Whether its Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice or Lady Chatterley’s Lover by DH Lawrence, each of our favourite classic novels can be a good source of reference on how to navigate the treacherous — and often confusing — world of romance and dating. The generation, these authors addressed, may have grown up, but the problems they faced are prevalent even today. Hence, it makes sense to refer to these books, think with your head and follow your heart. Here are some of the lessons these page-turners teach you.

Pride & Prejudice by Jane Austen

Situation: Elizabeth Bennett is quick to judge Mr Darcy, because she is prejudiced and has already made up her mind about him. She sees him as an arrogant, proud individual, who only cares about himself. Lesson: Don’t be quick to judge a person or situation. Evaluate what’s in front of you and analyse the facts before you make an assumption about anything. First impressions are not always right. So, it’s best to keep an mind.

Situation: Lydia and Mr. Wickham, a married couple, are big spenders and are forced to constantly look for new housing. Lesson: Live within your means, don’t overspend as it can make life difficult.

Lady Chatterley's Lover by D H Lawrence

Situation: Constance (Lady Chatterley) asks Oliver Mellors, whom she has been having an affair with, if he loves her. She poses the question after a sexual encounter. Lesson: Never ask ‘do you love me?’ after sex. In all probability, your answer will be influenced by your emotions, which are not exactly reliable. It’s best to have that conversation when you are out of bed and can talk without anything influencing your’s or your partner’s feelings and emotions.

David Copperfield by Charles Dickens

Situation: David claims to love Dora, but his assessment of the weakness of her character is not correct Lesson: Don’t let champagne goggles cloud your judgement. In love, you are likely to romanticise, idealise, or ignore the flaws of your loved one. But in the long run, this does not bode well for a healthy relationship. For a happy and stable relationship, it’s important to be practical while choosing a partner. Make sure you are compatible and work on each other’s strengths and weaknesses.

A Farewell to Arms By Ernest Hemmingway

Situation: acho American Frederic Henry shows Scottish nurse Catherine Barkley that though he may appear tough, he has a good heart. Lesson: Men having feelings. It does not take away from their masculinity.

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Situation: Mr Rochester hides the fact that he has an ex-wife locked away in his attic. Lesson: When important details are kept from each other, it’s bound to have an adverse effect on your relationship in the long run. When it comes to dealing with your partner’s ex, learn to deal with your insecurities. It’s okay if your partner is friends with his/her ex, but they should maintain a distance.

Whether its Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice or Lady Chatterley’s Lover by DH Lawrence, each of our favourite classic novels can be a good source of reference on how to navigate the treacherous — and often confusing — world of romance and dating. The generation, these authors addressed, may have grown up, but the problems they faced are prevalent even today. Hence, it makes sense to refer to these books, think with your head and follow your heart. Here are some of the lessons these page-turners teach you.