I have a little quiet corner at school. There is a fuzzy blue chair right at the back of the library which I claim as my own. It is between two bookshelves, almost hidden from view. I am friendly with both the librarians and often chat to them so they know that if they bell rings and they have not seen me I am still in my own little book world at the back of the library. Usually one of them comes to shoo me out.

Goldenhamster, you are very like me. I used to have a special corner like that too - only mine contained a plump cushion in the shape of a lion.

Emma, headbanging and rocking aren't really logical coping strategies - they are more your body's instinctive reactions. I do these things because I am borderline autistic (my tutor is currently talking about sending me for a second evaluation by a specialist in Asperger Syndrome). Other people with ASDs may react in this way, but they should try to curtail their behaviour in public. Save rocking for a private way of relaxing.

* Wear earplugs when you go outside (note - do NOT wear them if they totally block out the traffic noise).

i hate certain sounds and theyres one in paticular that pretty much has me curl up into a ball in tears i cant stand it and sometimes the light hurts my eyes but that tends to be moving between extreamly bright and dark i cope by one ignoring it as much as possible two avoiding the things that are going to effect me and three wearing something comforting

I like to wear comforting clothes too, happy_go_lucky. May I suggest that you wear tinted glasses when you go to a place where the lighting is funny? I put on either my sunglasses or my green Irlen lenses when I go in the lecture rooms here because the fluorescent strip lighting can trigger panic attacks. If you often want to cry at school, ask your special needs teacher if she can arrange for you to have a 'quiet room' where you can take time out from lessons or the playground.

well i dont no if this is logical but i hold my breath when i go by people who are smoking

I do that too, sumer. I suggest you put some of your favourite perfume on a scarf and wrap it round your face like a gas mask when you go out. You can use a thick one in winter (these are best) and a light cotton one in summer.

When i was little i used to get really stressed and upset (to the point that i would be screaming) if there were any loud or funny noises, but i still cant cope with babies crying or major thunderstorms.

I don't like thunderstorms and certain noises. They hurt my ears. I still need to get ear plugs. I don't know what kind of ear plugs would be best for me. I go into tears and break down crying and so scared. I called my psychriatrist and told her how my body went numb and how i thought i was going to have a panic attack. But that was a start of a panic attack. She said that i just got too anxious. I was so scared. But i think i should be having these problems if i am on this paxil cr. The paxil cr works for 24 hours. She didn't higher the dose or anything, she said to try to take it at night. How am i suppose to do that, when i am on a schedule and that would mess my schedule up. I see my psychriatrist march 21st so i will talk to her again and see what needs to be done. I have problems with sleeping and i told her i do. At night it can be scary.
I had nightmares last night. It was very scary and it was most of what happen to me in my past. I do rock, head bang. Rocking can help me to calm down and I like some stuff that are soothing for me to help me to be calm.

That sounds like a phobia, Esther. You can buy a book on coping with phobias (I recommend a book based on the principles of cognitive behavioural therapy) or go to your GP and ask for a referral to a counsellor. One of my friends successfully vanquished a pigeon phobia after just four sessions of counselling.