Does vaginal intercourse hurt? Feel like you’re the only one in the whole wide world who doesn’t think it’s the best thing ever? Here’s a reality check and some places to get started to ditch sexual pain and find pleasure instead.

If you’ve been faking orgasm and want help on how to come clean and have a talk about it that’ll lay the groundwork for a better sex life that’s about and allows for what’s real, we’ve got you covered.