A Letter To The Girl Who Was Cheated On By Her "Soulmate"

I heard you've been going through some pretty tough times lately. He left you, didn't he? The guy you grew to love and trust so dearly, chose to betray you and stomp your heart into the ground. The love you had for him was deeper than any ocean and stronger than the most potent of drugs, wasn't it?

You saw your entire future built around him. You never once thought he would ever do this to you, he was your version of perfection. You placed your heart in his hands and trusted him to never drop it. He did his job for a long time, but then one day he became complacent, or maybe careless, and he let his eyes wander astray.

He dropped your heart and stepped on it while chasing someones else. He broke you. I see how your attitude has changed. You've lost your will to live and the ability to see the good in your life; you've never felt so alone before.

It's not hard to see how miserable you've become. The sadness, confusion, self-loathing, and loneliness has consumed your entire existence; you don't think you'll ever be the same again, do you?

Every night, as you fight back tears, you pray to God that he will return to your side and awaken you from the nightmare. But deep down inside yourself, you know he is never coming back. He made that choice the moment he let his eyes wander. He's left you wondering why you weren't good enough, wondering what it was that you did wrong.

Don't you dare blame yourself for his choices, don't you dare give him that kind of power over you.

The hardest part in all of this is the fact that no matter how badly you want to hate him for this, you will always forgive him in the end. However, don't let anyone tell you that this is a bad thing. The ability to forgive him will help you move on. Forgive him, but never forget what he chose to do to you.

Right now, this is the time for you to keep to yourself and take a mental and emotional break. Go ahead and cry, be sad, and let all the negativity out. It's okay to not be okay.

Time will heal the wounds he left you with. How much time it takes is completely up to you. Maybe you'll begin to let go tomorrow, or maybe it'll take a few years. Have patience and keep an open mind, and I promise that this situation will get better.

Nobody ever expects to have their trust violated by a loved one, so I'm sure that your willingness to love and trust again is next to zero, and that is perfectly okay right now. Since you can no longer give your love to him, give it to yourself instead.

You are not any less of a person because he cheated and left. You are still beautiful, strong-willed, intelligent, and filled with kindness. Besides, if you can love the person who hurt you this much, just imagine how much you will love the person who chooses to stand by you forever.

The game of love is the most difficult and complex for humans to win. All the stars must align perfectly for success to be found. While you may have lost faith in love, never lose faith in yourself.

Stay strong, you'll get through this. Just remember to never blame yourself, forgive, but never forget, take your time, and always love yourself.

Chin up, darling. There's a life beyond the one you pictured with him.

I started listening to Ariana Grande's new album "Thank You, Next" the morning after it came out. Although I've been leery of her in the past, I do have to admit that she put out some major bops. One song's title REALLY concerned me, though. After listening to the song "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored," I was even more disgusted.

Why is Grande pushing for the further destruction of today's dating scene?

Grande is basically singing about a guy she has a thing for and saying that he can "hit it" (ew, talk about classless) if he breaks up with his girlfriend. She even admits that it isn't right but she doesn't care. All because she's bored. Excuse me, WHAT?

This song just perpetuates everything that is wrong with dating and relationships in society today. People treat relationships like something they need to get out of the way instead of something to respect. Since when did a relationship become meaningless? If someone is in one, they are off limits regardless of your feelings. Period.

I can't tell you how many times I have heard conversations among both guys and girls talking about someone they like, mentioning they are in a relationship, then basically proceeding to do what they want anyway. That is the reason relationships today are 1. rare and 2. not working out like they used to. Sorry, but it's pathetic. You have no right to complain that you aren't in a relationship if that is the way you act toward other people's relationships.

People don't have boundaries these days. In my head, I always thought that if someone had a significant other, regardless of my feelings, that was endgame. I guess Ariana has different feelings? She needs to not perpetuate the BS attitude that millions of teenagers and adults already showcase. It only makes her look bad and makes others think that it is a common and appropriate mindset. Newsflash: It's not.

More like "break up with your girlfriend because I'm a whore." If that's the kind of attitude you have, stay away from me and my boyfriend because you're just a homewrecker. Sorry, not sorry.

Let's face it, my fellow millennials... dating is fucking hard. There are creeps, assholes, cheapskates, gold diggers, and there are people just looking to get into your pants and leave. It's a wild world out there in the dating pool, and I've asked 11 people to share with me their worst ever dates. Here's what they had to say...

1. Magen, 28

"I went to see a movie with this guy I was lukewarm about. He was excited about the movie and told me it looked really good. Turns out it's a horror film where the protagonists are all being murdered by a young woman/poltergeist that appears in photos before killing them. Then it turns out that everyone that died gang-raped and murdered the young woman. Then after the movie, he asked me to get in the back seat: No. Then he tried to make out with me: No. When I said I wanted to go home he drove in silence for the whole 20 minutes. A week later he messaged me that if I converted to Islam we could get married. So, basically, he was a psycho."

2. Emma, 20

"I once went over a guy's house for a second date with him. The first was two days before, and it was a blind date, so I didn't really know him well. When I got to his house, we went up to his room to watch 'Up.' His room was filthy. He had dirty socks, underwear, and clothes everywhere. His bed was unmade, too. I sat up and leaned against his headboard as he sat about a foot away from me, awkwardly leaning back on his elbows. After the movie was over, I made up an excuse to leave, saying I had to clean my house for my mom. He walked me to my car and kissed me out of nowhere. He then proceeded to ask me to officially be his girlfriend. I told him that we should go on more dates and see where it goes from there. I drove back to my house and when I got home, I texted him and told him I didn't see it going anywhere."

3. Emily, 25

"A guy asked me to lick his asshole in the middle of dinner."

4. Michael, 25

"I was walking up to a restaurant and just happened to walk past my date when she was snorting Xanax in her car. I turned right around and drove to Wendy's and got a Baconator."

5. Lily, 22

"On my first date with a guy, I drove him to Sonic. He flirted with the waitress and I had to pay for both of our meals because he was 'trying to be more careful with his money.'"

6. Anonymous, 23

"I met a man online to be my new sugar daddy. We only talked for a day and he wanted to meet at the mall. So the morning of I texted him where exactly and he told me to meet at a bar/restaurant. I show up in a t-shirt and white/gray floral workout leggings. We're making awkward small talk. He's telling me about the girls he tried to see before how they all ghosted him and he didn't know why. He was a very attractive man in a rich industry so I was excited to be pretty high on his list. Twenty-five mins into it, I have to use the bathroom. I was feeling crampy all day and knew my period was coming. I excuse myself to the bathroom and walk away. As soon as I get into the restroom, I look in the mirror and see a HUGE bloody stain on my ass. I'm EMBARRASSED. I try to dab as much blood out as possible and shove toilet paper in my underwear to use as a pad. I cover my butt with my sweatshirt and walk back to my seat. Luckily the seat was black so it didn't show but I could see a damp spot. He didn't notice I don't think but I needed to change so I suggested we walk around the mall. I tell him I'm gonna run to my car for something then meet back up with him. I found some black leggings in my trunk and change. I met up with him again and he noticed the change but didn't say anything. After we walked around we went back to his car and he gave me $100. He said he wanted to see me again a few days later. The day came to hang out and HE ghosted me."

7. Marilyn, 23

"A boy I met off Tinder took me to a generic, less nice, knock-off of Olive Garden, bought me dinner and then went and watched a movie with his parents. Leans over to me, whispers 'You should take my virginity because I bought you dinner.' His parents asked what he said because I made a weird face and then left."

8. Bree, 26

"I went to see a movie (the first 'Fantastic Beasts') and the guy spent the entire movie talking about how 'his woman' shouldn't work and how he wanted someone to service him. Not the previews. The actual movie itself. No second date, although he texted me every day for a month after."

9. Mia, 20

"I was 15 and I met this guy and we went to a play and then to get dessert. Since neither of us could drive my parents dropped him off at his house after dessert and he kissed me on the forehead and said I love you as he left the car IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS. I had met him like once before."

10. Annie, 21

"We went to see 'Mission Impossible: Fall Out.' He didn't like it, so we left 20 minutes into the movie. We went to go get food (Bonbon Sushi), he made fun of my order, spent the entire date making weird jokes that were definitely not 'first date' type jokes (ex. 'I can tell you're gonna be a handful, figuratively and literally'), told me I was too nice (in a bad way), and that he was mean. I said I don't really like mean, even if it's just joking. He drove me home, asked me to RATE THE DATE (WTF). I said, 'I don't know, I don't really want to do that.' He said, 'Well, I'm asking you to be honest.' I said, 'okay...well...I guess a seven then.' I was being generous. He said, 'Seven?! What could I have done better?' I said, 'Honestly, primarily just being nicer. It's a first date, don't you want to put your best foot forward?' He laughed in my face, said, 'Well, this isn't going to work out then,' and DROVE AWAY! I thought, 'well, at least he knows it wasn't a good date.' Two days later, he texts me asking for a second date..."

11. Ash, 21

"We were friends and then started dating. The relationship was really short-lived and ended up being pretty crappy, but he talked for like a week about wanting to take me out for burgers at a nearby diner and then 'forgot' his card at home. I ended up paying, and he promised he would pay for the next date. Then ghosted me for a week, and when I confronted him about it, he ended up dumping me in front of my dorm building."