I understand totally, because you'd have to add Kalamar, and that's a big headache

That's pretty much it, when I start allowing more it becomes harder for me to draw a line to stop at.

yup, i understand as well. i had this same discussion with a friend and co-player who allows all d20 content in the games he runs. =P i had to explain that i drew my line at whatever wotc says is official which is quite a lot of content when all is said and done. his response seemed to me to be something on the order of 'well, that's kinda silly, but okay if that's what you want'. ^^

he had a hard time understanding why i was being so "limiting & restrictive" when in the past we've gleefully used multiple game systems for our sessions and simply did the math to translate equivalent stats, effects, and damage (we had some pretty epic characters and stories using mix-n-match elements of whatever we wanted from Palladium, TSR, and SJG all in a single concept back in the day)

(and let me tell you from personal experience, taking gurps and rifts element-using characters into d&d yields system shatteringbreakageannihilation apocalypse on a level above and beyond what d&d provides in self-context. you know, reflecting upon it, it was kinda like playing synnibarr when you toss out and reroll any bad rolls. yes, i've actually played synnibarr.)

i confess that i'm not always happy with the amount of stuff that winds up being official and the content is highly variable in quality, but i figured that what the owner says is official was the firmest definition i was going to find. (and recently i've discovered things that should be there, but simply aren't, grrrrr.)

http://www.d20pfsrd.com/path-of-war/classes/warder The Warder's 1st level Defensive Focus ability lets them use Int in place of Dex to determine the number of AoOs allowed per round from the Combat Reflexes feat. The Warder also gains Int to CMD to defend against enemies using Acrobatis to avoid an AoO.

The Warder's 4th level Tactical Acumen ability allows them to use Int in place of Dex for Reflex saves and Initiative rolls.

Finally, the 19th level Born of Steel ability adds Int to AC against critical confirmation rolls.

http://www.d20pfsrd.com/path-of-war/classes/stalker The Stalker class's Combat Insight ability lets them add their Wis mod to Reflex saves and Initiative as an Insight bonus at 2nd level. It adds onto and does not replace Dex. At 8th level the Stalker adds their Wis mod as a competence bonus to confirm critical hits.

Dodge Bonus: When using a full-round action to recover maneuvers, the character adds their Wis mod as a dodge bonus to AC.

Misc Stalker abilities:

Alacrity: Gain Wis bonus to Acrobatics checks.Deadly Recovery: When recovering maneuvers, gain use of Combat Reflexes feat and use Wisdom in place of Dex for number of AoOs.

Warlord stuff isn't included yet because it's kinda crazy how many things the Charisma mod can apply to.