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September 04, 2008

Feminism & Family

I think one of the things about Gov. Palin that is appealing to so many people, men and women, is that she is an intelligent, capable, ambitious, beautiful woman who is feminine, comfortable being a woman. One of the things that bugs me about the Feminist movement is it seems to tell women that they have to act like men to be equal to them. And in the process women are no longer feminine and instead take on some of the worst aspects of masculine nature. I'm convinced that this is why many women have become promiscuous and accept pornography. And in politics, women who try to be tough in a masculine way come across as harpies and vulgar. (I'm not naming names. This happens across the political aisle.)

But Gov. Palin seems to have a feminine appeal while displaying her capability and strength.

While it's certainly fun to see a conservative, Christian woman who blasts the funny paper stereotypes so pervasive, I think the way conservatives and Christians defend Gov. Palin from the criticisms of neglecting her family. Some of the comments I've heard verge on sounding like women can do everything, we can have it all. No we can't. Life and parenting is about prioritizing, balancing, and sacrificing plans and ambition. While women can fill many roles at a time (we're very good at multi-tasking, which is essential to being a mom) we know the importance of parents being present for their children. I don't agree with those who protest that these questions weren't asked of the men running. I think it is more natural to ask the question about a mom and not a dad. Yeah, I'm old fashioned that way.

Now, I don't know the Palin family to know whether they have worked out that balance between both mom and dad. I'd be surprised if they don't wrestle with these arrangements like many busy families. I'm not going to prima facie conclude that a mom being VP means she's neglecting her family. I presume, and would hope, that dad is very involved with the kids. (My dad sure was.) But in defending her, we shouldn't diminish the importance of parents actively raising their kids because there's no substitute for good parents.

Comments

>>I think one of the things about Gov. Palin that is appealing to so many people, men and women, is that she is an intelligent, capable, ambitious, beautiful woman who is feminine, comfortable being a woman.”

Yes indeed. And we all know this is precisely why she is hated as well. She’s not in lock-step with the old feminist relics - they are fuming.

The night of Hillary Clinton's speech at the DNC, the media had some fun noting the various pantsuits on offer; but really the pantsuits are an attempt to present a "male-ish" image in a male dominated field.

Sarah Palin was obviously more comfortable wearing a skirt. It was a refreshing change that this male -- who never notices much of anything anybody wears, including myself -- noticed right away.

I'm sure there are certain balances that a public servant should be allotted to help with raising a family. She said she had a cook for her family for some time before realizing that it was an unnecessary expense.

I've always seen feminism as being corrupted by the feminists. Any movement that purports to redeem a group of people by reducing and replacing their basic identity is structurally unsound, and results in a gross mistreatment of the original group. Women are not uplifted by rejecting femininity and embracing aggression, cruelty, anger, selfish ambition - the bad masculine traits. Feminism in at least the last several decades, promoting a masculine femininity, has tacitly derided the woman's natural identity traits and biological roles (mother, help-mate, nurturer), amounting to a rejection of women on a primal level.

The baby in the bathwater seems to be very well represented in Gov. Palin. This challenges anyone who has believed feminism to be what feminists claim - really an anti-feminism denying woman's natural identity in favor of the male trappings of power. The tacit vilification in modern feminism of what Palin represents is now being manifested against her publicly. As a truly feminine woman of accomplishment and success, she is the ideal that some (many) feminists despise.

For me, I've come to regard the term with some heavy reluctance, knowing all too well how it is usually presented. Palin puts a fresh face on the idea of female empowerment - one that honors traditional roles, marital submission, Biblical authority, the sanctity of life, and motherhood, and which exercises all of the natural strength and grace that a woman possesses to achieve great success and reach the heights of political power. She is a refreshing examplar of what feminism should have been all along.

Oh boy, This should be a direct hit questioning the fathers role in parenting. The reason male politicians aren't interriogated on the ability to balance work and family is because everyone assumes the wife will take care of home matters. Here we have a mom with a full plate and seriously doubt any males' competence to aide the the many aspects of "motherhood".