Wondering how I survived my mom vent

I am 1 of 3 kids, so clearly my mom has experience with babies/ kids but I keep wondering how my brothers and I survived. I have watched her contaminate salad with raw chicken and not was her hands between touching raw meat and raw food preparation...it completely freaks me out to watch her in the kitchen.

Then over Thanksgiving she fed my nephew, 11months, sugared sweet potato casserole with nuts, which he's never had before and my SIL (sister-in-law) asked her only to feed him food she brought or plain turkey...my nephew had all sorts of tummy problems and is on special formula because of allergies. When I called her out she said, I'm only feeding him the potato part... like it's not sugary and baked with the nuts.

An hour later she wiped my newborns face with a cloth napkin that she used with her food and then used to wipe the faces of two of my nephews (one of which I just found out is running a 101 degree fever!!). When I said something, I got lectured about how I'm being crazy over protective ... because you know my 7 week old who spent 3 days in the nicu is clearly in need of toughening up.

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I swear I feel the same about my parents! It must be an older generation thing but I too often wonder how I survived. I see things they do and think how in the world am I still walking on this earth lol! It makes me very nervous to let them watch LO. Actually I never do unless I don't have any other options. Makes me feel kinda guilty but I have to do what's best.

Thanksgiving was hell with my in laws. Toddlers and little kids running rampant smacking my son in the head, and I swear no one knows how to wash their damn hands. Like get your filthy paws off my newborn. And don't come around if your sick, wtf. DF (dear fiancee) tells me I'm being overly cautious but dammit if I can prevent my son from getting sick I sure as hell am going to.

I swear I feel the same about my parents! It must be an older generation thin...

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11/27/2016

I swear I feel the same about my parents! It must be an older generation thing but I too often wonder how I survived. I see things they do and think how in the world am I still walking on this earth lol! It makes me very nervous to let them watch LO. Actually I never do unless I don't have any other options. Makes me feel kinda guilty but I have to do what's best.

Don't feel guilty! I would do the same but thankfully my mom lives over am hour away so there's little chance of her babysitting even as a last resort.

Thanksgiving was hell with my in laws. Toddlers and little kids running rampa...

Posted
11/27/2016

Thanksgiving was hell with my in laws. Toddlers and little kids running rampant smacking my son in the head, and I swear no one knows how to wash their damn hands. Like get your filthy paws off my newborn. And don't come around if your sick, wtf. DF tells me I'm being overly cautious but dammit if I can prevent my son from getting sick I sure as hell am going to.

I literally pulled a bottle of hand sanitizer out of the diaper bag and plopped it on my MIL (mother-in-law) coffee table. 😄😋

People are so much more sensitive these days is what I've basically chalked it up too. My Dhs granny was telling me over thanksgiving she had all 3 of her kids on whole milk by 2 to 6 weeks, eating gravy, potatoes, etc....and my mom has told me she had me eating rice cereal and mashed taters pretty much from the get go!
I asked my Dh's granny how did you get babies around back then? She said we held them and when they were older they'd stand next to us while we drove.
I also remember standing most the time in a car, my mom never used car seats with us.

I think it's a generational thing...we all survived and just imagine how it was when our grandparents were babies!!

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