Inspiring

Setting New Year’s Goals Another year is over and you’re at the same miserable job or stuck in the same unhealthy relationship, or perhaps you’re still trying to lose the same pounds or your bank account has made no increases. We all have one or two things that may still look the same in a year’s time, but overall if you are hoping for changes in specific areas in your life and have not received the results you were hoping…

When’s the Last Time You Took a Selfie? Now When’s the Last Time You Self Reflected? The term “selfie” according to Think Map Visual Thesaurus, was first spotted in 2002 on an ABC Online forum in Australia. And over the past decade and a half has migrated its way through the world, the definition is “a photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically with a smartphone or webcam and uploaded to a social media website.” (although it doesn’t have to…

Last Pieces of Vine City Atlanta, the Southern Hollywood, is highlighted for its trendy lifestyle and affluent culture in the arts and nightlife, but like any major city, there are parts that are often neglected and hardly mentioned. Vine City is a historic district in Atlanta–home of historically black universities, Clark, Spelman, and Morehouse. The city is where Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. led the most revolutionary movement in the world, but this town once rich in ancestral spirit is…

I use to say I was a perfectionist, not because I was. But when someone tells you they are perfectionists what they really want you to believe is that they are an expert at what they do and who they are, and they don’t want anyone to see anything less than that. What is disappointing about this phenomena is that there’s no such thing as perfect. So where there is perceived perfection, there is deception. In a microwave culture where…

Do any of us truly know how to love unconditionally? I don’t know that humans are capable. Love requires selfless action. It requires us to give to others a piece of ourselves through empathy, honesty, forgiveness, patience etc. Our experiences, beliefs and biases prevent us from loving whole heartedly. That is why relying on a source greater than us to teach us through life’s journey how to be a better lover should be a personal mission for us all. The…

Understanding Vulnerability I’m learning this new thing called vulnerability. It’s new for me—the courage to share the most sacred pieces of myself. I’m afraid that if anyone gets a hold of that piece of me, I will lose power. If I share, I’m defenseless against judgment. I’d rather bury it and play pretty and aim to live a life that is satisfying to others, rather than live my truth. That is how I’ve been living for the past 24…

The intent of this post is not to shame anyone. I’ve dealt with a lot of issues from jealousy, comparison, inadequacy, and I still do. I’m always wanting to confront any negative issues in my heart and ask myself why. Why do I have an innate nature to compete or get jealous in certain situations. Well, I know a lot of who we are comes from more deep-rooted issues we deal with, beyond anything I can cover in this one…

Social Media Detox Social media is the most beautiful and most horrifying advancement we’ve ever been introduced to. I’ve discussed social media here before but this piece is meant to filter out the noise and get straight to the point. If you’re feeling less than yourself after a scroll through your timeline you’re doing social media wrong. There’s no question about it. Here are 4 signs you need a social media detox: 1. Comparing Yourself Instagram is a social hub. It…

Recently I’ve been waking up feeling like the weight of the world is on my chest. One Saturday morning I sat and stared at the ceiling for hours. I kid you not. I felt hopeless, inadequate, insecure, etc. You know that feeling where the world feels like its folding and you don’t want to fight back? You’re tired of fighting back. Yeah, I know that feeling. I’m thankful to have the faith in God that I have, and I believe words…

Online Dating Tips For some, finding people to date is hard, especially after long periods of dud after dud. And now, more than ever dating is more difficult. There are so many online dating and social media platforms for the hopeless romantic. In an effort to combat the anxiety of finding your partner quicker, services like OkCupid, and Match.com advertise expertise in helping you find your perfect match.. and fast. However, more often, the opposite is the case. A lot…