Assuming any of this is true (as I understand it, The Daily Mail is a tabloid), I'd say Taylor and Conor blew it. Not RSVPing one way or the other is rude. Asking if you can come at the last minute is really rude. Showing up after being refused is holy-carp-I-cannot-believe-they-actually-did-that rude. Staying at - and returning to! - an event you've crashed and been asked to leave is a whole new level of bad manners that needs its own word to describe.

That being said, Victoria Gifford Kennedy's reasons for not wanting them there are pretty shallow and it was tacky of her to talk about it to the press. Deliberately airing the family's dirty laundry in the media - that whirring sound you hear is Rose Kennedy spinning in her grave.

It sounds to me (having read the link, and its link to the Boston herald) that they did crash. The big clue is they left during dinner and came back - I'm betting because they had no seats! A big hint they weren't supposed to be there.

I do think it was rude though for Taylor Swift to be the one approached and singled out - she was invited, by her boyfriend. It was her boyfriend who was the truly rude one who didn't RSVP and then just showed up. I have been a date of an invited guest to weddings, I never questioned that my date was actually legitimately invited and that he was allowed/offered to bring a date.

I do wonder though if Conor didn't RSVP due to his mother's recent suicide - it was only a couple of months ago and he's only 18, I could see RSVP'ing slipping through the cracks.

I found it interesting that the couple supposedly showed up, said hello, left during dinner (the expensive part of the event) and came back for the dancing (according to the Boston Herald).

Then I looked up the story on E!--yet another gossip rag--and it says the couple attended the ceremony, and there are pictures of them with the cousin's family throughout the whole weekend. If she wasn't welcome at the reception, why was she at the ceremony and all the family-focused weekend events?

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The article makes it sound like it was the Bride's mother who contacted the tabloid(s) and made this a gossip issue. She states that her reason for having them leave is that she didn't want Taylor's presence distracting peoples' attention away from the Bride... which completely contradicts her behavior now. Sounds like rudeness all around to me. The gracious thing would have been to either have security quietly escort Taylor out or drop it and give no comment if contacted by a reporter.

I don't believe it until I see camera footage of words coming out of the bride's mother. I don't know much about the Kennedys, but I find it hard to believe they would talk to the papers about stuff like that even if it's true.

Honestly, either way I think they were rude. If they crashed, they're rude for crashing. If they were welcome, they're rude for leaving partway through to prance around Haymarket and the North End! It's not that far from the hotel to Haymarket, but they had to have been gone for at least an hour.

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I might be biased because I absolutely adore Taylor Swift but I can easily see how it might be a situation where her boyfriend says, "Come to this wedding with me, it'll be okay!" Without knowing all the details I have to say that, while she technically crashed, she also might not have crashed, if you get what I'm saying.

ETA - of course, if they were asked to leave and then returned, that's incredibly rude.