Miranda and Rebecca, I am so sorry the two of you are so bitter to someone you don't even know. I live in a community property state, I am entitled to half of his pension accrued during our marriage which is significantly more than I am asking for. I am quite able to pay my bills, however we moved here for his job and if I am not with him, I have no reason to be here.You two should join an anger management group

That the poster also wants him to keep her on his health insurance. I guess he needs to provide her medical insurance forever too after a three year marriage. Once the divorce is final you have no insurance.

I'm sorry if you interpreted "honesty" as bitterness. You couldn't be farther from the truth.

You are opting out of a contract and expect the other party to financially support your choice. I don't blame him for saying no. Hence my initial response of "try your luck in court." And Miranda's correct....living in a "community property state" does not automatically qualify you for a personal windfall. In my opinion, 3 years is nothing, in the land of marriage....and a judge may well agree.

What do I have to be bitter about? My ex got nothing and I was the bread winner!! I am just informing you that you are seriously grasping for straws. People and their ENTITLEMENT ISSUES tend to annoy me.

Well Miranda, let's talk about entitlement. 1. I left a good job to move here for my spouse's new job. Before we left, I was the major breadwinner. Because my field is specific, I was only able to find a job on a contract basis which means no benefits. I discussed this with my husband before moving here.2. I have split the bills with my husband equally since moving here even though he makes more than twice what I do.3. I have agreed to let him keep the house and not hold any claim to it.4. i have been diagnosed with a debilitating disease which will cost me over $1200 monthly if I do not have insurance.

Yes, I do believe I am "entitled" to the small amount that I am asking for. If you don't, that is fine, I did not write a personal letter to you; if you are annoyed, don't continue reading. I was just asking for advice and nothing else. Divorce is a hard enough thing to go to without people trying to berate you.

I apologize if you felt berated. That fact is that you had an extremely short term marriage and odds of you getting anything at all(besides a division of real property)is slim.

How long have you lived in OH? If there is any kind of equity in the house have him cash it out and you move home. You should also check into getting some kind of help (SSI/disability) from the state. Start the paperwork NOW because it could take months to complete.

Don't be fooled with the notion of "community property states". Every presumption can be argued and won with a slick talking attorney.