Recently, I was in New York City. I love the energy of that city. But I noticed something this time I had not noticed before. People were constantly walking in to me because they were on their smart phones and […]

Sara was going through a rough patch in her marriage. She and Jeff were struggling to spend time together and found themselves growing apart. They stopped attending church, rarely went out or did anything together. Both were in intense careers […]

“I’m in the middle of an emotional crisis here and you want sex? Really?” Yes really. The woman who uttered this during a therapy session did not understand her husband’s bid for emotional closeness. In the middle of emotional crises, […]

I don’s usually post radio shows but this one I did on the rite of passage for our teens, obsession with fame and how media sexualizes women is a powerful show. It’s 30 minutes long and important for any family. […]

When Kim Kardashian decided to dye her hair blonde after the birth of her first child, my eye caught a survey about the differences between blondes and brunettes. All blonde jokes aside, Rose-Marie Jarvis of Goody hair conducted a survey […]

With all the shootings in recent years, people are thinking of how they might respond to such an horrific event. Here is some help from law enforcement. Praying that none of you are ever in a position to have to use […]

To my dismay, I feel like I have written some version of this blog too many times. I fear if won’t be the last time. Whenever there is a mass shooting, we try to understand what happened in order to […]

“Please, can I just stay up a little longer?” “Mom, I need a drink. Can you read to me? How about a snack?” We’ve all heard our children’s pleas to stay up longer at night. They beg, distract, tell is […]

Would you be surprised to learn that more than a third of teens say they have been physically, emotionally or sexually abused while dating? This was the finding of a new survey presented this past July at a meeting of […]

Couples come in to therapy with this complaint. “I did nice things for my spouse, but it doesn’t seem to matter. She doesn’t even notice. I don’t get it.” Honestly, they usually don’t get it. They fail to see that […]

Today is always a sobering day. It’s one of those days that will forever be in our memories. There have been other moments like 911 in my life: The Shooting of President Kennedy. I was very young, in a grade […]

John and Mary are at it again. Arguing escalates to anger and John has a hard time calming down. As they sit in my therapy office, they ask what needs to happen. Basically, here is a summary: 1) John needs […]

We’ve all done it. Many of us grew up with it. But should we? Your teen walks in 30 minutes past curfew. You’ve been worried sick and have worked yourself up. The minute she comes through the door, you yell, […]

As Dana was grabbing her purse to fly out the door, she couldn’t remember where she put her car keys. She was already late for class! “Mom, where are my keys.” “Your asking me,” Mom yells back. “I can’t find […]

Tony insisted he doesn’t have an anger problem. Yet, by all accounts, people say he does. I asked Tony to answer these 10 questions. After taking the quiz and talking with me, he changed his mind. See how well you […]

I was on a national radio program last night talking about anxiety. A caller asked a great question. “What is the difference between worry and anxiety?” Anxiety is that uneasy feeling, apprehension, a feeling of danger, doom or misfortune. Clinically […]

I was in the grocery store yesterday and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. While we tend to expect this from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem for any couple. The question asked […]

When God Doesn't Meet Our ExpetationsLast Sunday was Palm Sunday, a glorious day in the church. We celebrated Jesus' triumphal entry into Jerusalem on a donkey. I learned that the donkey was symbolic of a king coming in peaceful power. A King who goes to war would have ridden in on a warhorse. A King who comes in peace rides a donke

The Mismatch of Conflict Styles: How to Handle It
If you've taken the FREE quiz on my website, drlindahelps.com, you know your conflict style--avoider, reactor or negotiator. Now the issue is, does your style match with those with whom you are intimate? What happens whe

8 Questions: Are You A Hard Worker or Workalholic?In the same way a drug addict uses cocaine or an alcoholic downs booze, work can have an anesthetizing effect on negative emotions. People use work to escape and avoid unpleasant emotional states. But because hard work is so sanctioned in our society, it is an addiction often minimized.
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Breaking the Mental Habit of WorryBecause worry is in the mind, it is a mental habit that must be broken. Here are a few practical tips to help break the worry habit:
Identify the thought behind the worried or anxious feeling.
Let it come and don’t try to suppress it with thoughts like, “Stop worrying” “Don’t do this

Hurt By a Conflict? How Do You ReBuild Trust?You've heard the saying, trust is easy to break, hard to repair.
How do you go about building trust with someone you’ve hurt! The key is to know the other person’s world and reliably respond to it. Do what you say. Keep your promises. Empathize with the other person’s issue and try to see t