Thursday, April 30, 2009

If only....

A while back I stumbled upon this little gem on Frugal Bride while looking for a vendor. It burns my bread to read it because isn't eloping the most frugal option? For a site that wants to promote frugalness they sure seem to look down their noses at elopers. Thing is I actually like the site. There is a lot of useful information on there, especially for Canadians. So having something like this on there is really insulting. Maybe though I'm over reacting......

WHY DO PEOPLE ELOPE?Parents don't like your choice of partner.Just wanna get married and get it over withIllnessYour fiancée is pregnantYou're going to jailYou're going to warYou're leaving the countryYou want to become a citizen of a countrySpur of the moment thing, "What the heck, let's do it!"

Wow right? So I'm reading this and thinking "Wow too bad I'm not a sick ,jailed, pregnant, immigrant who is going off to war, whose parents hate my fiance" but then there's also the "Ugh we hate wedding lets get this over with" line and the "Oh my god we just met! We are soul mates! Let's get married!" line. Really those are all the reasons to elope? What about "We cannot afford a big wedding and don't want to go into debt to host one" or "We just want the two of us and our closest family there." or "Let's spend the money we were going to use on one day on XYZ instead"

It's really funny to me that the wedding world just assumes that every bride wants to have her Cinderella ball and that if you don't there must be something wrong with you..like perhaps your dying or in the country illegally.

What a weird list! BTW - I don't think of your wedding as an elopement! I think you're having a small wedding that suits your financial and timing needs. Nowadays I really do think eloping is as two people getting hitched without tell a soul.

That list is way one sided. Eloping is about two people getting married and feeling special in that moment. Some people love the thrill and surprise of it, others want to include everyone they know, it should be all up to the couple involved without any input from websites,blogs, and magazines. It's all personal, as weddings should be.

Ugh-- I'd give anything if I could just elope right now! I would still want a nice dress, and maybe my close family and friends... but that's it. No crazy decorations, no expensive reception.... but I didn't get a choice :(