Hello, I've just registered today after browsing and lurking for a few weeks.

I've been feeling very lonely for not having very much in common with the people I spend most of my time with, feeling like a walking contradiction...

I was wondering where I could find girlfriends, who would agree that motherhood comes first (but won't judge me for not spending all day with my children), and who think for themselves (without thinking other people are wrong for thinking differently).

I picked up an old copy of Mothering and was reading The Ecstacy of Birth and thought, "How smart, how proud, how open. I need to spend more time with people who think like this." And then, "Does Mothering have a Web site? Do they maybe have a forum?" And they do! And here you all are. You're not exactly like me, but none of you are exactly like any other, either.

I have had to FT WOH for three years now, so I am a cubical dweller for a major technology company and spend my days under flourescent lights, with a lot of childless-by-choice, diet-Coke-drinking, MBA-holding, mall-shopping, luxury-SUV-driving, antihistamine-popping, spritually bereft, very nice people with whom I have (sigh) nothing in common. :

I'm 30 and my husband Bill is 35 and our son, Nikolai, is 8 and our daughter, Winter is 5. Both were HB and EBF. We use natropathic and chiropractic (we tincture our own herbal medicines). We garden organic, and eat partially organic and mostly natural.

Total misfit, full-time worker here too. You know you work in "mainstream" land when people say things like, "Once babies get teeth, it's time to wean." and "Can you believe that babies can make themselves throw up to manipulate you?" :

I have had to FT WOH for three years now, so I am a cubical dweller for a major technology company and spend my days under flourescent lights, with a lot of childless-by-choice, diet-Coke-drinking, MBA-holding, mall-shopping, luxury-SUV-driving, antihistamine-popping, spritually bereft, very nice people with whom I have (sigh) nothing in common. :