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Quieting those voices

Now a question I often get asked is how do I stop those voices in the back of my mind? The ones who say that you’re not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough…

Well the answer isn’t a simple one, but here’s my two cents on it.Simply, you really can’t stop the voices. But you can choose to hold them at bay, and with enough practice you can learn to ignore it long enough to be proven wrong. Know what I mean?

For me, it begins with Positive Affirmation. It’s all about positive thinking and self-empowerment. It begins with reminding yourself of all the positive ways you contribute to others. Remind yourself of all the great things that make you who you are. Even the littlest things can help, just get yourself into a habit of recognizing the good things you do and the good things in your life as opposed to focusing on the bad. It is easy to be negative, a lot of people are focussed on the negative and society even makes us feel like failures if we don’t achieve a certain set of goals.

Living with our own expectations is hard enough, but having to put up with the expectations of others is especially harsh. But really, who gives a fuck what other people think? WE are the ones who have to live with the decisions WE make. And to make decisions and choices with the goal being to impress other people and to earn perceived acceptance its a battle that’s difficult to win. As speaking from my own point of view, as someone with Mental Illness, it’s hard enough just getting by with all the bullshit that flies around in my own head. I’m not about to try and live up to anyone’s expectations but my own. I’m not by any means happy with where I am in life, but I’m happy with the steps I’ve already made and the progress I’ve achieved.

It’s not about denying anything, for you have to accept things as they are. But you also have to accept the good things we do, no matter how insignificant they seem at the time.

We can all be the heroes of our own story. It’s just that it’s important to remember that everyone’s story is unique to THEM. And to compare you’re own achievements to the achievements of others is just counter productive. It’s a waste of time really. There’s nothing wrong with wanting more. Let that motivate you, but don’t let it define you. You are who you are, warts n all. And if you believe in yourself and recognize the great things about yourself, the world is really at your fingertips.

Just be realistic, be strong and don’t give up.

I believe we are all capable of amazing things. We are all special in our own way. And we can bring happiness and joy not just into our own lives but the lives of those around us.