Can excitement be created in the bedroom with no outside influences? I am asking, Can great sex be achieved with no lubes, lotions, potions, toys or adult videos?

My answer is ABSOLUTELY matter of fact I think it is better. When there are outside things that we bring into the bedroom it can create more of a disconnection instead of a great connection. When you are experimenting this can be fun but if you are truly committed in feeling completely comfortable with one another then I have found that the purity of myself and my husband creates serenity in the bedroom. Peace, love and vulnerability is present. When other items are brought into the bedroom I feel more like we are experimenting. We are two consenting adults creating sexperiments. I am all for creating fun in the bedroom but when that fun creates a feeling of being separate from one another then I feel like it may be doing more damage then good. We want to feel comfortable, confident, connected, whole and together. Lotions, potions, exotic foods, body paints, blindfolds and a few more items can create the feeling of connection in the bedroom as you are both having fun exploring the possibility of something new and exciting. I personally feel that erotic toys and pornographic images create disconnection and at times even destruction. Toys that vibrate create a sensation that your husband is never going to be able to duplicate....unless your husbands penis vibrates. You want to focus on getting to a place that your spouse can satisfy all your sexual needs. When it comes to pornographic images I have personally never found that it brings a great sexual connection. Porn is a fake sexual experience and Porn only creates chemicals in your brain that you want more and more of. It is like a drug and it will consume and possibly destroy your marriage.You can get creative in the bedroom but remember the whole reason you are there. You are giving yourself to your spouse. You are sharing and serving. You are committing to being open, honest, vulnerable, sincere, real and passionate. Sex is amazing and you have the ability to create your own bedroom playground. You can bring in items that are fun but make sure those items do not disconnect you and your spouse from one another. Raw intimacy between the two of you is the best but there is a time for playful fun as well.

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My name is Cameo .I have been married for 16 years and with my husband for 17.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!