Ask Dr. Iris: Is It Possible to Pee During Sex?

Is it normal, or even possible, for a woman to pee during sex? Is something wrong with me if I do?
This happens to a lot of women (so, yes, it is possible). One medical survey found that 24 percent of women report incontinence during intercourse, but most are too embarrassed to mention it to their doctors. It can be caused by weak bladder muscles. You should practice kegels to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, but some immediate solutions are to make sure you go to the bathroom before sex and cut down on caffeine because that makes your bladder spasm.

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Will having a copper IUD have any effects on my body other than period pain, etc.? I find it hard to believe a foreign object can sit inside me for five years and not do some damage.
The ParaGard (which is the copper IUD you're referring to) can cause heavier periods and more cramping with your period for as long as it's in. It doesn't contain any hormones, and it is actually a 10-year IUD. The five-year one is Mirena, which contains the hormone progesterone, and actually makes your periods lighter. Other than that, there are no known lasting effects to IUDs.

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One thing you should be extra careful with if you have an IUD, though, is STIs. If you get an STI while you have an IUD, the infection can ascend into your womb more easily and give you a more serious pelvic infection. Make sure to use protection, and if you're having a lot of casual sex, an IUD may not be right for you right now.

Hello! I'm 18 and I've been sexually active for about three years now. Although I enjoy sex with my boyfriend, I feel an intense pain every time he gets really deep into me, like he's hitting my womb. That usually happens in certain positions where penetration is deeper. Is there any chance my vagina is too short? I didn't feel that much pain in the past and my boyfriend is really gentle, so it's not his fault. I'm ashamed to ask my gyno!
It's unlikely your vagina is too short. This is a common sign of endometriosis, because the penis can be pushing on some of the extra tissue that's grown. You should rule out any infections with your gynecologist first — it also could be caused by an STI or even a yeast infection — but then you may want to have her check for endometriosis. Read more about endometriosis here.