it dependes on the season...here in utah, i get cold. i wear wool sweaters from september till may. i have aquired some really cool, lowcut, imported even, imodest for usual wear, beautiful, light weight wool sweaters for the top.....from SAVERS! that can be pulled up or down...i show up with no bottoms on, just my wool socks....to be warm. sometimes a silk crinkle skirt too...HE LOVES IT. we always plan to 'do it', (after dinner) so we know what we need to do for it. he knows he needs his feet to be warm...so he wears his robe and wool socks. i think it is a matter of function, and comfort, more than being excited by lingere.

in the summer, i have some real silk, real pretty, short nighties....no bottoms.

As far as taste in lingerie goes, ... I have tried to get a variety, since honestly that is what I want more than anything else. So, I bought her a sexy red thing with quite a bit of coverage to start this idea of me buying stuff for her. It was intended to be something sexy but not too far over the line for her ... baby steps. She was actually somewhat surprised that I got her something as "conservative" as I did.

Since that went well, I tried a few other things that I thought I would like to see her in .....long sheer white negligeestring bikiniblack satin pantiestight white spagetti strap sheer top"flirt skirt panty and day bra set" -> that is one she didn't like at all

She has actually bought a few pieces now too ...a fun front clasp black push up braa fun hearts and lace teddy for valentine's day.

What my suggestion to you on this idea of "buying lingerie for your wife" is to get a variety. Chances are there are some things you will both like. I also admit, most of what I bought I got from the "clearance" sections in JCPenny and Macy. That way, I'm not spending much if it turns out she doesn't like it. It's not like lingerie goes out of style, nor does it really need to be the "right size" either -- too small kind be fun as can too big.

But, I'd really stress the "gift" angle. Do it up nice. Pretty paper, nice box, a bow, maybe even a card. The first time, I had it all in a nice wrapped box, and told her what it was and then put it under the bed. I think it took her a week or more to get up the nerve to open it. Then a week or two longer to get up the nerve to try it on (not for me, just for her). Then a few days later for me. NOW, I have left her a pretty box and told her it is for her when she is feeling sexy, and usually it is only a few days. I started picking up pieces when on business travel for a while ... I get the kids a silly present that says "San Francisco" or "Baltimore" which they love. And then my wife will catch me alone and ask "Did you get me something too?" with a twinkle in her eye. Sometimes it it lingerie, sometimes jewelry, sometimes a book. But she actually kind of likes the lingerie gifts now and was disappointed when I got her a "plain normal shirt" one time.

Anyway, I'd say go for it, and buy her something ... but start slowly with something that isn't pushing her too far.

I am very visual.... I love to see my wife in lingeree.... However, she says why do I need to show myself like that too you..... I also get the feedback.... I wish you wouldn't talk like that......If I am lucky she may put it on for valentines..... I really wish she would wear it more often...... It really adds to the enjoyment... However, I also realize she is not comfortable in it..... I really wish she was...

crussell wrote:However, she says why do I need to show myself like that too you..... I also get the feedback.... I wish you wouldn't talk like that......I really wish she would wear it more often......I also realize she is not comfortable in it..... I really wish she was...

crussell, you might want to try reading "And They Were Not Ashamed." You can get it in Deseret Book. It talks about the Good Girl Syndrome. It sounds like maybe your wife feels some of this. I was ok with wearing lingerie, but doubted some other things. The book just really helped me feel like being sexy for my husband was good not bad. Sex is good, not bad. It helped me want to enjoy it more and want to pleasure him more.

The other possibility is women are sooooo insecure when it comes to bodies. I am a slender (size 6-8), fit woman that's not even thirty, and still sometimes it makes me squirm to see myself in lingerie because I when I look in the mirror I see this fat here, or that lopsidedness there or whatever. I would suggest that when she does where it to take the time to make eye contact and tell her how amazing she looks. Tell her how much seeing each part of her makes you feel while you softly touch the corresponding areas. Include other characteristics too like that you love how kind or loving or smart she is. Make it an all around experience of complimenting. I know when my husband compliments me sincerely and really takes the time to say it, I feel that it's really true and it makes me want to be more of that for him.

It would also be interesting to know how wearing lingerie is viewed by this LDS forum? I was surprised to see that some members are opposed to it. I was like, "really?" As for its effect. I love lingerie and she says it makes her feel sexy.Does one spouse wear it more than another? I never wear anything but my skin or maybe I'll stort with just my garment bottoms.Does one spouse have to ask the other to wear lingerie? or is it done voluntarily?I usually select an outfit and leave it where she will see it. Occasionally, if we get started w/o lingerie, she will offer. To which, I usually agree.

Any recommendations of good websites or places to buy lingerie? that is tasteful and doesn't have pornography on the website?I am not sure how tasteful it is, but Fredericks of Hollywood is my new favorite. I spent too much time on the website, thrilling as it was to look at all the options (a few times). I decided to go at about 4PM to the mall. I figured at this time there were no stay at home moms shopping and the dads were at work.Any brands of lingerie that you can recommend? Fredericks of Hollywood has some lines that are reaalllly great.Is lingerie worn only on special occasions in your marriage (i.e. anniversary, Valentine's day, etc)? 90% of the time.What's your favorite lingerie?Anything crotchless. These were a new discovery for me this Christmas. I like when my wife wears them with no top.Other ideas, thoughts, comments on lingerie? I did discover the shelf bra. My wife is rather small up there. Her nipples drive me wild and shelf bra lifts her and exposes my favorite part.

I answered never. Now before you decide I'm a prude, let me explain.I had a lot of beautiful, sexy, skimpy, lacy stuff for our honeymoon. My wonderful husband couldn't have cared less. He was bored with it, and just wanted me to take it off. I asked him if he wanted me to wear it. He said, no, don't bother. It does nothing for him. He just wants me naked. Over the years I've brought it up out of curiosity. His answer never changes. I guess he goes against the norm that way.z

zookie wrote:I answered never. Now before you decide I'm a prude, let me explain.I had a lot of beautiful, sexy, skimpy, lacy stuff for our honeymoon. My wonderful husband couldn't have cared less. He was bored with it, and just wanted me to take it off. I asked him if he wanted me to wear it. He said, no, don't bother. It does nothing for him. He just wants me naked. Over the years I've brought it up out of curiosity. His answer never changes. I guess he goes against the norm that way.z

I love lingerie, but I could do without it. What I like about it is what it does for my wife. For her, dressing for the occassion helps a lot.