Premature Ejaculation

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature Ejaculation, or PE as our medical colleagues refer to it, is when a man "releases" or "orgasms" too quickly, whether that be during intercourse or (often) before penetration has even occurred.

It is, alongside Erectile Dysfunction [LINK], considered to be one of the most common sexual problems that a man can suffer. There is a body of evidence suggesting that inexperience plays a major factor i.e. younger men are likely to experience this more, but most data shows that approximately 33% of ALL men will suffer from this problem at some point in their lives.

As with most things in life, the definition of "premature" is very much open to personal interpretation, but as a rough guide we are talking about the 'release' occurring within one or two minutes or less.

I’m embarrassed to discuss my Premature Ejaculation problem

It is sad, but many sufferers of PE are so worried about talking to someone about their problem that the problem can remain untreated for years. Can you imagine the strain that this puts on both the suffering individual and their sexual partner?

Colin Young, one of the therapists at Tranceformed Perceptions, has suffered from this problem personally, and relates to these concerns. He has faced up to this problem in his life, and would assure you that if you choose to discuss your troubles with him, you shall be met with an understanding ear (two of them, in fact) and a completely non-judgemental attitude. All conversations are in total confidence, as you would expect from any professional therapeutic organisation. In fact, Colin has this to say to any person suffering and considering attending a session:

“I’m happy to let everyone know that I have defeated this problem. It shows those who are suffering that it is possible, and hopefully will reassure them that they will be met with an open and understanding approach. It’s not something to hide. It doesn’t make you ‘less of a man’ and by getting help you are empowering your sex life to a whole new level … and who wouldn’t want that?”

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What can cause Premature Ejaculation?

Having established the tendency to affect younger men more, it is almost certain that "experience" plays a major role in this problem. As we open ourselves to sexual relationships, the levels of sexual tension and excitement we experience, and the associated feelings of anticipation and anxiety surrounding the sexual event, lead us to focus our mind so intensely on "control" and the avoidance of "embarrassment".

One of the Laws of Hypnosis is known as the "Law of Reversed Effect" and was initially described by Emile Coue. Simply put, as our thoughts focus on NOT releasing too quickly, NOT losing control and on AVOIDING embarrassment, our mind produces the reverse of what we are focussed upon. In order to understand the request "DON'T DO SOMETHING" the mind first has to process "DO SOMETHING" before applying the negative. It is therefore understandable that by focussing on what you don't want to happen, you actually manifest it.

[This is very similar to the entire concept of The Secret … which can be viewed here … and provides both entertainment and interesting knowledge]

It is highly unlikely that PE has a physiological or biological cause. Of course, unlikely does not mean that in rare cases this cannot be the case and it is advisable to seek the advice of your G.P. to rule out any physiological cause.

Unfortunately, for most people, once this experience happens it can very quickly and easily escalate into fully formed psychological problem as the mind ruminates on the problem and self perpetuates it i.e. a vicious circle of the more you focus on it, the more it happens!

Can Premature Ejaculation be helped?

Well … generally … the majority of men will find that with more sexual experiences, the problem will become smaller and smaller as both a greater sense of control over climax is gained (physiological reason) and greater confidence in sexual prowess is gained (psychological reason). This is what is referred to as "experience".

Of course, that is much easier said than done … and hence a therapeutic solution is more effective!

Therapy for Premature Ejaculation

Unless there is a genuine biological reason for PE, which we have established already to be unlikely, then drug therapy is not likely to be of much use. Equally, simply sitting and talking it through with a Counsellor, while helpful, often fails to address the problem or deliver an effective solution. The problem is usually psychological and, as such, requires a specific type of intervention.

Hypnosis for Premature Ejaculation

Clinical Hypnosis, sometimes combined with Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques, can help you to wrestle back the control of unhelpful subconscious thought processes that are contributing to the growing sense of anxiety experienced around sexual encounters. Creative visualisation techniques can be used to reprogram your subconscious to accept images of yourself being in control, being relaxed and enjoying a thoroughly beautiful experience with each encounter.

All conditions that we can treat with hypnotic techniques require two critical elements for success: your desire to make the change, and your maximum effort. If you have these, nothing can stop you!

Information

The material included herein is intended to complement, not replace, the advice of your own physician, psychotherapist, or other healthcare professional, whom you should always consult about your circumstances before starting or stopping any medication or any other course of treatment, exercise regimen, or diet.

“… you’ve made me a man again! I can’t thank you enough, and neither can Mrs ******! I wasn’t able to perform [sexually], and have had it like that for years. Going back and finding out why this happened meant that I could deal with it. My only issue is that the sessions aren’t long enough. I felt so good that I didn’t want to come out [of hypnosis]”

Billy, Cumbernauld

“I don’t know how to write this, so bear with me. For years, … I’ve pretended to orgasm so often that … I didn’t think it was even possible. You blew that idea out of my head alright. When I think about it it feels weird. I go to ‘sleep’ and wake up able to have shuddering orgasms but I feel so good about it that I just disregard my own surprise. I will certainly be recommending you.”

Suzanne, Edinburgh

“Colin, we’re just back from holiday … I did the self hypnosis trick you showed me and imagined the flight as I wanted to experience it. It was great to be part of the trip this time … I must admit that I felt a little anxious in preparation for the holiday, but stuck with your ‘homework’ and it paid off big time. Thanks, buddy, for all your help.”

Charlie, Bathgate

“I’ve tried the patches, tried the gum, and it didn’t make a blind bit of difference. I was stunned by what you were telling me in our session, couldn’t believe it, but you took the time to explain it and it really hit home. I AM A NON SMOKER … and I love it. Thank you so much. Can you please tell me why is this not available on the NHS?”

Caroline, East Calder

“Thank you, Colin, for giving me back my self confidence. You know what it’s like and you gave me the encouragement to lose my weight. This time, the weight is falling off me!I’ve lost almost two stones already … I feel in control again.”