When we are born, we are taken care of, so we do not go into the Danger Zone.

As we grow up and things happen, we forget that we still need to take care of our self – that means there is a personal Responsibility to make sure we keep checking in with our body and taking deep care, so that we do not poison it in anyway.

When we forget to Plug in and Connect to our body, we stop the communication so we are not aware of what our body wants and needs. That means we lose touch with what our body was/is saying to us and we forget it is constantly communicating.

Then we act surprised or wonder why we get Sick or something happens to us.

Then we go straight into reaction by finding a Solution to fix the problem and hoping it will go away.

We never stop to consider that maybe it is because we are choosing to live our Life in the Danger Zone.

Babies and animals live very well in the Flow Zone Most teenagers and adults live in the Danger Zone

It is interesting to consider this list of things as living in the ‘danger zone’.

When I, and perhaps many people, think of danger, I think of high adrenaline activities, extreme behaviour and criminality.

This blog reframes that thinking.

What if we are in fact in the danger zone every time we participate in anything that harms us or another? Even if that ‘anything’ is something seemingly minor or considered acceptable by society.

Stress is a good example. Stress has been completely normal for me since my teenage years. School pressure. University pressure. Exam pressure. Job pressure. City pressure. Bills pressure. Unrelenting. It feels the same is true for many, many people – stress is a ‘normal’ part of life today.

But what are we choosing when we choose stress?

Do we consider we are saying no to flow and yes to danger?

And do we reflect on what danger actually means? For example, with stress – the mental strain, the physiological impact, the drain, the poor sleep, the tension in the body, the poor food choices, the affect on friends and family.

Can we see these this is dangerous, actually dangerous?

If we started to associate these behaviours with danger instead of the norm, would a metaphorical alarm go off in our heads when we stepped towards them? Danger, danger!

And who would start such a movement? Where does change come from in society to turn these ‘norms’ around?

What I see in this blog is that we can each consider what is dangerous and what is flow zone and make our choices from there. And those choices can have a big impact.

For many years I was most definitely living in the Danger Zone. Taking virtually no Responsibility for the way I was behaving and blaming others when I did not want to take responsibility for my actions (easy to do when we do not want to face up to what is going on in our life).

I also lived most of my life in Protection. What I mean by this, whenever someone or a situation arose where I felt threatened by someones behaviour or something was said, I would shut down and avoid it because I felt hurt and upset. As opposed to Observing the situation and acknowledging this happened and not shutting my heart down (yes this is what I feel in my body when I do this). Shutting how we feel down does not work and it does affect our health; which it did mine.

This is something I am still working on. But what I can say I feature less and less in the Danger Zone and more in the Flow Zone.

Looking back when I was living in the Danger Zone more or less full time, I now realise what affect that had, not only me but on the people around me.

Because I did not Feel myself most of the time, my frustration/s with life went on and on. That frustration was Anger. If I am honest I was Angry with myself for feeling this way and Angry with people around me. You can imagine the knock on affect it had not only on my body but my mental wellbeing also.

Then one day I just Stopped to assess what was going on and asked why I was hating myself so much.

With the support of Simple Living Global I started to look at slowly why I was feeling this way. It took a few years to get to a point where I could be truthful with myself with what was going on in my life. That was 8 years ago and I have never looked back.

I now live my life to the best of my ability. When I do get the odd bit of frustration, I don’t override, I look at why it turned up in the first place. And most of all I take RESPONSIBILITY for my all my choices and actions.

This blog is chilling reading because it examines everyday behaviours and activities through the lens of what it means to really take deep care of ourselves.

For example: I often sleep late, I use coffee to get through the day and I sometimes react to events or things said in my presence (I am particularly practiced in reacting to things said by family members).

These self-neglectful behaviours of mine are clear evidence that I am not taking the deepest care of myself and I am not putting my body first.

Reading this blog has been a timely reminder for me that just because a behaviour, habit or activity is commonplace, familiar or socially accepted, it doesn’t mean that it is not dangerous for me.

There is not a blog on this website yet about Homeless people but there will be one posted next year for World Homeless Day.

TODAY IS WORLD HOMELESS DAY – 10 OCTOBER 2019

These are people who are living in the danger zone. Fact.

Daily Mail – 5 October 2019
Dr Max Pemberton shares that the number of deaths of homeless people in England and Wales rose by a record 22% last year. Over half were the result of drug overdoses and this figure is up by 55% from 2017 according to the Office of National Statistics.

Yes the government need to do more says Dr. Max but equally the public must take some responsibility.

His own experience of working with the homeless is many who beg on the streets for food are then using the money for drugs. He attended numerous funerals of patients who were homeless drug addicts and he was the only one there.

What he is saying is the public – those we could call enablers really had killed them.
Giving money to addicts “to show they cared and make themselves feel better had actually helped them to die”.

So is there some truth here that Dr. Max is telling us?

Do we feel better if we are generous and doing something when in truth it changes nothing other than makes us feel good that we are donating to someone who has less than us?

Homeless people are living life in the danger zone and they all need help but are we going about it the wrong way and is there another way that benefits all and is the truth?

Are those that subscribe in this way also living life in the danger zone in some way?

Reading this blog it may be a yes for many as there is a whole list to consider about how we are choosing to live our life and the knock on effect it has on others when we make choices, be it in the name of helping another or for ourselves.

As there is not yet a blog about Lifestyle Choices, this comment fits well as it is about Living in the Danger Zone.

Talking to a taxi driver I got to hear he was a betting shop manager for 9 years.
He told me that gambling is much much worse than any drug addiction and he was sharing real life stories that most of us would not imagine.

A friend of his from childhood moved to the UK and lived with him in a house share while they were all finding their way with work, having come over from Bangladesh.

He worked in the £1 shop and earnings were very low.

One day he went into the betting shop and placed a bet and won £20.

He immediately thought that this was easy and worth spending more money on as he worked all day for a small sum and this was going to bring him big rewards.

Of course this is not the truth as we all know – Gambling shops are big business and as a betting shop manager he said that every machine is there for profit.

Back to the low income man, he went downhill fast as his gambling addiction took hold.

The manager on a day off received a call and got told to come to the shop and he found his friend literally shaking and sweating because he just lost £2,500.

The credit cards were maxed, his income was minimum wage and he started begging and stealing from friends and family.

Gambling in any form is living life in the danger zone.

The taxi driver said he has seen so much and how this industry is designed to destroy lives if we choose to go down that road.