He is messy, and won't clean or institute an organizing "system" -- but freaks when he cannot find stuff (in that OCD kind of freakout way).

Sometimes the stuff he is "missing" is junk. (e.g. today it was the smoke detector cover that was taken off while replacing the battery months ago; or a small tile of flooring that came out a few months ago and was on the counter.)

It's really starting to get on my last frikkin' nerve.

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LOL.. I'm the OCD spouse.. my blood pressure actually rises when I'm having trouble...and I end up with an anxiety attack. I searched my whole bedroom once when I lost my partial plate somehow during the night. That was before I was married. I finally found it.. under the rug...how it got there, when I was sleeping, I have no clue.

The same thing happens now.. when something goes missing. I make the hubby and the kids help me search and it drives them crazy. Lately though, I've noticed the younger twin doing the same thing.

I've let so many things go.. because I know it upsets them. But I think that is one of the reasons I pick more at myself..as I'm worrying about where an object is. Have you noticed your hubby scratching more...or picking at things more, when he's having trouble finding something?

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Has he ever tried Luvox, Queens? I'm not on a therapeutic dose right now (I'm taking 25 mg; I believe that the therapeutic range starts at 100 mg) and a lot of my compulsive things have returned. I only take it now to reduce anxiety and it seems to be very effective at that, even at just 25 mg. I don't get anxious, I get MAD. I hate the weight gain, but it does work.

BTW, I'm not diagnosed OCD, but I'm pretty darned anal. It's an ADHD coping mechanism for me and I'm fairly dependent on it. The Luvox reduces the dependency on that sense of order. While on the therapeutic dose, I did, however, lose things that were valuable and I NEVER lose things normally. I also felt like my mind was "slippery," if that makse sense. So there's a down side. Me, I just prefer to be an order and neatness freak. But, of course, your hubster has the opposite problem, eh? Hmmmmmmmm.... Ok, not sure if Luvox would help on second thought. But it does help a bit with the compulsiveness, at least it does for me.

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Has he ever tried Luvox, Queens? I'm not on a therapeutic dose right now (I'm taking 25 mg; I believe that the therapeutic range starts at 100 mg) and a lot of my compulsive things have returned. I only take it now to reduce anxiety and it seems to be very effective at that, even at just 25 mg. I don't get anxious, I get MAD. I hate the weight gain, but it does work.

BTW, I'm not diagnosed OCD, but I'm pretty darned anal. It's an ADHD coping mechanism for me and I'm fairly dependent on it. The Luvox reduces the dependency on that sense of order. While on the therapeutic dose, I did, however, lose things that were valuable and I NEVER lose things normally. I also felt like my mind was "slippery," if that makse sense. So there's a down side. Me, I just prefer to be an order and neatness freak. But, of course, your hubster has the opposite problem, eh? Hmmmmmmmm.... Ok, not sure if Luvox would help on second thought. But it does help a bit with the compulsiveness, at least it does for me.

I was exactly like that before adhd meds...control controlled my life so I could feel in control

lists, routines, rosters....a place for everything, etc etc...but I am not OCD..I just hated feeling out of control

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Let me see if I have this right? - Your husband obsesses over finding a little part or object that isn't really that important - he keeps a lot of junk - I do not know if that is obsessive or simply a result of testerone

Gary does that not only about parts but about doing things a certain way - he gets an idea in his head to do some thing a certain way or he decides we need some thing - and he will not deviate not matter how contrary to common sense it may be or how low on funds we are -