How To Get Noticed

Are You Single Because You're Just Not Getting Noticed?

Do you ever feel like the invisible man, only, y’know, without all the bandages and the decidedly old-fashioned raincoat? Yes, us too. After all, whether we’re talking about friends, colleagues or members of the fairer sex, we all like to get a little attention from time to time. But it’s not always that easy to get noticed, so what can the average guy do to stand out from the crowd? Join us as we consult the experts to find out how to attract attention from the opposite sex.

Why Is Getting Noticed Important?If you want to make yourself a success, you’re going to have to stand out from the crowd once in a while. Sure, being part of the herd feels safe, but you’re going to have to stick your neck out to get anywhere in life. Of course that’s easier said than done. Statistics from Match.com’s Annual Survey of Canadian Singles shows that 68% of men questioned would describe themselves as ‘introverted’ — hardly the greatest starting point for meeting women. But confidence breeds confidence, and if men want to attract more women, then they’re going to have to do something about it.

“Most men feel under appreciated both at work and at home,” says relationship expert Nicole McCance. “They crave acknowledgement. They want to feel important, that they are doing a good job and that they are needed. It boils down to the survival of the fittest; men want to be the guy in the room that everyone is looking at.”

“Attention is like an ego-boosting currency,” says pick-up artist Angel Donovan from Dating Skills Review. “It nurtures and supports the ego and self esteem of those who get good measures of it. It can make them feel and act more confident.”

How To Get Noticed More“One of the keys to getting noticed is to exude confidence. Men tend to gravitate towards confident women and it’s not very different the other way around.” says Kimberly Moffit, Match.com’s Canadian relationship insider. “Simple changes in body language, like standing up straight, uncrossing your arms and making eye contact will make a man appear more confident and approachable.”

“Smile!” advises Nicole McCance. “You also won’t get noticed if you are hiding in the crowd. Put down your phone, and notice the people around you. Start making eye contact. Approaching a woman is the best way for her to notice you. There are so many wonderful men who are going home single because they didn’t take the plunge and smile, walk up to a woman and introduce themselves.”

Making the first move should be a no-brainer for any man. After all, how’s anyone going to notice you if you don’t take the plunge? But it’s not all about the size of your social cojones; there are other things you can do to help you stand out. Sprucing yourself up is certainly one of them. Research from Match.com shows that poor hygiene is the biggest turnoff for 74% of women, whilst a whopping 85% point to style as an important trait in a mate. That doesn’t mean you have to rush out and buy an expensive suit, however. In fact, the same survey showed that women preferred the casual look (57%). But whether you’re dressed to the nines or wearing some jeans and a T-shirt, it’s clear that first impressions count; indeed, 46% of Canadian women say that they know within 15 minutes if they are going to like a guy.

It’s not all about how you look, however; how you act is important too. “Fun attracts attention,” states Angel Donovan. “So forget about trying to get noticed and remember that the more fun you have, the more you get noticed.” Kimberly Moffit advises men to let go and try to be themselves. “Be authentic,” she says. “Let your personality shine. Women will pick up on your sincerity and want to get to know you.”