I’m happily closing in on my annual Spring Break; at which time I get a well-deserved week off. Glory Hallelujah! I gotta tell, I’ve been going at such a break-neck speed since the new year that the hiatus can’t come a moment too soon. I need a freakin break already.

But before we get to our respite; it’s full steam ahead! We continue The Erotic Mind podcast series today with and outstanding guest. He lives here in Seattle so he mozied on over to mi casa for a little tete a tete. (How’s that for mixing cultural allusions?) I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming a true master of the erotic horror novel, the one and only Rick R Reed.

If you know anything about the contemporary thrillers and speculative fiction market, you’ll know that his name stands out as a beacon of excellence in the genre. In fact, he has been called “the Stephen King of gay horror”. No faint that; I can tell ya! And I’m delighted to report that Rick is not nearly as scary as his novels. He’s a sweetheart and charming as all get-out!

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

One last thought, I hope you’re also following my two other interview series, which appear on Wednesdays. One is called Sex EDGE-U-cation — I converse with prominent practitioners, educators and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles. And we investigate the world of fetish sex and kink. The other is called SEX WISDOM — here I chat with researchers, educators, clinicians, pundits and philosophers who are making news and reshaping how we look at our sexual selves. I can assure you that these conversations will be well worth the time you spend with us.

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Part 1 of our chat, which appeared last week at this time, can be found in the podcast archive. All ya have to do is use the site’s search function in the sidebar to your right; type in Podcast #186 and PRESTO! But don’t forget the #sign when you do your search.

Aunt Becky will also share more fruit of her Erotic Mind. We’ll learn why vacation sex is the best sex there is.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

One last thought, I hope you’re also following my two other interview series, which appear on Wednesdays. One is called Sex EDGE-U-cation — I converse with prominent practitioners, educators and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles. And we investigate the world of fetish sex and kink. The other is called SEX WISDOM — here I chat with researchers, educators, clinicians, pundits and philosophers who are making news and reshaping how we look at our sexual selves. I can assure you that these conversations will be well worth the time you spend with us.

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

We’re back with more of The Erotic Mind podcast series. Over the last two years we’ve spent numerous hours with talented authors who have talked with us about their erotic short stories or novels. Late last year we began to diverge a bit from that standard fair to broaden our perspective to include another type of sex writing — the memoir. Today we go even further a field to include blogging.

Today I am thrilled to welcome one of my favorite personalities of the blogosphere, the enormously funny and delightfully smutty, Becky Sherrick Harks. She is the remarkable woman behind the wildly popular blog, Mommy Wants Vodka. She also freelances and contributes to other online sites.

Aunt Becky, as she is known online, will read two hilarious selections from the fruit of her Erotic Mind. You’ll be laughing out loud as she skewers modern sexuality.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

One last thought, I hope you’re also following my two other interview series, which appear on Wednesdays. One is called Sex EDGE-U-cation — I converse with prominent practitioners, educators and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles. And we investigate the world of fetish sex and kink. The other is called SEX WISDOM — here I chat with researchers, educators, clinicians, pundits and philosophers who are making news and reshaping how we look at our sexual selves. I can assure you that these conversations will be well worth the time you spend with us.

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Holy cow, it’s another milestone, sex fans! This week’s show marks my third anniversary of podcasting. I know! Isn’t that fuckin great? I mean who would have guessed that we’d have such a long run. And what a year it has been too. I launched two podcast series last year — the Sex EDGE-U-cation series and the SEX WISDOM series, both of which appear on Wednesdays. The Erotic Mind podcast series, which is nearly two years old, continues to shares Mondays with my traditional Q&A podcasts like today’s show. As usual, I have a very hot load of oh so stimulating questions to start year #4 off with a bang. And I have a feeling that a few close friends will drop by to say howdy too.

Jesse wants to know if he can test dirty from swallowing a meth-head’s nut.

Terri has yet to cum.

Mariah is a cock in a frock, but he wants to quit.

Miguel can’t keep it up.

Andrew is keeping all his hot monkey love to himself.

Some chick from Boston wants to know about boners and butt sex.

BE THERE, OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail. Got a question? Perhaps you have a comment. Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you just wanna talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give dr dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll fine me in the podcast section, obviously, or just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

That’s right, sex fans, now it’s so easy to see what hot and what’s not in the world of adult products. I review of all kinds of adult related goodies — sex toys for sure, but also condoms, lubes, herbal products, fetish gear as well as educational and enrichment videos. DON’T MISS A SINGLE ONE!

We came dangerously close to having a fantastic Sex EDGE-U-cation podcast for ya today. Unfortunately, my scheduled guest had technical difficulties and we had to put off the interview till next week. Such is life!

In lieu of a podcast, we have some swell Q&A.

Name: Brian
Gender:
Age: 40
Location: Canada
After a guy ejaculates can he have another ejaculation? Like after I cum if I put on a cock ring will it stay hard enough to continue with intercourse and achieve another orgasm? I basically want to cum twice in a row.

Yep, that’s doable. All depends on your particular refractory period and how turned on you are. Let’s take a quick look at the male sexual response cycle again, just so we understand what we’re talkin’ about. Ok?

The sexual response cycle refers to the sequence of physiological changes that occur as we become sexually aroused and move through to afterglow. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Both women and men experience these phases of course, although the timing usually is very different for each gender. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase will vary from person to person and from situation to situation. That’s why I say cuming twice in a row is doable. But is it gonna happen for you? I guess we’ll just have to wait and see, huh?

Rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of our cock result in the ejaculation of spunk.

A “sex flush” may appear all over our body.

Phase 4: Resolution (or the “I need a nappy” stage)

During this phase, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and the parts of your body that swelled and engorged return to their previous size and color.

This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy and, often, fatigue.

Most women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms.

Men, on the other hand need recovery time after orgasm, this period is called the refractory period. This doesn’t have to be the end of sex. Like you suggest, a cockring may prevent your dick from going soft. But don’t count on an immediate second ejaculation, even if your dick stays hard. Don’t forget, the duration of the refractory period varies and is situational. It will also increase as we age.

Name: Ivan
Gender: Male
Age: 33
Location: Spain
I am considering the social usage of Viagra or Cialis to improve sexual performance. Which of the two would you recommend for recreational usage?

I don’t recommend recreational use of prescription drugs, particularly these vascular dilators. And certainly not when used in conjunction with other non-prescription drugs. Maybe you ought consider a low-tech solution like a cockring instead.

I hasten to add that I’m not averse to using some drugs recreationally. But I think that we’d do well to stick to those that are more natural. The less processing involved and fewer added chemicals the better, in my humble opinion.

Did you know that health officials in the UK and here in the US are investigating reports of blindness among men using Viagra and Cialis? Why risk that if ya don’t have to.

I’m really concerned with the alarming rise in recreational use of these drugs by younger men, men in their 20’s and 30’s. And like I said, this is even more troubling when they combine these drugs with ecstasy, cocaine, or crystal meth. If your young body is having difficulty producing an erection at this tender age, then you need medical attention ASAP.

Besides the risk of blindness, there are several other reasons why you ought not abuse Viagra or a similar drug just so you can have wood that lasts for hours. Your body will habituate itself to the substance and, in time, you won’t be able to get it up at all without ever increasing doses of these drugs. This will surely fuck up your cardiovascular system big time. In fact, you may very well be inducing the very sexual dysfunction the drug is supposed to help.

Consider the person who overuses eye drops or lip balm or any other otherwise innocuous over the counter health and beauty products. Their bodies stop making the natural substances that these products are intended to assist. It’s counterproductive and it’s ill advised. And if this is a problem with relatively harmless over the counter products, you know you are playing with fire when you abuse powerful prescription meds.

Name: Yuri
Gender: male
Age: 20
Location: Russia
I want to make love kisses on my girlfriend’s vagina. But I never did this. What can I do?

Love kisses on her vagina, huh? You Russians are so romantique!

I think you are talkin about some good old fashioned cunnilingus, right? Or as we say here in the US or A — eatin’ out at the Y, munchin’ carpet, muff divin’, pussy lappin’ and what have you.

If your girlfriend is as unfamiliar with gettin’ love kisses on her vagina as you are at givin’ them, you might want to give her a head’s up on what you plan to do. Ya see some of our women folk are none too keen on the idea. They have it in their head that their pussy is icky and not for oral consumption. This is very unfortunate, but it is what it is. If you think you’re gonna get a lot of resistance from your lady friend, you might start kissing her on the face and neck, then to the tops of her tits, her nipples, and her belly. This will give her an idea where you’re headin’. If you’re doin’ this right, hopefully she’ll be so busy enjoying herself she’ll not protest your trip south.

Proceed slowly. Make sure you’re you’re both comfortable. If you’re lying down, you best be on your stomach between her legs so that your string of kisses is as effortless as possible. Have a pillow ready to shove under her hips to raise her a bit if she’s willing to proceed. If, by the time you get to her pussy, she doesn’t try to stop you, you’re home free. Basically she is giving you tacit permission to proceed. Of course you could check in with her and ask if you can continue. But sometimes, in delicate situations like this, you may be better off keeping the conversation to a minimum. She might be fine with it if she doesn’t actually have to agree to it. Women are like that sometimes.

Try scooting her butt to the side of the bed while you kneel on the floor between her legs. This will give you all the access you’ll need. And hey, don’t go divin’ right in there, for heaven’s sakes. Take a moment to two to admire the beautiful spectacle before you. Lordy, lordy ain’t that a sight for sore eyes.

Gently nuzzle, kiss, and lick her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. With a little luck your gal-pal will be so aroused she’ll begin to guide your head into her snatch. Lick her outer lips. Run your tongue up and down them. Nibble them gently with your lips. Next, work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress her smaller, thinner inner lips. Circle her vaginal opening and perhaps dart your tongue inside her cunt.

I hope you know your way around a woman’s genitals, because If you don’t you’ll be bumbling around down there to no great effect. And, while you may get an “A” for effort, you might very well wreck the moment by being too aggressive on her more sensitive parts. Her clit is her magic button. If you don’t know a clit from a hole in your head, do some research before you head south.

Approach her clit very slowly and gently. Some women enjoy a tongue lashing directly on her clit. Others find direct contact too intense, even uncomfortable. Now is a good time to check in with her. Ask for direction on how she wants you to proceed. She may prefer you to circle her clit with your tongue, avoiding direct contact.

If your gal is unfamiliar with this kind of pleasure, she may not kow to direct you. If that’s the case, you’re gonna have to ask direct questions like: Do you want it lighter? Or would you like more pressure? More of this? Not so much of that? Soon you will be able to tell on your own by observing her pelvic movements and listening to her moan if you’re doing a good job. Sometimes the best communication is non-verbal.

While you’re down there, why not employ a couple fingers to spread things apart? Add a little massage. Use the tip of your tongue, then the flat of your tongue, then your lips as you move around her vulva. All three feel a little different and each provide subtly different sensations. Some chicks love pussy raspberries, you know…

Come up for air from time to time. Look into here eyes, caress and massage her boobs. Try slipping a finger or two into her mouth so she can suck them while you’re licking her. Or move into a 69 position and enjoy a little blowjob with you’re eating her out.

You may want to incorporate some ass play too. Insert a lubed finger into her butt hole. Just make sure that whatever goes in her ass doesn’t then come in contact with her cunt. You definitely don’t want to introduce bacteria that can cause a urinary infection.