Kathy Tauber: Thinking ahead to the holidays

Kathy Tauber is a local foodie, nutritionist and blogger who writes about the lighter side of life as a boomer.

The holidays are coming, and it’s that wonderful time of the year…so the song says. I guess so. Television reruns give way to anticipated new season premiers, kids are in school so navigating through the grocery store in the middle of the day is no longer a NASCAR race to avoid the double wide shopping carts that look like oversized cars, and retailers are letting us know the holidays are coming with their clever integration of strategically placed décor although it’s hard to miss a giant glittered snowman or the strobe lit trio of wise men. Analysts warn it will be a “down” season. The Grinch already stole Christmas and it’s only September and discussions of how the time will be spent occupies dinner conversation. For some boomers it’s become a season of change. Often I hear, “Well the holidays aren’t the same.”

Why?

Our lifestyles are different. First, we’re empty nesters so making the house look like Babes in Toyland seems unnecessary. And shopping is less stressful: gift cards including gas and car washes are readily available and generally greatly appreciated. One size fits all is a bonus. But more important, most boomers don’t cook. Cooking is a challenge with the lactose, gluten, salt, sugar, vegan issues, and the Paleo, Low-Fat, and JJ Virgin 7 Food diet prevailing–it makes any hostess a culinary schizophrenic. Restaurateurs report Easter and Mother’s Day are the biggest holidays but Thanksgiving and Christmas aren’t far behind. Grocery stores have holiday hot lines and entire meals only require a phone call or app. No one is embarrassed to contribute food they didn’t make and can pick up on their way. Convenience is key. Gatherings are casual and football games on huge screens are the centerpiece. Everyone is glad to be home by 8. Families are scattered and children, married and now with in-laws, have to divide the season giving momentum to create a new approach.

Today the holidays find the boomers on planes or driving long distances. Who wants to miss the squeal of a little one–at 4 a.m. ready to open gifts? Or watch the older kids–no longer impressed with logo-themed boxers or fuzzy sweaters -–dive into the latest “I”-something? And there comes a time when we need to let our children establish their own rituals without us. So we make plans for the cruise we’ve always wanted, the resort with great rates, or we simply stay home and enjoy-the silent night.

Sometimes it’s hard to imagine giving up or changing traditions, but it happens. Sociologists say boomers have been the change makers. How true. This year my family is indecisive. I guess I’ll go with the flow and wherever I am, keep the light on so Santa can find me. It will be a great time no matter what happens. How about you–has your lifestyle changed your holiday customs?