You seem to like a kind of hibernation (like a tortoise) when you don't do anything, then you have a mad work-and-worry fit when it all catches up with you. Is it by any chance the end of the tax year in Turkey?

In a sense, everything we think -- and certainly the things we think about ourselves -- is fake. It's malleable. If you tell yourself your mind is messed-up and therefore you can never be happy, that's what you live out. If you think you have a brilliant mind and a great contribution to make to the world, you can aim a lot higher.

That's why we need other people to talk to in our lives. Everyone we know has a different idea of who we are. Close friends can tell you your mind is okay, good enough. They can encourage you by reminding you of things you've accomplished so far. They can also act as levellers if you think you've invented some bodgit that will change the world and are about to plunge your life savings into it, or if you get it into your head that you're the messiah. So you want people around you whose judgments and opinions you can trust, and you want to be rid of anyone who tells you you're inferior and always will be.

The things we tell ourselves about ourselves determine our quality of life. It's about self-hypnosis.

I believe you will always find something to worry about. If you have nothing to worry about, you'll be worried that you've forgotten something.

Most of the things we worry about don't happen. If you look back at your life, you'll see you were always worried about something... usually work-related. And yet you've held this job for nine years (longer than I stayed anywhere!) and I don't think you've ever once written here that you've even been told off for something.

You have a very long history of COPING. However badly you think you've done, you always get through whatever life throws at you. Your style is to put things off as long as possible, then have a crazy rush as work falls due. It works for you, obviously. You could do things differently if you wanted to, but you don't want to.

Thank you very much candid..your words of wisdom lightens my day. Indeed I postpone works then try to do them in rush I was so sInce childhood I hope these last worries don't realise and go away like others..