The Art of Apologizing Like a Man

Genuine apologies are more fiction than fact. While ‘sorry’ maybe one of the most used words, more often than not, one just utters it rather than meaning it. Haven’t you said sorry to someone for accidentally brushing him/her?

Or mispronounced someone’s name and then apologized for the same? This is what the word ‘Sorry’ has been reduced to. And when it comes to apologizing to someone you really have hurt on an interpersonal level, that’s when that word is hardest to come by. So, how to be a man and apologize?

Figure Out Why You Don’t Want To Apologize

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Ego: When you don’t want to be the one admitting his fault and ‘bowing down’.

Embarrassed: The times when you go, “What would others think of me!” Or times when you realize that you did something moronic and are too mortified to admit it.

“Why Should I Apologize”: So you think the other person is to be blamed for the tiff and you saying sorry would be like absolving him of the guilt. What if you were actually the one who committed the mistake?

Why You Should Apologize

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Whosoever’s fault it is, what is important is that you shouldn’t let it ruin your relationship. You can break the ice by saying sorry and later talk that person into believing that it was their fault. Learn to be humble; it never killed anybody.

How You Should Apologize

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Remove the ‘ifs’ from your apologetic attempts. Something happened and it happened for real, the make-believe ‘ifs’ can’t correct it. Say sorry with all humility and make it sound like a deep-felt one. Excuses will serve no good.

And don’t say sorry with ambiguity. Make the other person know for what you are sorry and tell her/him how you plan to correct it. And please, stay away from fancy words. “I am feeling hurt myself” should sound fine. But don’t use theatrical statements like, “I can’t sleep at night thinking about what I have done”. If you really had been losing your sleep over it, you hadn’t needed this article in the first place to apologize.

All said and done, it is very much recognized that ‘I am sorry’ are three words hardest to speak but with critical to mean.