When The Butterflies Won’t Leave Your Stomach

A friend of mine sent me this beautiful story and wanted me to share it with us on the young girl’s forum. I found it quite interesting and very timely. It is just in sync with the train of thoughts that I have been meaning to share with us here. You will learn a lot. Enjoy!

When the butterflies won’t leave your stomach.

Today, someone was restored to fellowship, having been on suspension for a couple of months. And a thought came to mind; that is me, but the grace of God.

This is a true story that happened to me sometime in February this year. I’m blessed with a wonderful elder sister in the faith and I love her. I love my sister, and then I really desired for her to gain admission for her master’s degree program.

In January I had appendectomy which was successful by the grace of God; and I was supposed to write an exam on the 10th of March. I still needed help with some things. So I sincerely desired for her to be granted admission for her M.Sc Program so I can stay with her, she’ll be delighted to help me out with the things.

After my piano lessons one Wednesday, I called her to ask about her admission and she said she had not seen the list yet. So we decided that I go to the Post Graduate School to check for her. And off to PG school I went.

When I got to the school, I was directed to go to an office where I can make inquiries. As I was standing in front of the room, a young man came around, I asked him and he gave me the information I needed; and then we got talking. Then he started saying some really emotionally stirring words; those heart tingling words that makes a young lady’s mind to swirl.

Some of nice things he said, not that I didn’t know them before but hearing it from a stranger felt good to the emotions.

We exchanged contacts and left, he called me in the night to know if I’ve eaten and sent a text of ‘care’.

The following day, he sent another text filled with heart tingling words; I read and re-read, and the thrill was subtly choking my sensitivity.

Not long before this experience, I had a meeting with Sis Faith (another wonderful sister in the faith) during that meeting she said something about a baptism of lust. That’s exactly what happened- a baptism of lust. My emotions were really stirred those moments I saw his texts, heard his voice and I liked him.

The high point of all these came so much strong that I told my sister (the one who sent me to check for her). She asked me if he was a Christian, then I realized I had no clue about that, the next day she sent me another text about sensitivity and the Lord’s mercy prevailed. Now, I’m free from that enclave. Now, I realize that feeling I had for him was just a splash of lust!

Dear sisters, don’t bottle up your feelings or crush on a man. Open up to a Godly elderly woman or friend. In my emotions, I felt it was right…until my sister sent that text and I saw things correctly.

If the admonition of Apostle Paul to timothy in 1 Tim 5:2 was re-written to a young woman; it could read, ‘Treating all young men as brothers with all purity.

SUGGESTED READING: The Lady in waiting by Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall.

Pheewww! (Exhales…) This is a story I found very real because I could relate with it so well. I learnt the importance of having godly sister-friends (aside your mentors) who we can open up to about anything.

I find it really disheartening when young ladies gossip and envy each other when they should spend that energy on building godly relationships that will be a great blessing. I have been told severally that nobody can be trusted in this world especially among your female friends, this is not true because I don’t trust my friends based on their morality, I trust them based on the grace of God at work in their lives.

I will be making a post on how my life have been saved from some bad decisions and potential mistakes all because I talked to a friend about it. I have friends, close friends, very close friends and they are all Ladies; we talk about anything and everything. We are real, true and sincere to each other; we don’t gossip, judge or look down on one another. Nobody thinks she is more spiritual than the other; we are just grace-bought, smokingly- beautiful, interesting ladies that are crazy about Jesus and can’t help it.

We are ‘bible-holic’,’ book-a-holic’, ‘songs-a-holic’, ‘sense-a-holic’ and you name it. There are still faithful friends and I have a good number to last a life time.

This is what I long to see among Christian young ladies and I believe it is the will of God. Lets build godly friendships among ourselves.

4 thoughts on “When The Butterflies Won’t Leave Your Stomach”

I’m really on the side that all girls should have as their confidant first and most important their mothers while growing up before the age of decisions. Mothers must yield themselves openly to their daughters. That may be one of the ways of cutting short the evil schemes of the enemy against our sisters. Nice writing. Let’s have older sisters. Let’s make ourselves approachable and as much as possible vulnerable to our daughters.

That’s so true sir, Mothers are the pioneers of mentorship and they do a real good job at that, I pray everyone will learn and understand this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for your time. Glad to have you here, You are always welcome.

You are right NASA. I have known you to be full of wisdom and i commend your good work.
This is my first time of visiting your blog and am greatly impressed. I just cant stop reading, there are so many interesting things to read. I cant let go…
Coming to your advise on sharing things with your female friends.. Some of us are not that lucky to have great female friends, no matter how hard we try to get female friends.. We fail instead we find ourselves in the dear hands and heart of good male friends.
I dont know if its our fault or nature or mentality of growing up with so many males around us that we feel safer with them. So please if u can write on how to get a good female friend who you can share ideas with or your fears with. I will be highly delighted.
Dont get me wrong.. I have female friends, lots of them but we don’t share things. We just talk.

Hello Diuto,
It’s really good to have you here and I am glad you are being blessed.
It’s not entirely your fault that you are closer to your male friends than the female ones. It’s not bad either but you will agree with me that there are different levels of friendship and it’s your duty to decide how close each person can get to you, so if you desire to have close female friends, you should be ready to make that happen.
The old saying “If you want a friend, be a friend” is true. All you desire in a friendship is possible if you practice it selflessly.
Finally, I would recommend you pray to God about it, he is a master in connecting you with people he knows will be a blessing to your life and vice versa. I am a witness!