Anger Management through Qur’an and Sunnah

A man said to the Prophet (ﷺ), “Counsel me,” so he (ﷺ) said, “Do not become angry.” The man repeated [his request for counsel] several times, and [each time] he (ﷺ) said, “Do not become angry.” [Al-Bukhari]

I was an angry kid from the very start. Seething at every single thing. I broke things. I broke hearts…

Because of which I was hardly ever happy. I thought taking out all that rage would relieve me. Instead, it just escalated. As I grew older, I became angrier. The much I took it out, the much it consumed me.To top it all, I was blessed with a lot of physical strength (Alhamdulillah), but I used it in all the wrong ways. I won many fights. Physical and emotional. And I was very proud of them. Like I won. I thought I won, and I stayed in that little bubble of mine for a long, long time. Nothing changed till I chose to pop it when I felt that something was wrong – As I became aware of how my anger is destroying me.

I’m 23 now, and it all makes sense. Everything is connected.I am stronger than before Alhamdulillah. Both physically and emotionally. And I feel sorry for all those fights I won. Also, the ones I didn’t win. I don’t take pride in them anymore.The worst moments of my life have been due to anger. And even though I don’t feel bad about the trouble I went through, I still feel sad about losing the part of love from the people I loved, just to learn these valuable lessons in life. But in one way, I’m glad. I’m glad I went through all those hard days. They changed me for good. I learned self-control. It couldn’t have been possible without Allaah’s help.

Following are the short points that might help you direct your anger (negativity into positivity) in shaa Allah:

1) Make Du’a:

This is the first step to redemption. Just ask from Allah. Ask Him for patience. Ask Him to grant you gratitude. Pray to Allah.Talk to Him. Go on a long drive alone and have an open-hearted conversation with Him about your frustrations. You wouldn’t hear anything back, but you would feel it. Allah can listen even if you don’t say a word from your mouth.

“And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than [his] jugular vein.” [Quran; 50:16]

2) Hope for change:

All that anger and all that rage, won’t take you anywhere. Trust me! Allah’s mercy is endless. Everyone’s point of you will be changed. What’s making you angry now, will have a different face tomorrow. Throwing your anger away won’t happen in a matter of a day, neither will it just vanish. Maybe after days, perhaps after years…but just trust Allah and you’ll see how it changes you for good. You won’t wake up tomorrow, saying OMG! Where did all that rage go? That won’t happen. But you can wake up next day and decide to use it in a positive way. Just cling to hope.

3) Forgive and let go:

If someone slaps me and I manage to forgive him. Surely I won’t be that forgiving the next time around. By the third time, probably I would just want to shoot that person. And yet we, who can’t forgive people the third time around, expect Allah to forgive us every single time. It’s because He keeps on giving us the success and keeps on showering us with blessings. Then why not start forgiving people for the sake of Allah, to earn His pleasure and as a form of gratitude? You would love the feeling of letting go and feeling so light as a result.

4) Try try try:

I’m a crazy, fearless person who loves to wrestle. But when you leave all that for the sake of Allah and of course with His help, you will be at peace with your soul. It might be painful to swallow your anger, but it’s best to let go. Keep practicing and remember:

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.” [Bukhari]

5) Remember the consequence:

Anger will destroy us here and the hereafter both. We will fall. You might not trip from the same rock I do, but we both will fall. It’s a path that destroys a person after all.Just ask yourself, don’t you want peace of mind and soul?

“…and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good…” [Quran; 3:134]

Practical tips from Sunnah:

1) The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “…When one of you is angry, he should be silent.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

2) The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says: أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ – ‘I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan.’ then all is anger will go away.” [Bukhari]

3) …Say: بِسْمِ اللَّهِ – in the name of Allah; for when you say that, he (Satan) will diminish so much so that he will be like a fly. [Abi Dawud]

4) The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.” [Abi Dawud]

Comments

JazakAllah kahir for the tips. I used to be very angry…I still get angry quite quickly…but I am more of the kind of person where it builds up and then I erupt like a volcano….which isn’t really good either!

I think it’s so amazing how everything from personality, issues, sickness and more is all addressed in the Quraan and through hadith. It’s such an amazing guide for Muslims whenever they may need some help alhamdulillah. 🙂 Thank you for sharing, we all have those moments where the anger gets the best of us, this is really helpful. (www.spicyfusionkitchen.com and http://www.beautywithzainy.com)

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