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New here. I'm a BS (that makes me laugh to type, I'm sorry, just BS has a whole other meaning to me).

I'm not sure if I'm just starting another mood cycle or if it is because I've found SI but I am feeling a lot of anxiety and can feel it physically.

Any long-timers have any advice as to how to participate here and not get overwhelmed with all the horribleness? There are so many people I want to hug and for so many more I want to find the people hurting them and start smacking. I haven't even smacked my own WH.

I thought perhaps I should quit reading threads and focus on the healing library but I read so much in the threads that helps me work through the thoughts I'm having.

I'd like to not have to bust out the klonopin.

Perhaps this would be better in the JFO section but I wanted a broader opinion of how to "be" here. I thought maybe there would be one of those bullseye threads somewhere for this.

Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013

Brokenheart777♂ 38561Member # 38561

Posted: 5:23 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013

I found that my mood tends to dictate where I read in here. All though there are many threads that I don't read because the content stirs negative feelings in me. At times I'm strong and go back in to JFO to se if I can lend some helpful words to someone who is suffering.

I dont think you really need a way of "fitting in" around here. It's a place for healing and understanding.

ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back

Posts: 177 | Registered: Feb 2013

Rebreather♀ 30817Member # 30817

Posted: 5:29 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013

It helps to back out of threads that are too triggery. It is easy to subsume other's problems and pain.

I was a couple years out when I joined, but it took a long time before I could read JFO. I had to stay in R for a long time.

Like anything, finding some boundaries helps. Welcome!

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi