Friends ditched me when I cheated on my girlfriend, but she forgave me… then left me for another man

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By Deidre Sanders, Agony Aunt

15th September 2017, 4:48 pm

Updated: 17th September 2017, 1:36 am

Dear Deidre

MY ex-girlfriend and I fell back into bed together after a chance meeting in the gym. Our sex life had always been great and it was as hot as ever.

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When our group of friends found out I cheated on my girlfriend they all cut me out

We decided to give our relationship a second chance. I’d blown it the first time round by kissing another girl but this time I have been so careful to make sure she always knew she could trust me. Now she’s cheated on me.

I am 22, she is 21 and into all the same stuff as me — video games, comics, TV shows and films.

Our problems the first time round started when we went to a party and she wanted to leave earlier than me, so she walked back to mine alone. Somehow I walked another girl home and we kissed.

My girlfriend went ballistic when it came out in the morning. We rowed for three days before splitting up, then she got with one of my mates and I got booted out of the group of friends we shared.

They broke up after two months, then one day we both happened to be in the gym at the same time.

It led to hot, sweaty and amazing sex. We decided to give it another try but in secret, as she said she’d get it in the neck from our friends for getting back with a cheat.

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But one day I bumped into my ex in the gym and we had amazing sex

All was going well when I bought tickets for a new movie and she was thrilled. First she went to a friend’s leaving do but we agreed to meet at the cinema later.

She didn’t show up and didn’t answer her phone. By the time I got home I was really worried and angry too. Turns out she went to a party.

Since then, her phone has been constantly pinging so I got suspicious. I checked out her Facebook and saw that she’s messaging a new guy. It is clear they are already in a relationship.

First she denied everything but then admitted it. What hurts most is she was with him while I was at the cinema.

She had only known him a week then but went to bed with him. I’m heartbroken.

I feel so low. I have no friends because I have been kicked out of our group. I loved going to the gym but I can’t even get motivated to do that now.

DEIDRE SAYS:Maybe your girlfriend never really regained her trust in you but the sooner you discovered she can’t be trusted, the better.

Of course it seems hard now. It is tough to lose someone you had deep feelings for.

But how you feel about yourself is how others do too. Because you feel miserable, you may be misreading your mates’ feelings and picking up only negative vibes. Try to build bridges.

Get back into your exercise – it will help you feel better and lift your mood and emotions.

Find some new interests, too. That will help to widen your circle of mates and help you be single and happy until the right girl comes along.