How to Seduce a Man Who’s Not Yet Yours: And Leave Him Smitten!

Do you want to make him want you? Whether it’s to make him like you or lust for you, here’s your guide on how to seduce a man who isn’t your man yet.

Seducing a man is an art, and one that’s thoroughly enjoyable. Just watching a man feel flustered and awkward because of the sexual tension you’ve created is a rush that few things can give a girl. A few of these tips may be sneaky and scheming, but hey, we’re not playing dirty. We’re only using the advantage of being a woman! Find out how to seduce a man who’s not your own man, and make him sweat with desire.

But what next, do you want him to fall in love with you or are you happy with him trailing you like a lost pup? Either ways, you’ll have a great time and he’ll love you for letting him have a great time. Everyone’s happy and the world is a better place!

How to seduce a man

If you want to understand how to seduce a man, especially if he’s not your own boyfriend, use these ten tips to do just that. It’s subtle, devilishly innocent and he can never ever blame you for seducing him.

After all, by using these steps on seducing a man, you’ll make him believe that he’s actually the one who desires you.

#1 Work your eye contact

Now you don’t want him to think you’re attracted to him, so don’t overdo the little staring game. Look, but always look away just as he looks at you. By doing that, he’ll never be sure if you’re even staring at him. And yet, he’d start to get more and more curious about you.

If you want to become a wily seductress, you need to feel like one. And when you do, you’ll be able to perfect this move and put it to maximum use. Men love boobs and butt. You know that right?

Look your best when you’re around the guy you want to seduce. Let him admire your curves and those toned sexy legs of yours. When he falls in love with your body, he’s definitely on his way to getting seduced by you.

#3 A little peek-a-boo

The fascinating thing about being a woman is that you can do something outrageous like wearing extremely short skirts and plunging necklines and still blame a man for being a pervert. Of course, now we women aren’t wearing these sexy outfits to please everyone, are we? [Read: Revealing clothes in office]

We’re just wearing these cute outfits for the guys we want to seduce. So all the other perverts can just look away for all we care. [For men: How to stare at a girl’s cleavage]

If you want to seduce a man, never bare everything or wear skimpy clothes. It draws the wrong kind of attention. Instead, wear something that gives you an opportunity to give him a little peek now and then. If he’s standing around you, lean forward to pick a piece of paper or your bag. A guy’s eyes are pretty quick when it comes to sneaky boob grazes. Giving a guy the chance to take a sneak peek now and then would only make him want to see them more, and hopefully without any clothes on. [Read: The reason behind why men like breasts]

Now taking the clothes off for him is your decision, but this move will definitely seduce him and make him want more.

#4 Smile for him

Men are automatically drawn towards women who seem happier and more fun to be with. A smiling, flirty woman is far more approachable than a surly, saggy woman. When you’re having a conversation with him, smile often. It’ll make you seem good natured and happy, which will draw him to you. But don’t overdo the smiling by making it obvious that you’ve got a thing for him. You’re trying to seduce him, not let him know you like him! [Read: How to talk to a guy you like]

#5 Flirt with him

If you’ve got these first few steps down to the tee, the guy you’re seducing would already be attracted to you, sexually or otherwise. Now it’s time to warm him up and let him know that you’re up for a bit of safe flirting now and then. When you’re having a conversation with him, start flirting with him and make him want to continue the conversation with you. If his eyes are ready to pop out in excitement or if he’s got bits of drool, you’re doing a great job at this, aren’t you, you seductress? [Read: How to flirt with a guy without making it obvious]

#6 Lingering unexpected touches

When you’re having a conversation with him at lunch, place your fingers over his palm while emphasizing a point or hold him by his hand as you’re crossing the street. If you’re sitting next to him, allow your feet to touch his feet and pretend like you didn’t notice. Create circumstances to let him touch you, and he’ll want more. [Read: How to kiss a friend by accident]

#7 Don’t throw yourself at him

If you want to know how to seduce a guy, never ever throw yourself at him or let him know that you think he’s hot stuff. By letting a guy know that you’re already interested in him, he wouldn’t feel excited by any of your antics. He’ll just assume you’re trying really hard to get his attention. And you don’t want that.

When you let a guy know you like him, it’ll make him start the game of playing hard to get with you. Instead of seducing a guy, you’ll end up looking trashy and clingy. Always make it look like he’s the one pursuing you, even if you’re laying a seduction trail for him with each step you take.

#8 Ignore him now and then

Every once in a while, when you feel like things are going too smooth between the two of you, stop giving him a lot of attention and conversation time. A guy will always take things easy when he feels like he’s having a great time with a girl. So at least at the beginning, don’t ever let him feel like he’s able to make an impression on you. Ignore him now and then, or just play hard to get with him. It’ll shake up his insecurities all over again, and make him woo you harder. [Read: What men really like in women]

#9 Take him to the dance floor

Guys can never resist a girl’s curves. Take those sexy curves and move them on a dance floor, and he’ll be floored by you.

If you can work your way around getting this guy to take you out clubbing, then you’re definitely on cloud nine of seducing a man. Show off your skills on the dance floor, and let him watch you. Dancing with each other is a great way to build the sexual chemistry and leave a few lasting memories with lingering touches.

#10 Create awkward situations

If you want to know how to seduce a man, get this right and you’d leave the guy you want to seduce with a heart full of love and a trouser that’s stretching on a hard on!

Squeeze into a crowded elevator with him and “unknowingly” let your butt graze against his leg. If he’s sitting down in a chair, come from behind him and reach across his table to get something when he’s not looking. He’ll involuntarily turn and his shoulders have nowhere to touch but your breasts. And that’s by accident, of course. And when you hug him, make sure he can feel your girly parts touch against him. Don’t make any of these moves obvious and he’ll think he’s the lucky one for getting to touch you in places he could only dream of. [Read: How to turn a guy on]

Give him the chance to touch you, and create awkward situations around him. His pants will get tighter, and he’ll do more than just fantasize about you.

So now that you know how to seduce a man who’s not yours, what are you going to do next, make him fall in love with you or use him as a sex buddy? It feels so good to have so many choices, doesn’t it?!

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29 thoughts on “How to Seduce a Man Who’s Not Yet Yours: And Leave Him Smitten!”

I did all of this with a guy who is now my bf. but one problem.. I thought i was all sneaky about it, and it wasnt till three weeks in when he told me he knew all of these tricks. I was kinda shocked, boys are cleverer than we care to think.

This is an informative yet disturbing article. But you will delete this post I’m sure.

I guess it’s okay to treat men as if they are things to be played ith and not actual people…. Btw, why would you want someone that dumb and unfaithful? Won’t he leave you for the next scheming tramp? Just my thoughts.

Ouu my word…this is a very very nice article. I lyk it so much. Seducing ur man or someone’s for dat matter its good, it make you feel lyk u owning ds whole world. I enjoy doing dat nd most of d guy kip on cuming bk I’m nt d one who call thm, bt hey wat cn I say its gud

I thought I’d add something from a man’s point of view. Ignoring a guy is not always smart. Make sure you don’t ignore him very long. Yes, from personal experience I know that it absolutely does shake up his insecurities, which is good, but if it goes on more than a day, he may assume that you are no longer interested. If you explore men dominated forums, like bodybuilding.com, you’ll find that any man is capable of feeling crushed if he cares enough. I know because a girl did this to me. She was extremely flirty, made distant plans with me, and expressed her desire to do more than kiss, so I was convinced she was interested. Not to mention she asked me out. Still, my mind wandered for too long, and I came up with too many possible scenarios (was there another guy? Etc.). Turns out she just wanted us to move more quickly, but with no apology and my realization that she was playing mind games, I lost most of my feelings for her. It’s too bad, I really cared for her, but I have too much self-respect to allow myself to be toyed with.

“you can do something outrageous like wearing extremely short skirts and plunging necklines and still blame a man for being a pervert”
This is the most disgusting thing I’ve read in a long time!!!
No, you can NOT do that. This type of behaviour is absolutely vile and you should be ashamed of yourself.

If you wear very tight or revealing clothing a man may glance at you. He can’t be blamed for a glance and shouldn’t be made to feel like a pervert. That DOES NOT make him a pervert. It does not mean a woman can pretend to be offended, shocked or think that he is a pervert.

Those are VERY serious allegations which could ruin a mans reputation at work, at home or in the community.

There are some vile men out there who make women feel uncomfortable. THOSE men should be shown up as perverts. A man just being friendly or glancing at innapropriate clothing is not. If you do this you are everything that is wrong with a woman!!!

Wow, I feel bad for men they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. As for women who behave like this…..High maintenance/self obsessed much? Also chick’s doing this on purpose to steal other women’s men….next time my husband makes fun of me for not liking other women I think I might show him some of these comments. All I can say ladies is I wish you find your prince charming and that you lose him because a girl pulled these same shinanigans and stole your man. It’s always fun right until of course it happens to you.

8 and 10 are the most despicable things to do to someone. I can’t believe you people can live with yourselves with such horrible advice. That really hurts someone when its played like such a game as this. Horrible advice that hurts people and makes them vengeful!!!!!

Decent advice. Some of this stuff is cool and has worked on me in the past, but a lot of it is unnecessary I think. I recommend just being upfront “I find you attractive…do you want to come to my house tonight?” I realise that’s scary and risky for your reputation. The cool thing is though if he judges you for being a slut then you have eliminated a judgemental guy and if he doesn’t judge you or gossip about you, you have a attractive non-judgemental guy and you could keep him as a long term lover or boyfriend.

As a guy, I agree with the other male commenter – all of this would work, and in fact has worked, on me. I’ll also reiterate: be careful with the disinterest thing – you can show some, but anything longer than a day or so and you’ll stir up too many insecurities in the guy, and his pride will override his attraction for you and make him disqualify you.

Pffffttt…. next. None of this would work on me – you’re 0 for 10. And I can’t believe how many things you admitted that women do. Wear sexy clothes to attract, but you can still call him a pervert??? Ignore him??? “No” guy can resist _______??? What an incredibly sexist and demeaning article

This is exactly why men are losing interest in women completely. You are game-playing, insincere, lying, self-conscious users who have no regard for other human beings. Keep on believing that you’re irresistible, if that’s what it takes to prop up your fragile self-esteem.

The trust is women have nothing positive to offer men. Nothing. You’re all cost and no benefit. We’re better off without you. Please get over yourselves and leave us alone.