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http://www.gurl.com/2015/02/04/things-every-cheerleader-will-understand-relate-to/#commentsWed, 04 Feb 2015 23:08:13 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=170213I’ve talked about being a cheerleader before, and it’s something that I still take a lot of pride in even though I haven’t cheered in a long time. To this day, I can tell you every cheer, every routine, and every stunt we did. I proudly have my old uniform on display and saved all … Read More

]]>I’ve talked about being a cheerleader before, and it’s something that I still take a lot of pride in even though I haven’t cheered in a long time. To this day, I can tell you every cheer, every routine, and every stunt we did. I proudly have my old uniform on display and saved all of my ribbons. I loved being a cheerleader, but I really hated the stereotypes that came along with being one.

Even now, I get made fun of or get the same annoying comments that I did when I was in high school. It’s ridiculous. Cheerleading taught me how to be part of a team on top of being disciplined and hardworking. It taught me to have pride in something and be positive even when things get you down. If you’re a cheerleader, I’m sure you can relate:

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2015/01/30/how-women-are-portrayed-in-film-movies-comic/feed/015 Of The Most Frustrating Generalizations About Women That Will Make You Madhttp://www.gurl.com/2015/01/30/most-frustrating-generalizations-about-women-gender-stereotypes-ask-reddit/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=most-frustrating-generalizations-about-women-gender-stereotypes-ask-reddit
http://www.gurl.com/2015/01/30/most-frustrating-generalizations-about-women-gender-stereotypes-ask-reddit/#commentsFri, 30 Jan 2015 22:18:12 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=169792Despite the fact that it’s 2015, there are still a tremendous amount of gender stereotypes out there – and this very much includes generalizations about women. It’s so frustrating to hear statements like “All women do this…” or “Why do women always…” I mean, come on. Acting like an entire gender all does or thinks … Read More

]]>Despite the fact that it’s 2015, there are still a tremendous amount of gender stereotypes out there – and this very much includes generalizations about women. It’s so frustrating to hear statements like “All women do this…” or “Why do women always…” I mean, come on. Acting like an entire gender all does or thinks the same things because you’ve experienced it once, or just heard about it in the media, is absurd.

This is a particular pet peeve of mine, so when I saw this Ask Reddit thread about the most hilarious and/or frustrating generalizations about women, I knew I had to share it with you guys. In the Ask Women Reddit thread, ladies of all ages shared the things they’re sick of hearing about their gender. And I agree! Here are 15 of the worst generalizations about women that will definitely make you angry:

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We Talk About Our Feelings Too Much, But Also Not Enough

doodlemancy: I love how at the same time, we are too emotional and talk too much, but also our feelings are supposedly incomprehensible mysteries that we never express clearly. Shut up, but why are you mad at me?!

Seriously, this is such an excellent point. Women can't win when it comes to emotional stuff. If we express our feelings, we're whiney, emotional messes. If we keep it inside, we're complicated and so hard to figure out. What do you people want?!

If You're Plus-Size, You Don't Have A Romantic Life

That Girls With Family Problems Have Daddy Issues

hotspots_thanks: That women who have issues with their fathers are a mess.

OMG I can't stand when people say stuff like this. Family problems can mess up ANYONE, regardless of gender. I know plenty of guys who have emotional problems because their fathers are not in their lives, but no one says they have "daddy issues." I also know plenty of girls who have family issues but are perfectly fine.

All Women Instantly Get Attached After Having Sex

under_analysis: Women are more prone to emotional attachment to sexual partners and/or are always out to "trap" guys into a relationship. I'm sure there's a lot of variation, but personally the guys I've dated and slept with have always been way more clingy toward me than I was toward any of them. And I've had multiple occasions where a guy I was dating introduced me as his girlfriend after only 2 or 3 dates and without asking me first.

Yes, THIS. I know so many guys who get attached after hooking up with a girl, and I know just as many girls who don't at all.

Girls Aren't Good At Math or Science Because Our Brains Are Different

Sand_Dargon: Women cannot learn mechanics or electrical theory or math because our brains are not built for it. Screw that, I am almost(1 year away which I will not be completing) an Electrical Engineer, I am a journeyman electrician, certified as a Nuclear Reactor Operator, and have tutored nuclear physics at my previous college. I do suck at more advanced math, though.

Girls Can't Play Video Games

That It's SO Easy For Us To Find Someone Who's Interested In Us

FreeCookies6: The idea that women have guys hitting on them all the time, wherever they go, they never get rejected and can always find tons of dates. It is just so hilariously ridiculous!

I always hear guys say things like, "I wish I were a girl, life would be so much easier because I would get hit on everywhere." Uh, what? First of all, no one wants to get hit on EVERYWHERE, and second of all, that's not true!

Women Only Want To Get Married So They Can Trap A Guy

Tericakes: I have one friend who seems to think that any woman who actively desires a marriage is trapping men, or doing it just because society says so. This applies to his SO of 5 years. She only wants to marry him because of society'e stupid obsession with marriage and clearly she doesn't care about him as much as the ring.

I can't stand when people say this about women and marriage. It's so aggravating and not true.

Girls Want Tall Guys and Lots Of Money

Any Thought That Starts With 'All Women...'

BewilderedFingers: Anything that starts with "all women" annoys me. "All women like arseholes", "all women want kids" (that's one of the ones I hate the most), "all women want to get married and have a big wedding", "all women want to be lead by a strong man", "all women are better at cleaning than men 'cause instincts n stuff". We're not one collective hive-mind god damn it.

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]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/12/26/girls-on-film/feed/016 Crazy Myths About Women That Are Totally Not Truehttp://www.gurl.com/2014/11/14/crazy-myths-stereotypes-about-women-females-that-are-not-true-ask-reddit/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=crazy-myths-stereotypes-about-women-females-that-are-not-true-ask-reddit
http://www.gurl.com/2014/11/14/crazy-myths-stereotypes-about-women-females-that-are-not-true-ask-reddit/#commentsFri, 14 Nov 2014 21:14:08 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=162401There are a lot of ridiculous myths out there in the world, from silly thoughts on periods to crazy beliefs about sex. But some of the craziest myths I’ve heard are ones about women. “Girls can’t do math or science.” Wrong. I know many women who are crazy smart in those subjects. “Girls can’t like … Read More

]]>There are a lot of ridiculous myths out there in the world, from silly thoughts on periods to crazy beliefs about sex. But some of the craziest myths I’ve heard are ones about women. “Girls can’t do math or science.” Wrong. I know many women who are crazy smart in those subjects. “Girls can’t like sports the way guys do.” Wrong again. I know so many girls who love sports that that statement is just absurd to me. “Women never like the nice guys.” Nope, maybe they just don’t like you.

To be honest, I’m getting a little sick of hearing these myths and stereotypes all the time. This Ask Reddit thread didn’t really make me any less mad, but it did make me feel better that it at least gave women a chance to speak up. Here are 16 crazy myths about women that are totally not true – add what you’ve heard in the comments below!

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That We Only Have One Hole Down There

Niamhel: That we pee out our vaginas...

Nope. We have three holes down there: the urethra (which is where we pee out of FYI), the vagina (that's where we have sex) and the anus.

That We Only Like Jerks

sacredhearts: That females always go for assholes. Not all do.

Puhh-lease. I am so sick of hearing this. Just because a girl doesn't like you and you happen to be a nice guy doesn't mean she only likes jerks. Also, that's a ridiculous statement. No woman is like, "Oh, who's my type? A complete d-bag. Mmm yeah, I like 'em mean."

That Our Vaginas Change After Too Much Sex

[deleted]: That you can tell how much sex a woman has had by looking at her genitals. No you can't. Also, that having a lot of sex makes the vagina "loose." Apparently some people think the vaginal muscles are magic since apparently they're the only muscles in the body that get weaker with more use.

Um, no. This is yet another stereotype that allows society to slut-shame women.

That Sex Comes Easy To Us

fiannais: That all a woman need to do is ask for sex and It shall rain upon them!
This is BULL. Sure if you are Kate Upton or something, but with most women this is just not the case. It pisses me off to see it painted all over reddit, that a lady just needs to ask their male friend for sex. No, this is not the case. Just cause you have male friends does not mean they want you sexually. God forbid male and female be friends out of general interest in personality!

I've heard a lot of guys say things like, "It's so much easier for girls in the dating world! They have people basically begging for sex!" This is not true at all. Sure, some women are really confident and can get anyone they want quickly. But not all of us are like that, and it's not like we can just walk out the door and have suitors waiting for us.

That If We're Feminists We Hate Men

willie-wagtail: That if we are feminists we must be man-hating sexists. That's not feminism, that's misandry. Yes, some feminists are man-haters, but it's not a criteria and I personally look down upon such bigotry.

Thank you. Feminism and misandry are two entirely different things, and I'm really sick of people acting like they aren't Feminism means you want men and women to be equal and that's it.

That Showing Emotion Means We Have Our Period

[deleted]: That we must be on our periods if we express frustration or sadness in front of men (and women too). And if we become frustrated and annoyed during our period, it's because we are menstruating and it's not due to other people or our surrounding circumstance. I'd prefer not to have all of my emotions (with the exception of happiness) be invalidated, especially in this way. Life would be a lot happier for everyone if we stopped shaming everyone for thier feelings (men aren't exempt from emotional invalitation either).

My number one pet peeve is when I start crying or get angry and some dude is like, "Whoa, are you on your period or something?" Um NO I just have emotions like any other normal human. Ugh.

That Weight-Lifting Will Make Us Look 'Manly'

HarlequinSpirit: That if we lift weights we will get bulky. Yeah... That's not how science works. I've been lifting seriously for 4 months now and I've gotten better results in that time than I did the entire 2 years of JUST cardio and small weights.

If you're trying to lose weight, weight-lifting is actually incredibly important. It increases your metabolism and helps you burn more fat. It's essential to incorporate it into your workout routine along with cardio.

That You Can't Be Attractive and Smart

That All Girls Make Bad Friends

paratactical: I actually think the myth that drives me the craziest is one perpetuated mostly by women: that women friends are somehow difficult, catty, or bad, and it is preferential to be "one of the guys" or have primarily male friends.

There is this idea out there that guys are better friends than girls because girls are evil and manipulative. This is so not true. For every girl who has talked about a friend behind her back, I can show you a guy who has done the same about his friends. I've seen dudes with just as much drama in their friendships as some girls have, if not more.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/11/14/crazy-myths-stereotypes-about-women-females-that-are-not-true-ask-reddit/feed/010 Reasons Why I’m Proud To Be A “Basic Bitch”http://www.gurl.com/2014/10/08/reasons-im-proud-to-be-a-basic-bitch-definition/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=reasons-im-proud-to-be-a-basic-bitch-definition
http://www.gurl.com/2014/10/08/reasons-im-proud-to-be-a-basic-bitch-definition/#commentsWed, 08 Oct 2014 22:02:49 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=158810In the last few weeks, I’ve heard a lot of chatter about the term “basic bitch…” maybe even a little bit too much. Buzzfeed won’t stop writing articles about things “basic white girls like” (at this point, I know they’re just trolling), and sites like Elite Daily have hopped on the bandwagon (of course they … Read More

]]>In the last few weeks, I’ve heard a lot of chatter about the term “basic bitch…” maybe even a little bit too much. Buzzfeed won’t stop writing articles about things “basic white girls like” (at this point, I know they’re just trolling), and sites like Elite Daily have hopped on the bandwagon (of course they have). Everyone seems to have a different opinion about the term, even those of us working at Gurl. Caitlin can’t stand it, Ashley thinks it can be valid, and me? Well, I’ve accepted the fact that there are some people out there who would probably call me basic. And guess what? I really don’t care.

I understand what basic means according to the Internet: a white girl who likes cliche things that “every other white girl” likes. Things get tricky because a lot of people use the term basic as an insult. These people equate “basic bitch” to someone who is uninteresting, boring, just like everyone else, and devoid of personality. When that happens, I get pissed. I mean come on: just because a girl likes popular things, she’s boring? That sounds so judgmental and rude.

As writer Jennifer Wright said in a recent Cosmopolitan article on the subject: “Liking something popular doesn’t make you lame. Discounting someone for having those same interests does.” And it’s true. I love everything Buzzfeed says basic girls like. If you’re going to scoff at me for that, go ahead. Honestly, I think you’re the one who’s lame.

Rather than fight the label, I’ve decided to embrace it. First of all, I know a lot of the stuff out there about basic girls is just a joke, even if it does rub some people the wrong way. Second of all, I’m not ashamed to like what I like! And if that makes you call me basic, than whatever. If you want to be the type of person who labels things based on something as superficial as that, go for it.

Not convinced that you should embrace the term rather than yell at everyone for using it? Here are 10 reasons why I’m proud to be basic. Or maybe not proud, but just… accepting.

1. Lauren Conrad is my celebrity idol. Allure magazine called Lauren Conrad out for being basic over the summer, and I’ve seen many people online call her “the queen of basic bitches.” Um, okay? I love Lauren Conrad and I always will. Yes, she started out as a reality star, but she has been so successful since then. She has her own popular website (LaurenConrad.com), manages the site The Little Market, has published eight books, has two fashion lines (one for Kohls, one called Paper Crown), and has steadily managed her public image. I find her to be really inspiring. If Lauren is considered a basic bitch, then sign me up!

2. Pumpkin spice anything is delicious. According to the Internet, liking anything pumpkin spice is so basic. Okay, then I guess being basic means you eat or drink delicious things. Because pumpkin spice is really yummy, and since it’s only available a few months out of the year, you better believe I’m going to enjoy it while it’s around.

3. Uggs are really comfortable. I get it, Uggs are like the fashion icon of being a basic white girl. That’s fine by me, because they’re incredibly comfy. I don’t wear them everyday, but I wear them in the snow and my feet stay warm and cozy. I’m not ashamed!

4. Cliche Instagram photos are fun! I know it’s really cool to be so over brunch photos and pictures of leaves or the sunset, but I guess that just means I’m not that cool, because I like those things. I think they’re fun to look at, and I like posting them. Besides, I’ve never not done something just because other people don’t think it’s “cool,” so why would I start now?

5. I like embracing seasons, so what? Maybe I’m a weirdo, but I love embracing different seasons. If enjoying fall makes me basic, then so be it. Fall is probably my favorite time of the year, and I’m enjoying myself.

6. Doing cutesy things with friends is fun. Yeah, I love gossiping with my best friends. Yes, we totally planned a Friendsgiving this year – and yes, we are definitely going to have so much fun and take tons of loving photos. Yes, we have a name for our group (we’re the Fab Five, so we’re SUPER original, guys). Yes, we realize we’re so cliche. No, we don’t care.

7. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with liking the same things other people like. What is the big deal about liking the same things other people like?! Why does that make someone less cool? Are you telling me that I can’t be cool because my favorite song isn’t by someone no one has ever heard of? Or because I buy clothing with labels instead of exclusively thrifting? I mean, if that’s what you think, you’re entitled to your own opinion. But I don’t mind being labeled as someone who likes popular things, because I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

8. I can still be my own person despite what I like. I think there’s this idea that basic girls only like things because they are following a trend, or because they think it will make them interesting. Maybe some girls do that, but I’m not one of them. I know that, despite the fact that I love a good pumpkin spice latte from Starbucks and a flannel shirt, I’m still me. To be honest, I care more about my opinion of myself than your opinion of me. So if you want to call me basic, you can, I just don’t care.

9. While you’re underestimating me, I’m probably doing something cool. Sometimes I don’t mind when people underestimate me based on what I like, because then I get to turn around and surprise them. I love seeing the shocked expressions on people’s faces when I do something they didn’t think I was capable of. It’s fun!

10. At the end of the day, I really don’t care what other people think about what I like. What it comes down to is this: I don’t care if you think I’m basic. I like what I like, and if you want to put a label on me and say I’m basic, that’s fine. You can say I’m boring and uninteresting… I don’t think I am, so whatever. I can’t control what other people think, and I’m not trying to.

So, I guess the cat’s out of the bag: I’m totally basic. Now I’m going to go buy a Starbucks pumpkin spice latte so that I can take Snapchats with my cat while I watch New Girl and text my friends about our brunch plans. Bye!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/10/08/reasons-im-proud-to-be-a-basic-bitch-definition/feed/1Ask A Guy: Are Guys Intimidated By Tough Girls?http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/are-guys-intimidated-by-tough-girls-tomboy-not-feminine/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=are-guys-intimidated-by-tough-girls-tomboy-not-feminine
http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/are-guys-intimidated-by-tough-girls-tomboy-not-feminine/#commentsThu, 15 May 2014 22:00:49 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=143792Dear Ethan, Are guys intimidate by “badass,” tough girls? I’ve never been asked out and I’m not sure why, and that’s all I can think of. I grew up with an ex-cop, I like hunting and fishing, and I tend to get in trouble a lot. I will admit that I could probably win in … Read More

Are guys intimidate by “badass,” tough girls? I’ve never been asked out and I’m not sure why, and that’s all I can think of. I grew up with an ex-cop, I like hunting and fishing, and I tend to get in trouble a lot. I will admit that I could probably win in a fight against half the guys at my school, and everyone has labeled me as the school badass. I have a sister who looks almost exactly like me, and she gets asked out all the time, is it because she’s girlier?

If the guys in your school are anything like I was, they’re probably intimidated by anyone with long hair and boobs. Despite my fair share of awkward make-out sessions and “dates” (which were usually no more than watching a movie in silence before driving off with parents in separate cars), I remember being petrified of ladies from middle school through 10th grade. So, yes, it’s entirely possible that guys are intimidated by you – even for the sole fact that you’re a female.

However, there’s no rule that guys like “girly girls” more than ladies who play sports and enjoy the outdoors. Sure, some dudes might be into daintier chicks, but there are also guys out there who are attracted specifically to women who share similar interests.

The only adjustment I can recommend has more to do with the shortcomings of the guys than it does with anything you’re doing “wrong”: remember that boys are like bugs – most of us are even more afraid of you than you’re afraid of us. Some guys require a bit of gentle handling, but others will actually respond to a woman who takes charge. Your method of approach may depend on whom you’re interested in.

However, I definitely do not recommend trying to mold yourself to whomever you think guys will like. Sure, you could put on a dress and a pair of pumps, and do your hair and makeup like Barbie – but why project an image that’s not true to who you really are? You can feel free to experiment with how different styles or outfits works for you – but only continue rock that which makes you feel good! Dressing or acting any way for other people will only attract the wrong guys for the wrong reasons. You’re better off being who you feel most comfortable being, and waiting for a guy to come along who can appreciate you for you who really are. Trust me: he’s out there!

Good luck!
Ethan

Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. Ethan also gives weekly advice in the video series “Dude Seriously?”. Follow Ethan on Twitter!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/are-guys-intimidated-by-tough-girls-tomboy-not-feminine/feed/1The 15 Most Annoying Stereotypes About Being Girlfriends We’re Sick Of Hearinghttp://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/most-annoying-female-stereotypes-about-being-girlfriends/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=most-annoying-female-stereotypes-about-being-girlfriends
http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/most-annoying-female-stereotypes-about-being-girlfriends/#commentsThu, 15 May 2014 19:49:32 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=143806There are a lot of female stereotypes out there that make me really angry. I hate stereotypes in general, but I especially hate unfair ones about my gender, obviously because they affect me the most. Out of all the terrible female stereotypes out there, some of the worst are about how girls act when they’re … Read More

]]>There are a lot of female stereotypes out there that make me really angry. I hate stereotypes in general, but I especially hate unfair ones about my gender, obviously because they affect me the most. Out of all the terrible female stereotypes out there, some of the worst are about how girls act when they’re in a relationship.

Few things make me as angry as society’s idea that girlfriends are naggy, annoying, sexless creatures who make dudes miserable. It’s so unfair and ends up discouraging a lot of people from real commitments and relationships. This stereotype is everywhere, from movies to TV shows to books, and it’s the worst. So, I was thrilled to see a thread about this on Ask Reddit, which is my absolute favorite site to look at when I’m bored (or procrastinating). Courtesy of this thread, here are the 15 most annoying stereotypes about girlfriends we’re all sick of hearing.

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The Entire Idea Of Having Your BF 'Whipped'

xowhitney: That we have a guy "whipped" if he does something nice.

stylishkidintheriot: This "whipped" thing really pisses me off. Especially if the guy is insecure and deciphers it as mocking when his friends joke that he is "whipped" and therefore starts acting like a complete douche to his girlfriend to prove to his friends that he is NOT in fact "whipped". No good can come of this, ever, ever.

Ugh, I hate the term "whipped." I hate everything about it.

That We Don't Want Our BF Ever Noticing Other Girls

Make_Smiles: That we flip our sh*t when husband/boyfriend checks outs another girl. I don't give a sh*t if he looks at a girl's ass for 10 seconds, because I checked out guys too. Keep it in moderation though, don't stare too long like, 11 seconds.

I know this sort of thing makes some girls uncomfortable, but not every girl, so don't group us all together.

That Girls Are So Boring Our BFs Need To Escape Us

taygahntav: I don't like the stereotype that women are boring and that a guy should have to escape with his guy friends to do stuff he likes. That said, both the man and the woman should certainly spend as much time with outside friendships as they want! But, at least for me, it was critical that my SO and I would enjoy at least some of the same pastimes so we can have fun together. I just hate that image that the woman is always a drag on the man's enjoyment, wanting to do boring stuff and complaining when doing things he likes.

That Having Emotions Means You Have Your Period

Himekat: In a bad/sad mood? Must be PMSing/on your period!

This isn't just specific to girlfriends, but I had to add it anyway, because I absolutely hate it. Suggesting a girl can only be angry or upset because she has her period is so rude and unfair. It makes it seem like anything else is not valid.

That All Women Just Want To Be Spoiled By Their BF

EweAreAmazing: That all women want/expect to be spoiled by their partners. My husband and I are not big gift-givers and neither of us makes a big deal of Valentine's Day, birthdays, etc. We enjoy each other's company as much on these days as on any other day. We might do something nice for a birthday, but nothing huge. Yet I often hear--and usually from other women--suggestions that women need to be spoiled. "Did he buy you flowers/chocolate/jewelery/etc.?" Once my husband's (female) friend who I'd never met even bought me chocolate on my birthday because she thought my husband wasn't "spoiling me enough". Somehow though this stereotype only applies to women, implying that we are materialistic and selfish, and need our partners to gain our affection through gifts.

I completely agree with this! My BF and I are the same way, and I hate when girls feel bad for me that he's not making a bigger deal out of my birthday or something. Maybe I don't want him to!

That Girls Can't Fart Or Do Anything Like That In Front Of Their BFs

undergrand: That we have no bodily functions and are perfect and never ever fart in front of SO.
I saw an article recently saying women should never talk about their period to their SO cause they'd risk spoiling the 'magic'. I don't even know how you could possibly hide your period from someone that intimately acquainted with your vagina.

If you can't fart or talk about your period or burp or go to the bathroom in front of your boyfriend... that's a problem.

That All Girls Are Needy

yellOribbon: That we're all helpless and needy. If you need something fixed, find a freaking YouTube video, buy the supplies, and do it yourself. Chances are, it's not that hard and you'd pay a hell of a lot more for calling a man to do it for you.

Of course it's okay to ask your boyfriend to help you do things. But I don't like the stereotype that women can't do anything without their BF's help. That's ridiculous!

That Women Have To Take Care Of Their BFs

kazztikoko: That somehow it's my job to police their behavior, sway them, or "shape them up". F*** you, I'm not his Mommy, he's a grown ass adult. Ask him to fix his behavior himself, fix your own disputes, you think he's irresponsible? Tell him, not me. I don't get paid to babysit him, so I won't be doing it.

I'm sure this has to be just as frustrating for guys. Someone once actually said to me, "You need to control your boyfriend." It was a joke, but it wasn't funny. He's his own person, I'm not his boss.

That You Can't Like OR Hate What Your BF Likes

Sentai_Hentai: The one I really hate is the stereotype that women can't enjoy/hate anything that their SO has an interest in (I.e. video games, sports, comic books etc.) And that we nag them to stop and only do the things we like to do. I personally like it when my boyfriend plays video games cause I enjoy watching them. And both of us enjoy reading comic books.

This is so true. If you like everything your BF likes, people accuse you of faking it. If you hate everything he likes, you're annoying. We can't win!

That All Women Just Want To Get Married and Have Kids

justcallmekhaleesi: Women are soul - sucking shrews desperate for marriage and babies, and only want to control their husbands and keep them from having any fun.

THIS IS THE WORST. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years, and everyone assumes that I'm just waiting for him to propose or something like that. I'm not, and I hate being asked about it, and I think it's really frustrating that everyone believes that that is all every woman wants.

That Girls Never Want To Pay For Anything

thatbarberama: That I'm never paying. We go out for a meal, ask for the bill, they hand it to him. I understand if he asks but if I ask it still usually gets handed to him.

I really hate this. My boyfriend and I take turns paying for meals because it's fair that way. Last weekend we went out for brunch, and the waitress automatically put the check on his side of the table. Even after I stuck my credit card in there, she brought it back and handed it to him again. There are plenty of girls who want to pay for stuff, it's not fair to assume we all don't.

That All Girls Are Crazy

Whore_Bag: We're all crazy. That gets old. Especially if you happen to take medication and maybe have been hospitalized in the past. None of that means that my feelings now aren't valid, or that just because I'm pissed about something that I must have forgotten to take my "crazy pill".

I hate this so much, and it's become such a thing. Guys are constantly calling their exes or their GF's crazy as an excuse for everything she does. It's so unfair and makes it seem like none of us can do anything without being labeled as something we're not.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/05/15/most-annoying-female-stereotypes-about-being-girlfriends/feed/315 Gender Roles We Wish Didn’t Exist, According To Reddithttp://www.gurl.com/2014/03/19/unfair-gender-roles-stereotypes-we-wish-didnt-exist/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unfair-gender-roles-stereotypes-we-wish-didnt-exist
http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/19/unfair-gender-roles-stereotypes-we-wish-didnt-exist/#commentsWed, 19 Mar 2014 19:17:01 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=137959To put it simply, gender roles suck. There is nothing good about them. Gender roles encourage males and females to act specific ways just because of their gender – they are restricting, and are the reason for so many unfair stereotypes about both guys and girls. Gender roles are the reason that stupid, lame joke … Read More

]]>To put it simply, gender roles suck. There is nothing good about them. Gender roles encourage males and females to act specific ways just because of their gender – they are restricting, and are the reason for so many unfair stereotypes about both guys and girls.

Gender roles are the reason that stupid, lame joke exists about how women exist just to make men sandwiches (seriously? Why is this still a joke?). Gender roles explain why so many men feel like they can’t express emotion, something us girls frequently get frustrated about. In a perfect world, there would be zero gender roles. We would all be able to do whatever we want, without worrying about getting made fun of. Unfortunately, that world doesn’t exist. But we can dream, right? Here are 15 gender roles we REALLY wish didn’t exist, thanks to this amazing Reddit thread.

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Men Always Think About Sex, Women Never Do

phuck: All that men think about is sex.

NeverQuiteEnough: or that women think about it less. I'm pretty sure that is completely made up.

I think we're all beyond sick of both of these. Men aren't robots who just think about sex every second of their lives, just like women aren't bitter prudes who hate having sex. It's ridiculous that some people still think this stuff!

Girls Can't Like 'Guy Stuff'

ajmstorm: Being a tomboy just because I know how to fix bikes and like to climb trees. I like makeup and dresses as much as anyone but I feel like I either have to explain myself for not being quiet and sedated or guys see it as a quirk like "how cool is this chick for being like a dude!" Can't I just be me without being like a guy or a girl?

Guys Can Have A Lot Of Sex, Girls Are Sluts If They Do

ofelia_loves_tseliot: I could list quite a few, but these are the two of the ones that bother me the most: A young man has a high sex drive and has lots of premarital sex with multiple partners: "Good for you, bro!"
A young woman has a high sex drive and has lots of premarital sex with multiple partners: Will be constantly called a "slut", assumed to have an eating disorder or a history of mental health issues, and possibly be slapped with an undeserved and degrading psychiatric label.

Boys Play With Blue Toys, Girls Play With Pink Toys

Molyismycagename: Gender specific toys. There has been many a time another girl has remarked to my daughter that something she has is a "boy's toy." If a girl wants to play with a truck or a boy wants to play dress-up, let them be kids and have their fun instead of being a joy destroying douchebag. And if your kid says this and you don't correct them, you're a lousy parent.

I mean, just let kids play with whatever toy they want to play with. Stop making them think it's not okay

Women Are Frail and Gentle

Pandaexperiment: That women are some frail hopeless creatures that can not be expected to lift heavy things. My manager at my current job firmly believes that the women at our work place should not be lifting anything over 5/10 pounds. I'm sorry but in our job description we are required to lift 50 pounds and up. I happen to like lifting and moving heavy things. I can also lift more that most of the men working there.

I'm only 5'0, so whenever I used to have to lift heavy things at my old job, male coworkers would rush to help me. When I would brush them off and tell them I could handle it, I always got surprised looks and shocked reactions. It annoyed me so much!

If A Girl Makes The First Move, She's Desperate

coffeeblossom: Being "a bitch" and/or "on my period" if I get angry, even if a man being angry about the same issue would be considered to have righteous anger.
Being a slut if I dare to acknowledge my sexual side...or a prude if I don't.
Having to always be the caretaker, regardless of whether or not I actually fit that role or want to pursue it.
Having my worth as a human being be determined by how I measure up to an ideal of beauty rarely found outside of magazines.
Having to worry about whether I'd come across as "desperate" for making the first move.
Being a "gold-digger" if my boyfriend/husband makes more money than I do...or a "ball-buster" if I make more money than he does.

Girls Who Say No Are Bitches

laffytaffy89: The "nice girl" role. It drives me nuts when someone calls me a bitch just because I say "no" or stick up for myself.

IAmAMagicLion: When used in relation to a woman means someone who will not be silent and obedient. When used in relation to a man it means someone who is not assertive enough. It is a word that purely means one is not conforming to the extremes of gender characterization and for this reason is doubly hateful.

I hate when guys get called a bitch for not doing something, because it gives off the idea that women are weak. Almost as much as I hate girls being called bitches because they dared to stand up for themselves.

Dads Have No Idea What They're Doing, Moms Are Horrible

3serious: More of a media portrayal than a gender role, but I hate that Dads are portrayed as bumbling idiots or out-of-touch parents in the media. This is especially prevalent in sitcoms; Dad is always a moron who needs to have his hot, often bitchy (which is another rant) wife to bail him out/make him understand how dumb he is being - ie King of Queens, Home Improvement, Modern Family,, so many more. In Pizza chain commercials - "Oh, it's Dad's turn to make dinner, I guess we are having pizza!", because obviously Dad is too stupid/inept to cook a real meal. Turn on network TV for something like 15 minutes, and you will see a similar situation, almost guaranteed. It drives me insane. My dad is an incredible parent and the most intelligent person I've ever met. I think the "Idiot Dad" trope is unfair to him, to other amazing fathers, and to future-me, when my wife and I have our first baby.

This makes me angry on behalf of my dad, who is amazing and definitely not a bumbling idiot.

Men Can Never Show Emotion

AKimik0: That guys have to be strong and not emotional. I also don't like the fact women feel like they have to try harder to look good. I actually like girls that don't wear a lot of makeup. I like to see their natural beauty.

This just stinks. I hate when men get made fun of for crying or showing that they're upset. It's so lame.

Girls Can't Play Video Games

ShadowOverMe1: That girls cannot be into video games and comics. I went into GameStop to get the new Metal Gear game. The employees were horrible and tried to get me to buy Cooking Mama for the Wii. Not every girl who plays video games do it to impress guys.

For some reason, a lot of people think that girls who are into video games are just trying to get male attention. That's insane! Get over yourselves, girls can like video games just as much as dudes.

Women Can't Drive

ThatCrumbledCookie: That women can't drive. Who said I can't parallel-park better than my boyfriend? I get that this might be a specific instance. But then again, there's one feminist theory that justifies the alleged lack of confidence among women while driving, and attributes it to years of indoctrination by society. Women are constantly told that men drive better and have a better sense of direction. They were also disallowed from driving for quite a while, and still are in many parts of the world.

Men Take A Woman's Virginity

SeaDragon29: Women's virginity is something that is "taken" away from them, and guys are the ones who take it. Umm...I'm sorry. I thought we were both having sex together. You probably wouldn't say that one lesbian "took" another's virginity, or that one of them "gave it up" to the other one, so why would you talk about it this way for straight people? (More of a linguistic thing than an actual role, but still.)

This is a really great point. You rarely hear people talking about a guy's virginity being "taken."

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/19/unfair-gender-roles-stereotypes-we-wish-didnt-exist/feed/1310 Movie Nerds That You Can’t Help But Lovehttp://www.gurl.com/2014/03/02/10-of-the-best-movie-nerds/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=10-of-the-best-movie-nerds
http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/02/10-of-the-best-movie-nerds/#commentsSun, 02 Mar 2014 22:00:18 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=135820We’ve never hid it before and we’re not hiding it now: We love a good movie nerd. Not sure what it is, because so many of them fit these rigid stereotypes that we’ve seen time and time again. We’ve got the goofy nerd. The socially inept nerd. The high strung nerd…we’ve seen them all and … Read More

]]>We’ve never hid it before and we’re not hiding it now: We love a good movie nerd. Not sure what it is, because so many of them fit these rigid stereotypes that we’ve seen time and time again. We’ve got the goofy nerd. The socially inept nerd. The high strung nerd…we’ve seen them all and could probably critique how inaccurate and static these tropes are but we still love them to death.

And honestly, I’m more likely to identify with the nerd of a movie than anyone else.

Here are 10 movie nerds that you love, some of which you might love to hate.

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Brian From The Breakfast Club

Poor Brian. There's being a nerd and then there's being a nerd who is so overwhelmed by the pressures of maintaining academic perfection that it drives them into a deep depression. Sometimes I wish we had a follow up movie, just to know where this kid ended up.

Source: The Breakfast Club/Universal Pictures

Josie From Never Been Kissed

She's the only one who really got a chance to do high school over again in an attempt to drop her nerdy past. Well, that doesn't exactly pan out for Josie but she gave it a good shot. Still, there's no shame in being a nerd and Josie learned that the hard way. We love her because she learned a lot about herself and how to treat others and still managed to crack us up at the same time.

Source: 20th Century Fox

Fern Mayo From Jawbreaker

Nerdy outcasts are my favorite nerds. But this stereotype is really turned on its head in Jawbreaker, when Fern Mayo gains acceptance into the popular clique after the murder of one of its members. Fern's weirdness never quite abandons her, really, which is why she remains so endearing from start to finish.

Source: Jawbreaker/Tristar Pictures

Hermione Granger From Harry Potter

Sure, we got to see Hermione's nerdiness a lot better in the books than in the films, but she was still lovably neurotic and bookish.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros

Kevin G From Mean Girls

One part math nerd, one part rap genius. Kevin G was probably one of the best things about Mean Girls, let's be real.

Source: Mean Girls/Paramount

McLovin From Superbad

...He called himself McLovin on his fake ID. Nuff said.

Source: Superbad/Columbia Pictures

Peter Parker From Spiderman

The ultimate super hero nerd. I mean, I wasn't the only one who found him attractive, right? In a peaky, rarely exposed to the sun kind of way. But when he wasn't fighting crime he was a lovable boy next door.

Source: Spiderman/Columbia Pictures

Laney From She's All That

Okay, so she wasn't the typical nerd. She wasn't the brainiac of the class or bragging about her GPA. But she was still put into the nerd trope in this ridiculous (but classic) makeover fairytale BS movie.

Source: She's All That/Miramax Films

Taylor From High School Musical

Taylor didn't get enough love if you ask me. She was captain of the Decathalon team, class president, editor of the yearbook and then went off to Yale to take political science. She was like queen of the nerds but in a way that wasn't socially inept and awkward. I wish we saw more nerds like this in movies, honestly.

Source: High School Musical 3/Disney

Mark From The Social Network

Okay, he's more of a favorite in a this-dude-is-the-worst-but-he's-entertaining-as-hell-because-he-is-the-worst kind of way.