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We are going to file for visitation and legal custody.

Posted by Anonymous

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My dh baby mama had a baby girl 4 months ago. We have been married for 8 years but separated for 2 years. During that time the baby was conceived. I have no issues with the BM and I adore the baby. We had her 3 days a week ( too little for overnights though) up until 2 weeks ago. BM felt like we lied to her about something stupid ( did not happen, she's delusional and I'm insulted at being called a liar) and has not responded to calls and texts. She does this when she gets mad for zero reason and does not allow dh to take the baby.

I'm sick of her crap and her having all the power. We want to help, don't push us out of her life because your life sucks.

For the record, he has always paid child support and the courts are not involved. It's time to get them involved. She has too much power she thinks and is starting to use that baby as a weapon.

Dh wants to file for custody visitation and a support order. We live in CT. Is it reasonable to not hire an attorney as we will have to meet with a mediator and try to come to a resolution the day of the hearing anyway.? I want to avoid if I can. We aren't looking for full custody but we want to have an equal say in her life.

Also, BM has no problem with me and besides this last stunt of her calling me a liar, it seemed like she preferred dealing with me over DH anyway.

DH needs to file for a Paternity Petition, the Courts will set up the Child Support. He needs to file for 50/50 Custody & Visitation

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Feb. 6, 2016 at 2:08 AM

Thank you for this. Do you know-Is it possible to put in the orders that she cannot have anyone else move in with her? She has multiple kids and a tiny apartment and wants to move her friend and his kid in. It sounds petty but it just shows she's not thinking of what's best for the kids.

Quoting Sassy762:

DH needs to file for a Paternity Petition, the Courts will set up the Child Support. He needs to file for 50/50 Custody & Visitation

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Feb. 6, 2016 at 2:09 AM

Have you dealt with family law/attorneys before? How much should I expect this to cost? Any ideas?

Im not sure how that would work but an Attorney could give you accurate info.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Thank you for this. Do you know-Is it possible to put in the orders that she cannot have anyone else move in with her? She has multiple kids and a tiny apartment and wants to move her friend and his kid in. It sounds petty but it just shows she's not thinking of what's best for the kids.

Quoting Sassy762:

DH needs to file for a Paternity Petition, the Courts will set up the Child Support. He needs to file for 50/50 Custody & Visitation

I would want full time custody if this were the living arrangement for my step child.

Definitely get a lawyer.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Thank you for this. Do you know-Is it possible to put in the orders that she cannot have anyone else move in with her? She has multiple kids and a tiny apartment and wants to move her friend and his kid in. It sounds petty but it just shows she's not thinking of what's best for the kids.

Quoting Sassy762:

DH needs to file for a Paternity Petition, the Courts will set up the Child Support. He needs to file for 50/50 Custody & Visitation

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