feckingmorons:TF is turning into a mutual aid society, like they had in the country a decade ago. We help own and don't rely on the government.

Somewhere there is a doctoral dissertation in this.

Did you read anything she wrote? If we didn't have shiat disability and healthcare she wouldn't be in need in the first place. A mutual aid society is nice but I'd like to think we can help a hell of a lot more people but not having a broke system in the first place that bankrupts people for trying to have a baby or getting sick.

feckingmorons:homeschooled: I'm not comfortable sending money via PayPal, but I bought your baybay some bows. I expect a photo of her with the bow on IMMEDIATELY after birth or else you'll be farkied negatively, and I WILL NEVER FORGET. EVER.

Who puts bows on afterbirth.

Look, we got the placenta a hat too!

Weirdo.

I'm going to hurt myself laughing you guys. I'm going to be giggling the entire time I'm in labor and I WILL BLAME ALL OF YOU.

NickelP:feckingmorons: TF is turning into a mutual aid society, like they had in the country a decade ago. We help own and don't rely on the government.

Somewhere there is a doctoral dissertation in this.

Did you read anything she wrote? If we didn't have shiat disability and healthcare she wouldn't be in need in the first place. A mutual aid society is nice but I'd like to think we can help a hell of a lot more people but not having a broke system in the first place that bankrupts people for trying to have a baby or getting sick.

I can get the whole not wanting to just hand over cash thing but I see no issue with a TFD baby shower, which this really is in essentials. New mom doesn't have to buy diapers and clothes and burp cloths or whatever else babies need and the money saved can go towards helping to get back on her feet financially after what I'm assuming were unexpected hard times.

dhambrick:skybreaker: Honest Bender: Come on, guys. Regardless of how she ended up in this situation we are all homies here. And homies help homies.

No. And no one should ever be pressured to help in any situation. The worse thing here is anyone looking down on someone who doesn't want to help. Life sucks, get a helmet.

Wow, okay then. Although I have seen some things on TFD a hell of a lot worse than helping out somebody that has helped out others...and exactly which one of these sumsabiatches have been pressuring people to give anything?

Pressuring was probably the wrong way to word it. Its more the "if you question the situation you're immediately a cynical asshole."

imontheinternet:I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

There's some people here who think anyone who has a kid is a selfish disgusting person. They have evolved past the animalistic need to reproduce and are saving the world by reducing the population. Also, they always plan ahead and never have financial difficulties.

Oh! Another genius/cheap/space saving organization tip. Some chick on r/babybumps used an old, clear shoe organizer (the kind that hangs on a door) and rolled up all her clothes and stuffed them in the pockets by chronological age. It was one of those- why didn't I think of that?

skybreaker:dhambrick: skybreaker: Honest Bender: Come on, guys. Regardless of how she ended up in this situation we are all homies here. And homies help homies.

No. And no one should ever be pressured to help in any situation. The worse thing here is anyone looking down on someone who doesn't want to help. Life sucks, get a helmet.

Wow, okay then. Although I have seen some things on TFD a hell of a lot worse than helping out somebody that has helped out others...and exactly which one of these sumsabiatches have been pressuring people to give anything?

Pressuring was probably the wrong way to word it. Its more the "if you question the situation you're immediately a cynical asshole."

You're upset that people are judging you because you're acting like an asshole? Welcome to Fark, dude.

rostit:imontheinternet: I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

those mothers who decide to have a kid when they cant afford it always make me think they made a good choice. now our taxes get to support them.

Don't get me wrong, I love a good well-pissing, but this doesn't seem like the right place for it. Having a kid can create financial stress for otherwise responsible people, and even if there was some level of culpability, it doesn't change the basics of the situation- a mother and child in need.

skybreaker:dhambrick: skybreaker: Honest Bender: Come on, guys. Regardless of how she ended up in this situation we are all homies here. And homies help homies.

No. And no one should ever be pressured to help in any situation. The worse thing here is anyone looking down on someone who doesn't want to help. Life sucks, get a helmet.

Wow, okay then. Although I have seen some things on TFD a hell of a lot worse than helping out somebody that has helped out others...and exactly which one of these sumsabiatches have been pressuring people to give anything?

Pressuring was probably the wrong way to word it. Its more the "if you question the situation you're immediately a cynical asshole."

imontheinternet:rostit: imontheinternet: I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

those mothers who decide to have a kid when they cant afford it always make me think they made a good choice. now our taxes get to support them.

Don't get me wrong, I love a good well-pissing, but this doesn't seem like the right place for it. Having a kid can create financial stress for otherwise responsible people, and even if there was some level of culpability, it doesn't change the basics of the situation- a mother and child in need.

Hey I am open to answering any questions you guys want to ask. I don't want anyone to feel like they're not sure if I'm being truthful or not.

kiwimoogle84:Satan's Chocolate Starfish: One thing to keep in mind is that if you're going back to work while the child is still an infant, daycare (or at least our daycares) won't be down with cloth diapers.

Dad has gotten the greenlight to work from home. That's a blessing because we can't afford daycare.

Then make sure you put some sort of papoosey-strap-babby-to-your-chest device on your registry. From experience, they will NOT be content to lie there quietly exactly at the time you need to take the important call, or finish the important thing. Wearing Babby was how I got anything done for the first few months.

FunkOut:imontheinternet: I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

There's some people here who think anyone who has a kid is a selfish disgusting person. They have evolved past the animalistic need to reproduce and are saving the world by reducing the population. Also, they always plan ahead and never have financial difficulties.

I'm not comfortable giving straight up money (like skybreaker said, I've never even given cash to a friend, though I would if they really needed it) and it sounds like you've gotten everything you had on your wishlist, so I'll just say best of luck. I hope all parties come out the other side happy and healthy.

FunkOut:imontheinternet: I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

There's some people here who think anyone who has a kid is a selfish disgusting person. They have evolved past the animalistic need to reproduce and are saving the world by reducing the population. Also, they always plan ahead and never have financial difficulties.

Just think of all those brave, enlightened neckbeards not getting laid for the good of humanity. It brings a tear.

CatherineM:PrivateCaboose: skybreaker: Pressuring was probably the wrong way to word it. Its more the "if you question the situation you're immediately a cynical asshole."

You're upset that people are judging you because you're acting like an asshole? Welcome to Fark, dude.

I feel like you're missing the point..

We think differently. That's fine. That's life. I just don't think it's necessary to snark a woman who is asking for help, especially since that can't be easy. I would hope if I ever had a child, I would do everything possible for them, including swallowing my pride if we needed help.

rappy:With such expensive hospital bills, it seems like maybe you don't have insurance... which why have a child with no insurance? If you do, you really need a better plan.

Also, looking at the registry list... this looks less like necessities and more like "omg TFD have a baby shower for me, I showed you my gash, remember?"

Having someone else post it doesn't make it more legit. I don't even get why that's a thing.

Hey, I DO plan on bedazzling my diaper pail. My friends are going to be SO JELLY.

I have a PPO through my work that covers 70%. So I still owe 30% of any charges up to my max out of pocket for the year. I'm GOING to be working with them on cutting it down but they won't work with me on it until I'm done accruing expenses and have a total amount owed.

namegoeshere:kiwimoogle84: Satan's Chocolate Starfish: One thing to keep in mind is that if you're going back to work while the child is still an infant, daycare (or at least our daycares) won't be down with cloth diapers.

Dad has gotten the greenlight to work from home. That's a blessing because we can't afford daycare.

Then make sure you put some sort of papoosey-strap-babby-to-your-chest device on your registry. From experience, they will NOT be content to lie there quietly exactly at the time you need to take the important call, or finish the important thing. Wearing Babby was how I got anything done for the first few months.

That we do have already. Though I need to look into a larger one I think- the one I have is only up to 14 lbs I believe.