Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

An apology and A question.

Yesterday, I was frantic because I couldn't help someone. I thought. But in reality I wanted to save him or control him. So I had to step back and see that was my co-dependency bubbling and I wanted to apologize for being so dramatic. I know this area is for depression, but I really think a lot of these things are related so I thought I would ask here too.

How did you get your anger out? What did you do to express all of that old pent up anger. To get it out so you can rationally deal.

My therapist wanted me to hit a tree with a bag of ice and scream and yell until I was exhausted. Or a back of kitchen tiles against concrete. She called it constructively falling apart.

But I am just now starting to acknowledge that I even have anger, let alone go out and beat the shit out of a tree! We do have neighbors, by the way.

I hate to admit to it, but in the past if really stressed or upset over something, the 90 year old man who was doing 13 miles per hour in front of me got me on his bumper with the hi-beams on and passing him ASAP doing 90 mph with my third finger up. as a child I usually would pound out something by Beethovan on the piano, attacking those keys was very therapeutic.... they say that depression is rage turned inward.... i guess my rage is just in the fiber of my bones now

My first reaction to things is usually hurt, pain, crying, no matter how old I am, I am still shocked when someone is nasty to me....but then the anger kicks in &quot;How dare they treat me like that!&quot; and I have to admit, slamming a few kitchen cabinet doors feels darn good... i think because so much violence was done to me, I really can't get too physically violent. I do not like to acknowledge anger.... Anger still frightens me, and I will avoid expressing it, turn it inward and pretty much have a hard time trying not to think I deserved it.

That is exactly how I feel bozette. I'm wanting to get it out, but petrified at the thought at the same time. I'm still not acknowledging the amount I even have! I am a people pleaser. Didn't think they got angry.

Great post.
What about the techique of looking at ourselves and being totally honest about what we see? What if we promise from the start to forgive ourselves for anything we find inside? I promise that I already forgive you. There really should be no need to even get to the forgiveness stage, but let's go on e step at a time. The first step is to be honest with yourself on why you do the things you do.

Today let's vow to be honest and look at ourselves fully. And repeat after me &quot; today I will create no more pain for myself and others.&quot; Love you

I can do everything but forgive myself. The thought itself makes me cry. I can promise to not create any pain for myself or others today. I will go even further to say I won't blame myself if someone else is hurt and feel responsible for them. I am responsible for myself and my actions. Thank You

I had anger. So much anger (after my mom passed) that it scared me and I was afraid to let it out. I was angry at her for killing herself with Vodka and making us all watch.

I lasted 5 days, and then I had to go to the hospital. In hospital you can freak out...let out so much bad stuff, and they don't care, they allow you to vent as long as you dont hurt yourself or others. I screamed, kicked things, threw things, and sobbed, and no one really lifted a brow. THey were concerned of course, but if you are worried about someone seeing you, that's the best place. Home is good too as long as you dont do anything you'll have to explain later. Ok, I'm rambling here, sorry about that. I didn't intend to make it about me. I just wanted you to know that you do have to let it out, and it feels like SUCH weight is lifted after you do so. I wish you peace, don;t forget to breathe. :o)

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