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Another Wife Beater Exposed November 20, 2006

In the most shocking news Rahul Mahajan has turned out to be a wife beater. It has been only 3 months since they were married and this is the pathetic scenario. Ofcourse, this is not news to many who have been through the same and experienced the same trauma.

Most husbands who have a very good image in society, educated, suave, when exposed as wife beaters, it is very incomprehensible to digest this fact. They beat their wives in a fit of rage mercilessly and then later offer apologies and explanations. But the irreversible damage has already been done.

Generally women are too embarrassed to admit that they are victims of domestic violence despite of their education & elite background they come from. They refuse to acknowledge it lest it taints their status/reputation.

It took Shweta 3 whole months to expose him and come out with the truth. This is her dismal plight. It is not easy for an educated, a woman who has a successful career to accept this appalling fact in the open–that she too is a victim of domestic violence.

Read the following link and see the pictures of Shweta, those bruises, those dark circles, those cut lips and those sorrowful eyes.

The pattern was clear well before Rahul’s last attack. Only three weeks ago, after the couple had a disagreement over Rahul’s plans for the future, ‘‘he hit Shweta very hard’’. The blow left a big bruise on Shweta’s thigh. She flew back to Delhi, afraid of ‘‘something worse happening to her’’ because the couple lives alone in Mumbai.

Early blows
Shweta got to see the violent side of Rahul very early in the marriage. Her ordeal had begun almost as soon as the couple came back after their honeymoon in Seychelles in mid-September.

Upon their return, the couple visited Tirupati and stayed in a hotel, where a trivial matter caused Rahul to lose his temper. The source said Rahul began ‘‘hurling abuses at Shweta, calling her a wh**e and accusing her of having destroyed his life. He called her a Vish Kanya, all the while throwing things.’’ A friend of theirs was in the next room and heard everything.

Shweta was so traumatised after this incident that she couldn’t stop shaking for hours.

After every assault, there were apologies and explanations, said sources. Rahul would tell her that he had an ‘‘anger management’’ problem and that he owed his temper to his ‘‘upbringing and his genes’’.

Shweta, a qualified pilot, is the daughter of a retired brigadier. She grew up in a very protected, fairly conservative environment. Given the controversies surrounding Rahul, Shweta’s father wasn’t very keen that she marry him, say sources, but Rahul’s persistence seems to have influenced her mother.

‘‘He would beg Shweta to marry him and constantly request her mother to convince her,’’ said sources. The last call that Rahul made on the night Bibek Moitra died was to Shweta.

But things have changed dramatically since, transforming the once bubbly, girlish, Shweta to a woman who wears a permanently haunted look.

According to sources, she has been trying to convince Rahul to agree to a ‘‘quiet separation’’.

But Rahul isn’t willing — such a move could adversely affect his political plans and the ongoing court case on drugs charges. But the couple is, for all practical purposes, separated. Shweta refuses to go back to Rahul’s Mumbai flat and lives in Delhi under the constant watch of her mother.

I hope Shweta will be healed soon from her physical and emotional trauma. She needs lot of emotional support during this hour and hope her family esp her Mom is already giving that. It would be best to give her lot of better options and leave the solutions for Shweta herself. She will have to pick her healthy choices. Regarding the Domestic Violence Laws are to be abided by all but many people just get away with it. So just becareful.
I read this friendship of Shweta and Rahul was 13 years old so its very much understood this happy, bubbly Shweta losing of her charm and now feeling haunted. The emotional trauma is very dangerous. Dont let yourself to be isolated even if you feel like to be left alone. Never hesitate to ask any help. I am sure God is alwsys with you. Dear sister please take care of your emotional health and take as much help as possible.
All our best wishes are with you to get well soon.

Well then Kiran. You took all those dimwits into task and entangled them in their own foolish childish word games.

Shweta, I guess has given a fine stern warning to her husband by exposing him and implying to him that he needs to behave. Or else…..he knows the consequenses. He may get away with the drug suppy allegations…but once a woman is beaten–all hell breaks loose for a lifetime.

Like Leo Tolstoy said “All happy families resemble one another, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Similarly each abusive relationship is abusive in its own way. There is a fine balance of power between the abuser and abusee that lends many shades of gray to their relationship. To reduce all of that to black and white is over simplistic and does not help anyone. It takes perspective to see an abusive relationship for what it truly is – something that friends or family privy to only one side of the story most often lack.

There are a lot of generous and principled people out there who will root for the victim and do their utmost to rescue them from a toxic relationship. While they may be successful in extricating them from it, they can’t do much to change the relationship copybook that the abusee creates for herself – it is fairly common to see the very same abuser-abusee pattern repeat itself in future relationships.

The medevacing of the victim by concerned and well meaning outsiders is akin to treating a slightly gangrenous wound by amputation. A more holistic approach would be to seek and remedy the root cause of the condition. Not many victims get the support they need to reach an honest assessment of how they contributed to and fomented their own victimness. Until they are able to do so, their self esteem will continue to be depleted causing them to gravitate to their comfort zone where being abused is a natural state of being.

Paul: You are right. Caustic relationships take place because of the way people were brought up as a child. Someone who sees from their childhood their fathers or neighbors beating their Mothers or other ladies be sisters or other feamles( most prevalent in Indian Society; not that Westerners do not beat their wives but then the police would arrest them for violating the local laws of nuisance to public as a public policy)believe that is the right way to correct a female while the reason is that the man is a total coward who has no guts to fight with some one who is of similar weight and sex and health like they pit against in boxing Fly weight to fight with fly weight and heavy weight against another heavy weight. Thus there is a lack of self-esteem in them that makes them and their whole family to be looking to be a slave to the Bride Groom and their demands of dowry and assume that beating the wife is really a symptom of love since they apologize later on. However, where do we change this cycle of slavish mentality and abuse? I would prefer that the culprit husband be taken out and punished in Public Square like they do in Saudi Arabia and whipped sound than seeking such legal redress meant for civilized society. While this may sound too drastic and uncivilized, you can’t train a poisonous snake to be nice. These are venomous snakes that do nothing but harm to the wife and the whole society around and their future off-springs. I am tired of seeking civilized solution to such uncivilized practice.

Paul: You are right. Caustic relationships take place because of the way people were brought up as a child. Someone who sees from their childhood their fathers or neighbors beating their Mothers or other ladies like sisters or other females( most prevalent in Indian Society; not that Westerners do not beat their wives but then the police would arrest them for violating the local laws of nuisance to public as a public policy)believe that is the right way to correct a female while the reason is that the man is a total coward who has no guts to fight with some one who is of similar weight and sex and health like they pit against in boxing Fly weight to fight with fly weight and heavy weight against another heavy weight. Thus there is a lack of self-esteem in them that makes them and their whole family to be looking to be a slave to the Bride Groom and their demands of dowry and assume that beating the wife is really a symptom of love since they apologize later on. However, where do we change this cycle of slavish mentality and abuse? I would prefer that the culprit husband be taken out and punished in Public Square like they do in Saudi Arabia and whipped sound than seeking such legal redress meant for civilized society. While this may sound too drastic and uncivilized, you can’t train a poisonous snake to be nice. These are venomous snakes that do nothing but harm to the wife and the whole society around and their future off-springs. I am tired of seeking civilized solution to such uncivilized practice.

There is lot new here. Read charily!! I am sure you learnt some new things, met new people and hope you find your wife and innocent naive little cute daughter truly blessed in her responsible mother’s company and nurture, provided you progress your thinking. Not that it makes any difference or a damn.

I found this wonderful site recently and I can relate what most abused women here have written. Living with my Husband for just 5 years has shown that there is no hell somewhere in the skies but it is on the earth, not going into details – on who did what and all the reasons I want to write some of the abuses I am facing for years.
– All solutions to his problems started with physical abuses on me, all the rage was shown on me, literally. Slapping, kicking, Spitting on my face list can go on…. I know most of you will wonder how I am living with this man. Its a long story, probably coming to an end very soon, he will face the law very soon.

Not to scare anyone here, but friends be careful. This is no joke. Take care.

Hello CTP,
Its my concern for you. How are you doing? I feel for you. You dont deserve abuse. Please email or make that first phone call whenever convenient to you. Being in your situation I very well understand and believe you always. Please get out of your situation and look for help. Help is available always around you. Call us we are just phone call away. There is hope and happiness for us in this world. My sincere request for you to get out of that hell is to make your first phone call. People are available to listen to you, realte to you and help you in whatever you need. God answers all your prayers. Take great care.

I see that these other postings are quite old.
Alot of ppl say they stay cuz hey love him……… I went to college, had a great job… met this guy I thought was great. Loved all his tats, and his bad bot attitude. He was so not my type tho, at all. He wasnt good looking. he was too skinny, went to aa meetings, as well as na. Well, dummy me, thought I could help.
Long story short, if its in the gutter, leave it. I was beaten, humiliated, and raped again and again. I hate to say it, but I have been sodomized. It was so bad, that I passed out the first time. This went on daily, I was convinced that I was watched by his family members daily on everything that I did. My phone calls were monitored…….. (i WAS brainwashed)…. my clothes picked out……….. i can go on………. I finally put this prick in jail….. if ur serious and wanna know wut to do………. email me….