It may work at a tea party, but I don’t think it works for a wedding personally. Though I’m not a big veil or fascinator person in the first place, so I may be biased.

In the end, it really is no big deal, but I’d probably think it were strange – especially if someone was explicitly asking for your permission. To me, that implies that they aren’t sure if it’s cool or not.

We let my father and my father-in-law pick their own ties (the other guys wore matching ties) and of course, my father decided he was going to wear a bright purple bowtie. I didn’t argue with him. If that’s what he wanted then so be it! My mother thought he looked adorable (of course she did).

To each their own! Who knows, she might change her mind about if by the time August rolls around.