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Friday, May 12, 2017

Why Do We Tear Others Down?

Life is hard enough without any extra pressure. Honestly, I can’t imagine my younger self on social media. I was insecure, scarred inside as well as out, self-conscious, shy, and I worried so much about what other people thought about me. Now anytime that I post on a social media platform, I try to be mindful of who is on the other side of the screen. We might go on a rant and really tear someone apart for their actions, and it might go beyond the screen and seep into their heart.

We have no idea what other people go through. It’s so easy to set in our comfortable lives and judge them for how they handle their hardships. The truth is that we don’t know what we will do tomorrow. We could be in their same situation tomorrow or in a few years. No one is any better than anyone else. We are all beautifully flawed and God loves us all the same.

Instead of tearing others apart, what if we prayed for them? What if we reached out to them with love and concern?

Sometimes we just need to take ourselves back in time to when we had similar thoughts, feelings, and hardships. Harsh words are not helpful. It only reaffirms what the negative voice in their mind is already telling them. Kind words and compassion, however, could give them a new perspective.

When I did my school visit recently one of the teachers told the students about my faith on my journey to being published. She had worked with me previously and listened to me talk about my dreams. She also heard all the naysayers talk about me and put me down constantly. Today, I am so grateful that I didn’t allow the enemy to steal my dreams.

Regardless of where you are on your journey, there will always be naysayers. Some people don’t want others to succeed. Those people believe if they can tear us down that it will make them look better. Don’t listen to them. Keep doing what you want to do and pursuing your dream—even if no one believes in it but you. I would rather live my life with negative comments than with regret.

I believe in YOU! You are amazing. I believe that you can do great things. I believe that if you have a gift inside of you to help others and do something amazing with your life. Believe that, my sweet friend!

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Author shares message through Zippy the zebra

Candida Sullivan

2016 CSPA Book of the Year Award for Christian Living. Click on the book to buy.

Despite Your Circumstances shows us the power of the mind as it embraces a positive and thankful attitude, and demonstrates how to build a rich life filled with meaning and joy. The author uses seemingly impossible situations in her life to prove that you can be an overcomer despite your circumstances.

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ZIPPY’S CLUB invites kids to be part of the anti-bullying team. It teaches them how to overcome bullying with kindness and to celebrate one another’s differences. The book includes a section from a nationally certified counselor to help initiate conversations with kids about bullying, as well as a letter from Candida telling her personal story. In Zippy’s Club, Candida shares that while we can’t control how others treat us, we can decide how we act toward them. Both she and Zippy encourage us to be the type of people who lifts others up, instead of knocking them down. Zippy’s Club Motto: The ones, who treat us the worst, need our kindness the most.

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Zippy's Big Difference is a story about how Zippy the zebra came to appreciate that which makes him different from others. It deals with the emotional struggles facing children with disabilities and tackles some of the tough spiritual questions they have.

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Underneath the Scars is a journey of emotional and spiritual healing associated with physical deformities (caused by Amniotic Band Syndrome). You will laugh, cry, and reflect as Candida shares her story and the woman underneath her scars.

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Zippy and the Stripes of Courage is a story about how Zippy the zebra came to accept himself for who he is. It teaches children to celebrate one another’s differences and to treat others as they themselves want to be treated.