Men Treat Me Like Nobody

I split up with my boyfriend of three years nearly four months ago and have slept with two guys since. The first was a friend I fancied. We used to have a laugh - now he treats me like a nobody. I dated the other guy for a fun couple of weeks. Then, out of the blue, I got a text saying he knew I had feelings he couldn't return. Why does this happen? Are all men going to treat me this way?

Fasten your seatbelt - you're on the rebound, girl! You've been free for a fraction of the time you were snug in a relationship and you've forgotten the rules of the game. My guess is you moved too fast, not simply into the guys' beds but into their space. Even an offhand pillow-reference to `us' reveals that, in your mind, the intimacy of sex includes the kind of exclusivity you had with your ex. In other words, you're used to security and familiarity; they just wanted a fling and you scared the pants off them! So cool it before you throw yourself into the scene. Face up to the emotional shaking that accompanies the end of a long relationship, even if you did end it. If you go to bed with a guy for fun or comfort, expect no more. Meanwhile, get your independent life in order. The time will come when you stop rebounding and a new man will appear as an interesting possibility in his own right, not an emergency replacement for the safety and togetherness you so recently took for granted.

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