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Recently, the web comic XKCD addressed the question, "What if everyone had only one soul mate, a random person somewhere in the world?" XKCD's response was not optimistic -- in particular, a graph of "found soul mate" versus "alone forever" is disturbing. Do you have a different take? Is there any way around the pessimistic conclusion that it is unlikely that most people will actually find their soul mates?

When should you say no to a second date even if the first one was good?

Signed,
Second Chance?

Dear Chance,

It's rare to hear of someone looking for an excuse to turn down a second date after a good first date, but since you asked the question, I'm going to assume there's a reason you think you shouldn't be seeing this person and you're looking for some validation about following your gut. So let's start...

I want to have a kosher kitchen, but I don't know if this is the best option for me. One major issue is that my culturally Jewish boyfriend grew up with a non-kosher kitchen and is intent on keeping all things religious at bay. He already agreed to have separate pots, pans, dishes and cutlery for meat and dairy, but things are a bit more ambiguous in terms of other utensils. Even under our current system, he mixes up the pans and cutlery all the time. Also, all the meat things are his, since I am "Jewish vegetarian" and eat only dairy, pareve and fish. We've had this...

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