Be inspired to change the way the you think so that you can navigate the challenges that you face in your everyday experience.
This blog hopes to inspire you to open your perspective so that your walk in life is filled with peace, love and light.
When you move from your mind and take your instructions from your heart centre, your light has the ability to not only shine brighter, but to influence the light in others around you.

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Friday, 30 November 2012

The recurring theme that I try to impart in my weekly
missives is that you ultimately hold
the power and the control in determining the quality of life you desire. Additionally, you must own every single thought and its
subsequent emotional feeling as deriving from
inside of you and not based upon outside events, people or situations that
flow into your life. With this great
creative power that you hold within you, did you realise that you can reinvent
yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY?

This famous quote, whose earliest recording dates back as
far as 1225, “yesterday is history, tomorrow
is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why it is called the present,” gives me
the impetus to actually put a full stop in my events from the day before. Even though I have not yet perfected the art,
as I am a continual work in progress, I start each day as brand new and
fresh! I try not to hold on to any
negativity that occurred the day before, be it a conflict with someone, or a
situation that I disliked, and do
everything that I can to leave it where it is and that is in the past!

Before, if I had an argument with my ex-husband or more
recently my surly teenagers, I would fester that argument into the next day by holding
onto the tense emotions within myself and prepare to go again for round two the
following day! Now this became a
habitual behaviour that I recognised I no longer wanted in my life and set
about to change my mind set by understanding the above quote.

I realised that I used more of my precious energy by holding
onto negativity and decided that I preferred to enjoy every day rather than to
start a new one holding onto to thoughts
or situations from the past.

Now, each morning I set an intention that I carry nothing
negative forward from the day before and that I start each day as a wonderful
adventure, that allows me to discover fantastic
elements about myself with which I can work upon.

This is how truly powerful you are; so be open to the wondrous creation of life and learn to
re-invent the fabulousness of you, because you are an exceptional work of art
that need not waste another second upon
your yesterdays.

Friday, 23 November 2012

It
only takes a small shift in your perception to become a more optimistic person
and increase the amount of joy in your life on a daily basis. If you were to review your days over the past
week, analysing how many hours of the day you were genuinely happy, what kind
of percentage would you come up with?

I
set myself this very task, and can honestly say that 75% of my days are now filled
with joy. Unfortunately, I would not
have been able to make this statement a few months ago, because my days weighted
very heavily upon me being very unhappy with only a few moments of happiness occurring
throughout the day. Thus, I would have
given myself a rough estimate of about 25% happy and the rest of the day spent in
the doldrums.

I
would look at the perceived negatives in my life, desperately hunting for a
solution only to find myself mired deeper in a depression because I could not
find one. All I did was attract more of
the same feelings and found myself on a proverbial merry go round. The more I thought about it the more unhappy
I became!

There
were two key elements that helped me turn my happiness percentage so high, first
I developed a high level of gratitude on a daily basis for everything that I
had and secondly, my optimism! Once I took ownership that ALL my feelings were
generated by the thoughts in my head,
I made a conscious decision not to blame anyone or anything outside of myself as
the cause of my misery.

I
then asked myself two questions to everyone one of my worries, “what is the very worst
that could happen and is it happening right now?” Usually the last part of the question would
result in an emphatic answer of no because most, if not all, of the scenarios
that I was concerned about, were created in my head and that is the key to
unlocking your unhappiness! Get out of your head with your usual way of
thinking because if your percentage is quite low (less than 50%) it is a clear
sign that you are in need a new way of thinking!

Friday, 16 November 2012

Oftentimes, when you embark upon any sort of personal development,
you become your own worst enemy. We can be very hard on ourselves when we unconsciously
revert back to our old ways of dealing with challenging situations that arise. We
berate ourselves for our negative responses, which in turn fuel the ego’s
remonstrations of our “perceived failure.”

When I feel myself heading towards this train of thought, I
literally start to mother myself, as if I were a small child with a scraped
knee, seeking comfort from my own mother, who would embrace me lovingly and gently soothe my tears away. Therefore, I would give myself words of encouragement every time I
exhibited behaviours that caused the
current imbalance.

So just for today, I thought it would be lovely to send an
encouragement your way, to help inspire you not to give up on your journey to
enlightenment.

“You
are a beautiful, kind, caring and considerate soul

who has the purpose of being a light to
yourself and others,

as
you negotiate through life’s trials and tribulations.

It’s
okay to fall down sometimes

because
that only adds to the beauty of the growth with which you are aspiring to.

All
the lessons that you are learning,

both
the highs and the lows,

are
indeed a BLESSING from the Universe to help you on your way.

Be
kind to yourself in your self-talk,

know
that you are a perfect creation of life

and
that you desire only to unite and harmonise with the world around you.

Your
presence in this world is unique,

in
that even though there is an invisible bond that connects each and every one of
us together,

Friday, 9 November 2012

When I read this quote, it helps me to understand that the journey to self-mastery and growth, will be one that will always keep me occupied until I go back to my source and to me, this is exciting! Every minute of the day I am discovering new things to like and love about myself because I have decided that I am going to commit wholeheartedly to “be the change I wish to see in the world.” This means changing the way I think, act and respond towards people and situations in my life. More importantly, it is learning to love myself and others unconditionally.

Now, I would be lying if I said this is easy, it is not! This has to be one of the most challenging concepts that I am trying to master but it is also the most fulfilling in terms of what it allows me to experience, as I negotiate my way through the minefield of my own learned behaviours and habits.

Last week, I spoke about responsibility and one of the key elements in learning to love yourself unconditionally is to take full responsibility for everything that you say and do, especially when you interact with others. When you realise that YOU create the feelings of separateness from yourself and another person, you have no choice but to own the feelings that you create. To love oneself requires that you learn to choose feelings that uplift you rather than those that bring you down, plus you have to go to task on the internal work that is required to pinpoint the root cause of your unloving behaviours. This will allow you to recognise, that every interaction you have is an opportunity to commit further to your own self growth.

For example, your partner/friend decides to mock you in respect of one of your beliefs. You then become defensive and hurt that they have said such a thing and you respond by saying something equally hurtful. Now, this causes a separateness between you and the other person, both of you now view each other without love in that moment. Now, if you go back to the scenario, it was your defensiveness that created the separate feelings. Your ego used its power of recall from your own learned behaviours to create the emotion of defence and hurt; you then responded in a knee jerk fashion which ultimately made the situation worse. Conversely, you could have acknowledged to yourself that your initial response is a learned behaviour that will take you away from peace and serenity, secondly, you now give yourself time to recognise that you have no need to defend your beliefs to anyone and that they have every right to voice their opinion. You further recognise that it is the other persons learned behaviour that caused them to act that way and thus you do not have to take everything so personally. Thus, as a response to the comment you just smile and say nothing because you have now separated the behaviour from the person and can still have love for them, plus you have recognised that your own learned behaviour no longer serves you and you have now replaced it with a more loving response.

You can see by the above scenario, that the inner work that is required IS challenging , but it is also the most rewarding in that it allows you to achieve the goal of being more loving and nurturing to yourself as well as to others!

So I end today's word just as I began…..Be the change YOU want to see in the world!

Friday, 2 November 2012

"You and only
YOU are responsible for attracting people and situations into your life!"

As painful as this statement may seem too many, the fact
remains that it is a truth. Sometimes things that could be construed as
negative occur in our lives to teach us something about ourselves, as a wakeup
call to make a correction to our thinking or to our reactions to them. Often times, out of any negative situation
there is always a blessing of some sort hidden in the experience, which is
always eventually revealed.

Now I can imagine that the above statement can be challenged
in many ways in respect of the personal experiences people have had in their
lives, which they would emphatically state that they did not attract such a
negative experience into their existence.
However, when you research what that statement means and actually peel
away the emotional beliefs and programming's that have helped to shape and
mould you, you WILL find the truth in that statement. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility
for the "world" you have created.
Moreover, if you are unhappy with your world, you also have the power
and the creativity to change it by going straight to the root cause and that is
your thoughts.

As an example, you have asked a friend to do something for you,
which they said they would, however, at the last moment your friend lets you
down and forgets to do it. You now have
a myriad of emotions, annoyance that they have not done it, irritation at their
obvious lack of caring for you and your feelings or even rejection that you
feel they do not regard you highly enough to bother with your request. The first observation is that all of these
thoughts and accompanied feelings have occurred in your head. Secondly, you have also created the emotive feelings
that have ultimately disturbed your peace and joy. Why, because they did not conform to the
standards and ideals that you have created in your world where you dictate how
people are to react and to respond to you.
Further, you have created this upset without even speaking to the person
yet.

To take responsibility means it is imperative for you to explore
your thought processes and recognise that YOU create the emotions. Once you
recognise this fact, you can either choose to continue to be upset, thus
destroying your serenity or you could see it as a teaching exercise and not
take everything so personally; more importantly it gives you the opportunity to
change a learned knee jerk reaction,
to another thought process, which
does not disturb your peace.

So this weekend, be a watcher of your thoughts and remember
that you always have the power to make another choice!