5 great date nights that don’t require a babysitter

I’m a firm believer that new parents need to figure out a way to get out of the house and have some dates. Best case scenario, that’s only one night a week. More realistically, that’s one night a month. Or never.

So, what about all those other nights? Here are five fun date-night ideas that don’t require a babysitter. I’m assuming that you can get your baby in bed and have the date afterward. I put my kids to bed around 7:30 and can trick them into bed at 7pm if I’m really on my game (because they can’t really tell time yet and we have black-out shades in their room).

Rookie Parents alone together

I’ll follow-up with a post for sneaking in dates when the kids are awake.

First step, put the baby in bed.Second step, choose your own adventure:

Make dinner after dinner but in a fun, sexy way. Enjoy the dance of cooking together and let it last the whole evening.Recipe for date: mix food with ambiance and cooking stuff. Average difficulty but planning is required.

(if cooking is too much effort) Share a fancy dessert and wine by candlelight. Make it something decadent like souffle or fondue.Recipe for date: dessert plus beverage of choice. Pretty easy, if you get carryout or grocery dessert, prep is minimal.

Invite friends over for a post-bedtime double date with board games or video games. If your friends have kids, try a half-sleepover. If it fails, then next time you can stick to your child-free pals.Recipe for date: let your friends bring the game and you just clear the plastic toys off of the couch. Easy!

Turn an ordinary evening in front of the TV into a movie date with junior mints and a big bowl of buttery popcorn. Netflix, Amazon, iTunes, and many cable plans now have onDemand options so you don’t even need to plan ahead very much for the film. Make it a series.Recipe for date: film plus movie snacks. Easy! (since its so easy, remember to put on a clean shirt so your partner knows its a date)

Hop in the car (yes, with your baby!) and go to a drive-in movie if you’re lucky enough to have one nearby.Recipe for date: must have nearby drive-in, cooperative baby, and vehicle. Advanced.

Third, calculate how much you saved by not using a babysitter this time, and treat yourself next time!

We have done the post-bedtime double date. It is really fun. The trick is to get your kids to sleep at someone else’s house or getting the other couple’s kids to sleep at your house. With some effort, it works great. When the evening is over, scoop up the kids and go home. They may not even wake up.

We have done the drive-in movie…it was such a nice change to see a “new” movie and have theatre popcorn! My son sleeps pretty well in the backseat, although he didn’t fall asleep until it got dark (which was an hour or so past his normal bedtime) but it was totally worth it to feel like we were on a date! Totally recommend!

I just found this website; it’s GREAT! I’m a rookie school teacher mom. I’m home with my 15 month old after a month and a half of him being with his grandparents. I am THRILLED to have him home, but it is making date nights hard. Now, I have some great ideas. THANKS!!

The drive-in was our absolute favorite date night when Brooklyn was little. Now that we have baby number 2 we reminisce about the days when we only had one and could pop her in the car and go see a movie — not so easy to do with an almost 5 year old;)

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