Everything isn’t always what it seems

Everything isn’t always what it seems

Everything isn’t always what it seems… I remember my boss telling me this “perspective changing” story in the late 90’s (he didn’t tell it as a poem) and still think of it today when I need to reel myself in.

So before we go any further, here is the story my boss told me:

The Cookie Thief by Valerie Cox

A woman was waiting at an airport one night, with several long hours before her flight. She hunted for a book in the airport shops, bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop1,3.

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see, that the man sitting beside her, as boldas could be… grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between, which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.

So she munched the cookies and watched the clock, as the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock. She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by, thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I wouldblacken his eye.”

With each cookie she took, he took one too, when only one was left, she wondered what he would do. With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh, he took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, as he ate the other, she snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother. This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude, why he didn’t even show any gratitude!

She had never known when she had been so galled and sighed with relief when her flight was called. She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate, refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.

She boarded the plane, andsank in her seat, then she sought her book, which was almost complete. As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise, there was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.

If mine are here, she moaned in despair, the others were his, and he tried to share. Too late to apologize, she realized with grief, that she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.

At this point, it’s time to ask yourself (and then share out loud…)

How many times has something like this happened to you?

When was the last time?

Who did you blame for doing something that in reality you were responsible for?

Did you have the —– to admit you were wrong and apologize?

Today, with so many people putting themselves at the center of their own world with selfies, tuits, facebook posts, instagrams, etc. , it’s surprising that at the same time this doesn’t create the tendency for auto-reflection and self-criticism. People continue to point fingers and blame each other before looking at themselves first. It’s the classic case of notputting your own house in order before you start telling others what they should be doing.

We criticize someone for being lazy but really this person has a chronic illness.We think someone is stupid but they have dyslexia.We say someone is rude for ignoring us but they just didn’t hear us.
We criticize immigrants for crossing a border when really they are fleeing just to survive.

I’m not offering excuses for people who are simply lazy, stupid or rude (maybe all three). The point I want to make is that it’s important to find out why something is the way it is before passing judgement. Always give people the benefit of the doubt until you are 100% sure, and above all, make sure you’re not “guilty” of the same thing as you mutter something derogatoryunder your breath, because everything isn’t always what it seems.

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