Wednesday, November 28, 2012

THERE WILL BE MOUNTAINS THAT I WILL HAVE TO CLIMB AND THERE WILL BE BATTLES THAT I WILL HAVE TO FIGHT. BUT VICTORY OR DEFEAT, IT'S UP TO ME TO DECIDE BUT HOW CAN I EXPECT TO WIN IF I NEVER TRY. I JUST CAN'T GIVE UP NOW I'VE COME TOO FAR FROM WHERE I STARTED FROM. NOBODY TOLD ME THE ROAD WOULD BE EASY AND I DON'T BELIEVE HE BROUGHT ME THIS FAR TO LEAVE ME.

AMEN, AMEN, AMEN, LOVE THIS SONG VERY UPLIFTING. AN, I HOPE THIS SONG UPLIFT ALL OF YOU THIS MORNING AND FROM HERE ON OUT.

I know you guys are going to think I'm crazy for this one. To again peace with yourself is to over come grief and to accept the wrong that was done to you. You have to accept the pain that was placed upon your soul, mind and body. You don't want it to take control of you nor consume your life. Don't be afraid because once you do that, once you become afraid that person has won all over again.You gain acceptance by forgiving that person and yes it's hard but you won't completely be healed unto you do so.This is the only way your going to be able to move forward with your life. Acceptance and forgiveness is going to help you face the person who harmed you one day along with GOD and faith. UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES SIGNING OFF(:) STAY BLESSED

Anger is known as a disorder, but more properly known as Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) is a psychological condition characterized by sporadic episodes of aggression,
violence, and destructive behavior. People who suffer from anger
disorder are unable to control themselves, exploding with rage in a way
which is often out of proportion to the event which triggered the anger.
Like many psychological disorders,
IED can be treated with help from a psychological professional, but
first it needs to be identified as a problem and diagnosed. As you know some people can't afford to get help and of course most don't want to admit that they have a problem. So, how do we help them?
Three key things distinguish anger disorder from other types of mood disorders which involve anger, such as bipolar disorder.
The first is the presence of major property damage or serious harm as a
result of one or more explosive episodes. The second is the
characteristic of responses which are out of proportion, and the third
is a lack of another explanation for the behavior, such as the use of
mood-altering medication or an existing mood disorder.
People may also experience feelings of fatigue, confusion, or distress
after their explosive episodes, often compounded by guilt over their
actions.
An, well i can say everyone has this disorder to some degree. Most people seem to suppress their anger and while others they tend to act out their anger. This usually leads to someone getting hurt or objects being thrown and jail time.

HERE ARE SOME WEB-SITES TO VISIT:thehotline.orgncadv.orgfutureswithoutviolence.org womensaid.orgdvcs.org

Monday, November 19, 2012

I contemplated over and over in my head about my story. I'm not even going to lie guys i didn't turn the guy in who rape me the first i was raped. The reason being i was terrified of this man getting off and finding me an possibly killing me. So, the second time I was terrified and i wasn't going to turn him in but i had a voice of reasoning on my side and convinced me it was the right thing to do. Don't get me wrong i knew it was the right thing to do but look @ it like this i had a lot to lose this time but I had to think of other people besides myself. Like for instants my daughter i want her to know that the person that she looks up to is strong and has a voice and not willing to let someone defeat her. An, for the other ladies that might come in contact with this predator. I didn't want that to happen to them i was lucky to get a way the next person might not be so lucky. So, had to swallow my pride and give my fear a kick in the you know what and told my story. It was super hard having to sit in front of 20 strangers and relive the ordeal over again. GOD has plan for everything. So, I say this morning look in the mirror and tell your aggressor I NO LONGER FEAR YOU, FOR FEARING YOU IS MY WEAKNESS AND YOU SHALL NEVER, EVER WEAKEN OR SILENCE ME AGAIN. I HAVE VICTORY TODAY AND TOMORROW. WHAT DO YOU HAVE!

I WANT TO APOLOGIZE TO ANYONE WHOM I OFFEND. MY BLOG IS NOT TO GET YOU TELL YOUR STORY PUBLICLY, BUT IF YOU WANT TO AND YOUR COMFORTABLE WITH IT THAT'S FINE I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT. MY BLOG IS HERE TO GET YOUR OPINION, SUGGESTIONS, COMMENTS ABOUT CERTAIN TOPICS. SO HAVE AT IT I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM ALL OF YOU. I AM HERE TO BRING AWARENESS TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, RAPE OR SEXUAL ASSAULT. ALSO TO HELP FIND AWAY FOR WOMEN AND CHILDREN TO GET THROUGH THIS ORDEAL THAT THEY HAVE GONE THROUGH. UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES(:)

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

“
‘Go and look toward the sea,’ he told his servant. And he went up and
looked. ‘There is nothing there,’ he said. Seven times Elijah said, ‘Go
back.’ The seventh time the servant reported, ‘A cloud as small as a
man’s hand is rising from the sea...”

In my opinion you should never feel ashamed about anything. It's not your fault not in the least bit. It wasn't something you did wrong, even though the person who is or has abused you makes you feel that way. I've been on both sides of the fence. I was the aggressor back in 2010 something I'm not proud of but it made me step back and take a look @ my life and where i was going because jail wasn't an option for me. The jumpsuits and stripes just aren't where it's @. My mission is to help everyone I can from the victim to the aggressor. I've been through a lot I look @ my pain as my blessing. So, yes I did feel ashamed @ first but once you start to find yourself and love yourself for who you are the pain and guilt goes away.WELL UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES SIGNING OFF!SUNDRA(:)

Monday, November 12, 2012

Hmm.... Well, as you may know my name is Sundra. I grew up in an abusive home. My dad use to beat my mom and my oldest brother. He even tried to kill them, thank GOD he never succeeded. I grew up with a lot of anger and my anger didn't really surface until my 20's. During my younger years' i stayed pretty much reserved. I had few friends and i do mean few. I've been raped twice; the first time i was nineteen (19) by my ex boyfriend's best friend. My ex boyfriend didn't believe me when i told him so that was the end of that relationship. Second time: I tried the dating services on the web something i will never do again. I think they should do a full background check on the people that sign up for there services. I know it's easy for people to lie when using these services. Well, guys this is just a brief inside look into my world, and my pain. Signing Off Until Next Time My Loves

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Hello, everyone my name is Sundra Ickom. I'm in the process of starting a Non-Profit Organization, for women and children. The name of the organization is Rehabilitating Women and Children Dealing with Domestic Violence and Rape. I would love to get everyone's input on the topics that will be post. This is a place where you can feel completely comfortable to talk about anything in which that bothers you. I will try my best to respond to everyone in a timely manner. I'm here to listen, give advice and to help in anyway possible.