Slut shaming?

I guess I’m a bit baffled why so many people – especially women – are okay with a new term that’s been coined: Slut shaming. While I very much get the premise behind it, and agree whole-heartedly that women shouldn’t be shamed for their sexuality, I cannot fathom why so many are getting behind this ridiculous term.

By saying someone has been “slut-shamed”, you are, in essence, calling her a slut. Isn’t that exactly what you’re fighting against?? By using this term, we’re giving more of a backhanded compliment – and that’s the nicest thing I could come up with. We’re telling women that, if you’re a slut, you shouldn’t be shamed. WTF, people?? How have we become so damned stupid? Are we really okay with being called a slut? Are we really okay with our daughters being called sluts?

I’m certainly no prude and I find it insane that, even today, that absurd double standard is still in place. You know the one. It tells us that men can screw around with as many women as they want and even be lauded for it, yet women are expected to keep their legs crossed. I’ve never quite understood how that whole thing even makes sense because, after all, if the women kept their legs crossed, how could those studly men be out showing off their prowess? But, I digress.

Why can’t we instead use something that’s a bit more woman and girl friendly, like sex shamed or something of that nature? Yeah, I realize it’s truly generic and it certainly doesn’t make polite society gasp as they do at the word “slut” being thrown about, but why can’t we think about the underlying message we’re actually sending for once? If we’re truly concerned for our girls, we’ll stop calling them sluts.