Outreach ForumEveryone finds themselves in the midst of difficult times at some time during their lives. This is where you can reach out, anonymously if you wish, to people who care about you.Sun, 07 Jun 2020 10:48:36 +0000Sun, 07 Jun 2020 10:48:36 +0000thePhins.comhttps://thephins.com/forums/outreach-forum.73/
Cancer Sucks...Thu, 17 Oct 2019 16:10:30 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/cancer-sucks.94378/
https://thephins.com/threads/cancer-sucks.94378/invalid@example.com (danmarino)danmarinoCancer Sucks...]]>22BreakupsTue, 08 Oct 2019 16:15:24 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/breakups.94652/
https://thephins.com/threads/breakups.94652/invalid@example.com (ScottishFin)ScottishFin

Flash back 18 months and I ran into a very old friend who I have know for 20+ years and one thing let to another and we started seeing each other. About 2 months into the relationship she brings up that she has had mental health issues and been hospitalised for bipolar disorder and depression prior to that. So I do my research and decide to keep going know it will be difficult and we get on...

Breakups]]>12Kai Locksley - Death of a BrotherTue, 25 Jun 2019 12:31:00 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/kai-locksley-death-of-a-brother.94355/
https://thephins.com/threads/kai-locksley-death-of-a-brother.94355/invalid@example.com (Galant)Galant
Check out the below video from Strong Opinion Sports on the subject of grief and getting lost in despair/moving forward.

On one side it looks at why some athletes might make stupid mistakes - as per Kai Locksley (UTEP).

On the other side, it's a human story that's worth listening to if you're a human being.

I'll leave it here in case it's of any help to anyone. Maybe if the...

Kai Locksley - Death of a Brother]]>4Smoke free for a year!Sat, 01 Jun 2019 20:38:06 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/smoke-free-for-a-year.73958/
https://thephins.com/threads/smoke-free-for-a-year.73958/invalid@example.com (Fin D)Fin D74Bad NewsWed, 03 Oct 2018 22:41:12 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/bad-news.93030/
https://thephins.com/threads/bad-news.93030/invalid@example.com (danmarino)danmarinoThe bad news: On Tuesday I was diagnosed with skin cancer. The dermatologist cut off a few lesions (and when I say lesions I mean things so small I never really noticed them) right then and there after inspecting me. However, and due to many more on my face and arms (again, not really noticeable...

I found her mother. I am 100% sure. Anyone have any experience in reaching out, breaking the ice? Anyone adopted or given someone up for adoption, how would you react?]]>16My situationThu, 14 Dec 2017 17:58:28 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/my-situation.88199/
https://thephins.com/threads/my-situation.88199/invalid@example.com (Nappy Roots)Nappy Roots
Well in the past month he has been unable to jump on the bed or coach, and would get home from the dog park and not move for 24 hours basically, although...

My situation]]>11My Coworkers House burned down last nightWed, 16 Dec 2015 19:28:00 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/my-coworkers-house-burned-down-last-night.87992/
https://thephins.com/threads/my-coworkers-house-burned-down-last-night.87992/invalid@example.com (McLovin)McLovin
Just like the title says, my coworkers house burned down last night. She lost her home, all her belongs and two cars that belonged to her two sons. One of my coworkers set up a go fund me page for her and so far we have raised over 2K just from our peers alone. Having your house burn down is about as hard as it gets, let alone having it happen during the holidays. I wanted to post the page here, and panhandle for tips in the event that anyone may be willing to help.

No,...

My Coworkers House burned down last night]]>3So I really screwed up (job)Fri, 09 Oct 2015 16:35:06 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/so-i-really-screwed-up-job.71518/
https://thephins.com/threads/so-i-really-screwed-up-job.71518/invalid@example.com (Alex44)Alex44So I really screwed up (job)]]>31Maybe a weird question - when people are closed to you, than you are to them...Mon, 23 Mar 2015 13:58:05 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/maybe-a-weird-question-when-people-are-closed-to-you-than-you-are-to-them.85257/
https://thephins.com/threads/maybe-a-weird-question-when-people-are-closed-to-you-than-you-are-to-them.85257/invalid@example.com (Unlucky 13)Unlucky 13Maybe a weird question - when people are closed to you, than you are to them...]]>15My Aunt's House Got Burned DownTue, 17 Mar 2015 14:08:29 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/my-aunts-house-got-burned-down.85418/
https://thephins.com/threads/my-aunts-house-got-burned-down.85418/invalid@example.com (Dol-Fan Dupree)Dol-Fan Dupreehttp://www.gofundme.com/jayotta

In a domestic dispute, my Aunt's ex-husband went too far and burned down the house.

Right now she is trying to get her life back together and take care of her three kids. If you can help in any little way to donate to help them rebuild their home, I would greatly appreciate it.]]>2Here is what happened to me today...unrealTue, 03 Mar 2015 14:34:52 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/here-is-what-happened-to-me-today-unreal.84671/
https://thephins.com/threads/here-is-what-happened-to-me-today-unreal.84671/invalid@example.com (Alex13)Alex13Here is what happened to me today...unreal]]>27Thyroid cancer concerns...Tue, 30 Dec 2014 12:06:15 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/thyroid-cancer-concerns.77523/
https://thephins.com/threads/thyroid-cancer-concerns.77523/invalid@example.com (Colorado Dolfan)Colorado Dolfan
My 14-year-old daughter has a good sized goiter on her neck. Her doctor referred her to a pediatric endocrinologist and ran some blood tests.

Blood tests came back inconclusive, so endo sent samples to a special lab at USC and setup an ultrasound.

Those blood tests also came back inconclusive, but the ultrasound caught a large nodule on the right side of her thyroid and possible swollen lymph nodes. Biopsy is scheduled for Monday and I really want some answers.

My wife is a...

Thyroid cancer concerns...]]>85I want to go to therapy but I can't afford itThu, 27 Nov 2014 19:13:51 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/i-want-to-go-to-therapy-but-i-cant-afford-it.83989/
https://thephins.com/threads/i-want-to-go-to-therapy-but-i-cant-afford-it.83989/invalid@example.com (Rocky Raccoon)Rocky Raccoon
I know things could always be worse, and I'm grateful for what I have, but it's been a rough couple years and I can't seem to escape the grasp of darkness.

I know a lot of my issues revolve around my anxiety problems, but the last...

I want to go to therapy but I can't afford it]]>13Anybody here get the ole "snip snip" ???Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:30:27 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/anybody-here-get-the-ole-snip-snip.82278/
https://thephins.com/threads/anybody-here-get-the-ole-snip-snip.82278/invalid@example.com (Sethdaddy8)Sethdaddy8
Thinking about a vasectomy. Any of you have experience with this? They have a "no scalpel" technique now. Painless, quick recovery...so they say. It's kind of scary, trying to figure out which doctor is good, if the surgery is right for me, etc...

And where the hell is the anonymous option??!!!

So, any thoughts, knowledge, or experience here?]]>16Marriage advice requestedWed, 01 Oct 2014 11:38:00 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/marriage-advice-requested.81100/
https://thephins.com/threads/marriage-advice-requested.81100/invalid@example.com (Jimmy James)Jimmy James21Chicks Are Crazy But Some Take the CakeMon, 22 Sep 2014 06:18:10 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/chicks-are-crazy-but-some-take-the-cake.82929/
https://thephins.com/threads/chicks-are-crazy-but-some-take-the-cake.82929/invalid@example.com (Jaj)Jaj
I spoke to her in a class (we're not in the same part of the school, both younger grad students) at the beginning of last year a little flirtatious teasing her about something ( I think clothes or whatever) and she was playful laughing. I had someone from her profession check on my Linkedin check on me in class (probably guessing salary, typical chick). Anyways at the end of class both of us...

Chicks Are Crazy But Some Take the Cake]]>28Written response to child support summonsThu, 17 Apr 2014 04:26:39 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/written-response-to-child-support-summons.81431/
https://thephins.com/threads/written-response-to-child-support-summons.81431/invalid@example.com (Nappy Roots)Nappy Roots

Any help is appreciated. Thanks.]]>31Adult ADDFri, 21 Feb 2014 03:08:06 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/adult-add.76297/
https://thephins.com/threads/adult-add.76297/invalid@example.com (Colorado Dolfan)Colorado DolfanAdult ADD]]>16Don't necessarily pray for me...Thu, 06 Feb 2014 03:55:24 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/dont-necessarily-pray-for-me.80548/
https://thephins.com/threads/dont-necessarily-pray-for-me.80548/invalid@example.com (Sethdaddy8)Sethdaddy8
It seemingly comes on every late winter, this year was late November. I don't know if it is stress related or what. Who isn't under stress ya know? But...well...

I have one of these between my *** cheeks:

I am an avid baby wipe user, but back in the late fall, my wife didn't buy my brand. She got this...

Don't necessarily pray for me...]]>48Life advice needed.....Tue, 04 Feb 2014 00:52:47 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/life-advice-needed.80802/
https://thephins.com/threads/life-advice-needed.80802/invalid@example.com (Nappy Roots)Nappy Roots
So I have a 21 month old son, whom I have in my care from Monday to Thursday morning every week. Then he goes to his mom from Thursday night(after daycare) through Sunday.

I am about 2 weeks away from me and my girls one year anniversary, and I believe she is the one. I intend to marry her. She has always treated my son great, and is always understanding that he comes...

Life advice needed.....]]>21need advice, workplace sitation. (HR/legal?)Mon, 13 Jan 2014 19:15:48 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/need-advice-workplace-sitation-hr-legal.80480/
https://thephins.com/threads/need-advice-workplace-sitation-hr-legal.80480/invalid@example.com (dWreck)dWreck
My company runs on a pretty ironclad "points system" as far as attendance is concerned. i.e. if you get 32 points you're fired, immediately. that's the cap. you get 4 points for calling out sick. 1 point for being late. 2 points for leaving early. etc. and they keep track.
They give everyone a break...

need advice, workplace sitation. (HR/legal?)]]>48What to do after this....Thu, 09 Jan 2014 07:06:21 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/what-to-do-after-this.80381/
https://thephins.com/threads/what-to-do-after-this.80381/invalid@example.com (Alex13)Alex13What to do after this....]]>34GraduationWed, 01 Jan 2014 00:30:13 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/graduation.80308/
https://thephins.com/threads/graduation.80308/invalid@example.com (anlgp)anlgp
1) I have student loans. These need to be paid off. My seasonal job just ended. I want to start paying these off ASAP because interest.
2) I am not sure I want to do Behavioral Science. I am thinking of doing a different BA. This means (possibly) transferring schools to a school where my credits will not all transfer.
3) This is a setback as far as...

Graduation]]>7Family Robbed of Christmas PresentsFri, 27 Dec 2013 04:22:56 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/family-robbed-of-christmas-presents.80163/
https://thephins.com/threads/family-robbed-of-christmas-presents.80163/invalid@example.com (KeyFin)KeyFin
A friend of mine that I work with called me today hysterical; most of her kids Christmas presents were delivered to the wrong home by accident and the person decided to keep them. To make a long story short, the neighbor is headed off to jail but Christmas is still screwed, so I threw together a quick fundraiser for this family. The money raised goes directly to her Paypal account so she can spend it immediately; please share the link below with others so her story can get out...

Family Robbed of Christmas Presents]]>A worrisome financial exchange in graduate schoolSun, 15 Dec 2013 23:38:17 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/a-worrisome-financial-exchange-in-graduate-school.79100/
https://thephins.com/threads/a-worrisome-financial-exchange-in-graduate-school.79100/invalid@example.com (Jaj)Jaj
A couple weeks ago our business school had a lottery for the first year students regarding trip destination locations (end of the year we're split into six groups that go to six different destinations). I entered the lottery without caring too much but my lottery top choice (we had three) was the most popular amongst the class and there were rumors that in fact people would pay for a destination exchange. I won the...

A worrisome financial exchange in graduate school]]>7Laid OffSun, 15 Dec 2013 04:32:26 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/laid-off.72849/
https://thephins.com/threads/laid-off.72849/invalid@example.com (SICK)SICK
Now, I don't know if I even want to transfer elsewhere.....the bank is closing branches throughout the area, laying good, long tenured people off, and making changes at the top that I don't neccesarily agree with.

My friend Steven is in urgent need of treatment for a recurring brain tumour.

Steven is an avid Dolphins fan and has played this beautiful sport back in Scotland. He and his wife now run the cheerleading group called Scotcheer.

Please read his story and help or share this with your friends or families

http://www.youcaring.com/medical-fundraiser/Steve-s-Vaccine-Fund/48570]]>Prayers for my soon-to-be ex-left footWed, 24 Oct 2012 19:40:47 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/prayers-for-my-soon-to-be-ex-left-foot.71823/
https://thephins.com/threads/prayers-for-my-soon-to-be-ex-left-foot.71823/invalid@example.com (DrAstroZoom)DrAstroZoom26Girl troubleSun, 21 Oct 2012 20:44:13 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/girl-trouble.55793/
https://thephins.com/threads/girl-trouble.55793/invalid@example.com (Kanye West)Kanye West
Kevin is her ex boy firend and her and kevin have been texting back and forth and I didnt think it was really that big of a deal until last night. Kevin treated Olivia(my girlfriends name) like sh!t. He...

Girl trouble]]>137Collegialty soughtSat, 13 Oct 2012 00:42:05 +0000https://thephins.com/threads/collegialty-sought.72512/
https://thephins.com/threads/collegialty-sought.72512/invalid@example.com (Ohiophinphan)Ohiophinphan
And while you are at it; many of your remember the struggle and death of my first wife, Karen, to cancer. Her parents, also both 91, are rapidly going downhill at their home in Florida. My daughter is going to visit her grandparents this coming week. Your prayers for strength in their...

I've been a muslim basicly my whole life. Certainly not the most religiously of all but i did most of the things a muslim should do. For a long time now (about a year) i've been muling the decision to leave my religion and become a christ.*