Whenever I meet a guy they always ask me the same thing, "Why are you not taken?"Trust me, I ask myself that question every single day. The last time I got jilted (which was a few weeks ago) I finally realized the answer.Men don't fall in love with me.Every time a guy has broken up with me or ended our friendship, it's because I loved him and he didn't love me.So now I have to wonder, what is it about myself that guys just can't love? Is it that I like sex and therefore men don't take me seriously? Is it because I have a sexual power over men sometimes? I just don't get it. And frankly, I'm tired of falling in love when it gets me nowhere.Just food for thought. =

You are a fiery passionate person. That might be why - because your partners might not have had the same fire as you. It is admirable to have an open heart.

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Jul 13 @ 9:40PM

"Why are you not taken?"

Would it be better if we met and I asked "Can I take you?"

Listen, the whole thing is extremely complicated, and it's arguable that love even exists in the first place. However there are some things that you should always bear in mind:

1) Men lie. Like women didn't already know this, but a research study showed that men lie at least 40% more than women do. And I have it on the opinion of a sex researcher that a lot of that lying is just to get into their pants.

2) The get-in-your-pants "I love you" lie is often reinforced by women. To paraphrase John Steinbeck from "Cannery Row", people don't seem to like being told truths. The would rather deal with the lie.

3) Once you look within yourself and find out what you really want, no one can take that from you. No one.

Here's another possible slant. Sometimes no matter how much we want to, or how much we try to, you just can't love or help someone who doesn't want to be loved or helped. If a guy never asks you what you think about something, or --dare I say it, how you feel about something (because most men are incapable of real feelings), that might just be a good indicator that he falls into this category.

Pixie, I've been in the same boat as you for years! I finally quit thinking/worrying about it, because there isn't anything I can do to change the situation. I'm happy with myself. I like where I am in my life. But I'm a strong woman, and a lot of guys are afraid to try and make it with a strong woman. I'm definitely not going to give up that trait. No way.And Bruce is right- you can't manipulate love. Or any relationship even. I mean, some women think they can "change" their partners. Not gonna happen. I can't go into meeting a new someone thinking that I'm going to talk my way into his heart, or scam my way in, either.I've decided that if it happens, it happens. If doesn't, I'm fine with that, too. A wise friend gave me a great piece of advice when I started dating after my divorce. She said, "You have to learn how to be happy being alone, being single, before you can be happy with someone else." It's a rule I live by.Hang in there, I'm sure someone good is right around the corner!