Phil’s Story

Phil’s* Facebook page was filled with nasty comments and threats. He didn’t know who was behind it but someone had a grudge against him. Things got worse – when he checked online one day, he read that he was being called a paedophile. It was deeply distressing and frightening and he felt completely helpless. The stalker had done their research – they seemed to know where Phil lived; what he did and even who his friends are. Being stalked also impacted on Phil’s ability to advertise his property development business – he relied on social media to reach out to clients. Phil’s stalker has the hallmarks of a “Resentful Stalker” Type.

How can you recognise a ‘Resentful Stalker?

The Resentful Stalker wants revenge for something real or imagined

Intends to frighten and distress you.

Never had an intimate relationship with you

May have met you at work, could be an acquaintance

Wants to frighten and distress you with punishing vindictive behaviour

Enjoys the impact that stalking has on you

Often starts anonymously

Sees themselves as the real victim fighting for revenge against you or what you represent to them

Feels their vindictive revenge is fair

Pictures you as representing all the wrongs they have experienced

In life generally looks for slights, takes offence, and readily makes complaints

You may find it difficult to tell other people what is happening. Perhaps you’re worried about what they will say? Whether they will believe you or think you are making a fuss about nothing? Even make fun of you?

It is important to tell people, your safety may depend upon other people knowing