Marriage: Good times, bad times, federal wiretaps

Would you “stand by your man,” as Eliot Spitzer’s wife has chosen to do thus far, despite his implication in a prostitution ring, the possibility he may have spent up to $80,000 on sex, and his resignation as New York’s governor? (Read the story, take our poll.) And tell us your thoughts, here, about what marriages are made of.

If my husband was a public figure, as in a high profile political office, I would “stand by my man”, at least until the furor had died down. It would depend on a lot of variables, such as ‘is he truly asking for forgiveness, and changed his ways?”, and most importantly, “are there young children involved?”.
If the answer to those 2 questions is NO…then, I would make as scandal-fee break from him as possible….AFTER all of the “hullaballoo”.

Stephanie

I feel that the decision to “stand by your man” lays claim to the amount of integritiy and self-respect one has. I, for example, value the commandments and understand the pain caused by adultery both mentally and physically; not knowing if you have an STD, having your heart smashed, feeling like your the most worthless person in the world. Being able to stand-up for yourself and take control of your life is #1, but maybe these women feel like they’ve been told what to do all their lives by their super rich dominating husbands that they don’t know how to think anymore.

DEE

I FOR ONE, WOULD NOT STAY WITH SPITZER, IF HE’S DONE IT SEVERAL TIMES, HE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. AS A WIFE, SHE HAS TO LOOK OVER SHOULDER CONSTANTLY, WHY ISN’T HE HOME YET,
SHE HAS THREE GROWING GIRLS IN THE HOUSE, AND THE HUMILIATION THEY HAVE TO TAKE FROM THEIR PEERS, IS UNCONTROLLABLE. WHAT THESE GIRLS MUST GO THROUGH, ONE CANNOT IMAGINE AND FOR THE WIFE.
WHAT WAS HE THINKING, GETTING HIS LOLLIES FROM OUTSIDE, WHAT’S WRONG WITH HIS WIFE, NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM, HE IS NO KING, WHICH HE THINKS HE IS BECAUSE OF HIS MONEY. MONEY IS ROOT OF ALL EVIL.
TAKE YOUR GIRLS MRS SPITZER, I HATE EVEN TO CALL HER MRS SPITZER, SHE AND THE GIRLS ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM.
HE MUST GET INTO COUNSELLING, NOT FOR 6 WEEKS, BUT, FOR AN AWFUL LONG, LONG, LONG TIME. HE IS MENTAL, AND EVERYONE KNOWS THAT, GET RID OF HIM.
IS HE THAT GOOD LOOKING? I THINK NOT, THE GOOD LOKING IS THE MONEY.