I’m a man – can I email you?

We are happy to take an initial email from any male survivor, but are not able to offer on-going support.

While we recognise the experiences and pain of men who have suffered any kind of sexual violence, here at Cambridge Rape Crisis we have found that a women-only service provision is an invaluable environment for many female service users. We recognise the need for specialist services for men and are more than happy to signpost male callers to those services who can support them.

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Testimonials

Thank you for being there to talk to when I felt like I had no-one else. Thank you for getting me to talk about it all and then listening when I wouldn’t shut up!

[My ISVA] helped me all the way through the fight for justice, she is awesome - thanks to her I am still sane!

[Counselling] has helped me feel a lot more confident in speaking about my problems. I feel more in control of my decisions and understand I can make them.

[I valued] the exploration of each of the themes in the [group] sessions. Hearing other people's experiences. Hearing other people's reactions, repercussions, actions and things they do to help.

Absolutely can't fault [my ISVA]. She's been completely brilliant. If there was a stronger agree option, that is where I'd've ticked.

It has made me feel more confident in terms of speaking out about what happened to me. The counselling has helped me deal with everyday emotions and situations which I could not talk to anyone else about. I feel more comfortable now to open up and speak to a counsellor honestly now I've built their trust.

[Having an ISVA] made me feel relieved of the pressure of reporting on my own, meaning I had more brain power/capacity to do other fulfilling things.

Being believed, understood, accepted and getting challenged so that I could go on the journey towards living with freedom. Freedom of thought, emotion and action.

I feel as though I am much more in control of my emotions. I do not owe anything to my rapist, he is irrelevant and not worth any of my time.

There have been no intrusive questions. I don't have to mention details, which make me feel uncomfortable. Everyone is understanding and really friendly. I value that the support is free and in such a nice environment. Everyone believes you.

[Counselling] helped me to realise I had all the coping strategies there but just needed affirmation. I now believe in myself.

I am much less angry and confused. I feel more in control of what is going on than I did.

[Because of the counselling] I understand myself and my emotions better.

I talked to the police before having an ISVA. CRCC gave me phone support regarding what rights I have [and] what the interview would be like.

[Counselling] gave me the language to talk about my assault and the motivation to do so.

[My ISVA helped me with] understanding that how I felt was rational and my experiences were real.

[I valued] somebody taking time to help me.

You don't know what you need to know until you experience abuse. CRCC has made it an easier road to navigate and I feel totally supported at a time we thought we would not survive!

I have had such amazing support; I can't thank you enough.

I was really impressed with the support and kindness I experienced from the ISVA service. It gave me confidence to start dealing with the situation. It's a great service.

[The counselling was] a space to talk about my worries and insecurities surrounding abuse without it being difficult.

I felt like I was believed and wasn't judged with how I felt and everything that happened.

I had no idea what to expect and I was very nervous but soon realised that it was okay and I did not need to worry.

Counselling has had a massive influence on me and get through one of the most difficult times of my life so far. [My counsellor] has been amazing and taught me how to trust again, deal with my feelings in a more positive and productive way & I am so incredibly grateful for being given this time and support.

Amazing support.

[Counselling] has helped me work through my own coping mechanisms to strengthen them and develop strategies to help make everyday life easier to confront.

[I valued] being able to open up to someone that's not connected with my family.

[The ISVA Navigator] was so helpful and lovely. She made me feel able to talk about how I was feeling and gave me all the possible options and services that are available to me.

[The ISVA Navigator] was lovely and made me feel comfortable about speaking about what had happened and she was able to tell me what will happen next.