Training of a Consensual Slave or
Submissive Sex Slave

By Bea Amor

Writing a Kinky Relationship into Being

Slave training, or training a submissive
online or in real time, sometimes includes written assignments. I
have had the privilege of sharing this with quite a few dominants
and other submissives. It is a worthy, well-used tool that not only
helps both parties

to get to know each other, it also helps the dominant to see where
the submissive is on issues that are important, where he or she will
need to focus when it comes to training and what issues are panic
buttons for the submissive. Written assignments are also used
successfully as punishment.

We need to explore what opportunities there are in this tool.
Firstly, we look at written assignments that will help both parties
get to know each other. This does not mean that the dominant will do
written assignments too, but what he or she chooses to have the
submissive do, is a clear indication of their preferences and
outlook in life. It will also show how they manage a submissive.
How? Well, if a dominant easily gives a lot of written work and does
not get back with feedback at all or very rarely, it could mean he
or she is only doing this because others' are doing it and he or she
wants to seem as if this is something he or she is experienced at.
It is also a sign of someone who is not disciplined enough to
maintain control over the submissive as it does not take much to
acknowledge an email or at least comment on it.

The type of assignments also shows the focus area. If a dominant
asks a submissive to detail their needs, wants and desires and is
aware of the difference between the three and can explain when asked
about it, it means that there is a clear focus on what this dominant
might want to include in the training and that he or she is trying
to assess if someone will fit with her or him.

A daily journal is almost always asked
for. Notice what the dominant focuses on if he or she discusses the
journal with you, the submissive. It will tell you a lot about that
person. The journal is also not the place to dig for transgressions
and then to use that as fodder for punishment.

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The journal is a collection of thoughts,
emotions, feelings and events and these should help both parties in
the training process. It makes the submissive more mindful to her or
his feelings and emotions, and more aware of the effect it has on
her or his life. It helps the submissive to overcome the barriers of
complete openness that is crucial to a good D/s relationship. Use
the journal to grow and learn from mistakes and to identify little
habits that the submissive has that could impact the communication
process later on.

The submissives needs, wants, strengths, weaknesses and desires will
show the dominant where the submissive is in terms of attitude
towards service and will show the submissive's leaning towards house
chores, attending on the needs of the dominant or sexual service or
play. The dominant's response to these assignments will show the
submissive whether they agree and whether they are in fact a good
match.

When it is an online relationship, added assignments like what the
submissive ate and what they did for that day against their list of
requirements could help the dominant manage the submissive more
appropriately. In this day and age, photos of almost anything can be
taken and sent as proof of tasks that had been completed.

One could also demand that the submissive includes an email
detailing if they had been disobedient and what the transgression
was. This could be added to an ongoing email and punishment can be
added to it and exchanged with each transgression. The punishment if
it is physical can be banked and held off on until the next time
they see each other when this document then serves as the record of
what is owed. Any other punishment can be meted out in the document,
done and then sent back to the dominant - written punishments will
be sent separately and photos of completed tasks that serve as
punishments can act as the point where forgiveness is given and the
couple can move on.

Written assignments have been used extensively in the past and can
be used to control another person's life very effectively. It can
also be used to brighten someone's outlook. I have a daily email to
do, even now when we are together of 5 things I am grateful for and
5 things I did well today. I get to count my blessings and praise my
own efforts with these assignments. It helps me grow as a person and
has changed the way I view life. I am a firm believer of this type
of training and I know that if it used well, it could others grow as
much as I have.

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