Devaya, I don't have any advice other that that I think when a connection is there, despite your disinterest in seeking a relationship, it's worth acknowledging, and then giving it a little space to...

Just an extra fyi, possible kink, a friend of mine is in a similar situation, w/ a totally uninvolved bio-dad, and a very involved, live in bf who wants to adopt her son. Bio-dad has agreed, but the...