My XW wrestled me onto a dance floor once. 10 seconds later she said we should sit back down, and that was the last time she ever broached the subject. (This is not a memory I hold against her. She was a champ. 10 seconds was an eternity.)

Thing is, if I could actually learn to dance and not completely suck, it would be proof that anything in this world is possible, that miracles can occur, and that there is in fact a loving and caring God watching over us.

If I just plain suck and there's nothing for it, what's the worst that could happen, other than getting ridiculed and shunned at every class?

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fireproof♀ 36126Member # 36126

Posted: 10:32 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013

I think that is a great idea! Salsa, East Coast Swing, etc. I am not a dancer but I am always amazed when I see people dance.

I enjoy wine tastings because you can taste and wander around and then return to tasting and meeting different people.

Good luck with the classes!

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MovingUpward♂ 14866Member # 14866

Posted: 10:42 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013

Look around your area. Often times you can find a cheap group lesson and then dance afterwards at a bar or community center. Many areas have swing clubs or salsa clubs or meetup groups that often have events with a lesson.

Or you might find that it is fun and just can't stop learning new moves and new dances. It seems that every 3 months I have a new favorite dance.

AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

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fireproof♀ 36126Member # 36126

Posted: 11:53 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013

Meetups are an excellent idea. I go to spend time with my friends. Since the groups have events at least twice a week you eventually see some if the same people.

People also enjoy dancing and it is fun to mingle and no pressure because you might see them at another event. I would suggest you going to ones you are interested in like wine or a restaurant that way if you don't click right away you can enjoy the experience and less pressure.

The ratio of women to men is about 8 women to every man. I will tell you the men can date a lot of women from these meetups I have unfortunately witnessed the confident ones who are aware of the ratio.

Good luck and Have fun!

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want_to_forgive♀ 20470Member # 20470

Posted: 11:55 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013

Love this! I am a terrible dancer too, but I know there is a dancing diva in me! How awesome would it be to walk out on the dance floor with confidence? Women will find it super sexy, and really it is all about finding that confidence in yourself. Not being so self conscious, letting go a little. Being confident on the dance floor says something good about someone. You go first

M 11 years
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DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
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Kajem♀ 36134Member # 36134

Posted: 12:33 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

I don't think it's a scary idea. I think it's a damn good one.

OIAL are you my X. I got him up to dance once for 10 seconds then told him let's sit down. We danced at our wedding, holding onto one another and I had to do the leading.

Seriously, I would have loved for us to take dancing lessons. When my finances are in better shape I am going to.

So go get started, and save me a dance at a 2014 G2G.

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torn2bits♀ 28376Member # 28376

Posted: 12:56 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

OIAL, I think that it is wonderful for you to gain this skill. Yes, meetups have dancing groups, however, if you are not a dancer you will need a good instructor.

You should choose what kind of dancing first, then take lessons so you have that personal experience.

I am a dancer, having taken lesson in jazz, ballet and salsa since I was 5 years old. Many women love dancing; pop, salsa and ballroom.

The proper way for a gentleman to hold a woman, even while slow dancing is a great skill to have!

A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

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Sad in AZ♀ 24239Member # 24239

Posted: 6:43 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

DO IT!

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Williesmom♀ 22870Member # 22870

Posted: 6:48 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

I'll spell it out for you.

1. Watch Seinfeld.
2. Learn "the Elaine".
3. Done.

Seriously, anything that gets you out of the house and around other primates is good for the soul.

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Amazonia♀ 32810Member # 32810

Posted: 8:16 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

I have taken dance lessons on and off since college, and love it. One of the biggest things that attracted me to the guy I dated last winter was that he would suggest we go out dancing. Such a plus!

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Newlease♀ 7767Member # 7767

Posted: 10:04 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

Most women love a guy who can, and wants to, dance!

Go for it!

NL

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Grace and Flowers♀ 34431Member # 34431

Posted: 10:10 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

OIAL...just do it.

I wanted to dance...but had no idea if I had two left feet. So I took an introductory class at a local dance studio.

BEST DECISION EVER. Not only did I find out I CAN dance, I found out that I LOVE it.

It's almost addicting. My studio is now part of my family...everyone is welcoming and nice. And everyone learns in different ways and at different rates....so there is NEVER any "snootiness" at someone who maybe doesn't picket up as fast. At out social dances, the more experienced dancers always make it s point to dance with the newer dancers.

I only wish I had done this 10 years ago! I have never felt more alive than when I'm dancing.

And the great thing about the open/social dances is that's it's not a "pickup" scene. It's just people having fun...which is what dance is supposed to be!

Go for it!

I'm Happy, not Sad!

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OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 10:22 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

Believe me, the last reason I'd be doing this is to attract women. I'd just be grateful if any of them put up with me as a dance partner during the lessons.

It's just something that I've always thought would be broadening, somehow. My personality can be stiff. My dancing is rigid. It's strange, I'm a musician, but I have no body rhythm or grace.

Dancing feels like a magnification and exposure of my weakest characteristics. So this could either be a wonderful, growing experience or a huge fail

BH, now divorced

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torn2bits♀ 28376Member # 28376

Posted: 11:04 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

OIAL, my sons are musicians and they had no body movement to the beat until they really, really applied themselves.

You will see, once you get a few lessons, you are going to sky rocket! You will want to jump at opportunities to dance.

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

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Amazonia♀ 32810Member # 32810

Posted: 11:28 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

This goes so much against my grain.

Isn't that the point?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 11:34 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013

So I need some help. I've googled a bit and there are 6 billion and one different dance styles to choose from.

What I would like is some class that would help me become a comfortable social dancer. What do people actually do when they go dancing on a date? Is it like when I was a kid and everyone just gyrates and kind of bounces up and down?

Guess I'd like to start real simple, so that means Latin styles are out, I presume? I don't want to have to remember ridiculous step combinations.