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Frequently Asked Questions - About Sex

How do I have sex with another woman?

Having sex with another woman is a wonderful and natural experience.

The clitoris is the only human organ that is solely for pleasure.
It is extremely sensitive and can be very enjoyable if stimulated correctly.
The "G" spot is another area that, when stimulated directly, can result in intense pleasure.
It is found about a third of the way into the vagina towards the pubic bone.
There are vibrators with specially designed sleeves to stimulate the "G" spot.
However, what works for one woman may not work for another. Sexual response and pleasure
is a very personal and individual experience.

The following are some tried and true lesbian favourites:

Kissing is a favourite thing to do with the mouth and lips and women have been known to kiss for hours on the cheek, neck, breast, clitoris, anywhere! The body is your oyster. Licking and sucking are also common and enjoyable practices

Touching of genitals and clitoris is also a favourite form of lesbian sex. Explore slowly around the lips, clitoris, its hood and shaft, around the vagina and anal area. Touching with the entire body is a favourite. On top, either clothed or naked next to each other, pressing against each other, putting one's leg between the other's thighs, wrestling, rolling around, all emphasise whole body touch to stimulate sexual desire. Touching with breasts can be very arousing for both as can touching the other's genitals with one's breasts by rubbing the breast lightly over the vulva, stroking the clitoris with the nipples or pressing each other breast to breast

Tribadism is rubbing one's genitals against someone's body or genitals. In the 19th century, lesbians were known as "tribades" because of this form of sexual practice. It can involve straddling the partner's leg and pressing and rubbing the clitoris against it or both partners may get into a scissors position to rub genitals together. This form of sex allows the hands and mouth to be free for other things

Oral sex is using the mouth, tongue and teeth to stroke and penetrate the genitals

How do I have sex with another man?

Having sex with another man is a wonderful and natural experience.

The following are some tried and true favourites:

Kissing is one of the first ways of experiencing pleasure with another man. It is one of the most common, safe and enjoyable of practices. Kissing can be an exploration of your partner, there are many places to kiss each other; the neck, chest, nipples, the belly, between the thighs, and perhaps the most intimate the lips and mouth, from soft brushing to deep exploration with tongues. Kissing heightens sexual arousal and a feeling of intimacy

Touching, caressing and rubbing up against your partner (sometimes called frottage) is also common and stimulates sexual desire. The male body is very sensitive to touch, and touching of the body with fingers, hands, body to body can be very sensual

Mutual masturbation is the stroking, fondling, rubbing, or kneading of each other's dicks. It is a very common form of gay lovemaking and is very safe. Caressing your lover's cock can be very erotic for both partners

Rimming is the licking and caressing of the anus using the tongue, lips and mouth to explore and penetrate and can be highly arousing. If you or your partner has cuts or open wounds in either area this activity could possibly be seen as risky; if you have open wounds/cuts on either your ass or your mouth, you should probably seek medical attention. Put rimming aside for the time being! Rimming is also a risky activity for hepatitis A and B, however there is a vaccine you should have (free from most sexual health centres) that will protect you against these diseases

Oral sex, head jobs or sucking cock involves one partner taking the other partners dick and/or balls in his mouth, massaging and sucking. This can be highly pleasurable due to the sensitivity of the head of the dick. Oral sex is considered a low risk activity in terms of HIV infection. Care should be taken to ensure you or your partner has no cuts or abrasions on either the penis or the mouth. If so avoid taking cum in your mouth

Anal sex can be the most intense, exciting and erotic of all sexual exchanges between men. Some men prefer to be fucked, others to fuck, still others like both. Many gay men do not enjoy fucking and choose not to partake. The choice is yours. Being the receptive partner in anal sex can produce intense sexual feelings and excitement due to the rubbing of the partners cock on the prostate gland inside the rectum, or male "G-spot". Ensure you engage in safe sex to protect against HIV and STIís by using a condom and plenty of water based lubricant

Masturbation

Masturbation is the act of caressing, fondling, stroking, and rubbing oneís own
genitals for sexual pleasure.

Until recent times, masturbation was seen as being abnormal, a deviant behaviour,
and detrimental to both physical and mental well being. It is now recognised that this is
not the case, and masturbation is a healthy expression of our own sexual desires and fantasies.
Masturbation allows us not only to release sexual tension, but also to become familiar with our own
bodies and more comfortable with sexual feelings and responses. It is an exploration,
to discover our own sexual likes and dislikes. Many people masturbate from puberty or even prior to this,
and throughout their lives.

Everyone masturbates! It is not something to feel guilt or shame about, but rather
to be enjoyed and celebrated as a natural expression of our sexuality.