FTM - Fears

Hello! My name is Tristan and I made a post about being unsure of weather I'm trans or not. I got a lot of support and help on that post so thanks a lot. This community is truly awesome. <3

I'm still scared about some aspects however and I thought I could share them in case people have the same fears or have answers to those fears.

First of all, I've noticed that a lot of trans men are sexually attracted to women and that's just not the case for me and I know it sounds stupid but I'm scared people will dismiss my dysphoria just because I'm a gay man.

That brings me to another thing that really scares me. I'm pretty sure I'm a trans guy (still figuring out how I feel) but I'm still a little feminine sometimes like just the way I talk sometimes and the way I act. I honestly think that I'm just meant to be a slightly effeminate guy (since cis guys can be effeminate so why couldn't I be). I'm just scared that if I act a little feminine sometimes people will think I'm not actually trans and that I'm just a very masculine girl.

Basically I feel like a gay man who is a little feminine sometimes and I'm scared people will think my feelings aren't real because I "act like a girl" sometimes.

I had the exact sames fears, and honestly still do,, I'm also a somewhat feminine gay(?) trans man, and it's something I agonized over for a long time.

For the most part, the person who scrutinized my femininity/attraction to men and used it to accuse me of "not being trans enough/really trans" was.... myself. I won't say that there won't be people that'll dismiss you or insist that you're delusional with your femininity/sexuality as "proof", or other reactions like that, but in the end, it's just the way you are, and there's nothing wrong or incorrect or "not trans enough" about it. Like you said, if cis man can be feminine and/or gay and still be men, we can too. You don't have to be a Macho Manly Straight Dude to be transmasc.