Thanks everyone for you're comments. I have come to the conclusion that I don't like it used with me and so I won't use it with others unless they don't deserve all the facts. But I am an open kind of person and I want others to treat me with openness.

I am going with exactly what SBF it saying on the matter. If someone doesn't want to give me all the facts then their argument is weak and I won't trust anything else they say on the matter.