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Topic: please help , i know im being stupid (Read 18486 times)

Ive been reading around about getting head there is no reason i should worry about hiv

but this was different , it had an unprotected bj which was pretty rough , she tried to deep throat and she almost choked , what worries me is when she was done she had a lil blood come down her nose....she scared me being rough but seeing a lil blood almost made me faint.how possible do you think some blood could of got into my system? i know things like saliva aint that bad but what it if was a lil vomit ,i know it sounds gross but i know i wont get the best reply unless im honest..

I am sorry you are worrying over this incident. Insertive fellatio is not a quantified risk for HIV infection.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

I just want to second JK's assessment - you did not have a risk of hiv infection through getting a blowjob, regardless of whatever it was - blood or vomit - that came out of the woman's nose.

Not one person has EVER become infected with hiv through getting a blowjob and you won't be the first. With all the blowjobs going on in the world every minute of every day, I'm sure your experience is not unique and it won't become unique by you getting infected either.

You had no risk of hiv infection.

While you're here, please read through the Welcome Thread and follow the links found there for further information.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

While you do NOT need to be tested over your blowjob, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for intercourse and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I'm not going to get into a discussion with you about symptoms. It will only cause you greater distress and irritate me - something neither of us wants. Symptoms mean nothing when it comes to diagnosing HIV infection.

What are reliable indicators of HIV infection are certain risk behaviours (which you have not had) and positive anti-body test results.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread and familiarise yourself with how HIV is and is not transmitted.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Bearing in mind nicks, cuts, bruises, oral bleeding and many more variations on the blow job theme, there has never been a single documented case in the entire history of the HIV epidemic of transmission via getting a blow job.

It's safe to say that you will not make history by becoming the first, your details notwithstanding. No kidding.

i guess im so worried i start to believe its real...when i keep sweating and have such a hard time shaking this fever off cause it keeps coming backi start to believe it all over again.i got tested for many things , heps and infections and blood count....all results were ready in 3 days except the HIVwhich started to scare me cause i was wondering why? did they find something and they have to keep testingi mean how long does it take,

Hey Guys,Call me paranoid , but i just had protected with a female and after we were done i seem to be covered in blood , i was sure what to do as i sat there for about 10 mins with the condom still on , i tried to wipe as much blood as i could offaround the top area and had a shower with the condom still on, then took it off and started to clean myself up.now i dont know her HIV status , but what are the chances of me of getting something? should i be worried?

I know this is really gonna sound dumb but i was just wondering can hiv survive if it was frozen?i mean i may have eaten an icecream and i hadnt notice till a few seconds it had this red lace.say it was blood would hiv have died in the cold or is it still possible to be living.?

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Its just i slepted with a girl protected , sucked on her nipples and fingered her , after i went to have a shower i started to was myself. the thing is i then started to clean around my anus i remembered i had a minor cutt there elalier then i realize i used the same finger i fingered her with like 30 mins before. she sez something about how she was in her home town and she found out member of her family was hiv poz and said she had a test a month before. but i didnt believe that and started to worry. its been about 5 weeks and i have a throat infection a slight sweats through out the day and im really starting to worry. i know i was protected but could any other aspect of whats happened maybe possible?

Nope. Probably not. Not if you have been hanging around here since June of last year and are still coming to the table with situations like this one. In all this time, have you yet read the Lessons section to find out about HIV really is transmitted? You're talking about washing your sore, scraped butt in the shower with the finger you stuck inside some girl 30 minutes before who happened to mention that someone in her family was positive.

What do you think we're going to tell you here? What do you think? I'm not going to tell you. You tell me.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I know , your sick to death of me. Believe me I wish I didn’t have my life controlled by fear.

After getting hammered before I managed to convince I was fine. I had protected Sex and got on with my life. An Ex girlfriend came over and we hit old flames. Then she gave me head , I was fine until she left. But then alarms bells started ringing and I was fearing for her. What if I had something and I have it to her through oral, then was no ejack but I did feel myself pulsate so maybe its possible I leaked something?

I know you guys think im going mad and maybe this is an example of what constant “what if “ thinking is and people can learn to realise that. (sush as myself ).

Whare her chances of getting something if I had it? Please dont shoot me down.Please just let me know so I can be on my way and yes I am thinking about seeking help for this phobia problem.

so i guess those recent incidents in the shower or my hands touching her fluids then cleaning myself minutes later pose not threat of infection?

Your guess is correct.

and a girl giving a blow job has minimal risk of catching something "if" a male was infected?

That depends on what something you're referring to. If a male was infected with gonnorrhoea then her chances of contracting that are more than minimal. HIV transmission under such circumstances is a theoretical risk only.

You don't have to be concerned about having contracted HIV. Please seek the help of a mental health professional. We're not able to assist you any further.

I had been to the toilet to find a little bit of blood in my poo , a slight cut to my anus (nothing big) an hour later we had a guest over, She requeasted floss and she flossed her teeth. a few drinks later she gave me a rim job. putting her finger and her tounge in my ass. now say my ass would of started bleeding (so was cut) and she had blood in her mouth from flossing. is there a mayjor risk?

i know this sounds stupid but i really wanna bury this so i can get on with my life.

This is just silly. Now you're making things up. We've already told you that you don't have to worry about HIV and no matter how many nonsensical situations you invent our answers aren't going to change.

i swear to you matty im not making this up,i was just too embaressed to mention it.this is the last encounter i had with a blowjob which the rimming was my first rim job.thats exactly how it happened and my anus felt irritated for a week.please matty could you answer it?

I recently started seeking counselling about my problem , i guess its cleared a few things.i finally got the courage to goto the doctor and get a blood test. when i saw him come out with the needle i saw it was already open. i made a quick gag about used needles just so if he didnt realise he'd know, then he said that he had just opened it.

anyhow my test came out negative which was a relief , But 4 weeks later Bang! i get this really high fever and my throat starts hurting and my lymph nodes start to swell. i was like "you gotta be F%$$ kidding me?!" i knew this would strike me the wrong way.

to make a long story short i had a fever for 2 and a half days , all flu symptoms under the sun. i felt like a truck hit me. the doc gave me pills that seemed to be for pain relief and after a few hours left i felt half way to recovery.

does Med have an effect on ARS symptoms? and how long do symptoms last for?

please dont just tell me symptoms are no indication cause i know that much but if these questions could be answered id really appreciate it.

not this circle again? please rod answer those queastions for me?this is a first time Doc and the place seemed kinda clueless. if the needle had been used? i mean we hear about it all the time.please answer those about ARS.

There is nothing to answer. You were never at risk, they don't reuse needles and you were never at risk.

Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

"This circle" is of your own making, not ours. You admit to asking the doctor about used needles and he told you he just opened it. You did not have a risk.

Sometimes a "flu-like" illness is just that - the flu.

I rejected the new account you applied for. Multiple accounts are against the Terms of Membership which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread, which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse. Try that again and be banned.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

the doctor just seem so shady , they seemed so inexperienced it left so many markings on my arms for days. and then i feel this 4 weeks later. i dont wanna come here as much as you dont want me here.

i just need those few more bits of info about ARS to help me move on.

like i said, im sorry

I fail to see why your belief that your doctor is shady would motivate you to attempt to create a sockpuppet account here in the forums.

The last thing you need is "those few more bits of info". The reason being is that you've become a Beyond Worried Well. What you need to do is to seek the assistance of a mental health professional to help you deal with your various and unfounded fears about HIV. We cannot provide you with that support here.

You should also be aware that a time out is not a punishment nor an attempt to get rid of you. If the moderators wanted to get rid of you, they'd just ban you permanently. For some people, such as yourself, participation in this forum can become a toxic, damaging thing. A time out is designed to encourage you to get the face-to-face support you so clearly need.

But rather than being timed out, why don't you go and arrange some help for yourself? The choice is yours.

ok , i understand. let me ask one more thing and im gone. you can block my account if i ask anything after this about this discussion. i beg you.

if 4 weeks after an incedient i have a high fever,saw throat,headaches and flu symtoms for about 5 days, if i was seroconverting and i took a bloodtest right now, would it come out on the bloodtest as pos if that was me seroconverting and ive just been through it??

This crap has gone on long enough. We've already answered all of your questions and I see nothing new in what you've just posted. You were never at risk of contracting HIV and so whatever is making you ill, it's not HIV.

you never give answers? i just wanted to know that.you make it sound like its all impossible when all i ask is for a fact.i didnt ask if i was at rick simply if serconverting means it would show as a positive.jus so i could go get my test done tomorrow and know that it wasnt me seroconverting..just me being sick and i can get on with my life