Hi, I'm at home with my two girls and they attend the local school which for me is walking distance, it suits be cause some weeks I don't hsve diesel in my car anyway recently my sister has become reliant on me to pick up her kids from a school I hsve to drive too, I've recently made myself Unavailable to do this and now it seems I'm the worst in the world because I'm not available to help out , she doesn't be well and this is the reason sge needs the help but I'mWarn out with my own two plus I already do two school pick ups, if I was working I wouldn't be called upon at all, I just feel it's been taking for granted now and I feel bad saying no at times, I'd just love some advise!

Would very much depend on relationship with sister. If she's the type who's happy to take advantage then I wouldn't have found myself in that situation to begin with. Take the job. If that doesn't work out you can always tell sister you quit cos you'd hands full with your own kids.

Of course you can. You tell you sister and her husband that you are not available and that they should arrange the bus instead. Being utterly straight and honest is the best way on this, rather than stressing yourself trying to juggle everything.

If this is long term, then I think that a long term solution needs to be put in place. So, if this is a case where your sister arranges and pays someone to pick up her children, or arrange for them to go on a school transport system, or she need to consider moving them to a school that they can walk home from.

Clearly without knowing all the factors and distances involved, we really can't come up with a solution here. But relying on favours and good will is not a stable enough arrangement.

Speak to your sister's partner/carer and try and come up with something.