OT - SIL rant...

I feel so sorry for my brother. if he leaves her no one will blame him. My SIL and her brothers decided to bring their 7 yo. nephew up from california. their sister (his mom) is going to jail for 8 years (drugs i think). It was mostly the brothers (Ronnie and Kyle) idea to do this. Kyle has a baby on the way with his wife (due in may) and Ronnie is supposed to be responsible for the kid. he is collecting money for him anyways. All while this kid is living at my brothers house. My bro has a 3 yo. demon child already. My bro and SIL work full time and their son is in daycare. they live right next to the elementary school that the 7yo is attending now. SIL keeps saying she wants another child but their son is a tyrant and my bro says no way. He comes home after work and has to be with his kid (which was fine, its his kid) but now add the 7yo who is manipulative and a bigger pain in the ass that the 3yo. and is not his kid. was not his idea. he was against it. So far Ronnie has taken the kid a couple of times. Kyle makes false promises but hasn't done anything with him. My bro is the one who is taking care of him basically. I think its great when families help out family but taking advantage of people is not cool. My brother seriously needs time for himself, he is so depressed i can tell. he is going to lose it.. it was bad enough with his own kid (but thats him and his wifes own fault for letting the kid get away with EVERYTHING) But the 7yo is a big boy. he is so rough with their son which just teaches their kid thats ok. I don't think their marriage is going to last. it was strained before the nephew came up. They share their bed with their son. always have. the kid is 3 now .. time to move him to the big boy bed. My brother disciplines his son.. but she contradicts him and lets the kid do what he wants and he lets her. She does the same with the nephew. She and her family drive me insane. they always take advantage of my bro and my parents too. ugh! I want to get my brother out of there so bad! She keeps saying she wants to babysit my lo. hell no. You ruined your own kid your not going to f*up mine too. sorry there is a lot more to this story just hard to type it all out lol. ok rant over

I feel so sorry for my brother. if he leaves her no one will blame him. My SIL and her brothers decided to bring their 7 yo. nephew up from california. their sister (his mom) is going to jail for 8 years (drugs i think). It was mostly the brothers (Ronnie and Kyle) idea to do this. Kyle has a baby on the way with his wife (due in may) and Ronnie is supposed to be responsible for the kid. he is collecting money for him anyways. All while this kid is living at my brothers house. My bro has a 3 yo. demon child already. My bro and SIL work full time and their son is in daycare. they live right next to the elementary school that the 7yo is attending now. SIL keeps saying she wants another child but their son is a tyrant and my bro says no way. He comes home after work and has to be with his kid (which was fine, its his kid) but now add the 7yo who is manipulative and a bigger pain in the ass that the 3yo. and is not his kid. was not his idea. he was against it. So far Ronnie has taken the kid a couple of times. Kyle makes false promises but hasn't done anything with him. My bro is the one who is taking care of him basically. I think its great when families help out family but taking advantage of people is not cool. My brother seriously needs time for himself, he is so depressed i can tell. he is going to lose it.. it was bad enough with his own kid (but thats him and his wifes own fault for letting the kid get away with EVERYTHING) But the 7yo is a big boy. he is so rough with their son which just teaches their kid thats ok. I don't think their marriage is going to last. it was strained before the nephew came up. They share their bed with their son. always have. the kid is 3 now .. time to move him to the big boy bed. My brother disciplines his son.. but she contradicts him and lets the kid do what he wants and he lets her. She does the same with the nephew. She and her family drive me insane. they always take advantage of my bro and my parents too. ugh! I want to get my brother out of there so bad! She keeps saying she wants to babysit my lo. hell no. You ruined your own kid your not going to f*up mine too. sorry there is a lot more to this story just hard to type it all out lol. ok rant over

No offense intended but your brother is a big boy. He needs to put in his big boy britches and do what he needs to do. It's not your problem and you need to put your energy towards you an your LO, that's plenty of stress right there. I know it sucks when family is taken advantage of but you can't fix it for him and frankly it isn't your job. But for sure don't let her watch your LO.

No offense intended but your brother is a big boy. He needs to put in his big boy britches and do what he needs to do. It's not your problem and you need to put your energy towards you an your LO, that's plenty of stress right there. I know it sucks when family is taken advantage of but you can't fix it for him and frankly it isn't your job. But for sure don't let her watch your LO.

Oh I know this.. It just Pisses me off because he says no from the get go. His wife makes the decision regardless. I was there 2 months ago when he told her that he didn't want the nephew living with them. She says it will only be for a couple weeks.. He knows it won't be for just a couple weeks.. The same thing happened when one of her brothers moved up here. Only for a month.. 2 years later he finally moved out. He wouldn't hold a job for long enough. (same bro that is supposed to be responsible for the nephew) I agree he needs to put on his big boy pants and lay down the law. But the problem is she won't listen. She thinks she owes it to them because she was smart enough not to get into drugs like her parents and sister. Her grandpa raised her and her uncle raised the two boys. Oh and here is icing on the cake. The sister has a 15yo daughter... That is pregnant. She wants to bring her up here too! One big happy family.. my bro said if that happens he is leaving.

Oh I know this.. It just Pisses me off because he says no from the get go. His wife makes the decision regardless. I was there 2 months ago when he told her that he didn't want the nephew living with them. She says it will only be for a couple weeks.. He knows it won't be for just a couple weeks.. The same thing happened when one of her brothers moved up here. Only for a month.. 2 years later he finally moved out. He wouldn't hold a job for long enough. (same bro that is supposed to be responsible for the nephew) I agree he needs to put on his big boy pants and lay down the law. But the problem is she won't listen. She thinks she owes it to them because she was smart enough not to get into drugs like her parents and sister. Her grandpa raised her and her uncle raised the two boys. Oh and here is icing on the cake. The sister has a 15yo daughter... That is pregnant. She wants to bring her up here too! One big happy family.. my bro said if that happens he is leaving.

It sounds like your sister in law has a messed up family but that's not the kids fault. He needs some stability. Also, your brother is grown up and his problems are his to deal with. My family has issues too but the only ones I feel sorry for are the kids that get caught up in the adults messes.

It sounds like your sister in law has a messed up family but that's not the kids fault. He needs some stability. Also, your brother is grown up and his problems are his to deal with. My family has issues too but the only ones I feel sorry for are the kids that get caught up in the adults messes.

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