Navigating the World with a Gender-Fabulous Child

Though my child (T) was never in the perverbial “closet” it wasn’t until 2 months ago that their intentions were made clear … well clearish!

T has never been the conforming type. At the age of two we learned they wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom and what sized breasts they wanted. Over the years T enjoyed make up and baby dolls and painted nails.

However; it was only about 6 weeks ago that T attempted to take one of my new bras. It didn’t occur to me to say anything but “no, that’s too big for you. If you want bras we’ll get you your own.” The words escaped my mouth without seeming to have even filtered through my brain. It was as if I had trained for this day all of T’s life.

Since then we have (in fact), purchased a week’s worth of bras and panties, gotten rid of underwear, bought a few new outfits, gotten some jewelry and told T’s best friend.

We have told quite a few people (mostly family and friends in the LGBTQ community).

I am still lost as to where T is on this beautiful rainbow, but I am tired of trying to make them fit neatly I to some sort of box.

R is getting further along in her transition. She’s been referred to the endocrinologist (which is next week) and we are going to get the blood work & x-rays a few days before. Luckily all of the doctors we have needed to see have been at the same practice so R is already comfortable.

I know that Jenner spoke about helping the LGBTQ community during the interview last night. I am so glad Jenner did! the interview was done so amazingly well and my heart bursts with joy for Jenner and every other Trans* woma, man and child who will benefit from how eloquent and genuine Jenner was.
I knew that with Diane Sawyer being a part of this, it would be done with the utmost class and dignity. However, she exceeded my expectations. I don’t think she really should have asked Jenner about the SRS, BUT I also think that I need to keep in mind that not everyone knows what is appropriate or inappropriate.
I think that an important thing for the trans* and cis community to take away from this is that Jenner struggled for DECADES and even thought about suicide … Jenner didn’t go through with it though. Couldn’t go through with it.
I implore those in the trans* community to follow Jenner ‘ s lead and live to see another day.
I implore those in the cis community to have an epiphany … BRUCE JENNER, famous, an Olympic hero … almost committed suicide bc this was so tough, imagine how this process is for those who do not have fans. “We are going to change the world”- Bruce Jenner

R went back to church today (first time since affirming publicly) and Pastor was amazing. Didn’t make a big deal about any of it just treated her like he normally does *phew*.
I went out yesterday and bought her a dress (her 1st ever).

I heard that a staff member was speaking about R today. This staff member called her a monstrosity. Supposedly no one knows which staff member it was but we all know that’s a lie.
I am hoping that said staff member is so disturbed by R’s presence at the school that she quits and doesn’t come back next year. I have a feeling who it was but a feeling isn’t proof. Luckily R doesn’t know and didn’t hear about it.

It went SO well that she feels comfortable wearing a skirt tomorrow :).
Another child came up to my boss (the breakfast and lunch aide) and asked how R got permission to do this bc she has been telling her parents for years that she’s not a girl, she’s a boy and they just won’t listen to her. Broke my heart.
One little girl was a little confused about the bathroom situation but R, the principal and the bullying specialist explained it well.
Again, this little girl is my HERO!