Cindy of Under Much Grace takes informative and very technical looks at abusive behavior, analyzing both the victims and the abusers.

She has a new series about brainwashing. I want to make special note of part 7 in which she ties the information to the Pearls’ teachings. Here is a short summary which she wrote for me:

I think of it in terms of developmental milestones and such, and most all learning is experiential for a child for the first 36 months and is primarily all on the right side of the brain, entirely self-centered and oriented toward felt sense.

Children under the age of two only make Delta waves on EEG, the same brainwave that an adult makes while they sleep. From two to six, they make only theta waves which is what an adult generates just before falling asleep, basically. The plotting that Pearl talks about is a fast brainwave that doesn’t manifest in a child until they approach age twelve.

I would also like to draw your attention to the posts after part X which are about how the mindset of many families prime children for victimization.

Carissa Robinson explains that “If you observe most recommended Christian parenting practices today, you might be surprised to discover a secular influence: behavioral psychology” in Awaken Their Hearts.

Meanwhile, Greenegem explains the error in thinking that we have to DO anything more than believe in order to be saved in No Assembly Required.

The Peaceful Housewife has a very thought provoking post about the messages we give our children about themselves when their efforts are never good enough in Towel Folding Lessons. We must be careful because this is what she discovered:

I was passing along my perfectionist, performance-based tendencies and my codependency to my sweet, innocent little girl by sending her the message that nothing that she did was good enough. I was unintentionally telling her that she’s not good enough, she’s not able to trust herself to do well and that she needs to seek the approval of others in order to feel good about herself.