You don't have to love somebody to have sex with him. If the object of your affection is not in love with you but he still wants to have sex, perhaps you should try it. If he's a bad or mediocre lay, that might change your opinion of him and erase all the lovin' feelin' that you have for him. If it's a good lay, well, that might be a problem--then you're on your own. Just saying.

Why compound an already hurtful situation into something where you will inevitably be setting yourself for an even bigger heart-ache and diminished self-worth?

Let it go. Hurt. Heal.

Only then will your decisions be free from clouded-emotions and irrrational compulsions. If you decide to have sex under a more objective mindset when you're not going through the emotional turnoil of unrequieted love, then you will have nothing to lose. Alas, as it currently stands, you do. Hedge your bets.

If someone doesn't love you but wants to have sex with you - it's just the physical act of sex for them. For you, it might be physical as well, but because you're in love with him, you'll tie sex in with intimacy... which may only end up hurting you more because your emotions are attached.

My advice is to refrain from sex, but it's ultimately your call. Just look out for yourself both mentally and physically and don't be taken advantage of.

I declined the advances. Why compound an already hurtful situation into something where you will inevitably be setting yourself for an even bigger heart-ache and diminished self-worth?

Let it go. Hurt. Heal.

Only then will your decisions be free from clouded-emotions and irrrational compulsions. If you decide to have sex under a more objective mindset when you're not going through the emotional turnoil of unrequieted love, then you will have nothing to lose. Alas, as it currently stands, you do. Hedge your bets.

i agree with him.youd only be setting yourself up for another let down, let it go.

The idea that true love is when you love someone who does not love you...etc... etc...

But, you have to look at the context you brought "love" in.

You tried to equate love to sex by implying that it is hard (it is not easy) to have sex with someone who you know doesn't love you. Therefore saying that love is required for sex... which is not true!

1) Sex is not love. If so, then porn stars love each other am I right? No. They don't love each other. They do it because it is their job.

Would you love someone who raped you? (Extreme situation but brings out the concept that sex does not equal love)Of course not.

My answer is I would not have sex with them. I can love them, but it would be a waste of my time because they do not love me.

Love is a two way street. To make it work, you need both sides of the road to be moving at the same rate.

If you say "No. I still love them regardless..." it is pointless... Would you still love someone who does not love you who lives 20 hours away from you by plane?