Son keeps at it when say "no"

Bookmark Discussion

LBR13 wrote:

Whenever I tell my son not to do something (I.e. Pull my hair, etc. ) he persists. I'll say something like "no that hurts mommy." And it's like he wants to do it even more. Than when I have to physically stop him from pulling my hair he gets upset in protest. Eventually distraction helps but I just wanted to see if anyone has any ideas around this issue? Thanks!

I posted a similar thread a few days ago and got great advice that I have been trying. One that has really worked is to teach him the correct alternative. So I have been showing him how to stroke me hair instead and he actually does it with a smile and no more hair pulling at the moment!

Following. Great advice Kokok22 always give a desired replacement behavior. My LO cracks up when I say " no thank you " when he rolls over when trying to diaper. So impossible to change a diaper and unfortunately I'm not sure of an alt behavior to replace the rolling over with..

Redirecting or as the previous poster said showing them to stroke your hair instead of pulling, will be more effective then saying "no".

I found myself saying "no" way too much and was super stressed, so I decided I would try redirecting instead. It works better and my stress level is cut in half. So for example he will open a cupboard that has heavy toe crushing stuff in it, and instead of saying "no" and closing the cupboard I say "oh remember we can't play with this cupboard, but you can play with this one over here". And then I will show him the cupboard he's allowed to play in. 99% of the time he just gives up on the bad cupboard and crawls right over to the one he's allowed to play in.

Is it just me or is it a little early for them to respond appropriately to the word "no"? They certainly can start understanding it but I don't think the impulse control develops that fast. It's up to us to create a safe place for them (and to offer alternatives) rather than expect them to follow directions at this age. (In my opinion). Every family is different though!

Yes I agree. I never say no unless something might be dangerous which is almost never. We really baby proof well. But for hair pulling i will redirect or just put down. I like the idea of showing how to be gentle.

What My Emergency C-Section Taught Me While I initially felt like a failture for having to have an emergency C-section, I soon realized my birth experience was just that: an experience — but not one that has to define my life (or my son's).