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Is it ridiculous that at 23 I still don't know what to do with my life? Should I stay with my boyfriend....Should I stay in university....I'm bored and jealous of billionaires....Should I ditch everyone and just move to random country and start a business?? That is a huge step but I need to get away... I need to make myself proud.

Have you felt this way and actually moved to another country before?

I don't know what my life will be like 5 years from now and it seriously bothers me.

I've been in that situation many times, and took action, changed my life, moved everything and honestly, it DOES NOT MATTER, you just end up in the exact same spot feeling the same way. I think the problem lies somewhere else, this sense of self-accomplishment needs to come from you.

"If I have any taste, it s for hardly anything
but earth and stones.

Let us eat air, rock, coal, iron.
Turn, my hungers.
Feed, hungers, in the meadow of sounds!
Suck the gaudy poison of the convolvuli;
Eat, the stones a poor man breaks,
the old masonry of churches, boulders,
children of floods, loaves lying in the grey valleys! "

It's not ridiculous. In fact, I'm in much worse condition than you. I feel like I don't know what's my purpose is. I still haven't finished my uni study and I don't know when I will. Just doing the same unproductive routine everyday..

I had a serious conversation with myself a few months ago. So depressed... I was about to start studying veterinary, so I asked myself: will that really make me happy? I was never good at going somewhere regularly, so I used to be absent at school more often than not. Literally. So why would I want to study another five years...? And then go to work every morning from Monday to Friday for the rest of my life...? Of course I wouldn't be able to do that, so why should I keep lying to myself? Vet... It's a beautiful job, but it's also a great responsibility, and a free spirit like me would only feel like a prisoner. I've been restraining myself all these years just to feel accepted... But what do I really want to do? I knew it all along, since I was a little kid...

Do you have any dreams? We all do. Some of them are probably "crazy", so we don't take them seriously. But isn't locking yourself in a cage even more crazy? You're young, so what? I'm even younger. And now I'm here, in a foreign country, with no furnitures in my room and some strangers allover the house. I am terrified of strangers! But hey, this is my life, and I'm here to make my dream come true, so I just do what I'm here for and ignore everything that could stop me. And even though it's so difficult and I feel like giving up sometimes, thinking this stress will only make me bald... It's what I wanted, I'm finally doing something for myself, I can only satisfy or disappoint myself, no one else. And I've never been so sure of the path that I'm walking. Nobody said it was gonna be easy. But "easy" never satisfied me anyway, I'm too ambitious. Probably too ambitious for my own good, but that's another story...

Some dreams are silly, sure. But I know we can tell which one is the right one, the one we should follow. Just listen to yourself very carefully, imagine your life in different situations, and the one that shows you as a happy person is the one that you are meant to accomplish. It's as simple as it is. Never ever be afraid of hard work.
My mother used to have the same exact dream and people were laughing at her, so she gave up in order to live a miserable, "normal" life, feel low and keep asking herself what to do. Looking at her taught me that you can never be too young to live your life - you can only be too old one day...

I am 30 and have done so many things it's like I got to experience multiple lives. One thing that changed my perspective (namely my fear of getting out and finally making things happen) wasy military service. After that, I was no longer scared to be alone and doing things. I was no longer scared of making mistakes. I now live in a diffierent country than my birth and I enjoy my life. Maybe I will change careers again. Maybe not. But I stopped worrying about it.

You CAN change your mind.
You CAN change your degree (I was 3/4th finished with one, changed it because I found I hated it)
You CAN get work experience while you figure your life out
You CAN change careers
You CAN use your degree for a wildly different career
You CAN travel
You CAN study/work abroad
You CAN save money
You CAN go through life unsure of a set plan
You CAN choose to do what makes you happy
You CAN go against societal expectations

These are things I learned along the way and am excited to learn more as I age. Everyone pressures you to pick a career path and stick to it. You don't need to. You don't need to get married, stick with your current partner, or have kids. These are up to you, not society, not your friends, not your family.

Read up on what you want to do and talk to people already doing it to see if it is something you can do right now and if it sounds good (always ask about the negatives to see if you can handle it). If you still like it, go for it.

I'm 20 and I graduated HS, went to college for a year, then applied for a working holiday visa to New Zealand and left home. I've been in New Zealand for 5+ months so far, working on different farms and moving place to place. I'm from a small town in Oregon. Living here has been exhilarating and depressing at times. Leaving everything you know, and becoming part of a different culture and society is not easy.

I always talked about moving to NZ. School was just putting me in debt... I'm pretty smart but the college way of teaching never worked for me. I was studying to be an electrical engineer... but it just wasn't working. So I left. But they're right... packing your bags and moving to another country doesn't change anything. You're personal problems will follow. I feel proud of myself. I really do. And coming here alone has changed me in a way I never even dreamed of. But my working holiday is only for a year. After that I have to go home. Finding a career, deciding to go back to school, loans, and bills... those are just waiting for me when I get back. I may have paused my life, but it's still there.

Ha... I guess you could say I'm not technically moved out either. Because I'll have to go back to my parents house.

Hi there. I am 23 as well and I feel exactly the same way. It's not ridiculous... I moved to a different country 3 years ago and I'm still here. And still unhappy. Now I want to run away again. Make sure that if you're making a decision like that it's actually based on something you want to do rather than the sole idea of getting away from it all.

“We are our own dragons as well as our own heroes, and we have to rescue ourselves from ourselves.”

definitely not ridiculous. And i'm sure almost every 23 year old still doesn't know what to do with their lives.. Myself included. 2 years ago i decided to move to another country and DID!!! however it only lasted 2 months cuz I couldn't find a job and ran out of money and had to come back to momma lol… But still, it was an experience! If you want to, you should. Even if it doesn't work out at least you tried!