A big cock is fun for the odd play and for something different, but if a cock is over 8 inches then it is usually quite uncomfortable, even downright painful. I suggest you be a bit more gentle with your lady and dont expect to hammer her with it so your up to your nuts in guts.

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Yeah, I think with having a big cock you have to be mindful that not every woman can (or wants) to take all of you.

Maybe she doesn't like it because you go to deep. Maybe she doesn't like certain positions (which allow for deeper and "angled" penetration). Maybe you're penetrating her before she has the chance to "open" up. It all depends.

I haven't met a woman yet who didn't enjoy my size. Even the one who "stuggled to take it" enjoyed my cock. It took a while to fully penetrate, but I knew she could take. We just had to (literally) inch it in there.

Perhaps a little more foreplay to get her a little more wet and open? Try gently fingering her with two (or three) fingers to help stretch her out. I don't know dude. You'll have to figure her out and give it to her how she wants it.

As someone who just got out of a long term relationship with a girl who had the same issue, my advice is to get a new gf too. Foreplay and all that stuff is nice, necessary even, and fun, but either shes into big dicks or shes not, (or indifferent), but either way-THAT WILL NOT CHANGE. Of corse you can try to change your approach, but Im sorry, if shes is not turned on by the sight of your wang, and its going to get a lot harder when you meet the many girls that are. Avoid the frustration now.

Sweetman - I'm a lady. It's interesting that it really is men who are obsessed by the size of their penis. If you've got a really big one then you just have to adapt, the same as men who have smaller than average ones.
To be honest neither is better - for me average is good, as big seems to just numb really if it isn't used properly! I don't know if you realise but the average vagina is only about 4 inches long, and it also has a 'roof' called the cervix which means you can only go so far anyway. Although different women are different sizes etc, your gf might be particularly small down there and therefore creates a mismatch. Vaginas are built to push out babies and to be honest fellas no cock is going to beat that in size, however they take time to stretch before it comes out and that might be the key for you and your gf. I used to have a large boyfriend and he was just very gentle and if you take it slow it should be ok. Have you tried using lube - it might help? But the advice would be to take it really slow (often better for a woman anyway - men who thrust away like excited pistons just tend to make women numb and feel bugger all after a while - good for planning your shopping trip)! Also it might be easier if you make sure she comes before you try to enter - it can relax the muscles a bit - and make sure she's honest about coming as women unfortunately do tend to lie about things like that for fear of hurting their bf's feelings - but if you both feel comfortable talking to each other it will probably work wonders, especially if you are willing to listen carefully to her and follow her instructions - so many men don't and that's why women just switch off eventually - you see virtually none of the things done to women on pornos actually work in real life - they just tend to either cause pain, and/or turn off. A light touch where she tells you for as long as she tells you and she'll be coming in no time.
If you can't wait why don't you both come another way first, and then if you can go a second time (generally it takes the guy a bit longer the 2nd time maybe?) you'll then have time to try to inch in a bit at a time.
Maybe some romance too? Affection goes a long way and is often overlooked in the eagerness to get on in there.
Sorry that's all a bit rambling but I hope it helps. To other repliers - she's probably not 'not' turned on by her boyfriend, she's probably just worried about pain and when that happens muscle tension increases etc. Guys please don't judge her unless you've bent over and taken a huge cock up your own opening.

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Yeah sweetman i'm with you. My wife isn't overly excited by my size either. She says sex is too painful. We've tried lots of different things over the years (married for 6 years now), now I'm lucky if I get some action twice a month!

Yeah, my wife enjoys my size, but isn't obsessed with it. Other women I've been with have had trouble taking a thick cock. It's forced me to get good at making sure my partner is really ready to take me in, by giving her the best foreplay that I can.

Another option for the men whose wives have a bit of trouble taking them in - it might not be your thing but if you really love your wife/gf and the only thing troubling you in your relationships is the lack of sex - why don't you make enquiries at your local escort agency and see if they have a working girl there who specialises in larger gentlemen. It might be worth a try - however as an ex-escort my advice is be really picky in terms of professionality - i.e. no drugs and good sexual health - if a girl comes near you and tries not to use a condom - I mean for oral as well, then say bye and walk as otherwise you'll then be sharing the germs/STIs etc of every other client she has had over her working life which could have been 1000s of men. She should also use one hand for you and your penis, and one for touching herself - otherwise you are as good as having unprotected sex. It all sounds a bit clinical, but if you get used to those rules it means you can be more or less happy that you are protecting yourself and your girlfriend, and relieving yourself sexually (although no sex is 100% safe). I suggested escorts because it is a lot better than having affairs or picking girls up at parties or down the pub etc, because then you set yourself up for the affair wanting more from you than just the sex, potentially causing you and your partner all kinds of emotional problems. With an escort all she wants is to be paid for providing you with a service, nothing else.