As an adult learning healthy relationship boundaries was extremely difficult growing up in an incestuous household. Many times I recreated this same 'no boundary' situation because I knew of no other way. Enmeshment equated to love back in those days.

Now at 56 (seems ancient but it's not) I understand and relish having healthy boundaries because it allows me to have intimacy with others. And allows me to love and be loved.

This is a far cry from where I began my journey.

My hats off to you for taking the leap of faith to tell your story and began your journey of truth finding and healing.

Jayy - brave step you took. i think you did the right thing. i wanted to suggest it but was afraid you were so dependent upon the living situation that it would either be impossible for you to do - or that you would find it too traumatic to leave one of the few sources of (admittedly mixed!) emotional support.

you are taking control of your life. that is such a good thing. keep growing!Lee

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"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

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