My husband and I have 4 kids, 1 of whom joined us in 2010 in Ethiopia. We're currently in process to bring home our son from China. We all live imperfect lives in Texas, where we carefully maintain a balance between harmony and chaos. My interests also include chickens, Ebay, politics, thrift stores, building, and old books, not necessarily in that order.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Things I Learned Over Christmas Vacation

I love learning new things - how to tile, traits of different kinds of animals, cultures of other countries, history, etc., but I'm not real keen on life lessons. I've learned some interesting things over the last month, some were fun, some not so much. Since I like being organized, here's a list:1. Beatles Rock Band is the funnest game ever. It is way better than Guitar Hero and it is more family friendly.2. My sister has a hidden talent for drumming (fake Beatles Rock Band drumming). She is really good. We never take out the drums because they are drudgery. But she loved them. Personally, I'm good with the Bass. I can play medium level on Beatles (yay!).3. I love singing Beatles songs. Okay, I actually always knew that, but now I have a microphone that sends my mediocre voice across my whole living room! Twist and Shout...4. No this isn't all about a Beatles video game. I learned about animals too. Our new cat is quirky. We found her hiding under our car around the same time Verona passed away. My son burst into tears everytime we mentioned the animal shelter, so she stayed. (She also was the beneficiary of shots and an operation). I have a sneaking suspicion that she is not really a kitten, but just a tiny, runty cat. She doesn't seem to grow.5. She also has a tendency to attack when there is crying. I have to admit I haven't discouraged this. The kids are catching on now that if they lay on the floor screaming, they may have a cat bite them in the neck.6. Apparently she was a stray for a long time because she eats table scraps. She is well on her way to replacing Verona as the dinner vacumn, despite the fact that her body weight is one-tenth that of our beloved dog.7. I have also discovered that she has the bad habit of trying to clean out dishes left out. I discovered this after hearing suspicious noises downstairs in the middle of the night. It was just the cat knocking dishes onto the floor. We were clean before, but now we're really clean. My beleagured husband threatened to take her to the pound if he found her on the counter again, so now child #1 reminds us all to clean up and rinse our dishes. At least we finally found his motivation!8. On the not so fun side, I learned that I am still not perfect (bummer!). I fell into some old patterns because of holiday stress. I let my own insecurities and inferiority complex sink me into a dark pit, and instead of rising to the occasion, I sunk deeper. Argh. I will use the excuse that my sister has a golden touch with parenting, cooking, sewing, scheduling, getting through a day, etc. and it made me see all the ways I fail in those areas.9. On the plus side, I see the areas I can improve on, and I've already noticed a difference in the last couple of weeks. My sister helped me discover a great website http://www.allrecipes.com/, which I have used a few times already to get dinner ideas. I like using the ingredient search to come up with a dinner that will use up stuff in the fridge before it goes bad.10. Fixing parenting issues hasn't been as easy. Child #2 has always been different and had his own set of problems. Lately, it has been tantrums/rages. I call them freak out meltdowns. They occasionally come up when he's playing with his siblings and they want the same toy. Then I have to seperate him and do time out. But apparently he wants to try them out in public now. Yesterday at Kroger, he took me completely by surprise. He wanted some Christmas candy he saw on sale, I said he could buy it with his money and I would hold it till later. He yelled something about he would hold it. I said we wouldn't get it because he was having a bad attitude. Then he screamed, cried, laid down on the floor (of Kroger). This wouldn't have been so bad if he were two years old and not five. I kept walking toward the register, and hoped people wouldn't notice the VERY loud little boy trailing after me. I was caught in a bit of a stupor when I saw the lines behind every register, and my dear sweet daughter was crying now too. Plus, child #2 seeing that I had stopped moving, decided that he should scream and lay down again. It was so awful. I was so discombobulated that when a sweet woman in a check out line got the kids attention telling them to help their mommy move to her short line (and stopped their crying cold), I had a hard time containing my own tears. No one is going to a grocery store with me anymore unless it is one to one ratio. Child #2 seems to have percieved a chink in my armor that I didn't know I had, but I see now that I need to employ new strategies. He actually has an assessment coming up in February where we're hoping to find out once and for all if there is a label to go with his differences.

5 comments:

I don't have a golden touch - I'm just careful that people only see the golden stuff. The rusty stuff gets hidden in the trash can, behind closed doors, etc. :-) Besides, a mother without guilt isn't really a mother, is she?

You mean no one told you how well you write? but you know this is one of your many talents. You are also a genius with money and flexible. don't worry about the tantrums, they are for attention. Does he worry about being left behind? Cause he can't walk home, can he? (btw, my child #2 also had tantrums, but she was 2.) Now she is *perfect*. :-Dmom

Child #5 Timeline

11/2015 - Apply to Holt, get home study packet11/2015-7/2016 - think maybe we are done7/17/16 - See his photo on agency email and realize we're not7/18/16 - Review his file7/19/16 - Say Yes, send in home study packet7/22/16 - HS packet goes to social worker7/25/16 - Review committee officially matches us (pending HS)7/26-8/19/16 - Flurry of paperwork, doctor's visit, back to back social worker's visits and background checks8/22/16 - LOI is uploaded8/23/16 - All paperwork and background checks are in, social worker is writing HS8/24/16 - Pre Approved by CCCWA!8/26/16 - HS off to Holt for approval9/7/16 - HS back from Holt to local agency with minor revisions9/12/16 - HS comes in the mail9/13/16 - Send I800A application in9/20/16 - Trip to the capitol to get the last of my docs state certified9/30/16 - Received fingerprint notice10/3/16 - Walked in for fingerprints10/11/16 - Picked up most docs from Consulate10/12/16 - I800A approved!10/19/16 - Approval arrives in mail, get it notarized10/20/16 - Get it certified and dropped off at Consulate10/25/16 - Picked up and then FedEx-ed to agency10/28/16 - DTC! (Dossier to China)11/2/16 - LID (Logged In Date)12/1/16 - moved to "In Review"12/22/16 - moved to "Matched"12/23/16 - LOA!!!!12/29/16 - signed hard copy LOA, sent in I80012/30/16 - I800 Lockbox1/13/17 - Text confirmation1/23/17 - I800 Approval1/30/17 - GUZ number1/31/17 - RTF cable2/21/17 - Article 5 Pickup