A company I'm familiar with is currently accepting applications to review a few of their harnesses, and while my partner and I have talked about working him up to anal play in the future, we're not quite there yet. However, I'm interesting in reviewing a harness if possible because I've never owned one, I'd like to see how they work for comfort, etc. and because pegging is a possibility in the future. I would also really like to see how it feels to have such an extension of my body from a gender curiosity point of view.

I'm wondering, what are your feelings about reviewing a harness when there will not be pegging involved? I would certainly be able to write a lot about comfort, sizing, compatibility with dildos (I have a tantus Rascal headed my way with which to try it out!). I just wouldn't be able to comment on the actual pegging experience.

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I think you could still absolutely provide helpful information. Although you may not actually be using it for pegging, I don't think that really matters. I would think that most people are going to be interested in how the harness fits and feels. Yo can still also place a dildo in it and describe how that feels. Experience with pegging can be helpful, but there will be a lot of different factors such as partner size, position, dildo used, etc. that will influence each individual experience, so it's not always relevant.

Can you tell the company you might not use it for pegging but explain that you feel you can still offer valid information in a review?

If nothing else maybe he could wear it with his penis through the hole. I would think that how it fits and the ability to adjust the position of the dildo would be just as important as how it worked in use.

Who knows, maybe when you have it your partner will be willing to give it a try.

I totally agree with @Kindred, it's more about how it fits and feels than anything else. Besides, since a lot of the harnesses do not come with dildos, that part of the experience will be different for every user, since there are a variety of dildos the harnesses will be compatible with.

I agree with the others. The fit, the quality of the leather, the ease of use, and where it positions the dildo on the giver's body are most of the review, and the in use part varies depending on what dildo you use anyway.

I agree with everybody else. I put all of the other aspects before use, use depends on so many factors, dildo/vibrator choice, positioning etc. A person who is pegging or using it with another woman could easily be inexperienced and write a bad review on usefulness when the problem had to do with something else.

Not like you really need more positive reinforcement, but I agree with what everyone else already said. It's definitely important to try out and get used to a harness before you even think about getting it near anyone's butt, and I think it would be perfectly valid to write a review like this.

I agree with a lot of what has been said already. It's good to know about how a harness fits, if it's easily adjusted, what types of dildos work well in it, etc. If you are looking for ways to try it out, but can't peg, maybe you could try pegging a sleeve or fleshlight, or getting your partner to give you head. Those things would help you see how it feels to maneuver yourself while wearing the harness.

I agree with a lot of what has been said already. It's good to know about how a harness fits, if it's easily adjusted, what types of dildos work well in it, etc. If you are looking for ways to try it out, but can't peg, maybe you could
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I agree with a lot of what has been said already. It's good to know about how a harness fits, if it's easily adjusted, what types of dildos work well in it, etc. If you are looking for ways to try it out, but can't peg, maybe you could try pegging a sleeve or fleshlight, or getting your partner to give you head. Those things would help you see how it feels to maneuver yourself while wearing the harness.

That would work, most definitely. But not pegging at all, for me, would make it not useful.

I think many aspects of the review could still be helpful like the feel of the material, comfort, looks, fit, etc. but the reader might be left a little confused by a line like "I haven't actually used it yet."

If you think through what you are going to try the harness out with in order to test out its capabilities a review similar to the one you're proposing would be more useful than one of the "I pulled it out of the box, strapped it on, told my BF to bend over and went to town. It worked great" type. Examine how it fits (the more body styles it is tried on the better), how adjustable it is, how well it holds dildos, if it pinches or restricts movement, etc. You can also look at alternate uses: Can your husband wear it comfortably for DP or dildo play? Can it be used on objects? There are many possibilities.

If you put it on and try it out you are using the harness. Just develop a test protocol that puts similar requirements on the harness as there would be if you were using it for partner sex. Lastly, don't claim anything you haven't done. There's no need to.

By all means go for it and if you do get the chance to peg, add it later to your review. Pegging is only part of harness use. I put it on, alone, I practice thrusts, various dils for fit, feel, weight and the overall comfort of the harness. Also some girls will wear a harness, with a dil, for packing w/o a thought of pegging.

On the one hand, I see this as being useful because there is no one 'right' way to use toys--just because it normally goes with sex doesn't mean that it has to. The only person that can say the best way to use their toys is the individual.

On the other hand... is that your intended use? What if you feel one way beforehand, while you write the review, but completely different afterwards? Would you write a follow up?

Thats kind of a hard call for someone else to make, it really is just up to you.

Thanks for all of the comments and suggestions! I really liked the idea of pegging a fleshlight and having my partner give me head...I definitely keep thinking about the last one. I appreciate all of the thoughtful responses.

As someone that pegs, I don't read reviews of harnesses for a product description. Everything I need to know about sizing, the material and stuff like that I can find in a product overview.

I read reviews because I want to hear about the experiences of people actually putting them to use. If I read a vibrator review I don't know want to simply read a list of its different functions - I want to know how they feel. If I read a review for a Vixskin product, I don't just want to know that it felt squishy in your hands - I want to know if it felt "realistic" upon insertion. If I read a review for a harness I want to know how it works in actual use.

I'm sure there are many people that would enjoy reading your review, but I would not find it useful personally. This is, of course, just one person's perspective.

I am shopping for my first harness and the things that I look for in a review are things like: how comfortable it was for the wearer, does the dildo shift around during the pegging, and did the wearer experience any chafing from the materials.

Some of what I want to know can be achieved just by putting the harness on, but more of what I want to know can only be reported on after using the harness.

Not like you really need more positive reinforcement, but I agree with what everyone else already said. It's definitely important to try out and get used to a harness before you even think about getting it near anyone's butt, and I think it
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Not like you really need more positive reinforcement, but I agree with what everyone else already said. It's definitely important to try out and get used to a harness before you even think about getting it near anyone's butt, and I think it would be perfectly valid to write a review like this.

Bingo! Getting to know your harness is hugely important in the use of it.

I think that the importance of the comfort and fit along with dildo compatibility and the like would be more important than the actual experience since that's what most people will be looking for information wise. You could probably add a side note saying it wasn't used for pegging and amend the review to include that part later.

It's taken so long for us to finally get around to using it, but I'm loving the Joque! We fooled around with that and my Tantus Vamp and it was so much fun making M suck me. It was also a great lesson in how hard it is being the one with the penis - he had to remind me not to press too deep, haha!

I turned down the chance to do a review for a pair of packing trunks. I don't pack, it isn't something I know enough about to do. I felt that product was best reserved for someone who regularly used the product and/or would use the kind of product in their every day lives or at least occasionally.

I think that harnesses are used for mostly pegging and having vaginal or anal sex with women. If you do neither, it would be difficult to relate to the experience of doing either or both. Without actually using it to penetrate an other person, how would the reviewer know how it holds up, how the dildo fits while in motion, whether it needs to be adjusted while in use, if the pressure of pegging or screwing a woman would put pleasant or unpleasant pleasure on the user of the harness, whether or not the dildo stays in place with an other person on the other side etc. Without using the product the way most people would use it, I think it is pretty difficult to know how it would work for someone who does use it the way it was intended.

From what I hear from friends, there is more to a harness and a packer than just fit. Real use wear and how they hold up is important to people who use these products on a regular basis.

Mixed feelings. On the one hand, I say go for it, because there are tons of chicks who aren't genderqueer who enjoy packing, and I could see a bunch of them wanting a different harness than just a plain one to do it in. There are also people who enjoy stroking a strapon, and there are vaginally-equipped people who enjoy fucking masturbators.

At the same time, it's logical to *assume* that the majority of people looking at it will be interested in it for pegging