Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

My brother makes me feel SO worthless

I'm 24, with a college degree, & my brother is 10 yrs. older than me with high school education, & he DEMANDS an answer for my personal business just to use it against me & tell my mom so she can boradcast my personal business to the WHOLE world. & he's always telling people what they NEED to do, & how to live their lives. He needs to straighten up his OWN life before telling someone what THEY need to do.

If you ride in the car with him, he angrily honks his horn @ people & yells @ them & calls them stupid for no reason. But he stops @ corners when there are no stop lights & no stop signs, & he honks his horn @ people in front of him when the light is red. He has everything backwards. & he speeds. But he always wants to try to tell other people how they should drive. & he never turns on his signals when turning, & he always goes the LONG way to get some place. & he always has his hand held out for gas $$ & cigarettes, but he buys @ least 3 CD's with every pay check he gets. But he went OFF on me b/c I bought a $15 rice cooker, since I have trouble cooking rice on the stove.

Now, when I had MY "brand new" car, the 1st thing he said was ,"Let ME drive!" & then, he always rubs it in my face about driving, trying to tease me, saying "I hope you get back into the spirit of driving." & he thinks he's too cute & too good to take the bus. As I said, he is SO fixated with being IN CONTROL & driving. & he knocked me out of the wheel of my BRAND new car 3 yrs. ago, just so he can be IN CONTROL. Now, his car is about 6 yrs. old, beat up, & smells pissy (my schizophrenic mom pisses on everyone's property all the time). But anyway, even if I PAY him to allow me to drive, he takes my $$ & then makes an excuse, lying & saying that the car is broke. But yet, he drives it EVERYWHERE. I don't need to be jealous of him with driving b/c he's not a good driver, anyway. They're jealous of my education level, so they want to try to look for an excuse to falsely accuse me of being jealous of them. He had a warrant out for his arrest for outstanding speeding tickets & missing court, on purpose, to hang out with his other gay friends. (He's gay, too.)

That was just a general idea of his character. But SPECIFICALLY today, I was talking, & he just straight told me to shut up for NO reason for something I wasn't even talking to him about. & I waited until we got in the car to ask him why he told me to shut up. & he got mad, saying that I was thinking too hard & blowing the situation out of proportion. No, HE blew it out of proportion. Because as I said, I wasn't talking to him. I didn't mention anything about him, but he tried to say I embarrassed him & made a fool out of him by telling a church friend of the family @ the place where he was getting his hair cut at, that I have a college degree. I was talking about MYSELF, so how did I make an @$$ out of him? & he was talking to the man. Did he expect me to be quiet for 2 hrs.?

How do I deal with this? I'm BURNT up angry & tired of him treating strangers nice & worshipping celebrities, but I'm his own flesh & blood sister, & he told me TO MY FACE that he hates me so much that he wishes I was never born.

My brother ALWAYS wants to dip in my personal business & ask me questions, like "How much $$ you got in the bank? What do you spend your $$ on?", etc.

But he knows about my mental condition with my OCD, depression, anxiety, & Tourette's (but listening to other family members, of COURSE he's gonna wanna believe I'm just "crazy" with no sense)-& they don't even care if I have a college degree. I ask him what his disability is, & he said, "Bad nerves". It's not like I'd use it against him. But he has STRONG mood swings & paranoia, & he walks with a limp. He's always thinking something bad is going to happen, & he takes advantage of people out of fear that they're going to do it to him 1st, when only his friends misuse him, & he talks his anger out on everyone.

Why does my brother always act like a woman with PMS or a woman on her period all the time?
He's a gay man 10 yrs. older than me. I every way I can to show him that I accept him & appreciate him, but he acts like he's prejudice of straight people. He always pushes me away. He talks to his other gay friends for hours & hours, but he treats me like the scum of the earth. He bosses me around, treats me like I'm too stupid to know left from right, he DEMANDS an answer for my personal business but he can't even tell me simple stuff like what he ate for dinner last night. But he always wants to know what I spend my $$ on, how much $$ I have in the bank, etc. He yells @ me & publicly embarrasses me. He acts funny "bitchy", like he's having PMS symptoms.

I don't understand him. Please, someone help me understand him. I'm 24, & he's 34. I try to treat him nice, & he treats me like I don't have a right to live. I don't bash him for his orientation, or anything. But he acts SO nasty, abusive, & hateful towards me that his ATTITUDE is what makes me HATE him! He steals, he cheats me out of my money. He's NO good @ all. Very dishonest, he's a wrong-doer. I can go on.

I wonder why he treats me like a piece of property & has NO respect for me, he takes advantage of me & misuses me. & he thinks it's HIS place to punish me for NO reason. I do nothing but GOOD to him. I don't understand. & when I ask him, "Why did you yell @ me?" He says I'm starting my "$hit." You can't even talk things out with him. He's always jerking me around & bullying me.

i know hes ure brother, and u feel like u cnt turn ure back. But he is obviously a complete jackass. Im sat here completly awe struck to be honest. Im only 16 and if my brother did any of the things ures does to u id knock his lights out. He obviously dusn't do anything to help u with ure problems and illnesses, so i know this might seem ott, but id sack him off. Him behaving like that is doing nothing good, its jst makin u feel inadequate and like crap. He sounds like sum seriously spoilt little brat. This post may seem harsh, pls dnt be offended, but what he's doing isn't good and u dnt deserve it at all. Its ure life, live it ure way.

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