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Saturday, December 30, 2017

If you were
to accept everything in your life just as it is right now, how would that feel?
I know you probably don’t want to. You probably want to change lots of things.
Seems a very human thing to do. We want to improve ourselves. We want to
improve our circumstances. We want to improve our relationships. We want more
love, or more money, or more fun, or better health, or a better job, or a
better house.

But if for a
second, you were to imagine accepting everything just as it is, how would it
feel? If you really cannot imagine this, then what is the block? Does it feel
like you might be letting yourself down? Does it feel like the current
circumstances might just be all there is for you? Do your thoughts then tell
you that you are not worthy of anything better. Ah ha. Here is some stuff for
you to look at, in you.

If just for
a second you are able to imagine accepting everything just as it is, is there
an opening and relaxing feeling? This is how it is for me. There is no way I
can stay in it, because there is so much I wish to change in my life. And yet,
I can feel the expansiveness that occurs when I accept totally. And in this
expansiveness, I can sense that everything is possible. What a dilemma! On one
hand there is acceptance and total expensiveness including that all is
possible. On the other hand, there is no wish to accept because it might mean
that this is all there is. What to do?

One
suggestion is to imagine accepting and feel how it feels. Then to actually
accept, just for a minute. But is it possible to come back from this? Because I
don’t want to stay accepting. Or do I? Who knows!! Of course, not being able to answer this is
just like life. We really do not know anything. Everything we think we know may
or may not be right. It’s likely that it isn’t right.

So maybe
there is no choice anyway. Maybe we have to accept, so we may as well do it
willingly. Instead of fighting it.

And just know that acceptance does not mean that
things won’t change. It does not mean that we are stuck. It actually allows the
universe in to expand our life. It allows possibilities to present themselves
and us to actually see them. It’s our minds and thoughts that get in the way.
It’s thinking we know that limits us.

Friday, December 15, 2017

At this time of the year, do you find yourself spiralling
into panic? Do you feel overwhelmed by the things to do, by the music, by
the….everything? And to be really honest, it’s not all about how much you have
to do, is it? Even when plans are coming along perfectly and easily, it can
feel like there is an increase in rush, and pressure. The traffic seems more,
the shops are more crowded, people move faster, things get remembered and have
to be acted on before the rush or before the holidays. There are parties to go
to, more shopping to do, people to coordinate for getting together, events to
organise, presents to buy, cards to send. Children get frazzled and tired. Adults
get stressed and anxious. It can all add up to……..too much. And yet somehow, we
continue to go along with it. It’s almost like a habit….. to feel rushed and
stressed just because it’s Christmastime. Where did you learn this habit?
There’s almost an expectation that you will feel this way, even though you say
you don’t want to.

So can you get yourself out of this? Somehow, even when we plan things in advance,
something else crops up, and plans need changing. It can stir up feelings to
have to change plans. Somehow trusting oneself can go out the window. Trusting
that things will work out okay, can go out the window. Trusting others to do
their part can go out the window too. Chaos can be felt. So time for a recharge
of you. Breathe, slow down, stop for a moment and acknowledge your feelings.
Funnily enough, often when we slow down, more gets done. Weird eh? Try it. Be
present to each task. Do it mindfully. Leave the next task until you have
finished this one.

And whatever feeling arises inside you, just know that you
are allowed to feel it. You can respect yourself and acknowledge how you feel.
You may want to do something from that feeling, such as speak to someone
connected with the feeling. Or change your plans. Or you may be able to feel
the feeling in your body and let it dissolve. You can feel it and carry on with
whatever needs doing. You can act from the best part of you even if you are not
feeling like the best you. You can feel overwhelmed and breathe into that
feeling. You can feel chaos and breathe into the feeling. We can feel panic
when we think we can’t cope with how we feel. If you take a couple of minutes
to feel your feeling inside your body, before carrying on, it can make all the
difference. Feelings react quite well when acknowledged. They often disappear.

Friday, December 1, 2017

There is a lot of talk these days about looking after
oneself. And it’s not selfish to do so. Sometimes, the reason people tell you
to look after yourself is because you are doing everything for other people and
forgetting you. Or it could possibly be, that your behaviour is governed by a
neediness in you to prove yourself to others, or to gain other’s approval. And in
doing so, forgetting to take care of you. Or maybe it feels just too hard,
because there is so much to do, and everyone needs you. Just stop and consider
if you really value yourself. Do you really have to be everywhere at once,
looking after everyone else?

Looking after oneself does not necessarily mean that you go
off and book yourself a holiday, or a massage or a dance class. It may do, but
not necessarily. There are many ways of looking after yourself and only you can
know what this truly means. If you need touch and aren’t getting it, then a
massage could well be the answer, or even regular massages. You may think that
you need some excitement, and this may be great in the anticipation and even on
the day. It can also be a distraction from the issue that is bothering you. We
do tend to think that we will be happy when we get………., or if a certain thing
happens. And it may do for a short time, and then the old issue will start
rumbling away again, pushing you to gain another excitement or pushing you into
depression.

5 simple ways to look after yourself:

1.Give yourself some positive feedback. Think back
over the day and consider what you did or what you said. Give yourself a mental
pat on the back for those that you were pleased about. Let the rest go and know
that you did your best.

2.Take a few minutes at the beginning of the day,
maybe even before getting out of bed to lightly run over the day. Then set an
intention for you. It could be as simple as intending to take 5 deep breaths
when you get in the car. It could be to be aware of how you feel and know that
your feelings are valid. Or it could be to have that difficult conversation.

3.Have some fresh air and exercise. Even a 5
minute walk can be refreshing.

4.Take time to eat. Rather than stand and gobble
down your breakfast as you look after everyone else, sit down and be mindful
about eating. Give your body a chance to actually focus on what is happening
inside without the rush.

5.Develop awareness of this moment. Be honest with
yourself to yourself about what is going on inside you.

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About Me

Several years ago I experienced some health problems and visited several health professionals. Eventually I discovered The Journey. Through this I was able to become free of many emotions that were stored in the cells of my body. I realised that joy and peace are part of who I am and always available. I did the Journey training, involving attendance at several seminars, mostly in Australia, much work on myself, and many case studies. I now wish to share this with others, facilitating them to experience the freedom that is available. Freedom to soar and live life with joy.
I have 4 adult children and had another baby who lived for only 4 weeks. In 2014 I was able to step out into life, into the unknown of a new job, a new property in a different part of the country, a soulmate relationship and greater awareness that comes from opening into and trusting the unknown. After 10/11 months it became apparent that this soulmate relationship was done. So then came the experience of parting.