On line dating.

I recently joined E-Harmony to try to find someone. I found a wonderful guy by the name of Scott. After being together for 3 months he dumped me. My question is this; what do you think about internet dating and the whole E-Harmony, Match.com, Chemestry.com rage.

Re: On line dating.

Ah, well, I think it can be good, and bad~

Like, for those major online dateing companies, I think it's nice if you want to date someone that bad~ But sometimes it can work out really well, and sometimes it can go horribly wrong. Example? My sister. She used that E-Harmony thing, and she ended up getting a real loser for a guy, so yeah. Second time she tried, she found out that he went to jail five times recently. So, yeah. It can go either way.

Also, for me, I think that it's not all so good. I mean, I think you should know the person before you start dateing. On teh internet, you don't know who the heck you're getting. So, yeah. That's how I feel about InterNet dateing~! ^^

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Re: On line dating.

well personly i think lookn for it issnt always good ... i donno what there not point in just finding

i think its a hell of alot better when u just fall inlove tbh even if its abit harder to tell them tbh

well i have been with my bf for near 7 months now and he lives in the isle of man and i live in ireland and my mum wont let me go see him so it kinda sucks tbh

but to be in love with somone u met online it depends on who the person is tbh just make sure u know alot about them before even atempting fallin for them...i guess thats why i fall for my guy firends most of the time....i donno cos me and my bf were friends before we were dating

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Well that is a tricky question, it is both good and bad and it all depends on age and maturity of both people. The saying that friends usually make the best lovers, is mostly true, but you still need really look at what you want. A quick fling, someone that you can have a good time with, or someone that you would like to stay with for the rest of your life.

I'll admit that the internet is a tad bit safer then just going out to bars, at least for the females, but there is always the point of not really knowing who is really on the other end of that keyboard. Those sites aren't really that bad, however, it is normally better to use other means to find someone. If you choose to talk with people in chats and on other sites that you actually use, you can sometimes get a better judge of thier character. But you still need to be cautious, in the worst case senaro you would end up with another friend, that is if you go in with the intention to just make friends. If it gose beyond that, then good, if it doesn't no big loss.

From what I have hear from other people about Eharmony and the like, most people are never really truthful as to who are what they really are looking for, the also tend to look at themselves through rose colored glasses, so to say. So most of the time the information that is on there about them is flaud in someway. It is all about trial and error, if you choose that route, then be ready for quite a few disapointments. Though it really isn't any different from meeting someone in a bar, only to find out that your personalitys don't match. If your looking for someone, I wish you the best of luck in your search, however I have found that love finds you when you stop looking for it.

Re: On line dating.

Originally Posted by MisMelS

I recently joined E-Harmony to try to find someone. I found a wonderful guy by the name of Scott. After being together for 3 months he dumped me. My question is this; what do you think about internet dating and the whole E-Harmony, Match.com, Chemestry.com rage.

LOL. Not to come off as rude or b!tchy, but you joined E-Harmony to try and find someone. As did he. Obviously, you weren't it. Sorry.

I think those sites are pretty valid. I know people who met through an internet site and got married and had kids! It's just all about 'networking', lol. I hate to use that word, but it's true. Maybe he was just looking. Just like you were. You thought you found someone, and maybe he did too, but maybe he also wanted to test his waters, which is perfectly A-okay, too.

Good luck in the future. Maybe you will be someone's "I wish I'll find somebody" significant other!! The thing is, you have to be clear. Like I've said in other threads, Communication is key. Maybe he wanted to be in an open relationship, maybe he's been hinting that he isn't ready for a long-term commitment. You guys were just at different points in your lives, or something along those lines. My advice,

Don't take it too seriously. It's the internet, for one. Just have fun, and if it's meant to be, it'll happen. Don't sweat it.