define single mother

Earlier this evening my boyfriend and I touched on the "single mother" subject. I say I'm a single mother, however, according to him I'm not because I'm dating him, ya know, as opposed to not dating anyone. I feed, burp, bathe, change diapers and clothes, stay up all, if not most, of the night to comfort baby, and hold baby damn near 24/7. He holds ezra (baby) for an hour or two while I shower and do a few necessities he won't do. He might hold him if he's crying and I'm cleaning a bottle or I really badly need to eat. Sometimes he talks to Ezra.

Are those things supposed to make him an equal parent? Mind you he isn't the father. Also, he is away from home cus of work from 4am-6:30pm ish.

Am I wrong in declaring myself a single parent?

Earlier this evening my boyfriend and I touched on the "single mother" subject. I say I'm a single mother, however, according to him I'm not because I'm dating him, ya know, as opposed to not dating anyone. I feed, burp, bathe, change diapers and clothes, stay up all, if not most, of the night to comfort baby, and hold baby damn near 24/7. He holds ezra (baby) for an hour or two while I shower and do a few necessities he won't do. He might hold him if he's crying and I'm cleaning a bottle or I really badly need to eat. Sometimes he talks to Ezra.

Are those things supposed to make him an equal parent? Mind you he isn't the father. Also, he is away from home cus of work from 4am-6:30pm ish.

I feel you my boyfriend doesn't help much either .. I for once tried sleeping in but he just let's the baby cry bloody murder that one I can't sleep two I'm not going to let my daughter scream it breaks my heart .. I do feel bad he does work alot but taking care of a baby 24 7 isn't easy either ... I feel like a single parent but he is here and helps once in a while amd he is the father . But for you does he consider the baby as his own ? As parents you are to take equal resoonsibilty I feel like alot of these fathers thinks it's a womens job to do everything for the baby it's not fair I wouldn't say ur a single mommy if he is around but you and I would be the better parents :) super mommies. !!

I feel you my boyfriend doesn't help much either .. I for once tried sleeping in but he just let's the baby cry bloody murder that one I can't sleep two I'm not going to let my daughter scream it breaks my heart .. I do feel bad he does work alot but taking care of a baby 24 7 isn't easy either ... I feel like a single parent but he is here and helps once in a while amd he is the father . But for you does he consider the baby as his own ? As parents you are to take equal resoonsibilty I feel like alot of these fathers thinks it's a womens job to do everything for the baby it's not fair I wouldn't say ur a single mommy if he is around but you and I would be the better parents :) super mommies. !!

I think my husband has been incredible in providing for our needs etc etcAnd also helping for the last week whilst LO and I have been illBUT I wish he would change diapers/bath or just relieve my work moreHe works from home so it feels like he works 24/7 And he runs another business along with his V lazy half brother.I wish that brother would move back to the city and find a proper job! My poor husband works too damn hard whilst I am left - literally - holding the baby!There, vent over, sorryAnd thanks!

I think my husband has been incredible in providing for our needs etc etcAnd also helping for the last week whilst LO and I have been illBUT I wish he would change diapers/bath or just relieve my work moreHe works from home so it feels like he works 24/7 And he runs another business along with his V lazy half brother.I wish that brother would move back to the city and find a proper job! My poor husband works too damn hard whilst I am left - literally - holding the baby!There, vent over, sorryAnd thanks!

Nope, you're not a single mom. You do have some help. Even us married women don't get that much help from our husbands but that doesn't mean that we are single moms. If you marry this guy, he still won't be the baby's father, but he will be your husband because of a piece of paper, does that still make you a single mom, or are you not a single mom because of that piece of paper. If you are living together and he is working to take care of you and Ezra then you are all a family.

Nope, you're not a single mom. You do have some help. Even us married women don't get that much help from our husbands but that doesn't mean that we are single moms. If you marry this guy, he still won't be the baby's father, but he will be your husband because of a piece of paper, does that still make you a single mom, or are you not a single mom because of that piece of paper. If you are living together and he is working to take care of you and Ezra then you are all a family.

I agree. You are a family, and if you feel like a single mom then he's obviously not doing his part. Maybe you should have a talk with him. I don't know him, but maybe he feels disconnected with the baby because it's not his? Or maybe he's just not ready to be a father. Either way, you really should resolve this issue because it won't get any better. Good luck to you.

I agree. You are a family, and if you feel like a single mom then he's obviously not doing his part. Maybe you should have a talk with him. I don't know him, but maybe he feels disconnected with the baby because it's not his? Or maybe he's just not ready to be a father. Either way, you really should resolve this issue because it won't get any better. Good luck to you.

Man, I don't know. If you two live together and he is taking Ezra in as his own then I would say you are not a single mother.Â

If just doing the mothering by yourself counts you as a single mother then I guess I am one, too, even though I'm married. DH has been halfway across the country since our little girl was three days old... But I don't count myself as a "single mother" since I'm married, even though I do everything by myself.

Man, I don't know. If you two live together and he is taking Ezra in as his own then I would say you are not a single mother.Â

If just doing the mothering by yourself counts you as a single mother then I guess I am one, too, even though I'm married. DH has been halfway across the country since our little girl was three days old... But I don't count myself as a "single mother" since I'm married, even though I do everything by myself.

I guess I'm in the minority, but I think that as you're unmarried you for the definition of single mother. But it sounds like you're lucky to not fit the stereotype of a single mother, that is a women doing it 100% on her own. I really do have to hand it to all the women who are doing it in their own, it's hard enough with two people!

I guess I'm in the minority, but I think that as you're unmarried you for the definition of single mother. But it sounds like you're lucky to not fit the stereotype of a single mother, that is a women doing it 100% on her own. I really do have to hand it to all the women who are doing it in their own, it's hard enough with two people!

Single-parent (also lone parent, solo parent and sole parent) is a parent who cares for one or more children without the physical assistance of the other parent in the home. "Single Parenthood" may vary according to the local laws of different nations or regions.

The living and parenting arrangements for single parents are diverse. A number live in households with family, other adults or alone in home, apartments, condos or government assisted housing. When parents separate, one party, usually the primary parent, has the children the majority of the time but secondary or 'non-resident' parents continue to share some type of parenting time and responsibility, to some extent, with their child.[1]

It is a term that is mostly used to suggest that one parent has most of the day to day responsibility in the raising of the child or children. In western society in general, following separation, a child will end up with a 'primary carer' (the main carer, eg in UK over 90% of the time the mother[2]) and a 'secondary carer', normally the father. In the UK, and U.S.A for example, it is widely practiced, that it is in the 'children's best interests' to have both parents' involvement, encourage each parent to respect the other parents in the children's presence and financial help through child support for the parent that carries the most responsibility when parents separate. Any benefits, tax credits and related government-sponsored assistance are given 100% to the primary carer, if the secondary parent does not have the ability to financially care for their child, thus the child falls 300% below the poverty line of society standards, this can be either mother, legal guardian or father

Single-parent (also lone parent, solo parent and sole parent) is a parent who cares for one or more children without the physical assistance of the other parent in the home. "Single Parenthood" may vary according to the local laws of different nations or regions.

The living and parenting arrangements for single parents are diverse. A number live in households with family, other adults or alone in home, apartments, condos or government assisted housing. When parents separate, one party, usually the primary parent, has the children the majority of the time but secondary or 'non-resident' parents continue to share some type of parenting time and responsibility, to some extent, with their child.[1]

It is a term that is mostly used to suggest that one parent has most of the day to day responsibility in the raising of the child or children. In western society in general, following separation, a child will end up with a 'primary carer' (the main carer, eg in UK over 90% of the time the mother[2]) and a 'secondary carer', normally the father. In the UK, and U.S.A for example, it is widely practiced, that it is in the 'children's best interests' to have both parents' involvement, encourage each parent to respect the other parents in the children's presence and financial help through child support for the parent that carries the most responsibility when parents separate. Any benefits, tax credits and related government-sponsored assistance are given 100% to the primary carer, if the secondary parent does not have the ability to financially care for their child, thus the child falls 300% below the poverty line of society standards, this can be either mother, legal guardian or father

Just because you aren't biologically the parent doesn't mean you aren't the dad/mom. Sperm and egg don't make you a parent. Love. Support. Etc make you a parent. If he is in you and lo's life and is even helping some, seems like sperm donor isn't in picture, then he is a parent.

Just because you aren't biologically the parent doesn't mean you aren't the dad/mom. Sperm and egg don't make you a parent. Love. Support. Etc make you a parent. If he is in you and lo's life and is even helping some, seems like sperm donor isn't in picture, then he is a parent.

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