I think many are daddy's little girl. They crave to fill in their masculine side of nature by homing in to daddy for acceptance and fulfillments.

They could really be buddy buddy with the opposite sex unlike typical friendships among Hong Kongers would end up in bed.

They could work their ways in lives maturely and not have to depend on their families for financial support. Thus they are more financially independent and not having to spend a dime off their hubbies. You don't have to buy them a huge diamond ring to make them happy but all you have to do is to throw little surpises to make them "lum lai".

They don't store grudges in their hearts and they just let them out in the open for reasoning and they are not shy to do so in a civil way. They usually speak what they mean and dislike hypocrites.

If a man throw dough to a 鬼妹 I guarantee they will throw back double the amount on HIS face. So here is my 2 cents worth. Just generalizing so don't take any of this personal. ^^

I could imagine that it's quite hard to generalize given that there are 30 million people in US, 60 million people in UK and 20 million people in Australia.. and what about those in Eastern Europe, South America and ... North Pole? ()

My impression is that they are more outgoing, confident and able to express themselves than many people in Eastern culture, but well, this may be caused by the fact that the Western world enjoyed rapid economic development in the last 30 years or so, which enabled the younger generation to grow up in a more stable environment and receive better education than their Eastern counterparts. Most of them are financially independent probably because of the way the world worked - power and money were largely controlled by the English-speaking population and they have a better chance of making money as they can speak the language. In spite of the financial crises, this will still be the case for quite some time in the future.

People are usually positive to girls possessing this sort of characters because they usually look sexy (i'm not really kidding here). However there are always cases when you don't

want someone to be sexy hahaha

(Barbiedoll, "unlike typical friendships among Hong Kongers would end up in bed." is not really a fair comment @@)

I think many are daddy's little girl. They crave to fill in their masculine side of nature by homing in to daddy for acceptance and fulfillments.

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Sorry I was a little vague what I meant was like without having to compromise my position in the family as being viewed the weakest link (being the youngest and a girl), I had to prove myself worthy by showing achievements academically and career wise but yet remain the adorable little girl so I would be spoiled rotton by my dad. I call it young sibling syndrome and just want the best of both worlds, being strong and able and but yet fragile so I would be loved and never grow up. If it's still sounds confusing treat my case as a strange paradox.

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async replied @ 2008-12-09 3:05 am

(Barbiedoll, "unlike typical friendships among Hong Kongers would end up in bed." is not really a fair comment @@)

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I agree! This is very subjective and perhaps I should substantiate my claims with what I have observed. I could really go neck to neck and play with my male friends as equals such as we could hug each others or engage in full body contact (ex.piggyback or fights) without having any sexual fantasy whatso ever. We have full discernments and respect with one another regardless of sex and that's what makes 鬼妹 liberal people, liberal in a way that we are not contraint with cultural repression such as the people in Hong Kong. "men and women should keep a fair distant" mentality.

Many guys in Hong Kong check out a girl without proper manners when she wears low cut or stares at her cannibalistically with no respect. They lack self control to let their minds drift and prolong drifting makes their ethos tainted with nothing but sex and fantasy. Why do I think so? because many times when I walk I feel like being treated as an object rather than a person. How ? eye contact is different. I'm not saying I am hot nor a 萬人迷 but I think culture and traditions of Hong Kong are so sexually repressed and people are so pressurized from inhumane workload they find ways of escape by taking it out on women. All in all I think people may lack the proper inter human relationship's skills & repertoire to place boundary.

Therefore I find there is a dilemna here that true friendships between a boy and a girl is hard to sustain. When both sexes are together all exploitation to furthur into an intimate relation is shift on high gear and there isn't much room for grey area. Auto - pilot is always turned on.

Please don't get me wrong I am not trying to discredit or repudiate the people in HK cuz I was born here and I love my birthplace but if you get into the social norm or simply having egalitarian exisitence between the both sexes are out of the equation when compared with the western culture. We are just different. Period.

WOW i'm very impressed by your reply - both in terms of length and content. I rarely see such a lengthy post here!

I can understand your point about proving yourself to the family by using academic and career achievements, while at the same time being a little girl to draw the attention from your parents and siblings. That's quite normal in my opinion. Being the youngest son (with two elder sisters) in my family, I need to prove my strength and intelligence in every aspect, including academic result, job (career prospect and salary), knowledge of science / politics / culture etc. I can't myself to be a little boy and be spoiled by my mother and sisters :)

Hmmmm you may be right about the "cultural repression" in Hong Kong, that "men and women should keep a fair distant", but I tend to call it manner. I am not a sociable person in real life so I may be a special case here, however, physical contact with a girl does mean something to me. I enjoy talking to girls of course, but that's pretty much it. Repression? yeah perhaps so.

Very often I see those promotion on the street being surrounded by a lot of guys taking photos with their cameras. I do not know photography so I cannot really understand what is so great about shooting pictures from the bottom. I do find it disgusting. This may as well prove your point that men in Hong Kong are so sexually repressed that they need a way to let it out.

Your examples on she.com are also valid. I used to join the gatherings here and hoped to meet some new friends. It was an interesting experience:

- girls tended to view guys as a group of "male dogs". Being a male there automatically meant that I was one as well.

- guys were only interested in gals, and they checked them out in exactly the way you mentioned

- girls didn't seem to mind about male acting like dogs, as long as they were handsome ones.