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Last week I showed my kids photos of the new apartment that I will be renting from my parents. I didn't want to because I knew STBX would throw a hissy, but they have been really anxious about where they would be living so I showed them. I promptly sent her an email telling her that I told them and that my parents would be paying for housing until our house sells, to head off the questions.

Of course she throws a hissy and starts demanding I tell her how I financed the house. I ignored the requests. So a couple days ago, when she received her SSDI money she refused to put it into the joint account we use for paying bills until the house sells. Her reason, "I am entitled to know how you are financing your new house. You don't want to tell me, so cooperation is gone."

cooperation? Cooperation? And yes, I understand that you feel entitled. Your behavior over the last 4 years has demonstrated that.

I told her I am renting, and now she wants to depose my parents' finances. My lawyers tell me this is ludicrous, but we'll just have to play it out.

The lawyers are trying to sort this out, but what the F? These are her bills as well that she will get slammed on. Oh well. First probate court date on May 8th. Hopefully some progress to ending this debacle will happen.

[This message edited by kg201 at 3:24 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1080 | Registered: Aug 2013

nowiknow23♀ 33226Member # 33226

Posted: 3:27 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014

"Hissy fit" is the perfect description of her reaction. Cheese and rice. Your parents' financials are completely irrelevant to your divorce. What an idjit.

I guess she is including the financial support she is getting from OM if he is still around too right.

You were better than me KG. I don't tell my stbxww anything. She never bothered to tell me when she started fucking OM so I feel no obligation to tell her anything about my life now.

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 2032 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA

kg201♂ 40173Member # 40173

Posted: 3:40 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014

If she does keep pushing the craziness and deposes my parents I am going to request her business account statements for the last four years so she can show how much money she took from the family to finance her affair. Hopefully it doesn't come to that because I just want to be rid of this marriage and move on.

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1080 | Registered: Aug 2013

SBB♀ 35229Member # 35229

Posted: 4:00 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014

I promptly sent her an email telling her that I told them and that my parents would be paying for housing until our house sells, to head off the questions

IMO this is where you went wrong. Why are you telling her this stuff? Why are you heading off questions? You just don't answer them.

None of this is her business unless your L tells you it is her business.

You still think you're dealing with a rational human being - you are not. Lesson learned. Don't engage - let her hang herself.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!