Like a lot of guys, I discovered masturbation in my teen years. Instantly, I was hooked and grew loath myself for becoming an addict to this selfish sport. Fortunately I found there was hope and help and a person did not have to be a slave to these physical drives. I want to help others learn how to stop masturbating and living in shame.
Remember all the stuff you heard against drugs as a kid? It seems the part they did not tell me was that drugs were fun. I mean they showed you what the end results of drugs were and convinced me that I would never want to try drugs, and I never did. Still, someone should have mentioned how fun it was so I understood why people got involved. I began to question all I had heard when I met others who talked about their experiences getting high. It did not sound all that bad.Getting the big picture about masturbation
I had heard enough against sexual sins to know they were wrong, but I did not how right such sin could feel. Surely God would not withhold such pleasure from me. No, He was not withholding the good thing He created. He was calling me to self-discipline and to be faithfulness to the one purpose He created that function for—to draw two humans together. That’s it. Human sexuality was only meant to be shared between two: a husband and wife. Any other partner would be an illicit relationship, such as someone of the same gender, a person married to someone else, an unmarried individual, a child, an animal, or your hand.
When it comes to the nations of Sodom and Gomorrah, which were known for sexual misconduct, God showed me something about these people. The Lord says, “Look, this was the iniquity of… Sodom: …pride, fullness of food, and abundance of idleness; neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy.” Then, they “committed abomination before Me” (Ezekiel 16:49-50). I discovered that when I loafed—gave myself too much idle time—and when I ate too much—the “fullness of food”—I would have more relapses into masturbation.Find something worth doing is key in how to stop masturbating
I realized just working a job or going to school is not enough to fill ones schedule. A young man needs to have enough action going on in his life he does not have time to slack off with no responsibility. Youth should be invested being busy. Even through my twenties and thirties I have accomplished much by always having more on my agenda than I can do. It keeps me responsible.
It is also important not to fill free time with things that encourage sexual misbehavior. Just playing a game of billiards on a smartphone could put one in the mood if the girls in the game are scantily clad. It is important for a man not to turn to lewd entertainment or reckless use of the internet as a pastime.Stopping overeating will help how you stop masturbating frequently
This is the part of the scripture that spoke to me the most and might be a key in others’ sexual issues. When I over-indulge my flesh in one area, it propels the rest of my base cravings to kick in. Not just too much food (gluttony), but also the just-for-the-fun-of-it foods like some desserts and snack foods. Gluttony is self-indulgence just like masturbation and many other addictions.
I do not believe anyone is addicted to anything except what they love. You only keep going back to it because you crave (love) it. Fasting is a practical way to break such loves for indulgence. When I was fifteen, I went on a five-day fast and broke the strangle hold of masturbation which plagued me day and night. Later I picked it back up again because I did not guard my influences. Guess I how I stopped again? Self-denial.What about wet dreams and night masturbation?
Though it has been years since I purposely masturbated, I was still struggling from time to time waking up to find myself in the throes of masturbation. I prayed about it, thanking the Lord for how far he had brought me, yet asking why this disgrace would revisit me occasionally at night. He showed another thing in addition to fullness of bread: fullness of the bladder.
It was a huge revelation for me, though some might laugh. The Lord simply showed me that if I found myself starting that at night or felt the urge that I should get up and go to the bathroom. It was so simple, but life changing for my night-time habits. I realized that the many times after I masturbated at night, I would have to also urinate immediately afterward. It was like my body felt the urge to relieve my bladder but my reproductive organ misunderstood the signal.
Now, when feeling the urge, though I am almost over the hill, I find that simply ignoring those self-gratifying urges to masturbate and going directly to the bathroom to relieve myself, the urge is totally gone afterward. By not eating or drinking late at night, I can prevent myself from having the urge to relieve myself at all. Overeating puts more pressure on the bladder. It is so simple to control, but became such a massive spiritual breakthrough for me.
Thank God that by His strength I do not have to give into the urges of my flesh!Don’t you need sexual release often?
The perverted, sex-crazed world we live in says you need sexual release every three days or so. I don’t believe them. They are just trying to justify their sinfulness. Jesus made it 33 years without sex. You and I don’t have to have it either.
However, I do realize that at times, your testicles do need to release some product. No worries, they will do that just fine without your help. Most young guys have woken up before to find they ejaculated during the night without waking up. When your body needs to release excess semen, it will do so without creating any guilt.
Keep yourself from lewdness in movies, games, and music and you will find your normal self without being a twisted sicko trying to live in a fantasy world. Saturate yourself in the word of God, music that exalts Him, and heart-changing prayer. There is hope. Surround yourself with people who love Truth and are full of the Spirit.

Man up and just say it. Why are so many guys sissies about talking about the important issues? A guy gets his feelings hurt and does not talk to anyone about it except his wife. She takes it in and begins to sulk and cast suspicious glances at the offending party. Why can’t he be man enough to confront the person who stepped on his toes? Why does his wife have to tell someone who tells someone who tells someone until the whole thing becomes a mess? It does not need to happen this way.

Just say it, if you are “just saying”

I hate the expression “I’m just sayin’” because most people use who that are not really saying the point they are trying to get across. “Just saying” is code for “I just dropped a hint, did you catch it.” Abram met a wimp in Canaan. This guy could hint and “just say” but not really come out directly and say it.

Abram had just lost his wife. Ephron had a burial plot he wanted to sell. Abram was new to the land, so he got up and asked politely if he could buy the land. He did this in an upfront manner, not in a back alley trade. It was out in the open, before the citizens of the community. Ephron put on the face of a concerned fellow man and offered to just give the land to Abram in sympathy for Rachel’s death. However, that is not what Ephron really wanted to do.

Abram would not take a fake. “I insist on paying you.”

Ephron replied. “Not at all. Of course, it is worth ten pounds of silver—not that I want you to pay me. I’m just sayin’, y’know.”

Loser. He wanted the money but could not come upfront and say it. Abram was willing to pay, but some guys prefer to slink around when they would be better served to stand up straight.

Real men speak their heart

Too many men only speak when their emotions boil over. Then, all the little things that should have been dealt with individually come out in one massive volcano. Jesus spoke to the issues immediately. He did not stew about Peter contradicting Him for weeks. He turned and rebuked Him immediately.

A godly man does not hold onto the negative or positives. He speaks them. Jesus spoke praise when the urge came. That might be easier than when speaking the negatives. Many times we men create more destruction when we speak about the negatives. Jesus brought healing when He spoke about the negatives. Rather than let others continue down a dangerous path, He warned them of the consequences. When people did Him wrong, Jesus spoke it out and did not hint around about it. Even on the cross He spoke forgiveness and healing. How awesome to be a free man who can speak from the heart and bring healing.