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20. Focus delight (love, for the case of breakup)

Go easy: compare only two thoughts, find out which one of them feels better. Then each next thought compare to the best feeling one found before, finding the new best feeling thought.

Do not try to convince yourself in anything. Just rely on the power that holds and embraces you, when you’re thinking a better feeling thought.

Rely on this authority inside you, on this warm feeling.

This is the light of Source shed upon you.

Step 1

I hate what’s going on.

It can’t be good for me.

In some strange way, it is good for me, but I can’t see it.

What if it doesn’t matter what it is now: raising my vibration will turn anything into good?

What if everything is always good for me?

I’m looking forward to feeling better. I remember how it happens.. when I raise my vibration, the Universe uses everything to bring good things to my life. Even what looked really bad before. Life is good. :)

More thoughts for this step:

Step 2

We won’t meet any more.

We can meet.

We will meet if I want to.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 3

He doesn’t want to see me.

He wants to see me.

More thoughts for this step:

We are not trying to find out what is true in your current physical reality. We are trying to find a thought that serves you better, you don’t need to know why or how.

It serves you better even right away, when you’re allowing your life energy to flow through you more freely (which is indicated by relief).

Step 4

It doesn’t serve me.

It serves me.

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Step 5

I am bad for coming into such circumstances.

I am good for coming into such circumstances.

I just am, unjudged, unedited, I am.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 6

This is a bad thing.

It’s not as bad as I think it is.

It’s not that bad.

In some strange sense, it’s good.

It’s better than I thought it was.

It’s quite a good thing, even if I don’t see it immediately.

It’s a good thing, and I don’t care if I see it immediately, I just love the feeling.

It’s a very good thing.

It’s a really, really good thing, and it doesn’t matter what I could think about it now, it still is a really good thing.

It is really good for me, and soon I’ll see why.

I am lucky.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 7

I’m looking for gold in a bunch of shit.

I’m extracting joy of reliefs from the stream of energy, that is all mine.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 8

I’m starting to feel better, but sometimes I fall back. And I feel the despair again. And then I feel despair about despair: will I ever raise from it? It hurts so much.

It is a little bit easier to raise each next time.

I feel empowerment when I realign.

Every such time brings me more benefits.

Every such time brings me something good.

I can then extract more joy from it.

I’m lucky.

More thoughts for this step:

Standpoint of a Deliberate Allower

I’m delegating solving this problem to the Universe

and since I, dealing with this contrast,
gave birth to something really wonderful in my Vortex,

I will focus on connecting with my Source,
to connect with what I put there in my Vortex,
to feel these wonderful things that I put there,
to feel reconnected with mySelf, the Expanded Version of Me,
with my newly added power.

As long as this contrast still feels like a problem that should be solved,
it simply means that there still are some benefits in my Vortex, which I haven’t connected to, yet.
So I’ll wonder, what they are? how they feel?

And I feel and appreciate my love and my power.

Step 9

I feel like.. I was existing in a frame of this relationship. I was dedicated to it. I was investing my thoughts, my love in it. And I felt I was.. kind of protected, cared for in this frame. But now it’s gone..

I created this frame from inside. And I can do it again.

But now it’s gone.. isn’t it?

It was the energy of this frame that I was feeling. Some of it is still there.

I can feel this frame from inside me, still alive, even not fully flourishing in fruition.

I can feel this frame from inside me, it’s alive.

Nothing actually ended.

I feel it’s alive.

I feel it’s alive, now in its improved version.

I feel that more is available to me now within this frame.

I feel there is more freedom for me now in this frame.

I feel more freedom is available to me now.

I feel more is available to me now.

I feel something opens for me.

I feel I’m better now.

I feel better now.

I feel I’m right on it.

I love this feeling. :)

More thoughts for this step:

Step 10

I feel I don’t really believe that physically it can come about between us, or that I can really, physically get what I was getting from him, from someone else.

I’ll ask my Source.

I can’t physically get what I want.

I can physically get what I want.

I will physically get what I want.

I will physically get exactly what I want.

But I don’t see how, now.

I don’t have to see it now.

I can see it as I go.

I will see it as I go.

I will believe it when I need to believe it.

I don’t need to believe it.

I know it.

I love this feeling. :)

More thoughts for this step:

Step 11

I’m afraid what my future will be.

My future is irresistible.

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Step 12

When I’m seeing his name in my phonebook, I feel pain. It hurts.

I want the feeling of empowerment more than I want pain.

I prefer the feeling of empowerment over the feeling of pain.

This pain is there because of the circumstances.

This pain is there because I have wrong thoughts about him, thoughts that don’t serve me. When I find better serving thoughts, the pain will stop.

This is what I’m doing. I’m good in it. :)

I feel worse, when I’m thinking of the things being out of me. Maybe because I’m giving away my power this way. And I feel better when I’m thinking about tuning in into my Vortex, inside.

I love the feeling of ease and empowerment when I find better feeling thoughts.

What if I don’t find those thoughts that could eliminate the pain completely? that could remove this sting of pain from me?

I don’t have to find them all at once.

I can find more as I go.

I can find more ease as I go.

I love the feeling of ease.

Each turned stone of pain gives me nice pleasant feeling of relief and ease. I love these feelings.

I don’t have to figure it all out right now.

I did find some relief now.

I found relief.

I’m better.

I feel better.

I feel good.

Life is good.

My future is irresistible.

If they say, that with bad feelings we dig the well which, when we realign, is filled for us with happiness, then it’s ok to have some pain in the past, if it contributes to my future happiness.

If they say, that with bad feelings we dig the well which, when we realign, is filled for us with happiness, then it’s ok to have some pain in the past, if it contributes to my happiness.

This pain doesn’t serve me.

This pain serves me, both now and for my future.

It is because of the circumstances and can only change, when the circumstances change, and I don’t see how it can happen.

The pain is because I have some flawed thought about it all.

It’s nice to know that there is some explanation to it that could make me feel better.

What if I could find it.

I can find it.

But you said, the pain was serving me? :)

For the pain to serve me, it doesn’t have to last forever.

What if I could see his name and feel something nice?

This bastard doesn’t deserve it.

But I do.

I can.

I feel nice now. :)

More thoughts for this step:

Step 13

He doesn’t value me. I’m not valued.

I’m valued.

I’m not loved.

I’m loved.

But physically..

It’s nice to feel loved and valued.

Will I ever have the circumstances to feel it from another person?..

I can feel it now.

More thoughts for this step:

“If you know you have the capability of imagining what you would like to be, understand, as we have said, that your ability to imagine what you would like to be is your ability to be that person, that version of you.

If you have the ability to conceive how you want to be, at the moment you conceive it, you are that person. But when you deny your imagination your reality and say, “Okay, I’ve imagined what I would like to be; now what do I have to see, what do I have to do, to become this idea?” you are placing all the steps in your way that it’s taking for you to get there.

Your ability to imagine that person is being that person — because if you weren’t of that vibration, you wouldn’t be able to picture it!

The events in your life can only be 100% reflective of the person you have decided you are. Allow yourself to recognize that your ability to even imagine there is another way to be, is being the other way.

All you need is a basic trust that at any given moment you have what you need; you know everything you need to know to be who you are being in that moment. As soon as you redefine who you are, you will know the things that person needs to know, regardless of what you’re seeing around you.” — Bashar

Step 14

I’m ugly.

I’m beautiful.

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Step 15

He dropped me. I must not have enough value.

What if I still have some value?

My value doesn’t depend on our relationship.

I’m valued.

I’m valued and loved.

I’m valued and loved, always.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 16

There is not a person now to whom I’m interesting and dear.

I’m interesting and dear. I’m love.

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Step 17

There’s no someone that could come now and make me feel better. With whom I could share my soul beauty. To whom I could cry and smile.

What if I still could feel better, even in these circumstances?

What if I really don’t have to be depressed over it?

What if my joy of life is still somewhere with me, within me?

What if I have access to it independently of anyone and anything else?

What if my joy is with me, within me?

I love the feeling of it. I love even the feeling of such possibility. I love feeling strong and empowered.

What if I could feel joyful on my own? whenever I want?

I love it that I can feel joy independently.

I love it that I can feel joy on my own.

I love it that I can feel joy whenever I want to feel it.

What if my joy is independent of anyone and anything else?

I love this freedom of choice.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 18

I can, even though I hate to admit it and don’t like to think about it, but I can understand him: he, like me, wants to live the life he wants to live, and if it means not to see me, then not to see me. It’s his life. He is trying to live his life as best as he can. Just like me.

I hate him. I don’t care what he does or feels, I want to be happy, and I hate it, that what he does, interferes with it.

It would be nice to keep my joy of life, my strength and power independently of what’s happening around me.

What if it is exactly what I’m learning now?

I don’t want independence, I don’t want to be strong, I just want to be together with someone I love.

It is nice to be together and to be a little bit more independent in my emotions. It would be nice to keep my joy no matter what is happening around me.

Life has so much to be joyful about.

It is nice to feel joy.

I love feeling joy.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 19

I feel empowered and to some degree at ease, but alone.

I am alone.

I am together.

It sounds crazy, but I can really feel it. :)

I love this feeling.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 20

It feels like I was guilty in something, I did something wrong, and so I experience it all now.

But if it is good, then it isn’t a punishment.

Maybe what I did, wasn’t that bad.

What if all I did was good?

Something in what I did, wasn’t good enough.

All I ever did was really good.

And what’s happening now, is also good for some reason, even if I don’t see it (maybe yet).

And what’s happening now, is also good for some reason.

And what’s happening now, is also good.

All I ever do is good. All I ever experience is good.

My future is irresistible.

All is well.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 21

What is happening now, reflects to me that my life sucks.

What is happening now, reflects to me my relationship with my Vortex on this subject.

More thoughts for this step:

Step 22

He came to show me what I can’t have.

He came for me to realize what I want, learn to align with it and get it.

I experienced with him such a good feelings, and now it’s all gone.

My experience was on this level because my vibration was on this level. I can build it further and experience something even better.

What if what happened now, was a stepping stone for me to experience something even better?

I am using it to align with a better experience.

But this physical circumstance won’t let me experience what I want!

My physical experience is only defined by my vibration, and no physical circumstance can limit it or prevent it from being. In every physical event what is important for me, is my experience, and it is fully defined by my vibration and the degree of my alignment.

More thoughts for this step:

So here’s what I realized that I want in my happy relationship:

or in other words,

So here’s what I realized that is waiting for me in my Vortex as my happy relationship, this or better:

(tip: to come up with the list, you might compare the man you liked with other men, other people, and this way, one by one, find the features you really like.

and then you might think also, what you could get better than what you experienced with the man you liked; what entered your Vortex thanks to your relationship with him)

Step 23

He loves me.

He appreciates me.

He loves all I am.

We’re both free to be, do, have all we want.

He’s such a match to me in my energy, that our sex is delicious in its every expression, our conversation is delicious in its every second, our interaction is delicious in its every moment.