Venus in Aries: ​have a very direct, aggressive, masculine, upfront approach to love. Aries is the natural ruler of the 1st house, the house of the “Self”, and can therefore be quite childish and selfish in love. They are very playful and flirtatious, as well as impulsive. Aries is the “hunter” of the zodiac, and therefore love the “chase”. Venus in Aries are not known for having long-term relationships; once the chase is over, and they feel they have “caught” their partner, Venus in Aries may become bored and begin chasing someone else.

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Venus in Taurus: tend to be stable, loyal, solid partners. Taurus is the natural ruler of the 2nd house, so material comfort and financial security are important to Venus in Taurus natives. These natives revel in sensual pleasures, like cuddling, good food, good wine, comfortable surroundings, etc.. Taurus is a fixed sign, so Venus in Taurus natives are often slow to commit, but when committed, they tend to “hold on” to their partners and are resistant to change.

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Venus in Gemini: need variety and excitement in relationships. Gemini is the natural ruler of the 3rd house, the house of “communication”, so intellectual stimulation is important to them. They are incredibly flirtatious, and will wow you with their repertoire of knowledge. Venus in Gemini natives bore very easily and crave change, so it is easy to get frustrated by their fickle ways. They might be prone to talking about their relationship endlessly. Communication is key with these individuals, as they require intellectual stimulation to keep interest. They also love to experiment with new hairstyles and clothing, in keeping with their ever-changing nature.

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Venus in Cancer: will win you over with their caring, nurturing nature. Cancer is the natural ruler of the 4th house, the house of the “Emotions” and the “Home”, so security and feelings are important to them. Cancer is a very intuitive sign, and thus pays more attention to your feelings, than your words and actions. They can be prone to mood swings in love, and are turned off by anything impersonal. They are not afraid of confrontation, and if you hurt them, they have a difficult time forgetting this. Cancer is a rather insecure sign, so partners must strive to make them feel secure and loved.

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Venus in Leo: expect and require a lot of attention from their mates. Leo is the natural ruler of the 5th house, the house of “Romance” and “creativity”. They are high-energy lovers, who thrive on excitement and passion in their relationships. They dislike relationships that are impersonal, boring, or dull. It is difficult for these individuals to separate love from sex, and require both in a relationships; sexless romantic relationships or loveless sexual relationships just won’t do. Venus in Leo natives require loads of respect and appreciation from their mates. Partners must ensure they maintain the same amount of enthusiasm as their Venus in Leo mate displays towards them, as any hint of disinterest will send the Venus in Leo native running.

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Venus in Virgo: are very devoted and hard-working in relationships. Virgo is the natural ruler of the 6th house, the house of “work” and “health”. Venus in Virgo natives tend not to take risks in love, and prefer partners who recognize and show appreciation for all the little things they do. Venus in Virgo is very perceptive and critical, and may show love by nagging and criticizing. This is not because they want to hurt their partners; rather, they are simply trying to help you. They are turned-off by show-offs and boastful individuals.

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Venus in Libra: look for peace and harmony in their relationships. Libra is the natural ruler of the 7th house of “one-on-one relationships”, so they are naturally relationship-oriented. They are kind, fair lovers who dislike brashness and aggression when it comes to expressions of love. Relationships are very important to these individuals, and they dislike being alone. Venus in Libra likes to share, and has the uncanny ability to put themselves in their lovers’ shoes. They are afraid of confrontation, and dislike confrontational mates. They are very attractive to the opposite sex, and enjoy intellectual stimulation. They are usually very well-mannered, polite, and well-spoken, and are very socially-graceful.

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Venus in Scorpio: look for intensity in their relationships. Scorpio is the natural ruler of the 8th house of “Intimacy”. They are very loyal partners who crave intimacy and dislike superficiality and game-playing in their relationships. They give their partner undivided attention, and expect the same in return. In love, Venus in Scorpio can be very obsessive, possessive, jealous, controlling, and suspicious of their mates. They have tremendous sex appeal, and are not afraid of commitment.

Venus in Sagittarius: craves adventure and excitement in relationships. Sagittarius is the natural ruler of the 9th house, the house of “expansion, travel, beliefs, and higher learning”. They dislike routine and co-dependency in relationships, in keeping with their roaming, restless nature. They are very friendly, open-minded and flirtatious, and need a partner who can keep up with their need for variety and love of travel. They are not fond of commitment, as they dislike feeling “boxed in” by their relationships. Do not criticize them for their beliefs, as this will anger them.

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Venus in Capricorn: ​​​​​​​​​​craves stability and loyalty in love. Capricorn is the natural ruler of the 10th house, the house of “responsibility” and “career”. As a result, they are attracted to successful, older partners. They are slow to enter relationships, as they need to be 100% sure their mate is a loyal, responsible person they can trust before they make a commitment. Venus in Capricorn suffers from a strong fear of rejection, and is petrified of getting hurt. They also fear vulnerability, so outward displays of affection and emotion are not their cup of tea. Winning over a Venus in Capricorn individual requires patience and understanding, as well as reassurance. They tend to think long-term when it comes to relationships, so short-term flings are not favored with this placement. When they do commit, however, they are loyal, responsible mates. They show their love by doing things for you, rather than through words and physical displays of affection.

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Venus in Aquarius:​​​​​​​​​​ craves unconventional, unusual relationships. Aquarius is the natural ruler of the 11th house, the house of friendships. As a result, they generally make better friends than lovers. They dislike tradition, routine, and emotional displays in their relationships. They are often attracted to individuals of different cultural backgrounds, and are fond of long-distance relationships. They also dislike restrictions, and can appear aloof and uninterested to their partners. They require intellectual stimulation in their relationships, and enjoy being recognized for their sharp minds. Being a fixed sign, Venus in Aquarius is quite loyal once they have made a commitment. They require low-maintenance, independent mates who give them the freedom to be with their friends.

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Venus in Pisces:​​​​​​​​​​ is capable of unconditional love. Pisces is the natural ruler of the 12th house, the house of “mystery” and “dreams”. As a result, they are usually very idealistic about their relationships, and have difficulty setting boundaries between themselves and others. They can generally find something they like about every person they meet, and tend to see the best in people. This can also mean that they see things in people that aren’t even there. This can lead to choosing partners that are not good for them, who use them and take advantage of their compassionate nature. Instead of acknowledging this, Venus in Pisces makes excuses for their mates’ faults in order to keep the dream alive. It is for this reason that Venus in Pisces natives may find themselves in abusive relationships, love triangles, and the like. Venus in Pisces may even choose partners who have serious problems (i.e. mental health issues, addicts, etc.) with the goal of “saving” that person, as they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to be of help to others. With this placement, idealization of partners in common. Venus in Pisces has an idealistic view of relationships and love in general, and is on a constant search for their soul mate. They daydream about their ideal mate, and the kind of relationships they envision are other-worldly. Real relationships, however, are difficult; they require a tremendous amount of work, compromise, and often include conflict. When confronted with these realities, Venus in Pisces may choose to quietly exit the relationship, leaving their partner wondering where it all went wrong.

Venus in Pisces natives are attracted to the unattainable. When someone isn’t yours, it is easy to keep the fantasy of them alive because you’ll never be confronted with the realities of a real relationship with them. This ties in to the fact that Venus in Pisces often find themselves in the role of the “other woman” or “other man”; they get all the romance and fantasy of a relationship without having to deal with the hard work that comes with it.

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Venus in the first house: Individuals with this placement pay a great amount of attention to their physical appearance. Have any friends who constantly look at themselves in the mirror? He or she probably has Venus in the 1st house. This placement endows the individual with charm, social graces, and good-looks. On the downside, these individuals may come off as superficial and/or vain.

Venus in the second house: In the second house, Venus is accidentally dignified. This placement suggests a carefree attitude to finances, and an appreciation of luxury and comfortable surroundings. You know that friend with designer everything? She probably has Venus in the second house. Money is “easy come, easy go” with this placement. Spending habits can be wasteful; money is often used for Venusian activities, like beauty treatments and socializing.

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Venus in the third house: Individual with this placement are expressive and tactful, and make wonderful mediators. You know that friend who can talk her way out of any bad situation? She probably has Venus in the third house. They may have beautiful voices, and are gifted in the areas of creative writing and poetry.

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Venus in the fourth house: This placement suggests a need for beauty and harmony within the home. You know that friend with a natural flair for interior design? She might have Venus in her fourth house. Loving and affectionate, Venus in the fourth house natives easily become attached to their partners.

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Venus in the fifth house: This placement suggests a love of romantic attention and flirtatiousness. You know that friend who’s always up to having a good time? She might have Venus in the fifth house. In the fifth house, Venus craves fun and sensuality, and attraction to the opposite most likely began very early.

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Venus in the sixth house: In the house of “work”, Venus aims to be of service to their partners. Individuals with this placement win partners over with their practicality and hard work when it comes to relationships. You know that friend who keeps getting involved in office romances? She might have Venus in the sixth house.

Venus in the seventh house: Venus in comfortable in the house of “relationships”. With the placement, the native dislikes being alone, and craves partnership. These individuals are attractive to the opposite sex, due to their agreeable, charming natures. You know that friend who attracts boys like bees to honey? She might have Venus in her seventh house.

Venus in the eighth house: In this house, Venus seeks intensity, drama, and intimacy. Individuals with this placement are generally possessive and jealous, while at the same time, loyal and intense. This also denotes a need for whole-hearted commitment from partners, and an attraction to the taboo, hidden or forbidden.

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Venus in the ninth house: is often attractive to individuals of different backgrounds. You know that friend who’s list of ex-boyfriends could rival the United Nations? She probably has Venus in the ninth house. In this house, Venus demands freedom and growth. Stagnant, stuffy, dull relationships repel them.

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Venus in the tenth house: derives pleasure from their career. Public relationships are important to these individuals. They have a charming, attractive public persona, and are often found in careers related to the arts, law, and diplomacy. They are often attracted to older, successful partners, and partners that make them “look good”. You know that friend who married to her career? She might have Venus in the tenth house.

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Venus in the eleventh house: have a deep love of friendship, and often prefer it to intimate relationships. They are attracted to individuals who share a concern for humanity, intellectual stimulation and freedom. It is easy for these natives to have friends of the opposite sex, and partners are often found through friends or group activities. Know that friend who married her long-time, childhood friend? She might have Venus in the eleventh house.

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Venus in the twelfth house: are kind, sympathetic lovers. They often spend their time daydreaming, and have a love of solitude. The love life is often kept secret with this placement. These individuals are drawn to secrets, mysteries, and people who need “help”. They are very sensitive and easily hurt. They can become disillusioned by the partners, as they tend to see what they want to see in their relationships. You know that friend whose love life you know nothing about? She might have Venus in the twelfth house.

In a man’s chart, his Venus sign determines the type of woman he is attracted to. Check out your crush’s Venus Sign to find out how you can go from “friend” to “girlfriend”.

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The trick to catching a Venus in Aries Man: Play hard to get. Never let him think he “has” you, and he’ll be yours forever. Compliment him- these guys need to feel adored. Be direct, playful, and passionate- he’ll love it.

The trick to catching a Venus in Taurus man: The way to his heart is through his stomach. Give him good food, good wine, and lots of cuddles. Don’t try to rush him into a commitment- Taurus, the Bull, cannot be pushed into anything!

The trick to catching a Venus in Gemini Man: Never let the conversation stop. These guys need constant intellectual stimulation to stay interested. Change around your hairstyle and clothing style often.

The trick to Catching a Venus in Cancer man: Mother him. Dote over him and express your feelings often. Having big breasts won’t hurt.

The trick to catching a Venus in Leo man: give him oodles of attention and compliments. Make him think he’s the greatest. This is a man who needs adoration, due to a big ego.

The trick to catching a Venus in Virgo man: These guys like natural, health-conscious, neat, and productive women. Lay off the make-up and flashy clothes, and present yourself neatly. Keep the curse-words to a minimum- these guys dislike crassness and rudeness.

The trick to catching a Venus in Libra men are attracted to beauty, manners, and social graces. Try not to come on too strong, and plan social activities you can participate in together. Make sure you’re properly groomed and stylish in your appearance.

​ The trick to catching a Venus in Scorpio men need your full attention, so give it to them. Intensity is what they crave. Try to match their level of enthusiasm for you, or risk losing them. Dress in sexy, dark colors, with sexy fabrics like lace and satin.

The trick to catching a Venus in Sagittarius male: Take him hiking, bungee jumping, sky-diving- anything that involves adventure. These guys love women who love sports, so brush up on your NFL knowledge!

The trick to catching a Capricorn man: present yourself as a mature, career-oriented woman. Wearing a business suit is sure to catch his eye. Don’t pressure him or rush him into a commitment- it won’t work! Also: BE PATIENT.

The trick to catching a Venus in Aquarius Man: Be his friend first. Show concern for humanitarian causes. Hang out in groups, and don’t be too aggressive. These guys like women who have their own “style”, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different kinds of clothing and hairstyles.

The trick to catching a Venus in Pisces men: These guys are shy, so make the first move. Try to be gentle and kind, as these guys are sensitive. Show an interest in spirituality or art.

Progressed charts are calculated by adding one day for each year you are born to your natal chart. For example, if you were born on January 1, 1980, and you are now 25 years old, your progressed chart would be calculated by drafting a chart for January 26, 1980. Progressions show trends which set off major events in your life, and are reinforced by the transits you are experiencing at the time.

One of the most reliable indications in the progressed chart of meeting a new mate is to look at the condition of your progressed Venus in your Chart, as well as progressions to your natal Venus by other planets. Here are some progressions which indicate the beginning of an important relationship.

Progressed Venus to Ascendant/Descendant axis: The Ascendant/Descendant axis represents the “self” and the “other”. The Ascendant represents our self-image and how we approach the world, while the Descendant represents our one-on-one partnerships, including marriage partners and business associates. When progressed Venus makes an aspect to our AC/DC axis, we feel more sociable, attractive, and loving, which helps us attract partners into our lives. The same goes for when progressed Ascendant aspects one’s natal Venus. For example, I met my first boyfriend when progressed Venus was sextile my natal Ascendant.

Progressed Venus to natal Sun: This is one of the most reliable indications of the beginning of a major relationship. This is often the time when we meet the “love of our life”. This is also true of progressed Sun aspecting one’s natal Venus. Both progressions indicate a time where we feel most attractive, and thus our powers of attraction are most potent. This is often the time we meet our marriage partner.

Progressed Venus to natal Moon: This progression brings about a loving relationship which is often characterised by feelings of dependency, mutual support, and emotional development. The conjunction, sextile, and trine bring generally pleasing, supportive contacts, while the square and opposition often bring resistance and adjustments in regards to the direction of your relationship. The same goes for progressed Moon to Venus contacts.

Progressed Venus to natal Mars: This progression often brings about an intense, sexual union. Passion is at the forefront of your relationships. This can also indicate a time in which you meet the person you have children with.

Progressed Venus to Jupiter: This progression often brings about partners from a foreign culture. Events like marriage are likely to take place during this progression. This also indicates a positive time for socializing and making new friends. The same goes for progressed Jupiter on one’s natal Venus.

Progressed Venus to Saturn: This progression can bring about heavy commitments, and might bring relationships with older partners. This time is wonderful for beginning long-term relationships, such as marriage. This is especially true of Venus conjunct, sextile, or trine one’s natal Saturn. In fact, my mother met my father when Venus was conjunct her natal Saturn. My father is 12 years older than my mother. The square and opposition tend to have the opposite effect; it is a time of loneliness and disconnect from others. Venus has just moved one degree past squaring my natal Saturn, and I couldn’t be happier about it. The last few years have been incredibly unsuccessful in regards to love, my sense of loneliness increased greatly, and my social life was practically non-existent.

Progressed Venus to Uranus: This progression brings different, exciting relationships into our lives. We reject convention and tradition under this influence, so this transit can also be an indication of separation from a partner in favor of a more exciting, yet unstable, relationship. This is a time where your love life takes a “walk on the wild side” with someone different than what you’re used to. For example, your new mate could be from a different cultural background, or you may begin a long-distance relationship. Hard aspects between progressed Venus and Uranus are especially indicative of (sudden) separations.

Progressed Venus to Neptune: This progression can indicate the time when you find your soul mate. Your sensitivity and compassion for others increases during this time, and you feel more open to love in general. If the progression is a square or opposition, you may be deceived or disillusioned by a mate. The trine and sextile are generally positive times. Marriages often occur under this influence.

Progressed Venus to Pluto: This progression awakens powerful emotions, and changes the way you approach love and sexuality, as well as intimacy. This is a time when we are attracted to the taboo and the forbidden, and this can manifest through our choice of partner (i.e. falling in love with an “unavailable” person), or through sex (exploring sexual taboos with one’s partner). Relationships begun under this transit are marked by intensity, obsession, possessiveness, and power games. The sextile and trine are intense in a pleasing, manageable way, while the conjunction, square, and opposition can lead to extreme jealousy, obsession, and even sexual/financial exploitation or abuse.

There are numerous ways of predicting the beginning of a relationship. One of the most reliable indications is when an outer planet (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune or Pluto) makes an aspect to your natal Venus, the ruler of your 5th house, and/or the ruler of your 7th house. For this section, I will only refer to transits to natal Venus, but you can apply these transits to the ruler of your 5th and/or 7th houses, as well.

Outer planets transiting your natal Venus: often indicate the beginning (or ending- depending on the transit) of a relationship. The planet transiting your Venus and the aspect that planet makes to your Venus will tell you what kind of relationship will come into your life. Let’s review the nature of the outer planets, and discuss the type of relationship that will enter your life when it makes an aspect to your natal Venus.

Jupiter: When Jupiter conjuncts, sextiles, trines, opposes, or squares your Venus, your desire for a partner and loving feelings expand. Jupiter is the planet of abundance, good luck, and expansion. Jupiter thus expands your love sector during this time and increases your opportunities for romance. This is especially true for the conjunction, trine and sextile aspects. With the square and opposition, you may take foolish risks in love. While Jupiter transits, on their own, do not necessarily indicate the beginning of a long-term, life changing romance, it can indicate a positive time for dating and creating new social connections.

Saturn: is the planet of restriction, realism, commitment, and hard work. When Saturn conjuncts, sextiles, or trines your natal Venus, you become more serious about settling down and are attracted to stable, mature relationships. Indeed, this is a very commitment-friendly transit because you are more attracted to long-term relationships. Many people find themselves settling down or reinforcing commitments to their partners during this time. If you begin a relationship at this time, it is likely to be serious and long-lasting. Strong Saturn contact should show up in composite and synastry charts, and your partner is likely to have strong Saturn/Capricorn aspects in his/her chart.

Uranus: When Uranus aspects your natal Venus by transit, you crave excitement in your relationships. Uranus often brings us non-traditional relationships/partners (i.e. partners from a different culture, background, etc.), which usually begin (and end) very suddenly. Timing Uranus transits is very simple, as events tend to occur at the time Uranus makes an exact aspect to your Venus (by exact, I mean the aspect is within 11 minutes of exact). Uranus-Venus relationships are characterized as sudden, impermanent, non-traditional, and exciting. What usually happens is a sudden encounter with the “man/woman of your dreams”, and the native often experiences “love at first sight”. The energy between the two is electric and exciting, but not stable, and the relationship often lacks any real commitment. Uranus transits serve to jolt us awake through events that force us to throw out any previous behaviors or habits we tend to cling to. This is especially true for emotionally clingy, needy people, or people who are inherently stable and afraid of change. Uranus relationships are difficult to control, and manipulative tactics are completely useless in getting what we want out of the relationship. The native must learn to “let go” of expectations and control, or he or she will suffer greatly from this transit. Because Uranus is characterized by impermanence and excitement, many find that relationships begun under this influence often end when the initial spark fizzles and one of the partners gets bored and feels the need to move on. Sometimes, when the transit is over, the native may say, “what was I thinking, being in that relationship?” due to the fact that partners are generally chosen for the fact that they are “different” and “exciting”, rather than suitable, which becomes more and more apparent as Uranus moves away from their natal Venus. This period can also be marked by increased promiscuity on the part of the native. Uranus on one’s Venus increases one’s magnetism, so the likelihood of meeting several partners increases. A good friend of mine characterised her Uranus opposite Venus transits as: “Lots of one-night stands, and lots of partying.” This is especially true with the conjunction, square and opposition. Sextiles and trines are generally more stable influences, but have that Uranian spark to them nonetheless. The partners you find under this transit are generally Aquarius or Uranian, or the syanstry or composite charts have strong Aquarian/Uranian influences.

Neptune: When Neptune aspects your natal Venus, your sensitivity and compassion towards others increases. Neptune represents delusion, illusion, dreams, addictions, and self-sacrifice. Under this influence, you are more likely to “see what you want” in partners, which can often lead to disappointment once the transit is over. Under this transit, we are wearing rose-colored glasses; we see beauty in all people, and only want to think the best of them. This influence often brings a relationship into our lives, and we often believe this person is our soul mate. We idealize the person and make excuses for their faults, and ignore indications that the person is anything less than perfect. Relationship behaviors we would not normally approve of are now regarded as acceptable. If the aspect is a conjunction, square, or opposition, the native must be extra careful to not over-idealize the partner and ignore red flags, as the threat of deception is strong. As Neptune moves away from Venus, the native becomes less enchanted by their mate; the native begins to see the person as they really are, which often leads to disappointment. The end of the transit can also manifest in the discovery of infidelity on the part of the partner; the native ignored red flags and made excuses for their partner’s behavior instead of facing the truth about the situation. The partners you find under this influence are generally Piscean, or have strong Neptune in the chart. The Synastry and Composite charts generally have strong Neptune or Pisces aspects/placement.

Pluto: When Pluto transits your natal Venus, you are no longer satisfied with superficial relationship; you want something deep, complex, and consuming. Pluto is the planet of “death”, therefore there is usually a death of some kind in regards to relationships (i.e. death of an existing relationship, death of previous relationship behaviours). For example this influence can also bring about an affair, or finding out one’s partner has been having an affair. This is a very “sexy” transit, and the attractions you have during this transit are often intense and obsessive, and sexual drives are generally strong. Under this influence, you often meet a person with whom you have a life-changing and complex relationship. You feel magically drawn to this person, and might not understand why. This is because Pluto represents the unconscious, so your feelings for this person are generally the result of unconscious forces you find difficult to control. You might feel obsessed and possessive over this person, as Pluto brings an “all or nothing” energy to your relationships. Power struggles are thus common under this influence. The physical component of the relationship is generally very strong; the need for physical closeness under this transit is intense. Pluto also represents the taboo, and the forbidden, so one is often attracted to unavailable partners under the influence of this transit (i.e. married, gay/lesbian, people from different areas). One thing this transit guarantees is personal evolution; we evolve through these relationships, as they uncover areas of our personalities we often keep hidden, and will teach you about personal intimacy. If partners separate, the passion and intensity they once shared is difficult to forget. The relationships under this transit can also be financially or sexually exploitative, or even emotionally/sexually abusive, as Pluto represents domination, power, and control. The people you attract under this influence are generally Scorpio-like/Plutonian, and the synastry often reveals strong Pluto aspects and/or Scorpio placements.

Venus conjunct the South Node: This aspect denotes a “past-life” connection between the two individuals. In the past life, the two were most likely lovers/partners. External forces or circumstances beyond the individuals’ control led to a separation, which transformed into a sense of longing and yearning for one another, which has continued into this lifetime. Now, the individuals have been reunited in this lifetime to “close the books” on their relationship in order to move forward and learn to love independently from one another.

In nodal synastry, it is generally the node person who feels the connection more deeply, or at least, is more aware of the connection. In all nodal connections, there is a sense of fear or discomfort, especially on the part of the nodal person. Being with the planet person reminds them of their past life, which may have been traumatic or unpleasant for the nodal person for whatever reason.

Many synastry articles regarding South Node connections imply that the South Node person may eventually feel held back or drained by the planet person, but I’ve found this to be true for the opposite case; that the planet person feels held back by the nodal person. Other articles infer that the South Node was very kind to the planet person in a past life, and now, the planet person feels the need to pay the South Node person back in form of compliments, gifts, or activities related to the house in which the conjunction resides. This can be draining for the Venus person, who may feel “held back” by the relationship and feel the need to move on. I’ve also found that Venus’ sense of self-worth is often compromised by the union due to the desire to “please” the South Node person in any way they can.
Either way, the connection is very strong with this aspect. There is a sense of familiarity and comfort with this aspect; both have known each other from a past life, so love “comes easy” with this placement. The South Node person feels the Venus person understands them better than anyone, and the Venus person feels a sense of ease and comfort around the South Node person. The attraction is through the roof with this placement. You “recognize” each other. Since the South Node represents the area we have mastered in a past life, the planet person can learn a lot from the South Node about their habits related to their own Venus. I have heard countless stories of couples with this aspect in synastry, and one common element I’ve found with this aspect is that at least one of the individuals was “not supposed to be” at the location of their meeting on the day they met, and that they spotted each other early on and watched each other for a while before they spoke to each other.

South Node connections are often regarded as “negative”, in that they often indicate an ending of some sort. I believe South Node connections can indeed last a lifetime, depending on each person’s relationship with their own South Node in the natal chart. Another indication of a lasting South Node relationship is if the couple also has North Node connections, which “balances” the synastry, so that both individuals feel both comfortable and feel that they are developing themselves through the union.

For example, Victoria Beckham’s Venus is conjunct David Beckham’s South node. David Beckham’s own South Node is conjunct his Mars, so we can infer that David is “South Node-oriented”; he tends to “fall back” on his South Node habitually. There is a sense of familiarity and comfort between David and Victoria. In fact, David first fell for Victoria after seeing her on the television, and Victoria fell in love with David after seeing him in a sports magazine; there was an instant “recognition” of each other.

My ex boyfriend and I had a very tight Venus-South Node connection. His own Venus conjuncted his South node in his natal chart, so, like David Beckham, he tends to “fall back” on his South Node. He was an incredibly good-looking, charming man (since his Venus conjuncts his South Node, his Venus is very well-developed), and I fell for him instantly. I was the only person he ever felt understood him, and he’d often describe me as his ideal mate. I was similarly enthralled by him, and I did anything and everything to please him. I’m not the type to give away complimetns easily (my Venus is in Capricorn), but I would compliment him regularly.

Mars is the ruler of Aries, and is the natural ruler of the 1st house.

Mars rules sex, anger, and action.

Aquarius is ruled by the planet, Uranus. It is the natural ruler of the 11th house of friendships, long-term goals, and groups/associations.

In Aquarius, Mars craves freedom, variety and intellectual stimulation. Aquarius is a very accepting sign, and sees everyone as equals. It is therefore common for people to describe Mars in Aquarius as having “live and let live” attitude towards others. Mars in Aquarius individuals are very independent, and are likely to rebel when they feel their freedom is being restricted.

Given that Aquarius is generally not a forceful sign, Mars in Aquarius natives are not generally physically or emotionally aggressive (unless the planet is afflicted). What gets a Mars in Aquarius native riled up is intellectual stimulation, debate, and such. In fact, debates turn them on in a sexual sense.

Speaking of sex, Mars in Aquarius (and in other air signs) is a fan of dirty talk, dirty text-messages, cyber sex (Aquarius rules technology), phone sex; non-physical expressions of sexuality are very appealing to these natives.

The Moon and Venus are feminine planets, and often play a role in the kind of partner we desire. The Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure, while Venus represents how we give and receive love.

When these planets are in square/opposite aspect to one another, our emotional needs are at odds with our needs and capacity to love. This can cause many problems, as it is difficult for the Moon square/opposite Venus native to have both needs fulfilled by just one person. For example, say I have Moon in Aries square Venus in Capricorn: on one hand, I am emotionally fulfilled by aggressive, direct, and passionate people. However, aggression and passion to not “agree” with my Venus in Capricorn nature; it is unattractive to me, as Venus in Capricorn prefers shy, stable, drama-free mates.

Also, we can think of this in terms of synastry: if my partner’s Mars is in Capricorn, and therefore is in conjunct aspect to my Venus, I feel a tremendous sexual attraction to my partner. However, it would also mean that my partner’s Mars squares my Moon, which leads to heated arguments and hurt feelings. As a result, the native finds it difficult to find a partner who fulfills both their Moon and Venus needs, and might choose to have two partners: one who makes him emotionally secure, and one that makes him feel loved and attracted.

This can also indicate a Madonna-Whore complex; the native may have the inability to see his or her partner as both a nurturing type (moon) and a sexual being (Venus). To solve this dilemma, the native may choose to take on two partners in order to have these needs fulfilled.

Of course, not all Moon square/opposite Venus natives are infidels! Nevertheless, people with this aspect find themselves “giving up” one planetary need at the expense of another in some way. They will disregard their Venusian needs for their Lunar needs, and vice-versa. For instance, the native will ignore his or her emotional needs in order to feel attractive and valued, or will ignore his or her need for approval to satisfy her needs for security and comfort.

Peace and harmony are very important to these natives. This is why many people with this aspect can be regarded as “too nice”, or as “pushovers”, as they will often find themselves acquiescing to the needs of others at their own expense.

Here are some indicators in that natal chart that may indicate infidelity. Taken alone, however, these aspects do not guarantee infidelity.

Moon square Venus: This is especially true for men with this aspect. JFK has this aspect, and he was known for his affairs. The Moon and Venus are feminine planets, and often play a role in the kind of partner we desire. The Moon represents our emotions and what makes us feel secure, while Venus represents how we give and receive love. When these planets are in square aspect to one another, our emotional needs are at odds with our needs and capacity to love. This can cause many problems, as it is difficult for the Moon square Venus native to have both needs fulfilled by just one person. For example, say I have Moon in Aries square Venus in Capricorn: on one hand, I am emotionally fulfilled by aggressive, direct, and passionate people. However, aggression and passion to not “agree” with my Venus in Capricorn nature; it is unattractive to me, as Venus in Capricorn prefers shy, stable, drama-free mates. Also, we can think of this in terms of synastry: if my partner’s Mars is in Capricorn, and therefore is in conjunct aspect to my Venus, I feel a tremendous sexual attraction to my partner. However, it would also mean that my partner’s Mars squares my Moon, which leads to heated arguments and hurt feelings. As a result, the native finds it difficult to find a partner who fulfills both their Moon and Venus needs, and might choose to have two partners: one who makes him emotionally secure, and one that makes him feel loved and attracted. This can also indicate a Madonna-Whore complex; the native may have the inability to see his or her partner as both a nurturing type (moon) and a sexual being (Venus). To solve this dilemma, the native may choose to take on two partners in order to have these needs fulfilled.

Uranus in hard aspect (conjunction, square, opposition) to Venus/Uranus in the 7th house: Uranus is the planet of freedom, rebellion, unpredictability. When in hard aspect to Venus or in the 7th house, the native craves freedom, variety, and excitement in relationships. It is difficult for these natives to “settle down” into a “normal” relationship because of many reasons. For instance, relationships might make them feel restricted, bored, or they may constantly crave “newness” in relationships. Its the initial feeling of getting into a relationship which excites them, so as time goes by, their interest may gradually decrease for their partner and their relationship. Bored of the everyday, “hum-drum” aspects of “regular” relationships, the Venus-Uranus/Uranus in the 7th house native may seek excitement outside the relationship.

Neptune in hard aspect to Venus/Venus in Pisces/Neptune in the 7th: With this placement, idealization of partners in common. The native has an idealistic view of relationships and love in general, and is on a constant search for their soulmate. They daydream about their ideal mate, and the kind of relationships they envision are other-worldly. Real relationships, however, are difficult; they require a tremendous amount of work, compromise, and often include conflict. This is the precise reason why people with these placements have such a hard time with relationships. Real relationships rarely live up to the ideal relationships they often dream about, and when confronted with these realities, the native may choose to quietly exit the relationship, leaving their partner wondering where it all went wrong. People with these placements are attracted to the unattainable. When someone isn’t yours, it is easy to keep the fantasy of them alive because you’ll never be confronted with the realities of a real relationship with them. This ties in to the fact that Venus in Pisces often find themselves in the role of the “other woman” or “other man”; they get all the romance and fantasy of a relationship without having to deal with the hard work that comes with it. Similarly, Venus in Pisces natives are sometimes described as “cheaters” for the same reason; if in a relationships, the “realities” of the relationship may push them away from their mate into the arms of another. Venus in Pisces will not be forthright about their infidelity, however; they are too concerned about hurting you to ever admit they were unfaithful. If confronted, Venus in Pisces may deny the infidelity with an innocent, “who, me?” approach. It’s rare for a Venus in Pisces to leave their mate; they’d rather you leave them than the other way around.

Venus in Gemini: Gemini is a sign which craves variety and gets bored at the drop of a hat. In Venus, Gemini craves variety in relationships. This sign needs to move around, experiment, and communicate with others in order to keep itself happy. The sign Gemini is represented by the twins, which reflects Gemini’s dual nature. Indeed, you will often find Gemini-influenced natives having “two” of everything. For a Gemini Venus, this would mean having two relationships. Gemini is a mutable sign; they can adapt to different situations seamlessly, so they have the ability to flutter between two relationships with relative ease. Venus in Gemini are big flirts; Gemini is ruled by Mercury, so they certainly have the gift of the gab and are talented at winning people over with their words.

Moon in Aries: This placement is often regarded as a “cheater aspect” because of Aries’ passionate, impulsive, “act before you think” nature. Indeed, Moon in Aries natives often disregard potential consequences for their actions in favor of instant gratification.

Venus is the planet of love, beauty, harmony, relationships, and describes what we find beautiful, as well as what kind of partner we desire.

Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, the planet of restriction, reality, hard work, and commitment. Capricorn is the natural ruler of the 10th house, the house of public life, career, and notoriety.

Love style: When Venus is in Capricorn, duty, commitment, hard work, and reality are at the forefront of our love lives. Venus in Capricorn natives do not take relationships lightly; on the contrary, they see relationships as “work”, and thus take their partnerships very seriously. People with this placement suffer from a strong fear of rejection, which can lead to missed opportunities in love. They also may suffer from a lack of confidence in regards to their self-worth; they may feel “unworthy” of love, and are often wary of their partners (at least, in the beginning). Venus in Capricorn natives can appear cold, uninterested, and aloof towards their partners, but this does not mean they are not interested. Opening up one’s heart, in their view, is dangerous, as it increases the opportunity for them to get hurt. Vulnerability is what they fear most of all. Venus in Capricorn is also very preoccupied with appearing cool and collected, and dislike showing their emotions. If you hurt a Venus Capricorn, they will do everything to make you think it doesn’t bother them, even if it hurts inside.

How to get a Venus Capricorn to commit: It can take a very long time for a Venus in Capricorn native to commit to you. It’s not that they are not interested, but they prefer to build a strong, secure foundation for a relationship rather than to “jump right in”. Indeed, Venus in Capricorn are “risk-averse” when it come to matters of the heart. They must be 100% certain they can trust you, and that you’re capable of having a long-term committed relationship before they give their heart to you.

The best way to get a Venus Capricorn to commit is to be patient. People with this placement are petrified of getting hurt, so they often hide their feelings about you under a veil of aloofness and emotional distancing, which can be confusing for their partners. When a Venus Capricorn commits, however, they make excellent partners. While they aren’t affectionate in the traditional way, they show their love through practical means by doing things for you.
What kind of partner they seek: Venus in Capricorn natives are attracted to older, mature, successful partners. They are also attracted to business types. Basically, stability and security is what attracts them most. Partners who appear to “have it together” are very appealing to them.

Venus, the planet of love, relationships, beauty, harmony, fairness and justice is exalted in the sign of Pisces.

Pisces, the natural ruler of the 12th house, represents the collective unconscious. Here, the boundaries between “I” and “we” are blurred. Pisces is ruled by the planet Neptune. Pisces represents compassion, self-sacrifice, escapism, drugs, addictions, deception, dreams, and illusions.

Venus in Pisces natives are capable of unconditional love. Venus in Pisces natives don’t care about what you look like, what your job is, who your friends are, or how much money you make. Instead, Venus in Pisces sees the beauty in all people. They can generally find something they like about every person they meet, and tend to see the best in people. This can also mean that they see things in people that aren’t even there. This can lead to choosing partners that are not good for them, who use them and take advantage of their compassionate nature. Instead of acknowledging this, Venus in Pisces makes excuses for their mates’ faults in order to keep the dream alive. It is for this reason that Venus in Pisces natives may find themselves in abusive relationships, love triangles, and the like. Venus in Pisces may even choose partners who have serious problems (i.e. mental health issues, addicts, etc.) with the goal of “saving” that person, as they are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to be of help to others.

With this placement, idealization of partners in common. Venus in Pisces has an idealistic view of relationships and love in general, and is on a constant search for their soulmate. They daydream about their ideal mate, and the kind of relationships they envision are other-worldly. Real relationships, however, are difficult; they require a tremendous amount of work, compromise, and often include conflict. This is the precise reason why Venus Pisces natives have such a hard time with relationships. Real relationships rarely live up to the ideal relationships they often dream about, and when confronted with these realities, Venus in Pisces may choose to quietly exit the relationship, leaving their partner wondering where it all went wrong.

Venus in Pisces natives are attracted to the unattainable. When someone isn’t yours, it is easy to keep the fantasy of them alive because you’ll never be confronted with the realities of a real relationship with them. This ties in to the fact that Venus in Pisces often find themselves in the role of the “other woman” or “other man”; they get all the romance and fantasy of a relationship without having to deal with the hard work that comes with it. Similarly, Venus in Pisces natives are sometimes described as “cheaters” for the same reason; if in a relationships, the “realities” of the relationship may push them away from their mate into the arms of another. Venus in Pisces will not be forthright about their infidelity, however; they are too concerned about hurting you to ever admit they were unfaithful. If confronted, Venus in Pisces may deny the infidelity with an innocent, “who, me?” approach. It’s rare for a Venus in Pisces to leave their mate; they’d rather you leave them than the other way around.

Through my communications with people in relationships with Venus in Pisces individuals, I often hear that natives with this placement are prone to entering and exiting the lives of their mates whenever they wish. Venus in Pisces are incredibly romantic, and certainly have a way with words, which tends to win partners over and compensate for their apparent lack of direction and stability in their relationships.