If so, just do what you normally would. Don’t hesitate to buy her a few drinks and engage her in conversation. Start building rapport and start speaking to her emotions.

Like we’ve seen on other pages here – you can usually walk into a club and spot women who are looking to be seduced. In that situation, you have already bypassed the threat of The Over Justification Effect.

The way that you will most often run into The Over Justification Effect is not during a simple approach and pickup. It comes when actually dating a new woman on that first date or two. Basically, once the relationship has a sexual aspect, there are no worries. After that point, nice dinners or gifts are not perceived as trying to influence her actions. They are more likely to be seen as a reward for the behavior she has already engaged in.

Now that leaves us with a small issue in that dinner and\or a movie is mainstay of first and second dates.

The solution is to keep it simple:

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Make a trip to the Zoo or a park – get some ice cream – just spend some time talking.

Spend your time engaging her emotionally and building rapport. Just keep things low key – the last thing you want to do is make her think that you are trying to impress her with gifts or expensive restaurants.

You can be certain that she does want to have sex – that desire is hard wired into her.

The issue is that something or some things have to happen that makes it alright for her. She has to have justification – but notover justification – so that she doesn’t feel like she is failing her upbringing or her conditioning by society.

You also have to be a guy that she wants to have sex with. You cannot seem needy or appear to have unknown motivations.

Any perceived attempt to “bribe” or entice her will be seen as an external attempt to influence her actions. Such perceptions will generally not end between the sheets.

Always approach women with the understanding that they do like and want sex. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking the opposite. Society has created the idea that, “nice girls don’t do that”.

They do.

Your actions should always reinforce her natural motivation and support the perception that it is OK; not that her desire is for sale that is a key to understanding female sexual motivation.