It is the fact that I am married and no longer dating that I truly can appreciate articles like this one: Fallout from campus sexual assault hysteria: College men now suspicious of women. It makes me smile because I no longer have to deal with this world of crazy trying to figure things out but it does alarm me that things have gotten this out of whack on college campuses. I find it disturbing that women who want to claim the Patriarchy is still in power can still think so when a woman can merely accuse someone of rape and get them expelled without even an inquiry. Sorry if there was still a patriarchy this country, this would not happen. The whole point would be that patriarchy would say: “you got raped, tough it out and deal with it”. When you have the power as young college female to ruin a man’s life just with an accusation in a society, the patriarchy’s existence can surely be called into question.

Patriarchy certainly does exist in other countries. I mean what do you call a lot of Arabic countries these days and ISIS or ISIL is definitely Patriarchy unglued. I am going to tell you however, the patriarchy in the Western world is a mythological as fairies and dragons. Let me give some examples.

1. If the patriarchy still existed in the western world, you would not see women gaining custody more often than men when children are involved in separation.

2. If patriarchy existed more money would be given to male specific diseases instead of female ones.

3. When the woman was considering what to do with her unborn child she would have to consider what the father wanted as well. It would be a true male decision. As an example I remember watching a television show where both the woman and the man agreed to give their child up for adoption. At the last moment, the woman decided to keep the child and then tried to force the father to be a father when he felt he wasn’t ready and he had no say about it whatsoever. He left her and I understand why, she forced a decision on him and then got the government to back her up. If the patriarchy existed he would have been able to force her to give away the child in adoption with little say by her.

4. The whole child support system. No other comment needed.

I could go on and on. Fact is this is not a patriarchal society anymore but a matriarchal one. I am failing to see how this is any better. The biggest proof of this is actually now the majority of men are afraid of women. The story cited above shows this in the college campuses but it is in general everywhere. Men are afraid to talk to women because they are afraid what they say will be twisted to something they didn’t intend. You can’t buy a girl a drink because she might think your are trying to get her drunk, etc. The assumption these days thanks to the matriarchal feminists is that men are by nature rapists and predators. If you have testosterone through no fault of your own, you are obviously bad or something. You can’t even look at women without some of them accusing you of sexual harassment. It is no wonder men turn to porn and online relationships with non-persons. It is to dangerous to have a relationship with a woman.

Now thankfully, I am glad some women have seen the problems. More and more I see women not only coming out that they don’t need feminism anymore but that they are seeing how the pendulum has already swung too far the other way. They want genuine equality not females having superior rights or powers over men. Some are beginning to understand that the sex drive of the male is what it is. I am glad this is coming from women because it has been my observation that men who object to sexist treatment get ignored by feminists. When a woman tells feminists they are wrong, it is hard for them to not listen.

People ask me what I am and I am pretty much an equal rights guy, and I don’t like the stereotyping that feminists do of men these days. I don’t like it when I walk down an aisle of a grocery store and see women who are alone take a different course so they don’t have to walk near me. I am 6’5″ tall and a big guy so I am pretty much have a size advantage to most women out there but to my knowledge I have never wanted to hurt a woman in my life. I dislike the stereotype that all men are predators and patriarchal. If so I am not sure how my house would function. I let my wife go where she wants as long as she lets me know where she is going and do the same for her. This is not about control but one of those ‘in case of emergency’ things. I let my wife pretty much run certain things and trust her to do so. If I was patriarchal I doubt this would be so. We each have our roles and try to respect one another. Like all relationships it is growing thing and never perfect.

I simply wish people would truly let other people be who they are. I wish women would simply come to the terms that it is equally abhorrent to control men as it for men to control women. Unless it is by consent of course in a particular context 😉 What I miss most is the playful dialogue that used to exist between men and women where people accept what they are and when a man or woman flirts, it does not mean automatically that they want to have sex with you. It’s just being male or female. Did bad things happen in those days? Yes, but we knew it wasn’t the norm so we went forward living our lives. I know I am an idealist but there you go I simply want to live my life without being afraid of being myself or being ashamed of the fact that I am a white male. Neither being white or male I had any choice about so I don’t think I should be discriminated against for it.

Ok, are you ready for a woman’s perspective LOL! Actually, you wrote this in a very balanced manner. I am the FIRST to say “equal” is equal. And, I do not assume that just because someone opens a door for me, they are trying to get me in their bed. Chris Rock had a joke about that–makes me laugh. A man opens a door for a woman and says, “After you!” when really he is thinking “Let’s f*^k!” LOL Are you guys really that bad? 🙂 Seriously, sexual harassment is way out of touch, BUT let me remind everyone that it still exists and just because there are so many flimsy instances it should not negate the real, aggravated harassment of women (and men) I do not see “sides” in all of this–we are all people and equal rights are equal HUMAN rights. Forget patriarchal or matriarchal and feminism and all of the cultural tags. Let’s love, respect and treat each other as Jesus said–as we ourselves want to be treated! 🙂 Love ya (you’re a brave man for this posting–especially around me!) LOL – liz

Well the problem is I hate the assumptions about men that some feminists use. I also don’t think Chris Rock is right about this one. I have held the door open for many a female and truth is there were very few I wanted to or would be willing to bang. I am just polite and a little old fashioned. Oddly, I have never had any of these women think this was the invitation being given. Sexual harassment is of course real but I think a lot that more hardcore feminists consider sexual harassment are just guys being guys. I also have seen the dark side of one man I know who committed suicide over a sexual harassment charge that ruined his marriage and life but it turned out later it was not true. I equality would be nice but the more I look at the legal system it is not equal and the balance favors the ladies right now.