Browsing Posts published in November, 2010

This is a movie that Julia Roberts starred in. Although she excels in roles like this and I truly admire her skills as a performer, I didn’t rush to the movies to see it. I guess I’ve become weary of the formulaic predictability of most romantic comedies. As some of us know, real life is not all that predictable.

Thanksgiving is a holiday of note in the history along the path into my relationship with a Narcissist. The first time he invited me to a family holiday meal was Thanksgiving. I wept with joy at his invitation and played the voice mail message again and again to make sure that there was no mistake. I may even have the recording of that voice mail message somewhere on my hard drive but I don’t listen to it anymore. He knew that my previous lovers had not included me in their family gatherings. That is why his invitation meant so much to me. I really felt that I had arrived in his life.

A friend of mine sent me a link to a YouTube video from a show that he watches called Mad Men. It was a clip from an episode called The Wheel and it was quite touching. Here is the meat of the quote that I found online:

Nostalgia – it’s delicate, but potent. Teddy told me that in Greek, “nostalgia” literally means “the pain from an old wound.” It’s a twinge in your heart far more powerful than memory alone. This device isn’t a spaceship, it’s a time machine. It goes backwards, and forwards… it takes us to a place where we ache to go again. It’s not called the wheel, it’s called the carousel. It let’s us travel the way a child travels – around and around, and back home again, to a place where we know are loved.

Considering our memories as sort of a time machine, is completely apropos. When we are reflecting on our pasts, we are catapulted into it. Sometimes it is the way a sunbeam crosses the trees or a song, maybe even a smell, that stimulates memories. Once they are stirred, we have to revisit those experiences whether they are delightful or painful to recall.

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