BJ Shea

BJ'S BLOG 07/16/13 "Friends with Benefits"

Last week during Group Therapy, we receive a message from a Rock-A-holic name Jason who needed some advice on “friends with benefits.”

He recently broke it off with a girl and shortly after he received a text from her practically begging for a booty call. He let her come over because after all, sex is sex he thought.

The next morning, she wanted to know where the relationship stood; so he was honest and straightforward with her and she went on her way.

Some of his friends have told him that he was being a jerk that was sending mixed signals. Jason wanted to know why he couldn’t have a “friends with benefits” situation with an ex.

There is the famous saying, “you don’t pay a prostitute for sex, you pay her to leave” and it sounds like that is what he is looking for, someone to leave without an emotional attachment.

A big difference between most men and women is that some woman associate sex with love while some men don’t see that correlation. These women need to understand they can call a man for a booty call, but just because they like the sex, it doesn’t mean they like them in that way.

Ladies, you are killing yourselves when you do things like this because you are assuming men think the same way when on average, we don’t.