Is she rude or am I too sensitive?

3gand1b

Posted 08/07/2015

So recently a coworker of mine has made it a point to tell me often, how huge I am. The first time she said it, I didnt think anything of it, I have gained weight and I am 30+3 weeks pregnant but then...

Yesterday I posted a pic of myself on FB. As soon as I walked in this morning in front of all the office staff, she said "That picture you posted on FB, does not do you justice. You are way bigger in person than in the picture. You have just blown up in this past few weeks."

I literally ignored her and walked to my office. One of the other staff came in and asked me what the heck her problem was saying that the way she did. I just left it alone.

Right after lunch when everyone was getting back to the office, she did it again! She came up to my office door and said, "Did you hear me this morning? The picture you posted on FB, doesn't even look like its you. You are way bigger than that. Lately you have just gotten to be huge." I stayed staring at my computer monitor and ignored her.

Is that rude or am I being a baby? Another co-worker came to my office later and said that she was dumb and that I am 7.5 months pregnant and I look like I'm 7.5 months pregnant and not to listen to her.

The thing is, she is always a fairly decent person to work with. She has never been rude to me before. She is a loud mouth normally but has never done anything like that to other staff.

I am feeling kinda pissed at her and find myself avoiding talking to her now.

No definitely not. Especially if she came to your office to make sure you heard her rude comment. I get the feeling she's jealous for some reason and wants to upset you. She is clearly trying to irk you which is just shitty!

I've noticed it seems to be common for people to comment on whether or not I'm showing, or how much or how little I'm showing. It seems like preggo smalltalk coming from most people, and it's quite possible that's what it is, coming from your co-worker. Still tho, it's kind of annoying. I think you'd be within your rights to let her know that sort of comment isn't really welcome.

Maybe thats her way of connecting with you during your pregnancy. Like she wants to talk to you about it, but thats all she can come up with? Sometimes when I see a pregnant woman I know id say "wow getting big!" Im not referring to her ass or something. Just making note that I care about her & notice her baby is growing. I think maybe your coworker is tryin to hard? Dont take it personally, sometimes people are awkward when it comes to commenting on pregnancy!

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