I am having an intimate wedding (immediate family + 2 friends) and am not having a bridal party. Because of that, I wasn’t planning on having a bachelorette party!

However, my best friend (one of the two friends who will be at the wedding) kept asking me if I wanted to do something/telling me people wouldn’t be offended to be invited to the bach but not the wedding, since everyone knows it is a small wedding. And THEN I found out that my high school BFF (who lives in Pittsburgh) and my college BFF (who lives in Thailand) will be in our hometown (Orlando) the same week as my best friend AND me–and I live in NYC! So the stars sort of aligned, and I’m having a very small bachelorette party (probably just those 3 girls and me) two days after Christmas.

The question:

Do I get gifts for all three of these girls? I mean, they would have been my three bridesmaids if I had bridesmaids, and so they would have gotten bridesmaid gifts. Or do I get a gift just for the planner/arranger? I’m already giving her a small gift before the wedding since she’ll be helping organize stuff the day of. So should I get her another gift? Should I jsut get them Christmas gifts, since the party is two days after Christmas?

@howsweetitis: If someone is paying to make this happen (limo rental, cost of activity and such) then you should get her a Thank You gift for her. If its just a night at a few bars where everyone buys their own drinks, I think you can go with a nice card telling them how much they mean to you.

@howsweetitis: What are you guys doing? If you’re doing an overnight anywhere, then I would get a little gift for each girl. Or, if they are shelling out a lot of money. If it’s just hitting up a bar for drinks, then maybe offer to buy a round of drinks.

@JrzyGurl: From what I understand, we are going out to dinner and then out for drinks. I told my friend who’s planning the night out that I didn’t want anyone to have to spend much money–she has a great job and few expenses, lol, but the rest of us are varying stages of poor (I’m a grad student).