175916: Is the one who commits a sin and tells people not to do it a hypocrite?

I have a problem, everyday i only communicate my feelings to people in order to get to Allah. For example; I feel guilty about a sin that i do and then i will regret it and ask for forgiveness constantly and only cry if i give an Islamic talk about it to warn people away from it. Every day i hate myself for only being able to express my true regret through people to Allah, i feel like im showing off and everytime i intend to do something, there is a battle between me an shaytan to do the intention for Allah. I am trying to stop speaking to boys in college but in my sociology class there are two practicing boys and everytime i talk about Islam i can't say it out load but i wisper it in fear of showing off. I then only shout or say out load Jahil stuff but i become very easily worried about what people think of me. I show off in the deen and fear i shall become a hypocrite or be led astray, it's a battle to do one deed for Allah sometimes and i feel like i can't express to Allah my full regret without using people.

Praise be to Allaah.

We ask Allah to make us and you steadfast in adherence to His
religion, and to ward off from us the plots of the Shaytaan, for he is a
clear enemy who seeks to lead people astray. You should note that enjoining
what is good and forbidding what is evil is one of the characteristics of
the believers. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):

“The believers, men and women, are Awliya (helpers,
supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on the people)
Al-Maroof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do), and
forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds,
and all that Islam has forbidden)”

[at-Tawbah 9:71].

But the one who wants to enjoin what is good and forbid what
is evil should not let his actions contradict his words; rather he should
enjoin what is good and do it, and he should forbid what is evil and avoid
it. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not
do?

Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you
do not do”

[as-Saff 61:2-3].

And Shu ‘ayb (peace be upon him) said:

“I wish not, in contradiction to you, to do that which I
forbid you”

[Hood 11:88].

Al-Bukhaari (3267) and Muslim (2989) narrated that Usaamah
ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of
Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “A man will be brought
on the Day of Resurrection and thrown into the Fire; his intestines will
spill forth in the Fire and he will go around as a donkey goes around the
millstone. The people of Hell will gather around him and will say: O So and
so, what is the matter with you? Did you not enjoin what is good and forbid
what is evil? He will say: Yes, but I used to enjoin good and not do it, and
I used to forbid evil and do it.”

Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

One of the qualities and characteristics that the daa‘iyah
(the one who calls others to Allah) should – indeed must – have is that he
must act upon what he calls people to and he should be a good example of
what he is promoting. He should not be one of those who call people to
something then fail to do it themselves, or who tell people not to do
something, then do it. That is the state of the losers; we seek refuge with
Allah from that. As for the believers who will succeed, they call people to
the truth and act in accordance with it, striving and hastening to attain
it, and keeping away from that which they tell others not to do.

End quote from Majmoo‘ Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 1/346

Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Part of the etiquette of enjoining what is good and
forbidding what is evil is that one should be the first to obey the commands
and the first to avoid what is forbidden.

End quote from Sharh Riyaadh as-Saaliheen, p. 202

If a person exhorts his brother concerning a sin that he
himself has fallen into, although this is something that is not befitting
for the Muslim, it does not come under the heading of hypocrisy or showing
off.

The Standing Committee was asked:

If I exhort my brothers and warn them against certain sins,
but I myself fall into those sins, am I regarded as a hypocrite?

The Committee replied: You have to repent from sins and
exhort your brothers to avoid them. It is not permissible for you to commit
sins and fail to advise your brothers, because this is combining two sins.
You have to repent to Allah from that whilst still advising your brothers.
That is not hypocrisy, but you have fallen into something for which Allah
criticises those who do it, as He, may He be glorified, says (interpretation
of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not
do?

Most hateful it is with Allah that you say that which you
do not do”

[as-Saff 61:2-3]

“Enjoin you Al-Birr (piety and righteousness and each and
every act of obedience to Allah) on the people and you forget (to practise
it) yourselves, while you recite the Scripture! Have you then no sense?”

[al-Baqarah 2:44].

End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 12/268

Based on that, you should carry on enjoining what is good and
forbidding what is evil, and do not let the fact that you have fallen into
the sin that you are telling others not to do stop you from doing that. But
you have to strive hard to give it up and to avoid all sins, because the bad
consequences, in this world and in the Hereafter, of disobeying Allah and
His Messenger will be borne by the one who does that. You should also note
that if it is obligatory for everyone to stop what he is doing of sin, this
is even more important in the case of one who seeks to enjoin people to do
what is good and forbid them to do what is bad, because such an attitude is
regarded as blameworthy and shameful before Allah, as stated above.

Undoubtedly your taking stock of yourself in this manner is
something for which you are to be commended, so persist in that and think
positively of Allah; do not despair of His mercy, and strive hard to give up
that sin.

You should note that it is important to strive hard against
one’s nafs (jihad an-nafs) so as to rid it of any traces of showing off, and
try to acquire sincerity towards Allah in everything one does. But to think
that one is showing off, then trying to ward off the Shaytaan, who put this
idea in one’s mind, does not come under the heading of righteous deeds,
because one of the ways in which the Shaytaan tries to make the son of Adam
give up striving is by making him imagine that he is showing off. So you
should not pay any attention to that and you should try to ignore it.

Ibn al-Mubaarak narrated in az-Zuhd (p. 12) that al-Haarith
ibn Qays said: If you want to do something good, then do not put it off
until tomorrow; if you are doing something pertaining to the Hereafter, then
continue as long as you can; if you are praying and the Shaytaan tells you
that you are showing off (by making it long), then make it longer.

Az-Zuhd by Ibn al-Mubaarak, p.
12

Ibn Muflih (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

One of the things that happen to man, is that when he wants
to do an act of obedience, something happens to him that make him refrain
from doing it for fear of showing off. What he should do is pay no attention
to that. If a person does what Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has
commanded him and encouraged him to do, he should seek the help of Allah and
put his trust in Him to enable him to do it in the prescribed manner.

Shaykh Muhyi ad-Deen an-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him)
said: You should not refrain from remembering Allah verbally or in one’s
heart for fear of being thought of as showing off; rather you should
remember Him in both ways, seeking thereby the Countenance of Allah, may He
be glorified and exalted.

End quote from al-Adaab ash-Shar‘iyyah, 1/333

You have to be focused and steadfast, and not pay any
attention to the whispers (waswaas) of the Shaytaan. Every time the Shaytaan
comes to you to instil in your mind the idea that you are showing off, carry
on with the righteous deed and hasten to do it with no delay, and that
waswaas will disappear in sha Allah, because when the Shaytaan sees that
every time he tries to make a person think that he is showing off, that
person carries on doing the righteous deed and does not stop, he gives up on
him and stops whispering to him, because it is having the opposite effect.

But if he whispers to him and he pays attention to this
waswaas, he will do it even more until he diverts him from that righteous
deed.