October 2018 Babies

Should I have a baby shower??

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sarabear_ wrote:

My first is 7 months now so she’ll be 14 months when this one is born. I am wondering if a baby shower is appropriate? If it’s a boy (we’ll find out at 20 weeks) then I’d like to ask for boy clothes and diapers. I was thinking of doing a “diaper bbq” or a “diaper bash” and just ask that everyone brings a box of diapers? Or should I just do a normal baby shower and do a registry with diapers, wipes and clothes? I kinda feel greedy since we had one not even a year ago haha. What are your thoughts??

Personally I'm not a fan of second baby showers unless there's a huge age gap... My daughter will be 2.5 when this one comes and we won't be doing anything. To me it's rude to ask people to buy stuff again when you've already got it all.We will be doing some sort of party to celebrate this little one after they are here but we aren't asking for anything.

Personally, I didn’t feel having a shower for any kid after the first was appropriate especially if no one offered to host one for me. I feel like showers are for first babies or if you have a HUGE gap between babies (4-8 years and all you baby stuff is gone) - and only if someone offers to throw you a shower. You’re not really supposed to throw your own shower regardless imho

We did a meet the baby type party after our 2nd and 3rd were about a month old and in the invite we said their presence was present enough - some people still brought a gift but it wasn’t like we invited folks to a shower and we still got to celebrate our sibling kiddos

My friend asked me if I wanted one and I was thinking the same- like a casual barbecue or something and not register or anything. Just if people wanna hang out together and celebrate... or even maybe an event for like 4-6 weeks after they’re born where people can see the new baby. (Obviously only close friends/family!)

I'm doing my own but more as of a bbq. and a gender reveal so IF they want to bring a gift it will be more of a necessity like diapers than just clothes. since no matter how many kids or age difference you still need the nessecities

I'm not doing a registry because if it's a boy I have ALL of my sons old stuff and if it's a girl my step mom has all of my niece baby clothes still that she will give me. so also why I'm doing a gender reveal as a baby shower because I'm hoping I get more diapers and wipes and bottles and all the nessecities instead of clothes. and I'm sure I'd get a gift card or 2 so with that I can buy new clothes.

it's going to be a baby shower but because I want more of the needs than the clothes that's why I'm revealing the gender at the baby shower. it's something different I see a lot of people do gender reveals at 4 or 5 months and I'm doing mine at 7 or 8

I'm having the same issue. I feel like every baby should have a little celebration. I thought about doing a gender reveal but my sister and brother in law are having one literally the same weekend I was looking at. It's their first and our third. There's also a family wedding the weekend before so I think it's too much too close. I would do one after but it will be the holidays and I'm not trying to have a meet and greet at Christmas. They will all see lo at Christmas anyway.

I'm in a similar boat! My LO will be 15 months when this bub is born. We are doing just a family BBQ as a celebration, with no gifts, no registry or anything because we really don't need anything. We were team green with our first so everything we have is already gender neutral and ready to go! The only reason we're even celebrating is because we live across the country from our families and will be traveling home- our moms never got to plan a shower with our first so this way they can be a little more involved. I think your idea of doing a diaper party is a great compromise! Most people will probably feel obligated to bring something anyway, so it might as well be useful things like diapers and wipes!

I think a diaper bash or diaper bbq is such a cute idea. I’ve personally done baby showers, diaper bashes, sprinkles ....baby showers #2, and 3 for the same mommy...it’s all with love. If someone doesn’t want to go to the shower or baby event...they don’t have to.

I think it’s great to have baby showers for every baby. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but I think it is worth it to celebrate every baby, not just the first. I find that second/third babies showers tend to have smaller gifts (diapers, clothes, etc., no swings, boppy, car seat, etc.), but it is a still a nice time.

I don’t think it’s proper to have second baby shower, especially so soon. If someone really really wants to celebrate your pregnancy, maybe allow them to throw you a sprinkle. Something intimate, more of a gathering to eat and mingle. Guests could bring a gift if they feel so inclined but I would not ask for anything.

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