It's no secret that marriage has been in decline in America, but most people don't realize how quickly it has been crumbling. The numbers are staggering and the sea change in attitude that has gone along with them would shock previous generations of Americans.

"In 1960, two-thirds (68%) of all twenty-somethings were married. In 2008, just 26% were.""To get a sense of how different attitudes were in the 1960s, perhaps this will do it. (M)arried women were asked, In your opinion, do you think it is all right for a woman to have sexual relations before marriage with a man she knows she is going to marry? ...Eighty-six percent said no."

According to the Index of Leading Cultural Indicators, children from single-parent families account for 63 percent of all youth suicides, 70 percent of all teenage pregnancies, 71 percent of all adolescent chemical/substance abuse, 80 percent of all prison inmates, and 90 percent of all homeless and runaway children.

A study cited in the Village Voice produced similar numbers. It found that children brought up in single-mother homes are five times more likely to commit suicide, nine times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape (for the boys), 20 times more likely to end up in prison, and 32 times more likely to run away from home.

There are no easy fixes for this problem, but before we can even begin to consider solutions, we need to get a better understanding of what has gone wrong. Why is marriage collapsing in America? What are the root causes of the phenomenon? If studies show that married couples are happier, more financially secure and generally better off across just about every variable you can imagine, why are there so many people who are reluctant to get married?

1) The Sexual Revolution: There have always been people who've had sex outside of marriage, but there was a time when that was widely considered shameful. Fifty years ago, a book like The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On would have been considered nothing more than obvious common sense. Today, if you write a book like that, you'll end up on TV facing hosts who can't believe there's anyone left who believes in not having sex before marriage. In other words, the promise of easy access to sex used to be a big reason to get married. These days? Fifty nine percent of people polled at MSN Dating said they would have sex within the first three dates and less than 7% said they would wait until marriage.

2) The Inability Of Many Poor Men To Support A Family: There was a time in America where a hard working man with a high school degree and limited skills could still make enough money to support himself, a wife and a child or two. Granted, they might have had to scrape by, but they were able to make it. Unfortunately, as automation and technology have replaced some of those jobs and others have moved overseas to workers in China and India, the economic prospects for many men in this group have plunged. What that means as a practical matter is that a lot of men who would have been married and providing for a family in a previous era are now single and can barely afford to take care of themselves.

3) A "Marrying Up" Gap: Women have always been inclined to "marry up." In a world where female incomes have dramatically increased and there have been more women than men getting college degrees for the last twenty years, that means many ladies believe they have a much smaller pool of potentially acceptable mates than ever before. The male CEO may be content to marry the pretty maid who wants to take care of him, but a female CEO probably isn't going to marry a butler.

4) No Fault Divorce: When Ronald Reagan was governor of California, he signed the nation's first "no fault" divorce bill into law. Later on, Reagan called that act his "greatest regret." It should have been because it led to those laws, which made divorce much easier to get, spreading across the country. As a result, between 1960 and 1980, the divorce rate in America more than doubled. Happily, the numbers have since stabilized, but they ended up almost twice as high as they were before. The more divorces there are, the less attractive marriage becomes because it increases the risk factor. "No fault" or not, divorce is usually a devastating process for everyone involved and the more likely marriages are to end in divorce, the less likely people will be to want to get married in the first place.

5) Increased Economic Options For Women: There was a time when the surest path to economic security for women was to get married. Today, that's not necessarily true. Women on the low end of the pay scale can have the government step in to pay many of their bills. Women with college degrees or in demand skills can make just as much as a man if they're willing to put in the same hours. Those additional economic options make marriage -- and staying in a difficult marriage -- less attractive to women.

6) Marriage has become a much less attractive option for men: There was a time when the man was expected to provide for his wife and kids and in return, he was treated as the king of the castle. Now, men are often treated more like partners than kings. Moreover, if there's a divorce, men know they may not be treated fairly by the court system. Almost every man knows a guy who has had access to his child used as a bargaining chip, who has to pay Draconian child support payments or who has otherwise been generally treated unfairly because of his gender, not the merits. No man wants to end up as the guy paying a huge chunk of his income to a woman who broke his heart while he wonders if he'll be allowed to have access to his own child.

7) Children have become more of an economic hindrance than a help: There was a time when having children was essentially an insurance policy. If you became disabled or too old to work, your kids took care of you. Today, the government fulfills that role. Additionally, the cost of raising a child has skyrocketed. You'll now have to take $235,000 out of your wallet to raise a kid to 17 -- and that doesn't even include college costs. While a married couple can bear this expense much more easily than a single parent, as a practical matter what it means is that less Americans are having children. If you take away the need to have a partner in raising a child, you've removed one of the biggest reasons for marriage to exist in the first place.

OTOH, look at the tables for almost any gummint freebie. The bennies go up with the number of dependents. So it pays to have children out of wedlock and claim to be unable to afford them. Two different names means two different benefit flows.

Marriage is falling apart because virtually every new so-called hip and exciting TV program today has a queer in it, a slut/whore, two people living together without benefit of marriage, complicated with a pattern of the usual actor diversity-inclusion standards now the network norm.

Religion, marriage, morals are regularly ridiculed for the hip characters trying to ‘hook up’ their queer friend with some other queer - never dwelling on any of the buggering or other unnatural acts that accompany such.

These contrarian lifestyles have been so homogenized, so diluted, so milquetoasted, I’ll bet you a normal 8 year old who’s been told ‘gay marriage’ is a right couldn’t tell you what these ‘gays’ actually physically do to ‘consecrate’ their unions. It is just sick sick sick perverted degeneration gussied up with network bandaid.

Unfortunately, as automation and technology have replaced some of those jobs and others have moved overseas to workers in China and India, the economic prospects for many men in this group have plunged.

Yes definitely one of the prime reasons for the decline in marriage is the MEDIA.

I do not watch any of the current TV shows except a few police sagas. Only others I watch are the old westerns, notably The Rifleman and Have Gun Will Travel.

Reading today in our local rag, a Jax kindergarten teacher was fired for failing to properly supervise her classroom. Seems while she was away from keeping an eye on her charges, one male was giving another a BJ. I had to re read it twice to make sure I had it correct. Now then, where does one suppose one picked up that idea? So, they fire the teacher, frankly I would have melted down the kids and their parents, if they could be found.

I'd say the #1 reason why marriage is falling apart in America is that it has become a government-managed process rather than a real institution. As we conservatives all know, governments have a way of fouling up everything they get their hands on -- and marriage is no different.

What makes this so comical is that "same-sex marriage" has been front and center in the national spotlight even as "heterosexual marriage" is sliding into irrelevancy. To me, this would be the equivalent of the NAACP clamoring for segregated areas for black passengers at the back of all public buses. LOL.

It’s falling apart because it’s very legally disadvantageous to men. The deck is so heavily stacked in favor of women that it’s tantamount to involuntary indentured servitude for a term triple or more in comparison to the term of indenture for actual indentured servants historically.

And, men can lose everything they have on a whim, in addition to having their potential future earnings attached, and I say potential because actual future earnings have no bearing on the amount deemed due, unless earnings increase, then hold onto your hat because here comes babymama demanding more.

Out of work, sick? Too bad, off to debtor’s prison you go if you don’t pay tribute to the all-mighty babymama who impoverished you, alienated your children from you and owns a high percentage of your income for years to come.

After a while, when both parents work they have am LLP, not a family. It used to be the man worked, came home, and was doted on by his wife. Now they both come home exhausted, take over from the REAL parent — the nanny — and exchange a few grunts about work.

That isn’t a marriage.

Over time, the lack of intimacy leads to end of the family.

What is sad is when you do the math, 2 incomes doesn’t net very much money at all. Not worth ruining your family.

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posted on 04/06/2013 7:59:39 AM PDT
by freedumb2003
(LBJ declared war on poverty and lost. Barack Obama declared war on prosperity and won. /csmusaret)

I have recently read 2 books written by gays - very good writers, I might add. The gist of it is that the average American has no idea that gays DO NOT have the ability to commit to one man (this applies to most of them, 90% or so)

Part of the personality disorder causes the “chase” to be paramount. THe ones in so called committed relationships usually have an agreement that at least one is cruising/hooking up. This mindset is spreading to the heterosexual population too.

I have 3 20 something daughters and I can tell you their peers are mostly NOT getting married or are having baby daddies outside of marriage. Thank God none of the daughters are buying into it. Still, the hooking up lifestyle is the norm (gay or not) and I don’t think the so called moral majority (now minority thanks to TV as you point out) are even aware of how bad it actually is.

A whole generation of young people will look back someday and notice they had no real childhood, no real innocent childhood sweethearts, no real romances-just meaningless hookups and nothing to have fond memories about....

I think #6 is the big one. Guys see other guys financially destroyed by divorce, and their kids alienated from them. Most of the time, the guy didn't do anything other than not being fulfilling or exciting any more.

I've seen many of my friends dumped by their wives when they found boyfriends they considered less boring or more prosperous.

That, combined with the ability to get sex without marriage, makes marriage unattractive to men with options.

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posted on 04/06/2013 8:18:58 AM PDT
by PapaBear3625
(You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)

I was recently looking at houses in a city on the metro north train line out of Manhattan. This house was an incubator for Mexican anchor babies. There were at least 25 children living there from 6 months to roughly 5. I cannot describe to you how shocked I was. I am fairly sure that all of the maternity costs were paid for by US taxpayers at some type of maternity clinic.

The demise of this county has already happened. Only fools are maintaining any illusions (republican party?? Joke!!)

"All I had to do was have a kid. I never have to worry about a man or a job for the rest of my life. The more kids I have, the more money I get on my EBT card. I don't even have to raise those kids myself. The state does it for me.

Now, excuse me. I have to go get my nails done. I have a date tonight."

“Its falling apart because its very legally disadvantageous to men. The deck is so heavily stacked in favor of women that its tantamount to involuntary indentured servitude for a term triple or more in comparison to the term of indenture for actual indentured servants historically.”

We are already indentured servants on our jobs. They have taken Christmas Eve, New Year’s Eve, and Good Friday away as holidays to make us work. Wages and benefits stink, and it’s hard to find a job at all. Who would want to face the crapshoot marriage has become in their private lives and add to our misery? And I’ve been married almost 36 years.

The government wrecked marriage and the courts and society killed it off.

Western Civilization is collapsing. A collapse of necessity involves all institutions social, political, economic, the arts etc. Not surprising as once free of the restraints imposed by giving up bachelorhood one is free to seek ever more pleasure and power. The latter two being the very essence of individualism in the 21st century.

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posted on 04/06/2013 8:37:52 AM PDT
by AEMILIUS PAULUS
(It is a shame that when these people give a riot)

Happily divorced for 10 years. Why own when you can lease skilled workers for less money?

No one has to buy the cow today. There's free milk everywhere. Because of the morning after pill, a man can ride 'em hard, put them away wet, and move on to the next critter. Easy women are a dime a dozen. They're disposable. Use 'em, and then throw 'em away!

We are living in a culture of women being tramps and men just being sorry guys (not all-the good people keeps things going as best as they can. Imo) because the left has made sure they take morality out of our society. One day, all of this will come tumbling down. We are already heading right to that with sodomy being protected and seeing no respect for the mom and dad relationship and that importance to a small child. The government punishing those who marry and giving to those who just have dependents. Yeah, it's a mess. The liberals did this as the republicans went along or as they were off running weak. Man did this as it has been predicted would happen. All of those people in power are the worse bunch of so called leaders that our nation has had to endure. I can't think of hardly any of them that I do have respect for. To see them speak, to the citizens, is such a let down because they show no guidance and inspiration. It's like they know the best..and it comes across as they must control us ..not making sure the government is not over stepping. They only want to grow it more into our lives. They're doing activities and over reaches like we read about in books of earlier civilizations. I wonder often, why we have the rebellion 60's movement in charge. They are the last group that needs this kind of power.

"With the transfer of the means of production into common ownership, the single family ceases to be the economic unit of society....The care and education of the children becomes a public affair; society looks after all children alike, whither they are legitimate or not."

Frederick Engels

Libtard government policies that cause the collapse of marriage plus homo marriage are causing Engels' prediction to be coming true, which is their goal anyway. When the government raises all children equally, that is the way to achieve their goal of equality of opportunity.

Not only the programs, but also the commercials. Almost every commercial shows a happy single mother and her children with no father in evidence.

I saw a commercial for Sprint a while ago where this hot girl gets on a lounger next to a guy and says something like she loves her I-Pad on Sprint and he says "yeah so does my husband". They must have gotten many e-mails like mine because I never saw the commercial again.

The reason that Gay marriage has gotten so much traction is that traditional marriage has become de-linked from child-rearing already. IOW’s society no longer accepts the basic assumption of the family unit based on a married couple. So why not Gay marriage? (or any other alternate interpretations of the institution?)

I think the hip-gay on the hit TV sitcom is more a symptom of family decline than an underlying cause. But going forward you might be more right. Everything is a feed-back loop.

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posted on 04/06/2013 9:12:14 AM PDT
by Tallguy
(Hunkered down in Pennsylvania.)

We are done. Christianity attempted to raise women to equal status. Even if a person is not Christian, that capital rode for many centuries for the benefit of many, even if they had not clue as to why.

Get rid of the "Set up for life" social programs, and people will start needing and wanting each other again. Neighbors will start needing neighbors again. Nation and nation, kingdom and kingdom will start working together again.

The politicians, who like playing God, have sold the people of the world a lie for the sake of their own power and privilege (and their tower of socialist Babble is just about ready to fall).

We have 6 children 3 boys and 3 girls.Nobody was allowed to move in with someone.If you did you could leave your partner at home because they were not welcomed in my house.They also knew to marry in their faith and commit to it.As a family we back them up and we all help.If you have children we help watch them.If you buy a house do it based on one salary.The kids all stuck to it.Biggest thing is your faith.Go to church.I have a 30 year old daughter,most of her friends live together.She is married with a child.Her friends say they are afraid to have children.I can’t figure it out.

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