Dear Deidre

My message said: “Every love story has a start, a middle and an end but I’m stuck on chapter one because I’m too shy to tell you how I feel.”

I didn’t sign the card but I don’t want things to be awkward between us in work if she doesn’t feel the same about me.

Should I confess that I’m the mystery sender and ask her out to dinner some time?

DEIDRE SAYS:Yes, why not? Valentine’s Day has passed so it may seem less of a heavy request.

Send her a message and ask her if she liked the card and whether she would like to go to the cinema or for a meal with you – something definite that will give you something to talk about to make the conversation easy.

Just be friendly for that first date and see where it leads you.

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