Sudden Repulsion Syndrome: Is this the reason you’re suddenly over your ex?

Have you heard of Sudden Repulsion Syndrome? Well it’s a new
one on us too, but it’s pretty intriguing.

It’s what happens when a small, seemingly insignificant
behaviour puts an abrupt end to your relationship. Everything is absolutely
fine with you and your partner, then you see him picking his nose and eating it,
and all of a sudden, every warm, fuzzy feeling you’ve ever had about it
evaporates, your heart turns to stone, you never want to clap eyes on him ever
again. It’s over. For ever. No going back.

One blogger
writes: ‘I once had a boyfriend who I was very into for the whole year we
dated. I thought he was amazing, hilarious, smart. One day we were at a wedding for
one of his friends. I asked him to dance and he refused...for the entire night.
We just sat at the table doing nothing while everyone else was having a
wonderful time. I looked over at him and suddenly realised he was the worst. I
could barely stand to look at him. I broke up with him a week later. He went
from the centre of my world to nothing after one night.’

Another blogger details her
own brushes with SRS: ‘I recently dated a guy named Dan, a graphic
designer. It was love at first swipe. He was perfect. I thought about him day
and night. I checked my phone 30 times an hour. My stomach was so full of
butterflies, I couldn’t eat. He put his arm around me in a bodega, and suddenly
all the sappy poetry and romantic literature I’d ever read no longer seemed
embarrassing. Then, 10 days into our affair, I woke up and...those old sheets
tacked to his windows as makeshift curtains? And the fact that he owned no books?
I looked at Dan and felt an overwhelming nausea. Not only did I never want to
see him again, but I suddenly couldn’t remember why I’d ever liked him to begin
with.’

Urban dictionary describes Sudden Repulsion Syndrome as: ‘A
condition many people experience after dating an individual for a short amount
of time. The individual is probably polite, nice, and generally pleasant to be
around, but one day, you suddenly find yourself disgusted by his or her
appearance. You cannot ever see yourself establishing a physical relationship
with this individual. The consequence of SRS is that you end up feeling as
though you must break it off immediately.’

There are many theories
about why we experience SRS. One of the more common is that it’s a subconscious
signal that you two aren’t compatible and that you should get out now to avoid
wasting time. ‘Sometimes, our subconscious can pick up something that
our regular minds can’t…and it could be our subconscious mind’s way of telling
us to leave before it’s too late,’ reports Rebel Circus.

Or, as one blogger
puts it: ‘Sometimes our bodies know something is off before our brains fully
decode what's happening. So much goes into physical and emotional
attraction. Our brains can wind up foggy, drowning in pheromones and the desire
to find someone so badly that we overlook glaring red flags. Sudden Repulsion
Syndrome may seem like it’s coming out of nowhere and throw you off-kilter, but
it’s a self-preservation tactic your body has initiated to get you away from
this person.’

So the motto is, listen to your gut. And be careful the next
time you blow your nose in front of someone you’re dating.

Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.