Many people are guilty of continuously repeating negatives either in thoughts or words. A negative mindset can be representative of a current life situation and attracting negatives can be living proof that the law of attraction works. Attracting positives and getting out of the routine of negative thinking can be possible with visualizations, affirmations, and manifestations.
And this shows you are on the right path, but all too often we twist it. We lament those people that share the same interests as us, or with whom we had those great conversations, didn’t ask for our number. We feel bummed when that date we thought would be so great, turned out to be not the best match. We think we are still not getting what we want, or there is still something ‘wrong’ with us.
Here’s the thing: you can only attract that to which you are a match, and if you are hiding who you really are, or are trying to construct some ‘perfect’ version of yourself you believe makes you more attractive as a potential mate, you will only attract other people who are putting up these same facades. You will never make any true connections—you’re being inauthentic and everyone you meet is being inauthentic, and eventually it will all come to the surface in some way. One of the reasons people struggle to meet the right person is because everyone is just walking around, faking it.
Hi JG – I’m glad you’re enjoying my book on attracting a specific person! Detachment will come with time. Don’t worry so much about whether you’re doing things right. The Law of Attraction isn’t about perfection. Also, as I discuss in the book, focus on doing things that make you happy. It’ll be far more effective than trying to cover the doubts up with affirmations.

This brings us to something you need to completly avoid. If you have ever thought or said “I would be happier if I could find my other-half” you are noticing what you don’t have and guess how the law of attraction will respond? With more of the same! Remember that any thoughts of negation can only bring more of that same situation into your life. This is no different when applying the law of attraction to love and relationships.

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Initially this surprised her. She could dismiss it as luck… or as some kind of trick… or as a momentary lapse of her part. Then when it kept happening, it began to frustrate her. I helped her shift that frustration to amusement by pointing out that she was really good at finding bottle caps and smudges, and we had some laughs about that. She just needed to adjust her mind a little bit more to notice the coins.
Life can be very challenging for most of us. You’re going to have good days, and you’re going to have not so good days. In fact, many things are going to be out of your control and it’s great to recognize that you’re not always going to be on the top of your game. Therefore, you need to have some sort of support system in your life so that you can show up fully, especially once you meet your Soulmate. Why? Because bringing all of life’s challenges into one relationship, especially with your romantic partner, will place a very heavy burden on your relationship, not to mention draining the sexual and creative energy from it. You cannot have that! You need to enlist the support of others and create your own group of amazing, challenging, and supportive friends.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading these stories that demonstrate successfully using one's imagination to create experiences in keeping with desires. They may not be from our current times, but are universal and timeless. I feel Inspired to apply these examples to my own life. I am also a student of Abraham as taught by Esther Hicks and these examples fit perfectly with those teachings.
Hi Shona, If you want to successfully use the Law of Attraction for love for a specific person, you need to overcome your fear. Your thoughts and emotions create, so if you continue to be afraid, you will create the things that you fear – his cheating, his not wanting to commit, etc. Sometimes the easiest way to overcome fear is to think about the worst thing that would happen if things didn’t go the way you want them. Often, that worst fear isn’t all that bad, and it’s easy to then let the fear go. Other times, it might be necessary to use tapping or EFT to get rid of the fear.
How great would it be if you could call in your soul mate, the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with? Or become wildly successful and financially abundant? What if you could create anything you want and live a purpose-based life of happiness, joy, and total fulfillment? Learning how to manifest what your heart truly desires is something you’d love to master, right? The 2006 documentary The Secret inspired many to start thinking in new ways; did you hope that you, too, could manifest your dreams?
Then in October of 2010 Matt and I joined Yanik – and special guest, Tim Ferriss – on one of Yanik’s crazy Maverick Business Adventure trips. It was a testosterone-laden weekend of driving and shooting in the Arizona desert with members of a real-life A-Team. On Monday morning, as we sat in the Tucson airport on our journey back to reality, Matt asked me a similar question to the one that Tom, my business coach, had asked back in 2006.
one day Esther Hicks writes something about The LOA ..and Claims its the final way to put this law to WORK! but then sometime later she comes again with another IDEA!! to sell…”How to get in the Vortex! ( what the hell ! )and again and again…it never ends with these new age movement people! they always have a book to sell , a Vibrational calibrator sound track! and bla bla bla!
“Since I did your Finding Love workshop I have sorted out a 15 year pattern of attracting ‘unavailable’ and ‘abusive’ men (as various therapists labelled them). I had studied book after book, courses and support groups, seen therapists, looking to fix my problem. It just wasn’t getting any better. When I found your work I was at a point of desperation- I realised nothing was working and a different approach was needed- and it turned out to be your approach. I know this has been said to you before but you provide something different that I actually haven’t seen before in two decades of personal development work; and it is working in quite amazing ways for me. In the year since attending I am now with a loving and handsome man who I would have thought was ‘out of my league’ before. It’s quite simply a miracle. And what’s interesting is two ex-partners have come back and apologised and/or wanted me back- two things I was desperate to have happen for years, no matter how much I told my friends I was over it- yet in my need it wasn’t happening. This year will be my wedding- something I had given up on ever happening. And yet it is happening. 2015 will be amazing- and all thanks to you.”
YES I am a big believer of the law of attraction. It is real and everybody can do that only when they believe it. The Universe is so generous and execute the law of abundance. I remembered 14 years ago I was single and desperate. I was 38 years old and a shy person. I said to myself how can I order a husband form the universe, I did not have a lot of friend and introvert. But one night I awake and said must do something. I wrote down the qualifications I waned from the man, my soul mate – and I call myself the rule girl and play with my rule. And that’s how I search from the internet the love of my live. The law of attraction means you are purposely attract what you want. The law of attraction requires your active participation, EFFORT, EFFORT EFFORT and not passively dreaming and do not do anything. Do your part. I keep writing until then I found the man of my love I would say meet my specification, tall, engineer, smart, trustworthy, simple, and so forth and so forth. Now I am in USA. If I did now attract the one I wish I will be still single, lonely and sad. I moved from JAKARTA to CHICAGO. well people may say too good to be true but it work, it work and it still continue to work. Now I keep ordering from the UNIVERSE. The universe is waiting for you, there is no end because the universe is and endless place for those who believe with the law. NOW dear friends makes your order.
Step 1 is important because it prepares your mind and body to receive whatever you’re asking for. Our brains don’t know the difference between reality and imagination. When you engage in full, sensory imagination, your brain fires up your body to move forward. Muscles, blood flow, heart, lungs and every part of your body gear up to take part in whatever you’re imagining.
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that. It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you. For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others. For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:

Wow Robert I love this article. Visualize the specific money you desire. (Say $10,000) truly feel the emotion of having it now. Most important be grateful to the Universe for providing it, the use the Law of Detachment. Let it go to let it flow, do not worry where or when it will arrive, those are feelings or fear and anxiety. Trust the Universe. Great advice can’t wait to use Step 4.

Consciously shifting your thoughts is definitely the easier path, but when we first start working with LOA, this can be hard to do because our current belief system of having to take action, hustle and MAKE things happen, is still quite strong and we just can’t buy into this fully even if it resonates with us, and we know there is some truth to this method of bringing what we want into our life. Visualizing is a good tool for uncovering resistance, which is essentially all the reasons we tell ourselves we can’t have what we want, and getting into a good feeling space. One of the most important things is not to worry about getting super-specific. Don’t worry about figuring our what this person looks like, exactly what he is like, just try to get into the feelings. Trying to get too specific with the type of person can trigger a lot of resistance, and may even actually clog up the channels of receiving because you may get too attached to this person having to be a very specific way.
When you do find yourself meeting with someone, don’t pin all your hopes on this person being the ‘one.’ You really don’t even know him yet, and you have no idea if this person is really compatible with you, or is the type of person you would want to be with over the long-term. Sure, you can be excited, and look forward to it, but release any expectation around how things will play out. Work on getting yourself into a state of ‘surrender’ where you just accept what happens as it happens, knowing all the while, what you want is coming, even if you have no idea how that looks right now.
Once you get to the 1st position, it means thousands have been working the program since you started. All of those people will then pay you as the 1st and you won't believe the kind of money that has been generated. When your name (email address) reaches the 1st slot, 900 to 15,000 or more people will send you $5.00 dollars each. You could easily make up to $50,000 USD.
As for manifestations that involve another person, you probably don’t want to put too much focus on that because we can’t create in another person’s reality. No matter what we do with our energy, it can’t ‘translate’ to someone else and make them do anything. Now, this isn’t to say that you can’t ever get back together with this person, as that may possibly be the best representation of the energy and feelings that you are trying to attract into your life–remember that no matter what we want, we are always after a feeling. What also happens sometimes is when we make changes in our own energy, we line up with different ‘versions’ of people, even if they have fundamentally stayed the same, and this can make it easier to get along with them,etc…
If you’re practicing the technique on something bigger, this exercise may be tricky, but use your imagination. If you’re trying to lose weight, go out and buy an outfit that fits the size you’re aiming for. If you want a new car, go to a dealership and shop around. If you’re aiming for something as big as complete financial freedom, start planning what you’re going to do with all that free time and money.
Develop a belief in what I call the “reverse paradigm shift”. In other words, go for it before you have all the answers. Those so called negative energies (known as cognitive dissonance) are actually the magical seeds of creation and unlimited possibilities. Your destiny and your abundance will always be preceded by confusion and uncertainty. Ask anyone who’s been on the journey.
I want to point out at this time that I’ve been very lucky along the way, and one of the greatest strokes of luck in my life was to have known at a young age (around 16 years old) what I wanted to do ‘when I grew up’. For some reason, I’ve been fixated on helping people to change. To transform. To live a better life. It truly is what I was born to do.

In short, it can be said that love is an amazing feeling when two people mutually fall for each other. It is all about respecting and reciprocating each other’s feelings in an accepting manner. Having a clear state of mind about what kind of relationship you would like to establish with the other person, you can make the law of attraction and love work for you.

Falling in and out of love is another concept that has been deeply studied. So, how would you know that you are definitely in love with him or her? Are there any indications that will help you understand whether you should fall for the particular person? In simple words, love doesn’t knock your door with permission. It simply does! Your work is to understand it and go with the flow.
“Me and my husband weren’t getting on at all and then I remembered something a woman said at the group who was in a similar situation. So I did a version of the Positive Aspects process: I went through the alphabet thinking of good qualities about him: A- Attractive when we went out last week, B- Bought me a beautiful birthday present, C- Committed to his family and work, D- Determined to feel good, E- Easy going and relaxed… And on I went. After a very short time my feelings of anger and criticism melted away. I began doing this process every day, in the morning before work. Initially I have to admit I wanted to do the processes to change him- but after a while I was doing it because it felt so good. Within a week or so he bought me flowers- he hasn’t done that for years. He started paying me compliments and now he’s booked a holiday for us. He also has told me how much he loves me and I, too, feel more in love with him than I have in a long time.”
Things happen to me all of the time similar such as I will be thinking about a person who I need to text and catch up with and will receive a text a day later. Its amazing. The since of how everything is energy on this planet and thoughts create vibrations is really neat stuff, I think this is a great foundational thing for young people to try and understand and focus on.
No, not psychic 🙂 I think a lot of people can relate to this, so you are certainly not alone in that! I think that was a really great decision..focusing on ourselves, recharging and what have you is one of the most effective ways to let love in our lives from an attraction perspective. The better you feel about yourself and life overall, when you are ready to get back in the game, you’ll meet people for sure. Relinquishing that control is key..not always easy but it makes the process so much easier when we don’t try to micromanage the process of infinite creation with our puny little brains 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
Since the Law of Attraction teaches that like attracts like, it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise that attracting love requires you to be a loving person! And it’s not only the romantic sense of love that matters here. There are little things that you can do to spread love every single day—one of the best examples is simply being nicer to strangers.

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