Priorities

by Joshua
(Huntington, WV)

“Don’t make someone a priority in your life, when you are just an option in theirs”. I don’t know who said these pearls of wisdom but, these words are one of the most valuable pieces of advice I have ever heard. It says volumes about relationships and their values.

Often, we consider those people as indispensable that actually should not even be a part of our lives in the first place. They pick out our weaknesses and build on that. Time passes by and we find ourselves trapped in a vicious and never-ending cycle of give and take where the giving is much more on our end. Sacrifices, compromises and tolerance are not the only things that make or build a relationship. Priority, love and respect are equally important, if not more.

Relationships that are not built on mutual feelings usually end up badly. One-sided love or relations can only last for a while. The fire has to burn equally on both sides, in order to keep burning for a long time. Similarly, if negative feelings like insecurity, jealousy, resentment and anger are a dominant part of one partner’s life, the pessimistic and depressing feelings are bound to trickle down to the other partner and will definitely affect the over-all relationship in a bad way.

So, no matter how much you love someone, always analyze their feelings for you, too. It’s a safer bet to give up on love early in the day, than to find out years later that you were made a fool of all this time. By then, the water’s under the bridge and only thing that you can grasp is regret and resentment.

‘If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, its yours, if it doesn’t, it never was’. This is an old saying, but is a continuation of the one I quoted earlier. What I mean to say is that you can never keep someone together by force. Love is the binding force and it has to be present powerfully to play its role.