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Today I was talking with two different clients about the research done at the VA in Minneapolis in veterans experiencing PTSD - finding in brain scans that traumatic memory seems to "reside" in the right hemisphere of the brain, right above the ear. So happy to have located a story on this research, and want to pin it here :-)

Every so often patterns seem to emerge from the diverse clients I see. Here's what I'm noticing now:

1.
Couples in my area are coming to counseling at higher distress levels.
In our initial conversations, they easily say their problems go back
years, not months. This often translates into one or both of the couple
completely emotionally "finished," and only coming to counseling out of a
sense of obligation or the expectation that the divorce process in
their county will expect some kind of counseling to occur.

Very
often, men in these marriages are slow to agree to get counseling help.
They may view the marriage differently, or be reluctant to reach out for
support. When the wife begins to seriously talk about separation, the
husband wakes up and says he's ready and will often make the initial
phone calls to therapists.

2. Couples have less confidence in
counseling. Perhaps it comes from more choices for treatment (online,
email therapy, coaching, pres…