We have crazy schedules and it is hard for us to spend a lot of time together! We don't use a babysitter unless it is family. DH works shift work so he constantly is on a different schedule and during the summer he works a second job. I go to school too. We try to take one night a week we are both home and as soon as we get the kids to sleep, we snuggle in bed and watch a movie. If we are both up before any kids we shower together. Sometimes it is really rough because as soon as one of us gets home the other one heads out the door. I just remind myself that once I finish school it will be a lot less crazy.