Friday, January 13, 2017

Be like an Ape In Heels

In less than a week’s time, the world will see the end of
the Obama Era and welcome the Trump Era, when Donald Trump is sworn in as the
45th President of the USA. Much has been said about the difference
between the two men. The rabid right wing of American politics is celebrating
the end of what they have termed the “worst” presidency in history, while the
rest of us are left, perplexed by how the American public ended up voting for a
man who found a genius in bringing out the worst in people.

Much has been said about the contrasting character of the
two men and nothing better illustrates the contrast in character between the
two than in their families. Even discounting the presidency, the Obama’s are
exceedingly successful professionals (he was Professor of Constitutional Law
and she was a partner in a law firm) with very quiet personal lives. The Trumps
by contrast are exceedingly colourful. Donald is on his third marriage as is
his first wife, Ivana.

You could say that my sympathies should be with the Trump’s.
Most of my friends would describe my family as being colourful. My late
theology teacher once told me, “Dear boy, you collect fathers like most people
collect postage stamps.” He had a point. My mother is on husband number three.
I’ve also collected mothers in a similar fashion, my dad got married two years
ago to his third wife. My siblings and I have not escaped the “curse” of
unusual relationships. I am on marriage number two (I am also on husband number
two to my wife.) and my sister has a same-sex relationship. The only one of my
siblings who seems to have something resembling a “normal” relationship, is my
brother Max, who got engaged to his long-term girlfriend, over the Christmas
holidays.

My family is a “patch-work” family and as my sister wisely
said so many years ago, “I wouldn’t swop it for anything in the world.” Despite
all the various breaks and reattaching of relationships, I like to think that
all of us have turned out quite alright (My sister and I used to get very
impatient whenever the excuse of he/she is from divorced parents so he/she
behaves like this because we were from ‘broken’ homes and were nice). Likewise,
you could say the same for Eric, Donald Junior and Ivanka. Despite the very
public divorce of their parents, the three eldest Trump children look like
normal guys who actually had to work for a living.

While, I should have every sympathy with the patchwork
nature of the Trump family, I have one very serious objection to the Trump
family – his choice in wife number three, Mrs. Melania Trump.

Let’s make it clear, I have no right to be judgmental about
a person’s private life as my own is far from perfect. However, when that
person becomes a public figure, like the President of the Most Powerful country
in the world, then it’s a different story because that person’s life story
becomes a story for everyone else to emulate.

On a very personal note, I’m all for being a lad. If the
Donald at the age of 70 has the means of getting a much younger woman with the “assets”
that all men seem to value in a woman to want to bed him, then I’d say good for
him or I think – hey, when I’m 70 and a young girl wants to jump into my bed, I’d
be very happy.

But as my mother reminded me this holiday, I’m not just me
anymore. There’s a teenage girl, whom I have chosen to take responsibility for.
The job of father is an interesting one in that it contains two elements. There’s
the basic every day element of making sure there’s some food on the table.
Then, there’s the element of what you want your child to be. It’s easy job when
you are father of a son – you want the little bugger to be an improved version
of yourself. When you’re a father to a girl, things become a little more
complicated, because you want her to be better than you and probably to end up
with someone not like you (especially if you happen to be a rascal.) You want
to be able to look at her and tell her to be like so and so and not like so and
so.

In the case of the Obama’s, there was an exceptional role
model for what every woman should want to be in the First Lady, Michelle Obama.

Let’s start with the most commonly said thing about Mrs.
Obama – were she not First Lady, she would be an exceedingly successful
corporate lawyer in her own right. She is a graduate of Princeton University
(not the easiest place to get into let alone graduate from) and Harvard Law
School. By the time the young Barak Obama went to work for Sidley Austin, the
sixth largest corporate law firm in America, as a Summer Associate, certain
Michelle had become a full-time associate (guess who reported to who?). Mrs.
Obama was also an Assistant Dean at the University of Chicago.

In the 8-years of the Obama Presidency, Mrs. Obama found
herself become a champion of a variety of causes that people cared about
without becoming obviously politically ambitious in the way that Hillary
Clinton did. Michelle was the champion of this cause and that cause without
shoving it down to the public that you were getting two for the price of one.

There were no scandals in the Obama White House. The
President came back to his wife every night. Somehow, they made sure that the
camera caught them giving each other loving glances. The woman also protected
the family by doing what she could to keep the kids grounded – it seems Sasha
Obama had to get a Summer job.

Let’s leave out the fact that Michelle always took care of
her appearance. She never made it obvious to be the stuff of ones’ “wank
fantasies.” Instead, she made it a point to be presentable and to ensure that
any man would be proud to bring her out and present her to the people he cares
about. In short, this is the woman who makes a man.

It’s easy to raise a daughter with Michelle Obama as First
Lady. You can just say be like her – smart, beautiful and happy. She’s got
enough in life to be with a man for the sake of love. She’s with Barak Obama
because she wants to be with him not because he’s the source of her fortune.

Different story with the current Mrs. Trump. I have to
confess, she is the stuff of “wank fantasies,” in as much as she’s good a well-endowed
chest and a “come f** me look that appeals to men in a “wow, here’s an easy
lay,” way.

But here’s the problem with fantasies, particularly “wank”
ones – if there’s nothing beyond the “come f** me” looks, the reality is rather
disappointing. I ask every male reader to think back to the time they’ve lost all
interest (including doing the deed) with the girl you admired from afar, then
got turned off when you finally spoke to her.

Apparently, the current Mrs. Trump worked as a model and
there have been plenty of her half nude photos going around the place. During
the campaign, Mr. Trump said that there was nothing to be ashamed about. He’s
right, she looks nice on the covers of a “Man’s Magazine.”

However, her inability to come up with anything original to
say during the presidential campaign leads one to ask – do you want her off the
pages of the mens mags? It’s all very well to have a tart that the lads will be
jealous of but there has to be more to the woman by your side when you are
arguably the most powerful man in the democratic world. American elections are
brutal on the spouses of presidential candidates because we want to know who
the guy we’re trusting our lives to has as a bedrock of emotional and
intellectual safety, not because we want to jack off over her. Nancy protected
Ronald and took care of the finer touches in the White House, Both Michelle and
Hillary were smart enough to challenge their husbands intellectually. Barbara
and Laura Bush provided stable homes for the family. Hard to see Melania
providing any of the above.

Perhaps Mrs. Trump does offer something to Mr. Trump that we’re
not aware of. However, even that doesn’t seem likely. Mrs. Trump is not moving
into the White House, while daughter Ivanka and husband are moving to DC. It’s
most likely that Mr. Trump will use daughter as the woman by his side rather
than wife, which really doesn’t say her much about the wife.

Now that Melania is going to be the First Lady, I suspect
that father’s of teenage girls are going to be in for a tough time. Try telling
her that going to school is important. Try telling her that its important to
achieve things on her own? Why bother when all you have to do to ensure you
have a lifestyle few could dream about is to look good enough to get onto the
cover of a wank mag and hope that one of the reading wankers old enough to be
your grandpa but with plenty of money will marry you. The main role model has
done precisely that.