Is there a male menopause? As a man in his mid-50s, I have recently become aware of getting older. Increasing age has had a curious effect on my psyche. I am noticing, on an almost daily basis, that I am thinking, feeling and behaving in ways that are starkly different from my youth and earlier adulthood. I will share these experiences on this blog and hope others will join me in describing their own age-related quirks and oddities. I can't be the only one at this "funny age", can I??

Sunday, 18 November 2012

After an experience last week, I
know exactly what the Canadian singer meant.

Last Tuesday evening I attended a
football (soccer) game and went for a drink with my 22-year old son in the pub
directly across from the ground. Ryan reminded me it was my turn to buy the
drinks so he sat down while I approached the bar.

Despite the pub being busy, I
found a space at the bar and waited to be served. And waited, and waited. I
repeatedly tried to make eye-contact with one of the four young women behind
the bar but to no avail. I felt like the invisible man. Either side of me new arrivals
were approaching the bar and getting served before me. Vexed, I stared expectantly
at the nearest barmaid as she put cash into the till; surely I couldn’t be
ignored any longer?

A young man, with an ear-ring and
bull neck, appeared at my shoulder and the barmaid immediately struck up a
conversation with him, smiling and playing with a tress of her hair. Despite me
waiting expectantly with my £10 note in hand, mouth open and fixed gape, she
asked the young buck for his order.

“A pint of lager and a small coke,
please” I interjected, loudly.

The bar quietened. The barmaid
glanced at me, her face instantly losing animation. It was as if a vile smell
had grabbed her attention. Grudgingly, she started to pour my lager (my son’s
lager – I was driving) but continued to flirt with the young man at my side. So
engrossed was she in the young buck, that she was handing my (son’s) pint to
him, until her suitor pointed out her mistake.

Belatedly, I picked up the pint
of lager and small coke (both in plastic glasses, for public safety reasons)
and turned to look for Ryan. Inexplicably, I paused. An omnipotent impulse rose
through my body, a desperate desire to wrestle back a morsel of dignity. In my
mind, I sprung into action …

I turn and, with one sharp waft of my right arm across the bar, fling
all the bottles and glasses onto floor. The tavern falls silent. I have
everyone’s attention. I climb onto the bar-top and scream:

“I might be 53 but let me tell you a few things.

Drunken women have been known to make sexual advances at me.

I was voted the 3rd best-looking boy in class 6D at school.

My wife says I look a bit like Richard Gere.

Tina Cropper once said I was the best lover she’d ever had.

I was the captain of the Haslingden High School 2nd XI
football team.

And I have a huge todger”. (That one was a lie, but hey I was on a
roll).

But it was all fantasy. In truth,
I skulked to my seat, handed Ryan his lager and proceeded, silently, to sip my
coke out of the plastic glass. I consoled myself that my Leonard Cohen CDs
awaited.

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