“It’s so sad. I want to be his friend. We were friends after couples therapy and I thought that we were going to continue to be friends but when he asked, 'lets work it' out and I declined. He just turned on me and I couldn’t believe it.”

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She looks part horse. N dmx is troubled. U cant fix him he needs to help himself. Focus on u n ur kids. Its BEEEEEEEN over. Stop using his name n dysfunction to market yourself. That's not helping him or yall kids. I wouldn't fuck wit u either

Women when a man does not take car of himself he will not take care of you. X have various issues (emotional, mental) that only he has to fix. As women we try to fix their problems but we can't do that. Men do this as well. He's broken, only he can fix it. She has to move on. He doesn't want to be around her.

That woman had his back for so many years and during times that no one else would have ever given him the time of day. At the very least she deserves his respect. I can't imagine having that kind of loyalty to someone and then getting that huge slap in the face at the end of it all. But he does have some demons that have to be dealt with.

2:05 n 2:06 im 1:50 yes i agree wit u both. But Tashera CHOSE to stick around n i know that leaving him was probably harder thsn staying. But she allowed the disrespect. He is deeply troubled n the more she gave herself to him, the less of herself she had left for her n the children. When you make someone your everything youll have nothing wen they're gone. If i rub my lamp every day thats NOT gonna make a genie come out. Tashera should find a man who deserves her. But going to do shows n writy books about dmx is only adding to the problem. U cant be mad at him cuz u chose to stick around wen u knew what he was about. Thats wrong. N then have the nerve to wonder y he doesn't want to be bothered? Not just cuz she wont take him back....bcuz despite wat yall think she probably would

1:51 PM Embarrassed themselves with that irrelevant ass comment, was that something you been waiting all week to post at the top of a race bait post and you just anxious and itchy and posted that irrelevant sh*t at the first post that got you near the top because you couldn't wait, you been holding on to that statement long?

Self-hate? when did horses start blogging and having self-hate about themselves????How the f*ck is it self-hate (SELF) when talking about a horse? Looking like a horse isn't a normal attribute in the black race, blacks haven't been rejecting their own for years because of horse features, Jewish people seem to actually have horse faces, on an episode of Seinfeld Jerry's face was referred to as a horse face.That self-hate statement was so tired

I may not agree with her standing by him as long as she did however my heart went out to her on her new show when they showed her home where her kids reside and it was all broken down. No man should leave his kids like that specially if he was MARRIED to the woman, now a babymama is something different...blah to them.

Well we have already learned that he had issues behind his mother so I guess the fact that Tashera turned him down took him back to that place when his mother turned her back on him. Tashera has been there through thick and thin but when it got too thick with all of the out of wedlock children and Tashera had finally had enough, X associated the rejection from Tashera with the rejection that he received from his mother and just cut Tashera off. I hope that he realizes its not good to cut ties with the person that held him down the most and the longest.

Tashera is hurt n understandably bitter BUT she has to share some of the blame in the way their relationship turned out bcuz she stayed n put up wit the crap. She spent too much time trying to change things she had no control of (his actions) n not enough time changing the things she did have control over (her own actions). She is NOT over dmx. Wen Tina was over Ike how many times did u hear her discuss him publicly (besides her book)? Even after he died she had no comment. Mature adults move on quietly or privately. Bitter immature adults add fuel to the fire by addressing private issues with the entire world. This isnt about healing. She wants him to hurt like he hurt her. n its only gonna end up wit her hurting even more when she doesn't get the response she wants. If u take a friend to a domestic violence shelter would u announce it to the world n still call it "tryin to help" miss me with that. I understand she finally realized her loyalty to a fellow human was in vain but ur wallowing in the error of ur ways now n to me that makes her no better than dmx who clearly has his own issues.

2:34 n so does tashera. I wasn't saying she looks horse-ish cuz she is black. She looks horse-ish cuz of that horse grill. Plz ignore 1:51 trying to incite a race debate. Obviously he/she/it looks like a horse too otherwise it would not have equated the horse comparison to "self" hate.

He probably mad cause home is trying to get shine by being a featured panelist on the HLN's Headlines Tonight all the time like she's Shaunie O'neil or something. Last time I checked she was just the wife of a Rap Star not an actual "Star" herself. She's just needs to go away somewhere.

I believe you can find something attractive in everyone and what I find attractive about Tashera is her resilience and then finally her brilliance for deciding to leave! X doesn't deserve her back***************************************************************************** I agree- let me add this>>>A leopard can't/doesn't change its spots. A person with Bad Character will not change. Keep it Moving-It's His Loss!

2:40, Bitch you are dumb and you sound dumb. Then you tried to clean it up by posting that Chelsea and Jenny (two WHITE women, the irony?) look like horses, AFTER you got checked for insinuating that Tashera looks like one. I know you're Black and to call another Black woman a "horse" in relevant to self-hate. Stupid bitch.

3:06 ok. If that makes sense to you so be it... if u can equate horse features to SELF hate then ur only offended bcuz u look like a horse plain n simple n im not the same person who mentioned chelsea n jenny. If you comprehend wat i wrote u would see it was in response to that comment. Any way im entitled to my opinion whether u agree or not. wont be feeding into the race baiting today bcuz clearly ur not trying to make a valid point. Ur just looking to start an argument.....moving right along

This might not come out right but had she been a stronger wife insteada "having his back" (aka enabling him) maybe he would be more clean & sober today. People don't just turn their back on you for NO reason. I like DMX and would like to hear his side of this story b4 i paint her as the victim.

" to call another Black woman a "horse" in relevant to self-hate. Stupid bitch."

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Wtf does that even mean? No really. N to call someone hateful n YOURE calling them a bitch in the same sentence? U got it confused. Tashera looks like a horse. What part of that insinuated anything remotely related to black people?

I just wanna clear up some things. DMX never wanted to marry her. He only did it, because as his WIFE there's more things she could do for him when he's locked up, then just as his woman or kid's mom. She KNEW this. She was the one that suggested marriage not him.

I'm sorry, but I have no respect for this woman. I sometimes wonder if DMX was part of the Five Percenter (NYC jail shit) and Tashera was one of his "earths", because dude went and had several kids on her ass and she NEVER left him.

All of X's new bitches are PRETTY chicks. Even the stripper hoe that's the latest mother of his child. I always wonder about Tashera's background. Was her mother a heroin junkie? I ask this, because Tashera is too stupid for words.

What X did to her is typical of what a lot of dumb ass black men do to the woman who had their back for years and then gets fed up - they expect us to take them back - but when we don't they have the audacity to get upset like we fucked it up when it was their inability to straighten up and fly right - yeah that bish is ugly and she may even look like Mr Ed but I understand what she's going through and its just ridiculous how self-absorbed today's black man has become....

3:40 ok so u still didn't explain wat tashera looking like a horse has to.do wit self hate? See 3:31 explain the connection. N im not talking bout all black women just tashera. I guess u must be het then lol. Ok im a bitch....ooooh in all caps too? Im shaking in my keyboard lol foh

@3:53, Please follow along and pay attention, ok STUPID BITCH? You said that Tashera looks like a horse. Never once did you imply AT FIRST that you were ONLY referencing her MOUTH area. Therefore, when you post STUPIDLY-BOLD statements, you get caught up. The fact that YOU'RE BLACK and your poorly written comment stated that Tashera, A BLACK WOMAN, LOOKS LIKE A HORSE, clearly points to self-hate. Had you said initially, that only her mouth looks horse-like, we wouldn't be having this discussion, tramp.

4:07 is off her meds. The fact that ur the only one who made a general statement about a persons looks into a racial discussion makes you the stupid one. Nobody owes u a disclaimer bitch. Read. Comment. Move the fuck on. Its not shawty's fault u didn't understand wat she wrote.

At the end of the day she's a woman that obviously had insecurities (and its a lot of women that do) "HELLO LADIES" who are we to judge this woman on what she went through with that nigga or allowed. We should be applauding her for getting out "bottom line" what you think she look like dnt matter cause i'm sure that after dealing with THAT NIGGA everyone of ya'll would probably look a fool. She's able to shine now with selfesteem she didn't know she had. GO T... do you girl...(get over that DOPE HEAD JAILBIRD NIGGA)

4:17 well thats y she shouldnt put it on display for the world to judge her. SHE opened the door for that. So yeah she is going to be judged. U just judged her too even tho ur judgement was a good one. If you dont want to be judged keep ur business private

4:35 again if u dont put ur business in the street it makes it harder for strangers to pass judgment. Wat did she expect? Ur right tho. Youre 100% right. Im going thru stuff myself but i bet if i put my story up everyone on here would jump right on in n rip me to shreds hence y private matters should be kept private. U see my point? A therapist mightve been a better option

@4:40, I don't think people should judge just because information is public. If you did put your story up here, what would I gain from judging you? Just because your shit is public? Not trying to sound harsh, but I really wouldn't care because it would have nothing to do with me.

4:45 no offense taken bcux i was just using that as an example. But thats my point. What is she accomplishing by putting her business out to the world opening herself n her children n dmx up to judgement from the public. If he doesn't give a fuck y tell the rest of the world then NOT expect anyone to have an opinion. I get wat ur saying n ur right. But she is selling herself n any consumer has the right to form an opinion about the product whether good or bad.

4:49 stfu its a gossip blog. If she looks like mr ed she looks like mr ed. If u feel so strongly go to cnn.com or go do some volunteer work. Theres a time n place for shit n on this GOSSIP blog i dont see a problem with people gossiping. Trying to sound all deep. Wtf u doing here wit the rest of us then? Exactly. Sat cho ass down n gossip like everyone else or get lost sistah souljah.

Bee gee u feel me. I mean if this was a post about the state of the economy i could understand but y come here n try to make other people feel some type of way about gossiping on a gossip site? N furthermore y r u even here. That's wack

5:22 so what. Its just entertainment. If people think something about black people its not cuz of comments on a gossip site. Its not that serious. Again why are u still here then if its bothering u so much.

Tippie shiiiit its Friday. Ppl just tryna have fun n laugh but a few people got lost on their way to change.org n ended up here instead lol________________________I be coming in here early in the day and most seems calm and then I show up later and I'm like WHOA HORSEY(snickers) LOL not picking on anyone just amused at how passionate ppl can be not a bad thing but hella funny sometimes ; )

5:22 when we get a post about something that warrants deep thought n intelligence to keep up with the discussion THEN you might have a point. But ur on a gossip blog in a post about a reality tv star. What kind of conversation do u expect to take place? Seriously? I think u just wanted something to say to sound deep or about something but ur not making a real point. Again wat are u expecting? Or better yet direct us to your blog. You know the one that brings awareness to all the issues of the black community n what YOU'RE doing to change things so we can have an intelligent discussion.....oh you dont have a blog like that? Oh.

I dont think anyone on here is a dummy I find all the opinions and how they clash hilarious so again thanks for telling me I could laugh at you - but I'm good I'd rather be polite especially at my age! #ADigatSELF

Regardless of what Tashera looks like, she always was a LADY on couples therapy. I mean dealing with Earl and his 49 cases of drama? Many women would have been walked out and cussed him out. She has a strength MORE women need to show and her personality is shows that she seems patient, loving and a for real rider for someone she loves.

5:57 she does have a lovely personality but the fact that she wasted it on earl n his drama is nothing to be proud of. Its actually the reason she was so miserable n in the situation she is in now. I wouldn't exactly revere that as some sort of accomplishment

No i dont look like a horse, but i can relate to her. Ive been w/ a nigga 8 yrs married 2 (thru thick and thicker) just find out my friendship, loyalaty and undying love (vows) DONT MEAN SHIT.

I love him and cared for him while he had nothing. Now he treats me like im nothing. Its very taxin on my soul. My heart is like confetti and i feel like i weigh 1000lbs. The heartache and pain is unbearable. I wouldnt wish it on my very worse enemy If i told u i was there in his darkest hour, put my life on hold ( my ENTIRE 20s) and was literally his servant and FRIEND for him to get a job (after years) and not give me a DIME while he pays another womans bills has took the wind out of me. I hav literally cried everyday ( funeral tears, like hoodrat would say)cant ""feel" myself and life is surreal.

Its soooo much to my 8 yr relationship. I take the blame for.stayi. so long JUST CUZ I LOVED HIM. I aint mad he found some1 else and left our family, a fraction of the fact i was his FRIEND and LOYAL (yes, even when he was in jail 18 months) and he refuses to acknowledge and accept that for a piece of pussy. Thats what it boils down to. Not to mention his ass would still be in jail, w/o a job and never met her ( i dont fault her, i married him) if my 4,5000 didnt bail him out fa some real stupid, avoidable shit. After all that loyalty and love and u shit on me?? HARD PILL TO SWALLOW. HURTS LIKE HELL. I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER!!

Hold ya head taresha. Life goes on. Throw a root on that bitch ( like i did) so his dick dont work!! And dmx i <3 u but u r soooo off my fac rap list!!

@5:58 You must be cray thinking you getting a new post this one here has been up for hours! But I'm about to be out so Have a Good Weekend : )@5:59 Someone said it best up in the comments when they said he may have looked at her rejection like his mother rejected him -regardless X needs to grow and heal...

6:02 love hurts sometimes but u have to love yourself enough to know when to let it go bcuz its toxic. Yeah we are clowning in here but truth be told almost every woman has loved too hard or been hurt a time or two. But u are still here and its for a reason. You been wit a bad man so now u know what not to do n what u truly deserve. I pray that it gets better for u n that u find closure peace n happiness #hugs

@6:09 : thanks fa the hugs. I needed that. Takin one day # a time but i do have my overwhelmed w/ shock, hurt, and devastation. Plus ive been workin out as therapy and stayin as positive and prayerful during this TRAGEDY. I can appreciate u caring : )

Unfortunately, DMX has too many demons he is dealing with on a daily. I know Tashera may be hurt about their friendship going sour. It's obvious she cared for him from her heart and not like a woman only with a man for the things that he could do for her, but him being out of her life for awhile could benefit her, as well as, their children. I could only imagine being married to someone like X can be trying, difficult, and taxing.

This is one battle that is not hers, but the Lord's. She needs to let go and let God...

WoW thats rally F-D up of Dmx, thiswoman has been through it all and gave him multiple chances, I've never heard of her being disloyal to him. Tasheera your a great woman and mother and very down to earth, I love her personality because she seems very real out of all the fake reality shows I'll tune in to Starter wives just to see her story, I think she deserves a shot at success in reality tv! GOD Bless!!

oN THE REAL TIP, I RATHER BE CALLED A HORSE THAN THE N WORD WHICH CARRIES MORE STIGMA!! I thought we buried it, but site owners can allow it.The show is called "Starter Wives", I watched and wonder how is Reality taking over giving Bottom Bitche's Shows. I am in the wrong field...RWS has an delete button that she/he find offensive. I think she enjoys the show and the arguments, hits on sites means more advertising money.

I cant ever bring myself to talk ill about this woman's looks. Her strength makes her lovely to me. If you EVER dealt with a bipolar, emotionally ill loved one you would know what Im talking about.You cant sit pretty and worry about your looks, your main concern is staying alive and SANE for the sake of everyone! I find it amazing that this woman has never had him jailed, never physically harmed him, or went blabbing his business all over the media, she has never seemed to crack under pressure, she was truly a backbone.I miss her and Earl together

Wow so now she's dumb for holding down her family and her husband? Yet had she bailed on him, she would be just another evil, selfish, scheming, trifiling black bitch? I cant believe I let all the negative comments about black women get to me at times.When you just cant win for losing all you can do is just laugh.

Looks don't matter he was with her for years and he knew exactly what she looks like. I'm glad she has grown enough to let go of him. The thing with men that use women they think you will never wake up and move on. Ladies don't waste your time in these type of one sided relationships.

@149 -Finally some sense. Her looks have nothing to do with the issue at all. DMX is no oil painting himself. He is an absolute scum bag and ONLY a website with a load of hoodrat posters would concentrate on her features and looks and blame her for standing by him. But had she of left in the midst of his numerous issues would you idiots have co-signed that?? You see when it comes the genders, this is the state of play men are essentially spineless and selfish and women are expected to be selfless and patient. Had it of been the wife with the drug and mental breakdowns coupled with dipping out of the marriage when it suited, DMX would never have stood for it and would of left Loooooong ago. But because she took her vows seriously, she stayed and rightly or wrongly she wanted to fix him. Let her make her money and get her shine. She quite obviously deserves it.

6:46 get off ur soapbox. Nobody said he left her for her looks. But people have the right to an opinion. Nobody said she deserved any of the bs he did n nobody said it was her fault. But what IS her fault is that she chose to stay for soooooo long. N thats not bcuz she was strong its bcuz she wasnt strong enough (then atleast) to leave n realize she deserved better. She has a sweet personality n im glad she finally woke up. As long as ur alive its never too late. Hoooooowever just as dmx was wrong i dont think that after everything she put up with n still going thru, it might not be the best thing to carry out the healing process so publicly where u open yourself up to judgement n criticism. Especially considering there's kids involved. But to each is own. Nobody has to be a hoodrat to make a comment on her looks. Just like ur sitting back judging n assuming about anons exercising their first amendment right well us "hoodrats" have a right to comment on whatever we please.

Only people getting mad n taking it so personally are the ones who put up wit or still putting up wit a piece of crap man, n facially challenged people. Why get so butt hurt over someone elses opinion when ur posting yours just as well? Whoever took the horse comments to heart but calling someone else basic is......basic

@11:54 I don't think nobody would call a woman evil for putting her needs first.

i believe in these times a woman should go for self. Love your man and treat him good but take care of self first. You can't be a man's savior or his mother and he don't really want that either no matter what he says.

I knew a guy whose girl used to cook him full course meals and wrap them all neat in foil so he could go with it. He used to come by my crib to eat HER FOOD and try to get on with me...all while telling me how good his girl could cook. He even offered me some of her cooking! I used to feel bad for her. And no I never slept with her man, he was trying hard to get on but I had more sense.

7:30 AM Hilarious. You admonish someone for apparently being on a soapbox by getting on soapbox and ranting. Not particularly bright, dear.

Also you say that 'No one says DMX left her for her looks'. Well I didn't say that they did nor did I intimate it. My issue is that a majority of people ignoring the seemingly complex issues she faced being with a drug abuser and instead focusing on what she looks like. -By making derogatory comments. It's uncalled for and pathetic. So, yeah the hoodrat comment still applies.

Fortunately for this site, this place isn't only populated by uninformed idiots who can barely string a sentence together. We have some folk who make interesting comments and drop tea. Thanks goodness.

She left him also because the money ran out. At the height of DMX's career we heard no complaints. She probably was getting high too. I would have left after the first baby with another women. Stashed me some cash before it ran out and go. Real women handle their business without a public forum.

Tashera knows that she isn't a supermodel. I am sure she has heard it all her life. Poor thing.It MUST have gotten worse once DMX became famous. I'm sure it had to do with her putting up with DMX's bs all these years. She still behaved and acted like others have said a lady.One day her kids are going to look back and wont have to feel embarrassed that their mother acted like a filthy hoodrat.

Tashera looks GOOD! This is the best she's ever looked. I had to google her hairstyle and save it, because I'm looking to get a similar style. Whilst googling her i noticed that in a majority of her pics she looked stressed and worn out, particularly in the pics with X. She looks to be happy now and somewhat free. Her light from within wasn't shining as brightly as it is now, and I think X sees that and that's why he wants to "work it out". As much as I love X, I hate the way he treats Tashera. Tashera is a beautiful person both inside and out. She doesn't come across as malicious or deceitful. I fail to fathom why X treats her the way he does.

I was watching an interview today on Youtube today of him on 'The Breakfast Club'. And he was basically saying that while he was in jail she didn't hold ish down for him. In terms of the household. He said something like now that they're rich and got money, all of a sudden she don't know how to count. And she made the same thing happen 3 times. Bump that, how many outside kids do you have? How many times have you cheated on your then Wife at the time? How much does he have to do to Tashera before (Thank God she finally has) says enough is enough. X is a real one, one of the realist ones left, which makes the way he treats Tashera even more disappointing. As much as I loved him and Tashera as a couple, she's so much better off without him. Look at how radiant she looks as opposed to looking like she has the world and then some on her shoulders. Keep your head up Tashera, I wish you nothing but the best and hope you meet a good man that can love you and treat you the way you ought to be treated.

On that couple show on Cable,DmX was crying from his gut...and his wife just looked like she was embarrassed she didn't touch him.......the therapist put her hand on his shoulder to console the poor man....smh

I didn't watch couples therapy, so I'm not sure if this happened before or after X was crying from his gut. But if a man to spoke to me like this on TV for the world to see, I wouldn't comfort his ass either. Ijs!

I take back what I said in my comment @4:42pm. I just watched a few snippets from couples therapy. To see him crying because his mother never told him she loved him. The beatings she used to give him. Both the physical and mental abuse he suffered from his mama, it had me in tears. I empathize with X. I will say that if he didn't want to marry Tashera he shouldn't have done so. It appears that all his anger, rage and frustration towards her stems from the resentment of doing something his heart wasn't in. It's so sad.

He was upfront with her from the start about his womanizing ways. Therefore she knew what she was getting herself into. I guess she thought that she could change him, either that or she that he'd change of his own accord. Sad all around.

So what if people comment on her looks. So wat if people are hoodrats. Why does it bother YOU so much? Mad u look like a horse too? Or mad ur man left u after u held him down. Why do u expect bright political conversation about a fellow hoodrat reality star on a gossip blog. U uppity bitches couldn't hold ur own on cnn n foxnews so u come to a gossip blog to bash strangers for having an opinion so u can feel smarter? Gtfoh. She is ugly. Period. Does that take away from the issue she is having with her bd? No so y are you so bothered. Like i said change.org is waiting for u.

@6:11 and the point is? after u say she's ugly then what? obviously X didn't think so....... and somebody might find horse ppl cute! ever thinka that? every time i see somebody married to somebody with no limbs or a midget i think that's either Real love or a freak. and not everybody is a freak.

Papoose - Nacirema Dream in stores March 5th. I'm so happy! Looooooves me some Papoose, I'm definitely getting his album. I was so happy to hear him on the radio tonight, I can't believe he's in the UK! :)

read what she said.. he does not want to be friends with her because they are not getting back together. Get it??? people especially men do this when you no longer want to put up with them or their shit.. and you all need to stop calling her ugly its not about looks.. i bet some of you are ugly as all hell yourselves..

I don't know some people are so hard on her physical appearance. They should know she has no control over that, but she did have some control over who she married and bred with and how and why she stayed with him. That seems to be a lot to deal with and, of course, the public doesn't even know the half of it.

X been showing her who he is all along. All those years and she chose to stay instead of concentrating on herself.

Surely if she had any kind of insight, she would have figured out he had some deep seated childhood issues that he was self-medicating and masking with drug abuse. You can't help or save someone with those kind of demons. They got to seek help for themselves and sometimes that never happens, for the sake of your own sanity, you must be prepared to walk away.

She wasted so many years in an unproductive situation, it would be criminal to continue doing so.

Tashera has got to take her life back and move on, so she can salvage what is left of her own sanity. She needs to put her needs and her family needs FIRST. DMX should be a serious afterthought. Get your child support, let him see the kids, don't talk about him negativity about him to the children and get on with YOUR own life!