When asking someone out, make your intentions clear. Don’t suggest “hanging out” when you’re interested in more than friendship. Nor should the invitation be for a group outing, such as a happy hour with co-workers. Instead, specifically invite the other person to go out with you. Something like “I think you’re great, and I’d like to get to know you better by taking you on a hike” leaves no doubt.

Remember that a date is an opportunity to get to know someone. Rather than succumbing to the pressure to achieve a specific goal, from a good-night kiss to plans for a second meeting, look at it as a chance to become better acquainted.

If the first date wasn’t perfect but there was a spark, don’t dismiss going out on a second. Were there elements of the first date that you enjoyed? If the other person talked too much, was it nervousness? Don’t be too judgmental. A second date could prove more revealing.

Pay attention to body language. Are they responsive to a touch on the arm? Is she twirling her locks, or is she a hair stylist driven by boredom to work on braiding techniques? Are the stolen glances lasting a little longer than usual? Communication doesn’t always have to be verbal.

That said, don’t assume the other person is always clear on your intentions. It might not be as romantic, but it’s not a bad idea to verbally acknowledge the person with a compliment, such as casually mentioning they have a nice smile.

Limit the alcohol intake. Beer goggles might be fun in the moment, but they won’t allow you to get an accurate sense of the person you’re with.There’s also the next-day unpleasantness of having to justify the ol’ breadsticks-up-the-nose trick.

Don’t get trapped in the friend zone. If there is a legitimate spark, it’s undeniable. If not, don’t take it personally.

If you are not interested in going out on a second date, not answering voicemail messages or e-mails is not the way to let them know. Be kind, direct and appreciative. No matter how much of a boor they were, the Golden Rule applies to dating as well.