7 Things The Right Relationship Teaches You

When you find yourself alongside a teammate who you can laugh with, cry with, go on adventures with, or just sit on the couch and watch trashy TV shows with, there are a lot of things you learn during your time together.

Everyone has their own “ultimate relationship” and their vision of what it would look like, but in the long run, the right relationship with the right person will provide us with unique perspectives along our journey.

Who you’re with becomes more important than where you are.

While it is vital to continue “dating” our partner even after we are committed to them, whether it be going out to dinner or planning a weekend away, the things that we do and places we go, become a little less important.

They become less important and give way to realizing that who we are with, is more important than where we are. When we are with the right person, it would be more tempting to live in a cottage with them, than in a mansion without them. (Well, maybe…but you know what I mean). Every area of your life will be enhanced by their presence, and you will always want them around to share your experiences with. Big or small.

You can put someone else first and still be happy.

When we are single, it may be difficult to imagine a life where we, at times, put someone else’s happiness ahead of our own. Of course, some people are like this naturally and it’s not as difficult as it can be for others. The difference is that when you do find the right person, your perspective on this topic changes.

You want to do things for them that make them happy. You want to listen to how their day went. You want to take part in what they enjoy even if you’re not that interested yourself.

You will realize the best kind of happiness is when you are happy because you’ve made someone else happy.

You are sexy.

There is a certain confidence that comes along with the attraction in a great relationship. You communicate, learn about, and explore each other in ways that “casual” partners just, don’t. Their interest in your entire being and the way they love your body exactly how it is will be a huge confidence boost and give you the comfort you need to feel as sexy as they know you are.

You will realize that when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.

It is okay to open up to someone.

The wrong relationships show us that not everyone deserves our love. Some people will take you for granted. Some people will lie to you. Some people will cheat on you. Some people will make you lose your faith in relationships.

But these are simply the wrong people showing you what you don’t want in a partner. The right person will communicate openly and honestly with you, and assure you in multiple ways that you are safe in doing so with them, also. They will show you what love and respect is supposed to look like.

Nobody is perfect, not even you (and that’s okay).

The right relationship isn’t just about things being great all the time. They won’t be. You are two different people from different upbringings with different perspectives on the world. It is only natural to find yourself in disagreement at times. It is only natural to find yourself in the wrong at times. The good news is – the right person will never discourage you or make you feel bad about it.

Nobody will ever be perfect, but that’s how we learn. The right person will help teach you new things in and about life, as you do for them as well. You will grow together as individuals, and as a couple – strengthening your bond as you go along.

You can still live your own life.

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve spoken to who have wanted to continue learning, growing, exploring, and improving – as they did when they were single, but their partner would discourage it. This could be for a million different reasons, though I find frequently it may be due to personal insecurities being projected onto you, but that is a whole other article.

The right relationship will show you that while you both become a “we,” there are still two thriving individuals present in the arrangement. You will have your own life, and they will have theirs.

The right partner will support and encourage your journey to become who you want to be – but still love and accept the person you are today.

Actions really do speak louder than words.

I know, you knew this one already. We all do. We’ve heard the phrase since we were children. But when we go through multiple relationshits (yes I spelled it that way intentionally) where we feel unappreciated and promises don’t match up with actions, we can become jaded and start to trust others less.

The right relationship will show you that there is someone who loves you enough to not just talk, but to act. To actually do what they say, and even do things without talking about it. It will teach you to stop respecting people for making promises, and start respecting people for keeping them.