Child Behaviourist and researcher. Creator of "Less tantrums. More smiles". I look at the bigger picture and think outside the box when working with children and their behaviour. Their world is different. As adults we sometimes forget this. Happiness Creator in my spare time. Eater of chocolate and cake.

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I discovered your blog last week and started follow your posts religiously. I have not commented on any blog just yet but I was thinking I would love to. It’s really exciting to actually contribute to a article even if it’s only a blog. I really don’t know exactly what to write other than I really enjoyed reading through 2 of the articles. Nice articles indeed. I sure will keep visiting your blog weekly. I learned quite a bit from you. Thx!

I agree- positive, MEANINGFUL praise is so important for children, and when said aloud is even more powerful. Then it not only affects the child you are ‘praising’ but the children surrounding them. For example, ‘I like the way you say speak loudly when it is your turn. We can all hear you.’

I find that if I praise my son he always asks why? He likes a full explanation as to why he was a good boy at the party etc and when I offer an explanation it is a reference point for next time. So next when we go to a party I remind him of how good he was last time and to keep up the same good behaviour.

Its hard to remember to praise specifics but definately worth it in the end. Praise is good in general but specific praise really reinforces which bit of what they did was good not just their behaviour in general.

I love blogs like this as they are great reminders. I do find myself saying sometimes ‘ good boy’ without following through and while it is only sometimes it is so good to read your helpful blog and have something to remember next time my son does something good!

Very well put! If you tell them exactly what you were happy with then those comments stick in their mind and they generally remember the next time too, and they know exactly what they can do, and can do well. It’s great positive re-inforcement! and also works on any age.

My mum kept many little pieces like this from myself and my sisters (19, 21, 28) We recently found a book in a box filled with our innocent spelling mistakes and gorgeous little stories. My personal fave was when i was in hospital having my appendix out, and both sisters wrote about it expressing their love. One hoped she didnt catch it and the other hoped i also stayed in hospital forever so she coudl have my room.
Now, i look foreward to collecting my son (3) artwork and stories and making my own collection for him to stumble across when he is in his early adulthood.
(and for myself to have a sneak peek as he grows older so i can remember the innocent times)

Hi Mez, Did we meet? I keep having to ask this question, makes me feel a little bad but I met so many new great friends it was a little hard to keep up. Thanks for the follow I hope I don’t disappoint,Hugs Nx