Build The Relationship You WANT

Relationship Solutions

I imagine you’re here because you’re like a majority of people I’ve met over the last 20 years of coaching and mentoring individuals and couples. You’ve either struggled with, or are currently feeling challenged in, your relationship with life, yourself, and/or your romantic relationship(s)..and things have to be different.

I know I’ve had such struggles and challenges in the arenas of both my life and my 33-year-short relationship with my wife, Sarah.

Listen, you know you’re a really good person, with a really good heart. Your relationships are tremendously important to you…yet, damned if you can’t quite sort out how to make them all work the way you really want them to.

You’ve been wondering what it is that your love partner wants from you that will help him/her be happier and more romantic. Or, you’re wondering why your kids struggle to let you in close all of a sudden. Perhaps you’re looking around and seeing that you have so many blessings in your life and relationships…yet, you’re consistently saying to yourself, “Is this REALLY as good as it’s going to get?”

You may be noticing that, no matter how many lovers or spouses you have, all the relationships keep turning out the same way…not how you thought they would…and you’re wondering, “What the hell’s wrong with all these people that they keep losing out on me!”

Or, maybe you’re just a pretty normal middle-aged person wondering why your life isn’t feeling very fulfilling…and noticing that, no matter how many books you read – or self-help videos you watch – you aren’t really noticing much of a difference! You’re confused, frustrated, and feeling stuck.

If any of that fits, you want particular results and don’t have much of an idea how you’re going to get them. You’ve realized that if you knew how to do it all differently, you’d have already been doing it differently!

Fortunately, there ARE solutions for getting you into the relationship with your life, loves, and purpose that have worked for thousands of people over the last 20 years. All you have to do is to be fully willing to do the work that will get you to that happier, more fulfilled place and be willing to let yourself be coached and supported in a fiercely compassionate way.

You need to look at consciously (re)designing the life and relationships your heart’s longing for, get plans “drawn up,” clear out any debris and impediments to a successful “build,” construct what you’re wanting, and then learn how to care for it properly through excellent maintenance. Unless you’re an Architect or Engineer/Builder, you wouldn’t do that for your Dream Home without the help of such experts. The way you can know that’s really true is if you’ve been trying to do that with your relationships for God knows how long, and all you’ve been getting is more frustration than desired outcomes.

That’s where Your Relationship Architect, who is masterful at helping people build their dream relationship and life, comes in handy…that’s where I can come in.

I help people with all of the kinds of situations that you just read about. If you’re someone for whom any of the above scenarios rings an all-too-uncomfortable bell, there are a few key ways in which you could take advantage of my expertise and compassionate coaching/mentoring.

This is a three-phased Program, where Phase I is Design, Phase II is Build, and Phase III is the Maintain phase. The Program works for both your Dream Relationship with another, and/or your Dream Relationship with yourself.

In Phase I, we’ll work together to clarify with you – and/or you and your romantic partner – whether you’re (re)designing or (re)inventing your relationship (and life)…or even just trying to get clear on THAT issue alone. Once that clarity is achieved, we’ll collaborate on designing what you want and the best plan or approach to putting it all together.

Phase II is the actual “Build it” stage of the Program. The key part of this Phase is further clarifying all the elements needed, building the strongest possible foundation, preventing/eliminating foundational cracks by healing the patterns and issues that have typically flawed any past relationships, picking out the materials and finishes, if you will, that will give you the highest probability for a successful and fulfilling outcome, and then mentoring you both actually constructing it together.

Phase III is the Maintain portion of the Program. Now that you and your partner are satisfied with the Dream Relationship Home you’ll have (re)built with each other, then we create together a Maintenance Plan that feels right to you both. This usually involves periodic sessions (or intensive retreats) where things get fine-tuned/refined and rough edges or breakdowns get converted to breakthroughs to greatness in the relationship. It may take the form of a proactive preventative maintenance approach for 3-4 months to ensure all is staying consistently fulfilling. After that, I am available on an as-desired basis.

Now…the question is…how do you know that this Program is what you need, and that Your Relationship Architect (that’d be me) is the best resource for you to tap into to help you get where you haven’t been able to get to yet on your own?

Complimentary Relationship Design Review

You first have to be sure of what you’re really wanting in the way of outcomes, and if the person helping you get there is the right fit for you…and, you shouldn’t have to pay to find that out. So, the first step would be to take advantage of having a complimentary Relationship Design Review session with me. This is a 60-75 minute session where we will:

Find out just what is happening in your relationship (or isn’t),

Determine what you’re really wanting,

Outline what’s actually possible,

Discuss the best way to get there as quickly as possible,

Conclude whether you’re ready for both the Dream Relationship you deserve and have been wanting and to do what it really takes to achieve it.