When we know what the goal is, perhaps he can understand how failure can help us. So, here's what Henri thinks the goal of writing is: To write authentically, to write honestly. "When you stay true to your quirky self, you are already a rockstar."

That echoes something Seth Godin said:

We should blow up the expectations of writing and say something worth
saying and say it in a way that’s personal. It turns out that the
internet, for the first time in the history of mankind, says to
everyone, ‘Here’s a microphone. If you want to talk, talk. If you want
to write, write. If you want to make a difference, make a difference.’
How horrible it would be to refuse to take your turn at the mic. (Why We Are All Artists: Seth Godin in Conversation – Part 1)

You might say, "Oh, but what if people don't like me! What if I release my work on Amazon and I get a bunch of 1 star reviews?"

1. Failure Shows You How To Get Better

Here's why failure is so important: it shows you how to get better. Seth writes:

Bob Dylan was booed off the stage in 1967 when he went electric. He was
booed off the stage in 1974 when he went Gospel. He’s been booed off the
stage since then and yet he still fills theaters. The Monkeys, on the
other hand, have never been booed off the stage and they’re just an
oldies act. Being booed off the stage is a key part of being an artist. (Part 1)

So, congratulations! Sure, you failed, but you tried something. And, as a result, you learned something.

2. Failure Is Safer Than Not Failing

What you did is actually a very safe thing. Seth writes:

I want to use the words uncomfortable zone [rather than "danger zone"] because it
is, in fact, a very safe place to be because it’s not fatal. No one ever
died writing a blog post. What we’re saying here is that for a while
anyway, the safest thing you can do is to be as uncomfortable as you can
stand to be. (How to become a Successful Writer: Seth Godin in Conversation – Part 2)

Your writing career is not over because you wrote and published a story that people hated (and I'm pretty sure not everyone hated it). Remember: YOU didn't fail, your story did.

The key: Don't take failure personally.

Seth Godin puts it this way:

Most people who are getting started in writing do not have the
confidence of a best-selling author. They are not comfortable sharing
their work far and wide. They’re not comfortable saying, ‘I don’t have a
publisher. I’m going to publish myself. Here, I wrote this.’ They would
rather have the safety that comes from saying, ‘Well, I didn’t decide
this was good. Penguin decided this was good.’ ‘I didn’t decide this was
worth reading. Simon and Schuster decided it was worth reading.’

My argument is that all the things that feel uncomfortable are
actually the safest things you can do. To every novelist who is
complaining or bitter about all the publishers who won’t publish them, I
say: Take your novel, make it into a PDF. It’s free. E-mail it to fifty
of your friends.

If your novel strikes a chord, they will e-mail it to their friends
and the next thing you know, a million people will read your novel for
free. If a million people read your novel for free, you’ll have no
trouble whatsoever selling your next one.

On the other hand, if the fifty people you sent it to don’t share it
with anyone, then you haven’t written a good enough novel, and you
should start over. But either of those paths is better than sitting at
home complaining about the fact that you can’t get published. (Part 1)

We’ve just eliminated scarcity. There used to
be scarcity of shelf space, scarcity of publishers, and scarcity of
paper. All that’s gone. There’s unlimited shelf space, unlimited digital
paper, and an unlimited number of publishers. You can’t continue to
blame scarcity for the fact that your writing isn’t in the world.

You have to accept that putting your writing out there is no longer
difficult. What’s difficult is getting someone who encounters your
writing to share it with someone else. That changes the kind of writing
you should be doing. You shouldn’t ever again be writing to please an
editor. (Part 2)

Seth admits to failing:

I don’t consider it a good day unless I fail. I’ve written
thousands and thousands of blog posts. Most of them aren’t that great.
I’ve written books that didn’t sell as well as the publisher wanted.
I’ve launched internet projects that have fallen on their face. I’ve had
negotiations where I completely misunderstood what the other person was
looking for, or they misunderstood me, and we walked away from each
other.

The Key To Success As A Writer

Don't write to please everyone. If you do that you'll please no one.

If you’ve accepted that the rules of the game are that you are not
willing to write unless everyone likes what you write, then you’ve just
announced that you’re an amateur, not a professional, and that you’re
probably doomed. Whereas the professional writer says, ‘It is almost
certain that most of what I write will not resonate with most people who
read it, but over time, I will gain an audience who trusts me to, at
the very least, be interesting.’ (Part 2)

The power of the internet, for writers, is that we can find a small group of people who are interested in the same things we are, the the things we write about. Seth writes:

I was in Iceland last week ... and one out of every six hundred people in the whole
country came to see me speak. This would be the equivalent of fifty thousand people seeing me in the United States, which has never, ever happened.

Iceland teaches an important lesson. It’s such a tiny place, yet it’s possible to have a café that succeeds. The café succeeds not because everyone in Iceland goes there, but because enough people go. Whether you live in New Zealand, Malaysia or the United States, the internet connects you to four billion people.

All you need to make a living is for four thousand to adore you. And you need forty thousand to be a hit. That’s forty thousand out of four billion! Those are really good odds! (Part 2)

The Bottom Line

If failure is okay (but mistakes are not), then is there anything you shouldn't do? Seth Godin says there is one thing you should never be: boring. He writes:

Whether you’re a writer or the maker of widgets, you won’t be able to keep going if you’re boring. (Part 2)

Seth Godin's Advice To New Writers

Seth Godin was asked to give advice to new writers. What should a new writer do? His reply:

There are three steps: write, ship, share.
When you write and ship and share and you see whether or not it
resonates, you will get better at what you do.

The more you write and ship and share, the more people will come to
depend on what you’re doing and the easier it’s going to be to spread
your ideas. At some point, people will come to you and say, ‘I’m not
getting enough of what you’re doing. Here’s some money’, or ‘I’m not
getting enough of what you’re doing. Please come speak to my group’, or
‘I’m not getting enough of what you’re doing. Please coach me so I can
do it too.’ But none of that happens until you write and ship and share. (Part 2)

My Question: Are you convinced? Do you think failure is necessary for success?

9 comments:

I think failure is definitely necessary, if only because nobody has sold their very first draft of their very first piece. And also that very old, cliche adage about only learning by failing will always hold true.

If failure has this much value, then I should be obscenely wealthy! Seriously, I've discovered that the best value I can add to the various writing communities are stories of where I went wrong.

Do you happen to remember the episode of M*A*S*H "Morale Victory," when Charles (David Ogden Stiers) finds piano music for wounded pianist who only has one hand? In that episode, Charles admits he himself can play the notes, but can't make the music.

That's actually what I'm faced with right now. I know I'm a good writer, but my fiction lacks a certain "umph" ... after 20+ years it makes me wonder whether I'm on the right path. Maybe I should be writing about writing, instead of writing, as it were : )

Keith, writing about writing is your passion, so that's wonderful! No failure there. Go for it! One gift my blog has given me is the realization that I really like writing non-fiction as well as fiction.

Hi Keith:As a new riter, (see how new? lol) I have to say a post such as yours scares the dickens out of me. I went to your profile, and then your blog, losing Ffaith and found nothing there. I hope I don't say this wrong; don't you think more stuff about you should be up there?

Thanks for this great post, Ms. Woodward. "A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new."~Albert EinsteinEvery obstacle is a lesson, every time you get up on your feet after you've been knocked to the floor - that's a sign of a worthy struggle. Also, did you receive my email? I'm asking because I'm a newbie vis-a-vis gmail. ^^

(Sigh...) as it's been now for a couple of weeks, I click on this Blog's link and wind up going back to school. A great school- sort of like Kindergarten in that everything's fascinating and enjoyable.

AND AN HOUR AND A HALF AND I'M STILL HERE!!! LOL

Well, there goes the rest of my time surfing and blog visiting. Time well spent. I went to the Write Done site, and now have to figure out which blog I replace that one with.