A men's rights group is protesting a recent anti-domestic violence PSA sponsored by Verizon. And for once, I kind of agree with them.

The spot, issued by the National Domestic Violence Hotline in concert with the Verizon Foundation, is both disturbing and visually beautiful. It encourages viewers to offer support to friends or neighbors who may be domestic violence victims, and closes with a list of helpful resources. It raises awareness and discourages silence. However, it also implies that all abusers are male.

The ad states that "the child who lives with domestic violence isn't afraid of the dark — she's afraid of her dad." It also depicts an adult victim of domestic violence as a woman who's being abused by her male partner. The LA Weeklyreports that men's rights groups are angry about the PSA's focus on male abusers. The National Coalition For Men's Los Angeles chapter is staging a protest this Saturday. The organization SAVE Services, which advocates for counseling rather than incarceration in some abuse cases and identifies stopping false allegations as one of its major goals, has issued an e-lert on the ad. An attached flyer reads, in part,

There's one word that sums up the biases found in this 2-minute video: Shameful.

"This video is particularly disturbing since the use of animation makes it appealing to children. It smears adult men as the only abusers in a household, when the fact is women are as likely to abuse their partners as men," explains SAVE spokesman Philip W. Cook. "This video is dangerously harmful to children and to families."

The sick thing is, abusers have a great capacity to confuse adults and children into believing THEY are the victims! So a confused child seeing something like this, and let's say has an abusive mommy, might (subconsciously?) think to herself/ himself "It must not be mommy." or "Mommy's right. Daddy is abusive to her and us" (after getting tired of being bickered at, having things thrown at him, mentally tortured and manipulated, he stands up to her, all of a sudden, he's the abusive one!)

The MRAs are partially correct here. The ad does send the message that abusers are always dads, which could make men who are being abused less likely to come forward. It also might have the effect of discouraging bystanders from reporting violence committed by women. Men's rights activists (and plenty of other people) are absolutely right that domestic violence resources need to be available to men as well as women, and that children need to be protected from abuse by moms as well as dads.

However, that's where my agreement with SAVE and its supporters ends. Because they seem to view the PSA not as a failure to reach certain victims, but as an effort to "smear" dads. False accusations are possible with every crime, but the idea that there's an epidemic of abusive moms convincing their kids that dad is the abusive one is not based in reality. The solution to one-sided depictions of domestic violence is to produce more balanced ones — not to paint all women as liars and all men as victims.