When the desire to change anything or any person operates, the mind is in conflict. The other part of the mind knows that it is futile to change anything. The desiring mind, wants to change everything.

The reality is one has to accept what is happening, releasing the desire to change. Then only our wish or intention or command can have any effect on other person.

Wishing or healing the wish is the only option available to us. Manifestation is unpredictable.