Struggling to figure out how to announce without Facebook

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thenoune wrote:

So we are private people, and basically never post on Facebook. My husband never even looks at Facebook anymore.

Our family really wants to start posting on Facebook about the upcoming baby because they are all excited. The only problem is, we really don't want to post an announcement on Facebook. We would be happy if we never posted on Facebook again.

Is there anyone else that hasn't posted anything on Facebook and doesn't want anything on Facebook, but has still successfully told their families? Is there any tricks anyone knows of to prevent people from spilling the beans on Facebook?

DH and I do not have Facebook or any social media accounts.. well excluding this pregnancy app. We didn’t want our pregnancy announced on social media either. When we announced to families DH or I would specify that we do not want anything on Facebook because we wanted to tell family and friends in person. Just be direct with family members when you tell them, simple as that. We announced weeks ago and Facebook still has no idea. Good luck and congrats! Sharing the news is so fun!

I deactivated my Facebook account a long time ago but my husband is still on it and doesn't post much. I'm not sure if he plans to announce anything but I really don't care if he does. My mother in law is active on it and am pretty sure she will say something once we give her the all clear thats it's ok to tell people. I would just tell your family not to post anything about you expecting. Hopefully they will respect your wishes. Not much else you can do.

We too are private and did not announce with our first on social media, nor will we announce with the 2nd.

We just took some photos of my son, made some post cards on Walmart.com and mailed them to our family with a nice printed note to please not share the news on social media. We had no issues with family respecting our request. Good luck!

In the same boat. We’ve just told people in person or by phone and mentioned that we’re not sharing anything about the pregnancy on social media. Those close to us know we’re private people and so far everyone has respected that. It’s also nice to share the news in a more personal way with people.

I have Facebook but I'm increasingly getting fed up with it. We're not planning on announcing the pregnancy there. I don't care if an old high school acquaintance knows I'm pregnant. So we've been telling friends and family as we see them or calling them if they live far away. My grandmother just passed away and I asked my mom to tell my aunts so they could let the news "trickle out" to my cousins before the funeral. It didn't feel appropriate for me to tell people there, but if they want to bring it up I'm happy to discuss it.

This is unsolicited advice but I’m going to give it anyway. If this is your first baby, this is good practice for you and your husband to just say no, because I said so. There’s also a lot of excitement after baby is born with family members and pressure as a result of that excitement. It’s all out of the love and happiness babies bring. It’s not intended to be pressure but it is. Maybe it’s good practice to get used to expressing yourself, of course civilly and politely, because you’re the parent. Starting now, these things are your choice, no one else’s, and don’t be afraid to tell people that.

We are the same, I just told everyone that no Facebook posts or tagging in baby videos is allowed. That they are more than welcome to PM us on things but we want to keep this pregnancy off FB for now. So far it has been respected by all. I was just very clear with that we didn’t want anything. Should anyone still tag me/post on my wall I will ask them to remove it.

We told our family and extended family over text as well as a handful of friends. I have too much anxiety to post on Facebook at the moment because I don’t want to be fussed over. My husbands friend (a girl) actually messaged him and asked him why we hadn’t posted our news on Facebook yet, and admitted that she went to look at MY Facebook page and saw nothing and then saw that my husband no longer has Facebook and then asked why he would delete his Facebook?! Seriously. Don’t know why everything needs to be plastered all over Facebook for random acquaintances to see?!?!?!

I didn’t even have Facebook ever until I joined a moms club because of my now 3 year old son, so I will never “post” anything on social media ever. I only have one pic & it’s of my cats. Not me, Hubby or son. They kinda made me if I wanted to more easily get invited to play dates & all. My parents know & 2 friends I see weekly. I’m telling my brother/sister in law in a few weeks. Otherwise I’m probably not “telling” anyone else at all until they either notice I’m pregnant or I show up with 2 children instead of just one, lol. We barely talk to my husbands family except see them on Xmas & family reunion in September, so they might just find out then unless they get off their high horse & reach out to us, lol. I don’t care when I tell my extended family really, but we see them several times a year, so they will know soon enough. I’m not a sharer either. I was more excited to share with my first child, but I’m kinda over it. I’ve learned who truly “cares” & who doesn’t & I’m sticking to my very small clan now. Would love a few more girlfriends & friends for my son, but overall happy to keep this to ourselves mostly. Good luck!

I meant to add that we both have always requested people not post stuff about us as much as possible on social media & plan to do so about new baby too. Some have respected our wishes & others haven’t. Nothing you can really do but ask them not to, if you are going to tell them anything. Also, we told my parents xmas morning. We wrapped a box with a “window” in it that had our positive pregnancy test secured inside for them to keep. It also said due August 2018 on it. Plus tried to have my two year old son say “mommy has a baby in her tummy”. We bought a shirt that says “baby loading, please wait” with a load bar that we plan to “tell” my brother & his family with in a few weeks. Everyone else will just find out in person whether it be when I’m very obviously pregnant or some maybe not until baby is here :)

We're not big on Facebook announcements either!, we even got away with people not knowing about our wedding until about 2 weeks before, and only because it was my birthday and my friends posted some congrats posts with a picture of us from my batchelorette party (we planned the wedding for more than a year) so we're pretty confident in pulling that off with the pregnancy too. We already announced it to our close family and our best friends (4 couples with whom we always get together), we told my parents at their anniversary lunch, his dad and sibilings at dinner and for the rest of close family (aunts, uncles and cousins) via whatsapp (we have a group with them) and asked them to hold on the posts because there were some we wanted to also tell in person (they don't need to know that's not entirely true)

BTW... I have a friend who REALLY got away with it... nobody knew she was pregnant until she posted a picture of a beautiful sunset... and on the bottom part of the scene you could see her son's little feet peeking (he was almost a year by then!), it was hilarious when people started to realize there were baby feet there (it wasn't really noticeable)... and THAT'S what we're aiming for

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