People who get raped? What makes one person more likely to be raped than another?

I don't know many people who have gotten raped (well... I probably do but they never share it) but this is a legit question like OK if you are a slut does that make you likely to get raped, or dress slutty? Like the only thing I have ever seen is unattractive women get raped, and the question who would WANT to rape them you know? So I am REALLY REALLY confused about like... this whole thing, and I am IN SO WAY CONDONING IT OR SAYING I WANT IT TO HAPPEN TO ME because I do not at all I just need help comprehending this whole thing..? I had a girl once tell me she got raped by a frat guy which is just UNBELIEVABLE to be because... frat guys don't rape girls.. they are too good for that.

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I have nothing but sympathy for girls that get rapped in situations beyond their control, like when they were little or by force, a LOT of women who get "raped" are retarded tho. You hear these stories all the time, "woman goes home with two guys she just met at 3am in the morning, they get drunk and take drugs and the woman is raped by the men" REALLY? That may be by law but don't expect me to have sympathy for you because you are a complete moron

I think girls that get themselves into this situation might just be naive. Like the OP who says she can't imagine a frat guy being capable of these acts. Some girls think that a rapist has to fit a certain profile, but if they come off as a normal person, then they automatically trust them. Sure, it's definitely bad judgment. Some people are sheltered in their perfect little lives and don't realize that normal people do these things all the time. I don't think that makes them "not a victim"

If a guy gets drunk, jumps into a cage full of tigers and then throws rocks at them... he will still be a "victim" but I would have 0 sympathy for him and would prefer if the tigers were not punished for his own retarded behaviour

Or maybe the guy was naive enough to think that a girl dressed like a hooker that went to his place at 3 am in the morning to get sh*tfaced did not want to have sex with him, and yet he is the one going to jail, and the girl is the one taking all the support that could have gone to a real victim, and people say "f***, if she is a rape victim then all rape victims are retards"

I don't really think that using a TIGER comparison is a fair comparison. If you jump into a cage full of tigers, you know you're about to be f***ed up. Some girls are not informed and and are a bit ignorant about these things. Regardless of the situation, I don't think it's ever a reason to violate someone and just because they make dumb decisions doesn't mean that they aren't a victim. You'd prefer for rapists to not be thrown behind bars because a girl made a dumb decision?

Rapists are hardly one time offenders. I think the rape itself is punishment enough to a girl who puts herself into a compromising situation. No means no, and if you disregard that.. it's rape, regardless. Don't even get me started on girls that actually have consensual sex and then scream rape for some sort of revenge. They should spend years behind bars for that.

Now if a girl was completely f***ed up on whatever, and has no recollection of exactly what happened, and finds out that sexual activity was involved and runs crying rape because it's not something they would do sober is a different story. If you don't remember what happened and it was your fault because you knowingly took drugs and what not, then you better have justifiable proof that you did not consent or were not able to consent because you were passed out.

The thing is about the laws is the only proof you need is your word. Even if there is a pile of evidence that a guy is completely innocent, as soon as a girl cries rape the guy will be dragged through the courts in front of his family and friends. A girl being being drunk at 3 am with a random guy should be enough not to convict a guy but often it does, there is no other evidence a girl can give unless she was actually assaulted also

I don't know where you live as to where these things are based solely on someone's word. I know someone that really was raped. She waited 2 weeks to report it because she was terrified. You know what they told her? They didn't have any physical evidence, and unless he confessed to it, he would walk free

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After reading your discussion with the woman who was raped and the rest of what you've written on this Q, I am appalled at your attitude.

I read on a government statistics website that 1 in 3 women are sexually abused in their life time. Look around at your group of friends, how many of them are there? divide by 3, and that's how many will be abused. Will you be one?

Not to condone rape at all, but there are still things that women probably should not do because they put them in danger of being raped. In terms of how women dress I don't know if that makes rapists more likely to come after her or not, but what dressing scantily does do is it often makes people less sympathetic towards the woman as they demonstrated on "What would you do".

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i was molested when I was 5-8 years old =/ but yea some people are just assholes

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What Girls Said 10

Too good for that? You better start believing it, honey.. there are big name doctors and lawyers that are rapists. Don't think that just because someone doesn't have the "creepy" appearance that they aren't capable of despicable acts.

The mind of a rapist isn't so easily understood. I wouldn't say that a girl that dresses in a promiscuous way is more likely to get raped than that woman walking around in a business suit though. Some rapists have a thing for going after women that dress modestly and have seemingly "proper" behavior because they have a knack for "tainting" if you know what I mean. They all have different things that they are looking for, and they all have different motives. Rape in most cases, is not about attraction. It's about controlling and dominating. And most are raped by people they know and might be very close to.

i guess, some people get raped, because of behaving like bitch (girls got raped for revenge), dress extremely revealing (and she cross path with some sex maniac) and for those unattractive girls who got raped, they are just unlucky to be there at that time :( (there are so many pschos out there lately). As what mentioned by Gregs, I agree with it totally, girls who says they got raped under that kind of circumstances are just stupid, they causes it to themselves none others. they should've be more careful than that.

It doesn't matter who you are, what you dress like... The people who are sick enough to rape someone, will rape anyone. Sometimes the most unsuspecting person can be a rapist, like some women don't think a man would rape them because the man is so good looking or seems so nice. The best thing to do is trust your instincts, if they're telling you something is wrong, listen to them. If you feel you have any fears, you can always get a thing of mace. People who rape are sick, & it is never the "raped" person's fault. No is no, regardless of what a person's wearing.

sometimes it may be about how the person looks, but a rapist cud also rape someone for a sense of feeling powerful. I learned this in psychology class and have watched shows on murderers who also rape their victims and a lot of the time these people have ben molested or raped in the past and have anger issues they can't control. They take it out on the victims they rape and murder. I believe this because the youngest person to be raped was an infant and the oldest was 90 years old. What is attractive about a baby or a frail old woman? Usually nothing and so rapists rape because they feel powerful when they do so.

All I know is that anyone could be raped by anyone. Buff, skinny, fat guys would rape any type of woman or man they find. There are even women who rape other women and men. Usually the ugly women (the ones who dress to attract get the man's attention) actually get the men's attention and therefore are raped. They are also the ones less likely to fight as hard or tell afterward. Pretty girls know that going out late at night is a sign for trouble and therefore go in groups. They are also the ones who are more likely to tell and fight harder which some men like. Some like the challenge of The women who walk alone (ugly) ones are getting rapes while the pretty women who don't walk alone are safer and therefore as not. Men rape for various reason. They could be a power rapist, anger rapist, sex offender or even woman offenders. They will rape anyone they can. They usually go for the easier targets like the ugly and alone people because they are less likely to tell or fight. It's crazy to be frank. Power rapists usually go for harder targets who will put up a fight because it's more exciting to them when they subdue and let them do as they want. It's not very common though. So above all anyone could be raped by anyone. Doesn't matter about age, race, religion, sex or even attractiveness. They will rape really ugly women just for the pleasure of being in power or just to relieve their stress.

Your last sentence " frat guys don't rape girls.. they are too good for that" shows your ignorance. From personal experience I can tell you that frat boys are completely capable of rape and it happens more than most would care to admit. Anyone could be capable of rape its not like rapist walk around wearing a name tag. They come from all races and all walks of life. And because of that ANY woman is susceptable to rape. It all depends on the rapists MO. Not only have I been raped but in my support group there were women who's looks ranged from 1-10. I hate girls like you. You make me sick and little girls like you give a bad name to real women.

Yea he was and if he'd asked I might have said yes but he never asked never said anything. We were at a party and an hour or so into it he slips something in my drink. He took the choice away from me without ever giving me a chance to say yes or no. That's rape.

The point is IT SHOULD BE MAI CHOICE!!! You can be a slut and f*** any hot guy that bats his eyes at you but some of us women have standards and morals. And I happen to only like white guys so why should I violate my preference just because the guy is cute? God I wish I could knock some sense into you! You disgust me and I feel sorry for your family. Little teeny boppers like you are the reason guys in this generation have no respect for girls. You're pathetic.

Teeny boppers? I am almost 20, and I like white guys too DUHH which is why I only hang out with ATTRACTIVE white guys so then if I was to say.. get drunk at a party OR drugged like you the guy raping me would be hott and it would be no problem :D

IT DOESN'T MATTER IF HE WAS HOT!!!!!!! I DIDN'T THINK SO! I DIDN'T WANT TO F*** HIM AND THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS!! BEING RAPED KILLS A LITTLE PART OF YOUR SOUL. IT SCARS YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. WHAT HE LOOKED LIKE DOESN'T MATTER BECAUSE HE STILL DID DAMAGE. HE DEVALUED ME AS A HUMAN BEING. I hope you get some F***ING SENSE knocked into you real quick because the way you are now, you're gonna get f***ed up out there and you're too stupid to realize it.

NO I HOPE HE'S THE UGLIEST MOTHER F***ER OUT THERE!! RAPE IS ABOUT DEGRADING THE PERSON BEING RAPED. Even if it did happen to you and the guy was hot I bet you'd still feel differently than you do now. Obviously there's no reasoning with your shallow, vapid stupidity so I'm done. You make yourself an easy target and will probably face a lot of hardship because of it. I don't know what f***ed up stuff happened to you to make you this way but I really do feel sorry for you.

I don't get this. Are you saying that you don't understand why unattractive people get raped too? "Who would want to rape them?" This issue is much more complex than just pretty or ugly. And a frat guy raping a girl is unbelievable? Would you also consider that a pedophile priest is unbelievable? Are you really that naive or are you just shallow? Anyone could be anything in this world. Rapists may have some preferences over the girls they choose or they might just do it randomly. Anything is possible. Wake up!

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I was molested when I was little.

If some-one get's raped its a horrible experience. So of course no one would want to share it.

People who show flesh is more likely to get rapped, but any one can get rapped. because in the ned men who are rapist are after one thing

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