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anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?8 months

johnxyz:Here is someone who really had their life ruined. She met a feeder and went from 200 something to 600 something. Her parents did not approve and let her know that, Her feeder left her when she couldn't gain anymore to find another feedee. She was unable to care for herself and had to move back with her parents who kept up with the "I told you so." She decided to have weight loss surgery, which is very risky. She died from it.

This feed er is despicable! I would NEVER treat my feedee this way! Not all feeders are sociopaths; I love my guys!

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?8 months

SEVERE paucity of BHMS in my hometown; found a local feedee with a little meat on his bones (fwbs) and a BHM in Wisconsin who wants to move here and let me make him 700 lbs. Thank God for FF! I don't wish I had the unnatural thin fetish that is more common; I'm very grate ful to have normal sexuality.

Farleysmom:Right on, bro! I will definitely quote you irl (or at least paraphrase you; my memory sucks.) The church gives lousy advice, too, "no sex, before marriage and then have a babY every 11 months." Copra sanctum! I let them f with my mind, stayed abstinent about a week after meeting the fat cable guy with blue cloud burst eyes. #the cable guy always finds a way

I think the points being made here about the fetish being life-ruining are about the limits it puts on individuals' experiences of loving others and being fulfilled by/being able to fulfill their significant others. As well as the problems in creates in finding people to match with given the smaller pool of potential partners presented by the fetish. It's not as much about how we view the fetish as being either good or bad, or how open we are about it - I don't think anyone's 'not taking control of their lives', it's just an extremely complex fetish to have which has big consequences whether we like it or not for our love lives.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?7 months

godan2056:Yesterday, my girlfriend of two years broke up with me. A woman I love, a wonderful woman who's smile brightened whatever room she was in. I lost her because I took her for granted. Because of my fetish I made her feel like she wasn't good enough for me. All responsibility on this is my own. Anyone else lost anyone they truly loved or regret this fetish?

I've recently had this exact experience and it was heartbreaking. It triggered several bouts of depression and ongoing mental health issues for me, stemming from how irrational the fetish seems to me oftentimes, and how hard it is to line it up with the people I love, and the people I want to be intimate with. But I'm now rallying to try and embrace the fetish exclusively in the short term which I've never truly done, and explore it more pro-actively. It's just too emotionally painful, stressful and confusing doing anything else.

aho:I can't orgasm unless I'm with/fantasizing about someone fat or gaining. Its frustrating because it limits my dating pool, like I might click with someone, but if they aren't fat or going to gain weight, I can't have an enjoyable sex life with them.

sugarkitten7:I'm in the same boat, it's something I wish I could change. Or at least I wish I had more kinks/fetishes to be interested in 😞

ChubbyHubby:I can definitely relate and agree. I've made the same wish myself numerous times.

^see above^ I can totally relate to this.

Can I also say how reassuring and relieving this thread has been to find, and for me to read; comforting knowing that other people have been through the same experiences and we're not alone in our struggles with integrating this fetish into our lives, which can often be challenging and mentally very confusing or saddening everything isn't neatly fitting into place.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?5 months

aho:I can't orgasm unless I'm with/fantasizing about someone fat or gaining. Its frustrating because it limits my dating pool, like I might click with someone, but if they aren't fat or going to gain weight, I can't have an enjoyable sex life with them.

sugarkitten7:I'm in the same boat, it's something I wish I could change. Or at least I wish I had more kinks/fetishes to be interested in 😞

ChubbyHubby:I can definitely relate and agree. I've made the same wish myself numerous times.

Capricornus:Me too somehow, the thing is I also like normal sized girls, but I would always choose bigger ones, so I can't really deal with it. Maybe I should try to ignore the fetish and I could be like everyone else

I understand your viewpoints. For me, as a feeder enjoying a man who's going to gain, it makes sense to wish I was just normal like other people and could have sex and orgasm like they do. But at the same time I like what I like, and love the open minded person I've met who's not really into this, but is still chill with gaining. The dating pool for me has turned into quality over quantity. Also, no matter how hard us FA's try to ignore the fetish, we cant. We can simple fall into what we love and embrace it.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?5 months

I don�t gain for the sole (I think that�s the right soul/sole???) purpose that it�s unhealthy and I keep a thin body which kinda hurts on the inside cuz I like fat and all but I also like being thin so it�s hard to choose between two so I�ve decided to stay thin but I write a lot of stories about gaining and I wouldn�t mind a gf that would let me feed to to at least 200lbs sadly if they had the same fetish as me I don�t think they�d like my body

So short answer idk?? Haven�t lived that long to really know yet but if I was you I�d stay under 300lbs cuz it�s very risky to go any where near that but omg...

I have too many thoughts on this topic to write them all down so sorry if my typing is all over the place but this happens to me whenever I have to many ideas well... imma just stop

Oh yeah Iím bi but I donít like guys gaining which really confuses me to the limit cuz I like big girls and thin guys.

why was I made this way I donít know and if anyone has any answers regarding anything Iíve said please tell me because

MY BRAIN CAN MAKE SENSE OF ANYTHING

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?5 months

I know how you feel if you really want stuff about body inflation then go to bodyinflation.org but I also have a fast metabolism and can�t gain weight even though I kinda want to so I�ve decided that because I can�t gain weight I�ll stay fit and just keep writing stories on here because I like writing and lots of others seem to be enjoying my stories so yay! Hope life gets better for you hector!

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?5 months

HectorTheConvector:Thanks and you as well.I've thought about doing some stories on here about inflating because I have a very fertile imagination....lol, but I am a bit nervous sometimes about how they might be received.... :0

Donít worry about how others will think because everyone here is usually judged hashly by people that donít have those weird fetishes that we have so I know everyone in this community will love what you have to offer ! (I know this because I ask for lots of criticism and feedback on my stories but no one wants to judge my stories or me for that matter)

But if you want to post inflation stories itís best if you do it on bodyinflation.org but I know this website has an inflation section so I donít think it really matters but if you decide to write wg stories then bodyinflation.org wonít publish your stories

Good luck for whatever is to come next for you hope this helps you !!

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?5 months

I definitely understand it but as a woman I feel it's almost worse in some ways because society expects so much more from women. In some ways it's better and I'm not sure it's ruined my life but I do feel is causing some self-inflicted roadblocks in my life.

I've had this desire to be fat for a long time, since I was a teen and probably before but I feel I have to fit into some type of societal mould in order to get what I want out of life. I recently separated from my husband (I don't know if it will be permanent or if we will get back together) but I feel since I've had to bury this desire of mine and I have difficulty admitting this desire that is makes it difficult for me to have the authentic intimacy that I crave.

Aside from that, there's actual genuine health issues and I know heart disease and diabetes runs in my family. How much of my health am I willing to risk to do this? It's a double edged sword. If I don't at least try to go down this road, how can I ever be my authentic self? If I do go down this road and like it, how much of my health am I willing to risk? How much am I willing to risk in terms of friends and family relationships? How do I get over my fear of being judged? I don't know but this is my fight right now and why I'm here.

That said, has this fetish actually ruined my life? Not really because I haven't done anything with it yet. I haven't attempted to participate in it. But I feel the fact I've tried to bury it rather than embrace it has ruined some aspects of my life in regards to intimacy and being honest with who I am.