Asking DH to leave (long sorry)

Me and DH (dear husband) have 2 children - DD (dear daughter) is 21m and DS (dear son) is 3 weeks. Both our babies were planned.
DH (dear husband) has some health conditions. He's been off work since just before Christmas as he developed blood clots on the lungs. He has severe weight issues and most of his health conditions are down to this (he weighs 29st). His is weight is slowly being dealt with but it leaves him with no energy to do anything so I do pretty much everything round the house and for the kids.
When I was pregnant DH (dear husband) was worried about having another baby. We talked about it and I tried to help, but as he was similar when I was pregnant with DD (dear daughter) i put it down to nerves and thought he'd change his mind when baby arrived.
However since I had DS (dear son) all he's done is complain. He keep telling people that DD (dear daughter) has turned into a terror child when she really hasn't, he tells her off for everything and basically expects her to sit still and be quiet all the time. He keeps telling me he's struggling, that having children is really hard and sometimes he regrets having them and basically his life is just difficult/shit. He gets annoyed at everything. Even DS (dear son) crying or waking up for a feed.
Hes never happy, and never seems like he wants to be here. I've asked him a couple of times if he wants to leave and he gives excuses like I wouldn't cope with 2 kids on my own or his parents would kill him if he walked away from his kids. He's never said he wants to be here.
I know he is clearly struggling, he has a history of depression and it's obviously back. I want to be supportive but he's making life so difficult. I want to just straight up ask him to leave - not forever but just until he gets his head in a better place and decides whether he wants to be here or not.

I feel awful for even thinking about it because I know he needs support and love but I want to enjoy my children without him constantly whinging and telling me he wishes he hadn't had them.

I don't think I'd ask him to leave. I think what I'd do is sit down and have a very serious conversation about it. Get a straight answer from him on if he's happy and explain that his attitude is making things very hard on you- to the point you're considering splitting up for awhile. See if that changes things, or if he feels like he does need a break to sort his head out!

He sounds like he needs help, i would talk to him and encourage him to seek help. If he didnt want to do that for you and your children thats when i would consider asking him to leave. Try and help him through what sounds like a difficult time for him and make sure you have support through it too. Its tough but being a family isnt always easy

Im sorry but i disagree with everyone. I dont thunk yabu for the way that you feel - i think anyone in yiur situation would feel the same. However, i do think you would be unreasonable to ask him to leave.

He is clearly very deeply unhappy and in need of support and love. If you ask him to leave i think he would feel further ostracized and resent you for it. I absolutely do not agree it would be a kick up the arse for him but more like a smaxk in the face.

Im sorry you are in this position; it must be so very difficult for you all. I can onky suggest having a frank discussion with him and suggest he goes to gp.

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