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Got pregnant super fast after dating!!

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kamm423 wrote:

This is my first pregnancy and I? met a guy online we started dating exclusively right away. I? was told I was infertile in the past and if I? want d kids I? would have to do IVF and told him the same so we were going at I?t like rabbits. When I? found out I? was pregnant the first words out of his mouth was “ I’ll pay for you to go to planned parenthood for an abortion” I? know I?t wasn’t planned and we haven’t been together long, but I? refuse to have an a abortion. I’m a 36 year old registered nurse, financially stable and can do this. He is saying he does not want children, but I’m like if you really don’t want kids you should be using a condom or snip snip. I’m just wondering if anyone is going through anything similar. The last time I? spoke to him was 2 days ago we had a nice dinner then he brought up and abortion pill so I? Dont have to have surgery( how nice of him, looking out for me smh) needless to say I? got in the car and drove home.

You’re a independent woman and financially stable and that this age is good for you to have you’re little family, never know what God have in store for you , don’t listen to no man who’s not mentally or committed to having a child , it hard but take it day by day and see what coming or he might even change his mind about the whole pregnancy, you’re be a great mommy soon, keep your head up and wait.

I have an eight week old baby. I was with my boyfriend for three months when I got pregnant (we were both still waiting for our divorces to be finalized, that’s how new our relationship was haha!) and he has two kids from his marriage.

we made the decision together to have it but we were from two different countries and I had to go back to Canada to have the baby. I haven’t seen him since I was six months pregnant (so about five months) and he hasn’t contributed to us financially in any way, although we do talk almost every day and he asks for photos of the baby.

I consider myself a single mom and I don’t ask the father for anything (even though I get that he should be contributing but my choice is to just do it myself) and it’s way better than I thought it would be. I’m in my mid 30s and have a great career to go back to after my Mat leave and am loving my time with my son. I wouldn’t change a thing.

I agree with the pp...both of them. Im.a single mom, 2nd time around. I strongly believed that the 2nd time would've been better but he wasn't. His idea was abortion as well...I aborted him!!! I have 2 beautiful girls that I don't have to share and I'm 100% happy. None of us ever want to do it alone but with God & a good, small village, all is possible. You got this boo!!! Leave his azz right where he is...

I'm in the same situation as you, father American and I'm Canadian and had to move back to Canada as dad didn't want to work things out. Can I ask how you sorted out custody issues? Do you use Canadian law to make the decision? I think the dad might want joint custody but I think that's hard because what if I have to make serious decisions and he's not around or unavailable at the time. Two different countries makes things a bit tricky!

Thanks ladies. My situations gets a bit more sticky. I? live in California and am moving back to New York. He knew I was moving back to New York when we started dating. That hasn’t changed if anything I? want to go back even more now because that’s where my support system is. He is hot and cold one day he says abortion next next he tells me not moving back to New York that I? have to stay in Cali. Then it’s abortion pill. Then he was kissing and rubbing my belly. It’s too much to deal with! I’m emotional enough as is I? can’t deal with his indecisiveness.

Yikes sounds like a tough one..but I don’t feel like he is mentally stable. If you want a baby you should have one with the thought that he may never be in the picture. I say go for it-especially since you are moving back east to your support system.

I would straight up ask him what his intentions with you are. Lay it out for him and be strong ! Tell him your plan in a calm manner and see how he reacts. If there is hesitation on his part stand your ground and let him know you are not changing your mind.

It’s possible that he may come around eventually but you can’t wait for that. You have one responsibility now and it’s that precious babe you are carrying ! You got this !!

I was abandoned the second I told the babies father I was pregnant. Same thing he told me he would pay for an abortion and that it’s totally normal and healthy to go through with one. I considered it but just couldn’t follow through. I had to move back to the Midwest from Hawaii for my support system. I’m due in 3 weeks now and still so happy I made the choice to be strong and raise this baby. I haven’t heard from him and it’s his loss.

Hey! We haven’t gotten that far yet. My friend is a family law lawyer and she says that because the baby was born in Canada we would fall under Canadian law. I plan to pursue full custody and allow BD full access via email, video, phone calls, and we will arrange something when my son gets older where he can have visits if he chooses.

It’s even more complicated because I’m on the east coast of Canada and he’s on the west coast of the US so we are basically worlds apart.

I met my boyfriend online. Found out i was pregnant after dating for about 4 months. He has other kids, one that is expected to be delivered tomorrow. Our relationship has been an up and down roller coaster, nonetheless I’m excited to be having my FIRST baby. Glad to know I’m not the only one that got pregnant after a tinder date lol joking. We didn’t meet on tinder :D. But this pregnancy has definitely been a test on our relationship.

I found out I was pregnant after dating my BD for 1 month and we barely knew eachother. He wanted me to get an abortion but I refused and gave him the option to stay or go. He stayed, but we hate eachother and are trying to co parent my 4 month old but we fight every day because we just don’t mix together very well. I’m only 21. Do what you want, if you want the baby then have it and do what you can to make it work. If you don’t then do what’s best for YOU. I don’t get along with my BD but he comes over and sees her and we’re trying to make co parenting a “thing” for her. I love my daughter and couldn’t imagine my life without her, so I have no regrets there other than I wish it was with someone who I could see myself spending the rest of my life with but it’s whatever. I have her and she has me and I make it work. Good luck to you, trust that you’ll do what’s best. Everything works out for a reason in the end.

currently dealing with a similar situation,we were together for a year and i found out i was pregnant after we broke up. He said the same thing about abortion and I told him I don't believe in abortion and I'm keeping it. I don't call or tell him anything about the baby or my appointment. His mom and sister know and are part of my support system, his mom even thanked me for not aborting her grandchild. I know it's tough having a child for a man who doesn't want it but forget him, it's your body and your baby and like you said you are financially stable so enjoy motherhood and believe me in due time the right man will come along and love you and your baby as his own and be a wonderful father figure in your child's life!!!

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