what do you think of intp girls

from a distance? in person? first impressions? in a friendship? in a relationship?

from a distance some people say they cant put their finger on me
others jsut make assumptions and use them to judge me
i also get called the nice sweet girl when im very quiet (how are those two related again?)
do you ever wonder what that reserved girl with the mismatching socks is thinking and what she does in her free time because you mostly only see her at work/school

friends sometimes seem intimidated and/or in love with me and ive been called a psycho numerous times.
people who have been on my mutal romantic radar complain alot and call me an ice queen.

i was wondering because in a circle of friends im usually the funny one who occasionally crosses the line, but in my engineering course i havent felt the need to make any new and proper friends and everyone else has already created their own little groups. i was wondering what they see and why they decide to talk or not talk to me.

from a distance? in person? first impressions? in a friendship? in a relationship?

from a distance some people say they cant put their finger on me
others jsut make assumptions and use them to judge me
i also get called the nice sweet girl when im very quiet (how are those two related again?)
do you ever wonder what that reserved girl with the mismatching socks is thinking and what she does in her free time because you mostly only see her at work/school

friends sometimes seem intimidated and/or in love with me and ive been called a psycho numerous times.
people who have been on my mutal romantic radar complain alot and call me an ice queen.

what'd i do?

cuz you dont talk unless talked to and your shy....makes me go nuts for you

from a distance...i am more than attracted to INTP chicks
in person...im even more attracted to INTP chicks
first impressions...INTPs suck at them. why? maybe cuz they stand their smiling the whole time wanting to say something but won't unless its "me too" or "yeah"...if it werent for the eyebrow piercing and the style that makes them subtly stand out, theyd be BORING
friendship...wont work because more often than not, ill have to do all the work...so screw that
relationship...a LOT of work...takes a while to get close to them

also, my ISFJ buddy calls a INTP chick friend "sweet"...shes only like that when shes in public...shes most comfortable talking on msn.

they thrive on awkward moments...mainly cuz they have been dealing with those their entire lives

Originally Posted by Edge

what'd i do?

i think, what you do do is find a niche in the social order, modify it to give it a non-conforming appearance and feel (this is empowering to you) and then stick to it your whole freaking life

and you throw 'shit-tests' at people. if people pass these (essentially by telling you to go screw yourself), you start respecting them. if not, for same sex, you see possibly for friendship; for different sex, you see a chump....possibly a friend, i dont know

noone knows bout your love life. if someone does, you pretend not to give a shit...you avoid confrontation big time

how'd i do? please tell me i know at least a lil bit bout intp chicks by now...i have to get one off her high horse and on mine in a few months

I don't think I've met one in real life. Although I may have and we simply didn't remember/notice each other after we met. I typically don't make new friends unless the other person is really really friendly so...yeah won't happen easily.

i also get called the nice sweet girl when im very quiet (how are those two related again?)

Quietness is always either seen as hostility or niceness. In a world of extroverts, introversion is seen in black and white. Introverts are not afforded nuances (even though they are more richer in soul). This is a way of society telling you 'You are irrelevant'

Originally Posted by Edge

do you ever wonder what that reserved girl with the mismatching socks is thinking and what she does in her free time because you mostly only see her at work/school

In the 'normal' world of chaos and constant communication, INTPs are regarded as safe and predictable. It's so easy to overlook INTPs. Most people CAN'T imagine what INTPs think/feel/believe/aspire. INTPs live in their heads most of the time. What's obvious to them is not obvious to everyone. What someone has only begun to think of, the INTP has analyzed it half to death ... a decade ago. Introverted thinking may be INTP's best strength, but it's also the most hidden. And INTP's intensity of feelings (perhaps due to their inferior introverted feeling)? There's no way an INTP would show just anyone that!

For me personally, I don't even 'exist' to my mom even though I live with her. Sure, she's concerned about me and controls me, but does she know what's going on? She can't imagine the people I'm with, the places I drop by, the stuff I think, my future plans. She thinks I go to classes and come back, that is all, because I hardly divulge anything.

Originally Posted by Edge

friends sometimes seem intimidated and/or in love with me and ive been called a psycho numerous times.

I can relate. The few people who notice me tend to put me on a pedestal. I think it has to do with our independence and sense of humor. INTPs' extroverted intuition can be quite charming. But when they don't show that side, they're seen as uppity and serious. INTPs after all have a stoic face and a penetrating gaze.

But all in all, why are you so concerned about what others think about you? I don't think there's a way for you to 'streamline' yourself into one or two defined personas. People will always make assumptions about you, because you're introverted and therefore they come to conclusions on whatever little data they see (or don't see). And remember, an INTP is a RICH personality filled with contradictions anyway. On one hand, INTPs can be very predictable, but on another they're also very idiosyncratic. Each person/group sees one side. But no one will ever see all the sides.