14 Responses to ““I’m so loud; suits me fine…””

Agreed. I think a lot of the behaviour is fear-driven – fear that by opening up, you make yourself vulnerable, and you can end up back in the depths of that particular emotional dungeon that only a strong bout of oneitis can inspire. Easier yet, to simply never open up, and never risk the pain.

But what shades of grey is this life without emotional connection to other human beings. As you say, with no risk comes no real reward, save purely physical fleeting pleasure.

It is perfectly possible to maintain a harem of women, and not have to enter a monogamous relationship (if that is desired), and yet still have meaningful, emotional interactions with each of them. Xsplat is the perfect example of this.

My good friend’s wife asked me if I was scared when I made a major move. I flat out told her “yes”. But I also told her that I was inspired to try something new that it overrode the fear. Now I would think most players would never tell women they have fears…but that’s not reality. We all have fears, it’s a matter of what we do about it.

Another attractive woman came into my site at the gym the other day. My opener to her…”I really didn’t want to be here today.” “I’m sore, I’m tired, and it has been difficult to get going.” “But I’m still glad I decided to let my mind be stronger than my body.”

You can be vulnerable…but you set the script. I always paint a positive light on my less than desirable moods. They are going to exists whether you acknowledge them or pretend to not have them.

Plus what I don’t think players get is that emotions can be a strength as well. Empathy is what it’s called. She’ll never understand your logic…but she can understand your emotions behind the logic. All players have is enough to seduce her…but that’s it. Could they lead a conversation? Lead her through a rough patch?

Wearing your heart on your sleeve because you want to and not to necessarily get validation from a chick (or anyone else for that matter) is strong. If it wasn’t for men wearing their hearts on a sleeve we wouldn’t have art or music.

it’s just after some time, you realize getting laid isn’t the end all be all of male existence. i call it “the beast”. simply put, most men just have to get through that phase of partying and having various women (NAMALT- i know). but eventually, you realize a real relationship and intamacy are much better than just a beautiful face and pussy.

Happens as you get into your 30s, right? After recently receiving a dose of T, and all the libido based benefits that come with it, I’m starting to wonder how much of this change in focus comes from declining testosterone levels.

The change is so gradual you never even notice it happening, and all of a sudden one day you’re craving stability instead of fresh skirt.

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