Hearing your flatmates vibrator?

Protip: Turn vibe on, put under your bed covers, walk out of room, close door behind you. Can you hear the noise?

CSB: When I was a youngin' I taped myself masturbating (with a cassette recorder, look it up on the Google kids). I then played the tape back at a proper volume, then went around the house to see if the noise was detectable elsewhere in the house. FTR: I learned I could be a lot louder.

Oh I believe it. Every time we have one of these threads like 10 people go on about "hur hur go ask to join" as if most people would actually want that. Apparently they don't realize that most people aren't just hoping other people will hear them and come on in. Even the people who think they do might find themselves taken aback and a little uncomfortable if the situation presented itself.

I realise this, my statement was based on her saying "come in". And it could've worked out for them. It sounds like she had some sexual tension, who knows, maybe that was exactly what she was fantasizing about. It's not like I said 'If you knocked on her door you definitely woulda got laid'. You never know 'til you try.

I don't think that's a given man. I live with two girls in a three person house, and if I were to hear them masturbate I don't think I'd really care. Ideally, you don't think about your roommates in that way. It is the same as hearing people have sex - whatever, it's going to happen.

I'm also sure all of us make special effort to ensure that the rest of us aren't around when we do.

I lived with two female roommates for a while. I could sometimes hear one of them using her vibe and I thought it was funny, but I wasn't uncomfortable or anything. I mean, everyone does it. She had no idea I heard her though. So one day while she was making dinner, I went into her room and found it (it was just sitting on her dresser), put on a Darth Vader helmet I had from Halloween, and went into the kitchen...

"Obi Wan never told you about your father..."

bzzzzzzzz

"I AM YOUR FATHER."

She turned redder than I have ever seen a person turn. But she was an awesome person, and ran into her room and came out with A BIGGER ONE AND FOUGHT ME WITH IT. And it was the most hilarious thing that has ever happened to me. I was actually scared that we would suffocate from laughter.

TL;DR: Have a vibrator battle with your roommate and you'll get over it.

Every living situation and person is slightly different, so there's no one size fits all answer here.

Despite all the people saying he wouldn't care or would like it, it's also possible that hearing other people jerk it makes him really uncomfortable.

Does he stay in his room all the time because he's uncomfortable around people, or is he always in there jerking it loudly himself?

Does he already have a list of annoying things you do all the time that could make this the straw that breaks the camels back? Do you complain to him about making too much noise since the walls are so thin?

A decent amount of guys living with a girl tend to have at least some sexual tension about the situation. Could him hearing you playing with yourself push him to try and make a move, making everything even more awkward?

Does he ever have a lady friend who could get upset with him or you knowing that he hears you doing this, or even hearing it himself?

There's a lot of things to consider, and you're the only one who can really assess the situation. Personally I would consider it common courtesy to keep masturbation noises as low as possible simply because it sucks enough to not have any privacy at all, let alone being unwilling included in something like jerking it. Not everyone is me though.

There's often a pause at the beginning or end of a song, sometimes even in the middle of a song. Unless she's impaling her orchid in-time with the music it won't help much on that front. In fact, it might be even less reliable.

Wow, check the attitude, pal. I don't know what sort of places you live in, but I've lived in several different houses and none have had locks anywhere but the bathroom and of course the front & rear doors. It's a house, not a penitentiary.

EDIT1: I have decided to walk in on her. If she does it tonight, which I am guessing she will, I will be walking in on her. I am not sure how exactly I am going to do it, but I think my entrance is going to be make or break important. I will update later tonight...

EDIT2: We are both in the apartment now. I am very nervous about tonight.

EDIT3: It went okay.

EDIT4: I had a hard time mustering the courage to do anything. I heard her masturbating and I started getting ready by masturbating as well. I quickly got excited enough to leave my room. I had it all planned out, but when I stood there in front of the door I could just not do anything for a while. I just froze thinking what the fuck am I doing. I could hear her clearly through the door and I could see through the tiny slit on the side that it was not locked. I stood there for what has to be the longest minute or so in my life. I could hear my heart beat as I was nervously tugging myself a little before reaching out to the door with my free hand. I followed your advice ladies about not barging in, but knocking. She quickly ran to the door and locked it. It happened so sudden it really threw me off. By then I was so nervous my heart was pounding and I wanted to say something that would not freak her completely out since she seemed really startled, but I was simply not able to. I would just have been able to stutter something so I decided to try to calm down. I was still tugging myself, but the shock was making me go flaccid. She suddenly asked "what do you want?" and I was just completely frozen again, but I knew I had to snap out of it and quick so I said "You.. I want you.. I've been hearing you all these nights and now it's unbearable..." and then there was total silence. I knew there was no going back. I kept thinking I had fucked up my life and probably hers as well. I could not believe what I had just done. I Kept thinking I had gone completely insane. I broke out in a cold sweat and started shivering. Then the door unlocked... It was a tremendous success.

EDIT5: There was no sex because I was too nervous to get it up again. Just a little awkward fumbling.

Just do it, he masturbates too. If he hears the vibe, so what? Or put on some music at the same time. If he asks you about it just admit you were masturbating, it is entirely natural. But I doubt he will ask, or care.

I don't know. We don't know anything about OP or her roommate. Maybe he's gay. Maybe she's not attractive to him. Maybe he just doesn't get off on hearing a vibrating sound, even if he has an idea of what's going on. Maybe he thinks she got an electronic toothbrush. Who knows?

Put some music on or get a better vibrator. They make a ton that are silent. If you need help finding a good one that's worth the money, send me a PM. I'm not a creepy dude, just a chick who used to sell sex toys.

Lol considering that I'd just link her to a shit ton of different toys with descriptions on what they do and how/where to get them cheapest, not really. Wouldn't be asking how she wants to get off or for personal info. Although rereading my comment I realize I shouldn't post on this topic when I'm high.

I could never work up the balls to use mine anywhere near my crotch or armpits. My pain threshold is not high enough to use it in such sensitive areas, so I shaved those instead. (I have brought myself to tears epilating my chest and belly.) My epilator has interchangeable head sheaths, so that I can block out all but a middle-eyebrow-sized area of the head when I use it on my brow. I've used two other epilators before. The less powerful they are, the more they hurt, because less powerful ones sometimes have to pull on the same hair more than once to get it out. I've stopped epilating my torso because I was getting horrible ingrown hairs all over. I now have scars from all of the ingrown hair sores. Some day, when I can afford it, I'll get electrolysis on my whole body and be done with body hair forever.

whether it makes him uncomfortable depends, but the real question is will it make you uncomfortable. If he can hear your vibrator, he will picture you naked and masturbating, especially if he finds you relatively attractive. Besides that, I would say go ahead for your own sake.

yea that's definitely a good one! i wouldn't worry too much, turn on the tv or music and have yourself a good ole time! My roommate likes to open the door and yell loudly if i'm masturbating before coming in..... NOT ANYMORE!

Thin walls are one thing, but if the room reverberates with sound, that will definitely make it seem louder. When it's quiet, go into your room and either snap your fingers or clap your hands, and listen. Does the sound reflect off the walls? Does it sound cavernous or echo-y?

If so, get some curtains up on the window, hang a rug/blanket on the wall, and/or strategically place pillows, folded laundry, or towels in the corners. The idea is to deaden the room so sounds won't bounce all over the walls. Then, when he's not home, put the device on your dresser or desk or some place open, go into his room and see if you can hear it. If not, you're golden.

If so, apply more sound baffling, or consult the friendly folks on a device-related reddit (I'm sure there's one) for a quieter unit.

We all wank. Even if this does make him a bit uncomfortable I don't really feel this is much of a problem as he, presumably, wanks at risk of you hearing and feeling uncomfortable. It's the risk we all have to pay to pleasure ourselves.

You could ask him if he minds, if you're good friends that's probably not overstepping any lines. Aren't they pretty quiet when they are in contact with you? If not maybe you can use it under sheets or pillows, or get a quieter one!

I used to hear my roommate all the time using hers, and with her boyfriend. Didn't bother me in the slightest. Turned me on every now and then cuz she was hot but other than that I was usually listening to music.

Maybe turn on some background noise? A fan or some music or something? I mean, I don't know how loud this vibrator is, but I doubt that it would take much to at least obfuscate the sound to an unidentifiable level.

The need for privacy while masturbating is a strong one. You have a few options here. A. Use an adult toy which does not vibrate and is therefore silent. B. Use your vibrator and hope your flatmate is none the wiser. C. Use it in the bathroom with the shower running as a cover sound. D. Invest in a super quiet and waterproof vibrator. It's a win/win situation.

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