A Do or A Don't: Taking a Baby-moon

A Do or A Don't: Taking a Baby-moon

It seems like there is always a new excuse to treat yourself, and the new trend for expecting couples is to go on a baby-moon — you know, the last time to vacation with your honey before the baby comes! I'm all for living the good life and spending quality time to romance your special someone, but a baby-moon just seems like an excuse to go on an extravagant vacation. Though I'm not a mom myself, I do understand how a couples relationship, and life for that matter, completely changes after a baby. It's not as easy to get alone time with one another and oftentimes sleep is more important than sex, so perhaps getting in one last vacation makes sense after all. Every couple is different, as is every pregnancy, so tell me, do you think going on a baby-moon is a do or a don't?

Hmm, so if you would not take a vacation while you can't have drink, boy are you going to make some miserable pregnant ladies. It's kind of sad to read that comment actually.
My husband and I went on a "babymoon" when I was pregnant with my first. We went to Turks and Caikos and had a great time even though I was 6 mos pregnant. I was not nauseous, and I proudly wore a bikini. It was one of the best vacations we ever took, and I am so glad we did it, because now we have a 2 yr old and a newborn and I don't think we're traveling too far for a while.
Life does not stop when you're pregnant, ladies.

Hmm, so if you would not take a vacation while you can't have drink, boy are you going to make some miserable pregnant ladies. It's kind of sad to read that comment actually.My husband and I went on a "babymoon" when I was pregnant with my first. We went to Turks and Caikos and had a great time even though I was 6 mos pregnant. I was not nauseous, and I proudly wore a bikini. It was one of the best vacations we ever took, and I am so glad we did it, because now we have a 2 yr old and a newborn and I don't think we're traveling too far for a while.Life does not stop when you're pregnant, ladies.

A babymoon sounds like a great idea to me, except I wouldnt feel right about taking time off work knowing that I would have maternity leave coming up. Maybe I would just take a weekend babymoon, nothing too extravagant.

I agree with javsmav- if I can't drink, it's not a vacation so no, I would wait until baby was old enough to be left with grandma or go before I got pregnant. Besides, sex on vacation is always fun too, but who wants to do that when you have morning sickness or you are big and uncomfortable??

Absolutely do it! My hubby and I went on an OB/GYN-suggested Celebrity cruise for our baby-moon and we had a blast. We went during my second trimester, which my doc suggested since I had more energy than during my 1st trimester but I was not so enormous yet that moving was uncomfortable. I snorkeled in Jamaica and Grand Cayman with no problems and got to blame my shopping sprees on hormones. Celebrity is supposed to treat all passengers like royalty, but I felt like I was treated even better because I was prego! Plus, you can pig out at dinner and no one thinks twice about it!

If I can't drink, it's not a vacation. so no, I would not do this. But at least spending a romantic weekend/week with your husband makes more sense than a "push prize"--a gift for having a baby? ridiculous.

I would think that it would be a vacation after getting pregnant within the 3-6 month range when morning sickness are supposedly gone and you aren't too far along to travel anymore.I wouldn't call a trip prior to getting pregnant a babymoon. What if you couldn't conceive in the time frame that you thought you would have? I would just call it a vacation.

I would think that it would be a vacation after getting pregnant within the 3-6 month range when morning sickness are supposedly gone and you aren't too far along to travel anymore.
I wouldn't call a trip prior to getting pregnant a babymoon. What if you couldn't conceive in the time frame that you thought you would have? I would just call it a vacation.

I always looked at a babymoon as the last big vacation before pregnancy. I guess I never thought of it ocurring during pregnancy before the baby came.As ElizabethRae said, all of the not so enjoyable side effects of pregnancy might hinder an otherwise incredible vacation.Regardless, I consider my upcoming Mexican Riviera getaway my babymoon, since I can enjoy it with just my husband and some margaritas, which I wouldn't be able to if I was prego.

I always looked at a babymoon as the last big vacation before pregnancy. I guess I never thought of it ocurring during pregnancy before the baby came.
As ElizabethRae said, all of the not so enjoyable side effects of pregnancy might hinder an otherwise incredible vacation.
Regardless, I consider my upcoming Mexican Riviera getaway my babymoon, since I can enjoy it with just my husband and some margaritas, which I wouldn't be able to if I was prego.

i think a babymoon is a great idea! i have a couple of friends that did it- one couple went to france at the beginning of the pregnancy (bad timing, she was going through morning sickness at that stage) and another couple went to some resort on an island- they had a great time!

I love the idea, but I doubt I'd be feeling up to a big vacation towards the end of a pregnancy. I think this would be a great idea to kick off trying to get pregnant, but for me it wouldn't be anything extravagant. Maybe a weekend in a nice hotel in a nearby city? Anything more than that would have me thinking about how expensive kids will be and how we should be saving instead!

Things that happen during pregnancy: vomiting, general sickness, no drinking, avoiding certain foods, avoiding certain parts of the world, difficulty sleeping, general discomfort, weight gainWhen I go on vacation, my list of things to do involves none of the above. I'd have a last hurrah before TRYING to get pregnant, or take a weekend away with hubby AFTER a baby, but planning a big trip during a pregnancy sounds like a bad idea to me.

Things that happen during pregnancy: vomiting, general sickness, no drinking, avoiding certain foods, avoiding certain parts of the world, difficulty sleeping, general discomfort, weight gain
When I go on vacation, my list of things to do involves none of the above. I'd have a last hurrah before TRYING to get pregnant, or take a weekend away with hubby AFTER a baby, but planning a big trip during a pregnancy sounds like a bad idea to me.

rice wrote:"We are going on our babymoon in October and are both extremely excited!!"So -- you're not pregnant right now? But you will be leaving for a "babymoon" (I think the term is a bit silly, but to each their own) in a couple of months? [Am I understanding this correctly?]Then *what* makes it a babymoon (for you)? How is it different from a vacation? [I hope this doesn't sound rude or snarky; it isn't meant to, for what it's worth.]I understand that you are hoping to conceive -- so, to you, a babymoon is a vacation meant to be used as a platform for conception.But what Dear is referring to is somewhat different, right? Does she mean that couples, once they discover that they are pregnant, take that *one last child-free vacation*? I wonder if they are vacationing to enjoy a last stab at childless luxury, or if they take the vacation as a celebration of the baby.

rice wrote:
"We are going on our babymoon in October and are both extremely excited!!"
So -- you're not pregnant right now? But you will be leaving for a "babymoon" (I think the term is a bit silly, but to each their own) in a couple of months? [Am I understanding this correctly?]
Then *what* makes it a babymoon (for you)? How is it different from a vacation? [I hope this doesn't sound rude or snarky; it isn't meant to, for what it's worth.]
I understand that you are hoping to conceive -- so, to you, a babymoon is a vacation meant to be used as a platform for conception.
But what Dear is referring to is somewhat different, right? Does she mean that couples, once they discover that they are pregnant, take that *one last child-free vacation*?
I wonder if they are vacationing to enjoy a last stab at childless luxury, or if they take the vacation as a celebration of the baby.

Huh... I always ever heard the term "baby moon" to mean a time AFTER a baby is born when the couple takes time to be alone with their new family, without any "intruders". Never heard it in this context before. Interesting.