tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960381604779589048.post5221787867970150111..comments2018-04-22T08:17:35.152-04:00Comments on Remember Quinn - Running to heal after stillbirth: You are meJessica Wilsonhttps://plus.google.com/117446726726711305251noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960381604779589048.post-29578708721021366862015-05-09T16:58:47.604-04:002015-05-09T16:58:47.604-04:00It&#39;s so tough. You want to happy for them but...It&#39;s so tough. You want to happy for them but it&#39;s hard not to let your own feelings complicate it. For me, hearing of the birth and the anticipation of meeting the baby was worse than actually meeting the baby. The moment I heard of the birth, that triggered a huge setback for me. But, I&#39;ve been able to progress with moving forward much more quickly than with my first days after Quinn arrived. The day before, I ran into my friend&#39;s husband, holding the baby, for a very quick second. I felt a pang of hurt but that took some of the shock away from when I formally met her. The day I formally met her, I was able to write in my journal and &quot;be&quot; with Quinn for a bit. Feeling connected with her helped with the visit and it was ok. I was able to see and hold the baby. I was worried I would either feel totally empty/sad or completely obsessed with her (wanting to feel and touch a baby to satisfy my longing for Quinn). However, I was ok. I was able to hold her, be happy for my friend, and genuinely enjoy the baby and all her cuteness. <br /><br />When is your friend due? Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12419405770101321707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960381604779589048.post-65268028071406202532015-05-09T08:28:19.560-04:002015-05-09T08:28:19.560-04:00These are my feelings too. How did it all go? was ...These are my feelings too. How did it all go? was the anticipation worse than seeing her baby or was it as awful as you had imagined? Did you grieve for Quinn more from seeing her with her baby? was it awkward? <br /><br />My friend is due 2 weeks after our Still born daughters 1st birthday and it makes me worried/sick to imagine it, as I grieve she will be so happy and I am worried that what you write of, that it will make me go backwards too , that ill be avoiding them (as I do now shes showing) I feel terrible but I dont know how to deal with it?! Mary Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07502076118907799719noreply@blogger.com