i have been pulling them apart all the way to the scalp and removing hairs that seem to be the source of the connection from the dreads that they are connecting together but they just keep getting caught back together and i think its because of the fact that i have to keep my hair in a ponytail when im at work. it could also be the fact that the ones in the back are fluffy and soft where as all the other ones are getting tighter and i dont seem to have any problem with those ones.

well i have like 8-9 shorter dreads on the back of my head and my neck that every couple of days i end up pulling apart because all they want to do is congo together into 2 much larger dreads and i dont want my dreads to be huge so i have been pulling them apart knowing that if they r as big as they seem then they are gonna be alot bigger when they are matured.Is there anything i can do? i really dont want to want to have 2 huge dreads on the back of my neck.
updated by @labmofgod: 01/13/15 08:46:30PM

with the twist and rip method sometimes your hair doesnt not the way it wants to so it instead unknots almost all of the way and knots in the way that they want to. Just be patient and dont keep twisting and riping them once they r initially done because your only stoping there dreading process.

i like the sound of that last book u listed i will look for it at my libraryAurora Borealis said:

Ishmael is great, along with Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (which I'm currently enjoying now).One of the best books of all time is "Stop the Next War Now: Effective Responses to Violence and Terrorism"

i always let it sit in my hair while i wash my body then i rinse all the soap off of me at the same time makes taking a shower take like 5 minutes so i dont use alot of water and im not a big fan of getting wet all the time unless its in the ocean or something

well i diluted it and then pored some of the diluted bronners on my head and rubbed it in and after i let it sit in for like 5 minutes i rinsed and it still felt all oily as it did before i washed itsoaringeagle said:

defi9ne dirty scalp? or do u meanm it felt like it didnt rince clean..