We all admire couples who seem to have found the secret of keeping their romantic fires burning, yet most people just don’t take the time to go there. There are many ways to re-light the romantic torch, it make take a little energy, but these tips are some of the best (and most fun) ways to keep this very important part of your relationship sizzling.

A relationship cannot survive on its own. It needs the care and nurturing of two adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection. Just as we need to breathe to survive, your love needs a breath of fresh air to flourish. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture.

If you spend a little time every day thinking about what you want your relationship to be like, you can actually move it in that direction. Thoughts inspire actions, and the ones listed can help you create some magic in ways you may have thought were no longer possible. Trust that you are in this relationship for a reason and never stop looking for it.

Whether experiencing the pleasure of winning a game or feeling the positive emotions associated with healing your body, these visualization techniques can provide you with that extra energy to take charge of your body and mind.

The commercialism of Valentine’s Day turns a lot of people off. This is a holiday that celebrates love, and it shouldn't cost you a thing. Here are ten things you can do for your relationship on Valentine’s Day that don't involve cards, candy, or flowers. This day is all about giving to your partner from the heart rather than your wallet.

Some people are not able to say the three little words, “I love you.” Although I think it's something that we should all strive for, for those who simply haven’t gotten there yet, here are ten ways you can show it without uttering the phrase.

To make the proper choices in life we have to make priorities.These life lessons are just common sense, but I have found over the years that common sense ain’t all that common. Here are ten things that I believe are among the most important to remember.

At some point in our lives, each of us must confront our bad habits. When it comes to the behaviors we manifest in our relationships, confronting bad habits can be more challenging, but you have something more to work for. You can do this.

There has been a long standing myth that suicide rates increase over the holiday season. According to the Mayo Clinic this is completely false. What is true is that the rates of depression and stress do increase.

The song “Love Me Tender” didn’t become a classic just because Elvis sang it. We all want to feel that emotion come our way. If you’ve avoided this level of intimacy or withheld it, it’s time to reconsider your actions. Life is so short, let yourself give and feel at a level that will make you glad to have been alive.

Being the best you can be for your partner and for yourself is one of the most rewarding parts of coupledom. It's not very complicated, just remember to put your best self forward and behave the way you would like your partner to behave.

Research has shown that couples who argue more than twenty percent of the time are probably not going to survive. Hopefully these tips will help you get your arguments under control and reduce the level of energy in those arguments.

About Emotional Fitness

"In his blog, Barton Goldsmith has done something unique. He has assembled a remarkable list of ideas and exercises for couples that will actually work. And he has done it without the befuddlement of theory, yet every post exhibits a theory of change. It’s simple. What would make marriage work for everyone is not rocket science. It is commonsense. Not a single suggestion or exercise is exotic or complicated or requires a college degree. All of them ring of commonsense. The only way a couple could fail is to not do the work." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.