Thanks for the breakdown gala girl, just seeing your reply now. While ECP is still an option, I don't feel like its for me to even suggest, not my body and all, and H probably wouldbt go for it. She wants his babies. We are all going to talk tonight when the kids are asleep and they get home from work. I don't know how productive it will be, but maybe i will try writing some things down so I don't lose control of my emotions and say things that I don't mea. Or are counterproductive. Deep breaths.