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So I've been talking with this guy for 7 months and i really like him and he likes me, and actually we are gonna meet on Thanksgiving.. But the thing is that he has a record and has been in prision for 4years he has done his time and actually he told me his story when we first started talking.
I guess what im asking is do you think im being foolish for persuing a relationship with a man who has had a record, or should I continue? He makes me very happy and we have said I Love You to each other and he is one of those people who will say what he means.

Please let me know what you think I should do. I really like him and can only see myself with him and nobody else

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OK, so he's been out for two years with no further brushes with the law? I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt, provided the circumstances that led him to commit his crimes have changed and are no longer an issue. It may have been simple youthful indiscretion, and I'd hate people to hold it against him for life.

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thank you guys and he hasnt been in trouble with any kind of authority since, I'm being careful with it and i honestly dont wanna ve with anybody else. I just hate how people have brought me down because they dont wanna see me happy and can't get past his past

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Originally Posted by mikey_boy234

thank you guys and he hasnt been in trouble with any kind of authority since, I'm being careful with it and i honestly dont wanna ve with anybody else. I just hate how people have brought me down because they dont wanna see me happy and can't get past his past

You didn't say if you have met him yet.
Meet in person is way different from love chatting online or phone.

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OK, here's another point of view for you to consider when you meet him in person.

He was locked up 4 years for theft. Just because he does not have any brushes with the law since he's been out does not mean he has stopped stealing. For example, I am very proud to say I have no speeding tickets for the last 6 years. It does not mean that I don't speed. It only means I haven't been caught speeding...yet.

Some concerns for you to find out about ALL your dates regardless if they're ex convicts or not:
Does he have a job? Is he able to support himself financially? Is he currently into drugs? A lot of drug addicts steal to support their drug habits.

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Originally Posted by HunterM

OK, here's another point of view for you to consider when you meet him in person.

He was locked up 4 years for theft. Just because he does not have any brushes with the law since he's been out does not mean he has stopped stealing. For example, I am very proud to say I have no speeding tickets for the last 6 years. It does not mean that I don't speed. It only means I haven't been caught speeding...yet.

Some concerns for you to find out about ALL your dates regardless if they're ex convicts or not:
Does he have a job? Is he able to support himself financially? Is he currently into drugs? A lot of drug addicts steal to support their drug habits.

Good luck man!

I agree with what you're saying and yes he has a job and he is the type of guy that when he doesnt have a job is always looking for a new job. the only thing he does as far as drugs is pot, and he knows better than to ask me for money or he'll be out the door

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Look elsewhere - none of this sounds like it will lead to anything long term. Just a hunch! Plus if he commits a crime again (and theft has a high repeat incidence) he may well draw you into it and that would NEVER be worth it. Guilty by association is a very real thing!

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Originally Posted by cgymike

Look elsewhere - none of this sounds like it will lead to anything long term. Just a hunch! Plus if he commits a crime again (and theft has a high repeat incidence) he may well draw you into it and that would NEVER be worth it. Guilty by association is a very real thing!

but the thing is he has told me repeatly that he would never put my life in jerperdy or have me in trouble on several occasions, and I believe him

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Originally Posted by The_Reaper

If he makes you happy, and there's no concern for your safety or things like that, then by all means enjoy yourself.

He makes me veery happy and honestly he makes me feel more safe than anybody ive talked to in the past. I dont know what it is about him or why, but as they say you can help who you fall for and that's what happened to me I'v falllen

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I do just wanna say thank you guys for all the responses and the honesty I just got so many different people saying yes and no, that I knew if i came here I'd get real honesty, so thank you guys for everything