Monday, September 23, 2013

How To Answer "That Person"

Having talked about being QUICK TO LISTEN, this week; I thought I would run a post I wrote several years ago that highlights not just that we need to be SLOW TO SPEAK, but that when we speak our speech needs to be appropriate...

A well-known conservative Christian blog runs a series of posts entitled "Next". They are designed to be short, witty, and somewhat snarky responses to objections people raise about the God, Christianity and church.

Often the responses are well-thought out and reflect very good answers to sometimes tough questions. However, I shudder a little every time I read them because the answers just don't seem to reflect the type of grace I'd like them to.

If you know me well, you know that I'm not always the most gentle of people, but I feel like this is an area of my life that the Spirit has shaped over the years... which is perhaps why I'm more sensitive to this.

So I asked in the comments of one of these posts if they could show me some Proverbs (the author is absolutely brilliant in his use of Proverbs) that demonstrate this type of dialogue as appropriate. After not receiving a response, I went ahead and did a quick word search in Proverbs for "answer".

Below I listed the verses which seemed appropriate to this discussion, and then made a short list of things I learned about wisely answering people (especially those with whom you disagree). I'll continue working on answering THIS way, I hope you will to.

Proverbs 1:28"Then they will call to me but I will not answer; they will look for me but will not find me.Proverbs 15:1A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Proverbs 15:28The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.Proverbs 18:13He who answers before listening— that is his folly and his shame.Proverbs 18:23A poor man pleads for mercy, but a rich man answers harshly.Proverbs 21:13If a man shuts his ears to the cry of the poor, he too will cry out and not be answered.Proverbs 22:21teaching you true and reliable words, so that you can give sound answers to him who sent you?Proverbs 24:26An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.Proverbs 26:4Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you will be like him yourself.Proverbs 26:5Answer a fool according to his folly, or he will be wise in his own eyes.Proverbs 26:16The sluggard is wiser in his own eyes than seven men who answer discreetly.Proverbs 27:11Be wise, my son, and bring joy to my heart; then I can answer anyone who treats me with contempt.