So you know the old idea that if you hold a baby too much or don't let them ever just cry it out, you'll end up spoiling them? Well most of us have heard it and if you're a new mom like me, it is likely that someone has told you about it.

My loves.

So being the Google-er that I am, I decided to search this. Honestly this is one of those things that I really thought was true and I was just Googling it out of pure boredom I suppose. But as it turns out apparently it isn't so true anymore.

According to numerous articles and studies, you can't spoil a newborn. It's only after the age of six months that you should consider not answering every cry with a running leap from the sofa and not always holding them to stop the crying. Apparently newborns need all the attention and love you can give (duh) and this momma here is happy to oblige.

I will gladly include links to several articles that show that apparently you really can't spoil a newborn. In my opinion it makes perfectly good sense. They aren't smart enough to manipulate us and they are helpless little beings that are used to being warm and cozy inside of the womb. They still want that comfort of feeling mommy (or whoever else is holding them) and they more than likely appreciate the security of having someone take care of them. Considering that a newborn can't see very far or clearly for awhile, it's likely that they feel lost and scared when left alone; especially if they are not content at the moment. Having us there to comfort them is our job and I'm glad the "research" shows that we should do that. We are here to do a job and that is too take care of them. Sure if they are just "fussing" I don't think we should always give in, but leaving a crying newborn just sitting there is too hard for a new mom. You just want to kiss it away.

Apparently those babies that aren't left to "cry it out" are more likely to cry less overall later on and are typically more confident, independent, and secure. For more on this cozy topic, check out the included links:

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.

Perhaps one of my favorite homemaking topics is always about grocery shopping and budgets! I don’t know why, but this conversation always inspires me to see how I can change my ways or it sometimes even makes me proud of being able to keep our grocery budget near the amount that we tend to.

Everyone has different ideas of what is a “good” grocery food budget and that is okay because every family has different needs and wants. Honestly, there’s no right or wrong answer here in terms of budgets and where to shop - but there’s always some handy tips to share with one another.

I have found that these tips (some that are widely known tips) really do help with sticking to a clear budget and without getting distracted by extras.

Let’s face it, motherhood isn’t easy. We often need all of the unicorn magic, fairy dust and rainbows to make it through each day. But since those things don’t really exist, I’ll just settle on some good oils, lots of prayers and a cheap glass of wine.

When it comes to oils and motherhood there are countless oils we can use for our day. Whether it’s oils for emotions, oils for sleep or even oils for our teething babies, there are many ways in which we can have a tool box of support for our day to day role as MOM.

So today I am going to highlight my top 10 oils that I insist every mother should have on hand. There are so many wonderful oils and several that I have left off here, but dang these are mostly just the oils that will help bring you some peace, sleep and sanity. And a little backup for all the in betweens.

I thought I would always be that mom…

You know, the mom who had kids that ALWAYS looked super put together and stylish. Maybe not always in the fanciest of clothes (because #bills), but definitely in the cutest clothes from hip boutiques and with beautiful bows and perfect hair.

And then life happened.

And by life, I really just mean I had three kids within 5 years. Which translates to a whole lot of chaos if we’re being real here.

There are days where we leave our house and I’m thinking to myself, “Damn I hope we don’t run into anyone we know.” Or I’m already mentally preparing myself to tell whatever human I run into the truth - these heathens demanded on dressing themselves and today I didn’t care because it was one less battle to win.

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