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Is infidelity women’s best kept secret? Given that women initiate 70 to 75% of all divorces, is this secret the catalyst that prompts them to pursue separations and divorces, many under the guise of “searching for self?” How many of these women were happily married prior to their affairs? Are men being divorced by their wives without ever knowing about their wives' extramarital sexual relationships? Women’s Infidelity discusses these and other wide-ranging, but interrelated, topics that help explain the difficulty women have with marriage and long-term fidelity.

About the Author

Michelle Langley has been a professional public speaker, specializing in career development, for over 11 years. She began an independent inquiry into women's sexuality after her interest was sparked by a series of unrelated incidents. The information in Women's Infidelity was gathered and researched over a period of ten years.

This book should be required reading for highschool graduation. So much about men's sexuality is common knowledge, such as during a man's 40's his hormone changes often trigger a mid-life crisis. However it's virtually unheard of that women undergo a near identical phenomenon in their early 30's that often results in marriage stress, illicit affairs, and leads many women to seek divorce as a coping mechanism due to lack of understanding what's going on with the bio-chemical reactions in their brains.

The author presents the book as a dialogue between herself and a close male friend whose marriage is falling apart. She covers many topics, most notably to me was a semi-humorous explanation of what sex is like for an unaroused woman. Unlike men who first have to be aroused to have sex, women can have sex whether aroused or not, but forcing themselves to have sex when not aroused to please their husbands quickly leads to resentment and lack of desire for sex in the same way getting a prostate exam whenever the doctor wanted to would quickly become a traumatic experience.

This book was a huge eye opener and has helped me better understand the feminine side of sexuality.

Reads like a high-school production of Guys and Dolls. Sophomoric. No real advice given. The online synopisis pretty much tells the whole story and is actually much better than the book itself. Sort of like your average Hollywood movie trailer is much better than the film and shows you all the best parts in 90 seconds. I bought this for some insight about a family member who is having marital difficulty. Here's what I "learned": "Modern (American) women are horny and will usually cheat --- and then be dishonest about it --- so make sure if you're dumb enough to screw yourself by marrying one of these evil and impetuous children --- at least maintain some dignity and not take any of their crap while they are taking you to the cleaners." There. Just saved you $50 and 2 hours.

I'm 26 and I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years. Yes, we're been together since we were 16. Last year I bought a house, but I didn't allow my boyfriend to move in with me because of problems we were experiencing in our relationship. After reading "Women's Infidelity," I finally understood the real underlying reason I had lost passion for my boyfriend. It also cleared up the guilt I felt for becoming sexually attracted to my housemate who moved in with me. I can't thank Michelle Langley enough for all the research she must have done and for sharing her knowledge with us all.

Between the writing of this book and its follow on 'Womens Infidelity II: Breaking out of Limbo' the author seems to have gone through a significant evolution. This book, 'Women's Infidelity: Living in Limbo' is suffused with feminist concepts, including Patriarchy, women carrying pain of thousands of years of oppression, it's women's turn now, etc, and adopts the perspective that women's sexuality will be and should be expressed in the most feral manner, dictated by hormonal changes encountered at their sexual prime in the late 20's an 30's and that there is nothing men can do about it - except not tolerate the behavior. Throughout the book, she gives examples of men who accede to the demands of their wives in this state and become solicitous per their wife's demands, enraging the wife and causing a reaction of contempt and disdain, exacerbating the 'state of Limbo' in which the wife causes pain to the husband by trying to keep the marriage going while carrying on a covert affair. The two examples she gives of men who avoid the pain are 1) a man who divorces his wife immediately when he demands an answer to his suspicions and receives confirmation and 2) a man who also demands confirmation from his wife and immediately sets terms for his continued participation in the relationship. Paradoxically, despite the feminist rhetoric, the overall message in the book for men is 'Act like a man - if your wife misbehaves, she needs and wants to be controlled. Unfortunately, for many men this knowledge has been edited out of their training in how to be a man because of the influence of feminism on our society in the last 50 years in its training women to be victims and absolving them of responsibility for their actions. (Men - see Robert Glover's 'No More Mr. Nice Guy')

The second book, 'Women's Infidelity II: Breaking out of Limbo', is very different. Targeted at women who find themselves involved in covert affairs instead of their male partners, it very gently nudges women to assume responsibility for their behavior and acknowledge that it is their own decisions or lack of decisions that puts them in the state of 'limbo' where they leave their husbands hanging on for sometimes years because they don't want to give up options. From my perspective as a male-brained individual, taking over 100 pages to do this seems like a lot of text to get across the point 'women need to take responsibility for their actions and decisions', but she does a very good job of supporting her contentions and it is a quick read.

While the first book is informed by references to genetics, biology, behavioral psychology, etc; the second lists Warren Farrell, David Deida, Thomas James (Domestic Violence: The Twelve Things You Aren't Supposed to Know), Ken WIlber, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra and to my surprise David Shackleton (an essay entitled Feminism Exposed: Our Blindness to Feminine Evil) and Kristen Armstrong.

The books are not based on statistical research but rather anecdotal research, and the bias is towards women who actually engage in affairs rather than just punishing their husbands because they are not happy, but nonetheless they go a long way towards explaining behavior that to most men seems incomprehensible.

I would not recommend reading one of these books without reading the other, and I would recommend them for both men and women prior to consideration of marriage. (Along with David Deida's The Way of the Superior Man)