RSVP Etiquette Need-To-Knows

WORDS:: Chyka Keebaugh

PHOTOS:: Lisa Atkinson

I have seen a few invitations in my time...

Being in the events industry not only do we send invites but we also receive a lot, and the styles and attention to detail have certainly changed over the years! There is nothing like having received a beautiful invite; one that has been well thought out, looks gorgeous, and when there is a special occasion to be celebrated - a great invitation is an absolute must.

For weddings….

RSVP a yes if the invite asks for it. Sometimes invites have a ‘regrets only’ detail, so if you can’t make it - let them know. A lot of invites now include RSVP cards and return envelopes but not always. Send a letter as a response, yes it’s a little formal but the occasion calls for it

If you’re invite has a plus one, respond appropriately. Please don’t bring a guest if they are not on the invite - talk about a logistical nightmare!

If for some reason you can’t make it at the last minute or even leading up to the event, let the hosts know as soon as possible. Your seat can be filled and caterers can be notified

If you have special dietary requirements, let your hosts know in a good amount of time so they can be prepared

Don't bring the gift to the wedding, it can arrive up to two months after the wedding - but no later!

Don't spend less than $50 on a wedding gift and/or go in with a group of friends for the ultimate gift

If there is a registry, use it. It was put together for a reason!

For dinner parties…

Arrive on time! I think this should be a blanket rule for life, don’t you agree? Never be too early and don’t arrive more than 15 minutes late

Do not bring a friend unless you have cleared it with the host

Don’t take flowers or wine - are you assuming there is no wine or flowers in the house? Of course you are not, but maybe taking a small gift for the host is more personal and appreciated

If you are just ‘popping in’ make sure you stay for at least 45 minutes, stick to that rule and keep them happy

Dress appropriately, check the guidelines and then check the mirror

Now I don’t need to tell you how to be a good guest do I? Or do I! A good guest is pretty basic, but I am going to remind you of a few things we all need to make sure of. One should always arrive on time with a gift in hand. Now gifting is a must, it doesn’t have to be a huge gift but a token of appreciation for all the effort your entertainer has put into the meal, the space etc.. It can be as small as a gorgeous handmade soap for your host, a beautiful candle, a mixed CD to play whilst eating dinner - whatever you choose, but not flowers or wine!