You don't have to cope! If someone is "twisting your words" then stop dealing with them. This planet has almost 7 billion people on it. There are countless people you can be friends with who won't play games like this. You have OPTIONS! Stop limitiing your pool of people you can socialize with.

If they're saying it where you can hear it simply ask 'Why do you say things like that?'. Do it in a quiet, calm voice, not belligerent or confrontational.They can either state that it's their opinion or, more likely, get flustered. People are rarely called on hurtful comments.

If it's being done behind your back you need to reassess you definition of who your friends are.