June052014

Of all the reactions I expected to get from wearing my new wig, I never anticipated the level of hostility I would face from passing many women in public. At the first couple of dirty glares, I just brushed it off as odd, but once I started noticing less-than-friendly looks from more than half of the women I passed, I had to remark about it to K. Surprisingly (to me), she didn’t seem shocked and instead shrugged it off, “that’s just how it is. Welcome to my day.”

I can’t deny it: women can be freaking terrifying to (those they perceive as) other women. Maybe be nicer to each other, everyone, okay?

They perceive you as a threat. Whatever you do, don’t move. Their vision is based on movement. But seriously, that’s freakin’ nuts. And also kinda scary.

Ok….. SOME women can react to this. Men can too though. Everyone can to anyone they think is attractive. it’s not just a woman thing. Feminine beauty is a double edged sword. People think you owe them something for your looks and others can get upset because they don’t think of themselves as “attractive” as you. Honestly though, its not like… an everyday thing… and i dunno why but this comic kinda made me a little upset. Just a little I think mainly because you make it seem as though women are outwardly hostile towards all women all the time. Though I know you said CAN which is totally true, sometimes people are dicks for no reason, but… I dunno. Maybe I’m just being too sensitive. Or I don’t get perceived as a threat to others (which is true. I’m not really traditionally attractive by any means and usually people forget I’m a lady until they hear me or remember my boobs). Sorry… rambling.

It seems to have rubbed a few people the wrong way, so you’re not the only one. In the comments section of our site, there are literally women saying I look “competitive” or “bitchy” when in my mind I am just looking neutral.

Despite lots of comment speculation, I don’t personally offer any explanation as to why this particular thing happened. I just know how people look at me most days and then noticed the huge difference in shady looks once I popped on the wig for an outing. My wife noticed it. My grandma noticed it. My friends noticed it. So it wasn’t “projection” of any sort, it was just right there in our faces and I made a comic about it, because I’m honestly puzzled.

Others have offered that it could have been: jealousy, gender policing (since I look more masculine), looks of insecurity instead of hostility and several YouTube videos explaining the phenomenon that I’m not even going to click on.

Maybe we live in a particularly appearance-hostile neighborhood or I was near a more shallow demographic of ladies at the time, who knows. By all means, I would never suggest that “ALL WOMEN” do/experience/say this (or anything else), let alone attempt an explanation. I’m sorry if the comic comes across in any way like that. As always, we were just making a literal account of an experience that happened and made me very confused and upset.