You may have heard this before, but the most powerful sexual organ humans have isn’t in our underpants. It’s in our head.

More than anything else in your body, it’s your brain that plays the most important role in great sex.

If your mind is convinced that you’re having awesome sex, big chances are, every other part of your body will follow suit too.

To truly have amazing sex and satisfy your woman in bed, you need to learn to make her mind enjoy the things you do in bed.

Get that right, and she’ll surely be satisfied and more.

Emotional and sexual satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction depends a lot on emotional intimacy.

After all, two people can get together and have great sex for a while. But very soon, boredom will set in and the excitement of passionate sex will start to dwindle and fizzle in no time.

But if you know how to satisfy a girl emotionally, you’ll build a better relationship that’s emotionally stronger and make sex feel a lot more intimate and better in the long term. Read the introduction on how to please a woman emotionally and sexually to build a better emotional relationship before using these sexual tips.

How to satisfy a woman in bed in 15 ways

Men get sexually aroused extremely fast and can lose the erection really fast too. But a woman, she takes her time to get aroused, and when she does get aroused, she stays aroused for a long time.

Use these 15 tips to satisfy a woman in bed and make her want more of you, even if you’ve been in the same relationship for a very long time.

#1 Go down on her. If all else fails, this usually succeeds. If you’re having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her and spend a gentle while down there. Almost always, this would help build the momentum for a great night ahead.

#2 Take time during foreplay. Most men hurry the foreplay bit without any consideration for the woman they’re with. Just because you’re up and ready doesn’t mean your woman is ready too. Take your time before penetration, and both of you will enjoy sex a lot more. [Read: 20 easy ways to keep an erection up for longer]

#3 Remember her erogenous zones. The typical erogenous zones in a woman are several, going from the back of her neck, her ears, and all the way to her knees and her toes. But each woman has a few special sweet spots that switch the button on instantly.

Kiss and nibble the entire length of her body and make sure you remember the zones that excite her more than the others. It’ll always come in handy the next time you want to arouse her faster.

#4 Don’t roll over and sleep. Falling asleep immediately after sex is a good sign because it means you’re secure enough in the relationship to just enjoy the relaxing after-sex sensation without having to worry about awkward moments. [Read: The art of perfect romantic pillow talking]

But there’s a thin line between being secure and taking your woman for granted. Cuddle up after sex or indulge in pillow talk for a while. Or just fall asleep in each other’s arms.

#5 Your hygiene matters. Looking good for your woman makes a huge difference in the experience she has in bed. After all, a better looking partner is more of a turn on, isn’t it? But you need to remember that looking good doesn’t just mean a six pack abs.

Have a shower if you’re making love at the end of a long day, and keep all those hairy regions clean and trimmed. Smell great and feel great in bed, and your woman will definitely have a hard time keeping her hands off of you!

#6 Kiss and tell. Women have an active imagination and tend to rely on feelings more than visual appearances. If you want to turn your woman on and satisfy her in bed, arouse her mind by using the right words. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears or talk about her favorite fantasies. As long as you excite her mind with your seductive words, she’ll have an orgasm that’ll grip you hard down there. [Read: How to talk dirty with your woman and arouse her instantly]

#7 Don’t be selfish. If you want to know how to satisfy a woman in bed, this is as simple as it gets. Put your woman’s needs in bed before yours. Understand her preferences in bed, be it about the dim lighting or the right side of the bed, and make sure she’s feeling comfortable enough to enjoy having sex without any insecurities or awkwardness. [Read: How to arrange your room and make it a sex bedroom]

#8 Experiment all the time. The most boring of sexual relationships are the ones where the couples just do the missionary and don’t experiment at all, be it about positions or about dirty conversations. If you want to do more than just satisfy your woman in bed, try new things all the time. If you feel like a particular sex fantasy or a particular position is starting to get monotonous, freshen things up by trying something new.

#9 The right compliments. Women love appreciation in bed. It makes them shed their inhibitions more easily and gets them to experiment in bed sooner. When you’re naked in bed with your woman and find something fascinating about her, make sure you share the thought with your woman. She’ll feel better about herself and her new sexual confidence will definitely lead to better sex.

#10 Trigger zones and fantasies. Do you have any fantasies that make you hard as soon as you think about it? Well, girls have their own trigger fantasies too. For some girls, it’s a sexual fantasy while for others, it may be an erogenous zone.

#11 Play with her body. Just because you’re inside of her doesn’t mean you should stop focusing on the rest of her. Play with her body and move your hands all over her. Massage her, stroke her and grab her all over. It’ll turn your girl on a lot more than just focusing on the missionary.

#12 Refresh sex all the time. The primary reason why sex starts to get boring is because it can get rather repetitive after a while. The typical foreplay-followed-by-missionary-position sex may be the most comfortable of all positions and it may feel intimate too, but every now and then, try something new just to bring a change into your bedroom.

Try role playing, dirty talking or a few sexy games in bed. Just when sex starts to get predictable, bring an interesting twist into it. By refreshing sex all the time, you can make each time you make love with your woman feel like a one night stand! [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for a really sexy relationship]

#13 Bite, lick and suck. Kissing is sensual and romantic. But don’t stop there. Let her feel your passion when you bite her and tongue her body. And here’s something to remember, a good love bite in the strategic regions will still feel just as passionate to a woman even after several years of going out with each other.

#14 Be outrageous. Sex gets sexier the more wild and outrageous it feels. If you want to satisfy your woman, learn to get risqué with your actions. Do something bold now and then, and sex will feel a lot more exciting. Have sex near an open window, use blindfolds, grope each other on a dark dance floor… The wilder your thoughts and actions, the sexier the sex will be. [Read: Dirty public flashing confessions to arouse your mind]

#15 Her orgasm first. The last tip to satisfy your woman is only the most important one. The perfect orgasm is the high point of lovemaking. And if you orgasm before her, it’s almost certain that she’ll have to make do without an orgasm. Control your erection better and learn to hold on for longer, so you can satisfy your woman completely before you orgasm.

Keeping a woman happy sexually isn’t really hard, just as long as you remember these 15 tips on how to satisfy a woman in bed. Remember these and your girl will definitely be more than just happy with your bedroom capabilities.

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Francesca Marie
After moving to the outskirts of NYC to validate her dreams a few years ago, Francesca Marie is now working on bringing her dreams to life. And when she’s not...

6 thoughts on “How to Satisfy a Woman in Bed and Make Sex Exciting”

A little tip to you men. When the article says to think of your woman’s needs above your own it’s not because women are selfish. If you really please her in bed she’ll want to return the favor, go down on her and she’ll give you the most amazing blow job. And don’t forget about making her orgasm just because you already came.

Most importantly reassure her you are not rushing. Slowly glide your wet fingers into and around her moistened pussy lips. Nibble and suck her nipples. You will feel her clitoris harden as her pussy gets very wet. It is the source of her orgasm just as the penis is the source of the man’s. Pay attention to constant stimulation and she will urge you toward what she wants when she is fully aroused. Put your fingers or cock inside when she climaxes. You will feel her pussy walls convulse and secrete lots of thick lubrication. At this moment she will crave lots of thrusting until the orgasm slowly subsides. Afterwards, she will sleep like a little baby. You guys that don’t take time to learn how to satisfy your girls, maybe that’s why so many become lesbians. Think about it.

See, now… this is all good advice. And would have been great with the long-term girlfriends I’ve had in my life. But with my wife, not so much.

For instance, I’ve gone down on her rarely, because she says it doesn’t really do much for her. And touching her breasts? She’s got no interest in it at all. She’s told me as much, bluntly, and kind of rolls her eyes and gives a “go ahead, if you must” look when I touch them.

Touch her body elsewhere? If I rub her back and shoulders, yes. She likes that. Anything else and she jumps or goes rigid because she says it’s ticklish. And taking my time? She’d rather get right to it, almost always. Even when I’d rather go slow. Or when it’s taking me too long to “finish.”

I pay her compliments as often as I can. I tell her how beautiful I think her body is and more. And I do as much as I can to help out around the house (though, yes, she does pull the bulk of that weight, so I can work). But that doesn’t seem to do much either. She rebuffs compliments as though they’re untrue, at least to her.

Sometimes, she’ll just lie there inactive and we’ve even stopped, because it’s just too soul-crushing to me to feel like I’m just using her to get off or that she’s just accommodating me out of “duty” (which, yes, she’s said to me before).

All that sounds awfully depressing, I’m sure. And I won’t lie, it has been. I’m constantly sad about our lack of a good sex life. And constantly amazed by how many in our same situation seem to just decide to live with it. If we make love (or as she says, “do it”) more than once every two weeks, it’s a miracle. Once a month has been closer to the average, these last several… several… years.

Sometimes, it IS passionate and wild. Almost always, when she either initiates (rare) or, on the other extreme, the moment sneaks up on her and she appears to get into it before her inhibitions (of which it’s clear she has many) get a chance to kick in.