We almost tear off one another’s clothes as soon as she opens the door to my special knock.

Then it is sex all evening until we are exhausted and have no energy left. We get a takeaway and sit and talk.

If I stay the night, we have a quickie in the morning.

My ex-girlfriend and I parted two years ago so I consider myself free to find someone else.

This girl says she no longer feels as she used to about my best friend but she hasn’t broken up with him yet and shows no signs of doing so.

I cannot bear the thought of giving her up but I don’t want to mess up my friendship either.

It is possible our other friends will turn on me when they realise I have pinched my best friend’s girlfriend.

Her bid for me came totally out of the blue as far as I was concerned but I doubt whether anyone else will see it that way.

I need to find a way out of this without messing everything up.

DEIDRE SAYS: The longer you leave it, the messier it will be.

You sound to have been enjoying the sex but not to have lost your heart.

If I’m wrong and she is the girl of your dreams, ask her to decide which man she wants to be with, hope it’s you and be ready to pay the price in lost friendships.

If you know she’s not the right long-term partner for you, the sooner you put a stop to it, the sooner you can look for a real relationship which is based on love, friendship and companionship along with great sex.

So one way or the other, find the courage to end this deceit now and stick to your decision.

And I hope you’ve been using effective contraception.

Think about socialising other than through football and drinking sessions down the pub so you’ve more chance to make female friends.