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I'm often a little wary or concerned when asked to create this forum, because I'm afraid that it will feed the self injury behavior rather than be a support or help to its members.

Having said that, I did create the room and hope that all of you make supportive, helpful, and as positive as possible use of it. I hope you find it helpful to talk to one another to find a way to reduce the self injury behavior, rather than just sharing it with one another.

Please take care of yourself and each other.

Best,
John

PS - Please use the trigger icon for your post if it has triggering material in it. This is new as of August, 2003. Thank you and take care.

Thanks Doc John. This is a topic that I am ashamed to talk to anybody...even my T. When he brings it up I gloss over it and manipulate the conversation away from it. It is funny because in most things he is tenacious and will not allow me to do that but with this issue he lets it slide. Perhaps he is as uncomfortable with it as I am or perhaps he can sense that talking about it with him will send me over the edge. As with everything I have worked on in therapy I have come here with it first. So perhaps it is time.
Take care and thanks again,
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos

I know most people can be afraid and weary about talking about self harm,But in a way its kind of a good thing to have somewhere to go to talk openly and get advice.I find It very hard To talk to my parents and am Not seeing anyone For what I do to myself So Its alot better Knowing that I can talk without feeling Rejected or put down......So thankyou once again For making This forum

Thank you DocJohn..self harm isn't exactly a hot topic for discussion among my family and I don't go outside so it's nice to find somewhere where I can talk to people about it. Although I stopped self harming around a year ago I have recently began to want to do it again, mainly due to the fact that my depression is still hanging over me. But I am glad to have found somewhere to talk.

I agree with you there,It is not hot topic in my family too my dad seems to think that its a discraceful Behaviour,And that he wont allow it in his house......!!!!!! Im sorry but he has not got a choice come to think of it neither have I???

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Re: Welcome to the self injury room

Thanks for letting us have this space. It helps to know that we aren't alone, and it is a subject that not just anybody wants to or can talk about. Even my T. doesn't ever bring it up - he'll talk about it if I bring it up, but I know that he would rather talk about something else.

(I did get a new account. It's me - Wendy.)

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We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.
 John H. Groberg

On some level I feel a little guilty that I was the one who suggested a self injury board and I want to echo DocJohn's concerns--it can be a sensitive topic and it still kind of upsets me even though I haven't injured in 2 years

but that said I hope y'all will benefit from this board--and if you need any thing let me know--

<font color=purple> Whatever you can do, or believe you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
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I have been on the net since almost before AOL started, so you might say I have seen/heard of and read of everything, but recently I am seeing more and more forums devoted to totally bizarre things I can't fathom, I mean tatoos were bad enough... Maybe Dr Grohol can type some kind of professional opinion as a mental health practitioner.

Without going into details, I am seeing forums like personal web sites, blogs, postings, photos, entire forums just like this one with dozens or hundreds of users, and that sort of thing describing the author's fettish/want for etc., torture, pain, serious permanent self surgery such as becoming a eunich or worse, piercing, mutilation, amputation, slavery, being severely spanked, being humiliated, being treated like a dog, and seriously disturbing things involving body waste, injections and so on.

I find this stuff and I just can't believe it, and over and over I can't help but ask myself what is wrong with these people????

To me I see some serious psychological problems that I am certain go to early childhood, especially the spanking to the point where there is actual skin damage!
I thought I saw everything and I'm real open minded but this kind of thing is absolutely something that cries out; HELP ME!!!!!

I can't possibly think of anything other than that- some severe childhood trauma the person may not even remember, and a cry for help coming out in adulthood manifesting itself with these kinds of self-defeating damaging activities.

I can sort of understand "cutting" as it applies to people who might be HERE, depressed etc, but that is not what I'm seeing, I'm seeing more of a boastfull "Hey, look what I did, isn't that cool!!"

I don't get it, anyone want to offer some insite from a professional perspective?