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My daughter is 3 years old. I am enrolling her in a nursery school program starting next September (2 days a week, 3 hours each day & I will be paying for it) because her doctor recommended it since she’s shy and has some separation anxiety that’s pretty bad still. I am a stay at home mom (husband is special forces) and we have another child who is 1. Now her father doesn’t see her or call her really and lives thousands of miles away. He pays child support monthly. My first question is.. because I’m voluntarily putting her in school twice a week for 3 hours he doesn’t have to “help” pay correct? I’m assuming no when it comes to preschool. Also. Her father is trying to move closer (6 hours away). When we go to court for a visitation schedule they will use the school schedule correct? They can’t just pull her from nursery school for visitation time right? I’m going to be paying monthly so I would hate to pay and have my ex say he wants her for like a week each month meaning she misses school. Help me understand better! I know a step up plan is needed since she doesn’t even know him but I’m trying to plan ahead so I don’t pay for something and her not go

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I would think since it’s voluntary the courts likely would not take the school schedule into consideration. However, the fact it’s Dr recommended may carry some weight. I would suggest an attorney consult for their opinions.

I would think since it’s voluntary the courts likely would not take the sch...

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01/08/2018

I would think since it’s voluntary the courts likely would not take the school schedule into consideration. However, the fact it’s Dr recommended may carry some weight. I would suggest an attorney consult for their opinions.

I think I’m going to call my lawyer tomorrow. I just wasn’t sure what happened in other people’s situations. I’m definitely curious. She loves “school” so I’m hoping she can actually attend

You guys were in court recently right? So I wouldn't ask him to pay half and trigger more court. At 2 days a week, even if he moved closer he could still have extra time without interfering with school.

It would completely depend on your area and judge. I got it put in my CO that ods was to be in preschool 5 days a week at 3 and that school overrode xhs parenting time. So it all depends on your judge and what they feel is important

It would completely depend on your area and judge. I got it put in my CO that...

Posted
01/08/2018

It would completely depend on your area and judge. I got it put in my CO that ods was to be in preschool 5 days a week at 3 and that school overrode xhs parenting time. So it all depends on your judge and what they feel is important

I did this also I was also prepared to have letters from his teacher and doctor showing the importance of pre-K and other schooling activities.

When we divorced LO (little one) was already going to school for over a year so that helped also.

It would completely depend on your area and judge. I got it put in my CO that...

Posted
01/08/2018

It would completely depend on your area and judge. I got it put in my CO that ods was to be in preschool 5 days a week at 3 and that school overrode xhs parenting time. So it all depends on your judge and what they feel is important

Question. How did you get doctors to write this out? I’d love to do this. It’s so important to me. She’ll benefit from it since she was never in a daycare

Question. How did you get doctors to write this out? I’d love to do this. I...

Posted
01/08/2018

Question. How did you get doctors to write this out? I’d love to do this. It’s so important to me. She’ll benefit from it since she was never in a daycare

I didn’t get a doctor to write it. It was included in our CO from the judge.

I don’t have the order on me but something along the lines of

“Child will start preschool in excel program in x district September 2012. Child is to attend all scheduled days except in cases of illness or emergency. Once child begins preschool father’s Thursday parenting time will begin after school is over”

The wording on that was great cause at 3 he went in the morning but at 4 it was afternoons

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