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I got my results 3 days ago. I think it is hard to even consider telling anyone let alone to actually do it. I am on here for the same reason, I need to let it out and yet I find that I am holding back here too. I don't want specifics that could identify me to my partner ( he is on here and pos also). Btw, he knows about me, but I do not want him reading my posts and have him figure out its me.

Hmm... OK. He knows you are HIV+ and yet you don't want to discuss HIV and being HIV+ with your partner, who is also HIV+. May I ask why not?

I can understand, actually. What if there are relationship issues that the OP wouldn't otherwise feel free to discuss? What if the OP wants a sounding board to talk about stuff BEFORE he brings it up to the boyfriend? Sites like this aren't exactly replete on the internet, and that can sometimes be awkward.

*modified to add: I am, however, not exactly sure how sustainable that arrangement is going to turn out. Really depends on the partner's curiosity, the OP's sharing, and the issues discussed. I'm pretty sure I couldn't catfish my boyfriend, at least not for a long time.

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It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.

It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.

I fully empthathize with you. But look, you just spelled it out again, its vey specific, if your love is "here" he'll recognize the similarities, at least.

Perhaps you are doing a sort of virtual, social media "freudian slip" then. Revealing a key truth or issue, accidentally.

Of course you'll want to settle this with your partner, when the time is right. I hope it goes well and wish you two the best.

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It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.

Hi Paladin and welcome to the forums.

While I understand the idea here, I would suggest it might be more beneficial to discuss your anger issues with a therapist.The anonymous concept on an open forum when your partner is here will most likely limit your discussions at a deeper level for fear of him discovering you.Limited discussion = limited responses.

Anyway, I wish you the best and hope you are able to continue being part of the forums.