The Road Less Traveled [[sex question]]

I try to refrain from posting on the Dad's Corner but I'm genuinely curious about this and can't get a straight answer from my lovely husband. If you [collectively] think this is an inappropriate place to ask, please let me know and I'll stay off of y'all's board. Thank you in advance, no matter your decision.

Regarding butt sex ....

What makes it so special? I'd think that it would be similar to vaginal sex or oral sex but drier, yet my husband asks for it monthly. I genuinely don't understand, and to be honest I rarely give in because it hurts. If I could get a straight answer as to what makes it so desirable, I'd consider doing it for him more often. So I ask you guys, what's the deal with butt sex? Is it just that it's rare or is there something I'm missing?

For the ladies that I know lurk here - Is there any way to make it hurt less?

I try to refrain from posting on the Dad's Corner but I'm genuinely curious about this and can't get a straight answer from my lovely husband. If you [collectively] think this is an inappropriate place to ask, please let me know and I'll stay off of y'all's board. Thank you in advance, no matter your decision.

Regarding butt sex ....

What makes it so special? I'd think that it would be similar to vaginal sex or oral sex but drier, yet my husband asks for it monthly. I genuinely don't understand, and to be honest I rarely give in because it hurts. If I could get a straight answer as to what makes it so desirable, I'd consider doing it for him more often. So I ask you guys, what's the deal with butt sex? Is it just that it's rare or is there something I'm missing?

For the ladies that I know lurk here - Is there any way to make it hurt less?

Academically, I know as long as you don't go from anal to vaginal without cleaning, there's nothing unsanitary about it. But that doesn't make me want to stick my favorite body part up my wife's poop chute.

Academically, I know as long as you don't go from anal to vaginal without cleaning, there's nothing unsanitary about it. But that doesn't make me want to stick my favorite body part up my wife's poop chute.

there are ways for it to be less painful.. it actually shouldnt hurt if you do it right. My husband and i love anal (except being 39 weeks pregnant i dont care for it quite as much right now) im not ganna go into detail as of jow to make it less painful cause i dont wanna gross anyone out but just research it.. people actually write books about it. thats how i learned how to make it not hurt. youll be glad when you figure it out ;) just uncomfy at first then absulotly amazing!
Sorry if i grossed anyone out.

there are ways for it to be less painful.. it actually shouldnt hurt if you do it right. My husband and i love anal (except being 39 weeks pregnant i dont care for it quite as much right now) im not ganna go into detail as of jow to make it less painful cause i dont wanna gross anyone out but just research it.. people actually write books about it. thats how i learned how to make it not hurt. youll be glad when you figure it out ;) just uncomfy at first then absulotly amazing!
Sorry if i grossed anyone out.

My advice on it (besides of course making sure things are clean before you start and using a condom) is for you to be in control... The only way I have been comfortable with it is in missionary where I am the one who slowly moves towards him until I have relaxed the muscles enough and let him in far enough to let him go for it... But then again, we haven't attempted it pregnant lol.
He says its a different feel for him , and once you get into it its a different orgasm... Sorry if this is tmi, but I figured youd want honesty!

My advice on it (besides of course making sure things are clean before you start and using a condom) is for you to be in control... The only way I have been comfortable with it is in missionary where I am the one who slowly moves towards him until I have relaxed the muscles enough and let him in far enough to let him go for it... But then again, we haven't attempted it pregnant lol.
He says its a different feel for him , and once you get into it its a different orgasm... Sorry if this is tmi, but I figured youd want honesty!

I'm not a big fan of it but every now and then we'll do it (partly just because he gets so surprised and happy when I actually say ok lol). He says he likes it partly because it's tighter, partly because it's something different, and partly because it's so taboo. As far as making it more comfortable, try doing it while you lay on your side. Have him go slowly (maybe use your hand to guide him and/ or to brace yourself) and wait until you give him the ok to go deeper. The more relaxed you are the less uncomfortable it'll be. Oh and use lube.

I'm not a big fan of it but every now and then we'll do it (partly just because he gets so surprised and happy when I actually say ok lol). He says he likes it partly because it's tighter, partly because it's something different, and partly because it's so taboo. As far as making it more comfortable, try doing it while you lay on your side. Have him go slowly (maybe use your hand to guide him and/ or to brace yourself) and wait until you give him the ok to go deeper. The more relaxed you are the less uncomfortable it'll be. Oh and use lube.

“Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter. In love to our wives there is desire; to our sons, ambition; but to our daughters there is something which there are no words to express.” --Joseph Addison (1672-1719)

Advice for helping it hurt less: be drunk. I'm not kidding either. I do enjoy it then because I'm relaxed. I cannot get relaxed enough to do it otherwise, no amount of lube changes that. Be drunk, and he needs to go slow. That's my tips!

Advice for helping it hurt less: be drunk. I'm not kidding either. I do enjoy it then because I'm relaxed. I cannot get relaxed enough to do it otherwise, no amount of lube changes that. Be drunk, and he needs to go slow. That's my tips!

its up to you how clean you make it.. wash up before, lots of lube and dont go back to the hooha after youve gone in the butt... You do NOT lose bowel movements. its not like you have anal then your poop falls out after! its a muscle.. just like after you have vaginal sex.. do you pee your pants everytime you have to go?

its up to you how clean you make it.. wash up before, lots of lube and dont go back to the hooha after youve gone in the butt... You do NOT lose bowel movements. its not like you have anal then your poop falls out after! its a muscle.. just like after you have vaginal sex.. do you pee your pants everytime you have to go?

When I asked my husband the same question he told me that it was always tighter than the vag, and there was an awesome suction from the butt that you don't get from a vag. But I agree with pp get drunk and remember too much lube is almost enough

When I asked my husband the same question he told me that it was always tighter than the vag, and there was an awesome suction from the butt that you don't get from a vag. But I agree with pp get drunk and remember too much lube is almost enough

I have had a bad experience with butt sex(u really don't want to know trust me) but that was 1time the other times it was fine but I onlyike it drunk and I'm not much of a drinker at all (haven't gotten drunk in 2) yrs ...one piece of advice tho I was told do NOT let your SO blow his load in your butt I have heard horror stories of diarrhea for days from one person...maybe it was just her but better safe than sorry

I have had a bad experience with butt sex(u really don't want to know trust me) but that was 1time the other times it was fine but I onlyike it drunk and I'm not much of a drinker at all (haven't gotten drunk in 2) yrs ...one piece of advice tho I was told do NOT let your SO blow his load in your butt I have heard horror stories of diarrhea for days from one person...maybe it was just her but better safe than sorry

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