Monday, November 17, 2008

A Story of a Friend's Cheating Husband

Two weeks ago I've met with my college friends from UST because we have a balikbayan friend abroad. Our stories revolved around one thing. My friend's cheating husband. How did she know? Nakita nya sa cellphone ng husband niya na may picture ng ibang girl. The girl happens to be an office mate of the husband. My friend was ok naman, pretty and we never expected it from her or sa husband niya na gagawin iyon.

Now as a student of Psychology let me analyze the behavior. Wives who were cheated by their husbands can experience a great deal of stress and emotional breakdown. They will often think what went wrong. They will think or attribute it to themselves either they will say na may kulang sa kanila, napabayaan ang sarili, busy and a lot of reason. Wives who are contented or secured by their marriage partner and suddenly may incidence na ganito will have a lot to do for themselves. They have given their full trust to a person, siguro half or whole, pero kung whole, this is devastating, the wife has to start all over again to trust someone. Kung naka-recover siya, she might think of getting back or avenging herself, magpapaganda muna sila and then they too will look for partners to compensate the loss of love (maybe) from the husband. (Napanood ko sa Bad couple, korean series).

If trust is missing in a relationship, this may not work out unless there is a lot of sacrifices and undoing. If a wife naman is dependent on the husband, walang work, maraming anak, hirap sa buhay, eto yung mga nag-stay sa marriage dahil hindi nila kayang buhayin ang anak nila na wala ang asawa. The behavior of cheating will be tolerated or ignored.

So tama rin kaya ang theory ng iba na they really have to pass this stage? I would rather not agree. I still want to preserve my idea of true love, kagaya nila Romeo and Juliet,yung character sa movie na The Notebook at may mga iba pang wagas na pag-ibig..