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01-19-2014 12:45 AM

Cheyanna

Is there something you can do to make the guy think that you are nuts? I mean so he will leave you alone. When I wanted a guy to leave me alone, I let him see me at "my worse". I put on two different shoes and didn't brush my hair. When he started talking to me, I acted like I was hearing voices. Then I started random yelling. Yelled at people there and not there. He could not get away from me fast enough.

When I was moving into my last home, my new neighbor was standing on his porch, watching me. I went over to introduce myself, and he started telling me things I didn't want to hear. I'm rather blunt, so I told him those were very personal details that I wasn't comfortable with him sharing. And I walked away. This set the tone of our relationship for the next decade. I was friendly, but distant.

My other neighbor felt sorry for this man, and had him over to dinner frequently. Fast forward several years, and now this man is suffering from early onset dementia. This has made him violent, and he's forced his way into my neighbor's home and grabbed her wrist, throwing her against the wall. The police were involved, but he wasn't charged - just told to stay off her property. She'd now living in fear of this man. I've since moved.

I guess the moral of my story is to stay away from him, as far as you possibly can. If you can move, then do it. There's too many unstable people out there, and we have to keep out of harms way. Sad, but true.

My husband is a veteran and he has some issues, but he never turned to drugs or alcohol. The OP is right by avoiding this person and calling the Sheriff.

01-18-2014 07:51 AM

JakodaCD OA

I also agree keeping things as simple as possible is the best way to go..You really don't 'know' this person other than what you've encountered which I must say can be scarey

So to be safe, keep it simple, if something really really bothers you, then I'd contact the police..Stay safe..

01-17-2014 11:45 PM

Kaimeju

Quote:

Originally Posted by onyx'girl

The neighbor with issues is the one that needs help, not the OP. And I bet the neighbor knows what is available to him for support(he's already seeing a counselor, right?)
I would not involve myself in his life unless I was certain I could be helping him safely. That takes tools and management. It isn't something a casual aquaintance should even think of doing.

Yes, he has multiple resources and has said they are helping him. He seems like he wants to get better but isn't there yet. I actually couldn't legally get any information from the VA even if I wanted to. The officer I talked to said if I called the VA, they could not even legally admit they had someone with his name in their care. Privacy rights. This stuff is not something to play around with.

I don't want to make anyone's life difficult. Just want to keep things as simple as possible. I think changing my walking route and if I do run into him, keeping conversations short should work. Most likely there is no physical danger, but in this case my gut says it would be bad to get involved.

The neighbor with issues is the one that needs help, not the OP. And I bet the neighbor knows what is available to him for support(he's already seeing a counselor, right?)
I would not involve myself in his life unless I was certain I could be helping him safely. That takes tools and management. It isn't something a casual aquaintance should even think of doing.

01-17-2014 10:46 PM

GatorBytes

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Originally Posted by huntergreen

op, the easiest best way to get a handle on this is to go down to your local va and talk some of the folks there. some may know him and set your mind at ease or one of them may know how to get this guy some help if he needs it. i would do it for you, but i am sure it is too far away.

also, is something out of your past blurring what is really going on? just food for thought.

Great idea!

Is there some type of veterans' club? In Canada we have "legions" (Bars/pubs) that Vets are members at...they do the Remembrance Day poppy drive to raise funds

Maybe talking to acquaintance's may help you in how you're feeling or should be...

01-17-2014 10:41 PM

onyx'girl

Why would the OP want to get involved? Best to just stay in the background and not delve into the reason why the neighbor acts the way they do. Involving themselves is bringing on responsibility that is not warranted.
Sadly the vets are getting the brush off because nobody wants to get involved(hiring or housing is always a challenge for the ones with PTSD) and the support from their gov't that they proudly defended aren't doing right by them either.
Most are too proud to ask, even if there is some help available. There isn't any easy answer....it's so complicated, and won't get any easier.

01-17-2014 10:21 PM

huntergreen

op, the easiest best way to get a handle on this is to go down to your local va and talk some of the folks there. some may know him and set your mind at ease or one of them may know how to get this guy some help if he needs it. i would do it for you, but i am sure it is too far away.

also, is something out of your past blurring what is really going on? just food for thought.

01-17-2014 09:15 PM

GatorBytes

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Originally Posted by doggiedad

actually i wasn't usuing any kind of tactic. but if you really
want to know what i think. i think you encountered a mentally
challanged, older person and you're afraid. so, you're building
a self serving case against him to suit your paranoia.

With a heroin addiction.
Drug addicts =

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