That sucks, Scorpio! That means you are paying support for an income bracket you weren't earning?
I haven't heard of a state that reimburse a parent for child support. I thought every state would just apply it to future support payments or either you'd just be out of luck.

That sucks, Scorpio! That means you are paying support for an income bracket you weren't earning? I haven't heard of a state that reimburse a parent for child support. I thought every state would just apply it to future support payments or either you'd just be out of luck.

If you are raising your child and she has the means, then she should contribute at least to a collge fund. I never believed that if the man has custody the woman should not do anything if she is financially able.
Although, sometimes, whether it's the man or woman raising the child, the other parent seems as if they really don't care. It seems as if your ex just doesn't care. Maybe, her attitude is that you make enough so why should she have to do anything. It's kind of selfish of the parent when they are not sharing custody and has the means to pay support. Now, for the parents whom are struggling and making like $20, $30, $40k/year, then child support is a huge issue for them since they are already not making much money. Although, if their income is moving up into the six figures and more, they should at least be able to contribute something each month in a timely manner.
There are just a lot of selfish parents who say they care about their children, but when it comes to supporting financially and mentally, they are the worse.

If you are raising your child and she has the means, then she should contribute at least to a collge fund. I never believed that if the man has custody the woman should not do anything if she is financially able. Although, sometimes, whether it's the man or woman raising the child, the other parent seems as if they really don't care. It seems as if your ex just doesn't care. Maybe, her attitude is that you make enough so why should she have to do anything. It's kind of selfish of the parent when they are not sharing custody and has the means to pay support. Now, for the parents whom are struggling and making like $20, $30, $40k/year, then child support is a huge issue for them since they are already not making much money. Although, if their income is moving up into the six figures and more, they should at least be able to contribute something each month in a timely manner. There are just a lot of selfish parents who say they care about their children, but when it comes to supporting financially and mentally, they are the worse.

If you are raising your child and she has the means, then she should contribute at least to a collge fund. I never believed that if the man has custody the woman should not do anything if she is financially able.
Although, sometimes, whether it's the man or woman raising the child, the other parent seems as if they really don't care. It seems as if your ex just doesn't care. Maybe, her attitude is that you make enough so why should she have to do anything. It's kind of selfish of the parent when they are not sharing custody and has the means to pay support. Now, for the parents whom are struggling and making like $20, $30, $40k/year, then child support is a huge issue for them since they are already not making much money. Although, if their income is moving up into the six figures and more, they should at least be able to contribute something each month in a timely manner.
There are just a lot of selfish parents who say they care about their children, but when it comes to supporting financially and mentally, they are the worse.

If you are raising your child and she has the means, then she should contribute at least to a collge fund. I never believed that if the man has custody the woman should not do anything if she is financially able. Although, sometimes, whether it's the man or woman raising the child, the other parent seems as if they really don't care. It seems as if your ex just doesn't care. Maybe, her attitude is that you make enough so why should she have to do anything. It's kind of selfish of the parent when they are not sharing custody and has the means to pay support. Now, for the parents whom are struggling and making like $20, $30, $40k/year, then child support is a huge issue for them since they are already not making much money. Although, if their income is moving up into the six figures and more, they should at least be able to contribute something each month in a timely manner. There are just a lot of selfish parents who say they care about their children, but when it comes to supporting financially and mentally, they are the worse.

Ok Jock and RStarre ( ask yourlawyer friend, R...
(And yes, Bambi, no REAL MAN should ask a woman to pay support esp. when HE AND THE NEW WIFE make 4 times what I do and he knows i suffer to just get by...) He is just evil... but anyhow...my question...
Would I be entitled to a reimbursement of support paid if the premise on which my support payments were based was FICTITIOUS? (or is it too late?) Let me clarify.. I am a certified teacher, and wasn't working at the time of the support order. (Was happily taking care of 4 children at home, one disabled with autism.) Suport owed by me, at that time, when I was not working, was based on MY POTENTIAL to earn as a first year teacher. They based it here in Pa. on 30K a year. Thing is, at THAT TIME, 3 years ago, my credentials, act 48 (continuing education hours) and teaching experience were NOT UP TO DATE and my CAPACITY TO EARN was not based on true information.
Does this matter to them? Am I stuck or can i do something about this?
Someone wanna email me privately on this? I am a member for 3 more days...

Ok Jock and RStarre ( ask yourlawyer friend, R... (And yes, Bambi, no REAL MAN should ask a woman to pay support esp. when HE AND THE NEW WIFE make 4 times what I do and he knows i suffer to just get by...) He is just evil... but anyhow...my question... Would I be entitled to a reimbursement of support paid if the premise on which my support payments were based was FICTITIOUS? (or is it too late?) Let me clarify.. I am a certified teacher, and wasn't working at the time of the support order. (Was happily taking care of 4 children at home, one disabled with autism.) Suport owed by me, at that time, when I was not working, was based on MY POTENTIAL to earn as a first year teacher. They based it here in Pa. on 30K a year. Thing is, at THAT TIME, 3 years ago, my credentials, act 48 (continuing education hours) and teaching experience were NOT UP TO DATE and my CAPACITY TO EARN was not based on true information. Does this matter to them? Am I stuck or can i do something about this? Someone wanna email me privately on this? I am a member for 3 more days...

Normally, I would had overlooked this post, but I am also seeking advice on the subject.
The hard part is finding an attorney. I have looked at the Yellow Pages and for what? I need to know if anyone can help me with researching the professional background of an attorney for California.

Normally, I would had overlooked this post, but I am also seeking advice on the subject. The hard part is finding an attorney. I have looked at the Yellow Pages and for what? I need to know if anyone can help me with researching the professional background of an attorney for California.

Hey Scorpio,
I've said on other blogs that we attorneys are likely not to give legal advice to a non-client since we have ethical rules to observe about practicing law in states where we do not hold a license (I'm licensed in CA + OK) and there are malpractice concerns, but we normally can answer hypotheticals like the payor spouse whose financial situation changes can typically petition the court for a modification of support order based on these changed financial matters (and, in fact, may end up being the payee spouse). Naturally, you know the custodial parent is the one who gets child support (supposed to be for the benfit of the child, not the parent) so changes in custody orders can also change who is paid what and when. There are also many organizations offering free legal advice in most communities (legal aid, bar association, family law clinics, etc...). Best of luck!

Hey Scorpio, I've said on other blogs that we attorneys are likely not to give legal advice to a non-client since we have ethical rules to observe about practicing law in states where we do not hold a license (I'm licensed in CA + OK) and there are malpractice concerns, but we normally can answer hypotheticals like the payor spouse whose financial situation changes can typically petition the court for a modification of support order based on these changed financial matters (and, in fact, may end up being the payee spouse). Naturally, you know the custodial parent is the one who gets child support (supposed to be for the benfit of the child, not the parent) so changes in custody orders can also change who is paid what and when. There are also many organizations offering free legal advice in most communities (legal aid, bar association, family law clinics, etc...). Best of luck!

I guess I am stupid here as to how this all works...Question: How did this old blog from last Aug. of '06 get bumped back up to 3rd page, when I actually hadn't seen it at all in months??!? Funny, cuz I would like to consult a lawyer again, only one or two questions. Courntey??

I guess I am stupid here as to how this all works...Question: How did this old blog from last Aug. of '06 get bumped back up to 3rd page, when I actually hadn't seen it at all in months??!? Funny, cuz I would like to consult a lawyer again, only one or two questions. Courntey??

CD
God bless you for helping me. :)
I am just now reading the blogs, early Sun. evening.
I am not a gold member, can I email you anyhow at your screen name @mm.com? I think if you are a member, you have to email me first, at the mm addy at which time I will email you my "real" email addy.
I agree, this is private, but I need help, I'm being taken to the proverbial "cleaners."
Thanks again for your help.

CD God bless you for helping me. :) I am just now reading the blogs, early Sun. evening. I am not a gold member, can I email you anyhow at your screen name @mm.com? I think if you are a member, you have to email me first, at the mm addy at which time I will email you my "real" email addy. I agree, this is private, but I need help, I'm being taken to the proverbial "cleaners." Thanks again for your help.

Scorpio, ABSOLUTELY!!! E-MAIL me as soon as you can and tell me what's going on and what state or country you are in, kids ages, location of the kids, current custody issues, and the principal terms of the decree regarding support. I think this is better left private as opposed to passing it through blogland!
It varries from state to state and country, but the general premise is the same. Then all I have to do is look it up. It should only take a little bit of time if you give me as much detail as possible. Write out a summary and chronology.
I'll check in Sunday afternoon. : )

Scorpio, ABSOLUTELY!!! E-MAIL me as soon as you can and tell me what's going on and what state or country you are in, kids ages, location of the kids, current custody issues, and the principal terms of the decree regarding support. I think this is better left private as opposed to passing it through blogland! It varries from state to state and country, but the general premise is the same. Then all I have to do is look it up. It should only take a little bit of time if you give me as much detail as possible. Write out a summary and chronology. I'll check in Sunday afternoon. : )