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Fashion: Spring 2009

That's Michelle on the cover of Vogue. The caption: THE FIRST LADY THE WORLD'S BEEN WAITING FOR. Can't wait to read the story.

Well, the country may be a mess, the world staggering in recession, but let me tell you. The spring clothes in Vogue! OMG! We haven't seen a more beautiful collection in a decade, maybe several decades.

The fabrics, the lines, simply indescribable. It's the March 2009 issue, so if you're not skin-phobic*, take a peak. Leaf through it. Lovely.

I informed FD about the spring fashions, told him that this is really exciting, it really is, and although it's unlikely anyone can really afford to buy anything, and many of the models (meaning the clothes) this year show a ton of skin, our lives will be immeasurably better, very soon, just knowing that there are beautiful duds in the world in which people who are privileged still spend money.

#4 Son walks into the kitchen during my soliloquy.

"What shows a ton of skin?"

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*Many cultures really frown upon semi-nudity and exposure of the skin outside of the bedroom. I'm not making a comment here one way or another, just warning that if you have these more modest sensitivities, Vogue is not for you. I blush, seriously, what can I say.

The comments of the people waiting to be laid off in my office about our First Lady's vanity are not printable. She should set a more frugal example. She reminds me of those ministers driving Cadillacs when their impoverished congregations are scraping by. They may be willing to tolerate the hypocrisy, but my friends are not. The fashion industry's loathsome excesses are salt in the wound to people who are out of work.

A little skin is okay with me, arms, legs, and the like are okay too. I'm not so much inclined to like the outfits that leave 3-5 inches of stomach bare between the end of the shirt and the top of the pants or skirt. That's tolerable at the pool, but not so much at the mall. Just sayin' - that's my point of view on it.

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