Just saying enough of all this single and happy ish. Yes we get it, you are single, but the more we talk about it, there more it actually seems to be an issue. Better things to concentrate on. I am single and its never bothered me to think about ways to make me happy

. I am me and I am me and thats it. I could be sad or happy or whatever, it is not dependent on my relationship status. Thats just LIFE. Even having all the money in the world cannot guarantee happiness or a feeling of success. Lets stop giving this single status thing more relevance than it actually deserves.

If you think your biological clock is ticking away, find a SPERM DONOR.

Your not understanding is a case or reading/ listening without understanding because you have preconceived notions. Her point is when you go around announcing you’re single and happy, you come across as the opposite. Imagine how it would be if a girl kept screaming, I’m a girl some pple might think she’s a transgender( okay, kidding but you get the drift).

Happiness is a state of mind that radiates and one shouldn’t go around screaming about.

I think the single and happy thing has been overflogged, it’s beginning to sound like a lie and if you really wish to be married, say so but stay happy. In the end happiness or should I say real joy doesn’t come from any activity but a serene state of mind that believes all things work together for good.

It’s so true. All that single and happy talk sounds good in the ear under 30. However, 35 and up and you’ve never been married before, you are celibate, and you consider yourself a good catch. But just waiting for the right one after you’ve spent all these years building your career, business and yourself. Nah, it doesn’t sound good anymore. You begin to really be worried. And if you want to have children, you start to even worry more. Not saying you should settle for anything but geez, there’s no way in hell you’ll be happy single at 35, if you desire to be married and have children .

Of course you can be single and happy no matter how old you are. Being in a relationship or being married are no guarantors of happiness. It will be refreshing to receive tips on “How You Can Be Married And Happy” on Bella Naija for a change. There are way too many unhappy people in unhappy marriages around the world.

Enough of this over-flogged topic!! Happiness is a choice!! Topics like this are usually geared towards the ladies, what is it!! Ladies ,we need to love ourselves, love God, pray and when the time is right, the right person will come, in fact the list is endless. I am single by choice whilst learning how to fly aeroplanes and I do have guys “toasting me”. I have left everything to God because I know he has someone out there for me and i can not wait to meet him! I want to get married and stay married when that time comes. Ladies, learn about yourself, focus your mind on other things, travel, achieve you dreams, enjoy life etc. Life is too short to be worry so much, R.I.P PETER BELLO.

I think people shouldn’t be defensive about their status on here…. this post isn’t peculiar to naijababes. but ladies who are past certain age. As the post says discovery…I am on the road to discovery cos I never thought it was gonna be difficulty settling down by now,but what do u do when it’s not coming soon…u learn to be happy right? Marriage is our right created by God and we should all embrace it. But if u single at a certain age which by now thought u should be married, thank God if u c this as a Delay. pray that u will marry right and get it right and marry the best man God specifically created for you! Ciao

Love Thu advice. And I don’t think its over trashed. Society puts lots of pressure on women to get married. like the they are defined by marriage . With foundations like this topic. Note your happiness yourself worth and you attract what you got. Get your perspective right and enjoy life. Don’t live in fear. Glory keep it up

This vlog totally cracked me up but also resonated with me quite strongly. I’m single and took up an exciting 1 year contract in East Africa. I was at a job in Lagos that was becoming increasingly less fulfilling. Though this was a great opportunity that would put a few stars on my CV, you should have seen the concern from people around “You neva marry and you want to move to another country? How will you find a husband?” lol. I know it was out of concern, but please, I can’t hang my life and put it on hold cos I’m yet to get married biko. It’s not as though there was even anyone in the picture at the time. Fast forward 11 months, I’m so grateful I took the opportunity to come out here and do stuff I would never have dreamed off a year earlier. Please live your life and make the best of it, building yourself in all areas while you trust God for your own partner.

1. What a lovely young lady and that smile is everything . I like the fact that she remains positive and is encouraging others out there

2. It’s a my observation that women are speaking out more about the unnecessary burden that society places on us women to do things at certain milestones .eg get married at 30, have children after year 1….

3. I know exactly what that feels like and I agree with the fact that you have to drive out the negativity before it drives you mad. Stay positive always. I had a book and wrote down all the bible verses that inspired me and when negativity wanted to creep in I picked it up and read it and spoke it out aloud and I was better for it.

4. It’s always good to keep doing what your doing ……. If it’s blogging, keep at it. If it’s hairdressing , continue . So that when hubby does arrive he won’t find you idle. In my case I continued withy postgraduate degree even though I had the option not to start. He valued me more that way. As if to say, even if you didnt show up and want to marry me, I would be been just fine by myself. Men like it that way.

Single and happy???? Like hell to the noooo!!!!!!!! I’m not happy being single. It’s not like I brood all day, but the thought alone makes me sick. I ask myself if I’m not attractive enough but I get pleasant compliments. I know we are all different but when I’m not a sadist, how can I be single and happy? Career is another issue that tends to deviate a single lady’s mind from the fact that she’s single. But sweetheart, that time will definitely come and you’ll ask yourself “how long will I continue like this?” Above all, God’s time is the best. To my fellow single ladies, look attractive,make yourself approachable and stay positive. Like Glory said “I didn’t have a covenant with God that I want to be a nun”.

There is this girl am so much in love with but she is 5years older than me.I will really love to settle down with her but looks like she ain’t bothered about the fact that it might take me 3-4 years I’m other to settle down.Am 28 and she is 33years.So should I continue the relationship or quit.tanx

1.I can imagine it’s hard to be single and unhappy and see people who are single and truly enjoying life, I figure that’s why some of the above comments sound negative 2. Girl your smile is the best and you’re looking prettier every day the hair looks great on you,plus the make up is the best!!!