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Huma Abedin's Decision to Stand by Her Sexting Sleazeball of a Husband Is Bad for All Women (VIDEO)

Anthony Weiner could have had it all if only he could manage to keep his sexting habits (and his penis photos) to himself. Yesterday, it came out that Weiner, who is currently the front runner in the race for Mayor of New York,
actually was still sexting last summer -- over a year AFTER the sexting
scandal that forced him to leave congress. What the hell is wrong with
this man?

A better question: What the hell is wrong with his wife? The press
conference yesterday was miserable and uncomfortable with beautiful Huma
Abedin looking humiliated, sad, and like she wanted to shrink back
behind one of the cubicles and hide her face. But she didn't. Instead,
she channeled Tammy Wynette and stood by her man.

Why? Why do all these political wives do this? I am sure Abedin -- a
super star in her own right -- has her reasons. But I can't fathom what
they might be. See below:

Abedin said:

Our marriage, like many others has had its ups and its downs. It took
a lot of work and whole lot of therapy to get to a place where I could
forgive Anthony. It was not an easy choice in any way, but I made the
decision that it was worth staying in this marriage. That was a decision
I made for me, for our son, and for our family. [This is] between us
and our marriage...we discussed all this before Anthony decided he would
run for mayor. I love him, I have forgiven him, I believe in him and,
as we have said since the beginning, we are moving forward.

The two share an 18-month-old son, which may be part of why she is
sticking around. But the more cynical side of me wonders if this is just
a political move. Abedin probably expected her congressman husband to
do great things when she married him in July of 2010. Instead, all he
has done (pretty much) is humiliate her. How can a marriage go through
ups and downs when it has pretty much been in turmoil 2/3 of the time?

They were practically newlyweds when this story broke. It's just
sexist. Plain and simple. Watching Hilary Clinton do this same thing all
those years ago was sickening. Now Abedin is copying her boss. Of
course, it is not just them. Many political wives choose to stick it out
despite massive shame and public embarrassment. A few leave. But
Abedin's decision to stay is anything but "personal."

They are that power-hungry that she stands there and she accepts the
absolute disgracefulness of serial cheating from her husband. Huma comes
from the Clinton school of forgiveness — power is more important than
dignity.

But is it? What message does that send to our girls? Abedin stands to lose her power (after all, when even the New York Times is telling you to quit, the fight is over) AND her dignity.

Sorry, Abedin, but that is not personal. If you choose to stand by
your man privately, by all means shrink away from the public eye and do
so. But this decision is very public and thus allowed public scrutiny
and I am angry that it sends a horrible message to daughters everywhere.
It's fine if your husband treats you horribly and humiliates you so
long as he is on his way to power.

I think these situations are bad "role models" for women because of that "stand by your man" thing -- I can understand how the message is, "Take abuse. Take public humiliation. Tolerate all this shit just for the 'love' of a man."

In reality, I thought before reading Weiss's words above that many of these "stand by your man" women are totally about the power themselves. They know that standing by their men will get them the status and ass-kissing and power THEY themselves want.

Imagine if the roles were reversed. Imagine if Huma has been texting photos of her private parts to strange young men all over the country. Can you imagine her husband standing there publicly supporting her? HELL NO.

I would agree that it is between her and him if they were, for example, my neighbors. But when I turned on my television and there they were at a press conference talking about it, it became about much more than her and him. I didn't ask to hear about this. But, well, now that I have . . .

I also think it's normal for people to look at public figures sometimes as role models. I really admired this woman -- she has a great career, is obviously very intelligent. I think we all know she deserves better, even if we don't want to say it publicly.

Quoting sweet-a-kins:

He didn't have sex with anyone else (Newt, Mark S. )

He was being a creeper for sure, and it's not just political wives that would stand by their husbands....many forgive cheating, flirting and sexual internet exchanges.

Why are we harassing or judging her for her choice?

Carlos Danger f*cked up multiple times....and that is between HER and HIM...

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