Dear Julie, I can’t imagine why you would be looking at other women’s vagina. Also why you would compare theirs with yours and conclude that your Miss Victoria is ugly. If its Miss Victoria in erotic videos or online clips you are talking about. They belong to women who are paid very handsomely to show themselves. I am sure majority of them have undergone cosmetic surgery to look more appealing. Plus with digital enhancement it is possible to cut and pasted from one model to another.

I am also kind of curious as to why you are so concerned about how your “Miss Victoria” really looks. It’s not like he will take a snap for his wallet. Either will he hang the picture at the living room. As far as I am concerned, the vagina should always be concealed; it should blind him when revealed. Believe me when “Miss Victoria” time comes, it becomes the most beautiful and most desirable; haven’t you ever heard of grown men crying for it? No Miss Victoria is ugly.

The perfect Miss Victoria

There is no definition of the perfect genitals, thus it’s a matter of geography and perception. I say so because for example there are tribes in Uganda where women pull their labia (vaginal lips). To make them big and cover the vagina. These they believe keeps the vagina moist and at the same time strengthen muscles. Therefore better lubrication and grip which according to them leads to better Mombasa Raha. Other cultures for example some tribes in Ethiopia women trim off Miss Victoria lips so as to remain attractive – to give it that virgin look. This is one culture that thinks protruding Miss Victoria is ugly. There are women who keep asking me how to elongated their clitoris and those who think there are scarily big.

Believe me we all have flaws. Especially regarding perceptions of our genitals. From tightness, wetness to smell, taste and looks. Most of the times these are just insecurities, which mostly just that. When one meets the right guy and he pays no attention to this rubbish, then all is well. Be careful less those negative vibes, rub off on your partner. I am sure every time you undress for lovemaking. Your thought automatically shift your perceived “ugly” genitals making love making a tension filled agonizing affair.

Like I have said before successful relationships are not just about sex; if they were then men would be committing suicide every day after a visit to a brothel. I have never heard of someone dumped or divorced on the account of their Miss Victoria looks. Love thy self first and the world will fall in love with you regardless of your appearance. Wake up girl and realize that you are not an ugly duckling but a swan among ducks! Celebrate your woman hood and I am sure he will concur.

My name is Getrude Mungai. I am a Lifestyle designer on sex and relationships. A wife, mother, an author/blogger, TV and radio host and a motivational speaker. This year I will celebrate my 20th year in marital bliss. Married to the same man; Peter. Whom I have been in a relationship with for 25 years. Peter and I, are blessed with two sons, Mark and Albert who are in their teens.