How to Cope With a Broken Heart

By: Jessica Reed

A broken heart is one of the single most painful things human beings will ever have to deal with in life. Even if you were the one to end a relationship, the hurt is still there. You will be sad for a while, no matter how bad or good the relationship. But have hope, because there are ways to make it through to happier days.

Realize that you're not alone. It might feel like the end of the world, but there are people who want to support you and who understand your pain. So take a deep breath and tell yourself, "I will make it through this difficult time."

Find as many friends and family members as you can to help you deal. Let them know what's going on and that you really need them to be there just to listen when you feel like talking about your emotions. Pick people who are close to you, and if you can't find anyone, then make some new friends. The Internet has plenty of chat rooms for people who are heartbroken; just make sure you're looking for friends right now and not a rebound relationship. You can find people to talk to, but never give away personal information online.

Understand that journaling is also a great way to express your emotions. For a while you will want to talk about your feelings often, whether to others or just writing in your journal. After about four to six weeks, it's time to start finding ways to distract yourself from the pain; you've suffered long enough.

Get outside and get some fresh air, no matter how badly you feel like just lying in bed and moping. Go for a walk or visit a friend you haven't seen in a while. Try to think of some of your favorite hobbies, things that make you happy even when you're at your worst. Spend your free time pursuing them. This is a great time to do all those things you never had a chance to do before. Maybe your house really needs cleaning, or you've always meant to try painting, or you want to write that award-winning novel that's been in your head for years. These are great distractions, and they are good for you, too.

Remember to take care of your body. This is a time to be kind to yourself, not put yourself down. Tell yourself that you are worth it, and if you don't believe that, then have someone else tell you until you do. Take care of your body, and once you are ready to face the world again, you'll be in great shape. Hopefully, these healthy habits will follow you even after you're up and at it again.

Tips

Remember that no two people are the same. Just because one person can overcome a broken heart in a few weeks doesn't mean you personally can, or should. Take as much, or as little, time as you truly need to heal.

Self-help books and websites are great places to get advice.

Warnings

If you are depressed for more than a few months, you might consider talking to a therapist.