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Wedding Warning: If You Ask All the Bridesmaids for Their Opinions THIS Will Happen

Ladies, it’s lovely when you turn to your bridesmaids for advice. But in some instances, it’s best not to solicit their opinions

Once you’ve already made up your mind about something, say, the bridesmaid dresses, don’t ask the bridesmaids what they think. Since your bridesmaids are your true friends (or at least they should be), they’re going to be honest with you. Even if you think you’ve chosen a cute, crowd-pleasing, re-wearable dress, when you open up the floor to criticism, you’re going to get it. Your cute can be another girl’s too cutesy. Your crowd-pleasing can be another girl’s boring. And your re-wearable can be another girl’s destined for the back of the closet, never to see the light of day after your wedding.

My advice? Ask your bridesmaids, or better yet, just your closest pals in the group, what they think once you’ve narrowed down the options to two or three dresses, but before you’ve made your final pick. That’s when their opinions will be helpful, not hurtful. If there’s disagreement among the group, you can go with the majority--bridesmaids usually (emphasis on usually) respect that method. Not surprisingly, bridesmaids want some control over what they have to spend their $150ish on and wear for one very long wedding day. So they’ll be thankful that you do care about what they think before you go ahead and pick what they’re wearing.

Have you ladies asked your bridesmaids what they thought after you already decided on something? Did you have a better experience than what’s described above? Or do you think it’s best if they keep their opinions to themselves from start to finish?