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Men Have Got to Be Better

A YouBoober by the name of Angry Aussie made this video six months ago.

I’m just going to comment on some of the things that he has said in this video.

if you think the problems and injustices faced by men are worse than those suffered by women (or even equivalent) then simply put, you ARE the problem.

So if I think that men being beaten, sexually assaulted, and raped by women is just as bad as women being beaten, sexually assaulted, and raped by men, then I’m the problem? If that’s the case, then it’s no wonder why male victims are never taken seriously. Then again, I’m taking things out of context as always.

there’s very little a woman can do to stop violence happening because it can happen at any time in any circumstance.

That’s true, it can happen any time and any circumstances, which is unfortunate. And there’s only so much women can do to stop the violence. But I think women can do a lot more to defend themselves than Angry Aussie is giving them credit for.

Their own home is the most dangerous environment. They are in the most danger from men they know.

Well my aunt grew up with six brothers and her brothers. Her mother died when my dad was seven. Man, my aunt must have been terrified to be at home. Okay she wasn’t, but I bet a lot of women are terrified to be living at home with all men. Okay, maybe they’re not, but they should be…or not.

If you feel compelled to shut down women talking about the everyday reality they deal with because “not all men” do it, you are actively supporting the rapists.

What???

I’ve seen some guys take exception to the term “Schrodinger’s Rapist”. This surprises me because I think it’s an excellent definition of why women have to be cautious of men who are NOT rapists. Like Schrodinger’s Cat who is both alive and dead until the box is open, women are confronted with so many situations where she should be safe but can be attacked without warning. She only knows for sure if a man is a rapist when she makes herself vulnerable and so up until that point, the man both is and is not a rapist. The worst thing is, in far too many cases, “vulnerable” means nothing more than existing as a woman.

I’m a man, and I’m not a rapist. And yet, until a woman get to know me, I’m a rapist and I’m not a rapist at the same time. Well, how can women get to know me, if they’re to afraid to get to know me out of fear of what I may or may not do?

I’m not totally discrediting the Angry Aussie’ video. Some women do fear men because of all the horrible things that we’ve done. And there’s very little women can do to determine which men are dangerous and which are not. So it’s rational to assume that all men are the same. So I think it’s our job to make women feel safe. That’s why I avoid women as much as I can. For example, if I’m walking down the street, and there’s a woman walking in front of me, I’ll go into the opposite direction. Granted, situations like has caused me to be late for work, and hence I’ve been fired as a result, but it’s worth making a woman I don’t know feel safe. I only approach women under the following conditions.

They’re family members.
They work customer service.
They’re co-workers, but only on professional level.
They approach me first.