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...to get him seriously creeped out??? What do you do in this situation... I am kinda lost. He asked me how I've been, I asked back...and no response since then, I mean how am I ever suppose to understand what goes on in his weird mind. I thought men are easy to get.... but apparently they're even more complicated than women

heavyboots wrote: I thought men are easy to get.... but apparently they're even more complicated than women

I have to make reference to my dear friend The Chief here, who said

The Chief wrote: walking around with a face like a fist and snarling at your loved ones like a Rott with kidney stones and then, when asked "What's wrong?", snapping back "Nothing!!", doesn't mean you're mysterious, it means you're inarticulate and emotionally crippled.

heavyboots wrote::lol: ...to get him seriously creeped out??? What do you do in this situation... I am kinda lost. He asked me how I've been, I asked back...and no response since then, I mean how am I ever suppose to understand what goes on in his weird mind. I thought men are easy to get.... but apparently they're even more complicated than women

It's not a difficult question, that of "How have you been?". You are reading too much into such a query, which was surely more or less a breaker of ice. Instinctual replies are the best for inane questions.One has to go through shite to get to the shit.There's always an extra lower case e that needs to get loped off. Or off loped. The jury is still out on that one.Stop thinking. It doesn't do a body good in times of action.

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heavyboots wrote::lol: ...to get him seriously creeped out??? What do you do in this situation... I am kinda lost. He asked me how I've been, I asked back...and no response since then, I mean how am I ever suppose to understand what goes on in his weird mind. I thought men are easy to get.... but apparently they're even more complicated than women

To be brutally honest, you're probably coming off a little too needy and that's why he's not all that receptive. He knows that you like him more than he likes you so there is no thrill of the chase for him. Just my 2 cents, and I only speak from experience because I've been in the same situation as you, as I'm sure many people have.

If you *really* still think he's someone you want to pursue, then ignore him until he approaches you. The way things have been explained on here, the ball is fully in his court so unfortunately there's not much you can do now. Maybe sometime soon he might think, hey what's up with the girl that wanted to meet up with me in Beijing? She was really cool and we got along great, I should get back in touch with her. On the other hand maybe he's just at a different place in his life and isn't emotionally available for a relationship.

Truthfully, I hope it's the former and not that latter for you. It is worth considering that yes men can be complicated when it comes to matters of the heart. Good luck, hope things work out because being stuck in the fog is never pleasant.

heavyboots wrote:out of the blue he asks me today: how have you been? After a month of ignoring me, he asks how I've been, kind of ironic...

Take it for what it is. Respond in kind. "Fine thanks, you?"

Don't think about it too much. At best it would be a very long distance thing, so worry about it when you come to Taiwan again. Otherwise, just be open and friendly and see how it unfolds...

heavyboots wrote::lol: ...to get him seriously creeped out??? What do you do in this situation... I am kinda lost. He asked me how I've been, I asked back...and no response since then, I mean how am I ever suppose to understand what goes on in his weird mind. I thought men are easy to get.... but apparently they're even more complicated than women

Scratch my first. The fact that he hasn't responded doesn't mean anything. Some people don't go on facebook, msn or e-mail often. Also, if he hasn't checked it goes down on the feed (Facebook) and unless he specifically checks for a response from you it could be easily missed. Again, take it as it comes.

Second of all, as in all honeymoons, all is well until it is not. It is until the unexpected happens that you will see all grievances surface -ask anyone in any relationship. The girl can chew with her mouth open, that if you love her, you do not care. If you do not lover her, if her pinkie toe is half an inch deviant, the relationship is doomed. - Icon

rocky raccoon wrote:To be brutally honest, you're probably coming off a little too needy and that's why he's not all that receptive. He knows that you like him more than he likes you so there is no thrill of the chase for him. Just my 2 cents, and I only speak from experience because I've been in the same situation as you, as I'm sure many people have.

What is your definition of needy...if he's not talking I am not talking, thats how it is right now, I will bite my tongue if I ever come off needy.

bismarck wrote: Some people don't go on facebook, msn or e-mail often.

some people yeah....but not when your in your 20ies and live in Taiwan or China.

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