to b fixed or not to b what should i do ?

im 28 n have two beutiful children n 8 months pregnant now . im haveing a baby for my sister who is unable to. during the begining of this pregnancy i was so strong on her haveing the baby n she will but now i question myself if i realy wanna get fixed after this pregnancy. i love being pregnant n my husband is so suportive of this pregnancy . im just not 100% sure on what to do. my dh doesnt want anymore children but if its something i want realy want then he'd be there for me n the children. i just dont know what to do its either getting the depo shot or getting fixed. can i get a little advise or maybe you've been in the same situation i'd appreciate it thanks so much.

im 28 n have two beutiful children n 8 months pregnant now . im haveing a baby for my sister who is unable to. during the begining of this pregnancy i was so strong on her haveing the baby n she will but now i question myself if i realy wanna get fixed after this pregnancy. i love being pregnant n my husband is so suportive of this pregnancy . im just not 100% sure on what to do. my dh doesnt want anymore children but if its something i want realy want then he'd be there for me n the children. i just dont know what to do its either getting the depo shot or getting fixed. can i get a little advise or maybe you've been in the same situation i'd appreciate it thanks so much.

First yay for having a baby for your sister that is amazing! Second, I'm 28 and having baby #2 in January! I will be getting my tubes tied and DH will be getting his junk fixed too! We made the choice to only have two kids and then be done when we started having babies! I personally hate being pregnant, I love having my boys but hate the actual act of being pregnant! I think if you are having serious doubts then you should talk to DH and find our how he feels! It's a hard call but one you have to make for you!

First yay for having a baby for your sister that is amazing! Second, I'm 28 and having baby #2 in January! I will be getting my tubes tied and DH will be getting his junk fixed too! We made the choice to only have two kids and then be done when we started having babies! I personally hate being pregnant, I love having my boys but hate the actual act of being pregnant! I think if you are having serious doubts then you should talk to DH and find our how he feels! It's a hard call but one you have to make for you!

We are also not a species that needs to reproduce offspring over and over again. There is a population problem.

Getting your tubes tied, or a vasectomy is a very noble thing. Its a commitment to the future.

(To OP: As is carrying a child for your sister! Sometimes I'm shocked by the kindness of humans. That is a very hard decision to make. It sounds like you still want the option of having more kids. I think you should wait before getting fixed, just in case.)

"We r not dogs!!!"

We are also not a species that needs to reproduce offspring over and over again. There is a population problem.

Getting your tubes tied, or a vasectomy is a very noble thing. Its a commitment to the future.

(To OP: As is carrying a child for your sister! Sometimes I'm shocked by the kindness of humans. That is a very hard decision to make. It sounds like you still want the option of having more kids. I think you should wait before getting fixed, just in case.)

If you are having doubts, don't do it. If your DH feels positive on his end, then he can get a vasectomy. I was going to have my tubes tied after my son when I was 21, the doctor talked me out of it. Fifteen years later I had a little girl I cannot imagine living without. Worst case scenario, if you both change your mind later on down the road a vasectomy is easier to reverse.

If you are having doubts, don't do it. If your DH feels positive on his end, then he can get a vasectomy. I was going to have my tubes tied after my son when I was 21, the doctor talked me out of it. Fifteen years later I had a little girl I cannot imagine living without. Worst case scenario, if you both change your mind later on down the road a vasectomy is easier to reverse.

I'm gonna agree with some of the pp and say don't, but look into iud they are very affective and reversible, while I've read vasectomy's are becoming harder to reverse due to advancements in the procedure.

I'm gonna agree with some of the pp and say don't, but look into iud they are very affective and reversible, while I've read vasectomy's are becoming harder to reverse due to advancements in the procedure.

Please dont so anything you are 100% sure of it. You can always take bc until you are sure you are def done having children but making a decision without being sure can cause resentment (doing it for dh not yourself) depression etc......

Please dont so anything you are 100% sure of it. You can always take bc until you are sure you are def done having children but making a decision without being sure can cause resentment (doing it for dh not yourself) depression etc......

I agree with earlier posters that you should hold off on doing anything permanent until you're entirely sure. I have a friend who has an IUD in and loves it. i think they put it in and you can wear it for a few years (but check with your doc for the details). Congrats on having a baby for your sister. That is so incredibly kind and giving of you!

I agree with earlier posters that you should hold off on doing anything permanent until you're entirely sure. I have a friend who has an IUD in and loves it. i think they put it in and you can wear it for a few years (but check with your doc for the details). Congrats on having a baby for your sister. That is so incredibly kind and giving of you!

i want to thank everyone for your opinions : ) n the word fixed i know we r not dogs no **** ! thousands of women use the same word its what it is when it comes down to it. for the person who replied saying about regret n depression down the road that is one that i fear. my husband n i have been thru so much already n have faced harder challenges and have made it thru everyone together with no split ups or fear of divorce but haveing another baby a life is a hole lot diferent. this is a hard decision right now n yes i could always use birth control. i believe that is what im going to do for now n then when i know for certian i will get "fixed". thank you again to those who replied.

i want to thank everyone for your opinions : ) n the word fixed i know we r not dogs no **** ! thousands of women use the same word its what it is when it comes down to it. for the person who replied saying about regret n depression down the road that is one that i fear. my husband n i have been thru so much already n have faced harder challenges and have made it thru everyone together with no split ups or fear of divorce but haveing another baby a life is a hole lot diferent. this is a hard decision right now n yes i could always use birth control. i believe that is what im going to do for now n then when i know for certian i will get "fixed". thank you again to those who replied.

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