What Does A Nerd Girl Look For?

What Does A Nerd Girl Look For?

Like it or not, we are currently experiencing the advent of the nerd girl in mainstream culture.

I should know.

I'm one of them.

The original nerd girl - my hero

And I'm a Typical Nerd Girl Too

I'd like to think that I'm fairly typical in that regard.

For your convenience, I'll give you a taste of my nerd cred.

As a kid, I used to watch VHS tapes of Sailor Moon over and over again, only pausing to tape tracing paper to the television screen to copy poses and expressions that I particularly liked.

When I got a little older, I spent countless hours making "All Your Base Are Belong to Us" image macros, posting on 4chan, and making internet friends on Lord of the Rings-themed AOL chatrooms.

Even as a young adult, I'm more than happy to wax poetic about the intricacies of Final Fantasy VII's storyline with anyone who's willing to listen.

Do You Think I'm Sexy?

That doesn't sound very sexy to me, but the recent popularization of nerd culture has put nerds in a strange place.

All of a sudden, we're hip, and everyone either wants to be us or be with us.

For instance, writer John Green famously said, "Nerd girls are the world’s most underutilized romantic resource." While I do object to being called a "resource," his attitude has become fairly typical.

Thanks to our very strong sense of identity, nerd girls kind of throw a wrench into the typical romantic narrative: in a lot of ways, we can be a bit pickier than the average lady.

More than a few guys have asked me recently about how they can make themselves appealing to people like me, so I've decided to boil it down to a few key ideas.

Read These 3 Steps to a Nerd Girl Heart

First:

I've already talked about that on Geek and Jock, but it's so important that I feel that I must reiterate that point. Since I feel really strongly about my nerdy hobbies, I need someone who can match my fervor with something that is just as interesting as the X-men.

I can empathize much more easily with people who have real, sincere passions, even if it's something like collecting pocketknives or rocks.

Second:

It's important to respect that a nerd girl knows what she's talking about.

I can't even count the number of times that I've been talked down to or argued with simply because a guy just couldn't believe that I was capable of engaging with nerdy texts just as well (or even better) than he could.

Third:

Perhaps most importantly, don't treat a nerd girl like she's inferior to more typical girls.

If you're just interested in me because you think I'm going to have lower standards than the Paris Hiltons of the world, don't even waste my time. I want someone who can appreciate everything about me, from my brilliance to my wit to my awesome boobs.

Nerd culture is chock full of terrible female characters who are really only used for the T&A factor (think Scarlet Witch -- yuck!), so we often don't have the highest self-esteem.