Kwan-Yee Li MBACP, MNCS (Accred), MSc, Bsc, Adv. Dip

About me

Okay, so instead of giving you a long description of me and my work I will copy and paste my working agreement for you to consider if working with me might be for you. If it seems right for you, I look forward to booking in a free initial meeting to discuss further and start working together. So here it is...

Counselling agreement

What do I offer as a counsellor?

I offer a space for you to explore any issues that you wish to explore without judgement

What can you expect from our work?

o Understanding your world – I will try to really understand what it is that you are telling me about your thoughts, feelings, behaviour and how you experience them. I will do this by asking questions to clarify what you mean to check that I fully get what you are telling me

o Holding up a mirror – once I have clarified and understood your experience, I will then reflect them back to you. It’s like holding a mirror to you so you can pick and choose what you like/dislike/would like to change/remain the same or simply notice about yourself. Then with that information, you decide what you would like to work on in counselling and we can begin to explore that area

o Instinctual response to your exploration – while we are exploring the area you have chosen to work on, I will offer you my response in terms of my thoughts and feelings about what you are telling me. These responses will be instinctual on my part and will vary and depend on what you have told me and what thoughts and feelings have come up at the time

o Devil’s advocate – many of my responses will include offering you a different way of thinking, not simply to disagree with your experience and certainly not to judge your experience in any way but to see if there might be another way that may or may not suit you better

o Moving forward – my hope is that during the process of exploration you will find a way of moving forward that does suit you and you can choose to either work on another area or counselling will end

What is expected of you in our work?

o Keep track of your counselling – it is your responsibility to arrange and turn up to sessions at the time agreed as you would with any other appointment. It is also your choice what you want to work on in counselling

o Be honest – if something isn’t working for you or doesn’t feel right then please tell me. We are only able to explore things that are brought to our attention. If you hold back in any way, chances are we are not going to get very far which will only slow down or even stop the counselling process from progressing

o Take full responsibility - everything I offer as a counsellor including my thoughts, feelings and opinions are an offer, what you decide to do or not to do is completely your choice and the decision to make any changes or not starts and ends with you

What about confidentiality?

Everything discussed will remain confidential unless you tell me you will seriously harm yourself or others or it conflicts with the law. I do attend regular supervision sessions to make sure I am working in a way that is best for you and to check I haven’t missed anything that may help the counselling process. I also take notes of our sessions that are available on request should you want to see them. In both cases of supervision and note taking, I don’t mention any names so confidentiality remains

How much will it cost?

I charge £40 per 50 minute counselling session. Concessions available for counselling students at £25 per 50 minute session