Terry Evans – Humility, truth and ego

I remember many years ago when a therapist I was seeing told me that one of my strong points was humility. I almost fell off the chair laughing thinking: Does this therapist really know me? I asked: “What do you mean? What is behind your words?” He gave a very simple explanation: “What I have seen and know of you is that you can get stuck in a mind-set and think that you are right, but you have a fairly good contact with the way you really are. Therefore it does not take you long to become conscious of that you have crossed a line. You go from ego and back to finding a solution, so you do not remain stuck in unnecessary arguments. In finding a solution you give yourself the opportunity of moving on.”

It does not mean I get it right all the time. I have a strong mind and like anyone I can cross a line and go into ego. Sometimes it can take a period of time before I realise what I have done. At the same time there are times when we must trust our own truth, stand fast and set a line very clearly. Should we not do that then it is possible we will sacrifice the truth that is right for us.

There have been times when I have ben disloyal to my inner truth, just for the sake of trying to maintain status quo. Sometimes that is not the right thing to do, because nothing will change. You will just repeat old situations till you realise that you should have learned from the old pattern and set a line. When you fall into that it can have a detrimental effect on yourself.

Truth is an individual thing for each and every one of us. There are those who never ever want to face the reality of how they have contributed to creating a negative situation. Those people will just remain in that mind-set, possibly for the rest of their lives.

Truth and ego can be very subtle. Sometimes when I am trying to find the truth I have to ask myself: Why am I in this situation? What is it I have not wanted to see? When you put yourself in that situation you can follow the track to where all this negativity began. It could be many years ago, i.e. an old pattern we have developed. Sometimes it is like a maze, but when I sit with myself and allow myself to feel my feelings, that very often gives me a clue about who in this situation is a responsible for what.

There are some people who are so out of touch with themselves that they are not ready to find a solution at all. They are stuck in an old truth that does not serve them. I have a lot of question marks regarding truth and humility. As we walk our life’s pathway we will always come to the point where we have to decide which path to take: truth or humility? That can be difficult, because they always have different faces.

What has been interesting for me in some situations is when spirit has intervened and given me a second chance or an opportunity, which has resolved the problem. So sometimes all we have to do is to step back and see what happens.

These are my thoughts; it would be interesting to hear your truth, because when you make your comments on the blog I also get an opportunity to learn something new.

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