I appreciate everything my soon-to-be-combined GIANT family of in-laws and regular folks have done for me leading up to my shower.I’ve spent hundreds on thank you notes and am out!Tell me bluntly and truthfully – because I’ll be honest, I’m SOOOO tired of spending money – if it’s cheap for me to send out personalized thank yous on stationary that is embossed with my current name and address?I have tons of gorgeous stationary – I’m a paper person – but just can’t gauge the etiquette on this one. (or much of anything else with the wedding countdown having so few numbers in it.)

You don’t need notes that they “thank you” on them. A nice piece of stationery is a truly lovely thing to receive in the mail and I always like the thank you notes better if they don’t come on “thank you” note stationery. Traditionally it was even considered rude to have a preprinted “thankyou” on a card since it implied a insincere, not of-the-moment gratitude. As long as your thank yous aren’t typed on a computer, generic message to everybody, or repurposed wrinkled paper, go for it!

In all honesty,I’d MUCH rather have a nicely written-morethanthestandard-thank you sent to me on beautiful stationery! There’s nothing worse than getting a tiny Thank You card with the handwriting so small you need magnification to read it!

Cheerful is right – traditionally you would use a plain card, or one with your initial on it. Store bought thank you cards are okay and I think they’re acceptable now, but a plain card is fine. I’m not sure what you mean by your name and address embossed on your stationary, but if you think it’s okay and only worry that it doesn’t say thanks on it already, go for it. (I’m thinking business letterhead? – I would not use that).

All of my thank you notes have been handmade/stamped with thank yous and ribbons and what not. While I have plenty of the supplies left, I’m out of the plain cards – and my stationary is too pretty to add to it.

For example – here’s one I made with ribbon, gold thread, a stamp and some sparkly thread for the ‘diamond’.

If it were me I would go out an buy more (I just HAD to have all matching stationery). But I think it’s perfectly acceptable to use pretty stationery to thank your friends and family and I don’t think it’s improper at all!

No wonder you’re tired of doing all of those thank you…you made them all! And they are spectacular! Very creative. But stationary is just as good. Personally I think writing on stationary is a lost art form. And, I don’t think it’s improper etiquette either.

The thank you card you’d been sending out is really nice but a thank you is a thank you. As long as its sent, it doesn’t matter where it came from. I’ve never been concerned with the quality of the thank you card. Just appreciate getting it. Which reminds me, I totally didn’t get one from a friend of mine and I’m not happy about it. Not even a verbal thank you! I couldn’t make it to her shower in May I missed but sent gifts- no thank you. Then, knowing that their financial situation was rough, I gave them a crapload of money- still nothing! Rude…