May 27, 2015

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So why don't women approach men? There are a whole bunch of reasons for this:

Attractive women don’t have to. Many women don’t have time to get to know all the men who have already made the first move, let alone feel it necessary to go meet more.

Approaching is hard! So is putting yourself out there and risking embarrassment and humiliation. For a lot of guys, until they go through a Love Systems bootcamp or the SuperConference, approaching can make you super-nervous and isn’t always successful. Women feel awkwardness and embarrassment more then men, so it’d be even harder for her to approach.

Some women worry that approaching a guy and making the first move will be emasculating for him.

Some women find the idea of making the first move a big turnoff and un-feminine.

Most women are actually really bad at hitting on men. [Trust me on this one. I do consultations for women and wrote a book a while ago, and this is a consistent theme.]

There are a lot of other reasons, but those are the five biggest.

Now…the Twist…

Women DO approach men. Actually, about 75% of courtships are initiated by women. They just do it differently. Here are some examples of how women “approach” men:

Eye contact

Smile

Walking by somewhere where she knows you’ll see her

Standing near you so you start a conversation with her

Order a drink at the bar when you do

Etc.

There are about 20 of these signs that we go over in more depth in our programs, but more important than listing them is to know how to get a woman to give you those signals. In other words, what attracts a woman from afar?