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To honor the album that made me fall in love with the creative works of Ms. Bareilles.

Hi, you.

You might have noticed that the world has gone a little.. well mad to say the least. Hatred, protests, scandals, lies, marches, shaming of culture, religion, race, gender, political views and abundant use of freedom of speech.

Whether it’s for good or evil, it’s there and part of it seems to be necessary.

I’m not one to speak when it comes to politics, I know to little and quite frankly not anything that can be of any use or that can contribute to the overflow of information that has been attacking the internet this first month of 2017, but I do know this:

You can only be sure of two things in life, everything you know to be true can one day change and eventually you will die. Also, if there aren’t any ups and downs you’re probably dead already so embrace the downs and enjoy the ups.

In the meantime we are left with trying to entertain ourselves and others if you’re lucky enough to have others to entertain. So in the spirit of madness, let us not forget that what truly matters is love and kindness for those around us. Life is hard enough already, we all have a story and plenty of baggage. If we stand together, little voices united as one big voice of equality, love and acceptance, then the bullies can’t turn away anymore, they’d be forced to at least face us.

In a way. Not to sound dramatic and all, which I am, so I will, but being a perfectionist makes living ‘the dream’ harder.

This is being a perfectionist in the not profitable way.
One can believe in ones abilities to create and want the creations to be good.
Or:
One feels the need to create but never believes that the creations are good enough to share.

And this is not asking for compliments, honestly thinking that what you made isn’t good enough, that others will judge and point and that there are other people who do it so much better – why even bother?
Negative thoughts leading to inaction.

Well, NO MORE! Or less, at least less.

And how? I don’t know beyond these points:

1. Accepting that you have a problem
2. Accepting that you are definitely not the only one with this problem
3. Not losing yourself swallowing in self pity because ‘life is haaaaaard’, but finding ways to bend the negative thought spiral into positive thoughts
4. ‘I suck’ becomes ‘I might have to give it a proper go before I name myself a failure’
5. ‘Don’t criticize yourself, others will do it for you’ said my papa and he was right. So, no judging that might lead to intense fear of failure, which you can achieve trough:
6. MEDITATION
7. More of no. 6
8. Excersize. Just go out, walk a bit and come back. I like running, which is awesome, but the walks I go on with the roomie are just as good
9. Find why you started to do what you became afraid of. In my case, I love singing but I shut down when it starts to get serious because I fear I’ll suck at rocking a belt song halfway through. I love how I can actually feel sound in my body and the expression of feeling through music is beyond amazing. That is why I sing, that’s it. Love for the art.
10. I don’t really have a 10, but stopping at 9 seemed like giving up. So.. focus on what makes you smile! A day not laughed is a day not lived, but when you’re dealing with mental health issues just smiling might be enough of an accomplishment for a day.

Breath, smile, focus.

One thing is for sure, whether you are a productive perfectionist or a more passive one due to fear of failure, the only thing that will help you is putting in any form of work. Just starting might be enough to get you to create something wonderful that may not be perfect, but it’ll be grand.

Young and naive is how we enter this world
this world that teaches us how

how to learn
how to love
how to think
how to act
how to change
who to be

It is through trends that we give value
to others, to ourselves
But what if there was no one to tell you
what would be the new right and wrong?
What if you were the one who could make that decision?

Would you have to be thinner?
Would you have to be prettier?
Would you have to be more muscular?
Would you have to be fitter?
Would you have to eat healthier?
Would you have to look any different from the person who stares back at you in the mirror?

Or would you simply be enough?

Regardless of what will be the next big thing in #goals, I choose body empowerment as my new approach to self love.