So the other day was playing a course with a lot of water hazards. The group in front of us had a guy botch his drive off the tee and it goes straight into the middle of the lake. We play the same hole after, I over throw my putt and my disc goes right on the edge of the water (thankfully not in). So I hike down to the water area (I snagged my disc at the south end of the lake, he threw his in right in the middle), retrieve my disc and play on. It just happened that the disc that guy lost was white, and the disc I almost lost was white.

Long story short, I think he saw me hike down to recover my white disc and thought it was his. He approaches us and asks if we saw his white disc, after we say no sorry he continues to ask if we were sure, at least five times, then eventually gives up and mumbles "alright whatever" and flails his arms.

There's some nonsense drama and confrontation between our two groups the rest of the game and eventually we just offer for them to check our bags if they don't trust us, but they decline and try to turn it on us that it's rude to think that we thought he accused us. Not to mention they began writing their name and numbers, mid-game, on all the rest of their discs right after it happened...so even more suggestive, at least IMO.

Who do you guys feel is in the right? How do you guys deal with dumb things like this when they happen? I know a name and number on a disc would have solved things, but they refused to check our bags anyways.

Thinking about it now, if it were to happen again when he would start continuously asking if we were sure if we saw it I would just respond "look if you don't trust me then don't ask for my help" and leave it at that.

I don't care what others think. I know i didn't do anything wrong so they can pound sand as far as i'm concerned. Life is full of a-holes. Learning to deal with them is an important facet of living. My job teaches me a lot about dealing with them, so on the golf course is cakewalk.

You show him the white disc you retrieved from the water(hopefully with your name on it) and all should be good.

I am with Captain here. A good natured attitude, a quick condolence for his lost disc, whipping that putter of yours out and letting him know it is yours, all solve this issue. Sounds like you got too bunched up at the accusation. I have had this happen both ways. Saw a guy pick up and toss the same colored, brand midrange I had just lost in an area. I was convinced I saw my disc, again a friendly approach, humble inquiry, and apology for asking made the situation bearable. We are all brothers of the disc, even chuckers. Be an ambassador, man.

We offered them to check our bags but they declined. I should have just shown the white disc anyways. I didn't have my name on it (it will now after that nonsense), but chances are it'd be a different mold. I guess some of the blame is on me since I wasn't thinking the straightest since I was still in angry pants mode from feeling accused.