Relationship Violence

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Defining Caring RelationshipsIdentify the qualities that are most important to them in a dating relationship.• Identify actions that are caring and supportive.• Describe how they want to be treated by a dating partner.• Describe how they want to treat a dating partner.• Firmly believe they can and should choose how they will be treated in a dating relationship.• Firmly believe they can and should choose how they will treat a dating partner.Defining Dating AbuseIdentify harmful dating behaviors.• Define physically and emotionally abusive behaviors.• Identify physical and emotional abuse in complex interactions between a girlfriend and a boyfriend.• Be more likely to identify abusive behaviors as abusive.• Have an increased perception of their susceptibility to dating abuse.• Be more likely to reject abuse as normal in dating relationships.Why Do People Abuse?Describe the controlling and manipulative functions of dating abuse.• Identify abusive behaviors as abusive.• Choose not to believe common misperceptions of why dating abuse happens.• Choose to believe that dating abuse is a serious matter.• Choose to believe that abuse is not the victim’s fault.• Describe the serious short - and long-term consequences of abusive relationships.• Identify the warning signs that a person is a victim or a perpetrator of abuse.How to Help FriendsDescribe the complexity of the decision to leave an abusive relationship and the many different opinionsthat exist concerning when one should leave.• Identify the difficulty and fear that a friend in an abusive relationship may have in reaching out for help.• Describe the variety of ways to support a friend who is a victim of dating abuse.• Describe the resources for teenagers in violent dating relationships.• Seek help if they are victims or perpetrators of abuse in a dating relationship.Helping FriendsIdentify “red flags” that indicate that their friend might be a perpetrator or a victim of dating abuse.• Feel more comfortable with the task of confronting a friend who is abusive in a dating relationship.• Describe how to support a friend who is in an abusive relationship.Overcoming GenderStereotypesKnow that people hold images of dating relationships and that they have specific images themselves.• Describe how the images people hold influence their interactions in a dating relationship.• Identify the harmful consequences of gender stereotyping.• Explain the role that gender stereotyping plays in dating relationships.Equal Power throughCommunicationDescribe eight communication skills for resolving conflict.• Demonstrate the use of the eight Safe Dates communication skills.• Describe some non-violent responses when a boyfriend or girlfriend does not communicate in a waythat is fair and equal.How We Feel, How We DealDescribe a greater variety of ways of expressing feelings or emotions.• Choose to believe it is important to acknowledge and communicate their specific feelings.• Identify situations that trigger their anger.• Identify physiological and psychological cues that they are angry.• Identify a variety of non-violent ways to respond to anger.• Firmly believe there is a choice in how to respond to anger.• Have an increased frequency of using non-violent responses to anger.Dating ViolenceLike domestic violence is...A pattern if controlling behaviors

The behaviors will occur within a romantic relationship

Includes mental, physical, sexual, financial and verbal abuse

Occurs in hetero and homosexual relationships

Crosses all boundaries; race, socio-economic, educationTypes Of ViolenceVerbalname calling, put downs, accusations blaming, lyingaccuses you of cheatingthreatens to kill you or commit suicidesays they are the only one that loves youputs down family and friendssays everything that happens is your faulttells you they are the only one that will ever love youTypes of Violence cont,Emotionalshows jealousyembarrassing you and humiliating youcontrolling behaviorskeeps tabs on you using phone, email, and other techdestroys propertykeeps you from spending time with otherstries to control you when you are at workstalkingTypes of Violence ContinuedPhysicalhitting, slapping, biting, pushing, burning, trappinghiding someone's keys so they can not leavesabotaging your ability to leaveTypes of Violence Continued

Sexualforce you to have sex against your willrapeunwanted rough or violent sexNot letting someone use birth control trying to use pregnancy as a way of trapping the victim QUALITIES OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP1. EQUALITY - state of being equal, status, rights and opportunities2. RESPECT - feeling of deep admiration because of abilities, qualities, and achievements3. TRUST - belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone4. FAIRNESS - making judgements free from discriminationQualities of a health relationship continued...5. HONESTY - quality of being HONEST6. SUPPORTIVE - providing encouragement or emotional help7. LOYALTY - feeling of support or allegiance8. responsibility -When you are in a healthy relationship...Maintain your individualityPursue your goalsDon't compromise your values (morals)TEEN DATING AND RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCEUnhealthy RelationshipsIn addition to NOT having the qualities we just talked about, there are additional warning signsEXTREME jealousyit is a sign of insecurity but abuser will say it is a sign of loveabuser will question the victim of flirting with others; having an affairAbuser will be angry about time spent with otherscalls and drops in unexpectedlyControlling Behaviorsone partner rules the relationship and makes all decisionschecking uptime the victim to know their habitsquestion victim as to where they have beencontrol how the victim dresses, who they talk to, and where they goQuick Involvementabuser comes on strong early in the relationshippressures victim for commitmentclaims "Love at first sight"Abuser is very often charming and romantic at the beginning of relationshipsUnrealistic Expectationsabuser expect perfectionISOLATIONkeeps victim from family and friendsBLAMES OTHERSdoes not take responsibilityblames others (victim) Hypersensitivityeasily insultedtakes thing personalblows things out of proportionCruelty to Animals and Childrenpunishes animals and is insensitive to animalsunfair expectations of childrenTeases children till they cry

PLAYFUL use of force during sexholding partner downdegradingcursespressure into having sexask/make victim do things they do not want to do

Past Batteringhistory of abuse with others partners and blames it on themFinancialracking up credit card bills "trapping" the victim in the relationshiphaving the victim pay for everythingcontrolling finances; control over victim's money