I am too. I have a single email account. My wife has three. She's not on the down low because I have the passwords and am welcome to read the rubbish on the accounts if I want to. She uses one for her regular correspondence with family and close friend, one for shopping, and one as a throw-away address when she's signing up for something she knows will generate spam. However my ex had multiple private accounts and she used them for communicating with her man friends. Just friends, nothing more, until ....

I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.

Dimensio:I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.

This.

I don't have hers and she doesn't have mine. If "trust" requires that you read each others email, well that isn't what I think "trust" looks like.

1 work email1 personal email very little spam1 old hotmail account for Xbox LIve. Never check that one.1 spam away account. I buy things with this one. Anything that asks me for an email address to sign up for it account. I only check this one if I need to return something or get a tracking number.

I have no secret channels of communication setup. Don't believe the fiance does either, don't really care enough to try and find out if she does. I'd say most people who do, eventually slip up. If you never get caught, bravo to you. That careful planning, covering your ass, and stress probably cost you more than it was worth.

my wife and i basically have "open" email privileges. we don't actively check but it's like, if she's on and i'm watching tv, i'll ask her to check or vice versa. but we don't snoop around. i don't get very many emails anyways. 90% of my comms with friends are via call/text and i don't really keep in touch with any fark people any more. so my email inbox is usually spam from the various retailers i might use (amazon, LiveNation, races, Huge Black Jugs, Ghetto Gaggin MILFs, Forbes, etc.)

I have so many e-mail accounts. Mostly because I eventually get spam, then more spam .... and it grows to the point that I can't even find my real e-mail inbetween all of the spam messages so I make a fresh account. And it's good to have an account just for when you sign up for things and you don't want updates from those people in your regular mail.

I can't imagine being concerned about what a boyfriend does with his e-mail. But if I did feel concerned maybe it's not a good relationship to be in.

Devo:1 work email1 personal email very little spam1 old hotmail account for Xbox LIve. Never check that one.1 spam away account. I buy things with this one. Anything that asks me for an email address to sign up for it account. I only check this one if I need to return something or get a tracking number.

1 public email (this one)1 private email1 gmail that i check about once a month. nothign but dust and cobwebs and tumbleweeds rolling across the screen)

My wife has my email password...we got lazy a while back, and just started using the same password for all accounts we have, in case the other person needs to access it. (I have things like bank statements delivered to mine that, if hit by a bus, she should probably be able to fish out). Seriously doubt she sits around reading my emails...

jst3p:Dimensio: I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.

This.

I don't have hers and she doesn't have mine. If "trust" requires that you read each others email, well that isn't what I think "trust" looks like.

When previously in a relationship, my significant other did not have a login password for my computer, and I did not have a login password for his. The concept of giving a romantic partner access to private computer accounts is incomprehensible to me.

I wouldn't give a partner my e-mail password though. What would they need it for? I get messages from friends and clients who are writing to me and not expecting the messages to be shared. There is no deep dark secrets in my mail ... just mostly friends who are girls saying how their day is ... but I know if I wrote to them I wouldn't want their boyfriends reading it because I'm writing to THEM not anybody else. Even if all we do is say silly and boring things .. it's still our conversations to each other.

I would never even consider giving someone my email password unless it was some kind of emergency. It just wouldn't occur to me and would seem like an invasion of privacy even though there isn't anything very private in there. I'm with the people who think that if you feel the need to do that then THAT shows a lack of trust.

Likewise I hate people who sort through my post in the morning and make remarks about what post I have. It isn't any of their business and I had a controlling ex who did this every day (among many other things which added up to a bad picture).

I have lost count of how many email addresses I have. It is so easy to make new ones whenever you like. Like many people I have tried creating addresses for different things. I expect the real truth is more like 1 in 5 have at least 1 email address their partner doesn't know.

If it really is the case that 1 in 5 have a secret email just for sexeh talk then I do despair. But I doubt it is true.

Dimensio:jst3p: Dimensio: I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.

This.

I don't have hers and she doesn't have mine. If "trust" requires that you read each others email, well that isn't what I think "trust" looks like.

When previously in a relationship, my significant other did not have a login password for my computer, and I did not have a login password for his. The concept of giving a romantic partner access to private computer accounts is incomprehensible to me.

I agree with you. A mere boyfriend or girlfriend is not entitled to such private information. Until there is a commitment of exclusivity - as in cohabiting or marrying - it's none of his/her business.

Devo:1 work email1 personal email very little spam1 old hotmail account for Xbox LIve. Never check that one.1 spam away account. I buy things with this one. Anything that asks me for an email address to sign up for it account. I only check this one if I need to return something or get a tracking number.

Yep. And, I'd never even think of giving anyone my password. Ever. Not hiding anything, but if you think I am then you have trust issues and I don't need to be with you.