Men have only two emotions~ hungry and horny!If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich!

Since the beginning of time men have been attracted to women through their beauty. The healthier and more vibrant a woman looks the more a man would be drawn to her. In his mind she has the ability to carry a child and allow his genes to pass on. Women on the other hand are attracted to men through resources. The house they can provide, the income they can provide, the protection they can provide and the security they can provide. This is why you see an extremely attractive young lady with a man counterpart that looks like he may be half way in the grave already. She is attracted to his resources not his body! You would never see a young woman with a old man that is living in a retirement community and barely scraping by with the check that rolls in every month from the social security department.

So if men are visually stimulated, what are you actively doing to stimulate your husband. I am not saying that you have to be a knockout. I am saying that confidence and a desire to show your husband all your curves and beauty is a starting point to create an amazing sexual connection. As a woman you have the peacock like feathers, embrace them and show your mate your sexuality and your sensuality, show him your soft girly side! How do you do this... you are asking? In the morning while you are showering notice all the beauty your body has to offer. Notice the line of your neck, the softness of your breast, the ampleness of your booty and the beauty of your legs. Embrace your beauty in a positive healthy way. Do not allow yourself to go to a negative place as this closes off any sexual energy that is being drawn to you. Confidence is key here. We all have body parts that we absolutely love and we get to use these parts to entice our husbands.

Another way we can visually stimulate our husband is to activate our sexual diva in the bedroom. I am talking about being able to tap into your seductive self. Do not turn off the lights and jump underneath the covers. Get some dim lighting so your husband can see all your beautiful curves as well as your being able to feel confident at the same time. Seduce your husband. As women we love foreplay. Create ways all throughout the day to engage in small acts of foreplay. When you are in the bedroom embrace your inner sexual self and play with the act of sex. Sex is not just laying down and letting him slide his penis inside you. Sex is a playful way for you to turn your man on as well as a time for him to pleasure you. When we are sexually confident, your marriage will flourish. Remember men are visually stimulated and he wants to see all of you...naked and confident. He will not notice the flaws you think you have, he will notice that fact that you are pleasing him with your nakedness and your ability and desire to seduce him.

In society we have been taught that sex should look good instead of feel good. We are sexual beings and in the process of being sexual beings we have heard and seen many things that state sex looks like this. When we are feeling that the sex we are having does not match up to that image, we create a disconnect with our sexual self. Sex does not look a certain way, sex is an amazing feeling and we get to overcome the attachments that we have created when it comes to the look of sex and start fully embracing the FEELINGS of sex. When we are making love to our husbands who cares what it looks like. It is the feeling that is the most important part of sexually connecting. When we are sexual with our spouse and it feels good then we feel good. We feel happy and this happiness carries over into every part of our lives. We have a glow and a confidence about us. We are excited and fulfilled! Sex creates amazing emotions. Embrace the feelings of sex and stop focusing on the look of sex. When we embrace the feelings of sex it is easier for us to look and feel sexier. When we are sexual in our marriage on a consistent basis then the sexual happiness builds inside of us and we automatically feel and look sexier. By allowing yourself to embrace the feelings of sex you allow yourself and your spouse to build more and more positive feelings that are attached to your sexual energy. You both will be happier, look healthier, feel more connected, and both of you will be excited to lay next to each other every night as you will become each others pleasure centers. Dedicate yourself to your sexual happiness and fulfillment inside your marriage. Sex is something that is liberating, exciting, relaxing, passionate, sensual and erotic. Sex can also be something that can be challenging and difficult. We get to decide how badly we want an amazing sex life and work through the challenges we face so we can become sexually satisfied in our marriage. When we get to have sex with the same person for years we can either allow this to become boring or we can choose to create something different and allow this sex to become the BEST sex ever. I know what one I am choosing and with that choice comes excitement, passion and my own sexual playground of fun with my husband. We deserve to be sexually satisfied . Our husbands deserve to be sexually satisfied. We deserve to fully embrace the feelings of sex and create fun and excitement on a daily basis. Sexual energy builds. The more sexual you are in your marriage the more you will absolutely love and devour each other every night...or at least every other night!

Masturbation is a natural part of human sexuality! Orgasms help decrease stress, increase genital blood flow, and awakens a better sexual response! Masturbation is a reliable path to fulfillment as well as educating yourself about your body and what it likes and what it does not like. For women masturbation can be a great discovery time for what type of movement is best suited for our sexual self. It is also a great time to caress our own bodies, slowly rubbing and touching our own self with love and appreciation is an amazing concept to bring into your sexual energy. If we are always feeling ashamed and bad about ourselves and focusing on only the things we don't like about our bodies then it is really difficult to give ourselves to our lover and enjoy the creation process of sex! My suggestion would be if you do not feel comfortable touching, rubbing and exploring your vagina then at least dedicate some time to rubbing, touching and caressing your body. Focus on your amazing neck line, your beautiful shoulders, the curves of your thighs and the sway in your back. Get comfortable touching your own body. You will immediately start feeling sexy and you will share this sexiness with your husband. For men masturbation can relieve built up tension as well as build stamina for longer love making sessions. Male masturbation is talked about often and usually expected in a sexual relationship. We have all heard 100's of times about male masturbation and how it is something they all do! Become comfortable talking about masturbation with your spouse and show her the things you like and don't like. You know what your penis needs so share all those amazing sexrets with your wife!Masturbation is a personal choice . You can choose to never touch yourself or to touch yourself on a daily basis...BUT you choose. Do not allow others thoughts and fears to control you. Ask yourself if masturbation is right for you and if the answer is YES then start enjoying your sexuality. Do not be ashamed of it. Harness its power and awaken your sexual, self loving side. If the answer is NO, then take some steps to start appreciating the beauty your body has and does offer. Speak positive words and try to lightly caress your legs, arms and neckline. This will also awaken your sexual energy!Sex binds and bonds us in a way that is so powerful, so wonderful and so pleasurable. A husband and wife that has a great sexual connection and can share their sexual self freely and openly is a couple that has freedom in the bedroom to discover, explore and satisfy each other or watch while each of you satisfies yourselves! Explore in the bedroom...it is super FUN!

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My name is Cameo .I have been married for 16 years and with my husband for 17.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!