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Ties to the Soul

Have you ever found yourself trying to leave a boyfriend, knowing full well that he is not the one for you … but yet you keep finding yourself back together. He say’s just the right thing … he makes a lot of empty promises and you hope that it’s different this time … you get back together but the reality is, it’s not meant to work out because he is not God’s guy for you. You’re not happy with him, you only have the hope of what it could be. No matter how hard you try to break it off, you end up texting him late at night, or vice-versa. You end up on his doorstep in a weak moment.

I have 2 words for you: SOUL TIES.

Soul Ties are when 2 souls become 1.

When you have deep emotional relationships, your soul can become 1. Or, even more frequently, when you have a physical relationship with someone, your soul can become 1, even if it was just a one-night-stand. Part of your soul is on the other person and part of his soul, is connected to yours.

When you’re married, it works perfectly. God created our souls when joined together, to be like velcro where our soul attaches to each other like glue. We become one in every way. God created sex to be an intimate act to consecrate a marriage, joining each other for the rest of our lives.

Have you ever had dreams about a random guy from your past that you used to fool around with? Maybe it was even someone that you cringe at now, wondering why you ever let your guard down and let that happen. I know I used to. I would wake up thinking, “Eeeeew. Why did I randomly think about that guy? Gross! UGGH!” and then try my hardest to get the memory out of my head. That was because I had a soul tie with him. Even though I had no feelings for him whatsoever anymore and he was a distant past, part of our souls were still connected. He’s walking around with a part of me and I’m missing that part. I need it back! And I’m walking around with a part of him that I do NOT want attached to my soul. When I figured that out, I wanted to fix it immediately!

So here’s the good news. God is a God of Restoration. He fixes, restores AND blesses on top of that. He forgives. He makes new!

When you get married someday, do you want to give your future husband a soul that is missing huge chunks and have gross boys attached to your soul? I hope not. You want your soul. Whole, shiny and new. So you can give your all to your husband. Your 2 souls can become 1, not 32. HA! (Sorry I’m not sorry HAHA!)

So one of the Embrace Grace girls asked me this week, “OK, HOW do I do this? How can I get all of me back? How can I take off what’s on my soul that doesn’t need to be there?”

First, list each person specifically and pray the prayer for each person. For some of you, you might need to go back a ways. And sometimes I’ve heard, but what if I don’t remember his name? God knows. We’ve had girls put, “couch boy,” “guy at Jody’s party,” or “the guy in the red truck.” I know you might giggle at that but it works just as good. Make a list and then when you’re done, burn it. Trash it. They are in your past for good.

Second, ask for forgiveness from God for each sexual act and also choose to forgive the person that you have a tie to.

Third, pray this prayer:

“Lord, I reject the soul tie with [name]. I ask You to break the sinful bond with [name] by Your power and in Jesus name. I reject all the uses of my body as a tool of wrongdoing and I admit to any participation that was intentional. I choose now to give my entire body to You as a tool of virtue and as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable. I choose to keep the sexual use of my body for marriage only. Thank you for forgiving me and making me white as snow and that you love and accept me just the way I am. Thank you for restoring my soul. Lord, let your Holy Spirit fill all of me and help me keep my body in right standing with you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

After I broke my soul ties, I quit having the random dreams. My mind quit wondering and thinking about past relationships. Sure the person might come up in conversation or a random thought occasionally might drift by, but it will be different and you’ll notice it. There will be no emotion tied to it because your soul isn’t connected anymore.

Let us know if you pray this prayer and sever the ties that are not of God! We love stories of restoration!