Smart Mummy Rant #1

26th March 2018

I’ve come up with this idea, of doing a weekly rant on how my week has been. I say rant because some weeks can be all good and others can be all bad lol. Sometimes, hopefully most of the time I will be beaming with positivity and others I could be fuming, but I thought I would bring you guys along for the ride.

This week however has actually been a really positive one, so I thought I would show a bit of gratitude to the universe! I’m a firm believer in the law of attraction, so I’m going to say this was not coincidental.

Law of attraction

I’ve always followed the secret and the law of attraction, but for the past 2 years a lot of stuff happened that lead me to give up the belief. I pretty much of fell out of love with it, but I’m back The Law of attraction is my bestie again! It’s only been a couple months since I have been putting it into real action, but it’s already started paying off.

For anyone that hasn’t heard of the law of attraction; it is basically the belief that by focusing on positive thoughts you will bring positive experiences, and that by focusing on negative thoughts you will bring negative experiences. I could talk about the Law of attraction and Manifestation all day, but I wouldn’t want to bore you so I’ll save that for another day haha.

Parents Evening

Last week we had our second parents evening, which I was really apprehensive about. Now if you have read my post from last month, about my daughter being naughty at school, you will understand why. If you haven’t read it yet, you can have a quick read here.

Things have been a real struggle at home, with her just being so persistently unruly. So I was really expecting to hear that the issues we were having at school originally had continued. Much to my surprise, her teacher is really pleased with her behaviour at school. I will say that this made me really happy, I would prefer that if my children were going to be naughty it would be at home with me rather that at school, or when they’re with friends or family. Don’t you agree? She’s doing well academically as well, there a few things we need to work on but overall she’s doing really well.

I am one proud mama.

We still need to nip all her naughty behaviour at home in the bud, but I’m putting it down to her trying to assert herself as a little human. So maybe I need to be a bit more patient with her, which is sometimes a struggle when she’s trying to test me. I will probably do a post on it soon, as writing about stuff generally helps me get my head around it better .

Mummy Mummy Mummy!

As I’m sitting here trying to write this post, I have both my girls trying to get my attention… “Mummy, Mummy, Mummy” why is it the time when you want 15 minutes peace, is when they need you the most, I say need loosely because they actually don’t need me at all at this moment in time. That doesn’t stop them bugging me for a snack, or asking for my help with their drawing, or apparently they can’t find their favourite toy. When I think about it, the thing that bugs me the most is that they were both sitting next to their dad when they decided they needed these things! Instead of saving themselves some time and energy by asking him who as I said, was sitting right next to them, nope they came all the way to the other side of the room to ask me.

Last week I came across a poem on Facebook which really hit home for me…

I am 2

Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.”

This made me sad.

I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told, “No, you’re too messy, let me do it for you.”

This made me feel frustrated.

I wanted to walk to the car and get in on my own but was told, “No, we need to get going, we don’t have time. Let me do it.”

This made me cry.

I wanted to get out of the car on my own but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.”

This made me want to run away.

Later I wanted to play with blocks but was told “no, not like that, like this…”

I decided I didn’t want to play with blocks anymore. I wanted to play with a doll that someone else had, so I took it. I was told “No, don’t do that! You have to share.”

I’m not sure what I did, but it made me sad. So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told “No, you’re fine, go play”.

I’m being told it’s time to pick up. I know this because someone keeps saying, “Go pick up your toys.”

I am not sure what to do, I am waiting for someone to show me.

“What are you doing? Why are you just standing there? Pick up your toys, now!”

I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up.

I’m not sure what to do. Is someone supposed to show me how to do this? Where do I start? Where do these things go? I am hearing a lot of words but I do not understand what is being asked of me. I am scared and do not move.

I lay down on the floor and cry.

When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told “no, you’re too little. Let me do it.”

This made me feel small. I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying “Here, try this, eat this…” and putting things in my face.

I didn’t want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry.

I can’t get down from the table because no one will let me…because I’m too small and I can’t. They keep saying I have to take a bite. This makes me cry more. I’m hungry and frustrated and sad. I’m tired and I need someone to hold me. I do not feel safe or in control. This makes me scared. I cry even more.

I am 2. No one will let me dress myself, no one will let me move my own body where it needs to go, no one will let me attend to my own needs.

However, I am expected to know how to share, “listen”, or “wait a minute”. I am expected to know what to say and how to act or handle my emotions. I am expected to sit still or know that if I throw something it might break….But, I do NOT know these things.

I am not allowed to practice my skills of walking, pushing, pulling, zipping, buttoning, pouring, serving, climbing, running, throwing or doing things that I know I can do. Things that interest me and make me curious, these are the things I am NOT allowed to do.

I am 2. I am not terrible…I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.

-Author unknown

My youngest has just turned 17 months so I can relate to a lot of what was said. It has reminded me that as a parent it is my job to teach my children, to be understanding and encourage them to be the best they can be. Life is hard, and sometimes days are busy so it’s difficult to go at the slower pace that younger children need. It’s something that I am trying to work on at the moment, taking a step back and not being in such a rush

I’m really excited to see what this week has in store for us. Hope you all have an amazing week!

Well done to your little one on her behaviour at school. When our mild tempered daughter was at school in the UK, we were often surprised by her behaviour once we got her home. It was mainly down due having such a rigid structure all day, and not enough play so she would just burst in a negative way when she got home!

It’s great that your daughter got positive feedback from her school. It’s always nice to feel like you are doing a good job cos it’s so easy to doubt ourselves as parents! I do believe that it’s important to think positively and look at things in a positive way, it makes life a lot easier.

Oh that poem is hard hitting… It’s completely true though, I think as parents we forget that our toddlers want to learn too. If w’re in a rush we don’t give them opportunities to practice skills they know.

I’m glad your daughter’s behaviour has picked up in school even if she’s still being unruly at home. xx