Over, Under and Through

When you see or feel a sense of family, what comes first, do you need to observe it first or feel it or would just a thought be enough.

This weekend I felt all of it and I think using we makes sense. It was another added layer to our sense of family as we ventured out. We had it planned, family game night, now that our Friday football nights have ended.

It had been a while since we had all of us together. The planning was easy this week. We are all into the school schedule routine. Heads down to the five week mark as our first benchmark.

The boys did it. They came out strong. They saw their hard work pay off. I could not do what they do and give them major props for listening to us as we push the importance of staying on track.

We are trying to instill as I have written and have observed that staying the course is easier when the bumps happen if you’ve been working your plan up to that point. My college kids helped verify my premise as I saw them want to derail the entire class or job due to one bump.

The flight or fight response kicks in and it’s easier to just blow it up and level the playing field. Yes, for the moment that is correct when the bump in the road happens. It is later with experience and age you realize that is not how it really works in life.

My mission with my family and my sense of family has shown me if you accept the hurdle and work through it you come out stronger, wiser and on the right path. Life throws you under sometimes to force change, to force you to work through issues and rewards you with the over moments.

My birthday is tomorrow. It is not spent under in the hospital with a brain bleed, not speaking or being understood. It will be spent as an over milestone having gone through more than I thought I could handle, that my body could take. Why, I’ll never really know.

I do know this. I would not be this forty-seven year old resilient woman if I had not worked through it all. To my family, my friends, my colleagues, my students and my mentors I thank you for guiding me still.