How to help your kids love learning

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In our meritocratic education system, all that really matters at the end of the day are the numbers in the report book. We rarely stop to ponder if the kids are happy with their studies, since it doesn’t seem to affect a child’s grades.

But a study by Research Schools International, a network of schools where Harvard conducts research, found that happier students had higher grades. They found that there was a significant correlation between happiness and students’ scores from ages 4 to 18.

This means that beyond natural talent and sheer hard work, the happiness of your children can also improve their grades in school.

Happiness is a fairly ephemeral concept. In the study, happiness was defined as having positive feelings and having a sense of purpose, which can be easily measured.

However, happiness in learning does not necessarily mean being given easy work to do. A child can be challenged by difficult tasks or learning assignments and be happy. This means that you can stretch your child’s abilities and continue to watch him or her grow academically, while still nurturing that joy that comes with pleasant emotions and a sense of direction.

It’s important to make learning a fun and interesting experience for children, so that they develop the love of learning. This helps them become independent, motivated and self-directed learners.

It may not be immediately useful in primary school, but as they progress to higher levels of education, it’s imperative that they take the initiative in their own learning. One never stops learning after all, so shouldn’t we make it a joyous experience for our students?

Tips to make learning a happy experience for students

Here are some ways you can make learning pleasant and fun, so that your children will start to love learning by themselves.

For a child, almost every experience is a learning one. Yet many times, we prize academic knowledge over the actual process itself. We tell children that learning time tables is important, but that finding out more about the characters in “The Lego Batman Movie” is something frivolous.

This trains a child to only value the results of the learning process, rather than enjoying the process itself. Instead of asking what they learnt, we should ask them how they learnt it. Did they learn their times tables through sheer memorisation or by using rhythms and pattern recognition? What inference skills did they use to learn the identity of the characters in the film?

This will help them to see the learning process as a positive experience. Once they appreciate the learning process, they’ll be more inclined to learn because they want to.

Making mistakes shouldn’t hurt your kid’s confidence. (Getty Images)

2. Don’t demonise mistakes

The process of learning inevitably requires a child to make mistakes, so that they will learn what works and what doesn’t. Unfortunately, our society treats failure as something to be ashamed of. Yet, if we never go wrong, we will never learn what’s right, either.

Remember that Edison and his team conducted thousands of failed experiments before they finally developed a light bulb that was efficient and cheap enough for mass production. If they had had the same fear of failure as we do, they would have given up at an earlier stage.

So let your child make mistakes, and don’t punish them for it. Instead, make sure they learn from their mistakes so that they will get better.

Practice makes perfect, but all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. You can give your child practice questions to do, but drilling them with piles of textbooks will kill their interest in the subject altogether.

Rather than doing drills, equip them with skills by exposing them to new questions and then ask them how they would apply those skills in the real world. This will help bring the subject to life for them, and help turn it into a fun, hands-on activity. You can still give them practice questions, but make sure that they are for areas they’re weak in. Don’t drill for the sake of seeing your child getting the right answers to questions they’re already sure of.

It’s difficult to find interesting learning tasks for children to complete, but the effort is well worth it. We sometimes forget that they are still young and that they might not be able to see the practical application of what they’ve learnt.

Showing them the science behind a natural phenomenon will bring up the relevance and usefulness of what they learn. Finding interesting experiments or unusual ways of applying mathematical formulas will also test them on the same concepts that assessment books do, but in ways that are enjoyable and practical.

Remember, happier kids do better in school, and kids who do well are happy. It’s a virtuous cycle. Make sure you put in the effort to make learning a fun experience for your children.

Marcus Goh runs Write-Handed, a creative writing studio. At the same time, he teaches Secondary English at The Write Connection. He has been a specialist tutor for English and Literature (Secondary) since 2005.

Adrian Kuek runs Joyous Learning, an enrichment centre that specialises in English, Mathematics, Science and Creative Writing for Primary. He previously served as the academic director of one of Singapore’s largest enrichment centre chains for over seven years.