November 08, 2010

Some guys get a few of these for specific “sticking points” or things they want to learn. Like loading a program in The Matrix. Though the most common one is just to subscribe to the interview series – you get each interview at over 40% off and with special bonuses. Click this link to learn more.

Some guys go out alone. Some start with wingmen but end up alone if their friends are busy or have already left with someone. Either way, you need to know how to pick up a girl when you’re by yourself.

There are a bunch of little things you can do to help your game. E.g., as soon as you arrive, make sure you are always talking to SOMEONE, even if it’s staff, other men, or women you’re not attracted to. Don’t LOOK like you’re alone. If it’s crowded, casually mention your friend “over there” (pointing into the crowd).

It’s hardest when you’re with a woman who is into you but her friends aren’t taking the hint. This is where you want to use an “instant wingman” – basically any other guy or guys you can bring into the conversation to talk to her friends. The interview covers this in more detail, but basically any “opinion opener” should work if the guy has any sense of game. And if he doesn’t, he wouldn’t make a good instant wingman anyway.

Beautiful women will often “test” you to see if you stand up for yourself and can think on your feet. This is actually VERY GOOD – when you know how to handle tests, they become easy and women love you for it.

Part of Braddock and Daxx’s genius in this interview is creating a process where you can give her the same feelings – deep attraction combined with fear of loss – that she would get if you passed her tests. In a GUARANTEED way, since you don’t have to hope she tests you.

This field report shows a master pick up artist using these exact techniques. Here’s an excerpt:

Me: "So just because you’re hot you think you don’t have to say hi...

Her: [while smiling] "Uh...Hi..."

She responds positively but doesn’t hook too much. I can feel she’s slightly resistant. Time for takeaways. I get her laughing and as I feel it hit the high point, I half-turn, get my phone out and start reading a text. I can tell her head is scrambling because I was just making her laugh and then turned away from her. She grabs my arm and says playfully:

Her: "Hey don’t ignore me!"

I smile, turn back and re-initiate conversation. The thing with takeaways is you want her to get the feeling of loss, not necessarily anxiety like she would if you stated your boundaries, but more that she has to chase you, then the reward which was a smile and reinitiating conversation is essential to make her feel like she’s got your attention back.

Even after doing just a small takeaway, her grabbing my arm and having to chase a little made a big shift from me chasing her, to her chasing me now. Thing about takeaways too is they can be used as pings, you can tell how much a girl is into you by how much she is willing to chase. Couple minutes later however she says again:

Her: "Seriously though are you a player?"

Me: "I told you just because I’ve got a different girlfriend for everyday of the week doesn’t make me a player!" [she laughs and says again]

Her: "Honestly though are you a player?"

Time to push more towards boundaries and give her some social anxiety so I say (In a neutral tone):

Me: "Look I think you’re really cute and am having fun talking to you, it was funny before but it’s pretty rude of you to keep asking that."

Takeaways give the girl the feeling of loss, whereas boundaries give the girl the feeling she needs to correct her behavior. That’s not a huge boundary, but it’s enough for her to feel the anxiety. She then responds with...

"I’m sorry I just didn’t know if I was just another number to you."

Now she’s complying, remember the reward is essential so I say...

Me: "It’s cool, look are you having fun?"

Her: "Yeah"

Me: "Then let’s keep having fun"

It’s not too long until it’s 2am and the lights start to come on so I say:

“Flaking” means you got her phone number but it didn’t turn into a date. She didn’t answer your call, she’s busy, she cancelled, etc…the actual excuse doesn’t matter.

Prevent flaking by getting her number the right way and then suggesting the date the right away. Like Chris Shepherd says, “don’t treat anyone as a priority who treats you like an option”. Hot women know how high-value men don’t get hug up on any particular girl (early on) or plans or schedules, so if you do…she’ll wonder if she misjudged you.

Don’t treat any date like firm plans. Don’t make plans more than a day or two in advance. Learn the script to turn around any “cancellation” so she’ll be begging you for another chance. One of my favorite lines when a woman cancels on the day of? “Don’t worry about it. I can take someone else.”

Everyone gets approach anxiety. Successful men know how to deal with it. Learn what causes approach anxiety, how to quiet down that voice in your head telling you not to approach her, and proven strategies for making approaching easy and something you want to do.

A couple of quick tips that may help – these are a bit simpler than the ones on the interview but we have less space here:

Give your wingman or a friendly bartender $200 at the beginning of the night. He gives you $20 every time you approach. To get even better, tell your wingman to pay up only if you approach right away, without hesitating.

Do “warm up” approaches where you’re not trying to pick anyone up, just get in the habit of approaching immediately and confidently. Do a few of these before the “main event” and your night will go much more smoothly.

Too short? Don’t think you’re good looking? Got a few extra pounds? Whatever you think your “physical obstacles” are, I guarantee you that they are not that bad.

Exhibit A:Mark V, Love Systems instructor and pick up artist extraordinaire. He has one arm. Go complain to him.

Or listen to this interview – neither Mr M nor Keychain are very tall or classically good-looking. Yet they are enormously successful with women, and they give you the beliefs, thought processes, and techniques that they use to attract and date the women they want.

Remember the 8 attraction switches from the Magic Bullets Handbook. Health and Looks. Social Intelligence. Humor. Wealth. Status. Confidence. Pre-selected. And a challenge.

Do you see “nice” in there at all?

This can be really confusing, because women SAY they want men to be nice to them. And women are likely to have “nice” male friends and to tell them how nice and great they are…

…but they aren’t dating or sleeping with these nice guys.

But it’s also not about “being not nice”. You can’t just pretend it’s opposite day, and every time you think of doing something nice, to do the opposite. It’s a matter of specific behavior changes. Some are big, and some are subtle. At the end of the day, you want to be a strong, confident man who can be nice on his own terms, but NEVER in order to get something, whether it’s a date, approval, or sex.

Women in their 30s are approaching their sexual peak. And most have learned a few things along the way. Awesome.

You can’t pick her up the same way you’d pick up a 20 year old. Use fewer “games.” Fewer high-energy routines. Women who are a bit older generally have their lives together, so a lot of the anti-flaking stuff is different as well. You can be bolder and more direct, since they are less scared of sex.

Probably our most requested interview. Jeremy Soul is the world’s undisputed Day Game expert – meeting women at malls, coffee shops, even walking down the street. He is the author of the powerful book Daytime Dating: Never Sleep Alone.

This interview gives you everything you need to get started with Day Game – where to meet women, when to go out, how to approach, instant-dates, and more. One way that Day Game is really different is that you’ll often find beautiful women by themselves. This makes things move much quicker, and Jeremy Soul explains why most Day Game pickups are often much shorter (and more effective!)