Is The Torah Relevant to My Life?

When I first meet with new bar or bat mitzvah students, I ask them to please define some simple terms in Judaism, terms that are familiar to them. This is a challenging exercise, one that teaches at the outset that simplicity does not imply ease.

One of the words I ask my young charges to define is "Torah." The question escapes my lips; a dubious smile appears on the youngster's face. I allow the question to linger in the air. Usually, an awkward silence ensues. Guesses are launched and shot down in succession, as eyes scan walls and ceilings for traces of a clue or perhaps a hidden portal home... Finally, both teacher and student embrace the stark reality and glorious respite brought about by three simple words: "I don't know."

The word Torah means "instruction." Another way of saying that is "teaching."

The Torah is not meant to be a history bookThe ability to summon up the correct definition to the word "Torah" may not be as important as the ability to properly contextualize the Torah in our lives, but these may in fact be two sides of the same coin. In other words: how many of us can say that Torah is the primary source of "instruction" or "teaching" in our lives?

If we were to list the areas of greatest concern in our lives (or things that take up the most space in our lives) we would find a diversity of items. Some things, however, I am sure would be quite common to many of us. They might be:

marriage and dating

career and money

happiness

health

children

recreation and fun

personal development

education

politics

friends and relatives

global conflicts and environmental issues

If you'd like to, make your own list, or just use the list above. And for each item on the list, ask yourself the following simple questions: Do I look to the Torah as the principal source of guidance in this area of my life? Do I view the Torah as "instructional" or as "teachings" to personally apply?

If the Torah lacks relevance to us, and we do not associate it with the real-time, everyday parts of our lives, then there is a gap between what the Torah is intended to be and what it actually is in our lives.

The Torah is not meant to be a history book. It isn't meant to be a topic for academic research and university-style study. It isn't meant to be a cultural remnant. It isn't meant only for the Orthodox or the rabbis. The Torah is meant to be relevant. Relevant to each and every one of us; relevant to each and every area of our lives; relevant to our most noble dreams and to our most dishonorable indulgences.

We decide how we want our lives to be and then do our best to construct them on the canvas of realityThe famous Maggid of Dubno once told the story of a country boy whose fame as an archer had spread far and wide. A delegation of the finest archers traveled to his farm estate in order to see for themselves if the rumors were true. As they approached the estate, they observed hundreds upon hundreds of trees, each one painted with a target, and in the center of each bull's-eye there was a single arrow. Amazed at the sight, they asked the lad how it was that he had become such a fine shot. He replied plainly that he would shoot the arrow first and then paint the target around it.

Although this is a ludicrous way to become a sharpshooter, the story contains a great lesson about how to make Torah a part of our lives.

For many, the bull's-eye of life has been drawn and positioned. Every concern and ambition in life is painted on according to priority and value. We decide how we want our lives to be and then do our best to construct them on the canvas of reality. After the paint is dry, we attempt to shoot the arrow of Torah into the picture, to find the place where the Torah can fit harmoniously into the landscape of our values, our goals, our ideals, our lifestyle, our tastes and our definitions.

Like an archer's arrow piercing wood, forcing its presence into an otherwise serene and picturesque tree, thrashing its very target in its wake, Torah's presence in our lives appears with a resounding dissonance. Remarkable in its lack of relevance, deficient of urgency, unimportant in any practical context; at best the shot lands on the periphery; most often it misses the target entirely. We are left with a Torah we can't define and certainly not one that defines us.

Perhaps that is why we have seen the need to redefine Torah so that we can merge it into the context of our lives, somehow wishing that it would be the reflection of us and not the other way around. Will we force history's pen to write a new definition of Torah for a modern age, or will we one day see that Torah has been the author all the while?

Can we find the strength to bridge the gap of relevance? The courage to face the Torah as our guide; to question, to learn, to seek, and to find?

Rabbi Ilan Weinberg teaches adults, teens and children, and coordinates youth programs and community events for Chabad of Port Washington, New York. He also serves as the principal of a Hebrew School and director of a day camp in Port Washington, where he resides with his wife, Devorah, and children Yudel, Mashi and Estee.

Thank you for the advice Rabbi, I can better see how the Torah is suppose to be used. Reassures me everyday that i have made the right choice in studying Torah as a scroll that is intertwined in my everyday conduct and relationship with other people and G-d.
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Rabbi Ilan WeinbergPort Washington, NYJune 14, 2011

Teaching
The Rebbe emphasized that teaching and guiding children in general is like planting seeds. We sow the seeds and we pray for our students; the results are not always apparent right away, but in time what we have imparted has its impact in the lives of those we teach whether we are there to see it or not.

On the other hand, as teachers and guides we should be strengthened by recognizing that children are exposed to a lot of "garbage" in their lives, i.e. negative influences, wrong ideas, etc. Just the fact that we have the opportunity to convey something true and positive to them at all is an amazing merit and should inspire us to greater commitment and dedication.

The target
Loved the anology of the boy shooting the arrow first and then drawing the target around it. Most of us do that, don't we? As a teacher, I'm happy that I transmit my humble knowledge to others, hoping that the student then molds it, runs with it and figures it out for him(her)self. Great essay.
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EugenioOctober 6, 2010

Seeds !
Here there goes a rather tricky question:define teaching.(perhaps: to transmitte basic knowledge to others in order to help them figure it out by themselves). Any teacher may have lots of proper definitions for that and surely better than mine, probably because they were allready taught to.The point is that you have taken one of the most extraordinary and lovely jobs in the world.you are not only transmitting life but doing so the way the Author of Life Himself wants it to be done. Plant a seed and wait.G-d bless you and your pupils.
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Samantha FoxMay 13, 2010

Great article!
A very inspired article indeed. Chabad.org would be well served with more articles from Rabbi Weinberg.
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