Anger can motivate us to
right wrongs, stand up for ourselves, and change the world. But
unrestrained anger can damage your health, strain your relationships
with family and friends, and blind you to consequences of rage-fueled
words and actions.

We
all get mad sometimes. Don’t let your anger get out of control,
though. Count to 10, and try some of these anger management tips:

Recognize
your stress. Anger is a symptom of stress, but often we react to the
symptom—a hurtful comment or a malfunctioning computer—instead of the
underlying cause (our fears or frustration). Pay attention to your mood
and physical symptoms—perhaps a clenched jaw or shortness of breath—so
you can direct your response appropriately, not at the nearest target.

Take
a time-out. If it’s at all possible, back away from stressful
situations before anger overwhelms you. Use the time to regain control
of your emotions: Breathe deeply, relax, and think through the
situation. Is this really worth getting upset over?

Adjust
your perspective. Before you explode at your co-worker or family
member, turn your point of view around. Did she mean to annoy you?
Does she have a legitimate point? A careless comment doesn’t have to
start a war.

Communicate
your feelings. No one can read your mind, and other people may not
realize how you feel or what you want from them. Explain your point of
view as calmly as you can, using “I” statements: “I got angry when you
__ because __” instead of making an accusation: “You never want to do
things my way!”