Why do
people become attracted to each other, and why is human behaviour so annoyingly predictable?

What draws
two people together despite the fact that everyone who knows them, and even some who don't, are looking at them
aghast?

When your
sister, best friend and mother have all informed you that you are barking, then it must be love.

It's All About
Chemistry

The
underlying components of attraction are very much about chemistry. To learn more about this, please read
'The Chemistry of Love' in the 'Morgasms' section.

This
'Secrets of Attraction' article will show you how to
take advantage of this chemistry that we all possess to enhance your love life and entrance and beguile a new
date or your significant other.

The Art of Seduction

Attraction
occurs in one area - the brain, the most powerful organ you possess. Of all the questions people ask about love,
one of the most common is "How can I make myself more attractive?"

In other
words, 'how can I present myself in a such a way

that I
will be able to seduce the person I want to be with?" Or more properly, "How can I make their brain think that they want me?"

Women, for
instance, tend to be attracted to hard-working, tall, well-groomed achievers who have resources, authority and
success, as well as the respect of their peers.

Men on the
other hand, being so often driven by their desire to have sex, are attracted to the way a woman looks rather
than the aura of power or accomplishment that may surround her.

In fact, that perception of
powerful femininity may even repel him at some level.

Unless he
is a playboy, he probably isn't even looking for a woman with money, although he doesn't want one who intends to
spend all of his.

He is
mainly looking for someone who is young, healthy and attractive. Is this superficial? Yes, of course it
is.

He would
also like a woman who is independent, doesn't cling, and who is available for sex whenever he would like it. How
much any individual woman is willing to compromise her true self in order to accommodate a man and gain a
partner is a matter for individual consideration.

But
a portion of this enormous over-the-top sex drive that men are so preoccupied with must be channelled into their careers if they are to be the success that both
men and women want.

Otherwise
we are dealing with a playboy. This immature type of man must be independently wealthy to begin with in order to
lead and maintain such a vapid and resource-wasting life-style.

If he
isn't he will never be much of an achiever, preferring to leech off women or men who he has sex with in order to
continue an expensive and futile existence of partying and self-indulgence.

There are
plenty of women like this as well, who consider men to be some kind of human re-usable 'meals, luxury items and
gifts' coupon.

Somehow,
when they were little, these sad men and women were tricked by foolish and criminally negligent people into
thinking that they were little princes and princesses.

They were
refused nothing, spoiled rotten, catered to and generally made unfit for human consumption in the real
world.

Do not
date, let alone begin a relationship, with one of these deluded, unpleasant and lost souls.

The sad
truth is that very few of us measure up to our own or anyone else's high standards. Luckily, what we all think
we want is often partially reliant on first-sight attraction.

After we
get to know people a little better, even some people that we felt initially were not attractive, things can
change radically, because fortunately there is a lot more to attraction than first impressions.

And of
course, it's amazing what desperation does to change a person's point of view over time, which in this instance
may be on your side.

What are Your Tips Like?

People
around the world have provided possibly millions of tips and tricks over the centuries, most lost within the hot
and steamy mists of history, but with thousands still remaining - and still being thought up - to add to the
arsenal of one who is out and about happily hunting and stalking their mate-to-be.

Stand
Out in a Highly-Sexed World

The
question is, how can you stand out in today's colourfuland highly-sexed world and get
noticed by the one you desire?

And if
your hunt is successful, how can you ensure that a sparkly and magnetic attraction lasts between you
both?

What makes
one person generally more attractive as a potential lover or partner than another, often seemingly with no
consideration for looks, age or body-shape?

Often, the
secret lies in the way you behave.

·Appear fascinated by the one you are
with.This is a
huge turn-on for many people. Folk are so self-important and selfish that all you are likely to hear on a date is
"I", "I" and still more "I". It seems like a minor miracle when finally someone is paying proper attention to
you and appearing fascinated by every word you say. They won't remember
that they did nearly all the talking - they will only remember the satisfying conversation that they had with you,
how good they felt at the time and what truly great company you were. Of course they'll want more!

·If you don't already know, find out what
the person you are with is passionate about.What moves them and gets them fired-up?
People generally feel very good when they can enthusiastically discuss their passion or secret hobbies and
interests (be careful here) with someone who appears to return their interest to some degree.

·Know how to dress appropriately for all
occasions and settings.People are attracted to those who make
them look good too. Being embarrassed in public by your date, or even in private in front of friends, can put
someone off seeing you again. With the internet available for people to research any situation, there are no longer
many excuses for faux pas that drive interesting people away.

·Don't gossip and put people down when
you're with the one you're trying to impress.It doesn't take much for someone to work
out that if you would betray and stab in the back the person or people you are talking about, you will also probably at some point do the same concerning the person you
are talking to. Nurture kindness, discretion, tact and
consideration.

·Appear confident.It really is the best
turn-on there is for many people. Even if you don't really feel that confident, study the habits of confident
people and 'fake it 'til you make it'.

·Make your date feel good about
themselves.Never
become smarmy. giving over-the-top compliments and heaping saccharine-sweet and cloying, sticky praise upon your
date. One or two honest complements and maintaining a genuine interest in them is enough. Don't ask for sex. Don't
indulge in sexist behaviour, insult the one you are with or point out their faults. You're not married
yet.

·Appear confident about your own life and
goals.Know where
you are going and have a clear set of goals. Take positive action in your own life and impress people with your
clarity and commitment to success.

·Sincerity.Resist the temptation to tell lies. No
good will come of it. If you are just with someone to see what you can get out of them you will end up deservedly
alone.

·Have a well-developed sense of
humour.Never
underestimate the power of humour. A truly funny person can unlock many doors with laughter. Don't be over-loud or
behave in a slapstick manner though, trying to garner extra attention from strangers around you. People don't like
that. Keep your jokes appropriate and say nothing personally hurtful.

"I Want That One!"

Sometimes
people are convinced that they have to have a particular person in their life to be happy. It could be someone
they already have a relationship with, or in extreme cases even a practical stranger.

The object
of their ardent desire may be utterly unsuitable, a frog that will never shape-shift into any semblance of a
prince, no matter how often it is French-kissed.

The human
brain can sometimes behave in very peculiar ways. It wants what it wants, regardless of the choice being wise or
even sane. Heaven knows, the complaints the separate sexes have about each other are copious and would have
filled the Library of Alexandria several times over.

It would
seem when listening to them that men

and women
frequently detest each other, and sometimes they do.

But
however much we complain and joke about the differences between men and women, it is those same basic
differences that initially attract a mate.

Here are Some Fabulous Wotta Tripp
Tricks to Help You in Your Noble & Altruistic Quest for Love:

·

Wottatip:Eat
before you go out. Your meal should be nutritious but not too heavy or large. This will help settle any pre-date
nerves and keep your blood sugar levels healthy while ensuring that later on if you dine together you won't get
carried away and gobble up a 5-course dinner without looking up from your plate. If you are very nervous and not
driving, have one small cocktail before you leave. Just don't turn up as a nervous wreck reeking of alcohol or
marijuana.

A 2-Drink Limit

Don't get
wasted, because it will waste more than you imagine. A new date won't be wanting a re-match and even a
well-established love will get very tired of dealing with you after a short while.

It's not
only extremely disrespectful to the one who you are expecting to spend time with you, it's also a good way to
end up drinking alone at home.

Of course,
if you are a professional alcoholic then it's best to seek out another one such as yourself. This way, nobody
(except the strangers around you if you are out) will be offended by your terrible, loud behaviour and the
crashing, banging and spilling noises that seem to follow you around.

Eat what
you want, drink what you want, neither one of you will care or even necessarily notice.

If you can
remember how, go home when you can both no longer stand and curl up together in your little burrow to pass out
and forget everything that happened on your 'date'.

Eating Out

Although
not your first concern, you should know this about eating with a date, out or at home.

There are
certain things you should perhaps think twice about ordering or cooking, at least on a romantic date.

Pasta, for
instance. Nothing more than a glorified starch, certain types are frequently awkward to eat and consequently not
very sexy, despite constant attempts by Italians and the media to make it seem a king among foods.

Like the
humble and also well-starched potato (which is not generally awkward to eat while out), it is in one way or
another merely a versatile receptacle for butter, cheeses and sauces.

Pasta is
notoriously difficult to eat elegantly and a greasy chin scented with butter, parmesan and garlic is in no way
alluring.

Worse, if
you are eating impolitely as well, your date or lover is likely to lose that loving feeling pretty
swiftly.

Chew
carefully with your mouth closed. Try not to trough-out. Nothing is
more off-putting to a sensual and sensitive person than having to sit and listen to somebody eating like a wild
boar.

You get
the idea. You might be alright with soup or a salad, it depends upon
your coordination.

Wottatip:Arranging a private chocolate tasting
at a quality chocolatiers is a sensuous and seductive outing. Forget dieting, even dinner, for just one day. Try
and sample one of everything that looks delectable and feed one other. Get a box to take home with you as well.
You might be surprised at how much you feel like sampling each other afterwards!

How are You Looking?

Take care
here! This is important, and it matters not if you are a man or a woman, or even if you're neither. Choose the
wrong outfit and it can put picky people off faster than almost anything else.

Grooming
is key. One fact that can't be escaped is that people prefer partners that they consider to be
attractive.

And at
least some of the things that make people perceive you as attractive, or at least acceptable, you can
control.

There is
also something known as the 'exposure principle'. This principle is based on the fact that the more you are
exposed to a person, the more attractive and intelligent they will appear to you.

In other words, they get used to you and your peculiarities, so try showing up at the
same location that the person you are interested in frequents (unless this means a toilet cubicle or
similar). People will become accustomed to you and this can be very helpful.

When you
arrive, sit in a relaxed manner. Don't fidget, play with your face (or any other part of you), rattle change,
cross and uncross your legs repeatedly, tap on the table, sniff repeatedly or perform any other annoying habits.
Don't stare at strangers.

Talk
cordially to people. Do not laugh too frequently or too loudly. Never behave like a clown or buffoon. It won't work. If you do act like a little idiot, you probably deserve to be
alone right now.

This is What Women Want to
See:

·A well groomed and clean-shaven man who
wears his clean clothes well. Look like a million bucks if you can, or at least $500.

·Women like colognes and after-shaves as
much as men like perfume. Don't overlook this touch - it might make all the difference. Make sure you select a
delicious scent. There is nothing worse than a cheap cologne. It's entirely off-putting.

·Be relaxed and confident. Maintain
fairly good eye contact. Smile a little, but don't laugh too much or be loud or intimidating. Dame Wotta Tripp will
now share a secret with the gentlemen, one that has been validated in studies: women prefer serious men to ones
that are laughing or even smiling. They will be a lot more turned-on by you if you affect a brooding look, even
perhaps a faintly troubled gaze, versus a sloppy grin. Try not to look as though you are suffering from
constipation. You may have to practise in a mirror. Ask a female relative to check-out your short-list of best
looks, that is, as long as they are not currently nursing a grudge against you.

·Imagination and a good sense of humour
are important. Women love it if you make them laugh, and they love surprises and excitement. Try moonlight,
champagne and roses. Organize enchanting outings and picnic lunches and you'll soon be enjoying some delightful and
torrid afternoon encounters.

·Be romantic. Write her a poem or a love
letter. Do not get a tattoo of her face or her name on your
body.

·Pursue the woman you want. Make her feel
special and desired above all others.

·Show her your caring, softer side. This
proves you really do have the confidence to behave like a real man is supposed to.

·Be attentive and chivalrous. Make her
feel secure and safe. She will adore this.

·Be in control of yourself and your
destiny. Know what you want. Show ambition, passion and drive. Display generosity but don't be a pushover. Women
should be attracted to you, not your bank account.

This is What Men Want to
See:

An athletic young nymphomaniac gymnast
with very large ... That's just too bad, because it isn't
going to happen!

A relaxed
and confident woman in stylish and tasteful clothes that fit well. Put a lot of effort into looking polished and
make sure you carry yourself to match your look.

Men are
very impressed by a glamorous, sexy look. Be careful not to wear anything tacky, because this will spoil things
permanently.

Try to seem a little bit mysterious.
Do not overdo this. Less is more. You don't need to wear a
mask.

Smile a
lot. Smiling is not considered as a dominant feature at a primal level. It can symbolize submission. Men love
seeing women smile, conversely to women, who prefer the man to affect a brooding 'Heathcliff' look, as in the
novel 'Wuthering Heights'. What can this all mean?

Well,
wuthering is a word which describes the sound of a strong wind
blowing, something that most men are all too familiar with.

Play hard
to get. Make the game interesting and keep it interesting, even after
you've been hunted and properly brought down. This is not the same as teasing someone, which is bad manners.
Turn all your assignations into memorable adventures.

Flirt a lot.
Men adore this pastime for obvious reasons.

Wear high heels. They are like a fishing
rod for men, reeling them in with ease, however pathetic this may seem to you.

Give a man some provocative glimpses of
smooth, scented skin - not too much, though! It should be tantalizing rather than too revealing.

Get a bit
closer. If a man likes you, he won't mind. You could also 'accidently' graze against him in a provocative manner
when an opportunity presents itself.Sit on his lap if it seems
appropriate. He will be hot and bothered in no time.

Colour Me Sensual

Red wins
hands down when it comes to sexy. Polls and research conducted with men over the years prove time and again that
they prefer red on a woman, unless it's nothing at all.

Not only
that, but women enjoy seeing red on a man also, perceiving it as a virile and energetic colour, which it is. It
represents power and status.

Think of
the phrases that utilize the word 'red' to get their point across: 'red hot', 'painting the town red',
'red-letter day', 'red-blooded', 'in the red', 'red-light district', 'red-carpet treatment', 'red, red wine' and
'Red Dwarf'.

Red is the
very best colour to use as sexual bait. Other sexy colours are purple, black and sometimes white.

·Wottatip:Why not buy some sinful red satin sheets
to tempt your lover to bed? Get some black ones for the week after. Note: tartan flannelette is not so
good.

Scent

A person's
sense of smell is more capable of arousing strong emotions and feelings than any other sense. It's the perfect
tool for seduction

Studies
show that men love perfumes. The right scent can even positively influence a man's decision to sleep with a
woman.

When we
fall in love, our partner's natural scent is totally intoxicating. Scent is very much part of the bonding as
well as the bondage process.

We come to
associate a person's choice of perfume or cologne with them, and just
a hint of their familiar scent can flood the senses with sexy signals.

This
applies equally to both sexes, so men, if you don't already have some, buy some captivating after-shave and
watch the effect your investment has. You'll be glad you did!

Years
after an important relationship ends people can remember the way their lover smelled, even when they can't quite
recall their face or private parts.

Make sure
you are freshly showered and then hype-up your natural allure with a memorable fragrance.

If you are
entertaining your date at your home don't forget to add a few aromatic touches.

Scented
candles, incense or pot pourri, massage oils and talcum

powder,
flowers, delectable foods and exotic drinkscan all play an olfactory role in
your date.

There is a
very special tip for women at the end of this revealing article.

·

Wottatip:please note that passing wind is not
appropriate and certain dietary precautions should be practised for the purposes of safe sex. As an inspiration,
you are supposed to be the wind beneath your partner's wings rather than the gusts beneath their
sheets.

Body Language

Your body
doesn't always mirror what you are saying as you talk.

Don't sit
too close to your date if you aren't intimate with them. Everybody needs their personal space.

This means
approximately 18"-24" around a person - no sneaking up from behind and ambushing them.

When the
time is right, you will probably know and be able to extend a hand - nothing more - towards the person you are with. You should not be giving away
much more than a kiss on a first date anyway.

If your
companion has their arms and legs firmly crossed, or is tapping their foot, gazing round the room hopelessly,
checking their watch, crying or wringing their hands then you may have lost their attention. Change tactics
immediately and try again.

If you are
brushing crushed ice from your hair and mopping up your clothes, or if your date is walking rapidly and
purposefully towards the nearest exit, then it is possibly too late.

Do Not Stare at People's Private
Parts

Look into
someone's eyes often, especially when talking. This is where the major chemistry takes place.

Don't
allow your eyes to wander obnoxiously over someone's body.

Staring at
a woman's breasts or a man's crotch is just plain rude, especially on a first date. Keep your eyes on your
companions face. You may glance at their hands, or even slap them away if they wander in tandem with the
eyes.

Neither
should you ogle other people in the room or flirt with the staff of whichever establishment you might be in. No
staring - try instead to get a grip.

Listen!

One of the
best compliments you can pay anyone is to truly listen to them. So
many people listen with half an ear, their minds wandering insalubriously through, over and around all manner of
strange and unsavoury subjects.

But people
always consider that they have had a good conversation if someone has let them talk non-stop and attentively
listened to everything they had to say.

Be a good
and attentive listener and you may reap the rewards later on.

When you
do talk, pace the speed at which you speak. Lower your voice if necessary so that your target has to lean in
towards you ever so slightly to hear you.

Later on
in a relationship, you must always listen properly to your partner or lover and hear whatever it is that they
are not saying. It isn't that difficult if you practice.

Reach Out &Touch
Someone

Wotta
Tripp cautions people not to do this in a creepy or inappropriate way as the desired end result will never occur
if you are locked-up overnight, or even for the weekend.

But
touching somebody in the right way at the right time can be a great sexual and relationship catalyst.

Confidence

The key to
success in dating, a person who carries themselves in a relaxed and confident manner is very attractive to a
potential partner of either sex.

Confidence
is a skill and it can be learned. Although some people are naturally
more confident, you can appear as though you are, even if you're nervous.

Follow these simple
steps:

·Stand as straight and tall as you can,
put your shoulders back and hold your head up straight. Don't put your nose in the air, people will misinterpret
it.

·Meet people's eyes. Try not to look away
first but don't make it into a contest. Staring at somebody with unblinking hooded eyes will only unnerve
them.

·At an informal gathering practise
introducing yourself to people first. Be low-key and friendly, but don't grin. Just smile politely.

·Take several deep, long and calming
breaths directly before meeting a date or entering a room full of people.

·Check out the local or international
news on the internet before you go out and memorize two or three current topics. They might come in handy later if
there is a lull in the conversation. It's wise to stay away from controversial topics.

·Wear clothes that are stylish and
comfortable, but make sure that you like them as well. The way you feel
about yourself is very important.

·Pay thoughtful complements to people.
Try and make anybody you are talking to feel like the most important person in the world at that moment. They will
tend to like and remember you. The trick is to project yourself outward and stop thinking of yourself and what
others are thinking about you for a while. Concentrate instead on what you think of the people around you. Stay upbeat and relevant.

Mirroring

Mirroring
refers to the art of mimicking the non-verbal behavioural cues of the person you're with.

This may
sound strange, but it's an effective and powerful tool to put you in tune with another person. Watch the person
you are with. Try and establish the same breathing rate as they have first of all.

Next,
mirror their movements. Copy a movement a few seconds after they have made it, subtly and. without drawing
attention to what you are doing.

Note their
posture, facial expressions, limb positioning and the relaxing or tensing of muscles. The more detailed your
mirroring of the person you are with the better the result will be.

A Small but Appropriate
Gift

Bringing a
small but tasteful gift for a date is a nice gesture for either a man or a woman.

Make sure
there is somewhere to put it so that your date doesn't have to lug half a garden shop round with them all
night

Suitable
gifts are flowers, candy or a bottle of wine but more unusual ones are still acceptable, such as a small
ornament or a beautiful book.

Dame Wotta
Tripp would like to point out here that animal companions, condoms, sex toys, leather items, lingerie, hits of
ecstasy and books containing strange and curious photographs are not
appropriate gifts.

Seeing More of Each
Other

"How can I
keep my lover's interest once I've attracted them in the first place?" people ask Dame Wotta Tripp.

Leaving
some things to the imagination is always a good idea. It's what keeps people interested in each other. Hold some
things back.

Keep the
allure in your relationship by cultivating a slight air of mystery. Always leaving something left for your lover
to discover about you will help keep their interest alive.

Let them
work a little bit to find out more about you.

This does
not include such secrets as past or present marriages, long, relaxing bouts in mental asylums or criminal
convictions.

If you are
not honest about such things, the only mystery your partner will be trying to figure out when they find out by
accident is what they ever saw in you in the first place.

It is
fairly easy to misplace a partner who is bent on sampling an extremely diverse selection from the sexual menu of
the planet.

You must
not lean on your laurels sexually as

they will
not support you forever. Becoming practically conversant with a wide variety of different sexual techniques
garnered from cultures around the world only makes sense, with airplane tickets being so reasonably priced
nowadays.

And
finally of course, you must have something in common. However much
you desire somebody, it won't work in the long term if the entire relationship is based only upon physical
attraction.

The Best Way in the
End

I hate to
disappoint people who try so very hard to please the men they are in relationships with, especially when they
have spent so much time and money on themselves in the attempt to become more alluring, but I have some bad news
for you.Fortunately, it is also good news for
the ladies!

What's
more, a girl can save a good few dollars following Dame Wotta Tripp's simple instructions.

It's
relatively easy to secure your man's attention with two simple little tricks, and nearly everyone will have
access to these simple, wholesome items.

According
to the most up-to-date research. these ingredients apparently constitute the two most devastatingly alluring
scents on the entire planet, more potent than jasmine, sexier than musk, more romantic than roses.

You have
all been sadly mislead by advertising.

The answer
to how to turn yourself into a thrilling seduction-powerhouse is through the liberal use of pumpkin pie and
lavender.

Unfortunately, it works only on men.
The combination seems entirely sickly to Wotta Tripp, but she assures you that it works.

So,
Ladies, as well as Gentlemen of the Rainbow, put on your frilly aprons, dab lavender oil between and behind
everything, including your ears, and get out the pastry bowl and pumpkin pie filling. Be generous with the
sugar, nutmeg and cinnamon.

Heat up
your stove and lover with the bounty of nature, and later serve it up with whipped cream on a plate, or even on
you, you crafty little vixen!

So Simple!

It's so
simple in the end, isn't it, unless you live somewhere unfortunate where there is no access to lavender or
pumpkin pie.

Then you
will have to make do with such staples as jasmine, rose, patchouli etc. One wonders what was used in the Western
world prior to the onset of pumpkin pie.

You can
also try skipping all of that and use nothing to allure your man (or woman) with but your natural scent and a
nifty technique or two.

That's
such a novel concept in this age of high-tech sex that it just might work quite well.