8 Signs you're being used for sex

Tristan is a love stylist who, through internal and external makeovers, guides her clients on all matters surrounding falling in like, falling in love and falling into bed. She is also the author of MENu Dating: Taste Your Way to the Mai...

Booty call or is he in it for more?

You guys hang out, get intimate and then...he leaves. Is his post-sex disappearing act because he's channeling Criss Angel or is he just using you for sex? Read into these 8 signs to find out if he's just in it for the sex.

He wants only one thing

We've all been there: Sleeping with a seemingly great guy whose motives we can't seem to figure out. Maybe he's giving mixed signals or no signals at all. Either way, something in us makes us wonder if he's in it just for sex. Well your first clue, should be your trusty gut, but maybe your gut isn't so trusty because it is wrapped up in insecurity. In that case, here are eight more clues that may help you solve the mystery of whether your lover is interested in you as more than just a bedmate.

WARNING: The truth of these clues may sting, but better to know where you stand, than to lay down for too long with the wrong guy, right?

1. Weekday lovers

If your guy seems to always be MIA during the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is reserving weekends for someone else on his literal to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other women. "When a girl is just a girl I'm into for sex, I'll never ask her out on a weekend. Weekends are strictly reserved for A-listers and new opportunities." – Mike, 27, Chicago

2. Sporadic contact

A guy who is really into you will communicate regularly. A guy who is in it to sex it, calls, texts, emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky and knows that you will indulge his desires. If the sight of your man's name on your caller ID surprises you, chances are, this is a sex only situation.

3. Invitation to nowhere

He never invites you to go out with him – his friend's birthday party, his work happy hour, not even a lackluster dinner and a movie. Bottom line: "Dates" are always cozy nights in. Why? Because that is the easiest place to, you guessed it... have sex.

4. Time's up!

You spend just enough time together for a little foreplay, sex and maybe a nap. Unless there's time and desire for a round two, a sex-only motivated man will bolt like a thief in the night before you even have time to turn over on his side.

5. Late-night lovers

A sure in-it-for-the-sex-only sign is when your man only reaches out to you after hours, also known as a "booty-call", when the day is done and quite possibly last call has been shouted. Although he coos for you sweetly on the other end of the phone, perhaps begging for your hot body, just know that you might be on a long list of lovelies, any of one of whom can satisfy his sexual cravings for the evening.

6. Tangoless texts

The sex-only guy is remorseless when it comes to leaving your texts unresponded to for hours - even days - and sometimes doesn't respond at all... unless of course you are reaching out to setup a boudoir appointment. And in that case if his RSVP his positive, his reply back is immediate. Same goes for phone calls, emails, Facebook messages, tweets or any other form of communication.

7. Sexy speak

You two speak one language: Sex. And that's it. If you think hard about it, you may know everything about how he likes "it" but you have no clue where his parents live, what he wanted to be when he grew up, the food that makes him gag, and if he has a middle name. There's lots of moaning and groaning, but no chatter about work, family, friends, problems, triumphs, etc. Sam, 31, of New York says, "A woman who presents herself as a sexual showpiece will be treated that way. Come to the table at the very beginning with more than just the ability to blow me away in the bedroom. Blow away my mind too and that way I'll consider you relationship worthy. You don't have to play like a virgin, you just need to offer more than T&A."

8. Listen from the beginning

He told you straight up that he doesn't want a girlfriend, doesn't have time for a girlfriend, can't deal with a girlfriend... and just wants to have casual fun. It is up to you if you want to listen... but remember, most guys don't want to deliver news that women don't want to hear unless they really mean it. Justin, 24 from Oakland says, "Know who you are and be in charge of what you want from the beginning. If you leave it up to me, then I'm probably going to go for what is easiest... and that's never a relationship."