I’ve hosted a Christmas party (which includes a Gingerbread* House decorating contest) for the past four years. it’s a huge hit, and my friends love it. Last year one girl told me, “it just isn’t Christmas until your party!” and another friend from my game club still has winner certificate from two years ago on her fridge.

My issue?

We aren’t inviting either of those people to our wedding. They aren’t close friends, and I think they’d understand, but now I feel weird inviting them to our Christmas party. They’ve been invited in the past, so they know its happening (and mutual friends will likely post pictures of their entries during the party on Facebook). Our wedding will be between 130-150–some of these people will be invited if a lot of family declines, but others will not be invited no matter what.

What would you do? Is it ok to invite them to the Christmas party still?

*Ok, we make them out of graham crackers. I have a full time job, don’t judge.

@MaryRachel: I would 100% still invite them to the Christmas party! Just because you don’t have space at your wedding, doesn’t mean they’re not friends/you need to kick them out of your life. At least if you invite them to the party, the will know they’re still important to you. If I wasn’t invited to either celebration (but was invited to the parties in the past), I would be very offended.

You really have nothing to worry about. You can invite your friends to your Christmas party and not invite them to the wedding. It would be unfair to your friends to leave them out of a Christmas party because you can’t invite them to the wedding. The two are really not related.