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Every nationality have their own querks, beliefs, which makes them different. It could be good, bad or both. As for the Haitian men and women, we can easily say that the same applies.

Let us begin with the Haitian men. From a very early age, they are brought up in a very strict manner. They are brought up to be respectful to their elders, which of course is popular with most nationalities.

What makes the upbringing of Haitian men somewhat different than most, is that the parents will not think twice about pulling out the belt on them. Unlike the U.S, a child can call the police on a parent, as hitting a child is against the law.

There is no such thing in Haiti. In fact Haitian men born and raised in Haiti wll tell you they've been beating by parents, teachers, and sometimes even neighbors, if the parents felt it was deserved. As children, boys learn and see the fathers

working and being the bread provided for the house, while the mother spends most of the time taking care of the house, food, and the kids if they have any that is. Having had such a tough upbringing, Haitian boys find themselves repeating the same steps with their own kids once they themselves became fathers.

As for the Haitian women, they too are very respectful, caring, and loving towards their family. Unlike many nationalities, Haitian girls dating at a very young age is a big no no in Haiti. The whole idea of kids dating at a young age, or during high school years is forbidden by most Haitian parents. In the U.S, some parents actually drive their kids to meet another kid of the opposite sex for a date. As mentioned before, Haitian girls are not allowed to date at an early age, so Haitian parents think Americans are crazy for allowing this. As these girls grow up to become mature Haitian women, they too follow the same foot steps as the mothers. They mostly take the time to take care of the home and family. We must note that times are changing, and with changes, progression takes place. Some progression can be seen as either good or bad depending on the situation. One example is that Haitian women are more independent these days. They too work a lot, they too are the bread winners, and some are more stable than their male counterpart. This of course is tough for some of the men because it takes away from some of the powers that they feel they should have. In fact, many Haitian women describe the men as jealous, obsessive, and so on. Reason being some of the men are having a hard time adopting to the independency of their women.

As time goes by, we are seeing a big change with the Haitian men and Haitian women. The women are more understanding of their men and the Haitian men are beginning to accept the women being more independent. Overall, they are great people and many would be lucky to share the same morals and standards.

GQ posted this very interesting video about men's bodides. Women describe what types of bodies they like and dislike. Men, this may make you happy or it may not, but at least they are keeping it real. Who knows, maybe this could help you in one way or another.

Let's get right to it. Not every man knows how to keep a woman happy, but here are some great tips that will work. Although she’d probably appreciate a car, you don’t have to buy her a car. You also don’t have to take her out to expensive dinners every week or take her on a vacation to the beach or on a cruise. Women don’t have to be bought all of the time. Yes, there are some that do, but most don’t. All women really need is a little TLC and that’s what some people are doing for their women and keeping her happy in a relationship.

When you are concerned about keeping her happy in a relationship, it is all about the little things. Those things include:

Hugging her and meaning it rather than doing it out of obligation

Kissing her slowly rather than a quick peck on the cheek

Smiling at her just because you love her

Sharing secrets between one another rather than keeping secrets away from each other

Laughing with her when something is funny rather than looking at her like she’s crazy

Allowing her to hang out with you when you are out with your friends

If she says “I love you more,” fight her back and tell her how much you love her

Never hesitate to tell her how you feel about her

Keeping her happy in a relationship is about telling her she’s beautiful

Do little things like opening doors, walking her to her car, and meeting her for lunch

Hold her close when she is cold

Make love to her slowly rather than treating her like she’s an object

Don’t cheat on her

Don’t tell her lies because you will always be found out

Check in on her throughout the day to let her know you’re thinking about her

Always be the person she can count on no matter what

Stand up for her when someone else disses her

Grab her hand when you are walking together

Star gaze

Look deep into her eyes when you tell her how you feel

Help her around the house

If she’s upset, ask her what’s wrong and let her know you want to help

Take her where she wants to go

Hold her when she cries

Take long walks and talk about your plans for the future

Keeping her happy in a relationship is not rocket science. There are so many little things that you can do and you don’t necessarily have to go out of your way to do them. Show her you are not selfish and you will be proud of yourself. When you commit yourself to the relationship, doing those small things, you will find that you really enjoy them too. Basically, you’re not just doing your partner a great service by making them feel the way they should, but you are doing yourself a great service as well. In the end, you’re both happy.

It seems everyone you know is paired off. So how come you're still single? There are lots of possible reasons. Here are 11 biggies from Dr. Amir Levine, a psychiatrist in New York City and the co-author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment."

2. You Play Hard to Get

Do you pretend to be busy when asked out? Pretend not to care when you really do? Playing hard to get makes it hard to find Mr./Ms. Right. In fact, it's likely to attract just the sort of person who will make you unhappy: someone who doesn't feel comfortable being close.

Men fear commitment? Women are needy? Not necessarily. When it comes to relationships, people fall into one of three basic categories. "Secure" people are warm and loving and feel comfortable with intimacy. "Anxious" people seek closeness but worry their love won't be reciprocated. "Avoidant" people shun intimacy, valuing independence above all. And studies show most people are "secure."

Says Dr. Levine, "Most men and women really do want a close, committed relationship and won't act overly needy or try to push you away."

4. You're Fixated on Your Ex

Idealizing an old mate makes it hard to find a new one.

This is a particular problem for "avoidant" people: Uncomfortable with intimacy, they push their partner away. But once the relationship ends, their love resurfaces and they convince themselves that the failed relationship had been terrific. Then they compare every new person they meet to their idealized ex. Who can live up to that ideal?

5. You Think Love Conquers All

Certain red flags indicate you're dating someone with an "avoidant" attachment style - a person who is unlikely to make for a satisfying mate. Does he/she send you mixed signals? Tell you he/she needs a lot of space? Does he/she say or do things that make you feel like you represent some sort of "compromise?"

Maybe it's time to move on.

6. You Stick with a "Situationship"

Are you marooned in a "zombie relationship? Not getting much out of it but unable to end it? Yes, breaking up can be hard, in part because the mind is under the control of age-old "attachment circuitry" that encourages you to stick with your mate. Once you realize this, you've taken your first step out toward ending a bad relationship and moving on.

7. You're Stuck on "the One"

Maybe you have an ideal mate or relationship in mind and are determined to find that and only that. If so, it might take a very long time.

Getting stuck on "the one" is something "avoidant" people often do in order to keep true intimacy at bay. Instead of waiting for "the one," Dr. Levine recommends changing your mindset: Choose someone, allow him/her to get close, and make him/her special to you.

8. You're a Drama Junkie

Are you "addicted" to the highs and lows of unstable relationships? Lots of people are. They're drawn to emotionally unavailable people who make them work hard for every morsel of affection, while dismissing as boring those who are genuine and forthcoming. Eventually, this leads one to equate anxiety with love. That's not sustainable. Even worse, you let secure, loving people pass you by.

You Fear Becoming Dependent

Some people avoid committed relationships because they worry they'll become dependent on their mate. They think people must retain their independence at all costs.

Dr. Levine says this kind of relationship simply doesn't exist. "We're all hard-wired to become dependent," he says. "The trick is to find the right person to depend on."

9. You Let Mates "Mirandize" You

Police read the "Miranda" rights to people the arrest: "You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of a law." In a similar way, some people try to warn potential mates that they're "not ready for commitment," and think that doing so absolves them of any obligation to the other person.

If someone tries that on you, spell out your own expectations. Say you're looking for someone to be close to, someone who'll be there and care for you.

10. You Think You Should Wait...

Some people think they simply aren't worthy until they lose weight, amass a certain amount of money, etc. But there's no point in waiting, says Dr. Levine.

"If you're wary of getting out there - and this is especially true of people with an anxious attachment style - the best thing you can do is to start dating with a vengeance," he says. "You can find that special someone and improve while you're with them."

11. You Think Good Mates Are Scarce

Date infrequently, and you'll inevitably invest a huge amount of emotional energy into each new prospect. That's a sure recipe for disappointment.

Better to meet lots of people and desensitize yourself to inevitable dating setbacks. "Just go out there and date," says Dr. Levine.

It is amazing how a couple can be married, twenty, thirty, or even sixty years and still find that there is still so much that they don’t know about each other. The experts will say it is because the art of conversation was lost at some point in the relationship. Then there are those that say couples don’t allow conversation to continue after marriage. Everyday living happens and that separates couples instead of bringing them together.

No matter the case, it is very important that the marriage topics that are vital to a marriage are discussed. Even if a couple stays married for fifty years, not talking about the important marriage topics can result in them feeling distant. It is even possible for a little resentment to slip in there.

So here are some marriage topics that need to be discussed no matter how busy a married couple is:

It all starts with asking questions. Ask your partner what it is you do to make them feel most loved. It is good to know this so that you can keep doing it and even expand upon it by doing new things. New things keep a relationship fresh no matter how many years the marriage has behind it.

Ask your partner to list some of the most things in life that brings them satisfaction. Listen to these strengths and support them. If there is a certain activity that your spouse likes, then support that activity because it makes them feel good.

If you are a parent with children living at home, find out what your spouse believes makes a great parent. The two of you need to be on the same page when it comes to parenting and parenting is going to be one of the most important marriage topics that the two of you discuss.

Sex is also one of the most important marriage topics because that is what keeps you close. Have kids? They are going to be able to tell when there is some kind of tension between their parents.

Establish what values you want to have as a family and stick to them. Write them on a dry erase board if you have to so everyone is on the same page.

Discuss what you can do as a couple to change the world you live in. If it always seems like disaster is coming your way, then find out why. There is a reason why disaster is

always rearing its ugly head in your life.

Set goals for your marriage. Set goals for the year, the next five years, and the next ten years. If you set goals, then you are most likely to achieve what you want to achieve, especially if you are on the same page.

Of course, there are many other marriage topics for the two of you to discuss because, really, a marriage cannot survive without communication and ensuring that all of the wants and the needs are the same. Even the wants and needs that are different need to be addressed so that the two of you can remain happy.

There is no question that your birthday suit is sexy. However, it is fun to be mysterious and make your mate work to get to the prize by wearing something sexy for your mate. For women, this can be lingerie and for the men this can be a pair of leather bikini underwear with a zipper in the front. You are bound to find something that will appeal to your mate, so do it and see what happens. At the same time, if you are still wondering why wearing something sexy for your mate can be fun, here are some ideas and reasons why:

A woman wearing something sheer can make her partner want to peek, but peeking is a “no no” until she says so. She can tease and arouse without revealing the goods until she feels that it is time. She can choose simple lingerie or something that is very complicated, yet fun, to take off in order to prolong the intensity and make her partner feel as if she is a gift to be unwrapped. Lingerie can be see through, which adds an erotic element. There is something about see through clothing that can make her partner go wild. Some of what is underneath can be seen, but not all.

A man wearing a Speedo, especially one with easy access, such as a zipper, can take out the awkwardness of removing underwear, allowing the transition into sex to be much smoother and sexier.

Sometimes, a woman wearing something as simple as a little black dress can make her partner’s imagination run wild. Because a great deal of sex is psychological, a wild imagination can result in a wild romp in the sack. Wearing something sexy for your mate once in a while tells him or her that you still want to look nice for them. If the two of you have been together for a long time, it can be very easy to be comfortable and not think another thing about it. Making that extra effort to look nice says, “I love you” and tells them that you still see them as attractive.

Women tend to like it when their mate dresses in nice clothing that is trendy. For some women, this can be sexy and this can make her want to strip her mate’s clothes off to get to what is underneath the moment she has a chance to do so. If a guy combines his sexy outfit with some zip front leather underwear, the evening could be a fun one.

Couples are more likely to want to tear off sexy clothing than comfortable clothing. While sex is a need that everyone has, taking off the sweatpants and sweatshirt that your mate is wearing can seem rather odd. By wearing something sexy for your mate, the process of stripping can be more exciting. You can tease and make a game out of it in order to become so aroused neither one of you can stand it anymore. When arousal is strong, sexual intercourse is more intense and that makes it a more enjoyable experience for both of you. Basically, wearing something sexy for your mate once in a while is a great way to enhance your sex life.

When it comes to how to meet women, the nerves really spring into gear. This is because there is this misconception that women are extremely difficult to deal with. That’s just some women, though. There are some really great women out there who are uncomplicated and who are looking for the same things that you are. Of course, someone with the same interests as you is exactly what you need, so what you need to know is how to meet women with the same interests as you.

Here is how to meet women who aren’t your polar opposite:

Simply do an activity that you like. This can mean joining a club or another organization that will allow you to meet women. How to meet women isn’t so much about being in the presence of women as it is being in the right place to meet them. If you are interested in music and she is interested in movies, then you may not want to go there. You may want to choose someone who is interested in music, which means you are going to go somewhere where you can meet fellow music enthusiasts.

There is always your job. Of course, that is an interest that you can share with your love interest. However, this may not be the best way of how to meet women for the fact that office romances never really work out. Office romances are actually rather dangerous because you could risk your job and risk your reputation.

You can always turn to the Internet. There are a lot of dating sites out there that allow you to create a profile and use that profile to tell people about you. This is one of the most common ways of how to meet women for the fact that you can actually pick and choose based upon interests, income, and a variety of other factors.

You can turn to speed dating. It is a popular way of getting to know multiple people at once in order to find the one that makes you feel special. You can easily identify whether or not you mesh well with a person and take it from there.

Go to the park, take a jog, and see if you can find a jogger that jogs your instincts. You will know whether or not she is one to approach and, if she is, go ahead and ask her if you can run with her. Just make sure you can keep up with her so that she doesn’t upstage you.

How to meet women is not so much about what to say as it is making sure you are in the right place at the right time. When you are in the right place at the right time and a woman appeals to you, you will know what to say. From there, you just have to have the guts to do it. And yes, opposites may attract, but that’s not always the case. Go with someone who has something in common with you.