Category: Stillbirth

I have eight children. Four of them I get to raise, and four of them were lost before birth. Losing my babies was painful of course. Most days I do well, but occasionally my spirit still feels raw. Years later, I still think about them. Never having gotten to know my babies, I still wonder… Continue reading Why I’m Grateful for My Miscarried Babies

I spent eight years as a photographer. For eight years I watched couples and families during their most joyous times of their lives. Weddings, anniversaries, births of their children, milestone moments like birthday parties, graduations, family photo sessions, gender reveals, and more. And while I loved so much of that work I remember thinking many… Continue reading Capturing the Beauty in Life–Even in Death

Losing our baby ripped my world apart and it felt like it would never, ever be quite right again. In the years since I’ve realized that while the grief lessened and the wound healed, the life – and loss – of that baby changed me forever.

We are far from where we need to be but the movement has been growing for years and is finally making some headway in mainstream birth. But just as it is true that mothers have the right to a dignified birth and true evidence based care, they also have a right to that when it comes to miscarriage.

As you may know, October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. It’s a particular kind of grief that touches so many. According to the Pastoral Guide for Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Newborn Loss, estimates show that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. Some estimates are one in three. In the US, there are over… Continue reading 3 Observations About Infant Loss Grief

Sometimes we just don’t know what to do anymore. It seems as though we live in a highly sensitive age where it is near impossible to say anything without offending somebody about something. Yet we know we need to act and we know there are people around us who are hurting and hurting deeply. And… Continue reading When Someone You Love is Grieving Their Baby