2013年10月20日 星期日

Annotation 1: Adultery is risky but must exist as a positive resort

You can stand against extramarital affair and choose not to engage in it, but have to believe that it is necessary and has positive effects in our society, where marriages are still the mainstream of social life. When people are strongly opposed to infidelity, they cannot uncover the truth that most marriages are not perfect and what's worse, some of them are far from happiness. Because a variety of discrimination brims in our society, such as hostility and labeling on single-parent families and unmarried mothers, social pressure and kids' well-beings make couples surrender to marriages. And thus unhappy marriages come out. Some may think that if you have an unhappy marriage, you can get a divorce, resort to a consultation, or communicate with your spouse to save the situation. But is it that easy to deal with? If it is, then divorce rate should not be so high. We see that in Taiwan, divorce rate gets higher and higher; however, there are still hostility and hatred toward divorced couples and their children, which I have mentioned before. So it turns out that keeping the marriage or getting a divorce are not right. For those people who are in this dilemma, it is impossible to find solutions in a normal or moral way. Although extramarital affair is risky and must be criticized, it is still a possible way to pull you out of the abyss of misery. To be frank, adultery is just a sexual and emotional relationship outside of a marriage. It is not so horrible, evil or to be considered an unforgivable sin. If a couple really want to deal with the problems in their marriage, they have to reach a consensus. Like an agreement that on the basis of both bringing up the children and maintaining family's atmosphere, each other can develop their own relationship . It is inevitable that adultery will never be accepted by all people. But those people who fight against it, should know that it is more important to solve social problems than to arouse tremendous controversy about whether infidelity is accepted. No matter how adultery's rightfulness develops, it exists anyway and is still taken as a possible means by those people who need it.Source:http://woosean.pixnet.net/blog/post/23604229-%E5%A9%9A%E5%A4%96%E6%83%85%E7%9A%84%E5%BF%85%E8%A6%81%E6%80%A7

5 則留言:

It is a good source, but you should "quote" what is in the source. At first glance, I think those are you thoughts, but after seeing the source, I realize almost is from the article. The author's point of view is very convincing, but I seldom see your comment or your "own" thoughts in this annotation. I think you can choose some important sentences to support what you have mentioned in your issue paper before. And you can organize or list the author's points, not just quote all. To sum up, compare to your issue paper, this annotation points out why you said that divorce is not a good choice for unhappy marriage. It makes your point clear. Good.

Just like Emma said, I would like to know what part in this article is from the source and what part is from yourself.You made a lot of sense here by saying "But those people who fight against it, should know that it is more important to solve social problems than to arouse tremendous controversy about whether infidelity is accepted." In this annotation, you brought up a lot of different aspect of marriage, which can make us understand your point more clearly.Still I wonder if two people are no longer bind by the commitment of marriage, more social problem will come into existence; for example, family value will be questioned. So what's your opinion on this?

I don't think that if people have a emotional affair can still remain the completeness of a family, because he/she might want to spend more times with his/her new lover. Also, the lover might hope to build a new family with you. And,actually kids are very sensitive, they will notice that their parents don't like each other anymore, this does not have any good benefit to kids' well-beings. Your article is based on the situation that the couples can reach a consensus. However many extramarital affairs happened not because couples have poor marriages, but for excitement! What is your opinion or solution for this kind of situation?

That's why they have to reach an agreement! And for the desire of the lover to get married, that is the problem the husband/wife has to deal with since they have reached an consensus that maintaining family's atmosphere. And to answer your last question, just because his/her marriage is unhappy, he/she pursues comfort or happiness from other woman/man.