May 04, 2007

Rape Is NOT About Sex

JOHOR BARU: A woman who was waiting in the car while her husband went to a toilet was held up at knife-point and taken on a terror ride, gang-raped and robbed.

The 28-year-old woman who works in Singapore, was driven around Plentong for three hours after being abducted from the petrol station in Tampoi. Her three-year-old son was in the car with her.

The drama unfolded when the victim and her son had accompanied her husband to town on his way to work in Singapore at 4am several days ago.

The husband stopped the car, with his wife and son inside, at the petrol station and kept the engine running.

Soon after, the woman was shocked to see a man armed with a knife, knocking at her window demanding that she open the door.

The woman, fearing for her son's safety, complied and the suspect then drove the car to pick up his friend from a nearby area.

They blindfolded the woman and threatened to harm her son if she struggled.

The woman begged the men to let them go as she was pregnant but they instead took her to a secluded area and took turns to rape her.

They then picked up another man before dropping both mother and son in Permas Jaya and driving off with the car and her belongings.

Johor Baru (South) OCPD Asst Comm Shafie Ismail said that the car had been recovered two days after the incident in Majidee. He appealed to those with information to contact the police hotline at 07-221 2999 or the nearest police station.

Rage soared through me as I read every line of the news.

A certain minister once commented that a woman who dresses indecently is inviting rape to herself. Sir, read this, thoroughly read this and tell me if she was inviting such terror upon herself. Was the piece of meat uncovered, that the cats would come and eat it? If you don't have breasts and a vagina, you have absolutely NO right to even open your mouth on the issue of rape. What about young boys who are sodomised? Did they invite violence upon themselves? Were they not 'uncovered'?

Rape CANNOT be justified.

I don't understand how people could associate rape with sex. It is NEVER about sex. You want sex? You can pay for it.

Rape is about violence. Fear is inflicted upon the victim and the stress and trauma will be her stigma for the rest of her life. She would suffer PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) which cost last a very long time. It's about having total control over a human being whose eyes are filled with fear and horror. It's about the exhilaration of being in such control. No one in their right mind would invite terror into their lives.

What angered me even more about the news was that the bastards had their way with her even though she was pregnant. Has humanity sunk so low, that a pregnant woman can't even be spared? What more, her young son had to witness to such terror.

Gang rape is the vilest of crimes. It's the muliple violation of one's being (physically and mentally). Death would be welcomed with open arms if spared of such violation.

I could wish for the criminals to be caught and sentenced to be raped themselves multiple times. I could wish castration upon them. But right now, all I can think of is to pray for the family. That they recover from the horror. That they be spared from any further humiliation from the outside world.

The violence in rape more often than not is part of the action. Rape is actually about power. The need to dominate over the victim. What men cannot have, they take by force, which in this case is exactly what rape is. To dominate over another when they cannot do it normally.

But it shows weakness in a person. The way bullies pick on the weak. They compensate for their weakness by this pathetic show of dominance. Unfortunately innocent people have to pay. For that, there is no fairness.

tine, I read this news too. Like you, I would want the criminals to be caught. It's getting more and more rape case in this world, if not, Malaysia. Average, there's a rape case which you can read from the news. Definitely, it's more than that since some of them don't dare to report this. *SIGH* Our world is getting too complicated...

I replied Anonymous' comments first because what he/she wrote irked me. But anyhoos, sorry for the late reply, here it goes:

Conan_cat: Exactly. How stupid can one get? Really, foot in the mouth moment. Rape IS about violence. At the end of the day, it's the exhilaration of power the rapist gets over the victim, which gives him the ultimate high. Not sex.

Which brings me to the next comment.

Kamigoroshi: I so agree with you. Rape is about dominance over the weaker sex. The weaker person (if they're same sexed).

But at the end of the day, even though it shows weakness in the show of dominance, it will never undo what he did. At the end of the day, he won. And that is the saddest of all.

Kok: Indeed, my friend. There are more unreported cases, because the victims are too afraid and sadly, ashamed of reporting the rape to the authoraties. Testifying will just make them re-live the trauma, which they are so fiercely trying to put out of their minds.

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