"Ask Birdie..." We Broke Up... Can I Get My Toys Back?

Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

Dear McBirdie,

This might be a weird question, but it's been driving me nuts. I recently broke up with a long time boyfriend and we're on okay terms, but I really want to get my sex game back from him. I bought it when I wanted to spice things up a bit, but we never used it - but I don't want to be tacky! Is this okay?

Thank you,

Game Player

Dear Game Player,

I love getting sex toy etiquette questions! In general, things from a break-up can be split up pretty equally, but sex toys are there own category of problems. Of course, you have equal right to them, but if it was used as a couple, how much do you really want to bring it into your next relationship? If you're talking about a particularly great vibe that was always predominantly yours, I would grab it. But if it is a vibrating cock ring that will always remind you of better times, I would vote that it is far better to just let it go. It is not as though they cost the earth.

For a game, though, it depends on whether or not you played it. If you two haven't even looked at it, as it sounds from your mail, I would say go ahead and grab it the next time you're grabbing up some books and other non-territorial things from him. If you have played it, though, grab a sexy new game here.

Best of luck joining the world of the singles - and finding a guy who wants to play all the best games with you!