Love Lost & Lessons Learned–On Facebook — Dave’s Diary

You never know what Facebook post will go viral. You can try and try to make it happen and nothing works and then the simplest idea takes off when you aren’t trying at all.

A newly divorced motivational speaker Gerald Rogers took to Facebook and admitted that there were a lot of things he could have done differently to save his marriage. His post was a self admission but his brief and poignant post has since had almost 100,000 shares and seems to be resonating with a lot of people.

He writes, “after losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here's the advice I wish I would have had" –and don't let the pronouns fool you -- this is advice both men and women in committed relationships need to hear: (Facebook)

Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You're not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other every day. SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don't take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.