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Polygraph for Relationship Struggles

If you are considering a polygraph test for your relationship, then by definition, either one or both of you has lost the basic level of trust required to be at peace with one another.

Let's be honest. Living with broken or diminished trust erodes the strength of your commitment quickly. The longer the decay continues, the less likely it will be restored. You need to act quickly if you desire to maintain the relationship.

Finding a solid relationship counselor is wise and we urge you to pursue that.

We also know that being in counseling without full disclosure and honesty is not likely to re-establish trust. Neither you nor a counselor can force someone to be truthful. Many times, counselors guide couples to us for a polygraph test when they believe that one or both parties are refusing to fully disclose their behaviors. Wise counselors know that healing cannot begin until all the cards are on the table.

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There is power in polygraph. A properly conducted polygraph will give you ground level truth even if that truth is that one party is refusing to be honest. So whether the test is passed or failed, you have at least one piece of truth on which you can begin making healthy decisions for the future.

In case you are wondering if your situation is suitable for testing, here are some common scenarios for which we test regularly:

Ending phone calls quickly scenario - A wife notices her husband quickly ending phone calls when she enters the room and when she asks who it was, the answer just doesn't sound natural and the energy in the room is unsettling to her. Not only that, but he used to leave his cell phone lying around all over the place, but now it is within his reach at all times.

Bad news from trusted friends scenario - A boyfriend begins hearing stories from his friends about how his girl is messing around with other guys at parties when he is not there. She denies it, but the friends telling him this have no reason to lie.

Caught cheating, admits it, but something is still not right months or years later scenario - A husband has an affair and when caught in a lie or several lies, finally admits to it. The wife forgives him and attempts to move on, but for years has this gnawing feeling that there is still more going on that has not been disclosed, especially since he did not admit his infidelity until he was caught.

Re-occurring sex addiction denial scenario - An addiction to pornography is finally revealed in the marriage, the husband sincerely seeks help and things go smoothly for a while. The wife notices that behaviors start changing in that her husband starts spending more time on the computer after she goes to bed. She finally begins to look into what sites he has been visiting and finds porn sites in the history. He says that those must be from their teenage son and that he will talk to their son about it. She is not fooled and needs to find out if his addiction has resurfaced.

Perpetual accusations with no foundation scenario - A wife is constantly accusing her husband of cheating on her because her husband travels for business regularly. The husband does his best to convince her these accusations are unfounded and even switches jobs to be home more, but the accusations continue. The husband finally tells her he will take a polygraph test to prove he is faithful, and that when he passes, she must stop with the accusations or seek help.

There are a hundred more scenarios, but the important point is that trust has eroded and you should act, rather than just accuse or be accused, to save your relationship.

Call us at anytime at 1-800-497-9305 to discuss polygraph testing for your relationship struggles.

Call The Polygraph Examiner for information about LOCAL lie detection tests in at .

Answers to three of the most common questions about polygraph testing for relationships

Question:
My wife/husband/partner/mate is a very smart, likable and an extremely persuasive person. Is there a way that she can beat the test or convince you that she is telling the truth when in fact she's not? Basically, how do I know she won't fool you or the machine?

Answer:
Can I as the examiner be fooled by a smooth talker? Absolutely. You know I'd be lying if I said no. Everyone has been fooled at some time in their life. But that is not the important question. The important question is this: Do I as the examiner trust my feelings over my polygraph charts? That answer is a resolved 'NO'.

On many occasions, I've been convinced of someone's guilt or innocence from conversation during the pre-test interview before the polygraph test is run. After I run the test and the polygraph charts show my 'feelings' were wrong, I immediately change my perspective to match the charts. That is the only way I can be truly objective. I believe in my testing procedure so I trust my polygraph charts more than my feelings.

The second part of this question is whether someone can manipulate the polygraph charts so that they appear to be truthful when they are not. The answer is... they can certainly try. There is plenty of information available on the Internet claiming to teach one how to pass a test when they know they are lying. I read that information too. The truth of the matter is that unless an individual has long term practice and access to a polygraph instrument with someone to run bio-feedback measurements, they are not going to successfully 'beat' the test. If I were given a polygraph test today and tried to 'beat' the test, I also would be unsuccessful even though I know exactly how the test and the techniques work.

With that said, I do employ the latest techniques and equipment to recognize and eliminate countermeasure attempts and I do so quite successfully.

Question:
How much will the test cost and how many questions can I ask?

Answer:
Of course, that was actually two questions, but I've come to realize many people don't separate the two. This is in large part due to the influence of polygraph seen on television. Without going into a full explanation of why, the majority of polygraph tests you see done on television shows are not real polygraph tests and there is no possibility of their results being accurate. So when you see a person answering 20 or more questions for a television show, you must realize that you can't trust the results. Those tests are for entertainment and drama, not for verifying truth.

A real polygraph test is about a single issue, not about answers to individual questions. If the issue is whether or not your mate is cheating on you, the questions asked are ones that help you get a definitive answer to the issue of whether they cheated on you. That is why if a person shows a deceptive response to even one of the questions on the exam, they fail the entire test. Why? Because they are lying about the issue by lying to even that one question.

I could easily take your money and give you a test like you see on many television shows, where the test lasts about 30 minutes and you ask as many questions as you want. The problem is you could get the same results from writing the questions down, asking your mate each question and guessing whether or not they are telling the truth. What is the point of asking a multitude of questions if you can't trust that the results are accurate?

I utilize techniques and ask questions in ways that have been validated by years of research so that the results of the test can be trusted.

So to finally answer the questions, see our polygraph pricing page), usually takes 1 1/2 to 3 hours to complete and the number of questions is irrelevant. What is relevant is that you get a solid answer to the issue that you can trust. That is what I provide.

Question:
Can I be there to watch and listen while you give the polygraph test?

Answer:
I'll answer this question with a question. If it was you taking the polygraph, is there any chance what you said or did in a polygraph test would be influenced by your accuser sitting in the room watching and listening to every thing you said and did? More than likely. Think about the awkward feelings you already have around one another in your everyday lives because of the situation.

The answer is no simply because it adds a possible source of outside influence on the test and the goal of any test is to eliminate as many sources of distraction as possible. Also, many people choose to finally 'unload' the truth during a polygraph test because people hiding the truth desire, on a deeper level, to have that burden lifted. Your being present may actually sabotage getting the ground level truth you desire.