Feeeeeelings

This post was 3,000 words long. They all felt overly complicated and heavy and weird. I clicked delete. Then I just typed what we’re really feeling, complete with things we’ve never said out loud and even a few things we’ve never fully admitted to ourselves before.

The truth is that we love you guys. Like for real. Even for the tough love. We know you say it because you care (or hopefully you did at some point), and we want you to know we care right back. We want to do a good job. We want to do this with joy and excitement. We want to inspire you. We know this is an incredible way to have made a living and we are full of gratitude for the experience to have shared the last seven years of our lives with you guys online.

We would NEVER be here without you, and not a day goes by that we don’t know that. It’s why we asked for your feedback last week and read every last comment. We appreciate the honesty and the passion you guys have on the topic of making this blog great. And we agree with a lot of what was being said. We have been feeling off for a while – like we have lost our rhythm and we’re somehow missing the mark for ourselves and for you guys. We too miss the good old days when we did this for the love and were full of such obvious joy and spontaneity. This felt like a place we all hung out and it just doesn’t have that vibe anymore.

Over the years many amazing opportunities popped up for us. Things we never dreamed of doing in a million years, and things we’re incredibly grateful to have had the chance to experience. A book deal, curating paint picks with Benjamin Moore, a line sold at Target, a showhouse, etc. But in hindsight those things also made this feel a lot more like a business than a personal blog to many of you, and to us as well. We have actually ramped those down behind the scenes in an attempt to get back to our roots (we no longer do the BM color collection, the second book is mostly written, our products at Target have completed their run, and we finished the showhouse) but we never really made a big announcement about that – so it’s completely understandable that some of you might think we’ve moved on to those greener pastures and left the blog in the dust, so to speak. The reality is that our site propels the success of any outside project like a product or book, so we could never turn our backs on the blog and expect those items to continue to sell as well.

Not only have we felt this shift from “John and Sherry” to “Young House Love: The Brand”, but the blogosphere as a whole has become increasingly sponsored/corporate lately. We can see from the outside prospective as a reader, or even a fellow blogger, that it’s hard to read a blog post without suspecting some ulterior motive or money-making system behind it. Last week a few of you mentioned that we might need to keep giveaways around because they pay us well, which surprised us since they’re never something we accept payment for (we like to pass free things along to you as a thank you for reading).

Along with the whole business/brand thing that’s going on, and the side gigs that felt like they muddied the water for some of you, there are certainly other things we wish we had handled differently in hindsight. Just to name a few, there’s: being too defensive, over-explaining, letting things get in our heads and change our lighthearted approach, and the internal struggle between being transparent and oversharing personal details like a vacant new house without an alarm system (looking back we wish we’d handled our third house announcement differently). We know many of you felt insulted that we didn’t share more freely about that house, and we truly apologize.

Anyway, back to that whole “we’re sexy stumbling and you know it” thing. It’s endlessly frustrating to do a job that you love poorly, especially when it’s a blog baby that you’ve birthed yourself and nurtured for seven years. And especially when it’s such an amazing job that we once felt so inspired and joyful to wake up and do each day. What’s wrong with us? We know this is a dream job. We acknowledge it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity. We know most people who have built something like this would be more inspired than ever. It’s not that we lost the gratitude, I think it’s that we feel like we’ve fallen out of our groove. We feel like we’re letting you guys down repeatedly. It got to the point that every time we pressed “publish” we braced ourselves.

So in an attempt to stop stumbling around and feeling like we just can’t get it back, we’re taking a break. We don’t know exactly how long we’ll be stepping away, but our guess would be at least a month. We will certainly be exploring other options for supporting our family (something we mentioned we were considering back in April). We had that fiery blog-spark back when we had day jobs and did this as a hobby, so we think it could be a good change. We’ll also be taking a break on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, but the blog will stay public so you guys can access the archives whenever you’d like.

Our internal struggle and the state of this blog is entirely of our making, and we completely own that. Please don’t get mad at anyone for being honest with their feedback last week or accuse them of sending us packing. We have been struggling with that “something is off” feeling for a while now, and after way too much denial and “we’ll turn it around” pep talks, we finally asked for your feedback because we truly wanted to hear what you were thinking. It was cathartic and helpful for us. It has allowed us to very clearly see that if we have any respect for this blog and our love of it, and for you guys and what you’d like to see, we need to take a break if we ever want any hope of getting back to that fun/real/spontaneous place it used to be when this was something we did for the love instead of the high stakes game of supporting a family.

Thanks for the blog. It has been a great 7 years. People change, mature, it is part of life. Perspectives, goals change. As you mature, your design style will change and mature as well. You said once that only when you both agree on a purchase for the home, or a design preference will it be added. That limit can wear thin quickly when two, now four, people are in a state of flux and growth. Don’t limit yourselves. Allow change and growth. If and when you return, we will be here.

This is your job, and everyone needs to step away and refresh themselves when they have been doing the same job for 7 years. Many people forget this is your job, but few of us feel passion/vigor for our jobs every day. It’s totally understandable! Enjoy your break and I look forward to seeing what you do next.

I agree, I cant imagine having such a personal job that entangles every aspect of your lives. For the record, I have read for blog since before Clara, it is my favorite blog and I will be early waiting your return. I have felt a shift in the blog as well, BUT you all have 2 small kids, a lot of big things happening and WE understand completely! Hoping your month off is amazing, and super excited for your return! xoxo

Good for you guys! Life is short and you need to be happy. Living your life on front street would not be my preference. I commend you for sharing your talent as I have enjoyed following about decor and projects! Enjoy the time off or rather…enjoy new doors that will open…God is good!

I only found you guys like a year ago (after you were featured in one of my favorite magazines) and I love your blog. I like both the small posts and the DIY technical stuff. I love your style (in decor and in writing). I love your approach to parenthood. I’m an avid DIYer with 9 children and as my Father in Law says- I do my best work when I’m pregnant. Because otherwise, my time is largely taken up by all the needs of a newborn. Taking that (forced) time off lets the need to create build up until it explodes out of me. It would be hard to be creative ALL the time. There is a natural ebb and flow to creativity. Also, I don’t see why some people are snobs about people getting paid to blog. What is that feeling that it makes it somehow less authentic or worthy ? I don’t get it at all. I don’t think getting paid takes anything away. Isn’t that the goal, do something you love so you never “work” a day in your life?

Mostly I just want to wish you a very happy break from the blog. Yours is one of the best around and I, for one, haven’t noticed an ‘off’ vibe on the blog, but I have genuinely worried for you for several years at the pace of life you have lead. Being 30 something entrepreneurs is tough enough, but your blog has such a wonderful personal touch, so my guess would be that means it also personally takes more out of you than other businesses might have. I have wished for your sake that you took breaks that were longer than a week. My guess is that a month or so off will rejuvenate your groove all by itself!

See you when you’re ready to get back…Enjoy yourselves, you have worked hard and earned a rest. And maybe a little time off from reading will put me into ‘action’ mode for my own DIY ;-) .
Xx

I found you about 6 months ago when I was feeling idle and discovered I wanted to give DIY a go. I can’t tell you how many times you kept me going when I wanted to tackle something overwhelming and thought “YHL didn’t have experience when they started either….I can do this.” My house is starting to look beautiful. So many times I’ve said to my wife, “My good friends at YHL did this cool thing we should try…” etc (Cuz that’s how we roll…we’re good friends now:-D )

Thank you for the encouragement and inspiration. Thanks for sharing your life and family with us. When your passion becomes a job it loses it’s spark. Go find your spark and bring it back to us. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I have loved your blog since we bought our first house 5 years ago. My husband was in the military and we had to move far from family and friends. I focused on fixing up our house and your blog made me smile and gave me inspiration….and still does. Thank you. Please enjoy your break but come back soon!

I’m sure this has all already been said before, but I will add that yours is the only blog I check daily. Over the past few months, I haven’t felt as connected to the content of your posts, but I always come back for the burst of positivity and kindness that I find here. No matter the content, it’s always uplifting (even when you’re being real).

I have also often worried about your pace. My husband and I started our own nonprofit business several years ago and we burned-out after about three years. Not to say you’re burnt-out, but reading your words really resonated with parts of my experience. I appreciate your candor. Please take as much time as you need for you and your family.

I love this blog, and love watching your homes evolve into something unique and beautiful. My home won’t know what to do, if I’m not stealing your ideas? I selfishly hope you will be back. Just because you make money doing something you love, doesn’t make it wrong. Just be authentic to yourself, and good luck!

Life is short. Hug what you love and leave the rest for someone else. Enjoy the break. When and if you come back, I’ll be ready to continue enjoying the adventure you let me take with you and your family. Best wishes always !!

Couldn’t agree more – I used to blog myself, and decided to “take a break” that ended up becoming permanent during my last pregnancy after having similar feelings and while I still miss the community I had created, I am relieved to know my priorities (my son/family) are in line. You guys DESERVE a break and an opportunity to step away for a little while and evaluate priorities/find your “groove” again. Perhaps Clara can drop a wicked beat and help you in the process? ;)

That being said, I will probably still check your site every day out of habit, because this truly is one of my favorite spaces on all the interweb… You guys are genuine, witty, creative, and just downright fun – and light up my day every time I get to see your latest project or read Clara’s latest hilarity-inducing conversation.

I never got a chance to join in on the convo on Thursday – but I love this blog in any form: long post, short post, clara convo, giveaway – whatever. Life ebbs and flows – and so does a blog, so I’ve never expected perfection or the “ultimate” experience of DIY entertainment on YHL… just an occasional “popping in” to let us know what you’ve been up to :)

Will miss you guys dearly – and will patiently await your return when and if you’re ready. Until then, just know you guys are deeply loved!

Wise words. I’ll miss you terribly, but know from first hand experience how helpful a break can be. Take time, breathe deep, and be honest with yourselves. You’ll find the right answer. (((((Hugs))))) to the entire Petersik clan.

This. You DESERVE the break! You have worked so hard. Enjoy the well-earned pause (I’m hoping you come back – you can count on me to be back here reading each and every post if you do)!

And as a P.S., while constructive criticism and tough love can be inspiring, I viewed some of the comments here and elsewhere on the internet as plain old mean and fueled by jealousy. It’s tough, but let yourselves disregard that (very!) small minority of your readers.

Amen to Theresa and all who chimed in to already amen her! :) I actually haven’t been able to keep up reading your blog lately, after having my own baby last October… I didn’t even see the post last week asking for input. So for me, this is a perfect chance to slowly start to catch up on all the many, many posts I’ve missed this past year. Before baby, I read every single blog post daily, and commented regularly. :) Life gets busy and priorities need to shift accordingly, so I commend you Sherry & John!

I’ll be awaiting your return!
I’ve been reading this blog since you started – before kids and through all 3 houses. It’s my favourite blog. And it’s OK for your blog to change – your lives HAVE changed and this blog is supposed to be a reflection of YOUR life. It can’t (and shouldn’t) always be the same. Enjoy your time off. And remember your loyal fans be here to pick up right where you left off…

I couldn’t agree more! We look forward to your return and will miss you in the meantime. Wishing you all the best :) As a new homeowner, you guys really are such a great sources of information and inspiration.

Well said Britt. It feels like I’m finishing a favorite book (except I’ve been reading it for years!) and will miss all the characters I’ve come to love by reading about their lives. As a mother of 2 little ones and owner design/remodel company with my husband I can completely understand the struggle of balancing work/business. Love all your posts and your design and writing styles! Thank you for keeping the site up for reading archives.
Xxxooo

Good for you for hitting pause if you feel like you need to. Wonderful things come when you’re true to yourself, so yes–what Theresa said! :)

Do what you need to do, rest and refresh. Whatever you decide will work out beautifully. Your talent and voice is certainly not gone–even if things have changed in a way that makes it feel harder or less authentic recently. Give yourself grace over the break–bloggers are in a weird spot for having to be “on” all of the time. We all think you’re great, and this just solidifies it. Classy post.

Here here. I love your blog and found you about a year ago so I will have plenty to read while you have a well earned break/maternity leave. I do hope you come back because I haven’t noticed you going off the boil and have enjoyed being privy to the YHL family life, as well as the DIY inspiration and learning. xoxo

I am SOOOO sad! But I hope you get your spark back and I will be here to follow you again. It’s weird to say I love you to someone I never met but as I mentioned in a letter I wrote you a long time ago- your blog helped me get back into the world of the living after my little sister died in a car accident. Each project helped me recover and I thank you profusely for showing me joy in the little everyday things.

Seeing the joy that you got out of home projects, parenting and each other helped me to get through postpartum mood stuff (yes, that is the technical term), twice! It reminded me that I too would soon find joy in life again. And I have! I used to save the blog for middle of the night feedings so I had something to look forward to.
Speaking of middle of the night feedings…I have sometimes wondered how you guys have kept going without missing a beat after the birth of Teddy. Having a second baby changes everything. Things that were easy now require more forethought and juggling and you are doing it on way less sleep! I hope you give yourself a break in every aspect of life, not just on the blog.

I know that I never once came here to read with anything but gratefulness that you are giving us free content every day! Please know that we hope you do what works best for you, but I hope you guys can get your groove back and share it with us again soon:)

Well stated, Megan! I hope that your break allows you to reconnect with what you want for yourselves, your family, and your careers. If it is this blog, yay! If not, I wish you all the best in your new endeavors!

I get it and completely understand, as all your faithful fans/friends will. I admit that I’ve abandoned other blogs because every single post seems like they’re redoing their homes for free while you guys always worked hard and didn’t accept a bazillion random sponsors. Your honesty and authenticity is why this blog has worked. Knowing that you value that (and family before all else) means we (I) will still be here when you return. :) Nothing but fondness and well wishes for the Petersik family!!! xo

Sad face, but I totally get it. I’ve loved your blog since day one, and while I don’t agree with the naysayers, it’s ok to take a step back especially considering you started this blog for you and your family, not as a career. I’ve loved seeing it blossom, and I’ve implemented so many of your ideas in my own home because bottom line, you guys rock. Enjoy a little R&R and I hope you come back with the spark. Until then, I’ll miss you guys!

I agree. I’m sure this blog post was not easy to write, but it read as genuine, and honest. I hope the break gives you some rest and brings clarity into what the future may hold for you and your beautiful family. Much love.

Wow!!! Like others, I am sad for us but so incredibly happy for you. Your honesty is SSSOOO refreshing and I wish you all the best. I have tears streaming down my face because you guys are like friends, just super awesome people! As others mentioned, what I love about your blog is that I never log on and have to wonder which company is going to bash me over the head with their and products and sales pitches. It is so refreshing to be able read your blog and just get pure DIY/pure decor ideas/ and pure John and Sherry. I do REALLY hope to be able to log on in a month or so and find you guys back with your groove and excitement AND to see what awesome home projects you complete in a month. You guys are the best!

Is it creepy that I got teared up when reading your post? Blame in on hormones–perimenopause!!!! (or scary-menopause as my son calls it)…

I agree with Jeri: “I’ve abandoned other blogs because every single post seems like they’re redoing their homes for free while you guys always worked hard and didn’t accept a bazillion random sponsors.”

You have always been real, you are not machines. I feel if folks would have been patient for just a bit longer, the cycle would have upswung and you guys would be back to the groove…(although frankly I never felt that you had lost your groove, so what do I know)….

Do what you need to do (like you need my permission, ha). Clara and Teddy matter. In the big picture, comments from a minority of readers in the peanut gallery don’t. Go hiking. Go to the beach. Ski the Rockies. Chin up!

PS: I should also apologize to you for taking you both for granted in all you do. I should have posted BEFORE now (or before Thursday)…to express appreciation for and astonishment at your posts. I never did, but I want to go on record that you NEVER let me down as a reader, and I should have told you that all although the way.

It never occurred to me that you were receiving fire and criticism recently in the comments, and if I’d known…:(

Selection bias predicts that those who are most exercised will be the ones who have some point to make (usually negative). I’m sorry I didn’t get exercised (now there’s a good southern term) until becoming aware of the criticism. What you have tried to do is ADMIRABLE (folks, read the policies on their website, and then try to throw stones, I dare you)…and I don’t want you going away wondering who felt what.

I agree with Megan! You guys are awesome and it’s been inspiring to watch your blog and your family grow. I hope you’ll still share any changes you make to the house,even through instagram. I love seeing what you come up with and still can’t believe how much you all do on your own. All the best wishes for you!

I second Deb G. whole heartedly. I just wish I would have chimed in last week to say that you have NEVER let me down as a reader in the four years I’ve been following you. I’ve been proud of every success/opportunity and understanding of all that’s going on beyond the blog. At the end of the day, you are two HUMANS – not machines. Humans get tired. Humans veer off course. And then, guess what? Humans course correct. We should all just be grateful for the time, talent and inspiration you’ve shared with us over the years.

To second another post I just read, I wish I had said a long time ago how much I love what you do and how you bring a bright moment to my day. I actually thought I was sparing you extra time/work by not commenting (and I don’t typically read the comments), but I wish I had told you a long time ago that I love you, lol :). As I said, please do come back if you can :).

Oh guys – your family comes first and I am sure any of us here who have followed you long enough know how hard you work at regularly cranking out quality content. EVERYBODY takes a vacation now and then and that’s what you need – a blog vacation to rest, recharge and be a family with your beautiful kiddos.
We’ll be here waiting patiently for your return.
xx

Well said! Couldn’t agree more. What you have done in the past six years with this blog is incredible. We all know how much time and effort goes into getting any type of house project done (esp with pregnancies and kids) and then to blog, fb, twitter and instagram about it. I always wondered (marveled) how in the world you could keep up the pace. Hope to “see” you again!

Sad for myself but happy for you guys to take what you need and recharge! I just want to get it on the record that I have only ever been impressed by the work that you do, and ever so grateful for all the free inspiration and tips. Sincerely hope we’ll see you back here, but only if it’s what’s right for you!

I’ve read your blog for the last three years and truly enjoy it as a place of inspiration and entertainment. I and it sounds like a lot of other readers genuinely care about you guys and I totally support your step back! Honestly, we’re lucky that there’s a free place to get all of this content, home improvement advice, design inspiration, etc. from an unbiased source. And since it’s free, I feel like we don’t have any right to dictate what you put up here, how often, etc. Just keep on doing what feels right for you and your family. You guys are awesome, thank you!

ditto ditto ditto….I never saw anything lacking (for goodness sake, you just had a baby!) I personally enjoyed everything you guys posted and was sooooo happy to see when something new was up. insert sappy horn sound…wamp wah…enjoy your family and I truly do hope you keep sharing. My first instinct was to say, what about the kitchen? what about the bathroom? what about that wonderful storage room…..and I never got the chance to see a photo of the hallway with all of the light coming in from the new glass door…..sniff sniff…and the heart shaped rocks I will never see (BTW i totally collect those too) but I will leave you with a big internet hug for your family. Hope to see you soooooon. xo

Agree 100%. Take your time in finding your family / business / blog balance. I will be waiting patiently for your return, whenever and however that may be. In the meantime, I will be perusing the archives for all those things I missed along the way :) Take care and good luck on your soul searching!

I am going to be in withdrawals for what sounds like at least a month, but I know you guys will benefit from taking a step back and deciding the best way to move forward — from both a business and personal perspective. Cannot wait for your return…this blog is such a huge source of inspiration — not to mention a major confidence boost for me with would-be intimidating projects.

Completely agree. I didn’t comment last week because I never felt like anything was lacking and you just had a baby for heaven’s sake! But maybe it was a good thing because hopefully although I’m sure you’ll be doing lots of thinking and planning during your time off (just cause that’s how it seems like you guys do!) I hope you get some REAL downtime to center yourselves! Life is a crazy train and just keeps going unless you take some time to keep it at the station and plan the next trip!! Take care!!

I completely agree with Katy B. I have read for a few years now and have (maybe?) never commented. I just love all your posts and am thankful for the expertise you both have shared with this community. You guys are rock stars! Enjoy the break. Kiss your babies. Love your life!! xoxoxo

I totally agree with what Katy said…your blog is so helpful (thanks for leaving it public…it’s such a great, easy-to-follow tool!), and I absolutely support you all doing what is right for your family. Would sure love to see you back again, but super thankful for all you’ve shared with us and will happily re-read the archives until that time comes :)

I completely agree with Katy B on her point. I also want to say that I respect your need for a break. Your job is a fun one but also a hard one. People expect a lot from you and you guys seem to deliver on every front which I’m sure is both exciting and exhausting. Take this time for your family and I truly hope you come back to us in some way that works for you long term and fills you with joy. I would be sad if you only came back out of obligation. We just all feel so connected to you.

Can’t wait for your “we’re back” post, even if it take longer than a month.

Compelled to say that this affected me more than it should coming from what could only be defined as a stranger. But I’ve read and appreciated what you’ve built over the years and coupled with all the lousy headlines we hear about- well, I’m just about ready to go under the covers again. But despite how it affects me, I do understand the toll of exposing your lives to the public and appreciate how mature you both are to have lived it with for so long. I wish you both the very best of luck and hope only good things for your family. Biggest virtual hugs to you.

I feel the same way! You have inspired me and my husband to do stuff around the house ourselves, and it feels great! He doesn’t read your blog, but he knows you, because I always mention you, like “John and Sherry did that and that, you have to see it!”, or “I know this won’t work because Sherry tried it already, and she knows what she is doing..”, etc. etc. Please come back soon! No pressure though.. but come back soon! Million hugs to all of you!

Love you guys and your site. Owning your own business, no matter what it is, is a heavy thing and everyone has to reevaluate from time to time – I’m currently in that process myself, also doing what I thought was my dream job but might not be anymore.

No matter what your ultimate decision is, I want to let you know I’ve really enjoyed your blog and am grateful for the inspiration it’s given me.

I agree, I will miss you guys but I am hoping when you come back you will have the best idea about where you see the future of this blog going. Put your energy where you want to blossom.
I have been a reader for a very long time and I will miss you and especially the inspiration you have given. You have truly brought color into my world.
Wish you both the best and am excited for your future endeavors.
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I so agree–it is never easy to be a small business owner and that is exactly what you are with this blog. I hope this step away from the site will be the recharge that you need to be able to focus on what it is that you want to do in the future. I’ll miss the updates and posts but do what is best for you and your family!

THIS: “I really see your blog as a diary of your lives and we are just there as lucky observers, peeking through the windows. Never crossed my mind that we should have any say as to what you wanted to post or share.”

Hope your love for the blog is renewed over the next month. Haters gonna hate, but this is YOUR blog and no one else’s. (and it just so happens to be the highest quality DIY/home design blog on the interwebs)

I’m quite surprised! I hadn’t felt you guys were out of touch at all – your projects and tone continue to inspire and empower me around my own home. But I totally understand reaching a point like that and needing a break. Lots of love and support coming your way!!!

This. I agree completely. I was surprised Thursday to find so many people thought something was missing. John and Sherry… you do you for you, right! Love on Clara and Teddy and Burger. Hope you get the rest you need, even if we never “see each other” again on yhl. xoxo.

I agree! I have never felt disappointed by your posts! I do understand what you are feeling though. I used to be a dancer, and love love loved it in high school. It was my whole world. When I got to college it was still my passion, so I decided to major in dance. After two years of majoring in dance, it started to feel like a “job,” and it no longer felt like it was my whole world. It felt like work. Being graded and constructively criticized on something you do for fun takes much of the fun away. I hope you find a way to have fun with your blog again. And I promise to be here when you get back. So much love, support and energy sent through my computer to yours. xoxo

I felt similarly. While I wasn’t a fan of the weekly giveaways (3 regular blog posts, with one giveaway, and one day off felt “less” to me), I didn’t think your passion at all wavered. I am always happy to read these things…to hear what’s going on…

But only you see the broad scope of everything. And sometimes the naysayers can get in your head. And sometimes you just need a break.

Never apologize for wanting to better your stress levels, happiness, or goals. It’s your life and you’ve got one chance to live it.

Plus, with two totally adorable kiddos, a Burger, and a marriage… there’s already a lot there. Do come back….and do know you’ve got a talent that not many have. You can’t please everyone….but I think you’re pleasing a darn awful lot :) <3

Ditto. I always looked forward to checking you out every day and really didn’t feel the “off your game” thing. I enjoy all of your posts and have been very inspired by your projects, whether they were something I could or would do in my own home or not. Just the fact that you guys tried it gives many people license to try to do stuff themselves. You will be missed, but I really do hope you come back. After reading all of the comments last week, the thought did cross my mind as to whether you would call it quits, and I am really disappointed that you feel you need to step back from the blog. I really see your blog as a diary of your lives and we are just there as lucky observers, peeking through the windows. Never crossed my mind that we should have any say as to what you wanted to post or share. Bless you and your family and hope to see you again soon.

I feel the same way. I didn’t notice any lost inspiration and thought things were as good as before (just with fewer posts).

You guys and your blog have become a part of my daily routine as much as getting dressed or dropping my daughter off at daycare. Like many others, I’ll miss you for this next month and hope that you come back with a renewed joy for this way that you make a living.

Hear, hear Emily! I had just commented how the laundry series was my favorite content of the year! Much respect for you John and Sherry, and for your honesty — but let the record show I thought you were rockin’ this new lighter content schedule and as a reader I was happy as a clam. Enjoy the time away!

Agreed – nothing felt off for me. That being said, regardless of the reason, I totally understand and respect the need to do this.I will be in mourning and will miss your family while you are gone – but that is my problem not yours ;)
Enjoy!

I agree too! I thought you made a pretty seamless transition to cutting back your blogging schedule, still posting enough great material for me to enjoy almost daily. I will greatly miss your posts while you are gone, but good luck to your family while you explore life for a while. We all wish you much happiness in everything you do!

I agree a hundred thousand times over, I never felt like the quality of your posts declined in anyway, maybe fewer, but that actually made me more excited when there was a new one up! I didn’t comment when you asked for input b/c I didn’t think there was anything wrong, now I wish I had chimed in! though it sounds like there are myriad other factors in play too, and I can completely understand that. Just because its your dream job doesn’t mean its not work – usually its actually wayyy more work! for way less pay and recognition… sorry now were probably getting into my own issues :)
I wish you all the best, and am pretty sure the two of you will rock out with your socks out at anything you do!!

I am soooo on this train. I really still enjoyed all the posts you guys were putting out. I had managed my expectations not to expect them every day, but I was excited to see how the laundry room was coming along. The quality from this blog (in the writing, the sharing, and the results of your labor) were SO FAR ABOVE any other blog that I never thought to ask for more. I consider it the best of the best – even while you guys were having second thoughts.

I hope you guys recharge during this break. I personally cannot imagine putting myself out there into the blog world and hearing peoples anonymous negative feedback. I don’t even know how to tell you how good of a job you do. It’s your work ethic and business sense and ability to project a positive attitude that inspires me most of all.

Take care of yourself. Ignore the haters. Embrace your awesomeness. I really hope to see you soon.

I agree with all these comments, I never noticed anything off. I’ve been checking your blog daily since I first found it many years ago, you’ve always amazed me with how much you were able to accomplish. I selfishly hope we get to see more of you, but I also wish the best for you and your family!

I feel the same. There’s never been a time that I didn’t enjoy your posts. Thanks for creating such a fun site. I hope for my own sake that you decide to continue, even if you don’t post as often. I’d still love to see your house evolve-I get a lot of motivation for my own home from you guys!

Goodness! I am a relatively new reader, but I love the blog and I thought the transition to a new, lighter schedule was great. I actually enjoy fewer fluff posts in favor of the detailed ones we’ve been getting lately.

You guys keep it “realer” than 99% of the Internet. Please don’t disappear for good. :(

I agree with Emily. What they should have done is to ask the regular commentors or people they interact with their “true” feelings about the blog. Negative people tend to only speak up when given a chance to be negative. Growth and change should’ve been expected as it is in “real” life.

Totally agree! I love the technical posts too, very helpful!
The best to you both, don’t let haters get you down….. People will run your life if they can, so don’t let them. Enjoy your break and then come back with a vengeance!

I’m with Sarah (Sep 9 @ 1:33pm). THIS. Thank you so much for everything you have shared, for your generosity and integrity. I’m really gonna miss you guys.

I don’t really follow any other home/DIY blogs because I found yours first (lo these many years ago) and after that, nothing else I tried ever measured up! Like so many others are saying, I’m one of the silent majority who rarely comments, and I’m sorry I never told you how great you are before.

I really hope you find your way back to blogging, somehow (even if the terms are different), because you’re wonderful at it. But my own painful life experiences have taught me that being good at something — or having other people think you are — isn’t always enough to sustain you. So mostly I hope you relish this break, and that it helps you find your way *forward*, wherever that leads.

I completely agree with Jen. I understand your need to step away and regroup but I sincerely hope this isn’t goodbye forever! Your blog is a bright spot and the blog world would be a sad place without you! Enjoy your time away and I hope to see you soon. You will be missed!

FTR: I never felt disappointed! Lives are busy, and despite how the blog fared in the meantime, you still need to have them. Kudos to you for recognizing priorities. Selfishly, I hope you’ll be back at it soon, but the spark needs to be there. Enjoy — your true fans love and appreciate you right back.

Wow, what a big decision that must have been for you. I’ll miss reading your posts; they’ve been a huge catalyst for me in our own home. I hope the break is what you need. In the interest of not cyber-stalking you, could you clarify one thing? I receive email updates from you guys on new posts; will an email hit my account when and if you return to blogging? Thanks for all the work you’ve put in, congrats on all the amazing things you’ve accomplished, and best of luck in getting back to a place of joy and excitement (whatever that means for you). Lots of good wishes to you :)

Well, I will miss your posts but am hopeful that you will work everything out and get back to a happy place with your family and your careers. Lots of love and luck to your family an I hope you “see” you soon.

I’ve never commented before but just wanted to say that I love you guys. You’ve brought me much joy and inspiration for so many years. Go with your gut and great things will happen. If they include all of us, great. If not, that’s okay, too. Keep sharing your joy however you see fit!!

I agree!! I have been following your blog ever since your very first house, long before Clara, and while I still love your blog and never felt you weren’t up to par, I guess I could see that there wasn’t quite so much JOY being shared with the posts… it didn’t quite feel like YOU had time to enjoy your house or renovations! I hope you follow your passion and I will be excited if there was any way for us to follow you as you do so.

I don’t usually post either, but my huge fear is that this will be my last chance. I’ve tried other blogs, but have never been able to truly follow them due to their posts being sponsored or the tone seeming fake. You guys, on the other hand, have always felt real. Your insistence on true DIY that includes purchasing your own materials is so incredibly refreshing! The budget break downs were the most exciting part of a project because it became attainable to anyone. I will mostly miss you guys on Instagram – you and Katie Bowers are my favorite people to follow. Mainly, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for always being honest, sharing your precious family with all of us, and representing Richmond oh so very well! Enjoy your time off. I, and countless other people, will be here when/if you get back!

My heart breaks a little for you guys that you are going through this. You’ve been great motivation and inspiration for me for many years now!! I hope this break gives you time to reflect and get re-energized. Ctrl+Alt+Delete. Don’t erase what you’ve done in the past, but restart and see if that helps give you new direction!

I have many blogs bookmarked – but your blog is by far and away my favorite – and I’ll tell you why.
1 – love your regular posting. I get to work in the morning, and know that by approximately 9 am CT – you will post. Its nice to have a little YHL to read during my coffee break! Sometimes its later, but you are the only blog that posts regularly, which is great!
2 – I love the John perspective. Don’t get me wrong Sherry, I love when you write, I just find it refreshing to have a husband’s perspective. John reminds me alot of my husband who is also very DIY and hands on, and realizes that he can be creative and have an opinion on design too!

Hugs to you both, and smooches to Clara and Teddy (and Burger too!) Enjoy this little break and hope it gives you some new perspective. Xoxo

Through tears, I am so happy you have made this hard decision and let us know that you, too, felt “off.” Best wishes, prayers, and love for your next steps. Hoping you find that happy place again. Your family deserves it!

This makes me so sad. I love this blog, and come here regularly for everything – your family updates, technical blog posts, short/crafty blog posts, design and storage ideas. You guys have such an incredible eye for design. However, I completely understand and respect your decision. Hopefully, time away will give you a new prospective and zest for something you are truly talented at doing. Here’s hoping that less pressure sparks a renewed love for what you do best.

I’d love to have you back. I look forward to your posts, no matter what they are, but I also am a firm believer in balance and doing what you need to do and what your heart tells you. I am inspired by the work you do and love your taste.

WOWZA! I did not see that coming. I’m going to go through all the stages of grief and probably go through them twice. i totally understand that you need some space to figure out the next chapter. One option is that you stop blogging possibly. UGH. That would be difficult to accept. Another otpion is that your vigor and vibrancy is back anew. Terrific! Or, lots of options in between. You have the best DIY Blog there is, you built it yourselves, you’ve done it yourself in 3 homes, you’ve exceeded expectations and built a man base into the millions. There’s nothing to cry about. You’re bomb diggity bae. Always and forever. I’ll miss YHL while you’re on hiatus (but I’ll access the archives for sure. Love, ShellyP

this is my sentiment as well. WOW. this is sort of my jumping point for blogs (start with YHL for the day, and hit the other ones). my day just changed a bit! :) no biggie, but i love the ‘voice’ of this blog. funny puns, and etc. totally my jam.

Although I might have sensed it coming, I echo ShellyP’s grief. I will seriously miss you guys, but I am seriously deeply happy for you to make that kind of honest choice. When/if you come back to this work LET US KNOW.

Truly a class act, from the start to now. And you’ll probably break all kinds of records doing whatever it is you do next.

No need to feel any guilt about it. I do believe everything happens for a reason. Looking forward to the next chapter. You will always have readers. I seriously feel the intense comments last week reflect what the minority of people feel. The majority of us support you 100%.

Good for you guys. You’ve been at this for so long, you deserve a much needed big breath. I’ll be sad not to read your posts, but I applaud you in your decision. Cheers to a month off with your family! … but please return so I can see your Halloween costumes. :)

Thank you for your heartfelt note. I hope you know that you’re a tremendous part of your readers’ lives as well. It’s incredibly sad to see you go (even if it’s for a month), so I hope you’ll come back to this blog eventually. In the mean time, enjoy this next phase/break! Best wishes!

Good for you! As much as I love reading this blog every day, I can only imagine that it can be hard on you all, that it must sometimes take more than it gives. I wish you a happy, rejuvenating break and can’t wait to see you back in whatever capacity works best for your family.

Wow. I’ve often wondered how long the blog could continue with upgrades to the home you live in. While I’ll miss reading your blog daily, I completely understand. Ignore the people who naysay or are negative. This is your lives and you must do what’s best for the 5 of you. Good luck and I hope to see you back.

I’ll miss you guys. Even if you decide to scale way back, even if its just the occasional post about family life, I’ll be here. I’ve enjoyed watching you guys grow the past few years. Do what’s best for you.

Good for you guys. Ultimately, this blog doesn’t matter nearly as much as the happiness and well being of your family. Life happens in seasons, and while it’d be great for us if you continued this, maybe this has been just an amazing season for everyone. Enjoy the time away, and hopefully it brings clarity! (This from someone who moved from Nashville to NYC last year for a moment of clarity, and now can’t wait to get back to Nashville). Nothing but good thoughts going your way!

I agree with this. Having read you from the time in your first house I have loved your blog and your “real-deal” personalities. But as one who has 2 kids and has re-evaluated work and life decisions for the betterment of our family, I can appreciate this decision. I pray clear discernment for you and peace when you have come to that point. Selfishly, I would love to see you guys back, in any sized capacity but know that it is not about us. Ultimately it is about your own lives and what is best for your family. Cheers!

Be easy on yourselves. During this time you have added 2 kiddos to the mix and that will make anyone reevaluate the way you live your lives. Don’t feel bad for doing so. We all do it, just not as publicly as you because of the blog. Your blog is great and so are your ideas and your love of DIY. Stay true to yourselves and your kiddos. I’ll be back!

You guys are awesome and adorable and I love your integrity. With that said, I was hoping you’d get your ju-ju back with some out of the house type blogs. Places visited. Houses photographed. You know…mix and mingle with other creative people to get the juices goin’. You guys were getting kinda house bound. I liked the blogs where you went shopping and thrifting or got ice cream. I liked seeing what was on the shelves and what was in your shopping cart.
Anyway, take care and enjoy your break. :-)

I agree. We’re renovating and although we love our house and enjoy the work, sometimes we feel trapped by it, and I can’t imagine doing it as a full-time job! If you can, how about a bit of travel? You’ve mentioned that you’ve never been to Europe before. Price and weather-wise, this is an ideal time to go. Maybe it’s time to get some really fresh perspective. (I know that sounds nutso with a baby and preschooler, but you’d be surprised. You can do anything as long as you have a babycarrier. In fact I could suggest some itineraries if you like).

Whatever you do, be well, and be yourselves.

XXX from a reader who once found this blog called TYH, and the rest is history.

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty. You don’t owe us anything – we’re all adults and everyone needs to just understand that things change. I NEVER expected your blog to stay the same as it was 5 years ago. You’re growing personally and professionally, and in a very public forum, and that will most certainly and obviously come through on your blog. Evolution and change is inevitable and is a wonderful gift!

You guys do what you need to do. We’ll survive. :) I wish you guys luck and I hope you can enjoy your time off. Life is short!!

They shouldn’t have to feel guilty about not sharing every detail of their lives with us. The anger and rudeness about when Sheri didn’t tell us exactly the moment she found out she was pregnant comes to mind. I get it though. They feel like or probably do need to keep their readers happy in order to keep them coming back and generating money for their family. Blogging for a job vs. for fun definitely opens up a whole other can of worms. I hope they can find a renewed vigor and balance in their lives and at the same time hope that their readers can understand in the future, if there is one, that we don’t need to know every single detail of their lives. It creates stress for them! We need to find that balance between knowing just enough about their personal lives and and knowing too much that they shouldn’t have to share with us to keep us happy.

Totally agree. I’ve never posted a comment on here, but I’ve been reading for years. You have been incredibly generous, sharing your lives with all of us, and I have enjoyed it so much. I for one both have enjoyed the laundry room project and I appreciate the giveaways (and never thought that you were getting a kickback from them). And I think sometimes people ask too much of you. Anyway, you have great values about this blog, and about your life. There’s no way these same values won’t lead you in a positive direction. Wishing you and your family the best — you have genuinely made an impact on my life and I am grateful!

I didn’t get a chance to chime in when you asked for feedback, but would sum up my feelings by what Moriya commented. I have been following you for almost 6 years, and never expected things to stay the same for your awesome, well-earned success of a blog (my life and career certainly hasn’t!).

For what it’s worth, I’m sure you pros know this much better than I do, but life marches on and the larger the audience the more opinions about the content. All that matters at the end of the day is that you both love what you do and you feel you do it well. I hope you know that we readers feel how generous you have been with us. I still love this blog and as much as reader might have suggestions for it, at the end of the day I just want it to exist and cover things you all are doing.

I was very surprised to read this post today, but also understand because you need to do what you need to do (we all do!). I truly, truly hope to see this blog continue — if that is what you want — and that you enjoy this week earned vacation, which is how I am choosing to think of it.

I think Moriya says it well. I’m an older reader who has worked in the design industry and has followed you almost from the beginning. When you love your work, it’s not a job, it’s easy to get up in the morning and face the world. When the bloom fades it can become a grind. Most people stay in a job for 4.5 years. You’ve written this blog for 7 years and we’ve all been the beneficiaries. I’ve loved your fresh approach and style. I’ve enjoyed watching your family grow. I think it’s amazing where this blog has taken you and the opportunities you’ve had because of it. Don’t look back 10 years from now and have regrets: regrets you didn’t follow your hearts, regrets you didn’t follow up on other opportunities and perhaps regrets you slogged along when your heart wasn’t in it. The only thing you owe us is to “seize the day”. And as always you’ll inspire us to seize ours.

Yes! It is entirely unreasonable to expect your blog to stay the same while your personal lives completely change. Give yourselves some grace. Most of us readers have made career moves as our families change, and you both certainly get to do the same.

Agree, agree, agree. You owe us nothing. Even though my heart sank when I read this post, I get if. I love your blog and have looked forward to it ever since I first happened upon it. I hope you guys are able to rest and recharge and I’ll be here waiting when you return.

As an older reader who has never posted on any blog, I now feel compelled to say how much I’ve loved YHL over the years. It is fun to see the various projects progressing, and its a real joy to share in your family’s life.

While I’m selfishly hoping you’ll come back, I trust that you’ll make the right choice for you. Best wishes Petersiks!

Ditto what all the positive people said…forget the negatives…you all don’t owe us anything. Sounds like nearly every person who commented LOVES you all like family and therefore, we get it, we understand, we will survive!

P.S.
Can someone please tell me, who gripes about giveaways?!?!???! Hellllooooooooo???
^^^^^^THAT! My tool nerd son just bought a fixer-upper and I was sad that I didn’t win the outdoor tool assortment for him! Had to go buy a hedge-trimmer as a housewarming gift because the previous owners were nuts. with. shrubs.

Loyal reader since the early days here… let’s call this a sabbatical. I hope you will be back. You guys and Bower Power are my favorite design/personal blogs. I hope you get your groove back and that you can come back and be yourselves again.

I’m with Adreienne as well – let’s call this a sabbatical. I hope you come back but if you don’t and move on to new adventures, maybe you’ll share those once in a while? Either way, enjoy this time away and doing things just for you – not for the blog. I’ve been in an apathetic state myself for some time and hope it too passes.
Best of luck Petersiks!

Agreed! Feeling super bummed, but it’s fully understandable. Hoping you’ll come back renewed from your “sabbatical”, but if not, or with a completely different format (that’s allowed, ya know ;-)), we’re happy for you guys. Thank you for letting us be a part of your family for all these years.

I think the idea of a sabbatical is perfect, and makes complete sense. And it’s not so unusual – many bloggers do it in August anyway, you guys are long overdue. I agree with Adrienne, you and the Bowers are the best out there! Come back recharged and doing karate kicks of inspiration.

I completely agree. I think that every person should be able to have a sabbatical. I love my job, but for whatever reason, around the 7 year mark I really began to struggle and lost my joy for what I was doing. I pushed through, and found a new balance, but looking back I really wish I could have afforded to take some time to reflect and figure things out better at that point. I recently took an E-Course from Braid Creative on Personal Branding and really benefited from it. I’ve read Kathleen’s blog for a long time and she is really on point about finding a balance between work + life.

Honestly, I hope the biggest thing you take out of this is that you have do to what works for YOU. Yes, you are a business. But there are always going to be people who love what you do and hate what you do, and everyone in between. You have to find something that works for you that you feel will be successful and let the rest go.