Losing Your Virginity

Always stay clean Proper grooming is very important in general, but especially when it comes to lovemaking. Make sure your fingernails are always clean and trim, take a shower every day (if you're not circumcised, make sure that you pull your foreskin back and clean your glans thoroughly), wear clean boxers, and above all, make sure your pubic jungle is kept trim.

Rather than shave the area (you'll be itchy like crazy), invest in a sideburn trimmer and make sure that your pubic hair looks neat.

Practice holding it in Although some may think that holding in their ejaculate defeats the purpose of masturbation, the function of this exercise is to ensure that you have more control when you make love for the first time.

When you masturbate and feel as though you're about to ejaculate, stop stroking yourself and wait until the sensation goes away somewhat, and then begin again. This way, you'll get accustomed to holding back when the big moment arrives.

time to get down

When the big night (or day) comes, remain calm and collected — there's no need to fumble around. You've spent time preparing for this moment, enjoy it to the fullest. The best way to do that is by making this time all about her.

Take your time The biggest mistake a lot of guys make is that they rush through their first time and before they even have time to get excited, they've ejaculated. You won't make that mistake because you know that lovemaking is about enjoying the experience in its entirety; not just the sex.

Explore her body This is your woman; take the time to appreciate her whole body. Kiss her mouth, lick her neck, turn her around and glide your tongue up her spine — that'll drive her crazy. Take the time to discover her erogenous zones; you'll know when you've hit them. And hey, feel free to use your tongue, your hands and your member to explore her vagina.

Explore your senses Be aware of what's going on around you. Take the time to indulge your senses in the moment. Inhale the scent of her body. Get to know the taste of her mouth. Use your hands to feel the softness of her skin. Listen to the sounds she emits while you're satisfying her. Look at her body; watch the way it moves in accordance with yours.

Penetrate slowly When you do finally come to the point where you're ready to penetrate her, once again, use your senses to really appreciate the feeling of your penis entering her heat. Learn to understand the feeling you get as you slowly push your way inside her and pull yourself out. While you're rhythmically gliding in and out, look in her eyes, kiss her, lick her breasts, and rub her body. Always pay attention to all of her.

only time will tell

With time, and plenty of practice (all right!), you'll begin to understand the dynamics of what turns her on, as well as what turns you on. With open communication and the willingness to get creative, you'll become the awesome lover you always knew you could be in no time.

So, until next time, find out about some great positions you can test out with the eHandbook to Great Sex.