I decided after 21 years of marriage I needed to take a good look at what I am doing in my marriage that prevents intimacy. I figure that although we have a good sex life it might be interesting to see what would happen not just to our sex life but to our lives in general if I never refused my husband's sexual advances. So I am keeping this blog as a way to track what I discover.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Some Time Away

Tomorrow I will be leaving for 3 days away at the beach with a friend. This will be the first time this year that I am away by myself and I am happy that it won't be during my high drive period. I have found that there are really three modes to my drive.

The week to 10 days following my period my drive is in neutral. I can take it or leave it. I may think about sex during this time but am not going to initiate it myself.

Then I hit high drive, I will initiate, I want it all the time, I think about it and anticipate it. This lasts about 7 to 10 days.

Then I go into reverse. I tolerate and comply but given the choice am going to pick sleep or other activities.

Then my period and start all over again.

Tonight although I am in neutral the fact that I am leaving and will be gone 3 nights I am eagerly anticipating a good send off tonight - and likely tomorrow morning.

I will miss my family - but am very excited to spend a few days away at the beach!

Enjoyed a day at the beach today, and a mini bar crawl tonight. Sitting out looking at the beach and enjoying time with my friends. I miss my kids and my husband - but will return refreshed and be a better wife and mother. It is all about balance and not losing myself in the roles I play in life. So important to take time to reflect and I am very thankful to have the opportunity to take this time and even more thankful for having a husband and family that allow me this opportunity!

The get away or alone time is very important from a therapeutic standpoint. We all need to stay connected with our sense of self and somtimes we need solitude and isolation to achieve that. It can't be done while being Mommy, wife, sister, daughter and employee to others simultaneously. I'll bet no client calling in the middle of the night was the best part.

About Me

I've been married 22 years and have 4 kids ages 19, 17, 10 and 8. I am lucky enough to have a great job that I can do from home! I am active in a few charities and enjoy playing and watching sports. This is my first attempt at blogging - having fun so far!