Step 1: Meet through friends/coworkers
Step 2: Chat about common interests
Step 3: Hang out as friends while partaking in common interests
Step 4: Guy asks girl out on official "date"
Step 5: Go out on date and guy must perform for upwards of three hours
Step 6: Maybe kiss at the end of first date
Step 7: Go out on several more officially scheduled dates
Step 8: Have sex (about one month into relationship after considerable work)

It's starting to change now. If you're not at least decent looking you will stay incel. If you're decent looking you can get laid quick. It will soon change into a make it or break it type thing where some men get everything and others get nothing even if they try to date