Don’t you ever wish your kids were born with a full vocabulary and complete reasoning
skills? Sometimes, when my son suddenly starts screaming at the end of the nap or
whining when he’s frustrated about a toy I wish he could just verbalize it. Wouldn’t it be
easy that way? I mean, it’s not like I don’t know what he wants. I know him well enough
that I can read his body language, the tone of his voice, or the expression on his face.

“Mom, I’m fully capable of swallowing this food, I just prefer not to. I’m pretending not
to be able to swallow so I can just keep nursing exclusively. Can you just wait a couple of
months to introduce people food to me? Scratch that. I’m going to nurse until I’m at least
18.”

Frankly, I feel it wouldn’t only be helpful to have a baby fully express himself, it might be
downright funny as well.

“Mom, I know this teddy bear outfit is super cute to you, and I know that strangers
everywhere stop you and tell you how adorable I am, but it’s not adorable. I hate this
thing! Whenever you put it on it means I’m going to be shoved into that uncomfortable car
seat where I won’t be able to move around or be held. Can’t I just be naked and be free
to crawl around the back seat of the car when you drive to the store?”

“Mom, you know, this teether was great yesterday but today, it’s passé. I’d really
prefer you gave me that shiny, pointy fork in your hand. Better yet, your cell phone. Or
the power cord for the computer. I’m sure those would taste much better. No, Mom. I’m
serious. Give. Them. To. Me. NOW!”

“Mom, can’t you tell I’m cutting a tooth? Two of them actually. Fair warning. I’m
going to be super fussy and needy for the next week. You should just put the amber
necklace on me now. Oh, and prepare not to have any clean dishes or laundry either
because I’m not going to want to be put down during this time. And I plan on waking up
during the night too, so be sure to nap when I nap. Wait. Scratch that. I don’t plan on
napping very much so you’re just going to be exhausted for the next couple weeks.”

“Mom, my sister is SO FUNNY when she’s being loud and rough with me. Can’t you
just let her keep doing it? I like it! NO…no, wait I was wrong. I don’t like it. Mom, SAVE
ME!!! Mom, save me NOW!”

“Mom, why don’t you just keep your breast out all the time? It would certainly save
you the trouble of opening and closing your bra (which always takes far too long anyway),
and I can just nurse at the drop of a hat that way! Yes, breast out and I never leave your
hip. That would be ideal."

“Mom, I hear that you’re up. I don’t care if it’s 4:30 in the morning and you’re just
trying to have some time to yourself and I’m fully capable of continuing to sleep. If you’re
up, I want to be up. Drop what you’re doing and come get me. “

“Wait…why is Daddy holding me? He doesn’t have boobs. MOM!”

“Let me save you a half hour of trying to figure this out: one of your hairs is wrapped
around my toe.”

“Mom, you know, I wanted my toy until I saw your coffee. PLEASE give me your
coffee. It looks absolutely fantastic, and you’re putting it in your mouth, so why don’t you
let me have at it too?”

“What? You’re putting me down? Why? Why don’t you just pee in a diaper like me? It’s great because someone else deals with the mess for you!”

It’s not just infants who should have full control of their speech. Preschoolers need it
too—in that they need to be able to use their speech in reasonable ways. Now, granted,
my daughter has an amazing vocabulary and can express herself better than most kids
her age, but sometimes forgoes that for a temper tantrum in the sudden shock of “I’m not
getting what I want right now!” she resorts to screaming, growling, and impressive bodily
contortions followed shortly by chameleon­like discoloration of her face. Also,
preschoolers should come with the ability to understand and accept sound reasoning. I
wish I could simply discuss things rationally with her. I do try, but she often can’t hear
me above the screaming. Or, if I wait until the screaming is over, she starts it again. It
would be nice if our conversations could be calm and rational like this:

Bunny: I realize that we have naptime every day, but I like to pretend it’s news to me
that it is going to happen every time you mention it because I’m hoping you’ll forget about
it.

Me: You need your rest. You know you get grumpy without a nap. Yesterday you
told me you weren’t tired and then you slept for three hours. You need to take a nap.

And let me break it to you now: I’m going to give you a nap every day because I need a
nap every day. That won’t stop until you go to school so you might as well stop fighting it.

Bunny: Okay, that makes perfect sense. Now that you put it that way, I admit that I am
truly exhausted. I was just hoping to play and ignore my sleepiness and then take it out
on you later with some yelling and screaming, but your way makes better sense. I’m
going to sleep quietly and you should get some sleep to, Mommy, because Baby Bear will
only sleep for a little bit and you need your rest.

Or this:

Me: Bunny, it’s winter. You cannot wear that dress without a sweater over it and
tights underneath it.

Bunny: Well, this is what I want. I want the short sleeve dress with flip­flops because
it’s what I envisioned in my head as perfect and now that I’ve got it in my mind to dress
this way I can’t imagine any other outfit and if you try to change it you’ll RUIN it because
I’m a fairy princess and fairy princesses don’t wear sweaters or tights.

Me: Fairy princesses dress warmly when it’s cold too because they don’t want to
freeze. Don’t you remember what happened to Tinker Belle’s wings when she didn’t wear
her coat? (Thanks for that, Disney!)

Bunny: Now, that makes perfect sense! I’ll go change right away, Mommy. Thanks for
making sure all my needs are met. I wouldn’t want to lose a limb to frostbite.

Or maybe this:

Bunny: I’d like to sit in the shopping cart basket seat with my little brother. And I’d like
to get a lollipop. Those are the things I want and nothing else will do. I can’t really focus
on anything but getting those two things. Mommy, let’s stop what we’re doing and take
care of that, k?

Me: There isn’t room for you in the seat with your brother. Don’t you remember you
never wanted to sit in there before he sat there? And I love your teeth so much I’m going
to say no to the lollipop because I want you to have those teeth for a long time. When
you eat too much sugar, you get holes in your teeth. Also, it doesn’t make your tummy
feel too good.

Bunny: Now that you put it that way, I realize that you’re saying No to me because
you love me and you want the best for me. You don’t actually want to ruin all my fun. I’ll
just walk quietly and calmly next to the shopping cart and I won’t even look at the candy
as we walk past it. I also realize that you are on a tight schedule and my stopping to
distract you is just going to make us late for the chiropractor appointment later, so I won’t
bring anything else up until we’re in the car.

Of course, if things did go that way, parenting would lose some of it’s spice. I’ll admit,
even when everything is a guessing game and I fall into a bed after a long day and feel
like I lost a long wrestling match of the wills, there has never been anything more
rewarding than parenting my two, sweet babies. Despite the times I get frustrated at their
inability to express themselves, I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way.

Comments

Date 3/26/2014

Rachel

"mommy, obey my command... You WILL hold me if I'm not sleeping, you WILL Cuddle and kiss all day long, and dinner and house work will just have to wait. Tough luck daddy. Mwahh hahahaha! "
Yup. That's about right.

Date 3/26/2014

Desiree Trogdon

Yes! The teething part, that's what my Seth is saying to me now!!

Date 3/26/2014

Kim H

Love the one about why daddy is holding me - he doesn't have boobs! I swear that is what my 6 month old thinks!

Date 3/28/2014

Colleen Cameron

Haha, I'm with Kim H. And why, why is this most true from the hours of 7 pm to 7 am???

Date 3/28/2014

Sarah Reichart

"Dad you're nice and all but Mom feeds me. Now move your beard!"

Date 3/28/2014

Amanda Felton

Since I am a chatterbox, I am positive my husband is very glad babies aren't born talking. My 3 year old has taken after me and I know we sometimes drive him crazy ;)

Date 3/28/2014

Valerie

Sounds just like my 3 year old and 6 month old. Especially the one about daddy holding me, but he doesn't have boobs.

Date 3/29/2014

Shayna Marks

I would love it if my daughter could just verbalize what's wrong and what she wants. Then again once she starts talking she may be a chatter box.

Date 3/29/2014

Nicole

While I would like if my LO could tell me what he needs with words, I'm glad he's still a baby and doesn't talk. makes him learning to talk more exciting and he has his own way of communicating already

Date 3/30/2014

Jayna Harris

I use baby sign language so we communicate some, but I would love to be able to fully communicate and know what is going on in his head!

Date 4/4/2014

Cynthia

I loved the experience of watching them learn. Talking and understanding is so important in our world but we can slow down to be part of these special moments in their lives.

Date 4/17/2014

Rachel N

I like the peace and quiet of the baby stage. Yes they cry but I don't have to answer a million why questions or repeat myself 15 times because although they keep asking what they aren't actually listening. My daughter is 15 months now though and I could really do with her learning some more words to curb the whinning.

Date 6/4/2014

Mo Lipnitz

While bit would be fantastic at times to know exactly what she wants, I would miss all of these great moment of complete jibber jabber. They are wonderful and precious. Besides, as they say, be careful what you wish for!!