July 2014

A reader writes in asking for guidance in how to raise children in a situation where one of the parents is in active addiction. Amanda Lee introduces the reader to the concept that alcoholism does not only affect the alcoholic, but …

How do you work through issues related to character traits you want to be rid of? If you are powerless to change yourself, who can you rely on to guide you through your growth? Controlling Life It is often the …

Have you ever struggled to find the “right words” or the strength to say No? You are not alone. Trying to regulate the reactions and emotions of others is a common trait for those who have survived trauma and abuse. …

How do you know if your relationship is based on addictive dynamics or interdependence? Are you willing to put the oxygen mask on yourself first in order to find out? Are you brave enough to face the pain of relational …

Dear Amanda, I was raised in part by my grandparents in a violent, alcoholic, abusive home. When my grandfather died (sexual and physical abuser) 4 years ago, I felt relief and thought I moved on with my life. I don’t remember …