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So me and this girl have been dating for a year. We just broke up and it was my fault. I really don't even know how it happened. But I love this girl. I had never been so sure about someone in my life and I can tell you this is the only girl for me. She won't even talk to me now. I know she didn't want to break up either and her friends keep telling me to talk to her. That me and her need to work this out. Like i said she won't talk to me she acts like she wants nothing to do with me.
Please HELP I need to get her back.

Ignore her I'm telling you she will only wreck your head as I have been there and done that and in the end it was not worth it.
If you really want her back leave her be and she will ring you at some stage, they all do as they like to know why you have not tried to make contact

The last argument we had before the break up we had talked about communicating more (not that we had a problem but any relationship could use more) ............... So I was sick and she was acting different( pretty much avoiding me at all cost, a week before she was being all weird about her phone.... she turned it on silent but when it would ring she wouldn't answer it.) so I told her that I was feeling insecure in our relationship......I told her the things that made me worry and asked her if it was just the meds I was on from being sick. she flipped out and left for the night.... we talked the next day on the phone.... she was really cold and said she wasn't sure about our relationship anymore and that she would be back in the next couple of days. she said she didn't know if we were going to be together....so I told her I wasn't going to sit around and wait for her to come home and leave me....... I told her this was Bull*hit and that she could come and get her things from my house now.

I asked her what was going on and why she was being so distant she still wont tell me what happened.

I think all of us that have had relationships in the past have experienced this at one point. If the girl really likes you, she will come back to you. The more you want her, the more that she won't want you. So my suggestion is:
- Take this time away from her to think about your current situation without her being in the picture.
- Think about the things that you guys argued about (look for the common arguments and the outcomes).
- Think about how you act around her (do you act the same when you are with your friends? Do you constantly have to cater to her needs?)
- Think about your relationship (is this a one way giving? or is it two way? Is it always about you? or her?)

You mentioned you have problems with communications:
- Communication is the key but you also have to find the right time to bring up the issues you want to talk about.
- You need to learn when to open your mouth and when to shut up (this is a hard one but once you do, it will work out)
- We all hate the silent treatment because we don't know what to do (Learn to ignore this and she will open up to you. I don't know what it is with women but they love doing this. Like we should already know what made them give us the silent treatment)
*My suggestion is to just write her an email and tell her exactly how you feel without bringing any issues. Act like you don't have any problems while writing this and you're simply writing just to get what things out of your chest and it's hard for you to communicate with her. At least you're doing your side, now it's up to her to do hers. If she doesn't reply to your email then just move on. Glad you know now than later.

You say that this is the only girl for you but you know what, i've said that to a couple of my ex's and it turns out that they aren't. Don't force something that is not meant to be in the first place.

edit: And I kinda agree with the other members are saying. I had a similar situation where I was trying to work things out after the breakup but there was another guy that is trying to get in the picture (i didn't know at that time). So I guess, she was a little bit more distant from me since there is a guy. I found out after a few months that they got together. Fast forward today, she is trying to get back with me. F*ck that. So, yeah.

Sorry to say but definitely sounds like she is messing with someone else. It sucks. Best thing to do is NOT contact her and let her come back to you cause she will once this other guy shows what a dbag he is(usually what happens) Go out with friends and start talking to your old girls that are friends. good luck.

i rememebered when something like that happened..
we were fighting alot, and i was just fed up
i tried braking it off but she wouldnt let me.. i know
it turned out pretty badd, in each others faces, but end of the night we were sik of eachother and done
we both did the talking to other ppl thing for like a bit, but ended up getting bak..
she was still talking to this guy after for like a week or 2, found out recently she actually lied about not tlking to him
but her excuse was she didnt know who i was anymore, and shyt like that..
not that that was okay, but now i look on actually enjoying the relationship in front of me and not getting to serious about everything

cliffnotes :
think about what you did that couldve distanced you guys
give it some time, i found that time away can bring ppl closer,
and in a week(or whenever) if she hasnt tlked to u yet, tell her what u feel bad about doing/ need to work on in the relationship