1-What is the Most Important Word….in the dictionary? It is the sound of your name.And how cheerful you feel when someone remembers it.It certainly makes you like him,doesn’t it ? And how small you feel,if someone who should have remembered,forgets your name.For most people,their names(especially first name) are the most important word in the world.

2-Being Psychoanalyzed: Why do we criticize?If it is because we want people to do better work and improve in future,it is all well and good, but is that the real reason?Analyze your motives.It will help you a lot.

3-Let it Simmer:Do you know that in your ordinary day-to-day life,it also does a lot of good if you let things simmer.A delay of a day or two seldom does any harm.But if you do a thing in a hurry and in anger and retort with a furious reply,the damage done may be enormous.And it may take months of hard work to put things right again.

4-Pave the way:This is what one must do before you criticize anybody.If people have done something the wrong way and even if they know that they are in the wrong,they will resent it bitterly if you tell them so.You may first talk about neutral subject.Then find something you can braise.Pave the way.People will then take cricism willingly,otherwise,they will fight to the last to prove BLACK IS WHITE.

5-Eat it….that’s the worst about threats.We mostly threaten without thinking,and in ninety-nine cases out of a hundred,we have to eat our threats simply because we just cannot carry them out.So don’t threaten,because,when you have to eat your words,it is very humiliating.It does not do you or anybody any good!!

6-Readymade suits:you must have found that in most cases they do not fit.It is same with readymade answers.When someone brings a problem,you should not give him a quick readymade answer,even if you know it is the right one.Instead help him to think out the answer for himself.Let him workout his own solution.It is far better this way than giving him the answer straightway.you will never find a faster way of making people more efficient.

7-The little Personal Touches:Its little personal touches that make all the difference.If one of your man is away sick,enquire about his health when he comes back.It does not take too much time or effort.It is just a question of being thoughtful. Believe me,these little human touches certainly makes all the difference.

8-Listen Patiently:The best way to handle complaints is simply to listen patiently and attentively.A man often only wants to get something off his HEAD AND CHEST.

We often have a tendency to believe that the first person to have an idea wins the race,gets to glory and reaps the benefits.But,in practice,this may not often be the case.

Lets examine a few cases:

CASE-1 : A visionary developer look at a swamp(permanently water logged land and partially forested) and imagines a luxurious resort.He drains the swamps and clears the land which takes a lot of time and costs a great deal of money.He has yet to turn a profit and his debt obligations are staggering.He is just about to dig the first foundation when his partners get tired of waiting and eventually pull the plug.

So the visionary developer,the person who had first conceived the idea,has no choice but to give up, and he is lucky if he recovers his debt.

CASE-2: Enter developer two,the second person to have the idea.He looks at the prospective resort and he no longer sees the swamp and virgin forest.He sees drained,cleared land that can be picked up at a reasonable price.So he buys the property.

But he has his own troubles.He has to put together a massive workforce to built the place.He has got to find water.He has got to bring in power and lay roads.All this is costing a lot of money and like the first fellow,has yet to make any profit.Lets say this second developer gets as far as printing up one of those glossy brochures with artistic impressions that make the half finished resort look like recreation of the garden of Eden.

You have got your palm trees,your golf course,your sunset view.Now a pretty hefty price tag has to be attached to those condominiums(Building apartment) for a couple of reasons: a big investment has to be recouped and developer is determined to position his property as exclusive and high-end real estate.But developer two meets unexpecred resistence on the marketing end.The buyers are not much eager to pay the hefty price for a half finished resort in a place they have never heared off.Months passes on and creditors start demanding their money and developer two also bails out.

CASE-3: Along comes developer three-the one who has sharp marketing acumen and is determined to cash in on idea of the new resort.He pays a forced-sale price for the already improved real estate.He inherit a situation where atleast some public awareness has already been created.

With the power of money he has not spent on clearing and draining,building and paving, he launched a massive marketing effort.He advertised,wooed the sort of prestigious guests who are certain to attract others.The chances are that he will do very well indeed.

THE UNDERLYING MESSAGE:THE ORIGINATOR OF AN EXCELLENT IDEA IS NOT GUARANTEED THE FRUITS OF HIS GENIUS,BUT A MARKETING EYE ALWAYS REAPS THE FRUIT.

HONESTY: This is the first &foremost quality you should have to maintain a Healthy Relationship. Be honest in everything you do.

GOOD HUMAN BEING: you can handle any or multiple complex Relationship provided you are a good human being.

About 99.9% Relationship fell apart because of communication problem they just don’t communicate with each other.Right communication does not mean what you ‘say’ to others but what is perceived by others.PLEASE ALWAYS COMMUNICATE effectively.

DEFEAT-There is no word like ‘DEFEAT’ in a Relationship.At times,you must learn to take one step back to maintain a harmonious Relationship.

IGNORE-Learn to ignore certain negative behavior in a person for a better relationship.

RESPECT-Always have respect for other’s views and feeling,be patient to listen to others.

COMMITMENT-Never back out from your commitment.

GIVE &TAKE: Never think what others have given to you.Think what you can give to others and make it a way of life.

Avoid ‘Fly by Night’ approach and maintain Relationship in ‘ Thick&Thin’ situation.Accept both good and bad in any relationship.

Being a flop at one or two things is not the end of life and it does not have to cause a crisis of confidence-ITS QUITE NORMAL. If you have the mental strength to withstand such flops-learn from such flops and move ahead in life without ever giving up-SUCCESS IS GUARANTEED.

All of us must play the hand we have been dealt.we can enhance natural talents with education,practice,concentration &Will.But it is dangerous fantasy to imagine that we can ignore our physical and mental limits.

Yet maximizing your talent is only the half battle, and in many cases the easiest part.What is most difficult is figuring out where your talents lie.

Whatever we decide to try,do not be afraid to start again if the job disappoints you or your performance(be candid with yourself) is disappointing. Motivation comes largely from success breeding success.

Reading results means reading yourself.Learn to understand when you have done well,when you have done badly,when you can improve and when you have reached your limitation.Just learn these four things and you are surely ahead of everybody.

There are numerous ways to check the right assessment of your performance and how well-suited you are for a particular job or position.

To begin with,ask your immediate boss for a frank appraisal.And listen to answer.It is human nature to hear what we want to hear and block out the rest. Most bosses start tactfully with good news.Only later in the conversation will they get to what bothers them about you,your performance or suitability for the position.

These sessions clear the air and give you valuable advice to work on.You may pick up easy ways to put yourself on a fast track.And even if the critique is devastating,it is better to know your status than not to know.

Being a flop at one or twenty things is not the end of everything in life and it does not have to cause a crisis of confidence.It is perfectly ‘NORMAL’.But if you have the ‘MENTAL STRENGTH’ to put up a brave face to these ‘REPEATED FLOPS’ and learn from it-your success is guaranteed!!

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Feedback is learning about yourself-whether from your boss or from a friend.It will almost always point you in the RIGHT DIRECTION

The toughest part of being a Boss is recognizing your strength and letting others cover you weakness.

In this regard,I have a story of a boss who was the editor-in -chief of a very successful weekly magazine.My close friend was being interviewed by a Veteran Reporter from the magazine when the two of them began chatting about his boss.Most of the editors my friend had met tend to be classic ‘idea’ people.Ideas are their stock in trade.They can think up dozen just by walking down the street and observing people.My friend told the Reporter how much he admired his magazine and how lucky he was to be working for such a creative Editor.As my friend complemented him on several stories he considered particularly clever,a puzzle look came over his face.

‘You have got it all wrong’,he said.”I have been in the magazine business for thirty years and he is the first boss I have ever met,who does not have any idea.He knows writing,he knows pictures,he knows what people want.But when it comes to generating story ideas,he lets us do that.Every Monday,he walks around the office,and tell each of us to have seven new ideas on his desk by Wednesday.

My admiration for Reporter’s boss rose another match.Anyone who can produce a successful magazine fifty-two times a year,without one idea of his own must know the importance of being a BOSS rather than a STAR.

“A MAN NEEDS SEX TO GET INTIMATE,WHILE A WOMAN NEEDS

TO GET INTIMATE TO HAVE SEX.”

A detox in the area of sex means eliminating sexual performance entirely,thereby making sex come across as the forbidden fruit.This increases longing for each other and helps reignite the passion.

Over a period of time,say a few years down the line,couples tend to lose the spark,especially between the sheets.The reason for this lack of interest could be plenty-a busy schedule,work-related stress and/or tiredness,the same bedroom and the same positions.Your sex life is dramatically affected by these factors.After a long day work,you naturally want space to relax.This could lead to physical and emotional distance and THAT IS EXACTLY WHEN A SEX DETOX COMES INTO PLAY!!

“Sexual motivation is influenced by various hormones.When you abstain from sex,you become increasingly aware of the absence of hormonal release.This craving boosts your libodo and sexual performance.Now you may be having frequent sex or you may not have had sex with your partner for a while,BUT,that hunger that arises when you are aware that you are off sex for a month is what reignite passion.

Sex detox will help you to achieve the relationship results you both deserve.when you are on sex detox,you better rethink what both of you need and arrive at a decision with consideration for each other’s feelings,For instance,you cannot have sex but you can still cuddle,spoon and enjoy intimacy.Or if one of the partner feels ‘denied’ or rejected sexually during detox,this should be discussed openly and without resentment.

It should take only about a month of abstinence to notice the desired benefits-men begin to experience better erection and women enjoy sustained arousal and stronger orgasms.That slight hint of desperation add spice to your love life.IT IS LIKE YOUR FIRST TIME ALL OVER AGAIN!!

MESSAGE

A HEALTHY SEX LIFE IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH OF YOU.PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.YOU BOTH MAY HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY INVEST TIME AND ENERGY AND FIND CREATIVE MEANS LIKE ‘Sex Detox’ TO KEEP YOUR SEX LIFE HAPPY AND SPICY.