TTC after MC

I think most of you know I had a MC in July and my dr told me to wait three months before TTC again. So we waited until October and so far, nothing. The first two times I got pregnant it took me only a month and a half.

Did my body change after the MS and/or is it normal to take longer?

I didn't go under surgery for D&C so is there any risk something went wrong? I only took that pill twice (sorry, can't remember the name of it)

I think most of you know I had a MC in July and my dr told me to wait three months before TTC again. So we waited until October and so far, nothing. The first two times I got pregnant it took me only a month and a half.

Did my body change after the MS and/or is it normal to take longer?

I didn't go under surgery for D&C so is there any risk something went wrong? I only took that pill twice (sorry, can't remember the name of it)

I remember your story. I don't have any answers but wanted to let you know I'm there with you. My son was conceived 2 weeks after going off BC. I conceived again in May of this year unexpectedly using the pull out method so we weren't even trying then. That pregnancy ended in a MC in June. We waited maybe a month. But have been unable to conceive again. Do you chart your cycles or anything? I can say that since my MC my cycles are messed up. They can be anywhere from 28 to 38 days with O anywhere from CD 14 to 25! Prior to the MC I was pretty consistent with a 32 day cycle with O on CD 17/18. Maybe your timing is off? I've also noticed that since my MC I don't seem to have much CM as I did before. It was very obvious before but now it's a lot harder for me to know when my fertile time is so I've been using OPKs. Have you tried those? I'm going to try preseed next time for extra help. I hope your body hasn't changed but I definitely feel that mine is not the same as it was. I also think I've put added stress on myself as each month goes by without success which doesn't help. I'm beginning to feel defeated and depressed. So as hard as it is, try to stay positive. I hope you get your BFP soon.

I remember your story. I don't have any answers but wanted to let you know I'm there with you. My son was conceived 2 weeks after going off BC. I conceived again in May of this year unexpectedly using the pull out method so we weren't even trying then. That pregnancy ended in a MC in June. We waited maybe a month. But have been unable to conceive again. Do you chart your cycles or anything? I can say that since my MC my cycles are messed up. They can be anywhere from 28 to 38 days with O anywhere from CD 14 to 25! Prior to the MC I was pretty consistent with a 32 day cycle with O on CD 17/18. Maybe your timing is off? I've also noticed that since my MC I don't seem to have much CM as I did before. It was very obvious before but now it's a lot harder for me to know when my fertile time is so I've been using OPKs. Have you tried those? I'm going to try preseed next time for extra help. I hope your body hasn't changed but I definitely feel that mine is not the same as it was. I also think I've put added stress on myself as each month goes by without success which doesn't help. I'm beginning to feel defeated and depressed. So as hard as it is, try to stay positive. I hope you get your BFP soon.

I had a MC in February 2010. It took me 5 full cycles to get preggo...and that was with tracking my ovulation. It finally happened when we stopped "trying". I said I wanted a break from it, since I was stressing. Then without realizing it, I was 9 days late and freaked! My only advice is to make the "trying" fun, not another chore!! ;)Have fun.. You will be preggo before you know it!

I had a MC in February 2010. It took me 5 full cycles to get preggo...and that was with tracking my ovulation. It finally happened when we stopped "trying". I said I wanted a break from it, since I was stressing. Then without realizing it, I was 9 days late and freaked! My only advice is to make the "trying" fun, not another chore!! ;)Have fun.. You will be preggo before you know it!

After you took the pills, did they do a follow up ultrasound to make sure everything had passed? If not, you may want to talk to your dr about it.Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it to much... Sometimes things take a bit longer. Like the pp, I had a harder time tracking my cycle. We finally invested in an ovulation monitor and conceived two cycles after that.

After you took the pills, did they do a follow up ultrasound to make sure everything had passed? If not, you may want to talk to your dr about it.Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it to much... Sometimes things take a bit longer. Like the pp, I had a harder time tracking my cycle. We finally invested in an ovulation monitor and conceived two cycles after that.

We are trying but not hardcore. We are not tracking anything and just having sex whenever we feel like, just like we did last 2 times. I know my period is regular because I'm tracking via an iPhone app. I don't know when my ovulation should happen and such... Maybe I should start tracking it... I'm scared of making a huge deal out of it and get super stressed. I don't remember if I had an ultrasound after the second pill. I think I did. Honestly, I don't remember. It was such a dark period that I think I ended up deleting things from my memory...

We are trying but not hardcore. We are not tracking anything and just having sex whenever we feel like, just like we did last 2 times. I know my period is regular because I'm tracking via an iPhone app. I don't know when my ovulation should happen and such... Maybe I should start tracking it... I'm scared of making a huge deal out of it and get super stressed. I don't remember if I had an ultrasound after the second pill. I think I did. Honestly, I don't remember. It was such a dark period that I think I ended up deleting things from my memory...

I bought an ovulation predictor kit at the drug store and got pregnant the month I used it. I actually ovulated a few days later than I thought I would so without it, I may have missed my "window." I'd recommend getting one.

I bought an ovulation predictor kit at the drug store and got pregnant the month I used it. I actually ovulated a few days later than I thought I would so without it, I may have missed my "window." I'd recommend getting one.

Yes I have actually been thinking about you a lot recently as you and I went through the same journey in July and I found it very helpful to share stories with you. It was a horrible experience for both of us, though you had more complications afterwards. Well DH and I have been TTC since then, the sister at the early pregnancy unit had told us at the time that there was no reason whatsoever to wait. We guessed it might not ever happen again naturally as DD was a miracle as she was 3rd attempt at ivf, and the pregnancy which miscarried in July was totally natural. Anyway guess what......i am now 8 weeks 2 days pregnant. Had an early scan 2 weeks ago and saw beating heartbeat :-) to be honest DH and I are still in disbelief and counting down to the 12 week scan. After what happened in
july cant let ourselves get excited and havent told a soul about it, well except for my hairdresser when discussing my colouring and now you ladies. Anyway what I'm trying to say is give yourself time and don't start getting hung up about calculating ovulation days by getting apps etc, this will cause you stress and that won't help. My advice would be to relax about it, make love (lol I don't know what else to call it!) every 2-3 days from when your period finishes and try not to stress out. The more you are on edge about dates etc then the more you will be uptight, stress isn't good for fertility and certainly not for getting in the mood with DH. Please let me know how you get on, and wishing you guys lots and lots of luck-I'm sure you will be joining another one of the home boards very soon :-)

Yes I have actually been thinking about you a lot recently as you and I went through the same journey in July and I found it very helpful to share stories with you. It was a horrible experience for both of us, though you had more complications afterwards. Well DH and I have been TTC since then, the sister at the early pregnancy unit had told us at the time that there was no reason whatsoever to wait. We guessed it might not ever happen again naturally as DD was a miracle as she was 3rd attempt at ivf, and the pregnancy which miscarried in July was totally natural. Anyway guess what......i am now 8 weeks 2 days pregnant. Had an early scan 2 weeks ago and saw beating heartbeat :-) to be honest DH and I are still in disbelief and counting down to the 12 week scan. After what happened in
july cant let ourselves get excited and havent told a soul about it, well except for my hairdresser when discussing my colouring and now you ladies. Anyway what I'm trying to say is give yourself time and don't start getting hung up about calculating ovulation days by getting apps etc, this will cause you stress and that won't help. My advice would be to relax about it, make love (lol I don't know what else to call it!) every 2-3 days from when your period finishes and try not to stress out. The more you are on edge about dates etc then the more you will be uptight, stress isn't good for fertility and certainly not for getting in the mood with DH. Please let me know how you get on, and wishing you guys lots and lots of luck-I'm sure you will be joining another one of the home boards very soon :-)

Thank you for saying that! It's really nice to hear you say that as only one person knows other than DH and I.
I totally know exactly how you feel each time your period arrives. I would get all the signs that my period was coming and be so disheartened and then would wish it would just start so it would then be over and time to try again once it stopped. And i know it's so hard not to stress about it, even if you aren't stressing its ALWAYS at the back (or in reality at the front) of your mind. I've been more relaxed this time (as i just feel so blessed to have our DD) but that's not to say that I didn't feel the awful pang when it wasn't going to happen this month. I guess it's different this time as I have been thinking I so wanted DD to have a brother or sister, having the mc in July brought these thoughts to my mind as prior to that we never imagined we would ever conceive again given the journey to have DD. Anyway enough about me, this is your post!
It's still early days, you waited 3 months to try again, and it's only been a couple of cycles. All the stats say you will fall pregnant again, it's just when that happens which can't come quick enough for you I totally appreciate.
Take care and wishing you LOTS AND LOTS of luck :-)

Thank you for saying that! It's really nice to hear you say that as only one person knows other than DH and I.
I totally know exactly how you feel each time your period arrives. I would get all the signs that my period was coming and be so disheartened and then would wish it would just start so it would then be over and time to try again once it stopped. And i know it's so hard not to stress about it, even if you aren't stressing its ALWAYS at the back (or in reality at the front) of your mind. I've been more relaxed this time (as i just feel so blessed to have our DD) but that's not to say that I didn't feel the awful pang when it wasn't going to happen this month. I guess it's different this time as I have been thinking I so wanted DD to have a brother or sister, having the mc in July brought these thoughts to my mind as prior to that we never imagined we would ever conceive again given the journey to have DD. Anyway enough about me, this is your post!
It's still early days, you waited 3 months to try again, and it's only been a couple of cycles. All the stats say you will fall pregnant again, it's just when that happens which can't come quick enough for you I totally appreciate.
Take care and wishing you LOTS AND LOTS of luck :-)

I'm glad all is going well with you and I think you're absolutely right: keeping it cool us the best thing to do. I'm trying and at the same time I think it's good that its taking a while because the more Caio can develop the easier it will be to handle both kids, I can't help my anxiety and fear of not having a happy end. I'm totally aware of how blessed I am for having my child. He's such an amazing little guy. So happy, so loving, so smart, do kind... Even if I'm never able to have another baby I have absolutely no right to complain. He's just amazing. I feel as if my family would be complete with a second addition and that he would be such a happy kid with a sibling. I am going to try my best to be patient and keep things positive. After all, there's no reason to complaint.

I'm glad all is going well with you and I think you're absolutely right: keeping it cool us the best thing to do. I'm trying and at the same time I think it's good that its taking a while because the more Caio can develop the easier it will be to handle both kids, I can't help my anxiety and fear of not having a happy end. I'm totally aware of how blessed I am for having my child. He's such an amazing little guy. So happy, so loving, so smart, do kind... Even if I'm never able to have another baby I have absolutely no right to complain. He's just amazing. I feel as if my family would be complete with a second addition and that he would be such a happy kid with a sibling. I am going to try my best to be patient and keep things positive. After all, there's no reason to complaint.

Thinking of you and how your journey is going. I read this when you posted it and hoped everything would work out. I was pregnant with #2. Just went to my 8 week U/S appointment and found no heartbeat and baby stopped growing around 5 weeks. Waiting to miscarry naturally, and I'm heartbroken. Hoping to start TTC ASAP after this loss.

Thinking of you and how your journey is going. I read this when you posted it and hoped everything would work out. I was pregnant with #2. Just went to my 8 week U/S appointment and found no heartbeat and baby stopped growing around 5 weeks. Waiting to miscarry naturally, and I'm heartbroken. Hoping to start TTC ASAP after this loss.

I am so sorry... It's rough but we all manage to deal with it. Grieving is a process that might take a long time or not, but I guess we will always remember. We are ttc and my period should come (or not) in the beginning of the year, so I'm hoping for a great start of the year. My suggestion is to let your body heal before you try again. I was super anxious and dh as well, but if we let out bodies get ready chances are we won't go through all that again. But talk to your doctor, he/she should know what's best according to what will happen. My only regret about my mc was not doing anything with the baby (it wasn't a baby but you know what I mean). Think about how you want to handle it so you won't have any regrets later, like I do. I wish you all the luck and strength. It's hard but it too shall pass. Xoxoxo. I'm here to talk if you need anything.

I am so sorry... It's rough but we all manage to deal with it. Grieving is a process that might take a long time or not, but I guess we will always remember. We are ttc and my period should come (or not) in the beginning of the year, so I'm hoping for a great start of the year. My suggestion is to let your body heal before you try again. I was super anxious and dh as well, but if we let out bodies get ready chances are we won't go through all that again. But talk to your doctor, he/she should know what's best according to what will happen. My only regret about my mc was not doing anything with the baby (it wasn't a baby but you know what I mean). Think about how you want to handle it so you won't have any regrets later, like I do. I wish you all the luck and strength. It's hard but it too shall pass. Xoxoxo. I'm here to talk if you need anything.

Thanks so much for thinking of me. I'm an emotional wreck and still just waiting to miscarry. I'd prefer for it to happen on its own, but I'm obsessing about it and making myself sick - can't eat or sleep, waiting for it to happen. Plus dealing with the holidays is going to be hard - my sister is 15 weeks pregnant. I go to the dr. to get my hcg levels tested today, and hopefully that should shed some light on when this might happen. If you don't mind me asking, how long did it take for you to miscarry, and did the bleeding last long? If it doesnt look like it'll happen soon, I'm thinking of opting for the D&C because I can't seem to move on or grieve until this happens. I'm still in shock and a little denial because I have zero mc symptoms and keep hoping the doctor made a mistake, but he was really sure and did not sugar coat things and told me based on the u/s and my blood draw there is no living embryo. It's just horrible. Thanks for listening. It helps to know I'm not alone. My DH is trying to be supportive, but he is very logical and, although he's sad, he has accepted the diagnosis and moved on and he can't understand why I am so incredibly upset.

Thanks so much for thinking of me. I'm an emotional wreck and still just waiting to miscarry. I'd prefer for it to happen on its own, but I'm obsessing about it and making myself sick - can't eat or sleep, waiting for it to happen. Plus dealing with the holidays is going to be hard - my sister is 15 weeks pregnant. I go to the dr. to get my hcg levels tested today, and hopefully that should shed some light on when this might happen. If you don't mind me asking, how long did it take for you to miscarry, and did the bleeding last long? If it doesnt look like it'll happen soon, I'm thinking of opting for the D&C because I can't seem to move on or grieve until this happens. I'm still in shock and a little denial because I have zero mc symptoms and keep hoping the doctor made a mistake, but he was really sure and did not sugar coat things and told me based on the u/s and my blood draw there is no living embryo. It's just horrible. Thanks for listening. It helps to know I'm not alone. My DH is trying to be supportive, but he is very logical and, although he's sad, he has accepted the diagnosis and moved on and he can't understand why I am so incredibly upset.

I already have noticed something was wrong because I felt disconnected to the baby. I once could feel it growing inside me, if you know what I mean, and I know it was a girl. Then it was weird, something was missing... I can't explain but I just knew. I had a tinny brown discharge and I knew it was happening right away. I bled with DS but it was different. I had a US done that same day and there was no heart beat. I was sad because deep inside I was trying to deny it, but I wasn't surprised. My baby stopped growing at about 7 weeks and I was at the 12th week. My OBGYN made me take a medicine (can't remember the name) to speed things up. I took it in the am, around 11, and by 10pm I was rushed to the ER by ambulance. My blood pressure is normally low and it just dropped in a way that I passed out. I lost a lot of blood and huge huge clots and I also cannot deal with blood, I usually pass out. I had a horrible diarrhea with the medication and it made me cramp a lot, but not horribly. All that made me very very weak and I totally passed out. It was scary because once I came back from fainting I couldn't mor my legs, they were tingling. The paramedics explained to me that it was because I was hyperventilating and it makes you shallow breath very fast, so not enough oxygen is pumped into the blood. I was back home at around 2-3am same day, I only got fluids and an gynecological exam at the hospital. On the following Friday, a week from the episode, I had to take the medication again because there was still things in my uterus to be discharged. I took it and all went well. I don't remember bleeding for too long free all that, mate a week, if so? A friend of mine had to go though the same, but she did fine, nothing major like I did. Most people handle the medication well, so don't be scared of asking it if you need to. I am prone to fainting anyway and I can't handle blood. But once it started, it was a lot of blood. Don't freak out, it's what it is. I don't know if without meds it will come all at once, though. With the pill I thought I was in a terror movie, with a waterfall of blood running down my legs and all the clots all at once. I'd recommend to be seated on the toilet one it starts. If you'd like to collect something to burrow afterward or something, place a bucket under your toilet seat to catch it. I understand your husband, that's how I am too. Don't be mad at him, people react differently.

I already have noticed something was wrong because I felt disconnected to the baby. I once could feel it growing inside me, if you know what I mean, and I know it was a girl. Then it was weird, something was missing... I can't explain but I just knew. I had a tinny brown discharge and I knew it was happening right away. I bled with DS but it was different. I had a US done that same day and there was no heart beat. I was sad because deep inside I was trying to deny it, but I wasn't surprised. My baby stopped growing at about 7 weeks and I was at the 12th week. My OBGYN made me take a medicine (can't remember the name) to speed things up. I took it in the am, around 11, and by 10pm I was rushed to the ER by ambulance. My blood pressure is normally low and it just dropped in a way that I passed out. I lost a lot of blood and huge huge clots and I also cannot deal with blood, I usually pass out. I had a horrible diarrhea with the medication and it made me cramp a lot, but not horribly. All that made me very very weak and I totally passed out. It was scary because once I came back from fainting I couldn't mor my legs, they were tingling. The paramedics explained to me that it was because I was hyperventilating and it makes you shallow breath very fast, so not enough oxygen is pumped into the blood. I was back home at around 2-3am same day, I only got fluids and an gynecological exam at the hospital. On the following Friday, a week from the episode, I had to take the medication again because there was still things in my uterus to be discharged. I took it and all went well. I don't remember bleeding for too long free all that, mate a week, if so? A friend of mine had to go though the same, but she did fine, nothing major like I did. Most people handle the medication well, so don't be scared of asking it if you need to. I am prone to fainting anyway and I can't handle blood. But once it started, it was a lot of blood. Don't freak out, it's what it is. I don't know if without meds it will come all at once, though. With the pill I thought I was in a terror movie, with a waterfall of blood running down my legs and all the clots all at once. I'd recommend to be seated on the toilet one it starts. If you'd like to collect something to burrow afterward or something, place a bucket under your toilet seat to catch it. I understand your husband, that's how I am too. Don't be mad at him, people react differently.

Thanks so much for sharing. Your experience sounds really scary. I can relate though, to somehow knowing something was off. In hindsight, I also felt disconnected from this baby. I would joke that I didn't even really feel pregnant. I think I stopped feeling pregnant around the time my doctor thinks the baby stopped growing. I didn't have a lot of pregnancy symptoms with my DS either, though, so I thought I was just really lucky to not have ms. At the beginning I had sore boobs and was bloated, but then those symptoms faded and I didn't feel the same as I did with my first healthy pregnancy. I guess that makes it a little easier, but it's still hard. I am optimistic that I'll get pregnant with #2, but mourning this loss. I find out about my hcg levels tonight (great way to spend Christmas Eve) and will decide on whether to do a D&C based on what my doctor recommends. I've heard other traumatic miscarriage stories like yours, so I'm kind of leaning towards opting for the D&C. Thanks so much again.

Thanks so much for sharing. Your experience sounds really scary. I can relate though, to somehow knowing something was off. In hindsight, I also felt disconnected from this baby. I would joke that I didn't even really feel pregnant. I think I stopped feeling pregnant around the time my doctor thinks the baby stopped growing. I didn't have a lot of pregnancy symptoms with my DS either, though, so I thought I was just really lucky to not have ms. At the beginning I had sore boobs and was bloated, but then those symptoms faded and I didn't feel the same as I did with my first healthy pregnancy. I guess that makes it a little easier, but it's still hard. I am optimistic that I'll get pregnant with #2, but mourning this loss. I find out about my hcg levels tonight (great way to spend Christmas Eve) and will decide on whether to do a D&C based on what my doctor recommends. I've heard other traumatic miscarriage stories like yours, so I'm kind of leaning towards opting for the D&C. Thanks so much again.

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