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Dealing With Age And Erectile Dysfunction

I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

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You're cut/mutilated that's why you have erectile dysfunction.

The United States, a nation with 4.5% of the world's population, consumes 47% of the world's Viagra (Pfizer's own figures). Turns out the same nation has been circumcising the majority of its male infants for generations.

A ﻿﻿﻿new study﻿﻿﻿ in the International Journal of Men’s Health shows that circumcised men have a much greater chance of suffering from erectile dysfunction (ED) than intact men, revealing what appears to be a significant acquisition vector. Other studies have previously observed that circumcision’s damage results in worsened erectile functioning, inability to maintain an erection, and reducing the glans sensitivity, including an overall penis sensitivity reduction by 75%. A recent study discovered that premature ejaculation is five times more likely when adjusted for erectile dysfunction and circumcision.

Moreover, in Israel- a country that routinely circumcises their baby boys for religious reasons- Viagra is so common there that the Pfizer pharmaceutical company asked for permission to market Viagra without a doctor's prescription- making it an over-the-counter medication.

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bw299, I understand your frustrations. I am a 5 time stroke survivor and have gone through a lot of the same problems. What made it worse is taking antidepressants a/c strokes; i'll just start crying when i didn't used to, get all emotional, etc. My stroke therapists talked to my doctors and he put me on Citalopram (e.g. Celexa®), 40 mg/daily. Stopped the crying and over-emotional, but also stopped the hardons, could not get one no matter what I did, and like you, I was a highly sexed huge blaster too. After two years I learned to control my emotional state enough to go off the med w/o my wife knowing and got to be able to get semi-hard, and with enough blowjob m/m pornos, be able to jerk off and cum, usually twice a month. I'm a little older, 66, but all sex should not stop at this age. Because of non-performance for the last couple years, I've not had any personal contact with any guy friends, but am looking for a discreet suck buddy. Wife is older, 71, and retired too, putting a big cramp on having some fun, plus I don't drive either; she has to transport me. We haven't fucked or touched or anything in years, as per her direction; she's had cancers and a prolapsed uterus so basically we are just each other's caregivers. I don't think it would go over very well to tell her, "Honey, drive me to so'n'so's house, he'll suck my cock and i'll cum in his mouth, then I'll suck his and he'll cum in my mouth, and would you wait outside unless you want to watch and maybe fuck yourself with a greased up dildo or vibrator or something, then fuck each of our assholes with it too?" Nooooo.... don't think so; it would be followed with her throwing my shit out of the house.

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Originally Posted by bw299

I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

BW,

I too am in a similar situation. Not sure of your medical history, but mine stems from a heart condition and high blood pressure medicine. Between the meds and age (I'm guessing) is the root cause of my condition and I too have tried the ED meds out there with no real effect.

If you are taking any meds for heart related issues or blood pressure or for that matter type 2 diabetes, I would guess that would be the culprit.

As for a suggestion how to correct the ED issue, sorry to say, but I have not figured that out yet. I have had some success with diet and bringing my blood pressure down through diet and cutting back on my meds, but I don't recommend that you do it unsupervised... I would suggest (if blood pressure is n issue and you are taking BP meds) to talk to your doctor and try to figure out a way to get off the meds naturally...

If you are not on any meds for the above, you may want to get checked for diabetes or a heart condition.

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Originally Posted by curmwm52

BW,

I too am in a similar situation. Not sure of your medical history, but mine stems from a heart condition and high blood pressure medicine. Between the meds and age (I'm guessing) is the root cause of my condition and I too have tried the ED meds out there with no real effect.

If you are taking any meds for heart related issues or blood pressure or for that matter type 2 diabetes, I would guess that would be the culprit.

As for a suggestion how to correct the ED issue, sorry to say, but I have not figured that out yet. I have had some success with diet and bringing my blood pressure down through diet and cutting back on my meds, but I don't recommend that you do it unsupervised... I would suggest (if blood pressure is n issue and you are taking BP meds) to talk to your doctor and try to figure out a way to get off the meds naturally...

If you are not on any meds for the above, you may want to get checked for diabetes or a heart condition.

Good luck...Wish you the best...

I've had 5 lower abdominal surgeries in the past 2 years; 4 of them major. My problem isn't meds or diabetes, its the fact that my muscle tissue is scarred and nerve endings/bundles damaged so badly that things just don't work so well. That is also why the Viagra and Cialis have no effect on me.

I've discussed the problems with my family physician, my GI surgeon, and my urologist. The only thing we haven't talked about is the penile implant. I would love some input from someone who has one. I've been to some blog sites, but they are all sanitized." I want the cold, hard truth! lol

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I suggest 'edex' (alprostadil for injection). Yes you have to inject it in your penis. But, it works well and the injection needle is very thin and you inject the shaft which is not all that sensitive. You will maintain an erection for long enough to satisfy your partner. You can not use it more than twice a week. But, that is twice a week more than you get now. So, if blood is flowing to you dick, that medication will keep it there and make your dick hard for you and your partner's pleasure. I think it is expensive. But, if you have insurance, that may make it a reasonable alternative to nothing or a penis pump.
I do not personally use it. But, I benefit greatly, because it works on the dick I suck that had nerves through prostrate cut that control erection. An hour or more and I am too tired to continue sucking But, his dick is still hard for more action.

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In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl

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Originally Posted by earloftexas

In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl

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Originally Posted by earloftexas

In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl

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Originally Posted by jem_is_bi

I suggest 'edex' (alprostadil for injection). Yes you have to inject it in your penis. But, it works well and the injection needle is very thin and you inject the shaft which is not all that sensitive. You will maintain an erection for long enough to satisfy your partner. You can not use it more than twice a week. But, that is twice a week more than you get now. So, if blood is flowing to you dick, that medication will keep it there and make your dick hard for you and your partner's pleasure. I think it is expensive. But, if you have insurance, that may make it a reasonable alternative to nothing or a penis pump.
I do not personally use it. But, I benefit greatly, because it works on the dick I suck that had nerves through prostrate cut that control erection. An hour or more and I am too tired to continue sucking But, his dick is still hard for more action.

That is an option I haven't considered or explored. I am not needle phobic, so the thought of poking my cock with one doesn't frighten me. Twice a week would be more than I've gotten in the last year!

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I had the same problem with Celexa. Told Doc I wouldn't take it and switched to Wellbutrin. That works pretty well for depression with the effect on my orgasms.

Originally Posted by cslutt

bw299, I understand your frustrations. I am a 5 time stroke survivor and have gone through a lot of the same problems. What made it worse is taking antidepressants a/c strokes; i'll just start crying when i didn't used to, get all emotional, etc. My stroke therapists talked to my doctors and he put me on Citalopram (e.g. Celexa®), 40 mg/daily. Stopped the crying and over-emotional, but also stopped the hardons, could not get one no matter what I did, and like you, I was a highly sexed huge blaster too. After two years I learned to control my emotional state enough to go off the med w/o my wife knowing and got to be able to get semi-hard, and with enough blowjob m/m pornos, be able to jerk off and cum, usually twice a month. I'm a little older, 66, but all sex should not stop at this age. Because of non-performance for the last couple years, I've not had any personal contact with any guy friends, but am looking for a discreet suck buddy. Wife is older, 71, and retired too, putting a big cramp on having some fun, plus I don't drive either; she has to transport me. We haven't fucked or touched or anything in years, as per her direction; she's had cancers and a prolapsed uterus so basically we are just each other's caregivers. I don't think it would go over very well to tell her, "Honey, drive me to so'n'so's house, he'll suck my cock and i'll cum in his mouth, then I'll suck his and he'll cum in my mouth, and would you wait outside unless you want to watch and maybe fuck yourself with a greased up dildo or vibrator or something, then fuck each of our assholes with it too?" Nooooo.... don't think so; it would be followed with her throwing my shit out of the house.

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Originally Posted by Havasmoke

I had the same problem with Celexa. Told Doc I wouldn't take it and switched to Wellbutrin. That works pretty well for depression with the effect on my orgasms.

I'm not taking any antidepressants; not taking anything other than a light dose of Lisenoprile, Vesicare, and Flomax. But glad the change in meds worked for you. I know a lot of meds can adversely affect sexual function.

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talk to your family doctor they will do something for you with your problem. I did and she sent me to another doctor he gave me sildenafil 20mg pills they work great. I get hard taking 5 pills for at least 36 hours I di go soft in that time frame and if my wife starts I get hard as a rock again taking the pills.

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Originally Posted by monaohio

talk to your family doctor they will do something for you with your problem. I did and she sent me to another doctor he gave me sildenafil 20mg pills they work great. I get hard taking 5 pills for at least 36 hours I di go soft in that time frame and if my wife starts I get hard as a rock again taking the pills.

Thanks monaohio, but if you would have read my original post, you would know that Viagra and Cialis don't work for me. I have too much damage to blood vessels and nerve bundles in my pelvis.

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Originally Posted by bw299

I've had 5 lower abdominal surgeries in the past 2 years; 4 of them major. My problem isn't meds or diabetes, its the fact that my muscle tissue is scarred and nerve endings/bundles damaged so badly that things just don't work so well. That is also why the Viagra and Cialis have no effect on me.

I've discussed the problems with my family physician, my GI surgeon, and my urologist. The only thing we haven't talked about is the penile implant. I would love some input from someone who has one. I've been to some blog sites, but they are all sanitized." I want the cold, hard truth! lol

Yeah each individual is different....although my ED started after my diabeties I was having some problems and doc told after seeing my x-rays and other scans that my nerve damage from motorcycle wrecks was so bad he didn't know how I had preformed before...like everything medical, everybody's reactions may differ....

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Originally Posted by Curiosity Satisfied

I buy generic Viagra from India for about $1 each for 100 mg pills. A quarter pill insures that I will get hard with a gal or when blowing a regular.

My first Viagra was generic from India from an online pharmacy. The price was cheap but the quality was shitty. I would split them in half. One time I would get a rock hard erection that would last 4 hours, the next time I could barely get it up. The pills were inconsistent as hell.

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I'm 62. I use to fuck for hours with couples. I would in my teens cum in 30sec. Even in my 20's and 30'sI would shoot while jacking off and hit my chin with a big load always. Now it can take me anywhere from 20min. to 1 1/2 hrs. to cum. And I can loose my erection unless constantly stimulated and even then while jerking off it comes and go's The load is not a lot especially if I cum a few days in a row. I'm a health freak diet & exercise. This is just part of ageing. I went to the theater in the ABS and the guy's my age can't even get an erection when I blow them and I'm a great cock sucker. I did have a woman blow me for 20min. before I shot.

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Glad you're still able to perform, Drummerman, albeit not at the level you would like. At least your equipment still works!

What really troubles me is when I run into 70-80+ year-old guys that can still get a rock hard erection that points skyward, even if they can't shoot much of a load. it's humiliating One of my regulars is 76, gets a rock hard erection with little stimulation, oozes precum, and shoots a nice load. Lucky stiff!

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Originally Posted by bw299

The price was cheap but the quality was shitty. I would split them in half. One time I would get a rock hard erection that would last 4 hours, the next time I could barely get it up. The pills were inconsistent as hell.

Not saying that this is necessarily your problem, but I have heard -- from a doctor -- that some medications should not be split under the assumption that you will get half the prescribed dose. In these situations, the active ingredient isn't evenly distributed within inert elements of the carrier material.

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Originally Posted by silkyhoselover

Not saying that this is necessarily your problem, but I have heard -- from a doctor -- that some medications should not be split under the assumption that you will get half the prescribed dose. In these situations, the active ingredient isn't evenly distributed within inert elements of the carrier material.

If you read one of my earlier posts, you'll find that I made the same comment. I had quality problems even with the whole pills from India.

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If you read one of my earlier posts, you'll find that I made the same comment.

You seem to like using this phrase.

I did, in fact, read every one of your posts in this thread, and, probably, most of your posts elsewhere in the forum. Please direct me to the entry in which you made the 'same comment.'

I quoted the only content from your post that was even remotely similar to what I addressed, and it does not suggest that splitting the pills in half may not be advisable for the reason that I offered in an effort to impart more information that you and others might consider.