Mourning the Loss of having just one Baby

I know, I know it's silly. I can't help but feel sad that my little baby that has been my one and only, won't be my only baby. I'm sad that she will have to share me, and today while she was excitedly listening to a youtube song about Mommy having a baby in her belly, I burst into tears, and I'm about to cry remembering it right now.

I know they say love isn't halved, it's doubled; but will my baby know that? Will my 4 year old understand that? Okay, now I've started to cry again. Please tell me I'm not the only one that feels this way.

I had the same worries but my son loves his sister. And she loves him. From the beginning he was so excited. I’m worried about my daughter not being my baby anymore this wasn’t planned so she was my much longed for baby (secondary infertility and two losses trying to get her). I know your love just increases-that’s the truth. Make sure you make one on one time with your oldest after baby gets here. But if yours is anything like mine she’ll want baby brother or sister to come too

My four year old adores his 1 year old sister. They have so much fun. When I do days with just him, he asks for her lol. They have their moments too and I make an effort to have time with him. I’m nervous now it will be 3 but I think they will have a lot of fun together. 😊

Nephew was just a little over a year wheny niece was born. As soon. As he met her, he just wanted to help take care of her no he's his mommy in any way. It was precious. They're going to be best friends. Don't stress about it. I would definitely make sure you spend some one-on-one tine with your oldest, especially during the newborn stage when you're giving baby so much attention.

I felt the same way when I got pregnant with my second. Now I feel absurd for having worried about it because these two are the best of friends and they love playing with eachother. Although they love your attention, siblings go through all of life together. Long after you’re gone, they’ll have eachother (hopefully). It’s the best gift you could give her.

Your four year old's love will double too. She will understand it because she will also experience it. If you treat it as the positive event that it is kids catch on. Sure, there will be moments of sibling rivalry. But she will know you love her, will have a sibling who loves her and who she gets to love too. It feels like she's losing something right now but really she's gaining so much.

I felt the same way when I got pregnant with my second. Now I feel absurd for...

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11/29/2018

I felt the same way when I got pregnant with my second. Now I feel absurd for having worried about it because these two are the best of friends and they love playing with eachother. Although they love your attention, siblings go through all of life together. Long after you’re gone, they’ll have eachother (hopefully). It’s the best gift you could give her.

The funny thing is I have a sister that is a year and a half older than me and we are the best of friends. My other sister is 11 years older than me and we are best friends too. I know this logically, but my emotions are all over the place today.

Siblings are such an amazing gift. My husband and I are always ooing and awing over how much our kids love each other. Don’t stress about it, because by the time your baby is here this fear will be long gone.

Some of the best advice given to me when I went from one to two was to involve my oldest in things I did with baby. Let them sit by you while you nurse/feed baby and ask them to sing a song to baby. When it’s bath time, put them in charge of washing baby’s feet. Things like that. And when baby naps, take some time to play whatever your oldest wants to play.

The funny thing is I have a sister that is a year and a half older than me ...

Posted
11/29/2018

The funny thing is I have a sister that is a year and a half older than me and we are the best of friends. My other sister is 11 years older than me and we are best friends too. I know this logically, but my emotions are all over the place today.

Well, I understand that and think it’s normal. I would watch Daniel tiger with my oldest, when I was pregnant with my second, and ball my eyes out about the new baby coming. I’m best friends with both my brother and my sister. Siblings are the best!

I worry about this too sometimes. But I know she wouldn’t always want my total focus...it wouldn’t be healthy. My two sisters are my absolute best friends. I love my mom dearly but there is nothing like my relationship with my sisters. My mom says that for any time you lose with your first baby, they get that much more time and love from a sibling. In the long run, you’re not taking away from her, you’re adding love to her life 🧡

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