As you may have guessed, our Library is comprised of threads relating to topics of a BDSM nature. All topics are in alphabetical order and the "Discussion" link will lead you to the gathered threads related to each topic. Please note the librarian will update these discussion links with new threads as they arise for each category.

You will also note a list of additional links under each topic. These links relate to their category and serve to provide further resources of information. Please note the additional links are not meant to be regarded as websites of expertise, nor are they conclusive of all the information available on the internet regarding each subject. While the goal is to provide the most accurately informative websites available, their accuracy (and authenticity) are still subject to the knowledge of those contributing to such websites. If there are reputable websites that you'd like to recommend for the various categories, please contact the librarian.

Please do not post comments in this thread.

If you would like to make suggestions for the Library, please feel free to do so in this Library Suggestion Thread. You may also PM the bdsm_librarian directly with any comments or questions regarding the Library. Finally, for those new to the forum, please take a moment to read the Welcome To The BDSM Forum sticky for helpful hints on navigating the board.

We hope you find the BDSM Talk Library helpful and informative and we request your patience during the current Library Update & Revisions.

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"Sometimes I have to remind myself that just because someone says something (usually someone in authority) doesn't make it law, and it doesn't mean it's an educated intelligent statement. I think somewhere growing up I just thought if someone in charge said something, it must be so. Thankfully I've learned otherwise..but sometimes old habits are hard to break. I think it's good to keep in check where exactly information is coming from so as not to go down the wrong path." - Hisbabydoll26

However, I see a difference between being a brat and playful bantering or teasing. Daddy and I both enjoy this type of interaction. I know when he has a certain look on his face or tone of voice that it's time to stop and get back to immediate obedience. I also know what lines not to cross.

I don't see brat as being any more or less submissive than then any other pyls. In the end as long as the PYL gets what they want then the pyl is submissive. - ecstatic sub

"My dominance is about being who I am, letting loose my hunger and needs and feeding them. It is about commitment with my partner, it is about love, passion, and sex as much as it is pain, control, and humiliation." - Francisco (catalina_francisco)

"I go to a munch because I want to meet people and learn about the lifestyle. There's no way I would attend if I felt I had to adhere to certain rules of conduct beyond common courtesy, or be judged for my lack of knowledge and experience." - CarolineOh

"The idea, and reality of taking a hand or a fist into the vaginal or anal cavities is powerfully suggestive of sadism for the fister, and provokes powerful images of masochistic surrender for the fistee." - sexielexie

"Personally, I hold to the "tend your own garden" model of psychiatry. In my experience, the people who spend the most time psychoanalyzing everyone around them are usually the people in greatest need of a little analysis themselves. It's the Freudian paradigm." - RisiaSkye

"I think most lawyers are more ethical about confidentiality than she is, but you're prudent to just not ever go back and tell people looking for a shrink not to go to her. I'd still talk to a lawyer and find out if it has to go to court, be public, etc. One good letter on letterhead talking about a federal mandate and removal of her license and I guarantee her day will suddenly be worse than yours." - Netzach

"I can't imagine NOT having BDSM for the basis of all my personal relationships. The way I relate to others (whether they are more or less Dominant than myself) is ingrained. I can't change that, nor do I want to. " - Luna_Wolf72

"The idea of multiple is just completely foreign to me. The idea of so many that you have to beg for it to stop is completely alien to me. More power to you girls who can do it, though!" - Etoile

"I don't get the concept of forced orgasms. I also don't understand why a Dom would want to force an orgasm. I have watched sexandsubmission videos where a woman is brought to supposed orgasm with a vibrator. I, personally can't see how that can be pleasurable for her or the Dom. (I realize it is porn and not real life..but still ) I am multi-orgasmic. My Dom has been teaching me tantric sex. My orgasms have always been a series of peaks and valleys. Now they are peaks with plateaus, a level of orgasm that last for hours during continual sex. Why force something when getting there together and sustaining it is so damn amazing?" - ecstaticsub

"I am a human with some animalistic traits, and I want to be cared for and owned by someone who I look up to, and who I'm loyal to. I am stubborn and willful and I want what I want, and I don't want what I don't, and I'm cuddly and I love being pet and scratched, and I always want attention, but I also want to make my Person happy, and I hate to see him sad or disappointed, and I want to please him, even if I'm not always that good at it." - 00Syd

"I think the idea that there's a definite split between BDSM and Vanilla is misleading, BDSM has three elements [four, really] all of which a person can enjoy a little or a lot of. It's a continuum and defining what is or isn't BDSM is impossible." - Never

"A collar is what you and your Dom/me make ... Be it a ring, bracelet, necklace or even a collar ... It is a symbol of the bond you both share, something which you both think is the right symbol of the love and bonding." - ShadowDancer13

I don't know whether it's just that stuff it being tinkered with today but there are only a few pages of the BDSM talk forum and cafe to look through. I was going to search for MrGGG's g spot 'report back' thread but it isn't there. Have I picked the wrong day or is there a cut off after a few pages of posts now?

This is Rebecca, your friendly referenced thread collection keeper or decently intelligent bot if you prefer that kind of thang . Objectify me, I dare you : laughs :

Before commenting on the changes that will over take place over the next few months, I think this is a most appropriate time to pay particular thanks to NemoAlia, AnelizeDarkEyes and s'lara for the huge manifesto's of work they contributed to the Literotica BDSM Library. In my very limited experience to date, it's not until you start assessing the library more formally, that you truly realize the amount of work and careful thought that has been put into it.

Thank you to NemoAlia, Anelize & s'lara the legacy of your skills, time and dedication will remain the true foundations of this Library, in all it's evolutions

The updates and changes to the Library are going to take place in a rather convoluted fashion due to circumstances that currently prevail. On the outside initially it may appear that sweeping gains are not being attained. The majority of the work will take place out of view and then be set in place when of a reasonable standard. At which time the main body has been set up, a New Library Thread will be instituted and the current will be removed.

Notifications, stickies, board navigation hints, newbie packs and threads for Community suggestions will also be initiated at that time.

In the Interim, should you require any assistance please feel free to pm me.