4 Signs Itai??i??s Time to Move On from an Unhealthy Relationship

There is a future past this broken relationship. Itai??i??s your choice if you will remain stuck in the comfort of regret and memories, or if you will trust Godai??i??s light to bring you safely to shore.

Whttp://arrifa.com/purchase-lady-era-review/http://spjaszczurowa.iap.pl/2018/02/14/aleve-costa-rica/ hen youai??i??re in a transitional phase in life, which may include the entire decade of your twenties and maybe your thirties too, you have to say goodbye to a lot of things: college, your first job, your apartment, your hometown, another town, another jobai??i??and before, after and in-between all of those, relationships. Maybe a lot of relationships. Maybe only one or two significant ones. Either way, itai??i??s disheartening when a relationship ends during this phase of lifeai??i??the crucial phase when we feel pressure to find our spouses. Because of this, when we go through a breakup, we are tempted to leave our hearts with that old boyfriend or girlfriend rather than move on.

I am really good at not moving on, at clinging to my past and a past relationships for as long as possible. But Iai??i??ve learned the hard way that this is a dangerous place to be, the not moving on place. It leaves you stuck. It leaves you sad. It prevents you from becoming the person you know deep down you are capable of being.

If youai??i??re grieving a broken relationships and wondering if it is, indeed, time for you to move on, here are four indicators that will let you know:http://hair-luxe.com/?p=10376

1. You Are Replaying Conversations and Scenarios in Your Head.

Weai??i??ve all experienced this. We begin to replay scenes and conversations we regret in our head and just canai??i??t stop. You know what scene or conversation it is for you. We replay it in various ways, playing various roles. Sometimes we are the calm, cool and collected one that said all the right things and knew that the other person was in the wrong. Or weai??i??re the one that flew off the handle, or didnai??i??t say enough, or said too muchai??i??and we canai??i??t stop beating ourselves up about it.

Satan would love for you to camp out in the shame of your past actions, but freedom resides outside of shame and in the light.

Either way, according to research professor BrenAi?? Brown, instant replay is a sure sign that you are feeling shame. Shame is not a place God wants us to be. Heai??i??s been trying to drag us out of it since the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve tried to hide from Him. Satan would love for you to camp out in the shame of your past actions and the regrets of those encounters and conversations, but freedom resides outside of shame and in the light.

So next time you feel threatened by instant replay, try pressing pause.

2. You Are Physically Revisiting the Places of Your Past.

Not only are you replaying conversations over and over in your head, you are physically returning to the people and places you used date. And yes, ai???physicallyai??? includes Facebook, Twitter and Instagram stalking. I think most of us are familiar with the social-media check up on a lonely night or when we find ourselves in a sad place. Iai??i??ve gotten off Facebook altogether for this very reason.

If youai??i??re revisiting the old, digital photo albums, ask yourself why. I bet the answer will convince you to stop.

3. Your (Wise) Friends Say So.

Iai??i??m not talking about the friends who drag you out that first Friday night and encourage you to collect phone numbers from strangers, or the friends trying to keep you busy to make you feel better about your ex.

Iai??i??m talking about the friends around you who are wise, who know you, who let you be sad for a time and talk about it all you want and now are gently suggesting itai??i??s time to get out of bed, that your hair smells and you should wash it, and that watching movies alone every weekend is maybe not the healthiest choice at this point. Those are the voices to listen to, and if theyai??i??re telling you itai??i??s time to move on, it probably is.

Itai??i??s easier to think about your past than it is to face a future thatai??i??s unknown … [but] fear is never a reason to stay in the same place or with the same person.

4. The Only Reason Youai??i??re Not Moving On is Because You Canai??i??t See Whatai??i??s Next.

I think we let ourselves dwell on the past because we know what happens there. Itai??i??s comfortable. And when youai??i??re in a time of change and things arenai??i??t as clear, you hurry back to familiar scenes and faces. Itai??i??s easier to think about your past than it is to face a future thatai??i??s unknown. If youai??i??re not moving on because you donai??i??t know whatai??i??s next, because you donai??i??t know if there is anyone left out there for you and you donai??i??t know if youai??i??ll ever get asked out again, thatai??i??s fear, and fear is never a reason to stay in the same place or with the same person.

I love the lyrics to this song “Out of Hiding” by Steffany Frizzell-Gretzinger: ai???Iai??i??ll be your lighthouse when youai??i??re lost at sea / And I will illuminate everything.ai???

Andrea writes about God and relationships of all sorts. She writes about grace and what it means. About being a woman, and what that means. A life not questioned is not a life worth living. A faith not questioned is not a faith worth having. She will never stop asking.