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Topic : Being a Good Friend

What does it mean to be a good "friend"? Has someone shown you the true meaning of friendship? Share your story here.

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I guess I don't understand

Hi,

I haven't been on the boards in many months but have an issue I am dealing with that I would greatly appreciate comments, ideas, suggestions. A coworker and I went to lunch one day, she told me I was her best friend. I was honored but surprised because this person can have any friend she wants and does have many. Anyway, I have been a great friend to her---the thing is, I am always the one who asks to do things, or calls, or goes to see her or emails. My question, I thought being best friends was doing things with eachother to get to know one another? Am I wrong?
We don't work together anymore but live close by eachother. She seems intimidated by her husband if I am at her house and he comes home--she has to go. I don't understand that. He and I seem to get along okay. My husband is more than happy to let me do things with my friends. I dearly love this person as a friend and want our friendship to grow, get to know her better, and establish memories together. We asked her and her husband to dinner one night and she declined. Don't even remember the reason. That really hurt my feelings. They have been married for 8 or 9 years, his second and her third. I don't dare ask her to do anything if he is home. So, is it me? Am I hoping for to much? Could you guys please shed your thoughts on this? Thanks!

Ask her.

Ihaven't been on the boards in many months but have an issue I am dealing with that I would greatly appreciate comments, ideas, suggestions.A coworker and I went to lunch one day, she told me I was her best friend. I was honored but surprised because this person can have any friend she wants and does have many. Anyway, I have been a great friend to her---the thing is, I am always the one who asks to do things, or calls, or goes to see her or emails. My question, I thought being best friends was doing things with eachother to get to know one another? Am I wrong?
We don't work together anymore but live close by eachother. She seems intimidated by her husband if I am at her house and he comes home--she has to go. I don't understand that.He and I seem to get along okay.My husband is more than happy to let me do things with my friends. I dearly love this person as a friend and want our friendship to grow, get to know her better, and establish memories together. We asked her and her husband to dinner one night and she declined. Don't even remember the reason. That really hurt my feelings. They have been married for 8 or 9 years, his second and her third. I don't dare ask her to do anything if he is home.So, is it me? Am I hoping for to much? Could you guys please shed your thoughts on this? Thanks!

If she considers you her best friend, I don't think she would mind if you asked her what gives. We can all speculate till the cows come home, but you are the one who knows her. I've learned from sad experience that assuming what other's thoughts and motivations are can get you nowhere, or at worst, in trouble. Communication is the key here.

Looking For Friends Too Talk Too

Hi All I'm ShortyLock I'm 33 Married for 7 years as of Aug 22, I'm looking for friends who just want too talk and joke around with. I live in KY. I am a HUGE fan of Vince Gill and I hope too meet him one day. I love too sing. I collect Train Sets Water Globes Pepis Glasses. I love to write short stories. I am currently working on opening a Cafe here. That is my main goal to fine some true blue friend or friends. I hope too hear from you soon. Bye for now Shortylock,.....

My Best Friend: How We Met 14 Years Ago

I met my Best Friend of 14 years on the first day of second grade. She was the shy blonde, skinny girl sitting at the end of the table. Everyone else was talking and laughing-- I could see that she was feeling a little lonely and scared-- perhaps she was new?&nbsp

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Well I decided that she and I were going to be friends right there (haha I hadn't exactly asked her opinion on the idea yet) so I walked up to her and told her, "hi my name is Allie do you want to be my new friend?" To this day I can't believe I was so direct, but I was 8 years old! I think I still subscribe to that policy...&nbsp

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Well we started talking, played at recess and had sleep overs...even when my parents divorced and I moved over 300 miles away we kept in contact with letters and pictures. She invited me to her 16th birthday party and we sent each other invitations to our graduation ceremonies.&nbsp

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Since we've been in college Alishah and I have seen more of each other. Every year we get together around my birthday to go to The Texas Renaissance Festival and catch up. She has since moved across the country and we don't get to talk often. &nbsp

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However, when I was in France we still kept in contact via email, IM and now we are emailing and have our own blog together: http://friendshippixie.blogspot.com/ so that we can post and have fun online. &nbsp

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I love my Alishah and thank God every day that we were able to find each other!&nbsp

looking for a friend too

Hi All I'm ShortyLock I'm 33 Married for 7 years as of Aug 22, I'm looking for friends who just want too talk and joke around with. I live in KY. I am a HUGE fan of Vince Gill and I hope too meet him one day. I love too sing. I collect Train Sets Water Globes Pepis Glasses. I love to write short stories. I am currently working on opening a Cafe here. That is my main goal to fine some true blue friend or friends. I hope too hear from you soon. Bye for now Shortylock,.....

Hi ShortyLock!

I am jyakfour. I am 38, Married 12 years as of Aug 14, Happy Anniversary by the way!

I am from Calgary Alberta Canada. This is so cool because I love snow globes too and I think that Vince Gill has the most gorgeous eyelashes ever and he doesn't look bad in a pair of jeans either lol.

You have no idea how long I have been waiting to see a message board for someone just like me who likes to talk and joke. I do hope that person is you. I have visited the U.S. but not KY, I am sure it is very pretty there as I have seen pictures, and most of the states I have visited were very nice. Well I hope that we can become friends, it sure would be nice to get to know someone from the U.S.