Gabor adds that natural attachment is generally cut off when we send our kids to school at 5. we, in essence, tell them to find attachment within their peers. then when they are teens we question why they listen to peers more than us. he says that misplaced attachment, is the main thing we seek after the rest of our lives. most often – selling out our own authenticity, who we really are, in order to find someone who will like/bond with us.