miscarriage @14 weeks?

hi ladies im new on here and just looking for some tlc :/ my hubby doesnt want to talk about it muchh and i just cant face any of my friends right now . im 14 weeks 3 days and am going to miscarry i went to a&e and was offered a d&c and decided to try and do this on my own in the privacy of my own home..the doctors dont know what went wrong and it makes me so sad that at my 10 week apt our little munchkin was very active and had a strong heartbeat </3 this is still so hard for me as ive had 4 miscarriages . i need some advice ladies what could i expect so far ive had cramping and my tummy feels very tight around my uterus , bleeding, and passing some clots about the size of a golf ball maybe a little smaller. my cervix hurts also is that because i may be fully dialated or what ive never miscarried this far along :/ thank you all for your support

Oh dear, I am so sorry you are going through this. I don't have very much advice but didn't want to leave your post unanswered. A close friend of mine has had several miscarriages and mostly has managed at home. I would say that if you are in severe pain or are worried then you still have the option of returning to the hospital.

Your DH is probably very upset, like you and is finding things difficult. I can understand that you don't want to face people - when you are feeling stronger you will find that they are all extremely kind and supportive, and many women will have been through similar or will know friends who have.

I hope someone with more knowledge will be along shortly to offer more help.

So sorry to read this marie. I hope you found the "tips for coping with the practicalities of miscarriage" thread. I had an mc at 14 weeks earlier this year. I had been on heparin (blood thinner) so there seemed to be a huge amount of blood loss, so I had to stay in hospital. I was left for about 12 hours with no medical input and eventually had medical management (some medication to speed things up). I felt I should have been offered this sooner. I also had huge blood clots but felt little pain.

I would recommend asking for medical advice as you need it (don't let them forget about you). I think it was better for me to be in hospital as I had problems passing the placenta and ended up having general anaethestic (not sure what procedure is called). Sounds like home is the best option for you, but do just call them if you need some advice. It is very hard to know exactly what to expect.