I feel like people maybe flipped out a little more than necessary, so I want to remind everyone that Yahoo tends to beat websites to death and then leave their corpses in the street – Del.icio.us was an anomaly in that respect – so it’s not like Tumblr’s going to disappear tomorrow. If Yahoo sells Tumblr we’ll hear about it first and have time to take appropriate measures.

That said, BACKING STUFF UP IS A GOOD IDEA. BACK UP YOUR SHIT. DO IT, LISTEN TO YOUR INTERNET FATHER. You know when I learned this? When in 2008 my livejournal was hacked and I lost five years of my life. I resurrected about 80%, and you know where that 80% came from? Google cache, Archive.org, and notification emails people happened to have saved. BACKUPS. And even then I had to copy and paste every post and repost it backdated. It took me eight months.

When del.icio.us was sold, data was lost, but more importantly, the data that remained had to be moved, which was when I discovered that about a quarter of the fanfics I’d bookmarked were now deleted, locked, or otherwise missing (this was pre-AO3 but fanfics can be deleted from AO3, and they can be deleted from Tumblr). I rescued a few from archive.org but I also lost a good number, which is why I use Evernote to archive not just the URLs but the stories themselves.

No technology is infallible, unhackable, virus-proof, or incorruptible. Back up your hard drive, or at least the parts with your favorite music and family photos. Back up your tumblr, or at least the entries that are important to you. Love that fanfic? Save a copy of it.

You know what happens to people who don’t back up their shit? They get sanctimonious but ultimately correct lectures from Reed Richards.

BACK YOURSELF UP. LEARN FROM TONY STARK.

Did… did a mainstream Marvel comic just mention cron? Be still, my heart!

Also, someone tell me what comic this from, I kind of want it now.

I checked my archives, it’s from

Invincible Iron Man #25, 2010. It’s from Matt Fraction’s run and well worth reading – this conversation refers to how Tony deleted his brain (in the World’s Most Wanted arc, from issues 8 to 19) and then had it restored from a backup. The backup was at least a year old and so Tony had no memory of Civil War or anything following it (which maaaaay have been intentional, fans have theories). This is Reed trying to understand why Tony didn’t keep more recent backups of his brain.

“I adore my lesbian daughters, keep them safe,” said a sign held by 73-year-old Frances Goldin, who said society allows discrimination against gays and lesbians. She said her two daughters were marching in the parades in Portland, Ore., and San Francisco. Goldin said people had approached her with their phone numbers, asking: “Can I adopt you as my mother?”

why are boys so loud why do they have to yell and push each other around in the hallways all the time shhhhhhhhh ssshhhhhhh shhh it’s alright calm down

Because it’s how we both demonstrate that we’re dangerous enough to defend those we care about, and also show that people should respect us because we are powerful. Also play aggression demonstrates familiarity and trust and is a very important part of masculine friendships.

I don’t see how safe, consensual physical roughhousing is a bad thing?

If a girl said “I love karate practice because the sparring’s fun,” would you judge her?

If an nb said “I like kink because it lets me and my partners play with violence and aggression in a safe way and know our boundaries will be respected,” would you judge them?

If an autistic or adhd person said “I need exercise and strong physical stimulus to self-regulate, especially when I have to spend most of the day sitting still in class,” would you judge that person?

It’s bad that girls are socialised not to play rough, ever, and that boys are socialised not to be physically affectionate with each other, ever.

But that doesn’t mean playing rough is bad or that cis and trans men and boys are bad for expressing affection with each other in that way.

Or that liking to roughhouse means you can’t also be gentle and affectionate and respectful.

I TOTALLY see your point and I one million percent agree with everything you have said

but like

for real

there was context here, and that was “in the hallways”.

By which I am assuming school. Because that’s the demographic of the OP.

Doing that kind of thing randomly in a crowded public space where people are already hurried, under pressure, and possibly already hyperaroused/hypervigilant due to expectation of verbal/physical attack (I’m assuming a school setting and school is a septic hellhole) is really really inconsiderate, and threatening as hell.

Needing to roughhouse and cut loose is fine! I actually totally understand that! I found school fucking oppressive because I was told when I could speak, move, change tasks, go to the bathroom, eat, etc. It was like being sat on and muzzled for eight hours a day. Every fiber of my being ITCHED by the end of the day. I get it.

Hollering and yelling and jumping on each other and pushing and jostling where it can really, really upset and intimidate other people is just … honestly … stop it.

Yes, you can roughhouse all you like and still be gentle and affectionate and respectful! I know plenty of dudes who like to get rambunctions, and that‘s normal and natural for people of any gender.

But it’s not at all even remotely no nuh-uh no way respectful to do it in a crowded space where you are either annoying or scaring the shit out of people who did not consent to be part of your playing and just want some peace and quiet.

So no, this is not about consensual roughhousing, this is about dragging other people into a loud confrontation against their will and creating a threatening, unpleasant environment … when school is already a threatening, unpleasant environment and many of the people most disturbed by this are likely to be the ones who are subjects of OTHER forms of DELIBERATE harassment. This kind of thing contributes in a very real and direct way to a hostile, scary atmosphere for a lot of people. I was violently attacked in a hallway at school. I am hardly alone. It happens to tons of kids at every school in the country. So cutting loose in a hallway where this sort of shit can easily be read as an impending threat? Nah, I’m not here for it.

Also, these fuckers knocked my books out of my hands by ACCIDENT on multiple occasions, causing my stuff to get stomped on and kicked around and some of it was art so no, those dudes can EAT MY ASS. Go to class, sit down, then punch each other in the parking lot after class or something. Just leave the rest of us alone.

Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don’t know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn’t you. That isn’t you at all

“Can’t” isn’t always “cannot under any circumstance,” often it’s “cannot without causing myself harm” or “cannot without experiencing too much pain or discomfort.”

When a disabled person tells you they can’t do something, don’t question them. Trust me, we get sick of not being able to do things, too.

Also it can mean “Can’t usually” or “Can’t always”.

I’ve gotten so much crap over saying I “can’t talk”, for instance. “Can’t talk” is a whole lot easier shorthand than saying “As of the last ten years, I can’t use speech for the purposes of communicating what is happening inside my mind, except on a small number of occasions I can count on one hand that we’re totally involuntary and related mostly to delirium or medical emergencies, and also occasionally to cats, also I can usually cuss )often appropriately to the situation, sometimes not) and sometimes articulate a few word-type ideas by grunting and the like.”

Like seriously, one it’s none of people’s business, and two it’s really hard to articulate all that in words on the spur of he moment to someone who probably doesn’t even give a shit in the first place. It’s not like I keep my residual speech a secret, but I’m going to just say “I can’t talk” most of the time or “I can’t use speech for communication” if I wan to get. A little more technical, I’m not going to spew large amounts of pointless detail at someone I just met, and I shouldn’t fucking have to,

Also, most parents when they say their kid is “non-verbal” are talking about a situation far more like mine than unlike it – they have some speech but it’s either not communicative or not easily comprehended for any of a number of reasons. it’s quite rare that parents who say their kids are nonverbal are talking a bout 100% doesn’t talk and has never talked, they mean they can’t use speech for communication regularly enough to be considered verbal. And yet those same parents will often turn around and castigate an autistic person who says we’re nonverbal or non-speaking for the exact same reasons. The kind of double standard that infuriates me.