Ex Drunk Texted Me. Does She Miss Me?

Dan Bacon
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It’s a good sign.

Here are 5 possible reasons why she texted you while drunk:

1. She was feeling sad about the break up and was attempting to confirm that you still want her, so she could then feel good about herself

Even when a woman is the one to initiate the break up, she still can end up feeling sad, lonely and regretting it.

Of course, if she’s like most women, she won’t admit that to the guy she has dumped and will just keep it all bottled up inside.

Sometimes, she won’t even tell her friends or family that she is missing him and will just try to put on a brave face and act like everything is fine.

Then, after a few drinks, she starts to think differently and stops worrying so much about what others might say if she got back with her ex.

A couple of drinks later, she drunk texts her ex to see how he reacts to her.

If he doesn’t respond, she may assume that he has moved on or doesn’t want her anymore, so she will open herself up to new guys (and possibly have sex that night) to make herself feel better.

The same applies if he replies with something like, “Please don’t contact me anymore. I wish you all the best.”

When faced with a situation like that, a woman will usually take immediate action to hook up with a new guy and hopefully make herself feel better in the process.

This is especially true if she has been drinking.

On the other hand, if her responds in a positive way by saying something along the lines of, “Hey, good to hear from you! How have you been?” or, “Hey cutie…miss you” she will feel confident that he still has some feelings for her.

If she wants him back, she will usually then keep texting and potentially push for a meet up that night, so they can hook up.

Alternatively, depending on what her motives are, she might feel satisfied enough that her ex is still missing her and then get on with having a fun night without him.

Whatever the case though, if your ex drunk texts you, it’s usually a very clear sign that she is missing you, even if she isn’t sure if she wants to get back with you or not.

So, what should you do about?

I recommend that you take control of the situation by actively making her feel attracted to you via text, on a call or in person, rather than playing games with her (e.g. not contacting her or replying, but acting like you don’t care about her anymore).

So, rather than wasting anymore time wondering things like, “My ex drunk texted me. Does she miss me or is she just messing with my head? What if I text her back and she tells me she doesn’t want me? I will make a fool of myself. Maybe I should just ignore her” just take action and get her back.

Remember: Even though your ex might be feeling sad about the break up, she’s won’t wait forever for you to make a move and get her back.

So, don’t hesitate to begin the ex back process.

Interact with her, re-attract her and get her back.

Another possible reason why your ex drunk texted you is…

2. While drunk, it seemed like it would be fun to text back and forth with you

However, to put some science behind it, researchers at the University of Illinois at Chicago College of Medicine conducted a study to confirm that alcohol definitely does reduce a person’s inhibition.

Inhibition (noun): A feeling that makes one self-conscious and unable to act in a relaxed and natural way.

According to the researchers, even one glass of wine is enough to limit the communication between the amygdala (i.e. the part of the brain responsible for processing emotions and memory) and the prefrontal cortex (i.e. the part of the brain responsible for decision making, and moderating social behavior).

So, if your ex got drunk, the part of her brain that would normally tell her not to text you would have been dulled.

Rather than worrying about the potential negative consequences, she just went ahead and texted you because it felt like a fun thing to do.

Of course, she may have regretted it in the morning and might now be ignoring you because she feels embarrassed by her behavior.

Whether she texted you because she misses you, or because she was too drunk to know what she was doing doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you now use the opening she has created, to guide you and her back into a relationship.

Another possible reason why your ex drunk texted you is because…

3. She is worried that you might be moving on without her

After breaking up with a guy, a woman will often be worried that he will find a replacement woman and move on before she’s had a chance to hook up with another guy first.

Of course, she won’t want him to know that, so she will try to find out what he’s is up to by checking to see his posts on Facebook and other social media, or by talking to mutual friends.

That way, her ex doesn’t know how she is feeling and she can try to keep moving on without him, rather than signaling to him that she is hurting, missing him or wishing she didn’t go through with the break up.

Yet, while drunk, everything can change in a blurry moment.

In the case of your case, she probably got to the point where she didn’t care what you might think if she texted you.

She just wanted to find out if you were missing her or had moved on.

Another possible reason why your ex drunk texted you is because…

4. Her friends dared her to do it for a laugh

When women get drunk together in a group, they sometimes talk about ex’s and guys they currently have a crush on.

This can lead them to daring each other to text an ex, or a guy that they have a crush on to see what happens.

Depending on how the ex replies, it will either cause the woman to laugh at him and make fun of him, or to be surprised at how attractive he is being and then say things like, “Maybe you and him should see each other again.”

Another possible reason why your ex drunk texted you is because…

5. Her friends urged her to do it because she wouldn’t shut up about you

Your ex might actually be secretly struggling to get over you and move on, which can cause her to regularly be talking about you, the relationship and how she is feeling with her friends.

So, if your ex’s friends know that she misses you, they might have encouraged her to text you while she was drunk.

They might be hoping that if gives you another chance, they will then be spared from having to hear her talk about you all the time.

4 Common Mistakes Guys Make When They Get a Drunk Text By Their Ex

Getting a text from your ex is a perfect opening to get her back because you can then get her on a phone call and get her to meet up with you.

At the meet up, you can then re-attract her, hook up with her and get her back.

Unfortunately, not all guys approach it in that way and end up losing their chance to get the woman back.

For example: Some guys make one or more of the following mistakes after getting a drunk text from their ex girl…

1. Waiting for more obvious signs of interest before trying to get her back

Sometimes, a guy will weeks, months and even years waiting for a more obvious sign of interest from his ex, other than just a drunken text.

He doesn’t want to make a move until he’s 100% sure that she misses him and wants him back for real because he’s worried about getting rejected.

He might also worry that she didn’t actually mean to text him, so it would make him look desperate if he contacted her.

Yet, here’s the thing…

It’s impossible to know what a woman’s feelings really are.

Even if your ex does miss you and that is why she drunk texted you, it’s unlikely that she will make the first move to call and arrange a meet up while she’s sober.

Why?

Firstly, she won’t want to help you feel confident (i.e. because she wants to see that you’re able to feel that way without her encouragement).

Secondly, she won’t want to make herself seem too desperate and easy because she is the one who left you.

So, rather than make it obvious that she still has feelings for you by calling and suggesting a catch up, a woman will usually wait for you to take the lead in the ex back process.

If you have the confidence and courage to make the first move, your ex will automatically feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.

However, if you don’t do anything, she will eventually get tired of waiting and just move on.

The next mistake to avoid making is…

2. Showing way too much interest in her and a relationship when he replies

As you would most likely know, a drunk text is not a declaration of undying love!

It can mean all sorts of different things, as I’ve detailed in this post.

So, even if your ex does miss you and the drunk text was a sign that she’s open to getting back together again, getting too excited in your reply isn’t going to help the situation along.

For example: Sometimes a guy will be over the moon that his ex girl texted him and reply with something like, “Hey! How are you? I’m so glad you texted me! I miss you. Have you changed your mind about us, or?”

Although he is just being honest, showing too much excitement or expressing interest in a relationship via text, just isn’t the way to go about it.

If you try to make your ex commit to getting back together before you’ve fully reactivated her feelings (i.e. after you’ve kissed and had sex again), she’s usually just going to say, “No” or play hard to get and say things like, “I’m not sure” or, “I need more time to think about.”

So, the best approach to take is to focus on making her feel attracted to you and then get to a hook up.

After that, you and her will naturally discuss giving the relationship another chance and at that point, she will want it too.

The next mistake to avoid making is…

3. Not using it as an opportunity to attract her with humor

A drunk text from your ex is a perfect opportunity to reawaken her feelings for you and make her rethink her decision to break up with you.

So, don’t make the mistake of being too serious about what you’re texting her, or what you say to her on the phone.

For example: Imagine that you called your ex the morning (or afternoon) after she drunk texted you and you said something like, “Hey, I hope you found your phone.”

She’ll likely respond with something along the lines of, “What do you mean? I never lost it.”

You can then reply by saying, “Oh, I thought you must have misplaced it, because there was this crazy woman flirting with me last night and she was using your phone!”

She will likely be feeling a bit self-conscious for getting caught out and she may say something like, “Oh,” or “Oops, that was me. Sorry, but I was drunk. I hope I didn’t say anything stupid?”

You can then say, “Not at all. You just promised to wash my car every weekend for the rest of the year! You’re such a nice ex girlfriend – thanks!”

She’ll likely be smiling and laughing and she might say, “No way! I can’t believe I said that. You’re kidding me, right?”

You can then say, “Yeah, I’m only joking…you just sent some random jibberish, which is pretty standard for a drunk text” and have a laugh with her about that.

At that point, she will be feeling rushes of respect and attraction for you for handling the situation in a fun, easy-going way.

Her guard then comes down and she becomes open to meeting up with you and seeing where it goes.

The next mistake to avoid making is…

4. Not following through and actually getting her back for real

Regardless of how open your ex sounds via text or over the phone, nothing will happen until you meet up with her face-to-face and reawaken her feelings for real.

A lot of guys will remain stuck texting and talking with their ex for weeks or even months, without getting to a meet up.

He’s hoping that if he just keeps texting or talking to her on the phone, she will eventually say that she wants him back and he can then follow through and get her back.

Yet, in most cases, the woman gets bored of waiting for him to man up and starts flirting with other guys.

When her ex finally builds up the courage to ask her to meet up, she texts him something like, “Sorry, but I’ve met someone else. Besides, I’m sure you’d agree that we’re better off as friends. I wish you all the best.”

If you don’t want that to happen to you, then make sure that you take control of the ex back process.

Get her to meet up with you, hook up with her and get her back for real.

Don't waste time ignoring your ex or trying to convince her to give you another chance. This simple trick will change her mind and make her want you back today...

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