don't ask directly... try to do smth and then ask her whether she likes it or not, if not then ask how she wants... I always speak to my partner openly... if there is something I don't like I tell, if there is smth my partner doesn't like I just ask how to fix it... perhaps you are in another type of relationships, but I always prefer openness

No laa. I beg to differ. One can be changed for the better or worst depending on the kind of life-changing experiences that he/she had gone through.

9 out of 10 children are selfish as they will be given what they want from the onset. Its only at a later stage when they grow up, being able to understand how the world works, and how the parents taught them, that's where they will start to change to become even more selfish or more giving. Our parents and environment that we grow up in have a part to play that has caused us to become who we are today.