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Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Lets see your 51yrs old you have grown kids , you have no desire to do anything with another man , "oh wait" but lately you have
an overwhelming desire to blow a guy off .
You are asking us what you should do , right ?

For starters you are 51 yrs old not 15 , . What do YOU want to do ?
If you honestly have never done this before then i would think "if this was me" if i do it will i still be able to carry on at home as if nothing has changed , trust me mate everything changes , at the end of the day the choice is yours but with all your life experience
you should look before leaping .

Please dont take this as a nasty response , that is furthest from my mind , also if you did go ahead and do it , would you be satisfied with that or are you going to be opening a Pandoras box when it comes to guys ?

Only you can make that choice or you could even call one of your local support groups and chat to someone about all this .
The only other thing i would say is you are married with children so always play safe . Good Luck on your decision .

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Don't think Wifey'd be up to it, she pretty conservative.
That would be great, though.
I'm just a bit concerned if I to through with it. It has to be discreet, and as safe as possible.
For you str8 guys that have done it, how was it? Did you regret it, or find yourself wanting more?

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

I would be very discreet, but feel I need to try it before I'm dead. Ill always wonder. Ill give it awhile, but don't think my urge will go away. I've been rock hard all day thinking about it.
I still would like to know if any other str8 guys took the plunge, and what happened. Did you want to keep doing it, etc.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

I'm a 51 yo male, married, with grown children.
I have no desire to do anything with another man...but lately I've had an overwhelming desire to suck another man's cock.
What should I do?

If you find it to REALLY bother you, then give it a try. But you say you have no desire to do anything with another man. Well, sucking a cock is a desire. If you were to ask me about sucking dick, I'd tell you its addictive. But it all depends on who you are.

Honestly though, if you only have the desire to suck a cock and do nothing else. Leave it be. But if you find that you aren't happy with this then go out and do it and get it off of your plate. In the end, your feelings and yourself have to make the decision as its not just you you're affecting but your wife and kids as well.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by CuriousGorge

I would be very discreet, but feel I need to try it before I'm dead. Ill always wonder. Ill give it awhile, but don't think my urge will go away. I've been rock hard all day thinking about it.
I still would like to know if any other str8 guys took the plunge, and what happened. Did you want to keep doing it, etc.

Some tried and they liked it and keep doing it.
Some didn't like it and stop.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

ugh...first off, straight guys don't have desires of wanting to suck cock.
(don't freak out, you're not gay or bi or whatever, it's normal)
second...sometimes people blow this crap way out of proportion and make it sound so daunting, like once you put a cock in your mouth the earth will move, the sky will fall and the oceans will recede .

At your age OP, it is understandable why you would want to try this, probably something to cross off your bucket list. It was probably something you may have thought about when you were younger but never got around to it because you got busy, life got in the way and seeing the birth of your children and raising a family with the beautiful wife that you love, far outweighed the importance of sucking a dick....

I would casually ask her about it. Have a conversation with her while you are both in bed and just sitting there reading or watching tv or something. Ask her if there is anything she has ever wanted to do in her life before she dies. If the conversation goes further after some gentle nudging, ask if she ever messed around in college or HS with some of her friends say at slumber parties etc. Then just slip it in there, tell her you sometimes wonder what it would be like to go down on a guy or at least hold another dude's member in your hand.

If you are married and you love each other, the conversation should not be all that difficult. She may be curious enough herself to take you up on the idea and may want to watch. I've been around it enough to know some women find it to be a turn on to watch or even just think about it with their men. Not only that, many married women I know don't see it as cheating, they see it as just something guys will do with each other, like masturbation.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

I agree with others that you should NOT cheat on your wife - that's selfish, unfair & definitely would put your marriage on rocky waters.

I liked what ElmoesToe had suggested, of having a heart-to-heart conversation. Of things that was always on your bucket list of things, but that you valued her and your marriage too much to do this without letting her know. You would have to explain to her that you're not thinking of leaving her and that you still in love with her - I'm presuming that's the case here. And this is just something that you've had on your mind and hoping to see what it's like.

She may surprise you and allow it, if she feels that you are safe about it and that you aren't doing this to leave the marriage. Of course, you'd have to be able to be receptive to whatever issues or reservations that she may have. After all, you've been thinking about this for a while. Discussing your curiosity with her is a lot to process at one sitting - especially, if she has no inkling that you are bi-curious.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Sucking dick is definitely addictive. Once you get a taste of it, it's lure is compelling and relentless. I would advise you not to do it unless you plan on divorcing your wife. You made a vow to her and unless you two come to some sort of arrangement, (which is doubtful), you should honor your vow to her. Don't mean to sound unsympathetic to your situation but in all honesty, you should have explored this side of yourself before you got married.

If I were counselling you, I would suggest that you try to rekindle the flame with your wife and explore and pursue a more passionate, fulfilling sex life with her. Love her like she should be loved and give her your heart, (and body) all over again and forget all about this sexual notion. It will only complicate your life and bring unnecessary grief if you go through with it. If you positively can't get this out of your mind, do the right thing and divorce her before you sample the cock. But trust me, the grass isn't always greener. I wouldn't be so quick to trade love for lust.

Man up and be the best husband to her and cherish the love you can have with her. Love her and I assure you that she'll keep your dick satisfied. Just my 2 cents worth. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Go for it! Have a good long discussion with yourself about how you want to handle, and if this is something you feel you can long longer put off and leave to a fantasy for rubbing one out. Then you can move from there.

It is cheating, but as the same time, if you're not getting stupid about things, and this is a part of you that has to be addressed, then denying yourself is going to make yourself equally as unhappy.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

^^^^^^^

Have to admit that I'm a bit surprised that you guys are so quick to encourage this guy to break a vow to his wife. I don't understand how you justify that. Not trying to be judgmental here. I'm just a little bit surprised. That's all.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by CuriousGorge

Thanks for the advice. You're right, my wife doesn't deserve to be cheated on. If I find this too difficult to get out of my head, I need to reasess my sexuality.

I'm 100% monogamous with my guy and planning to keep it that way. But a fantasy is a good thing. To you, what's the difference between your fantasy of another guy and some other fantasy you might have about a woman? If there is a difference, you should figure out why before you do anything.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

I'm a 51 yo male, married, with grown children.
I have no desire to do anything with another man...but lately I've had an overwhelming desire to suck another man's cock.
What should I do?

As a wife, I have to echo the others who are urging you not to cheat. It's a betrayal of your vows and of her. If you love her, how would it make you feel to betray that? What if you picked up an STI and gave it to her? No amount of discretion is going to be able to hide that.

As a woman who really gets off on watching guys together, I think that you should talk it over with your wife and give her the chance. She might surprise you. If my husband were to express such a desire I'd be right there cheering him on but I'd want it to be a threesome of some sort even if my role was primarily voyeuristic.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by yankeesfan

As a woman who really gets off on watching guys together, I think that you should talk it over with your wife and give her the chance. She might surprise you. If my husband were to express such a desire I'd be right there cheering him on but I'd want it to be a threesome of some sort even if my role was primarily voyeuristic.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Is sex with your wife getting rountine, maybe another woman, or is it you have always had these desires, either way two things will happen if you act. First you will not like it and feel guilty, if that's the case chalk it up as experience, and get on ith your life. Second you will love it and not be able or want to stop, then you can call yourself BI or gay. I say watch gay porn and if it gets you hard with no problems, go for it.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

I'm straight and I've tried it 3 times with 3 different guys. Two of the 3 times were with guys alone and I didn't get turned on by it all. One time was with an ex girlfriend watching me suck her new bf and I was rock hard, one of the most exciting experience I've had.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Why fucked it all for an orgasm? If you are not interested in men, reassess the situation and your desire. Let me just tell you this. A friend kissed me when I was 42. Of course, I was curious like you and it happened. From there on, it has been a battle as I am also married. I have never been able to forget and the continuous visit to porn site just fed the beast until I started acting on it. Now, at 48, I have been trying to stop but the crap does not leave my mind. I wish, at times, I had never tried it.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by Joe06877

Just suck some cock.......geez, it's no big deal. You'll probably like it a lot.

No big deal , , the guy is married has children and it is obvious to anyone with an iota of fucking common sense that he is in a
turmoil about what this could do to his wife and children if they ever found out .

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by Joe06877

Okay, I was wrong by saying it is "no big deal." But, if you are very discreet and careful, the only way to know if sucking cock is the right thing to do for you is by actually trying it. The paramount importance, of course, is to enjoy the experience with someone who appreciates and will respect your need to be discreet. (it's a real shame you don't live next door to me)

^^^^
This , it takes a lot to post on an open forum that you think you were wrong , .
Like you i to am single , so we really see things from that angle , i believe that if you are in a relationship then for it to succeed you
have to be honest with your mate especially if you are married with kids .

Please don`t think that i was flaming you if you did then i am sorry .
To be honest i think in this sort of situation the best people to help the OP are other married guys with kids (regardless of their age)
My heart goes out to this guy and others who are struggling with the same issue , i just hope that the OP finds our posts and support
helpfull to him .

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Im in the you're married and made a promise to your wife crowd. How would you feel if you found out she cheated on you? Doesn't matter if its with a man or woman. I understand the urge to try new things and a persons desires can change over time. However, you made a promise to her and you need to stand by your word. You need to talk to your wife instead of trying to find ways to sneak behind her back. If she gives you the green light then Im all for trying it.

Re: Str8? Never sucked another guy, but...

Originally Posted by CuriousGorge

lately I've had an overwhelming desire to suck another man's cock.
What should I do?

Go to a gay sauna (bathhouse) – usually plenty of guys willing to let someone suck their cock (the steam room is usually a good place). It’s quite common for guys to be sucked a few times but want to save cumming for full on sex – so don’t be surprised if most guys want you to stop before they cum. Most saunas I know – Sunday afternoon is when you get the most “STR8 married” guys. Another thing on sauna etiquette – never worry about a no and don’t be worried to say no

No idea if it’s a good idea or not for you to try sucking a cock - probably not worth it if you’ll end up feeling guilty about it.