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What flavour milk shake did you have mate? A reward such as that is a really great idea, so well done for thinking of it!

On the first de-sensing day at the workshop i did very well but me and my pee buddy were both phased a little by a very busy gent's on the ground floor of the Arndale shopping centre. Yesterday i had time to kill before my train back home so i targeted that gent's on purpose and i was not going to misfire i was going to hit the damn bullseye!

There were 5 small wall mounted urinals at these gent's, 1, 2, and 4 were occupied, 3 and 5 were free. Normally my reaction would be to dash into a cubicle before anyone else entered the gent's and take the vacancy but this time i did not. I gathered that an unbothered non-a.p would occupy urinal number 5 rather than 3 because he would have the privacy of the wall on the right hand side but i did not do this either. Instead i confidently chose urinal number 3 and went through things in my mind i had been taught at the workshop. The urine didn't start immediately and i could hear the men either side peeing swimmingly. It took me about 7 seconds to start and as i learnt at the workshop that 7-14 seconds was in the normal range of a non-a.p i didn't worry and the flow came out very well. Success... wehhhhhh!!!!

I saw Paul at the train station so we had a brief chat. He too had gone back to the same gents and was able to use the urinals with other gent's present. Well done Paul!

Matt is absolutely correct that once you are at a workshop it feels so natural and that it is a wonderful environment.