People

PEOPLE – is knowing that you’re significantly influenced by the people around you. Good people bring you up and bad people bring you down. It includes who you choose to admire, read, watch, and listen to. It’s knowing the difference between ‘real’ friends and ‘counterfeit’ ones. It’s also being a good friend, family member, and teammate. People are those who surround you.

How do we coach it? By being an excellent example of what a good friend/coach looks and acts like. Staying committed despite adversity, giving more than what is expected, and inciting others to higher levels.

How would you summarize the message from the assigned video? If you reviewed any of the other videos or stories, what are your takeaways?

THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU

A common response from those who achieve greatness is their acknowledgement that they had great people around them. We believe that means the people above, below, beside, and with you.

a. Above you: good leaders, mentors, bosses, and coaches

b. Below you: people whose role is to support you

c. Beside you: people who are working along side you

d. With you: people who genuinely care about you

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

What are examples of four types of people around you (in sports and life)?

Who are these great people in your life?

How can you make sure they continue to stay “around” you?

3. YOUR PERSONAL “MOUNT RUSHMORE”

Mount Rushmore in South Dakota was sculpted to honor the roles of four U.S. presidents who played a significant role in the development of our country. There are likely people who played a significant role in the development of you.

DISCUSSION QUESTION:

Who would be on your “personal Mount Rushmore” and why are they on it?

4. THE IMPACT OF MOBILE PHONES

The mere pres­ence of mo­bile phones in­hib­ited the de­vel­op­ment of in­ter­per­sonal close­ness and trust. They diminished the ex­tent to which in­di­viduals felt em­pa­thy and understanding from their partners.

- 2016 validation study published by Vir­ginia Tech researchers

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

Why do you think the presence of mobile phones can have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships?

How could you improve your personal results?

5. TRIBALISM

College graduates are beginning to clus­ter to­gether—to work with each other, live near each other, social­ize with each other, marry each other, have chil­dren just like each oth­er’s chil­dren, start­ing a cycle over again. Consequently, they seg­regate from fellow cit­i­zens. They should re­sist this tendency and make spe­cial ef­forts to con­nect with those who have different backgrounds. It’s a shame to go through life with a nar­row range of hu­man in­teractions and all one can learn from those who are dif­fer­ent from ourselves.

But over these last few years this new self-seg­re­gation has taken on a much more wor­ri­some dimension. It’s no longer just a mat­ter of Americans not know­ing and un­der­stand­ing each other. We’ve seen these clus­ters deepen, and harden, un­til sep­a­ra­tion has led to anger, mis­un­der­standing turned into hos­til­ity. At the in­di­vid­ual level, it’s a for­mula for bit­ter­ness and neg­a­tiv­ity. For a self-governing people, it’s poi­son. The grand­est chal­lenge for your lead­er­ship years may well be to re­verse and sur­mount this threat.

Peo­ple have be­gun to use the word “trib­al­ism” to de­scribe this phe­nomenon. To peo­ple who have only known free­dom and self-gov­ern­ment, it’s easy to for­get that trib­al­ism was the way of the world for most of his­tory. An­thro­pol­ogists long ago dis­cov­ered that our hu­manoid an­cestors formed tribes for sur­vival, and re­sponded vi­o­lently to the pres­ence of out­siders. Life in a tribe is easy, in all the wrong ways. You don’t have to think. Whatever the tribe thinks is right, what­ever the other side thinks is wrong. There’s no real re­spon­si­bil­ity; just fol­low what the tribe, and who­ever speaks for it, says to do. The men and women of Handshake America aren’t made for tribes.

Now accepting 2020 Handshake Student applications! Spread the work to coachable junior student-athletes with grit. Information and application on website at: https://www.handshakeamerica.org/students. Due November 15th.

Additional Special Scholarship opportunities will be available toward the end of the year. There may be one specifically for PEOPLE. Be thinking about your practice of PEOPLE and how it impacts success in you and others. Specific application information will be announced in November.

Now accepting 2020 Handshake Coach applications!All returning coaches please apply (follow instructions on the application for the short version) so we have a firm idea of who is planning to return. Please also recruit friends/colleagues/acquaintances. Information and application on website at: https://www.handshakeamerica.org/coaches. Due by October 25th.

VIII. Check-out (either in pairs or with the whole group)(~10 minutes)

What’s one thing you took away from this session?

Do you have room to improve your PEOPLE?

How could you apply what you’ve learned into your daily life in order to practice your PEOPLE?

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