People often refer to older single's as 'leftovers.' Well, I am no leftover, nor do I deserve to settle for someone that is.

Here's What I'm Working On:

1. Get down to my goal weight

2. Set my finances up for a better future!

Past goal accomplished in 2012:

Date 40 men!

Monday, June 11, 2012

Mr. Awkward # 33

Some activities are just more fun when you are with people
you enjoy being around. Or if you are by yourself. Friday night was one of
those moments where the activities themselves weren’t wholly unenjoyable or
bad, they were just made that way by the present company. So, I met this guy
online a few weeks ago. He is divorced and recently moved back to Utah from
another state. At first he seemed nice. Last week he gave me his number but it
was kind of weird because he said he doesn’t give it out often and he specified
when he would be around so I could text him. I took my time. Once I got around
to it however, he became Mr. Clingy real fast. He texted often and it was kind
of annoying. I don’t know how to describe it exactly, it was just slightly
overbearing. Also, he started to seem a little ghetto to me. I don’t know how
else to say that. His English was poor which is a real turn off for me. He told
me that all through school he was picked on but now he lifts weights so he can
fight back. He mentioned this on the date too….but by then I could see why he
was picked on. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves though.

So, he continued to text over the next couple of days and
set up a date for Thursday night when he would have some time off work. He lives
kind of far away but offered to come in to the city. He is actually from the
part of town that I am from. At the same time, while he grew up here and graduated
from high school here, he couldn’t seem to figure out just where in town I was.
He refused to meet me in the middle and I refused to let him come pick me up.
He finally settled on a night of fun at….wait for it….Boondocks!! Don’t get me
wrong, the activities there can be fun, but it took me right back to teenage
dating and actually my first date which was at a similar establishment I
believe. He has apparently been out of the dating loop awhile anyway so that
was fine. It ended up being a bit of a drive for both of us but we set up a
time to meet and waited for its arrival.

When I arrived and saw him, he was not what I expected. For
some reason I was picturing some white guy tryin to be gangsta and all hard
core. Turns out, he was just a nerd! Shallow of me I know, but I could just
tell he was a little on the awkward side. At the same time, he seemed to
embrace his awkward so good for him. This is where the daily beatings throughout his school days comes in. Speaking of awkward though, when he bought
our tickets, he went right for the “unlimited fun” passes. Yikes, they were $25
a piece which meant he spent a total of $55 after tax. That’s kind of a lot of
money!! I felt very pressured to have fun and make sure he was having fun. He
had driven a long way and then paid a lot of money. Right away though, I could
tell I just did not want to be there.

Since we had unlimited passes, it seemed like we should try
just about everything. So, we started off with a favorite activity of mine, the
Go Karts! I was excited cause it was something I could kind of do on my own. I
know, horrible of me. But I knew I wouldn’t have to talk to him. He ended up
going out quite a bit ahead of me so I just stayed back at a nice pace, far
away from him. I enjoyed my slowish ride. I didn’t want him to catch up to me
so I tried to pace it just right and I guess I did. When it was over I said, “you
were just too fast for me!” Hahaha. He said he almost caught up to me. Whew!
Next we played mini golf. I kicked his trash but I think he thought he was
winning the whole time. He was pretty surprised at the end and refused to tell
me his score, only that I had won. Yeah, I got a hole in one and several in
two. It wasn’t that great of a course but the playing of it was okay. Nothing
too horrible that I remember. Next we headed inside and played laser tag. This
was obviously his element. He couldn’t wait to shoot guns! I had brought my
purse in with me though and he kept commenting on how I should have left it in
the car. I didn’t want to though. There was some girl stuff I needed and other
things, ya know what I mean? Wow, his nosiness about it was getting a little
annoying when we went into the laser tag room and he said that afterward we
were going out to my car to put my purse in there. Umm no. I refused. He said
he’d stop bugging me about it. Thank goodness!

While we waited in line for laser tag we were forced to talk some more. He asked me how I liked the online dating site where we met. I was pretty positive about it because I have had some good experiences. He asked how often I date and I told him 3 or 4 times a week. I didn't want to lie! He told me that I was the first person he met off of there. Yikes! More pressure! Anyway, laser tag. I just did my best to stay away from him
honestly. Ugh! I let him go do his thing. He obviously likes shooting people
which is fine. I usually like the activity but he was like a kid at Christmas!
It was no surprise that when we went to use our 20 tokens in the arcade
afterward he was excited about the shooting games. They do nothing for me but I
did a couple to make him happy. He is kind of competitive but in an annoying
way. We played this basketball thing and I made him get his own little booth
cause I didn’t want him near me. He made fun of me afterward because I only
made two shots. Lame! I had fun trying and I wasn’t worried about that but I
thought it was kind of rude of him!

Once the tokens were finally used up he asked if I wanted to
do anything again. I chose the Go Karts. On the way out he was giving me a hard
time about not wanting to do the water ride thing. I think he was trying to be
flirty but it was really obnoxious. I told him he could do it and I would
watch. He didn’t. On the Go Karts he wouldn’t let me stay away this time. He
went super slow so that I would catch up. When I passed him he ran me into the
side. Ugh! I was definitely not in the mood. Then he wondered why I stayed WAY
back. I told him I didn’t want him to run me off the track. Afterward I told
him I was tired and that I should probably go. He walked me to my car, gave me
an awkward hug and told me he had fun. Later that night he texted and said that
he had fun and hoped to do it again. I did not respond. I haven’t heard from
him since. Whew! Let’s hope it stays that way.

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The Experiment: 40 Guys...One Year

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