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Wife hates me during pregnancy

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My wife is about 8 weeks pregnant and has been extremly spiteful and full of hate. She has swore that this baby was all my fault and she will make me suffer for it. She is at times happy but about 80% of the time just pure hatred. I am worried about her emotions and how i can keep myself from going into depression. What she says are so cold and hit hard. She blames me for wrecking her life and wishes all the physical and emotional pain was mine not hers. I can not even express how sorry I am, its causing me problems at work and al I can think about is how this is my fault. Please help I just want her happy.
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Is this the way she normally acts or is this a totally new development since the pregnancy began? If this is new, then this needs to be discussed with her doctor immediately as a medical problem. Medication might be necessary for now, and screening for Post-Partum Depression and Post-Partum Psychosis after the birth. If this is way she usually is, or at most only mildly exaggerated by the stresses of pregnancy, then I would advise you to start going to both individual and couple counseling immediately. This is not healthy for either of you. Yes she might be having some physical and emotional upheavals from pregnancy, but that is female biology and NOT your fault. She is deliberately inflicting verbal and emotional abuse on you, and that IS her fault. If she's willing to treat you like this now, how will she treat the baby she doesn't seem to want? The toddler who disobeys her? The child who irritates her? Please please try to get her help, for all your sakes.

Brother I totally feel you're pain my girlfriend is 3 months pregnant, she used love me so much was crazy about me and I about her. Now my life is a nightmare no exaggerating... there is nothing i can do to change the tide, I pray, I clean the entire house for her, I cook, whatever I can to relieve her stress (NOTHING) works. I feel her hatred and fustration when she looks at me, her answers are short and cold. The pregnancy wasn't an accident, we both agreed and i've always wanted a child of my own. I thought this was gonna be the most amazing experience of my life how I was wrong, because of this I never want to have children again. They say it gets better.. I don't believe them.. one look at her and you wouldn't either. It takes all of my strength to not take the low road out. It breaks my heart to think of such a thing. This is truly HELL and I'm it's prisoner. Patience.. patience.. patience is all I can ask for you should to.

Hormones do crazy things in early pregnancy, but this is a bit over the top. I agree with the other posters... get her to her doctor. The hormones may have triggered depression, and that can be serious for both mom and baby. You are a good man for sticking by her even though she's being so hateful to you... a lot of guys would have retaliated or bailed. Stay strong, and take care of yourself... and try not to take it too personally. Depression is a serious illness, and can make people do stuff they'll hate themselves for later. (I'm bipolar... I know from experience.) Best of luck to you and your wife.

It sounds like your wife is depressed.Go to her next doctors appt with her and speak with her doctor.Women that are that :full of hate" while pregnant get a lot worse after the baby comes.Did she never want kids?If not then tell her you can raise the child,or you can give it up for adoption.Basically it is a single/mutual decision.Speak with her.If she truly doesn't wan the baby then talk about adoption,if she calls you crazy then she may love the baby after it's born and is just being super dramatic.If she never wanted children and you do then you have to decide if you are willing to raise the baby by yourself,even if that means letting her go.You have a lot to talk about and think about.Women blame men all of the time and men blame women all of the time about how it happened.But the point is it takes two to get pregnant and unless there were some underhanded acts or acts of deception going on it was both of your fault.Stay strong and healthy minded.At least one of you needs to be.

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but shes always been housed, clothed, fed, taken out , weve always had fun even when shes in a dark moody zone oh yeah wch also brings me to her career , she blames me for ruining her dance career and if i wasnt in her life she would be in another country enjoying her life long ambition ,the one she never knew what wouldve happened in if she did go without a father figure for her son now and she blames both babies for her not dancing now too and regrets both of them especialy after the first one died ,,god bless his tiny soul , so as you can see this is just the start of it there is so much more i could tell you and its a tiny bit comforting to know that im not the only father/husband out there like this , im now hanging on the edge here and have some kind of control over my self i think as ive gone the lowest ive ever gone even lower than when i was an addict i just have lost touch even with my heart and soul im now blank but i want so much for my wife back i just dont know ?????

and there is lots more she doesnt want me she doesnt want me to touch her or talk to her or bath with her or take our son to school or go out with me or even be alive ive never abused her i always love her and look past the hatred she has for me and my silly mistakes ok once i posted myself on a dating site to wind her up and left it for her to find and i regreted it instantly so much so i wiped out any contact with this site i apologize to her for all that i have done i help her out or used to now she doesnt want it she doesnt even want me to touch her womb to feel and stroke our baby . i am now cry out openly all the time as i just can not hold it in any more i even gave up all contact with my family for her as she hated them so much .im at that stage when the more she hates me the more im doing things wrong but not meaning to my head heart and mind is soooo confused tired desperate worn out and im literaly a wreck idont even work at the moment as she advised to take time off ,but

hey there i know how you feel totaly , my wife hate the earth i walk on the air i breath and wants to divorce me . we lost our baby at 3 months and blames me entirely , now she hates me and blames me for this pregnancy . its all my fault ,so im stressed and she argues with me when anythings wrong . i dont want to argue i help her out with everthing and anything she doesnt haft to lift a finger but when i do any thing or something happens that it totaly not my fault she wants to divorce me she been abuseive and violent with me insults and slags me off puts me down and tells me that thats the way i should be treated .
so i have shouted back in defence or its just too much to take and she doesnt see that its tearing me apart and broken my heart everyday and i cry inside all the time and she laughs at me and says shes planning to adopt the baby and by a house in another country and take my name and use it and even take her son that now wants my surname and for me to be his daddy away and

My husband's previous girlfriend was exactly like this, only on a daily basis, regardless of pregnancy. It tears my heart apart to know he is not a part of his daughter's life (not by his choice) and I am so thankful I have such a wonderful man to raise my child with.
I agree, you need to get to her doctor with her and possibly counseling. I fully believe in "whatever it takes, you do", no matter the situation. My heart and prayers to you that whatever is best happens.

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