Last month's tip was about kissing, and this time I want to move on down the body to address the "ultimate kiss"—that is, cunnilingus. This is oral stimulation of a woman's genitals. Oral sex is fun and should be enjoyed as pure pleasure by those individuals engaging in it! Cleanliness is essential; therefore, you may want to make bathing together part of your foreplay.

Listen up, guys. Some men don't understand the need to be gentle, rhythmic and teasing. Be responsive to your lover's hints—I call this intuitive lovemaking. Women, of course, do differ.

Cunnilingus requires you to think glacially — constantly in motion but advancing slowly. Your goal is to convey the idea that you're licking her because you find it incredibly erotic to be exactly where you are...This is an extremely intimate act of the most loving and giving kind.

Now, for some specific guidelines: To begin, work from her mouth to her nipples to her belly, covering as many square inches as possible. You can start building the fire once you've camped between her legs. Spread her vaginal lips using your fingertips (cut those nails)—exposing her clitoris (that pleasure button with twice the nerve fibers—8,000—compared to the penis). Explore the sensitive folds of skin. When she arches her back or moans, slide a finger or two inside her (here you can use a small amount of lube, if necessary). Play with her a bit, then extend your tongue to meet her clitoris—darting it in and out. Press firmly. Lick gently. Throw in some longer, flatter strokes over the length of her vulva, as if you were licking an ice cream cone. Blow lightly across the focus of your attention. Tell her how good she tastes, how much you like licking her. Draw her clitoris gently between your lips and flick it or massage it with your tongue. Stop. Lick. Kiss. Finger. Repeat as necessary. What you're after is a combination of rhythm and intrigue: She can't guess what's coming next, but once it does, she won't want you to stop!

Dr. Diana Wiley, has been a Board-Certified Sex Therapist, diplomat of the American Board of Sexology, a clinical Sexologist, and a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 20 years. Her extensive professional experience and views on sex and the erotic make her a true sex guru and evangelist, and her versatility and breadth of expertise have brought with them numerous spots on national television and radio programs—including her own popular broadcast, Live With Dr. Diana. She can be reached at DrDiana@sbcglobal.net.