The effectiveness of domestic abuse restraining orders is now being questioned after the tragic shooting of Zina Haughton and her co-workers in Brookfield, WI. Zina, we now know, had obtained a restraining order against her husband several days prior to the incident. So, what is a restraining order, how do you obtain one and how does it protect you?

In Wisconsin, you may seek two types of restraining orders which are also referred to as injunctions: harassment or domestic abuse. Harassment injunctions, which are explained in more detail in another post on this blog, are typically used between parties who are not in a domestic relationship although can be used in those situations as well. Domestic abuse injunctions are reserved for domestic violence which is defined as physical harm or the threat of physical harm.

The procedure for obtaining an injunction is fairly simple. You go to the clerk of courts office in the county in which you reside and request an injunction or restraining order. In Milwaukee County, you will need to go to room 711. You will be given a fill-in-the-blank form to complete which includes space for the reasons why you want the restraining order. Although different counties may use different forms, this is an example of a typical Petition for a Temporary Restraining Order. Make sure you write down every incident you can remember which is consistent with harm or the threat of harm. It doesn’t matter how long ago the incident occurred although a recent “trigger” is usually required. It may help if you spend some time at home typing or writing up these incidents while you have more time. You can then simply say “See attached” on the form.

Once you complete your form, you will be taken to see a family court commissioner or judge. The commissioner or judge will listen to your story. If he or she feels that there is a reasonable basis to grant you a restraining order, they will award you a temporary restraining order and give you a court date to return for a hearing for a permanent restraining order. You will then need to serve the person against whom you are seeking the restraining order. The clerk will direct you to the county sheriff’s office who will do this usually at low or no cost depending on your circumstances. There is no fee to obtain a domestic abuse restraining order.

The temporary restraining order will remain in effect until the hearing date. The sheriff who serves the papers will remove the other person from your home. At the hearing, the other party can show up and contest the granting of the injunction. In that event, there will need to be a formal hearing and you will need to testify and/or prove your allegations. If the court commissioner or judge believes your testimony and finds that there are sufficient grounds to grant the injunction, you will be granted a restraining order for up to 4 years. If the other person doesn’t show up on the hearing date and you have proof that he/she was served, the court will automatically grant you the restraining order. This is an example of what the final injunction will look like.

The restraining order is only as good as your enforcement of the restraining order. You will need to make multiple copies and take them to the police departments of where you live and work. You may also want to provide a copy to your employer and keep a copy with you at all times! If the other party violates it, this is a criminal offense and they can be arrested and charged for the violation. However, if you allow contact or allow the person to come to your home, it may be difficult to prosecute violations later on. This also sends the wrong message to the abuser. They may not believe that you are serious or they may believe that they can intimidate or influence you to not enforce the injunction. It may be difficult to cut ties so abruptly with this person. Victims also tend to “feel bad” for their abusers by taking such a drastic action. However, at some point, you need to worry about yourself and/or your children, not the person who has caused you harm. It is very important to establish from the beginning that you are serious and you will enforce the injunction.

Most people will abide by the injunction and realize the seriousness of the situation. However, there are some people who will ignore it or attempt to contact you to discuss your “issues”. Be firm and enforce your restraining order by reporting the contact to the police Doing so once or twice is usually an effective deterrent against future contact or violations.

Unfortunately, there are also individuals who don’t care and will attempt to do you harm anyway, such as in the Zina Haughton case. If you suspect you are or will be in that situation, it is imperative that you take extra precautions! For example, stay somewhere safe and unknown to the other party for a period of time. Or, if you are in the home, change your locks immediately. Arrange for an escort between your home, work and school, if possible. Notify your local police to the issues or potential issues. Make sure you stay alert to your abuser’s presence at all times and if you see him/her, call the police immediately! This should result in an arrest but, even if they don’t arrest him/her, the police will speak to that person which alerts them to the fact that you do intend to enforce the injunction.

The American Bar Association has published a list of additional things you can do to protect yourself from domestic violence. Following these tips and suggestionsmay save your life!

Ultimately, you will need to get on with your life. However, emotions do tend to cool down after a while and eventually, that person will also want to get on with their life. You just need to get through that initial period. If you take every precaution, seek help and enforce your injunction, your chances of staying safe will be much higher.