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Don't know how much you joke and how much you don't...but this kind of thing always makes me so sad. As a woman, I'm totally aware, that if I want any kind of attention (and I'm mostly speaking of professional attention) then I have to be pleasing to the male gaze...but not too pleasing because then I can't be taken seriously...but I still better be cute or else I'm not interesting...but not too cute or all they can think about is how cute I am...

Is the way a woman looks--even a stranger--truly that important to a man. I rarely if ever think about how attractive or not I think a guy is on TV. I only start thinking about it if he does something in particular to make me like or dislike him.

@ TOE - I used to have a onstruction company. It's funny, sometimes I wouldn't get jobs because people judged me by my looks and assumed that I was a 'California pretty-boy who didn't know how to work'. It took years of building homes with complex rooflines and that required a pretty good understanding of how to distribute load weights before anyone would even think to hire me for even the simplist projects. On the other hand, it was easier to get high-end and high-paying jobs based on looks, grammar and the ability to to jobs down if I didn't like the prospective client.In all honesty, a good personality wins out over looks for me every time - but I STILL prefer a good looking woman to one who's less attractive (subjective term, I know...) if everything else is equal.

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Although I'm pretty tired of the "Race is King" mantra usually put forward by past and current polemics, race-relations (and the improvement of such) is always a good topic of civilized conversation. I've been called "Uncle-Tom" more times than I've been called "N-----". When I volunteer at the local Habitat for Humanity, I'm often the only black working who's not trying to get a house. When I volunteer at the local shelter, I'm usually the only black on the giving end. Something is wrong or deficient with Black-culture (as it is practiced today). Don't say that I don't know the ghetto, I'm originally from the ghetto. My ghetto-pass wasn't pulled, like my middle school I.D., it expired. I graduated. Now, I say middle school because too many blacks haven't graduated from high school. (Detroit, anybody ?) Please feel free to bring up any topic but please refrain from misusing epithets and downgrading others. Thank you, UBJ