Dating Mistakes Men Make In The First 3 Dates

If You Want To Keep Her, Don't Make These Mistakes On The First Three Dates

Mistake #3: You give the wrong kind of compliments

Okay, okay - yes, her butt looks awesome in that dress (and you probably snuck a look or two while she was walking in front of you), but there is never a reason to say that on one of the first three dates. “I went on a date once where a guy told me my breasts looked great,” Marin says. “It was inappropriate and an immediate turn-off. Leave that kind of talk for after we sleep together.”

How to fix it: Women (and let’s be honest, anyone) like compliments, but be specific and conservative in the beginning. A great example is to comment on the color of her eyes: “You have really gorgeous blue eyes.” Or, if you can’t stop looking at her smile, tell her that. Sincerity will go a lot further than sexuality in the beginning.Mistake #4: You get too handsy too soon

You might feel like there’s really amazing chemistry on the first date and you’d probably like to see her naked, but if you’re interested in a second date, experts say you should shy away from being too forward too fast. Dr. Fran Walfish, psychotherapist, author and expert panelist on WE tv’s upcoming show Sex Box, says it’s this mistake that makes her private practice boom. “Many women complain that men initiate sexual contact on the first date,” she says. “This leaves her feeling like an object.”

How to fix it: Go in for the first kiss - if you trust the connection! - but leave it at that. If you’re going to be in a long-term relationship, there will be plenty of time for the other stuff, so don’t rush it.

Mistake #5: You get too clingyAfter you’ve been dating for a while, it can be really exciting to go on one of those awesome first dates that feel so rare, but before you go asking her for a date this Saturday night and next week, take a step back. “Give yourselves a chance to get to know each other and remember that too much too soon can drive your lady away,” says Walfish. “It takes real time to learn about the likes, dislikes and habits of a new person - enjoy that process.”

How to fix it: An hour or so after the date ends, send her a text saying that you had a nice time and check to see if she made it home okay. The next day - after work - ask her if she’s free the following week, and make sure you always have something in mind to do.