My mom.

by Hayley Cimochowski.
(Worcester ma.)

my mom and me.

I lost my mom when i was 10 years old. I lost my mom 11 days after my 10th birthday. My mom had brain cancer, and after a year of it she passed away. She had surgery, chemo, radiation, after the surgery the tumor grew back from stress. Guess who was blamed for that? Me! My moms boyfriend\Husband blamed me. Told me i was the stressed that caused it too grow back. I had no idea what cancer was at the time and did not know she was terminally ill. I thought cancer was like a cold, that she would get better. I never really got to know my mom, because my mom and my dad got divorced before i was 5. I basically watched her die, without even knowing it. There is not a day i go without thinking about her. She went from beautiful to ugly. That really kills me to say. I'm am now 15, almost 16. It's been about 5 years now. I just really want my mom, it's hard being a girl without a mom.

Comments for My mom.

No matter what people say - we do not have the power to cause cancer in someone else's life and I am sorry if someone said that to you. If we had the power to make others sick then surely we would all have the power to make them healthy as well. There would be no such thing as death - everyone would live on and on. You say that you are going to be 16 soon. I hope that you have a strong network of family around you who will encourage to be the best "you" that "you" can be. Are you still in school, have you chosen a career path. Whatever you do, make sure it is something that brings you joy. Remember your mother physically may have left you but spiritually she is all around you - so keep her in mind when you make important choices about your future - seek the counsel of your significant other family members because I am sure they love you just as your mother would if she were here today...NANCY

Jun 24, 2012

My Mom I miss herby: Doreen England U.K.

Dear HayleyI am sorry for the loss of your mom. You were far too young to know what was going on and you certainly should not be blamed for your mom dying. People say stupid things when they are in grief. You had a loss of your mom and dad because they were divorced. You also lost a relationhship with you mom. That is a lot of loss for young shoulders. You are older now and more mature to understand some things now so feel a profound sense of loss and grief not knowing your mom. Do you have anyone to support you? Do you have any relatives that can fill in the gaps for you? You need to know your history. You need your own STORY. You may have to gather information and make this up as you go along. Rather like inventing your own story from gathered information from relatives. Ignore your mothers boyfriend/husband and his tactless remarks. You are not alone as we are all facing grief. Some people experience more pain as everyone's story is different. If you are able to see a counsellor this would be a good thing as you will be able to resolve some of the problems you are left with. You can also keep a journal and write in this each day how you feel. What is going on in your world. All the day to day experiences that will build memories. You can write your own history by making relationships and friendships and build on this so that you can build a future for yourself. It is hard work. You can make it joyfull. Exciting. A Challenge. Best wishes for your future. Be Happy.