There are times in life where change is forced upon us.The break up of a relationship, the loss of a job or having to leave a much loved home. Change comes in all guises, from the small seemingly insignificant ones, to those that seem life threatening and fill us with horror. It can feel as though the rug has been pulled from under our feet.

Even change that is wanted and has been dreamed about and worked toward can still bring up the same feelings. It is as though the safe secure world you know has suddenly been thrust into chaos, nothing feels solid anymore. It awakens our fears, anxieties and insecurities. Our instincts tell us to try and preserve the status quo, to mend the cracks, to hold on even tighter as we feel change snatching away the security of the known.

"Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better".- Richard Hooker

It is like we are plunged into a fast flowing river and we are desperately clinging to the shore, grabbing at rocks to slow the rush of change, to keep still, to stay where we are. We are swimming against the current, trying to fight the direction of the water.

This is the time to let go and go with the flow - allow the energy of the change to carry you.

Don't fight it - don't hold on.

Feel the feelings and let them move through you but don't get stuck in them. Just allow the changes to happen and trust the process.

"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." - Alan Watts

Change is evolution - it is life. We can't see the whole picture and when in the midst of these things, it sometimes feels like life is over but these are usually the moments when looked at with hindsight, that are the marker points for our life. The transformative times that allow us to become more of who we are, to arrive at destinations that logic perhaps would never have chosen for us.

It takes courage and great trust to allow the river of change to carry us, a relinquishing of control. It involves taking a deep breath and letting go. You have to trust in the process - go with the flow and allow the energy to take you to a new place.