The Women Men Marry

Why Men Stay When They Don’t Want To Marry You

If you have ever been in a long term committed relationship for a number of years, eventually you will begin to think about the idea of getting married. For most women the confusion comes from the man in their life. He just doesn’t seem to be interested or motivated in moving the relationship forward. Even though you may want to get married, you have to remember it takes two to walk down that aisle. So if a man has no interest in ever getting married to the woman they are with, why do they even bother staying in the relationship?

Well its true a man will stay in a relationship even if he knows its not going to go anywhere. To understand why you have to understand how men think and how they view relationships.

Three common types of long term committed relationships men have:

1) He is in a very unhappy relationship. He doesn’t get along with his partner or maybe his needs are not being met. Either way he is not happy, most guys will leave the relationship, some guys might actually stick around just for sex on a regular basis.

2) He is in a very happy relationship. He is in love, his needs are being met, he feels respected and appreciated in the relationship and has absolutely no complaints. His girlfriend inspires him to be a better man and this makes him want to get married to this woman and spend the rest of his life with her.

3)The third type of relationship for men is in between an unhappy relationship and a very happy relationship. He is happy enough to be in a long term committed relationship but not happy enough to make it a permanent part of his life. Basically he is just comfortable in the relationship and too lazy to make any changes. There is nothing inspiring him to make a change. Right now he is in a holding pattern, he is waiting either for things to change in the relationship for the better or he is waiting for someone better to come along that will inspire him to leave the relationship.

At this point in the relationship it isn’t so bad where he can’t stand spending time with you and needs to end it. At the same time he isn’t happy enough in the relationship to want to commit to you for the rest of his life. Remember the rest of his life is a very long time. He needs to be inspired into a big decision like getting married.

So why would a man stay in a relationship if he doesn’t plan on getting married? Well first you have to understand its not that he hasn’t planned to get married, its that he has not been inspired by the relationship he is in to want to get married. Also take into consideration that just because you might be really happy in the relationship does not mean he is. As I stated before he might not be that happy in the relationship. If he is not happy in the relationship, he will definitely not want to propose.

Why would he stick around?

Hope, fear and sex. Most men genuinely hope that even if they are not in a perfectly happy relationship that something will happen that will change to make it better. Does this mean he will change to make it better probably not but he is waiting for something.

Another factor that plays on his mind is that he might not be able to find a better partner. Men can be afraid that they will remain alone for the rest of their life. He might be staying in the relationship just in case he never finds a person that is a better match.

Lastly is sex. Yes a man will stick around a relationship that is going nowhere and isn’t that amazing if it means he can have regular sex. If he breaks up with you then it means no sex. For many men, having sex in an unhappy relationship is far better then not having any sex. Not to mention, its just much easier and more comfortable to stay in the relationship.

Now this is not the reason why all men are in relationships, but if you have been in a relationship with your man for a number of years and he has absolutely no interest in getting married, then the problem is he has not been inspired enough to make that decision. If you want to learn more on how to get inspire your partner so he wants to get married and believes it was his idea all along check out ===>How To Get Your Man To Want To Marry You

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

paulwrigth@decodingmen.com

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