Dry Spells No More: How To Stop Sexual Droughts Before They Happen

Toothache at midnight, a toddler's temper tantrum and a dead-end occupation: All of these frustrations are unquestionably tough to put up with.

But, for most men, a sexual dry spell is even worse.

It's not just going without the sweet sensation of sex that's so painful.

It's the helplessness, the emasculation and the attempts to end the spell (and the associated dejection when it doesn't work).

Dry spells are common among those men who have no confidence or charisma, but they also occur in the lives of outgoing guys.

They can happen after heartbreaks, when you're working all hours or following any significant life event.

Most worrisome, the problem gets worse the more you focus on it. After a certain point, it can be pretty difficult to free yourself from a dry spell.

How are dry spells born?

Unless you're a celebrity or a male model, you'll always need confidence, competence and charisma to do well in the dating game. Self-assurance is one of the sexiest masculine traits around.

You need to feel like you deserve the girl you're flirting with.

It's the simplest thing in the world if you've always had women trying to get with you.

When you have a wealth of evidence you're attractive, it's easy to assume the next woman will want you, too. In fact, this attitude does half of the work for you.

But, what about when things don't go so well for a while? Say you suffer a couple of rough nights out. Maybe a load of mediocre women didn't want to speak to you or perhaps, your girlfriend dumped you.

It's natural for this to affect your confidence, which will in turn impact your overall attractiveness to the opposite sex.

A dry spell starts from the second you question yourself. The moment you wonder why it's been a while since your last sexual adventure, you're in for a rough ride.

The impact of a dry spell.

Attractiveness is all in the mind and a dry spell can have a dramatic impact on your self-perception. When you step up to that next hot woman, you want results a little too much.

You're not as relaxed. You're carrying that seed of doubt. Suddenly, you care what she thinks of you. You need her to be nice to you in order to feel desirable.

Well, women are socially savvy. They can sense this neediness. They can smell your insecurities.

She wants the masculine man who could have had any woman, but your behavior is far from what that masculine man would do. In fact, you're palpable attitude is a massive turnoff.

You're now displaying the traits of a dude who can't get any other girls. So, the women who would have gone home with you a few weeks ago are now blowing you off.