A Case of Massive Versus Modest

"Rightly or not, women have always seen ring quality and size as measures of their man's success and his devotion to them," says George Weinberg, PhD, author of Why Men Won't Commit. Not only that, but they're also an outward status symbol and source of competitiveness among women. "It makes many women feel more desirable and secure if they have a bigger ring than their friends," Weinberg says. But don't be fooled that it means anything explicit about your guy's heart or fidelity; experts agree there's no correlation between carats and commitment. Obsessing over size may also say something about your confidence, according to Magids: "The bigger it needs to be for you, the lower your self-esteem is. People who are happiest with themselves and their relationship aren't desperate for a showy ring."