September 1, 2010

How to Keep a Conversation Going

So let’s talk about what women find attractive in a conversation.

How to talk to a woman in a way that turns her on

1. You have to know how to talk to a girl in a way that unleashes her fun, flirtatious, and sexy side. You need to flirt with a girl in a way that makes her feel like she’s been transported back to the playground with her childhood crush.
Girls thrive on emotions.

2. You need to talk to girls in a way that brings on an emotional state inside of her. You can do this by talking about emotional topics like her passions, childhood, vacations, or any other conversation topics that evoke emotion.

3. You have to talk to the woman in a way that brings out her sensual side. You can be having the best conversation in the world about a topic like “health food” but it will rarely lead to attraction. In order to talk to a woman in a way that leads to sexual attraction you must not be scared to talk about things on a more intimate level.

Now that you have a clear idea of what kind of conversation attracts a woman, now you can concentrate on how to keep a conversation going. However, if you’re still unsure of how to create attraction in a woman, I suggest reading this free report on how to have playful and sexy conversation with women.

Like I mentioned earlier, many of your biggest frustrations involve what to say to women, how to not run out of things to say, how to avoid awkward silences, and how to keep a conversation going.

So I’ve put together this list of 10 ways to continue your conversation with a woman.

10 Tips to Keep a Conversation Going with a Woman

1.) Pay attention to “hooks” a woman is giving you in the conversation. This means, if she mentions that she likes snowboarding, she has just presented you with a good conversation topic to dive deeper into.

2.) Give the woman “hooks” that she can grab on to. This means when you’re talking about something, mention other details of things you like or dislike so that she has things to ask you about. For instance, if you’re talking about baseball, she might not be interested in talking about that… so if you mention how you used to love going to baseball games with your father, you have just given her another topic to keep the conversation going. She can talk about places she liked going with her father.

3.) Bait her. This means say things that get her to open up and admit things to you. An example of a “baiting” would be to say something like “I bet you’ve got a serious artistic side.”

Right there you’ve just baited her to start talking about her ‘artistic’ side. Hint: All women want to believe they have an artistic side.

4.) Make statements instead of asking questions. Like I mentioned earlier, questions kill the momentum of a conversation. Statements help keep a conversation going. Instead of saying “where are you from?” you could say, “You don’t seem like you are from around here?”

This works because now not only does she get to tell you where she is from, but you also get to discuss why you don’t think she is from around here.

5.) Always have a few stories ready that you can tell. If you’ve ever watched a truly great public speaker you’ll notice that they always use stories. This is because we love listening to good stories. So to prevent running out of things to say, have a few good stories to tell at all times.

6.) Tease her. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a playful and flirtatious level is to begin teasing a woman. Since she’ll most likely tease you back, this works as great way to keep a conversation going.

7.) Use tactics like “cold reads” to keep the conversation going. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her. Point out unique things you notice about her and what that tells you about her.

8.) Use conversation “games” to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like “truth or dare” or to less extreme games like the “5 questions game” or something as playful as doing a “role play” where you create an imaginary scenario for you and the woman to live out. Read more examples of games and role plays.

9.) Ask her opinion on gossip/relationship related topics. Women love to give their opinion, so asking girl a question that lets her express her opinion always works to keep a conversation going. Here are some examples of these sort of opinions:

“Who do you think lies more, men or women?”

“If you tell someone you love them while you’re drunk does it count?”

“Is kissing cheating?”

10.) Comment on the people around you. We all love people watching. So if you’re with a woman and don’t have anything left to say, simply look around at the people around, and begin making comments about them. You can even do this by making up imaginary stories about their lives. It is something fun that you can both do together.

So there you go, ten lessons on how to keep a conversation going. But, as I said earlier, not only is it important to keep a conversation going, but you must be able to have a conversation that attract the woman you’re talking to.