Coming to the Truth about how I was Living…

As I started to attend presentations, so began the process of feeling how I was living and the truth of who I am.

Initially I felt so uncomfortable at being there; my unloving way of living was being exposed and it felt like everyone could see what I was experiencing. Really though, it was me that was feeling how I had been living – I was becoming acutely aware of the choices I had been making.

There wasn’t anyone telling me what to do, where I was going wrong or anything like that, it was all in my head… I was giving myself false reasons of why I should not be there. I was feeling how much disregard I had for myself – eating anything to fill up the void I felt inside, using alcohol, porn, watching hours and hours of TV – especially sport, sleeping in, etc… all the things I was doing to not feel this emptiness. I spent a lot of time hiding in my cave; the destructive thoughts I allowed kept me stuck in unloving choices.

Sometimes I would drive to the Universal Medicine events, sit in my car and just feel so anxious about going in that I couldn’t do it, so I would just go home again. Other times I didn’t even get out of my home, or if I did, I would just return home before I got to the event. Sometimes I would go inside, sit down, but before Serge got up to present, I would leave.

I’m not sure how long it took for me to be able to stay for the whole event, but I would then not really talk to anyone and leave as soon as it finished. There was always that feeling of discomfort in being there… I felt completely alone in the crowd; I didn’t fit in and I didn’t belong.

Although all I could feel at that time was the discomfort, I felt so out of place it eventually became clear that it was because of my own judgment on myself about how I was living.

Hearing the truth that Serge Benhayon presented connected with the deepest part of me and I knew I couldn’t stay away.

So gradually I started to attend more Universal Medicine presentations and workshops and throughout this time, Serge would always say “Hi Mark” if he saw me. I could feel that he saw all of me and accepted me as I am, almost certainly for the first time in my life. Serge was able to see the light in me, well before I could feel it within myself, because I was identifying with all the things I was doing that harmed others and myself.

I have no doubt that it was my first experience of being truly loved for who I am, before I was even able to begin loving myself.

What a healing that is.

I was being supported, being called to be more and I had no awareness of what lay ahead for me; understanding at last the truth of who we are, the truth about love and how that is what we are and feeling the absolute joy of just being me. For the first time in my life I felt that I belonged.

It was beautiful to feel the fullness of me at the event, but then to bring that way of being into my every day?. . . Well, that was another story. It became very clear that it wasn’t just about attending the events:

I had to develop how I lived every moment, caring for myself in every little choice I made.

For a long time I was always hard on myself and therefore, hard on others as well. Although this had dropped away before I became a Universal Medicine student, it remained in the form of not being able to appreciate others or how far I had come. Appreciation became a focus and as I deepened this awareness I was able to feel the beauty in others – they are just like me. This made it easier for me to see how I had been isolating myself, so choosing to connect with friends, going out more and socialising made a significant difference.

I have been able to let go of the behaviours that didn’t support me, mostly through the support of friends and practitioners. Being able to honestly talk about how I am feeling, the harming thoughts I am having etc., begins the process of deconstructing those old patterns. The perspective that is offered by others, the loving reflections of what they feel when I share, help me to gain perspective and understanding of how I am being.

I was searching for truth all my life. I now know that truth without love does not work very well because I was trying to be ‘right’ and this was just empty words that actually harm others… Truth has been central to my transformation over recent years. What is presented by Serge Benhayon resonates with the deepest part of me and it is through truth that I return to love.

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Thank you Mark, great to read how honesty has shifted the feelings you have had and we can all learn to appreciate our essences as energetic appreciation deepens the understanding that we are more than this physicality.

More and more I appreciate having an awareness to see the things that I do which are not loving. Yes, when I realise it I also can get into “damn, it Viktoria what are you doing/thinking?”, but when we begin to realise that only though awareness we can change unloving behaviours, only when we are willing to see them & acknowledge them as unloving can we make a difference to ourselves & others, we will begin to appreciate the magnitude of being able to see. Because otherwise, we remain stuck and contracted in our beliefs that how we are living is true, remaining completely oblivious to what we are actually doing.

Have you ever felt like a fraud? Like when you say one thing, but the way you actually live your life shows differently? The only way to feel steady on our own two feet is to actually live what we preach, go through it all & experience it through our own bodies – then the words that come out of our mouths have a weight of tangible, lived experience.

Who is there to tell us discomfort is a healthy place to be? It signals something we need to look at and suggests there is more to life, even if we can’t feel it fully yet. The moment all seems lost and hopeless is often the threshold that leads to more honesty and openness. Impossible to move on without this stage.

Thanks Mark for sharing your story, I noted in particular your words about appreciation and how this changed how you were with people and you stopped isolating yourself. Appreciation is very powerful, practised on ourselves it highlights our own inner beauty which I have found automatically opens my awareness to others’ inner qualities. Appreciation is very supportive for how we feel about ourselves, and for our relationships.

It is hard to understand that we see each other through pictures till you meet someone who doesn’t do that. There are no expectations from Serge Benhayon, he has no investment in you getting it and it is clear he offers space to feel the divinity we are all from.

To be more aware of how we’re living and making a commitment to bring more love into our lives is a huge first step. Often previous behaviours start to drop away with little effort and we no longer want to live the life we previously lived, and appreciation replaces judgement.

“I could feel that he saw all of me and accepted me as I am,” To be met and truly loved is rare and profoundly beautiful. But there is more, Inspired by Serge Benhayon, we get to feel the same about ourselves when we finally come home and accept ourselves. For many of us this is a miracle in itself.

“I could feel that he saw all of me and accepted me as I am,” This resonates very clearly with me. I remember the first Universal Medicine presentation I attended I had the feeling that Serge could see right through me and there was nowhere or nothing I could hide. So gradually I too have got to feel and know who I am.

‘Serge was able to see the light in me, well before I could feel it within myself, because I was identifying with all the things I was doing that harmed others and myself.’ This is so true for you, me and thousands of other people that know Serge. The beautiful thing is once we have been completely accepted and truly seen by another for who we are it starts the gentle and magical process of healing and us accepting ourselves ✨

It’s a beautiful insight into your return to your essence (or true self) and how your relationship with yourself unfolded and developed to become more accepting and self loving. Your words about the effect of Serge loving and accepting you really highlighted how we don’t do this journey alone, that there is tremendous power in the reflections of others. There was so much more communicated in the simple “Hello Mark” by Serge to you because of the unconditional love and acceptance he held you in. It also is a wonderful point of inspiration as it’s a reminder that the power of loving and accepting others is something we can all do and is as simple as “Hello”.

It stands to reason that if we live a life of lack of self-worth then it will take a while for us to accept that we are Love and that Love is our natural expression. It’s still in us but hidden and dulled by the layers of hurts we hang onto.

With the support of the beholding love of Serge Benhayon, so many including myself, have re-connected to the love we are, which is the love we all come from. Mark it is very beautiful to read of your home- coming, back to who you truly are in essence.

It’s an amazing appreciation Elizabeth to reflect upon, I know for myself I have received so much healing from the beholding love of Serge via many years of constant support, love and acceptance. In addition there is now the appreciation for the beholding love we can all bring to the world as we too live connected to our soul.

Actually, as a follow on from my last comment, I feel to add that turning away is fine if that is what you truly want. Yet, is it what we truly want or are we simply afraid and don’t feel we will cope without the addictive behaviours that have been our coping mechanism?? Making a choice for yourself is, just like every other choice totally your prerogative. Blaming someone else for your turning away, or blaming the reflection that is highlighting your addiction and inability to address that addiction is not OK.

When we come to the fact that it is us who are making the choices we are making that are resulting in the behaviours we are doing, the shame of the addictive nature of the coping mechanisms can mean we turn away from listening, because it is simply too confronting and we are not ready to let go of the addictions.

“Truth without love does not work very well because I was trying to be ‘right’ and this was just empty words that actually harm others…” – I agree. And this is what I am becoming more aware of in how I talk to myself.

Oh my goodness, what you have shared here is so important to understand “it was me that was feeling how I had been living”. We know deep down inside the truth of everything, we know what harms and what heals, yet there are patterns of behaviour that are more familiar and hooking that even though we know they harm, they are far more addictive than the way we know we should be living which is harm-less.

It is probably the element I have struggled with the most – how can we continue to choose something, or a way of living that we deep down know harms us?! this is where the only logical answer is energy.

Forces at play thrive on keeping us attached to ingrained and harmful patterns and we add to it by making a story out of it. Being aware that we are simply vessels with two sources of energy flowing through us, invites us moment by moment to choose which one to align to. Seeking comfort above truth and love is one to watch for