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Come As You Are
Co-operative
Tel: 888-504-7934info@comeasyouare.comwww.comeasyouare.comCome As You Are Co-operative is the world's only worker-owned co-operative sex shop. Founded in 1997 in Toronto, Canada, our mandate is to create access to sexual health, education, and pleasure in a welcoming and comfortable environment.259316636

Binders, Packers and STPs

What is a Binder?

Simply put, binders are garments designed to compress one’s chest. People bind for many reasons: chest binding can be part of one’s gender transition, gender play, or as part of post ‘top’ surgery recovery. Cis-gendered men often wear binders for gynecomastia. Regardless of why you’re looking for a binder (or chest compression vest), there are some good options out there and some simple guidelines to follow.

Health & Safety

To our knowledge, there has never been a study done on the use of binders, but from our own experiences, we find that binding too tightly for too long can cause muscle compression and possibly limit lung capacity (with long-term use). Bind as little as you can, and try to find a binder that gives you adequate compression with a little room to breathe. Avoid binding during sleep, and only use the binder recommended by your surgeon if binding is part of your aftercare.

Binder Styles

We carry three styles from Underworks (Ultimate, Tri-Top, and Extreme Compression). They all fit very similarly, come in sizes ranging from XS to XXXL, and are usually available in white or black. We recommend washing your binder in cold water, and hanging to dry. If your binder stretches, a quick spin in the dryer should help restore its shape.

Binder Sizing

By measuring the midline of your chest, you can get the best sense of which binder will fit.

XS 29-31 Sm 32-34 Med 35-39 Lg 40-44 XL 45-48 2X 48-52 3X 53-56

What is a Packer?

In our collective mind, a packer is any object (socks, silicone, or otherwise) that allows anyone of any gender to ‘sport a package’. At Come As You Are, we carry a number of different packers in different colours and materials that are explicitly made for the purpose of creating the appearance of a flaccid penis in one’s pants.

How to Choose a Packer

We carry packers in silicone (which is non-porous, easy to clean, and lasts forever) and in an elastomer material (which is porous, and will last a few years depending on how well you care for it). If you find that you sometimes have reactions to sex toys, it is best to choose a silicone packer. Mr Right and Pack-Man are both made of silicone, while the Ultimate Packers are elastomer. Packers may seem small on the shelf, but appear much bigger once you’re packing - a porn star package is a great look, but definitely sends a message!

How to Wear a Packer

Packers can be tucked into ‘tighty whitey’ underwear, boxer briefs, or secured to the body using a packing strap. Aslan Leather makes the Packing Strap for use with the Mr Right and Pack-Man Packers, and SpareParts makes both a Commando and Trunk style of their Pete. Additionally, the SpareParts Tomboi will easily accommodate a packer of any size or style.

Aslan Packing Strap: Sm 28-34 Med 34-38 Lg 38-42

What is an STP Packer?

An STP is an packer that enables the user to Stand-To-Pee in public washrooms or in the privacy of one’s own home! Some folks who are transitioning or have transitioned, find that being able to use public urinals without detection (‘passing’) is integral to their masculine identity, while others love STPs for sex play and piss play, and some just like the convenience being able to easily urinate while standing.

Currently, none of the STP manufacturers have capacity to wholesale to retail stores like ours, but there are many companies that you can order from online.

Here are some of the more popular STPs on the market:

Mango Pack-and-Pee

The original STP device uses an elastomer packer with a medicine-spoon style opening which sits around the urethra. It is recommended that the Mango be used with the Mango Harness. The Mango costs about $70.

The PeeCock

The folks at PeeCock have created a truly revolutionary STP product with their all-in-one packer design. The PeeCock is adaptable for penetration play, and available in multiple sizes, colours, and styles. The PeeCock costs between $130 and $150, and their harnesses cost $23.

Aslan Leather Packing Strap
You could always use a jock-strap, but why would you? Aslan's packing strap was originally designed to be used with Vixen's Mr Right, but works great with Pack-Man and the Ultimate packers too! Many sizes available: XS 26" - 30", Small 30"- 34", Medium 34"- 38", Large 38"- 42", XL 42" - 46", XXL 46" ... (read more)

Bicharraca Drama Queer Patch
Some folks wear their hearts on their sleeves, but a Drama Queer keeps their feelings closer to their chests on a handy dandy glitter bomb of a iron-on patch! Made with love - and drama - in Germany.

Bicharraca Some Women Have A Cock Patch
Our feminism includes trans women. Yours should too. Enjoy this truth-telling patch for the ages. Revel in the fluorescent glory of this truth-telling iron-on patch.

Breast Form Double Sided Tape
This tape is a simple way to attach silicone breast forms to the body. These will adhere the more you press the form to the chest, and are heat sensitive - the bond will strengthen as the tape warms to body temperature. Sadly, be warned that these will void the warranty on any breastforms we carry. ... (read more)

BSIsNice Trans Pride
Sometimes we buy things for all of you, and sometimes, well, we just buy stuff because we think it is just so undeniably amazing that we kinda don't care if they sell or not. We originally picked up BSisNice's stylish Spanish dildos because well, they made us happy - and it turned out that they mad ... (read more)
(6" x 1 3/4")

BuckOFF: Buck Angel FTM Stroker
This stroker is the first designed specifically by and for trans men. Buck Angel has designed this stroker to snugly fit trans masculine people's junk - making it great a great option for masturbation and hand-job play! Anyone with a small dick / big clit that is seeking a stroker to try out should ... (read more)

Classic Gaff
Finding clothing that is sexy and supportive is no easy task. Doubly so when we're talking lingerie. This thong-style gaff has been made out of lycra with a wider front to provide extra coverage and support for all those looking to tuck- whether you identify as trans, genderqueer, MTF, a drag queen ... (read more)

Cyber Guy 1
Softer and more plush than the Guy 1 or the Jelly Guy 1, this Guy is perfect for packing (with a harness) and playing! This classic dildo is one of our favourite harness-compatible toys. With a playful, but realistic design, our Guys are sure to please!
(5" x 1 1/2")

Doc J Helping Head
Touted as the ultimate BJ Helper (BJ is a lucky person, whoever they are!), this sleeve is short - measuring in at two inches- and snug - great for combining with handjobs, blowjobs or other form of play! For folks with smaller genitals (such as some trans men) this sleeve is ideal for play due to i ... (read more)
(2 1/4" x 1 1/4")

Fleshlight Quickshot Boost
Have a Quickshot whenever you want! Fleshlight now offers a compact easy-to-hold masturbation sleeve for all the lovely people who may want some sexy times, but without the weight and bulk. Great for travelling, the Quickshot features an open-ended textured design with two lids, meaning it can be pl ... (read more)
(4" x 2 1/2")

Fleshlight Ultimate Packer Large
Want to sport a bulge? This cyberskin toy is ideal for packing and is garnering rave reviews. Extremely malleable. Not firm enough for penetration. Made by the folks at Fleshlight where it is known as "Mr Limpy".
(6 " x 1 3/8")

Fleshlight Ultimate Packer Medium
Known as Mr Limpy by Fleshlight in some circles, we call this packing device the Ultimate Packer because it is the most affordable and softest packer around! Made of cyberskin (silicone and mineral oil), this packer comes in three sizes and three colours, fits great in your packing strap or underwe ... (read more)
(4 1/2" x 1 1/4")

Fleshlight Ultimate Packer Small
Want to sport a bulge? The Mr Limpy from Fleshlight is truly the Ultimate Packer! Available in more sizes and colours than most packing devices, and this cyberskin packer is inexpensive and durable too.
(3 1/2" x 1 1/4")

Form Function BJThe B.J. is designed to suck! Meet the first dildo designed specifically for blowjobs. With a hollow funnel running through the toy, accessible from both the urethral opening, and the base of the toy, this dildo allows for suction against the wearer when pressed up against their dick/c ... (read more)
(6 1/4" x 1 3/4")

Form Function Model D Sport Cut STP
We've quested for years for a reliable stand-to-pee device that can be worn safely and securely for urinating while standing up, and we think we've found the golden ticket with Form Function's products! Many STP devices we've looked at over the years do not fit differently-shaped bodies well, or don ... (read more)
(3" x 1 1/4")

Form Function Model D Sport Uncut STP
We've quested for years for a reliable stand-to-pee device that can be worn safely and securely for urinating while standing up, and we think we've found the golden ticket with Form Function's products! Many STP devices we've looked at over the years do not fit differently-shaped bodies well, or don ... (read more)
(3" x 1 1/4")

Form Function Number One STP
Designed to be a handheld stand-to-pee device, the Number One features a flexible silicone design, decently-sized reservoir, and large urethral opening- not dissimilar to the Mr. Fenis. While this packer isn't compatible for wearing with a harness under clothing for out-and-about wear, it's still a ... (read more)
(3" x 1 1/4")

Form Function Slingshot Harness
This harness has been designed by Form Function to work with their wearable STP devices - the Model A and Model D Sport. A simple vinyl panel securely holds the packer up against the genital area to ensure it stays in place during wear. The straps wrap around the thigh (where the leg meets the torso ... (read more)

Freestyle Breast Form
This translucent Freestyle Breast Form is an exciting addition now gracing our shelves (of both the digital and literal variety). Designed with a slight concave, these forms can mold around curvy breast tissue, or can be worn against flat breast tissue. Symmetrical, made with silicone, and finished ... (read more)

FUZE+ Set of Five Silicone Dilators
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(Various" )

FUZE+ Step 1 Dilator
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(3 1/4" x 1/2")

FUZE+ Step 2 Dilator
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(4" x 3/4")

FUZE+ Step 3 Dilator
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(5 1/4" x 1")

FUZE+ Step 4 Dilator
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(5 1/2" x 1 1/4")

FUZE+ Step 5 Dilator
We’re delighted that the good folks who made our very first dilator set have re-released them under their sister company Fuze, which is based here in Ontario! Fuze Step dilators feature everything we’re looking for in a high-quality dilator, thanks to their dedication, hard work, and clinical trial ... (read more)
(5 3/4" x 1 1/2")

Get Your Joey Packing Pouch
Handmade with love and pride in Canada, Get Your Joey is designed to be a machine-washable packing pouch that can be pinned to other clothing! Pop your favourite packer into this secure sleeve-like pouch, pass the shaft of your packer through the o-ring, and use the included safety pin to attach it ... (read more)

LA Pumps 5 Inch Cylinder
Looking to pump, and concerned the 9 Inch Cylinder might be too big? Or that the 3 Inch Cylinder might be too wee? Our pal the 5 Inch Cylinder features a 1 1/4" diameter, and is marketed for trans men - with the title of 'FTM Cylinder' - by LA Pumps.
(5" x 1.25")

LA Pumps Breast Pump Cylinder
Breast pumping is a great form of sensation play- lubricate the rim of the cylinder and place it over the breast and then remove the air with a pump like our Deluxe Brass Pump. This will increase blood flow and sensitivity, which some find to be a very pleasurable experience. Sometimes trans women w ... (read more)

Lace Gaff
This sexy panty has a reinforced gusset and snug fit designed to support folks' genitals if they're planning on tucking. A stellar & sexy panty for folks who don't tuck also! Available in black, ivory white, and a beautiful plum purple in sizes ranging from medium to 5X! Manufacturer's sizing info: ... (read more)

Landmark Post Surgical Chest Binder
This binder is available for folks who have booked appointments for chest surgeries. Certain surgeons require their clients to find a compression binder to use during the healing process after their chest surgery - and that's where this pal comes in, since the Underworks binders we offer aren't desi ... (read more)

New York Toy Collective Archer Small
Ever feel like regular packers take up a little too much room in your pants? Tired of going to the gym sporting a porn star hard-on? Well, you're in luck! Designed specifically for FTM, trans, genderqueer, and cosplaying folks, New York Toy Collective has added this smaller gem to their line-up o ... (read more)
(3" x 1")

New York Toy Collective Sam STP
The amazing crew at NYTC have been hard at work for two years, designing their very own STP. And, we’re delighted to announce that the result is finally here! Meet Sam the STP! Sam is designed to be packed with tight undies, with no special harness required, although our Tomboi & Tomboii harnesses a ... (read more)

New York Toy Collective Shilo
As a worker-owned co-operative ourselves, we tend to swoon whenever we encounter another collective doing good work in the sex toy world - and in the case of the New York Toy Collective's Shilo, we double swooned! Shilo isn't just another strap-on harnes ... (read more)
(5 1/2" x 1 1/4")

Queer Supply Fuck Your Gender Binary T-Shirt
This t-shirt is designed & printed in Toronto by a collective of local artists who work to make space for marginalized people and multifaceted identities. This beautiful gold print was designed by Kit, and is hand printed in Toronto on a 100% ring-spun cotton shirt that's also manufactured in Toront ... (read more)

SpareParts Pete Commando
For the times when you wish you could just go commando, but still need somewhere to put your packer, SpareParts' Pete Commando Harness is sure to do the trick! With an elastic loop on the inside of the packer pouch to keep everything securely in-place, this harness lets you keep everything front-an ... (read more)

SpareParts Tomboi Harness
We've been searching for the perfect underwear harness since we first opened our doors back in the nineties, but until SpareParts launched the Tomboi and Sasha harnesses, we were skeptical that such a thing could even exist. Ever the perfectionists, the folks at SpareParts have come up with a harne ... (read more)

Spareparts Tomboii Boxer Brief
We're going to be totally honest with you here: the SpareParts Tomboii has so much going on that there's simply no way to do justice to it in a web description, but we'll try. If you know us at all, you know that we're incredibly picky about the stuff we stock in our shop, and until the read more)

Transform See-Through Breast Form Bra - Black
Another product where the name leaves little to the imagination, but neither does the bra! Designed to hold breast forms like the Transform forms that we carry, this is a great alternative to products like tapes or other bras that may not hold forms securely throughout the day. Available in white or ... (read more)

Transform See-Through Breast Form Bra - White
Another product where the name leaves little to the imagination, but neither does the bra! Designed to hold breast forms like the Transform forms that we carry, this is a great alternative to products like tapes or other bras that may not hold forms securely throughout the day. Available in white or ... (read more)

Transform Supersoft Classic Breast Forms
We've struggled with choosing a breast form for our shop for a long time. We've decided on the Transform Classic SuperSoft breast form. Available in vanilla and chocolate, these asymmetrical soft forms are designed to provide a realistic contoured line along the chest and underarm, leaving no empty ... (read more)

Underworks Concealer Chest Binder
The Concealer binder is a winner because it can be worn as a stand-alone piece of clothing. No need to pile on those layers in the summer! A thick cotton undershirt-style shirt sits over two binding layers of spandex& nylon that runs to the middle of the ribcage. This means binding is localized excl ... (read more)

Underworks Cotton Binding Top Chest Binder
For many years we’ve offered the same binders here at Come As You Are, however, it’s time to shake things up and add two new cotton-lined binders to our collection! One of these new chest binders is the Cotton Lined Binder Top. Similar in design to the Tri-Top, this binder falls to about the belly-b ... (read more)

Underworks Cotton Power Tank Chest Binder
For many years we’ve offered the same binders here at Come As You Are, however, it’s time to shake things up and add two new cotton-lined binders to our collection! One of these new chest binders is the Cotton Lined Power Tank. Similar in design to the Ultimate Chest Binder, this binder falls to abo ... (read more)

Underworks Hip Buster Brief
The 'masc version' of our Booty Spanxxx, this set of mid-leg briefs is all constriction ALL OF THE TIME. They are designed to straighten the lines of hips and bums, working basically as a binder for the bottom half of the body. They're available for anyone who's interested (of course!), but we've pi ... (read more)

Underworks Rear and Hip Padded Brief - Black
We want to name these the official Booty Spanxxx of Come As You Are... And maybe still will! But, until then, we're naming them according to the manufacturer's title (which doesn't leave much to the imagination!) Designed for folks looking to add junk to their trunks & other lower body parts, these ... (read more)

Underworks Rear and Hip Padded Brief - White
We want to name these the official Booty Spanxxx of Come As You Are... And maybe still will! But, until then, we're naming them according to the manufacturer's title (which doesn't leave much to the imagination!) Designed for folks looking to add junk to their trunks & other lower body parts, these ... (read more)

Underworks Swim Top Binder
Not only does Underworks make binders for FTM, trans, and genderqueer folks looking to change the line of their chests, but they also make binding swimwear, which after many requests we've decided to pick up for beach season!
This swim top is sleeveless, all black, and has a zipper running up the ... (read more)

Underworks Tri-top Chest Binder
This binder is a great option for folks looking for a sturdy binder, as well as a full range of motion. It binds down to the bellybutton, giving awesome chest coverage with three layers of nylon & spandex, while leaving the wearer free to move around. Some folks will take the bottom of the binder an ... (read more)

Underworks Ultimate Chest Binder
Of the Underworks Chest Binders we carry, the Ultimate binder is, well, pretty ultimate. It is a full length binder made of two layers of nylon & spandex that binds all the way down to the hip- meaning not only does it bind the chest, but the belly and hips too. Folks love it for straightening all k ... (read more)

Vixen Lonestar
This fantastic new material, Vixskin (a double dipped process creates a hard core and a soft exterior), is both extremely durable (100% silicone) and yet very realistic. For the ultimate in fantasy play, the Lonestar will have you shooting your pistols in no time!
(6" x 1 7/8")

Vixen Mustang Aire
Whoa, Vixen. The new Vixen Mustang Aire features some notable design additions from the classic Mustang. Instead of their traditional flared base, the Vixen Mustang Aire features a base designed to contour against the wearer. Sculpted to massage against the wearer with a soft, cushioning sensation, ... (read more)
(6 1/4" x 1 1/2")

Mr Fenis
A reliable STP is hard to find. We have tested countless products that have left our STP scientists covered in pee, unimpressed with the material, or frustrated with having to wear a harness all day. While this STP is not harness compatible, it is a silicone, semi-realistic product that is hollow. A ... (read more)
(8" x 1 1/4")

A Princess of Great Daring
When Jamie is ready to tell people that she's really a girl inside, she becomes a princess of great daring in a game she plays with her best friends to gather her courage. She's pleased (but not surprised) that her questing friends turn out to be just as loyal and true as any princess could want.

A Safe Girl to Love
Eleven unique short stories that stretch from a rural Canadian Mennonite town to a hipster gay bar in Brooklyn, featuring young trans women stumbling through loss, sex, harassment, and love. These stories, shiny with whiskey and prairie sunsets, rattling subways and neglected cats, show growing up ... (read more)

Backwards Day
We get so excited when storytellers represent those of us who don't hear stories about our experiences very often. Toronto's own Bear Bergman wrote two children's stories in 2012 that celebrate trans & gender-queer youth and families, including Backwards Day. Dive into the world of Andy/Andrea, wher ... (read more)

Captive Genders
Pathologized, terrorized, and confined, trans/gender non-conforming and queer folks have always struggled against the enormity of the prison industrial complex. The first collection of its kind, Eric A. Stanley and Nat Smith bring together current and former prisoners, activists, and academics to of ... (read more)

From the Inside OutRadical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond
Edited by Morty Diamond
A fascinating and diverse collection of essays (many written from the first-person) describing the lived experiences of those challenging notions of male-ness. From genderqueers, to bois and trans men, these co ... (read more)

He Mele A Hilo
Something strange is happening in Hilo. Noleani Choi’s new show about the life of Jesus Christ told through hula dance has everyone, especially her halau, wondering what she could possibly be thinking. Rumors circulate about a rich guy from the mainland, and the dancers and their friends must reckon ... (read more)

I've Got a Time Bomb
On her way home from a gay wedding, Sybil’s eponymous protagonist is ambushed, beaten, and left for dead on the train tracks. Days later, Sybil awakens in a hospital and finds her skull has been reconstructed, but it quickly becomes clear that her version of “normal” and “reality” may have been perm ... (read more)

Is That For a Boy or a Girl?
Meet some awesome kids who have gotten pretty tired of being told that certain things are for girls and others just for boys. See how they mix and match everything they like to get what suits them best!

Lesbian Sex Bible
We're often reminding people to metaphorically not judge books by their covers, but in the case of Diana Cage's Lesbian Sex Bible, we mean it in the most literal sense of the phrase. This wonderfully comprehensive and inclusive guide to lesbian sex provides amazing amounts of practical sexual knowl ... (read more)

Love Is In The Hair
Carter's up in the middle of the night, too excited to sleep: her baby sister is being born! She asks her Uncle Marcus to tell her stories about the beautiful things in his dreadlocks so she can relax and rest.

As adults who talk to other adults about sex every single day, we find that so much of the sex negativity we encounter - and that we all experience in one form or another - can be traced back to the insufficient, awkward, or downright misleading in ... (read more)

The Adventures of Tulip Birthday Wish Fairy
Let's face it, childrens books don't often include stories for many of us. Thankfully, S. Bear Bergman has delved into the realm of children's lit to tell stories for trans and gender-variant children and/or their trans and gender-variant families. Follow Tulip, the Birthday Wish Fairy, as he muster ... (read more)

The Collection
A dynamic composite of rising stars, The Collection represents the depth and range of tomorrow’s finest writers chronicling transgender narratives. 28 authors from North America converge in a single volume to showcase the future of trans literature and the next great movements in queer art.

The Newspaper Pirates
When Anthony Bartholomew hears his dads grumble that Newspaper Pirates must be stealing their paper, he decides to solve the problem himself. Watching carefully, hunting for clues and laying traps, Anthony Bartholomew keeps at it until the mystery is solved and the newspaper secured.

Transgender History
Written in an informative yet extremely readable format, Transgender History traces back the ups and downs of trans rights and movements over the last half century. Discusses underground scenes, political changes, stand-out figures, health care battles, acceptance in different communities, and much ... (read more)

Transitions of the HeartStories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant ChildrenA heart-touching anthology from the amazing moms of trans and gender variant folk, these mothers spill-out their souls, worries, regrets, bravery and journey as they embraced their awesome childr ... (read more)

Whipping Girl
In the updated second edition of Whipping Girl, Julia Serano, a transsexual woman whose supremely intelligent writing reflects her background as a lesbian transgender activist and professional biologist, shares her powerful experiences and observations—both pre- and post-transition—to reveal the way ... (read more)

Zero Dads Club
It's Father's Day craft time in Akilah and Kai's class, but they don't have dads! So, they hatch a plan to create a special club. It's for all the kids in their grade who don't have a dad, but want to celebrate other family members instead. See what they make in The Zero Dads Club!

Buck Off DVD
All-out sex, all over the house is what's in store for Buck Angel and his gaggle of guys in Buck Off. Starting off reasonably tame and then evolving into harder sex with scenes that feature power play, boot worship, extreme piercings (how does a 00 Prince Albert sound?!), clamps, bondage... everyone ... (read more)