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Month: September 2014

Time management schemes have become extremely popular in recent years… and with good cause. The ultimate potential benefit of such organizations is the ability to optimize how you pass your time in parliamentary procedure to draw out the best potential solutions in the shortest period of fourth dimension. Such systems do come with a cost, however, and that price is the time you must spend first learning and then defending the organization. Broadly talking, the more complex the organization, the more pricey it is to apply. The more time you spend managing your scheme, the less time you’ll spend reaping the rewards of increased productivity.

Let’s slip away all this complexity and get back to basics for a bit. What is time management? The essence of time management is the following:

Decide what to do

Do it.

These appear to be very simple steps at first glance. Even a kid can manage them. Yet, when we look at them through the lens of optimization, they become a lot more perplexed. In order to optimize these steps, we must concern ourselves with identifying the “right” or the “best” way to complete each step. We can easily pick up that some decision-action combinations produce more serious outcomes than others. Then our question becomes, “What is the best action to read right at once, and what is the best means to manage it?”

Resolving this question should be the chief aim behind any time management scheme. Yes, there are side benefits like getting organized, becoming more clear-headed, and cutting down tension. But ultimately these benefits all contribute to the decision-action operation. What will you do, and how will you manage it?

When I first studied time management, I found that most of the existing literature was focused on step 2. Thither was a great deal of emphasis on how to get things answered. This is a fine example for employees whose tasks are presented to them, but that’s an industrial age model, and it doesn’t suit knowledge workers today who bear a lot more freedom in picking out their projects and even their life histories. If step 1 is done incorrectly, and so it doesn’t matter how good you perform step 2. If you decide to do the wrong thing, it establishes no difference how well you manage it.

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Happiness research over the last decade has more or less concluded that we can in fact buy happiness, as long as it comes in the form of experience. The conclusion can be described thusly: spending money on things, no matter how elaborate, leaves us wanting more, while spending on experiences, especially with other people, yields long-term fulfillment. Good? Good.

Except maybe that conclusion isn’t quite good enough.

New research from researchers at San Francisco State University takes a wrecking ball to that neat dichotomy by suggesting that for many of us, spending money on experiences also leaves us wanting.

“Everyone has been told if you spend your money on life experiences, it will make you happier, but we found that isn’t always the case,” said Ryan Howell, an associate professor of psychology at SF State and co-author of the study. “Extremely material buyers, who represent about a third of the overall population, are sort of stuck. They’re not really happy with either purchase.”

The “extremely material buyers” Howell describes suffer a sort of fulfillment blindness about what purchases mesh well with their personalities and values. For these folks—and according to Howell they’re one in every three of us—buying experiences is really no more effective than buying things, because the experiences won’t accurately reflect who they are. In other words, no matter how they spend their money, they miss the mark of authentic “identify expression.”

Howell provides an example: “I’m a baseball fan. If you tell me, ‘Go spend money on a life experience,’ and I buy tickets to a baseball game, that would be authentic to who I am, and it will probably make me happy. On the other hand, I’m not a big museum guy. If I bought tickets to an art museum, I would be spending money on a life experience that seems like it would be the right choice, but because it’s not true to my personality, I’m not going to be any happier as a result.”
Howell and his team surveyed consumers with questions designed to discover what factors limit the happiness they should feel (according to previous studies) from spending money on experiences. They found that the heaviest consumers of material things felt the least happiness from experiential purchases.

“The results show it is not correct to say to everyone, ‘If you spend money on life experiences you’ll be happier,’ because you need to take into account the values of the buyer,” said Jia Wei Zhang, the lead author of the study and a graduate student at the University of California, Berkeley who conducted the research with Howell while an undergraduate at SF State.

So what’s the solution? According to the researchers, it’s all about directing our purchasing power toward experiences that jibe with who we think we are. Spending on experiences that others say are universally edifying (i.e. museums and art galleries)–but that don’t really mesh with our identities–is likely to leave us feeling just as empty as spending money on possessions that lose their novelty minutes after we buy them.

“There are a lot of reasons someone might buy something,” Howell said, “but if the reason is to maximize happiness, the best thing for that person to do is purchase a life experience that is in line with their personality.”

While I think this research adds a useful dimension to happiness studies, I’d like to know more about the effect of spending money on that which pushes the boundaries of our experience. Seems to me that someone who hasn’t traveled outside the U.S. could easily say, “I’m not a Europe sort of person,” but really have no idea what that statement means. Without taking a chance on new experiences, our “identity expression” might never expand beyond the comfortable, and limiting, life niches we carve out for ourselves.

A person who loves you truly will never let you go whatever the situation is. Of course that is true love. But here i’m telling you love a person is so easy. but the hard part of relationship is finding a suitable person for you and stay in love at any situation. be careful to give your heart to some one you love. because once you give, you are not only giving that person the right to love you back but also the power to hurt you… So its your responsible to choose and give your heart.

The long term success of any relationship depends upon sharing mutual interests and having compatible priorities. Having complementary approaches to work, family life and friends is important too. A love relationship is like the sea. Sometimes the sailing is smooth and other times it’s rough and stormy. So its your duty to handle your relationship at anytime.

Just because a couple looks good together or seem to enjoy one another’s company (perhaps on stage during a major tour) does not mean that they are on the same page behind closed doors. If one person values their work more than the relationship, or one person wants to start a family and the other does not, you are headed for a rocky road. Once you’re in a committed relationship it’s best to discuss these things early on so you can get on the same page and make sure you have shared values.