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In response to this week’s discover challenge – I would like to share with others a piece of advice I received from someone back in high school.

“Stop running from your shadow”. She called me alone to say just that short sentence to me which I pondered on for a pretty long time without actually accepting the truth behind it.

Back in high school I was someone I would say was POPULAR without a particular reason, I just didn’t get it, I never understood the logic behind my popularity. I was a very simple, level headed lady in school, I loved to be alone but unfortunately for me people loved me, they wanted to be friends with me, they wanted me to lead them, guess what I hated all these with a passion 😏, I felt it was too much of a burden for me to carry, all I wanted was my peace, just a few friends, study and go home to my best friend (Television).

It was that way for me all through my years of studying, and until I got my first job, it was still staring right into my face, people wanted to be like me, listen to me, do as I do, seriously I never understood it. Until I met someone else again who told me to just be myself and face my fears. I sat myself down to review the path of life I had lived and was living, I realized that I had been lucky, I would have lost a lot due to my insecurity and shadow fear 😊😊

Now I can face my fears, I can face responsibilities, I realized I didn’t need to be best of friends with all these people but to be attentive to their feelings, now I talk to them, I listen, I don’t mind if they wish to do as I do, I love making people smile. My colleagues love to dress the way I dress, up to my hairstyle, and really I have more confidence now, I encourage them, I give them tips on dating and fashion, I have also learnt not to take things personally due to my emotions. The benefit of all this is that it has opened doors of opportunities for me. My accepting my shadow has promoted me to an upstanding individual. I’m blessed that it wasn’t too late for me to come to terms with it.

My piece of advice based on my pervious experience is to never run from your shadow.

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Guys try to dress stylishly for a number of reasons…One of which is to impress women.Some guys said they dress to impress their colleagues, some care less about what they wear, a few of them appeared to look stylish to maintain their company brand name, while a greater number of them said they dress well to impress as well as attract beautiful women!

Yes it’s true…. Every woman has a taste in what she likes seeing guys wear. They want men that understand what looking good means, one that takes care of himself. Definitely a man that knows good quality body spray….It’s important for all men especially for those that leave home without having a shower.

Clothes, Fashion, Style- Is usually touted as something that women care about, style for men make up a lot of unspoken cues when they meet people.

I rallied up 6 of my girlfriends, single and married, I asked them what their thoughts were about ‘what men wear,’ and I was able to get this from them.

Lola (Writer): I love seeing men in T-shirts on not too baggy blue jeans. Specifically, it could also be a long sleeve shirt but must be designed by Hawes and Curtis.

Samantha (Lawyer): I want men that dress like men because it makes a statement, a man in well tailored suit, classy tie to go with it, a killer pair of Chelsea shoes and nice body cologne is on point for me.

Kimberly (Business Merchant): “I don’t like my husband’s taste of wears; I’m considering doing him a complete makeover. I love men that dress like movie stars”.

Tiffany (Financial Adviser): I date only men with good style…smelly, dirty guys are top of my list of ‘turn off’. I would love what a man wears provided that it’s clean, smells nice and has got style written all over like a brand name.

Belinda (Model): I love dudes in slim fitted jeans and T-shirts, there’s just something sexy and classy about it that turns me on…all topped up with Jean Paul Gaultier Cologne.”

For me, it’s purely a medium of self expression. It’s a way to subtly signal where they fit in.

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I was at the shopping mall and decided to indulge myself with lunch after the whole shopping spree. There I sat down at a small round table far away from where I could be disturbed. I looked up and there I saw a nice-looking mature man take a few steps towards me and he said to me across the tiny table, ” young lady, can I join you please,” I answered politely ” yes please.”

A few minutes later he said to me, ” you know… today is my fiftieth birthday,” I opened my mouth in amazement because I really don’t quite know how to put, he looked much older than his age, I told him politely with a smirk across my face, ” wow that’s nice- Happy Birthday,”

While we had lunch quietly he stopped and said to me, ” I wish I had more fun when I was a lot younger,” and he went on chatting, “It looks to me now like time passed by while I was put on hold. I’ve decided regardless of all the pressures I’m under, I will henceforth make this year one of celebration and certainty for myself”.

I actually didn’t know how to respond to that, then I told him you don’t have to regret anything because it’s not too late for you to have the fun of your life. I gave him a few TIPS on what to do, he thanked me for the piece I gave him with a grin all over his face, I simply got up and took my leave.

Let me know if you think I’m crazy, if you want to do any of this things with me or if you’ve already done them and have some tips. I’m determined to make each day of my life pretty awesome and making these goals public I believe is a good first step for me to get on the right path.

This brings us to the point where we need to acknowledge that those of us not yet fifty years of age should “live every day as if it were the last” even those that are fifty and above.

Things I would love to do:

I would love to turn off the internet for a week. I want to know how that would feel like. No twitter, no Facebook, no Instagram, no whats app. I think that sounds nice.

I would love to travel to Canada, Australia and ancient towns in China.

I don’t know how my guy would feel if he reads this, the truth is I so much wish I would have a set of triplets.

I wouldn’t want to be a salary earner for the rest of my workable life.

Having a date with VIN DIESEL would be a delight for me. I would cherish that forever!

I have two stories I’ve written, I don’t really know what’s stopping me from publishing them, I would be glad to start by pushing them out there.

I would love to buy my dad a BRAND NEWJEEP.

These are a statistics of my goals in life, my thoughts and my passions. I’ve put it all out now. Let’s see what happens…

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He prefers to be on land posing to impress the tourists rather than hanging out and feeding with other birds on the water. It seemed strange to me back then what sort of bird it was with such a long beak; still does. He’s completely opposite to the other birds in the picture.

The physical appearance of yourself is a perception of what you see in the mirror. Take a few bold steps to the mirror now, look closely…. A little bit closer…. Behind the physique which comprises of your body, face, legs, nose, eyes, arms. WHO DO YOU SEE?

Did you recognize yourself?

Something lurks behind it that you have never even taken cognizance of. If you didn’t see it then that means you need to get a better mirror. Smile if you want to… I bet the last time you looked into the mirror was to brush your teeth, shave beards, put on the make-up or maybe dress up to see how lovely you look.

You have most likely failed to see the past, future, failures, achievements, warning signs, visions, sadness, joy, growth…The things that have journeyed this far with you to see the “presumed physical image”.

Do you like what you see?

You have obviously changed since the last time you really saw yourself in the mirror, not the checking up your physical appearance routine thing! This is a question only you can answer; some of us see ourselves through the eyes of people we think know us so well but do they have those same eyes that look into that mirror? Big question…

The quicker you connect with the person in the mirror, the earlier it will increase your self awareness. You get to understand yourself better, your strengths, weaknesses, fear… Secrets about yourself which you have been avoiding will be exposed to you right there and then, it’s not as bad as you might think, it only helps you in the journey of life.

The first time I practiced this, I was initially intimidated by my own image, I was like “who’s that strange person?” but I put it off as a bluff after more attempts. Now I know better because I have looked and gone beyond.

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I woke up this morning having a long line of thought about where I’m heading to, I’m going to take a bold step in my life next week which has much to do with my career path and it’s going to really determine a lot in my life. Guess what? Shivers are running down my spine!!! I need other bloggers strength somehow I can’t explain.

I want to use this opportunity to thank Daisy in Willows. She’s been such an inspiration to me, she’s so very lovely. I started blogging on the 13th of April, 2016 not really knowing how the acceptance process would look like or what to expect but to tell you frankly, it’s been great, WordPress bloggers are the best, this is a journey that has really put me on a vision filled walk in my life, there are times I feel awkward and lost, then I decide not to post but read other bloggers post and I get all the answers to my questions.

I want to also thank other readers that has been supportive one way or the other through likes, comments, their daily blog posts too 😀✌. Daisy did something and I was quite impressed and moved me close to tears, I also want to do something like that to show my heartfelt feelings of appreciation to bloggers out there, can’t mention all names, that’s gonna be quite a lot of work. Ha ha, but know that I love you all sincerely. You have been in my journey so far which doesn’t stop here neither is it about to. With God on our side the journey won’t get tougher but easier.

“It is the tenderness that breaks our hearts, the loveliness that leaves us stranded on the shore, watching the boats sail away. It is the sweetness that makes us want to reach out and touch the soft skin of another person. And it is the grace that comes to us, undeserving though we may be” Robert Goolrick

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well” Voltaire

There is a journey that’s waiting for you, you will make great discoveries, you will find treasures and hidden powers, it’s a journey divinely designed just for you, today be brave in self-love and start the journey within yourself, there God is waiting to show you his masterpiece of love” Micheline Jean Louis

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It’s very conflicting for men before they land on the path of ‘I DO’, or rather very adventurous. Men generally like to live ‘the life’. Gone are those days when a lady meets a guy for the first time and the man tells her he wants to settle down and really keeps to his words.

So what are the things men do before they say ‘I do’

1. Nowadays a man will tell a lady on the first or second date that he wants to marry her just with the sole purpose of getting into her pants. aha. Men tell ladies the truth and stop the deceiving game. Most men don’t plan to get married, they plan to f*ck, right from the very day they set eyes on a lady…. If not all , then most of them.‘ladies beware.’

2. Men are scared of commitment, it’s a very long journey for them to get to ‘I Do’ land. Men want to party hard, drink, play like there’s no tomorrow, taste threesome. They want to be imaginative and constructive. Their minds need to feed on something appealing.

3. Men want to find the perfect woman, one that can cook all types of continental meal, local dish, snacks, name it… They want one that is very good in bed by testing all, until they find the perfect match, the luscious woman with good looks and eye stopping figure. A woman who can work all day and work all night…

Women are not aliens. They are human.

4. Every bachelor plans his finances for a better future, but I don’t understand situations where some men spend half of the money saved up for their marriage on the wedding ceremony, who is to be blamed for this, the women or men themselves? Either way, It’s still part of the journey to the I do land.

5. Every man wants to lose his virginity before the day. Have you ever met a virgin man at that point in life? Guess not! Even though we still have some female virgins…. men running around searching for female virgins when they have lost theirs long ago before the age of ten years. How is it possible to find the virgins of opposite sex when they have all been tested by the likes of you.

6. Really when a man starts to keep malice with his yet to be father in law is quite amusing, yet to think only women hated the idea of yet-to-be mother in law’s interference in relationships and marriages. Men on that journey always ensure they create a little distance before they say I do.

7. They tell lies to every (Lucy, Rihanna, Kimberley). Why? Simply put it this way–‘A man will always be a man.’

I really hope I’m not stepping on toes here, yikes! aah.. It’s just the simple I dotruth, marriage should be enjoyed and not endured or bastardized. Catch all the fun, do whatever you want to do– hope women will be wise enough to detect all this….but men do all this with caution or don’t do it at all to stay safe! You never can tell what could be hunting you down from your past adventures.

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Mrs Ziglar didn’t have the money to buy a lot of high quality feed for her animals, which is what most dairy farmers do to increase milk production. Then, every single day, as she went out in the early morning to milk them, she would stroke each cow, and praise, and compliment them. She would shower each of her five cows with positive words and affirmations, she would tell them they were the most beautiful, wonderful cows in the world. She said they had an abundance of milk so rich and creamy that all other cows would be envious. Everyday, without fail, these cows would be loved, stroked, and told how incredible they were. The cows gradually began to produce more and more milk. As time passed, some of the cows on the ziglar family farm increased milk, As time passed, some of the cows on the Ziglar family farm increased milk production significantly from a few gallons a day to as much as 7 gallons of milk in a single day.

During the early hours of the morning before anyone else is up, close your eyes ans visualize your future self as though you have already achieved whatever goal it is you are trying to accomplish. Get That picture in your mind of the person you wish to become, and daily reaffirm to yourself that you are that person, as if it were a reality today. When a negative thought enters your mind, flush it out quickly. Do not allow negative thoughts to poison your powerful mind. Do whatever you have to do to rid yourself of those toxic thoughts, whether it be to remove yourself from a negative environment, turn on some uplifting music, read some articles on this site (Hint, Hint), exercise, say a prayer, or call your mom. Whatever method works for you, harbor the positive thoughts and eliminate the negative ones as quickly as possible can.