Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

okay I have officially lost it!!

I think I have completely gone crazy!! I seem to be so obsessed with trying to find the truth. I still to this day do not know if anything happened with my husband and his so-called friend, the voicemail I heard from her to him I wrote in my journal (long story). Anyway, I had no proof of anything and at the moment I thought I believed him when he said nothing happened, but now I am always questioning myself. I have been online today looking for a cell phone hacker that will send his call history to my phone so I know if he is still talking to her( e-stealth.com?? not sure if legit). I did nothing wrong, and I am the one suffering not knowing the truth!!

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I followed a trail of lies laid by my W starting last November. To make a long story short, I obsessed and looked everywhere for additional evidence to either convict her or clear her because the stories she was (and still is) telling me sometimes conflicted with each other. Eventually I stopped making myself crazy investigating her and accepted that whatever happened will probably never be known by me unless she decides to tell me. You may never know exactly what happened either but you do know that something inappropriate happened. You're right that he shouldn't have shared details of his private life with her and the phone call definitely hints at something inappropriate. He should be able to explain in very clear terms what that message was about.
When you've been on the support board here for awhile, you'll find that most of us seem to have roughly the same experience of doing what we were supposed to be doing (being loving, accepting of the other's faults and honest about our own, truthful, faithful, and loyal, committed to throwing every ounce of energy into the relationship with we had rather than trying to sneak out and find another relationship to fill in the cracks we perceived in our own...) while our S/Os behaved much less admirably towards us.
If you don't have kids together, you should begin asking yourself seriously whether you want to stay with a &quot;fixer-upper&quot; who may always be broken. The real pisser is that some part of you may now be permanently broken too and it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!
Over time though you'll gradually become stronger and your friends here can help. I wish you all the best.

I know how you feel. My gf who also posts on this site (Whataliar) is going through exactly the same thing. I went through it as well. My ex wanted me to believe that him and the OW were mentally impaired, or that in the very least, I was- his lies were that stupid.

Girl, cheating is one thing. Continuing to lie about it over and over and over shows you that he'll do it again and lie and lie and lie because he got away with it the first time.

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