family name when hold memorial service

When a woman get married and her family name becomes her husband’s, her spiritual body enters into the spiritual line, a kind of pipe through which energy comes from ancestors to offsprings, of her husband’s family line. It can be said her spiritual body has entered in the husband’s family register. This is called “a transfer of spiritual register.”

get married 結婚する

spiritual body 霊体

ancestor 先祖

offspring 子孫

family register 戸籍

transfer 移動

There may be some women who are anxious about her parents’ home after getting married and want to hold memorial services for their ancestors. But, strange to say, as a woman whose spiritual register has already been transferred to her husband’s gets involved deeply in her parents’ spiritual line, she comes to quarrel with his husband gradually.She can’t stand a lot of trifle stuff his husband does. Her husband comes to gradually offended by what his wife says to him.

be anxious about A Aを心配する

strange to say 奇妙な事に

get involved 関わる

come to~ 〜するようになる

quarrel 口喧嘩する

gradually 段々と

stand 我慢する

trifle stuff 細かいこと

be offended 気に障る

Behind this phenomenon, there is a tug-of-war state between the ancestors of her husband’s family and those of her parents’. Ancestral spirits of each family try to defend their offsprings who hold memorial services for them in this world. In view of the children of her own in the future, for women to devote herself to the husband’s family line leads to her own happiness. If she refuses to do this, she is likely to get divorced after all.

phenomenon 現象

tug of war 綱引き

state 状態

defend 守る

in view of A Aを考慮に入れると

devote 捧げる

lead to A Aをもたらす

refuse 拒む

be likely to~ 〜しそうである

get divorced 離婚する

after all

So, when married women hold memorial services, the family name on the memorial tablet must be her husband’s. Even if she doesn’t like her husband at heart, you have to do this as long as you have children, because there is a deep karma beyond your imagination. But remember. When there are some problems and friction with those around you about smoke of incense sticks, you don’t have to hold memorial services, for this is also karma.

memorial tablet 霊位

even if S+V たとえSがVするとしても

at heart 心では

beyond imagination 想像できない

incense stick 線香

friction 摩擦

those around you 周りの人々

don’t have to~ 〜する必要はない

,for S+V というのもSはVするからです

If you have gratitude to your ancestors, it is also good to just think about them in your heart. But good points of using incense sticks are its smoke and scent, which I really feel reach spirits. In this sense, you can also make use of hot tea instead of incense sticks. You boil water wholeheartedly, make tea, put it on a shelf with nothing on, and say grateful words in your heart, which is also a good practice. In any case, if you start to pay attention to your ancestors everyday in some way, you definitely feel some change compared with the time you were not conscious about them at all.