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Wednesday, July 4, 2012

What Grabs the Eye and Heart

In the world of boy meets girl, you ever wonder how the
points of attraction changes? What matters? According to Dr. Joyce Brothers, in
her book, WHAT EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT MEN, she explains how the initial
physical attraction works and why.

Ever wonder why the girl who developed breasts first suddenly
became the most popular girl at school with the boys? Most of us thought it was
because she was easy or at least that was the rumor, which may or may not have
been true. This particular girl epitomized the basic differences between male
and female by being the first to display secondary sexual characteristics (i.e.
boobs.)No matter how dweeby the boy, he
felt more manly around her. That was her allure.Boys, still somewhat confused about their
sexual identity, found some clarity standing next to her.

Dr. Joyce Brothers believed that instinctively the men were
drawn to the breasts on a primitive level because they felt she would be able
to bear and nurse children.(All thirteen year old boys think this.) On the
other hand, they felt assured of their masculinity by just standing beside someone
who wasn’t male. In short, men who need to compensate for their lack of true
manhood prefer to only date your D-cup girls.Psychology Today magazine also shows a parallel that the better socially
adjusted a man the less he needs to date a supermodel-like woman for esteem
issues.

Dr. Joyce Brothers explained that women used to be drawn to
big shouldered men with powerful, hairy chests. On the primitive level, this
man showed he could protect her with his powerful physique. His level of
hairiness demonstrated a high level of testerone flowing through his body
indicating he’d have a decent sperm count. You may have noticed women don’t
really like the big, hairy-chested guys anymore. Wonder why?

The media influences tastes by showing slender, hairless men
in commercials, magazines, and movies. Hairy guys are getting waxed in droves
in hopes of finding a mate. Many guys are shaving all over convinced that hair
is the opposite of attractiveness. This explains all the bald men currently
walking the streets.

What do men first notice about women? According to a survey
taken in South Florida, it is their butt, their legs, their eyes, their face,
and breasts. The survey taker pointed out because of a strong Cuban presence,
the men preferred a fully rounded derrière. There is no mention of hair, but in all other
Southern states, long hair is the number one attraction. One man described long
hair as hiding a multitude of flaws, everything from jughead ears to a lack of
a firm chin line. As far as color, men want what they don’t have. If they are
brunettes, they prefer blonde, but all like redheads.

An unusual study in Australia showed single men pictures of
women that had their arms photo shopped. No matter what the woman looked like
they always picked the women with the longer, proportioned forearms. It appears
the men were responding to symmetry in nature. That means when my hairdresser
told me I had great forearms that really was a compliment.

What do women want in men? The number one item is height. If
your sweetie or husband is around your height or shorter, than you are a rare
woman, but it may be you’ve netted a great guy that other women overlooked. On
dating sites, women will put 6’ or taller as their first requirement. Only 13%
of the US males meet that standard. Some of those men are married, old, gay, or
just plain jerks.

Another thing women like is hair, a full head of hair. Bald
men are becoming less popular. Men with thinning or receding hair are usually
considered after the thick haired men, or bald men fail to pan out.

What do you think the third most desirable male quality is?
Is it his smile, his eyes, his trim torso? Nope. it’s income.A woman can tell what a man is approximately
worth by where she meets him at. Plenty of money guys hang out at the county
club, golf course, or opera house. She notices what he wears and is very
cognizant of labels and tailoring.By
the company he keeps, he tends to hang out with other high wage earners. Before
you classify the woman as a gold digger keep in mind she might want to start a
family and needs a good provider. Income is the new broad shoulders and hairy
chest.

After the wallet test, a woman likes a man who smiles. He
makes her feel good about herself. He also gives the appearance of having
things under control, and that’s attractive. If he can manage his world well
enough to smile about it, then he can also manage their world.

Trends change as noted by men engaging in waxing, and full
figured women coming back in style. Yes ladies, men are saying they prefer
women with meat on their bones. A rather odd change is coming about due to the
youth-oriented culture that is rather narcissistic in nature. Think of the thousands
of pictures your son, daughter, niece, etc. has posted on Facebook, or the
endless videos they posted on Youtube.These are people who enjoy looking at themselves. It makes sense they’d
prefer someone who looks like them. Enter FaceMate, a dating service that
matches up your face to the most similar face it can find of the appropriate
sex.

Apparently seeing your face on someone else’s body
encourages trust, comfort, and happiness. Just take a gander at Jerry Seinfeld
and his wife.

Next time you have your hero spot your heroine, what will he
notice about her? Even though I read what women do notice first, I tend to
notice a man’s actions. A man being patient with children, pets, or even
incompetent salespeople impresses me. Next, if I am close enough, the voice. Is
his voice under control, free of anger and tenseness? Is there a hint of life,
or humor in it? I guess it goes to show people like different things.

4 comments:

Nice article! Actually my hubby looks a lot like someone who might be in my family already. He doesn't really look like I do, or at least did when we first met, but he does look like other family members.

But what attracted me to him was his smile and the way it lit up his eyes. He has gorgeous eyes and when he smiles, they do as well.

What a fantastic post! So true and fun. You remind of my daughter asking a guy she just met at a bar to take off his cap. Why? Because the previous one she met wore a cap. Later she discovered he was bald. Guess what? She didn't like bald and wasn't taking chances anymore.