8 January 2014

I
spent the day at the vets today – trying to arrange for our new puppy to get
her vaccinations. I started thinking
about our expat pets and how they cope with life abroad. I know many people who put off getting a pet
until they get back to their home country – easier for all concerned and kinder
on the animal is the usual rationale. Our
pets have always travelled with us, however and I recall only a short period of
my life when we had no pets. Sadly we had to put down an otherwise healthy
dog because of some severe mental health problems that caused him to threaten
my baby sister and it was a few years before we could face taking another one
in. During that time, however, we pet
sat for almost every friend and friend of a friend so we had an endless stream
of loving pets staying in our home.

Pets also have to learn to adapt to the challenges of expat life.

There
is no getting past the fact that some animals tug at your heart strings and
become part of your life – this is even
more true as an expat when you see animals surviving in sometimes desperate
situations and you feel you need to help them. The dynamic of life with pets as
an expat is slightly different to when you live in your home country. Rules on vaccination and ownership may be
different and the quality of vet services can vary. Pets also have to adapt to new ways of life and new rules for behaviour. In some countries dogs are welcomed - in others they are seen as unclean and a dog has to learn not to expect fuss from everyone it meets. Language is another barrier - our dogs have always had to learn a smattering of command words in the local language so house keepers, security staff etc could give them commands. One of our dogs learned commands in four languages (English, Dutch, Turkish and Spanish - pretty good for a mere animal!).

We
have had cats in the past notably a
stray (Tom Kitten) who deigned to spend a few months with us in Norway before
deserting to the next door neighbour who served a superior brand of tuna and
Kipper – our Nigerian cat who protected us from snakes and brought us gifts of
gecko and lizard tails instead of mice.
We had a Parrot once as well – also in Nigeria. Pip the African Grey came to us as a bedraggled
nestling caught by some people out in the bush when his mother was killed – to
turn him away would have meant certain death so we fed him on mashed up fruit
and built him a cage on the patio. Sadly
he had the most awful temper and could not stand to be handled but he more than
compensated for this with his fantastically broad vocabulary – he was great fun
to talk to and I swear he knew exactly what he was saying, his favourite trick being
to call the cat and dog in my mother’s voice and then enjoy watching the
ensuing fight. Sadly Kipper did not want
to stay with us (he found a wife a few doors down) and we could not get an
export licence for Pip. Other pets have included goats, turkeys and sheep, usually presented to my parents as gifts, these farm animals lived with us in our gardens for a while before being raffled off for Christmas or Eid dinner for a lucky colleague (I remember my sister and I cried each time). The most unusual pet was the turkey who faced his raffle with equanimity but was reprieved when the winner decided to start a turkey farm instead.

Much as I have loved our other pets I am, resolutely, a dog person.
We have had dogs in almost every country we have ever lived in and,
unlike cats dogs never choose to leave their owners. Jimmy, our Nigerian dog was a large blond
Andalusian Shepherd Cross – he worked at our house every night as our guard dog
and when we found out that the company who owned him were abusing him very
badly we refused to let him go back and bought his contract. The poor thing had been so badly beaten that
he had been left with no single rib or tooth intact and he was so grateful for
his deliverance from hell that he became the most faithful, protective dog I
have ever met. I only ever heard him bark twice - both times it was to provide a much needed warning.

He
stayed with us through two postings in the Netherlands and one in Turkey before
finally dying in Venezuela. We were all
distraught when he had to be put to sleep knowing that his life had been
shortened by the beatings he had taken as a young dog but also knowing that we
had given him an extra 8 years of life through taking him in. Before Jimmy died we adopted a Venezuelan
Street Dog – a Kakri that we called Eliza – we found her as a tiny puppy just
able to walk that had been discarded on the rubbish heap and could not leave her. She gave my parents many happy
years in Venezuela, The Netherlands and England before dying last year – the oldest Kakri ever to have
lived at 13 years. She is survived by an English rescue dog who, sadly, has never had the opportunity to travel anywhere.

Eliza - rescued from the streets of Maracaibo at little more than a
month old lived out her days in comfort as a Venezuelan Expatriate
in the Netherlands and UK.

When
we married my husband and I were gifted a tiny black puppy (with our full
knowledge and consent). Abbess came to
live with us the day we returned from honeymoon and has been an integral part
of our family ever since. When we found
out that we were going to Kazakhstan we had to decide whether to take our 10
year old dog with us or ask a family member to take her in. We were concerned not only with how she would handle the cold and snow but,
more importantly how a dog who had always lived in the country with free access
to woodland whenever she wanted and
never needed a lead would cope in an apartment in a city. We had no shortage of volunteers to have her
but when push came to shove we could not imagine life without her.

Bessie grew up in the English countryside.
A far cry from the city of Astana where she now
takes her daily walks.

Bessie,
more than any other member of the family, has found it difficult to adapt to
life in Astana. The harsh winters have
aged her much more quickly than we expected.
We brought a middle aged dog to Astana and now have an elderly grande
dame to take care of. We would not be
without her, however, and every evening, when she curls up next to us on the
sofa or when she comes to ‘help’ put the children to bed we know that we made
the right decision.

Bessie finds expat life in Astana somewhat of a challenge,
particularly the heavy snow and extreme cold.

Luckily
fate has given us the chance to give her a new lease of life – a few months ago
a tiny black pup was found wandering the campus of the local university. The pictures of the puppy showed that she
looked very like Abbess and we decided to adopt her. Bessie has taken to her role as surrogate
mother and is enjoying her chance to teach a pup its manners. Perdita has wormed her way into our hearts
and, as with every dog before, we now cannot imagine life without her.

Bessie and Perdita are more mother and daughter than friends.
Bess helps to train Perdita and is assiduous in looking after her.

The
dogs will come with us when we leave Kazakhstan – so once Perdita is vaccinated
I will have the pleasure of learning how to get a pet passport from the
relevant Kazakh ministry. Each country
has its own requirements for pet immigration – some easy some (like the UK)
fiendishly difficult. I am not yet sure
when or where we are going when we leave Kazakhstan but, barring some unforeseen
tragedy, the pets will be coming with us.

2 January 2014

We
had a wonderful New Year – spending the evening of 31 December with friends
before togging up to brave the cold Astana winter to enjoy Champagne and
Fireworks in the snow. We spent New Year’s
Day with another group of friends enjoying a champagne brunch at a local
hotel.

I
started to think about New Year traditions and how we celebrate and I realised
that although we have a set of Christmas traditions that we keep wherever we
are (we often postpone Christmas celebrations to another day if we are unable
to enjoy our traditional Christmas when we are travelling) our New Years have
been as variable as there have been celebrations.

When
I was a child, growing up in Norway we would congregate with friends for house-parties
similar to this most recent New Year. In
Nigeria the whole camp would gather together in the club house – the adults
moving from group to group enjoying conversation, Guinness and Star Beer while
the children played games and went swimming, when it was all over the family
groups would separate to walk home through the balmy tropical air watching fireflies
dance along the way.

In Turkey we would
also gather at the club to dance to a mix of Turkish and western music, just
before midnight our Turkish friends would douse the lights and sing a very
touching traditional song about a detachment of soldiers sent to fight (and
die) the Yemen in the first world war. I
do not know whether this is a Turkish tradition or not but we found it very
beautiful.

Other
years we would have a quiet celebration at home with only the close family
watching fireworks from around the world on the television and a long walk on
New Year’s day. One year we took in a
show in London before running back to the car and driving back home to see in
the New Year with my parents, quite bizarre to have seen the preparations for
the fireworks and the mounting crowds and then seeing the main event on TV,
much more comfortable than standing in a cold crowd. My husband’s family do keep a tradition every
year called ‘First Foot’. One of the
males has to leave the house before midnight, after the year turns he will
knock on the door and be invited in, he will bring a lump of coal to the house
to symbolise good fortune for the year ahead.

The
exigencies of expat life mean that people
move on to new adventures so every year is different, even if we stay in the
same place there are different people to celebrate with. I have no idea where we will celebrate New
Year next year and whether it will be with a large group, with close friends or
just family but the wonderful thing about New Year is that it is a fresh new
start. I wish everyone reading a very
happy and prosperous New Year and good luck for the 12 months ahead.

About Me

I am a no longer 30 something global soul, a perpetual expat. I was born in the Netherlands to a Dutch/Irish Family. Since then I have lived in Norway, Nigeria, Turkey and Venezuela. I went to school and university in the UK. We decided to have an adventure and took our children and the dog(s) to live abroad, first to Kazakhstan and then to various locations in Malaysia. Our current home is in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia.
This blog is about how we muddle through daily life as expats and how things have changed from the adventures of my childhood.