Resisting change

Resistance to change is brought about by our inability to accept that the life we had, isn’t the life we have now. Any circumstances will always be part of the universal resistance, which means the more we resist, the more we draw those circumstances to us.

Some of us worry that because we have to deal with change, we will lose control, but it stands to reason that if we have control before the time we have to change, we’ll have control through change and beyond it.

For some, change may interfere with their independence, whilst for others change may mean the total opposite, when through new circumstances, they become free of the things that held them back.

We’re only human and creatures of habit. We like to follow the same routines and aren’t always good around change. Change isn’t a habit, because it’s not something that happens frequently enough and having to work through it can be uncomfortable.

Change is about opportunity, possibilities, personal, spiritual and physical growth. Change will always give us the opportunity to try our hand at something new. Change recreate us; it allows us to experience new opportunities, without which we will simply stagnate.

What are the problems with resisting change?

Well the biggest problem is, staying stuck in the past; not being mature enough to deal with change; never learning how to deal with new routines and with new people. We’re happy with what we know, we’re comfortable in our comfort zones.

The irony is that our circumstances will always change, whether we’re ready or not. What we need to do, is to introduce and use strategies to help us adapt to keep up with the possibility of change.

Unfortunately the only thing constant in life is change! I dealt with so much change as a child that it’s something I don’t really care for now. It’s nice to have things stay the same in some areas, such as being able to have a routine.

There are times where avoiding it can be a serious problem considering it can cause a person to be stuck in the past, like someone had mentioned! It would just be nice to be able to have some amount of control over the changes in my life which isn’t always possible.

I just have to learn how to deal with change now, where I can actually do something about it and don’t have to just take things the way that they are.

You’re right Randy, change is a constant in life. That’s guaranteed, but I believe we are responsible for the changes we want to see. No one has to take things the way they are if they’re not happy to live their lives that way.

Whether we’re in a relationship or not, if there’s something we’re not happy with, we’re entitled to either say something or do something about it. I agree that having too much change can be detrimental to our emotional well-being, particularly if we go through too much change as a child and we’re not prepared mentally for it.

I believe change is good, as long as it’s not something we have to endure all the time. A little change goes a long way to help us grow and mature into the people we become as adults.