This post has been the preamble to the larger discussion of “what makes a good profile? ), what kinds of self-presentation will get you the most messages (jokey? ” We’ve spent a lot of time on Ok Trends looking at messages, and since your profile is the other important place you express yourself, we thought it deserved the same treatment. Finally, I just want to combine the two charts to emphasize how much fuller the inboxes of good-looking people get.I have scaled this graph to show multiples of messages sent to the lowest-rated people.We’re going to look at how your photos affect both the messages you get and how successful your own outgoing messages are.We all know that beautiful people are more successful daters, but let’s quantify by exactly how much. As I read through and interacted with the comments, five big-picture themes emerged as to why #The Dating Scene is on snooze for most single Christians: One of the most common things that many singles reported experiencing from the opposite sex is the unrealistic standard of what they’re looking for in a relationship. I asked singles to tell me why Christian singles aren’t dating. The comments rolled in, and some fantastic conversation came of it.

In the upcoming posts in this series, we’re going to control for attractiveness, so that we can deliver real and useful advice for all the non-models out there.

As for photos at the bottom of the curve, it didn’t feel right to write someone and say “can I use you to illustrate the concept of ugliness on my blog? The above featured users have graciously agreed to let me post their pictures, so please don’t make them regret it.

Funnily enough, I had to write about a dozen beautiful female users before anyone would even get back to me. Anyhow, I know attractiveness is far from a universal concept, but maybe keep these folks in mind as we go through the data.

To illustrate the exact spectrum of looks we’re talking about here, and to put some human faces on our discussion, I want to introduce a few photos of real Ok Cupid users.

Cons: After sending someone a message, you're notified when they're checking your profile, which means you can actually see yourself being rejected in real time. Verdict: Pulling together the best elements of other older dating apps, Inner Circle is the best all-rounder out there with the highest quantity of people you'd actually like to meet.