How is your partner taking the news?

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bebebee wrote:

DH is not quite convinced. (! I know! He didn’t think we could “know” this early. I don’t know what he thinks is going to happen. Hopefully it’s a little more real for him before baby is born.) Think a digital test will help him out before doctors appt?

Dh and I didn’t think we would concieve so quickly. We were planning at least 6 months. When I showed him the test he wasn’t convinced. I took a digital too early thinking surely it would work lol it gave bfn... the bfp on the digital the next day helped. But because there is so much uncertainty in the first trimester he is playing it safe and waiting to see what happens.

However it must be real to him because he keeps asking what I ate if I ate.

With our last son the u/s and beating heart helped make it very real to us both.

I have yet to tell mine. He works away and is on nights this go around so I literally talk to him about an hour a day. We weren’t expecting this very much a surprise and worried how he’ll take it. He’s taken on both of my other kids like his own. It will be his first

Thanks for all your replies! I’ve heard from others it was the heartbeat or birth that made it real. But I said buddy, I’ll make it real, you’ll see. Haha I know we each have our own reactions and I knew not to expect anything in particular. And regardless of first impressions, I’m sure these babes will be loved enormously. @stephnn I hope it goes well sounds like he’s already a great dad.

My husband was in complete shock until I went to take bloodwork and the HCG levels had doubled. He’s making sure I eat more protein and dont do so much but he daid he’ll also feel better hearing the heartbeat and seeing that him or her are in the right spot. 6 more days until our first ultrasound! We both just want to tell everyone once im 4 months and out of the first trimester.

This go around, my husband had a better reaction - I showed him the test, he smiled/asked if I was serious, and then kissed me and our 14-month old. When I was pregnant with our son, his reaction was pure shock. We got pregnant the first month off of BC, before we were really “trying”, so I was quite nervous to tell him. I broke the news to him while he was working in the garage, he stared at me, and then asked if I needed window washer fluid in my car 🤦🏼‍♀️ It took him a good week or two to really get excited, but once he saw the first ultrasound, he was on cloud 9!

So with my first pregnancy, my husband was over the moon. He wanted to buy books immediately and was super protective. When I had the miscarriage, it really hit him hard. This time around, I can tell he’s being more cautious. He’s still definitely excited, but he said it won’t seem real until the ultrasound

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