I'm not sure if this is something you'd be interested in or whatever, but if she qualifies for Medicad, she should be able to get Home Care services through Medicaid, and you could possibly get paid (through Medicaid) to be her home health aide. It wouldn't be anywhere near 17$ an hour, but it would be something.

This has got to be rough for you and your family. Feel free to come here and vent any time you want/ need to!! Even though our situations may be different, caregivers as a whole understand what each other goes through!