Tantrums

Hi I'm new to this group. I have a 3 yr old step son. I have been with his father since he was 3 months and we also have a child together who is 11months. We are having an issue with tantrums. He throws them over anything and everything. His mother swears he doesn't do it for her. We tried time out chair or corner. We tried bargaining or rewards. He screams and cried hits yells screams. He will tell me ( or his father) that the other one hit him when no one did. This normally happens in the morning before he does to daycare. How do you deal with tantrums? He has never been like this before i want to keep him home from school as a punishment but his mother says no its not right?

Hi I'm new to this group. I have a 3 yr old step son. I have been with his father since he was 3 months and we also have a child together who is 11months. We are having an issue with tantrums. He throws them over anything and everything. His mother swears he doesn't do it for her. We tried time out chair or corner. We tried bargaining or rewards. He screams and cried hits yells screams. He will tell me ( or his father) that the other one hit him when no one did. This normally happens in the morning before he does to daycare. How do you deal with tantrums? He has never been like this before i want to keep him home from school as a punishment but his mother says no its not right?

1. You say it is in the morning before school. Does he like school? Maybe he is getting worried in anticipation of school. Also, how much sleep does he get and what does he eat in the morning? This could be your actual cause of morning tantrums. If he is just not a morning person perhaps having quiet time to start the morning with a book or drawing or snuggle time will help him feel better.

2. You also said he throws tantrums over anything. If you say, "go potty" and he throws a tantrum, ignore him. By engaging with him whether it is bargaining or time outs, he is getting the negative attention he wants. If this causes you to be late to school, then start getting ready earlier in the morning.

For example, after many tantrums, my 3 yo dd is expected to go potty and be dressed to have breakfast. In the past, I tried sticker charts, time outs, etc. Now, I will say "sit on the potty and get dressed or no breakfast" She may argue, beg for us to do it, throw tantrums. I dont yell, get in her face, bargain. If she comes up to me, I say the same thing again. The whining is like nails on a chalkboard for me, but I learn to ignore it. The result, she is always dressed and pottied for breakfast. I have never had to skip breakfast. Maybe just delay it.

a number of thoughts come to my mind:

1. You say it is in the morning before school. Does he like school? Maybe he is getting worried in anticipation of school. Also, how much sleep does he get and what does he eat in the morning? This could be your actual cause of morning tantrums. If he is just not a morning person perhaps having quiet time to start the morning with a book or drawing or snuggle time will help him feel better.

2. You also said he throws tantrums over anything. If you say, "go potty" and he throws a tantrum, ignore him. By engaging with him whether it is bargaining or time outs, he is getting the negative attention he wants. If this causes you to be late to school, then start getting ready earlier in the morning.

For example, after many tantrums, my 3 yo dd is expected to go potty and be dressed to have breakfast. In the past, I tried sticker charts, time outs, etc. Now, I will say "sit on the potty and get dressed or no breakfast" She may argue, beg for us to do it, throw tantrums. I dont yell, get in her face, bargain. If she comes up to me, I say the same thing again. The whining is like nails on a chalkboard for me, but I learn to ignore it. The result, she is always dressed and pottied for breakfast. I have never had to skip breakfast. Maybe just delay it.

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