Yes, extinguishing a candle from a foot away would qualify as an "airborn" (lingkong) trick. I'm not sure how that translates to interpersonal skills. Of course, My Old Flame was extinguished long ago.

this is how you are supposed to be attacking when you get to an intermediate level of skill. you feel the person is slowly expanding into your center, sort of like a tidal wave coming to crush you. if you get this feeling from somebody who is making subtle movements, the only thing i can suggest is that you practice more. his skill may just be higher than yours. also, don't look to defeat/beat him. look to learn. with encountering anyone, there is always the opportunity for growth.