Diary of an unknown football legend

The nights are drawing in and those ankle ligaments strained months ago are still not right. But it’s just a twinge now and as the evenings stretch out long — unlike my strung-out hamstrings — my Wednesday night indoor soccer game is calling me back.

How dignified is it to be still drawn to that draughty old sports hall to run … trundle … around red-faced and panting and kicking ball for an hour with similarly deluded/evergreen old boys? Sure even my 12-year-old son has told me I have no pace. Just saying it like it is.

And our weekly game. The echoing hall and floorboards sagging under our excess poundage. The air reeking of Deep Freeze and ridiculous aloe vera muscle rubs, as men in bulging Premier League gear with strapped up ankles go for ponderous drag-backs and drawn out Cruyff turns. Extravagant but well-fitting trainers with extra arch support provoke us into tackling and shooting with reckless slow-motion abandon.

That’s after we’ve chatted and wheezed through all sorts of shakes, stretches and half-hearted shimmies, otherwise known as the warm-up, bending over to touch a toe and giving up roundabout the middle of a shin. Well, it’s either that or topple over.

Just time for a frenzied 20-second sprint on the spot before the Reds and Blues shuffle into position and away we go.

In truth, while I am itching to get back I am also contemplating the very real danger of collapsing in a purple-faced heap from a cardiac arrest —and serve me right at my age.

This, the man who can hear himself breathing. At rest.

When is it over?

How can a twinge in my stomach or anywhere near my heart in the middle of the night have me thinking the end is nigh, and a moment later I am dreaming of that cracking volleyed goal that night — my second! — and giddily thinking of ways to beat that burly but surprisingly nifty guy who usually cleans up everything in defence?

Next time out it could be a hat-trick or it could be a heart attack.

It hardly helps when you Google the affects of sporadic intense exercise on men of my late-autumn years (if I’m lucky).

“Exercise training initiated in late middle age attenuates cardiac fibrosis and advanced glycation end-product accumulation in senescent rats”, the headline reads on a review of a report by Kathryn J Wright, a gerontology expert, apparently, at the Department of Experimental Medicine in McGill University Health Centre in Montreal, Canada.

I can’t help thinking of the Black Knight character in Monty Python and The Holy Grail, limbs severed one by one and still he will not yield to King Arthur and let him cross the “bridge”.

No limbs and the knight is still going. No pace like me. And this knight is no longer young.

When is it over?

Further Google research throws up the more hopeful words of Cathy Ross, a cardiac nurse at the British Heart Foundation: “Being active at any age helps control your weight, reduce blood pressure and cholesterol and will provide long term benefits for your heart health and general health”.

I really have to laugh at myself, coming on like some kind of footballing J Alfred Prufrock, scuttling across the floors of a less than silent sports hall.

“At times, indeed, almost ridiculous —

Almost, at times, the Fool”.

This, the man whose latest senior moment came only the other morning as he keyed in his bank card number instead of the house alarm code and barely staved off the shrill siren’s call that would have disturbed the universe of my housing estate.

And yet …

I see myself viciously massaging my legs for one more friendly battle, the happy fool off to tilt at windmills or go for that nutmeg … dying to give my all, or the best of all that’s left, for one hour of wonderfully carefree shambling play.

A thousand aches, niggles and responsibilities put aside for that golden hour of nothing but the next run, shot or tackle. Screaming for that pass inside the full back … that lung-bursting track back that no-one else will notice. Except myself.

Everything will seem possible again, for a while, as I try to make up for that stunning lack of pace with something approaching cunning.

Maybe I’m still yearning for the prime I never had. But so what?

When is it over?

I have read quite a bit of Freud and he was on to something. Especially the notion of our motivations and desires being governed by unconscious forces. How exactly is open to, um, interpretation.

So I do believe we must look for motives deeper than mere escapism to explain the quavering “yes-s-s!” of satisfaction that escapes one’s lips as that cleanly struck ball beats the diving … collapsing … goalkeeper, to nestle in the net, or beyond mere regret to interpret the existential distress of diverting a wickedly skidding crossed ball into one’s own net.

The child is father to the man, according to Herr Freud, and I do see sport somehow linking my childhood self with my adult incarnation.

I may be creaking at the hinges, but kicking football with the other elder lemons, I feel myself to be in immediate communion with the little boy who kicked football for hours with his brother and two pals that frosty Christmas Eve afternoon long ago, and only went home because we could no longer see the ball in the gathering dusk.

A thousand memories from a thousand games and kick-arounds down the days of my life regularly pop into my head without any bidding.

Also being the father of a football-mad 12-year-old boy, I treasure the sporting bond that further unites us.

Growing up, boys have many models of adult male behaviourand a major part of the maturation process lies in sifting through role models to arrive at the ones that work for us.

Some role models fade quickly, like the cowboy or the super hero, but others cast longer shadows.

I have known for a long time now I will never save the world in my coffee break like Superman, but in my secret heart that glorious pass with the outside of my right foot for my inrushing team-mate sweep it to the net, makes me believe I can still cut it on the football pitch.

Psychoanalyst and paediatrician Donald Winnicott introduced the concept of the transitional space, a mental space on the borders of reality and imagination, vital to mature mental functioning. He described it as “an intermediate area of experiencing, to which inner reality and external life both contribute”.

The child’s initiation into the world of others is too painful, too raw, Winnicott reckoned, if he is not allowed to work his way into it gradually. I believe this is something we never lose, this sense of others impinging on us, on our space, and the need for a private place in our minds to process our experiences, to digest them, before resuming so-called “normal’ life.

Winnicott also considered playing to be the key to emotional and psychological well-being. He saw play, at any age, as crucial to the development of authentic selfhood, because when people play they feel real, spontaneous and alive, and keenly interested in what they’re doing.

Winnicott believed that it was only in playing that people are entirely their true selves.

Growing up, thus, is a frustrating and complex business, and this is where the transitional space comes into its own, by allowing us both a breathing space from life’s travails, while also letting us digest our experiences, and play with possibilities.

Regression, the return to simpler and more elemental stages of behaviour, where anger and discontent are more easily expressed, is more than acceptable within the matrix of sport. While sport can serve as a wonderful medium of exchange and interaction with others, it can also, if we abide by the rules – and the referee – allow us to “let off steam”, loudly, blithely, and above all, safely.

But as we well know, it can take a while to reach a mature level of self-expression, to learn to play the game.

The ambiguity is deliberate; there is the literal sense of learning the customs, rituals and rules, and there is also something subversive in the notion of “playing the game”to get what we want out of it.

We all know people can play the game in many ways, fairly and unfairly. Sledging, pulling, needling, and all sorts of skulduggery can be engaged in. It’s all part of it, for good or bad.

Sport continues to enthral so many of us, and maintains an allure for those of us still playing, or thinking of getting back to it, regardless of aptitude or age.

Football met some basic needs for me as a child and sport in general has stayed relevant to me because it has been flexible and adaptable enough to meet differing needs as they have evolved.

Freud held that sanctions and guilt were essential to prevent people from acting from urgent selfish motives and that as a consequence, neurosis was the price we pay for the degree of civilisation we do manage to establish and maintain. It’s also why we do need referees. And to abuse them, maybe!

But when I consider getting back on the indoor football court, I won’t be pondering my unconscious motivations: it will be all about the the hour-long forever and the glorious now of that Wednesday night soccer game.

So what if I will be stiff and sore for days afterwards, starting almost from the minute we leave the field of play?

When is it over?

All too soon.

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A newspaper sub-editor for many years, I am now a freelance sub-editor, blogger and content writer. Husband of one and house daddy of two: a feisty, style-crazy 14-year-old girl and a football nut of a boy aged 13. My website: endastories.com.

7 comments on “Diary of an unknown football legend”

Like you, I’ve always had sport as a major part of my life though I haven’t participated since my daughters grew up. That was something to do with the shame I felt when I took the pace off a tennis ball hit towards my 9yo to be kind to her, only to catch a fleeting glimpse of it as her return flew through me! Her shout of ‘you’re supposed to hit it, Dad’ is still with me! Do they have walking football near you? Apparently, it’s a good way for the more mature Peles to continue their love for the beautiful game 😉

You are right of course Clive. I really should be honest aand concede a fast walk would be quicker than my highest warp speed sprint these days and I should therefore play walking football. Truth is I wrecked my ankle in a game.months ago and it’s still not righr. So no play at all. I am confined to watching my son who is an excellent young player. I’ll be back … some day. Thanks for reading and commenting Clive