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I should not have read that thread!

Those parents of children with special needs will attest to the dark world of facebook and parents of typical children’s posts. Most are just a reminder of the things our children can’t or will never do, all those little things our children get excluded from, but that is not their fault, it is nice that they can share these wonderful moments about their children.

Then there are those moments, like today when you just know full well that you should NEVER read the 29 comments before yours on a photo that says

I send my daughter to school only for this to happen to her face not a happy bunny

The picture showed a girl who used to be in Dinky’s class until she moved to a better school, with two long scratches on her face, they don’t look deep, but I did feel for the child. I have in the past received a text from the same mum regarding an incident with Dinky, where Dinky was unable to take her turn and punched the girl in the stomach. I discussed it with her and apologised for the incident, I had told her previously that Dinky struggled socially and with things like waiting and sharing, and it wasn’t brattish behaviour, but Dinky was being assessed for autism. Which she seemed ok about. The replies.. well, I did read them. I shouldn’t have because they made me so cross!

Did they tell u how it happened ?

(the mum) Yep a girl in her class went on the rampage scratching and hitting others (has SEN)x

Omg tell them her aunty is coming not happy !

(the mum) They just told her off I would have sent her to the head x

Who’s been bitch scratching my lil chicken 😦 x

Well I am sure if [child] turned round and did it back she would get told of not one rule for one and one for the other my poor niece horrible child

That’s not on

(the mum) Girl in her class x

(the mum) I don’t condone fighting but told her to stick up for her self , she said no mummy I did one better I told my teacher x

Ill bitch scratch the mother (fucker ) hahahahaha

She’s just to cute 🙂 xx

dont condone violence yeah cos we were little angles lmao x

(the mum) Hahah one scratch and the mother of the child would fall over lol x

(the mum) Yes we are angelic and model citizens

Maybe now lol x

(the mum) Lol indeed I am x

Let’s go 🙂 haha 🙂 best make sure her face is clean 🙂 u don’t no what u can catch now a days 😉 bet it was a fucking forneigher child to ! Xxxx

(the mum) No it wasn’t xb

Phahahaha all the laughing ur making me do is giving me a headache xx

(the mum) I can’t go to scratch someone and stop mid scratch and say sorry love can you just wipe your face lol x

(the mum) You give me a headache every day x no it’s not on I’m disgusted x

I bet u r I would be too but teachers and school never seem to punish kids ‘like that’ ,I remember my boy getting stabbed under his eye with a paint brush by some ‘special kid’ I was livid and wanted it sorted they assured me it would be turns out they just sent him to some quiet room which he enjoyed then he gave my boy a half hearted sorry cos he was made to but I’d bet anything if my boy had done it he would’ve been suspended grrr , rant over

I had this when my oldest was punched and scratched the school let the boy of cos he had problems tell me if he was older and hit a policeman would it b ok cos he has problem

probs behavioural aka bad parents

(the mum) It’s Absolutley disgusting all kids should be treated the same race religion or disability shouldn’t be one rule for one child and 20 for others

Exactly I’ve always said that they should treat kids any different regardless if they have probs or not ,its no wonder they all grow up disfunctional .

Ment shouldn’t treat kids any different grr lol x

[ME] Poor girl! I really hope those marks heal soon, she did the right thing by going to the teacher… You must be proud of her 🙂 xxI will say though, I have a girl who is a ‘special kid’ and goes on rampages, not because she has behavioural problems, but because the school do not know how to look after her. I have felt awful when another child, or adult has been hurt. Yes Dinky gets excluded, but she doesn’t actually understand that it is a punishment, to her it is great- no school. Not all kids can be treated the same, it might sound unfair, but you wouldn’t ask a kid in a wheelchair to climb up 3 flights of stairs because the other 29 children have to. Just because you can’t see a disability doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Who Dunn it I’ll go sort em out , give em a slap and a scratch . That’s nasty some kids can be right horrible little shits. Hope she ok x

if a child has done something wrong excluding them is not going to do anything they see it as fun because they get to stay at home and play wih there toys .

Just didn’t have the energy to correct her by saying that Dinky doesn’t get to play with toys when she is excluded.

I don’t see why they would talk about going after the child’s parents. Like that will help.. at all!

It is this sort of persecution that makes me glad I do not have to go into the playground anymore and face those stares from parents who know Dinky was in nurture, because they just do not know any different. Or the whispers between parents about me being the mum of the girl climbing on the gates when she should be in class.

It is funny how not 1 of them mentioned that the school should have had a better grip of the situation and evacuated the other children to safety, no they were all up for violence. It is sad that this is the society that we live in (and people wonder why I don’t socialise!).

I honestly can not wait for Dinky to go to a special school, then people’s reactions to their difficulties becomes one of understanding and (as much as I detest it) sympathy, rather than being made out to be a monster or hear ‘behavioural aka bad parents’.

It is horrible to see how ignorant people can still be in the 21st century- I should not have read that thread!

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Hello, my name is Julia and I’m an adult living with a diagnosis of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). I also have a diagnosis of ADHD and Psychotic Episodes. PDA is a lifelong Pervasive Developmental Disorder and was first described by the late Prof. Elizabeth Newson in 1980. PDA is an Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Despite PDA being older than me (just) there are still massive gaps in its recognition, peoples’ understanding and its diagnosis by professionals. I’m one of the lucky ones and this is my story…….