Dr. Jayakumar

Psychologist, Chennai

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My favorite part of being a doctor is the opportunity to directly improve the health and wellbeing of my patients and to develop professional and personal relationships with them....more

My favorite part of being a doctor is the opportunity to directly improve the health and wellbeing of my patients and to develop professional and personal relationships with them.

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Dr. Jayakumar is a renowned Psychologist in Purasaivakkam, Chennai. Doctor is currently practising at Narayana Hospital in Purasaivakkam, Chennai. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Jayakumar on Lybrate.com.

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Dear, that is natural. She is stressed. She is stressing herself with her own negative thinking. That is called obsession. Obsession related anxiety increases her bp. You need to consult a psychologist for counseling and if required a psychiatrist for further treatment. Take care.

Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of Olive.+ 3 drops of Scleranthus + 3 drops of white chestnut + 3 drops of Mimulus mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach.
If problem continues consult me online.

Congratulations that you want to quit smoking. Tobacco consumption, either through smoke or other edible forms, is always harmful. The desire to quit is a good starting point. The best way to quit is to know more about the ill-effects of tobacco. The knowledge is astounding and scary. That information itself should help you to want to quit. The tobacco tar in cigarette smoke lines your lung with huge patches that make that portion dysfunctional. Your oxygen carrying capacity is jeopardized, and breathing is impinged. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. There are more than 4000 harmful chemicals in cigarette smoke!!! You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. Then you need to identify why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. You may take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world – you can start the cessation all over again. Don’t be discouraged because it is not too late even now to reverse all the ill-effects of smoking. As Mark Twain once jocularly said, “giving up smoking is easy; I have done it many times”. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.

In order to answer this question, it is important that we first discuss what depression is. Feeling sad, lonely or low is very common. So how can we point out which is depression and which is sadness? Well, sadness is a fleeting feeling and is the most normal reaction to loss or life’s struggle. Depression, on the other hand, is pretty permanent (may be not permanent, but it may last really really long or may occur very frequently, if not consulted with a professional). It is so overwhelming and inexplicable that these mental feelings start involving physical symptoms as well. Depression can keep an individual from leading a normal and an active life.

Depression, if not treated, may take an even worse form and might possibly end at suicide. Clinically, certain symptoms that occur persistently might point towards depression.

Here comes the part about guilt and shame. One of the very common symptoms of depression is feeling of unnecessary guilt or shame. Guilt is a feeling of remorse or regret for violating an internal value. Shame is an overall feeling of self contempt. While both these are pretty normal feelings for a normal individual, for depressed individuals, these feelings get magnified to unimaginable extents.

How are these manifested?

Constantly apologising for things one hasn’t done

Blaming themselves for everything

Thinking they don’t deserve happiness

Feeling inferior or unworthy

Feeling of being a burden

The next plausible question is why does this happen?

These feelings generally tend to go back to childhood. People who have faced childhood traumas or have been physically, emotionally or sexually abused are more prone to feelings of depressive guilt or shame. In the young age, they do not really have proper understanding of the situation and hence they end up blaming themselves. During adulthood, they keep believing the same, thus causing intense feelings of guilt and shame. A lot of counselling can bring such individuals to the understanding that whatever happened to them as children was never their fault.

Also, it has been researched that the region in the human brain associated with shame and guilt is unusually active in depressed individuals. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychologist.

First off all do half hour meditation and yoga in morning and don't think so much about those people and first off all you have to feel you are the best and do things which excites you like dance, eat, hair style, bike riding like whatever. You want to do and this negative things you are feeling is because you are not happy inside and you are not confident so be confident and happy. You can do any thing in this world. Don't make your own perceptions about peoples what they are thinking. And please do meditation and yes I want to give you advice to watch sandeep maheshwari you tube videos they might help you. If this will not help I can give you homeopathic remedies without sideeffect. Because mental health affects physical health.

Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Physical health and mental health are inter dependent. They are related to each other. You should learn to be always happy, thereby providing an attitudinal change to even your body. Physical exercise, entertainment, games etc can boost your body immunity and thereby mind also will be happy. This also ensures your appetite and therefore you eat well. All these things together will improve your overall health. Take care.

Saif and Kareena show you how to bridge the age gap perfectly in relationships

There’s a lot to learn from the love story of the 10th Nawab of Pataudi, Saif Ali Khan, and the Bollywood actress, Kareena Kapoor. Despite the 13 year age gap between them, the two have a very strong and mature relationship. So what keeps the two sticking together through thick and thin? Here’s how Saif and Kareena have bridged the age gap to emerge as a powerful couple.

1. They know that age is just a number

For Saif and Kareena the 13 year difference is not an issue. They know that what matters in the end is not how old you are but the kind of personality you have. Both Saif and Kareena have a mature personality, and they gel perfectly well with each other. This is the reason why they are able to connect and maintain a strong and healthy relationship.

2. They care about each other’s family

Kareena has a very strong relationship with Sharmila Tagore, Saif’s mother. Not only that, Kareena has also made sure she is on good terms with Saif’s children from his previous marriage as well. Accepting each other’s family and past is a very important step in making a relationship work. Not only that, their families act as a support group for them, which helps them going on despite the difference of years between them.

3. They share common interests

Another thing that makes their relationship work is the fact that they share several common interests, which help them in coming closer and making their bond stronger. Saif and Kareena often go on trips together, attend cricket matches together and make it a point to go out for regular romantic dinner dates.

4. They respect each others’ views

Nothing could be more important in a relationship than respecting each other’s decisions. The Pataudi family tradition had women changing to Islam after marriage, with even Sharmila Tagore converting after her marriage. However, Kareena did not want to, and Saif fully supported her decision. Even their marriage ceremony was a mishmash of their differing religions. So, if you want your relationship to work, be very open and accepting of each other’s differences and views.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work

Psychologist, Gurgaon

Just look at the picture with attention of the chronic smokers lungs which is on the cigarette box, whenever you inhale, also be aware of the process of smoke entering your mouth to lungs, you will quit it in some time.

Besides the pills, you can go for counselling to get to the root cause of the problem and develop skills to feel confident and in control. Meditation yoga homeopathy and ayurveda are excellent alternative treatment options too which dont have side effects.

Children tend to get depressed because they want to achieve high marks. These targets are often set by the schools and parents. Are these marks in line with your child's abilities and interests? If they are comparing them selves with their peers, then this is also a trap for them to feel depressed about their performance. Helping your child to be realistic and also think beyond the rat race and competitive mentality will help to ease off some pressure. Remember, that sound mental and emotional health is very important, without which your child will not be happy in his life even if he's in a well earning job. Help your child to think out of the box and look at different options and combinations. Also take him for an aptitude and psychometric test which will identify his academics core strengths and guide him to overcome his depression too.

I would emphasise that I am not suggesting that homeopathy should be used as the only treatment in serious depressive illness where there are feelings of wanting to die or a risk of suicide, or in mental health problems such as bipolar disorder (manic depression), schizophrenia or severe postnatal depression.

I am sending some coping methods for anger, if you still have, consult a psychiatrist. All the best
1. Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything â and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
2. Once you're calm, express your anger
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
3. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
4. Take a timeout
Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.
5. Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening â or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.
6. Stick with 'I' statements
To avoid criticizing or placing blame â which might only increase tension â use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes, instead of, "You never do any housework.
7. Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
8. Use humor to release tension
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though â it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
9. Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy. You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses â whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
10. Know when to seek help
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.

Of course anyone will have a problem when they are sick with fever. In fact whenever we are sick we regress into a child like state and expect everyone else around to think for you and take decisions. It is a temporary lapse and not to be taken seriously. So take heart and when you are sick it is okay to surrender and submit yourself to the care of the nurse or parent etc. until you heal or recover.

hello karan,,, if your wife suddenly gone through such a grt change better to go for holidays and give her some time talk to her patiently,,, she needs a talk,, from symptoms u told me I don't think she needs medicines,, talk with her mother also try to know if she has any such type of complaints previously also,,, there are several homeopathic medicines to help such cases,, you can consult me online,, there is no side effects of taking these medicines,, but counselling with medicines works best

Based on what you say he seems to be having alcohol dependence with personality disorder. Alcohol dependence involves intense craving or desire to drink alcohol. People drink for pleasure or rationalize it on external factors like family problems, work tension, etc. They drink continuously, i.e. Almost daily or even weekly once or twice with withdrawal symptoms, tolerance, bodily damage, etc. Due to alcohol they and/ or others are affected significantly.
You need to consult a psychiatrist and go for 3 steps of de addiction. 1st is detoxification, when alcohol is stopped and the withdrawal is made smooth with minimal discomfort, 2 nd is maintenance and further deaddiction when the physical problems and psychological state of the individual is maintained and anti-craving drugs started 3 rd rehabilitation, when relapse prevention is the goal, while maintaining deaddiction. All the best.