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Dr. Lois Nightingale is one of the few therapists licensed both as a psychologist and a Marriage, Family, Child Therapist. She focuses on Brief Therapy and suggests homework so clients get the most of each session. Her book, "It's a Bedroom not a Boardroom" is available on Amazon. As past director of several hospital units and author of several self-help books she speaks widely. For over thirty years she has been helping clients find; practical solutions to challenges they have faced in life, the regained hope to pursue their dreams, and the courage to attain their goals. To bring clients the most current treatments, she spends over 200 hours a year in continuing education and specialized training. Many self-help articles can be found on her website.

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"It's a Bedroom not a Boardroom" is a book for ambitious couples struggling with productive communication. It provides examples, and explanations of how to stop trying to win and start feeling close again. Please visit my website for articles on parenting, relationships, grief, Alzheimer's and more.

Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed

Most of us were raised with poor models for healthy communication. We heard, "What will everyone think?" "You made me mad." "I wouldn't have done that if you hadn't _____." We're taught as children that we're responsible for how other people feel and act. We also hear these blaming words in our movies and TV shows. But these ideas are not true. We're responsible to develop coping skills for our own feelings and we're responsible to act in ways that are congruent with our own integrity (being true to our own values). When we have compassion for ourselves we can then have compassion for a partner who might have taken something we said or did personally.
When I see a couple for the first time in therapy one or both are usually concerned with whose "side" I'm going to take. I see problems in relationships as residing in-between two people, not that one or the other is wrong or is to blame. Therapy is about growing toward something new, not tearing anyone down or blaming.
In my book, "It's a Bedroom not a Boardroom" I've written about the homework assignments I encourage couples to practice between sessions. Learning new ways to say what you want doesn't mean you're weak or flawed. It means you're human and willing to grow. Serenity and peace at home takes conscious work, and it's for the courageous.

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