Spoiling vs Nurturing

Mom Of 2.....+4 - posted on 04/02/2013
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Ever since my newborn has came home I don't believe she has cried for more than two minutes.....I am always coming to the rescue. She is almost four months now and I am the same way. It's like i can't stand to hear her cry. It's not because it irritates me or anything. It hurts my feelings. Everyone says I am spoiling her but I believe I nurturing her to know that she is not alone. I don't want my baby to feel abandoned, DAD feels its a problem. I just don't know what to do. ANY SUGGESTIONS

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Sarah - posted on 04/02/2013

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Sometimes it is good to not leap when they cry. Instead of leaping and going to pick her up try talking to her or singing to her. This lets her know you are there, but also allows her to figure out how to soothe herself. Sometimes you can actually hinder their growth and development by always jumping to every whimper or cry. It is good for her to learn how to soothe herself at times or even to entertain herself. She is young and can't entertain herself for very long, but she is old enough to be able to sit in the swing or bouncy and have you talk to her without having to pick her up. Around four months they are starting to work on rolling. Sometimes babies will cry because they don't like to be on the floor or on their tummies, but sometimes that crying helps them. They don't like it so they are determined to figure out how to roll over. The same is for crawling. Putting toys just outside their reach can make them mad, but it can also give them will to figure out how to crawl.

The crying will only get worse as she grows.....they figure out fast how to get what they want and at 2 yrs old that is not always a fun way to live....well at least for you as the parent.

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Mom Of 2.....+4 - posted on 04/02/2013

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Thanks for the advice it really makes sense. I have tried to calm her down. i think it has a lot to do with dad also. While the crying hurts my feelings it irritates him (DAD), which I am given the look like its my fault she is a baby. I understand that babies cry when they need something. I need to get my other half understanding that.....but that is a whole other conversation......I will definitely bring up your points in the next discussion.