by not being desperate...by caring more for the other than oneself, with no ulterior motive...by knowing that one is sufficient on their own and not being needy....by walking in humilty, dignity and self-respect, none of which can simply be claimed...by being a giver instead of a taker.....

"Tell me. I wonder why the lady on the street is not jumping on me. I am a wall street banker making 7 figures salary. I have a mansion in Long Island. I usually drive my Ferriei Enzo to commute. I dress only from Giorgio Armani and have many golden diamond Rolex. I walk around Manhattan in class and know many friend in the high place. So tell me, why are the women knocking on my car door and putting off their clothes? Why isn't man with status and money translate to bedding?"

It reminds me a TV program in US called something like "will you marry a millionaire" many years ago.

Well, I am sure there are SOME women in the world are single mindedly lust after money. As much as SOME women are single mindedly lust after people with dance skill. You just have to find them in the right place. Those women do not necessarily be found in tea dance.

"Tell me. I wonder why the lady on the street is not jumping on me. I am a wall street banker making 7 figures salary. I have a mansion in Long Island. I usually drive my Ferriei Enzo to commute."

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An Enzo? Hah. Call me when he as a Bentley Supersports or a Veyron.

(Seriously, good point. It's not about the external trappings, be it dance or money. There are SOME women, certainly, who'll bed men for just that, but it's hardly the majority.)

Though going back to the comment about male pros having it made, setting aside that's not true, most male teachers do have another advantage besides dance ability when it comes to appearing appealing: They all tend to be masters of personal hygeine. I have known teachers who were smokers and dancing with them I COULDN'T TELL, they're that careful.

I would have to add to that that a successful male dance teacher has to have good social skills, or they would not be successful. And the role has something to do with it. When I was teaching, I got hit on by ladies that probably wouldn't have given me the time of day, otherwise.
(To be clear, dating students is on my personal list of bad things for a teacher to do.)

1) You aren't a pro, so you cannot comment on the "obvious truth". You can share your "perceived truth" though. And those that ARE pros will tell you that your perception does not match OUR obvious reality.

2) Being propositioned because oneis a pro and can dance does not amount to "bountiful love lives", it amounts to feeling like a hired gigolo or feeling used. And often the aspect of being propositioned by students (which in reality is not THAT common) can lead to DESTRUCTION of a real love life, when overly aggressive pursuers don't respect the pros real love life that doesn't include said pursuer. In REALITY it often makes a pros love life more complicated and if not worse.

My ex was AGGRESSIVELY pursued by one student. And that was one of the worst eras in our relationship. His desire to smooth things over in order to keep a champ level student and my desire to kick the everloving crap out of her when ever she made obvious passes at him, even in front of me, made for some tumultuous times. In the end it was the pursuer that lost out, yet our relationship/lovelife was distrustful and tentative for quite some time.

Again, you have no idea what you are talking about. But it must be interesting to live in that head of yours... it is quite dramatic and fanciful in there.

1) You aren't a pro, so you cannot comment on the "obvious truth". You can share your "perceived truth" though. And those that ARE pros will tell you that your perception does not match OUR obvious reality.

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It might be interesting to hear from some male pros on this subject.

2) Being propositioned because oneis a pro and can dance does not amount to "bountiful love lives", it amounts to feeling like a hired gigolo or feeling used. And often the aspect of being propositioned by students (which in reality is not THAT common) can lead to DESTRUCTION of a real love life, when overly aggressive pursuers don't respect the pros real love life that doesn't include said pursuer. In REALITY it often makes a pros love life more complicated and if not worse.

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I used the term "love life" because it sounds less crude than "sex life". Of course they are two different things, and that might have led to some misunderstandings about what I wrote. I am sure that the vast majority of males would agree that having a bountiful sex life is not a negative thing as you you portray.

My ex was AGGRESSIVELY pursued by one student. And that was one of the worst eras in our relationship. His desire to smooth things over in order to keep a champ level student and my desire to kick the everloving crap out of her when ever she made obvious passes at him, even in front of me, made for some tumultuous times. In the end it was the pursuer that lost out, yet our relationship/lovelife was distrustful and tentative for quite some time.

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Hmmmmmm. That's an ugly scenario I haven't considered. I'm guessing since he is your "ex" the story didn't have a good ending. I'm sorry to hear that.

What you wrote shows that there is a serious downside to being pursued. I imagine it's difficult for male pros to have serious relationships because their partners are going to be suspicious all the time.

But, doesn't what you wrote tend to confirm my contention that female dancers pursue male pros for the purpose of sex?