Saturday, June 7, 2014

Are you in the right relationship with the right person?

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When
someone falling in love, they never expect it to fail. You get in to a
relationship with great expectations on love filled with hopes & promises.
But, as you can see out there, all the relationships are not going all right. Some exist for the sake of a relationship.

Sometimes,
you may know that this is not going to work, but still you want it, so…you justify
any crazy thing your partner does and try to stay cool hanging on to the relationship with a lot of expectations. At some point, this may work for few days and again you suffer as the same before.

What do you feel in your relationship? Are you happy with it, or unhappy? Here are few signs that can help you to understand whether
it's worth to hold on or just let it go, rather than hurting yourself.

# The connection – You never know why your
relationship is going on. There is no romance, both live in separate
worlds. No one knows what the other is doing. Both just exist. Even you also wonder “What the heck I’m doing?, Is this a relationship ?”

# Hurting – You feel hurt, even when he talks
you get hurt, even he doesn’t, you get hurt. Sometimes you don’t know why you are hurt exactly.
Or you are hurting yourself, thinking about him, so deeply.

# No future – Perhaps your relationship is
great, both of you love each other in good manner. But when you are all alone, you
may feel…what is the future of this relationship? You cannot see any future for
this. And you may feel, at any moment, this relationship would collapse.

# Togetherness – Your partner doesn’t pay good
attention to your day to day life. He or she may not be actively engaged in day to day life. Even, when you need them to be involved in some of your events , they don’t
to do so.

# Physical attraction – Sometimes, you can’t remember the
last day that you made love to your partner. In the bedroom, when you want to be
romantic, your partner may prefer to turn aside and fall a sleep.

# Trust – No more trust, you or your partner
doesn’t trust each other. There may be valid reasons for this. But rather than discussing these issues, still you carry the relationship with the suspicious
minds.

# Different lives – There may be not any meaningful
conversation between you two. There is no special thing to discuss, or any topics that lead to another topic, and conversation is not interesting any more.
It’s because, you don’t have any common values, ideas or desires, or any common
expectations with your partner... Simply both of you live in different lives.

# Endless fights – Mostly you may argue with your
partner for an issue. Then, again both of you, had enough of the fight and, calm
down. And then think everything is cool. But in few days, again the same fight
or argument starts for very same issue. If
the same issue stagnates in your lives and fighting continues, is there any good for long
term?

# Impressing – Your partner is pleasing other people to impress them and
win their hearts. But he or she never does any of this to you to make you
happy.

# Fault finders – Your partner always think that you
are not good enough for them. Always finding, even tiny faults of yours and
scolding at you. And your partner breaks your mind each and every day with it. And
they are expecting you to change for them, because you have many faults (Fake
or very tiny) and you are not good enough for them.

# Manipulating your love - Your partner may get your love and
caresses for advantages. Your partner may know that you never leave them. And they
do what they want to do without thinking about your feelings. Even when you
suffer upon what they do, they will do that, because they know you don’t leave
them.

# Company is not joyful – When both of you together, you may
feel uncomfortable. Sometime you may feel it’s boring and rather good to be
with your friends.

# No respect at all – Your partner is paying enough
respect for you? And do you do the same for him or for her? It’s not just because of
your partner, but for their individualities? Respect will play a major role in
a relationship. But remember respect is not love.

# Insecure personalities - People who are having insecure
personalities never confront their partner. Instead of confronting you, they try
to point out your faults (fake) and try to make guilty situation in your mind
of what you are doing.

# Holding something? – You are in the relationship, because
both of you want to carry some baggage, bond or something? And upon that you
think, happiness will come in near future?

Honestly…how many signs of above,
that you can see in your relationship? How many of these signs are totally
applicable to you? Now…you have to decide what to do!

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