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Hiya! Just a quick intro :) I lived in Nigeria for more than half of my life (so far) before moving to England and I have seen the best and the worst of both worlds. I was greatly inspired by the #OccupyNigeria protests and this blog is my way of #occupying. A lot of us compare African countries to the Western countries and I will mainly be talking about the positive things that I have observed and learnt in my few years of living here. Payme’s 2Cents is for all who dare to dream to see changes in their lifetime. It is for those who dream to see environments where 'helping' thrives. I will be giving my2cents worth on how we can work towards getting things to change for better. It would be great to know your opinions, so please leave comments. Remember to keep sharing posts that you enjoy. Follow @payme_my2cents. Thanks a lot for visiting!!! Enjoy my2cents :).

Monday, 19 March 2012

Dammit...I Deserve Better!!!

"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style” Maya Angelou

So I am extremely upset right now! The 2012 budget for Nigeria is out and it has got tensions running high. A recurring question ever since #occupyNigeria started has however caught my eye.

“What else do you expect?”

This question is usually instantly followed by the seemingly pious ‘lower your expectations and you would not get disappointed’ rhetoric. Even in our personal lives, we use this expression a lot.

Here is my own question though - “Since when did suffering become synonymous to humility?”

Why should I not expect more? Do I not deserve it? What is the point of friends, family members, churches, schools, government etc. who think nothing of me? Who constantly expect me to put up with mediocrity? Am I so lowly that I have to be resigned to feeding on crumbs? Do I really mean nothing that I have to accept being constantly robbed in broad day light?

From what I can understand, it appears that some people really believe that the key to being happy or contented is expecting less. Have you ever wondered why after telling yourself so many times to “expect less to avoid disappointment’, you keep coming back to the same starting point? Even when we expect less, do we still not feel hurt or disappointed when things happen in ways below our expectation? So at the end of the day, we put ourselves at a disadvantage by expecting less as that is not what we truly want, and then when less happens, we still remain unhappy and discontented.

I believe that whatever I ask for is what I will get sooner or later. So, I choose to not accept mediocrity, I choose to ask for more and I choose to not live repressed. I deserve true friends; I deserve loyal family members; I deserve access to quality education; I deserve good health care; I deserve to live so I deserve good roads; I deserve electricity and I deserve excellent water supply because I deserve good health. I deserve nothing but the best!

Hmmm........a very thought provoking piece, I truly deserve the best! Never settle for less cos you'll end up getting less than you deserve or settled for, for Nigeria it'll start with a renewing of our minds. Kudos Payme, you've said it all once again!!

We get so satisfied with less than we deserve. We have even resigned to fate so much that a service is seen as a favour. What i think we need is total reorientation, expect the best always, settle for nothing less than it.