Police say Michael David Robles may have defied a restraining order against him when he allegedly kidnapped and killed his ex-girlfriend.

The body of Kathy Scharbarth was found Friday by police after she was reported missing from her home on Thanksgiving Day, which was coincidentally also her 35th birthday.

The Carlsbad, California resident filed a complaint of domestic violence and received a restraining order against Robles, 43, in hopes of protecting herself and her 13-year-old daughter, Madison.

Scharbarth’s cousin said that the few times he’d met Robles while his Kathy was still dating him, Robles seemed like a nice guy, but he added that if he’s is responsible for her death, “I hope he rots.”

When Scharbarth’s current boyfriend, Daniel Weber, arrived at her home Thursday morning, he said he found the front door open, and Madison still sleeping. He called police, who began a search for the missing woman immediate.

Friday, the Carlsbad Police Department found Scharbarth’s body in “a remote location in San Diego County,” and Chief Gary Morrison said the outcome was “not [what] we had hoped for.”

As the investigation continues, police have seized property from both the Scharbarth home and Robles’ in Fallbrook.

The county Medical Examiner’s Office confirmed what police had suspected upon finding her body. Scharbarth’s cause of death was strangulation.

Robles was arrested Friday on suspicion of kidnapping and killing her. He is currently being held without bail and was scheduled to be arraigned Tuesday at 1:30 p.m.