(Closed) anyone NOT having a head table OR a sweetheart table?

just curious how common this is. although my situation is a little different since we are having a destination wedding with only about 20 people. i decided to forego the head table because i have such a large wedding party, i dont think we would all fit and i thought it would be more fun if there was just a few round tables. maybe i won’t even fill them all so i could rotate and sit with everyone.

@Mrs. Meowerson: funny, at my sisters wedding she had our family at the head table and let the bridesmaids sit their friends. same thing when i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in another wedding. i sat at a regular table with my friends and the family was at the head table. so i actually thought that was how a head table was done! and i would probably do my head table that way – which is exactly why i dont want to! you are right, not as fun!

i think if i have round tables, my main table will be me, Fiance, all our parents plus my sister and brother in law. but then if there space at the other tables, i will rotate.

We are planning to sit at a regular table for 8 – So my Maid/Matron of Honor and her date, his Bridesmaid or Best Man and his date, and 1 other couple from our wedding party will sit with us. When we told the contact at our venue and our DOC this, they looked at us like we were crazy! I just don’t want a head table which could potentially separate people in our wedding party from their dates, but I want to actually sit with some of our guests.

We’re not having a seated plated dinner. We’re having a combo of passed and stationary apps and food stations, with a mix of high and low cocktail tables with chairs. So everyone can mingle, but they also don’t have to eat standing up if they don’t want.

We sat at a round table with our bridal party and MC with all of our other guests. I liked it better because I didn’t feel like everyone was watching us while we ate. Not that we ate that much anyway…we were too busy visiting tables!

I don’t think it is fun to sit at a head table if you are a bridesmaid or a groomsman, and I am all about fun. 🙂 We will sit at a regular table with our parents (there are 3 sets). But really, how long do the bride and groom stay seated anyways? I feel like we will only be seated for a short time.

I love your idea of having a few empty seats at each table. If there are only 20 people, you may not even need the extra place settings, you could just drag a chair over, depending on the size of the space and the formality of the event. Are you going to have seating assignments?

@kellybell: i originally thought i was going to have 30 – 40 people total, so i bought these cute seashells with slits in them to put place cards. now that i have 20 people, i dont think i NEED place cards, but since i have them, i think i will use them anyway. although i am sure the seating would turn out the same with or without them.

We sat at a table with our parents which was set out with all the other tables. Even though we had a pretty small wedding (just under 70 people), we didn’t really have time to sit and eat. We would nibble, then go and thank people for coming and say hi, then run back to out seat and nibble more, go and talk again, repeat, repeat 🙂

Yes. We’re having just round tables. This is mainly because we don’t want it too formal. And from sitting at the head table as a Bridesmaid or Best Man on two previous occassions I feel like i’m watching the other guests’ eat and can only talk to the people who i’m sat next to, whereas rounds are much more sociable