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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina and direct stimulation of the clitoris.. My tutorial 5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus explains how to bring a woman to orgasm through oral sex, but there is more you can do to make cunnilingus enjoyable for her. When you reach the point in your oral lovemaking where she is highly aroused and ready for finger insertion, here are 4 advanced techniques you can try.

1) G-spot stimulation. G-spot stimulation works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. This “spot,” between a penny and quarter in size, is a small mound of tissue inside the vagina, which has a high concentration of sexual nerves and produces hormones similar to those made by the male’s prostate gland. To locate the G-spot, slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. Curve your middle finger toward yourself gently as if you were gesturing to someone to “come here.”

She must be excited for G-spot stimulation to have any real effect at all. It’s not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused, but when she is excited, this area, more often than not, is the best way to bring her to orgasm. Work your way back to it gradually, teasing her with your fingers slowly and gently. It’s easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how “tight” she is at that moment.

When you have your fingers on the right area, try gently pressing. The movement should be rhythmic and hard, not quick. It’s typically best if you’re licking her clitoris, or near it, at the same time. The licking should seem to be the primary activity. When you find the right area, she should respond by getting more excited. The best basic technique, upon finding the G-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhythmically press on it, while licking her clitoris. This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.

2) Anal stimulation from inside the vagina. The vagina actually shares a wall, on one side, with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible through anal intercourse, it also means that a similar sensation can be achieved without ever touching her anus by stimulating the side of her vagina where it shares nerves with her rectum.

This area is more or less one hundred eighty degrees around opposite from the G-spot. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her G-spot, and then rotate your hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar (but flatter) motion, you’ve got the right area, the area where it would touch her rectum, inside. Press more with the length of your finger rather than the tip. It rarely works well to stimulate this early on. Usually, you need to not only build up to it, but even get her very excited and sensitive first. This technique works best, in most cases, as a change of pace, not the main attraction.

3) Back and forth. Once you have your partner used to G-spot stimulation, you can try, occasionally and for variety, switching back and forth between pressing her G-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as in technique number two. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side, and then on the other, back and forth, which can feel amazing. Most likely, though, it will work better if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press.

3) Stimulating the cervix. The cervix is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating as it can actually be painful to even touch if she’s not excited enough. Don’t ever touch the cervix if she’s pregnant or using a contraceptive that fits over the cervix, such as an IUD or diaphragm. The cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the G-spot, but it’s in much deeper. The cervix is not an abstract “area.” It actually juts up like a little flesh mesa. It has an opening at its very “peak,” but this is normally closed pretty tightly.

The best way to stimulate the cervix is to gently caress around the sides and base. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so that she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. You may even try pressing directly on the tip with your finger or fingers in the way a penis might if it happened enter her at the right angle to hit her cervix. Stimulating the cervix is also something that works better as a change of pace, not the “main course” of the cunnilingus session unless she really gets into it.

When you first try these techniques, you may get a “What on earth are you doing?” reaction from your woman, especially to techniques two and four. However, as long as she adds, “No, I didn’t say to stop,” when you hesitate, keep doing what you’re doing. New sensations in areas that neither you nor she have previously explored may be somewhat disconcerting to her, but, unless she tell you to stop, she likes them.

Oral sex done right can take a woman to new heights of sexual pleasure, but cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring knowledge and technique to get it right. To discover the oral sex secrets to make her climax more often, even if she’s never had an orgasm before, click here!.