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Counting Countries

H. Bradford

9/26/17

I like to count things. I keep track of the number of books I read in a year. I count the number of species of birds I have seen. I track the number of activist events I have attended and blog posts I have written. Numbers provide a snapshot of life and data that can be analyzed over time. The meaning should not be overstated, but keeping track of things is useful for goal setting. It therefore seems logical that I should also count the number of countries I have traveled to. Other travelers have mixed feelings about this. Some have traveled widely and simply don’t care how many countries they have been to. They may even feel that keeping track of countries is pretentious. Others may focus more on quality, visiting a few countries for longer periods of time or paying repeated visits to a few favorite places. And then, there are some who indeed count, but try to do this modestly. Like many things, there are social norms about travel and counting countries might be seen as arrogant or “the wrong way to travel.” At the same time, there is an entire club of globetrotters called “The Traveler’s Century Club” wherein members must have been to at least 100 countries (per their list) to join. While I sense there is debate about the travel etiquette of whether or not a person should count countries, there is actually little debate over…what exactly is a country?!

It’s one big happy world full of 195 countries…or is it?

I shamelessly count countries. But, with counting everything, there must be rules and the “thing” must be operationalized. Take birds for instance. A person can count a bird for an official count if they make a positive visual or auditory identification. There is wiggle room, since honesty is required when adding birds to the list. Listing a bird also depends upon correctly identified the bird (so error is possible). I try to photograph the birds as evidence that I can later check against a bird guide, but this is not always possible. Birds are feathered, warm blooded, egg laying, beaked animals. There is little ambiguity today of what a bird is, though if we went back millions of years in history bird identification would be more difficult. Since birds evolved from dinosaurs, there are birds with teeth and tailbones or dinosaurs with feathers. Where does bird begin and dinosaur end when looking at the therapods in the lineage of bird evolution? All aves are therapods, but not all therapods are birds. Birds are small, feathered dinosaurs but there are many gradiations of birdlike dinosaurs that are not birds. Whatever a “bird” is or might include in a broader, evolutionary sense, today I don’t have to puzzle over it much as there are clear parameters of what counts as a bird. However, a kiwi bird is considered an honorary mammal because of its mammal like characteristics such as heavy bones, hair like feathers, and lower body temperature. But, kiwis aren’t related to mammals, they simply evolved mammal like traits. Despite the uniqueness of kiwis, there is no debate of if they should be counted as birds. The main debate in counting the 10, 000 or so species of birds today is what constitutes a separate species. There may be as many as 18,000 species depending upon how species are defined (for instance, two birds may look similar enough to be thought of as the same species, but actually have different evolutionary histories ). The big idea is that counting something is never as easy as one, two, three…. http://www.audubon.org/news/new-study-doubles-worlds-number-bird-species-redefining-species

Heeeey, want to add me to your birding list?!

Zhenyuanlong suni

Like birds, counting countries can also be confounding. However, this is a stickier issue as the definition of countries is often a matter of power. For instance, a country might be defined as a sovereign state – or a self-governing political entity that has diplomatic recognition of the international community (i.e. the UN). According to the US State Department, there are 195 independent states in the world. Independent state is often conflated with “country” so it is often said that there are 195 countries in the world. The UN counts 193 countries plus two permanent observer states, Vatican City and Palestine. There are many problems with this understanding of “country.” One problem is that it relies upon international consensus to define what a “country” is. However, because countries are political constructs- often constructed by more powerful countries that sought to colonize, acculturate, absorb, or otherwise control other territories, the independence status of a country is often a question of successful struggle against power or a matter of interests of some powers against others. For example, around 135 UN member countries recognize Palestine as an independent country. Interestingly, almost all of the countries of Africa, South America, Eastern Europe and Asia recognize Palestine. Countries of North America, Western Europe, and Australia are among those who do not recognize Palestine. Countries that often have less political power and a history of colonization seem more inclined to recognize Palestine than countries such as the United States, Germany, France, and the United Kingdom (who are allies of Israel and often played a role in the construction and sustenance of the state of Israel). If countries that are recognized by some UN members but not others are added to the country list, there would be 206 countries in the world. This is the same number of countries recognized by the International Olympics Committee. Other countries with partial recognition include Kosovo (recognized by 100 countries), South Ossetia, Abkhazia, and Northern Cyrprus. Whether or not a country is recognized is related again to power. Russia and a handful of other nations recognize South Ossetia and Abkhazia, but most countries do not. On the other hand, most of Western Europe + the United States recognizes Kosovo, but Russia and a hodgepodge of countries in Africa, Asia, and South America do not. The question of recognition of countries is a diplomatic question of how countries relate to players in a particular struggle. In the case of Kosovo, Russia had close ties with Serbia. In the case of South Ossetia and Abkhazia, the United States is more closely aligned with Georgia than Russia. However, Russia’s intervention in those break-away regions of Georgia was justified by the same logic that the United States and NATO allies used to support Kosovo’s independence: namely the threat of ethnic violence and need to keep peace. In general, the quest to figure out what exactly should count as a country needs to move away from statist and often imperialist definitions of what a country is. After all, the definition that a “country is a country when other countries define it as so” sounds like a tautology. Aside from this logical issue, this definition gives powerful entities, with different stakes in the definition, the right to determine the nature of a country’s independence status.

South Ossetia’s flag- which is pretty cool looking.

Rather than relying on State Department or UN recognition of countries, a more nuanced approach might be to evaluate the history, politics, and culture of a country in question. The central idea would be to determine if a particular region, territory, semi-autonomous state, or recognized country has been historically oppressed by another country. Do the people of this area consider themselves an oppressed nationality? Did they fail to gain independence or concede to colonial power? Have they or do they have an independence movement? Are they treated as a colony today? What is their power relationship to other countries? By this criteria, there are many territories that could be considered countries. For instance, Puerto Rico could be considered a country. The territory does not have the full rights of a U.S. state, has had an independence movement, and was once a Spanish colony that the United States gained from the Spanish-American war. Its colonial relationship to the United States has been highlighted by Hurricane Maria, which knocked out power to millions of Puerto Ricans. Power outages may last months and even up to a year. The struggling utility infrastructure (and infrastructure in general) of Puerto Rico is the result of its debilitating debt and austerity imposed upon it by the U.S. Elsewhere in the Caribbean, in 2009 Great Britain removed the government of Turks and Caicos due to allegations of corruption and appointed their own governor of the islands. Voting rights of citizens of Turks and Caicos is limited to about 7000 people out of a population of 38,000 on the basis of individuals who were locally born on the islands. Although this reeks of colonialism, small countries such as Turks and Caicos may not have strong independence movements because of the economic challenges of being a micro-state (without a diverse economy). Other countries such as Curacao, Sint Marteen, and Aruba are part of the Kingdom of the Netherlands, but have their own governments and autonomy outside of military matters and foreign policy. Aruba in particular had made an agreement with the Netherlands to work towards full independence by 1996, but this process has since been postponed (per the request of the Prime Minister of Aruba). Again, these countries exist in a gray area, wherein they do not have full sovereignty and maintain a relationship with a colonial power. Supposing that a person counts all of the dependencies or territories in the world, this would add about 61 “countries” the the list. But that is pretty generous- since some of these territories are not even inhabited! Though, I suppose if someone travels to Baker’s Island, an unincorporated island in the Pacific that was claimed as a guano island in the mid 1800s, a traveler may as well count it. Uninhabited territories aside, there are plenty of former colonies that could be counted as countries as a matter of recognizing their right to self-determination. Thus, I would count any former colony that has not achieved full independence on my “country count.”

An image of the destruction caused by Hurricane Maria in Puerto Rico

Beyond counting territories, there are other nations of people who have been oppressed by imperialist relationships. A nation is not synonymous with a state and there are many nation states that consist of various nationalities. I believe in the right of self-determination to oppressed nationalities (i.e. groups of people with shared history, culture, customs, etc. who are oppressed by another nation within the context of capitalism). Nations within nation states are often oppressed on the basis of their nationality (unable to learn their language in school or speak it in public life or face other cultural restrictions). They often also serve as cheap labor or military fodder. At the same time, their region may not be as economically diverse or prosperous. Thus, aside from territories and former colonies, there are oppressed nations within nation-states. For instance, today the people of Kurdistan voted on an independence referendum. The referendum does not grant or even create a process for independence, but can serve as an example of a nation within a nation (in this example Kurds within Iraq, though they also live in Turkey, Iran, Armenia, and Syria). In the example of the Kurdish people, the reason they lack a “country” or state of their own is a matter of history. Many modern countries today were constructed by imperialist powers. After the break up of the Ottoman Empire after WWI, Kurdish people were promised their own state by the Allies, but this did not happen. Rather, French and British diplomats established the boundaries of modern Turkey, Syria, and Iraq from the former Ottoman Empire, dividing Kurdish populations between these countries. In this sense, is a person travels to Kurdish regions of any of these countries, it may be perfectly legitimate to count “Kurdistan” as a country. After all, its claim to country status and call for self-determination is no less legitimate than any other nation state. With a population of 30 million people, they are the largest oppressed nationality in the world. In another recent example, the government of Catalonia is moving forward with an (illegal) independence referendum on Oct. 1st. Catalonia has been a part of Spain since the 1500s but Catalans want independence on the basis of their economic prosperity compared to the rest of Spain, history of oppression under Franco, and on the basis of shared history and language. If a person travels through Spain, visiting Basque Country (in both Spain and France) or Catalonia, both of which have had nationalist aspirations, it seems reasonable that a person might count these as “countries” in solidarity with their struggles and recognition of the factors that have thus far stymied autonomy.

A rally in support of Kurdish independence

Considering all of this, a person has to revisit the United States. The United States grew out of our own colonial conquest of Native Americans. There are 562 federally recognized tribal groups in the United States. However, there are also around 250 unrecognized tribal groups. This means that the United States consists of over 800 nations within our nation. All of these groups have been and continue to be unquestionably oppressed by the United States. All of these groups deserve self-determination, including the right to succession. They are a part of this country because they were exterminated into submission. A person might count legitimately count visits to Native American reservations as a visit to a “country” though I think that this should probably be discouraged as it might encourage unwelcome tourism to people who have struggled to protect what remains of their land and culture. But, supposing one travels as a welcome visitor, it seems legitimate that this too could be counted as a “country.” At least theoretically, a person could visit 800 nations without even leaving the United States!

The Traveler’s Century Club is a club for someone who has traveled to 100 countries or territories. Their list is fairly generous, as it includes 325 countries and territories. Inhabited territories are included, as are island portions of Sovereign nations with populations of over 100,000 people, and regions with disputed autonomy but common culture. The list does not make mention of issues like self-determination, but does include such places as Puerto Rico, U.S. Virgin Islands, and even Hawaii. Some of the entries on the list are places I have never heard of, such as Lampedusa, an Italian island of about 5,000 people and Umm Al Qaiwain, one of the United Emirates. The list includes Abkhazia, Trans Dniester, but does not include Nagorno Karabakh, a break-away territory of Azerbaijan nor does it include South Ossetia. Kurdistan, Basque land, and Catalonia are not counted, but Jeju Island in South Korea is! The list is a bit hit or miss when it comes to including the regions of oppressed nationalities that could be counted as countries. In all, it has a heavy emphasis on islands, which sometimes do correlate to areas nationalist struggle (at least historically). But, since it is a travel club for people who want to claim they have been to a 100 countries it at least creates some sort of parameter for counting countries. And, since it includes 325 countries and territories, it is more inclusive than using State Department or UN standards.

Counting countries is a political question and one I do not have a precise answer for. It also raises the question, how many countries HAVE I traveled to? I don’t know! I haven’t definitively developed a standard of how to count countries. But, if you are curious, here is my list- by my own standard. I came up with 62 countries (which I listed in the order that I have traveled to them). This list does not include Hawaii and Jeju Island, which can be included on the Traveler’s Century list. Hawaii seems like it could be an independent country and certainly exists as a state as the result of colonization, but I am not sure how to include oppressed nationalities within the United States on my list. I wanted to reach 80 countries by 40, but I suppose that depends upon my ability to save and take time off of work. I also don’t want to share this list to in any way glorify travel. I do think that homebodies are far more ethical than myself, since they aren’t destroying the environment through travel nor are they directly interrupting the lives of other people (especially poor or oppressed people) as a tourist. I also think that while there are some countries that I have explored for longer periods of time (like Russia, Ireland, or South Korea) many of these are brief visits on account of my lack of time and trust fund. Still, it is interesting to think about!

USA (well, I’ve been here quite a bit…)

Canada

Mexico

England (I tend to break up the UK into its four countries, but am open to including islands such as the Isle of Man or Channel Islands)

The longer I live in this world, the harder it is to dream and believe in things. Life becomes a path of unanswerable questions, existential crisis, and the call to be stronger, less fearful, feel less, and forget more. It is wearying.

Some Things I’ve Done to Travel

H. Bradford

9/13/17

One of the things that I really love to do is travel. However, I don’t have tons of money. So, over the years I’ve done a few creative things- and some ordinary things- to afford travel. Of course, the internet abounds with advice about how people can quit their job and travel…or how anyone can travel if they are simply determined enough. This is absolutely untrue. I can’t quit my job. My bills will not magically evaporate. I am extremely fortunate that I currently have a job that has allowed me to travel- far more than most Americans are able to. I am also fortunate that I don’t have children, pets, or anything or anyone to take care of other than myself. This gives me far more freedom to leave- and to save. I have a lot of privilege in terms of health, nationality, race, ability, etc. that also allow me to travel. So, even though I am a working class person- I have traveled much more than most Americans and most other members of my class. These are a few of the things I have done to travel. Perhaps some of them might be helpful to some people. A few make for unusual stories. And certainly, I don’t want to spread a narrative that with hard working and dedication dreams can come true. They often don’t on account of systems of inequality. Thankfully, I have been able to obtain a few of my dreams. Here is how…

(One of my favorite pictures- outside of Chernobyl Reactor 4)

1. Donate Eggs:

I discussed this in an earlier blog post, but back in 2008 I donated eggs to pay off some bills and to help save up money for a trip to Cuba. At the time, it was illegal for U.S. citizens to travel to Cuba because of the trade embargo. However, there were a few exceptions to this rule. It was possible to travel to Cuba for research (as well as journalism and cultural exchanges). So, I traveled to Cuba with Global Exchange on a research delegation. It was designed to be a research delegation centered around education. To qualify, delegates had to be working full time in an education field or a graduate student. Back then, I worked as a tutor for Americorps in a program that served homeless youth in my community. It was one of the most rewarding and enjoyable jobs I have had. The trip was rather spendy (especially considering that my Americorps stipend was pretty meager), so donating eggs helped with some of the cost (though I mostly spent that money on bills). Interestingly, I was in the midst of donating while I was visiting Cuba. Yep…so I was giving myself daily injections of Gonal-F while touring schools and universities. The highlight of the trip was a visit to the Center for Sex Education, where I learned about how Cuba approaches sex ed. Shortly after returning to the U.S., I made me third and final egg donation. I definitely wanted to donate eggs more than I did, but medical complications got in the way of that. It was disappointing, but a good lesson that you should not put all of your eggs in one basket.

2. Medical Study:

I didn’t actually do this to save up for a trip, but to cover my living expenses upon my return. So…back in 2010 I spent a semester in South Korea, followed by half the summer in Beijing and a visit to North Korea. The North Korea trip was rather expensive. At the time, there were fewer companies that traveled to North Korea. I went with Koryo tours for a ten day trip during the Mass Games (if I remember rightly). And, while I earned a small stipend while in South Korea, it was hard to survive six months in Asia without regular work. I literally had spent all of my money upon my arrival back to the U.S. Worse, a new semester was about to start and I needed money for books. For some quick cash, I volunteered for a two week medical study. Although it is closed now, there was a medical research facility in Fargo- which is about a four and a half hour drive from Duluth. Their website advertised several studies, but I tried for one that was about two weeks long because it paid a few thousand dollars. So…I went to Fargo, was screened for the study, and was accepted. The study itself involved trying out some sort of respiratory spray. Twice a day, each of the patients was administered medication through an inhaler. Honestly, it was a horrible time. We sat in a room full of hospital beds. We were not allowed to leave the beds (to go outside, exercise, etc.) and experienced several blood draws daily. It was torturous to stay in bed waiting for time to pass. Our only entertainment was an endless parade of terrible movies. I remember a LOT of romantic comedies. I wrote and drew, but was terribly restless. The days seemed to draw on forever as I watched the sunshine turn to night from a hospital bed. I also hated how regimented life was. We had to eat our meals without waste or extras. Of course, this was all to control the conditions of the experiment. And, I should also be happy that my inhaler never actually gave me any of the medication. Others complained of a bitter taste, but my inhaler didn’t have a taste. I lucked out and was probably a control subject. I made it through the ordeal, but it was one of the most boring things I’ve endured. On the bright side, I met a medical student studying in Cuba during the experiment. She joined the experiment for extra cash for visiting her family, since even though her education was paid for- she did not have money for travel expenses.

(Random guinea pig image from Pinterest)

3. Work Illegally:

While staying with my friend Rose in Beijing, I worked. Because I was there on a tourist visa, this was technically illegal. I didn’t work that much. I just did some English tutoring for extra spending money. Rose connected me with the opportunities to do a little tutoring. She also connected me with an opportunity to earn $200 by pretending to work for a school in Xian. What happened next is a long story, but it involved a very long train ride, fear that I was being trafficked, and NOT actually ending up in Xian. If you want to know the long story….well, here it is (copied from an earlier blog post). If not, read on to the next heading.

“While in Beijing, I did some English tutoring for spending money. This is illegal, as it is illegal to work on a travel visa, but it was done in private homes and at a café. Another way that some people make money is through “white face” jobs. Basically, you can get paid to be white (isn’t that the epitome of racial privilege?). These jobs are temporary positions given to white people, wherein they pretend to work for a school or company to bolster the image of the organization as more international and therefore prestigious. Rose called me about such an opportunity. All I had to do was pretend to be an English teacher. In exchange, I would be taken on a 2 day trip to Xian and paid $200. Sounds good! An opportunity to leave Beijing and see Xian, where the Terra Cotta warriors are….and get paid. So, I arrived at the train station to meet “Chuck” the head of a language school. Chuck bought my train ticket, but didn’t tell me much about the trip or what is expected of me. I asked Chuck if there will be time to see the Terra Cotta Warriors. He became quiet and thoughtful, then stated that we are going THROUGH Xian but our destination is actually Yan’an. We needed to take the train to Xian to get to Yan’an. This revelation marked the beginning of my Kaftkaesque journey.

I got on the sleeper train, which if I recall took about twelve hours to get to Xian. The additional trip to Yan’an was another five hours or so. So, after seventeen or eighteen hours on a train, I was pretty exhausted. I still had no idea what was expected of me. My only instructions were that I was supposed to pretend to be a teacher for his school. The arrival in Yan’an was hazy. We took the train there and visited a temple. However, I was informed that Yan’an was not our final, final destination. Rather, it was a smaller city about an hour away. We travelled there by car, but were now joined by an entourage of unfamiliar people whose position or relationship to Chuck were unknown to me. Chuck sped along at what seemed like a hundred miles an hour, even passing a police car that was travelling too slow for his taste. As undemocratic as China is, there does not seem to be as much policing of everyday things such as driving or littering as there is in the U.S. or this policing is less consistent. As such, not only was speeding by a police car to pass it seemingly acceptable, so is driving on the sidewalk from time to time. We arrived at our final, final destination and checked into the hotel. Chuck informed me that there would be a dinner at six.

Before dinner, I asked Chuck what I should say to his company. He told me not to worry, as none of them spoke English. So, once again, I knew nothing about my position as a fake teacher. No idea about the school or what grades I taught, how long that I worked there, or anything. Oh well. Weary from the long journey, I attended dinner. Of course, I was seated by a diplomat, who spoke English. And, while everyone else watched my reaction to the food, eagerly hoping that I enjoyed it, he asked me questions about my job. The surreal dinner, wherein I felt that I was the dinner entertainment….there to please everyone with assurances that the food is good and eat more as I am given it….stared at the entire time…continued. Only, each time I tried to answer the questions posed in English by the diplomat, Chuck answered for me in Mandarin. They conversed about my position….in front of me….in Chinese. This left me entirely in the dark about the lie that Chuck was concocting about me. It made me anxious. All of it made me anxious. The dinner went on forever. The food was actually pretty good, which seemingly pleased everyone that I ate it. On a side note, I hate feeling the pressure to eat and even more, I hate it when people watch me eat. But, I suppose we all do this when we have guests….eagerly hoping they will like what has been introduced to them.

We all returned to the hotel and I was informed that I must be up at 6 am the next morning. I talked to Chuck at the door of my room about this. He tried twice to push himself into my hotel room, but I blocked him with my shoulder and door. I really didn’t want to be alone in my room with Chuck. The next morning involved an award ceremony to celebrate the anniversary of a school. This is why so many politicians, school administrators, and important people were there. This cleared up a little what exactly we were doing there. At the same time, the two day trip had already been three days. Oh well. I assumed that we would return after the ceremony the next day.

The following day there was a ceremony, complete with children singing and dancing. There were speeches and a band. It was all a pretty big to-do for the anniversary of a school. When it was over, I asked Chuck when we will return to Beijing. He told me that it might be a day or two. He doesn’t know. A day or two?! After my very long train ride, enduring a couple of meals, complete isolation from everyone that I know- in fact, no one in the world even knows where I am, a ceremony, and now an uncertain return….things fell apart. The whole thing had been pretty uncomfortable to begin with. Never have I felt so powerless and isolated. I began to think that maybe I would not be returned to Beijing. Chuck went on to inform me that I must attend another meal with him.

I snapped. I informed Chuck that I would not eat until I return to Beijing. He said that if I don’t eat it will embarrass him. I told him that I want to go back to Beijing and can’t eat until I return. This was my only tool. A hunger strike. Chuck begged me to eat. I reluctantly agreed to at least attend the lunch. I attended the lunch, but only nibbled. The Chinese guests offered me some apple juice that was made locally. It tasted warm and fermented. More misery. However, at the end of this meal, Chuck magically produced some train tickets and announced that we would be returning to Beijing that afternoon.

17 long hours later. I enjoyed the crinkled yellow brown landscape of the Loess Plateau and the snaking Yellow River. The landscape became less like a curtain of sandy mounds and flattened. There were farms and nuclear reactors. Yan’an was the end of the Long March. I feel as though I had been on a long march of uncertain roles, awkward meals, fear, and isolation. We arrived back in Beijing. Chuck asked me if I wanted to grab breakfast with him. I said no. I took my $200 and left.”

(Image of Terracotta warriors from the Chicago Tribune. I never did get to see them…)

4. Work- Really Hard:

This heading is not as interesting as the others, but there were times that I just worked really, really hard. One of those times was…once again…when I was saving for the Cuba trip. Despite the money from egg donating, I still ended up working WITHOUT A DAY OFF from March until June. This was hellish. But, it was back when I was doing a year of Americorps service. The monthly stipend was about $800 a month after taxes. Still, going to Cuba was important to me. Everyone who I knew who had visited Cuba tended to gush about it- with the exception of Adam. He hates being warm. Travel to Cuba seems to be a leftist rite of passage. Activists often want to travel there to see for themselves what this tiny, embargoed, island nation has done in terms of healthcare and education- against all odds. So, I worked very hard that spring. I did my Americorps services on Monday through Friday, then worked double shifts at a hotel over the weekends. It was exhausting. And, there is something quite demoralizing about looking at a calendar and seeing an endless stretch of work without a day off. But, I survived it- and definitely earned that trip.

(Random image stolen from a google search.)

5. Join a Mission Trip

This is pretty embarrassing at this point in my life, but back when I was 19 I was still religious. My friend Libby invited me to join her church on a mission trip. I joined the trip more for the travel experience than any calling to save souls. Yep, so I went on a bus trip to Mexico with her church. Although I was religious at the time, I really didn’t fit in. I didn’t dress conservatively enough and had to be told to cover up more. I also wasn’t socialized into her church, so I suppose there were theological and behavioral norms that I didn’t conform to. But, we did help with some minor construction on a church and I was able to see a really awesome cave in a mountain while everyone else went to a water park. The cave was called Grutas de Garcia and was fascinating in that I took a cable car up the mountain, then entered a cave which at one time was under a prehistoric sea. Various marine fossils could be seen on the walls of the cave. The mountains were pretty and it was an interesting social experience. Still, in retrospect it was a weird thing to do, especially since it hardly seems that Mexico is in need of spiritual or religious help from U.S. missionaries. But, it was a two week trip to Mexico for under $500. It was also one of the last memorable religious activities that I was involved with (as I stopped going to church or attending religious events in the subsequent years). Finally, it was a happy memory with my friend Libby- who was my best friend since the first grade. Maybe I wasn’t the best at being religious, but it was certainly worth it to share an experience with her.

(Image from Tours in Monterrey)

6. Tax Refund

I usually spend my tax refund on travel. To ensure that I actually get a tax refund, I claim zero on my taxes so that more money is taken out of my paychecks each month. I have read that this is not good financial advice, as if a person simply saved more, they would earn interest on the savings. However, since I am not always that great at saving- having more taken out of my paycheck in taxes has resulted in much larger tax refunds at the end of the year. I think that this scheme will dwindle once I start substitute teaching and now that I can’t claim a credit for being a graduate student. But, in previous years, I usually received $1000- $3000 back in taxes. I used that money towards going to Eastern Europe and the Balkans for a month back in 2014 and the Baltic Countries/Ukraine/Belarus in 2015.

7. Second Savings Account

One of my strategies in the past has been to have two savings accounts. The second savings account was located at an out of the way bank (in an area I don’t often visit in Duluth) and did not have an ATM card. By making my money harder to access, I did not dip into the savings. It also kept the money separate from my regular savings- so the money was earmarked specifically for travel. I have since closed the second account, but I found this to be a very useful savings strategy and one that I want to employ in the future (probably a non-travel savings account).

8. Regular Saving and Working…

This is mainly what I do now to travel. It doesn’t make for a good story. Save and work. Blah. To that end, I picked up some extra shifts at work this month. I try to pick up extra shifts when I can. The other day, I worked a sixteen hour shift followed by a twelve hour shift the next day. I might try substitute teaching in my free time as well. (Though typically I only work 40 hours a week). On the saving front, I will admit that I am terrible at saving. I have too many hobbies and eat out way too much. But, I’ve been using Mint since March and find that it helps me track my spending and set saving goals. Each month I try to squirrel away money. But, it seems that once I save up enough- I spend it all on travel. So, perhaps I could add “living irresponsibly” to my list of things I do to travel, as I am definitely NOT saving up for retirement or a rainy day. My goal is to eventually become good enough at saving that I can put money away for BOTH travel and responsible adulthood.

There are probably many other ways that I could travel. I could work overseas, such as teaching English in South Korea. I could try to find work that somehow involves travel. But, for the most part, I am content right now to save, work, and dream of future trips. Provided that my current job continues to allow me to take vacations each year, I continue to travel as long as I am able to. It challenges me socially, emotionally, physically, and intellectually. While it is a selfish endeavor, it allows me to re-dedicate to activism and my work. That is why I like it and why it has been worth the effort.

I also love this photo-in Kazakhstan, since I look badass- masking the fact that I am a dorky, fearful, and unfit.

Missed Connections: The Social Challenge of Travel

H. Bradford

9/9/17

I remember back when I was a flag twirler for marching band (at Cambridge-Isanti High School), sitting alone on the school bus as it carted me to march in a parade. I always sat alone. I always sat alone for soccer. I sat alone for track as well. I have many memories of sitting alone on school buses as I traveled to track meets, games, speech meets, or whatever else. I also have memories of “pairing up” for projects in college and high school, or just “pairing up” for whatever else. I was always the last person to find a pair. I even took a community education ballroom dance class where I danced alone with an invisible partner- simply because I had no pair. I am like a mismatched sock. Thankfully, I tend to enjoy my own company. My best days are often the days that I spent alone- hiking, camping, watching birds, writing, etc. At the same time, there is something painful and mysterious about my inability to “pair up” or how it seems that there is a natural force field around me that deters others from sitting with me. Normally, this doesn’t matter as I do have a core of good friends. This is something I lacked in other eras of my life. It only becomes a problem when I leave them. As such, I find that this is one of the most challenging aspects of travel.

My last two major trips were overland trips. One visited southern Africa. The other visited Central Asia. These trips both involved meeting a group of strangers, camping with them, and spending long hours on a truck with them. In fact, most of my travel experiences involve meeting strangers and confronting the painful truth of my life: I am a misfit and I lack social skills. The social dance of travel follows some patterns. Firstly, everyone expresses excitement to meet one another. There tends to be bonding early on over a meal and drinking. Conversation is light, centered mostly upon small talk and travel. This pattern repeats itself, generating stories that create situational bonds. For instance, a generic story might be something such as “the time we ate X, then drank X, got so drunk, and stayed up all night doing X.” The story might be made more interesting by such mishaps as getting lost, getting harassed, a misunderstanding, getting sick, or positive things such as making a local friend, discovering a cool place, or some other adventure. The sum of these experiences tends to be friendships, vows or plans to see one another again, and teary eyed departures home. 95% of the time I have been an outsider to this experience. I have watched it unfold, like a flower opening, with the predictability of spring time. And, I have watched, usually from a solitary seat on a bus, truck, or train, as the friendships others have built end in tears. I am left to feel my own sadness- but generally that of the perennial outsider. I wonder what is wrong with me? Why can’t I connect? And worse, I feel the existential pain of not mattering- of existing in no one’s memory. Of simply vanishing without consequence and failing to invoke warmth and connection.

Why can’t I connect? I think it is complicated. I am slow to open up to people. By the time I begin to feel comfortable opening up- most people have already made their connections within the group. I am terrible at small talk. I tend to get bored with small talk. I would much rather start off talking about something political or sociological. Unfortunately, most social situations require political neutrality. I do a lot of activism. My political identity takes up at least half of my time. I am aware that the things that are the most important to me tend to be alienating to others. I am a feminist. I am a Trotskyist. I am an atheist. I am a sociologist (well, in the sense I have an M.A. in sociology and can’t NOT analyze or critique social norms. Sociology does not have an off switch). I am an unmarried adult with no children- who lives in a shared house with adult housemates- which also serves as a makeshift food shelf. I have a belief system and lifestyle that is shared by very few people. Because polite conversation tends to avoid controversy, debate, or politics, I feel that I can’t share 75% of who I am with others- at least not upon first meeting them. In this way, social situations can feel like a straight jacket. There are other peculiarities about myself. One, I don’t drink alcohol and never have. I have never in my years of travel met another traveler who is also a teetotaler. Drinking is an important part of the bonding process. It loosens people up and makes conversation easier. Another area of bonding is television shows. However, I usually limit my TV or Netflix watching to less than an hour a month. I find little joy in binge watching shows (except once a year I do watch the previous season of the Walking Dead). I don’t really like watching shows and don’t know or care to know what is popular. I am a vegetarian. I am also bisexual. I tend to keep my sexuality to myself as I am often paired with female travelers as tentmates or roommates. I once had a bad experience wherein a fellow traveler once mistakenly believed that I was trying to see her naked. This wasn’t true. But to avoid that, I tend not to advertise it. I think that a barrier to making connections is the fact that I feel that there is a lot about myself that I can’t talk about AND even if I could- I am pretty unusual.

This sock probably doesn’t have a match since it wants to talk about communism when people really just want to talk about tv shows and places they’ve been.

If I can’t talk about politics or ideology, who am I? Who am I outside of my activist identity? Well, there is my work self. I work at a domestic violence shelter, so, that can be interesting to talk about. However, intimate partner violence isn’t a “fun” topic of conversation and not a topic most people want to delve into right away upon first meeting. I do have quite a few hobbies. I enjoy reading, writing, learning about nature, bird watching, outdoors, learning in general, gardening, drawing, and have dabbled in activities such as ballet lessons, soccer, writing poems, other dance or fitness classes, violin, etc. Despite the hobbies, I often feel that I am a little boring. I mean, my latest “dabbling” was creating watercolor images of birds. I think I have the tastes and interests of a fussy, tea drinking, great grandmother. All things considered, I don’t expect that others would actually want to be my friend. So, I tend to be reserved and observant, making little effort to exude the warmth and welcome needed to attract friends. This all becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. 1.) I feel that I am too different to make friends. 2.) Based upon this belief, I don’t make an effort at it. Following this internal logic, I tend to make the most of my situations by keeping to myself or trying to find the joy in my own companionship.

The social aspect of travel is frustrating because it seems to serve as a microcosm of my relationship to society at large. I don’t fit in. This is often masked by the fact that I have a few close friends who are also…misfits. I also feel that maybe there IS something wrong with me. This sense of something wrong with me sometimes causes me to disengage with people for fear of rejection. Oh dear! Why does this have to be so complicated? It would be easier if my friends enjoyed international travel. I could then travel with a buddy and would not have to worry about how I connect with others. However, travel is spendy. Even if it wasn’t, no one I know is all that keen on traveling. For the foreseeable future, I will be either traveling alone or meeting up with a group of strangers as I travel. But, I don’t really mind. And, perhaps there is hope that I can grow and become better at socializing/connecting. This summer, I feel that I fared much better at my attempt to befriend others. In fact, I actually left the trip a bit teary eyed. That was the first time that has ever happened on a trip. I don’t even know what to think. Usually, I am the outsider watching emotions as they happen for other people. I can’t say that I am overly fond of feeling sad upon departure. But, I think sadness is better than distance or emotional vacancy.

A part of me will always have times when I feel like a lonely child. I will always have moments where I am reminded of the times that I sat alone on a bus or hid during lunch hour because I had no one to sit with (at Cambridge-Isanti). Usually, I am too busy with work, activism, and my friends to feel lonely. I actually seek out alone time because my life is too full. I do enjoy my own company. A benefit of my lonely past is that I am not at all shy or self conscious about eating at a restaurant alone, camping alone, hiking alone, or going to a movie alone. It is only when I am away from my friends for an extended period of time and thrust into a situation where I am with strangers that I am confronted with my insecurities and the demons of my social struggles. It is in these situations that I struggle with the haunting pain of being a misfit who is socially deficient. The bright side is that it is a learning experience. Maybe I will never learn the lessons that I need to learn, but it does challenge me by pulling me away from my confidence and comfort. I suppose that is one of the purposes of travel- to leave one’s comfort zone. Well, I will say that I do- but in ways that are painful, unseen, and unspoken. (Though I have just spoken of it now!)

(I had a dream wherein someone wrote me a series of “hate poems” on post-it notes. I found these poems under a table. While I don’t remember the poems from my dreams, this is a reconstruction of one of the poems.)

You

H. Bradford

9/7/17

You are not a tornado or electricity,

You are an island of nightmares set adrift from the continents.

You are not lips or the stars,

You are the gap between them and the frustration space brings.

You are not a memory or a journey,

You are a beggar passed on the road- whose hands and eyes grasped for more.