Wednesday, April 23, 2014

"Turned out Ok, but.."

That is just cruel. I don't blame my mom for choosing a closed identity donor as the times were different back then but I'd be lying if I said that it didn't hurt. Not knowing who your father is, the man who is quite literally half of you, whether he is dead or alive, trying not to think of him during your teenage years because it wasted a lot of your time. Feeling angry at your mom yet not wanting to blame her. Looking back, I guess I had a huge identity crisis as a teenager.

Paternity establishment means more than having a father on the child’s birth certificate or obtaining an order for child support. Once paternity is established, a child gains legal rights and privileges. Other benefits of establishing paternity include:

giving the child rights to inheritance
access to the father’s medical and life insurance benefits
eligibility for social security and veteran’s benefits
giving the child a better chance to develop a relationship with the father
giving the child a sense of identity and connection to both sides of the family

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But it doesn't turn out OK. One of the young fatherless men I mentored finally had his father re-enter his life after 20+ years of abandonment. The young man had been so starved for fatherly love that when he finally met the guy, he went overboard with his expressions of love. It was simultaneously beautiful and tragic, like the dog who waits for years for his master to return.

The guy came back, but I'm not sure how long he stayed. Meanwhile, the son suffered horrible, deep emotional and psychological wounds over decades wondering about his dad.

Renee Aste

From a personal and local view, the observations of seeing a accelerated decline of things. The practice of our faith is being suppressed. Catholics are being forced further and further underground from public life or looking at our political state and throwing up our hands that it isn’t worth our souls to participate in such a corrupt system.

"I wouldn't make an anti-gay cake or a gay marriage cake based on my views. Culture wars make bad public policy.

So I guess we will be fed to the lions, for social media pleasure. April 13, 2012

"Because even if you can't call it marriage, the state will always have the interest in a child being raised by biological kin in a stable environment. It will be costly and disruptive for the child, if parents do not vow as husband and wife to be married or whatever we will call it"

Marriage from a Child's Point of View

This post was originally posted on my original blog "Up On Christian Hill" on February 14, 2007.Seven years have passed, marriage in our present day has no interest in a child being raised and protected by both of her parents.

"While in high school and college, my peers always talked about their parents and their relationship with each other. Even though it was never considered a factor in success and happiness, we talked about gender, incomes, and race, even sexual orientation but never how marriage affected society in formal terms. Informally though I could tell you the lives of dozens of parents, because we spoke so much of them.

We talked about how well they got along with each other, if they fought, if they were divorced, remarried, abandoned us, and even if they smoked pot. Parents were important to us, even though educators, marketers, and counter sub-cultures wanted us to ignore what they represented to us. Back while a sophomore in college something changed in my view of social policy and family."