Relational Trauma

Relational Trauma

Sometimes it isn’t an anxiety condition: Healing your ability to connect with others.

With optimal mental health, we trust our relationships and make wise decisions about our relationships. However, based on various factors, relationally traumatized individuals often feel as if they have all or one of the following concerns:

a poorly defined sense of self (autonomy)

practice poor boundaries or struggle to accept boundaries established by others

difficulty regulating emotions in relationships including aggressive posturing, being overly cynical, attempting to please the other person

desperation to avoid loneliness

a tendency to get in relationships to rescue others

a pattern of relationships with a superficial level of intimacy

constant body tension around people or a sense of threat that does not match the facts

The paradox of healing from relational trauma is that which is most feared is what is most needed to heal and restore. We are linked together and all people have relational trauma. Healing means looking at ways to not inflict pain on others, as well as not imposing pain on oneself. Both are equally self-destructive.

Hi! My name is Erin Hagen. My passion is helping people heal and move forward. Let’s talk about relational wholeness. Call me if you have questions.