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Understand Men. Find Love.Tue, 26 Sep 2017 21:26:33 +0000hourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5By: Helen Kyrihttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-4/#comment-6677531
Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:58:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6677531There should be an online dating service whereby they’d arrange different events, dinners, short trips for people interested in the same topic, ideas and same age groups. There is nothing worse than this frustrating rigmarole of online communication via emails endless exchange of conversation and many times you’ll meetup and find out what was envisaged was a complete fantasy for whatever reason. Sorry I’m not for this online thing, nothing like the old fashioned approach. Its like when you order e.g a piece of clothing online, it looks great and when it is delivered many times it has to be returned because the material and/or colors or whatever are not what is advertised, the fitting is completely off and/or the length is different…. Then one has to go through the annoying process of packing it up and sending it back when the next order might be just as disappointing etc etc etc. ‘Do you know what i’m getting at’. Whereas attending an

event at least you’ll probably get out of the house meet alot of different people and even if nothing comes of it you’ve had a social experience which may benefit you in different ways psychologically. Sorry, probably because I’m of an older generation, I feel this is the best way to meet people and enjoy life. Online this and online that, we’ll end up with square faces and frustrated losing out on human contact. After such event,as I mentioned above, the emails/

contacts could begin, why should I have to release my details to a completely unknown person who most of the time will not be to my liking.

Sorry if I sound like an old prune, but I believe this is the best way to meet people.

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Wed, 31 May 2017 13:04:02 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6661134Gotta be honest…I have match.com and I find it to be an epic waste of time for the most part. I have met men through the site and they always turn out to be jerks, players, and losers, even if they seemed nice at first. I no longer have pof.com but when I did I found that the men I was meeting resoundingly had the same problem as me: they were tired of paying for a service that was not meeting their needs. In online dating men and women have opposite problems. You see, I can get 10-12 emails per day on a slow day on each site I’m on and up to 50 per day per site on a big day. I’m a pretty lady and I attract a lot of initial attention. But maybe one per week is worth a follow up conversation (usually one a month) because the men are all wrong for me. 95% of the time they’re wrong for me because of a major deal breaker, like the fact that I mostly get emails from chain smokers despite explicitly stating in my profile that I don’t date smokers. So in short, I get loads of emails but almost none from people I could date or marry! My best guy friend gets no replies despite being a really great guy. He maybe gets one response for every 100 emails he sends. He’s good looking, charming, etc. I also should mention that if I take initiative and send an email, usually only the players and sociopaths respond, and the dating goes accordingly. And more and more people are becoming sociopathic because of all of these online relationships and connections. No one knows how to treat humans in person anymore.

We are both exhausted of dating, and especially online dating. There’s certainly no magic solution for finding and connecting with more of the right people. Online dating is still a waiting game. But the exhaustion comes from having to do it more often and having to deal with greater amounts of rejection and untoward behaviors. So while online dating is a great resource I also think that for a lot of people it is ruining dating and the idea of relationships.

And I’ll fairly say I met a man in November on match.com who was eager to pursue a relationship and make me his girlfriend and the moment I agreed to the commitment he started cheating on me. I’ve been on a few other dates, all I would call wastes of my time…and then the most recent guy who tells me I’m so special to him and the only woman he’s seeing and he asked me not to see other men, too, yet he seems to always be too busy to see me…and he just magically seems to have free time to use match.com and has asked out six of my friends. The point is…there’s more kelp in the sea these days than there are fish. So I don’t think match.com is always the answer.

“I’ve tried online dating for a year […] I’ve had about 10 men I went on dates with […] so why haven’t I been able to date one of these guys for longer than a few months?”

You’ve dated for one year, you’ve had one or more relationships that lasted for a few months, and you’ve been on dates with 10 men.

You’re doing better than I did in my first year of online dating.

Dating isn’t quick or easy. When I seriously got back into dating, it took well over three years before I started dating my wife.

You don’t want to get a long-term relationship with the first man. You want to get a relationship with the right man. That might take a little time.

karen said:

“They all lied inadvertently on their profiles…. thinking they were romantic or wanting a serious relationship….”

Based on the dictionary definition, a lie is “an intentionally false statement.” By definition, it is impossible to “lie inadvertently.”

For the 6+ years I was dating, I wanted a serious relationship. Not with every woman I dated, of course. Not with most women I dated.

Most women I dated didn’t want a serious relationship with me, either. Even if they really wanted a serious relationship.

I think those men did want a serious relationship. Once you find your serious relationship, you’ll be happy it wasn’t with any of them.

Regarding dating online:

Think of dating like investing. You wouldn’t put all of your money into one kind of investment. You would diversify.

Same thing with dating. Do some online. Do a few kinds of offline dating. Focus more on the stuff that’s working better, less on the stuff that’s showing worse results.

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Fri, 03 Feb 2017 00:22:13 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6594676I’m a widow of 21 months. I’ve tried online dating for a year… ourtime, eh armory, zoos, match.com… all were fruitless. I’ve had about 10 men I went on dates with… 1 a con man, 1 a player, 2 didn’t know what they really wanted even though they seemed eager at first, 1 widower suddenly couldn’t forget his wife. I am an attractive, funny, smart, easygoing, energetic, loyal, dependable 55 yr old woman. I’m no model, but they’ve All said I was cute, pretty, nice body… so why haven’t I been able to date one of these guys for longer than a few months? They all lied inadvertently on their profiles…. thinking they were romantic or wanting a serious relationship…. my circle of friends and colleagues workers are all married or too young. I’m saddened to think I’ll remain alone the rest of my life. I’m now terribly gun shy of those sites… and I always see the same guys on there that view me or like my pics but never message. … I could go on and on…. I’d say… avoid these sites, they don’t pan out.
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Wed, 11 Jan 2017 04:41:40 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6577960hahaha match.com! pfff that place is bullshit just like e-harmony stop telling me to try online dating its a total shit show all across the board. All it ever did was waste my time money and leave me with bad memories of creepy people.
]]>By: PThttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6576910
Mon, 09 Jan 2017 01:42:47 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6576910Unfortunately I found out the hard way that not all paid sites are actually fair in their promises. My experience with e-Harmony was that the site recycles old profiles to keep providing matches for you. The author is right that e-Harmony offers VERY little choice, so you can’t look through 40 profiles and choose which one you like. You are sent a group of “matches” on a daily basis that fit your algorithm. In my case, my specifications were likely too narrow because even with their super “scientific” algorithm, I kept getting profiles of guys who had long left the site and had listed on their profiles that they were no longer available, some stated they’d already found a relationship. I wondered why e-Harmony wasn’t auditing profiles better to prevent this, or at least dumping inactive profiles from the system. I deleted my photos before I left the site myself to prevent some poor guy from receiving my inactive profile as a match, I cancelled my paid membership, and no longer log-on to check messages. After bringing this to their attention, I had to call around the globe to get a refund of my remaining balance. Complete waste of time.
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Wed, 04 Jan 2017 06:08:45 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6575092Theodora

Im surprised at your caustic response. I intuit you are a man also.

Actually those older men who are overweight , unattractive and dishevelled tell me women their age are unattractive and overweight. They ARE essentially calling them hags.

I wonder why you are so personally offended. Maybe you are one of those guys

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Wed, 04 Jan 2017 05:53:40 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6575090I have to say I also felt u were a man, Theodora. And I felt that right after reading your first comment, before anyone else said it, so “group thinking” had nothing to do with it. If u are a woman, you must have very high T-levels.

I don’t like calling anyone out on the blog, but I feel that anyone pretending to be a diff gender here must have the ulterior motive of spreading misinformation.

I know it’s hard for you to believe because group thinking is more natural than free thinking to most people, but I am 100% a woman. If you want to convince yourself, I can give you an e-mail address, phone number or whatever.

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Tue, 03 Jan 2017 19:50:22 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6574991Hi Theodore Men do call women fat, old ,spoiled, etc on this blog on a regular basis, while also claiming to be desirable. Since you are a guy tho, you probably haven’t noticed.

We can make any judgement about anything that surrounds us – that’s why we have reason (aka judgement).

My “judgement” is actually an observation based on the contradictions in her own post (alleged kind-heartedness vs. calling people scraggly billy goats).

Im also a kind person but the overwhelming numbers of messages Match from mediocre men

The overwhelming majority of the people on this Earth are mediocre (average). The opposite of mediocre is exceptional, and just a small minority of people are exceptional (in looks, intelligence, accomplishments or other aspects). So, in what respects are you or her exceptional to deserve an exceptional (non-mediocre) man?who refuse to date women their own age gets very tedious.What I get from Mindys message is that these guys don’t get younger beautiful women
So, you don’t like messages from older men. Then ignore those messages and ignore those men, the same way they ignore the messages or attention they receive from women their own age. Easy peasy. Calling them scraggly billy goats accomplishes nothing – imagine men calling older women scraggly hags (from the kindness of their heart, that is).

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Tue, 03 Jan 2017 10:44:10 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6574840I tried Match. com in my late thirties as a very attractive, never married woman with no kids, now more than ten years later, divorced, with children, and obviously older, and still told I am very attractive, I get nothing but scraggly billy goats. I have an advanced degree, am told I am funny, and am kind hearted and fit, but get men who are over 60, overweight, and uneducated. It is so disheartening.
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Thu, 22 Dec 2016 02:59:35 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6570537So if 90% of the guys aren’t first date worthy, that means all the women are going for 10% of the guys. Mathematically, how do you think that will work out for you? If the guy is in the top 10%, you have to ask yourself, what exactly do you bring to the table that would make him want you? Having friends that are in the top 10%, I know they primarily use these dating sites as a pump and dump algorithm. They just use these sites for, “fun”. Women that are slightly above average thing they will get a guy in the top 10 %, not happening ladies.
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Thu, 01 Dec 2016 21:08:30 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6561020I have been on Zoosk and POF, I am finding that there are more people there to scam than date. I can recognize them now, but truly wonder where the decent people are.
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Mon, 07 Nov 2016 13:46:53 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6549528Per the comments above about a reasonably attractive woman not getting any traction on match.com:

I was in the same boat (very few incoming messages from men) until I took Evan’s recent advice and took a profile shot that included some cleavage. Suddenly inundated. Don’t be afraid to ‘market’ yourself, ladies. BTW, the new profile pic is of me in a dress I wear all the time so it’s still ‘me.’

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Sun, 06 Nov 2016 05:38:27 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6548822I was on Match a year. POF about 6 months and now OkCupid. I’ve dated until blue in the face. Folks in general not looking for long term. Having a great time serial dating.
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Tue, 18 Oct 2016 02:05:45 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6540193I had great luck 6 years ago on match.com and recently rejoined to be very disappointed—multiple scams, men posing to be something they are not, gold diggers, classless guys…needless to say I only lasted 3 weeks and then went to millionaire match and found the caliber of men much better, but still too many scams and just went off that site too. The bottom line is I am disappointed and scared…too many weirdos for me…I would rather be alone than deal with that! Afraid in NJ
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Mon, 17 Oct 2016 01:26:39 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6539678I’m 25 and I am not a cookie cutter girl, nor am I dumb thank you very much
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Mon, 10 Oct 2016 21:04:00 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6537208I live in Florida and am over 50. I know there are plenty of unattached men in this area but they all seem to want women that describe themselves as “petite” or “sexy”, even the men with pot bellies. I am more realistic and was very, very honest in my profile and had photos that were less than a year old. After three months, I had initiated over 40 emails and responded to EVERY email I received. The return rate on emails was less than 1%. Guess how many dates I had. Zero. ZIP. NADA. I started it with such hope and a very open mind. I ended totally discouraged, with my confidence in shreds. It was a total waste of time and money. I just can’t bring myself to lie or submit old photos.
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Tue, 04 Oct 2016 23:48:15 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6534899I must say, I agree with you! I probably tried almost all of the popular dating apps and felt as if it made me insecure about meeting guys face to face. Now, when I see a cute guy at the metro station or in a café I just smile but don’t go up and introduce myself, because I have no idea if he’s interested/single. It’s different from (example) Tinder, all you have to do is swipe, match then chat! Too easy and not so romantic.
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Fri, 23 Sep 2016 00:53:01 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6530041I was on match.com for four years and in that time met two “real” people, the rest were all scammers. Speaking to the two guys I met, they both told me of the number of scammers they interacted with as well.

I found Plenty of Fish is the “safest” of the sites I’ve been on and have met with some lovely guys. Not all worked out, but I have made some good friends there.

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Thu, 15 Sep 2016 06:41:41 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6527156Get a dog and go hiking instead! Who has time to sift through the mounds of garbage on these sites? There is absolutely no quality control on any of them. You have an extremely small chance of meeting anyone you’d really want to date and you will waste tons of time surfing and messaging too. Frustration and depression soon follow. Go out and do something fun instead!
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Thu, 15 Sep 2016 06:32:17 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6527152Match owns tinder
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Sun, 04 Sep 2016 14:12:15 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6520327I have been doing online dating, including Match.com, for about 5 years. I’ve never been married, have a good job, own my own home and am totally normal, so 5 years ago when I started, I thought I would find someone right away. What I found was that the guys I met and actually liked didn’t want relationships. Now I am 36 and still single with only the torture of online dating looming over me. The quality of guys has gone down, at least this is what I am assuming based on the terrible first messages I receive and the large number of profiles that say “to come”. And, it seems like Match.com and POF are trying to hard to turn into chat rooms rather than matching the right people together. I’m sick of one sentence answers back and forth. It seems like there are no other options for meeting anyone, especially at this age.
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Tue, 30 Aug 2016 17:14:25 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6517314Really? I have had the worst experience ever on match. In fact I am writing a detailed article on why anyone larger than a size ten should NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GO ON MATCH.com. Why would you recommend such a terrible site? Are they paying you? If so I hope it’s such a butt load of money you can overlook the fact these are crooks stealing from the average American like myself. I have never been so depressed in my life. Not to mention the just thievery that goes on there. Or dealing with their horrible customer service. Or fake profiles. Ladies, save your $110.00 unlike me. Unless you are a gorgeous, no larger than size 10 woman with so many other attributes you have no business being in match.com and need a modeling rep, DON’T JOIN. Run from this site!!!
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Mon, 22 Aug 2016 02:08:29 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6512069Online dating is an additional way to meet people; however, it is extremely frustrating and rarely results in a long term relationship. I was on match for over a year and have had the same experience as most of these women. You could be the best looking, the most fun, etc., but most of these men will move on to the next person just because it is a candy store to them. Most men on these sites have no intention on being in a long term relationship. They like the ego boost.

I have had better luck at meeting quality men ( intelligent, successful, nice) at high end steak houses. I go by myself and sit at a table in the bar area. I usually go Monday-Thursday during happy hour 5-7. I usually end up staying a lot longer. If you are a fairly attractive person and have a nice, talkative personality, you will have luck meeting quality men.

I am a huge football fan (college and NFL). I have had luck meeting men at nice sports bars. They are impressed with my knowledge and enthusiasm for the sport. I normally go with a group of friends, guys and girls. But, I will scan the place and make eye contact with the person I’m interested in. I will may sure they notice me.

My friend has met people at a carwash. She goes to a carwash in an upscale neighborhood and has met men while they were waiting for their car to be washed. I have not tried this, but I know that she has had luck with this.

I also have friends meet men by joining a bicycling group. The majority of the members of most groups and most are single. Any sport that is male dominated will help you meet men. I have a friend that took golf lessons and started playing. I haven’t tried these but would like to.

I think the other key is to be consistent. Do not depend solely on online dating. Be out in public. No one has ever met anyone while sitting on their couch.

I hope this was helpful. Best wishes!!!

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Wed, 17 Aug 2016 14:59:51 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6510789I am consistently told how well written my profile is, and how it stands out and is unlike anyone else’s. I understand how to write; it’s something I do very well. I show, rather than tell, I avoid lists, it’s personal, and it’s positive. I use language that would target a man with the level of education and intellect that I’m looking for, and I use humor. The writing isn’t the problem.
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Wed, 17 Aug 2016 12:50:37 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6510740http://Www.findingtheoneonline.com – if you don’t like men coming in, you’d better learn to write to the ones you want.
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Wed, 17 Aug 2016 12:34:23 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6510734So Evan, what would you suggest for an intelligent, articulate, attractive, woman who knows exactly how to write a stand out profile, and has subscribed to Match, (and other dating services) for SIX YEARS with no success? I get messages all day long, and yes, they are mostly from men I’m not interested in and would not be compatible with. The messages I send go unanswered. I completely understand the numbers game, and it’s why I’ve persevered this long, but it’s exhausting and extremely disheartening after all this time. I keep my photos current and periodically update my text to keep it fresh. My writing is always positive, and I am frequently told that my profile stands out and is like no one else’s. I know it isn’t my profile, and I don’t believe that my expectations for a Match are unrealistic either …
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Tue, 26 Jul 2016 21:20:51 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6501973I think that maybe one of the reasons they won’t meet is because they already have a girlfriend or wife. They like the flirt and the attention but when it comes down to meeting they get an attack of guilt.
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Lets just say that I didn't have much luck, I gave it time but the guys were really bad quality.
After closing my account I decided to sign up online as a kind of pen pal writing to guys in the Royal Navy...an old romantic! Never again, I was passed from one to another asking for nude pictures and in the end got sent pictures of genitals yet again.
I think I prefer real life even if I find that at 40 guys are either married with kids and want to have "fun", freshly divorced and want to have fun my age but looking for a younger woman or much older than me and looking for a younger woman...
but even after a divorce and trying numerous times I still won't give up!
]]>Hi all, I’m not American but I have been on Plenty of Fish…twice!

The first time I found it was whilst looking on Google for online dating sites. I wrote about myself etc and I was actually as genuine as I could be. I had quite a lot of guys get in touch, a few good looking guys (from their photos anyway) a few interesting but nobody that really caught my eye so I gave up after a couple of weeks.

The second time I wish I hadn’t decided to get back on there. My sister told me about it and said it would be worth a try (note:never take dating advice from her again)

Same thing, quite a few guys interested, I wrote back to 3/4 and was getting along really well with one in particular when one day he disappeared…into thin air. Ok I thought, a real shame but in the end “who cares” and carried on talking to another guy who seemed nice until he decided to send me pictures of his genitals (because I was so obviously interested in seeing that part before his face) 😬😬😬

Lets just say that I didn’t have much luck, I gave it time but the guys were really bad quality.

After closing my account I decided to sign up online as a kind of pen pal writing to guys in the Royal Navy…an old romantic! Never again, I was passed from one to another asking for nude pictures and in the end got sent pictures of genitals yet again.

I think I prefer real life even if I find that at 40 guys are either married with kids and want to have “fun”, freshly divorced and want to have fun my age but looking for a younger woman or much older than me and looking for a younger woman…

but even after a divorce and trying numerous times I still won’t give up!

POF site had my roommate bringing home crackheads and alcoholics,putting ME in danger. One of them started text harassing me.He started last week. He also caused a problem between my roommate and me. There are so many bad guys that I can’t even count them. And it’s sad. Because I live 42 miles from any town,and I don’t drink or do drugs. So that leaves out about 85% of the guys. The rest are just so homily or looking for a sugar mom. I don’t believe in this online dating bs. So I guess I will be alone forever. Which doesn’t seem as bad as getting raped or killed by some stranger who plays the game.

]]>By: Colleenhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6493971
Mon, 11 Jul 2016 00:57:40 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6493971I think you are spot on here. I don’t think you are shoving online dating in anyone’s face. You have clearly outlined your reasoning. The bottom line I get from your article is that you can’t meet “the one” without meeting “any one.” And let’s face it this day and age the easiest way to do that is through online dating. I don’t know if it’s technology that keeps us more distanced from people than ever before but the days of striking up a conversation for romantic purposes outside of the bar are gone.

I admit I have tried and failed with online dating, but that doesn’t change the objective or the means.

]]>By: Janicehttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6477235
Mon, 30 May 2016 21:34:30 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6477235My husband meet the women he is now with on plenty of fish, she was cheating on her husband too. Needless to say I am going through a divorce. All I would say from what I know and have learned be careful of people on any of these sites they lie and cheat it’s a game to them. My husband was not even sorry that he destroyed 30 yrs of marriage and nor was she. The Internet makes it to easy to cheat and lie and hurt I would not wish this on any one and would say what ever you are told or promised they are strangers with the power to deceive beware x
]]>By: Cathttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6459832
Thu, 28 Apr 2016 08:55:32 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6459832You won’t find quality guys on POF. They just won’t stay around for long, a month, tops. I’m not going to amplify any further because I don’t have the time, just to say, POF doesn’t work. I used Match years ago, that was much better, but I’m not going to pay £40 a month, come on, I’m an intelligent guy & good looking too. I’m better off meeting people in the real world.

Most women on POF are low quality or looking for attention, some may be genuine?

If you’re a intelligent guy with goals, self-respect and standards forget POF. I’m not sure any driven successful guy would ever need online dating anyway. Do you think he’s going to compete with loads of other guys online for a woman’s attention, no he isn’t!

]]>By: Karlyhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6459536
Wed, 27 Apr 2016 13:31:01 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6459536I hate online dating for 1 main reason. For me it’s been a complete waste of time. it’s borderline impossible to get anyone to actually meet in “real life” unless you happen to want to agree to meet them for sex that night. I had 1 guy last week who wanted me to meet him in a park, that night, after dark, to “f***”. In 5 years, across 6 or 7 sites, I’ve been on a total of 3 dates. 3!!! Not because I’m fussy, or because I turn everyone down, but because in my experience online “dating” is talking for a month (up to 4 months” but not meeting. Guys don’t seem to want to actually meet! Everyone wants to chat but no-one will actually meet. I get the “let’s get a drink” and I agree, but then they won’t set a day or time. When I have asked for specific, like “do you want to meet this week for that drink?” they’re either “busy” or don’t reply at all. It’s impossible and frustrating. There is nothing worse than chatting to someone for weeks, who you find interesring and want to meet, when they say they want to meet, but then won’t.
]]>By: Katrinahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6424352
Fri, 11 Mar 2016 19:34:14 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6424352Actually match owns all the dating sites including POF now and the sleaziest of them all Date Hookup. Talk about a Monopoly. POF has the dregs of the dating world and the paid members are the same as on Match. Same with OkCupid owned by Match. Any good dating site comes along Match takes over and ruins them. Don’t waste your money. It’s all very manipulated behind the scenes and I bet this guy is definitely paid to promote Match. If your talking to someone who promotes Match there being paid. Believe me
]]>By: Fadiahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6379402
Tue, 29 Dec 2015 06:02:38 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6379402Online dating sucks. It’s a waste of time. I would rather be single then waste my life on dude’s who want to text, and who never grow up and be accountable.
]]>By: Not againhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6375315
Tue, 22 Dec 2015 01:47:37 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6375315As I read these comments I do wonder if anyone has studied the patterns to dig deeper on why it does or does not work for people. Like do people in certain income brackets or geographic locations fare better than others. Does online dating perpetuate a kind of consumerism or commoditization that sours people on the experience. DK. As far as finding quality in quantity I doubt it’s any harder than in the old days of bar and club hopping but at least I didn’t have to share my inner most thoughts and desires for the world to see!
]]>By: Not againhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6375310
Tue, 22 Dec 2015 01:35:24 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6375310So where are the other ~2/3 meeting? 🙂

This topic intrigues me, as just like the commenters here, from what I’m told about online dating it’s a mixed bag. It works for some people, not for others and one of the biggest factors seems to be just luck (which would be like a lot of things in life).

From a numbers perspective, yes it makes sense. But is it possible that there is a significant number of people who just don’t have the temperament or personality to succeed in online dating? I’m a painfully private person and I know I could never get on board with online dating in a million years.

]]>By: Goldilockshttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6375264
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 23:34:04 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6375264I am having the same problem as you, BK. Like the people here have made lots of comments about men just want to get laid. It is very true but there other men asked me if I am foreign which I am not. They thought I am in Russia or Nigeria behind the fake member’s account. It is a pity. I will keep trying and if I need a break from Match.com then I will take break from the online soon as my subscription ends. Then resume back on Match.com. One of my former co-workers told me she met her boyfriend on Match.com and they dated for two years and they are happily married. We have to keep on trying and get involve in Stir Events as often as we can. Good luck to us.
]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6351589
Wed, 25 Nov 2015 08:04:01 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6351589Lisa,

I am male.

I realize women get much more messages and it’s so interesting to me that men would send naked pictures of themselves to women. Women just are not wired to be allured by that, so anyone who would do that out of the blue is just naive as to the differences between men and women. Sorry you had to endure that.

Some fools think they should send the same message to 5,000 women and see if they get a response. That’s just stupid. They get hardly any from a generic message! Ridiculous.

On POF you can require a longer message, I don’t think that is available on OKC, at least for free.

The only thing I can say is just say right out, “Don’t send me any naked pictures.” It might slow it down a little.

You can sure judge these men by that, can’t you?

]]>By: Alihttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6350273
Tue, 24 Nov 2015 07:21:08 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6350273I’ve never been on this site before….came upon it through a Google search. I’m sorry ladies, as a woman I have to say after reading all your comments I just have one thing to say. Women TALK and OVER THINK situations to the point of EXHAUSTION. My goodness…just reading all the comments and responses are making my head hurt. I’m beginning to see why men make so much $$$ as dating coaches, mentors, etc. WE MAKE THINGS SOO COMPLICATED. Thank you ladies for giving me MY aha moment. I’m going to keep things simple and light and just see what happens.
]]>By: Lisahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-2/#comment-6350079
Tue, 24 Nov 2015 02:53:17 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6350079Nope not you that’s OKC. I got all those same emails mixed in with a few decent ones. Several guys asked me to punch them in the face and the balls too what you are receiving is normal and nothing you did continue to expect it. Just ignore it and block the guys. My profile clearly said only a relationship that is monogamous my pictures were not sexy. I got some of that on match too but since OKC is free you just get a lot more of it. It won’t stop.
]]>By: Lisahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6350069
Tue, 24 Nov 2015 02:38:42 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6350069I had the opposite experience and was bombarded to the point that I could not keep up with the emails. I posted further down. I also live in a major city. I was 36 am 37 now 5’1 115 long blond hair I have big boobs 34 DD I mean I gotta be honest people tell me I’m attractive but I’m no super model. Obviously I’m single 🙂 I do have an advanced degree and a very good job. Never married no kids. I think what happens is all the guys email a small percentage of the women in their age range and they get angry and bitter because that small percentage of women are not emailing them back. There was actually a study that came out about this a few months ago. Most of the men emailing never read my profile and fell way outside my criteria. I was not being rude I just could not get through the emails. I don’t think it works for a lot of people for this reason. Did not work for me. If this was happening to me what was happening to the younger women? Men suddenly get on here and just email the best looking women there are suddenly thinking that online they can get whomever they want. I’m sorry this is mean. But I think this may explain why a small percentage of women still get a majority of the emails while some really great looking women who get tons of attention in person in real life get ignored online. A mans internet persona is totally different than real life. They sudden shoot for the stars and get disheartening when no one responds meanwhile lots of great women are being ignored.
]]>By: Lisahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-6350057
Tue, 24 Nov 2015 02:22:03 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6350057Jules and Not Jerry are you men or women? I had issues with both mostly like I said in my post far too many emails to keep up with but the reason I ask is because as a woman on OKC I got a ton of really disgusting sexual emails. I got some on match but a lot more on OKC I imagine because it was free and was wondering if other women had the same experiences on OKC or just me. I want to say it was about the same if not worse than what you get on tinder because anyone can contact you. The things I was asked to do omg and trust me I am no prude and I was very clear that I was looking for a committed relationship and did not post sexy pics.
]]>By: Lisahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6350050
Tue, 24 Nov 2015 02:12:33 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6350050I have commented before on this issue but since this is specific to online dating I will comment again. I was on match and then did OK Cupid and it was not effective for me. It was not because there were not a lot of men to meet on there it was actually the opposite. There were far too many. I was downright bombarded with emails. To the point I would have to hire someone to go through them if I actually wanted it to be effective. I’m a woman in her 30s so I simply can’t imagine what women in their 20s must go through. I guess I am attractive that’s what I am told. I would often be asked if I was a fake profile or things like why was on on the site. As I have lamented before most of the men that contacted me never read my profile they just looked at my pics which by the way were very appropriate and not revealing or anything. I spent a lot of time weeding through the emails from men that I would never date because they lived halfway across the country, smoked , did not want kids, were 20 years older or 10 years younger that I likely missed a lot of really good guys. At a certain point I just started looking at pictures because it was the quickest thing to do. The few guys I did meet were total jerks but I never got to the good guys because I was just too darn exhausted and overwhelmed. Then there were the follow up emails oh the follow ups. Match allows them to see when you log on and it’s like they wait for you to and try to im you and many get downright nasty. I emailed a few guys on my own but at a certain point I did not even want to log on because logging on meant you showed up in more searches and guys saw you were online. I promise I am not exagerraring or being pompous it just was downright exhausting. I have read suggestions to not put up a picture but that’s not fair I would not respond to that and I am not going to use a fake one. I did try eharmony before but I had some really strange dates on there that made me question their matching criteria. Twice I was matched up with a virgin in his 30s (2???) both very religious. I am a very sexual non practicing Catholic who considers myself an atheist how the heck did the questionnaire match us? They also insist on matching you with people really far away and when you reset the criteria to local they will actually tell you we can’t find anyone to match you with. I’ve had several friends join to be told that! Pretty depressing. I kept saying please don’t match me with people on the west coast I live in DC! I only use tinder because even though men are more sexual at least I can control who contacts me on there.
]]>By: SparklingEmeraldhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6315601
Mon, 02 Nov 2015 06:06:00 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6315601Hi Rivkah – You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. You might meet your prince IRL, through online dating or through a professional match maker. I met my guy through match.com. I also went to a match maker and they just charged me a lot of money, and I got NOTHING. Good luck to you whichever venue you choose. My experience on all the sites combined (Match, POF, OKC) had a lot of users, losers, scammers & fakers. I also met some really good guys but we just weren’t a match. It only takes one, and I found my “one” online.
]]>By: Rivkahhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6315189
Mon, 02 Nov 2015 01:39:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6315189Match.com is awful. The only men who responded to me were not a match at all, but jerks. One guy named his dog after himself and asked to remove my makeup. Another guy wanted to marry me after two conversations. Another guy asked for a $20,000 loan. Some of these men were foreigners, some were Americans. I unsubscribed from that site in a hurry, more than disappointed, more like disgusted. I am an older woman (60) but I look much younger. I am fed up with 30-somethings who abuse serious dating sites. Although looks are not everything, men are more visual than women, and some men tend to pick out the more attractive women and zero in on them, hoping to either have internet sex, or marry them for a green card. In my experience, the men I asked to meet suddenly disappeared, and I deleted the men who should have been on sex sites and not dating sites. I really detest dating sites and am considering paying a real dating agency.
]]>By: Donnahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6158287
Tue, 08 Sep 2015 16:32:13 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6158287I am also 62. Look great. In shape. Work hard to stay that way. I hope you give it another shot. I have been on Match on two separate occasions for several months. The first time, I made lots of mistakes and learned what NOT to do. Then I found (I worked hard and searched hard) what I thought I needed. He was four years my junior. We had a passionate two year relationship which I ended for all the right reasons. I gave myself time to grieve and heal and realized I didn’t need a man in my life but knew that I wanted one. So I got back on Match and eventually found (I let him chase me til I caught him) a great guy.

It’s possible and probable that you will find someone who loves you, excites you and, most of all, deserves you. This man and I have been together for nearly two years and, although we have recently separated, I have hope that the next one might be forever. Most of all, that it will be right for me. I am getting ready to get back on that horse again soon even though I am scared to death.

There are quality men out there looking for quality women. How tragic if we never find each other.

]]>By: bettyhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6117228
Thu, 27 Aug 2015 04:59:15 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6117228In general, I find that every guy I went out with from Match had something interesting going on, but not necessarily the thing that captivated me. The onus is on men to be the initiator, pay for the date, and try and discern who and what the woman is, and for many men, this is not easy! If I were in their shoes, I’m not sure I would be all that secure. So I try to be polite, because I know that I will be doing a lot of rejecting, mostly to a man who hasn’t done or said anything ‘wrong’.

It is a bit of the ‘luck of the draw’, but so much in life is circumstance. You were in the right place at the right time, or not.

So, if you can find someone in a movie meet-cute way-that’s great! If not, its online dating!

if I put that info into the profile on an online dating site..I will not get men who are my age seeking me out. They will think my photo is of a much earlier age. It doesn’t work. They would not consider a woman over 60. Hot or otherwise so I am not on the radar of 59-63year old men.

I am not interested in 75 year old men. I have worked hard to stay fit and attractive. I don’t frequent bars…and I have not dated a lot because EVERYONE tells me men just want younger women. And they may approach me thinking I am much younger..if they see me out….but I am not.

Yes…I need to get out there more. And I will. I took some time off from men. I know what you have to say about that. Walk in my shoes.

i just don’t think the online things works for everyone. I tried it.

]]>By: Kathhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6057383
Mon, 10 Aug 2015 16:44:44 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6057383Match seems in my experience a waste of time for women over 50 . So many guys 50 and up say they are only looking for significantly younger when they themselves seem very mediocre. I wouldnt join Match again . OK cupid is at least more entertaining. I like the personality profiles and reading answers to questions gives me more insight into guys personality . It seems a much less ageist site toward women .
]]>By: Jacquelinehttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-6055133
Sun, 09 Aug 2015 22:20:35 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-6055133I am currently subscribed to match.com and I really hate it.

1st of all, I feel like I am looking through a Male catalog.

2nd of all, there is too much left out. By just reading a profile (of how “they” perceive themselves), and seeing a picture, you aren’t capturing their true personality. Whereas, if you met in person, there personality could make up for what their physical appearance may be lacking.

So you could actually pass over someone, who may actually be “perfect” for you, because they didn’t catch your eye, But if you had met them in person, you may have really liked them, because of their personality.

There’s too much left out.

]]>By: Robynhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5954469
Thu, 09 Jul 2015 12:53:10 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5954469Of the 10 matches I got today on match.com only one of them had been active within the last 3 weeks. It’s like that most days.

Has Tinder killed paid dating sites? Is there somewhere better for an Australian in her late 20s. It seemed to be the same on eharmony too.

]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5952255
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 23:01:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5952255I didn’t mean that there are better people on one or the other, though that may well be.

By lower quality contacts on POF than on OKC, I mean the matching questions are good on OKC, and that you can read the other person’s answers results in better matching. So you have a chance at someone who is somewhat compatible, hopefully.

Some people on OKC don’t answer the questions, so they don’t get good matching. Just looking at the pictures.

That OKC matching isn’t perfect, I talked by phone with a person who was a 96% match, and we clashed. We’ll never meet.

On POF there is essentially no matching, most people are just looking at the pictures “Oh, she looks cute”. They have a couple of tests but they are like a black box. You don’t know what anything is based on.

On OKC, the matching is transparent. I like that.

So on either site you can get inquiries from those that just looked at the pictures, it’s like in past years, in a bar: “Hey, baby, what’s your sign?”.

You either buy into the science, or you don’t. It’s not perfect. But we can try, at least. When was the last time you met someone and discussed your stance on hundreds of subjects, before you decided to see them? And then, after that initial meet and greet you had to decide if you were going to see them again. At least with matching you get that part out of the way.

That all said, I can’t say what it’s like to be a woman on a dating site, I understand there are a lot of men sending messages indiscriminately.

]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5951460
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 19:11:18 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5951460BK, the reason you didn’t get response on match.com might be because only 6.9% of the people you see and can email are actual current subscribers.

There is a 93% chance that you are emailing non subscribers, who cannot respond.

They don’t make it possible for you to tell who is a subscriber and they don’t do anything to stop you from emailing non-subscribers, so it can certainly be disheartening.

]]>By: Karmic Equationhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950986
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 16:23:53 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950986When I was OLD, I was on POF, OKC, and for a short time on OurTime.

POF had more “blue collar” folks, although there was one hot financier who contacted me. He was only interested in sex as he was freshly divorced. I sussed this out via text messages and we never met IRL. I also traded a few texts with a cute orthopedic surgeon. So if by “quality” you mean people with money or higher education, yes, POF seemed to have fewer of those folks on the men’s side, anyway. But it was still not one size fits all.

OKC seemed to have more educated folks. More folks who were doctors, lawyers…and more nutty people too. One 65 yo stalker-ish guy that I had to block, a world-traveling sales director who was quite crude. So OKC seemed to have a bigger cross-section of all kinds of folks.

That said, I believe that more of the men I was in contact with on POF were relationship-oriented and more of the OKC men were interested in casual sex. There were definitely hotter men on OKC but the hottest guy was actually on POF, but 2 hours away from me. I’m sure he had women sending him naked pix left and right, so I had no chance. Oh well.

I did some research on my competition on both sites and I’d say that the women trended the same way as men, generally speaking.

]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950966
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 16:16:35 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950966EMK, I don’t think that problem was at all the money, it was that you are emailing ghosts, and you don’t know it.

And that you are not really sure who they show you, since if they showed you the paid and unpaid (chaff, those that as you say are not willing to invest money in their love life) interchangeably. So you are emailing those that you say are not worthy. No argument there.

They can’t however show you too many unpaid members, because you would be discouraged at the poor response.

This is different than your former employer, Jdate, which was a niche and I am pretty sure anyone who was on there was indeed serious.

]]>By: Evan Marc Katzhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950896
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 15:49:05 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950896Yes, I saw that and I commented on how they used statistics unfairly to skew their point. I’m not going to read it again to tell you what I found objectionable, but I can tell you that I believe that those who are willing to invest money in their love lives are more serious about relationships – in general – than those who utilize a free service.
]]>By: Evan Marc Katzhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950892
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 15:47:22 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950892Actually, it is. One study said 17% of marriages started from online dating. Another said 1/3 of marriages began with an online meeting. Either way, the Internet was the meeting point, not buses or Starbucks.
]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950792
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 15:00:49 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950792It’s not in match.com’s best interest to let you know who is paying or not, since you are part of their marketing plan.

You send wonderful, heartfelt emails to non paying people on match, their only options are to either ignore you, or pull out their credit card and respond.

That’s all intentional. And a huge conflict of interest on the part of match.com.

I agree, OKC is the highest quality contacts, as long as you weed out the ones that don’t follow the rules. Those that don’t answer enough questions for the matching algorithm to work.

Eharmony won’t allow you to do that.

POF is much lower quality contacts, but lots more of them. If you consider lots of low quality contacts success. I sure don’t.

]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950712
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 14:33:53 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950712Actually, what EMK said was “5% of the population (online daters) accounts for 17% of the marriages in the past 3 years.”
which is not exactly the same thing.

As he also said 100% of those same people who do online dating also have work or school, and friends, and family.

So it’s actually unknown whether online daters actually met the person they ended up marrying on a bus, or at Starbucks.

It’s not really fair to credit “online dating” for the resulting marriage, since we just don’t have the data for that.

]]>By: Not Jerryhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5950667
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 14:20:27 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5950667But did you ever read this? Before you say you disagree with this, let me just say that the author of this blog post now works for match.com.

They took the post down after they were acquired by match.com (match.com is a public company and owns 70+ dating site brands), but the post is still in the internet archive.

They bought their competitor and the author of this old post to get the mathematicians. For the matching.

But the inherent conflict of interest that pay sites always have remains.

]]>By: SparklingEmeraldhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5949551
Wed, 08 Jul 2015 05:51:14 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5949551Theresa & Beka – I met my match on match.com. All I mostly met on OKC & POF were guys who just wanted a booty call. And some fake profilers whose picture showed up on romance scam websites. (Google searching by image can help to weed out some of the scammers) Also, met many men on those sites who lied about, age, height, lifestyle and job. I had two “almost relationships” on Match before meeting the great guy I am with now. The other two “almosters” had many great qualities, and while we progressed past a handful of dates, we weren’t quite a match. My experience on OKC & POF is that they expected sex on date 2, and bailed when that didn’t happen. (and no, I wasn’t a sourpuss about turning them down, I set the boundary without accusing them of being perverts) I must admit, I had some dry spells on Match, and it did take me quite a while to find my guy, but I met the MOST quality, relationship oriented men from Match.com. Some guys were good guys, but just not a match for me. I only met ONE guy on POF that I would consider a good guy, but just not for me.

I am not trying to invalidate YOUR experience, just sharing my experience, as YMMV.

BTW, I am 60, my BF is 68. And we are crazy about each other ! So glad that I went back to match after almost throwing in the towel !

I am 40 and was on match for over more than a year. I didn’t have any good quality contacts from men neither any dates. I am sure that it wasn’t my pictures or profile any issue. Reading this post confirms what it is clear, is a general issue with match.com. Maybe as someone said previously, maybe the one you are insterested are not a paid member or just fake profiles!!.What a waste of time and money, I am very dissapointed of match.com but Zooks and OKC are working better for me. No more match.com at ALL. Yes to online dating.

I just wanted to say I read your blogs and post on FB almost everyday and I love all of them all! This post in particular is something that I paid a little more close attention to. I agree with everything you said in it. 🙂 I’m in my mid 30’s and still single. 🙁 I don’t blame anyone. ..it’s like you said if you don’t put yourself out there how do you expect to meet anyone? I’m a single parent, work full time and on my free time I’m usually at family gathers so I decided to try the whole online dating thing. I have tried match.com 2 times (3 month subscription) in gaps and made some friends but did not gain a serious relationship. Was I disappointed? Yes sure I was… I came across some charters but I didn’t let it scare me. Lol As a matter of fact, I’m going to try it again…they say the 3rd time is the charm! I’m not giving up on love! Thanks again for all your incredible advice, you are awesome! ! !

]]>By: Evan Marc Katzhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5948660
Tue, 07 Jul 2015 22:02:54 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5948660a) Divorce rate is going down steadily. College educated couples who get married over 30 are about 20%
b) There is no indication that online dating marriage are any worse than regular ones. Studies point in both directions.
]]>By: Chahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5948517
Tue, 07 Jul 2015 20:58:19 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5948517I have nothing against online dating – you gave a % of married couples that met through online dating. How many of those marriage was or are successful? Being successful and remaining together is VERY IMPORTANT GIVING THE AMOUNT OF DIVORCES TODAY.
]]>By: Mehttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5943254
Mon, 06 Jul 2015 03:08:33 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5943254Actually the same men on Match were all on Plenty of Fish too….

I tend to disagree with you and think that online dating sites provide another option and are another tool, but, shouldn’t we be able to think of other ways of meeting someone? every day there are opportunities to strike up conversation with someone you meet at the corner market to the coffer shop or gym…. I just think we’re losing the art of flirting because we’re starting to become more dependant on dating sites.

]]>By: Evawhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5937352
Sat, 04 Jul 2015 03:27:53 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5937352Goodness! So much time and effort rallying for or against Goldie. I just happened upon this site, and am astounded by how/why people concern themselves with another person’s personal perspective. Let it go, and live by your own creed proudly.

@Goldie…my only thoughts are that I am not reading genius level posts anywhere, from anyone; you included. That is not an intended bash. Maybe you have won a Pulitzer…I don’t actually care…but tossing around, ‘college professor,’ ‘mensa,’ and ‘intelligent?’…tone it down.

I can’t imagine dedicating anymore energy to this, so type away furiously if you need to…I am actually offering useful information to you: be real and skip the tossing about of psedu-intellectual catch phrases.

I will not spell check or proof this, so who knows what errors are to be found in my post! I am also not yelling from the mountain tops about my education or supreme intellect…so grammatically errors?…expect them. Goldie: your comments ought to be cleaned up grammatically…ending sentences in prepositions is a nasty no no.

]]>By: Josephine Nguyenhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5837755
Thu, 11 Jun 2015 00:33:41 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5837755Claire, I totally agree that online dating is not way to go for me. I have better luck meeting in person sometimes that is not so good but odds are way better than online. The best way meet meet quality men through friends and meet in person with interest and activities the same that is where I am headed.
]]>By: Wonderinghttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5656696
Mon, 04 May 2015 03:10:58 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5656696Dear Evan, I’ve read both your article and the comments, and here’s what I can’t figure out. It’s clear you don’t get any endorsement from Match, so why advocate them exclusiviely? I recognize the value in much of what you say, so would be curious to understand why the particular emphasis on Match? Thanks in advance for your consideration, A Fan
]]>By: Brandy shewhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5631830
Wed, 29 Apr 2015 03:34:15 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5631830Im on okc and its the same as pof or date hook up. Match and eharmony. I swear if i read one more email about sex. Ill scream. They are all so friggen normal. Till u talk off the site. I persoanly use kik so i dont give my number out to these losers. But once u talk for more than ten twenty txts. Its all bout sex!!! I mean really? We havent even made it to the first date! Im pretty. Im smart. Have a job. Own my own home. Dont have young kids… Where are the guys that are like me? Normal and wanting more???
]]>By: Mikalahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5543607
Sun, 05 Apr 2015 11:44:11 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5543607Okay I’m going to put my two sense into this because I’ve had both good and bad experiences with online dating. I’ve been on OKC, Match, and POF. i met my last boyfriend on POF and although things didn’t work out, he was a nice guy. I had one date on Match with a guy who I enjoyed going out with, it just didn’t work out because the chemistry for me just wasn’t there. OKC, I had to delete that account I got too many emails from guys that were weird, asking me for sex, and disgusting. The quality of men on the OKC site was just low, I got incredibly frustrated and overwhelmed by all the emails that I just deleted the profile. I do agree that you have the enter the online dating pool with a positive attitude I can’t tell you how many people sent me emails that were just angry and bitter and tired of dating online, that attitude does come across very clearly when you’re communicating with someone, so be careful. Allow yourself a break if need be from the online stuff and jump into it again when you’re ready. I highly recommend the paid sites cause I just believe the quality of men you meet there is much better and they are obviously making an investment on meeting someone. Make sure your pictures are good and that you’re honest on your profile and positive! I think that will pay off in the end. I know it’s a bit hard to navigate the online dating world, believe me I know, but as long as you’re not expecting to meet your future husband in the next week of subscribing then you’ll be fine. Online dating takes time and you have to be willing put the time and effort into meeting someone. We unfortunately live in this quick fix society where we think that just because we are on a site we’re immediately going to meet ” The one”, part of dating online is weeding through the bad ones and you do get the good ones here and there, that’s why we appreciate them more. Online dating I think is a great way of meeting people especially if you don’t have a lot of time on your hands to go out and socialize, I highly recommend it. Just pace yourself, don’t expect too much, and take it in stride.
]]>By: LauraJhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5535564
Fri, 03 Apr 2015 10:43:36 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5535564One thing I forgot to say is that I resent paying for online dating given that: 1) I’ve been doing it for at least 12 years 2) It’s not been a good experience 3) Have had abusive emails. If it was free or someone was paying ME to do it, I might be able to endure it for longer but I don’t think I can. It’s not that I disagree with what Evan has said, this is just how I feel after my own experience. If anything, it has put me off men for good. Given all this, I’d rather spend the money on new clothes, or at least a DVD and bottle of wine.
]]>By: LauraJhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-2/#comment-5535538
Fri, 03 Apr 2015 10:32:00 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5535538I’m sorry you had this experience, but I had to admit I laughed out loud. 🙂 Perhaps if we’re all to continue to endure online dating we need a webpage where we can share our stories…
]]>By: LauraJhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5535414
Fri, 03 Apr 2015 10:06:08 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5535414I agree with the logic behind this advice from Evan, I totally do. Having been mostly single my adult life, and not at age 37, having done internet dating for so many years I hate it so much I think I have to delete my profiles just to stay sane. I agree the main ones Match, POF and eHarmony seem to be better. I personally would not go near POF again even if THEY paid ME. I have found that Match contains many of the same men who are on POF although Match does attract the higher quality ones. eHarmony attracts people who are looking for a proper relationship (apparently) but I’d have to travel over 30 miles to meet most of them which defeats half the purpose of online dating, i.e. not having time to socialise loads. I feel that if I paid for a 10 year subscription to Match I might finally meet someone, but will it be worth it if I have gone insane in the process? I have had nasty emails from men on POF and Match, and yes they get kicked off the site, but it’s still an awful experience.
So I agree with Evan’s advice in principle, it just doesn’t seem to have worked for me so far. I tell myself that it would probably be the same in real life, but either way I’m tempted to stop looking. They do say that to get different results you have to do different things. Having tried everything the only thing left is do absolutely nothing!! Whether that includes deleting my profiles is a decision for a better mood.
]]>By: Iconoclasthttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5453107
Tue, 24 Mar 2015 02:32:38 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5453107I actually relate to what she said about wanting to meet very intelligent men. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out why I could not relate to the majority of men that I met – finally figured out that I’m basically a nerd/geek and feel most natural with other nerd/geeks. It’s not a ‘better’ or ‘worse’ thing – just we tend to be ‘wired’ a bit differently. More introverted (though we fake extroversion – sometimes quite well), more thought-focused, sometimes a bit more neurotic…… Tend to think about ideas more than things, can be a bit socially awkward. So- yes, I can relate. The last guy I met that I really liked was at a lecture on physics and the meaning of life at the NY Academy of Sciences….. So I tend to focus on those types of places… so, again – I do relate. And it’s not about being stuck up. Everybody has a type that they like – hey, some women love body-builders… Some like flashy men…. I like nerdy brainiacs. Sexy ones! 😛
]]>By: Iconoclasthttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-5453039
Tue, 24 Mar 2015 02:24:54 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5453039It’s ‘Juanita Broaddrick’

Better yet, Google up ‘Bill Cinton Rapes’

There were several allegations, going all the way back to his days at Oxford.

]]>By: Silviahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5239995
Sat, 28 Feb 2015 21:33:13 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5239995POF was lower quality, men were cursing at me just for not replying to their messages because I was not interested. Men on that site were no college, no manners, no good intention they are just looking for sex, abussive if you didn’t give them your ph number minutes after the 1st message. Not a good experience. Who wants messages from a bunch of losers.
]]>By: Silviahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-5239905
Sat, 28 Feb 2015 21:19:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-5239905i think on line dating is better than meeting guys at other places. It is true that men may lie about some things on their profile but men lie when you meet them in other places too. At least on line you know something about them before you waste your time going on a few dates and spend even months finding out the guy is a loser. I recommend being careful since on line men can be anyone and can have ill intentions so never tell them where you live and meet them at public place you know is safe. Proceed with caution always but know that there are good men on line and they are easier to find on line than out in the street, men no longer approach women like they used to, times have changed and men are a lot more laid back when it comes to aporoaching women specially when they get older. Women are also more aggressive and if you are not comfortable being the aggressive one it is harder for you to meet men at public places. Match.com is pretty good.
]]>By: Chandahttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-4749756
Mon, 12 Jan 2015 23:22:21 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4749756Claire knows what is up. If I were a cookie cutter girl, boring, dumb, 20, I would find tons of dudes on match. Its for boring people.
]]>By: Ally_Kathttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-2/#comment-4614744
Sun, 04 Jan 2015 02:18:35 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4614744This is EXCELLENT advice! So sorry that happened to you!
]]>By: Spocksgirlhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-2/#comment-4569206
Thu, 01 Jan 2015 03:44:51 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4569206I just happened on this site and after reading the article and your post, I have to say your post made the most sense. AND gave me some new ideas on where to meet men!! I tried online dating a number of times. I tried the free ones then the paid ones. During my last venture I decided to really invest, contact at least one man every time I logged on, etc. Just wasn’t a good experience. And let’s face it, some people come across better in person.
So ladybug, I am going to try the places you mentioned in your post. Best advice I have ever read!

GOOD LUCK
]]>By: Christinehttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-4496820
Sun, 28 Dec 2014 01:36:49 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4496820I don’t like online dating. The one experience that shied me from it permanently was I met a criminal on there-a guy that had been under home surveillance for getting involved with a minor male. That did it for me. I would like to date again, but every time I think about trying again, I remember that and it scares me. The other guys I met were just looking for a quick roll in the hay. That’s not what Im about. I’d like to find another way to meet quality men without all the hassle of online dating. Friend and family referrals are not an option-they are all married or coupled and so are the other people they know. I am approaching 50 and I’m very discouraged.
]]>By: Bald is Beautifulhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-4450653
Thu, 25 Dec 2014 05:33:18 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4450653I have tried POF, OKC, Match, eHarmony, etc. and for me is was a bust and here is why I am a bald guy and am no eye candy in an image. Personality and intelligence I can cut the carpet with anyone and am super fun to be around. If you suffer in the looks department and you are a male you are way better off meeting women in places where you see them on a regular base. I just did not attract the attention I wanted online period, so be careful to pick your arena that delivers the desired results.
]]>By: Lizhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-4441042
Wed, 24 Dec 2014 16:39:36 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4441042I was not happy with match.com. Minutes after joining, I started receiving non-stop IM’s which all started with some variation of “Hello Pretty” or “Hello Beautiful”. ALL of these men were scammers sharing a similar and bar bones profile with photos that must have been scammed from mature men’s modeling sites.
Now, I consider myself reasonably attractive but after working in theatre for years, I take my own advice that I would give young actresses, “Never date anyone prettier than you because they will cheat on you, there’s only room for one diva in a relationship and you don’t want to have to fight for mirror space in the bathroom.” So, when a man who looks like George Clooney who claims to be an international diamond dealer with a bad grasp of English starts IMing me, I’m suspicious. Most of the attention I got on these site was from Nigerian scammers.
The other type of person I got were haters because I said I wasn’t interested in anyone who watches FOX News. I made no other comments with regard to politics. So, I had about a dozen responses from “gentlemen” who called me a liberal cunt or variation thereof; thus confirming my desire to avoid people who watch Fox News.
I met one fellow for coffee with the stipulation that we not talk about politics which is all he did for about 30 minutes before I got up and left by faking an attack of irritable bowel syndrome.
So, by all means try match.com if you want to fend off Nigerian scammers, misogynists or ego-maniacs. I’d love to find someone to canoodle with both intellectually and physically but the aggravation of the on-line sites is not worth it. I’ll just stock up on batteries and bacon and entertain myself.
]]>By: Evan Marc Katzhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/comment-page-3/#comment-4427202
Tue, 23 Dec 2014 18:34:02 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4427202“Online dating is unnatural, and all the couples I’ve seen who have met online have a certain weirdness about them. It’s hard to describe, but you can see that they never quite get comfortable with each other the same way that people who meet in person do.”

That has to be the most inane thing I’ve ever heard. Sorry. But when people are together for 5 years, the way they met has NOTHING to do with their relationship. The way you meet is over instantaneously. Who cares if it’s through a friend, at a bar, on a subway, in traffic court, or on OkCupid? The story of the relationship is written for YEARS afterwards; how you meet (unless it’s in prison) is entirely irrelevant.

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Tue, 23 Dec 2014 18:25:37 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4427125I agree and disagree about online dating. I tried it in the past for over two months, before I experienced massive burnout. I’m thinking of trying again, because I agree with the point that meeting men is difficult, if not impossible, otherwise. Half the people I know who are in relationships have met online. I’m a returning college student, and all I meet are younger men who don’t know how to treat a woman they are interested in as anything but a friend. So if you want to go on dates, online dating is the way to go.
As an attractive woman, I was swamped with dating requests. I went on 2-3 dates a week. The problem was that the men were all of poor quality, in that they all pushed for sex desperately on the first date, as if they hadn’t gotten laid in years. Many were pathologically shy and couldn’t hold a conversation to save their lives. They couldn’t even walk side by side with me; they were so shy that they would pull ahead, walk so fast that I couldn’t keep up, then wait for me at the door. It was getting very, very irritating.
Online dating is unnatural, and all the couples I’ve seen who have met online have a certain weirdness about them. It’s hard to describe, but you can see that they never quite get comfortable with each other the same way that people who meet in person do. It’s not what I prefer, but again, you can’t meet them anywhere else. They are not at bars, coffee shops, school or volunteering. They are on the internet. That’s the way our world works.
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Mon, 22 Dec 2014 04:15:03 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4400957Hope this post is still active, I am recent to Match and I have definitely received plenty of emails, winks and interest from men on the site. I am looking for something serious, but I don’t know if I am willing to spend such a large sum of money to contact the fellas that have sparked my interest. Is it worth it, honestly? I pay attention a lot to what the men write on their profiles, if it screams immature, or not my type(OLD, creepy and not my type externally) then of course I won’t bother. But are the amount of emails and likes, match notifies the user about exaggerated by the MATCH TEAM? (No – EMK)
]]>By: Kayhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-4321445
Wed, 17 Dec 2014 23:15:18 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4321445Excuse my typos, I’m doing this on my phone =)
]]>By: Kayhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-4321422
Wed, 17 Dec 2014 23:13:24 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4321422Sounds like Mensa needs to start a dating program.
#geniusproblems

But seriously and kindly, might I suggest that your results might have a lot to do with your attitude towards “average” people? I don’t deny that some people are absolute idiots sometimes, but not everyone who doesn’t read “Physics of the Future” for fun is a dud. I don’t like to read books but still love learning. I like to read articles online and ask questions about random things like , space and the human brain. I hope you find someone who you provides the level of intellectual stimulation. You seek.

]]>By: Kayhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-4321143
Wed, 17 Dec 2014 22:46:31 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4321143Bahaha! It’s clearly stated that your name is Evan! I have been considering Match.com but have read mixed reviews about the site. Most of the information that was negative, had more to do with their shady cancelation and credit card charging more than the dating aspect. With that said, I thank you for your insight and appreciate what you wrote because it opened up a platform for people to talk about their actual experiences on Match and other sites. I am 22 and have been excited to meet new people and start another relationship since my boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up about 1 year ago. By the time we broke up, he had just turned 30. We thought we were going to get married at some point, but then he quit his 6 figure job to pursue comedy (don’t ask!). I supported him (financially and emotionally) for about another year, until the financial burden(he had to move from San Francisco to Oakland) and his obsession with pursuing comedy(the only way we could spend time together was if I went to all his shows, otherwise I would never see him.I had to go to work and school in the morning and comedy is a late night career.) eventually ruined us.
After that I carried on with my life and dated lots of new men, some my age, some much older, and eventually grew tired of dating and stopped doing it. In the recent months, I’ve been wanting get to get back in the game , but want serious relationship minded men. I thought Match.com might be a good choice, but sounds like OKC or PoF might be better to start. Thanks everyone for sharing!
]]>By: Katehttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/online-dating-tips-advice/the-single-best-place-to-meet-quality-guys/#comment-4160892
Mon, 08 Dec 2014 01:44:17 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4160892Bill Clinton is an intellectual with “heart”??? Lol… If you aspire to meet a man like BC, you may try the sexual assault ward at your local prison or jail. There are sure to be many of similar character there. Google Juanita Broderick. Or, you could see if Bill Cosby is looking to mingle… In all seriousness, please be careful when dating, safety is always the most important consideration.
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Sun, 07 Dec 2014 23:14:51 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-41589369% of married couples are meeting in bars. 1/3 are meeting online. Evidently SOMEONE is having success on Match.
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Sun, 07 Dec 2014 18:48:07 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=9125#comment-4155060This is totally speculation. I’d like to see your metric charts. Match.com really sucks btw.
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