Single Man Fulfills Dream Of Becoming A Dad By Adopting 4 Disabled Children

Ben Carpenter wasn’t like many 21-year-olds. He knew exactly what title he wanted, and it didn’t revolve around an upcoming career.

Carpenter wanted to be a father and began the adoption process at the young age of 21. He attended a panel where votes determined whether or not he would move forward with the necessary recommendation.

“I’d worked with children and adults with complex needs so I knew adopting children with additional needs was my niche…My mother remembers me as a little boy wanting to be a daddy,” Carpenter shared a guest poster on the Full Time Tired blog.

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It felt like his “world crashed” when he did not get the recommendation. At 25, he was losing hope that he would ever be able to fulfill his dream of becoming a dad by adopting as a single man.

His social worker reminded him that he still had a chance with an overrule by the independent decision maker. Sure enough, Carpenter was approved!

Even though he’s a single dad to children with many needs, it hasn’t stopped him from having a social life. In fact, he explained in his guest blog post, “I’ve seen and done more things with the children than I would have done before adopting them.”

Carpenter has had an overwhelmingly positive experience adopting children with disabilities, but he has made sure to comment that it is not for everybody. His patient and loving nature combined with his excitement over the growth he has seen in his children have contributed to who he is as a father today.

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“I am not going to sugar-coat it because it’s not for the faint-hearted. You have to be 100% committed,” he told the Huddersfield Examiner.

Social workers and medical professionals must have thought they were dreaming when they saw some of the developmental improvements happening with the four children. Of course, Carpenter feels like he is the lucky one whose dream came true as he raises his four well-loved children.

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