He Has Performance Anxiety-Ugh

There's nothing more awkward then when your guy can't get it up. You're both hot for each other, so…what gives? He could be suffering from performance anxiety. We asked sex therapist Tanja Diamond, author of Beyond Sex: Tantra for tips on how to increase his sexual confidence—and double your pleasure in the bedroom.

Understand Why He Has It

Understand Why He Has It

There are two major types of performance anxiety: One comes from having unrealistic beliefs and expectations about sex (thanks, Internet porn); the other comes from an overwhelming desire to please you which basically psyches him out.

Build Him Up
Outside the Bedroom

Build Him Up
Outside the Bedroom

You can't tackle his performance anxiety without first working on his overall confidence, so just focus on your relationship. Tell him how happy he makes you and how hot his butt looks in his jeans. Trust us, those little boosts will pay off bigtime in the bedroom.