My parents lost the younger of their two sons and I lost my younger brother, Andy, earlier this week. In truth, we lost him a long long time ago. And even saying that we lost him earlier this week – that isn’t quite accurate – he died earlier this month, but we only learned of his death this past Tuesday.

That’s how it is when someone you love gives his or her life away; you never know what is going on with them until it is over or after it is far too late to offer help.