Santa or no Santa ?

My husband thinks that we shouldn't fell our baby's mind with thoughts of fake people . Easter bunny, tooth fairy, Santa .... Because he fills like its a lie and one day she will turn around and say why did u lie to me Daddy ?But me on the other hand thinks its part of being a child and having fun. She will have lots of time to grow up right ? What do you think and how could we pick something that both of us are happy with doing?

My husband thinks that we shouldn't fell our baby's mind with thoughts of fake people . Easter bunny, tooth fairy, Santa .... Because he fills like its a lie and one day she will turn around and say why did u lie to me Daddy ?But me on the other hand thinks its part of being a child and having fun. She will have lots of time to grow up right ? What do you think and how could we pick something that both of us are happy with doing?

We are doing no Santa. We will tell the story of Santa but he will know that it is fiction not fact. Thanks to technology kids learn Santa isn't real at a much younger age. Developmentally they don't understand why their parents lied. Personally I want to be honest with my LO.

We are doing no Santa. We will tell the story of Santa but he will know that it is fiction not fact. Thanks to technology kids learn Santa isn't real at a much younger age. Developmentally they don't understand why their parents lied. Personally I want to be honest with my LO.

Just make sure your kids don't ruin it for the kids who believe! I believed as a kid and I wasn't emotionally scared, in fact I figured it out on my own but continued to pretend I believed because it was fun to believe in.

Just make sure your kids don't ruin it for the kids who believe! I believed as a kid and I wasn't emotionally scared, in fact I figured it out on my own but continued to pretend I believed because it was fun to believe in.

I'm with Krys21. Important to ensure that kids who are told the truth at the outset understand that some kids believe in the magic of Santa! We will be doing our best to tell DS about the meaning of Christmas - ie not all about gifts! - but will include the Santa as well. He just adds to the wonder of the season IMO :)

I'm with Krys21. Important to ensure that kids who are told the truth at the outset understand that some kids believe in the magic of Santa! We will be doing our best to tell DS about the meaning of Christmas - ie not all about gifts! - but will include the Santa as well. He just adds to the wonder of the season IMO :)

We do Santa but my oldest also knows that we also buy her gifts. I believed in Santa and never asked why my parents lied. We also do the elf too. She does know why we truly celebrate Christmas and we do things in the community to give back.

We do Santa but my oldest also knows that we also buy her gifts. I believed in Santa and never asked why my parents lied. We also do the elf too. She does know why we truly celebrate Christmas and we do things in the community to give back.

We are not doing Santa. We read stories about Santa and Rudolph but they are treated just like any other story. We don't tell DD that Santa's coming or that she has to be good or she won't get presents etc. We both grew up in homes where this was done, but we're trying to emphasize the Jesus side of Christmas and we decided that it would be difficult enough to teach our LO about Jesus without trying to muddy the waters with all of those other characters. But I know people in our church who DO do the Santa thing and Jesus and it seems to work out well. Others just go with Jesus and their families seem to have just as much fun so they aren't missing out on anything. I had a bad experience when my brother was growing up (he was 10 years younger than me) being almost 11 years old and still believing in Santa. He would have been going into middle school believing in Santa and my parents didn't want him to get picked on. When my parents sat him down and told him, he cried for days and said they'd totally ruined Christmas for him. I think his trust in them was actually damaged by it. I know that's not the typical situation but it can happen and I don't want my kid's trust in me (or Jesus) to be shaken just because we wanted to have a bit of fun once per year for a few years. Like I said, that's not everyone's experience but it was enough for me to go through it once with my brother, I don't want to hurt my DD that way too. Anyway, DH was originally wanting to do the whole Santa thing, but we compromised by just reading the stories (Night Before Christmas etc) and taking D to see Santa at the Breakfast With Santa things they have around here. Or at the mall. She's seen him twice this season, we got pictures, and DH is happy. We haven't scrubbed Santa totally out of the picture but we're stopping short of telling DD he actually exists. Good luck, you'll find a good compromise!

We are not doing Santa. We read stories about Santa and Rudolph but they are treated just like any other story. We don't tell DD that Santa's coming or that she has to be good or she won't get presents etc. We both grew up in homes where this was done, but we're trying to emphasize the Jesus side of Christmas and we decided that it would be difficult enough to teach our LO about Jesus without trying to muddy the waters with all of those other characters. But I know people in our church who DO do the Santa thing and Jesus and it seems to work out well. Others just go with Jesus and their families seem to have just as much fun so they aren't missing out on anything. I had a bad experience when my brother was growing up (he was 10 years younger than me) being almost 11 years old and still believing in Santa. He would have been going into middle school believing in Santa and my parents didn't want him to get picked on. When my parents sat him down and told him, he cried for days and said they'd totally ruined Christmas for him. I think his trust in them was actually damaged by it. I know that's not the typical situation but it can happen and I don't want my kid's trust in me (or Jesus) to be shaken just because we wanted to have a bit of fun once per year for a few years. Like I said, that's not everyone's experience but it was enough for me to go through it once with my brother, I don't want to hurt my DD that way too. Anyway, DH was originally wanting to do the whole Santa thing, but we compromised by just reading the stories (Night Before Christmas etc) and taking D to see Santa at the Breakfast With Santa things they have around here. Or at the mall. She's seen him twice this season, we got pictures, and DH is happy. We haven't scrubbed Santa totally out of the picture but we're stopping short of telling DD he actually exists. Good luck, you'll find a good compromise!

We will definitely do Santa. I don't care what others do, all I ask is that if you choose not to do Santa, that you also teach your children that others celebrate differently and not to ruin it for other kids.

We will definitely do Santa. I don't care what others do, all I ask is that if you choose not to do Santa, that you also teach your children that others celebrate differently and not to ruin it for other kids.

I agree with u on teaching her not to spoil it for the kids who do believe . We are gonna tell her the truth but still not take it away all together . Thanks for all the replies it has helped us compromise. Other looks and opions really helped thanks again!

I agree with u on teaching her not to spoil it for the kids who do believe . We are gonna tell her the truth but still not take it away all together . Thanks for all the replies it has helped us compromise. Other looks and opions really helped thanks again!

We teach the true meaning of Christmas, we read to our children about the birth of Jesus, St Nicholas, and we do a Jesse tree. We read Santa stories and watch Santa movies and enjoy them, but our children know they are pretend. It has worked out well for us. By the way Merry Christmas!

We teach the true meaning of Christmas, we read to our children about the birth of Jesus, St Nicholas, and we do a Jesse tree. We read Santa stories and watch Santa movies and enjoy them, but our children know they are pretend. It has worked out well for us. By the way Merry Christmas!

idk how my wonderful parents did it, but they never taught ua to believe or not believe in santa or any of that stuff. we grew up with church and it never bothered us that we didn't get the experience of santa. we never ruined it for anyone else either. hubs was a firm believer in that stuff and he was devastated when he found out as a kid. i see no point in teaching my children about such things because from a young age they begin to expect gifts and not care about the point of these holidays (easter, Christmas, etc.). to each their own, i suppose. it's just weird to me.

idk how my wonderful parents did it, but they never taught ua to believe or not believe in santa or any of that stuff. we grew up with church and it never bothered us that we didn't get the experience of santa. we never ruined it for anyone else either. hubs was a firm believer in that stuff and he was devastated when he found out as a kid. i see no point in teaching my children about such things because from a young age they begin to expect gifts and not care about the point of these holidays (easter, Christmas, etc.). to each their own, i suppose. it's just weird to me.

I am absolutely shocked all these people are telling there kids there is no Santa! What has happened to society that we are "lieing to our kids" by bringing a little joy and make believe into their lives. I have been raised a Lutheran my whole life and so is my daughter. We celebrate the gift of the birth of Christ and know that Chrustmas is about faith and family. That being said "Santa" does and always will visit this house!

I am absolutely shocked all these people are telling there kids there is no Santa! What has happened to society that we are "lieing to our kids" by bringing a little joy and make believe into their lives. I have been raised a Lutheran my whole life and so is my daughter. We celebrate the gift of the birth of Christ and know that Chrustmas is about faith and family. That being said "Santa" does and always will visit this house!

Just because all of us don't choice to lie about Santa dose not mean we can't still bring Christmas joy to are children. We will put up a tree and stockings & gifts they are from Mommy n Daddy. I don't really think it has any thing to do with out society people just have different lookd on things.

Just because all of us don't choice to lie about Santa dose not mean we can't still bring Christmas joy to are children. We will put up a tree and stockings & gifts they are from Mommy n Daddy. I don't really think it has any thing to do with out society people just have different lookd on things.

Agree with pensfan... Santa is just part of the magic & wonder of the season :) I did ask my mom why she lied when she broke the news to me when I was little, but then I got over it... It is ridiculous to think that would ruin my trust in my parents... It didn't. & I am so glad I got to believe in Santa those few years. It's fun! I also grew up going to church almost every weekend & understood the 2 were separate.

Agree with pensfan... Santa is just part of the magic & wonder of the season :) I did ask my mom why she lied when she broke the news to me when I was little, but then I got over it... It is ridiculous to think that would ruin my trust in my parents... It didn't. & I am so glad I got to believe in Santa those few years. It's fun! I also grew up going to church almost every weekend & understood the 2 were separate.

I have 4 children 3 being teens now and one is a year old. We never did Santa other than a fun character with Christmas or Easter bunny with Easter. We wanted our children not only know the real reason for the Holidays but to realize how hard mommy and Daddy worked to get them gifts and they learn to only expect we could afford. By having Santa is putting false hope in a child's mind and they expect to get everything they want or ask Santa for. So parents take the time stressing themselves out trying to get a child everything they want only to give the credit to a false character . I wanted my children to appreciate what we do for them and understand why we couldn't get them everything they wanted. But also we can not teach our kids not to lie and lie straight to their faces about Santa. I grew up on Santa but I remember being disappointed Santa didn't bring me what I asked for. Well that's my view thanks.

I have 4 children 3 being teens now and one is a year old. We never did Santa other than a fun character with Christmas or Easter bunny with Easter. We wanted our children not only know the real reason for the Holidays but to realize how hard mommy and Daddy worked to get them gifts and they learn to only expect we could afford. By having Santa is putting false hope in a child's mind and they expect to get everything they want or ask Santa for. So parents take the time stressing themselves out trying to get a child everything they want only to give the credit to a false character . I wanted my children to appreciate what we do for them and understand why we couldn't get them everything they wanted. But also we can not teach our kids not to lie and lie straight to their faces about Santa. I grew up on Santa but I remember being disappointed Santa didn't bring me what I asked for. Well that's my view thanks.

I feel no santa. if I should have to spend my hard earned money then I dont want someone else to get the credit.....my mom always did santa, tooth fairy . Easter bunnny etc. and I felt stupid for believing but thats just me

I feel no santa. if I should have to spend my hard earned money then I dont want someone else to get the credit.....my mom always did santa, tooth fairy . Easter bunnny etc. and I felt stupid for believing but thats just me

It sort of seemed like the Christmas spirit died in our home when the youngest child finally admitted to not believing. I, being the oldest, found out pretty young but pretended to still believe because it made everything feel more magical and fun- also my little brother still believed. Years later, I found out my little brother had stopped believing years earlier as well but was still pretending too in order to make it more fun. Once our parents knew we didn't believe anymore all of the fun and surprise was gone. There were years we had to all but force my parents to even decorate and we always knew what our gifts were before the day bc our parents didn't feel the surprise mattered anymore. Our family is not religious so the story of Santa actually seemed more real to us than the story of Jesus. We will be doing Santa with our daughter.

It sort of seemed like the Christmas spirit died in our home when the youngest child finally admitted to not believing. I, being the oldest, found out pretty young but pretended to still believe because it made everything feel more magical and fun- also my little brother still believed. Years later, I found out my little brother had stopped believing years earlier as well but was still pretending too in order to make it more fun. Once our parents knew we didn't believe anymore all of the fun and surprise was gone. There were years we had to all but force my parents to even decorate and we always knew what our gifts were before the day bc our parents didn't feel the surprise mattered anymore. Our family is not religious so the story of Santa actually seemed more real to us than the story of Jesus. We will be doing Santa with our daughter.

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