A TECHNIQUE DRIVEN Blog dedicated to mastery of surface design techniques. First we dye, overdye, paint, stitch, resist, tie, fold, silk screen, stamp, thermofax, batik, bejewel, stretch, shrink, sprinkle, Smooch, fuse, slice, dice, AND then we set it on fire using a variety of heat tools.

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

A Memorial Series

My ex-husband died last week. It has been 20+ years since we lived together and 10+ years since we have been divorced. However, a divorce does not end a relationship as much as changes it. For better or worse, we continued to be connected by our 7 children.

I thought I would use this month's technique to work out some of my sadness and grief and anger over what could have been but wasn't. This is only a beginning but I am writing stories about my ex-husband on the tissue paper. First I will write about the things that he did during the last 40 years that I have not yet forgiven. Then I will write about how angry I am about the things that could have been and weren't. Hopefully I will be able to end by writing some fond memories and acceptance of our lives that will bring a peaceful closure to our very turbulent relationship.

That is my first step in trying Rosalita's paper cloth technique. When the tissue paper is full of my writing, I will tear it into pieces to glue it to the muslin. It will become a nice background for ... I don't know yet. I think perhaps several small art works to give as a remembrance.

This is a wonderful and creative way to empty the heart and soul of those heavy and hurtful things, Judith. As Karen S. said, may it bring you peace. Perhaps by the end of your writing and this process, a bit of joy will find its way in as well.

First of all, condolences for you, Loosing your first man, even it is your ex, hurts. What an intense but good way of writing down your memories and turn them in a piece of Art afterwards. All the best.

I never cried so hard as I did when my ex died. We remained great friends until that day. We were best friends but...couldn't live together. I still shed a tear when I think of him. This is a wonderful technique to help you through some of this loss...my deepest sympathy.