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So he's visualizing the porn star then?

Another question got me wondering what exactly goes through a man's head when he's masturbating to porn. My husband told me he masterbates after he watches it, not during. So most likely he is thinking about what he watched, which would mean he's visualizing the porn star in his mind right? What do you think? Do guys fantasize about YOU doing that act, or fantasize about the porn star?

I think it depends on the guy. I've had guy friends who said that they wished that their girl friends would do some of those things, so they imagined that, and I've known guys who said that they didn't want to see their girl friends doing it, so they imagined the porn star or someone else.

It's different with every man. With my ex, he was very particular about his porn and who was in it because he had a thing for certain types of women.
When my husband did, it was more about the act, not the actual people.