A LIFE WITHOUT 'ANGER' IS A MYTH

If any person says that somebody is above ‘anger,’ he or she must be a mythological character. I am not willing to believe any such mythology.

There are two major schools of thought with regard to anger. They are rainbow anger and building block anger.

People, who get angry out of affection, love, care and concern belong to the first category. It is temporary and transitory. It is a natural act of every human being. This could also be one of the results of a healthy, hale and hearty emotion.

This anger vanishes like a fog and disappears like a rainbow. We do have it in our day-to-day life everywhere. This rainbow anger could be between husband and wife, parents and children, family members, colleagues and so on and so forth.

The beauty of this anger is that it helps us to understand the ‘likes’ and ‘dislikes’ of the ‘other’ person. This enables the friendship to grow to a next level. The amazing characteristic feature of this anger is that it does not believe in retaliation, and retribution at all.

It is normally expressed outwardly by glaring, gritting of teeth, shouting, affectionate beating and so on.

The fact of the matter is that unless it finds outlet in expression, it can lead to anxiety, depression and mental torture.

Similarly, the rainbow anger becomes dangerous when it is suppressed, repressed or displaced. Most psychologists believe that it is a healthy emotion to have such emotion unlike hostility.

The second category (building block anger) is something which is serious and risky. People, who get angry consciously or unconsciously, get addicted to the very idea of anger itself every now and then. They use anger as primary building blocks to make their presence and power felt, and voice heard at any cost.

This might create more harm than good to the person himself/herself. If it becomes a habit of a person, this damages the very idea of friendship and relationship for ever.

When this building block anger with a detached mentality enters into our mind, delusion conquers us. Delusion creates a mentality of confusion and puzzlement. Confusion forbids us to show no interest in pious ideas. Once we loss interest in things which give peace of mind, joy, happiness and delight, life becomes tasteless. Many a times, building block anger leads to a tragic end.

Yes, life if all about emotions. Every positive emotion adds a gorgeous flavour to the very idea of life. Similarly, every negative emotion takes our potential and energy.

Even if we are forced to go through the valley of anger, let us not do anything which might displease others. We may not be able to please everyone, but we can have a life where we might be able to be useful vessels to our fellow human beings