Sofina Khan

Facebook, Warnings and Things

When I first joined Facebook over 2 years ago, I didn’t think too much about it as a social network and yet all of a sudden, I had built a number of friends so easily which included close friends and people I had actually met at networking events, seminars, etc.

I then realised that my list was building up quite quickly without much effort on my part. I felt the need that I should start building up my list too by making facebook friend requests. As most of us know, on the right hand side of facebook, facebook casually displays people that you share mutual friends with and it so tempting to make a facebook friend request. Well, naive as I am, I was tempted and did indeed made facebook friend requests some of which were indeed people I had met before. However, when I tried this temptation, for at least five days, Facebook kindly alerted me that I had made a number of Facebook friend requests that were too many or too fast and as a consequence I will not be able to make any further requests until a certain period of time. Words to that effect or meaning! Anyway, I was a little shocked and surprised as I was making these facebook friend request manually (that is me, a person behind the computer and keyboard) and with a personal touch and message addressed to each facebook friend request that I was making. I wasn’t exactly using a robot (like some internet marketers!!) or clever software to increase my facebook friends list or fiverr.com. Anyway, after the polite warning came up it was weeks (literally over 6 weeks) before I was even tempted to make another facebook friend request with the fear that my account may be permanently disabled.
After building up the courage to make 3 facebook friend requests unbelieavably to friends that I had met at a recent networking event, guess what, the message came up again only with a deeper level of concern, as this was my second warning but for another time! I instantly felt cheated and after that I did NOT dare attempt to make any further Facebook friend requests in case I got banned from facebook forever!!! What a terrifying thought! The fastest growing social network that I would be banned from forever!!!

Anyway, since that time of the warning messages, I had already built a list of over 1400 friends and I was getting facebook friend requests of betweeen 20 and 40 people a day! I accepted most of the genuine facebook friend requests, after checking their profiles, info, bio, etc and then putting them in certain lists of friends, such as property, coaching, US, UK, London list, etc. I can tell you this was very time consuming, but it was my own human efforts, I did not pay an outsourcer or buy expensive software to do this. it was all my own effort.

What do I do now. What if I have more than 5000 friends facebook? Help!!

I looked around other friends (few) who had more than if not close to 5000 facebook friends and it seemed that they created extra or addtional facebook accounts with the same name as the original account, some with their names and ending letters A, B, etc. So I thought I would do the same sort of thing but used the same name as the account with 5000 friends.

By this time when I created a new and additional account, I had already another 60 odd facebook friend request in my inbox and I did not know what to do. I did not want to decline a friend request, as this was not in my nature, after cheking out the profiles of each of the friend requests and having some connection either interests, common friends, etc. So what did I do, I started sending them direct messages (managed to send 10 or so successful messages) with a link to my new Facebook account (shortened bit.ly link). What happened next??? After sending 10 or so messages, I got yet another alert from Facebook as follows:

This time, I managed to save the message that appeared and it is shown above!
So, guess what, I stopped immediately! I really did not want to risk losing my Facebook account or my Facebook Account being permanently disabled. Especially,since it took me such a long time genuinely building up my network of Facebook friends.

So please be careful with Facebook and its rules.
Follow me on my new Facebook account, if you dare, as I won’t be or I am terrified at requesting any further or new friends requests.

You Can Do It Course – Free Life Coaching

I had the privilege to meet two wonderful, considerate and warm people by the names of Sue Jaques who is a Master NLP Practitioner & Life Coach and Mary Joyce who is a NLP Practitioner & Life Coach. These two brilliant women have set up a FREE life coaching event every Wednesday (term time) to help many people on the road to success through postive thinking, goal setting, NLP and group support from other positive and strong members of a group.

Some of the attendees of the latest group were awarded Certificates to show that we had all completed the “You Can Do It Course Stage 1”.

After the awards, we all went to have lunch to celebrate and share our experiences of life.

The whole course, as well as Sue Jaques and Mary Joyce are great course presenters. Both are NLP Practioners by the way!!

As a result of the above life coaching sessions, I attended Sue and Mary’s turn up Your Happiness One Day Workshop held at Barnet on Saturday 25th March. It was extemely good and changed my outlook on life and gives you a taste of NLP!

What The Bleep Do We Know – Down the Rabbit Hole

I watched this Documentary – What The Bleep Do We Know – Down the Rabbit Hole and together with reaading and watching The Secret and reading Coonversations With God I have really developed a huge interest in the consciousness or the subconscious mind. How are thoughts are so important. Our connection to each other in this universe and the power of the subconscious network. This has given me an enormous incentive to pursue my interest in NLP, quantum physics and change my way of thinking about the world. Positive thoughts and the power of observation.

“Keeping it simple, our observation has a direct affect on our world and practice and master the skilll of of observation. The average person loses their attention span 6-10 seconds per minute! ” 1:10:00 What the bleep …

Finished Reading The Complete Conversations With God

I decided to go through a number of books in my Reading Book list. One of which was the Complete Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsh. There are 3 books in the series of Conversations With God (CwG).

It is a set of three book and a very highly stimulating and interesting read. It is a highly recommended read for anyone who has any doubt about beliefs about God and thoughts that you may have entered your state and questions about God that have or may have been playing in your mind. This book was such an exhilirating and satisfying read and although there are controversial elements discussed or written in this series of books, it is not worth dismissing this lovely and heartwarming book. It also gives you some interesting thought about Humanity in Book 3 and talks in depth about the soul.

Neale Donald Walsh, wrote this trilogy of books over a 6 year dialogue which makes up a portion of trilogy of the Conversations With God that Neale had from a voiceless voice written on his yellow legal pad and then published as 3 books. The Complete Conversations With God.

Barnet Parent Partnership Conference in North London Business Park (18 May 2011)

This is highly nformative conference set up mainly for parents and carers and perhaps other professionals who have or are in contact with children and young people (CYP) who have special educational needs.

As my son is on the Autistic Spectrum and has a Statement of Educational Needs (SEN), I tend to attend one of these events every 2-3 years.

Val White, Assistant Director for Policy Performance and Planning welcomed and introduced herself as responsible for the Parent Partnership services at Barnet.

Brian Davis, a Principal Educational Psychologist briefly spoke about the SEN Green Paper consultation and made a key note speech. Brian’s main speech focussed on the children with SEN in Barnet. “There are 1600 CYP with Statements in Barnet of which approximately 75% are in mainstream schools.” Barnet recognises the needs of CYP, early intervention and the lifelong needs/complex needs of these CYP with SENs and relying on statements to meet children’s needs.

Soon after the speech, there were a number of organisations that are in Barnet who help Parents and Carers of SEN CYP.

These Organisations who at the Parent Partnership Conference were:

PP4DAN Who aim high for children wit disailities and have parent forums for parents and carers. PP4DAN is a strong and representative organisation that provides a great service to changes where they are needed.

IPOP team is dedicated to providing disabled children, young people and their families with the right support to enable them to get involved with general play and leisure activities along with their friends and neighbours. I have personally used their services to help my child obtain skills such as football and also support in the summer playschemes. Without their support, my son would have find it very difficult to cope.

Jackie Silverman, Family Support Manager talked about MENCAP organisation and how they provide a number of drop in morning sessions such as OPEN DOOR to help and provide outreach support. Angela Silis, a very good friend of mine also, is a Parent Practitioner whos works for MENCAP and specialises in Autism.

SNAAP (Special Needs Advisory and Activities Project) run by Christine Haugh a very good friend of mine who also has a vast range of experience in Autism.

This SNAAP club provides an opportunity for familes and carer of children who are on the Autistic Spectrum or have any other learning diffculites to meet up every Wednesday during term time to discuss and met other families and/or parents of these children. I have used this service and I can say it is so relieving to meet and taalk to other parents who can understand and relate to what you are going through as a parent of an special needs child. Well done! Christine. This organisation also provides a series of shortbreaks such as horseriding to these children and their carers.

There are a series of workshops and parent training courses that are run by Parents of CYP special needs children.These provide an opportunity to meet other parents and most important of all recognise and develop skills and strategies for children to develop skills.

SCOPE. This charitable organisation works with all disabilities, school transition services, cerebral palsy, etc and provides support and liaise with social services.

These provide short breaks and respite care for CYP of special needs and/or with challenging behaviours and learning difficuties in Barnet. For example, the horesriding sessions, holiday support schemes. They wish to extend their services over the next few years.

This was a new organisation that I hadn’t heard of before. It provides and advocacy for young people with disabilities (0 to 25). This organisation works with children especially at annual reviews. This Service is free and requires a self referral and is very powerful for a young person.

Provides Parent support group and regular support and networking opportunities for parents/carers. YASS lobbies for better services. I can aslo tell you that Christine has provided unprecented advice to me to help me in a tricky situation with my son’s support.

I have decided that I need to study the law of attraction – “The Secret” once again and studyand read the book in more depth.

Chapter 1: Introduction – The Law of attraction Affirmitive thoughts is more powerful than bad thoughts You are the masterpiece of your own life.
Meditate just 3- 5 minutes per day. “I am the master of my thoughts.” Say this often and meditate. Like attracts like. at you think or focus on bcome things.
Chapter 2: You deserve all good things. The law of attraction is your tool. Your thoughts determine your frequency.
Chapter 3: I am receiving all the good now. Fee
Chapter 4: Powerful Processes. Vision Boards and visualisation. Expectation is a powerful force, be grateful for what you already have
Chapter 5: Secret To Money. “Whatever the mind can conceive, it can achieve.” YOU hold the key to your thoughts and feelings. To To attract Money Focus on wealth, make believe you have the money. Feel happy and make it your intention, I can afford that. Think Wealth.
Chapter 6: The Secret To Relationships: Focus on the quailities You love about yourself and others.
Chapter 7: The Secret to Health: Placebo effect is the Law of Attraction, laughter attracts joy, focus on health and eternal youth. Negative messages do no serve you.
Chapter 8: The Secret to the World: Trust, love, abundance and education. You have the ability to tap into the unlimited supply of praise and bless eveything in the world.
Chapter 9: The Secret To YOU – Love Yourself