I am going to the Healing Library but seem to find anything labeled with "180" in it. Thanks in advance!

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MovingUpward♂ 14866Member # 14866

Posted: 3:14 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

It is in the BSFAQ section of the healing library. See question 11 in there or copy and paste the link below into your browswer's address bar

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11

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missingmyhubby♀ 43723Member # 43723

Posted: 3:55 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

Thank you!

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justinpaintoday♂ 42858Member # 42858

Posted: 4:49 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014

Just remember the 180 is for YOU. It is not a tool to get your H to do your will or wake-up. It is designed for you to detach so you can focus on your healing IN SPITE of WS actions...remember that. Took me a bit to do so and wanted it to be a tool to get WW to come around. It is not intended to be that and should be about your healing.

I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

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Whisperingwillow♀ 24550Member # 24550

Posted: 5:05 AM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

Important for me to remember than 180 is for ourselves and not a tool to get WS to get it.

Realising he might not get it.

Currently in limbo, re-starting 180, and this time, really committed to making it about me, not him.

I'm wondering there a 180 thread, I looked in "I can relate" but didn't see one.

W.

BS. Lots of lies for nearly 8 years now. Enough is enough.

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Whisperingwillow♀ 24550Member # 24550

Posted: 5:05 AM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

Forgot to add my thanks to everyone for posting and reminding

BS. Lots of lies for nearly 8 years now. Enough is enough.

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yearsofpain25♂ 42012Member # 42012

Posted: 7:15 AM, June 16th (Monday), 2014

I'm wondering there a 180 thread, I looked in "I can relate" but didn't see one.

In addition to the link that Moo provided above, there is also this thread in JFO:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=232785

However, if you have specific questions on it, having a hard time, need to vent, etc... I would suggest opening your own thread so that you can get some direct support.

yop

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