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How do I tell baby's father that I want the baby to have my last name?

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I want to give my baby girl my last name. I'm 18 years old. I am with the father, but legal marriage isn't something in our future for personal reasons. He is 100% going to be in the babys life. I don't know how to tell him that I would prefer her to have my last name, and I'm almost 35 weeks along and running out of time quickly. I don't want to hurt him, and I want him to be able to see things from my perspective. How can I tell him and what points should I give to have a valid argument that he may agree with in the end?

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Personally I think its your choice, you carried her and you have the right to name her what you want. Its obivously easier for her to have your last name for insurance reasons and less questions later of why she doesnt have your last name. My daughter got my last name but now that I am married and due with a another, she will have a different last name than the rest of us, which I dont like so my DH will be adopting her and changing her last name to ours.

I think it might hurt his feelings, especially if you are both together now. Have you considered combining both your names? If your daughter has 2 names, she'll most likely only use one of them anyways. What are your reasons for not wanting to give her his name? Even if marriage isn't in your future plans, it won't change the fact that he's the father.

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