There are a lot of ways to be a jerk when you’re trying to get laid. Emily Heist Moss writes a letter to her brother and his college friends about how to make hook-up culture about pleasure and consent, instead of “scoring.”

John and Ben fell in love, and then Ben left for his second tour in Afghanistan. John talks to Emily Heist Moss about Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, and the tangible impact on soldiers serving overseas and their loved ones at home.

The countless deaths of unarmed black men by police, coupled with persistent activism from communities of color, has forced the conversation of race on America, causing officials to reevaluate, among many things, how policing is done.