Dear Lila: A Letter for You

Today’s therapy session will be focused on a NEW technique for Lila. We will be showing HER cards instead of vice versa. We will be working on the following: Stop, Go, Not Now, and Wait.

These concepts, which involve a VERY difficult concept for Lila (patience), are going to be a very long process. I don’t anticipate it to be fun AT ALL. Deep breaths…

I always hope that Lila inherently knows that all of us are doing this work with her from a place of pure love… here is a letter for you when you get a bit older, Bee.

My Dearest Honey Bee:

I won’t lie to you…this is probably going to suck. This is going to be VERY difficult for you (and us as well).

You will scream, you will cry, and you will shake. You will look at me with desperation in those beautiful big blue eyes of yours, and worst of all for me – I will see the look of abject hurt and betrayal in your eyes when I do not give you what you want right NOW.

But we’ll get through this, I promise. We’ve been through a great many struggles in your life already, and we always make it through. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, sweet girl. We’re going to make it – and when we do we will finally be able to know what you want, how you feel, and what you think – I want to know ALL of it. If it’s the last thing I do – one day we will be able to communicate baby, I swear.

You know, nothing has ever been easy for you, and for that I am truly sorry. Watching you struggle on a daily basis literally breaks my heart. But my Love, you are SO strong, and you’ve made your Daddy and me strong as well. We’re both better people because of you. Everything we do is for you, baby, and it is all done with the utmost love and respect of who you are as a person.

We’re a Team – your Daddy, Janet, and I all love you more than you will ever know. This may NOT be fun, but just hang in there with us baby – it WILL be worth it in the end, I promise.