Ok, if you been keepin' up with me, you know that I've been bitchin about this guy, not knowing what's up between us. Let me remind everyone that I gave this guy a way out. I told him if he's no longer interested in me, to just let me know. He said he was just busy and was not trying to ignore me, but I have confirmation that he's talking to other girls. He doesn't call as much and now I found someone else that I'm interested in. A part of me wants to call the first guy and end it, but another part of me wants to keep talking to him (despite what I know) and use him for sex (because he obviously doesn't care about me like I did for him) when were both in town and talk to this new guy at my school. What should I do??

Ah...karma. The stuff that always bites you in the ass in the end...Well, personally, I would have liked to have had a serious relationship with the first guy, but it's obvious that's not where his head is at. I deserve for him to be honest with me (which he just won't do), but now I'm thinking of just playing his little game and focusing on this other guy who I know is interested in me. I just wanted to be with the first guy, but I guess I need backup...

Girl, I know the feeling, but trust me, playin his little head game will only hurt you in the end. You want to be serious with this first guy, but you know thats not where his head is at. It sounds like you are starting to realize that you cant change him or his ways. Dont use him for sex either, that just makes you look nasty, and you never know who else he's havin sex with. If I were you, I'd just talk to him every once in a while, and see where things go with this new guy.

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I'm a guy...and something similar seems to be happening w/ me and my gf of 2 years. I have many female friends, and i talk to them..they're friends, thats what you do. And i have one female friend that i'm really close to and my gf doesn't seem to understand that there is no attraction there at all. To me, she is just another guy friend, if that makes sense at all...The point i'm tryin to make is, unless you wanna move on, or you've SEEN him do some stuff that shouts, and yes, i repeat, shouts, that he wants to date another girl, then don't break up with him due to hearsay. Especially in school, no offense to you girls, but girls DO like to talk...a lot. From my view point, many girls spend they're whole lives trying to drag other girls down. Also, if your heart tells you you don't love him, and you like another guy, listen to your heart...well your head beings that your heart technically doesn't nm, thats off topic. Just try to listen to your heart and not other people. Talk is talk, actions show truth. PS, It is possible to get really caught up in work and not realize that you arn't doing everything you should be to show someone you care. Hope it works out best for you. PS...S...err...some comments are made to make you laugh, i have a thing for trying to lighten the mood, bad habbit, i kno lol

I'm not rambling about some imaginary girl I made up. It's not hearsay. I know for a fact he's talking to someone else. And he's been talking to her when he hasn't been calling me, so obviously he's been having long conversations with the bitch (she said it herself). I know he has females friends. I'm not trippin' off them. They were there before me, but I know he met this bitch after me. Which pisses me off. I know during the "talking" stage, you usually talk to others, but he specifically told ME he was only talking to me. Which pisses me off because I'm not. Part of me wants to tell him to go suck a dick, but my friend says, despite the situation, I should never ever completely close the door on anything. I should leave the door open for him, which I think is unfair to me, but I don't know....

hate to change sides in a debate, but the way you described it this time, reminds me a lot of one of my friends..well kinda my friend, my gf's friend, anyways...We'll call my friend Jen and her BF Tim, well Tim has a female friend who is a little more than a friend as it would seem. They call each other all the time and go out all the time, not going out as in dates persay, but they might as well be. While the girl that isn't tim's gf was out with us she actually called him and talked to him when she was with all of her friends who wanted to talk with her. Jen knows about it somewhat, but doesn't want to break up with Tim because she isn't sure what to do. The other girl pretends to not be involved with him, but it is obvious...if this is the case, dump him, try to leave on a happy note, but yea, dump him. Just make sure to always leave things on a happy note, you never know when you may need another friend...Hope some of my thoughts have helped