Victim Behavior comes from Damaged Boundaries, All addicts are at their core, codependents first.
You cannot be one with out being the other.
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Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Treat a symptom or go for the cure?

I was just reading the posts on a codependency email list I belong to, I stay on this list both to enjoy the fruits of list members ES&H and to give back some Experience, Strength and Hope from me to the list.

I just had to throw part of an email exchange up here before I forget it:

Someone wrote:"...Co-Dependency is so engrained and webbed throughout ourthought processes... we/I can never change it."

My response (and this was ONLY my thoughts on this single line in their post):

I don't think so, if you tell yourself something is hard/difficult or impervious to change... it is.

In 1953, before Roger Banister ran a mile in less than 4 minutes, all the experts said a human runners physical limit is that we, genetically, cannot run a mile faster than 4 mins.

What changed?They were all Olympic World Class athletes.The type of training they used was similarnothing happened training wise in those 3 weeks.

the only change was that a "glass ceiling"This is empirical proof that Attitude can be at least as powerful as more tangible 'training'.

There is a story Tony Robbins tells about a calculus student who fell asleep in class, he woke up at the sound of the bell, wrote down what he supposed was the weekend's homework.

The following Monday he said to the prof:"that was the hardest homework you've ever handed out"Teach said: "what homework? You mean the theorem on the blackboard? That's a theorem that's been unsolved for thousands of years"

the student had solved it, why?because no one told him he couldn't.he assumed, that last year's class solved it.All the prof's alumni solved itmost of his classmates were gonna solve it.

...why is it that placebos work so often?

tell yourself this codependency stuff is gonna haunt you for life and it will.