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“My husband is always on vacation with his dad”

I really need advice on my 5 year marriage. We are 29 and 31 and recently my husband has been going on vacation with his father for two weeks every year on the other side of the world. Recently, when my husband came back from vacation, literally the day after, he tells me that he is now planning on going on another vacation with his dad in Mexico very soon.

We have never gone on vacation together even though I have asked him on many occasions. It just seems unfair to me that he has just come back, we are in the middle of closing on a new house and I guess I’m angry because he makes no effort to plan any adventures or vacations of any kind with me. Yet when his dad pays for him to go with him somewhere, he jumps at the chance with no thought at all to invite me too.

His dad remarried a few years ago and has a bad marriage with his current wife, and he always seems to spend a lot of time away from her. I am worried that he is staring to influence my husband to do the same thing. As far as I am aware we have a loving marriage, I just get frustrated why my husband can’t understand that it upsets me and I feel excluded from his life. I know that if my parents invited me on vacation they would make sure my husband was invited too as we are married and to be honest I feel that marriage should include experiencing new things and places with each other. Am I wrong?

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Ok that’s really weird. I think it’s time you two went to marriage counseling. ESPECIALLY if you are buying a house together. If he won’t go with you, go alone. If nothing else it will help you get out of a marriage where your husband didn’t even think of considering asking if his wife could go on trips with him. When something really bad comes along, where will he be? Oh honey, I didn’t know I was supposed to show up at the hospital for our kids birth, your car wreck, one of our parents deaths…. You get where I’m going here. That’s beyond clueless and a huge communication issue.