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Sunday, March 15, 2015

Celebrating Women's day---------The Irony

“6 year old inserted with a 4 foot rod in her
private parts by a 25 year old assaulter in India”

And guess what day it was……it was the
day where we love to boost of us respecting feminine gender.

I don’t want to sound really harsh or
angry but I am. I shivered, I felt so
angry and tears started running down my eyes by just imagining that horrific
act. I seriously didn’t knew how to address this issue in a proper manner since
nothing ‘appropriate’ seem to work with this nation. For days I just kept curbing
my anger inside but I can’t anymore.

Now, many of you might argue that yea such
stuff is happening but we should keep a more optimistic outlook on life…..I
mean come one PEOPLE!!!!! Nations where girls of 10, 5 or even 3 aren’t safe
then how can you ever be optimistic about such situations?????? This whole fear of getting abducted or raped
God forbid has sucked the life out of girls and their parents. A common parent
is too afraid to let their girls explore and experience and the girls aren’t
been given a chance to live out their dreams. Street harassment teaches women
that they are prey and that it’s safer to stick with the herd. It’s sad but
true how women often feel unsafe in public unless they are in a group. You must
all have watched the video where a girl walked on the streets of New York, first
in western clothing and then in Hijab. It showed that nobody catcalled her while
she was in Hijab. I guarantee that if this video was made in Subcontinent (be
it Pakistan, India, Bangladesh etc) the girl undoubtedly would have been physically
and verbally harassed. I will state my reasons of it as well.

It’s easy for men to blame women’s
clothing being too provocative for them or their attitude being too racy.
On a certain level, I may agree that yes
one should dress appropriately keeping in mind the norms of the society we live
in but, I myself have witnessed Hijabi
and Niqabi women suffering from the same trauma. They wear the clothing to
follow the religious commandment + to protect themselves from lustful gazes but
is it proving of any use unless the men aren’t ready to stop preying on them?
They face the same level of molestation and trouble while walking down the
streets. So even where women are very modestly dressed and veiled, they still
face harassment and are the prey of harassers. Its basically more about the filthy mindset because men ready to even assult a child, won't be 'considering' her clothing much to be honest.

In the Holy Quran, Men are advised to
respect a women ‘before’ women were told to guard their modesty.

"Tell the
believing men that they should reduce/lower (يغضوا) their gaze/vision and guard their
private parts" Surah Nur 24:30

"Tell the
believing women that they should reduce/lower (يغضضن) their gaze/vision and guard their
private parts" Surah Nur 24:31

A point which adds weight to this
argument is that the term "ابصار (absaar)" translated as gaze/vision,
has also been used in the Qur'an to metaphorically refer to a person's inner
character and capabilities to grasp and respond to the outside world correctly,
rather than literally one's vision through the eyes. So, a man needs to lower his vision and keep
his heart clean from impurities every time he came across the female gender.

Countries where toddlers are being
raped, we can’t get away with the argument of outrageous clothing.

It all begins at home. I have even
seen families where a daughter is still considered inferior, a daughter-in-law
is treated as garbage and a mother is insulted by her own sons on provocation
of their grandmother. It’s time that females should start supporting each
other’s existence. Such behavior needs to be nipped in the bud at the initial
level.

Women themselves keep quiet about such
inhume behavior that they are victims off on a daily basis. I have asked girls
the reason and all of them said that they didn’t wanted any trouble. Many of
them even confessed that their parents or brothers would blame them some way or
another. This seriously is mad crazy!!

Reporting the crime, filing an FIR,
running a news about it 24/7 on TV or protesting on Social Media doesn’t seem
to work so what’s next? You….each and every one of you reading this should take
up this responsibility to RESPECT all females around you. Make them feel safe
in your presence. And especially to all the ladies reading this…SPEAK UP!!! You
need to tell that pervert that he is wrong. You need to be an inspiration so
stop looking for one and get ready to INSPIRE.

5 comments:

First, Women must be protected by law.Second, Women should get Free fighting lessons in school, by law, 4-5 times a week.Third, in the case that a woman hurt a rapist badly - She must be protected by law.---If the law protects women and allows free self-defense lessons then women could be more safe.---It's easy to stop attacker with a simple hit, but the law must protect the woman 100% in these cases