As a intersex woman, finding or getting into a relationship is a little hard at times. There are 4 types of guys I always come across.

1. The guy that just wants to experiment and find out what he wants, but in the meantime not really taking your feelings into consideration.

2. The guy that wants you to be a secret or a down low relationship, and this guy is typically married or has a girlfriend.

3. The guy that views it as a fetish or thinks of you as a toy.

4. Last but not least, the good guy. Now this guy is out there, but sometimes you can’t see him even if he is right in front of you.

You’ve been though all the other guys so now you just believe all guys are the same. Or you have a really specific type. That is all good, but nobody is perfect and you are probably never going to find the right guy that has 100% of everything you want and need. If you do find that guy he is either pretending or hiding something.

But… if you do find the ultimate guy of your dreams, good for you girl! And like can you help a sister out here?

I think everyone goes through challenges when getting or finding that person to connect with no matter the gender, race and so on. Just at the end of the day, don’t sacrifice parts of yourself to get the guy, or try to make someone like you. Because we are all perfect as we are no matter what.

One of my favorite things in the morning is to have a nice cup of iced coffee. Many people have different styles of coffee in the morning. I like to have ice with cream and sugar in my coffee. One of my favorite quotes to remember every morning is “Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.”~ Kevyn Aucoin