Well golden rule of marriage , its OK to expect anything and everything from each other.. But if these are taken in a negative way its destructive for any kinda relationship.. Be it a marriage or friendship.. Depends on acceptance level of the other person very much.

Akhila, that’s the good thing and bad thing about being human. We have unlimited potential, and we can always raise our level when required. But we are also prone to become greedy, and then it becomes this vicious circle of never ending expectations! So, we must always watch out for the signs, greed is the devil in disguise!

I don’t know why but this got me thinking about politics and the consumerist society we live in. There needs to be limits on material expectations and more championing of our inherent characteristics and values.

That is the BIG question. Many times I have thought of turning my back on society and going to live in the jungle or somewhere -become self sufficient -with no need for money. I read an article about a guy that did that and it was inspiring. I hate feeling I am controlled by media, technology, politics and the rest. The world needs simplicity in my opinion.

Having expectations means looking for future, that means you are waiting some thing to happen, so that you can start living , or actually you’repostponing Happiness .

But life always happens here and now. Expectations means you want to achieve some thing, want to reach some destination.

Expectations means you want to acquire some thing. Expectations means waiting for something to happen out side in this world as per your wish. Approach is materialstic.

Expectations means focus is on external objects.

Expectations means bondage with some specific should happen what we think is right.

Need of control means you have infested with doubt that even if you’re expectations from self or from others fulfilled, it may give you temporary relief, happiness or pleasure, but again you will desire same thing in more quantity or quality or you will have different desire.

Then you start chasing any external object and same thing will be repeated.

I am not against expectations or controlling them. My point is human life motto behind every action is to be happy.

People are chasing happiness through their thoughts , desires , expectations and actions. But trying to gain in success or goal. No doubt they are entertained for some time, But not stable or constant or eternal.

Either we will in past or we dream about future and miss most of the time in expecting desires to be full filled.

But life happens here and now in present moment, then what is solution ?

Should we not have expectations, should we not try to control them ?

Knowing the true nature of thoughts , mind and actions and self can help.

How ?

We can contemplate on the basis of our past experiences and people you have lived their life .

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There is no harm in creating a roadmap for life. But instead of focusing on destination enjoy journey. No matter what future has for you. Just be in present moment and enjoy the simply being into the act. For got the result , let it be good or bad. Just enjoy doing in way that you not doer but simply watching whats happening .

People who achieve success or accomplish any thing need to understand that nothing is permanent. What ever you will achieve will not remain with you always. Death will take away from you every materials you will acquire through out your life.

That does not mean you stop performing, but should need to know no action or result can neither make me better or can make me worst.

Having said knowledge if you expect any thing , that happens fine, something happens other way around that is also fine.

Now you reach to that state , where you find no control is required at all.

All negative will washed away, the way flowing water becomes pure and looses it’s impurities.

Else keep working on millions of issues of life. You will succeed in few hundred , but thousand issues will come again.

Hope people will understand, what takes away their entire misery and sorrow and realized their true nature as blissful soul.

There are times when there’s too much pressure because of expectations. Sometimes expectations set us up for failures. Expectations can leave us disappointed. On the other hand, expectations can motivate us to work hard. But in my opinion, these conflicting situations are like the two sides of a coin. I guess, in the end – what’s important is to not lose hope and keep trying without thinking about the results. Do the best that you can at that particular moment of time. At least we’ll have the satisfaction of knowing that we tried our best.

Hello nuclear physics student.If you go on increasing the chained reaction,happiness decreases.because it’s inversely proportional to expectations.soo if you don’t keep control rods.ITS OK actually.But one day we will die.when should we employ control rods?There should be greedy meter to measure how long we can be greedy.After that meter break up.we can employ control rods.Actually life itself provides control rod phase.This phase is known as old age.you don’t have energy,or much activity in your brain.so even though you forget to employ those rods.life won’t.

At all walks of life the level of satisfaction and dissatisfaction is the same. I’ve written a story. When you have a little free time, read it. I’m sure the story has the right answer to your question. http://www.the-criterion.com/V5/n6/Ramesh.pdf