What defines sameness?

06-30-2008, 08:34 AM

Chapter 2, page 24:

"Peer-oriented children live in a universe of severely limited and superficial attachments. The quest for sameness being the least vulnerable way of attaching, it is the one usually chosen by kids impelled to seek contact with their peers."

i always felt like the odd one out as a kid and desperately tried to do things that would help me feel connected to others b/c i felt connected to no one, esp. family.

but, i have to say, we adults are extremely guilty of "sameness" as well: cars, homes, politics, parenting, etc. everywhere you go, someone is trying to connect w/you, be it through ads or gimmicks, or promotions. it is probably a large part of why many of us are here, we want to know that we are not alone in our parenting choices.