Advice - liar?

Last year my partner kissed another girl (let's call her.. SS), who he's cheated on me with before (only ever kissed), but this time, we were sort of on rocky terms so I forgave him.. Well, today someone's shown me some comments between these particular girls (they've commented on a photo of the day he kissed SS) and SS kept making sexual jokes about being 'wet' and doing "activities" in the shower, and that someone did a lot of crying that day and it was hilarious because it wasn't her (obviously it was me who cried). So, now I'm starting to think they did a little more than kiss. My only real problem with the whole thing (apart from Satan's Spawn) is he may have lied this whole time. And he has a habit of doing something wrong, then telling me a year later so 'I can't be mad', because it's in the past (which I find unfair). I'm kind of scared to bring it up, because I know it'll start a fight.. But I really need to know the truth. It's making me sick thinking about it. How do I approach this? Thanks in advance.

Last year my partner kissed another girl (let's call her.. SS), who he's cheated on me with before (only ever kissed), but this time, we were sort of on rocky terms so I forgave him.. Well, today someone's shown me some comments between these particular girls (they've commented on a photo of the day he kissed SS) and SS kept making sexual jokes about being 'wet' and doing "activities" in the shower, and that someone did a lot of crying that day and it was hilarious because it wasn't her (obviously it was me who cried). So, now I'm starting to think they did a little more than kiss. My only real problem with the whole thing (apart from Satan's Spawn) is he may have lied this whole time. And he has a habit of doing something wrong, then telling me a year later so 'I can't be mad', because it's in the past (which I find unfair). I'm kind of scared to bring it up, because I know it'll start a fight.. But I really need to know the truth. It's making me sick thinking about it. How do I approach this? Thanks in advance.

Honestly, you will probably have a hard time trusting him after all of this. I know I would. It's never a good idea to bury your feelings because you fear his reaction, I mean, your feelings matter too.

Honestly, you will probably have a hard time trusting him after all of this. I know I would. It's never a good idea to bury your feelings because you fear his reaction, I mean, your feelings matter too.

Also, I have learned in my own experience that sometimes we never find out the truth. What we have to do is accept what we do know, and move on. It's hard to accept the unknown, but if you can move past it, you might have to move past him altogether.

Also, I have learned in my own experience that sometimes we never find out the truth. What we have to do is accept what we do know, and move on. It's hard to accept the unknown, but if you can move past it, you might have to move past him altogether.

He will play you for as long as you let him, satans spawn knows that and that's why she is laughing at you behind your back. He has cheated on you in the past, you forgave him, he did it again, you forgave him again...see the pattern? You are afraid to bring it up to him because you're scared it will start a fight? Hell no. He cheated on you, again, and lied about it. It doesn't matter if it happened at the dawn of the century. People don't forget. If anything he should be the one afraid of you. Get strong. Get angry. Put him in his place. And scare the b'jesus out of him. Clearly he needs it or this is just going to keep happening for as long as you allow it.

He will play you for as long as you let him, satans spawn knows that and that's why she is laughing at you behind your back. He has cheated on you in the past, you forgave him, he did it again, you forgave him again...see the pattern? You are afraid to bring it up to him because you're scared it will start a fight? Hell no. He cheated on you, again, and lied about it. It doesn't matter if it happened at the dawn of the century. People don't forget. If anything he should be the one afraid of you. Get strong. Get angry. Put him in his place. And scare the b'jesus out of him. Clearly he needs it or this is just going to keep happening for as long as you allow it.

Thanks so much. Just to be clear he hasn't spent any time with her since last year (that I know of) and these comments were between all the girls that were there, if I found out he'd seen her since then, I'd lose it. I really appreciate everyone's input. I'm so sick of lies, but I've never had the guts to leave him, because I still don't want to lose him. I sound like a sucker. But. I'll try and talk to him today.

Thanks so much. Just to be clear he hasn't spent any time with her since last year (that I know of) and these comments were between all the girls that were there, if I found out he'd seen her since then, I'd lose it. I really appreciate everyone's input. I'm so sick of lies, but I've never had the guts to leave him, because I still don't want to lose him. I sound like a sucker. But. I'll try and talk to him today.

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