Friday, May 27, 2016

Emotional setbacks

As writers, we are affected by life's curve balls. I've been dealing with one all month. But, there's good news if we have the right attitude. Here are some ways to move on that might help writers and guidelines for writing true-to-life characters.

1. Accept That This Blow Is Real And Not Going Anywhere

One
of the first phases of dealing with a setback is denial. However, the first step towards overcoming
your shock is accepting the fact that it has begun.
It may help to remember that everyone has these moments in their
lives. Understanding the fact that this setback is unavoidable and
inevitable for everyone can help you rest a little easier. At one point
in time, everyone will have a jolt of his or her own. Now is just the
time for yours.
Change is a part of our world. Accept the fact that this change
is inevitable. In fact, you should accept that change is a good thing.

2. Do Not Blame Anyone Or Anything

It is easy to blame others. Perhaps you feel as though you are sick
because you have worked too much, or your family has not done enough for
you. Perhaps you blame yourself for various reasons.
Understand that no one is to blame for this setback. Everyone
experiences them, and it is possible to overcome them as long as you are
not filled with anger. Pointing the finger and placing blame on others
only deters your energy from focusing on what will help you. Inner peace
and positivity help overcome a trauma, not anger and hatred.

3. Give Your Spiritual Side A Try

Spirituality
helps to relieve stress and providing support when you need it the
most. Sometimes, we feel as though we are not strong enough to get
through these trials and tribulations.
Regardless of your choice in faith, spirituality provides you with many different positive things.
First and foremost, faith gives you a light at the end of the tunnel.
The concept of knowing and acknowledging that someone or something has a
plan for you will help keep you grounded with your head up.
In addition, faith provides us with the reminder that we are one of
millions on this earth and for a short time. We all have a purpose, and
it is your intended purpose to overcome this setback.

4. Do Not Expect It To Be Quick

Wounds and broken bones require time to heal. And, our setbacks are
no different. We need the proper amount of time to overcome whatever is
holding us back.
Our advice is to focus on the positive and happy things going on
around you. Think about your family and the delightful memories you
have. Remind yourself that this disturbance will eventually end. And,
when it does you will be exactly where you want to be in your life.

5. Broaden Your Horizons

Disappointments
are the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself.
Recognize that blows are not causing you to be a martyr. Rather, they
are simply a bump in the road and they will be overcome with the right
attitude. Be open to a new mindset. And, do not be afraid to change or
reinvent the wheel so to speak.

6. Be Sure To Reflect

It
is important, for a few different reasons, to reflect inwardly wherever
possible. First and foremost, it is helpful to reflect as it will help
you understand that this is not the end of the world.
Perhaps there are some things that you could have done differently.
Such as manage your time more wisely, take matters into your own hands,
or always double check your work. Regardless of the knockback, we
guarantee that there is at least one lesson to be learned in there
somewhere.

7. Talk it Out

Finding
a confidant or person with whom you can express all of your emotions is
very important for your mental and emotional health. Arguably, one
person’s setbacks may not be relatable to another.
But, there are definitely people within your life who would love to
help you through your setback. They may not understand the direness of
the situation from your perspective, but they can help you in a
multitude of different ways.

8. Educate Others

What
good would your jolt be if you did not help others avoid the same
situation? Use your setback as a way to help others. You can write about
your experiences in a book, which can be sold or simply given out for
free at certain functions.

No comments:

Post a Comment

About Me

I grew up in the boonies in a Southeastern state with a love of nature, reading and a love of all things fantastical. Meanwhile, in real life, a B.A. in Art & Design led to work in advertising.
I've worked as a copywriter/editor in the DFW area for years. Two New Adult daughters give me ideas for new stories.
WHAT I WRITE
My stories are for older YA and Adults. Historical YA set in France / Contemporary YA Fantasty