I've recently lost a friend. Actually not a friend, he's still alive, but his friendship. We weren't so close but I considered him as a good friend. He was nice and very kind and he meant a lot to me. I don't know when it started. Now when I turn back, there were a lot of signs but I haven't payed attention. Few weeks ago I've noticed some strange, unusual things but I tried to find some reasonable explanations. We are friends, there must be some good reason for what he did or didn't do. But few days ago I finally found the last sign, I found out that what I was afraid of, is true. I apologized to him even I still don't know what have I done wrong that could ruined our friendship. I simply didn't get a second chance. I think everybody should get, at least, a second chance. We are not perfect, we are humans and errare humanum est.I'm so sad

I made a mistake and lost a friend on DA last year. I tried telling her that I was sorry for accidentally spilling another friend's secret and even told her happy birthday and gave her a DA Valentine's card, but she gave me the silent treatment each time. She said she would stop being my friend if I made the same mistake again, but clearly that friendship was already over after my immediate response to her. But you know what? I don't need her, I got other friends and I'm sure some of them will forgive just like my other friend. True friends forgive each other.

To err is human, but Forgiveness is divine. Im quite sure people have reasons for acting how they do, even the worst of enemies have SOME reason for feeling that about someone, so we must always forgive. We may not always forget, but we should always forgive. And everyone deserves a second chance, especially if they are honestly trying to do the best they can to correct such mistakes. This stamp deserves a fave!^^

Before I say anything more, I want to say that this may not be your case at all: I don't know you, and you were a bit vague about your situation. So, I can't judge - it's not my place. However, the following is what I think to be true.

I...think I agree with the message, but only to an extent; the right to a second chance is sometimes lost to some people. I'm not saying they don't deserve forgiveness, but they could lose the right to friendship. Of course, whatever had to have happened would be something horribly destructive to the friendship. Even if it weren't too horribly destructive, I don't think a second chance should be given right away, where one has to pretend nothing happened while hurt feelings are hidden under the surface, eating a person inside out.

I think trust is something that has to be earned, and depending on the severity, might be something that is unattainable. In those situations (when further relations with someone is impossible), one has to accept and move on. It won't be easy, of course, but all things can and do heal.

I am sorry, but your friend is a jerk.leaving you just like that, without any explaination...I have experienced a simular stuff and I can guess how you are feeling.No matter how tough was for him, whatever was the case, he should have said something to you.

I agree. Luckily for me I got a second chance. I was stupid and made a comment towards a friend and it really hurt them and by accident I said something similar again and I almost lost them and had them hate me for it. Thankfully they listened to my explanation and things are better between us.

No, you don't get a second chance because you messed up. You're a bad, horrible person because you had the audacity to make a mistake. The same thing happened to me while I was studying abroad because I had never taken a vacation with anyone outside my immediate family. I tried to budget myself by withdrawing money and leaving my wallet at home. So the other girl paid a surprise fee on our hostel and treated me like crap the rest of the time. She's been refunded in full but she's no longer my friend because I made the mistake in the first place.

Agreed. Had a friend who was angry with me, went to ask her why, she ignored me and told my other friend that "she knows what she did". And I was like, dude, wtf, no, I don't. I fucking hate it when people do dramatic shit like that, its really selfish.

That's not what I'm saying, I just think it's best to actually try and work things out. That doesn't mean being happy and sappy and merry and gay and live happily ever after. It's just talking about it a little, at least not turn your backs when you see each other.

I would like to work things out so much but if he doesn't want to talk, I can do nothing. Maybe one day he will. We won't see each other, but if we would, I would never turn him back. I'm not young girl who is sulking, I'm way to old for such things

It's hard for me to empathize, since I've most recently been in the position of getting rid of a "friend" who really didn't deserve another chance (long story short, she tried to hook me up her the guy she's cheating on her boyfriend with and lied to me twice when I asked if that's who the guy was. When I confronted her - complete with angry name-calling, I admit - she completely flipped out and said I was being a bitch for acting the way I was about it.)

But if it wasn't something that extreme, then I agree that you should get a second chance. Unless you betrayed your friend's trust really badly or hurt them very deeply, I think your friend should be willing to talk to you and try to resolve things, especially now that some time has passed.

It's not that extreme at all . I'm way too old for such games But I understand what you mean. I haven't hurt him, at least I haven't done it on purpose. Except saying someone that you care can hurt this person. Sometimes I think that he only pretended that he was my friend, I don't know.Thank you so much for the comment.

Well, speaking from experience, acting hurt and resentful of the ex-friend's lack of forgiveness is hardly likely to win him back over... People seldom break off good friendships without a really good reason, and it could be he'd given you your "second chance" without you even realising it. However, I do think it's bad he didn't explain himself.

I know how you're feeling. :[ One of my closest friends turned her back on me before I even knew what I did. I, naturally, didn't get a second chance to fix whatever mistake I made and because of it, I lost another close friend. People suck sometimes....