Tag: Healing the Family System

How do you feel about elections and voting? For many it can be a gut wrenching time, filled with family feuds or arguments, or becomes a topic to be avoided in polite company. Our family values and expectations at election time, may cause a huge inner conflict at the voting poll that spirals our energy downward. As a result, we may grow in disdain for these democratic events and rights. Thinking about it from an energy perspective may help us to resolve our issues and vote with a coherent attitude that makes a difference to our energy system and ultimately to the country.

The nature of democracy and voting is that everyone is entitled to vote from their conscience with the respect of society for doing so. Of course, we may find democracy works very well for us, when our whole family system votes the same way because we have a shared sense of values, vision for our country, and a shared perspective of how things are to work. Our shared understanding may forge an unspoken rule for the consciousness of our group whether it is a family, a small community or other shared interest group–a rule that says “we” vote a particular way for a particular candidate. If we are personally in agreement with how our group votes, our field of energy expands with civic pride for having voted, and we may even experience great joy and delight when our chosen candidate wins.

However, life is constantly in motion and everyone changes and grows including groups, political parties and their candidates. It may be difficult to sustain our coherence when as individuals we come to a realization that the candidate endorsed by our group no longer meets our personal expectations or values. We may feel uncomfortable making a different choice or voicing our opinions aloud. It may be very difficult for us to exercise our freedom to vote from our conscience, feeling guilty for opposing the unspoken rule of our group for how to vote. As a result, we may no longer resonate with voting, freedom, democracy and either avoid voting altogether, or place for our vote with great reluctance or other diminished feelings. The mere discussion of politics may break out in non-coherent arguments and physical rage if the rule broken with a contrary vote is very important to the group. What we are feeling is the systemic guilt that is generated by opposing our groups rules.

In the set of repatterning’s from Magui Block’s “Healing The Family System,” feeling guilty when we have done something wrong is normal and helps us to compensate for something wrong that we have done. Neurotic guilt, according to Magui, is a sensation of anxiety that covers up an emotion, such as repressed anger. It does not lead us toward growth or responsibility. However, systemic guilt is the guilt we feel when our family has voted one way for generations, but own research and consideration leads us to vote in an opposite way. When our vote is different from that of our group, we may feel that it separates us from the group, and maybe we are afraid we no longer belong. We may perceive ourselves as ‘bad’ or unacceptable. These are very powerful feelings. The systemic guilt generated may be so strong that, in fact, we abandon our choice to vote in a different way and choose instead to vote in a way that supports the group or we don’t vote at all. The energetic benefits to be reaped from exercising our right to vote is lost.

If you find yourself voting against the rules of your group, whether for an election or by breaking any other rule that defines them, you are testing the limits for growth of the group. While we may feel systemic guilt in the short run, if our choice is based on growth, we will transform by breaking the rules. Chances are the group will grow as well, because our choices caused them to consider new information. Our choice for growth will be good for us personally and, in the long run, for the group as well–even if we are in opposition. The price we pay for growth and, for that matter, democracy is the hard choice of voting from our hearts, especially when our choices contradict popular opinion.

Of course, making a decision for ourselves that is contrary to our family or group and doing so with confidence and clarity is much easier if we have the coherence to do so. Resonance Repatterning practitioners using the Repatternings such as “Peace Repatterning” or “Systemic Loyalties Repatterning” from Healing the Family System can help anyone clear these issues and vote with energy that spirals upward.

The nature of democracy is growth and freedom. Addressing any patterns that are triggered within us will contribute to a deep sense of civic pride and to a stronger community and country.

With love and light,
Carolyn Winter

Carolyn is a past president and a long time volunteer with the Repatterning Practitioners Association. She is a Holographic Coach at http://www.LightTravels.com providing personal sessions and unique online long distance sessions. She uses the Healing the Family Systems Repatternings in her popular Ancestral Echoes online group repatterning sessions. Recently, she has taken on the role of Seminar Online Coordinator at www.Ozardis.com

Magui Block knows how to support people in transforming their relationships very well. When I heard that she is creating a new relationships workshop, I wanted to hear more.

Sally: You are the author of two excellent Resonance Repatterning® workshops—one called Healing the Family and one called Healing the Family Systems and Healing the Systems—Family, Groups, and Organizations. What is the next workshop that you are developing?

Magui: My next workshop will address intimate relationships– one with one relationships. It is more for couple relationships, but it can be beneficial for any other intimate relationship such as parent/child or siblings; boss/employee relationships, close friends.

I want many people to attend. I want to do it outside of the Resonance Repatterning umbrella, so everybody can attend, not only Resonante Repatterning practitioners. Chloe, who has always supported and guided my work, likes the idea and is close to me in this project.

There will be two manuals—one for Resonance Repatterning participants and one for people who are not trained to do Resonance Repatterning. Participants who are not Resonance Repatterning Practitioners can learn the work through another, more simple system—another pathway. They will still be able to identify non-coherent patters, identify the issues that hold the non-coherence in place and identify the modality. They can do the same process without needing to use muscle checking.

I hope that this approach will help increase the number of students studying Resonance Repatterning. By taking this workshop, they will feel motivated to take additional courses.

Some of the chapters of this new workbook include:

How Families of Origin affect the Dynamics of the Couple

How to Attract and Manifest an Intimate Relationship

The Dynamics of Male/Female Interactions

Setting Limits in Relationships

Destructive Relationships

Ending a Relationship

In this manual, I address why there are more divorces now. I address how to manage power in a relationship such as in relationship to money and control. And finally, I address what happens when one member of a couple grows and moves in life and that threatens the couple staying together.

Sally: When is this workshop first going to be taught?

The first workshop will be held in Spain in late November—in Spanish.

Participants will include couples and singles, Resonance Repatterning Practitioners and people who are not repatterners, psychologists and social workers, etc. They will learn the tools. I won’t teach them the skills of how to help others heal. If they have those skills, they can use this tool in their practice. If not, they will be able to use this tool for themselves.

Sally: Will you be using Bert Hellinger approaches again in this workshop?

Magui: I use his principles a little when teaching “dynamics of the soul”. But primarily I am using other approaches. I am presenting what I have seen to work with my clients who are addressing couples issues.

The work is very serious, but I address it in a light way. I use stories and case histories. The way the manual is written is designed to heal. I meditated and received inner guidance. This workshop is very different than what I have presented in the past. It is simpler.

Sally: When doing modalities, do you recommend that the practitioner follow the instructions from the book exactly as they are written, or do you recommend that they change the processes as they feel appropriate?

Magui: If a practitioner is connected with spirit, with their wisdom, the modality goes well. If not connected with spirit, the energy is denser and there is more suffering. This work must touch your spirit.

For example, with the modalities for trauma: It’s not the trauma, but the trauma’s energy that gets stuck. Let that energy do what ever it needs to be doing. What does the energy need to do? The described modalities are only one way to heal. If the given modality gives you a different idea, it is recommendable to do that different process. The suggestions in the book can be used to take a different direction.

Do the work with the heart, not the head. The modalities are a limitation in a way. We have many more tools. When a client is having an experience, the modalities are only ideas of how to address the experience. Maybe the client has other ideas.

….It is beneficial to take workshops many times. When you see a lot of different scenarios, your learning and grasp of the process will become deeper.

Sally: Do you have specific goals for this workshop?

Magui: The books are design to support transformation, to avoid repeating old patterns, and to create new coherent patterns.

When we get triggered by our old patterns, we get to see how our old patterns are in relationship to us. How do we develop the ability to not repeat these old patterns? First we identify our patterns and then we go on to our relationship patterns. We address what triggers us. What ever triggers us shows how we are in relationships and this reflects how we relate to ourselves.

In one of the chapters, for example, I address that people are often alone, not by conscious choice, but are afraid to be with someone. They do not want to open their hearts—but that decision happens on an unconscious level. They are choosing by not choosing. They are losing time, love and experiences.

Then there are others who have relationships, but do not open up, they stay safe. They do not have a sense of community. They can’t open to someone, can’t open to others. They stay stuck in unhealthy relationships. They don’t finish with the relationship because they are afraid.

In this workshop, and in the book, I talk in a way that is light, very light. That is the way I teach. Not heavy. The issues are heavy, but the presentation is light and the healing is with love.

I am hoping to present Resonance Repatterning in a way that will help Resonance Repatterning will grow. I hope to find ways to make it attractive to more people.

Sally: Thank you Magui for all you have done for Resonance Repatterning. I look forward to taking this new workshop.

Sally Herr

Magui Block lives in Cuernavaca, Mexico. She has received accreditation in several fields in psychotherapy: Person Centered Focus, Gestalt Psychotherapy, Gestalt for Children and Teenagers, Dreams, Biomnemics (body therapy), Gestalt to treat Symptoms, Family Therapy, E.M.D.R., Eriksonian Hypnosis. She is also trained as a Family Constellation Therapist by the Bert Hellinger Institute of Berlin.
Magui has been a Resonance Repatterning Certified Practitioner since 1999, and teaches the Empowering Yourself seminar. She is the author of the Resonance Repatterning seminars “Healing The Family Systems” and “Healing The Systems- family, groups and organizations”. She was the first President of the Mexican Resonance Repatterning Association during 2000 and 2001, when it was created.

Sally Herr is a Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, a Speech Language Practitioner, MA/CCC, and a Biodynamic CranioSacral Therapist (RCST). She lives and works in Portland, Maine. Her website is SallyHerr.com.