When's a good time to ask a woman for her number?

Anyway she isn't as shy as I expected. She's actually a little more outgoing or maybe it's because we've been talking outside of class a bit. When do you think would be an appropriate time to ask for her number? She's into video games so I was gonna ask her today if she's on steam or psn as an excuse to get her phone number to exchange that info. Unfortunately we both parked at opposite ends of the school so we went separate ways too soon. Would that be a good approach? I'm not used to being interested enough in a woman to get to this step so I'm more flustered than I ever expected myself to be. The vulnerability is incredibly new and real to me. What do you think would be the best way to pop the question?

Help me GAG this woman is freaking awesome which is turning me into a timid freaking teenager again. I think I'm just shocked that she doesn't have any crazy reactions to me. I'm so used to positive reinforcement but she is just so damn cool and laid back.

How would you like to be asked for your number? Advice is required ;p

Updates:

I got her number!!! It wasn't elegant or balls to the wall but it was successful nevertheless. She was behind on our chemistry lab so I offered to email the graph for it to her and and asked for her number to do that. So far it's only been chemistry talk related to that but we shall see how it goes. Thanks for the help ladies and gents!

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If you like her, don't hesitate. The best way to ask (I use this myself) is simply: "Listen so-and-so, I think you're really awesome and honestly very attractive. I'd really like to get to know you better, would you mind if I grabbed your number?"

The best way to handle rejection is with grace. Take it on the chin and respond with a smile and a simple: Not a problem, I just would have regretted it if I didn't ask, you really just seemed worth putting myself out there. We're still cool, right?

It's an endearing quality and might even leave a gal wondering if she made a mistake.

Honestly, not as much as you'd think. In the past two years I've made myself cold-approach men to get over my issues with anxiety in regards to the dating scene. I realized that being upfront and honest is a good way to cut the awkwardness and confusion out of everything.

Honestly, anxiety has a way of making us believe the most negative outcome is far more severe than it really will be. Especially if you learn to take it on the chin and act like it "ain't no thang"; something I noticed about people is the less big of a deal you make something, the less of a deal they make it themselves.

I honestly think that people forget that other people... are actually people. We understand the difficulty that asking someone out entails, which is why a woman practically salivates over a guy who can be straight up about how he feels without any gimmicks or games.

I would like to just be... asked. I'd probably ask "why" but in that instance, an answer along the lines of "Because I enjoy our talks and would like to get to know you better." would suffice.

Using Steam or PSN as an excuse for her number may not work, because most / all cell phones have notepads on them so she'd probably wonder why you didn't just write her gamertag, etc. down on the notepad. :p

Well the video game thing is definitely a good idea. You just gotta go for it. Don't overthink, just do it. I don't have any particular way that I'd like to be asked. Just as long as it isn't awkward lol. Just be cool.

If you know she's into video games that's probably a fine topic to bring up but I couldn't tell you how to dive into the topic because I don't play them much. However, with a voice like yours I bet you could say just about anything and she'd melt. Use that to your advantage.

I find that hard to believe. It's perfect! Have you had many conversations with her? If you've already had a few, I think you could ask for her number at any time or at least ask her to coffee and then get her number so you can plan the coffee date. Or video game playing date. Is that a thing? I don't know but I think you could make it work.

haha yeah we've talked here and there before and after class. Short chats so nothing significant. Yeah I hope I can make it work.. I already think about her too much so it will be the biggest blowout if she has a boyfriend or isn't interested lol

Sometimes just being straight forward and direct can really work. For example you can just say to her I think your a great person and like to get to know you more off of school campus can I have your number?

I have been through a lot In my life with relationships and I feel at this point I much rather someone who can be assertive and just be open and honest about what they want, no beating around the bush and just be straight up. I hate playing mind games not saying that is what you're doing at all. I'm just saying it is sexy for a women to have a man who has a head on their shoulders and not afraid to go after what they want.

Try to think of a way to hang out with her outside of school, then be like, "Hey I was wondering if you'd be interested in hanging out at (wherever)?" if she says yes then "Great could I get your number so I can keep you posted on when/where/what time/the address/etc?"

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My advice, once in interaction with her, keep walking in the same direction even though your class is not there. This way, you can at the very least extend the period of the conversation. If she realizes that you're not going towards right direction and asks for it, just tell her the truth. But don't oversell or undersell it. Just go like "you were going this direction and i didn't wanna split up". This is a clear enough message in my opinion. If this door opens, immediately ask for her number.P. S. I'm not good at asking girls out. Heck, i've had only one date with one girl in my life. The method i suggested is not a way to gain her attention, it simply is a way to get an idea if she is already interested or not.

Do something for her like, in Cafeteria buy her a coffee, gift her a CD or help with something, and just AFTER you finished doing that thing, come out with "Hey, can I have your number?"Now that you have done something for her, she feels obligated to return the favor, so she might give it to you, if she doesn't, try insisting, " Why not? It's just a number.."

Lol right away dude, don't be afraid. Just be confident and ask her for her number. The worse she can say is no which I doubt. Look at it this way, if you never ask her for her number you won't never get it. But if you do there's a chance that you do get her number. There are different ways to approach this. if you don't show her that you're interested you're going to be in the friendzone.

You'd think it'd be the end of the conversation but that's actually the worst time, well, no the worst time is right away buttttt, it's up there, anyway, try to have at least a 10 minute conversation with her about something decent, not too much, like who are you voting for next year but just something easy, like the weather or something, if she's being responsive and showing positive body signals (look it up), ask her just after you've had a laugh or something, do it towards the middle of the conversation. If you do it at the end she'll think she's just some girl that you've gotten the number of and if you do it at the very beginning, she'll think it's creepy

at 15:00 o'clock would be a good time. you could threaten her , that if she isn't going to give you her phone number, you will drive a truck rigged with explosives into her parents house. i bet she will give you her number then, if not, you know what you have to do.