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Thank you both for your replies, I found that I feel a bit more normal for a few hours if I keep busy. But at the moment I can suddenly burst in to tears and feel so depressed. But I have to try and keep it together as I have my 89 year old mother to care for, and if she sees me upset it worries here.

I agree with Karena. At the beginning don't think too far ahead and scare yourself, tackle one day at a time, or an hour by hour if need be on really bad days. In time your strength will build. Focus on smaller, shorter goals, baby steps and you will learn to cope. You're not alone here xx

What are you planning to do over the winter? It's a 'club' no-one wants membership to but have no choice, but I'm grateful to have this group and have made good friends here. Every post does indeed help. xx

Hi Betts I found counselling helped me to look at things in a different way,its not a miracle cure there isnt one,and the first couple of sessions were very difficult but it got better.Also being here,just being able to write as well as find people who do understand made the world seem less lonely.Noons of us knows how many years,even a day feels too long sometimes especially in the beginning of this journey so taking it a day at a time is difficult enough.getting out of bed putting a brush through your hair cooking a meal going too a shop are all things most people do without thought but are achievements for someone in the early days of grief,so rather than thinking of empty years try to focus on just getting through today.

Hi Mandic.I don't know what the business is but perhaps if you can do it,its the best thing.give yourself chance to breathe. :hug:I agree it is always sad when you see so many more people suffering,but at the same time thank goodness we have this place to come too.

Just popped in to say that it is now 13 weeks since my darling died. I have kept the business going through the season, but have now decide to close for the winter. I am so sorry so many people have had to join us, it sucks...but it also helps, especially to read other people's posts...so keep posting everyone...it helps xx

HelloI just found this forum, so I'm off for a read through in a moment. I'm in the situation of being an only child, and both parents passed within a year of each other, single Mummy too. It's overwhelming sometimes, getting lighter, but feel as though I'm the only person in the world with this dynamic. Thankyou for already showing me I'm not alone in this x

Thank you Karena for your reply, the thought of having to live for years without him seems unbearable for me at the moment. I keep wondering how much longer i will have to live for without him.My Dr has suggested I have counselling so I will give it a try .