If He Does These 10 Chivalrous Acts, He's A True Bonafide GENTLEMAN

I'm a modern girl. I'm independent and I'm single. I have built a career from the ground up, read everyone from C.S. Lewis to Suzanne Collins, can navigate social media with relative ease, and watch New Girl every week like it's my job.

And? I know I can take care of myself. But hey, call me old-fashioned, too. It's fine. I can appreciate aspects of feminism, but I prefer gender roles. I like when a guy volunteers to kill a massive spider without complaint, or lift a heavy box in my stead.

I find chivalry to be a gorgeous thing.

Most women I know are a little like that. We love our modern independence in life and in love, but deep down, we want guys to treat us like ladies. As most women will attest, it's become increasingly rare. Gentlemanly behavior sets our hearts aflutter. We want to see it, and many of us are waiting on it.

I want a guy to court me a bit. In fact, I'm sort of holding out for that. Someone to sweep me off my feet? No, gosh no. Grand gestures are wholly unnecessary. I just want someone I can count on. I just want him to do little things to make me sure he's the real deal.

Dating today is tough, and we women always seem to have doubts about the guys that roll into our lives. Does he like me? Are his motives genuine? Can I trust him completely? Guessing means you usually can't, and confusion isn't a good thing.

Most women would like to erase that. So if he puts in the time and does the little things, it's like a screening process for us. He's more likely to be into us as human beings, not hookups. He's more likely to be Mr. Right when we're over dealing with all those Mr. Wrongs. That's why chivalry is as important now as it ever was.

Here's to all the women who are looking for that chivalrous, good-hearted guy. He's out there. These are the things he does to make us swoon. (And to all those chivalrous, good-hearted guys, keep doing what you're doing. We love you for it.)

1. He holds the door for you.

The other day, I was headed inside a building when a dark-haired guy with glasses noticed me a few steps away from the door. He waited for me to catch up, then held the door open and stepped aside, allowing me to head in first. I don't see this much anymore, living in a liberal area with a younger populace.

And yeah, I swooned. I slowed down, looked him in the eye and thanked him. In actuality, I wanted to shake his hand or give him a bear hug or something for being so darn chivalrous (don't worry, I didn't). Note: I have the same reaction to pulling out chairs and lifting heavy objects.

We women are used to waiting for his call ... and waiting, and waiting, and checking our phones, and waiting, and waiting, and checking to make sure our phones are actually functioning, and waiting, and waiting. There's nothing more infuriating.

Women crave reliability, but we no longer anticipate it. When a guy says he will call at 5:30 PM, we just think, "Ha! OK." If he actually calls at 5:30 PM? Well, cue the giddiness. "This one's a keeper."

3. He doesn't play games.

There's nothing more attractive than a guy who doesn't beat around the bush. He lets you know he's into you, and he's confident enough that he doesn't care about playing it cool. He likes you, he's excited about you, and he wants you to know it. Amazing? Uh, yeah.

We know a man's serious if he will gladly meet mom and shake hands with dad. And then, meet all of our friends, happily tolerating the one he just doesn't get along with. We see he's not a fan of her sarcastic quips, but the fact that he's putting a smile on makes us all warm and fuzzy inside.

Most women don't want all-out PDA. That makes us as uncomfortable and queasy as men. What we do love, however, is a guy who will grab our hand on the street or give us a quick peck on the cheek. It's adorable. We love that he loves being with us, and we think it's rather fantastic that he wants others to know, too.

Imagine this: He's not waiting three days to call you. He's calling or dropping you a brief text just to make sure you're home and safe. Oh, and he also walked you to your car in that shady parking structure/dark parking lot (because those locations are scary).

7. He offers you his jacket when you're cold.

I grew up watching rom-coms, and seeing the guy give the girl his jacket always made me smile. I'm freezing on a regular basis, and I hate it. If a guy is willing to brave the cold and give me his cozy means of protection so I can feel warmer, I can't even express the amount of gratitude.

It takes a long time for us to do hair and makeup. We'd rather keep it intact, you know? Enough said.

9. He steps in during awkward situations.

My friend found herself riding a bus a few weeks back with a guy nearby who was "creeping on her," so to speak. Another man, a perfect stranger, stepped in and got Creepy Guy to back off. Sometimes, it's hard to break away from awkward situations like that. As women, we like to feel safe, like someone has our backs. When a guy goes out of his way to help a lady, it's pretty much our favorite chivalrous gesture.

Women know when we're being taken seriously. We can tell when a guy wants to know more about us, more about what we believe, and more about how we think and react. We can tell when a man values our opinions and respects what we bring to the table in any stage of a romantic relationship. It's what we look for most in a guy, and how we know when we've met our match