Democratic Underground - Coping with Divorce or SeparationA safe place for DUers who have survived divorce or separation, or who are going through divorce or separation.http://www.democraticunderground.com
http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rssTue, 31 Mar 2015 14:41:12Tue, 31 Mar 2015 14:41:12My son just told me his wife asked for a divorce this morning.Merry Christmas, right? :(

He also told me she's four months pregnant with their second child. :(

I'm hoping it's hormones and holiday stress. They've been together for almost 12 years, been married since 2009. I live 2000 miles away and feel awful that I can't be more present for my son, and ...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235277
Thu, 25 Dec 2014 20:10:49I feel a sort of annoyed difference about the exand when I think of her, I just want to be not bothered with her stuff. I do miss her sister and my mother in law. But the ex, I don't want to engage at all. not even for coffee and conversation.
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Sat, 01 Nov 2014 14:50:42Taking the diveI posted in this group on DU2 (I guess that's what it was). I have been on hiatus in posting for about four years. The reasons are many, but I never stopped reading - which was a terrific lifeline.

My husband has been in and out of our relationship so many times he needs to install a revolving ...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235269
Sun, 05 Oct 2014 21:52:52getting a mortgage based on alimony payments.so, my settlement is looking like i cant do a lump sum settlement.
i am hoping to keep the property we have, tho there are mortgages on our home, and another property. that piece is heavily mortgaged.
i will need to refi that.

i have been a full time mom all these years. is there applicable ...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235260
Thu, 18 Sep 2014 11:34:46settlement finally in the works.he moved out april 15th, after 32 years and 4 kids together. mostly never "worked", tho i have made art and raised hell for most of those years.

we had a beautiful trip to hawaii in january, like a honeymoon. last year was very tough. launching the last kids. things just falling apart. we almost...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235256
Fri, 12 Sep 2014 10:54:39Beginning of November last year I started dating againafter not having any kind of relationship for 5 years and I have had 3. All are disasters. They all cheated rather openly, not really showing the kind of respect my ex-wife did by hiding the affairs as well as possible. I only knew about 1 before she became my wife and only came across by snooping t...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235246
Fri, 13 Jun 2014 05:09:56i'm done holding my marriage together with duct tape and chicken wirewe haven't been anything more than roommates for months and he's given up, so i see no reason in continuing.

at the wedding, his mother said i must have the patience of job. that patience is gone and i can't keep trying to cobble this together.

i fell in love the moment i saw him and i'm devas...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235232
Fri, 30 May 2014 02:08:12Knowing when to walk away.I've been married nearly 9 years, but together more than 15. There has been no spark for years. We almost divorced several years ago, but tried to work it out. That succeeded for a little while...but now we're back at square 1. I'm in counseling, he is not. We started talking about the D two weeks a...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235224
Tue, 22 Apr 2014 03:26:14I came here looking for some discussionBut no one has posted here in quite awhile....too bad....http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235220
Sun, 13 Apr 2014 15:37:43Love Letters/Wedding PicturesWhat are others doing with those memories? I flop back and forth...burn them...put them away for a long time? and my wedding bouquet?
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Fri, 25 Oct 2013 11:30:13Cool thing just happened!My cook books have been 'missing' since I left our house in '06, and house later sold, so have looked for 'my' James Beard curry sauce recipe on several occasions, as it was a favorite.

Leftover chicken available now, and weekend would be perfect to prepare the chicken w curry sauce daughter like...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235209
Wed, 25 Sep 2013 20:02:05I just got kicked out of a ten year relationship.Me and my SO have been threw hell together. We have always been a team to recon with.

Then we got to Tucson AZ. It was the place for us. But things changed...

The treatments the Doc was doing, he warned us about mood changes. But we had a devil in the mix that we did not know of, a guy we met...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235198
Tue, 30 Jul 2013 20:35:30View profile Love isnít text messages Ė its being held, valued and loved!sorry, im a bit out of sorts today...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235193
Thu, 17 Jan 2013 08:41:19One holiday down, two to goThe ex didn't take off for Kenya because he needs to give more information to the department processing his fiance visa, so he was here for Thanksgiving. Which was a good thing. I went from crying all weekend the week before to getting ready for the holiday, and trying to stay positive.

I went...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235179
Tue, 27 Nov 2012 08:59:57Damn this is confusingI got divorced last spring, but I had to keep it secret for a while. I was married to a fellow DUer who hopefully doesn't ever come to this part of DU... I was glad, mostly, to get the divorce. I thought I was only sad for my daughters' sakes, because they love their dad and I never wanted to make...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235168
Sat, 10 Nov 2012 11:53:11just when you think it's getting better.My ex and I went through a bitter divorce. Restraining order - he threatened to kill me. He was a drunk. He attacked my daughter and our son had to "take him down". Then we let up attacked his own so - 13 or 14 yo at the time - who took him down AGAIN. (And he was 100 lbs soaking wet. Kung fu helpe...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235160
Sat, 13 Oct 2012 13:48:17Did you relocate?I'm posting this because of the discussion here
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235146
and I think this topic could use its own thread.

I moved from Overland Park, Kansas, to Santa Fe, New Mexico at the time of my divorce four years ago. It was the best possible thing I could have done.
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Mon, 01 Oct 2012 15:50:15Going through divorceNot taking it well, horrible actually.

Anyone find benefit in getting professional therapy to help with it?

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Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:18:44Abusive husbandI wish I didn't have to ask for help, but I don't know where to turn.

I've been married for 27 years. My husband had drug and alcohol problems earlier, but slowed way down over the years. He seldom has anything to drink, but smokes a lot of medical marijuana, which is illegal here.

He was fo...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235131
Mon, 09 Jul 2012 13:46:53I'm going to get a divorce.32 years together, married 19. My Stanford MBA Husband is a narcissist. He does not feel shame about that. He does not feel the need to see a psychologist. When I exposed him for what he is he curled up with (similar) friends for about 16 months of vacations and hikes and came out saying that al...http://www.democraticunderground.com/1235102
Mon, 11 Jun 2012 00:16:28My son is divorced only three months and he's already engaged and I'm worried.He was besotten with his ex-wife. He dated her in high school; she broke it off with him; she got pregnant with another guy and had the baby; and my son reunited with her and married her. He was kicked out of their house for more than a year and he still believed she'd take him back. But she file...http://www.democraticunderground.com/123589
Tue, 03 Apr 2012 16:28:12Well, waddya know, MAY have been an accidentthat I haven't received 2d check in the mail! Postal Service?

He called me about other matters yesterday, and I mentioned: 'Did you ever send that check?' He seemed surprised when I said I hadn't received it, he said had mailed it 'weeks' ago, had been out of town last week so hadn't seen my 'Ad...http://www.democraticunderground.com/123584
Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:23:34In order to NOT be thought of as a good guy,he's failed to comply with Agreement, recognized and 'sealed' by the court, as well as 2 'promises' he made to me in January, SO have just had my attorney file a MOTION FOR CONTEMPT!

Feel OK 'cause he's paid me 50%, its in the bank and awaiting remainder so I can invest the whole bunch, and I cou...http://www.democraticunderground.com/123576
Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:42:35If anyone is married to a cheater ---there is a wonderful website that will help you get thru what you're feeling.... all of your feelings.
People there will hold your hand to get thru it.

:applause:...http://www.democraticunderground.com/123531
Wed, 21 Dec 2011 19:11:48We have an agreement, signed and sealed, first payment w/in 5-10 days,Remainder to be delivered in January 2012.

RANT; please pardon.

Please help me feel better about this.

After 2+ years of him futzing around, playing power games, in court today and with encouragement of judge, we 'memorialized' agreement we'd arrived at in ADR 13 months ago. I get NO 'credi...http://www.democraticunderground.com/12354
Tue, 06 Dec 2011 12:59:57I don't think this group will last, but it was a blessing to me when I needed it most. Here's hoping it will remain so that it can help someone else deal with grief. :shrug:...http://www.democraticunderground.com/12351
Fri, 20 May 2011 00:10:13