This weekend we have a family wedding to go to. We had committed to it long before things had reached the stage of wondering whether to separate. We've been kind of doing an "in-house" separation, and as things have calmed a bit, and maybe for the sake of the weekend, I'm suggesting to my H that I'm open to a bit more closeness, though I still feel a bit fragile. We are still looking for a separate place (outside of the caregiving home) which would give both of us a chance to get away, or perhaps an opportunity for us to try living apart if needed.

Anybody else been "on again off again" in terms of living separate lives?

Married 7 years, together for 14
Me: BS Him: chronic boundary issues, EA for 2 years, DD Spring 2013

Posts: 197 | Registered: Nov 2013

million tears♀ 24416Member # 24416

Posted: 11:46 AM, May 30th (Friday), 2014

I'm not sure if this counts but after the A we were trying to work things out so we were together...then WH decides he wants an in-house separation (not A related) I went to my mom's place in another state. Like I want to be with him in the same house after that. I didn't call or text the whole time. When I got home he had changed his mind and wanted to work things out. With some work things got better. I think we needed the separation.