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Sunday, 3 November 2013

Bullying.....................not good..................

Being bullied is something we think of happening to children
at school but the sad fact is that a lot of bullies continue the bulling into their
adult life. I feel this happens partly because it works for them, by that I mean
by bulling people they get what they want. In some cases the bully will mistake
fear for respect, they think their victims respect them and that is why they do
what the bully demands.

Yes I mean demands because most bullies demand things be done
their way, they don’t ask for a task to be done they tell you in a demanding
way that it has to be done.

Some kids because bullies because they think if they don’t
get in first then they will be the victim of a bully, which is a sad thing. They
carry the bulling into their adults lives.

After years of being a bully it is all they know so they go
out into the workforce and think bossing people about is the right way to do
things and some will not get that they are still a bully.

Most bullies just don’t see the damage their actions cause
as many of us who have been bullied become good at hiding how hurt we feel, we
will not allow the bully to see our pain. This we will often carry with us for most
or all our lives. It is really hard to let our guard down and t allow others to
see our pain, our scars and who we really are.

bein gay in smalltown southern usa I know firsthand what bullying does to you you either break or you become hard. the last bullying I can remember thye were gonna give me a "red-belly" where they hold you down and take turns slapping/punching your stomach unil it turns bright red. I kneed the ringleader in the nuts and was kicking him in the head when teachers pulled me off of him. he was a year ahead of me and a head taller so after that I was left alone.

Oh Tim I can imagine how terrible it must had been for you, honestly I think some people thing being gay is something they can catch, or some kind of weird choice and it is neither. Of course beating the hell out of a bully helps stop it

What bullies do to you can last for decades. I still remember the Zowine brothers from my days as a youngster. You also make a very good point about bullies who become adults. The very last boss I had in the Navy was (and probably still is) a bully. Even though he never tried to pull my underwear over my head, I'll still remember him along with the Zowines as long as I live.

Bullying is a huge problem and I hate to see news reports of children doing drastic things to keep from being bullied. It is something that has been around for a long time and needs to be addressed. :-)

I haven't been plagued with a lot of bullying but I certainly have been treated badly from time to time. I just don't get why anyone feels the need to be hurtful to another person. We live in a time that people are just so inconsiderate of others. Such a shame.