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Heart broken and pissed *** Update #8*** Sorry it took so long : (

I'm so heart broken DH is out of town for work and I found out his OW is joining him. He told me he was going to be in meetings all day and very busy until Friday, that if I needed him to text not call. But he will call and say good night to the kids. We havent talked all day. When it came time for the kids to go to bed he still hadn't call; so I tried calling him/texting him so they can say good night no answer, I tried a little later his phone goes straight to voice mail. I even tried his hotel room no answer. So of course I got suspicious and I looked at the phone records and emails and found her email to him with her flight info going to where he is and saying she cant wait to see him at the airport. But she knows they have to be careful and not be seen and need to act like nothing is going on because his co-workers like to talk. F***ing P.O.S.

Update- After a very restless and sleepless night....still haven't heard from him no call, text, email nothing.

Update#2- Well I got my kids off to school and I had to dodge the questions: why didn't daddy call last night, why is your face so puffy. I put on my brave face and said that mommy was tired and didnt feel well and that daddy was working and probably will call tonight. This is totally unacceptable I am LIVID.

Update#3- I sent him an email Ietting him know that he needs to call home I put 911 in the subject line. I finally received a reply from him saying that he is in a conference, he's doing fine and he will call me later (his phone is still turned off). Yeah right....so why not plug it up and call now instead of sending an email. I didnt respond to his email. I dont plan on telling him or letting him know I know whats going on. This is something that needs to be handled face to face.

Update #4- Well I havent heard from him since his email, even though I put 911 and for him to call home. I called his phone and still no answer (he did turn it on). I just called his office and was told that the conference ended yesterday ...WHAT!!! He told me Friday. I was also told he was going to be out of the office til Mon ...this is some bullshit!!! Im so pissed I'm shaking inside.

Update #5- It's 5AM--I still haven't talked to him. NOTHING at all!! My kids keep asking me why daddy hasn't called them, all I keep telling them is that daddy is very tired from work and will call soon. That fucking piece of shit is making me lie to my kids to cover his cheating ass!!! My heart is breaking for them and at the same time I'm just beyond pissed. This is making me sick literally. I looked up some lawyers and Im gonna make some phone calls today. After doing some digging and I found out that she is in the military also, just in a different section and an Officer. My stbex dh is a NCO. I'm so tempted to tell his C.O. but I don't want to mess with my kids money and benefits, not until I get my plan together and in motion. I also talked with my parents and they said I could come back.

Update#6- OMG!!! I kept digging and found out that this has been going on for almost 2yrs!!! I found more airline reservations, emails, naked pics, IM's, video chat shots. Apparently this isnt the 1st trip they have been on there has been a few. When he would go away for classes, training and conferences she was there also. What hurts and kills me the most is that I had to have a complete hysterectomy and had complications. While I was in there for an extra week he was IM her and chatting with her. All the while I wasn't for sure if I was gonna live or die he was talking with her. He wouldn't come to the hospital til close to the afternoon and leave a couple hours later saying he was going to get the kids. Im so disgusted and totally crushed. I can't stop crying and throwing up. I FEEL SO STUPID!!!!

Update #7- Today was a rought day : ( He still hasn't called or text. I called a few lawyers but no one was available so I have an appointment Weds at 10 am. Tonight I'm not gonna focus on him (at least Im gonna try). I'm watching movies and eating popcorn with my little ones. I have a friend picking them up tomorrow and taking them rollerskating and out to eat so I can get ready for him.

Update #8 - Well he came home acting like nothing was going on and he was so tired. I said hello. He said hi where are the kids. I told him they were out with _____ so we can have some alone time. He gave me a look and smiled Like he knew he was gonna get some. Trying to hug and kiss me UM hell NO!!! I then asked him why didn't he answer my calls or texts. He told me his phone completely shut down and he couldn't get it booted back up. I asked him why couldn't he use the hotel phone or someone else's. He said that he was so tired when he got back to the hotel that he just wanted to sleep. I told him I put 911 didn't he think he needed to call home. He again said he was just so tired that he was swamped with paperwork, meetings that all he wanted to do was sleep when he got back. He said that they had him working up to the end. I said oh really, Well why was MSG______ back already and that I was informed that the conference ended days ago. He just looked and said what are you talking about. Then I handed him the envelope with her emails and pics. I thought he was gonna pass out. He asked me where did I get these from, I was like don't worry about it. He started with the Babe its not what you think, she came on to me. She is just a friend really just a friend, I told him if she was just a friend why did you lie about her, if she is just a friend why is she sending you pics with her legs open saying this is all for you. If she is just your friend why are you chatting and texting her everyday, especially while I'm in the hospital fighting for my life. If she is just a friend why is she traveling to see you when you go away sometimes. If she is just your friend why is she saying she cant wait to see you. Then he tried the sob story about he is sorry; he just got caught up and didn't know what to do. That he loves me and our family. I screamed as loud as I could in his face BULLSHIT!!! You are not sorry! You did and are doing what you want to do. That he was the most selfish nasty asshole I know!! That they both were nasty as hell. I told him I cant believe you put getting some P**** in front of your kids That he put his nasty bitch whore in front of his family. It seemed like he got offended when I called her a whore, and told me she is not a whore. I told him 1st of all I know damn well you are not standing in my house defending that WHORE!! 2nd what would you call her she is fucking you a married man AND she is living with her daughters father. She is a nasty whore bitch. And he was even nasiter for fucking with her. I then told him that I was going to let his CO and hers know how I feel too. He comes at me with Babe you know I can get in serious trouble, blah blah I worked so hard on my career. You should've thought of that before you started with this nasty bitch. You was thinking with the wrong head. He then tried to flip the script and tell me its my fault. If I wasn't going thru his things then I wouldn't have found nothing. That I was nosey. I laughed in his face and said really that's all you got I'm nosey, Really???? I told him it was time for him to get his nasty ass out of my house. He said he wasn't leaving til he saw his kids. I asked him was he for real. He wasn't thinking about them while he was laying up with his nasty whore getting a BJ......get the f*** out now! He just looked at me for a while then left. I told him that I hope they both rot in hell.

He staying at a hotel, who knows she is probably with him. He kept calling last night asking to speak to the kids, but I told him they were sleep (selfish I know). I turned the ringers off and blocked him from my cell, I HATE HIM!!! I hate him for doing this to my kids and to us. Now I have to figure out what to tell my kids, why daddy is coming home. I'm so sick to my stomach. I'm so tired of crying over this lying cheating nasty ass!!!!!

I usually do not go after the grammar Nazi's. But when it's something serious you should really think before you correct. If you want to correct people's mistakes, become a teacher.

Quoting luvmymunchkins3:

Do you really have nothing better to do with your time other then correcting other people's mistakes online.your life must be pretty boring

Quoting JustCJ:

That stung. I guess you really told me. But since you called me out of my corner again....

Quoting mommyof31024:

WACK!

Quoting JustCJ:

Where were my manners? Carry on then.

Quoting mommyof31024:

So what? Don't be trying to correct me!I'm a grown ass woman. Was I talking to you?I was talking to the woman who is going throughalot a lot with her cheating hubby. So mind you're*yourdamn business thanks.

Quoting JustCJ:

*knew

*woman

*with

I don't usually correct grammar but that was 3 in a short sentence. Good God.

This and I'd serve his ass divorce papers. To some that maybe too much but if he's sneaking behind your back and seeing another woman he's not worth the rest of your life. He broke his vows so he's doesn't deserve any kindness from you.

Quoting MommyBoha:

I would have his shit in the yard and the locks changed when he got home. Sorry mama

by Anonymous 16
on Jan. 15, 2013 at 11:11 PM

this, plus when my ex cheated i cut up every item of clothing he owned even socks and underwear, threw everything in trash bags and pawned everything of value. everything else that he had i destroyed.

Quoting Anonymous:

call the front desk and tell them there is a family emergency and he isnt answering the phone. they will go knock on his door until he answers lol

by Anonymous 17
on Jan. 15, 2013 at 11:14 PM

Quoting Snowball10:

I agree. I was in a similar situation. Dh told me that he was going out of town for work, later I found an email talking about how she couldn't wait to spend the night with him (we were selling our car and gave his email as the contact info- that's why I was checking it, not because I was already suspicious). I was pissed, I left the apartment that night. We ended up working it out, it took a lot of work on both of our parts. So I completely agree, if you decide to stay (which is up to you, only you know him and your relationship and whether he's worth a second chance) you need to say boundaries and consequences, other wise he's more likely to do is again since he already got away with it kwim. Hugs, I know how rough it is.

Glad
Spelling nice should be 'correct grammar and spelling'
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you. That's stupid
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you. It's
lady

Quoting mommyof31024:

I'm so glade you're so worried about me and my spelling nice. Worry about you're self go do something other then trying to talk shit to everyone grow up. I'm not going to sit and argue with you that's stupid and not worth my time do not write me again act you're age really. This isn't about me or you it's about helping this ladie out.

Quoting JustCJ:

That stung. I guess you really told me. But since you called me out of my corner again....

Quoting mommyof31024:

WACK!

Quoting JustCJ:

Where were my manners? Carry on then.

Quoting mommyof31024:

So what? Don't be trying to correct me!I'm a grown ass woman. Was I talking to you?I was talking to the woman who is going throughalot a lot with her cheating hubby. So mind you're*yourdamn business thanks.

Quoting JustCJ:

*knew

*woman

*with

I don't usually correct grammar but that was 3 in a short sentence. Good God.

I say, for the sake of the kids, be the grown up. Keep your head about it so that when it all goes to court, it works in your favor. Good luck!

ETA: I also wouldn't want my husband to see me sweat or act crazy. It will kill him to think that you are ok and know you are strong enough to live without him. You go nuts, and he will be glad to leave such a crazy person.

by Anonymous 19
on Jan. 15, 2013 at 11:29 PM

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You handled that well justCJ.... Lmao

Quoting JustCJ:

Where were my manners? Carry on then.

Quoting mommyof31024:

So what don't be trying to correct me I'm a grown ass women I was talking to you I was talking to the women who is going threw alot with her cheating hubby. So mind you're damn business thanks.

Quoting JustCJ:

*knew

*woman

*with

I don't usually correct grammar but that was 3 in a short sentence. Good God.

Do you really want to give him a heads up that you know OP? Think about this before you make a move of any kind, for instance maybe go to the bank first?! Kwim? I am so sorry you are going through this, Prayers are with you! Please keep us updated.

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