So I had a really nice interaction with a coworker today. She's super sweet. And I think she might be into me. As we were talking she started to blush redder and redder. It was pretty endearing.

Big problems though.

I know she has a boyfriend who she's living with. And even if she were hypothetically ever to break up with her boyfriend I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable dating her. She looks A LOT younger than I assume she is (given you have to be at least 18 to work until closing) and I'm way taller than her (I'm 6'3). I just wouldn't want people to see us together and think there was something shady going on.

She looks A LOT younger than I assume she is (given you have to be at least 18 to work until closing) and I'm way taller than her (I'm 6'3). I just wouldn't want people to see us together and think there was something shady going on.

If there's anything to worry about, this is NOT it. My husband is 6'4", I am 5'1". When we started dating I was eating and easily looked 16. Get over it!

_________________Anyone for some German Shepherd Pie? - daisychainWell! Fruit is stupid! These onions taste nothing like fruit! - allularpunkDwarf-tossing for God: A Story of Hope - Invictus

She looks A LOT younger than I assume she is (given you have to be at least 18 to work until closing) and I'm way taller than her (I'm 6'3). I just wouldn't want people to see us together and think there was something shady going on.

If there's anything to worry about, this is NOT it. My husband is 6'4", I am 5'1". When we started dating I was eating and easily looked 16. Get over it!

also like, who cares what other people think?

_________________Space has stared into the tiny syrup holes of our shame and it does not judge us. - Amandabear

She looks A LOT younger than I assume she is (given you have to be at least 18 to work until closing) and I'm way taller than her (I'm 6'3). I just wouldn't want people to see us together and think there was something shady going on.

If there's anything to worry about, this is NOT it. My husband is 6'4", I am 5'1". When we started dating I was eating and easily looked 16. Get over it!

also like, who cares what other people think?

Exactly. But also... I was eating? I am always eating. How the fork did that happen. I was 18!!!!

_________________Anyone for some German Shepherd Pie? - daisychainWell! Fruit is stupid! These onions taste nothing like fruit! - allularpunkDwarf-tossing for God: A Story of Hope - Invictus

My crush is kicking me in the ovaries at the moment. I hate having crushes.

Mine is doing the same, we've moved waaaaay beyond the crush stage and this man makes me want to have his babies... alas, life won't allow for that, so I'll have to make do with gazing at him like a total smitten kitten. This crush kicked the asparagi of all the other crushes put together, and after 5 weeks of dating, is not waning one little bit.

My friend suggested we both go in to the grocery store where crush and I work this week, and after casually ordering something from the deli (which I do every Wednesday), I invite him, all cool-like, to see a movie/grab a bite with us after he gets out of work. My friend's a pretty good wingwoman and I want to see how this goes but you guys have probably had more relationships and crushes so is this something I should do?!

My friend suggested we both go in to the grocery store where crush and I work this week, and after casually ordering something from the deli (which I do every Wednesday), I invite him, all cool-like, to see a movie/grab a bite with us after he gets out of work. My friend's a pretty good wingwoman and I want to see how this goes but you guys have probably had more relationships and crushes so is this something I should do?!

Buh crushes

Do it!

I have a few fake-crushes at the moment. I pretty much have a crush on every dude at my yoga studio, but that's because I think yoga is kind of hot, and not about the individuals themselves. Also I have an intellectual crush on the other TA in the course I just finished TA'ing. I'm not physically attracted to him at all but he is brilliant, laid-back and has excellent taste in movies. Also I would like more friends in my academic field to bounce ideas off of and so forth. I thought of emailing him to have a coffee sometime, but I'm afraid it'll come off like I'm asking him out when I am not - how about "just so you know I'm not asking you out because I have a boyfriend but do you want to go for coffee sometime?" heh.

My friend suggested we both go in to the grocery store where crush and I work this week, and after casually ordering something from the deli (which I do every Wednesday), I invite him, all cool-like, to see a movie/grab a bite with us after he gets out of work. My friend's a pretty good wingwoman and I want to see how this goes but you guys have probably had more relationships and crushes so is this something I should do?!

Buh crushes

It's a great idea, but don't be disappointed if he can't join, it's so last minute, he might not be able to. But it totally wouldn't mean he doesn't want to, so I really think this is definitely a great idea. (Also, I think the 'grabbing a bite' option is better, it's more casual, less commitment, so for a first time hangout, less stressful!)

So I keep on meeting new cute coworkers. The problem is they all work at the front end, at the cash registers. So I don't really get to spend much time with them regularly. I have to hope to meet them on a break or be called to the front end for bagging assistance. There's a really intensely gendered division of labor at the store where 99% of the people working the registers are women. My department, stocking, is all men, aside from one woman who doesn't speak much English. I really wish they'd transfer me to work on the cash register. That way I'd get to meet and interact people (when you're stocking you're pretty much on your own). And I'm also pretty good at running a register. I still remember all the produce codes from a past grocery store employment when I was supervisor.

I'm feeling really anxious and like I might not go through with Wednesday. It sucks because I want to ask him out, and it's not even like I'm asking him out out- my best friend will be there and take some of the pressure off for both of us. But I just feel like I can't go through with it because if he says no it'll be awkward forever and I still have to work with him three days a week. fork these feelings. Ugh.

I think you should do it, GCZ! If you frame it casually and your friend is there too, there's no reason for it to be awkward if he says no. I mean, he might. It's short notice. But it's not like he's going to say No way, GCZ, are you crazy? I'd never date you!

You guys are right... it's just scary! I've managed to get through all of my life, through middle school, high school, up to now, with never asking anybody out. Ever. The prospect of doing this and being rejected- or, even, having this offer accepted- is just terrifying. But at the same time, if I don't do this, nothing will ever happen, which is worse.

Yeah, but unless you're repeatedly pestering someone to go out with you after they've politely declined, it's not very likely!

True! Anxiety isn't really realistic though. :)

Aaand... that's why I've never asked anyone out! I just think all of y'all should because I'm all mushily in love and want everyone else to be too.

GCZ, just try to keep in mind that even if he turns down your invitation, it doesn't necessarily mean he's rejecting you. It might be too short of notice, he definitely might not interpret your request as being romantically inclined, or he might just feel too shy to join you and your friend together (you said he's sorta awkward, yes?)

Ugh my crush is confusing me. We're dating(ish?) but I haven't seen him in a while. We've been in touch but both of our phones have refused to send/receive messages so that's kind of unreliable. I have decided the logical course of action is to woman up and ask him if he wants to do something Saturday. Like GCZ, I have made it to this point in my life without asking anyone out. Does this not count because we've already been out a few times? I don't care, I am the nervous. :(