My guy rarely orgasms

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My guy once took longer than normal to climax, and I made a big deal out of it, thinking I wasn't turning him on. Now, we barely ever have sex, and when we do, he rarely orgasms. What the hell is going on?

I don't know why your guy had climaxing issues that one time  maybe it was stress, maybe he wasn't really in the mood. What I do know is that by making a big stink, you made it worse. Now he worries that if he can't perform, you'll think he's inadequate. Imagine trying to orgasm with that kind of stress hanging over you. It'd be pretty damn hard, wouldn't it? Now you not only have to work toward making your guy forget about orgasms; you have to get him interested in having sex with you again. The trick is turning him on with your seductive powers without making him feel pressured to perform. So let him know how hot you think he looks, lay on the affection, wear your sexiest clothes when you go out together. Make him want you...bad.Once you get him back in bed, if he fails to, er, launch, don't even mention it. If you get off, let him know how good it was, as if your climax is what's most important. You can also offer to finish him off another way (read: manual or oral sex), where the pressure to succeed is more on you than him. The idea is to get him to chill out and realize that you're not keeping some sort of orgasm scorecard. Once his performance anxiety subsides, he should be firing on all cylinders again in no time.