attitude

To live a full life, there is an important principle you need to remember. The principle is stay balanced. Violating this principle will only lead you to misery. There are five aspects of life that you need to keep balanced: Work Health Learning Social Spiritual Unfortunately, many people have what I call “unbalanced success”: they have tremendous success in one or two aspects of their lives but at the expense of the other aspects. To the outsiders, they might seem…

A few years ago, I had a bad experience: as I was riding a motorcycle with my wife, my wife’s purse was snatched. After realizing what happened (it took me a second or two), I tried to pursue the snatcher. I was overcome with emotion. Worse, my wallet was inside my wife’s purse at that time. Fortunately, I still had my rational mind with me. I thought to myself, “Wait, I can’t be too fast. Otherwise, we could have an accident…

What attitude do you think would make the world a better place? While there might be other answers to this question, I believe that a key attitude is the attitude of giving. You see, almost everything that we read or hear is about getting: getting more money, reputation, or something else. Only occasionally do we read or hear about giving. That’s why I’d like to write about it today. I still have a lot to learn, but I’d like to…

What are you scared of? Oh, don’t shake your head and say, “Nothing!” We are all scared of something – it could be fear of something real like mice and cockroaches or fear of the possibility of something going wrong – like feeling humiliated while addressing a crowd. In this article, you will be taken through a three step process of understanding why you are scared of something, what to do about it and finally how to overcome it. 1. It’s…

You want to motivate your child to do well in his/her 12th standard exams. How do you think you should do it? Should you tell your child how difficult life will be without a good education, or how great things can be with a good education? Many parents (and bosses and teachers and people in general), tend to take the first approach, but here is research that says that the first method might actually be more effective. Did you just…

The way you make decisions is essential. After all, your life is just the result of your decisions. So how do you make the right decisions in life? I found something interesting in the book summary of Reinvent Yourself. It says that in order to advance in life, you should make growth-oriented decisions instead of fear-based ones. For example, let’s say that you are in a job that you don’t like. If you decided to stay because you are afraid…

I have so much to do! I have emails to answer, lectures to prepare, and clients’ problems to solve and on top of all this a big presentation at work! You know what the worst part is? People assume I am magically immune to procrastination, just because I am a psychologist. But hey, I’m still a person and at times I get overwhelmed, or plain bored with all the work I need to do. But the difference between me and…

So, there’s this project at work you’ve been working really hard on. Your boss loves the idea and everything is going great until s/he tells you to present the idea to the whole team tomorrow. You’ve created the slides and proofread them twice, but every time you think of the presentation, your head feels light and you get a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. What are you afraid of? That you’re a quiet, reserved person and not…

As we approach the upcoming new year, it’s always a great time to take a step back and reflect on what we’ve learned and experienced over the past twelve months. First, let me ask you an important question: “Are you better or worse than you were exactly one year ago today? Or about the same?” I sincerely hope it was a good and productive year for you; but even if it wasn’t, keep in mind this is just one chapter…

I was once asked if I liked what I wrote. I said I have different phases, I like my writing in some phases and don’t like my writing in some phases. Huh? Let me explain. I’m working on this children’s book, a series of short stories for children. In the beginning, as I was writing the first few stories, I was mentally rehearsing my Booker Award Speech, and I was all like, “Wow, this is going to be SO great!”…

Intelligence, most of us would agree is an extremely abstract concept that individuals possess. Defining intelligence, in itself is a huge task that most academicians have attempted to succeed in. It can be thought of as the ability of a person to learn, adapt and solve new problems, adapt to environments and situations. Having complex sub-components such as cognitive processes; quantifying intelligence is surely not an easy task. However, psychologists have attempted at developing measures for intelligence. The first version…

Attitude is how you react or respond to what happens to you in life. Transcript (Attitude motivational video) Many at times, we go through life worrying about things that happened to us, our struggles, our pains, things that don’t go well in our lives as though that’s all that matters. But truth be told, they don’t matter. You might disagree with this, but it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter that you were laughed at, bullied, insulted, called all sorts of names. It doesn’t matter how…

I’m really excited today because I have a huge announcement to make… Social Transformation 2.0 – my online course designed to help individuals overcome their social anxiety, build genuine confidence and self-esteem, and ultimately improve their relationships with both themselves and the world around them – is currently accepting new students! (Enrollment for Social Transformation 2.0 will be open until the end of Sunday, January 13th at 11:59PM EST. Don’t miss out on it!) Overcoming social anxiety was one of…

So you were at an all you can eat buffet. Before you left home you had vowed not to overeat tonight, and just try small quantities of whatever seemed interesting. By the end of the meal, you need to unbutton your pants and need a few seconds to catch your breath after climbing down the flight of stairs. You overate, AGAIN! Well, here are a few hacks, all backed by research, you can use to not overeat: 1. Hide your…