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Saturday, December 28, 2013

Happy New Year? It Depends

The New Year is almost here.

While many of us will be waiting for the ball to drop on New Year's Eve, others will be waiting for the other shoe to drop.

They are the ones who in positive situations remain on guard, bracing themselves either consciously or unconsciously for something bad to happen. Instead of enjoying the moment, they focus on the negative possibilities, not realizing that they are energizing and inviting (attracting) such possibilities to happen. They fill their lives with anxiety and remain on edge as a result.

This is not healthy.

Remaining on guard against what will happen next makes it difficult, if not impossible, to enjoy happiness and success.

This is not the way to live freely and authentically.

The belief (fear) that happiness is temporary stems from the subconscious mind and past experiences that promoted a negative outlook.

One thing is for sure: the future is unknown. But this is no reason to fear it, just as there is no reason to believe that bad times must befall good times.

When you find yourself expecting the other shoe to drop, it's time to confront what you are feeling in order to remove what is blocking your optimism and happiness.

Take a deep breath.

Is there a strong possibility that something negative will happen?

Is your mind telling you that this positive situation won't last, or that you don't deserve happiness?

Remember that you have more power over your life than you realize. Give yourself permission to enjoy all the things going well for you right now. Counter any thoughts of unworthiness or guilt by reaffirming your worth. Recite a positive mantra, focus on the present moment, read motivational literature or affirmations, and trust in your own potential.

You have complete control over your own happiness. It may take some time to fully believe this about yourself, but as you make room for happiness, you will begin to let go of the fears that have hijacked that happiness.

The New Year is coming. It's a time for new beginnings and a new attitude. Hold on to the good without worrying about what the future will bring. Don't let the fear of the other shoe dropping stop you from wearing it with your new attitude.

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Penny McDaniel is a spiritual teacher, educator, theologian, and author/writer even though she finds titles limiting. She believes life is filled with what she calls "spiritunities", spiritual opportunities that call us to growth, creativity, and self-expression.