It looks shady. There are so many questions that come to mind when people see a profile that is a couple, only to learn the guy is the only one swinging. As they said before, are you single and posing as a couple? Are you cheating? If your profile looks shifty, it leads people to run away.

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Tammy, I have done the same thing for women I know Jay would be attracted to, signed my name and all LOL..no response. Can't blame them I suppose, I would probably think the same thing. I guess once you have been burned its better to be safe than sorry. But yes, I can relate to you. Shelly

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My husband and I are in a loving commited marriage. We do play together and we do play alone. He has my full permission and I usually try to help him find nice ladies. Ideally it would be great to find a couple that all 4 click and can play together or alone but this just does not happen often. Here is my question, I the female of this couple, will email ladies for my hubby and I help him look through the profiles, and I know there are a lot of cheaters out there, but not all of us who play alone are cheatting. So ladies what do I need to say so you know I am honest and that I would love you to meet my hubby? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks, Tammy

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Yeah, we have no issues with select single men. But married swinging men are different, UNLESS we have met the wife or absolutely know that she is okay with him swinging. Some women are cool with their hubby playing alone. With Jay and I, if there is a woman he is attracted to, and I am comfortable with her, I don't have a problem with them playing. But that is different in he is not sneaking behind my back. And we have not run into this situation yet, because fmf's are lots of fun! Shelly

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Have you ever heard of passion murders? I've witnessed from a distance more that I would like to say. One way I handle it is,"bring me a notarized note from momma,(wifee) with a personal conversation at her work phone to verify true person.

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Girl after my own heart!

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I've been known to have a wicked sense of humor at times... ;)

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That would be interesting Wild Maine. LOLOL!

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I always wondered what would happen if a desk clerk knocked on the hotel room door asking the married man if he'd call his wife at home as his cell phone was off whilst he was in the middle of enjoying himself. That could be really interesting to see played out.

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In response to the OP. Okay. There is nothing wrong with a married man swinging alone when his wife is aware of what he is doing, and truly okay with it. HOWEVER. A married man swinging alone behind his wife's back is NOT swinging, its called cheating. I'll give you my reasons, and I do have experience in this. 1. I'm not about being the other woman. 2. I'm not about the wife calling my office angry calling me the other woman. 3. I'm a swinger because I'm honest, and don't sneak around. 4. I can't have sex with a man while knowing his wife is at home with YOUR children watching tv. Wondering where her husband is. 5. If you don't concern yourself with possibly taking diseases home to your wife, how do I think you give a shit about me.