Not-the-Mama

by: Mace H. Greenfield (written in 1992)

Not-the-Mama is not only the amusingly irreverent title, affectionately given the daddy dinosaur by the baby dinosaur on the TV series Dinosaurs, but is also a societal stigma given fathers, especially separated and divorced fathers having custody. Not-the-Dada seems to be an un-conceived of concept (let’s hear about it single moms). Many capable, loving, nurturing fathers too easily give up custody during the separation and divorce process simply because of the Not-the-Mama syndrome. Yet, in this era of women’s lib and male sensitivity, other than the biological differences, what can one parent do that the other parent cannot? Answer: That depends on the individuals as individuals and not on their labels. Read more →