Been a few people who have this problem and it's usually nothing to worry about. Everyone has a sexual down-time now and again whether it be from a change in diet, medication, weather, hormones or just for no real apparent reason at all. It should come back eventually though. Don't worry!

Meanwhile, you could still enjoy a sensual massage or using a sex toy on your OH instead of yourself. Don't pressure yourself and it should be back soon.

Or, alternitively you could track down Dr Evil and have a to-the-death battle to claim your mojo back!

LOL!

Thanks for the comment. I'm hoping it does, although im not fully feeling it - im missing it.

Maybe i should be more laid back about it and try and not think about it and it will come naturally again

Theres loads of factors that can have an effect on your sexdrive.....stress, general wellbeing, illness......its completely normal...everyone has ups and downs..........i go through phases too......its just one of those things..........please dont worry about it.......it will come back............;)

Have had a lot going on in my life recently though which has no doubt had a knock on effect. A lot of stress and slight depression etc.

Depression is one of the worst things for sex drive hun. Honestly don't think about it too much. And 2 weeks is nothing! Toxi and AA are totally right. It happens to all of us at some stage or another for various reasons. Just dont put any pressure on yourself. I also think that sensual massages and touching your partner without it having to lead to sex is a great idea...especially if you're feeling down. You probably need the intimacy but if you're not feeling sexy then dont take it quietly onto yourself and feel bad. You'll be fine, just go easy on yourself!

Have had a lot going on in my life recently though which has no doubt had a knock on effect. A lot of stress and slight depression etc.

Depression is one of the worst things for sex drive hun. Honestly don't think about it too much. And 2 weeks is nothing! Toxi and AA are totally right. It happens to all of us at some stage or another for various reasons. Just dont put any pressure on yourself. I also think that sensual massages and touching your partner without it having to lead to sex is a great idea...especially if you're feeling down. You probably need the intimacy but if you're not feeling sexy then dont take it quietly onto yourself and feel bad. You'll be fine, just go easy on yourself!

Yeah im hoping i fall back into it soon.

I might try the massage option and just being close to him in other ways to slowly kick start things maybe.

good luck with it hun. Just try not to worry too much about it. It will come back soon enough. Massages are great and theres lots of lovely massage goodies on here...also theres games you might want to try etc...but it depends on whats going on inside you. You might just need a bit of time and some loving affection at the mo?

I agree with the others hun, whatever you do don't pressure yourself, it will just make it worse and make a huge deal out of it. I'm sure it'll come back, I go through phases like that where I just have no interest in sex at all. Just comes back when i'm not expecting it! xx

After the birth of our youngest my wife lost hers, Its still not back properly, we went from 2 to 3 times aday to 2 or less a month. now were at about 3 times a week. We tried lots of things, we bought lots of things that never got used (now getting through them), she has changed her diet she also takes some supliments which seem to help.

As the male part of the relationship i found i wanted sex so much that when we finally did have sex it wasnt as good as i wanted it to be because it had been so long and because i didnt know when i was getting some more.I also find that when im without sex i want it and when i get it i want more and more.

Hello as the others have said it's normal! I find the more sex or sexual contact i have the more i want! You said about going back to basics, i think you are right and some times we forget about the massaging, kissing and touching, i did a special night for my oh around Valentines day, i cleaned the house, ran him a bath, got a couple of bottles of champagne, played manogamy, (if you haven't got this game i reccomend it ) and had a lovely night maybe doing something like that would help? Good luck xx

As the male part of the relationship i found i wanted sex so much that when we finally did have sex it wasnt as good as i wanted it to be because it had been so long and because i didnt know when i was getting some more.

Yes, I know that feeling!

Hi SexiBum, when you say your drive has gone, do you mean you aren't having a lot of sex, or are you just "going through the motions" for your partners benefit?

My wife found that when we were having sex even less, her libido went through the floor, even though she enjoyed it when we did get round to it. She decided to make a concious effort, and try and do it once or twice a week, and she found that as she was having more sex, she wanted it more. This may be far away from what you are experiencing, as in our low point I was lucky if we were doing it once a month, but I just thought I'd share my experience.

As the male part of the relationship i found i wanted sex so much that when we finally did have sex it wasnt as good as i wanted it to be because it had been so long and because i didnt know when i was getting some more.

Yes, I know that feeling!

Hi SexiBum, when you say your drive has gone, do you mean you aren't having a lot of sex, or are you just "going through the motions" for your partners benefit?

My wife found that when we were having sex even less, her libido went through the floor, even though she enjoyed it when we did get round to it. She decided to make a concious effort, and try and do it once or twice a week, and she found that as she was having more sex, she wanted it more. This may be far away from what you are experiencing, as in our low point I was lucky if we were doing it once a month, but I just thought I'd share my experience.

I have the same experiences as both of you gents. Lately my OH has been making that conscious effort and it makes her more inclined to think that way and I have hope it will get up to a satisfying level sometime.

As the male part of the relationship i found i wanted sex so much that when we finally did have sex it wasnt as good as i wanted it to be because it had been so long and because i didnt know when i was getting some more.

Yes, I know that feeling!

Hi SexiBum, when you say your drive has gone, do you mean you aren't having a lot of sex, or are you just "going through the motions" for your partners benefit?

My wife found that when we were having sex even less, her libido went through the floor, even though she enjoyed it when we did get round to it. She decided to make a concious effort, and try and do it once or twice a week, and she found that as she was having more sex, she wanted it more. This may be far away from what you are experiencing, as in our low point I was lucky if we were doing it once a month, but I just thought I'd share my experience.

I sometimes feel like i'm going along with it at the moment to please the OH as i dont want him to be offended and think its him etc. He knows im having issues with it all at the moment and he also a little unsure on how to approach me about it.

Im not as lucky as most of you on here lol - i dont live with my OH so only get attention from him at weekends. So once a week if im lucky is my lot.

Once i start though i do agree with the rest of you i want it more and more. Which is how we had got before i lost it. Ive now just no up and go to do it. Its frustrating me as well