Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

i dunno what i'll get, but have a idea what we are going for..i have a big board meeting soon..
i've asked andy if i should start working and he said NO..so i'm assuming we're going after the life i have become accustomed to (scarlett ohara voice)

I was a stay at home mom for 26 yrs....we worked it out ourselves. we negotiated (not my recent ex). Actually I would have gotten more..but for a shorter period of time using the states equation. As it worked out..my pay increased just about the exact amount of the spousal at the end of the spousal support. Each state is different though.

Everything depends on how long you were married and what state you are in. I'm in IL and according to my mediator and attorney I'm entitled to 50-60% of his pension and one half of his income for life. Who knows what will happen but I will be happy with anything in that range.

I haven't worked in 25 years. He has a huge earning power. We shall see. Good luck. Just remember you probably won't get what you are asking for. Your attorney probably went high and his will go low.

My divorce was in IL too...I let him keep his retirements..he provided me with a pretty good lifestyle for those years..so I took my pay out, equity in house..and limited spousal support. Given what I earn...well I couldn't exactly cry poverty. Ours was a very civil divorce..we are good friends. I also got to keep my retirement, my stocks and other investments...so I think it was equitable. My recent ex stiffed his ex wife big time.

Lifetime support usually carries a few things with it that can be a sticker..it's voided if &quot;conjugal, cohabitation&quot; can be proven and in the case of re marriage. I got mine no matter what I did...but again everything is negotiable these days.

mine actually made a offer back in april..it was pretty dam good..but i know we can do better..god bless those analyst..fucktard said our buildng for the busiess was worth 30k..real estate analyst said 600k..hmmm little difference there dont ya think

If you mean that your lawyer put it in your settlement agreement, then it's probably the max number, anticipating a reply lower, which he/she might suggest you take. All states are different though, as far as whether or not you are entitled to it legally, and, for how long, based on lifestyle, how long wed, etc... i was shocked too.

While I believe alimony is a fair thing to keep it within reason. I pay it to my ex, even offered it to her, she pi ked the number and the time

But how can you justify letting your lawyer telling you not to go to work.
Go to work and get what is fair to keep your lifestyle. Alimony is not meant for someone to pay the other party to sit at home, it is to HELP, key word there, the other party have a better lifestyle than they can afford.

Was just curious how it all worked. I wasnt going to go after it but if the court awards it Im going to take it. Why shouldnt I? He took everything with him and left my son and I with nothing. He even wiped out the bank accounts and then gave no child support. To be honest, I would be happy if he just paid all the back support and $ he was given by the military for his dependants allotment he kept for myself. Fucktard..i swear..

Everyone has to decide what is best for them. I could have taken 40% of his federal retirement and about 45% of his state retirement..but then again....he could have taken 50% of MINE, AND my 401k and stocks. Anyone who has been married for over 10 years is entitled to draw from their x's retirement SS account, without reducing t he x's draw at the age of 65, providing their taxable income is below a certain level...so this is a dance. You have to anticipate the other guys steps.

mine left me financially ok, but i got a feeling he thinks thats going to play in the divorce and it may..but the way he did it..looks like he can afford it so i dont think that will hurt and i dont know if you saw in another post or not..but he valued our business real estate at 30k..the real estate analyst appraised it at 600k..hmmm difference eh?! and thats not money from the business thats just the building and real estate

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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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