Parenting

When it comes to behavioral learning, the heat of a moment is not a teachable one. Especially with kids. Your child’s already limited executive functioning isn’t on-line. He’ll be able to learn after everyone has calmed down and you’ll be able to teach a lot […]

As an older parent I’ve had the luxury of maturity, security and nanny TV to help navigate me through the murky waters of being a first-time parent. In the beginning, time-outs and counting were money in the bank and mama thought she had it made. […]

No one makes it to adulthood unscathed. Virtually all of us were wounded as children. But if we don’t attend to those wounds, they will unknowingly prevent us from parenting and/or partnering from our best self. Children have a knack for showing us our wounded […]

Have you ever watched a leaf fall from a tree? I mean, really watch it. Here in the northwest, summer fades into fall slow and steady. The seasons take turns leading, waltzing around each other like old friends. It starts with a giant oak leaf […]

Most of us learned as children that our negative feelings were in some way unacceptable, or even dangerous. As a result, when our own child has a meltdown our inner child gets triggered. We feel a sense of panic and react with fight, flight or […]

Parenting is a tough job. We all want to be inspired, but that can be tall order in our fast-paced world. Human beings simply weren’t designed to handle the amount of stress we face in modern life. Sometimes we’re so bogged down by our emotions […]

Kids are small. Imagine the emotional impact of someone twice your size yelling at you on the regular? Maya Angelou captured it when she said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget […]

Studies confirm that parents who respond with warm attunement, set appropriate limits and coach emotions, raise terrific kids. Simple, right? Not so fast! The hard part is pulling this off when every button you have is being pushed. That’s the real work of parenting. As […]