Some people have got a Master’s degree and currently are studying for
a PhD in Complaining. It’s so sad that they are not even aware of this
habit in themselves.
There are two ways in which people get into the terrible habit of complaining over everything, relevant or irrelevant:

- Hereditary: I’m sure you all can understand that a child
would take after his mother and/or father. If you were unlucky to have
parents who complain about everything ranging from the price of bread,
to the amount of tax being paid, to the choice of soap or the rudeness
of their colleague then there is an 80% chance that you will also be a
whiner.

- Victim Mentality: This is a state of mind where you believe
that everything and everyone is out to get you. You moan about people
not treating you right, you moan about your friends not calling you like
you call them, you complain about your boss over working you, you
complain about being sick and no one is there for you, you complain
about not having a boyfriend/girlfriend, you complain about having a
boyfriend/girlfriend who doesn’t understand you, you complain about your
family, you complain about your hair dresser, you complain about the
pastor’s sermon… you complain about your ex boyfriend, in your opinion
they all want something from you in exchange for nothing. Even your
mobile phone’s ringtone is sad ‘whatever my lot thou hath taught me to say it is well it is well with my soul’…

What you are is a very SAD person and you may not know this, but you
are spreading your negativity to those around you…that is why people
avoid you. They use you because they know you need a reason to complain
later, so why not? They can’t stand being around you for long because
all you do is talk about your trials and woes real or imagined. They
won’t invite you to social meetings because all you do is sit there and
find something wrong with the people there. You lose your real friends
one after the other because when they say:

‘Hello dear…how are you?’ you reply with
‘ I’m okay…this life no easy at all, can you imagine what happened yesterday blab a bla’

People begin to find visiting you or calling you exhausting…it’s like
trying to walk through a train wreck….very annoying and exhausting. So
it’s easier to just avoid you, because guess what??? You are not the
only one with issues. Because your friend has chosen not to voice
hes’/hers’ out doesn’t mean she doesn’t wet her pillows with tears at
night. But how would you know when all she does is listen to you rant
and rave every time.How do you get out of this bad habit? It’s simple…

- GET OVER YOURSELF!!! The world does not
revolve around you. No body, not your parents, not your friends, not
your enemy, no one owes you anything. Life is per head. Because you do
good doesn’t mean those around you are under any obligation to do you
good in return. Stop expecting people to be good/kind to you because you
look good or work hard or do well. Stop expecting anything from anyone…
you are in control of only yourself and your actions.

- GET A LIFE!!! Another reason you complain
so much is because probably outside your work and your house you have
nothing else going for you so you do not understand how or why others
seem so content and happy without you or your presence in their life.
Get busy…join a club, volunteer at a foundation, go fishing, go
partying. Get your own life and stop studying other people’s short
comings and concentrate on your own life.

- GET A VOICE: If you feel you are being
given the short end of the stick…speak up. There is no point ranting and
raving to your friends and family for something someone else has done
to you. What are they going to do about it for you? If you are sick and
you feel you don’t deserve it, tell it to GOD. If your boss is over
using you and short paying you…speak up and tell your boss. If your
family treats you like crap…speak up and tell them. If a particular
friend mistreats you, tell those friends. It’s simple
I’m sure you are not aware of this, but there are some people who have REAL PROBLEMS. How you decide to define ‘real problem’ would actually be based on how broad or narrow minded you are, but please repeat after me ‘SOME PEOPLE HAVE REAL PROBLEMS’…
say it aloud…say it one more time. Good. Now you know. There are
people in places dying of starvation, people who are in prison without
trial for something they were accused wrongly of, people who are dying
of AIDS, Women dying of Breast
Cancer. You have good health…you have shelter, you have food, you have
friends and family (you are pushing away), you are not in prison…why
don’t you count your blessings and stop boring people with things they
can’t change for you.

Summary

Before you start complaining, pause and ask yourself:
a) Is this worth complaining about or I’m I just looking for sympathy/pity? (that’s pathetic)
b) Will whining to him/her solve the problem….will she/he give me an answer I don’t already know
c) Am I medically stupid? Must I talk about myself all the time?

Answer these questions honestly each time you feel like whining and
you’ll be on your way to becoming a person others want to associate
with. You can thank me later….

Quote: Any idiot can complain, it takes someone with brains to do something about it.

Monday, September 5, 2011

This just goes to show that you may have no say in the cards life deal you...but you damn well have a say in how you decide to play those cards. She has one leg... but she beat the others hands down in the dance!!!

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