It's not a myth, despite what you may have heard ? the G-spot exists, and it loves attention! "G-spot" is the common name for a spot on the front of the vaginalwall through which you can stimulate the urethral sponge, an area ofspongy tissue surrounding the urethra. All female-bodied people have a G-spot, but not all respondto G-spot stimulation in the same way. The only way to figure out if you like G-spot stimulation is to start exploring; locating and stimulating theG-spot can lead to orgasm and even ejaculation for many women, and the right sex toy can be indispensable on that journey.

Find it. The G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina towardsthe belly, right behind the pubic bone; it corresponds to spongy tissuethat is wrapped around the urethra. When women are aroused the tissue becomesthickened and can be felt through the vaginal wall. It creates anintense, distinctive sensation when stimulated. For some women, thisfeeling is similar to the sensation of needing to urinate; if it makes you feel more comfortable, pee before starting your explorations. And forsome, stimulation of the G-spot can make them ejaculate.

Turn yourself on. The first step is to get turned on. Duringarousal, the spongy tissue swells with fluid. When you aren't turnedon, the wall of the vagina feels fairly similar all the way around, butwhen you get aroused the G-spot becomes more firm with blood and otherfluids. Grab a vibrator (try the Laya Spot), your favorite sexy movie (check out the ever-popular Pirates), or indulge in a hotfantasy.

Firm strokes. You'll know when you hit the G-spot by thedistinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren't feeling forsomething on the surface of the vaginal wall; the urethral sponge is behind it, soyou'll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy orcrinkly; it's noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina.Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a"come hither" way). The Ella dildo has an easy handle and perfect curve for hooking into your G-spot — try various degrees of pressure and a range ofmotions.

Experiment. There is no single "right" technique to find the the G-spot. The sizeand sensitivity of the G-spot varies a lot; you'll just have toexperiment. Some like rhythmic pressure on the G-spot from a curved toy like the Candy Colored Glass Dildo, others like theswooping motion of fingers or a twisting vibrator like the Rabbit Habit.Others really like to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time thattheir G-spot is stroked. A partner's fingers stroking the G-spot duringcunnilingus can feel simply divine. A multi-function toy like the Rock Chick nudges the G-spot and rubs the clitoris at the same time.

Ejaculate (or not)! Pressure on the G-Spot or the contractions oforgasm can cause female ejaculation from the urethral sponge through theurethra. This fluid is different from urine and similar to men'sprostatic fluid. Empty your bladder before sex, so you won't worryabout peeing. Ejaculate quantity will probably be less than a teaspoonor two, but sometimes it can be copious. Objects in the vagina mayblock the uretha, thus preventing ejaculation. Some women ejaculateafter the penis, dildo or fingers is removed. While not every womanejaculates, female ejaculation is not uncommon, and it's perfectly normal (and can feel great!).

Partners and sexual positions. During partner sex there are some positions that are more conducive for hitting the G-Spot than others.Think geometry. Unless your partner has a curved dildo or penis, it'sthe cervix, not the G-spot, that will most likely be stimulated in thestandard missionary pose. Doggy style, or the receptive partnerreceiving a dildo or penisfrom behind, puts the G-spot in the bullseye a bit better. You can liftyour upper body by supporting your hands against a wall or bed, or with the use of "sex furniture" like the Love Bumper, andcreate a more angled approach to the vagina. Many women find that if theyare on top, they can control penetration for better G-spot stimulation.

G-spot response varies dramatically: remember, there's no one rightway to experience pleasure. Rather than turning your explorations intoa task or new goal you must achieve, try to approach it with a sense offun and enjoy all the sensations along the way. Happy sex adventures!