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I sit here, and I start to write about friendships, and quality, and frustrations, and toxic people, and closure and walking way and I find myself frustrated and saddened because that is not what I really want to be writing about. I want to talk positive things, and get this miserable mess of a feeling off of my chest because it feels like it weighs about 50 lb., and it’s a very heavy load to be carrying around, and there’s another part of me that want’s to say … “nah, not you again. Could you please stay away today?”

I want to be positive, and write positive, but lately I feel like I have just been smacked back and forth, and back and forth by the karma gods. I really am not sure what I have done to deserve this, but then I also remembered reading this quote a while ago which did help to change my perspective. I try to think of it frequently.

And so how absolutely fabulous it is, just by changing your perspective, for that one moment, to think that instead of being drowned under water, held underneath life, and struggling in a world that we just cannot manage to keep afloat in, we are being cleansed – refreshed from all of the toxic, negative, chaos that we are just so over whelmed with in our lives. This is how I choose to think of it today;

ca·thar·tic

adjective

providing psychological relief through the open expression of strong emotions; causing catharsis. crying is a cathartic release

I love this word. Who doesn’t love a word so strong that just by saying it could make you feel as though you have been picked up by the strongest of person, given the greatest of hugs, and made to be felt like you are on top of the world again – exactly where you were longing to be – safe, and taken care of.

Unfortunately, sometimes it is not as simple as just saying a word, though – but here are a few steps that I hope to remind myself to following when I do become overwhelmed next time – as I know I will. I am human, and I do notice that I do follow a pattern when it comes to emotional hurdles.

Steps To Finding Emotional Healing:

Take Time Alone:

Take some time alone and figure out the emotions that are making you feel negative. Was it a person, situation, feeling.

Let It Go:

Write, Cry, Scream, Let the emotions out. Find a way that works for YOU – everyone is different and we all have a different way of dealing with things. The trick is not to let things internalizing. Internalizing things is what makes us hurt, and most likely why we are reading this right now.

Let Time Pass:

Sometimes it may take a day, or two, even weeks or months for things to digest. Some of the things that may be causing you pain can be really heavy situations that you may not even know how to deal with. Sometimes they are simply easier to deal with than others. Sometimes we are at different points in our emotional journey which makes dealing with external negatives at different times in our paths easier on different days than others.

Repeat:

Don’t be too quick to make these things go away. You have your own rate at how your body digests emotional hurdles, and your time when you are ready to move on to the next chapter in your lives. Do not put a timeline on things. Expectations will only frustrate you and bring more stress to an already stressful situation. Appreciate yourself enough to give yourself the time you need to heal.

Talk to someone you trust, someone with positive energy about things that have hurt you. Perhaps their perspective, and guidance can bring great insight to the situation. Sometimes just speaking out loud about the situation will help to ease the pain.