Subject: Re: read-sequence
From: Erik Naggum <erik@naggum.no>
Date: 18 Sep 2002 13:07:57 +0000
Newsgroups: comp.lang.lisp
Message-ID: <3241343277174291@naggum.no>
* Adam Warner
| Even if you disagreed with the contention you could have addressed it
| instead of belittling me.
Even if you feel belittled, you could have addressed his points.
It is clearly more important to you feel well and well treated than to argue
well. News is not a good place for people who feel first and think later, if
at all. So instead of making a huge fuss about your personal feelings, just
address the points in question. You cannot always demand to be treated well,
either. Sometimes, everybody does things that looks stupid to others. What
matters is not how it makes you look, but how maturely you respond. If all
you can do is whine that you were treated badly, that does a lot more damage
to the impression people have of you than if you simply ignore it and do
better next time, which in effect, if not in words, rejects and repudiates
what you feel is an attack more than you could by denying it, which actually
gives it credibility in the eyes of the beholders.
If you dislike that others do not address the point, just address the point.
--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway
Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder.
Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.