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After having my 1st baby which was a miracle after 5 miscarriages, I loved becoming a mother, it's the best gift I've ever received. We tried being intimate once the 6 weeks passed and it was excruciating. I went to the doctor and they kept telling me nothing was wrong, give it time, try different positions... etc. It was very hard for my husband because I would just cry and push him away, I cringe at the thought of sex or even touching. I tried & tried because I feel so bad for him I used to want it a couple times a day and now I don't even like oral. I also am in horrid pain 24/7 with a herniated disk, I have had 2 surgeries, & seen many specialist and had many tests done since I delivered my baby and I started having multiple symptoms. I'm waiting on back surgery now. I have had 1/2 my thyroid removed, endometriosis removed, they think I have a autoimmune disease and some other stuff. So mentally and physically i'm more overwhelmed than I can handle. I daily feel like I'm having a heart attack and I rate my daily pain as medium contractions.i have absolutely no help my husband works all the time & he tries, but it has been 10 months with no intimacy so it's really effecting our marriage. So sex, blow jobs, grabbing my boobs and crouch all day just disgusts me. I Don't know what to do anymore. I also just this past month found out the pain in from a disorder called vulvodynia and they gave me lidocaine cream but it still is uncomfortable and not intimate plus my back causes it to be very painful to. How do I save my marriage????View Thread

Thank you I do have my days where I tell him... why wouldn't you offer to help if you see my having a hard time. I know I need a lot of help and can't give anything in return but love. I know how much I mean to him and how much he loves me but I think he is spoiled and has a bad way of showing his feelings. He does take care of dinner a lot, & tells me not to make his lunch or lay his clothes out but since they r in piles it's hard for him to find them and he just would rather have no lunch than have to make it so I do it because I worry about him. I unfortunately do not have family or friends. I live 15 miles from just the tiny towns with gas stations. I was adopted and my birth family is horrible So I do not let them in my life and my adopted family got stuck with me it was adopt her or it would look bad on their image in their small town. We talk but they have their own kid and are not supportive or positive at all for me. His family is into themselves and unreliable. I can't depend on anyone. My friends all live very far. So this site does help and I'll check out the group u were telling me about. Thanks so muchView Thread

Thank you! That is great advice my only problem is intimacy and touching sickens me at this point. I'm in so much pain at the end of the day from just trying to take care of the baby by the time I see him I'm so irritated from being in pain and sick all day we just fight. I dang sure don't want to be touched or do any touching. I want someone to hold the baby a min. Or rub my back that hurts so bad or offer to lay their own clothes out or make their own lunch. No I have to do everything for everyone and treat others with love, caring, patients, & support and I get 0. Yes he loves me and works his ass off at work for 12 hrs but sometimes I just want to be babied and taken care of. I had my thyroid removed and had one day to take pain pills and sleep after that I was back on my own. Im just so tired.View Thread

I have gotten 0 responses on all the sites I've been trying to get help. I guess not everyone wants to help others or everyone needs help of their own. I have been to 2 different gynos and searching for no. 3. They have been trying to give me different methods to help but so far nothing is helping. I feel like I'll never be normal again. I have done a ton of research and still don't get my ?'s asked. The counselors I have been to cost a fortune and basically put it in my head that I need to leave him if he is not understanding and supportive, but they don't know him or take the time to hear his side. I'm just really fed up with everything.View Thread

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