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Fri, 21 Jul 2017 14:37:20 +0000http://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/?p=847Continue reading]]>Do you begin to feel selfish when you dare to turn your attention to doing things for yourself, or heaven forbid if you decide to do something purely for the sake of having fun?

A curious thing is how often people believe themselves to be selfish, when it simply isn’t true.

Many are astonished by what they discover – never having realized what made or makes that feeling creep in. What we discover will offer exactly what we need to “tap” our way to feeling better about ourselves, and improve our enjoyment of life.

The history typically includes living situations where we were expected, or circumstances dictated or required that we take on responsibilities. The weight of those responsibilities leads us to believe that our needs must remain secondary. While there can be an upside, the downside can be quite damaging.

The truth is that frequently we are “tricked” (or conditioned) into thinking of ourselves as selfish.

Following the trail to determine how and why we find ourselves jumping to that conclusion can be quite revealing.

Why or how does that happen?

After the divorce of his parents a young boy lived with his mother. Mom, a bit of a narcissist, tendencies towards hypochondria and emotional issues, constantly sought his undivided attention. For him, playing with friends or engaging in social events was almost impossible. Even school was problematic, since many times his mother would call the school claiming he was ill so he could be by her side. Much of his time was spent waiting on her. Sometimes that meant a day spent at her bedside holding her hand. When he asked permission to go outside or somewhere with friends, it was rarely granted. Such requests were typically met with: “NO! What is wrong with you? How selfish of you!”

So where was his father and the rest of the family? Regrettably they were minimally supportive. The exceptions were the rare occasions when he was allowed to visit them for part of day – or there was a family gathering. Infrequent phone calls offered him little support. Even if he hid in a room where he thought she couldn’t hear him, she would eaves drop and insist on taking the phone, ending his conversation.
Eventually he married and started a family. Because of his history, from the beginning he was determined to maintain an atmosphere of peace and harmony in his home, but repeatedly found himself struggling to keep it all together.

The conditioning that took place during formative years with Mom had him on autopilot, automatically “in service”. Without realizing what he was doing, he had set himself up to have history repeat. His family members were confident, and actually expected him to change his plans or drop what he was doing to do for them.

He would willingly oblige, just as he had done with his mother, convinced that was the unselfish (or “right”) thing to do. This meant sacrificing personal time, neglecting the things he loved to do, and falling behind with career aspirations.

He was reaching the breaking point; in the midst of major emotional turmoil. Depression, exhaustion, frustration and a sense of failure had taken over. He felt the challenges were insurmountable, but knew something had to change!Attempts to carve out a little time for self-care or other things meant saying “No”, or “Not now, how about next week?”. It was a painful thing to do, since his words were met with resistance and anger. Feelings of guilt and selfishness would surface, that intensified the emotional turmoil.

Now what?

Enter EFT! (Emotional Freedom Techniques) It took time to work through the issues, carefully addressing both formative years and current circumstances. One step at a time he gained the confidence and courage to establish new boundaries, feeling less selfish and guilty.
Family dynamics and expectations changed gradually, and responsibilities were more fairly distributed, in spite of grumbling and resistance.
As things progressed, the ability to navigate the changes without falling into the old patterns was enhanced with EFT. To help this family create the home atmosphere longed for, his wife and children worked with EFT as well. It remains a work in progress, since each of us is constant work in progress. The great news is they have developed a greater respect and understanding of each other.

If you find yourself feeling similar to this gentleman, it is time to take a closer look! Believe it or not, you possess the power and courage to create the change you desire.

If first thoughts when you read the preceding paragraph were filled with all the reasons you can’t and who wouldn’t like it, remember I’m here to help you!

By Joachim Vogt Isaksen
Do you sometimes experience that the mere presence of other people leads to
feelings of discomfort and tension? When not knowing exactly what other
people think of you it may lead to self-doubt and feelings of insecurity.
According to the American sociologist Charles Horton Cooley (1864-1929), the degree of personal insecurity you display in social situations is determined
by what you believe other people think of you.
Cooley´s concept of the looking glass self, states that a person’s self
grows out of a person´s social interactions with others. The view of
ourselves comes from the contemplation of personal qualities and impressions
of how others perceive us. How we see ourselves does not come from
who we really are, but rather from how we believe others see us.

The main point is that people shape their self-concepts based on their
understanding of how others perceive them. We form our self-image as the
reflections of the response and evaluations of others in our environment. As
children we were treated in a variety of ways. If parents, relatives and
other important people look at a child as smart, they will tend to raise him
with certain types of expectations. As a consequence, the child will
eventually believe that he is a smart person. This is a process that
continues when we grow up. For instance, if you believe that your closest
friends look at you as superhero, you are likely to project
that self-image, regardless of whether this has anything to do with reality.
The concept of the looking glass-self theory constitutes the cornerstone of
the sociological theory of socialization. The idea is that people in our
close environment serve as the “mirrors” that reflect images of ourselves.
According to Cooley, this process has three steps. First, we imagine how we
appear to another person. Sometimes this imagination is correct, but may
also be wrong since it is merely based on our assumptions. Second, we
imagine what judgments people make of us based on our appearance. Lastly, we
imagine how the person feels about us, based on the judgments made of us.
The ultimate result is that we often change our behavior based on how we
feel people perceive us.

Building a strong self-image
“I imagine your mind, and especially what your mind thinks about my mind,
and what your mind thinks about what my mind thinks about your mind.”
Charles Horton Cooley.

So how can we, or anyone else, know who we really are? Can you be sure of
the “real you”, separated from all the stuff in the outside social world?
You have probably experienced that you have had a strong sense of another
person´s dislike for you, only to later find out that this was not the case,
and that this person really liked you. The “real social world” as
we perceive it, is often not only wrong, but may even serve as an illusion.
All people want to be liked and be appreciated for talents or personality.
But if we have a weak self-image, if we believe that the opinion of others
are more important than our own, we can end up living our lives in
accordance to other peoples´ expectations. Sometimes, other evaluations
mean more to us than our own. This is quite a distressing thought, since it
implies that others´ opinion of you can run your life.
A person’s construction of an “imagined self-image” is done unintentionally.
We are not consciously aware that we often try to conform to the image that
we imagine other people expect from us. If a person develops a negative
self-image the self-esteem will tend to be low. Low self-esteem and poor
self-image has long been associated with a whole range of psychological
problems, and it is necessary to counter the passive individual that depends
heavily on the social world for building self-image. Hence, we should
develop a self-image that is more based on our own evaluations rather than
how we believe others look at us.
The concept of the looking glass self-offers insight not only into our own
thinking, but also to how we form our identity based on how others see us.
If we are interacting with others we are vulnerable for changing our
own self-image, a process that will continue throughout our lives.

Change is not always something we seek, but it is something that is always present. It’s a constant! It’s always a part of your life. Whether you want it or not, it will be there. The good news is, within change there are lessons to be learned. If you fight change, you’ll miss the lessons, which means it will just hang around. If you accept change and learn the lesson, you are free to move forward and do what? Face more change. Isn’t that exciting to know? Richard Flint

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Stop consuming caffeine
Although people think they perform better on caffeine, the truth is, they
really don’thttp://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2012/08/21/caffeine-the-silent-
killer-of-emotional-intelligence/. Actually, we’ve become so dependent on
caffeine that we use it to simply get back to our status-quo. When we’re off
it, we underperform and become incapable. Isn’t this absurd?
In his book, The Untethered Soulhttps://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/157224537
Michael Singer argues that your energy should come from within — from
your why — not from external stimulants. The scientific backing is
substantial and unsurprising: intrinsic motivation
destroys extrinsic motivation every day of the week.
Motivation aside — healthy eating, sleeping, and intensive exercise produce
higher quantities and quality of energy than caffeine ever could. A holistic
approach to life is essential. Garbage in, garbage out.
Give up the caffeine and see what happens. To avoid withdrawal headaches —
which are mostly placebo — replace your caffeine with something else
(another placebo). After a few days without caffeine, you’ll develop
confidence in your ability to function without it.

Pray or meditate morning, mid-day, and night
In a recent interview at the Genius Networkhttp://geniusnetwork.com/main/ mastermind event, Joe Polish asked Tony
Robbins what he does to get focused. “Do you meditate? What do you do?” Joe
asked.
“I don’t know that I meditate. I don’t know that I want to meditate and think about nothing,” Tony responded, “My goal is clarity.”
Instead of full-on meditation, Tony has a morning routine
that includes several breathing exercises and visualization techniques that
get him to a state of clarity and focus. For me, I use prayer and pondering
(my version of meditation) as the same vehicle. Whatever your approach, the goal should be clarity and focus. What do you
want to be about today?
What few things matter most during the next 24 hours?
I’ve gotten the best results as:
My morning prayer and meditation are motivational
My afternoon prayer and meditation are evaluative and strategic
My evening prayer and meditation are evaluative and reflective

Read 1 book per week
Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and
learning. It is common for the world’s most successful people to read at
least one book per week. They are constantly learning.
I can easily get through one audiobook per week by just listening during my
commute to school and while walking on campus. Taking even 15–30 minutes
every morning to read uplifting and instructive information changes you. It
puts you in the zone to perform at your highest.
Over a long enough period of time, you will have read hundreds of books.
You’ll be knowledgeable on several topics. You’ll think and see the world
differently. You’ll be able to make more connections between different
topics.
Reference #19 on this list if you feel you’re “too busy” to read one book
per week. There are methods to make this task extremely easy.

Marry your best friend
“For all the productivity and success advice I’ve read, shaped and marketed
for dozens of authors in the last decade, I’ve never really seen someone
come out and say: Find yourself a spouse who complements and supports you
and makes you better.” — Ryan Holidayhttp://observer.com/2015/03/the-perfect-spouse-is-the-best-productivity-hac
k-no-one-told-you-about/
Research http://www.nytimes.com/2004/07/29/business/29scene.html done by
economists have found — even after controlling for age, education, and other
demographics — that married people make 10 to 50 percent more than single
people.
Why would this be?
Being married gives you a higher purpose for being productive. You are no
longer a lone ranger, but have another person who relies on you.
Marriage also smacks you in the face with what’s really important in life.
Sure, hanging out and partying are fun. But too many people get stuck in
this phase and miss the meaning that comes from building a life with
someone.
You will never find a better personal development seminar or book than
marriage. It will highlight all your flaws and weaknesses, challenging
you to become a better person than you ever thought possible.

Make a bucket list and actively knock items off
Most people have it backwards — they design their ambitions around their
life, rather than designing their life
<https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqE4mJl26uQ> around their ambitions (see
this free eBook https://go.benjaminhardy.com/slipstream-time-hacking-optin-a on how to
quickly create your ideal life).
What are the things you absolutely must do before you die?
Start there.
Then design your life around those things. Or as Stephen Covey explained in
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Peoplehttps://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/074326951, “Begin with the end clearly in mind.”
A simple mental exercise that may be helpful is imagining you only have 30
days to live. What would you do in those 30 days?
Now imagine you have 5 years to live. What would you do during those 5 years?
Get to work. The death-bed mentality is the only way to live. Stop pretending you’ll live forever. As Professor Harold Hill has said — “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays.”

Fast from all food and caloric beverages 24 hours once per week
One-day (24-hour) food fasts are a popular way to maintain health and
vigor. Fasting leverages the self-healing properties of the human body.
Radical health improvements occur when the digestive system is given rest
and the organs get ample time to repair and heal themselves.
A regular practice of fastinghttp://www.allaboutfasting.com/benefits-of-fasting.html can:
Improve digestive efficiency
Increase mental clarity
Increase physical and mental vigor
Remove toxins
Improve vision
Give a general feeling of wellbeing
Like all the other habits, fasting gets easier with practice. I’ve been
fasting for years and it’s one of the best things I have done for my health.
Fasting is also one of the most recognized techniques in religious and
spiritual practices. I also use fasting to get spiritual clarity and
refinement. Honestly, I could go on for hours about this one. Give it a try. You’ll
never be the same.

Fast from the internet 24 hours once per week
Your body gets an intervention when you fast. Your mind and relationships
could use one too. Unplug yourself from the matrix.
If you haven’t caught on already, human beings are highly addictive
creatures. We love our coffee, sugar, and internet. And these things are all
great. But our lives can be far more enhanced by using these tools in
wisdom.
The purpose of the internet fast is to reconnect to yourself and your loved
ones. So, you probably shouldn’t do it the same day you do your food fast.
Because eating is one of the strongest ways to form bonds.
You’ll be blown away by how much more connected you feel to your loved ones
when you can give them your undivided attention. It may even feel awkward
for a while having a real-life conversation without looking at your phone
every three minutes.

Stop consuming the news or reading the newspaper
Although the amount of warfare and deaths by human hands are reducing
globallyhttp://www.diamandis.com/blog/what-the-news-media-wont-tell-you-about-globa
l-violence , you will not get that message watching televised news or
reading the newspaper.
On the contrary, these media outlets have an agenda. Their goal is to
appeal to your fears by inflating extreme cases — making them seem normal
and commonplace. If they didn’t do so, their viewership would plummet. Which
is why Peter Diamandishttp://www.diamandis.com/blog/what-the-news-media-wont-tell-you-about-globa
l-violence , one of the world’s experts on entrepreneurship and the future
of innovation has said, “I’ve stopped watching TV news. They couldn’t pay me
enough money.”
You can get high quality news curated from Google news. When you detox from
the toxic filth that is public news, you’ll be startled as your worldview
becomes radically more optimistic. There is no objective reality. Instead,
we live in perceived realities and are thus responsible for the worldview we
adopt.

Do something every day that terrifies you
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of
uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” — Tim Ferriss
But you don’t have to constantly be battling your fears. Actually, Darren
Hardy http://darrenhardy.success.com/2013/06/20-seconds-of-courage/ has
said that you can be a coward 99.9305556% of the time (to be exact). You
only need to be courageous for 20 seconds at a time.
Twenty seconds of fear is all you need. If you courageously confront fear
for 20 seconds every single day, before you know it, you’ll be in a
different socio-economic and social situation.
Make that call.
Ask that question.
Pitch that idea.
Post that video.
Whatever it is you feel you want to do–do it. The anticipation of the event
is far more painful than the event itself. So just do it and end the
inner-conflict.
In most cases, your fears are unfounded. As Seth Godinhttps://extraordinaryreality.wordpress.com/2013/10/18/seth-godins-the-icaru
s-deception-when-our-comfort-zone-no-longer-aligns-with-our-safety-zone/
has explained, our comfort zone and our safety zone are not the same thing.
It is completely safe to make an uncomfortable phone call. You are not going
to die. Don’t equate the two. Recognize that most things outside your
comfort zone are completely safe.

Do something kind for someone else daily
“Have I done any good in the world today? Have I helped anyone in need?
Have I cheered up the sad and made someone feel glad? If not, I have failed
indeed. Has anyone’s burden been lighter today, because I was willing to
share? Have the sick and the weary been helped on their way? When they
needed my help was I there?” — Will L. Thompson (music and text)
If we’re too busy to help other people, we’ve missed the mark. Taking the
time to spontaneously — as well as planned — helping other people is one of
the greatest joys in life. Helping others opens you up to new sides of
yourself. It helps you connect deeper with those you help and humanity in
general. It clarifies what really matters in life.
As Thomas Monsonhttps://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/10/finding-joy-in-the-journey?l
ang=eng&_r=1 has said, “Never let a problem to be solved become more
important than a person to be loved.” That would truly be a failure.

Get 7+ hours of sleep each night
Let’s face it: sleep is just as important as eating and drinking water.
Despite this, millions of people do not sleep enough and experience insane
problems as a result.
The National Sleep Foundation <http://www.apa.org/topics/sleep/why.aspx>
(NSF) conducted surveys revealing that at least 40 million Americans suffer
from more than 70 different sleep disorders; furthermore, 60 percent of
adults, and 69 percent of children, experience one or more sleep problems a
few nights or more during a week.
In addition, more than 40 percent of adults experience daytime sleepiness
severe enough to interfere with their daily activities at least a few days
each month — with 20 percent reporting problem sleepiness a few days a week
or more.
On the flip side, getting a healthy amount of sleep is linked
<http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20459221,00.html> to:
Increased memory
Longer life
Decreased inflammation
Increased creativity
Increased attention and focus
Decreased fat and increased muscle mass with exercise
Lower stress
Decreased dependence on stimulants like caffeine
Decreased risk of getting into accidents
Decreased risk of depression
And tons more… Google it.

Replace warm showers with cold ones
Tony Robbins doesn’t consume caffeine at all. Instead, he starts every morninghttp://humanelevation.tonyrobbins.com/blog/health/the-power-of-cold-water?u
tm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_content=power%2Bcold%2Bwater&utm_cam
paign=Editorial by jumping into a 57-degree Fahrenheit swimming pool.
Why would he do such a thing?
Cold water immersion radically facilitates physical and mental wellness.
When practiced regularly, it provides long-lasting changes to your body’s
immune, lymphatic, circulatory and digestive systems that improve the
quality of your life. It can also increase weight-loss because it boosts
your metabolism.
A 2007 research study http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17993252 found
that taking cold showers routinely can help treat depression symptoms often
more effectively than prescription medications. That’s because cold water
triggers a wave of mood-boosting neurochemicals which make you feel happy.
To me, it increases my willpower and boosts my creativity and
inspiration. While standing with the cold water hitting my back, I practice
slowing my breathing and calming down. After I’ve chilled out, I feel super
happy and inspired. Lots of ideas start flowing and I become way motivated
to achieve my goals.
Here’s a tip if you’re just starting out: start your shower warm, as usual.
Let the warm water on your muscles allow you to stretch them out. After
you’re stretched and washed, completely turn-off the warm and completely
turn-on the cold. It really isn’t too bad at all. It feels incredible. Just
do it for 60–90 seconds, then get out. You’ll be very pleased.

Say “No” to people, obligations, requests, and opportunities you’re not
interested in from now on
“No more yes. It’s either HELL YEAH! or no.” — Derek Sivershttps://sivers.org/hellyeah
Your 20 seconds of daily courage will most consistently involve saying “no”
to stuff that doesn’t really matter. But how could you possibly say “no” to
certain opportunities if you don’t know what you want? You can’t. Like most
people, you’ll be seduced by the best thing that comes around. Or, you’ll
crumble under other people’s agendas.
But if you know what you want, you’ll have the courage and foresight to
pass up even brilliant opportunities — because ultimately they are
distractors from your vision. As Jim Collins said in Good to Greathttps://www.amazon.com/Good-Great-Some-Companies-Others-ebook/dp/B0058DRUV6, “A

‘once-in-a-lifetime opportunity’ is irrelevant if it is the wrong
opportunity.”

Say “Thank you” every time you’re served by someone
It’s amazing when you meet someone who is expressively and genuinely
grateful. It’s amazing because, frankly, it’s rare.
I remember one day while working as a busser of a restaurant as a teenager.
Every time I went by a certain table, whether I was refilling waters,
bringing food, anything… the kid at the table (no more than 20 years old)
graciously said “thank you.” I even heard him from close proximity saying it
to all the other employees when they stopped by his table.
This experience had a dramatic impact on me. It was so simple what he was
doing. Yet, so beautiful. I instantly loved this person and wanted to serve
him even more.
I could tell by how he looked in my eyes when saying “thank you” that he
meant it. It came from a place of gratitude and humility.
Interestingly, one studyhttp://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/09/15/why-thank-you-is-more-than
-just-good-manners/ has found that saying “thank you,” facilitated a 66
percent increase in help offered by those serving. Although altruism is the
goal, don’t be surprised as your habit of graciously saying “thank you”
turns into even more to be thankful for.

Say “I love you” 3+ times a day to the most important people in your life
According to neuroscience researchhttp://classroom.synonym.com/10-reasons-say-love-16260.html , the more you
express love (like gratitude), the more other people feel love for you.
Sadly, people are taught absurd mindsets about being vulnerable and loving
in relationships. Just this morning, my wife and I had to coax and prod our
three foster kids to say one nice thing about each other, and to say they
loved each other.
It took several minutes for our 8-year-old foster boy to muster the
strength to say he loved his sister. Yet, all our kids constantly berate
and belittle each other.
You know the feeling: when you want to say, “I love you” but hold back. What
a horrible feeling.
Why do we hesitate to express our love?
Why do we hesitate to connect deeply with others?
This may be strange, but if you tell your friends and family you love them,
they’ll be blown away. I once knew a Polynesian missionary who told everyone
he loved them. It was clear he was sincere.
I asked him why he did it. What he told me changed my life. “When I tell
people I love them, it not only changes them, but it changes me. Simply by
saying the words, I feel more love for that person. I’ve been telling people
all around me I love them. They feel treasured by me. Those who know me have
come to expect it. When I forget to say it, they miss it.”
“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds
left undone.” –Harriet Beecher Stowe

Professor emeritus of nutrition at the University of Illinois, recommends consuming at

least 30 grams of protein for breakfast. Similarly, Tim
Ferriss, in his book, The 4-Hour Body

https://www.amazon.com/Hour-Body-Uncommon-Incredible-Superhuman/dp/03074636
3X, also recommends 30 grams of protein 30 minutes after waking up.
According to Tim, his father did this and lost 19 pounds in one month.
Protein-rich foods keep you full longer than other foods because they take
longer to leave the stomach. Also, protein keeps blood-sugar levels steady,
which prevents spikes in hunger.
Eating protein first decreases your white carbohydrate cravings. These are
the types of carbs that get you fat. Think bagels, toast, and donuts.
Tim makes four recommendations for getting adequate protein in the morning:
Eat at least 40% of your breakfast calories as protein
Do it with two or three whole eggs (each egg has about 6g protein)
If you don’t like eggs, use something like turkey bacon, organic pork bacon
or sausage, or cottage cheese
Or, you could always do a protein shake with water
For people who avoid dairy, meat, and eggs, there are several plant-based
proteins. Legumes, greens, nuts, and seeds all are rich in protein.

Decide where you’ll be in five years and get there in two
“How can you achieve your 10 year plan in the next 6 months?” — Peter Thiel
There is always a faster way than you originally conceive. Actually,
goal-setting can slow your progress and diminish your potential if you rely
too heavily upon it.
In an interview with Success Magazine, Tim Ferriss said that he doesn’t
have five or ten year goals. Instead, he works on “experiments” or projects
for a 6–12-week period of time. If they do extremely well, the possible
doors that could open are endless. Tim would rather play to the best
possibilities than get stuck on one track. He says this approach allows him
to go drastically farther than he could ever plan for.

Remove all non-essentials from your life (start with your closet)
“You cannot overestimate the unimportance of practically everything.” —
Greg McKeown
Most of the possessions you own, you don’t use. Most of the clothes in your
closet, you don’t wear. Get rid of them. They are sucking energy from your
life. Also, they are dormant value waiting to be exchanged for dollars.
Getting rid of underutilized resources is like injecting motivation and
clarity into your bloodstream. While all of that untapped energy gets
removed, a new wave of positive energy comes into your life. You can use
that energy in more useful and productive ways.

Consume a tablespoon of coconut oil once per day
Coconut oil is one of the healthiest foods on the planet.
Here are 7 reasonshttp://dailyhealthpost.com/8-medically-based-reasons-to-consume-coconut-oil
-every-day/ you should eat coconut oil every single day:
It boosts HDL (good) cholesterol and simultaneously blocks LDL (bad)
cholesterol buildup
It has special fats that help you burn more fat, have more energy, and
maintain healthy weight
It fights aging http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20645831 and keeps
you looking and feeling young
It reduces fever and acts as an anti-inflammatory
It is antibacterial and thus wards off possible illnesses
It improves memory and cognitive functioning (even for people with
Alzheimer’s)
It can boost testosterone http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18549927
for men and balance healthy hormones level for both men and women
Coconut oil is a healthy alternative to caffeine. Eating a small amount
will give you a shot of energy without the side-effects.

Buy a juicer and juice a few times per week
Juicing is an incredible way to get loads of vitamins and nutrients from
fruits and vegetables. These nutrients can:
Help protect against cardiovascular disease, cancerhttp://journals.cambridge.org/download.php?file=%2FPHN%2FPHN3_01%2FS136898
and various inflammatory diseases
Guard against oxidative cellular damagehttp://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/78/3/570S.short from everyday cellular
maintenance and exposure to chemicals and pollution.
There are several approaches you can take to juicing. You can reset your
body by doing a 3–10 day juice “cleanse.” Or, you could simply incorporate
juice into your regular diet. I do both from time to time.
I always feel enormously better after juicing. Especially when I get lots
of intense greens like kale into my system.

Choose to have faith in something bigger than yourself, skepticism is easy
In the timeless book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill explains that a
fundamental principle of wealth creation is having faith — which he defines
as visualization and belief in the attainment of desire.
As Hill famously said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the
mind can achieve.”
If you don’t believe in your dreams, the chances of them happening are slim
to none. But if you can come to fully know the things you seek will occur,
the universe will conspire to make it happen.
According to Hill (see page 49 of Think and Grow Richhttps://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Napoleon-Hill/dp/149617545X ),
here’s how that works:
“Faith is the starting point of all accumulation of riches!”
“Faith is the basis of all ‘miracles’ and mysteries that cannot be analyzed
by the rules of science!”
“Faith is the element that transforms the ordinary vibration of thought,
created by the finite mind of man, into the spiritual equivalent.”
“Faith is the only agency through which the cosmic force of Infinite
Intelligence can be harnessed and used.”
“Faith is the element, the ‘chemical’ which, when mixed with prayer, gives
one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.”
Like expressing love, in our culture, many have become uncomfortable with
ideas like faith. Yet, to all of the best business minds in recent history,
faith was fundamental to their success.

Stop obsessing about the outcome
Research http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF01173288 has found
that expectations in one’s own ability serves as a better predictor of high
performance than expectations about a specific outcome. In his book, The
Personal MBA, Josh Kaufman http://personalmba.com/locus-of-control/
explains that when setting goals, your locus of control should target what
you can control (i.e., your efforts)instead of results you can’t control
(e.g., whether you get the part).
Expect optimal performance from yourself and let the chips fall where they
may. The organic output will be your highest quality work. Put most simply:
Do what is right, let the consequence follow.

Give at least one guilt-free hour to relaxation per day
In our quest for success, many of us have become workaholics. However,
relaxation is crucial for success. It is akin to resting between sets at the
gym. Without resting, your workout will be far less than it could have been.
Foolishly, people approach their lives like a workout without rest breaks.
Instead, they take stimulants to keep themselves going longer and longer.
But this isn’t sustainable or healthy. It’s also bad for productivity and
creativity in the short and long run.

Genuinely apologize to people you’ve mistreated
People make mistakes several times every single day. Sadly — and
hilariously — much of the time we act like kids and blame our mistakes on
external factors. Research has found that people who don’t openly and often
apologize experience higher levelshttp://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/default.htm of stress and anxiety.
You don’t need that pent-up energy in your life. Make amends and let it go.
It’s not your choice if people choose to forgive you.

Make friends with five people who inspire you
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn
Who you spend time with is incredibly important. Even more fundamental is:
what types of people are you comfortable around?
Your comfort level is one of the clearest indicators of your character. Are
the people you enjoy being around inspiring or degrading, hard-working or lazy?
What kinds of beliefs do you friends have?
What kinds of goals are they pursuing?
How much money do they make?
What does their health look like?
All of these things dramatically impact you. And it is one of the most
painful experiences in the world to become uncomfortable around people who
have long been your friends. When you grow and evolve and long for more,
you’ll begin seeking a different crowd to surround yourself with.
Misery loves company. Don’t let them hold you back. Move on but never
detach from the love you have for those people.

Save 10 percent or more of your income
“I would have saved 10 percent automatically from my paycheck by direct
deposit into a savings account earning the best possible interest compounded
daily. I would have also disciplined myself to deposit 10 percent of any
additional money from gifts, refunds or other earned income. I would have
bought a small house outright with the money I had saved (instead of renting
an apartment for over 30 years). I would have found a job that I loved and
devoted my life to it. At least you could be happy even if you were not
where you wanted to be financially. Hope this helps someone out there.” — D.Lorinser
Tithing yourself is a core principle of wealth creation. Most people pay
other people first. Most people live above their means.
In total, American consumershttps://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/credit-card-data/average-credit-card-debt-h
ousehold/ owe:
$11.85 trillion in debt
An increase of 1.4% from last year
$918.5 billion in credit card debt
$8.09 trillion in mortgages
$1.19 trillion in student loans
An increase of 5.9% from last year
The U.S. Census in 2010 reportedhttp://www.fool.com/investing/general/2015/01/18/the-average-american-has-t
his-much-debt-how-do-you.aspx that there were 234.56 million people over
the age of 18 years old, suggesting the average adult owes $3,761 in
revolving credit to lenders. Across the average household, American adults
also owe $11,244 in student loans, $8,163 on their autos, and $70,322 on
their mortgage. Simply switching to home-brewed coffeehttp://www.jsonline.com/blogs/news/249776901.html will save you an
average of $64.48 per month (or $2 per day) or $773.80 per year. By putting
the savings into a mutual fund with average earnings of 6.5% interest and
reinvesting the dividends into more mutual funds over a decade, the $64.48
saved every month would grow into $10,981.93.
My wife once took an accounting class from a world-renowned accountant. His
words on the first day of class, “The most important thing you’ll learn in
this class, which most people will never learn: spend less than you earn. If
you do this, you’ll be financially free.”

Tithe or give 10 percent of your income away
“One gives freely, yet grows all the richer.” — Proverbs 11:24
Many of the wealthiest people in the world attribute their healthy
financial life and abundance to giving some of it away.
Most people are trying to accumulate as much as they can. However, a
natural principle of wealth creation is generosity. As Joe Polish has said,
“The world gives to the givers and takes from the takers.”
From a spiritual perspective, everything we have is God’s (or the Earth’s).
We are merely stewards over our possessions. When we die, we don’t take our
money with us. So why hoard it?
As you give generously and wisely, you’ll be stunned by the increases in
your earning potential. You’ll develop traits needed for radical wealth creation.

Drink 64–100 ounces of water per day
Human beings are mostly water. As we drink healthy amounts of water, we
have smaller waistlines, healthier skin, and better functioning brains.
Actually, as we drink enough water, it’s safe to say we’re better in every
way. It’s a no-brainer. If you’re not drinking the healthy amount of water each
day, you should critically assess your priorities in life.

Buy a small place rather than rent
Unless you live in a big city (which many of you do), I’m baffled how many
people pay outlandish amounts on rent each month.
When my wife and I moved to Clemson to begin graduate school, we did a lot
of front end work to ensure we’d be able to buy a home. What’s shocking is
that our mortgage payment is far less than most of our friend’s rent
payments. By the end of our four years here in Clemson, we’ll have earned
several thousand dollars in equity and even more in appreciation.
Conversely, many of our friends are simply dumping hundreds of dollars into
someone else’s pockets every month.
Paying rent is like working hourly. You get money while you’re on the
clock. When you’re not on the clock, you get no money. Earning equity is
like having residual income. Every month you pay down your mortgage, you
actually keep that money. So, you’re not “spending to live” like most people
do. You’re living for free while saving — often earning in appreciation.

Check your email and social media at least 60–90 minutes after you wake up
Most people check their email and social media immediately upon waking up.
This puts them in a reactive state for the remainder of the day. Instead of
living life on their own terms, they’d rather respond to other people’s agendas.
Hence, the importance of having a solid morning routine. When you wake up
and put yourself, not other people first, you position yourself to win
before you ever begin playing. As Stephen Covey has taught in his book,
Spiritual Roots of Human Relationshttps://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Roots-Human-Relations-Stephen/dp/087579705
, “Private victory always precedes public victory.”
Make the first few hours of your morning about you, so that you can be the
best you can for other people. My morning routinehttp://thoughtcatalog.com/benjamin-hardy/2015/10/8-simple-things-you-should
-do-every-day-before-8-a-m/ consists of prayer, journal writing, listening
to audiobooks and podcasts while I work out, and taking a cold shower.
After I’ve had an epic morning, and I’m clear on the direction of my day, I
can utilize email and social media for my benefit rather than detriment.

Make a few radical changes to your life each year
Reinvent yourself every year. Novelty is an antidote to monotony. Jump into
new pursuits and relationships.
Try things you’ve never done before.
Take risks.
Have more fun.
Pursue big things you’ve been procrastinating for years.
In 2015, my wife and I went from having no kids to having three foster kids
(ages 4, 6, and 8). I’ve started blogging. I quit my job and started writing
full-time. I completely changed my diet. I’ve changed my entire daily routine.
This year has been just as transformative as the last. It’s taught me that
you can change your whole life in one year. I plan on changing my whole life
for the better every year.
Change freaks people out. It immediately pulls you from your comfort zone.
Which is exactly what you need. You’ll often feel like a fraud. But impostor
syndrome is exactly what you should be seeking. Do your best to always be
the dumbest person in the room and you’ll improve rapidly.

Define what wealth and happiness mean to you
“Be everything to everybody and you’ll be nothing for yourself.” — John Rushton
No two human beings are the same. So why should we have one standard of
success? Seeking society’s standard of success is an endless rat-race. There
will always be someone better than you. You’ll never have the time to do everything.
Instead, you recognize that every decision has opportunity cost. When you
choose one thing, you simultaneously don’t choose several others. And that’s
okay. Actually, it’s beautiful because we get to choose our ultimate ideal.
We must define success, wealth, and happiness in our own terms because if
we don’t, society will for us — and we will always fall short. We’ll always
be left wanting. We’ll always be stuck comparing ourselves and competing
with other people. Our lives will be an endless race for the next best
thing. We’ll never experience contentment.

“Change the way you feel, think, and act about money” — Steve Downhttp://financiallyfit.com/
Most people have an unhealthy relationship with money. It’s not necessarily
their fault; it’s what they were taught.
In order to change your financial world, you need to alter your paradigm
and feelings about money.
Here are some key beliefs the most successful peoplehttp://www.businessinsider.com/money-advice-from-a-millionaire-2015-6?utm_m
edium=social&utm_campaign=postplanner&utm_source=facebook.com in the world
have:
In a free-market economy, anyone can make as much money as they want.
Your background, highest level of education, or IQ is irrelevant when it
comes to earning money.
The bigger the problem you solve, the more money you make.
Expect to make lots of money. Think BIG: $100,000, $500,000, or why not $1
million?
What you focus on expands. If you believe in scarcity, you’ll have little.
If you believe there is unlimited abundance, you’ll attract abundance.
When you create incredible value for others, you have the right to make as
much money as you want.
You’re not going to be discovered, saved, or made rich by someone else. If
you want to be successful, you have to build it yourself.
When you develop a healthy relationship, you will have more. You won’t
spend money on the crap most people waste their money on. You’ll focus more
on value than price.

Invest only in industries you are informed about
Warren Buffett doesn’t invest in technology because he doesn’t understand
it. Instead, he invests in banking and insurance. He’s not a tech guy. He
invests in what he understands.
Yet, so many people invest in things they don’t understand. I’ve made that
mistake. I once invested several thousand dollars in an overseas rice
distribution. Although the investment sounded incredible on paper, it’s
turned out to be a disaster.
I didn’t have the understanding to make an informed decision. I put my
trust in someone else’s hands. And no one cares about your success more than you do.
From now on, I’m going to responsibly invest in things I can make informed decisions on.

Create an automated income source that takes care of the fundamentals
We live in unprecedented times. It has never been easier to create
automated income streams. No matter your skill-set and interests, you can
put a business in place that runs 24/7 even while you’re sleeping, sitting
on the beach, or playing with your kids.
An entrepreneur is someone who works for a few years like no one will so
they can live the rest of their life like no one else can.
If you want to free up your time and energy for the things that matter
most, either invest in stuff you’re informed on (e.g., real estate,
businesses, mutual funds), or, create a business that doesn’t require you
(e.g., create an online educational course about something you’re passionate about).

Have multiple income streams (the more the better)
Most people’s income comes from the same source. However, most wealthy
people’s income comes from multiple sources. I know people with hundreds of
income streams coming in each month.
What would happen if you set things up so you were getting income from 5 or
10 different places each month?
What if several of those were automated?
Again, with a few short years of intentional and focused work, you can have
several income streams.

Track at least one habit/behavior you’re trying to improve
“When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is
measured and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates.” — Thomas Monson
Tracking is difficult. If you’ve tried it before, chances are, you quit within a few days.
Research http://www.interventioncentral.org/node/961544 has repeatedly
found that when behavior is tracked and evaluated, it improves drastically.
It’s best to track only a few things. Maybe just one at a time.
If you want to track your diet, a fun approach is taking a picture of
everything you eat. Everything. This allows you the time to determine if you
really want to put that in your body.
So, your tracking can be creative. Do what works for you. Use a method you
will actually do. But start tracking.
As a consultant and executive coach, tracking and reporting behavior,
daily, has been the number one factor in my client’s success. When you track
something, you become aware of it. When you report something, you become
accountable to it.
Most of my clients simply send me an email at the end of their workday with
a few bullet points (e.g., I did 4 hours of work on my startup, I made 3
sales, I didn’t check social media before noon). Accountability to a
spreadsheet or app is not the same as accounting to a person — particularly
one you trust and respect.

Have no more than 3 items on your to-do list each day
When you shift your life from day-to-day reactivity to one of creation and
purpose, your goals become a lot bigger. Consequently, your priority list
becomes smaller. Instead of doing a million things poorly, the goal becomes
to do a few things incredibly — or better yet, to do one thing better than
anyone else in the world.
“If you have more than three priorities, then you don’t have any.” — Jim Collins
So, instead of trying to do a million small things, what one or two things
would make the biggest impact?
Dan Sullivan, founder of Strategic Coach https://www.strategiccoach.com/, explains

that there are two economies: The Economy of Hard Work and The
Economy of Resultshttp://blog.strategiccoach.com/time-effort-arent-enough/ .
Some people think hard work is the recipe. Although this is completely
true, the effort is often misplaced. Most people focus on the process or
work first, and the result second. Conversely, those who determine the
outcomes their seeking first can better discern which strategy will be most
effective. Sure, that strategy may be out of your comfort zone, but as Tim
Grover has said in Relentlesshttps://www.amazon.com/Relentless-Unstoppable-Tim-S-Grover/dp/1476714207,
“When you crave the end result, the hard work becomes irrelevant.”
Tim Ferriss, in his book, The 4-Hour Body, explains what he calls Minimum
Effective Dose (MED), which is simply the smallest dose that will yield a
desired result and anything past the MED is wasteful. Water boils at 100°C
at standard air pressure — it is not “more boiled” if you add more heat.
What is the fastest way to get your desired outcome?

Make your bed first thing in the morning
According to psychological researchhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/brain-candy/201208/make-your-bed-chang
e-your-life , people who make their bed in the morning are happier and more
successful than those who don’t. If that’s not enough, here’s more:
71 percent of bed makers consider themselves happy
While 62 percent of non-bed-makers are unhappy
Bed makers are also more likely to like their jobs, own a home, exercise
regularly, and feel well rested
Whereas non-bed-makers hate their jobs, rent apartments, avoid the gym, and
wake up tired.
Crazy, right?
Something so simple. Yet, when you make your bed first thing in the
morning, you knock-off your first accomplishment of the day. This puts you
in a mindset of “winning.”
Do it! It only takes 30 seconds.

Make one audacious request per week (what do you have to lose?)
“Rainmakers generate revenue by making asks. They ask for donations. They
ask for contracts. They ask for deals. They ask for opportunities. They ask
to meet with leaders or speak to them over the phone. They ask for
publicity. They come up with ideas and ask for a few minutes of your time to
pitch it. They ask for help. Don’t let rainmaking deter you from your dream.
It’s one of the barriers to entry, and you can overcome it. Once you taste
the sweet victory of a positive response, you’ll not only become comfortable
with it, you might even enjoy it. But making asks is the only way to bring
your dream to life.” — Ben Arment
I got into graduate school way after applications were due because I asked.
I’ve gotten free NBA ticketshttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/benjamin-hardy/how-i-got-free-golden-sta_b_78
30262.html by asking a few players I saw at a hotel.
I’ve gotten my work published on high tier outlets because I ask.
Very few things in life are just randomly given to you as an adult. In most
cases, you need to earn it and/or ask for it.
Yet, there are many opportunities currently available to everyone if they
would muster the courage and humility to ask.
The entire crowdfunding industry is based on making asks.
Start making bold and audacious asks. What’s the worst that could happen?
They say “No”?
What’s the best that could happen?
When you don’t ask, you lose by default. And you’ll never know the
opportunities you missed out on.
Don’t sell yourself short. Ask that beautiful girl on a date. Ask for that
raise or big opportunity at work. Ask people to invest in your idea.
Put yourself out there. You’ll be blown away by what happens.

Be spontaneously generous with a stranger at least once per month
Life isn’t all about what you can achieve or acquire. It’s more about who
you become and what you contribute. Interestingly, research done at Yalehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zmho1LNKUcQ has found that people are
instinctively cooperative and generous. However, if you stall and think
about being helpful or generous, you’re less likely to do it. And the longer
you wait, the likelihood of you being helpful diminishes. This principle
applies to other areas as well, like creativity. The longer you wait to do
something, the less likely it is you’ll do it.
So, be spontaneous. When you get the wild thought of buying the person’s
food in the car behind you, just do it. Don’t think about it.
If you’re driving down the road and see someone with car trouble off to the
side, just do it. Don’t think about it.
When you want to say, “I love you,” to a loved one, just do it. Don’t think about it.
Paralysis by analysis is dumb. And Malcolm Gladwell explains in Blinkhttps://www.amazon.com/Blink-Power-Thinking-Without/dp/0316010669 that
snap-decisions are often far better than well-thought out ones.

Write and place a short, thoughtful note for someone once per day
The messages of handwritten letters impact deeper and are remembered longer
than electronic messages. There is no comparison to this traditional form of
conversation. Handwritten messages are so powerful that people often keep
these notes for a long time. Sometimes a lifetime.
Jack Canfield has taught that writing 3–5 handwritten notes per day will
change your relationships. In our email world, it can seem inefficient to
hand-write and mail a letter. But relationships aren’t about efficiency.
Not only will handwriting letters change your relationships, it will change
you. Research has shownhttp://theweek.com/articles/490493/how-writing-by-hand-makes-kids-smarter
that writing by hand increases brain development and cognition more than typing can.
Consequently, the things you write will be seared into your own memory as
well, allowing both you and the recipient to reflect back on cherished moments.
Writing handwritten notes spices up your relationships, adding an element
of fun. It’s exciting placing kind and loving notes in random places for
your loved ones to find. Put a note under the windshield wipers of your
loved one’s car to find after a hard day’s’ work. Hidden, wait till they come
out and watch them from across the street. You’ll see their eyes light up
and smile spread.
Other fun places include:
In the fridge
In the closet
On the computer keyboard
In their shoe
In their wallet
The mail box
Anywhere that makes the experience a surprise…

Become good friends with your parents
Many people have horrible relationships with their parents. I once did
myself. Growing up can be tough and sometimes our parents make horrible
decisions that negatively impact us.
However, my parents have become my best friends. They are my confidants. I
turn to them for wisdom and advice. They understand me like no one else.
Biology is a powerful thing.
Although I don’t see things the same way my parents do, I love them and
respect their viewpoints. I love working out with my dad and talking about
big ideas with my mom.
I couldn’t imagine not being close to them.
If your parents are still around, rekindle those ties or increase the
flame. You’ll find enormous joy in those relationships.

Floss your teeth
About 50 percent of Americans claim to floss daily. My guess is that’s a
large over-estimate. Either way, the benefits of flossing are incredible.
Doing so daily prevents gum diseasehttp://www.webmd.com/oral-health/guide/gingivitis-periodontal-disease and
tooth loss http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/picture-of-the-teeth .
Everyone gets plaque, and it can only be removed by flossing or a deep
cleaning from your dentist. Plaque builduphttps://www.humana.com/learning-center/health-and-wellbeing/healthy-living/
benefits-of-using-dental-floss can lead to cavities, tooth decay, and gum
disease. If left untreated, gum disease can be a risk factor for heart
disease, diabetes, and a high body mass index.
Yes, not flossing can make you fat.
Not only that, but it greatly reduces bad breath.
49. Eat at least one meal with your family per day
If possible, eat a sit-down meal with your loved ones daily. It doesn’t
matter if it’s breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
We’ve become so high-paced in the world that everything we do is on the go.
We’ve forgotten what it means to just be with our loved ones.
Eating together creates a sense of community like nothing else.
Teens <http://www.cnn.com/2011/10/25/living/family-dinner-h/> who have
fewer than three family dinners a week are 3.5 times more likely to have
abused prescription drugs and to have used illegal drugs other than
marijuana, three times more likely to have used marijuana, more than 2.5
times more likely to have smoked cigarettes, and 1.5 times more likely to
have tried alcohol, according to the CASA report.

50. Spend time reflecting on your blessings at least once per day
Gratitude is the cure-all for all the world’s problems. It has been called,
“the mother of all virtues,” by the Roman philosopher Cicero.
When you practice gratitude, your world changes. There is no objective
reality. All people perceive reality as they selectively attendhttp://psychology.about.com/od/cognitivepsychology/fl/What-Is-Selective-Att
ention.htm to things that are meaningful to them. Hence, some people
notice the good while others notice the bad.
Gratitude is having an abundance mindset. When you think abundantly, the
world is your oyster. There is limitless opportunity and possibility for you.
People are magnets. When you’re grateful for what you have, you will
attract more of the positive and good. Gratitude is contagious. It changes
not only your world, but everyone else’s you come in contact with.
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]]>http://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/stuck/feed/0Your Anxiety Is Not Your Fault (And it can be conquered!)http://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/your-anxiety-is-not-your-fault-and-it-can-be-conquered/
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However, there are an estimated 40 million adults that deal with anxiety or persistent anxiety because of perceived threats. Persistent Anxiety generates very different responses in your body and mind.
With Persistent Anxiety again, your body and mind are reacting and responding to the things you’ve witness or endured. But the responses are amplified, causing stress and emotional pain. It can be debilitating. Our internal alarm system seems to go off without warning or reason, and it feels as if no one (even you) can understand what you are experiencing or why.
When this is the case, it is the cumulative effect of multiple unprocessed or unresolved experiences that keep anxiety at the surface or generating a constant undercurrent. It is no surprise that many with Persistent Anxiety deal with depression, fearful there is no way to overcome the challenge. Know that with patience and persistence, it can be conquered!
While a multi-pronged approach is wise, the most valuable tool you can employ is Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). “Why EFT?” Because when skillfully applied the unprocessed and unresolved issues will be cleared, allowing body and mind to function more optimally.
“EFT seems so simple, is there a reason I shouldn’t I or couldn’t I do this on my own?”
EFT is a marvelous self-empowerment tool that you can use independently for a multitude of issues. Be that as it may, when it comes to complex issues such as this, trying it on your own can lead to disappointment and more frustration. Many end up deciding it won’t work for them or that EFT doesn’t work. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Persistent Anxiety is complex and requires the guidance and skill that only a seasoned EFT professional can offer. A professional can also offer suggestions other things you can do along with EFT to enhance the process.
Whatever the level of anxiety you may be faced with, trust that there is hope. Trust you possess the strength within to free yourself.

Contact me for additional help.

To your health.
Captain Dick

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This means we have very limited beliefs;

I am the CREATOR of my own life;

I create my own beliefs;

I have unlimited powers.

]]>http://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/creation/feed/0Why Can’t I Get Over This?!?! Blocks and Resistanceshttp://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/why-cant-i-get-over-this-blocks-and-resistances/
http://coachingwithcaptaindick.com/why-cant-i-get-over-this-blocks-and-resistances/#respondFri, 10 Jun 2016 14:01:04 +0000http://www.eftandlifecoaching.com/?p=606Continue reading]]>Why Can’t I Get Over This?!?! Blocks and Resistances

The resistances and/or blocks that impede progress are no laughing matter. It took time to gather the courage to face the issue(s) head on, or perhaps (like many) EFT represents the last-ditch effort. We give it our best, but discouragement and frustrations overtake us and we give up, convinced a positive outcome is impossible. While understandable, take heart and be open to the possibility that success can happen anyway.
There are a multitude of reasons resistances and/or blocks may seem insurmountable. Many times the reasons aren’t apparent. Other times self-blame or blaming the process takes place – unaware the resistance(s) or block(s) are the culprits. We lose sight of the fact that our subconscious mind is running the show, convinced it is doing what’s in our best interest, based on the way it has interpreted the information received. The good news is that when the proper work is done with the subconscious, this too can change. “Our subconscious mind is our good and faithful servant.”, as Dr. Larry Nimms says.
Where do we begin? In these situations, many overlook the need to first address where they find themselves in the moment. This means tapping our way through the belief or feeling that the issue(s) can’t be overcome, as well as the way that makes you feel. The accompanying discouragement, sadness, angers, and so forth, will definitely slow momentum and may well be contributing to the current lack of headway. Some are so anxious to tackle “the real issue”, they don’t feel the need or grasp the value and want to skip those steps. Please do it anyway. When we go into resolving an issue believing or feeling it can’t be resolved, defeated before we begin, you will find yourself to be absolutely right!
Is there someone you’d like to tell: “I told you so!”? Might it be yourself, or someone significant in your life? If those comments seem perplexing, remember your subconscious mind may be where those things reside. Somewhere within, some part of you fears the change, certain that the way things are keeps you safe or serves valuable purpose. When that is the case, why would that part of you be willing to change, even though consciously you are certain you are more than ready? These are the things to be explored and gently worked through.

Work through the beliefs and feelings about your inability to resolve the issue(s), knowing that at the same time it begins the needed process with the subconscious mind. When you are satisfied they’ve have been cleared, it is time to work more directly with the subconscious.
As you tap, a major key to success with your subconscious, (and always no matter what you are working on), is to frequently express gratitude to every part of you for everything it does on your behalf. Thank every part of you for working with you to achieve your goals. Remind every part of you that while you are grateful for being kept safe, that things are different now. That was then and this is now. It is okay to see things differently now.
Listen carefully as you work, open to receiving, trusting that your subconscious and your intuition will provide the clues and information you need achieve your goal. Ask for the “who” or “what” that may stand in the way to be revealed.
Trust yourself, your intuition and your subconscious mind. What’s that you are saying? Having difficulty doing that? Tap, tap, tap…and trust the answers will come. Difficulty with doing that? Okay, I think you know the answer…
We’d all like a quick fix. And even though EFT works rapidly, we are complex creatures and it is impossible to know how deep the water is until we dive. See yourself and your objectives as more than worth the patience and persistence that may be required.
Always seek the assistance of a seasoned, well trained EFT professional before giving up.

Change can feel overwhelming. It may feel as if you are out of control. Managing change can be difficult and challenging. It can often stir up old feelings, issues and scenarios that may only confuse or even sabotage today’s situations.

Change means facing situations whose outcome you don’t know yet. In an attempt to get some control, you may often consult what you learned from past experiences. You may find yourself using knowledge from past trauma to protect yourself from repeating a negative outcome. This may not be the best strategy. Actually this way of managing change can backfire quite easily. When you revisit past trauma in an attempt to overcome fears and protect yourself, you actually empower the fears again instead of eliminating them. You give control to your fears instead of to your confidence with the opportunity for surprising outcomes and new possibilities. You literally have the power to recreate past trauma when you think about it often enough.

As a Life Coach using the powerful tool of Eft Captain Dick can help you create meaningful and dynamic shifts in the way you perceive the changes, challenges and possible solutions. Using this method will give you the best possibility of achieving your goals with the least amount of distress.