Hi hope to do ours this year. Its so important. Husb will be 50. Girls do we have quote life policies aswell do they need all that? I guess they do. My parents are vague whether theirs done/not done! A tricky topic to broach.

Sorry I should have mentioned, he's an adult child. I don't really care what he does with me when I'm gone, I'd leave that entirely up to him. Also I'd want anything I own, such as it is, to go to him. I was just wondering if he'd lose out on taxes in any way.

Madre its so important. Ive heard of some parents wanting to be buried at their birth place so its very important. My dad got sick ten years ago big panic for mam accounts/money etc. Madre yes you would prob need your wishes in writing.

for me making a will is so cheap and simple I don't see why everyone doesn't have one.

if not for yourself for those you leave behind.

we have one but we need it changed. We will change it soon. we had 2 kids when we made it but didn't name the kids just said children and any future children.

we had to be specific about my ds as he isn't dh's. So while I wanted to leave ds money or a house share directly his father could have access to it as a financial means to raise and educate ds. So I chose not too. So now if I die first and then Dh my son will have tax implications his half brothers won't.

Thanks. Cant force him though to disclose the details. Sometimes the older generation are set in their ways. I agree with another reply im leaving this to x no point it verbal need it written down. Next door to them bought their plots so i ask mam thats how it came up.

Also if you are appointing an executor make sure they are happy to do it. It's a shitty enough job having to gather all documents, value the persons assets, contact relevant banks or insurance company, sort grant of probate etc and if it's left to the solicitor to do by way of helping, then the solicitor may as well be the one appointed as they will charge enough for it either way.

Its a funny subject to bring up with elderly parents, my husband keeps fobbing me off about making a will but it's something I really want to get sorted in case one of us dies, which we will at some stage!

yes I know can you not get it written down and witnessed. my mother has one I haven't seen it but she said it states everything is to be divided equally between her 3 children. recently my mother gave me a list of things to do as my father wouldn't know these things, like her job gives a yr salary and she said he probably wouldn't know this, also any accounts, life assurance, what to do etc

My parents are exactly the same irishlas. My mother has told us things eg where she wants to be buried, who she's giving her jewelery to etc but unless it's written down, it's meaningless. My father is the same. Its ridiculous.

mary38 why are your parents so vague they should tell someone where the will is if they die and if they don't have it made it will only make it more complicated for the children to sort out the estate afterwards

hi mary38, I had one made up but it specifically mentioned one child that we had and we went on to have another and it didn't state any future children we may have, we also were not married when made and now are so I ripped it up. I need to get a new one done but will wait a year or 2 until family complete. we also had on the will about a family member minding the kids but I think as time has gone by id rather ask someone else. a will is important and the reason I done it was my friends husband died suddenly and hadn't one made and became complicated

Thanks i got the jokey comments from sister was i after the house. I told her no laughing matter if we havent clue their wishes. I feel my dad very guarded my mam doesnt know so i hope to ask him soon. You have to b careful how you approach it. In laws opposite its all sorted past while.

Get an appointment with a solicitor. They will go through it with you. Generally if married husband leaves all to wife and vice versa. The wording is pretty straightforward and takes into account funeral expenses. If there is anything specific to be left to someone else (jewellery etc) then that can be specified. Other than that you appoint an executor (can be the solicitor or family member or friend) and appoint guardian for the kids in case both of you die. You can always change things later.

We did ours a few years ago. Make sure you discuss it with whoever you name as guardians for your kids if, God forbid, you pass away. My parents don't have one and refuse to talk about it. Its ridiculous really but my siblings can argue between them if they want, I don't see my parents' death as a pension plan.

Broach it with them even in jest to get the conversation started. My mother died without making a will. Luckily she hadn't much to leave as everything is in dads name. Since then he has updated his. And as for yourselves get it done. Its a messy situation when things aren't clearly laid out for those left behind, especially in situations where one child may get more than the others if living at home or caring for a parent etc. And if you have young kids name a guardian for them in the event that yourself and your Dh died together - heaven forbid!!