When someone says a lie about you, they have abused your persona. They are probably jealous of you or just want to make themselves feel good by putting you down. Another reason why people lie about others is that they want all the attention to be directed at them. For the most part, they are insecure and don’t really feel good about themselves. They believe that by lying about you, others will turn their attention away from their weaknesses and focus on yours.

When someone repeatedly lies to you, they firstly do not respect themselves, and the same goes for you or anyone else. Remember, we generally treat others the way we treat ourselves. Most importantly, someone lying to you is a form of abuse. They abuse your intellect by lying.

This is self-explanatory. When someone insults you by either calling you rude names, making negative comments about your self-image, your intellect, or criticizing the way you do things, they are abusing you. I appreciate that at times someone might say negative things to you because they are going through their own drama and aren’t nice to anyone especially to themselves. But if one insults you more than once they have abusive tendencies.

Judgment and criticism

We believe it is normal to judge and/or criticize others. But this is not only wrong but also implies that we are investing our focus on something that doesn’t, and will never promote us. We normally judge others based on what we’ve either been told about them, subconscious bias–if they are different from us, or if they intimidate us. We find a way to judge them–which means making conclusions about them without enough evidence. People are also so accustomed to criticizing others and constantly identifying what they believe is wrong with them. This turns into abuse if one is doing it often and doesn’t change even when you bring it to their attention.

Physical abuse is when someone hits, pushes or engages in any forceful physical activity that causes you discomfort or bodily pain. Note that one time is more than enough times for you to walk away—and trust me on this one.

Why do we Stay in Abusive Relationships?

In this video, I share 6 reasons that I believe you will relate to. I also share a simple yet powerful tip that will help you get out of any abusive relationship.

Link to video – https://youtu.be/DbV-AcxtN5k

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Although there are many reasons that incite our frustrations, the main reasons are founded on two major factors: money and relationships.

We get frustrated because we either don’t have money, we are losing money or money is not coming in as expected. We also get frustrated because of the people we deal with: especially because we are all different and view the world from a diverse perspective.

One thing I have learned is that the factors that promote our negative emotions, plus the negative emotions are not as crucial in influencing our emotional well-being as our perception about them. As such, my intention is to share 10 tips that you can use to get out of a frustrated mood regardless of the foundation of your frustrations. Remember, it is not what happens to us that impacts our lives; it’s how we perceive whatever happens.

Move

By moving, I mean, changing your physicality. Do yoga, dance, go for a walk, exercise: the idea is to get your body moving. Once your body is moving, your brain will change its focus from the frustration to whatever you are doing.

“The difference between peak performance and poor performance is not intelligence or ability; most often it’s the state that your mind and body is in.” – Tony Robbins

Note that emotion is created by motion. In other words, emotions are linked to movement in our bodies. Observe your posture when you are happy, as opposed to when you are sad — or what you look like when you are angry, versus when you are elated.

Listen To Inspirational Or Upbeat Music.

I understand that sometimes when you are feeling frustrated or sad you don’t have the guts to listen to anything. But if you are so sick and tired of feeling negative you will do whatever it takes to feel better. Some of the songs I listen to when I’m sad include, but are not limited to the following:

The Storm is Over – R Kelley

A New Day Has Come – Celine Dion

Roar – Katy Perry

Departed (Right Here) – Brandy

I look to You – Whitney Houston

I’m Your Angel – Celine Dion and R Kelly

When You Believe – Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson

One Step at a Time – Jordan Sparks

Note that it is important to spend time making your own list.

3. Clean

Cleaning your space has a magical way of making you feel better. As you clean, your mind goes into the cleaning mood. As such, you implicitly clean the frustration from your mind.

Imaginereceiving $1 Million in your bank account; make a list of how you would spend it.

Cook

Just go into your kitchen and concoct recipes regardless of what you are cooking. The process will definitely help you divert your mind from the frustration.

Change your furniture around. Don’t try to be perfect. Just change things around in whichever way you want.

Go window shopping

Volunteer

This will help you realize how blessed you are.

Make big plans.

Just make plans without worrying about the resources required to realize them. Make plans as you focus on the things you want to manifest in your life—imagining that there are no obstacles that can hinder you from achieving your goals.

Conclusion:

Remember that the difference between where you are emotionally or mentally, and where you want to be, is only a decision away. Once you decide to change your mind about anything, you have literally embarked on a profound journey of getting to your desired destination.

Often times who crave to get certain things in life. We crave for jobs, relationships, cars, etc, only to get them and start craving for different things. At times when we get what we have been longing for, this is when we realize that it doesn’t resonate with our personal standards.

As a counselor and coach, I have discovered that people long for what they don’t really want. They tend to focus so much on the wanted “thing” instead of the feelings that the ‘thing” will elicit in them when they get it. For example; a woman craves to attract a man. And when she does, she realizes that she deserves better. This is when she also discovers that she didn’t evaluate what she particularly deserves before she established what she wanted.

My simple advice is that before you start working towards achieving a set goal, let it be a woman, man, job, promotion, car, etc, ask yourself if this goal reflects on your standards, values, and self esteem. The starting point is to evaluate how you value yourself. What makes you, you? What’s your worth?

In thinking of any form of abundance in any respect do not think in terms of tangible manifestations of it, but rather of the spiritual cause, the idea, the law according to which it becomes manifest. Appearances change, things come and go, but there forever remains the ways and the means for other things to become manifest in your experience. You will always be able to add two and two and get four as an answer. You will always be able to release a rock from your hand and have it fall to the ground. In everything you are, do, and experience you are fundamentally dealing with basic principles and causes. These never become exhausted, never refuse to work, but all too often it is felt that they do when they appear to, the fault lies not in them but in your limited idea as to what they can do for you.

Therefore, regardless of what it is you feel you should have more of, whether it is wealth, success, health, better relations with others, or more sales, they all resolve themselves back to the thought pattern and your internal representations…i.e., beliefs and mind paradigms. A greater experience of anything first requires awareness that the possibility is available to you, and then a desire and willingness to accept it.

A business without customers is like a house without habitants. Regardless of how great or special your product or service is, if you don’t have people demanding it, it’s more or less valueless–unless of course you created it as a hobby. When our products or services are demanded, it implies that we are fulfilling people’s needs or wants. It makes our businesses alive, and our minds enthused with purposefulness. It is simple: without customers there is no business.

The question is; what do you do on a daily or weekly basis to recruit new customers? Below are 3 techniques that I’ve successfully used to get new customers.

Volunteering.

Volunteering, especially for causes related to our products or services, is an easy way to get your name out there. For instance: I offer free group counseling sessions to women in public libraries every two months. When the libraries are advertising my events, they create flyers with my name, qualifications and contact details and post them everywhere in the libraries, and on their websites. This doesn’t only build my SEO since my contact information is included on their big websites, but it’s also free advertising for my company. If you have a LinkedIn account, sign up for volunteermatch.com and start volunteering at these big organizations. Even if they don’t hire your services, if you do your job well, at the very least you will get a good referral.

Blogging:

I’ve discovered that so many businesspeople resent blogging. However, blogging is simple especially if you have a passion for what you do. All you have to do is write weekly on subjects related to your business—such as this one for my business. As a success coach, I offer sales success strategies to especially small business owners. What I’ve done in this blog is offer you some tips that could help you recruit new customers. If you get interested, which I know you will, you will check out my website (www.tapthegood.com) for more resources. And that’s how it all begins.

*When you blog, remember to connect your blog to all your social platforms.

Host a “Wine and Peanuts” party.

People love free things. People love wine. Men love peanuts. 🙂 Host a party and include a raffle for guests to buy tickets to win complimentary services or products. However, don’t give away too much. If you are a service provider, offer no more than a 30 minutes complimentary session. Also, remember to have a guestbook to record their contact details. Ask them if it’s okay to email them periodical offers and/or free tips. Trust me; they will be okay with that. You’ve wined and fed them, and the law of reciprocity will naturally take effect.

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