The 12 Dos and Don'ts of Wedding Toasts!

As planners, we listen to wedding toasts nearly every weekend! Some have brought us to tears and others have made us cringe. We deeply love our couples and want them to love their toasts, not to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. Here are our top 12 dos and don’ts that will help you give the perfect wedding toast!

DOS

Weddings days are LONG! Toasts are often one of the final things before dancing so people are ready to boogie! The best toasts are short and sweet.

Briefly touch on how you the know couple

Many guests may not know who you are or how you know the couple. Start by sharing a brief description of your relationship. This can include a sweet story of how you first met. Just remember, the toast shouldn’t be all about you :)

Speak to both partners

Even though you likely know one person significantly better than the other, make sure you are speaking to both partners. Some ideas of things to share are:

The first time you were with them as a couple

When you first knew they were perfect for each other

What you love most about them as a couple

Be complimentary, share specific qualities you love about them

Make guests laugh AND cry

Our favorite toasts share stories that make us laugh and move us to tears. All the guests love hearing funny and sweet stories about the couple together as well. Make sure to avoid inside jokes that everyone can’t enjoy together.

If you are stumped, include a beautiful quote or scripture that speaks to them

If you are having a hard time writing your toast or remembering stories, include a quote that reminds you of the couple or that is great advice. Avoid generic advice that is not meaningful to you such as “never go to bed angry”.

End the toast on a high, joyful, hopeful note and inviting the guests to raise their glass and toast the couple!

At some weddings all of the guests will have champagne and at others they will just toast with whatever they are drinking. Either way, don’t forget to invite everyone to raise their glass!