Saturday, May 16, 2015

When Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In was published a couple of years ago I posted several times
about it. I suggested that Sandberg was offering a lot of bad advice, advice
that was ultimately detrimental to women’s career success and even their
relationships.

The
upshot of the research on sex differences, Ms. Benenson explains, is that men
evolved to be “warriors” — the defenders of the species — and are prepared to
do physical battle and do battle in the boardroom in a way that women, the
“worriers,” who evolved to care for vulnerable children, are not.

Men
have far greater muscle mass than women, far more physical strength, and far
more of the hormone of aggression, testosterone. Even very young boys show a
love that girls do not of play fighting, of declaring an “enemy” to battle, and
of weaponry—to the point where Benenson reports that they’ll shoot “bullets”
out of a doll’s head if no toy gun happens to be available.

Of course, feminism is well aware of the disparity between
male and female strength. It has decided, even mandated that any time you refer
to a woman you must tack on the qualifier “strong.” Since strength is just
another cultural construct, the more you say “strong woman” the more women will
be stronger.

If it sounds idiotic, that’s because it is. The same
principle has caused feminists to drone on endlessly about female empowerment.

These tricks might not have changed anything about a woman’s
muscle mass, but now liberated women believe that they are as strong as men.

What is the psychiatric term for a shared illusion?

Folie à
plusieurs….

In her book Benenson explored the psychological consequences
of the strength difference:

Research
finds that women are not only physically weaker than men but more fearful—from
infancy on—and rarely engage in physical fighting. This makes sense, Benenson
notes, as a serious injury could jeopardize a woman’s ability to have children
or to live to protect the ones she already has. Women did evolve to
compete—with one another, for male partners and for resources for their
children. But they compete differently from men.

This means that women are not designed to assert themselves,
to act as though they are strong… because they know it’s a bluff. Others know
it too.

Women are more naturally inclined to share vulnerabilities:

In
fact, research finds that women bond through sharing their failures and
vulnerabilities—an essential bit of information that helps explain what Sandberg
merely laments: women’s not proclaiming their greatness in the workplace and
not finding it natural to just march right up and “sit at the table.”

Among the other pieces of pseudoscience is the commonly held
belief—not a fact—that men are more individualistic and women are more
communal. As I have had occasion to point out, compare the number of men’s
sports teams with the number of women’s sports teams and you will reach a more
accurate conclusion.

Alkon explains:

Although
Ms. Sandberg, like other business advice writers, repeats the stereotype of
women as “communal,” it is actually men who evolved to be cooperators in a way
that women, ever-vigilant that another woman might get one over on them, did
not. When men aren’t fighting each another, they are quick to band together
against a common enemy. Or, after kicking each other’s asses, they’ll go and
have a beer.

During the playoffs, the NBA has run these bizarre ads featuring some of the league's best players pleading with viewer's to "lean in for women". I don't know what it means, and I doubt many people do. Seems like a wasted opportunity.

Leaning in is not going to help ameliorate all the damage feminism has done to women. http://nypost.com/2015/05/14/why-new-york-women-wish-they-lived-in-the-mad-men-era/

Even in NYC where the average single woman has slept with 18 men there is this desire to blame others and take no responsibility for their own actions. I am not sure that this is not training men to see them as throw away items. Why have respect for someone who seems to have little or no respect for themselves?I realize that feminism teaches that women should be like the stereotypical image they have of men. The surprise here is that most men start out immaturely thinking that they are going have sex with a goodly number of women, but reality sets in when they, used to, meet so many nice women who demonstrate a self respect for themselves and a respect for their male counterparts. Even in sex there is a place where a far more meaningful place can be attained, but that requires respect which seems to be lost in an emphasis on animalistic behavior.As I have stated before feminism has create the world most men, especially immature men and also immature women, thought they want and now find they don't. What women wants was never what women thought they wanted.Success almost always depends on how hard one wants to work for it and what one is willing to give up in order to get it. This applies to women as well as men. Perpetuating a "victim" status is not going to get the respect a self actuated person will receive.One day a significant number of people are going to recognize the singular importance of the word RESPECT.. It is the key to a healthy, happy and well lived life.