You may be wondering why I am writing you right now…I understand. But the truth is; I have been watching you…and my eyes fill with tears. I have watched your triumphs; where you will pull together as people and embrace one another, as a family should. I have watched you fight for the survival of a species of animal that was crying out for your love and attention. I have seen you go to the aide of those affected by a natural disaster; during these times I have been extremely proud of you.

I have seen you at your worst; when you thought no one was watching. I have seen you steal from one another; even if you are only stealing time. I have watched as you erected huge walls and fences to keep one another out. I have watched you remove one another from the lands that you live in, out of some false sense of ownership. I have watched you hang your brothers and sisters, because you found offense in the color of their skin. I have seen you burn Holy Books out of some need to control one another. You have let money turn you against one another; it brings out the very worst in your character.

So I wanted to take a moment today and reach out to you. I want to remind you of some core truths; and once I deliver them to you…hold onto them.

You have a very complex soul. It’s beautiful, but obviously it has been tested. I feel pain and such love in you. You know, we often have to deal with life altering events; some of us don’t do so well. Basically we have to do our very best; and move on. Your heart is full and when the time is just right; you are going to be able to share it with the world. Don’t let anyone convince you to dim your light…it is there to guide you and others who will follow you. Believe me, they will follow you. Make sure your words are true, but responsible. Speak with a giving tone and know that you can create a better place for your fellow man…starting with a smile.

Love with your whole heart; love is never a mistake. And if love doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be…embrace it for what it is and appreciate the experience. I promise you, with my whole heart, loving anyone is never a mistake. There are times, of course, when we must walk away from relationships; but do not confuse the pain of a separation for a pain from love. Love never hurts…it is only walking away from love that causes us pain.

Give people hope. It’s okay to be upset or frustrated…but please do not take the hopes of man, while you are doing it. Give assurance, be positive. Smile and spread sunshine…wherever you may go.

It is okay to grieve…it is a celebration of life. But do not dwell in your grief; mourning a loved one is just further acknowledgement of how wonderful they were to you. The love and care our loved ones gave us on earth…multiplies in the hereafter…surrounding us constantly. So don’t feel bad about letting a tear fall; as long as you cushion it with laughter and wonderful memories.

Listen to your heart, and let it converse with your soul…it keeps you safe. Fight the good fight…and that means to simply defend those who cannot defend themselves…not necessarily with violence. Use your words…make a stand…demand a change. And keep on demanding until the world gets so sick of you that they change. The first step is the hardest…but people will follow. Everyone is looking for THAT HERO…the one who stood up when everyone else was sitting down.

What About Me?

There is a time and place for everything, this is an old adage; but it is no less true at this moment.

The most sage advice, I can give you, at this moment, is to stay connected to all things, but be attached to nothing. This may have you scratching your head, but be patient…I will never lead you astray.

You love deeply, without question. However you may need to have a heart to heart with yourself…every single day. Every day you should ask yourself, am I doing this for “them” (whoever “them” is) or are you doing it for self. Be careful, because I need you to be brutally honest with yourself.

Sometimes, even when we are doing things for other people…we are really only doing it for ourselves. Let me give you an example, just so you won’t think I have lost it.

You can have someone that you are very close to, and you may give that person something (monetary or not); now when you tell this story to others, you are brought to tears…and you very well maybe shedding tears, on behalf of the situation that your loved one is facing. However, if you did it strictly for them, why would you feel the need to share it with anyone else? In fact, if you do something for another person…once it is done…you should let it go. All too often, when we even hold onto stories where we have helped another person or group of persons, all that we really do is keep a running tab, of who did more for whom. This is a most unkind behavior.

If we are truly doing things for the sake of another’s well being; there should be no reason why we would need to keep track.

Be connected to all…persons, places and things…yet attached to nothing. You are not your actions. In all that you do, you must be able to picture your Creator…standing beside you. Think for a moment, in the time when the world was being created…was there room for ego? The ego can be a powerful tool, and there are times when it can be used to help others; but understand that when our ego is being used to make us feel bigger and better than anyone else…it is working against creation.

Look at all situations from above, do not allow your own personal feelings or ideas about how the outcome will affect you, alter the way you conduct yourself. Think about all situations, as if you have nothing to lose or gain. It is sad that this even needs to be said, but unfortunately, the very first person, that typically comes to mind, in any given circumstance…is self.

You must learn how to put other people ahead of you, in this regard. You must want more for others than you want for yourself. You know what you would like to have for yourself…want more for everyone else. If you want $100 then you MUST want $500 for them. This is truly caring for another person.

We must step aside from the “let me break you off a little something” mentality. Stop breaking off fractions of what it is that you have; if you truly want to give…give it all away. I know this may feel like I am trying to steal your oxygen, but please listen. The greatest Saints in history, never thought of self. Mother Theresa of Calcutta, gave her entire fortune away, and lived alongside the people who were truly struggling. She did not do this to get world fame, but to learn humility. She gave her entire fortune to the needy and less fortunate; yet she never appeared to look like she was doing without. In fact, when asked why she smiles everyday…she said because I find Jesus everywhere. What she learned, that most of us struggle with is the fact that you can find your Creators fingerprints on each and every thing…how can that be anything less than perfection?

This part may hurt a little, because now I have to tell you…you are not the most important person in the world. We have been taught so many lies…that we now believe they are the truth. As women, we have been led astray, by other women. That, holier than thou mentality must end…let it end with you. You are a bright and beautiful being…you are definitely that, but if you wear that idea like a tiara…it can become a crown of thorns.

When does beauty fail to be beautiful? When it is used to degrade another living thing. For instance, oh I love her hair; I mean it isn’t as bouncy as mine is, but it still looks good.

Do you see what just happened? You took something that was never about you at all…and you made it all about you. How can a person feel good about themselves, after hearing a statement like that?

This life is not a matrix, nothing is that complicated; but you do have to lay down the idea that you come first. Living life out oud does not mean to be the most boisterous. It means to walk amongst all of creation, knowing that we all have a divine purpose and your purpose may very well be…to just be kind. That doesn’t mean to be kind when you are having a good day or when you get that raise at work. It means above all else, put others first. This also doesn’t mean to play the “Have a blessed day” card.

Do not misinterpret what I am saying to you. We should hope that every one has a blessed day, in fact if they are breathing…in fact- they are being blessed. You know exactly what I am referring to. The tone in which you are speaking, the one that says “You don’t matter to me and my world”…that “Have a blessed day” card. Understand that your job here, is to love everyone. It seems so simple, doesn’t it? Who couldn’t love everyone?

Well, that means that you have to find the most trying of people…loveable.

You have to be able to look at the homeless man urinating on the street, just as loveable as the newborn baby. It means that you have to love, even the man that walked into your place of business- with the intention of robbing you. You have to find a way to find yourself in each and every one. You may think that the woman showing her ass on facebook is nothing like you…after all, you would never post half naked pictures. What if I told you that like you…she lives with grief that time is still trying to heal? What if the attention she is seeking is just so she won’t have to think about the memories she can no longer make with that person…can you really see who she is now?

Life is full of opportunities, don’t miss them, just because they come wrapped in a ribbon that makes you feel negative. This is a lesson that will be hard for most people to learn, after all we do have our preferences. However, life isn’t about you. You did not create it…it created you. You must humble yourself and know that all that you should have…you will have.

Stop walking past the very gifts that this world has to give you; simply because you are looking for something that you find more attractive or suitable.

I will leave you with one final thought today, you do not need to clear your head…you instead…must clear your heart

To all the beautiful people
Remember that today is tomorrows memory
Remember that even the darkness needs the LIGHT to exist
Remember that once someone had to be patient with you
That love is not a thing u do…but WHO u are…
Remember that instead of seeking that perfect mate
Be that PERFECT YOU
Everything and everyone is not for you…
And that is okay
Love with your whole heart
You will never be disappointed
Love never fails…
Failure is an illusion
You have already won
The only war that you are fighting is against yourself
Today…
Choose YOU
Remember that our Creator would not create you…
With the intention for you to lose
But I will remind you that when we see negative things in others
It is only because we see them in ourselves
People are a mere reflection of how u really see yourself
There will be those who will constantly test you…
That’s okay
It will only make you better
Understand that the light which shines on your face…
With all its warmth and love
Actually came from inside yourself
And always…in all ways KNOW
YOU ARE LOVE…
And I appreciate you all…

Sometimes when I write about gratitude
It can be confused with being unrealistic
We jokingly call it my rainbows and unicorn talk
But the truth is that I…
Not unlike many of you
Have dealt with very difficult circumstances
I have taken things for granted
I have wasted time
On bitterness or anger
Until one day…
Some one I loved very much…
Stopped breathing
I have forgotten to be thankful for the small things
Like walking…talking…
Until at one time those things had been taken away …
temporarily
So when I write about gratitude…
Do not confuse it with someone who doesn’t understand
Heartache
Grief
Violence
Sadness or
Illness…
But think of it as it is intended…
From someone who loves you enough
To remind you
That every moment of the day…
I never fail to be grateful
For the very divine way we were brought together
Most of us have never physically met
Yet my heart is with you during your hardships…
I cry with you when you are hurting
And I know how hard things can be for you…
But having said all of that….
Let me also remind you…
How very grateful I am that today
At this very moment…
When you breathed in deeply…
That your breath…
Was waiting for you
I do love you so…