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What’s the #BestMedicine for a Tired Mom? Her Support System

by Lauren Gaines

You don’t need to be told that raising children isn’t always easy. In fact, at times it can feel as if you’re constantly taking care of others, with your own needs at the bottom of the to-do list. I love seeing my children’s smiling faces in the morning, and there’s nothing better than a warm bear hug — but that doesn’t mean I never get tired or run down. My #bestmedicine as a tired mom is simple: I reach out to my village.

I personally didn’t realize how much I relied on my support system of family and friends until my second child was born. As a stay-at-home mom, I sometimes feel like I never get a break. When I start feeling overwhelmed and that I can’t take it anymore, I call someone I can talk to. I always feel better when I’m able to talk about my feelings, and it helps me realize that I’m not alone on this journey through parenthood.

As someone with a background in psychology, I am always interested in how our thoughts and feelings affect us, and I’ve learned over the years how important it is for me to recognize my thoughts when I’m tried and overworked. That’s when I know it’s time to ask for help.

I’ve also learned how to let things go. Do you ever hesitate to have a friend over because your house is messy? Don’t stress about the little things, and ask that friend to visit anyway. I know that I’m always relieved when I get to enjoy some adult conversation, and my kids usually get to socialize with other children at the same time. It’s a win-win for everyone.

Finally, don’t forget about your spouse! I think of my husband and I as a team, and I know that I need his support at times. So if I need a break, I let him know, and he’ll put the kids to bed so I can get some alone time. At moments like these, don’t let mom guilt get to you!

If I recognize that I absolutely need a break because I’m about to say or do something I’ll later regret, I put the television on for 30 minutes without feeling bad. Think of it like this: Your whole family will benefit from you getting a break — and acting like a refreshed mommy instead of a cranky mommy.

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