If your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you, or has cheated on you in the past, no doubt the first question that crossed your mind was:

Why?

You’re not alone.Most women who are victims of infidelity want to know why their spouse or significant other was unfaithful, and what motivated him to have an affair.

But there are several important reasons you need to find out the reasons why he cheated on you.

Why It's Important to Know the Reasons Why He Cheated on YouKnowing the reason (or reasons) why your husband or boyfriend cheated on you can help you deal with the situation.Knowing why he cheated is also the key to making an intelligent decision about the best way to deal with his infidelity.If you decide to reconcile with your cheating mate, knowing why he cheated can give you insight on how to rebuild your relationship and decrease the chances that it will happen again.If you decide to leave your cheating mate, knowing why he cheated can facilitate the healing process, and enable you to move on without letting baggage from your old relationship influence the next relationship in your life.

Below are links to 10 articles which will give you a better understanding of some of the reasons why men cheat on their mates, and help you determine why your husband or boyfriend, in particular, may have cheated on you.

NOTE: Understand that these articles areNOT excuses for his infidelity. There areno valid reasons for a man to cheat on his mate. But the articles below can help you understand some of the reasons whyyour spouse or significant other, in particular, may have cheated on you.

Following the links to 10 articles that will help you gain a better understanding of why men cheat, you will find a list of essential articles packed with practical, immediately-usable information that can help you in dealing with his affair, as well as a list of resources that will be of additional help.

Understanding Why Men Cheat

25 Reasons Why Men CheatMen cheat for a variety of reasons. This article covers 25 of the many reasons men cheat on their mates. Bear in mind that some men cheat for several of the reasons covered in this article.

Why Husbands CheatA discussion of 14 of the most common reasons why husbands cheat on their wives.

How Good Men End Up Cheating on their MatesSometimes, despite a man’s best intentions, he may end up cheating on his wife or girlfriend. This article explores some of the factors that come into play when a man who people would never expect to be unfaithful, gets involved in an extramarital affair.

Happy Husbands Cheat Too, and Even Good Marriages are Susceptible to InfidelityMost people mistakenly assume that a happily married man would never cheat on his wife. It may come as a surprise to many women that at least 3 infidelity studies have found thathappy husbands cheat,too. .One of the best kept secrets about cheating husbands, infidelity and extramarital affairs is that in most cases,a man’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not a determining factor in whether or not he will have an affair. Not every cheating husband is dissatisfied or unhappy with his marriage or his wife. See 25 Reasons Why Men Cheat and Why Husbands Cheat.

10 Innocent Actions that Can Lead to InfidelitySometimes the most innocent actions can inadvertently lead to infidelity. A number of ordinary, everyday things can lay the groundwork for having an affair, and contribute to an otherwise faithful man unintentionally cheating on his mate.

Not every man who cheats will attempt to cover his tracks, or conceal the signs of infidelity to avoid getting caught. Sometimes a cheating man actually wants his wife or girlfriend to find out about his affair. This article discusses 8 reasons why.

Many people are convinced that men are genetically programmed to cheat. This article discusses the so-called “cheating gene, and whether or not a man can legitimately use this as an excuse for cheating on his mate.

Once you have a better understanding of some of the reasons why your husband or boyfriend might have cheated on you, check the list of articles and resources below for practical help in dealing with his affair.

Essential Articles to Help You Deal with His Affair

The articles in the list below contain practical, immediately-usable advice from a nationally-recognized infidelity expert, which can help you deal with your man’s affair. These article cover several aspects of dealing with infidelity.

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Ruth Houston is a New York-based, internationally-recognized infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on celebrity infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of the popular infidelity reference book, Is He Cheating on You?- 829 Telltale Signs. To schedule an interview with infidelity expert Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com