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So you might have experienced the terrible loss of a family member or a loved one! We offer our deepest sympathies to you personally in your time of sorrow. Below we offer some helpful techniques about how to handle grief.

First, though, it’s essential that you understand that you cannot “handle” or “manage” grief. It isn’t effective or healthy to try to find a shortcut or to manipulate grief. There are, however, more comfortable ways that will help you survive as the grieving process unfolds.

Go with the Flow

In the initial phases of your bereavement, don’t try to suppress it, to conceal it or deny it. The most effective thing is to let the grief wash over you, let it in and take you along for now. Surrender to the grief you are experiencing so as to find the right way to concur it. It’s only later that you are going to figure out strategies to put your grief aside in order to deal with the business of your job, living, financial issues, legal issues, and social life.

Don’t Grieve Alone

The funeral is over, guests from out of town have gone home, and friends and family seem to be getting back to their lives. Perhaps you are dismayed at that time to find that you’ve been left to handle your grief alone! Why does this occur? Where’s everybody when you need them? The fact is that the majority individuals, family and friends, aren’t comfortable with grief. They do not know what to say or how to help, so they simply stay away.

It’s not healthy to grieve alone. So try to find at least one friend or professional who does “get it”. You will need someone supportive who will stand by you as well as give you the chance to express your grief without telling you it is “time to move on”. You might find it helpful at that time in your grief to join a grief support group locally. This is really a unique type of therapy that a lot of people have reported it to be very helpful.

Be Kind and Gentle on Yourself

The greatest guidance on how to handle grief we are able to give you is this: be gentle and kind with yourself! Grief does take time and tons of effort. Regrettably, facing grief head-on is the only way through it. There aren’t any shortcuts or easy ways to deal with a healthy bereavement. That means you need to be patient and forgiving of yourself.