Grace for Struggling Marriages

I understand what it is like to struggle in marriage. Mine did for the first 6 years primarily because religion prevented me from experiencing God’s love.

During that sixth year, God revealed to me His unconditional acceptance of me as promised in the Gospel. Our marriage began to improve dramatically.

Most marriages struggle because people enter marriage not being full of God’s love for them. Then they believe the person they marry is going to meet their God shaped need for love. It doesn’t take long to become disappointed and disillusioned. Some never even get past the honeymoon. For others it’s a months later.

And as my pastor, Derwin Gray says, after a while, “the wife starts wearing granny nightgowns to bed and the husband farts all of the time”. If there was any flicker of romance before, that puts it out!

God designed us to drink deeply from His love daily. This is the only way marriage really works. Otherwise, we can suck the life out of our spouse leading to conflict and frustration.

No wonder Ephesians 5:18 tells us to be filled with the Spirit before the marriage roles are discussed. Being filled with the Spirit also fills us with God’s love for us.

I encourage you to join me in praying the prayer found in Ephesians 3:14-21 often whether married or not. It is a prayer for you to experience Christ in you in a deeper way.

Want to go deeper on how Grace can improve your Marriage? February 10-11 is our Grace Life Conference: Marriage Edition.