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It says "rsvp to ..." for a reason! Update!

My sister and best friend are throwing me a baby shower. It was SUPPOSED to be a suprise...but apparently people in the south are total dumbasses. The invitation said it was a SURPRISE baby shower and to RSVP to my sister or my best friend by a certain date. Well my cousin told me she's coming to my shower. I said what shower? She said your baby shower, I lost the invite so I don't know the phone number. Oh. Well I didn't know I was even having a shower.

So the secret got out and I know. No big deal I am so excited and thankful, I'm just a little bummed I didn't get a suprise lol that would of been fun. Now, the day before the shower, I've had 6 people message me all within an hour saying "hey I'll be there tomorrow, forgot to RSVP". They KNOW the people throwing the shower, they have them on FB and most have their phone #'s. Why is telling the hostess of a party so difficult? I RSVP the second I get an invite and mark it on my calender, IF I can go.

Grrr.

So do you guys RSVP or not?

Holy Crap, this made front page! Wooooo! lol

Update: Shower was yesterday. We had an amazing turnout, and the shower was perfect. My hostesses busted butt and made it the best thing in the world. As far as RSVP's the cousin that first ruined the surprise didn't even show up, two people who didn't RSVP came and they bought guests who weren't invited (two people I've never seen in my life). Only one person who did RSVP didn't come but I totally understand her reason. The shower was just fantastic and we had a lot of fun and got a lot of awesome things for our lil man.

That's a bummer that you didn't get your surprise shower! I normally RSVP... but sometimes I admit if I'm not going to an event I don't. Congratulations! And I hope you have a lovely time at your shower!

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Sep. 6, 2013 at 1:57 PM

Yes I am thankful many people are coming, but really shocked they all just decided to ruin it. It's all good though.

I have had that same issue with birthday parties.

Quoting Sarah321:

wow that is nuts...people are idiots in general with rsvp's...every year for my kids birthday parties, parents either don't say their kid is coming and bring them anyway, or wait till the day before the party to say they are coming, or rsvp and then don't show up. So frustrating when you have to plan things like goodie bags and tell the venue how many ppl are coming. To ruin a surprise like that is crazy though, and to have so many people do it....I bet they feel dumb for doing that. well at least it sounds like you have a lot of people coming, have fun at your shower!

If we can't attend the party we do not RSVP, since most people around here only RSVP if they are coming (or just show up anyway)

Quoting Anonymous:

That's a bummer that you didn't get your surprise shower! I normally RSVP... but sometimes I admit if I'm not going to an event I don't. Congratulations! And I hope you have a lovely time at your shower!

even if we don't attend, I RSVP and let them know we won't be there. I had to call about 20 people before my own wedding because they didn't RSVP

As for the thank you notes somebody mentioned, if we open gifts at a birthday in front of the person and thank them in person, we don't send a note. But if we open after (or have a baby/bridal shower) then we will mail a note.

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you!

If we can't attend the party we do not RSVP, since most people around here only RSVP if they are coming (or just show up anyway)

Quoting Anonymous:

That's a bummer that you didn't get your surprise shower! I normally RSVP... but sometimes I admit if I'm not going to an event I don't. Congratulations! And I hope you have a lovely time at your shower!

The night before my wedding shower, I lost all hot water in my apt. My best friend was at my apt that night and knew about the party the next day, but didn't tell me, so I showed up to a house full of nicely dressed people, while I looked like someone who didn't take a shower. Plus (and this is a big plus), the party was held at my sisters house where, every Sunday, I would take my laundry to her house and wash it while I hung out with her (my apt didn't have a washer/dryer). Sooooooo, Sunday was the day that I would wear my old cloths because all my favs were dirty. So there I showed up, looking like I was going to the laundromat. I thought to myself...don't people plan surprise parties so that the honoree thinks she is going out so that she at least makes herself look decent? Do they really want her to show up looking like she's ready to clean out the garage?

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