How do “The Bachelor,” “Dr. McDreamy,” and “Shrek” Squash Your Chances of Finding Love in 2009?

When it comes to finding love, there is no worse enemy then the romance movie, reality television, and the notion that Prince Charming exists. As little girls we are raised to believe in certain notions of romance, and thus spend the rest of our tweens, teens and adulthood trying to fit our experiences with men into the fantasy relationships on which we feed daily. Who amongst us hasn’t fantasized that maybe we WERE meant to fall in love with our best male friend? Who hasn’t hoped this time, in fact, we will turn out to be like “Gigi,” the character from, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” who discovers that even though she is exceptionally annoying AND inappropriate, the cute guy falls head over heels in love with her. Or, perhaps, maybe you’re just pissed your boyfriend didn’t run down the street in his boxers when you slammed the door, storming out of his apartment pissed as hell.

The Solution

Dating With Dignity is hosting a LIVE Ask the Expert event for men and women who are single or in relationship on Monday, October 12 from 7pm-9pm. Featuring Stanford University’s Manager of Relationship and Sexual Health Programs, Donnovan Somera Yisrael, M.A., this seminar will reveal key secrets you must know to effectively combat media and societal expectations to date successfully in the 21st century.

Somera Yisrael learned through his provocative work that men and women repeatedly engage in risky and counter-productive behaviors due to their unhealthy need to derive feelings of acceptance and love from others. He also discovered, in fact, that these feelings and the resultant behaviors are mostly influenced by the internalized messages people receive about what “rules and roles” they must follow to “catch” and “keep” someone with whom they want to pursue a relationship. From Shakespear to Britney Spears, media creates expectations that lead to frustration, disappointment and no-win situations for those who are trying to find long-term love.

You will also hear the Dating With Dignity point of view as I challenge Somera Yisrael regarding whether or not “game” playing is required to be a successful dater in the 21st century. Is it appropriate to strengthen your femininity to empower men? Should you lower your expectations if, in fact, there is no such thing as Prince Charming? Is it really inevitable to let the passion in your relationship wane?

In addition, this evening will enable you to enjoy company of like-minded singles interested in finding love, an open bar and light appetizers. To register for this incredible thought-provoking evening, go to the events page of this website.