.... to think that cake smashes are utterly ridiculous??

my niece had a very expensive cake... a princess castle that was so well made and my sil went through so much trouble to bring it 25 miles to her party in my town..refused to cut it or give anyone a slice saying she wanted to get it home untouched..... then let her destroy it... she did everything to it other than eat it....

i might sound boring here but i just find it an utter waste to blow that sort of money on something that will be wrecked in minutes

when i was a kid i was neglected, i was lucky if i got fed a pot noodle for my dinner. so i cant help but be abit when i see kids nowadays having so much money and expensive things at their disposal...

i heard its an american craze... but if it must happen, why not a cheapie cake thrown together rather than a beautiful expensive one?! i just dont understand it

My SIL's dress came from a charity shop, it went back again afterwards. It was a gorgeous dress, nice to think of something that someone somewhere had put so much time into giving pleasure to other women.

I can see the point that when you've donated something, that's it, you don't get a say any more, but part of the point is that the fabric and labour costs that go into that one item are pretty substantial, and you may not feel good about burning that much of the planet up for 1 day's wear. If dress wrecking became common, and I wanted to pass a dress on, I wouldn't give it to a charity shop if I knew it was likely to get wrecked. That would mean both the charity and women who genuinely wanted a lovely dress would miss out.

People have a variety of different motivations for giving to charity. It seems strange to dismiss some of them as somehow less valid.

cosy she wasn't talking to the woman in the shop, she was braying about it to her equally annoying friend. But doing it so loudly that everyone in the shop could hear her.

No one is disputing she had the right to do it, just like anyone has the right to smash up an expensive cake if they've paid for it. That doesn't make it right though.

personally I found it really distasteful and rude. If karma was real she'd find herself a few years down the line unable to afford a dress to get married in. Unfortunately, class and money being what it is, chances of that are pretty much zero.

The cake smash thing is hideous - I've seen pics on a photographer's facebook page and I think the babies look gross covered in cake, and the waste really bothers me. I just truly don't get how this is a nice thing to do or a nice thing to have pictures of.

I disagree about the wedding dress, though. Previous owner might have hoped someone else would enjoy it on their wedding day, but it doesn't really matter. It was an item for sale, the money went to charity either way, and if someone has money and wants to buy a dress and make a gruesome fancy dress costume, that's her call. She sounds a bit ignorant talking about it with a disapproving shop lady, though.

Neo I think you missed my point, I'm not saying that the previous owner was attached to it.

I'm saying that dress could have been bought by someone for their own wedding, meaning they could have a beautiful wedding dress they couldn't otherwise afford. Rather than wasted by some spoilt brats throwing muck all over it for a few minutes' lame amusement. I would guess that the owner donated it hoping that it would go to better use than that.

That's obviously wasteful, just as much as smashing up a cake.

All of the examples on this thread are really unpleasant, are we raising a generation even more wasteful and narcissistic than the last?!

Eccentirica I personally see nothing wrong with covering a used wedding dress in blood for fancy dress. The previous owner has donated it...they can't be attached! It's re-use...recycling if you will. Smashing food up is just wasteful.

I can't see how the pictures of the children covered in icing are "cute" or "gorgeous". They just look messy. The FB page someone linked to is SO annoying too....all the girls have pink cakes and all the boys have blue ones and the little girls have a bloody pink Henry hoover in their shots! Arses.

The wedding dress thing reminds me of being in a charity shop once, when I lived in a very studenty town.

It was around Halloween. A very posh student girl came in and bought a beautiful wedding dress that was in the window for about £20. She and her friend were braying about how she was going to be a zombie bride or something, and they were going to wreck the dress and cover it with fake blood. It was going to be hilarious.

The woman in the shop seemed quite distressed by it. It was horrible because someone had kindly donated it, which could have made the perfect wedding dress for someone who couldn't afford a new one, and instead it was just going to be ruined by these selfish, overprivileged twats.

I didn't have a deprived childhood but I don't think you need to have suffered deprivation yourself in order for this kind of deliberate, spoilt bastard waste to leave a bad taste in the mouth.

I don't like this as to me, the whole point of a cake, is to share it with everyone. That's the fun- the singing together, the blowing out of candles, waiting your turn for your piece, all negated if you give the child their own mini-cake just to show off making a mess.