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There is no legal separation in Fl, but there is the partial D. Any advantages to this or should we just go straight to complete D?

LTA FBS 54
dday 10.5.09
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4171 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL

lknup♀ 37433Member # 37433

Posted: 10:33 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

What is a partial D?

Me: BS
He: WS
DD fall 2012, Divorced fall 2014, he quickly married OW

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atsenaotie♂ 27650Member # 27650

Posted: 11:24 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

Similar to a legal separation that FL doesn't have. Neither can remarry, some but nit all details resolved.

LTA FBS 54
dday 10.5.09
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4171 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL

lknup♀ 37433Member # 37433

Posted: 11:34 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

I vaguely recall hearing about a separation contract of some type. Personally, I would divorce unless there is some reason to keep the other spouse on insurance, etc.

Me: BS
He: WS
DD fall 2012, Divorced fall 2014, he quickly married OW

Posts: 245 | Registered: Nov 2012

ButterflyGirl♀ 38377Member # 38377

Posted: 8:21 AM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

Weird. I'm in Florida and never heard of that option. I would have appreciated staying on my ex's insurance, but even if that had been an option, I still would have chosen divorce (full on, fuck you, get the fuck outta my life divorce)..

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Two DS~ 8 and 11
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Posts: 2843 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida

SeanFLA♂ 32380Member # 32380

Posted: 9:27 AM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

I'm in Florida too. I've never heard of that here. Frankly I never understood legal separation as a choice. I do understand many states have a one-year mandatory separation, which I don't agree with. If you need to get away from someone why is a state holding you hostage for another additional year? Last time I checked this is still a free country.

Anyhew...all I know is this is a no-fault state. And there are timeframes considered in FL for long-term marriages as far as alimony is concerned. Other than health insurance needs, what's the point of it? So you can just go back to your attorneys later and pay them MORE crazy money to finalize a divorce? To me it's like spending money twice to get to the same results. Or it's just two people who don't know what they want, so separation sounds like a good middle road for now in case they reconcile. If insurance is on your mind then just negotiate him to pay your insurance costs in your divorce settlement and free yourself.

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WW 47
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

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Kajem♀ 36134Member # 36134

Posted: 9:59 PM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

Never heard of it.

What are the benefits of a partial divorce?

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Posts: 6475 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida

atsenaotie♂ 27650Member # 27650

Posted: 7:51 AM, June 17th (Tuesday), 2014

I said partial, but I think the proper term is "limited divorce". In FL there is no legal separation, and this is to take the place of that. I can see it addressing the easier matters: sharing of expenses, property division, etc, while still working through more complicated topics like disposition of martial home, retirement accounts, etc. OTOH, I can see stopping at limited and never getting agreement to get to the full D creating a sort of limbo.

LTA FBS 54
dday 10.5.09
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4171 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL

TrustedHer♂ 23328Member # 23328

Posted: 7:57 AM, June 17th (Tuesday), 2014

I don't see the point.

If you're headed to D, get the D. It will take long enough anyway, and there's enough time to handle all the complicated issues. No Limbo.

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