That didn't finish posting. My fiance has two other girls, one looks exactly like his ex, the other exactly like him. My baby girl came out with all of his features and I'm really upset that my child may look like the oldest daughter. I feel horrible saying it, but she's not the most attractive little girl. Brown eyes, Black hair, wide nose, long face, stick body, large teeth, and really tall. I'm 5'3", rounded face, blue/green eyes, blonde hair, and curvy. I dont want my daughter to look like her because for one, we dont need another child to look like him, and two, I want people to look at me and my daughter and actually think we're related. Do babies grow into more characteristics from the other parent or am I stuck with another little Michael? So far my daughter has brown hair, grey eyes which are sure to change, stick body, wide nose, and big hands/feet so I'm sure she'll be tall. The only thing she has is a rounded face and that's mostly because she's still a newborn. :(

That didn't finish posting. My fiance has two other girls, one looks exactly like his ex, the other exactly like him. My baby girl came out with all of his features and I'm really upset that my child may look like the oldest daughter. I feel horrible saying it, but she's not the most attractive little girl. Brown eyes, Black hair, wide nose, long face, stick body, large teeth, and really tall. I'm 5'3", rounded face, blue/green eyes, blonde hair, and curvy. I dont want my daughter to look like her because for one, we dont need another child to look like him, and two, I want people to look at me and my daughter and actually think we're related. Do babies grow into more characteristics from the other parent or am I stuck with another little Michael? So far my daughter has brown hair, grey eyes which are sure to change, stick body, wide nose, and big hands/feet so I'm sure she'll be tall. The only thing she has is a rounded face and that's mostly because she's still a newborn. :(

Both of my children didnt start to show more of their own features until around 3 months and each one is growing into their own everyday. At first my son looked more like me but is now starting to look more like his dad (he is 4) and my daughter still looks like a little mini me.

Both of my children didnt start to show more of their own features until around 3 months and each one is growing into their own everyday. At first my son looked more like me but is now starting to look more like his dad (he is 4) and my daughter still looks like a little mini me.

That's a relief. I'm hoping that happens with my baby girl. I think her hair will probably lighten up once she goes outside more, And MAYBE she'll end up keeping a colored eye. I just hate hearing every day from him and his mom "Oh, she looks just like Mariah! she's so beautiful!" of course they think mariah is beautiful, it's his child and her grandchild. But being that I'm not related to her at all, I have a different insight and I really dont like it. Even the daughter who looks exactly like her mom is one of the cutest little girls I've seen, so I know it's not a spite/jealousy thing as to why I don't find the oldest attractive.

That's a relief. I'm hoping that happens with my baby girl. I think her hair will probably lighten up once she goes outside more, And MAYBE she'll end up keeping a colored eye. I just hate hearing every day from him and his mom "Oh, she looks just like Mariah! she's so beautiful!" of course they think mariah is beautiful, it's his child and her grandchild. But being that I'm not related to her at all, I have a different insight and I really dont like it. Even the daughter who looks exactly like her mom is one of the cutest little girls I've seen, so I know it's not a spite/jealousy thing as to why I don't find the oldest attractive.

First of all, congrats on the baby. Second of all, your concerns about your week old baby do seem very shallow. Children - and adults - change all the time! Enjoy your time bonding with your little one, rather than being concerned with whether people will recognize her as being yours or not.
I am Indian, so brown skin, black hair and brown eyes and my husband is blond and blue eyed. My son has thick brown hair and blue eyes with very light skin. Often people ask me if I am the nanny and if I am bothered by it (or just want to make them uncomfortable), I offer to show them my baby pictures or even watch the birth video on my phone! Again, enjoy your girl, and remember you decided to have a baby with your fiance, knowing full well what he looks like!

First of all, congrats on the baby. Second of all, your concerns about your week old baby do seem very shallow. Children - and adults - change all the time! Enjoy your time bonding with your little one, rather than being concerned with whether people will recognize her as being yours or not.
I am Indian, so brown skin, black hair and brown eyes and my husband is blond and blue eyed. My son has thick brown hair and blue eyes with very light skin. Often people ask me if I am the nanny and if I am bothered by it (or just want to make them uncomfortable), I offer to show them my baby pictures or even watch the birth video on my phone! Again, enjoy your girl, and remember you decided to have a baby with your fiance, knowing full well what he looks like!

I do love my LO to death, I just hear the same things all the time and it gets to me. My fiance is attractive, but his characteristics on a female don't really work well! I'm definitely trying to not worry about it, but when I take the baby out to grandma every evening, it's the exact same comments. She is changing day by day though, so I'm hoping she's getting those mommy looks!

I do love my LO to death, I just hear the same things all the time and it gets to me. My fiance is attractive, but his characteristics on a female don't really work well! I'm definitely trying to not worry about it, but when I take the baby out to grandma every evening, it's the exact same comments. She is changing day by day though, so I'm hoping she's getting those mommy looks!

It makes me sad to think that you're studying the gift you've been given and concluding that she's ugly:(. Girls have enough trouble with self esteem and body image without their mother (or step mother) critiquing as well.

It makes me sad to think that you're studying the gift you've been given and concluding that she's ugly:(. Girls have enough trouble with self esteem and body image without their mother (or step mother) critiquing as well.

I'm not saying my little one is ugly AT ALL. She's absolutely adorable. Her looks now look cute as a baby. I'm more worried about her grown-up looks. Because Mariah (the older one) is bullied a lot at school for her boyish looks and I dont want my baby to have to go through that. Mariah isn't ugly, she's just not attractive in MY eyes because of all the boy characteristics she has. I know it's terrible to judge, but as a human, I do it. anyone I look at, I have a judgement in the back of my mind. You can call me what you will for it, but it's just how my mind works. My poor baby is blotchy right now and still so adorable. I'm just thinking of her future looks and I'm hoping she develops something that actually looks like me.

I'm not saying my little one is ugly AT ALL. She's absolutely adorable. Her looks now look cute as a baby. I'm more worried about her grown-up looks. Because Mariah (the older one) is bullied a lot at school for her boyish looks and I dont want my baby to have to go through that. Mariah isn't ugly, she's just not attractive in MY eyes because of all the boy characteristics she has. I know it's terrible to judge, but as a human, I do it. anyone I look at, I have a judgement in the back of my mind. You can call me what you will for it, but it's just how my mind works. My poor baby is blotchy right now and still so adorable. I'm just thinking of her future looks and I'm hoping she develops something that actually looks like me.

Ok, heres an opinion. you put it out there so you don't need to attack when it doesn't support you. Wow!! You're baby was born with no imperfections or genetic mutations or life threatening illness. Poor Mariah, if she knew what her stepmom thought. Mariah is not through puberty and neither is your child so you cant compare yourself as a grown adult. You have no idea what dimensions she will have. The qualities you describe are very much model qualities. Tall, thin, big teeth....dark hair and eyes and skin are no curse either. And if your kid isnt bullied for how they look, it will be because of their name, shoe size, hair texture, voice. Sounds like you may be upset your child looks a bit ethnic. That's ok, you will learn that she is the most beautiful thing on earth soon. Btw, my daughter was born dark skin and eyes and dark bald patched hair. I am the opposite. She now has beautiful long chestnut hair, light olive skin and hazel eyes that look like light honey in the sun. My son lightened up also within a few months.

Ok, heres an opinion. you put it out there so you don't need to attack when it doesn't support you. Wow!! You're baby was born with no imperfections or genetic mutations or life threatening illness. Poor Mariah, if she knew what her stepmom thought. Mariah is not through puberty and neither is your child so you cant compare yourself as a grown adult. You have no idea what dimensions she will have. The qualities you describe are very much model qualities. Tall, thin, big teeth....dark hair and eyes and skin are no curse either. And if your kid isnt bullied for how they look, it will be because of their name, shoe size, hair texture, voice. Sounds like you may be upset your child looks a bit ethnic. That's ok, you will learn that she is the most beautiful thing on earth soon. Btw, my daughter was born dark skin and eyes and dark bald patched hair. I am the opposite. She now has beautiful long chestnut hair, light olive skin and hazel eyes that look like light honey in the sun. My son lightened up also within a few months.

I just can't close my mouth. You chose that man to have a baby with, did you not? So if you were concerned about what they might look like why did you get pregnant? You see his other children and think one is not attractive you are allowed to do that. But to worry about your child's looks when you have a week old sounds to be healthy baby is crazy. The most beautiful baby can turn into a not so hot adult.

I just can't close my mouth. You chose that man to have a baby with, did you not? So if you were concerned about what they might look like why did you get pregnant? You see his other children and think one is not attractive you are allowed to do that. But to worry about your child's looks when you have a week old sounds to be healthy baby is crazy. The most beautiful baby can turn into a not so hot adult.

I'm the same poster from above (the Indian one)...I normally don't comment when I have nothing constructive to say, but after reading your replies to all the comments you received, I can't help but think you're a teenager (pre-teen maybe?) and I can't stop shaking my head in disbelief! Maybe start saving up for your daughter's future therapy sessions...??

I'm the same poster from above (the Indian one)...I normally don't comment when I have nothing constructive to say, but after reading your replies to all the comments you received, I can't help but think you're a teenager (pre-teen maybe?) and I can't stop shaking my head in disbelief! Maybe start saving up for your daughter's future therapy sessions...??

Ok so you shouldn't have had a baby with an ugly guy especially after you saw what he produced. Also, the oldest might be unattractive to you, but that doesn't mean that she is. Obviously you think you're hot ****, but some people may beg to differ.

Ok so you shouldn't have had a baby with an ugly guy especially after you saw what he produced. Also, the oldest might be unattractive to you, but that doesn't mean that she is. Obviously you think you're hot ****, but some people may beg to differ.

Your daughter is 1 week old. Her looks will change dramatically between now and being an adult. Your step daughters looks will also change dramatically between being a tween and an adult. Relax and do not ever say a word of this to anyone in your real life, I don't think you'll like the response you get.

Your daughter is 1 week old. Her looks will change dramatically between now and being an adult. Your step daughters looks will also change dramatically between being a tween and an adult. Relax and do not ever say a word of this to anyone in your real life, I don't think you'll like the response you get.

Newborns always change so drastically! I have a daughter, and from the moment she came out I instantly saw how beautiful she is. She's now 3, and even more beautiful now than the day she was born. I'm sure I will feel the same way with my new baby too. I don't want to sound mean and harsh and stuff, but it sounds like you're VERY attracted to yourself. Be thankful you have a healthy daughter. Another thing, no baby is born with curves. At least not the curves I think you're talking about. I hope that if your daughter doesn't meet your physical expectations, that she doesn't catch on to your negative views.

Newborns always change so drastically! I have a daughter, and from the moment she came out I instantly saw how beautiful she is. She's now 3, and even more beautiful now than the day she was born. I'm sure I will feel the same way with my new baby too. I don't want to sound mean and harsh and stuff, but it sounds like you're VERY attracted to yourself. Be thankful you have a healthy daughter. Another thing, no baby is born with curves. At least not the curves I think you're talking about. I hope that if your daughter doesn't meet your physical expectations, that she doesn't catch on to your negative views.

Wow ur horrible and I even feel bad for u. Shallow is not even half of what I think. To answer ur question, ur daughter will change tools constantly as she grows. especially within the first yr. My son one day looks identical to me and the next looks just like dad.

Wow ur horrible and I even feel bad for u. Shallow is not even half of what I think. To answer ur question, ur daughter will change tools constantly as she grows. especially within the first yr. My son one day looks identical to me and the next looks just like dad.

@nursemeek: not sure if a troll, but definitely immature, in my opinion. What irks me is that after all the constructive comments she'd received, she didn't stop to say "maybe I need to get a grip on it!", instead just continued to wallow in regards to looks and perceived beauty. Would have been smarter to google whether a one week old grows up to be attractive or not :/

@nursemeek: not sure if a troll, but definitely immature, in my opinion. What irks me is that after all the constructive comments she'd received, she didn't stop to say "maybe I need to get a grip on it!", instead just continued to wallow in regards to looks and perceived beauty. Would have been smarter to google whether a one week old grows up to be attractive or not :/

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