I had a talk with him in early October and told him that we needed to
set some ground rules and that the last visit was less than ideal and that he
could not just whole himself up in the basement if he comes to visit again. He
acted as I expected: Like a child: he was defensive and then got pouty and didn’t
call me for five days. But in the end, he didn’t come.

Now he is threatening to come for Christmas, just a short trip:
Christmas Eve or Day to the 27th. And Sophie could care less – and why
should she? He barely paid her a lick of attention last time which is
unbelievable to me because she is honest-to-God one of my absolute favorite
people to hang out with. She is fun! And funny! And a complete sweetheart.
Anyway, I was talking to O Jeffery! about this threat and he was like, “Well,
what are you going to say to him?” And I told him that if he comes and he pulls
the same crap he did last time, I will have to lay down the law. And I told
Jeffery exactly what I would tell my dad. Of course, it was easy to say what I
wanted to say to Jeffery; it won’t be so easy to say the same to my dad in
person.

I did warn him though that my mom probably would NOT be making a big
Christmas dinner; it is just too hard for her which is why we went out to eat
on Thanksgiving. You know – have to set up his expectations from the get-go and
I don’t want to hear any bitching about it later. He thinks he can cook and
always brags about that so why doesn’t HE cook US a big Christmas meal instead
of expecting my mom to wait on him hand-and-foot like she usually does?

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I’m inching closer to 40 every day. After being a divorced single mom for nearly a decade, I remarried to a man 10 years my senior (on 3/8/14) who treats me and my daughter like princesses:) I have a daughter, Sophie (born Oct. 2004) and a step-son, Ethan (born Sept. 2004) so essentially Jeffrey & I now have twins! I have a Beagle-mix named Chloë who is aging, has been treated for cancer, and is adorable and has lots and lots of nicknames. Here you’ll discover my “adventures” in single motherhood, divorce, dating, blending families, and why I’m a freak. Welcome and enjoy.

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