An effiminate, bisexual or gay male. Height of popularity was from 1984-1986, geographic usage confined between Waterford/Montville, CT to Warwick, Rhode Island. Being "Gayling" had a major following, members of this "group" usually were GQ-fashion victims, shopped at Midland Mall in Warick or Crystal Mall in Waterford.

I was sleeping over Mark's house when I awoke to him going down on me, I mean he went total Gayling on me!