The writer (who is a woman) takes a reflective approach to posting pieces with a gendered approach. This is because her own sense is that the underlying issues in our cultures are about human alienation/disconnection – playing out at personal and inter-personal fractals – and seeing this in gender terms sometimes goes with a tendency to demonize or pathologize on a gender basis, which is divisive and does not serve us. However, Deeyah does not demonize or pathologize anyone, and this article is well-written, informative and makes some thought-stimulating points. We all suffer from militarism and patriarchal ways of seeing/doing – however we self-identify in gender terms. We all have a part to play in bringing ‘a truly pluralist, tolerant and just world into being’.