The Art of Facing Your Fears

Everyone Wants a Fear-Free Life!

Fear is the running thread of the lives of most people. Without realizing, most people are only operating from fear or greed in every big and small decision of their lives. Be it the fear of losing their job, their wealth, their reputation, their girlfriend, or the fear of public speaking, most decisions taken by people are taken from fear. Unfortunately, people go on taking decisions based on fear because they do not know how to go beyond fear. No one wants to have fear, but they don’t know how to let go of the fears they are already having.

The “Yes” and “No” Loop

In an effort to let go of the fear, there is a continuous struggle inside. The struggle is the conflict between saying a “Yes” and a “No” to the fear. For example, the fear of losing wealth. When someone faces that fear, they don’t need to start believing that they will lose all their wealth one day, but that is what they do. In an attempt to face the fear, people argue with themselves. They tell themselves, “Alright, now I lost my wealth, now what can be done? Let me face what happens when I lose my wealth.” Then, one part of them feels convinced that they really will lose their wealth, and immediately, they argue back, saying, “No, no! How can I live like this? What is this? Why am I thinking all this?” So now, they are caught between whether they are going to accept that they are going to lose the wealth one day, or to just suppress the fear and tell themselves, “No, I am not going to lose! I am not going to lose! I am not going to lose!” Even when they say that they are not going to lose the wealth, their own hearts do not completely believe it. They are caught in an endless loop of “Yes” and “No”!

Find the Root of the Fear

In actuality, every fear has a root, a beginning. No one is born with their fears. They pick it up during the course of their lives. To go beyond any fear, the root of the fear needs to be found. The fear does not have to be denied or accepted, but rather, its root needs to be dug out. Once the person becomes aware of the root of the fear, he needs to complete with that root incident.

For example, for someone having a fear of public speaking, they need to trace back when was the first time they experienced the fear, or when was the first time they had an unpleasant experience with public speaking. In reality, the fear of public speaking is nothing but the fear of talking to one’s own self. So, when the root incident of when the fear started is found, the person needs to complete with that incident, and with his own self. This will heal and remove the fear from him. No arguments about the fear will arise, because the fear itself will lose its power over the person.

Integrity, the Key

Sometimes, people keep struggling with their fears without being able to find the root of the fears. To be able to go to the root of a fear, integrity in thinking is a must. When someone thinks with integrity, they are able to catch the thoughts that cross their mind, and hence, catch the original incidents of when a fear started. Integrity brings awareness in the entire thinking process. Otherwise, the mind is just a football being tossed around from one thought to the other.

With integrity in thinking, the root of every fear can be found. Once completed, the person not only becomes free of the fear, he can also help others overcome their fears!