for almost all my life and I'm 22.
I can't really remember a time of peace in my moms house. I know we lived in a domestic violence shelter for a while until she decided to go back to him. That's when my eyes were actually opened. I must of been about 7 when I said something...

that there are too many men in the world to allow this ONE to belittle me..No more why didn't I call or pick up the phone..no more soon as i walk in the door getting slapped...never thought it would be me but it WAS--not anymore..

I thought it was love, an over the top tenderness, a magnetic sensuality that kept me waiting for the next time we were alone.... At first it wasn't abusive, just angry sometimes, what's a little insult with a bit of a slap or hair pulling??? But it got worse...

The next day I washed my hair. It came out in clumps, some with skin still attached. I saved one and gave it to him. He looked at it squeamishly, like I had handed him a dead rat. He dropped it on the floor in disgust. “What?” I asked, “You tore it out, I thought you...

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My mom, she's nothing like that.
She was in a car accident 22 years ago. Since then she's been on every drug in the book and is very addicted to them.
For the last three years it's gotten really...

and I couldn't let go of him until last month... I've been too scared to bring up the subject of breaking up but I did it last month. I felt proud. After years of being beaten and cheated on and raped by someone I thought I loved...

that's all that ever happened for 18 years, yelling and screaming until that Sunday afternoon after church on March 2nd. Our anniversary actually. He totally melted down. He hit me in the chest and it knocked me off balance and I fell backwards hitting my shoulder on the cat...

and out of both an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Recently we split up because I finally had enough! But I'm not at all over what has happened, which is why I do not classify myself a surviver. Im also afraid that if I don't find a way to deal with this that I...

Ladies, to all of you out there living in (verbal, physical, economic) abusive relationships, please, hear me: God gave us freedom, it is the most precious jewel of all jewels, no one has the authority to take from you what God granted you with. Find the courage in your hearts...

and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his words. It was an unhealthy relationship but we kept at it. Although I only really knew that I was a victim of emotional abuse...

and get beaten worse or just take it in and beat yourself up on the inside. I chose to stick up for myself. Im left with tear stained cheeks, a jaw I cannot move, a chipped tooth and bruises everywhere. It was worth it. I needed him to know I am strong and he is not breaking me...

but it's not as bad. He hasn't assaulted me yet. And that's why I got out.
When we met it was amazing, we both have the same sick sense of humor an would laugh for hours. Being in different states made us spend hours talking over the phone, but which also meant I didn't get to...

while living in an abusive situation? The one minute he is helpful and nice and trying to the I live with a monster to the I just feel numb inside too the I want to run to the I want to die. How did you overcome the roller coaster of emotions and leave if you have left or how...

A Year has Passed Like Socrates said, “Wonder brings wisdom.” If you do not wonder about something how will you ever learn?My abuser did not want me to have knowledge, because knowledge is powerful, and that is what he took away from me, because he wanted power and control...

it is hard to talk about but I want help...
When I was 14 years old I met this guy who I instantly fell for. He was 16 at the time. I was a virgin, he wasn't. He cheated on me because I wouldn't have sex with him. But about five months in I gave in. A week later he went to jail...

your whole world turns upside down. There is nothing more condradictory than the man who professes to love you harming you physically and emtionally. As all your thoughts are picked apart you begin to question everything....even you're reality... It's part denial.. It's hard to...

I have been verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abused by my ex for the past 5 years. I moved away from the U.S.A. to Argentina to be with him and work in his business. I left everyone and everything to be with him. Then I made the mistake to let my family come...

When I met my husband, he couldn't do enough for me. He was wonderful. But as soon as the vows were taken he changed, slowly and subtly at first, then it sped up and became more obvious. He isolated me from my friends and my family. He constantly...

16 and it didn't end until last month. I don't have a hard time expressing it because I've always been one to express myself. I was with the guy who I believed was the love of my life. He took my virginity and he made me laugh. Then it slowly went bad. He was emotionally...

My ex husband was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally. I spent 5 years getting my *** beat, being put down, being forced to do things i didnt want to. Being raped on a regular basis. Yes ladies, your husband CAN rape you. It was pure hell. I ran when I had the right...

This is a blog i wrote on March 3 on my myspace. I was so tired of hearing beaten women bashed!! I am a huge DV activist in my hometown and hope that by informing the masses beaten women can avoid further humiliation.
STOP CALLING WOMEN WHO ARE BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED...

Its been a dark cloud over my head for months. I want to change something that i cannot change. I am a victim of domestic violence. Its been haunting me for the past 6 months even though hes in prison now. I still miss him. Hes the father of my child and i do still love him. I...

I read quite a few of your stories and I find it interesting, but not surprising that I have not read one story by a male. This sort of goes with my experience as a victim of domestic violence.
I was married very young to my high school sweetheart. Everything...

violence. I have never lifted a hand and hit a woman, or man for that matter. I married a woman who had a background of domestic violence, first from her father and then from an abusive ex husband of 20 years who was ex army. When we got together I knew of her background but...

for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me everyday, he told me i was his world, i made his life wonderful. I had finished my final year at school and one day he got up from watching tv with me on the sofa at my...

want to move out but how dveryone blames everything in me nd im scared i hardly get given food now and i hate how i feel im always crying at home aat can i do to mke muself feel better im always get hit with metal sticks and frying pan

Is love about heartache
and pain?
Lately my tears fall
like rain.
Is love about name calling
and embarrassment?
I try the best I can, but
honestly he doesn't..
Is love about arguing and
fighting everyday?
He doesn't know how
far he's pushed me away..
Is love about backstabbing...

I'm sure the answer is no. It's unfortunate but it's how it is.
I wonder if he ever thinks of me and if so what he thinks. I want to know how he's doing. I want to talk to him. I was to unblock him on FB and see how he's doing.
But most of all I want to forget. I want to...

I just wanted to stop by and drop a little song of support for y'all. You all are inspirations to other s who need help. I was suffering with some memories of a past situation and found this site and this group and through your words and wisdom you helped me past a dark part...

Can't believe it took me this long to see that yes, it was abuse. Not just him "losing control". And the most crazy part? I miss him. When things were good, they were really good. But when things were bad... I'm afraid. I guess I just need time to get over him.

I began scrolling through Instagram. Clicking on profiles of those I used to know. I found my rapist. I went to his profile. After scrolling through I went to his followers.
There he was. I hadn't seen him in so long. My abusive ex.
I knew I shouldn't but I clicked on his...

if my situation is as serious as everyone tells me it is. I keep going back and forth, almost on a daily basis.
I've been with my husband for 8 years and we have 3 kids.
He has physically hurt me on several occasions, but they happen so infrequently that it seems like I should...

for my boyfriend, yes I was young. We were stupid, but we were in love. When we told his mother, she flipped out and started asking for a DNA test. Everyone in my family had been confused because the baby was his. And he agreed too. During my fourth month of my pregnancy, we...

I called my only two friends after my husband had thrown the supper I'd cooked him in the bed with me while I slept. I called the wife(my bff's are married to each other) and she calmed me down and got me to stop crying. It was very late and she was very patient and sweet. She...

vent my story. I hope I finally found it.
I am a victim of domestic violence. I wish I could could replace the word "victim" with the word "survivor". unfortunately my story has not currently ended.
I was abused as a child sexually and physically by my father. a man I adored as...

I have for many years now been putting up with domestic voilence.. It has ground me down so much i do want to die some times:( i dont know why I have stuck it for so long I think its coz I feel i could never live on my own. I feel very trapped by my husband and his hold he has...

. her mother suffered from domestic violence, her father used to beat her up. Ofcourse that affected her, she only told me the story once, not biograophy like (just facts and a storyline). I know what its like, trying to just tell the story but cant help get into details, having...

I have written many stories. I have shared my pain and hopefully some of you have found some comfort or identify with the issues I have and am facing. It has been several years since I physically left my abuser. I tried to be civil and just go with the flow for a couple...

I was unprepared for the nightmare I got myself into when I was 18-years-old. Back then...they really didn't talk about abuse within romantic relationships like they do now. I was naive...very wet behind the ears...and not expecting a guy who said he loved me to treat me in such...

for so long? I think it affects every relationship that I experience...maybe this is not a bad thing. I am wiser and just more aware-I move on everyday. Oh, by the way, I read this great book on Domestic Violence the other day "Beneath Dreary" (got it on google books).... Anyway...