It was a very hot night...not that i needed any excuse. But as soon as dinner was over, I
mounted my stairway lift to the second floor and quickly stripped off all my braces. This
brought memories of my mother. Behind closed doors, of course, she would recite the litany
of her day and sigh with relief as she stripped off every confining garment from high
heeled shoes to garter belt to girdle. As the sweat poured off me, I matched her item for
item and probably sigh for sigh.

Letting my whole body breathe I stretched out on my high bed, watched the sunset, and
grabbed for my latest paperback mystery. I didn't get very far because I could hear Kyra,
my eight year old daughter, crying in the other room. Ordinarily, that in itself would
have caused me to either leap (only figuratively) out of bed or at least call out,
"What's the matter?" But I could hear Judy's soothing voice in the background so
I sank back into my reading.

Soon Kyra appeared at the foot of the bed, carrying the ever comforting Panda bear in
one hand with the thumb of her other firmly implanted in her mouth. With tears streaming
down her face I could barely understand a word she was saying so I reached out and helped
climb up. Words were still not forthcoming only racking sobs. So holding her close enough
so that hear tears were now staining my nightshirt, I waited.

"Daddy I'm so sorry and I hope you won't think I'm being mean..."

It was such a strange combination her tears and the supposed meanness - that I didn't
really know how to respond or even if I should. So I didn't.

"Daddy" she began very haltingly, repeating again her apology. "I know
you do so much. I know you do puzzles with me and games and lots of things that Mommy
won't do..." The longer the list of my virtues, the greater became my anxiety. Bit I
had learned over the years, that having such long-winded parents, the last thing Kyra
wanted was to be interrupted -- especially when she so obviously has a well-rehearsed or
rather thought-through prologue.

"It's just," and out it came with tears still flowing, "that sometimes I
want you to swim out to the dock with me and sometimes I want you to go bicycling with me
and sometimes I want you to go on long walks with me and sometimes I want you to climb or
go hiking with me..."

As the list continued I knew that she knew all the things I could do but that didn't
matter. I started to formulate an answer that included a greater use of a motorized
wheelchair, when she, far wiser than I, said what had to be said.

"You know Daddy, I asked Mommy if it was OK to talk about something sad even
though you can't do anything about it. She said it was and even that it can be good to get
it out. Is it really OK?"

As I whispered "Yes," she mumbled through her loud sucking, "I feel
better now." "So do I," I said in return as we lay there cuddling.