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What should I do? I'm her boyfriend and I love her and want to take her out on dates and spend money on her but she doesn't like me spending money on her. She says I don't have to and I tell her I know I don't have to I want to!

Well, so what? You can do it anyway, but in smaller, less flashy ways that wont hurt her sense of independence. Let her pay for breakfast, but you buy the more expensive dinner, so she will feel like she has apid her way...or you get the tab, but let her tip....or be patient, she will either get over it, or you will, sooner or later.

I know she's not for sale but she's my gf shouldn't I be taken her out on dates?

Whether the women on here agree or not, men like to spend money on their SO's. So it's quite odd that she puts up a front for you to not spend any on her. Be wary and don't be too surprised if she's looking somewhere else. I'm not saying she definitely is but I would be asking some questions if I were you. Unless you're deep in debt or something, I'd be sitting down with her and talking.

Some women have a complex about people spending money on them because they hear over and over again how some men think that all women are gold-digging whores. Do nice things for her that don't cost a lot of money, and maybe she'll realize that you're being kind to her because you want to and not because you think you have to.

For me, it's a matter of fairness. I don't have a lot of money, so I feel like someone is being short-changed if they spend a ton of money on me (not that that has ever happened in a dating situation) because I am not in a position to go out and spend 100$ on a random gift all the time or expensive dinners.

It's not necessary to be all fancy. It makes some people uncomfortable.

Not if she doesn't want that, no. I don't like people spending money on me either. I like for things to be fair. If she doesn't have a lot of money to splash around herself (to spend on you), then it's hard for things to be fair if you are spending money on her. Save your money; having a loving girlfriend is not something that necessarily costs you anything at all, contrary to what many men state. Go for a walk, sit and hold hands, talk, have a tickle fight. Being together is priceless.

So you're saying that you wouldn't have a relationship with a man that lives in a house that's paid off and wouldn't ask you for a dime to cover the bills? That it's not fair to you? I mean like WTF? Please.

If I married a multi-millionaire tomorrow I would still go to work every day and make money and pay my share. Anything else would be unfair.

You're getting off track here. I never said anything about not working but rune up there is talking about fairness. Work and do what you want but if the man has the basics covered, is it a fair situation and would a woman go for it?

So you're saying that you wouldn't have a relationship with a man that lives in a house that's paid off and wouldn't ask you for a dime to cover the bills? That it's not fair to you? I mean like WTF? Please.

Dude... I don't care how much money I make, but if a girl asked me to cover her bills I'd tell her to bleep off...

You're getting off track here. I never said anything about not working but rune up there is talking about fairness. Work and do what you want but if the man has the basics covered, is it a fair situation and would a woman go for it?

That's exactly what I meant but I just didn't express it well.

If I got together with a man with a lot of money who offered me a free place to live with the bills paid because he had the money to cover it I would absolutely, positively not go for it. I would either find a job where I could contribute fairly or move on from the situation.

That would be just like, to me, someone offering to take me to Europe for two weeks free of charge. If I can't pay half, I'm not going. That's only fair. I've worked for everything I've ever had in my entire life, and the only free thing I accept is the occasional birthday gift or something.

If I got together with a man with a lot of money who offered me a free place to live with the bills paid because he had the money to cover it I would absolutely, positively not go for it. I would either find a job where I could contribute fairly or move on from the situation.