Adoption Support Group

Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

Breastfeeing and adoption

A friend asked me yesterday if I was planning on breastfeeding the babies that my husband and I are about to adopt. We will be in the delivery for both births and will bring both babies home from the hospital. The first one is due on June 30 and the second is due on Sept. 22. So . . . she told me that there were hormones that I could take that would cause me to produce milk so I could breastfeed. Is this true? What is your opinion on it? I am sure many would think it was wierd but I want to give these children every advantage possible and if I could make this happen for them, I would want to. I googled it and did find a little info on it but not much. If you know anything about this, please share your knowledge. Even if you don't know about the procees to make it happen, I would still welcome your opinion whether it be for it or against it. Thanks!

Years ago they had &quot;wet nurses&quot; that use to breast feed babies that didn't have mothers available or that were in orphanages. Breast fed babies have a healthier immune system --what research says---I used Emfamil with DHA and ARA--ingrediants found in breast milk and my adopted daughter is growing so well and is very bright. So it is realy up to you, it may help your babies bond quicker, and if it is something you feel like you don't want to miss out on, you should do it. I just didn't even want to be &quot;bothered&quot; with it since the adoption was such a huge adjustment for us anyways and our baby was ten months old when we got her---almost too late to start breastfeeding anyways. Good luck, keep me posted on what you chose to do.

I remember reading about it when we were matched with our first daughter. She was born early so I never got around to doing anything more than reading about it - plus as a preemie she may have had problems with this feeding method. I would say that you should do what you feel like you need to do. But if it is bonding thing - don't worry, night after night of sitting with your little one as they drift off to sleep will work magic for bonding. I couldn't be closer to both of my girls and they were both bottle fed babies and doing better than well - they are great!

Got to say I'm of the same mindset as MomofTwo... I don't think a kid misses out for not being breast fed, mine are now 13 and 17 healthy and happy, but then that's just my opinion. Do what you feel is best and it will be the right decision.

I know this may be in contrast to others agreement but I say, If you can produce breast milk and nurse, it IS better for the baby, its not to say they will suffer but lord knows my bf is needy of the breast and I think its because he wasn't breastfeed! Ha ha!

First...congratulations on your newest additions to your family. How exciting this must be for you. This topic is one of personal choice so don't feel weird about the desire to do such. There are children who receive breastmilk that's donated in hospitals, non-lactacting mothers receive it etc. for a number of reasons so it is not abnormal to have a desire to have children breastfed, even if they are not your biologically yours. There are a number of health reasons that people choose to breast feed their children. Not too mention, you may want to simply have the bonding experience as a biological mother would her own. In a sense, it would be as though you have twins, so you will definitely have to adhere to some sort of schedule that is feasible. However, it is quite normal and I commend one for wanting to do such!

YES! THIS IS TRUE! MY GIRLFRIENDS ADOPTIVE MOTHER DID THIS! OF COURSE IN HIGH SCHOOL I THOUGHT THIS WAS WEIRD BUT AS THE MOM...YOU DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST FOR YOUR BABIES! OUR NEED TO BOND IS DEEP AND WHY NOT GO THRU ALL THE MOTIONS OF MOTHERHOOD? BE THANKFUL THAT WE HAVE THE OPTION TO DO THIS! THAT IS IF WE CHOOSE TO DO THIS. MY GIRLFIENDS MOM WOULD NOT HAVE CHANGED HER DECISION FOR A MILLION BUCKS! AND MY FRIEND SEES IT AS A COMPLIMENT-NOT STRANGE OR PERVERSE!!

There are side effects - similar to pregnanc hormones, weight gain, mood swings, exhaustion, headaches - the drugs are the same one that I took when we were doing IVF.

But is does not matter anyway becuase my doc. says since I had to have the surgery to remove my ovaries because of the tumors - my breast did not develop the glands they need to produce milk regardless of how many hormones I would take.

So this option is out for me - no worries - I will find other ways to bond with them - these are the children God intended me to have so he will take care of the bonding!

so happy for you my friend ,and so pleased you have chosen to adopt.I was adopted at 3 months to the most wonderful people who i know as mum and dad.
as for the breast feeding ,ive heard its possible too.and i think whatever suits you and your new babes is just fine!
good luck ,and many happy years to you and your husband with your precious new bundles of joy!
love and hugs ,sharon xxxxxxx

its true you can nurse your new babies...and congrats to you on the coming births and on wanting to be the best mom you can...babies thrive whether breastfed or not. if you want to join a truly supportive group of breastfeeding moms, find la leche league in a town near you. these are very supportive nursing moms who encourage what you are doing and applaud it. good luck...

Well I can give you some personal experience.. I am adopted and when my mother adopted me she didn't know about any hormones you could take but she did use a &quot;form&quot; of breastfeeding. She wanted the bonding experience of the breastfeeding so she had a sack or bag of protein enriched milk (typically goats milk because it's more gentle than regular milk)the bag would have a small tube coming out of it and she would tape it to her chest and then lay it on her nipple (this device was purchased somewhere by her) anyways that way I would have the bonding experience even though she physically couldn't produce the milk. She said it worked pretty well but I eventually became to independent and didn't like to sit still long enough to &quot;breastfeed&quot;

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