What Do I Do?

Pls I need your kind suggestions. I am in a dilemma at the moment, two people are in love with me, The one I love among them is a muslim and my parent do not know him and they won't allow me marry a muslim but the other one is the person my parents know about, he is a christain but i don't love him although he is willing to provide anything I ask from him. what do I do?

Do I just continue with the one i'm in love with and let the other know that i'm quitting my relationship with him not

minding the consequences it may lead to from my parents or do I continue with the one my parents know about which i don't have any love for, even though he is willing to provide anything i ask for.

Being nice doest cut it with girls, trust me. Nice is the word they use to describe a guy they aren't interested in so if ur being nice then Ur going about it all wrong.

Fidelity s not a duty to another. It's a duty to God and self. When U look at it as if Ur doing another mortal a favour being sexually disciplined U most likely would feel unappreciated when they don't even notice. If Ur not sleeping around to impress her, U probably won't.

Why? Girls have a mainframe server on Venus where they consult to decide on things. the more girls want u the more Ur girl feels like Ur worth something cos the server data bank on Venus is overloaded with info sent from "micro-computers" on earth that say Ur HOT. Girls also have this silly way of thinking that a man that sleeps around would know a lot more about how to satisfy them. They actually prefer U to go and learn how to from other girls U've rammed thru before coming to them. Funny thing about this is most times when ur ramming thru u really don't give a hoot. All U want is to stick it and drain ur pipes so Ur too busy doing that U dont pay attention once Ur in and jamming. besides who ever told them that an "experienced" man would be impressed or satisfied with what they have to offer when he has so many to compare them with and will hardly ever forget any of those from the past. The past is very easily idealised.

U always call her? It takes two to tango. If U dont call her does she call U? What do u talk about when U call? Hope ur not going Titanic on her giving flows a secondary school boy wont even use anymore? U and Ur gal don't stay in the same place? See this guy o! Who dey do distance relationship these days. girls work with face value. they can hardly ever see beyond the person standing in front of them even if he's no good.

Everybody on talk am. Free urself go find another babe. If U are worth anything she'l come looking for U. Don't be deceived by any weak attempts she makes o. U have to wait till she proves she wants u that bad. Cos I know say if she just flash U now sef U go buy 1500 recharge call her with everything dey apologize for her. be a man. Ur the prize not the competitor.

As much as I hate people spying at their patners' private mails etc, I am very reserved when judging in matter like this. If your girl is not a lesbian and you are sure of this, well, caution is the word. You may drive her to become one if you continue to act this way. I really don't know how to handle this. But I can tell you I have a couple of lesbian friends and they are highlyy principled and very persuasive. This may sound strange from me, I have found out that some of them are driven to the act by men.

regarding your girl, she is already going to sleep with the lady. But you can't say of she will have sex with her unless you install a CCTV in her friend's or spy at them. You know this is a silly way to handle such delicate matter.

In my opinoin, you shoud follow topup advice. lesbians don't drop from heaven, they learn the act. If your girl is going to be bisexual, there is nothing you can do about it. Stop begging her and accept the fact that she may eventually do what she want. If you can confirm that she did it, you have the right to terminate the rellationship. begging her will just be like complicating the matter. You can talk to her of find someone who can talk to her. And once she fail to heed the advice, please let her be and find someone who will meet your expectation.

If she didn't think there was a possibility that she would sleep with her friend she probably would have been able to promise you that, but I think maybe she is interested in the other girl.

Sad really, the fact that you are begging her that anything is better than another girl. When really nothing should be better than being true to you and only you.

I think that maybe the two of you should go on a break, if she is still going through an explorative stage, because I'm sure remaining with someone who's not sure that they want to be with you isn't good for your psyche, it could be very stressful for you.

Abeg, drop dat girl shes lose and obviously a transexual. Go for some1 else, cos if she has sex with the lesbian she wont tell you. Think abt this do you want to spend the rest of ur life with a freak?

I guess u shld just pray for her not to go into the act. She attended an all-girl's boarding skool abi? i heard that most female boarding skools have a few cases of lesbianism. maybe ur girl had wanted to try it out, but was ashamed or scared to do so. for her to "somehow" tell u that she will not do it, and to top it up by saying she is not giving u any promise that she won't strongly shows that she is seriously considering the act. Just keep trying to discourage her from it, cos once she starts, she might not be able to stop, and she might later lose her affections for u. and that includes sexually.

she told me she will not do it. The fact was that when she was in boarding house she did not engage in such a thing. i don't know why now. She might end up not doing it. but my fear is that she is giving this girl green light by telling her she also luvs her. both of them are currently discussing about les***** thing now. i appreciate it because she tells me all what they have been writing but she does not know that i am some how reading the

messages on fb. but i pretend and ask her as if i am doing a follow up

That is the thing their marriage was a "real" marriage. They met at a function, fell in love and married. The papers were a bi-product of the marriage. But if you ask me he wanted his papers found a single mom with two kids, recently widowed, showered her with gifts and she accepted his proposal. Along the way he cheated once, twice then she started cheating and now the third time. She never had any children for him and I think her attitude is what pushed him away from her, if he was ever hers from the start. She is very aggressive and constituently reminded him of all her first husband did for her and how much she truly loved him and how he was no real replacement for him and was not living up to her first husbands standards.

I dont know she is going to survive when/if she kicks him out when he returns.

Thats what u expect from marriage-for-paper or any form of arranged marriage. . . The truth is they hope love will fall from the heavens at sometime during their marriage but it doesnt always happen like that

My husband I were disscussing this this am and he said the same thing you just said. I am really disappointed in her reaction to him cheating. She has been planing for months who she was going to invite over to her house when he left for Nigeria, and now she is upset that he is cheating. It really makes me upset and all she can say to me is watch out your husband is going to do the same thing to you.

i believe if they both confess to one another in sincerity,and desist from the art of adultery, then happiness cud return to thier marriage. or else, they cud continue in the act and shut both lips together.

Call a spade a spade. What manner of a woman would do such a thing? She has 3 men in her life apart from the one she is living with?!What legacy is she leaving for the children she is going to give birth to. Such a woman needs nothing else other than serious tongue-lashing. It's better she forgives the man and dump the 3 other men or she packs out of the man's house and life. Tell her it is the law of karma that is taking its toll in her life right now. . Gosh!

like i said dont intefer in watever dats got to do with a man and a woman,if not they will settle with ur name,and u'll be tagged d bad one,tell her its her cross let her carry it and make her own decisions by herself,so dat if anything goes wrong ,she alone will be blamed and not u

You shdnt have given him an ultimatum. . . . unless u really meant it and i take it u didnt

guys don't like being threatened and u may have just set many unwanted events in motion

u hav two options

u can either wait and see if he comes back, bear in mind that if he doesnt, it doesnt necessarily mean he doesnt care, his ego may get in the way

the other option is for u to call him and apologise but also get him to make it clear if he was really breaking up with u or just reacting to your ultimatum. . .

u've placed yourself in an awkward position so u need to be calm and level headed and be careful whatever u do

loose all the irrational outbursts and communicate so u know where u are. . . if u determine he still cares then u u should know what to do to get in his good books again (cook for him, stroke his ego all the things u know he likes) make it up to him the way only a girl can

if he isnt willing to forgive, accept it an move on. . . . he probably was loosing interest in the relationship anyway