Tag: Marriage

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: :: Politically incorrect answer ahead. Proceed with caution :: Though I don’t claim to be an expert in this, I must opine that the mistress-culture is an open-secret in India, and has been so since ages. India is a land where marriages form the very fulcrum of society. Individuals are…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: As we all know, India is a land where arranged marriages are still commonplace. And India is also a land where friendships between people of opposite sexes are still heavily scrutinised (by the ‘kindly’ aunties in the family) and subtly discouraged. Choosing your own life partner has become tolerable to…

I see Hispanic/Asian/White/Black women portrayed as attractive in the US media. However, I rarely see Indian women fetishized in the media. And I never see Indian women with non Indian guys. Why is that? And I never see non Indians go to India to find a wife, unlike in Japan or Colombia. Why not? Answer…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: The concept of ‘religion’ didn’t exist in its present form at the time when the Vedas were composed. There were ‘classes’, yes. But people just lived their life in a routine fashion with certain social etiquettes in place and this way of living later came to be known as Sanatana…

In India, mostly Hindus will go for a jatakam/kundli match prior to marriage. Has this ever spoiled your or your friends love life? Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Thank you for the A2A. Yes, most Hindus in Kerala also believe in matching horoscopes prior to marriage. But this is mostly in the case of arranged…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Indian women (at least a huge majority of them) will marry only in their traditional wedding attires that vary from state to state and from community to community. They may dress very modern at other times, but weddings are strictly traditional. Most cultures have specific colors to be worn for…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Thank you for the A2A. To everyone who’s looking to get married/looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend, there’s just one book I recommend all the time… This won’t be of much help to the boys, but can be a real life-saver for all the girls out there. Women, keep this…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Such a custom was unheard of in Kerala until it began to be seen as yet another fancy function to get dressed up and click pictures. I am a Malayali Hindu. My parents’ generation didn’t have this custom, and neither did the folks before them. During my great-grandmother’s times, the…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Thank you for the A2A. I’m still laughing here reading your question. I don’t know if it is because of the thought of a Telugu girl wishing to marry a Punjabi boy, or if it is out of wondering why a Malayali girl like me was A2A-ed on this question…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: Thank you for the A2A. The era when the Ramayana and the Mahabharata is believed to have taken place was one where ideologies like divorce or spousal ‘fights’ (serious ones) were uncommon. Despite the presence of several headstrong women characters in both epics, it can be seen that almost all…

Answer by Raakhee V. Menon: I have been to a few weddings here in Qatar and hence here’s a view from the PoV of a guest. Entry to the wedding is by invitation ONLY. Invitees are given admit cards along with the invite. Here’s an example of a typical Arab wedding invite. The cute little…

Answer by Raakhee Venugopal: Let’s see a few pictures and see if we can arrive at something we agree upon… At the outset, I’m assuming this is a western wedding scenario we’re referring to here. Black looks fabulous with red and the bride would look like a rose against her best ladies in black… If…