exploring my sexuality, and other adventures

about

Call me Zoë K.

For a long time I didn’t particularly like sex. I tried to become more sex positive by educating myself but I didn’t get very far. In 2014, I found a name for my problem: “sexual shame”. I had an epiphany and found that the shame fell away.

I began enjoying my sex life in a way I never had, but now I’m dealing with low libido that feels painfully similar to what I experienced before. Depression and antidepressants played a role but they don’t represent the whole story, since I no longer have depression and am off the medication.

Wolf is my partner of over 20 years. We get along fantastically well and always have.

I’m also in a long-distance relationship with Jaime (aka Gawan), who is my Dom and one of the warmest people I’ve met.

Hello, Zoë… I told you I was thinking of starting a new blog and here it is. Not sure where I’m going yet, but it’s a start. Please pretend I have gone back to all your posts and clicked ‘like’ using this name… Elliott.

Hello. :]
So.. I feel rather certain I’ve “seen you before”, via some of Hy’s Friday postings..
.. but this is the first time I’ve come across to visit your blog.
I may stay awhile and see what I’ve missed.

This “About” actually made me pause — presently debating if I might have a similar start if I go away and explore my sexual history (it ain’t grand, but when there’s been some, it’s been good fun)..
.. and then, whether or not I post that history (perhaps with a touch of artistic embellishment?) in one of these anonymous sex blog things… Covert Honesty? An-Hones-mous-ty? o.O

You may well have seen me on Hy’s blog – I used to submit photos for publication over there when Boobday was monthly and before she got set up to accept links. Do feel free to have a look around here – that’s what the blog is for, and I’ve got a fair collection of photos by now.

After having learned a lot about myself recently, I found it was a valuable the exercise to think about past relationships and encounters in a new light.

Very nice blog site. You are a thoughtful and talented writer. I came upon while doing a tag line search for depression. My blog interest and orientation is addiction, more specifically treatment and recovery. I’m passionate about abating and ended the symptomatic suffering that we endure. Do you still suffer from depression? I couldn’t quite tell or maybe didn’t read enough.

Thanks very much! I got the ok to start tapering off the meds in March, and I mentioned it around then but I can’t easily get at the link right now. I’ll probably post about it in more detail in the not too distant future.