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Help with my daughter and how to get her home with out the drama

my daughter is 4 she has lived with her grandmother for 3 years of her life i tried to pick her up 2 years ago an her father threaten to hit me if i took her i was scared now he calls my phone and tells me he is tired of taking care of her and shes not his his mother wont let me come get her she lives with her i am ready for her to come home what should i do i live in ohio i never gave up my right his mother always ask me to but i always wanted my little girl to be with me i just have always been scared and what would they say since she has lived with them for so long an there is a possibility that she is not his he and his family said they didn't want a test she doesn't live with him but i want he to come home if he us not treatin her good she needs to be home please help

Call the police - tell them you have custody and they won't let you get her. Explain the situation. Do not let fear get in the way here. Toughen up and fight. You have already missed out on enough of her life. It seems odd you didn't fight this sooner. Why did you even let her go for a full year before all of this happened? These are somethings that they might want to know......something doesn't seem right.

Just be prepared that if you ask the police for help they'll likely want to see the court paperwork that says you're allowed to have her. I would suggest contacting a lawyer or the police for assistance.

Do you have a very close relationship with her? How often have you seen her in the last 3 years? If her grandmother has been raising her, then she likely considers HER to be Mama, and there needs to be a long transition plan. Why does she live with her grandma in the first place? I understand that you want her home, but why have you allowed her to be away from home for 3/4 of her life?