I don't think I know the difference between asking for help and being a burden to someone else.

I'm like the go-to person in my family and friendships, so I'm always in helper mode. And unless I'm being taken advantage of, I never have looked at someone as being a burden when they've asked for help.

But, when I need help with something I'm automatically inclined to figure it out without the help of anyone. I feel like I'd be a burden to someone else by asking for help with something I could figure out myself. It's not a pride thing, I don't think. Idk what it is.

They cling on to the past and will hold major grudges like children...

And they take offense to ev-ery-thing... huge cry babies

yessssssssssss

again, i know i can take offense to a lot and be defensive.. but i can take a step back.. look at things.. and be like, 'okay i was wrong.. okay it wasnt that serious.. okay i overreacted..' (not saying i do this 100% of the time.. i have pride..) after most of my arguments i think like, 'shoulda just ignored.. didnt need to be that serious' and sometimes i will talk to the person about it to resolve it.. even if i dont feel completely at fault.

I don't think I know the difference between asking for help and being a burden to someone else.

I'm like the go-to person in my family and friendships, so I'm always in helper mode. And unless I'm being taken advantage of, I never have looked at someone as being a burden when they've asked for help.

But, when I need help with something I'm automatically inclined to figure it out without the help of anyone. I feel like I'd be a burden to someone else by asking for help with something I could figure out myself. It's not a pride thing, I don't think. Idk what it is.

welcome to the world of us virgos lol.... it's not a pride thing, it's a virgo thing

They cling on to the past and will hold major grudges like children...

And they take offense to ev-ery-thing... huge cry babies

yessssssssssss

again, i know i can take offense to a lot and be defensive.. but i can take a step back.. look at things.. and be like, 'okay i was wrong.. okay it wasnt that serious.. okay i overreacted..' (not saying i do this 100% of the time.. i have pride..) after most of my arguments i think like, 'shoulda just ignored.. didnt need to be that serious' and sometimes i will talk to the person about it to resolve it.. even if i dont feel completely at fault.

they are so sensitive and act on emotion…

aint no way…..

exactly.

i knew a cancer that held a stupid grudge against me for months because I rolled my eyes at her..

she deserved it though

mind you this is a grown arse woman and i was a teenager at the time

and then out of the blue all of a sudden she acts all friendly with me like nothing happened

I've read that they are literally my opposite (whats virgos opposite?) and i really liked that.. i deal with many people that are nothing like me but I'm diverseish.. and opposites attract

but no. i can't do them.. i can't do people who hold grudges.. especially over BS. we need to be able to move on.. life is short. most of the time with them.. it took me contacting them.. or a LOT of time..

OMG yessss MD I agree about cancer women. They will tell others' business in a heartbeat...and be secretive and private w/their own things. At my last job, I had to start ignoring this girl because all she wanted to do was talk about her best friend, best friends man, who's dating who, who's slept with who. Entirely too gossipy.

@coco Pisces are our polar opposite. I was in a long-term relationship with a Pisces. I came to the realization that it would NEVER work. Even though opposites attract, we were TOTAL opposites...to the point that it caused friction and tension in our relationship.

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