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Topic : 08/07 Torn Between Two Husbands

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Created on : Friday, May 04, 2007, 12:03:45 pm

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(Original Air Date: 05/08/07) Is it possible to be in love with two men at the same time? Orlena is desperate for help. She says she still has feelings for her ex-husband, Chad, and she adores her current husband, Brent. Chad is a soldier and when duty called, he fought in Iraq. He returned home a changed man and their love shattered forever. What changed Chad, and what caused Orlena to leave him? Devastated and heartbroken, Orlena moved on and into the arms of Brent. Two months after marrying Brent, Chad called and begged Orlena to come back. Find out Brent's strong message for Chad. Since Chad made initial contact with Orlena, they have talked numerous times, and he even spent three days visiting her. What has she been saying to Chad, and are the chats appropriate for a married woman to have? And, will Orlena honor her commitment to Brent or return to the man who broke her heart? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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It's simple

Are you for real?

You are married to Brent. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Brent is your husband. Chad is in the past. Stay away from Chad. You are committed to Brent. You should have never hooked up with Chad again. Unhook yourself and try to work on your marriage.

a hard place to be

My first husband died and with him a special love died and even today there is a love that will not go away so yes it is possible to love 2 men but you do have to choose which one you want do you see a future in the past or do you see a future with the new man in your life chooses are hard but it's not fair to sting them both along Time changes everyone..

BETWEEN TWO HUSBANDS

WHAT ABOUT ORLENA'S CURRENT HUSBAND? CAN HE EVER TRUST HER AGAIN? THEN THERE IS A QUESTION OF TAKING HER MARRIAGE SERIOUSLY. I WAS RAISED TO RESPECT MARRIAGE AS A SERIOUS COMMITTMENT. NOT SOMETHING YOU JUST IJUMP N AND OUT OF. THAT IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST PROBLEM OF TODAY. PEOPLE JUST JUMP IN AND OUT OF MARRIAGE WITHOUT THINKING OF THE LONG FORTHCOMING FUTURE.

WAKE UP ORLENA, ACT LIKE A MATURE WOMAN AND DO YOUR CURRENT HUSBAND RIGHT.

I feel for Brent!

Speaking as the person that was cheated on. The contact she has with Chad is highly inappropriate. I can only imagine how her current husband feels. She needs to stop thinking with her heart and start thinking with her head. Does she think the problems with Chad have just disappeared?

Why didn't she wait ???

My Opion is that she married to quick her second husband, while she should giveher self and her first husband time to get true the hard time's her first husbandwent true during this Iraq war. Allot of man came home and have to work this outwen they went away to Iraq. She still love her first husband so she had to wait.This situation, is painfull I'll know...but remember she married the first onewith love. And I'll guess allot of love.!!! Her second hushband should know that!He is also the one,that had to say No wait.. this is not right at all..But he thought more to himself at the first place, not about the wholesituation after a time of war..One promisse to God and his church counts.after that she is married in God's eyes forever..and that is with the manshe really love.

05/08 Torn Between Two Husbands

My husband is leaving for Iraq on Tuesday. I know he will not come back the same man that he left, that's how it works. trauma does things like that to you. But I can't imagine if she truly loved Chad that she would even want Brent. She feel into his arms when she couldn't deal with the pressures of being a Military wife...I agree with the person that said, he just wants her cake and wants to eat it too. I feel for Brent, he's in a bad situation, I wouldn't give her a chance to make a choice, I would choose it for her! Good luck to him, I am looking forward to this show..

A sad and difficult situation

Its very sad situaton , you should stick with your commitment with your husband you cannot have sex with both man at the same time i think you should stick just with your husband...

There are many emotions involved. Betrayal and forgivens for what she should have provided intially. Guilt for choosing someone else. She needs to mend without any involvement physically or emotionally for a very long time until she has healed and found herself. It is unfortunate two other people have been wounded but they will heal with time as well and perhaps think more clearly when all is said and done.