Did you ever make a mistake that you knew was a mistake while you were making the mistake? I think I did that earlier today, but I will let you know for sure what and how when it all plays out over the next week.

Sort of. Took some cough syrup last night that was (unknown to me) counter-indicated for one of my meds, and that kept me awake all night and very angry. It was then I came up with my plan to spray paint PEDOPHILE on the side of the house of the man who raped me when I was a kid. Not so feasible in the sober light of day, but I haven't entirely crossed it off my to do list yet.

Ehhh, on the flip side, my fiancee and I love our dog and it's the closest thing to a "child" that we have for now. Obviously we know it's not like a human child, but that still doesn't stop us from taking pictures of it occasionally and dressing it up...

If I ever become the sort of person that celebrates an animal's birthday with a birthday cake, smack me. Hard.

Browsing reddit makes me think too many pet owners are pathetic and act as if their dog is their child. It's not.

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People often do ridiculous things for their dogs, there is no denying that. Dogs can be friends, though, and when you lose one it's like losing a friend. Maybe not a human friend, but still.

Yeah, birthday cakes are pretty silly. I would not do such a thing.

Once I had a conversation with my vet. She told me she was reading about some super-expensive antibiotics for pets and how this made her sick because people went to ridiculous extents for their animals, pharmaceuticals charged ridiculous prices while other people cannot get vaccines or basic medication.

Yeah, several times when I was left in his care. l I wouldn't joke about that.

It was a fucked up situation. He was one of two teenage sons of my parents' best friends, the other one being mildly retarded (Yeah, I know. Great gene pool). Even as a young kid, I knew I'd be turning my parents' lives upside down by reporting it. And I liked their friends the old folks, too. I'm sure nobody had a clue.

Once I had a conversation with my vet. She told me she was reading about some super-expensive antibiotics for pets and how this made her sick because people went to ridiculous extents for their animals, pharmaceuticals charged ridiculous prices while other people cannot get vaccines or basic medication.

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Did your vet drive a nice car?
Did she live in a nice house?
Ever go on an expensive vacation?

Her reasoning was hypocritical.

People spend a lot of money on things they don't really need to, pets included. She could have bought a cheaper car, or a smaller home, or a number of other ways to save money and help buy those poor people their basic medications.

I could stop buying video games and instead donate all of that money to the poor. We all could. But we don't.

There's nothing "sick" about paying lots of money to save something we love. It's quite normal. People spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to extend the life of a cancer patient by a few weeks.

*picks up gun and empties clip into practice target*
(Cite: Hard to Kill)

But I was thinking more of a nonviolent retribution. Like show up at a school auditorium during a school function and take the stage, get on the mic, and air it out in front of him and the whole school.

Statute of limitations means he's legally untouchable (no pun intended). So I have to be careful, even with like an anonymous letter or something. He has way more money that I do, and it's his word against mine, obviously, which could turn on me with character defamation charges.

Statute of limitations means he's legally untouchable (no pun intended). So I have to be careful, even with like an anonymous letter or something. He has way more money that I do, and it's his word against mine, obviously, which could turn on me with character defamation charges.

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You can still ruin his reputation and force him to lose his job though.

And truth is a defense to defamation. Plus if you don't have much money that means you might be judgment proof and you have nothing to lose.

Plus "his word against mine" is underrated. Your word is evidence. Judges have finely tuned bullshit detectors and can usually tell who is lying and who is telling the truth. People win and lose cases just based on their word all the time.

Well, that's who I'd do it for, if I did anything. I'm talking about it now because it was recently on my mind, but for the most part, whatever scars I have are just a part of me now, and it's not that big a deal anymore.

Well, I won't be grabbing the mic anytime soon. Maybe a letter to the school president. Admittedly I probably should be more concerned about the kids. But if I have a complex psych issue, I guess this would be it. Part of me says, deal with it, kids. I did.

Much as I'd love to continue talking about the rape of children, I thought I'd instead point out that I have successfully managed to play a lot of Fable 3 this weekend. I like it so far, but I don't even own the kingdom yet so allegedly the game hasn't even really started.

I didn't think you would joke about something like that, but being raped is something that doesn't come up on forums much.

I’m so sorry clam.
I’m glad you seem to have ended up ok at least.

Don’t take this the wrong way but it seems downright morally negligent to me, to not make any effort at all to keep this guy away from children.
I’m sure you’d rather just do nothing and if you did it would bring up pain, but think of the kids.
Sure you say “-Part of me says, deal with it, kids. I did.” But I know you don’t feel that way you’re too nice of a guy you’re just rationalizing it to make yourself feel better about what happened to you.

Maybe not. Some states don't have statutes of limitations for criminal felonies. So while you might not be able to sue him, he could still face criminal charges.

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I just checked. Given OBC is nearly 60, it is currently passed the statute of limitation. HOWEVER, there is a bill pending in the Massachusetts' legislature which would repeal the statute of limitations for child molestation all together. It has not passed yet, though. Civil liability ended when OBC turned 21. Criminal Liability ended either 27 years after it happened or when he turned 48. I am unclear on that one.

As for my opinion as to what OBC should do, that is complicated. I emotionally like the kill the bastard approach. We have to be realistic and keep an eye on the fact that this guy is older than OBC, meaning he probably isn't a threat to any children anymore, and apparently this guy has resources and OBC doesn't. That could make him a dangerous opponent when coupled with OBC's lack of proof. OBC has people who depend on him. On the other hand, a) it would be damn good for OBC emotionally to nail the bastard, b) if he has done it to someone else, then it could have a ripple effect where other people come forward, c) IF the bill passes, then there will probably be a spree of people coming forward since they are no longer barred. This will probably give them a temporary boost to their credibility. OBC could ride on that to help overcome part of his evidence problem. Finally, the bastard should pay. (Molestation and rape are pretty much the only crimes which get that particular emotional impulse out of me.)

I honestly don't know the right call in this situation. I like the drag him out in to the woods and shoot him approach. Realistically, that one isn't viable, though. I am sorry though, OBC.

Maybe not. Some states don't have statutes of limitations for criminal felonies. So while you might not be able to sue him, he could still face criminal charges.

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I just checked. Given OBC is nearly 60, it is currently passed the statute of limitation. HOWEVER, there is a bill pending in the Massachusetts' legislature which would repeal the statute of limitations for child molestation all together. It has not passed yet, though. Civil liability ended when OBC turned 21. Criminal Liability ended either 27 years after it happened or when he turned 48. I am unclear on that one.

As for my opinion as to what OBC should do, that is complicated. I emotionally like the kill the bastard approach. We have to be realistic and keep an eye on the fact that this guy is older than OBC, meaning he probably isn't a threat to any children anymore, and apparently this guy has resources and OBC doesn't. That could make him a dangerous opponent when coupled with OBC's lack of proof. OBC has people who depend on him. On the other hand, a) it would be damn good for OBC emotionally to nail the bastard, b) if he has done it to someone else, then it could have a ripple effect where other people come forward, c) IF the bill passes, then there will probably be a spree of people coming forward since they are no longer barred. This will probably give them a temporary boost to their credibility. OBC could ride on that to help overcome part of his evidence problem. Finally, the bastard should pay. (Molestation and rape are pretty much the only crimes which get that particular emotional impulse out of me.)

I honestly don't know the right call in this situation. I like the drag him out in to the woods and shoot him approach. Realistically, that one isn't viable, though. I am sorry though, OBC.

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OBC's testimony would be evidence.

No one is saying shoot him, we're saying make it publicly known to his employer and his community. Besmirch his name.

No one is saying shoot him, we're saying make it publicly known to his employer and his community. Besmirch his name.

No need to wait til some legislation passes to do that.

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I am not saying anyone is saying shoot him. That was just me stating my desire. As for just coming out to besmirch his name, my only concern is any legal backlash the guy can through at OBC. I am not a lawyer, though. I don't claim to know how this type of suit would go. As such, I merely stated how I was balancing it in my head and how I am sorry he went through something bad enough that he has to think about making a call like that. If he sits down with a lawyer who will take the time to research it and make certain OBC is OK, then I think OBC should do something. I think it would be good for him. He may have to pay to protect himself, legally, though. If he can get the guy away from kids without destroying his own life, then I say go for it. If the guy is in his mid to late 60s, is he still a danger to them, though? (I honestly don't know the answer to that. Do pedophiles stop after a certain age? On the flip side, do you want to take the risk of assuming he isn't dangerous anymore when you might could have protected another kid?)

The criminal charges thing was in response to DD's comment.

In regards to Verm, he is very busy. I see him from time to time on Steam.

Unfortunately legal advice usually comes down to the same answer: Talk to a lawyer in your state/community. If you can't afford one, this is the kind of thing you can probably go to a legal aid office for, and their services are free.

Yeah people see me biking in jeans and whatever I want and they're in those bike shorts and stupid looking racing gear and they tell me "you need to buy some bike shorts" and I'm like "no, you need to buy a more comfy seat."