One possible reason for recent school shootings: Kids are ignored

In reality there are numerous reasons for the recent school shootings, but the main reason is because nobody cares. The kids that kill each other are ignored, bullied, mistreated, taunted, or teased. What I’m seeing firsthand is a public school system that is as much to blame as the parents, Internet social networking sites, violence on TV, and the kids themselves.

But one of the main reasons is because the kids are ignored. This is just as bad as bullying. When kids are ignored in school, they feel bad about themselves. Traditionally, the happy, outgoing and popular kids do well in school. People do not want to hang out with the shy, quiet, introverted, geeky kids. It’s just the way society is. It is proven in society that business people will hire tall, attractive, outgoing people more often than hiring an unhappy, sullen, not good-looking person!

With numerous public school budget costs, teachers being overworked, many children are ignored. I know this firsthand. My daughter is failing two classes at her new school. I’ve been asking if she has homework every night, and she tells me . “Not much.”

I completely admit that my daughter is not doing all of the assigned homework, and she has not been doing all of the in school classroom assignments. But, the reason I know she is being ignored, and that the teachers at this particular school do not care, is because the situation was ignored!

A school generated progress report was sent home by the school. My child’s classes were listed, and so were the grades. Two out of my child’s grades were listed as failing. I had to look three times at the grades to make sure the numbers were correct. After blowing a gasket, and lecturing my child, I called the school, and I sent emails to the teachers of my child’s classes.

After receiving emails back, the teachers essentially said my child has not been doing the work she has been given. Okay, fine I accept that. But why wasn’t something done? What happened to personal responsiblity? And yes, I mean on both sides of the fence.

When I told my husband this, he said, “When I forgot my homework, after so many times, the teacher took recess away, or made me do the homework during a study hall, or I received detention. ”

So what I’m wondering here is why didn’t one of these teachers take action? Why didn’t my child receive detention, or disciplinary action? Why didn’t one of these teachers send an email home, call me at home? They’d rather just ignore the situation, essentially doing nothing, allowing another child to fail school? What happened to the government program; “No child left behind?”

When a child that is failing two classes is ignored, without anyone doing something, then I am making an inductive leap here, saying because she is ignored by teachers, wouldn’t that mean that many other kids are also ignored? This means those kids that are at risk for becoming bad kids, are also ignored.

So, in school only the super popular kids, and the major problem kids get any attention, and kids who are failing receive no attention!

With the scary events of recent school killings, it makes me afraid of what else could be going on, or NOT going on at public schools across America.

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We had that same problem last year with my eldest. His school wasn’t telling us ANYTHING till the parent teacher meeting halfway thru the year. By then, he was failing EVERYTHING. This is a kid with a high IQ and yet he was failing. His test scores were through the roof yet he was failing. When I asked them about it, they said he was a dreamer. He’d rather read than do his classwork. His response “I’m BORED” So we homeschooled him this year.

I think the main problem with the schools nowdays IS the “No Child left Behind” law. They pass the kids through school even when they aren’t learning. I actually cheered when Obama got rid of it because, maybe, now we can get REAL education for the troubled and struggling students. At least they will be able to SEE who’s failing and, maybe, get them the second time through. I know seeing ones child being held back is a “personal pain” but to suck it up and HELP a child is so much more important than ones pride. It’s their future! Parents NEED to be involved in their childs education. Even if it means being a pain in the teachers backside.

Seriously thinking about taking my daughter out of school. She hates it. Budget cuts have made it worse. We are new here. The kids ignore her. The teachers ignore her. I’ve been trying to get her to agree to go to a private school, right near our house. What kind of school never says anything about your kid failing classes? Our daughter is bored, depressed and aggravated.She keeps saying, “The kids are retarded.”

We live in a small/farming/oil town, and this is the only school, here except for one private school. She made friends with all kinds of kids, and they invite her to a birthday party, get presents and then ignore her. How much can one person take!!! I think it is extreme bullshit. I’ve never, ever seen so many rude people in my entire life. I keep thinking we’d be better off living in a big city, where there’s more choice, and more of a mix of people!!

Problem with being new in a small town is that the majority of those kids have known each other all their lives and, truthfully, won’t trust you not to leave again till you’ve been there at least a year. I grew up in a small town, knew EVERYONE from birth, just about lol, and distrusted anyone new. It’s the small town mentality, not you. Depending on how long you’ve been there, you might just need to tough it out a little longer, put her in the private school or look into internet schooling. We in Colorado have multiple online schools to chose from. Might be something to look into for your family if she’s old enough or you have an adult available to be home full time with her.