​Life is made up of moments: The moment you are born, the moment you hold your first child, the moment you meet the person you are going to spend the rest of your life, the big and small moments in life.December 1986 was full of typical moments for me. I was a sophomore in college so I had finals to study for, we decorated our apartment for Christmas, we packed to go to San Antonio to visit my ex’s parents for the holidays, and we went to Granite for Christmas with my family. I didn’t know at the time that those were the last moments I’d have with my brother. The next time I would see him would be in the funeral home.I think about all the missed moments now. The birthdays, the anniversaries, the holidays. I try to imagine what Bill would be like as a middle aged man. I wonder what our relationship would have been like as adults. But most of all, I regret those missed moments, those lost opportunities.Let go of grudges, tell others you love them, live each moment as if it were your last. Because you never know when it could be over.This post would not be complete without mentioning one last thing. The holidays are a tempting time to go out and party and “celebrate”. I’m not going to ask you not to do that. I am going to ask you to not get behind the wheel of a vehicle if you do. The smartest thing to do is to make a plan before you ever leave your house. Have a designated driver. Plan to spend the night where ever you are going. Stay home to celebrate. BUT if you find yourself in the middle of the night having drank too much (and even one drink is too much!!!!), then I am begging you: call someone! Will they be happy with you? Probably not. But they will get over it. They will not get over losing you.

I love you! ❤️ I know this time of year is really hard in you, and this year maybe more than most.

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Tracy

12/28/2016 11:11:29 am

Thanks and love you too. This year has been 30 years and it has been very emotional for me.

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Roxanne

1/1/2017 10:18:27 pm

I remember that phone call and thinking how horrible of a drive it was for you from San Antonio to OK for you 30 years ago. I would have to say, your brother is the reason that I stay put on NYE. Hugs and prayers to you.

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Tracy

1/3/2017 12:28:41 pm

That phone call is emblazoned in my mind. I cannot even begin to describe how that felt. Thanks and love you!

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