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Sunday, 27 April 2014

I've had depression since I was about 14, also OCD
and anxiety since around the same time. I got into self help when I was
in my late teens/early 20s because I wanted to feel better. I go
through phases of feeling better than others and I do feel better now
than I did a few years ago. I still struggle though, with having good
days and bad days and I'm not at the point where I'd like to be. But
some days I feel happier than I did, so that's a positive.

I thought I'd share a few of the things that have helped me, my "healing tools". I hope that someone else will find them useful. :)

Music

I love music. I've been really into it since I was about 12. (Before then I did like it but I didn't listen as much). I think the first single I got was Belinda Carlisle's Love In The Key of C (cassette tape) and the first album I bought was Mariah Carey's Butterfly (tape). The first CD single I bought was Solid HarmoniE's I Wanna Love You. I like different types but my favourites are pop, R'n'B, rap and foreign language like Hindi, J-pop and K-pop. I enjoy listening to music and getting lost in it.

Lots of people recommend meditation as a spiritual tool and to help you relax but I've never been that keen on it. I do meditate occasionally (I recently followed the May Cause Miracles course and meditation was a big part of that) and sometimes I enjoy it more than others but I find it much more relaxing to listen to music.

Monday, 7 April 2014

I'd suggest starting with Celestine Chua's soulmate series. She wrote several posts about how she found her soulmate Ken Soh and has some tips for you to find your soulmate.She starts out writing about her journey in love so far, then moves onto how Ken came into her life (or rather back into her life!), the issues she had to work through before being in a relationship, how she realised Ken is the one for her, how Ken realised she is the one for him and then ends with a guide to love and how to know when you've found the one. I found her series very inspiring.:)

And an article on how it's ok to want and look for love. A lot of the time we're told that we should be complete by ourselves and while I think it's a good thing to be complete by yourself, it's also natural to want to connect with and find love with others. (The same can apply to wanting friends or love and connection with your family). We don't need to feel guilty about it. I found this article helpful: http://www.gaiamtv.com/blog/why-we-shouldn-t-feel-guilty-looking-love