One day my husband came to me and asked to be spanked. I tried it and found I liked it. Now he may be getting more than he bargained for!

Monday, July 31

A Bare Naked Over-the-Knee Public Spanking

Are there any words in the English language that can get a spankos heart racing more than the phrase "A Bare Naked Over-the-Knee Public Spanking?"

But that is exactly what I received during my last adventure, Punished by Mistress Violet. If you have not read it yet, you simply must.

There was a lot of playfulness, a lot of sexiness, a lot of role-playing, a lot of communications, and a lot of mutual consent. But bubbling underneath the surface, powering all of that, was a legitimate punishment spanking.

I never really fully understood this dynamic before. Oh, I could have explained it to you before, and used it effectively, but I didn't really understand it before. Now I think I do more so.

In my blog, I have written about many people over the years, dozens in fact, with my husband and my sister included among that number, who are unaware that I am doing so. I do feel guilt over this. Practically speaking, I cannot retain my anonymity and have that many people running around with my secret, and I would mostly never have gotten permission had I asked, so it's not that I won't keep doing it, or would do anything different, but I still feel guilty.

Why guilt? Well, it is a from of lying by omission. More than that, I am putting these others at risk of discovery. If I am ever identified to somebody who knows me, then the identities of all these others are automatically unmasked as well, a risk they are blithely unaware of and did not sign up for. And finally, it is a form of plagiarism. These others contribute to the scene in wonderful ways, and I am taking all of their energy and throwing it into my blog without any permission or acknowledgement.

So, I was called on this the other day by Mistress Violet. To quote her, "I find myself surprised, delighted, irritated, amused, taken aback - a mix of emotions that will work themselves out over time into something more clear. In order to sort through some of my feelings about appearing on the blog without any kind of recognition, I am requesting another meeting. I have an idea of what I would like to do - this time to "Julie" as well as david..."

I think Violet was writing those words very honestly, not playing a game (ok, she was also playing a game, clearly, but still meant what she wrote). Yes, she was "delighted and amused", and those were true emotions; but she was also "surprised, irritated, taken aback [...] about appearing on the blog without any kind of recognition". This is a woman who makes her living doing these sorts of things. She is a professional who takes it seriously. If she's going to have herself put out there, there should be some return, even if only promotional (something I have since addressed).

So on the one hand we have Violet, an "irritated" woman experienced in punishing, and on the other we have me, a "guilty" woman who feels she deserves to be punished.

Now we just don't go out and do that only. There are the other emotions as well, fun and kinky ones, and so we jointly engineered a scene that kept it professional for Violet, and made it sexy and fun for all three of us, and that (I hope) enhanced Violet's professional appeal to potential clients, and corrected the lack of recognition and promotional aspects (that latter was by my insistence, by the way).

But at the core of this entire scene, providing it energy like a hot iron fist inside a velvet glove, lay a fully justified irritated woman and a guilty penitent woman. No amount of "sexy" on top of that changes this core energy.

When we discussed the scene beforehand, we did not discuss any details of my spanking. Violet confirmed with me that it was part of the scene, but that was really it as to details. We spent much more time discussing how david was to be involved, the sequencing of events, and my comfort level with the more sexual aspects of the scene.

If you'll recall, after the spanking competition there was the shower scene. In the shower scene I was shackled to the ceiling and deliciously soaped up and washed all over by Violet and david. That was a sensuous delight, but did also serve to get me out of a dommy mode and into a submissive one. After the cleaning I was mostly dried by Violet, and then, very suddenly, she grabbed my lower arm in her hand and dragged me out of the bathroom, saying "Come with me, I want you a bit damp..."

So that was a surprise. It was all of a sudden, "oh, I guess I'm getting spanked now". I knew it was coming and when it was coming, but I was basking in sensual delights and then all of a sudden, it got real.

As she pulled me I sort of stumbled behind her. She was focused and determined and strong. Plus, it's one thing being naked and damp inside a bathroom, it's another to be dragged out of the bathroom into the living room, bare naked, pulled effortlessly by a fully clothed person.

I wonder how many boys and girls of lore have experienced something like this from an angry parent? The misbehaving child pulled buck naked from the bathroom by a justifiably irritated parent, brought to the living room to be tossed across the knee and spanked while the onlookers "tsk tsk" at the child's misbehaviour and what it has earned them? Can you imagine the embarrassment of the young adolescent at such treatment? A boy's bare backside, flopping penis and lightly haired pubis all on display. Or a young lady's newly curvaceous bare bottom, developing bare breasts, and downy private parts all on show? Siblings, aunts and uncles looking on. Perhaps the local fire chief or policeman as well. I can imagine it. I was feeling it!

I know it's silly. We were only the three of us in a very private setting. david was naked. I was already naked from the showering. We were there for a sexy time. Why should I feel at all embarrassed by my nudity in this situation? But I was embarrassed.

I was embarrassed to be wet and naked and pulled abruptly out of the bathroom towards the living room. I was embarrassed that I was being so completely controlled seemingly without a will of my own. I was embarrassed that Violet felt so much stronger than I, and that I felt I could not physically resist even had I wanted to. I was embarrassed to be pulled towards the spanking chair like a naughty child. I was embarrassed that I was about to be spanked however Violet pleased and that the time for discussion and negotiation was long past.

Yes, I had a safeword. We had discussed it. But I could not use my safeword, it was not an option. If I felt I was in danger of injury I would have, but I wasn't in any such danger at all. I was in danger of a very soundly spanked backside! I knew I had earned whatever punishment Violet chose to dole out. I knew I deserved it. There would be no safewording for me.

In the scene, david was to believe that I was being spanked for dissing Mistress Violet during the spanking competition. He didn't believe that at all, of course, but went along with the role play. He thought I was just out for "an experience" such as I had had with Tracy. With Tracy there was much less the element of me "deserving" a spanking, and she was so much more tentative than Violet. So it was more just the physical experience of me absorbing a hard spanking.

Little did he know there was an undertone this time of real discipline. I know I felt it myself. I can't speak for Violet, but at times I sensed it strongly from her as well, or maybe that was me projecting? If so, her actions were certainly completely indistinguishable from "the real thing".

I remember thinking, as I was being dragged towards the chair, "this is ridiculous, I'm a grown woman and I'm about to get a spanking!"

There's this awkwardness as she sits and I am pulled across her knee. Not from her! From me. I resisted her pull a bit worried that I might fall down, or crush her as I land on her lap, or not fit on her lap. That was all me. She just sat gracefully and pulled me relentlessly over her knee with her strong arm despite any resistance. I did not fall off, crush her, or not fit over her lap. I fit and dangled there as would a child across her mother's lap! Violet steadied me with her hand on my ass. I got my toes and hands planted down on the carpet. I was conscious of not wanting to look like a dork. I wanted to appear sexy to Violet even as this was going on. So I got on my tiptoes, arched my back, and stuck out my bottom, like a good little submissive should (why????? that's not me!)

Violet told david to get his phone and take pictures. That is why this scene is captured above. A blog commenter, my very loyal fan mike, suggested photos and that I be "made to" post them. I responded with a teasing note that did not object to it, even encouraged it, and then Violet responded with "I'm taking notes :)"

Violet had indeed "taken notes", and david was told to take pictures. So I knew at that point that not only would david witness my spanking, but that all my blog readers would be witnessing it as well. I am happy that you guys get to see it, but embarrassed by it as well, if that makes any sense at all? I'm especially embarrassed that mike gets to see it, given that it was his suggestion! :-)

So that's the sense that it was "public". My husband saw me being spanked, so that was public to a degree. But I was also acutely aware of the photo taking and how I would need to post them up here afterwards for you all to see. So that is the other sense it was "public". I look now at the photo above. At my tightly clenched legs and my bare bottom uppermost. Draped across Violet's knees. Her hand getting ready to spank me. You all seeing that! OMG! BLUSH!!! A naughty misbehaving completely naked little girl about to receive her spanking. BLUSH!

Violet started with some stingy hand spanks. Nothing too bad. She alternated that with some kneading, stroking, and groping. She quickly had my cheeks and my pussy spread open and was inspecting both closely as my husband looked on (with no doubt a silly grin on his face!). Thank GAWD he didn't take pictures of that or I would have had to post them!!!! Maybe because she had noticed my husband's unshaven bumhole she was looking for the same on my pussy? Or maybe she expects all her female submissives to present themselves across her knee thoroughly waxed, as if I was one of them??? As it was, my bottom hole and every last fold of my pussy passed her close inspection, even eliciting an embarrassing comment out of her regarding how well I had done, as if she was praising a child for wiping herself properly!

She then made david get between my knees and hold my legs up. She again spread my asshole, but this time so widely that it hurt. She told david to get in there and start licking it. I remember jumping as his cold wet tongue first came into contact with my widely spread bumhole. She made him be extremely thorough, and had an absolute close up view of every last lick and tongue fuck!!! She held my asshole spread painfully wide apart the whole time. She even dug her fingers into the skin right around my anus to pull the hole wide open for him to better penetrate it. This was pretty humiliating for me. It's kind of a private bedroom thing, and for it to be so open and out there like that? Crazy. It is not something I would want friends and colleagues in real life to know about me. Imagine the guys at work sniggering at me if they knew I make my husband rim me with regularity???

Ok, so that was all pretty embarrassing "fun and games", but then the paddle came out.

This is where my spanking, all of a sudden, "got real".

Violet is super nice, playful, sensuous, sensitive, and all that. So you don't expect it when it happens. But when she spanks, she spanks!

It was at this point where I sensed that she let herself go a little. Perhaps channeling some of that emotion around the blog? Certainly not giving in to it. She was exquisitely controlled at all times. But perhaps "channeling" is a fair word. I grudgingly admire how unrelenting she was. She knew what she wanted to dish out, and knew what I would be taking, and delivered it. It was not a short token paddling. It was a punishment paddling delivered by a strong, confident woman. She knew exactly how to build it up. It was never more than I could take, but by the same token it built up and felt like a real punishment paddling. It had me squirming on her lap and kicking my feet and crying out for sure.

Beyond the fact of "a spanking", we had not discussed any of this at all. Not the position, not the implement, not the number of strokes, not the intensity, not how long I would be across her lap, and not how rosy red she would be making my bottom.

Her she is showing off my bottom to the camera immediately after my paddling. She seems proud of the degree of redness she inflicted on me! Notice also how she gets to remain modestly clothed, while I am naked as a jaybird? Her breasts are allowed to stay covered, mine are dangling for everybody to see! Do you see also the strength in her arms and hands? I felt it in spades! Even at this point she was not done spanking me yet. I thought it was over. She did not. She started back in with very hard slaps from her hand on my already tenderized butt.

And here is where I ponder, what's the difference between what I got, and a "real punishment spanking"?

Most a those old-fashioned apocryphal 1950's naughty teenage girls who are spanked by their Mommas or Daddies probably got less than what I got. Unlike them, they were probably not spanked fully nude in the living room in public! Pussy and breasts on display while her bottom was thoroughly warmed. Kicking, crying, and apologizing as I was doing. And having to post photos on the internet afterwards of her embarrassing spanking! And then to be taunted and teased about "what a good little girl" I was, and how I "took my spanking so well". Plus comments about my "hard nipples" (hey, I was still a bit damp and that part of me was cold!)

So I think we can all agree that I got more of a spanking than a typical 1950's spanked teenage girl would have received for most offenses. So in what way is my spanking different than hers? None!

I was guilty and I new I deserved every lick. I knew Violet was justified in dishing it out. I fully accepted her authority over me as a 1950's teenage girl would her parents'. And I got just as bad a licking as she would, plus more, plus more embarrassment (embarrassment was no doubt a part of her experience as well).

But here's my point. Spanking is fun and games and sexy and all that. But what makes it tummy-churning is the underlying energy of a real, well-deserved punishment. Role play tries to emulate that, but being spanked for real regretted misdeeds takes it a step further.

I have communicated with several bloggers, such as mr. lion from Male Chastity Journal, who are most interested in the activity if the spanking is delivered as punishment for real misdeeds. I get it now more than I did. There is such a heady mixture of real shame and repentance mixed in, that it makes role play paler by comparison.

I am going to be looking for more opportunities to punish my husband for real misdeeds. Maybe set out a few more rules for him to follow, with consequences if he does not. And then make the punishments more realistic, more maternal in nature, without any sexy play afterwards. I want to see how that goes.

After the spanking came sex. During the sex, I was not in charge. Not at all. I needed to lick and suck on what I was told to, I needed to give head like I was told to, I needed to orgasm as I was told to, I needed to present my pussy, both doggy style and missionary style, for a really long hard intense rogering by Mistress that left my pussy sore and feeling very well used afterwards. I think there was a point there as well that she made. "I am the Pro here, we can co-top your david, but if there's any question about who's top girl, the question is now answered." yup.

110 comments:

I have to admit the moment that I read that not one person who is actively involved in the telling of your blog knows anything about it I was taken aback. While I believe you have always been fairly open that it was your little secret so to speak, this time I thought about what this really means and the potential for consequences that could do harm.

Part of it is because of a recent incident where people who are involved in a local BDSM scene have been outed to their entire community. It wasn't about them walking around in the dark corners of society, we don't live in those times the way we did 20 years ago. Yet, we still want to have some control over who knows what. In this case their whole participation has been put out there for anyone and everyone to see. People could loose jobs and families over this.

This form of of non-consent goes against what we preach throughout the BDSM community. We deserve the right to control our anonymity.

You are an amazingly smart Lady so I am sure you have taken precautions, yet as the case with Mistress Violet has shown, one set of knowing eyes can change everything.

You wrote this piece about discipline and punishment and I am sure there were moments where it all felt very real. The difference however, between the set up and the carrying out, the involvement of David and the scripting out of it all in my mind took away the real punishment aspect.

I do believe you should have been punished and you offer to do so was credible. But for me this would have meant so much more and made this post so much more on point, and by the way your descriptions of your mindset during quite a few times were spot on, if this happened between you and Mistress Violet one on one with no sexual context at all.

Non of what I have said here takes away from the fact I have enjoyed your Blog for years and that you are an amazing story teller and I will continue to watch and read your blog. I just think a good follow up to this would be a true punishment spanking without all the frills.

I believe booking a session with Mistress Violet for ONLY a spanking to atone for your misdeeds would make it a more "real punishment" - doubly so, since you're paying her good money to painfully deliver this lesson to you.

I am sure you are smart enough to figure that out Juile. I have great respect for your writing, intelligence and honesty. Personally,still selfishly hoping to see your bottom hole exposed and taken by Violet sometime in the future.

Julie you know David more than any of us ever possibly can. If, as you have said, he probably knows about this blog but respects your private space and hasn't said anything. That would seem to be one of his special gifts to you that means very much to him. The relationship between you two that comes across in this blog says that you'll know for sure when or if it's ever time to talk about it. Just remind yourself of his answer when you ask him " Do you trust me?"Tom

For some reason this posting seems to be a much more real telling of your time with Mistress Violet. Please don't take this wrong way, the previous post was good too, it's just that you get a much better feel of the punishment aspect of your encounter, i.e. intensity of the spanking, embarrassment factor, humiliation, etc, than with the previous post.

This will go a long way in curing the doubting Thomas' and Thomasina's!! ;-)

Oh there's no doubt about the reality of the previous post. That one has a witness willing to speak. Book Violet's time and ask her. She has my ok to talk about it! But I know what you mean. The first was more factual what happened, this one was more inside my head.

Julie as always your story telling is great, one can almost feel like they are part of the scene and indeed being part of the scene is the only thing that could be better then reading it. I would love to be part of one of your scenes, although not really my thing being part of David's male on male encounter I would do just to be part of your scene, if that were only possible? Please keep the stories coming.

You learned a great deal from that session. I've been spanked in scenes for ages. But there is something different when the spanking is for something real. I really spilled pizza sauce on my shirt I interrupted Mrs. Lion. I am paying for my sin.

I think you and david basically have the same sort of relationship as we do. From the start, I knew I didn't want just "play spankings," even though I know that the intensity can be just as powerful as a punishment spanking. The fact that I broke a rule or failed to obey changes the game for me.

Since I am a responsible adult, it makes no sense to create rules about going to work or handling my larger responsibilities. But it is very easy to require me to avoid getting food on my shirt, eating before Mrs. Lion, or more seriously, interrupting her.

I want to be spanked on one hand, but would never break a rule intentionally to get one on the other. When I see Mrs. Lion selecting a paddle, the fun ends for me. I may be hard, but I'm not happy about what is about to happen. I want it, but I know I will hate it.

So, I am getting what I want. That doesn't make the feelings any less real or my bottom less red.

I imagine you find that we aren't all that different after all in our relationships. :)

Hi lion, love our back and forth cross-blog! I am going to try out more of a "real spanking" (or rather, "spanking for real misdeeds" on my husband. The basement workbench is an absolute mess, I will casually ask him to clean it next weekend...

Julie I cannot express enough how glad I am that you shared this and that you finally received a true punishment spanking. In some of our past talks you didn't seem to really understand it but now I think you do. This may be something you need for yourself a little more now as well

It sounds like even though you are a natural Domme and relish playing that role in your regular sexual life (both for your pleasure and David's, when you allow it to him, tee hee), there is a part of you that NEEDS to be the sub on occasion. Not constantly, and not to the point where your unique chemistry with your beloved husband would be altered of course, but being on top constantly is exhausting and can be immensely stressful for some (the top is responsible for the safety of the bottom, and almost always has to be the one who directs the scene therefore taking the enjoyability of the play primarily on their shoulders). Sometimes we just need to let go to someone completely trustworthy (I know, hard to find) and allow another to take pleasure in us freely.

Or sometimes a top doesn't meet the standards that they set for their sub, or makes a silly error. If allowed to fester it can lead to guilt and even depression, which could then creep its' way into the depths of the relationship outside the bedroom. If I'm reading your thoughts correctly (and please correct me if I am mistaken), this second paragraph is what you experienced with Mistress Violet. It can be quite a cathartic experience.

I guess what I'm saying is that there is no shame at all in taking a turn every once in a while as the sub. It doesn't lower your status as David's Domme, or as his wife. Indeed, it probably makes you a better Domme and a better partner. Now that you have at least a beginning of an understanding of how it can be helpful, you can use it to help David when he struggles like we all do.

Julie, I'm interested to know if the same type of energy was present for you when you and Sue gave David his real punishment spanking? Does the spanker experience something more profound in real punishment?Thank you for the greatest blog ever!Subby Lurker

Not for me, but I think it is my attitude. I have never before "punished him for real". In my mind we were always playing a scene. I think I need to change that up in my own head to really experience it. Because I do a good job acting, I'm pretty sure my actions will be identical, but my attitude will be different!

thanks you sweetie gorgeous young lady for shout out you rockyou really are good girl yes I wanted pic of your otk spanking like said didn't have show your face at all since both private

glad you agree go with idea Mistress Miss Voilet seem like idea I think now you should get good girl spanking if ask me sound like you needed this experience done I am going tell Miss violet you desver a good girl paddling/spanking from her

Julie, your feelings were very well explained and understood. As I'm in the same boat with you. My wife does not know I post on your and other sites. She wants that part of our life kept private. and if others knew I was spanked I'd be very embarrassed. Having said that at one time many photos of my spankings were taken by her first for my enjoyment as I love seeing what she did to my bottom and second I did post many of them on sites like yours. And I understand your need for privacy. You see I have a fantasy of two women spanking me and having me perform for them and it's just that. I'd love for it to happen but it never will she won't allow it. A few have said they would love to meet us and discuss our love of spanking and submission and I'd love to but it can't happen. I do feel you left out one important feeling. How you felt with David seeing you submissive and being used.You are a great story teller and I love following your blog.archedone

And wow, good question regarding david! My submission was so focused on Mistress Violet that I neglected to write anything about my feelings with david watching. Let's see... I was not at all embarrassed by anything david witnessed. Somehow I think of him as my submissive at all times. He was equally used by Mistress Violet when he was "forced" to allow her to use his tongue on me or his cock as an instrument of my oral punishment! I was happy for him that he got to experience these things more than anything. And we did start and end the scene with us co-topping david and putting all the attention on him, which I wanted.

Hmmmmm, and with that, you have taken your first step towards DD and all the psychological stuff it entails. If you need support along your journey in this direction, remember Dan's blog is an excellent and practical resource. And of course there are others as well.

What a pity that there is only one Julie and that she lives in Canada and not in France

Your brain illuminates what would only be a tall woman wiggling with red buttocks (so humiliating!) and you come to the right conclusions.

Speaking of who spanks, do you imagine justifiably irritated parents (as you say) or parents who enjoy humiliating and punishing their child ? What parent would do something so humiliating to his child (potentially destructive) as dragging him naked out of the shower to come and spanks him in front of an audience ? It must necessarily be perverse parents who have pleasure in the idea of ​​humiliating their child, of dominating him and reminding him, when they want to, that he is dominated. That is what makes me come.

On the last Qbuzz's post there is a pic inspired by an erotic story from Gwoman, « a wife and her friends are treated to the sight of her husband getting spanked by a great man at a raunchy birthday party ».

What I like in the story is the power of this girl to remind his husband, when she wants, the humiliation that he suffered being spanked red ass in front of all her girlfriends, by a man stronger than himself. At any time ! She can remind him and make fun of him. He was subdued, humiliated, all his girlfriends saw him. He will never be able to do that it has not been.

A last question, if it's not too much, how do you think your colleagues see you? How would they describe you?

I imagine the asexual irritated parents who didn't even notice or care that I was bare or that anybody would be watching. But I can see the appeal in the perverted ones also as a fantasy element!

I also love that sort of fantasy with the strong gay male both spanking and then having sex with my husband "as a lesson" in front of me and my girlfriends. If only david would play!

Two parts to the answer to your question. First of all, I believe that all guys see all woman as sexual beings. In their minds, maybe rarely to one another, they imagine me in a sexually submissive way, giving head to a man, or bending over for a fucking. I sometimes see it in their eyes though they would never admit it. I don't mind. I find that it empowers me.

Professionally, I would hope they find me competent and knowledgeable in my field, and a good leader who cares about people (who can be a "real bitch" when a guy would just be "assertive").

You are such a natural dome that I would have thought this was apparent to your colleagues at work. Even if hiding it, some were trying to play with you to the little boy who was making stupid mistakes. Why do you find their macho behavior empowers you ?

So I’ve read here in several places how you now intend to try giving real punishment spankings to david for real mistakes, errors, disobedience, etc.

My question is who will take you to task for those same things?

No one is infallible and everyone makes errors, exercises poor judgement, puts others at risk (of discovery or injury), etc. These are all things I’m sure you have demonstrated in the past. Your recent spanking by Miss Violet being the end result of a such a transgression.

While it will be argued that this is DD and FLR and blah, blah, blah, the bottom line, as I previously mentioned, is that no one is infallible and everyone answers to a higher authority!

Hello Julie! Thanks so much for the inspiration! I am a lucky old man with a younger wife who stripes my ass with a piece of cane cut from a nearby creekbank. Instead of sex for our eleventh anniversary, I received eleven hard kicks to the balls, was locked in chastity, and not released until I'd taken 110 strokes (10 for each year of marriage) with the cane. I have also been whipped several times by my wife's best friend. Thanks so much.

Long time reader, first time poster from the land Downunder. I often read your updates and wonder if we're kink doppelgangers! You seem to be able to easily articulate the feelings I've had over many different situations in my life. I guess the biggest difference would be that I'm a gay girl, and you're a married woman who loves to experience new things!

I'm not sure how many people have posed this question to you before, as I usually hesitate from posting due to privacy reasons, but after reading this post and the feelings you got from your experience, to which I can very much relate to, I thought I'd gather up my courage and post.

My question is: Do you think perhaps you're slightly subconsciously 'naughty' in an attempt to give yourself, and in this case, others a reason and opportunity to turn the tables on you?

I ask this because I had a very, very, very similar experience a few years ago with my girlfriend at the time. She was completely submissive and I loved to Domme her; but at the same time, with the power of hindsight, I can see that I was acting out in ways that were begging her to turn the tables on me. Eventually our solution was to join a... well I guess you'd call it a group of likeminded women, where we could openly discuss and work out the needs of everyone who was there and available.

In the end it turned out that I did very, very much have a submissive streak, and whilst my Dominate streak is stronger in me, I definitely need both sides to be given attention so that I can be fulfilled.

It's funny you know, when you talk about your embarrassment of your spanking here and when I look back at my very first 'serious' naughty girl spanking, I think we had just about the exact same thoughts running through our heads (sans firemen, I have to admit :p). Embarrassment of what was exposed, embarrassment at the predicament, awkwardness at external matters that you know, as a Domme, are not a problem but when the tables are turned, suddenly they are.

Well, it's been great reading your blog, and now that I've broken my posting cherry, perhaps I will do so more often. :)

Hi Kasey! So excited you wrote a comment for me!!! You sound super articulate and educated and seem to really know yourself. I think there's a definite element of truth in what you say in my case as well. In my case my naughtiness is pure sexual naughtiness, which is encouraged here, but which I secretly fantasize about having an older woman in authority take me in hand and correct me and try turning me into a "proper lady". Ha ha! Do comment more and please feel free to email as well.

"But here's my point. Spanking is fun and games and sexy and all that. But what makes it tummy-churning is the underlying energy of a real, well-deserved punishment. Role play tries to emulate that, but being spanked for real regretted misdeeds takes it a step further."

Totally agree!

I also went through a period in which my wife didn't know about my blog, and I had guilt over the fact that if I was "outed" she would be, too. I finally told her about it, and she seemed totally uninterested!

"...I remember jumping as his cold wet tongue first came into contact with my widely spread bumhole."

What? Did David pack his mouth with ice moments before? (Yer' thinking about that right now, aren't 'ya? Add'l side note; I once pulled a chilled (not frozen!) glass dildo from where I had hidden it and inserted it into my girlfriend where my warm tongue had been seconds before. Gawd! What a reaction! She almost flew up off the bed into the ceiling. Neither of us ever forgot the fun of that moment.)

"Imagine the guys at work sniggering at me if they knew I make my husband rim me with regularity???"

You? Ummmmm...no.

"..what's the difference between what I got, and a "real punishment spanking"?

My husband told me a story of traveling on business to New York City and there was a salesman in his company who accompanied him. He was an older New Yorker. He quipped about California, "the state that's 800 miles wide an an inch deep". They were talking about a woman businessperson who worked for a competing firm. This salesman said to david over drinks, "you know, she takes it up the ass." He was apparently dead serious. This was a rumour about her that he had heard.

No, if people in my work life knew about my private life they would definitely be laughing about me. not him. Anything sexual a woman does, especially anything at all out of the ordinary, is the subject of great mirth and merriment amongst the males. With a man there would be a certain reverence for any sexual activity he is allowed to partake in. With women it's just laughter and jeering if she is thought of as a sexual being, hence our need to act like bitches with a pickle up our asses at work if we expect to get any respect! It's why men so desperately need to be reined in by their wives at home!

I get your point. I'm guessing the New Yorker was not talking about his wife. What a jerk to say that. It's libel.

Maybe I'm the odd one - I have never discussed what happened in bed with any woman I have ever dated. Goes back to my college days when I slipped and caught an earful. Even though they know we may be intimate, my only comment is, "She's beautiful." They can make what they want of that.

My wife is spoiled, she is getting better, but her bottom has felt the sting of my hand and hairbrush. Her mother warned me prior to our marriage and she knows her daughter is spanked. On one particular visit to my mother-in-law home, she being a widow, we spent better part of a week. It was near the end of the visit that my wife got to carried away and could tell her mother was not happy. The next morning as she stepped out of the shower I took her arm and wet and squirming took her to the kitchen, her mother looked in shock, then said wait. I had her across my lap and her mother handed me a nice large hairbrush and to my shock she brought a camera, I spanked her daughter and a few pictures were taken. She stood facing the wall afterwards. Her mother then told her to get dress and followed her to the bedroom. I heard some crying, and her mother was smiling and said that felt good, should have spanked her along time ago. My wife reminds me of that spanking and said only once that will happen, I just smile.

Made 8x10's and cropped on her red bottom. My mother-in-law thanked me and said a few of her best friends who watched her daughter grow up have seen them. They say long over due but also been told they also with a smile said they would not like being over my lap.

Stand up Madame ! Go an fetch the paddle !Bare naked. A good slap. Women find usually rather humiliating the feeling of their wobbling mature asscheeks and tits as they hurry to obey. They utter a little cry of nervousness and become red with vexation.Then they rush.

Well, since your bare bottom HAS become a topic of discussion, I will add my two cents... THANK YOU for the intimate sharing and anyone who does not appreciate your cute but is an idiot. (Yes, I know that is a judgemental statement and I'm sticking with it.)

Sorry, what do you mean by "constructive feedback". Did I write that somewhere? I almost always get david to give me feedback after a scene so I can continuously improve his experience. This means there is no need for feedback leading up to or (worse!) during a scene. There will always be another scene!

Well Julie Ms Voilet know she taught you very vauable lesson by spanking you bare butt naked over her lap she doesn't feel bad iam sure just think you got experience being over her lap like other naughty boys or naughty girls

I still chuckle laugh you got real spanking same time feel bad for you

"Public" as in a store would be terrifying for me, a more private setting with other women around less so. But - I'm game! OTK with you? Whoo-Hoo! Not too hard to come up with the excuse, I can be a real pest to women when they are shopping - I can even supply references!!!

Just leave that paddle of yours in the closet, willya'; THAT, from YOU, would be a bit much.

I can imagine the scene now. The two of us out clothes shopping for you. The following in front of the salesgirls.Me: "Try this on AJ."You: "It won't look good on me..."Me: "I think it will. Try it on."You: "Give it a rest already! You're so controlling"Me: "AJ! You get into that change room this instant with those trousers!"You: "Fine!" (Snarky tone)Me: "Call me in when you have these trousers off, I think somebody needs a little lesson in how to speak respectfully to his wife in public."Salesgirls: tee heeYou: "Honey, please... not here... please..."Me: "Pants off and undies at your knees, then call me in."You: "no... please..."Me: "And if you don't call me within 60 seconds, the door stays open and these young ladies will get to see, as well as hear, how to correct a disrespectful husband!"

(1)"A blog commenter, my very loyal fan mike, suggested photos and that I be "made to" post them. I responded with a teasing note that did not object to it, even encouraged it, and then Violet responded with "I'm taking notes :)""

(2) "She quickly had my cheeks and my pussy spread open and was inspecting both closely as my husband looked on (with no doubt a silly grin on his face!). Thank GAWD he didn't take pictures of that or I would have had to post them!!!!"

Can't help but think you're maybe a little disappointed david didn't get a shot of your spread pussy and bumhole on display, after all. Like maybe you wanted to be made to post them for all your readers to see-- or maybe a better word would be "examine?" "Inspect?" Opportunity missed, but if Violet's still reading, maybe not opportunity lost.

I have been on display like that. Even lightened and provided a close-up of my own pussy! As I was doing it, I knew it was wrong, yet I did it anyways. And yes, I masturbated to the thought of all that masculine sexual energy focused on me!!! So bad...

Dearest Julie, Really enjoyed this scene, and dreaming about your next one. How about the next time you deserve a spanking you get Ms. Violet to get another female Dom and you are on the receiving end of two strap-on and David can have the same treat.

What a great set of posts describing a fabulous scene! You are such a wonderful scribe - especially this second post. Describes what so many of us subbie spankos think/feel. I have so often fantasized about being spanked by my wife in public. I love that you can be a bad girl sometimes, as well as a domme.

When you and David debriefed afterwards, what was his reaction? I think I might agree with an earlier commenter - tell David about the blog and suffer the consequences? TL

I think if you so badly crave a public or semi-public spanking from your wife, she should oblige you. In front of trusted girlfriend or sister. Most women in my experience have absolutely no issue whatsoever watching a wife strip her husband and put him over the knee. Fun in fact.

Being exposed and humiliated publicly is a very tricky and tremendously arousing thing! There have been times when I was being privately humiliated by a Domme where I honestly was more annoyed than arroused by the experience. But add a witness or witnesses to the humiliation and it completely changes the dynamic.

But it is also tricky. All involved must be respected, especially those who did not agree to be involved beforehand.

When everything works out,the humiliation experience is like nothing else! That's why I continue to fantasize about it and crave it.

My pleasure, david! I agree that you need to be careful not to offend. But for me it's a pretty academic argument as the vast majority of women nvolved in our play have been eager in fact. Maybe 1 in 10 I've felt confident in approaching gave me a bad vibe with a first hint. The other 9 egg me on!

Julie got a red bottom. You have nice body julie both as spankee (nice rounded bottom) and as a spanker (spankers hand and relatively big feet so your slippers will make effective implements). Your jelly sandals will make redden any bottom in no time.