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Total Power Exchange (TPE)

This is a topic that anyone who has looked at the lifestyle in any detail will come across. Basically, this is the quality which makes the Master/slave relationship different than any other. Those involved in this way of life has selected a path which the power distribution is absolute. It is done based upon the characteristic of the relationship. The relationship dictates this is how it is to be. Each individual’s inner self validates the desire to maintain it.

Every relationship has a distribution of power. In the traditional world, this is based somewhat on the nature of the relationship. However, the charisma of the people involved has a far greater impact on the division. For example, friendships should be 50/50 relationships based upon their nature; yet there is usually one who wields more power in the arrangement. It could be based upon confidence, experience, strength, or a host or other factors.

In the M/s relationship, all power is given to the Master. That is done simply because of the nature of how this lifestyle is. However, if that Master is particularly weak, it can be lessened over time. A slave needs to have confidence in her Master. While she submits and may give total power away in the beginning, if the Master lacks the strength to lead the relationship, she will take it back. This is something that is done out of necessity. It is at this point that the relationship will deteriorate. A true M/s arrangement only works with continual transference of power to the Master.

Also, slaves who are not truly cut out for 24/7 service will also sabotage the total power exchange. The key word for this characteristic is “total”. A slave who is uncertain about her place will withhold something. This is her maintaining control, thus not transferring all power to her Master. Sex slaves lack this quality. While total power is transferred with regards to the sexual activity, the slave will maintain power over other areas. This is a reason why many submissives are not cut out for this way of life. The desire to keep some power is too great.

Understanding this concept helps to clarify if this lifestyle is for one or not. If you are submissive, how do you feel about giving all power over to another? On the other hand, if you have a dominant streak, are you will to take on the responsibility for taking control of another person’s life? With total power comes an enormous amount of responsibility. Be certain this is what you desire before entering into this type of relationship.