Years before he disappeared from Toronto’s Church and Wellesley neighbourhood, Abdulbasir Faizi brought up the possibility with a childhood friend while living in Iran that he might be gay. It was a conversation his family wouldn’t learn about until after the 44-year-old went missing in 2010, according to his nephew, Bobac Faizi. “You’re in the wrong place to be a homosexual,” the friend recounted to Faizi’s family after his disappearance. “You should try to find God or leave.”