Duh, I'm aware it's not real. What I mean is I saw the Trek universe the way the propagandists in-universe tried to portray the Federation (not to mention the perspective parroted by some starry-eyed fans), but as I got older I saw the hypocrisy inherent in it.

There are no "propagandists". Just characters speaking words written by writers, characters who "believe" what they "say". They aren't spinning facts to make the UFP look better in the eyes of its citizens or outsiders. Any "hypocrisy" is just inconsistent writing or a change in direction. If you don't like the ideas presented in Star Trek you might consider not watching.