Is it okay to have a shower for a second baby?

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I am having a sprinkle for my second child. I had a boy and now I am having a girl. The purpose of the sprinkle is not to do a full blown shower, because large items are not needed. However, having a different gender basically means you still need a lot of stuff. Also, I think each baby deserves a celebration of some sort and it is nice to enjoy yourself with family and friends before the birthday arrives.

My group of friends does a "sprinkle" for second babies. It usually involves going out for brunch and we usually chip in for a gift card to be used towards a larger gift (like a double stroller) that we know they'll need once they have two. We still celebrate, but it's not as formal as the big shower for the first baby.

A shower is a lot like a birthday party in the fact that if you didn't want/need anything you could always ask that they put a note on the bottom of the invitation that no gift is necessary...that way they can still bring one if they want, but there is no pressure for them to bring one either. :)

My husband and I have 5 sons which include a set of twins and am now pregnant with my 6th son all spaced 2-3yrs apart. I once believed that you should only have another baby shower if the next baby is of the opposite sex or if its multiples. So each pregnancy after the second(the twins were second) I did not plan a shower and told my family I felt that having another shower was being a freeloader but my friends and family said that was dumb and no matter how many kids you have you get a shower for each one so babies 3 and 4 my showers where a surprise. Now with this pregnancy I am helping to plan my shower because no matter how I feel about it my family are going to do it anyway. But I never expect big gifts such as cribs, strollers, car seats ect I feel those items are the responsibilities of the parents to be to purchase. My family loves to get together so I guess the baby shower is really just an excuse for us all to hang out.

I have a 16 month old son and a daughter due in June. I have absolutely nothing for a girl. I would never ask someone to throw a shower for me, however, if someone offered to throw one I would graciously accept. There are things that I need for this baby that my first is still using or need replacing already. I totally expect to purchase most of the things I need myself and am fine in doing so. :)

Unless there are extenuating circumstances, like a large gap between children or if the father is different and his family feels the need to throw one because it's his first child, I don't see the need for an actual Baby Shower. I think a Sprinkle should only be thrown if it is a different gender, and Diaper Parties could happen for any child, because obviously those are not things that can be reused like the normal things that you would get at a shower. I think it's tacky to expect people to get you something else, especially if it is the same gender, or it hasn't been that long since the older child. That's why you should keep things in storage once they are too big to use them, or not get gender specific colors. If people choose to get you something on their own because they want to, that's one thing. But to expect people to do it for you I think just seems greedy.

I am currently pregnant with my second baby girl and my mom feels that its bad taste to have another shower even though I've stated time and time again that I don't expect any gifts, unless its diapers... My mother-in-law has been adamant about another shower. I'm feeling conflicted because I really don't know if it is bad taste to throw party for the new baby. I wish there was a definitive answer to this question.

We are having our 2nd in May, 4.5 years after our DD was born. This time it is a boy. I am having a Diaper Party / Sprinkle. I don't see anything wrong with celebrating the birth of every child if you wanted to - even if they are back to back and the same gender, though. Personally, I would just have a "Welcome Baby" party and not expect any gifts, but even a Diaper Party would be perfectly normal IMHO.

An invitation to a shower is not an obligation to bring a gift and it shouldn't be seen as one. It's an OPTIONAL notification that a celebration will be occurring for mom and baby.I am about to have a boy and already have a 3 year old daughter. I am a little skeptical about having a second shower, but my sisters insist on throwing me one. I never intended to have any children, so after one surprise child I didn't save anything. Then miraculously we were able to conceive again, so it's a bummer that we gave everything away. But I feel if someone wants to throw you a shower, then take it.

Every baby deserves a celebration and a baby shower is just that. If you have all the things you need you can ask for no gifts or donations to be sent to your favorite charity, but a baby shower is one of life's great celebrations even if you have more than one baby. Especially if the two babies are of different genders. I do see it being rude/wrong if you have 3 or more babies back to back and all are the same gender, it just looks like you're out to get gifts.

The baby I'm having is going to be TEN years younger than my last baby! So, a shower is pretty much necessary. I didn't save anything after my last baby turned 2 or 3, so I am starting from scratch! People are excited for the shower and the new baby. :)

This is a terribly written poll. Of course people don't "should" throw a shower, even for the first baby. There is no social obligation to ever throw a shower, especially if it's your second child. However, it's perfectly fine to have a shower for as many babies as someone wants to throw you one.

I have grown to love the idea of a baby "sprinkle"- Just ask for the necessities such as diapers, wipes, pacifiers, etc. This way people don't feel pressured to buy needless items and can focus on the practical things that every baby will use! (Even if you already have a child or two, some things don't last!)

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