What Confidence Looks Like in a Man by Bobby Rio

Today I want to talk to you about one of the most attractive traits you can display to a girl…

Certainty

What is certainty?

Its a firm conviction that something is true.

And what a girl really wants from you is certainty. That you’re her best possible choice. That where she is at is the best possible place to be. That sleeping with you is the best possible decision she can make.

Because SHE doesn’t know.

She can’t make up her mind.

And she doesn’t want the burden of making the decision.

Make Up My Mind for Me Syndrome

All women have something called “Make Up My Mind for Me Syndrome.”

And it exists in ALL phases of the relationship. From the very first moment you approach her, to the very first time she takes her clothes off for you, to the moment she’s blurting out “I love you…”

She wants to be led. She wants to be told what to do. She wants to feel like she had no control over the outcome.

Because this gives her an out if things go wrong. It resolves her of the blame and responsibility. This way in her mind she can say “I had no choice” or “It wasn’t my decision.”

More than anything, girls DO NOT want to be wrong.

This is why girls hate needy behavior. Because if you’re acting like you’re not sure if she should like you… she starts second guessing herself. Same thing on the approach. Same thing when you ask her out on a date. Same thing when you’re trying to sleep with her.

Never put her in a spot where she has to be the one to say “yes” or “no” to moving things forward.

There is no doubt she wants to kiss him. There is no doubt she wants to be his girlfriend.

Compare THAT attitude to the typical attitude of the “Needy Nice Guy.”

The needy nice guy is never certain. He constantly needs reassurance that she likes him. That he’s not making mistakes.

And this neediness causes him to get CLINGY. Because he’s not certain if she likes him, he feels the need to text her all time for reassurance. Or he constantly wants to hang out with her just for the reassurance.

Girls pick up on this self doubt. And its extremely unattractive and actually creates a self fulfilling prophecy.

Make a conscious effort to replace insecurity with certainty.

Girls want a man who is CERTAIN of his value.

Girls want a leader. Someone who takes charge.

For example; Instead of asking a girl if you can have her number, tell her to give it you. Hand her your phone and tell her to type it in. She’ll do it.

When you ask a girl out, never say “What do you feel like doing?” or “Where do you want to eat?” Instead say, “I’ll pick you up at eight and we’re going to head to the track. We’ll grab a bite there.”

Be CERTAIN that the track is the best possible place she can be.

BANISH the doubt and insecurity from your mind. All those thoughts of “does she like me.” “Is the track a good place to take her?” “Should I try to kiss her later?”

We guard your privacy very seriously, please review our privacy policy. Any use of this website constitutes acceptance of our Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy. You must be 18 or older to use this website. Results can vary, this information is not a substitute for specific or personal help from a licensed or certified professional. All Rights Reserved. Some of the details in the stories shared have been changed to protect the privacy of Bobby Rio and his clients. Likewise, the stories shared may also be amalgamations of multiple teaching experiences.