Wednesday, January 20, 2010

For-all-the-broken-hearted-n.2

So you’ve stood outside her window with a boombox over your head blasting some emo song.

You’ve played the nostalgia card and tried to remind her of all the great times you had together.

You’ve told her you’ll change.

But it’s not happening.

Breaking up, sadly, is hardly as democratic as we’d love to think. When one person truly no longer wants to be in the relationship, do we really want to force them and hope for the best?

One thing I’ve learned from getting my heart broken a few times is this: You can sit in your apartment staring at the t.v., ordering in and snapping at every human you come across. Or you can wake up, go to work, hit the gym and go to dinner with some friends. Either way, you still don’t have her back.

So save yourself from insanity.

Get back to your routine - Routine will distract you.

Give yourself some space - Don’t try to contact her. Don’t visit her websites or look at old photos. You will only drive yourself crazy.

See someone new - It is a romantic thought to believe that you can never find anyone better, but the truth is the numbers and odds are in your favor. We value relationships because it is unnatural to dedicate yourself to one person, that’s what makes monogomy special. This, however, doesn’t mean there aren’t other great people out there you can share a connection with. Just remember not to expect to find the same person, nor should you want to.

“Man, I was thinking about unrequited love. I figure it’s best to just walk that shit off. Find someone else to be excited about (…) What, you ONLY like ice cream? It’s ice cream or nothing? Don’t be an asshole. Learn to love donuts.”