I have been dating my gf almost a year. During the first month of our relationship she told me she had been raped at the age of 8 by her 14 year old cousin. She is 21 now, and a couple months after I heard about this information about her I went to a mexican dance with her, per her request. Her father, weary of me, asked her cousin to come and be her protector, or superior. If she wanted to go anywhere, including the bathroom she had to ask him. I did not know that he was the guy who raped her when she was little. He raped her for an entire year whenever they played hide and seek. I asked her if it was him and she lied and told me the cousin that did it went back to Mexico. Now that I know he was the monster that did it, I've decided to tell her parents, whom I have never met. I might tell her sister instead. My gf told me to not tell her family because her father with kill him, but I can't stand the fact that gets to get away with it. What do I do?

Only if your gf wants to, otherwise you HAVE to be silent on the matter. it is her family and her choice... only she knows her family dynamics. She needs your support in whichever decision she makes. I understand how you feel but going against her might things worse not better. Tell her you will stand by her whenever she feels ready to tell.... and leave it at that. mx:))

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I understand you care a lot for your girlfriend and really want justice. But ultimately it's not fair for you to do that for her, it's a huge betrayal of her trust especially if she has not told anyone else, it should be solely her decision to speak up when she is ready to. The only thing you can do is be supportive and encourage her along the way.