confused and lost

i am about to have my first child with my girlfriend who (14 weeks) about a month ago became my ex. she broke up with me out of no where. she said she needed time to herself. i know pregnancy is tough on women but i dont understand why she pushes me away. i've made all the doctors visits exept the first one. unfortunatly when she concieved i was in the academy and not making much money so i could not help much in the beginning financially but i recently graduated and want to play a bigger role but she seems to continues to try and distance her self from me. does anyone have a clue of whats going on.

i am about to have my first child with my girlfriend who (14 weeks) about a month ago became my ex. she broke up with me out of no where. she said she needed time to herself. i know pregnancy is tough on women but i dont understand why she pushes me away. i've made all the doctors visits exept the first one. unfortunatly when she concieved i was in the academy and not making much money so i could not help much in the beginning financially but i recently graduated and want to play a bigger role but she seems to continues to try and distance her self from me. does anyone have a clue of whats going on.

Well she said she made herself fall in love with me and did not give herself enough time to get over the her last relationship. Stating she needs time to be by herself right now which she says she should have done before we got together. My only agument to her was that there is a child involved now and not just the two of us. I did recently speak with her and told her i would only concern myself with the baby and we wil figure out our situation later. Thanks for the advice. I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.

Well she said she made herself fall in love with me and did not give herself enough time to get over the her last relationship. Stating she needs time to be by herself right now which she says she should have done before we got together. My only agument to her was that there is a child involved now and not just the two of us. I did recently speak with her and told her i would only concern myself with the baby and we wil figure out our situation later. Thanks for the advice. I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.

It's a tough call saino. There could be any number of reasons she's keeping you at arm's length. If you don't mind my asking, how old are you and your ex? Was a pregnancy something either of you were considering at this time in your lives?

It could be -- at least partially -- that she's worried about how you'll be able to provide for the baby & yourself in this economy, especially considering that you're just graduating from school and the job market is a wreck right now. Whatever her reasoning is for breaking off the relationship with you odds are she's scared and unsure of how to deal with some of the changes that are happening to her body & hormones.

I'd suggest sitting her down for a serious talk about your intentions toward her & the baby. Remind her how you've been there to support her and plan to keep doing so. Try to get her to open up about why she broke up with you so you can find out if it's something the two of you can work through.

It's a tough call saino. There could be any number of reasons she's keeping you at arm's length. If you don't mind my asking, how old are you and your ex? Was a pregnancy something either of you were considering at this time in your lives?

It could be -- at least partially -- that she's worried about how you'll be able to provide for the baby & yourself in this economy, especially considering that you're just graduating from school and the job market is a wreck right now. Whatever her reasoning is for breaking off the relationship with you odds are she's scared and unsure of how to deal with some of the changes that are happening to her body & hormones.

I'd suggest sitting her down for a serious talk about your intentions toward her & the baby. Remind her how you've been there to support her and plan to keep doing so. Try to get her to open up about why she broke up with you so you can find out if it's something the two of you can work through.

I agree she is worried man and we need to know your age as well. She is also crazy with hormones right now, at least my wife was around that time, but just show her you love her and are putting her needs and the baby's needs first and that you will do anything to make her happy and she should come around. I hope everything works out cause it gets better and pretty awesome.

I agree she is worried man and we need to know your age as well. She is also crazy with hormones right now, at least my wife was around that time, but just show her you love her and are putting her needs and the baby's needs first and that you will do anything to make her happy and she should come around. I hope everything works out cause it gets better and pretty awesome.

i am 30 and she is 25 and has a lil girl already. recently i have attempted to speak to her aboutb it but we end up arguing becaus she i tired of talking about it. I believe my best solution is to make the well being of the childs development my priority and find out what we will do when the baby gets here. as far as the finance go i and making more money and it will only get better over the next few months. thanks for the suggestions and please ccontinue the feed back.

i am 30 and she is 25 and has a lil girl already. recently i have attempted to speak to her aboutb it but we end up arguing becaus she i tired of talking about it. I believe my best solution is to make the well being of the childs development my priority and find out what we will do when the baby gets here. as far as the finance go i and making more money and it will only get better over the next few months. thanks for the suggestions and please ccontinue the feed back.

Seems like there may be more going on here than meets the (your) eye. Even though she's younger she knows the ropes when it comes to being pregnant if she has another child already. Not that the raging hormones will have less of an effect the second time around than they did the first. Her being unwilling to even discuss why she broke up with you & saying she's tired of talking about it when as far as we know she hasn't told you anything about why she did it would certainly get my spidey sense tingling.

I think focusing on the well being of your child is the best course of action for now. You really have no control over how your ex behaves but you do have a stake in how the child you helped create with her is brought up.

Seems like there may be more going on here than meets the (your) eye. Even though she's younger she knows the ropes when it comes to being pregnant if she has another child already. Not that the raging hormones will have less of an effect the second time around than they did the first. Her being unwilling to even discuss why she broke up with you & saying she's tired of talking about it when as far as we know she hasn't told you anything about why she did it would certainly get my spidey sense tingling.

I think focusing on the well being of your child is the best course of action for now. You really have no control over how your ex behaves but you do have a stake in how the child you helped create with her is brought up.

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