Depression

if this is *too* off topic, i dont mind, delete it, well here goes, I accidentaly fell in love with my drummer (a woman dont worry ) but she dosnt love me, sadly my world revolves round her, and now shes leaving to auzzie, im really depressed, i dont work anymore, i barely play my bass anymore i just dont have the energy. any thoughts? yea i know im just searching for some sympathy but noones listening anywhere else

Sorry that things didn't work with drummer girl. Yes, being depressed takes your fire away but it is only temporary. Just remember, there is nothing in this life that you can't handle. miko's advice is good, simple and effective...

Print that post and stick it to your refrigerator. May good times and better days return soon.

And as miko said, time heals all wounds. And though lost love hurts like a shot in the gut, eventually you'll look up and find things are a lot better than they used to be. She might not have been right for you anyway. And you never know what twists life will take.

Get in the Atkins diet, goto the gym, get a hircut buy some new clothes. Get a new girl, if you get tired of her get another one. Get on with your life brother. I've been in the same boat, but I found other women to spend my time with and started to have a ton of fun and realized it was for the best. Now I have a great, attractive girlfriend that gets turned on when I play my bass and she can cook.. and does windows..and my point is there are more out there everything happens for a reason.

thanks for your support guys, im just gonna take it one day at a time, s'all i can do really... (but washburn emailed me about a vintage replacement neck for my 92' mercury bass so that cheered me up) if any of u guys ever need anything, just PM me

Originally posted by Gard Lots of good advice here, especially from miko.

It's hard, but you will survive this experience, although it most likely won't be an enjoyable experience. I know it hasn't been for me...

...guess I've gotta reason to worry!!!

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gard, you've mentioned this before, and it always makes me sad for you. i hope you're able to feel like yourself again.

ya know, sometimes i think whitney was right -- "the greatest love of all" is self-love. maybe you can channel some of that sadness to self-love. people always say it's selfish, but i think people who truly love themselves are able to give more love than those who are looking for love from others.

man, i really gotta get off my dr. phil box. but i do believe in self love! [no, no -- not THAT kind!]

I was in love only two times in my whole life... well... im only 19 .
The first one was when i was 17. I was in love with a girl named Milagros. Really really in love. But she hated my singer, who was my best friend. So she left me. 3 months later, i kicked the singer... I spend all the 2002 trying to re-make my life. I wasn`t able to find a band like the one tthat I used to play, and unable to find a girl like her. I was really really sad...
At the beginnig of the `03 me & my friends started to hang out with Milagros and her friends.
Suddenly i was in love again. Truly obsesses. I never felt that way in my life. I
At that moment I was hongin with to guys:
-Guy "A": My best friend. He was my friend since i was 4 years old.
-Guy "B": He was almost my bro. I was hangin with him 24 hs per day. Also, he was the singer of my band.
Making things shorter: Guy "b" left with the girl, and guy "A" left me alone.My band broke up, since i cant be playing with the boyfriend of the girl I was in love... Besides, they both start laughting of my situation. I was crying everyday.
I was all alone. No friends, no band no girl. But then, I make new friends. Focus all my energies on being the best bass player i can be. Making THE band. And i do it. After a few bad relationship, I found a girl that trully loves me. She was ALWAYS there. She is my friend since a long time, but nothing happens until now... Im corrently recording an EP. With a group a really realy good friends. And im really really happy.
Here in argentinta, people used to say that "If it doesn`t kill you, it makes you stronger". Thats absolutly true.

Hope it`s useful

Peace Love and broken hearts
Mike

P.S: Milagros called me a couple of weeks ago.Crying. She told me that she was in love with me, that she want to leave "Guy A" and be mi girl. My answer? "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA".

P.P.S: Absolutly true. On that period of times. I wrote more than 20 songs. I also started singing.

Originally posted by miko gard, you've mentioned this before, and it always makes me sad for you. i hope you're able to feel like yourself again.

ya know, sometimes i think whitney was right -- "the greatest love of all" is self-love. maybe you can channel some of that sadness to self-love. people always say it's selfish, but i think people who truly love themselves are able to give more love than those who are looking for love from others.

man, i really gotta get off my dr. phil box. but i do believe in self love! [no, no -- not THAT kind!]

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miko -

That kind of "self love" is fine too, just keep it to yourself, ok!

I'm doing better, thanks for your concern though, it matters, and it is appreciated. I have finally learned to truly love myself, you are right that is the most important person to love. Sad thing is that after a year, I've got to admit I still love her as well, although it is hopeless at this point. Very frustrating at times, but I don't sit home alone at night crying in my milk!

In the end it will be fine, and I will find a new her to share my life and my love with.

I'm doing better, thanks for your concern though, it matters, and it is appreciated. I have finally learned to truly love myself, you are right that is the most important person to love. Sad thing is that after a year, I've got to admit I still love her as well, although it is hopeless at this point. Very frustrating at times, but I don't sit home alone at night crying in my milk!

In the end it will be fine, and I will find a new her to share my life and my love with.

Thanks again, it's comforting to have friends like y'all.

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Funny thing about guys like you - There's enough space inside hearts like yours to love a lot of folks. But like all the other things in life, we have to prioritize our emotions as well. Sort of like the 7 levels of Hell. Well that's probably not such a good analogy but it might apply here in the talk of Love and Romance . As you go on, the lost loves become relegated to lower and lower levels of our commitment. Finally years down the road, we can still say we "love" them but by then it's because of how they impacted and changed our lives and not because of how they loved us.

Originally posted by prophecy Guess who just picked their bass back up? out of character I decided to play Korn, some screaming and (confesses) E/A bashing later i felt a LOT better...my advice, play...

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Hah!!! I've often thought that heavy music was very therapeutic when you're feeling down!!!