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SEXUALITY
INTERPERSONAL SEXUALITY
The erotic -
1. It is a common dimenator in the analysis of what is wrong
with men and women. That is, that each has lost eros; which is
the deep, strong drive for unity and the energy for creativity.
From The Side of Men, Robert Bly talks about soft males who are
nice guys, but are fundamentally unhappy and lack much drive or
energy. Bly thinks they must get in touch with the Wild Man deep
in their psyche. He tells the Grimm's Tale of Iron John. He is
the hairy person living at the bottom of a big lake that was
grabbing people and animals as they went by but is captured and
put in a cage near the castle. The prince was playing with the
golden ball and it gets into Iron John's cage. He says he will
give the golden ball, which represents wholeness, back only if
the prince get's the key and opens the cage. He then takes the
Prince on his shoulders and takes him into the forest where he
will learn about manhood. The point is that recovering one's
feminine side is not a total answer to male wholeness, as Jung
would have it. It is necessary to recover what the Greek call
Zeus energy; intelligence, health, compassion, robustness,
positive power, and the service of community. In other words,
men must find their own masculine energy; that is find it from
their father's or from other men. They cannot expect women to
supply it.
2. From the women's side their is all of the talk of "Running
with wolves" or recovering the distinctive feminine energy. The
stories of Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty make it sound as though
women are passive and can be awakened only by the dashing, male
hero. What the Women's Movement is saying, that women must
uncover their own feminine energy. In other words, they must
release the erotic side of themselves.
3. James B. Nelson, says that men must seek wholeness by
recovering within themselves both the strong, aggressive, success
oriented side, and the nurturing relational side.
4. In parallel fashion we can say that women have to do the same
thing. That is combine their desire for relationships, intimacy
and closeness with their more assertive tendencies as well. As
men and women become more whole, achieving their own proper
balance between their desire for independence and intimacy they
will be in a better position to relate to members of the opposite
sex.
5. This is the way of trying to avoid talking about distinctive
masculine and feminine traits. As long as we keep using that

SEXUALITY
INTERPERSONAL SEXUALITY
The erotic -
1. It is a common dimenator in the analysis of what is wrong
with men and women. That is, that each has lost eros; which is
the deep, strong drive for unity and the energy for creativity.
From The Side of Men, Robert Bly talks about soft males who are
nice guys, but are fundamentally unhappy and lack much drive or
energy. Bly thinks they must get in touch with the Wild Man deep
in their psyche. He tells the Grimm's Tale of Iron John. He is
the hairy person living at the bottom of a big lake that was
grabbing people and animals as they went by but is captured and
put in a cage near the castle. The prince was playing with the
golden ball and it gets into Iron John's cage. He says he will
give the golden ball, which represents wholeness, back only if
the prince get's the key and opens the cage. He then takes the
Prince on his shoulders and takes him into the forest where he
will learn about manhood. The point is that recovering one's
feminine side is not a total answer to male wholeness, as Jung
would have it. It is necessary to recover what the Greek call
Zeus energy; intelligence, health, compassion, robustness,
positive power, and the service of community. In other words,
men must find their own masculine energy; that is find it from
their father's or from other men. They cannot expect women to
supply it.
2. From the women's side their is all of the talk of "Running
with wolves" or recovering the distinctive feminine energy. The
stories of Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty make it sound as though
women are passive and can be awakened only by the dashing, male
hero. What the Women's Movement is saying, that women must
uncover their own feminine energy. In other words, they must
release the erotic side of themselves.
3. James B. Nelson, says that men must seek wholeness by
recovering within themselves both the strong, aggressive, success
oriented side, and the nurturing relational side.
4. In parallel fashion we can say that women have to do the same
thing. That is combine their desire for relationships, intimacy
and closeness with their more assertive tendencies as well. As
men and women become more whole, achieving their own proper
balance between their desire for independence and intimacy they
will be in a better position to relate to members of the opposite
sex.
5. This is the way of trying to avoid talking about distinctive
masculine and feminine traits. As long as we keep using that