High value women can tell in an instant if you’re a date or a dud. Everything from the way you hold yourself to the way other people react to you gives her the information she needs to make a decision.

Take a look at our checklist and see how you stack up.

#1. First Impression

Before you open your mouth, and possibly before you even notice her, she’s already forming an impression of you. Are you well groomed? Are you well put together? Do you look nervous?

If you don’t look like you give a shit about your appearance, you’re already dead in the water. I’m not saying you need to be Giorgio Armani, but you do need to make sure your nose hair stays in your nose.

Be comfortable in a social atmosphere, and if you aren’t, try your best to fake it for now. Maintain good posture, solid eye contact, and project your voice. Go out more, get used to mingling with others, and eventually being confident and comfortable will come naturally.

#2. Your Non-Verbal Giveaways

It’s impossible to monitor and control each of your thousands of subtle non-verbal giveaways. Lots of guys try to do this and they come across as awkward and unnatural, so instead focus on the things that cause you to display unattractive non-verbal cues in the first place.

One of the best things you can do is get comfortable with who you are. As cliché as it sounds, it’s true – if you don’t like you, and you aren’t happy with who you are, no one who is satisfied with who they are is going to like you.

Figure out what value you bring to the table; what can you offer that other guys can’t?

When a guy is uneasy in his own skin it’s extremely unattractive to women. Know who you are, what you’re about, and be proud of it.

#3. Are You Inexperienced?

When an attractive woman is screening for a potential date, she doesn’t want a guy she has to teach along the way. She wants a guy who knows how to take charge, who is accustomed to being around attractive women, and who has seen a thing or two in life; not a guy who acts like it’s his first time talking to a hot girl.

If you have no life experience – especially in terms of dating – it’s going to be difficult to be a fun, interesting, value giving guy. If you have great stories, cool experiences, and lots to share, you have lots of value to give. Ultimately, the most attractive thing to a woman is value, so get out there and live a little.

#4. How Do You Handle Relationships?

If you have no idea about relationships, you’re probably going to screw a few up. That’s OK – it’s part of the process.

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It’s easier than you think. Here are the four keys to successful goal setting:

1) Sit Down & Figure Out Your Goals

Surprisingly, the first step is often the most difficult. We have spent so much time listening to others talk about what is achievable, what is possible, what is practical, that we lose the ability to think about what WE want.

Our brain is so trained to think in “realistic” terms we often filter out our deepest desires. Pretend you live in a world with no consequence, no chance of failure – what would you do?

2) Engineer, or Reverse Engineer, a Way There

Trying to achieve your dreams is often like feeling your way through a maze in the dark. You have a sense of how to navigate the few feet in front of you, but absolutely no sense of the bigger picture. The only difference between successful people and failures is the successful people aren’t afraid to bump into things in order to figure out how to get to their destination.

A different approach is to instead start at the end and work backwards – want to start a company? Figure out what you resources you need to start a business in your area. Once you figure that out, find a way to acquire the necessary resources. Sometimes starting at the end and working backwards can give you a much clearer sense of how to get there.

3) Stay Focused and Stay Motivated

The most important thing is seeing visual representations of your goals several times a day. Creating a vision board in your office, taping images of your goals on the ceiling above your bed, or sticking little pictures on your monitor are all good ideas.

Next, you need to have a visual map, chart, or sketch of your path so you can keep track of your progress. When you feel demotivated, you are quickly reminded of how much work you’ve done so far and exactly how much more you have to do.

4) Reward Yourself

Too many people bust their ass constantly and never reward themselves. They burn out and have trouble finishing things, then wonder why.

It’s good to be motivated, but you’ll never STAY motivated if you don’t take a break and reward your efforts every now and then. Take a day off and go drinking with your buds or have a cheat day on your diet where you feast on fast food. Stop stressing yourself out trying to be perfect and you’ll achieve more.