New BF while pregnant

Got pregnant, im now 13 weeks, I broke up with the BD because hes a Manic Bipolar and isnt taking care of himself and out situation isnt helping see hat he needs to get better. He thinks nothing is wrong with him. I have another post about him being bipolar... if you want to read it to get a little history. But anyways... now im alone, and he really isnt here for me and right now i dont want him to be. when the child is born thats a different story. But only if he wants to take care of himself.. Hes really bad, he has racing thoughts and can think people are out to get him.

But now, ive met someone, and im 13 weeks, they know im pregnant and dont mind. They themselves has a child. Is it ok to date him? Is it wrong? what am i suppose to do? I know take things slow, but im soo confused. This guy is really great and is everything that my ex isnt. There is much more than him being bipolar. He isnt right for me, im not happy with him. but what am i suppose to do about this guy? is it ok that i like him and that i want to see him, and that he doesnt mind that im pregnant? Im confused please help.

Ok so this is my story....

Got pregnant, im now 13 weeks, I broke up with the BD because hes a Manic Bipolar and isnt taking care of himself and out situation isnt helping see hat he needs to get better. He thinks nothing is wrong with him. I have another post about him being bipolar... if you want to read it to get a little history. But anyways... now im alone, and he really isnt here for me and right now i dont want him to be. when the child is born thats a different story. But only if he wants to take care of himself.. Hes really bad, he has racing thoughts and can think people are out to get him.

But now, ive met someone, and im 13 weeks, they know im pregnant and dont mind. They themselves has a child. Is it ok to date him? Is it wrong? what am i suppose to do? I know take things slow, but im soo confused. This guy is really great and is everything that my ex isnt. There is much more than him being bipolar. He isnt right for me, im not happy with him. but what am i suppose to do about this guy? is it ok that i like him and that i want to see him, and that he doesnt mind that im pregnant? Im confused please help.

Wow, you ladies are lucky to have found such great men! My BD & I just recently broke up [he was a lying cheating peice of crap] & i keep thinking if i will ever find a guy who would want to be with a pregnant girl or one with a baby.... Your stories deffinetly give me some hope. How bout telll me where you live so i can move where the good guys are! haha

Wow, you ladies are lucky to have found such great men! My BD & I just recently broke up [he was a lying cheating peice of crap] & i keep thinking if i will ever find a guy who would want to be with a pregnant girl or one with a baby.... Your stories deffinetly give me some hope. How bout telll me where you live so i can move where the good guys are! haha

I had dated a guy on and off for about a year before I met BD. I honestly thought and still think that hes the one who got away. But he wasnt ready to settle down or get serious with me. He still had that whole I wanna party with my friends thing going on, so I ended it. When he found out I started dating BD he was very upset and tried to get back together with me, telling me that he was ready to settle down and make a life with me, but I was hurt by him so many times before that I tried to keep my distance from him, since I didnt trust him at all. I stayed with BD because everyone around me was always telling me about how good of a guy he was and how he would make me so happy, so I wanted to see where things would go with me and BD.Well look where that got me...

After BD left me I told Ryan (my ex) that I was pregnant, and you know what he said.He said he still loved me anyways. And that he would be here for me as much as he can. Which is ALOT more than I can say about BD.

Ryan is still getting used to the idea of me being pregnant with BD's baby, but I know he still loves me, and will always help me out. He says that if we end up together, he wants to raise the baby as his own, and so he has alot of thinking to do before he commits to me. We still hang out and hes so great. He rubs my back for me or my tummy when Im feeling sick and its great to just have someone there that you know cares about you.

I dont think its a bad thing to date people just because you are pregnant.The only thing I keep in mind is that there is more to worry about than just me now.I have to think about baby too. Even if Ryan and I end up together, its not like I am going to have the baby call him Daddy right away. Thats something that he has to be ready for and that I am comfertable with.

Good luck to all you ladies with the new guys!!! Everyone deserves to be happy.

Hey Girls,

Im im in a similar situation, mines a tiny bit diffrent tho.

I had dated a guy on and off for about a year before I met BD. I honestly thought and still think that hes the one who got away. But he wasnt ready to settle down or get serious with me. He still had that whole I wanna party with my friends thing going on, so I ended it. When he found out I started dating BD he was very upset and tried to get back together with me, telling me that he was ready to settle down and make a life with me, but I was hurt by him so many times before that I tried to keep my distance from him, since I didnt trust him at all. I stayed with BD because everyone around me was always telling me about how good of a guy he was and how he would make me so happy, so I wanted to see where things would go with me and BD.Well look where that got me...

After BD left me I told Ryan (my ex) that I was pregnant, and you know what he said.He said he still loved me anyways. And that he would be here for me as much as he can. Which is ALOT more than I can say about BD.

Ryan is still getting used to the idea of me being pregnant with BD's baby, but I know he still loves me, and will always help me out. He says that if we end up together, he wants to raise the baby as his own, and so he has alot of thinking to do before he commits to me. We still hang out and hes so great. He rubs my back for me or my tummy when Im feeling sick and its great to just have someone there that you know cares about you.

I dont think its a bad thing to date people just because you are pregnant.The only thing I keep in mind is that there is more to worry about than just me now.I have to think about baby too. Even if Ryan and I end up together, its not like I am going to have the baby call him Daddy right away. Thats something that he has to be ready for and that I am comfertable with.

Good luck to all you ladies with the new guys!!! Everyone deserves to be happy.

I was actually just about to post something like this!! I just broke up with my BD about a month ago. He was cheating on me and taking my money.. which is basically all it came down to. I had to leave and am now living with my mom and sister. I have a 2 year old son by someone else and he sees his son every other weekend. I just hate being single.. especially in this vulnerable state of being pregnant. I'm 27 weeks and am just dreading raising another child on my own. I just can't seem to find the right guy! In my past, they've all screwed me over, left me with bills and bad credit. Once I get everything up to date, I meet someone else and it happens all over again. I just don't know what to do. But your stories have really made me feel better about my whole situation. I can't wait to get my pre-pregnancy body back so I can get back out there!

I was actually just about to post something like this!! I just broke up with my BD about a month ago. He was cheating on me and taking my money.. which is basically all it came down to. I had to leave and am now living with my mom and sister. I have a 2 year old son by someone else and he sees his son every other weekend. I just hate being single.. especially in this vulnerable state of being pregnant. I'm 27 weeks and am just dreading raising another child on my own. I just can't seem to find the right guy! In my past, they've all screwed me over, left me with bills and bad credit. Once I get everything up to date, I meet someone else and it happens all over again. I just don't know what to do. But your stories have really made me feel better about my whole situation. I can't wait to get my pre-pregnancy body back so I can get back out there!

Seems like a lot of us have similar stories. I am about 8 weeks pregnant and started talking to a wonderful guy the same week i found out i was pregnant. (The BD wants nothing to do with another child being that he already has 2. even tho 1 is a big secret that he doesnt take care of) So that said, the new guy is so supportive and sweet to me. He says and does everything I could never expect from BD. Of course I am scared to get involved because I dont want to date someone who I will bring into my childs life if it isnt going to work out. But for now I am taking it slow and enjoying the support and acceptance I feel when I am around him. Follow your heart! But always put your little one first! Thats my best advice.

Seems like a lot of us have similar stories. I am about 8 weeks pregnant and started talking to a wonderful guy the same week i found out i was pregnant. (The BD wants nothing to do with another child being that he already has 2. even tho 1 is a big secret that he doesnt take care of) So that said, the new guy is so supportive and sweet to me. He says and does everything I could never expect from BD. Of course I am scared to get involved because I dont want to date someone who I will bring into my childs life if it isnt going to work out. But for now I am taking it slow and enjoying the support and acceptance I feel when I am around him. Follow your heart! But always put your little one first! Thats my best advice.

Hey girl, congrats on the baby! And my advice to you would be to go ahead and be happy, if this new bf is making u happy let him, u deserve it. If I had some new guy interested in me knowing I was preggo I would totally go with it. Plus it will help get ur mind off bd. Props to you!!

Hey girl, congrats on the baby! And my advice to you would be to go ahead and be happy, if this new bf is making u happy let him, u deserve it. If I had some new guy interested in me knowing I was preggo I would totally go with it. Plus it will help get ur mind off bd. Props to you!!

Hey, first of all, I'm sorry to hear about your BD. Secondly, I went through a similar situation when i was pregnant. I started dating my now boyfriend when I was 13 weeks pregnant. He has a five year old daughter from a previous relationship. He didn't mind that I was pregnant and was there for me through the entire pregnancy, birth, and still here and my son is 7 weeks. I even moved 2 hours away to where my family for the time being and we are still going strong. It says a lot about a man who can see past the fact you are pregnant with another mans child and still want to be with you. I think you should go for it. If you both like each other, what is the harm in dating? It's very rare to find a man like that! Good luck with your pregnancy!

Hey, first of all, I'm sorry to hear about your BD. Secondly, I went through a similar situation when i was pregnant. I started dating my now boyfriend when I was 13 weeks pregnant. He has a five year old daughter from a previous relationship. He didn't mind that I was pregnant and was there for me through the entire pregnancy, birth, and still here and my son is 7 weeks. I even moved 2 hours away to where my family for the time being and we are still going strong. It says a lot about a man who can see past the fact you are pregnant with another mans child and still want to be with you. I think you should go for it. If you both like each other, what is the harm in dating? It's very rare to find a man like that! Good luck with your pregnancy!

Only if u knew how much your situation sounds like mine! The new BF has a 4 year old daughter! :) WOW thats crazy. Yeah i think it says a lot to about a man that would stil want to be with someone after knowing they are pregnant with someone elses child. Im gonna go for it, but i just dont know what im allowed to do and whats appropiate! LOL

We have our fist date next thursday! Hes sooo different than my ex or other mean in that case! LOL. is your BD still in the picture? was he around during the birth? DId he go to the hospital? If so what would u do there? did u let your BD in the room or the new BF thats been there for u everyday, rubbing your back as u puke and getting up at 1 am and going to the store to get you something to eat? lol

I really like this guy and i feel that its too soon for me to like him this much, and i dont know how to turn it off, cause he seems like he likes me just as much! i dont want to get hurt! Were u comfortable with the new BF at first? was it weird to talk about your pregancy?

THANKS!

Only if u knew how much your situation sounds like mine! The new BF has a 4 year old daughter! :) WOW thats crazy. Yeah i think it says a lot to about a man that would stil want to be with someone after knowing they are pregnant with someone elses child. Im gonna go for it, but i just dont know what im allowed to do and whats appropiate! LOL

We have our fist date next thursday! Hes sooo different than my ex or other mean in that case! LOL. is your BD still in the picture? was he around during the birth? DId he go to the hospital? If so what would u do there? did u let your BD in the room or the new BF thats been there for u everyday, rubbing your back as u puke and getting up at 1 am and going to the store to get you something to eat? lol

I really like this guy and i feel that its too soon for me to like him this much, and i dont know how to turn it off, cause he seems like he likes me just as much! i dont want to get hurt! Were u comfortable with the new BF at first? was it weird to talk about your pregancy?

Haha that is crazy how similar our stories are. My BD wasn't in the picture until recently.. and he really isn't now. He denied Phoenix was his child until 5 days before he was born. I didn't talk to the jerk for 8 and half months and then he calls me to see if he could be there for the birth! I said hell no but he did come the day after and hasn't seen Phoenix since. However, ever since I file for child support, he has been going on and on about his visitation rights. My BF wasn't in the delivery room, my mom and best friend were. But he was at the hospital and stayed with me my entire hospital stay.

I had known my BF for a long time. We had mutual friends so we would run into each other once in awhile. He asked me out to dinner.. and it just progressed from there. I told him everything about my pregnancy, he wanted to know! He even put up with the awful mood swings and the crying at the drop of hat haha. In my eyes, Phoenix already has a daddy in my BF.

Now for what you are allowed to do or what is appropriate, do what your heart tells you. Just go with it. Do what feels right to you and if the relationship gets too serious too quick, just talk to him about it. He will most likely understand. And if it doesn't work, then that's okay. We will never be happy if we don't put our hearts out there. :)

Haha that is crazy how similar our stories are. My BD wasn't in the picture until recently.. and he really isn't now. He denied Phoenix was his child until 5 days before he was born. I didn't talk to the jerk for 8 and half months and then he calls me to see if he could be there for the birth! I said hell no but he did come the day after and hasn't seen Phoenix since. However, ever since I file for child support, he has been going on and on about his visitation rights. My BF wasn't in the delivery room, my mom and best friend were. But he was at the hospital and stayed with me my entire hospital stay.

I had known my BF for a long time. We had mutual friends so we would run into each other once in awhile. He asked me out to dinner.. and it just progressed from there. I told him everything about my pregnancy, he wanted to know! He even put up with the awful mood swings and the crying at the drop of hat haha. In my eyes, Phoenix already has a daddy in my BF.

Now for what you are allowed to do or what is appropriate, do what your heart tells you. Just go with it. Do what feels right to you and if the relationship gets too serious too quick, just talk to him about it. He will most likely understand. And if it doesn't work, then that's okay. We will never be happy if we don't put our hearts out there. :)

Well I'm excited and happy for you. Like everyone else is saying it says alot about a guy that is willing to set aside the fact that your pregnant with someone else's child to want to date you. I however went through the same thing when I was about 17 weeks pregnant, but with a guy who didn't already have a child. I'm 17 and just moved from texas to tennessee and the guy I dated was 18, who I met when I moved here...but anyways we started dating december 24th and that's when he told me he didn't care I was pregnant, that I was beautiful and my baby's daddy was stupid to break up with me, and that he would be there to support me and my child, and blah blah blah but then I found out March 9 that he has a new gf. I found out by myspace his mood was "I have the most beautiful gf in the whole world!" but he wasn't talking about me cuz I got a friend request from a girl and when I clicked on it up popped a picture of him and her kissing...I felt so stupid and betrayed!! Plus I felt guilty for some of the stuff I did with him, when I barely even knew him and I'm pregnant with my "first loves" child.

so I say go for it, but just be careful not to rush into things, take it slow...because finding out he cheated on me hurt so much more than my baby's daddy and first love breaking up with me when we found out I was pregnant.

Good Luck :)

Well I'm excited and happy for you. Like everyone else is saying it says alot about a guy that is willing to set aside the fact that your pregnant with someone else's child to want to date you. I however went through the same thing when I was about 17 weeks pregnant, but with a guy who didn't already have a child. I'm 17 and just moved from texas to tennessee and the guy I dated was 18, who I met when I moved here...but anyways we started dating december 24th and that's when he told me he didn't care I was pregnant, that I was beautiful and my baby's daddy was stupid to break up with me, and that he would be there to support me and my child, and blah blah blah but then I found out March 9 that he has a new gf. I found out by myspace his mood was "I have the most beautiful gf in the whole world!" but he wasn't talking about me cuz I got a friend request from a girl and when I clicked on it up popped a picture of him and her kissing...I felt so stupid and betrayed!! Plus I felt guilty for some of the stuff I did with him, when I barely even knew him and I'm pregnant with my "first loves" child.

so I say go for it, but just be careful not to rush into things, take it slow...because finding out he cheated on me hurt so much more than my baby's daddy and first love breaking up with me when we found out I was pregnant.

Well the good thing is that the BD isnt denying the baby (well atleast just yet)! God only knows whats going on in his mind! And i dont know who i will have in there, my mom has passed away and my best friend is always busy i dont know, we will see. And its surely not gonna be my dad! LOL

Im following my heart, just so scared to lol. I really dont want to get hurt. But you are very right about never being happy if we dont put our hearts out there! Hes a great guy, well... atleast so far LOL Its scarey how much we are alike he already talking about how its gonna be when i meet his parents! lol Which it doesnt bother me im just afraid of what they or other people are going to think when they find out im pregnant. He says its gonna be weird cause people are going to think that the child is his? Did that happen to your BF? If so, how did he handle it? I havent known this guy that long may sense the middle of Feb. and i didnt tell him to about a few weeks ago that i was pregnant, he had no idea. and i was seeing my BD til about 3 weeks ago! so this is why its so nerve racking lol...

Thanks again :)

Well the good thing is that the BD isnt denying the baby (well atleast just yet)! God only knows whats going on in his mind! And i dont know who i will have in there, my mom has passed away and my best friend is always busy i dont know, we will see. And its surely not gonna be my dad! LOL

Im following my heart, just so scared to lol. I really dont want to get hurt. But you are very right about never being happy if we dont put our hearts out there! Hes a great guy, well... atleast so far LOL Its scarey how much we are alike he already talking about how its gonna be when i meet his parents! lol Which it doesnt bother me im just afraid of what they or other people are going to think when they find out im pregnant. He says its gonna be weird cause people are going to think that the child is his? Did that happen to your BF? If so, how did he handle it? I havent known this guy that long may sense the middle of Feb. and i didnt tell him to about a few weeks ago that i was pregnant, he had no idea. and i was seeing my BD til about 3 weeks ago! so this is why its so nerve racking lol...

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