Ellen DeGeneres is a lovable and wonderful human being. You can’t help but smile when you watch her. Is it her impeccable hair? Her smile? Her charisma? Those help, but it’s simpler than that: she tells funny, endearing jokes that make people instantly like her. Let’s break down what they are.

Comedy covers a broad range of styles. What one person finds funny may not be funny to someone else, but we can all agree that being the butt of a harsh joke isn’t cool. This is the first thing Charisma on Command points out that Degeneres does well: she tells jokes that don’t hurt anyone. Instead, DeGeneres often makes herself the butt of her jokes. Her other two types of jokes are ones that innocently poke fun and boost someone’s ego. In other words, she is a master at crafting jokes that avoid preying on insecurities and prop up a person’s ego and good qualities. These all easily make people like her.

According to the video, this all good-natured fun comes naturally to DeGeneres because she spends her day having fun, even while she’s working. For you, inject more fun into your day by finding a simple ritual (take DeGeneres’ pre-show “mint toss”, for example), expressing yourself by moving your body more, and finding a way to incorporate fun games into your interactions. Check out the video for the full details.