To Love and To Hold (TLTH) : ”She should stop procrastinating and learn to save more.”

September 15, 2017

Adebola Enoch, a Pastor and Project Manager, is married to Olubunmi Mabel, a Writer, Registered Nurse and a graduate of Psychology. Enjoy their interview :

How long have you been married?

Adebola : One year, six months.

Bunmi : Yes, we were legally married a year before the traditional marriage.

What attracted you to him/her?

Bunmi : His love for God and the things of God, humility, he is disciplined, serious-minded and of course, handsome. Lol.

Adebola: Love for God, beauty, focus, and intelligence.

What do you appreciate about him/her?

Bunmi : He’s vision-minded and strategic, I mean, he plans well and thinks of the future, he listens to me and apologizes when he’s wrong or when I’m wrong and I emotionally blackmail him (lol), he supports my passion, he’s very knowledgeable, and can approach anybody.

Bunmi : Keeping his voice low because he has a naturally loud voice, so I always tell him to keep his voice down whenever he’s talking and especially when he’s angry. Also learn to be calm in upsetting situations and live for the moment sometimes. And yes, I told him he has OCD. He’s obsessively organized and he makes me feel like I’m the dirty one. Lol. He needs to take things easy abeg. And he should learn to take more pictures and also take pictures of me without me asking. Hehehe.

Adebola : She needs to stop procrastinating and learn to save more.

How does he/she complement you?

Bunmi : He is a good planner, saver, and does things he sets his mind to do without procrastinating while I’m the exact opposite! I’m grateful for these.

Adebola : She’s more of an introvert while I’m an extrovert. She’s calm while I tend to take things too seriously. She always tells me to be in charge of my emotions.

Who apologizes the most?

Bunmi : He does. I’m learning from him.

Adebola : Me.

How do you settle quarrels?

Bunmi : Communication. It doesn’t always have to be verbal. Sometimes I write epistles and send them to him via WhatsApp. Followed by apology and sometimes, makeup *clears throat* sex! *straight face* Lol.

Adebola : Communication and detailed explanation when necessary.

What do you think are the ingredients of a happy marriage?

Bunmi : Compatibility of values, mutual love and respect, humour. There cannot be a happy marriage without a good sense of humour.

Adebola : Forgiveness and selflessness, caring about the other party first. What are the most important lessons you’ve learnt in marriage so far?

Bunmi : Not to say hurtful words when angry, love is a decision and not just a feeling, quarrels are normal in every relationship, do not keep record of wrongs, don’t compare your marriage or your spouse with others, and always speak up and don’t expect your partner to know what you are thinking.

Adebola : To correct in love and love your spouse for who she is.

If there was a next life, would you love to be married to him/her? Be sincere.

Bunmi : Oh yes! But because I’m creative and love to experience new things, I might want to know what it’d be like to be with someone else. Lol.

Adebola : Yes. I wish I had married earlier. Lol.

*****Interesting. Isn’t it?

This series is aimed at portraying the beauty and dynamics of marriage, despite its imperfection.

This got my attention "Compatibility of values, mutual love and respect, humour. There cannot be a happy marriage without a good sense of humour. "… Thank you for sharing am learning. God continue to bless your home