Tell The Truth, Why Protecting The Male ‘Ego’ Is A Waste Of Your Time

Women over time have been conditioned to think of others feelings. This isn’t a bad thing. When it comes to the highroad, it’s completely littered with women. It’s the parkway that you take because you’re not sure where the other roads will take you.

In my experience I have mad decisions based on not wanting others to feel bad despite feeling pretty lousy myself. I learned the hard way that in very few instances do both parties end up unhappy. Someone always gets what they want and if it isn’t you it’s the proverbial “them”.

Unlike most women, or people, I’m not opposed to lying. I’m not opposed to being unpopular or a bitch. I’m not opposed to any acts that allow me to do what I want to do.

Making dating decisions because you don’t want the man to feel bad is dumb. Men will feel bad if they are rejected, blamed, scolded, or reproached. It’s not your responsibility to go out of your way to protect a man’s feelings. (Or his ego)

Men appreciate a no, when it’s an honest no. There is always a politically correct way to handle everything but sometimes you just have to be blunt. There are times when you shouldn’t be concerned in the least about a man’s feelings. You should put yourself first.

Don’t accept dates with men that you don’t like. You’re wasting your time and their time.

No one wants to face rejection, but they don’t want false hope either. In my opinion it’s better to reject someone once you know that you don’t like them than to string them along. We like to think that we would want to be “given a chance” if the situation were reversed but would you really? Would you really want to go on one date with someone who knew they had no desire to go out with you again? Or no desire for you in general?

It isn’t as easy as saying no to an invitation either. You must also spare a man’s feelings when it comes to his ego right? You must fake finding him sexually attractive or he’ll feel devastated. Not true, that moment might seem difficult but you’ll get over it as will he.

No feeling lasts forever, that’s the beauty and the rub.

Don’t touch anyone who doesn’t turn you on.

I made the mistake of kissing a man who I had a crush on. I should’ve left well enough alone because kissing progressed to other activities and I had to pretend that with his clothes off, he was sexy.

He wasn’t. I pretended.

I learned my lesson then that if you pretend once you can’t stop. He was more devastated once I said enough because he was under the impression that I liked what we were doing. I didn’t enjoy it; I didn’t want him to feel bad so of course I put on the charade.

Big mistake.

I know it’s hard for men to understand how you can like spending time with them but not feel physically attracted to them. Also, they’re confused to why they feel such chemistry and you don’t. It sucks. You shouldn’t entertain it.

A lie is a lie is a lie. If you don’t feel into him, don’t pretend to. You’re doing a man no favors by pretending you are. If he has a small penis or a soft body, you can’t act like he doesn’t know it. You’d be ruining it for every other woman. “Well the last girl I dated said I was good in bed,” you’ll hear men retort.

Well the bitch lied, now you have to pick up the pieces.

Don’t force a relationship because he said you couldn’t have one.

If you want me to do anything just tell me that I can’t. I’m a sucker just like everyone else for reverse psychology. Women have a great way of wanting a man before they know that they want him.

Whatever you do, however you can help it, don’t fall into this trap.

I dated my ex because he somehow challenged me. He made me feel like he wasn’t that into or he was totally into me but I was somehow the aggressor. I would make jokes when we first met that I could easily have him if I wanted and he would play to that dare with exact timing.

I didn’t want him per se but I wanted someone who was even more attainable so he would have to do. I should have realized that I wasn’t into it; I was being sold on a challenge.

Women hate to lose. We are just as ego sensitive as men sometimes but it’s a trap that you have to avoid. If a man says, you can’t have me, believe him. Walk away.

Don’t miss out on all the great men that you can have for the ones who play hard to get.

My only tactic is to take a moment and think of all the times that I have been rejected. Sure, it hurt but now I’m over it and the guy you’re dating or not dating will get over it too. At my age, lots of former suitors are married and all I had to do was get out of their way so another partner, more compatible, could find them.

3 thoughts on “Tell The Truth, Why Protecting The Male ‘Ego’ Is A Waste Of Your Time”

Wonderful article. While I am not an advocate of ego-attacking (some women feel it is their responsibility to keep the egos of the men around them in-check… That ain’t your job and you definitely ain’t gettin’ paid for it), I am also against being overprotective of peoples feelings, male or otherwise. Though I say this as a person who can be considerate and empathetic to a fault, I realize that going out of your way to spare one’s feelings ends up hurting them more in the long run. When you lie or put on a front to make them feel good, the longer the charade lasts, the more pain and damage caused when the truth comes out. Better pain now doesn’t hurt nearly as much as pain later.

We’ve talked (er, tweeted) about his before, but I love that you mentioned that women “are just as ego sensitive as men sometimes.” I’m not saying that women’s egos are just as big, but I don’t think women are completely void of that, either. It’s just that men get such a bad rap on the whole ego thing (not exactly unwarranted) that women’s egos fly under the radar. You can’t tell me women don’t have egos w/ all the cattiness we see on all these reality shows and in real life. One need to only watch 5 minutes of “Bridezillas” or “(Insert professional sport involving a ball) Wives” or observe a groups of women at a club to know what I’m talking about.

‘A lie is a lie is a lie. If you don’t feel into him, don’t pretend to. You’re doing a man no favors by pretending you are. If he has a small penis or a soft body, you can’t act like he doesn’t know it. You’d be ruining it for every other woman. “Well the last girl I dated said I was good in bed,” you’ll hear men retort.
Well the bitch lied, now you have to pick up the pieces.’

I thoroughly loved your tips on if you want to keep your man.. Though I myself comes from the men fraternity yet could not refrain from liking the minute detail you explained as I Could have easily relate to each point 😄. That's why , the marriage kills the romance because of those bad traits.

Miss Solomon - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

Thank you for your comment, and for reading. My advice is this. A man should be cherishing and chasing you. A man should be worried that he will lose you if he doesn't show you attention. If a man isn't treating you like you're valuable to him, don't stay with him. Show your own value by leaving him alone. You don't need anyone in your life who makes you feel like you're second class. I hope this was helpful.

Miss Solomon - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

Thank you so much for your comment and thank you for reading! I know this is easy to say but the best way to approach men that you like is to remove yourself from the outcome. Yes, you want a date, and I think it's great that you took the initiative but don't beat yourself up about the outcome. The circumstances might not be right. There is one way I recommend taking action in dating to see results. It's a simple process - Step 1. Write down 3 possible scenarios A,B,C - A being if nothing happens, B being if it something happens but not what you expected, C being if your ideal results happen. Then try to imagine how you would feel in each scenario. Prepare yourself for no response, for a rejection, or for a date. If you're prepared for any outcome, its easy to take action. Just don't NEED anything certain result. Just take action because you're a brave person willing to take risks, and go after what you want. Instead of worrying about the result, just focus on taking action. It's not about what happens, it's about taking the action, accepting the result as feedback and moving forward with new information. I think you did a great thing! and the action itself means more than the result because you showed confidence. If you don't get a date, that's ok. But don't stop right taking action where you can. I hope this was helpful.

Danica - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

there is this guy who flirts with me, shows all 32 teeth when smiling at me and sighs around me a lot, well I do like him and think the feeling is mutual, but ive asked men out in the past and that did NOT turn out as I had hoped. but I decided to give it another shot by giving my crush a Christmas card and writing in it the following "me and you coffee with my name/number" and if he is interested he has my digits. is that too much or not.

lizzy - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

i want u to advice me ma.there is dis guy v bn lvn for d past 10yrs i lata told im my filns and he agri to date ever since dat day he hasnt called or text v bn the 1 textn and calln.what can i do