I'm so confused!

So my current boyfriend used to be a dream come true. He loved me AND my daughter without a second thought. He was always around, we talked daily and everything was going great. Then I had to go to Philly for a custody hearing in the beginning of December. While I was out there (3 days), I only heard from him once. When I got back, I couldn't reach him at home and his cell was disconnected. It took him 3 more days to call me and tell me he was in L.A.! Since then, I haven't seen him AT ALL and we only talk like 3 times a week. I don't like how this is going and I really want out, but I'm still hoping things will change.

What's confusing me about all of this is that about 2 months ago, a friend of mine from when I lived in Philly started calling me again. Last month, he told me that he's always liked me and that he can really see himself with me in the future. I talk to him more than I talk to my boyfriend, which kills me. The guy in Philly has always supported me and he's always been that shoulder I could lean on. He wants to take care of me and Sanaa and he wants to build a life with me. When I told him that I might be moving back to Philly, he was so excited. I care about him...

I don't know what I should do! This thing with my boyfriend has been going on for almost a month now. I don't know whether I should give it a little more time or if I should just let him go and move on. And IF I move on, I don't know if it should be with the guy in Philly.

Anyone have any advise for me?

So my current boyfriend used to be a dream come true. He loved me AND my daughter without a second thought. He was always around, we talked daily and everything was going great. Then I had to go to Philly for a custody hearing in the beginning of December. While I was out there (3 days), I only heard from him once. When I got back, I couldn't reach him at home and his cell was disconnected. It took him 3 more days to call me and tell me he was in L.A.! Since then, I haven't seen him AT ALL and we only talk like 3 times a week. I don't like how this is going and I really want out, but I'm still hoping things will change.

What's confusing me about all of this is that about 2 months ago, a friend of mine from when I lived in Philly started calling me again. Last month, he told me that he's always liked me and that he can really see himself with me in the future. I talk to him more than I talk to my boyfriend, which kills me. The guy in Philly has always supported me and he's always been that shoulder I could lean on. He wants to take care of me and Sanaa and he wants to build a life with me. When I told him that I might be moving back to Philly, he was so excited. I care about him...

I don't know what I should do! This thing with my boyfriend has been going on for almost a month now. I don't know whether I should give it a little more time or if I should just let him go and move on. And IF I move on, I don't know if it should be with the guy in Philly.

You're right. I'm done with him for good. Especially since he told me that he was coming to see us last week and never called or showed up! What a loser...

Anyway, i like the other guy a lot now. He's really sweet and he knows that I've been through a lot with the last 2 men who were in my life (including the now ex-boyfriend). Yesterday he asked me if I would go to his cousins wedding with him in Tennessee in May. Since I will already be in Philly the week before the wedding, he said I could just stay with him and fly down to TN that weekend. I told him I would think about it, but I knew then that I would say yes. He also said something like "If I asked you to marry me in 3 months, would you say yes?" I told I don't know because I really don't know what's gonna happen in 3 months time! He seems to really genuinely want to be with me, and my feelings for him are growing everyday...

You're right. I'm done with him for good. Especially since he told me that he was coming to see us last week and never called or showed up! What a loser...

Anyway, i like the other guy a lot now. He's really sweet and he knows that I've been through a lot with the last 2 men who were in my life (including the now ex-boyfriend). Yesterday he asked me if I would go to his cousins wedding with him in Tennessee in May. Since I will already be in Philly the week before the wedding, he said I could just stay with him and fly down to TN that weekend. I told him I would think about it, but I knew then that I would say yes. He also said something like "If I asked you to marry me in 3 months, would you say yes?" I told I don't know because I really don't know what's gonna happen in 3 months time! He seems to really genuinely want to be with me, and my feelings for him are growing everyday...

It sounds like your BF left you while you were gone and simply hasn't said the "words." I would ask him directly, hey, you moved away while I was gone.. do you want to break up or what? If he does, let him go. If this other guy is someone that you trust and feel you could fall in love w/, then you are one luck girl.

It sounds like your BF left you while you were gone and simply hasn't said the "words." I would ask him directly, hey, you moved away while I was gone.. do you want to break up or what? If he does, let him go. If this other guy is someone that you trust and feel you could fall in love w/, then you are one luck girl.

I just moved from that area! Anyways, I don't see why you would want to wait to see if something changes. Would you be able to trust him again if he suddenly popped back into your life? The way he up and left you is totally wrong, and its not something you do to someone you really care about. It sucks because it seems that in the beginning he was Mr. Right. Maybe in all reality he was just Mr. Right Now. You don't deserve to be left hanging waiting for him to step up. How do you feel about the other guy?

I just moved from that area! Anyways, I don't see why you would want to wait to see if something changes. Would you be able to trust him again if he suddenly popped back into your life? The way he up and left you is totally wrong, and its not something you do to someone you really care about. It sucks because it seems that in the beginning he was Mr. Right. Maybe in all reality he was just Mr. Right Now. You don't deserve to be left hanging waiting for him to step up. How do you feel about the other guy?

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