I suffer from very bad anxiety, and something happened today

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I suffer from very bad anxiety, and something happened today that I am very anxious about. I was talking with a friend about my boyfriend, and though my boyfriend and I are not having problems, I was asking for her advice as an ex had recently contacted me, and we had chatted a couple times in a completely platonic way. I let slip that I thought my boyfriend would be upset about that because he had a gf that had cheated on him. Now I feel as though I completely betrayed his trust. I'm so anxious I can barely function. What should I do?

It's possible that while you've been telling yourself that the conversations with an ex were completely platonic, it wasn't until you said it out loud that you realized that your bf would be very hurt if he knew.

Now that you realize it, it's time to break off communication with the ex. You know that's flirting with danger. One conversations to catch up on things would have been fine, but keeping the chatting going isn't going to help your current relationship.

So, first make the decision to do the right thing.

Then, try some EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping to help yourself relax. This is a self-help method that's easy to learn, and will help you quickly feel less anxious.

Here are some YouTube videos that demonstrate it, and you can follow along and calm yourself down:

How could that information be used against him? Haven't most people had relationships that ended by betrayal? If your boyfriend has that much control over what you feel you can talk about, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. You weren't talking out of a desire to hurt him, you were asking how to make sure NOT to hurt him.

Please go try the EFT and lower your anxiety. This thought will fade from importance in your mind once you are calmer.