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My husband and I have been wearing your jewelry for about 6 months. No one has ever asked if it has any special meaning. One friend did point out that they were both of the same design. We laughed and said that this is why we each bought a piece. Much like wedding rings, it makes us feel connected.

We are avid golfers and spend a lot of time at our golf club. Over the years, we have gotten to know most of the members. This is strictly a vanilla club.

As we are in the lifestyle, we have created two separate lives: our night life and our day life. There is no question that people would never suspect that we are swingers.

Like most weekends, we had plans to play golf with some friends. At the last minute, the couple we had planned to play with had to cancel. As a result, we were randomly paired up with another couple looking to play. Although we have known this couple for at least 8 years, the wife is a new golfer so they usually try to play alone.

After teeing off on the 3rd hole, my ball went very far to the right. As I approached I realized it went into the lake. The man who joined us drove up in his cart to hand me a ball retriever. Just after hitting my ball, he offered me a ride to catch up with the others. As soon as I sat in the cart, he started to laugh. I was confused and looked over at him. The man reached over and gently held the pendant of my necklace in his hand. He told me that they have been in the lifestyle for quite awhile and also have your jewelry.

This was a huge surprise! We have known this couple for a long time and neither of us would have ever suspected that they are swingers. It was equally as shocking for them to discover that we are also swingers.

This couple, like ourselves, prefer to travel for lifestyle events and parties. Over the past few weeks we have been in constant contact as it turns out, we are both going on a lifestyle cruise in April!

You often tell people that it’s impossible to know who the other swingers are, and as you can see, this is true! Certainly, without the jewelry, we would never have guessed. For instance, here is a couple that we have known for 8 years and never suspected.

Everyone needs to wear your jewelry. It really is the only way to know who else is in the lifestyle!

So you are in the lifestyle and have gotten your feet wet in the world of swinging. It does not matter what “type” of swinger you are: full swap, soft swap, etc., what matters is that you are now one of us! It comes about slowly, but all of the sudden you have that aha moment when you realize you are truly part of the lifestyle. This list points out things that are common among people who swing and if two or more apply to you, you are a swinger!

You know you’re a swinger when:

The names in your phone are couples with first names only (or they all have the same last name, which is the name of your swing club).

To avoid missing a night out when your adult children come to town, you have told them that you have important plans Saturday night that cannot be broken.

Before adult children come to visit, you scout their rooms to make sure their sheets are clean and there are no condoms or toys in the drawers from your last sleep over guests.

When you have young children at home, you dress in your car. You think nothing of the trucks passing by when you are buck naked on the highway.

It is not uncommon for you to get dressed at home and wear a trench coat in the middle of summer to get out of the house.

In your home is a “secret” closet for your slut wear and hooker shoes.

When someone asks to see a picture that’s on your phone you hold the phone to show them. You panic that they might scroll through some of the photos.

You have at least one screen name with some sexual or provocative word in it.

There are nude photos of you somewhere.

You have lied to many friends about your where abouts on the weekend.

On more than one occassion, you have declined important vanilla social engagements to attend a swinger event.

Even though you are married, there is an ample supply of condoms in your home.

You have sex toys and lingerie and share both with your lifestyle friends.

It is not uncommon for you to tell women you love their breasts and ask if you can feel them.

Sometimes you see a couple and ask your partner if you have ever played with them. (You can’t remember everyone!)

When you see an attractive couple, you point them out to your partner, even in vanilla settings.

You talk about the size of your partner’s penis, then your friends want to see it for themselves.

You would happily show your tattoos and piercings; even your clit ring.

When someone is talking about a Prince Albert you know it’s not a person.

You have to remember to pack a bathing suit when going to the beach with vanilla friends.

You tell your friends that you can’t see them this weekend because you have your period.

Inviting your lifestyle friends to your house requires no cooking. They are not interested in eating…

You have had sleepovers with your friends.

If you go to the restroom with friends, you share a stall.

When out with vanilla friends, you have to make a conscious effort not to discuss sex.

Anytime you attend a vanilla party, you have to remind yourself that you cannot just strip off your clothing and jump into a pool.

You have discussed another man’s penis with your husband.

Your husband has told you that another woman is good in bed.

You’ve had some sexual contact with your best (lifestyle) friends.

You have to remember to keep your clothing on when on a vanilla vacation.

Did you shake your head in agreement more than twice? Chances are you agreed to many of these. If you did, congratulations! You’re a swinger!

I love reading about how swingers have met each other wearing your jewelry! Our story isn’t as exotic as some of the others but I hope it is good enough to publish!

We have been swingers for a long time, over 15 years, and when we heard about your jewelry we were hopeful that it would catch on.There is no question that swingers need something like this.We are so tired of trying to meet swingers through dating sites for all of the obvious reasons:people lie about their age, show old pictures, don’t show up for planned meetings, etc.

Anyway, we did buy jewelry, crossed our fingers that it would work and we wear it proudly.Last weekend was our anniversary and my husband planned a romantic getaway for us in New York City.Fancy hotel, tickets to a show, chic restaurants and even a carriage ride through Central Park.What could be more exciting!

We went to see Hamilton (which was as good as we had heard it was) and off to dinner after.We tried to get a cab after the show but that was impossible.We ended up walking the whole way back to the upper east side where our restaurant reservation was. (Quite painful in my beautiful new shoes!) Of course we were very late so they had given our table away. They told us to wait at the bar for one to open up.

A very nice man offered me his seat at the very crowded bar and I gladly accepted!My husband in turn bought he and his wife a round of drinks and we chatted with them.They asked us if we were planning anything after dinner and we were intrigued.We have been in the lifestyle a long time and had the feeling this was something promising!We asked what they had in mind and the wife lifted her purse off the bar to show it to me.OMG!I couldn’t believe it!She had a gorgeous bag with your pendant on it!How clever!We laughed because my husband and I were both wearing pieces from your collection!

Needless to say, we had dinner with them and then headed back to their hotel room for a night of fun.They told us they have met many couples because of the jewelry.I told them they were our first but she did point out that she looks for it.That is a good point because I had never thought to look.Now I will!

Swinging is a lot of fun and allows people to live out some of their sexual fantasies in a safe way. You meet other swingers, you have sex, you go home. But what happens when swingers want to push the envelope and see if they can wrangle in a vanilla person to fulfill their fantasy? If this sounds exciting to you, perhaps there are things you should consider before taking this route.

Most swingers choose to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle a secret. They go to great lengths to hide this from family, friends, coworkers and neighbors. Why do we do this? Well, let’s face it, people who are not in the lifestyle really do not understand the concept. Most people find swinging to be highly unethical and simply cannot imagine giving their partner permission to have sex with other people. Although they have seen threesomes and gangbangs while watching porn, this is not something they want to explore for themselves.

Why then, do some swingers think that picking up an unsuspecting vanilla person for a sexual encounter is a good idea? Fantasies are a wonderful thing, but when people try to incorporate that into their real lives, with unsuspecting people, things can go very wrong.

I have heard stories of couples hitting on unsuspecting businessmen in hotel bars which had near disastrous consequences. Some couples send their wives into the bar to hit on the men. They don’t tell the men about the husband waiting upstairs until the man arrives at the room. Most men simply leave, but one couple chose a man with an anger problem and he was ready to fight the man for the “right” to have sex with his wife and insisted the husband leave the room. A quick thinking wife dialed the operator from the hotel phone and security showed up a few moments later to escort the man from their room.

I read a story on a forum about a couple who befriended a stranger in a bar and invited him back to their home for a drink. They honestly thought he knew what their intentions were but this man is not in the lifestyle and so his mind did not go there. When the wife tried to hit on him he freaked out and left. The next day they found a sign on their lawn announcing that ‘swingers live here’.

Another couple tried to pick up a woman in a bar while they were vacationing. They brought her back to their room hoping she would be open to a threesome. She did kiss the woman for a few minutes but said she was too drunk and needed to sleep it off on the couch for a while and then would be open to sex with them both. The woman fell asleep and eventually so did this couple. When they woke up, she was gone and so was his wallet.

The lifestyle offers so many ways to meet other swingers that it is hard to understand why people would put themselves in these types of situations. Although you read stories about wild nights of sex with strangers that couples manage to pick up, how many are actually true? There is a good chance that most of these stories are fantasies that people wish were real!
Swing clubs offer an environment where threesomes and foursomes and gang bangs are normal and accepted. Flirting with other men and women is expected and desired. There are bouncers and a staff that is ready to intervene if ever there is a problem. Every person who enters a club must present ID at the door, which is entered into a computer so there are no strangers in a club.

Online dating sites for swingers offers people the chance to meet other swingers for fun. Why not contact couples or singles to meet in a bar or other public venue from a site like this? At least you know these people are open to whatever you are looking for because you can ask them before you meet!

We have heard recent horror stories about dating apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish yet some couples continue to hope that they can meet other swingers from these types of apps. Why not try an app that is geared to swingers?

Craigslist has proven itself to be a haven for the insane. Ashley Madison has attracted some swingers but why look for people who are cheating on their spouse?

It is not hard to find other swingers with all the resources that are out there. Check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or simply google to find endless sites that help swingers find other swingers.

If finding other swingers out in a public venue is still your goal, wear our lifestyle jewelry to let others know what you are looking for. The pendant is recognized around the world!

It is important to remember that just because you and your partner are sexually adventurous and open, does not mean that people who appeal to you feel the same way. Even close friends who can be a bit flirtatious are not usually swingers and might be shocked if you hit on them.