naming your baby?

My dad called a couple days after my mc and said that he thought it would be nice if my hubby and I decided on a name for our little angel. That way we could call our baby by name and so could our family instead of saying our baby or it. I think it is a good idea but I dont know if people would think that is a weird idea or not. I asked my hubby about it and he said that he didnt really want to. I dont want to name our baby by myself. So Im not sure if I am even going to do it.

THis whole thing has brought up issues on its own. My hubby has been so supportive during this time but this kinda stung that he didnt want to name our baby that is in Heaven. I dont know. What do you al think? I love that some one framed their ultra sound and has it up with their other baby what a great idea.

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Emily: married to Dennis, mom to Marcus 1/16/07, Isaac 1/1/10, and Grace 10/7/11!

Comments (7)

I think it is a neat idea. But do you name it a boy or girl name? I feel it is hard to name my baby because I don't know if the baby was a boy or a girl. I would love to give my baby a name though. The ultrasound pic is great too. I wish I had one. Good luck. My husband and I will talk about it tonight. Thanks for the great idea. Maybe others will have more views.

I didn't name mine, but simply because I miscarried so early (doctor couldn't even find it on ultrasound despite still having an HCG level). However my mother lost two sets of twins and she named those babies, but she was far enough along with those miscarriages to know the sex of the child.

I wouldn't worry about your husband not being into naming the baby. For men, pregnancy does not seem as real until the late stages when they can see your belly grow and feel it kick. I don't think it's unusual that your hubby feels that way. My DH was honest with me that this miscarriage was not as hard on him as it was for me...but he was still very supportive of me.

I think the idea of giving the baby a nickname is a neat idea, especially since we were all so early that we couldn't know the gender yet.

We did IVF and we had nicknamed the three embryos that they put back, The Rat Pack: Sammy, Dean, and Frankie. Then when we found out we were pregnant with one, we decided we would call him/her "Dean the Bean." The name stuck and our baby will forever be Dean, which I liked for either a boy or girl name. Something non-gender specific would be nice.

I, personally, hate calling my baby, "it" so it was important to me that he/she have a name to go by.

I say you do whatever will help you with the processing and getting past all of this. Its crazy to even think we are all here discussing this stuff- here we are all healthy people and we want children so desperately and we lose our babies.... its not fair.... Do whatever will make you cope and handle this with yrs to come. Mine was only 7 wks- no heartbeat (thank God because if I saw one and then lost it I would be postal rt now).... I KNEW it was a girl. After 2 boys we timed it perfectly by Shettles method for a girl and did it perfectly or so I thought. She was y little girly girl and I will forever know that....