Intimacy in marriage is one of the most important building blocks to lifelong mutual happiness with your significant other. The best way to describe intimacy would be to call it a feeling of closeness between each other that nobody else outside the relationship can have with you or your partner. It is a bond that comes about from opening up to each other in terms of thoughts, feelings and even physical interaction. The dictionaries describe it as making the most personal things (ideas, thoughts, and feelings) known. Intimacy in marriage is not a given. It has to be worked at and accrued with time. Below are some of the most important factors needed to achieve intimacy in marriage whether it is to boost happiness or spice up your sex life.

Dialogue

It has been said time and again that couples need to talk to each other as much as possible. The importance of dialogue cannot be stressed enough when it comes to having a successful marriage. It is only through talking that one can know what their partner loves or hates and vice versa. Good dialogue between partners should include every single aspect of their lives. Couples should talk about their sex, their responsibilities in the relationship and even their expectations. If something is making you sad or happy you need to tell your partner about it. It is all a matter of communicating it in a proper manner as thoughts badly communicated can come across as offensive even if they were motivated with good intentions.

Transparency

One of the best ways to build intimacy in marriage is to be transparent with each other. Let your partner know your motives for acting the way you do and about things you intend to do. You have to let them know how you feel about things. A lot of relationships fail because a partner did not disclose one detail or the other. Keeping things hidden will always lead to a broken relationship. It does not matter whether it is a tiny detail like a small salary bump or a big detail like getting fired. You have to be absolutely transparent with your better half.

Vulnerability

Being vulnerable means not having any defense against a certain type of attack. In a marriage, the only way to make your relationship work is to drop all your defenses. This means that you are entrusting your better half with every aspect of your life hoping that everything they do will be to your best interests. When couples do not practice vulnerability and are always keeping their guard up, it becomes impossible to reach the level of trust that marriages need to work.

Reciprocity

Another way to make your relationship work is by making sure that it is not one sided when it comes to benefits. You have to realize that in the same way you have this need or the other, so does your partner. You have to both strive to make sure that both of you are getting the happiness or satisfaction that you deserve.

As I listen to the mystically inspired music of Clannad, I cannot help but feel God is talking urging us to reach out and love each other. When disasters strike, whether terrorist or natural the world shares its abundance towards the victims but why do we wait for disasters to happen. Why do we not just exchange love on a daily basis and not count the cost of smiles or encouragement or support? Why do we choose the first course of emotions, which is to criticize others, because as we criticize we share the vacancy that resides within?

Let us offer a moment of peace and emanate our aura of love towards the victims of all disasters especially the recent ones in Japan and New Zealand. The Pacific Rim appears to be suffering from a major shift in earth’s environs to the suffering though of the human population. Even earth has to adjust which is something from which we may learn the importance of changing worlds.

What is a paradigm? It is a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kind thanks to Merriam – Webster’s collegiate dictionary. However, like all paradigms they adjust as new information comes to light, it is only by being receptive to alterations we may alternate our perspective on anything.

Jesus taught us to love each other and tried, unsuccessfully, to induce our tolerance for all sectors and the religions of our world add a deeper dimension of confusion. While Jesus taught us to love everyone religions tell us not to love everyone but to criticize and differentiate between people and one has to wonder what Bible are they reading?

For whatever reason anyone chooses his or her career it is not our duty to relegate anyone to a diminished state of propriety especially if that sense of order is confused. Financial advisors prostitute themselves with their devious adversarial approach to our finances but we do not demean them to an ignominious state of affairs. Perhaps we should and then maybe they would be more inclined to pay attention and put people before profits.

Prostitutes of the sex industry as opposed to the financial industry are not allowed a fair sense of reception even though they provide a much-needed service. Men and women around the world assist others towards attaining some form of sexual relief and we in our superimposed audacious high moral ground strive to punish them continually because of an uneducated paradigm.

Prostitutes are people with feelings and emotions just like the rest of us but because of primitive laws are not allowed participation or recognition in society much to their loss especially. Because of our laws, these living breathing humans are exploited, despised leaving no option but to accept battered lives.

Taking this a step further, we have the ubiquitous presence of pornography that most people are afraid to admit they partake of, which tells us the hidden truth of what we would like to have as an accepted norm. The sad part of pornography is that people who have no understanding of what true sexuality is really about embrace its claws. Unfortunately, the mystics in our world decline to enlighten us about the transmutation of sexual energy to inebriate our lives towards elevated knowledge.

Now with all this energy bursting at the seams the primary outlet available is the sex industry. This brings us to another segment within the rising sex industry in the form of human trafficking. These victims, about 1.2 million per year, are forced into prostitution, not the financial kind but the sex kind, and there is not a country in the world unaffected by its ravages.

Now the mystical question pertains to our perception of people, if the majority supposedly embraces religion then why are prostitution and human trafficking in such demand? Thanks to the major media networks around the world awareness is highlighted and perhaps through programs like CNN/Freedom and organisations like Shared Hope International and Born2Fly will aid the reduction of this horrible effrontery to the human psyche.

As a civilisation apart from any religious affiliation but as humans primarily why do we do to each other what no animal on earth would do to its own species? Is money or lust or materialism so important that people like prostitutes and human trafficked victims have zero rights in worlds that fought brutal wars so all citizens within its borders may attain equality?

‘Wait a moment: the wicked are no more. Though you look for them, they cannot be found.’ Psalm 37:10. God bless!

Before you begin looking into treatments for premature ejaculation, you should understand the specific type of PE that you have and how these conditions are diagnosed. If you have only had this problem for a short time, you likely have secondary PE which is not nearly as serious as it seems. Primary PE typically affects men from the time that they first have sex until their later years. Knowing what specific type of premature ejaculation is affecting you will help your doctor to make the best diagnosis and suggest the best and most effective treatment method.

Premature ejaculation is the most commonly reported form of sexual dysfunction. It affects nearly half of all men in the United States alone and because there is no distinctive variable for how long it should take for you to ejaculate, it can be very hard to diagnose properly. The problem is often just a need for a longer ejaculation period due to the want for more sexual satisfaction for a partner. The condition is much more commonly found in younger men, particularly those who are less experienced and will often resolve itself with age.

According to medical dictionaries premature ejaculation is defined as reaching climax or orgasm before the man or his partner wishes to do so. Researchers use a stopwatch in order to define just how premature ejaculation is. Again, there are varying beliefs on what constitutes premature. Some men who feel that they are affected with PE can last for several minutes during intercourse before ejaculation occurs. Others may simply last only a few seconds. Studies have shown that the average ejaculation time during vaginal intercourse is around six minutes for men between the ages of 18 and 30. You can also define premature ejaculation by how long you want to last or how long your partner wants you to last before you reach climax.

The symptoms of premature ejaculation may vary from man to man. Many may feel that they are affected by PE but can last for several minutes. Your doctor may order a complete workup or physical examination just to rule out other medical conditions or disorders that could be contributing to the problem. PE is often characterized as a lack of control over orgasm and one that interferes with the psychological or sexual well-being of the man or his partner. This is also often referred to as rapid ejaculation.

Your doctor will explain various potential causes of premature ejaculation with you. There are a number of factors that can cause PE and many that may contribute to the condition. Many psychological factors affect the condition. Anxiety and stress are actually two of the most commonly reported causes of PE along with certain medications, prostate issues and a number of other medical problems. Low levels of serotonin in the body can also cause you to ejaculate much sooner than you anticipate. When diagnosing PE, your doctor may order a test that will check your serotonin levels. If it turns out that you have low levels of this vital hormone, there are medications that you can take as well as certain foods that you can eat to raise your levels to normal.

Thyroid disorders, urethra infections and damage to the central nervous system can also be the cause of your premature ejaculation. Again, your doctor will perform a number of tests to rule out these and other conditions that could be causing your problem. If the problem is psychological, your doctor can recommend various treatments and techniques that could help you to teach your body better control over your ejaculation time. He or she may also recommend a psychologist to help you to treat any anxiety or other mental related conditions that could also be contributing to the problem.

Communication is very important in a proper diagnosis and finding the right treatment method. Be completely honest and upfront with your doctor about what is going on. Answer any and all questions truthfully in order to ensure that you receive the proper diagnosis for your condition.