I went to Bcon today to plan for next month and went through all options, I'm so confused and do t know what to do. It's so bloody emotional!

I'm just wondering if anyone has had care maps and the chromosome screening and how did it fair out? I have moneyish and this will be our very last cycle, but I just can't help feeling that these extra things might be a waste of money and if I go for everything I'll believe 100% that it will work and if it doesn't I'll be a basket case rather than just a normal IVF with additional meds and have some embryos to freeze.

Hi Adventures and welcome to our lucky little thread. So excited for you to be starting out. Well you'll get loads of advice on here for any question you may have along the way as you can see the ladies on here are all wonderfully supportive. Wishing you so much luck...and trust me the time between stimming for egg collection and going for FET will fly in. There is a lot of waiting about as Littlefox said with IVF for result and treatments to start and appointments, but the whole process flies by really.

Littlefox, that's wonderful news, you give us all hope! Looks like you have 1 perfect sticky little bean there! woohoo! Roll on Monday eh. How soon after that would you get your scan do you know? It seems like everyone is having 'fun' on the steroids...I start them on Monday, feeling a bit nauseous and light-heade with the femetab, but gulping down warm water when I do and that seems to do the trick...eating loads of brazil nuts too as they are meant to help the lining...

Hi girls, just wanted to say it's been great reading your stories over the last while. All very encouraging! I'm starting meds for egg retrieval in a few days for my first PGS cycle in the Beacon. Seems like it'll be a long time before I get to pee on a stick. Feeling clueless so it's been great to hear how you've all been doing! Good luck to those getting results over the next few days...fingers and toes crossed for you all.

Hi girls hope everyone is well. I did another FR test today to check progression (as I've had multiple early losses) and the test is much darker so yay! I won't contact beacon until official test date (Monday) and book scan then.

It's a very strange week for me but I'm managing to get through it and trying not to stress out - the steroids have me up to 90 though.

42 and Chaneaux, I hope your PGS results come back soon, I absolutely hated that wait. Everything is wating waiting waiting with IVF. It gets so tedious at times. Definitely a good idea to book review now, as my appointment was weeks after PGS result too. However they did facilitate a swap.

Shellyb I hope you're doing ok, fair play to your will power holding off on the testing. Hats off to you, you're a better woman than me :D

Hopefully and Kerryfan, hope you're keeping busy as you progress on the journey and wishing time flies for ye too.

Hi Chanceux, I'd agree with the ladies and go ahead and book the follow-up appointment for the week after the results are due. We didn't think to do this so our appointment was 2 1/2 weeks later.

Kerryfan1, I wasn't started on the meds yesterday, they wanted me to start today as they were late calling me yesterday with a decision. So today is my day1 of Femetab and aspirin. So far so good. Nothing as yet to report, but early days. I start the steroid on Monday and have our follow-up scan 13th Feb. How are you finding the steroids you started them yesterday didn't you? I think I'm about a week behind you in all the meds. Are your symptoms still bad? Your friends birthday has come at a great time alright, help you take your mind off all this and let your hair down.

42ivfer, hope you are doing ok, all this waiting is dreadful isn't it. Hope you have found things to distract you. We are going to do some decorating at my parents this weekend...just as a nice distraction, we did this in the 2ww for the PGS results too, it made the time fly in.

shellyb how are you doing on the steroids, are you sleeping any better?

Littlefox how are you keeping, hope all ok with you and little bub and you got your early scan appointment.

hope all the rest of you ladies are doing ok, wishing you all loads of luck...

Chanceux - I booked our meeting with Omar straight away as I didn't want any delays in next step of our treatment. Omar told me that 1 in 4 is should be normal so you have a chance of at least having 2 normal. I had 6 for testing and 1 came back normal. But I am 41 and there is a decline after 40. But everyone is different so fingers crossed for you.

hopefully - how are you doing on the meds?

I'm heading to Monart this weekend for my friend's birthday and it couldn't come at a better time. Roll on Friday

Hey Chance, yep I booked for 3 weeks after the test centre received our biopsy! I know it's nerve wrecking but 6 samples getting tested is a great number, so don't stress too much. I didn't want to wait for the beacon to schedule an appointment for us in case it was a couple of weeks later, I needed to be in control of the situation to some degree

I am also with dr O and we also did PGS.Had 6 sent and waiting for results - I just turned 39 and it is our first IVFWere you also told 2 weeks?Did you book the appointment yourself?It is a good idea - maybe we should do the same. We should get the results next week - it is nerve wrecking

Wow this is really a busy month for us all!It's hard to keep up lolThis is our year ladies,I truly believe that.Afm well we are being proactive- booked my appointment with DrO for the 21st Feb, we just didn't want to be waiting for weeks after we get our pgs results. Also we have a few consultations booked with other clinics to discuss donor egg ivf.I know that you all want me to be hopeful for that one biopsy but I have to be realistic and prepared. TBH I have felt a great pressure about my age and the quality of my eggs. I have seen a decline in my egg yield since last year. So donor ivf really takes that pressure off me and I feel it give us the best chance of having a baby! So it's a positive step for us. I'm hoping the pgs results don't take the full two weeks, the sample should arrive at its destination today.You ladies are Fantastic and it's so good we can all get on here and have a natter,

Kerryfan, sorry to hear about the side affects you poor thing. As the girls say, water probably your best friend right now, hope it eases soon. xx

Twomagpies good to hear from you, hope you're doing ok xx

HopefullyW great news, all good to go, best of luck with the meds today, won't be long until next week. Looks like you and Kerryfan will be close enough which is great. Thanks for info on the nightmares, hopefully a good sign :) xx

AFM, back to work today so little bit of normality I suppose. Steroids have be crawling the walls though so awake half the night. Still cramping and stomach increasing in size lol. I'll leave it until Sunday to test, tempted as I am to do a Littlefox on it I don't think I could cope if it was negative and then I'd be testing constantly. Nearly half way through the week so nearly there xx

Oh my God Littlefox, that is amazing news...woohoo! So delighted...I know it's early days but...woohoo! stick little sticky bean stick! So chuffed for you...! Shellyb, it is hard to just sit about...but as long as you feel relaxed that's the main thing...the cramping is probably implantation cramping, and I can also say that I always had crazy nightmares anytime I was pregnant, so here's hoping these are symptoms of another sticky bean...love that you ladies are reaping the benefits of our lucky little thread..! Kerryfan1, sorry to hear the meds are having some nasty side effects...water seems to be the cure all for all of them doesn't it..since I can't drink tea/coffee I've replaced it with hot water...not the same at all...but seems to keep symptoms of the meds at bay...so at least theres that eh..lol!42ivfer, hope you are doing ok, the wait is a pain isn't it, I think my wait took about 1 1/2weeks before I got the results. Keeping everthing crossed for your little one!chanceur, 6 is great, I was told the odds of getting a euploid (good embie) at my age(42), was 20%, so really crap...but on our 1st cycle we got 1normal and one abnormal from our 2 blastocysts, so it really does depend on the individual, but 6 blastcysts gives you great odds at your age of at least getting one normal...great odds!twomagpies, lovely to hear from you, hope you are doing ok!Well we had our down reg. scan all looks good, lining nice and thin, just 2mm (they wanted it less than 5mm), so start meds tomorrow and next scan sometime next week...delighted to get going...so excitingXxxx

thank you my dear. Sorry to hear about the effects of the femetab - it is a horrible horrible medication. Lots of water and avoidance of stress helped me, but I know the latter is easier said than done! xx

mine were all normal but that's very unusual I've been told. I'm 37. The stats I found said 59% of my embryos for my age group should be normal. So I did better than the stats. Having six is great to work with, keeping everything crossed for you.

AFM, drum roll....... BFP this morn! Obviously very early days at 6dp5dt and still big risk of chemical with my history, but for now my eggo is preggo!

edited to add: I used a FRER test. I won't use the hospital one til test day. FRERs are by far the best

Hopefullyw best of luck today chic you're almost there now to get going. Let us know how you go xx

Littlefox how are you feeling? Not long till test day.How's the cramps? Xx

42ivf hope you got through the weekend ok, and enjoyed it a little xx

Kerryfan how are you, how's the meds going? Xx

Chanceaux delighted to hear you had 6 for testing that's amazing!! I didn't do Pgs but the girls did and they are very helpful so I'mSure they will be able to answer any questions xx

Afm now 3dp5dt and feel ok bar some cramping which I think is a good sign. I have t really being relaxing on the sofa I've been cooking and shopping and walkingbut relaxing in between. I would crack up sitting down all day. Had the most horrible nightmare last night was hysterical which is not like me, wonder is it from the steroids, progesterone or pregnancy!! This is where it all starts to send us crazy lol. Funeral is today so won't be back on till later but hope all you lovely ladies are ok

Ladies - hope you are all well.I am now a week after sending my 6 embries to the lab for screening and waiting to hearing back Tuesday week.I am with the beaconCan anyone know what are the stats coming back normal?I have just turned 39!This is our first cycle Throwing everything at it. Could you please share your experience? Also what is the next step?Got my period yesterday but apparently they will do the transfer in the second cycle?Over to you ladies!

It's very early to be testing so don't do it unless you're prepared to most likely see a bfn. If that's too stressful then wait it out would be my advice. I've had chemical pregnancies too where I got early positives but then they were already bck to negative by time period was due. If you can't handle that either then early testing is not for you. I on the other hand am far too Type A to wait it out :D

42, I don't know much at all about the donor scene so can't really advise. I was only waiting 7 days for biopsy resultS - counting forward from day of receipt in the UK

42, try not think too far ahead, you'll send yours said of demented. Try take each day as it comes and a step closer to getting your result. Don't be thinking too far into donor just yet, you e so much going on in your mind right now it'll be hard to try make any type of decisions like that. I hope you're doing ok and the wait is a little mess then expected xx

Kerryfan as soon as you get to that Tuesday you'll get your dates etc, time will fly then, exciting!! Xx

Hope everyone else has a nice weekend. Xx

Afm no news just chilling watching Netflix and also walked the dogs to the groomers this morn to get a bit of air. Dh has be on bloody lockdown and I'm not used to relaxing so it's tough. We have the fineralmon Monday and I'm going to wait until wed to go back to work. Other than that i feel ok, little cramping but think that's normal xx

Morning ladies, what do they say....patience is a virtue,lol. The waiting is the worst part isn't it?

So Shellyb and little fox how you both feeling? I was very crampy after transfer and was told it's a great sign!!Kerryfan1 wow it's so close for you now hope you are doing good and your date isn't too far away.

Dr Bart was fantastic at my egg collection, I really liked his personality and the nurses have been amazing. So biopsy was taken on Thursday but will only be sent away on Monday, arriving on Tuesday. So we were given a waiting time of two weeks by 'the babysitter' . How long were you girls waiting? Did it drag out to two weeks? And after the results when did you have your meeting with DrO. I'm feeling much better. This is new territory for me as last ivf cycle we transferred at day five. So I'm not really sure when af will arrive.Now here's a question for you all. We are trying to get a plan in place in case we get an abnormal result on the pgs, so anyone any ideas on a good clinic for donor eggs ?

Little fox sorry to hear the steroids have you hyped, I'll be the same, between that and the 2ww we will be wired. I always find though if you try to take them very early like 6am, you should be ok. Cramps are a good sign , positive thoughts. Xx

Kerryfan glad all is well and you're good to go. You won't feel that flying in now! Only side affect I found was lots of ewcm (sorrry tmi) other than that nothing major. Xx

Hopefully thanks for your kind words as always! Hope you have a lovely weekend and roll on Monday for you!! Won't be far behind us at all xx

So all went perfect today, embryologist said embryos were brilliant and dr Bart said uterus was perfect , he's so lovely. I was tilted at an angle too but that was because I was bursting to go to the loo and they were trying to make me comfortable. They're so lovely in there. We were like the von trap family, 'my dh doesn't drive so friend of mine brought us over and another friend was staying here so she came too, we were all there for the conception lol.

Now the dreaded wait, they said test on9th but I'll test on Sunday which will be 9days.

Mind yourselves girls , sending you all lots of baby dust and positive thoughts. Sorry if spelling mistakes, using phoneSo can be difficult xxx

Hi Littlefox, so glad you are doing ok, yes the mild cramping is probably implantation cramping isn't it....oooh that's so exciting...!!! I'll have to be on the steroids too and go up to 20mgs at FET...had a feeling the increased dose would make you wired...good to know! Lovely of your mum to get you a book to help Zen you out...lol! I bought a couple of meditation and positive thinking books too...they really help.

Good luck or you scan today shellyb (finally got the day right! ) should be going in around about now...keeping everything crossed for you!

I'm doing well thanks for asking. Bit of cramping last night. v mild. Good sign I think! Bit hyped up on the steroids - 20mgs now. Didnt get to sleep on night of transfer til after 5am. My mind waas racing. My mum went out and bought me a mindfulness book to calm me down... aw.

42IVFer don't apologise for being negative or expressing your feelings. It is disappointing when the embies whittle down, and that is the truly torturous part of IVF i think. I'm delighted you have one for biopsy but totally and utterly get your disappointment, hang in there girl. I hate to say it but the wait for biopsy results is hideous, so just plan a few nice things to do to hopefully take your mind off it. You should get results in about 7 days, although with clinic being busy in Jan it may be a bit longer. We're all rooting for this embie!

ShellyB so excited for you for tomorrow. Heres hoping they don't have to tilt you at a 45 degree angle like they did me! Let us know how it goes. Sorry to hear about your husbands uncle's passing

42ivfer, sending tons and tons of luck your way. I found a little white feather this morning too so will keep that in my bag of other good luck stuff and keep this for you xx

thanks HopefullyW, it's tomorrow I'm in but all good luck wishes accepted lol. I know these things tend to come altogether don't they, and exactly what DH said too about his uncle passing to allow for another one to be born, so maybe that's a good way of looking at it. Are you excited for Monday? xx

By the sounds of it 42ivfer, that one little embie looks excellent, and you just need the one, so fingers crossed for your 1 perfect little embie! The wait for the results is a nightmare...don't google is the best advice I can give you!

So excited for you today shellyb, hope you had a lovely morning with your DH, and now you can enjoy the rest of the day with your little one safely on-board! Don't stress, just think how much happier your little one is safely in you rather than stuck in a freezer...I'm sure it will cling on for dear life...lol! I hope your DH's ok, that's horrible news, stress you could both do without but it usually falls that way doesn't it. Well just think when this all works out then your uncles passing will have heralded in the beginning of a new life for your little one...nice legacy eh!

42ivfer, Sorry to hear the other two didn't make it chic, but positive thinking. All that is needed is one, and this could be your little miracle. xxx I hope you're feeling a good bit better today too xx

Good luck today shellyb !! Everything crossed for you bothLittlefox hope you are relaxing and I'm sending all my positive thoughts to you!Kerryfan best of luck with your scan today So girls just as we thought we only have one little embryo going for PGS. One arrested and the other isn't suitable for biopsy (:

42ivfr, try not to look into stats etc, every situation is different. Hope all goes to plan today for biopsy, from what I hear day 5 /6 doesnt' make a difference so hang in there chic. Glad you are feeling much better now, that's one good thing, hope you're minding yourself. xx

Kerryfan, good luck today with scan, hope all goes well and you get dates etc to plan xx

Littlefox, hope you're looking after yourself and enjoying being PUPO. When will you test? xx

Hopefully, hope all good with you. Roll on Monday xx I'll test 9dp5dt which will be Sunday week, already thinking how stressed next week will be lol xx

I'm in for 1.30 tomorrow for transfer, nervous but excited. My plan is go gym early in the morning, then nice breakfast with hubby and then head over. Doing anything to pass the time, then back to bed for a while. MY DH uncle passed away yesterday evening suddenly, he was quite close to him so adding to stress is great!!! Think funeral is tomorrow eve, I won't go but just feel for DH, he must be going through a whole range of emotions now this week!

hi 42ivfer, I'm in agreement with hopefully, stop googling stats as you will drive yourself crazy. Focus on the positives. A high-quality blastocyst is what you want and you have one. Mine were a mixture of day 5 and day 6.

Hi 42ivfer, that's great you have 1 blastocyst I believe mine were day5 for the 1st cycle and day6 for the 2nd cycle. Interesting about the old eggs running out of steam. I wouldn't focus on it too much though as it really depends on when they fertilised on Day1 and when they are tested on Day5. Could be some fertilised late on Day1 so are close to blastocyst on Day5 but not quite.

Glad to hear you are feeling so much better...that's a relief I'm sure. xxx

It's really all go this week ladies! How's everyone doing today?? Needs to hear you are all okay!! Babysitter called this morning and one is at blastocyst stage and the other two are still at morula stage so they didn't do the biopsy today, they will have a look tomorrow. I've read that old eggs can lead to embryos running out of steam and slowing down by day 5-6. Also my friend in Harvard agrees so not sure what tomorrow will bring. With you ladies that got pgs done what day did the do the biopsy?I'm feeling a lot better, so was talking to the beacon and they said if I'm okay then I don't need to attend. So that's a relief

Oh 42ivfer you poor thing! I hope your ok, that must have been so painful I do hope the meds have helped a bit and that you get sorted out today, that's rotten! Great news on the embies though...come on little ones, you're nearly there...!

Littlefox and shellyb, I hope the 2ww is going ok for you. Will you tests at 9dp5dt or wait for the betas...such a tough call! I hope you are getting to relax though and watch lots of funny movies. Thanks shellyb for the kind words lovely of you, I do think that we get caught up in the treatments, clinics, the whole process really and dismiss the harm it can do to a relationship...but everyone on this journey I think does experience that, so I didn't want Sparclie to feel alone.

Hope your scan goes well on Thursday kerryfan1...here's to a perfect lining!!!

42ivfer you poor thing, I hope the meds are kicking in and your pain is easing a little. Good luck today with scan and hopefully no need for any more fiddling about with you. Good luck with phone call and biopsy today/tomorrow, fingers crossed for you xx

Littlefox, hope you're still relaxing and keeping somewhat sane. The first few days I find are not too bad. When will you test? How come you needed valium, least it help relax you I'm sure xx

Kerryfan, hope you're doing ok and getting ready now xx

HopefullyW you're in my thoughts, also your post on the relationship advice is spot on!! Monday will fly in for you and the rest will follow quickly for you xx

Yep it's not nice and I'm really good with pain usually! So on a good note two are really good and are top and the other is still a little behind but all looking good for biopsy either tomorrow or Thursday xx