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Mike, You are in a difficult possition. I think it sounds like you are doing the right things especially trying to loook at your mindset.

I think trying to put forward the positives to these therapists could help. You are not doing this alone your wife presumably would be there to care for the baby and support you. I would be looking at other plans that you could put forward like family/friend support. Maybe propose parenting classes that kind of thing. Show them a possitive approach.

Anxiety and depression is so common in modern society. I think when people can't concieve it is also very normal to become depressed. If you could concieve on your own the decision would be yours and your wifes not anyone elses so I think it is a bit unfair. Who knows how you will be in the future but it sounds like you are addressing your problems which surely should go in your favour.

I would have thought the councelling would have focused more on the process of the CC program. coping with setbacks and dissapointments that can happen while going through this process and also what others have said about the child not being genetically related and the associated issues.

I truly wish you all the best and hope this is a minor hiccup in the process

Mike - You are really in a difficult and unneccessary spot. I suffer from some anxiety and depression issues and am currently medicated (on Zoloft) and have been seeing a therapist for 5 years. She is completely supportive of this process and gladly wrote a letter in support. Maybe you should explain to your therapist further what this means. I think the fact that you are seeking help is amazing and you should not be penalized for it. So many people suffer in silence and don't ever get help. There has to be an answer here. Is the therapist you saw for the 4 visits for CC the same as your main therapist? If not, did the CC one write you a letter?

AFM: I am in totally inbox stalking mode. Feeling very anxious about tomorrow and afraid of being disappointed if I don't get a match. Especially because it feels like I would have to wait a whole month more as it appears very few people get matches outside of the end of the month. So, I'm trying to stay calm but it's hard. Still suffering from cramps and spotting from the stupid BCP - going on 2 weeks now. My body must not like to be told what to do!

Tomorrow, I will be travelling but I promise to let you all know as soon as I can if I get a match.

I think today (end of day) is going to be a good one for lots ofyou who are waiting! We got our email after 8pm Eastern on a Friday, 15 minutes after I checked it for the last and 100th time! So it was there waiting for me on Saturday morning. I'll bet it's the last thing Corey does before he heads home tonight.