Help for men who are abused

We recognise that men can also be victims of domestic abuse – both in heterosexual and gay relationships. We believe that everyone has the right to live in safety, free from fear – regardless of their gender. All support agencies in Fife, with the exception of Women’s Aid, support women and men. Asking for help as an abused man can be hard. You may feel no-one can help or that no-one will take you seriously. You may feel ashamed about what is happening or feel as if you deserve it. You may be worried that others will think you are weak or less of a man for ‘allowing’ yourself to be abused. No-one deserves to be abused by the person they love. Remembering this will help:

You are not alone – many men experience abuse

The abuse isn’t your fault

There are professionals and organisations that can help you

You can’t change your partner’s behavior

Domestic abuse is against the law

What are my rights?

You have the same rights as an abused woman. The police will take you seriously and arrest your abuser if there is evidence of assault. He or she can be prosecuted. Other statutory services also provide support regardless of gender. Accepting that you are being abused is an important step. The next step is to speak to someone, whether that is an appropriate organisation or someone you trust.