Come home today and give to your partner slow massage on the whole body. Take 15 minutes to massage gently his/her genitals. You will see a big difference in your mood not only in your partner’s. You will be glowing from peace, joy and happiness!

Our adult need for physical love is the same as a baby’s need for a “mammy”s cuddle, if the baby is left without this for a day or two he becomes very unhappy, if for a long time – he can even die, so our hearts and bodies are slowly dying without physical love.

2. When a man is on top he can press on woman’s body with his weight, he can be too heavy for her and hurt her back.

3. He cannot relax fully because he has to hold himself on his arms. His shoulders can quickly get tired, his arms can get tired, his knees can get tired… When a man is tired he starts to speed up, he is not enjoyng the process, he wants to finish.

4. When a man is on top he cannot do anything to female body but only move into her vagina. He can get quickly overexcited and climax.

5. A man usually does not pay much attention to female body when he is on top. He gets too focused on his penis, he looses connection to his woman, he stops feeling what she wants and what is good for her.

6. When he is on top he can get bored more quickly, tired, he cannot continue on top for a long time.

Quite a lot has been happening since I saw you that I need to tell you about. After we spoke I again tried to make contact with the man in the pictures. I was not able to get in touch – I left several messages on Facebook which he ignored and I called him many times as well, he never picked up the phone. I called my female friend in Cambodia and she tried calling him, he did pick up but he didn’t want to talk.

So I am 100% clear that this man is no longer interested in me now. I was pretty clear on this when I did first come and see you – in fact the reason I was coming to see you and what I said to you was that I wanted to move on from him and focus on the future and opening up. You then took me ‘back’ to him saying that he was ‘the one’ for want of a better term. This has been useful in a way but only for me being able to see that it was a good experience and nothing more, there is no future with this man for me and I am not interested in seeing him again, and he is no longer interested in me.

I’m telling you this as if I am going to carry on seeing you then I would like your support with moving on and opening up to new possibilities. If you are unable to support me in that then I don’t want to continue and I will have to cancel my appointment.

Best Wishes

L.”

Dear L.,

The life is the best guide. Everything what happens is for best. We often get into situation when we are not sure where to go. In this case we need to follow our strongest desire and put all good loving and innocent efforts towards achieving that. Then our destiny gives us the answer quickly to clear us from doubts and open the clear way forward. This is what you have done. Otherwise you would always have some regrets, you will compare this man in the future with your new man, so you will be in confusion for a long time. Now you can move forward breathing this freedom. When you are rejected by what you desired it can be painful at first, but it is like catharsis, brings great relief. Now new possibilities will be open for you. Main thing you know your own woman. Thanks to this man! You know how to feel sexually loved. Your mind will set up a new search and will spot different men, whom you maybe did not noticed before. What I see you definitelly need – to become more connected with your feminine as a carer and a lover to others. Somehow you cannot easily cope with life through kindness and love. This is what I see. And this is what is needed to be open in you to attract loving men. They are out there. I do not insist that you come and see me on the 1st May. I am not the one who is chasing money. I really want to help and I see that I can help because I work differently – directly via body and mind together, not just via logic. I know that working via body seams strange, most therapists talk, talk, talk… But this talks did not helped me when I was in situation of despare and hurt ( I was and many times). What has helped me to stay a woman as I am – my body. I want to teach you your body. This is our car. It drives us faster to where we want to be. Our logic is the slow walk on the busy road. Sometimes we can hardly move.

I am happy to support you in your journey to your “car” and in your moving faster to your happiness and pleasure of life.

I think this word does not convey exactly that wonderful experience which people can create together, expressing their love for each other. I think that this word is too unambiguous and really suggests even if indirectly the act of copulation, which any animal is capable of. Animals cannot make love, however. Moreover, they can not create the erotic art of love. Maybe men and women would feel happier if they used the words “making love” more often, rather than the term “having sex”?

Do you not think that the words “making love” create a different state of mind, accompanied by completely different physical feelings and actions? If someone gently utters: “I want to make love with you,” their physical behaviour will be more gentle and relaxed; they will pay more attention to touching each other, rather than focusing on achieving orgasm.

Sexuality is viewed by a lot of people as well as medical, professional and spiritual teachers as something purely personal, related to self-pleasuring.

Sexual happiness comes from within as everything else in a person’s life comes from within. Yet, it does not mean self-pleasuring.

In a sexual act with someone else, you are not the only person involved. There are two people here – your partner and you. Note, I have said: ‘your partner and you’ but not ‘you and your partner’. When talking about happiness from within, I meant loving and giving this body of yours as a gift to your partner. Your pleasure of making your partner happy creates sexual happiness within you. Not reaching orgasm, not gaining you own sexual release, not feeling aroused. Your joy comes from touching and loving your partner’s body for the sake of your partner’s comfort and happiness. Your joy and pleasure comes from receiving your partner’s physical love, touch, kisses, hugs and reciprocating.

The main focus of your sexual life is your partner.

Do not worry that you may be left with no pleasure if you give all your attention to your partner. If your focus is your partner, then your partner’s focus is you. It does not make sense to be together if it is not like that, does it! A happy sex life and a happy relationship is not possible if each partner is focused on themselves.

I am writing the book which I will call “365 thoughts on love and lovemaking”. It is some kind of lovemaking prophecy. Every day you can bring a new idea or a new thought about love and lovemaking into your life.