Dealing With Online Haters & Jerk Offs By Ariella Palumbo

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I can’t count how many times I have had a fake profile comment something rude and disrespectful on one of my pictures. Even ones that are not bodybuilding-related. For example, I posted a picture of one of my close childhood friends and myself. We were 5-6 years old, my girlfriend was smiling and I was smiling and whispering something into her ear. Probably something as small as a silly secret between us, two little mischievous little girls. And someone commented “You are a disgusting f***ing freak.” I didn’t even respond because I just couldn’t fathom the reasoning behind such a negative comment on a post like that.

I understand that since me and Bostin (Loyd) are open about certain things that most people are quiet about, like taking steroids and the truth of the industry, that it makes us susceptible to more hate…which I get. It’s because more people have something to talk about. More popularity means more people who will be jealous and try to knock you down. Sometimes these people may not even be jealous, and they are just strongly against what your opinions are, which is also acceptable because we all have our own ways of doing things, especially in bodybuilding.

Whatever the reason may be as to why people feel the need to make a fake profile and comment something rude, disgusting, disrespectful, hurtful or all of the above, it is not a reflection of you, but on them because they are unhappy about something in their life or about what they’re doing/not doing that makes them want to tear other people down as well.

I’m sure you hear that cliché term a lot, but let’s think about it. If you’re truly happily with yourself, you won’t ever feel the need to go out of your way to make a fake profile just to bring people down. The most obvious thing about that person is that they don’t want to be made fun of or ganged up on after making a rude comment (ironic) mostly because they are very insecure/unhappy with themselves. So they have a fake profile, with no posts, no nothing so you can’t retaliate back. Which is just so low and sad on their part. So they’re a coward. Plain and simple.

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And sometimes these people insult you off of their own actual profile. But it’s mainly people who (in my experience I find):

1: Are not into bodybuilding at all, this includes overly skinny females and males.

Men that are into the gym but that are smaller than me.

Men that are neither #1 or #2, but that party and go out and prefer girls mentioned in #1

And the funny thing is, any bodybuilder I know would NOT feel the need to comment on anyone of the above people’s pages and say, “You’re too skinny,” “I’m bigger than you,” “You look fat,” etc. Whatever it is, I never feel the need to make those comments because I don’t care what they’re doing with their life and if they’re happy, then good for them.

We all know the term “misery loves company,” and it’s true. Do you ever feel angry or upset and snap back at someone and then later you apologize because you didn’t mean it? We all have been there. I like to think of these “Internet trolls” as people like that, who are angry, upset, disappointed within themselves, sad at someone or something. so they take it out on you and try to bring you down to their level.

In order to deal with these assholes, you need to put yourself in their shoes and think of why they’re verbally attacking you. I respond in all different ways depending on my mood. Sometimes I’ll say, “thank you!” and make them slightly angry and confused. Other times, I’ll just delete the comment and block them, and sometimes I respond back and insult them as well, mainly for being pathetic and having a fake profile.

The best way to shut it out? Just delete and block the person, it’s simple. They won’t go away. Just realize that you’re not the one making a fake profile and going on someone else’s page just to say something rude. You’re doing your own thing and that’s probably what bothers them.

So you can’t get everyone to like you. It doesn’t matter who you are, you will always have “haters.” The most important thing is you liking yourself enough to not let people’s comments affect your self-esteem. And it gets better as you get older. You’ll reach a point where you feel as if you don’t need to impress anyone and you don’t need approval from anyone. And no one’s comments will get you down.

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

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