She Loves Him More

Doc Love: The Semi-Long-Distance Relationship

When Anastasia unhesitatingly chose Brett over you, you should have walked straight out the door right then and there. You should have stood up and said, “You’re still in love with that guy, plus you see him every day at work,” and then split, and that would have been the end of it. Sven, what you have to realize here is that you never owned this girl in the first place. The Dating Dictionary says, “Are there any ex-boyfriends lurking in the background?” And the answer in this case is a resounding yes. But, again, you don’t know about that because you’re not familiar with my techniques.

To take it further, the thought of being No. 2 drives you batty because you were never No. 1. And you accepted the position of No. 2 voluntarily. You knew Anastasia worked with Brett, you knew she lives an hour away and that she spends eight hours a day with this guy — not to mention that he was the love of her life. You had to see what was likely to happen here. The point is that you were never No. 1 for Anastasia and you will never be No. 1 for her. You were finished with her from the start.

Anastasia might have said she loves you, but she loves the other guy more. She might want to be with you, but not enough to make you No. 1. And how are you going to make Anastasia forget someone else? Think about it logically, Sven. Can you put a gun to Anastasia’s head and order her to forget Brett? Are you going to force a pill into her mouth to give her amnesia? The very best thing you said in your letter was that asking her about Brett is going to do nothing but remind her of him. Bingo! You finally get it, pal! You came in as No. 2, you’re always going to be No. 2, and you’ll go out No. 2.

You’re not a nice guy, Sven; you’re a weak guy. You made Anastasia your girlfriend when she was in love with someone else. And so this was a dead issue from the beginning and you had no shot with this girl. Of course you’re always there for Anastasia when she needs you. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “You’re just like her butler.” In fact, you’re a butler who kills Challenge! By the way, Sven, does Anastasia also tell you what corner to stand in and when to exhale?

Don’t worry about the flames being rekindled between Anastasia and Brett. They were never un-kindled!