Oh, I don't know--I'm not sure I really care, but I checked that it was good for him to visit her grave---she was the mother of his children, she died young, yada yada yada--but I doubt he would go because he just doesn't seem to be one to dwell on the past too much, and he probably doesn't want to deal with the Earl. Personallly, as a second wife myself, I would not be terribly keen on my husband visiting his first wife's grave; it's weird. But, on the other hand I would want him to pay his respects because of their children. But, I wouldn't want him out there more than once. It gets a little creepy after that. Charles may talk to plants, but I don't think he's going to talk to dead people.
My main concern is whether or not the boys visit--we don't know their relationship with their uncle, but I hope it is good enough for them to be able to go to Althorp whenver they want.

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too much time has passed,for him to visit her.he has been near her many times on duty and never has he gone to diana,shows you,he does not know how to love or say sorry.do not like the guy one bit.

How interesting, that you know about every step Charles does and about all the feelings he has. Maybe you can tell us your source?

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And you know this how???? It would I think be most unusual in any case, for a divorced person to visit the grave of an ex, and in the end, that is what she was, an ex.

IMO, Prince Charles would look rather foolish to care more about visiting her grave than minding what's left from her : William and Harry. Her soul is no longer here nor underground in Althorp's island. Although, I don't think it's unusual to pay visit to the grave of an ex. For me, it's natural ...

I think It's a good idea for Prince Charles to visit Princess Diana's grave because he probably misses her in his way and that he's the father of her two sons. He can visit her grave whatever he wants and I am sure he brought Princes William and Harry with him to visit the grave. I think that's important for the boys to know their father still cares and misses their mother.

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I don't know nor do I care. If he did wouldn't he have to deal with the earl? I'm sure that any visit from Charles would not go unnoticed or unannounced by him. If I were Charles and did want to visit, I'd take the lesser of the two evils and not go.

I do not see any former spouse visiting the grave of the deceased person more than once--and that once should be at the funeral-which Charles attended. It just seems a little inconceivable that Charles, as suggested by various posters, would just go to visit her grave whenever he feels like it--because, frankly, I do doubt that he he would 'feel like" going to visit his ex-wife's grave. And, I highly doubt that Camilla would be alright with such a morbid expression.
I am sure Charles has been to the grave since the burial--probably to take the boys before they were old enough to drive. Now, as they can take themselves and have been able to for some time, I highly doubt that the PoW has been since then.
So, the answer, for me is, yes, it was appropriate for him to visit. One, at the time of the funeral and also to take the boys before they were able to go on their on. But, not that they can go on their own--no, it is not appropriate.

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I do not see any former spouse visiting the grave of the deceased person more than once--and that once should be at the funeral-which Charles attended. It just seems a little inconceivable that Charles, as suggested by various posters, would just go to visit her grave whenever he feels like it--because, frankly, I do doubt that he he would 'feel like" going to visit his ex-wife's grave. And, I highly doubt that Camilla would be alright with such a morbid expression.
I am sure Charles has been to the grave since the burial--probably to take the boys before they were old enough to drive. Now, as they can take themselves and have been able to for some time, I highly doubt that the PoW has been since then.
So, the answer, for me is, yes, it was appropriate for him to visit. One, at the time of the funeral and also to take the boys before they were able to go on their on. But, not that they can go on their own--no, it is not appropriate.

If Charles decided to visit Princess Diana's grave once every month then thats a bit odd. But if he visited the grave on the anniversary then it seems okay. IMO I think he loved her, of course not the way he loved Camilla.

But in the end as TheTruth so eloquently put it, Diana is not there she is in a place where I doubt she's worrying about who is visiting her grave or not.
The poem that Skydragon posted is a great example of that.

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Although, I don't think it's unusual to pay visit to the grave of an ex. For me, it's natural ...

I have many friends who are divorced, some amicably, some acrimonious, (because he/she found other loves) and not one expressed a desire to visit their ex wife/husbands grave.

Apart from the ones who wanted to dance on or at least weigh it down!

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to be honest, I'm kind of surprised at the reaction of visiting graves on here. People I know usually go at holidays to loved ones who have passed as a sign of respect, to place flowers at least.

I don't think most Brits have that outlook. You may visit the grave of a loved one regularly to start with, but times move on. I can't remember the last time I visited my first husbands grave, my son is a different matter, although that is not a yearly event.

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It just seems a little inconceivable that Charles, as suggested by various posters, would just go to visit her grave whenever he feels like it--because, frankly, I do doubt that he he would 'feel like" going to visit his ex-wife's grave.

I agree, Charles and Diana had moved on with their lives at the time of her death, she hadn't been a part of him living his life long before the divorce, nor he hers.