Trying To Cope

It’s only been 24 hours since I have birth to my baby girl at just 14.5 weeks. Having found out she had DS, we were also advised that due to the high NT, it was likely to be severe and would be accompanied with other serious health issues so we made the decision to end the pregnancy.

I am 100% confident we made the right decision and I know it’s not even been a day but I’m so literally wounded. Why did this have to happen to my baby? So many other stories where people had high NTs or other increased risk factors and their babies have all been fine, why mine? It’s not fair at all.

I should be looking forward to my 20 week scan, or at worst my 16 week scan where they tell me everything is still looking okay and not to worry.

Some people don’t even know how blessed they are to be pregnant let alone have a healthy baby growing inside of them.

I hate that I left hospital yesterday with nothing but a few leaflets about coping with a bereavement etc, I should have left with my baby in her car seat! I never saw her as I chose not to either but I’m racked with guilt at the thought of her laying there cold and alone in a mortuary feeling abandoned

Comments (2)

Just to let you know there is a TFMR (termination for medical reasons) board; community.babycentre.co.uk/groups/a... where there are others that have been through the same heartbreaking things, & will have/ have had the same thoughts & emotions. It is such a safe & open place to talk about your daughter xx

I am so sorry you find yourself here Janie
Just to let you know there is a T...

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13/02/2018

I am so sorry you find yourself here Janie

Just to let you know there is a TFMR board; https://community.babycentre.co.uk/groups/a3723405/termination_for_medical_reasons where there are others that have been through the same heartbreaking things, & will have/ have had the same thoughts & emotions. It is such a safe & open place to talk about your daughter xx

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