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What If We Treated All Consent Like Society Treats Sexual Consent?

Check it out: You can find a curse word-free version of the comic here.

(Content Warning: Rape and sexual assault)

Consent around sex is ignored all the time, and it’s not okay.

These everyday examples of how we give consent for other things shows just how absurd it is to blame sexual assault survivors or to try to justify rape in any way.

Here’s some much-needed perspective on what consent really means.

With Love, The Editors at Everyday Feminism

Click for the Transcript

Text Above Panels: If it’s not okay to treat your friends like this…

Panel 1

(Two men talking on a couch.)

Man #1: “Wanna watch Pulp Fiction?”

Man #2: “Sure!”

Panel 2

(The same men with a text box in the upper lefthand corner that says “a half hour later.”)

Man #2: “Eh, I’m not really liking this, let’s do something else.”

Panel 3

(The same men, but Man #1 is now blocking Man#2’s chest with his arm while Man #2 looks startled.)

Man #2: “No! You said you’d watch the movie, so you’re staying until it’s done.”

Panel 4

(A man and a woman are standing next to a car. The man is holding a set of keys.)

Man: “Thanks for letting me borrow your car.”

Woman: “No problem.

Panel 5

(The same woman is standing next to the car looking frustrated while the man sits in the driver’s seat. There is a text box in the upper lefthand corner that says “One week later.”)

Woman: “What are you doing?”

Man: “Borrowing your car! You said I could.”

Panel 6

(The woman has her hands on her hips and is frowning at the man, who is frowning back at her.)

Woman: “You can’t take my car whenever you want it!”

Man: “That’s bullshit! You said I could have it once, so I should be able to have it all the time.”

Panel 7

(Two women are speaking to one another. There are notes of music floating over them.)

Woman #1: “I really like The Fluffy Bunnys’ new song.”

Panel 8

(Woman #1 is lying in bed, covering her ears with her hands and looking startled while Woman #2 sits on the edge of the bed with a stereo playing music. A text box in the upper lefthand corner reads “The middle of the night.”)

Woman #1: “Augh! What the hell?!”

Panel 9

(Woman #1 is still covering her ears, now frowning, while Woman #2 frowns at her and crosses her arms over her chest.)

Woman #2: “You said you liked this song!”

Woman #1: “Yeah, but I don’t want to listen to it while I’m sleeping!”

Panel 10

(A man and a woman are speaking. The man is pointing at his arm with one hand and holding a bottle in the other, with swirls around him to indicate that he’s drunk.)

Man: “So that’s the design I want, someday. Right here.”

Panel 11

(The man is passed out with his shirt off. The woman is sitting over him smiling and using a tattoo gun on his arm. A text box in the upper lefthand corner says “While he’s unconscious.”)

(No text, but the tattoo gun is buzzing.)

Panel 12

(The man, still shirtless and looking horrified, is examining a smiley-face tattoo on his arm, while the woman is frowning at him.)

Man: “You tattooed me while I was passed out? What is wrong with you?!”

Woman: “You said you wanted it!”

Man: “But I didn’t want it when I was unconscious and didn’t know what was happening!”

Panel 13

(A man and a woman are seated at a table with plates in front of them.)

Man: “Thanks for making breakfast, sweetie.”

Woman: “You’re welcome!”

Panel 14

(The man is seated at an empty table while the woman stands next to it, shrugging. A text box in the upper lefthand corner reads “The next morning.”)

Man: “Where’s breakfast?”

Woman: “I didn’t feel like cooking. Have some cereal.”

Panel 15

(The man is frowning and shouting at the woman while the woman looks scared.)

Man: “You are my wife, and it is your duty to cook for me! Now make me some eggs, or there will be hell to pay!”

Panel 16

(A man is holding a deck of cards is smiling and speaking to a woman who is smiling at him.)

Man: “I brought the cards! Now I can teach you poker.”

Woman: “Cool!”

Panel 17

(The man and woman are seated at a table with cards in front of them. The woman looks unhappy. A text box in the upper lefthand corner says “A short time later.”)

Woman: “Now that I know the rules, I don’t think this game is for me.”

Panel 18

(The man is frowning at the woman, who looks surprised.)

Man: “You can’t invite me over to play cards and then not want to play cards! I went to all this trouble for you, so you owe me, and we’re playing.”

Panel 19

(A man in a tank top and shorts is approached by a similarly dressed man holding a weight-lifting plate.)

Man #2: “Hey you, c’mere, take this.”

Panel 20

(The first man is now holding two boxes, and the other man is adding another box to his arms. A text-box at the top says “Soon.”)

Man #1: “But I don’t want to carry this stuff. Stop it!”

Panel 21

(The second man has his hands on his hips and is frowning at the first man.)

Text Below Panels: Then it’s not okay to treat your sexual partners like this either! Practice affirmative consent by always asking before sex, checking in to make sure your partner is okay with what you’re doing, and stopping if someone says they don’t want to go any further.

Alli Kirkham is a Contributing Comic Artist for Everyday Feminism and blogger, cartoonist, and intersectional feminist. Alli earned a BA in English Literature from Cal Poly Pomona in 2011 and uses it as an excuse to blog about books while swearing a lot. When she isn’t cartooning for Everyday Feminism or cursing at popular fiction, she posts cartoons and other silly things on her Tumblr. Check her out on Twitter @allivanlahr.