21 Swingers On ‘What It’s Like To Be A Swinger?

My experience has been pretty fucking awesome, as long as you have the right type of personality, are extremely comfortable in your relationship and set hard/soft limits on day 1, and be prepared for those limits to be pushed.

2 originsquigs:

We have rules that need to be followed. Safety is always key (both sex safety and MDK safety.) We trust each other but if one of us does not like the other’s partner we can veto it (it doesn’t happen often but it does happen.)

3 TheOtherMack:

My husband and I are open. We both expressed interest in incorporating others in the bedroom, early on. We eventually figured out that we were just fine not being around each other and having our own separate adventures.

It takes constant dialogue. I don’t think it should be something that should be tried just to save a relationship. If there isn’t a strong foundation, what you have is going to crack as soon as the first wave of jealousy hits it. It’s important to set the terms and keep them always, because even if you want more freedom than your partner allows, not following rules in the beginning will kill your chances for leniency in the future.

It’s also crucial to never dismiss any feelings. Talk, talk, and talk. Re-evaluate the situation periodically. And get tested regularly.