My wife of 22 years and I are starting to get this pegging thing to work really well. Last night, we successfully used the good old missionary position. What made it possible was stacking two lawn chair pads on the bed to get my butt high enough so she could kneel between my legs. Being the passive receiver on my back was a very new and thrilling experience. The dry-Os just kept on coming (pun intended, sorry :) ), though as usual they weren't very dry and got my entire belly wet. About 5 minutes into it, my wife turned on, became very hot and started thrusting like mad. From that point on, it was difficult for me to maintain a relaxed state since my anus kept spasming, which felt great but caused more friction than I like despite tons of lube. We'll try putting a condom on the Share next time to see if that makes it more slippery.

Now that we're both getting pleasure from pegging, I think we can make it a regular part of our sex life. Yay!

My wife's PC muscles are incredibly well-developed. She could juice a lemon in there if she felt like it.:)

The problems for her were three-fold: pony material too hard, pony too big, and not enough clitoral stimulation. I carved the pony down until she liked the size of it. Since there was nothing I could do about the pony's hardness, I cut it off. Solved the clitoral stim problem by carving a hole in the Share near her clit and placing a bullet vibe there.

At this point, we have a workable solution that she's comfortable with and gives her pleasure. I'll let her do the shopping for something she thinks might be better.

Best Regards,

Dave

And for your photos of the successful rig you have improvised to work well for both of you!! :D:D

I may try the reshaping of the pony too first and see if we are any different, for interest's sake, and will report when we get to this stage later.

Thanks for sharing and posting those photos, I think the pictures make it much more understandable for those of us who have difficulty translating the written word into visual images. I do hope your wife does not find the bullet vibrator too hard on her clitoris during forward thrusting motions.

Badger;I've read that the Sysil Tango is off the market due to patent infringement litigation (with Feeldoe, I think). My wife is looking around for something she might prefer. I'll post about whatever she picks when and if she ever buys anything.

Art;You're welcome. Note that the only tools that seem to work on silicone rubber are razor blades, razor-edge chisels, and razor saws. You can resurface the worked surfaces with pure silicone sealant, like those from Dow or GE.

Rumel;The bullet vibe is on top of the vaginal abutment of the Share so it never directly touches skin. Vibrations have to travel about an inch through the silicone to get to my wife's clitoris.

More than a few guys in chat have asked how I got my wife to even consider pegging and how did I raise the topic. Simple answer: I didn't.

Once I decided I wanted to try pegging, I bought the Share and presented it cold one evening in bed after making my wife very happy with a lot of oral sex.* Actually, the Share was literally cold since I hadn't thought to warm it up (oops). My wife expressed a little surprise, then, being the good sport she is, went along with the idea. You already know the rest of the story.

Cheers,

Dave

* The conversation went like this...

Sweetie, you know how you have your toys and I have mine?

Yes.

Well, I got a new one that we can both enjoy at the same time, called "Share." Look.

Thanks for the pictures and all the posts. I'm glad you were able to get something to work for your wife and you. The pictures definitely help show what you are talking about.

Good luck with the Share XL Sky_Walker. Let us know here how it works out. Although I'm curious to know what went through your mind that that would be a workable model with all those ridges in it.

More than a few guys in chat have asked how I got my wife to even consider pegging and how did I raise the topic.

There is a very nice gal I know through fetlife.com that uses a screen name of Ruby_Ryder, who is a enthusiast and proponent of pegging. Outside of her commercial web site where she writes stories about this stuff, she also actually teaches in person group classes (no actual demonstrations or nudity, just informational) about pegging and discusses much about the psychology of finding or getting your partner to do this with you on fetlife in pegging/strap-on groups.

Some of her free educational and informational writings you can find in the blog section of her web site. (Links below) For others you will have to join up with fetlife.com (free) and do a search for her name to see the writings in her profile and what groups she is a member of.

Thanks for the shout out - Love_is. On my website - all of my informational and blog posts are free and always will be. I have a new section called "New to Pegging" and am working on FAQ's. I address common misinformation (it will hurt) and misconceptions (he's gay) and try to inform couples that pegging is one more amazingly pleasurable activity to add to their sexual repertoire. One other link I would offer somewhat relevant to this discussion is an article talking about the reasons why I love pegging, in case your women are asking - so what am I going to get out of this? The article is called "Confessions of a Pegger".

Although I joined this forum some time ago - I've not had much of an opportunity to participate - my apologies (working on my book). And I hope by linking to my website I am not breaking any rules...

Dave - that is one of the coolest stories I have ever heard. Sometimes it really can be just that simple, if you have the right partner.

[QUOTE=Love_is;98797]Good luck with the Share XL Sky_Walker. Let us know here how it works out. Although I'm curious to know what went through your mind that that would be a workable model with all those ridges in it.

Thanks for the good luck wishes Love_is. I don't know what came over me, The wife went shopping so I thought, bugger it, so am I! Saw the XL on spesh, about 30% off, which was enough to tempt me, thinking I'll deal with the bumps later. (online purchase)Thing is, when the pegging is on, I feel the share moving in and out but only it pressing on my insides, it's very smooth. I thought a bit of a bumpy surface may get the feeling more on the anus. Well I'll see I suppose, I can always ask her to go easy:rolleyes:.I'll hopefully be able to report back soon....that's if I can still sit down at the computer;).

Love_is;You're welcome. I hope everybody reading this thread understands that the modified rig we use is specific to my wife and I. It may not work well for others.

Ruby;Thanks for dropping by. I spent a fair amount of time on your excellent and helpful website before deciding to try pegging.

Skywalker;I was surprised to read that you don't get enough sensation from the Share. It stimulates my prostate as much as any of the Aneros devices though I have yet to get a Super-O from pegging. And yes, you should be worried about the XL.:)

[QUOTE=ffd71;77187]I have expressed a desire for this to her and she thinks this is not natural and that I should not desire this. She thinks it is related to homosexuality. It is hard to get her past this!!!I have expressed to her the things that I would like to try (ex: sex toys) and she is not even interested in that. We did try buying a strap-on one time and it did nothing for her at all. We really didn't know what we were doing at the time and she is not turned on by such, actually for her it is a turn OFF! As far as the aneros she would rather that I do solo sessions. I tried to get her to give me a massage while I had it inserted and we got into an argument about it because she really didn't want to assist me. I have REALLY told her about my sessions and the intense pleasure that it gives me but she is not interested. She just says "oh really, that's nice". She never gives any hint about joining me. I have asked many times and now I just don't say anything. I have been trying to get into the excitement mode for quite some time now and it is "the same ole routine", nothing different. I am an adventurous type person and she is not. I like to change things up and get kinda wild with our sex life because I get bored easy but that doesn't seem to matter to her any.

I have been gently guiding and expressing me desires for over a year and she is hard to talk to about sex. She doesn't even like to talk about sex at all, most of the time. It is like pulling teeth. She is very conservative and I don't mind that to a point but I would like some variety.

No, she absloutely doesn't like anal play at ALL!!!!! I have tried many times and she turns off like a light switch every time I try or even talk about it.

I would say that you are a unique woman and JIM should be very thankful to have a woman like you who is interested in pleasing him.

To me, what I take away from your post is, your wife is afraid you are going to leave her when you discover you're really a homosexual because you love anal play so much. She's possibly interpreting this as a direct attack on her future with you, while most likely being in complete denial of this.

She has great fear inside her when approaching anal sex in any fashion it sounds like. You should try to ask her next time she shuts down, "Hon, are you afraid or scared of something?". See if you can ask the right questions to get her to have an awareness of her fears.

[QUOTE=ten_s_nut;98815]Love_is;You're welcome. I hope everybody reading this thread understands that the modified rig we use is specific to my wife and I. It may not work well for others.

Ruby;Thanks for dropping by. I spent a fair amount of time on your excellent and helpful website before deciding to try pegging.

Skywalker;I was surprised to read that you don't get enough sensation from the Share. It stimulates my prostate as much as any of the Aneros devices though I have yet to get a Super-O from pegging. And yes, you should be worried about the XL.:)

Cheers,

Dave

I don't think you get super-O's off pegging because the feedback loop is too easily distrubed to amplify arousal. So while you can now have mini-o's over and over via pegging, you'll probably not be able to maintain focus enough and relax enough to amplify the feelings of orgasm onto themselves like in a normal session.

I know what you mean about how strap-on thrusting disturbs the feedback loop required for a Super-O. That is very similar to the problem I had with the Vice for the first month I had it. The Vice's vibrator made it close to impossible to fully relax and keep the buildup going. Nonetheless, I persisted and eventually learned how to integrate the vibrations into the feedback loop and can now Super-O reliably with Vice+vibe. We'll see if if I can figure out how to utilize the sensations of pegging to get to a Super-O. Might take a lot of practice. :)

Sorry I missed it when you first posted. After watching those ladies I was inspired to purchase a Feeldoe Slim. I'm guessing it will still require the SpareParts Joque to compensate for the disparity between kegel and anal sphincter power.

My wife and I have been pegging as part of our sexual repertoire for about a month. Finally, after a number of sessions (8? not sure, haven't been counting) I got to a Super-O similar to those I get from Aneros Vice with the vibe in Mode 4 (pulse-pulse). For those of you following a similar path, here are some details.

- Before my wife got into bed, I warmed up with the Eupho -- had a bunch of Dry Os. - Gave wife oral sex until she was a quivering heap. - Wife put on the pegging gear without any vibe -- said she was too sensitive already. - I lay on my back with butt on a firm cushion and removed Eupho. - Lubed up dildo with Vaseline plus KY Sensitive Gel - Wrapped legs around wife's back. - She entered me and started thrusting. Went on at various depths and speeds. - I was erect and leaking fluid continuously. - At about 10 minutes in, I asked wife to stop thrusting and just "jiggle" fast, like in the "Japanese anal video you might like." (http://video.xnxx.com/video393565/sdms_837_part1_straponed_male_orgasm_) - Almost immediately went to Super-O Land. - After an unknown period of time, I heard my wife say, "Are you OK?" as she started stroking me. - Soon after, I ejaculated. I don't remember ever having had that much semen and fluid all over me before.

Once I'd caught my breath, I asked my wife why she asked me about being OK. She said I was spasming, making incoherent sounds, and she was getting tired.

Now I know for sure what "fucking your brains out" means from the bottom's point of view.

I got a chance to test drive (as in, get fucked by) the Feeldoe Slim with my wife last night. I was surprised by how different these two similar-looking sex toys are. They fit into the same SpareParts Joque harness. Here's how they stack up:

Wife's Point of ViewHer take on the deficiencies of the FunFactory Share are documented in older posts on this thread. In short, Share is too big, too hard, too heavy, wrong angle and lacks clitoral stimulation. The Feeldoe is comfortable, has clitoral contact, built-in vibe, not too heavy and is easier to thrust. She gets more mini-Os per session with the Feeldoe than with the modified Share.

Wife's verdict: "Let's use the Feeldoe."

My POVThe Feeldoe has a very smooth, glossy finish which requires only gel lube (Sliquid Organic, in this trial) to be really slick for an hour. This translates into low-friction at the anus and inside the rectum so there's no "grabbing" during an anal spasm/orgasm. The downside of that is much less of the highly stimulating "dragging" sensation during in and out thrusting than the Share, which requires Vaseline plus a secondary gel lube to avoid excessive friction.

The Feeldoe is about the same 6.5" insertable length as the Share but is a smaller, 1.25" uniform diameter. The Share's taper from a 2" diameter at the base to 1.25" at the tip provides very desirable extra "oomph" when driven in all the way. I didn't get as many mini-Os and dry-Os from Feeldoe as I did with Share -- and no Super-O at all.

Husband's verdict: "Feeldoe is good, but let's use the Share sometimes, too."

I know there is a couple on the peggingisforeveryone group at tribes.net that swears by the Share XL being a great pegging model. But I think I'd want to be really, really experienced before thinking about going down that route with that model. But who knows, maybe my fears are unfounded. Keep us posted of the results whether sitting or standing. LOL

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Once I'd caught my breath, I asked my wife why she asked me about being OK. She said I was spasming, making incoherent sounds, and she was getting tired.

Now I know for sure what "fucking your brains out" means from the bottom's point of view.

Wow Dave!!! LOL Thanks for sharing all that. (no pun intended) :D

As far as the feel of your Feeldoe Slim, that may have to do with it's width being smaller. My Feeldoe More being much larger in width I find can slightly stick once in a while if I'm not careful to relax really well. I find putting a condom on it can help offset that problem as it gives it some give and stretch. Mind you it's usable both ways. Just a different feel. Perhaps one of the larger width models would have been better for you in hindsight. Or maybe even just acclimating to the feel of the Feeldoe Slim over many sessions will help. I mean since you posted about it, it has only been one session. Give it some more practice.

I myself am also straight and curious about this, but having difficulty finding a space where I can approach women who are into this. I think society hasn't quite caught on that anal sex for males isn't homosexuality and I personally can't wait till it's caught up.

I'm single, well for the most part as I am dating around, and am looking but not finding women who are into this sort of thing. I recently made a profile on Fetlife and have joined a couple groups in the hopes of finding someone willing to explore, or experienced and willing to teach.

I want to thank you for taking the time and effort to document your efforts in this thread. It was so cool to read about how you achieved the holy grail of pegging as a man, to get a super-O from it. Yes! While I haven't yet had a super-O at all from Aneros or dildo play. I do hope to get there someday from both. So it's nice to have additional confirmation from advanced Aneros users that this is possible. Thanks again. :)

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Hello Mover, :)

There are many women that weigh in on this. Although you'll find more of them at fetlife. As far as how to find a woman to do this with you, I think that is a bit off topic. And besides, you'll find plenty of pre-existing threads that discuss exactly what you are asking in the various pegging and strap-on groups at fetlife. You're not the first guy to ask this. LOL

I got a chance to test drive (as in, get fucked by) the Feeldoe Slim with my wife last night. I was surprised by how different these two similar-looking sex toys are. They fit into the same SpareParts Joque harness. Here's how they stack up:

Wife's Point of ViewHer take on the deficiencies of the FunFactory Share are documented in older posts on this thread. In short, Share is too big, too hard, too heavy, wrong angle and lacks clitoral stimulation. The Feeldoe is comfortable, has clitoral contact, built-in vibe, not too heavy and is easier to thrust. She gets more mini-Os per session with the Feeldoe than with the modified Share.

Wife's verdict: "Let's use the Feeldoe."

My POVThe Feeldoe has a very smooth, glossy finish which requires only gel lube (Sliquid Organic, in this trial) to be really slick for an hour. This translates into low-friction at the anus and inside the rectum so there's no "grabbing" during an anal spasm/orgasm. The downside of that is much less of the highly stimulating "dragging" sensation during in and out thrusting than the Share, which requires Vaseline plus a secondary gel lube to avoid excessive friction.

The Feeldoe is about the same 6.5" insertable length as the Share but is a smaller, 1.25" uniform diameter. The Share's taper from a 2" diameter at the base to 1.25" at the tip provides very desirable extra "oomph" when driven in all the way. I didn't get as many mini-Os and dry-Os from Feeldoe as I did with Share -- and no Super-O at all.

Husband's verdict: "Feeldoe is good, but let's use the Share sometimes, too."

Cheers,

Dave

Dave, oh great pegging leader and coach!! Thank you two again so much for this comparO!! You are encouraging us all.

I've been going out with a girl for a while who has been wonderful and excited about prostate play. While I don't usually get the chance for solo aneros sessions anymore, she does enjoy massaging my prostate, which I have been able to super-o from. The regular aneros feedback loop isn't there, but there is a different feedback loop instead. You know the feeling when the aneros takes off on its own, 'reads your mind' and does exactly what feels best? Same thing, but its your girlfriends finger slowly stroking your prostate. Good stuff to say the least. If she's down I'd highly recommend it, and get some tight fitting latex or nitrile gloves, too. A bare finger can be a bit rough.

We also got a feeldoe regular a few months ago and have had the chance to use it 3 times so far. Before we used it the first the first time, I tried it out on myself and was able to take it. DEFINATELY NOT for beginners though. The progasm is much smaller than this thing and the only reason I could get it in was because we like to play with the Adam & Eve 'Perfect P-Spot' (large glass plug) from time to time. Probably should have got the slim...

The first time I had to make her stop not because it hurt, but because of the new emotional world strapon play opens up. I thought it would feel like her gently nudging an aneros inside me, only bigger. To have a girl actually fuck you with a strapon in another experience entirely. If its your first time, it can be a little bit overwhelming if you're not ready to be truly fucked. It really does take your lovemaking to a new level when you know intimately what its like to be penetrated by another person.

The third time she blindfolded me, massaged by prostate until I had a few dry O's, then pulled me up so I was on my hand and knees. She put both hands on my back to let me know she got the hang of using the feeldoe with having to hold it, and slowly entered inside me. The second her cock penetrated up to my prostate my legs gave out and I instantly fell on the bed spasming. She pulled me up again and began fucking me hard, but then I started feeling sore right where the seam on the feeldoe was rubbing on me. I had to make her stop, but It was still one of the best sexual experiences of my life.

So here's my question: Has anyone else had a problem with the seam on the feeldoe? Is there any way to smooth down a seam on a silicone dildo? From what others are saying, it sounds like a condom might help. I'll give that a shot next time and report back.

I agree that pegging has a big emotional component. For a newbie, I'd suggest riding on top, cowboy style for starters. Feels good, less "out of control," and positions your dick for easy access by your partner.

You're right, prostate massage is great. Unfortunately, my wife can barely reach in that far so we have to rely on Aneros for that.

The regular size Feeldoe would be too big for me and the Feeldoe More or Stout are unthinkable. We're enjoying the Feeldoe Slim and FunFactory Share a lot. I noticed that our Feeldoe has a barely visible molding seam, which I can't feel when it's inside. For the seam on yours, a condom will work, but be sure to use a non-lubricated one unless you want to test the pre-lubricated condom's lube for silicone compatibility. Some silicone lubes will bond to silicone toys and make the surface permanently gummy.

As for smoothing the seam on your Feeldoe, a super-sharp razor blade will "shave" it and leave a smooth cut. Problem is, avoiding nicking or scraping the area on either side of the seam. I wouldn't take that risk, and I'm pretty good with sharp tools for model making.

I haven't been able to wet orgasm when my wife pegs me laying face-down, either, even when she reaches under. Must be something about the angle of entry. Plenty of "dry" Os in that position. Face-to-face is much hotter and effective for both of us. Would be cool if we could do it face-to-face sitting up like in one of those strap-on gallery images where the tip of the dildo is in the guy's butt and his dick is in her mouth. Might need a longer dildo and a more flexible spine. :)

What struck me about the survey results was that 17% of the people who responded had done it; been pegger or peggee. That is a similar percentage to the men on this site who responded to my poll about other anal erotic practices by checking the pegging box. So, one in six people who are sexually active are now or have in the past been into pegging? I'd never have guessed it was that popular, given how little it is discussed in general.

The cock-ring rabbit-style tickler that failed a month or so ago was replaced at no cost by the vendor. Turns out, the device fits the Feeldoe so the tickler is pushed against my wife's clit during pegging. That's a big boost to her enjoyment of this activity.

If you're new to pegging, pay attention to where your balls are when using the missionary position. If you are curled back,they might be resting high on your pubic area. During partial penetration all is good. But, if your lady gets excited and starts slamming full-stroke, you may discover that your balls are in the path of bodily travel and get a bit squashed. Not fun. I've found that the best defense against this problem is a "test" stroke at the outset to see where everything will meet. Then, adjust your parts as necessary and carry on.

My wife and I are on vacation in the Aegean Sea area. We took a bunch of sex toys with us. Discovered that my wife gets the best and biggest Os using the Feeldoe Slim when, as she puts it, fucking my brains out from behind with me laying flat on my stomach. She says it's less work for her. Works for me. :)

As many of you know, my wife and I have been on a quest to find a pegging setup that works equally well for both of us. Yesterday, we got the Vixen Double, senior size. For comparison, see the attached photo, below. Although the receiver's end is shorter and wider than the Feeldoe Slim, the Vixen is more comfortable for giver and receiver. My wife likes the feel of her side and I like the feel of mine. I'm getting closer than ever to achieving a wet HFO. The silicone is much softer than Vice or Feeldoe. The only thing I can think of to improve the Vixen would be to add a bullet vibe, which I will do later today.

Regarding your FunFactory Share XL sitting unused in a drawer, why am I getting the feeling that you are avoiding that bad boy? You can have sex during the week too you know. Come on, man up and do it. :)

I recently purchased an Outlaw Leather harness which can hold any of the feeldoe-type double dildos, a single flared-base dildo or two single flared-base dildos. I gave it a test run (no partner) using a dildo with a bullet vibe in the base for my end and loved it. Well-made.