Sex and the City meets the Dalai Lama. Buns and Marty use their lively escapades to ignite an authentic inquiry into themselves ... an emotionally-naked exposé baring all.
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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Singin' and slingin'.

It’s 3:45 a.m. and I am wide awake. I have been for a couple of hours now. I think I’m still coming down from the
excitement of this past weekend. Four
days in Merritt with friends, singing on stage numerous times, and slinging
beer into the wee hours at the second annual Great Canadian Bike Rally. It was
a blast and I was truly in my element.

With the temperature hovering in the mid ’30s for much of the time, we were sweltering as we
hopped back and forth between two stages to perform for the bikers who had come
from far and wide to admire each other’s motorcycles and swap tales from the
road.

Amidst all the constant rumbling and throbbing of the
machines, and the volume 11 music for the better part of each day, a quiet
realization dawned on me. It happened in mid-song on the main stage as I
caught, out of the corner of my eye, a glimpse of the giant screen and my face
was being beamed out in Technicolor. Now
while I’m considered to be quite the extrovert, this was extremely
disconcerting to me. This was being
really visible. Knowing that everyone for
at least two blocks could see me. Never
knowing when the camera was on me unless I happened to be glancing sideways.
For the rest of the song, I was quite uncomfortable and knew I had to get a
grip. This was going to be the norm
every time I got on stage and I wanted to enjoy myself to the max.

Rather than shrink away from the experience, I decided I was
going to blast through my life-long inner fear of being seen this nakedly, and
I was going to put my energy to good use – to sing from deep within and not
have my fear take centre stage. This big-screen experience helped inspire a
much higher level of comfort with visibility without worrying about what people
thought. It was so freeing! I loved it! It was like getting rid of an old
cloak that I didn’t need anymore – especially in that heat!

But what was just as interesting to me was that I caught
myself, several times, tuning out for a few seconds in the middle of a song and
thinking about stuff other than the performance… I need to eat… I’m thirsty…Oh
shit! What verse are we singing next?Does this skirt make my ass look big? Scary
when it happens. And I realized that
this would be noticeable on the big screen.
My disconnection would be visible.
Mmmmmm. Any correlation with my
life in general? It really made me wonder about what happens when I’m not
connected. In this particular instance,
it could have been a gong show.
Actually, at any time. On or off
stage.

So rather than coming home from the event exhausted and
depleted… I am energized and inspired. I’ve
learned something that can be put to good use.
Love when that happens!

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How it all began

Our sons were friends. Like brothers really. We mothers had never met but both our guys kept saying we should. Then Duncan passed away. It was through Marty's support of Buns' grieving her son that a deep friendship was forged.

Duncan inspired us. If his life, at 22, could get snuffed out like that, without any warning, then why wouldn't we live each day to the max ... grateful for every second, whether mundane or profound?

Really, we're not interested in writing just about the happy times. We are interested in also using the pain, the sorrow, the disappointments -- the realities of life -- to stretch and grow.

Inherent in everything that happens, at the heart of it lies love. Sometimes it doesn't look like love. We have to go through all the layers of ourselves authentically and feel them in order to reveal that essence.

But hey. It's not all serious. We have a blast. We go blindly into spontaneous adventures that some might consider reckless (Marty's word), or random (Buns' word), but regardless, whatever it is we are doing, we are awake and choosing to live out loud.

If you want to catch all the glorious details of the Buns and Marty escapades, you can start with our first post under Blog Archive (November 2010 -- Today has already been amazing -- and read the posts from bottom to top).

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