Southern Charm’s Cameran Eubanks Is Having A Baby Girl

Cameran announced tonight that she is having a baby girl. I believe it’s been around a week since she was driving over to visit her friend while speaking to her mother. She said she was going to see her friend who just had the baby with the birth defect.

We’ve had two seasons of her preparing for this joyous event by drinking to the beauty of birth control, watching youtubes about vaginal births, and proclaiming her complete lack of maternal feelings. Then I believe she began the whole “not trying, but no not trying” technique. He husband on the other hand has definitely been trying for years.

Cameran says their little bundle of joy will be “touching down” this fall. Despite saying that as if the kid will be flown in and land on the helipad at the hospital, she’s holding a sonogram in the photo. Let’s hope some maternal feelings arise in the interim.

I agree! I am in the “never wanted never having” camp and she always said things that really resonated with my feelings – I found it really refreshing to see a woman admitting that she likely wasn’t maternal, she had been honest in her relationship (which she had said, that she told Jason she was unsure about kids). She seemed legit not into it and it seemed like she went through my identical thought process in my early 30’s (am now turning 40, around 33 it went from – I don’t think I want kids to a total deal breaker for me). I really hope some of that was for the cameras because that shit doesn’t go away because you got pregnant.

I love my kid free lifestyle so much and yes, love my 2 kitties as if I gave birth to them. But with 2 full time kitties – I still spend money how I want, have sex with my husband whenever I feel like it, do bong hits all day long, plan to travel and buy a vacation home, and own a flexible business. My breeder friends, who all told me I’d change my mind when we were in our 20’s, are now going through it – elementary school age kids, dinners, activities, school shit – never ending. My kitties are all the maintenance I need to provide – it’s the best. And I totally love being an aunt and even a stepmom but there is not one teeny part of me that regrets not breeding. The world doesn’t need more of this cunt, trust! I truly hope Cameron is happy – I know many women who are moms and – 10 years after the cute baby stage – shit gets TOUGH – financially, physically, sexually, emotionally – no, thanks!! I love being selfish as fuck.

Ironically I loved and have quoted Cameron’s mom – anyone can breed but it takes real thought and self reflection to realize you don’t want to go along with society and you do want to remain child free. I didn’t think it was story, that seemed very real and genuine – which makes me worry for Cameron’s future.

You are not selfish. You are self-aware and that is fantastic. You are correct, that kid-raising shit does not go away. In fact, it gets tougher.
And, sometimes, people end up raising the grandkids as well.
I don’t understand Cameran.

Thx! I met my husband (who was divorced and has 2 children) at 36, he was 39 – about 2 months into our relationship he offered to have a vasectomy, which was the happiest day of my life. SO MANY PEOPLE – family, friends, doctors – on BOTH sides – told us we’d regret that. It shocked and angered me – I was North of 35 and he already had 2 kids! These were people who knew my feelings, knew I was on the no baby train and very happily so (I had already ended several relationships due to the guys wanting kids) – and still told me we should wait. Am happy to report it’s been 4 years since then, I’m turning 40 in August and we got married in November, and to say it’s the best choice we’ve made is an understatement. Now my friends will drunk admit they’re jealous of my lifestyle, and you know – when we’re high and fucking at 5:30pm every night – there is NO PART of me that wishes there was some kid involved somewhere! I spend way too much money on personal training and pot and don’t give a fuck. My husband has his kids, I see them for dinner, I get time to myself when he is with them – it’s the best.

For Cameron (and many others who do the same- MANY) – I truly wish the best, it’s a lonely, lonely world when you’re living in an unhappy marriage with unwanted kids. I really hope some of her talking points were story line but they seemed extraordinarily familiar to his very happy selfish child free cunt (who is now a tad older…).

you are my actual hero… I’m 28 and if I hear my parents tell me that I’m insane or that I’ll change my mind, I will scream. It’s also like the more that they tell me that I’ll change my mind, the less I want to even consider it. They want me to have kids for them. I am too incredibly selfish to have them. I love life with my fiance and my furbabies.

Stick to your guns. I wanted kids I love my kids but I never should have had kids. If I knew then what I know now never would have had them. All you do is worry about them no matter how old they get. It sucks. I am so jealous of your decision. I tell all my kids friends don’t have kids. None listen lol.

I am selfishly disappointed but only because I thought she was the rare woman to share my own feelings on the topic lol (not wanting kids and not really getting the whole appeal)

But it’s not surprising to me that a woman who had doubts and real concerns about motherhood went ahead with it. I think if the prospect of raising a human being doesn’t scare you just a little and make you feel just a tad unprepared, you’re probably not taking it seriously enough lol. The issue was, she was doubting whether she even wanted it, that’s different than doubting if you can do it, or will be good at it, etc.

But again, I am 36 now and a few of my good friends were in the same boat and only decided recently to take the plunge. It might’ve been her hubby who swayed her, she knew he really wanted it and maybe her opposition to it wavered just enough for her to feel she could.

Regardless, I am happy for them and I hope they have a wonderful, healthy child.

See my reply above shae! It’s nice to see and chat with like minded women. My experience went from – don’t think I want kids to – probably not to – fuck no. My husband has 2 kids and I love them, but I could not be happier with our lifestyle! The funny thing is people still suggest we will change our minds. It’s that crazy for some that I would not want my own baby – any time I don’t drink if I’m out, people still assume I’m preggers. I’m almost 40, it’s insulting at this point that people doubt my choices, babies are seriously not for everyone!!

100%. I get very annoyed when people say to me, “you’re a woman, you’ll change your mind”, why don’t they say that to ladies who want kids? They know their own minds but I don’t? I’m not 25 anymore, I’m 36, so I think I might have a better grasp on my wants than they do. So patronizing.

I’ve said that so many times too! No one questions a 23 year old having a baby but a 35 year old not having a baby? Completely different story. Luckily I live in a super liberal city and met women who made the same choices – or didn’t, but respect that we did, so I have my breeder college/high school friends but also really amazing like minded women that I met in my 20’s who totally get it. Not one of them has ever questioned my choice; many of them did the same. And you know – in our 40’s? We’ll be even happier. And wealthier!

I hope Cameran was playing up her doubts for the show. As for not having kids, I have to say when my daughter made that statement in her 20’s, I kept quiet, but hoped she’d change her mind. Now in her 30’s, I am openly supportive, for many of the reasons you all cite above.

Thankfully my mother is the last person to ever pressure anyone. She married and had her family very young and has always known my sister and I really don’t want kids. She also has no interest in being day care either, as she works two jobs, so there’s no pressure for grandkids from her. She just wants us to do whatever makes us happy in life, whatever that may look like. Can’t get a better mom than that 🙂

Wow – wish I’d seen this whole thread when it happened because this has become my story too. Although I wanted a child, could even sense what the childs sex would be, there was no way I was going to do it for the sake of having a baby. Especially without the right partner. I was so lucky to have worked with kids at one point and cherished every stinking lesson, both the hard and precious moments. I had zero false impressions about child rearing.

But when my women friends with kids urged me to just do it, (bad partner, who cares!), I was shocked. Like you, when entering my late 30’s early 40’s they STILL urged me to. It was like it was their clock that was ticking, not mine.

So cgal38, what is the flexible business you work that adds to your freedom? If you’re able to share …

I bet if a lot of people who are deciding about this expressed their true worries, the “cons” side of the ledger would sound pretty dramatic. But she really did talk about the “pros” as well. I remember being about 25 and looking at baby-raising books and freaking the hell out. Just sheer panic attack. But a couple years later that intense panic had dissipated, and I was genuinely ready.

Congratulations. As a woman who struggled with the decision as to have a child or not, I applaud her taking time to make the decision on her own terms. I’m a southerner and it is outrageous a woman would choose to not be a mother. The piles of pity thrown at me for my decision to be childless (and not marry) has been incomprehensible to people in my life. Thankfully I have found other southern women who have choosen a similar path as mine. So good for her taking the time to make her decision. I wish her and Jason all the best.

I have to say I’m not a fan of Her. I wish her the best of luck. However I see her as a shit stirrer to keep her place on the show. She has no story line and boring. Her biggest story line is struggling with motherhood. I’m sure my opinion offends my peeps but I’m entitled to my thoughts. She just rubs he the wrong way. I also cant stand how she always spoke with a mouth full of food last season. It was like she wanted to make people think she was eating. I wouldn’t miss her if she left the show.

You’re absolutely right. Plus, we aren’t the most healthy and low calorie consumers here in the south. If she’s there next season, her story line will be about juggling motherhood and how to get a passed out Shep out of bed

Right on Jack. She’s a totally starts shit with everyone. Loves to meddle and ask questions about everyone but for some reason she’s so boring no one even attempts to ask questions about hers. i have a feeling the only time she eats is on camera with a mouth full of food. Boring! She has caused a lot of the Craig dogging. Seriously, if he is happy being a being a woodworker hen so be it. Leave the guy alone. She just stirs shit up and walks away.

I never believed her ” I don’t want kids” act. I’ve has friends who really struggled with that decision and they were never as flippant as she was. I always thought that’s her story for that season (since she doesn’t have one) and next season she will have “found” her maternal gene and be pregnant. Then next season will be her dealing with being a”good” mother and all the struggles that go with it. I agree with Charlie-I never liked her. She’s the kind of girl that I don’t like and don’t trust–the kind of girl you never tell anything “private and personal” to because she will promise not to tell anyone and tell everyone. Watch her flip her story and insult all women who can’t or have chosen not to have kids next season. She’s as phony as they come.

Well if there is another dreadful season of this show, she just secured her place on it. She has to explain why she has “hated” the idea of being a mother the past 3 years & now she’s going to be a mother. I hope the baby is healthy & loved.

I live in NC –have been my whole life – and it is God awful hot and humid in the summer. But those folks in SC are accumulated to their mess. I know there is make up and styling on that show because there is no way those women’s hair aren’t frizzy.

I’m assuming the episodes airing now were filmed about 6 to 8 months ago? Seriously all this chick has done this season is stir up shit and complain about not wanting to be a mother. Yawn… hopefully her husband will spare us all the pain and not want her to return next season.

Most women with any substance (brains, soul, examination of purpose on this earth) question, and fear having children. It takes courage and commitment. It is also the largest expression of love between two people trying to go through this life together, and the best love (and sometimes heartbreak!) you will ever get in your life as a mother. That said, we live in a time where we do get the option. I am good with that, and more importantly, that women are free to choose their path.

Clearly, “smoking pot and fucking” was outweighed by a different desire in this instance.. If those are your ‘goals”, and are shallowly proud of them, then you are doing humanity a favor by not procreating.

I certainly meant no offense and apologize for anything I inadvertently implied that made it seem as though a path other than mine is anything less than fulfilling. I’d never accuse anyone of being shallow due to a fb comment and mine was said somewhat in kidding, you’ll see I reference a business, travel, stepkids, etc. We can all enjoy our choices – cheers to that, childfree or breeder!

Whatevs. Bitchy, but the bigger intended point, that I think @Caligal TOTALLY got, was that this decision is not one entered into lightly, we all have a path that serves us and others if we are examined and true at heart, and it’s a conversation where there is no ultimate WIN. We as women always give up something of ourselves whatever we choose. Dealing with what you gave up, and making peace with the decision is the point.

I chose not to have children. Doesn’t mean I hate kids (I get accused of this often). My husband and I have been married for 17 years, together for 20. I am 48. I had a starter marriage and divorced quickly. I then dated and found myself not really interested in men with children. I just didn’t want the drama. I was lucky to find a man who wasn’t interested in having children. We were questioned relentlessly during our early years-when y’all having babies? We did get pregnant once and had a miscarriage. We did struggle at times, with our decision. My husband and I own a small business and we enjoy our kid free lifestyle. There are perks, but there is a little sadness too.

I wish the best for Cameron and her husband. I feel she put a lot of thought into this decision. Her daughter is going to be very loved and well cared for. Too many times I’ve seen woman get pregnant jut to trap a man, get a husband, get health benefits (thru marriage). It really sad. We all have our own choice and reasons for why we do what we do, I guess. Congratulations to Cam!

Many years ago, we had dear friends who loudly proclaimed at every chance that they did not want kids. We all respected and supported their choice. After a few years, they announced that they were expecting! You could have knocked our circle of friends over with a feather! Only after the safe and healthy delivery of their daughter did they confide to everyone that they had struggled with infertility. To them, it was easier to say that they just did not want kids than to constantly be questioned by family and friends.
That couple is now the proud parents of two wonderful, grown children. After hearing of their struggle and heartache for almost ten years and $100,000, I NEVER ask a couple, “When are you having kids” or any of the other boneheaded things that people ask.

My god, that is so horribly sad. To be put under such pressure that you feel you cannot say you’re struggling, I’ve been there, but for other reasons. It’s easier and less painful to lie and say it’s something else.

I have so much empathy and sympathy for these people. I’m glad it finally worked out for them!

Really appreciate your post. I chose not to have children. I was an only child of an only child. But different husbands and careers have now gone away. Do I still like my choice? Yes, but not for everyone. So happy with my friends enjoying their children..now adults.

I never had a burning desire to be a wife or mother. I can’t think of any other society or culture that being a wife and/or mother isn’t the norm. Maybe it’s more of a “calling”. That being said, I can say with confidence that those of us who consciously made our choice had a different “calling”. Our experiences may be different but our fulfillment has come in other ways and our love and nurturing has been more important to share in the world in a different way.

Perhaps Reality TV Cameran didn’t want children but the real life Cameran did.

I wish her the best and hope she has a sincere desire to be a mother. As the child of someone who did not, even though that parent may love the kid, that underlying resentment toward loss of freedom communicates itself to the child.

That sounds more negative than I intend really, I wish Cam and hubband the best

Also childfree and over 40 here. Where are all of you?? I’m on an island where I live. People still ask, but now it’s with the assumption I already have them. I agree with Tamara, the commenter above. We made a choice that comes with a little sadness. I’m ok with that because I am mean as hell. No child deserves that.

I really don’t get women like kkbella that say such horrible things to women without children. Sure, cgal got a little carried away with her story there, and I really do hate the term “breeder”, but come on. To each his own, you know? Assuming someone lives without love because they are without children is wrong and cruel. It’s not a contest. IMO.

As to Cameron, I think that whole storyline was a bunch of bunk. She married a Charleston doctor. She was never not going to have kids. Also IMO.

I didn’t say you were going to live without love. All my aunties who gave me love, and I loved them had children. People need to back the fuck off. My point: no matter what choice you make, it’s a sacrifice. Be good with what you pick, but it takes work. My heartbroken friends that had to adopt, they suffer from guilt by not being the biological. I don’t fully understand, but I do. None of us is walking around waiting for validation. Procreation is biological. Understanding why you are here on earth is biological and spiritual. Purpose for living is kind of important. I see selflessness, with child or without as part of of purpose. Get a grip. Reactionary is so overdone.

Seems that way….. I never meant to offend and admit I got carried away with my love for being childfree but…….jeez – to quote Ramona – take a xanax! Funny though, in real life and sadly, a lot of friends who did become moms and were not that happy about it no longer speak to me. I don’t speak this way to them and have been nothing but supportive for years, and when I got married in November those women (who I’m connected to on social media) never even congratulated me. These were people that I was in their weddings, celebrated the births of their kids, etc. it hurt deeply so I may get carried away from time to time. I’m a cunt but very amazing to friends.

And for the record I agree that it’s a good thing I never breeded, but I did raise 2 amazing kitties. 🙂