Getting scared now

After having a stillbirth last year I think this pregnancy has flown in this far, I'm 27+4 today.

It's gone really quickly so far but it's just become really really frightening that I may not come home with a baby again. I'm under consultant led care, scans have just started fortnightly but I feel so sad that I can't get my hopes up just incase. I caught myself thinking about when she is born whilst doing the dishes and now I feel really distressed. Is anyone else in a similar position? How do you look ahead or get through the days?

Comments (25)

Hi there. I'm not sure I've got any real useful advice other than stay positive and look after yourself . That's all you can do. I went through the same last year and I can't say I've enjoyed this pregnancy but I've got to think positivwly. Take comfort from the extra scans and accept any help from others! It's the least you deserve.everythimg will be fine.

My daughter was stillborn in November and I'm really struggling if I'm honest. My anxiety seems to get worse as time goes on - I'm 24 weeks tomorrow. I am having regular scans and my care is absolutely fantastic but nothing reassures me for long.

I am trying to get through by reminding myself that I am grateful for this time with my son, just as I was grateful for the time (my pregnancy) I got with dd2. It is incredibly hard though. If you need to talk to anyone please feel free to message me xx

I too am going through pregnancy after loss, our daughter passed away at 3 days old following complications during delivery that weren't picked up. I am 24 weeks and have felt my anxiety really increase this week. I have to keep reminding myself that what happened to us in the scheme of things is incredibly rare, there is no reason at the moment why this little boy won't be able to come home. It's incredibly difficult though. Having someone who has been through it to talk to has helped me massively. We can do this!

I personally have not experienced loss and I am so sorry you Have,
A close friend of mine had a still born boy and then the next year went on to have a baby girl who is healthy and bubbly and gorgeous.
They are keeping a close eye on you and I hope you find something in that to bring you comfort.
Try not to stress too much (I imagine that is very hard)

Thank you all for taking the time to reply and sorry for those of you who have also suffered a loss. Ill just keep trying to get through the days. Its comforting to know others have got through the same thing. Fingers crossed il be induced a few weeks early providing baby is growing properly etc. Good luck to you all also xxx

I'm at the same stage as you after a stillborn baby girl in November 2015, and I totally understand the anxiety. I'm very encouraged by the extra care I'm getting. I've just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, and I told the consultant I was scared because of the higher risk of stillbirth with GD. He gave me a little smile and replied, "You're forgetting that you have me to count on. I won't let that happen."

Fingers crossed for all of us that the last trimester flies by and we'll soon have our healthy babies in our arms. It's going to be such an intense and wonderful moment, I'm sure! xx

There are sadly a few of us in the same situation! hope you girls are all ok and finding the strength from somewhere! My first son died on his due date as I went into labour despite full pm was no explanation, my rainbow came along the following year but it was honestly the longest hardest few weeks of my life (didn't find out was pregnant until was 24 weeks and he was born at 34 weeks!) my anxiety was through the roof the whole entire time but I received fantastic care and twice a week scans and he was born early but was fine and is the total light of my life! I'm now 26 weeks with my 3rd boy and although I'm not as anxious as last time it's still very scary I'm not buying anything or doing a nursery until hopefully he arrives, it's impossible for us angel mummies to have a 'normal' pregnancy all we can do is hope for the best and pray we get our babies to take home! There are some lovely groups I'm on here, pregnancy after loss and rainbow babies defo join them as they very supportive! Wishing you all a speedy and healthy rest of your pregnancies and praying they all arrive safe and sound hugs to you all xxxx

I lost my first son 15 years ago at 29 weeks. My rainbow boy was born the following year at 42 weeks. I was so anxious around the 27-32 week mark to the point that I was admitted to hospital at 29 weeks for observations. Im currently 27 weeks today and can feel my anxiety raising again I'm dreading the 29 week mark again but thankfully im receiving amazing care and I'm being monitored very closely. It's never going to be easy for any of us but we have to remember that no 2 pregnancies are the same ... good luck ladies and please remember that we are all here on this site to help support each other xx

I lost my little girl at 20 weeks in 2011 and I'm finding this pregnancy very hard I had 3 missed miscarriages in a row prior so I kind of feel what's changed as no answers were given as to why I was little rally shaking up and down during my 20 week scan this time I'm now 25 weeks and have bought things and trying to be positive but I worry every single day once you have had a loss you realise things can and do go wrong where as before I was oblivious I did a test and had a baby and that was that I hope all goes well for everybody let's all stay positive and get our rainbows xxx

I know it's a horrible thing for anyone to go through but I didn't realise just how common it actually is and I'm not sure but that makes it harder. I totally understand the 'what has changed this time' feeling but I know theres not a thing I can do but pray and hope that everything works out for everyone of us. I feel like I want her out NOW and am not sure how early I can push for to be induced, I feel worse and worse each day (of course I know 28 weeks is far too early). I feel like I've just pressed pause on everything i.e. Buying stuff for my baby or my new home until she gets here safely. I can't imagine if I had to go through the same thing again, I'm not sure I could cope. I just pray pray pray that I will get to take a healthy baby home xx

6 month old, first week

There could be great excitement this month if your baby cuts her first tooth. Usually one of the front teeth in the bottom jaw puts in an appearance, followed by its neighbour and then the two top front teeth. Read More

6 month old, second week

Your baby may favour one hand for a while and then switch to the other. But you can't really tell whether he's a lefty or a righty until he's about two or three years old. Don't try to influence your baby's hand preference. Read More

You are passing a message to a BabyCentre staff member.
For the fastest help on community guidelines violations, please click 'Report this' on the item you wish the staff to review.
For general help please read our Help section or contact us.