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Sunday, February 2, 2014

an update on my single life

It's been almost three months since I decided to stop dating. I have to say, it has been a simple thing which has surprised me a bit.

It was a little lonely and strange at the beginning. But now I hardly think about it! Funny that something that consumed my mind for all that time can be easily shoved out.

Some people have been supportive of my choice; others have questioned me. Most of my guy friends think I am completely nuts--that's fair. :) A few friends have questioned whether I'm putting God in a box, as far as what I believe He can do in my life.

I can see where that would come from but for me (and only me), this choice was actually a way for me to put trust in God. I had been trying to manipulate life and make things happen according to my will and timeline. I kinda just told God to step back and let me handle this. My track record for love isn't so great so perhaps not a wise choice!

For me, this choice has been an excellent exercise in trusting God's timing. I have given over complete control to God in this area, which has been the hardest area for me to give up control in. And I've learned quite a bit about myself in the process.

At this point in life, I feel like being single is exactly where I am supposed to be. I have trust issues to deal with from my marriage and those don't just go away because you meet a nice guy. Best to work on those now. My kids beg me not to get married again--clearly, they are not ready for me to date. And frankly, I am greatly enjoying my freedom and independence and really do not feel much of a void in my life at this point.

Do I want to be alone forever? Of course not! Who truly desires that? My guess is very few people. But I would rather be alone than be unhappy. Of that I am completely sure.

So for now I am challenging myself to sit back and trust that God has a plan and that it will be way more awesome than anything I could engineer. It might not involve a man or marriage but that doesn't mean it is wrong. I would not have been able to say that three months ago!