Living In “The Gap”

“Your Past Is Often The Key To Your Future.” – Scott Mawdesley

What are the most difficult experiences of your past? If you can’t name them, then you need to invest some time reflecting to start naming them. If you can name them, are you aware of whats “gaps” they have created in you and how these things affect you today?

Here were some of “the gaps” that I discovered in my life as I began to name my negative experiences:

A false belief that I wasn’t worth investing in

A false belief that I could do something to make the most important people in my life walk out on me.

A false belief that conflict was dangerous and I needed to avoid it all costs, even if that meant lying to those I loved the most.

A false belief that pornography could actually help me deal with my pain.

These are powerful beliefs that drove 20+ years of my life decisions from the time my family fell apart as a child to the day my mentor asked me if I knew what was in “the gaps” of my life. Over the past 10 years, I have challenged these false beliefs, done the hard work of healing and lived into the truths that set me free. In the process I have discovered and now experienced a deeper life of peace, hope and contentment.

The challenge many of us face is we often remain blind to our false beliefs and become fixated on the symptoms at the surface. This will never ultimately get us anywhere but frustrated and discouraged. So tomorrow, I want to talk about the symptoms at the surface and share with you how to get beneath the surface to the really important things that can carry us to freedom!

Growing With You,

Scott

6 thoughts on “Living In “The Gap””

John Hazelrig

That is very true. I battled for years that I would never be good enough and that I was damaged goods.
I had to realize that I was replaying in my mind a negative instead of moving forward with a positive. Thanks

Tammy Norwood

Just catching up here so I apologize for the delayed comment (looking forward to reading the posts that follow up to this one). Broken is how I’ve lived most of my adult life till my early 30’s…because of what I had been told by those whose job it was to raise me up, encourage me, teach me. Instead I hear words of discouragement. Taking a stand for myself thru the raising of my own child forced me to have “conversations” with my ghosts. Forever will I be indebted to my child for growing me up, Grateful for my Heavenly Father doing for me what my earthly father couldn’t or wouldn’t. Point to ponder, is it generational? Did the effects of the great depression raise a generation (of the 40’s) that was lost to family functionality that now we (of the 60’s into the 70’s) are scared and because of this we raised what is now an over indulged generation? Where might this lead us?

Thank you for sharing Tammy and great questions! I do think how each generation processes life passes on both positive and negative legacy’s. Because we are human I think it will always be a mixed bag of influence but if we can become more aware of those negative legacy’s, I believe we can go a long way in changing them and pass something more healthy on to the next generation. Make sense?