MEN SUCK (and sometimes others, too)

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G U I L T Y

You ever feel that

F E E L I N G. . .

Sometimes I feel so guilty

I need no

J u d g e

J u r y

E x e c u t i o n e r

I’m most perfect at all three

s i m u l t a n e o u s l y. . .

Do you believe

not once

but hundreds of times

I have actually stood before groups

and proudly declared:

There’s no one better than the ONE

standing before you right now;

NO ONE

who could give a better presentation that

M E. . .

I would say:

“I BELIEVE THAT WITH ALL OF MY HEART!”

. . .”but,”

“I K N O W IT’S NOT TRUE,

and that’s what makes you work to be even better. . .”

G U I L T Y

M E N S U C K

Maybe it’s because

I’m the biggest hypocrite I know

Maybe it’s because

I’ve been married and divorced

Maybe it’s because

I’ve been re-married now for 31+ years

Maybe it’s because

I’ve worked since 1994 in offices filled with women

but I’ve either

heard

seen

lived

experienced:

M E N S U C K

I get that an awful lot. . .

and yes. . .

the last time I checked,

I still kind of fit into that category

which has had me

putting my lips together very tightly

while opening my ears

Grand Canyon

w i d e l y. . .

The gift of an Open Ear

is the most valuable possession I can share. . .

And I try

not just to listen

I severely attempt to actually

h e a r

what a heart shouts

and a mouth can’t whisper. . .

“Well, he left me; he just up and left me after 8 years”

“How come he doesn’t listen, why doesn’t he hear what I say, or worse yet, if he does hear why doesn’t he acknowledge me?”

“Why is it always about sex; why does it always start there or always have something done to end there; why can’t we talk, really talk and listen and be intimate but cuddling or just holding hands without it always ending up THERE; don’t men know that the greatest sex act is just being held, being heard, being listened to?”

“Why’s the bottom line always about how much things cost and how he decides how money gets spent or saved?”

“Why am I never good enough for him; why does he feel the need to change me or at least live a certain lifestyle OR ELSE?”

“I can’t stand all of the lying.”

“He never really tells me how he feels and I’m a terrible mind-reader.”

T R U S T M E

What I have to offer

IS N O T

a d v i c e;

I am no Guru

I’m not a

Dr. Phil

Judge Judy

Joel Olsteen

Best-Selling Author on relationships. . .

I offer

simply. . .merely

what’s in each of us:

My Ears

My, o u r Ability

to Listen. . .

But are ears are useless

unless they’re actually attached to

our hearts. . .

There has to be a willingness

to not just listen

to not just hear

. . .but a heart

that lets Another know

they’ve been

Acknowledged

Recognized

Noticed

Accepted

Un-Judged

L O V E D

It’s about letting Another

not so much know

but actually FEEL:

Right now

Your Pain

is My Pain

Your Disappointment

Is My Disappointment

Your Tears

are My Tears

Your Heart

is My Heart

and they are

S H A R E D

never to be again

carried alone. . .

when T H A T is mutual

The Caring Catalyst

of me interweaves itself into

The Caring Catalyst of you

and WE

become a magnificent tapestry of colors

The brightest and darkest of hues

that SHOUTS

WE NO LONGER ARE HOLDING ON BY A THREAD

or a thick-never-to-be-severed-cable

but a tapestry

that serves a most magnificent safety net. . .

I remember a story that Henri Nouwen once told about the trapeze artists known as

THE FLYING RODLEIGHS

. . .he asked one of flyers the secret of trapeze artists

and one of the acrobats explained:

“The secret is that the flyer does nothing and the catcher does everything. When I fly to Joe (my catcher), I have simply to stretch out my arms and hands and wait for him to catch me and pull me safely over the apron. . .The worst thing a flyer can do is try to catch the catcher. I am not suppose to catch Joe. It’s Joe’s job to catch me. If I grabbed Joe’s wrists, I might break them, or he might break mine, and that would be the end for the both of us. A flyer must fly, and a catcher must catch, and the flyer must trust, with outstretched arms, that his catcher will be there for him.”

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