Exploring Gender Identity

Sequoia’s Wisdom Part 2

by Sequoia Elisabeth on March 21, 2012

It is time for us to dive a little deeper and address gender identity and sexual orientation. This is a continuation from yesterday’s blog, so here we go.

“I am a spiritual being having a human experience”. It behooves you to keep this in mind along the way. Do spiritual beings have gender? Per Buddhists teachings, all attachments lead to pain, so since we are in a body and “have” a life – pain is inevitable. However suffering only occurs when you hold on, resist, or ignore the signs/messages. Pain is a messenger! It means something, and it is up to you to figure it out. If you need help with this many others are available to help. When you listen to your guidance you find the answers you seek. Life is like a game of connect the dots. You move from one dot/spot/experience to the next like a string of moments and it all adds up to your life. Being attached to gender identity or any identity can be painful!

Gender Identity is your personal sense of who you are, man, woman, or other. It is in your mind and relatively fixed, however the brain has little to do with this contrary to what many think. Nor does any physical body part! The body is simply an effect of previous thoughts. The DNA is a code for encrypting these thoughts which have been decided long before you are born. This slide show explains it further, but keep in mind this was made a few years ago and my understanding has advanced since then. It includes scientific information which is dated. Click here to view.

I wish I could explain self-identity fully (gender and sexual orientation are aspects) but it has taken me years and many books to figure this much out. I am still working on it. My advice to you is to ask questions and above all listen. Here are three authors who can help, Tom Youngholm, Neale Donald Walsch, and Dr. Michael Newton.

The secret to understanding Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation is to understand the Divine Plan. It is bigger than you are and so it is unlikely that you will fully understand it in this lifetime. Suffice it to know that everything is connected – literally. Man is a part of Woman who is a part of Animal who is a part of Plant, Mineral, and Stars. The web is multilayered, all reaching, and complex. The Divine Paradox of life is complex beyond comprehension and yet as simple as One (1). Thus computer language is a series of (1’s) and (0’s).

Man’s taboos, social norms, and societal behaviors are all “make-believe”. You can do whatever you choose, however there are consequences. Not because there is good or bad, but because of Universal Law and even this is not fixed, all you need do is go beyond this Universe. Gender is a human experience and a man-made condition of this world. How you experience this is up to you. I encourage you to explore, but be careful because everything you do affects another. (Remember this is not good or bad) Even choosing to “do nothing” has effects. Can you imagine life without gender?

Sexual Orientation is another aspect of the human experience, nothing more, nothing less. Because of soul contracts made before you were born you have certain proclivities, although it is not fixed per se. It is my belief that everyone is basically neutral or if you prefer bi-sexual (given you believe only two sexes exist). I like the term Pansexual, meaning you are attracted to all sexes per personality coupled with appearance and not sexual body parts. Personally I have been attracted to many different people at different times of my life depending on who I am with, how I feel, and the situation. Bottom line, sex is an expression of love or at least it is supposed to be. It can also simply be a biological function when existing in lower forms. The animal human is designed to encourage sex on a basic level; however it is possible to move beyond these urges and in fact evolution requires it. The pleasure derived from sexual encounter may be used on the path to God as the Kama Sutra teaches. The intention behind the sexual encounter becomes paramount. Sex for the sake of sex or to reproduce is one thing, but sex for the purpose of obtaining higher states of being is something altogether different and can be attained with either a same sex or opposite sex partner.