Is Your Marriage Sinking?

Reading this article does not necessarily mean that if you are married then your marriage is sinking. However, if you believe that living under a single roof means you have to compromise with your spouse then your marriage will definitely sink. The word 'COMPROMISE' itself carries a negative energy. You have to eliminate this word from your belief to stop your marriage from sinking.

You and your spouse are the pillars that support the single roof under which you live. Both of you have to be equal to stop the roof from tilting. Here, equal does not mean you have to be of equal heights but you have to be equal in carrying out your responsibilities and duties. If one pillar is slightly higher than other then giving half of the difference of pillar heights will make the two pillars equal. This suggests that you should help your spouse in his/her weaknesses so that the roof does not get tilted.

For the roof to remain stable and in its position, the pillars have to be strong. This in turn requires the base of pillars to be very strong. In the same way, the base of your marriage which is nothing but LOVE has to unconditionally true and strong.

Even the real cement concrete pillars require repairs at many times. Similarly, there may creep some tensions in your marriage and then you need to revive your relationship again. It is infact simpler than repairing a physical pillar. There are so many ways for it. Suppose your spouse is angry and in high-tone, simply be quite and listen instead of following the same track as that of your partner. If you are angry with your spouse on his/her bad habits then simply write few of his/her good points.

You change the color of pillars in your house to keep it lively. Similarly, keep doing different funny things with each other to keep your married life as colorful as a rainbow.

But, if the pillars height difference is too much then it is better to replace it with an equal pillar rather than repairing it. In other words, if all the ways of having a happy married life are exhausted then it is better to get divorce and if you like marry someone with whom you feel you can erect up a stable roof.

To sum up, it can be said that only strong and equal pillars will have a stable roof and those under it will feel lively if pillars are colorful. So, for happy married life, love your spouse immensely and unconditionally. Share responsibilities and duties with each other. Keep doing things that you both enjoy. If the roof of your marriage is stable and colorful then those under it i.e. your kids will get a healthy and positive environment for their growth.

Syed Feroz Zainvi has obtained M.Tech. (Comp Sc & Engg) degree from Indian Institute of Technology, Delhi (INDIA). His areas of interests are distributed computing, computer graphics and Internet Technologies. He also loves to write on Life, Philosophy and Spirituality. Currently, he is involved in Software Project Planning, Development and Management. His other interests include writing for magazines and contributing utility softwares on Magazine's CDs. He also have flair for teaching computer science with new teaching methodologies.

RELATED ARTICLESHow to Have a Sizzler of a Honeymoon! Article No. 8
To paraphrase a song, "Are you doing it more, but enjoying it less?"
Get a Prenuptial Agreement before Your Next Marriage
While signing a prenuptial agreement can be one of the all-time romantic turnoffs, for people heading into their second marriage, a prenuptial agreement can give the trade-off of a better relationship through the security of financial and life planning.
Italian Honeymoon Vacations
Going to Italy on a honeymoon vacation could be the best turning point in your romance as you venture in this place full of romantic pursuits and mesmerizing love. The places worth visiting in this popular land of exotic Mediterranean culture are the Colosseum, the Sistine Chapel, the canals of Venice and the cathedrals.
Marriage and the Election
Dear Friends of Marriage,
How to Choose Your Wedding Shoes
Wedding day is known as the most unforgettable day in human life. Most women wish that day could be perfect and hoping nothing would go wrong. Well?sometimes not all wish are fulfilled. There are some who get panic due of wedding shoes.
Bridal Shower Gift Ideas
You've been invited to the bridal shower ? what fun! You already have a wonderful wedding gift, but you aren't sure about bridal shower gift ideas. The first rule of thumb is that a bridal shower gift is generally a bit more personal; that is, it focuses on the bride rather than the couple. So think in terms of her likes and dislikes as well as the theme of the party.
Secrets to Controlling Your Man
Ben* has been happily married for 19 years. He recently told me the prime reason he married his wife is because, "She was the only girl I dated who could control me."
Choosing a Maui Wedding Photographer
You can rest assured that the charm of your Maui wedding will be captured in photos. This is because it is nearly impossible to photograph the island poorly.
Cookie Wedding Favors
Cookies as wedding favors, create an unique twist on the time honored tradition of providing small gifts to guests, as a token of appreciation from the bride and groom. Initially wedding favors were only a part of celebrations European upper classes who would provide elaborate gifts to their guests. Wedding favors began as small fancy boxes, filled with the royal treat of confectionery delicacies, at a time when sugar was quite expensive.
How to Have a Sizzler of a Honeymoon! Article No.1
Henry Vlll and Elizabeth Taylor, who between them had fourteen spouses, would have had quite a few headaches planning their weddings. There would be the obvious ones ? Shall I wear white for my marriage to Eddie Fisher? After all, even though this is my fourth wedding I am only 27 and white looks magnificent on me! And the less obvious ones ? Should I invite all my ex ex ex wives' relatives to the wedding? For if the truth be known, I've always been more fond of them, than of her.
8 Questions Brides Ask About Setting up a Wedding Registry
In theory, setting up a registry is simple. You decide on one or several stores, create a registry online or in person, select various items, and get the word out to your guests. In practice, things are a little more complicated -- but only a little!
Wedding Cake - Bakery Tips
Wedding cake bakeries will have a cake portfolio to look at and that will help you decide if they are able to make the cake you want.
Signature Frames - Your Guestbook and Wedding Frame Together At Last!
So you have been invited to a wedding. Whether you are a friend, family member or the proud parents, one of the most important, if not stressful decisions is what to buy the new couple. This new union will require a unique gift, a gift the newlyweds can actually use and enjoy. Is there such a gift that can provide these qualities while still being original?
Marriage Advice: Upgrade Your Marriage By Changing Your Focus
As the story goes, a Cherokee elder was sitting with his grandchildren. He told them, "In every life there is a terrible fight-a fight between two wolves. One is evil: he is fear, anger, envy, greed, arrogance, self-pity, resentment, and deceit. The other is good: joy, serenity, humility, confidence, generosity, truth, gentleness, and compassion."
Understanding Celtic Wedding Rings
Thousands of years ago, the Celts, a group of independent tribes spread throughout much of current day Europe, were sophisticated artisans, carving knot work patterns that have inspired modern day jewelers to create wedding rings. These motifs have meaning. Yet understanding the knot patterns and why they make such ideal wedding rings can be illusive. The ancient motifs are rooted in mysterious cultures that stretch back well before written history.
Infidelity: How ?My Marriage Made Me Do It? is a Cop-out
Ask someone why they had, or are having an affair and you may hear something like this: "I have a lousy marriage. My marriage is dead. There is no intimacy, no sex, and no excitement. The love is gone. We've grown apart. I can't stand the marriage. There was nothing happening in the marriage and the affair just happened."
Maui Honeymoon Resorts
Each of the dozens of Maui honeymoon resorts can be considered a work of art. You are destined to discover a haven that presents everything you seek in the perfect vacation. Hawaii is one of the most popular honeymoon destinations in the world, which means a lot of expertise has gone into the design of Maui honeymoon packages.
Riding into the Sunset in Style
Details, details, details. Paying attention to details, that's what makes a good wedding great. As the maid of honor or best man, a lovely send off for the newlyweds is a tastefully decorated car-announcing to the world "Here comes Mr. & Mrs. Happy Couple"!
Do You Hear Wedding Bells?
So you've been in that perfect relationship for some time now. You've been dropping hints about the future and he is receiving you loud and clear. It's time to do a little "window shopping." After all, you don't want to leave one of the most important decisions in your life entirely up to him, do you? He WILL lose sleep over finding that perfect engagement ring, even though he will not admit it. So why not help him out a little, give him some guidance and direction.
Dealing With Your Spouses Sexual Past
"Couples who've had sex before marriage will inevitably have sexual difficulties in marriage."