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The Past Does Not Define Me

I've been floating around lately, not committing to anything... my thinking had been if I didn't make a commitment, I wouldn't fail. However; if I don't make a commitment to something, I won't just risk staying in the same space... I will risk going backwards. So, today I have made a step forward ... this step has been one I have 'tried' before but never committed to... This is an ongoing lesson that I have had to learn time and again. It makes me question why I have had to relearn the same concept over and over? For me to be successful I need to
commit fully, otherwise I won't move forward, I'll slide back. I have
worked too hard this past year and a half to give up on myself now.

This time of the year is difficult for many people, for me it is a reminder of many dates and memories that although wonderful are painful to deal with... I've decided that I'm going to immerse myself in the holidays this year. I don't plan to go overboard with the money as that isn't the spirit I'm looking for.

I'm looking at being of service to
others who need me. I want to decorate, bake for others and
invite people over to bring the joyful feeling in my home. I have an
idea of something that Valentina and I will be doing to bring that
feeling into our home and hearts more.

I'm not giving into the sad moments this year... I'm immersing myself in the upcoming season and remembering the true reason for this time of year. For me it is not about the gifts at all, it's the feelings it can bring.I have allowed that amazing holiday with 'him' to stop me from making new and better memories. That is changing this year, both Valentina and I deserve better than past memories, we are making new ones together. The past will not define who I am in the future, the present will.

Dear Launna,I'm happy that you'll bake and open your home to people who need you :)If we don't learn the lesson fully, we can't go forward in life... a lesson I've learned from life itself.A big hug from Italy!

Love this blog post and all the quotes that go with it ! I am 14 and I find it hard to commit to things, I always have my problem is I get bored easily and in turn search for something new to do! I am hoping to use an ounce of your positivity as inspiration for the future!Thank youPlease help me out and check out my blog maybe follow xhttp://anotherteenontheweb.blogspot.co.uk/

My lovely Launna. Hoping you've got some rest of your days off😄. You've been continue to impressed me even more of what you've been planing for you and Valentina both brights future. I believed you will be reaching your beautiful goal in one day. Keep on going and do what you've been doing Launna. You're a smart woman who knows what is a deal. I'm saying this because not everyone can even think how and what to do with what you are at now. I am so proud to meet you and see how much you've proved yourself and you sure on the way what you wanted it to be. I'm here and going to cerebrate with you when it times. Keep on going Launna. You're the worthy😊😍. It sounds like you and Valentina are going to have a wonderful holidays:). Yaay happy to hear that Launna. Oxox. Good night and talk more soon.

The first steps are always the hardest, and glad you realized what you have to do. Living in the past is no fun, life passes you by so quickly you need to be present at every moment. Firts time on your blog, and it was very refreshing to read about positivity. Keep moving forward!

Hello my dear Launna!! <3 I've been away for ages!! You're right...working all the time isn't the best thing, and life shouldn't be spent working, for there are better things in life! So, I am back!!! ^_^ <3 How have you been? Are your classes going great? And happy thankgiving to you, my dear! I know that in Canada, they celebrate it slighty earlier, right? :)

And coming back to this post Launna, I am so so glad that you took the firm decision to move on with your life. Taking one small step at a time. It's hard, but not impossible. You're a strong woman, but still. we are all here to encourage you, and your decisions!!! <3

That picture of the beach isn't too far off track--perhaps that's EXACTLY what you need. A change of scenery for the holidays. Or after the holidays, if you can't get away during Thanksgiving/Christmas.

a change is always good for the holidays, it gives time to think and reflect i think. and i do believe that one can let the past go eventually- time does heal, I know!! and baking does some really good right now :)

Oh, I hope you keep with the dance of the holidays and enjoy it with your family and friends. Although, I don't every decorate much. Still I love the Christmas lights. Someone was asking me just this week if I'd found my ball of Christmas lights. She said it takes the whole weekend to untangle them..maybe that's what the holidays do to us..we stress over the little things, but I think you've got a head start. Of course, the cold wintry mix at my door really has pushed me back to just wanting to watch old movies. Like you said, keep going forward.is the key. All the best!

this post is really inspirational for the moment I'm living right now. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day Launnakssnew post: http://tupersonalshopperviajero.blogspot.com.es/2014/11/orange-denim-look.html

Launna,I hope you and Valentina have an amazing and happy season! Christmas has always been a joyful time for my family, and although you may not have had the happiest memories at this time of year, you are so very right for focusing on the present and future. The past can never, never define us. Keep moving forward, and let the holidays be the chance to reflect on all the wonderful things in life. I love how you can be so positive ♡ You are so inspirational! God bless ♡

I think it's normal that we have to re-learn the same lessons over and over again. life doesn't come with a check list where you can simply tick off things you've achieved and done. and once we accept this, everything becomes so much easier in my experience. no more beating myself up over messing up the same things over and over again. I just wasn't vigilant enough and have to put in a bit more work again. life is like a muscle. you have to use it all the time to keep it working at its best. as to commitment, I hear you. I'm the same. I either do it or I don't. whenever I try to flirt around the edges of something, it doesn't work out at all and often even backfires. go for what you need to do. and don't be too hard on yourself xoxo

Good for you! I'm so happy you're pushing forward and focusing on being of service to those in need while also being there for yourself. I hope you and Valentina can make some new memories, not to mask the pain of the old but because you deserve happiness. Real happiness that you've created yourselves.

I love that. You totally have to make the best of every situation, and there's no better way than to be happily engaged in a good cause. My mom always used to say if we were feeling yucky, to do something nice for someone else. It totally works. =)

Such a great read and I'm looking forward to see what you and Valentina have planned. Helping others is such a nice way of moving on too and I think it's so inspirational how you talk about needing to let go of the past before being able to move on. :) Happy almost Holidays Launna!

Sometime it's so hard to me to looking back, but I also know that we learn a lot about our past or about other people's stories..Everything happen for some reason, just see the good part of that.Send you a BIG KISS Beaty.

Great decision darling! I can't wait to read more about your Holiday plans decorating and baking! I normally get pretty stressed out trying to find a good inexpensive present for all the new members of my family (My husband's side of the family) so wish me luck this year! haha

I'm sorry you still can not comment on my new blog :( I asked the guys that helped me out to set it up and they said they fixed it but I guess they didn't! I will try again! sorry about that!XOXO

This time I cant totally agree!!! The Past does define you! The past has turned out this wonderful and strong women you are now. You have learned so much, you fought against all these barriers, you lost so much weight, you started to sleep all night long after months of beeing awake at night. The past isnt something wrong...I know that sounds stupid..but you wouldnt be where you are now.

For sure you will make so many new and amazing memories this year. I love the idea to do something for others. Sometimes a smile of someone else can be the best thing of a day. Really reallly love you attitude when its about fighting against this time of the year. Another challenge you will manage!!!

One sentence is really wonderful and describes everything: The past will not define who iam in the future, the present will!!! This sentence says everything and is so perfect!!

Totally agree, my friend! And you still have plenty of time to make new memories with your daughter. Yes, Holidays can be a little bittersweet as we tend to compare them with previous years' holidays and we think about the ones who are not with us anymore, or at least that's what I do, but just like you I try to keep my mind in the present although a big part of my heart would like to go back in time. By the way, I'm so glad to see one of my fave quotes there!! ;) that phrase is really helping my right now :)

It is beautiful that you have decided what the true meaning of the holiday is to you and that it is not dependent to things that do not matter. I am learning from you Launna. Thank you for nice comments on my posts always.

Your post reminds me of something Will Rogers said: "Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there." You're definitely on the right track. The trick now is to keep moving forward.

HI Launna, you do deserve it all and so does Valentina. I hope this holiday season will bring you some peace and the strength to move past the haunting memories that are trying to hold you back! You can succeed! You will succeed! (sorry for the delay in getting here -- somehow Firefox decided to put all my feedburner emails in the spam folder -- glad I checked it before emptying!) Hope it is a wonderful weekend for both of you!

Hello my dear Launna! I hope this week has been great for you so far! And I know exactly how it feels. Everything about december makes one feel so nostalagic and the fact that the year is ending makes matters worse. But keep holding on, dear one. I know that it will take time, but you would definitely be able to overcome this darkness! <3

Thank you so much for always checking on me. You've no idea how much I truly appreciate it!! <3 Thank you so much!!

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