Just a few short weeks ago a special heavenly gift came into the arms of one of our families: Matt and Nikki. Their domestic adoption process was relatively short, but the journey to their daughter was born in their family some years ago. Many adoption stories are shared by the adoptive moms in blogs and posts across cyberspace, and this story too is shared from the heart of a new mother. Enjoy Nikki’s story about God’s faithfulness through the ups and downs of their adoption journey:

“We started our journey of adoption a little over 2 years ago. At the time we knew we wanted to adopt and had known since before we got married, but we weren’t sure which path to follow. We spent a lot of time in prayer and listening to God. We had a very close friend that had adopted domestically around the time we had our middle son. It was a very positive experience and I was open to Domestic Adoption, but Matt wasn’t at the time. We started doing research on the computer and saw a lot on Ethiopia Adoption at the same time we seemed to run into several families that adopted from Ethiopia and were connected with a lot of them. All signs led to Ethiopia, so after a lot of agency research we signed a contract with our international adoption agency. We moved quickly through paperwork to get on the list with them and in February 2011 we were officially waiting for our daughter. To be honest from the beginning I was not sure Ethiopia was where our daughter was coming from, but knew we were on this path for a reason.

After about 12 months of waiting I felt a tug back towards domestic adoption and started looking into it again. At this time Ethiopia was very slow and the list wasn’t moving. Our agency decided to allow concurrent adoptions which opened a door for us. Through the agency’s Facebook page I found Dawn Wright, a consultant with “Christian Adoption Consultants” (CAC) and what she did for them. In Feb 2012 (our 1 year wait point) I contacted her through Facebook with a lot of questions. She was so great at getting back to me and sending me information. Our contact went on for months and finally I approached Matt again about domestic adoption. He had a lot of fears but most of all it was with the Birth Mother and the kind of adoption we would have. I asked him to pray about it and told him I really believed this is how we were to expand our family. Finally in May he agreed to move forward with CAC and we signed our contract – BEST decision we have ever made! We applied for any African-American baby girls we saw posted about that were in our budget (that was hard too, I wanted to increase it so many times). Dawn always assured me our time would come and with the right budget!

The week we were chosen by C’s (Our daughter) birth mom I was done (yes it was only 3 months after signing our contract, but for us it had been years of waiting to complete our family). It felt like every situation we applied for we were told NO and it really started to hurt! We actually were told no with the Birth Mom we ultimately were matched with. That same week we applied to two other situations and got “No'”s again so it was 3 in one week and we were feeling like it would never happen. We thought it was because we already had 3 boys and a big family. We honestly thought this would take years to hear “Yes”. Being that we were in ‘a funk’ we decided to take the boys out on the golf cart to the park and play with them. Three minutes into our ride my cell phone rang and the name Deb O’Kane (Deb is the Executive Director of Mother Goose Adoptions & Creating Christian Families) came up, I froze! Why was Deb calling us? We had her number stored in our phone from a situation that didn’t work out with us about a month earlier. I asked Matt to stop and answered… Deb asked if we had been matched yet (she knew about the other situations) I said “No, why?”, and she told us about our Birth Mom Steph that we had been her second choice and the first one didn’t work out. It wasn’t her fault just wasn’t a good fit. I really wasn’t sure what was happening I mean we actually got a YES and It didn’t matter that we were second choice right now we were MATCHED!! Within 5 minutes we were driving back to the house to get on a conference call with our Birth Mom Steph, I almost threw up! Deb was great at facilitating the call and helping us through it asking questions to both of us. I hung up cried and called Dawn screaming!!! None of it felt real till late the next day when our contracts from Mother Goose came through and then it sunk in we got a YES!! Someone wanted us to parent their daughter.

All of this was mid-August and although it seemed like the longest period of our lives it went fast. I talked to Steph at least once a week on the phone and multiple times through text messages. To be honest there were a lot of times I thought this isn’t going to happen, but Deb and Dawn always talked me off the ledge and ultimately reminded me this was in God’s hands and not mine. I was close with Steph and felt like we were bonding so I kept that feeling close to my heart.

On Sunday, September 15th Steph sent a text at 9:30pm that her water broke (2 weeks early) and she was going to the hospital! We moved fast packing, booking flights and getting the boys taken care of. It was crazy in our house that night. At 1:00am we got another text that said “False alarm sending me home” We were confused (since we thought the water broke) and sad because we were so ready to meet Steph and our daughter. On Monday I talked to Steph a lot on text and she wasn’t feeling well and still thought her water broke. She decided to wait till Tuesday to see her Dr. and ask to be induced. On Tuesday, September 17th at 5:30am my phone rang and it was Steph crying at the hospital and in labor at 5 centimeters!!! I started crying and wishing I could be there. She was alone because her boyfriend was home with her 2 and 1 year old and it was 4:30am there. We told her we would be there as soon as possible and to hang in there, it was all going to be OK, and we loved her so much! It makes me cry just thinking about it, she really is a part of our family and I wanted to be there for her. The baby was really the last thing from my mind. We re-booked flights that had been canceled hours earlier and got the boys awake and ready to school telling them where we were going. By the time we were driving to the airport at 9:30am our time (8:30am Central time) our daughter was born! We texted back and forth until the plane took off for Chicago. Steph asked what we were naming our daughter and we told her “C” and asked if they wanted to give her a middle name which she did. “C”‘s paternal grandmother had passed away recently and we chose to use her name as “C”‘s middle name!

Our Birth Mom, Steph holding our angel!

When we finally arrived at the hospital they would only let one of us back and I went alone to meet Steph and our sweet baby girl for the first time. It was surreal, I gave her a hug and told her I loved her and was proud of her and she handed me our daughter! I met one of her sisters who was so nice and left so Matt could meet his daughter! We spent the next couple of days all day in the hospital room with Steph and the baby talking and getting to know her better so we could share information with “C” in the future. It was way out of our comfort zones, but so worth it! We met the Birth Father Denota and biological siblings “A” and “L” which was priceless! On Thursday morning we headed to the hospital to pick up our daughter at discharge. This was a very hard day for me. I cried all morning at the hospital while we all filled out paperwork, I was so happy we were adopting our daughter but sad for Steph and what she must have felt at the time. She was calm and seemed very happy with her decision. The case worker and Matt went to get the cars and Steph carried the baby on the wheelchair in her car seat out with me next to her. When she handed me “C” I fell apart! I hugged her and told her thank you would never be enough for the blessing she has given our family. We had plans for lunch with the family on Friday after papers were signed so we knew we would see each other again.

Pulling out of there was surreal, we had a daughter!!! That night and the next morning went very slow… would she be with us forever or would we have to return her? We headed to South Chicago still not knowing if the relinquishment papers were signed and stared at the phone in silence. At 12:20pm the case worker called to say congratulations! We were so elated and thankful! It was over and we had a daughter.

Me holding our precious daughter

Matt and me at the hospital holding our miracle

We picked up the whole family Stephanie, Denota, and kids and had lunch and took lots of pictures! It was a great experience and one we will never forget! I still talk to Steph at least once a week on text and we are sending pictures and updates monthly. We hope they will stay in touch with us, we would like to take “C” to Chicago to see them next year!

A picture of the baby’s Birth Family – A blessing to spend time together

The time I had getting to know Steph and her family is a time I will always treasure! They are a part of our family and we love them! The only regret I have is that we don’t have a picture with them and us! Hoping to get that next year! We were so worried about how this would all go and it went great although rocky at times, God was in control the whole time and he knew this was “C”! The best advice I can give anyone adopting is get to know your Birth Mom and family talk to them and keep open lines of communications. I think Steph always felt like she could talk to me and it helped form our bond. Step out of your comfort zone, you will be pleasantly surprised at what you find! We are so in love with our daughter and are 100% sure she was meant to be ours. Follow your gut feeling, at the end of the day we know we were led to our International Adoption Agency to find Dawn to bring us to our precious angel, and that is just fine with us!! We are so thankful Dawn at Christian Adoption Consultants and Deb at Mother Goose Adoptions!!

Adorable and Precious Baby Girl!

Our Homecoming at the airport – Big Brothers meet Baby Sister!

What an awesome story – Thanks so much to Nikki and Matt, and their boys for sharing their story. May God continue to bless you all beyond measure in the months and years to come!