Hey, guys. So I recently slept with my ex-boyfriend’s friend and I don’t really know how to feel about it.

I was with my ex officially for about 6 months. It was a short but very intense relationship.

A little over a month ago I found out he cheated on me multiple times, slept with two of my “friends” unprotected and was constantly texting and messaging other girls behind my back. I was devastated and humiliated. Crying and agonizing over whether I should take him back for weeks. Listening to every apology and every line about how “he’s changed”.

I never actually officially took him back but we were on talking terms on and off. He had been trying to get me back this entire time, but he drinks way too much, way too often and cannot be trusted around the opposite sex the second he has an ounce of alcohol in his system.

I had really been trying to forgive him, and look past everything he had done. A couple days ago, I found out he went drinking and met up and was all over one of the girls he had cheated on me with. Don’t know if they did anything as they were the only two at the bar. But the fact that he was even with her at all was all I needed to know. I was livid, hurt and embarrassed and I made it clear that I was done with him.

So this past weekend I went out with a few friends, who are also his friends, one of which I knew was always attracted to me, and ended up hooking up with him. I feel pretty damn guilty about it all and I have a feeling my ex is going to find out about it soon.

I don’t know whether I should confess it to him myself or just leave it be. I know he’s going to be crushed and he’ll hate me for it. Not sure how to go about it now.

We work together and my friends are his friends and vice versa. I don’t want to cause a drama and I feel bad about the fact that my ex will probably explode when he hears about this and will most likely cut ties with his friend over this.

My feelings are also a little mixed because I’m not the type of person who just sleeps around. I’m 23 going on 24 and I’ve only ever had sex with three men. I feel like if and when my ex-finds out, he’s going to trash my name and make it look like I’m someone down right awful.