Pathetic 35 year old

I have been feeling extremely depressed the last couple of months. I am mid 30's now. Single and havent had a real date in a few years. My odds of finding a decent man and getting married are pretty much gone. I have a lame job. Its ridiculous, I bust my butt everyday, I went to college and yet, I never get ahead. All the a-holes and back stabbers around me do instead. Really? Is this fair? I have a studio apartment. Yep, I'm not even grown up enough to have a real place. No one I know ever comes here. Cant blame them. Place is ridiculously small and no where really to sit. If I actually go out, its a miracle. Most of the time, I am either sitting alone in my place, or going to places all alone. Yes I am that weird lady one sees at a restaurant or movie sitting alone in the back. Pathetic huh? But I have a cat, yep I will be that crazy cat lady soon everyone see's on the news.
I dont really have any friends. I just have my parents. Who are of course getting older and having more medical issues. And I think they have given up on me. Who could blame them really? All there friends kids (doctors, lawyers, married, with kids, etc). All they can tell people is that I work. Oh joy. No grandkids to spoil, no special talents or successes to brag about.
Why am I here? Seriously. Its ridiculous. And I cant see any light at the end of the tunnel. I just see me getting older and soon being the creapy old lady that you see talking to herself.

You are not alone. Don't go to a health club and wait for some sad sack to hit on u and don't get laid a few times u will only feel worse. Live your life at your shit (i am in your exact position) job and know there are millions like you. And sit back and wait for your so called friends to start divorcing ha.

I feel bad for you. We all have problems but might not see the way out. Sometimes it takes a stranger to show us the way.
Here are a few questions that you need to answer to yourself honestly.
1) Do you *want* a partner?
2) Do you *want* to get married?
3) Do you *want* children?
4) Do you *want* friends?

A lot of time we don't really want things but society tells us we have to move in that direction (marriage comes to mind) and we feel like failures in the eyes of the others.
If you do indeed want to meet someone, get married and have a child, you still have lots of time. Why not join a dating site? Go out on a few dates, have fun, visit new restaurants, catch a movie? Don't expect a love of your life, just try to have fun. You never know, there could be a lonely soul somewhere waiting for you.
If you don't care about having a partner and marriage but want kids, you can always do it by yourself.
You could try to adopt, get artificial inseminated, foster kids etc. But in order to do that you HAVE to get out of your shell, make a first move, force yourself to act.
Do you have any money? Maybe you can book yourself a trip somewhere with a tour. Those tour groups have all sorts of people, and you might make new friends while seeing new sites. Join a book club. Force yourself to go to the library once week and practice being social by saying "hi, nice day, isn't it?". Go to gym and try to make friends. Hang in there.

Me too. I am sure we would have become good friends if we were in the same town. I am going through what you are going through too, except that luckily I still have a few friends who are not married too. Mostly because the men in the world are too shallow to keep up with.

I am so tired of waiting for a man in my life that I came up with a new plan recently. It was to save as much money as possible even if that meant having to do double jobs. What I am going to do with the saved up money I don't know.

Hello. ya i am/was in your situation until i found a website that everyone that feels lonely should try. www.MeetUp.com. its a fun site that has groups in ur area for example, geek clubs, singles clubs, hiking clubs etc etc. if u are lonely please do visit this site, please. lonliness is a bitch and we all deserve to meet good people.

I am 33 and attractive. I have the same problem as you. I use to be shy. Now that I am older I have gotten more outgoing. It hasn't helped at all. I am a very low key person. I am not exciting enough. The longest I can keep a guy interested for is 3 weeks then they get bored. sometimes you can't help who you are. A lot of people our age are lonely. I think all the people who are in relationships now who are happy are just gonna end up divorced soon anyways, so maybe they might have had it easy in the beginning but eventually everyone experiences suffering and disappointment. I think that my problem with meeting men is that they just think life is all about fun and self gratification but when it comes to anything serious they can't even comprehend it. Most people are emotionally immature. I told my friend the other day pretty much the only equal thing out there is the fact that we are all going to get old fast. So it doesn't matter how hot some chicks ass is or some dude is that shit is not forever for anyone. how many hot people do you even know in their 50's and 60's. Even if they look okay in clothes they probably will look terrible naked by society's standards of beauty. look at what happened to demi moore her younger man left her eventually cuz she is old. I'm sure no matter how hot they were at 20 or 30 that shit fades.

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