Have looked through the forums on this site and tried to figure it out but think I need Step-by-Step instructions as I'm a bit challenged in this department!! anyone have the exact phone that could help as i'm just about to throw the phone away!!help is appreciated.

Hmmm. Seeing you are in the USA the best option is to contact your operator there for configuration information.

The easiest way to make sure it is not something wrong in your account though is to borrow a phone from a friend, one that you know can send and receive MMS, insert your SIM card and then send a MMS to your own number. If you receive ok then the problem is with your phone's configuration. If it does not send then the problem is with your account.

2. Select MMS Settings. The Preferences screen will open. The fields in this screen are explained below.

MMSC Settings

The MMSC (“Multimedia Messaging Service Centre”) settings are normally pre-set to the appropriate values, and in most cases you will not need to change them.

However, if you want to view or edit them, select MMSC Settings from the menu in the Preferences screen. To view or edit the settings for an existing item, select the desired item listed in the MMSC Settings screen and then press the Left Softkey (“Edit”), or select Edit from the menu. The following fields will be available for you to edit: Name, MMSC URL, WAP Gateway, Port, and Max. Sending Size.

Or, to create a new item, press the Right Softkey to open the menu in the MMSC Settings screen, then select New from the menu and fill in the Name, MMSC URL, WAP Gateway, Port, and Max. Sending Size fields.

About the flag: sometime if you access the Internet from work your connection goes through their servers, which may be located in another country. Also if you connect over CDMA EVDO you may get an IP Address that looks like an American address (such as my flag now).

have played around with phone settings and got into all sorts of menus etc..tried to send myself another pxt and now i get "error. unable to connect.verify your Dial-up or proxy settings are correct and try again' GRRRRRRR...
anyone out there live in chch?? Have tried the best i can to follow your instructions but i don't seem to be able to follow exactly i have different menus to what you are describing.???