Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Dr. Soothe

Yesterday was
busy: I saw Dr. Shoja at nine and then had lunch with Susan at the yacht club
(where I showed her two trophies donated by my father). At six I met Beth at
the airport. Jet lagged on arrival from TO, she’s staying in our friend Bruce’s
place not far from me for a week. Her plane was slightly late but she settled
in for a good night’s rest. During the time she’s here I plan to play and take
a break from dressmaking.

And I’m
renouncing attending parties. Dr. S. says its okay. When I said that the
decision made me feel like a bit of a social failure she asked me: “Why do you
think alcohol is such a vital part of parties?”

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Larry and Camille
emailed to say my cakes were a hit at the party I left on Sunday. And Camille
said that she liked my play. She is relentlessly positive, however, and I think
she might have just skimmed it. But she’s got me thinking about sending it to a
dramaturge. Beth has used the fellow I’d use and she said he is very frank and
that’s exactly what I want.

So it’s back to
my script. I will go through it again at least once before sending it to Colin.
Then, depending on what he says, I will make my decision about whether to build
my dresses into an exhibition space or into the PAL Theatre for a short run of
the play.

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I haven’t
written about my “inappropriate friend,” Dr. Soothe in a long time. Like me,
Dr. Soothe has mental health issues but what strikes everyone is his
spectacular presentation. His good looks attract an endless string of women who
don’t stay; one of them long ago was a close female friend. That’s how I met
him.

We became
friends and then friends with benefits and I fell hard for him but in a wonderful
aloof way.

It’s odd, for
sure, that a straight man would engage with me as he has. But I couldn’t be
happier and I get it. He gets a level of understanding from me that few others
can offer; I know what its like to lose one’s mental balance. Plus: My
affection comes with no strings and lasts.
It’ll last as long as he wants it to because I love him but I don’t want
anything more than what we have. His girlfriends, however, always want “a
relationship” — until they discover his mental health problems, that is, and
leave.

That’s our
history minus one thing: Two years ago he was diagnosed with two cancers. I was
his only visitor in the hospital, I think, and our bond grew. My AIDS
experience helped me to understand his fears.

On Monday he
found a lump on his neck and went to the doctor. He’s having it biopsied this
week. I’m selfishly scared; he’s terrified and alone. Now I’m to become Dr.
Soothe to him.