I never get turned on

I'm 23 and not only have I never had an orgasm, but I've also never felt turned on. I keep trying, but even when I fancy the guy, I get nothing from being kissed or touched. I've tried masturbating, only I get bored. What's wrong?

A lack of sexual desire can be a symptom of many things; sometimes it's due to a hormone imbalance, but usually it's down to a psychological or emotional block. There are so many reasons to freak out about sex - what if I'm no good? What if I don't orgasm? It could be that you let negative thoughts freeze desire before it starts. Also, everyone matures sexually at different rates - it might be that you're not there yet. In the meantime, stop trying to force it. Adding pressure will only make it worse, and stress, depression and anxiety are libido killers. Besides, sexuality can't be forced - it has a life of its own. If you can't wait, talk to your GP and ask for psychosexual counselling.

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