Boys Just Wanna Have Fun. As Fake Lesbians.

June 14, 2011

Transbian "Butch" blogger Tobi Hill-Meyer

You’re not even gonna BELIEVE this one. About four years ago while looking for Lesbian sites on the internet I was confused by a site called LezGetReal. By all appearances it seemed to be one of the most active Lesbian blogs on the internet. But something seemed off about it. Like the fact that contributors all had big giant hair. And tons of makeup. And the articles were more often about M2T transgenders than Lesbians. And that it seemed strangely off key, non reflective of any Lesbian community I had every been a part of. And the fact that none of my friends ever posted on it. I was quickly informed that LezGetReal was a proxy site– a Lesbian proxy site, or more accurately, a Transbian site where transgendered males pretended to be Lesbians. A site for “Trykes”. But not for out proud Transbians, but for ones that thought they were “on the down low”: Stealth. I haven’t gone back to it in years although it pops up with annoying frequency on internet searches of Lesbian issues.

WELL WELL WELL. Come to find out, courtesy of The Washington Post: The editor of LezGetReal, Paula Brooks “is actually Bill Graber, 58, a retired Ohio military man and construction worker who said he had adopted his wife’s identity online. Graber said she was unaware he had been using her name on his site.

Brooks’s identity came under suspicion after news broke that a woman called Amina Arraf on the blog “A Gay Girl in Damascus” might not really be a Syrian lesbian.

Over the weekend, as journalists, bloggers and fans of Amina hunted for clues to the identity behind the blog, Brooks came under review as a possible suspect. Liz Henry, a Web producer at BlogHer.com, questioned Brooks’s involvement with Amina, as Amina had started to write about the Syrian uprising on Lez Get Real before starting her own blog.

MacMaster came forward Sunday to admit that he was behind the persona of Amina, but questions still remained about Brooks.

Brooks had told reporters at The Washington Post that she could only speak on the phone through her father because she was deaf. She provided a photograph of her license as proof of her identity, which showed a woman named Paula Brooks.

On Monday, we continued to question her identity. We spoke to the man who identified himself as her father, who finally admitted after numerous telephone conversations: “I am Paula Brooks.” That man turned out to be Bill Graber.

Graber said he started the site to write about gay issues after seeing the mistreatment of close friends who were a lesbian couple. He said the site was “done with the best of intentions.” As a former Air Force pilot, he also said he used the site to argue in favor of the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell repeal.

“I didn’t start this with my name because… I thought people wouldn’t take it seriously, me being a straight man,” he said.

He felt secure that no one would discover his true identity until the story of Amina started to unravel. He said his connection to Amina was purely coincidental and started when Amina commented on a post on the Lez Get Real site in February. It “was a major sock-puppet hoax crash into a major sock-puppet hoax.”

In the guise of Paula Brooks, Graber corresponded online with Tom MacMaster, thinking he was writing to Amina Arraf. Amina often flirted with Brooks, neither of the men realizing the other was pretending to be a lesbian.”

"Lesbian" Editor of "Lesbian" website LezGetReal: Bill Graber

Holy shit. Men will go to ANY LENGTHS to play Lesbian, to infiltrate the Lesbian community, to colonize, co-opt, pollute, dilute, ruin, and destroy the Lesbian community. And always the same excuse “I just wanted to have access to a community which excluded me as a heterosexual man”. “I wanted to force my way into a community of women”. “I wanted to feel like one of them”.

Yeah, Lez DO “GET REAL” fellas. I wonder what percentage of online Lesbians are actually female. And IRL also. All the creepos and lurkers so famous for frequenting dyke bars are putting on their “women suits” to bully their way into Lesbian space where they are not wanted. Or jerking off at home playing with their sock puppets.

Yes, men think that lesbians must be just like men, because we choose to have sex with women instead of them, and that’s all the reasoning they are able to manage in the shallow flicker that passes for intelligence. Ergo, they think it must be easy for a man to impersonate a lesbian. When these men converse with each other, they do not realize they are talking to another man. But, honestly, it just takes a few sentences for a woman to figure it out.

cherryblossomlife, one of these creeps actually conducted a several months long online relationship with a lesbian from Canada who believed he was who he said he was (“gay girl in Damascus”). When asked by the press whether he did it for “sexual excitement”, he says he “doesn’t really want to get into that”. I guess we should all respect his boundaries and his privacies, just like he…. oh, wait.

LOL. The “woman” who claims “she” is taking over the site from Bill Graber who calls themselves Bridgette Pauline Lavictoire is ALSO a man. Used to go by the name “Sei” before he adopted the Bridgette Pauline persona.

zmog … yes, we start to worry who is actually female and who isn’t. That exchange on Heather’s blog was enlightening. There was something “off” about his writing style and manner. In hindsight, it made absolute sense.

Anyway, I can assure everyone that I am 100% female, even though I call myself my twanz name of Dave the Squirrel. To point out the ridiculousness of jendah identities.

Imagine the reaction if any of those hip, cool, queer-identified women with a fetish for gay men posed online as a gay man in Afghanistan or Iran kidnapped by religious extremists. There’d be hell to pay.

From the Wall Street Journal, June 14, 2012:

“An international outpouring of concern turned to anger and demands for restitution of donated funds when it was revealed that Abdullah ibn Malik, whose shocking accounts of torture and sexual violation from within a Taliban stronghold somewhere north of Kandahar aroused the sympathy and indignation of human rights activists the world over, turned out to be none other than maverick cultural critic and journalistic gadfly Camille Paglia, who had been posting “ibn Malik’s” blog entries from an internet café in New York’s Greenwich VIllage. Noted author and sexuality activist Tristan Taormino has come forward to say that she engaged in an online flirtation with Paglia’s Afghan alter ego under the name HotMuscleGlutes.”

Every gay blogger and his dog would be denouncing them for trivializing the lives of gay men. So far, I haven’t seen any comment on the “big” sites about how this trivializes the real dangers faced by real women. There have been some murmerings about the evils of journalistic hoaxes, but so far, you’re the only one to point out the elephant in the room — that this is a creepy, fetishistic hoax, and that that has real-life repercussions for actual lesbians.

Ok, so I followed a bunch of links about this. Wow, what a convoluted bunch of crap. Apparently there are two other “people” involved one is this Bridgette LaVictoire (a man) and also Brigette’s mother, Linda S. Carbonell, who is deaf, just like Paula-Bill was deaf. These are folks taking over the Lez Get Real website or something. h ttp://oblogdeeoblogda.wordpress.com/2011/06/13/paula-brooks-from-lezgetreal-is-a-man-straight-man-fraud-in-the-lesbian-world/

I also read a conspiracy theory related to intelligence agencies that were anti-semitic and trying to influence Middle East politics with the Syrian lesbian blogger. U.S. intelligence agencies and other countries. Strange, to say the least. . .

As has been noted on some of those blogs, it does damage to the online lesbian presence. Confuses and divides. Well, if that presence is gaining in strength, of course there will be people who try to disrupt it. I guess that this could be anyone from an individual man who is lesbophobic to some anti-lesbian extremist misogynist political group (right-wing).

Destroying lesbian, feminist, women-only space? Who could it be? Oh. wait. I think I know. . . they must be men.

These dudes aren’t very smart. All they needed to do was say that they I-dentify as lesbians and we’d all be commanded to make sure we never again erase the straight white male Syrian lesbian blogger experience.

If a mere (admittedly poorly-worded) headline about a story that has nothing to do with transanything is immediately considered transphobic, imagine how the funfem universe of self-identity, ineffectual harm reduction, and dude inclusion would FUCKING IMPLODE on itself if one of these assholes just said that they “always felt like” women. And how many feminists would raise a skeptical eyebrow and start reading the radfems blogs for some insight?

Unbelievable. If anyone needed more proof of what you are saying, check out the comment thread on this post at PamsHouseBlend- another “Lesbian” site that has been completely taken over by Male Lesbian Proxies. http://www.pamshouseblend.com/diary/19444/paula-brooks-editor-of-lez-get-real-is-also-a-straight-cisgendered-man
These men care NOTHING about women or Lesbians, just freak out over how this news impacts the trannies. One commenter, Joann Prinzivalli, a fellow who is suing the city of NY to allow him to change his birth certificate to female even though he has no intention of getting a sex change, actually floats the idea that perhaps the fake lesbians bloggers are transgendered men like himself – which he feels would make them actual lesbian bloggers.

*NOTE to any hetero mainstream media – NO LESBIANS READ OR COMMENT ON PAM’S HOUSE BLEND BECAUSE IT IS A TRANSBIAN SITE COMPLETELY TAKEN OVER BY MEN. I don’t think the media realizes that Lesbians KNEW “LezGetReal” was a fake Lesbian site FOR YEARS prior. The same way we KNOW Pam’s House Blend is a site for males who “want to be one of us”. LESBIANS HAVE SHUNNED BOTH OF THOSE SITES – AND BILERCO TOO- FOR YEARSSSSSSSSSSS- FOR THIS VERY REASON. There is the REAL story, mainstream media. The REAL story is the vast colonization and destruction of the Lesbian community by Transbians and Trykes.

LOL! That actually sounds kind of fun. I’d like to spoof some progressive liberal dudes and women’s studies professors. The kind that strongly support abortion and a woman’s right to reclaim the word “slut.” Also the kind that is a great hero and expects heaps of praise and admiration when he points out sexism and thinks you really should thank him by viewing his penis pictures and talking about oral sex.

Thanks for speaking up on this and exposing this. It came up on Facebook as well. REAL DYKES KNOW, or we’ll figure out eventually when we’re talking to a dude..whether ‘formerly male(mtf)’ or still male. The male brain is the male brain no matter what you’ve cosmetically done to your body, and cuz of your sexism you still treat us the same: like we should ALLOW your infiltration and think it’s ‘cute’, or believe you’re a ‘lesbian’ because you’ve changed your driver’s license. NOT!

Geez, these guys must think we are idiots. Guys can’t “fake” not being the sexists they are. There is no way they can turn it off, or be other than an oppressor, and it comes to the surface very very fast. We get female impersonators on the blogs all the time, but they are quite obvious to me. You can’t have conversations with men, it is a waste of time, because they aren’t even feminists, much less their fettishized idea of what a lesbian is. Sheesh the stuff we have to deal with these days. Let’s get back to plain old lesbian nation thank you very much…pretty simple womyn!

Oh shoot, you figured it out, I’m really a male pretending to be a lesbian. Should I pull up my pants so my sexism doesn’t show? :p

I haven’t met a man yet who didn’t claim to be a lesbian. Apparently men think lesbian = sex with women.

As usual, you’re right on the money, SheilaG. Men can’t fake being sexist no matter what they claim to be. It comes from a lifetime of privilege and entitlement and being catered to. More obvious is how warped and perverted they are when it comes to sex and gender roles. All fantasy, no basis in reality. Due to the consequences (or should I say, lack of?), only males can afford to play. Women, oth, are keenly aware of how dire the consequences can be if they were to behave in such a way.