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7 Sure-Fire Ways to Prevent an Affair

However, for men, we can still have babies later in life. But only with a woman who is young enough to conceive. So our biology pulls men away from their mid-life wives into the arms of someone younger and more reproductively capable.

When he says, “I love you, but I’m not ‘in love’ with you” what he really means is that “I don’t feel that crazy, biological lust that makes me want to have you on the dining room table.” So what’s to do? You must talk about this reality. Confront the issue head on and learn that there is more to life than sex.

4. Learn Why Sex is Not the Answer to the Brain’s Big Question

According to author Mark Brady, there’s one big question that all brains want answered, and they want it answered, “Yes.” Parent’s brains, children’s brains, all brains. And they don’t want a lukewarm “Yes,” or a “Maybe Yes” or a “Getting-to-Yes Yes.” They want a substantial, resounding, unequivocal, “YES!” Yes.

Brady says that the brain’s big question is “Are You There For Me?” He tell us that our children’s brains (and our own as well!) are continually asking this basic question, whether we’re aware of it or not. The question takes many forms in children’s brains and resulting behavior, of course: Do I matter enough that you’ll put me first when I need you to – ahead of your job, ahead of your friends, even sometimes ahead of yourself? Can I count on you to attend to me in the ways I need you to? Do I truly and deeply matter to you? These questions are being asked – nonverbally through behavior often – and when they get answered “Yes,” our children can relax and begin to feel safe, just as we are often able to do in our own intimate and business relationships.

And this is a key issue. We have these needs for care and support throughout our lives. In fact, as we get older and we experience the inevitable losses of health and well-being, we need this support even more. Want to prevent an affair? Be there, really be there for your partner.

1. Zayn Malik has cheated on fiancee Perrie Edwards a bunch.

In one instance, a waitress who hooked up with Zayn Malik sold photos and her story to a tabloid. Most recently, Malik was spotted getting handsy with a blonde who was not his fiancee ... again. Perrie, girl, learn to love yourself. You don't need stateside relevance that badly.

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2. Zayn Malik is often targeted with bad behavior.

Zayn Malik has fallen victim numerous times to racist and Islamophobic attacks on social media, because, well, people are insane and stupid. No wonder the dude has a chip on his shoulder.

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3. Zayn Malik is a master of disguise.

Zayn Malik looks so hot as both a man and a woman, it's no wonder he's got a bit of an ego ... and no wonder he thinks he'll never get caught cheating.

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4. Zayn Malik uses his cuteness to try negating bad behavior.

Because how can you stay mad at a dude with the voice of an angel who's cuddling with a puppy?

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5. Zayn Malik may be trying to buy Perrie Edwards' forgiveness.

Zayn Malik is rumored to be constantly bedding groupies behind Perrie Edwards' back, but then he goes and buys her mom a house. (The same mom who's posted some horrifically racist and Islamophobic stuff on her own Facebook page, which may be another reason why Malik is working so hard to get in their good graces.) A better way to get a girl's family to like you is to not bang other women. Just, you know, as a rule.

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6. Zayn Malik is uncomfortable with fame.

Out of all the One Direction members, Zayn Malik has had the most trouble adjusting to the pressures and pitfalls of fame, which may explain (at least in part) why he's been acting out constantly.

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7. OMGZ! Zayn Malik smokes weed!

A scandalous video surfaced of Zayn Malik smoking a joint. If he weren't a tween idol in One Direction, no one would f*cking care ... but he is.

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8. He had no issues with Louis Tomlinson using the N-word.

In the same video in which Zayn Malik smoked a doobie, bandmate Louis Tomlinson dropped a few n-bombs, which Malik was apparently totally fine with (and even a little amused by).

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9. He's been expelled from school for fighting before.

Always a good sign.

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10. He didn't think bringing a BB gun to school was a big deal.

He toldSugar magazine, "I once got in trouble for having a BB gun at school. I didn’t shoot anyone, I just had it. It wasn't even mine but I got done for having an imitation firearm." Uh, yeah bro. You should've gotten in trouble.

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In one instance, a waitress who hooked up with Zayn Malik sold photos and her story to a tabloid. Most recently, Malik was spotted getting handsy with a blonde who was not his fiancee ... again. Perrie, girl, learn to love yourself. You don't need stateside relevance that badly.