Mend to your heart affectionately + Learn to Forgive yourself

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So, one of the #seksanlovelies reached out to me privately on having the fear of letting people in or believing she is worth the love that people show her.

Then, we talked at length and I got her permission to write briefly on my thought regarding the whole idea of not being able to let go of the past. The power it has in our current state of mind… Kindly stick around until the end.

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Love Freely

Don’t act nonchalant to people even when you still care because they will never be around during your recovering phase. How funny it is we claim to have let go of the past but yet it still has a massive impact on the progress of our present? Love yourself freely and wholeheartedly but don’t stop showing people you appreciate them as well.

Love yourself freely and wholeheartedly but don’t stop showing people you appreciate them as well.

I bet you always want to see the efforts from people towards trying to keep the connection with you going but then being too overprotective of yourself, you end up assuming way too much. That they suddenly comprehend your attempt to be carefree but still loving without you portraying it in your action.

It’s true that communication is key but don’t be surprised when after you have realized how easy you push people away just because of your insensitivity, they are far too gone from your life when you wake up from your slumber.

You can be really caring and kind enough to blind the world but without the efforts to retain the love people shower on you, they as well will withdraw when it’s not clear to them if it’s been well received and appreciated at your end. Why ? Because we all have feelings.

Commitments withstand the test of time with communication and understanding- Sekinat Sanni

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Let go of Past Mistakes

Why make decisions for people because they choose you? Who ever told you it is your right to do that? Thanks but no thanks.

Please stop concluding on people’s love and feelings towards you by yourself. And, try not to convince yourself they deserve better by acting cold to them. On a more serious note, they saw how broken you were or even still are and still love you wholeheartedly. In fact, no matter how much people really care for you, they need to be reassured.

At least if you are not even there with them fully, you are clearly making attempts as they are to make it work. Trust me, we all have our battles, those we have fought alone or even still fighting.

However, it is quite touching how people would still choose us over and over again despite all these odds. Wherein, without you endeavoring to share with them, they would never know how deep and sore the wound in your heart is. Free your mind, body, and soul… it is time!

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Conclusion

Well, in summary, always understand that those people you think you can remove and replace easily have feelings as well. It might be because you unconsciously think you are doing them a favor as they are better off away from you, or you probably think you deserve better based on how people have taken you for granted in the past.

The way you wouldn’t appreciate that kind of attitude towards you is the way they as well can’t praise you for your one-sided decision.

I get it, we are trying to guard our heart against being broken but still just because of that fear, we can’t keep pushing people away. Procrastinating on your decision to be better in your dealings wouldn’t help without your endeavors.

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Love, Sekinat Sanni.

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