Have sex for yourself. Today I suggest that you become focused on yourself. Find three reasons that you want to be intimate with your spouse and indulge. I talk about serving in the bedroom. I believe service is important in a marriage and thinking about the other person is extremly valuable. I do want us all to remember that we are valuable as well. Loving ourselves and having sex for our enjoyment is a great thing. Today do something in the bedroom that creates a feeling of enjoyment and fulfillment. Today talk to yourself and ask these questions....

Do I enjoy being intimate with my spouse?

If the answer is yes then dig deeper and ask why you enjoy being intimate. Come up with two things. If the answer is no then I suggest you use the Byron Katie Method. Ask yourself, Is this true? Can I know for sure that I do not like being intimate with my spouse? Then ask yourself if you can absolutely know that its true? Then ask how do you react when you believe that thought? Then ask who would you be without the thought? Then turn it around and ask ... Do I enjoy being intimate with myself. I am not talking about masturbation. I am talking about truly loving yourself from the inside. Who you are in this exact moment.2. What do I like in the bedroom?When we take a look at ourselves then we can discover so many wonderful things that we have to offer ourselves and our lover. Ask youself what you like in the bedroom? Do you like to be in control? Do you like to be taken in your lovers arms while he ravishes you all night? Do you like to tie your husband up so he can not touch you and you can do all the pleasing and teasing? Would you like to turn your lover into a hot fudge sundae that you can't wait to devour? Find one thing that you like in the bedroom and create the scene. You will fill great and so will your lover3. Am I safe?Here is a beilef that I know many women experience in the bedroom. When we are feeling unsafe enjoyment is the last emotion we will experience. We can choose to create a new belief to replace this unsafe feeling. Start speaking positive affirmations to yourself. Say this ... I am safe...I am safe...I am safe. Say this...I am whole and complete...I am whole and complete...I am whole and complete. Say this...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure...I love being sexually intimate and receiving pleasure. Start thinking healthy thoughts about yourself and your sexuality. Sex is an amazing connection that we get to experience and as we release emotions and beliefs that keep us stuck in an unsatisfied sex life then we can flourish and live in our own sexual power.For more information on Byron Katie her website is www.thework.com

Sex is not just a physical act. When we take time to figure out what our body crave then we can care for ourselves in the most amazing ways. The great thing is our bodies respond so quickly and efficiently . Decide today to do one thing that makes you feel more connected to your sexual side. If this is listening to some sensual music… then do it. If taking a walk and noticing all the beautiful sounds and scents makes your feel sensual…then do it. If eating some delicious fruit while savoring the taste makes your feel more connected to your sexual side…then do it. Our bodies and minds are so amazing and when we harness this power to awaken our sexual side we will start seeing small changes. Small changes made consistently over a long period of time produces huge results. Do something today to feel sensual!!

We have all heard that changing our daily routine or trying something new is so great for our mind, bodies and souls. This is true for sex as well. If we are so conditioned that sex can only take place after we have taken off our makeup , brushed our teeth, washed our face and put on our night gown then this habit is one that deserves to be broken. Do something out of the ordinary. Buy yourself a really spicy dress and meet your husband at the door for an intimate candle light dinner or put on some sensual music and do a small strip tease for him. You will get butterflies in your stomach again because you are doing something new and daring and your husbands response will be amazing and inspiring. We deserve to get out of our comfort zone at times to create a new spark. I am not saying that you have to do something so crazy like have sex in the grocery store bathroom ( although this can be fun), I am saying to do something that you have always wanted to do when it comes to your sexuality. Take a chance and see how you feel. We may feel like there is no way that I can do something like that but when you try it you may find that you feel sexually empowered and that you can’t wait to try something else new and exciting. Sex is a playground . When we went out to recess we did not see the Jungle Jim, swing sets, monkey bars and balance beam and make a decision to only swing and never, ever try the other three. Sex is fun, amazing, exploratory, beautiful and sensual. Decide today to do something courageous when it comes to your sexual connection with your husband. Sex may be fun and playful today and tomorrow sex may be sensual and spiritual. Both of these have a place in marriage and both are perfect experiences!

Loving ourselves is the key to great sex. The lack of self love is the reason we experience a sexless marriage. We consciously think that we are tired and not in the mood but on a subconscious level we are not feeling enough love for ourselves. When we are judging and not loving ourselves then it is difficult to open up and become intimate with our husbands. Start focusing on all the amazing characteristics you have and all the beautiful things you bring into your marriage. When you hear that voice creep into your head with a negative thought be conscious. Stop the thought and put a positive spin on it. When you wake up in the morning speak wonderful words to yourself. We are with our own thought 24hrs a day and we are what we think. Create the best decision for yourself and speak to yourself like your thoughts create your reality because they do. When we are feeling good about ourselves then sex becomes more enjoyable. Start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved. When we love and respect ourselves then everything in our lives becomes more exciting, fulfilled and enjoyable. We are amazing in so many ways. Start focusing on all the amazing things and leave the few negative things behind. When we have 1000 great things about ourselves why would we focus on the 6 things that we would like to change. Focus on the 1000 and the 6 will slowly shift into alignment. When we speak and think positive about ourselves then sex becomes an act of giving our husbands all the love we feel for him and ourselves.

Author

My name is Cameo .I have been married for 16 years and with my husband for 17.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!