2. A way to give yourself an edge.
Take a look at your own texting habits and discover
how to kick it up a notch. Differentiate yourself.
Make them want you. Permanently.

3. Plan your journey to accomplish your goal.
Whether you met five minutes ago, or five years ago,
to reach their heart, you’ll need a plan. Our free report will put you
on the right track.

4. Five rules for reeling them in.
Every man and woman has certain hard-wired behavior patterns.
Respect them and you’ll be in their arms. Violate them, and you’ll be
out the door. We spell them out for you.

5. Tips on how to make yourself a “must have”.
Start learning the art of French seduction – create real desire and watch
your texts invade more than just their in-box. Text the miles – or life’s
boring ingrained routine – away.

6. Blog updates to keep you pumping out passion.
A guided tour through a wealth of text situations you’re likely to face,
helping you weather the crises and excel in the opportunities.

7. The keys to unleash your creativity.
Show you. Discuss them. Have fun! We’ll give you plenty of tips and ideas
to help you become a better texter, and a better catch.

The Importance Of Authentic Communication

Have you ever texted someone something only to later regret it? “Why on earth did I write that? That was totally out of character!” you might say to yourself. Sometimes we say things to be a part of the moment. If a conversation is taking a particular direction, we get influenced by the crowd and add our own two cents to keeps things flowing.

It is only later when we reflect on the conversation that we really wish we would have kept our mouth shut because we said something we don’t believe at all. We just said it simply to look cool, knowledgable or feel a part of something.

It is not authentic communication.

We don’t truly know what we believe in, so we just say something for the sake of it.

Finding Your Values

When I was younger, I was so easily swayed by the opinions and advice of others.

If I was asked to help out at an event, join a team or support a cause, I would do it. I didn’t give it a second thought. Even if it was something I wasn’t interested in.

Was I a Yes person? Yes, You could say that 🙂

I hadn’t defined my values.

I was doing anything and everything, saying yes to everyone simply because I didn’t know who the real me was.

If I didn’t live by any values, how could I object to anything?

I was a chameleon, a shapeshifter who was confused about who I was and what I wanted.

I was inauthentic. And this was reflecting in the things I said to people. My life was void of authentic communication. One moment I was praising something, and the next I was damning the very same thing.

Authentic Communication And Your Identity

Once I realized this, I started to try and find my identity. I wrote down a list of values that meant something to me.

I read lots of books, listened to podcasts, networked with all kinds of people, all in a bid to find out who I was.

We all go through this process at some time or another. Some of us get lucky and discover our core values when we’re teenagers, while others are still lost and searching well into middle-age.

Heartbreakingly, some of us never discover what or who we really are at all.

The problem with being inauthentic and having no sense of what our values are is that we are inauthentic communicators. This means that we’re presenting distorted versions of ourselves to other people.

The Importance Of Authentic Communication

Authenticity in communication is important for a few reasons.

First, authentic communication helps to establish trust with the other person. If someone doesn’t believe you’re being authentic, they’re not going to trust you.

Trust is fundamental in so many areas of your life, from business to relationships.

Secondly, authentic communication helps us to inspire and influence others.

After all, if people believe that you are being authentic, they are far likelier to listen and take on board what you have to say.

And they are far likelier to act.

Steve Jobs, former chief of Apple, was known to be a great speaker. His speeches were captivating, not only because of the breadth of his ideas but because he was authentic.

People knew that this was a man they could trust and believe in. They knew that if they listened to him and took on board what he was saying, they would win.

Being an authentic communicator like Steve Jobs starts with YOU. You have to know yourself inside out.

But how do you go about doing this? According to an interesting article in the Huffington Post, there are a few ways:

Discover Your 3 Key Values

Limiting oneself to three key values is, of course, wholly abstract, and you’ll no doubt eventually find that you have more than just 3.

But three is a good start; it gives you a platform from which to build your communication around.

Once you learn what your three key values are, every choice you make will be centered around them – and so will everything you say.

Shake Off Your Fear

Sometimes, we walk around wearing masks because we’re scared of revealing our true selves to people.

“They won’t like me for who I really am,” we say sadly.

This is a fear that needs to be shaken off.

Remember, you are not obligated to please anybody. But if you continue living your life as someone else’s ideal, you will be left with a whole heap of regrets later on.

About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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