How to Perform a Wedding Ceremony for your Lesbian Mothers in 4 Easy Steps

There comes a time in every person’s life where they are asked that one important question: Your lesbian mom wants to know if you would officiate her wedding ceremony!

..Ok, just me?

Well, if the situation does come up, heres a helpful guide on how to perform a wedding ceremony for your lesbian mothers!

Step 1: Get Ordained!

Thankfully, I have been ordained since July 2015 due to alcohol and a threat to marry my two friends against their will.

Alcohol is not required for this step, you can get ordained almost instantly on themonastery.org!

When you get ordained, it is important to understand the laws of the state that the wedding is in. The wedding I performed was in Illinois, so I went on the county’s court website and all of the information was there.

After you get a good understanding of the laws and what is required, let the future married couple know everything that they need to do! I let my mom know that she needed to bring her ID and her divorce documents from her first marriage.

Step 2: Start Planning!

This is the hardest step, because your lesbian mothers’ wedding is one of the most important moments in their lives, and in yours! You want everything to be perfect, but also thoughtful and personal.

A really good place to start is deciding whether it will be religious or not. This is an important question that should be the couple’s decision, and it is best to respect the decision that is made. My mother’s decision was to have a non-religious ceremony.

The cons of a non-religious ceremony is that you have to be very creative. A religious ceremony is very easily written because it isn’t hard to find a great script online. A non-religious ceremony is something that isn’t as easy, but it leaves the door open for a creative and personal ceremony.

I decided that the theme of the ceremony I was writing is love. Cliche? Maybe, but what better theme for your lesbian moms’ celebration of love and commitment?

I wrote their wedding ceremony to be about 6–7 minutes, not counting their vows.

Step 3: Perform Ceremony

Step 4: Cry (a lot) During Ceremony

Like a lot.

Let me know if you are needing help with writing a wedding ceremony, I have a script ready that is gender neutral and non-religious that I am willing to lend to anyone :)

Note: These pics were taken from Facebook from friends and family, the professional pics are still being edited. Thank you everyone who made this day amazing for my two favorite people in the world.