They have vasectomies now where they place a small clamp, instead of cutting it, so it's fairly easy to reverse.
Still though, I would not consider getting one unless you're 100% you're done. There are other birth control options out there that last 5 or more years and that can be removed at anytime.

I was reading about some of the IUDs but I have read some stories about them like people getting pregnant and miscarrying, or that it acts just to keep an embryo from implanting, I am pro life so that is an issue for me after the egg is fertilized. Also about it ripping the uterus. That all has me nervous, are there any other options?

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Both the ParaGard and the Mirena IUDs work mainly by affecting the way sperm move so they can't join with an egg. If sperm cannot join with an egg, pregnancy cannot happen.
For some women, Mirena may prevent the egg from leaving the ovary. Pregnancy cannot happen if there is no egg to join with sperm. Progestin also prevents pregnancy by thickening a woman's cervical mucus. The mucus blocks sperm and keeps it from joining with an egg.

How does ParaGard® work?
Ideas about how ParaGard® works include preventing sperm from reaching the egg, preventing sperm from fertilizing the egg, and preventing the egg from attaching (implanting) in the uterus. ParaGard® does not stop your ovaries from making an egg (ovulating) each month.

The fact that the ectopic pregnancy rate is so much higher in women who use IUDs strongly suggests to me that a big part of the way they work is by preventing implanting in the uterus. If they primarily worked by stopping fertilization, then you would expect to see a similar ectopic rate as women on no birth control.

I was somewhat in your shoes not long ago. Totally overwhelmed with the two we have, and thinking it was time for Dh to get a V. A month later we were surprised and pregnant with the wee one we lost 5 weeks later. Right now, I am so incredibly thankful I did not bring up the idea of a V. If we don't have another, I'm ok with that. But the one we lost.... I was so attached instantly even tho the timing was *off*
It's really easy when your babe is 6mo to be so overwhelmed that you can't imagine ever wanting another. But one of the PP's said she would wait until youngest is 2 to make any permanent decisions. I agree with this.
We use condoms on fertile days right now. We are welcoming to the idea of another, but there are other ways too. Spermicide + condoms during fertile days. charting etc. There are good ways to avoid without hormones. I personally am not open to an IUD either. But at times, it would be really nice to not have it be a worry at all.

I was reading about some of the IUDs but I have read some stories about them like people getting pregnant and miscarrying, or that it acts just to keep an embryo from implanting, I am pro life so that is an issue for me after the egg is fertilized. Also about it ripping the uterus. That all has me nervous, are there any other options?

NuvaRing does not prevent pregnancy or implantation - just ovulation. I haven't had the chance to use it but my bff uses it and she loves it. I had my Mirena removed before my 1st pp ovulation for those exact reasons (oh yeah, and crazy mood swings, sucky metabolism, etc). I couldn't live with myself if an egg was fertilized and Mirena just made the environment too hostile for it to survive.

NuvaRing does not prevent pregnancy or implantation - just ovulation. I haven't had the chance to use it but my bff uses it and she loves it. I had my Mirena removed before my 1st pp ovulation for those exact reasons (oh yeah, and crazy mood swings, sucky metabolism, etc). I couldn't live with myself if an egg was fertilized and Mirena just made the environment too hostile for it to survive.

That's not necessarily true - they're not entirely sure exactly how NuvaRing prevents all pregnancies. According to the prescriber information leaflet for nuvaring:
"Although the primary effect of this action is inhibition of ovulation, other alterations include changes in the cervical mucus (which increase the difficulty of sperm entry into the uterus) and the endometrium (which reduce the likelihood of implantation)."

Clearly it doesn't always prevent ovulation (because there is a failure rate), so it's hard to know how often there is breakthrough ovulation but no pregnancy due to preventing implantation. This is true of all hormonal birth control (not just nuvaring).

If you got to nuvaring.com and click on prescribing information, you can get to the document where my quote is from. Bottom of the first page in that document.