BJ Shea

BJ's BLOG 07/29/11 "Sexual Misconduct?"

24-year-old Julian Alfred Young got fired from The Wallingford Boys and Girls Club, and is in legal trouble after he had a sexual relationship with a 16-year-old girl whom he met at the club.

Julian has been charged with first-degree sexual misconduct with a minor (he was not charged with rape because of the girl’s age).

I am so tired of the phrases they are using to label situations because they don’t seem to fit the actions. The only reason they are charging Julian with first-degree sexual misconduct with a minor is because she is 16 and of legal age of consent in this state and they couldn’t peg him for rape.

I do understand however, and have no problem with the Boys and Girls Club’s decision to fire him. A work place has the right to say that you are not allowed to have sex with customers, but I don’t understand why they were allowed to charge Julian with any kind of crime at all since we recently learned 16 is the age of consent.

Look, he’s 24-years-old; it is not outside the realm of possibility that someone of that age to hook up with someone 8 years younger than him especially if they have been hanging out in close quarters like that.

The idea of a 24-year-old having a relationship with a 16-year-old isn’t weird to me; guys are less mature than girls, so sometimes a girls have to find older guys to find that balance.

We just had a 50-year-old marry a 16-year-old in this state, and that’s OK?

This is what is wrong with this country today; we always have to demonize things by putting ridiculous labels on situations to make people look bad when they really did nothing at all.