Fireproof love lessons

In my last post, love is not a fight, I referenced the movie Fireproof. For y’all who haven’t watched it, it’s about a fireman (Caleb) whose marriage is not working out. He and his wife Catherine are fighting a lot and at some point even consider divorce. Caleb’s father, John, encourages his son to hold off on divorce proceedings to try the Love Dare, a 40-day challenge for improving marriage by changing the way you treat your spouse.

With the way things are going nowadays, there are plenty of movies that push loose morals, profanity, and obscenity (like 50 shades of nonsense) it sure helps to have a sober movie like this one. So, if a message of being good, kind, and loving doesn’t frighten you, I highly recommend this movie.

I have watched this movie countless times and each time I pick something new from it. Here are a couple of timeless lessons I have learnt from Fireproof.

Be a hero at work and at home too – Caleb’s colleague Michael points out that Caleb will risk his life to save complete strangers, but is letting his marriage burn to the ground. This applies to most of us, we are excellent in the office or in the field but our families are falling apart. Our friendships and our relationships require that we put the same or even more effort that we put in our work.

Divorce never leaves us the same – In an effort to demonstrate this Michael glues the salt and pepper shakers together and when Caleb tries to pull them apart, Michael points out that he will break one or even both of them. Divorce is not something I think about a lot; then again I have been married for only 2 years. Unfortunately I have friends who are divorced and I have seen them crumble at the pain and struggle to give their kids a normal life. This goes to say if you are married, work at it and don’t let it get to a place when divorce is an option and if you are single, invest in yourself and be a man or woman worthy of marriage.

You never leave your partner, especially in a fire. This statement is what stuck with me through the entire movie. It reminds me that I am to be there for my husband especially during the bad times. I am to be his shoulder when things are not going well at work, when we are broke and during times of grief.

There are many lessons to pick from this movie but these three stood out for me. Have you watched Fireproof? Share with me what you learnt from this movie.

I am Wanjiru Kihusa and I’m a writer and founder of Still A Mum – an organization that seeks to reduce maternal and newborn deaths in Africa. I am especially passionate about women and children.
I blog to share my thoughts and experiences hoping that in the process someone will learn from my life.

Give you and yourself totally to your marriage or relationships and in bad times never have fall back plans just stick in there.Let divorce or break-up not be one of the options because if it is then you will finally come to it.
Catherine allowed herself to cry on the shoulder of a third party(the doctor) and she ended losing all the stamina to work out her marriage to an extent she couldn’t see how sweet her husband had become; fixing her breakfast, bringing her flowers ..e.t.c.ALWAYS CHOOSE TO SEE AND RECOGNIZE what your partner does even in crisis.If you have fall back plan you will never see that.
I totally love the movie too