I Can Have It All

Sometimes I wish I was unambitious. I look at people who are content just plodding along and I wish I could be happy living like that. But, I’m wired to always be thinking of what’s next and never really feeling satisfied with what I have. It’s not a bad thing but it means that life becomes extremely hard to juggle.

Trying to blog, work a very demanding 9 – 5.30, while socialising, being a top girlfriend, trying to keep the house in order and fitting in the gym to burn off the 2 stone I’ve been trying to get rid of for the past 5 years is bloody hard work. I’m quite often left feeling like I’m not good enough because I haven’t seen my friends in ages because I’m blogging on the weekends or I feel bad for having fun and not having the time to blog.

I once saw a quote on a mug once that said, “We all have the same amount of hours as Beyonce” and for ages, it stuck with me and I used to beat myself up soooo bad for letting something slip. But, Do I have someone at my every beck and call who helps organise my life? Nope! And, do I have the money that Beyonce has? Most certainly not.

What I started to realise is yes, we all have the same amount of hours in the day and different people use them better than others but it doesn’t mean that I should feel bad for how I spend them. Whatsmore, it’s hard work trying to fit everything in but it’s doable at my own pace and it will pay off in the future.

By working smarter and not harder, I can see my friends, write blog posts, hold down a job and do anything I want. Even just getting out of bed 10 minutes earlier can make a huge difference. That’s not to say that I am going to run myself into the ground. We all deserve a day or two hiding from responsibility with nothing more to keep us company that Netflix and a KFC Boneless Banquet.

What I am trying to say is that it is so easy to think that you aren’t doing as much as you should and most of the time you probably could be doing more but comparing yourself to others is counterintuitive. You can do everything you want to do, whether that’s sitting in front of the telly, seeing mates and write 5 blog post in one day.

I’m never going to happy watching life pass me by in a dead end job or one with no prospects, I’m still always going to want to have my side hustles because with a little hard work you can do it all.

This was a lovely little post. I saw that quote somewhere recently, might’ve been on a t-shirt and it got me thinking too. I’m not ambitious but I do wish I could get my head in gear to be slightly more productive with the time I get.

“I once saw a quote on a mug once that said, “We all have the same amount of hours as Beyonce” and for ages, it stuck with me and I used to beat myself up soooo bad for letting something slip. But, Do I have someone at my every beck and call who helps organise my life? Nope! And, do I have the money that Beyonce has? Most certainly not.”

I actually wrote something about similar to this a few months ago for a guest post but the post hasn’t been published yet. 🙁 However, I completely agree – we have to keep things in perspective. Beyoncé has plenty of extra pairs of hands to help her out and the money to make things happen!

I think it’s very admirable you’re juggling so much. You might not think you’re doing well all the time, but I think your drive is incredible! 🙂

This is a really great post! I used to be so hard on myself, and I wanted to get so much done in one day. One day, I burnt myself out! I realized that while I was being productive, I was also being counterproductive in terms of how I was feeling after doing all those things. Great post xx

I’ve been beating myself about not applying for more jobs or not finishing up blog posts, not making it to the gym, etc. But you’re right! They’re my hours and I can do what I wish with them. Doing things for me no matter what it is is what’s going to get me to the top and make me happier overall. ❤ Thanks for this!

I so needed to read this! I’ve been beating myself up because I haven’t been as active on my blog or any social media, really. But in that time I have spent loads of time with my girls as we prepare for the birth of our third daughter which is far more important than typing up a blog, to me. I needed this reminder. 💜

“I’m quite often left feeling like I’m not good enough because I haven’t seen my friends in ages because I’m blogging on the weekends or I feel bad for having fun and not having the time to blog” – this is so ME. Very relatable post. It’s really hard to balance everything!

Loved this, it’s so hard juggling everything! I work part-time, study full time & blog. Trying to fit in a social life and downtime alongside it is hard, it’s definitely all about organization and making sure you do have some days of doing nothing!

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About Laura Lovejoy

Without sounding like I'm on a game show, I'm Laura, I'm 24 and I'm from London.

I created this blog is for women like me. Women who worry about things they shouldn’t, women who work fucking hard but know how to play even harder and women that are navigating that minefield called love.