42% of fathers felt they were not able to spend enough time with their children

About two in five men fear that asking for flexible working arrangements would result in their commitment to their job being questioned.

“…employers think of women as a potential burden because they worry they will want flexible conditions. It will be helpful for women…once men are also seen as likely to demand flexible working.”

I guess it’s good for formal research to be completed and a report published on what I feel is something most men and women probably already knew. I know that my husband struggles with being a working dad just as much as I do with being a working mom. Of course he wants to spend more time with baby girl. And of course he has a hard time with balancing it all. He often works with me on planning our evening schedules and household calendar to try to manage all aspects of our daily lives.

Is this news to you or does this just confirm what you already knew? Let me know in the comments what you think of the article, the report, or just working dads in general.

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I would say it’s a confirmation and its a growing global trend. I’ve seen this juggle leaves fathers stressed and enormously guilty of missing out on their chidlren’s lives (especially in the formative years). While mothers generally get sympathetic and understanding response to flexi hours, in fathers it is still looked upon as an anomaly. A friend of mine once remarked rather ruefully that from 50% contribution at the time of conception his share in ‘child development’ had fallen down to a mere 10%! He was more upset about the assumption people made that this is would be his natural choice! So in all fairness, it’s time for us to extend the same understanding and the right to choose to fathers as well!

@Melanie (Modern Mami), The good news is that people have already started recognizing it. The bad news is that it might take time for something to get done! So it helps when you write and get people to talk about it. The germ propagates!!

I’m a single mom and have so many single dad friends. The main difference is that for most of them there is joint custody, and I have sole custody of Little Man – and no financial or childcare help. I’ve known stay-at-home-dads and was raised by a single working mother. I guess I’ve never really thought of the issues as being mom/dad ones, just working/home issues (or “trying to do both with no money” issues if you’re a single parent)