10 Ways To Show Someone With Chronic Pain That You Care

10 Ways To Show Someone With Chronic Pain That You Care

10 Ways To Show Someone With Chronic Pain That You Care – We have all been there, had a friend or loved one going through a hard time and we just are unsure what to do for them. We make the offer that if they need anything to let us know, but for whatever the reason, they don’t reach out. Having a friend or family member with chronic pain means there is a long-term need and we want to show we love and care for them and that they are not in this fight alone.

Here are 10 ways to show someone with chronic pain that you care written by someone with chronic pain:

1. The most important thing and way to show you care is being that listening ear when we need it. Unless we are asking for advice, don’t try to fix anything, please just listen. Sometimes we just want and need to vent.

2. Are you going to the store? Call us and ask if you can pick something up for us.

3. Ask if you can come over and clean our house or do some laundry. We may not want you to see our mess, but sometimes we need the extra help.

4. Make a meal or a few freezer mealswe can use on our “bad days”. Pizza can get pretty old sometimes and when we don’t feel good enough to cook, we can just pop it in the oven and it’s the best thing ever!

5. Send us a text or mail us a thinking of you card and tell us why we are important to you or share a fun memory.

6. Plan a night in filled with movies, favorite foods, catch up time and memories. Just know we may have to cancel on you or even fall asleep during our “fun” time.

7. Sign us up for a subscription box – Chronically Ally or the Stay Strong Box is a monthly or bi-monthly box filled with items we can find both useful and inspiring.

8. Offer to take us to a doctor appointment or read up on our condition so you can understand what we are going through, but please don’t become a doctor to our condition or believe because one person ate some special food they are now cured. We just want you to understand.

9. Find something inspiring for us – A cute coffee mug with a fun saying, a picture we can look at everyday, a journal we can write in. Something that will remind us how strong we are and to keep going when we are having a hard time.

10. Flowers, plants, or scented candles are always a great gesture as long as none of these trigger headaches. Try looking into buying us a new comfy pair of pajamas or a lounge outfit. Maybe even a new robe or slippers.

Above all, showing someone with chronic pain that you care can come in lots of forms and we are so thankful you stay by our side and continue to show your love for us. Living with chronic pain is never easy, but knowing you’re here and care about us makes it that much easier.

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Comments

I’ve had a really pain filed, and low energy week.
My daughter sent me a text, and I told her the weight of this flare.
The worst in a year. The pain completely screeching my life to halt.

She was good. Asked if I needed anything?
I ask for a meal, and a few groceries because I hadn’t been able to go shopping for myself.
Just the night before it took every ounce of energy I had to pick up a called in curb side take out meal.
I promptly fell asleep after only a few bites.
My sweet daughter showed up with a meal that was nutritious, groceries that will feed me for two weeks!, and sweet treats in strawberry and chocolate. My favorite.
She also brought me a new soft throw that I use daily now.
Her love, and awareness of what is actually occurring during a bad flare has meant more to me than I can express.
So often I don’t ask for help because I know people are busy.
Recently, I did reach out for someone to accompany me in a situation I did not stable and safe in.
Unfortunately, no one was able to come with me.
It is kind for people to say ” contact me if you need anything”, but the reality is only those closest to me that have seen the darkest times are aware how truely important a little help is.
Im am thankful for my lovely girl, and those that help support all of us in the days we are not able to do for ourselves.

Awe Carollee, Your daughter sounds like such a sweetie. I’m so glad you have someone in your life that understands what you’re going through and loves you unconditionally. Thanks so much for sharing! ((Gentle Hugs))

This has been the best article on invisible pain & how to best support someone who daily fights such a horrible, indescribable pain filled day! Yes the best thing a friend can do is to listen. Pick a day once a week, or once every 2 weeks & spend several hours with that friend, watch a funny movie, take her out for a special treat, show up with a large casserole, one she can eat over at least a week. If she has pets, but lacks anyone to scoop a cats box, do it for her on one of these visiting days. Chip in with another friend & sign up for a bimonthly Amazon package that is delivered to the friends door step. Have her fill out the Amazon wish list so you know what to get her. My favorite things given to me are a new inexpensive lounger outfit, versatile to sleep in, show up to a doctor’s appointment, a ER visit. Come with your “handy husband,” so he can do some honey do projects while you two watch a movie. Be creative, be loving, say a prayer with her. If able, take her to church so to establish both spiritual & social connections.

I can simpathise with you all l have fibro mialgia and if it wasn’t for my dear husband who dose so many of my chores now l don’t know what l would do l could not live in my home l would need assisted living place to live in for shure l still make our meals must not over do or l know the consequences l can still grocery shop same deal don’t over do ever l quit taking any over the counter pain mess one year ago so mutch better with out them l use pain rubs ifrared acupuctuer an aloe and magnesium rub and massage whenever l can get it ther are so many places l can’t go to now my balance is not good not good for someone who always loved to hike no more bike oterseither so l try to enjoy what ever l can my cats family friends and helping oterslouise