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Reader question: I LOVE pleasing my man, but I've found it really hard to make him orgasm when I give him any form of oral. I wouldn't say I'm an expert but have never had this problem before. How can I give him a blow job that will blow his mind? You’ve already got the most important thing going for you: enthusiasm. No man wants to look down at his partner cringing or not enjoying herself. You want to please him. You want him to writhe with pleasure. And, of course, you want him to finish with an exquisite crescendo. First, I’m going to give you the bad news: Some guys simply can’t finish through oral sex. Even if his celebrity crush volunteered to do the job, it still might not happen, so don’t take it personally. That said, you still want to give it your best shot, which is great. Here are a few tips to help put him over the edge during oral: 1. Get into it: I know you want to please him, but does he know it? You seem enthusiastic, but you have to show it as well. I’m talking moaning, intermittent eye contact, and licking read more

My friend has a rule that's served her well between the sheets: Before her husband can have his way with her, he must head downtown—there are no if, ands, or buts about it. "That's how I get off," she says, as she shrugs off the demand. "And it only seems fair that if he's going to have an orgasm, I should too." Hear, hear! But does she ever return the favor? That question has another unequivocal answer: No. Oral sex, for this couple, is not a two-way street. Of course I had to bring this juicy bit of gossip to two other friends, whom I expected to react with shock over the inequity of the whole sexual situation. "Well," one woman cautiously began, "I don't give blow jobs either. I really can't blame her." And as I turned to my third friend, counting on her to squash the ridiculousness of this one-way oral sex street, she too shook her head. "I agree. I hate to do it, so I don't. Ever." I understand that myriad things can make oral sex uncomfortable, from women who have hypersensitive gag-reflexes to ball sweat not being your scent of choice. For this reason, I read more

Let's get one thing clear from the get-go: Blow jobs aren't going anywhere. But it's a nasty little myth that men don't also crave a hand job here and there from you. What they want is a good hand job—and if you can deliver that, this is what they love about a little hand action. 1. The view. While it's true nothing beats gazing down at you when your mouth is, err, full, there's also something to be said for hand-job scenery, which, depending on your position, often offers a more complete view of your body. Just be sure to show it off in something sexy, or nothing at all! 2. He can touch and kiss you at the same time. When you're lying beside him or kneeling on top, your hands are busy, but his can easily reach all over you. You can also kiss while you touch him, making the act sensual in ways you simply can't during a blow job. 3. A hand job adds variety. Not only does a hand job switch up your usual sex routine, the act itself can be full of twists—pun intended—and turns that make it feel so good. A hand job read more

For the most part, guys are delighted to receive a blow job — so shelve any fears or insecurities you may have. That said, there’s a lot to think about while you’re doing it, so some tiny (but important) things may be slipping under your bj radar. Here’s a little reminder of those things you may be forgetting about during oral sex. read more

When I talk to my girlfriends about blow jobs, they tell me that they have no problem starting, but they rarely "complete" because it just takes too long. (It's all about the follow through, ladies!) For those of you who feel the same way, I have a killer sex tip to share: read more

We all know that oral sex is important. Fun fact: One of the earliest incarnations of fellatio in literature occurs in one stanza of a piece by English Romantic poet Percy Bysshe Shelley, who died in 1822. (The line is "Suck on, suck on, I glow, I glow!") read more

Here is a conversation my best friend had with her boyfriend the other day, including (what she considered) the subtext. MY FRIEND Baby, wanna start watching The Bachelor with me? [Please please please please!] HER BOYFRIEND I... don't... really want to... watch... The Bachelor. [If you go down on me I will watch The Bachelor.] MY FRIEND It is on at 8 p.m.! [OK.] read more

Oral sex, blowjobs, blowies...whatever they want to call it, one thing's for sure: guys love it! And they love it more when you're excited to participate and confident in what you're doing. Well, (expert) knowledge is power, ladies, and who better to get the goods from than the queen of sex herself, Dr. Laura Berman. You might remember her from such hits as...In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman and um, Oprah! See what she has to say about an often under-appreciated sensitive spot that's sure to give him maximum pleasure. read more

Good morning, sweet readers! Let’s kick off this hump day by gabbing about a very racy topic: blow jobs. Sure, we’ve all got the basics down, but as John helpfully pointed out a few weeks ago, there are a whole lot of tips and tricks worth mastering. read more

You know those random and wacky laws that are inexplicably still on the books? Well, the great state of Louisiana has finally lifted one of its old-school laws: the ban on oral sex (and anal sex!), which early legislators had deemed “unnatural carnal copulation!” That’s right; you can now get all up in each other’s business without fear of violating indecency laws. read more

Do you and your boyfriend ever celebrate special occasions with a round of hooking up? Maybe after you’ve completed a big project for work he gives you kudos by massaging your butt cheeks or by scrubbing your back in the shower? The next time you’d like to fete your man, try this blast from the past trick read more

My dears, it's such fun to gossip about sex tips here on Smitten. And since we try to share a flirty hooking up hint with you daily, I’ve heard a good number of awesomely hot moves. But then, there are quite a few horrible, insanely bad ones that don’t make the cut. I’m thrilled to share the best of the worst with you. read more

I’m so pumped that you dolls got a kick out of reading about the blow job workshop I took with Blow by Blow! Today, I thought I’d share a nifty little sex tip I picked up during my class. Racy oral sex stuff ahead so proceed with caution. read more

Like Erin, I’ve been to sex toy parties. Despite the blush-worthy nature of chatting with your gals about which vibrators get you off the best, I’ve always had a blast at the racy get togethers. So, when I heard about a similar kind of party that’s basically a Blow Jobs 101 class, I knew I had to investigate. And of course, share my oral sex findings with you Smitten kittens! R-rated and NSFW stuff ahead so if you're feeling shy, don't look! read more