Whaoza! Here's A Dis-Incentive For H'S To Do Housework.

Maybe this is why I am in an SM.

STUDY: Husbands who do more housework have less sex

Here are some hot new findings in the world of domestic bliss.

Sociologists say married men who spend more time doing traditionally female chores, such as cooking, cleaning and shopping, report having less sex than husbands who don’t do as much. Conversely, men who did more manly chores, such as yard work, paying bills and auto repairs, reported having more sex.

The study, using data on heterosexual couples in the United States from National Survey of Families and Households, appears in the February issue of American Sociological Review.

As a graph from the paper below, the difference is pretty stark between men who do a lot of “female” chores (core housework) and those who don’t.

So what gives?

The scientists found that happiness, religion, gender ideology, and a range of other variables did not affect the relationship between more traditional divisions of labor and more frequent sexual activity.

Interestingly, previous research has found that women’s marital satisfaction increases as men participate more in overall household labor, and that includes traditionally female chores. But this study seems to indicate that such satisfaction does not translate into more sex.

The basic takeaway seems to be that even as the world becomes more gender neutral in the 21st century, gender and traditional gender roles remain important cues for human behavior.

Stats and researches aside, as long as you are married to a refuser, it doesn't matter what you do, try, pray or hope for, sex will not exist. What we SMers do or not do have little to no bearing on why we are in SM. Sex is not a reward or punishment system that refusers can use to control us to perform some chores or tasks. We are not some circus animals. I guess a better way to say this is that "refusers are the ones who have problems. It's not us. It's them."

As a Brit, knowing the Daily Telegraph, the Torygraph, the Daily Bore, as I do, I would know not to read beyond the headline. And I am sure that those responding in their hundreds as they usually do will be saying "Yah! I always said that!"

I'll be generous by saying that the report reports a number of unassembled facts that could arrive at all sorts of conclusions depending on how you PREFER to interpret it.

So maybe a lot of men are listening to the evasive excuse offered individually to them and by one female social conglomerate that being "domestically-aware" will get you more sex. You good folks know that ain't true, whatsoever.

What that doesn't mean is that if you don't do all those domestic tasks that you will get more sex because you are the "alpha-male" again. Far from it.

The simple fact is that the gender dichotomy, for want of a better label, has changed. Social mores have changed it, laws have changed it. It may be better for women, it is probably no easier or difficult for men than it really has ever been, despite comparatively recent promotion in the press etc that it is. Women have been making having sex for men a challenge ever since Adam and Eve, the rest of it mere detail. And if you are a man who wants more than just getting his rocks off, but is looking for an emotional connection, it is an even bigger challenge. It has always been and always will be difficult, complex, challenging for EVERYONE.

Given the appropriate opportunity, I will always implore a woman to be financially independent of their husband/partner because of nothing else, it may actually make life easier for their partner, not just them. Similarly, I would implore any man to be independently domestically competent. There is no shame in that. Ignore those men who would sneer at it; that merely is cover for their own inadequacies.

That way, I would hope you, me, can be in a position to say "I only want sex, romance, love, affection, kindness, appreciation, giving and receiving from you. The rest I can do for myself, thank you very much".

I read this on the Daily Telegraph Online. (Any Aussie here would know that) Just goes to show what i have been saying forever. You can perform saint like miracles but if you have a sexually unresponsive partner you just aint going to get some.

Well as long as we are quoting stats, I heard an interesting one on a doco I was watching two nights ago.

The claim was, that in the USA, of people claiming to be practising Christians, the highest per capita states were Utah and Mississipi.Then, the figure for the biggest per capita users of **** were given.Same two states. Utah and Mississipi.

More From People Who Live In a Sexless Marriage

I look deep within myself and ask the question 'Will it always be this way?' Then I think about the times I have tried to talk to my husband about our sexless marriage and why it is this way. I think about the times I have tried to initiate a love making episode into...

I have been married over 5 years and my husband has ED and he hid it from me for 4 years, (we decided not to get intimate before marriage); he would spend long hours at work and never come home and I was depressed. I tried counseling with my husband after I found out, but...

Quantity...A LOT! Quality,...not so much. I love mu hubby very much, but I have had some really nasty things done to me in the past. Not only has it led to my inability to completely enjoy sexual experiences, but it has made me have trust issues with people (especially when it...