Friday, 2 November 2012

VALUABLE LESSON ON FRIENDSHIP.

In life, there are two kinds of people. Givers and takers .And
every once in a while, the takers will
go out of their way to be givers to people that are special in their life or
mean a lot to them.

All my life, I’ve been a giver. I’m always going out of my
way to make sure everyone that I care about Is happy, always giving my time and
services and whatever, always doing for others.

The other day, I talked to one of my classmates. I do not
necessarily consider my classmates my friends because of the huge difference in
character and interests and many other things. But when I called this
particular girl called Molly who is the closest I can come to calling a friend
in that class, I was pleasantly surprised and moved to tears. She had gone out
of her way to do something for me that I hadn't even asked her to do. Almost
the equivalent of going to the registrar, doing all your registration for you, getting
you a room in hall and collecting the semester’s work for you(and we all know how
long this process takes).

Now I need you to understand that this girl owes me nothing
and vice versa. Forget those guys that are being extra nice because they want
to date you, or sleep with you, or show off to the world that they are nice, or
need some kind of help somewhere. Forget those. This was a selfless act, where
the doer was going to gain ABSOLUTELY
NOTHING. And when I asked Molly why she did what she did, she said “I know
you Kullein, you were going to take forever to get it done so I did it for you”.
Simple as that. I was completely and
totally moved by this simple act and I wondered if this is not what true
friendships and relationships should be about, people always looking out for
each other, a two-way street?? About someone not waiting to be asked to do
something that they CAN do that is
good for you? Even if they themselves will not gain any form doing it? Most of
my friendships I now realize are all about me giving something and because I’m
such a giver, I never thought that I should be getting something back too. And
since molly did what she did, I have been re evaluating my friendships.

So to all you giving friends/lovers/family members out there(not
you the takers!!!), the next time you go around giving someone your time,
advice, money, shoulder to cry on, food,help, mention it, think of the last
time that person did the same for you? And ask yourself the question, if the
situation was reversed, would they do the same for you??