Loners are smarter. They figure it out by themselves. Others call their friends: how do I fix this. Or better yet they get them to come over and fix it. In college I quickly realized that I didn't need the classroom. I could teach myself....

I would say it is harder for men. Women are naturally more social and usually have more friends than men. Women are usually the ones to keep up connections with family as well. Lots of men connect socially through their female partners with friends and family. If you are a man, single and alone, you will need to make an extra effort to create a social network. Volunteering is a good place to start. Take some classes as well. Spending too much time alone is not healthy. We are social creatures. Even if you are more of a loner, you still need human contact.

I am 44 and single but occasionally dating. I occupy my time with creative and spiritual pursuits. I make an effort to connect with friends and family. I help out in the community. I am rarely lonely, and I love all my free time.

"And I understood that in an age where there was so much ego, because of the camera, that it was very important to look for that kind of player, ... I began to look for the kind of player that doesn't need his ego fed by stardom, but will do what he's supposed to do because he knows the game and loves the game, and will do the job the right way even if someone else gets the glory." ~ Bill Belichick

It is difficult for anyone who cannot reach out and develop relationships, whether in marriage or just well cemented friendships.

It is most difficult for those who cannot drive or travel short distances to have a public circls of good acquaintances and who have no one dropping by to chat with or visit.

It is a very large problem.

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That is why you have to make a special effort and push yourself. You have to. It is for your health. Keep trying different groups until you find one that you like and feel comfortable in. Do not go to bars or other self-destructive places.

My aunt died old and alone. She was a mean lady so she pretty much alienated her entire family. When we had to clean out her place after her death, it was trashed with cat litter boxes and cat and dog shit all over. Her only companions were her pets. Very sad.

none of us is ever alone. We are connected to everything in the universe. Some call it God we are connected to. I felt it my entire life since i was a small child. I feel sorry for people that never did. So so sad.

I would say it is harder for men. Women are naturally more social and usually have more friends than men. Women are usually the ones to keep up connections with family as well. Lots of men connect socially through their female partners with friends and family. If you are a man, single and alone, you will need to make an extra effort to create a social network. Volunteering is a good place to start. Take some classes as well. Spending too much time alone is not healthy. We are social creatures. Even if you are more of a loner, you still need human contact.

Everyone tells me how smart I was to not get tangled up in a marriage.

I know so many men whose lives are destroyed because of psychotic ex-wives and the resulting divorce. Even a guy in know in his 60's is ready to toss his bi-polar live-in girlfriend out because he can't take her anymore.

Another man in his 70's should be retired as he doesn't need to work anymore, but he goes to work every day to just hang out and get out of the house and away from his wife.