Saturday, 25 July 2015

“The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good
ones.”Jerome Hines

Most of us use to make commitments to
give up bad habits or unwanted habits. We
initiate effort to to give up, but end up with failure as habit will never give
up us!!! .

The study shows that during the
process of giving up any bad or unwanted habits, our mind focuses more on
resisting the habit and in this process we are losing our mental strength. Instead,
focus on developing new habit or divert
your time on something new habits while
setting themind to give up the unwanted habit. In this process mind focus on a
new habit forming and this increase mental strength than
focusing on to resist.

For example, if you want to give up
the habit of spending too much time on browsing net.If you focus to give up,
your resistance will weak your mental strength and likely you may not succeed.
Alternatively, while to decide to give up the habit, take new habit like spending time with closed one or writing or reading,
etc. and focus on continuing new habit. Eventually, your focus on new thing
will help you to succeed in new things
as well as diverting you from unwanted
habit.

It is because what you resist will
persist and what you positively focus will flourish!

Wednesday, 15 July 2015

“Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make.It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.”—Robin Sharma

At one time a bird asked a BEE, “After a
continuous hard work, you develop the honey, but a man steals the honey… Do you
not feel sorry about that? . Then the Bee replied, “Never.. because a man can only steal my honey, NOT the art of making
honey..”

Sometime
in professional life, your work may not get the timely recognition or somebody may claim credit for your work. In
business association, someone may exploit you
and your ideas without rewarding you. Those are the moments are only
temporary and short term in nature. The surroundings or others can only temporarily halt your progress. No
one permanently stops your growth. In the long term, your unique talent will
become discovered and acknowledged.

Keep
investing on your skill and talent development. Keep investing your time on
managing yourself, ethics, purpose, character, motivation and conduct. You will attract good things in life!

Tuesday, 14 July 2015

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”-Tony Robbins

Most of us have inhibition to set high standards or aspiring
big .One of the reasons is that the mind is always looking for some reference
or role model to get convinced. Once we
believe that something is possible based on the reference, we also may
achieve or even surpass the earlier standard.

For example, till 1954, no one believed that man can run a mile in less than
four minutes.Even medical experts concluded that it could not be done and humanly
impossible. Roger Bannister, an athlete from British smashed the belief by
running a mile in 3 minutes and 59.6 seconds. The breaking the record was commendable, but what happened afterwards, which
I think is worth to mention. After he broke the record in 1954, over the
next few years, more than forty people run a mile in less than four minutes. They broke their
limiting belief on seeing the record .Today
it has become possible and standard.

In business or in a professional environment, if you want to
achieve new heights, but lacks courage, look around what others had achieved
and set the base. This will give confidence or will help you to break the
limiting belief.Once you break the
belief, you can also achieve and even may surpassthe already achieved
standard.Always break the limiting belief and you attract the good things in life!!

Building relationship with others
is important for successful and happy
life as we always rely on others for
support and guidance .The relationship shall be with our parents, spouse, children,
friends, boss, peers, subordinates,customers and all those are interacting with
us on day to day basis. How can we build and nurture the relationship?

One is to accept the people as they are.By
creation,each one is unique and has different in characterization. We cannot
expect others to behave as we are. We need to realize this fundamental fact and
appreciate the positive sides of each individual rather than finding fault with
others. Once we find fault and criticize, relationship gets strained.

Second is to develop the trust and it is long
term process. On a short term basis, if we build relationship with the intention of what is in it for me attitude, it won’t last long. We need to gain
the confidence of others by demonstrating the behaviors which we expect from
others.

Relationship is a two side
mirror glass thru which we are seeing others and others areseeing us.
If the glass is broken due to discourteous words or rude behavior, it is
difficult to re-form. So Let us foster relationship and be happy! ..

Our maturity and growth evolves to the extend to new experience.
Even then, experience alone does not make much impact of growth. The way
we interpret the experience makes a big difference.The
experience can be good or bad feeling, but how we internalize
the feeling with a right spirit matters
a lot.Otherwise the experience may be passing through as just an event in life.

For example, two friends are watching the same movie
together, but both may have different
feelings about the movie, because they
interpret the experience in a different way.

One more example from the history is that millions of
people had experienced humiliation by the British rulers as same as Mahatma
Gandhi. But he interpreted the experience in a different way that made him to lead Ahimsa movement
against the British. The interpretation
makes a difference.

Similarly, in your professional or business environment, you
may go through tough times or may get different feedback about your performance
from your peers. It makes a positive impact on you only when you take the
experience, interpret in a positive intention. That makes a beginning for the
new person in you!!!

Everyone may experience setbacks in life either in business or in
professional endeavor or in financial aspects. But how quickly we learn from
the setbacks and change the strategy is all about real growth.By nature of the
design, no one will be going through
continuous success or continuous failure
throughout the life.

Most of us have a tendency to get into the hopelessness emotion during setbacks and
too much celebration or noisy
during success. Remember the
phrase “Past does not equal to future “ in both good and bad times.

If your past is
painful:

Remember past does not equal to the future. Learn from the
failures or pain, change the strategy
and approach the life with the new way. The new approach will give
different results..

If your past is
so successful :

Remember past does not equal to the future. Do not be too
complacent about the past. Feel good about the past, be grateful and
accelerate the strategy for being more
successful or sustain the success.

Since the law of nature is “ Change “ and it cannot be
avoided, Hence, whatever happens, enjoy the experience, welcome the future with
confidence and hope as past does not equal to the future!

“In order to succeed, people need a sense of self efficacy to struggle together with resilience to meet the inevitable obstacles of life.” —Albert Bandura

Self-efficacy can
be defined as one’s belief in his ability to succeed in specific situations. The
success or failure in whatever situation is generally depends on individual‘s
belief in his ability to face the situation. For example, if you are venturing
into new business or new initiatives in your professional environment, more
than environmental factors which alters the result, your belief about your
capability gives you all strength to manage any challenges during execution.

People with high
self-efficacy are more willing to take action, especially on new activities. They
stay longer in the face of challenging times. Now the question is whether this
quality is inborn or can be developed by anyone. The answer is a high level of
self-efficacy can be developed by anyone with little effort.

One of the ways
to develop self-efficacy is through observation.
It is demonstrated through study about a person with phobia and the person’
self-efficacy about managing the phobia is improved when he observed fellow
phobic struggled with and overcome their phobia.

Similarly, if
you observe your role model for any of his excellent qualities, you can also
gain the belief about your capability. It is a simple proposition that “if
it is possible byothers, it is possible by me “.Who could be your
role model to observe and learn?

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”-Eleanor Roosevelt

Studies show that
85 % of the population struggle with confidence issue. Since the fear had
passed into the subconscious brain, it
is hard to gain confidence only
through outside resources like self help scripts. It can be improved through
“ within” development of the individual.

When you experiment new actions in small day to day
activities and continuously expanding your horizons, the experience gained from
such action will improve the confidence.

For example,

If you have a
habit of waking up at 6 am, practice waking up one hour early consistently
which will improve your will power

If you use to walk
for 5 km at a stretch, extend it to 8 km at a stretch as this will improve your
strength

If you use to
drive only in a city environment, go for long drive which you have not done so
far as this will enhance your courage

If you use to
spend hours together on the net, cut into half and resist the temptation as this improve your willpower

The intent of
stating above examples is to reinforce
the thought that new experience will widen your perspective about yourself
and this will enhance your courage, willpower or confidence level.Since the experience are fully experienced by
you as “within”, this will sustain your confidence
level than anything comes from external..

“When you focus on being blessed, God makes sure that you are always blessed in abundance.”—Joel Osteen

Most of us are
looking at life in terms of “what yet is not received or achieved." For
example, we use to hear the conversation
from someone that “I would be happy if I get so and so asset or I would be
happy if I get so and so status or I would be happy if i get so and so problems
solved” and so on. Expecting something bigger or aspiring for great things is
not sin and that is required for internal motivation. Still, for being happy,
always keeping conditions with IF and BUT
leads us to miss the view of the present moment and the greatest
blessings we have received in life.

Instead of cribbing with future uncertainties, count the
number of good things you have got in
life like people surrounded with
you, the educational and exposure privilege
you got and so on.

When you count our blessings,
rationally you realize that no of blessings will be more than the problems you
have. Also Internalizing the blessings
will give more mental strength to address whatever problems

Hence count your blessings, be grateful, be happy for having
those blessings, you can counter any problems and achieve more in life.

Generally, we get hurt by close relationships with
family members or with people in a professional environment.
When we get hurt,our tendency would be thinking too much about the incident or the person cause it. Unconsciously, we start
recalling all unfavorable moments
happened earlier with the person and forming negative emotions about the person. When this repeats frequently, as they
are closely associated with our life, gap is also widening over a period.

When the gap is widening,
even the other person does favor for us, we tend to look at with skepticism .In
this process, the quality of relationship is strained .The one way of
approaching this mindset is to value the relationship by recalling one best
moment or favor we experienced with that person. Instead of rewinding one
bad moment for many times and affecting the relationship, rewind the positive
moments for many times and cherish the
relationship.

So many people
come across our life, only a few relationships happened with purpose, which we
may not know the reason . Only in human beings, some relationships are continuing for a long time and let us preserve it with patience and
compassion!!

“When people are afraid, they make emotional decisions”.—John Mellencamp

Even though , we learn structured
methodologies, tools and techniques for arriving logical decision, still decision making is being one of the difficult
aspects of life management. There are two situations when we face a decision
making dilemma. One is during crisis (urgent) moment and another one for making (important ) personal
life decisions like a child's education,
switching the profession, changing the job, relocation or even the investment
decisions.

Generally, our minds go as per the
emotional urge during the moment of decision-making point. Even though emotions
drive our behavior, most of the time, any decisions taken only based on
emotional reason may not be the right solution. It is preferable to answer for
both emotional and rational needs before taking an important life decision.

For example, if you desire to change your profession, look into the
emotional need such as passion, pride, ego fulfilling, happiness, etc. as well
as rationally evaluate your Knowledge, Skill
set, gap needs to be filled and
alternative plans, etc. This balanced evaluation of both emotional
and rational need may give you the right
mindset to take a decision which
makes you peace and happiness.

Be aware of your decision making
pattern of all important life decisions, balance with emotional and rational
approach and you attract good things in life!

“Take a step back, evaluate what is important and enjoy life.”—Teri Garr

Most of us have the tendency of
“being in busy"always. It can be in professional or business environment
either chasing the success after success or managing the challenges with the
same approach. In this process, over a period of time, either we become
addicted to same methodology without evaluating its effectiveness or become so
rigid in thinking process leads to
ignoring other aspects of relationship,
quality of execution, next level growth etc.

The study shows that one of the
qualities the successful people possess is
“being reflective".Frequently , they use to take time for themselves
and evaluate what is going on around their life, what is important, what needs
to be changed etc.. This will give them
clarity on the behavior to be dropped or adopted, the strategy to be modified
or tuned etc for improving the quality of life.

It is beneficial for health, relationship,
and efficiency perspective, take some time for yourself, and evaluate the
proceedings. This will give you more clarity on what is right and good for you
and your surroundings.

“There is no use talking about the problem unless you talk about the solutions”-Betty Williams

When things are not happening as we
expected or any problem happens in professional or business or in a family
environment, the most obvious tendency of us
is “fixing who is responsible?”.
For any
problems, finding the cause is a good thing, but the moment we focus our
searching the cause on “People” factor, it likely turns out as blaming,
complaining ,justification, arguments and eventually into personal vengeance .

Instead, if we shift our focus of
searching the cause on “process “
factor, it likely turns out, what improvements needs to be done to fix the
problem. Sometime fixing process may
prevent the issue permanently as well as take care of human errors .

Shifting the focus on fixing
“process” than “people” is possible with
a little bit of awareness on our intention and behavior.It is difficult but
possible with practice. For any problem solution can be fixed through process,
in turn process will take care people factor also.

Just be aware of your reaction to the
problem, shift the focus and you attract
good things in life!

“A little more persistence, a little more effort and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success.”—Elbert Hubbard

Some years back a research had been conducted on a dog with repeated electric shocks in
closed environment. Typically, we would expect any sensible dog to seek to
avoid the pain of electric shock.What surprisingly observed was that, even
there were opportunities to escape from the pain, they simply put down and whined. This observation led
psychologist to develop the concept of “learned helplessness”.

At times, as human beings, we seem to give up any attempt to
change the situation. We accept the role
as victims and inability to do anything
about to change the situation.

When we are facing tough situations for long in professional
or in a family environment, we start feeling that we have little control over
it and start believing as such.Instead of taking even small effort to change the situation we use
all energy to cope with the situation. Over a period, we become victims of
helplessness.

You may have experienced helplessness feelings either in career progression, business growth or relationship quality.Over a period of
time, you cope with that.In this process, your helplessness feeling pulls your
confidence and quality of life..

Hence aware of the areas, where you feel “helplessness” and
take action to change it.

“Anything is possible if you have the mindset and the will ,desire to do it and put the time in.” ---Roger Clemens

You might have observed that some of the
highly successful people lack formal education and business management skill, but
they are quite successful in any venture. Also, you come across some people
with knowledge and extraordinary
business skills, but will not be much successful or achieved much. Why does this
contradiction exist? The answer is a
mindset towards achievement.

It
is proven that anybody can achieve more
in life and it requires the four factors as follows

1.
Desire to achieve

2.
Faith in self and God

3.
Consistent Effort

4.
Ability or Skill

It looks like all the four are equally
important, but the reality shows that first three are important and the fourth
ability or skill can always be acquired or delegated.What matters most is the
mindset and the first three elements are related to a mindset.Even if you have
all talent or skill, but lacks in desire or faith in yourself and too lazy to
take consistent effort, you may not able to achieve great things in life.

Hence set your mind for high ambition and
be faith in yourself or god and tune your mind for taking consistent effort,
then you get all the skills or capability to achieve anything.You attract good
things in Life!!

One of the differences between
highly successful people and mediocre people is that setting high standards for
themselves. Setting high standard means they are always thinking big and expect more from themselves.It can be
in the area of professional or business growth or in a relationship.

The psychological effect of
thinking big and expecting more will be
as follows

a)Always feeling highly motivated

b)Not looking
for external motivation to keep them
happy

c)Always engaging
themselves in productive work
which benefits them and others

In the absence of
setting high standards, mediocre people get into the following behavior

a)Feeling
dull frequently

b)Always looking
for external motivation like
entertainment, media or other outlet, even then not feeling fulfilled

c)Always looking for situations to complain or blaming
others

d)Looking
at the life with skepticism

Hence, for the
benefit of your own sake, always set high standards or expectation from you
.This will push you to new heights and in this process people surrounding you
will also get benefits.

“You are a product of your environment. So choose the environment that will best develop you toward your objective”. --Clement Stone

One of the opinions about the Personal
development program is that during the session, everyone is feeling motivated
and highly inspired to do great things, once they are out of the session into
real life, they become less energetic. This
may be true, because your environment
influences your thought processes, behaviors and activities. The
environment can be family, professional or friend ‘s circle beyond the profession.

It is said that you are the AVERAGE of the five people you spend most of the time.
This is true. If you surround yourself with positive
and highly energetic people, you will also start to observe them and reflect in
your behavior. Without your conscious effort, you will start believing that
what they are doing. That is the power of the environment and its influence in our life. Similarly, if you are surrounded
by negative people with complaining
others about all things, you will also start believing in their thought process
and you will demonstrate the same
behavior.

As you cannot change the environment completely, be aware of the
quality and change your mix of
environment like meeting new people,
joining forums, visiting new places, getting exposed to new challenges and
associating with people beyond your regular environment .This will help you to
enhance your perspectives.

Since the environment influences your
action, be aware of the quality of your environment and choose the balanced
mix.

For most of us, the important reason for not taking any major decision
or massive action in life is not due to lack of capability or resources, but
the fear inside the mind. The moment we think of taking action like a
change of job, taking more responsibilities, taking new initiatives, expanding
the business etc , the first emotional response would be
fear about failure or fear about rejection or even fear about success.

Fear is normal, but the worst part is the moment fear creeps in, we drop
the idea or taking action. Instead of abruptly dropping the idea, we can
evaluate the fear with a rational approach as follows

Two questions shall be answered to
justify the fear factor

1. What worst thing will happen if I
take the idea into action?

2. What best thing will happen if I
take the idea into action?

If you write the answer honestly to
the above questions, you may get the following benefits or clarity on the below

1.You estimate the maximum losses and
your readiness to manage the losses or not .This helps to postpone the action
until you get prepared to manage.

2.Sometimes advantage may outweigh the losses.
This helps you to take action.

In either way, you get some clarity on the fear and this will help you
either to take action or drop rather than worrying too much about the fear. You
will be peaceful when you evaluate the fear with a rational approach!

“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.”-Dale Carnegie

One of the repeated questions asked during management development programmes is that how
to deal with difficult people in a professional environment. The difficult
people can be bosses,colleagues or even
subordinates.

My perspectives would be as
follows

First of all, there is no category of
people as” difficult people”. We have not yet learnt the art of dealing with
those people. Accept this fact. By accepting this fact you are taking personal responsibility to
deal with them. This mindset will enable you to learn the skill of managing
people.

Second, do not try to confront those
people as you spend your energy on dealing with them, which is a low
probability of success. Instead, spend your energy on doing your work.Your
result and behavior will make others to turn back to you. Gaining the respect
is your responsibility.

Third, enjoy this experience as you
are learning new dimension of dealing with people.

Fourth, accept the situation and be
patient. Time is a powerful change manager
and it will bring changes in the environment or in the person or yourself.Even you may become the master of dealing any “
difficult” person!

Ultimately, your peace is important
and you cannot compromise for the people
who comes and goes on your life path.

“Unless you have bad times, you cannot appreciate the good times”. Joe Torre

One of the habit of highly successful people is noticing even
small accomplishments of others and timely appreciating.Some of us have
developed the reluctance ourselves to appreciate others, even they deserve for the same. It is applicable
for both on family relationship as well as in the professional / business
environment.

The psychological reasons of this reluctance to appreciate others are

Fear of losing control

More of self centered as if no
time

Taking granted

Poor self-esteem or low
confidence

The study shows that the person who is appreciating others
needs to be in a positive frame of mind. If one is not in a positive state, he / she cannot able to appreciate others. Hence,
appreciation is not for only motivating others, it is a measure of our wellness
of mental strength. Also, It is important to appreciate others on time and no
point in appreciating others when
they left us or in customary farewell ritual.

Relook your habit of
appreciation of others and frequency, especially the people in your family and
the people are working for you. It reflects your mental health. Start
appreciating others and you attract the
abundance in your life!

“Caring about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity.” Tracy McMillan

In a
family or professional environment, if something goes wrong, we immediately
tend to lose our coolness or fix someone to blame. In this process, we are
missing the relationship aspects and the need for supporting the victims.

There
are few people demonstrates a high level
of emotional maturity. Just an incident happened a few months back to one of my
friends.

One day my friend along with his wife went to a marriage
function and returned home .He advised
her wife to keep the jewels safely in
locker and left to office
.His wife did not keep the jewels in the
locker and went for shopping.When she
back to home, she shocked to see
that the house door was broken ,the
things inside the house were in a mess
and the jewels were missing .It
was clear attempt by outsiders for money .The wife disturbed with mixed
feeling of loss and guilty of not
keeping the jewels safe despite his husband’s advise .Also she worried about his husband ‘s reaction to her negiligence.The husband returned back to home.While everyone
was expecting the furious reaction , he gently touched his wife and said “ Good thing in bad
time,you were not inside the house when
rob took place ,you are safe ,i can earn
whatever we lost, nothing to worry “ . In fact he is not much educated and not
earning much to gain the loss. But he
demonstrated the empathy and maintain his cool temperament in a situation where
he could not do anything. At that
moment, he did what was required for his
wife.. Where did he learn this art of looking the life differently?

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective,
there would be less problems in the relationship.This kind of maturity is difficult to attain, but possible
with awareness of self and situation.

“It is not the mountain we conquer, it is ourselves”- Sir Edmund Hillary

Sir Edmund Hillary was New Zeeland based mountain climber. From
childhood, he was interested in adventures, climbed several mountains. He
desired to climb mountain Everest, as it was the highest mountain in the world
with steep height 29000 feet. During 1950’s, he had undertaken to climb and broke due to several causes.Even though it was perceived as bold
effort, he regarded himself as a loser. He looked up at Mount Everest and
screamed “I will come again and conquer you because, as a mountain you cannot
grow. But as a human, I can “

Eventually, in 1953, he scaled up the Everest and achieved the
fame as the first person to climb mountain Everest and many followed
thereafter. He expressed his achievement as “It is not the mountain we conquer,
it is ourselves. “ How true it all is.

When we come across obstacles, failure, disappointments in any of
our endeavors in business or in personal life, the immediate inclination is to
break up or get into frustrations. The real success is in managing negative
emotions and coming up from failures. There may be a chance to work around
the failures by repeating the attempts
as time, effort, process, the environment and energy are very different from
earlier efforts.

Actual achievement is not on the external demonstration; it is
about conquering our internal concerns, doubts, negative emotions, and
frustrations.

Conquer your internal dilemma in any endeavors and you attract good things in life!

“If you so choose, even the unexpected setbacks can bring new and positive possibilities. If you so choose, you can find value and fulfillment in every circumstance. -Ralph Marston

A life changing events
at any age affects us in many ways. Many people get upset and take a long time to recover. Few people
who are strong willed and able to
console themselves, they even become stronger
than ever before. Sometimes emotional setbacks bring new hope and possibilities.

For example, no one
would forget the tsunami 2004 and its effect
on the east coast areas of south India. One of the victims of the
tsunami is Parameswaran, an engineer at
ONGC and his wife Choodamani. The
tsunami turned their family upside down as it killed their three children and
seven relatives. The couple broke down
and even thought of committing suicide. But something
sparked their thought process and they
realized that there must be greater
cause for which they were alive.
They began to provide shelter and
food for the children who lost their parents in the tsunami and eventually
started a trust Nambikkai (meaning HOPE). Today (after 10 years), they
look after 37 children and they found
the purpose of their life.

Key insights from the example:

a) Accept the setbacks, the flow of life as such, as we may not know the purpose behind
it..

b) In any adversity, there may be some positiveness..

c) Sometimes emotional
setbacks turn into new possibilities as we do not know the big picture of
life!!

Most of us have the habit of setting goals on the new year's eve. One of the survey says
that only 8 % of the people follow
through the actions and finally achieve the goal. Why new year resolution
or even generally goal setting could not be carried forward? One of the reasons could be the resolutions or goals are
mere wish and this alone will not bring the result. The goal lacks “ burning
desire”, that mean compulsion or a
strong need to achieve the goal.

There are two
approaches through which we can
have a burning desire. One is
thinking how the goal will bring
pleasure or happiness to you if you achieve the goal. The second is
thinking the pain you will have or
continue to have if you are not achieving the goal. This will drive you to take
necessary actions.

For example,
you are setting a goal to improve your
communication skill or relationship quality
significantly this year. You intensely realize that if you improve the communication skill or
relationship quality, you can win any battles in life. Also realize that if you
are not improving the skills, you cannot even be successful in job interviews and lifelong you will have
struggles.Associate this pleasure and pain with your goal of improving the
skill and this will drive you to take
all actions to achieve the goal.

Today's action is to
associate the burning desire to your goal and start taking action. You will attract Good things in your Life!.

“Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you will not have to hunt for happiness.”--William Gladstone

One of the way of being happy is to be always in generous
mindset. By definition, generous can be understood as “freely giving or sharing
money, time, knowledge or any valuable resources of yours to others”.

Being in generous mindset brings not only happiness to self;
it improves the quality of relationship with others and to the world. In
today’s liberalized economy, most of us are leading a better life than our
parents, even then, the mind is filled with POVERTY mentality only. Due to this
mindset, life is looked upon with insecure
and fearful. In a family, the split happens between blood relationship over
family assets is mainly due to lack of
abundance mentality or lack of generous attitude.

But by nature, more you give yourself to others, you get more
energy or resources to take care of
yourself. With generous attitude, life
will be perceived as opportunities. When does
one behave as generous? Only when
he feels that he has sufficient enough
to give it others or when feels
that he has the capability to acquire more when required. This abundance
feeling brings generous attitude.

You can experiment this yourself. For example, if you use to
give Rs x as tips to waiter at restaurants, next time you experiment by giving Rs 2X; experience the feeling you are undergoing and look the reality of wealth erosion fear.
Similarly experiment by spending
2X time with your family members than usual; experience the feeling you
are undergoing and look the reality of work productivity fear.

Be generous in giving your resources to others and you will attract good things in life!

“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.”-Napoleon Hill

Have you heard about the Chinese
bamboo tree ?. This is different from other trees
as it does not grow in the usual fashion.. While most of the trees start
growing steadily over a period of time, this Chinese bamboo tree does not
even break through the ground for the
first four years.. Then on the fifth year, this tree starts to grow at an
amazing growth rate.. It is said that within four to five weeks time, it even
grows to 90 feet height. Actually, during the first four years, growth is not
visible externally, but the tree has internally grown and making the roots
strong.

This nature’s creation reflects about
our life. Sometimes, our life works
this way. You may be working hard
for your business growth or
professional growth or improving a relationship
for weeks, months or even years
and you may not even see much
significant progress. All of a sudden, you realize a significant transformation
or growth in your business results and quality ofrelationship.Here the key
point is your patience to go through the
process or faith on the positive outcome or perseverance in your effort makes you realize the result.

Any new initiative or effort in business or even people development or
relationship building takes time.. All it requires patience and faith in the
outcome..

Be patience in all your endeavors, keep making
your effort and you attract the good things in life!!

“If you don't see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.”- Zig Ziglar

As a parent, most
of us dedicate our lives to creating wealth, providing education and comfort
life of our Child. Those are all important, but the most valuable gift is to
ensure our child is brought up with high self esteem till he becomes an adult.
The adult who is brought up with high self esteem will achieve big success in
life and happy compared to an adult with Low self esteem. Because self esteem
helps to foster better relationship with others when the child becomes an adult.

Even though education, friends,
teachers are influencing the child‘s self esteem, as a parent, we can do our
part to inculcate self esteem by
following simple practices on day to day interactions.

Do not criticize for failures:

Failure is also part of life. When a child fails in any action, let us not criticize the mistake instead
appreciate the effort.

Appreciate good behaviors

Frequently let us remind
their’s good qualities and appreciate.It will reinforce confidence level.

Do not compare with others

Let us never compare our child against their friends. It will
suppress natural talent.

Involve in decision making

For small domestic related issues, ask their opinion. It will
make them feel important.

Make responsible for small tasks

Let us give them small tasks at home and ensure they are completed.
It makes them feel responsible.

Let us bring up our next generation
with high self esteem and they will do wonders in life!

“Dates that come around every year help us measure progress in our lives. One annual event, New Year's Day, is a time of reflection and resolution.”—Joseph Wirthlin

As you
are aware that personal growth begins within through self-awareness and
realization.This awareness and realization happen through various forms like reading books, observing others,
discourses, learning from others etc..But the most effective way of
becoming aware of self is through reflection
of self.

Self-reflection
will bring enormous awareness of about yourselves.The more you do self
introspection, better you are aware of yourself.But, in reality, it is very
difficult for most of us to spend time for doing self-analysis. For
those people, one of the right time is this new year beginning as it
psychologically provides refresh mindset.

This is the
time, you can spend time for yourselves, think about the last year progress on
family relationship, business growth, health, financial aspects and personal
spiritual growth aspects etc. It is time to reflect what went right and what
could have been done better, what can be done in the new year on all aspects of life..

The reflection
of self will bring enormous insight about yourself and you attract good things
in life…