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You’ve changed…

Old habits

Upon catching up with someone you haven’t met for a long time they often observe that ‘you haven’t changed a bit!’, and it’s usually meant affectionately.

On the other hand, an old associate noting that ‘you’ve changed…‘ can be taken as an insult (although this often says as much about the person making the snide remark as it does the recipient – perhaps it even explains why you lost touch!).

It can be both reassuring and complimentary to be seen as fundamentally the same person; but ideally buddies from yesteryear would observe that you’ve made tremendous leaps & bounds of progress in terms of your life, demeanour, and character.

When you think about it ‘you haven’t changed a bit…‘ should really be an underwhelming outcome!

Cycles of change

Before any lasting positive changes can be made they must first be contemplated, a commitment made to them, and then action taken.

Sustained change happens when a consistent new pattern replaces an old routine; the challenge is then to maintain the new behaviour instead of slipping back into old routines.

You’ll note that the cycle of change model does not show an end to the process of change: it’s a constant evolution, which is why I believe it’s so important to keep stretching yourself & moving forward.

5 steps to lasting change

Legendary life coach Tony Robbins recommends a series of steps for creating lasting change, including: