The missing Sexuality Radar.

I am in the middle of my transition and I can not tell if people are into me. At this point, I still look very female, but am always using male restrooms, my male name and male pronouns. I have not yet started Testosterone. I can never tell if the people who are hitting on me are hitting on me because they don't quite get that I'm male or if they actually like me or if they are just being friendly. Honestly, I am uncomfortable about most cis-males/females because of it, because it seems like either way there will be no way they would be into me.

I am pretty androgynous in appearance and I have issues like this as well. If someone is hitting on me, I'm in complete denial over it, thinking they're just being nice. It's virtually impossible for me to tell if someone is flirting with me without them telling me or making it BLATANTLY obvious (at which point it's really past flirting, isn't it?). I feel like most people are into folks that are male or female and overtly masculine and feminine, respectively, so where do I fit into the scheme of things?

I'm CIS male and usually cannot tell if someone is hitting on me either. If you could really tell before and not anymore that sounds like you're more indistinguishable from most of the rest of us guys now.

Funny story: I met a woman at the University who is a few years older than me. We were both talking about our recent break-ups and how needy women were! I kept thinking, "what if she's into me?" and then, "what if she's not bi, but just a lesbian, and into me?"

Funny story: I met a woman at the University who is a few years older than me. We were both talking about our recent break-ups and how needy women were! I kept thinking, "what if she's into me?" and then, "what if she's not bi,
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Funny story: I met a woman at the University who is a few years older than me. We were both talking about our recent break-ups and how needy women were! I kept thinking, "what if she's into me?" and then, "what if she's not bi, but just a lesbian, and into me?"

I'm out to her, but still, how confusing is that? o_O;

My heart goes out to you buddy.
But I'm so happy that I'm partnered and don't have to deal with that kind of confusion now.

I am in the middle of my transition and I can not tell if people are into me. At this point, I still look very female, but am always using male restrooms, my male name and male pronouns. I have not yet started Testosterone. I can never tell if the
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I am in the middle of my transition and I can not tell if people are into me. At this point, I still look very female, but am always using male restrooms, my male name and male pronouns. I have not yet started Testosterone. I can never tell if the people who are hitting on me are hitting on me because they don't quite get that I'm male or if they actually like me or if they are just being friendly. Honestly, I am uncomfortable about most cis-males/females because of it, because it seems like either way there will be no way they would be into me.

I actually know a good number of people who have been into me, knowing I am trans at all (though I am stealth in day to day life) so while there may be a bit less people, they're still out there, especially in the more fun and diverse groups. (S/M people, furries, toy lovers, and just general accepting folks).

I found that even before T a lot of people knew I was a guy, and now it's almost unanimous though my voice is a pain in the rear sometimes and can be a problem.

One thing I have found, it's wayyyy harder to know if a girl is into you than a guy. Men are more straightforward and I have been told by friends that chicks were hitting on me when I thought they were being rude! It's crazy, but a lot of girls do that teasing thing and I am amazed anyone can figure it out, but I guess that comes with experience.

From what my buddies say, a girl giving you a lot of attention, even if it does seem like teasing, generally likes you. Kinda backwards but at least there's something to go by.

I actually know a good number of people who have been into me, knowing I am trans at all (though I am stealth in day to day life) so while there may be a bit less people, they're still out there, especially in the more fun and diverse groups.
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I actually know a good number of people who have been into me, knowing I am trans at all (though I am stealth in day to day life) so while there may be a bit less people, they're still out there, especially in the more fun and diverse groups. (S/M people, furries, toy lovers, and just general accepting folks).

I found that even before T a lot of people knew I was a guy, and now it's almost unanimous though my voice is a pain in the rear sometimes and can be a problem.

One thing I have found, it's wayyyy harder to know if a girl is into you than a guy. Men are more straightforward and I have been told by friends that chicks were hitting on me when I thought they were being rude! It's crazy, but a lot of girls do that teasing thing and I am amazed anyone can figure it out, but I guess that comes with experience.

From what my buddies say, a girl giving you a lot of attention, even if it does seem like teasing, generally likes you. Kinda backwards but at least there's something to go by.

Wow, I never thought about that, but that makes sense. That's probably why I think there are more guys into me than girls.