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Mindy Kaling on friendship

Did you guys watch The Mindy Project this week? I was laughing out loud through the entire episode. If you haven't yet seen it, sneak away from your desk and watch it right now.

New York Magazine wrote a profile on Mindy a while back, and this paragraph has stuck with me: "My relationship with my mom is really the single most profound relationship that I’ve ever had in my life," Mindy tells me...But her voice breaks when she starts talking about how she sat down with a pen and paper and asked her mother to give her all the advice she could possibly give her before she died, and Kaling realized she’d never be able to ask her mother for advice again. “I said to her, ‘Mom, I’m going to be so lonely without you.’” She’s crying now but keeps going. “And she just said, ‘You have to be your own best friend. If you always remember that, you will always have someone there with you.’”

P.S. Did you know that Mindy Kaling's real name is Vera Chokalingam?
P.P.S. Who's secretly in love with Danny Castellano?

Such a sweet quote. My mom is definitely my most profound relationship. No one else would still love me after all the mess I put her through in my teenage years. On a lighter note... I am definitely holding a torch for Danny Castellano. He is a stud and a half. Swoon!

My favorite part, from that same interview, is when she said she felt she could still have conversations with her mom - because she knew her so well and could imagine what her mom would say. such a reassuring thought!

I am a huge fan of this show and Mindy's writing! I really think she is bringing something real to an audience who is not used to hearing things this way! It is refreshing and absolutely hilarious! Great post!

Crying a little in my cubicle... I never got to sit down with my Mom and have that conversation, even though my Mom was sick she passed away suddenly. Mindy's mom gave her great advice and I think my Mom would have said something similar. Thanks for sharing!

I adore Mindy Kaling and this story definitely brought me to tears. Having a new found appreciation for my mother being a new mother myself, I can't imagine a day in which I don't speak to her. What wonderful advice.

Being your own best friend is the BEST advice. I am a woman of age and it took me until I was in my 40's to realize that it was okay to spend time with myself, whether that be shopping or dining or dancing like a fool in my own home. Never let others dictate how you should be in life. Just be you, your own best friend, and fall in love with YOU.

Hey, I've loved Chris Messina (Danny Castellano) way before this show even aired. He's a great, underrated actor (and he has very sexy lips :) If you lust after him, check it out in his movie "28 Hotel Rooms"

My husband and I watched last night. Amazing. He is in his Ob residency so everything is just that much funnier to us. Loved her apartment. Not so secretly crushing on Danny Castellano. Great advice from her Mom.

Love what you wrote here Diane, I couldn't agree more. "Be your own best friend...." is brilliant advice. I have a lot of friends and the best possible girlfriends but I also think I am my own best friend too....and I love it.

I love Mindy, didn't know her real name is Vera. Is so sweet reading that her mother was her best friend, my mom is my best friend to. Mindy's mom was so right about what she said, you have to be your own best friend and so you will be able to be surrounded by good people/real friends.

I love those words of wisdom. It is just so easy to begin depending on other people to make you feel whole, when in all reality, you can keep yourself company with the exact same results. Easier said than done when you are first trying it out though!

wow... goosebumps! that's a great thought. we spend so much time trying to fill the void in our lives, whether it's with other people, material things, watching too much tv or surfing too much on the web... if we just sit back and treat ourselves right, everything else will fall into place :)

Awww you made me cry! My mom is my very best friend. We chat on the phone morning to night every single day, no exaggeration. I lost my dad young and always worry about losing her. Thanks for sharing this! XOXO

I love her so much! she is my other girl crush! i mean from her style and look i can relate to her so much in person and on screen. I totally understand her pain. I lost my second-like mom whos actually my auntie last year and i did the same. you figure if you can get whats left of them then you will feel less lonely. I know the feeling all to well. Btw I love the show soooooo much ! i do not watch tv which people thing is weird but i watch it via online . lol and my friend is like she dresses like you lol im like yes!!and shes an ideal weight which i like how shes very confident in herself. thanks for this post. i know folks are tired of me talking about her. lol

the first scene with her in her boyfriend's shirt and him with her jeans is the funniest tv scene i have seen in i don't know how long! my husband and i were DYING and watched it probably 10 times. LOVE her!

Sadly I haven't gotten a chance to watch this yet, but I love Mindy. That quote is just incredible. My best friend's mother is dying of cancer and my friend asked me to get her to write down what she would want to say at her daughters wedding. I never thought about the advice aspect though. So sad.

Freaking love this show! I almost peed when her one night stand put her pants on and they were huge on him. I would die. I especially loved that she referred to the sight of him as a lap band commercial. haha!

joanna, is there a reason for your frequent posts about mindy kaling? even when you don't post something on her, you somehow drop that you'll be watching her with your sister etc as a matter of factly. are you really her biggest fan out there? is she a close friend and you're helping her? is this a sponsored post? i'm just curious.

Not to overshadow that great quote, but every time I read Danny Castellano's name I think of Dan Castaneta or whatever it is from The Simpsons and I do a mini-double take that Homer is Mindy Kaling's love interest.

I was reading a book one time, and the very first page said something very similar: you have to be your own best friend – because if you don't see the greatness in you, if you don't respect and love yourself, how can you expect others to?

That's exactly what I thought when I lost my best friend my Mum - the overwhelming loneliness without her being in my life.Thanks Jo for your lovely posts that put a smile on my face and hope in my heart x