Resting is one of the things I find the hardest. I’m learning to give as much importance to it as I do to creating and moving forward.

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I’m not naturally comfortable with resting. My default mode is being on the go, getting stuff done constantly. I didn’t allow myself to rest fully, up until 6 months ago. I would rest only if I do everything I promised myself to do. Even then, I’d create new tasks to do so the resting bit would never actually arrive.

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Few weeks ago, on a Sunday, I cancelled everything and took a whole day just to myself. I realised I haven't done that in 6 months. It’s weird how you plan to do things with people for hours even days but sometimes not even two hours with yourself.

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In the morning it felt comfortable. It felt selfish, uneasy and a bit pointless. I did it anyway, as I felt that was what my body needed. I went to a common nearby and sat at the bench for an hour, feeling, reflecting, watching children play, couples hug each other. I let myself a whole day of not having to do anything. It felt weird in the beginning but I started loving it towards the end.

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If you’re a woman and have your period regularly, period is the time when your body naturally needs more rest. That’s why you might feel way more tired or you might need to sleep more. Rather than forcing yourself to power through it, when you honour the need to rest, once this stage of the cycle is over, you’ll thrive at the next stage. As woman, we’re not meant to be linear working hard all the time, we are cyclical. When you see and respect that, your body literally thrives. You might allow yourself to sleep more, go out less on these days etc and just be with yourself a bit more.

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I’m on my period now, its the 4th day. This is the first ever cycle I’m on that I fully rested, truly honoured what my body needed. It feels pretty amazing. I write way more when my period comes, inspiration just flows to me and I just have to write. I don’t prefer seeing people in person but I’m still good to do sessions, speak on the phone, text etc. I cancelled few events I was going to go to, rearranged few other things because my body needed rest.

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So how do you get over the resistance to rest?

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You stop, breathe, you imagine yourself letting go of the need to work more, knowing that you’ve done your best within what you can do, now your body needs to rest and you surrender to something greater than you that will take care of things for you.

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You can remind yourself that if you rest now, you will naturally build a momentum from this and go full speed later on.

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Here are some ways how you can start practicing resting:

- If you’re a freelancer, entrepreneur working for yourself full day, stop everything, leave laptop, phone at 9pm. Grab a book, run a bath, watch a movie and just spend time with yourself or your children, partner, your family. if you don’t stop at some point, this might lead to burnout. Give it a go for a week and see how things work out, if it’s a no after a week, then that’s fine, just ditch it.

- Don’t multitask. When you’re doing one thing, just do one thing. Even if it’s hoovering, just hoover. This will wire your brain in a way to help you to rest better when you’re actually resting, doing one thing at a time.

- Go into nature. Turn your phone off and just lay on the ground. There’s nothing to do, nowhere to go here. Feel your body sinking into the ground, feel the Earth holding and supporting you as you feel more and more grounded and centred.

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Resting is an art to master. It’s as important as getting stuff done. You might get to a place and it might feel like nothing has changed. Be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself, just like you are to other people 😍

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And if you want to take a bath in the middle of the day if you want to, not because you earnt it but you want to, go for it 💃🏽

This could be a controversial post for some. I had a lot of resistance posting it but it has to be seen and heard ✨

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Few months ago, I was on my period, bleeding. Aaron took some of my blood and put it on my forehead. I was a bit shocked to be honest, never done anything like that before. I froze a while, then started crying. It was bit of sadness, bit of feeling like coming home, bit of joy from connecting to myself all combined..I just started to use moon cup/diva cup. This is an alternative to tampon/pads, collecting your blood in a cup you insert into your vagina. While using this, there's no waste to environment, not harmful as tampons for your vagina (tampons are actually bleached), you save money, can use this for years and it allows you to connect to your own blood, your body..Yesterday was the first day of my period. This time, I took blood from my diva cup, went up to my mirror, looked into my eyes for a bit then put my blood on my face. It's really hard to describe in words how I felt. Very empowering, powerful, there's something ancient, sacred about it. Then did the same on Aaron's face..I'm sharing this because it was a profound experience for me, connecting to my body and my body's wisdom. It feels like connecting to the wisdom of many women before me and will come after me. It taps you into something bigger than you and its powerful. Once you pass the initial stage of, 'Eww, blood, its gross' which I had as well, this is actually a beautiful body fluid that creates life, same as semen. They are both incredibly sacred fluids which created you 💫.And seeing it on someone you deeply love is incredible. Seeing it being honoured and respected.. I'll ever be grateful for Aaron's non judgemental approach for this that's not in the 'norm' for many people 💙 Thank you beautiful man 🙏🏼.How do you feel around your period, your blood or your partner's period? Comment below or message me if you don't want to share publicly ✨.REMINDER: I'm aware that this is not a post you might read or an image you see every day, it can push your limits, bring up emotions for you. I'm sharing my experience which was powerful and empowering for me. I respect your experience as well and I wish reading this might give you a different perspective 🌗.Feel free to share if you feel this might help someone you know ✨.Loads of love to you 💙

There's a thing where women feel all over the place just before they have their period. I'm sure women, you felt this or men, you dreaded being around your woman feeling 'oh god here it goes again' 😉

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Everything seem to work great when period is not around, you feel energised, sexy, radiant and getting so much done. Then slowly PMS vibes start to kick in. You don't have as much energy, not motivated, not feeling overly social and just a bit off, sometimes annoyed at yourself for not keeping your momentum, also triggers are everywhere.. Who can relate to this? 🙌🏼.First of all, women are not built like men, you don't function linearly super pumped every day. You function in cycles, you have your ups and downs. And when you really honour the downs, ups become even more powerful and stronger..PMS is actually a magical time where, women, have a natural built in system telling you things you need to work on. Brings up stuff for you so there is an opportunity to learn and grow more. But sometimes you tend to not listen to your body, numb it with painkillers or feel sorry for yourself for few days...I was at that place for many years thinking its normal to have pain during period. It's actually not, those pains are things coming up for you so you start clearing them. When I started listening to those messages and did healing on things that were coming up, pain went away as soon as I realised the lesson of it..And now even when I'm thinking of doing something that I shouldn't, my womb literally kicks in a pain saying no to that ✌🏼.So here are few steps you can do to clear:- Feel into the pain, allow yourself to feel the pain first, its there for a reason.- Ask the pain what emotions, feelings and even people its bringing up.- Imagine taking out that emotion, person and talking to them, tell everything you want. Acknowledging the feeling is most of the healing.- Ask what do I need to learn about this experience and allow the answer to come up.(You can talk in your mind or journaling is even more powerful).So what are the things that come up for you during or before your period? You can PM me if you don't wanna share publicly ✨.Loads of love!