Comments about ‘Nearly half of children experience trauma, creating potential for woeful outcomes when they grow up’

One of the things we know from previous research is that children who have
supportive adults in their lives do better coping with adverse childhood events
(ACEs). This adult can be a parent, a friend's parent, teacher, religious
leader, aunt, uncle, older sibling, older cousin, etc. Having more than one
caring, involved adult increases the chances of overcoming ACEs - the ideal is
3. And ii is even better if the person is there consistently throughout their
childhood, although new relationship with caring, involved adults can also work
to mitigate the harm.

Therapy is great, but programs like Big
Brothers/Big Sisters (or other mentoring programs) are also really helpful.

I love the liberals and progressives who want to go easy on sexual predators.
In 2007, SCOTUS ruled on this: "As it relates to crimes against individuals,
though, the death penalty should not be expanded to instances where the
victim’s life was not taken." -Justice Anthony Kennedy, writing for
the majority in Kennedy v. Louisiana (2007)

None of these arbiters of
the law have ever been raped as a child. They say, "Oh, golly gee, the
child can always get counseling." I speak from experience when I say that
counseling doesn't do much to help. I was raped as a child several times
and I've had years of counseling. It doesn't work. My life was a
total mess and I suffered from suicidal depression. Many victims of rape do
kill themselves. What about that life then? Didn't the rapist kill that
victim?

Violence begets violence. When we conclude that the only solution is to kill
people, we have run out of ideas. The answers lie not in what to do after the
problem, but in trying to build stronger people, families and society, in order
to prevent such human damage.

"No nation can rise above the
strength of its homes or the virtue of its people." (Gordon B.
Hinckley)

personal immediate
gratification is ALWAYS the goal over long-term fulfillment or societal benefits
that require some current sacrifices?

the traditional family is
mocked and alternative lifestyles are praised?

the law of the harvest
- as ye sow, even so shall ye reap

Midwest,I am glad our only
solution is not to kill people - we use many other non-lethal punishments as
well. Since there is a wide range of crimes, a wide range of punishments are
available. But the punishment needs to fit the crime, and that does include
capital punishment for certain extreme crimes.

@Mainly Me -- Liberals want to go easy on sexual predators??? I've never
heard that one. I thought it was conservatives who believed in the
"legitimate rape" concept (that a woman has to have been physically
harmed or she must have consented). Most "liberals" I read about say
get tougher on rape. Weird topic to bash liberals on.

To clarify, by "physically harmed" in my previous post, I mean harmed in
an additional way besides the rape (i.e. killed, attempted murder, cuts and
bruises, black eyes, etc.) Otherwise you must not have fought, so you must have
consented (per the "legitimate rape" crowd.)

I wanted so much to help my daughter to cope with the divorce of her father and
I. I wanted her and I to attend family counseling in order to help her through
it, but unfortunately my rights as a mother was taken away when her father
manage to get full custody of her. Now she has grown up being an angry young
adult who doesn't want anything to do with me. I have faith that Heavenly
Father will one day manage to touch her spirit to help have a change of heart.

So divorce is worse that living in a home with constant fighting and a husband
verbally and emotionally abusing his wife? Is divorce worse that having a dad in
the home sitting at the computer or laying on the couch, refusing to get a job
while the wife does everything? What kind of example of what a fathers role
entails is that? In the divorce parenting class it says that WHERE EVER there is
less stress, fighting, upset and unhappy parents even if the parents are apart,
That is what is best for kids!!

Dealing with stress and adversity is part of what prepares a child for adult
life. Children who've never experienced anything more unpleasant than not
getting the dessert they want at dinner are going to be singularly unprepared to
deal with the frustrations and stresses of adult life. Growing up in poverty
taught me to manage money carefully and to not waste what I have. Growing up
with an abusive father taught me to feel compassion for others and to treat them
kindly, the way I would have wanted to be treated. It taught me to be careful
about judging others, as I have no idea of the burdens they carry inside or the
battles they've had to fight to survive. Had I grown up in a carefree and
idyllic environment, I might easily have assumed that life had been just as easy
for everyone else and not been able to empathize when they have a hard time
getting by.