Mother's Day Dissapointment, thanks DH (Update pg 5)

Okay, so I had this plan to go to the zoo for Mother's Day with my boys and DH. I have wanted to take them all year and MD just seemed to be the best time to do it. This was the only thing I asked for/wanted.

Now, due to circumstances out of my control, we cannot. We have to save what little money we will have (after my mothers and DHs mothers gifts) on a gift for DSD to give BM.

I am heartbroken. My DH isn't the best at these things, we have been together for 4 years and this year was the first time I even got a card on my B-Day (sweet as it was). Last MD he didn't even acknowledge me as a mother until Literaly 11pm, let alone get me anything or have ODS make me anything.

He feels like I should understand that he needs to keep the peace with BM, that I should be rational and logical, we can celebrate it later, and blah blah blah. Now granted, I often think of things in a logical, rational (lets say male) perspective. I am inclined not to this time. I am a mommy too. I gave birth to his son's, just because I am not an irrational bitch to him doesn't mean you can blow me off on MD.

He may be planning something else that doesn't cost money and all, and I would appriciate it all the same. But right now I am just really hurt.

Comments (53)

Why do y'all have to spend money on BM? Is you SD not old enough to make her something special with you? I mean I can understand buying a card for her, but it seems like something that the kids made would be a lot more meaningful (and cheaper).

Oh no! If DH were pushing me to the side to make sure BB's MD was great, we'd have major problems. You're a mother to his Child/Children too!!
This year we aren't doing MD on MD. We're kind of hurting for money and I won't be upset if we do nothing at all. But, if we did have funds but they were being spent on BB before me, uhmm no, Bitch Irrational will come out!!!

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If you're so fabulous that you're "pissin' glitter" you might wanna have that checked out. Could be a sign of infection!

You're not going because your DH is using money to get BM a gift? No way would I go for that. If you don't have money to do both, your DH can help DSD make a card or gift for BM. It's just not necessary to pay for a gift and it's completely unfair to you. You are the priority. Mother's day is about moms -- not about SKs.

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Proud mommy to a DS13 and DD6 and our early Christmas present, another beautiful GIRL, born 12/02/11!

Ummmm yea... He would definitely now see irrational bitch if he had not seen it before... Make him understand its in his best benefit to keep the peace with you before he needs to keep the peace with her. Is he really dumb enough to think you should be ok with making you give up your MD plans for her???? OMG... I would be pissed. Its not like your asking for a freakin trip to Tahiti or something... You deserve a wonderful MD without being sideswiped for her..... Ugghh I am mad for you... men....

You and your boys need to go to the zoo. Your husband needs to put YOU first, let him take an unpleasant phone call. If my husband did or said that to me I would ask him who he would rather keep the peace with, his ex or me?my husband tried to pull the same early on in our marriage , didn't go over well. Guess what, eventually the ex gave up giving him crap because it was no longer working!