(Closed) Help me decide how to “crash” the bachelor weekend!!

OK, don’t worry, I’m not planning on showing up unannounced and chaperoning or anything 🙂

My Fiance and 7 or so of his buddies are taking a long weekend to go to his home city for some bonding, drinking, etc., and I’m trying to think of some surprises for them (both sweet and funny/embarassing). Things that I know are on the schedule are a hockey game, strip club, casino, and I’m sure lots of eating and drinking. I’m staying away from the strip club(!) but I had some fun ideas of how to participate in some of the other events. Let me know if you have any other good ideas (I might just do one thing, or I might do several).

– Arrange for a round of shots to be delivered to their table at dinner or a bar/club. Would have to get semi-participation of the Bridesmaid or Best Man so that I knew where/when they were headed.

– Send an envelope w/ some $ for his Bridesmaid or Best Man to give him once he gets to the casino, so that he has a little extra to play with.

– Arrange for some sort of funny/embarassing message to show up on the big screen at the hockey game (not sure if this costs $, and if so, how much). Would love to make it super over the top and goopy so that his friends rag on him for it.

First, I think you are super sweet for wanting to do this…but. I don’t know your guy so maybe this is perfect for him, but I kind of think you should let the bachelor weekend be the bachelor weekend. It’s kind of his alone time with his boys, and I would let this be ‘their thing’. This is about his friends doing something for him – buying the snacks, the shots, embarrassing him, etc.!

These ideas are so cute! I love that you’re so supportive of his ‘bachelor weekend.’ I don’t know your Fiance and your relationship, so he may love all these surprises. But my first instinct says since it is HIS weekend with his guys, maybe doing something more discrete but still very loving, like the extra cash at the casino, may be the way to go. I know as women, we would love all of the surprise you came up with because they are so sweet, but I don’t know how it would go over with a bunch of men on a guys’ weekend.

Those are awesome ideas and so so awesome … but … I’m slightly with Circus Peanut that they might be a little too much … I sent a check to one of his groomsmen to buy some alcohol with and make sure he knew it was from me (they were tailgating for a football game so I knew they would be drinking all day long) … and they were all psyched.

He knew it was from me and told anyone who cared at all … but for the most part the other boys just gave him crap and/or barely even noticed …. so with that said I think the best idea is buying the shot/round of drinks at the bar …. and I also like the idea of the “welcome bag” , but I would do just one for your fiance … tell him to open it on the plane/car or once he gets to the hotel/place he is staying.

Great ideas! Have fun with it, but don’t go too overboard cause I guarantee he’ll just be drunk the whole time!!

Thanks for everyone’s thoughts and comments. I guess I should have clarified I definitely don’t plan on doing ALL of the things I mentioned – I was just brainstorming for the best one or two ideas. I’ll certainly take into consideration the fact that it’s his weekend, but I’m friends with all of the guys that are going, so I don’t think he/they would mind me butting in once or twice.

i think having a bar tab would be the coolest one. I’m not sure my guy would like the other ones – they might embarrass him and ruin the masculinity of the event. But lining up a round of shots ahead of time sounds kind of cool.

I do have to say you are very thoughtful, but at the same time I agree that you should let his boys weekend be his boys weekend. Maybe you could do something when he gets home to welcome him home and let him know you hope he had a good time and you missed him, but I think part of the bachelor weekend is to not really think about/talk about the women in their lives!

Honestly…While I think this is sweet it’s can be perceived as being overbearing. Not trying to be mean or anything b/c if it was the other way around I would love my finace to surprise me on my girls trip. All the ladies would say aww he is so sweet but men are a little different.

I think your ideas are awesome! And you obviously know your Fiance so you know he would’nt mind! Guys are gonna tease regardless if you do something or nothing and honestly my fiance’s friends might tease if I do something like that but they also would be using all the stuff! Guys are just like that!

I think your ideas are really sweet! I think the envelope of cash is the best idea… I would do something more for him than for him and the guys. He’ll already be getting ragged on enough most likely, I don’t know if its even necessary for you to do something to add to it!