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I don't think help is going to come from another couple. That's up to your wife. I'd say suggest it from time to time and hope she warms up to the idea, but don't push the subject. That will likely have the opposite reaction. You can't make her do something she doesn't want to without creating resentment. That's not ever worth it.

Hard Rocker you have hit the nail on the head. Talking is so important and so difficult to do. We have had 25 years and believe we know it all. My wife is a shy one and after all this time i am bring up new topics and ideas.
you might let your wife find someone?

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Get her REALLY drunk? You can only apply so much pressure to do something before you fuck up the relationship. If she is really uncomfortable with it, why is it so important for you to "find a way". What are you hoping to accomplish?

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As a sexual voyeur and also with my group sex and threesomes experience, I'd love to do this with my wife as well. Swinging, but with your partner. But it's not her style so it's best left as a fantasy.

One obstacle would be her body image, although she's actually okay and better than most women her age. Many women have body image issues and possibly wouldn't like being seen naked in front of another couple, let alone the issue of actually having sex in front of another couple (although that would be awesome).

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This is the best answer, unfortunately that isn't what you probably want to hear. For some people sex is more about 1 on 1 passion/love than it is with others and by wanting to open that up, she may view that as taking away from the thing she finds most special about your sex life.

On the other hand if it is a fantasy that you guy 'dirty talk' some day she may start to gain an interest in it. If she does it before she is ready it could end up damaging your relationship. I find it fun, but it is definitely not for everyone.

Same room sex is one of my biggest sex fatasies!
My wife normally is shy but many times during our sex sessions I ask her about having same room sex and I am sure that, with a good situation, this fantasy could come true!
The problem is that finding a couple and the good situation is not so easy!
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