The need to forgive is being so widely taught nowadays, that we are being programmed that we have to forgive to be a kind, caring person and that if we don't forgive someone for a wrong doing then we will never find peace and happiness. We may have real inner turmoil with this and start to think that we are a bad person if we don't or can't forgive someone, because the programming and messages being sent out are becoming so loud. So what if someone has done something to you or someone you love, and you just cannot forgive...

There is so much programming around forgiving and this is and has caused so many people much inner turmoil, myself included, that I wrote a blog article that you can read on this blog called ' Am I a Bad Person if I Can't Forgive Someone?' You may find it enlightening to read that article first, if you haven't already, to know why I believe that forgiving is the wrong message for really evil acts. When someone is feeling shock, disbelief, trauma and huge upset from a very disturbing event that has happened and affected them or people close to them...