OT: 1st grader exposing himself to other kids:/

Today my YDD (6yrs old) came home today & told me that one of her classmates pulled down his pants and exposed his private part in class. She says this isn't the first time he does this. The teacher was told about this incident by other children and did nothing. My YDD says the teacher didn't believe anyone and said they making it up. What should I do ? Who should I confront first the teacher or the principle? OMG what is world coming to that a first grader are doing these things.

Ask the teacher about it, chances are something has already been done. When my DD was in prek a little boy kept scratching and pinching her. I asked her teacher about it and she assured me that the problem was being addressed bc he'd been doing it to other kids and to the teacher as well. I think the problem was that the parents weren't trying to correct his behavior, which could be happening in this situation as well.

From a different perspective, this happened to me in kindergarten. Two boys within minutes of each other (the second must have seen the first do it). I felt dirty and that it was somehow my fault, I didn't tell anyone for years. Now, 30 years later, I still remember that feeling and could tell you those boys' names. It does make an impact - it's fantastic that your daughter felt comfortable enough to tell, make sure that she knows something's being done or she may not tell next time.

The exposing himself, on its own, is completely normal at that age. Perhaps it was brushed over the first time and the parents didn't have the proper talk with him, or the teacher didn't know. Little kids and boys are super curious at that age, some don't realize it's "dirty" and think its funny like a fart.

It is also entirely possible he accidentally saw something he shouldn't have, or was exposed to something by an older sibling.

If it continues and is accompanied by nasty talk, I would be worried.

Either way I would talk to the teacher first. Maybe your daughter misinterpreted what the teacher said in response and if she didn't you can then go over her head to the principal

If you know the parents, speak with them. I would also talk with the teacher... It can be a sign something is wrong or it could be nothing. My husband asked kids in preschool if they wanted to see his penis. His mom explained he was so proud of knowing what it was and using the potty (he was a late potty trainer) that he wanted to tell the world. Once she explained to him that was a private thing he stopped.

I wouldn't immediately assume this kid is being abused like some PP's are doing. At that age, he could just think it's funny and not really see anything wrong with it. Maybe his parents just haven't taught him that his private parts should be kept private.

My DD is 5 and my DS who's 2 both think being naked is hilarious. However they do know it's not acceptable to be naked in public.

I would contact the teacher for sure, but I think something like this could easily be blown out of proportion. I'm still sorry your daughter had to witness that though.

When I was a kid, there was a boy who lived down the street who liked to drop his pants, he thought it was hilarious. We all laughed, so I'm sure that egged him on. I don't remember if I ever told my parents or not, but I was certainly not traumatized by it.

I think it's pretty normal at that age, but it's not appropriate and he needs to learn that his genitals are private. I would speak to the teacher first, in private. Don't expect her to give you details about how they are addressing it - the way another child is handled is not really your business. But you do need to know that it's being addressed. And like others have said, if you're not satisfied with the teacher's reaction, speak with the principal.

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"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than one's fear." - Ambrose Redmoon

Thanks everyone for comments! I have to admit we are very over protective of our kids and I think she was mostly affected because of talks we have with her. We sat down talk to her many times about how your privites are only for her to see and touch nobody else has the right but her.I will talk to the teacher after school just to see her perspective and what was done about it.

I forgot to mention - SS is in K this year and we realized last week we had to talk to him about dropping his pants wherever. Not because he was showing his genitals but because when I picked him up, he immediately tried to drop his pants and informed me that his butt itched. I had to explain to him that we don't do that in public. And that in the future, he needed to do such things in the bathroom at home lol.