Mini Steps to Becoming a Better Adult

Appreciating People As They Are

I’ll never forget the line in Bridget Jones’ Diary when Mark Darcy told Bridget that he liked her. “Ah, apart from the smoking and the drinking, the vulgar mother and… ah, the verbal diarrhea,” replied Bridget. And Mark said, “No, I like you very much. Just as you are.” Isn’t that what we long for, for people to like us just the way we are.

I came across a brilliant quote by Ram Dass, spiritual teacher and author, where he talks about seeing people as trees.

Let me explain…

Here’s the awesome quote by Ram Dass:

“When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree.

The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying ‘You are too this, or I’m too this.’ That judgment mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.” – Ram Dass.

Let’s try to appreciate people as they are, not as we think they should be.

Did you check out the video on How to Deal with Change?My cat told me it’s pretty good! Obviously she can’t talk, she said it with her eyes.