Monday was a historic and wonderful day for humanity (except for those people who post naked photos of their exes to try to get them fired, though I’m not sure how much they fit into the humanity category anyway, in which case ignore this whole disclaimer.)

California made its first ever conviction under a 2013 law against “revenge porn.” So, what is revenge porn, criminally speaking? As attorneys at Jackson & Wilson explain,

To prove this crime, the criminal prosecutor must show that the defendant (1) took pictures or videos of another person’s intimate body parts, with the mutual understanding that such images will be kept confidential; (2) distributes such images, where the victim is identifiable; (3) has the intent to cause serious emotional distress to the victim; and (4) the victim actually suffers such distress.

Earlier today I wrote about two Indian women who attacked three men who were harassing them on a bus. That story has a happy ending: the video has gone viral and the three men were arrested. But this case, also involving a group of men harassing young women, turned out very differently.

On November 15th, Tuğçe Albayrak, a 23-year-old university student studying to be a high school teacher, entered a women’s bathroom of a McDonalds in Offenbach, Germany, after hearing screams. It turned out that a group of young men were harassing a group of young women. Albayrak intervened in some way and this, apparently enraged one of the men. Because he returned and in video captured in very poor quality, by CCTV cameras, struck her on the head with something that caused her to fall to the ground, suffer a traumatic brain injury and fall into a coma.

To paraphrase Samuel L. Jackson these women “have had it with these motherf****** snakes male harassers on this motherf****** plane bus!” Friday, two sisters fought back against three men they claim were harassing them. Sunday, the police arrested the men. The incident, which a bus-rider filmed on a cell phone, is now a viral video sensation. The women, 22-year-old Aarti and 19-year-old Pooja, were riding a bus home in India’s Rohtak district when, they say, three male passengers started to harass them physically.

Happy Thanksgiving! You probably know that many myths about the holiday still persist. And you probably have Thanksgiving romanticizes, to put it lightly, the history of the United States and the relationship between European and indigenous people.

Throughout history, European settlers have thanked god for help killing off indigenous populations. Because I would literally be here until the next Thanksgiving if I tried to compile all the “thanks for the extermination back up, God” quotes, I’m going to focus on the way a particular massacre inspired gratitude and thanksgiving celebration among the British.

The Mystic Massacre was part of the Pequot War (1637 and 1638), which took place between Massachusetts Bay, Connecticut and Plymouth colonies against the Pequot tribe. The Europeans (Surprise! Surprise!) took advantage of tensions among the different tribes and convinced the Naragansett and Monhegan tribes to join them. On June 5, 1637, the English, supported by the Naragansett and Monhegan, surrounded the fortified village of Mystic, burned it to the ground and killed between 400-700 Pequots. As you will see below, this massacre really added to the celebration of Thanksgiving that year.

Texas plans to kill Scott Panetti Wednesday December 3rd for the murder of his in-laws. The state argues that the 58-year-old paranoid schizophrenic is sane enough to be executed. And that, ironically, is insane… or dishonest and cruel. The state reaffirmed its commitment to not only capital punishment, but executing the mentally ill, in particular, on Tuesday, when the Texas Court of Criminal Appeals denied yet another motion for a stay of execution for Panetti. Not that it matters to Texas, apparently, but the evidence of Panetti’s severe mental illness is overwhelming. His upcoming lethal injection is even more criminal given that his mental health history is well documented and goes back nearly thirty years! Let’s take a look at the evidence of not just Panetti’s mental illness, but the numerous ways the courts and the state have failed him.

Scott Panetti was first diagnosed with schizophrenia when he was 20 at the Brook Army Medical Center, shortly after being honorably discharged from the Navy in 1978.

Guess who thinks about having sex with two women? (Hint: nearly everyone.)

A recent study about sexual fantasies made some surprising discoveries and some unsurprising ones. The research project from the Université du Québec and the Philippe-Pinel Institute of Montreal, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, analyzed the most common sexual fantasies. Researchers asked 1,516 participants to rate 55 sexual fantasies and then divided the fantasies into four categories: “statistically rare” (shared by 2.3 percent or fewer of participants), “statistically unusual” (shared by 15.9 percent or less of participants), “statistically common” (shared more than 50 percent) and “statistically typical” (shared by more than 84.1%).

Let’s take a look.

1. Fantasies about interracial sex are much more common among men. While only 27.5% of women reported fantasizing about having interracial sex, 61.2% of men said they had fantasized about it. So, this is a common fantasy among men, but not among women.

2. Oral sex for and by (nearly) everyone! Not surprisingly, both genders—78.5% of women and 87.6 of men—reported fantasizing about receiving oral sex. This means it’s a common fantasy for women and a typical one for men. Given that fellatio is more sanctioned, more openly discussed and more represented in film than cunnilingus, it’s not surprising that more men would fantasize about receiving oral sex. But what is surprising is that 78.1% of men had fantasized about performing cunnilngus and only 72.1% of women had fantasized about performing fellatio. I guess it’s time for Hollywood to catch up.

3. Romantic feelings are a fantasy? Who knew that “feeling romantic emotions during a sexual relationship” would not only be typical for men (88.3%) and women (92.2%) but the number one fantasy for both sexes! How wholesome!

4. Location, location, location: Atmosphere played an important role in fantasy for both men and women, with 81.2% of men and 86.4% of women stating that, “Atmosphere and location are important in my sexual fantasies.” Location was so crucial for women that their third and fourth most common fantasies were sex “in a romantic location (e.g. on a deserted beach)” and “in an unusual location (e.g. in the office; public toilet).”

5. Blowjobs, two women, cheating and location, location, location. It’s not that location isn’t important for men and their fantasies. It’s just that some other things are more important and some other fantasies more typical, like receiving oral sex (87.6%), having sex with two women (84.5%) and “having sex with someone that I know who is not my spouse” (83.4%). But after those two, the next most common fantasy for men is location based, with 82.3% having fantasized about sex in an unusual place.

6. Location, ejaculation, location. Lest you think only women fantasize about romantic locations, men do indeed fantasize about those, too. Sex in a romantic location is the ninth most common fantasy for men, coming in just behind the eighth most common fantasy for men, “Ejaculating on my sexual partner.”

7. Heterosexual fantasizing about observing and/or engaging in homosexual behavior. 56.5% of women fantasized about, “Having sex with more than three people, both men and women,” 42.4% fantasized about, “Watching two women make love,” 36.9% fantasized about, “having sex with two women,” and 35.7% fantasized about “Giving cunnilingus.” Men who identify as straight also exhibit these tendencies, with 26.8% fantasizing about giving fellatio and 45.2% fantasizing about having sex with two men.

Like this:

Great news! 98% of people who witness domestic abuse won’t do jack shit about it! This is what we learned from Sweden’s STHLM Panda, a collective dedicated to “doing social experiments, joking with people and documenting the society we live in.” The collective put a hidden camera in an elevator to see how people would respond to the site of a man abusing his female partner over the course of two days. According to STHLM Panda’s Konrad Ydhage, “We made this video to test domestic violence and violence in close relations and to see if people react when they really need to.” Ydhage said they expected, “that about 50% would intervene. I was prepared to take a hit by the bigger lads who entered the lift.”

But, it turns out, way less than 50% intervened. And no lads, big or small, did anything thing about it.

UPDATE: Right After I published the post below, Don Lemon went on TV to apologize for his question: “As I am a victim myself I would never want to suggest that any victim could have prevented a rape. If my question to her struck anyone as insensitive, I’m sorry as that certainly was not my intention.”

The apology was so thoughtful and heartfelt, it took all of 14 seconds.

CNN host Don Lemon is being mocked and criticized, and rightly so, for his incredibly victim-blaming interview of a woman who said she was raped by Bill Cosby. What makes Lemon’s insensitivity and inappropriateness even more disturbing is the fact that he himself is the survivor of sexual abuse.

We all know that the sanctity of marriage, the very foundation of civilization, is under attack from the gays who want to pervert the sacred institution by engaging in a devious and hedonistic relationship built on monogamy, stability and permanence. Each and every heterosexual marriage is an act of resistance and valor, a battle in the war to keep this great nation from the hell that awaits us once we allow male on male bridal registry. While every marrying or married heterosexual person can do their part, I would be naive to pretend that certain marriages don’t help the cause more than others. The marriage of an anonymous couple who nobody knows about is helpful of course, but the marriage of well known people is extremely valuable because it makes that much more of a statement. It has morality, righteousness, god and star power behind it.

Actress Diane Guerrero experienced our draconian immigration policies first-hand when she was 14 years old, and came home from school to an empty house. Hours later she would find out her family had been taken to a detention center and would be deported. Guerrero is using her voice to speak out for humane, fair, and sensible immigration reform.

Guerrero is best known for her roles in shows like Orange is the New Black and Jane the Virgin. But she is also an advocate for undocumented people and their families and volunteers with the Immigrant Legal Resource Center. This past weekend Guerrero penned an op-ed for the LA Timesabout her experience with our broken immigration system. While Guerrero was born in New Jersey and thus a legal citizen, her parents and older brother had immigrated from Colombia. She writes,

Throughout my childhood I watched my parents try to become legal but to no avail. They lost their money to people they believed to be attorneys, but who ultimately never helped. That meant my childhood was haunted by the fear that they would be deported. If I didn’t see anyone when I walked in the door after school, I panicked.

And then one day, my fears were realized. I came home from school to an empty house. Lights were on and dinner had been started, but my family wasn’t there. Neighbors broke the news that my parents had been taken away by immigration officers, and just like that, my stable family life was over.

Not a single person at any level of government took any note of me. No one checked to see if I had a place to live or food to eat, and at 14, I found myself basically on my own.

Guerrero uses her painful experience to push for reforms that are not only just, but in the best interest of legal citizens:

[I]t’s not just in the interest of immigrants to fix the system: It’s in the interest of all Americans. Children who grow up separated from their families often end up in foster care, or worse, in the juvenile justice system despite having parents who love them and would like to be able to care for them.

I don’t believe it reflects our values as a country to separate children and parents in this way. Nor does it reflect our values to hold people in detention without access to good legal representation or a fair shot in a court of law. President Obama has promised to act on providing deportation relief for families across the country, and I would urge him to do so quickly. Keeping families together is a core American value.

Congress needs to provide a permanent, fair legislative solution, but in the meantime families are being destroyed every day, and the president should do everything in his power to provide the broadest relief possible now. Not one more family should be separated by deportation.

While her piece was eloquent and moving, it was her television appearance on Monday that caught people’s attention and made the headlines. During a CNN interview with Michaela Pereira, Guerrero spoke from the heart and off the cuff and broke into tears, saying, “We’ve been separated for so long, I feel like sometimes we don’t know each othe… I’ve grown up without them. There are things about them that I don’t recognize. I know that I’ve been by myself, but I feel like they have lived a very lonely existence themselves.”