4 Steps to the Best You

Deborah K. Heisz is the CEO, Co-Founder and Editorial Director of Live Happy and Co-Chief Executive Officer of Neora.

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Before I learned about positive psychology and began working with Live Happy Founder, Jeff Olson, to launch the magazine, I admit I didn’t completely grasp how everyday choices in addition to the right foundation can build even greater life satisfaction and fulfillment. I get it now. Finding joy in your everyday journey is an integral part of living a life that’s purpose-filled, healthy and meaningful. Here’s how you can accomplish the same:

Step 1: Celebrate Your Wins

Celebrating a huge accomplishment comes naturally, but don’t forget to acknowledge the small wins as well! It may seem insignificant to others and maybe even to you in the greater scheme of things, but at some point, you’ll look to the past and see your strength in those moments. Sheryl Swoopes writes, “No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back.” Make a list of things you’ve already overcome in your life — acknowledge your journey and celebrate all your wins!

Step 2: You Are What You Think

Ask any influential leader and they will surely tell you that your mindset plays a huge part in whether you succeed in your personal and professional journey. Many people believe that our thoughts and hearts are linked. Instead of fearing the “what ifs” in life or doubting your own journey, redirect your focus to the now. You can’t do anything about the past and you can’t see the future. But, you do have control over your decisions, thoughts, and actions in the present day. Focus on your journey and your goals. If you believe that’s easier said than done, here is a great list of books that will encourage you to change the way you think.

Step 3: Slow Down to Go Fast

One of my favorite people on this planet, Jeff Olson, believes in getting the job done right the first time. He believes so much in the philosophy of slowing down to go fast that he even incorporated it into Neora’s core company values. This core value is also fundamental after bouncing back from a setback. Allow yourself time to reflect on circumstances and experiences, grieve if needed, and begin the healing process. The truth is everyone experiences ups and downs in their lives. Take a moment to reflect on past decisions, learn from those moments but then peacefully detach and move on.

Step 4: No Man is an Island

Have you heard the expression by English poet John Donne, “No man is an island.”? When Donne wrote these words in the 17th century—which you’ll find in Devotions Upon Emergent Occasions and Seuerall Steps in my Sicknes—Donne expressed the idea that people need to be part of a community to thrive. He writes, “No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main….” Your journey doesn’t have to happen in isolation—in fact, it shouldn’t! You don’t have to be an island. Find a like-minded person who shares your motivation, vision and goals, and include them in your support group! Whether you choose a co-worker, a friend, or a mentor, it’s up to you! On livehappy.com, we share a beautiful article about the bond of sisterhood. Read it, you may be inspired to find your support group in unlikely places.

Find joy in your journey and live a fulfilling life that has purpose and meaning. With one life to live, is there really an alternative?