BUSTED AGAIN: Why Some Women Can’t Stand Their Men!

I hear sounds of printers beeping all around the city… Women getting dressed in a rush, one right shoe and one wrong shoe…. Tripping down the stairs in a frantic hurry, driving like maniacs and honking at other cars to move along, and then finally, with no introductions, each woman barges into her husband’s office in the middle of a staff meeting and shoves this article in his face.

“It’s payback time big guy!” The wife crosses her arms with triumph.

“I’m in the middle of a meeting honey!” The husband’s face turns blood red.

“Is that by the same author? Ahhhhhh see? That’s an obvious typo. The author meant to say “Why Some Women Can’t UNDERSTAND Their Men!” The husband explains knowingly.

The wife grabs the paper to check again, and the staff members all rise to applaud their genius boss, and before you know it, the all-male business meeting turns to a marriage support group, sharing stories of how wives misunderstand everything, and are too blind to see how PERFECT their men are!

On her way home, the berated wife decides to leave this embarrassing incident on the Q.T, so she only calls her best friend, her neighbor and a couple of her colleagues at work to subtly voice out her anger.
“I can’t stand him! He thinks he’s always right! I swear behind that Mr. Perfect façade he’s really mean! But no one believes me!”

Of course only a few will sympathize because most of us don’t know what happens behind closed doors…

What Do Women Want?

“It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it!”

That’s one of the classic statements that drive men up the wall. Many men find women very complicated they’re actually compiling a book to help them crack the female code:

“Yes” means “No”

“I’m sorry” means “You’ll be sorry!”
“Do what you want” means “Don’t you dare!”
So naturally when wives attempt to describe what they need from their husbands, some men are both cynical and confused. They have come to the conviction that they do a great job but nothing is good enough for women. So let’s take a sneak peak at what men are silently thinking when women voice out their complaints…
Shhhhhhhhh come with me….

Wife: “I don’t care about money. All I want is to be loved and respected”

Husband: And yet she wants me to show that love with diamond rings, trips to Hawaii and expensive dinners! Do you know what that requires, honey? A LOT OF MONEY!

Wife: “He doesn’t need to spend the whole day with me to make me happy. I’m looking for quality time together even if it’s just an hour a day!”

Husband: And that is why she gives me grief when I meet up with the guys once a week, even though I take her out every night!

Wife: “I just need a man I can trust and depend on. Someone who understands me!”

Husband: And when I’m all there listening and helping, she resists any solutions I give and insists I don’t understand her! Why are women so DIFFICULT?

The truth is, women aren’t complicated, they just speak a different language that is quite foreign to men. There’s a lot of miscommunication in marriages because while men operate through logical thinking, women work on pure feelings. Men have the urge to solve problems in a practical efficient way, while women just need to talk it out without being judged or impelled to make sudden changes. Wives tend to generalize and are more imaginative, while husbands are literal and very specific.

When a woman says she doesn’t care about money, she means it’s not her top priority but of course it still is important! She’s not looking forward to living in a dumpster, but will stand by her man either way if she really loves him. When a woman expresses her anger or frustration it doesn’t mean she’s blaming the husband for everything that went wrong, she just needs to let out some steam! We use figures of speech and metaphors too, you know!

A woman’s ‘five minutes’ does not literally mean 300 seconds!

Why is that so hard for men to understand?!

The Vicious Circle Couples Twirl In

Ever wondered why men are so obsessed with watching soccer matches?

Besides the fact that yelling and swearing at the TV is not a punishable crime as opposed to say, roaring at the kids, men generally like to keep score. And they relate to the rules that are clear and simple…

Win-Lose

Black-White

Yes-No

Whatever lies between the two options is a grey area that doesn’t really register in male brains as significant. So if you’re having a conversation with a man and you don’t adamantly and deliberately stress on the fact that he’s RIGHT, don’t be surprised if he gets offended. I mean, in a black and white world, if you don’t think he’s right then you obviously think he’s wrong! Which means the score is 1 to nothing! It’s not that men are arrogant or in denial, they just need to win, and they work more efficiently through encouragement. They need their wives’ approval and appreciation because it motivates them to be better and give more! On the other hand, if men are constantly criticized or are being told what to do and how to do it, they start feeling blamed, rejected and eventually give up, even when that’s not the intention of women at all!

Oh my God! There she goes again giving excuses to the men! You’d think a female author would support her own kind every once in a while! Holy!

Even though women are emotionally stronger and have great powers at their disposal (two beliefs supported by Islam and psychology), it still doesn’t take the heat off husbands. It takes two to make a marriage work or fall apart. There’s a reason why many wives are frustrated these days, and it’s not because they’re drama queens. Women have needs that some men obviously don’t understand. Many husbands already spend time at home and make big deals of special occasions and are very much willing to help but their wives are still unhappy. It’s not what you do but rather it’s how you make your woman feel.

As years go by, the rush in a marriage settles down and is replaced with a sacred bond of understanding. A husband needs to remember that his wife isn’t out there to make his life miserable; she’s actually on his side! With days filled with commitments, responsibilities and distractions, women need to feel acknowledged. They need to feel loved and appreciated even if it’s with little daily gestures like a warm hug. If you really want to score big with your woman, give importance to those simple acts of love like getting her a rose for no reason at all or giving her a compliment when she looks tired. Try to maintain scoring one virtual point everyday instead of doing a big gesture every six months and then say ‘Hey, I sat through an entire musical for you last summer, that should earn me enough points for a whole year!”

Yeah it doesn’t work that way.

You can take the space you need and do the things you love with your guy friends and all but in return leave your wife with a reassuring feeling that you love her and miss her. Women are strong and capable and independent but deep inside they’re also soft and sensitive…. All they need is a genuine feeling to keep them going.

The beloved Prophet (PBUH) was a very busy man. Not the normal ‘I have a business meeting’ or ‘Come on it’s the Champion’s League’ kind of busy, no he was literally the one man carrying the hugest burden of ‘changing the world’ on his shoulders. Yet he was the softest, most loving and most tender husband of all times. He gave time and attention to his wives, helped with the housework, mended his own clothes and actually listened when his wife had a problem. One time Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) lost her necklace on the way back from one of the battles and our beloved Prophet (PBUH) asked the whole army to stop and look for it. How considerate was that?

In his last sermon, Prophet Muhammad dedicated a whole part of his speech to remind men to show love and respect to their wives and give them their rights. He continued saying, “Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers….”

That said, let’s pause and watch husbands today….

Most wives carry the burden of raising the kids, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, driving the kids’ to soccer practices and art classes, besides having careers of their own, keeping up with a busy social life and maintaining their figures and beauty. Yes we are strong but we can’t be super women all the time! What happened to husbands that some of them won’t even bother taking the initiative to lighten that burden? Of course some men help out but others do it condescendingly as a favor. Women are overwhelmed, anxious and tired from the expectations that perhaps they put upon themselves, but it would certainly be nice to feel appreciated for their tremendous efforts. Why does it seem to us that some men’s teeth hurt when they give their wives compliments?

To every husband who had the self-control and open-mind to reach this sentence J

Look at that woman sleeping beside you… Remember who she is…?

She is the same women you dreamt of day and night, cherishing the thought of making her happy and loving her forever. She is the one who stood by you through thick and thin… gave you children whom she dedicates her life to raise well and fills your home with love and tenderness. This is the young woman who left her parent’s protective bubble to come live in your arms… She is the one her dad trusted you with, just like one day you’ll give your daughter to a stranger and hope he will treasure her every day till the end of time. She is the princess that walked into your life to help you, love you and face the obstacles of the unknown with you, hand in hand. Perhaps she’s flawed, yes, but so are you. Perhaps she nags and whines and acts up sometimes. True. But if only you knew that it takes just a warm hug to make her heart melt and tame even her wildest temper. This woman needs you… she needs your love, support and attention. You don’t have to give her solutions or turn the world upside down to make her happy…

All you need to do is look at her…

Really look at her, absorb her and acknowledge her…

Take that extra minute to reassure her you’ll always be there to cherish and love her no matter what happens…

In the end, it’s making her feel like she’s the best wife ever is really what makes you…

Lilly S. Mohsen is the author of "Live Your Story' and 'The Prophets To Islam' Series for children. Lilly is a part-time therapist and a spiritual speaker. She’s currently pursuing another Diploma in Islamic Psychology and is a contributing writer to a number of educational and Inspirational blogs.

Women expect to be listened to politely., and, not be interrupted or cut short. Women expect men to remember what they have said and also, not walk out of the room, stare at computers, tv or read. Women expect eye contact and attention.
Women don’t know what they want!!

Men are complicated, we just don’t show it. It is also very important for men to pick the right women because the woman they pick will have a significant part in raising their children and continuing their lineage. Very well written Lilly, enjoyed reading it very much!!!!!!!!!

It’s not that we were trained from birth to see women as decoration. It’s that from birth we’ve been trained to value women only in terms of beauty, and beautiful things serve as decoration. If we learned to focus on internal goals like self-fulfillment rather than external goals like trophy wives perhaps we would have room to appreciate women as people. The author put it beautifully on how women should be understood. Thk for the info!

Oh Roman, looks like you missed out on most of the fun : )
Here’s part one of this story: http://inkoffaith.com/?p=403
Hint: The title is: Why Men Need Four Women!
(Yeah we’ve had our share of a huge reality check too hhhhh)

in fact, women are very very complicated. Even from childhood, women start thinking very complex. Such as beauty. What it takes to feel beautiful and maker herself beautiful!! Women try to be beautiful but for what reason? the reason is simple. They want to get mate(s) of higher genome quality. So, biologically, women put men to test to prove her desire. Does men put women to these kind of test, no. Why? It is because women DOES not contribute to the DNA of the baby as much as men do. So, it is extremely important for women to pick the right men. Where as men can choose any women, ugly or fat or short….does not matter, his seeds will be almost always be like him. These are natural selection where women are not as well equipped to survive of her own. lady cannot support herself. So, men, do not try to even put any effort to understand women. Be the way you are. They will come to men, regardless

Under the positive light of how I like to see things, I’ll concur with the part about “Be who you are” coz in the end, women want men to be genuine and true to themselves. Pretending to be someone you’re not will usually never get neither men nor women any where at all.

We try to fix it. Be nice to women. Realise when you’re being a doormat so you stop yourself. Basically be less judgemental, and realise when you’re condemning a woman for a behaviour that you’d praise a man for, or vice versa. It just doesn’t work for those women.

Love the article. A woman’s honesty to herself is unparalleled, because her self-esteem is rooted where it should be, in herself. You can call her beautiful or sexy or gorgeous every single day, but if she doesn’t feel it, it won’t get through to her.

No fair, this article is one-sided, it’s an article about how men are ‘trained to understand women’. Why would Lilly put in elements of a separate article in this article. It’s like writing about the detriments Apple Computers and adding in criticisms about Microsoft.

I do think that as men, we over-complicate women because we expect them to be just like us. It’s natural for anyone to project their own qualities onto others and become confused when they don’t fit the mold, but once we step outside of ourselves and see people as they are, and not as we are, our vision becomes clearer. Great article Author

What women don’t seem to understand is that just because men don’t cater to 65 of the 75 bullet points on this list, doesn’t mean we don’t understand you. Oh, we understand women all to well. We just think most of this stuff is stupid, irrational, and borderline insane. We still have to deal with you on a daily basis though, so we play oblivious with you, and try not to feed the crazy. We keep this process going until we wear you down and you accept it. This has been going on for…. since the beginning. You really haven’t noticed?

Thanks, Lilly! You’re SO right – we’re all in this together. If not, we’ll fail. I appreciate how much you personally do each day to support women’s progress and advancement. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Enjoyed reading..
The most important thing that I realized, recently mind you, is loving yourself. Women don’t do that enough, they love everybody more & think about everybody else more before themselves. They love their parents, siblings, children, spouse & are mostly ‘Givers’. But its high time they need to realize that they need to first take care of themselves to help others. Stop being finicky if some house chore is left undone, hire help to do those chores, if you don’t dust your furniture for a week, nothing major will happen, but if you don’t dust your way of thinking & brush up on your work related skills somebody else will take away the promotion.
So what that you have to work double, to prove yourself, ultimately you become the CEO, owner, rich, fulfilled sooner then others.

What an excellent article! Everything you wrote resonated with me. For a number of reasons and circumstances, I am one of the millions of women who found themselves doing much of the lion’s share of the real work involved in caring for the family – enabling others, who were just as responsible, the time to concentrate on their careers and lives. I am not going to go into the specifics but it was hard work and cost me financially and personally. Would I do it again? Absolutely, because first and foremost they were family, I loved them and they needed help (mine and others). But really, why did I need to? I hope the coming generation of women find themselves in this situation, less and less.
This is not intended as an anti-male post (I adore my son who is a wonderful human-being). We are all in this together. Thanks Lily

What women want and what they complain about are the same. They want chivalry but complain about equality. They want men to lead but do not want to be told what to do. They want independence but place their worth on what a man provides. The reality is that women want to be approached by a magical unicorn, and ONLY a magical unicorn at an exact time and place as she herself has determined since she was nine. She could be approached by any number of almost worthy suitors up until that moment to which she will ignore or take offense. When that magical twilight comes and goes and Prince TallDark N. Rich is nowhere to be seen she will write off men as failures to the human race.
Yet, many women ARE successfully land great men while you’re sitting around contemplating men’s failures. In reality it is not the opposite sex that has failed, It YOU that has failed to. Stop relying on the opposite sex for your self-worth. If you NEED a man to kill himself to win your affection, you had better be beautiful, fit, classy, secure, decisive, YOUNG, have good genes and a strong family line, and know how to make him shine. That 24% body fat and shitty attitude toward men’s discretion will not win you any love. Similarly for men: If you need a women, you are NOT being a traditional man. A traditional man seeks power, women are a benefit to this. Women go TO him, seek HIS attention, until HE chooses who he’ll allow into his life. He doesn’t meet her at a bar, a yoga class, a dance lesson; he meets her at a banquet or through successful collages. Places where a woman of “equal quality” can stand next to him while ascends. Keep complaining. Die alone.

Ok…what I’m going to say is going to blow all your minds away…ready….it’s called use your judgement to assess things! If a woman is walking all over you, leave!, if she’s demanding too much of you, leave! if you don’t like the way she looks, leave! if she’s draining all of your energy, leave! then repeat the search until you find one that’s jussssssssssssssst righttttttttttt

Ya ok, so in all this, what effort do women do? Women ask this and that from men and make expectations that have alot of men making crazy efforts and cant even attain this expectation women have of men, what do women do in all this? Put make up on? Make themselves look pretty? Cause men make 95% of the first moves, have to be strong and a gentleman at all times, wth do women do? Seriously, were at a point of not being used to having women make the first move that when they do we ask ourselves, whats wrong with her! Women have nothing to offer but demand the respect they dont give themseleves, call me a passive guy or wtv u want. i get women all the time,i wasnt always so arrogant , i used to be timid but confident, caring, loving faithful and naive apparently, well women made short work of that by walking all over me, so u created an jackass, and to all the women that will say not all women are like this, actually how many of you women that say that actually go out and spend your life dating other women? How many og you are convinced that youre not what im describing? Cause the women that do walk all over us are convinced theyre not like this either, this is what i observe from women and on a daily routine im searching to be proven wrong but everything i see proves me right!

As much as I know men don’t appreciate being proven wrong, I really hope you find that one woman who will. People are different Kevin, and once you find the “one” you’ll forget all this anger and go back to being you… The confident caring, faithful man you truly are.
As for the efforts on the women’s part, here we go : http://inkoffaith.com/?p=403

This is nonsense. Just be yourself and don’t jump through hoops just to get a stamp of approval from some princess. The right one will come along and see you for who you are, and not who this author wants to shame you into being.

A man with self-respect doesn’t bend over backwards to please a woman (or anyone) in today’s non-traditional society. He looks for a partner, not someone who will judge him if he doesn’t plan a cute enough date night or doesn’t open the car door for her and throw his coat down in front of the car door.

Funny, I just came from a similar article with genders reversed and women were absolutely flipping out over there, but here it’s all agreement on their end and the men flipping out instead. Everybody is just so entitled. I can relate to you dudes though; seems like we’ve all been in that relationship with one-sided communication and it’s always the women who don’t hold up their end of the conversation. Got to a point in a relationship once where I was the only one who EVER initiated. I stopped to see how long it would take her to talk first and three months later the first text I got was her wondering “where we stand”. Her excuse was that she was bad with phones.

I know this isn’t funny but I can’t help laughing! This is classic female behavior.
But in her defense, maybe she was trying to give you space or was hoping to get your attention but it just gave the opposite effect?

If a man spends all his time and energy into courting you, just for you to sit back with zero effort and pick someone else, where does that leave him? So why should they put ‘more’ effort into it than you are?

It seems there is a lot of pent up anger regarding the roles we play when it comes to relating to connecting with another…. and these few simple words become the pinprick that unleashes that anger.
The answers are hidden between the lines you read everyday in their profiles. Desperate pleas from exasperated women ” i want real man” “honest and truthful” “any genuine guys out there”
They’re fed up with men who take the easy way… telling a woman what you know she wants to hear, to get what you need from her.
It’s only natural to become jaded and paint all men with the same brush, once you’ve been hurt a few times.
As men get better at the art deception, women strengthen the walls that protect their hearts… some take revenge and hurt back. To any person with a sense of awareness the answer is obvious.
It’s going to take some patience and understanding to break this cycle.
It starts with taking a good hard look at what has taken place in your life that has shaped your attitude towards others. Take some time to learn about YOU ,your flaws as well as the good stuff. Then BE that authentic person. And Lily your writings are hilarious for real.

It’s a simple tit for tat retaliation. We don’t expect women to put in all the effort, only 50% of it. Just like we are equally treated and paid in the office, everything is 50/50 outside of it, including bills, and things like who asks who on a date first. The days men were “supposed to” proactively chase women are as much of a relic as the days women were “supposed to” be stay at home housewives. Welcome to post feminist society.

Stop relying on the men for your self-worth. If you NEED a man to kill himself to win your affection, you had better be beautiful, fit, classy, secure, decisive, YOUNG, have good genes and a strong family line, and know how to make him shine. That 24% body fat and shitty attitude toward men’s discretion will not win you any love except from lonely unsuccessful boys.

I’m still hung up on the specific percentage of 24% you mentioned : )
I still think deep inside men don’t care about looks and genes as much as they care about the character and attitude Henry. Women can’t stay young and beautiful forever

If a man really wants you in his life he will make the effort. When he makes the effort and she like him, she will respond. Men always say they are afraid of rejection but if he really wants a lady in his like nothing will stop him unless she says she is not interested. Ladies don’t play hard to get, they just want a man who will stand up for them, a champion so to speak. At his age especially we all have been through a lot good bad and indifference. Gentlemen, if you like her let her know. Ladies even if he chases you it doesn’t always mean he will stay. It is something you both have to decide. Tnx for the blog Lily

I think one thing we can add to this is that men and women who are passionate for a particular hobby, interest, or career; are much more likeable and attractive than those who take a passive attitude with their direction in life.

“When he makes the effort AND she like him, she will respond.” This is why men feel it is pointless. No matter how much effort you put in, she will still ignore you. How many women does it take before all that effort starts to wear him down, and he realizes it’s irrelevant?

FIGHT…..FIGHT…..AN ARAB AND A WHITE!
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This is y men like myself r still single hhhhhhhhhh ladies language changes every season, and we r expected 2 understand it. If we fail to understand it we are told 2 “MAN UP”. When women don’t understand us, which is NEVER, I cant imagine how she’ll react if we told her 2 “WOMEN UP”. HHHHHHHHHHH
I LOVE UR WRITINGS YA BINT, thy crack me up regardless wht mood I am in. Keep em coming.

You need to make her feel all of these things, and more. In fact, what you don’t say usually matters more than what you do say. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. Lilly, I really enjoy reading anything you write

This is a great help – especially right now! My husband and I do not communicate with one another well. We’ve been married for nearly 30 years. His hearing has deteriorated over the years and I speak very softly. I’m a communicator and I love to discuss current events, the aches and pains I have, the cost of living – you name it I’ll chat. I enjoy hearing his opinions but he doesn’t offer them often. If I try to pull them out of him he bucks – like a stubborn mule! I don’t hate him but truly wish he would try to “hear” me when I speak! I wish someone had told him how difficult life can become when your partner can’t hear! Thanks for the article – I’m off to mend some hurt feelings because of it! ♥

I have been married to the same wonderful woman for 18 years. Sure we disagree/fight sometimes. I have never “hated” her, or “disliked” her in any way (except maybe when in the heat of an argument). I just don’t get it I guess. Obviously those who harbor ill feelings have stopped communicating long ago. I’m a firm believer in communication playing a primary role in ANY relationship, but ESPECIALLY important, even crucial, when it’s communication regarding your significant other. When I say communication I’m talking about expressing feelings, desires, needs, etc., not simple everyday talking such as “how was your day sweety”? Without open and honest communication the relationship in question is certainly doomed.

Thank you for writing this article. Although my husband and I have been only been married for two months, we’ve been together for 10 years and there are times when he makes me want to rip my hair out! I catch myself gritting my teeth or rolling my eyes at him sometimes. There are other times when he makes me want to scream and throw a temper tantrum like a 2 year old. It’s definitely because I feel like I do more in the relationship but it’s also because he can be so overwhelming. He likes to hang on me, grab me inappropriately in public (because “it’s funny”), and gets very jealous over the most trivial things (like when I said I fell in love a male character in a FICTIONAL book I was reading). These emotions always make me feel guilty and like your friend I start questioning our relationship since we are always taught that if we are not 100% compatible or happy with our significant other then it will never work and we should leave that person.

I believe with the effort and having the same goal of making a marriage work, anything is possible
I’m not sure which friend you’re refering to though. But thanks for your comment Roxy. I Like to believe love conquers all in the end… Good luck with your husband

In about a month i will be married 30 years. It has been wonderful to just extremely painful at times.
Only thing that seems to save us is if we get out walking/hiking. For some reason hiking in nature, even for 20 minutes does something to both our souls. We get grounded, open up and talk honestly, not with sarcasm but listen to one another or not let the fear of being honest stop us.
Saddest part to me is how he does not seem to remember the good times unless we are out hiking. Otherwise according to him our marriage has never been good…on hike he say he was happiest hiking with me for all those years.
I agree with all reasons …comprise is a must…what i wish i knew is when to leave. My counselor who knows us both says my husband does really love me. I am most important woman in his life…but i do have my doubts.
All i can say is when marriage is working, it is most sweetest thing in the world..even with the disagreements. Just as long as you work through them.
Hiking has saved us time and time again…and others i suggested it too.
Hopefully it might some others too plus get people out in nature where you feel beauty of nature/God.

A helpful article thankyou. I began to truly feel hate towards my spouse when he felt it was ok to come into the house smelling of marihuana around our young daughter. He felt it was his right. I couldn’t handle what I felt was just such a selfish attitude. He knew how much I hated this too.

Looks like there’s a story there Rania. I don’t know what to tell you except I’ve seen many women feel this way and they’ve found marriage counseling to be very helpful. I’m sure you know your situation best though. I really wish you find your happiness either way inshAllah

My husband tells me when to get up in the morning..can’t be before he is ready, what to have for breakfast, what chores, errands to do, what to eat, often leftovers, when to shower, when to go to bed. He listens to my phone conversations, questions me about them, yells at my grandchildren, acts like I have wounded him if I accidentally touch him and reacts with great sarcasm if I disagree with anything he says or does. I am so unhappy I could cry but I no longer have tears.

Great reminders here – and we not only need to hold ourselves accountable for these things in our marriages and relationships, we need to hold each other accountable for these behaviors too. Encourage one another, and speak truth in love.

Thanks for sharing. I think all women, somewhere along the line, have dropped the ball. I know I sure have. Thank you for being open & honest with us all. We need to be reminded how to love our husbands well!

I thank you for this article. No man can express these to a woman, it takes another woman’s advice to get through to their hearts. Thank you for acting as a truely Godly representive for us men. I couldn’t agree with your list more. They were all problems in my last marraige (although its not the reason we split”. It means so much to hear ‘what we can stand’ from the words of a lady who understands. And is not like these things just get under our skin. Over time they build up anamosity and slowly destroy your friendship and marraige. Thank you so much ma’am

I love this. Thank you. Some don’t apply to me but is something that I will keep in mind though so I don’t do it in the future. I’m going to share this with my husband and tell him that I don’t want to be like that ever in our marriage. Again thanks for this powerful and great advise.

Wonderful list Lily! How I wish I read this 29 years ago instead of having to make those mistakes many times during our 29 years of marriage! These are definitely gems of wisdom!
Thank you for sharing.

I love this article! I’m a woman raised in the aftermath of the women’s lib movement. My generation and younger were taught that we don’t need a man for anything. We can do it ourselves. And while we can do it ourselves, that was NEVER God’s plan. I’ve embraced the fact that I need a man…for provision, protection, and companionship that I just can’t have with one of my girlfriends. I am single and see men in a whole new light. They carry burdens and pressure that ill never know about. (AT LEAST THE REAL MEN DO). They deserve respect because God asks us to. The more feminine and non combative we are the more real men act like men….it’s so so sweet. I pray that I’ll be able to keep these points in mind when I am married and bless my husbands socks off! This article is great…how to better yourself and marriage.