Granted, some might view a study like this with skepticism. Correlations don't establish causation, and especially when it comes to sex, there's always a risk of reporting bias and selective sampling, not to mention the mood of a subject at the time of the survey.

Funny how nobody says this when the results of a study conform to their preconceptions.

Arthen:namatad: TL;DR: Married women don't want to have sex with their husbands

TADAIf your wife wont fark you, tell her you are getting sex elsewhere.If she has a problem with this, divorce her.TADA

./seriously, why is anyone in a sexless, unhappy marriage these days? the kids? WAY TO fark up your children. "Marriage should be unhappy, just like us!!"

Sexless != unhappy

For someand for others, it is part of pattern which leads to misery.Your mileage may vary.

Did you also notice, that I used a COMMA?Sexless, unhappy.Two parts of the marriage, not casual, possibly causal, certainly part of the definition of many marriages.Is the marriage unhappy because it is sexless, sexless because it is unhappy?Doesnt matter.

IF your marriage is sexless AND unhappy, why are you there again? So many unhappy people, so little time.

autopsybeverage:Theory Of Null: There is really no reason left to get married. Well, except for taxes.

I owe far more in taxes every year married filing jointly than I did single. This is because with two incomes, we are in a higher tax bracket.

The tax breaks come when you agree to give creepy Uncle Sam children to use as he sees fit in his nation-building games, I assume.

If you are in a higher tax bracket because you are filing MFJ instead of Single, then you make waaaay too much money for me to feel sorry for you. For the other 99%, being married puts you into a lower tax bracket.

My wife and I just read this (long) article at the same time in the same room. She was a little perturbed to realize that I've been avoiding housework for years but that it could actually be contributing to me getting laid more. She also thinks modern feminists are full of crap, so I may just have one of the good ones.

I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

jxb465:autopsybeverage: Theory Of Null: There is really no reason left to get married. Well, except for taxes.

I owe far more in taxes every year married filing jointly than I did single. This is because with two incomes, we are in a higher tax bracket.

The tax breaks come when you agree to give creepy Uncle Sam children to use as he sees fit in his nation-building games, I assume.

If you are in a higher tax bracket because you are filing MFJ instead of Single, then you make waaaay too much money for me to feel sorry for you. For the other 99%, being married puts you into a lower tax bracket.

Lol, wasn't asking for pity, just presenting a counter to the "woohoo taxes" argument. Which, if both partners have incomes, may (or may not, I guess) be utter bullshiat.

Consult your accountant prior to marriage, though, if that's your sole reason for jumping in. Depending on your accountant, I guess it can even be sexy.

Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

I know, one time a gf at the time woke me up by giving me a blowie in the middle of the night. I was like, wtf are you doing?!?!?! Go back to sleep foul succubus!!!!!

Stop listening to shiat like this written by some guy who hasn't seen pussy since he crawled out of one.

Look, If you shag your wife on the regular, you will find that she does all the housework and will shut the fark up about it. Women need dick like plants need rain. Don't shag your wife and she will biatch about everything else. But it's really the lack of dick she's pissed about.

She doesn't just need dick. She needs seduction and romance. She needs a sexy smack on the ass now and again and occasionally, a fark just because.

fark your wife. fark her hard, fark her often. It's not that women don't want sex. They just don't want your lazy, tired imitating porn sex that you think she wants. Lick her, spank her, pull her hair. fark the shiat out of her at least every two or three days.

She will do the housework because she'll be happy. You may even get steak.

Now. Ask me how I know?

Remarried and farking happy, that's why. Good dick and a lot of it, makes me a lot less biatchy. Just saying.

On the other hand, never find a woman who has a higher libido than yours, and puts you in the position of gatekeeper to sex. Women have less problems finding people willing to help them in adultery than men do.

Headso:sn82: DubyaHater: This is why I don't get married. I just date a girl for a few years, get bored with her and break up with her. Easier than cheating and marriage would just complicate the break-up.

Why do you break-up with her? Was there something wrong with her or the relationship?

Egalitarian:This BS again? Plenty of straight men who don't want to have sex with their long-term partner as often as the gal would prefer. Of course, when men start holding out on sex, it's because of their promiscuous biological urges or being tired of the same old vag or some crap. Whereas women who do the same are stereotypical withholding frigid wives. (if a woman gets tired of the same old peen, that's a whole 'nother firestorm).

Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

No. My issue is when the wife wants sex, she immediately expects it to perk up at the prospect no matter my mood, and then complains until I finally jerk myself off to get ready and more or less half-ass it.

It's called putting some effort in ladies. If I'm supposed to spend ten minutes revving your engine you can spend a little time when I'm not in the mood.

FTA: It found that when men did certain kinds of chores around the house, couples had less sex. [ ] The more traditional the division of labor, meaning the greater the husband's share of masculine chores compared with feminine ones, the greater his wife's reported sexual satisfaction.

Wife: Will you please turn off the game and help fold the laundry?

Husband: I am sorry, but I am going to have to refuse to help with the "women's work." And, it's not because I am lazy. I am refusing only to ensure you experience greater sexual satisfaction when we have sex. Sure you are mad now, but you will thank me... later tonight.

Egalitarian:Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

Stop listening to shiat like this written by some guy who hasn't seen pussy since he crawled out of one.

Look, If you shag your wife on the regular, you will find that she does all the housework and will shut the fark up about it. Women need dick like plants need rain. Don't shag your wife and she will biatch about everything else. But it's really the lack of dick she's pissed about.

She doesn't just need dick. She needs seduction and romance. She needs a sexy smack on the ass now and again and occasionally, a fark just because.

fark your wife. fark her hard, fark her often. It's not that women don't want sex. They just don't want your lazy, tired imitating porn sex that you think she wants. Lick her, spank her, pull her hair. fark the shiat out of her at least every two or three days.

She will do the housework because she'll be happy. You may even get steak.

Now. Ask me how I know?

Remarried and farking happy, that's why. Good dick and a lot of it, makes me a lot less biatchy. Just saying.

Stop listening to shiat like this written by some guy who hasn't seen pussy since he crawled out of one.

Look, If you shag your wife on the regular, you will find that she does all the housework and will shut the fark up about it. Women need dick like plants need rain. Don't shag your wife and she will biatch about everything else. But it's really the lack of dick she's pissed about.

She doesn't just need dick. She needs seduction and romance. She needs a sexy smack on the ass now and again and occasionally, a fark just because.

fark your wife. fark her hard, fark her often. It's not that women don't want sex. They just don't want your lazy, tired imitating porn sex that you think she wants. Lick her, spank her, pull her hair. fark the shiat out of her at least every two or three days.

She will do the housework because she'll be happy. You may even get steak.

Now. Ask me how I know?

Remarried and farking happy, that's why. Good dick and a lot of it, makes me a lot less biatchy. Just saying.

Stop listening to shiat like this written by some guy who hasn't seen pussy since he crawled out of one.

Look, If you shag your wife on the regular, you will find that she does all the housework and will shut the fark up about it. Women need dick like plants need rain. Don't shag your wife and she will biatch about everything else. But it's really the lack of dick she's pissed about.

She doesn't just need dick. She needs seduction and romance. She needs a sexy smack on the ass now and again and occasionally, a fark just because.

fark your wife. fark her hard, fark her often. It's not that women don't want sex. They just don't want your lazy, tired imitating porn sex that you think she wants. Lick her, spank her, pull her hair. fark the shiat out of her at least every two or three days.

She will do the housework because she'll be happy. You may even get steak.

Now. Ask me how I know?

Remarried and farking happy, that's why. Good dick and a lot of it, makes me a lot less biatchy. Just saying.

Peepeye:I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Unless your life strongly resembles a Fark thread, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

As someone who just got out of a 6 yr sexless relationship, im getting a kick.....

Nothing sexier than a girlfriend that will only bang you once a month(or less) because she feels like shes obligated to. Broke up because I wouldn't marry her. I countered with we already don't have sex and barely like each other, why get the govt involved.

That being said, we were both lousy to ,and for, each other. We were just too stupid and stuck in a routine to see it.

Peepeye:I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Sounds like lack of time is your issue, not his. Good luck... you'll need it.

sn82:Headso: sn82: DubyaHater: This is why I don't get married. I just date a girl for a few years, get bored with her and break up with her. Easier than cheating and marriage would just complicate the break-up.

Why do you break-up with her? Was there something wrong with her or the relationship?

he said he dates boring chicks and gets tired of them.

Shhhh, I was testing him.

So, why are you shaming this guy? Is it the fact that he won't get married? Because marriage is SUCH a good deal for men if it ends in divorce - in which 70% of divorces are filed by women and it jumps to 90% of divorces are initiated by the woman if she's a college graduate.

It took a while, but I knew there would be a response like this coming.

Here's the thing. My wife and I have sex about once a week. Not often enough for me, more often than she would prefer. But I am madly in love with her, still after 10 years of marriage, I adore my children, and I love my life. There's no way in hell I'm walking away from all that just so I can get more pussy. Frequency of sex pales in comparison to everything else.

Peepeye:I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Happily married man of 5 years and having sex at least twice a week, even with a newborn. (After the healing process, of course)

We just make it a point to stay frisky. Lots of compliments, innuendo, the occasional grope on the flyby, just to remind each other that we find them other sexy.

About once a month one or the other of us "plans" a sexy night with added romance and foreplay. The rest of the time we just sort of pounce each other.

We do make sure to take into account how the other is feeling before initiating it, but I love when my wife starts it all. Sexy as hell.

She keeps some nice lingerie and heels around, I've got some silk boxers she likes on me, it's not THAT difficult.

If you find them attractive, you should want to have sex with them, and you should tell them that often.

If you don't want to have sex with them, there's a problem.

I think one key is be able to forget all that other crap for a while, and just concentrate on having sex with the person you love and desire. Leave work, and in-laws, and bills, and all that other junk at the bedroom door.

baconbeard:Peepeye: I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Sounds like lack of time is your issue, not his. Good luck... you'll need it.

Being woken up after 4 hrs of sleep for a quickie is different than waking up at the same time to go to work. If he shot me down for the same reason I would understand. Nice try though.

shtychkn:bubbles_nw2003: I'm old, we have a young child, and my sex drive has suffered. Mu hubby is also free to fnd some elsewhere (as am I). He does, I haven't. We are happy. It's not even that we never have sex. It's just a few times a month instead of a few times a week. I get he needs more even if I don't.

It doesn't have to be so complicated.

Not until he finds someone heed rather be spending his time with than you and the kid. Cause causal flings are less stress then real relationships.

That could happen in any relationship and is probably more likely if the on the side has to be covert. If that happens, we will work it out or move on. He is a dedicated partner and father at this point but nothing is guaranteed in any relationship.

my wife has figured this out she has us living on a bunch of acreage so there's always wood to be cut and split, fences to be fixed, trails to be maintained... she has me doing chores but they are not effeminate.

ten foiled hats:Peepeye: I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Unless your life strongly resembles a Fark thread, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

baconbeard:Egalitarian: Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

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Sadly can be true. I'm in a relationship like that currently. Everything has to be on his schedule and based on his mood, meanwhile I'm horny as hell with no outlet. I still try my best to try to initiate despite the fact though. He's damn lucky that I'm so loyal, to say the least.

doyner:Or more important things than maintaining a vacuuming schedule. But whatever.

No, you're right. The lower-libido partner has to be willing to compromise as the higher-libido one. I wasn't meaning to suggest that you gotta stay and suffer. I'm saying you gotta stay and work it out.

Terminal Accessory:Peepeye: I'm a female who is engaged. All these comments are freaking me out a bit. The very few times I've turned him down are when he wakes me up for a morning quickie, although I usually don't mind. And if I wake him up at night....he's always willing. We work a lot. Lack of time is our issue.

Happily married man of 5 years and having sex at least twice a week, even with a newborn. (After the healing process, of course)

We just make it a point to stay frisky. Lots of compliments, innuendo, the occasional grope on the flyby, just to remind each other that we find them other sexy.

About once a month one or the other of us "plans" a sexy night with added romance and foreplay. The rest of the time we just sort of pounce each other.

We do make sure to take into account how the other is feeling before initiating it, but I love when my wife starts it all. Sexy as hell.

She keeps some nice lingerie and heels around, I've got some silk boxers she likes on me, it's not THAT difficult.

If you find them attractive, you should want to have sex with them, and you should tell them that often.

If you don't want to have sex with them, there's a problem.

I think one key is be able to forget all that other crap for a while, and just concentrate on having sex with the person you love and desire. Leave work, and in-laws, and bills, and all that other junk at the bedroom door.

Sounds like you have a great marriage. Congrats on the newborn.

I'm not too worried. We are very affectionate. We have plenty of sex. I just said the few times I have turned him down was when I was in the middle of a deep sleep. I'm not in the habit of turning him down. I hope a baby doesn't change things....as we plan to start trying next year. The act of trying will be fun as hell though.

Ionessa:baconbeard: Egalitarian: Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

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Sadly can be true. I'm in a relationship like that currently. Everything has to be on his schedule and based on his mood, meanwhile I'm horny as hell with no outlet. I still try my best to try to initiate despite the fact though. He's damn lucky that I'm so loyal, to say the least.

Ionessa:baconbeard: Egalitarian: Also like to point out, there are so many guys out there who can't stand it when their woman tries to initiate sex ... it has to be completely on the man's schedule and terms. Woman acts horny at anything but the appointed time? OH NOEZ SCARY!!! GET AWAY!

[img.fark.net image 215x159]

Sadly can be true. I'm in a relationship like that currently. Everything has to be on his schedule and based on his mood, meanwhile I'm horny as hell with no outlet. I still try my best to try to initiate despite the fact though. He's damn lucky that I'm so loyal, to say the least.

I really hope you two can fix that shiat if you plan on marrying this guy. I know from experience that if a woman with a high libido isn't getting it at home will find it else where./goooood luck