Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011...12:42 pm

Safe Place to Vent about Long Island Wedding Plans VENTS & RANTS

Yesterday I read a comment on another Long Island wedding site from a bride who was feeling really sad and lonely. She said she and her fiance didn’t have many local friends (they had moved here a few years ago) and she feels disconnected as she’s making her wedding plans. It’s all basically on her and her fiance. It really saddened me. No one should feel isolated, especially during what should be a really exciting time of your life.

So I’m offering here a safe place to vent. Let’s talk about what’s going on in your lives as you embark on an entirely new direction — becoming someone’s wife. Are you upset by a particular wedding vendor or by someone in your family who is giving you a hard time? You can talk about it here, and you can do it anonymously. So let’s chat…

I am so glad I found you! I have been arguing with my sister who I really love. If the attention isnt on her then she is not happy. I try to make her feel important- but we always end up in a disagreement. It is so hard to plan a wedding and make everyone happy at the same time
Any advice?

I totally hear you, Susan! And it sucks when we have conflict with people we love, especially when planning a wedding, which is so stressful already. Who needs more stress on top of it? The best advice I can give you is to let it go, whatever it is you’re fighting about. Not easy — I know! I have sisters too. And it’s hard not to engage in battle when we know we are right. But somewhere I read something really wise: What’s more important to you, to be right, or to be at peace? Lastly, I’ll say this: the wedding is for you and your guy. Don’t try to make everyone else happy because that’s almost impossible. So listen to opinions and ideas, but ultimately, do what is best for the two of you. Eventually, everyone will come around…

I can’t believe this. After a long search for bridesmaid dresses, I finally found something I love – and thought everyone else did too. My sister-in-law has now told me that she doesn’t like the dress! Everyone else loves it. She feels it is unflattering to her body type (I think she looks fine). Everyone else has agreed to go ahead with it. I think I’m going to have to say either wear it or you can’t be in my bridal party!! So annoying!!!!!!