I have always been the last one that I think about. I put my daughter, grandchildren, husband, sibling’s and damn near any body else that needs me first. I guess that one of the reasons that I am this way is because both my Mother and Daddy always put we children, all 11 of us, first. Not to mention the other four (4) children they cared for over the years.

I was raised on a medium sized farm and we always had plenty of food to eat, which was not the case for many families in our area. My Daddy and Mother worked hard, as did we children, but we always shared what we had with others around us. I have been so blessed throughout my life and I think a large portion of these blessing come from giving, not only of material things but of myself.

Thank you for seeing it as I do. It's not out of greed but necessity. I help myself first, so I am in a position to help others. That's just how life it. Even a lioness eats before her cubs but if she doesn't eat, none of them do. When everyone relies on themselves first, there are few left who truly need help.

...........IF ONE GOES TOO FAR EITHER DIRECTION, THE RESULTS ARE:..........YOU'RE AT THE BOTTOM, FEELING LOUSY, FOR YOUR "EFFORTS", THAT GO UN-NOTICED................ OR IF YOU LEAN TOO FAR THE OTHER WAY, AND ARE COMPLETELY SELFISH, YOU'LL EVENTUALLY BE RIDDLED WITH GUILT, ANXIETY, LONELINESS, AND FRIENDLESS.........HOW LONG I COULD MAKE THE LIST EITHER WAY!

I SAY, "STOP, LOOK AND LISTEN", AND THE ANSWERS TO YOUR, "WHO COMES FIRST HO'S ON SECOND," WILL COME!

THAT'S HOW THE LORD SPEAKETH........... IN YOUR HEART FIRST, SO DO THAT, THEN THE MIND WILL FOLLOW, WITH THE RIGHT DECISION MAKING..........

BUT, WHATEVER YOU DO, STAY OUT OF THE GRAY AREA OF LIFE'S EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've always had a need to make sure other people are happy and doing alright. I hate seeing people feeling down or going through a rough time so I try to help everyone I can and male a positive influence on their lives.

i think everyone does under certain events...........for example my grandmother came home from the hospital and both of her legs are broke. she is 81 years old and we dont want her to go to a nurseing home; so my aunt is staying with her at her house to help and i live the closest to her so i go over there everyday when she wants to get out of bed to sit in her recliner....i the one that transports her there. so I think that everyone would put someone first under certain events and be there when needed

Not really although I try to consider certain others' needs in choosing my actions.

The participants in this discussion seem atypical of the Soda Head population as a whole in that most answered "Yes" to the proposition, and that seems enormously altruistic when compared with the rock-ribbed "me first" or "us first" positions expressed in other discussions. Could it be that Soda Head users have a heart after all? Ayn Rand would spin in her grave if that were true.

i do with my little brother. like say i have a date with my boy friend, and my brother wants to go to the, i take him and my boy friend comes with me so i guess he puts me first if hes gonna go with me! but i dont always take him

Its the only way the world will become a better place.
Government can not force people to care about others, no matter how hard it tries.
This must come from individuals, freely given, to have any lasting benefit.