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Coping confession

I posted earlier this week that my mother is visiting and I am at my wits end with her and we are only HALFWAY done (one week left to go). I saw my therapist this week and she really helped. I have chronic headaches and have Vicotin to help on the really bad days. My confession is that I have been taking one with my nighttime meds even though I have no headache. It has really been numbing me out and gives me this sense of calm that I don't have the rest of the day. My therapist says that I run from my negative emotions, which is exactly what I am doing now. I want to stop and have every intention of not taking it once she leaves, but I can't seem to stop while she is here. I look forward to numbing out all day.

While Im not saying it is a good thing to do, I understand. Ive abused pain pills before, not massively because I rarely have them prescribed to me because I dont need them, but I would be lying if I said I didnt like how they make me feel. Is there any talking to your mom about what shes doing thats making you nuts?

Yes to all of the above. LOL. She is terribly critical and expects to be waited on hand and foot. I am also overall just annoyed with her. I do understand that what I am doing is toeing the line between numbing out and becoming addicted. I also need to understand that I am going to be hurting when I am out of the med and I actually need it. She just drives me crazy!!

Quoting lancet98:

There are other ways to cope with mom in law!

What exactly does she do? Is she critical of you? Does she complain a lot? What's she doing? Let's start there.

Vicodin and medicines like it can be very difficult to stop taking, you can even get addicted. Please stop taking it to cope with her. Let's find other ways of dealing with that.

I am thta way with caffeine and nachos, so I understand, but painkillers scare me. I've seen them ruin a marriage already (nephew). I don't have any suggestions but if there is something else you can do to calm down, I'd try that first. Bath, scream in the shower, play loud music over headphones, run in place, eat unhealthy foods- anything that works.

Getting to the root of the problem and dealing with her criticism, and telling her what is not acceptable, is better, but I know that's a huge step and we can't always make that, and I do understand where you're coming from.

Yes to all of the above. LOL. She is terribly critical and expects to be waited on hand and foot. I am also overall just annoyed with her. I do understand that what I am doing is toeing the line between numbing out and becoming addicted. I also need to understand that I am going to be hurting when I am out of the med and I actually need it. She just drives me crazy!!

Quoting lancet98:

There are other ways to cope with mom in law!

What exactly does she do? Is she critical of you? Does she complain a lot? What's she doing? Let's start there.

Vicodin and medicines like it can be very difficult to stop taking, you can even get addicted. Please stop taking it to cope with her. Let's find other ways of dealing with that.

You're doing a great job, but doing a great job at the wrong thing - convincing yourself it's ok to take a narcotic,risking an addiction to a substance that could literally RUIN your life, to deal with a crabby in law!

GUESS WHAT? You are being irrational. The situation DOES NOT WARRANT IT.

I did that with my Percocet. I was giving a couple pills for back pain, but only used it to take one to fall asleep. I don't get addicted and there are no symptoms when I stop taking it. I just feel lucky that for a couple days I get to get good sleep. I never ask for more but if I got it I use it to sleep.

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