Promoting Empathy With Your TeenThe most efficient way to address everyday issues with your teenhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/
en-US30Tue, 11 Oct 2016 12:42:20 -0400Tue, 11 Oct 2016 14:31:47 -0400Are Personality Traits Hereditary?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201610/are-personality-traits-hereditary
Genes do not operate in isolation.AdolescenceChild DevelopmentGeneticsParentingPersonalityhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201610/are-personality-traits-hereditary#comments1094883 at http://psychologytoday.comTue, 11 Oct 2016 12:42:20 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow Do You Tell a Teenager That He Has Autism?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201609/how-do-you-tell-teenager-he-has-autism
Apparently, most teens who have not been educated on autism, view autism as a form of intellectual impairment which they have come to associate with social stigma.ADHDAdolescenceAsperger&#039;s SyndromeAutismParentinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201609/how-do-you-tell-teenager-he-has-autism#comments1094327 at http://psychologytoday.comSat, 24 Sep 2016 10:37:07 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheChronic Stress and Mental Illness in Children and Teenshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201608/chronic-stress-and-mental-illness-in-children-and-teens
A child raised with constant exposure to chronic stress will negatively impact the still developing brain of the child.Child DevelopmentNeuroscienceParentingStresshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201608/chronic-stress-and-mental-illness-in-children-and-teens#comments1092960 at http://psychologytoday.comThu, 11 Aug 2016 13:22:08 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow to Reengage Your Defiant Teenagerhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201608/how-reengage-your-defiant-teenager
In most cases, a tantrum is usually going to be about your teen quietly engaged in defiance.BehaviorismChild DevelopmentNeuroscienceParentinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201608/how-reengage-your-defiant-teenager#comments1092607 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 01 Aug 2016 10:08:48 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheThree Possible Reasons Your Teen Struggles With Motivationhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201604/three-possible-reasons-your-teen-struggles-motivation
It has become commonplace for therapists to encounter parents whose teens have stopped putting in effort towards following through on their daily commitments.AdolescenceMotivationParentingSelf-Esteemhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201604/three-possible-reasons-your-teen-struggles-motivation#comments1088858 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 25 Apr 2016 10:03:26 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheAnother Reason Why You Should Not Spank Your Childhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201512/another-reason-why-you-should-not-spank-your-child
Attempting to discourage inappropriate behavior? Spanking is detrimental and ineffective. The reason is that you are conditioning your child to pair morality with violence. AndAdolescenceChild DevelopmentEmotional IntelligenceEmpathyEthics and MoralityNeuroscienceParentingPunishmenthttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201512/another-reason-why-you-should-not-spank-your-child#comments1083697 at http://psychologytoday.comSat, 19 Dec 2015 14:08:38 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow to Persuade Defiant Teens Without Aggressionhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201511/how-persuade-defiant-teens-without-aggression
Certain types of beliefs promote or hinder access to solution-focused thinking, and a commitment to a non-aggression principle is a belief that promotes greater access to peaceful and effective solutions during conflicts.AdolescenceAngerBehaviorismParentingPersuasionhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201511/how-persuade-defiant-teens-without-aggression#comments1082325 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 16 Nov 2015 16:34:50 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheThe Inconvenience of Tackling and Eliminating Defiancehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201505/the-inconvenience-tackling-and-eliminating-defiance
Parenting can be an inconvenience that every parent has to come to terms with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.AdolescenceChild DevelopmentParentinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201505/the-inconvenience-tackling-and-eliminating-defiance#comments1075224 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 25 May 2015 10:21:09 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheGetting Your Defiant Teen to Cooperate With Youhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201502/getting-your-defiant-teen-cooperate-you
The number one issue I witness between defiant teens and their parents, are power struggles. The are two reasons for this;BiasParentingTeamworkhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201502/getting-your-defiant-teen-cooperate-you#comments1071461 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 23 Feb 2015 09:40:22 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheLimits of Natural and Logical Consequences in Parentinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201501/limits-natural-and-logical-consequences-in-parenting
For a child, the natural rules of the universe and the rules set by his parents present with consequences for any decisions he makes. This is because children need their parents to survive. As a result, parents are the environment that children adapt to.AddictionChild DevelopmentCognitionEnvironmentNeuroscienceParentinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201501/limits-natural-and-logical-consequences-in-parenting#comments168798 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 19 Jan 2015 10:58:06 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheWhy Spanking Impairs Cognition in Children and Adolecentshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201408/why-spanking-impairs-cognition-in-children-and-adolecents
Spanking is violence, and violence induces trauma. When people experience trauma, especially children, it negatively affects their intellectual abilities. There have been numerous studies that have provided supporting evidence on how trauma deteriorates a person's intellectual abilities.AnxietyChild DevelopmentCognitionIntelligenceNeuroscienceParentingPunishmentSelf-ControlStressTherapyTraumahttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201408/why-spanking-impairs-cognition-in-children-and-adolecents#comments157390 at http://psychologytoday.comFri, 15 Aug 2014 14:57:15 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheWhen Parents Blame Their Childrenhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201407/when-parents-blame-their-children
For example, children and teens with bad tempers usually have at least one parent (in their lives) who has a bad temper.AngerChild DevelopmentLeadershipNeuroscienceParentingRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201407/when-parents-blame-their-children#comments155333 at http://psychologytoday.comThu, 17 Jul 2014 15:35:51 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheThe Truth About Oppositional Defiant Disorderhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201401/the-truth-about-oppositional-defiant-disorder
In this video, I discuss the DSM V description of Oppositional Defiant DisorderChild DevelopmentParentingPersonalityhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201401/the-truth-about-oppositional-defiant-disorder#comments141740 at http://psychologytoday.comWed, 15 Jan 2014 11:37:00 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheTaking a Non Aggressive Approach Towards Disciplinehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201312/taking-non-aggressive-approach-towards-discipline
Beatings don't work. I remember noticing that there were a group of kids who seemed to get flogged every week, yet they still were into making trouble.AdolescenceAssertivenessBullyingCareerChild DevelopmentCognitionEducationParentingPersonalityRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201312/taking-non-aggressive-approach-towards-discipline#comments140134 at http://psychologytoday.comThu, 19 Dec 2013 09:01:12 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheIs Yelling Detrimental to Children?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201310/is-yelling-detrimental-children
The researchers of the longitudinal study claim that parents who yell at their children as a form of discipline, risk causing psychological damage to their children. Furthermore, they also claim that the psychological detriments that result from yelling, such as being hyper aggressive or too timid, is similar to the detriments that result from parents hitting their child.AdolescenceBeautyChild DevelopmentEducationParentingRelationshipsSelf-Controlhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201310/is-yelling-detrimental-children#comments136029 at http://psychologytoday.comWed, 23 Oct 2013 14:30:19 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow to Bring Bullying and Harassment to an End.https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201309/how-bring-bullying-and-harassment-end
We should teach our children to see authority as a necessary entity and resource, societies use to establish organization and structure in their cultures, and not as the all seeing and all knowing. Adherence to the latter leads to ineptitude in applying basic problem solving skills in everyday social conflicts.BullyingCareerChild DevelopmentCognitionEmpathyFearGuiltParentingRelationshipsTraumahttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201309/how-bring-bullying-and-harassment-end#comments132431 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 02 Sep 2013 12:00:20 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheThree Strategies for Dealing With Your Defiant Teenhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201307/three-strategies-dealing-your-defiant-teen
It's not uncommon for parents of defiant teens to drop their teens off for a scheduled appointment with a therapist and expect that their parenting styles wouldn't be evaluated. In a family unit where the teen presents with an issue, it's the entire family dynamic that needs to be addressed in addition to the teen with the presenting issues.AdolescenceAngerChild DevelopmentFearLeadershipNeuroscienceParentingPoliticsRace and Ethnicityhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201307/three-strategies-dealing-your-defiant-teen#comments130107 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 29 Jul 2013 14:35:33 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheThree Rules for Negotiating Child Custodyhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201306/three-rules-negotiating-child-custody
Often times when I am hired to mediate during a child custody dispute alongside lawyers, I meet with parents who will do their best to convince everyone that they are saints while the other parent is the spawn of satan.BiasChild DevelopmentDivorceEthics and MoralityParentingRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201306/three-rules-negotiating-child-custody#comments127143 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 17 Jun 2013 13:50:18 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheEffective Coping Strategies for ADHD Are Not Cureshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201305/effective-coping-strategies-adhd-are-not-cures
Coping with ADHD is not the same as treating it.ADHDAlcoholismAutismChild DevelopmentCognitionGeneticsParentingPsychopharmacologySelf-Controlhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201305/effective-coping-strategies-adhd-are-not-cures#comments125217 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 20 May 2013 15:17:11 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow a Mindset of Fear Contributes to Bullyinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201305/how-mindset-fear-contributes-bullying
Trouble makers, wrong doers, jerks, (pick your label) by coincidence exercise more courage than most people.AngerBullyingFearHealthLeadershipParentingResilienceSelf-Helphttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201305/how-mindset-fear-contributes-bullying#comments124065 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 06 May 2013 14:09:57 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheA Culture of Mercilessnesshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201303/culture-mercilessness
"My intent is not to make the boys out to be villains, but to draw awareness to the cultural mindset they were raised in. A cultural mindset of merciless hyper competition, which leaves no room for compassion or empathy."Child DevelopmentCoachingEmpathyForgivenessGuiltParentingRelationshipsSport and CompetitionTeamworkhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201303/culture-mercilessness#comments120784 at http://psychologytoday.comTue, 19 Mar 2013 14:05:13 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow to Respond to Verbal Bullyinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201303/how-respond-verbal-bullying
"Assertiveness and compassion is a tough combination to master if you believe that others are supposed to be nice to you, the combination is even next to impossible to master if you further believe that those who are not nice to you should get in trouble. The mentality to master is one of humility."AssertivenessBullyingChild DevelopmentEnvironmentGratitudeParentingPost-Traumatic Stress DisorderRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201303/how-respond-verbal-bullying#comments119438 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 04 Mar 2013 11:18:12 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheA Link Between Sexual Promiscuity and Depression in Teenshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201301/link-between-sexual-promiscuity-and-depression-in-teens
Given that sex is a pleasurable activity, it also stands to reason that teens who struggle with depression will routinely seek to engage in pleasurable and excitable behaviors to provide temporary relief from their experiences with chronic sadness, hopelessness and perhaps lethargy.AdolescenceChild DevelopmentDepressionEducationEmpathyGeneticsParentingPsychopharmacologyRelationshipsSexSymptoms of Depressionhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201301/link-between-sexual-promiscuity-and-depression-in-teens#comments115644 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 14 Jan 2013 13:22:22 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheWhat's Lost in the Gun Debateshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201212/whats-lost-in-the-gun-debates
Two truths in relation to gun violence: first, we cannot force people to respect the rights of others they dislike simply by making it difficult for them to obtain weapons. Secondly, we cannot use weapons to maintain any level of peace.ConscientiousnessMediaParentingPoliticsRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201212/whats-lost-in-the-gun-debates#comments113593 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 17 Dec 2012 13:26:27 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheWhat's More Important, Justice Or Resiliency?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201211/whats-more-important-justice-or-resiliency
People become inspired when they realize that they are not constrained by the actions of others, only by their own choices.AssertivenessBiasBullyingChild DevelopmentCoachingForgivenessHappinessParentingResilienceSuicidehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201211/whats-more-important-justice-or-resiliency#comments111330 at http://psychologytoday.comTue, 20 Nov 2012 12:09:53 -0500Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHelping Your Teen Cope With Physical Threatshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/helping-your-teen-cope-physical-threats
Our biological desire as social creatures is to belong to groups. When we become upset with insults it is because insults trigger our innate fear (rational or otherwise) of being cast out.BullyingChild DevelopmentFearParentingPsychopharmacologyRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/helping-your-teen-cope-physical-threats#comments109681 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 29 Oct 2012 14:55:49 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheHow To Use Verbal Judohttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/how-use-verbal-judo
The truth is physical aggression can be predicted and avoided if we learn to listen to our natural ability to detect the cues.Child DevelopmentNeuroscienceParentingPersuasionRelationshipsTeamworkTraumahttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/how-use-verbal-judo#comments108513 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 15 Oct 2012 12:44:39 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UchePutting an End to Bullying Without Bullyinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/putting-end-bullying-without-bullying
October is national bullying prevention month, and I hope this post will convince some people that the current popular approach to dealing with bullying in schools is another form of bullying.AngerBullyingChild DevelopmentForgivenessHappinessLeadershipParentingRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201210/putting-end-bullying-without-bullying#comments107913 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 08 Oct 2012 13:51:50 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheIs it Normal for Teenagers to Lack Empathy?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201209/is-it-normal-teenagers-lack-empathy
The prefrontal cortex is last to develop because it allows the average person to focus on self mastery before becoming fully conscientious about the welfare of their respective communities.AdolescenceChild DevelopmentConscientiousnessEmpathyLeadershipMotivationNeuroscienceParentingPersonalityRelationshipshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201209/is-it-normal-teenagers-lack-empathy#comments106394 at http://psychologytoday.comMon, 17 Sep 2012 14:06:25 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo UcheDoes Marijuana Use Decrease IQ?https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201208/does-marijuana-use-decrease-iq
A recent study of a thousand people in New Zealand conducted over a period of twenty years claims that when people use marijuana for a period of time prior to their eighteenth birthday, they experience a permanent and significant drop in their IQ.Child DevelopmentCognitionHealthIntelligenceMotivationNeuroscienceParentingSmokinghttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/promoting-empathy-your-teen/201208/does-marijuana-use-decrease-iq#comments104829 at http://psychologytoday.comTue, 28 Aug 2012 13:33:43 -0400Promoting Empathy With Your TeenUgo Uche