Romance in the workplace!

When my OH moved down south he came not only to work for the same company as me but also in the same department for a time.

It wasn't awkward for anybody as far as I know and there's no reason it should be if you are professional and discreet, I think that only happens if you split up and are still forced in to each other's company.

I've seen it happen with quite a few people. They were all sensible - it always caused a bit of gossip, naturally, but nothing malicious and nobody ever had a problem with it.

Never, but have seen many good people lose jobs through it, once it's over it can get impossible to make sense and one or other usually has to go, depending upon who you need most for the business. When you throw two people at the same problem, their shared concerns inevitably leads to closer relationships.

...did it get messy? I'm still wading through the fall out , always will be.

One word of advice if you're going to do it stick with one person at a time, two is difficult three is complicated.

Well what else would you expect? You get trouble by asking for it and that isn't just asking - it's begging :-S

I didn't chase any of them, I'm just a boy who can't say no. Classic example, one girl said she didn't want to run a marathon, she wanted a marathon runner...

Seriously, the fall out wasn't from work and I never had any problems in that sense apart from jealous people, all the problems encountered would have been just the same whether it had been in work or out of work. I just had too many baskets with too eggs in.

I met OH at work, but we were working in a restaurant at the time, where average time working in one place is probably 6-12months, so had things not worked out one of us was likely to leave soon anyway.

Not sure I'd get invovled with a colleague if I was single. I probably wouldn't rule it out but think things can get awkward.

Similar to Gingerfurball in that Me and Mrs JP are owners of our business so work together a couple of times a week, On the plus side, having spent time with her during the week I can then get out running, golf etc on the weekends

I've worked with too many couples who have been unable to keep their personal life to themselves. Some of them are happily married now, few of them split up while they were both working for the same company.

In most cases the couples tried to be discrete but it was blatently obvious to everyone else. I remember one couple who genuinely thought they had been so discrete that none of us knew at all. After 6 months they finally came out in the open and we all breathed a sigh of relief as it had been a nightmare dealing with the fall out from their arguments when they weren't officially a couple, so we couldn't say anything to them.

You can't chose who you fall in love with, but if I ever fall for someone in the same workplace as me then I would be quickly looking for a transfer. Preferebaly outside the company, but certainly outside the department.

Something else to consider - and I've known this to happen to three couples, when redundancies come around, the people makeing the decisions won't take into account the fact that they are taking two incomes away from you. Better not to have all your eggs in one basket if you can.

Met my ex at the company we both worked for, different departments though. It was a nightmare - he would be forever checking up on my whereabouts, asking why I wasn't at my desk when he called and where had I been. After 2 years of marriage we split up, when my divorce came through I got a job abroad and left England for Germany, am still here. Don't know where he is or even if he's alive or dead. Don't care either.

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