I’ve decided to do an interview about asexuality that may end up on the radio. I’m not going to use a pseudonym so if it airs there will be no denying it. I’ve done interviews for magazines and newspapers by phone and email and calmly answered questions that would make me turn aubergine if asked by a personal acquaintance. I’ve no problem being out to people all over the planet, but telling those I see every day is a different thing altogether. I know I’m not alone in feeling this way because several members on the site have said they’d do publicity as long as no one they knew would be likely to see it or as long as they could use a pseudonym and not be photographed. And I wonder: Why? Why are we so scared to say, ‘Hey! I’m not interested in sex!’ Is having no desire to touch another person’s genitals so taboo?

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Asexual Perspectives

As humans, we are in general a social species, programmed to support each other in family units and communities and it seems often mob rule dictates what is normal, expected or acceptable behaviour. Especially in a modern society where the media projects these ideas into every facet of our lives, we are now educated very early on as to how life apparently is. No matter what our true feelings inside, we may now attempt to adhere to the ‘rules’ that we have collectively set ourselves.