Category Archives: Focusing

One of the most frequently heard expressions today is “I’m stressed”. Stress is an inevitable part of modern-day living, however, most stress can be reduced considerably and even eliminated. Here are some considerations when contemplating stress in your life, and suggestions for reducing it:

(1) What causes me to become stressed? Commonly shared examples of stressors are: Time-keeping, negative relationships, and money … However, stress is very personal. What may stress one person, will not stress another.

(2) What can I do to reduce my stressors? Take, for example, being unpunctual. If being late stresses you, then allow more time for your journey, plan for the unexpected, and add extra time if necessary. Give yourself more time than you are likely to need so that you can relax and enjoy the journey, rather than rushing and arriving stressed and on edge.

(3) What can I not change? If you cannot change it, then try to make it acceptable by viewing it from a different perspective. Annoying relatives perhaps will seem less annoying if you can understand and accept your differences.

(4) Invest some time on your mat in quiet contemplation. Ask yourself “why am I stressed, and what can I do about it right now?” Allow the question to settle, and quietly watch your breath. Trust in your vijnanamaya kosha, the wise part of us that holds the answers, and wait for inspiration to come. It may not come as quickly as you like, and it may not always been the answer you were hoping for, however it will be the right answer for you.

(5) Contemplate the Serenity Prayer, and let it’s wisdom inspire you to trust in the guidance you receive:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.”

(6) Be active and expunge negative energy. Use the adrenalin that your body is supplying: Run, walk fast or choose a more energetic yoga practice … whatever works for you.

(7) Breathe consciously – slowly and deeply, comfortably and with control. Focus on the body as you breathe. Notice the rise and fall of the front of the body with each breath-round. Notice the lungs expanding with the in-breath and the body softening with the out-breath. Allow the breath to ease the mind and the body into a state of tranquillity. Remind yourself that it is impossible to breathe slowly and calmly and be stressed or anxious at the same time. So now you have a choice to be calm or stressed. Although stress starts in our mind, we can erase it through the way we use our thoughts, our breath or our body. And a combination of all three is powerful … it is what we call yoga!

Om Shanti (Peace to Everyone)

If you would like to know more about yoga, stress and anxiety management, mindfulness or relaxation techniques please contact Sarah, email me at: freetothinkmail@aol.com, find me on Facebook under Free To Think, or text or telephone me on: 07817623330

When you don’t understand why you feel or behave the way you do, what do you do? Do you talk to somebody about your feelings and ask them? Do you try a little research on the web? Or read a book? Have you ever considered asking your inner self?

Asking your inner self is sometimes described as focusing. Focusing is a gentle, powerful skill that allows you to tap into the body’s own wisdom in order to make positive changes to the ways in which you think and feel. This method of self-discovery is both empowering and enlightening.

By accessing your body’s stored knowledge you can very often find the rationale behind feelings and thoughts that make no sense on a conscious level. According to Ann Weiser Cornell (May, 2005) in her book: The Radical Acceptance of Everything. Calluna Press. p. 13:

Focusing is a psychotherapeutic process developed by psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin. It can be successfully used in any kind of therapeutic situation, including peer-to-peer sessions. It involves holding a kind of open, non-judging attention to an internal knowing which is directly experienced but is not yet in words. Focusing can, among other things, be used to become clear on what one feels or wants, to obtain new insights about one’s situation, and to stimulate change or healing of the situation. Focusing is set apart from other methods of inner awareness by three qualities: something called the “felt sense”, a quality of engaged accepting attention, and a researched-based technique that facilitates change

If you would like more information about Focusing then please do not hesitate to contact me using the contact page.