Good Vibes Blog

People may be freaked out about masturbation, or so freaked out that they don’t do it, which may mean that they have not become orgasmic or learned enough about their own arousal responses to inform a partner about the best way to get them off.

When we’re talking about any subject that has cultural constraints around it — whether that’s sexual trauma or sexual desire or so very many other aspects of our lives — sometimes we need a place to be curious, to write into our own wondering and discovery, knowing we are going to be free of the sorts of reactions that even those who love us the most can give us. We are free to wonder, to explore and investigate, to have all the answers, to use code or metaphor, to be unsure, to be contradictory — in short, to be our full and complicated selves.

[T]he people who want to do away with porn would mostly also be glad to do away with sex education itself. They don’t even support the half-assed sex ed that kids are turning to porn to supplement. Young people watch porn because school-based sex ed gives them no life skills that actually help them learn about sex…

What does health policy have to do with sex? Everything from birth control to HIV prevention and treatment to access to medial care if you leave your cock ring on too long, that’s what. There are a jillion ways sexuality intersects with medicine; … the more people who lose access to affordable health care, the more sexual sequelae there will be to common and uncommon ailments.