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Do you arrange play dates for your kids?

If so, at what age did you start with play dates? My kids are in extracurricular activities--2 each/week--I work outside the home, and when I'm not working, I like to spend time with them. Recently, I've been wondering if I am causing them to miss out by not setting up play dates with other kids (beyond school, of course). Thoughts?

My middle son has a every Friday sleepover with his best friends, usually at our house then they all move onto someone else's house on Saturday. My 3 yo dd has her best friend over twice a week after Pre school.( her daddy works 3rd shift, so he comes over and naps on the couch while they play). My 1 yo has a little friend that we play with about every two weeks, we usually meet at the malls play place.

Not really anymore. I used to when she was 2 until she was around 5. But once school started, it just never seemed needed. I am friends with some of her friend's moms, so we will go places or do things all together (zoo, ice skating, movies, Chuck E Cheese, etc.)...but it's not what I would consider a "playdate"...just out with friends.

yes
daughter is 5.5
started at 3 with neighbor kids- when one was too tired to continue- could end it easy
kids from school- a bit later than other moms, i started at 4.5, and for hour and a half
sometimes she just could not be social, and it did not go too well
now at 5..5- she can usually do 2 hours, sometimes 2.5, anything more (or if she is just not having a good function day), it does not go well

I think play dates are important for you and your children. The kids play and the adults talk. I feel once adults have children they lose that adult interaction time. This is a fun and easy way to get it.

I have never really pushed playdates, but my daughter had some when she was in preschool. My sons (preschool aged twins) haven't had any playdates. I could joke that it's like a playdate every day, which is true, but really it's more that they don't have other kids that they know. The kids they know tend to be older kids (friends of their big sister) who take an interest in them & have built relationships (at birthday parties, at the lake in summer, at school functions and even just daily after school pickup) but they don't have "playdates." Their violin lessons include private lessons & weekly group lessons, so this is their first "group" experience with other kids their age, since we opted not to send them to preschool.
Last week was our school vacation week & my daughter had a playdate one of those days (was invited to spend the day with one of her school friends.) Those "extra" connections tend to happen during vacations.