To be very upset how my friends have behaved towards me following an accident?

I was recently involved in an accident on my way to work. Thankfully I was not really seriously injured, but it was serious enough that I was taken to A&E in an ambulance and I sustained some injuries that still have not healed (the accident was a month ago) so I have been in some discomfort for the last month since the accident, not to mention that it has shaken me up a bit so I have been feeling a little down.

As I say, I am very lucky that my injuries are basically just superficial and will fully heal in time and there should not be any lasting damage, so I am trying not to make a mountain out of a mole hill, for example I went back to work as soon as I could and have just got on with things.

When the accident first happened I told my family and close friends, and all my friends sent me the usual "oh no sorry to hear that, get well soon" kind of message back. However, since then not one of the six or seven women who I would consider to be my close friends have bothered to call or text to check how I am. Not one text in a whole month.

The wife of one of DP's friends (who I haven't known very long) popped round with some flowers and I was so touched I almost cried. It was so thoughtful of her and completely unexpected, it really meant such a lot to know that someone cared. My Mum, MIL, DP and my boss have also all been really sweet.

AIBU to be a bit upset that none of my "close" friends have bothered to get in touch? I like to think I am a thoughtful person myself, and I would always sent a card if one of my friends was very sick or injured.

This has made me think I should re-evaluate my friendships a bit, and perhaps focus a bit more energy on the lovely lady who popped round with the flowers who is not someone I really know that well, only via our partners.

I suspect they just dont realise it was as bad as it was. If you said 'superficial injuries' that could cover a whole range of things. If they havent seen you they wont know you are still uncomfortable and shaken. It would be a shame to lose friendships over a misunderstanding.

People are busy. They may have meant to send a card, but then something happens and they get distracted, and then three days go by and they think "oh, she must be better by now, it's too late to send a card now".

Also, if you are back at work they probably assume the accident wasn't that bad.

What do you expect them to do though? You've said yourself that the injuries were not serious. They sent texts when it happened asking if you were ok when it happened, what else could expect from them?

I think if I were one of your group of friends, after the initial 'sorry to hear' text/phone call, and if I knew you were back at work, I'd save asking how you are for the next time I run into you in the normal course of events.

anyone I would consider myself close to I would chat at least a few times a week to

Really? That sounds like a very narrow definition of closeness!

OP - do they know what your injuries were? Have you been posting on FB or similar so that they at least know you're on the mend? It sounds like maybe they are unaware of how affected you have been, or under the impression that things aren't that bad. I have been to A and E in ambulances a few times, and for many of those I wouldn't go out of my way to tell people because the results weren't too bad, so perhaps they think that because you've got on with things you are actually on the mend more than you really are.

If it was superficial and you're back at work I'd be assuming you were fine unless told otherwise in some way.

Nobody assumes someone else is suffering MH issues or shock, or things. We all just assume everything's always fine. Sometimes to get help you have to make the first effort, then assess friendships based on that.

Are you on FB? have you been giving little updates on there? If they are good friends I find it strange they haven't been in touch for a month!

its rare I see my best friend at the moment as she's busy with her career/trying to finish her disatation whilst I'm busy with my dc/my career but when I fell and broke my leg 2 weeks ago she visited me in hospital the following day with flowers and treats!