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Most of us think of intent as a “kind of” “sort of” thing: you intend to go on vacation, but you really don’t do much about it. Or you intend to go to the market, but some other errand got in the way. Or you intend to ask your boss for a raise, but you got cold feet and chickened out. Which is a waste of a valuable tool, for in truth, intent is a powerful, dynamic mechanism. It’s not just wishful thinking. It’s a determination to act in a certain way. Intent is so powerful, that it can alter…See More

Babies smile - a lot. Beauty queens smile - on cue. Winners smile – most of the time, in between all that jumping and high-fiving. Smiles are a way of expressing our happiness, our joy, our pride, our gratitude. More than that, smiles are a way of connecting, of saying – without words – I’m with you on this, I acknowledge you as a fellow human or a delightful animal or a beautiful flower, someone/something I’m in sync with. All this you already know, but did you know that smiles are really good…See More

Caesar, not as in “Caesar’s Palace” in Las Vegas, but Caesar, as in Julius Caesar, the man, was truly an amazing individual. If he were alive today, I sincerely believe he’d be the most successful man on the planet, for one simple reason: the dude had incredible follow-through. Whatever he promised his legions, the people of…See More

So much of our time is spent fixing problems: problems at work, issues with our loved ones, concerns with our health, our weight, our finances. You name it, 90% of our waking hours (and so many of our sleeping ones as well) are spent in having yet another problem brought to our attention, with its clamoring need; “Fix me, Fix me!”But what if, just for this Valentine’s Day, you shifted your attention to “What’s right with” – well, everything? What’s right with your work, your loved ones, your…See More

You bury your head in your hands. You’d really like to run screaming from your cubicle, but for one, that would get you instantly fired, for two, your shoes are definitely not made for running. But the stress! Not only does your job stress you out, but there’s your family, friends, chores, errands, social media to keep up with – AARGH! It’s enough to make a grown man/woman weep. So off you go to yoga/pilates (how to make the time for that is yet another stressor), or meditation class, or get up…See More

Summer blockbusters are full of Masters of the Universe—Superheroes/heroines, Emperors and Kings—in righteous battle. And, when someone storms your castle – be that of your thoughts, your actions, your behavior—don’t you defend it with all your might? “You’re wrong!” “You messed up, not me!” “I didn’t do that, you did!” We like to be Masters of our own Universe, so when someone points the finger at us and tell us we’re wrong, we did it wrong—well, we don’t like it, not one bit. But here’s the…See More

The other day, a good friend of mine gave a talk in which he described how he overcame his addiction to alcohol, and it basically came down to this: he decided he had a choice. To ease the pain of life by drinking, or to choose happiness. To stop looking at everything that didn’t work in his life, and deliberately look at what was working.In other words, to shift his focus. Now, this wasn’t a magic wand he was waving. His whole life didn’t radically change from one day to the next, but what did…See More

Ever watch a skilled dog trainer work with a puppy? The trainer never ever punishes the sweet beastie for not sitting on the “sit” command, but rather rewards the dog with praise and treats the instant his furry butt hits the ground. The dog—smart pooch—gets the idea real fast, and proceeds to sit on cue with remarkable consistency. It’s no different with employees. Any good manager knows that catching employees in the act of doing something right is far more effective in improving their…See More

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Relationship Status:

Engaged

How long have you been married?

6-10 Years

How many kids do you have?

0

What's your best marriage advice?

Never take your spouse for granted, focus on all that is wonderful about your sweetheart, and let them know, time and again, how much you appreciate all they are and do - for you, for your family, and in the world.

About Me:

My mother named me "Noelle" because, being French, she wanted me to have a French name that couldn't be mispronounced in English. Didn't work. I've been called "No-No," "Noellie" "the First Noel" (among others). Poor woman, she meant well . . . Meanwhile, growing up in California with a French mom and a Cincinnati, Ohio, born-and-bred Dad was an adventure: European discipline, Mid-West values and organic foods before anyone knew what organic was. My stylish Parisian mother would have loved fashion-plate children, instead she got my tomboy sister and a bookworm - me.

My not-very-straight-line path took me to Wellesley (briefly), UCLA (BA), the Sorbonne in Paris (Doctorat), United States International University (Ph.D.) with assorted jobs along the way: medical receptionist, 2nd stage manager at the Lido (Paris), acting coach, clinical psychologist, trial consultant, relationship expert, and mixed through it all - author! The thing I love best to do. Well, along with giving seminars, speeches, creating videos.

The one outstanding lesson life has taught me, and that runs through all my writings in a variety of ways is this life, and everything that is in it - you, me, our friends and families, the animals, the earth, our planet, the galaxy, God, all of it - is most present, most fulfilled when it is grandly, genuinely, thoroughly appreciated. Appreciation is the cornerstone of love, for only when you value something, cherish it, do you come to love it.

Now, here's the serious stuff:

Personal Growth

As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Nelson has empowered countless individuals to be happier, healthier and more successful at work, at home and in relationships. Dr. Nelson shares her proactive and positive outlook in her books, articles, workshops and seminars. Dr. Nelson's popular monthly newsletter, "A Note From Dr. Noelle," and her book, The Power of Appreciation: The Key to a Vibrant Life (Beyond Words Publishing) give readers the skills to use appreciation's energy to impact their lives. Dr. Nelson is also the author of Everyday Miracles (Prentice Hall Press), Winner Takes All (Perseus Publishing), Dangerous Relationships: How to Identify and Respond to the Seven Warning Signs of a Troubled Relationship (Perseus Publishing) and, most recently, Your Man is Wonderful (Free Press).

Dr. Nelson has appeared on national and international radio and television including CBS's "The Early Show," ABC's "The View," Montel, Fox News and CNN. She has been in publications including Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Entrepreneur, People, Bottom Line/Personal and the Los Angeles Times. Dr. Nelson has spoken on appreciation before audiences in the U.S., Canada, England and Australia.

Business & Legal

A business trial consultant for 20 years, Dr. Nelson works closely with attorneys, company management and corporate executives.

Dr. Nelson has extensively studied how people think, make decisions and how they commit to those decisions. As a trial consultant, she helps attorneys enlist the cooperation of 12 perfect strangers (the jury) to get the results they want--all in the face of opposing counsel trying to convince the jury to come to the opposite decision. Since 2000, she has helped win more than $500 million for her plaintiff clients. Her defense clients have saved hundreds of millions more.

Dr. Nelson's background as a business trial consultant and psychologist requires the study and understanding of people--real people--not the theoretical customer or employee discussed at business schools. Her book, The Power of Appreciation in Business: How an Obsession with Value Increases Performance, Productivity and Profits (MindLab Publishing), takes the appreciation concept and applies it to the workplace.

Dr. Nelson is a member of the National Honor Society of Psychology, the American Society of Trial Consultants and the American Psychological Association.

Noelle Nelson's Blog

Most of us think of intent as a “kind of” “sort of” thing: you intend to go on vacation, but you really don’t do much about it. Or you intend to go to the market, but some other errand got in the way. Or you intend to ask your boss for a raise, but you got cold feet and chickened out.

Which is a waste of a valuable tool, for in truth, intent is a powerful, dynamic mechanism. It’s not just wishful thinking. It’s a determination to act in a certain way.

Babies smile - a lot. Beauty queens smile - on cue. Winners smile – most of the time, in between all that jumping and high-fiving. Smiles are a way of expressing our happiness, our joy, our pride, our gratitude.

More than that, smiles are a way of connecting, of saying – without words – I’m with you on this, I acknowledge you as a fellow human or a delightful animal or a beautiful flower, someone/something I’m in sync with.

Caesar, not as in “Caesar’s Palace” in Las Vegas, but Caesar, as in Julius Caesar, the man, was truly an amazing individual. If he were alive today, I sincerely believe he’d be the most successful man on the planet, for one simple reason: the dude had incredible follow-through. Whatever he promised his legions, the people…

So much of our time is spent fixing problems: problems at work, issues with our loved ones, concerns with our health, our weight, our finances. You name it, 90% of our waking hours (and so many of our sleeping ones as well) are spent in having yet another problem brought to our attention, with its clamoring need; “Fix me, Fix me!”

But what if, just for this Valentine’s Day, you shifted your attention to “What’s right with” – well, everything? What’s right with your work, your loved…

The airport was crowded, noisy, chaotic. Nothing unusual about that. I was waiting, properly queued up, to board my flight. To my right was a line of nine wheelchair-bound folk also waiting patiently. All but one, who was waiting not so patiently. She was sixth in the line of pre-boarding wheelchairs, and she was not happy about it. She muttered and groused about how long it was taking, and who did they think they were to put her sixth in line, she’d get a terrible seat, and it was going to…