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Men have privilege when it comes to sexual harassment, and I don't see that being acknowledged here. Gender is relevant. Yes, men can be sexually harassed but they have different experiences from women.

What should matter is the argument I put forward.

I didn't see an argument here, just your judgment and claim based on nothing but your personal opinion. Furthermore, an argument here is not appropriate. Maybe you thought OP posted this so people would argue against her experiences and that's the issue here? That's not what this thread is for- she doesn't need people to splain to her and rudely tell her "let this be a lesson to you". Stop and think about how you come across.

Do I have to put a disclaimer on every post stating that I'm male and I recognize, acknowledge and apologise for that fact?

A disclaimer is unnecessary but you personally reflecting on your privilege and how your experiences are different is necessary. There are plenty of male feminists here and I have absolutely no problem with them.

You need to recognize and acknowledge the fault in your thinking to be honest.

I'm not judging you on your gender- I'm interpreting your words as they are written and you come across as having unexamined privilege.

Your comment was badly downvoted and then removed. You said you thought you were being respectful- if you would like some advice on how you can be more respectful in the future, feel free to ask for it. Otherwise, think about what you can do so that doesn't happen again and move on.

You are purposely misreading what I'm saying. I just said there are plenty of male feminists here that I have no problem with. Gender is not the issue, unexamined privilege is. Not innate privilege- that's unavoidable- but unexamined privilege is problematic.

It's pretty self-explanatory- privilege that has not been examined. If someone has unexamined privilege, it means they're unaware of the extent of their privilege, have trouble recognizing how things are for people with less privilege, and have not critically examined how their privilege has affected their beliefs about their own life and others'.

Do some reading and listening and women's issues and privilege. If women tell you they experience something, recognize that you're not necessarily qualified to judge the situation and it's often inappropriate for you to do so anyway. Try to be openminded and when it comes to women's experiences and listen far more than you speak. It just takes time and a little effort.

You probably (I hope) recognize that if you're white, it would be inappropriate for you to tell a person of color that what they experienced wasn't racism and they should have done something different anyway. This is no different.

Just try to recognize that your experiences are different from other people's and your opinions likely are as well, due to your experiences and privilege. It's up to you to examine that.