No Harem, UNLESS, unless the MC actually get a girl in the end not all of them fighting over him while he just blushes as they throw themselves at him.

and no Slash or reverse harem, one guy and maybe a few of his pervy friends, I visualize myself as the MC or if its a Shoujo then as the main Male, I don't want to see a bunch of guys throwing themselves at one girl.

You are quite particular. That's good. It means you know what you want. In the meantime, what do you do to feed your anime addiction if you can't find an anime that you want?

Depends. Self Insertion just screams loser to some people. I'm surprised no one made fun of the OP.