I’m one of those “crazy trannies”. I love Dana tons, and like anybody I love I give the benefit of the doubt when learning about trans* folks. Just know I love y’all! “Tranny” isn’t just hateful, it’s hella hack.

I’m over halfway through this episode, and while I was enjoying it for a good while, once the conversation turned to sex and transgenderism, one of your guests started promoting some problematic and harmful ideas.

“Tranny” is a slur, and it’s rude to use it. And fixating on genitels misses the point that transgenderism is about the difference between gender (brain) and sex (body). So the guest was dismissive and uninformed.

From talking and knowing people who are genderqueer, I have learned about the challenges with gender dysphoria and people treating you badly for the choices you make. A little sympathy and understanding of these issues would go a long way, I feel. Jonah, I hope you feel the same way: I still hold fondly the Shadi Petosky Nerdist episode, which I believe you were on.

Further, I didn’t get the vibe that Jonah was hating on BDSM, but your guest started associating it with not being able to love?! Or having mental problems?! That is so insulting! A LOT of time and energy goes into making sure these things are done consensually and carefully. People like to simulate all sorts of sexual experiences or scenes, and having a partner that accepts and participates in that is wonderfully meaningful. I can care about people deeply and still do things my partner enjoys that might not fit into your guest’s mold of “acceptable sex”.

I like y’all. And I know you can’t always kill the mood by objecting strongly, much less control everything your guests say. But those troublesome comments needed to be addressed.