So sad, need support

Hello all. I'm new to this board. My baby will be 11wks on Monday and I return to work that day too. He has to go to daycare and will be there 11 hours a day. My heart is breaking. I can't stop crying. I guess what I need is other moms to tell me it will be ok and ds won't be angry with me for leaving him and our bond will stay in tact. Or something great that daycare has done for their lo. Does anyone have any encouraging words? Thank you in advance,Ashley

Hello all. I'm new to this board. My baby will be 11wks on Monday and I return to work that day too. He has to go to daycare and will be there 11 hours a day. My heart is breaking. I can't stop crying. I guess what I need is other moms to tell me it will be ok and ds won't be angry with me for leaving him and our bond will stay in tact. Or something great that daycare has done for their lo. Does anyone have any encouraging words? Thank you in advance,Ashley

It will be ok. Honestly it will. At this age all he needs is for someone to take care of him and play with him durning the day and he will be happy. It is much harder on mommy then on baby. Your baby will always know who mommy is and will never be angry at you. Don't be so hard on yourself. It will be ok.

It will be ok. Honestly it will. At this age all he needs is for someone to take care of him and play with him durning the day and he will be happy. It is much harder on mommy then on baby. Your baby will always know who mommy is and will never be angry at you. Don't be so hard on yourself. It will be ok.

I was a daycare kid (started going when I was around a year old) and I met my lifelong friend at daycare. We literally have grown up together like sisters. The social interaction your LO will get at daycare will help them immensely!

I was a daycare kid (started going when I was around a year old) and I met my lifelong friend at daycare. We literally have grown up together like sisters. The social interaction your LO will get at daycare will help them immensely!

And your lo will know you are helping to provide for your family. This will also help you cherish your time with lo even more. If you make it a positive experience lo will feel that energy & respond in like.

And your lo will know you are helping to provide for your family. This will also help you cherish your time with lo even more. If you make it a positive experience lo will feel that energy & respond in like.

Thanks so much everyone. I know my sadness is irrational. His daycare is new, clean, and his teacher was kind and friendly. The room has three other baby boys. There will only be 4 babies in there . Hopefully he will love the interaction with the other babies too

Thanks so much everyone. I know my sadness is irrational. His daycare is new, clean, and his teacher was kind and friendly. The room has three other baby boys. There will only be 4 babies in there . Hopefully he will love the interaction with the other babies too

hey mama, just wanted to let you know it WILL get better. I promise. My ML got cut shorter than I'd liked at 8 weeks instead of 12 because I was offered a great job with great money if I started immediately. (I still worked my other job just cut it back to weekends.) my other job I've been at for 4 years so people knew me well, they knew the baby, etc. starting a new job/going back to work with a newborn where nobody knows you, knows your baby, etc turned me into an emotional wreck. I was going to work crying everyday knowing that i had to wait ten more hours to see my baby. people never asked about him because they didn't know him. when you, as a new mom, only want to talk about your baby :) long story short is that my son is now 7 months and it does get easier. of course you're still going to miss your LO, but it's not to the point where you can't function. <3 hang in there mama.

hey mama, just wanted to let you know it WILL get better. I promise. My ML got cut shorter than I'd liked at 8 weeks instead of 12 because I was offered a great job with great money if I started immediately. (I still worked my other job just cut it back to weekends.) my other job I've been at for 4 years so people knew me well, they knew the baby, etc. starting a new job/going back to work with a newborn where nobody knows you, knows your baby, etc turned me into an emotional wreck. I was going to work crying everyday knowing that i had to wait ten more hours to see my baby. people never asked about him because they didn't know him. when you, as a new mom, only want to talk about your baby :) long story short is that my son is now 7 months and it does get easier. of course you're still going to miss your LO, but it's not to the point where you can't function. <3 hang in there mama.

My DD is thriving at daycare. All we ever hear about are the bad stories but there are many more kids who do well. DD is 18 months and loves going to pick berries in their garden and look at the chickens (it's pretty crunchy there!) There's my good experience story! Your little boy will be okay! Good luck.

My DD is thriving at daycare. All we ever hear about are the bad stories but there are many more kids who do well. DD is 18 months and loves going to pick berries in their garden and look at the chickens (it's pretty crunchy there!) There's my good experience story! Your little boy will be okay! Good luck.

Oh I know that feeling but you'll be ok and so will he I promise you that. It will take some getting used to but he will know you're his mommy you will not be replaced...he loves you! And like pp said...he's going to enjoy the interaction

Oh I know that feeling but you'll be ok and so will he I promise you that. It will take some getting used to but he will know you're his mommy you will not be replaced...he loves you! And like pp said...he's going to enjoy the interaction

DD is now 4, she's been in daycare since she was a couple months old. Her daycare also offers a preschool program. It has been awesome for her. She's learned so much that I doubt I'd have the patience to teach her, especially the art stuff (not a crafty/creative person). She knows mom and dad love her very much, but she has so many friends from her school! Going to the grocery store with her is weird, she knows more people than I do! All other kids and patents she sees at daycare. It's helped her to be an outgoing kid that isn't afraid to talk to other kids or adults. Don't worry, the separation gets easier over time.

DD is now 4, she's been in daycare since she was a couple months old. Her daycare also offers a preschool program. It has been awesome for her. She's learned so much that I doubt I'd have the patience to teach her, especially the art stuff (not a crafty/creative person). She knows mom and dad love her very much, but she has so many friends from her school! Going to the grocery store with her is weird, she knows more people than I do! All other kids and patents she sees at daycare. It's helped her to be an outgoing kid that isn't afraid to talk to other kids or adults. Don't worry, the separation gets easier over time.

Your baby will be just fine - promise. My DD has been in daycare five days a week for 9 hours a day since she was 13 weeks. She loves 'school' and talks about her friends all the time. She is almost three. When I watch her with her cousins, she has social skills most 2 1/2 year olds don't have. Working moms make themselves crazy guilty! Please don't do this to yourself!

Your baby will be just fine - promise. My DD has been in daycare five days a week for 9 hours a day since she was 13 weeks. She loves 'school' and talks about her friends all the time. She is almost three. When I watch her with her cousins, she has social skills most 2 1/2 year olds don't have. Working moms make themselves crazy guilty! Please don't do this to yourself!

Lucky it is at 11wks I'm military had to start work again at 6wks old. He's 8wks now. I work 10 hour shifts.. The daycare is great they take good care of him and I can pop in at anytime.. Makes your time with baby so much more meaningful and baby will always know who u are. When I pick him up I ask him what he did today he laughs and coos.. Everything will b ok. I like working and giving him a chance to know other people and kids. He learns a lot and won't be afraid of other people.. He has the same providers everyday so he creates a bond with them so he feels safe and wanted while u are away. Tell the daycare what u expect out of them.. They will comply :)

Lucky it is at 11wks I'm military had to start work again at 6wks old. He's 8wks now. I work 10 hour shifts.. The daycare is great they take good care of him and I can pop in at anytime.. Makes your time with baby so much more meaningful and baby will always know who u are. When I pick him up I ask him what he did today he laughs and coos.. Everything will b ok. I like working and giving him a chance to know other people and kids. He learns a lot and won't be afraid of other people.. He has the same providers everyday so he creates a bond with them so he feels safe and wanted while u are away. Tell the daycare what u expect out of them.. They will comply :)

quality time is as important as quantity. I work long hours myself and my baby is still bonded well with me. we do what we gotta do to provide for our kids. the most important thing is for your child to feel loved and nurtured,

quality time is as important as quantity. I work long hours myself and my baby is still bonded well with me. we do what we gotta do to provide for our kids. the most important thing is for your child to feel loved and nurtured,

My son doesn't go to daycare but I am away from him all day so I can kinda relate. It will get better. I told myself that I would just work until his first birthday even though deep down I knew that was unrealistic. It really did help me. Now he is 18 months and it is better. Sometimes it is still hard to leave him but I get through knowing this is for his good to provide things he needs. Good luck.

My son doesn't go to daycare but I am away from him all day so I can kinda relate. It will get better. I told myself that I would just work until his first birthday even though deep down I knew that was unrealistic. It really did help me. Now he is 18 months and it is better. Sometimes it is still hard to leave him but I get through knowing this is for his good to provide things he needs. Good luck.

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