When to tell Family?

So this is baby 4 for me and number 2 for dp.. Our first together. We have our 4 children all living together. We have decided not to tell the kids until our scan at 12 weeks as wouldn't want to upset them if something went wrong. Also not telling family and friends until then as we would quite like the secret to just be ours for a bit... But how will we keep it quiet lol.. Went out with dp (dear partner) family last night and he was gagging to tell them lol I was like shhhhhhhhh lol..

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I’m not sure when exactly but it will be before our 12 week scan as that’s what we did last time. We only told them a few weeks before though. Partly because we couldn’t keep it in any longer and partly because we’d want their support if things didn’t work out. We didn’t tell nieces and nephews until after the scan though.

I won't be telling my daughter (nearly 5) until at least the twelve week scan. Although tempted to try and hold out longer.

This will be my husband's first, he doesn't want to tell family yet as we have had a loss before together (and I have had two) but he says before 12 weeks, just not right away. I will be asking my midwife for a reassurance scan, so I think if we get one and it goes well we will then tell parents.

I have always told my mum straight away before, so it will be interesting keeping it a secret.. She guesses a lot though. Like, any time I say I am feeling sick. I could have just told her I was on my period and she would still ask if I was pregnant. Sadly, not in a good way as she is adamant we shouldn't have any kids together. 😒 Which should help me keep it to myself. (My husband has a disability and even though doctors have said he can't pass it on, she thinks she knows better)

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We've told our parents and my sister, we have done each time although left it a little longer to tell most of them this time. I'm tempted to tell my close friends as if anything did happen then it's their support I'd need I think but for now we're not telling anyone else

I told 2 of my sisters and a very close friend straight away. I’d had a mc in December and none of them knew until I was suffering retained hcg (for 2 months!) was a nightmare continually having blood tests to wait for hcg to be at a negative level.

We've told our families as mine is really small and quite close and some knew we were trying anyway. And we've just told my partner's family this weekend as he lost his mum in March so gives his gran and siblings some much needed good news, they're all over the moon. Not planning on telling anybody else until at least the 12 week scan, not sure when to tell our son as it's such a long wait for a 4 year old x

I am the worst at keeping secrets... No idea how I will keep this quiet. But it will be nice knowing it's our secret for a bit. As soon as you announce it everyone knows and has an opinion... And they will as we already have 4 kids lol

First pregnancy i told my mum at 9wks as we had an emergency scan due to bleeding but waited for 12wks to tell everyone else. Second we didnt tell anyone until the 12wk scan.
In feb we told our family that i was pregnant at 5wks and then i had an mc. It was horrible explaining things to people as it just kept the emotions raw.

This time we are not telling any family until 12wks, i have told 2 close friends tho so atleast i can talk about it sometimes.

I am the worst at keeping secrets... No idea how I will keep this quiet. But ...

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06/05/2018

I am the worst at keeping secrets... No idea how I will keep this quiet. But it will be nice knowing it's our secret for a bit. As soon as you announce it everyone knows and has an opinion... And they will as we already have 4 kids lol

Decided not to tell my mum till 12 weeks this time because she has always said a 3rd would be too much financially and we would need to move for more space etc and just phoned today talking about some one pregnant and 20 mins telling me she knows I really want a third but things would be "dire" and our whole lives would be affected so I will get over it in time 🙈🙈🙈😬😬😬😬😬😣 so basically I can never tell her 😂

I won't tell my daughter til after 12 week scan. Probably not my friends either. OH (other half) told his mum this morning but doesn't want to tell anyone else for a while. I'm going to tell my mum and sister this week probably, but no other family members for a bit. It's more OHs wishes to be honest but I also agree it's sensible... whatever works for you is best!!

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