If it is true that we are being created in God's image, we have found the
deepest source of our self-worth

A friend of mine who returned from volunteer work abroad, joined a
London-based Charity. For a fraction of the salary her qualifications would
entitle her to, she agreed to counsel people who are in trouble. Since she
needed a place to live, she approached a bank for a mortgage.

"What are you worth?", the bank manager wanted to know.

She soon realised this meant the sum total of her assets, savings and
regular earnings. These amounted to little. Her request for a mortgage was
refused: she wasn't worth it. "I hope I'm worth a little more in God's eyes",
she said to me.

Now we all may feel a measure of sympathy with the banker who, after all,
was only doing his job. The question the incident raises, however, is real.
What are we worth?

Few of us are silly enough to imagine that the real value of our life is
written on bank notes. The marketing consultant who demands £3000 + VAT for
half a day's service, puts a price on his time. But the same man will probably
gladly spend an entire night nursing his sick baby daughter, changing her
nappies and carrying her in his arms, without even thinking of payment. There is
more to life than money.

Psychologists tell us that the dominant drive in our lives is the need of
self esteem. Yes, physical security, food and sex are basic cravings. But our
survival as a human being, as a knowing, searching, conscious individual,
depends on something else: on finding our own value. The most important thing
for all of us is to know that we are worth something, that we mean something to
other people, that our existence makes a difference, that we, as individuals,
are worth knowing and loving. The supreme law of life, as Alfred Adler put it,
can be summed up in one commandment: "Thou shalt not diminish the sense of
worth of thyself" (see: H.ANSBACHER, The Individual Psychology of
Alfred Adler, Basic Books 1946, p. 358).

People want to fulfil their fullest self, to realise their potential, leave
an impact on the world, make something worthwhile of their life. Extensive
research on European values systems bears this out in two principal spheres of
activity: the family and work.

What do we ask from life?

In marriage, for instance, though an adequate income (37%) and good housing
(34%) are welcomed, most people attach a higher priority to values that affirm
the self: to having a partner who is faithful (84%), who shows respect (84%) and
tolerance (79%), and with whom one enjoys a healthy sexual relationship (63%).
It is as if people say: As long as I am recognised as a person, as long as I am
loved and can give love, my marriage is a success.

The same approach can be observed in people's attitude to work. Good pay
(69%) and job security (57%) rank high as priorities, for obvious reasons. But
generous holidays (25%), absence of pressure (25%) and even favourable working
hours (40%) are considered as of less importance. People prefer a job that
stretches their potential:

"an exciting job" (62%);

"a job that meets my abilities" (53%);

"a job in which I feel I can achieve something" (53%);

"a job which gives me opportunities to use my initiative" (47%);

"a responsible job, that is useful to society" (44%).

In other words: people want meaningful jobs (see: S.ASHFORD and N.TIMMS,
What Europe Thinks. A Study of Western European Values, Aldershot 1992,
pp. 50-54, 74-77.)

Self worth and meaning are closely related. When people measure their worth
by their family and their job, they are saying to themselves: "I mean a lot
to my husband and my children", or "What I do is meaningful to my
colleagues, my pupils, my customers, society at large, and so on".

In fact, we spend a lot of time throughout the day reviewing and assessing
the daily events that give us, or deny us, self esteem, that make us feel
approved or rejected. We are so engrossed with this that psychologists call it
the `inner newsreel', the endless testing and rehearsing of what is going on
between us and other people. "Yes, I'm worth something. No, I'm not".

But what if relationships at home turn sour and if my job collapses? Do I
have any worth in myself? The playwright Noel Coward stated: "My sense of
my own importance to myself is tremendous. I am all I have: to work with, to
play with, to suffer and to enjoy. In the final analysis it's not the eyes of
others that I'm wary of, but my own." What am I worth in my own eyes?

Underneath the immediate relationships that give meaning to our life lurk
deeper questions.

Who gives me my worth?

" The constant harangue that we address to one another: "notice
me", "love me", "esteem me", "value me", may
seem debasing and ignoble. But when we tally the sum of these efforts, the
excruciating earnestness of them, the eternal grinding out of the inner
newsreel, we can see that something really big is going on -- really vital.

" When you pose the question: "Who am I? What is the value of my
life?", you are really asking something more pointed: that you be
recognised as an object of primary value in the universe. Nothing less."

E.BECKER,
The Birth and Death of Meaning, Penguin 1971, p. 84.

Am I an object of primary value in the universe? This is the real issue
that is at stake. It evokes the question of ultimate meaning, and thus of
religion.

Seen through the eyes of religion, we derive our ultimate worth from our
occupying a unique position in a created universe. The Bible teaches that God
made man and woman in his own image. God created the human being in his
image,in his own likeness he created them, male and female he created them
(Genesis 1,27)

In other words, we carry in us the imprint of an infinite, mysterious,
timeless Reality. We reflect `God'. Surviving in demanding circumstances,
through our consciousness and free will, we are like gods and goddesses
ourselves. And we enjoy the love and friendship of the mysterious Origin of all
that exists.

The text in this lesson is from How to Make Sense of God by John Wijngaards, Sheed & Ward, Kansas City 1995. Tom Adcock designed the cartoons. The Catholic Press Association of the United States and Canada awarded the book a prize on 25 May 1996.

The video clips are from Journey to the Centre of Love (scriptwriter & executive producer John Wijngaards) which was awarded the GRAND PRIX by the Tenth International Catholic Film Festival held in Warsaw (18-23 May 1995). It also received the prestigious Chris Award at the International Film Festival, Columbus Ohio, in 1997.