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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

1)You are in his apartment because you live in CT and he lives in NYC and you notice on his calendar that he has dates marked for weeknights when you are not around. 2) You find, while you are cleaning his apartment, the personal letters sent in reply to his personal ad. in the New York NATIVE which are marked when he met them (of course during your relationship with him). 3) You decide to stay over in his NYC apartment because it's really late for a train back to CT and, late into the night, he returns with a microwave and someone to help him with that and other things. 4) You get to meet all his ex's at a dinner party for which you have done the cooking and compare notes. Win

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Winthrop Smith has published three collections of poetry: Ghetto: From The First Five; The Weigh-In: Collected Poems; Skin Check: New York Poems. The last was published in December 2006. He has a work-in-progress underway titled Starting Positions.

Ditto for me! Total whore bag during the first marriage! Reformed since then! I am who I am. And most of it was fun, not morally correct but then again, what is anymore?!?!?

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

I have certainly been the cheater more times than the reverse. Not proud of it, but I've always been honest about it. However, in a very big irony, and a deserved one I might add, I was cheated on when I was being monogamous ... and it hurt a lot. So, live and learn and forgive because I simply am no better than what I was being hurt by. Just because it wasn't with the same person...

This is basically why I know how to tell if someone is cheating.

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Floating through the void in the caress of two giant pink lobsters named Esmerelda and Keith.

Oh... cuter pic puck... love the tats. And all this time you were hiding yourself.

Anway, at least you are honest. I'd have no problem with it as long as you still ended up in my bed every night. But yeah, that double standard you described was tired... and kind of selfish. I hope you don't take that offensively.

Oh... cuter pic puck... love the tats. And all this time you were hiding yourself.

Anway, at least you are honest. I'd have no problem with it as long as you still ended up in my bed every night. But yeah, that double standard you described was tired... and kind of selfish. I hope you don't take that offensively.

No offense taken Philly... I was just answering the question as asked with no real intention to hide the truth. I make absolutely no claims that I am any good at relationships with the exception that I make a terrible liar especially as I get older and more aware of others' feelings.

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Floating through the void in the caress of two giant pink lobsters named Esmerelda and Keith.

I figured out that the truth is much easier. And I figured out that my own medicine is pretty damn bitter. I don't want to cause anyone else to feel the despair and helplessness I felt because of a lie.

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Floating through the void in the caress of two giant pink lobsters named Esmerelda and Keith.

I dont know, but man... I think I will stay tucked away in the mountains away from all this stuff.... Isolationist type thinking I know.. A committment means something to some....

This is like a gay nightmare....

E I love you..... Give William smooches from me. D

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Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'Press On' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. Calvin Coolidge

I cheat on your wife every time you take a 12-inch cock up your ass, even if she's approved!

HUH? You cheat on her?

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

Then I disagree! Cheating is about lying and mistrust. An open lifestyle (and keep in mind we arent as open as others) is just that, a lifestyle choice we make together. And I would discontinue it in a heart beat if I thought it would come between us.

So, how do you like them apples!

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

He starts projecting by accusing you of cheating.He starts leaving his phone in the car (when he used to always have it on him).He calls another name out in during sex.His sex drive makes a sudden spike or nosedive (had both happen).Stops answering when you call (when he used to always pick up).He starts going on lots of trips with "friends," but you're not invited.Of course, when your gut/intuition starts sending up red flags.He doesn't touch you the same way anymore.Little things start cropping up that don't add up.He suddenly starts acting like your a burden when you try to talk to him (his tone of voice, body language, etc).Jumpy or defensive when you call in the middle of the day.

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"Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful nor conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes." - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, adaptation in A Walk To Remember