JENNIFER: SOMETIMES VIOLENCE HITS SO CLOSE TO HOME, THERE’S NO WAY TO ESCAPE IT. WILL SMITH LEAVES BEHIND THREE YOUNG CHILDREN. CARDELL HAYES, THE MAN NEW SECOND DEGREE MURDER IN THE SHOOTING, HAS A FIVE-YEAR-OLD SON. THEIR CHILDREN DID NOT WAKE UP THAT MORNING AND SAY, I’M NOT GOING TO HAVE A DADDY WITH ME FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. JENNIFER: BUT THAT HAS BEEN DAYS. THE LIVES OF MANY MORE CHILDREN ALSO SCARRED BY VIOLENT CRIME. AND OTHERS, WATCH IT PLAY OUT EVERYDAY. UNFORTUNATELY, WHAT OUR CHILDREN LISTEN TO ALL DAY, WHAT THEY HEAR ALL DAY, THEIR MUSIC, THEIR VIDEOS, EVERYTHING IS ABOUT VIOLENCE JENNIFER: DANNA ANDRUS IS A MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST AND DOCTOR OF DIVINITY. HE SAYS ALL CHILDREN INTERNALIZE VIOLENCE. SOME ACT OUT. OTHERS CAN BECOME NUMB. IT’S ALMOST LIKE, UM, WELL, NOW SOMEBODY’S LIFE IS SNUFFED OUT. IT IS GONE. BUT THEY LOOK AT IT AS A MATTER OF FACT. JENNIFER: REGARDLESS OF HOW THEY ARE COPING, OR EVEN IF A CHILD SEEMS NOT TO NOTICE, DR. ANDRUS SAYS WE NEED TO TALK TO OUR KIDS ABOUT TRAGEDY A LOT. WE’RE GOING TO HAVE TO RE-TEACH THIS WHOLE THING ABOUT LIFE. MAKE IT MEANINGFUL AGAIN. MAKE IT HAVE SOME SORT OF DEPT — DEPTH THAT WE WOULD WANT TO IT AWAY. JENNFIFER: DOCTOR ANDRUS SAYS PEACE. CHILDREN, FOR EVERY BIT OF VIOLENCE THEY SEE, THEY’RE GOING TO HAVE TO SEE A NON VIOLENT SITUATION. AND IT’S OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO PRESENT THAT TO THEM SO THEY CAN SEE THAT EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS BALANCED, BECAUSE RIGHT NOW, THERE IS A GRAVE IMBALANCE WHEN IT COMES TO THIS THING ABOUT VIOLENCE. WE THINK THAT IT’S NOT JUST AN IMBALANCE. THAT IT’S THE ONLY WAY TO LIVE, BUT THAT’S NOT LIFE. LIFE IS TO BE ENJOYED, NOT ENDURED. JENNIFER: REPORTING IN NEW

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