The rush I get when I make a funny remark, and the person I'm with really cracks up, as in helpless with laughter. Only happens once in a great while (as opposed to just making someone laugh), but when it does, it's intense, both when it happens and remembering it later.

What do you know about alt.com? I was redirected there when I learned that bondage.com was defunct, but they seemed to say (a) that you can join free (which I'd done on Bondage.com), but then seemed to pull a bait-and-switch by asking you to sign up for a silver or gold account in order to actually contact a potential partner...

I got into BDSM in the late '80's, when people met by placing personals ads in free weekly leftist newspapers. They had the advantage of being local, and not having a large enough audience to be worthwhile for scammers. I ran a personal ad, and met a submissive woman once a week for months (until I found the right one).

We were together for years, but ultimately broke up. By that time, the internet had destroyed newspapers, and meeting people online has been nothing but a nightmare ever since.

I'd like to see how much money Senator James Inhofe has accepted from such sources. He's the kind of whore who gives whores a bad name - selling out not only the futures of his children and grand-children, but the future of the entire human race. He's either a despicable piece of shit or the biggest moron on the planet.

Oh, one other thing: If you live together in a 24/7 d/s relationship, you should start every morning with a brief spanking, which "re-sets" the relationship and eliminates any ambiguity that could arise later.

I get what you're saying about your own experiences, but you're depicting religion as being essentially benign, and the fact that religions (especially Abrahamic religoons) go looking for trouble, by being judgmental and condemning.

Plus they inspire misplaced trust (hence all the child-molesting religious authorities), and have historically inspired and enacted atrocities.

These are not obscure facts. Hell, they're in the news practically every day.

Which is why I say that intelligent people who don't question their beliefs are willfully weak-minded.

The big question is, if you surrender control to him, can you (a) trust him to never abuse his control of you, and (2) can you trust him to care that your relationship will be as rewarding for you as it is for him?

I am an exclusively dominant heterosexual male, and I have NEVER wanted a relationship that wasn't satisfying and rewarding for my partner.

The one possible red flag I see in your post is his forbidding you from seeing other people, because it's not clear what you mean by "seeing."

Does he mean you can have sex with one other person (seems unlikely), or that you can have only one other friend?

If it's only one other friend, RUN. That is not just a red flag, it's a red flag on fire.

Anyone, ANYONE who wants to limit how many friends you have or associate with is a dangerous psychopath.

As a male het dominant, it gives me no pleasure to tell you this - I know, from my side, how hard it is to find "Ms. Right."

But better to resign oneself to keep looking for Mr. Right than to link up with Mr. Wrong, and then struggle to break away later.

Wish I could say something more encouraging, but I know there are decent, loving dominants out there. But be careful. There are also sick bastards who are out to take advantage of submissive women.