The One. It can be such a daunting term. Being with the right person can not only determine authentic, unconditional happiness, but your health as well. Being in a toxic relationship may keep you from true happiness, stop you from experiencing unconditional love, and can hold you back from living the life you’re meant to be living.

I am not a psychologist, but I am a holistic health coach who has studied how each area of life plays a huge role in your wellbeing — perhaps even your weight and how clear your skin is. I also happen to be madly in love with my fiancé. I’ve found my soul mate, best friend, and the most perfect person on earth for me.

We’re incredibly lucky. I hope each and every one of you takes a minute to evaluate your current romantic relationship and don’t accept anything but greatness.

Here are 10 (out of so many) simple things to look out for in a relationship:

1. Your partner is your best friend. You’re 110% yourself, you feel free, and enjoy the little things in life together.

2. Your partner is the one you want next to you in your deepest, darkest moments.

3. You’re capable of being away from each other, but neither of you like it one bit.

4. Your partner is your #1 choice for the person you want with you when you splurge on your favorite treat, watch an embarrassing television show, or forget your manners at the dinner table because you’re too exhausted that day.

5. The two of you compromise with each other. You don’t always get your way.

6. You care about his or her needs more than your own.

7. You both know that throughout life you might change and grow, but you’ll always change and grow together. Life is about enjoying the stages with each other.

8. When something happens—terrible, exciting or completely insignificant—he or she is always the first person you want to tell.

9. He or she balances you out, and you do the same. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger.

10. You know that no matter what, he or she will always stand by you and be on your side.

Bonus: You both take a moment, every day, to think about just how lucky you are to have found your most perfect person on this earth.