Instead of spending time with Amber at the hospital, Gary Shirley had a backyard party with friends!

According toRadarOnline.com, Gary Shirley “had a cookout at his house last night (June 14) with a bunch of his good friends.” In case you forgot, Gary’s on-again/off-again girlfriend Amber Portwood is in the hospital after attempting suicide. Terrible.

A well-placed source tells the website, “He’s concerned for Amber but he has custody of Leah right now, and she’s his priority.”

“Everyone agreed it’d been a crazy day and he just wanted to have a relaxing night with friends,” the source adds.

Should Gary be spending time with Amber or throwing parties in his backyard? We guess we can understand why he is worried about Leah, but is a party the best way to show he cares?