Everyone says it’s important: Self-love. To some people, it’s second nature. To others, not so much.

For those of you who are lacking, my guess is that you get irritated and uncomfortable when people start telling you how important it is to love yourself. (I feel like I can speak on this because I am the worlds foremost expert on self-loathing) When you really, truly hate yourself, and someone tells you to recite the mantra about how lovable you are, the only thing you feel like doing is throat-punching them.

Ask yourself this question. How do you know when someone loves you? Not just your partner, but anyone. It can be by the words they say to us, but the sort of love that makes us feel secure and safe is usually cultivated through action.

This is one way towards developing a loving relationship with yourself. Not through mantras, or words, or by trying to will it into existence. You build a loving relationship with yourself one kindness at a time. Making self-love and self-care into a ritual will have a huge impact on your life.

Yoni eggs are one way to do this, but there are others. Read a soul-nourishing book, take yourself out on a date, stay in the bathtub until you turn into a prune, eat a meal that makes your cells buzz with positive vibes.