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The Seduction of Porn on Our Kids

Did you know that the average age for a child to view porn for the first time is age 11? We use to believe it was only targeted for the male adults. Not anymore.

Some teens accidentally get exposed to it. For example, when I got my daughter her first phone which was an android phone, I was shocked to find how many porn apps the phone provider adds onto the phone. Yes, they give you kids games, reading options, internet use, cool tools and more, but you never expect to actually see a visual app that has half-naked couples fondling each other or a half-dressed woman in a sexual pose right there for your teen to click on. I tried to get rid of them so that she wouldn’t be exposed to them but some were too difficult to disable.

But recently my daughter and I had a conversation in the car the other day about porn. It came up in our discussion because we were talking about someone we knew that might have been affected by it. Once a person has been exposed to it, it changes that person.

Being truthfully honest with me, she opened up and shared how she too innocently viewed porn on the internet when I wasn’t home. She was only 9 at the time. She was curious as to how her body was different from others and why she looked different. So she began to look up sites about woman’s bodies. What she got was an eye full of mass nakedness and sexual perverseness that she wasn’t expecting. She said that she can never forget those images.

The stages of someone viewing porn for the first time and kicking off those hormones in a major way to an addictive and violent behavior was a very frank discussion. I began to share with her the degenerating process in which repeated behaviors that happen over time can bring severe developmental changes in the brain that bring on negative, compulsive addictions. Those addictions can easily turn into serious issues of pedophilia and even mass murder such as the case of Ted Bundy.

Porn is so addictive that once a teen or younger child has viewed it, it becomes quickly an obsessive issue in which they can’t stop. Now with the arrival of sexting among teenagers, the porn industry has grown stronger. You may have noticed that I have not once specifically said that I didn’t refer to a particular gender and where this issue is more problematic. In fact, the issue is almost equal for teen boys and girls being exposed as well as addicted to porn.

Dr. Shelly Lubben, well known speaker on porn, has more understanding about this topic than anyone else because she lived that life for many years and shares how the Lord rescued her, delivered her of STD’s and gave her a new future and hope. I would encourage you to watch her story as she speaks to an auditorium of high school students on the youtube link below. I promise it’ll be the most compelling story you’ve ever heard.

About Me!

Growing up in the Northeast, the only dreams I had for my life was to grow closer to my Heavenly Father, be happily married, and have an easy road to raising wonderful and successful children. I think God was laughing at that last part.

As you can guess, it wasn’t easy at all. In fact, it was hard. Raising teens in this world is the most difficult job to do. Even more difficult, when they become a teen in crisis.

From the darkest trials into the depths of depression, to the biggest milestones and the ultimate victories, I was able to weather the worst of storms with Christ at the helm.

My journey as a parent to a teen in crisis led me through the tsunami of issues no parent wants to be confronted with; Self-harm, suicidal tendencies, body issues, porn, abandonment and rejection, as well as PTSD. These were only the beginning waves of what was yet to come.

How does one get through these parenting struggles? Christ was my living anchor of hope and promise. He showed me how to take hold and be lifted up when I felt like I was ready to drown. Even through that very painful period, the Lord was beginning to reveal His plan and use those crisis situations for His glory.

Today, I continue God’s call on my life by sharing stories from the heart and using His Word. No more should parents feel alone and ashamed. It is time to be encouraged and uplifted. God is your Anchor of Promise – Hebrews 6:19.

Wife to my husband Dan of 34 years, I am also mom of two daughters, 2 cats and 2 dogs. My book, Turn The Tide of Emotional Turbulence: Devotions for Parents With Teens in Crisis will be out in Spring 2019.

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