Skinny/Thin Moms

I feel so judged because I am thin. I weigh 116 right now and think I look really damn good. Even when I am not pregnant, I look good. I'm thin but I still have a nice shape and nice curves. They may not be huge curves, but they are curves and I take pride in keeping my body in shape. But there are always those women who feel the need to talk badly about thin women saying thigs like real women are the women with curves. Real women are the women with meat on their bones. Calling names like stick figures and whatever else. Like, really? Is that really neccesary? Complaining that clothes now a days are made for anorexic girls and they don't take into consideration that there are heavier women out there. If anything, I think it's the exact opposite. Every womens section I've looked through has sizes all the way through 4X but yet I can't find a single shirt that fits me because even the small doesn't fit the way I want it to and more often than not, XS doesn't come in the womens section. I don't think I am any less of a woman because I don't have an extra 50 pounds on me. I don't think I'm any less of a woman because my boobs aren't DD's or my hips don't stick out as far as you think they should. UGH!

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Mommy to a beautiful little miracle born on January 9th, 2012 after battling 21 weeks of pre-term labor

Society has endorsed this unrealistic expectation of the female. We are expected to have an amazing body which will just bounce back to perfection post childbirth, a career in a respected profession, keep a perfect house, and have perfect children. For those who fall short of these goals they are fair game to criticize, but never to their face, because we are "nice" after all. Why do we hate these expectations but endorse them?

so, let me get this straight, we should just accept discrimination? I know that it's impossible t root it out completely, but just imagine the world we'd live in if people didn't try.

Of course people are ultimately responsible for their health and weight. But what I fail to grasp is how that is anybody else's business.

Besides, if you really want to promote healthy eating, there are better ways to do it than marginalizing peopel who are overweight.

How? How do you do it. Have you seen the debates going on right now about health and weight being addressed in schools? Why are we starting with the schools, why aren't we creating a gov program to educate everyone and make our country better?

It is everyone's business to care about everyone else. What you do effects everyone, it's a ripple effect. If people didn't care things wouldn't get changed.

I'm not saying you turn a blind eye to discrimination, you stand up for yourself and say hey that's not right, you can't say that to me.

I know exactly what you mean! I have always been on the skinny side, and I have had women come up to me and tell me that I should throw up less, which is rude! I would never in a million years make a comment about another woman's weight, heavy or not.

I also know exactly what you mean about not finding clothing you like in your size. Before I got pregnant I was 105 lbs, 5'7, and finding anything I like in my size that isn't in the childrens section is tough.. I just purchased a sewing machine so I plan on fitting all my shirts now so they will fit me just how I like. :P

Society has endorsed this unrealistic expectation of the female. We are expected to have an amazing body which will just bounce back to perfection post childbirth, a career in a respected profession, keep a perfect house, and have perfect children. For those who fall short of these goals they are fair game to criticize, but never to their face, because we are "nice" after all. Why do we hate these expectations but endorse them?

No they haven't, mother's not caring enough to show their children their worth is what causes it. The idea of an "unrealistic" woman changed in the early 2000s, when you started to see models go from super skinny to the girl next door, and if you look at the tv shows now they are posting iconic images of overweight women and how plush is the new in style.

Omg take jersey shore (i'm a j/s freak, i hate the drama, love the show), look at the weight snooki took off, and in the article about it, she stated how she lost it and why she did so. So the "society image" just a reality check.