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Now that we’re entering another new year, we can look forward to the many prospects before us. We can take advantage of this new calendar year to make the changes that will take us in the direction that we want to go!

From year to year our memories contain the highlights of our lives. However, our day-to-day experiences could hold so much more significance if we were to think about progressing at a higher level. Each day holds such great potential for personal advancement, yet it’s so easy to get lost in the activities of the day and lose attention for what we really want to be doing. Our thoughts about the world around us contain the elements of negative and positive processes that can cause either deteriorating or ameliorating experiences. If we were to consider ourselves as spiritual beings that can work through our higher consciousness, we could view our existence as an opportunity to gain positive universal knowledge. In this way, we can increase our awareness of how we can be positive in each moment and stand up for ourselves, so that we can maintain our energy and enthusiasm for reaching our preferred state of being.

From the perspective that our spirits operate at a much higher level than we do, we could effectively use a higher-level standard to guide us toward a more positive life experience. Rather than waste precious time thinking about what could or should be happening in life, we could be working at the higher level every day to promote our own spiritual progress. Working toward a state of harmony within naturally contributes to our wellbeing, and allows us to generate the strength and means to achieve our goals.

In 2019, let’s aspire to have the kind of existence we desire…

Let’s use our imagination and create our future as we visualize it to be.

Let’s be kind to ourselves and practice patience and understanding along the way, so that we feel comfortable with the process of creating positive changes.

And let’s smile to express who we are at the spiritual level and draw from our inner beauty and strength.

2019 is going to be amazing!

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I work across distance to extend my higher-level knowledge to you, wherever you are in the world! Learn how great life is when you work with a positively oriented spirit!

The importance of self-forgiveness for survivors of childhood sexual abuse

Someone commented the other day that the hardest thing for her to do was to forgive herself. For those of us that were sexually abused as children, we bear the detrimental memories of those incomprehensible moments into adulthood. The negative memories and emotions build inside until they begin to manifest in ways that cause emotional, mental and physical illness. When I learned how to stop the momentum of the shame and guilt caused by early abuse events, I eventually emerged as the healthy balanced person I am today.

When I was really young, I really didn’t even understand what was happening to me, or that it was anything unusual, because I believe that I had been conditioned from a very early age to accept sexual abuse as a normal occurrence. After trying to report to my mother what had happened to me on one occasion and wasn’t believed, then being threatened into silence another time, I quickly learned that I wasn’t supposed to tell anyone. I continued to keep all of it a secret.

By the time I reached puberty, I was being molested by people close to me. I was so shy that I had trouble expressing any romantic interests with boys my own age, so I never had any meaningful relationships. When I had what I thought was my first sexual encounter at age 16, I was humiliated when the 21-year-old man practically laughed out loud because I had told him that I was a virgin. After that incident I was accosted and raped by several older teenagers. What I never realized throughout any of this was that all this was happening because I had been abused as a young child. It just never connected. I never knew how to fight back to stop the abuse and was still afraid to tell others, for fear of not being believed or being ostracized for being a victim.

Soon after these events, I moved away to try and start a new life. Within me was the inkling of knowledge that I would one day find harmony in my life. But there seemed to be no way to stop the pattern of abuse that I had accepted. By my mid-20’s I had become a battered woman as my life kept spiraling downward. When I reached a crisis point, I finally looked for and found help from someone who made me look at myself in a whole new perspective.

At that point I was in a similar position as the lady that prompted me to post this today. Years ago, when it was suggested that I should forgive myself, it seemed almost impossible. My approach was to review the different aspects of how the abuse had affected me. I realized that I felt great shame, loss of dignity and very little self-esteem. My shyness and lack of confidence had prevented me from having meaningful relationships. Somehow, I even felt guilty because I had allowed the abuse to continue until it was life threatening. I had to reconcile with myself in order to remove those destructive emotional memories from my being.

In order to begin to forgive myself, I had to acknowledge that I was unique, that I had purpose and that I was worthy of happiness. And I had to believe it. Then I could forgive myself for having accepted the abuse, even though I really couldn’t have prevented it as a very young child. The best way for me to fight back against that breach of my free will was to believe that I could become the person that I truly am inside, and to eliminate the fear, guilt and other negative emotions that lingered from the abuse events and their aftermath.

Once I was able to accept myself as I was at that moment, it began a ripple effect. I was then able to forgive myself, and that enabled me to start loving myself. That’s when I accepted that I could interact with my spirit (soul) and started to work with it. I have regained my dignity and, when I look in the mirror, I see my inner beauty reflected back.

I still continue to forgive myself whenever I think, react or behave in ways that trouble me, in order to create a fresh starting point that allows me to once again move forward in a positive direction.