The Adventures Of Chelle

Morning #Journal Paragraph

I miss my Pawpaw. All of this research on my family’s ancestry and reading about where his parents came from has brought him to the forefront of my brain. I cite him as a large factor in who I am today. He was a very “take no shit off people who have nothing better to do than fling shit your way” kinda guy. I wish I could have had him in my life beyond my High School years. I am sure he could have offered insight unlike everyone else.

I am also a little mad at Ma. There are some things in her personal history that I have found that are directly related to me, who I am, and I have no way (now that she is gone) to find out what her rationale was.

I can remember (as a young person) Ma telling me a story (to reinforce my love of her and disdain for my birth father) about having a miscarriage (the year? after I was born) and then trying to overdose on baby aspirin. As an adult, I wish I had revisited that conversation before 2010, just to ask why and where did I play into what she thought the outcome of that would be.

That is the bad/sad/mad stuff. I have found PLENTY of happy things looking to the past.

Have you ever been frustrated (in retrospect) with people who have passed away? Did you ever find resolution?

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Looking back stirs my heart, good, sad and with anger. Ancestry is like opening a gift. You don’t know if your going to like it or not but knowing what it holds is appreciated. The more I uncovered, the more excited I became …. like I uncovered a secret or treasure and I was the only one who got excited with this knowledge, trying to share it with my children who didn’t value the knowledge of grandma so-n-so, well, that frustrated me. Congratulations on what I believe makes you still feel a connection with those no longer in your life no matter where they are. I love opening the vault that rarely gets seen.
I have a glimpse of those that came before and who walked beside or remained distant. Maybe someone will discover my contributions to my family someday.