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<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">greentea23</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Getting Married When We (May) Want Different Things from Sex" id="md1" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I am 23 and I am getting married this fall. I have never had sex before because I have been waiting for marriage. My fiance is not a virgin. We have different views on the purpose of sex. His goals are intimacy and pleasure. I have a lifelong history of feeling guilty about any kind of physical pleasure and therefore trying to avoid it altogether. I really do not care whether I ever have an orgasm. I actually do not know what I think the point of sex is. How can we start a sexual relationship when our goals for sex are so different?</div></div></div>Mon, 01 Jun 2015 16:32:04 +0000Heather Corinna7745 at http://www.scarleteen.comShould my boyfriend and I work towards partnered orgasms, when mutual masturbation is working for us so far? And if so, how?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/should_my_boyfriend_and_i_work_towards_partnered_orgasms_when_mutual_masturbation_is_
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">girlwhocrossedgap</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Should my boyfriend and I work towards partnered orgasms, when mutual masturbation is working for us so far? And if so, how?" id="md2" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I am a 19 year old woman in a relationship with my awesome boyfriend. We are pretty much satisfied in our sex life, mostly because of all the cuddles and love. There is a question that I have, though. Usually we go at it (and do many types of sex) for a couple of hours, and then when we are ready to finish things, we both touch ourselves until we climax. (And give ourselves a great show.) I was wondering if there is supposed to be a point in the relationship where we transition from mutually masturbating to making each other come? I feel like this is something he wants since he keeps telling me to keep going until either I come or he comes. However, it is then frustrating because I know it doesn&#039;t happen. Are there some techniques you can give to help us maybe transition from mutual masturbation to partnered orgasms? Thank you :)
</div></div></div>Thu, 01 Aug 2013 21:00:00 +0000Mo Ranyart6528 at http://www.scarleteen.comIf sex creates fear or anxiety for you, but you still engage in it, why?http://www.scarleteen.com/node/6670
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<div class="form-item form-item-choice form-type-radios form-group"><div id="edit-choice" class="form-radios"><div class="form-item form-item-choice form-type-radio radio"> <label class="control-label" for="edit-choice-12777"><input type="radio" id="edit-choice-12777" name="choice" value="12777" class="form-radio" />I think doing it more will help me learn to be more comfortable.</label>
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</div><div class="form-item form-item-choice form-type-radio radio"> <label class="control-label" for="edit-choice-12779"><input type="radio" id="edit-choice-12779" name="choice" value="12779" class="form-radio" />It scares me, but the positives it gives me are worth it.</label>
</div><div class="form-item form-item-choice form-type-radio radio"> <label class="control-label" for="edit-choice-12780"><input type="radio" id="edit-choice-12780" name="choice" value="12780" class="form-radio" />I feel like it&#039;s supposed to be scary: that&#039;s just part of the deal.</label>
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<div class="field field-name-field-introduction field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">When I started having sex with girls, there was no one cheering, especially not encouraging me to have safer sex. But over the last few years, I’ve finally begun to feel confident with safer sex, and it’s improved my sex life a million percent. I wish I’d gotten comfortable with it sooner.</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Figuring Out How to be a Lesbian Safer Sexpert" id="md3" />Mon, 20 May 2013 18:50:33 +0000Heather Corinna6462 at http://www.scarleteen.comDid abortion make me unable to orgasm?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/did_abortion_make_me_unable_to_orgasm
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">poonamdeshmukh</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Did abortion make me unable to orgasm?" id="md4" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I had to go through an abortion at the age of 18 of a 20 week fetus. I had experienced orgasm just once in my life before the abortion. I have not experienced orgasm after my abortion through any sexual activity or masturbation. Have the abortion made me unorgasmic? I am getting married soon and I&#039;m worried whether I&#039;d be able to satisfy my partner, since I m doubtful whether my partner would have the same experience he used to have before abortion and whether I&#039;d ever reach climax. Kindly help. </div></div></div>Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:13:32 +0000Heather Corinna6404 at http://www.scarleteen.comLeft Foot, Red, Right Hand, Green: The Deal on Sex Positionshttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/left_foot_red_right_hand_green_the_deal_on_sex_positions
<div class="field field-name-field-introduction field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">What positions are there for sex? How do you do them? Which is the best one? And why does everyone seem to think positioning is so complicated when it&#039;s really not?</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Left Foot, Red, Right Hand, Green: The Deal on Sex Positions" id="md5" />Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:25:44 +0000Heather Corinna6332 at http://www.scarleteen.comHPV, Relationships, Pregnancy and Sexhttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/hpv_relationships_pregnancy_and_sex
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">tsunamichick89</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="HPV, Relationships, Pregnancy and Sex" id="md6" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Since I was 19 I&#039;ve had an annual PAP smear done. Never, until this year, has it been abnormal. I went in January of 2011 and then held off because since then I have had an IUD put in, Gardasil, and lost my health insurance. Once I had saved up enough to get my pap test this year it was May. About a week later my doctor called to make an appointment to discuss results. I made another appointment and went in and needed a colposcopy. Another week later she called again. And then I knew then something wasn&#039;t right, I&#039;ve never had a doctor call me about results.
</div></div></div>Fri, 06 Jul 2012 21:52:52 +0000Jenna5316 at http://www.scarleteen.comCondoms Breaking? Ur Probably Doin It Wrong. http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2011/11/23/condoms_breaking_ur_probably_doin_it_wrong
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p>As we've explained in the past, <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2009/12/05/a_common_condom_misunderstanding">like here</a>, with proper use, condoms actually break very rarely. The common mythology that condoms are flimsy and break all the time is just that: mythology, not reality. Different studies on latex condom breakage tend to reflect a breakage rate of around .4%, or only 4 breaks in every <em>1,000</em> uses. So, if you're having condoms break often, especially before you've even used them a few hundred times, it's not likely something is wrong with condoms, but that something is wrong with the way you're using them. </p>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Condoms Breaking? Ur Probably Doin It Wrong. " id="md7" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/birth_control">birth control</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sti">sti</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/std">std</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/safer_sex">safer sex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/condom">condom</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex">sex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/intercourse">intercourse</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/partner">partner</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/sex_education">sex education</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/pregnancy">pregnancy</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/choices">choices</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/teen">teen</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/college">college</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/use">use</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/lube">lube</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/latex">latex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/size">size</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/fit">fit</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/intercourse_is_painful_in_some_positions_tipped_uterus">Intercourse Is Painful in Some Positions--Tipped Uterus?</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/learning">learning</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/break">break</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/brands">brands</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/female_condom">female condom</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex_life">sex life</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/non_latex">non-latex</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/proper">proper</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/perfect">perfect</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/slip">slip</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/style">style</a></div></div></div>Wed, 23 Nov 2011 16:51:35 +0000Heather Corinna4611 at http://www.scarleteen.comHow can I talk about sex without pressuring her?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_can_i_talk_about_sex_without_pressuring_her
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">DaltonTopiary</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="How can I talk about sex without pressuring her?" id="md8" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 17. I love my girlfriend. Really. Real love. Love as in &quot;I want to marry you. I want to respect you. I want to commit my life to you.&quot; We brought up the topic of sex a few months ago, but it didn&#039;t go any farther than &quot;How do you feel about it?&quot; From that little talk we concluded that it was something we both wanted to do.
That was nearly three months ago and I want to talk about it. Nothing dirty or anything, I just want to know how important (or how un-important) it is to her. I want to know that she wants to have sex with me because she loves me, not because she feels she has to. The problem is...I don&#039;t know what to say or what to do to bring it up to her. I fear she might think that I&#039;m trying to tell her that I am waiting and begging for sex, which I am not. I&#039;ll wait for her forever. Any advice?</div></div></div>Wed, 10 Nov 2010 18:50:39 +0000Heather Corinna3321 at http://www.scarleteen.comDid I have sex? Did I lose my virginity?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/did_i_have_sex_did_i_lose_my_virginity
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Roxanne</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Did I have sex? Did I lose my virginity?" id="md9" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 14. My boyfriend rubbed his penis on my vulva and I rubbed my vagina on his penis, but we were both wearing our underwear. Am I still a virgin? Was it sex? I don&#039;t even know what it was... I don&#039;t want to lose my virginity at such a young age! I hope I didn&#039;t lose my virginity to him! Can someone please tell me?</div></div></div>Tue, 29 Jun 2010 23:49:47 +0000Heather Corinna3130 at http://www.scarleteen.comHow can I make my first time special?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_can_i_make_my_first_time_special
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Sarah M.</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="How can I make my first time special?" id="md10" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Having read several of your articles concerning &quot;first time&quot; sex, I understand that it may not (and probably won&#039;t be?) everything I&#039;m expecting, and that you&#039;re &quot;first time&quot; isn&#039;t as big a deal as society makes it seem. But I would really like my first time to be special. Not necessarily perfect, but an event in my life I can look back on fondly. Is there anything I can do/should know that would make it more special?
By the way, I think this site and what you do here is awesome, and I am so so grateful that this resource is available. Keep it up! </div></div></div>Sun, 27 Apr 2008 21:04:45 +0000Heather Corinna1790 at http://www.scarleteen.comLaugh it up!http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/laugh_it_up
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Anonymous</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Laugh it up!" id="md11" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I have been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend, and we both have talked and know that we feel ready for it. However, when I think about during the first time; I laugh. I mean not laughing at him; but because of the inexperience of it all, and the adrenaline rush. Of course, I will tell him its not him, but the situation. I don&#039;t want to laugh during sex, but it is something that I can&#039;t help but so see myself doing. I should suppress laughing, of course. But it is kind of apart of my playful personality, but the last thing I would want to do is offend my boyfriend. Laughing is relaxing right? But still is it bad of me to laugh?</div></div></div>Fri, 28 Mar 2008 17:43:26 +0000Heather Corinna1704 at http://www.scarleteen.comWhat he's doing isn't working for me, but how do I tell him that?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/what_hes_doing_isnt_working_for_me_but_how_do_i_tell_him_that
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">keepintime</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="What he&#039;s doing isn&#039;t working for me, but how do I tell him that?" id="md12" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My Boyfriend and I are new to doing anything sexual. We are both virgins and have never had intercourse, just oral. How do I tell him what he is doing does nothing for me and doesn&#039;t please me without hurting his feelings, and what should I say to him?</div></div></div>Sat, 25 Aug 2007 20:15:01 +0000Heather Corinna1027 at http://www.scarleteen.com