Once in a while I get asked what some consider an uncomfortable question: How do you stay, uh, clean when you’re bottoming? Unless you and your partner are into scat, it can be a bit embarrassing when the top pulls out and — how shall I put this delicately? — finds his dick covered in shit. Try not to be too hard on yourself, though… shit happens, as it were. It happens to everyone at some time or another, even porn actors. (Yes, it does happen on set occasionally; when it does, we usually take 5 minutes for the bottom to go “touch-up,” as we say in the biz.) But to help you minimize the risk of getting into a messy situation, allow me to humbly offer my thoughts on how to clean up your act… and stay clean.

Protein shake… now with Metamucil!

I used to eat like shit (sorry, that was too easy). I’d have pizza every other night, loved fried food, would wolf down Big Macs like they were sliders. My digestive health suffered big time… and when I would hook up with guys, it was kind of a “crap shoot” (enough with the puns!) whether or not I’d be stinking up the room. Now, however, I get fucked with confidence, knowing that I’ll be clean as a whistle every time… and I owe it all to a healthy diet that’s rich in, you guessed it, fiber… along with lots of lean proteins and green vegetables. And to boost my fiber intake, I mix Metamucil into my protein shakes. Don’t laugh… it’s good for you! And I’ve found that when I blend it into my shakes along with vanilla protein powder and some ice, it makes for a nice texture, kind of like orange sherbet. By the way, the daily recommended dose of fiber for an adult male is 38 grams per day. Don’t overdo it… too much and you can get constipated.

An enema can be your best friend.

Now that I’ve gotten the preachy “eat healthy” bit out of the way, it’s time to discuss techniques for cleaning out. Douching is an uncomfortable subject for many, but I’m going to attempt to give it fair due here. The most important rule, I’d have to say, is “less is more.” If you shoot too much water up your butt, you’re going to loosen stuff up that would have otherwise been just fine way up in there, and untouchable even by the biggest of dicks. So, as with your fiber intake, don’t overdo it. Plus if you put too much water up there, you’ll start to feel uncomfortably bloated.

One of the simplest ways to clean out is a good old-fashioned Fleet enema. They’re cheap, portable, easy to use, and effective; step-by-step instructions are available on Fleet’s website. Inserting the tip might be a little uncomfortable, but try to relax, breath deeply, and try not to clench. Once you’ve got the fluid in there, don’t expel it right away… hold it until you feel the urge to go, but no longer than 10 minutes. And when you do take that crap, you’ll be rid of most of the gunk up there.

For convenient touch-ups, I like to rinse out a little more by using a device called a douche bulb. You fill it with water and use it much the same way as you do an enema. It’s portable, reusable, and especially great for when you’re feeling like you’re probably okay but you just want to be sure.

For a deeper clean, I use a device called a Shower Shot. No power bottom should be without one. They’re easy to install, hygienic, and have a valve that lets you adjust the water pressure. As I keep mentioning, though, be careful not to overdo it. Using too much pressure or rinsing out too many times can actually loosen up stuff you don’t want to be loosened up, and using it at full force can actually damage your insides. Easy does it!

When I’m cleaning out, I prefer to stand in the shower and bend forward; some people are more comfortable sitting on a toilet or lying down in a bathtub. No matter what position you use, the technique is the same: If you’re using a bulb, fill it with warm water; if you’ve got a Shower Shot, start running warm water through it at a relatively low pressure. Then, using a little lube if necessary, insert the tip of the nozzle into your hole. It doesn’t have to go far. Then just relax and let the water flow in. Once you start to feel “full,” remove the nozzle and expel the water, then repeat until the result is relatively clear. You’re not looking for perfection here… remember, less is more! Sometimes you’ll be clean after the first rinse; other times it might take a couple of iterations. But once you’ve gotten most of the gunk out, don’t keep going. You’re probably only going to make things worse.

So there you have it… my quick ‘n dirty clean guide to douching. I’m sure there are plenty of other effective methods out there that people swear by; these are only my personal experiences and recommendations. Also, please don’t consider this to be medical advice… I can’t be held responsible if something goes wrong. But if you relax and take it nice and slow, you’ll be good to go and ready to be fucked with flair. Happy bottoming!

I just wanted to say I’m a big fan of yourself and Dirk. I was clueless to cleaning out when I came out five years ago. Still am acutally recently single now so I am always looking for good safe advise on this subject since I am versatile. Recently just got into the porn industry myself so thanks again for the info.
Clint Lobb AKA Cooper Hill

Fleet bottles are not reusable… I believe they are sealed and you can’t refill them, even with water. Douche bulbs, though, are reusable!

You can buy Fleet enemas over-the-counter at any pharmacy. The names of the products in this post are actually links that you can click on that take you to where you can buy them. However, here’s a recap:

Fleet bottles are reusable. The top unscrews, but you will see a seal in the top that stops the water from flowing out. Be careful to buy only saline, and not phosphate containing Fleet products. The phosphate type will give you gas after you thought you were clean.

BUTT seriously, (now you’ve got ME doing it!), thanks for bringing up something that, incredibly, MANY guys aren’t comfortable talking about. I was fortunate to get some instruction in this early on during my ‘sexual discovery’ phase, by reading….gay pulp novels! And who said smut couldn’t be educational? In any case, back in the days when I was REALLY active and knew that I would probably be getting a lot of bottoming action in, I actually used the double-pack of Fleet enemas, which was usually enough. Plus, I tended to stay away from heavy foods a day or so before. And if things got, shall we say, spontaneous, and I really hadn’t had time to ‘prepare’,, there were other hot, sensual things that my partner and I could do besides anal. (And since I had sex mainly with other experienced gay men, happily, most understood and were ready with extra supplies I could ‘borrow’ at the time.)

I just hope that more guys who are not as well-versed in the art of cleanliness “DOWN THERE” will read this, not be em-BARE-ASSED (lol) about it, and have no problem with taking this good advice, so they will be “tops” when it comes to bottoming! Okay, done…

I just want to throw this out there. it’s not healthy to use a fleet too much. while it’s ok to use water fleets not as much so. is it ok to use a fleet? yeah ecery here or there. Should you use it every time? no Warm water will doo the trick just fine and it doesn’t carry the chemicals fleets do. even thought fleets are made for that they still take away from the natural bacteria you have up there. Remember kids fleets are ok. Just not everyday.

I just consulted a clinician friend of mine about this because I wanted to be more confident of my answer before responding — and again, this is not to be taken as “official” medical advice, just an observation — but according to my friend, some doctors do believe that over-douching does flush out certain flora that can be beneficial to your overall digestive health. So yeah, an enema that contains a laxative, while giving you a thorough cleaning, is fine to use once in a while but it might not be a great idea to use one day. (Emphasis on might… there are, as usual, dissenting opinions out there.) The general consensus, though… in line with the tone of my original post… is “everything in moderation.” It’s okay to thoroughly clean out the pipes every once in a while. In addition, using a simple water douche, or a drug-free enema like Fleet’s “Naturals” line, seemingly has less impact and can be used a little more regularly without losing as many of those good bacteria.

Thanks for that informative post. If I could add a bit more, when you have a date lined up cut down on nuts in ur diet a few days beforehand. These little critters lurk in every crevice and cavity and want to come out at the most inappropriate time. Also I find with the shower shot if u leave it on a trickle and pull it to one side you can have an ongoing flushing action which saves filling and expelling.

Awesome, thanks for posting! It’s definitely gonna help a lot of guys.

I have a follow up question- if you’re using the Fleet and you keep the solution in, are you guaranteeing you poop everything out? I’ve seen a lot of mentions of that (and enemas in general) throwing off your digestive system and to, instead, pour out the saline and replace it with water. Have you had any ill side effects with frequent enemas or does your body continue as usual?

For that reason and because it holds a little bit more water, I just use a bulb douche with only water and have figured out my patterns for when I need to go or when will I go again. If I’ve had a my big movement for the day, then I go ahead and douche. If not, I wait til it comes. I’m definitely not the guy who wants to sacrifice a day or two of eating. The issue though, I feel like my body is constantly digesting something and there’s always more up the pipeline, thus I only have a brief window of being clean.

So…. should I Fleet to be clean for a longer period of time or does it not matter?

Oh, one more inquiry, how deep are going with the water for the shower bullet and is that also a Fleet first type of thing?

I actually covered a bit of this in reply to Richi’s earlier comment. A Fleet enema is good once in a while, but probably not great to do every day. Standard disclaimer applies here — this is personal experience, not medical advice — but in my case if I’m feeling really backed up I’ll spurge on a Fleet and then do a quick “touch-up” with the bulb or Shower Shot afterwards. But thanks to my clean diet, I find I rarely need either.

As to how far… I usually start the Shower Shot at a low pressure and just let myself fill up until I feel “full” but not beyond. The idea is NOT to sandblast your way to a cleaner rectum! You are, instead, putting it through a gentle rinse cycle, kind of like hand-washing fine china rather than shoving your ass in an autoclave. 🙂

Heya Jesse, thanks for that awesome blog entry. Its really helpful advice. I know for sure that there are folks out there that have been bottoming for years that could have used this kind advice a long while ago. Keep up with the good stuff Mr and good luck with your next project. 🙂

I follow ya on fb and ran across yar article on douching on here. Very interesting and to the point to the end – as it were. Ya mentioned to look for a Stream Master on ebay. Priape in Canada still has them for sale – where I got mine.

BTW – Ya make MA much nicer to travel in. Only if I could catch a glimpse of ya from the rig when I drive through there on occasion.

I question your use of the term “clean as a whistle”. It always has made me shudder as all the whistles I have known are either full of gym teacher spit or the spit of women who think they are going to be raped.

My 2 cents.

Thanks for the advice on technique you hot hot man!

P.s. In your experience, does moderate to heavy frequency of these cleaning techniques ever disrupt the flora of the digestive tract or require probiotics after use?

Ha! Dirk and I laughed out loud when we read that! I’ll never think of whistles the same way again. 🙂

As for your question… Dirk and I have never had a problem personally, but we do know people who have had issues when over-douching… especially when going for a “deep clean” (like when preparing to be fisted). Usually the problem manifests itself in the form of diarrhea. Again, this is not to be taken as medical advice, but if that were to happen to me, I’d definitely consider taking probiotics along with immodium. But I think the key, as I mentioned in the post, is not to overdo it with the douching. Then you won’t run into the problem in the first place. A nice easy rinse does the trick in most cases. 🙂

Thanks for the info. I am still “virginal” when it comes to bottoming, only having 2 (bad) experiences in the last decade. It is something I want to explore again, but the fear factor keeps me timid. I really dont want to end up torn. It took forever to heal last time. I figure if I take it very slow I should be ok. Reading your blog has helped me overcome many of my concerns. Thank you for that.

Give my best to Dirk. From what I can tell, the two of you are ideal specimens of what men should be both physically and mentally. Brawny, beautiful, fuzzy, and smart. The best of all worlds.

When I relayed your message to Dirk, it got us talking about your predicament. Dirk, an expert in such matters, believes that tension is what caused your difficulties in your two previous bottoming attempts, and if you’re able to find a way to train yourself to relax your ass, your third attempt will be a much more enjoyable experience. To that end, have you ever considered purchasing a butt plug? I’m not talking a monster-sized thing that could double as a door stop or anything. 😉 The first thing that came to mind is a product that Mr. S makes called the “World’s Most Comfortable Butt Plug” (WMCBP). It’s a best-seller of theirs, and with good reason… there are lots of people out there who want to try bottoming but simply need to get acclimated to having something “foreign” in their ass. Maybe you could get one of these thingies and give it a whirl. They actually feel pretty amazing when you’re jerking off, and after a few sessions with it you’ll start to get used to the idea of having something in your ass… and then when you do put some lucky guy’s cock up there, you’ll be at least somewhat used to the feeling… and hopefully be able to relax enough to enjoy what can be an absolutely incredible experience. 🙂

Hi Jesse,
I’m glad I have browsed this site. It will be an informative/ educational for gays like me. I have seen from Man to Man videos that the bottom is inhaling this small bottle… What is that and what’s that for?

That little bottle contains the chemical amyl nitrate (or a close variant)… otherwise known as “poppers.” When some people smell the vapors from it, they get a head rush from it because it dilates blood vessels and decreases blood pressure rapidly. Others just get a splitting headache. It’s kind of dangerous, too… I have a friend who spilled some of it on his leg and it gave him a bad scar, and you ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY do not want to drink it. You have to be very careful with that shit. In many states in the U.S. it’s illegal to sell poppers (like where I live, in Massachusetts) and I’ve heard stories of people being detained by TSA for hours if they try to bring them on-board an airplane.

Thank You! Thank You! Thank You! Much of what You said was positive affirmation of what i’ve been doing. I’ve been looking for an article like this on and off for some time now. BTW, for those who want a douche bulb right away or forget their douche bulb when traveling, an ear syringe works great and is what i have used for years. They can even be found for as low as $3.
On a different note, i just found out about You today and am really enjoying exploring Your site. It has been added to my Favorites on the computer. Thank You for keeping it real. Hugs and Love!

You’re very welcome!! It’s kind of the whole reason I do this, y’know? It makes me very happy to know that I might have actually helped someone by doing all of this. And BTW the ear syringe is a really good idea… although I personally need a little more water volume than that. 🙂

Thank you for the great advice. I have an Aneros and I love it but there is a huge difference between that and a cock. I will start the plugs and see how far I get. Hopefully some day I will be confident enough to take on real men like yourself and Dirk. Lol!

Thanks gorgeous!

P.s. You are 100% correct, poppers are dangerous to the skin ( and mucous membranes). My local shop used to sell them but they got busted by Sheriff Joe and can’t carry them anymore. I have never used them but know people that cannot have sex without them. They aren’t the brightest people I know.

Thank you very much! This has been what I have been looking for. I would not call me a “bottom”, but more of a once every other month type of bottom. 🙂 I have always done the fleet to get ready. I run into problems with the “spur of the moment” encounters. How do you plan for the unplanned? Also, I read the information about the butt plug, which is also another challenge I have, I am very very tight and loosing up to enjoy the experience is very hard for me. Besides the plug what would you recommend?

You are Dirk are a great couple and can tell the true love that is there. Tell him how luck he and your both are to find that. Thank you for your help,

Awesome, glad I could help! Mostly it’s a relaxation thing… if you’re worried about how things’ll go, you’ll tense up, the muscles back there will be very tight, and you’ll have a harder (and more painful) time of things. If you remember to breathe and try to relax your muscles, that will help.

For spur-of-the-moment issues, there’s not much you can really do. A couple of friends of mine will go buy a bottle of water with one of those squirt-top lids (like sports drinks often have), and use that as an emergency douche bulb. Other than that, if you keep up with healthy eating and a fair amount of fiber you shouldn’t need to clean out very often, if at all. It’s actually gotten to the point where I can get fucked with confidence even without preparing first… any problems are very few and very far between, and I’m pretty sure it’s because of my clean, healthy diet.

I have finally been able to tune what I need out of the shower shot. More than once have made the mistake of too much too fast. I have found out that is you relax as the water flows in it will
flow out (mass balance) and makes the process easier and more comfortable. Like you, I lean forward and after a couple of minutes of gentle continuous flushing the water starts running clean without the need to iterate.
Thank you Jesse and thank you for that huge at Folsom. You guys are the best.
Pedro and Frank

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