I have been surprised over the number of posts regarding dildos and large dildos for anal use during the last few months. Previously, I posted quite completely on anal sex and its possible consequences. Those posts were generally for women but the number of men seeking dildo action in their rears has increased.

The anus, whether male or female, is designed as a one way valve; it lets stuff out but resists letting anything in. The tissue of the anus and the rectum is one cell thick, whilst the vagina is forty cells thick. The vagina, designed to admit penis (or other objects) is very elastic and can handle about anything. The muscles at the opening of the vagina are also designed to stretch to allow birth. Tears in the rectum and anus are quite common as people begin taking this action. These tears, of course, admit bacteria that cause infection and the stuff travelling through rectum is about as full of bacteria as you can imagine. The anal sphincters are not and can easily be stretched, even torn, to the point that they do not do their job.

In the long term (several years) the cumulative effect of anal sex, especially with very large dildos, can be expected to be hemorrhoids, possible loss of bowel control and infections.

Yes, I know some will engage in anal sex and even come to enjoy it (Confession: I thoroughly enjoy anal play but do not allow penetration) but certain precautions should be taken: Always use a condom when a real penis is involved. This works both ways. The worst prostatitis I have ever treated was from fecal material jammed up the penis in someone's anus. If using a toy, it should be thoroughly cleaned and have a vinegar soak each time it is used - or cover it with a condom. Second, LOTS of lube on both the receiving anus and on the object penetrating. Old fashioned, water-based lubes such as K-Y and Surgilube do the job, clean up easily and will not cause allergic reaction in anyone. Any colored, flavored, warming, numbing or other tricky should be avoided. The additional chemicals increase the risk of damage and allergic reaction.

You would not believe the things removed from there in the typical emergency room on any weekend night. Sure, we can get it out but it should not have been there in the first place.

I just ordered a harness and dildo for my wife to use with me. I didn't go balls out and get a mega big one,just a medium size(6.5"longx1.5"thick). I enjoy anal play and now it's time to take it one step further. I don't plan on her doing me every day,just a few times now and then. She on the other hand doesn't like the feel of it,so I don't push her to do it.

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Here is an article the two of you should read with regard to anal play including the use of dildos.

Within your excellent presentation on anal stimulation you for got something very important. I learned it by accident and it cost me a trip to my proctologist. While engaging in anal sex do not use any desensitizing agents like "analeze." You would want to feel pain when your anus or rectum is being stretched too far.:eek: One of the few times I used a desensitizing agent I injured my anus: the dildo/vibrator was forced into my anus and I could not feel it; it received a tear in my anus. It scared me to death because that area is very vascular so a small injury will cause a lot of bleeding. Anal sex is enjoyable if you use good common sense and hygiene.;)

I have engaged in anal stimulation either alone or with a female partner all through my sex life:D. Unfortunately my current partner is grossed out by anything anal so I go at it alone.:confused: Recently I made some wise decisions I would like to share with men or women who enjoy anal masturbation. First, I limit how many times I use my anal inventory for masturbation. I learned that with so much anal stimulation I could not masturbate naturally: I needed that anal stimulation. Second, I decided not to pursue girth as a payoff for my anal orgasms. Using dildos/vibrators with a circumference greater than 5" was not a good idea. This was important since my anal stimulation was less frequent. Third, I purchased a smaller but longer dildo/vibrator and a medium sized butt plug for those times where I wish to be different.:p I continue to maintain excellent sexual hygiene with my inventory and my body, and I see my proctologist once a year for a check up.:cool:

I have to ask, ButtAnalMan, have you ever been on the receiving end of an anal experience? I've tried it and it is not pleasant. I agree with Brandye on this, that the anus is an out only orifice, and if a woman is uncomfortable with anal, leave her be. You should also know Brandye is far more informed with the medical aspect of this topic than you are. I understand some women (and men!) do enjoy it. To each their own.

[QUOTE=raunchy gal;262534]Ok this is probably not the right place to post this,but i was given an anal dildo and a battery operated butt plug as a gift for my birthday tomorrow.What is the difference between the two.Can anyone please explain!! I'm a novice when it comes to anal sex and i like it but not on a regular basis[/QUOTE]

both you & your partner can enjoy the dildo as foreplay whereas you can use the battery plug on your own,they are exciting while doing normal chores,but devine while sipping coffee :rolleyes:with the neighbors

An anal dildo is used alone or with a partner when having anal sex, a butt plug can also be used when exploring/playing with a partner but more to prepare u for anal sex, u have control as to how slow u wana prepare to penetrate ur anus gives you practice when its gona be ur first time...remember to always use lube lots of it and I like using booty Eaze it helps with the first penetration...enjoy!

I'd say that one takes batteries and one doesn't. I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but the differences should be visibly obvious. What you do with them is up to you. THe great thing about sex is we all get to write our own rulebook.

I'm hoping if someone could enlighten me about the chemical makeup of the different rubbers used. I purchased a new soft rubber anal plug. It had a very acrid chemical smell (like new plastic) I washed it with detergent thoroughly. It still had the smell of new rubber. I figured that was normal for soft rubber. Before you tell me what I should have done (condom, boil it) I know. I used a water based lubricant. There was a slight sting at first, but I hadn't inserted anything for a while, and it felt like stretching.
Half an hour to an hour later I began to get very hot. I stripped off the clothes I was wearing sweating profusely. I removed the plug and the plastic smell was ten times worse. I showered and passed out and had one of the most insanely realistic fever dreams I have ever had. After that I don't know which parts of last night were real, or if the whole thing was a dream.
Obviously there was some sort of toxic poisoning. My question is, what was it, is it common, and how doyou prepare soft rubber to avoid it? (use a condom,I know):confused:

Begin with accepting that the item you used was NOT rubber. Rubber is made from latex which is the sap of the rubber tree and is a vegetable product. There are many synthetic rubbers available which are used in everything from tyres to industrial belts to sex toys. They are all petrochemical products, plastic, if you will. Some of these are quite inert such as many silicone or nylon products and will not likely cause reaction with most people. Some are a real witches brew of multisyllabic chemicals which will peel paint - or skin.

Yours has a "very acrid chemical smell (like new plastic." That is because it is new plastic and god only knows what some cost cutting production facility located somewhere with cheap labor used. The chemicals are part of the molecular make-up of the item and cannot be washed away. Each layer removed exposes the next layer which is the same crap. Dispose of it - in the hazardous waste bin.

Other thoughts (really of the top of my head ;)):
Perhaps this detergent you used was not suitable for the toy, causing a chemical reaction. Have you checked the manual?
Perhaps this detergent is causing your problems. I don't know what cleaning-product we're talking here. But since rubber is porous, I can imagine the detergent could get stuck onto the material and is transferred inside. That can't be good... :(

Those were my guesses, I do know that for softer toys, I buy silicone. It is a hypo-allergenic, non-porous material that can be sterilized and warms easily to body-temperatur, has practically no smell (you can recognize fake silicone toys if there's a plastic smell to it!) and it's far more durable than rubber. A bit more expensive as well, but definitely worth my money. Other than soft toys, you could try glass. No allergies, very clean material. I love mine :) But that's a total different material.

Using an appropriate flared dildo or buttplug (with plenty of lube!) and of the right size for YOU makes anal play safe and very enjoyable. This is why I scoff at the "What household objects can I use up my ass" threads. NOT a good idea. AT ALL.

ive got a question related to all this
I was born without an asshole, and the doctors who fixed me couldve done a better job, I essentially dont have a rectum (no empty space that poo doesnt sit in till you poop, it sits right inside, no room) I really cant get it all out, but i enjoy anal and want to be able to safely do it. Is there anything i can do, any surgery i can do to have a normal ass?

Ok this is probably not the right place to post this,but i was given an anal dildo and a battery operated butt plug as a gift for my birthday tomorrow.What is the difference between the two.Can anyone please explain!! I'm a novice when it comes to anal sex and i like it but not on a regular basis

RG, A butt plug is designed to slide into your ass and stay put (yes; just that. And it's supposed to feel good :)). Dildo's are for in-and-out penetration. Those that curve up from the base are well suited to anal, because they mirror the curve of the rectum and you can stimulate the g-spot (indirectly) with them. (FYI: Tristan Taormino describes toys and their differences in http://www.sexinfo101.com/node/1029466)

Oh thanks RedRoses i will try them and i do have The 'Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women' on order from my local sex shop.It is also to be a birthday/Christmas gift from my husband whom i will soon be divorcing.I think he thinks he is going to have some fun with me,but he is so wrong.I want it for my own pleasure and for future reference should i have a new partner

I am using Realistic Cock. It is really fantastic I am so delighted with this product. It is like monster. When I push inside, it hit me with full enjoyment and gives me at least 4 orgasm with 30 min...!

[QUOTE=Brandye;254840]I have been surprised over the number of posts regarding dildos and large dildos for anal use during the last few months. Previously, I posted quite completely on anal sex and its possible consequences. Those posts were generally for women but the number of men seeking dildo action in their rears has increased.

The anus, whether male or female, is designed as a one way valve; it lets stuff out but resists letting anything in. The tissue of the anus and the rectum is one cell thick, whilst the vagina is forty cells thick. The vagina, designed to admit penis (or other objects) is very elastic and can handle about anything. The muscles at the opening of the vagina are also designed to stretch to allow birth. Tears in the rectum and anus are quite common as people begin taking this action. These tears, of course, admit bacteria that cause infection and the stuff travelling through rectum is about as full of bacteria as you can imagine. The anal sphincters are not and can easily be stretched, even torn, to the point that they do not do their job.

In the long term (several years) the cumulative effect of anal sex, especially with very large dildos, can be expected to be hemorrhoids, possible loss of bowel control and infections.

Yes, I know some will engage in anal sex and even come to enjoy it (Confession: I thoroughly enjoy anal play but do not allow penetration) but certain precautions should be taken: Always use a condom when a real penis is involved. This works both ways. The worst prostatitis I have ever treated was from fecal material jammed up the penis in someone's anus. If using a toy, it should be thoroughly cleaned and have a vinegar soak each time it is used - or cover it with a condom. Second, LOTS of lube on both the receiving anus and on the object penetrating. Old fashioned, water-based lubes such as K-Y and Surgilube do the job, clean up easily and will not cause allergic reaction in anyone. Any colored, flavored, warming, numbing or other tricky should be avoided. The additional chemicals increase the risk of damage and allergic reaction.

You would not believe the things removed from there in the typical emergency room on any weekend night. Sure, we can get it out but it should not have been there in the first place.[/QUOTE]

The facts that you mentioned are not all true. Although large objects may harm, normal size cock is not. whatever the times you fucked in your asshole with. The most important point her is that you have not been tried the anal penetration yet. And as i think, you are afraid to do. Just try some help from a guy who know how to do it...and you will enjoy.

[QUOTE=dengxioping;254952]Within your excellent presentation on anal stimulation you for got something very important. I learned it by accident and it cost me a trip to my proctologist. While engaging in anal sex do not use any desensitizing agents like "analeze." You would want to feel pain when your anus or rectum is being stretched too far.:eek: One of the few times I used a desensitizing agent I injured my anus: the dildo/vibrator was forced into my anus and I could not feel it; it received a tear in my anus. It scared me to death because that area is very vascular so a small injury will cause a lot of bleeding. Anal sex is enjoyable if you use good common sense and hygiene.;)[/QUOTE]

Definitely true, because this type my cause problems...and the more important is that you need to have the full sensation for your asshole fuck....enjoy

> The facts that you mentioned are not all true. Although large objects may harm, normal size cock is not. whatever the times you fucked in your asshole with. The most important point her is that you have not been tried the anal penetration yet.

Much of our purpose on this site is to provide information. Please tell us what is not all true.

> And as i think, you are afraid to do. Just try some help from a guy who know how to do it...and you will enjoy.

Your assumption is incorrect had you researched and read more from Brandye on the topic.

[QUOTE=ButtAnalMan;258963]The facts that you mentioned are not all true. Although large objects may harm, normal size cock is not. whatever the times you fucked in your asshole with. The most important point her is that you have not been tried the anal penetration yet. And as i think, you are afraid to do. Just try some help from a guy who know how to do it...and you will enjoy.

Definitely true, because this type my cause problems...and the more important is that you need to have the full sensation for your asshole fuck....enjoy[/QUOTE]

A normal sized penis is a large object and definitely large enough to harm. She has made it clear that she does not want anal sex and it doesn't matter that she hasn't tried it. Most women that have tried it - don't like it. Not even all gay men who try it, like it. Have you ever had an object the size of a penis in your butt?

Spending a weekend night in the emergency room is a real education on dumb things people try with their bodies. Alcohol is frequently involved and some of the injuries are more than minor. The internet lets everyone know what medical personnel have dealt with forever.