If You Are Satisfied With This Message…

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Oh my God . . . Do you know the panic? Did you ever just finish leaving a message on someone’s voicemail and feel that panic?

Here you are. You just met a girl (or a guy) you like, and now you’re babbling away on their voicemail.

“God, it was SO great to meet you. I really had a good time. I love that pink sweater you were wearing, it was fantastic! Boy did I like that sandwich you were eating. You know, I ordered the roast beef myself because I wasn’t quite sure if the turkey was good today. Oh, and did I tell you that I really like roast beef?”

Have you ever babbled like this on someone’s voicemail, and then the moment you finish you think “Wow, that was an awful message!” You are about to hit the “#” key as this thought crosses your mind.

Then you hear this woman with a chemical-sounding voice that sounds like she’s been drinking or smoking too much pot come on and say, “If you’re satisfied with your message, press 1. If you’re not and want to re-record, press 2. If you want to delete and start over, press 3.”

It was funny. I remember one time when I didn’t press 3 as I intended. I pressed 1 by mistake and a message sent (that I really did not want to be sent!).
When that happened, I remember sweating it out thinking “What am I going to do? That voicemail was terrible!”

So what do you do if that happens to you, or if a voicemail system doesn’t give you the option to erase a voicemail you’ve left? You’ve got to sweat it out. You have no other choice.

The lesson to be learned from this, in a nutshell, is this: When you’re leaving a voicemail message, make it short, sweet and to the point. That way, you’re not babbling.

Just say “Hey, it’s David. It was great meeting you the other day. Call me.” or “I really enjoyed talking to you the other day about [this or that]. Call me. I have something interesting to share with you.” That’s it.

Oh, and by the way, if you’re satisfied with this message press 1 . . .

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I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Tony

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

Yeah Dave, a short message is always best, but if you do screw up and leave a horrible meaasge, and if the girl really likes you and was hoping to hear back from you, you really don't have much to worry about because she'll just be excited you called and will probably think the stuttering or whatever it was you did was funny or cute. I wouldn't think a bad message has much of an influence of ruining a chance at another date.

Rick

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

I actually still tend to this sometimes but hey I guess its human nature, the sweating it out is the best way to deal with it. I have realized at most times its not that bad as we think or make it sound like.

David D.

Clint

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

How does that sound.....
I am about to leave a message saying this, hey this is Clint, its great meeting you the other day. I really enjoyed speaking to you about guitar, and lets talk soon, call me bye.

Clint

Coach Jacob

Clint

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

Well this one time I was leaving a voice mail, and when I finished it heard the beep noise, it was the slowest beep noise I've ever heard. So I figured either I have been talking really fast or her voice mail beep starts 2minutes after. When I heard the beep I didn't know what to say anymore, I was confused about did I leave a message or not. So I was like ok bye. I remember I was about to shoot myself but 5minsutes later she called saying that I left a voice that said ok bye. LOL

Coach Jacob

Matt Bernstein

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

I went on a few dates with this girl and she left me a message saying that she lost her cell phone and to call her back on her house phone. I called her back on her house phone and as I was leaving her a message I got stung by a bee. I was startled and yelled ahhhhhh shit! into the phone and hung up. LOL

Matt Bernstein

Mike-Ro

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

This doesn't refer just to voice mail.I mean how many times you talk to a woman and afterwards you said ohh why did I say that and stuff like that.
I myself have issues sometimes.I'm overconfident and forget to stay prezent and sometimes get too excited.Sometimes when I have 0 energy I'm sooo, I don't know...goofy.
Damn I want to be able to talk to girls on the street that I like but (I know you gotta think of a positive outcome, I know the theory) but most of the times I freeze.Even if a girl is checking me out.I feel that I can't come up with anything.
As you recomended I started writing my self live-guid book.I keep adding what I hear here, other experiences. If you ask me a question about anything I always have an answer(some friends notice that I'm good with girls)...but when it comes to me I don't get the nerve.You said it yourself, in highschool it's difficul.You don't know who you try to talk to and what may happen to you're social stature.
P.S I only have the guts when I'm with someone, it could be the person I hate or hates me the most.As long as I'm not alone I'm fine.
P.S 2 I had a few atempts(I know play the percentages :) ) but how would you feel when you talk to a girl ,she's very ok and her friend gives me a cold look and literally pushing her friend away.And I actually knew this girl before it wasn't the first time we talked.How do you deal with that?I mean highschool girls or even college, I think get very easy influenced by friends.Is it my fault her friend just decided not to like me even if we didn't say a word to one another? Sorry for the long comment...I would be great at writting a blog :D .
Mike

Coach Kimberly

Friday, January 8th, 2010

Mike-Ro..I love the blog...thanks for sharing! You know even if you feel you are saying something goofy that's ok. In fact, acknowledge it! As long as you own it and say it confidently, girls could end up thinking it's funny or adorable. It's all how you approach it. If you act anxious and nervous afterward, then that is what girls are turned off to. It's all about confidence!
As far as the friend thing....again it goes back to confidence. If you are strong in your convictions with someone. In fact, turn your attention onto the friend and connect with her..join her. So many times guys are so focused on the girl they are interested in they forget the friends. In a group situation guys...always include the friends!!!!

Greg

Friday, January 8th, 2010

I need to improve the voicemails I leave. Whether in a business or personal sence, everything you do leaves an impression. I consider myself very confident in all I do, yet am prone to get excited. This is when my calm/coolness factor declines. I just need to relax and not think so much.
For Mike-Ro, yes it is true that younger people are more easily influenced by their peers. If you approach a girl and notice her friends being cold... Let them be cold! You aren't interested in them anyway. If a woman is interested in you and secure with herself, she will not worry about her friends.
Remember what David says: You are not here to please people. You are here to claim what you desire. If the interest is not reciprocated, in simple terms: fuck them.
Tonight I was out and noticed 3 college age women talking at a table. I noticed the plate of food and asked 'how is the food?' I immediately noticed 2 of the women turn their heads and shy away. The women I was interested in was confident and receptive. I didn't number close or anything, but that wasn't my goal. It was a simple conversation and further proof that I can talk to anyone, anywhere, regardless of the circumstances.

Mike-Ro

Friday, January 8th, 2010

Thanks Greg and Kimberly. Maybe I'll have a try-out or how do you say that on writting posts on a blog :) .
This is how I found out what I want to be.I'm always so pasionate about these things when I talk/write about them that I notice only I finished that I've wrote 10 pages or talked for hours :) .And I never get tired of this stuff.Very keen on making me a better guy every day.
Anyway, it's harder for me cause I don't say that girls my age are stupid but 2 out of 10 people have this kind of thinking. You know what my excuse/bad mindset is? I tell myself that if I screw up or look silly, like a looser and so on with one girl, you know how word spreads around in highschool. That's it.
When I'm alone, listening to my fav song, with my friends, I'm over confident. When I see that woman that I like, snap!she's hot I'm not that hot. But when I leave the good mindset comes back to me.Again this only happens with women that I find atractive.I don't know why I atract women i don't.Maybe I have the right atitude with them because I feel no presure. Is this thing common? :)
Don't forget...I'm still 18 , still learning...and not from USA and a non-english speaking country so... :)