Anywaaaays
Speaking of viral post, teringat satu post on FB hari tu about someone wrote something about her married life.
I know I've talked about marriage in my previous post, but this is a continuation on that.

I don't remember much about the post, because I think I stopped reading when she mentioned she felt guilty bila nampak laki dia pegang penyapu.

Aduh adik.

You're either too young to understand partnership, or too naive to think that ALL house chores are your responsibilities and only yours.

Oklah, maybe she meant something completely different sebab salah aku tak baca habis, so kalau her post tak de kena mengena, ahkak mintak maap ya. But I want to talk about that part where she mentioned about her guilt.

This is sexist, misogynistic, and regressive. This is the epitome of subjugation and people who believe this kind of bullshit are the reason why women are still deemed inferior to men.

No, I'm not a feminist, but I believe that you SHOULD NOT only teach your kids based on their gender. This is gender biased and is a form of prejudice and discrimination. You should teach your kids BOTH roles and excel at EVERYTHING. Give them the opportunities. Expose them to everything and don't stop stop there. If your boy wants to play dress up, then let him. If your girl wants to play with robots, then let her.

Kalau you have no problems with his statement, then you should not bitch if you're a woman and you get less pay than your male colleagues in the same role, performance and experience. Or if you're holding a leadership position, then drop out, you're a woman, you're not a leader.

Kalau you have no problems with his statement, then you should not bitch if you're a man and you get lash out for being a PA or secretary or even a nurse just because you're a male.

The moment you
allow gender to play a part, you become part of the problem.

So back to what this ostad/fan page was saying. The males get all the opportunities they can while let the females sit and home and be domestic. Pemikiran macam ni la kenapa Malaysia masih mundur because we still subjugate our women.

Where is the LIKE button is was needed?? The last paragraph of your comment, is so much win! Oh alia, I totally agree with your opinion. I always told my husband, even before we are married "u kerja, i pun kerja..penat sama2, so house chores pun kena buat sama2. I tak nak penat2 buat house chores sorang2, unless if u are working on my off days". And I'm gonna make sure my kids will do same things too.

Once I commented on a post sebab tak agree with that table. A so called family member hentam kaw2.. Telling me it's wrong for me to buy masak2 toys for my son. Telling me I should not expose my son too much with house chores especially masak2. Sakit hatiku..

I’m a feminist and luckily I am married to one as well. Kalau tak, dah lama kena campak keluar. Hahahaha. For me, I cook because I want to eat good food not because I have to serve my husband. I would cook even when I am alone.

I’m also glad that despite being fairly religious, my parents raised their son with the same chores as their daughters. My brother had to sidai/lipat kain, masak lunch/dinner, basuh pinggan, etc. Tak jadi perempuan pun my brother walaupun tahu masak, menjahit, dan kemas rumah. Whether or not he would keep up with all those when he got married, well, I hope so. But some cultural expectations can run deep in people's psyche without them being aware of it. Hmmm...

Sometime, it feels like that some of these women who subscribe to the extreme view of women’s role in a marriage tend to be those in the place of privilege—they either have helps (from maids, family members, or other resources), or they have romantic ideas about housework because they are clueless about what that entails since they have never really done it before (occasional chores doesn’t count). I bet those that truly love to do house chores would be in the minority: I know they exist but I have yet to meet them.

As a passionate feminist, I understand the struggle for striving for equal opportunity. Every now and then, I need to be reminded that just because change doesn’t happen overnight—and sometimes it even regresses—that does not mean I should be discouraged. You don’t know whose life you could have changed. Once a person tastes freedom (or be made aware of it), it’s hard to go back to previous state or to being ignorant.