Biriyani

Ashwin is now 7.5 months old and he is growing fast. He has started crawling, standing up and squeals with delight when he sees us after his nap or when R comes home from work. While everyone is happy for us, they are also concerned about our, “open adoption”. I decided to talk about it a little bit. A few questions we get asked
1. Do you “have” to keep in touch with Ashwin’s birth family?
Yes, that is a choice we made. In our opinion, Ashwin needs to know where he came from. And it is only healthy that we talk ...