Had a threesome...confused now...

Idk if this belongs in the sex stories area or what, feel free to move it if that's where it should be. I just have it here cuz I REALLY need advice on this... get ready for a long read people, you've been warned.

Ok, last night was my 22nd birthday party and things got pretty wild. We were at a hotel drinking and having a good time, and slowly people started to make their way home little by little. It ended up being 4 of us staying the night @ the hotel... me, my girlfriend, and two of my buddies. Well one of my friends is married and is really open sexually, and my other friend is seeing someone... well my married friend suggests that we have some fun. He wanted to have us all fuck my girlfriend, in one way or the other, at once. I thought he was joking but everyone started to agree it would be fun.... except for me. I was very uncomfortable with the idea of fucking anywhere near my friends, let alone fuck my girl WITH them, but everyone kept pressuring me, so I gave in. We established some ground rules first, I and ONLY I got the pussy, and everything else was up for grabs. I also made my girl promise that if I went through with it that she would fuck me more often, suck my dick when she was on her period, and that we would fuck like crazy just the two of us at my place later this week. My girl talked to me in private beforehand and said multiple times that it wouldn't mean anything, she just wanted to have fun, and that she loved me and only me.

Well I finally agree completely, then we get going. My girl goes down on me to get me hard, and I do, but because my friends are in the room, by the time I get the condom on, I'm not hard anymore. I struggle to try and ignore them sucking and biting on her tits and try to get a boner again, but the situation is too awkward and I can't get it up. Well I end up playing with myself so much trying to get it up that I come. I then went into the bathroom in shame, rip the condom off, sat down, and took my time thinking about what was happening. Meanwhile everyone is waiting for me to get back and just sit there, not doing anything until one of my friends decides he's done and goes to sleep on the other bed. Now it's just me, my girl, and my married friend. Well I come back and talk to my girl for a while, she says all the same stuff, and we try again. This time she's jacking me and my friend off simultaneously while we take turns pleasuring her with a little vibrator. Well I focus, and I get hard again. I put the condom on and go inside her, then look over to see my friend being jacked off, and I immediately lose my boner and have to pull out. I try for so long to get it back up, and yet again, I make myself come. This time I get pissed/embarrassed and stomp back to the bathroom, yelling "Fuck this Goddamn shit!" right as I slam the door. Well after that we were done and my girl comforted me and reassured me that it was ok that I couldn't get it up. My friend also gave me props for just being able to do anything like that at all.

Now it's the next day and I really don't know what to think about this whole thing. One one side, I just let my friend fondle the hell out of my girlfriend, and watched her jack him off like crazy. That's really unsettling. On the other hand tho, having done this, I get a lot of benefits now. Like I said before, I'm getting sex more often (I BETTER, anyway), blow jobs on her period, I'm gunna tear her pussy up later this week, and also my girl agreed that if my friend can convince his wife to have a threesome with him and me, that I could fuck her. I've secretly wanted to fuck her for years, she's so damn fine, and she's a redhead too, one of my biggest weaknesses.

I don't even know what to think about my own ideas... is it wrong to be excited to fuck someone else's hot-ass wife? i mean... I REALLY want to fuck her to peices, and it isn't like it would mean anything to me besides just sex, but I would prolly feel bad about it, even though my girlfriend doesn't care...

I don't know what to think, someone talk to me please! I'm not used to all this sexual experimenting and it's got my mind all jacked up. SOMEBODY GIVE ME SOMETHING HERE PLEASE!

I think you shouldn't of gone ahead with it at all, you were not even sure to begin with but you were talked into it basically and then the results were not what you were expecting. It's not a simple thing to have a threesome, both people have to be 100% sure of it before hand. But now that it's happened the way it did move on past it. Your gf seems very understanding of your side and open minded about it all. She's even open to you having a threesome with your buddies wife. It's still fresh in your mind and I'm guessing you feel a little bad about your performance and it not turning out to be this hot threesome. You don't sound like your ready to be experimenting in this way though, you say you would feel guilt even though your gf wouldn't mind you fucking your buddies wife...so until you are able to cope emotionally with this type of thing don't go any further. Also talk to your gf, let her know how you feel about how things went. She sounds like a pretty cool girl and I'm sure she will help the most in making you feel better. Give it a while it's still all fresh in your mind too and harder to think straight when your upset.

Yeah, you kinda messed things up for yourself. You should have stood up for yourself and your thoughts at the beginning of the night and not gone through with it if you weren't comfortable.

As for your friends, I personally wouldnt mind if I had my best bud there but not all 2 other guys, etc. etc. I think their secret prerogative was to do your girl, I think it wouldve been better if they really thought about YOU first hand.

As for you're girl: You are a dumb. You just cant agree these kinds of "more sex terms in the future deals." The mere fact you asked for these terms in agreement due to this act shouldn't mean shit. Look, I'm a guy and can tell you with certainty that you're looking better in your friends book than hers.

How? Because your friends can understand that you weren't up for the sex, etc. They can let bygones be bygones....but your girl:

You didn't perform well and didn't meet up to the standards i'm sure at least one of your other friends was meeting up to and 2nd-ly, there you are forming future sexual rules since she's getting you to agree to the sex w/ friends. You're basically saying, "Hey I don't wanna do this so you have to wank me off whenever i please or else." It's childs play. You either shouldve not done the 3some, or at the very least not do all these future sex rules cause i promise you'll be lucky if you get her to agree to it more than once. Look, I don't personally know you and i'm not trying to be mean, but the truth is you were being a pussy by asking for future sex stuff and again, not to be mean but the example that took place that night of you not being able to perform even on a subcounscious level to her shows you couldnt meet up to the challenge.
Learn from it and move on.
You can choose to see it as nothing wrong happened, but the reality is nothing great came out of it for you nonetheless. therefore, you kinda messed up.

Look, I'm trying to offer real help here. and that is to cut your losses, understand you got some friends that will feel for you, but as for the girl, i wouldn't be surprised if its only a matter of time.

you know girls talk about everything with their girlfriends. and this is toooo juicy for any girl to pass up. She can promise to you all she wants, but the truth is...shes gonna tell at the very least 1 of her friends. and do you think her friend will her "its all gonna be alright?"

sounds pretty messed up to me. if it was me i would've never agreed with it ad if my girl did then iono i prolly couldnt be with her anymore. it would just hurt my feelings immensely because sex is suppose to be something we both share together.

All those things promised to you may not seem so sweet when the time comes. Also keep in mind that how feel about her and your friends have most likely change. All those feelings of doubt, insecurity, and embarrassment will come back to haunt your relationship.

My suggestion? Talk to her in calm manner describing your feelings so you don't have them festering inside. Learn something from that night as to not repeat it again, and move on from it.

i wouldnt have a 3some in a relationship. and i dont think ur gf has much respect 4you for doinng what she did, it should have been a talked about choice rather then a rushed decision while the others were around!!! just my oppinion!!!

Well my girlfriend called me today and we talked about the whole thing for a bit. She said that she had been really drunk and that all of the stuff she said was just because of the booze pretty much. I told her how the situation made me feel and how I didn't like the idea of my friends fucking her in any way shape or form. We agreed that the whole thing was a drunken mistake. She agrees it will never happen again. The married friend is actually a friend that I don't particularly like very much, and It was mostly him doing the talking in the situation, the fucking sleeze. He took advantage of the both of us being drunk. When I said everyone thought it would be fun, I mean HE thought it would be fun, my gf was too drunk to care, and my other friend was just as nervous about it as me. My other friend just played with one of her tits and when he saw me getting mad, I'm guessing he decided enough was enough so he went to bed. My girlfriend is young, about to turn 19, and she is easily swayed by liquor, so I can only blame her partially, she would have NEVER done it if she was sober. I'm gunna have to call and talk to my other friend now, I really need his view on this.

If I had a gf and my buddies tried to start something with us...they wouldn't be friends anymore. I don't share.
In all seriousness...you need to grow more of a back bone if you got PRESSURED into having your buddies play with your girl.
Think with your head not your dick. If you don't want something...SAY SO!! Simple!