Anyone just given up on finding love?

Female
Pink-ette (temporarily, I think!)
6'2"
Mother of 0, Godmother of 2
Enthusiastic but ultimately useless rider of bikes
Camps
Reads
Cooks
Is often forgetful
Grumpy if I dont get enough
Has unreasonably last minute ideas and wanders off into sunset for adventures
Follows heart, not head, in most things
Has some amazing, if diverse, friends
Signs-off posts on STW

@Houns - I don't think you are allowed to 'just like' something round here - everything is a reflection of you and your personality traits/flaws you should know that by now . . . Did you forget which forum you were on

male
shoulder length hair - going grey but not that obviosuly
5'9"
Father of 2
Enthusiastic rider and fettler of bikes - there are no carpets downstairs in my house [ its not plain floorboards either
Camps- i love camping
Does not read - i awlays think that is bit like going i am moron but really I just dont enjoy it
Cooks
Is unreliably forgetful annoying that
Copes ok without geting any but really would prefer to be getting some
Has problems sticking to one idea at a time and wanders in thought and action
Follows head, not heart, in most things
Has some diverse,if not frankly bonkers friends
does not sign of post but if he did it would be copy and pasted and spelt incorrectly

1) men my age (41) seem to be looking for something much younger - so does that mean I should be looking for someone much older (but then I want someone who is fit and can keep up with me - so that narrows the field down)

It crazy because within a range of ten years people can seem plus or minus 10 years. I'm 43 and seem more like 35 to most people. Would happily date older if they seemed younger!

2) admitting to having four children makes men run away faster that anything else I know - maybe they mistake 'yes I have 4' with 'yes I need you to become dad and provider for my four children

Plenty of blokes with or without children would happily be a dad for your kids. Some if us missed out first time around.

I hold a glimmer of hope that when the last has fledged the nest and I set off riund the world on my bike I will bump into some like minded soul and pedal happily ever after

After a failed first marriage, I waited another 17 years for my lovely man to appear - and he'd waited even longer for me! And it was a pic of me on a bike that he spotted. You can find love in your, ahemm, [whispers] 50s [/whispers].

Houns my aunt didn't even date men, she had friends and went out socially but just didn't meet anyone she wanted to be more than friends with. Until she was 60. Then she got married and had 17 wonderful years (then he croaked). A woman I used to work for didn't date either, when she was 40 she met and married and lived happily ever after. Plenty of time for you.

Desperation is a major turn off. Self confidence very attractive.

Where do you live? There's a CC London social tomorrow night in Winchmore Hill.

But I have honestly only had one guy who has really wanted to be involved with all aspects of my life (including kids) since I split up with my ex - and that was a while ago. Unfortunately I didnt fancy him enough so im probably not desperate enough.

And yes, buzzlightyear until then there is definitely lots of riding to be done - no doubts about that whatsoever!

male
shoulder length hair - going grey but not that obviosuly
5'9"
Father of 2
Enthusiastic rider and fettler of bikes - there are no carpets downstairs in my house [ its not plain floorboards either
Camps- i love camping
Does not read - i awlays think that is bit like going i am moron but really I just dont enjoy it
Cooks
Is unreliably forgetful annoying that
Copes ok without geting any but really would prefer to be getting some
Has problems sticking to one idea at a time and wanders in thought and action
Follows head, not heart, in most things
Has some diverse,if not frankly bonkers friends
does not sign of post but if he did it would be copy and pasted and spelt incorrectly

Not so much given up but never started. Being single is great, no commitments etc. If something happens it happens but I'm really not arsed at the minute. The thought of marriage and settling down is terrible, I can't think of much worse. Mind you I'm only 24. Was kinda with someone I'd really liked for ages late last year, looking back I thought I was really happy but I've realised I actually wasn't really, wasted so much time doing stupid stuff and not enough time doing the things I enjoyed.

Just about worked out my dating website profile.
Male
5ft 11
38 and 3/4
House trained and will use litter box
Smooth coat, so no moulting or shedding problems
Great for long journeys as tattoos can be used for "dot to dot" so far I've made a dinosaur, a pony and a kitten with a pogostick
Loves long hard dirty rides

The thing is me and Mrs Zip would never have answered each others adverts.
We don't have any shared interests but we do share the same values.
Just madly in love and there's not much you can do about that!

Zippykona that's ace. Can't imagine that working for me as if they don't like bikes/outdoors/ climbing, loud musicand tattooed loons any ammount of shared value just won't work (its one of the problems with being a taz....u don't appeal to about 90% of the general populace which are normals)

I just find its a time issue, I don't have much free time and I already feel i dont ride as much as I'd want to, so if I was in a relationship where sharing that with someone wasn't an option I really don't think it would last long

I did find myself ignoring the advances of a nice chap I met in a bar a few weeks ago just because he looked totally confused when I said I ride bikes. Probably as bad as guys who switch off when I say I have kids but hey ho - we can all be blinkered!

Ladies look on the bright side the ratio of male riders to females is firmly in your favour I didnt even think about meeting a female cyclist tbh
You could have hundreds of us fighting over you we just need pictures