Neil Strauss: Approaching Women

Learn How To Approach Women From The No. 1 Pro

We've teamed up with Neil Strauss, author of the New York Times bestselling books The Game and Rules of the Game, to give away a limited number of exclusive downloads of his new iPhone app, A BETTER MAN. The app will give you real-time missions that challenge you to talk to women and transform you into a confident, better man who doesn’t think twice about approaching women. As you progress through the app, the missions become increasingly difficult, with each new completed level unlocking new achievements — opening up new levels and bonus materials in the form of audio/video lessons from Neil and expanded tips. So the real question is: What are some guidelines to follow when approaching women?If you want to win, email editorial@askmen.com. The app winners will be chosen at random.Whether you're the lucky winner of the app or are just curious, here are some pointers from us at AskMen.

Approach her no matter what

If you approach, you win — no matter what happens. Most guys are too focused and concerned about a conversation going well and walking away with a phone number. This is a big mistake. Look at it this way: As long as you open your mouth and say something — anything at all — you're doing what 95% of guys can only dream about. Congratulate yourself the instant you start the conversation — after all, you're already a cut above the rest. Once you've made this initial verbal contact, relax and enjoy the chat with her.

Focus on how you'll feel if you don't talk to her

One reason you hesitate to start talking to her is because it feels uncomfortable to take the leap. But the fact is, it's more uncomfortable not to. Think about it: If you approach her, you may be nervous at first, but before you know it, the conversation is over. And if you don't approach her, you'll wish you had, and you'll carry that regret with you for the rest of the day. Save yourself the agony and go talk to her.

Don't put undue pressure on yourself

When most guys see a woman they'd like to meet, they immediately view her as a potential date,which creates all sorts of pressure. Instead, look at the next woman you meet as an opportunity to work on your "skills." This "mindset shift" helps you to be less attached to the outcome, in turn, making you more relaxed and more likely to start the conversation. Don't forget: You also improve the chances of it turning out to be a fun experience for everyone.Good Luck! And remember, if you want to win Neil Strauss’ app download, A BETTER MAN, email editorial@askmen.com. The app winners will be chosen at random.