Subscribe to this blog

Newsletter

Do not expect happiness at the end of the road, find some happiness along the way too. That is true living

You see, we grow with
dreams, dreams which we think would make us complete if got fulfilled. When we
are young, the only limiting factor seems to age only, otherwise we hope to get
whatever we wish to have when we grow up. I have, no I mean i had dreams, and
you also had yours. Somebody said dreams do not change, but i think they do.

So most of us when we
grow, we join schools, the only line that the society has taught us that we can
fulfill our lives through it. We chase education hoping to find jobs (not to do
business) and get salary good enough to help us marry the dreamed kind of
women, the cars, the houses, the foods and clothes, the care of our families,
and rarely the dreams of donating to the poor and helping the church grow.
However, even when we finish up our degrees and masters, there comes another
challenge of looking for employment. Truly, some of us take decades to get
their first job and when they do, they are relieved to think that it is over.
Dreams could be getting closer.

Surprisingly, our
salaries are not, I mean, they are never enough. They, along with other
work-related challenges of nagging bosses, uncooperative workmates, heavy work
or unhealthy jobs, come when we have so many bills to settle. Dreams of having
a car, a good house, a wife of your dream and the rest still look to be
unreachable. What happens is that we sulk, we get mad at life. We finally get
convinced that besides life being unfair; it can as well be cruel. Satisfaction!
that is a tale we never get.

At times, the wisest of
us find other means, other than their salaries, to achieve their dreams. They
resort to murdering, politics they never enjoyed from their childhood,
stealing, illuninati theories, businesses, and all sorts of earning. At times
they succeed and marry their dream cars, dream women, dream houses and life and
at other times, they do not. Then horribly, depression and pain sets in and the
source this time, unfortunately, is from the things they achieved. The wife you
married opens up fire on you, the cars you bought bring you the costs you
cannot handle, the houses we built start haunting us with dreams of blood,
knives and dying babies, the money we acquired sets us up for assassinations
and hatred, and oh the spicy foods we order from the super market bring us
pressures and diabetes. And in the twinkling of an eye, by the time we are
supposed to be enjoying our dreams, we are on death bed. Some in hospitals
begging for volunteers to donate kidneys, some in prisons over the crimes we
made as we struggled for our dreams, and the rest mental sickness and rotting
conscience over our sins. And still the questions pops up, what were my dreams?
Why am I not happy yet?

Painfully, that is how
many end the journey; still wondering if satisfaction with life ever exists.
And so as I sit and meditate on this shit and mess, i am again inclined to
think of what we miss: Enjoyment along the way.

It is not the dreams,
the end of journey, the marriage, the money and cars that will bring us
satisfaction, it is the joy, the fun, the love, the outings and moves that we
enjoy along the way every day, every moment. And while so many of us may not
necessarily have those quiet moments under the church roofs, we still need them
at least under the tree. Yes, we can have the riches and all the life supports
we dreamed of, but our happiness and satisfaction is still internal, none of
the things we have can bring us satisfaction. But this is easy and I have
thought about it: It is only in our creator that we can find satisfaction. We
were meant for eternity (this is easy to know whether you are a Christian or
not). We do not like to die simply because it is violation of which we truly
are, meant never to die. And so external things, including women, money and
property, positions and fame cannot satisfy us, we shall have the same regrets
on our deathbeds as a poor pygmies or man who never lived under his roof. But
if we find God (I mean, listening to the eternal voice in us for i know some do
not want to believe in God), we will find answers to our thirst and hunger.

Do not be deceived;
dreams have nothing to do with your satisfaction. They can simply give us
direction as we move along the way of fun and enjoyment. And whether we achieve
them or not, we shall be satisfied that we enjoyed it all along the way. I am
having similar struggles. Great day.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

We fear death and even hate it not because we are simply fearful, it is because we were not meant to die in the first place. Man was created to live forever in happiness and complete fellowship with God. However, because we sinned we lost the touch with the greatest gift we ever had. Not only did we lose that eternity, we also lost our authority, the command we had over everything. We were kings and queens in palace, call it Eden. The above loss that we made explains our grumbling, dissatisfaction with life, and all the complaints we have against life for being unfair to us. We are not just complaining, we are demanding what originally was ours. Inherently, we are meant to be immortal and kings and that is our desire always; to again have the control over everything, including death. Our true and biggest desire (this is for everyone of us) is eternal happiness in eternal glory. That is what we all long for.

“Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased”-C. S. Lewis The above words are from the great scholar and Christian expositor of all times, C.S Lewis. Most of us have been corrupted by our culture, family and even church leaders (I mean our religions) that our desires bring us to sin and thus we need to fight against them. While so many people have drowned i n this preaching, I do not think it is the truth that Christ taught us. Jesus Christ and the whole bible tell that we should come to God, the true provider for our desires. The whole basis of God's creation is God's glory.

Many preachers have given this lesson on their pulpits but only few have ever detailed its meaning to their congregations. And as the Christians struggle to practice this conditional virtue, they are continuously disappointed to find that the flashes of their past terrible experiences keep peeping into their mind, something they had promised to forget. What happens next? They are thrown back into depression, into knowing that they never forgave the fellows and ultimately they were never forgiven by their God. Remember, I am referring to this virtue of forgiveness as conditional just because our God forgives when we forgive others or, rightly put, we forgive others because our God forgives us.

Born from Uganda, Nemeyimana Vicent (Nemvicx) has become what people call, "coming from nothing to something". Professionally, he is both a nurse and public health officer and currently works with Mulago National Referral Hospital. In 2016, he wedded his wife and great sweetheart, Amulen Winfred (also a professional Midwife and counsellor). Besides their professions, Nemvicx is an inspirational writer, singer, motivational speaker, author of several digital books, and together with his wife, do blogging at www.nemvicx.com (The Complete You Ministry).