What If I’ve Messed Up Sexually?

There’s a saying that goes like this: “every great love story ends in tragedy.” Consider Romeo and Juliet. They throw caution to the wind to be together and make easy, heart-defining choices to have secret moments of bliss against their family’s wishes. In the end, they commit suicide because their relationship is opposed. It’s an applauded classic love story, but where’s the sunset? Where’s the happily ever-after? And where’s their pulse? It’s not the kind of love story you want to have your name in it.

What kind of love story are you writing with your life?

My best-selling book And the Bride Wore White is full of what I call celebration stories. Some are stories of brides who never kissed before their wedding day and others are stories of brides who were sexually broken before they graduated highschool. How can they all be celebration stories?

Free Online Purity Curriculum Available Now!

Roughly forty six percent of high school students will engage in sexual intercourse before they graduate.[i]There is almost no difference in the percentage of students inside the church and those outside the church. Shouldn’t there be? This risky behavior is compounded by the fact that starting to have sex early equals a lot of sexual partners. The average number of partners a sexually active college girl has is 7.1. [ii] This increases the number of people to whom she becomes physiologically and spiritually bonded to, and decreases her ability to bond well with her spouse in future years.

Do you want to lead teen girls through a bible study so they can land on the right side of these stats? Do you deeply desire that your own daughter walk in sexual purity? We have a brand new resource to help you and it’s FREE. Let me tell you about it:

Big Announcement: And The Bride Wore White Video Curriculum

I am excited to announce that we’re heading into the studios to tape an all-new video curriculum for my best-selling book: And the Bride Wore White. And I have a few spots left in the studio audience. After nearly fifteen years, reviewers continue to rave about it. But the greatest proof of its effect is in the lives of hundreds of thousands of young women who’ve embraced the book’s message and chosen to live lives of purity. We estimate that nearly 15,000 churches and small groups have used it as a Bible study or small group resource. It’s certainly been through a few different looks.

January 2000 • Original Cover Design

Model Nicole Flowers (A girl in the youth group I was helping to lead.)

2004 • Celebration Edition (To celebrate 100,000 in sales)

Model Shannon (A girl in the youth group I was helping to lead.)

2012 • Twelfth Anniversary Cover

Model Lexi Gresh (My precious daughter.)

To celebrate the fifteen year mark (January 1, 2015), we are releasing an all-new video curriculum and on-line leader’s guide. These will be made available for FREE just like my new Get Lost video series released last year.

But here’s the deal: it’s not free to me. I am committed to doing everything I can to keep the cost as low as possible while also bringing you good quality. (See the videos in the Get Lost link above.) While many ministries spend up $50-100,000 on video taping, our cost is going to come in at right about $10,000.

Would you prayerfully consider helping me raise this amount? Thanks to the women’s ministry of First Baptist Church (Magnolia, Arkansas) who heard about this project and held a silent auction to raise money, we already have $1500 in the bank! And I’m going to offer some little incentive packages for you to join this great group of women. (It’s kind of like our own Kickstarter campaign.) I sure hope you can join us!

The Fistfight for Our Beauty

Dannah says there is a fistfight going on between God and the Devil over our beauty. I’m sure you’ve felt it before. Maybe your insecurity is your hair; maybe your body type; maybe it’s acne… As girls, we listen to the voices of others; we covet the approval and affirmation of those around us. I know a little something about this struggle.

I’m a crowned beauty pageant winner.

And I have struggled deeply to feel beautiful.

In this week’s Get Lost video, I share briefly about it. Can I tell you what I learned on the pageant circuit?

Only God can truly inform our opinion of what is beautiful.

I recognize that many of you will have strong opinions of how these “beauty contests” objectify women. You can’t imagine a godly girl participating in such an event. I respect those opinions and would even agree with you in some cases! But let me bring you behind the scenes to look at it from a different angle: mine.

Through our Sexual Theology and Healing Leadership Acceleration Program for Women, we seek to accelerate the sexual theology, teaching, coaching and healing capabilities of female leaders through collaboration and education to carry God’s truth and healing throughout the world. Pure Freedom will provide mentorship to a limited number of approved applicants in our Leader Acceleration Program for Women who desire to collaborate with others. This event is by invitation only. If you’d like to attend, please email eileen@purefreedom.org for more[...]