S2-27: The Sexpisode

In this podcast episode (third in the Being Coupled season), we… uhhh… actually… uhhh… try to talk about sex. With the couples we interviewed. And with our partners. But this stuff isn't easy. So we use a New York Times article about sex talk in therapy, along with a few other tools, to help navigate these sometimes-unsexy waters. After you listen to our conversation, check out the links below.

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First Comes Sex Talk With These Renegades of Couples Therapy by Amy Sohn, from the New York Times: When she trains therapists, Dr. Nelson said: “I tell them to ask in the first session, ‘When was the last time you had sex, and how was it?’ We’re talking about couples here. Why would you not talk about sex? I tell them, If you’re not talking about sex, you’re perpetuating the idea that they shouldn’t be, and that just won’t help.”

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship (video). Video of Esther Perel’s TED talk: So in this dilemma about reconciling these two sets of fundamental needs, there are a few things that I’ve come to understand erotic couples do. One, they have a lot of sexual privacy. They understand that there is an erotic space that belongs to each of them. They also understand that foreplay is not something you do five minutes before the real thing. Foreplay pretty much starts at the end of the previous orgasm…