If you said yes, you probably intimidate some people. People often fear what they can, and will never be.

I would like to dedicate this blog post to “nice” people, particularly men.

I dislike many “nice” guys because one too many have fucked me over, or used me. “Nice” guys are not super nice; they are conniving users. I speak of this from my PERSONAL experiences; I AM NOT SAYING YOU CAN’T BE NICE AND LEGIT BE NICE. I am trying to convey my personal experiences with manipulators.

Nice guys often play the pity me, pity me, victim card to make people feel sorry for them, because when they get the fake pat on the back and feel validated. They never see that the pat on the back is temporary and their unhappiness that chills beneath their skin shall remain. Pretending to be a fake, nice person does not get you love; it gives you a false sense of reality. You know what gets you REAL love? Being yourself and being unapologetic about it. When you can be honest with those around you and they still love you; it is love. When someone can put up with all of your flaws, point them out but still hug you, that is love.When someone texts you just to find out how everything is and supports you- it is love. Users sometimes do this until they get what they want, then they move on, because all they were doing was giving you the same temporary approval they seek themselves.

I don’t play the victim card, because I am way too old for that shit. I figured out along time ago that playing the role of the helpless, dumb victim attracts people who are just like that! They have no interest in saving you.

I am often painted as the villain. I can be stand offish, unfriendly and people mistake that as snobbery. I am stand offish until I feel a sense of safety. I don’t think I am better than anyone, and I am far from judgmental. I just have to observe. I hate most people, and I am not very trusting. People do not go awwwwwwwww poor Jaclyn when they see me. I do not expect them to.

Now there are people particularly males who love to make everyone around them feel sorry for them, and if I happen to go to toe with them, I am vilified. I don’t think this is fair.

So, mirror, mirror on the wall who is the true victim after all?

Saying stuff like “you’ll never go out with me, or girls like you don’t like me, or nobody likes me, or I am not good enough for you, and so forth” are often signs of conniving behavior. The guy is trying to make you feel sorry for him so you have sex with him. You do not need to be placed on a pedestal by anyone, because if you love yourself, you are already on one.

I have always had falling outs with my friends..like since elementary school. It might be because I tend to have shitty taste in friends, or because I am constantly changing and if the people around me aren’t I replace them. This usually occurs with female friends. I form emotional bonds better with men. I also feel more comfortable around them.

Anyways, about three months ago I had a falling out with a close friend; we were close for a few years but eventually I grew tired of listening to her bullshit. I helped this girl find jobs, listened to her issues and didn’t get mad when she fucking blew up my phone on a regular basis about stupid shit. Whenever I needed someone to talk to she would respond by saying stuff like “drink tea, or I don’t want to hear anything negative today”. I just got sick of her. She is also one of those people that makes the same mistake all the time then cries about it. Eventually, I told her off. Occasionally she will send me messages on Facebook (even though we are not FB friends) with random thoughts and I respond with one word answers because it is my classy way of saying I don’t fucking care. In her last message she said that I said some really hurtful things but she forgave me. I found this amusing because I was never sorry. Sometimes you have to aim for the heart in order to get bad people out of your life. Sometimes the people closest to you are the ones dragging you down and causing a lot of negativity in your life. I am so much happier now that we are not in communication with one another. I don’t have to listen to annoying bullshit that could easily be prevented had she used half of her brain. I’m too sassy to deal with this.

I am like cocaine people tell me how horrible I am but they always come back for another round. It happens with guys a lot. I hold grudges though…you piss me off really badly I’ll never talk to you again.

Have you ever met a straight man and thought to yourself…hmmmmmmmmmmm the only vagina you have ever seen was the one that you gave you life?

The reason why they are not dating, or having any sort of a sexual relationship with a woman is because they lack communication skills. Period. End of story.

Some men just do not get the concept of how to talk to women; I believe they see it as speaking to another species.

If you want to date straight women, then do not say/ or do stupid shit like this:

DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT say any kind of remark that could be perceived as a “fat joke”. You want to piss a woman off tell her she is fat. Seriously, we hate that shit. Not only is it offensive, but it is super rude, and will leave you alone in life with your hand.

DO NOT compare a woman to another woman. It is like dating suicide. I don’t care about your ex or about some broad you loved in high school. The only woman I want to be compared to is myself.

Do not play the dick card and think it is going to get you laid. I’ve had guys say rude shit to me thinking that it will help them get a first class ticket inside of my vagina. It didn’t work. It only got them blocked on ALL social media accounts. #fuckyou

If we show no interest in you. We literally don’t give a fuck. It is not that difficult to understand. Move on.

Shitty friends suck, but what is even worse is when YOU keep them around, because believe it or not, you have the power to kick them to the curb. I recommend you do this. What makes a shitty friend?

#1. If he/she blows up your phone on a regular basis to discuss their issues all day long; I guarantee it they’re a shitty friend.

#2. They can’t agree to disagree. They will continue to argue with you over incredibly dumb topics, and most of the time they don’t even have valid information to support their opinions. For the record, an opinion is an opinion if it were a fact it would be called a fact.

#3. They don’t support you. Enough said.

#4. They’re jealous of you. You find a good guy, and they’ll find everything wrong with him, because they’re lonely and single, and will be for the rest of their lives.

#5.They critique most of the stuff you do even when you don’t ask.

#6. When its your turn to vent, they respond with shit like “I’m being positive today”.

Everyone has insecurities, EVERYONE, but that does not mean they are INSECURE. There is a fine line between disliking certain aspects of your personality, or wishing you could alter something about your physical appearance, we all know by now that we are flawed, it is part of life, and that’s that. Some of us are INSECURE individuals, and insecure people want to break others, because they dislike themselves. It is not rocket science, everything I am writing you have heard before, but I want to reiterate it because sometimes we get side tracked by all of the bullshit, and forget.

“Oh darling, you cant fix yourself by breaking someone else”

Mhm, it is very true. Nobody likes a bully. Bullies are tormented souls that hate themselves so badly, they go out of their way to break someone else so they too can feel pain.

I used to be attracted to emotionally abusive men, and unfortunately they tried to break me, because they were broken. I know all the warning signs, I know all the red flags, and I am so over dealing with these types of males. Treating a girl like garbage makes a guy a coward, and will only set him up for failure, because when the girl wises up she will leave, and he will be left all by his lonesome. #byeasshole

Anyways, here are some warning signs a guy is emotionally abusive.

#1. He has a bad relationship with his mother. A guy that has mommy issues more than likely has issues with respecting women.

#2. He blows up at you early on, and doesn’t understand why you’re pissed at him.

#3. After you break up, or stop dating, they come back for another round.

I always have crazy titles, because they make my blog posts appear interesting. I guess you can call it “false” advertising, but whatever, today’s post is about a guy in a red sweat shirt.

I am very much attracted to funny men, because they are usually ballsy, know how to have a good time, and I find it easy to open up to them. I am one of those people that has issues with allowing people to get to know me on an emotional level, because it makes me feel powerless. I have some issues…but don’t we all? Anyways, lets call this idiot RSSD. RSSD seemed really cool, but unfortunately, he made the six year old selling lemonade on the street corner appear mature. We only hung out twice, and it was clearly just that, there was nothing romantic behind our hang outs, we just shared one similar interest, and I am not going to say what it is. The second time we hung out he had the nerve to sit there and stick earphones in his ears, who does that???? I should have just walked out, but I didn’t, I stayed, and I am going to turn a negative experience with a dipshit into comedic inspiration..:)

RSSD is a brat, and at one point so was I. Let me explain, I grew up spoiled, and my parents always catered to me, and gave me more than enough, but eventually I grew out of that spoiled brat obnoxious give me my way or the highway mentality. Rotten people are drawn to those types, and who the hell wants to attract that? RSSD wants what he wants when he wants it and when he doesn’t get his way he acts out like a little boy. Like I did as a child when I threw a temper tantrum because my parents wouldn’t get my a toy I wanted.

RSSD only wanted to hang out with me, because his dick wanted to chill inside of my vagina. I was definitely attracted to him, but wasn’t ready for that yet, and thats when his true colors started to show. That’s when he acted like a child, was in a pissy ass mood, and stuck those ear phones in his ears. My advice to RSSD is if you only want sex be straight forward about it, because you will attract another girl that just wants sex, and then you don’t have to act like a little boy, because you will get your way. My second piece of advice is you’re not 19 anymore, you are a grown man, and should know better by now. You should know that you need to RESPECT women, because clearly you don’t.