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Doc_n_Janine actually have a valid point. As it's often been said "one person's ceiling is another's floor". We think a lot of the confusion comes from the preferences folks list in their profiles. For example if you're Soft Swap how can you list yourself as "Wild" or (conversely) if you're Full Swap how can you be "Tame"?

We do sympathize with you though, as we've been contacted a few couples that we thought we would be very compatible with (Motorcycling, Concerts, dinner/movies, etc.) thinking we might begin a friendship. But after a few conversations were told that unless they were both getting laid that there was no sense in continuing any further.

Bottom line, you shouldn't settle for anything less than what you're looking for... you won't be happy with anything less. You may have to expand your search beyond your local area to find what you're looking for. But as long as you're being up-front about who you are and honest about your wishes/desires be confident and you will find what you're seeking.

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I like it all, just the other night the wife and I were talking and I mentioned that I enjoy the soft part of being with a couple more so then have intercourse. There is nothing better then touching another woman's breast or squeezing her butt while we all sit around talking and drinking a little wine. I have always been that way and we both enjoy the conversation we can have with Lifestylers. They are more open and in most cases more honest. They know as we do they aren't going to go out there and tell the world what we do.

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We think people that are ONLY full swap simply dont know how to really play...for them it is simply sticking in a hole. Shit, we can do that anytime...but to find a married couple (real couple) that knows there is more to sex than filling an orifice, that is a prize we look for!

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Sweetart you do show on the interest scales that you have a little interest in soft swap and moderate. Maybe you should remove it if you are only interested infull swap.

Beaufort SC

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Maybe you should try Craigslist. Swings go in two directions. Hence the name Swinging.This lifestyle is about swapping partners. The Soft Swap notion is "one sided" depending on your definition. Its called "playing" because it is spontaneous. It is not fun to play sexually when you cannot act natural. There is little arousal when we cannot act sexually with your spouse as we do with each other. That is what the lifestyle is about. Sharing the wonderful sexual experience we have with our significant other.

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There needs to be a version of this site for soft swappers only. We keep running into people that say they're ok doing what we're into but they always flake out saying they're not. It's getting old.

Most people here are full swap. The overall mentality is "why should we play at a lesser level when we can get the real thing whenever we want?".

There's really no point in talking about it because the number of people into soft swap is so small here. Even in the soft swap forum we're probably going to get flamed by full swappers saying we suck.

If you're not ok with soft swap, take the "tame" and "moderate" off of your profile and stop getting soft swappers hopes up.

Where are the real soft swappers? Is anyone aware of a network of them here on the site? We'll drive for the right people. Given the low numbers of people we've been finding who are cool with what we're into, we'll drive a long way for the right people... we just need to find them.