Ella fell and got hurt and it's my fault according to Paul

Ok, the good thing is that she didn't need stitches. She really didn't cry. She was playing with her sister who is 11 years old in the living room. So I went out to ask Paul if he wanted me to fix him something to eat. I stopped to take a look at my watermelons. Raven came running outside with the baby yelling that she fell and is bleeding. I don't panic cause Ella isn't even crying. So I take her and look and low and behold she has a slice right under her eye, about an inch and a half long. I suggest taking her to the hospital and Paul said she didn't really need stitches. Which I agreed. It wasn't that deep and just looked worse cause there was a little blood. So I am cleaning it out at the sink and Paul yells at me for not penning her up. And for never using then pen the way it was meant to be used, and that it's just my fault. She was playing with her sister! She was fine and they always play together. Accidents happen! I felt bad too but I didn't yell at him and say it was his fault because of some stupid reason I just came up with cause I'm mad at the world at that moment. And no matter if you follow your kids around 24/7, things like that happen.

It turned out that Raven had Ella sitting in the chair with her and the baby dove off, and caught her face on the desk drawer handle. Raven felt awful and Paul yelling that this was all my fault made her feel even worse. I didn't know what to say so I said fuck it, everything bad is my fault. I told him to fuck off, and his response was "maybe I will!" What the hell is that supposed to mean?

All I know is that I really want to stick my foot up his ass the hard way right now!

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Jul. 9, 2007 at 10:21 PM

Everyone take a deep breath! :) His anger was probably just a result of the fear he felt when he heard the baby had fallen. Guys are like that. They don't want to feel fear, so it turns into anger. She's OK. Everything will be fine!

Here's the deal in my opinion: I have seven kids between my hubby and I (which mine are my hubbys) anyway, they fall and get hurt. Right after having my son, a year ago, my now five year old, then four year old was running through the house and one of my other daughters, who was two at the time, now three, was chasing her. Well my four now five year old, stopped suddenly and my two year old didn't. She fell on a toy and ended up needing like five or six stitches. Things happen. When it's time to worry is when the kids start fighting and the one pushes the other into something or starts using stuff against each other like sticks or toys. My kids are tough and they wrestle and try to knock each others heads into walls and doors. You guys don't have anything to worry about.

Jul. 12, 2007 at 5:35 AM
Same here. My middle son (4) fell of his swing and broke his arm. I was actually telling him to be careful as he was falling. Shit happens weather you are there or not. Men can be assholes but in the heat of the moment, they tend to overreact... at least mine does. Now that Phil is in a cast, he is ok but yesterday my baby (2 1/2) threw a heavy toy at Phil's face and it busted his gums right above his middle upper tooth. It looks bad but shit happens! Don't blame yourself and don't let yourself believe your husband! He will get over it... they usually do! good luck!