Beyoncé and Jay-Z don't talk about their relationship a lot — they barely even acknowledge that it exists. But now the singer is letting a few little details dribble out in a cover story in the November issue of Vanity Fair.

Amid the usual luxe photos comes a shoot down of a rumor that Beyoncé and Jay-Z are secretly married — they're not even engaged, she tells the magazine. She laughs that the rumors even coexist in the same mill: "I'm engaged and married at the same time?"

Having Jay in her life has changed a few of her attitudes about how men and women relate to one another too, she said, which helped her transition from writing songs like "Independent Women" and "Survivor" to man-tending anthems such as "Cater 2 U," in which she sings about bringing him slippers and drawing his bath.

"I grew up," Beyoncé says. "I feel it's still very strong, because in order to be a strong woman, you have to have a strong man. There's nothing wrong with women doing that for their man if their man deserves it and he does the same for you."

Asked if she wants kids, Beyoncé says yes, but not anytime soon. To explain, she describes the experience of babysitting her sister Solange's 1-year-old son, Daniel. "He's a good baby, and he's the cutest thing I've ever seen in my life, I love him to death," she says. "But yesterday I got up at four in the morning, I did the TV show, and I thought, since he's leaving tomorrow, I have to see him. So the time I should have been asleep, I was watching him. I played, I had the stroller, and I was like, 'I don't know how my sister does it.' "

When it comes time to have kids of her own, Beyoncé says she'd love to have a nanny, but just for help. "I want to be there for my kids," she tells the mag. "My mom was there for me."

Her mom, Tina Knowles, also had Beyoncé's back in shooting down other rumors, such as the one in which Beyoncé is supposedly firing her father as her manager, and that Jay-Z is angling for the job. "Jay doesn't want to manage her," Tina Knowles tells the mag. "All the rumors about how I'm getting a divorce and I'm going to manage her or Jay is going to manage her ... it's just crazy."