Overcoming Intimidation

Intimidation can happen everywhere, in all walks of life and
can occur in any age group. Being intimidated by someone is a form of being bullied,
it happens in school, the workplace by co-workers or the boss, when shopping and
in many other situations.

Some people are not even aware that they are being intimidated,
while for it others it can make their life a misery day in and day out with them
suffering intimidation on a regular basis. You might even be the one who is
intimidating others.

People who are constantly intimidated go through many feelings,
but there are many steps that you can take to help eliminate intimidation. In order
to be able to deal successfully with intimidation you first have to understand what
intimidation really is, it can come in many disguises.

Using force to get what you want from others

Threatening to or using power and control to get others to do what you want

Getting others to believe they are more powerful than you

Using size or strength to get others to do what you want or threaten them

Holding punishments over their head such as being fired, spanking or divorce

Being quick tempered, angry or getting into a rage with someone to get them
to do what you want

Behaving in a manner that has others frightened to step up to you

Using your wealth to get others to do what you want

Using racial or sexual slurs towards others

There are many steps you can take to stop allowing others to intimidate you, the
first step you should take is to look at yourself and determine if your irrational, unhealthy way
of thinking has allowed yourself to become intimidated by others. If you think this might have been
the case then you should take steps towards

Identify new healthier ways of thinking to help you overcome and respond to the
intimidating factors

Display your new ways of thinking and acting to those who are intimidating you,
this will show them that you are no longer willing to be intimidated by them

Develop ways of dealing with people in case they respond negatively to the new you

See the consequences of your new assertive behavior

Stick to your guns and accept whatever the consequences are of your new behavior

The next step to take once you have developed a strategy for dealing with those who
intimidate you is to develop ways to reinforce your beliefs in the new you. The easiest way is to use
daily affirmations or positive self-talk. Examples of positive self-talk include.

I am a good person, who is worthy and deserves to be treat with respect

I will not put anyone in a superhuman position over me

I will take my life back under my control from any who tries to intimidate me in
the future