I joke and kid about being a chauvinist all the time. (NoHo, more sammichs! )

The fact is, there is a lot more to marriage that just being "the boss." You are taking on a tremoudus responsibility in being the head of the household. It is best to be married to someone that shares the same values and beliefs as you do.

Any man that treats his wife like a possession is clueless. And he's missing the real value of a marriage.

quote:The "macho caveman males" on here amaze me. You expect women to take your name even if they don't want to? If women asked you to take their name, would you? If not, then you are a hypocrite. You can't "demand" that they take your name if you wouldn't be willing to do the same for them. It's just a name and if women aren't comfortable taking yours, let them keep theirs, go with a hyphenated name, or choose a new last name. There is no woman who should marry a man who demands that they take their name. If a man is that close minded, he would start demanding other things as well. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.

quote:What does a name have to do with two becoming one? It is a label. Names and labels are in their nature symbolic.

its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.

quote:its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.

A symbol nonetheless. Remove the symbol and the shared values still exist. The real thing is what is important, not the symbol.