So sad...

Not only that, but it happened on the day of the Coroner's Inquest into my brother's death so I was in court all day

Just to explain, my brother (my only sibling) committed suicide in November at the age of only 27. He had multiple sclerosis and felt really hopeless about his disabilities.

Because he died suddenly, they held an inquest into his death. I promised my parents I would be there to support them through it. So when I started bleeding that morning, I just went onto autopilot and carried on as normal. My hub was really concerned about me, but I just had to get through that day.

Apart from hub and my GP, I haven't told anyone. Hub thinks I should tell my parents because they will be really upset if they find out later. But how can I tell them about this (they didn't even know that I was pregnant because it was only a few days after I found out that things started to unravel) when they are still so upset after the inquest????

I just so wanted to have some good news after all my family has been through recently..........

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Hi Cherry Picker, just wanted to say how sorry i am. I cant imagine how you feel and what happened with your brother is awful. You must do what your instincts tell you do with regards to telling your parents. Just make sure your hubby is there to suppport you. Take a couple of days to think about it and get use to it yourself before you have to deal with whether you tell them or not. Sorry if that's not much help. Sending lots of hugs your way darling xxxxx

It's good to know that life goes on after a miscarriage (even if it doesn't feel like it now). I just feel like a bit of a freak, even though I know so many people have been through the same thing, it's almost normal...

We want to try and get pregnant again right away, and I really hope it 'sticks' next time. I'm going to see my GP tomorrow to talk things through. I'm also going to have a scan to make sure everything has been shed. I think I will be able to look to the future after that.

Funnily enough, my husband says the same as yours, "Your body is very efficient and it knew something wasn't right"...

Went to the doctor this evening and she gave me some info to read, which was really helpful. She is also going to investigate the impact of me having a Rhesus negative blood group because I am a bit worried about that impacting a future pregnancy. I have got the scan booked for next week too, so that is a productive step.

Can I ask you if your cycle went back to normal after the m/c? I guess it must have done if you got pg straight away. That must have been a relief after it taking 18 months the first time! Reason I ask is that I'm normally really regular but that may be messed up as I have been bleeding for a week with no signs of it letting up. I think I might get some ovulation sticks...

In the meantime, I'm going to take some time to mourn this loss and try and get well physically.

Sorry for your loss hun, I suffered a miscarriage too in January it's a truly painful experience I really feel for you.

We didn't tell the il2b's that I was pregnant and h2b didn't want to upset them afterwards. But I'd told my mum already, I spoke to her afterwards and said that I wish I hadn't told her I was pregnant in the first place, she said she'd have been really upset if I hadn't, as upsetting as the miscarriage was she was glad to be able to comfort me when I needed it.

It's a hard one with what your parents and you must already be going through but don't bottle up your feelings. I found a website raising kids.co.uk they have a miscarriage support forum, I found it really helped to talk to people going through the same thing and just being able to rant on there was real thearapy.

Like Claire said if you want to talk to someone I'd be happy to give you my email address.

I was feeling really sad all day today, so I went on the miscarriage association website and read some of the stories that people have put up there. That helped a lot.

When I came home from work I felt really upset again and then I realised that I really missed my brother and the inquest last week brought back all the anguish I felt at the time of his death. I had a good cry about it with my hub and feel much better now.

We decided to leave it a few weeks to tell both sets of parents, to give mine a chance to recover from the ordeal of the inquest. We also decided that if we get pg again, we will tell them straight away so that we don't have to hide anything from them like this time, and also so we have their support from the word go, whatever the outcome...

I was really sorry for both your losses. I had lots of m/c but oddly the one that stuck was the one pregnancy I had 12 weeks after my only daughter died.. that was very hard.

I have a wonderful little boy now, he will be 2 tomorrow, life goes on I'm afraid even when ours falls apart. I am sure you will have a successful pregnancy soon, and the thing about telling people... if you don't want to say anything and they don't know anyway why tell them? I had 6 m/c (but a lot older than you!) and only disclosed one. Good luck, and lots of luck and baby dust.