Online relationships anyone?

At times simply living
is hard work. People around you are non-responsive and you feel like
throwing in the towel. I have read and reviewed many on-line writers who
have felt this way through romantic involvement with someone unknown to them. My own situation through bereavement was soul destroying. I posted on a writers site to try and overcome the loss of my husband and
writing gave me an outlet. People are kind and I found so many who offered friendship at that time.

The issue I want to
touch on here is on-line relationships and the problems associated
with that. We seem to begin and end liaisons that are not commitment
based and the result is often devastation. We allow others to fill a void
that is already filled to the brim with memories of loss only to
widen the gap further heading towards another ending that is
inevitable. People cannot know one another intimately merely chatting on a machine or talking on a phone…you could be talking to a psychotic fanatic...please remember this.

The human psyche is an
interesting study, the mind being a bottomless data-base of
information; this is why our dreams are often so confusing. Even
though we know the writing is on the wall we try to keep the dream of
new love alive through illusion until it crumbles to the ground. We
then try repeated reconciliation and each time we do this the gap
widens a little.

There is a painful road
that leads to absolute freedom and once we admit to ourselves that
commitment will never be forthcoming, we need to calm our reactions
and learn from them, this is difficult, but certainly attainable
using common sense; it is not a good idea to fall into a web of
“poor me syndrome.” Many have gone under through this train of
thought.

Guilt is the
protagonist in the story of internal pain. Knocking yourself out with
blame is non-productive in the extreme. It is a dead end road; a
curse we put on ourselves that only serves to add further decay. By
this stage we are in bad shape and wasting our lives away on what is
tantamount to trivial matters, though they seem huge to us they are
unimportant when you look at the bigger picture, which includes your
death bed.

In closing I want to
tell you that accepting what we cannot possibly change is the single
most important life lesson we can learn…it will lead you to true
peace and serenity of mind and body. Having the wisdom to change what
you can is also a good rule of thumb. To those suffering loss of any
description I say…please remember what I have said in these few
lines because it is a life-changing and morally just way to get back
on track. I could not write this if I had not been on the road
myself.

Thankfully, after much heartache and deliberation...I am now home free.

About Me

I am a professional writer and editor and I live in Australia, I am currently re-publishing my novel 'ABBY' And have various published articles. I guess it would be fair to say that I am relatively new to blogging, nonetheless I am enjoying playing with my hobbies.