Finding Freedom In Writing

“Everyone who remembers his own educational experience remembers teachers, not methods and techniques.” Sidney Hook, Education for Modern Man.

Students Are Also Your Best Teachers

We heard of teachers who are ever so inspiring, giving up so much in order to help their students achieve great things in life. Once such movie about teachers is Freedom Writers, a story based on Woodrow Wilson Classical High School in Long Beach, California, and their English teacher, Erin Gruwell. This movie is about a teacher inspiring change through her own actions, motivating and bringing good influence into the lives of students.

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English teacher Erin Gruwell was challenged with her new class of not-eager-for college students who often got involved in gang fights, and disliked her because she is white. It wasn’t until Erin held a discussion about a drive-by shooting death that she begun to understand what she was up against. She then assigns her students to write journals which will not be read unless they agree, and her students started to open up to her.

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Everyone should have equal opportunity to learn

This movie not only highlights problems with the American educational system, but also our society’s challenges in schooling children from poor and complicated family backgrounds. The movie doesn’t give miracle answers for all of these kids who are still living at risk, desperately needing help, but it does give hope, that maybe someone like Erin will be able to speak for them and let them tell their stories. “Even if nobody else read it, the book will be something to leave behind and said we were here and this is what happened, we matter, even if it was just to each other”

This movie is beautifully filmed, telling the stories of students who just want to be able to live out their dreams in an unjust world.This inspiring film delivers a positive and productive message for each of us. If you believe in hope, you will find this movie on your favourite list.

How to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance

Kate is a hard-working manager working at a startup company. She toils at work but gets that nagging feeling that she’s missing out on living her life. And then perversely, when she’s not working, she tries to switch off ‘work-mode’ to enjoy her passions, friends, family… but eventually she finds that she just doesn’t have the energy.

Many people are like Kate, misunderstanding the true meaning of work life balance. They try to keep ‘work’ and ‘life’ separate, but this brings undesirable results.

The Mystery of Work Life Balance

Those who are trying to maintain a work life balance only by dividing their time – by driving a sharp wedge between work-mode and life-mode – are inadvertently dividing themselves.

When people juxtapose ‘work’ and ‘life’, they unconsciously think in terms of ‘work’ versus ‘life’ – and are constantly forced to choose one at the expense of the other. In this framework, a gain on one side is always a loss on the other side.

And so people start to see ‘work’ as the times when they are not living their lives. ‘Work’ is seen as a necessary evil that they must suffer through until it’s time to switch off. But if you encode everything related to work as negativity and suffering, while your ‘life’ strains under the weight of unrealistic expectations of enjoyment, there really is no balance there at all.

Re-balancing work and life is possible by seeking out a new and enjoyable job to a certain extent. But no job is perfect. There are always going to be tedious aspects to any job. And before long you’ll wind up on the same ‘life’ versus ‘work’ see-saw because you haven’t changed the old framework.

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How to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance

The true goal is to redistribute the positive (+) and negative (-) evenly across life.

Most people try to make it all positive off work to compensate the negativity at work like this:

If it’s all negative at work and all positive when the work mode is switched off, the work performance will suffer – creating even more negativity. People will lean heavily on their off-mode life for happiness, but they can’t truly achieve happiness because they are not facing the problems at work.

Conversely, there are those who do strive to put positivity into their work life. Their work life balance looks like this:

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Unfortunately, if these people are still stuck in the old on/off framework, all the negativity will shift to their off-mode self, and their relationships and health will suffer.

Very few lucky people experience positivity on both sides of the equation, their work life balance looks like this:

If you are one of those who experience positivity in both sides, lucky you! You are one of the less than 5% of the population.

For the rest of the 95% of the population, here is a cure to having a realistic work life balance.

The solution is to recover the sense of a unified self. When you do, you’ll dismantle the competing work/life binary, and you’ll stop unconsciously labelling work as ‘suffering’ and life as ‘enjoyment’. Positive energy will begin to flow smoothly and effortlessly through your life.

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To recover the sense of a unified self, ask yourself: Why do I really do what I do, in life and in work?

Your answer to this question make up your blueprint of a unified self, charged with meaning that relates directly to who you are and what you care about.

Use your blueprint now to examine your life at work, your leisure time and your relationships and see if they align with each other. The new framework is no longer ‘balance’, but ‘alignment’.

This will reveal to you a number of things:

There are aspects of your work that are not suffering: Look again and you’ll find many positive aspects that reflect what you care about. For example, you may value creativity, and realize that you get the opportunity to show it at work every day.

Things you care about at ‘work’ are the same as what you care about in your ‘life’: For example, you may value friendship in your life, and you also practice this value with your colleagues. Your values exist in all your interactions, and serve your unified self.

What you do at work and what you do in your life support and enhance each other: For example, the same generosity you show your friends can forge good client relationships when practiced at work. Your resourcefulness at work can be used to solve obstacles in your personal life.

Crucially, you never need to use the on/off work model again because you’re constantly acting in accordance with what you truly value. As a result, you’ll find that your positive energy will not be subject to draining or overflowing, off/on, but will instead flow consistently through all your states of being in a perpetual positive feedback loop.

This is how a realistic work life balance is like:

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Your renewed conceptualisation from ‘balance’ to ‘alignment’ is an inner transformation that can empower you whatever your current circumstances are.

For example, it may reveal that you truly are suffering in your current job. But now you can unroll your blueprint to identify the cause of the negativity (i.e. what isn’t aligning with what you value?) and either remind yourself why you’re really doing what you’re doing, or make a tweak… or indeed change your job.

Even if the latter, you can still be sustained by positivity until you find that new job. You may hate your everyday tasks, but one of things you value is to be a good provider for your family – so you’re spurred on, knowing that you’re doing that every day.

Or if you’re a workaholic, your blueprint may reveal that what you previously undervalued as ‘off-mode’ (relaxing, having fun, pursuing a passion, spending time with family and friends) actually contain a wealth of values that support – and even enhance – a well-rounded working life.

A value-rich and optimally tuned work life alignment helps maintain a flow of positive energy and happiness in all aspects of being. So go ahead and make the blueprint for yourself!