Eh, I only like parties if the people there are people I know and are cool according to moi. I feel very alienated and annoyed at parties or "kickbacks" with people that I don't find reasonably mature or interesting.

Buuuut, what if you're in this phase of trying to meet new people because you do not have any close friends in the area? It's a gamble you sort of have to take if you want relationships! Or at least, that is what I am finding...

If my group isn't there, I'm generally not either. I like socializing and all with new people, but I roll with a crew now a days >.o so even if it wouldn't have been fun, hanging out with my friends owns all.

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I'm supposed to go to this huge party on Saturday and I don't know if I want to because I only know (of) about 10 people going and they are all ESs. I often love parties where I don't know everyone, but it's a gamble every time. Will it be fun, won't it be fun? Will I make a connection? Will I feel included? Ahhhhhhhhh stressful.

And, they all think I'm the same as them. But, I know not one N in the group. I'm not like them and I'm so dissatisfied without knowing I have a base of what I would consider real relationships. I want to not care so much about making deep connections in large social settings! It's ridiculous!

This is stressing for me too. Lately I have only hung out with people I know well. It feels very different than the kind of situation you are going to. I don't like facades so I prefer it this way. On the other hand if you don't go, you wont find your kind of people, so.. I think you should go and play along.

Originally Posted by Rachelinpa

Buuuut, what if you're in this phase of trying to meet new people because you do not have any close friends in the area? It's a gamble you sort of have to take if you want relationships! Or at least, that is what I am finding...

It's not a gamble. You go and you find some folks you like, or you go and you don't find them. You don't lose anything. Not exactly win-win but neither a gamble.

You do lose sometimes though. Certain people sap the life out of me, so it would feel like a wasted evening. I don't usually subject myself to situations where I am not sure I will enjoy myself. I don't know. I think someone might give me a ride, which would be a definite bonus. I hate going to parties by myself when I don't really know anyone (at all) and don't know if I can trust the people I'm with.

Moral finger pointers bother me in general. I mean people who believe in a moral, try to force it on you, and don't consider the possiblity that it is a bad moral or that it doesn't apply to some people.