Sometimes it’s not about who you have been in the past or even who you are today but more about who you want to become…

In this complicated world of dating and relationships I believe there are two very clear, black and white types of relationships. I choose to define them in a very simple way at this point in my life…or maybe it’s just the cold medicine kicking in…LOL!

There are those people out there that help you. People who are supportive in your decisions and life choices and inspire you to best the best person you can be. These are people you can count on, the ones that will always be there for you and put a smile on your face.​

There are others out there that will hinder you. The people who literally suck the life out of you each time your paths cross. They always have a problem for you to fix. They never have anything nice to say and typically they are followed around by a grey cloud which eventually rains on your parade, if you let it. The negativity just sticks to them like a shadow.

When applied to dating and relationships I am sure you can go back through the people you have been involved with and place them in one of these two categories. Yes there is a middle ground but run with me on this for a second…

I am not saying to use this black and white theory and apply it in its general sense to all relationships but what I am saying is to take a look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you want to be a helper or a hinderer?

A relationship can either double you or half you…what do you bring to the table?