Baby Shower drama

ok so my mom sister and sister in law are all planning my baby shower together ok no problem there they are all far from me so my sis in law has called and asked questions about what i want and since everyone is coming from out of state ive been told when so now its 3 weeks before baby shower and i have not been given invites to give to firends .... they are all far awya and dont know my friends so i said i would give them out but my mom isist that i shouldnt have any part in planning my shower...bc its supposed to be a surprizse but it cant be bc no one is here in fl and they dont know my friends.....im frustrated and stressed any advice.....

ok so my mom sister and sister in law are all planning my baby shower together ok no problem there they are all far from me so my sis in law has called and asked questions about what i want and since everyone is coming from out of state ive been told when so now its 3 weeks before baby shower and i have not been given invites to give to firends .... they are all far awya and dont know my friends so i said i would give them out but my mom isist that i shouldnt have any part in planning my shower...bc its supposed to be a surprizse but it cant be bc no one is here in fl and they dont know my friends.....im frustrated and stressed any advice.....

I'll admit that due to both my family and dh's family being out of state it made more sense for me to mail out my own invites, but the RSVP info was those throwing me the shower. My point was, I was gonna have to get addresses from everyone to give to her anyway, so why make my mil rewrite it all? I also bought a few decorations to put up because we won't have a lot of time when they get there, ordered the cake, and bought the prizes for the games. I feel so grateful they are hosting the shower, but some stuff is just hard to do long distance. No one at the shower will know I helped... Just you guys! lol

I'll admit that due to both my family and dh's family being out of state it made more sense for me to mail out my own invites, but the RSVP info was those throwing me the shower. My point was, I was gonna have to get addresses from everyone to give to her anyway, so why make my mil rewrite it all? I also bought a few decorations to put up because we won't have a lot of time when they get there, ordered the cake, and bought the prizes for the games. I feel so grateful they are hosting the shower, but some stuff is just hard to do long distance. No one at the shower will know I helped... Just you guys! lol

I gave my hostesses (mom, MIL, & 4 friends) all the addresses in a Google spreadsheet when they started planning. They haven't sent anything yet, but the shower isn't until Oct 14. (I also helped find the shower location and gave my general preferences for food and warned them that I'd run if any of the games involved guessing my weight or measurements.) If you know the date of your shower, you might as well tell your friends to save the date, and you can also tell them where you're registered so they have time to buy gifts. The whole idea of a "surprise" shower is weird to me because we already know we're pregnant, so where's the surprise?

I gave my hostesses (mom, MIL, & 4 friends) all the addresses in a Google spreadsheet when they started planning. They haven't sent anything yet, but the shower isn't until Oct 14. (I also helped find the shower location and gave my general preferences for food and warned them that I'd run if any of the games involved guessing my weight or measurements.) If you know the date of your shower, you might as well tell your friends to save the date, and you can also tell them where you're registered so they have time to buy gifts. The whole idea of a "surprise" shower is weird to me because we already know we're pregnant, so where's the surprise?

humor your hosts by letting them send out invites whenever they get to it (i guess) BUT def send out a save the date to your friends! folks' schedules get full and they dont want to miss your shower! and you can truthfully say you didn't send out "invitations" - perfect!

humor your hosts by letting them send out invites whenever they get to it (i guess) BUT def send out a save the date to your friends! folks' schedules get full and they dont want to miss your shower! and you can truthfully say you didn't send out "invitations" - perfect!

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