10 Ways You Can Be Mean to Yourself (and Prevent Your Own Happiness)

10 Ways You Can Be Mean to Yourself (and Prevent Your Own Happiness)

No wonder many of us are not happy; sometimes we bring our misery on to ourselves by being mean to ourselves and not letting ourselves be happy and free.

I was catching up with my friend the other day – it took us 6 weeks to find a time to meet. I had nothing to do and flexible with my time as I was not working and spend my days recuperating. However, she was either travelling for work, or in the office slaving through projects. Then when she had time she would attend birthday dinners and farewell parties and other invitations. It seemed she never had a moment where she could decide what to do – she was always obliged to do something else or be somewhere for somebody else.

I was enlightened after our “catch up” coffee, which she had to cut short too because work called her and she went back to the office on a Sunday afternoon.

We are quite mean to ourselves without knowing.

Take a deep breath and a huge step back, and see if you are good at being mean to yourselves in the following ways:

We need to put ourselves first in some situations, and make sure we are rested, have time for ourselves, and do not do what we do not want to do. Until then, we really cannot complain we are not happy – we can be, we just prevent ourselves from being so.

Once an overachieving international executive, Noch Noch was diagnosed with burnt out and stress-related depression in 2010. With her life turned upside down, Noch Noch is now taking a break to regain her physical and mental health, whilst jotting down her reflections on living with depression and the journey to self-awareness on her blog Be Me. Be Natural. She also created Bearapy, a creative form of therapy on Bearapy. You can follow Noch Noch on Twitter, Facebook or G+