All in the Family

My mother was doing drugs, specifically cocaine, crack cocaine... I almost
died. They said that I was either going to be deaf or retarded or I wasn’t
going to survive past childhood or infancy because there were so many chemicals
in my system.

The
odds were stacked against Britiny Lee before she was born. Her mother was addicted
to drugs, like Britiny’s grandfather and many others in their poverty-stricken
Cleveland neighborhood. Britiny’s mother used drugs throughout her pregnancy
and went to prison for a year just after Britiny’s birth. As a poor, Black
“crack baby” with an addicted, incarcerated mother and an absent father,
Britiny started life in danger. Being born into an unstable poor family or to a
single, teen, incarcerated, or absent parent are all known risk factors in America’s
Cradle to Prison Pipeline® crisis. The disadvantages millions of poor children
and children of color face from birth along the continuum to and through
adulthood—which can include no or
inadequate prenatal and health care; no or little quality early childhood education
and enrichment; child abuse and neglect; failing schools; grade retention,
suspension, and expulsion; questionable special education placements; dropping
out of school; unaddressed mental health problems; violent drug infested neighborhoods;
and disproportionate involvement in the child welfare and juvenile justice systems—cumulate
and converge and funnel so many poor children of color into a pipeline and
trajectory that too often leads to marginalized lives, imprisonment, and premature death. Entering the child welfare
system would have been still another risk factor for baby Britiny but she was
lucky.

That was where Britiny’s grandmother
stepped in who already had custody of Britiny’s older brother and sister. She
brought Britiny home too and Britiny says, “My grandmother stepped up to the
plate to raise us because she didn’t want us to go into the foster care system.”
Britiny’s grandmother didn’t have a lot of money, but she was a stable source
of love and support throughout childhood and Britiny flourished in her care. Despite
doctors’ concerns when she was born as a drug addicted child, Britiny was resilient
and became a straight-A student who loved school from the beginning. Britiny’s grandmother
was her rock even while struggling with the autoimmune disease lupus, which got
worse as Britiny got older. When she was 8 years old her grandmother suffered a
seizure when they were home alone together and Britiny had to call 911 and ride
in the ambulance with her grandmother to the hospital.

From then on she was terrified of
losing her grandmother. Britiny’s mother Felicia, who had come in and out of
her life throughout her childhood, was struggling towards sobriety. Nine months
after Felicia became sober, when Britiny was 10 years old, her grandmother died.
Felicia remembers the moving moment: “[My mother] held my hand and she told me,
‘Licia, I want to go home.’ And I thought that she meant go home, like put her
in the car and take her home. No. She was saying she was tired and she was
ready to go home to Glory... She looked at me in my eyes, and she said, ‘And
God told me that you were ready, that you were ready to be a mom, that you’re going
to be a good mom, that you’re not going to use drugs anymore, and that I could
go.’” Britiny’s mother was finally ready to step in, regain custody, and learn
how to be the parent her daughter needed and deserved. Today Britiny is a high
school senior about to graduate from Cleveland’s John Hay School of Science and
Medicine and dreams of becoming a cardiac surgeon. She recently received a Beat
the Odds® scholarship from Children’s Defense Fund-Ohio. She says of her
beloved grandmother, “She’s looking down on me. I’m sure she’s proud, and right
now I just want to make her even more proud. I want to show her that she didn’t
fight for me for nothing.”

Britiny’s grandmother was one of the
many caregivers raising children in “kinship
care” or “GrandFamilies”—headed by grandparents or other relatives who step in
when parents are unable to do so. Sometimes a child is removed from parents’
care by the state and placed with relatives in foster care; in other cases,
children like Britiny are placed informally with relatives outside foster care. More than 6 million children are
being raised in households headed by grandparents and other relatives. Of those
6 million, 2.5 million children are living in households without their parents
present. These relative caregivers like Britiny’s grandmother are willing to
care for the children, but often need
financial or other help to appropriately meet their children’s needs.

A
number of states have used subsidized guardianship programs to support kinship
families and GrandFamilies. Kinship care has been found to help children
maintain family, and oftentimes community, connections. There is also strong
evidence that children placed in kinship care experience greater stability,
have fewer behavioral problems, and are just as safe—if not safer—than children
in non-relative care. In Britiny’s case, all of these positive outcomes came to
pass, and after her grandmother “stepped up to the plate” a child who could easily
have become a statistic is beating the odds and is a star with a bright future.