How do I cope with not being ready to be pregnant again?

I know before I proceed that I’m going to sound selfish, believe me I feel selfish, but I am just not ready. I am 19, I had my first son in high school, now I am married and pregnant again (my first son turned 1 literally last week). I’m about 12 weeks and I do not know what to do. My husband will not discuss me having an abortion, my husband will not discuss adoption, but being pregnant again is literally already breaking me down. I still haven’t gotten in shape or recovered from my first pregnancy, and I am just not ready. My husband is military so I am 2000 miles away from my family. I sound like a bad person , and very ungrateful, especially since there are some women that would LOVE to be having a second baby. I am just not ready, and I don’t know what to do. I know most responses probably will not be very kind, but I would love some advice from a more mature woman with words that could guide me through this situation that I’ve put myself in.

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