I've suspected this for a few months

I've suspected this for a few months now. I have a best friend, well I though she was my best friend, but about 4 months ago she started to refus my phone calls. I would call and I know she knew it was me because she has caller id, and she wouldn't answer the phone. At first I figured it was beacuse she was busy with her husband and baby. But after a few weeks, like 2 of calling almost everyday more than once a day, and she wouldn't answer the phone I started thinking she was avoiding me. Why, that's my main question. We have been friends for a few years now, and we told each other some really deep stuff. Then right before this whole thing started I shared something with her, and now its no show best friend. *grumble* It's very frustrating. I even sent her like 3-4 e-mails, and she replied to NONE of them. So I finally e-mailed her husband and he told her that I e-mailed him. So she finally e-mails me, saying she's been busy with her baby, and she'd been sick, blah, blah, blah. And then there's me all like "I totally understand, sick, and baby, yadda, yadda, yadda." Well thats BULL, cause I have kids too, more than she does. She only has ONE, so how the h*** does that take so much time from her that she can't answer my phone calls, cant listen to my voice messages, etc. Seriously, if she doen't want to be my friend anymore then she needs to grow up and tell me. I mean, I really don't like being druge along like this. We're both no longer in high school, we are young adults, if one has out grown someone, or no longer wishes to be their frined, would it be the polite thing to inform them? Not having the person second guess themselves, not knowing what to believe. If she thinks she's sparing my feelings by not telling me she doesn't want to be friends with me, well she'll way full of herself, cause she's NOT. I would much rather know that she doesn't want to be my friend than in the dark. And since we no longer live near each other, I can't roll over to her house and confornt her either. So here I am, suck in another city, 6 hrs from her, wondering why she no longer wants to be my friend. Or if she really is telling the truth. Totally confused, any ideas? What should I do?

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most of the people are not confrontational. she does not want to tell you, but she is trying to get you off her life. she does not want the drama of a possible argument with you. it may be painful, but move on, find newer, better friendsactions speak louder than words, forget about her its her loss.make new friendsmost of the people are not confrontational. she does not want to tell you, but she is trying to get you off her life. she does not want the drama of a possible arguement with you. it may be painful, but move on, find newer, better friends.actions speak louder than words, forget about her its her loss.make new friends

6.4 years ago

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most of the people are not confrontational. she does not want to tell you, but she is trying to get you off her life. she does not want the drama of a possible arguement with you. it may be painful, but move on, find newer, better friends.actions speak louder than words, forget about her its her loss.make new friends

6.4 years ago

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You sound like a loser.

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life changes , people change....make new friends. and move on.

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u defenitly should ask her wat m********* is and then tell me!!!

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make new friends

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You said she has a baby maybe shes going thru post partum depression. If you send her emails like youve posted here she might feel overwhelmed and not no how to tell you something she thinks you might not understand since youve have kids already. Sometimes a simple note saying im here for you when your ready and step back will go much further then constant calls and ranting emails. Just a suggestion. Good Luck!

6.4 years ago

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actions speak louder than words, forget about her its her loss.

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tell her to f*** off shes no friend you are a better person an you know how 2 treat people u better off without gud lck

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what did you tell her. something to personal and made her feel unconfortable? what ever is going on it has to do with that. think back what you personal thing you said. it will shed some light on this.

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most of the people are not confrontational. she does not want to tell you, but she is trying to get you off her life. she does not want the drama of a possible argument with you. it may be painful, but move on, find newer, better friends.