A Companion For The Silver Years

Many single senior citizens across India are now giving relationships a second chance in their silver years, through marriage or live-in relationships. Here’s a look at why companionship is much needed in an older age and organizations helping seniors to achieve it.

This article first appeared in 2014. We have updated it recently with new information due to the sustained interest in the topic.

“I’m happy just to have someone with me in the house,” says Janardan, a former government employee in his 70s now; he is husband to Mala (name changed on request), in her early 60s.

“I’m looking forward to finding someone who shares my love for travel,” says Balaka Devi, 63. She recently registered herself (with the help of a supportive daughter) with a marriage portal that enables second marriages.

While stories of romance among people middle-aged and older have often made successful plots for many Hollywood films (Something’s Gotta Give; It’s Complicated; Mamma Mia), the traditional Indian mindset is largely unwelcoming of people looking for love and companionship in their older years. There are whispers and snide comments and very often a lack of support from family members. However, mindsets are gradually changing and social acceptance is finding a foothold as older people across the country are opening up to finding companions to spend their lives with. With life expectancy going up and people living longer than earlier, finding a companion in your 50s is considered absolutely normal, while looking for love in the 60s or 70s is no longer looked upon as taboo either.

While some people believe in marriage, many opt for live-in relationships. As we spoke to couples across different age groups, communities and social strata, one thing stood out. Living one’s senior years without a companion to spend one’s days or share a conversation with was a daunting prospect for most. Older people usually give relationships a second chance purely for this reason. And helping them out are a few organizations that have tapped into this growing social need.

Finding a Match

In Chennai, Mr. Vasanth of Vasantham Remarriage Service says almost 20- 30% of people registered with the bureau are over the age of 60. “The oldest couple we have helped get married were 78 and 76 years of age. They have been married for three years now.” Vasanth feels most women who have registered with this service are looking for financial security from their partners and moral support. For men, the need is more for a companion who will look after them and help alleviate loneliness too.

Ahmedabad’s Natubhai Patel needs no introduction when it comes to senior marriages and live-in relationships. The devastation that followed the 2001 earthquake in Kutch, Gujarat, led to the establishment of a unique organization for seniors by Patel. Called Vina Moolya Amulya Seva (VMAS), it works towards finding life partners for single seniors – widowed, divorced or bachelors/bachelorettes.

While Kutch was where this organization started, today it has managed to reach out to more than 7000 senior singles of different ages from all over the country. It has been instrumental in the wedding of 52 couples, and amazingly 11 live-in relationships of singles above the age of 50. Patel says, “We wanted to help the senior citizens live the remainder of their lives with companions and that is why we started this service.”

In Kolkata, Dr. Amitava DeSarkar runs Thikana Shimla, an NGO that also provides a platform for senior citizens to connect with each other for companionship, apart from taking care of other eldercare needs. DeSarkar was inspired by Patel’s work and took his advice.

“When I researched loneliness of elders, I saw that singleness is one of the causes of loneliness. Attraction for opposite sex is natural, even in twilight age,” he adds. DeSarkar also runs a home for older people, as well as smartphone classes. After interacting with many seniors he feels that, “living alone, lacking instrumental support and being unable to share life expectations with a confidante contributes to social isolation.” Having a relationship and finding companionship with the opposite sex is one of the best solutions for alleviating loneliness and social isolation, according to him.

Battling the stigma

NM Rajeshwari and Damodar Rao with their families

“Marriage in the later years is not about a physical relationship but about emotional support,” says NM Rajeshwari, founder of ThoduNeeda, a Hyderabad based NGO that works towards providing emotional support to the elderly. Started in 2010, Rajeshwari felt that with the joint family system breaking up and adult children often living overseas, several seniors who were on their own had nothing to look forward to except for the empty walls of their homes.

Battling ridicule about her age and ‘proclivities’ (she was 60 then), Rajeshwari personally met senior citizens around her and discovered that many were ready to welcome a service that facilitated companionship for them at an older age. Most were however worried about the social stigma. Rajeshwari, the brave woman that she is, wasn’t. When she started ThoduNeeda with a press conference in December 2010, 45 men and 25 women attended, with a 66-year-old former bank manager and a 63-year-old lady meeting there for the first time and deciding to live together.

Since then, Rajeshwari and her organization have seen almost 50 couples stay together, whether through marriage or a live-in relationship. They organize meetings where they invite senior singles. All meetings and discussions are overseen by a lawyer who can advise regarding possible financial complications. Once a couple decides to stay together, they must announce it on the ThoduNeeda platform, so as to encourage others.

Rajeshwari rues the fact that children are often the biggest hindrance in their parents finding happiness.

“The children may have had inter community marriages themselves but they don’t want their parents to get married. Very often the prime reason is property, as they do not want the new spouse to have a share in it.”

Adding that this is one of the reasons why a lawyer is present for all couple meetings, Rajeshwari echoes Mr Vasanth in saying the prime reason for women wishing to marry is security, while for men it is housekeeping. Although roles are often reversed. She cites the example of a lady who got married through her organization and says her new husband makes tea for her every morning! “The husband is also happy that he is being complimented for being so thoughtful,” she says with a smile.

Patel admits there are people who raise an eyebrow at live in relationships among seniors and explains the reason why some of them have opted for it. Older people have usually amassed property or some wealth by this stage in life and marriage often brings with it legal complications like changing of wills, converting bank accounts and the worst of it all, court cases from aggrieved family members.

As Patel says, “Most of our unions have been successful yet there were cases which fell through. Having the last few years of their life wasted in court cases was not our intention, and this made us suggest live-in relations.” This ensured that seniors could have a companion to share their lives with, without any legal complications that marriage might bring in, especially where property was involved.

Patel understands the difficulties an older, traditional Indian woman faces in participating in matrimonial events, which is why his organization arranges for all the expenses for women coming to the meetings by paying travel and stay expenses. Though he has faced opposition in a few places, Natubhai Patel still feels that society is opening up and children are now approaching him to find partners for their parents. He feels his priceless service is helping society become more tolerant and accepting of the needs of senior citizens.

DeSarkar, on the other hand, has faced threats from some family members of clients. “One person asked me to stop contact with his mother immediately or else I would face problems.” Despite threats, his initiative has found many takers, with several seniors attending the meets organized by Thikana Shimla.

The Support Systems

Every cloud does have a silver lining and children who are against parents finding companions could do well to take a leaf out of Rajeshwari and her companion Damodar Rao’s childrens’ books. Rajeshwari and Damodar, 69, took turns to speak to each other’s children.

“I did not want them to think of me as a stepmother. I told them I’m your father’s friend and there to provide him emotional support,” she says. She also offered to write on a stamp paper that she had no rights on Rao’s property or money, to avoid any dispute from the start. “They returned it but his children understood now why he had liked me, trusted their father’s judgement and wanted him to be happy.”

A relationship was the last thing on Namrata Singh’s (name changed on request) mind after her husband passed away five years ago. Singh, 55, was still coming to terms with the loss and dealing with grief and loneliness when she met her partner at a conference. They started off as friends, even successfully working together on a few projects, which gradually culminated in them starting a business together.

As they got to know each other more, the closeness grew and sometime in late 2017, Singh and her partner started a relationship. For Singh, it was important that her daughters understood and accepted it.

“My daughters are in their mid and late twenties and both are extremely supportive. They appreciate the fact that I have started a company, I have a partner and what I am doing,” says this independent media consultant.

While marriage is nowhere in the picture for now, it was important for Singh to speak to those close to her about her new relationship when she started. “My husband would have approved. He did not want me to give up on love as I was only 50 when he died. But I wanted to ask my mother who lived with me and also tell my father in law.” Her partner too, told his daughter and ex-wife about the relationship. Although Singh’s relationship grew from a friendly to a romantic one in an organic manner, the loneliness looming ahead in life also played a big part. She is extremely honest when she talks about it. “I spent the last four years alone and that was very tough. I would feel lost without a companion. I wanted someone I could depend on.”

Like Singh, Balaka Devi of Kolkata wouldn’t have thought of looking for a companion, until her daughter Tara suggested it. “I’m the one who told her about older people finding companions and said there is no harm in looking for someone you could spend the rest of your years happily with. My mother loves travel, enjoys good food in restaurants and movies. I’m quite busy with my work and live in a different city. I would be thrilled if she found a friend to do these things with and an emotional anchor,” says Tara, who has registered her mother with a few websites and has even sent her off on a ‘date’ or two.

Finding A Companion

While Singh was lucky enough to find love at an older age again, some older people do need some help in finding a companion. ThoduNeeda runs a tour program for seniors where they can meet. Apart from marriage, they also welcome any seniors who wish to find a companion to share a home with, be it two women opting to stay together because it makes their lives easier. As Rajeshwari puts it, companionship makes your quality of life improve. She herself is an example of it.

After organizing matrimony meets for over two years, DeSarkar has realised that the solution to the problem does not lie in just a one day program. “I need to continue a relationship with candidates all along the year. So, we have started a closed Facebook group of interested people and we are planning on organizing dating tours as well.”

Patel organizes sammelans (seminars) where prospective grooms can meet prospective brides. The seminars are announced in the local media through ads. He explains how it works.

“Here we collect the bio-data of all the prospective candidates, then they are allotted numbers and then we introduce the ladies and then the men. They each shortlist the ones they want to meet. We give the women the preference to decide first and then organize on-the-spot meetings. They are then free to exchange contact details and arrange further meetings. The organization treats the bio-data submitted as proof and does not get into the background check of the person. “Our responsibility is to make two willing persons meet, from there on it’s up to them how they want to take it forward.”

All the organizations ensure they take maximum care to avoid any form of cheating or misrepresentation. At Thikana Shimla’s meets, interested persons can fill up a form and attach a passport size photo, age proof, address proof and proof that they are single (death certificate of spouse or divorce certificate). Those who have never been married before are given a declaration form to fill. While most take adequate care to ensure only genuine people meet and help them take the first steps, in case of a prospective match, once people connect with each other, it’s up to them to take it forward.

“The trend for a legal friendship is much more than marry or live-in relationship,” says DeSarkar, who feels companionship matters more than a label (married/live in) does. He isn’t far off the mark. Whether it is with a little matchmaking support or finding love by chance, single seniors are ready to change social mindsets and give relationships a second chance.

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I am 73 year old, my wife expired 5 years ago. I have two sons and a daughter all are married and well settled.
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Ladies expecting richness and big property may ignore my post.

Should any misunderstanding occur,we are matured enough to resolve amicably and mutually be it break up or patch up. Of course after due explanation and clarification from both the parties because most of the time the reason is so minute that it can be overlooked.

In addition to above I say that we do not have any right to play with anybody’s feelings. It is advisable to talk it out and clear. We all make mistakes. Realisation is important. And the mistakes could be small easily forgiven and forgotten.Relationships never die by natural death, they are murdered by silence, ego, attitude, ignorance.Do not make life a deal but live it with a great feel. Relations can not be made with conditions.
Think!!!!!!
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Dear Anonymous of 28th July. You have left your gender also anon.
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My phone and whatsapp number is 9833270864

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I found no of peoples became psychic and some other are suffering from frustration
This is the tragedy of widow widower and single peoples
Our life is gifted by God Almighty n everyone can get once and life is uncertain We have only in our hand is to live happily whatever breathe we have
I m also not get anyone As a last attempt I m thinking to arrange five women and five men for a one day outing trip near Pune in a resort which is located in a beautiful Nature talk share each other freely so that someone may get a companion n other’s will get like minded friends Which may turn into companion
The resort owner will arrange pick up n drop
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If someone finds this is a nice idea then please contact me on Whatsapp no +919970815046 Persons outside Pune can join
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Hi
I’m residing at Pune. Lost my spouse at the age of 52. Will be retiring next month. I keep on travelling. Travelling, music and fitness is my passion. Daughter is married. Son yet to be married. Need a genuine travelling companion. Till now travelled alone.

Hello Ms. Rohini.
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This is Kay Naidu from The Nilgris.
I am a retired, widower, stepping healthy into my 60 by next month.
I reside with my children who are getting ready for their engagement / wedding, one after the other.

With all neat & clean habits & character, I lead my simple, lonely life as a Home & Meal-maker + Social Worker.
Hope you speak Telugu..? If yes, my children will feel more happy and feel more comfortable to see and receive you at our home.

As this is my first invitation extended to a lady after my wife’s death, let’s initially speak, e-Mail & exchange our passions, pains, memories, likes and dislikes. After which, lets get little closer with our views, opinions and interests and try to meet each other personally, either at our/your home amidst all our children.

And if they prefer us to be a Companion or a chosen Life Partner for the rest of our life lets plan ahead, to stay together.

Hi
I’m Rita n a christain lady. Age is 64 year old want life partner of age 65 n. Above. I stay in pune. I want a good person who can give love to me. If any interested plz contact me on my mobile..
±917066996722 this is my whatsapp number also.. Waiting for ur reply
From. Rita

Iam looking for my dad who is aged about 53 years (Widower). He is smart, caring, understanding, good looking. We belong to Telangana Reddy Family . Right now my father stays at home town and We are planning to shift to Hyderabad in a month. IF intrested please reach on below number. – 8801188014

Hi
I am 57 years old woman staying with daughter n son in law in pune. I have no relations with my husband since many years. I am physically fit also well educated. Recently I have done Diploma in naturopathy.
As my daughters are well settled, they don’t want me to do anything for earning.
I really don’t want to stay with married daughters .so, I am looking for someone to share the rest of life.

I am 65 years old. Part of a small unit which includes my two children apart from myself. Widowed 15 years ago I have raised my two children well and have secured their lives with a home and a decent education. I feel complete as a man should feel having achieved, in small measure, what I have over my life span. I still have a bit to give and bit to take and do not mind taking my chances. Retired now with a decent income to back me and importantly maintain my self respect. I am not answerable to anyone for the steps I take for myself, now or into the future. And yes, I do very dearly love my children for the support and understanding they have given me over the years. I do want them to move on in their lives without a burden. Physically alright. A few quirks like an occasional drink, a smoke. Music (all kinds), a good book, cooking and an evening of ‘gas’ with friends keeps me acquainted with myself and aware of a life as it should be. But, I do know, that the days ahead would better and more fulfilling if I could just hold a hand and walk down that long road together with a twinkle in the eye and a laugh on our lips. Look forward to hearing from you.

I am Narendra fully agree with views of N Sharma, A Katkar, Mahesh, A Kapadia etc. To spend Quality time. Of all above only Kapadia is with wife else are single.
Keeping in view of this I want to clarify that the person with spouse can also be lonely. Some may have to continue like that due to fear of society & consequences there on. All will agree that Family Head is alone & lonely.
We senior people have not enjoyed life at all. With limited resources, we do not have any childhood, not enjoyed our Marital life to get settled and then bringing up children’s. When it is free time at this Grey Hair age we are most neglected. Children’s with education want the privacy & parts from us and we Males think that we only are responsible for upliftment of family. The Sr Citizen age has reached, all are not lucky not to have Health issue. Female partner hasites most issues & relationso are tense. This I have explained elaborately to answer Mira Kumar.
Females at this age have multiple problems + society fear. That is the only reason ladies are taking less interest in such a nice platform. We are envy of our child’s. They do not involve to enlarge family size. We are burden to society. Our spouses are scared of each other.
We are left with no option to lockup in our bed room or look such platform, that to objected by people like Kumar.
We have to do something to come out.
Narensra Mathukia.

Hi I am fifty year old smart lady from decent family departed mother of two Children need a true friend for sharing my joys n sorrows if anyone decent man is interested call orwhatsapp me I am from Delhi 9953339667

Hi I am 70 years old male retired from USA is looking for very lovable ,lady partner
I am divorced man with no obligation of family
Planning to retire in retirement community near Banlore or Pune
Seeking a companion with awakened personality
Spiritual not religious at all
Punjabi or Hindi
Speaking will be better

Very Good Morning to all of you & I am Ashok N Kapadia – Based in Mumbai at Kandivali Charkop Area, from Hindu Gujarati Bania & middle level self Independent Family – my wife is Usha A Kapadia and we have only one son who is married and settled & residing nearby our Area only. I am 59 & though retired in September 2016 but still continuing as consultant with GVK Group (with whom I am since last 30 years) at their Mumbai International Airport.

We would like to have like-minded Couple of similar age who are residing in nearby area of Charkop for companionship and sharing future time jointly for long term relationship, for clarity we are neither looking for any financial commitment nor can commit such commitment from our side also…

Kindly contact us on Mobile – 9833838090

With Best Regards,
(Ashok N & Usha A Kapadia)
Dated 22nd February 2018…

We single senior citizens be it men/women have the liberty of living our own life with our free will. Even we have desires and needs. Why should we be left alone.We can also meet and go on a date. We are living under the clouds of condemnation. We should not bother about society who condemn us. We are still young at heart and have the capacity of loving and caring. Are the moon and sun called old? Let us not feel lonely and go into depression. Let us all meet , go on a date, make friends , love and care. It is our fundamental right.
Mahesh
9284918455

I fully agree with the idea of we senior citizens getting together. Why should we live under the shadow of objections from any other people. We should live our life with freedom at least in the last phase of our life and specially we are so lonely.

Hi I’m appealing to those who are really searching companion living in Pune pl join our lonely Seniors Gappa Mandal means Chatting Personally We r not getting companion then at least we meet once in a month Chaat each other n relive our tension which we give us new friends someone may get partner Thus we may come out from depression Doesn’t matter whatever ur mother tongue relegion age PL contact What’s app no +919970815046 We r already four persons n will take first meeting this month

Looking into present lifestyle of youngsters, Senior Citizens are often left in isolation. The feeling of rejection and loneliness even at the times of their needs gradually becomes the cause of withdrawal from active social lives and going into depression in old age. I think we should become bold and come out in open to find suitable companion to enjoy our rest of life. Contact 9284918455

Interesting. I am 70ish or younger in my interests (yes biologically older) living in Chandigarh (great city but a bit non-professional culture) with a large house. Earlier lived in Mumbai and Kolkata. Fond of travelling – on 24th passport and been to 78 countries. Have diverse interests including golf, music, dancing, performing arts and of course current affairs.Travelling was becoming a bit boring so researched Sikh Diaspora in non-English countries about whom not much information was available. This enabled me meet people which made travelling interesting. swarnsk@gmail.com. http://www.sikhglobalvillage.com. mob 9815517100. Author of books: “Sikhs in Latin America”, ‘Sikhs in Asia Pacific”(from Yangon to Kobe). Now writing on 17 countries of Europe from Iceland to Russia and Norway to Greece. Exciting and stimulating company most welcome. Financially comfortable.Thanks.

Hi I m Anil Katkar appealing to all senior male /females PL don’t live under the shadow of sorrows expose urselves like Western females use this n Silverinning sites only don’t trust any free or paid sites

I, from Bihar Retd.Engineer,72 yrs old widower having good health with no liability getting sufficient pension lacking only good companion with whom we can share our feelings and can visit most religious and popular place of India .I have two sons ,both good placed one at Delhi another at Chennai with one married daughter and all are more than sufficient.

Hello Mr. Anil Katkar / Mr. Mohan Srinivasan / other members, I am 55 years old, a resident of Pune city, single, not married, strictly vegetarian, no vices, hindu brahmin, a non-smoker and no drinks either. Just wished to share my views on this platform too. How to spend and continue living the remaining part of our life is bothering one and all after one crosses the age of 50 and moving towards the senior citizen category. After reading all the comments and messages here, I personally think and feel, that it becomes more difficult, rather impossible for a senior citizen to find a companion, be it a male or female at his / her age. The fact remains that nobody wants an old person as they are considered a liability and a burden in our Indian society. Everybody wants a young person in life who is fit, fine and healthy too. So in a way, people like us remain lonely in life and also have to spend time on our own in loneliness. I too am sailing on the same boat at my age. In a way, life and living becomes more of a burden at this age, with no solace in sight and no body around us when we need them the most. At our age, we need someone in life, who could be a caretaker, a companion or just a friend who is dependent, reliable and who can be trusted, be faithful and one who can be there when people like us need them the most. Be it a widower, a divorcee or someone like me who is single and unmarried, the question that bothers or rather haunts us is, what to do next, where to go, whom to meet, who will there around us in case of an emergency, so on, so forth. The feeling of being unsafe and insecure in life always triggers off at this age. Added to this are the constant health woes, ailments, operations, surgeries, the day to day aches and pains in life that only worsen the situation for us on a daily basis. But things become simple and easy, if there is someone around us who is there just to interact, communicate and be there to motivate us to live this life and look forward to another day too. Someone who could just be a friend if not a companion, who can share our loneliness and lonely moments of time with love, compassion and care, giving us a patient listening too. All said and done, since I like, prefer and am more comfortable with older, mature men and senior citizens, if any male from this category, on this platform is also seeking and looking for a person like me who can be a friend for communication and if need be a companion too, then you may kindly mail me on my mail id : macs_sharma@yahoo.co.in, I now await and hope to hear from like minded male senior citizens soon. Further interactions, communications are welcome from one and all, thank you, best wishes and regards.

My sister, who is 52 and never married is lonely among her elder sister and younger brother who are married. he is not very educated but she is very caring and sweet-natured. We are based in Kolkata. Can you help us in any way?

Hi Alkakunur thanks for your response I m tired in searching a companion We lonely people should unite n solve our problem It’s foolish thing to depend sites paper add Let’s have an experiment We share our profile n help each other Nobody will help us except ourselves I request you please let’s tell this idea to our friends relatives If someone wants not to expose PL contact me Only one person Narendra approved Remember this group is only for lonely peoples n We r here to solve our problem not for chatting ,photos good morning messages or Vedios . PL u also contact me my at What’s app no 9970815046

Anil u r very right .it is impossible to get a companion of ur choice or ur cultural.it is a good idea to have WhatsApp group .but we should restrict to single people like us .bcoz somebody contacted me from the same site stupid fellow sent me his and his wife,s picture which shows that he has his wife and family .then why is trying this site .I tell u people r cheap .cheers to ur new adventure

Hi I got so many responses from U S , South Africa from a site Get close . in from younger ladies between 30 to 40 About 99%r fraud but remained r genuine but they are not suitable for me as they or I can’t relocate there Out Indian ladies not giving their contact or response It’s too too difficult to get a good companion in India As I already mentioned in my previous comments all Indian n foreign sites r fraud

There is no response at all from female / women. The WhatsApp group can not go further. I do not know what they are afraid of. You have to start with Hi, Hello. It is only to unite like minded people. If friendship do not move further, it is okay. I expect all the posts by ladies to say at least Hi. Narendra. 9320496963

of late i have been praying god to introduce me to people who suffer from loneliness so that i can also meet them and share our experiences and be of help to each other as long as we live ,and make each other happy by reducing our burdens ,mental stress etc…i am going to complete 60 soon and i have already started feeling the way the rest of the world feels…..any like minded people of opposite sex is okay for me….only for discussing…..

I am looking for a femail companion for my uncle who is 77 year old. Comapny needed to give some emotionally and physically togetherness in Noida.
if any lady who is independent, fit and not suffering from any ailment around 50 to 55 years of age interested in living in relationship may contact me on 9711195564

Hi good morning I’m Anil Katkar I have written my comments on this blog two /three times and also on Sakaal Times site n Silverinning but had very bad experience No ladies write comments and unfortunately who writes don’t give their contacts Further no other sites in India I request u if know any other sources PL share I tried news add marriage Beauro Kumar Deshpande Dignity Foundation n found instead of doing any needful thing they only interested in publicity I feel like other social things We Indians r still miles away from the World My What’s app no is 9970815046 if someone will help me I shall remain grateful for ever

I am from Pune seeking female life partner from India my age is 49 separated since 8 yerars need for companion for rest of life. my cell no 9130803899 or may contact on niwasanjadhav@gmail.com.thanks a lot for such type of coopearation.

Respected sirs, I am Somnath Das, residing in Cuttack, Orissa. I am a widower and with my children’s blessings looking for right partner. My wife passed away 6 year ago. I want guide on how to find partner from silvertalkies channel.

I m 68 yr old very healthy well educated. Love traveling and meeting people. People say that I look 60? I ,m very very lonely .I need company who wud travel and come out with me .I need sombody who is staying in south mumbai.so that we can meet as and when .I don’t want anybody to support me financially.

Respected sir, I am Thirupathy Sr citizen lonely living , I will take some helping me sir,I were sending my profile to your foundation for Sr citizen women for companion to me sir,what can I do in this last living period I asking about my life. Please give me your opinion,help me, Thanking you sir. Thirupathy.Hyderabad.

I wish to have companion lady between 55 -65 to live and support daily life. I am very healthy and 65 years. I normally wish to stay in my hill station farm house. The lady should be self supportive and not much commitments as she may need to stay in farm house surrounded by good people and she can meet my full family and know about her security. Can live long healthy life upto 100 years. Can contact chennai 9791167005.

I am 62 year old widower, seeking relationship with women, age 48 to 58 , who don’t have any responsibilities and having free mind to kill my lonelyness for temporary or permanent. My what’s up is +919427857602 .. I am leaving in Gujarat, Anand..

Sorry to mention my contact no. It is
9320496963
I am Narendra Mathukia of age 63. Am healthy residing at Mumai. Verge Completeing my family responsibility. 2 daughters married one son married & settelled at US and one rween son will be married soon. Living with spouce who wants to go to US to one of son which is not a good idea for me.
Narendra

It is great service by Silver Talkies for lonley persons. Even talk of 5 to 10 miniutes helps to pass a day.
Physical contact is not ALL one need at age beyond 60. Talk to someone like minded helps to relieve the stress of life.
Narendra.

I am a 57 years old Professor from Chennai looking for a good friend cum companion. I want to have a live-in-relationship with any widow/ divorcee/seperated/ unmarried female (35 to 54 years). I am financially independent.preferably female executives/Academicians. contact thru my email id or send me your contact mobile number. can meet and decide

I saw the profile of Ramesh Chandra, I would like to contact him, I want to know which place he belongs to, because I am from Hyderabad, I am 68, in fact I contacted Thodu Needa, Mrs Rajeshwari also, but now I am in US.

I am 70 yrs, male, separated Hindu Brahmin looking for a companion. I am very fit and agile for my age! Was a defense officer, teacher, trainer, HR consultant and travel developer. Worked in New York for over 10 years; now living in a seniors’ community in Tamil Nadu and get a good pension. I have 3 sons, all settled abroad. I would love to share my life with someone who cares and is loving. I love all the arts, music, travel and intellectual pursuits. I’d love to hear from you. Don’t feel shy; send me an email at rameshvara@yahoo.com. This could be a good life for both of us. Thanks. I am Ramesh Chandra, looking forward to hear from you…

Hi i am financially not sound but can be a good friend with all my heart mind in true sense wish. any pure vegitarian brahmin women above 40. Of same nature and interest to write me.come let us communicate undestand each other and see whether we can be united. For life.Sir you can publish this meesage in all your sites so that there is a broad possibility of me mingling with some one in any part of India. I am living in chennai and 57 years old.I f some one interested let us first start through this site itself

Hi, I am a lady, 49, divorced with one son in engineering college, govt. employee (Lecturer) and a writer of English books from Himachal Pradesh. I am looking for an educated man, widower , GENERAL CATEGORY who is willing to marry me and stay with me. I DO NOT NEED FINANCIAL SUPPORT–JUST EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL SECURITY. But the man should be financially independent, and reasonably healthy, between the ages 44-55. Preferably from Himachal Pradesh,

Hi,
I am 46 years old male living a lonely life in Chennai and i am interested in meeting a woman who is open, interested in life and equally intellectual as emotional. i have varied interests including good food, travel to exotic places and interested in good literature, and music. In short i am interested in anything that is lively and stimulating. I speak Tamil and English and some times like being solitude as well. I am employed.

Hi I am a single never married pure vegetarian looking for a women of same nature in any part of India for friendship/living together in the ave group of 45 and above.EXCEPT Financial status I am ready to Be as much involved as my partner and even ready to relocate ifmutually acceptable.I know Tamil English and Hindi (know to speak to some extent due to my stay in Mumbai and Delhi as well understand to some extent)Remember to read understand my message before consider replying me.my mail ID sbca1234@hotmail.com

Hello, I am a smart looking widower aged 59-yrs living in Ooty – The Nilgris. I am looking for a Telugu/Tamil speaking lonely woman aged below 60-yrs (irrespective of religion caste & creed) with whom… I can speak, joke, eat and walk hand-in-hand for the rest of my retired life. I have 3-children doing their schooling by staying at hostels. I love listening to sad-songs and watch TV/movies that make me burst my tears. I long to have a live-in-friend with no issues.. except that to share her sadness and happiness at… seven two zero zero eight four eight two one zero +91 72 00 84 82 10. Feel free to speak or sms or email. Thank you.

Hii.my name is Monica pais.I live in pune.m a widow lady .I have one son n daughter n their married n settle ..I feel very lonely so want a life partner .cast no bar .m 62 years old lady n I want life partner of age from 65 n above..plz contact me on my mobile number ±918237953957 n same number on whatsaap I have …

Mr Anil Katkar above has expressed an interest in contacting the Vaishya widow of 65 years, mentioned in your comment. Please connect us wither her on mail@silvertalkies.com, so that we may pass on her contact details to her in case she is interested.

Hi I m Anil Katkar 72 widower retired from pvt co. Hyderabad living in June lost spouse in 2008 living in loving family of two sons daughters in laws grand son /daughter feels lonely sometimes finding female companion age caste religion mothertounge no bar I m healthy smart tall never drink/smoke veg for companion no bar if someone interested Pl contact 9970815046 or abkatkar@rediffmail.com

I AM M.K.REDDY FROM HYDERABAD. I AM 59 YEARS YOUNG AT HEART.HEALTHY.I AM IN HIGH POSITION AT CENTRAL GOVERNMENT. I AM WITH COMFARTABLE MONTHLY INCOME FOR LIFE TIME. TEN YEARS BACK I HAVE SEPARATED FROM MY FAMILY. LIVING ALONE. I AM AN ACTOR (ACTED IN SOME FILMS). WRITER AND ORATOR. VISITED MORE THAN HUNDRED COUNTRIES. I AM LOOKING FOR A WOMAN IN COMPANIONSHIP. WOMEN SHOULD UNDERSTANDABLE AND WILLING TO LIFE TIME RELATIONSHIP.INTERESTED WOMEN MAY CONTACT: mkr_mines@yahoo.co.in

I AM M.K.REDDY FROM HYDERABAD. I AM 59 YEARS YOUNG AT HEART.HEALTHY.I AM IN HIGH POSITION AT CENTRAL GOVERNMENT. I AM WITH COMFARTABLE MONTHLY INCOME FOR LIFE TIME. TEN YEARS BACK I HAVE SEPARATED FROM MY FAMILY. LIVING ALONE. I AM AN ACTOR (ACTED IN SOME FILMS). WRITER AND ORATOR. VISITED MORETHAN HUNDRED COUNTRIES. I AM LOOKING FOR A WOMAN IN COMPANIONSHIP. WOMEN SHOULD UNDERSTANDABLE AND WILLING TO LIFE TIME RELATIONSHIP.CONTACT: mkr_mines@yahoo.co.in

There is a Vaishya widow of 65 yrs age, healthy and energetic and willing to offer live in spiritual companionship on the condition she is given some property. If there are any responses to this request, contact number of this widow shall be provided

I am a 55 years old, just retired Army Colonel. Immediately after retirement my wife left me without any reason I still am working in the army on re employment for another three years I’ll prefer a widow of a fellow army officer who has given his life to the motherland.
I am looking for a healthy, good looking and educated companion where we can share each other’s agony, pain and life for a better tomorrow.I am a non smoker, occasional drinker and have two daughters of marriageable age.

I am not 50 yet. But still I feel so left alone in life. Today 16th dec.2015 i am searching the net to know what i can do for the Christmas and new year. Wish atleast a stranger was there to talk to me. If ever any one feels the same like me…. Please remember… I am there. mail me at mayfairylady@gmail.com and maybe we can kill our loneliness

I lost my mother early this year in 2015 due to cancer. Now, my father aged 75 is alone and lonely. He lives in one of the best elder care homes in the country as he is adamant on retaining his independence and with neither of his sons, but we know how lonely he feels even though he is cared for by lots of neighbours and the home officials.

Dear Ms Fernandez,
You may contact Kumar Deshpande Foundation in Mumbai: dkumar28@gmail.com or Dignity Foundation Mumbai, which organizes companionship fairs sometimes. Please call them on 022-6138 1111 to know more. You can also contact Silver Innings Foundation on the following contact details: 09167765451 or Email: silverinningsmatrimonial@gmail.com
Wishing you the best,
Team Silver Talkies

I am Rukmani, 75 years old, living in Chennai. I am looking for a suitable companion to spend the rest of my life with. I have 2 daughters both well settled in Chennai. I am presently employed, very active and healthy. Widowed at a very early age of 37 years. My husband died in 1982. I am currently living with my elder daughter. Need a companion who will be supportive, caring, healthy and well settled. If you are interested please mail me.

I am Rukmani, 75 years old, living in Chennai. I am looking for a suitable companion to spend the rest of my life with. I have 2 daughters both well settled in Chennai. I am presently employed, very active and healthy. Widowed at a very early age of 37 years. My husband died in 1982. I am currently living with my elder daughter. Need a companion who will be supportive, caring, healthy and well settled. If you are interested please mail me.

I am Rukmani, 75 years old, living in Chennai. I am looking for a suitable companion to spend the rest of my life with. I have 2 daughters both well settled in Chennai. I am presently employed, very active and healthy. Widowed at a very early age of 37 years. My husband died in 1982. I am currently living with my elder daughter. Need a companion who will be supportive, caring, healthy and well settled. If you are interested please mail me.

I am looking for a like minded companion for my mother aged 75 ( widowed at 37, 2 married daughters),either within India or abroad. we reside at Chennai. What is the proceedure to register with you or do you have a contact at Chennai. Please let me know.

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