Is It Time For A Relationship Break?

So what's a guy to do when he's feeling neglected, trapped, unappreciated, or generally underwhelmed with his current relationship? Why, take a break, of course. Well, at least think about a break...

While some (read: the girlfriend) may think that spending time apart is an extreme measure, it might be just what the doctor ordered. Whether you want to keep your options open or send her a sign that she needs to change her attitude, breathing space could make or break the relationship.

reasons for the break

It helps to think this through first. Don't just go off and say, "I'm outta here" without weighing your options and giving due consideration to your girlfriend's feelings. Always remember that it helps to talk about this with her. However, if talking gets you nowhere, then it's time to move on to plan B: the break.

That said, the reasons for needing/wanting a break are diverse and could affect guys differently depending on the level of commitment and communication already established with their ladies.

Here are some of the most common:

Things are moving too fast (or too slow) She may be pressuring you to commit way too soon. Conversely, you may be waiting for her to show signs that she's as into you as you are her. Either way, your speeds are mismatched and the longer you wait, the more apparent it becomes.

Things are getting stale The same old routine day in and day out has you going stir-crazy. She refuses to change her patterns or try anything new with you. This can seriously cramp your style and may make you reconsider how much longer you can actually take her. If you can't enjoy each other's hobbies or passions and explore new ones together, it may be time for some breathing space.

You think you've fallen out of love (or "like") What can I say about this one? It happens. For some reason, the magic or chemistry you initially experienced fades after the "honeymoon" phase and you no longer have the same feelings for her. To put it simply, you don't think about her when she's not around and you could probably go days without getting together with her.

She no longer respects you No matter what you say or do, she just doesn't listen to or respect your opinions anymore. This would be tough for anyone to stomach, but think about why this could have happened: Have you changed? Has your ambition disappeared? Think about this one hard before requesting time apart.

Whether you're sexually incompatible or you want to play the field, check out what's prompting your need for a hiatus...