One of the most entertaining things I've found on the internet is articles on very proper Q&A Christian sites about the use of sex toys. You wind up with an image of angels using dildos on each other at God's feet, the way they talk about it.

As a christian whos married theres nothings wrong with being kinky. However there are still some things that are not acceptable. If you include kids or animals. If you watch porn while having sex (not that you should watch porn in general). No anal. Aside from that anything is valid.

I was discussing with a few friends the concepts of sex in a christian marriage when the concept of kink came up and whether or not it was acceptable. NOw we are talking BDSM, dom/sub, toys, etc.

What do the rest of you think about this?

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God designed the bodies of men and women with sex as one of the natural functions of marriage. Like anything, sex can be misused. If self-gratification is the ONLY motivation of a particular act, there has to be some caution as to whether God would approve. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we need to ask whether a particular sexual act falls within the natural use of the body of a man/woman. God designed man/woman to fit together perfectly well and I can't see how the use of "toys" etc need to be added to the creation of sex by God.

I am NOT saying it is definitely wrong as the Bible is silent on this type of thing. I would just caution against saying that anything goes - this is a judgment call for each Christian couple. I also think a good test for any type of Christian behaviour is to ask ourselves if we would be comfortable doing any given act in the presence of God and this is certainly a good test in area of sexual activity...

As a christian whos married theres nothings wrong with being kinky. However there are still some things that are not acceptable. If you include kids or animals. If you watch porn while having sex (not that you should watch porn in general). No anal. Aside from that anything is valid.

God designed the bodies of men and women with sex as one of the natural functions of marriage. Like anything, sex can be misused. If self-gratification is the ONLY motivation of a particular act, there has to be some caution as to whether God would approve.

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Why would God care? Seems like a rather petty concern for God. If I eat for pleasure, or play sport for enjoyment alone, is that wrong?

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we need to ask whether a particular sexual act falls within the natural use of the body of a man/woman. God designed man/woman to fit together perfectly well and I can't see how the use of "toys" etc need to be added to the creation of sex by God.

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All uses of the body are natural. If they weren't natural then we wouldn't be able to use our natural bodies to do the action.

God also gave us legs, but we use cars anyway. Is that unnatural and immoral, if your legs work? Some people even drive for fun.

I am NOT saying it is definitely wrong as the Bible is silent on this type of thing. I would just caution against saying that anything goes - this is a judgment call for each Christian couple. I also think a good test for any type of Christian behaviour is to ask ourselves if we would be comfortable doing any given act in the presence of God and this is certainly a good test in area of sexual activity...

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I wouldn't say that is a good test. How people feel about actions can be a product of upbringing. Eg: we are told certain things are dirty, so we feel slightly uncomfortable about them, even if they aren't immoral.

Why would kinkiness be immoral? It just sounds to me like asking whether it is wrong to eat spicy food? I don't understand what the potential problem would be.

Why no anal? Seems like a random thing to ban.

Why would God care? Seems like a rather petty concern for God. If I eat for pleasure, or play sport for enjoyment alone, is that wrong?

All uses of the body are natural. If they weren't natural then we wouldn't be able to use our natural bodies to do the action.

God also gave us legs, but we use cars anyway. Is that unnatural and immoral, if your legs work? Some people even drive for fun.

I wouldn't say that is a good test. How people feel about actions can be a product of upbringing. Eg: we are told certain things are dirty, so we feel slightly uncomfortable about them, even if they aren't immoral.

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AMEN GIRL!! You said it exactly how I feel better than I could. This is so spot on. I like lingerie, bikinis, dancing, and preforming and it is all completely natural, I LOVE THIS!!!