"On one occasion she told me if I went to sleep I would be stabbed."

A male domestic abuse victim has told MSPs how his former wife threatened to stab him while he slept and threw a deep fat fryer at him.

He and another male victim spoke anonymously as campaigners took their case to Holyood's petitions committee.

Alison Waugh and Jackie Walls called on the Scottish government to ensure domestic abuse campaigns addressed the needs of male victims.

The committee agreed to raise the issue with ministers.

The victims, identified as Mr A and Mr B, gave evidence with their faces hidden from public view.

Recounting his story, Mr A said abused men needed more support.

I agree but the first support men need is to stop having to hide their head in shame and remain hidden from view. I don't blame them, of course, but if only a few men come forward and look ashamed, how many others will speak up? Not many, I'm sure. The government will then conclude that no evidence exists that men are abused. Of course, ironically, if all the abused men came forward, the government would probably conclude the same thing. Sexist stereotypes are hard to overcome, especially when a whole PC industry is build around them.

Monday, January 25, 2010

PJTV: Young men and violence

Today, I interview Lawrence Kane who (along with Kris Wilder) wrote The Little Black Book of Violence: What Every Young Man Needs to Know About Fighting. Even if you are not so young, watch the show to hear about how to handle yourself in a violent encounter, keep from getting involved in a domestic dispute, or how to deal with a violent woman. Also, Kane answers a question by one of our commenters. Kane has some great advice and a warning: "guys, the system is stacked against you."

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Would you buy this book?

Many times, people tell me I should write a book given all the fabulous content I get from my readers (that would be you) about men, marriage, relationships, sex and society. I see books out like Kathleen Parker's Save the Males: Why Men Matter Why Women Should Care that look at men's issues in terms of what is good for women. What about writing about men for the sake of men, and not just for how their lives will affect women?

First off, I will admit that I am very lazy and the thought of writing another book is a daunting task. However, I think it's important. I would like to write a book that looks at men's lives, thoughts, and feelings through the eyes of men, in their own words, not that of a woman, or a man who is trying to understand men for women like so many of the "men and relationship" books do. The book might use kind of a Nancy Friday approach. In Friday's book, My Secret Garden, she had women tell their sexual fantasies and just tied the stories together in chapters to give the reader a private view into the sex lives of these women. Would you be interested in such a book? Answer the poll and let me know.

Would you buy Dr. Helen's book about men's views on marriage, relationships, sex and society?

Mr. Right has left the building....

There's no single answer to the "why" question, but social scientists agree that the education mismatch Ms. Downtain experiences with men is a significant player behind the increase in college-educated women choosing single motherhood.

This mismatch signals the emergence of a phenomenon studied more commonly in the animal kingdom than in the human one—the "operational sex ratio," the scientific term describing what happens when one sex outnumbers the other. In human populations, gender balances can tilt following world wars or times of migration (think California Gold Rush), resulting in a shortage of men or women of marriageable age. Currently, the most blatant outbreak of the operational sex ratio is playing out in China, where sex screening or, worse, infanticide has led to an estimated 32 million more males under the age of 20 than females.

The rest of the article seems to go on about how women cannot find guys suitable enough for them because they (the women) are too highly educated and too "high level" [my words] for the men they date. And most "worrisome" according to Whitmire is the following:

A more worrisome issue arises when men take advantage of their relative scarcity by making life miserable for would-be girlfriends. Why settle down when you are a guy and the supply of eligible women appears to be unlimited? The female students hate such a situation, which is one reason admissions offices end up accepting male applicants who are less academically qualified than their female counterparts.

So our society has created a mess where men are vilified in the classroom, fed PC rhetoric, told their life's goal is to make women happy and do anything that assists her with her goals, while simultaneously told that he is a dope, idiot and unable to care properly for children, and now people are questioning where Mr. Right went?

He just became the stereotype that society has portrayed him as for the last 20 years. It is certainly no mystery that women can no longer find "Mr. Right."