1. Concentrating On The Wrong Things

Often, a guy will concentrate too much on what a woman's reaction to him is, rather than on the conversation taking place. We don't blame you; we know from personal experience (yes, we approach men, too) that it's hard not to be overly self-aware when you're putting yourself out there. But if you're overthinking what you're supposed to say and where your hands are supposed to be (In your pockets? By your sides? Who even invented hands, anyway?), she'll know. And it will get awkward. If anything, try thinking of approaching a woman as starting a conversation with a good friend — be casual about it, be a good listener and let her talk. Another way to think about it: If it works out, you'll gain a date. If it doesn't, what are you really losing?