Cops Beat Their Wives & Girlfriends At Double The National Rate, Still Receive Promotions

Statistics show that 1 in 4 women in the US is a victim of domestic violence, those numbers jump to 1 in 2 if they are married to a cop.

May 7, 2014

Law Enforcement officers beat their significant other at nearly double the national average. Several studies, according to Diane Wetendorf, author of Police Domestic Violence: Handbook for Victims, indicate that women suffer domestic abuse in at least 40 percent of police officer families. For American women overall, the figure is 25 percent, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

According to The Advocates for Human Rights Organization, studies indicate that police families are 2-4 times more likely than the general population to experience domestic violence, making the potential for disparities in protective success particularly troubling.

Historian John Emerich Edward Dalberg-Acton, has a famous quote, Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely. This rings true through all levels of government ‘power,’ however it is particular prevalent among police officers.

Sociopaths are attracted to positions in which they are able to assert authority over others, so it should come as no surprise that there are higher concentrations of sociopaths within law enforcement.

The trouble with spousal abuse lies in the very nature of police work. The authority and control in the wrong hands, will be misused, according to domestic violence counselors.

What makes police domestic violence more difficult to deal with is the fact that women feel scared to report it. Even advocates for battered women are reluctant to dive into domestic violence cases involving police for fear of alienating the agencies they rely upon for help in other abuse cases, according to a report by SFGate.

When other women report their abuse, they do so to law enforcement officers. Think about it from the position of the one being abused by a law enforcement officer. The one doing the beating is simultaneously holding a position in which they are tasked with preventing that very abuse!

“There are a lot of good cops who go into the work for the right reasons, to help people. But then you have these others who are more interested in the authority, in the badge and the gun.”

Diane Wetendorf told SFGate in an interview,

“The biggest problem for a woman reporting that she’s been abused by her police officer husband or boyfriend is that nobody believes you.”

“There are a lot of good cops who go into the work for the right reasons, to help people. But then you have these others who are more interested in the authority, in the badge and the gun.”

“They start out with command presence and voice to gain and maintain control, and if that doesn’t work, they go up the scale with an increasing amount of force until they get compliance,” Wetendorf said. “Unfortunately, these guys use the same technique with their wives and girlfriends. And some of them go from 0 to 60 right away.”

These women not only fear retaliation, but also have apprehension about their husbands losing their jobs, thus stifling their own economic future.

If they do report it they often run into skepticism from the same law enforcement system they are complaining to.

“A big part of police culture is the code of silence, the prosecutors depend on police for their cases, the police depend on each other – it’s a very insulated system,” says Wetendorf. Cops will all too often look the other way when it is “one of their own” facing accusations.

An example of this tendency to cover up domestic police abuse can be seen in the case of Jeremy Yachik. This monster beat and tortured his daughter for years. His girlfriend even filmed the abuse with her cellphone and brought the footage to the police department that Yachik worked for.

Also a study conducted by the Domestic Violence Task Force called Domestic Violence in the Los Angeles Police Department: How Well Does the Los Angeles Police Department Police Its Own? revealed that performance evaluations of cops with history of domestic violence are largely unaffected.The study of the Los Angeles Police Department further examined the 91 cases in which an allegation of domestic violence was sustained against an officer.

Over three-fourths of the time, this sustained allegation was not mentioned in the officer’s performance evaluation.

Twenty-six of these officers (29%) were promoted, including six who were promoted within two years of the incident.

The report concluded that “employees with sustained allegations were neither barred from moving to desired positions nor transferred out of assignments that were inconsistent with the sustained allegation”

Wetendorf points out the most common fears when reporting police domestic abuse in her handbook:

If your abuser is an officer of the law, you may be afraid to:

Call the police — He is the police.

Go to a shelter — He knows where the shelters are located.

Have him arrested — Responding officers may invoke the code of silence.

Take him to court — It’s your word against that of an officer, and he knows the system.

Drop the charges — You could lose any future credibility and protection.

Seek a conviction — He will probably lose his job and retaliate against you.

These fears can make someone feel incredibly trapped and feel like there is no way out.

If you or someone you know is a victim of this type of abuse we encourage you to no longer remain silent. As long as people go unpunished for their abuse, they will continue their abuse.

Film it, record it, expose it in any manner you can. Tell us your story and we will expose these abusive jackboots for the cowards they are.

Sources:

1 Johnson, L.B. (1991). On the front lines: Police stress and family well-being. Hearing before the Select Committee on Children, Youth, and Families House of Representatives: 102 Congress First Session May 20 (p. 32-48). Washington DC: US Government Printing Office.

What should be embarrassing to every American is American police officers!!!! Here we the taxpayer pay on average $8,000 per officer to train .....Another $3,000 in equipment and 5 officers could not arrest or handle one homeless person without shooting him 5 times killing him......................Proven "AMERICA" police officers in America are a bigger threat to all Americans......................NOT ISIS!!!!

And ladies and gentlemen here is the real kicker ... even a misdemeanor Domestic Violence conviction prevents you from legally owning or purchasing a firearm.<<< Federal Law "unless" you are Government Law Enforcement employee.

Now it makes sense...I went to the police for Domestic Abuse...even with bruises and a witness the MALE cop was intimidating and insinuated that I was lying! I left broken and upset. What made it worse is that the original female cop I seen told me if it happened in her town my abuser would have been arrested!

That's absolutely horrible. I hope you have received help and support. Don't ever let anyone intimidate you, especially a cop. A man will only try to intimidate you because he fears you, and he acts tough to mask his fear and insecurity. Cops are even more insecure because they need additional armor (a badge and gun) to hide behind.

These are just three of the many UNARMED blacks that ran. Or didn't have a chance to run. Were not selling drug nor were on welfare!!!

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/02/24/atlanta.police/

Aiyana Mo'Nay Stanley Jones was a seven-year-old girl from the east side of Detroit, Michigan who was shot while she sleep and killed during a raid conducted by the Detroit Police Department's Special Response Team on May 16, 2010. Her death drew national media attention and led U.S. Representative John Conyers to ask U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder for a federal investigation into the incident.
Officer Joseph Weekley was charged in connection with Jones' death. In October 2011, Weekley was charged with involuntary manslaughter and reckless endangerment with a gun. Weekley's first trial ended in a mistrial in June 2013. Weekley's retrial began in September 2014. On October 3, the judge dismissed the involuntary manslaughter charge against Weekley, leaving him on trial for only one charge: recklessly discharging a firearm. On October 10, the second trial ended in another mistrial. On January 28, 2015, a prosecutor cleared Weekley of the last remaining charge against him, ensuring there would not be a third trial

The shooting of Amadou Diallo occurred on February 4, 1999, when Amadou Diallo, a 22-year-old immigrant from Guinea, was chase shot and killed by four white New York City Police Department plain-clothed officers: Sean Carroll, Richard Murphy, Edward McMellon and Kenneth Boss. The officers fired a combined total of 41 shots, 19 of which struck " UNARMED" Diallo, outside his apartment at 1157 Wheeler Avenue in the Soundview section of The Bronx. The four were part of the now-defunct Street Crimes Unit. All four officers were charged with second-degree murder and acquitted at trial in Albany, New York.

Diallo was unarmed at the time of the shooting, and a firestorm of controversy erupted subsequent to the event as the circumstances of the shooting prompted outrage both within and outside New York City. Issues such as police brutality, racial profiling, and contagious shooting were central to the ensuing controversy. The four white officers mistaken Diallo for a criminal...Then they said they thought his wallet was a gun!!! Diallo ran like anyone would if they had four white plainclothes chasing with guns out.

What should be embarrassing to every American is American police officers!!!! Here we the taxpayer pay on average $8,000 per officer to train .....Another $3,000 in equipment and upwards of 10 officers could not arrest or handle one person without killing him......................Proven "AMERICA" police officers in America are a bigger threat to all Americans......................NOT ISIS!!!!

Tasers are being used as torture....Again where is the leadership ? Where are the Mayors and Governors in these area? Where are the elected politician addressing and correcting police brutality ...? Regulating the use of tasers and police use of deadly force!!!?????

As a Correction Officer if I got into a physical situation with a inmate....I could not leave the prison until I handed in a detail report!!!

Its is a shame that a convicted felon has more respect than a citizen!!!

Where is the leadership in Baltimore...
? Where is the authority? Who is the superior over the "Police Commissioner"! Why is there a know report on the desk of the Mayor detailing the incident ...From every one involve immediately after the human being was taken to the hospital! There is "NO" reason the police involve should had not handed in a detail report by NOW!!

This should be a bill written by a politician demanding this procedure be standard!!!!

GUN HAPPY WHITE POLICE ARE A DANGER TO ALL AMERICANS

These are just three of the many UNARMED blacks that ran. Or didn't have a chance to run. Were not selling drug nor were on welfare!!!

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/02/24/atlanta.police/

Aiyana Mo'Nay Stanley Jones was a seven-year-old girl from the east side of Detroit, Michigan who was shot while she sleep and killed during a raid conducted by the Detroit Police Department's Special Response Team on May 16, 2010. Her death drew national media attention and led U.S. Representative John Conyers to ask U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder for a federal investigation into the incident.
Officer Joseph Weekley was charged in connection with Jones' death. In October 2011, Weekley was charged with involuntary manslaughter and reckless endangerment with a gun. Weekley's first trial ended in a mistrial in June 2013. Weekley's retrial began in September 2014. On October 3, the judge dismissed the involuntary manslaughter charge against Weekley, leaving him on trial for only one charge: recklessly discharging a firearm. On October 10, the second trial ended in another mistrial. On January 28, 2015, a prosecutor cleared Weekley of the last remaining charge against him, ensuring there would not be a third trial

The shooting of Amadou Diallo occurred on February 4, 1999, when Amadou Diallo, a 22-year-old immigrant from Guinea, was chase shot and killed by four white New York City Police Department plain-clothed officers: Sean Carroll, Richard Murphy, Edward McMellon and Kenneth Boss. The officers fired a combined total of 41 shots, 19 of which struck " UNARMED" Diallo, outside his apartment at 1157 Wheeler Avenue in the Soundview section of The Bronx. The four were part of the now-defunct Street Crimes Unit. All four officers were charged with second-degree murder and acquitted at trial in Albany, New York.

Diallo was unarmed at the time of the shooting, and a firestorm of controversy erupted subsequent to the event as the circumstances of the shooting prompted outrage both within and outside New York City. Issues such as police brutality, racial profiling, and contagious shooting were central to the ensuing controversy. The four white officers mistaken Diallo for a criminal...Then they said they thought his wallet was a gun!!! Diallo ran like anyone would if they had four white plainclothes chasing with guns out.

What should be embarrassing to every American is American police officers!!!! Here we the taxpayer pay on average $8,000 per officer to train .....Another $3,000 in equipment and upwards of 10 officers could not arrest or handle one person without killing him......................Proven "AMERICA" police officers in America are a bigger threat to all Americans......................NOT ISIS!!!!

Tasers are being used as torture....Again where is the leadership ? Where are the Mayors and Governors in these area? Where are the elected politician addressing and correcting police brutality ...? Regulating the use of tasers and police use of deadly force!!!?????

As a Correction Officer if I got into a physical situation with a inmate....I could not leave the prison until I handed in a detail report!!!

Its is a shame that a convicted felon has more respect than a citizen!!!

Where is the leadership in Baltimore...
? Where is the authority? Who is the superior over the "Police Commissioner"! Why is there a know report on the desk of the Mayor detailing the incident ...From every one involve immediately after the human being was taken to the hospital! There is "NO" reason the police involve should had not handed in a detail report by NOW!!

This should be a bill written by a politician demanding this procedure be standard!!!!

To call all law enforcement officers bad is not only wrong, but ridiculous. It's like saying ALL black people are drug dealers, and all white people are serial killers. That's simply not true. Sure there may be a few officers that are complete assholes, on the job and at home, but to say ALL cops are bad...really?

Let's stop being satisfied with posting that someone else quotes antiquated and questionable studies and insist on current day survey of the prevalence because without that law makers can and will continue to do nothing and the (yes) disproportionate abuse and deaths will continue.

If a law enforcement officer goes to court and is convicted of Domestic Violence, he cannot carry a gun and can no longer be a law enforcement officer! That is a federal guideline and it is true everywhere!

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i am married to a cop. A 30 year LEO retired. I know many officers personally. I am so offended by copblock and the like. If you like the so called stats that these " Hate all government rules and regs " then you have to ask what percentage of the general public is "Bad" Domestic Violence, robbery, murder, assault and battery, arson, residential break ins, child abuse etc. Don't like cops and their attitudes STOP BREAKING THE LAW. I'll bet everyone on this board is pissed because they got a traffic ticket and exaggerated the contact . Just like Crazy Guggenheim...".I wasn't doing nothing...I was just standing there .." Real life is not a movie. Do something constructive and stop complaining about what you know nothing about AND don't want to. I'll take my LEO's over most of the general public.

This article is not saying that all cops are bad. What it is doing is pointing out a problem, one that your response has not addressed. Yes, cops have a very risky and important job, but that job also comes with a lot of power and influence. Since they have that power and influence, it should be important to all of us that they don't misuse it. Pointing out that some police officers have done and apparently gotten away with horrible things based on real statistical studies is not the same as claiming that all cops are racist, sexist, or what have you. This article even notes that many cops are good people, that they join because they want to protect others rather than to gain power over others.

Yes, it is wrong that some organizations routinely demonize cops, painting them all in a bad light. Yes, that sentiment causes harm. However, so does the widespread sentiment that only sees cops as saints and angels who don't get the thanks they deserve.The reality is not only black, or only white; there are good cops and there are bad cops, and we, as a society, should be concerned about how we deal with the bad ones; if we don't, then we are letting them get away with abusing their power. Yes, our culture should be appreciative of all that our law enforcement personnel do to keep us safe, but that doesn't mean we must turn a blind eye to corruption and the like from those very same people whose work we venerate. In fact, I daresay that opposing corrupt officers and addressing the problems statistics like these reveal actually shows great respect for the ideal of the police and the law, just as Martin Luther King, Jr. argued that those who commit civil disobedience are actually showing great respect to the law.

Finally, I have no reason to believe that your husband is a bad man; in fact, I'm willing to wager, based on your loyalty to him, that he's a very good, concerned person who strives to protect others. That being said, your experiences are not necessarily indicative of the whole. Not only is your husband only one part of the whole, but many abusive people are perfectly charming in public; once they think no one's looking they become a whole different person. Still, perhaps every officer you know personally is a good one, without skeletons in their closets. Even presuming that is the case, that doesn't mean that the officers you know are representative of the force as a whole.

If you wish to dispute any of my claims or arguments, please cite the claim and present your objection(s). I welcome civil dialogue.

Jesse Harden As I said I know very many LEO's. As with All people, some I like better than others. The cops I know do not abuse their wives. If you have been around an abuser you can see it .The family I married in to had 2. It was plain as day as they were quite pleased to show their control. I witnessed many times verbal abuse and there is no question in my mind they became violent (i no longer am in that family). When I asked, both women said they had no problems. I did Google and found the disrespect for cops in most articles. I do not accept the 1 in 4 which is my prerogative. I did come across a headline that said every 58 seconds a cop is killed but that is of no consequence because we are discussing wife beaters.I am not a student of this subject but do feel my age and experiences give me some insight. You will excuse me for my opinions. I also do not subscribe to women staying in an abusive situation. There is help but you have to seek it. You can see by the comments what "The good people " feel about cops/authority.

Your sources seems light and over 20 years old. Like the old myth of the Super Bowl generating more calls of DV than any other day of the year, so to is your premise. DV does occur among police ranks, like it occurs in any other profession. Does it occur at a rate 100% higher than the general public, than some 40 women married to cops in my department are victims. That's about as false of a statistic as one touted for college rape stats. Oh, and to those who believe a cop convicted of misdemeanor DV doesn't lose his ability to carry a firearm, you are very wrong.

The police were once called to my home by a neighbor who witnessed my ex-boyfriend holding a gun on me and threatening to kill me. My violent, psycho ex took his gun and left about 10 minutes before the cops got there, however I knew exactly where he went and I gave the responding officers the street address, phone number and very clear directions on how to get to where he was. Had these two bothered to take a 7 minute drive, they would have found my ex, and hid gun exactly where I said they would be. They had time to make me lay down on my stomach in my driveway with my face in the gravel and my hands on my head, they had time to kick in an unlocked garage door, they had time to scream at me to "shut up" my dog (who was securely locked in his kennel and presented absolutely no danger to anyone at the time, they were merely annoyed by his loud barking) and threaten to shoot him if I didn't shut him up, and they had time to threaten to arrest me when I told them that if they shot my dog I'd have their goddamn jobs. But take maybe 10 minutes of their valuable time to go arrest the guy who threatened to shoot me dead in front of witnesses? AW HELL NO!!!! The neighbor who called 911 came over when he saw me laying in my driveway with my hands on my head and was treated about as well as I was. He had written down the license plate number and the make/model of the car my ex had been driving and gave this information to the police as well. My ex's OWN BROTHER was present when he threatened me with the gun and willingly told the police what he witnessed and NOTHING. NOTHING.

Liberty, I just received this article this morning and read through most of it but checked out the comments section and have read your posts. The incident u describe -- where (city, state) was that and what was the eventual legal/court action against your ex?
I know first hand of a woman -- young mother who had just delivered by C-section -- who reported a whole family threatening to beat her up in front of her son, shoot her, kill her and reported to a sheriff's department that did absolutely nothing! She walked in to sheriff's dept to make the report. I always wondered what the law enforcement response would have been if she had called... my hunch is nothing because too many people behind the badge discount and dismiss domestic violence as just a family spat

Michael D Hill This happened in Bremerton, WA in June or July of 2011 and there was no legal/court action against him brought by me but the skank he shacked with after me had him charged with DV assault 3 or 4, I can't remember which as it's been a few years ago at this point and when all this was going on I had my own problems and didn't pay very close attention to my ex's legal troubles.

Liberty N. Cognito I believe your story and many others like that if anyone puts a gun to my head that does not have qualified immunity the moment the gun is barrel is not pointed at me I will either kill or at least break some bones on that person depending who they are in relation to me. Then after everything is calmed down and my dog is not in the house call the cops and tell them they had a gun to my head I had to defend myself. The police are never their for your protection.

Ashiedu Nwadiei , uh, geez, I hate to disabuse you of your ideas, but women NEVER HAD good will from police in these situations, which is exactly why domestic violence shelters came into existence in the first place, because it was women stepping up to help other women in the face of a complete non-response from law enforcement. I worked in domestic violence for a decade right at the time it was first being openly spoken about 35 years ago, and I can tell you from hard experience that it was horrific the things that happened. So please, put your misperceptions away and try to understand what the realities actually were and continue to be.

Well your psycho ex sounds dangerous, they don't want any of that. Same goes for CPS they only go after abused/neglected children of parents who may not "hunt them down and kill them" .... it really is on their minds as they do their J O B daily.
Spokane Wa here same issues

Incompetent morons often are hired as cops - untrained baboons; I guess Obama needs his daughter to get choke-murdered by the NYpigD in daylght before he will issue an executive order firing all sub zero IQ gestapo cops/ chiefs / police unions , nationwide.

I can empathize, Rebecca, 'cause it even happens in Gay relationships (though your experience was clearly more harrowing than mine). My ex was a retired corrections officer who now works for a local police department. He was physically (as well as emotionally, mentally & verbally) abusive (too many details to outline here), not-to-mention: crazy, & not-too-bright. Before I left, he threatened (3x) to have me 'disappeared' by his former co-workers in corrections. I worked with a local LGBT-domestic-violence-prevention group, which—along with friends—provided protection and support. The experience, in its entirety, was a harsh lesson for me to learn (i.e. select thy mate with greater care & scrutiny). I'm not giving him a pass nor 'blaming the victim', just performing the act of taking my power back. As for my abusive ex: I left him to the 'Lords of Karma', as it were. I'm quite certain they'll know what to do with him.

"Sociopaths are attracted to positions in which they are able to assert authority over others, so it should come as no surprise that there are higher concentrations of sociopaths within law enforcement."

I honestly think we would be better off downsizing the police to a very small number of investigators and SWAT teams with some officers on call for felony calls and significantly higher standards are absolutely necessary, since they don't exist.

Marc Stinebaugh So, basically lower their standard of performance to that of most inner cities (i.e. only show up after the crime took place). That's basically what you're talking about. I don't want a corrupt police state, but I don't want impotent police either. I want them reformed and on the job for everybody.

Marc Stinebaugh You do realize violence is on the rise. Do you really feel comfortable with a small police force that could take an hour to get to you verses 20 min.Once criminals know this violence will get out of control.

Nicolas Edwards No you're wrong. Violent crime Is on the rise. Why don't you show statistics to back up what you're saying. http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/10/24/violent-crime-rising-in-united-states/3180309/

Joyce Bailey Reece you guys know that lots of countries with far less police and guns on their force have less crime right?
more cops does not equal safer.

this is indicative of larger conversations we need to be having with men and boys around privilege and power and how we value women. police, I suspect feel powerful. the same stats I would expect from high level politicians, military families, CEO families. it is tied to privilege and power.

Ron Couchman I'm really confused on Joyce's stance on the matter.. apparently she is in support of cops beating their wives/girlfriends? She wants more and more police.. there's just not enough police.. so more and more beatings then?

And she seems to think that it's ok that the stenographer (the one who's only responsibility is in transcribing the result of the law in court) is smarter than the person that started the process by enforcing the laws on the street.. I think she just likes to argue and say SHOW ME YOUR STATISTICS!!! statistics troll...

Devlin Skahill im not sure of all that. I dont like putting words in peoples mouths. I just know there are a good many communities, people who have broken no laws, that feel and often are greatly less safe the more cops there are.

To think police have peoples best interests at heart is a deeply privileged place to speak from.

But I live in Bradenton, FL our last sheriff chief was in position 30+ years was literally married to the mob (daughter of a mob boss) traffic'd and grew large amounts marijuana, and the corruption goes on and on.. He never was charged with anything, but that didn't stop him from arresting everybody he had trafficking his drugs before he left office.. I personally have had cops plant drugs on me and fought it every step of the way, didn't go to trial, there was no evidence checked in at the time of arrest.. shocker.. never see that $2000 atty fee back! Or the jobs I lost due to mugshots, and the mugshot fees I had to pay to remove SEALED records.. all because these pigs would rather be easy and sleazy than actually take the time to uphold the law...

Hell there was a home invasion literally next door last night -> http://www.bradenton.com/2014/05/10/5146940/cash-tvs-stolen-from-siblings.html?sp=/99/100/&ihp=1

Worthless POS took 45 minutes to finally show up by the dozens.. didn't' do ANYTHING, and then CSI showed up and took down the crime scene tape the cops put up.. also doing literally nothing... still in MY trashcan.. no respect for any law enforcement over here.. Did I mention the police station is 2 blocks away... and there was clearly audible gunfire.. worthless..

Joyce Bailey Reece - The content of your article was better than the headline...

"after two decades of falling crime rates, violent crime remains at historically low levels. Crime rates have dropped steadily since 1993, when 80 of every 1,000 people reported being victims of violent crime. The homicide rate declined 48% from 1993 to 2011."

"Taken together, the figures indicate a slight shift in direction, said James Lynch, chairman of the University of Maryland's criminology and criminal justice department.

"It's not exactly a crime wave. It's more like a flattening out," Lynch said. "I don't see this as terribly alarming"..."

Marc Stinebaugh SWAT team kick in door to arrest consensual adult sex worker all the time. Just last week with a non knock warrant they threw a smoke bomb into a window that landed in a baby's crib, and the baby has 3rd degree burns, and this was all over some guy selling 50 bucks worth of dope to a informant, and he wasn't even home when the swat team arrived. The problem with law enforcment is that they are rewarded for covering up for corrupt cops, and rarely are they held accountable for excessive force and other abuses. In 2008 I had a NJ swat team kick in the door to my residence without a warrant, because I was a 42 year old women that had a Craigslist ad. I now have PTSD as I felt like I was a terrorist and the military was coming in. They were waving their guns around, screaming if you just cooperate you can go hone at the end of the day.

Countries with less police and less crime also have robbers with less hands, rapist with less genitals, and dead murderers! If America was allowed to utilize those type of punishments, we too would have less crime...

Joyce Bailey Reece, actually, violence is NOT on the rise. If you look at all the FBI statistics, across the board, crime rates are decreasing. Far and away, community policing - which is to say, demilitarizing the police and putting them out in communities, on foot and/or bicycles and talking to people on a daily basis, is the best way to get the police response we'd all prefer to see.

Joyce Bailey Reece How is a 20 minute response going to help you? A smaller police force would make people realize they have to stand up for themselves. More people standing up for themselves makes thugs realize there are not so many sheep, and they become less bold.

Joyce Bailey Reece You saw that what your link went to was victimization survey of people over 12 yrs old? that most were simple assaults (that would include yelling at or making the person feel threatened) that were NOT reported to police so no official stats or any record. It is like defensive use of a firearm ... no one reports a crime that did not take place.

Christopher Keeling Repeats would go down, and lengthy criminal history would be unheard of, instead of common. Those who prove they are not able to be in society with out victimizing others should ... got stuck here on whether I was talking common criminals or police as both seem to apply. either way removed from society permanently.

It's about time wives and children of these demented gestapo cops start applying 'fearing for their lives' and do the justifiable thing in protecting themselves by all means necessary..... but then after of course the rest of the gestapo goon squads would roll up to the house in armoured humvees and murder the victimized wife and grenade bomb the abused children too.

Simple math doesn't seem to be your forte, so I'm not surprised your research skills are nil. First, 40% is, believe it or not, NOT "double" 25%, nor is it 1 out of 2. But if you actually took five minutes to research what you write before posting blatantly misleading inflammatory garbage, you might make yourselves look like marginally smaller assholes.

Tracing back through all the propaganda, the only "studies" cited are from over TWENTY YEARS AGO. furthermore, they relied on self-report surveys (which have limited, if any, validity), and only reported on households of police officers that reported domestic issues which involved "aggression" within the past year - in other words, not every case was one in which a male officer "beat his wife".

Seriously, I know you guys have a hard-on for law enforcement (one can only wonder why), but this is a new low even for you. You should really drop the "thought" part of your organization's name, since you don't seem to be capable of that act.

My best friend was just killed in april (the day before easter) infront of her two youndlg children by her cop husband who should have never had his gun in the first place as he (reportedly) had not been cleared by the dept after a previous incident. He had already been arrested in th home and sent to a hospital for his alcoholism. Yet the department failed to monitor him and failed to prevent him from having his weapon back upon retirement (jan this year). This man had been actively under the influence while still on the job. What does that tell you about oversight and miss management?!?

Recent reports also show that as a American women I am twice as likely to be RAPED by a cop than a random civilian, even a convicted felon.

Cop rapes twice as much
http://www.digitaljournal.com/article/363443#ixzz2nCYD8iWm

Yet the cops are given hundreds of million each year to stalk and arrest consensual adult sex workers under the guise of rescuing victims and more often than not this power is used to rob, rape, and exploit the sex workers. Meet some of these wonderful cops that rape children and many do not even do 3 years in jail.

Bella Robinson - .... because turning down an abuser's marriage proposal is totally guaranteed to keep you safe from beatings right? I hear these guys deal with rejection really well. "Attention abused women, did you ever consider NOT being abused instead? Way better!"

But how are they suppose to know the man is abusive at the time. How is any woman abused of any man suppose to know at the time of love that they are going to turn out abusive. I was with my ex from 15-22 and he 22-27 at the time didn't start abusing me till the second year in. So no one knows you know.

Heiniken Moore Its high time we started educating women to the traits of abusive relationships as many women don;t have a clue what these warnings signs are, For instance abusers try to isolate you and make sure you have limited contact with family and friends, now in a healthy relationship, a man would support a women having friends and family etc. Many women that are being abused stay because they cant afford to leave, they have no way to support their kids alone and they are kind of stuck. I find the best part of being a sex worker was that I was able to support myself and my daughter without having to have a man.

Ben Weiser why would any women marry a cop knowing that they have a higher rate of domestic violence than any other occupation in the US. Why are we not DEMANDING that these abusive cops be prosecuted? Not marrying a cop will not ensure you won;t be beaten but it sure will lessen the chances.

Bella Robinson You do realize abuse isn't always as obvious as someone punching you...right? And many times the abuse doesn't start until AFTER the nuptials. It also isn't as easy as "just leave". Most of these guys inflict some sort of continued behavior, especially if children are involved.

Bella Robinson - Stop questioning women's choices already, would you? You can't walk out your door without taking a risk, yet we venture out the door. The safest thing to avoid an abusive relationship is not to have any relationships I suppose.

Heiniken Moore Oh, honey, the signs are almost always there early on, if we but know what to look out for! Bella is absolutely right. I bet if you look back on the earlier days of your relationship from now you'll see at least *something* that may not have sat right at the time but you brushed it off, but that ended up being a precursor.

And that said, sometimes these people really *don't* give any clues early on, or not much of one. But almost always there is at least *something*, even if we can only see it in hindsight.

Heiniken Moore, I was married to a man for 9 years, who did not begin to batter me until we'd been together for 5 years... So i very much understand those dynamics. Oftentimes men don't begin to batter until their partner becomes pregnant. There are lots of situations in which it would be pretty impossible to predict someone would ultimately become an abuser, particularly if there hasn't been a history of abuse in their family.

Diane Marie - Why can't we just say abusive cops are the ones who are doing the wrong thing, and leave it at that? People shouldn't be choosing a partner based on their job, they should be measuring them as individuals.

Ben Weiser Abuse often doesn't start until after the victim is trapped in a marriage. Abusers of any sort are very cagey, and can often hide their tendencies and only "let it fly" when they have the victim in a vulnerable state, out of reach of witnesses or help. It is very common that the victim or victims are the ONLY people who have seen their "dark side", and everyone else thinks they are "model citizens", because that is the face they show in public. Have you ever been IN an abusive relationship? I'm curious how you are SUCH an expert?

I am serious, even if it is not physical yet.. try to sit them down and have a conversation about the abuse. This conversation must be carried out fully and in a friendly manner; if real communication is not possible then GTFO.

Brendan, it's not that simple.
Abused partners are often financially dependent on the abuser. Good luck surviving out on your own with no money. If you have children, then there's a custody battle to work out, and often times to get the kids you have to do what the abuser wants you to. If you get the kids, the abuser may threaten to get them taken away by CPS. If your partner has any power, (rich person, politician, cop, doctor, successful businessperson, socialite, etc.) good luck getting people to believe they're abusive. Abusers are also good at making their partners not believe they're being abused. They often time their abuse so that their partner doesn't notice a pattern and thinks the relationship just has rough patches now and then.

Brendan, it's not that simple.
Abused partners are often financially dependent on the abuser. Good luck surviving out on your own with no money. If you have children, then there's a custody battle to work out, and often times to get the kids you have to do what the abuser wants you to. If you get the kids, the abuser may threaten to get them taken away by CPS. If your partner has any power, (rich person, politician, cop, doctor, successful businessperson, socialite, etc.) good luck getting people to believe they're abusive. Abusers are also good at making their partners not believe they're being abused. They often time their abuse so that their partner doesn't notice a pattern and thinks the relationship just has rough patches now and then.

Brendan, it's not that simple.
Abused partners are often financially dependent on the abuser. Good luck surviving out on your own with no money. If you have children, then there's a custody battle to work out, and often times to get the kids you have to do what the abuser wants you to. If you get the kids, the abuser may threaten to get them taken away by CPS. If your partner has any power, (rich person, politician, cop, doctor, successful businessperson, socialite, etc.) good luck getting people to believe they're abusive. Abusers are also good at making their partners not believe they're being abused. They often time their abuse so that their partner doesn't notice a pattern and thinks the relationship just has rough patches now and then.

Dont forget police officer are targets of scorned women . I bet some of these alleged abuse instences went down like this " im going to ruin your career " then the women punches herself in the face and calls to police.

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