in addition to a 14 month old biological daughter. I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband has always given me the full authority of a parent, and has always backed me up, so I do not have to worry about my step son disrespecting me. His biological mother is completely out of the...

Warning: Extreme Rage Release Area
Grrr... my heart still hurts. Mommy finally called- it's only been, what? Six months since my babies last heard their bio-mother's voice? Why bother? Why even pick up the stupid cell phone that stays in your pocket every single day and call...

I am a mother of two and stepmother of one I have a son 9yrs and a daughter 1, my step son is also 9yrs.
I would love for there to be a place where we could go for advise being the step mum. It can be so difficult! In my situation, I don't have any problems with my step...

I've posted this basically elsewhere, but I've come to the conclusion that the main problems are created when you have a vile, vindictive BM and a Father who does not expect respect and set boundaries. If the bio mum is normal, then a neutral tone, or even better, can be set...

I want to marry my boyfriend in future and have his kids but the fact he's already got kids from his past relationship kills me. I never know to follow my head or heart and stay with the man I love or leave him and find someone without kids. anyone else feel the same?

and could possibly be long. I became a step mom all in the same year as I became a mom myself as well as got married. When I decided to marry my husband and take on the role of a step parent I never in my wildest dreams thought I would hate it so bad. I myself grew up a step...

He's much older than I am so I'm also stepmother of his 3 children. Two girls 10 and 13 and a boy 11 who are wonderful but can be a handful :-)
We have been a family for almost 2 years so I'm still learning about being a parent and fitting-in with them all. I know I can...

here talking and she talks so dang fast, I could barely understand her. She was telling me about how all she wants to do is go have fun, get a car, be with her friends, which I assume is normal for her age, but then she called me old and said I'm lame! I'm 26! I am not old lol...

phrase that makes almost every stepmother grind her teeth.
And so continues this warped power struggle. Personally, I have never felt in competition with my stepson's biological mother. But sometimes the things she throws my way knick a nerve.
My fiancée has had primary...

opposite is so frustrating. She lived off of my husband and I for the first five years of our relationship. We had to pay her house payment because she refused to live within her own means. I had to put a roof over her kids heads when they were with their father, and my...

I am currently in a position where my husband's daughter of six years may be coming to live with us. We have no children of our own, the daughter is coming to us from a neglectful situation (her biological mother is now in jail), and I care about her very much. However...

for a visit in a few weeks (she lives out of state with her mom). We don't have much contact with her (my husband and his ex had a pretty bad break up and even all these years later there is hostility on both sides) A few years ago when she was graduating HS, I told her I had...

My husband and I met back in 2002. He was currently recovering from a nearly lethal bout of Epstein Barr induced meningitis and encephalitis. He had met one of the girls I went to school w. really bad girl- promiscuous and a drug user. She leeched onto him and invaded his life...

convenience store...all of the responsibility and none of the authority.
The role of the stepmother is the most difficult of all, because you can't ever just be. You're constantly being tested, by the children, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew...

I have been in the childrens life for about 10 years now. I don't think I could have loved them more if they had been my own.
But I find that no matter what I have done for my stepdaughter I will always be the evil one.
And I am heart broken, and running on empty

for the past four years. My hubby is great provider but not so good at disciplining the kids. I care about the boys so constantly worry about their schoolwork and other things. All their responsibility is on me even though hubby had said we will share the load of raising them. I...

and lived with my husband now in he's country. I don't know anyone rand I have no friends here. I feel lonely frustrated and no help at all. My husband has two kids one is 9 and one is 14 and they're both lazy, spoilt kids. I don't blame them cause that's how they're brought up...

and my boyfriend have been living together for almost two years, his son who is 5 (we will call him Bob haha) has lived with us for a year now and his daughter who is 4 lives with her mom. I'm not sure if that really considers me to be a step mom but if you ask his son what i...

time getting professional photos taken. So while husband was at work last night I took the kids shopping for holiday outfits. He wanted me to grab his son (my step-son) a white button up with a red tie so I grabbed two white button ups for my son and step-son. There were only a...

and their Father is very laid back and doesn't set boundaries. It's so frustrating to be the bad guy all the time for the little stuff (bed time, schedules, showers) and then being dismissed when i voice my concerns on the big issues. (Internet safety/monitoring, one of the...

bio-mom and step-mom are so common. As parents shouldn't the well being and benefits of our children go before our own conflicts?
I am a birth mother to three children and a step mother to one. My older two children's bio-dad isn't yet remarried but he's been in a new...

and have been for 2 years. We have full custody of her. She's recently started being ROTTEN, like throwing bad fits and talking back so mean and rude. She reminds me of her mom and it makes my stomach twirl. However I care and love her so much. I had my own son in January and I...

Hey all! I am 22 years old, getting married to my partner who I have been with for two years and I'm going to be a stepmom. It is literally a situation that jumped out at us from nowhere. We had been contacted by his Ex recently after we got engaged and notified that he had a...

as often as my SD does about how much she loves her mom. I think love between a mom and daughter is a special thing and it's great she lets her mom know she loves her for all to see but posting it all the time? The reason I'm wondering about this is because she is acting out and...

I am the non-biological mother of my 9yo son, Jacob.
I am, technically, his stepmother.
But when I look at him, I don't see 'stepkid'. I see my son. He has been in my life since he was 8 months old and when he said 'mummy' for the first time, he said it to me- copying his...

I met my husband 5 years ago we have been married for 3 years he came with baggage from his past as I did also, I have 2 children from my previouse marriage, and have done my upmost for my children to accept him as a stepdad, they love and respect him more than their own dad, who...

My stepmom married my Dad when I was pretty young. My earliest memory of my stepmother was booby-trapping a door to make something fall on her head. I was a MEAN, spoiled little boy. When I was a teenager, I gave my stepmom attitude all the time. I was disrespectful and...

I have been with my boyfriend for a year, but have been in his life for longer. He has a beautiful daughter, who is 7 and we get along great. When he gets his daughter every other weekend and on Wednesdays (weird set up I know) we take her brother, David and he is 5. I have no...

8am-4:30pm M-F and school from 5pm-10pm M-Th (all year, he takes courses every semester even in the summer now). He is also gone 1 weekend a month for drill. He has three children from a previous marriage (ages 9,8,3). I'm a sahm (only since the baby arrived, I was an accountant...

and a mom to grown up kids.. My partner has teenage kids and his eldest is just nearby. I was scared of how she will react to my relationship with his dad before so I tried to avoid her on so many ocassions.. But now that we know each other everything is almost perfect.. I will...

She's almost 21 & I've been in her life since she was 9. She has had everything handed to her by her paternal grandparents & mom. Her dad (my husband) has not handed her anything. She has not ever held a"real job" (worked at McDonald's for 2 weeks & decided she didn't like that...

I don't know any little girls who dream of becoming stepmothers. I have regrets of my past but I still look forward to the future as hopefully as I can muster. Being a stepmom for over 5 years has been both a thankless and awesome experience. At...

I have a son who is now 22 and a step daughter who moved in at the age of 12. she was a nightmare and no discipline from her dad my husband. when my son and her reached 17 I found out they were in a relationship. I was devastated. they both went to different universities and...

26 years ago that was the question my 9 year old stepson asked.
My response.... "No, you don't have to call me mom - you can call me anything you like as long as it's respectful."
Was I wise beyond my years back then? Perhaps, but I think it had more to do with the fact that I...

Why? Because I was watching a movie with my three year old and his daughter had gone downstairs. Did I tell her to or make her? No. Here is a sixteen year old who never goes out with friends but sits around every weekend. At home. Wants to cook for her dad and sits upstairs...

where Mothers are celebrated and loved. What about Stepmom's who help raise their partners children and some whose step kids live with them full time? How does Mothers Day feel to you? Are you happy or wishing the step kids to be grown and gone? Maybe even sad that they forget...

Yes i do love being a step mom but it is not always easy and anyone who thinks it is is just foolish. when I met my husband his two boys were very young so I guess that made it some what easier to become part of thier lives, but make no mistakes you are not thier real...

visitation schedule fights
We are engaged to be married in 30 days after being together over 4 years. I have a great relationship with his 15 year old daughter and 9 year old daughter. I feel a strong bond as if the girls were my own, which should be great....My Fiance and I...