Dear Dr. Jenni,
I’m a junior at CU and I’ve had sex with six girls a handful of times each. I feel like a loser because I can’t seem to make any of them orgasm. They look like they are having a good time, but I want to be able to make them cum.
—Don Juan Wanna Be

Dear Dr. Jenni,
My wife and I are newly married.
We are in our late 50s, and this is our second marriage. When we first married (different partners) in our 20s, we had sex multiple times a day. In the beginning of this marriage, we started out having sex almost every day, but after two years, we’ve slowed down to about once a week. How often do couples have sex these days? What is normal? Are we just old farts?
—Frequency for Old Farts?

it’s essential to have an ongoing conversation about fantasies that turn you on, as well as your limits. If you have a boundary around slapping her face, can you tell her why? She may understand where you are coming from and let it go, or she may explain how the sensation brings her a kind of pleasure only you can be trusted to deliver.

Dear Dr. Jenni,
My boyfriend claims his past girlfriends all had G-spot orgasms from intercourse. For the life of me I can’t seem to find my G-spot. I’ve done my Internet research, but still feel lost and inadequate compared to his previous partners. How do I find this spot?
—Searching for the G-Spot

Dear Dr. Jenni,
My husband has a far higher sex drive than I do. I really love him, but I feel so much pressure to match his drive. I really want to want, but it’s not there for me. I can’t even blame menopause yet. Suggestions?
—Wanting to Want

Dear Dr. Jenni,
I read about the naturopathic Viagra guy last week and I have a similar question. Rather than wait for erectile dysfunction to plague me, I want to practice preventive medicine. Do you have any suggestions on how I can prevent this from ever happening to me?
No offense, while I do fear cardiac disease and diabetes and all these other things, if those are going to get me, they’ll get me. But if I get erectile dysfunction, my love life will totally end!
Preventive ideas please, doc?
—Keeping healthy and horny

Dear Dr. Jenni,
I’m 37 and married for seven years.
We recently had our first child. We had to wait to return to sex, but now I seem to be losing my erections right before intercourse. This has never happened before, except for a handful of times in college. Why is this happening? If I have to do Viagra I will, but I prefer naturopathic remedies to pharmaceutical options. Ideas?
—Naturopathic Viagra?

I have been married for 10 years. I try to sexually please my wife. But she doesn’t try to please me at all. She tells me that it does nothing for her to please me. She intellectually knows that it makes me happy, but she can’t bring herself to give me pleasure, nor does she derive any pleasure from it. How do I get her to have more pleasure? I feel like I’m doing everything I can.

I read your column last week about the woman who wasn’t so into sex. I’m in a similar predicament. My husband and I have sex about twice a month. Sometimes I really enjoy it, and sometimes I feel like I’m just doing it because I know he needs it. The problem is that if I agree to more sex, he’ll just keep wanting more. It’s like he’s a bottomless pit. I’ve come to a point where I can’t even enjoy any intimate encounters because he’ll just want more sex. Is there a way to feel better or put a boundary on how much sex we have?

Dear Dr. Jenni,
I’m not so into sex. My husband loves it. He would ideally like it every day. We end up having sex about once a week. I figure if I can get him to do things for me, I will feel better about conceding to sex. For instance, I offer sex if he can mow the yard or do some ironing. I’ll even offer oral sex if he can clean the bathroom. Sometimes I feel like I am trading sex for housework chores. Is this a reasonable arrangement to do?
—Housework Sex