Also
a relentless dominatrix, pain makes you cringe from the constant self-referring.
But because you do feel ruined, especially at first, its almost
impossible to do otherwise, though you promise yourself not to complain
in front of others.....

Estranged and burdened, the two labor to make it through the hours,
traveling inch by inch through the miles of a day." Berger p.49

Is
there nothing optimistic to say? No benefits to the solitude or confinement?
Nothing good that was harvested?
Try, as they say in cheerful pamphlets, to make pain your companion.
But pain gives almost nothing back, gives only endless time. Its only
gift is cessation; it is encoded only with potential relief from itself.
 Berger p47

The
house of the body in pain is furnished with inexact metaphors that
resist tidy medical labeling, and with approximate descriptions of
extreme states. You find yourself at a loss, with language running
dry just when needed most...Berger, p.49

What about the soul? If the body is the temple in ruins, in
confinement?

And
the pure possibility of free thought, infinite thought, is set starkly
against the confinement of the body, now unreliable, now restraining
the mind like a quirky harness. .......

Since
pain can neither be verified nor denied in many cases, the person
in pain is doubted---are you malingering or overdramatizing? ---which
only then amplifies the pain. With only vivid, but subjective comparisons
to defend ourselves with, we can hardly communicate at
all. .... Berger p.49

Devastated,
she could no longer sit or stand due to onset of severe chronic pain.
I can't help you, youll have to learn to live with it."
A statement made by an orthopeadic physician at Mass General Hospital,
1984, to Deborah Page age 31, who had lost her ability to earn her
livelihood, and her freedom to move around in the world.

Rugs
Love Me

Chronic
Pain is a Relentless Dominatrix

Harnessed
by Pain

The
Doctor said; I cant help you Youll have
to learn to live with it

We
cant find anything wrong with you- you must be lying about the pain!