2018 was a year like no other. Please disregard the fact that can be said about most years. 🙂 This year was unique; this post will explain why as well as a rare backstage pass into the reflections and lessons of yours truly.

I am well aware that if you are clicked on this post, odds are you are one of the elite few who cares enough to read my personal reflections. I don’t mean that callously, to imply that not many care about me. That is not true. Instead, I am saying that there aren’t that many who would take the time out of their day to read a post like this without a flashy title. Please know that I appreciate you more than you probably know. I’ll try to make this update worth your valuable time.

2018 was a unique year because it found me in a set of circumstances that were foreign to me. At the end of 2017, I had gotten laid off from my job as the Operations Manager for a small marketing company for which I had worked for the previous 2.5 years. I found myself facing the holidays with the reality of being able to claim unemployment benefits for the first time in my life. My opportunities were wide open, and I looked forward to the possibilities. (Side note: in all previous instances of being laid off from jobs over the past decade, I had been working as an independent contractor, and thus disqualified from unemployment. So being able to file for it was in itself unique to me.)

I was determined to make the most of this transition, using my time wisely. I made a fresh commitment to getting up at 5:30 a.m. each morning, so I could be intentional to start the day with time reading God’s word and praying, as well as exercising before getting into the grind of the day. This was always my goal as a full-time employee also, and I was able to do it about half the time, but I found that even then either my “quiet time” or workout time was cut short, because it was hard to do both and make it to an office job by 9 a.m. So one or the other suffered. I wrote about that struggle in this post.

Not long into my period of unemployment, I was offered a job that I had held in 2009, working as office help for a friend’s business. This particular friend ran his company (as a real estate appraiser) out of his home, and it was a casual environment. He offered a part-time gig with generous pay and plenty of flexibility. My only hesitation was that it was part-time, and I wasn’t sure if the wages would pencil out for our budget. I ran some numbers and realized we could make it work if we were extremely careful. So I gratefully accepted my friend’s offer, knowing I had the flexibility to fit in other employment as needed.

Thus, I ended 2017 and began 2018 working part-time for the first time in my professional life. This presented a variety of conflicting sentiments and realities.

… As a full-time employee, I always pined for more free time to get more accomplished on the homefront and spend more time on hobbies (like blogging!).

… As a part-time employee, I suddenly had more unscheduled time than I had in years, tempered with the reality of diminished finances that came with my schedule.

… As a full-time employee with multiple exciting professional positions over the years, I most often had a job that became my identity. The answer to the question, “What’s new with you?” could always be answered with the latest stress, challenges, adventures, or business travel that occupied my world.

… As a part-time office employee with a job that didn’t provide any drama or stress (not complaining about that), I realized my world had become less filled with stories and excitement. When someone asked me, “What’s new?” I struggled to answer. Since my job was only a piece of my life and not the defining portion, I didn’t know what to say.

Lest you think that is sad and pathetic, allow me to continue. This is actually where things got good when I stopped to ponder my situation.

Being vs. doing – processing the conflict

Have you ever stopped to ponder the paradox of being vs. doing? In other words, who you are vs. what you do. Or put another way, the state of your existence, or who you are becoming or wish to become, vs. the daily activities you do. It is a fascinating mental exercise. But it also breeds the complexity of pondering a paradox, because of their intertwined nature. I.e., you can’t become without doing, but enjoying the “being” portion is necessary also.

All that to say, that was something I thought about a bit this year as my lifestyle was turned upside down.

Given the gift of more time at home, I had the luxury of doing more strategic and less tactical, survival mode living. I chose to use my time for such things as:

Expanding my culinary skills, making new recipes more often.

Keeping up on chores/housework a bit better (always a struggle).

Joining a women’s Bible study at church, with intensive homework.

Most often taking the time to complete the intensive homework, which was enormously beneficial.

Taking more time in the morning to read the word and pray.

Making sure to exercise regularly after quiet time (As noted above. My work schedule helped accommate the time to do that with a later start time).

Taking more time to visit with relatives.

Spending more time with friends. (For a task-oriented introvert such as myself, this and the item above get easier to skimp on the older I get.)

Getting a record number of blog posts written in a year (didn’t make my goal of one per week, but got close).

Being more deliberate, strategic and prayerful about my interactions with the middle school students at church, at the youth group where I volunteer.

Listening to a lot more informative podcast content and less music. Reading more books.

Growing in my knowledge of theology (mainly due to the above & quiet time) and love of God.

Recognizing the need to speak the truth in love and practicing when given opportunities. Even when it is poorly received, regardless of how lovingly spoken/written.

Nurturing an urgency to have spiritual conversations with others more often (discipleship).

Getting more organized, bit by bit.

Then there is the recreational/fun stuff, like hiking, camping, family weekend trips, exploring the Northwest and get-togethers with friends.

It was indeed a full year. Full of activity, growth, and fun. Yet, with all the small but significant things that ended up keeping me just as busy as any other year, it was difficult to give a brief response to the question, “How’s it going?”

Perhaps it is a flaw in my thinking that I have felt it necessary to be able to give a concise response, or that my life needs to be full of drama or an important job title to be significant. In pondering “being versus doing,” I realized that in fact, “being” the person God is making me to be, though not always with an exciting story at the ready, is of higher value than I give it credit.

Learning to be content with a smaller budget and lifestyle was a dominant theme for the year. And you know what? I am better off for it.

I should also mention that I spent quite a bit of time this year working on a project I am very excited about that I am prepping to announce in early 2019!

2017 was a tough year, with multiple deaths of dear ones and various other challenges. 2018 was a year of adapting to changes and finding joy and delight in a simpler life.
2019 should be amazing. I am looking forward to a lot more moments to savor and enjoying the people God has placed in my life.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this update! I wish you joy, peace, love, and contentment as we head into the New Year!

3 Responses to Personal Reflections from 2018

Summer: I always find your thoughts to be very interesting, insightful, thought-provoking, and often chuckle-worthy. Thank you for being so refreshingly honest and authentic in what you say. It’s so nice to read blogs that have the effect of encouraging positive change in each of us, instead of the depressing, hope-sucking, critical blasts from national and social media sources. Thank you for this backstage pass to your life in 2018. I’ll be looking forward to peeking in, from time to time, on next year’s journey.

Summer: Reading your blog post tonight was a wonderful experience for me for several reasons:
1) As your mother, I’m ALWAYS interested in your thoughts; 2) Reading about your “year in review” helped me to better understand your thoughts and reactions to the life you have chosen for yourself; 3) Reading about your experiences in 2018 shows all of us that you are continuing to develop spiritually, emotionally, financially, and several other important ways. Thanks for sharing!

I think most of us struggle from time to time with the value of “doing” versus “being.” As I get older, I’m becoming more and more convinced that “being” is more important. After all, God loves us perfectly regardless of any of that. Also, I think that when we spend time focused on “being”, we become wiser and much more clear on what our “doing” should entail.