How Do You Deal w A Rebellious 19 yr old.....

Thursday, January 10, 2013

my step daughter is driving us crazy... her boyfriend is turning her against us... His word is law and we are liars... We are at a loss as to what to do.. I don't know what to say or do.. i am only a Step-mother ...I don't want to Cross a line i shouldn't i don't want to Piss my Fiance off. Any Step Parents out there have any Advice... I am just frustrated oh my goodness what do you do....

I have that same problem with my son. All my kids married great people than my youngest who is very close to me , got together with a very self fish person and we now rarely see him.....it really hurts

I think you've gotten some great advice. When I married my husband his three children were already adults, so my only experience has been as a step grandmother which has been great. I do agree with the others, your step daughter is an adult. Concentrate on your future husband and give advice only when asked.

I am a step mother to 3 girls. They are now 3 beautiful successful women with their own families. As a step mother, I let the biological father and mother handle things. I was the built in friend for the girls. I listened to them and took them places and just was a friend to them. A 19 year old is an adult. All you can do is be there for your husband, don't get caught in the middle.

As a step-parent it is best to try to stay out of these things. It is REALLY hard to, especially when you see your spouse hurting, but talk about it with your spouse behind closed doors and try not to tell your step-daughter what to do. Teenagers are rebellious by nature. They do need *some* structure and firmness, but at the same time they're trying to learn how to be independent, which is why they rebel. The best thing any parent can do during this time is to make sure their child knows that they can always come home (or that they're loved) if anything ever happens. I wish you the best of luck. Teenage years are not easy. And I know I certainly challenged my parents too! But ultimately, parents cannot fail as long as their children feel loved and supported unconditionally.