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Topic: Blood Worry (Read 28124 times)

Hi I recently had some mutual masturbation play with a girl who then produced some ky lube/jelly and lubed my anus and stuck a finger in.Is it possible that the lube was tainted by previous use or on purpose to pass on hiv.I do not know the persons history

No, there is absolutely NO risk in what you describe. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that does not remain able to infect when it is outside the human body.

Please read through the Welcome Thread and follow the Lessons links for further information.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

However, Knowing your status is the single biggest tool you can have in your HIV toolbox. One doesnt have to have a fear of exposure to go test. 40+ million worldwide infected,90% dont even KNOW they are....

Yes its just that in my case I caught herpes years ago in an area on my shaft not normally covered by condoms.But in the latest incident I did not see any sore, tho some of her secretions may have got on the area where there had been one in the past.Would any of this make any difference

As you asked me specifically, I'll answer and it's the same answer you have already had from aids2hiv and Andy; you do NOT need to test over this incident.

If you're sexually active and having intercourse, you should have sexual health care check ups regularly, even if you are consistently using condoms. This is because some of the other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv. Regular check-ups are what responsible adults do - it's part of looking after your health.

Ann

PS - you replied again while I was typing... You do not need to worry about herpes when there is no lesion present. When you do have a lesion present, if it is in an area where the condom does not cover, you should abstain from sex until it is healed. This is not so much for your benefit as it is for the benefit of your partner. It is your responsibility to ensure your herpes infection stops with you. Don't risk spreading your herpes to your partners. If the condom doesn't cover it, don't have sex until it's cleared up. OK?

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

For information on other STIs, check out the inSPOT website. One word of caution - While the inSPOT website has excellent information on the other STIs, their hiv information sucks. Don't bother with it, stick with AIDSmeds for your hiv information. Here we go by the most current and up-to-date fact surrounding all aspects of hiv - while many other websites do not. (and don't ask me why because I haven't a clue)

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection no matter what. Saliva is not infectious. However, you shouldn't allow anyone to suck you when you have a herpes lesion present - because you will pass herpes on to them.

Giving oral sex with a herpes lesion on your lip? You shouldn't be doing that either for the same reason - you'll give the person herpes. Considering this, you don't need to worry about hiv infection this way. Understand? If you have an active herpes lesion you should NOT be letting it come into contact with another person. EVER. If you follow this simple rule, you won't have to worry AT ALL about a herpes lesion being a route for hiv transmission.

Your KY question wasn't crazy - you just didn't know much about hiv transmission before you came here and so the question was perfectly reasonable. However, if you keep asking the same question again and again.... well, that's not so reasonable.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

No, it wouldn't be a risk. However, I'm going to say it again... If you have an active herpes present that is not covered by a condom... DO NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE! Herpes, unlike hiv, is very EASY to transmit. Don't go spreading your herpes around.

You said you did not have a herpes lesion present during the incident you are worrying about. You did not have a risk and would not have even if there was one there. If the herpes lesion was on the tip of your penis and you had unprotected intercourse, then you might be in trouble. But you didn't. You used a condom and had no lesion. NO RISK.

And as I said, as you will not, after coming here and learning, ever let an active herpes lesion touch another person, you will never have any worries about the lesion being a transmission route. OK? I hope you understand.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

A few days ago I had what I thought was protective sex with a girl.Afterwards I disposed of condom which I believed to be intact.I then asked the girl if condom had broke and she said she didnt know and I dont think it had but now Im starting to think maybe it did the more I think of it.Is this irrational anxiety or may I have a genuine concern

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Can I ask why you are continuing to ask questions when you haven't had a risk? You were given your assessment and that was, "No Risk". If you want to gain knowledge of HIV transmission please read the "Welcome" thread.

Regarding the incident where the girl inserted what I believe to be lube in my anus before fingering,I did not check the substance so could it have been in anyway contaminated if she had wanted to infect me,has there been any incidents like this?

Just to let you know I had a broken condom with a SW and it sounded exactly like the experts said, "like a balloon popping." Also you would feel skin contact (this was an affirmation that my condom was definately broken) or a surge of excitement...

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

One thing I didnt cover was Ive also recently receievd a handjob that left my penis a bit chaffed and dierctly after received a blowjob where the other person flicked there tongue round the head of my penis and actually into the tip (urethra?) of my penis with the tip of there tongue .Is there any HIV associated risks with these practises

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Jimmy, PEOPLE are not risky. ACTIVITIES are. It does not matter whether your sexual partner was a male, a female, or any combination of ther above. You had NO risk for HIV.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Had a blowjob last night ,woke up and parts of the head are purple where she sucked so hard it hurt ,like a lovebite/hickey.Is there any HIV risk associated with this as the blood is drawn to the head of penis