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Ahh I see. Has he always done that? Try ignoring him when he withdrawls. Show him that you will do it how you want to and he will just have to deal. Don't feel bad just because he is being a downer :/ GL hun

Quoting sheymann:

If he did that it would be fine.

But he says I am perfect and when I do anything "wrong" he gets upset and starts to withdraw.

Quoting Sammi20:

It's an affection thing! They say it to make you feel good and show you they appreciate everything you do for them :) I used to deny everything he told me.. like "You are So much more beautiful than and woman I've ever seen" or "You are so perfect I don't know what I'd do without you"... Until one day he said. "You know, What I am saying is true. Maybe not to someone else but for me you are perfect and to me you are beautiful.. If you don't start accepting it I will stop saying it. And you know you would miss it" So now I just thank him and give him hugs and kisses xD Because it's true.

He didn't at the beginning, but ever since I went to therapy and things have gotten better (I was emotionally abused by my father and exh) he has started doing this.

I don't feel bad I just get irritated. lol

Quoting Sammi20:

Ahh I see. Has he always done that? Try ignoring him when he withdrawls. Show him that you will do it how you want to and he will just have to deal. Don't feel bad just because he is being a downer :/ GL hun

Quoting sheymann:

If he did that it would be fine.

But he says I am perfect and when I do anything "wrong" he gets upset and starts to withdraw.

Quoting Sammi20:

It's an affection thing! They say it to make you feel good and show you they appreciate everything you do for them :) I used to deny everything he told me.. like "You are So much more beautiful than and woman I've ever seen" or "You are so perfect I don't know what I'd do without you"... Until one day he said. "You know, What I am saying is true. Maybe not to someone else but for me you are perfect and to me you are beautiful.. If you don't start accepting it I will stop saying it. And you know you would miss it" So now I just thank him and give him hugs and kisses xD Because it's true.

lol well I could see where that would irritate you! I'm glad you guys are working it out / talking about it :)

Quoting sheymann:

He didn't at the beginning, but ever since I went to therapy and things have gotten better (I was emotionally abused by my father and exh) he has started doing this.

I don't feel bad I just get irritated. lol

Quoting Sammi20:

Ahh I see. Has he always done that? Try ignoring him when he withdrawls. Show him that you will do it how you want to and he will just have to deal. Don't feel bad just because he is being a downer :/ GL hun

Quoting sheymann:

If he did that it would be fine.

But he says I am perfect and when I do anything "wrong" he gets upset and starts to withdraw.

Quoting Sammi20:

It's an affection thing! They say it to make you feel good and show you they appreciate everything you do for them :) I used to deny everything he told me.. like "You are So much more beautiful than and woman I've ever seen" or "You are so perfect I don't know what I'd do without you"... Until one day he said. "You know, What I am saying is true. Maybe not to someone else but for me you are perfect and to me you are beautiful.. If you don't start accepting it I will stop saying it. And you know you would miss it" So now I just thank him and give him hugs and kisses xD Because it's true.

Depends on the day. Most of the time I'm pretty spoiled, and always well taken care of. He comes home with flowers and gifts on a whim, and I know he loves me more than anything. But no relationship would be complete without a few arguments now and then

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