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12 Ways to Identify Past Life Lovers, Friends, or Enemies

Posted on November 19, 2014

Tempers flared, decibels rose. “You agreed to pay 25% when you moved in!” I insisted. “But you use more electricity during the day than I do!” my roommate shouted back, this sweet-looking, perfectly-put-together woman who never showed this side of herself in public.

We’d been at this angry impasse for days. Finally, a thought came to me and I spat: “You know, if we don’t work this out now, we’ll have to come back as a man and woman, get married, and share a checkbook!”

At that point, the thought of marrying the other person was so abhorrent to us both that it worked like a splash of cold water. It didn’t hurt that we’d met in a past-life therapy class: we knew it could be true! After a stunned moment, we both broke out laughing.

What didn’t occur to me until long after she moved out and I went off to marry a really nice guy was that we’d probably already done the marriage routine, and left an imbalance we had to work out in our present lifetime, fighting over that stupid electric bill. Thankfully, we accomplished it, with laughter to shift the energy of the past and knowledge to pave the way.

If you’ve already read my article on Zazen Life: The Psychic Anatomy Concept of Life, then you know that nothing is lost in your personal universe. Everything you’ve done, said, thought, or felt remains with you, from life to life, as you experience your sequential incarnations. It’s not all active at the same time, however. Often things come around and go around and come back again according to circumstantial triggers in your life, and a few other cyclic, cosmic factors you’re not privy to. But one thing you can count on:

The important people in your life are very likely to have been people you’ve met before.

How can you tell?

First, you have to stop and consider it. That’s probably the hardest step. Once you realize this truth about your interactions with others, you’ll see it everywhere: former lovers, friends, enemies, family members. For a time, you might overdo it, imagining past-life connections that didn’t really happen. But some connections—the valid ones—ultimately prove themselves over and over again, if you pay attention.

Here are 12 ways to identify the hints of history that have drawn you back into each other’s orbits, for better or for worse. But always, with the opportunity to improve your relationship so that the next time you meet, things will be even better (especially in the case of former enemies)! And it’s likely you will meet again if you’ve got work left to do together. The principles of interdimensional science and your own personal design may mandate it. So it’s wise to do your best with each other now.

We’ll start with the easiest ways to recognize an old compatriot, your past life friends, lovers, and enemies:

Instant rapport. You start talking and you can’t stop, but nicest of all, the other person gets it, and gets you. You fall into conversation like you’ve picked up a back-and-forth exchange you left off, oh, maybe centuries ago! (And if it’s a balanced give-and-take, with shared goals and mutual respect, count yourselves fortunate and never let go.)

Instant dislike. You’ve tried to appreciate this person for their good qualities, but something just bugs you and you can’t shake it. And you might not even be able to define why. You may have no good, solid reason in the present life, other than a deep nagging “instinct.” (Which is another name for memory, in this case.)

Butterflies. Your stomach won’t settle when you’re around this person. This might even be a love-relationship in the present, but an underlying stress won’t allow you to relax. You’re always on edge, maybe trying too hard to please, maybe unconsciously awaiting some bad turn of events. You might be “happy” in the externals, but those butterflies linger.

Longevity. You’ve known this person (or family member) your whole life. In view of this list, take a closer look at them.

Shared tastes. Where do your lines of compatibility cross? Do you share a passion for ____? Both love the same foreign language, food, or culture? Enjoy a similar sport, art, hobby, pastime? Have you done this together before?

Ease of partnership. Do you work well together, like smoothly oiled gears? Finish each other’s sentences? Accomplish more together than separately? This is a very valuable “polarity,” developed over many lives of practice. Cherish it, no matter how briefly (work partners) or long (friend or family) it may last.

Unquenchable anger directed toward you. Nothing ever seems agreeable to you both; you can never make them happy; they seem to you to act as if you owe them something. You fight a lot over these things. You sort things out—and it happens again. It might be that certain specific things act as a trigger. If you can figure out what they are, you might be able to identify the past-life situation, which will help you move on, or resolve it in the present.

Guilt. You’re always tipping the balance toward giving more than you get in return. (Which is certainly a good thing now and then, but every time, with the same individual, signifies something unseen at work.) You feel you owe them, but this is probably not in your conscious awareness. You are always looking out for them, taking the extra step, doing more, overcompensating for something invisible in your present life, but still alive deep in your history. They might be a child, friend, parent, sibling, spouse, or coworker in the present life. You’ve drawn yourselves back together to work this out. Knowing that should help the balance slowly (or rapidly) shift. It’s entirely up to you. Only you can forgive yourself and until you do, their feelings won’t change your deep guilt. This, by the way, is a very common bond between people: guilt and resentment. We often say that if you’ve killed someone on a battlefield, you’ve just married them. Nothing is lost or forgotten in the Infinite scheme of energy-life. This doesn’t mean you have to come back and let them kill you! That’s an old misconception about reincarnation which would not rectify anything, only perpetuate the seesaw. You each will find your way to resolve this problem when ready.

Fear. Your memory may not be at the conscious level, but you know something. Respect it. Past-life events, if not recognized and resolved, often repeat. Circumstances may vary slightly, but results may be the same. Learn all you can. If your gut tells you to run, do it, even if your fear seems wildly unreasonable in the present lifetime. Yes, fear can be resolved with past-life knowledge, but fear is also a safety mechanism to be deeply respected with regard to other individuals. Take it seriously. But if truly unwarranted in the present life, you’ll at least know where it came from and can take steps to rectify this situation through your studies of past-life therapy. Be cautious and trust your feelings.

Gender irrelevance. Two souls who’ve loved one another for many lives, in a variety of roles, may meet again during their alternate gender expressions. They will choose what type of expression they share in the present, whether as friends, lovers, family, partners of any kind. Some gay relationships are based on lifetimes of shared experience, and since we all experience both genders over our many lives, gender can seem unimportant. These are very individual decisions, and our reasons vary according to our personal, soulic, evolutionary objectives. My blog post, Are You Gender Neutral?, explores this concept further.

Inappropriate sexual attraction. We very often trade roles in subsequent lives in order to learn and grow. Someone who was once a lover might now be a family member, or married to another, or of inappropriate age. The variations are endless, the complications serious. The fact that society doesn’t recognize the influence of past lives doesn’t help matters. Knowing the feelings come from other relationships in other lifetimes definitely helps to quell and “put out of phase” these impulses, before you put one another into a situation you’ll regret. Recognition in the conscious awareness, “I knew this person before and we were intimate,” can immediately change the energetic bias or feeling. Even if it’s too late, this knowledge will help you sort out the damage more quickly and get back on the track you intended for your present lifetime. Self-forgiveness, self-understanding, self-awareness—these are keys you’ll want to have.

I could go on all day like this. The ways we replay our past lives with one another are infinite, the clues endless. See if you can add to this list. Right now you might have realized I left off “appropriate sexual attraction.” That might be the product of past-life experience, or it might be new. You’ll have to decide for yourself, but I figured that was one you’d have little trouble exploring on your own.

More importantly, now that you’ve recognized some of your former associates, you’ll be wanting to improve on what you’ve already shared with them, knowing that the energy you’ve passed between you cannot be destroyed, only reshaped by your actions, thoughts, feelings, and words in the present life. That’s what I call “future life therapy,” and it’s the subject of entire books of aid and comfort.

But if you find anyone you know on this list, you’ve made a wonderful first step toward an improved life for both of you—now and in the future! It’s not important to share this information with them. Ultimately, all improvements begin with you. Their energies will fall in line with yours as you change.

This post first appeared at ZazenLife.com where you’ll find some interesting stories readers have posted. Please share your comments here, though, and let’s build a new archive. Every story helps someone else!

Do you want to improve your ability to detect your past-life history, and most importantly, to improve your present life by healing your relationships? Check out my books on the subject here. Or find them at any bookseller.*

17 Comments

I read your article and I think it’s very interesting. I have been interested in the concept of past lives for the past year, after reading the book Miracles Happen by Dr. Brian Weiss.

My story is a little different than others, as it does not involve a relationship with a man. I am a young woman in my 20’s, and last year I met this other young woman at my workplace. We are similar ages, and have similar interests. We connected easily, and there was at least one instance where we said the exact same thing at the same time! I had not experienced that in years, so I was surprised.

Shortly after we met, one of her relatives was diagnosed with cancer. I shared that my mom had been diagnosed with cancer about 6 months ago, and she said it was nice that someone understood. My mom went through chemotherapy treatments and her cancer was in remission by the time my friend’s relative was diagnosed. Unfortunately, her relative passed away from the cancer in a few months’ time.

Many friends came to console her in the beginning, though after a month or so three people, including myself, continued to support her. I felt our bond strengthen about two months later, when she verbally expressed that I and another coworker were her friends.

Then a few more months passed, and it was late June of this year. She was wearing a long dress, and I had never seen her wear a dress before. I wanted to compliment her, but forgot in the moment.
Later that evening, as we were chatting, a scene entered my mind; it was one that reminded me of one of the past life regression passages from the Miracles Happen book.

The passage told of a young woman in a flowing dress who was running through a field and across a bridge, knowing she had to leave her husband. Her husband ends up finding her in a farmhouse in a room alone, and she had been poisoned.(Whether she poisoned herself or someone else did, I was not certain.) The husband felt devastated, and that they did not have enough time together.
It was then that I wondered if we met in a past life…

Then, two weeks ago, I saw her wearing a dress again, a different one this time.
We were riding in a van together, with other people. We were sitting right next to each other, which made me feel a bit awkward, even though we are close friends. I guess I should note that I was not wearing a dress, but a t-shirt and shorts.

Then we looked out the window, and saw the full moon. It was large and bright orange, and I felt something romantic from it. I looked towards my friend and felt like I wanted to kiss her; then my logical mind stepped in, and said “No, don’t do that.” So I didn’t.

I looked up “past life relationships” that night, and I found this website. When I read the part about “Inappropriate Sexual Attraction”, I stopped breathing. It sounded a lot like what I had experienced that night.

I saw her the following day (we were working together) and I tried not to feel awkward around her. I tried to treat her like a friend and not act distant, because she did not do anything wrong.
Luckily she was not wearing a dress; otherwise I may have panicked, or felt dizzy.

Dear Elaine! I’m so sorry your comment on the other blog thread got lost to me … I will answer you in both places now. (My husband asked me, “Why didn’t you answer this one?” the day before you reposted it here. I didn’t realize I hadn’t!)

Thank you so much for sharing this experience with all of us! It is likely more common than most people will admit, and for that reason, it was brave of you to share. It’s neither unusual nor unexpected, so you can relax. No panic needed! 🙂

I believe you already deciphered that you were experiencing a past-life “flashback,” when the moon, the environment, and the dress coincided with stored energy patterns in your “extended biofield” (the energy body that travels with you from life to life). Those conjunctions of energy — the environmental information coming into your consciousness, and the stored energy information pouring into your consciousness from your internal energy storage (biofield) — are what collide in the present-moment awareness and produce the flashback. They have lined up in what you might think of as parallel patterns (or harmonic sine waves, if you want to be more scientific about it), and triggered your emotional reaction to the moment. But you responded based on the past information, not so much on the present reality.

What a lovely thing to discover! That you and this friend have known one another before. Now, in the present, you embody the same gender. But the memory of being close in a different way, in another time, in other bodies, in opposite genders, only means that you two are beginning to develop what I call a “polarity relationship.” That’s a very treasured, special kind of connection that will serve you well now and in the future. As you experience new and different types of interaction, depending on social circumstances, i.e., whether you are family members, friends, romantic partners, business partners, etc. in any given life, you build a kind of connection that goes deep, and supports you both in future lifetimes.

How many people do we know in any given lifetime with whom we can feel at ease, who know us so well, who can complete our sentences? This can be anyone in your life! For you, today, it is this coworker who has become a friend. The fact that you’ve peered behind the veil to see the past-life connection, well, that’s just a wonderful bonus.

I wonder if she would be freaked out, or curious, or calm if you told her of your past-life flashback? Would you terrify her? Since you consider yourself to be heterosexual, I will answer the unspoken question: No, you do not have to REPEAT the romantic bond in the present lifetime! And this moment of attraction does NOT mean you have suddenly become gay, or need to be! Just enjoy the closeness of communication/understanding, and look around in curiosity to know why you have met again (no accident), and what you have both come to learn this time around, when a sexual relationship would not suit.

If we all could clearly see behind that veil, we’d be shocked to know the people with whom we’ve had this sort of romantic relationship in past lives, compared to who they are in our present lifetime. I had a really funny, silly, and sobering experience with my driveway mechanic one time when we were driving off to buy a part for my car and the parts seller assumed I was his wife—and we realized suddenly that once upon a time, I had been! A shared flash moment of clear insight! He’d been a next door neighbor who tended my old car for years; our lifestyles and plans and goals were so disparate, we would never ever have matched up in the present life. But for that brief moment–we both knew it was true. We had once been more in alignment. In the present life, he helped me with the car when I was really poor, and I helped him with a little cash and proof of the continuity of life, from life to life. And then our paths diverged and I haven’t seen him in about 25 years. 🙂 No need! (And our hearts at the time were already fully committed elsewhere, so we weren’t even tempted.)

These old friends who reappear at certain intervals in our lives, they are treasures. We come to help one another briefly, in such instances. Then to encourage each other to carry on with our life-lessons.

Thanks again for posting and sharing, Elaine! And if you do tell her, I would be so interested to hear how she takes it. 🙂 Love always, Lianne

Thank you so much for your response. I have read it a few times already, and a few things come to mind.

I like the ideas of the extended biofield and polarity relationships, those really fascinate me. Is the extended biofield part of someone’s aura, or is that separate?
However, my friend is not quite as open to these ideas. She is open to a belief in ghosts, UFOs, and also psychic awareness. I believe it may have something to do with her religion, which is Christian.

I have recently become more interested in reading the Bible, and also believe in Jesus’s sacrifice. However, I find that the belief in past lives could be a supplement, and not necessarily a replacement for the Christian beliefs about the afterlife.

I also read in the Miracles Happen book that souls can follow one religion in one life, and a different religion in the next. If that is the case, then why not look at similarities in religion instead of differences?

I may tell her, though I hesitate because of the reason previously mentioned. However, she did say that if someone had a past life memory, she may believe it. Maybe I could convince her, though I wouldn’t want to pressure her and make her feel like she must believe it.
I also find it hard to determine what her sexual orientation is; she doesn’t talk about being very attracted to men, or to women. She does work a lot, so perhaps her main focus is on work. Most likely she is straight; but if she is not, I am concerned she could become confused and think I have feelings for her in this life, which I do not.

Do you have any suggestions? I was thinking of explaining the night with the moon in general, and then showing her these comments so that she knows I believe in it.
Thank you so much.

Hi Elaine — Thanks for writing again!
I think the idea you expressed in your last paragraph, about explaining the night with the moon and showing her these comments, if you’re going to talk about it at all, might be a good way to bring up the topic. I think we (hopefully) both managed to convey that this isn’t necessarily some indicator of sexual preference in the present lifetime. And that your experience is not that unusual, except that most people simply push the thought away immediately, maybe even before we recognize it. Remember also, the past-life cycle that has come into phase with you will probably pass with time. So now is your opportunity to recognize and resolve any old karmic issues you might have remaining with your friend. 🙂 Of course, I’m comfortable with the topic, and always believe that the more said about a subject, the better, so take my advice with a grain of salt and a deep look into your own feelings and inner “knowing” about what is right to do.

I forgot to give you this link, to another article on my blog, Are You Gender Neutral? It explains much more about how we venture from gender to gender in our many lives, and why. And yes, from religion to religion, and definitely to different cultures and races from life to life. It’s all about learning from our experiences. How better to learn compassionate understanding and infinite (unconditional) love? All a way to develop the spark of Infinite Intelligence that we each contain within our being. As we develop that spark in wisdom, we become a more functional part of the Whole, rising up in an evolutionary growth pattern to serve humanity better with each rung of the ladder we climb. Human beings all have this infinite potential!

To answer another of your questions, you can search the Internet or your local library to find books describing the traditions of belief in reincarnation that were once a part of Christianity. Reincarnation: An East-West Anthology is an older book with great information about this. It includes lists of famous individuals who believed in the continuity of consciousness from life to life, with excerpts from some of their writings. You’ll find stories by Mark Twain and Rudyard Kipling, for instance, in which they explored the concept.

Wishing you all the best in this new learning adventure! Happy sleuthing! — Lianne

Thank you for your response. I ended up waiting until the next full moon on October 15th, as I thought it might hold some significance, and it might give me some insight into telling her or not.
I took a walk in the afternoon that day, and a few cautious thoughts came to me, maybe from a wise outside source. They were thoughts warning me of the consequences of telling her, that what I say could be misinterpreted. It could be too much information to process at once, and also she could think I am in love with her and complain of sexual harassment, even if it did not happen.
Unfortunately it is easy to make things up and accuse others of things they didn’t do, and I decided that I did not want to be subject to that possible consequence, so I did not tell her.
Being coworkers and friends, I finally realize, means I have to be careful with my actions and words, because they will come back to me more harshly than if we were friends outside of work.
I took the time to think of possible names for our past selves, just to distinguish any feelings I may have that are not from this lifetime. I believe we shared a past life in the 1700’s or 1800’s in America, so I came up with the names Edgar (me) and Marie (my friend). It’s kind of silly, since those probably were not our true names, but it does help a little.
I feel like I am focusing on the coworker relationship now, since that feels “new” to me. I am learning to take her instructions when she is being a leader, since a part of me is stubborn and doesn’t like being told what to do! (haha)
I have read the article about being Gender neutral, and I agree with it. I also added the book you recommended to my Wish list on Amazon.
Thank you so much for your time and thoughtfulness in your responses, I really appreciate it.

Hi Elaine — Thank you for sharing this update. It sounds like you have made some wise and well-considered choices! Good thinking. It is always important for us to re-orient ourselves to the present lifetime, as you are doing. That is our evolutionary purpose, after all, in reincarnating: to grow and experience new aspects of the Infinite Intelligence of which we are a part. The present moment is how we choose and design our future happiness! 🙂
My very best wishes to you!
Love, Lianne

I wanted to provide an update on my experiences. After October’s full moon, I continued to work with and be friends with her. Everything was okay until one day in December, something strange happened…
I was talking with her in her room, and it was just us. She showed me her plants on the windowsill, and as she did that, I had this strange desire to grab her arm! I felt like my right hand wanted to grab her left arm, not roughly but with intention. Perhaps I (or the person I was back then) wanted to pull her closer to me? In any case, I resisted the urge.

Later we both celebrated our birthdays, which happen to be in the same month. (maybe not a coincidence?) We and other coworkers went out to dinner to celebrate for her, and it was great. On the day before my birthday she baked a cake for me, and shared it with other coworkers.

Now I’ll go to the present time. One morning, I woke up and felt upset with her, and started to feel like she didn’t make time for me, and I wasn’t important to her. I texted her to ask to hang out and received no response, so later I texted back that I was upset. We ended up talking after work, and it was tense but respectful conversation. I realized that sometimes I would contact her out of loneliness instead of just sharing information or making plans to spend time together in person.

Although she could have taken the opportunity to be angry with me and call me things like “too clingy” or “overbearing”, she was very honest and clear. She said she felt that she could not meet the expectations I had for her as a friend, and that she felt bad that that was the case. Her position has more responsibilities than mine, and she noted that and how she needed to have her personal time respected more. I looked away, not sure what to say most of the time, but beginning to understand what she meant.
One moment did stand out to me, where we both said something at the same time, something work related. I felt relieved that we were still connected, even during the tense conversation.
As we put on our coats to leave, I said “Thank you” and hugged her. She hugged me back, and then I knew I was going to cry. I started to tear up, and she let go and grasped my hand, and looked me in the eyes as she told me again that she felt bad that she couldn’t be the kind of friend that I wanted. She said she appreciated all the kind things I had done for her, but she couldn’t always be expected to reciprocate. I looked in her eyes too, and saw genuine sadness, not guilt, but sadness for me.
She hugged me again and left. I felt stunned, and also in awe of her respect for me.

Over the next few days, I started to wonder if what happened between us had a past life connection to it. I reread your article, and you wrote about how past life events that are unresolved can be repeated. I wondered then if this was a connection to our shared past lifetime as romantic partners, that she could not care about me in the same way that I cared for her.

Today, I realized that our conversation occurred exactly 6 months after the first flashback I had in September!! I was stunned again, and then realized that this is what you meant by a “past life cycle”, or “phase”. Now I guess we will enter a new phase… I’m nervous and hopeful for what is to come.

Thank you so much for all your kind words and knowledge, it is very appreciated. 🙂

Hello Elaine! So sorry your comment got lost for a time and is only being posted just now. I hope you find my reply!

You have reminded me of a past-life association I have with a friend (female) in my present lifetime. We met in the present life at 5 years old, first day of Kindergarten. For decades, we had an on-again, off-again friendship (big fights, lasting years, then reconciliations). Finally, a few years ago, I had to tell her exactly as your friend/co-worker has told you: that I could not be the kind of friend she needed and wanted. Her need for my time and energy had become so vast, I could never fulfill it! And she was always upset with me about that, making it seem as if something was wrong with me. That had to stop. I am married to a man I love, with a business to run as well, and her needs would have required a full-time companion catering to her emotional trials and tribulations. She always spoke of herself, and never had a moment to listen to or learn anything about my life (she lives in another state, so this was always via lengthy, one-sided phone conversations up to 2 hours in length). I finally realized the depths of her need surpassed my ability to give further. I could never fill that gaping hollowness! Thankfully, after so many years, I came to understand that it could not be filled by ordinary friendship, because the roots of that demand went deep into many past-life incidents we had shared.

Through my awareness of past lives, and my inner ability to access more detail, plus her own psychic abilities, put together with evidence from events in our present-day friendship as we “replayed” incidents in faint echoes of what was (as you have experienced), we did learn of a lifetime where she was a man and I a woman, and she “stole” me from another man by raiding his harem and killing him but capturing me (and others, I assume). I was blinded in the melee as I tried to protect the other man but taken as “treasure.” She, as this raider, wanted my love, which I could never give. AND THAT WAS ONLY ONE OF OUR MANY PAST LIFE ENCOUNTERS, this childhood friend and me! There were so many others we recognized over the years.

My dear, I’m afraid you are in a similar situation here, but at least you know this. I believe you are correct when you say, “I wondered then if this was a connection to our shared past lifetime as romantic partners, that she could not care about me in the same way that I cared for her.” This is a very difficult situation (at least it has been for me), but that over-abundance of emotional sensitivity you have with regard to your friend is being amplified by your past-life experiences, where this person’s love, time, and affection were denied when you felt you deserved more. I wonder how common this is among casual friends? Because, as you’ve now read, we all live many, many lifetimes. And it is often true that one loves more than the other. And some of us are more emotionally sensitive than others.

So that you will not suffer what my long-term friendship did (termination of all communications), please try to re-orient yourself to your present lifetime when you think of, speak to, or see your co-worker. Remind yourself that the emotions welling up within you are amplified out of proportion to the present. She sounds like a very kind, diligent, and sweet person, respectful of you even when she probably did not understand your actions or feelings completely. See if you can preserve what was so good about your connection, and discard the old past-life emotional wounds at the same time. Be happy that you know so much more about life after life now! I do hope it will help! In the case of my childhood friend and me, it was too long before we realized what was affecting us. And, not everyone is able to do what I am asking you to do: to be aware of where the stronger feelings are coming from, and temper them. Quell them! Keep them in reasonable connection to the present moment. I will be rooting for you! 🙂

Love love love surrounds you at all times, and need not flow from one single person but comes abundantly from the Infinite Wellspring.

I am sorry for this late response. I did read your comment a few weeks ago, and just forgot to reply.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience! I am glad to know I am not alone in this kind of situation. I am sorry it ended that way though. I have taken your advice on reorienting myself to the present lifetime, and it has not been easy, but does ultimately feel like the best choice.
For example, one day another coworker who I don’t usually see was around, and she and my friend started chatting, and I felt this strange mixture of protectiveness and jealousy. I decided to let them connect, and read a book instead (we were in the same room, which felt awkward). They talked about a TV show I was not familiar with, and it helped me realize that my friend has interests outside our common interests. Also I thought that if I truly care about her, I should let her pursue those interests.
I also have thought to myself many times your last statement, that “love surrounds us at all times”. I feel like I have been noticing that love more, so thank you for pointing that out!
I will let you know if anything changes between us; so far, things are better. I feel better because there is less pressure for me to keep getting her attention, and there is less pressure for her to keep responding to my requests for attention. I am learning to lower my expectations, in a healthy way. Thank you so much!

When I read this I also felt like sharing my experience. At 23 I started working at an office and then met who would be a coworker and my boss for 16 years. I have left that organisation 8 years ago already, and I am currently 47 so we have known each other for 24 years already. Back then, he was a silent and quite unexpressive man –yet strong willed and sometimes forbidding or imposing-, married and with children. I was a young woman, quite introvert and shy myself. I instantly fell for him but in an extremely concealed manner, that is, never showing any preference or sign of attraction or anything. A lady, so to speak. Never, ever in this quarter of a century was there any physical contact between us. Yet, along the years he ventured often to come to me office and would place a cd on my desk, just quietly saying “this music you will like”. This was Celtic music (had never heard it before, we live in South America). He quite looks like a Celtic warrior or a viking himself, tall, bearded and with blue eyes. Yet it was not his powerful physical appearance what drew me to him, it was something beyond, or beneath. Along the years we shared music and many books, but always in a distant way. As my boss he proved a patient instructor to me and his bad mood was well known, yet I was purported to be « the » person he never yelled at. Such was this that others asked me to pose him thorny work issues others dared not. Unlike others, I never felt afraid of him.
In 1997, while I still worked there, I travelled to Norway and visited a Viking village, a reconstruction with Norwegians dressed as Vikings. I entered a smithy and was shocked to see “him”, my boss, looking straight at me…! I blinked and almost said « What are you doing here ??? » Yet, it was NOT him of course! it was a Norwegian man clad as a viking smith. I took a picture of that unknown man, of course, to witness this.
The years have passed, I am married and a mother myself, much in love with my husband and yet I have never stopped loving him, in a distant way, a love that burns quietly deep in my heart and that is not a passionate love, is a subdued love that has permitted me to love other men, subsequently, and now, my own husband.
My former boss is the only person in this world I have dreamed with over a hundred times. I am absolutely certain I have lived at least 3 lives, and that he was in one of them, during the Middle Ages or before in the Celtic or Viking times. I feel a bond with him I have never felt with anybody else, save my own son. After 24 years I’ve never stopped loving him. According to my date of birth I was said to have Master Numbers, 65/11, and so been told that my intuition is probably right… yet I would gladly hear other opinions. Thanks!

I wouldn’t dream of offering another opinion of your assessment, that you have known each other before and possibly in a romantic way. But I would only suggest that you have lived many more than 3 other lifetimes! A woman of your knowledge and sensitivity is not a younger soul. We have lived hundreds, perhaps thousands of prior lives to know all that we do. And yet, there’s so much more to learn! Always, in this Infinite scheme of personal, evolutionary growth.

It seems you have chosen to live this particular lifetime more apart than together, and certainly you must have had your reasons: perhaps to learn new lessons, to experience others, to add to your storehouse of wisdom in ways you could not if you repeated a romantic connection. It sounds as if he shared some of your feelings. The experience with the Viking re-enacter (actor) in Norway really cinches it, and the connection with Celtic music that he shared. Further proof to you that your inner knowing is valid?

I hope this validation offers you some satisfaction in knowing of your sensitivity to such things. Perhaps, if you are still in communication, you might consider sharing this information with him. Ask within yourself; you will know what is right. And even if you do not, now you have the most important thing for the present moment: knowledge that you have lived before, and will live again.

Thank you Lianne for your kind words! As it can be seen, I’ve never gathered the courage to face him and talk to him openly, though I am not the kind of person to give up on what I want in life. I’ve faced tough trials in life and I have survived -and succeeded most of the times- but never felt strong enough to face him and declare what I feel and that I am absolutely convinced that we were very close in a former life. Wouldn’t know how he would take it. An invisible barrier has been cast between us, and not by us, always felt an outer force striving to keep us apart… to which we both complied.
As per my past lives, I have actually registered four: one in the Celtic-Viking times -where I met him-, one in Medieval Europe (I’m sure I was a scribe monk), in Medieval Asia -Japan, China or Mongolia -both happy and unhappy, I loved much but I’m also sure I was heavily tortured- and one in the pirate era, this last one must have been the most terrifying for my fobias can be traced back mostly to that time.
Well, sorry for all this writing… And thank you for your kindness once again. Best.

I want to share a bit of a situation I am experiencing followed by questions. I started seeing a therapist 2 years ago. We had an immediate connection with each other. That connection grew deep and meaningful rapidly, and we became an are very attached. There is an incredible amount of platonic, (mostly) healthy love between the two of us and so we are now developing a friendship outside of therapy. We both know the rules around the therapist-client relationship but we cannot deny this force that continually draws us into each other.

We are both straight, married adults with grown children. My therapist/friend is 20 years older than me (I am 43, she is 63). We are both female. We both knew early on that we have shared past lives together. Reading your article here helps validate this knowing, for me. There have been sexual undertones between the two of us on occasion and I understand better now why, thanks to this article.

Something I have been struggling with for a while is having an innate need to take care of and nurture my therapist/friend like a mother does her very young child. It’s strange. I cannot find a reason as to why I so strongly feel this way. I originally chalked it up to my insecure attachment issues that stem from my own emotionally neglectful mother, but I really do not think that is the case here. I can’t help but to think in one of our past lives, I was the mother of this woman. How can I find out? Could past life regression work uncover the answer? Will your book help me do past life work? Thank you for you wisdom and insight!

Dear Signe Ann, my deepest apologies to you for not finding your comment until today, June 15, 2016! I wonder if your situation is the same? I wonder also why I never saw the message until now. My only excuse is that I was moving to a new home at the time you posted it and it must have fallen through the cracks while my computer was unplugged and my home office in shambles. Soo sorry. I do try to answer all messages from those who take the time and trouble to post them.

Your attitude about this “forbidden” (therapist-client) relationship seems very calm and reasoned, and I would say to trust your inner knowings far above anything I could tell you (or any psychic reader or regressionist). I do talk extensively in my book, Speed Your Evolution, about how to discover and validate past life information, in whatever way it comes to you. So if you haven’t already, I suggest you take a look at that. Here’s a link to the paperback edition but it is also available as an ebook, wherever books are sold.

It is surprisingly common to detect past lives by the nature of your impulses and feelings toward another person, such as you describe: an unlikely impulse to “mother” or parent someone who is not your child, for instance. I think you’re on the right track! And the sexual undertones, clues to yet another life together of a different nature. I know what the rules and the laws and the professional values say about such attractions, but past-life histories often come into play, drawing us together again and again. It is up to you to decide if you need to pursue a repetition of your previous relationship(s) in the present lifetime, but I will say that it is far easier to make a wise choice, once you understand that the strong inner pull or push is stemming from past-life memory and replays of emotion. Presently inappropriate emotions and attractions then seem to subside naturally when you shine this light of knowledge on them. You can choose more thoughtfully. Thankfully so! Because we all have many types of relationships, over lifetimes, with the people who come to mean the most to us throughout our evolution.

I wish you both all the best, and hope I’ve added some insight after all these weeks. Please do let me know if I’ve arrived on time! — Lianne