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Lloyd’s blowups with her family are scattered throughout the book. Lloyd recalled how her father, so heavily involved in her amateur soccer career, felt like she was shutting him out once she turned professional and heeded her teammates’ advice about not “having family mixed in with personal life.”

“I think that was about helping me make my own decisions and really think about things because the professional level is way different than being a kid and being a youth player,” Lloyd said. “So I think it was really tough for my parents to just let go and allow James [Galanis, her trainer] and I to kind of navigate through this career.”

Her parents literally “let go” one fateful day in 2008, which Lloyd calls the “saddest of my life,” when her dad told her to get all her belongings out of the house or he would throw them “out the window.” Besides a few “hopeful” meetings turned sour and the occasional text message, Lloyd has severed all ties with her family.

When she celebrated the greatest performance of her soccer career — scoring three goals to lead the United States to victory in the 2015 World Cup final — with those closest to her, no one from her immediate family showed up.

That’s where the book comes in. Whether her parents respond negatively to the unwanted attention or positively to their daughter’s honesty, both Lloyd and Coffey view the book as a sort of peace offering.

“Carli would deeply love to have there be some kind of breakthrough, but there’s a lot of hurt on both sides,” Coffey said.

Lloyd’s commitment to holding herself accountable as much as her parents gives hope for a “breakthrough.” She acknowledges the moments she’s been too harsh on them — “I told you I don’t always do well with anger,” she writes — and repeatedly admits how grateful she is that they paved the way for her soccer career.

So, what’s next? Lloyd suggests our guess is just as good as hers.

“My mom sent me a text,” Lloyd said, when asked if she’d spoken with her parents after the book’s release. “I reached out to them a few weeks prior to the book being released and just let them know that the situation is in there and I’ll send them a book when I get home and all that. I’ve been really busy on this tour moving from city to city, so we’ll see what happens, but hopefully we can put the pieces back together.”

Lloyd also hopes the book can help her make amends in her personal dynamics within the US national team, which, as she writes, has had “enough drama queens to fill a royal palace.”

Lloyd, whose self-proclaimed style is to keep to herself and fight tooth-and-nail with teammates to prove herself in every practice, acknowledges she was often misunderstood her first few years on the team. She recounts a confrontation she had with Abby Wambach after the team’s 2007 World Cup disappointment, when Brazil sent Team USA packing with a 4-0 rout in the semifinals.

Carli Lloyd at the 2016 Rio OlympicsGetty Images

“People don’t see you fitting in, chemistry-wise,” Lloyd recalls Wambach telling her. “They see you not wanting to join in things, and just sitting in the corner texting all the time. They feel that you don’t trust them, and they don’t want you on the field because of that.”

But that was then and this is now. Lloyd has ascended to a captain and unquestioned superstar of the US national team, which is still stinging from a heartbreaking, drama-filled loss to Sweden at the Rio Olympics. There’s the World Cup crown to defend in France in 2019, and Lloyd recently said she plans to retire after the 2020 Olympics in Tokyo.

“I don’t need people to make me play better,” Lloyd said. “The underdog and the chip-on-the-shoulder [mentality] before was merely because I wasn’t getting recognized when I thought that I deserved to be recognized. But that’s a different story now.”

And if the next chapter of Lloyd’s life includes her family, that would be the kind of different story she’s rooting for.