Author: George Hill

Uh oh! That class reunion is coming up. You have a wedding in just a few months. It’s almost summertime and you don’t want to be embarrassed showing off your beach bod.

Whatever the reason, there are times in everyone’s life where they are disappointed with their outward appearance and want to lose some weight quickly. There’s no magic formula to erase 20lbs in a couple of days, but if you’re looking to drop some weight fast, there are a few things you can do to speed up the process.

Eating healthy foods and exercising regularly year-round will keep you fit and allow you to lose weight naturally, but if you need a small boost when you’re in a crunch, here are a few of the best diet tips to lose weight fast that don’t require weird or dangerous pills and medications.

Drink Green Tea

Green tea is well-known for having a positive relationship with weight loss. Research suggests the catechins found in green tea boost your metabolism and help you burn more calories. The caffeine found in green tea also boosts energy.

Cut Out High-Calorie Drinks

Certain beverages like soda and fancy coffee drinks are high in calories. Worse yet, they don’t satiate your hunger the way food can, so you end up consuming a lot of extra calories on top of the foods you eat.

If you consume a lot of soda or fancy coffee drinks like mochas, lattes, etc., you can quickly find yourself gaining weight even if you’re eating a healthy diet. Simply cutting out those troublesome drinks can help you shed a few pounds quickly.

Eat More Spicy Foods

If you’re not a fan of spicy food, you might want to reconsider to give yourself a quick weight loss boost. Researchers at Laval University in Canada found hot peppers speed up your metabolism and help you burn additional calories.

Why is this? Researchers believe the capsaicin found in hot peppers triggers the release of adrenaline which boosts your metabolism. Even better, spicy foods also help reduce your appetite and decrease food cravings.

By adding hot peppers to your meals or even topping your salad with a spicy, low-calorie salsa, you can lose more weight faster.

Cut Back On Salty Foods

Love salty foods like potato chips and pretzels? We do too, but they cause fluid retention that makes you bloated.

By choosing to skip over these items at the grocery store, you can reduce your temptation to eat them. With sodium-rich foods gone from your diet, your body can expel the excess water, and you lose weight.

If to your knowledge you don’t eat a lot of salty foods but you still have a significant amount of bloating, it’s important to check nutrition labels to find out where the excess sodium in your diet is coming from. For example, canned soups and even vegetable juice aren’t things that come to mind when you think of “salty foods”, but they can still contain high levels of sodium.

Add More Vegetables

Even if you feel like you eat plenty of raw vegetables, there’s always room to add more veggies into your diet. For example, top your homemade pizza with vegetables like bell peppers or spinach. Not only will they make your meals more nutritious, the fiber can also help curb your appetite and keep you from overeating.

Which veggies are best? Cucumber, broccoli, spinach, kale, sweet potatoes, green beans, and asparagus should get you started.

Buy organic when possible and if you need more, The Salvation Diet by Chris Walker comes with an excellent list of veggies (and other foods) that will ensure you stay healthy and fit for life! The Salvation Diet is really great if you just want a diet and meal plans for losing weight quickly that are simple and easy-to-do.

(Bonus Exercise Tip!) Fit In Small Workouts

We’ve discussed some of the best diet tips for losing weight fast, and now we will leave you with one good workout tip as well!

Finding the time to exercise can be difficult, but extra physical activity is always beneficial if you want to drop pounds faster. Simply find time to be more active in your daily routine.

For example, most people can fit in a quick five-minute workout (like a set of jumping jacks) while watching television. Or maybe an impromptu dance break after dinner is more your style.

Find ways to incorporate more exercise into the things you are already doing and make it fun! The results might just surprise you.

The sad truth of the matter is that guys need to chase or pursue something…or, in the case of dating…someone. It’s in their DNA. If they’re not chasing “prey”, they lose interest pretty easily.

Maybe it’s a biological problem, but men thrive off the “thrill of the chase”. Once the thrill of the chase is over, his interest often wanes. I think every woman has been in that situation.

You know the one…

Suddenly the passion starts dying out. The texts start becoming less and less frequent. The calls less urgent. You don’t hear the same “need” in his voice that you used to at the beginning of the relationship.

It’s sad to say, but often the reason for the dissipation of emotion is that he’s started to take you for granted. He’s started to believe that you’re just going to be there, no matter what, and that he doesn’t really have to try anymore.

So what’s a girl to do to remedy the situation? How do you make him miss you and keep him interested in pursuing you?

There are a number of ways to light a fire under your man and remind him how special you are and how you deserve to be treated. All of the tactics I’m going to mention involve withdrawing a bit, and rekindling in your man that need to pursue you.

I also recommend taking a look at Lovetraction Lines. What are Lovetraction Lines? Powerful words, phrases, and verbal techniques you can use to reawaken a man’s need to pursue and protect you.

Every girl should be armed with a few of these!

When you withdraw and play a little bit “hot and cold”, it alerts a man to the fact he could lose you, and more often than not, that’s enough to get him to put more effort into the relationship again.

With that in mind, let’s discuss how to make him miss you using three very simple techniques.

1. Make Him Wait

When he sends texts and when he calls, don’t be instantly available every time. Let some time elapse before you respond, and don’t pick up the phone on the first ring. Sometimes, let it go to voicemail. Then, call him back later.

I’m not advocating emotional torture or anything like that, but if you want him to miss you, then you can’t be too available. He’ll work harder for your attention when he understands he’s not always your top priority. Make him miss you by making it clear that you actually have a life that doesn’t revolve around him 24/7.

If you’re always available, he won’t miss you. He’ll just take you for granted.

2. Make The Sex Memorable

Actually, the above should read “make the sex memorable…when you allow him to have it.” Again, this has to do with reminding him of what he has, and keeping him constantly wondering about where he really stands with you. Remember, he’s going to chase you more if it feels like he hasn’t quite reeled you in yet.

When you finally do consent to get back into bed, make the sex absolutely mind-blowing. I should mention that it’s no fun being in a relationship devoid of physical intimacy, so don’t withhold it for too long. After all, you aren’t creating your own little “sexual torture chamber”.

Rather, the idea is to simply keep him guessing.

3. Live Your Life…And Tell Him About It

If you want to know how to make him miss you, this is one of the most effective ways. Don’t stop living your life for him. You don’t want him thinking that all you do all day is sit around waiting for him to call.

Spend time with friends. Don’t text him all day long with updates. Let him wonder about what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with. Then, at the end of the day contact him and share your experiences. The more fun you’re having without him, the more he’ll think about you, the more he’ll miss you, and the more he’ll want to be a part of your life.

Make a guy miss you by being just out of reach so he never quite gets enough of you. That’s how you’ll keep him locked into the thrill of the chase.

If you think the reason you don’t have a girlfriend is because you are “too ugly”, I’ve got news for you. You’re just rationalizing and making excuses.

Here’s a reality check when it comes to attracting women: looks don’t matter.

This fact is especially true if you’re looking for a long term, committed relationship. You may have problems and shortcomings that are keeping you from meeting women, but they have nothing to do with your appearance.

There’s no doubt that attractive men have it easier in certain situations. They probably have an advantage when it comes to picking up random women in bars. They probably have an easier time ‘getting in the door’ with any woman. But other than in the most superficial encounters when all a woman knows about you is what you look like, there’s no intrinsic importance to a man’s appearance.

It doesn’t matter what you look like. You aren’t too ugly to get a girlfriend.

And here’s why…

Looks Aren’t Very Important For Men

For some reason, men that are horrible with women like to make excuses instead of tackling the real problem…themselves. For example, some guys blame women: they’re too ‘stuck up’, superficial, money grubbing, etc. Others justify their self-loathing by blaming their lack of appeal to the opposite sex on a personal characteristic. Extra points if it’s something they can’t change.

In both cases, these lovelorn men are trying to deflect responsibility to someone or something else. It can take a lot of work to become the type of high-quality man that is universally attractive to women (take a look at the Girlfriend Activation System if you want to make it a whole lot easier). Men who don’t want to make this significant of an effort often convince themselves that a circumstance outside of their control makes it impossible to attract women. Psychologically, this type of rationalization lets them ‘off the hook’.

Simply put, looks aren’t a legitimate excuse for a man’s inability to attract women. Looks are particularly meaningless in long term relationships as women tend to choose men who are the most supportive rather than the best-looking. Even research has shown that attractive men are less likely to be satisfied in a serious relationship than average or less attractive men. Furthermore, a relationship involving a man who is more attractive than his wife or girlfriend is less likely to succeed.

Obviously, there are good looking men who are attractive to women in other ways. That being said, women sometimes get into relationships with attractive men for superficial reasons. This type of relationship will fail if there’s no substance behind the man’s appearance.

What Women Really Want In A Man

There are several traits that make men almost universally attractive to women. None has to do with ‘looks’ per se.

This truth doesn’t excuse you from proper dress, grooming, and deportment. Taking care of yourself reflects positively on your maturity, responsibility, and confidence: all qualities that women prioritize in a man. You might not look like a male model, but that’s no excuse to let yourself go.

Ultimately, every trait that women consider universally attractive can be boiled down to three core areas: personality, providing, protecting. Of those three qualities, personality is most important.

The men that women find most attractive are often mature, confident, responsible, intelligent, and have a good sense of humor. They are also passionate about their lives and have goals and aspirations for the future. It doesn’t hurt to be able to provide for her needs and protect her from harm, but for the right personality that’s negotiable.

Excuses And Rationalization Don’t Bring Success

It’s that simple. Making excuses and placating yourself with rationalizations will get you nowhere in life.

This reality is true for meeting women, building relationships, making friends, achieving professional success, and every other important area of life. You may have been ‘dealt a hand’ that forces you to put in more work in certain areas of life. That’s not an excuse to quit, however.

No matter what you look like, your life will improve dramatically when you start to exert the effort to become the best version of you. That starts by eliminating the mindset that you are too ugly to get a girlfriend. That simply isn’t true.

Many people think that in order to be happy, you must be successful in finding “The One.”

That’s the reason why most individuals spend a lot of time meeting new people and going out on dates, with hopes of meeting their soul mate. It doesn’t make any difference how many people you meet, the number of parties you’ve attended, or the number of dating sites you’ve joined. There are possible reasons why you haven’t attained your goal yet.

Reason #1: You’re not yet ready for “The One.”

Whenever I’m working with a client whose dream is to find true love, my first question is, “Would you be ready to commit if the man of your dreams is already waiting outside this door?”

Oftentimes, this type of question catches women off guard, so let me tell you something…

If you’re not ready to spend your life with someone, either internally or externally, you’ll have a hard time welcoming him/her in your life. Shame on you for saying that you want Mr. Right to appear already. It doesn’t matter how many times you say you want them.

If you feel otherwise, you’d just give each other a hard time.

Reason #2: You don’t have any patterns at all.

Perhaps, you’re trying your best to date different kinds of people, but if you don’t know what you really want, your standards, and criteria, you might end up dating the same person, but in a different package.

I’m very much aware that it’s hard to break old habits or put things straight, but Mr. Right might be holding a bouquet of roses, waiting on the other side of your comfort zone. You need to explore, break the old habits, and be ready to form a healthy, loving relationship.

Reason #3: Dating out of fear.

There are two kinds of relationships: love-based and fear-based. As you enter a relationship, it could be either of the two.

Love-based is a form of relationship where both of you are emotionally mature and ready to spend the rest of your life together. You could also live alone, but you’d rather share your life with that special person.

On the other hand, a fear-based relationship is being with someone for all the wrong reasons– selfish reasons. You don’t want to be alone, you’re thinking that you’re already old and you need to find someone soon, or you feel guilty to leave the person you’re currently with, even when you don’t love him at all.

Reason #4: Not being yourself.

The right person will love you unconditionally, no matter how eccentric or flawed you are. Thus, you should be yourself and accept who you really are. At the same time, you should also strive to be the best person you can be. Express your opinions and don’t hide behind a facade.

Keep in mind that if he loves you, he’ll also love your quirks and peeves without judging you. Even though this wouldn’t make everyone like you, the right person will still be attracted to you.

Reason #5: You’re confused about yourself

If you want to set things straight, know what kind of partner you’re really looking for. Come up with a top 3-5 must-haves, as well as deal-breakers. Stick to them no matter what.

For must-haves, as much as possible, it should be character traits, such as: a man who’s a hard worker, or a man who’s very devoted.

On the other hand, your deal-breakers could be based on the bad events with your exes that you don’t want to experience again. For example, you’ll never date someone who’s rude, self-centered, or arrogant. So, if your date is an hour late, very vain about himself, or a brat, that’s your cue to exit, but do it with grace.

These reasons should have an impact in your search for ‘The One.’ It’s not an easy process, but in the long run, it’ll give you a happy ending.

We might be tempted to think that men and women have different needs when it comes to relationships, but the truth is the two genders are not so different after all.

Everybody needs to feel loved, appreciated, complimented, and respected, as these are universal values that everybody cherishes. That being said, no matter if you are already involved in a long-term relationship with a wonderful man, or you are looking forward to starting a new connection, here are 7 of the most important things men are looking for in women and relationships:

1. Men Want To Feel Admired

If a man does not feel respected and admired, he will seek validation somewhere else. Complimenting your man every now and then is important – just think about how wonderful you feel when somebody dear to your heart pays you a honest compliment!

Same goes with support – men really need a supportive partner regardless of what their motivations and goals are in life.

2. Men Want Compatibility

It is almost impossible to find somebody who shares the exact same hobbies and passions that we do, but even though not every woman is into football or basketball, men are still looking for somebody who appreciates their hobbies and takes interest in them (even if that means sitting through a Super Bowl).

It all comes down to making a small compromise, every now and then – one that must go both ways!

3. Men Want A Woman Who Loves Them For Who They Are

This is actually a general rule that applies to both genders, as we all want somebody who genuinely appreciates us for who we are and who does not try to change us in any way.

If you try to change your man, then you do not really love him; you love the image of him that you are projecting inside your mind.

4. Men Want Women Who Can Think And Act Independently

Men want to feel needed in a relationship, but no man wants a woman who depends on him for everything and who follows him around like a lost puppy. If you want to attract and keep great men, you need to have a life of your own.

5. Nobody Likes A Jealous Woman

Jealousy has been around since the beginning of time, and it has caused people to break up, to murder other people, and has even started wars.

Some men consider a bit of jealousy to be very attractive. They perceive it as a sign of love and affection, but there is a very thin line between being slightly jealous in the cute way, and paranoid to the point where the relationship becomes a real nightmare for the man.

6. Men Want Women Who Know When And How To Communicate (In A Language They Can Understand)

Communication is an art, and it is the key to a healthy and blossoming relationship.

However, it must be said that communication can either make or break a relationship, and it is entirely up to you to decide which one it is. No man likes a woman who talks them to death – being a chatterbox can be fun at times, but being excessively talkative can be extremely bothersome and exhausting. Sometimes men need silence and alone time, and it has nothing to do with you or anything you did or didn’t do.

7. Men Want Women Who Don’t Nag

Last, but not least, if there is one thing men dislike more than just about anything, it’s a nagging woman. If you want to keep a man around, just don’t do it. It’s as simple as that.

Have you started to notice that the man you used to love has changed? That he no longer acts the way he used to when you two first dates? If so, then the chances are that you are trying to figure out why he changed, blissfully unaware of the fact that in many cases, men change only as a direct consequence of their partner’s actions.

Was he the type of gentleman who always opened the car door and surprised you with a nice, fresh bouquet of flowers, every now and then, yet now he barely does any of that? There are many reasons why men change their attitude, and while some of them have absolutely nothing to do with you, there are some aspects related to your behavior that might have directly influenced him.

If you noticed that you started to argue increasingly often lately or that you criticize each other more than ever before, then the chances are that the two of you are slowly growing apart, and if you do not act quickly, your marriage may go down the drain before you even realize it.

However, before you move on to blaming your man for no longer acting as he used to, it is very important to ask yourself several basic questions that will help you understand the situation better, and go back to being the amazing couple everybody used to envy.

Analyze Your Behavior First!

If you have noticed that your man is no longer as romantic or gentle as he used to be during the first few dates, then it is crucial to ask yourself what happened in the meantime. Did one of you lose interest in the other one? Did you break his trust? Did you listen to him whenever he wanted to share something? Did you make him feel respected and appreciated?

Deep inside, men want to be respected, loved, appreciated and cared for just as much as women do, even if they do not say it out loud. If he feels that you have grown cold and distant, his actions will only reflect yours. One thing is for sure, though: the man you have fallen in love with is still there, trapped deep inside, and all you have to do is to convince him to come out and play again.

Taking responsibility for your own fault is a very difficult thing to do, as it takes courage and objectivity to admit when it’s your fault. Partners tend to criticize each other and to complain about things they do (or do not do) too often, instead of cherishing their true values and qualities.

We often tend to take the things we have for granted, we forget to appreciate and love what we have, and we often tend to go behind the back of our partner or to put him down, simply because we cannot cope with our own fears and frustrations.

If you can stop for a second and analyze yourself objectively and realize that you identify with one or more than the situations described above, then you have just answered your question: your man changed because you did, and the only thing for the two of you to resume your marriage, friendship or relationship is to simply “reset” your personalities and to go back to the people you used to be.

Mutual trust, respect, honestly and genuine love are the key ingredients for a long-lasting connection.

Are you in between seeing someone and taking her out for a date? So you’ve got your vibes right, sharpened every bit of it and now preparing to cast the spell but still have something holding you? If doubts is the thing holding you, this guide is for you.

It happens to almost every guy out there not because you are an amateur but lets just say that it is nature and the way things are. Nobody under the sun would like to lose any battle that they get into and for something so important like choosing a girlfriend you just need to play your cards better than ever.

Rejection is among the fears of every man out there (no doubt about that). It however is something that can be done away with easily without sweating your pants off. In this write-up we will focus on the crucial pointers on how to get a girlfriend without being rejected. Think of it as your own personal girlfriend system.

Here you go with the tips:

Do more than just a dinner

Most men think that dinner is always the magic sauce. If you were thinking it this way then you are dead wrong and you need to “up” your game. A lady will always fall for something out of the box and something that strikes them by surprise. A dinner is more of an obvious scenario and even though you may need it, you should use it as a platform to bring in something that she will love. Color the dinner, make it stand out and give her something that will strike her.

Be yourself

If you thought that you can play Rio Fernandez for the night and make yourself better than you are then be ready for a big surprise (a horrible one). Acting makes you look stupid and a lady will always know when you are faking it. Don’t be a perfectionist; just make her feel comfortable around you by sprinkling your date with things that she likes (You should have long known what she loves the first time you met her).

Call upon the power of “touch”

If you ask dating expert about the power of the touch, they will tell you that it is the holy grail. However, as much as the touch can be the game changer, it can mess things up. You need to be gentle and take everything slow. Start with the hands, be gentle and don’t stop till she is in. Be sure to spy on her reaction to the touch so that you know when to push in for more and when to take it slow.

Let the cat out of the bag

After you have played her in, touched her and seen that she is in, don’t waste any of you time; move closer and give her a kiss (something she will be waiting for at that moment). Congrats! You are the man and of course she is in (Don’t lose focus now).

Making a choice on who you date is not like deciding whether to have peanut butter or bologna for your sandwich where you can flip a coin and make your move (it just doesn’t work that way). You only need one strike of the match to get the whole situation lighting up; don’t let yourself down because you have always wanted this.

Have you found yourself sitting there saying to yourself ‘every girl is out of my league’? If so, then do you want to hear a startling fact. That is not true!

Instead, it actually says more about yourself and your own lack of confidence rather than anything else, so clearly there are some issues that need to be addressed here.

First, you need to think about why you feel that they are indeed out of your league. Why do you feel as if every girl is superior to you? Maybe if you have been knocked back repeatedly it is because you are chatting to the wrong girls or going about it the wrong way.

Are you too aggressive in your approach to them? Maybe you are too shy? Perhaps your lack of self confidence shines through and that is not exactly going to be an attractive trait either.

But do you want to know something that is very important? These are all problems that can be easily fixed with the girlfriend system.

You see, you are not alone in thinking all of this and there are some key steps that you can take to address the problem. Look at yourself in the mirror and what do you see? Do you like the way that you look?

Even though women like what is inside when it comes to guys it is still the case that self confidence comes from the outside, so if you feel that your hair is a mess, and you dress funny, then of course you are going to feel as if every woman is out of your league. Go ahead and change your look and see the difference it makes.

Next, spend time finding out if you have any common ground with a woman wherever possible because it does not matter how much you are attracted to them it will never work if there is nothing between you to build even a friendship on. The woman with the big house and flashy car might also love listening to U2 just like you do and who knows what sparks may fly when you realize that you have something in common.

All we are saying is that not every woman is actually out of your league and it is more a case of you approaching the wrong women in the first place or being so devoid of personal confidence that you actually do believe that you are completely inferior. Throw away the old you and never give up hope because meeting someone special can happen at any point and you just have to be ready for it.

It is every man’s desire to be with the girl of his dreams. However, each and every individual has characteristics that will be admired by many and others that everyone will detest. While it is easy for men to admire girls who are attractive to the majority, getting the girl to reciprocate those same feelings can be a big hurdle for most guys. To ensure you get the nod over other guys competing for her attention, be sure to take note of the important characteristics below.

Self-confidence

One of the key aspects that women look for in men is confidence. With the man naturally considered to be the head of the home, the situation starts right away from the first meeting. While the man is supposed to portray characteristics of strength and masculinity, these can only be exhibited by the way you carry yourself. This means there should be traits of confidence in the way you talk, walk, and go about your business and surely that beautiful girl will notice you.

Stop being too dramatic

Surely, girls will be interested in the guy who acts funny and is sarcastic. However when overdone, this gives an impression of a guy who is never serious with affairs and hence will never attract the eye of a serious girl. It is important however to ensure that you have some degree of creating fun in the presence of the girls and this will portray you as not being too serious a character that will make the girl fear you and take off.

Show some degree of independence

Any woman looks for a man who can support her. This is not only financial but in all aspects including emotional. For this reason, when you portray yourself to be dependent, any woman will shy away from engaging in anything serious with you, as you do not have the capability to provide the required support. As such, always ensure that you are in control of the things you do, as this will give the prospective girl faith that you have the capacity to stand strong and support her in time of need.

Always be focused

For life to appear meaningful, focus is required. This ensures that there are certain goals that are set and there is a way to achieve them. Sticking to such goals is a value that many fail to exhibit but one which may qualify you for the attention of that girl that every guy wants. It is important to ensure therefore that you have the ideal path set out and as well, stick to the path clearly to ensure the dreams set forth are realized.

Conclusion

While the characteristics that girls look for in a man may differ, it is the outstanding ones that ensure that a man gets noticed. Unlike in women where it is beauty that makes the first score for a man there maybe more than the looks and as such the need to work on the outstanding factors and ensure that you stand out among the others and this girl no matter what will surely notice you.