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Sunday, January 22, 2012

Friendly Debates with the Danielles: Spanking

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TOPICSpanking: Yay or Nay? What do YOU say?

This week I thought I'd join in on the discussion since I worked at a daycare for 5 years and have had numerous trainings...

So I say Yay! Yes I do believe in spanking and I also believe that society has become way to soft on children now in days. When I was little I remember my cousin getting the belt if he did something wrong. Did my cousin grow up to be a horrible person or parent NO! He is an awesome parent and person to know.

Since I worked at a daycare for 5 years one training class that I had to take on more then one occasion was child abuse training. In those trainings we were taught how to see the signs of child abuse and were also taught what is Child Abuse? One topic they touched on was Spanking... What did they say to the subject? "Spanking is not abuse IF it is done with a open hand on a covered bottom" meaning if I smack my sons bottom and he has clothing on it and I'm using a open hand it's fine.

Do I spank by boys you better believe I do and I am not ashamed of it and I do it only because I love them and I want them to grow up and be respectful young men. Do they know that they are not to hit others unless its in self defense? Yes. So by me spanking my children I am not teaching them that it is ok to hit or be abusive. My husband and I have tried just about every form of punishment we could on our children and only use what works best for them. Time-Outs, taking stuff away and early bed times just got us laughed at by my boys. So spanking was the only thing that worked and is what is used in our home.

Our boys do not get spanked over something like they forgot to clean up the dinner table or do a chore. They only get spanked when they are being purposely disrespectful and disobedient. If I ask my son to do something and he tells me NO then yes he is on grounds for a spanking. Also if we are out and one takes off running from me in a crowded place you better bet I am going put my hand across his butt.

Now go ahead and let me know what you think of the topic….. but please know if you want to go on and on about how horrible of a parent I am then I am not even going to encourage you with a response. I by no means whatsoever agree with using any physical object to hit a child and I do not agree with causing physical injury to a child. End of story.

I have not spanked my son, but that is not to say I won't. I agree that if a child is to get a spanking then there needs to be an appropriate reason. Not spanking for every little thing, but bigger things.

I'm with you! Spanking IS ok! And we are not disciplining our children nearly enough. They are growing up with an attitude of entitlement and when they get into the real world and aren't handed everything on a silver platter they are going to be shocked!! A little spanking and discipline is GOOD for children!! Children actually do MUCH better emotionally with discipline!!

And unfollowing your blog now. Bummer. Spanking is not OK because it teaches that people who love you can hit you, plain and simple. It's too bad because you seem to be working hard to keep your kids healthy in every other area.