My best friend is Sue, and she has a close friend named Erin. I am friends with both Sue and Erin on FB, although I rarely see Erin in real life and we don't really get along. Erin is a vegetarian, and if anyone eats meat around her, they are subjected to comments about eating "poor innocent little animals".

Recently Sue posted a funny picture about bacon on my FB wall. Erin responded something about "murdering poor innocent little piggies". Since the picture was supposed to be funny and lighthearted, I deleted Erin's comment.

Apparently Erin noticed that her comment was gone and posted "Sue, you b****, why did you delete my comment?" Note that it is common for Sue and Erin to jokingly call each other "b****", but I would be uncomfortable with Erin calling me that.

Sue and Erin went back and forth over a few times about the deleted comment and then dropped it.

Should I fess up to deleting the comment and apologize? Or should I just let this go? And was it wrong of me to delete it in the first place?

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I would fess up to deleting the comment but, I wouldn't apologize; you did nothing wrong. While I'm fessing up, I'd ask to stop making anti-meat comments on my wall and inform her that all such comments will be deleted.

I'd fess up also. Actually what I would post is, "Sue did not delete the comment on my wall, I did. I respect your eating choices and ask that you respect mine and do not post comments like that on my wall again."

Erin sounds like a ball of fun (some people might get the reference if I changed that to Nut o'Fun, but that might be misinterpreted.)

You have nothing to apologize for.

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Your wall; you can delete what you want without explanation. I'd either say nothing or just say, 'I was the one who deleted it." and leave it at that. Actually, I'd say nothing. You don't have to explain yourself.

Erin sounds like the type who is looking for attention and wants to get into a war of words. Don't give her the opening and you don't feed the crazy.

Your wall; you can delete what you want without explanation. I'd either say nothing or just say, 'I was the one who deleted it." and leave it at that. Actually, I'd say nothing. You don't have to explain yourself.

Erin sounds like the type who is looking for attention and wants to get into a war of words. Don't give her the opening and you don't feed the crazy.

The point of "confessing" isn't for the OP to explain herself. I agree with you she doesn't need to do that. The reason to confess is to clear up the misunderstanding between the 2 other people. Unless the OP knows they figured out that it was her/not them that did it.

And that is what I personally would apologize for, but it's probably not necessary.

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Actually, can someone else delete comments posted on your wall? Like, do both you and Sarah have the ability to delete something she posted on your wall? Because if not, I'd say Sue knew that and was calling you out by calling her out on *your* wall.

I dont see any reason to say anything in that case, especially because there was no confusion to begin with.

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