Should I contact my ex about getting back together?

We broke up a few weeks ago over a fight. We had a happy relationship, but we had flaws. He felt like I didn't trust him about living with a female stripper next year and I felt like sometimes he didn't consider my feelings. We broke up after a big misunderstanding: I was upset he didn't acknoledge we had plans one night, even though he was trying to make plans for the weekend, I said this type of behavior is stressing me out and I need space for a second. He didn't respond. He didn't go to my housewarming party the next day even though he was invited. I askedh him the next day if he wants to break up or not. He said he still wants to go to the party he was talking to me about. I said no, come get your things. He comes, says it's not working out because this is going to happen again. I didn't get his text after I said I needed space, he let me read it from his phone and I felt bad and said I'm sorry I misunderstood the situation, and apologized for acting so harshly, I've never acted like that before. I said let's just talk it out, move on from it and start fresh. He wanted time to think and said he'd let me know in a few days.

5 days go by, and he hadn't said anytihng. I needed to know where he stood bc I bought expensive tickets to a concert a while back for us to go to. I called him, he said he misses me but he thinks this is going to happen again. He'd known for a couple of days. These scuffles we had were only happening these past two weeks. He said I was insecure about the stripper thing and that he "tried to help me" and I didn't trust him. I said I would going forward bc I was wrong to him about that. I didn't want to throw away a happy relationship over this. He wouldnt' budge.

Initially I was upset and he said he wouldn't hold it against me. However I said it's no hard feelings and I accept our breakup. He apologized for doing it on the phone and wished me well.

I miss him a lot and I don't see why this warrented a breakup. How can I convince him.

Well for me actions speak more than words. So trusting him and showing you trust him or making him talk about it in order to try and move the relationship forward. However if he does not want to talk or is too stubborn you might have to accept that and move along

What would be a good way to start that? What would I have to say first?

The thing is that i broke no contact one night and asked him to come over, drunkenly. He didn't oblige because he wanted to know if it was an emergency and that he's not wanting us to get our feelings like that again. I apologized the next morning bc I did black out and don't remember and was saying like sorry I wasn't trying to contact you to give you space and I was going to meet your friend to give him your stuff. He said it's okay he lied about where he was and wanted to put himself in a situation that if I was in danger that he could come and help and to not sorry about his stuff to do what I want with it.

That was a couple of days ago and I haven't reaponded. What would I open with? I told him in my apology that I wanted to be friends. I know I'm a mess :(

Yeah it sucks when someone you really like and care for just ups and ends the relationship like this. Based upon his actions and what he is saying it really sounds like he has his mind made up to not have a relationship between you guys again. I have nothing to give you to open with unfortunately because you have already apologized and if that fell on deaf ears you can always try again, but the result will most likely be the same :( you can try apologizing again, but you need to consider if you really could remain friends even if he accepted. It may take a while before he comes around or he may never come around again. You have to decide if that is worth the effort and waiting for

Well, I did it. I said "I understand what you did and I really appreciate it. This has gotten me thinking that maybe I really can't be friends with you at this time. I feel like I'm trying to hard to accept things when I know deep down I'm really not okay with it, because I'm hard headed lol. I really do miss you and I'd like to see you. If you're interested in doing that, you're more than welcome to reach out. If not, at least now you know."

So the door is open to him :/ I tried to make it be more of his idea if he wants to do that. I guess if he doesn't respond, then now I know and I tried.

Yeah I think it is made up as well. You did the hard thing, but it is what is best for you since he will not respond. You did your best and you tried. Every relationship has lessons to teach us, so take the lessons from this relationship and use them in your next one. Best of luck to you Miss :) <3