No worries. I think a lot of us had to go through some serious mindset changes when we first started this lifestyle. That's why PH is here, to help get your mind right. Also, I would recommend watching this talk by Gary Taubes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIGV9VOOtew I think he does a great job talking about why counting calories doesn't work, among other things.

It very well could be. I am brand spanking new, and successfully (I guess) did WW a few years back, but when I implemented working out, I had zero fuel, and left it, never to return.
But I am the cook in the house, I was more or less looking at how much I should be cooking.

+1 You should both eat till you are satisfied. The question makes it sound like you are still in calorie counting mode--stop it! Counting calories only ends up with you being in starvation mode. There's a reason reduced calorie diets don't work--they causes your body to lower its metabolism, make you hungrier, and hang on to every fat molecule for dear life. It may sound counter intuitive, but eating plenty of food frees you body up to reduce your weight by decreasing your appetite. In the long run, you can't force a reduction of calories on your body; your body has to decide it's time.

No worries. I think a lot of us had to go through some serious mindset changes when we first started this lifestyle. That's why PH is here, to help get your mind right. Also, I would recommend watching this talk by Gary Taubes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIGV9VOOtew I think he does a great job talking about why counting calories doesn't work, among other things.

+1 You should both eat till you are satisfied. The question makes it sound like you are still in calorie counting mode--stop it! Counting calories only ends up with you being in starvation mode. There's a reason reduced calorie diets don't work--they causes your body to lower its metabolism, make you hungrier, and hang on to every fat molecule for dear life. It may sound counter intuitive, but eating plenty of food frees you body up to reduce your weight by decreasing your appetite. In the long run, you can't force a reduction of calories on your body; your body has to decide it's time.

I am 135 and my husband is 250. I usually eat twice what he eats so that isn't necessarily applicable in every situation. I can't explain why it is the way it is (better metabolism, bigger stomach capacity, he had secret gastric bypass?) but it just works out that way.