Can you explain, when is it my turn to be happy in a marriage?

The tone of your question indicates to me that you are single and long to be married. Having a good, healthy and happy marriage is what many people long for. In fact, it is what many MARRIED couples long for. I often say that if you show me a successful marriage, I’ll show you a couple who worked hard to have that success. The key to a successful marriage is quite simple: CHRIST in both of your lives. It is not enough for one spouse to have a good relationship with the Lord. Both must follow the Lord TOGETHER for the marriage to be good and successful.

Perhaps it would be good to define a SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. Although not all successful marriages are made up of two believers, only the successful CHRISTIAN marriages can honor the Lord! So, let us look at what makes a successful marriage for believers on the Lord Jesus Christ. To begin with, both husband and wife should be true Christians. 2 Corinthians 6:14 teaches us, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” Although two people are both believers, that does not mean they should marry. That is only the FIRST qualification. Marriages should be “only in the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:39). This means that the Lord must be involved in drawing two people together to be married. Before a man and woman marry, they should spend much time together in prayer, making sure it is the Lord’s will that they marry.

Both should START their marriage by following the Lord together, but that must CONTINUE. A married couple should both have a close relationship with the Lord and a desire to please Him. I’ve seen many marriages start out well with plenty of promise for its success. Then, one or both spouses get away from the Lord and distance comes between the married couple. The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 22:37, “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.” You will discover that the more you love the Lord, the more you will love each other! Putting Christ first in the marriage will make not only a lasting marriage, but a happy, Christ honoring marriage.

When will it be your turn to have a happy marriage? I’m sure you realize that I have no answer for you about that. However, I do have a couple of words of counsel for you. If you want the Lord to LEAD you, you must FOLLOW Him. Follow the Lord in every phase of your life. Follow Him because He loves you, because His way is ALWAYS right. Follow Him to grow closer to Him. Follow Him because He will lead you in the direction He wants your life to go. Follow Him, and learn to love His will for your life. As you follow the Lord, tell Him your heart’s desire for a good and happy marriage. Depend upon Him to give that to you according to His perfect will and timing. Depend upon Him to bless you according to His perfect knowledge. We read in Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a [true and faithful] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor and approval from the Lord.” (Amplified Bible) Follow the Lord and he will lead you to the one He will have you to marry, according to His perfect will. (267.4)