anal sex adventures

page updated: 30-Jan-2007

if anyone can think of a better name for anal sex, i'd love to hear from you.

"Fifth Base" has been suggested :)

So... I am uncomfortable with the term "anal sex." Special boy and I had our first chat about the subject last night, and I think the comfortable euphemism that is going to get used around our house is backdoor action. There are enough songs about being a backdoor man residing in our cd collection that I can feel affinity with the phrase.

Anyhow. This barely has anything to do with my vagina but I figured I'd make the sex topics a complete set. I've had a bit of anal sex, though not a whole lot, as both a top and a bottom (see toys, especially once it gets expanded). Much more frequently, boy and I engage in some less intense backside loving when we are in bed, with just fingers and kisses. Even with full engagement, this is mostly a transient activity and rarely is something we do to bring us both to orgasm. The most common affair involves my fingers and my beloved's bum.

Some considerations before I really begin, so I feel like I am dealing responsibly with this topic:

It is unwise to put anything in a vagina after it has been in a bum, especially if that vagina is prone to getting yeast infections. I am not very religious about observing this and have never had any trouble, but this is definitely a way to set yourself up for a fine outbreak of Candida. See also grooming for descriptions on proper wiping.

Also, anal sex is among the highest risk sex acts for transmitting infections. Rectal tissue is fragile and tears easily, and also is by nature an absorbant, receptive tissue. It is very easily infected. Further, anal sex puts more stress on condoms than vaginal or oral sex, so use lots of water-based lube and consider doubling your latex.

Last thing: you can get pregnant by having anal sex, because the anus is separated from the vaginal opening by only a small, moist patch of skin. Semen easily dribbles across this, so use birth control for anal sex like you would for other sex.

And, as a reference, this is a list of Dr. Jack Morin's 10 rules for pleasurable and safe anal sex. He has published a well-respected book on this subject.