Why Did My Ex Cut Off All Contact?

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Here are 5 possible reasons why your ex has cut off all contact:

1. She’s using the classic No Contact Rule on you

The No Contact Rule (cutting off contact for 30 to 60 days in the hope that an ex comes crawling back) is a technique that both men and women use after a break up.

So, it’s quite possible that your ex is using it on you right now.

When women use the NC rule after dumping a guy, it’s usually to get over him and move on.

She may have an interest in getting back with you, but if you don’t find a way to contact her and re-attract her, she’s most likely just going to move on.

Another possible reason why your ex has cut off all contact with you is…

2. You were annoying her by pleading with her to give you another chance

A common reaction that guys have when they get broken up with is to plead and beg with an ex for another chance.

For example: A guy might say to her, “Please baby, don’t walk away from what we have! I know that we’ve had our problems, but our is strong enough to survive this. Just give me one more chance. I promise that this time things will be different between us. I know I can make you happy. Please give me another chance. I need you in my life. I don’t know if I would be able to live without you. I love you more than I’ve ever loved another woman. I only want to be with you. Please, just give me a chance.”

Yet, rather than making her think, “Okay, it seems like he really needs me, so maybe I should give him a chance,” his pleading simply annoys her and turns her off even further.

She then decides to cut him out of her life completely (e.g. by blocking him on social media, blocking his number and e-mail, avoiding going to places where she knows he likes to hang out, or ignoring his attempts to contact her), so she can have some space to find a new guy and move on.

Here’s the thing…

Women aren’t attracted to the emotional weakness in men (e.g. neediness, desperation, an inability to handle what life throws at him).

So, when a guy pleads with a woman for her to give him another chance over and over again, it turns her off at a deep, instinctive level (i.e. she fears that she’ll have to take care of him emotionally because he clearly can’t cope on his own).

Then, rather than sticking around and putting up with his pleading, she cuts off contact and tries to move on.

Another possible reason why your ex has cut off all contact with you is…

3. She doesn’t believe that you will change

In most cases, a woman won’t break up with a guy before she gives him one or two chances to improve, especially if he has been promising her that he will change.

Yet, if he doesn’t follow through on his promises (e.g. because he doesn’t actually know what or how to change, he was too lazy to put in the effort and just assumed she would put up with his behavior because she loves him, or he never planned on changing and just wanted to keep her around for a little longer), she will eventually go through with the break up.

Then, to get over him and move on, she will cut off all contact because she knows that he will try to convince her to give him another chance once again.

Based on her past experiences, she doesn’t believe that he will change, so she doesn’t want to have to deal with it anymore.

She wants to be done with the relationship and try to move on and forget about him.

So, if you want your ex to open herself up to interacting with you again, you first need to make some changes to the way you approach interactions with her (e.g. If you were previously too emotionally sensitive or insecure, you are now very confident and self-assured. If you previously gave her too much power over you and made her feel like the more dominant one during interactions, you now reclaim your masculine position and let her see that you can be the man she needs).

When you are ready to re-attract her, get in contact with her (don’t wait for her to reach out to you first) and make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for the new and improved you.

Naturally, she will then become more open to communicating with you further and exploring her new, interesting and appealing feelings for you.

Another possible reason why your ex has cut off all contact with you is…

4. She can see that you don’t understand the real, secret and subtle reasons why she broke up with you

For example: A guy might know that he took his woman for granted by getting into the habit of talking down to her, getting angry at her or neglecting her (e.g. to play video games, go out drinking with his buddies, work extra long hours all the time).

He knows that, but he doesn’t know her other, secret reasons for breaking up with him.

While she was annoyed about being taken for granted, what really turned her off and caused her to want to go through with a break up was the fact that he didn’t make her feel sexy and desirable during sex, the way that he did in the beginning.

When the relationship first began, he was really into her and made her feel like she was the sexiest woman he’d ever been with.

Yet, months or years into the relationship, he slipped into the habit of just having sex with her to get to the point where he ejaculated.

He didn’t really look at her as being sexy, say that she was sexy or make her feel sexy and desirable.

He was just going through the motions and having sex with her without caring about how she felt about it.

As a result, she started to feel the need to get attention from other men.

When she opened up and began to flirt with men at work, or throughout her everyday life, she noticed that they found her to be sexy and desirable and many commented about her being beautiful.

Yet, her boyfriend just treated her like a woman that he was bored with.

He didn’t look at her the way he used to and that really hurt her and annoyed her deep down.

So, if he tries to get her back after getting dumped by saying that he will spend more time with her and be nicer to her, it’s not really going to make her feel motivated to get back with him.

If she senses that he is just saying that to avoid being dumped and will likely dump her after getting her back, she will remain closed up.

She won’t want to put herself in a situation where she opens back up to her ex, falls in love with the idea of him changing and then notices that he still doesn’t find her very attractive when they have sex.

She will want to be with a guy that honestly, sincerely finds her sexy and will always see her that way, rather than being with a guy who is secretly bored of having sex with her and just wants to stay with her for a while longer until he is ready to break up with her.

So, if she gets that sense about her ex, she will cut off all contact with him and try to move on.

Another possible reason why your ex has cut off all contact with you is…

5. She wants to see how you will react

For a woman to really want to get back with her ex man, she needs to feel that she is going to be gaining something (i.e. getting back with a man that she can now look up to, respect, feel proud of and love) rather than losing something or doing her ex a favor.

So, to test her ex man, a woman will sometimes cut off all contact with him and wait to see what he will do.

For example:

Will he give up and walk away?

Will he lose confidence in himself and in his attractiveness to her?

Will he become obsessive and start stalking her?

Will he have the confidence to persevere, contact her, reactivate her feelings and get her back?

Will he lose control of his emotions and begin pouring his heart out via texts, emails or online messages?

Will he get angry with her for cutting off contact?

Will he lose interest and just move on with a new woman?

Depending on how he reacts, she will either continue ignoring him and trying to move on, or she will open herself up to being guided back into a relationship with him.

So, if you want your ex back to be open to being guided back into a relationship with you, the most important thing for you to do is to contact her and make her feel a renewed sense of respect, attraction and love for you.

When she sees that you have the balls to go after her and the ability to make her have feelings for you again, she will begin to see you in a more positive light.

Her guard will come down and she will start to feel lucky to be getting back together with you.

Where Guys Go Wrong When an Ex Woman Cuts Off All Contact

Being cut off by the woman he loves can make a guy feel frustrated, hurt and dejected.

He may then get fall into a downward spiral of negative thoughts (e.g. “Why is she doing this to me? Did she ever love me? Does she care at all about what we had? Did it mean anything to her? Am I not good enough for her, or other women? Is this how my life is going to be?”), which can then cause him to behave in unattractive ways that turn his ex woman off even more.

For example: Some of the common mistakes guys make that turn an ex woman off even more are…

1. Asking her why she has cut off contact

Feeling desperate and not knowing what else to do, a guy might text or e-mail his ex to ask something like, “What did I do? Why are you ignoring me like this? I know that we’ve broken up, but I don’t deserve to be cut off like this. Doesn’t what we had together mean anything to you? How can you be so coldhearted? Why are you doing this? Please, just be reasonable. Let’s talk. You don’t need to cut me off like this.”

Even though he might believe that he has a right to ask for an explanation from her (after all, she was his girlfriend), a woman usually won’t agree and will end up feeling even more annoyed and turned off by him.

She might then think something like, “How dare he ask me why I’ve cut off all contact with him. Does he think that he owns me or something? Besides, after everything he put me through in the relationship, he should already know why I don’t want anything to do with him. It’s so just typical of him to act like a victim. He wants me to feel as though I’m the one being a bad person for not wanting to talk to him. Well, I’m not going to let him make me feel bad for putting myself and my needs first for a change. He had his chance with me and he blew it. I don’t owe him anything anymore!”

She then makes herself even more unavailable to her ex (e.g. blocks him, unfriends him, marks his email as spam) and focuses on finding herself a replacement guy as quickly as possible.

So, if you don’t want to push your ex even further away than she already is, don’t make the mistake of asking her why she has cut off contact with you.

Instead, use interactions that you have with her to make her smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you.

Bring her guard down and make her feel sparks of respect, attraction and love for you again.

When you do that, she won’t want to keep cutting you out of her life.

She will open back up to you and you can then confidently guide her back into a relationship.

Another mistake to avoid is…

2. Losing a lot of confidence in himself as he waits for weeks or months for her to eventually contact him

When a woman cuts off all contact, a guy will often lose confidence in himself and his attractiveness to her (and to other women in general).

He will then avoid contacting his ex because he doesn’t know how to re-attract her.

He will wait for weeks or even months for her to hopefully change her mind and open back up to him.

Yet, she doesn’t, so he waits even longer and loses even more confidence in himself.

He hopes that if he just waits long enough, she will miss him and want him back.

Yet, she doesn’t and he then starts to feel as though he has no chance with her anymore.

This is such a classic mistake that guys make after getting dumped.

So many guys don’t realize that when a woman has lost touch with her feelings of love, respect and attraction for a guy (and then dumped him), she usually won’t make an effort to contact him and get him back.

Instead, she will focus on forgetting about him and moving on.

So, if you want your ex back, you must believe in yourself and in your value to her enough to make the first move (i.e. call her on the phone, or meet up with her in person) and be ready to make her feel attracted in new and exciting ways as you talk to her.

When you do that, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again in a way that feels good to her.

As a result, you can get her back now or within the next few days to a week, rather than waiting around for many months or even years in the hope that she might reach out to you one day and want you back.

Another mistake to avoid is…

3. Feeling unwelcome to contact her and re-attract her

Sometimes a guy will assume that if his ex woman isn’t contacting him, then he can’t reach out to her and begin the ex back process.

He may think, “My ex cut off all contact with me. If that’s not a sign that she doesn’t want me in her life anymore, I don’t know what is. So, even though I want to call her, I can’t because she won’t want to hear from me. She’s made that perfectly clear by cutting off contact. It’s over and there’s nothing I can do about it.”

He then doesn’t do anything to get in touch with his ex and misses out on the opportunity to get her back.

Yet, here’s the thing…

If you don’t interact with your ex (over the phone and most importantly, in person), she probably won’t have any reason to keep you on her mind and in her heart.

Instead, she will focus on getting over you, moving on, hooking up with another guy (or guys) and falling in love again with someone else.

So, if you want to get your ex back, go ahead and contact her and then reawaken her feelings for you.

The more respect and sexual attraction she feels as you talk to her, the more she will feel drawn to the idea of giving you another chance.

On the other hand, if you feel unwelcome to contact her because she has cut off all contact, then you will probably waste a lot of time waiting around for her only to discover one day that she has moved on and is happy without you.

Another mistake to avoid is…

4. Waiting for positive signs from her before trying to get her back

Where some guys go wrong is that they wait way too long to get a clear sign from their ex that she wants to get back together again (e.g. a text saying that she misses him).

Yet, when a woman has cut off all contact with her ex, she usually won’t come running back and saying that she misses him.

That only happens if she is still in love with him, can’t find a suitable replacement guy or is too young or inexperienced to handle the pain of a break up.

In all other cases, a woman who cuts off contact simply moves on and does her best to completely forget about her ex.

So, while her ex is waiting around for weeks or months for a clear sign from her that she is interested in him pursuing her and getting her back, she has been moving on, having sex with new guys and getting used to life without him.

So, if you don’t want that to happen to you, here’s what you need to get clear on…

It doesn’t matter if your ex is giving you signs that she’s open to getting back together or not and it doesn’t even matter that she’s cut off all contact with you.

What matters is whether or not you have the courage to take the lead in the ex back process and do what needs to be done to get her back.

So, are you going to contact her, re-attract her, seduce her and get her back into a relationship, or are you going to wait until it’s too late?

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