1. Make her feel secure. Allow her to
feel the sakeena.
2. Greet her with “As-salaamu-alaikum
wa rahmatullah” – this will keep the
shaytan out of your home
3. Know your wife is fragile a vessel – take care of this vessel (i.e. treat her
in a gentle way)
4. Advice her in privacy and during a
loving, romantic and/or peaceful
atmosphere
5. Be generous to your wife 6. Give her your space/seat
7. Avoid anger – one way is to keep
wudhu at all times, another is to sit
down or lie down when angry
8. Looking good, smelling great
9. Dont be rigid or you may get be broken – be good and be flexible
10. Be a good listener
11. Say Yes to flattery, No to
arguments
12. Call your wife with the best of
names 13. Give her pleasant surprises
14. Preserve the tongue (i.e. don’t say
abusive words since some words take
years to wipe out)
15. Accept her shortcomings
16. Show her that you appreciate her 17. Encourage her to keep her kin
relationships, especially with her
mother and father
18. Pick topics of her interest during
conversations
19. Show that she is a wonderful wife in front of her relatives (and friends)
20. Give her gifts anytime
21. Get rid of the “rust” (routine of life)
once in a while
22. Think good of your wife
23. Overlook any small words or actions that you did not like (i.e. dont
save it in your memory)
24. Add a drop of patience every day.
Increase this patience during
pregnancy and monthly cycle
25. Expect and respect her jealousy 26. Be humble – know that her
success at home is your success
27. Dont make your friends happy in
lieu of your wife’s happiness
28. Help with housework
29. Dont try to force your wife to love your mother. Help her to respect your
mother and father and gradually the
love will come
30. Make her feel that she is an ‘ideal’
wife
31. Remember your wife in your du’a 32. Leave the past to Allah (SWT) i.e.
don’t dig up past issues.
33. Dont show that you are doing a
favor when you do something (e.g.
bring food home etc.). Know that Allah
(SWT) is the provider and your are only a courier
34. Treat the Shaytan (and not your
wife) as your enemy. e.g. when an
argument break out know that
present is you, your wife and shaytan.
35. Feed your wife with your hands – this is a blessing
36. Look at your wife as a “precious
pearl” – so protect her from the envy
of the shayateen
37. Show her your “pearls” (smiles) –
smiling is like giving a charity 38. Deal with the little things/problems
immediately before it becomes a big
issues
39. Dont’t be hard or harsh-hearted
40. Respect her thinking and thought
41. Help her to dig within herself to find success
42. Respect the boundries of the
intimate relationship
43. Help her take care of your children
44. Give her the gifts of the tongue
45. Sit down and eat meals together with your wife
46. Let her know when you are
travelling and the date and time you
are coming back (i.e. no surprises)
47. Don’t leave your home to avoid an
argument 48. Protect the secrecy and privacy of
your home – don’t share it with others
49. Encourage each other in
worshiping Allah (SWT) – e.g. prayers,
attend lectures, plan to hajj or umrah
trip together 50. Know her rights and treat it as
something that is engraved in your
heart and conscious
51. Live with them with kindness –
treat your wife with goodness in
prosperity and adversity 52. “Send a messenger” before any
intimite relationship (i.e. kissing and
sweet words)
53. Don’t share your family problems
with others (except when seeking
genuine islamic advice) 54. Show that you care for her health
55. Know that you have shortcoming
and are not always right
56. Share your happiness and sadness
with your wife
57. Have mercy on her weakness 58. Be the “comfortable chest” for her
and allow her to lean on you
59. Accept her “as-is”
60. Have a good intention (niyaah) for
your wife at all the times

1) Try to spend equal time with each of your 15 or so wives, favouritism leads to jealousy
2) Don't beat them unless you're sure they are guilty. If they genuinely did wrong, they will appreciate the beating and not resent you
3) Try not to conduct beheading of infidels in the house, especially right after they have cleaned
4) Don't go on about all the virgins you're looking forward to sleeping with in the afterlife
5) Let them remove their Burka for showers and such, they will appreciate it

1) Try to spend equal time with each of your 15 or so wives, favouritism leads to jealousy
2) Don't beat them unless you're sure they are guilty. If they genuinely did wrong, they will appreciate the beating and not resent you
3) Try not to conduct beheading of infidels in the house, especially right after they have cleaned
4) Don't go on about all the virgins you're looking forward to sleeping with in the afterlife
5) Let them remove their Burka for showers and such, they will appreciate it

1)seriously?

one is more than enough
2)only if i want my throat to be slit in the middle of the night.
3)thanks for that, i always had to bear a lot of grumbling about blood on floor.
4) i know this one but thanks

5) thats enlightening! I have always wondered how she looks or with whom am i living with.

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