By Ray Doktor, Psy. D. Do you really think you are ready for a deeper connection? Would you be willing to surrender anything to experience that with a lover or friend? Are you sure about that? If you said YES, then let’s jump in! I have experienced deeper connections with people I have met just for a few minutes rather than some people that I have known for...

By Ray Doktor Throughout evolution, humans have been exposed to a plethora of traumatic events, including violence, rape, incest, assault, natural disasters, wars, genocide, car accidents, and perpetual emotional abuse and neglect. Trauma can temporarily or permanently incapacitate an individual’s ability to cope with or pay attention to both new and familiar...

by Ray Doktor, Psy. D. Women are inundated by men asking them out. If they keep attracting the wrong type of man, they need to work on their filtering system. Men need to work on themselves to improve their approach. It is important to see how men and women process feelings and experiences differently including how they assess their potential mate. Here are...

by Ray Doktor, Psy. D. Enlightened relationships constantly fluctuate, moving through fear, comfort, and love. Some couples and individuals feel more comfortable staying in a safe relationship and/or are unconscious that they could experience more. There is a separation in Western culture where spirituality and sexuality meet. Below I describe the phases of...

by Ray Doktor Love is the experience of oneness. You love your best friend including his idiosyncrasies. There is no sexual attraction but you could cuddle or hug him. You might love art, music, or being in a certain place. This experience might feel spiritual as if there is no separateness from that which you love. Falling in love is more of an exclusive...