We were in New York for Thanksgiving and one of the days we went to Central Park. We arrived at the playground near Columbus Circle and I looked up and saw a red-tailed hawk high up in a tree. I was thrilled. Next thing I knew, it had flown down to a fence just ten feet away. It had its eyes on a nest of small birds in a bush.

It's world prematurity day this week. I wrote this article as a guest post for Castle View Academy on the impact that a pre-term birth can have on couples and some ways to deal with the stress. You can read it here.

David B. Younger, Ph.D is the creator of Love After Kids, helping couples with their relationships since having children. He is a clinical psychologist and couple’s therapist with a web-based private practice and a regular contributor to the Huffington Post. David lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, two kids and toy poodle.

​The election is over. The country is split. It’s my son’s 12th birthday. I’m still in shock. Yes, there’s a part of me that wants to move to Canada. There’s a part of me that wants to sulk and go dark. There’s a part of me that wants to refuse to accept what happened, find people to blame and soak in my self-righteous indignation. But I won’t. Here’s why…

To parents that feel similarly:We simply don’t have the luxury of self-indulgence. We cannot turn to hopelessness, hate, victimization and blame. We have to make more of an effort than ever to understand why this has happened, to understand the disenfranchised. Not all of the people that voted for Trump are xenophobic racists. We cannot lump millions of people into one homogenous group. We cannot let certain groups and outliers blind us to a more nuanced reality. That said, I cannot imagine the fear, anxiety and vulnerability that the millions of undocumented families and American Muslims must be experiencing right now. But it is in the spirit of compassion and comprehension that I feel we must speak and listen. We have to process this as citizens and parents. We have to find ways to discuss this with our children that does not further polarize future generations.