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One of the many useful things that the internet has brought to us is our ability to communicate.We email friends, we stay in touch with grade school buddies on Facebook, we comment on issues trending on Twitter, etc.

It becomes especially apparent that being able to communicate with others like ourselves is helpful when we have a question and don’t know where to turn.Close friends and relatives can be great resources, but sometimes we are looking for advice about things we prefer not to share with people close to us.

Back in the 1970s, many people enjoyed reading advice columns such as Dear Abby and Ann Landers.The problem with those columns is they dealt with pretty much any kind of problem.It was rare that what a reader was asking about was something of genuine interest to the general public.

The internet originally brought us chat rooms, which allowed us to communicate with others with similar interests.Before becoming riddled with predators and other sketchy characters, chat rooms were somewhat useful.One of the downfalls was that the only people who would see your question were those online at that moment.

Today, with so many social platforms, finding forums online is very easy.This is especially true for swinger sites.Most swinger dating sites include a forum.Although popular websites such as Craigslist and Reddit also contain forums with swinger type discussions, they tend to attract trolls.These participants are not there to help but rather to either provoke sexual talk or rile up the writers.

It is no surprise then, that so many swingers turn to forums on sites designed specifically for swingers.There are quite a few out there and they are all very helpful.

Situations that arise for swingers are unique and only another swinger can possibly relate.The discussions range from topics such as ‘How to get my significant other into swinging’ to ‘I get off watching my husband get pegged, is that normal?’

In times of uncertainty, swingers generally cannot discuss problems that arise from swinging with their family or vanilla friends.Most swingers will not call their mom on Sunday morning to complain that their husband wants them to try double penetration and they are not up for it.Or that they took one for the team the previous night and were not happy about it.

At times, swingers prefer to discuss their problems anonymously.They might be looking for perspective on a situation they have encountered.Perhaps a close swinger friend is a good resource but sometimes people would like to speak their mind and remain anonymous.It is very easy to be honest when nobody knows who you are.This applies to both the person posing the question and the people who respond.

Forums truly are a wonderful tool to help navigate all things lifestyle.At times simply reading what others have to say helps to give swingers perspective on how others see situations.

Swinger forums are also wonderful resources for party ideas, shoe shopping, vacation destinations and swing clubs.If you reach a forum and do not see what you are looking for, start your own topic!Most forums will send you an email alerting you that someone has responded to your post.

Forums have truly made it easy to get the answers to whatever you might be looking for.Anyone can join and comments are always welcome.Sure, sometimes people will not agree with you, but either way, it helps to get perspective whether it is positive or negative.

Hi Partners ID!I have no doubt that this story is different from all of the others that you have heard regarding your jewelry.

Ten years ago my (then) boyfriend and I entered the lifestyle.Being adventurous and sexually open, we had our first experience on a lifestyle cruise.It was incredible and everything we had hoped for.The people were friendly and warm and we took to swinging like ducks to water.It was a wonderful trip and we remained in the lifestyle after the boat docked.

There is a swing club not too far from where we lived and we became regular fixtures at this club.Unfortunately, I wanted to have children and he did not, which caused us to split.At that time, I continued to frequent this swing club because of all of the friends I had made.Over time, I realized that if I wanted to have children, this would not be the place to find a husband!

Last year I moved to a new city and started a new job.There is an active lifestyle community here but I hadn’t wanted to go it alone.I tried online swinger dating but nothing panned out for me on these sites.

One night, there was a fund raising event at a local bar and I decided to attend to show my support.As always, when I got dressed, I slipped on my lifestyle necklace.I loved the jewelry from the first time I discovered it existed.(It is a simple silver choker that looks like a David Yurman design.)

When I entered the bar it was so crowded that I could barely make my way inside.People were laughing and drinking and there was a band up on the stage.After drinking a quick shot of whiskey, someone grabbed my arm and asked me to dance.When I turned to see who it was, I was surprised because it was a complete stranger.I agreed to dance and for the next hour, we danced to every song.

When we finally headed back to the bar, I asked him his name.His name is Cole and he has the bluest eyes I have ever seen.When we sat down to talk, the first thing he mentioned was my necklace.He told me he had actually won a bracelet at a raffle when he visited a swing club in Florida!

Well, fast forward one year and Cole and I just got married!Not only that, I wore the new Partners ID necklace he had custom made for me on our wedding day.Right from the beginning he told me that when he saw the necklace, he knew he wanted to meet the girl who would wear it!We are in the lifestyle and could not be happier!

A very big thank you to Partners ID for helping me to meet my husband!I doubt you ever thought that your jewelry had that much power!

Swingers are a special breed of people. When they talk amongst each other, most people would agree that no topic is off limits. Things that you would never in a million years discuss with vanilla friends or close family, are perfect things to talk about with your swinger friends. These are friends who can truly relate to some of the bizarre or hilarious things that happen in the lifestyle.

What’s in your box?

Recently, a swinger friend visited a nude beach and while relaxing, observed a beautiful girl walking from group to group, showing people something in a cardboard box. As she got closer, he was eager to not only see what was inside the box, but to have an opportunity to meet this beautiful, naked girl. He waved for her to come over to his group, and with a big smile, she headed in their direction.

When she reached them, she greeted them with a big smile and put her box on the floor so they could inspect what she was trying to sell. My friend peered into the box but wasn’t quite sure what he was looking at. “Cock rings,” she explained, “you really should try wearing one!” My friend said she was so cute it would not have mattered what she was selling, he was buying. He reached into the box and chose one. She showed him how to put it on and he was quite the happy camper. He and his wife left the beach and headed back to their apartment.

Later that evening they were heading out to a swing club so he slips on the cock ring so he will be able to show it to his friends. They get into the elevator along with two elderly women. The elevator door shuts and as the elevator jolts to a start, they hear a clink, clink, clink on the floor of the elevator as the cock ring falls out of the bottom of his pant leg to the ground. He looks down and says, “Oh, there’s my cuff link!”

Excuse me, can you speak up?

Other swinger friends were traveling to see family out of town and decided to go to a local swing club in the area. Having heard good things about this club, they were excited to go and meet some new people.After dressing in their sexy club clothes, they were on their way.The crowd was great and one couple in particular seemed eager to play with them.Heading into the playroom together, the other couple suggested a private room, to which this couple agreed.

As they are playing, the man starts whispering something into my friend’s ear. She can’t quite hear him and asks him to repeat himself. When she is sure she can hear him she sits upright and looks at her husband, who is playing with the man’s wife. The wife looks over and smiles at my friend. My friend touches her husband and tells him she’s ready to go. Confused, he gets up and she is already out the door. He runs behind her to find out what has happened. The man had asked my friend to poop on his face. She was sure he was joking but clearly he was not. He said he likes it and his wife likes to watch. It grossed her out so much that she had to leave. This is clearly not a story that could be shared with your vanilla friends!

What happens in the dark stays in the dark

Swinger dating sites are a great resource for finding a private party in your area.When swinger friends of ours found one of interest, they signed up on the guest list.The address and time for the party were later sent in an email. The party was planned for a Friday night, which coincided with a parent teacher conference that was already on their schedule.

Arriving a little late, they grabbed some drinks and mingled with some of the guests downstairs. As the evening wore on, couples started to move upstairs to play. It was dark in the bedrooms so they could see bodies, but not really anyone’s faces. They found a spot on a bed and settled in to play together. Not long after, a woman next to them reached over and started to touch my friend. It started as just kissing and before long the two couples were engaged in a four way. The other man was eager to swap so they switched and played with the other couple. Soon my friend heard the other woman screaming in orgasm and showering them when she squirted.

When it was all over, the foursome walked out of the bedroom together so they could properly introduce themselves. As soon as they got into a more lighted area my friend could not believe her eyes! It was her son’s teacher that she had just met with earlier that evening!

Excuse me ma’am but is there something you’re not telling me?

A woman we know spends a fair amount of time at swing clubs and lifestyle events, and when she attends, playing is a priority for her. She went for a yearly gynecology exam and during the examination her doctor asked her if she has multiple partners or does she just have sex with her husband.

With the doctor positioned between her legs, peering inside for the exam, her concern was that he was looking at something that indicated an STD or infection of some kind. She knew him socially (vanilla) and felt she could not possibly tell him about the lifestyle. She picked up her head and looked down at him telling him she was faithful to her husband. With that he reached inside her and pulled out a condom.

Candles create a lovely atmosphere don’t they?

Swinger friends planned a sexy weekend at a hotel with another couple they frequently played with. The women decided to check in early to decorate the room and surprise the men when they arrived. They brought candles, rose petals and candy, massage oils, bath oils and flowers. By the time the men arrived, the room was romantic and sexy; the women in lingerie, ready for fun. They wasted no time and spent the afternoon playing. After a fun afternoon, my friends headed out for the evening. Returning from the restaraunt, there were firetrucks leaving the hotel and the guests were walking back inside. When they asked what was happening, they were told that a guest had left candles burning when they left their room and it started a fire. My friends were mortified because they realized it was them…

Let’s give these girls a round of applause!

When hosting a private swinger party, it is not uncommon for guests to bring a gift for the host and hostess.At this particular party, one of the gifts some friends received was a huge pink vibrator that was shaped like a penis.The party ended late and as they cleaned up, they carefully put the vibrator back in the box and stuck it in a guest room closet.Several weeks later, their 5 year old had a friend over.Her older brother was bothering them and so they wandered into the guest room and closed the door so they would not be disturbed. During the day my friend works, so the children are left with a babysitter.

Not long after, the babysitter goes into the room to check on the girls. My friend’s daughter had found the vibrator and they were using it like a microphone, singing karaoke. The babysitter was shocked but felt compelled to take a video so she could show my friend. After seeing the video, my friend said she was so embarrassed that she wanted to fire the sitter so she wouldn’t have to face her, but was terrified because she had a video!

As swingers, we never know what crazy situations we will find ourselves in. What I can say, is that we can never tell our vanilla friends stories like these!

Finding other couples to swing with can sometimes seem quite challenging. Swing clubs are a great way to meet other swingers but not everyone lives close enough to a club for this to be a viable option. For those who would like to find other swingers close to where they live, the internet offers many sites which are useful for swingers.

Swinger dating sites are a great tool for swingers. You sign up for a membership and it offers so much information that is helpful for both current swingers and for people looking to swing. The membership is not expensive but it is costly enough to prevent curiosity seekers from prying.

After signing up you are prompted to post photos of yourself and fill out a basic questionnaire. This will help other swingers to get to know more about you. This part of the process is very important. While it is normal to look through your photo albums to find the best possible pictures of yourself, make sure the pictures actually looks like you today. If the picture was not taken in the past few months, don’t post it. People don’t care what you used to look like, nor do they care that at a certain angle your photo makes you look 20 pounds thinner. They simply want to know what you really look like.

Once you have posted your new swinger profile, you are ready to start looking at other couple’s profiles. Perhaps you would like to try speed dating or look for a local public or private party in your area. For those who would like to try a swing club, most offer directories and reviews of clubs all across the US and Canada. The forums are a good resource to ask questions and get more information about swinging. Hopefully, you will be able to find what you are looking for by using this online site (or sites).

If finding other swingers on dating sites is so easy, why do people have difficulties when meeting others in person? It almost always comes back to the same reason: their pictures do not look like them. This is such a common problem that many swingers actually write on their profile that they prefer couples who do not look like their photos to please not contact them. Some profiles are less polite about it and they write things like: If you show up and you don’t look like your photos, we will leave.

It might seem harsh and even shallow for couples to be so adamant about people posting current photos, but we know first hand that people are serious about this problem. They are not afraid to walk away when someone misrepresents who they are.

We were in a swing club recently and witnessed a couple enter the club. They looked around and a couple sitting towards the back of the club waved to them. They looked at each other and slowly made their way over to the couple who had waved to them. You could tell by the look on their faces that something was wrong. They introduced themselves and sat down. The woman was very gracious and was talking to the couple but the man was looking all around the club and ignoring them. The two couples were very different. The couple who entered the club was probably in their late 40s to early 50s. The couple who waved them over were at least 10 to 15 years older than them. The younger couple was in good shape and dressed very chic, while the older couple was neither. The older couple was both overweight and not quite fashion-forward.

We watched them for a few minutes and left for the dance floor. Not long after, the younger couple appeared on the dance floor. When we went back to our seats, they followed us and sat down next to us. The man excused himself to go and pick up their drinks, which they left sitting on a table with the older couple they had met earlier. The woman explained that they had met them online and sure enough, their pictures were completely misleading. She pulled out her phone and showed us the pictures the older couple has on their profile. Not only did I question if the pictures were even of this couple but they claimed to be in their late 40s, which is absolutely impossible.

This is a perfect example of why posting old photos or shaving years off of your age does not work. Sure, it makes for a great profile and perhaps maybe people will contact you, but what happens when you have to meet someone in person?

I initially felt sorry for the older couple as they looked disappointed and rejected. When I said something, the couple who sat down with us pointed out that they were the ones who were disappointed and annoyed. They had changed their plans to accommodate this couple and it was a complete waste of their time. Had they known what this couple really looked like, and known their true age, they would have known they were not compatible and would not have wasted their time meeting them. They felt the other couple was wrong for pretending to be something they are not.

What inspires couples to create such misleading profiles? Is it possible that they think they look like their old photos? Do they not notice the extra 20 pounds they have gained since they took that picture? Perhaps they are simply afraid that nobody will contact them if they are completely honest. Maybe, they think that at least this way, couples will meet them and they will have a chance to win them over with their bright smiles and quick wit. It is possible,

Whatever the reason for this, it is wrong. The whole point in posting photos and filling out profiles is to try to find couples who are a good match for each other. Just because you are attracted to certain couples, it does not mean they will be attracted to you. If your profile is honest, your chances of a successful rendezvous is much higher than if you are dishonest. Swinging should be fun! If you approach it in a positive honest way, it will be!

Here is a list of some swinger dating sites to check out ( in no particular order):

Taking photos is a wonderful way to capture memories of every kind. From the day we are born, the cameras start flashing to ensure memories of this special event. We embrace our photos as prized possessions and something tangible to remind us of the good times in our lives. Birthdays, graduations, vacations with our families, holidays and good times with our friends.

Swingers are no different, but their collections of photos are of a different kind. Swingers seem to take quite a bit of illicit photos of themselves. Check Facebook, twitter, Instagram or swinger websites and you will be inundated with more nude and pornographic photos than you can imagine. Part of the fun of taking these photos is sharing them with your swinger friends, right?

It is also common for swinger couples who have been speaking over the internet to request pictures of each other prior to meeting them. It seems only logical then that you would choose email to send it. No big deal, right? You pick out some face shots and look through your photos to find that perfect sexy shot of the two of you engaged in some kind of sex act. Maybe you like the one where you are giving your husband a blowjob while a big black male is behind you. Type up your email, address it and push send. What could be simpler? Although it should be a simple and private way to communicate, we are human and computers do not always seem to be on the same page we are.

Swinger woman playing with herself wearing Partners ID bracelet

Sometimes the computer seems to magically change recipients without our knowledge. I am sure it has happened to everyone: you intend a message to go to one person and somehow it ends up going to someone else. Although it can be a hassle and sometimes annoying, this particular type of scenario is a whole lot worse than that if you are a swinger. You push send and as soon as your finger hits the button you notice that the email is not addressed to your new friends at all but rather to your father! OMG! This actually happened to a swinger we know.

How about when your friends bring you into a group text message. You and your vanilla friends agree on where to go for lunch or share some gossip about someone you all know. We all have these group texts. Not a problem until you decide to share some erotic photos with the swinger couple you played with the previous evening, and it accidentally gets sent out in a group text. There’s really nothing you can say, because as we have heard, a picture is worth a thousand words. Can you even imagine the conversation about you between your vanilla friends? I shudder to think about it.

A couple was celebrating New Year’s Eve in a swing club and told their children they were heading out for a romantic dinner. The club looked so beautiful they could not resist asking someone to take a picture of them against the festive backdrop. They looked at the picture in the club that night and liked it so much they sent it right out to their children. What they did not notice until the next day was that in the background was a monitor with porn. There was nothing they could think of to explain this.

Another couple celebrated Halloween in a swing club and loved their clever costume. They asked a friend to take a photo of them and as they posed for the photo, a friend joined in for the shot. They also looked at the photo and thought it was adorable. The next day they met her parents for dinner and took out their phone to show them their cute costume. When they enlarged the picture, they realized the girl who joined in the shot had pulled her top down and her breasts were exposed. It is very hard to think of what to say in these situations to somehow make things sound normal.

It seems that as long as swingers are snapping pictures of themselves and each other in compromising positions, there will always be the possibility of a mishap. It keeps things interesting, no?