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There is this guy that often comes into my work to buy stuff - at least once a week. He's been coming in for a long time I think even before I started working there (around 7 months ago). Anyway I used to get this genuine friendly "nice guy" kinda vibe from him but for the last month or so I've been getting this cold "I can't wait to get outta here" vibe instead. This all changed when he came in with a few friends one day and one of his friends said something to me (something nice, along the lines of a compliment?) and ever since then it's been weird as. maybe I'm just overreacting and overthinking things. I don't even know anything about this guy, I do however think he's pretty cool and find him attractive which is why it's kinda doing my head in.

I think you are thinking way too far into a stranger. It could be that he's had a change in his life, a lot of stress, and now just wants to do what he came in to do and get out. Not in the same frame of mind before.Maybe he suffers from anxiety issues that were previously under control and now aren't, maybe you just keep catching him on bad days. Maybe coming into your store has started to be more of a chore for him then it once was. Maybe he just wants to get his shopping done and is sick of being chatty every time he comes in now. Could be like a friend of mine in attitude, when he gets a significant other, his charm gets turned off for other people. Partially because he is no longer looking, partially because it keeps him out of trouble to be less friendly.There are just too many maybes for someone that not even you know personally.Course, if you find him attractive and enjoy chatting him up, you can invite him somewhere. Or tell him about a cool event that you are going to that maybe he should check out too. A band or something.

I think that he may have been attracted to you... but then when his friend basically hit on you then he felt it would have been really weird since his friend(s) obviously also thought you were attractive.. So he feels like he wouldn't be able to compete with them if he were to bring you to a party or something, perhaps, and he can't handle rejection or the thought of you being with them, so he just became distant and forgot about it.