DO…

Tease him.

The whole point of sexting is to tease someone with messages and pictures, so get him excited for you before he’s even with you.

Take control.

If you are the first one to initiate the sexting, your boyfriend will love this. Take control and tell him everything you want.

Say what you think or want.

Sexting can be a really good way to get across what you actually want to tell your boyfriend. It is a little less awkward because it isn’t face to face. If there is something you want to tell him or a particular fantasy you want to try, this is your chance.

Crop your face out of any photos that you send.

Even though your boyfriend might want to see your face in the dirty photos you send to him, I would highly suggest never putting your face in the photos. If everything ends badly, you don’t know what he might do with those photos. You might trust him now, but it’s always best to be safe.

Put a password on your phone or delete the messages.

You are going to want to make sure you have a password on your phone, or that you have at least deleted the dirty. The last thing you want to happen is to have your parents or friends see the messages you have been sending.

Make sure the background of any photos you send is tidy and clean.

There is nothing worse than seeing a cute photo and realizing that it looks like a bomb has gone off in your room. Similarly, if you are taking the photo in a bathroom, make sure there are no products in the shot that would turn your man off, e.g. tampons on the sink side.

Reply slowly.

Sexting is supposed to be hot and steamy, just like if you were actually having sex. So, do not reply slowly, it’s a total mood killer. Also, if you are going to initiate the dirty talk, you need to keep up the pace and keep it interesting.

Write too much.

Like I mentioned above, sexting is all about snappy, quick and dirty texts. No one finds long paragraphs sexy. Of course, if you want to discuss a fantasy or dream up a situation, you will need to write a bit more of a lengthy text, but don’t make it too long.

Sext anyone else but your partner.

Although it’s only a few messages and no physical activity, sexting someone else definitely counts as cheating. Why would you want to talk dirty to anyone other than the person you are with? Don’t do it.

Sext if you don’t feel in the mood.

No one should make you feel like you’re forced to sext them. You should only send dirty texts if you want to. I’ll speak more about this later at length, but you need to be in the mood otherwise it’s not sexy, at all.

Sext too much.

Of course, dirty talk over text is such a turn on, but if you do it too much it will lose its appeal. Just because this article is giving you all of these amazing things you can say, it doesn’t mean that you need to say them all at once.

Sext too much if you haven’t had sex together yet.

If you haven’t had sex together yet, I wouldn’t suggest sexting too much, especially not graphically. Of course, flirting and some sexy teasing photos would be great, but you shouldn’t get into it too much, you don’t want to spoil the surprise.

15. I feel nervous about telling you all of the sexual desires I have when it comes to you.

16. I’m so ready to make love to you.

17. When do you want to come around? I would love to feel you on me right now.

18. I just made myself very excited by thinking about you…

19. I had such a hot and heavy dream about you last night. Maybe we could make my dreams come true?

20. When I see you later, just to let you know, I won’t be wearing any underwear.

Getting a little hotter under the collar…

21. I’m going crazy thinking about how you would feel inside of me.

22. I can’t stop thinking about the way you made me feel last night. Shall we have a re-do?

23. I want to take control of you and tell you what I want.

24. You can do whatever you want to me, just make me feel good.

25. I’m at my work desk right now and it looks a little boring. I’m just thinking how much better it would look if you were bending me over it.

26. Is it bad that every time I see you I just want you to pin me up against a wall and have my, right then and there?

27. I can’t wait to feel you inside me.

28. I’m going to make you feel like you’ve never felt before.

29. I’m feeling dirty today for some reason.

30. I can’t tell you how much I want to be on top of you right now.

31. The thought of you taking me in your arms and having me just makes me so wet.

32. I feel so much pent up frustration today. Want to come to mine after work and get rid of it for me?

33. Wanna workout together today? And I don’t mean at the gym.

34. Whenever I think about you, I just want to start touching myself.

35. Your face would look so great with me sitting on top of it.

36. I am playing with myself thinking of you and what you will do to me.

37. I want to ride you. I want to ride your face and your cock.

38. I can’t wait to get into your pants and see you for all you’ve got.

39. I’m so wet for you right now, I just wish you were here.

40. I love tasting you inside my mouth.

41. I can’t stop thinking about riding you last night.

42. All I want is for you to be here, with your hands up my skirt right now.

43. You drive my body crazy; my pussy yearns for you.

44. I’m going to suck you dry.

45. Would you prefer me in lingerie or fully naked when I come over tonight?

46. I want you to take me as soon as I walk in that door tonight. Take me hard.

47. I’ve had a stressful day today and can’t wait to get my frustrations out on your body tonight.

48. I can’t wait to taste you in my mouth.

49. I want your cum all over my body.

50. When I see a text from you, I instantly get wet for you.

51. You make me want to drop my panties whenever I am around you.

52. I want you to take me so hard tonight that I can barely walk in the morning.

53. When you dominate me, I feel so helpless and so turned on.

54. I can’t stop thinking about your tongue inside of me.

55. It’s crazy how many times a day I think about having sex with you.

56. I want your cock between my breasts.

57. I want to make you moan so much the neighbors can hear.

58. I have a new vibrator, it’s just such a shame it’s nowhere near as good as you.

59. Work would be a lot less boring if you could come and give me a quickie on my lunch break.

60. I want to be your personal fix of pleasure. I want to make you feel like you’ve never felt before.

Making scenarios up…

61. I want you to walk into the bathroom and catch me pleasuring myself with the shower head.

62. I wish you would just come to my office right now, push everything off the desk and take me here and now.

63. Maybe one morning you will wake up to me with your cock in my mouth, then we can have some fun before you have to leave for work.

64. One day you will walk into the dining room, I’ll be on the table and you can have me for your dinner.

65. I’m going to slowly take your cock and tease it as it slides in and out of my pussy.

66. I want to push you on to the bed, take your clothes off and kiss you all the way from your lips right down to the tip of your cock.

67. I was just thinking about how great it would feel if you took me from behind up against the kitchen cabinet.

68. I want to walk in on you jerking yourself off, so I can stand over you and rub my pussy, making you hotter than ever.

69. Imagine if you walked in on me and my girlfriend both naked on the bed, having a pillow fight. You could come and join us, taking us both in turns.

70. I’m going to wake you up by grinding myself all over your face, you will go instantly hard and then I will lower myself on to your huge cock.

71. Imagine if I welcomed you home one day wearing nothing but some suspenders. You could push me up against the stairs and take me there and then.

I want to take your cock out of your pants on the highway and suck you while you concentrate on driving. You won’t be able to and we will have to pull over and get to it in a layby.

2. One day when we are sitting in the jacuzzi, I am going to take my panties off without you realising, I’ll come over to you and sit on you in the water. You will be able to feel me pulsate for you, while the bubbles are all around us. Maybe we would even incorporate a jet into the mix.

3. Imagine if we did it in public. We could be laying in the park while I unbutton your jeans and pull my panties to the side. To everyone else it would look innocent, but you would actually be deep inside me.

4. I’m going to slide my tongue up and down your body, making you harder than ever. Then I will take you and you will pleasure me with your huge wand.

6. I’m going to massage you one night. I will oil you up, make you lay on your back and then I will get naked. I will rub my naked body on your oily skin. Then I will lower my wet pussy on to you.

7. You will walk in one day to my body laying on the table, covered in chocolate sauce and whipped cream. I will be your post gym snack, and you will lick every bit of me clean.

8. I’m going to pleasure you even when we are out having dinner. I will slip my shoes off under the table, move my foot up your leg and start to stroke your crotch. You will get hard and you won’t be able to hide your desires anymore. We will go into the bathroom and work out the frustration you feel.

9. One day you will walk into the bedroom, and I will be naked, laying on the bed with my hands cuffed to the bedframe. I will tell you to take me as your personal sex slave, and you will get to work.

Naughty questions…

10. How often do you jerk off and think of me?

11. What’s the naughtiest thing you want to do to me?

12. How much do you want me in your bed right now?

13. What are you going to do to me tomorrow night?

14. Where is the naughtiest place you want to have sex?

15. Do you think it’s hot that I touch myself over you?

16. How do you feel about woman on woman action?

17. Would you ever want a threesome?

18. What are some of your dirtiest fantasies?

19. Is it bad that I can’t stop thinking about bouncing around on you?

20. Can you guess what I’m wearing for you tonight?

21. How are you going to make me scream out in pleasure?

22. What’s the naughtiest thing you have ever done?

23. What’s your favourite position?

24. Do you want to try something new tonight in the bedroom?

25. How do you feel about trying to use a sex toy while we have sex?

26. What’s your favourite type of porn to watch?

27. What do you imagine when you jerk off?

28. Do you like it when I talk dirty to you?

29. If I could do anything to you tonight to make you happy, what would it be?

Give him some visuals…

30. Send him a photo of you in bed, with the duvet just covering your breasts.

31. Send him a photo of you in the mirror, with new underwear on.

32. Send him a well-angled shot off your ass in a thong.

33. Send him a photo of yourself with no underwear on.

34. Send him a video of yourself laying in bed naked.

35. Send him a video of yourself biting your lip and winking.

36. Send him a video of you tracing your hand down your body like you’re about to pleasure yourself.

37. Send him a photo of yourself fresh out of the shower, or in the bath.

38. Send him a voice note or video of you moaning for him while you touch yourself.

39. Send him a photo of your breasts, pushed up for added effect.

40. Send him a video of you sucking on a lollipop or eating a banana.

Be careful.

When it comes to sending photos of yourself, as I mentioned earlier, you firstly need to make sure that you really trust this guy to send him anything in the first place. Whatever you do send him, make sure that your face isn’t in it and that you can’t tell it’s you. You should also never send anyone explicit photos if you feel pressured into doing it. You should only ever send naughty photos if you feel completely comfortable with it, and you trust that the person you are sending them to isn’t going to show anyone else.

One last tip - Dirty Talk.

All of the one hundred and eleven sext messages I have mentioned above are really great messages to send to your boyfriend to get him in the mood. However, I want to share one last tip with you. As well as sexting your man, you can also dirty talk him over the phone. This is also known as phone sex. It might seem a little nerve-wracking, but it can actually be really hot for your relationship.

Phone sex is particularly great for long-distance relationships because you are both still being intimate and sexual with each other, even if you aren’t physically having sex. We are to run through some of the best tips to have great phone sex, and how you should go about initiating it.

1.Sext him first.

You want to warm your man up to the fact you are about to jump on the phone and talk dirty to him, so firstly you need to make sure he is turned on and in the right mood to get hot and heavy with you. You can do this by sending him a sexy text. I would recommend saying something intriguing, not jumping straight into texting him about a sexy situation you want to have him do to you. For example, you could send him a text that goes something like, “I’m feeling so turned on you for you right now. Maybe you want to speak about it and help me to feel less sexually frustrated?”

You have warmed him up to the fact that you want to talk dirty with him and you are feeling turned on. I’m sure he will be more than ready to get turned on with you.

2.Send him a sexy picture of yourself.

In addition to sexting him, you can also send him a picture of yourself in your underwear or naked. If you do this, he has something to look at before you speak to him on the phone. He can visualize what you look like right now, and I’m sure he will think it’s very hot. If you are comfortable doing so, you could also send him a video of you teasing him. This is clearly guaranteed to turn him on and therefore he will now be in the perfect mood for phone sex.

3.Tell him that you are going to call him before you actually do.

You will want to let him know that you’re about to call him before you do. If you miss out on this step, then it could be pretty awkward if he answers and is around his family or is with work colleagues. You need to make sure that he is by himself, to not only be able to pleasure himself but also so he can speak openly and talk dirty back to you.

4.Call him.

Now you’ve turned him on, you’re ready to call him. When he answers the phone, you don’t need to rush into anything. Start slow, tell him how much you want him and wish he was there with you. As the conversation gets hotter, you can start to say more risqué things to him, but first you need to keep it pretty laid back. Once you can tell that he is fully reciprocating the way that you are feeling, you can ask him if he’s playing with himself in the way that you are and ask him what he wants to do to you.

5.Take the lead if he is nervous.

When you are asking him questions about what he wants to do to you, or what he’s doing to himself now, you might realize that he is being particularly quiet or isn’t fully letting himself go. He might be nervous to speak to you in this way, so you need to take the lead and he should follow. If you can tell that he’s nervous, you rather than ask him what he wants to do to you, you can tell him what you want to do to him. You can start to get graphic and it will show him that you are open to simply just saying how you feel and there’s no need to feel self-conscious about it.

6.Make sure that you are speaking the language of sex, not science.

You need to make sure that your vocabulary is sexy and passionate, not robotic and scientific. Avoid using words like ‘penis’ and ‘vagina’. Spice it up a little and let loose. Pretend that you are writing an erotic novel, what would you say? Get creative. If you use basic words, then you wont be turning on your man, because it will be too clinical.

7.Try to climax together.

When you are having phone sex, you are probably talking through an imaginary scenario. For example, you might be talking the fact you want him to walk in on you while you’re playing with yourself, and then take it from there. You can slow it down and tell it like a real story, while both of you on each end of the phone are pleasuring yourselves. Then, try to come to a climax together. To do this, you can speak about the fact that your sex (in the imagined situation) is getting faster and rougher. Then, when you can tell that your man is nearly reaching orgasm, it’s time for you to speak faster and moan more. Then, you can climax and let out noises. Hopefully, this will be at the same time as he orgasms.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is sexting cheating if you are in a relationship?

In a relationship, sexting with someone other than your partner can be considered as cheating. This is because, during the process of sexting, you're going to develop a desire for the other person, provoked by the sexual fantasies your mind will form about them. These thoughts often keep your mind away from your current relationship and partner or may cause you to compare your real relationship to the fantasy one.

Can sexting lead to a relationship?

In some instances, sexting might lead to the start of a relationship. This is because, during the sexting process, your body responds to messages by producing hormones such as endorphins, and these might create the illusion of affection or love. Even though this can happen, it usually doesn’t happen by chance. There's a probability that this day will never come for some people, even though they sext and sext waiting for the day it’ll morph into a real relationship.

What does sexting mean to a guy?

Sexting can mean varying things to different guys. It all depends on the kind of guy in question. Also, how a guy responds during sexting will tell you what the act means to him. In all cases, however, guys see sexting as a means to get what they want, or at least try to. it shows a guy's attraction to a girl, be it purely physical or otherwise.

Why do people sext?

Sexting can be a short or long term act, but in most cases, it is considered a direct way to gain the satisfaction of one kind or the other. What’s more, it is common among people in committed relationships, and it is often done to spice up the relationship and bring in some form of variety.

Is sexting good for marriage?

Studies have shown that sexting leads to higher satisfaction in relationships. This is common in relationships where one partner or both suffers from attachment anxiety. Many married couples vouch for sexting as a great addition to their marriages and also as a relationship saver.

Conclusion

Sexting can be really confusing. When are you supposed to send these texts? What are you supposed to say? Does it have to be really graphic or can you keep it more chilled? I hope that this article has helped you to figure out the best way to sext and shown you some examples that you could use on your boyfriend. At the end of the day, if you want to sext your boyfriend then you will, and I’m sure your imagination will conjure up some amazing things. You just need to let yourself go and don’t worry about it all too much. I don’t know any man that wouldn’t want to receive a sext or a dirty picture, so whatever you choose to send, I am sure it will be well received.

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A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...