What have you done when ...

What have you done when ... something concerning a friend or family member is "wrong". (I guess this could extent to people you know, but wouldn't call a friend)Examples - If you're friend isn't going out with a good person, or you just don't like said person.- A family member has a bad habit. - Someone you know is doing drugs.- You found out a friend is cheating on his girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse. - You saw someone cheat on a test or shoplifting- Your friend lied to someone else right in front of you.

Also how did you feel with what you ended up doing in the situation.

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My what have I done:- "Friend going out with someone I didn't like"So far this has happened ... twice. One was with my friend going out with an ex boyfriend of mine.(errr long story), but I just told her I'm happy that she's happy, but just to be careful. The other time I just got a bad vibe from the guy. I told her that I have a feeling that he's not a good person, so please keep that in mind that it's possible I may be right. I didn't push any further.

- "Found out a friend of mine was cheating on his girlfriend"Yeah ... sadly I just kept quite. I mean he was my friend, and although I did voice "seriously wtf" to him, I never said anything to his gf. I don't know, I felt bad not saying anything, but at the same time I didn't lose any sleep over it ... Actually he did that to ... three of his girlfriends. Like I said he's my friend I wasn't theirs. I think he's an okay friend, but I would never date him.

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- "Know someone that was getting physically abused by person they are dating"*sigh* this has happened twice already, and they were both family members. What I did ... I kept quiet and listening to them. (Note I was 6 and 7 when this happened). For one of them she's still with the guy, but luckily he stopped hitting her. The other, she left him. Honestly I felt horrible not saying anything, but as I said before I was a kid ... *sigh* Having dealt with those events before if it were to happen again with a friend or another family member I would still just listen, and stay quiet. I would want the person to know I am against her(or him) staying with the person, but I'm always here to help if needed. Something one of them had said "No matter what anyone says or does it's up to the person getting abuse to decide when to leave, and there's nothing you can do to speed up the process" However if that person ends up in the hospital I probably would tell the cops everything. ( ehhh that would get complicated though if the person still wouldn't want to leave after that) ...

- "Someone shoplifting".... I didn't say anything to get them in trouble, but I did try to drill in into them of the consequences and pleaded with them to stop. How I said I told you so when they got caught. ahhh I'm not a nice person.

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- A family member has a bad habit.Everyone has bad habits, depends how bad we are talking about. If it's something that can harm them or others (though even then it's a tough call, take smoking for example) then bring it up and go from there.

- Someone you know is doing drugs.Unless they are in danger of falling into an addiction or are in danger of really harming themselves, I won't really step in.

-You found out a friend is cheating on his girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse.Lol, stay out of it. I don't care who it is about never will I put myself in that situation. I've had too many bad experiences with stuff like that. It's best to let things play out, not take sides, and hope they settle everything themselves.

- You saw someone cheat on a test or shopliftingI've done it before so power to you, bro.

- Your friend lied to someone else right in front of you.I've done it before so more power to you, bro.

But yeah, everything depends on the circumstances.

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