Making the Most of Your Haters as a Transgender Bride or Groom: Tinsley Keefe’s Guide

Weddings are times to celebrate. Marriage can be something beautiful, but pre-wedding events can be a trial for those that identify as transgender. There are the material reasons like finding dresses or tuxes that fit properly, but there are also the obvious reasons: haters. Dr. Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe has attended enough weddings as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City to know that prejudiced people are always around . . . even at your own wedding. Have you ever heard any of those cliché quotes on the internet about haters? They might be cliché, but they are also very true. Do not waste your time stressing over haters.

Of course, that is easier said than done; especially when those haters are infesting your wedding and the happiness that should come with it. This is where Dr. Tinsley Keefe comes in. She has witnessed numerous reactions to haters at weddings and wedding-events – the good and bad reactions – as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma, but what she shares with us is only the best of the best. You see, the key to handling your haters is to make the most of them. This can be fun if you let it, and especially if you get creative. Picture this: you are sitting at a pre-wedding dinner. You are familiar with this restaurant, and even more familiar with their orange chicken that tends to taste good going down but smells and feels rancid coming back out.

It is your wedding – your celebration – which means when you recommend said haters the orange chicken they are considered rude if they decline. If they still try to decline, make sure you point this out. Try to have a couple friends chime in their disapproval. Eventually they will have no choice but to get the orange chicken, and damn does it taste good. They grudgingly admit that your recommendation was delicious, but later on when you are practicing the dances they will not be thanking you as they rush to the bathroom. Then you can enjoy an evening free of at least one hater. As a wedding officiant in OKC, Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe stresses the importance of making the most of your haters. If you get creative, you cannot go wrong.

The fact of the matter is that it is YOUR wedding and you deserve the chance at a carefree experience. Weddings tend to carry stress with them as it is; with or without haters. This is why it is important to make the most of your haters – especially when you get the chance to laugh at them while making the most of them. Tinsley Keefe does want to remind that funny is not cruel; having experienced some cruel ways of making the most of the haters during her time as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City. Do not sink to their level. If you use your creativity, you can enjoy a harmless chuckle at their expense rather than a heartbreaking sob at their fault.