While I do sort of agree with what you're saying, in this case specifically, I'd be very concerned about why he's uncomfortable with her going out drinking, but okay doing it himself. If he had a bad history with alcohol or something like that, and he didn't want his partners to drink, or it was a religious thing or something, I would understand. (That still doesn't mean he has the right to tell her what to do, of course.)

However, since he has no problem going out and drinking, I can't see what justifiable reason he would have for her not doing the same thing. Doesn't seem like a healthy way to have a relationship.

No, that's totally cool. Your individual experiences are valid, and there aren't always statistics or whatever to back up every experience. I appreciate you mentioning this anyway, and I'll keep it in mind for future discussions on the topic. Thanks!

I never really got the whole "nose job" trend. I have a larger nose and like, I don't know. I don't love it, but I don't really think I'd rather have a smaller nose. It's just a nose, you know? I have a really good sense of smell, which is what I like about my nose. I don't care all that much about aesthetics. It's just not a thing for me.

Abortion, for example, has less to do with impoverished black women, because they can't afford it. It simply isn't an option for them. How about welfare? Thats something I don't see a lot of, yet its essential in some homes to survive.

I'm not asking about this because I disagree with you, but I'm just confused. Doesn't Planned Parenthood usually provide abortions free of charge to impoverished women? I'm sorry if this is a woefully inaccurate worldview, I admit, I'm a white woman and I'm coming from a place of a lot of privilege. I genuinely would like to know what obstacles face impoverished women from getting abortions.

To be fair, I've seen some women with weird/questionable fetishes in regards to Asian culture, too. But yeah, I'm pretty suspicious of race fetishes to begin with, to be honest. You can have race related fetishes and not be racist, imo, but it's rare that I see this happen in reality.

Lately, my boyfriend has been complaining about how he wishes I would lose weight. Which really hurts my feelings... But in the end, I AM NOT OBESE. And he makes me feel that way! He sits and begs me, PLEASE work out, please be skinny. I feel so pressured by him, it's really hurting my feelings.

Even if you were obese, this behavior wouldn't be okay. If he were concerned about your actual health, that would be a little bit more understandable. Ultimately, no matter what your size, though, it's still up to you and he shouldn't be making negative comments about your weight/appearance.

However, it's clear he is not at all concerned about your health in this scenario, anyway? He's just being a douche bag. You need to lay down the law with him and make it clear that this behavior is not okay. If he doesn't start respecting your boundaries, depending on how invested you are in the relationship, I would recommend couple's counseling or just dumping him.

Yes, I'm aware you see no reason to be sorry about it. That's the problem. I don't know why you are trying to justify yourself. The fact that you did something wrong with "one girl" instead of many doesn't change whether or not it was okay.

Some will think you are saying, "I have a boyfriend, which is why I can't, but if I didn't, that would be another story."

Having responded with "I have a boyfriend" before myself, I've found that I say that because on some level, I don't want to make the other person feel bad. However, I've come to realize, they shouldn't be offended by the fact that I'm not interested and if they are, I don't want to be around them that much anyway.

Number 3 might just be one of my issues and not apply to you, but either way, a polite, but firm "I'm not interested." tends to work better, in my experience.

Or a laughing, "Well that was hugely inappropriate," lets them know that you know that that was hugely inappropriate.

The only reason I would be hesitant about using this response is that sometimes guys or people in general will mistake laughter for you meaning, "That was hugely inappropriate, but funny!" and they'll actually feel more encouraged to do it again. Honestly, I think it's better to just risk seeming a little bit "cold." Some people will call you a bitch, but whatever. Bitches get stuff done.

Eh. Let's say 99% of anal sex doesn't result in pregnancy. If a couple has anal sex twice a week for a year without a condom, there's a high likelihood that they'll get pregnant within that year. Obviously, it's really hard to know what the actual statistics are because of all the factors that go into it, but the point I'm trying to illustrate is that even if the chances are slim, the fact that people do have sex so often means that it's going to happen sometimes anyway and it's better to be careful.

So fucking tired of the term "unconventionally beautiful." It feels more like a backhanded compliment than anything and if a guy told me in real life that I was unconventionally beautiful, I would assume he's some PUA moron who is trying to "neg" me or something. I know you don't mean it like this, but I feel like people use that phrase to mean, "You're pretty, just not ACTUALLY pretty."