You only have yourself to thank or blame for how you feel.... I will leave it at that I guess. Or not. Ah, I’ve been thinking about this A LOT. I’ve been thinking about how sensitive I am sometimes to what other people do and say and how it always triggers a reaction in me that (usually) makes me feel pretty bad. Consequently I blame the person or situation for how it made me feel which is usually followed by another wave of anger, disappointment or sadness.
Sometimes I think that when someone makes me feel bad they know what they did and I have to wait for them to understand that and fix it. The thing is that everyone has their own version of what happened and only rarely is their version similar to mine.
We all have our own truth regarding our emotions, and that’s why it’s not up to someone else to make us feel worthy, validated, or happy. It’s on us. And no one can make you feel stupid, ugly, or not good enough. We allow ourselves to feel that way. But we don’t have to choose those feelings. And no one is making us feel that way.
Whenever I allow myself to see this I start perceiving my relationships differently- in a freer way.
And what about you being responsible for other people’s emotions? Well, that will have to wait till the next post😜 #onandoffthemathttps://instagram.fmuc2-1.fna.fbcdn.net/vp/3767b07be1eb983809c7cde470c94905/5BF58AB0/t51.2885-15/e15/p640x640/37945378_278776459405558_4250655264801462561_n.jpgsarahticha

You only have yourself to thank or blame for how you feel.... I will leave it at that I guess. Or not. Ah, I’ve been thinking about this A LOT. I’ve been thinking about how sensitive I am sometimes to what other people do and say and how it always triggers a reaction in me that (usually) makes me feel pretty bad. Consequently I blame the person or situation for how it made me feel which is usually followed by another wave of anger, disappointment or sadness.
Sometimes I think that when someone makes me feel bad they know what they did and I have to wait for them to understand that and fix it. The thing is that everyone has their own version of what happened and only rarely is their version similar to mine.
We all have our own truth regarding our emotions, and that’s why it’s not up to someone else to make us feel worthy, validated, or happy. It’s on us. And no one can make you feel stupid, ugly, or not good enough. We allow ourselves to feel that way. But we don’t have to choose those feelings. And no one is making us feel that way.
Whenever I allow myself to see this I start perceiving my relationships differently- in a freer way.
And what about you being responsible for other people’s emotions? Well, that will have to wait till the next post😜 #onandoffthemat

Awesome. I'm fixing to post about how your thoughts shape your reality more than anything outside of you. Its not what happens to you, it's what you think about what happens that makes your reality good or bad. How you think about something affects what you do about stuff. Yoga is about your mind and thoughts more than anything.

That is called the "abc" in rational psychology, particularly Albert Ellis. A for actual event, B for irrational belief, and C for consecuential feeling. We can' change A, but we can work on B so C will be different. Has roots ond budism and the stoicism and epictetus 😌

Needed to hear that today . Assume and presume - is something I struggle with alot . It all goes back to my childhood and then I regretfully always think about how the other person felt and wish I could help them . I am an immediate apologizer ( not a word , I know lol ) however , it hurts me when I hurt people , which I tend to do alot :(