Missed Miscarriage

I had two mc before becoming pregnant with my DD. Both were relatively early and I knew I was mc’ing because I was bleeding.

So two weeks ago or so I had several positive pregnancy tests. Then did a predictor one on Wednesday there and had a negative. Checked again on a strip and it was negative. Went to the early pregnancy unit who confirmed mc and said I should bleed naturally soon. I asked how long I should wait and she said ‘don’t worry the cramps will start soon for you’

So it’s now been four days since the negative test and I’m still not bleeding. How long should I wait before going back to docs? I am concerned I could get an infection or something, or is that ridiculous? It’s also making me anxious as I know I’ve lost the baby so I just want to get the whole bleeding stuff out the way!

Any advice is appreciated. And I wish everyone luck trying for their rainbow babies! Xx

Comments (7)

Sorry for your loss. I had a MMC in March at 8w and wanted natural management to start with. I ended up waiting 10 days and nothing happened so I chose to go in for surgical management as I just wanted to over with at that point and could begin to move on. If you’re concerned or want to look at alternative options, speak to your GP or EPU. I’m surprised your EPU didn’t give you more info on the options and ask how you wanted to manage it. Good luck whatever option you choose xx

Hi, I'm sorry your going through this. In 2011 I had my first pregnancy with my husband. I had had a positive test and I was about 5 weeks, a week after I randomly decided to test again for no reason at all, the test was just lying about. It was negative but I didn't think anything of it knowing you could get false negatives. I began bleeding a week to 10 days later. That was my first mc.

Hi, I'm sorry your going through this. In 2011 I had my first pregnancy w...

Posted
12/05/2018

Hi, I'm sorry your going through this. In 2011 I had my first pregnancy with my husband. I had had a positive test and I was about 5 weeks, a week after I randomly decided to test again for no reason at all, the test was just lying about. It was negative but I didn't think anything of it knowing you could get false negatives. I began bleeding a week to 10 days later. That was my first mc.

Maybe go and see your doctor if still nothing on Monday.

Ok so this sounds like what might happen to me except I think I’m a week further on than that.

Thanks LR for your comment too.

The doctor i saw was so lovely and described medical management as being a pill I would take to induce miscarriage. However she really wanted me not to go down that route yet as she says it’s as painful as labour and everything happens very quickly. I’m happy with seeing how things progress naturally but I wasn’t given any indication of how long it would take. Also playing on my mind (selfishly!) is that it’s my little girls first birthday on 28 May and I really want it over and done with by then.

Ok so this sounds like what might happen to me except I think I’m a week fu...

Posted
12/05/2018

Ok so this sounds like what might happen to me except I think I’m a week further on than that.

Thanks LR for your comment too.

The doctor i saw was so lovely and described medical management as being a pill I would take to induce miscarriage. However she really wanted me not to go down that route yet as she says it’s as painful as labour and everything happens very quickly. I’m happy with seeing how things progress naturally but I wasn’t given any indication of how long it would take. Also playing on my mind (selfishly!) is that it’s my little girls first birthday on 28 May and I really want it over and done with by then.

That's not selfish at all. I started spotting a week before husbands birthday and I knew what was happening I wanted it over too. I mc on his birthday

This wasn’t a planned pregnancy but DD (dear daughter) took 2.5 years to conceive so we weren’t exactly being careful as really what are the chances 🤦🏻‍♀️ But once this is over me and DH (dear husband) will need to have a convo as it’s made me feel want to actively try again. Eeek!

So sorry you're going through this.
I think unfortunately it's the question as how long is a piece of string.
We found out we had a MMC on Tuesday. I should have been 13 weeks but found out baby had died at 9.
The thing that upset me the most is for 4 weeks I'd been walking around.
I opted for medical management which was very quick. I didn't find it painful but I also coped very well whilst in labour with DS.
I didn't feel I could wait any longer but needed the closure of 'giving birth' to my baby.
The lovely ladies at the EPU did say that it can be psychological and many ladies do miscarry naturally after finding out but I didn't want to take that chance.

So sorry you're going through this.
I think unfortunately it's the qu...

Posted
12/05/2018

So sorry you're going through this.
I think unfortunately it's the question as how long is a piece of string.
We found out we had a MMC on Tuesday. I should have been 13 weeks but found out baby had died at 9.
The thing that upset me the most is for 4 weeks I'd been walking around.
I opted for medical management which was very quick. I didn't find it painful but I also coped very well whilst in labour with DS.
I didn't feel I could wait any longer but needed the closure of 'giving birth' to my baby.
The lovely ladies at the EPU did say that it can be psychological and many ladies do miscarry naturally after finding out but I didn't want to take that chance.
I hope whatever you choose it gives you the closure you need x

Thank you. And I’m so sorry for your loss.

I think I’m going to give it until Wednesday and if nothing will phone them. I also had no pain relief in labour with my DD (dear daughter) but it felt worth it as I was getting to meet her!

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