I’m contantly seeing the +1 debate on the bee and many bees limit their plus 1s to people that live together. This seems weird to me because I was serious with Fiance from the get go and got invited to weddings with him within the first couple of months but we didn’t move into until over a year!

So bees, am I just a slow mover? Is it normal to move in earlier in the relationship? It must be, since that seems to be the cut off point for “serious” relationships.

@princesslettuce14: There is a photo from my grandparents wedding where this weird, cheesy, stumpy little man shows up grinning. Nobody has any idea who he is aside from “Some Schmuck my aunt was dating at the time” 😀 I don’t think it’s an issue of how serious the relationship is, maybe it’s more an issue (from an outsiders perspective) of how likely it is that some schmuck (or worse) will end up in their treasured wedding album?

We moved in somewhere around 3 years into dating. It wasn’t exactly planned out, life just sort of happened that way.

We moved in together after 1 year, which also happened to be the time that my Fiance’s (then boyfriend) lease was up. We were commuting over an hour twice a week to see one another and we finally agreed it was just ridiculous to continue living so far apart. I was staying at his place on weekends at that point.

We had already discussed the fact that we saw ourselves getting married someday, and that was just a given by that point, so moving in together was the next logical step. Less expensive and a way easier way for us to spend time together. (On top of the commute we had opposite work schedules.)

It didn’t feel rushed to us. But we woudln’t have moved in if we weren’t comfortable with the idea of it. I don’t think there is a correct time frame, everyone is different with what they’re comfortable with in their relationships. If it works, then it works, you can’t measure it against what worked for anyone else.