Much of my life I did not think about gender issues. I took to heart the teaching in school that all are created equal. At some point after reuniting with family from Viet Nam and getting married, I discovered I didn’t share the traditional values of any of my families with respect to the role of a female in society. These included the belief that girls are not as valuable as boys; the belief that women should be “inside” taking care of the home versus “outside” making sense of and dealing with the world; and the belief that women are weak and …