On Wednesday’s episode, Dr. Phil talks with Kayleigh about what he calls her internal dialogue. “It’s the positive or negative self-talk that shapes the perception you have of yourself and the world around you,” he says.

Continuing, Dr. Phil explains how one negative message from another person can become internalized and replayed over-and-over again in the mind.

“A bully, a father, some guy when you’re 17 that you’re dating can say, ‘That girl’s prettier than you, so I’m dumping your ass and I’m going with her. You’re not good enough.’ They can say that to you one time, one time,” he says. “But then, the bully leaves and the person takes over for the bully and starts repeating what they said.”

He asks Kayleigh, “Do you realize how many times you are pounding that message home, pounding, pounding, pounding, pounding that message home?”

“Yeah, I just don’t know how to stop it. It just keeps on,” she responds. “It’s like, I can’t switch it off.”