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Created on : Friday, October 07, 2005, 03:40:09 pm

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Sending kids away to college should be a cause for celebration, but for some parents it's a cause for worry and sadness. Dr. Phil and Robin share their journey as they move their younger son, Jordan, away to college. Next, Becky is so obsessed with keeping a close watch on her 18-year-old daughter, Molly, she doesn't let her stay out past 11:00, is constantly calling her, and has even considered packing her bags and going to college with her! Can Dr. Phil help Becky learn ways to cope without a child in the house? Plus, nine female college roommates drink excessively, fight constantly, and their neighbors call the police on them at least twice a month! Talk about the show here.

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Two to university this September!

Robin and Dr. Phil, I know how you feel. My son and daughter both started unversity this year. My daughter still lives at home but she is in engineering and between classes and social life, I never see her anymore. It has been very strange getting unused to a twenty year routine! But I am proud of them both. My son wants to be a psychologist like you Dr. Phil.
And by the way, my daughter is beautiful, athletic, sweet and smart - perfect match for Jordan!

College chaos

When my son left the "home" at the age of 17 to begin his new life chapter, the road to the University (about 2 1/2 hours) was traveled monthly the first year. I learned e-mail. I sent cards. We talked alot on the phone. He would come home on holidays and an occasional weekend. road trips and visits became less frequent the next years. After his B.S., he received his J.D, then went back for an MS. He moved 16 hours away, so road trips are by air now and less traveled. we IM and e-mail and talk on the phone. He always has his cell phone with him, so we can talk and share. just recently he has gotten engaged to a lovely young woman-a second year law student. What I have learned is that he was raised to be loving, independent and self supporting. He will always be my son, and mostly he is a friend. He will be bringing into the "home" a wife and perhaps children one day. He can experience the life of a growing family. A job well done from birth to birth. Have trust and just be there.

Message for Florida Detox Presentation

My 26 year old son has been clean for 14 months following his detox off of methadone at Florida Detox. Dr. Spinogle and his staff were awesome. He has been to one outpatient and two inpatient treatment centers including a halfway house. He has had very difficult struggle. However, Dr. Spinogle's resident psychologist correctly diagnosed him with ADHD which had previously gone undiagnosed. He has since been to the Amen clinic in Reston Virginia shere the diagnosis was confirmed. At that time he started on Adderall which he is still taking regularly. His drug cravings are gone, and he is finishing up his college degree. Our experience with Florida was a very positive one, and I would glady refer anyone there for opiate detox. Thanks you for giving me the opportunity to share.

My Nest is Still Full......

Just sent my stepson off to college in August....an Emotionally Impaired kid all his school life....he is surviving and doing great! Empty nest syndrome here....no way....still four more to go! One next year, and one the year after that! Do I love my kids, you bet I do.......they will do great!

My nest will be full for the next 18 years+

I have very young kids still, so my nest is still full, and will be for some time. I feel sad for Robin that she has an empty nest, but I know that both Jay and Jordan will still be around, just not everyday, and I know that she will be a good rolemodel for others as to know how to manage her dat without having her son's around. Hopefully they call home often!

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My 26 year old son has been clean for 14 months following his detox off of methadone at Florida Detox. Dr. Spinogle and his staff were awesome. He has been to one outpatient and two inpatient treatment centers including a halfway house. He has had very difficult struggle. However, Dr. Spinogle's resident psychologist correctly diagnosed him with ADHD which had previously gone undiagnosed. He has since been to the Amen clinic in Reston Virginia shere the diagnosis was confirmed. At that time he started on Adderall which he is still taking regularly. His drug cravings are gone, and he is finishing up his college degree. Our experience with Florida was a very positive one, and I would glady refer anyone there for opiate detox. Thanks you for giving me the opportunity to share.

you should be very proud of your son, I know what he has had to deal with,I have been in several clinic,s for pain killers. most doctors dont know as much as they think when it comes to detoxing people off painkillers. I felt at times that i was going to die. there is no fast way to detox, I am so glad to hear a positive out come, I am going to a methadone clinc right now, I will start lowering my dose next week, at my current level it will take me 1 year to be totaly drug free.please let your son know that there are others thatunderstand and will be praying for him if thats ok, just thank god every day that your son made it out of the drug world. thank you for letting me reply,

Drinking issues addressed

I'm looking forward to the show today and hope Dr. Phil addresses the Drinking issues that affect so many college students and their family's. Every year kids get sent off and every year someones son or daughter dies due to drinking. This past year at our daughters University a kid drowned after deciding to go on a river after a night of heavy drinking. This is just one of a few that died this past year. This does not count the numerous kids who end up in the hospital emergency rooms from alcohol poisoning or in jail from a DUI. Last week, our daugher just left her car to go into the house after work. a few minutes later a college student who was extremely drunk fell asleep at the wheel and totaled our daughters car. She then drove off down the street and parked a few blocks away. Thank God our daughter was not in the car she who have been killed because this young lady made a very bad decision. This was in a very nice neighborhood that is mostly family's and is not full of college kids. My daughter keep telling us how she was grateful it was just a car that was hit and not someones little child. I think this is a huge problem on all college campuses and I would love to see a show just on this issue alone.&nbsp

Been There....

Oh, how well I know this subject! When my older daughter went off to college, she was an only child! We were very close and her Dad and I were extremely active in her life. I was completely devastated when we left her at college. I cried all the way home! I felt like my husband and I were strangers to each other because, while we did things together, our lives were so wrapped up in our daughter's life as well. That first semester was horrendous! After a while, I starting enjoying the quiet, the time that my husband I had together....ALONE! I started traveling with him in his job. It was a wonderful time! When she came home at Christmas, I was glad she was there but couldn't wait until she went back to school! Well, I guess my husband and I enjoyed each other immensely because in March of my daughter's freshman year, I found out I was PREGNANT!! We were in shock...complete shock. We slowly came back to reality and realized what a blessing God had given us. We welcomed a second daughter in November of that year. She will be 15 in just a few weeks and I cannot tell you what a blessing she has been in our lives. &nbsp

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My husband passed away in September 2003 and I am so thankful for both my girls. I now have 4 beautiful grandsons (from daughter #1) and a wonderful life. My younger daughter is more dependent on me, I think, because of her Dad's illness and death. I am trying very hard to allow her to become more independent so that she can become the person that God wants her to be. &nbsp

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I have a senior this year and am incredibly happy he wants to stay home and go to local college for his basic classes then move onto university for his specialized ones. Im not ready to send him off to university. However, had he wanted to go, I would have let him and done my absolute best to encourage him. For me, this show comes at a good time. Pretty soon my oldest will be out of this house and I am not very happy about it. I will still have two others at home but doesent matter much. After 18 years it sure is hard to let go!&nbsp

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Looking forward to hearing how Robin feels about the whole thing. From the clips, it seems she is fine about it. I kinda would hope she does speak some about the feelings women feel when coming upon that "empty nest" though. I want to hear how it is hard and some suggestions to make it easier, not just that Robin is perfect mom. LOL &nbsp

4 Pork Chops

My firstborn went off to join the Navy Dec. 1984. We took him to the airport and sent him off to basic training. I didn't cry or get upset. I told myself I could not do that because I would upset our 2 younger daughters -- I was raised in a family where you kept your emotions to yourself. For over a week I felt guilty about not being upset that he was gone or the fact that we would have NO cotact with him for 6 weeks. And then it happened: I was in the grocery store at the meat counter; I picked up a package of 5 pork chops, looked and it, and started bauling! When another customer asked me what was wrong, I replied, "I don't need 5 pork chops; I only need 4!" When our oldest daughter went off to college to a school where they still have freshmen beanies, they got their beanies and marched off to start their new lives and we were sent home. This time, I cried all the way home and then was fine. Our son retired last Dec. after 20 years in the Navy on submarines and our daughter is a elementary reading specialist who is currently a stay-at-home Mom with our 1 yr. old grandson. All is right with the world.&nbsp