For every set of conditions or outcomes, there are
some people who are affected adversely by them. These
people are the problem-owners. They own the problem,
because they suffer the consequences and therefore have the responsibility to resolve the problem.

Most often, the universe is unaware that someone has a
problem. The universe just is what it is. People interpret
these otherwise neutral events in the universe as good or bad relative to their needs and
values. People view their problems the
way they (the person) are...not the way the world is... and according to
their world view. If they were to view the world
differently, then perhaps, the problem would be less of a problem or
no problem at all.

One way to solve a problem is to change our
perspective. Most of our problems are self-induced, except for
rare survival issues, and their severity are a matter of our opinion.
So, if all our problems are self-made, then by changing how we view
them, the problem would change as well. Thus, the easiest
solution to our problems is to just change
the way we see them. If we don't see a problem, then we
don't have a problem.

Changing our viewpoint seems simple, but as a practical
matter, it is difficult to do, as most people are locked into their
world view...almost as if it were their identity. But wouldn't it be great if
we could rationally adjust own world view to better fit with the
reality we are stuck with. Most of our problems would
disappear. Still, this is the best way to solve our problems, by
changing ourselves.

A second way to solve a problem is to change the
external conditions. If the external world is not to your
liking, then try to change it. This approach is harder
still since changing the external world is even more difficult than
changing yourself.

A third way is a blend to the two. Sometimes,
what is lacking to solve a problem is to develop some skills or
behaviors that the problem-owner does not now have. The
deployment of those skills or behaviors by the problem owner is what
solves the problem. A good solution is to identify the key skill
or behavior that if present would solve the problem. To find
this key ingredient, one must be explore
the problem to find out what conditions must be present for the
problem to disappear.