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The third phase of my dildo appreciation came about around the same time as phase two: when I started cruising for strap-ons. The consideration of non-penisey dildos allowed freedom of appearance, and also of structure.

At first I didn't care at all about lumps, pockets, appendages and whatever, because they looked rather ungainly and goofy. Further, I was perfectly capable of stimulating most any combination of anybody's body parts with my very own fingers, for free. Specialty dildos for g-spots seemed like a marketing ploy that didn't relate to me.

My foremost shape-related interest was that the industry term for the fake scrotum included in some dildo designs was simply the "base" of the dildo. As in "This style is also available without the base." Clever!

Rather than variation in shape, I mainly evaluated size - length, width, and so on. I was aiming for medium, on the grounds of not thinking that hugeness made a phallus better. Also I was buying with the intent of going after my boyfriend's behind and I wanted to be pleasant about it. The kindly sex shop lady pointed out that most people start out with a smooth, plain looking dildo because they think it will be fine and it looks nice, and later on go back to find something more shapely and exotic.

I started out with a mildly exotic model - not totally smooth, but still pretty straight with no major bumps or arms. After awhile, in accordance with the prophecy of the sex shop lady, the fun of the lumps and bumps made more sense to me. The main shapes that intrigued me were those designed for smooth anal play, mostly for the sake of special boy. These are variations on the theme of wider at the head, smoothly tapering to a narrower base, the premise being that once you're in you have nothing left to worry about.

Large bumps are my current interest. I don't really intend to buy anything in this vein, it is just what I think about lately. It seems like it would be fun to get the repeating stretch-relax effect. It would be like extra penetrations per thrust, or something. Also it can be fun to be very full inside while not stretched to the limit at the opening of my vagina.

I don't really care enough about dildo stimulation for myself to outfit the boudoir with an array of toys suitable for all occasions. Penetration is secondary for me a lot of the time unless there is a person attached, and some more implications than just a feeling of being stretched or filled. Further, I am creative enough to manage most effects with just naked bodies.

For boy though, I have more toy enthusiasm. There are things I can't do with him, to the same degree, without accessories, and it is easier have our faces together if I have free hands. Those activities are pretty well detailed on the backdoor man page.