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Hello seaweedlover: Well... I don't know the answer to your question. The fact that you ask it may suggest you're not really a narcissist. You may have some narcissistic traits. I think I probably have a few of those too. But as the article below suggests there's a difference between having some narcissistic traits & having narcissistic personality disorder:

If one reads through the various articles in PsychCentral's archives on narcissism (& probably elsewhere I would presume) I think one would soon become convinced there is nothing good about a true narcissist. At least that is the impression I've been left with. That's about all I can say on the subject.

By the way... I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

Is every narcissist inherently evil? If so, does that automatically deem me a bad person?

Hi, you would not be asking that question if you were an narc. Everyone has a certain amount of "healthy" narcissism, that is normal. Unfortunately "narcissism" is a term that is too loosely tossed about these days (albeit they do appear to be on the increase, no idea why) As a result of the term being bandied about so frequently, people become dismissive of a person who can spot an narc a mile away and attempt to warn that person of eminent danger.

Real narcs are extremely dangerous people. Their acts are evil. They lack so much and are so inwardly unhappy, seething, full of hatred. They have the need to cover this up (especially to themselves). They have a desperate need to come across and feel they are superior, they are the walking wounded, if extreme soulless individuals with deep seated lack.

They often seek sympathy and suck it up like Dracula at the blood bank. They cannot get enough narcissistic supply. They have no issue using whoever they can to fulfill their needs but just as quickly dump and in fact denigrate those same generous, kind people when he or she is finished with them.

If you upset them, they may destroy you, at the least you will pay a penalty. A hint of disapproval will inflict narcissistic injury, which will be met with disproportionate reprisals.

Narcs are not simply self-centered, egocentric people; although these characteristics are part of their profile, but these characteristics and so many more to the extreme.

Hi, you would not be asking that question if you were an narc. Everyone has a certain amount of "healthy" narcissism, that is normal. Unfortunately "narcissism" is a term that is too loosely tossed about these days (albeit they do appear to be on the increase, no idea why) As a result of the term being bandied about so frequently, people become dismissive of a person who can spot an narc a mile away and attempt to warn that person of eminent danger.

Real narcs are extremely dangerous people. Their acts are evil. They lack so much and are so inwardly unhappy, seething, full of hatred. They have the need to cover this up (especially to themselves). They have a desperate need to come across and feel they are superior, they are the walking wounded, if extreme soulless individuals with deep seated lack.

They often seek sympathy and suck it up like Dracula at the blood bank. They cannot get enough narcissistic supply. They have no issue using whoever they can to fulfill their needs but just as quickly dump and in fact denigrate those same generous, kind people when he or she is finished with them.

If you upset them, they may destroy you, at the least you will pay a penalty. A hint of disapproval will inflict narcissistic injury, which will be met with disproportionate reprisals.

Narcs are not simply self-centered, egocentric people; although these characteristics are part of their profile, but these characteristics and so many more to the extreme.

Huh? How do you know all this?

What is a "narc"?

Does your characterization of "narcs" apply to all people who may, or have been, diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder?

I think people, no matter their diagnosis or non, want love. It seems itís the desire for control that is behind these disorders. Itís when a person feels powerless and they grasp for control. They may commit an evil act. But no person is a bad or evil person.

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Hi, you would not be asking that question if you were an narc. Everyone has a certain amount of "healthy" narcissism, that is normal. Unfortunately "narcissism" is a term that is too loosely tossed about these days (albeit they do appear to be on the increase, no idea why) As a result of the term being bandied about so frequently, people become dismissive of a person who can spot an narc a mile away and attempt to warn that person of eminent danger.

Real narcs are extremely dangerous people. Their acts are evil. They lack so much and are so inwardly unhappy, seething, full of hatred. They have the need to cover this up (especially to themselves). They have a desperate need to come across and feel they are superior, they are the walking wounded, if extreme soulless individuals with deep seated lack.

They often seek sympathy and suck it up like Dracula at the blood bank. They cannot get enough narcissistic supply. They have no issue using whoever they can to fulfill their needs but just as quickly dump and in fact denigrate those same generous, kind people when he or she is finished with them.

If you upset them, they may destroy you, at the least you will pay a penalty. A hint of disapproval will inflict narcissistic injury, which will be met with disproportionate reprisals.

Narcs are not simply self-centered, egocentric people; although these characteristics are part of their profile, but these characteristics and so many more to the extreme.

I think people, no matter their diagnosis or non, want love. It seems itís the desire for control that is behind these disorders. Itís when a person feels powerless and they grasp for control. They may commit an evil act. But no person is a bad or evil person.

Good points. Powerlessness is a scary feeling, a scary situation. People's focus in those instances can be totally on themselves and not the effect of their actions on others. It's been a problem people have been wrestling with for centuries without any easy answers. Maybe if we could talk about these things without demonizing others we might make a little more headway.

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