These are Indian men in India.She is clearly Indian and Black. Look at her silky hair. That trait is from the Indian part

But HELLO!!!! The point is NOT TO DATE WHITE MEN !!! Anyone home?? Dear GOD! Blacks are so color struck that you totally miss the point of the article or didn't even read it. Just saw the word mixed and made a whole other topic than the op on whether she is mixed or not. OMG! Very short sighted. I would be embarrassed for anyone to read your many pages of NON RESPONSIVE responses. They would say you all either have emotional hangups or are illiterate because you are missing the point of the article.... Dont date white men bc you will be treated like a ho whether you are decent or not.

These are Indian men in India.She is clearly Indian and Black. Look at her silky hair. That trait is from the Indian part

But HELLO!!!! The point is NOT TO DATE WHITE MEN !!! Anyone home?? Dear GOD! Blacks are so color struck that you totally miss the point of the article or didn't even read it. Just saw the word mixed and made a whole other topic than the op on whether she is mixed or not. OMG! Very short sighted. I would be embarrassed for anyone to read your many pages of NON RESPONSIVE responses. They would say you all either have emotional hangups or are illiterate because you are missing the point of the article.... Dont date white men bc you will be treated like a ho whether you are decent or not.

Hardly anyone bothered to stick to the topic which was the objectification (or not, depending on your point of view) of black women. At the end of the day, who cares if she's mixed or not? From the initial pictures that were posted, she didn't look mixed. But that was never the point of the post in the first place. 17 pages of nonsense

Glad I missed this thread. I get why some posters discussed her appearance though. It goes towards her views of herself, her Blackness, and her self-acceptance. Men take you are seriously as you take yourself. I'm not mad at the author, if she felt objectified by White men, then White men aren't for her. My concern is that if she doesn't identify why she is feeling objectified, then the race of her dating pool will be irrelevant. She will continue to have the same struggles. I wish her the best though.

Glad I missed this thread. I get why some posters discussed her appearance though. It goes towards her views of herself, her Blackness, and her self-acceptance. Men take you are seriously as you take yourself. I'm not mad at the author, if she felt objectified by White men, then White men aren't for her. My concern is that if she doesn't identify why she is feeling objectified, then the race of her dating pool will be irrelevant. She will continue to have the same struggles. I wish her the best though.

but she did identify why she is feeling objectified no?

and she specifically identified a particular race no?

its everyone else trying to divert this from white men to making it about her, her looks, her behaviour and alleged naivety

Glad I missed this thread. I get why some posters discussed her appearance though. It goes towards her views of herself, her Blackness, and her self-acceptance. Men take you are seriously as you take yourself. I'm not mad at the author, if she felt objectified by White men, then White men aren't for her. My concern is that if she doesn't identify why she is feeling objectified, then the race of her dating pool will be irrelevant. She will continue to have the same struggles. I wish her the best though.

but she did identify why she is feeling objectified no?

and she specifically identified a particular race no?

its everyone else trying to divert this from white men to making it about her, her looks, her behaviour and alleged naivety

No. I think it is naive to ignore the racial undertones of her article. How she views herself and how she wants others to view her directly relate to her interactions and her relationships. It isn't about pointing the finger for me. As I said, if she doesn't like White men, she shouldn't date them. But she does need to address why she was bothered by how she was being viewed and how she expected that to influence her interactions. I just don't want her to write an article a year from now titled, "Why Black men are Out," and then so on and so forth. It isn't that she pointed the finger at White men, it is that she tied it to her racial ambiguity that makes me question how and why they relate. I have no problem with anyone's dating preferences. I wish her well though. Dating in this era sucks.

Hardly anyone bothered to stick to the topic which was the objectification (or not, depending on your point of view) of black women. At the end of the day, who cares if she's mixed or not? From the initial pictures that were posted, she didn't look mixed. But that was never the point of the post in the first place. 17 pages of nonsense

yeah that shipped sailed a long time ago..

I agree that Black women are objectified. I just don't think it is limited to a race. I relate more to White men being condescending (see Don West ) or being prejudice, or treating Black women unequally in the workplace. I just find sexual objectification to be an issue that crosses racial boundaries, but maybe that is just me. If that is her experience, who am I to tell her it isn't valid. I just suggested that she look more deeply into the issue.

Full Blown black is a new one....If she told me she was a blk woman id say ok if she says shes mixed id say ok....Meh. The only reason folk would say she doesnt look "full blown" is because of her hair texture.....as i said the chick in that gif said she was mixed to... but folks and google pics for her...

As far as what she is speaking on What she has said is nothing that hasnt been said or discussed here before. There is absolutely nothing wrong to not having the least bit of attraction to someone who doesnt look like you. If those are the type of men that she is encountering then by all means don't date them. Objectification from men will continue to happen regardless and its not racially exclusive. Especially if you are whats "different".

A poster here was talking about how no black dudes ever wanted to date because she was tall and slim but had no issue trying to smash yet when she went to uni she was getting all this attention from white men. She saw this as them (WM) appreciating her more. When in fact it was simply the flip side of the same damn coin. Maybe their approach was different or maybe she saw it threw a romanticized rosy lens glasses ... i dunnoAll I do know is there are aint sh!t ppl of every race if you believe other wise youre setting yourself up for great disappointment. The writer of this blog will be fine. I wish her and her subscribers the best in their mixed girl struggle...

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