REALLY NEED SUPPORT

Ok so I am a wreck over here...it's probably not even abig deal but here's why happened...I made a pre-conception appointment that I attended today...my mom was next to dh while I was telling him about it and she won't off...said it was the dumbest thing she ever heard and if need someone to give me an ok to get preg then I shouldn't be trying...I had some health concerns and wanted to get the ok (which I did!) but anyway she yelled and said I don't need to waste my money on something do stupid and that I am way to neurotic...I am do hurt. Can anybody please send some support this way? Thanks a lot...I just want to feel better :(

Ok so I am a wreck over here...it's probably not even abig deal but here's why happened...I made a pre-conception appointment that I attended today...my mom was next to dh while I was telling him about it and she won't off...said it was the dumbest thing she ever heard and if need someone to give me an ok to get preg then I shouldn't be trying...I had some health concerns and wanted to get the ok (which I did!) but anyway she yelled and said I don't need to waste my money on something do stupid and that I am way to neurotic...I am do hurt. Can anybody please send some support this way? Thanks a lot...I just want to feel better :(

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that! That is awful!!!!! She had no right to try to make you feel bad like that. I have a grandmother who is very similar in her negativity (over everything) and it is very difficult be around. I can't even imagine it happening over something so intensely personal as TTC. *Hugs*

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that! That is awful!!!!! She had no right to try to make you feel bad like that. I have a grandmother who is very similar in her negativity (over everything) and it is very difficult be around. I can't even imagine it happening over something so intensely personal as TTC. *Hugs*

Sounds like you were doing the responsible thing and getting your questions answered. I had to do the same and get the all clear before we ttc the first time because I didn't want something popping up after I was already pregnant. I'm so sorry she was so negative. Know that you made the right choice for YOU, a skill that will be important as you move forward in growing and raising your family. {{hugs}}

Sounds like you were doing the responsible thing and getting your questions answered. I had to do the same and get the all clear before we ttc the first time because I didn't want something popping up after I was already pregnant. I'm so sorry she was so negative. Know that you made the right choice for YOU, a skill that will be important as you move forward in growing and raising your family. {{hugs}}

You absolutely did the right thing. I did not do a pre-conception visit with my son and wish that I had. I didn't know I had high blood pressure. This caused a lot of issues in my pregnancy and resulted my son being NICU for 5 days after he was born. This time I did and got the all clear. Its best to know that you did everything you can to have a healthy pregnancy then have regrets after. I am very sorry that your mom isn't being supportive. It might have just been a shock for her to hear. Has she ever reacted this way before about anything? is it totally out of character for her? Just know that you did the right thing.

You absolutely did the right thing. I did not do a pre-conception visit with my son and wish that I had. I didn't know I had high blood pressure. This caused a lot of issues in my pregnancy and resulted my son being NICU for 5 days after he was born. This time I did and got the all clear. Its best to know that you did everything you can to have a healthy pregnancy then have regrets after. I am very sorry that your mom isn't being supportive. It might have just been a shock for her to hear. Has she ever reacted this way before about anything? is it totally out of character for her? Just know that you did the right thing.

Thanks everyone for the support...it makes me feel a lot better. I do feel I did the right thing...I tried to explain to her that I wanted to make an educated, well thought out decision...she just laughed in my face. And no, this is not out of the norm for her...when I was accepted into a prestigious program at a local collee she laughed and said college is a waste of money. She wouldn't even read my letter of recommendation from a dr :( I love her but she is such a miserable and negative person. I hate raising my two year old and my future child(ten) in tht environment...but thank you ladies I REALLY appreciate the love! Hugs in return!

Thanks everyone for the support...it makes me feel a lot better. I do feel I did the right thing...I tried to explain to her that I wanted to make an educated, well thought out decision...she just laughed in my face. And no, this is not out of the norm for her...when I was accepted into a prestigious program at a local collee she laughed and said college is a waste of money. She wouldn't even read my letter of recommendation from a dr :( I love her but she is such a miserable and negative person. I hate raising my two year old and my future child(ten) in tht environment...but thank you ladies I REALLY appreciate the love! Hugs in return!

Ugh. Im sorry you had to deal with it. My advice is to thank her for her opinion and then explain to dh in private that you prefer to do it your way. After all, youre being cautious, not lazy. You can never be to cautious with pregnancy IMO. Getting a green light from your ob and other docs is a big deal. It signals to everyone else that this is a planned pregnancy (Not that there is anything remotely wrong with an unplanned pregnancy.) Planned pregnancies seemed to be viewed in a softer, more welcoming light in society. Stay strong, sister!

Ugh. Im sorry you had to deal with it. My advice is to thank her for her opinion and then explain to dh in private that you prefer to do it your way. After all, youre being cautious, not lazy. You can never be to cautious with pregnancy IMO. Getting a green light from your ob and other docs is a big deal. It signals to everyone else that this is a planned pregnancy (Not that there is anything remotely wrong with an unplanned pregnancy.) Planned pregnancies seemed to be viewed in a softer, more welcoming light in society. Stay strong, sister!

Your mom sounds almost like she's got some jealousy issues with you and perhaps other people. She also sounds a little selfish. You have to live your life for you and do the right things to be the best person you can, and if she doesn't like your decisions in life...tough! Going to the doctor for a regular check-up or a pre-prenatal visit is perfectly reasonable and recommended. I'm going into the dr for the same thing and I'm a nurse. It's not a waste of money. Especially if you have insurance (might as well use it since we still have to pay for it whether we go or not).

Your mom sounds almost like she's got some jealousy issues with you and perhaps other people. She also sounds a little selfish. You have to live your life for you and do the right things to be the best person you can, and if she doesn't like your decisions in life...tough! Going to the doctor for a regular check-up or a pre-prenatal visit is perfectly reasonable and recommended. I'm going into the dr for the same thing and I'm a nurse. It's not a waste of money. Especially if you have insurance (might as well use it since we still have to pay for it whether we go or not).

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