It's supposed to get below freezing tonight (snow! ) and she'd asked Dad to go unscrew the hoses from their spigots while it was still warm enough that they weren't frozen. As he's rather prone to doing, he put it off, and so I offered to go do it for her as it really needs to be done.

"No, let your father do it, he said he was going to."

Yes, that he did, but if it doesn't get done tonight and the hoses freeze while still attached...

"But it's too cold out there! You'll hurt your hands because it's so cold and they're screwed on so tight!"

...And if it's not done NOW it's just going to be put off and the bloody things will freeze!

"Oh fine, go do it then, but it's SO COLD out there!"

Actually, no, it wasn't all that cold - I didn't even need a coat - and the hoses weren't attached anywhere near as tightly as she was making it out to be. To which she only said "Oh." and went back to watching videos.

When my daughter Peanut hangs around her friends, their parents always comment about how wonderful it is to have Peanut around because she's so polite and respectful and she makes their children behave better.

So why is it that when we bring her home from hanging around with her friends, she's demanding and obnoxious? Sometimes I wonder if I accidentally left my polite, respectful child at her friend's house and brought back the wrong kid.

I get the same thing. One woman who used to have them over a bit in our old neighborhood would praise their manners and the fact that they'd throw things away, take their shoes off without asking and put toys away when they were done without being asked.

And then at home I practically have to plead on my knees to get them to do what they're told.

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Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

It's supposed to get below freezing tonight (snow! ) and she'd asked Dad to go unscrew the hoses from their spigots while it was still warm enough that they weren't frozen. As he's rather prone to doing, he put it off, and so I offered to go do it for her as it really needs to be done.

"No, let your father do it, he said he was going to."

Yes, that he did, but if it doesn't get done tonight and the hoses freeze while still attached...

"But it's too cold out there! You'll hurt your hands because it's so cold and they're screwed on so tight!"

...And if it's not done NOW it's just going to be put off and the bloody things will freeze!

"Oh fine, go do it then, but it's SO COLD out there!"

Actually, no, it wasn't all that cold - I didn't even need a coat - and the hoses weren't attached anywhere near as tightly as she was making it out to be. To which she only said "Oh." and went back to watching videos.

Argh. *rests head on desk* Such a little thing, seriously, but argh.

Thanks for the reminder! I'd completely forgotten about my hose attached in the back. Must shut off the valve and disconnect it tomorrow.

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After cleaning out my Dad's house, I have this advice: If you haven't used it in a year, throw it out!!!!.

It's supposed to get below freezing tonight (snow! ) and she'd asked Dad to go unscrew the hoses from their spigots while it was still warm enough that they weren't frozen. As he's rather prone to doing, he put it off, and so I offered to go do it for her as it really needs to be done.

"No, let your father do it, he said he was going to."

Yes, that he did, but if it doesn't get done tonight and the hoses freeze while still attached...

"But it's too cold out there! You'll hurt your hands because it's so cold and they're screwed on so tight!"

...And if it's not done NOW it's just going to be put off and the bloody things will freeze!

"Oh fine, go do it then, but it's SO COLD out there!"

Actually, no, it wasn't all that cold - I didn't even need a coat - and the hoses weren't attached anywhere near as tightly as she was making it out to be. To which she only said "Oh." and went back to watching videos.

Argh. *rests head on desk* Such a little thing, seriously, but argh.

Thanks for the reminder! I'd completely forgotten about my hose attached in the back. Must shut off the valve and disconnect it tomorrow.

I seem to have developed the sleeping patterns of a new born. I can barley keep my eyes open in the day but hit 9pm and I'm A.W.A.K.E!! I stay that way till 3 or 4 am (last night was 5.30 ) then i have to get up at 7.30am with Baby Girl.

I am trying really hard not to nap and i don't drink caffeine anyway. It's driving me mad. I can't think, can't focus and have no energy for anything.

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“For too long, we've assumed that there is a single template for human nature, which is why we diagnose most deviations as disorders. But the reality is that there are many different kinds of minds. And that's a very good thing.” - Jonah Lehrer

This is fairly minor, but I hate it when my cross stitch thread tangles while I'm working. I have to stop what I'm doing, remove the needle from the thread, use the point to fiddle with the knot, and occasionally cut the thread on either side of the knot because it's is too tight.

And again, water on the sink. I'm going to start putting the toothpaste tube under the vanity to see if my dad gets the hint. (Well, no I won't. It's passive aggressive, and it won't work anyway. But it's tempting.)

This is fairly minor, but I hate it when my cross stitch thread tangles while I'm working. I have to stop what I'm doing, remove the needle from the thread, use the point to fiddle with the knot, and occasionally cut the thread on either side of the knot because it's is too tight.

And again, water on the sink. I'm going to start putting the toothpaste tube under the vanity to see if my dad gets the hint. (Well, no I won't. It's passive aggressive, and it won't work anyway. But it's tempting.)

What kind of floss are you using? I've sworn off kits because they always seem to use the cheaper brands that knot easily and stick with DMC though sometimes that will knot too but not as often.

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Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here. Be cheerful, strive to be happy. -Desiderata

Well I'm working on a kit too, I'll admit. It's the last one I'll do though. I did however find a website that provides a chart so you can see which DMC colors match the kit colors so you can use them instead and when I needed more thread I just went and bought the DMC equivalent.

When my daughter Peanut hangs around her friends, their parents always comment about how wonderful it is to have Peanut around because she's so polite and respectful and she makes their children behave better.

So why is it that when we bring her home from hanging around with her friends, she's demanding and obnoxious? Sometimes I wonder if I accidentally left my polite, respectful child at her friend's house and brought back the wrong kid.

I'm starting to have it up to here *motion hand way above my head* with my SO recent streak of reproach and complain about how I do stuff.You'd think I was a 3 year old who never do it right. Then he finds out that it was the right way, or that I knew what I was doing all along or that there's quite a good reason I'm doing it that way and all that. He did apologize and told me he doesn't know why he is doing it, that he realize he's doing something stupid just as he's saying it.I'm usually someone who let this kind of stuff slide, when it's once in a while, but now I tell him off everytime so that he realize how stupid he's being.I'm also someone who never points out peoples errors after it happened (like harping on and on about that time you almost burned down the theater or something), but I have to actually remind myself and keep track of when he eff it up so that I can remind him he's not the know-all and flawless person he pretends to be. Reminding him about the time he almost set the table on fire at the theatre works...

This approach is starting to work, still need some time, but he's going to get into trouble with me if he keep it up. I might also stop reminding him about everything he has to do (it's not a nannying way, he really does forget everything, from taking his pills to doing X, so he asks me to remind him) so that he can suffer some consequences for once.How do you teach diplomacy to someone who has close to no people skills? At least he's aware of it..