Patrick Caires of South Chelmsford

Patrick Caires, 45, of S. Chelmsford died surrounded by his loving family Tuesday morning, December 26, 2017 at Lowell General Hospital after a long battle with cancer.

He was married to Maria Melo Caires with whom he celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary on August 18, 2017.

Born in Lowell, he is the son of Isabel Caires of Lowell and the late Jose Caires. He graduated from Lowell High School with the class of 1990.

Patrick was the Foreman for the Chelmsford Cemetery Department and was a proud longtime resident of South Chelmsford.

He was a communicant of St. Mary Church in Chelmsford.

Patrick enjoyed yardwork and loved spending time with his family and friends. His greatest joy was watching his daughter play soccer; he cherished their play time together.

Besides his wife, he is survived by his daughter who is a student at Byam Elementary School, Hayden Caires of Chelmsford; three brothers, Cristodio and his wife, Isabel Caires of Lowell, Juvenal “Joe” and his wife, Maria Caires of Dunstable and Adelino Caires of Lowell; two sisters, Lisa and her husband, William Van Dinter of Lowell and Tina and her husband, Joseph Silva of Whitefield, NH and many nieces and nephews.

At his request, there are no visiting hours. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated Fri. at 4pm at St. Mary's Church, 25 North Rd., Chelmsford. Cremation at Merrimack Cremation Service. In lieu of flowers, a contribution to a college fund for Hayden may be made in his memory by sending to Edward Jones C/O Hayden Caires, 6 Alpine Ln., Chelmsford, MA 01824.

Funeral

December 29, 2017

4:00 p.m.

St. Mary Church, 25 North Road, Chelmsford, MA 01824

As Maria’s sister and brother-in-law, it’s hard to watch up close how much Patrick’s loss is felt by Maria & Hayden. It reaffirms how loving and supportive a husband and father he was. As you look around, there are so many reminders from the funny and thoughtful Christmas gifts he picked out himself to the weekends eating seafood at Petey’s to a last minute call for help w/ something around the house. Those reminders are meaningful because Patrick was always just a 5 minute call away no matter what he was doing. He was always up for helping or just a quick ride to de-stress at the beach. Those gifts of generosity and kindness are why he is so sorely missed by many with similar stories to share. There’s no explanation of why God takes those who are truly selfless, pure, and of good morale character. People who give to others and don’t expect anything in return for their kind acts. I can only hope that we can be for Maria and Hayden what Patrick has been for all of us. Like one of Patrick’s most memorable wedding day songs, he lived his life as a “simple man” but one with extraordinary love for his family and friends and a spirit that will never die. Until we meet again some day, and you come to greet us all, good-bye for now my friend.

I will miss you very much, rest in peace my dear friend. I can’t believe your gone, you’re will never be forgotten. I’m so lucky to have had you apart of my life. Heaven is a better place with you there.

We are so sorry for your loss. Patrick was the best of the best. A super Dad, husband and an amazing friend. Although our time with him was short, we feel like we knew him for a lifetime. We have so many great memories at soccer, camping or just hanging out on a Monday night. He was larger than life and so fun to be around. We miss him so much. We are always here for you and your family.

Hayden and our daughter met in first grade. Patrick was the first person to give me a smile during pick-up at school, and we easily fell into conversations. Has there ever been a happier and more welcome smile? Hayden was my daughter’s first real friend at Byam, and our families have been close ever since. Through Patrick, Hayden and Maria, we have met other amazing families and created a special extended family of our own. Patrick helped me through our own difficult time, and we will always be grateful. He was a fantastic father, an amazing husband and one of the best friends we have ever had. He was a rock for so many of us. We all feel for Patrick’s family and hope they know we will always be here for them. We love you Maria and Hayden.

An amazing cousin, brother, son, husband, and father. Our entire family was blessed to have you. You filled every room with happiness. May we all honor your memory by carrying your beautiful spirit in our hearts. I will always cherish the memories. Rest is sweet peace, Patrick.
<3 Risa

So sorry for your loss may all your cherished memories help you all through this difficult time and bring a smile to you all when thinking of Patrick. May good fill your hearts with peace knowing that he is with Patrick and there is no more pain, just heavenly warmth and family and friends that have passed before him.

His Journey’s Just Begun
By Ellen Brenneman
Don’t think of him as gone away
his journey’s just begun,
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one.
Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched…
for nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much.

My Friend – My Brother – My Cousin – I will miss you are many well –
Tears roll down my face
Knowing that you are in a better place.
I hope we will meet again someday
So the pain inside me will wash away.

Patrick, you are one of the greatest people we have ever had in our lives. Larger then life, always steady, always there to help, the best of the best. Truly, someone we look up to. Your family is in good hands with your family and friends. Have no doubt about that ever. We will forever miss you our friend. We love you. Rest In Peace.

Dear Caires family: I am so very sorry to learn Patrick was not able to win his hard fought battle over cancer. He loved God and his late Dad so much and is now pain-free by their sides above. Remember only the happy times with him, his warm smile! You will all be together again for eternity. Continue to live life so he’ll smile down proudly. God Bless and send you strength. May Patrick’s memory, be eternal. In love and sympathy.

Patrick, an amazing person and the best cousin anyone could ask for, so humble and kind. Always a happy person and fun to be around. So helpful to our family and friends. We were blessed to have you in our lives, God took you too young, but now you can rest and not be in pain. I will miss our times together. You memory will be forever in our hearts.

Rest in Peace Pat Pat, your memory will forever be in our hearts. You were an amazing man, always so humble and kind, and helpful to anyone and everyone. We are so blessed to have had you in our lives. We will never forget you

Rest In Peace my friend, no more pain and suffering. You will be missed greatly and will leave a void to PC group. I am blessed to have grown up with you and to call you my friend. I will forever cherish the memories

Uncle Pat, your left us countless memories…I will always remember your resiliance, your boisterous laugh, and your willingness to always help. You said what you meant, and taught us how to stand on our own and be stronger. We love you and will continue to create new memories in your honor.