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Re: very strange

Hm.. I think you are right. Do you get the feeling that you are mothering him or otherwise taking care of him all the time? If not he may, subconsiously,

Message 1 of 3
, Aug 25, 2002

Hm.. I think you are right. Do you get the feeling that you are
mothering him or otherwise taking care of him all the time? If not
he may, subconsiously, think you are.

The other possibility I can think of is that you remind him of his
mother. Uh.. I can't remember that myth very well but I think his
name was odipus? The guy who slept with his mother and killed his
father.

Ok more contemporary.. have you ever seen the episode of Fraiser
where Frais gets a girlfriend who looks exactly like his mother?

In any case it is possible that you maybe reminding him subconsiously
of his mother, and this is appearing in his dreams.

That said however, I don't think there is neccesarily any problem
with this unless aspects of his dream are interefering with your
relationship.

--- In dreams@y..., "grlysmiles" <grlysmiles@y...> wrote:
> My boyfriend has been having dreams for the past two weeks very
> night about being an infant. In the dreams he looks like himself
(a
> 21 year old boy) but wears diapers and I (his girlfriend (21)) take
> care of him. Feed him, change his diaper, coo and giggle at him
>and
> then the dream concludes with very sexual relations. He has told
me
> about these and feels they are simply fantasies and wants me to act
> them out with him and I have absolutely no desire to ever cross
> those lines with him or anyone else. To me it is possibly a sign
of
> some subconscious issues that need resolved and not a fantasy at
> all. Could someone add some insight or advice to this situation?

P Ingerson

Hi, grlymiles. Sorry about the delay about replying. I don t read messages from this group very often -- too many off-topic posts about ghost hunting, etc.

Message 2 of 3
, Aug 25, 2002

Hi, grlymiles.

Sorry about the delay about replying. I don't read messages from this
group very often -- too many off-topic posts about ghost hunting, etc.
and not nearly enough dreams.

Anyway, the "adult baby" fantasy is a genuine, recognised sexual fetish,
despite your doubts. Your boyfriend isn't suffering from any serious
subconscious issues -- at least no more than, say, a transvestite.
You're probably creating far more issues for him by being in denial over
his fetish.

In fact the transvestite analogy is a good one. Sometimes specialist
cross-dressing and/or BDSM shops also sell adult-sized nappies, etc.
If there's one in your town, you and your boyfriend might
want to visit it and ask the staff for more information about the
subject.

(Don't be put off by bad movie cliches of the staff playing at grotesque
flirting with the confused, innocent customers. In my experience, the
assistants in those shops tend to be very reassuring and very helpful,
especially to newcomers.)

Hope this helps.

----- Original Message -----
Date: Fri, 16 Aug 2002 16:05:03 -0000
From: "grlysmiles" <grlysmiles@...>
Subject: very strange
|
| My boyfriend has been having dreams for the past two weeks very
| night about being an infant. In the dreams he looks like himself (a
| 21 year old boy) but wears diapers and I (his girlfriend (21)) take
| care of him. Feed him, change his diaper, coo and giggle at him and
| then the dream concludes with very sexual relations. He has told me
| about these and feels they are simply fantasies and wants me to act
| them out with him and I have absolutely no desire to ever cross
| those lines with him or anyone else. To me it is possibly a sign of
| some subconscious issues that need resolved and not a fantasy at
| all. Could someone add some insight or advice to this situation?
|

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