Finding Time to Reconnect when Life Gets Busy

With all the hustle and bustle of being parents we can often forget we
are still a couple! Who has time to go on a date? Valentine’s Day…what is that?

Couples don't always get to do what their single
counterparts can take for granted - date. When children are involved, making
time as a couple can be tough. Couples should not forget the single most
important factor in having happy children is to be happy in your relationship
with your spouse. If you have a happy relationship, you will have a happier
family life. This is why it is important to have time together as a couple.
Your child might not like you to leave him or her. They may throw a fit when
you walk out the door, but remember, this only lasts for a short time. You will
be better parents if you have time alone, and they will be happier kids!

Below are some ideas for you to spend some time alone
with your significant other.

1. Plan Your Date: Scheduling time together is a great way to stay
committed to having alone time. It also gives you something to look forward to.
Plan who will watch the kids and where you will go. Be spontaneous, but agree
on alone time consistently that works for both your schedules.

2. Take Time for Little Things: If going out is not in your budget, or you cannot find a
babysitter, don’t forget there are little things you can do to still get
quality time together. After the kids are in bed: watch a movie together, have
a candle-lit dinner at home, or simply take time to talk. This can help couples
grow their relationship.

3. Forget the Chores: The laundry and “to do” list will always be there. Often
couples feel the need to cross items off this list when the kids are not around
(thinking more can get accomplished). While this can be true, it’s okay to
forget the list once and awhile so you can have quality alone time with your
significant other when the kids are not there.

4. Relax: When you have found
the alone time together, remember to relax. Often couples find themselves
talking about daily stressors while alone. Try to avoid this and remember why
you fell in love in the beginning.

It’s easy
to forget you are more than simply parents. You are also a couple! Being in a
relationship takes work. Sometimes finding the time to work on your
relationship may be hard, but time alone with your partner is not only good for
you, but good for your children. Remember, the best gift you can give to your children
is happy parents!