I do not understand why some of yall be acting like
people can not truly be happy in a relationship. Too me many of you
rationalize to make yourself feel better. Nothing wrong with if you want
to be with someone but no you should not be envious . When your time
comes and then what if your friend or friends are single and they are
pessimistic just as you are about their relationships. Then the shoe
will be on the other foot and you will think they Hating or what not.
Everybody longs for companionship and nothing is wrong that just make
sure you choose a companion the values and respects you.

Hmmm,
I see your point but I think what most people meant is the grass is not
greener on the other side....at least thats what I meant. In my
statement notice I said 'as you think". Just because it works for your
friends DOES NOT mean its going to work for you.

My
friend and her husband seem like the most happiest couple ever. Everyone
who meets them joke about their relationship and how they want a
husband like him until they know the details. They are swingers and they
have orgies at least twice a month. Now why would I be envious of that?

Thanks guys for your comments. I do agree that it was because I was feeling a bit lonely. And it is something that I am making sure I work on so it doesn't turn me into the bitter person I'm not.

I also just read this quote "stop comparing where you are to where everyone else is. It doesn't move you further ahead, improve your situation, or help you find peace. It just feeds your shame, fuels your feelings of inadequacy, and ultimately, it keeps you stuck. The reality is that there is no correct path in life. Everyone has their own unique journeys."

Many people don't even know what love is, let alone the self-satisfaction that comes from creating that which they truly love.

Don't sabotage your goals with negative thoughts from someone else's reality. Learn to be an incorporator. Take the bits and pieces of inspiration from those you admire, and add your own touch to it and do the necessary work to reach your goal.

Alone doesn't have to equal lonely for everyone who is alone, and together doesn't have to mean faking happiness for those who are together, but most importantly, what do these words mean for you?

Get comfortable with your own pace, and feel no guilt for going at the pace you naturally go at because there is no race and no one prize. Happiness is available for us all. No one special couple. Don't deny or underestimate the power of inspiration, but learn to be inspired by others without losing yourself. But first you have to know yourself before you could know if you are losing yourself, and if you are seeking yourself in someone else, maybe that indicates that you are unaware that you already have yourself, and the point of a union isn't to find yourself but to share yourself.

Many people don't even know what love is, let alone the self-satisfaction that comes from creating that which they truly love.

Don't sabotage your goals with negative thoughts from someone else's reality. Learn to be an incorporator. Take the bits and pieces of inspiration from those you admire, and add your own touch to it and do the necessary work to reach your goal. Alone doesn't have to equal lonely for everyone who is alone, and together doesn't have to mean faking happiness for those who are together, but most importantly, what do these words mean for you?

Get comfortable with your own pace, and feel no guilt for going at the pace you naturally go at because there is no race and no one prize. Happiness is available for us all. No one special couple. Don't deny or underestimate the power of inspiration, but learn to be inspired by others without losing yourself. But first you have to know yourself before you could know if you are losing yourself, and if you are seeking yourself in someone else, maybe that indicates that you are unaware that you already have yourself, and the point of a union isn't to find yourself but to share yourself.

Just my irrelevant $0.02.

see...

and that's all she wrote!!!!

bae!

but most importantly... life is not a race.. if you compete with others at living you will always always always fall short and that does nothing but damage yourself esteem

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