Self Righteous Thai Bar Girls

A while ago I did something I don't normally do. I picked up a Thai bar girl! Well the reality is she picked me up as I was just sitting at the Zoe In Yellow minding my own business when she came up to me. Now normally I'm just into the chit chat leave it at that kinda thing with these kinds of girls as most are not good looking enough to warrant the 1000 - 1500 baht it would cost to take them home, but on this occasion I was alone and had absolutely nothing to do and this girl who came to sit with me was from Chiang Mai short cute my type so I decided to pursue it.

This girl really didn't say too much she was just kinda going through the motions but she seemed a little interested in me and hit me up to go home. She was kinda coy about it and said that if I take her home I have to pay "you understand don't you" she repeats to me. Sure I say, i'll give you 1500 baht to come now. She agrees and I drive her to her place to get changed so she doesn't look like a total ho in the morning something I don't really want the neighbours looking at considering I rarely take this kinda girl home.

So we get to my place and she wants to drink more, I've kinda had enough but yeah sure why not it was only 2am anyway so I bust out some more drinks and we start talking. Now this is where it starts getting weired because she starts talking to me about relationships. She tells me how she is looking for a guy to take care of her like most of them say that but this one girl was really getting on my nerves about it.

She tells me that any potential boyfriend would have to pay her money and that any guy who would do this for her would be taken care of as well. She tells me how she will love that guy and do everything for him that she could she would really love it. Again same old thing you've heard before but I honestly doubted the truth about what she was saying and what came next confirmed it.

So where is your old boyfriend? I asked. He's in hospital! She exclaims. Hmmm OK what happened? So she goes on about how they were riding a big bike up country and they came off this was like a few weeks ago and he's still in hospital but she was lucky she got away with only a few bruises. Geez tough break for that guy but I still don't understand why you broke up?

So she goes on to tell me that she broke up with him because he was no longer interested in her which doesn't make any sense, he's in bloody hospital with a broken leg or something I mean how interested can he be!

I tell this girl that she is crazy and that if your only going to be with a guy who gives you money and if you can't stay with a guy because he ends up in hospital for a few weeks that she's never going to find anyone who's going to be serious with her. OMG she flames up and starts telling me off saying that I can't use the word "bah บ้า" that it's not polite and that I should never say that! Now I know how to use Thai I know when an appropriate time and place is to use words and can even use the impolite terms goo and meung to guys and girls I know that are not even offended so who is this little tramp telling me that I can't say something I wanna say I was pissed. The conversation continues a little and I tell her I hate Toms and she blows up again "Toms are people too you know!" they didn't do anything to you so you can't hate them.

I'm more than a little annoyed at this self righteous bitch and tell her that she has no right to tell me about manners customs or anything for that matter she's just a little whore that goes to the clubs to find guys to pay money for sex with her and because she is a whore who has no skills no education not even funny and is a bit overweight I find it unimaginable that anyone would want to pay her to be her girlfriend. I know some really fantastic girls in Thailand that wouldn't demand anything and she is the dirt on the soles of those girls feet so why does she think she is worth more than they are?

Her response was that she will take care of her guy forever until I interrupted her and mentioned the guy who was in hospital that she left, yeah like that guy! Her only response then was for me to not call her Crazy! lol well maybe she is funny.

I'm totally over it and why I should never actually talk to these slags again so I tell her I'm just going to take her home because I can't stand her. So now she wants to get paid! HAHA I'm laughing really hard now and said we didn't do anything so why should I pay her. She reckons I wasted her time find no problem let's go upstairs and do it and I'll give you your money. She seems happy now and forgot about what had happened but as soon as she comes upstairs and sees that I've already got a girl in my bed she freaks out and calls me Crazy! Dumb ass she just got into this big argument with me telling me I can't call her crazy and then the whore turns around and calls me crazy!

So why the hell am I crazy!? She said there's a girl in my bed why did I bring her home? Yeah real bright one this dumb ass is, well we're gonna do it don't mind her I tell her she doesn't mind. "Oh I can't do that" she says, so I tell her if she doesn't I'll drive her home and she gets nothing. Now she's angry but still won't do it so I send her home.

Now I'm at the front of her place and she says wait and sends a text message, next thing I know there's a bunch of lady boys coming out of the apartment. My cue to leave I think and I speed off.

So what's with these bar girl sluts in Thailand getting all self righteous and shit telling me what I can and cannot say convincing themselves that without any education boring personality and dumb as that they are worth paying 20-30k a month! What a joke I'm sure if she did spend the night I would have felt that the 1500 baht I'd promised was a waste.

Any of you guys ever meet a Self Righteous bar slut like this before? Think she has the right to get all Self Righteous on me or what?

Yea, I can relate to your story. I find that Chiang Mai has lots of young cute bargirls but either over weight or dumb as a sack of hammers. And they try to charge Bangkok prices thinking that they are irresistible and worth it( maybe it’s the arrogance of youth.lol). They want a boyfriend to take care of them but under their conditions,meaning they can fuck other guys for money when boyfriend not around.A lot of the these girls have not much more than sex to offer in a relationship. Most these girls I think live in a fantasy thinking guys don’t know what they are all about. And what I know is that you can take the girl out of the bar but you can’t….. well we all know the rest. Guys who don’t use common sense and do sponsor them deserve what they get. IMHO

It’s what I call the Isaan Princess Syndrome. Perhaps your gal wasn’t from Isaan but she’s got a bad case of it.

The Isaan Princess Syndrome (IPS) is characterized by self-righteous, indignant behavior, from a girl who otherwise would be picking up buffalo shit back in her hometown.

The causes of IPS are usually a lifetime of being told that us farangs are a path to the easy life and an endless supply of money. The disease can take many forms but the most common are:

1. A loathing hatred of farangs because they have not showered her in cars, gold, houses, and luk krueng babies that they can show off back in their dirt poor village.

2. A feeling of superiority and diva like behavior or statements.

You seem to be missing the point, Chris. You assume that she thinks you’re human. Those suffering from full-blown IPS don’t think like that.

You (and any farang who doesn’t buy her 10 baht of gold after sleeping with her) are like a cow that doesn’t produce milk or a chicken that doesn’t lay eggs.

She tolerates farangs because she’s hoping for the milk or eggs but the longer she goes without getting what she wants the less she’s able to hide her growing anger.

IPS can be exacerbated by friends who have gotten a sponsor, friends who have landed a husband who has purchased land, gold, or other things for her that have gained her family much face. This usually leads to her family asking why she can’t get one too. Where’s their new car? Where’s their new house?

You have to remember that every girl who gets into the profession already has the IPS gene. The IPS gene is combination of laziness and a willingness to do ANYTHING for money. The gene is usually passed on by the parents who feed their children with tales of the great white whale that will one day save the family.

This is why a Thai parents that can normally tell by how many scuffs are on your shoe what level you are within Thai society seem totally oblivious to the fact that their daughter comes home for Songkran every year sporting tattoos, hooker clothes, and a phone that would be 6 months salary if she actually worked the job that she tells their parents she works.

Lol i just had a very similar experience. I met a thai girl who said pretty much the same.

She said ur so hot i want to marry u blah blah usual shit.

Anyway then she started down that same track of if she was married she would not work and expected $200-300 a week to be a wife. Now i just came out of a 10 year relationship with a thai girl who didnt lift a finger other than to take another drink.

So my response to her was why on earth would you want to sit at home all day and get bored out of your brain like that. To which she responded in a shitstorm of abuse. “you are such a selfish c**t” why are all men selfish “c*nts” ..

At this point i was a little bemused so i toyed with her a bit. I then said inever said i wouldnt do it why am i selfish. I said your the one who said i wouldnt.

She quietens down and says oh so you will pay me to be with you. At which point i said before i realised you were psycho i would have for sure. But now i know you will fly off the handle over something i never said “theres no chance”

Again he goes into a whirl of abuse, you just want to treat me like shit and f me like all the other western men.

I interupted and said errr what makes you think i want to f you? .. I said i only want to f classy girls with a grin on myface.

Boythat was it she threw her iphone at me and smashed it. Then demanded i pay $1000 to replace it. I laughed and walked away as she went into a tyrade of assault.

Jeeze for anyone thats foolish enough to marry a bar girl i wish. The very best. These girls are beautiful and twisted beyond belief, if you find a good one best of luck to you but i sincerely believe it would be a very lucky find.

I think she has some right to be self-righteous in this instance. You had another girl in your bed why didn’t you tell her? C’mon man, she may be a whore but that clearly wasn’t part of the deal. The fact you were surprised she baulked at that says more about you.
You know as well as I do, Thais tend to keep their judgements to themselves (unless among friends), yet you tell her “you hate toms, call her crazy without really knowing the intimate details of her relationship and criticise her being a slut with no education. Rang! She probably has a baby or two in her village (besides the hankering for Versace). What else is she going to do? Get a job at Microsoft? Sorry Chris I sometimes enjoy your pieces but I think you are losing it buddy. I have slept with my share of bargirls but I respect the fact they have a hard job and are understandably jaded by it. Some have no option but to do it, some want a versace handbag. But my experience is that you show them respect and it comes back. Cue trolls to call me naive or a bleeding heart.
After reading some of the comments, you should do a piece on farangs who lose touch with reality in Thailand, getting upset when their bargirl girlfriend who is 30 years younger than them wants some cash in the relationship deal or leaves them four weeks into a marriage (after dowry is paid). Some people leave their brain at BKK airport. In all seriousness it would make a good piece. You know there is more than one Thailand and unfortunately most farang don’t go deeper than the bars in their understanding. I know you are not in these categories. That’s why I was surprised at this post. I am curious as to why your girlfriend wouldn’t care if you bring bargirls home too. My Thai girfriend who has never asked me for a dime in two and a half years would walk straight away. As I would if she brought a dude home. I prefer when you write less critical pieces. Just my opinion. Word of advice too, better be careful as I heard some people talking the other day about you, you’re getting a bit of a rep around this small town and that can be a bad thing.

I wanted to just go finish the deal and she wants to sit around talk and drink more I dunno dude the chick was a self richeous bitch bro notice i didn’t say all bar girls are like that even you said you’ve had your fair share of them dude tell me you haven’t had one trick that you were annoyed at the way they acted or portrayed their BS innocence. I had a bad taste in my mouth the moment she started actually talking to me at my place. I’ve had plenty of bar girls too that clicked and we got one another hit it off had a good time and left. I don’t see the difference. Sure I could have told her to go to the spare room calmed her down and stuff but why, why the hell should I after she’d been such a twat. Look she may have two kids in the village she shouldn’t go around telling people they have to pay her 20,000 baht the only thing she’s going to get are guys that are going to use and abuse her she should be saying she’s finding love even if she’s really looking for someone to take care of her, there the kind of girls I can get along with.

This past two weeks I took a few bar girls and go go girls which I’ve never done in Chiang Mai too close to home but yeah might explain the chatter. I have a reputation around town lol I’d love to hear the gossip I’ve heard a lot of BS stories myself. I’m not really worried though. I might piss people off by what I write though honestly that sort of stuff happens when you’re as public as I am.

I met an isarn born girl 10 years ago, i had just come out of an ugly relation ship with another isarn girl who was already married to a guy, didn’t tell me, showered me with gifts, bought me a guitar, booze, gave me a place to stay, asked for nothing, but was a compulsive liar. Some days she would invite her friends to sleep with me in the same bed, trying to make me shag them. Basically she was trying to offload the guilt by making me cheat on her. Then one day i finally thought ok then i will. After that she went off in a range and blah blah blah, the contradictions of Thai society began to perplex me, and hook me to stay here for a decade of WTF’s

But this first girl confused the hell out of me, she was from isarn yes, tall, amazing body, slim, white skin, id heard all the stories of bad Thais and i was fresh of the boat. So who was this amazing woman who was stunning, funny, crazy yet a compulsive liar showering me with gifts. Anyways after a few months she left for the UK and i was heart broken, very confused and wanted to move up the ladder in BKK to hopefully find some more righteous women!

My buddy a very good looking American guy had a plan. He had fathomed out how to get rich Thai girls that wanted a farang gik to play with, and he had already found quite a few which he was milking nicely. He wasn’t working as a teacher anymore, just lounging around their pads all day, playing pool all night, and drinking and clubbing with them pretty much all the time, they all owned companies and would work all day and party all night, and so did i. We would go to CM2 and the Erowan hotel and when the 10,000 baht bills came, the girls would jump up and proudly pay for all of us young white Westerners. (Was this the same country where all the stories of bargirls and sick buffalo’s emerged from – i was in my second whirlwind)
I thought whoohoo, i’ve escaped the BG trap that many fall prey too, i’m golden. My buddy and his girl then planned my fate, they invited one of their fashion friends out and set me up with one of these princesses (ouch!)

So the story goes like this, they set me up with a very sharply dressed girl, beautiful looks but a serious attitude, she hardly spoke and rarely smiled, but she was a stunner none the less. yet every guy that approached her at the bar she would look at for just a few second’s and they would leave pronto. Perhaps i should have got the message, but i’m a sucker for a challenge and so i went to work on the ice queen. With typical diva like qualities, no string of boyfriends we could determine, But she had a brand new civic, her own condo, and i thought this could be a relationship where i wasn’t going to be raped financially.

In the meantime, my american friend started to see cracks appearing in his relationship. The girl had a pyscho side to her, very jealous. She set his passport on fire to prevent him going out of the country, she cut his neck with a knife while he was sleeping, and she paid some motorcycle taxi guys to beat the crap out of him when her private investigator reported to her that he had played pool with another girl.

In the meantime i was with my girl, and i have been for the last 9 years. All i can say is this. (ahem) After 9 long years, whilst we never argue about me giving her money as she earns enough. To be honest we both run quite a business empire together now which we have worked hard at and she would never have achieved it without me, altho im quite sure i could have done so without her. Nonetheless! we both work hard.

The jealous streak’s and under educated (Red shirt Gene) is still very much alive, its embarrassing and absolutely in no way healthy. However from her perspective its completely different, she is smitten that i’ve stayed with her so long without being a butterfly. She will murder anyone that comes close to us, she will sack any employee that smiles at me or could threaten her face. We have almost killed each other on many occasions, violence is just something that is normal for us these days, as reasoning is something that Isarn born folk have any concept of, reasoning and talking about something is not the Thai way to solve a problem. Combine that with a lot of money and expensive business decisions and stress, and your are in a world of hell.

Why don’t you leave this girl you say?
Well these girls that have money are far more dangerous than those poor nana worker IPS. And the way Thailand is set up our farang businesses are 51% in her name and i’m held hostage to 49% of them, and yes i don’t have a leg to stand on, or wont have any if i rock the boat.

But for maybe 50% of the time, she is kind, service minded, sincere-ish, very loyal, very clean, never drinks, never gambles, not lazy, very strong willed and knows a lot of celebrities and people with power. however, for the remainder she is off the wall hormone stone cold crazy and about as much fun as cancer.

So here is my Isarn tale of woe and wonder, not all Isarn girls come from the same mold, but the majority are hiding the major flaw which manifests into all sorts of chaos and twisted behavior. The absence of education, or the presence of a Thai education – i think the combination of both make for a deadly IPS.

But lets me honest, the majority of farangs who stay in Thailand are quite shallow, materialistic, hedonistic and here to exploit something or other, why lie about it – i was too, and like it or not – you probably are too. SO we all get what we deserve!

It’s always funny to hear the bar girls talk about finding a guy to take care of them and how that will make them all good girls. I once met a guy who had been in Thailand of and on for 20+ years. Apparently there was a time when take care of meant that she worked or raised the family and you provided. Now take care of means that she does nothing but collect a check and live it up on your dime.

The weirdest ones are those who say that they need so much because if they stop working at the bar they will still have to take care of their family. One chick told me that she had to pay for her young brother to go to school and I wanted to ask her why he’s not at some bar sucking cock.

Well, that’s true in quite a few cases. Some do send a few thousand to mom and dad each month, and perhaps another
4-5,000 to help some sister/brother get through school/uni,
or to build that house for themselves in bumbfuck isaan.

Add to that that any whore with half a brain (not as many of those, but there are some) will understand that she’s a
depreciating asset, so to speak, so she needs to make the money now. It does not make sense to shack up with some
John for minimum pay when that John will leave her after
a month or six and she’ll be out on the street again, older, less attractive, and without any money saved.

Pepper spray is your friend. I’ve had to use it twice in similar situations where a Thai whore thinks she is going to get one on me with her gang of ladyboys. Find the wind direction, position yourself accordingly, and spray baby spray. Then keep spraying as you drive away. It will cloud everyone around, so spray a lot just in case a few motobike taxi drivers want to be heros.

Amazing stories. I lived that life for about 3 months. I was very lucky to find a good Buddhist girl in a message parlor. She is not Issan, doesn’t drink or smoke. She shot a man once who hit her, and got part of a finger cut off in a fight, but thankfully its pushed her closer to Buddha and she has very good control of her temper. There is a Wat here in California she goes to weekly and is quite happy. I had an Issan girl attack me once so I know IPS is very real. I went to Thailand to find a Buddhist girl, I had no idea about bar girls, and IPS. I say good luck to the brave souls who navigate all the bah-ness.

The one thing I miss about Thailand is there are so many pretty girls who will give you a smile. (and girls to politely drool over) Very pleasant that. Its not like that anywhere else in the world, I don’t think.