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Monday, February 27, 2006

Intense Relationship Meant To Be?

Dear Lynda:My ex recently broke up with me and we agreed not to have any communication with one another thereafter. We had a 4-year on and off, really intense relationship. Right now I am disturbed because 3 weeks after the break up she called me out of the blue -- and it happened to be the first day I was really upset about the break up and had been really close to calling her. It was almost as though that phone call was meant to be. Two weeks later, I was in my ex's neighborhood for the first time since the break up -- and she had no idea I was in town, and I was wondering if she could sense that I was close by, and right that second I got a call from her! It was very scary to have such a connection. This morning I woke up depressed and thinking about the break up in an intense way. I said to myself, "If she doesn't call today, it's a sign that we don't really have a connection." And then a few minutes later I got a call from her and she was upset too. This is very intense and scary because part of the break up agreement is not to talk to each other and the three times she has called have been really intense times when I have been thinking about her. It's almost like my thinking about her channels her to call or something. Or that we are on the same wavelength and feel similar kinds of emotions. Even though we are broken up, she says that she is still in love with me and considers me to be the soulmate and possible love of her life. The reason why the relationship can' t be though is that I have anger issues and she isn't patient enough to work through them with me or help me find the help I need. I accept that and I can't say that I love her, because for me love is forever and I accept that this isn't the relationship for me But we've split up and gotten back together several times in the past four years, and even though this time its for good, it seems that there is a higher cosmic force telling us that we're still connected and meant to be together. Any advice about this is much appreciated.P.D., Massachusetts

Dear P.D.:If you read this blog with any regularity, you've probably noticed that this sort of question comes up often. I can only give you my opinion and my interpretation of the cards I pulled on your behalf. You feel a strong connection between you and this person because both of you are still focused on the connection. It's as simple as that. I believe the universe is vibrational. That means that vibrations seek out like vibrations. It has little to do with "supposed to," and everything to do with where your attention is. Intensity magnifies the focus. Granted, drama is great. It can feel alive, passionate, intense -- all the things we hope life can be. In fact, without our dramas, life can seem dull. So, I fully understand why we humans chose drama over the alternative. That's one reason soap operas are so popular on TV -- daytime and nighttime. And we are all perceptive/intuitive/psychic beings. All of us have abilities that are happy to manifest if we don't close them down through silly superstition, fear or apathy. So, you'll stop attracting evidence of connection to this person when you no longer focus on it. And, by the way, the relationship doesn't seem very helpful or healthy to me, so I'd ask you to contemplate the value of the drama versus the positive changes that can happen if you let go.Lynda