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Some of the most negative thinking comes to mind as regret or worry. Regrets are negative thoughts about the past, while worries are negative thoughts about the future. Neither of them has any validity in the present, but they are recurring thoughts that unnecessarily interfere with our wellbeing.

The best way to deal with such negative thinking is to at first realize that it’s just wasted time. Leo used to always ask people: “Do you worry a lot?” With the almost-always affirmative reply, he’d say:

“If you worry a lot, then you’re a professional at doing nothing. You have to act to do something about it.”

Those strong words were directed at me when I first met Leo, because I was under a cloud of worry-tivity – my world was full of worry. I worried about everyone else, too, because I had become an expert at worrying. I spent my childhood learning all about the ins and outs of worrying from my mother who was an expert at worrying about everything and everybody. That’s even worse than worrying about one’s own problems, because there’s really nothing anyone can do about someone else’s problems.

I gladly learned that worrying is simply fear of the future. While we can and should act to make our future the reality that we desire, we still have to go through all the positive steps that will lead to that future. Our lives are a work in progress, so we need to understand that every constructive action we take will lead us in a positive direction toward our goals. And we must be prepared to ad lib and make changes as external events act upon us.

Worrying takes us nowhere, but it causes a distraction in our normal thought processes and takes us into the negative realm. Once we’re submersed in negative thinking patterns (i.e. the go-nowhere good-for-nothing worrying), we also attract negative energy/spirits that fuel the process and feed off of the negative energy that we’ve created.

When I was learning to refuse negativity, I learned to counteract the act of worrying, that had forced me into the corner of doing nothing about my problems. While I was worrying, I wasn’t formulating a plan of how to solve my problems; I was just adding to them. While I was a ‘worry-wart’ I was unable to disassociate myself from the future negativity that I was creating in my mind. In other words, I was heading straight into negative territory every time I worried.

In addition to attracting negative energy/spirits when we worry a lot, there are greater spiritual implications. Mental and emotional negativity converge at the throat chakra and can allow damage to the spiritual opening, causing additional physical side effects such as thyroid malfunction. When I started to work with my spirit and learned to refuse the negativity that invaded my thoughts every time I thought about my future, I was able to direct myself in a positive direction. Not only had I been creating undue mental stress, but I was unable to enjoy the luxury of physical relaxation. When I let go of my worrying, I was able to allow my body to relax and heal. As I learned to relax, refuse negative thoughts and to take action to direct my own future, I let go of my expertise at worrying and all its negative side effects.

As I worked with my spirit and emerged from my worrying pastime, I saw so much more potential in my life than as a survivor of spousal abuse. In a time of high unemployment while I was training to work as Leo’s assistant, I found interim work as the manager of a portrait studio (350 applicants) and renewed my interest in coaxing babies to break out their smiles (toothless or not!) Once I started to love myself, believe in myself and care for myself both physically and spiritually, I abandoned my expertise at worrying and became the director of my future.

Whether we believe in fate or determinism, it seems true that everything happens for a reason so that we can learn and benefit from both the positives and the negatives in life. As long as we direct ourselves in the best ways possible, it does us no good to worry about events that are beyond our control. For instance, while we await the ‘end date’ of the Mayan calendar on December 21, 2012, we can choose to view it simply as the end of a calendar, as the date of a possible global catastrophe or as the beginning of an enlightened era in human history. From the quantum perspective of the Many Worlds Theory, every action we take could manifest countless alternative outcomes in other parallel universes, but we get only one.

As we gain more insight about our place in the multiverse, we ought to face our future with confidence and optimism for the best possible outcome, so that we can allow ourselves to prosper at all levels of existence.

Negative thoughts are constantly bombarding all of us as we navigate through our lives, but some people are tormented because they have so little power to refuse them. When someone is prone to persistent negative thoughts, there is most often a spiritual reason that prevents them from overcoming their persuasion.

Every living being on our planet is born with the instinct to survive, and each individual has the remarkable capacity to overcome a myriad of negative obstacles. However, when one’s resolve has been compromised by the intrusion of negative energy/spirits, it diminishes their capacity to resist the impact of higher level negativity.

Why are some people more sensitive than others, so that they seem to attract and absorb more negativity? Although it’s partly due to their level of perception and intuitive knowledge of how to deal with it, I think there’s a spiritual reason at its core. When a child is bothered at the higher level, he or she will simply say: “No!” and it’s usually enough to stop the negative influence but, if a child is subjected to abuse, they’re susceptible to being overwhelmed by the negative energies/spirits that are attracted to such events.

When I met Leo Jean, he told me how he had helped over 40 suicidal teenagers by giving them a more positive outlook on their life. In the few years prior to our meeting, kids from the community used to ask Leo if they could talk with him; all of them had been abused in one way or the other; and Leo helped them to identify with how he had overcome his own difficult experiences to discover there was a way past their own problems. Leo says of the tough times: “It’s just a passage of time.”

It’s alarming to me why so many people seriously contemplate committing suicide because, to me, it’s like committing self-murder and I could never hurt anyone, let alone myself. In my entire life, despite everything I went through, I only once had the thought of ending it all. I was 16 at the time, and it was just a fleeting thought. But I made sure that I immediately removed it from my mind, because it stunned me that I would have such a negative idea. I’ve always believed that in life there must always be something bright and positive to move toward on the other side of any difficulty.

So where did that thought come from? Was there a part of me that was so negative that I would resort to such destruction? Or, at a time when I was emotionally distraught, did the thought come from outside myself and I mistook it for my own? I think it was the latter. It was only during my work with Leo that I was able to fully understand that the energy of such a negative thought comes from the higher level and that I had intuitively refused it.

The first time I heard of someone being taunted to self-destruct was over 20 years ago, when a feisty 80-year-old woman came to see us because she was tormented by a cacophony of voices that were continuously urging her to throw herself from her 5-storey balcony. More recently was the healing across distance of a very sensitive 20-year-old woman, Lisa*, that had allowed the energies of others to affect her so much that she was unable to turn off her absorption of negativity. Both women intuitively knew the source of their self-destructive tendencies was spiritual, and they were brave enough to fight back for their lives.

Five years before she contacted us, Lisa had been diagnosed as schizophrenic. She suffered from extremely painful headaches and was taking medication that helped to lessen, but never removed, the pain. Lisa explained that she felt she no longer had any “barriers to the negative energy emitted by negative people” and felt that, if it continued, it would lead her to her “ultimate destruction – suicide”. Yet she went on to describe how she felt those thoughts could not be her own, because she was a very positive, creative and outgoing person. As a gifted performer, her greatest desire was to be able to stand on stage without the debilitating pain.

Not only had Lisa opened to several spirits years earlier but, as time went on, more of her spiritual openings became jammed open, amplifying her thoughts of self-destruction. Without a positively oriented spirit to help her at the spiritual level, Lisa had been unable to refuse the onslaught of negativity and had become more susceptible to it. She had taken time off from university and was living at home; her father was paying for her healing, but we never spoke to him. She convinced us that she would be ready and able to refuse when we worked with her over the phone.

Once her damaged chakras were repaired and she was closed to negative energy/spirits, Lisa found that, by working with her new positively oriented spirit, she was finally able to close to the destructive energy that she felt around certain people. During the next month, while she was receiving daily spiritual support, she learned to refuse the negative energies that used to engulf her at university and in other public places. Her headaches stopped; she was off to work in another country with friends for the summer; and she looked forward to returning to school in the fall.

A strong resolve and a positively oriented spirit provide the refusal power that’s needed to defeat self-destructive and other negative thoughts that can be emanating from a higher level source.

*Name made up to protect her privacy; no significant details that would identify this person are mentioned.

What does it feel like to be hit by spiritual negativity? It’s likely that you already know, but have never been able to clearly identify the sensation. You can acquire the skill to recognize spiritual negativity through the daily examination of physical sensations such as pain, intense emotions and energy draining.

By developing a heightened awareness of the impact of your surroundings, thoughts and emotions, you’ll increase your ability to identify the source of a spiritual ‘hit’ more quickly. The key to counteracting its effect is to refuse negativity completely by returning it all to its source with the Light* as soon as possible.

The notion of returning the negativity from a spiritual ‘hit’ is more powerful when you know its source. Usually you’ll be able to discern who’s sending the negativity as a result of your physical location or thoughts you’re having about someone. It’s not always possible to pinpoint the source of the negativity, though, because it could be coming through someone else or from a higher-level source. If you don’t refuse and return it, then you’re accepting the flow of negative energy and its influence.

One interesting experience comes to mind when someone asks what a spiritual hit feels like. Upon my last visit to a zoo about fifteen years ago, Leo Jean, a friend and I were visiting the gorilla exhibit. We were standing there, watching the gorillas looking back at us through the viewing glass when I met eyes with a female that was looking at me with the saddest expression. I thought of how horrible it must be for such creatures to be held in captivity with scores of people ogling them every day.

A few seconds later, I noticed an intense pain in my head. Since I never get headaches, I recognized it as a spiritual hit. I started to refuse it immediately and to return it to its source. Apparently, I wasn’t strong enough yet, because the pain just kept increasing until it was excruciating. My attention turned to the female gorilla, as I then sensed that it was she that was sending me the negative energy associated with her anger and frustration. I kept refusing and returned it to its source but, after a few minutes of intense pain, I had to ask Leo for help, because my efforts weren’t strong enough.

As we left the gorilla exhibit and walked outside, Leo helped me to return the hit directly to the source (i.e. the female gorilla and the spirits that were helping her) with the Light. I felt the pain subside immediately. I then realized quite sheepishly that I had accepted negativity from the gorilla, because I was sympathetic to her physical circumstances. Upon accepting her emotional outcry, I had allowed her spirit to send me the negativity that she had generated at the physical level. It was a painful learning experience, but one that evoked a greater commitment in me to gain more strength and positive knowledge, so that I would be able to overcome such spiritual hits in the future.

On the lighter side, my last zoo experience was highlighted by the antics of some very savvy elephants. Leo amused me and many other zoo visitors when he coaxed two Indian elephants to dance rhythmically back and forth with trunks swinging in unison to a silent beat. It took Leo several minutes to convince a somewhat reluctant but amazing African elephant to join in on the celebratory dance with its companions. It was a delightfully happy experience for all!

Since animals are very spiritually oriented, they conduct their spiritual activities in a very similar way as humans. It’s a great way to demonstrate how thought and emotional energy can be directed and received in a positive or negative way, depending on the sender’s intention. So, the next time you’re around someone who is ill, angry, complaining, anxious, sad, etc., it’s your responsibility to refuse them properly. As you defend yourself by minimizing your physical exposure and returning all the hits to their source with the Light, you’ll be doing them a favor, since the Light is purely positive energy.

In order to progress in your spiritual development, it will help you to train yourself to recognize spiritual negativity, so that you can react effectively to counteract its impact.