and take possession of your own life…

Everything you do in life is your choice. Everything. So remove all the language from your vocabulary that contradicts this reality. “I have to get up at such and such time..”, “I must do what they say..”, “ I can’t do that because..” “I don’t have the talent, skill, time, to…”,“You make me feel sad, happy, excited, angry…”

All of these examples are common in our day to day language. But it is important to note that they are not our language. After all we inherited these words, symbols, and patterns from our culture/environment. We were educated with repetition and common usage by parents, teachers, and other spellbound peers. I’ve heard it argued that language is the very fabric of reality. You can see this as true when you realize that language is the building blocks of thought and informs the way in which you perceive things. Therefore you have enormous power with your words. Not only the words you say but what words you think. If you replace all the “I must, I have to, I can’t, You make me, etc.” with I choose to … because … Suddenly you have reclaimed your mastery & control over all your actions, which was always the case anyway.

Ex: I choose to get up early and go to work every day because I want to be able to buy what i want in the hours I am not working. I choose to make dinner every night for my family because I want them to be healthy and eat good food. I choose to sell everything I own because I want to be free from the weight of guarding so much stuff (which is what houses are for).

This practice makes it clear that you are in fact in control of what happens in your life. You are not the victim of what life does to you because you are always in control of how you respond. No one can make you feel or do anything. You might counter this by saying, “ But thats not fair! where was my choice when my father left me as a kid and caused me incredible pain and anger? How could I control the fear I felt by being abandoned?

If you follow this thinking to the end, you find that the suffering inflicted by this comes from ideas such as; “a good father would not do that.” Therefore the anger is generated from this thought which is justified by this morale judgement. The fear comes from ideas such as “what will happen to me if I don’t have the support of a father?” You may notice that these are both analysis of others behavior or of the situation as being bad and unfair to you. These thoughts are what lead to the suffering of anger and fear.

If we were instead to recognize the needs we have that are not met by the fathers actions; need for acceptance, safety, support, belonging, community, connection, etc. We can then empathize with ourselves and address these unmet needs directly. Maybe by searching for other people/ communities that would be willing to accept and support us. This is a decision on how to use our energy which would certainly lead to a completely different result than directing that energy into anger at the injustice of the situation.

Our reaction, particularly the thoughts we think, is what dictates how we feel. When we are told that good parents should do this ___ and then we encounter a situation in which that does not happen, we can feel that the world has been unfair to us and we have no choice but to feel angry, sad, afraid, etc. But this same stimuli (a parent leaving in this example) could be reacted to in many different ways and lead to completely different results.

It is true that we do not choose are parents, where we are born, and the environment and conditions that inform us as we grow up. We are constantly involved in a greater process and yet we can always choose, in any moment, to be the masters of our own kingdom by taking extreme ownership over our decisions, actions and reactions.

Hello boys and girls, and welcome to English Stuff's Tea Time. This is were we meet to discuss global affairs that relate to our lives and the dramatic spectacle of history.

As im sure you are aware, the mega industrial imperial State (united in some way or another) AMERICA! is selecting the new figure head of there country and the whole world is being dragged along by this miserable spectacle.
"On the one hand you have a dangerous, barbaric, ruthless, corrupt, brutal man... and then the Republicans have had Donald Drumpf, whose like G.W. Bush but he expresses his lack of intelligence with more self confidence." -AwakenWithJP

As someone who was following the Democratic Primary race between Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton with misplaced optimism, I now think it is appropriate to have a large discussion on Modern Democracies in general, across the board.

I would like to invite you to the first serious Tea Time of this year, and from there we can explore and learn together, how to confront these changes, and move from inspiration to impact.

Habitual vs. Natural Your habits define your life. This is because a habit takes its course with almost 0 thought. According to research on the […]

Create Culture

Sing, Laugh, Dance in your own vibrations
Put the ART petal to the metal to drive our species forward and upward.
"We have to create culture, The nexus of space and time where you are now is the most immediate sector of your universe.
Consuming culture diverts our attention with icons and ideologies which disempower and disconnect us.
Reclaim your mind and get it out of the hands of the cultural engineers who want to turn you into a half-baked moron consuming all this trash that's being manufactured out of the bones of a dying world.”
-Terence Mckenna
Archaic Revival

Happiness, Health & Strength

These are your birth rights as a human.
And this power, this love, lies within each of us.
"The mind under control is your best friend, the mind wandering about is your worst enemy." -Bhagavad Gita
'Make it your best friend, to the point where you can rely on it. Your mind makes you strong from within. It is your wise companion. The sacrifices you make will be rewarded.
Life doesn't change, but your perception does. It's all about what you focus on. Withdraw from the world's influence and no longer be controlled by your emotions. If you can grab the wheel of your mind, you can steer the direction of where your life will go.'
-Wim Hof
The Ice Man

One World, One Family

We are all in this together.
Love / Connection, Peace and Meaning are important and necessary needs to address together
and elaborate our extinction into our evolution.
"Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that
Our well-being and the well-being of Others
are in fact, One and the same."
-Marshall Rosenberg
Founder of Non-Violent Communication; A Langauge of Life