Why Must People Guess My Baby's Gender?!

My husband and I decided not to find out whether we're having a boy or a girl. I wouldn't have minded knowing—I'm a planner!—but he really, really wanted to wait, so I conceded.

When people ask us what we're having and we say we don't know, they seem genuinely stumped. (We can't be the only couple who's waiting to find out, right?) The first thing they want to know is what I think we're having. Since I have no feelings either way, next they want to know what my husband thinks we're having. He's gone back and forth—I think he's on "boy" now—so naturally that doesn't satisfy them either.

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The next part of the conversation involves a series of questions—all based on old wives' tales—the answers to which are supposed to give the questioning party some sense of resolution. I'm moody and have upgraded chocolate to "food group" status, therefore I'm having a girl. But wait! I'm clumsy and can't get enough lemonade, so it could be a boy! I've been asked if I've swung my wedding ring over my stomach, checked the Chinese gender predictor, or tried mixing my urine with Drano. No, no, and NO! (Ew!)

If I'm okay with waiting to find out, why is everyone else in such a rush?

Did you find out your baby's gender in advance? Or was it a surprise? If you waited, were people constantly trying to figure it out beforehand?