Three Little Words Can Mean So Much

Dear Sugar
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. I didn't realize until recently how much it would mean to me if he said I love you. But he has not. I feel stupid caring about it as much as I do. In an e-mail he once told me that he has strong feelings for me, but has a hard time expressing himself because he was hurt in the past. I think it's just a way for him to avoid talking about his feelings. If he can't say it now or doesn't feel it now...how can I be sure he will later on? Should I break up with him or come to terms with the fact that saying I love you doesn't really matter that much? Heartache Hallie

Dear Heartache Hallie
It's been 2 years. By now your boyfriend knows whether or not he loves you and he should be able to discuss his emotions for you. Communication is one of the most important elements in a successful, loving and happy relationship. How are you going to evolve as a couple if you can't reveal vulnerable feelings to each other? Maybe he was scared in the beginning, but by now he should feel safe with you. I hate to say it, but if he can't express himself, then either he's not in love with you or he's not mature enough to be able to talk openly to you. Either way, you've got your hands full. Why don't you go somewhere alone where he's most comfortable, and have an honest talk with him regarding your concerns.