"Experimenting with a magnet brought the law of attraction to life for me... positives attract, and negatives repel. When people allow fear, worry, doubt, indecision and other forms of negative thinking to determine the direction of their mental attitude, they shut off the positive power of their magnets."

Sunday, November 22, 2009

by Brian TracyAppreciate People for Everything They Do:There are three keys to getting the best out of others, and the first of these is appreciation. Every time you thank another person, you cause that person to like themselves better. You raise their self-esteem and improve their self-image. You cause them to feel more important. You make them feel that what they did was valuable and worthwhile. You empower them.

Build Your Own Self-Esteem—And the wonderful thing about thanking other people is that, every time you say the words thank you, you like yourself better as well. You feel better inside. You feel happier and more content with yourself and your life. You feel more fully integrated and positive about what you are doing. When you develop an attitude of gratitude that flows forth from you in all of your interactions with others, you will be amazed at how popular you will become and how eager others will be to help you in whatever you do.

Praise and Approve Others Continually:The second way to make people feel important, to raise their self-esteem, and to give them a sense of power and energy is by the generous use of praise and approval. Psychological tests show that when children are praised by people they look up to, their energy levels rise, their heart rates and respiratory rates increase, and they feel happier about themselves overall.

Make People Feel Important—Perhaps the most valuable lesson in Ken Blanchard’s The One Minute Manager is... his recommendation to give "one-minute praising" at every opportunity. If you go around your home and, through your social relationships, praise and give genuine and honest approval to people for their accomplishments, large and small, you will be amazed at how much more people will like you and how much more willing will be to help you achieve your goals.

Practice the Law of Reciprocity—There is a psychological law of reciprocity that says, “If you make me feel good about myself, I will find a way to make you feel good about yourself.” In other words, people will always look for ways to reciprocate your kindness toward them. When you look for every opportunity to do and say things that make other people feel good about themselves, you will be astonished at not only how good you feel, but at the wonderful things that begin to happen all around you.

Pay Attention When They Talk:The third way to empower others, to build their self-esteem and to make them feel important is simply to pay close attention to them when they talk. The great majority of people are so busy trying to be heard that they become impatient when others are talking. But this is not for you. Remember, the single most important activity that takes place over time is listening intently to the other person when they are talking and expressing themselves.

Again, the three general rules for empowering the people around you, which apply to everyone you meet, are appreciation, approval and attention. Voice your thanks and gratitude to others on every occasion. Praise them for every accomplishment, and pay close attention to them when they talk and want to interact with you. These three behaviors alone will make you a master of human interaction and will greatly empower the people around you.

There are basically two ways to get the people who work for you to do what you want. You can bully them into it. Or you can lead them.

The bully's method is initially effective, because it takes advantage of his superior power. But everything changes with time -- including the balance of power within a company. So, ultimately, it fails.

The leader gets what he wants through inspiration and persuasion. He has to work harder at first, because his method depends on gradually enlisting the voluntary support of his people. But he sustains his influence long after the bullies have been beaten.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room's only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside......He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall..

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

“When someone does something well, applaud! You will make two people happy.” —Samuel Goldwyn

“When you are able to applaud yourself, it is much easier to applaud others.” —Denis Waitley

REFERABILITY“If you roll out the red carpet for a billionaire, they won’t even notice it. If you roll out the red carpet for a millionaire, they expect it. If you roll out the red carpet for a thousandaire, they appreciate it. If you roll out the red carpet for a hundredaire, they tell everybody they know.” —Patricia Fripp

“Keep every promise made. To make the sale, some salespeople will promise everything. And then they don’t do what they promised. You’ll never get a referral that way. Under-promise so you can over-deliver. That’s how you ‘wow’ them and keep them happy.” —Tom Hopkins

“Does he or she know you, like you, and trust you? Does he want to see you succeed? Does she want to help you find new business? If so, then you have yourself a ‘Personal Walking Ambassador.’” —Bob Burg

“Profit in business comes from repeat customers, customers that boast about your project or service, and that bring friends with them.” —W. Edwards Deming

REFLECTION“When death, the great reconciler, has come, it is never our tenderness that we repent of, but our severity.” —T.S. Eliot

“We should every night call ourselves to an account: What infirmity have I mastered today? What passions opposed! What temptation resisted? What virtue acquired?” —Marcus Annaeus Seneca

“We should learn, by reflection on the misfortunes of others, that there is nothing singular in those which befall ourselves.” —Thomas Fitzosborne

“Most people are just trying to get through the day. Sophisticated people learn how to get from the day.” —Jim Rohn

She put on the blog after 3 months progression rasanya. Maybe I should do the same. Do the thing tht I could do... It's time to really utilise the same package given by P*line lalink long time ago... Received on 08/05/2009, to be exact. Klau dah buat, musti ada perubahan sikit. Love u darling, sorry i've yet to do the JM's 30DS.. Haishhhh!!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

What do you really need to start building a life-changing amount of wealth?

Your ‘government pension’ (if you have one) ain't gonna do it. Neither is your day job.

It all starts with the true nature of wealth.

"What is wealth?" asked Michael.

First, let's consider what wealth is not. Wealth is not income. Even having a huge income is not wealth. Wealth is not a lifestyle with fancy cars and a huge house. Or investing in hot stocks. Anything rented, borrowed, or mortgaged - anything that can be taken away from you – is not wealth. Those are the trappings of wealth.

Why is it that some people, no matter how privileged or how much income they have, are unable to really accumulate long-lasting wealth and others can?

It all boils down to the decisions you make.

Every conscious moment is an opportunity to become richer or poorer. Whether you'll work on a project now... or later. Whether you'll act on what you learn at a seminar... or get too busy and put it aside. Whether you'll spend your "off" time gaining new skills... or watching game shows.

A person with a rich mind understands this concept. He is aware of these enriching opportunities. He can assess their value instantly. And he has the internal, emotional capacity to act on this information.

A person with a poor mind think the world is unfair. He believes in luck. He thinks there is a limited amount of wealth in the world – and he wants his cut. He feels powerless over his fate. He uses his energy criticizing, complaining, and condemning. This is someone who will never become wealthy.

Not all the decisions we make have to make us richer, said Michael. But when you make enough of these little decisions you start getting momentum. All these little decisions build and accumulate. Once you start making enriching decisions they will come easier and easier. And you will find more opportunities, accumulate more assets. Eventually, you'll discover you're very confident that you can build as much wealth as you want.

Here's what it boils down to: Every situation is an opportunity. Every person you meet... every conversation... every book you read... every speech you hear... every meal you eat... every spending decision... every chance you are given... every problem you face... is a chance to become richer or poorer.

And if you have a poor mind... or are just skeptical... or find it hard to "take action" all is not lost. You can change and develop your own rich mind in eight simple steps:

Speak well (speak from the heart and with enthusiasm, have purpose in your conversation, learn the art of persuasion)

Write well (a combination of being persuasive and being able to identify great ideas)

5. Recognize opportunity in everything

6. Take action (start right away)

7. Take profits and save them (don't spend more than you have. As your income increases, keep your spending reasonable. When you make money, pay yourself first – always put money in savings.)

8. Continue to learn. Be an avid learner, be interested in everything.

Every conscious moment we all have the capacity to make these decisions. This gives all of us enormous potential power. You have this capacity if you just allow yourself to be aware of these opportunities, recognize their value, and take action.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Time passes so damn quickly. And as you get older, it speeds up so much that, if you don't do something about it, your life will take place without including the person who's buried deep inside you.

You know the person I mean. The dreamer. The bright, starry-eyed optimist who was once in charge of your body and soul.

I have wanted to be a writer since I was six years old. It was my father who first encouraged me. After reading a poem I wrote called "How Do I Know the World Is Real?" (Can you believe I can still remember it? Cripes, I can still recite it!), he told me I had a special talent. And that if I nurtured it, I could be a great writer some day.

How about you? What did you want to be... or do... when you were a child? And what kind of dreams have you had since?

Do you still have ambitions you haven't achieved? Of course you do.

We all have dreams. And we're all guilty of putting off those dreams.

In my case, fiction writing too often takes the back seat to other things. During the course of a normal workweek, I manage a half-dozen sizeable businesses, consult with a half-dozen more, write ETR, write business books, learn languages, and practice new skills. I'm no goof-off.

But I still regret every morning I don't work on a novel or short story or screenplay or poem.

So be honest with yourself. Have you achieved all of your most cherished dreams? Are you even working toward them? Do you even remember what they were?

Monday, November 16, 2009

2. If there's someone with a reputation for tardiness without whom the meeting can't take place, schedule a briefing with him 15 minutes beforehand. If he gets there on time, use that 15 minutes to discuss the big issues. If he's 15 minutes late, he won't hold things up. [Ini macam aku ajer nih!!!]

3. Distribute a short agenda to all participants the day before the meeting.

4. Set and enforce a strict time limit for each agenda item. Discussion should end when a specific action has been determined, written down, and assigned.

5. Every five or six meetings, ask for suggestions to improve the way you're running the proceedings.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

I have an entrepreneur friend who is an engaging speaker. He always gets high marks on audience evaluations.On stage, he comes off as quite confident. Watching him, you'd think he was loaded with self-esteem.

In fact, the opposite is true. And at a recent presentation, he let his audience in on this personality "flaw" right from the start.

Now I wouldn't recommend doing this all the time. If, for example, you are delivering a sales presentation to a room full of businessmen, playing the "low self-esteem card" could backfire.

Your listeners might think: "Gee, does this guy need a hug or something?"

But in my friend's case, it helped him bond with his audience immediately.

Why? Because he was giving a speech at a self-improvement seminar. He knew his audience -- and he knew what they would respond to.

His eager listeners almost certainly thought, "WOW! This guy has his own image problem. And yet, he's accomplished all his goals. If he can do it... so can I!"

But though my friend has proven that you don't need high self-esteem to be an effective speaker (or a successful entrepreneur) -- he's also shown that you need to be able to present your material with aplomb and conviction.

Fact is, your audience starts checking you out the minute you step on stage.

They look at the way you're dressed and the way you move. But it's the way you deliver your speech that makes the biggest impression on them.

Telltale signs that you have low self-esteem:

You stand up there and just read off PowerPoint bullets.
You don't make eye contact with your audience.
You use unnatural hand motions.
You speak softly, and your voice tends to trail off at the end of a sentence.

Whether your self-esteem is high, low, or somewhere in the middle, you can learn how to turn on the switch when it's "show time" and put on a splendid performance.

It starts with knowing your subject inside out. When you feel like an expert, you will exude self-confidence from every pore.

That said, here are four tips to help you give one great presentation after another -- and keep getting asked back.

1. Deliver One Big IdeaAs Michael Masterson often says... every effective communication is based on one BIG IDEA. Create a speech that has one BIG IDEA and it will stand out in the hearts and minds of your audience.

Worried about length? Don't be! You do not have to deliver a long and exhaustive speech for it to make an impact.

Abraham Lincoln's Gettysburg Address -- with just 271 words -- is one of the most quoted and most powerful speeches ever given. Imagine: In less than 3 minutes, Lincoln not only summarized the Civil War, but redefined it as a struggle for freedom and equality!

2. Speak in the MomentPractice, practice, practice... so the words, as Shakespeare said (when he was alive of, course) are spoken "trippingly on the tongue." Do not give a canned speech or read your presentation. Outline your important points, know them, and then speak to your audience as if it is one person sitting across from you and hanging on every word you say.

3. Tell StoriesDon't quote boring industry facts and figures. Any "B" speaker can do that. Be an "A" speaker. Capture your audience's attention with a story. If you are giving a speech on customer service, for example, tell them a customer service horror story. They will LOVE it!
Tell the truth... but embellish the anecdote a bit (using dramatic license, and adding humor if you can). The idea is to eventually lead your audience to the conclusion that you (or the product/service you are selling) have the solutions to their problems.

4. Fake It 'Til You Make ItThat's what most top-gun speakers did in the beginning. With enough stage time, you'll internalize what you need to know to overcome your self-confidence "issues." And then, it will be second nature to come across as cool, collected, and in control.
Just like riding a bicycle. Guaranteed!

Sent: Wednesday, November 11, 2009 5:29 AM When I was a young man, in our back yard there was a huge apricot tree which towered over all of the other trees in our neighborhood. In the spring, it was covered with white blossoms which made it look as if the tree was covered with popcorn. The tree was so large that we built a three-story tree house in it, both to play in and to help pick the thousands of apricots each fall. (I know there were thousands, because I had to pick them.) We made apricot jam, apricot leather, and apricot nectar, and apricot ice cream.

The best part about our apricot tree, however, was the sand box. My father had built a large sand box under the entire tree, with the trunk sticking up in the center of the sand box. Our favorite thing to do was play in the sandbox with water. We would string together several hoses together in order to bring water from the house all of the way back to the sandbox under the apricot tree.

We would put the hose near one corner of the sandbox and let it run. Pretty soon, we would have a little river. We used the wet sand from our little riverbed to build cities, farms and castles (complete with a moat filled with water). As the water rose higher, our cities needed higher walls to protect them from flooding. The water continued to rise and soon where there used to be rivers and lakes, there were now great oceans. Eventually, the whole sandbox was flooded, and we would be done for another day.

We would return home from those wonderful summer days covered in sand from head to foot. Often, before mother would let us in the house, she would take us out in the back and hose us down to get all of the wet sand off.

My brothers and sisters and I lived in that house for 18 years. Then, our family moved. The following summer, the apricot tree died.

I’ve often thought about that apricot tree. Never have I seen a tree that large, bare so much fruit. It thrived, in spite of hundreds of large nails driven into it. (I’m very thorough when I build a tree house.) As I have analyzed it over the years, I think it must have been all that water that saturated the roots of the tree as we were playing with water in the sandbox that made the difference. Of course, we didn’t realize what we were doing at the time, but it had an effect, nevertheless. Then, when the water was no longer there, the tree died.

Like the tree, we all need nourishment to grow and flourish and produce fruit. Our minds must have constant stimulation in order to thrive. But, too many of us quit learning the moment we graduate from formal education. In reality, this should not be the end of our education, it should actually be the beginning. The graduation ceremony itself is called “commencement” which means “the beginning.” It should be the beginning of years of continuing education—both formal and informal.

Fortunately for us, unlike the tree, as adults we have the ability to control our environment to some extent. We can choose to saturate and nourish our minds with new ideas and fresh concepts, we can learn to read and inquire, we can fill our minds until they expand and grow stronger—or, we can choose to stop learning and allow our minds to slowly dry up.

The fastest way I know to kill your mind is to sit, day after day and night after night, in front of a flickering box and stare at it. You might say, “but aren’t there educational programs on TV?” Yes, of course there are, and selective viewing can be part of your continuing education. But, what do most people choose to watch on TV? Mind numbing drivel.

Why not choose a topic that you are interested in and go to the library in search of information? Why not read an interesting new book every month? Why not enroll in a class at your local community college or university? Why not learn how to improve your communication skills, or remember names, or effectively manage your time? Did you know that the average commuter can get the equivalent knowledge and mental stimulation of a four year college degree simply by listening to educational audio CDs in the car during drive time for that same period of time?

When saturated with fresh ideas and stimulated by mental exercise, our minds become sharp and alert; we are able to more effectively analyze situations and invent solutions; our creativity soars; we are more interesting companions; our productivity improves; and, like my tree, we are able to thrive in spite of the challenges of life. But, remove the stream of learning, and we will eventually shrivel and die. I challenge you to live a life of continuing education. It could make the difference between being successful or mediocre, appealing or dull, enthusiastic or despondent. I challenge you to begin now. What have you got to lose?

Friday, November 13, 2009

Sent: Tuesday, November 10, 2009 6:16 AM One of the great things about life is that we can realistically be or do anything we choose to. This includes being a good time manager! We must believe that we can be a good time manager—that we have the potential. Unfortunately, many people say, “Well, I am just a poor time manager,” as if it were ingrained in their DNA. The truth is that anyone can be a great time manager, if they choose to go from potential to performance.

So, how do we do this? Here is a simple seven-part process:

1. Believe that you can become a good time manager.

2. Inventory where your time is currently being spent.

3. Determine what your life values are—what do you view as important, what do you want to accomplish?

4. Set time priorities that will move you toward living out your values.

5. Develop a system of scheduling that works best for you, not a time-management conglomerate.

6. Learn to say no to things that are not part of your priorities moving you toward your values—exercise your power to choose.

7. Do what is in your new schedule.

These simple steps, if you apply them, will take you from having the potential to be a good time manager to true time-management mastery and performance!

Whatever you are giving your attention to is already vibrating. And when you give your attention to it, if you maintain your focus for as little as 17 seconds, you begin to include its vibration, whatever it is, in your vibration. When you see something you want, and you give it your attention, and you say yes to it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration. When you see something you do not want, and you shout no at it, you are including whatever its vibration is in your vibration. In this vibrational world, which is everything, you are far more vibrational beings than you are verbal beings. You are communicating with everyone far more on a vibrational basis, than you are on a verbal basis.

“You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don't think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.”

“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life's greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.”

“If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviours and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve.”

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