Sindhu Gupta

Cutting off

Life is nothing but a bag of happy and sad moments. And we have so many people with us, around us to be a part of this bag, share this bag with. We live in a world where we put everything out there. We share everything good or bad, happy or sad on social media. We do not believe in privacy anymore.
We have always read that happiness if shared is doubled and sorrows are divided and all that crap. What if you want to be selfish and don’t want to share it with anybody? Is that wrong? Does that make you a loner? I have lived in four cities with friends in every corner of the country, yet will I be considered a loner if I choose to keep things to myself? I don’t think so! Sometimes I would like to live with myself and my happiness and sorrows without telling it out to the world! Whenever I’m sad, I disconnect with my close ones. I have always done that! I don’t answer calls, I don’t text back unless and until it’s important and I don’t meet them! Does that make me unhealthy? Absolutely not! I feel powerful and strong. It makes me believe that I can handle myself. Its true that you don’t realise how strong you are unless the only option you have is to face it! I also don’t pick up my phone and call someone and say, “Hey im very happy. I got my dream job!” For someone like me who is a chatterbox, you might think it’s difficult. But yes, I do cut off!

Why is it important to cut off?
We are asked to trim our hair every two months for new and better hair to grow. We cut off the rotten part of the fruit to eat the good part. Whenever you meditate, you are asked to put your phone aside, disconnet with people so that you can concentrate, be in the moment, live the moment. Do you realise the importance of cutting off? You need to live and embrace the happiness and sadness of your life. You need to own it. Cutting off doesn’t mean not talking to someone. It means not sharing your thoughts. Your happiness can mean someone’s sadness and your sorrows can make someone happy. You don’t need that negativity in life!
We generally take vacations after big life moments. When you get married, you go for your honeymoon, when you get a job, you take a trip, when you’re sad, you feel like travelling. That is cutting off! Cutting off from your regular life, the people and going somewhere that soothes your mind. If there is anything I would like to do more in the coming years of my life, it would be to cut off from the regular life every now and then and take vacations, watch a movie alone, or just do nothing and spend more time with myself.