THE PURPOSE FOR A FAMILY

The purpose for a family (more than two men ) is so one is never alone should one die or become ill . There others to share the grief , offer comfort and love . When there's only two people and one dies the other is fully alone and suffers alone . The more men under one roof as a family the better for all . Every one looks out for each other, a family to grow old with and happy.

And to the negative vibes two up , you putting words in to back up your religious cult that started this hate movement against poly ? You should take that narrow minded thought and attack gay marriage for wanting to join an institution of failure .

Homesteaders saidThe purpose for a family (more than two men ) is so one is never alone should one die or become ill . There others to share the grief , offer comfort and love . When there's only two people and one dies the other is fully alone and suffers alone . The more men under one roof as a family the better for all . Every one looks out for each other, a family to grow old with and happy.

That's what extended family (aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc.) is for. You don't necessarily need a polyamorous relationships or "more men under one roof" to "share the grief." However. if that arrangement works for you, that's great; I won't knock it.

Just because more than two live under one roof does not entitle anyone to think something is going on , did the term roommates ever cross any ones mind ? or a brother ? , a cousin ? and it is not any ones business anyway .I hope allot of those judgemental freaks end up homeless and end up having to share a box with five lice infected illegal immigrants , Oh! and crabs to boot . Think of all the love to share . Ouch ! close the box up , the crabs are getting in .

If you want a family, adopt some kids or have some of your own. I have kids and they constantly remind me that they will be the ones to push my wheelchair when I get old….that usually precedes their request for money and is followed by "…..and I mean pushing it as in pushing you down Nob Hill!…." Family, gotta love 'em!

The real scary thing about aging is the possibility of being abused towards the end of life if you've no one to look in on you. Even in the best nursing home, even with a child's diligent oversight, you can still be abused.

We required a nursing home for the end of mom's life because of Alzheimer's. My brother and I discussed placing cameras even in the bathroom but then you have to weigh the odds of getting abused against how my mother would feel about me watching her in the bathroom.

Sometimes you just have to trust the world.

I've got a pack, only half jokingly, with my childless family members and friends--though I've one cousin who very seriously wants us to do this--that we end up life together either stateside or overseas, pool our resources, bring in some help and look out for each other in our declining years. But no matter how large your family, eventually there's just one left, blessed with longevity, who could then be at risk for abuse.

Homesteaders saidJust because more than two live under one roof does not entitle anyone to think something is going on , did the term roommates ever cross any ones mind ? or a brother ? , a cousin ? and it is not any ones business anyway .I hope allot of those judgemental freaks end up homeless and end up having to share a box with five lice infected illegal immigrants , Oh! and crabs to boot . Think of all the love to share .

Others' reactions might have been better had you not done the same thing in being judgmental. For example, we're married, and you'e been rather dedicated in your slagging of our kind of relationship.

As well, you are all about polyamory, so it's a little obvious others are going to think you are referring to it rather than roomies or relatives. You did not make this clear in your opening post.

theantijock saidThe real scary thing about aging is the possibility of being abused towards the end of life if you've no one to look in on you. Even in the best nursing home, even with a child's diligent oversight, you can still be abused.

We required a nursing home for the end of mom's life because of Alzheimer's. My brother and I discussed placing cameras even in the bathroom but then you have to weigh the odds of getting abused against how my mother would feel about me watching her in the bathroom.

Sometimes you just have to trust the world.

I've got a pack, only half jokingly, with my childless family members and friends--though I've one cousin who very seriously wants us to do this--that we end up life together either stateside or overseas, pool our resources, bring in some help and look out for each other in our declining years. But no matter how large your family, eventually there's just one left, blessed with longevity, who could then be at risk for abuse.

To the comment about marriage , I am not against a union ,the legal bond of two men is great , it is the negative role of joining a failing institution that straight people control . That is like investing stock in a doomed company .

Homesteaders saidAnd to the negative vibes two up , you putting words in to back up your religious cult that started this hate movement against poly ? You should take that narrow minded thought and attack gay marriage for wanting to join an institution of failure .

Right. You're the one that makes a thread about how marriage is all about polyamory, and I'm the one who's narrow minded. Especially since I'm the one claiming that everyone has a right to their preferences.

Do you think stuff through before you post it, or do you mostly just drift in and out of your own consciousness enough to post incoherent babble like this?

Homesteaders saidJust because more than two live under one roof does not entitle anyone to think something is going on , did the term roommates ever cross any ones mind ? or a brother ? , a cousin ? and it is not any ones business anyway .I hope allot of those judgemental freaks end up homeless and end up having to share a box with five lice infected illegal immigrants , Oh! and crabs to boot . Think of all the love to share .

Did you make this thread to be intentionally vague, then get pissy with anyone who tries to fill in the blanks? Because that's how it looks.

Homesteaders saidJust because more than two live under one roof does not entitle anyone to think something is going on , did the term roommates ever cross any ones mind ? or a brother ? , a cousin ? and it is not any ones business anyway .I hope allot of those judgemental freaks end up homeless and end up having to share a box with five lice infected illegal immigrants , Oh! and crabs to boot . Think of all the love to share .

Oh with that kind of love in your heart you must have a line of guys wanting to set up house with you!

I'm determined to rid my life of unnecessary negativity, so I'm blocking you and ignoring all your forum posts. Proud of yourself?

Homesteaders saidTo the comment about marriage , I am not against a union ,the legal bond of two men is great , it is the negative role of joining a failing institution that straight people control . That is like investing stock in a doomed company .

I could say the same about polyamory. That institution is also rife with problems.

There is no magic bullet relationship type. All are subject to failure or dysfunction, which is entirely dependent on the behaviours of the people in them.

If you are in a polyamorous marriage, how will you divorce one member if the other three (if there are four people in it) say no? Or will one be the rooster and all others the hens like in Mormon polygamy?

True colors are shining , If I posted a profile with my shirt off that gave you a boner , I guess I would be hot listed . This has been a true test proving how shallow the water really is in the Gay / Oh I meant to say queer community . Not one of you has made time to reach out . friendship is a forest of lies , it is a jack of cam why the other is at work , so stop hiding it from your partner and tell him about the hand job . Save your sperm count for your lover.

Homesteaders saidTrue colors are shining , If I posted a profile with my shirt off that gave you a boner , I guess I would be hot listed . This has been a true test proving how shallow the water really is in the Gay / Oh I meant to say queer community . Not one of you has made time to reach out . friendship is a forest of lies , it is a jack of cam why the other is at work , so stop hiding it from your partner and tell him about the hand job . Save your sperm count for your lover.

We're a living contradiction to this latest post of yours, and there are many others.