People have many different ideas of what constitutes cheating. I know for myself even flirting with lust feels adulteress. I am a member of a support group and am able to talk about these things with 3rd parties which helps lighten the burden. However, without honesty in my relationship, there is no way I will ever be able to fully love my wife. If I have cheated, it does not mean I need to run to my wife and tell her everything in a shameless attempt to dump my guilt. What this means instead is that if I have cheated, I will need to eventually discuss with my wife the things I am struggling with so that there are no secrets to weigh down on our relationship. Yes, this means sometimes things won't work out in the end with my partner, but no matter what happens, I can still choose to be okay.