So, I'm normally an upbeat person but...

I've decided that it's okay for me to be down in the dumps today. It turns out my mother in law has been diagnosis'd with a particularly aggressive form of brain cancer and her prognosis is poor. I'm going to go wallow in a little self-pity now while I consider the pain and suffering my family will be going through over the next several weeks/months.

My Dad died from a Glioma Blastoma 10 months ago. Please let me know if you need any advice on the progression of brain cancer. Although they go very fast, they usually have little pain - which is good. My Dad went very peacefully and without pain - but oh so fast. I am so so sorry you are going through this - and again - pm me if you want any advice as I didn't know what to expect, and I wish I had.
Sending you and your family many hugs.

I am so sorry TM. I know from everything you have said that you are very close to her and this will be a difficult time for the entire family. Don't waste time and make every minute with her count. I spent a great deal of time with my mother in law toward the end and I will never regret that. She was special to me and I still miss her.

Im so sorry. I do think its okay to be not okay. I agree to take all the time you can with her now to get as many good memories as possible. All the good pictures, all the good videos. If she is close by, I would even say this is a perfect time to allow Duckie to miss some school to go spend time with mother in law. This will mean the world to her.

As much as you might feel like your family needs you to be the one who's "UP," you can't shoulder the burden of this sad situation, nor should you try. It's okay for Duckie and husband to see you hurting and to take time to allow those feelings to surface. I know when my dad was dying, I tried at first to maintain the brave face, coming and going and reporting the facts of the situation to them each day, but ultimately I think when I finally let it all out and showed my family what I was going through it made them realize just how human I am and brought us all closer together. I still remember hanging up the phone with my mom after she called to let me know dad was gone and my kids and husband all just surrounding me and putting their arms around me while I let it all out. It was very freeing to be able to do that, especially after having grown up in a family that did not really allow me the expression of any emotion.

I hope this time brings everyone closer together and that they can use it to celebrate her life while she is still here. (((((Hugs)))))