While we’re living in a time of women celebrating body diversity and definitions of beauty being challenged almost daily, we’re also still stuck in a world that defines a mother’s value by how fast she “snaps back” after giving birth. The pressure to drop baby weight is painfully real, and it’s a lot of pressure to put on a person who just literally grew another human inside herself.

Brooklyn Nine-Ninestar Melissa Fumero, who gave birth last year, obviously felt that pressure and decided to get real about it on Twitter on Tuesday afternoon. Fumero’s supportive tweetstorm started with a retweet of another woman’s thoughts on losing weight after giving birth.

Preach girl! Took me 18 months to lose all the baby weight, and only cuz I was working crazy hours did the last bit come off Grateful to work on a show where nobody cared, and that’s how it should be EVERYWHERE. https://t.co/B15IWOKYE4

Fumero isn’t the first actor to talk about weight gain during pregnancy and losing the weight afterwards.

Blake Lively recently got very real about how long it took her to lose her baby weight after the birth of her daughter.

“Turns out you can’t lose the 61 lbs you gained during pregnancy by just scrolling through instragram [sic] and wondering why you don’t look like all the bikini models,” she wrote. “Thanks @donsaladino for kickin my A double S into shape. 10 months to gain, 14 months to lose. Feeling very proud.”

Whether a woman runs back to the gym, takes her time losing weight, or doesn’t lose weight at all, it’s so important to remember that it’s her body. What she does with it – or doesn’t – is her business. Fumero’s tweets are a smart reminder that everyone goes at her own pace, and it’s no one’s business but hers.