Power is often associated with someone who is strong either structurally or mentally. We all want to have it as we feel that it is essential to living a fulfilling life. We want it in our personal as well as professional lives as we feel that power itself will bring us strength, happiness and make our lives fulfilling and rewarding. Power only comes to them who are fearless and have the capability to embrace it completely instead of suppressing it or distorting it. We all want power because we all want to be strong and in absence of power, we feel that we will look weak and thus become an easy prey to others. Power is associated with winning. If one loses and the other wins then that means the winner has more power and he gets to decide and the loser has to be submissive and follow the commands. Less power means less reputation and the person is referred as weak and naive. Power is victory and the one who is more victorious is referred as more powerful, others fear of him and do not want to attack him as they know they will not be able to defeat a powerful person.

Importance of power

Power is essential to bring changes. In absence of power, changes can be made but however, lots of struggle and lots of efforts will be required to bring even a minimal change. If power is in hands then it becomes easy to make, mend, break the rules and bring the changes.

Power provides protection. We can safeguard ourselves, our belongings and everyone for whom we really care for. We can create healthy boundaries. Thereby by using the power, we can easily protect ourselves from getting hurt and avoid chances of damage.

If power is in our hands then it becomes quite easy to help others in their pursuit. Their amazing pursuit might bring some amazing positive outcomes and we will be a part of it. A powerless helping hand does not make such a big impact the way powerful helping hand can do.

Power is essential to serve others. We always dream of serving our society, community or our country but since we are not blessed with enough powers, we often are not able to make desirable changes and create a powerful impact and serve others the way we wanted to serve. Power helps us to do serve everyone in a necessary manner.

Power instills lots of confidence. We are able to stand high, speak up what we feel, question if we are in doubt, we can ask for more if we feel we deserve more, we can seek more if we want more etc. Power helps us to speak for ourselves as well as for others and since it is in our hands, our voice gets heard and our demands get met.

Power helps us to build mass power. It helps us to gather people and togetherness as we all know will always lead to some remarkable achievements. We can gather more support and build relationships which nourish us and make us strong in our journey. If we want to nurture from others then we need to build up power and thereby it will enable the formation of strong bonds.

Power reduces the struggle. A powerless person may regret at the end regarding his unfinished business. Though he had the ability and capacity but lack of resources, lack masses support and lack of opportunities did not let him fulfill his dreams. However, power enables all sorts of support and the only thing which we need is the real ability and if we have that then we can fulfill all our dreams without much struggle.

Power helps us to think big. We can feel empathy and compassion for others, the way we used to feel for ourselves. These feelings no longer remain restricted to us. We can reach out to millions, feel for them, and help them in every way. We no longer remain restricted to fulfilling our own dreams but make sure that we fulfill each and every dream of those eyes which are willfully dreaming but no longer have the capacity to turn them into reality.

Power helps to eliminate enemies. When a person is powerful then everyone wants to be his friends. The number of allies increases. A powerful person can easily eliminate his enemies and still retain his number one spot.

Power earns influence and respect. Our path becomes easy and so is achieving any position when we are backed up with lots of influences. When we own power, our words get respected and so do our opinions and thereby we earn followers as well. The more the followers we earn, the more powerful leader we become.

Disadvantages of power

Today we consider power as a currency which very well helps us to successfully live in this world. However, it pops up the ego in an individual. Same way, we feel about money. This is why we feel that those who have more money are more powerful. We very well relate money to power and sometimes use the two in place of one another. When people start respecting us just because we are powerful, when we start earning lots of influences, lots of followers etc then everything gets to our head. This boosts our ego and pride and this is how power corrupts. It's like an antidote to all sorts of insecurity, fear, and pain. People have a misconception that having more power means getting better day by day. Earning more money, reaching higher post in career, having more followers etc are all associated with power and this is why an individual tries to achieve all these throughout his life so that he can become a better version of who he is right now. We like controlling and thus we feel that having more power gives us the liberty to control things.

Charm of power

Power if wielded correctly can influence millions; bring peace in the society and country by completely stopping the war. It can influence millions and change the outlook completely. It is a very powerful weapon which can either bring war or peace and it is up to that individual or organization, what they use it for. Power should be allowed to exist. Only then it can exist. Until and unless all the other followers of the dictator have given up their powers, a dictator cannot emerge. Dictator thus becomes powerful when nobody stands in front of him. This is why power is considered to be a part of a relationship. Power can bring change, exerts effects and influences others. Power is addictive. The more we earn, the eagerness develops within us to earn some more of it. It does not bring contentment. It brings curiosity and addiction.

Conclusion

Power is a charming weapon. We all need it because it helps us to become powerful. We can influence people, bring changes in the outer world, earn lots of followers, enable our dreams to come true, enable others dreams to come true too etc. It decreases the efforts which we need to put in to accomplish anything i.e., it reduces the overall struggle. Power provides us protection. As long as it is used for constructive purposes, it can bring positive changes. As soon as it is used to bring destruction, it can even initiate a war. It is up to us whether we need to use it to stop a war or initiate it. It eliminates enemies and helps us think positive and big. The more powerful we are, the more easily we will be able to control things. These are the numerous reasons which make us long for more power in our lives.

On an everyday basis, we have to spare certain time for ourselves in which we can rest and relax our mind as well as body. This is the time when we leave all our activities behind i.e., completely withdraw ourselves from getting involved in them and try to concentrate only on our inner self. Once we introduce us to our inner self, everything becomes easy. The self-introduction will then make a path which when followed leads us to the Supreme Soul. An easy way to reach Him is through prayers. Each and every religion teaches the importance of prayers or meditation that needs to be done for certain duration throughout the day. This is not just a practice one has to perform out of respect instead one needs to make oneself aware of the real deep meaning that is hidden beneath prayers or meditation.

Concentration should be towards inside

Throughout our lives, we keep flourishing outwardly. Our numerous achievements and accomplishments keep promoting our outer world. However, due to our complete negligence towards inside, we will face hollowness and thus contentment is not complete. We have seen millionaires coming to places of worship and asking for contentment and peace. They often are heard of saying that something is been missing in their lives and ask God to take away their misery. Now if we think that money and materialistic comforts can provide us happiness then how come they are miserable. This is because their inner self is not contented and happy. No matter how much we achieve and flourish in outside world, if our inner world is not flourished then we will never remain happy.

Nourish inner world

We easily escape ourselves by saying that we do not have time for prayers, for worship and for meditation. We blame our busy lives, tight working schedules, rat race etc. Days keep on passing. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months and months easily into years. Years keeping passing and we accomplish too much on our part but we do not stop even for a second and take care of that turbulence that is been going on inside us since a long period of time. The less time we spare for ourselves and leave our inner self-unheard, more damage it does to us. Every day our inner questions are left unheard and unsolved. This all leads to misery. The inner world is very very important and vital factor of our life which we cannot neglect. We have to nourish it if we want happiness in life.

Significance of meditation

Meditation leads to awakening. It increases concentration which is essential for us as it helps us to save ourselves. Prayers or meditation help us gain confidence in goodness. They educate us and help us discriminate between right and wrong energy and the right and wrong attitude. This power of discrimination is already present within us but since we do not use it for a long period of time, we feel we have lost it. Not only this, it brings back all the powers which are hidden from us and present in embedded space. One gets awakened to their spirit. Meditation comes as a true savior which teaches us the possibility and opens up scope for achieving not just time being superficial happiness but in fact highest happiness.

Meaning of meditation

Meditation increases concentrating the power of a soul and thus we will be able to achieve lots of things in small duration. The difficulty will be easily taken care of and exertion which we need to face will be of very small or even negligible amount. Spirituality grows with high meditative power. Meditation does not mean sitting in a place for a certain duration with eyes closed whereas mind lingers in worldly things. It means total concentration. Does not matter whether eyes are closed or not, does not matter whether a person is sitting, standing or lying down, all matters is his focus is shifted from outside to inside. This is what meditation is all about. Once consciousness shifts from outside to inside, one gets introduced to one's soul.

Mediation means an increase in concentration

Meditation always enhances power. It spreads light and takes away the darkness. This will nourish our inner self. Concentration on physical aspect will bless us with good health which means we will be free from all sorts of diseases. Concentration in mind increases its sharpness. It blesses us with mental health and good memory power. Concentration on outer world whether it is in business or job will yield achievements in these fields. Concentration on relationships will make them healthy and pure. Concentration on studies will make us intellectual. Similarly, concentration on the spiritual world will lead us to the path of enlightenment.

Prayer is a type of meditation

Prayers are nothing but a kind of meditation where we connect ourselves with Supreme Soul. Prayers, concentration, meditation are all same where a person becomes aware of himself, awakens completely and is directed towards spiritual regeneration. Supreme Soul is an ocean of love, life, and positive energy. Connection with Him itself is our highest purpose and this is what is been taught in each and every prayer no matter to what religion it belongs. Also, the main motive of meditation and prayers is to help us rise from being superficial and shallow to Higher Supreme Source. It helps us get rid of all our imperfections in life. Infinite energy replaces our shallowness and limitations that we have been storing in our body and mind since ages.

Conclusion

Meditation as it draws attention towards inside, insecurity and fear vanish completely. Now work too seems like a worship as one does not care about the results they are going to yield as the outcome of their deeds. Their work seems like a recreation to them. Meditation blesses us in all the aspects. Good health, intellectual power, the awakening of the soul, good relationships with other souls and most important spiritual illumination and salvation from worldly matters are all gifted to us if we take our prayers seriously or else concentrate on our meditation period seriously.

Indian philosophy advocates the presence of two elements in our universe. One is Akasha and the other one is Prana. Akasha is so small that it is almost impossible to sense it. It is believed to be a noticeable feature existing since very early time. It is believed to occur in five basic elements which are earth, water, fire, air, and ether. Our body is known to be made of these five elements. Prana is known as a force which is inevitably essential for the existence of life and without which life would not exist. It is the one which is responsible for holding five elements together. Prana very well known as a vital force of the universe is superior to everything as it fills life in the body. It is the one who enables the mind to think and sense organs to perform their functions. We need to understand how important Prana is to us. We have to learn everything about it, its nature, its working, its purpose and the way by which it can be controlled.

The internal source of energy

Since Prana is not visible to the eyes and since its existence is difficult to prove, most of us do not believe in it. Eyes believe what it sees and everyone today needs proof to believe. Others who believe in its existence are not aware of how to use it. We though are in our conscious state but still live very unconsciously. We do not know what all elements are running and where and what all are regulating us and thus we keep on doing things and performing duties just the way we have performed till now. We feel it is our habit whereas we do not realize that it is not automated and can be changed or regulated. We have enormous number and amount of forces within us. We use them and we utilize energies without even knowing what we are doing with them and what they are meant to be done with. Like every other energy source present outside, we too have the energy source inside present inside us. The way we try to conserve energy outside so that we can use it in future and prevent wastage and exhaustion, we need to realize that we should conserve our inner energy too to avoid exhaustion.

Purpose of Prana

Prana or vital force if used to its best can not only bless us with good health but also enhance our intellect. The goodness of health and mind, as well as our well-being, are just a few changes which we see within us but ultimately it leads us to become illumined. It helps us to progress in the field of spirituality. It helps us rise above our lower cruel attitude and gain oneness with higher good self. Later, it helps us to realize our real identity as a soul. Once we know who we are, we will start seeing other people from a different perspective. We will start seeing them as pure souls and will not concentrate on their evilness. Finally, it will lead us to the path of salvation where we will unite our soul with Supreme Soul. This is the highest state in one's life and a person is known to be completely illumined in this state. One who achieves this state, no other achievements matter in his life. He becomes a superior conqueror, undefeated king and carries his glory and undefeated kingdom with him wherever he goes.

Ability to control Prana

Until and unless we use Prana to illumine ourselves completely, we will never reach our highest state. We find contentment and happiness in small materialistic comforts and achievements. We become satisfied for some duration when we reach our goals and then set new goals for future. We spend our whole life in doing this. We feel that setting goals and then reaching them is all a life is about and rarely concentrate on the purpose of our life. Once we unite our vital forces and learn to control them, we will introduce ourselves with real we. We need to learn to command Prana to the best of our ability. Forces, when not regulated, lose their importance. Once they are gathered up, stored, focused, completely concentrated and when fully controlled become meaningful. To do this, we need right knowledge about Prana and the willpower to utilize it to our best so that we can discover our wisdom and way of liberating ourselves from all those things which bound us. At present we are not in conscious state and ignorant. Prana will help us to come in an over-conscious state and open up all the possibilities which now cannot be seen by us because of our unconscious state as well as because of the ability to see things narrowly. We need to be able to see things in their finest print and this is only possible when we gain enough knowledge.

Moderation is a key factor

Moderation is a key which we have to use if we need to conserve our vital forces. If we feel that we can save our energy by doing nothing, then it is not true. It will fade away if left unused. If we use it excessively then within no time it will get exhausted, leaving us tired. Thus, we have to learn to balance out our usages. We need to make a right use of it. We need to prevent its excessive spillage. We have to cover up all those holes which are causing leakages so that we do not promote its wastage. We have to channelize its flow in the right amount and right direction and not just allow it to flow the way it wants. This kind of control over it will not only master us over it but give us supreme power and control to make use of it for our own benefit. We have to find a balance in our work. Overworking causes breakdown and doing no work fades away available energy.

Significance of Prana

Prana is essential for our existence. Without it, our existence is not possible. Our work, our activities, our thoughts, our performance all require Prana. It presents itself in every plane of our lives. One who is already untied by his higher self will make use of it for the achievement of higher purpose. But most of us are at our lower self, as we keep rising from it, our power too will keep increasing gradually and definitely. Prana is one energy. But it manifests itself in different planes and thus it appears different at each plane. When we do things in moderation on bodily levels, we will be blessed by good health. When we start using our thoughts and mind power in a controlled way then we show a balance on moderation. Prana so manifested in that plane will lead us to the path of soul consciousness and divinity. It will help us in illumination. It is same energy and same force which is essential and inevitable for the existence of life.

Conclusion

Moderation is essential in all walks of lives. Right balance should be practiced in all activities. We are the powerhouse. The power lies within us. All we need to do is concentrate our forces in the right direction. Prana will help us to hear the eternal sound and fills in our knowledge which satisfies our souls and also we will be able to hear sound from outside world and gain knowledge present over there. In this way, we along with reaching our goals can also attain the highest purpose in our lives and this is all possible because of moderation. We will be blessed with divinity and divine sight. Now unlike our past, we will neither live for ourselves and get exhausted for seeking happiness without proper understanding nor we will be going another way round of torturing ourselves. All we have to do is unite all the energy we have i.e., gather together all the forces of ours. This increases strength and power. This is because all forces being gathered together leads to concentration. The increase of concentration means an increase of power. More the power, more resistance can be offered. It is easy to break a stick into two. However, when a number of sticks together are tied into one bundle, their breakage seems a very difficult task to accomplish. Such is the power of being united. If mind thinks something and body do something else or else if sense organs interfere and try to master the whole scenario, then things do not work out the way we want them to be. Thus, all our forces should be gathered and should be united into one. This is possible through the power of meditation. Once done, resistance becomes easy. We will be then able to face no matter what arrives in front of us.

For us as human beings, our relationships with others matter a lot. Right from an early age, we are bound by so many relations. Right after birth, we become someone's kids, someone's grandkids etc. We acquire some relations right from our birth and some of them we acquire later in our lives. We get to choose our friends, life partners, teachers etc. If the relationship is good between two individual's then it is as good as friends forever. If it does not work at all then enmity develops. Till our last breath, we are always bound by relations. However, we forget the most important relationship of our life. We forget that we have a relationship with ourselves and thus we can either be our friends or turn out to be an enemy. An individual who conquers himself, who has risen above everything to the highest level of his consciousness is his friend. An ignorant individual who is simply unaware or does not believe in this concept and has not made a conquest of himself becomes his own enemy.

Self-mastery

A person who has mastered himself will always remain detached during times of tragedy whereas the other person who is not detached but has knowledge about everything, has possessed almost everything may lose control. He loses it because he did not have it. Master of self-has control over oneself and thus never loses self. It is the wisdom that will help self-master to remain happy whether he is in a state of slavery or freedom. If we want to enjoy almost all the blessings that our life promises to us, we have to raise ourselves from everything. Self-realization is when absent, failure strikes its effects very easily. Shortcomings blow away our blessings. Obstacles seem like the one which can never be crossed. One who has mastered himself knows his inner strength and will be able to cross all the hurdles. The person who is not aware of inherent strength will never trust nature and thus gives up easily by saying that he is not suitable or well equipped. He has judged everything from the surface and not dig anything inside. He has tons of possibilities but never digs upon them and loses hope.

We can be friends as well as foes

Welfare is hidden only when one learns to control oneself. We have two kinds of nature. On one hand, we can be very weak, unstable, always at fault, hopeless etc. On the other hand, we can be conqueror, victorious, majestic, invincible, glorious, successful etc. When we have a clear picture of ourselves, we are with our higher self. When we do not achieve higher self, we involve in self-depreciation. We criticize ourselves, let ourselves down and this is because we do not trust ourselves and have got no faith in ourselves. The mind has to be clear. Distortion of any sort in it makes us our own enemy. Any work regardless of whether it is simple and easy or whether it is very difficult and time-consuming if started with full confidence, courage, right attitude with almost no fear will be completed efficiently. If the same work is started with unwillingness, doubt, fear, depression, no sort of faith or trust, no matter how hard one works on it, it will be a complete failure. This itself proves that we ourselves our own friends as well as foes. If we want then we can rise above all the difficulties and make impossible things to become possible and if we want then can even turn out an easy task in almost a disaster.

Self-realization

We are responsible for indulging ourselves in depression and unhappiness and also throw this burden on others by blaming them. If we do not wish to come out of this vicious cycle of being unhappy, no matter what efforts are made, we will always be unhappy because we tend to love our sphere and will become fond of it. It is in our hands whether we want to escape and rise ourselves. We and only we have the power to rescue ourselves. Without the will and firm determination, this thing is not possible. Self-awakening is very essential. Awakening is actually an eye-opener. It helps one to raise oneself and never ever lower oneself. However, this sort of self-realization is very essential. If a person realizes it and is in the path of progress then soon his welfare is surely guaranteed in mere future. Thus, one has to master oneself.

Get rid of ignorance

Well begun is half done. If we begin work with dejected mind then we head towards failure and act like our own enemy. One can just stop for a moment and check to understand how much evil impulse they are carrying in their heart. When anger, lust, pain, hate, greed etc conquer us along with other intense emotions, we become our enemy. These evil characters destroy our soul. It is left to us whether we want to master them or let them overpower us. Anger is such an evil character that can destroy everything we have which required so long to build up. It not only causes harm to our relationships with other souls. First and the foremost person it affects is we ourselves. Whatever we give, we get it first. It is we who are creating anger and thus we will be the first ones to face its ill-effects. Similarly, whether it's lust, greed, hate or any other evil character, we will be the first ones to go through the adverse effects which they are imparting. They destroy finer part of our self. Ignorance is the main cause. Knowledge and wisdom rise a person above his lower self and that person will become his own friend and the person who does not conquer his self but allows his lower self to possess himself will become his own enemy.

Become a friend of oneself

We all like our friends and always want to spend time with them. They always help us in various ways and always think good about us and thus we are fond of them. On the other hand, our enemies not only do bad things to us, in fact, also create bad thoughts about us and thus we always want to be away from them. We can very well choose with whom we want to spend our time and with whom we do not want to. The choice is completely ours. But how can we run away from ourselves? When we become our friend, welfare is definite but what if we serve as an enemy for ourselves. In such case, how can we get rid of u?. In fact, we cannot. We can get rid of others but we cannot get rid of ourselves. Whether we are trying to be our friend or acting as an enemy, we have to live with ourselves. We do not have a choice of running away from ourselves, but we do have a choice whether we want to be our friend or enemy. The way we avoid the company of other enemies and try to keep us away from them so that they do not harm us, in the same way, we should try to become our friend and not enemy. If we become our own enemy, we will suffer badly. If we need success and if we need to empower ourselves then we need to raise ourselves high from all the odds that we have, control all our senses as well as our lower self. Once we become our friend, we will be able to fight with all the odds and will become serene in both happiness and pain, heat and cold. We will always remain aware as we have reached complete awakening within ourselves which will give realization and that will be constant. This realization will teach that we are supreme self and not someone who is of low nature to whom pain, greed, sufferings, demoralization etc can affect. We are the royal kings and no matter what circumstances arrive, we will be always royal and thus we need to behave accordingly.

Gain knowledge and wisdom

We cannot expect our journey to run smooth and hurdle free. There will be hiccups, there will be obstacles. Fun is to cross all these odds and remain victorious. Lots of discipline is essential. Whatever knowledge we gain, we need to bring it to reality. Just learning it and keeping it stored somewhere in mind is of no use. We need to use this knowledge in practical life and gain actual experience. We should absorb it and use it in our day to day lives. Knowledge can be gained by anyone but wisdom comes only to a few great men. When this knowledge is brought into action, wisdom develops. Mind dwells but we have to control it, possess it completely. Once our mind is under our control, everything comes under control. It is a powerhouse of everything we do. It creates thoughts. Once we control our minds, our thought process comes in control. We can conquest our sense organs and master them instead of allowing them to rule over us. We become our masters and thus this helps us through all the odds. Such kind of person who masters himself can lead oneself and become a friend of oneself and the one who allows his mind, sense organs to overpower upon himself becomes a slave and is no less than an enemy to oneself.

Do not live in an illusion

Most of us today live in an illusion. We do not know what the art of living is. We feel that anger which we exhibit is actually a display of our strength and it shows how powerful we are. We feel that it is a must if we want our work to get done. We feel proud of ourselves when we control others and scare them. We have developed the same feelings towards excitement. Whenever a situation arrives, we believe it is normal to show emotions in the form of tears, pain, love, anger etc. One who does not show emotion is believed to be made of stone and considered heartless. We do not understand how much of fluctuations we are going through in a day and in our life when we react so vigorously to every situation. These are actually not the signs of strength but rather display weaknesses. The weak soul is one who cannot stand erect through all the odds and fluctuates through everything that comes in his life. The powerful soul is one to whom turbulence can never affect. To become powerful, wisdom is essential and only such souls can become one's friends.

Keep clarity

We are what we think about ourselves. We are the results of what actually we are in our consciousness. Same things manifest in our body as well as in our mind. Thus, our conscience should be clear. If it is filled with fear and doubts then we will be living in an illusion and confusion. If conscious is clear and fearless then we will be strong and powerful. Realization is essential. We gain self-realization by gaining knowledge. We have to connect with ourselves and once we do that then there is no looking back. Same consciousness has the ability to store good things. We need to be aware of what is been stored in our consciousness. The choice is really ours about what we really need to keep and store in our minds and what not. An enemy will always desire to continue his enmity, just the way it is running. If we want, we can continue to remain our enemy by letting harsh and hatred feelings to remain in our consciousness or else wipe them out as soon as possible so that we can become our friends. We are unaware of our capacity and strength. Once we realize how powerful we are, we will be able to use infinite capacity hidden within us.

Conclusion

Relationships are essential. They unite us with others. A special bond develops between us and others. This unity teaches togetherness and spreads love in mankind. However, if a person who has not established a friendly relationship with himself, how can he do it with others. A special bond with parents, teachers, friends, relatives, society etc is all essential. We all look after each other, care for each other and spread the love. But a friend within us will be able to do greater good than anyone from outside. In the same way, the opposite is also true. Enemy hidden inside us will be able to do greater destruction than anyone from outside. We can either make ourselves or mar ourselves. The relationship that we have with ourselves is very unique and it is the purest and most essential when compared with other relationships. Options are always in our hands. We need to decide whether we want to be our friend or serve as an enemy. Whatever we choose, we will be writing our destiny and it will be we who will create our personality depending on our choices.

Since we all are different from one another, we all have different viewpoints and different belief systems. Our perception towards life too is very different. What seems real to us may appear to be fake to others and what seems unreal to us may look very genuine to others. Situations and circumstances appear to be same but the perception is the one which creates the whole different scenarios. We shape our feelings based on our perceptions. We think differently from one another and thus the way we think, we believe, we feel will all lead us to create and shape a different world around us.

Self-awareness is essential

We need to learn so much about life. A person may have lived his whole life and in his last few days when he looks back, he will realize that whatever he learned in his journey was just a part of what all is present in this world. When we just stop and look back, we will soon realize that we have done tons of wrong to others in terms of our deeds or behaviors and have reacted so badly in so many situations where we could have done so much better. Sometimes in our lives, we do very well and other times, we just do not fare well. Looking back will teach us so much in life. We can learn so much from our past, provided that we do not create a guilt or regret sort of feeling. This is what is known as self-awareness. In absence of it, we will not be able to find a bigger picture of life.

Practice detachment

If we need to uncover our life then we should never shut down ourselves. Shutting down means the end. The doors are closed and we have enclosed ourselves in walls where we cannot learn anything and cannot uncover anything. This is more like disengaging oneself. Detachment is good, but detachment does not mean not participating. When we participate, we get to learn so much but detachment means we remain uninfluenced by right and wrongs, by goods and bads. No matter whether we win the contest or lose it, we just enjoy participating in it and this is what detachment is all about. If we do not participate then how are we going to learn so many new and wonderful things life has stored in its lap for us. We should neither try to avoid a circumstance or people around us nor should we try to escape from them. Escaping or sunning from a situation or from people never allow us to evolve. We are never going to learn anything from it. We have to face the situations which may be favorable or unfavorable. We have to deal with people whether we like them or hate them. This will help us to come out of our comfort zone. There is no point in just relaxing all the time in a comfort zone. Circumstances cannot be every time just the way we want them to be and thus we have to deal with them, no matter of what type they are. Everyone around us all the time cannot behave the way we want them to and therefore we just need to get out there and learn to deal with them.

Heroic act reveal the bigger picture of life

It is obvious that we will be very well able to deal with our favorable situations and people whom we like in a very nice manner. There is no doubt about it. But what about another side of the coin. Two faces complete a coin. Both sides are needed or else coin will be considered as of no intrinsic value. Thus, we need to add some intrinsic value to our lives too in order to experience real life. We need to come out of our shelves in a bold manner and with a strong attitude. We have to not disengage but engage in the world and worldly matters. It can bring sadness, misery, troubles but it is also true, it will discover our unrevealed self. To become who we are in a real sense, we need to do this heroic act. Little efforts made are never going to go in vain but they will reward us by letting us see the bigger picture of our life.

Maintain balance in life

Another important aspect is to not hold the space. We have to be present and do everything that we need to do but by remaining balanced. We will see and hear everything but this is just a role we are meant to play. People will appreciate us and some of them will criticize us. Sometimes painful moments will arrive in front of us and other times good moments will lure us. After all, this is what life is all about. We have to stand firmly and witness everything because we are meant to do so by preventing ourselves from getting imbalanced. We cannot take anything personally because this is what we are supposed to do. All we have to do is stand and watch. Observing everything carefully should be our task.

Do not get entangled

Everything occurring around us is not about us and thus we should not take anything personally. We all are at different emotional levels and psychological levels and thus our perceptions are different and thus we all act differently. Every one reacts. Reactions sometimes may free us or our stress. Whatever may be the reason, our reactions are our creativity and we do it for ourselves. If someone shows anger does not mean that it is focused on us. It just means that they need to release it because that is what need of the hour is for them. Let them react and behave the way they want to. We cannot keep entangling ourselves with everyone because then hardly anytime will be left for us where we can understand our story of life. All we can do for them is to accept them for who they are and show them our unconditional love.

Everything is a destiny

Our life should be a balancing act. We cannot engage too much nor can we shut down completely. Creating a balance in everything is very essential. We have to bring love, peace, harmony in ourselves. This will evolve us. We need to relate ourselves and find a deeper meaning for all those events which have either arrived or are occurring in our lives. None of the events occur without any reason. Participating in each of them will help us to evolve as a human being. These events cannot be avoided no matter what efforts we put in. This itself is destiny and since our destiny has decided that we need to encounter with so and so event and meet so and so person then we just have to be ready for everything. Since we are destined, let us participate consciously and stop complaining about everything. We need to inculcate peace, love, and harmony in our personality which are nothing but inner qualities of our soul and then align our personality with soul.

Everything is not about us

We cannot become overpowering always. There is no need for us to dominate the situation and decide for everyone around us. We have just created a fictional world around us and in that world, we feel all the people around us will behave in a certain manner and all the circumstances which are arriving will be in our favor. When this does not take place, it somewhere hits a nerve. We get upset about it. This all is our creation because this is how we see ourselves and the world around us. When something different occurs, it upsets us. We just have to let ourselves loose and we need not take everything personally. Everything is not supposed to be about us. We cannot let people or incidents have an impact on us and especially a negative one. This will happen only if we stop dominating everything and change our defensive and critical qualities into loving and more accepting ones. Once quality changes, we will get through the incidents very quickly.

Just uncover life

Looking at the bigger picture of our life which is only possible if self-awareness is present will help us to become master of our soul i.e., master of our life. Master need not control anything and yet everything gets controlled. This is because he has controlled inner soul and the one who has conquered inner soul need not conquer the outer world. We need to prove our control or mastery. We will be then able to live our life to the fullest. Through our powerful vibrations, we will be able to radiate the same to others. This, in turn, will change lives of everyone who are seeking empowerment. Our every thought, each feeling we create, the way we behave, qualities which we develop etc will calibrate with understanding peace and there will be lots of clarity. No life can be defined as happier than this one where a person knows who he is and where the clarity is at the top spot.

Conclusion

When someone releases some sort of energy not liked by us then our belief gets challenged and we take it personally. Some sort of authoritative power comes inside us and we try to control others as well as the situation. Someone releasing their energy which may be in the form of anger, frustration, irritation etc has got nothing to do with us. This is just an illusion and thus we feel that it has something to do with us and thus we take it personally. This disbalances us. We get entangled in that situation and this is what disbalances us. We do not observe the whole scene as a viewer. Until and unless we do so, we will never realize that why the person is behaving in this manner. Keen observation will turn the whole negative experience into a positive one because we get to learn from it. This will help us to deal with these kinds of situations in coming future and this is because we start getting closer to our original self which is nothing but the original authentic self. The more and more we see clarity by uncovering life, the more and more big picture of life emerges in front of us.

We all are different from each other and thus have the different point of views. For some of us, the world seems to be a happy place whereas, for others, it is just a tiring, worn out place. Some of us want to hop on and enjoy the ride whereas others want to end their journey at the earliest. For some, it is a peaceful place whereas others cannot stand its hustle and bustle. Why there is so much of contrast when all of us are living in the same existing world? This is because we all see the world through different eyes. We are what we want to see. We are what our inner self-allows us to see. Just a thought is needed to change everything inside and when things change inside then within no time, the world seems to change too.

Changes should be internal

If we are peaceful from the inside, we feel everything at peace in the external world too and will never complain of all the hustle-bustle taking place in the outer world because we will never even notice it. We will only look for peace even in the outer world. if we ourselves are restless and not at peace then even the most peaceful place on earth cannot guarantee the same no matter how many efforts we put in to achieve it. if we are honest, everyone around us will seem honest to us, even if they are lying. If we are dishonest then everyone around us will seem to be lying even if they are telling the truth to us. Once we have lost the quality of trusting somebody then even the most loyal, trustworthy person will be seen with suspicion. Everything is inside. We keep blaming others for what they have done to the world. Pollution, population explosion, crimes, corruption etc seem to be ruining this world and yes they are, but we cannot blame anyone for all these. It is we who have brought this upon ourselves and it is we who can stop them. We want the world to be a peaceful place then we need to start the work from ourselves. First, we need to learn to live in peace. Until and unless we are at peace, we cannot ask others to do the same. Until and unless we are happy, we cannot expect the world to become a happy place. Charity begins at home and thus change has to be brought in ourselves.

Internal change brings happiness

What we usually feel is that if world changes, we will change. We blame others for our restlessness and increased stress and tension in our lives. We feel that if people around us change, we too will change. We complain that it is others who are not allowing us to live a peaceful, happy life. The whole turbulence in our life is because of others and thus throughout our lives, we wander in search of love, peace, and happiness. We search for these entities in the outer world whereas they are present within us. We are unaware of them that is what the real problem is. Comforts give us momentary satisfaction and we feel that this comfort itself is happiness. We do not know the real difference between comfortable life and happy life. Those who are less fortunate feel that they cannot be happy because they are deprived of money, love or health. However, they need to understand that money or no money, happiness is present within themselves and once they explore it, the world becomes a happy place.

Do the easy task

We cannot wait for the world to change. Just look at its vastness, look at the number of people in this world. It is even difficult to imagine to change each and every one of them. What would be easier? Whether we need to change these many numbers of people so that we can live happily or else we have to change ourselves so that our life becomes a bundle of joy is all up to us. Every day we will encounter so many people. Some will be familiar faces, others will be among the ones whom we will be encountering for the first time. We cannot expect each of them to behave or talk to us the way we want them to. Every time someone behaves differently than we expected, we cannot keep hurting ourselves. If this is the case then it will be a story of a lifetime because every day someone or the other will definitely hurt us and everyday circumstances will arrive which we had not usually expected. Now it is left to us whether we make ourselves so vulnerable that anyone and anything can make our lives miserable or change ourselves from inside which will make the whole world to change.

Why we do not change ourselves

We usually want others to change. We do not try to bring change in ourselves. There are two reasons behind this. One is that we feel that we are alright and there is nothing wrong with us. It is the people who have to change because the problem always is with others. The second reason is that change needs efforts. We want others to change because we just want them to make all the efforts. We do not want to put in any effort and thus we do not change ourselves. To change ourselves, we have to change our belief systems which are the root cause of what we think and how we think. When we replace old belief system with new one, we will start thinking in a completely different way. We will be able to explore peace, love, happiness within ourselves and thus will stop looking for them in the outer world. Once we are contented, we will stop asking for the same things from others and instead of asking, we will start sharing our valuables with them.

Everything is inside

Today since we are lacking inner peace, we will look for it in the outer world. We do not respect ourselves and thus crave for the same for others. We do not know how to appreciate ourselves and thus we seek appreciation and acknowledgment from others. We do not love ourselves and thus try to find loving relationships in the outer world. We have not explored happiness and since we are deprived of it, we try to find it from others. Once we know that these qualities are present in ourselves and all we have to do is that we need to start exploring them and use them to feel contentment. We will respect and appreciate ourselves. We will always be at peace. Happiness and love will be our jewels which we will carry wherever we go. When we are contented, we will stop searching them in the outside world. In fact, once these qualities get explored, we will discover that we have an enormous amount of reserves of these qualities within us and thus we will start sharing them with others. More we share, more these qualities grow and become strong in us.

Conclusion

When we change, definitely the world changes. If we have to bring change in the world then we need to bring change in ourselves. Just a thought can change anything. Our dream world is just a thought away. If we want to enjoy living in a peaceful, happy world then we need to create a thought which says that we are happy and peaceful souls. Inner conditioning will help us to become what we really wanted to become. When we have achieved everything which we have always dreamt about then we will rarely search for those things in the outside world. If we are happy, the world seems a happy place for us. If we are at peace then world appears to be a peaceful place to us. If we have love then the world seems a loving place to us. Thus, change a thought and bring the real change inside to see a changed better world.

Conflict gets created when two individuals do not agree on something. Disagreement on any matter is a very common thing to take place. But when disagreement takes the form of an argument then it is said that conflict is created. The argument is the end of acceptance. When we argue, we shut down everything inside and create a blockage. This blockage itself will not allow us to understand others point of view. We keep making a statement to convince others that we are right and they are wrong. If other people too do the same thing then within no time disagreements turn into conflict. Having an opinion is right and voicing out that opinion too is okay but when we try to prove others that we are right ones while their opinions are wrong then this disagreeing argument takes shape of conflict.

What causes conflict

Conflict is often heated arguments where there is too much of anger and noise. This is the situation where others opinions do not matter and all that matters is how much we can raise our voice over their voices. Argument or conflict is non-acceptance. Hundreds of questions will be put up and there will always be disagreement. There will be lots of protests and each of the two people who are arguing desire that their opponent just believes what they are saying without protesting. Only our opinions and evidence provided by us will matter at that point of time and others opinions and evidence no matter how strong they may be done not matter at all. We just keep arguing persuasively and while doing so our confidence seems pretty high. We keep emphasizing that our evidence are true and thus this becomes a reason for conflict. We are demanding acceptance from the other person on the same matter and when he opposes us, lots of negativity fills in the whole of the environment. We just do not understand that it is our belief system and as per that we have made up our point of view. It is not at all necessary that others too develop the same point of view as ours. Different people have different belief systems and as per that their conditioning takes place. There is no point if we take it on our ego because then we will be doing more damage to ourselves and the conflict will remain unresolved.

Where there is conflict, there is no solution

We somehow become more authoritative and take up the whole charge whereas there is no need for us to become in charge of anything. This authoritative power which we self-impose on ourselves will make us feel that we have an upper hand and can do whatever we want to. Where there is conflict, there cannot be an agreement. To solve an issue and come to a conclusion, the agreement is essential. Until and unless the conflict is solved, it is very sure that agreement or solution can never be obtained. Conflict is nothing but a state of our mind. It is a state with which we disagree and the decision is almost impossible to obtain.

End the conflict

Conflicts can be ended within a second if even one person shows harmony or else it can run for decades and even centuries. When beliefs, ideas, thoughts, interests clash, conflicts are created. We say that two belief systems are in conflict and it means they are very different from one another. One teaches something and the other one do not support that at all. When people clash i.e., when there is conflict in between them, it becomes almost impossible for them to live together or exist side by side in harmony. The firm opinion of one may conflict with others opinions.

The discussion is the key

Discussion means proper communication. People talk about the matter, keeping their opinions in front of one another. Unlike in case of arguments, people here respect each other's opinions and honor each other's point of views too. They hear their opponents words or opinions and then both parties decide. Since there was no such sort of blockage created, there is no feeling of superiority here. When both the parties keep their opinions in front of each other, most right of both the opinions are selected and the deal is sealed. Decision or agreement can also be reached if the proper discussion is held and if there is no sort of argument or conflict created. This is the reason that it is often said that communication is very healthy.

Argument versus discussion

To resolve an issue or conflict, we need to talk to each other. If there is no sort of communication established then how can a problem that is been existing can be solved. Conflict and disagreement will keep on continuing for ages without coming to a conclusion. If discussion replaces argument then conflict can be solved within a few minutes. The only difference between argument and discussion is that in an argument we feel that we are right and have enough evidence to support our verdict and thus do not even care to listen to our opponent. In the discussion, we present our point of view and support it with evidence, but we have not yet come to a conclusion that we are right and our opponent is wrong. We are open to the possibilities that our opponent might offer a solution better than what we are offering and thus listen to them carefully. When both the parties keep their ears open they will immediately come to a conclusion.

Conflict is ugly

Conflict is an intense fighting period between two people, two groups or even two countries. It is a period where we tend to oppose our opponent as much as possible and carry out every possible task to stop them from succeeding. There is a whole lot of criticization that takes place. All we do is make others feel low by strongly disagreeing with them and criticizing them all the time. All we know is to quarrel with others. A conflict is a kind of battle in which two opponents keep competing with one another to achieve success and control each other. This becomes more like a contest to win where all that matters is to achieve success. When we lose our inner conscious and get low to achieve the success then we may have won the battle, but lost the war. In a conflict, all we do is that we try to hurt each other. Our disagreement will be more like a quarrel and anger will always be present in it.

Conflict is not a contest

Conflict should have to be resolved and it can only be done if we do not indulge in it as if it is a contest. There should not be a question of winning or losing anything. If we need to resolve any conflict with our opponents then the first thing we need to do is to respect them. Once we respect them, we will respect their point of view too. We will soon realize that their thoughts or views are the creation of their belief system. We need to understand that beliefs are too deep. This will make us feel that they are not wrong. When we get clear on this matter, we will soon start hearing them. This is because now we know that they are not wrong in their opinions and thus there is no harm in hearing them out. A blockage that we created deep inside of us will soon get cleared out. Once we listen to them, they too will sense our honesty and efforts that we are putting in and do the same thing. They will allow us to speak and in the same way respect our decisions. Communication will play a key factor here to resolve conflicts.

Conclusion

Conflict does not get created when two people do not agree. It, in fact, gets created when a solution is not met. When communication is established and we start hearing out each other, within no time, we ourselves along with our opponents can come to a very fine conclusion. When discussion replaces arguments to resolve a conflict, ego is lost somewhere. Once ego is shut down by both the parties, decision making becomes easy. We may or may not win the battle, but will not feel bad because we will be in favor of the decision. The decision that is taken and agreement that is made may not benefit us, but we will be happy about it and remain at peace because we will realize that it is best for us and for others. Even if our opponents have one it, we will feel happy because we know they deserved it better than us. Once conflict within our mind is resolved, conflict in outer world does not take much time to get solved.

True friendship is priceless. Real friends are like the priceless treasures. They are as good as a family. The way our family worries about us, loves us and rides along with us in the journey of life, our real friends do the same. They are no different than our family. Fake friendship may end within no time but real friendship will last for ages. Real friends will live by our side throughout our lives and die with us if the situation demands. We do not choose our family but we do choose our friends and real friends are no less than a loving and caring family. A bond binds two strangers together and this bond itself is friendship. Our friends are as good as pillars on our porch. It is always nice to know that someone is standing by us no matter what circumstances arrive in front of us. They will be with us during our highs and lows. They will sometime hold us and sometimes lean on us.

Real friends make the journey easy

Friends make the day when skies are gray. Family members stand by us and are always there to support us. Real friends do the same thing. They in no way can fall behind the family. They understand us, make us laugh when we are sad, lend us support when we are weak and make our journey of life easy and joyful. Journey definitely will seem easy because we know if we bump a road and face turbulence in the way, there will be someone beside us to hold us and support us. They always have our back even when nobody else does. They always have good things to say about us even behind our back. They are just not our acquaintances. We know that we can depend on them. We need not ask them for a favor because even before asking them for anything, they will fulfill our needs, especially in desperate times.

Friendship is a strong bond

Friendship takes birth when we see a like-minded person traveling beside us. Instead of being alone, we prefer the company. Real friends neither lead us nor remain behind us. They walk along. It is difficult to find a friend in the family, but friends in no time become our family. They know everything about us but still loves us and this unconditional love itself is a real friendship. What more can we expect from life, if we have found a friend who is real as a gem? This friend itself will make our life ideal. We will feel safe and comfortable in their company. We can make hundreds of friends every day and still not find that real friendship until and unless we meet that special one who within no time will bond with us in such a manner that we would never break the bond with him throughout our lives.

Friends heal us

We bond very deeply with our chosen friends because they share our pain. They heal our wounds and provide warmth to our heart. Their tenderness is real and not judgmental. They do not stand beside us just to give advice and provide a solution. A real friend is the only one who can tolerate our lack of knowledge and foolishness. They are okay with our not healing because this is what they do with their tender hands. They are always present with us whether we are confused or acting smart enough. We treasure each moment with them and cannot imagine our life in their absence. Friends make survival easy, rather they provide value to survival.

Real friends are as good as our family

Friends are like glue. They hold each other very nicely. Friendship is a powerful stuff. It connects two souls and their faith together. Only a true friend can protect us from our immortal enemies. Our real friends represent a family we have chosen for ourselves. We then start feeling that our family is complete. Before their arrival, it was incomplete. Their unison with us represents a new world is born. Real friends become incredibly close to us. They become much more than just our friends. They become our family. This is our second family and special mention here is that we have chosen this family for us, unlike the previous family where we had no power to choose. The family does not have to be blood. If we love people and feel safe when they embrace us then we know that they are our family. The family does not only refer to a social unit comprising of parents and children. It does not just include blood relatives. Real friends are our family because they do anything and everything for us. This new family can be chosen by us. We will get to choose those shoulders where we can shed a tear. We get to choose those people who will be there with us in both our good and bad times. We can talk to them anytime and they will listen to us every time. Our life is like a garden and friends are like flowers in it. Imagine a garden without flowers. How incomplete it may appear. We sow a seed of trust in the garden. Daily take care of it and nurture it. Finally, we get the flowers of love and loyalty.

Real friends are very important

Our real friends become an important part of our life, so important that we would find our life incomplete in their absence. Each moment we share with them is important, so important that even when they are at distance from us, we treasure them in our memories. We treasure them in tears, we treasure them in our joy. They are guides to our rickety boats. They are our life's sailors. Without them, we feel like we are going to get down in waters. We unfold ourselves in front of our family because they listen to us. In the same manner, a real friend too will listen to us. This is the reason that we feel like sharing our emotions in front of them. Since they listen to us, we move towards them.

Real friends are difficult to find

It is just good luck if we find good friends in life but if we find even a single real friend then we are more than lucky. Friends are easy to find but that friend who seems like a family to us, who seems like the whole world to us is rather difficult to find. We never try to change our real friends. We accept them the way they are and we bond with them. Same goes for them. They take us just for who we are. We do not try to mold them in any way so that they can fit our image. This kind of act is not the basis of true friendship. If we do not accept them for who they are and are only attracted to them because they potentially like us then it is not a friendship. We are just watching a reflection of our own image in them. Our sense makes sense to the world but a real friend is one to whom even our nonsense makes too much sense. Even our nonsense will seem to be adorable to our friends and will be respected.

Conclusion

Finding a real friend who very soon will be as good as our family is the spiritual experience. We meet someone, bond with them and believe in them. Soon, the bond of trust and loyalty increases day by day. It is we who chose them. It is not just an outstretched hand which we seek for the joy of companionship. It is the hand which we hold for a lifetime. It is all about a discovery and this discovery will be of a lifetime. When life brings joy, we share with them and it doubles. When life sucks, they suck out the pain from our lives, providing us relief. We share and feel happy and the feeling is mutual. There will be respect and trust for each other and these itself form a strong basis for lifelong friendship. We are ready to live for them and die for them and they too feel the same. We may not start our journey but definitely, end it with our new found family because they will be there even at the end. Holding their hands is like holding something which completes us and makes us alive.

We all are well aware of the fact that life is very hard. It is not very smooth and if it was then it could help us to move at the steady pace throughout the journey. It is full of hurdles which make us fall. We fall, we bump into them, we get hurt, we then rise and start our journey forward. This is what life is all about. Life is not a bed of roses. Though it is difficult but not impossible. On daily basis, we see so many bad things taking place in the world. There is a rise in crimes of all sorts such as terrorism, rape, poverty, racism, slavery etc. However, we are stuck in our own lives and even though somewhere is subconscious minds we know that life is hard out there but we rarely try to convince about it to ourselves. We only wake up when our near and dear ones get affected i.e., either hospitalized, abducted, terrorized etc. After few days, we again sink back into our daily routine, until another incident takes place. Repeated incidents in our lives or in lives of those around us make us feel that it is very hard and something is really wrong. We feel that life isn't fair because it was not supposed to happen this way.

Hard days are very difficult

Life is just the way it is. We ourselves have made it so difficult. We had asked for it and now we do not want to accept it. Right now, we are in a "battle of the wills". We have our own wills and our life is the outcome of our wills. There is no denying in it. We all have forced these hard days or even hard years on us where things are not turning out the way we want to. Everything seems difficult. We feel as if we are in a deep hole and cannot find a way out. We cannot see any door open. We cannot find a hand to help us out. We even cannot see a thin stream of light in the darkness. We all have faced different levels of difficulties and hard times in our lives. It can be rejections, heartbreaks, setbacks, stress, poverty, disappointments, sadness etc. During tough times nothing seems right and everyone around us seems to just disappear. Everything feels out of whack and nothing seems working. Since we cannot get our act together, we feel unaccomplished tasks are ruining us. This soon starts feeling as if the most challenging phases of our lives have begun.

Comparision with others

Most of us feel that our life is more difficult than others. Grass seems greener on the other side and thus we feel that others aren't as sad as we are and have not faced as many difficulties in their lives as much as we are facing. In short words, their journey seems quite easy and smooth to us when we compare it with ours. We feel that we have bumped into more obstacles and have faced more headwinds than others. This results in bitterness. We never care about tailwinds which helped us. As a consequence, we remain ungrateful and ever unhappy because we never look at bright side. Darkness will always make us unhappy. Others too have problems. In fact, others may be facing more difficulties than we do. The comparison itself is wrong. We should not compare ourselves with others. They have their own journeys to cover and we have our own. In this way, we will be able to concentrate on ours. We don't know their stories and we do not know how much they had to endure to reach the spot where they are right now. Thus, there is no point in judging them or comparing our lives with theirs. The focus should be only on our lives. When we compare ourselves with lives of those who have faced much more hardships than we have then we will realize how life has been grateful to us and soon we will start honoring and respecting it. We will feel grateful for everything we possess and for everything we are blessed for. To understand what real misery is then one has to compare oneself with less fortunate. Only then, it will become an eye-opener and we will start taking our lives seriously.

Keep patience

Life is a very exciting journey. There will be good times, bad times, challenges, and excitement. It is more like a roller coaster where sometimes we are above and other times, we are down. If we want then we can come back at the top again. Patience is essential. If we make a big deal out of it that we are pushed below and do not have a faith that we can be at the top again then this kind of impatience can only bring sadness. We just need to keep going. If we quit then we can never become winners. We just need to move with the flow. We will exactly reach where we are supposed to reach. Things which come to us very easily are not of real worth. Those which we earn with our sheer hard work and determination seem valuable.

Develop positive approach

We ourselves make our lives difficult. The way we approach our life will actually decide whether we make it easy or difficult. If our approach is negative then definitely it is going to seem us very difficult. Life is precious i.e., very valuable to us. How can we expect it to be easy? Anything that has a worth cannot be achieved easily. Imagine living without any difficulties. It is like swimming in shallow waters where we can see the bright lights easily and save ourselves from bumping into hard obstacles and other creatures. Fun is in to dive deep i.e., to swim in deep at the bottom of the ocean. Fun is in to resolve the mysteries of the sea. No doubt, we are going to bump obstacles along the way and swimming will seem very difficult there as well as there will be no sunlight. But we will get to enjoy the whole experience. We will get to witness magic floor of the ocean. We cannot know true happiness unless we come across sadness. Yes, life is hard and difficult. But it will pass. This is what we need to keep assuring to ourselves. Life is hard for everyone. Each one of us has to face hardships at one or the other times. The need of the hour is to keep patience and have belief. Our belief itself is the one that will keep us alive and keep us going even in difficult times and on difficult, tricky roads. We feel that life is difficult and hard because we feel trapped in failures and rejections. We get tired during difficult times and start feeling that nothing can make us feel alive or amuse us anymore. This is when we feel that we have lost purpose in life. We feel that we are worthless and our life is worthless. Failures lead to anxiety and we consider ourselves as losers.

Life has a meaning

We all have a purpose in life. There is no need to give up no matter how difficult life exhibits challenges in front of us. We all are created to live and inspire others. There is a reason behind everything. Our life cannot be worthless. We exert ourselves with too many responsibilities and give ourselves too little time. This is not going to work. We need to keep patience and find passion. Our passion will help us to find purpose in life and patience will keep us going, no matter how difficult life is. Just change the perspective. look at life from the different point of view and the whole life will seem different. Just a thought will wipe away all the difficulties life imposed on us and we will start exploring all the doorways which will take us further in our journey. See the good in the bad and wait patiently because definitely, something good approaches us when we keep patience and positive attitude.

Life evolves us

Life is so hard so that we can evolve as an individual. At the beginning of our journey we will be an altogether very different people but as the journey continues, we get to experience so much. Our enormous growth takes place and at the destination when we reach, we become completely evolved. Hard times are not meant to complain. They are meant for our evolution. We need to endure everything. We just need to ride it and go with the flow. Infiltration of challenges at every step makes life difficult. Challenges on outside i.e., external challenges are the situations which we face or circumstances which we experience. Internal challenges are our own creations. We set goals and when we fail to achieve them, we get disappointed. It is alright to set goals but then goals have to be realistic. Even if they are not, it is okay. But then, when we embrace disappointments in life, we create some more difficulties in our lives. This is what internal challenges is all about. We have no control over external challenges and thus need to face them more often in life, but internal challenges rather can be avoided to make life easy. This is the reason that we should not make our lives more difficult by creating internal challenges.

We make life hard

We need to get our psychological needs fulfilled. This today seems very difficult. We are frustrated with our drive for competition. We compare ourselves to others and wish to outshine everyone. We wish to possess qualities that nobody possesses. However, this is quite impossible because it either requires a unique talent or we need to explore a niche that is so narrow that others do not have. We also want to feel free. We have our values and want to live with them without ever judged by people or society. Every day we come across so many people and all of them have their respective set of values. It is up to us that how well we can cope up with the differences while living along with everyone. When life was simpler, bonds were stronger. Today, however, bonds are so fragile and weak that it almost frustrates us. Today life has become way complicated than it was a few decades back. We say life is hard or life is difficult and by this, we mean that it is posing a difficulty in our living. However, we do not understand that it is our life. We are living it i.e., we are making it difficult. If we wish to make it simpler, we can make it. If we wish to make it hard and complicated, we can make it. It is we who are making it what it is and it is not posing anything on us because it is we who are possessed of power. We feel that life is quite hard to live. Life is neither hard nor difficult. Life is not doing anything wrong to us. It is a feeling which we have created that is making us feel that life is very cruel and hard.

Selfishness makes life difficult

It is very difficult to get along with others. We all have our different sorts of interests. We all have different opinions, viewpoints which may match with some whereas collide with others. Individuals with whom our viewpoints match, we form groups with them. Our dominance hierarchies emerge and we have today evolved so much that we try to rise above by bringing other groups down by stepping on their backs. This is how we work in groups and this evolved nature of ours definitely bring hardships in life because life is not about dominating or letting others dominate. Life is about living in harmony. Life is also not about forming groups, but about maintaining togetherness among everyone. Being selfish is a wrong quality to adopt in life. This was taught to us right from our childhood. However, we have adopted it and is adopted by everyone who still exists. Survival of fittest isn't possible if an organism isn't selfish and our existence itself is an evidence of our selfish nature. our ancestors passed the test of natural selection. This consequently resulted in their survival and reproduction. All the survival adaptations are a selfish approach to life. We too have many such qualities which help us to benefit us. In one way, it helps existence but with a splash of selfishness. This is what makes life hard because we have selfishness within us and in everyone around us whom we see surviving.

Negative emotions bring difficulty in life

Emotions that which are deep-rooted in us make life hard. They are good as well as bad. Good because we get to express them. Bad because they drain so much energy out of us. No one likes to feel anxious because it drains out so much valuable energy of ours and make us feel restless, taking away all the calmness. However, anxiety is adaptive. Anxiety itself helps us to keep ourselves away from danger. Since we know putting ourselves in so and so the situation may risk our lives, we keep ourselves away from it which definitely means safety. This had been practiced even by our ancestors and these deep-rooted negative emotions helped in evolution. Though these negative emotions are good for evolution they also make life hard.

Hypocrite nature

We all are hypocrites and this fact too makes life hard and difficult. At one or the other point in our life, we experience this kind of inconsistency because our brain is filled with multiple things which collide or become inconsistent with other things which are rooting there and this is a fact. We all say one thing and just perform something else and such people are called as hypocrites. However, this is our tendency and we cannot simply help it. We cannot always practice what we preach and thus we all become hypocrites.

Focus makes life easy

We find everything in our life easy when we completely focus on it. When we focus all our attention on the things which we are pretty good at then everything becomes easy in life. When we are not good at something, we find it difficult to focus our attention on it. We find life difficult because we are finding difficulties in attending it. Some phase of our life is good because everything that we ever carried out in that phase was done religiously by paying complete attention to it because we were good at it. Some phase of our life seems hard because the situations or tasks which we were meant to deal with were very difficult for us and thus we could not focus on them. We can either attend, avoid or obsess what is put in front of us. Attention is very easy because it does not require any curious efforts from our side. It seems easy like breathing. The difficulty arises when we avoid. When we serve difficulty, we start avoiding it. It is not true that we avoid something because it is difficult. We avoid because we sense difficulty "in here". Once we start avoiding, our mind gets programmed. Too much attention will result in obsessing. Here our whole attention is robbed from other walks of lives. We over-focus on one thing and start avoiding other things and this makes life very hard. To make life easy, focus or attention is very important. The more we avoid or the more we obsess, the more "will" will fall apart and make our life difficult and hard.

Develop easeinsidethe mind

Our life is not hard as it seems. Our perception makes it look very hard. Each new day in our life brings new light and ray of hope. It is up to us to take that hope or just leave it. We can spend rest of our lives complaining about how difficult our life is or else can stop that and appreciate it. We are what we think. Our life is just how we wanted it to be. it's all in our mind. If we generate ease in our mind then outside too, it seems pretty easy. Survival is not guaranteed. Only survival of fittest is possible. Sice this struggle is never-ending, our every day seems like a struggle. Thus life seems pretty hard. There is competition everywhere and in almost all walks of lives. There is greed inside us and we vigorously want to compete and win because we need those resources pretty badly. When greed is in there then how come other negative qualities stay behind and thus hate, jealousy, lyes, all follow. As a result, there is an increase in all sorts of crimes like corruption, murder, abduction, rape, assault etc.

Conclusion

Acceptance is the key. Just accept that circumstances on the outside are difficult which are making our lives difficult. Once we accept it, we will find solutions for it. We cannot keep complaining. We now will become ready to solve the puzzles as they approach us. Discipline is essential and it helps us to work on our problems. If a game is easy then no one would like to play it. Each level increases difficulty and thus we find it interesting when we solve the puzzles and win the games. When a certain phase of our life seems very difficult to us, it gets recorded in our memory very deeply. Our life is a mere reflection of our thoughts. It is what we want it to be. We start believing deeply what we have been looking at for a prolonged period of time. If we find someone annoying and irritating then we will feel the same vibe from him every time we meet him because somewhere in our subconscious mind, we have recorded the whole episode of irritation in our memory. If we think life is hard, it surely will seem hard. If we feel it is easy and smooth, it will appear to be smooth and easy. It is in our minds.Think of life as a happy and joyful journey and we will start taking it in the same manner. This is more like programming of the subconscious mind. Slowly we will start believing deep inside that life is easy without making any conscious efforts. Proper conditioning of mind is essential because our belief systems should be right. If any of our belief systems are creating turbulence in our life then we need to replace it with right one. Life is not at all hard. Instead, we are making it hard. We need to keep patience and faith. This faith itself will help even the most difficult times to pass away and good times once again will come back in our lives. Just keep the faith that every dark cloud has a silver lining. Life may not be making any sense, but just keep faith and trust in everything.

Conflict is a disagreement or unresolved issue between two people, two groups or even two countries. Until and unless the conflict is resolved, the issue remains unsolved. Reason for conflict to take place is some kind of disagreement on any particular issue. Disagreement is due to our belief system. Since our belief system and the other person's belief system clash, conflict takes place. Our thoughts, viewpoints, opinions are also different from others and this will all lead to disagreement or conflict. Thus, conflict is an internal issue. We feel that conflict is outside, however, this is not true. Until and unless inner self is treated properly and all the questions inside are answered, inner conflict does not resolve. Until and unless conflict in inner self-does not get resolved, how can we even think of resolving the same thing in the external world?

The conflict inside disturbs sleep

Every day when we wake up in the morning, we feel tired. Even though we have slept for adequate hours, but still feel the necessity to sleep for few more minutes. This is because our body might have healed and taken sufficient rest, but our mind was still working throughout the night. It was still creating thoughts, not necessarily at that level which it creates while we are awake, but still, it was working and thus no rest was provided to it. Thus, when we wake up in the morning, we find the necessity to sleep for some more time, in order to rest our unrest mind because this sort of demand is created by the mind and not the body. On daily basis, we encounter so many people. With some, we may agree. With others, we don't i.e., clash one or the other issue with them leads to creating conflict. We may develop anger, irritation, frustration, negative thoughts towards them and towards their attitudes. It is not necessary that we may talk to them about these particular issues. Most of the time, we do not even convey our feelings to them regarding their behavior or attitude which is bothering us. Whether we convey or conceal, in both the situations, we have created conflict with them. Deep in our minds, we have made an issue regarding the conflict we have with others. Every night before going to bed, if we solve these issues then these things do not develop into something huge. If not solved then this becomes the reason for our internal conflict and internal restlessness which make our mind tired even after getting adequate hours of sleep.

Resolve the conflict as soon as possible

Thousands of thoughts and mostly negative and useless ones which we create throughout the day suck out the potential energy out of us and make our mind feel tired and restless. To free the mind from everything and to put it at rest, all we have to do is to answer the unanswered questions bothering it, if possible, immediately as soon as the question lingers the mind. If prompt answers cannot be given then at least at the end of the night just before going to bed, answer the issues so that mind becomes free and relaxed the way body relaxes. Every night before going to bed make it a habit to resolve our internal conflict then not only we will be doing good to ourselves but also to others with whom we get involved in the conflict. Our indifference with someone will bother us throughout the day. If possible, we have to try to relax our mind then and there itself, as soon as the thought of indifference bothers us. Thereby we will be saving so much of our valuable energy. If not possible, at least at the end of the day, we need to think and analyze the whole issue and calm ourselves. Soon we will find that impulses which we created were for no good reasons.

Acceptance is the key here

Everyone around us is different and has the right to think and live the way they feel. We have no right to get in a conflict with them because they have an opinion or way of a living a lifestyle which is completely different from ours. The way we have a right to live, in the same way, they too have a right to decide what they want. This type of thinking is known as acceptance. Until and unless, there is an acceptance, respect does not follow. We do not understand that when we are unaccepting someone, we are disrespecting them. Accepting does not mean that we have to agree with them. Accepting means that though there is disagreement, what others are doing is as per their point of view and this should not bother us in any way. No matter how different others are from us, we need to accept them and respect them for just who they are. Power of acceptance is huge. In the first place, it does not allow differences to come into the picture. When differences do not appear, disagreements leading to arguments and conflicts do not appear. The mind is at rest because it has not created any internal conflict. When internal conflict does not get created, external conflict i.e., the conflict between two people never takes place. Disagreements can be immediately resolved with powerful conversations within minutes seeking solutions.

Conflict in internal

We often meet people and create conflicts in outer world which bother our mind and make it restless. We lay others responsible for not letting us enjoy peace and calmness and thereby we start facing turbulence. However, this is not true. Restlessness travels from inside to outside. It is mind who first creates conflict as soon as it senses an indifference. This conflict then is shown in the form of anger, stress, tension, irritation, frustration, restlessness, getting into a fight with opponents, showing violent behaviors etc. Our mind creates conflict as soon as indifference appears because this is how we have conditioned it. What it thinks and how we behave are all outcomes of our conditioning. We feel that we are always right and others who think differently from us or behave differently are wrong. This creates conflict. Changing the belief systems and proper conditioning will do the trick in bringing back the mind to rest at peace.

Conclusion

Conflict is created internally in mind and then is reflected outside. Thus, in order to resolve an issue, we need to answer all the questions put up by our mind. Once the questions are answered well, internal conflict is resolved and the issue which we have with others in the outer world gets solved automatically. If the internal conflict is not solved, we will be creating a too much bad effect on the mind because it will keep thinking about the unresolved issue or unsolved matter. Too much stress and tension will linger mind and too much turbulence can be seen in our relationships with others. If we want to keep ourselves at peace and keep our mind in a deeply relaxed state then we need to put efforts in keeping our mind at rest and solve all the internal conflicts as soon as possible to make life easy, simple and free of troubles.

Life is a journey and in this journey, we need to face everything that comes along our way. Our life will not be a bed of roses and thus it is pretty sure that sometimes it will be smooth, hurdle free and rest of the times, we need to go on a bumpy ride which will be full of hurdles. This bumpy ride will be tough to cross as it tries to disbalance us. Within a short time, we will start having second thoughts and doubts about ourselves as we start doubting our abilities that whether we will be able to carry out our journey forward. It is but obvious that when the journey is easy and comfortable, we don't feel a thing while on it but when the same gets tough, it seems very long and disturbs us completely. It is a test of our patience and will. If we are tough then no matter how difficult our journey is, we will last it, but if we are weak then within no time, we will bow down in front of it and give up everything we have.

Tough times help in learning

Difficulties which we face in our lives are nothing but tough times and during these tough times, we need to make tough choices and make tough decisions. We can neither escape from difficult time nor can we save ourselves from making choices. We have to face what we have to face and we need to make choices in our lives no matter how easy or hard it might seem. If we run away then we are not solving anything and also not able to learn anything from the prevailing circumstances. if we are bravely dealing with them then life becomes easy because it helps our learning process. We get to learn so much when we start dealing with whatever is coming our way. Our decision might be right or wrong, it does not matter. The thing that matters is that we are able to make decisions which will instill in us lots of confidence as we have decided to fight instead of taking flight mode. If our decision proved to be right then we will benefit from it. If it turned out to be wrong then there is no point in getting disheartened as there are tons of things which we can learn from our own mistakes and next time when we come across obstacles, we will be able to tackle them in an efficient way. This, in turn, will help us to increase our toughness. The more and more our toughness increases, more and more it will benefit us and this, in turn, will not allow tough times to last for a very long duration.

Characteristics of tough people

Tough people are optimistic i.e., they always think positive, irrespective of what sort of circumstances they are facing. Situations may be positive or negative but they do not lose hope. They just think about how to positively deal with the whole situation by remaining patient and maintaining calm. They do not lose faith in anything and this kind of attitude has lots of power when compared to negative thinking. They put their hope in a Higher power. This kind of union will help them to take right decisions and they will seek solutions which will be apt for that circumstance. They have an immense internal strength which will help them to find best in every day and best in everything they do. This kind of thinking and attitude is what differentiates them from others and make them tough. They too face many ups and downs in their lives but they have this ability to find best in everything and it will make their journey easy when compared with others.

Positive thoughts increase toughness

Thoughts are very empowering and each thought creates destiny. If we create a thought that we are tough then we will become tough but if we feel that we are weak and not able to deal with the tough situation then even after having a solution in front of us, we will fall short for everything. Such is the power of our thoughts and they can either help us move forward or drag us behind in our journey. It is our choice to create good quality thoughts. It is we who can decide whether we have to create positive, inspiring thoughts or negative, depressing ones. We are the ones who will decide our destiny. When tough times approach us, either we can opt to rise above all the adversity or dive deep down in our misfortune. We can keep on complaining about the tough time that has to strike us but it will be a mere waste of time and will not do any good to us. Positive thinking is the key factor here to become tough and this sort of positive attitude itself will help us feel better in the long run.

A positive attitude is a key to become tough

When we are approached with a tough time, we need to yell at it "I can do this". Though we may or may not be successful in our attempts, it kind of instills confidence in us. Believing does not mean that adversity will open doorways for us but this belief will give us the strength to face adversity and that is what most important. Trying is important and we are never going to learn if we do not try at all. All we have to do here is to name or list our troubles. When we name it, we name our possibilities. Problems that we face or tough times which we encounter can be related to anything. It may be regarding poor performance in exam or career, unemployment, poverty, marriage, loneliness etc. Once we state it and make up our mind to go through it then definitely we will find a way to overcome our tough time and all this is possible only if we are tough from inside. Our tough time which is blocking our success can only be overcome with our strength and positive attitude. Toughness can turn even a negative situation into a positive one. Irrespective of how tough the time we are facing, we can still fight against it and achieve best out of everything and best from life.

Tough times teach life lessons

When we start dealing with challenges on an everyday basis, we are in turn training ourselves to deal with them in an effective way and also increasing our inner strength. Our strength and toughness increase with each victory. We not only learn to deal with the outer world but also learn so much about ourselves. Tough times are the real times where real people get identified. These are the times when we get to know the real us as well as understand other's real identities. A person who does not want to face tough times and rather runs away from it and gets scared actually does so because he lacks internal strength and is rather weak internally. One who is strong enough to deal with tough times will go a long way and thereby success is certain. Tough times help us to identify ourselves. In the same way, it also teaches us so much about the external world, about the people around us. We then will be able to identify who our real friends are, who will always love us dearly and who will be always on our side, irrespective of whether we are dwelling in dark time or wandering in bright lights.

Focus on goals

We carry our dreams like our backpacks and our goals are our destinations. If we lose our hope in midway itself then that backpack is never going to get open. We need to make it through the whole way. Only when we reach our destination, we will be able to open it and then we will be able to see what it holds for us. If we give up in the middle then it will remain sealed forever and we will never know what it held. We should promise ourselves to keep moving further and to dig deeper because treasure cannot be found on the ground. Treasure is always hidden beneath deeper layers of ground and to uncover that treasure, we should be ready to dig deep. We can neither let digging come to us as an obstacle nor allow it to give us a tough time.

Do not give up during tough times

Tough times do not last forever. Does season stay the same throughout the year? Perhaps, the answer is no. The way season changes, our tough times do change into good times. Sun emerges from the clouds and the pleasant sunshine takes away all the sorrows. Similarly, we too will definitely come across silver lining and there is no need for us to be scared of tough times. We need to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps because this is what tough people do in their tough times. We need to be tough and strong and keep on struggling against tough times. We cannot lose to it, in fact, it has to give up the fight because we do not know how to lose. We have to finish what we have started. When tough times arrive, most of us lose our strength and stop in midway. We have to persist hard enough. We need to build that burning desire within ourselves which does not know to give up or lose.

Tough people defeat tough times

We are not tough in tough situations because we do not make our path as our definite major purpose in life and thus intend to cross it, no matter what happens. We do not make that extra effort and travel those extra miles because we do not take any personal initiative to make our journey successful. We are not tough because we lack confidence, discipline, and self-control. These values make us go that extra mile and help us deal with tough time. These tough times test our patience. Successful people are the ones who are determined as well as patient and therefore keep moving even in tough times because they know that tough time is not going to last long. Tough people keep hanging on while others just let go and thus it is said that never giving up is the key to achieve success. Persistence is nothing but a quality of tough people in front of whom tough time does not last for very long. It is their capability to hang on, irrespective of how tough the circumstances are presented in front of them. No matter how many times they taste the failures and defeats, still their ability to keep going and never quitting is what differentiates from the rest others and helps them achieve success. No matter how much pain an individual needs to face, he should take all the necessary steps to reach his goal. Endurance and toughness come only to that individual who goes on resolutely, even in dark and tough times.

Awaken the internal powers

To tackle tough times, the doubt should be kept aside. One who doubts one's ability does not have strength and confidence. Firmness to cling or hold on tight is essential and only that individual can do so who never gives up or surrenders in front of tough times. Only stubbornly tough people can last in front of tough times and can even remain steady after it has passed. We often doubt our ability but we need to trust that we have in ourselves that inbuilt potential which we always doubted. These powers which were concealed from us actually dwells within us and are ready to come out, if allowed. Once they come out, they astonish us as well as others. We need to make use of these powers and turn them into actions which will bring revolution. These powers remain usually underdeveloped as we do not use them. All we need to do is to realize their importance as well as develop these powers so that we can face the toughest of the obstacles and toughest of the times.We all face tough times not once but so many times in our lives and problems almost on daily basis. Tough times need patience and toughness which will guarantee a solution. If we confront tough time with courage and toughness then it cannot last long but if we do not take any actions then we will not last long in front of it.

Tough times increase toughness

It is good for our own's sake that we find goodness in everything. Hence we have to find something good hidden in our tough times too. We have to just look for that hidden goodness in it. For example, only tough times will help us identify our real, good friends. We value health only when sickness strikes us. Only that person who is trapped in the cage can value freedom. Only when trouble arrives, we learn to become bold. When harshness and pain strike us, we learn to become kind and tender. Tough times when arrive teach us a lot and we if face it with toughness then we are breaking our shell of tenderness and learning to live in the open. If we choose to strike back when tough times arrive, only then we will be able to become tough. Easy, smooth life does not make us strong and tough but tough times does. It increases our ability to last long. It will teach us to never quit, run away but endure.

Conclusion

No one can escape from tough times. Everyone has to face it sooner or later at one point or the other in our lives. However, it is like a season. It arrives and it passes. Tough times do not last long if we choose to stand in front of it. Strong will of ours can fight with any adversity in our life. All we have to do is create a firm determination similar to that of bull-dog as well as instill within us that burning desire. This will eventually do not allow tough times to last in front of us. Sucess does not refer to just achieving something. It is mainly measured by the courage and toughness with which individual has overcome his opposition. If there was no opposition then winning is not a big thing. Fighting with strong opposition as well as overcoming all the odds is important. This struggle itself will be applauded. Higher and higher levels we reach, more problem arises and our problems only end with us. Thus, let us not wish to face an easy life which is free from hurdles but a life irrespective of whether it is easy or tough which we can handle with our toughness.

We all become angry at some point or the other in our everyday lives. Some of us are very short tempered and create anger every now and then, even on slightest of the issues and some of us are more controlled and thus do not become angry quite often. We often become angry when something unpleasant takes place and in situations which are unfair and also blameworthy. When two individuals are exposed to same situations or circumstances, each of them reacts differently to these situations. One will remain calmer and maintain his cool whereas another one might lose it. The intensity of anger also differs from one person to another. We often feel that there are certain triggers which come from outside that kind of invoke anger in us. Though triggers may be same for two individuals still it is seen that an individual's reactions differ and this may be due to the difference in qualities of those two individuals.

The external stimulus which acts as the trigger

We all have certain trigger events which make us lose our calm. It may be anything like being stuck in the traffic, handling too much work pressure, someone playing the blame game, when exposed to too much noise, when the electricity goes off etc. Sometimes, even certain people can act as triggers. Whenever we see them, we lose our calmness and that may be due to our unpleasant communication or encounter with them in the past that brings back unpleasant memory again and again. We often feel when so and so situation takes place and when we are put into so and so trigger event, we show anger. This is the reason that we say that these events or certain individual made us angry. We never use the word that we created anger and this is because we feel that we are no longer in control of our anger. Our anger is only dependent on the external environment. When someone says something or does something unpleasant then automatically our anger gets created and that is why it is them who have triggered it. If this was true then everyone must lose their calmness in the same sort of situations. But, not everyone does that. That means, the statement that triggering events create anger is not true.

Dangers of anger

Our anger consumes us and this is because it comes under the category of consuming emotions. It creates a lot of damage. We can check it when next time we get angry. During periods of this consuming emotion, we can sense that our blood is boiling in our body. On one hand, we say that we love our near and dear ones but when we are angry, we let everything out and seem to hurt the same people to whom we so much care about or are affectionate about. When we get angry, for that period of time, we tend to block our love energy. This is the reason-loving someone unconditionally has become impossible today. Blocking energy of love even for a second means we are sending the energy which is opposite of love towards our loved ones and that is nothing but the energy of hate. Even for a second if we are blocking our love then how can love be termed as unconditional and selfless. Anger exerts multiple side effects. We often hold our past and usually not reveal it to others. When we are angry, we let everything out which may be intentionally or unintentionally and say such things which can prove disastrous to the relationships. Instead of understanding that there is nothing that can be done to repair our past, we still hold on to it and instead do not even try to connect with our present.

Anger and other emotions

Anger is not just related to losing calmness. It brings with itself lots of other emotions like the person who is angry also feels sad and afraid. Underlying our fear exists our hidden emotions. In order to conceal our sadness or fear, we wear the mask of anger. We do not want to show the world that we are scared of something nor do we want to show that we are feeling vulnerable and sad. Both fear and sadness are associated with weakness. This is why we keep them concealed within us. On the other hand, anger is associated with power. This is, however, a sort of misunderstanding and a myth. We feel that one who shows anger and shouts at others is more powerful than the one who cannot. For example, a boss can be angry at his workers and a teacher or a parent can be angry at the kids but vice versa is not possible. This is because the boss, teachers, parents are more powerful and thus they can show their control in the form of anger. This is the reason that anger is an easy way to hide our other emotions. When we are cheated and feel bad then instead of crying or feeling sad, we opt for anger.

Anger is not the solution but the problem

We usually focus our anger on all those people whom we consider as the culprit for the condition that we are right in. We do not even leave God alone. When certain things don't go as per our according to then we focus our anger on the almighty God too. All those individuals who are related to us, all the ones who might not be related but scare us and the Supreme Soul, all become our focus at one point or the other. Anger is not a right act but hardly we get this fact. When we are in anger, we are in a vulnerable state and thus we do not understand that we are causing too much damage to everything, including to ourselves. In no way, we are trying to justify anything or solving the problem. Anger isn't the solution. In fact, it worsens the situations and creates more problem. Sometimes, we show anger towards others so that we can teach them a lesson or we want them to act in a rightful manner. However, a lesson taught in this way is neither going to make them learn anything nor is going to help us in any way. Anger is damaging and is not a solution to any problem.

Causes of anger

We display anger as soon as we feel that we are attacked in some way which can be either physical or mental. Verbal attacks too can result in anger. As soon as we see that the other person is threatening us, we become angry. We want everything to be fair in our life. It does not matter to us whether we are trying to implicate the same in our lives. We do so much of injustice in our lives but when the same is done to us when we become vulnerable and feel sad and this sadness towards injustice is shown in the form of anger. We all want to be powerful because that is what makes a person outshine and noticed. When we lose power and start feeling powerless in our lives or in certain situations then it will trigger anger in us. We don't know what the future has stored in for us. We are not good at accepting the destiny as it is. In our minds, we have already planned everything whether it is about next moment or about the moment which is 10 years from now. However, when things do not turn out the way we want them to be then we feel bad and display our emotions in the form of anger. This is nothing but our frustration which has resulted as we are not able to have control over things.

Characteristics of an individual and anger

All of us react to the different situations in different ways. Some of us display hurt, sadness, amusement whereas others display anger by hiding the other emotions. This is because there are certain characteristics of an individual which make them vulnerable and more prone towards getting angry and that too more often. If an individual has been displaying more anger right from his childhood itself then it is very obvious that in later parts of his life too, he will do the same. He will continue doing so until he really wants to stop showing anger as he understands how damaging it can be. If it is the upbringing then it is difficult to mold him differently in the later parts of life. Kids when witnessing their parents and others in early childhood that they can get their work done by showing anger then they too start practicing the same. They feel that this is the only method of getting the work done by the people who work for them. If they do not display anger then the workers will get lazy and not work efficiently. If they have experienced in the past that anger helped them in some way or the other then they will start using the same tool everytime they need someone to do something for them. If in the upbringing itself we are taught that it is okay to show our aggressive side then we feel that it is very normal to act aggressive or violent. This is the reason that within no time we will display anger instead of trying to keep it under control. Even the smallest trigger will invoke aggressiveness in us. We will not at all work towards managing or controlling our actions and anger.

A highly competitive person will not feel good when he loses. When he faces failure then he becomes vulnerable and shows anger. A person who is narcissistic thinks about highly of himself but when others do not think the same about him or when certain situations do not make him feel important then he will start feeling angry. On the other hand, a person who has very low tolerance will show anger every now and then. Even on slightest triggers, he will show his most violent side. A person who is already frustrated, angry, tired and feeling vulnerable will react more aggressively and more violently to the situation as his patience level has been tested enough.

Anger and loss

A person who has lost someone precious in his life, who was very near and dear to him will show anger every now and then because of his loss. He will find difficulty in dealing with everything. Not only loss of someone's life will make a person react in this manner but the loss of anything like loss of the house in the floods, loss of money when the market goes down, loss of field etc will also make people vulnerable. Loss and anger are very closely associated with each other. Fear of losing anything will also immediately make a person become defensive and he will display it in the form of anger.

Hidden Anger

Sometimes we are not able to show our anger in some places and on some people. For example, we are not able to show our anger on our boss, irrespective of how angry he makes us. Thus, we will keep our anger hidden. We will instead throw it on our colleagues and on those people who work under us. Moreover, we will bring that anger along with us to our homes and ruin our personal lives too. We will try to display that feeling of frustration and anger anywhere and everywhere we can, except on our boss. This is how a spark of anger can ruin everything in life. The place where it had to be shown, when not displayed ruin other places in life. It does not mean that we need to show our anger on our boss. It simply means that instead, we can solve our problem by taking the initiative of reaching out to our boss and having a conversation with him instead. This itself had solved the whole problem.

Expectations

Expectations and anger have a very deep relation. When we start expecting something from someone then we should understand that we are creating trouble for us. When these expectations do not get fulfilled, then we get disheartened and feel bad. When someone does not behave the way we want to, when someone acts or speaks against our will, when circumstances turn out to be against our plan then all our expectations shatter and thereby we make use of anger to hide what we are feeling and lose our control.

Conclusion

It is not true that the cause of our anger lies outside us. It is we who create anger. It is just that external environment can trigger or act as a stimulus. Whenever our expectations are not met, whenever we feel threatened or scared, whenever we feel sad may be due to loss of something precious or simply because we are too sensitive, we will create anger. It is based on our upbringing and the way we look at the things. If we are short- tempered right from the beginning then we will show more anger when compared to other individuals. We get angry because we are not able to clarify certain things in life. We have certain problem areas and puzzles in life and when we do not solve them, we tend to carry that weight along with us wherever we go and as a result, we ruin every other area of our life. Everytime our wishes do not get fulfilled, we feel sad and vulnerable and get angry. The mind which is already sad, tired and frustrated will become angry quickly. All we need to keep in mind is that it is we who create anger. It is our choice. If we want, we can maintain our calm and keep our cool and thereby our anger can also be controlled. It is we who choose the easy option and instead of trying hard to suppress it, we let it out. We feel that way we will be able to achieve what we want to, but we need to understand that anger has never been a solution and never will be. It is always considered to be destructive for our relations as well as for our health. It is we who create it and if we wish to control it then we can very well control it by teaching ourselves anger management tips. The more and more tips we learn and practice, easily we will be able to deal with our anger.

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https://www.boddunan.com/topics/miscellaneous.html?view=article&id=25560Khalistan is a bird that was flown away. It was an ill-defined concept that could not have bone fruit in independent India but there was a time before 1946 when Khalistan or the state of Punjab could have become an independent entity.

Punjab was the biggest province in North India but I think people must know that neither the Congress Party not the Muslim League ruled Punjab. In those days Punjab was ruled by the Union Party which consisted of the landed gentry and consisted of Muslims, Sikhs, and Hindus. This was a party of the rich but Punjab was the richest state in India at that time

Punjab in 1946

The Akali party which represents the Sikhs was a member of the union party and it supported it. Master Tara Singh the Akali leader was, however, wary of the Muslims and had built bridges with the Congress Party and Mohandas Gandhi. This was after Jinnah had made overtures to the Muslim's in the Union Party. The British were waiting to fish in troubled waters and also they wanted to reward the Sikhs for all they had done to perpetuate the reign of the Raj.It's a known fact that the Sikh Troops not only stormed Delhi in 1857 but also took part in the first and second Afghan wars. They also took part in various campaigns from the Siege of Peking to battles against Japanese in Burma and Singapore.

The offer

Lord Mountbatten sent his secretary to meet the Akali leader Master Tara Singh. The British offered master Tara Singh an independent Sikh State. Lord Mountbatten Secretary offered Tara Singh a state which would be almost similar to the area ruled by Maharajah Ranjit singh.

The situation was however not all that rosy as Muslims who were members of the Muslim League in Punjab were hell-bent on joining Pakistan and they were carrying out many attacks on Hindus and Sikhs . Master Tara Singh in his wisdom at that time decided that in case a independent Punjab was created the large number of Muslim's in the state would create a perpetual strife as in west Punjab the Muslim were in the majority. The British could give him no assurance as to what would happen to the vast Muslim population.

Tara Singh was in a dilemma. He was wondering what to do. In early 1946 Jinnah met Tara Singh and other Sikh leads and offered them to join Pakistan. He offered a blank check to the Sikhs. But during the same period riots broke out in Karachi and many Sikhs were killed. Tara Singh and Akalis realized that Sikhs and Muslim could not live together. In a subsequent meeting with Gandhi, he was told Sikhs would have a special status in India. The die was cast as the Sikh leadership decided to reject Jinnah's offer and join India. In addition, Tara Singh felt an independent Sikh state may not be viable because of a large number of Muslim's in Punjab.

In hindsight one can see that 1946 was a very crucial period in the history of India . A more ambitious leader then master Tara Singh had been there and he had accepted the offer of an independent Punjab then the history of the subcontinent would have been entirely different. This was the one chance of Independence but there was a problem because in the state which was to be carved out the Sikhs themselves constituted only 30% of the population. the Muslims were about 55% and the Hindus were 15% The question arises what would happen to the Muslim population and would it have remained in Punjab ? there was very little chance that Sikh state t would have been carved out. What is more likely is that an independent Punjab would have come into being. We cannot now judge whether it would have been good or bad because we must remember that the union party was ruling Punjab for good part of two and half decades and this consisted of both Muslims and Sikhs.

Sikhs in Punjab

Special rules had been passed and special laws enacted to protect the Sikhs, who were in minority but the British had the revenge on the Silbs because at the time of partition most of the major Holy shrines of the Sikhs which were in the Western Punjab were not handed over to them.The Sikh demand of Lahore to be incorporated into India as it was the capital of Maharaja Ranjit Singh not accepted .

Even Gandhi after 1947 backtracked on his promise of special status for the Sikhs. However, over a period of time the Sikhs who are a hardy people though constituting only 2% of the population of India have made their presence felt in all walks of life all over the country. We can now only study the period from 1944 to 46 which was one of the most two traumatic periods in Indian history was also the period when Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru and Sardar Patel to stop Jinnah becoming the Prime Minister of India agreed on the partition.

Tunion party in Punjab never favored partition. These are facts of history and there's nothing much one can do about them except to read about them and interpret what all happened in that period. An independent Sikh State if formed would have been guaranteed by the British and it would have well been an ally of the British for all time to come but now we can only look back at that error and wonder whether Master Tara Singh and the Akali leadership was correct or not to accept an independent state. There can be no clear-cut answer because now as I am already written the bird has flown and the Sikhs are the sword arm of India and I do not see an independent Punjab ever coming up in the decades to come

We all have our favorite place and we consider it as our favorite spot because it kind of brings some contentment and comfort to us. We treat that place very differently than other places. This is because it treats us in a very comfortable way. For most of us, that place which calms us down and where we can relax completely is nowhere other than our house. Within the walls of our home sweet home, we can breathe freely and do not have to pretend like someone else. This is what comforts us the most. We do not have to be accountable to others when we are within our homes. Throughout the day, we play so many roles and most of the times pretend to be someone which we actually might not be in our real lives and this is simply because our roles demand us to do so. However, when we are back home, we hardly need to pretend like someone else. We can totally be ourselves and relax on our favorite sofa and couch, drifting away all the anxiety and stress and calming our mind and body completely.

Home is more than a dwelling place

We form a deep connection with the place we live and this will result in forming a strong bond. Home is a place where we live and it means much more than a place which we use to eat, sleep or perform other activities. It is a place which makes us feel good about ourselves. It acts as a strong barrier between us and the external world and this strong shield acts as a protective covering against all those physical and moral disastrous circumstances. It is not necessary that we feel the same about our present living place. It must be our old house or the house in which we have spent our childhood or the one which is in our native place. We all form a deep connection of some sort or the other with the place in which we have spent some time. Most of the times, we form a deep connection with the home which is located in our native land and this is because it always reminds us of who we actually are. It reminds us of our roots.

Home is incomparable

No matter how much we spend on our vacation and regardless of how expensive our stays are at hotels and lodges, they can never bring that kind of comfort and cozy stay which a home can easily provide. This is the reason home always remain incomparable to other stays and at first, one might disagree but the more and more he travels and more and more he moves away from his roots, he will find himself craving for that return so that once again he can feel safe and sound within his home's premises. There can be places which are more beautiful, more comfortable, safer but there can never be a place like one's home which is a bundle of everything ranging from beauty to comfort and from coziness to safe and sound.

Home brings real happiness. We no longer feel like intruders who are trying to invade other's personal space. When we are at home, we can enjoy our privacy and this is what brings the real joy and contentment. We might have visited many beautiful places in our lifetime. But still we find our home which is so small to be better than all those beautiful places and this is because the kind of atmosphere it provides. It relaxes us and rejuvenates us at the end of the long tiring day. We might travel the whole world and still wish to come back to our home sweet home and by this, we can understand how comforting and relaxing it is. We might have slept on the best beds and cushions but still, we enjoy a sound sleep on our old, warm bed and this is because of the connection and attachment that we have developed with it.

Home signifies our roots

We develop deeper connections with our homes because it might be a place where we have taken birth or have lived our childhood or maybe lived most of our life. It might be a place which actually reminds us of our roots which signifies stability. As soon as the word home arrives, we start collecting so many memories as that place represents peace and tranquility. There is some sort of warmth in it and it is better understood only by those of us who have lived away from it. To earn fortunes, to acquire skills, to achieve better education, people move away from their homes. They get what they needed but at the cost of staying away from home which is a harrowing experience.

Adventures cannot hold us forever

Some may argue that home life is too monotone. Yes, indeed it is. For this, one can go on some adventures and vacations which will be a new learning experience in life. Seeing new places, meeting new people, facing new hurdles, all add up to the experience list. All these activities create lots of excitement and bring joy and fun. It is a rejuvenating experience to mind and refreshes the body completely. Missing home food and eating out, spending a few days away from home, managing inconveniences of journey whether it is the scorching heat of the sun or drenching rain etc is all okay for a certain period of time until that monotone is broken away. After a certain period of time, this whole excitement of seeing new things and meeting new people wears off and an individual wants to go back to experiencing the same old things and familiar people. He starts to miss his sweet home.as he starts missing that warmth which only his sweet home can provide.

Conclusion

There is no other place in this universe like our home and this is because our home is where our heart is actually. All our beloved family members stay underneath it and all our beloved friends, relatives and others come to meet us over there. It is a place where we do not keep our guards up. It is a place where we feel that we can express our emotions freely and still will not be judged for our actions or emotions. This is because everyone around us either cares about us or wish the best for us and thus it becomes a place of least embarrassment and total freedom. We feel free to emote and act in a way we want. Without a home, our lives would just be miserable as it is not just a matter of shelter that our home provides to us but it also promises safety and warmth. No matter how brightly fortune favors us and we become successful in buying many possessions, but still, the home will be the place which we will always crave to go back. This is because the kind of comfort and ease it provides, no other possessions can ever provide to us. Instead of taking home for granted as most of us do and consider it to be not more than a pit-stop, it is high time that we consider its value. It is a place not just made out of some bricks, it is, in fact, a place which brings the best out of us and helps us to be ourselves.

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https://www.boddunan.com/topics/miscellaneous.html?view=article&id=25551We all know that concentration is the key to achieve success. In absence of it, success will hardly come to us. This is the reason that right from the early childhood, more stress is given on increasing the mental concentration. It is actually nothing but keeping the complete focus on one thing at a time and this is usually accomplished when one deviates oneself from everything that is taking place around. Concentration helps a person to become mentally tough. This, in turn, will help him to perform his best irrespective of the type of prevailing circumstances around him. It reduces the chances of getting psyched out. As soon as the concentration shifts, lack of focus will ruin the whole game and if we are not able to bring back the lost focus then within no time we will end up losing i.e. if we do not have concentration then it is like we cannot complete any task in this world. This is the significance of concentration or focus.

Concentration Vs lack of focus

The function of the mind is to think and it thinks in all directions. Since it is dissipated in various different routes, its enormous power is not put to the best use. If it is allowed to dwell in different directions and in different places and if it is allowed to think about so many things one after the other without concentrating on one single aspect then this kind of lack of concentration will surely affect the working potential and mind will thereby become an average mind. If we want to excel in what we are doing then we need to learn to focus on things and this is what concentration is all about. When we make our mind to focus on one point or on one aspect at a time when this kind of holding of focus will help us reach the state of meditation. A fully focused mind does not wander here and there. It is unaware of the things which are taking place externally. Its focus is completely on one point and in one place.

Power of concentrated mind

The concentrated mind has enormous power and thus it has enhanced the ability to accomplish any task when compared with a mind that gets easily distracted and loses concentration. It has the ability to complete tasks which might seem almost impossible for an average brain. This is the reason that greatness is always associated with the one-pointedness ability of mind which is nothing but the concentration in other words. Concentration is also directly proportional to relaxation. The more concentrated mind is the more relaxed it is and it is useless to say that it is free of stress and tension. If we want to remain mentally healthy then we need to teach our mind to remain relaxed and calm and it can only do so if it stops wandering here and there without any purpose and gets engrossed deeply on the subject which it needs to focus.

Concentration improves working ability

Concentration helps us to enjoy what we are working on. Work will then hardly seem like a trouble to us because it will become effortless. It will be carried out efficiently and effortlessly without any pain and this will make the whole experience enjoyable. Complete focus does not leave any space for errors and when the concentration is complete then tasks seem to get accomplished beforehand. Concentration also increases our inner power and channelizes our energies in the right direction instead of letting them get wasted. We need to work on increasing our concentrating power and keeping our focus because concentration is essential to attract inspirations and opportunities. It is the major element essential to bring success and in its absence, no way one can become successful in accomplishing any task.

In the year 2017, one of the biggest problems faced by the people living in Imphal was regarding the solid waste management. Like in many other urban areas of India, solid waste management in Imphal consists of centralised method in which unsegregated wastes are collected from households and other business institutions either by Imphal Municipal Corporation or by some other private agencies. The collected wastes are then dumped in open fields located in low lying areas like Sanakeithel, Lamphel etc. These disposal sites are often near some residential areas. As a result, the stench that comes out of the accumulated wastes become a problem for the people living there. This often becomes a cause of conflict between the residential people and the people from agencies dealing with waste management.

The problem of solid waste management

The problems related to waste disposal is not only limited to small towns like Imphal that lack infrastructure to dispose the waste efficiently but is spread all around the world. Urbanisations have increased tremendously waste related problems. According to the central pollution control board, India alone produce about 52 million tonnes of waste every year. Its worse in countries like China, Brazil, Japan, Germany and US.

One of the factors which worsens the problem is the prevailing' use and throw' life style. For instance, using disposable plates and disposal glass for any get together, in stations etc or using polythene for buying things etc. Though these items are quite convenient for using, they constitute a significant amount of trash.

Impacts of unscientific dumping of solid waste

In many places, the solid waste are often dumped in open fields or landfills which are not managed properly. The trash would litter all over the areas. Such improperly manged landfills have lots of adverse impacts on the environment, some of which are summarized as under:

Apart from the strong stench that comes out of the accumulated waste, dumping grounds can attract many vectors of diseases such as rats, cockroaches, insects etc

Burning of trashes containing plastics and polythene in open may release gaseous pollutants like dioxin, furans, polychlorinated biphenyls etc which are associated with discomforts such as allergies, breathing problems, aathma etc. Pollutants also increase the risk of heart diseases.

Open dumps releases large amount of methane due to the anaerobic decomposition taking place among the accumulated waste. Methane is one of the green house gases that contribute to global warming. Studies shows that methane is 23 times more potent than carbon dioxide to trap heat in the atmosphere.

The chemicals leached from the accumulated wastes contaminate soils and ground water.

Stray animals which rummage for food from the waste often ingest harmful substance along with the food.

Accidents at dumping sites

Apart from the effects on human health and environment, accidents often take place at the dumping sites. In the early 70s, the cases of spilling of the contents from the drums dumped at the valley of drums, Kentucky which eventually contaminated the neaeby creeks with toxic chemicals was widely publicized. A few years later it also caught fire due to the methane produced. Similar incident occurred in India when the methane produced by the accumulated waste of Deonar landfills in Mumbai caught fire and burned for about ten days in February 2016. Accident of different nature took place at Ghazipur landfills of east Delhi. The 50 tonnes of garbage dumped there came crashing down on September 2017, catching people unaware. Two people were killed in the mishap.

Trying to find a solution

Considering the immense adverse impacts, solid wastes have on the environment, different government and non government agencies have taken up waste related projects. Institutions like World Bank and UNDP have also been funding projects to develop waste to energy infrastructures, sanitary landfills, support recycling etc. In spite of the efforts being made, no nations have been able to deal with the problem successfully. The only nation which come close to being successful is Sweden, though it also has its share of critics.

Success stories

Sweden

Efforts to improve the waste management in Sweden began in 1970s with implementation of strict waste disposal rules. Swedish laws make the producer of wastes responsible for every works related to the collections and disposal of wastes. Government also provide recycling stations within 300 meters from any residential areas which make collection of wastes easier. The collected wastes are either recycled or sent to the plant for converting into energy. It is said that only about 1% of the trash produced ends up in sanitary landfills. They have been so successful in managing the wastes that in 2015, Sweden imported 1.3 million tonnes of wastes from countries like Norway, UK and Ireland as raw materials. The critics however point out that more amount of wastes are converted into energy and less amount are recycled which is not eco friendly.

Oslo

In case of Oslo, the citizens play an important role in managing the wastes. They segregate the domestic wastes at household levels by putting the wastes in different coloured bags. The plastic wastes are put in blue bags, the food wastes in green wastes and other types of wastes in other coloured bags. The trash bags are collected and sent to the processing plant which are provided with optical sensors. The optical sensors detect the green and blue bags as they move forward in the machine and diverted to other units for further processing. The blue bags containing plastics are sent to the remoulding unit while the green bags containing food wastes are converted into biofuels and bio fertiliser. Other type of wastes ends up in plant that convert them into energy.

Allappuzha

Allappuzha is a village in Kerala. A few years back the villagers took the responsibility to segregate the wastes when they realized the harm caused by the unhygienic dumping of the waste at the open landfills. The organic wastes segregated are composed and converted to manure while the non biodegradable wastes are handled by the municipalities.

Panaji

Panaji, the capital of Goa is another city worth praising for successfully implementing its' segregation of waste at source' policy. The municipalities have developed certain mechanism to ensure proper segregation of wastes. Apart from providing different coloured bins for collections of different types of dry wastes, the pick up trucks of the municipality collect biodegradable and non biodegradable waste on different days of the week. Consumers dumping unsegregated wastes are also penalised.

Role of rag pickers

In many countries which follow centralised method of collecting unsegregated wastes and dumping them in a dumping sites, rag pickers play an important role of segregating the wastes. They would pick up, sort out and sell any waste worth recycling to a middleman who in turn sells them to the manufacturing plant. It is reported that about 20-25% of the wastes are recycled by them. Recognising the important role played by them, Brazil has integrated the waste pickers into the municipal solid waste management system.

Role of individuals

Though most of the nations have formulated policies related to the waste management, the citizens need to play a bigger role in order to implement it successfully. Following the golden 4R rules of reduce, reuse, recycle and recover can make a significant change.

When we recycle materials, we not only curb the problems related to wastes but also save energy. Since recycled materials have already been processed, it would require less energy to convert them into a new item. For instance, according to a website of Standford university, one tonne of recycled aluminium saves 14000Kwh of energy which is equivalent to 95% reduction in the energy required than manufacturing from its ore, bauxite. Similarly, one tonne of newsprints saves 601Kwh of energy and one tonne of recycled steel saves around 642 Kwh of energy.

Conclusion

With urbanization, one cannot avoid generating wastes. But the various cases of success stories have shown that most of the domestic waste are manageable wastes. With a little change in our lifestyles we can also mage them effectively.

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https://www.boddunan.com/topics/miscellaneous.html?view=article&id=25411You may have heard about an article, tweet or some other content that had gone ‘viral’ on the internet. Almost every blogger in this world wants this. But it is not that simple to achieve. Now the real question is, what is this phenomenon called viral content? What are the factors that could cause a content to go viral?

What is a Viral Article?

A viral article is an article that is shared or seen by many people online. With the sudden expansion and penetration of social media sites, the probability of any type of content or article to go viral has been greatly increased. Images, videos, and gifs are particularly more likely to go viral. These can be conveniently integrated into any article. These are the images that could be shared all over Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. The videos uploaded to YouTube can get millions of hits. Furthermore, a Viral content could be one of the most important factors to get a lot of ‘good-quality backlinks.’ This will help your article to be read or viewed by millions of viewers. However, the problem is, what element makes a Viral article and I will reveal this question in this article:

Factors that could Make an Article go Viral

To be viral, an article should have to be able to relate to a lot of people. Typically, a viral article has one or more of these factors:

It should be funny

It should be able to generate controversy

It should be on a popular subject

It should be helpful and unique

Not all articles have all of these characteristics, but you truly just want one or two of them. Amusing or adorable images of cats, dogs, and kids are always well-liked. So are hot topics, and in several cases, this sort of content is nasty or frightening. An example of the second one is when there is a panic about an epidemic of an infection or various other sicknesses and everybody is searching for information on how to prevent or cure it.

Misinformation, which may or may not be true, are mostly liable to spread swiftly. Just like a gossip can be repeated in the workplace or college, on the web it can spread across the globe in a short time. For instance, you will occasionally see viral tweets, photos or articles about the death of a famous person, that later proved to be false. I don’t suggest that you do this type of viral promotion, but I’m just telling you about it as an example of how anything can spread on the web.

Write Articles on the Trending Topics

Trendy is also an essential feature that a majority of viral articles have. Almost all of the trendiest stuff on the web is about movie stars, cricketers, political leaders and other famous personalities.

Occasionally a trending topic could be about an event or some new thing instead of people. Consider all the publicity that happens when a new product is launched by a big company. Events such as natural disasters, cricket matches, and elections could be tremendously popular topics.

How to Create a Viral Article or Content

You may have thought this to yourself, “What is the secret of creating a viral article or content?” Sadly, there is no single thing you can do that will make your article or content to go viral on the internet. But if you include the factors mentioned above in your article, you can drastically improve the probability.

Your Title should be SEO Friendly

The heading or title of your article is really essential because this is what your readers will see initially. It also a very important factor, in raking your post in a search engine. Give your blog article an appealing and suitable heading because this will significantly increase the possibility of readers sharing it online.

Mix a Trendy Topic with Unique and Interesting Content

You have a very small possibility of having an article go viral if it is on a topic that no one really knows about. It is all right to write about your desired subject that is not popular or well known but just do not look forward to this type of article or post to go viral. Remain up to date with the news, regularly check Google Trends and search websites like Reddit, Quora to know what readers are presently discussing, watching and reading.

Although it’s helpful to choose a trending topic, but if you want your article to go viral you should write something unique and personal about the topic. You should not just replicate something that you read on some other site. Maybe you can write about a controversial topic, citing facts and data in opposition to what many people are saying about it.

Make Plenty of Awesome Content

Bear in mind that only high-quality content will typically go viral. So don’t imagine that all you write is going to be trending worldwide. One of the best ways to make a viral article is to constantly post loads of good quality articles. That would increase your probability of having few of these articles go viral. Write an article with a unique angle and always give it a personal touch. Especially, when you read a blog post, you want to read about the personal views of the author on that subject. If an article lacks this then it would be just another blog post.

Use the Influence of Social Media

Although some content may go viral with no effort by the author, but this is uncommon. The further you spread your post, the more probable it is that it will go viral. In order to accomplish this, you have to make constant efforts to connect with individuals on social media sites. If you have plenty of followers on Twitter or Facebook fan page, or Instagram and other social sharing platforms, it hugely improves the probability of your article to go viral. As you have a lot of influence and visibility among your followers and subscribers.

Use Infographics in your Post

Infographics like pictures and photos are a great way to make your article more readable and attractive. This will greatly increase the possibility of it going viral. You may create a video in which you share your opinions on a subject. Instead of just trying to increase the visibility of the video, you can insert it into an article and give some significant observations as well. Images are also a great way to attract reader’s interest and thus increase the possibility that people will share the article.

Research Other Viral Blog Posts

In order to clearly understand which type of content goes viral online, you have to pay close attention. New articles, videos, and images go viral every day. Visit different blogs and websites and find out which articles are becoming popular. You should never replicate somebody else’s article, but you could study and observe the article and get a clear idea about what factors made it viral.

Choose the Type of Traffic You Want

Several posts go viral just because it has a shock value that could generate an emotional response from the people. If you get some fame for creating this type of content, you will be infamous instead of famous. If you want fame at any price, you might be able to produce some type of controversy that gets a lot of attention. But, if you want to be trusted and respected by your readers, then you have to avoid this type of publicity.

Conclusion

Although it’s fine to have the aim of writing viral articles, you shouldn’t expect all your articles to go viral. It may only occur once in a while, and it is not possible to foresee precisely which article will be the one. The only thing you can do is to improve the possibility of it, by following the upper mentioned factors in mind.

Happiness is within us but we keep searching it outside as we are not aware regarding its existence within us. We have rather misunderstood it with success and achievements. We feel that if we reach our goal and attain success, only then we will be able to achieve it. In this case, happiness becomes destination and there is no surety whether we will reach it or not. If we fail to reach our destination then happiness may never come to us. Happiness is in fact a journey and we can remain happy in every moment and every second cause it is just a state of mind and is embedded within us. We need not search it anywhere outside.

Happiness is Nothing but an Art of Living in the Moment

Past is history and future is mystery and any thought regarding past or future is waste of time. Instead we should learn to live in present. We have to just do what we have to do without wasting even a single second about the outcome. This is because we do not have a control over outcome. Making efforts is in our hand and we just need to concentrate on that. Everything rest is illusion and whatever comes in our way should be accepted irrespective of whether it is favorable or unfavorable. There is no better time to start being happy than right now. Life is filled with challenges and hurdles and we cannot keep on postponing our right to being happy until we get our act together. We have to just learn to embrace the challenges cause they are a part of journey. Once we accept whatever comes in our way, life will start flowing around these challenges and will make through them. Thinking or worrying about time ahead of now is not going to make our today pleasant. However, living in the moment will teach us that happiness is a journey and thereby we will embrace it and revel in the moment.

Happiness is not a Destination

If some one is trying to find a way to happiness then they have to understand that there isn't any way. Happiness is just an experience which teaches an individual to live in moment and experience everything the present moment offers. Happiness is a journey and journey starts when we take our very first step. To reach our destination, we have to take one step at a time and just cannot take a big leap all of a sudden from starting point to the end point. This is the reason that each step is important and each step counts. We can remain happy throughout our journey and this attitude will make our entire path pleasurable. Reaching destination is the ultimate goal but when we are happy in our journey itself then the journey will seem pleasurable and not seem very difficult to us. All we have to do is accept ourselves, accept others the way they are as well as accept the challenges that come in our way. There is no way to happiness, in fact happiness is the way.

Obstacles in Journey

We keep delaying living our lives cause we do not feel like beginning to live it. We are living our lives but it is not real. We need to learn to live real life. We feel that we have to first settle unfinished businesses, pay all the debts, get our acts together and pass the obstacles. Only after we have successfully cleared all our hurdles, our life will begin. We just do not understand that this itself is life. Obstacles are a part of our life and we have to cross them by living a real, happy life and not cross them and be happy because ahead of crossing one obstacle stands many more such hurdles.

Treasure Every Moment

Time does not wait for anyone. If we do not live in the moment then we are going to lose so much. We cannot keep our one foot in the past, holding on to all those things which bothers us and the other foot in future, thinking about what it might bring to us. If this is the case then half of the time we will dwell in past and the other half spend thinking about future. Rarely anything we do will make us cherish happiness in our present. Each moment counts and how we deal with present moment and the very next one and ahead of next one will actually decide whether we will ever be able to experience happiness or not.

Happiness in Real Sense

Happiness itself is real and changes its form cause it is present everywhere and in everything. When we allow it to change its form, we save ourselves from being disappointed by the change. It is found along the road and not at the end of the road where journey ends. Cause at the end, everything is finished, nothing awaits and thus need for happiness is today not tomorrow or anytime in the future. Happiness is a spiritual experience and awakening of accepting everything and everyone coming in the way and living every minute with love and contentment. Happiness is not a place where we can travel to or not an object which we can own. It is not a dress which can we worn or food that we can consume. Neither it can be earned nor it can be lost as it is present universally in non-destructible form. Real happiness is embedded within us and all we have to do is stop wasting our time searching for it in outside world. When we stop striving for it, we will achieve it. The more we share, the more it grows.

Healthy Mind Leads to Happiness

Happiness is a state of mind. An unhealthy mind who overthinks and is doubtful can never bring happiness. Deep sense of flourishing coming out of a healthy mind itself is happiness or in other words it can be said that happiness occurs in deep sleep. This is because only that person can be happy all the time who is in a state of deep rest i.e., in relaxed state. it is an optimal state of being. Mind is the one who interprets everything and if it is healthy then rather than making efforts to change the world, it will always change its perspective towards the world and this kind of interpretation will have a deep impact on happiness. A person who constantly tries to judge others and change them as per his wish can never be happy and a person who accepts others for who they are will reach optimal state. Happiness is neither a feeling of being happy nor it should be misunderstood for our good mood or pleasant emotion.

Journey of Happiness

Happiness is an inside job and can only be attained if we bring our thoughts, words and actions in harmony. In this journey of happiness, we need to focus on journey and not on destination as destination is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to destination. If we are loving our journey, only then we will make it successfully to our destination. In this journey, we will encounter ourselves with innumerable souls and if we share our happiness with them then it seems to double but if we quietly reach our destination without enjoying the ride then we are missing so much in our lives. Secret of happiness is to share it with others and find happiness in others joys. It is more of giving than receiving. Happiness can never be a destination, it is a by-product. We relate it with success and achievements but it is rather much more than how much we possess. It is all about how much we enjoy in our journey rather than worrying about what is stored for us at destination.

How to Achieve Happiness and Enjoy the Journey

Happiness only comes to an individual who has made up his mind to remain happy. When he firmly makes up his mind and does some soul searching, he will realize that he does not have to look for it in the outer world as it is present within himself in abundant amount. Once he discovers this, he will cherish it throughout his life and share it with others. Happiness can be found if a person frees himself from distractions. Opening of all the internal blockage will lead us to the path of happiness. If we start accepting ourselves for who we are in this journey, we will make a great progress and will simultaneously start accepting others for who they are. Instead of longing for possessions in this journey, we will practice contentment in what we have and in this way we do not have to hunt for happiness anywhere else. We cannot buy it from some where, our actions itself leads us to it. It is not a station that we need to arrive rather it is a manner in which we travel and all we have to do is stop every now and then, take a pause and live in the moment.

Conclusion

Happiness is our conscious choice. We will remain happy only if we enjoy journey of our life and not worry about destination. Happiness is made up of small stops and tiny halts which will help us to stop every now and then so that these pauses help us realize how beautiful our journey is. All these will ultimately take us to our destination but we have to take frequent breaks to analyze everything that comes in our way. Simply taking a big leap to reach destination is of no good and also such leaps are so infrequent. If we do not care about these small stops, our destination will not be of any importance at all. Purpose of our life should be to enjoy happiness by living in present and share it with others to see it expand. Living in present will teach us that happiness is a journey and we have to enjoy our ride. We cannot ask for happiness on condition rather we can only discover it if we do not set any condition. Journey can be joyful and pleasant if on journey of our life, we have happiness beside us. Otherwise journey becomes dull and boring and even after reaching on destination we will not feel the way we were supposed to feel. Thereby wisdom lies in fact which teaches an individual to detach oneself from distractions and understand that happiness exists within oneself and also stop searching happiness in some materialistic comfort. We should no longer wait for hurdles to clear the road or until we get our act together cause hurdles are a part of our life and we will hardly find a clear road. We have to understand that happiness is a journey and thus enjoy it to the fullest.

It may take some time to transform the conversational behavior that’s been entrenched all through your life, but it is achievable.

To not make this longer than required let’s just skip right to some general mistakes most of us have made in conversations and some solutions to these problems.

Proper Delivery

One of the most significant things in a discussion is not what you say, but the way you say it. A change in these practices can make a huge differentiation in your tone and body language is a crucial part of any communication. Here are a few things that you have to keep in mind:

Just slow down. When you are thrilled about something it’s natural to get excited and start to talk at a rapid pace. Take a moment to breathe and slow down. It will make it a lot easier for others to pay attention and for you to comprehensibly deliver what you want to say to them.

Speak up. You should not hesitate talk as loud as you must to for people to pay attention to you.

Speak in a clear tone. Don’t mutter or mumble.

It’s alright to show emotions. People would get bored after a while if you speak in a monotonous voice. Let your emotions reflect in your voice.

Take a moment. Slowing down your conversation as well as adding a little pause between sentences could create a bit of excitement and anticipation. People would begin to genuinely get interested in listing to what you’re saying. Listen to good podcasts on the internet. Pay attention to how using tiny pauses between sentences makes what they are saying appear even more exciting.

Learn a little about how to improve your body language as it can make the conversation a lot more exciting.

Tightening up

When in conversation with somebody you just meet or when the typical few topics have been covered, an uncomfortable silence or atmosphere may emerge. Or you may just become uneasy, not knowing precisely why.

If you’re not sure how to move the conversation forward, you can always talk about the weather or the latest news. It’s a good idea to stay up to date on the latest water-cooler topics. Like what were the cliffhangers or twists on the most recent episode of a popular TV series.

Comment on the decor of the party, or the kind of music that is playing in the background. You can always start discussing anything or anyone at the party.

Increase your rapport. If you feel edgy or strange when you meet somebody for the first time, just presume rapport. What I mean by this is that you visualize how you generally feel when you meet one of your close friends. And act as if that this new colleague is one of your close friends. Don’t exaggerate it, though, you may not want to get too close right away. But if you visualize this, you’ll go into an optimistic emotional position. And you’ll be more open and start a conversation with this new individual with a smile and a welcoming and comfortable manner. Since that’s how you chat with your pals. It may sound a bit crazy or too simple. But it truly works.

Don’t Talk About Sensitive or Negative Topic

If you’re in a small get together or where you are meeting some people, you should not discuss some particular topics. Discussing your ill health or affairs, your awful job or boss, technical jargon that only you and someone else in your field understand or anything that could ruin the mood of a conversation. You should always try to avoid such topics. You should not discuss religion and politics with strangers, as these are always a sensitive and personal topic.

Listen Carefully

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” – Ernest Hemingway

Don’t be like the majority of the folks. Don’t just wait impatiently for your turn to talk, also check your pride and ego. Learn to actually listen to what the person is really saying.

When you begin to actually listen, you’ll pick up on lots of possible paths in the discussion. But stay away from yes or no type of questions as they will not offer you a great deal of information. If somebody mentions that they went fishing with their friends last week, you can, for instance, ask:

Where did you go fishing?

What do you like generally regarding fishing?

Did you do anything else besides fishing?

The person will dig deeper into the topic, providing you more information to work with and extra paths for you select from.

If they say that they don’t know, at first, don’t give up. Poke a little deeper. Question again. They obviously know. You just have to give them a little time to think about it. And as they begin to open up, the discussion becomes fascinating because it’s not on auto-pilot any longer.

Don’t Ask too Many Questions

If you ask lots of questions the exchange can feel like you are interviewing the person. Or like you don’t have much to add. One option is to use both questions and statements. For example, in the conversation above, you could avoid the question and say:

Yeah, it’s a great way to just get away with your pals and unwind over the weekend. We like to go camping and play cricket or football.

Great. We went out in my friend’s ferry previous week.

And then the dialogue can smoothly proceed from there. And you can talk about the cricket or football, or your favorite beer.

Don’t be an attention-grabber

Many people have been guilty of this. Everybody involved in a discussion should get their fair share of time to express their opinions. Don’t interrupt anyone when he or she is telling some anecdote or expressing his or her view on what you are discussing to switch the attention back to yourself. Don’t take over their story about fishing before it’s completed to share your fishing-anecdote. You have to find equilibrium between listening and speaking.

Control Your Instinct to be always Right

You should not argue and control your instinct to be correct about every subject. A lot of times a conversation is not really a debate. You should be able to keep the discussion in a pleasant and friendly manner. There is no one keeping score on who wins or who loses a conversation. Instead, just loosen up and facilitate to keep the conversation going in a friendly manner.

Don’t be Boring

Don’t brag on about your new bike for 15 minutes unmindful to your surroundings. Always be ready to drop a topic when you begin to turn off people. Or when everybody is getting fed up and the matter is starting to annoy them.

Another way to have something exciting to say is just to lead an exciting life and to concentrate on the optimistic stuff. Don’t start to complain about your spouse or your job. Others don’t want to listen to that. Instead, speak about your last trip vacation, some amusing story that happened when you were there, your plans for next holidays or something hilarious or thrilling.

One other way is to be actually paying attention.

Dale Carnegie once said:

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.”

A common knowledge about many things or at least open to discussing them, instead of trying to guide the discussion back to your preferred subject, is a good quality.

You should be open to all kinds of topic. Don’t cling to one topic. It will make the exchange feel more comfortable and open. You will give the impression that you are a person who can discuss many things without any difficulty. As you’ve most likely experienced with others; this quality is something you welcome in a discussion and makes you realize that you can bond with that person easily.

Not Responding Properly

You should open up and say what you truly believe, share how you feel. If somebody shares an incident, open up too and talk about one of your experiences too. Don’t just stand there staring and looking uninterested. Respond with short sentences. When somebody invests in a conversation, they would like you to invest too.

You cannot constantly wait for the other person to make the initial move. When required, be the first person to open up and move the discussion forward. One way is to replace some questions with statements. It would make you less flaccid.

Not Making an Effort to Contribute

Sometimes you may think that you don’t have anything to add to a conversation. But make an effort in any case. Listen carefully and be genuinely interested in what the other person is saying. Ask constructive questions. Make appropriate statements.

But don’t complicate it. Take one step at a time. If you try to do it all at once, it will be confusing and overwhelming for you. Just choose the two or three most significant things that you think requires improving. Consciously improve them by practicing every day for 2-3 weeks. Observe the difference and keep at it. Soon you will make it into a habit and you don’t have to try too hard. It would pop up instinctively when you are in a conversation.

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https://www.boddunan.com/topics/miscellaneous.html?view=article&id=25401Each day we need to cross so many hurdles. We have tons of responsibilities to fulfill and when obstacles make our path difficult, our health suffers. Health does not only refer to body, but to mind too. Body becomes tired, mind becomes restless. Heart no longer remains light. As a result our soul becomes injured and spirit gets crushed. Living daily with these kind of changes developing in our body may seem normal to us. This is because we rarely remember what vibrant living is. Most of us lose hope as we accept our present life style and do not even try to get back that vibrant feeling which we had once. We need not look for directions on outside as path or direction is inside i..e, within itself. When this internal path is followed, it will make our lives joyful and rich.

Need to Heal One Self

Stressful life will not keep us at ease and we will start feeling that we are out of sync. This feeling itself will bring pain and suffering and this feeling develops because our body, mind and spirit are not in sync. Low energy and lack of enthusiasm will always make us feel dull and we will often miss those vibrant colors in our life. This will lower our mood and we will always feel that we are not living the way we should live i.e., something is missing in our lives. We cannot live this kind of life and thus all these problems have to be addressed and thereby we need to follow a right path.

Inner Healing Path

Our inner self guides us in all walks of life. Only thing essential is that we have to learn to listen to it. Most of the times, we neglect our inner voice and invite trouble for ourselves. We need to learn to open ourselves to inner guidance as well as inner healing pathway. Our inner guide help us through our senses, visions, intuitions, dreams, insights and when we listen to these guidance, we follow a path of awakening. Healing is an internal change which will demand realization to acceptance that it is us who are responsible for creating our thoughts, feelings, characters, personalities, actions, destiny etc. We become wise when we heal ourselves from inside and thus we change ourselves, instead of changing the world. We all deserve to live life to the fullest and feel best. This is our right and thus we need to learn to heal ourselves from inside.

Recovery Path

Our healing path is as unique and sacred as we are. All the knowledge that is essential for our healing and to reach divinity is abundantly present within us. Our sacred healing path leads us to the path of spirituality where only wisdom breathes as there is no scope for ignorance. This path helps us to identify with ourselves and we find our way back to been empowered. We are usually stuck in our old belief systems. These beliefs are destructive and do not take us anywhere, instead they block us. Healing path present within us helps us enormously by providing complete clarity to us and also empowers us so that we become whole self.

How to Begin Journey on Healing Path

Changes have to be made so that we can begin our journey of internal awakening. Every individual's path is different and thus we have to stop comparing ourselves with others. A whole lot of commitment is required to walk on new found path. Going backward does not makes any sense. Healing begins when we want it to begin. Thus, desire is essential and for desire to arise we need to gain knowledge. Thus, reading becomes essential. Once one makes up mind to begin journey on healing path, one will face many obstacles and hurdles in way and that will lead to distraction and to stop deviation from right path, one has to take help of meditation which will relieve oneself from anxiety state. Spend more and more time with healer who will help in removal of all those filters we have in ourselves which works as our blockage. As we embrace more and more in our spiritual journey, more and more healing will take place within ourselves.