He was a very fortunate kitty to have such a loving home where someone would do so much to help him with his needs all these years. He got his full life in spite of his disability, because of you. I can only imagine how empty the house must feel now.

Thank you for your kind words. The part I can't get my head around is that Trooper was fine for 13 years. Then the ankle in his back left paw went and in less then 2 years it progressed up to his kidneys. What happened to bring the paralysis back ?

As parents we never feel like we did enough. We wanted to get him a cart. When we looked around at cats and carts we decided that Trooper would not tolerate "wearing" the vest or harness needed so we didn't get one. We could have learned to express his bladder and get him to accept baths. I wish we had.

we all second guess ourselves
we all tell ourselves we might have been able to do more
but at the time you made the best decisions you could based on what you felt you coudl handle. and no one but you knows what that is.
you gave Troopee a good life, I'm glad I got to meet him.
and i'm sorry it has taken me so so long to reply to this.