tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.comments2018-12-17T20:39:48.940-05:00Diana’s Little Corner in the Nutmeg StateDiana_CThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14223056441901730531noreply@blogger.comBlogger6738125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-59622133727477011562018-12-17T16:20:58.888-05:002018-12-17T16:20:58.888-05:00As a (non-mariachi) trans woman who has been singi...As a (non-mariachi) trans woman who has been singing professionally for years (but not the first, certainly), let me be the first to sing &quot;Cry Me a River&quot; for Miss Spain. Being trans is not easy for any of us, but to be able to look as good as she does would go a long way in alleviating many of our problems. This gives a new meaning to&quot;First-world problems,&quot; I guess? :-)FABULOUSCONNIEDEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-59959293603472066602018-12-17T15:39:50.305-05:002018-12-17T15:39:50.305-05:00I gave up the fight of keeping the word, transgend...I gave up the fight of keeping the word, transgender, an adjective a long time ago. I knew that it was a losing battle when Oprah, while interviewing a transgender woman, asked when she began &quot;transgendering.&quot; My theory is that it&#39;s use as a noun and verb (even an adverb) stems from the fact that it ends with the &quot;er.&quot; Still, I will often correct people after they have referred to me as a &quot;transgender.&quot; Doing so implies that I am one who &quot;transgends&quot; or who has &quot;transgended.&quot; They might as well say I am &quot;transgenderized&quot; or &quot;transgenderated.&quot; As ridiculous as those implications may sound, they are all just as wrong as is the use of &quot;transgender&quot; in a noun or verb form. At least, the use of &quot;trans&quot; softens the blow somewhat. Don&#39;t even get me started on &quot;transgenderism.&quot; What does that even mean?<br /><br />I don&#39;t know what they are teaching in journalism school these days, but I think it&#39;s not as much as what I learned about writing when I was in junior high. The proper use of words, grammar, and context really are important. A writer may have all the best intentions to report the truth, but the truth can be lost if it is not communicated properly. Beyond that, I&#39;m sure that there is a fair number of those who are just lazy or incompetent. There are also those reporters who want to sensationalize in order to get more &quot;hits.&quot; Quantity over quality, I believe is what that is called.<br /><br />As you can tell, I don&#39;t think or write in sound bites. I will heed your advice if I should ever be interviewed, though. I totally understand what you mean. FABULOUSCONNIEDEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-32692976691630223472018-12-17T14:35:38.459-05:002018-12-17T14:35:38.459-05:00FABULOUSCONNIEDEE
It’s hard to get the proper term...FABULOUSCONNIEDEE<br />It’s hard to get the proper terminology across to reporters. I have been interview many times and its pot luck, some reporters “get it,” some don’t want to “get it,” and some reporters get very defensive when you try to tell them to check with the AP Stylebook or the GLAAD Media Reference Guide.<br /><br />I had one reporter get very defensive tell us we can’t tell him what to write, finally we were able to get a word in and say that we just wanted to say consult the AP Stylebook… he eventually got it and used the proper words and terms.<br /><br />They don’t teach about in journalism school and except for newspapers and television reporters each reporter is usually an independent writing individuals stories.<br /><br />If you ever do get interviewed for TV here is a tip… think in sound bits, they will probably only use one or two sentences unless it is an in-depth interview.<br />DianaDiana_CThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223056441901730531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-85834720030580732342018-12-17T12:55:45.372-05:002018-12-17T12:55:45.372-05:00Aside from your important commentary about trans/g...Aside from your important commentary about trans/gay panic defense, this story is presented in a way that is so frustrating to me. To start, the opening sentence, as it&#39;s incorrectly written, implies that the dead person has been &quot;spreading the message.&quot; Also, it says that Kelly was transgender - not a transgender woman, a transgender man, or even a transgender non-binary person. It goes on to quote the mother (the one who is really spreading the message), who uses male pronouns to describe her (son, daughter?). The reporter still does not attempt to clarify. Only from the reference that Kelly received a football scholarship and the accompanying photo can one make the assumption that Kelly was a transgender woman. We can only really assume, though. <br /><br />Not to minimize the tragedy that this death certainly is, but I wish there were a way for us to spread the news to the media on how to use more clarity when reporting about us. Then, again, there are many of us who do not do such a great job of clarifying, either. I have yet to hear any transgender person adequately describe themselves so that a cis person could really have an understanding. Not only does, as they say, meeting a trans person mean that you have met just one trans person, we don&#39;t even all speak the same language in describing ourselves.<br /><br />Thanks, Diana, for allowing me to rant. I consider myself to be a good ambassador for the trans community, acting in a genuine way so as to try to eliminate any ambiguity or misconception. It seems, though, that I often have to combat preconceptions that have been perpetuated by the media (and, even sometimes, by other trans people). Gender dysphoria is difficult enough to deal with; information dysphoria can often be worse. FABULOUSCONNIEDEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-30743408543946314262018-12-16T11:33:22.351-05:002018-12-16T11:33:22.351-05:00Of course now that I checked out Woman Within my F...Of course now that I checked out Woman Within my Facebook pages are covered with ads for them and also the online newspapers.Diana_CThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223056441901730531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-11606337645319808192018-12-16T11:16:35.514-05:002018-12-16T11:16:35.514-05:00I have done enough shopping for clothing on Amazo...I have done enough shopping for clothing on Amazon to know that those Asian sizes are in no reflective of the US. Even for puppy t shirts!I am Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14018601282810481033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-54527318009772758852018-12-15T17:28:06.393-05:002018-12-15T17:28:06.393-05:00I have seen those online ads talking about plus si...I have seen those online ads talking about plus size clothes and then when you click and start looking you find out their idea of a 2X is a Japanese or Chinese 2X, which is like a size 6 or something here. Country Dew mentioned Woman Within. I get a lot of clothes from them and also Roman&#39;s and have been pleased with everything. I don&#39;t know if they have the skirt you&#39;re looking for, but you could try.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-57502904495146586912018-12-15T13:32:49.384-05:002018-12-15T13:32:49.384-05:00#6--ha!#6--ha!Kwizgiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02030855903021576354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-40788963101340251902018-12-15T11:04:13.370-05:002018-12-15T11:04:13.370-05:00Have you tried The Woman Within (https://www.woman...Have you tried The Woman Within (https://www.womanwithin.com/). They have a few plaid skirts. I have gotten some clothes there; the pants run a little small but I don&#39;t know about the skirts. The tops always fit well.CountryDewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243893531509380824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-37850791764391985792018-12-15T10:27:56.798-05:002018-12-15T10:27:56.798-05:00I used to get my plaid wool skirts at Famous Barr,...I used to get my plaid wool skirts at Famous Barr, but it has closed here and is now Macy&#39;s. I haven&#39;t looked for one in years. They are so cute though! Loved your answers! Have a great weekend!<br /><br />https://lorisbusylife.blogspot.com/Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02714983663361708340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-20084318110071606352018-12-15T09:34:13.362-05:002018-12-15T09:34:13.362-05:00So somebody got a brand new skirt! That&#39;s a ha...So somebody got a brand new skirt! That&#39;s a happy ending, isn&#39;t it? <br /><br />I think #9 is my favorite question this week. We can learn a lot about what&#39;s important to us Sat 9ers.The Gal Herselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02566779726191649848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-27308266302820857772018-12-13T17:27:20.529-05:002018-12-13T17:27:20.529-05:00My fear is that I will have to give up control. It...My fear is that I will have to give up control. It&#39;s the same for just about anyone who ends up on Medicaid after all of their resources have been exhausted. I dealt with this problem while advocating for both my mother and mother-in-law, and I could tell lots of stories of how the health &quot;care&quot; system will try to get away with as much neglect as they can without someone overseeing them. Being trans, it can only end up worse, I&#39;m afraid. <br /><br />Unless I have my beard removed fully, I would most likely have to suffer from not getting a daily close shave. My head is bald, so I would have to depend on someone else to make sure my wig was clean and fresh. I can&#39;t get GRS for health reasons now, nor can I even be on HRT. After a week in a nursing home bed, I would be a mess, and I would have a difficult time insisting that I be treated like the lady I am - despite how I looked. <br /><br />I have never thought of committing suicide my whole dysphoric life, but I just may figure a way to end my life if my only other option were to be sent to a nursing home. I don&#39;t see that as living.<br /><br /> FABULOUSCONNIEDEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-56500708857488519852018-12-13T12:43:42.745-05:002018-12-13T12:43:42.745-05:00SAGE down in NYC I believe is working on senior ho...SAGE down in NYC I believe is working on senior housing for LGBT seniors. But one of things against us is a small population, there are not enough LGBT seniors who are interested in staying at a LGBT senior housing.<br />Diana_CThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223056441901730531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-91673172453965064042018-12-13T11:27:25.920-05:002018-12-13T11:27:25.920-05:00This is going to be a big problem as the number of...This is going to be a big problem as the number of &quot;Out&quot; seniors grows and needs assisted care facilities. There is already one LGBT facility that I&#39;ve heard of, I think in Arizona, and we will need many more than that. But how do we get our community to raise the alarm bells the way that the community pushed for AIDS research 30+ years ago? We will be needing many more of these facilities in the next 10 years, and there is precious little time to get ready for the demographic changes coming....<br />Marianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18346866501735405647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-41099145347599882522018-12-11T23:21:37.222-05:002018-12-11T23:21:37.222-05:00I think this is one of the better remakes of the r...I think this is one of the better remakes of the rainbow flag. <br />Richard Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264349950333151945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-87880211633185572082018-12-11T07:14:50.856-05:002018-12-11T07:14:50.856-05:00nope we won&#39;tnope we won&#39;tjoanna Santoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16722222181799879120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-57498129983271621102018-12-06T16:17:30.945-05:002018-12-06T16:17:30.945-05:00Interesting how times change. Over 50 years ago, w...Interesting how times change. Over 50 years ago, when I was five, I tried to put on a dress and heels in the &quot;dress-up&quot; play area of my preschool. The teachers would have none of this, forced me to remove the clothes, and called my parents to pick me up from school for the day. In this case, it was the school that overreacted and my mother who kind of laughed it off and didn&#39;t think it was any kind of big deal. Now this school is more tolerant than the parents! If I had little kids, I&#39;d be thrilled to find a school for them where gender experimentation was permitted and encouraged.Diane Smithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-20800221535960841292018-12-03T09:27:01.118-05:002018-12-03T09:27:01.118-05:00Reminds me of a certain local LGBT organization th...Reminds me of a certain local LGBT organization that had separate bathrooms for the T&#39;s attending their annual big event.Stanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10259788604423472207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-79303200316104542112018-12-02T15:55:38.424-05:002018-12-02T15:55:38.424-05:00Greetings from the UK. An interesting post. Blessi...Greetings from the UK. An interesting post. Blessings. Love love, Andrew.WordsPoeticallyWorthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05932809387878012226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-20629887410032095662018-12-02T14:26:05.411-05:002018-12-02T14:26:05.411-05:00Oh, and I hope you are ok and your health concern ...Oh, and I hope you are ok and your health concern is fixable.CountryDewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243893531509380824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-4973013935938669852018-12-02T14:25:44.189-05:002018-12-02T14:25:44.189-05:00I&#39;d never have thought about the lion&#39;s te...I&#39;d never have thought about the lion&#39;s teeth being cleaned. Good answer.CountryDewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03243893531509380824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-71122128576141484862018-12-02T10:57:48.064-05:002018-12-02T10:57:48.064-05:00I remember getting on fb in the middle of the nigh...I remember getting on fb in the middle of the night once and an acquaintance of my daughter saw me on there. She then started harassing me about my daughter&#39;s latest break up. I unfriended her that minute.I am Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14018601282810481033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-57932640242585193042018-12-01T13:53:16.360-05:002018-12-01T13:53:16.360-05:00I am wearing RED today!
And I hope your health is...I am wearing RED today!<br /><br />And I hope your health issue isn&#39;t serious. Kwizgiverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02030855903021576354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-58394773156053294442018-12-01T12:41:07.666-05:002018-12-01T12:41:07.666-05:00On #6, are you sure you&#39;re just not tired of a...On #6, are you sure you&#39;re just not tired of all the winning, just as we were told we would be? Uhg. FABULOUSCONNIEDEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15951206717208424386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25196141.post-42105827266939071542018-12-01T10:56:32.043-05:002018-12-01T10:56:32.043-05:00I am glad you had your brother to lean on! My mom...I am glad you had your brother to lean on! My mom had a health concern this week that we saw the doctor for and everything was ok, but it is so scary. Praying you are fine.<br />I picked the lion too. Loved your answers! Have a great weekend!<br /><br />https://lorisbusylife.blogspot.com/Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02714983663361708340noreply@blogger.com