nah, i never pictured a traditional formal wedding for myself, even since early childhood. i want lil kids running wild, old folks laughing and the rest juking, twerking, getting their eagle on, line dancing and dancing like james brown at the reception.

I don't care if you don't know me or like me. But best believe I'm crashing this wedding [<:o)]

See, thats the best thing about it. There is no need for a strict head count, strict guest list etc when it is a casual, well planned bbq wedding. I hate when people have to turn down friends and extended family members or say 'no children allowed' b/c the per plate cost is prohibitive. No need for guests that have already paid $$$ to travel to have to pay $$$$ for expensive dresses & suits.

nah, i never pictured a traditional formal wedding for myself, even since early childhood. i want lil kids running wild, old folks laughing and the rest juking, twerking, getting their eagle on, line dancing and dancing like james brown at the reception.

my cousin's bbq wedding was on the grounds of his wife's family's very stately home. the guests were super casual in bbq attire. the wedding party had on their formal wear tux gown etc for the ceremony, then went in the house and changed into their jeans, cut off tee shirts, flip flips, sneakers and the reception began.

They had a big company come in with the best bbq (ribs pulled pork, burgers sausage, etc) and these huge bbq grills. big tent outdoors to eat & to party. big separate play area for the kids including the motorized cars and a play house. Since it was on private property with many acres, the music could blast as loud and wild as they wanted so it was as a true celebration.

i'll see if the pix are on my computer & if yes, i will post 1-2 of them. BBQ weddings are great

nah, i never pictured a traditional formal wedding for myself, even since early childhood. i want lil kids running wild, old folks laughing and the rest juking, twerking, getting their eagle on, line dancing and dancing like james brown at the reception.

my cousin's bbq wedding was on the grounds of his wife's family's very stately home. the guests were super casual in bbq attire. the wedding party had on their formal wear tux gown etc for the ceremony, then went in the house and changed into their jeans, cut off tee shirts, flip flips, sneakers and the reception began.

They had a big company come in with the best bbq (ribs pulled pork, burgers sausage, etc) and these huge bbq grills. big tent outdoors to eat & to party. big separate play area for the kids including the motorized cars and a play house. Since it was on private property with many acres, the music could blast as loud and wild as they wanted so it was as a true celebration.

i'll see if the pix are on my computer & if yes, i will post 1-2 of them. BBQ weddings are great

nah, i never pictured a traditional formal wedding for myself, even since early childhood. i want lil kids running wild, old folks laughing and the rest juking, twerking, getting their eagle on, line dancing and dancing like james brown at the reception.

my cousin's bbq wedding was on the grounds of his wife's family's very stately home. the guests were super casual in bbq attire. the wedding party had on their formal wear tux gown etc for the ceremony, then went in the house and changed into their jeans, cut off tee shirts, flip flips, sneakers and the reception began.

They had a big company come in with the best bbq (ribs pulled pork, burgers sausage, etc) and these huge bbq grills. big tent outdoors to eat & to party. big separate play area for the kids including the motorized cars and a play house. Since it was on private property with many acres, the music could blast as loud and wild as they wanted so it was as a true celebration.

i'll see if the pix are on my computer & if yes, i will post 1-2 of them. BBQ weddings are great

I'm planning on doing this for mine. I don't have my ring yet but I have my dress picked out and have all sorts of ideas for my backyard.

It's kinda funny though, I'm not in too much of a rush to do the ceremony but he doesn't want the engagement to go more than a yr (if we can help it). ]]>
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Author: PurplePhaseSubject: 371580Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:24pm

It makes sense to me My views are different from the rest of the world sometimes]]>
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Author: ThoughtCoutureSubject: 371580Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 10:04pm

NJHairLuv wrote:

ThoughtCouture wrote:

summary?

SUMMARY:

*understand that the traditional engagement is not just a formal announcement of the intention to marry, it is the start of a wedding planning process that will take 0-12 months normally, 18 months max (if folks have to fly in etc).

*Anything aside from the above is dating with a ring on and the people likely are not really sure or could covertly be weighing their options or looking to get the partner to move in, split the bills, have marital style boundary free sex & homemaking without the formal commitment of a marriage license.

I would not be engaged for over a year with no date, no premarital counseling, nothing. Smh]]>
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Author: uppitynegroidSubject: 371580Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 9:28pm

*understand that the traditional engagement is not just a formal announcement of the intention to marry, it is the start of a wedding planning process that will take 0-12 months normally, 18 months max (if folks have to fly in etc).

*Anything aside from the above is dating with a ring on and the people likely are not really sure or could covertly be weighing their options or looking to get the partner to move in, split the bills, have marital style boundary free sex & homemaking without the formal commitment of a marriage license.

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.

Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal? Da hell?

I ask that same question when people are surprised by a proposal.

Isn't that the kind of decision you and SO have been discussing before it happens?

I get not knowing the exact day/time...but not knowing that it's going to happen at all is weird.]]>
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Author: BBpantsSubject: 371580Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 8:42pm

uppitynegroid wrote:

BBpants wrote:

uppitynegroid wrote:

BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.

Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal? Da hell?

I might change my mind. I might want to do certain things before I decided to take the final. Not everyone is ready to jump right into marriage ! sh*t happens.

An engagement is not a trial run. It means you are certain this is the person you want to marry. If you are not sure, you keep dating until you are sure. If you still want to "do certain things" its best to do them as a single woman, not as a fiancee.

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.

Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal? Da hell?

I might change my mind. I might want to do certain things before I decided to take the final. Not everyone is ready to jump right into marriage ! sh*t happens.

An engagement is not a trial run. It means you are certain this is the person you want to marry. If you are not sure, you keep dating until you are sure. If you still want to "do certain things" its best to do them as a single woman, not as a fiancee. ]]>
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