Hello curlies.
I have been through a billion bad hair days, whatever i do, they just wont look right. I have 3B hair, High Density, High Porosity, Coarse and Long hair. And it sucks! I never straighten or blowdry it! Today i tried using a diffuser, and it messed my hair up! it got all frizzy and poofy! And it's driving me nuts, that i NEVER have a good hairday anymore. Here is what i do, when i am in the bath, and a product list;

So, my conditioner changes alot, because my parents are divorced and i just use their conditioners, shampoo once a week.

But mostly it's conditioners that gives moisture and helps with breakage.

When i am in the bath:
1. I comb it with a wide tooth comb, starting from the buttom and going up, when i have conditioner in my hair.
2. i wash it out

but when i wash it out, and i, lets say, don't have my hair under water for about 10 seconds, it begins to frizz! And i hate it! I see all these curly hair toturials, where girls have perfectly frizz-free soft looking hair when it's wet, but mine looks disgusting and frizzes!

i use a hair mask from L'OREAL Elvital called "Antibreakage", once a week, i can't really see if it does any good or bad to my hair? so, yeah.

when i get out of the shower, i style it IMMEDIATLY to get as less frizz as possible, eventhough it always end up being frizzy... -.-

First i put my Toni&guy prep Leave in Conditioner in, and then i put Aussie Curl Definition + Soft feel serum in, and then i put in my MATAS Styling Creme, and my MATAS Styling serum in, and i let it air dry.

It ends up having some defined curls a very few places, but poofy and REALLY frizzy...

i just really want something, that will make my hair non frizzy, soft, and bouncy (and soft) curls (( right now my hair is the opposite!!

I never towel dry it.

What can i do? Is my hair unhealthy? How can i get it healthy? Which products should i use? But please not any products too expensive, i am 14, and i don't have a job, so yeah...

We have similar properties and your hair sounds a lot like mine (the way it used to behave) although your curl pattern is tighter. I highly recommend going CG. You would not believe the difference it made in my curl pattern, definition, and frizz. I've never had good hair like I've had the past five months. It's pretty incredible.

Also there are many inexpensive drugstore products that are CG approved (sulfate/silicone free). I'm sure your parents wouldn't mind picking you up a bottle of Suave or VO5 Conditioner and a gel to start off with. Check people's signatures with properties similar to yours to see what products they like. Maybe they'll work with your hair.

Also if I had to recommend a few things for you to help with frizz just to sum it up:

Stop using sulfates and silicones.

Co-wash only. Pick up a bottle of Tresemme Naturals Moisture since it is cheap and your hair is dry to test out. Maybe a lighter cheaper conditioner for cleaning your scalp (Suave? VO5?). If co-washing doesn't work out you can always get a sulfate free low poo. I occasionally use the ones by Shea Moisture. And if there is one styling product I recommend to define your curls and stop frizz and sorry it isn't terribly cheap it's kinky curly curling custard. But lots of people like drugstore brands gels like Aussie Instant Freeze, LALooks Sports Gel, Herbal Essences Set Me Up, etc. . .