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Five or six years ago, when I was first venturing out into the dating world as an adult, dating apps were not a thing, but I still met potential partners with relative ease. Whether it was through my friends, out at a bar, in a coffee shop or whatever, connecting was not that difficult. Of […]

People talk a lot about the “spark.” What is the “spark,” to be exact? Do you need to feel the spark for something to take off? Does it constantly change, morphing into a slightly different feeling of chemistry with each new partner? Or will you only ever feel it once? Will you never feel it […]

This past week could have been nicknamed “The Week of Bad Behavior.” The more I talk to women, the more dating app problems come to light. One of my friends met a man on an app last year, and she wound up discovering post-breakup that he had a girlfriend in another city the entire time […]

J 2.0, a longtime friend and wise counselor at Hooking Up Smart, recently shared this invaluable advice: “If I had my youth to do over, I’d be far more forthcoming with men about my wants and needs and just let the chips fall where they may. That’s not to say I’d be demanding or clingy […]

We often think of emotional intimacy as a reward for commitment. One of the great benefits of being in a committed relationship is the certainty you have about your partner’s feelings. But emotional intimacy should be nurtured early because it makes commitment much more likely to develop. When it doesn’t, you’re able to recognize a mismatch […]