HOW TO TALK DIRTY TO A GUY (TURN HIM ON)

When you think about what makes s-ex good, thephysical factors most likely come to mind: how you touch each other, the positions you try, and the body parts you focus on. But there’s another key contributor that is often overlooked: the words you utter. “Speaking or hearing erotically charged words stimulates dopamine transmission, which plays a huge role in s-exual excitement,” explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista.

“They can enhance the emotional and physicalintensity of the experience.”

Sounds great…but what should you say that won’t seem ridiculous? (Unless you’re a p()rn star, “Do me hard, bad boy!” probably doesn’t roll off the tongue.) “Most women aren’t sure what sounds s-exy, so they don’t say anything,” says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a s-exologist in New York City. As a result, you’re missing out on pleasure — which is so not right.

Here’s a revelation: On a Sirius Cosmo Radio showabout talking s-exy in bed, tons of guys called in toshare the phrase that gets them hotter than anyother. By a landslide, it was “I’m coming.” Yup,that’s it. And what about women? Are there wordswith similar superpowers for us? We turned to Kerner, who divulged a sentence tailored tomas-eximize your satisfaction.

FOR HIS PLEASURE!

“I’m coming.” So simple, so powerful. This sentence is like the s-ex version of bacon — men freakin’ love it. “Being a great lover is a prime source of pride for guys,” Levkoff says. “Telling him you’re about to orgasm is the ultimate accolade.” It’s proof that he’s successfully satisfying you. What’s more, he’s gotten you so aroused that you’re out of control —this phrase suggests that even if you tried, youcouldn’t stop from tumbling over the edge.

Announcing your orgasm’s arrival also amps upanticipation for that pivotal moment, thusenhancing enjoyment for both of you. “Plus, sincemost men are ready to climas-ex before women are,this gives him permission to come,” Kerner says.That’s definitely music to his, um, ears.

FOR YOUR PLEASURE!

Women, on the other hand, want something lessbasic than bacon. What Kerner suggests: “I love itwhen you [verb] my [body part],” such as “I love it when you rub my thigh/kiss my neck/lick mybr**sts.” He explains, “Verbalizing the sensationbrings your attention to it, which reinforces the pleasure you’re experiencing.” It’s like eating ayummy meal — talking about how delicious it iscan make it even tastier.

This phrase also helps you stay in the moment,Kerner adds. If your mind starts wandering oryou’re stressing about other stuff, expressingwhat’s happening to you keeps you focused onwhat you’re feeling that second.

Your guy gets off on it too. “It shows him that he’s doing something right,” Levkoff says. And once he knows you dig that move, he’ll probably repeat it. Excellent.