Saturday, 31 January 2015

It was 7 am. I was still sleepy, struggling to open my
eyes.Just five more minutes,a voice said. And I obeyed. It was
8 when I again got into my senses and finally decided to get up. I rolled my
hand over face and discovered something bumpy near my chin.Oh no! Not again!! Another pimple!!
I stood in front of the
mirror and scrutinized my face as if it has done some crime. Well at least my
looks and my expressions were saying so. It was count 3 then. Makes me
wonder, am I it's favourite that it’s comes to meet me every other day?!

I was about 10 when I'd heard about pimple, but never really
understood what it is. A small mark on my face, and a question was ready for my
mother, "Is this a pimple?". "You're too young child to have
pimples. They come in your teen years. It's just a smalldaana which will go in a
day", said my mother. What is it
like to have pimples? I saw my friends and cousins having them and cursing it
all the time.

During my entire teenager, I never encountered a single
pimple. Lucky me, they say. But not lucky enough, as they've became my friends
lately. The only set of friends who I hate. Actually. The pain that they cause,
to the person whose having it and to the person who has to look at it, while meeting
a pimple face. Well yes, it's not a problem for the both sides. Both the parties have
equal trouble.Don’t touch it.. and wash your face five times a day, eat
fruits, eat salad, drink lots and lots of water, apply this.. apply that..!!M sick.. literally from all
of it.. Everyone has one advice to give. At least. Or may be it’s not the
advice that sucks. It’s the eye contact, which people hesitate to make. The only place where their eyes stop by, are at the pimples. Which reminds,Oh! You have pimples.. how dare you
forget about them?! But dun worry, I'm here, I won't let you get away with it
so easily.

Here..I have some facts to mention-

1.Most of us
believe pimples are for kids. Not true. Research
says approximately, 8 million people see the dermatologist every year, lying in
the age group of 20-50.

So have a life, you’re
not the only one

2.Breakouts do not
improve by washing your face multiple times. It does removes the excess oil and dirt but washing your face again and
again will have the opposite effect. Too much cleansing might cause irritation
in the skin and make it worse.

3.Make up is not
all to be blamed. It’s always safe to
sample a bit of product and test on your skin whether it suits you or not. Some
cosmetic products might cause irritation and give trouble, but this is also not
necessarily true.

4.Some organic
products do cause pimples. So next when
you advise someone to use organic products, please have a check at that.

The exact cause of pimple is still unknown. There are
various theories and experiments which give a good insight on pimples, but the
primary cause is still unknown. Getting back to having pimples on your
beautiful visage, I say it’s a lot more inside that ruins stuff rather than
what it looks like outside. I have seen people avoiding meetings or parties or
important functions. Or even if they have attended, the only centre of
attraction is the sensation that keeps coming and leaving the pain behind while
talking, eating, smiling, etc, etc. And thus, the question, “Isn’t my face looking weird coz of this
pimple?” Very ubiquitous you must be thinking. People start abstaining themselves from
coffee, dairy products, bread, sugar, nuts, spicy food, and what not! To an
extent its fine but getting finicky over everything is where it starts taking a
toll.

I think it’s more of the support system that you have that
helps you get over the acne problem. Not reminding constantly about having them
solves half of the problem. The rest can be worked out by bringing out a few lifestyle
changes. If one is prone to acne, no matter what, they will come sometime or
the other. It’s the positivity and confidence in yourself, the happiness and being
carefree that will mitigate this viscous circle!

Thursday, 29 January 2015

I wonder how fast the time has gone by,And the opportunity along with it, that would have let me fly high. For life is long and full of surpriseWith ardour, I take a deep sigh!

Clan warns for every moveTake every stride that you could prove.There will be every possible obstruction in the wayIn the form of family, relative and society which will bring you dismay!
But you have to be impregnable at all timesAnd not quit at the very last step of your aim For opportunity will be waiting for you with a huge dime Which you will be relishing all your lifetime!
This post is written for Theme Thursday for January.
Cheers

Wednesday, 28 January 2015

Years ago I loved you more than my treasured life. And
fought with my family and friends and relatives and society to be with you. It
was only you who I had in this merciless world. Shocking it was to see shame, guilt
and betrayal in your eyes. For after finding your whore in our bed, I abandon
you from everything that I had.

I am the eldest in my family,
having a younger sister and brother. Not being fair at all at the time of my
birth, got lines on the forehead of many, making them blurt, how will I get
married?! To their surprise, my engagement got fixed within minutes with the
very first proposal I met. As a child, I was very obedient and sincere. I
remember people saying being a woman is not easy.. girls should be raised to be
simple, shy and dumb.. Today, when I think of it, I laugh at them. Being a
woman, I feel, is the biggest gift from God. And every effort you take, every
sacrifice you make is all worth it! Being a woman has never held me back from
doing whatever I wanted to do. Thanks to my Father, who always pushes me to do
the best and believe in the best! Lucky us, that we’re born in the 21st
century, where opportunity is not a problem and expectations never fails. If
not today, tomorrow you will definitely succeed. Gone are the times, where
women had to choose. Between Love or Career. Modern or Traditional. Dancer or
Homemaker. Mother or a Corporate. Friend or Wife. And the list goes on. Today,
breaking all the shackles that society has laid, I choose the And label. All it
needs is a little courage to take your stand, and patience to see things fall
into places. I stand high and proud of who I am and it’s not just one word that
can describe me.

Daughter- Being the elder child, I have always been bestowed with
certain responsibilities at a very early age. And I have never ever nagged
about it. Rather, I loved every single bit of it. It gave me the joy of sharing
my parents work.. Yes.. both mother AND father.. inside the house AND outside
the house.. household chores AND office
work.. It made me learn the complexities of the world and the taught me the
tact of handling them. My parents never had to wake me up for school after the
eighth grade and they never had to push me for my duties. Today, even though m
married, my parents are my priority.. and will remain so..No matter what.. and
I will be there for them at the oddest of hours till m alive!

Sister- Though I don’t have kids right now, but my sister is no
less than a child. Mother, as she portrays me to herself, needs me from the
simplest to the most complex matters in her life. Miles apart, a single phone
call helps her from taking the wisest of the decisions in the most knottiest of
the situations to buying a simple hair pin! And this helps me gain my inner
strength as well. My brother, though, isn’t much of a talker, yet never misses
to share roller coasters of his life or what is it that’s making his heart feel
so heavy. My care and concern for them is endless!

Career Woman- Getting married a little early, did cut the time
slack that I would have had, had I married later, but it couldn't stop me
either. Not staying in a metro city does circumscribes a few opportunities, but
there’s always a way out for everything, depends if you want to find one.
Sitting idle is just not my cup of tea. I simply can’t take it. It makes me go
mad.. brings frustrations.. throws me into endless pondering, making me
miserable..for everyone! I wanted to
work, not for money but for myself.. not for bread and butter but for my
individuality, for making my own lil space in the family and in the society.
This is what defines me. I can’t afford myself to fade away. My ambition and my career is like oxygen to
me. After a few months of soaking myself into the new culture, new family, new
lifestyle, new traditions, I needed to get back to being Me. I started with
CitySpeak, which is an online page that helps you find out what so ever is
going in the city. It did got immense appreciation, but due to lack of places,
the page is on hold right now. I needed something else to get going. I prepared
for an exam and the same year I prepared a research paper as well. It was my
first experience at an international conference. And it gave me a lot.
Experience, learning, realizations about myself to name a few.

Homemaker- Yes, I am a homemaker. And I am proud of the fact that m
able to handle it well. It got a handy initially being new at it, plus work
along with it. But everything worked out just fine with a little extra effort
and the help of my extremely wonderful family.

Friend- Being an extrovert, always helped me making new friends
easily. But surviving the friendship with the extreme personalities was never a
problem. Being new in the city post marriage, relatives were the only people I
had. But with time, I have made few of the closest friends who will be there with
me forever. It was a large bunch initially, but with time all their colours
came in front of me and thankfully I saved myself from a clump of hypocrites.
My closest of friends substitute the word ‘friend’ with my name. I may not talk
to them every day, but there has never been a single moment when my friends
needed me and I wasn’t there. That’s what friends are for, right? Actually, this was one of the things I made
very clear to my husband initially, that when my friends need me, no matter if its
2 AM or 5 PM, I will be there with them at any cost and he too understands this
need of mine. That’s what makes him even more special for me.

Teacher- As I have always been keen at explaining things in a
simpler form and this helped me recognise my art of teaching. I did teach
endless number of my colleagues, juniors, and off late cousins as well. And all
of them proclaimed me to be a teacher. Yes.. I am a teacher now. . My work is
the best thing that happened to me last year. It gives me inner peace, it gives
me joy and I can connect myself with my work and my students. Empathizing with
students and making them understand things and witnessing the look of
contentment on their faces is the prize that I get after my each class. It’s bliss.
I need it to survive.

Innovative and Creative- Anything that I ever do for people close
to my heart, has to be a little unique, different and new. It should have a
personal touch in a subtle manner that gives the message loud and clear that
you are special. This innate quality of making others feel special defines me as
person. I never have any idea about what am I going to do (on things that I’ve
never done before), when am I going to do, for whom am I going to do.
Everything is impromptu. Making cards or t-shirts would be a cliché to mention.
It was my parents’ 25th anniversary, where they hired a professional
to make a documentary. I also did not back out from the gift I was going to
present them with that video. Well, he ended up taking a copy of what I made! I
am not a web designer, neither have I done any course in it, yet it was for my
sister that I gifted her a personalized website which brought tears of joy into
her eyes on her big day!

Prospective Writer/Poetess- Writing is a hobby for me. It’s a feel
good factor about everything around me. It did start with a frustration to
express myself, but off late I realized, it completes me. I never knew I could
write poems until one day I had to complete an activity for a friend which
helped me discover something I was unaware of.

Passionate- I am a big time passionate lover. Details can be
availed from my husband ;). Being passionate about my dreams is within me.
There is this fire inside which makes me restless when m not doing anything.
Even when m done with daily goals, it points me to do something more, achieve
more. I am standing on a road, which m going build myself, discovering myself
with every new step and it’s the passion inside me to do every possible thing
that gets me going.

Cooking- Not a very avid cook but I love to cook for people who I
love. I made an effort and learnt a few special cuisines as well. When you fall
short of expressing your love for your loved ones, cook for them. It’s the
perfect gift that blends all your love, and brings its magic in the form of its
fresh aroma.

Librian- Yeah, that’s totally me! Balanced. Be it work, house,
family, career, friends.. That’s one thing that makes me unparalleled. I am
good at multitasking and everyone around wonders how all of it is possible
giving equal time to everything and coming out with the best results in every
activity. I am very liberal and it does seem to many that I go a lil overboard,
but that’s their problem I feel.

Social- That’s right. I love to party. I love to drink once in a
while. I love meeting people. I love catching up with friends. I love to let my
hair go loose and succumb into the rhythm of music and dance like no one’s
watching. That doesn’t mean m a slut! I love to wear red lipstick. But that
doesn’t makes me an easy catch. I am perfect blend of a modern woman with her
own values and principles of traditions.

All these things mentioned
defines me.. completes me.. say a lot about me. I am independent and liberal
and traditional and modern and inspiration for many. With all the labels
mentioned above, I choose ‘AND’ and not ‘OR’ for being someone who I am and can
handle all of it well.