BY JEFF BROWN

In my last post I explained how to gauge a woman's interest level by directly observing her specific actions. Today we're going to dig deeper into the non-physical male traits that cause a woman's interest level to go up and stay up over time...

You see, women aren't nearly as mysterious as they seem, and actually follow a sequential and predictable pattern when it comes to chemistry and attraction. The same things make their interest go up, and the same things make their interest go down.

It's a scientific fact that deep down women seek security, for themselves and their offspring (even if they consciously decide not to have children). This feeling of security bubbles up as sexual attraction and compels them to choose certain men over others.

It's been this way for millions and millions of years, if not longer, and hopefully isn't going anywhere anytime soon, as losing our survival instincts doesn't sound very beneficial, right?

Below are the seven human elements that most directly correlate to strength. As you read, consider where you're strongest and where you need work.

1. AMBITION

Ambition is the key ingredient to increasing your overall value as a mate.

Without ambition, you're stuck with the same set of circumstances, and let's face it, most of us are not someone that's going to have girls lined up outside beating down our doors wanting to go on dates with us. Whether you're simply average looking, shorter than most, from a poor family, a bit mental...

All of us have something to work on to be more appealing, and the good news is your here reading this article, so you have at least some degree of ambition to want to get better!

Pat yourself on the back.

Now stop. Seriously.

Ambition is where you want to be, whether that be professionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, or with women. You don't have to look like the two dapper gentleman above. Just have your own style, take care of yourself, and have a purpose.
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I promise that if you have a growth mindset, and are willing to put in the work for what you want, all of the success you desire and more are there for the taking.

So what are your current goals for life and love?Ambition = growth mindset.To a woman’s subconscious = feelings of security due to her man ever increasing his status in society.To her reptilian brain = greater chance of survival.

2. COMPOSURE

Composure blends with challenge somewhat (we'll get to challenge in a bit). For example, when you control your emotions and don’t profess your feelings for her after two dates, it creates challenge, because she doesn’t know where she stands. But composure is also controlling your temper and bad habits, which is not directly related to challenge.

Composure includes:

​High emotional IQ

Discipline

Patience​

When a social interaction gets weird and you stay calm, that's composure.

When a classless woman, or a woman with low interest says nasty things and you ignore her, that's composure.

When you control your nervousness and come across as relaxed, that's composure.

Composure is also avoiding excessive drinking or drug use, or anything else that hinders your ability to lead a successful life.
​Composure = not doing stupid things. To a woman’s subconscious = feelings of security and not worrying about being harmed by their mate.To her reptilian brain = greater chance of survival.
​​3. CONFIDENCE

Confidence is thankfully one alpha quality that nearly everyone can agree is desirable.

Confidence is trust in your abilities:

How you carry yourself

The way you smile

How you talk

The way you dress

...and so much more. True confidence comes from two things. The first is self-improvement, meaning mind, body, social skills, style, etc.

The second is repetition, making mistakes, and learning from those mistakes.

If you don’t have much confidence, you either don’t know or fully understand what your strengths are, or you don’t have the experience to be comfortable in a given situation. Success through repetition is the key to gaining confidence.

Confidence traits include:

Body Language

Vocal Tone

Mental Toughness

The real reason women want a man with a sense of humor is that it shows his ability to think on his feet, and to be adaptable in a given situation.

Confidence = belief in one’s abilities.
To a woman’s subconscious = feelings of security that her man will know what to do in any given situation.
To her reptilian brain = greater chance of survival.

4. CHARISMA

Even though our language ability has blossomed over 1000's of years, mostcommunication is still non-verbal.

Charisma is knowing how to get a reaction from them, and accessing their reaction to know how to further proceed. Should you continue on and eventually escalate, or discontinue to avoid being creepy?

Charisma includes:

Personality

Timing

High Social IQ

Charismatic men draw in those around with an electric magnetism. They ooze confidence and leadership. Notable examples include:

Ben Stiller

Conan O'brien

Jack Nicholson

Johnny Depp

Leonardo DiCaprio

Charisma = social ability. To a woman’s subconscious = feelings of security due topair bonding + social group advantages.To her reptilian brain = greater chance of survival.

5. CHALLENGE

Never, ever, underestimate the power of challenge and it’s effect on a woman’s actions.

Challenge is the magical emotional pull of the dating universe. It works with all women that have genuine interest in you. It is the most powerful feelings creator and the biggest disconnect from reality, hence the massive amounts of confused people out there.

Examples include:

Aloofness

Indifference

Being able to say "no."

When you set boundaries and don't rush foolheartedly into a new courtship, it allows her to wonder about you and how you feel about her. Women love to chase, but most men just never give them a chance.

When you can control yourself even though you like her, it pushes the right primal buttons.

Think of it like the predator/prey response- If one animal runs from another in the wild, does it register as prey or predator to the other?

Now think of the concept in terms of dating. Which comes off as stronger, more worthy, more appealing, a man relentlessly pursuing, or the one that's not. Which one would register as strength, and which one weakness?

If you can grasp the above statement, you're a hell of a lot closer to understanding women!

This is the point where I get the same misconstrued pushback each time, so let's address it logically.

Popular denial statement #1:

"That's playing games and playing games is stupid!"

At this point I could get deep into the semantics of "game playing," from the fact that we all like to play games in nearly every other aspect of our lives, to the reality that our subconscious most definitely plays games.

But for the overly righteous individuals, with their hearts on their sleeves, I say, what's wrong with just taking it slow?

(still waiting for an answer after 2 years of asking)

Popular denial statement #2:

"Only immature girls fall for that shit."

Nope. Not just immature girls, although they might fall for it more frequently and harder.

Mature women will appreciate the fact that you're not coming off as an overly needy emotional tampon.

The more ambition a man has, usually correlates to how much status he has.

Status = experience To a woman’s subconscious = feelings of security and stability.
To her reptilian brain = greater chance of survival.

7. SELF ESTEEM

Self-esteem differs from confidence. A person can be confident in certain abilities and then deep down have tons of issues (think rockstars, comedians, actors, etc.)

Men with high self-esteem bounce back quickly when they fail. When you have high self-esteem, you don't care if a woman rejects you, because you know another adventure could present itself at any moment.

It's about being comfortable in your own skin.

Self-Esteem is a long term trait, with each of the other 6 traits adding up to make it better.

​Deep down it's amazingly simple. You exhibit these strength qualities and have sparked her intrigue, her interest level goes up. The more of them you have, the higher her interest. The more you lack them, the lower her interest.

Notice how none of this article covered the physical "looks" aspects?

It's because looks are much more relative then people understand.

A hot guy physically can quickly become undesirable if he is weak on the mental qualities.

An average guy physically can become more desirable if he's strong on the inner qualities.

Consider the 7 qualities above a summation of your overall inner worthiness as a mate. Sure, nearly everyone can agree that confidence is important, and status, and even charisma, but challenge and composure... they're the secret sauce that most men are missing with romance and love!