5 Reasons You Should Inject Kinky Sex Into Your Relationship

Whether it’s been a few months or a few years, every relationship hits a blasé lull. At one point or another, things become boring. You might even second-guess the relationship’s future.

This period of feeling bored and unsure is completely normal. However, only strong couples make it through this trying time. Sex can definitely be a major factor in this bump in the road. If your sex life is stagnant and stale, your relationship will follow suit. Rev up your sex life, and you may notice the benefits immediately.

Let’s talk about five reasons why you should have kinkier sex right away.

It Helps You Learn What You Like

The thing about plain Jane sex is that it never lets you explore different fetishes and fantasies. If you branch out and get a little kinky, then you will soon learn what you are really into.

Many people accept the fact that they know how to orgasm. So, they take the same route to get there every time.

However, what if there was an even better, more explosive way for your body to achieve an orgasm? You’ll never even know about it, if you don’t explore a little and give new things a try.

You don’t necessarily need to take things to a completely X-rated level to journey into new sexual territories. Start off slow. Do you need a few ideas? Here’s more easy ways to get started with your newly found kinky self.

It Tests Your Boundaries

People should challenge themselves in order to grow. This concept is no exception in the bedroom. You can test your boundaries in more ways than one by becoming kinkier.

First and foremost, you can strengthen your trust and faith in your partner through becoming naughty in bed. In order to follow through with your fantasies, you have to let your partner know about your desires.

It takes a decent amount of courage to bring your fetish or desires up to your partner, as it is an extremely vulnerable part of your life. However, in telling your partner about this fantasy, you both can build up your connection and confidence in one another.

Secondly, it takes even more courage to act on any fantasies, whether they are yours or your partners. It can be nerve-wracking to try your first fantasy out for size. Just remember that ultimate pleasure can be at the end of the tunnel. So, you and your partner have to give it a try to get there.

This concept leads into another similar reason why you should become kinkier.

You’ll Grow Ss S Couple

In order to have kinky sex, you have to confide in one another. Especially with BDSM, one partner must be the bottom or submissive one.

This person has to trust that the top, or dominant, person will respect the boundaries that have been set, and only stop at the utterance of the safe word.

Once you and your partner experience something so passionate and unique, you are sure to grow as a couple. You will believe and respect each other more, and this will carry on outside of the bedroom, as well.

You’ll Create Broader Horizons Ahead

Part of the reason that a deviant sex life is so appealing is that it can spice up a boring, unmoved sex life.

It can be comforting and safe to keep things as is you expect and know so well, but this leads to a sex life that is stuck at a standstill.

Once you explore kinky sex and all it has to offer, you will never feel bored again. There are so many different items and concepts that you can play with in the erotic world.

Just to name a few, there is biting, hair pulling, erotic massage, handcuffs and orgasm denial. These can range from relatively PG rated, to completely X-rated, but whatever they are rated, you are sure to never feel bored in the bedroom again.

In addition to feeling like a kid in a candy store, you will also feel quite euphoric once you explore kinky sex.

You’ll Be Happier Overall

Kinky sex floods the body with endorphins and happy chemicals. Those who partake in lusty sex claim to achieve a sense of euphoria unmatched by anything else. Whether it is from spankings or orgasm denial, various forms of raunchy sex are sure to make you feel just as wonderful as you did during those first few sexual encounters you had.

Having erotic sex can help your mood and overall well-being improve greatly. Sex in general can help boost the immune system, improve moods, and decrease anxiety.

So, can you imagine all of the benefits of revving up your sex life? Find out by changing things up and enjoying passionate sex again. What do you have to lose?

Bringing up the fact that you want to get raunchy in the bedroom can be intimidating. You might fear about your partner’s reaction. But, remember, in order to know your sexual fantasies, you have to give them a test drive.

Here are our tips for bringing up this change in your sex life with your partner:

Read Erotic Novels. There is always the ever-so-popular 50 Shades of Grey, but there are plenty of other options, as well. Determine what type of scenes and objects really turn you on the most.

Give Your PartnerA Copy Of The Same Book You Read. Ask them what they think about it. And, then ask them if they have ever had any wild sexual fantasies they would want to give a go.

Do Not Change Drastically. Try sensual sex a few times sporadically while maintaining your usual sexual routine. Learn about a few easy ways to nonchalantly become naughty in the bedroom.

Hopefully we have convinced you to give kinky sex a go. Chances are, if you have been leading a milk-and-cookies-type sex life, you have no idea where to get started.

Sure, watching a passionate movie can give you some ideas, but let’s get real.Avoid the popularized Hollywood-type raunchy, and learn about how you can easily become kinkier in the bedroom.

Tips For Becoming Kinkier In The Bedroom

Be Sneaky – The best way to introduce raunchier sex without making a big deal of it is to gradually introduce concepts of it into the bedroom. One of the letters in BDSM stands for dominance, which includes being handcuffed or restrained. While whipping out handcuffs might be a bit much right away, there are a few other options.

The next time you are in a missionary-type position where you are facing your partner, grab their wrists and let your body weight sink into their arms. They might be able to fight it, but this simulates what they would feel like if they were to be in handcuffs or restraints.

If She Likes It – Once she becomes into the restraining, you can try some other forms of BDSM, such as spanking.
Wait for an opportune moment, like when you are doing it doggy-style, or she is bare-assed in the kitchen, because we mean, who doesn’t cook pancakes in the buff?

A light little spank can be a good indication of how she would handle more intense, kinky sex. Remember, though, that a person’s pain tolerance increases as they become aroused. So, the spank in the kitchen might give her a little sting, but she will welcome it openly in the bedroom.

The Safe Word – For any newbies or hesitant bawdy first-timers, it is imperative that you and your partner establish a safe word. When you partake in BDSM, one person will be dominant and the other submissive. The dominant person will have complete control over the submissive person. But, if the safe word is uttered than the dominant one must cease immediately.

Make sure that the word is obscure enough to not be a word that you might say during sex. Saying something like, “No” or “F***” would not be ideal, as people often say those words during sex unexpectedly.

Play The Part – As you progress and become more comfortable with the thought of loud sex acts, you can even take them outside of the bedroom. No, we are not condoning sex in public, we are condoning getting sexy in public.

Role-playing is a quite popular fantasy that you can fulfill easily enough. One special way to role-play in public is to dress up, go somewhere where no one will recognize you, and pretend like you do not know each other. Have your partner pick you up or vice versa, and stay in character at all times.

Toy Around – Sex toys can also be an innovative and lewd means for you to bring into the bedroom. Before jumping right to the massive clitoral stimulator, though, take it easy with some massage oils.

Make sure that you both are comfortable branching beyond traditional sex with a sensual massage. It might sound too PG-rated, but taking it slowly will only enhance both of your experiences with kinky sex later.

Once the sensual massage is comfortable, start to explore beyond with a small vibrator. You can encourage her to play on her own, and this might make her even more confident with her inner-kinky.

There are so many positive aspects associated with steamier sex. Don’t let the taboo get to you. Your relationship is sure to strengthen, and your sex life itself will thrive.