i only chose the job interstate because i had nothing where i am,untill i met her. i can easily transfer to the more prestigous department where i am now.
which i have offered to do, this has obviously been an issue for her for some time, she didnt talk to me about it now im worried she has made up her mind regardless, i can see the the pain she is also going through so i think there is a chance, i just dont know what to do.

I understand i can not make choices for her, i am more than willing not to go- to stay with her.

i think you are right about pushing me away intentionally, unfortunately i cannot convey how much we have improved each others lives, her dad(tough guy), afew of her close friends has cried several times telling me how happy she is now.
she was in a string of terrible realtionships with the one prior included horrific emotional and physical abuse.

she still calls, texts pops over everyday, telling me she loves me, i just dont understand girls
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as fate would have it one ex gf moved back to town this week, and another became single last month, they have both initiated contact and are being pretty full on now they now my realationship is on the rocks.

almost everyone i know thinks the other two are better in most ways, but i love this girl, i love everything about her, she makes me truely happy.

i feel if i give her space and time she will realize, but i am so caught up on the idea she may find someone else or move on.

i have, believe me, she has told me and her only close friend(my roomate) that she just feels useless because there is no personal direction in her life and she feels like a failure.
i really believe i compound to this because atm i own/run a succesful construction company.

I only have afew years on her, but i know the most important thing in life is to be happy, is there anyway to get that acrosss or is that a life lesson she will have to discover on her own?