Outsider perspectives please?

Have met guy OD, nice profile, upfront about kind of thing he's looking for which by happy coincidence is what I want too (no in your face, living in each other's pocket stuff but a ultimately a relationship with the right person).

Been out once, got on well, arranged to meet again this weekend. We don't live near each other (I like that) I'm going to his part of the world this time. So then I notice he phones more than I thought someone who is casually dating (at this stage) would do. Then he offers to put me up for the night this weekend (in the spare room, all sounds quite ok) so we can do something on Sunday (is that too much time together for a second date or is it me). Then tonight he phones 3 times in the space of an hour. I phone him back when I finish what I'm doing (because I have a life) and he tells me about his divorce and by the way he's a bankrupt. And his barrister was a "feminist bitch" (which he then apologises for saying).

I've told him I'm not staying the night because I don't know him and it's far too soon for that, innocent or not. He's cool.

So - I should be mildly/somewhat/very cautious. At the very least I'm disappointed he used such disparaging language about a woman, and I'm that he's a bankrupt by choice but is solvent now.

I would be walking steadily in the other direction. Not simply for the 'feminist bitch' remark, which is appalling, but because he's dumping a lot of personal stuff on you far too early and he's crowding you with the phone-calls and invitations to stay over. There's enthusiasm and then there's being pushy....

...red bunting all around with RUN spelled out over and over. (If I knew how to adapt the cunt bunting, I would).

Far, far too many needy phone calls.

Pushing you to stay overnight already? No he just wants a shag out of this, and that's what he meant by 'not living in each other's pockets' and he might well have other relationships on the go as well. yes, too much time to spend together on first date. Men who are trying to build towards anything worthwhile like you to retain an air of mystery - on your terms, not theirs.

He calls his own barrister a feminist bitch? What kind of a person hires a barrister he then doesn't trust, what kind of man has that low a view of feminists and what kind of man would use a word like bitch to someone even before the first date? (Assuming you haven't both been swearing like navvies on the first date.)

Mentioning bankruptcy? No, far too soon to go there! Is he just trying to get you to pay for the date?

You have a life. It sounds as if it is far better without this knob being involved in it.