Waiting

Hey there! I’m new to the boards here so I figured why not test it out. I have been dating my guy since last May. We are very serious and know that at some point in the future we will end up married but its a matter of time. He has been going to church with me and I have met all of his family and they like me. He has met all of mine except my dad who lives out of state and they are meeting this week which my boyfriend says is “very important”.

My boyfriend has mentioned that he wants to live together and wants to get married at some point. I told him that I don’t feel right about living together before being engaged or married. I still have 9 months on my lease and when I bring it up he just says “we have plenty of time and we’ll figure it out.

It makes me kinda crazy that he won’t discuss it further. I like to plan things out in advance and I hate not knowing where I am going to live in 9 months because if I won’t be moving in then I need to consider my options. I am not hung up on getting engaged or married within a certain time and I love my boyfriend and do want to marry him.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I know I need to “wait and see” but I hate that and my boyfriend knows that. I don’t want to bother him with a lot of discussions about this. Any ideas?

@Ladybug1216: I’m currently living with the parents but want to move in with SO once engaged. I don’t want to live with my parents much longer as it is feeling claustrophobic but I don’t want to waste rent money on a flat of my own which could be saved towards mine and SO’s future house together. I do pay my parents rent but it is more of a bed and board arrangement to allow me to save for learning to drive and a car etc. But, SO is always mentioning living together at some point but there is no actual timeline. If I bring it up too much he goes quiet because it’s a big leap. Though we are agreed upon no living together until engagement.