Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you

Lack of validation =/= snarky and rude. Holy hell in a handbasket people. We don't validate bad ideas. We are blunt and to the point. We will tell you when you are being rude and when you are breaking etiquette. This is the ETIQUETTE board.

Your situation is not different (except for the girl who's church burnt down the week of her wedding. She gets a pass) than the millions of other girls here who think they are special.

If you don't want opinions and the correct etiquette responses, then why the hell are you posting questions on an etiquette board?

We don't know you when you post. All we know is what you tell us, so that's how we're responding and what we're resonding to. If you want to give us more information, we will happily respond to that as well.

We are here because we want you to not embarass yourself and to still have friends when your "special all about me day" is over and done with. Yes, it's your wedding. Ultimately you can do what you want, but internet strangers are here to tell you how to save face and how to do it the right way. Maybe you should listen instead of freaking out and telling us that we're so rude because you didn't get the answer that you were hoping for.

This can't be made a sticky. While I can understand Habs' frustration (it does seem like we have a lot of entitlement around here lately), a lot of times new brides come here and make a honest, if inconsiderate, mistake. I'm pretty sure 90% of Knotties can look back on their early days and think about one or two things they wish they hadn't said. I know I can.

You guys do come off harsh sometimes, but in the end the honest opinion is really what we're all looking for....even if we don't want to hear it. Thanks for not being afraid to give it, like so many of our friends and family are.

You know what I don't get (maybe start an "I don't get" thread), how so many people can have friendships change so quickly.

I did ask my bridesmaids over a year in advance. I had also been friends with all of them for a minimum of 10 years. I knew that nothing would change in the next 14 months. I wasn't worried.

And then the girl with the college friends that she doesn't want to invite anymore. It just seems so immature. Don't send out STD's to people that you aren't sure about. For the people on our invite list, I couldn't have imagined our relationship changing that drastically between STD and invites. I don't know, maybe it's just me, but it all seems so silly.

You guys do come off harsh sometimes, but in the end the honest opinion is really what we're all looking for....even if we don't want to hear it. Thanks for not being afraid to give it, like so many of our friends and family are. Sincerely, Newbie Bride with previous knot.com mistakesPosted by kwilliams111012

There was only one person that I considered removing from our invitation list (pre-STDs). And that was my ex-roommate who I found out told a whole bunch of people that I was "taking crazy pills" (his words for anti-anxiety medication).

H convinced me to invite him solely because he's friends (and now coworkers) with his boyfriend. I ended up barely noticing him at the wedding, except for a few seconds when he was trying to breakdance and fell on his ass on the dance floor. That was kind of hilarious.