5 Things You Should Probably Not Say on a First Date

As a general rule when meeting someone for the first time, you should never say anything to cast a negative shadow on your date's first impression of you. First dates are by no means a time to lie, embellish, or overzealously flatter oneself, but they're not a time to reveal too much either. Think of it this way: Share the positives while simultaneously maintaining a level of intrigue and mystery.

That said, you might be curious what types of things you should keep to yourself. Here are five statements I think you should avoid on a first date:

"I have a third-date rule." Every girl goes into a date with some preconceived idea of how physical she's likely to get. That's fine. But as a man who is likely just trying to get to know you better, it's best not to assume that I'm just trying to take you home. Think "show, not tell" when it comes to conveying what you're looking for. He'll get the impression you don't want a one-night stand when you don't go home with him.

"I want kids." Most people, at some point in their lives, want to start a family. I get it—maybe you're at a point where you want to start one sooner than later. Still, it's not something that needs to be said at the dinner table on a first meeting. I want to get to know you and learn about your life and ambitions first before hearing about whether or not you want to have my children.

"My boyfriend just broke up with me." Do I feel bad for you? Sure. Do I want to hear all about it? Not really. A new guy doesn't want to hear details about the man who came before him (or what went wrong in your relationship). So if you're not ready to date without bringing up your ex, just wait a bit longer before you make plans.

"I don't drink, I'm in AA." I highly respect those who take the initiative to work on their issues in life. However, it can be uncomfortable talking about something like this right off the bat. Save this for a fourth or fifth date once you've solidified a connection.

"I'm high-maintenance." If you are the type of girl to say this in the first place, then yes, you probably are high-maintenance. The problem is that most guys aren't looking for a girl who is.

What do you think? Agree or disagree? Anything else you think should be off limits?