(Closed) Any other bees "wanting but waiting?"

DH and I are recently married. A couple of months ago I went off of my birth control because of some less than desirable side-effects. Now we NFP and use condoms on days when I’m fertile. Charting has definitely made us a bit baby crazy! We constantly go back and forth on whether or not we want to continue to wait. We’ve decided to wait at least until my DH finishes his PHD, gets a job, and we move. That should occur next August. But I don’t want to wait!! lol Anyone else want a baby now, but waiting? What are your reasons for choosing to wait? What helps you deal with waiting?

@ImaStarr: I hear ya with not wanting to wait! We are coming up on our 1st anniversary this month and it is driving me CRAZY to think we still have to wait to try, especially since we pretty much know that we are probably going to have fertility issues. We thought that we would be ready to try after a year, but financially we are definitely not stable enough to start just yet 🙁 With a career change for my DH and me not being able to find a job, I have a feeling we will be waiting at least another year or two unfortunately. It is so hard to have to wait, but I just think how much better it will be when we finally do start TTC. Instead of worrying about money or freaking out about how we are going to afford everything, hopefully we can just enjoy it! I want to enjoy the entire process and not be crazy stressed.

DH and I just passed our first anniversary in Aug. I’m so ready to have a baby and DH is too. We talk about it all the time. But we would really like to have a house first which we are looking to do in the spring. Also pay off DH’s car and student loans. But we could do it now if it did happen. I’m on birth control at the moment. Its really hard for me two wait right now. One cousin just had a baby in July, another one is due in Oct and another in Nov. And I’m all like why not me?

My husband and I just got married in August. I’m going off birth control at the end of the month, but we will continue to prevent using other methods until next spring. We’re attending a wedding in Japan in March and I can’t pass up the chance to gorge on sushi… raw fish is of course a no-no during pregnancy.

I’m passing the time by indulging in my insane urge pre-plan every little detail of my future pregnancy. I’m looking up daycares and school districts, putting together plans for a future nursery, and reading every article about pre-natal health I can get my hands on. It’s a compulsion I swear. I was the same when I was planning our wedding. Keeps me busy though!

I don’t want a baby now, but I can tell you why I dont’ want one now. Because I have loans to pay, I want to do some traveling first, and I’m not looking forward to living paycheck to paycheck, and I’d like to get a better living arrangement than what I have now.

We’re got married in June 2012 but we are waiting until spring of next year to TTC. I went back to school for a short program and that’s when it finishes, hence the waiting. I wish we could start TTCing right now but it isn’t practical!

We are wanting but waiting. Mostly for financial reasons, we just bought a house and are building up our savings again. I would also love for my student loans to be paid off but that is two years from now and we are thinking about trying when we reach our short term savings goal next summer.

We’re not even married yet, but I’m already struggling with this. We’ve agreed to wait 2-3 years after getting married (wedding is 8 Feb 2014) while he builds his career and we settle into our new life together and get ourselves ready financially. That said – waiting was definitely a ‘head’ decision and not a heart one for both of us… he seems to be getting almost as broody as I am (didn’t know guys could?!!) with his cousins & friends kids – which obviously doesn’t help my situation 😛 And I know he will be SUCH an amazing dad…blah. Money suuuuucks! 😉

We are waiting until next month so that if I do get pregnant right away, it won’t effect my job. I have a contract position that is up next July. Even though a month is not that far away, I really want to start now, but DH doesn’t see the point. He says we can wait one more month.

Another June 2012 “wanting but waiting” bee! We’re in the middle of a long-distance move and want to be settled into our new location for a while before TTC. We’re looking at Fall/Winter 2014, which seems soooooo far away, but it’s just best for us for wait right now. 🙂

In the meantime, I’m keeping myself occupied with our new adventure, learning about our new city and taking lots of vacations that just won’t be feasible with a LO!