Saturday, 18 April 2015

I enjoyed having coffee with three other lovely lupies from the Ipswich area, and as a special treat, our local Mayor Paul Pisasale dropped by for a while.

We're very fortunate in Ipswich, our local mayor is interested in pretty much everything that happens here. He also has family links to lupus, and so understands our situation more than many other people might.

Paul's visit left us with some interesting questions to think about. He raised the topic of projects we might want to do and whether he could help us get funding.

That threw me for a moment. The Lupus Association Queensland isn't a formal body, we don't have a bank account, and we don't really do anything except get together for coffee.

That's how the parent group in Brisbane still functions, and we've only got together twice here, and so far it's what we've done.

Don't get me wrong. That's a lot. Just being with other people who understand the challenges of everyday life, of having a group that makes me feel "normal" is wonderful.

But here we were today, enjoying the feeling of a group that we could be the "normal" members of, when the Mayor himself suggested there could be money available for a worthwhile project.

It got us thinking and talking.

After a few jokes about asking the mayor to pay for our lunch, a very good idea started to take shape.

There's a natural spa not far from Ipswich. What if we organised a weekend? Lupies could take our sore joints there, and we could get a specialist pain doctor to come and talk to us about pain management. I thought about it later and thought maybe a physiotherapist could come and help us with exercise.

It's an exciting idea. I'm sure many other exciting ideas will come up over our next couple of get-togethers. And then at least one of us will need to find the brain power and energy to act on some of those ideas.

I've often wondered what I would do if I had money for lupus projects, never imagining that I would actually have any because, really, I don't have the energy or cognitive function for fundraising.

Today we were brainstorming, daydreaming, thinking of all the possible or nearly possible things we could do. It was exciting. Some of it may actually happen. Our mayor's the kind of person who knows all about how to make things happen, so there's real possibilities here.

So what would you do, if you had a chance of funding something constructive for lupies in your area? What do you think would make a lasting, positive, difference?

Saturday, 11 April 2015

OK, I've posted about carpark vigilantes not all that long ago, but something really creepy's occurred to me.

See the links down in References? Click on the story about the prosthetic leg user. The person who left the note on her car said they had videoed her several times.

Now check the story about the man from Darwin with the heart problem. The person who left that really offensive note also said they'd taken a photo.

OK, so clearly any sense of privacy anyone thinks they have in our modern world is an illusion. Those of us who live most of our lives online were pretty much aware of this anyway.

But, at least in the case of the lady with the prosthetic leg, recording her had been something the person had done a number of times.

Not only had this person nothing better to do with his/her time, but was so obsessed with a disabled woman's parking habits as to be stalking her.

These photos and videos, if they exist, don't just document that disabled people are using disabled parking spaces (how shocking is that?) They raise a lot of questions about the people on the other side of the camera.

What is wrong with these people?

How do they have the time and energy to be policing other people's actions, when it's none of their business?

What makes them think they are so righteous that they can decide, without collecting any evidence, who is guilty or not guilty, of parking in the wrong place? And do they do the same thing for other imagined, or even real, violations? Do they video people who drive at 12km/h through the carpark that has a 10km/h limit? Do they give offensive letters to people who cross the street against the lights? Do they watch the parking spots reserved for parents with prams or for elderly people, and give out offensive notices to parents who have too few children or elderly people who don't look quite frail enough? Do they video the people who smoke under the "no smoking" sign outside the shopping centre? Do they take photos of people who take 11 items through the "10 items or less" checkout?

Why do they pick on people with disabilities? (Are fit, healthy, people too likely to fight back? Or maybe it's because it's not socially acceptable to pick on any other group of people.)

Are they just so petty, and so selfish, that they resent that something is reserved for someone other than them?

If these people did, in fact, turn their vidoes, photos, etc over to the police, would they be charged with stalking or harassment, or something? I certainly hope so. I'd love to be reading about carpark vigilantes being brought up before the courts and fined for their abusive and offensive behaviour, for their victimising of vulnerable people.

These vigilantes will say they can tell by looking whether a person is "disabled enough" to need the parking space. The lady in America only had one leg, the man in Darwin was going to go into heart failure if he exerted himself too much. Just how bloody disabled do you have to be for some people to think you deserve a parking space?

As I've said before, I've never had this problem. The worst I've encountered was someone parking so close behind my car that my son couldn't get my mobility scooter in the back. We've since had a bumper sticker made up asking people to please leave a little space, and so far that's been respected. (Maybe Ipswich is just a more understanding kind of city than some other places.)

But, I'm going to take a wild guess that for everyone whose story is heard, there's a lot of other people out there who have taken abuse because someone didn't see their disability.

I do know that a lot of people refuse to use disabled parking spaces because they're afraid of this kind of abuse. That means that the parking spaces are being under-used, and that people with chronic illnesses and other disabilities are putting extra stress on bodies that just don't need it. Some will not be able to go out often, because they use far too much precious energy walking further on the few times they do go out. If horrible people are causing that much fear in the disabled community, that is a serious problem.

Thursday, 9 April 2015

Where have I been? Well, mostly in the loo, and otherwise I've been on the couch, utterly exhausted, sleeping in front of the tv.

There's something really perverse about lupus. I've spent days and days hoping I have a really bad case of gastroenteritis, or maybe dysentery.

I've also been waiting for a retest on my latest bad liver function test. The result of the retest is that yes, it is improving, but still not great. (I was kind of expecting that, my liver function tests are always fluctuating.) There was just this nagging doubt that because I felt so incredibly sick, maybe this time it wasn't going to improve.

So that was my Easter. I didn't even get to church.

Of course, there's a glaringly obvious cause for my abdominal disturbance. I've been eating gluten. Not just sneaking a tiny bit now and then, but eating like a normal person. I keep saying I'm not celiac, just gluten intolerant. It won't kill me. Right now, it feels like it is killing me, which is probably a good reason to go back to my strict gluten-free diet.

Yes, I hear you yelling at your screen, "Who does she think she is, trying to get away with doing anything like a normal person?"
What can I say? I'll just put this sandwich down, and back away slowly.

(Oh, a little note to those people who choose not to eat gluten, even though they aren't celiac or gluten intolerant: Are you insane? Do you know how much I would like to be able just to eat anything I felt like without getting sick? Having said that, thank you for making gluten free products popular enough that I can get them easily.)

Saturday, 4 April 2015

I have one very bad habit. OK, I've probably got lots of bad habits. But I'm only going to tell you about one.

I bite off more than I can chew. I have a habit of starting to do things, that I just can't get finished, because I just don't have the energy.

By now, I should know my own limitations enough to know how much I really can and can't do.

I always want to do more that I know I can. So I frequently get started on projects I have no hope of ever

This post part of Wego Health's Health Activist Writers Month Challenge.Today's topic: What good habits, (health or otherwise,) do you
have? Do you have a routine that you follow
every morning? Are there any bad habits you
wish you could break? #HAWMC

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Friday, 3 April 2015

It's Good Friday. In the Christian faith, it's a time to look at love, and the cost of loving. It's about how God loves us, even when we are completely unlovely.

Lots of lupies I have contact with have experienced terrible treatment from people who don't understand their pain and fatigue; family members who have been judgemental, strangers who have been intolerant.

I have not really had that.

I have a family who are loving, and supportive, a real joy.

I have friends who are understanding of my limits, and who are caring.

I have recently moved from one loving supportive church community, to another which so far seems it will also be loving and supportive.

Even strangers are nice to me, usually.

Special delights have been: to receive in the mail vouchers for massages - a farewell gift from my last church congregation; my daughter's partner cooking dinner for me; a stranger in a shop reaching things down from the shelf for me.

These might seem little things. But really they are big things.

Little acts of kindness, little glimpses of love, can make the biggest difference.

This post part of Wego Health's Health Activist Writers Month Challenge.Today's topic: We love random acts of kindness. Write about a
time that you benefitted from the kindness of a
stranger, or a time when you were the one
extending a helping hand. How did you feel?

Health Bloggers/Activists out there, if you want to join in the fun, find the details here.

Thursday, 2 April 2015

No matter how bad the day is, these two little princessescan make me smile.

It could be easy to fall into despair with all the things lupus has taken away. Sometimes I do get depressed and sometimes I am afraid of what lupus might be doing to me.

Most of the time, I aim to be happy despite the things that lupus is doing to me.

The big thing that helps is my family. My children and grandchild, and my crazy pets, make me smile no matter how sick I am. I am so proud of my wonderful family, who have been through a lot, but still support each other and me.

I could be upset about having to give up my profession because of lupus. But I have gained something incredibly precious - I have more time with my grandchild than I could possibly have had if I'd been working. I can have playtime or story time pretty much any time I have the energy. Very few grandparents are able to enjoy all that I have.

Friends also make a huge difference. I confess to being a lousy friend. I've had three people I want to contact on my "to do list" for a couple of weeks, and just not found the energy. But I know that my friends are among the most caring, loving people in the world. Even if I don't get to see them and talk to them, I watch for their news on social media, and they are always with me in my memory.

I was baking today, and it made me think of the wonderful person who had given me the mixer I use to knead dough (can't do that with my hands anymore), the couple who made the sliding tray the mixer stands on so I can move it around the bench, and my lovely son giving me the smart watch with multiple timers for all the different things I was trying to keep track of. Many of the things in my home have some relationship to people I care about, and everyday tasks remind me of the amazing amount of love I have been shown.

I also try to laugh at lupus. You might have noticed that from the number of blog posts about the stupid things I've done during bouts of brain fog and fatigue.

And I use the little energy I do have for things I love doing; sewing, baking, writing, arts and crafts. Yes, I do write quite apart from blogs: you can do an author search for Iris Carden on Amazon or iBooks and find some of the things I've done.

I guess I have always believed it's possible to find happiness in any circumstance. It goes with my Christian faith, the belief that whatever happens, I'm not dealing with it alone, Jesus is with me. Knowing that, in Christ, love is stronger than anything lupus, or life in general, can throw at me, is a great source of happiness.

So, if I were to summarise it, love, a sense of humour and focussing on the things I can still do, are the things that get me through and help me to find happiness.

This post part of Wego Health's Health Activist Writers Month Challenge.Today's topic: What do you think is the key to happiness? Is it
being able to overcome a hard time? Laughter?
Maintaining a positive attitude? Tell us what you
think and why. #HAWMC

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This post part of Wego Health's Health Activist Writers Month Challenge.Today's topic: Wordless Wednesday!
Since this is the start of HAWMC, post a picture
that shows how excited you are for the next 30
days. We always love a good Health Activist
selfie! #HAWMC

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Other blogs and books by the same author

Blogs

Patchwork

Patchwork is an anthology of short stories and poems by author and blogger Iris Carden. In this volume, you will deal with the aftermath of a dog bite in Bad Moon Rising, spend a sleepless night with The Possum in the Roof, and investigate a weird religious cult in The Time of Blood and Death. The print version of the book has a bonus story not in the eBook version.

Beside Still Waters

A book of sermons and brief reflections on Christian Scripture, by Rev Iris Carden. There is no specific order to the items in the book, they are intended to each be a "surprise" in that they are not related to the items around them. It is hoped that in each, the reader will find something new or special, or unexpected, a message from God. Rev Iris Carden has a Master's Degree in Theology and more than 10 years of experience as a Christian minister.

Cat-it-orial

Mr Bumpy is such a talented cat, he even runs his own website: mrbumpycat.com. He is a blogger, and a very bad cat. His favourite hobby is world domination. His next hobby is harassing the humans and other animals he shares a home with. In this book, you can see the world through the eyes of a megalomanicat, and some of the other animals who share his home.

Group Meeting

(Novella) In a facility for people recovering from mental illness: a group of people with sinister pasts starts to be visited by a girl who doesn't exist.

Karlee

Failing author Terry Dixon is made an offer that seems unbelievable. He can have all of his problems solved, have everything he has ever wanted, for a price. The price is something that "will not be too difficult" for him to pay - but it is not specified what it actually will be. With bills mounting up and a deadline looming, Terry agrees to a deal with something he knows nothing about.

About the Author

Iris Carden is a retired Uniting Church minister and former journalist. Lupus forced her to stop working. On good days she writes.

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