I once fell madly in love with someone 1,600 miles away. We met online and after a series of increasingly passionate phone conversations I impulsively booked a ticket for the 4-hour plane flight for our first meeting. Over the next several years I got to know the airline schedules to and from that city by […]

Whether you’re having a conversation with a friend or spending time with a date or life partner, how you interact with them can help them feel safe. Or not. You have a big impact in creating the conditions where it feels safe for them to let down their normal reserve – the emotional armor – […]

We experience the presence or lack of emotional safety in physical, emotional and mental ways. Both feeling safe and not feeling safe can be intense, and powerful because they are felt in so many different dimensions at once. When you don’t feel safe with someone, it’s important to assess the severity of the situation, the […]