why the miscarriage posts?

I have a question. Is this group for pregnant moms? I keep seeing all these posts about miscarriages! I'm a recurrent miscarrier and this is my first pregnancy that stuck. I hate getting on here and trying to filter out and avoid the death posts. I've been on the other side of the coin and know how hard it is, but isn't there a grieving and loss support group on WTE for those posters? I honestly don't mean to offend anyone, I'm just wondering.

I have a question. Is this group for pregnant moms? I keep seeing all these posts about miscarriages! I'm a recurrent miscarrier and this is my first pregnancy that stuck. I hate getting on here and trying to filter out and avoid the death posts. I've been on the other side of the coin and know how hard it is, but isn't there a grieving and loss support group on WTE for those posters? I honestly don't mean to offend anyone, I'm just wondering.

There is a grief and loss board. This is a controversial topic. If they make you feel uncomfortable, you can skip them. The titles have been helpful. I've never gone through one, but it seems like such a horrific experience that any request for support seems very reasonable. Also, as a 35+ board, it's safe to assume that we would be more supportive and mature about it.

There is a grief and loss board. This is a controversial topic. If they make you feel uncomfortable, you can skip them. The titles have been helpful. I've never gone through one, but it seems like such a horrific experience that any request for support seems very reasonable. Also, as a 35+ board, it's safe to assume that we would be more supportive and mature about it.

I posted about my loss because I'm over 35 and want to know how people my age have dealt with this. Plus being on here while still pregnant I got to know some of the other moms to be so I wanted to share. I'm on grief and loss too. I can take all the support and knowledge from others that I can get at this point. Mine was a molar so I just had questions since typically it happens over 35.

I posted about my loss because I'm over 35 and want to know how people my age have dealt with this. Plus being on here while still pregnant I got to know some of the other moms to be so I wanted to share. I'm on grief and loss too. I can take all the support and knowledge from others that I can get at this point. Mine was a molar so I just had questions since typically it happens over 35.

If you the read the title to each post it tells you what its about. You have the choice to read it or move on. As you yourself have experienced loss you look for answers anywhere you can get them and most of us over 35 have experienced it. To have to soley go through the grieve & loss posts may not be helpful to some people, others have made friends here. Just like i am very happy to hear this pregnancy has finally stuck for you. I will be looking forward to hearing your future stories of this pregnancy & birth.

If you the read the title to each post it tells you what its about. You have the choice to read it or move on. As you yourself have experienced loss you look for answers anywhere you can get them and most of us over 35 have experienced it. To have to soley go through the grieve & loss posts may not be helpful to some people, others have made friends here. Just like i am very happy to hear this pregnancy has finally stuck for you. I will be looking forward to hearing your future stories of this pregnancy & birth.

Just don't read them , it's not fair to expect people not to want support from their peers , many who have followed there journey on here from day one I do understand it can be upsetting and worrying so the easiest solution is not to read :-) x

Just don't read them , it's not fair to expect people not to want support from their peers , many who have followed there journey on here from day one I do understand it can be upsetting and worrying so the easiest solution is not to read :-) x

Often people have first posted to say "x has happened, what do you think". They come back to finish the story if it is good or bad news and because they have made friends here. I am very sad for everyone's losses. Sometimes I post, sometimes I don't want to and so don't. It's not that I'm not sorry on those that I don't post on just that perhaps that day I do t want to engage with it. It is the same as posting about getting pregnant in a trying to conceive forum. You do it cause you have friend there who would wonder what happened if you just disappeared one day.

Often people have first posted to say "x has happened, what do you think". They come back to finish the story if it is good or bad news and because they have made friends here. I am very sad for everyone's losses. Sometimes I post, sometimes I don't want to and so don't. It's not that I'm not sorry on those that I don't post on just that perhaps that day I do t want to engage with it. It is the same as posting about getting pregnant in a trying to conceive forum. You do it cause you have friend there who would wonder what happened if you just disappeared one day.

There are many posts on a variety of boards that I don't like, so I do my best to avoid them. The 35+ club is unique and it's to be able to share ALL parts of pregnancy with fellow AMA moms, even the sad parts. I know a loss is hard at any age, but there is more pressure when you are older. You don't always have plenty of time and the mom's here are more likely to get that. Also as a PP mentioned, sometimes a regular poster has a loss and they have every right to share it. Would you propose they just disappear?

There are many posts on a variety of boards that I don't like, so I do my best to avoid them. The 35+ club is unique and it's to be able to share ALL parts of pregnancy with fellow AMA moms, even the sad parts. I know a loss is hard at any age, but there is more pressure when you are older. You don't always have plenty of time and the mom's here are more likely to get that. Also as a PP mentioned, sometimes a regular poster has a loss and they have every right to share it. Would you propose they just disappear?

Miscarriage is a sad and uncomfortable topic for anyone...often very awkward. I typically don't read MC posts because there is nothing I can really say that won't sound awkward...I know me. I've not dealt with it, so I cannot say I understand what these mothers feel like. But if they find comfort and support from the other 35+'ers, that's good, so they don't have to go through the experience all alone.

Miscarriage is a sad and uncomfortable topic for anyone...often very awkward. I typically don't read MC posts because there is nothing I can really say that won't sound awkward...I know me. I've not dealt with it, so I cannot say I understand what these mothers feel like. But if they find comfort and support from the other 35+'ers, that's good, so they don't have to go through the experience all alone.

I understand where you are coming from...if I had experienced a miscarriage before, it may be disconcerting to read about someone else's miscarriage experience when you just want to focus on the fact that this time your pregnancy has "stuck". I also understand that many women have made connections on here while pregnant and need to come back and share their sad news with those they have made connections with and who can offer support. This is my first over 35 pregnancy, I have two boys born in 96 and 04, so I am a bit nervous about some of the concerns that come along with my current age and pregnancy. When I see a post that has miscarriage in the topic, I do avoid it because I really don't want to borrow anxiety. I can only imagine what seeing that topic in a post would be like for someone who has actually gone through the grief. I don't actually have an answer for you, but just wanted to let you know what I do when I see the posts. No offense is meant to those experiencing such a sad thing (I did support my sister in her early to mid-twenties through three miscarriages and have seen the grief it can cause), but I also have to protect my own emotions.

I understand where you are coming from...if I had experienced a miscarriage before, it may be disconcerting to read about someone else's miscarriage experience when you just want to focus on the fact that this time your pregnancy has "stuck". I also understand that many women have made connections on here while pregnant and need to come back and share their sad news with those they have made connections with and who can offer support. This is my first over 35 pregnancy, I have two boys born in 96 and 04, so I am a bit nervous about some of the concerns that come along with my current age and pregnancy. When I see a post that has miscarriage in the topic, I do avoid it because I really don't want to borrow anxiety. I can only imagine what seeing that topic in a post would be like for someone who has actually gone through the grief. I don't actually have an answer for you, but just wanted to let you know what I do when I see the posts. No offense is meant to those experiencing such a sad thing (I did support my sister in her early to mid-twenties through three miscarriages and have seen the grief it can cause), but I also have to protect my own emotions.

I posted last night about my possible mc. I'm sure the original poster was talking about me. Thanks to everyone who is supportive and understanding. For those of you who aren't, don't read my post! And yes, miscarriage was in the subject. This is a horrible thing to go through. As of today, they still haven't confirmed a mc. My levels rose, but not enough. So yes, I AM STILL PREGNANT. At risk, yes. Do I need support, yes. Do I need insensitive posters commenting about my posts, no!

I posted last night about my possible mc. I'm sure the original poster was talking about me. Thanks to everyone who is supportive and understanding. For those of you who aren't, don't read my post! And yes, miscarriage was in the subject. This is a horrible thing to go through. As of today, they still haven't confirmed a mc. My levels rose, but not enough. So yes, I AM STILL PREGNANT. At risk, yes. Do I need support, yes. Do I need insensitive posters commenting about my posts, no!

Not my intent to induce anxiety whatsoever. Again, posts that could "induce your anxiety" shouldn't be read. Kayla, thank you so much for your kind words and support. Today is a good day. Actually have a bit of nausea!

Not my intent to induce anxiety whatsoever. Again, posts that could "induce your anxiety" shouldn't be read. Kayla, thank you so much for your kind words and support. Today is a good day. Actually have a bit of nausea!

Ignore that one persons comment! Inducing anxiety .. again as its been repeated. Many times IF YOU DONT LIKE THE TITLE DONT READ IT! i dont see how hard that is to understand. Pinkosugirl feel free to write to us any time. Thats why we are here, for each other! I lost 2 babies at 6 months and went on to have a beautiful one after. Does that mean i dont have the right to be on here. Please thats non sense. I want to listen and help anyone i can through the good and bad.

Ignore that one persons comment! Inducing anxiety .. again as its been repeated. Many times IF YOU DONT LIKE THE TITLE DONT READ IT! i dont see how hard that is to understand. Pinkosugirl feel free to write to us any time. Thats why we are here, for each other! I lost 2 babies at 6 months and went on to have a beautiful one after. Does that mean i dont have the right to be on here. Please thats non sense. I want to listen and help anyone i can through the good and bad.

Thank you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that too. It's good to share good and bad experiences. I'm a person that wants to be prepared and have the facts, no matter what the outcome. I also was on this board 2 years ago when I was pregnant with my son. I read sad stories too. It was good to see everyone supported each other and maybe had common experiences. As women, we need to share and support each other. Last thing I want is to be criticized for posting facts about a dark and hard time I'm going though as a mother. Heaven anyone go through what I am going through. If so, I am here to listen and support. I will have an US next week to learn more. I still have hope!

Thank you. I'm so sorry you had to go through that too. It's good to share good and bad experiences. I'm a person that wants to be prepared and have the facts, no matter what the outcome. I also was on this board 2 years ago when I was pregnant with my son. I read sad stories too. It was good to see everyone supported each other and maybe had common experiences. As women, we need to share and support each other. Last thing I want is to be criticized for posting facts about a dark and hard time I'm going though as a mother. Heaven anyone go through what I am going through. If so, I am here to listen and support. I will have an US next week to learn more. I still have hope!

Skip posts that you don't want to read but noone should be offended if the post deals with a possible mc of a PREGNANT mom or possible complications. The posters are updating friends they have made here and/or asking for help or support. Pink, I wish you the best. I myself have suffered 2 losses and I am praying for you!

Skip posts that you don't want to read but noone should be offended if the post deals with a possible mc of a PREGNANT mom or possible complications. The posters are updating friends they have made here and/or asking for help or support. Pink, I wish you the best. I myself have suffered 2 losses and I am praying for you!

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