Old Blu wrote:Grant was rattled at the Wilderness. General Lee got under his skin bad and beat him even though he had a 3-1 man advantage.

I have to assume you refer to the old story that has Grant breaking down and crying on the night of May 6th, recounted most famously by Shelby Foote. Unfortunately, that story is an utter falsehood.

As to who was rattled in the Wilderness, I would say it was Lee when, on the morning of the 6th, he attempted to personally organize a countercharge. And he would do the same thing twice more over the course of the next week.