Dave Holmes [Twitter] is an actor and TV host who you've seen on MTV, FX, Court TV, Comedy Central, Bravo, VH1... and plenty more. In 1998 he first rose to national prominence with his runner-up finish on MTV's first reality competition show, Wanna Be a VJ? Dave is also an out-of-the-closet gay man. Today I chat with Dave about that journey and how it's impacted his 42 years of life.

In this class we talk about:

Coming to terms with the sexual part of being gay as well as the cultural part

Learning to love yourself as "an unconventional male"

Leaning on friends for support

Eventually getting honest with everyone

Dan Savage's "It Gets Better" project

Gaining weight to hide and keep safe

Losing 50 pounds and being in the best shape of his life at 42.

Coming out to your parents

Using alcohol and cigarettes to numb feelings

Being out of the closet and on MTV

His youth at an all boys catholic school

Being gay in the sports-centric Mid-West

College at Holy Cross as the only out gay man

Carson Daly is NOT gay

Gay publications' initial disinterest in Dave

Finally appearing in Out magazine

Using therapy to gain comfort in your own skin

Difficulties of being gay in Hollywood

Telling off some Hollywood producers

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Man School is a weekly podcast dedicated to men’s interesting, exciting, and difficult personal experiences. This show is for guys who want to become better men but hate boring how-to’s, forced advice, and so-called “experts.” Part of the Sideshow Network.