Sunday, May 16, 2010

Romantic? How boring!

When a girl thinks about her dream guy; she imagines him coming on a horse or a Ferrari depending on the era she is in mentally and takes her with him in the dreamland with nature and its beauty all around them; a perfect weather (usually spring; yeah even Indian girls dream of springs); the guy is showering her with flowers, evening is so very special with candle light dinner, amazing evening gowns and tuxedos as dress code, a violin is playing in the background specially for you. While you are waiting for your food to arrive; the guy proposes to you. Ah, picture perfect tears come in your eyes but you realize that this situation is not for real!

Yes, most of us dream of such a situation; but we know they are not for real always! And thank god such things don't happen. At least not in my case.

I lack interest for romantic things and gestures. They kind of bore me. How very dull it is to get red roses as a gift! Isn't it a complete waste of money? For they wither in a few hours and all your money is wasted. Those long drives are good; but not when you live in Mumbai and while coming back, you get stuck in the traffic at Panvel, Vashi, Sion and Western Express highway!

And those candle light dinners! If you cannot see your food properly; then how can you enjoy eating it? Sigh! the synonym for romantic things is suffering - monetarily, mentally and physically!

But I love the idea of a perfect date! An ideal date for me would be - a live match in the stadium. A cricket, football or a tennis match. But my husband is only fond of cricket; and sadly there are no good football and tennis matches happening in India; so cricket it is. Isn't it exciting to go, cheer and shout on top of your voice to support your team?

And dinners - I so loathe to dress up well to go out for dinner. Sit at home, order your meal and eat! Isn't it super comfortable to sit and eat on your bed? It's feels so good when you play card games with your partner rather than saying "I love you" ten times in one minutes! Romantic things can never give you such a comfort!

Let me not discuss my dancing abilities all over again! Who said that a ball dance is romantic? Ask me! How awkward it leaves me and how embarrassing it may get for my dancing partner!

Romantic gifts - those red hearts all over the place - be it a teddy bear or a tee. I will not say it's very kiddish as many of you might be loving such hearts placed all over.

But there is one romantic gift that I simply love - chocolates. They do not have to have a heart shape; or even wrapped in a fancy paper and ribbons. A simple pack of chocolates will also do.

54 comments:

Hahah...we are very similar I guess..but there were times when I did the most romantic shit on earth for someone...well I think it depends more on your partner than what you are?..I mean if your partner is a romantic it kinda rubs on doesnt it?

Voila!! Your are the perfect woman, where were you all the time, and now you are married !! sigh !! ;-) Nice post Neha, Kindly start a organisation and train women to be like you (starting wid my gf) PS: dont let her know i posted this, she wud kill me ;-)Keep writing !!

A lil bit of these romantic things are good but sans the heart shaped goodies and teddies!! I could never stand them and kinda found it weird whenever I saw them somewhere! :DGetting stuck in the traffic jam could be a pain, but the joy of a long drive are immense.Getting dressed up for the occasion is wonderful too and yes candle light dinners are sooooooo romantic too! :D

hmmm....u can't say anything about love...bcoz for dem who r experiencing it, this is the most heavenly feeling on earth...and ya the meaning of love changes with age...love can't be boring.....it's d only feeling which makes all of us happy......

He looks like most of the women here don't value hearts and teddys much. . Yet so many of those are sold on Valentine's Day! Guess most of those are bought by teenagers! Still ur concept of date in a stadium (o_O) that is weird. . . So very weird. . . I guess never thought of it like that. Yet if both partners like sports then its a cool way to hangout:) i always had my share of doubts about Candle Light Dinners being romantic specially when in India we have so much of power shortage. . I guess all of us like chocolates, some admit and some don't.

Hi! Neha,those hearts & teddies, maybe just a marketing success of archies or that sort of brand keeping those apart, anything...not for the value of the object, but the amount of love we see in that gesture, when romance is in air...hmmm nothing can take us to the sky,.. like those moments...

hey like ur version of romance.. kinda shud be like romance 2k10... :)

i also feel dat wid those roses, candle light dinners and other type of romantic gestures have become too cliche.. sometimes dey looks like suffocating and all but ya relishing some wonderful moments spent in d comapny of each other is priceless..

Haha..an awesomely written article!! Yeah i do support you word by word. While at a date i think you are not yourself. You dress differently, you make yourself think and talk differently and i feel in a date with candle lights, things become so much formal. Out in a stadium you are free and you enjoy the moment and those moments will be worth remembering than those stupid candle light dinners! :D Gr8 article!!

Ha ha ,so true.Half of your romance goes off in teh air after travelling miles to reach the place just to eat. Especially , when you have to hear your partner cribbing about traffic, signals, bad drivers and son on. As for dance ,i won't do any talking ;)

while playing cards, monopoly, ps2 , taking a walk together form kind of our cool n romantic routine, i'm the one who also loves getting dressed for dining out on special occasions (else, i'm generally out wearing super casuals... call it being lazy). and flowers... i love them... of course i sometimes get the feeling that they are being plucked out and wasted... but then many of us are non-vegetarians as well... eating animals... so then having flowers is better ;) he he

btw, are most of u in navi mumbai too??? ur comments give me that feeling.

well wat ur hubby's take on that..does he feel the same...?romance is nt only for one..it involves two individuals..one need to move one step ahead to do smthing extra..or different which might nt be U but might be liked by ur partner...it depends upon bth the lovers...small things can alws be appreciated...if btht the partners are happy with the way of romance nthign like it...i love privacy at the time of romance..and who doesnt like gifts...candle lights..and wat r u going to do with the money if u cant enjoy the best thing in world..that is love romance..isnt it?

Ah romanticism goes beyond candle light dinners and ball-dances.They are so passe` won't you say?Now-a-days you can just order a pizza and arrange for a movie marathon at your place or his.Or go on a casual stroll with him in the evening.I think the mere idea of spending time with your loved one is romantic...doesn't matter how you do it. :)And btw I don't love roses..too many thorns >_<I prefer pink carnations.*sigh*I love those!

The idea of romance changes from M&B type settings to more realistic ones as your grow up from teens to adulthood.. But i still cherish the candlelight dinner i had at Le Meridian many years back complete with a crooner and the view of scintillating lights of Delhi from the roof top restaurant. Such outings break the monotony of everyday life. And who can say 'no' to flowers... doesn't matter whether its carnations or galdioli or roses in yellow pink or deep red. I just love accepting them as gifts any day.

You are, in short, the dream woman for many guys! Not all of us like taking out women out for long drives, expensive candle light dinners, long long drives etc etc! But then it gets boring to not be doing these things. Just a few days ago, I took my girl for early morning breakfast, just to break the routine. It wasn't candle light but it was different and totally romantic (or atleast I think it was! lol).

Coming back to you, well, staying at home does bring out a lot more romance than going out :P

Exactly you reflect me! but one correction....I prefer sitting at home with the surround speakers on and watch the cricket match and munching my foodies sitting on the couch. After the match when the huge crowd returns home its traffic jam again! Anyway its a fantastic post.hope the girls are listening :-)

You sounded like me! Gifting me flowers and teddys is a complete NO! And yes, chocolate it is for me too!!!

And to your list of getaway for live matches, I'd add theatre and movies! Nothing like going for a good play with your partner and discussing it later...or enjoying a hopelessly pathetic movie with iced tea and popcorn!!!

lol what all we do for love !!! I find these things very silly. For me Romantic would be something intelligent done together maybe just an eye contact ..eyes speak louder than words I believe great post

I accidently arrived at your blog and liked it a lot. Great writing stuff. But for this one i would say...I think u didnt get the point. These little romantic things brings pleasure to the life which cant be described by words. I dont know if roses does work for many, but they surely do for me :)