Submitted Story: Farewell SDSU Sigma Chi – Delta Xi

As promised, the Brotherhood will be heard (again). This is an update to #93 Submitted Story: Sigma Chi Heart Break. As previously discussed, an anonymous author from San Diego State University tells his story as a brother of the Sigma Chi fraternity. This post serves as the conclusion. The #90 Snitch and #16 Importance of Secrecy play a large role, as always. It’s an unfortunate, yet recurring story of betrayal within the brotherhood.

Name: Delta Xi

University: San Diego State University

Fraternity: Sigma Chi

As you may or may not know, the Sigma Chi chapter at San Diego State University was kicked off campus this past spring. Why? For hazing allegations. When the pledges went home for spring break, they came back one man short. One of their pledge brothers essentially disappeared overnight. He ceased all contact with his pledge class, and even disconnected his cell phone number after they called him and left panicked voicemails. Fast forward 2 weeks, and the school is knocking at our doors. Apparently, a pledge and his parents had come forward with allegations of hazing.

To understand how this happened, you first need to understand how corrupt San Diego State’s Student Life and Leadership office is. Because of the way that the department is structured, there is no fairinvestigative system in place. The people that run SLL don’t need evidence or balanced legal proceedings to impose sanctions. The ONLY requirement that they need in order to suspend students is to be “more sure than not” that the student is guilty. But who determines this? They do, of course. They have complete power to suspend anyone that they want whenever they want. As a result of this gross misuse of power, over a third of the Sigma Chi Delta Xi chapter has been suspended from San Diego State University. Yes, you read that right. 40+ young men have had their education and future careers jeopardized at the whim of the SLL office. If you stand for the ideals of justice that this great country was founded on, you should be appalled. SDSU’s Student Life and Leadership office is literally using the same proceedings that Nazi germany did—no evidence, no proof, just punishment. It’s THAT bad folks.

Let’s not worry about the fact that Sigma Chi Delta Xi raised $20,000 for cancer research in the weeks before they were kicked off.

Let’s not worry about the fact that Sigma Chi Delta Xi had more philanthropy volunteer hours at places like the Boys and Girls club than any other greek organization on campus.

Let’s not worry about the fact that SAE’s President overdosed and died at a party with no repercussions from the school.

Let’s not worry about the fact that EVERY fraternity on campus hazes and has a hell week.

Let’s not worry about the fact that every other pledge vehemently denied that they had ever been put in a dangerous situation during their pledge process.

Let’s not worry about any of that. Let’s worry about the ONE pledge who twisted his ankle and cried all the way home to mom and dad. Great thinking, SDSU.

Obviously this whole situation is very disturbing. My words will never be able to adequately describe how I feel, so i’m going to wrap it up here. But before I do, I want you to know what pains me the most. It hurts to see dozens of my brothers suspended. It hurts to know that the smiling faces at the Boys and Girls club will miss our visits. It hurts to know that impoverished families stricken with cancer will no longer benefit from our fundraising. And as sad as all that may be, it is not what pains me most.

No. what hurts me the most is that kids like myself will never again know what its like to be a Sigma Chi Delta Xi. When I came to SDSU, I was a timid freshman with no idea what I was doing with my life. This fraternity transformed me into a man, gave me a purpose, and helped me get my life together. I KNOW there are other kids like me out there. But those lost souls searching for a place will never find themselves walking the halls of Sigma Chi as I did. No, all of that is done now. It was all ruined because of one kid’s cowardice.

That, ladies and gentleman, is the greatest travesty of all.

With sorrow, -A former Sigma Chi Delta Xi

As always, there are two sides to every story. We’d love to hear what the pledge has to say, but alas, we’ll never know. You can argue that the system is corrupt, or that fraternities are to blame. Round and round we go. As a parting note, we’ll leave you with this: When you join a fraternity, just like any organization, you sign up for it. The door is always there. There is a definite line of morality, and I’m positive this crew went past it… always all fraternities do during the pledgeship process. But, as always, the choice originated with the pledge. Sound off in the comments below.

Would love to hear from any snitches out there. Why not just walk away?

I have zero pity for you and your brothers, sorry says 5 years ago

Oh so tragic~
Not really.

>>”Let’s not worry about the fact that EVERY fraternity on campus hazes
and has a hell week.”
>>”It was all ruined because of one kid’s cowardice.”

Hazing is illegal in California. Using the “everyone else does it so it’s OK” argument is not a valid reason to break the law. Maybe the kid talked, whined, bitched, what have you, but as the Pledge Master you made the decision to orchestrate an archaic illegal practice. Don’t fault the cowardly pledge for the demise of your fraternity, you and your brothers invited in trouble when you chose to practice hazing.

Be the men you claim to have become and accept the fact that you and your brothers did something incredibly stupid. Part of being an adult is admitting when you’re wrong and then vowing to learn from your mistakes. There’s nothing mature about pointing the finger at this pledge and screaming “HE DID IT! HE KILLED OUR FRATERNITY!” As consenting adults, you’re ALL to blame in one way or another.

>>”It hurts to know that the smiling faces at the Boys and Girls club will miss our visits. [ … ] impoverished families stricken with cancer will no longer benefit from our fundraising.”

You and your brothers can still organize yourselves for fundraisers and volunteer as individuals at Boys and Girls club. Being in a fraternity may have made it easier to get together on the weekends to do community work, but if you’re real brothers (as you claim to be) having your fraternity disbanded should not be the end of your charity work with the community. In fact this should encourage you all to work even harder; it would certainly help in cleaning the fraternity’s now tarnished reputation.

TL;DR: you all fucked up, stop making excuses, quit whining, and get the fuck over it

You're a dumb ass says 5 years ago

To “I have zero pity for you and your brothers, sorry” aka the fucking GEEEEEEEED (GDI/you don’t frat) above,

You clearly have no idea what it is like to have your hopes and dreams crushed, or to work for something you truly believe in and have it snatched away from you, because then you would feel sorry as fuck.

Imagine you were told you were going to start as the star quarterback in high school. You worked your ass off in practice, did a thousand up downs, push ups upon push ups, drilled for hours…all in hopes that you would one day be able to shine on the field and get the respect and feel the joy you so rightfully deserve, not only by yourself but with your teammates you’ve worked so hard with. THEN the day before your game, some asshole complains that he got “overworked” in practice and the administration shuts down your football program – taking away your entire season along with your long awaited glorification.
Thats about the exact equivalent of what happened to these men. SO SHUT THE FUCK UP and go masterbate while you’re alone in your room because you clearly don’t pull.

Jimmy Tatro says 5 years ago

You’re a dumb ass said it. Second commenter is a nf pussy ass gdi fuck.

To my brothers from Delta Xi class of ’84. Few university men have the
honor and integrity to answer a simple question . Are you a Sigma Chi?
I am , with my head held high with grace. Without a doubt, the few board members at the SLL Office will be seriously called into question on the insidious decision to suspend our chapter.
This sociopath becoming angry and aggressive when a brother questioned his integrity, is a classic example of how this pledge reported to SLL Office his false memories and deceptive lies. This young man is clearly delusional and relies on unprovable situations to gain authority.
Nothing he said was credible enough to revoke our bloody chapter from us!
After I make a proper visit to SLL Office, their Board will exonerate Sigma Chi Delta Xi of wrongfully implementing “Tough Love” to this pledge.

D.Irwin

harrison says 3 years ago

clearly every pledge knows that they’ll be hazed going into their pledgeship. That said, there was obviously a good reason this kid did this. If you’re joining a frat expect to be hazed but frats need to know what’s too far. you’re all supposed to be goddamn brothers and I know for sure I’ll never call someone responsible for starving me, making me sleep in a cage, eating dip, or something like that my brother.

Alum says 3 years ago

I twisted my ankle the other day playing ball at the gym, should we blame it on the gym floor and get it shut down…. No, shit happens. This was my house at one time and I loved every minute of it. Any activities as part of pledging were always known to be every individuals choice, when there is a choice there is no hazing anyone can walk away at any time. This chapter and the brothers in it helped me become the successful man I am today. I will always be sigma chi, delta xi

Gary Teekay says 3 years ago

Blessed are the whistle blowers for they advance civilization.

P. daniel says 2 years ago

Brother, i am coming to you because I am in the same predicament. We have been kicked off for “Hazing” aka rush tits.