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This Woman’s day my tribute to all wonderful mothers of this world !! Well, I mentioned this post as Daughter Vs Mother, it’s not about the fight between two beautiful creature of the God, but it’s 2 faces of a single woman whose life turns when she switch the role from a daughter to a mother…

Why we always says “PAPA KI PARI ” why it is assumed and said “daddy’s girl and momma’s boy ” have you ever thought about it?

Well, as a daughter if someone ask me whom I was close to I say my papa and if someone ask me whom I admire most, I say my mom ❤ now the difference is dad’s are always a best friend who pampers you, goes crazy play with you and make sure whatever you wish for you get that.

On the other hand, if you ask your mom or rather force your mom to get something for you, she will give you hundred reasons to adjust in what you have rather wasting money.

As a daughter, I remember whenever I asked any permission from my mom she always answered saying “ask dad” I never understood that point of time. I was being most pampered daughter of my dad and never thought about what all going to be. My mom always said “Study hard and be independent” but at that delicate age when all girls 80% fall in love or dream about their crush I too joined that 80% and thinking “Mom is like Hitler ”

When I used to go to college to attend a lecture at 6:00 am my mom was always ready with hot tiffin packed for me which sometimes irritated me and I went without taking that tiffin and casually saying ” I will have in canteen ” never thought what she would have felt. I love my mom it doesn’t mean that I never felt bad but yes as a daughter I thought it’s my right and liberty to leave my room unorganized and when something goes missing the only word which echoes “Mummyyyyy Mummmyyyyyy”

By God’s grace and my parent’s wishes, I got married to a wonderful person and my better half. With full Bollywood style dreams, I entered in new phase of life and thought I will make my life like a cake with wonderful icing of love and my kids as cherry on top and from a daughter when my life took a turn towards a MOTHER now I realize what mothers go through as now I am in her shoes.

I still love my dad most but I salute my mom for giving me upbringing to adjust in whatever I have in life, I thank my dad for fulfilling my every single wish but I owe my life to my mother who always says “study hard and be independent ” now I realise after being a mother that what she meant by being independent it’s not about 9 am to 6 am job she was talking about, she was trying to tell that you will get 24/7 job but don’t loose your individuality and keep space for your dreams and your hobbies. If she was standing with hot tiffin for me at 6 am means she was much early got up thinking I should not be hungry after my lecture. Round a clock when I think about my kids, I prepare for their exams I feel sorry for being sometimes so rude and selfish to my mom.

I am not feeling shameful saying sorry on this social platform to my mom for hurting known or unknowingly but this SORRY is straight from my heart ❤ to mom.

Our first meeting was so Bollywood style… my dad was on a bed with paralysis & my mom want me to get settled but I had some other plans “Not to get married ” Mayank’s aunt planned her summer vacation to our neighbors as they were relatives & saw me taking care of my dad.

She told my mom that she thinks that his nephew will be the perfect match for me and given the phone number of his parents. My mom spoke to them without my knowledge and suddenly when I returned back from my job she said “Apna biodata mail kar do” & gave me 2 mail ids with my pic to scan n send …after so much argument I said ok and went cyber cafe to mail on both id’s (one id was of Mayank & other was his sister) as my mom noted the wrong id of his sister…mail BOUNCED & my bio data along with pic only reached to Mayank!!

He says he was in love with my smile & called his parents n said yes you can go n meet her.

He added me on yahoo chat and we started chatting… very generally I told him about my plans that until papa is not well and stand up on his own I will not marry.. he said ok … n told me that he will make sure he will respect my decision but gradually we started chatting n after few weeks he called he… we started talking on phn too .. he told me that his parents are planning to visit my place to see me and told me how to dress so that his mom gets impressed & I did ..I, myself don’t know when I started liking him.. his parents visited n liked me and even fixed our engagement date also … I was happy and even he was sounding same but still, we have not met each other…. now as it termed officially all though we should meet & say yes as they all were unaware that we are talking each other from long.

I was about to visit my sister place in Hyderabad and as he was posted in Pune so decided that he will come down to Hyderabad and meet me, then we can tell d decision to our families.

Day arrived 19th August 2006 he entered my sister’s place with my high heartbeat and how he would look like? How he will react? How he will smile? Will he say yes? So many questions were just flashing!!!

He came and it was decided that we will go in a mall there we can talk and as we went there, all others left us alone and we both standing in front of some jewellery shop first sentence he said “Ruchi let’s go and buy a ring …for you” and I was like on cloud 9 …

We called our parents and told them that it’s yes from our side too!!! And in April 2007 we tied knot for many more lives it’s 10 years of togetherness but still my heart pumps like it’s just happened a few seconds back.. we got 2 faces of our love Ira and Viraj our kids and he kept his promise “Ruchi these many years your papa treated you as princess now my turn to treat you as queen of my life..” and so I am …Queen of my king !!!

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It was never so perfect life without you before 10 years. It’s amazing journey of 10 years and I feel blessed that you are my companion for life …
I still remember when we met first and you directly said …”Chalo let’s buy a ring for you!!” my heart still beats fast ❤ when I think of those magical words… for me love, marriage was always like with someone who can understand me, who can understand my thoughts without speaking up and you still listens to me whenever and whatever I think without uttering a word. Today we have our 2 faces of love in face of Ira and Viraj. We have shared all good times together but I remember those tough times when I needed you most when dad left us and you stood next to me like a strong pillar and made me realize that my choice of getting married to you is my BEST decision. You said at that time “Papa took care of her princess for so long now it’s my turn to take care of his princess ” and you kept your words!!
Time tested us and our love many times , even when Viraj was born in 6th month as an extremely premature baby we was in tears as hopes were shattered but our love and our headstrong togetherness made our little wonder a champ and we got our second face of love with God’s own blessings as a Miracle boy!!
Thanks is a really small word to show my gratitude towards the life I am sharing with you !!
On this Valentines day, this is small poem I would love to dedicate to you

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Starting my week with a positive note which I believe is the most important aspect of life.

A positive person can come out from any situation very easily, having a positive attitude and positive thinking is the best way to win challenges in life.

In our daily life, we come across two kinds of people, one who are taking life with full energy with his/her positive thing and the other one who is taking life with negative thinking or attitude. All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet.

“Getting an idea and planning about a task in hand is the easiest step, the mountain of challenges comes when you start implementing it….. but I had you to pull me out from all those technicalities….. I was so lucky to have you as my mentor… I know you since ages (okay 13 – 14 yrs), time has changed but you remain the same; bubbly, exuberant, lively, happy go lucky girl I knew back then. You guided me with patience and helped me on every single step from conception to publishing…. I have been bombarding you with tons of questions every single day; you solve all my worries with your signature smile and a tadkta-bhadakta dialogue in the end. Thanks for introducing me to blogging world Ruchi Di… and guiding me throughout this transition. Your simple likes & comments give me the zeal to perform more…. So please keep loving me like this and inspiring with your words….