My marriage isn't working out. What should I do?
There’s not a lot of things that feel scarier than divorce. It’s a big change, and it impacts all areas of your life.
I think probably the scariest parts aren’t even what will happen to your retirement accounts or your house, but the ideological shift that takes place. Who are you, if you’re not your husband’s wife? How do you start over? Who do you talk to now, if the person you vowed to love and cherish is no longer playing on the same … [Read more...]

In many ways, military divorce isn’t all that different from civilian divorce. In other ways, though, there are a lot of nuances and other confusing tidbits that can make it seem a lot more difficult, and make it more difficult to get answers.
After all, the military isn’t out to help you, if you’re married to a service member. The military really looks out for its own. There are resources available to you as a military spouse, but you should look at them with a critical eye, and, in many … [Read more...]

Most of the time, divorce is a negotiating process. It’s like haggling and, if you’re like me, and haggling always made you super uncomfortable, don’t worry. It’s really not so bad. There is a lot of posturing, though, and oftentimes the first offer isn’t a very good offer (so the tendency is for some women to freak out very early on). The point, of course, is that if you put your best offer on the table at the beginning, you’d have no point from which to begin your negotiations. Besides, over … [Read more...]

In honor of Veteran’s Day, we want to say thank you (in some small way) to the women involved. Whether you’re the active duty military service member or you’re the wife and mother keeping up the home front, we’re grateful of your sacrifices.
Don’t think we don’t know how hard it can be. With years of experience handling military divorces (and many of our attorneys and staff who are married or related to active duty military service members), we really do get it. We know how grueling it can be, … [Read more...]