Good idears,know what the guy likes ,Best Buy,bookstore,if sports then Dicks sporting goods,or Sports Authority,you live in Hazzard so maybe a Bass pro or hunting shop.

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Yeah, be careful with the men's store. The gift card could end up never getting used if he's the type of guy who never steps foot into a mall. Not too much one could get at Best Buy other than a DVD or accessory (assuming $25-$50 gift card). Bookstore = good, sporting goods = good. Maybe a hardware store (guys love hardware stores), movie theater, car washes.

A gift is over-generous or even over-doing it unless it's Christmas or Birthday or he's specifically asked for something he likes of yours.

What I do if a gesture really must be made and you're sending it in the post because you'd have to travel to see him is, and this costs £1: Make a daft card with all stars and roses and kisses and thankyou's and then spend the £1 on a luckydip lottery ticket, shove that in the envelope, stick a stamp on it and if you don't hear back, well don't be so generous or grateful next time...

Yeah, be careful with the men's store. The gift card could end up never getting used if he's the type of guy who never steps foot into a mall. Not too much one could get at Best Buy other than a DVD or accessory (assuming $25-$50 gift card). Bookstore = good, sporting goods = good. Maybe a hardware store (guys love hardware stores), movie theater, car washes.

Id say either one of these w8m8...

also and yes i know its sad, learning about him may get misconstrued as you taking interest in him. If he is interested in you and looking for a sign. You learning about what he likes/needs could be taken the wrong way(yes guys are stupid but women are ignorant in the same respect) the gift card to a sports store or hardware store is personal enough without being to personal...if that makes sense.

Id say either one of these w8m8...also and yes i know its sad, learning about him may get misconstrued as you taking interest in him. If he is interested in you and looking for a sign. You learning about what he likes/needs could be taken the wrong way(yes guys are stupid but women are ignorant in the same respect) the gift card to a sports store or hardware store is personal enough without being to personal...if that makes sense.

just my humble opinion

Thank you tony .. I understand completely .. he's an older gentleman who is very happily married and the last thing I want to do is cross any line .. it's just a gesture to let him know I truly appreciate something very nice he's doing for me that is very generous on his part

oh I've just re-read the thread. It's to say thank-you.So then no gift. Just say 'thank-you ever so very much' in person.

A gift is over-generous or even over-doing it unless it's Christmas or Birthday or he's specifically asked for something he likes of yours.

What I do if a gesture really must be made and you're sending it in the post because you'd have to travel to see him is, and this costs £1: Make a daft card with all stars and roses and kisses and thankyou's and then spend the £1 on a luckydip lottery ticket, shove that in the envelope, stick a stamp on it and if you don't hear back, well don't be so generous or grateful next time...

madlyxLinda

Thank you Linda .. the community I live in is a little different than where you have been .. it's more of a everyone knows everyone and shows thanks in a bit more thoughtful way when people do something very nice for you .. I've certainly done the lottery ticket thing for the teens that I get to help me with small things .. a meal and a lottery ticket makes them pretty happy .. I am very grateful for this mans generosity and feel blessed he is helping me out as much as he is

A good gift to a happily married man 'who is helping you out' would be to be gracious and kind to his lovely wife. Ask her what he'd like from you as a thankyou?

Otherwise it's just plain strange? Involve her, make her your new best friend as well as him...

?xLinda

do not mess with or even give time to married men, especially happily married ones. If he's doing you big indescribable unable to know how to thank him favours, something's going on and I'd run the other way.