I’m obsessed with Oprah but who isn’t? Her spirituality, humanitarianism, philanthropy, and down to earth personality are all #goals. I started listening to podcasts last year and as soon as Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations started, I listened and have not missed an episode yet.

Fast forward to a few week’s ago when a friend of mine tagged me in a post on Instagram announcing that Super Soul Conversations was coming to the Apollo theatre in Harlem! I knew that I had to be there.

Yesterday, I arrived at the Apollo theatre in the midst of a full snow/rain episode. It was my first time being inside of the historic theatre which has been a platform for African-American performers since the 1900’s.

As you can only imagine, I had the best time. 2 Dope Queens, the podcast sensations recently turned into an HBO series opened the show and gave us a good laugh. Mother Oprah graced the stage shortly after. I turned to the person sitting next to me and asked them to catch me if I passed out anytime during filming!

It goes without saying that there were plenty of teachable moments with Oprah and her remarkalble guests. Keep reading for our favorite quotes from Super Soul Conversations which airs February 27 on the OWN network.

I’m always evolving. I am not the same person from a week ago, or a year ago. I reinvent myself to reflect that. I have had numerous new experiences. I have seen things that inspire me to be whatever woman that I am for the moment.

— Chela Mitchell

I am reinventing myself. There is nothing wrong with the current me but I love change (blame my sun sign Pisces which is a mutable sign). Let's just say that this reinvention is nothing new! In one year I went from a mermaid teal curly cut, to a black afro, to a lilac purple mohawk that showed off my head tattoo. If change is constant then I say prove it!

Reinventing myself aesthetically is a symbol of all of the change that I have experienced internally. No, I can't wear a "spiritual growth" gown or "self care" jeans but I can show you that I have changed with my hair or with new accessories. I can communicate that I am happy as a result of my personal development.

While I'd rather show than tell what I am reinventing, I can share what has inspired me. I am inspired by living in the city my entire life (DC & NYC). I am ignited by being a Black woman. I will sustain the way that I embrace our rich Black culture that has and continued to inspire the world. I am more than ever inspired by my voice that some have wished to silence, my light that the world has tried to dim and my opinion that is an authentic extension of myself.

Reinvention is like a grand opening of yourself to the world. It need not be impactful to anybody but you and gives you something to look forward to -- we surely need positive things to look forward to in the crazy world that we're livign in.

I challenge you to show the world in your very special way, that no matter what they may throw at you, the bad bitch within you lives on!

So everyone knows that I've been on this #SelfCare kick as I close out 2017. I've been waking up earlier to go to the gym, being Vegan-ish (because let's be honest I came through with the bomb ass macaroni and cheese for Christmas dinner) and saying no to certain events to give myself piece of mind.

Now fast forward to today. I went to the gym, came home, fixed a super healthy breakfast and showered. Sounds easy, right? Not exactly. The gym took 1.5 hours of my life, I cleaned, seasoned and cooked shrimp, made eggs whites from scratch with fresh kale, showered for 15 minutes, brushed my teeth for 3 minutes and wait for it...15 minutes to moisturize my face, neck and décolleté. This new Ole Henriksen serum and moisturizer that I'm using has to be worked in, hunny!

I'm saying all of this to say that self care takes a lot of effort. Throw in a 9-5 job, 9-year old kid and an apartment that takes days to clean and you are fully booked! No one talks about all of the effort that goes into being our best selves or even how American society doesn't fully support the self care movement.

Although taking care can be a lengthy process, it is so worth it. My skin is glowing, I have mental clarity and on my way to being my very own version of 2009 Rihanna.

How are you committing to self care? What challenges have you experienced?

Yes, I know the title sounds crazy but think about it. The universe is so divine -- every high and low has it's place in our lives and enriches our experiences. So why don't we trust the process? When you've had a bad day or just have an overall discomfort with your life, you naturally feel sad or frustrated but what if you could train yourself to feel the opposite?

Think back to all the times when things didn't work in your favor, only for you to discover something greater! This has happened to me several times and has led me to change the way that I look at uncomfortable situations. I still get mad. I still feel frustrated at times. When those emotions subside, I just give myself a friendly reminder: the Universe wants us to be our best selves by any means necessary. Trust the process.

Another thing that keeps me going is the fact that even on my worse day, I am still living a better life than a lot of people on this Earth. That means so much to me! Check out this moving quote below that I live by:

Last weekend my daughter and I stopped what we were doing to watch this amazing video of Refinery 29 Creative Associate, Madison Utendahl exploring Black Women and their struggle in the beauty departments of makeup counters and stores worldwide. In the video, Madison explores the history of foundation and interviews legendary beauty editor Mikki Taylor for answers on why we are still facing these issues in 2017.

Madison's frustration with finding the perfect foundation shade takes me back to my Sophomore year in college at Rutgers. I participated in a school fashion show and each model had to supply their own foundation. I went to a popular beauty retailer to get matched. After the artist finished my makeup on the day of the show, I ran excitedly to the mirror to see my new look. I looked a greenish-gray color! I looked ill and I felt ill. How embarrassing to walk on the runway in front of all of those people with the wrong color of foundation all over my face?

The Rutgers fashion show disaster was over 10 years ago and I still struggle in this area today! The foundation that works best for me now has to have a light coverage for my skin to blend. I am completely in love with MAC Face & Body Foundation ($28). It blends so well and never leaves me with dry or ashy skin. What foundation works best for you?

We've have all heard or said the phrase, "I don't like when people waste my time!". We feel disrespected and disgusted when someone stands us up or shows up late. Our blood boils when a client doesn't follow through or when we've dated someone who couldn't reciprocate the love (coughs!). If you have felt this way, you are right -- your time is important and others should treat it as such. But what happens when we waste our own time?

We often waste our own time and do not hold ourselves to the same level of respect that we demand from others. This is a huge problem! How can we expect someone to value our time when you don't value your own? Learn how to make your time a priority with the following tips.

Value Your Time As Much As You Value Your Money

Unlike money, you cannot get back time -- once time is wasted, it is gone forever! If I took you to a luxury boutique and told you to purchase something, you would pay careful attention to each price tag to: a) see if the quality of the piece justifies the price, b) if you could afford or have the budget for what you're interested in purchasing. Most of us wouldn't buy anything without researching customer reviews online.

Now if I asked you to join me for an amazing party this upcoming weekend with no cover charge and an open bar, you would probably make an effort to make it -- since we value money so much, we get really excited when things are free or discounted. When we have to shell out major cash, we are careful and discerning -- the same way that we should be with our time.

There is nothing wrong with free things or experiences -- I enjoy them too. However, if you have a goal that you're working towards or a project that needs your attention, make sure that you haven't committed to an engagement that will throw you off schedule.

Investing in yourself is one of the best ways to ensure that you live a rewarding life. Besides, who wants to live life with regrets and shoulda-coulda-wouldas?

Watch the Company That You Keep

Our free time is our "reward" to ourselves for working hard, no? Going to the museum inspires us, visiting a foreign country for the first time excites us and friends encourage us. When you have time to yourself, nourish your mind, body and soul with things like good food, an acclaimed novel, yoga and positive interaction.

I repeat, positive interaction! Stay clear of people with bad energy and negative outlooks on life. Not only will your time be wasted with them, you will also be spiritually drained from combating said energy.

How and who you spend your free time with is just as important as how you spend your days at work. Our time for leisure should recharge, not break us down. Watch the company that your keep and protect yourself from weird energy at all costs!

Learn to Say "No"

Not having the confidence to say no (and just plain "No". No explanation necessary!) is an exhausting game to play to say the least. There's a saying that goes, "Givers need limits because takers rarely do." This saying rings true for all you sweetie pies who just cannot let anyone down -- appreciable quality to have but don't end up letting yourself down, babe.

Once I heard Oprah say that living without knowing your life's purpose is like riding really fast on a bicycle and not going anywhere. She's right -- our purpose fulfills not only us, but those around us who get to experience our gifts first hand. So what are your gifts? What talents has the Universe blessed you with?

Answering the aforementioned questions can be overwhelming to answer for just about anyone -- so start small with these steps:

Think about what comes natural to you. Write it down.

Are you a master at DIY projects? Do you find yourself always helping those who are less fortunate to you? Most of our life's passions come natural to us or spark and hold our interest. Write down a list of these talents and interests.

Make a list of jobs or volunteer positions that align with your natural talents.

If you love DIY and are passionate about helping the less fortunate, maybe you can teach arts and crafts with children at a homeless shelter. Write down a list of jobs that compliment your natural gifts. Don't be afraid to mix different talents and passions.

If jobs or volunteer positions are limited or non-existent, work on creating your dream job.

Don't get discouraged if your "dream job" doesn't exist -- this is where the fun comes in! You can get truly creative when brainstorming about entrepreneurial pursuits. Leave the limited thoughts behind --let your mind wander and document all of your thoughts. Who knows, you can create the next Eventbrite or Partpic!

Will you stay tuned for part two of this series? Do you know what your life purpose is? Share with us below!

I remember the day like it was yesterday. I logged onto my favorite gossip blog, in hopes of some juicy news or paparazzi candids from one of my fave celebs.

A story appeared on the screen and read "Jay-Z Gets Excited At Lunch". Apparently Jay went to lunch with Beyoncé and got a boner. I stopped and stared at the screen. Was this really the highlight of my day? Fucking pathetic. After that post, I vowed to stay away from gossip blogs, awards shows and reality TV -- I couldn't stand for the petty fights between women, the publicity stunts and unimportant news.

After a few months, I figured out that I was pretty out of the loop with celebrity news. It didn't bother me one bit! I began to talk more about social issues, race relations and business goals with friends. The conversations proved to be more engaging and meaningful.

Going on this "media diet" brought me closer to my goals. I was no longer a slave to the television and did not feel any connection to blogs that reported every occurrence in a celebs life. I read more books and felt a sense of empowering clarity. I accomplished many of my goals!

Now don't get this media diet misconstrued -- I love looking at TV shows! I Netflix like everyone else and am an avid 'House of Cards' fan. It's reality TV that I believe cannot produce shows without drama. Life is not this way. We can control most drama in our lives by changing our reaction, treating people with respect and distancing ourselves from those who breed drama or inspire us to act out of character.

I challenge you to try and go a month without reality TV or gossip blogs. Please share your experience with us below! We would love to hear how you liked/disliked the media diet.

I turned 30 in March -- what a peculiar age. I identify with my 20's because that's all that I've known for the past 10 years. I am a mother, a wife and an entrepreneur, but I will still challenge anyone to a water gun fight. I am old enough to "know better" and young enough to wear crop tops.

Okay. I have a few career goals that I want to accomplish and don't feel pressure to get them done within a certain amount of time. I prefer the right time over "right now".

We are trained to think that we are supposed to have it all when we turn 30 -- not true!

I have friends that are single and have yet to find their life's passion/purpose. They will compare themselves to a woman next door or Beyoncé (not fair!). They may read an article about an amazing woman who began a startup with a hint of jealousy or come across wedding ideas on Pinterest in disgust.

I have observed how family and friends reassure these women. "You don't know if they're truly happy in their marriage," or "She has a business but no life". Sorry to break it to you, but some women have amazing marriages and fulfilling careers and personal lives. You should be happy for them.

The game of comparison is an unfair one. Every woman has successes and failures in their life, and one big move forward does not mean that they have never experienced several steps backward.

The next time that you find yourself in a conversation that centers around a woman who you believe isn't deserving of success or is posting tons of pictures of her "perfect" life on Instagram, stop yourself and find something more productive to do. Sign up for a class at General Assembly or attend a charity event -- focus on living your best life and everything will fall into place.

Flowers survive harsh winters until Spring comes. When the season changes, they bloom beautifully. Wait for your blooming season and show love to others when their time arrives -- we've all survived our very own winters.

I believe in putting your heart's desires out into the universe. When I want something to happen, I talk about it with friends and family. I also put the work behind the goal that I want, and meditate often.

Relationship memes don't work that way. We have all seen them at some point. I'm able to stomach the occasional, "A king only bows down to his queen," post on Instagram or the "Someday someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked with someone else," meme on Facebook. But memes like this one of Pharrell Williams crying have to go:

These memes have to go because the person posting them, can't just post one -- they post at least 5-10 a week. That's excessive! I will share the top reasons why you need to stop posting relationship memes.

The Posts Are Really For 1-2 People

You know the guy who broke your heart during your Sophomore year in college, or your ex-husband who left you for a woman who you explain to everyone is not as cute as you? These are the true targets of your meme obsessions. Posting memes will not help them to realize their wrongdoing or that you are "the one". Forgive them and move forward.

Will Posting Memes Really Snag You a Date?

I am all for modern technology and social media, but don't knock the conventional ways of meeting someone new. Meeting a potential partner-in-crime at a coffee shop, grocery store or charity event is still relevant in 2015. Posting about how you desire a relationship on social media is counterproductive! Get out into the world, live your best life and you will be amazed at how things fall into place.

There Are Better Ways To Spend Your Time

If you are feeling lonely, a late night post about how you wished you had company in your bed is TMI. Make better use of your time! You can spend time with friends and family or find a cause or side hustle that you're passionate about.

Frequent Posts Can Raise Red Flags

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a significant other in your life, but your posts may raise red flags to prospects. You can appear insecure and needy -- no one wants to date that guy or girl.

The next time that you think about posting a relationship meme, think about the intention behind it and remember: everything is good in moderation.

We're all trying to get somewhere in life, right? Friends play a big part in us getting there.

They praise us when we're moving in the right direction, and stop us from making bad life decisions - if they are authentic.

With the start of a new year, reflect on what friendships are working and nurture those. For the friendships that aren't, move on.

You may need help deciding which ones to ax, which is why I have compiled a list of five "friends" to drop ASAP:

1.) The #1 Fan

This friend wants to be you at all costs. Hair, clothes, boyfriend, career. The sad part is that she may not even notice this about herself. She wants to learn how to be like you - so what you thought was a nice girls dinner was really a learning session for her. She might even have a shrine of you in her home, or feel inclined to nurse your new born baby ( Hand That Rocks the Cradle 2015?).

Why You Should Drop Her: You should only partake in healthy friendships where the other person truly loves who they are - anything else can lead to major problems down the road. Besides, celebrating each other's difference is what makes friendship special!

2.) The Emotional Vampire

There's a pity party and you're invited! Take your vitamins before you talk to this one because she will suck the life out of you with her drama. She only calls you to complain about everything that's going wrong in her life. Before you can share your trials, she's hung up and dialed the next friends' number for her next over-the-phone sob session.

Why You Should Drop Her: She does not care about you or anything that's going on in your life. Her idea of friendship is having an abundance of shoulders to cry on. She also goes missing when her life is perfect. Who needs that kind of inconsistency in their lives?

3.) I've Got a Man So....Peace!

When she gets a significant other, she doesn't pick up phone calls, deactivates her FB account, and goes missing for months on end. You know she's broken up because she'll send a "Hey, Girl!" text message out of the blue. She can be a combo of an Emotional Vampire as well. Uh oh...

Why You Should Drop Her: Friendship is a two-way street that no man should get in the way of. When you need her, she's never there and will create tons of excuses as to why - but if Beyonce can be married to Jay-Z, mother to Blue Ivy and on world tour and still make time for Kelly, so can she!

4.) The Part-Time Envious Friend

She's only your friend 2-3 days out of the week. She spends the rest of her time "hating in secrecy" on why things always go so much better for you than for her.

Why You Should Drop Her: Out of all of the types of friends to drop, I believe that this one could be salvaged if she wasn't always comparing herself to everyone 24/7.

This type of friend will never be happy unless she's at the top - which is why her closest friends are usually not as intelligent, beautiful or as successful as she is. Boo.

5.) The Social Climber

She thinks you're nice and cool but she's really here to see "who you become". She's extremely strategic with her approach to friendship and aligns herself with people who can be of use to her. She's the friend who always asks a ton of questions which poor you thinks is genuine concern. Not from her! She is trying to get in where she can fit in and understand what you have and where you're going. Although she's the hardest to pickup on, just pay attention to how she treats others - that's your telltale sign!

Why You Should Drop Her: When you become that world star that we all know that you will be, she will sell your deepest, darkest secrets to the Enquirer and US Weekly. Ain't nobody got time for that!

Are there any types out there that I have missed? If so, please share below.

How we relate to others is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Healthy relationships begin with us. Take a moment to reflect on what you like and dislike about yourself - make a list. Out of that list, cross out the things that you cannot change. Make peace with the things that you cannot control and release them to your Maker.

What now remains on the list are the things that you can change. Begin by making realistic goals that you can make weekly progress with - the steps towards change do not have to be huge! For example, if you want to eat healthier, start out with one healthy meal per day and work your way up to 3.

As always, be sure that the intention behind your lifestyle changes align with making the quality of your life better.

Share your list for change by commenting below or shooting an email to hello@chelamitchell.com.