Monday, July 28, 2014

From my Special Needs Children BlogAnd lots of fun ideas for any parent, any relationship, any life.Waking up is fun, if we let it be.Yes!!!........We can change our lives. And the Chinese said it a long , long time ago: the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step.

With your child, what little variation can you create on something they already like and enjoy doing?

How can you, today and every day, make learning and play a big part of your interaction?

And remember:
Learning is not the memorization of facts, how far the Earth is from the Sun, say, though kids are often gaga about facts.

Learning is what?

Learning is the perception of a difference that makes a difference. That we didn't know about before the learning took place.

It's crazy fun how many possibilities:
A kid sucks their thumb.
Great, How about sucking the first, second, ring and little finger, one at a time?
And the fingers on the other hand.

A child is whining.
Great.
Can you whine in a higher pitch, a lower pitch, a staccato pattern?

Time of bedtime story.
Great.
Rest at the end of several sentences,
or a page,
and let's make up a little different story.

Or let's look at the pictures upside down.

Food:
How many ways are there to hold a spoon?

Can a piece of lettuce be a spoon?

How many things can be a spoon?

You get the idea:
Learning and play and imagination and getting out of the box, of how we thought about things before: this is a daily game.

You can play with your child.

You can play with your habits.

How many different ways can you sit, and shape your back and neck and ideas and breathe as you read this?

Can you write about this after,
with one hand and then another.

Can you draw a picture that you wouldn't normally "waste" time doing as the post reading "game?"

What is it you'd like to learn, and how many new and delightful ways could you go about that?
email me, if you want, with ideas and results.chriselms@vom.com

Recently, it was gentle, there was a breaking
and
underneath it all a love
for the parted one.

She had her ideas,
her wounds
her reasons,
some understood,
some not
( by both her and me,
the human heart is mysterious...
you know that)

She came
We loved
There were grand moments
There were spectacular moments

She left

Who is to say
that that
is not wonderful, too

This can't be explained in words,
and bittersweet is not what I'm talking about

gratitude
and wistfulness
are closer

but
the closest I can come
is that a couple of weeks ago
I got caught out in a torrential rain
on my bike
and soon,
I was as soaked as you could possibly get
and then it
was just
"what the hell,
bring it on"

pure joy

broken heart:
bring it on

there is a love in there,
too

a deep and sweet love

...
I hope your next heartbreak is
has some of these same flavors
cheers
Chris

Friday, July 04, 2014

Anxiety is crunching in
contracting
holding your breath
tightening into a ball, into the fetal position

shitty posture is usually
a lot of the same

so,
let's have some fun

for starters: take off your socks

now,
the beginning refrain,
to test as we go along:

bend your knees and
easily reach down toward the floor
do NOT stretch or effort,
see how far you go with great comfort

stand up, and then...

stand next to a chair,
or in a doorway

use the door jamb or chair, if you need to

stand on your left leg ( if you are right handed,
otherwise, reverse)

with the help of your right hand, bring your right knee toward your chest

do this a number of times,
at least ten

this way
[ slowlyeach time different, slightlylooking for the pleasure each timesensing down to the foot on the floor, and all the vertebrae of your spine, and your breathsmiling, a little or a lotaware of what you are seeing alsoi.e. awakehappy & learning]
( this is the how to do the movement chorus--
for each movement I will now insert
[movement chorus] )

try the bending again:
bend your knees and
easily reach down toward the floor
do NOT stretch or effort,
see how far you go with great comfort

2. set up as before, holding the right knee toward the chest
and now
bend your chest forward to touch, or almost touch your knee,

when your chest is as close as it can get,
straighten your back, bringing your knee along if you can

then go back and forth:
knee close and upright
knee close and bending forward

[ movement chorus]

rest[[ rest chorus:be relaxed,maybe even walk aroundfeel your height in standingbend your knees andeasily reach down toward the floordo NOT stretch or effort,see how far you go with great comfort]]

that's the rest chorus

3. stand in the doorway or next to the chair again:
alternate,
knee toward the chest
and
holding your ankle
bringing the foot back
pushing your belly out
arching your back
looking up
and breathing is fully
and
smiling

[movement chorus...
do it at least 10 times]

rest,
[[ rest chorus]]

4. Do all the above with the opposite hand

what?

like this:

on your left foot
right hand on chair or door jamb
( it's good to let go sometimes and play
with balance,
or
do the whole thing without help--
advanced form,
no help,
eyes closed.

ha)

ok,
stand on your left foot
right hand helping with balance if need be

hold your right knee with your left hand
and bring it toward your chest
easily

and then
bring your knee back, so you can catch your
right foot behind you with your left hand
and make this arch,
as above,
belly forward
breathing in,
smiling,
eye up a bit
feeling the arch and lengthening in your spine

[ movement chorus]

rest,
[[rest chorus]]

5 etc
you can switch to the other side,
and
I'd recommend not switching for awhile and taking a walk
slightly lopsided, just to feel the learning.

do recall that all the [[rest choruses]] including trying
out again bending easily to the floor

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About Chris

I've had a full life of love and learning and laughter.
The love of my life appeared on my mother and son's birthday, March 24, in 2015.
On March 5, 2016 we were married.

We are training in Co-Active coaching. Look it up. It's trained the most people in the world and is the most honoring of the client.

In Co-Active coaching we honor your need to go within, discover your strengths and values and resources and become even more amazing. No advice: just deep, deep, deep listening

In the past I've learned from and loved: Being Present, the Gurdjieff work, the work of Byron Katie (60 days with her), the Feldenkrais Method® & the Anat Baniel Method,
and Energy for Success, a 5000 year old system

Most of all, love has guided and blessed me. You can see it in the pictures.

If you want more love, more presence, more happiness, more success of a delighted and present nature, contact me.
And enjoy the blog, no matter what.
Cheers,
Chris