All Articles Written By: Cathi Adams

One of the most painful aspects of divorce is how to tell the
children that Mommy and Daddy will not live together anymore.
Children are the innocent victims when a marriage falls apart.
Your feelings toward your soon-to-be-ex may be bitter and even
vengeful. Your children's feelings are not the same. Daddy is
still Daddy, no matter what. Your children have every right to
love each parent unconditionally. Even though that marriage ends,
the family you created is forever. Your ex will forever be tied
to you through the children.

Lisa knew that something had changed with her husband. He was
working longer hours, was tense and showed little interest in her
or the children's activities. She never suspected her husband,
who was a leader in their place of worship and community, would
be unfaithful. She was blindsided when her husband came home one
night and said he wanted a divorce because he had fallen in love
with another woman.

If you are going through a divorce or anticipate your marriage
may be ending, you need to make sure your financial future is
secure. Women, who often take the hardest emotional blow in the
divorce, forget that once the pain is over, they have to live.

When you were married, your spouse may have included you on their
health insurance policy through their employer. If you donít work
or if you employer does not offer health insurance, you may be
worried about what you will do about health insurance after you
divorce. In an unstable economy with exorbitant health care
costs, you want to have the insurance. Here are some tips for
hanging onto coverage or getting new coverage after your divorce.

When it comes to marriage, a woman never dreams of the worst case
scenarios. The dream-like qualities of a 'Happily Ever After'
life keep all the negative outcomes pushed well back in her mind.
However, divorce is becoming much more common as the years pass.
It isn't unusual for a woman to find herself 5 years, 10 years
or even 15 years into a marriage, only to be faced with
separation and, eventually, divorce.

I was recently taking in a horror movie with my son when he
suddenly made an amazing remark, 'It's not so scary anymore,
because we've seen the killer.' How true that statement is in
every aspect of life. True horror and real fear is really the
fear of the unknown. The less we know about the thing we fear,
whatever it is, the scarier it is. This seems to be the main
secret that those folks who make horror movies use so
effectively.

Couples finding themselves in the middle of divorce proceedings
are growing in number each year. Some studies are showing that
over 50 percent of first time marriages will end in divorce, with
subsequent marriages ending at even higher percentages! That
means a lot of people looking for the expertise of divorce
lawyers.

Mothers know best, so they say, but when a woman is going through
a divorce, it takes more than 'mum' to lend a helping hand. In
fact some women say that when their marriages are in trouble,
they don't necessarily turn to their mothers for counselling.
They would much rather seek the advice of a marriage therapist or
advisor because they seek independent insight and opinion on why
their marriages are about to crumble.

If a woman is not physically or sexually abused by her husband,
people generally conclude there is no abuse. But women should
give this question more serious thought. Abuse need not be
verbal, physical or sexual. These types of abuse are sufficient
grounds to head straight for the divorce courts because a
physically or sexually abusive partner needs professional help.

Lawyers quite often boast of how there is plenty of money to be
made from divorce cases. You can be sure that this is no idle
lawyer talk, especially when you consider the fact that more and
more lawyers are being drawn into this area of legal practice.

What you do not know can actually harm you badly. The truth is
that even as you continue to regularly read about those hefty
divorce settlements celebrities are getting all the time, some
divorce lawyers are fighting back - and succeeding.

From the time we are little girls, women are taught to believe in
the fairy tale union of a man and a woman who love each other.
Many women never let go of the fantasy, and when they find the
man they want to marry, the end caption on their lives seems like
it will be, *And they lived happily ever after.* Unfortunately,
statistics show that at least 50% of all marriages end in
divorce. Some women are left without important job skills and
barely enough money to support themselves, much less several
children.

Do you cringe when you hear the word divorce?
Many people think you canít possibly be happy if you are alone.
Loneliness is a choice. I am often alone but I am rarely lonely.
Many of my clients say that they felt much lonelier when they
were in a bad marriage than when they divorced. You can choose
to make lemonade out of lemons.