Struggles for Control and Supporting Individualities within Caring Communities

Everyone in society likes to be in control. Being in control of another person is not being a community. Everyone loves it because they feel they have power over others. This also creates entitlement, sadly. It means that people tend to love their ego over themselves that they lose sight of who they are. Ego controls not only the person, but can control others within the community as well. If a person loses control over others, they will do harmful things to society and/or themselves. The only control we should have is the control of ourselves while following the laws the community created. By controlling what we do without experiencing being in control or being controlled, we become a better person within the community.

So, how did Control start? What does being in control mean?

Control means from the dictionary, the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events. When a person is in control of others, they lose sight of their own humanity, and their ego gets in the way. However, controlling others is something that happens because everyone feels they can not trust their peers. To build trust in others, we need to all let go of our fears and build community.

Community means from the dictionary, a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common. However, it’s more than that, community is supportive of each other, it’s building relationships, is giving each member of the community the right to speak their mind, is about listening to everyone, it is not having a leader controlling others while instead mediating others, and being happy for everyone in that community who shares with all their peers. Community is not having a leader, community is not having one person in control of the whole community, and not having people in the community living exclusively in richer love than the others. No one needs to use their own agenda as the laws for the community because everyone practices the community’s bill of rights and commandments that everyone feels they want from the community. Everyone votes on it and practices the laws. An agenda everyone has for themselves should be individualized for that person only to build self-determination.

Looking back in History, there has been much control over others losing sight of our own self. However, if we look back thousands of years ago when the first Human beings were around, we didn’t have governments set up, we didn’t have religions, and we certainly didn’t have people controlling each other. There were just small tribes in the world building up the Human race with their own faith. Everyone lived with self-determination, but their were no laws or rules. There was just our human nature. However, being able to create a safe community, leaders were created to ensure every member of the community had support for everyone’s needs and wants. If the majority of people wanted certain rules or laws to be created for a safe and supportive community, then the community needs to follow those laws. Laws change in the community with every generation. When generations collide on theories of law like in terms of what Humanity would need or want, we begin our free will to argue and fight. For example, the fight between the Autism and Autistic communities. As the community grew in the past and continues to grow, the people do too, but so do their egos. As egos grew stronger, controlling others began becoming stronger within the community. These laws are what we call government today with the leaders we vote for to fight for what we want and need in the country we live in.

The United States is a free country because it’s a country where it’s citizens can talk to each other about what laws we don’t like and what laws we do like. Laws need to be followed to help guide us with living our own life. Everyone needs to know that the laws help support and protect us at the same time. We can not have anarchy anywhere in the world because human nature does not allow us to since there is ego.

Now, the Human race is more than 5 billion individuals in the world with millions of communities for people to live in different governments, and we have lost sight of the first community thousands of years ago which began humanity. Everyone has different perspectives, everyone has different ways of doing things, and no body is being supportive in the communities anymore. Instead everyone wants to be in control. Society even created the media to control what people will see by controlling what they want us to understand about what goes on in the Human race.

All in all, the community who has their individual people with their properties and practices which make them the person they are, can trust each other gaining invaluable interaction and experience from each other. We as a whole community wherever we live in the world need to continue supporting and promoting safe space, secure home life, and rules everyone can follow. We all live in this world to encourage each other to fulfill our paths whatever we do to contribute without controlling any one.