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Haven’t had sex with him in a while?

Couples often lose their emotional connection because of conflicts that lingered. Illnesses, work pressures, children, etc are other reasons that cause the bond between partners to disintegrate. When intimacy is affected, sex gets hit as well. It becomes less frequent, and you might even reach a point where you’ve gone weeks or months without it. If you find yourself in this situation, you’re certainly not alone. Here is what you can do to get your relationship and sex life back on track.

Nurture your friendshipGet back to basics. Start talking again. Even if it’s banal talk, it’s a start, and is the first step to re-building intimacy. Ask about his day, comment on the weather, share highlights of your day. When banalities become easier, take the next step towards a healthy friendship. Go for a movie together, take a walk, do things you would do with a friend. Gradually work towards making your partner your best friend. When you’re both comfortable sharing your feelings again, you know your friendship is strengthening. Get physical with him (in the platonic sense)Once your friendship is sailing smoothly again, let down the anchor by indulging in physical affection. Non-sexual touching—like playfully tousling his hair, stroking his arm and holding hands while walking—chart the route to a healthier, happier relationship, which subsequently leads to a healthy, happy sex life.Get physical with him (in the sensual sense)Once physical intimacy is restored, you’ll be comfortable taking it up a notch. Begin to touch him sensually. Stroke his thigh and chest, kiss him with tongue, etc. This will eventually lead to a long-overdue sexual reunion that will get your relationship and sex life right back where it should be—front and centre (pun definitely intended).