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That Was the Week That Was (#328)

Be the sort of victim people want, swallow the crap about not really choosing sex work, tell a few stories about bad clients and pray with the fervor of a convert at the altar of end demand and all the support you want is there, on their terms. – Jemima

A Swedish sex worker rights activist was stabbed to death by her ex-husband on Thursday. Swedish “feminists” pretend to care so very much for sex workers that they’re willing to destroy our lives to “save” us from imaginary “degradation”; selling sex is not illegal, but if a sex worker dares to speak openly about her choice she will be punished in many ways other than imprisonment, such as by expulsion, eviction, police harassment and more:

Several years ago she lost custody of her children as she was considered to be an unfit parent due to being a sex worker. The children were placed with their father regardless of him being abusive towards Jasmine. They told her she didn’t know what was good for her and that she was “romantisizing” prostitution, they said she lacked insight and didn’t realise sex work was a form of self-harm. He threatened and stalked her on numerous occasions, she was never offered any protection…

Activist Jemima pointed out that “Jasmine could have been listened too, could have had custody of her kids, could have been flying off to international conferences and doing TV shows, instead of being prepared for burial, all she had to do was lie…be good little puppets who trot out the party line like defendants at a Stalin era Russian show trial and then the doors of rape crisis centers, domestic refuges and conferences open wide to you…”

Another refutation of the myth that the presence of a camera magically protects sex workers from arrest: “Phoenix police arrested seven people at…a self-serve porn studio allegedly used to front a prostitution business…William James Hartwell…and six women were arrested during a raid on the studio…[after] a six-month investigation…”

This was a real banner week for Swedish “feminists”; besides enabling the murder of a sex worker, we also got this:

A professor in law at Stockholm University has called for legislation prohibiting parents from drinking alcohol in the company of their children. “It is a parent’s responsibility to be sober when they are with their children,” said Professor Madeleine Leijonhufvud…She compared the offence to minor assault which…carries a penalty of up to six months imprisonment. While the proposal is aimed at “everyday drunkenness” it in effect suggests that parents would not be able to share a glass of wine at dinner. “If you have a sick child and need to drive them to hospital then you can’t drink wine”…

Perhaps Sweden should just confiscate all children at birth and raise them in crèches? But then, of course, people would stop having them. And the feminists want even criticism of their tyrannical insanity to be criminal: “the Nordic Council of Ministers…[suggested]…the government…take action against…‘anti-feminist attitudes’…expressed in public…”

…The Internet…provides an almost unfettered platform for…pimps to find, track and enslave girls and women in sex trafficking…local and federal authorities seem powerless to ban the sale of commercial sex online. Nor do they seem able to keep up with and control the horrendous amount of trafficking the Internet generates…experts point mainly to laws that predate the Internet and define places where criminal commercial sex acts take places as “houses of prostitution” or “brothels.” Today, no such places exist. Pimps — mainly men — find customers online and direct them to meet prostitutes, who work out of different motels or apartments or sometimes even their own homes…[in] a New Mexico case…two men…were [cleared of] running “an extensive multistate, online prostitution ring”…after a judge ruled that…their website did not constitute a house of prostitution, though it was used to recruit prostitutes and promote prostitution…It would seem easy to amend anti-prostitution laws to include a ban on websites for procuring commercial sex…

Those who were surprised at seeing an anti-criminalization article in The National Review must not remember that A) many “conservatives” at least claim to be for smaller government, and B) the magazine’s founder, William F. Buckley, was a vocal opponent of drug criminalization.

…the proscription of prostitution…continues to be a mystery to me. Sex remains one of the few things that a free person may give away gratis but which he is forbidden from selling. It is perfectly legal to sleep around in the United States — subsidized and panegyrized, even — and, as the growing parade of octogenarian billionaires’ wives demonstrates, it is both permissible and socially acceptable to sleep with someone in pursuit of regular material comfort…While the laws surrounding the issue remain such a dizzy and irrational mess, drawing a clear moral line through the morass remains nigh on impossible…To broach this topic in polite company is to invite someone…to parrot the banal old line that “nobody grows up wanting to be a prostitute.” At best, this is a red herring. Certainly, few people grow up wishing to be prostitutes. But there are an awful lot of careers that escape the dreams of children…It is no accident that prostitution, which was almost uniformly legal in the United States from the period of colonization up until the start of the 20th century, was banned in almost every state within the same five-year period during which the Woman’s Christian Temperance Union managed to convince the nation that alcohol should be constitutionally outlawed…

Of course the comments are full of Puritans and trafficking fetishists, but there are a surprising number of truth-tellers there as well.

…Eliot Spitzer said he hopes he has changed since he was caught in a prostitution scandal that led to his resignation, as he attempts to revive his political career with a run for New York City comptroller. “I think the public will have to ask itself the question, ‘can we forgive him?’ I’ve asked for the forgiveness, I hope the public says ‘yes,’ based upon the record I have, based upon qualities I can bring to the office,” Spitzer told reporters…

Politicians are usually forgiven; those whose lives they destroy, not so much.

Though New Scientist published only a very small part of what Dr. Laura Agustín says was a much, much longer interview, it’s still good to see mainstream magazines presenting her views and debunking the “sex trafficking” hysteria and anti-whore tyranny.

Despite being funded by the HSE annually, including over €126,000 last year, St Patrick’s Guild informed the Adoption Authority last week that it no longer has the resources to staff the organisation. The agency, run by the Religious Sisters of Charity, had been accredited by the Adoption Authority to assist adopted people and natural parents through tracing, counselling and mediating…Between 1947 and 1967, St Patrick’s Guild…arranged for the export of 572 “illegitimate” children from Ireland to the US for adoption…Despite the agency’s admitted involvement in facilitating illegal adoptions, the Adoption Authority again reiterated its stance that it will not inspect the files to ascertain the extent of the agency’s involvement in such activity…

In other words, the nuns abducted children from their Irish mothers and sold them to Americans; if that’s not “human trafficking”, I don’t know what is.

…in France…disabled people struggle to have a sex life. But their desires are often disregarded, and while prostitution is legal here, soliciting potential clients and serving as an intermediary between prostitutes and clients are not. The issue of sexual surrogates came up in March, after the National Ethics Committee…issued a report criticizing the practice as the “unethical use of the human body for commercial purposes”…but…some legislators and associations of disabled people are demanding the legalization of sexual surrogates. “Prostitution is a fake debate; the goals are different,” said Pascale Ribes…[of] the Disabilities and Sexualities Group, an association defending sexual surrogates in France. “Sexual assistance is about allowing a disabled person who can’t access sexuality in a satisfying way to reconnect with the body”…

Advice to disabilities advocates: foolish reinforcement of whorearchy is not the way to go about winning your right to employ sex workers.

Police shut down…12 massage parlors…for alleged prostitution…arresting owners, managers and workers. The Brooklyn District Attorney’s office is investigating whether workers were “victims of human trafficking, being manipulated or held against their will”…and whether a central organization was controlling…the operations. According to DA Charles Hynes, all of the women…gave very similar stories about having children in Asia they needed to support. NYPD Commissioner was typically…tone-deaf in his assessment of the case. “We know people in Bay Ridge have back pain…but we don’t think that’s enough to sustain 19 massage parlors”…

That the DA seems to perceive the fantasy of a huge “sex trafficking” conspiracy as more credible than the simple fact that most sex workers have children to support, speaks volumes about his warped view of humanity.

Authorities in southern China have left…Ye Haiyan…homeless…Guangdong security agents abandoned her on the side of the road with her boyfriend…and 14-year-old daughter…”Zhongshan does not welcome you; Guangzhou does not welcome you either. I will break your legs if I ever see you again in Zhongshan,” one of the security agents said…

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• I will give you odds that Professor Madeleine Leijonhufvud either has no children, or does not drink.

• OF COURSE a modern “Journalist” is in favor of censorship. She has been brought up on the myth of “Unbiased” media; the notion that there is one TRUTH out there that is accessible to Right Minded People, with the implication that other kinds of people are not propagating their points of view, but LYING. There are genuine Reporters still out there, but the vast majority of “Journalists” are indoctrinated twits with the morals of a Stalinist, the ethics of a twelve term Senator, and a head full of slogans.

I majored in journalism for about one day in college out of my five days that I attended. LOL – that’s an exaggeration but over three semesters I did bounce around just about every liberal arts major possible before I got the picture that liberal arts was shit for pay and not worth spending money on for a degree.

Anyway – yeah I did some time in Journalism classes and even met “real” reporters in both print and on TV. Even worked as a news cameraman for a local news channel for a bit. I was the part-time camera boy for a brand new, hot out of college, extremely hot newsbabe named – maybe I shouldn’t mention her – but she worked for WLOX News in Biloxi, MS. Everyone in the news room wanted to bang her. Well … she never banged me but I enjoyed shooting her segments on location. I know she liked sailors – but I wasn’t one at the time. Maybe she’s the reason I joined the Navy? Hehe.

She is retired now – she don’t look as good as she did back then. LOL.

She works now for FEMA – interesting how these “watchdog” reporters transition so easily in and out of government.

You’re spot on correct about them. I got the idea that these people were the dullards of society and their mental outlook on the world was that of a 10th grader. Not very smart – but very bright eyed and idealistic in a very childlike and closed-minded way. It’s surprising to me how important and smart they thought they were.

I mean – most of these cats were earning barely more than minimum wage – THAT should have told them that their “skills” weren’t that valuable to the planet.

Now I tell people I’d rather have a sister working in a brothel than a brother working as a news reporter.

“We know people in Bay Ridge have back pain…but we don’t think that’s enough to sustain 19 massage parlors”

Actually, it may shock NYPD Commissioner to know that massages are pleasurable even without “happy endings” and people get them for more reasons than just to solve medical problems. Or, more likely, he does know that and is against it.

In the 19th century middle class women, uncomfortably aware of how little they had to offer their men, and irritated at the license of women of both the upper AND the lower orders, perverted ideas of Christian morality to persecute anybody who actually enjoyed sex.

In the late 20th century (after wasting some decades screwing around with ideas like “free love” that ended up making them profoundly unhappy) the upper-middle class female intellectuals, uncomfortably aware that the average man would rather sleep with a rabid weasel than one of them, perverted ideas of gender equality to persecute anybody who actually enjoys heterosexual sex.

Of the two, I find the 19th century female godwhallopers SLIGHTLY less irritating. For one thing, they’re dead.

Of course the comments are full of Puritans and trafficking fetishists, but there are a surprising number of truth-tellers there as well.

Yes, looking at the pro-crim commenters there illustrates why the Santorum wing of the gop will forever be “the party of stupid.”

So long as they can maintain control over those deficient “others” they are more than willing to let their supposedly cherished liberties go by the wayside. This makes them very similar to the self-declared elites on the left, and as the constraints they would impose converge from both the putative right and the modern left, the major distinction remaining would appear to be their “godwhalloping.” (Thanks CSPSchofield)

I just finished another two and half day stint at a German FKK. This was my second trip. I have a unique look – and many of the girls recognized me from my last trip.

They trust me now – and so this time we talked.

I was with six girls during this time and every single one of them …

1. Showed me their passports – they kept them in their purses with cellphone and condoms. They come and go as they please – so no trafficking “pimp” holding their passports so they couldn’t flee.

2. Every single one of them (and they were all from Eastern Europe – Romania and Czech Republic) told me stories – some with tears in their eyes – of how they were supporting their families back in their native countries. One girl was paying for her father’s cancer treatments – and the prognosis was not good for him. Mind you – these were 20 – 25 year old girls, with the exception of one – who were supporting their families – and extended families – families with MEN in them who should be able to work – it’s a crime I think. It’s a lot of pressure for a young girl to bear. The trafficking folks want to shut down this line of income for these girls – and it really doesn’t do anything but put them, and their families, back into poverty.

3. All of the girls worked very long hours (12 hour shifts) in order to make as much money as possible in quick order so they could go home and visit with families. Every single one was very family oriented. One I found – and pretty much fell in love with – was a Mom who’s ex-husband cared for the kid – but she financed them with her work. The fact that they often go on “holiday” back home is another indicator that these girls aren’t coerced.

4. Just like us – they had all heard “trafficking” horrors. They didn’t discount them – but had no personal knowledge of anyone being coerced in this manner.

when the family is gothered together at holidays and birthdays what should they do?refrain from wine and only drink water?my parents always drunk in front of me but ive never seen any of them being drunk ever.why?because they know their limits and that way they always set an example of responsible drinking.in fact i drink in front of my parents and other relatives since i was about 14 years old(wine at holidays,sometimes beer,not often,then).at 15 i was served whiskey at my aunts birthday.when she was asked if it was right she said that id rather learn how to drink responsibly now,in the company of adults who can monitor me and learn how to tell if a drink is virgin or not than not knowing about this stuff,go to a bar at 18,get pissed drunk with alcohol of dubious quality.i assure you i have never drunk more than i should in my life because i always learnt how to be responsible. i saw others whose parents followed the taboo route till 18 make mistakes that could be avoided,because they never leant their limits or how to tell the quality of the drink(unvirgin drinks are really dangerous).i shudder to think what happens in the u.s where kids often dont receive even the slightest bit of education till 21.

There was a time in the US when different states had different drinking ages. In some it was 18, in some 19, in some 20 and in some 21. Each state had a spike in drunk driving accidents at whatever the state drinking age was, and the older the legal age, the bigger the spike.

Raising the drinking age was supposedly done to reduce traffic fatalities. If we really wanted to do that, we’d set the legal drinking age at 15, one year YOUNGER than the legal driving age. Let the (much smaller) spike happen before they’re actually driving.

I had stuff written here, and then… Tracy. OK it wasn’t entirely her fault, but I know how she gets. It isn’t doing what it’s supposed to, and I’m not in the room to see what she’s doing, and she starts clicking wildly on anything and everything. My old former GF D wouldn’t click on stuff more blindly, and she IS blind. Still, the way my browser (or maybe it’s YouTube) gets sometimes didn’t help. So, I’m (cue John Lennon) starting over.

R.I.P. Petite Jasmine
So prostitution is legal (sort of), but it makes you an unfit mother. Uh-huh. Is there any OTHER legal job that does that? Soldiers and executioners kill people as part of their job; do they lose their children? Not sure Sweden has executioners, but I think you get my point.

Another Example of Swedish “Feminism”
Yes, people would stop having them. Maybe that’s what Sweden needs: a baby crash.

Saving Them From ThemselvesDetective William Lindsey [said]…”Possession of child pornography is [a crime] no matter what age they are… If she had taken a picture of herself in sexual conduct, she could be charged with child pornography”…
Don’t you just love the matter-of-fact way these people point out that the law is even MORE stupid than the current case would suggest?

Legitimate OutrageAnd speaking of Spitzer…
I’m happy to forgive Spitzer when he’s as apologetic about ruining hookers’ lives as he is about hiring them. Then again, I don’t live in New York, so I doubt that my forgiveness is very important to him.

OK, I’ll get to more later. I’m blowing my catching-up, and I need to unblow it fast.
That… sounded dirtier than it should have. ;-)

The Naked Anthropologist
First off: every anthropologist should get naked every now and again. Secondly: it’s good to see people who write about sex workers actually TALKING to sex workers. A trend I hope grows.

Unclean Situation
It’s pretty bad when an organization is afraid to investigate itself!

Flush Criminalization
Does the wise and learned DA know something the rest of us don’t? Something like “Asian genes know if a woman will engage in prostitution years later, and shuts her reproductive system down if that’s the case?”
What a dumbass.

Still a Child
In the US you have to be 25 to run for the House of Representatives, 30 to run for the Senate, and 35 to run for President. But journalist? 40?!?

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