To Allow Or Not To Allow? - Atheist Nexus2018-03-20T04:26:29Zhttp://atheistnexus.org/forum/topics/to-allow-or-not-to-allow?commentId=2182797%3AComment%3A916029&xg_source=activity&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI have heard of that book and…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-23:2182797:Comment:9194332010-07-23T19:40:52.374ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
I have heard of that book and plan on reading it. I also am interested in the companion book. I believe it is called Raising Freethinkers.
I have heard of that book and plan on reading it. I also am interested in the companion book. I believe it is called Raising Freethinkers. You are absolutely right. No…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9165232010-07-20T20:57:43.853ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
You are absolutely right. No matter how much we mentor our offspring they are their own people. Regardless how your kids grow up as far as religion,I think you and your fiance have the right attitude. You hit the nail on the head about parents not knowing what they are doing. Fact is,it is unpredictable with each one. I think having fears is a sign of a good parent. My husband is very good at not indoctrinating her like you said. He is basically introducing her to his faith but knows she won't…
You are absolutely right. No matter how much we mentor our offspring they are their own people. Regardless how your kids grow up as far as religion,I think you and your fiance have the right attitude. You hit the nail on the head about parents not knowing what they are doing. Fact is,it is unpredictable with each one. I think having fears is a sign of a good parent. My husband is very good at not indoctrinating her like you said. He is basically introducing her to his faith but knows she won't automatically become christian. He also knows you can't make anyone be one. He is been extraordinarily accepting of my atheism. He has never tried to change me nor I him.<br />
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Best to you also and thanks for the wise words. Now - don't count my chickens…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9162602010-07-20T14:03:00.267ZJeffrey P. Murphyhttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/spectrm312
Now - don't count my chickens before they hatch. Our second is on it's way, so this is a two-fer roll of the dice. We're hoping we've loaded them, but still, we won't know how it works out until they're 16-18...possibly older.<br />
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No parent knows what they're doing (My parents get offended by this statement, but they don't realize...or pay attention to....it's scope). We're all stumbling blind. I still haven't made up my mind how I would feel if my children indoctrinate themselves. I have a lot of…
Now - don't count my chickens before they hatch. Our second is on it's way, so this is a two-fer roll of the dice. We're hoping we've loaded them, but still, we won't know how it works out until they're 16-18...possibly older.<br />
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No parent knows what they're doing (My parents get offended by this statement, but they don't realize...or pay attention to....it's scope). We're all stumbling blind. I still haven't made up my mind how I would feel if my children indoctrinate themselves. I have a lot of hopes and dreams and concerns - all parents do. I also have a multitude of fears - all parents do.<br />
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I wind up having to take the same approach I do to religious who fret about drugs being present and the giving out of condoms: "If you're 'so right', then what are you worried about?"<br />
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To close, I wouldn't dare tell you what to do. And I'm not about to let someone tell me what to do. But I can share my intentions and let you weigh on your own. I would offer that if you and your husband discussed much of this so much in advance, you're likely a good parent to. It doesn't sound like your husband wants to indoctrinate your child, so I wouldn't worry too much.<br />
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But thank you for the words of encouragement. Best of fortunes to you in your struggles. thank you...I am checking out…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9161812010-07-20T11:19:26.223ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
thank you...I am checking out that link now.
thank you...I am checking out that link now. Thank you for the wonderful a…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9161802010-07-20T11:18:54.866ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
Thank you for the wonderful answer. I think you and your fiance are exceptionally good parents.
Thank you for the wonderful answer. I think you and your fiance are exceptionally good parents. good point:)tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9161782010-07-20T11:16:31.409ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
good point:)
good point:) There are some great conversa…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9160562010-07-20T06:49:14.349ZMichellehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/Michell
There are some great conversations on this in the Parenting Little Heathens group (I didn't see it suggested yet, hope I didn't miss it) <a href="http://www.atheistnexus.org/forum/topics/should-i-let-my-children-go-to?groupUrl=parentinglittleheathens&amp;id=2182797%3ATopic%3A662913&amp;groupId=2182797%3AGroup%3A5777&amp;page=3#comments">Here</a> is on of them.<br />
My idea is to teach critical thinking and expose them to all the different religions and thoughts on the subject.
There are some great conversations on this in the Parenting Little Heathens group (I didn't see it suggested yet, hope I didn't miss it) <a href="http://www.atheistnexus.org/forum/topics/should-i-let-my-children-go-to?groupUrl=parentinglittleheathens&amp;id=2182797%3ATopic%3A662913&amp;groupId=2182797%3AGroup%3A5777&amp;page=3#comments">Here</a> is on of them.<br />
My idea is to teach critical thinking and expose them to all the different religions and thoughts on the subject. I'm, of course, an atheist an…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9160292010-07-20T05:56:26.402ZJeffrey P. Murphyhttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/spectrm312
I'm, of course, an atheist and my fiance is a secularist with some ancestor-worship stuff going on...I don't think she thinks about it much.<br />
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She's concerned that my anti-theism will rub off too much, and frankly so am I. But I find that if a person is educated and taught critical thinking, religion will slough off of them easily. My fiance defends my atheism to her family when necessary. We have a 9mo old right now who we're enjoying and looking forward to continuing raising him. With no…
I'm, of course, an atheist and my fiance is a secularist with some ancestor-worship stuff going on...I don't think she thinks about it much.<br />
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She's concerned that my anti-theism will rub off too much, and frankly so am I. But I find that if a person is educated and taught critical thinking, religion will slough off of them easily. My fiance defends my atheism to her family when necessary. We have a 9mo old right now who we're enjoying and looking forward to continuing raising him. With no baptism, no circumcision, and no church group, we've started him off secular, all right. She wants him to have a Quran, a Bible, a Torah, etc (though I have to add the Greek and Egyptian myths to the list and she wants to get some of the books on Eastern myths) and I couldn't agree more. Let him read them and then discuss them.<br />
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I plan to do a lot of what Richard Feynman's dad apparently did - question him. Make him think. Make him enjoy thinking. If a child develops a love for exercising that gray muscle between their ears, they'll continue exercising it - even when they *want* to turn it off. I want to show him the beauty of the Hubble telescope photos, of DNA and it's behaviors, of the immune system, of the mosaic quality of a body - so many millions of types of bacteria all to form one body...<br />
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The universe is so much more beautiful than anything religion has to offer - and more mysterious, but also more complete. Ensure that your children learn *ALL* of your husband's religion - you might teach your former religion...but encourage them to question it all...to question everything. It's one of many things children are amazing at doing - being curious. I refer to the version of sup…tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-20:2182797:Comment:9158182010-07-20T01:20:19.463ZAgeOfAtheists14http://atheistnexus.org/profile/secularorbust
I refer to the version of supposed (myth-based) end times;<br />
2012, Mayan calendar said so... When this comes up as a question from usually spanish, white, xtian-based I guess, youngsters, I say:<br />
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"did they teach you that in school?" in this case the little one went to a (public-American) school<br />
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"no"<br />
stinger:<br />
"..then it's false, not true, it's just TV; tvizfake"<br />
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if only the adults would grow up
I refer to the version of supposed (myth-based) end times;<br />
2012, Mayan calendar said so... When this comes up as a question from usually spanish, white, xtian-based I guess, youngsters, I say:<br />
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"did they teach you that in school?" in this case the little one went to a (public-American) school<br />
response:<br />
"no"<br />
stinger:<br />
"..then it's false, not true, it's just TV; tvizfake"<br />
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if only the adults would grow up :)tag:atheistnexus.org,2010-07-14:2182797:Comment:9088972010-07-14T13:48:23.487ZJennifer Ricehttp://atheistnexus.org/profile/JenniferRice
:)
:)