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What is holding you back? What is preventing change, in your life? In my life, the biggest hurdle to change was myself. If you look back at your life up to this point, what are some of the things that have caused you a lot of grief? Could they have been of your own making?

My life was full of what I like to call now, ‘ill-advised short cuts.’ I was always looking for a way around the rules. I never took the time to build the proper foundation. That meant everything I did to be a house built on sand.

When it came crashing down, I would just walk away and jump into something new. I did not care, because I thought I knew what I was doing.

Nobody cared what I did because I brought in money enough for everyone. As a result, not one person ever instilled in me the way to do things right. I never made long-term plans, because in my words, “Who knows what tomorrow will bring.” I was always one step away from being locked up.

I was in love with my lifestyle, because as long as I kept producing more and more cash, I never had to think about what I was not doing with my life. The life I chose gave me an excuse not to live like everyone else. In my mind, the rules of the world did not apply to me. I didn’t have to have normal relationships because, “Hey, my life isn’t normal.” I could lie, I reasoned, because it was part of my job. If I didn’t like something, for whatever reason, I could just make it go away. People wanted to be around me even if I was not a good person, because they felt they could get something from me. This kept me from facing the truth.

It has taken me many years and a lot of mistakes to write this today. I had to really examine my life and be honest with myself. I would work on one small problem area and then begin on another.

I kept thinking the life I chose was what caused me problems. Then one day I knew what caused them. It was me: I made the choices, I took it on myself to live the way I did. I was the one who would not listen to normal rational people. I always felt I knew better than everyone and I knew what was right.

I left what we referred to as “the life” in 2005, but that was just the beginning of my journey.

I had removed the work part of the equation from my life and yet I would still find myself having similar problems. I had heard often that life was not about making money. I was still doing things I did not like (legally this time) for money. My reasoning was simple, I would use the money I made to do what I really wanted to do. It never worked out that way, because I became involved in producing more and more so I could keep up with something that was only in my mind.

I was not happy and therefore I never felt any success.

I speak to people on regular basis that wish to obtain certain goals. Most of these goals have to do with fitness and health. Sometimes they feel they need to lose some extra pounds. It could be they wish to be stronger or more coordinated. They might want to win a fight. They need to figure out what their challenges are in order to change. Whether or not they succeed comes down to one thing, and that is mindset. In the end no matter what they decide, I can only bring out what they already have inside.

The formula for getting in shape and losing weight is simple. The diet industry in the world hopes that people will never figure it out. You have to workout and eat right, that is all. There is no magic formula or easy way.

Just like people are in search of a magic pill that will allow them to lose weight without a change in diet or exercise, I was in constant search for the magical off-road course that would take me where I wanted to go in life.

The whole time the map was in front of me and I ignored it.

I had to admit to myself that I was not as smart as I thought. I had to work hard and even when there was no visible change I had to keep moving forward doing my best.

Once I let God into my life, things became much more clear. When I started living in faith and stopped believing I was the captain of my soul, I began to really live.

Proverbs 19:21

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

Matthew 19:26

But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”