Hmm, I didn't know there was a contingency of guys who don't like being looked up at while getting blown. I always assumed the vast majority of them liked it. I think it looks somewhat weird (like when I see video of it), but I go with it, since I know my guy likes it. It still makes me slightly self-conscious at times, though. I like seeing his face, too, but sometimes when I'm focused on what I'm doing, I just kind of look down or close my eyes.

Y'know most of the guys I've been with seem to like making good eye contact during. I've never had anybody tell me to look away, anyways. I do it because I enjoy watching a guy's face contort when I do something that makes him really happy.

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"You're cute, like a velvet glove cast in iron. And like a gas chamber, a real fun gal."

I know I'm a bit late to the party but I totally agree with angie about enthusiasm when giving head. If a girl seems bored or like she's just doing it because she has to then the guy probably isn't going to enjoy it.

When I'm with cc_boy I'm pretty aggressive and I like to grab his butt to pull him closer to me (our favourite position is me sitting on the bed while he stands in front of me) and I just really go at it. A lot of the time I look up at him and I guess I look pretty happy because it just gets him even more excited. Of course, I know there's a whole debate about whether or not to look at a guy while you do it. Some guys love it, others say it's creepy so I don't know.

Yay period monster! Hope you had lots of fun! Believe me, enthusiasm is so much more important than experience when it comes to these things. It doesn't matter how "good" you are, if a girl looks bored while going down, the guy won't be happy!

We had some fun this weekend ourselves, out in the countryside for a party and snuck away for a quick blowjob in the bushes. It was just like high school

Thanks for all the great advice! I went down a few times last night, but always as part of the foreplay. We discussed a bit in between. Luckily, e-man is understanding of my situation, a 30 year-old who has primarily dated women in the past, and was kind throughout. Afterwards when we were talking, he mentioned again that he loves being in bed with me. When I mentioned the learning curve, he pointed out that he thinks that is not of much importance, the sex is great because of who he is doing it with. It actually was quite a lot of fun, even if I stopped from laughing a couple times due to the funny noises--he's used to it by now. There's usually a good amount of laughter involved when we're in bed together.

Again, thanks busties! I'll try to incorporate a few more tips the next time...

Whe i first starting giving head, im guessing because of the huge emphasis within porn on deep throating, i serisouly thought i had to fukin choke myself for a guy to get off on a blow job. But i have learned that is totally not the case and have been given damn good feedback on my skills yo.

I find one way to avoid having to take way too much cock in your mouth at once is to wrap a few fingers and thumb around the shaft and rest your lips around so they touch your fingers. Then when your move your lips up and down the shaft you can move your fingers in the same motion, making it feel like your taking in much more than you actually are. Apparently it feels like your taking him in really deep, but you actually at a far more comfortable level. It really works well.And as previously said, moving your tongue over the head and particularly in a circular motion around the ridge joining onto the shaft is an awesome move. And also. Eye contact totally gets guys off. feels very naughty!

I wish I'd realised that it's very, very much ok to start down there and then move onto other things, especially while you're getting the hang of it. I go down a lot, but it's often as part of foreplay rather than a full blowjob.

Also, depending on the guy, gentle ball-sucking while stroking the shaft.

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“Logic is the art of going wrong with confidence.”Morris Kline (mathematician, author) 1908-1992

The one thing I wish I'd known earlier on is that it is not necessary to deep throat his cock. You can try it during a future bj session if you want to, but don't worry about it for now. Guys are most sensitive at the head of the penis, so although it's good to tease the shaft, it isn't as necessary as you might think.

Remember that when you're giving a blow job, you don't have to do all of the work with your mouth. Get your hands involved. Cup his balls in your hand or stroke his shaft with one hand while you use your mouth to play with the head of his penis. If your mouth or jaw starts to hurt, just take a break and work with your hands for a bit.

Don't worry if you can't make him come. With some practice and a few tips from him, it'll happen eventually.

There's some thing's I've learned over time, one being that different guys like different things, but overall, I think the greatest preference is for slow, gentle teasing, slowly working up to greater friction and speed, but not getting too intense until right at the very end. Once you've gotten used to it, you can have fun getting him close to cumming then slowing down and teasing again, which is even more fun, but the basic pattern is the same.

The most important thing is how you approach it. You're exploring and having fun, not performing a task. If you keep that in mind, it will be more fun for both of you. Honestly, it's about the best thing ever, it's fun and also very sexy to be able to experience a hard cock that close-up. Also, despite the stereotypes, suction isn't too important - I've completed a lot of blowjobs with no sucking at all. The thing guys really like (so I have been told) is the warmth of your mouth and the softness of lips and tongue. You can bring your tongue into it no matter what else you're doing. They also really, really love being able to watch. If he is sitting on a chair and you kneel between his legs, that give you a comfortable position, and gives him a great view.

Period, I recommend working your way down there at a pace that's relaxed for you, then just spend some time exploring what it's like to feel those parts of him on your face, kissing them, tounging them. Notice what it's like to have him in your mouth, and the speeds and depths you are comfortable with. Doing this will give you the time to notice his reactions to what you're doing, and give you time to enjoy the experience (or you may discover it's not something you can get into). Then you can work on finding the rhythm that works for you and him, and along the way you'll remember what you've read here and incorporate whatever seems appropriate, because you're relaxed/excited by the response you've already gotten.

Also, if he isn't responsive, don't be afraid to ask what you could do that would get him going. I'm no stranger to oral, and I just did all of the above with my new boyfriend. It's fun to do with any new guy, because they're all different!

I've been reading through the archives, but I am still wondering--What do you wish you knew before the first time you went down on a guy? I have never been down on a guy before, but want to provide oral satisfaction to e-man, cod knows he deserves it. What two or three things should I have in mind? If I try to be too ambitious, I know I'll forget everything and it will be a disaster.

Well, in the one review I read & trusted, the um, blower had a very small mouth & he wasn't wild about it because it made him gag. He did note it made him drool a lot & that was good, what with the gagging. The blowee, was pleased, "the mouthguard created a sensation of extra pressure—like biting, but without teeth—that was quite pleasant."

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"You're cute, like a velvet glove cast in iron. And like a gas chamber, a real fun gal."

ok, I have a teethguard for sleeping in... not that I have - or would - ever give a blow job with it in, but I would think that the top edge of the thing would scrape on the penis. which would feel worse than teeth. In fact, I would think that it would feel like the penis was being scraped by a straight razor or something. a vibrating one, at that.