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Faithfulness v/s Loyalty & Natural v/s Unnatural (Day 93)

Within this
post I am going to open up some points existing within myself in relation to
some concepts/words I have reacted to recently. These are the concepts of
Faithfulness v/s Loyalty and what we know – or think we know – as Natural v/s
Unnatural.

Let’s first
have a look at the definition of these words and how I can create something
with them:

- - Having
undergone little or no processing and containing no chemical additives.

Unnatural:

- - Contrary
to the laws or cause of nature.

- - At
variance with what is normal or to be expected.

Okay – The first
two concepts of Faithfulness and Loyalty appeared on a movie called Frida,
which is a movie about Frida Kahlo’s life. There was a scene where she was
having an intimate conversation with his future husband and they mentioned
these two concepts. The future husband said something like “I can’t promise you
Faithfulness if we agree to marry, but I can promise you Loyalty”.

It was cool
to realize how I have believed that for some reason Faithfulness and Loyalty
are kind of synonyms and that if you are cheated, you believe your partner is a
traitor or something like that, without realizing that one can be Unfaithful
and continue being Loyal.

It’s
Natural to believe that if you are in a relationship with a partner you won’t
be cheated, because it’s Natural to attach oneself to the Catholic Principles
of Monogamy.

I once was
reading an article that mentioned that globalization is not something that
started in the 21st century. It probably started in the 15th
century with the Catholic Church spreading its beliefs to the rest of the world
as the only one religion. As a consequence, we have come to believe that it’s Unnatural
to be in a relationship where your partner has sex with another person, because that would be considered/defined/labeled/judged as a Sin. - From the
Catholic Church’s perspective of course.

We tend to
prefer that which seems to be Natural and we reject the Unnatural, but if we
have a deeper look at those words/concepts and we then have another look at
human beings’ lives, then something interesting to realize happens:

For
instance, I was born through Cesarea, because my mom’s “natural” body’s
condition was not able to have a “natural” birth. Therefore, I can say I was
born through an “unnatural” method. This makes me part of the unnatural ones,
the abnormal ones. So, should the unnatural/abnormal be rejected when they actually
support life?

If we
reject the Unnatural/Abnormal because of our beliefs/projections, then LIFE
wouldn’t be possible for many people, including myself; my possibility to live
in this world would be nonexistent.

Anyways - Going
back to the Frida Kahlo’s example. Why do we assume that being in a relationship
should determine the way we behave? I mean, even though I may agree to have sex
with another human being while being in a relationship, we are supposed to not
do it, because that would be Unnatural and “punished” by our partners, because
they were invisibly/imperceptibly influenced by the Catholic Church’s beliefs
and they may think those beliefs are part of themselves, so in being Unfaithful
one would be perceived as a “traitor” who causes harm onto others; onto the
ones we “love”.

That’s why
I liked Frida’s movie, especially the part I mentioned, because they – through self-honest
communication – were able to create an agreement where they could be
Unfaithfull/Unnatural within their marriage. They didn’t think “What will
everybody else think of us? How will we look to the eyes of the people?” – They
didn’t give a shit, because they knew who they were and what they wanted = to
Live and not limit themselves within globalized beliefs.

I am not
saying that the solution to have a “better relationship” is to have sex with
everybody whenever you want, although I don’t see any Unnatural aspects if it’s
a mutual agreement. It would probably push us to investigate ourselves deeper and
to stop believing that our partner "belongs to us". Unfaithfulness would
switch its status quo from Unnatural to Natural and we probably wouldn’t react with
jealousy as we do today, because it would be part of the Natural mechanism of
relationships.

Self-
Forgiveness

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not question why I have come
to believe that relationships must function within and as the principle of
Monogamy.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and
understand the influence of the Catholic Church within human beings’ beliefs.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to function according to the
principle of Monogamy and feeling bad within myself when I realized I liked
another person who was not my partner.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not communicate effectively
with my partners in the past, because when I liked another person I thought I
was doing something “wrong” therefore I preferred to hide it instead of
communicate it to my partners and together come to a solution.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear expressing my thoughts,
feelings and emotions when they were “Unnatural” to the eyes of the hegemonic
discourse/belief existing within the mechanisms of relationships.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that I
belong to the abnormal ones, because I wasn’t born naturally, without seeing,
realizing and understanding that Natural and Unnatural are words that belong to
polarity, therefore they exist within the mind = they are not real. I am real.

I forgive myself
that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe in the concepts of
natural/unnatural, normal/abnormal, without realizing they are not real,
because those are only perceptions and interpretations that function according
to our pre-programmed inter-subjectivity based on knowledge and information.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I will be
defined as an unnatural/abnormal human being if I speak in self-honesty about
this topic.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and
understand that our current existence within this world is actually unnatural
and abnormal and everyone who will propose something different will be labeled
as an abnormal/unnatural/antichrist.

I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand
that our current existence is Unnatural/Abnormal because we exist in Inequality
and an Unequal system that does not provide Equal life conditions to everyone
in this world is actually the real unnatural/abnormal manifestation/creation.