Main navigation

How Does eHarmony Work?

Does eHarmony really work? YES it most definitely does work and very well if you are looking for a serious relationship or someone to marry.

But how does it work? Read on if you would like to find out…

So, your friend wants to know all about eHarmony. It’s free to just try it, but even still you—er, your friend, is still a little hesitant. Tell him or her not to despair. It’s relatively painless.

Here is how the website works in 4 simple steps:

At its core, eHarmony’s CEO and founder Dr. Neil Clark Warren believes better relationship matches come from compatible people coming together. But not just any compatible characteristics or interests—specific things need to be compatible.

There are many, many dating sites out there. They all vary in their focus and set up. Many of them just ask for your info and photo and let you loose to find your own matches; but eHarmony is different in that it helps find matches for you.

That’s why a rigorous questionnaire is central to starting an eHarmony profile. So just sign up (you’ll just need a name and an email address, no credit card info or anything) and start answering questions!

What type of questions do they ask? We are glad you—er, your friend asked.

Ok let’s face it, you are reading this for YOU, aren’t you? Don’t be scared or embarrassed. You are not alone. So many people join sites like eHarmony.com. Whether you are just curious about getting yourself out there, looking for some fun, or looking for love, the site couldn’t be easier to navigate.

So why not just give it a try? It’s free to try. Once you are signed up, the questionnaire will begin.

First, the questionnaire centers on personality-defining words. It will give you a list of words and will ask you to rate how well each word describes you. Then, it will give you another list of words and ask you to pick four words that best describe you. Try not to rush though these, but don’t agonize over them.

Second, it goes into personal life values, such as whether you are an adventure-seeker, if you like to help others, and if you handle stress well or not. Be honest!

Third, it explores your emotions and how you feel about things. Are you typically happy or sad? Are you hopeful or fearful?

Forth, the site asks questions to see what sorts of activities you enjoy the most. Are you religious-focused? Do you like spending your time shopping, traveling or hosting parties?

Fifth, it looks at how you value a relationship. What are your thoughts on monogamy while dating? Are you looking for long-term love? Do you believe you can depend on others?

Sixth, answer questions about your education and occupation, physical appearance, and then write some short explanations about your passions in life.

Finally, now it’s time for you to think about what you are looking for in a mate—this is where eHarmony will ask specific questions to zero in on what is most important to you. These include questions such as religion, location, age, and more. What are you really looking for?

This seems like a lot of information, but we’re talking about matching people for potential love connections—it’s sort of a big deal. Different people from different backgrounds, personalities, experiences, dating life, values, etc. The more questions, the better, don’t you think?

With all this info on file, eHarmony will then use your answers and then send you the best matches. Who knows how many you will get?! It depends on many of your answers, so it’s important to be really honest. But soon you’ll see matches appear when you login.

Sounds pretty great, right? Maybe one of the matches you get today could be the one. Or maybe your true match is trying to gain the courage to join in a few days from now. You just never know.

Mary, who lives in Utah, decided to join eHarmony. She had tried other sites and decided to give it a whirl. She said eHarmony is very easy to use and that she liked the questions it asked. Though she hasn’t found love yet, she realizes that perhaps she isn’t an easy person to match, being a single mom with four children. Mary said she would definitely recommend the site to others.

While setting up your profile is on eHarmony.com is free, at some point you’ll need to choose and pay for a plan so you can take advantage of all it has to offer. Plans range in price depending on how long you want to be a member of the site (it’s less expensive per month the longer range plan you choose).

You can choose between “Basic” plans and “TotalConnect” plans. Basic plans include viewing match profiles and photos, seeing who has viewed you, sending and receiving messages, and more; the TotalConnect plans include everything in the Basic plans, plus they add on ID verification, safe phone calling, and more.

The nice thing about the website is that it looks great and is very easy to use. Even for a novice first-timer, it guides you along so you don’t get lost.

Soon, as you continue using the site eHarmony.com will prompt you to add a photo and add more to your profile to make it more complete and attractive to potential matches. This includes answering even more questions, including the most influential person in your life, the latest book you enjoyed, and many other questions that center on your personal values. Also things like favorite sports, music, movies, and short explanations that describe you.

Really, the site wants to help YOU put your best face forward. Not just your actual face, but really who you are as a person, from the inside out. The more info you provide, the more a potential match can get you to know the real you.

So, you have a profile, you’ve selected a plan, and you’re ready to go! Now what? Time for the fun to begin. Check out profiles of people who match you, send a smile, send a message, start chatting. Get to know people, be safe, but most of all, have fun!