Finding Your Self Identity

To completely pick up who you are, dust it off and throw it behind you. Fully immersing yourself in a new you, a new normal, a new life.

Are you wondering if I’ve lost it?

I bring this up because I too have been challenged by this lately. In fact, months of suppressing my wants and overriding those with fears and negativity. I touched on this in my How Do You Define Joy post. With the challenge to live in the now instead of waiting for the perfect moment. Because those happen…said no one ever.

As I sit and listen to my clients talk about their hopes for their health, for their bodies and on a different note as I’ve been asked recently what my goals and dreams are for my own life, I’ve realized that we can all dream big. We all have goals and aspirations. We know what we want or maybe better said, what we’d like to have yet, we have so little faith.

We have little faith that our dreams will be achieved, that our life goals will be met, that life will work out in our favor.

Instead, we live with regret, with a sense of failure and constantly fear the what-ifs.

If you too are living there, let me ask you this, is this a rewarding life?

Personal Struggles:

As I too have been struggling with this in my own personal life, not believing that I too am of value, undeserving of what has been given and what lies ahead, I question my true motives and I realize that I am full of lies.

Lies of the world telling us we are nothing, that we don’t deserve health and happiness and only pain can suffice in this life.

I’ve suppressed the hurt in my past, yet it is ruling my future. My wrong is my life.

This mindset means I’ve already lost and I haven’t even started.

I find myself using the words, I wish, I want, I can’t, I don’t think, maybe and settle with fine.

I have lack of faith and I’m done. I’m done living this way.

It isn’t a rewarding life. It lacks, hope, joy and peace. So my challenge to you as I challenge myself, is to create a new identity for yourself.

Creating a New Identity:

Imagine your life, what are your dreams and aspirations?

Write them out.

Do you want to live to be 95, do you want to finish a marathon, lose a few pounds, get off your medication, go on a vacation, take time for your family?

What do you want?

The Hard Part:

Stop living in the past and start living for your future. While we can’t change what has happened what has been done we can only count these as gains as we move forward. Take what you’ve learned from those situations of the past, see how they’ve shaped your character and use those things to catapult you into your new identity.

All of the yo-yo dieting, the highs and the lows of your mood, take those moments and use them to better yourself for what is ahead.

Deal with your past and then leave it in your past.

Embrace Yourself:

Unfortunately it is far too common to live in thoughts of who we think we should be or who we used to be. But this mindset gets us no where, other than where we are.

My Challenge to You:

Meet yourself right where you are, not where you think you should be or where you have been. Embrace who you are and paint that picture of your future. Define your identity and live it. Chase it, believe it and tell yourself you will achieve it. You deserve a joyful and healthy life, but that choice lies in your hands.

Leave a comment or reply to me, telling me what your fears or regrets are in your past that are holding you back? What needs to be dealt with and then move onto focusing and believing your dreams?

Embrace yourself but don’t settle until you achieve your dreams.

If you want to check out my personal story on how I’m believing in my own God sized voice, my struggles and how I’ve overcome many hurdles, check out my guest post over at Mikaela Kate.

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About Alexa

Alexa is a Nutritionist currently pursuing her Masters degree in Public Health. She specializes in helping her clients to see the whole picture of health and wellness and enjoys developing healthy grain free recipes and writing about various health topics. She lives in a cornfield in Iowa with her husband Payton and their three daughters, Ava, Addie and Auden.