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We live just north of Detroit. Mi. My wife often goes over to Windsor Canada to a place called Danny's. Twice she has escorted me there as well. Unlike the states Canada allows full nudity. Unlike the states prositution is legal. The Dancers there dance to both fast and slow songs. The fast ones they have clothing on or if they show anything are flaccid. The slow songs they come out with full erections and let me say these guys were not hired for their dancing abilities. You don't see anyone under 7", average there is 8" and many are a honest 9". These guys maintain their erections with rubber bands. Their erections are so big and red they actually look sore. When she comes home I put on a 3" slip on extension and we have "big cock sex". Lately a guy called "French Kiss" who is one of the larger guys there has been asking her if she would like to hire him for a hour. I don't mind paying the $200 but could she get addicted to this and I get left out in the cold. Fantasy is one thing and I would enjoy her doing him...reality is another. Is this a bad idea?
Obviously I have a fairly small penis that's under 5 inches both in length and circumferance when erect Thanks.

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Trouble, oh we got trouble,
Right here in Motor City!
With a capital "T"
That rhymes with "C"
And that stands for cock,
That stands for cock.
We've surely got trouble!
Right here in Motor City,
Right here!

I'm afraid that this game is going to eventually make you an unhappy hubby, acg, and that means an unhappy wife and that means a failed marriage.

Sit you two down and discuss the dangers and the futility of such entertainment and get her to agree to stop before it's too late for the both of you.

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Pecker is right on the money!
If it's her idea, I would say no... if it's your idea, I would say you are crazy guy to license your wife to grab big cock whenever she likes and from whom she likes! Better to divorce her!

Having successfully avoided marriage all these years, I'm not qualified to dispense advice in a situation like this ... but I'm mystified; after the wedding, isn't hubby supposed to give up dumb guy stuff like, say, motorcycle racing, and isn't the wife supposed to stop hanging out at places like Dannys?

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I hate to say it man, but it doesn't look good for the rest of the relationship - she likes big dicks, and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm not saying that to be mean, it's just a fact. I've been with a couple of size queens and those girls just love large penises because it's what turns them on - big dicks, big balls, the ultra-masculine aspect of it... As you know, the sexuality of a woman is best described as 'cerebral', meaning that it starts in the brain (even more so than men, IMO) - I doubt you'll be able to simply ask her to refrain from going there, you can't really kill an idea, much less a fantasy.

But, like Pecker said, the best thing is always to talk about it with her, be forthright, honest and open about it. You might not like what she has to say, but it's much better than to continue living in semi-denial, it's only gonna get worse if you do nothing.

I gotta agree with Skull Mason...if you deprive her of the large penis she craves, then she'll do it behind your back and get her share of 9+ anyway. But if you stay involved, pay for the escort and watch him fuck your wife, she'll include you and it could actually turn out to be a hot time for both of you.

I did my fair share of stripping for bachelorette parties in my early 20s...I know how those women can be. They went crazy when they saw my penis.

I would say that your fear is right on. A one time indulgence is fine, but I see this turning into an addiction and you being left out in the cold trying to remeber what its like to have a wife that loves you. I guess when it comes down to it you may just not be sexually compatible with each other.

On a related note when someone invents a safe way to enlarge penises reliably with few side effects, within one year it will be the most common surgery performed in America.

Hmmm... I'm with Skull Mason and BigTallAussie on this one. You don't say if it's your idea or hers to hire the guy. But you do say you would get off on seeing her take on a big guy.

If this is something you can share sexually, I don't see the harm. In fact, I think it could be something that would make you even more honest about your fantasies. It sounds like you're well on your way by using the extension -- at least you both acknowledge her desire for a bigger guy.

I would think it would be better for you all to share this experience than for her to venture out on her own.

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Thank you Jeff. As a fellow Canadian, I was just about to post the same question. While we are miles ahead of the USA on gay issues, nudity, bath houses (Toronto has lots of them, all legal) Prostitution isn't actually legal. (Despite the adds in the back of the papers and magazines.

Thank-you. I keep hearing that prostitution and drugs are legal up here and keep wondering why I keep getting myself arrested.:wink:

On a side note I do not think that anybody here can answer what is best for you in your marriage. Is it open, has it been a long marriage, have you both had many relationships before the marriage (does she know what a larger man feels like or is it curiosity) and the list goes on. For myself marriage means an end to relationships that are not with your wife/husband, but I realize that many people have other definitions and expectations. Figure out what your expectations are and what hers are.