Is smoking a dating dealbreaker for you? - Page 2

I dated this girl off and on for about 3 years. More off than on. Broke my heart twice. Most amazing body I had ever seen. On film or not. Her body was sick. Something a porn star pays for but hers was all natural. When we dated the first time she was 22 and I was 28. That age difference was too much for her. A couple years later, I let her get close to me again and the age difference freaked her out again and she broke my heart a second time. Fast forward 2 more years. Now she's pursuing me. The smoking never bothered me before but then I thought, "no way do I want to get serious with someone who chooses to poison herself everyday and do her best to age at a much faster rate than I will." So, I put the breaks on and said I wouldn't get serious with someone who smoked and told her we could still hang out but we couldn't really date. She quit. Not kidding. We just celebrated our 4 year wedding anniversary.

Social smoking I wouldn't care, chain smoking I couldn't deal with. If they lit up when we were at a bar or a club, whatever. I think I'd say, my line would be if they couldn't make it through a movie without going for a smoke I'd have issues... if they smoke less than that, I can handle it. Never dated a smoker, I've made out with chicks who have been smoking (cigs and weed) at parties and such and it never really bothered me.

All this "AND THEY TASTES LIKE AN ASHTRAY" is silly ??? I've experienced girls who tasted worse than ashtrays...

Doesn't bother me in the least, probably because I've never considered any relationship as long-term. For marriage material, definitely a deal-breaker if she can't quit... shit is bad for indoor air quality and long term health when you and your kids are living with her, unless she follows an extremely strict outside-only policy. Even then, I wouldn't want my kids to lose their mom to some sort of cancer.

kind of depends. if the girl is "just another girl" and someone i don't really see as relationship/wife material, i'm probably not willing to deal with the smoking. smoking is just really gross to me. BUT, if i actually like the girl and think that i could see myself with her for a long time...yeah that's fine she can smoke. i'll get over it.