now am in a big mess,wic i need to cleanup as soon as possible,2 surmmarize d long story am presently dating two gurls and am no long intrested cuz i want 2 face my career,note:we only dated 4 a year but we got 2 see only a month due 2 distance and bleep d first gurl like a week non_stop n d 2nd once.(dat may sound arkward dat me 4 u)reason am leaving them are1.dey both like sex as if der life depends on it and make it look like am under sum obligation 2 bleep and act like a husband & wife(and sum1 may b askn y go into a relationship wen not ready,my broda it was born out of curiousity and experimenting.first i was a virgine boy who want 2 bleep @ 20years old and now its sucks cuz i regret loosing it 2 nonvirgine wic dey both lied initially b4 d date)2.d first dont share in my dreams all she want is been with her like an handbag,while d other kind of bylf in me and obsessed dat she has 2 tell her mum i promise 2 marry her wen i neva did,am just in my 2nd year in school dey ar talking about commitment3.just realize i need more tym 2 consentr8 in my akademiks and serve GOD faithfully.... still regretin dat i betrayed my believes here is were i want nairalanders to help how do i convince dem dat i need space and time without hurting anybody cuz i now realize dey hav done alot of harm than good to me.pls help a broda

If we are to follow Hess' law, it's pointless looking for a strategy that will best suite you because irrepective of the route(manner you tell them) the initial and final condition will remain thesame(HURT).

My point, it's pointless thinking of a strategy, they will be hurt any way you tell them, so just tell them what you told us

cblue: now am in a big mess,wic i need to cleanup as soon as possible,2 surmmarize d long story am presently dating two gurls and am no long intrested cuz i want 2 face my career,note:we only dated 4 a year but we got 2 see only a month due 2 distance and bleep d first gurl like a week non_stop n d 2nd once.(dat may sound arkward dat me 4 u)reason am leaving them are1.dey both like sex as if der life depends on it and make it look like am under sum obligation 2 bleep and act like a husband & wife(and sum1 may b askn y go into a relationship wen not ready,my broda it was born out of curiousity and experimenting.first i was a virgine boy who want 2 bleep @ 20years old and now its sucks cuz i regret loosing it 2 nonvirgine wic dey both lied initially b4 d date)2.d first dont share in my dreams all she want is been with her like an handbag,while d other kind of bylf in me and obsessed dat she has 2 tell her mum i promise 2 marry her wen i neva did,am just in my 2nd year in school dey ar talking about commitment3.just realize i need more tym 2 consentr8 in my akademiks and serve GOD faithfully.... still regretin dat i betrayed my believes here is were i want nairalanders to help how do i convince dem dat i need space and time without hurting anybody cuz i now realize dey hav done alot of harm than good to me.pls help a broda

First off, I must remind you that you are not alone. There are other people having similar problem. There is more to life than sex.Stopping this will be sisyphean and onerous but it will pay off ultimately.

One thing about sex is that it doesn't subject itself to the law of diminishing marginal utility. Thus, having sex regularly seldom diminishes the desire for it; rather reverse appears to be the case.In fact the more you indulge in it, the higher the tendency of experimenting with women of different sizes and shapes.In most cases you gain only fleeting, ephemeral and some minutes pleasure from it, after which you will be left empty, unsatisfied, conscience stricken and depressed.It is bodacious and cracking good that you have been able to identify this as something which has no bearing on your future. Because at this age your life's work is and should be your education having been enrolled in a varsity.It is expedient to note that there is time for everything and that time itself flies.That you want to stop this doesn't and shouldn't preclude you from having platonic relationship with women. But these women must not include these girls whom you have flings with; because the possibility of falling into the same temptation is ginormous.

*** Continues ***To my mind, you have to tell them explicitly what you want to do. Convince them as to why you guys should put a stop to the amorous affair.Have them know that it will be for the betterment of your future (ie you and them). Also inform them that you want to go back to God and cajole them as to why they may follow suit.Never forget to tell them that you really like and cherish them but that it is for the good of everyone that you guys jettison this malfeasance.

Only through a firm resolve coupled with discipline can the above be achieved.

Serendipity: First off, I must remind you that you are not alone. There are other people having similar problem. There is more to life than sex.Stopping this will be sisyphean and onerous but it will pay off ultimately.

One thing about sex is that it doesn't subject itself to the law of diminishing marginal utility. Thus, having sex regularly seldom diminishes the desire for it; rather reverse appears to be the case.In fact the more you indulge in it, the higher the tendency of experimenting with women of different sizes and shapes.In most cases you gain only fleeting, ephemeral and some minutes pleasure from it, after which you will be left empty, unsatisfied, conscience stricken and depressed.It is bodacious and cracking good that you have been able to identify this as something which has no bearing on your future. Because at this age your life's work is and should be your education having been enrolled in a varsity.It is expedient to note that there is time for everything and that time itself flies.That you want to stop this doesn't and shouldn't preclude you from having platonic relationship with women. But these women must not include these girls whom you have flings with; because the possibility of falling into the same temptation is ginormous.

Serendipity: First off, I must remind you that you are not alone. There are other people having similar problem. There is more to life than sex.Stopping this will be sisyphean and onerous but it will pay off ultimately.

One thing about sex is that it doesn't subject itself to the law of diminishing marginal utility. Thus, having sex regularly seldom diminishes the desire for it; rather reverse appears to be the case.In fact the more you indulge in it, the higher the tendency of experimenting with women of different sizes and shapes.In most cases you gain only fleeting, ephemeral and some minutes pleasure from it, after which you will be left empty, unsatisfied, conscience stricken and depressed.It is bodacious and cracking good that you have been able to identify this as something which has no bearing on your future. Because at this age your life's work is and should be your education having been enrolled in a varsity.It is expedient to note that there is time for everything and that time itself flies.That you want to stop this doesn't and shouldn't preclude you from having platonic relationship with women. But these women must not include these girls whom you have flings with; because the possibility of falling into the same temptation is ginormous.

@belinko,Serendipity and others thanks in a million FOR your candid advice and i just cant get enough of sexkill or wateva u call yourself all you knw how 2 do best is act like 1 dat is surfering 4rm braintumor or are u a learner? if u cant help u can as well pack well for others 2 comment dont let me repeat this next time

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme][b]If we are to follow Hess' law, it's pointless looking for a strategy that will best suite you because irrepective of the route(manner you tell them) the initial and final condition will remain thesame(HURT).

My point, it's pointless thinking of a strategy, they will be hurt any way you tell them, so just tell them what you told us