May 6, 2007

the moist place of silence/ it is you who are so present/ (that is you are divested of illusion/ you are real in a real world)/ we are where no words grow/ then there is/ after the orgasm time/ for sexvision to begin

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here/ to take a step out/ you must/ take a step in/ here/ to speak/ you must not/ use words/ here/ to give yourself away all away/ is to give yourself to yourself/ and another as well and (twice as much)/ back/

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the orgasm was not had – an orgasm/ shouldn’t be had like a woman it should be and is as coming and going as ever presnt as – let me think – waves yes or tides – it can be as orchestrated as a filmed/ tenth-take it can be like being hit by a car but it is/ what makes us the same as water or trees it is some/ energy which relates us to life

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can you get what you want without giving it away

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I want us to learn this/ love together mining for gold and fool’s gold (it’s pretty/ enough) and come away with three bags full I want to/ touch the shudder of fear I want to be present I want/ to watch/ I want affirmation of our relationship I want smiles/ from them all and nods of the head not discomfort or/ even antagonsim being scared for us remembering how/ years of being bricked-up by bland or hostile reactions

March 22, 2007

Kindly, I was forwarded a link by Audacia Ray from Waking Vixen Productions, who spent the fall of 2006 writing. What was she writing? Well, she was putting down into words her first book, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration, a book about female sexuality and the internet, which is published by Seal Press, June 2007. So what was the link?And why the title, ‘Overdue’? I will offer the link to you shortly, but first a note about my title. I use the word for two reasons: First, I was sent the link back in January and neglected to follow-up on the forward and second, but more important, the title refers to both a message about sex and disability that is past due and to change that is too long awaited.

Cory Silverberg discusses sex work and disability in an article posted at sexuality.about.com and finishes the piece with a request that we “read more stories by people and fewer stories about people. ” Personal blogs can fill this need, but so can photographic works, television series, and documentaries. However, Silverberg refers to Guardian Unlimited’s First Person column as an example. Nick Wallis in a personal essay shared his story on January 15, 2007, where he names this regret :

“I regret that I couldn’t be like everyone else and share a first sexual relationship with someone I knew and loved, and part of me feels that having to resort to paying a woman for sex reflects something lacking in society, not least because I know that some people disapproved of my actions.”

The above insight reveals much about the sexual situations facing some people with disabilities, but Wallis in a striking disclosure unveils more about sex and society in the following observation, “Strangely, talking to people – especially parents and carers – about death and dying may be easier than talking to them about sex.”

Read the article and Nick’s story. Share them with other people you know. Share your own story. We can be a part of change: be loving and know that we can find common ground in our desires to love and be loved.

I’m curious, are you? Later, in an up-coming post, I’ll write more about this show. ‘Til then, how does an erotic image play with you? What does such a photo make you wonder about? Does your camera (or someone else’s) provide for you a means for s-exploration?

March 10, 2007

At different times, in a photograph that reeks of sex or in the covers of an unmade bed, I can smell the sex I want or the sex I just had, but what of those other scents, the flavours that weave around you when you walk by a bakery, step out of the shower, walk on the beach, or when you hug your lover? Explore a range of smells. Look for something interesting, arousing, and intoxicating. Get a whiff of something that stinks of sex.