Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

I see this as overblown right now. Will they make it? I don't know. Are the odds against them? Certainly, as defined by not only the show but by the statistics on American marriages today. I have tried to put myself in the shoes of both of them. Emily, obviously has had a very difficult hand of cards dealt to her and with the love and support of her family and Ricks', seems to have been able to not only hold her own but also take good care of her daughter, who judging by what we have been shown seems to be just like any other 5 year old I know. Now, as Emily has put the brakes on things a bit, instead of saying, yep I knew it was doomed from the start, why not think about what is at stake here. The stats are not in her favor regardless of the way they met. The very basis of the show at best is deception for the entire filming schedule and then wha-la take this ring you are it? Trust, being tantamount in any relationship needs to demonstrated and shared. I am sure many feel that they had 3 months and did not make it without some serious problems but I see it as "still in the bubble" and real life is what it needs to see if it can last. But I hold Emily in the highest regard for not only looking out for herself but also for her daughter.

Brad, who is clearly in love with Emily, is not blameless in this but again those same statistics hold true for him. I read a lot of frustration in many convos between he and Emily during the season, partly because of the deception inherent in the show, and partly because of her own underlying fear of being hurt which we can all understand. The new beginning will have a different base, trust, that he is 100% for her and Ricki. Perhaps, as she said there are tempers that need to be curbed and maybe she needs to learn to give in a little but the deception phase is over now and that should make the road from Emily & Ricki + Brad to a united family an easier road to negotiate. The road is difficult but not insurmountable if they are right together. I wish all of them well.

Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

She went into this with that in mind....she applied to be "The Bachelorette" and was stuck being a contestant.

She wanted to follow in Ali's footsteps, and Melissa's...be a media darling. And have 25 guys catering to her and telling her how beautiful she is, etc. That was going to pave her way.

I'm sure she is hating life now that she is relegated to photos on Twitter today with a guy that she clearly doesn't care a thing for. At least she is getting a few photo ops

well, she was working the camera in that one twitter pic with the fan in the middle

Too funny that Emily wanted the media attention but Ashley is doing the Bach'ette, Chantal was sent out to do the Bach media 'cause of Brad and Emily's trainwreck ATFR...... even more reason for Emily to be jealous of Chantal totally explains why Brad is insisting that Chantal was supposed to be F3... yep, the boy is totally sucking up to Em... sweet little Em Why is he emasculating himself?.... she'll do it for him over time....

Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

Originally Posted by nuts2uiam

I see this as overblown right now. Will they make it? I don't know. Are the odds against them? Certainly, as defined by not only the show but by the statistics on American marriages today. I have tried to put myself in the shoes of both of them. Emily, obviously has had a very difficult hand of cards dealt to her and with the love and support of her family and Ricks', seems to have been able to not only hold her own but also take good care of her daughter, who judging by what we have been shown seems to be just like any other 5 year old I know. Now, as Emily has put the brakes on things a bit, instead of saying, yep I knew it was doomed from the start, why not think about what is at stake here. The stats are not in her favor regardless of the way they met. The very basis of the show at best is deception for the entire filming schedule and then wha-la take this ring you are it? Trust, being tantamount in any relationship needs to demonstrated and shared. I am sure many feel that they had 3 months and did not make it without some serious problems but I see it as "still in the bubble" and real life is what it needs to see if it can last. But I hold Emily in the highest regard for not only looking out for herself but also for her daughter.

Brad, who is clearly in love with Emily, is not blameless in this but again those same statistics hold true for him. I read a lot of frustration in many convos between he and Emily during the season, partly because of the deception inherent in the show, and partly because of her own underlying fear of being hurt which we can all understand. The new beginning will have a different base, trust, that he is 100% for her and Ricki. Perhaps, as she said there are tempers that need to be curbed and maybe she needs to learn to give in a little but the deception phase is over now and that should make the road from Emily & Ricki + Brad to a united family an easier road to negotiate. The road is difficult but not insurmountable if they are right together. I wish all of them well.

Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

Originally Posted by babyfaceC

He wrote it out and studied and memorized it. I notice that too. He still has the paper he originally wrote it on. Pretty cool

Practice makes perfect! It was undeniably a HUGE step up in the romance department from the Marry Me / phone text strategy. Huge. Really, such a big step forward. We really must be more optimistic about this couple, guys.

Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

Originally Posted by northernviewer

well, she was working the camera in that one twitter pic with the fan in the middle

Too funny that Emily wanted the media attention but Ashley is doing the Bach'ette, Chantal was sent out to do the Bach media 'cause of Brad and Emily's trainwreck ATFR...... even more reason for Emily to be jealous of Chantal totally explains why Brad is insisting that Chantal was supposed to be F3... yep, the boy is totally sucking up to Em... sweet little Em Why is he emasculating himself?.... she'll do it for him over time....

What twitter pics are y'all talking about? Did I miss something? Wouldn't be the first time...

Re: *Spoilers* 3/14 The Bachelor 15: FINALE!

I have it on good authority that RS was "Mesnicked." For those that are new to this board, Jason told his family and friends that he was F1 on De's season when he was not. Many on the board believed it had to be true because it came from the man himself.

A certain blogger was told by friends of Chantal that she spent Thanksgiving with Brad and family, plus that she was saying she was the F1. He took that information and proclaimed 100% that Chantal was F1.

A poster on TWOP even posted about how three
of her friends from Seattle told her about the Thanksgiving dinner and how Chantal was the F1.

The Forters learned their lesson a long time ago that more sleuthing would have needed to be done before making such a proclamation. Maybe we need to get back to basics next season.