It's all about perspective & priorities. Tabbing a bass line means nothing compared to the loss of someone so young.Family & life come first with all of it's ups & downs, other stuff can wait.Sorry for your loss Sid, my thoughts are with you.

Thanks everyone for the kind words. This is a great community, which is why we are all still here. I appreciate the friendship of each and every of my BBT friends.

It's not my story to tell - I'm not the parent, sibling, or boyfriend - but I would like to share that my niece's death was as unexpected, and as sudden, as a train wreck. She had been a dancer (ballet), professional for a bit. She was killed by an illness no one saw coming - little symptoms that no one noticed for a year, and then a very fast, five days when it ravaged her. In that sense, it was brief - not a long period of suffering.

Her funeral/remembrance allowed us all the chance to shed tears and say goodbye that we hadn't had. The family had expected maybe two-three dozen at the funernal - but she had touched many in her short life: there were probably 150 in attendance - from childhood friends and their parents to a large contingent of dancers and musicians. It was a good ending to a sad thing.