One Thousand Wells: How an Audacious Goal Taught Me to Love the World Instead of Save It

Summary

Jena Nardella, cofounder of Blood:Water and one of Christianity Today’s 33 Under 33, shares a “captivatingly honest” (Publishers Weekly) account of how her passion for saving the world grew into a humbler, long-term calling of loving the world in all its brokenness in this beautifully written memoir.

Ten years ago, Jena Lee Nardella was a fresh-out-of-college, twenty-something with the lofty goal of truly changing the world. Armed with a diploma, a thousand dollars, and a dream to build one thousand wells in Africa, she joined forces with Grammy Award–winning band Jars of Clay to found Blood:Water and begin her mission.

Jena’s dream for her nonprofit turned that initial $1 into $20, and then $100, and today into more than $25 million. Working throughout eleven countries in Africa, Blood:Water has provided healthcare for over 62,000 people in HIV-affected areas and has partnered with communities to provide clean water for more than one million people in Africa. But along the way she faced many harsh realities that have tested her faith, encountered corruption and brokenness that nearly destroyed everything she’d fought for, and learned that wishful thinking will not get you very far. Jena discovered true change comes only when you stop trying to save the world and allow yourself to love it, even when it breaks your heart.

With a fresh, intelligent, and winsome voice, Jena Lee Nardella weaves an evocative, personal narrative filled with honest and hard-won lessons that demonstrate the amazing things that can happen when you fight for your dreams.

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One Thousand Wells - Jena Lee Nardella

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Prologue

I could smell my breath against the bandanna. I had tied it over my mouth to protect myself from the dust-filled air, but my throat was still sore from breathing it. Soil caked my hair and eyebrows; my eyes felt dry as paper. A United Nations Land Cruiser, with its radio antennae wagging into the limitless sky, overtook us on the right and kicked up a plume of dust from the dirt road. I rolled up the last crack in the window, but dust continued to blow through the vents. Baboons watched us curiously from the roadside.

Three of us sat crammed in the backseat of a double cab pickup. Our sweaty backs stuck to the vinyl bench as we drove over a bridge across the rushing Nile River toward a place called Lira. We were on the final stretch of what felt like an endless journey from Nashville, Tennessee, through Kampala, Uganda, and then north for five hours through a region marked by a generation of violence and fear. It was 2005, almost twenty years since the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA) had begun waging guerrilla warfare in northern Uganda—raiding villages, capturing children, and raping women.

Brakes. Brakes. Brakes!

Men in military uniforms appeared on the road ahead, guns pointed at our truck. As we slid to a stop, a soldier approached the driver’s window, and three other men with AK-47s surrounded the car. They were angry, and they asked our driver something we could not understand. His response was apparently unsatisfying to them. They gestured for him to get out of the vehicle.

Not today, our friend Vincent responded from the passenger seat. We have visitors.

I don’t know how I got here, I thought, but I know I made a mistake. I closed my eyes against a rising nausea.

More talking. Angry negotiating. Then I felt us start to move again. I opened my eyes and I looked out the back window to see the soldiers waving, laughing at us.

What did they want? I asked, breathing the dusty air again.

A bribe, said Edward. They thought if they could scare us enough, we would pay them off.

But we would do no such thing, Vincent added. They are the cowards.

As we continued on in the dust and the heat, military personnel still lining the roads, I felt like a coward, too.

Joel and I were there to visit the small town of Lira, where more than a thousand people lived in an internally displaced persons camp. Our fledgling organization, Blood:Water Mission, had sent funds to Edward and Vincent’s well-drilling operation so they could build ten clean water wells in Lira as a pilot project. This was our opportunity to see what had already been done and visit the camps where more progress was needed.

We finally reached the outskirts of Lira, where makeshift shelters packed both sides of the road—hastily constructed huts with mud and sticks for walls, thatch and tarps for roofs. The instant we turned into the camp itself, crowds surrounded our vehicle. Joel and I got out amid a rush of children, chickens, and goats.

As Julius, one of the camp’s leaders showed us around, I felt like I was walking through news footage of a natural disaster, only this disaster was man-made. Families—as many as seven people to a hut—lived in shelters smaller than most American walk-in closets. A barbed-wire fence surrounded the camp, although it was unclear if it was keeping the LRA out or refugees in. Plastic Port-a-Johns overflowed with excrement. Some of the children had no clothing, everyone was coughing severely, and teenagers stood around with nothing to do because they had no access to school. As we’d been told, the camp had no drinking water, because the well pump was broken. Food was scarce, fear was high, and hope was far away.

Most of the people we talked to had been at the camp for at least three years. This was not their home any more than it was mine, but staying here was safer than living in an isolated village that was vulnerable to the LRA’s rampages. The day before we arrived, the LRA had killed five women who had gone back to their village to tend their fields. An entire generation was waiting for the war to end, though they had never known life without it.

A little boy in shorts and a torn, unbuttoned shirt met my eyes. He was playing with a piece of wire. His stomach was bloated—the ironic sign of severe malnutrition.

I remembered how my mom used to correct me when I was a child and told her I was starving. Jena, sweetie, she would say. You don’t know what starving means. You are hungry, but you are not starving.

Looking around the camp that day, I saw what starving looks like: It looks like blank stares from children who have never lived outside a barbed wire. It looks like parents in anguish because they cannot save the lives of those they love the most. It looks both helpless and ferocious. It looks like the absence of a good God.

I had been traveling through East Africa for the past three weeks, but these communities were still new to me. In the face of such brokenness, I ached to close my eyes and wish it all away, to get back in that dusty truck and curl up with my doubts and fears. The safety of my childhood had not prepared me for war zones or beaten landscapes. My faith had once felt unshakable. Places like this were deflating almost every conviction I held.

But I had decided early in my life that, whether or not I had faith, I could do something. So I smiled at the boy, the truly starving child. He hid behind his mother. Then I looked at Joel, and we began to follow Julius toward the camp’s broken well. Toward the reason we were there.

. . .

It was two years earlier, when I was twenty-one, that a vision for something extraordinary came to me. It came not as a gentle suggestion, but as an overpowering desire for change. It came from the convergence of a global health emergency, a collection of young musicians, and a personal need to live out a promise I had made to a homeless man twelve years before.

The vision included serving African villages where women and children walk several miles a day to find water to keep them alive. It included advocating for families whose immune systems were so weak from HIV that diseases in that water caused mothers to bury their babies and children to bury their parents. It included providing clean water for one thousand of those African communities.

And it included the consistent urge to walk away.

In Kenya, the people say pole pole, or slowly by slowly. In Zambia, they say panono panono, or brick by brick. These phrases refer not just to speed, but also to the uneven, up and down, three-steps-forward-two-steps-back nature of life.

If you look at the time it takes for corn to grow in western Kenya, or for a girl to walk with her bucket to the nearest watering hole in the hills of Rwanda, you see why the pace of life follows the growth of the land. If you witness a community coming together to build its own well, only to see its destruction through a senseless war, you begin to expect an uneven path in all things. And if I look at my own life, I see that the only way to reach an audacious goal is slowly by slowly.

When I was in high school, my classmates voted me Most Likely to Devote My Life to a Lost Cause. I took it as a compliment. But the thing about lost causes is that they’re only lost if you leave them behind. If you stay in there, if you keep hoping in action, if not in feeling, if you listen to how circumstances are shaping your calling, you may discover they are not lost after all. You may discover they are the most beautiful, extravagant examples of abundance in your life. You may start keeping your eyes open to causes that seem the most lost of all—whether they are in your backyard or in a small community in Lira, Uganda.

My story of cofounding an organization to address the HIV/AIDS and water crises in Africa is not really mine. It is more a story about forming relationships in villages, tour buses, and living rooms with people who act every day, trying to make a better life for others. They have names and faces and families who love them fiercely. They have that same passion for change that began in me as a child. My dreams, like theirs, have matured in the dust of dry African summers when rain didn’t come. In the deceit of broken relationships and lost money. In the rhythm of children dancing.

I don’t believe in as much as I used to. I don’t believe in ending global poverty. I don’t believe that people will always make choices based on the good of others. And I don’t believe the world is mine to save.

But what I do believe in, I believe in more. I believe that to love well, we must choose love every day. I believe that the point of life is community: letting others transform us. I believe that our grief over wrongs can become a passion to make things right. And I believe that God is good.

As I stood in that displacement camp among a weary crowd of men, women, and children, I recognized that even in their hopelessness, they had the will to survive. They had a longing, just as I did, to flourish.

I began walking to the well because I was in too deep to turn away. I was too certain that, as long as there are still people in the world who face unbearable obstacles, we cannot give up. I was too convinced that I was right where I belonged.

Part One

The World Opens Out

A kind of light spread out from her. And everything changed color. And the world opened out.

—John Steinbeck, East of Eden

1

Union Square

My parents had experienced a thing or two in the world by the time I arrived. That might explain why security—and fear—were such a part of my early childhood.

My father was the first American-born member of his Chinese immigrant family. Even though he lost his mother at age five, endured beatings from bullies in San Francisco’s Panhandle, and weathered the abuse of a stepmother who refused to feed him, Dad made something of himself as a prosecutor who put bad guys in jail. My mother survived martini-mixing socialite parents from the Midwest and became a psychiatric nurse with compassion deeper than the bottomless drinks of her father.

Mom and Dad fell in love on a blind date one San Francisco Christmas Eve and married soon after. They lost their first daughter to a congenital heart defect when she was eleven months old. As their next child, I was fiercely protected—my parents set out to ensure that I would know little want, fear, or loss. When my brother arrived nearly three years later, their circle of protection enclosed him as well.

We grew up with alarm systems in our home, emergency whistles on our backpacks, and lunch pails filled with food too healthy to be traded in the cafeteria. On the first day of kindergarten, my dad drove behind the school bus to make sure the driver made good use of turn signals. If my parents had occasion to fly, they took separate airplanes so that, should one plane go down, they would not orphan us as their parents metaphorically had.

Restaurants were complicated for us. If the nonsmoking section smelled at all like the smoking section, we walked away. If the nonsmoking section passed the first test, Dad still wanted to sit facing the door.

We had an earthquake plan, a fire plan, and a Y2K plan. Be prepared was our motto. And so I went to day care with a Cabbage Patch Kid in one hand and Caution in the other. I refused to risk slides on playgrounds, salt on my food, or the deep end of the swimming pool. I lived for rules, seat belts, and year-round SPF 50 sunscreen.

My dad had logical reasons for all this protection: he made legal enemies through his work. My mom had research-based reasons: she knew the data; she knew about all possible threats to children. They both had intuitive reasons: the world had been a dangerous place thus far.

. . .

When I was nine, our family moved to Burlingame, a small suburb in the San Francisco Peninsula. Known for its affluence and Victorian neighborhoods, Burlingame hosted a Pottery Barn, United Colors of Benetton, and one of Starbucks’s first non-Seattle shops.

Our new house was tucked securely into the neighborhood cul-de-sac. Brick stairs lined with honeysuckle climbed from the street to our front door. A towering row of eucalyptus trees shaded the nearby boulevard of El Camino Real. My existence fit into a four-mile radius and was filled with all the right activities for a Bay Area third grader: piano lessons, ballet, T-ball, and Kumon, an after-school speed math program that was popular among Asian students. Burlingame, like my childhood, was beautiful, safe, and smelled like peppermint patties.

At that point, it hadn’t occurred to me that my life was privileged and protected. Our family lived and looked like our neighbors. I enjoyed riding my pink Huffy bike around the block, going to sleepovers, and watching Full House on Friday nights.

But on a crowded San Francisco street, my world opened out.

Mom and I were walking to a bistro near Union Square. People crowded the streets—hurried men in suits, tourists in matching t-shirts with cameras around their necks, an old woman pulling a shopping bag on wheels. I treaded carefully on the gum-stained sidewalk, over grates and cigarette butts. Graffiti defaced the parking meters. Chinese characters embellished the awnings of restaurants. The air smelled like the concrete public bathroom we avoided at the farmers’ market on Saturdays.

I felt small and uncertain.

Then, walking up Geary Street, I saw him. He was a tall black man with sunken eyes, standing on the edge of the sidewalk. He balanced himself on the balls of his feet, calling out to passersby. Calling out to me.

I’m hungry, he said.

I looked around to see if anyone else was listening. The outside world scurried forward. My world stopped. I paused to listen to him. He sounded defeated, like something had broken him.

I’m hungry, he repeated. His face was sad. It seemed that every person who ignored him hurt him more. I felt a pain in my body—something wasn’t right. Then Mom called from farther down the sidewalk, and I shuffled to join her.

At lunch, my hamburger sat on my plate untouched. I fiddled with the paper wrapper of my straw. As a third grader, I had already learned a lot about the world. I had learned that pickles and cucumbers are the same thing and that the earth orbits the sun, not the other way around. I had learned that we have to say goodbye to friends sometimes and that Christmas presents can be disappointing. But it was inside that bistro, with a plate full of food, that I learned that there were people in the world whose lives were very different than mine.

For a moment, I forgot that I was a shy, accommodating child. That hamburger didn’t belong to me, and I knew it. Mom knew it, too, when I asked for a to-go box. I whispered a request to find the man.

We can try, she whispered back.

We traced our steps from the restaurant to the parked car, my patent-leather shoes tapping along the sidewalks. He won’t be hungry anymore, I thought. He’ll know I heard him.

We arrived at the block where the man had stood, but he was no longer there. The streets were less crowded, and the summer sun was creeping its way behind the cityscape. It hadn’t occurred to me that he wouldn’t be there. I had his hamburger, after all.

Mom and I walked a few more blocks, circling Union Square in search of him, but we both knew he was gone.

Mom’s caution was rising as the sun sank.

We need to go home, sweetie, she said. It’s not safe for us to be here.

The Styrofoam container I held suddenly felt heavy with disappointment. Not just disappointment that we couldn’t find the man, but disappointment that streets existed where grown-ups could walk by a hungry man’s pleas for help. In my child’s mind I wondered: What did they believe that made them capable of ignoring a person in need? Did they think this man deserved to be hungry? Did they feel they had permission to walk past him?

As I stood silently on Geary Street with a hamburger in my hands, I knew that what happened to that man on the street was wrong. I knew that no human being deserves to be hungry or ignored or forgotten. Though I could not express it at the time, I knew that every person is worthy of dignity—no matter what.

. . .

What is it about childhood perception that makes us able to see right and wrong for what they are? What is it that makes such awareness slippery in our adult minds?

Since that San Francisco day, I have seen a thousand wrongs in this world: Mothers with no option but to give their children dirty water. Men abusing power. Death so common in a community that funerals are held nearly every weekend. But I see through worldly eyes.

When I try to see Kenya or my Nashville neighborhood as I saw the streets of San Francisco as a child, experience gets in the way. The wrongs in this world do not hurt me the way they did once. The injustices don’t seem as shattering. But whether or not I feel the ache that I knew as a child, I want to act on those young convictions.

Because if we believe that we are not better than a hungry man on the sidewalk, if we believe that the death of someone else’s child is not different than the death of our own, if we believe that sensitivity to injustice is imperative, then we should be outraged when we look at the world. Our outrage doesn’t need to lead to helplessness or, worse, cynicism. It can be the impetus that opens the world out.

I never found the man whose voice called to me, whose eyes chase me down the alleyway of my memory.

In more ways than I can count, I am still looking for him.

2

She Breathes the Air and Flies Away

My awareness of others would one day define my calling. But as a heartsick third grader on a San Francisco street, and then as a shy preadolescent, my sensitivities seemed more a burden than a gift. My days of consciousness began to include extreme self-consciousness. And a preoccupation with all things Shana Glick.

Shana Glick was the most popular girl in the fifth grade. She wore her thick, wavy hair in braids, dressed in coordinated outfits, and was Jewish. As Shana’s most avid follower, I wanted to be like her—which meant trying to become Jewish, too.

I learned songs in Hebrew, lit a menorah for the eight nights of Hanukkah, and searched for the hidden matzo on Passover. I went to Jewish camp and attended temple with Shana’s family several times. I loved the rituals of the Jewish tradition. I loved the rhythm and poetry of Hebrew—a language that seemed beautiful enough, sacred enough, to communicate with a God who might be both majestic and near.

I had carried questions about the universe and my small place in it since the day the homeless man opened my world out. Was there a Being out there who cared about that man? Who cared about me? As I tried to be like Shana, my curiosity about God grew. I wanted to communicate with him—or her—or it. Whatever the case, I longed to be heard.

At the time, my parents were on their own journey of faith and began taking my brother and me to a Presbyterian church. The new community of friends there was good for our family, but I still preferred the serious devotion of Jewish practices over Sunday school arts and crafts. I began to believe that if I lit candles and recited Jewish prayers, perhaps this God of Israel would speak to me, just as he had to people thousands of years ago. Even more important, just as he did to Shana Glick.

I found comfort in following Shana and receiving the benefit of grade school popularity by association. I had no idea how good I had it socially until my parents told us we were leaving California

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A story that inspires by building a dream instead of issuing demands, sharing a life instead of pretending an empire.Jenna Lee Nardella shows how passion can start a journey and faith can carry it.Dare to dream big, but remember the stories, the people, the lives that give reason to that dream.