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Take The Mess To Your Sponsor, Take The Message To The Meeting

When we go to a meeting, we’re encouraged to speak openly and honestly about what is happening in our lives. However, that precept comes along with a proviso. Yes we want you to feel comfortable enough to speak about whatever is on your mind. That being said, we also need for you to exercise judgement about what you talk about. That doesn’t mean anything is off the table. What it does mean is that you need to differentiate between what is appropriate for discussion at a meeting and what is appropriate for discussion with your sponsor.
There are no hard and fast rules regarding this. It’s pretty much left in a member’s hands. It would certainly be inappropriate to speak publicly about issues you are having with another member. That would be something best left to a conversation with your sponsor. Sexual issues are also best left to a discussion with your sponsor.
Many people follow the practice of bringing up issues with their sponsor first. Once they gain some clarity around it, where necessary, they continue speaking about it at their next meeting.
When we’re not sure if something is appropriate for discussion at a meeting; a good rule of thumb is to call your sponsor about it.

Personal Reflection: Do I take the mess to my sponsor or to a meeting?