People and Their Empty Words

Why do people you run into after yonks think after the initial Ooo laa la “I haven’t seen you in ages”, “What have you been up to?” “Still working at the same place?” “How are the kids?” “Oh I can’t believe they are that grown up?”…..think the polite thing to do next is ask for your phone number (again) email (again) mobile number (again)

What is with people that say the stupidest things ever?Times pass, kids grow and people age and move on. What is there to gush about?

I guess I can pardon this person I ran into the in this instance as all three details she requested from me have changed still she didn’t know that did she? And when one asks for mine, common decency dictates you to jot down theirs.

When I was naïve not necessarily young nevertheless naïve I used to make an effort to keep in touch while the gushing was still warm, I am just happy to utter empty words of ‘how long it had been’ and just move on without even asking for a phone number or even say we should catch up sometimes. I find it tedious to say things that I have no intention of following up with these ‘long lost pals, run into by chance.’

After all that, I am the one to always write first and sometimes I might get a mail back or none at all. But hey I was not the one hyperventilating for the numbers and parted with the must get together diarrhoea.I am always more than happy after chance meetings to move on with a “see you later”

This time, though I was given her contact details, I thought to myself, I didn’t ask, she did; let her make the first move.

I dont think you should wait. If its someone you want to know again dont be afraid to take the first step. But take care that you dont become the “annoying=old-nutbag-i-used-to-know-that-calls-all-the-time=now”.

But if you dont feel like/need it, or you feel they dont feel like/need it ts always best to back off and enjoy sweet solitude..

I dont ask those sort of questions, I dont ask even what they’re doing now if I ever get into that situ. Cos I dont know if they even want to talk about it. So I ask how they are and joke around for the rest. I think thats more appreciated.

Have to agree 100% with the mobile number thing , its just like a habit , they ask for even though they know that they want call , I never ask for their number even if they ask for mine if I know I want call him , and its so funny when they wait till I ask for there number ( Maybe I’m just rude 😛 )

I too don’t ask questions about how their husband, children, mother, father, bro, sis ,dog etc are doing but when they ask I feel obliged to show some manners you know 🙂

LD,
That is the thing. I used to always make the first move though I was never the first one to ask for details but I just can’t be bothered now.
This life is funny you know. How we evolve etc. I think I have moved on from her to be able to enjoy her company again. One part of me wants to enjoy certain qualities about her but the other part of me knows that I have so moved on to other interests and different groups of people.

Nishadha,
I don’t think you are rude but just honest. I used to be like that and not ask but as you grow older you tend to do things that even surprises you 🙂