Attracting Love

“Why do I keep attracting douche-bags?” I asked my grandmother. Apparently, I had been in many failing relationships, attracting the same man in different bodies.

For many years, every man I attracted had some, if not all the following characteristics: Addictions of some sort, laziness, abusive, a cheater, low self-esteem, never available, acute behavioral disorders—to mention but a few. I was in owe of how I ended up with men who were the opposite of what I wanted to attract. At one point, my grandmother told me that everything I saw in these men reflected on my inner conditioning. “You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print,” she said. Then I thought she was tripping. I didn’t have an addictive personality. I was very hardworking and as far as I knew, I was sane. So, what did I have in common with these men? It took years before I could appreciate the truth in my grandmother’s wisdom. Now as a counselor, I know that we attract who are.

“You identify each other because you feed on each other’s energetic blue print.”

How Can You Attract True Unconditional Love?

Whether you are already in a relationship or searching for one, the status of your relationship reflects on who you are at some level. If your partner disrupts your peace and/or happiness, note that you are responsible for all your negative emotions. You are responsible for all your experiences. Nothing keeps you in an unhappy relationship except your own insecurities and conditioning. All the reasons you have for remaining in a bad relationship are just escapes from the core truth: the truth that you believe you don’t deserve better.

If you are single and can’t attract love, it is all you in your energetic, spiritual, emotional or mental conditioning. Note that at the core, we are energy. Our energy blue prints impact our experiences. We metaphysically overflow from within to the external world. Our outer world perfectly mirrors our inner worlds. Whatever, and how we perceive and/or experience things is a reflection of our conditioning plus the stories, associations, relationships and definitions dwelling in our inner worlds. The question then is, how do we resolve this conditioning to attract true love? Below are 3 tips to get you started.

Take full responsibility of your situation. Know that your situation is your own creation. Know that you can never get what you want you only get who you are. So, take it upon yourself to invest in identifying the conditioning within you that retracts true love from your experience.

Love yourself unconditionally. This means that you take time to nourish your mind, body and spirit. Put yourself first and the world will put you first. Love yourself unconditionally and you will attract the same. This will take forgiving yourself, accepting who you are… in all ways; cleaning your environment. (Donating or throwing away old stuff you haven’t used in the last 6 months; letting go of relationships that hold you back or those that do not support your well being; clearing your living and working space of all clutter.)

Go within, connect to your Higher-self and ask for guidance of how you can let go of the negative conditioning that prevents you from attracting true love. Note that you need discipline in order to connect to your Higher-self. This takes meditation on a daily basis.

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It is not only biologically vital but also spiritually imperative to grow up with our parents, mom and dad, or the equivalent, for us to develop and sustain positive-infused mindsets. Although overlooked, without both your parents in the picture as a child, you are bound to search for whoever was missing in the people you meet in your adult life. And that can be very frustrating.

Note that one is also impliedly psychologically and emotionally abused if their father or father figure was always absent in their younger days.

In this article, you will identify one of the problems created by not having a father figure or having an abusive one, and learn three simple techniques that will liberate you from this problem in order to develop healthier relationships with the men in your life.

The Problem:

Without a father figure in your life, you miss out on the security and comfort that a father figure provides (especially one with a healthy mind). A father is literally the first adult male you are introduced to, or is supposed to be introduced to when you are born. As such, he represents men in general and especially how men relate or should relate to women. Your father introduces you to the first standards that you believe every man should possess. If you saw your father treating your mom with respect, you tend to attract or choose men who understand how to treat a woman with respect.

If especially you witnessed your father abusing you or any other members of your family and never stopped abusing them, and/or never apologized, chances are that you have subconscious anger that’s not only directed towards your father, but all men. The consequences are that you will continue unconsciously seeking out men with behaviors similar to your dad with hope that they might abuse you and then apologize to make up for what your father didn’t do. However, even if you attract men who are apologetic for abusing you, they will not compensate for your father’s abuse. Therefore, you will continue seeking for abusive men, over and over again until you deal with your early father-figure programming.

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Often times who crave to get certain things in life. We crave for jobs, relationships, cars, etc, only to get them and start craving for different things. At times when we get what we have been longing for, this is when we realize that it doesn’t resonate with our personal standards.

As a counselor and coach, I have discovered that people long for what they don’t really want. They tend to focus so much on the wanted “thing” instead of the feelings that the ‘thing” will elicit in them when they get it. For example; a woman craves to attract a man. And when she does, she realizes that she deserves better. This is when she also discovers that she didn’t evaluate what she particularly deserves before she established what she wanted.

My simple advice is that before you start working towards achieving a set goal, let it be a woman, man, job, promotion, car, etc, ask yourself if this goal reflects on your standards, values, and self esteem. The starting point is to evaluate how you value yourself. What makes you, you? What’s your worth?

Live your life in a sublime spirit of confidence and determination; disregard appearances, conditions. In fact, disregard all evidence of your senses that deny the fulfillment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption, you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being, (God) remember that all things are possible. GOD NEVER FAILS.

Certain experiences have a way of wounding our hearts. The emotions these experiences leave with us, do get in the way of us getting forward.

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