Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

No. 1 Reason Men and Women Cheat

Just saw this on my internet home page I'm sure its open for alot of interpretation here but What do you think ?

The No. 1 reason men cheat is because they are dissatisfied with their relationship, while the most common reason women cheat is they feel emotionally deprived. That's the word from the MSNBC.com/iVillage "Lust, Love & Loyalty Survey," which found a number of fascinating facts about infidelity in the 30-question poll of more than 70,000 adults.

can emotionally deprived also be considered dissatisfied? Probably. I don't think there is any way to determine a number 1 reason as everyone on here has such a different story when you break it all down. Bottom line? Someone decided their vows meant nothing in that moment and that what they wanted was more important than their spouse, their families or anything else. I have yet to hear one person on hear get an answer to the &quot;why&quot; that made any kind of sense to any of us.
Just today, I find myself still trapped in the &quot;how could you?&quot; question. There is no good answer and you can always come back with &quot;if you were unhappy, dissatisfied, emotionally deprived etc.. why didn't you come to me with those thoughts instead of screwing someone else?&quot;

I don't trust that. Besides, MSN hosts a message board community called &quot;Little Secret&quot; that stipulates that you are currently involved in an extra marital relationship in order to be a member and gain admittance.

Yeah...of course I'm into surveys and statistics while working on my dissertation. The thing is, I wonder if the poll was an interview or a survey? They probably had a list of things to choose from instead of typing in their response. The poll I saw up today gave four possible answers from which to choose. So, the survey probably doesn't get down to the real reason. And, the fact that cheaters are looking for someone else to blame for their guilt would tend to make them choose answers that reflected on the other person. I have no doubt that the cheater had feelings that reflected on those two answers. But, that doesn't mean that's the reason they cheated. It takes very qualified professionals and intense testing of surveys to prove their validity. So, I doubt that this &quot;poll&quot; is scientifically sound in the first place.

They do it cause they can, because there was an opportunity to and they were weak. They can justify it a zillion times over( because thats what that survey does), but the reasons will never add up.

if they were unhappy, they should have had something. Extra horny? Should have masterbated more. Sorry. Felt there was a lack of communication? Should have bought an etchosketch. But to cheat? Shows alot about that person.

They just simply WANTED TO. My ex fiance gave me TONS of reasons why he cheated and they always changed:
1.) i was immature
2.) Didnt realize our relationship had substance ( we were ENGAGED WITH KIDS)
3.) I felt trapped.
4.) I was SCARED.
5.) She was REALLY attractive. (NO, she wasnt)
6.) I DIDNT THINK I WAS DOING ANYTHING WRONG.

And the list goes on.
I also had to listen to him say
&quot;And I would do it again, but I can't find anyone I would want to with&quot;.

I can't answer for the men in the survey. But I know for a fact I started looking elsewhere because I wanted more sex. Yes, I needed more attention and more emotionally in my life but I mainly wanted the sex and intimacy. I wanted someone to tell me I was hot and someone who would give me sex when I wanted it because at that time my H did not want to have sex and we would go for months without doing it. So that was my # 1 - lack of sex in my marriage. I also believe this is the # 1 reason for most men as well, whether they want to admit it or not.

IMHO the reason men cheat that is stated in this poll (dissatisfied with relationship) is pretty much a very general answer that could mean many things. lol! It could mean the same as the reason that women cheat which says they feel emotionally deprived. I feel its really vague information.

You know men and women have cheated for years and years. The main reason they do it lack of respect for others (i.e. their spouse and children) and selfishness. That's the main reason that leads to all the outward reasons they want to blame their cheating on. All it comes down to is the cheater being selfish. Anyone that feels deprived or lonely can very well leave a relationship first and then find a lover after they get divorced. They don't have to cheat. They &quot;choose&quot; to cheat.

at the risk of being lynched, its overly simplified, but i agree. no one wakes up in a perfect marriage and thinks, hmm, i think i will cheat. and in a perfect world, we would all come to one another and discuss these things. sometimes we do wometimes we dont and sometimes it all falls on deaf ears. every situation is unique and very painful. my marriage wasnt perfect and my relationship now wasnt perfect. my mind sees how it happens, but it doesnt make my heart break less.

Thanks for the reply's everyone. BAW &amp; Jay really hit on what I was trying to ask. &quot;Sorry my ability to communicate coming into play again&quot;.
Guess that &quot;How could someone do this&quot; question is still sitting in the back of my mind as It seems I have developed a knack of spotting articles on this subject I was just wondering about the validity of these types of surveys.

Well that a piece of crap becuz like everyone has said why not talk about the issue and ask for a divorce plan and simple I do believe that if u are not happy then get a divorce because life is to short to just live,but loveing life and eventually finding that one who is man enough or woman enough to cheer in it with u is the blissful part of life. So, my response is don't cheat,don't do things out of spit,but do what will make your time on earth a rememberal one

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