QuoteMine:

I have seen the future of politics, brethren, and it is a bunch of bloviating faggots muttering racist epithets under their breath at their unsatisfying office jobs, before scurrying off to Twitter to totally trigger those shitlib sjws with their top kek shitlord pepe memes. This will push the Overton window right and the norms will get redpilled to the (((Dumbocrat))) debauchery. There will be an uprising, and when the last evil liberal news anchor is lynched with the payots of the last carnivorous Jew, we will finally have a white utopia where spergy men can get Hitler Youth haircuts and LARP at being saracens or muay thai captains of industry until their hearts are content, and the sexually adventurous virgin 9/10 thin blondes with big titties and wide hips who bang like shithouse doors in the wind and cook like six Gordon Ramseys will be impressed, rather than sniggering and falling into the arms of Demetrious or Le'Marquess like they do just now. #signalboost #pizzagate #iassureyouitsrelaxedmuscle

Author
Topic: The Soyboy Collective (Read 14585 times)

I've been in a few long term relationships. The longest was about 11 years. Sex never got boring. I don't understand people who say that sex got boring in their relationship. I think it is indicative of other problems. If you don't like someone, you're not going to enjoy intimacy with that person. That's just human nature.

It's not a length of time issue. It's having kids. It's hard to muster up the energy to get laid an hour after you spent the day's mental energy on all of the little tasks that go into making sure that your kids one day become functioning members of society.

ProTip - If you are seeking any kind of counseling, make sure they have a PhD in psychology. Most "marriage counselors" have a two year Masters in education, sociology or school psychology, which for some reason checks the block.

Kids do make it tough. We kept the first one's crib in our bedroom, for the first year. Now we're doing the same with the 2nd one who is a lot more gassy. Good luck maintaining focus when you hear your little infant let out a fart that's just as loud as yours. Plus, any mother worth a shit is gonna get distracted by any cough, sneeze or thud.

Not so many years ago, married men had the freedom to live by one set of rules away from home, and a different set at the hearth. Because they held the power to distribute resources however they wished, they could decide what and when to share them. As women have become legitimate wage earners with more powerful voices, they have challenged their chosen partners to participate in a whole new kind of connection that does not accept automatic hierarchy.

In the last few decades women have slowly driven their point home. The millennial men, who are their current counterparts, are freer thinkers and they have responded in kind in their relationships as well. These men like their women strong and feisty, and have willingly accepted the responsibility to connect in a more vulnerable way. They get it that it’s sexy to help make a meal or take the kids away on a Sunday morning so their wives can sleep in. They are the androgynous guys that their women have asked them to become.

You would think that the women in these new relationships would be ecstatic. They’ve got a guy who wants to work out together, share parenting, support their parallel dreams, and make their family collective central to both of their lives. They’ve established an equal relationship of coordinated teamwork, and the guys don’t seem to miss their old need to posture for power over intimate connections.

Well, guess again. Fifty percent of marriages are still ending in divorce, and women continue to be the gender that initiates those endings. In the past, their reasons for leaving most often had to do with infidelity, neglect, or abuse. Now they’re dumping men who are faithful, attentive, and respectful, the very men they said they have always wanted. Why would women who have accomplished the female dream suddenly not be satisfied with it? Why are they leaving these ideal guys, and for what reasons?

I am currently dealing with several of these great husbands. They are, across the board, respectful, quality, caring, devoted, cherishing, authentic, and supportive guys whose wives have left them for a different kind of man. These once-beloved men make a living, love their kids, help with chores, support aging parents, and support their mate’s desires and interests. They believe they’ve done everything right. They are devastated, confused, disoriented, and heartsick. In a tragic way, they startlingly resemble the disheartened women of the past who were left behind by men who “just wanted something new.”

You may think that these women are ruthless and inconsiderate. Those I know are far from that. More often, they still love their husbands as much as they ever did, but in a different way. They tell me how wonderful their men are and how much they respect them. They just don’t want to be married to them anymore.

Perhaps it would be even more honest to say that they don’t want to be yoked to anyone any more. At least in the traditional ways they once embraced as ideal. They feel compassion for their prior mates, but liberated in their new-found right to create a different way of feeling in relationships. In short, they want to live their lives with the privileges men once had.

I think I understand what is going on.

In the last twenty years, as women have found their voices and value, they have been asking more equality in their relationships. They were ready to take leadership and to disconnect from dependency. In exchange, they wanted their men to adopt nurturing and vulnerable characteristics. At first, there was an expected backlash. “Men are from Mars” and other media presentations became the cry for holding on to the differences between men and women and to keep them from blending.

Nevertheless, it became more and more apparent that quality people of both genders would be happier and more fulfilled if they could combine power and nurturing. Men would develop their feminine side and women their masculine. No longer would it be that the bad boys were sexy and the good women were virtuous. Now quality men needed to add chivalry to their power, and women to claim their ability for independent thinking and leadership. They could imagine a relationship where both were equally blended and free to be the best they could be. “She” and “he” became the new idealized “we.”

[[[STDH LIES BELOW \/ \/ \/ ]]]]As the trend picked up energy, more of the die-hard “men’s men” started to see that the androgynous males were stealing the great girls from under their hard-core posturing, and began to wonder if their “take-no-prisoners” attitude might benefit from a little revising. [[[STDH LIES ABOVE ^^^]]]

Women saw their newly developed mates as their best friends, so wonderfully malleable they could take them anywhere and know they would fit in. Men no longer had to “understand and handle” their women, nor did women have to orchestrate “connection.”

Then things started to go awry. Perhaps these androgynous couples over-valued adopting the same behaviors in their relationship. Maybe the men got too nice and the women a little too challenging. Oddly, the androgynous men seemed to like their new-found emotional availability, while the women began to feel more unfulfilled. Her “perfect” partner, in the process of reclaiming his full emotional expressiveness, somehow ended up paying an unfair price; he was no longer able to command the hierarchical respect from her that was once his inalienable right.

How can a man be a caretaker and a warrior at the same time? How can he serve his woman’s need for a partner who is vulnerable, open, and intimate, while donning armor to fight the dangers that threaten his family and place in the world? How can he stand up and be a man amongst men, loyal to the hunting band that covers his back, while taking the night feeding, while not appearing less than a man? Did he blend his male energy with his female side, or did he learn to be more like a female at the price of his innate masculinity?

The women I have treated who have left their husbands for more “masculine” men believed that their new relationships would be able to both excite and nurture them. Sadly, that has not always happened. The veritable saint with balls is as elusive as ever.

When things haven’t worked out as they thought they would, several of the women I am now working with are re-thinking their decisions, wondering if they left too soon, or for the wrong reasons. They want to reconcile with the men they have left behind. Their husbands are torn between the understandable desire to reject them and still wanting them back. Ironically, because these have nurtured the feminine side of their natures, they are also able to forgive in a way few men have been able to do in the past.

But because they have no interest in returning to the “bad boy” mentality their competitors brandished, they are faced with a challenge most men have never had to confront. How do they hold on to their vulnerability and capacity to nurture, and blend it with the strength and power required of a self-respecting leader of men?

None of my reuniting couples ever want to lose each other again. They’ve left the old ways behind and know that going back to what was will not work anymore. They intensely want to create a new kind of connection that blends the beauty of traditional roles with the freedom to move between them, and to blend the best of the past with an as-yet-unwritten future.

It must be a parallel path. Both men and women must separately find their own balance between their need for independence and their desire for ongoing commitment. As integrated individuals in their own right, they would then have the capacity to create a relationship that is more than the exchange or sum of the parts. Committed partners who are willing to fight for that innovative solution will find the way.

I've never made any sense or been able to gather any coherency out of anything written or said by a marriage counselor. No, I have never received marriage counseling. I have talked to a few at parties and read articles like this and can only imagine trying to fix your relationship through marriage counseling must be like trying to kick water up stairs. It just doesn't work.

Fucking lol definately another childless, walking womb of poison.

That's actually not a bad article to be honest. It encompasses a lot of the problems with modern relationships from the perspective of both sexes though it ignores how technology has made the old style marriage where the husband works and the wife spends all of her day taking care of the house impossible since you don't need much time at all to do household shit.

The conclusions in the article are not bad. Both people must find a balance of their characteristics to make a relationship work in the modern world. Since dual income families are the norm now as living on one income is often impossible if you don't want to live in a fucking ghetto, this balance is a necessity. It makes relationships significantly more difficult than they used to be as both sexes have to take on roles they did not used to do.

It's not a length of time issue. It's having kids. It's hard to muster up the energy to get laid an hour after you spent the day's mental energy on all of the little tasks that go into making sure that your kids one day become functioning members of society.

Yep and if you both work, it's even tougher since you may just want to relax at the end of the day after the kids go to bed. It's easy as hell to fall into a rut with kids. This is where it is up to men to take the lead and initiate because it's unlikely to happen otherwise.

The Conservatives have a slogan which I think is despicable and defeatist: "It's better to be dead than red." And the Commies and Liberals have a slogan which is even worse, it's treason, they say: "It's better to be red than dead." We say this: "You don't have to be Red and you don't have to be Dead. Not dead. Not Red. Dead Reds"

When author Kamila Shamsie challenged the book industry to publish only women in 2018 to help address a gender imbalance in literature, just one publisher took up the challenge - the Sheffield-based company And Other Stories.

It was almost three years ago that Shamsie suggested "a concerted campaign to redress the inequality" in publishing.

I thought it was two women in that picture but on closer inspection one of them is a man? I don't think that guy has any more testosterone left in his body, the soy has taken care of that.

Logged

But I do often point out that I write both science fiction and fantasy. It’s just that the science fiction is usually titled ‘technical proposal’ and the fantasy is titled ‘budget proposal.’

His ladyfriend/beard/gal pal starts rolling backwards down the slope. Too bad his muscles have atrophied due to soy and communism and like the great big wussy that he is, he stands and stares at her as she crashes in the dirt.

I'm sure some of our Captains of Industry will sneer that she got what she deserved, but I argue that this pitiful wimp failed in his duty as a man that day to *make an effort*. He had ample time to grab hold of the wheelchair and prevent her potential injury.

The rest of the video is her vlog for that day as they pal around and you can watch him perform some feeble bmx stunts later in the video.