Who will be in the delivery room with you?

It seems natural and comfortable for me to have my husband and my mother there. Unfortunately, I've got a feeling that my mother-in-law expects to be there too! My husband is her only child and she's been waiting for this grandchild for a long time. There's no way she won't be camped out at the hospital! But it's going to be seriously awkward singling her out to leave the room when the time comes - am I being mean? I don't know how I'm going to tell her how I feel :(

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I want my fiance and my mom and maybe my nana, but I'm worried about his mother... she keeps asking if she is gonna be in the room an idk I just feel awkward with her there. Mr and her are not close. And so I don't want to be mean and say no but I don't want her in there...

I haven't yet read anything, but I feel for your mil. If this is another boy to add to my two then I won't have a daughter to ever be invited to the birth of a grandchild with. That one of the things that makes me hope it will be a girl (and one that wants me there). I've had c-sections will all my kids and I would like to be around for a vaginal birth someday, but I have a feeling that it is never going to happen.

For my first c-section they only allowed 1 person, so it was my mom. For a vaginal birth I was planning to have whoever in my family didn't run screaming including my dad and 2 little brothers. For the second c-section, I begged and pleaded until they allowed 2 in the surgery room: mom and dh. I needed someone to run the video cam who I could be sure wasn't going to pass out and need mom medical attention than myself. This time I will beg again for both to be allowed it. (I can't have a baby without my mom there). I wouldn't be able to get more than 2 in the OR for mil to come, even if mil begged, but she passed away a few years ago so I think she's there if she wants to be.

Only my DH. It is our very special moment to share and I don't want to take that away from him. He is the dad and should be the only one there - in my mind that is. Everyone else can wait while we welcome this new life into our lives. I wouldn't want it to be a parade of people. I think it takes away from DH.

Only my husband because that will be our time with our LO, and I don't want an audience I feel enough will be in the room. My mom understands that but haven't told my mil yet but she's already comparing so I think it will be best.

My DH mil and she asked if my mom could be too. Hopefully that works out. DH is my mil only child she could have so it was very important to us to let her see her first grand baby. She always wanted like 7+ kids. My mom had that many so she hopefully should have great advice for me!

With my first, it was just DH and I. My mom was very upset and actually just barged into the room before we had given the okay.
This time it will be just DH and I but we won't be letting anyone know when we head to the hospital. Only my cousin will know because she'll watch Jack.
I believe it's such an amazing and emotional experience that if you tell someone you just want it to be so and so, they should respect that. This moment doesn't happen everyday.