MIL refuses to get flu shot

From:
leech113

To: babynumbertwoscoming

Posted: Dec-03 05:30 PM (42 of 53)

That's a bit overboard. So what if she decides to get it or not? Limit the visits and insist on handwashing and hand sanitizer. Exposure to some germs is helpful and no need to have LO be bubble boy or girl. We've never been vaccinated against the flu and we make it every year.

That's a bit overboard. So what if she decides to get it or not? Limit the visits and insist on handwashing and hand sanitizer. Exposure to some germs is helpful and no need to have LO be bubble boy or girl. We've never been vaccinated against the flu and we make it every year.

I think if your MIL refuses to get the flu shot, and it's really important to you, then you have every right to not let her see the baby until she gets it if you so choose. This is your baby, and you need to trust your mama instincts. You cannot make her get the shot though. So if you won't let her see the baby without it, be upfront about that now with her and then let her make her own decision from there. That way you are respecting your boundary, and she still has control over her own decision about getting the shot, kwim?

If you do let her see baby: I believe people can be contagious with the flu a day before showing symptoms, so you can ask her to wash her hands before touching baby, ask her not to kiss baby, and keep baby swaddled when MIL holds baby to minimize skin exposure to germs. Or you could let her see but not hold baby.

Hang in there - these issues are stressful!

I think if your MIL refuses to get the flu shot, and it's really important to you, then you have every right to not let her see the baby until she gets it if you so choose. This is your baby, and you need to trust your mama instincts. You cannot make her get the shot though. So if you won't let her see the baby without it, be upfront about that now with her and then let her make her own decision from there. That way you are respecting your boundary, and she still has control over her own decision about getting the shot, kwim?

If you do let her see baby: I believe people can be contagious with the flu a day before showing symptoms, so you can ask her to wash her hands before touching baby, ask her not to kiss baby, and keep baby swaddled when MIL holds baby to minimize skin exposure to germs. Or you could let her see but not hold baby.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

You can't force everyones who will ever hold your baby get flu shots! I say don't worry about it unless she is sick with the flu. Then say sorry u can hold her once your over your sickness. Some ppl have weird reactions to flu shots and just end up getting the flu because of the shot. Maybe she is one of those. Either way u don't need to worry about it.

Haha I agree completely! I am giggling along with you. Talk about high alert! Geez! This is my fourth baby and second to be born in the winter. Funny but my 14 year old is still alive, strong and guess what!?!?! He NEVER gets sick just like his father who btw was also born in January. Who gets sick in my house if there is a reason to be sick?!?! My middle son, my youngest son and I. My middle son and I were born in the summer with my youngest being born in early fall. So really I think this whole flu season PANIC is ridiculous! Use common sense. Besides the flu shot will only get you so far. No one can predict with absolute certainty which viruses are going to be active every year. There are just too many and you would need too many shots. I have had the flu shot once and never again. My mom is a nurse and she has said that if she didn't have to get it she wouldn't. I agree completely. Wash your hands and get people to do the same. It is your BEST defense against the flu, not a shot. But hey the vaccine companies love people who freak out. More money in their pocket!

Haha I agree completely! I am giggling along with you. Talk about high alert! Geez! This is my fourth baby and second to be born in the winter. Funny but my 14 year old is still alive, strong and guess what!?!?! He NEVER gets sick just like his father who btw was also born in January. Who gets sick in my house if there is a reason to be sick?!?! My middle son, my youngest son and I. My middle son and I were born in the summer with my youngest being born in early fall. So really I think this whole flu season PANIC is ridiculous! Use common sense. Besides the flu shot will only get you so far. No one can predict with absolute certainty which viruses are going to be active every year. There are just too many and you would need too many shots. I have had the flu shot once and never again. My mom is a nurse and she has said that if she didn't have to get it she wouldn't. I agree completely. Wash your hands and get people to do the same. It is your BEST defense against the flu, not a shot. But hey the vaccine companies love people who freak out. More money in their pocket!

I personally don't get shots, I never have- I get one cold a year if that I have a crazy healthy immune system lol but it's your baby and you are his or her protector so if you feel it's important, you should let your mil know. With That said just remember that the flu shots each year dont always cover any new strains anyway not to mention other diseases or conditions. I personally could never keep my baby's grandparents away just bc they do or do not get a shot so I just make sure I always have good strong soap & plenty of hand sanitizer all over. My strict rules are that any one coming over must disinfect & clean before touching or holding my lo's and anyone with any symptoms like coughing, sneezing, sniffling etc will have to wait til they are better unfortunately. Like I said, you must do what you feel is best for your baby & you :)

I personally don't get shots, I never have- I get one cold a year if that I have a crazy healthy immune system lol but it's your baby and you are his or her protector so if you feel it's important, you should let your mil know. With That said just remember that the flu shots each year dont always cover any new strains anyway not to mention other diseases or conditions. I personally could never keep my baby's grandparents away just bc they do or do not get a shot so I just make sure I always have good strong soap & plenty of hand sanitizer all over. My strict rules are that any one coming over must disinfect & clean before touching or holding my lo's and anyone with any symptoms like coughing, sneezing, sniffling etc will have to wait til they are better unfortunately. Like I said, you must do what you feel is best for your baby & you :)

You have a right to be concerned. Unfortunately there's a stigma about the flu shot (real or not) that is percieved and some people just refuse to get them. My DH doesn't want to get one. Honestly, I'd say if she wants to touch your baby then you thrust a bottle of purell in her hands and steer her to the bathroom and tell her to wash up before she has a chance to touch the baby. And if you got the shot then baby will be protected for a couple months, so that's good too. And she can take her shoes off at the door.

You have a right to be concerned. Unfortunately there's a stigma about the flu shot (real or not) that is percieved and some people just refuse to get them. My DH doesn't want to get one. Honestly, I'd say if she wants to touch your baby then you thrust a bottle of purell in her hands and steer her to the bathroom and tell her to wash up before she has a chance to touch the baby. And if you got the shot then baby will be protected for a couple months, so that's good too. And she can take her shoes off at the door.

To the OP: I'm not getting it either, but it's merely because I am severely allergic to formalyn and my OB can't get the one that doesn't have it in it, plus it only protects against last years strain so I don't think it's necessary. My son was a NICU baby and we were told just to do strict handwashing and face washing before anyone touched him. If anyone snifled or sneezed, they were banned until they were better. I also don't have the whooping cough vaccine because i was allergic to that as well and never got all the rounds of it. It's more about being cautious and not letting people who are sick around your baby than banning people who have the vaccine. Just because she got the flu shot, doesn't mean she won't get the flu!

To the OP: I'm not getting it either, but it's merely because I am severely allergic to formalyn and my OB can't get the one that doesn't have it in it, plus it only protects against last years strain so I don't think it's necessary. My son was a NICU baby and we were told just to do strict handwashing and face washing before anyone touched him. If anyone snifled or sneezed, they were banned until they were better. I also don't have the whooping cough vaccine because i was allergic to that as well and never got all the rounds of it. It's more about being cautious and not letting people who are sick around your baby than banning people who have the vaccine. Just because she got the flu shot, doesn't mean she won't get the flu!

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