(Closed) Already Stressing. Has anyone gone through this before?

Ok… My fiance and I have only been engaged for almost 2 months now and we are already starting to plan for a wedding in Oct. of 2015. I am beyond excited and soooo happy I am spending the rest of my life with a wonderful man. However, this has been on my mind way before we got engaged and I have expressed this to my fiance (many times). My fiances mom and aunt like to get drunk ALOT. They actually are functioning alcoholics. And when they drink, things can get nasty. They both are sloppy, mean, will fight eachother, other people, fall over, get sick. U name it!

I am already stressing about them causing a scene or worse. Who knows with these two! Has anyother Bee experienced this at their wedding? Especially with the grooms mom or family?? Do I have a right to mention anything to them?

There are a couple of serious alcoholics in our family… we basically designated others to watch them. Actually we didn’t even designate people, they volunteered and designated themselves! They told us that they would take care of it if anything got out of hand and they must have because there was NO drama at our wedding 🙂

@CrazyChihuahuaLady: I have a few people in mind to watch over the reception but I am still very nervous. His aunt is the one that is beyond out of control. If I had my wish she wouldnt be invited, and my fiance feels that way too. But dont want to piss his mom off.

Have you considered a brunch reception? It wouldn’t look odd if you had a dry wedding in the morning, and champagne toast is optional. I dont know how much they like to drink, but 10am is a little early to get started.

@Brittanyvictoria7: That’s too bad – I was thinking a brunch reception would solve the problem too. A candlelit ceremony will be beautiful though 🙂 I’m sure you’ll have people keeping an eye on them, and guests won’t hesitate to remove other guests who are at risk of making your party go sideways. Given that your day is still far off, do you think you and your fiancé could gently voice your concerns to his mom? Gives her time to cool off if she gets indignant, plus gives her loads of time to reflect on her past behaviour. The last thing she will want is to ruin her son’s wedding…no?

@Brittanyvictoria7: Yeah, I have this problem with Future Mother-In-Law. It’s really quite sad and is heartbreaking and embarassing for my FH to watch. So, we aren’t inviting family to our wedding. GASP. I know. It will just be us and few friends because his mom is a hot mess.

I’m sure things will be fine! Honestly, people have a way of surprising you at weddings. You can also make sure your coordinator or bartender is aware and have them cut off your Future Mother-In-Law or FI’s aunt if they start getting inappropriate.

@Toronto2014: I have a feeling she can control herself. But who knows anymore. Her sister is worse than her!! Both of the together is a hot mess, then alcohol is involved.. it gets insane.. I feel for my fiance, he gets sooooo embarrassed and mad

@arsing89: I suggested that to my fiance plus it saves alot of money not to have liquor but he insists on having it and not punishing the rest of our guests. I don’t agree with him but his families paying for it, so I keep my mouth shut. lol