Category Archives: My thoughts + philosophies

This is a super quick post about saying what you need to say in life. Maybe you’re in a relationship where you hold back on communicating how you feel, or you have a boss that you think should give you a pay rise or a friend you walk on eggshells… Read the rest

Right, so I’m a word junky, always have been. Since childhood I’ve had a love affair with literature more intense than Gatsby’s love for Daisy. I consume words as though they are an adjunct to my breath. I’ve been known to understand … Read the rest

There’s only one way I know to support men and that’s to make zero judgements about them. Zero. The majority of clients who come to see me with emotional challenges are usually harbouring some sort fear that has kept them from dealing with

When I tell people that I’m a coach actively targeting men, there are two standard responses I receive. And by standard, I mean that I will get them at least 95 per cent of the time. The first usually centres around the question, “why… Read the rest

So, there’s this thing. I’ve been looking forward to it for a long time, perhaps even a very long time. I’ve been thinking about it, contemplating the various possibilities, the ultimate outcomes. I’ve been excited, ‘moved’ … Read the rest

There is a friend of mine, male and in his mid-forties who revealed to me recently that he is going through a midlife crisis. Honestly, my immediate reaction was don’t be so ridiculous, you’re too young. My second reaction was to the … Read the rest

There are few things more rewarding to me than a genuine conversation with man. A conversation that exists outside the conventional realms of how he has been conditioned to express or not express himself. When there is an understanding that… Read the rest

In the field of motivational speaking and inspirational literature, it’s common to come across phrases and recycled quotes that encourage us to be true to ourselves, to live our dreams or to bask in the uniqueness that is us. Such words, read… Read the rest

I have lived intimately with someone who suffers from mania. Onsets would emerge with an almost audible buzzing, detectable only by those familiar with his other day-to-day vibrations. Behaviour would change from a temperate desire to keep… Read the rest

A common theme within the sessions I have is loss or, more specifically the fear of loss. It has to be one of the biggest ‘honesty gifts’ given over to me from the men that I see. Fear of a loss of being loved, of security, respect, position, friendship.… Read the rest