As someone who likes to think I would never advocate physical violence what you describe sounds very uncool. But it's cool that you didn't get your ears pierced given how uncomfortable it made you. Do you have any other piercings?

As someone who likes to think I would never advocate physical violence what you describe sounds very uncool. But it's cool that you didn't get your ears pierced given how uncomfortable it made you. Do you have any other piercings?

Why are you asking this question? Was this a v long time ago?

13 years ago, no piercings at all.
And no further contact with my mom at all since I was 18

Good for you standing up for yourself. But it sounds like you and your mom have other issues. Sometimes it really is healthiest to cut off family members who are toxic to us. Good for you having the strength to make such a tough decision. I hope you have support and can find the healing you need. Best of luck.