Ellen,Thanks for sharing the great story and the photo. I'm glad the new mother was amenable!Robin

Tue Jan 03, 2012 12:42 am

katelu

Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2009 2:28 pmPosts: 464Location: Minnesota

Re: Nobody called to wish a Merry Christmas

Wow. A great-great grandchild! And so beautiful.

Mom will be 90 this year and her first great grandchildren were born last year. (We're a little slow.) One is local and he is the hit of the nursing home. Whether the residents remember him from time to time is immaterial. He delights them every time.

Whether this seems important to your niece now or not, the photos will be very important in the future - to both her and Aaliyah. I don't remember my great grandmother, but the pictures of me on her lap are something I treasure. Especially as I learn more about her.

That's five generations, right? I hope you got some 5-generation pictures. I know they will be a very special possession for Aaliyah and will help her connect with her generations of mothers.

Kate

_________________Kate [i](Cared for Mom for years before anyone else noticed the symptoms, but the last year of her life was rough and we needed to place her in an SNF, where she passed in February 2012)[/i]

Tue Jan 03, 2012 10:45 am

dagoetz

Joined: Wed Sep 30, 2009 8:25 amPosts: 227

Re: Nobody called to wish a Merry Christmas

Well, one of the daughters sent a photo montage Christmas card. No note. Poor MIL didn't recognize her grandkids since she hasn't seen them in seven or eight years. Made her upset. I guess the card takes the place of a phone call. Sad.

At least they sent something. Would you be willing to write a note to your MIL on behalf of those family members? You can also share it with the family members as a suggestion for something that your MIL loved to hear/read.

Sun Jan 08, 2012 12:13 pm

LTCVT

Joined: Fri Jan 15, 2010 9:33 pmPosts: 3441Location: Vermont

Re: Nobody called to wish a Merry Christmas

Donna, I guess you just have to try to emotionally shut these people out of your life while trying to take care of your MIL who unfortunately still remembers them (and when they don't call). There must have been family "stuff" going on for a long time for grandchildren not to have seen their GM in 8 years..... I know it's tough, but try not to let it get you down. If there is a next time, maybe you should monitor any mail coming from them if you think it will just upset your MIL. There is no sense in her feeling even worse. A big hug to you AND your MIL! Lynn

_________________Lynn, daughter of 89 year old dad dx with possiblity of LBD, CBD, PSP, FTD, ALS, Vascular Dementia, AD, etc., died Nov. 30, 2010 after living in ALF for 18 months.

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