so fearful

Hi ladies, I have posted before but I really need advice my husband wants to start trying and I'm scared out of my mind of giving birth, I'm afraid of the pain, tearing really bad, csections, any advice will be helpful I'm 29 and had one miscarriage unknown reason at 5 wks... But dr says I'm healthy

Hi ladies, I have posted before but I really need advice my husband wants to start trying and I'm scared out of my mind of giving birth, I'm afraid of the pain, tearing really bad, csections, any advice will be helpful I'm 29 and had one miscarriage unknown reason at 5 wks... But dr says I'm healthy

I think the main question you need to ask yourself is are you ready for a family and ready to be a mom. Once deep down you know the answer to the question all will fall into place and you will lose some of that fear. I gave birth to a 9.2 lbs 31.5 inch baby naturally with no meds . I had minor tearing, which was fixed . I had no issues thereafter. There are exercises and massages you can do that can assist with stretching and strengthening your vaginal muscles prior to labor . Keeping a healthy weight where you deliver 6-7 lbs baby will also assist with you labor ( I developed hypothyroid and complications which made me less able to exercise and thus gain too much weight ). Nothing can predict in advance what will happen during pregnancy or delivery , we can just try prepare and wish for the best . The end result of holding a healthy baby in your arms and the sensation one feels of becoming a mom , will be all worth it. Try to relax, think positive thoughts and all the best to you and your husband .

I think the main question you need to ask yourself is are you ready for a family and ready to be a mom. Once deep down you know the answer to the question all will fall into place and you will lose some of that fear. I gave birth to a 9.2 lbs 31.5 inch baby naturally with no meds . I had minor tearing, which was fixed . I had no issues thereafter. There are exercises and massages you can do that can assist with stretching and strengthening your vaginal muscles prior to labor . Keeping a healthy weight where you deliver 6-7 lbs baby will also assist with you labor ( I developed hypothyroid and complications which made me less able to exercise and thus gain too much weight ). Nothing can predict in advance what will happen during pregnancy or delivery , we can just try prepare and wish for the best . The end result of holding a healthy baby in your arms and the sensation one feels of becoming a mom , will be all worth it. Try to relax, think positive thoughts and all the best to you and your husband .

Thank you for the advice. I love kids and I'm very ready to be a mom, I truly think I'm so fearful of te whole 9 month process bc I've heard horror stories and that's frightening but I'm going to try and keep my weight down and walk a lot go for massages. Ill do pretty much anything to not have complications. We're you nervous having your first child?

Thank you for the advice. I love kids and I'm very ready to be a mom, I truly think I'm so fearful of te whole 9 month process bc I've heard horror stories and that's frightening but I'm going to try and keep my weight down and walk a lot go for massages. Ill do pretty much anything to not have complications. We're you nervous having your first child?

I totally understand. I was terrified of giving birth from as soon as I found out how it happens. I was also pretty nervous those 9 months that something would go wrong. When I told my doctor how scared I was she said just get an epidural. Seriously, the best invention ever! Being a mother is absolutely the greatest thing I have ever experienced. (and I'm nearly 40 so I've experienced quite a bit!) my son is 18 months now and every day is a joy (even though I'm tired a lot). Just don't watch Baby Story on tv, and on't listen to other people's horror stories everyone will want to tell you their story and it always sounds scarier than it is. I hate pain and am not brave if I can do it anyone can!

I totally understand. I was terrified of giving birth from as soon as I found out how it happens. I was also pretty nervous those 9 months that something would go wrong. When I told my doctor how scared I was she said just get an epidural. Seriously, the best invention ever! Being a mother is absolutely the greatest thing I have ever experienced. (and I'm nearly 40 so I've experienced quite a bit!) my son is 18 months now and every day is a joy (even though I'm tired a lot). Just don't watch Baby Story on tv, and on't listen to other people's horror stories everyone will want to tell you their story and it always sounds scarier than it is. I hate pain and am not brave if I can do it anyone can!

I'm taking hynobirthing classes & they're all about eliminating fear & letting your body work naturally. I would highly recommend reading Ina May Gaskin & researching Dr. **** Read, it could help you feel a lot better about the whole birthing process. I'm due in April & can't wait for the joy of birthing!

I'm taking hynobirthing classes & they're all about eliminating fear & letting your body work naturally. I would highly recommend reading Ina May Gaskin & researching Dr. **** Read, it could help you feel a lot better about the whole birthing process. I'm due in April & can't wait for the joy of birthing!

Thanks ladies.. I feel your pain missy I am so frightened about everything especially because I miscarried at 5 weeks I don't want it to happen again. Is getting the epidural scary? Not a big fan of needles but I can deal with them I needed. I will certainly be reading lots of books about pregnancy.

Thanks ladies.. I feel your pain missy I am so frightened about everything especially because I miscarried at 5 weeks I don't want it to happen again. Is getting the epidural scary? Not a big fan of needles but I can deal with them I needed. I will certainly be reading lots of books about pregnancy.

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