Day Sixty Seven

Call me crazy, but my vagina is jealous of my mouth right now. Why? Because D. wasn't able to finish with my lady bits. But as soon as I gave him oral, he climaxed. And now my hoo-ha is getting a complex.

And this isn't the first time I've felt this way. Sometimes I think that if it were up to D. he'd have all oral all the time. It's not that he doesn't enjoy regular sex, but I think he likes a good beej more. And I'm fine mixing it up (I am a Cosmo reader, after all!), but today I felt like he didn't even want to be having sex.

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I'll tell you all what happened and you can let me know what you think...

We decided to unleash The Dragon (sorry for the Sisqo reference, but, uh how could I not?). As you know, I don't love to start a sex session with any form of doggy-style—am I the only one who finds it really uncomfortable?—so we got into the groove with missionary. From the get-go, D. seemed unenthusiastic about it. Not a lot of noise, not a lot of grabbing.

We switched to The Dragon, in which I lay facedown with a pillow under my hips and D. enters me from behind. I quickly realized that two pillows made entry easier and the angle way better. The Kama Sutra says this position is "all about you, you, you" and I can vouch for that. I had a crazy quick (though not crazy strong) G-spot orgasm.

We kept going at it for a few minutes, but D. was so uninvolved that I soon realized we were going to have to switch it up and get into a position that allowed it be "all about him, him, him". In other words, one that wouldn't require much work from him. Girl on top. We went at that for a few minutes. And nothing. Normally there's sort of a crescendo of pleasure. As in, I can tell that D.'s getting more and more into it with each passing minute.

So I switched it up again and broke out the big guns. Reverse cowgirl. Still nothing.

I don't know if you've ever been in this situation, but it can be quite the confidence blow when you're making a big effort and not getting much of a response. I'm not even talking about climax. I'm just talking about some sign that he's enjoying it. And I'd never want him to fake it, but it was almost as if he didn't like it at all.

So I accepted my fate, pulled away, and went down on him.

I thought it would take a little while since D. was so obviously not close. But no. He came in something like 15 seconds.

I was torn. On one hand, of course I love making him feel good. On the other hand, it had to make me wonder why he hadn't enjoyed all of the non-mouth action.

But I didn't bring it up because I want to get your take first.

Has this ever happened to you? If it starts to become a pattern, do you think it's a problem? Am I overthinking this or can you understand why my hoo-ha is a little offended? And lastly, do you ever go down on your guy after sex or does it gross you out a little?