Tuesday, August 01, 2017

the dark tree, the cold sea

(someone shared with me as his close sibling stopped talking to him years ago and still not talking)

although I know you can never be found
although I know that from the highest height
you cannot be seen you are not hiding
from me or are you is it how you look now
or maybe how I look now all these years gone by
places seen people met not knowing at any time
who I was or how others saw me or did not see me
and how are you wherever you are if I write you a letter
I’ll get no answer if I cry out to you to come in my final
hour you will not come but I will still look for you

10 comments:

I think life moves on, one thinks it would stop hurting one day. The surprising factor is that it never does. It is one of the greatest trials one can face. One hopes constantly that something would change, something will change. This poem is eerily familiar unfortunately.

If somebody confided to me about it, I'd say (everybody knows it but one needs to be told nevertheless)::

If he has really done something wrong (which seems plausible as one doesn't cut sibling(s) off from one's life like that) then he really needs to send clear worded apology: "I am sorry about the way I have hurt you by my words/actions [mention of specific wrongs he said/did]. To this day I regret doing what I did at that day and I wish I could go back in time and change everything. I promise that I've changed for a better person and will never do that again!"

In apology letter, he needs to own up his actions and not try to "justify" it (i.e. not say something like "the job stress made me do that" or "I was not in right mindset at that time.")

Also forgiveness from others is a privilege not a right. Even if his sibling decides to not reply still -- with time -- his relative will find closure and he too will be able to forgive himself. In any case, it needs to be done and never under-estimate the power of sincere apology.

Mystic you are so right and thanks for correcting me. I read that poem in my high school (1948) and those memories are getting dim and dimmer every day No Anony what Ghalib is saying that the day of mourning for the departed soul is so bad , it is itself like qiyamat (not uncommon in everyday language) for us. You have not taken the first (Lazim tha..." ) verse fully either. Ghalib is "talking" to the departed soul (being his son he should have waited for) for a few more days. It is expression of a father why did you not take me with you-- kind of feeling Like Mystic says this poem is very heart touching. In fact there are no such poems like this even though there are hundreds of "Mersias" This is not regarded as mersia though some may categorize it as such

Note

To protect privacy of people - names, places, and in many instances genders, time periods and ethnicity of characters in stories have been changed. But I have tried to keep theme and actual events as close to true events as possible.