Saturday, May 17, 2014

Taking a break

I am going to take a break from the challenge today. I just don't have the time that it takes to make a photo journal of what my day looks like. And I am not certain it would make for very pretty pictures.Richard has not been well the past few days. Lots more coughing and more pain. We are using the morphine more often which then either knocks him out or makes him even crazier. It is such a difficult thing to go through. It seems we will never know whether he will be up or down....the roller coaster ride that I often talk about. Today he is at the table eating. But he is SLOW so not sure what the rest of the day will bring.Darian has gone on a Camp Out with his Boy Scout troop to the Great Salt Plains State Park in Oklahoma. They are doing a service project of cleaning out all the charcoal grills and then digging for crystals. They camp in tents and cook their own food. I know he is having a blast. I hope he remembers that I told him to throw away those clothes that he wears while cleaning all those grills.....We are celebrating Trina's (Justin's lady friend) and Paige's birthdays here tonight. Nothing big. But there will be two cakes. Neither of which I am baking. I think I have only baked a birthday cake once ever. My kids always wanted ice cream cakes and that tradition carries on with my grand kids. What are your weekend plans?

14 comments:

I'm sorry your husband is suffering so. The camp sounds great as do the combined birthdays.

I understand what you said about writing about our husbands in your comment. Of course, I write about mine too, I even dedicated the entire letter H to him in the latest A to Z and everyone on the blogs knows he's a great cook and dog rescuer. I put up pictures of him from behind and I do write about his accomplishments. Most of that he has no idea about, but I am sure he wouldn't mind. He has a chronic illness that may have turned into something really bad or it may be nothing. If it is bad, I would, as you do, have a need to write about it, but I would ask him first. You are right, they are a part of our lives and it would be difficult to keep up a blog about my life without writing about what is going on with him. I hope your day turns out to be a fun one with lots of cake and presents.

Hey Paula, I am sorry for the roller coaster. I just want to tell you that both my grandmother and my father, for whom I was caregiver (though neither required round the clock, like your situation) both wanted to be at home. Unfortunately I just was not in a position to fulfill this desire for either of them. Both went to skilled nursing/rest homes when they couldn't be at home alone any longer. It is my only regret, with both of them. I visited both daily and tried to make things as good and happy for them as possible. I will always remember that they both asked to go home. I often think how I would feel, and I can understand the feeling of wanting to be at home. So I think it is wonderful and admirable what you have done for your husband. I also realize there may come a day when you can't do it any longer, although I hope not. You are a wonderful example of what a wife should be. I hope you'll have a good day today. Thinking about you and saying a prayer for you.

Thank you Fancy. I will do my best to keep him home for as long as I can. I think it is what we vow to do when we marry them. Although I do realize not all people are able to do it! It is not an easy thing for sure

I think it is a good idea to take off a day from that challenge; that seems like a lot of work to do a photo journal of one's day and I think blogging should be fun. Of course if I did it on the day I was working, it wouldn't be too many pictures, just a picture of me in front of the computer for 8 hours :)

How fun to have two birthday cakes and get to celebrate birthdays! Yum on the ice cream cakes; haven't had one in a long time, so enjoy a piece for me :)

That Boy Scout camp out sounds fun too. You'll have to tell us if they find any crystals. I never even realized there were places you could dig and find things like them.

I am so sorry about your husband and his health difficulties over the past few days. I know morphine is "wonderful" for pain, but you are right, it is unpredictable with how it makes one behave. Hubby's dad the night before he passed was in the hospital and was given some morphine. He called hubby and convinced hubby that he had left the hospital, taken a cab and was waiting outside the house for hubby to let him into it. Hubby of course checked it all out; called the floor where dad was in the hospital, he was in bed, etc., but before he did that, he did check outside just to make sure.

I know this is doubly hard on you, Paula, as you see his health deteriorating and wondering what will happen next. I continue to admire your care giving and your diligence to do so.

Thank you so much for your kind words Betty. When I worked at the hospital we had lots of strange things going on with people on their pain meds. My step-dad called the police and told the police that the hospital was holding him hostage....

I hope Richard's doing better today ... and the dueling cakes were a delicious reprieve? Oh!, and that Darian and his friends had a great experience. Ours is a low-key weekend, mostly spent inside on account of the crazy heat. Except I DID persuade hubby to help purge contents of the master b/r closet: 6 boxes and counting. Wouldn't it be neat if, like the Scouts, adults were eligible for merit badges? - LOL.