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Sunday, 29 January 2017

Top 8 Online Dating Tips for Men: Secrets of Online Dating Success

Online dating has come to
stay, like it or not, that is the fact. While it has its disadvantages like
every other thing in the world, it is also full of benefits.

As a man who is actively
searching for a relationship, you would be looking at making use of online
dating to meet the right people. In order to reap the many benefits without
falling into its pitfalls, here are some tips to help you navigate for success

1.Know
Exactly What You Are Looking For

Imagine a pilot getting on a plane and flying it without
knowing where he is headed or what the reason for going there is. Jumping into
the world of online dating without starting with the clear picture of the sort
of woman you want to relate with and what you want out of that relationship is
similar to this. You will simply waste your time and end up getting nowhere.

Having a clear picture of who you want to meet gives you
a good idea of where you will go to in search for her. For instance, if you
want to date a University undergraduate, there is little chance of finding her
on a site for single parents.

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2.Pick
The Right Dating Site

After identifying the kind of woman you want to meet
online, the next step is to identify the sort of dating site she will most
likely be found at as highlighted above. There are a multitude of dating sites
out there, with some playing in niches. You can scan through various sites to
find the one at which you are most likely to find the sort of person you want
to meet. Sprocialhttps://www.sprocial.comfor instance is a site that gives working-class men and ladies a platform to
mingle.

3.Be
What Your Kind of Woman is Searching For

So, you have a clear picture of the type of woman you
want to hook up with. But before you jump right into connecting with her, ask yourself
one question: ‘Are you the kind of man she is searching for?’ Most women want a
good-looking, responsible man who has a good source of income, is fun to be
with and behaves like a gentle man. But with different classes of women comes a
few more specifics. A single mom or woman looking out for a relation that is
headed for marriage, would want a man that loves kids; a young career woman
would want an upwardly mobile, ambitious partner. Once you have identified the
kind of woman you want to connect with, you also need to know what she wants in
a man and be ‘that thing’.

This is not saying you should pretend to be what you are
not, it is simply telling you to search inwardly for those characteristics that
match with what your dream woman would desire and express these on your online dating profile.

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4.Your
Profile Picture is Your First Selling Point

Your profile picture is your first selling point, make it
count. Put up a picture that puts you in good light but is still very close to
what you really look like. It is always a huge turn-off when someone turns out
to be nowhere close to what they look like n their profile picture. It also
seems very deceitful.

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5.Make
Your First Message Count

Seen a lady you like and it is now time to get her
attention with a message? Do not waste it on a generic ‘hi’ or ‘how are you
doing?’ Make a good impression with a message that will make her to want to
know more about you; a message that will stand out from the sea of messages that
throng her inbox daily. For instance, you can start up with a brief intro on
yourself, highlighting interesting facts that will make her want to check your
profile to know more about you, such as:

"Hi, I am Tobi. I
travel a lot for work and spend a lot of time in different African cities. I
love going to the gym, playing scrabble and also going out to great bars &
restaurants and having fun. What about you?"

6.Don’t
Talk To Everyone; Be Selective

It’s tempting when you are on a dating site with
thousands of profiles of beautiful women to just tap away and message as many
of them as you can. Resist the temptation. Take your time to identify the few
profiles that fit into what you want and talk to even fewer of these at a time.
This is because, trying to chat up numerous women at a time dilutes the quality
of your conversation and focus. You therefore have less chance of holding the
attention of any of these women than you would if you concentrate on just one
or a few.

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7.Lead
and Steer the Conversation

Women are naturally way more reserved than men,
especially African women. And many are even more so online. It’s up to you to
not only start the conversation, but keep it going by constantly driving in the
direction you want. Women also like men that take charge, but do not over-do it,
so you do not come off as pushy and over-bearing.

8.Never,
Ever Be Dishonest

The greatest harm you can do to your online dating
prospects is to misrepresent yourself or try to be deceptive either on your
profile pic/details or during chats. Once a woman discovers a man is lying or
being dishonest in an online conversation, her alarm bell goes off. It is worse
than if you gave a face-to-face lie, because she can’t see you and immediately
thinks the worst of the person on the other end of the keyboard. And it’s even
worse if you tell her lies online which she finds out about when you meet her physically.
Earning trust online is a difficult process, you don’t want to lose the trust you
have worked hard to earn because of a lie or act of deception.