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Midtown-based therapist Kimberly Hershenson, who works with many high-functioning New Yorkers with substance issues, shares four warning signs.

You’re drinking to relieve stress

“Going to a substance to help yourself calm down is not a healthy way to cope,” Hershenson says. “If you’re stressed out about something, find another way to deal with it. Try exercise, yoga or some deep breathing.”

You drink alone

“People who don’t have drinking problems tend to drink socially,” Hershenson says. “When you’re drinking by yourself you’re doing it for some other reason … It could be to relax, or to numb something.”

You limit your drinking

Telling yourself that you’re only drinking during the weekend, or curbing the amount of alcohol you consume during a meal, could be a sign of a drinking problem. “Those who don’t have alcohol issues don’t have to think about limiting themselves,” Hershenson says.

You choose drinking over other responsibilities

If you skip a family event to enjoy a glass of wine, or your hangovers are causing you to miss deadlines at work, Hershenson says those are red flags.