The politically correct anti-bullying academic anti-bullying field has been shunning approaches to bullying that focus on teaching victims how to solve their problems because they don't want to be accused of "blaming victims." Researchers, discovering that the bully-focused approach doesn't work, may finally be ignoring the taboo against blaming victims.

A recent settlement of $4.5 million in the anti-Semitic anti-bullying lawsuit against the Pine Bush School District in Upstate New York is a questionable cause for rejoicing. The taxpayers will pay, the lawyers are the biggest beneficiaries, and it will probably do little to reduce bullying and anti-Semitism. My free manual can do a much better job with less effort.

I recently suggested that our anti-bullying efforts are failing LGBTQ kids. The truth is that they are failing all bullied kids. Sixteen-year-old Kennedy LeRoy committed suicide in the hope of preventing other bullied kids from doing the same. But the suicides won't cease until we stop trying to protect kids from bullying and start teaching them to handle it on their own.

The news continues to bring us tragic stories of LGBTQ kids–even ones who attend LGBTQ support centers–committing suicide because they can no longer tolerate being bullied. Perhaps its because these kids are not being taught resilience. If we truly want to be helping LGBTQ kids, here are some messages we need to be giving them.

The mass murders committed by ISIS are widely called incomprehensible. But mass murder has been around since the beginning of mankind. Shouldn't psychology be able to comprehend such a common phenomenon? It can, indeed, make sense of it. However, it requires abandoning the popular anti-bully model of social life and recognize the role of the victim mentality.

To protect their children from a bullied student who wrote a violent novel describing how he kills them, parents at Tidwell Middle School are demonstrating to have him expelled from school. If anything, their demonstrations may be helping to create a monster and putting their children in greater danger. There is a better way to for these parents to demonstrate.

Barack Obama's speech at the National Prayer Breakfast on Feb. 5 was excellent. It was attacked by many Christians and political pundits who cannot handle criticism of their own beliefs. But even Obama's speech was misleading about the full meaning of freedom of speech.

The massacre of the Charlie Hebdo staff by Islamic fanatics has forced the modern world to rally in support of freedom of speech. However, this is merely lip service. We have eagerly fought for laws forbidding people to say anything we find offensive. We don't want these laws repealed, and no government is going to do so in response to the massacre.

After 15 years of trying to protect kids from bullying, bullying continues to plague kids in school. Finally other people are waking up to the possibility that there is a better way to reduce bullying: teaching kids to become resilient so they can handle it on their own. And Goldie Hawn is at the forefront of such efforts.

Elliot Rodger, who committed the horrific killing spree in Santa Barbara on May 23, like many of these rampage killers, had been seen by therapists. Why aren't therapists preventing their clients from committing massacres and suicides? It because therapists aren't routinely trained to teach them how to stop being bullied and rejected by their peers.

Why is research finding that bullying is going up in school and the home instead of going down? It may have something to do with the instruction that kids must tell adult authorities when they are bullied. It leads to traingulation, which intensifies hostilies while preventing the kids from figuring out how to solve their problem on their own.

An elementary school in Lincoln, Nebraska has ignited a media firestorm of hatred and ridicule against it by disseminating a version of my rules for dealing with bullying. The school is not at fault. All blame should be directed towards me. I stand behind these rules and actively encourage their use.

Unlearning Liberty: Campus Censorship and the End of American Debate, by Greg Lukianoff, is possibly the most important book you can read. It is essential for recognizing and reversing the insidious process that has infected our country. It is now available in a more affordable, soft cover edition.

Articles about bullied kids committing suicide routinely report that the school administration insists the suicide was not the result of bullying. Why do they deny the obvious? Perhaps it is a byproduct of our anti-bullying laws that hold schools legally responsible for the bullying among students.

About Resilience to Bullying

The woldwide movement to protect kids from bullying is failing. It weakens them emotionally, fosters helplessness and intensifies the bullying problem. This blog is dedicated to promoting resilience to bullying. When kids have the wisdom for dealing with bullying on their own, no one can bully them and they don't need everyone around them to protect them. They grow in self-confidence, self-esteem, maturity and popularity. And bullying decreases in society.