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I had many fond memories of Tim..but one of the first that springs to mind tonight as I sit here thinking about him was in Montreal 2006, Tim leaned forward and whispered in my ear "be at my room at 5pm I have something I want to share with you".I did as I was told and I went off to his room at 5 on the dot, when I went inside the room he had the table set with gourmet cheeses, crackers and a huge slice chocolate cake, and lying beside it was a little card that read:

"I wanted to share these with you Jan because the good things in life always taste better when shared with a friend"

I just hugged him because I couldn't trust myself to speak...I still have the card.

I never had the pleasure of meeting Tim in person, I was not as blessed as some of you that had the opportunity to talk with him in person, yall were truly given a gift by meeting him personally. But as we all know we quickly become attached to each other in these Forums, we come to think of each other as family in the truest sense. We come to love the others on here just as much as our own family, but with this great joy comes heartache when we lose a fellow member such as Tim.

So with this I have been hit hard with Tim's passing. He was a gem here, he was one of a kind and no one will ever be able to fill his shoes. Even when I was on the receiving end of one of his lashings I always respected him.

I think one way to honor him is to acknowledge and appreciate his passion on issues and the sage wisdom he gave us in these threads. For me, a relatively new Pozzie, his 27 years of experience with HIV gave me invaluable insight to life with HIV, everyone one of his posts taught me something. His wisdom was invaluable. I loved hearing about his stories, whether it be about his life in the military, remodelling his bathroom, his cast Iron Griddle, his cars, or the somber early days of the AIDS epidemic.

I take comfort in knowing that now he has shed the pain, wheelchairs and scooters and now has a whole body and soul and is the company of those that passed before us such as Em, Ric, and the other 210 friends he lost.

So since my memories of him are limited to these forums I'd like to share snippet's of some of his posts, snippets that made me laugh and some that made me cry...

"Welcome to the fourms, and if you think this thread is redundant, stick around for three or four years; you aint seen nothing yet..."

"Take your pills, and experience the new life."

Kiss my droopy aging arse, you perfect ANGEL Swiss Miss!!!

"Who the fuck listens to us Dinosaurs any more anyway..."

"Thinking of you today, and sending love"

"OK, Church is over, light em up if you got em"

"Drag Queens are special"

"All you have is today, this minute, this second to make changes and refocus your minds and hearts on living fully in the moment"

"Isn't HIV just a laugh riot?"

"I apologise for the error, and back out of the room to my corner. I should have known I was wrong, and refrain from revisiting this thread. Assholes!!"

"I was infected at the age of 36, and given six months to live. The doctor has since died who said that, so beware of doctors playing God"

"I taste more like Baked Brie in Puff Pastry.."

"I wouldn't have had the joy of my 22year marriage to the most beautiful man on the planet."

"and it never gets any easier to say goodbye, so now I just say I'll see you soon enough"

I am so sad right now, I think one of the first persons to welcome on here was Tim, and then LIsa.I haven't been on here in awhile and those two were some of the ones i was hoping would be here. I am so sad that we lost 2 very wonderful, smart people. People are put in our lives for a reason, Tim and Lisa helped me just by listening and talking to me. I will always love and miss them. This is not good bye but see ya later. For i know that they are in heaven and giving God a good laugh.

Iím posting this here and in the Living With thread about Tim, so itís less likely to be missed by folk.

I think itís been about 2 years since I logged in here. Today Iím logging in with a message from Bob.

As some of you may remember, after meeting Tim in Las Vegas in 2007, I had the great fortune to share an unforgettable road trip with him across Arizona to go and spend some time at their place. They welcomed me into their home and life with warmth I shall never forget and I had the best time.

I spoke with Bob on the phone the other night. He wanted me to pass on his thanks to everyone here at Aidsmeds for your kind words, thoughts and gestures. He is extremely appreciative to you all.

Debra

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/\___/\ /\__/\(=' . '=) (=' . '=)(,,,_ ,,,)/ (,,,_ ,,,)/ Cats rule!

The difference between cats and dogs is that dogs come when called, whereas cats take a message and get back to you.

Tim is truly a classic character and the only one who could make me laugh till I almost peed in my pants with his blatant honesty. His body may have seemed worn at times when I met him in Montreal, but his mind was sharper than most. His forthrightness may seem hard to swallow, but in this world of sugar coated fungus, Timís words is and has always been a breath of fresh air. He was the big brother type, the educator, and I can remember saying to myself, I have A LOT to learn from this man and I wish I could be more like him. Jerry and Aztecan, I remember those pictures and I'm sure that Tim is looking at them and smiling as he did back then.

I miss you so much, Tim. I miss your wisdom and your humour and lately, it's your wisdom I miss the most. I sure wish I could ring you up again and talk for hours like we used to. My partner needs some hiv-sense knocked into him and I know you'd have just the right words to help me accomplish that. You were a wonderful and wise friend and I miss you more than mere words could ever express.

I take some comfort knowing your spirit is soaring and flying through the universe, but how I wish you were still here on earth amongst us.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Thanks Jan and Ann for reminding us about old friend Tim. I miss him very much myself, we have lost so many good folks here. With work, my 90 year old mom and other issues I don't have as much free time these days. But it is kind of you to remember Tim. I remember walking fast to get to the CN tower in Toronto and Tim had difficulty keeping up. I remember partying in his hotel room in Montreal and the trip to Quebec city. He had physical issues but was the dean of our website here and so many of us owe a debt of gratitude to Tim. RIP Moffie dearest.

Jody

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"Wake up to find out that you are the eyes of the world". "Try to discover that you are the song that the morning brings."

I can't believe it's been two year already. Not a day goes by, when I don't think of Tim. Somehow we connected on so many levels and he was one of the greatest people I have ever met. We could talk for hours and no matter how crappy he might be feeling, his warmth and energy always shone through. It's been a very long time, since I have lost someone as special as Tim.