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I'm fantasizing about another man. Is this normal?

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I'm four months pregnant and married to a wonderful man. I love him dearly, but for some reason I haven't been able to stop thinking about a certain male friend of mine since my pregnancy began. I've even had sexual dreams about him. I don't understand why this is happening now. Any advice?

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Oh thank God, it's hormones! I knew having "hot" dreams were, but about another man? I just had a very long dream about an ex. I thought I was the only one, and I felt soo bad! Reading all of your comments made me feel so much better, I even laughed at myself! Thank you.

I have two kids and although I have been with my husband for over 10 years I had dreams like this with both of my pregnancies (usually about a boyfriend from highschool??). It completely freaked me out, but one theory I heard is that the body is reacting to the commitment a child brings into a relationship. This does not mean that you felt any less about the commitment before pregnancy, but just the tie it forms. Do not worry about this at all, I think it is completely normal!Hormones can be very mean! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

"I'm 5 months pregnant with my first child and I have had a couple of very strange sexual dreams myself. The first one was my husband and I were having sex and right after I "came" I woke up to pee and I felt as if I really did have sex I was gooey and even my brests were leaking colosturm, like they do when we really have sex.My husband informed me that I had what he called a "wet dream" which I have never heard of. The second one was me and another woman. I have never had sex with a woman and have never even thought about it. When I woke I was so hot that me and my husband had sex first and then I told him about the dream. He thought it was pretty cool.

I am 17 weeks pregnant and I have a wonderful sexual and general relationship with my husband. Especially the sexual part lately. But for some reason I too have had some weird dreams and one of them was a dream of me and my ex whom I want nothing to do with. I woke up and couldn't stop thinking about my dream. I went back to sleep after going to the bathroom and it's like my dream started where it stopped. Weird! I don't want to say anything to my husband because he is the jealous type but it is kind of funny how my hormones are right now. He is loving this whole horny out of the boondocks thing. Oh and is it normal for me to have fantasy dreams and not see the mans face but know that it is not my husband?

Ok i have crazy dreams too, i have sexual dreams i have violent dreams i have dreams with death in it you name it i dream everything and they are very vivid. But the one that bothers me the most is me dreaming about another man. They are not so much sexual but its about a past relatioship that i have had with him we were an item along time ago and i got over him but now i have dreams about him often so it makes me think about him often and it really confuses me becase there was not much between us when it was over and now im dreaming and thinking about him like i want to be with him but i know i really dont, i love the man that im with and even though at times i dont want him to touch me or try and get me in the mood i know i love him. So im going crazy.

I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first child and I have had a couple of very sexual dreams with an ex bf and with men I don't ever know... I think it's perfeclty normal and safe. I deeply love my husband, but I enjoy this dremas without feeling guilty, I think it's a great way to relief stress and feel confortable with my own body at least in dreams

I am right along with all of you here about having the sex dreams and craving sex all the time. I am 13wks and this is my 3rd pregnancy, I never experienced this in the last 2, although I heard about it. I should be enjoying this right now but I instead i am extremely stressed out. I recently found out that my husband has been going on the internet for sex. This has devistated me especially during this time when I need his reassurance about my body the most. He tells me that it's normal and it's becuause I have been going through so many changes lately. I feel so ugly and fat compared to those girls on the sex websites, I try to block out those thoughts of insecurity and proceed with acting out my fanstacies on husband but I can't stop comparing myself to those other girls. Is this normal for husbands to do? Is anyone else experiencing this? I feel so robbed right now, I could be having the best sex of my life! Help somebody!

OH MAN. This is my frist pregnancy and I'm 14 weeks. I've been having the strangest dreams as well! But the thing about mine are they've been regularly of our guy-friend that we've known for years and that I'm not at all attracted to. In my dreams he keeps coming on to me in the weirdest of ways and putting me in the most awkward situations that aren't at all sexy. I figure I'm dreaming of him for the same reasons others' have said, that I'm feeling unattractive especially after my husband has seen me at my worst I long for the feeling of being a flirtatious mystery again. The friend in my dreams has admitted that when we first met in college he did have a thing for me. But seriously, WEIRD dreams.
Also my husband's even mentioned recently having very strange dreams of sleeping with a friend of ours' wife who in reality he cannot stand. I read that fathers to be can have weird dreams just as us women cause of the life changing craziness we're going through.

The same thing is happening to me! I'm four months pregnant and I've been having sexual dreams with other men. I love my husband so much, I every time I wake up, I felt guilty and upset. What is happening to me?

Thank God I am not the only one. I am currently 26 weeks and my third pregnancy. For the past three weeks I find myself having extreme sexual fantasies with my brother-in-law and his girlfriend. Mind you I have not noticed my brother in law that way before. He's younger than me, I'm in my mid-30's. I have never been attracted to younger men. He's on his mid-20s but for some reason my crazy sex hormones are on over drive and uncontainable. I sometimes fantasize him and his gf having sex which makes me extremely attracted to him. Lately however I'm just fantasizing us having sex; giving him pleasure in different ways that he would do the same for me. The problem is I can not have sex with my husband for I had a cerclage that prevents us from doing so until it is removed. So you can imagine how desperate I am at this point. I feel ashamed having these really weird fantasies and feel bad that I can not share with anyoone expecially my husband. I could just imagine how he may feel about it.

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