Which of these men should I get serious with??

I've been dating 2 men for a while and am at the point where I need to make a choice!

Help me!

1. Mr Perfect on paperPROSHe's kind, considerate, would fit in well with my family (I have a ds aged 3)He treats me really well, not in a flamboyant way but is very thoughtful with little things.We get on really well.He's tall dark and handsome.We have lots of similar interests and similar sense of humour.We've known each other 7 years and he has good history! Is. "good egg".No baggageHe's a very modern man so would do his 'fair share'. Easy going and laid back. Sometimes I find him too laid back but I am highly strung so this is quite good for me.

CONSWhat you see is what you get - this could be a pro but he isn't very 'deep' so I worry I may get bored.I don't feel very sexually attracted to him.He has a fairly good job but no real ambition.

2. Mr Gives me butterfliesPROSI fancy him a LOT (shallow but he just makes me feel very... You know! )He thinks I am amazing, beautiful and just adores me. (sounds big headed but I know this).Similar careers so have this in commonSimilar sense of humourSimilar interestsGreat job and ambition

CONSDon't know him as well - only met 6 months ago and only been on 12 dates (but I am counting!)He has 2 kids and a difficult ex wife - I have a ds too so it's not a huge con but he does have more baggage so more complicated.He's short! Shallow I know - not shorter than me but similar height!His job takes him away overnight most weeks and brings him a moderate level of stress.

help me mumsnetters - I can't date them both anymore! It's just not right!

Just carry on as you are. You will have more fun doing that than if you try to force yourself into choosing. Monogamy and commitment are a waste of the one life we have not compulsory - as long as you let both men know that you are not, currently, looking for an exclusive relationship, shag them both and enjoy them both until one or both relationships runs its course.