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6 years ago, at about 3:45 in the morning, my best friend's younger brother passed away at 18. I'm pretty much a part of their family and it was certainly the most jarring and grief stricken period I've ever experienced -- from helping to plan the funeral, catching his mother from fainting when she first saw him presented in the open casket, and holding onto my friend when she had an out of body experience and tried to jump into grave with him. We buried him in a nice suit and these hideous neon orange bowling shoes that he was proud of...though he never bowled higher than a 50. It's so strange to have lost someone you grew up laughing with.

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Originally Posted by guedita

6 years ago, at about 3:45 in the morning, my best friend's younger brother passed away at 18. I'm pretty much a part of their family and it was certainly the most jarring and grief stricken period I've ever experienced -- from helping to plan the funeral, catching his mother from fainting when she first saw him presented in the open casket, and holding onto my friend when she had an out of body experience and tried to jump into grave with him. We buried him in a nice suit and these hideous neon orange bowling shoes that he was proud of...though he never bowled higher than a 50. It's so strange to have lost someone you grew up laughing with.

My baby brother and I lost our life long best friend/brother-from-another-mother to a drunk driver a few months ago. He was 23. I've never felt pain like that. It was physical, body shaking pain that lasted weeks. I'm so sorry you had to experience this.

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As the years go by, the realization of how much time has passed will often bring a fresh sort of pain, as you realize you've grown up and away and have moved forward in your life in a way that the person never will, never had the opportunity to. It is sad.

Originally Posted by PotVsKtl

See that guy in the background talking loudly about crab cakes? That's you.

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Originally Posted by guedita

6 years ago, at about 3:45 in the morning, my best friend's younger brother passed away at 18. I'm pretty much a part of their family and it was certainly the most jarring and grief stricken period I've ever experienced -- from helping to plan the funeral, catching his mother from fainting when she first saw him presented in the open casket, and holding onto my friend when she had an out of body experience and tried to jump into grave with him. We buried him in a nice suit and these hideous neon orange bowling shoes that he was proud of...though he never bowled higher than a 50. It's so strange to have lost someone you grew up laughing with.

Went through the same thing a couple of Thanksgivings ago; my best friend from elementary/high school's older brother (by a year) died from a brain tumor. He used to annoy us by putting his boom box outside his sister's door when we were in her room and blast Weird Al Yankovich. It's the most upset over someone's death that I've ever been, including family.

Originally Posted by RandyInHeaven

Devin - how does it feel to know that there are still more women in the world that would fuck me at this very moment than would fuck you?

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April was the 11th year since my older brother passed away. He was in a car accident and was not found for a few hours. He survived the crash but his leg bone was broken so bad that it broke skin. He was operated a few days later after, once they killed the infection caused by the skin breaking. He passed away a week after the crash from a Blood clot that went to his lungs. This happened in Mexico, and My parents flew out to be with him. I was left behind to take care of my kid brother and sister. It was 5 years before I was able to let myself mourn. Even the first time I went to visit his burial site, I was under the impression that he would just pop out and say "Psyche"!!!! I still don't know how to express how his death affected my views on death. Just weird a few years ago on my birthday, and knew that I was now older than my older brother. Thanks to all of you who have shared , because I know I have a very hard time opening up about this.

You know, but that's valid because if we are all gonna die anyway shouldn't we be enjoying ourselves now? You know, I'd like to quit thinking of the present, like right now, as some minor insignificant preamble to something else.

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Yes, Randy, everyone on the board has their tale to tell. Unless you are very young, very lucky, or both, you've had some - or many - experiences with death. You unloaded endlessly about your father, and with great detail, when you first got here. We get it, you know all about it. No need to diminish the experiences of others.

Originally Posted by PotVsKtl

See that guy in the background talking loudly about crab cakes? That's you.

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Originally Posted by HowToDisappear

Yes, Randy, everyone on the board has their tale to tell. Unless you are very young, very lucky, or both, you've had some - or many - experiences with death. You unloaded endlessly about your father, and with great detail, when you first got here. We get it, you know all about it. No need to diminish the experiences of others.

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At least we can all agree that death kind of sucks and fucks up those left alive pretty well. This was a hard year for me. Lost a young family member to drug overdose. Also lost my mentor and one of my best friends to cancer. He succumbed after 9 years of kicking ass on that shit disease. Miss you, my friend. Never will be forgotten.

This Will Destroy You| A Place To Bury Strangers| His Name Is Alive| Barry Manilow| Coachella| U2

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Originally Posted by RotationSlimWang

All I'm saying is there's nothing new left to say.

Unless I'm saying it, in which case it is original and insightful.

Hm. Had an idea- next time I have a death of someone close to me, I'll message you details and you can post up thoughts here with your own prose. You'll be kind of a public forum "death filter". Work for you?

This Will Destroy You| A Place To Bury Strangers| His Name Is Alive| Barry Manilow| Coachella| U2

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Originally Posted by HowToDisappear

Yes, Randy, everyone on the board has their tale to tell. Unless you are very young, very lucky, or both, you've had some - or many - experiences with death. You unloaded endlessly about your father, and with great detail, when you first got here. We get it, you know all about it. No need to diminish the experiences of others.

I haven't had anything yet. My parents are getting really old though. I was not terribly close to my grandparents, and both my grandmothers died when I was 10. I would like to have a place to talk about it when it happens.

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Originally Posted by fatbastard

No matter how much merriment and cheer there is around me this time of year, my soul remains melancholy.

Yea. On the plus side though, my touchpad and keyboard on my old laptop stopped working today. I plugged in a USB mouse and scheduled Scan Disk on boot up and then deleted both devices from the Device Manager and then launched Add/Remove Hardware. Perfect now. Other day my washing machine stopped draining. Quick Google search came up with how to clean the filter so the impeller could move and work the drain pump. Took a bit of elbow grease but got it done and working. Now I am watching the Princess Bride for the millionth time. It's all about the little things this time of year.

This Will Destroy You| A Place To Bury Strangers| His Name Is Alive| Barry Manilow| Coachella| U2

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In all fairness he did say sorry before he said get used to it.

You know, but that's valid because if we are all gonna die anyway shouldn't we be enjoying ourselves now? You know, I'd like to quit thinking of the present, like right now, as some minor insignificant preamble to something else.

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Originally Posted by sonnyboy11

Hm. Had an idea- next time I have a death of someone close to me, I'll message you details and you can post up thoughts here with your own prose. You'll be kind of a public forum "death filter". Work for you?

That works fine, yes.

Originally Posted by amyzzz

Hannah, I don't know that pigs have big weiners, and my early 20's facination with dogs because of weiner size, I think. If that helps.