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Dating Your Friend

Your crush is everything you want in a guy. He's cute, he's funny, he's smart...and he's your best friend! Aah! Add in that minor detail about him being your BFF, and you've either got a recipe for disaster or a match made in heaven—it's a toss-up when dating your friend.

It's hard not to have a crush on your best friend and want to start dating your friend. He's obviously fun to be with—you wouldn't hang out with him if he weren't. Plus, you guys have the same interests and can be comfortable around each other. Before you run to his house, screaming your vow of undying love for him through the streets, you have to decide if this crush is for real and if you're ready to put your friendship on the line.

If your BFF has a girlfriend, get over him NOW and any thoughts of dating your friend. Don't try to interfere with their relationship. Your best friend is not dumb. He'll realize what you're doing and probably get angry with you. And there goes your friendship. It's not fair to your friend or his girlfriend to try to break them up just so you can try to start dating your friend.

You'll have to wait until nature takes its course and the two break up on their own. Wait until your friend is off the rebound and then make your move to try to start dating your friend. However, they may never break up, so be realistic and move on.

If your friend is single, make sure this crush is the real thing before you profess your love. Why do you think you two can be more than friends? If it's because you recently broke up with someone, and he's been there for you through the hard times, it's probably not a good idea to make your move to start dating your friend.

Maybe you think he's been especially flirty with you lately. Flirtation is hard to gauge. You might think he's super flirty because you're looking for any kind of sign that he feels the same feelings for you as you do for him. You might be reading him all wrong, so be careful.

If you're sure your feelings for him are real, go for it and try dating your friend. Don't tell him when you're around other people. Tell him when you're somewhere quiet with little distractions. Be honest, but don't go on and on for hours about how you've been in love with him since the two of you were in diapers. That will scare him away. Just say, "I like you more than a friend and hope we can go out sometime. If you don't feel the same for me, that's OK. I'd like to remain friends with you."

He might say no. You will be crushed and sad, but you'll get over not dating your friend eventually. If he says no, don't ask him why. That's like asking him to rip your heart into tiny little pieces after it's already been broken. Be respectful and don't badger him.

Remember, even just confessing your feelings to him may make your friendship really strange. He might not want to hang out with you as much as before. He might be distant for a little while. Your relationship could return to normal or it could change forever. That's another thing you have to take into consideration when you think about dating your friend.

If he says yes, good for you and good luck!

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I've had a best friend that I've known for three years (it would have been more if we met in middle school but we didn't know we went to the same middle school until we told each other in 9th grade lel) and he had asked me out. At first i thought eh maybe not but now that i gave him a chance, I couldn't be happier!

musiclover2002

Posted September 03, 2013

I have had a crush on this guy i'm best friends with sk and now we are going into grade 6 and my outher friend was talking to me and then she told me that he likes me and told him that i like him now i am to shy to talk to him what do i do?

cottoncandy10113

Posted August 02, 2013

I had a total crush on my guy bestie but he had been going out with my girl bestie who recently broke up with him and he was so sad about so I tried to get over him but then he told another one of my girl besties that he was over his ex and he liked me! Now we're dating and I'm so glad its working out!

LucyKittenGirl

Posted July 15, 2013

I have a crush on one of my guy friends, and all my other friends say that he likes me. I don't know whether or not to tell him that I like him, or if I should just let him make the first move. Please help!

Softballchicz

Posted July 15, 2013

Ok so here so here is the deal :/ i just dated my Best freind since i could remeber and he said that he had a busy schedule and needed to break up but he would still want to be friends and i said OK but then like two days later he texted me like 20 times and i never answered because i did not have my phone and he got mad at me and now he wont even talk to me :/ IDK what to do :/ HELP!!

lepordluvr43

Posted July 04, 2013

so i like this guy and he doesnt know it. i have no way to tell him except in person but we didnt really talk and now that ive started liking him he has been talking to me more often. all my friends know and one friend started dragging me on the floor towards him in homeroom, i got really embarrassed but he just thought that she is crazy, so now he knows that someone likes him bc a person told him someone does. i wanna know if he likes me but yet i dont want to tell him bc if i do tell any of his friends they will tell him and then it will be awkward. ugh

OliviaHoran

Posted July 03, 2013

OMG!!!! It sucks for me! I love my best friend Donovan, and he keeps dating these weird or goth girls. I mean like, that's not Donovan. I told him and he said "Maybe one day", and now he's dating my friends big sis! :( What should I do?

Lovable Nyancat

Posted May 06, 2013

That's what happened to me.Me and my bff knew each other for a whole year , so then he asked me out and he said if I say no, still be bffs.So I said yes and a after our breakup,we are still the best friends we are ,but My other friend said he still likes me . After I said I did like him too.I guess she told him.And now he is acting weird lately .but I hope we recover everything of our Plur friendship :3

tatatatia_xo

Posted July 03, 2013

I have a very frustrating issue with this right now. I've been friends with this really great guy for 3 years now. And my girlfriends would tell me how we should go out and that we'd make a good couple. I used to ignore this and be like, "Nah!" But over time, I've realized that I truly do have feelings for him that obviously aren't going away. I really want to tell him how I feel, but my problem is I can be a very shy girl. Especially when it comes to crushes. I truly value our friendship, and ruining it is the very LAST thing I'd ever want to do. Also I feel like I've missed my opportunity because we now go to different schools in two different cities. But he is single and we stay in touch! Should I tell him how I feel or just keep my mouth shut and hope for these feelings to disappear? Someone please help me! I'd really appreciate it.

DaddyzG

Posted July 03, 2013

me and my bestest friend were dating for over 2 years. we broke up last year because of his ex-girlfriend. But we've found a way to date behind her back. hes my best friend!!!