How JustAnswer Works:

Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.

Get a Professional Answer

Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.Ask follow up questions if you need to.

100% Satisfaction Guarantee

Rate the answer you receive.

Ask DrPsychologist Your Own Question

DrPsychologist, Doctor

Category: Mental Health

Satisfied Customers: 141

Experience: I am a licensed psychologist with over 10 years of psychotherapy experience.

67451276

Type Your Mental Health Question Here...

DrPsychologist is online now

My husband has said for years that due to his diabetes he cannot

Customer Question

My husband has said for years that due to his diabetes he cannot have sex, not even with himself but I have found condoms on a few occassions over the last 6 years. He says he is not having sex with other people but that he is "trying some things". What could he be trying with condoms if this is the truth? He won't tell me what the condoms are for, only that he is trying some things. Is he lieing or cheating?

Diabetes is a contributing factor to erectile dysfunction, that's true. For more information about this please click the link below:

http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/guide/ed-diabetes

It's hard to say what your husband means when he reports that he is "trying things." It is possible that he is lying to you or cheating. Additional evidence will be required to confirm or refute that this is the case.

It is definitely possible that there is another explanation other than cheating, however, I would not rule that out at this time. Your husband is clearly being dishonest with you. He may be trying things that he is too embarrassed to tell you about, or he may be doing things which he believes you would find to be unacceptable.

I encourage you to seek marriage counseling with a licensed and experienced marital and family therapist. There are issues in your marriage that require further exploration.

Generally, condoms are used in order to avoid transmitting or being infected with a sexually transmitted disease. I suppose it is possible, however, that your husband is masturbating while wearing condoms. I'm not sure what the reason for that would be, however.

I don't know what he means when he says that condoms are supposed to help stimulate sex. This is quite puzzling. I'm not surprised that you are confused about all of this. I am confused as well!

I suggest that you speak to your husband about this again and let him know that you need a better explanation regarding the condoms.

Relist: Incomplete answer.Would like question to be addressed to a Dr who speciallizes in sex problems, a male dr. Would like to know what other explanation there could be for my husband having condems when he says due to his diabetes he can't even have sex with himself and when I found the condoms his answer is that he is "trying some things". What could he be trying if this is true? I know he is either trying something that is too embarrassing for hime to tell me OR that he is lieing & cheating. I would like to know what things he could be trying if he is not cheating?

Hello. I am a psychologist specializing in trauma, eating disorders, and behavioral medicine. I will opt out if this is not helpful. But my suggestion is rather simple: Request that your husband attend a couples therapy session with you and ask him in an honest non judgmental manner. I would be happy to discuss this with you further if you would like.

I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly.
Thank you very muchCorrie MollPretoria, South Africa

I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly.
Thank you very muchCorrie MollPretoria, South Africa

I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and
confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the
examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as
well! ClaudiaAlbuquerque, NM

Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. KevinBeaverton, OR

Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.I feel better already! Thank you.ElanorTracy, CA

Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem.JulieLockesburg, AR

You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and StefanieTucson, AZ

I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet VPhoenix, AZ

Ask a Mental Health Professional

Get a Professional Answer. 100% Satisfaction Guaranteed.

60 Mental Health Professionals are Online Now

Type Your Mental Health Question Here...

characters left:

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.