Wendy: People often sabotage themselves out of a loving relationship without knowing it, when the subconscious mind protects them and their status quo.

Some people hold onto limiting thoughts or actions because they were raised to believe things like, “Life is tough. You are not supposed to be happy.” Or they’ve learned to live by rules that actually ruin relationships.

Hadley: What’s the antidote, and how do you use it?

Wendy: Again, it’s three simple steps:

You look back at those old rules that you’ve been exposed to and that you may have followed.