Everyone including my DH thinks my daughter is spoiled...I'm so sick of it!

She is now 5 months and she only likes to be held by me , she doesnt take a bottle only nurses on demand and she wants to be held every waking hour. I carry her in either a wrap or sling and she's very happy but the moment I put her down she screams bloody murder! My husband says that I made her this way, but honestly ... she came out this way and I just felt that I was responding to her needs. Has anyone BTDT? I need some words of wisdom. Please give me some input.

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I used to be told that all the time! My canned response to it was that something spoils when you set it on a shelf and leave it alone. My DD is well loved because her needs are met and she is well taken care of. :)

My 4 month old DS just started wanting to be held constantly (and not worn) too. He is getting heavy, so it is a bit difficult. I try to get him to be other places, but in mine or DH's arms is where he prefers.

Just had to pipe in my ds wouldn't let anyone but me hold him until 8 months when he started crawling. I have a video of me doing cake with my 2 year old at her birthday party just before that. My dh held him just for that second so I could focus on dd and all you hear on the video is him screeeaaaming while we sing happy birthday. Then I run over and get him and he stops instantly. It happens. Don't listen to people they are just jealous your lo isn't all over them. At 10 months my ds has gone back to preferring me but there were a few weeks where he actually cried if my dh, who was never even allowed to hold him, left the room.
On another note, my dd was parented exactly the same - nursed on demand, held 24/7- and she absolutely loved my dh and actually preferred my MIL over anyone until she was a toddler. It really is not something for anyone to take personally. And they're going to grow out of everything in a few years anyway!

It's the motn here and I'm lying in bed with my 15 week old daughter, and this post brought tears to my eyes. You all have said exactly the right things to reassure this momma that I am doing what my baby needs. So much advice tells me to put her in crib so she learns to sleep alone, to put her in swing to nap, to watch out fit nursing to sleep as it creates bad habits. I just can't. She has only really cried twice in her life: at birth and when she had a shot. Otherwise she is a happy zen baby who is mostly carried and held by people who love her. I can't imagine putting her in another room at night. Heck, if I watch a scary movie, then I can't sleep alone and I'm 42! I shouldn't expect my baby to.

Thank you btdt mommas for the sage words and reinforcement. I'm so glad I found this board. :)

I cant stand when people say that babies this young can be spoiled. They're babies!!!! My dd wanted to be held all the time when she was a baby to the poit that i developed wrist and thumb pain. My parents made fun of me... But i dont care, i think they are kidding themselves if they think that they would let her cry and not pick her up!!! If my baby wants to be held, i will hold them.

I plan to baby wear more with this child. I did it with DD but not as much as i would like. Now that i have a toddler, i hope baby wearin will help me be more hands free.