Evolution of the black woman

From being shackled, beaten, abused, raped, judged, discriminated against, forgotten about and treated less than worthy by society and our own men I can truly say I am proud of the evolution of black women.We’ve come so far as a culture but I am specifically proud of my ladies in owning our black girl magic.

We are in fact just that, magical in every way. Strong, worthy, beautiful and divine.

I LOVE BLACK WOMEN.

No other race of women has accomplished what we have nor have endured the immense and ongoing struggle that we have. Black women all over have proven to society that we are capable and frankly, unstoppable.

I love the birth of “black girl magic” because I feel like it’s a form of acceptance for women of color. A few years ago not as many women were embracing their skin tone, natural hair texture, and overall strengths.

I stopped perming my hair just a few years ago, back in 2014 to be exact and along my 4-year natural hair journey it has been difficult but I can honestly say I’m happy I did it. I’m happy I was able to break apart of the cycle that society has drilled into us creating this… normalization which is that your hair needs to be straight in order for it to be pretty and or acceptable.

Bullshit.

Ideally, we have been marginalized and brainwashed into believing what is best for us from the very same people that have oppressed us over the years. And in the process stripping us of our identity.

I’m glad we got that back.

I’m glad we have evolved from hating ourselves to loving ourselves again.

I’m happy that we are beginning to become comfortable in our own skin owning who we truly are, unapologetically.

I love the origination of “sis” because I feel that even though I may not know many of the people I call “sis” personally it’s a form of unity and togetherness in our culture. Remember back in the day people used to say

“Alright, my brother” or “Have a good day sister”

I feel there is some sort of connection between our people when those phrases are said that creates a community of love within our culture and I’m happy that is coming back as well.

I noticed when I say “sis” to someone that I don’t know it gives them a sense of ease as if

“she means well” which gives a calm energy during interactions or conversations. A lot of black women I’ve come across seem to be more open and friendly which creates that wholesome vibe I love. It’s like…

“Yessss sis, I used coconut oil for my hair and I noticed it grew a lot”

“Ok I’m gonna try that thanks sis”

It’s like an “I got you” type of thing and I love it.

The black woman has evolved in many, many ways but one I can appreciate is the need for self-sufficiency. A LOT OF BLACK women are SINGLE. Maybe by choice or maybe because dating in 2018 is HARD.

But what I do know is that the black woman is tired and isn’t taking no shit.

We had ENOUGH.

We want a black man who can treat us right and fulfill our needs BUT we are not settling. We are focused on growing, glowing and these GOALS. We want clear skin, flourishing edges, and we want to achieve our dreams. Nothing cannot and will not stop us.

It’s our time.

While the black woman may be the most looked down upon race in the world, we are still the most vital and influential part of society.

Without the black woman, you have a very….dull world that would lack soul and creative diversity.

The diversity of a black woman is so complex and that’s what I love about being a black woman. From our features to our skin tone. You have many shades of black which are ALL BEAUTIFUL along with many different textures of hair that is versatile and can be done in many different hairstyles.

I can look one way today and another tomorrow, my options are endless.

When I was younger I used to feel ugly if I didn’t have a perm because my hair would be “nappy” which wasn’t “pretty” to me. Now that I am older and wiser I thank god that I’ve grown to love my natural hair and it’s unique texture. My hair is thick, STRONG, healthy and beautiful.

Black woman have been through it all, and even despite our challenges as a whole we still have persevered through everything creating the best versions of ourselves. All while recovering from our traumatizing past experiences that can go back centuries, cultivating that into something extraordinary, groundbreaking and powerful to society.

We’ve advanced in education, skill, and gained positions of power that have allowed us to change the world around us.

In all, I am proud to be a strong black woman and I appreciate all the black woman who came before me paving a way for my freedom and my success, without those who fought for us and our right to be treated equally who knows where we would have been.

I and every other woman of color are the epitome of struggle, change, fear, uncertainty,and strength. We are the strongest and most powerful overlooked people in the world,

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22 thoughts on “Evolution of the black woman”

Great Post. I was feeling a bit down today and this really lifted my spirits. It reminded me of who I was and how far I have came, in a society and a community that can sometimes leave you feeling at the bottom of the totem pole. I appreciate you words, thank you Sis.

THIS!!!! Is a celebration post!! I loved everything about it and it’s right on time. Growing up I got bullied a lot because of my dark skin. I’ve always had long hair but girls would try to, and some actually did pull it out saying there was no way I could have hair like that. Being young not realizing they were under the very same belief system that has oppressed us and made us feel ugly. At this point in time we are the MOST educated population In this world. While everyone else was sleepimg on us we were mobilizing and transforming! We’ve been on a world stage forever and didn’t even know it. We’ve mistaken envy and jealousy with hate. Because the world has recognized the power, poise and beauty in us that we didn’t recognize in ourselves. I love how we’ve started to celebrate ourselves because we are like no other. Black women are A Mazing! I will always address other black women as Queens because that’s what we are. Great post! I needed this.

Wow!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
I agree we were taught to hate ourselves for the LONGEST. But I am glad we are coming to grips with our true beauty, capabilities and intelligence!!
We are the best!!!
Thanks for your feedback sis❤️

I absolutely love this post! I find myself saying “sis” more often to black women and it feels good when someone says it to me. Black women truly need to stick together especially since we already go through a lot. I loved the energy of this post, it was so empowering and made me appreciate myself even more as a black, fully natural woman.

YAAAAAAAAS SIS!!!! Lol….I felt very empowered while reading your blog. I have always been proud to be a black woman and wouldn’t have it any other way and your blog just made me feel even better about myself and I didn’t even know that was possible! It’s funny to me how society tries to break us down and tries to make us think that we are not important, but there are many indications just in media alone that proves to us that we are. I mean, just look at your 7th, 8th and 9th picture! I could be wrong, but I don’t mind going out on a limb and saying that those are not black women! What I do know for sure is that their “looks” are black women inspired. If we are not important, why is that women of different cultures are trying to take our styles or in other words, look like us???! Ooooh, so now it’s appropriate…..oh, I see. Surely, they wouldn’t want to imitate something that doesn’t interest them. I find it funny that back in the day we used to be teased when it came to our “big lips” and now white women get lip injections to achieve that pouty look. But oh that’s right, I forgot, we’re ugly. Smh….blows my mind and then they want to tell us that we are not important. We have to set the standard. We have to tell ourselves that we are important and not only that, BELIEVE IT! We have to TRULY BELIEVE IT. The more of us that do that, the more powerful we will be. Why do we have to be at the bottom of the totem pole so much whenever we are dealing with statistics that are advantageous? Tell me, why?! Ugh, it makes me sick. Even I have learned to love my natural hair now more than ever. I never thought I would say that, but I really do now that I know how to tame it! Straight hair and natural hair can both be beautiful because they both are. Loving our natural hair is becoming more and more accepted because it is the “wave” now, but when is it going to be normalized? When we make it so, that’s when. It starts with us black women and from there, it doesn’t end, we EVOLVE and evolving is a beautiful thing. We need to S.O.S. and that starts with first accepting ourselves. We do not need validation from other cultures, we validate ourselves. Confidence is key and we wear it well. Wonderful job!
#wahlahblackgirlmagic

I love your input and I also agree. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves, our features and everything about us that is beautiful.
Then the ones who hated or hate us steal our culture and make it “trendy”…so disrespectful.

I can appreciate the love for my natural hair too, wasn’t easy but I’m glad it happened and I’m happy many other black woman are claiming their roots as well.

We absolutely don’t need anyone’s validation, we are good enough as we are and should be accepted that way.
I love our growth! #Blackgirlmagic 💫