Sunday, February 10, 2008

MAD (Mother And Daughter) Love

A commemoration of Mind Rush's favorite celebration (that would be Valentine's) with the first of three Love Chakkars this week. First, unsolicited advice for incognito.

incognito said...

I am effin sick of my parents' lack of respect for other people's privacy. Today I was out all day and I come home and go to my room and it is effin clean, mom went through all my sh*t and then put them in the closets and cupboard in order.

WTF? If she wanted me to clean my room why didn't she say so... I don't want people specially my parents going through my stuff, its disrespectful. I got photos of me, a bong and other things, I bet she saw them...

I am sick of being desi.. GRRRRR i just wanna crrrry...

how dare they touch my stuff.. i would have cleaned the room myself if they were so concerned...

knowing how nosey my mom is i bet she looked at everything.. GRRRR..i bet i wont find anything anymore

i dont even let them in my room to get anything so what amde them think it was okay to clean my room. I bet they did it just to spite me and ruin my day/week/month

i dont wanna leave home anymore, you never know what stunt they will pull next...

I hacked into your account and noticed that you are destroying our family name by writing to this bekaar column? Hamaari izzat dhool mein milaa di. What will the Indian Association members think? All the other aunties' daughters are going to med school at Harvard and my daughter....(sob!) Your sister will never get a rishta, ever. Hum kissi ko muh nahi dikhaa sakte! What did I do wrong as a mother? Sob!

OK, enough mazaak. This is in fact Mind Rush, playing mind games with you, Incognito. Couldn't resist. Seriously, I empathize. I've been there myself.

I have two solutions for you.

Number ek: Be an adult. Call a family meeting. Lay down the law, gently emphasizing the values of trust, respect and privacy.

Number two: Respond with the same weapons the family is using, yaani ki, silence, mystery and intruige. Buy a $25 safe. Put your "questionable" belongings in it. Lock it. Leave it on your bed when you go out.

16 comments:

hehe thanks!! i am kinda over the breach of privacy now and my room is back to being messy.. it looks better that way

anyway i got another small problem. well i broke up with my ex a while ago and then met a new guy who is super cool..he's a teaching assistant at my college (he teaches audio engineering) and is so edgy and different.. and he lives by himself in a small apartment.. we started talking and then we kinda had similar interests so we'd hang out together between classes and have lunch together

we arranged to go watch no country for old men few weeks ago and because he lives right next to the arthouse cinemas.. and go i went over and his apartment is super cool..he's got guitars and amps all over and the apartment looks like a rockstar's loft.. he also plays guitar in some band..

he's a bit older than me.. but age is just a number..

anyhoo we hang out a lot but he never like asked me out formally.. we haven't even kissed but i totally think he wants me.. but i'm kinda like laid back.. i would totally date him if he asks me otherwise i am quite happily single.. we'll just hang out and stuff..

he wants to go fly to nearby city to see my favorite band live !!and i am like suuuuree!! now how will i convince my parents to allow me.. or should i lie about going with female friends as usual.. they wouldn't allow me cuz he's like 27..

Mind Rush probably lives for pecheeda maamlas like that. Ideas will be forthcoming soon that will be mature and sensible.

On the other hand, if you asked me: I'd invent some story and make it happen. Why just last night I was shocked to hear from the Drift Memsaab that my boys would not be allowed to invite girls into their rooms.

yes okay so today i get a sms from this new boy asking if i wanted to have lunch together, i said ok.. so he picks me up and he's like what you got in mind and i said "no idea rly what you thinking?" and he's like lets go grab a gourmet burger and a six pack and go a beach for a picnic..

at first i thought fark drinking at a public place who knows if we might see some auntyji or uncleji then i thought feck it

then we went and ordered our burgers and then went to BWS store and the owner was some desi guy and his name tag "Agni" and he and some customer (also desi) gave me an evil look. Probably cuz i'm a desi chick who looks underage with a white dude in an alcohol store at 1 pm. my "friend" was like "they never seen an ethnic girl walk into a booze store before?" LOL he is so funny!

anyway the beach!!! we couldn't find a decent place to sit down so he's like do you wanna walk up the hill, there is a small hill next to the beach and i was wearing huge stilettos as i always do and i finally managed to climb up and i was drinking beer and eating my vegie burger and my phone starts going bizerk..it was my mom so i didn't answer then she rang a few times and left a msg saying i needed to come home asap because of some personal reasons

so that ruined my day :( i had a few mints and went home..and we had to go to gurdwara.. i felt terrible going there thinking i had 2 bottles of beer :(

Meg, My sympathies! This is the problem with being desi....If your conscience is not watching your actions, then some random desi store-walla does it for you. When all else fails, your mom has a premonition and will thwart your plans. And finally there's always G-d almighty to answer to!