upon meeting the mother for the very first time; she looked down her uptilted nose at me and dryly, sarcasticly commented "blue jeans are not approiate for this type of affair".

I smiled at her at politely said "having finally met you, mrs. F****r, I can tell that **** received his breeding and good manners from his father's side of the family. Good Day, madam!" and slowly strolled away from her.

Wow...not only did you overeact... you showed that you have even less class than ur bf's mother. the appropriate response was "I am sorry Mrs. x..x. I really didn't intend to offend you or your guests. I really wanted to make a good impression and i hope this won't prevent us from being friends." then while she was stunned and stuttering you could just have smiled. thats class.

mattyrec saidWow...not only did you overeact... you showed that you have even less class than ur bf's mother. the appropriate response was "I am sorry Mrs. x..x. I really didn't intend to offend you or your guests. I really wanted to make a good impression and i hope this won't prevent us from being friends." then while she was stunned and stuttering you could just have smiled. thats class.

mattyrec saidWow...not only did you overeact... you showed that you have even less class than ur bf's mother. the appropriate response was "I am sorry Mrs. x..x. I really didn't intend to offend you or your guests. I really wanted to make a good impression and i hope this won't prevent us from being friends." then while she was stunned and stuttering you could just have smiled. thats class.

no, that's a "suck up to your elders" reply...

No, that's the polite, civil reply. Did you go to the Kanye West School of Etiquette?

Mate, I would have looked around and then said to her "How embarrassing. I'm so over-dressed". Then take off the jacket and politely ask her "Where's the bar? I need a drink before I slip into my Speedo".

TucsonGradJock saidMate, I would have looked around and then said to her "How embarrassing. I'm so over-dressed". Then take off the jacket and politely ask her "Where's the bar? I need a drink before I slip into my Speedo".

Spoken loudly, "Bill, these jeans are inappropriate! Can you get me home to change?" *gives her a look of sober concern*Then saying to the mother, with a warm endearing and brilliant smile "Would you prefer black slacks or a light colour?" also in loud center stage voice.

Hmm, my apologies but im gonna have to go with the mom here. (dont hate me). Your boyfriend's mom is exactly like my family and jeans are considered underdressed for a brunch. Gonna wanna go with khakis for a brunch. In terms of her behaviour though...shes allowed to have an opinion but comments about dress code are best kept inside (except at a restaurant). For the sake of the future of you and your boyfriend, you should probably meet with her for lunch or send an apology. When these types of women put on an occasion like that, they do want everything to go right and it was probably many things that caused her to lash out and you, being new to the family, made for an easy target.

whosyourpaddy saidFor the sake of the future of you and your boyfriend, you should probably meet with her for lunch or send an apology.

The fact that the you wore a blazer made the jeans completely appropriate in light of the fact that the woman's own invitation stated "dressy/casual". What a bitch! The one being rude and inappropriate was her for saying anything at all and making one of her guests (her son's bf no less) feel uncomfortable. It's not as if the OP showed up in ripped jeans and a tank top. The bf should have made her apologize because she was out of line. If my mother acted that way towards any of my friends, let alone my bf, I would let her have it. Then again, my mum would never do such a thing.

Well I have to say I would have been upset with the reaction from your bf's mother........ and would have been tempted to say something like what you did but...

To keep peace both with your bf and not to create any drama, I would have let it pass, apologized and been extemely polite. She isn't some woman, she's your bf's mother.

However, if after going the extra mile, she still treats you in a "less than" manner, I would say something. There is being polite and then there is being treated like a doormat. I am usually the former and never the latter.

WOW! Well in all honesty you did know what the dress code was for the occasion so you should've prepared a bit better. You are old enough to know that when meeting someone's parent's for the first time you should do well to be on your best behavior and at least look good. First impressions make lasting moments.

You even had the advantage of knowing what to wear when attending the function. There are jeans and then there are dress jeans. I doubt it would've killed you had you wore a nice pair of khakis or some simple dress pants with a simple shirt and maybe for added effect a tie. LOL.

Your BF should be pretty miffed or at least somewhat concerned how things went down but clearly if he is able to giggle and laugh about something like this then there's no sense in mourning over it.

You would've been better off ignoring her comment and acting like neither she or her words existed.