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Saturday, December 10, 2011

You never know where you'll find it

Hi all,

Just a short post to express a thought I had today when I took the boys to see a movie. (Side note: THANKS to those who sent the great movie gift cards!!) A while back, might have been last summer, Hunter was dead set on getting the book The Invention of Hugo Cabret and his Grandma was kind enough to run out and get him the book. He devoured the book in short order and commented on how much he enjoyed it. Now I have never read the book myself and typical of Hunter he didn't share the story line "well, it's really hard to explain".

Fast forward to today and I decide to take advantage of a weekend afternoon to grab some Subway and a movie, Hugo in 3D (my first 3D movie). I know the movie is based on Hunter's book but not knowing anything about the story and having only seen the previews, I am pretty much unprepared for the story line which revolves around Hugo, a boy initially living with his father after having his mother pass away.... shortly followed by his father being killed in a fire...

All of which brings us to the title of today's post, you never know where you'll find it. Looking for a nice quiet getaway we get smacked in the face with a story of a kid who after loosing his mother ends up loosing his father. I guess it played to several of my recent emotional triggers, the real and current loss of Katie and the fear that I too could not be around for my boys.

Now, as it turns out the story has a happy ending, the movie is wonderfully done and everyone enjoyed watching it. It just brings the point, you never know where you'll find it.

Must have really struggled with your emotions on this one Kevin, but maybe it was one of those serendipitous moments in life that will give you a starting point when the boys ask how they will cope without mum....that it is possible for them to have happy times through the sadness :) XXX

I agree with someone else's comment about serendipity. I'm sure it took you quite a few minutes to breathe again. You and the boys have each other - I'm sure they will remember the awesome Saturday afternoon with Dad.

Perhaps God led him to the book and also all of you to the movie. I am so glad it had a happy ending. You know Kevin, you talked about perhaps shutting this blog down after awhile but I am thinking it is good for you to send your thought and journal. And we love hearing about the boys and you. I would love it if you would keep it going. Hugs and prayers to all

Good Morning Kevin, That was a jaw dropper. A lot goes through the mind of a child. Hunter is looking for answers for his broken heart which lead him to this book and movie. No wonder he devoured the book and brought you all together to share the feelings and emotions you have all had for a while now. Healing from a loss so great as all of yours is a long process but perhaps the movie will open doors to talking more openly about what is going on in your heads...especially Hunter...and finding comfort in the understanding that comes from it. God bless all of you. I too hope you continue to share your experiences with the boys and with your life. Katie made us all a part of that when she started to post her journey with cancer and our loss (yes we feel the loss too) would be greater without your posts. Life does go on as the movie surely pointed out...but not without support and, as Hunter brought out by leading you to the movie, without sharing your feelings with others. Loving thoughts and prayers, Elaine of New Jersey

Count me in as one who wishes you would keep Katie's blog going so we will know how you and the boys are doing. We loved Katie and it is also a help to us to have a "link" to her family. Thanks for all you've done so far.

Thanks for posting and keeping Katie's blog going. We all miss her. You absolutely never know where you will find IT--I can vouch for that. My community family had an accidental loss of a 20 year old many years ago-from a fall. Amazing how often just that scenario shows up in books, tv, films, other conversations jokes. It just goes on and on. What does change is our tolerance for it when it does show up and our ability to take comfort that others have had similar experiences and forged ahead into a successful if not full recovery. HUGS to you all.

Yes, you never know. Mine was Driving Miss Daisy. The end scene was the mirror image of my Grandmother who had just passed. Mom and Dad had seen it and I was so upset that no one warned me so I could be prepared, or not go at all. It was hard not to feel a little sabotaged. I'm glad it was a happy ending. I'm anxious to see it.

Thanks Kevin for taking the time, it sounds as if Hunter wanted you all to be together to share the story, perhaps he finds it to hard to talk about Katie and this is a way of helping him with his grief.It is lovely that you keep us posted on how you are all doing, it helps the grief this end.With love to you allClaire xxxxx

Glad you were able to take the boys to a movie. And you really don't know where you'll find it; especially with the loss of someone so incredibly special and loved. Thank you so much for telling us what's going on with you and your family. I have you all in my daily prayers.

Kevin, you amaze me with your strength and yet it doesn't surprise me at all because you and Katie had such an open and loving relationship. Thank you for keeping the blog going, I realize it might be hard for you but as others have said, you might need it as much as we all do. And you are such a great writer.. it's nice to hear that you are all doing as well as you can be at this time. God Bless all of you.. I know Katie is smiling down on you all!

Kevin, you amaze me with your strength and yet it doesn't surprise me at all because you and Katie had such an open and loving relationship. Thank you for keeping the blog going, I realize it might be hard for you but as others have said, you might need it as much as we all do. And you are such a great writer.. it's nice to hear that you are all doing as well as you can be at this time. God Bless all of you.. I know Katie is smiling down on you all!

I had the same reaction when I took the kids to see UP.. I had no idea it was about a man losing his wife and his grief etc..I saw it as a disney cartoon, and I remember my shock..I cried thru it and it really made me think about my new grief and it too had a happy ending. I love that Hunter loves to read...That is something that will bring him years of comfort and enjoyment...

Hi Kevin, Just wanted to say we are ALL thinking of you (and the boys too). I greatly admire you for continuing to post on Katie's blog and as many others have said, I hope you will continue to do so!!

Yes, you never know where you'll find it.....two years ago, my brother lost his only son in a car accident at 19 yrs old. A couple of months later, he stopped by the cemetary and there, in the pouring rain, stood a man about 20 ft from my nephews grave, sobbing!! Turns out that he too had lost his only son at 20 yrs old to a car accident. That man and my brother have become friends being able to understand each others pain and loss.

I was so pleased to see an update in Katie's blog this morning - don't know how I missed it before. I think of her and you "boys" so often hoping that your feelings of peace are outweighing your pain knowing that Katie is at rest. <3

Kevin - I am thinking about you and the boys and wishing you a Merry Christmas. I know it won't be the same without Katie but she is smiling down sending you love. I'm sure my grandfather met her in heaven yesterday (he passed away in his sleep) and I know they are in the loving arms of God this evening. He's in great company with Katie. :-) Sending love and hugs!

Have been thinking about Katie a lot lately so thought I'd check her blog to reminisce. See I missed a few posts so caught up on those. This must all be SO difficult for you and the boys. Sure hope you can enjoy the holidays nonetheless as I'm sure the boys are looking forward to all the family traditions. Think of you often and only wish there was more we could do to help you through all this. Take care of yourself!

Just stopping by to wish you and the boys a Merry Christmas!!! Just know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers, and hoping you can all have precious memories to get you through. Hugs & Prayers! Don & Leah Ann Gast

I always find these things amazing yet not surprising. . .The powers that be always have messages for us almost everyday. Sometimes we listen and hear them sometimes we don't. This one seems it was heard loud and clear. Wishing you and your kids a Merry Christmas and the best the New Year has to offer you. I'll be thinking about you all on Christmas day as I will be thinking about Katie. Hugs, Curt

Kevin, If I had a son I would want him to be just like you. You are wise beyond your years and you must have pretty fantastic parents too. You have a wonderful way of looking at what is taking place and reaping the rewards from it. Wow! I gasped while reading the story line and was really pleased about the ending and awed at your take from it. I have been thinking of all of you and Katie too. Blessing and wishes for a Merry Christmas and a Happy Healthy New Year to you and your wonderful sons!! Big warm hugs!!

Hi Kevin, it's been a few weeks since I last visited the blog, but have been thinking about you and the boys a lot. I am praying for your Christmas to be one of peace and hope and much comfort. Jesus is the healer of all our hurts and I'm lifting you and the boys up for all that He has for you. Thank you for helping us let go of Katie's blog, though we will never let go of her.Many blessings, Merry Christmas,Kathy

Oh Kevin. I am sitting here just bawling my eyes out. Scrolling down and reading all the posts that Katie never got to finish....all the thoughts and actions you are going thru.....like Katie said "it makes my chest hurt". I have 3 children and would be so afraid to leave them as Katie was. She was so real. She was such "a mom" and you "a dad" with the "no, you can't have an iPod and don't ask me again...."....so my husband. I admire your strength, will & determination. You and your boys will be fine. Katie is watching over you. If ever you find a beautiful star in the night sky, make sure to tell them that's their mom....twinkling at them. Give them something visible to see, and maybe even talk to. For you too. Take Care. love to hugs from Canada.

Was just thinking about you Katie and realized that I never really believed you would die. As sick as you were and as clear as it was that your days were ending, it still came as such a shock. I look at your facebook page and browse through this blog hoping to learn one more thing about you. Even though we never met, I miss you. I hope Kevin and your boys are getting the love and support that I'm sure they need. Hugs.