This is a very difficult time of year for many Vermonters. The holidays serve as both a pressure point and a painful reminder of certain difficulties. And winter, by virtue of its challenges, can take a toll on pocketbooks and emotions.

That difficulty can turn to thoughts of hopelessness and suicide. Over the last year, too many central Vermonters have been affected by the suicide of a family member or friend. They have been decorated war veterans, adults and the elderly. They have been neighbors and colleagues. Just this week, a local high school student took his life, reminding us once again of the fragility of life at any age.

In a tragic statistical uptick, there have been more reported incidents of domestic violence ending in murder-suicides across Vermont.

It makes the heart ache to learn about these tragedies within our small towns. The ripple effects touch many lives, and, when it is someone we know, we often think back on whether there were signs of struggle. In the wake, we blame ourselves for not communicating better, doing more, seeing the signs.

As a society, we really do not talk about suicide, and we need to.

According to officials at Washington County Mental Health Services, the agency’s 24/7 hotline receives up to 16,000 calls a year. These central Vermonters are reaching out for help, or seeking help for someone the caller knows. That is as it should be. That number is staggering. The hotline and mental health services clearly are necessary.

According to a report looking at the state’s statistics from 2012, there were 83 suicides in Vermont. Of those people, two were minors. (In the last 12 months, five teens have committed suicide in central Vermont alone.) The state average is 85 suicides a year.

A 2005 benchmark report titled “The Vermont Suicide Prevention Platform” said the state average at that time was 78. Clearly, the last few years have been a struggle.

Suicide is the eighth leading cause of death in Vermont and the 10th leading cause in the United States, according to the National Institute for Mental Health and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

That is sobering news. What it means is that we need to take suicide prevention seriously. As a community, we need to remove the stigma.

There are signs. If an individual speaks of being hopeless or exhibits changes in behavior or moods; if a person starts to act recklessly or engage in risky behavior or starts abusing drugs or alcohol; and if a person seems to be withdrawing from family and friends, talk to that person, or call for help.

If symptoms become more emergent, if the person makes the statement about wanting to commit suicide, if they seek access to a means, if they say they are thinking about suicide, or if they use a computer, phone or Facebook to drop hints, if they have a plan or start giving things away, get help immediately.

There is a commonly held and mistaken myth that people who threaten suicide won’t do it. Every case needs to be taken as seriously as the next.

Of course, prevention is one thing. Grief after a suicide is another that needs attention and care.

When a suicide occurs, there’s also lots of help. Family and friends are urged to reach out to one another and talk. Seek grief counselors — offered locally by Central Vermont Home Health and Hospice (223-1878) and Washington County Mental Health Services (229-0591).

It is not a time to focus on assigning self-blame or feeling guilty. It is more important to learn and look for the signs so we, as a community, can continue to prevent suicide. Paying close attention to one another — family, friends, neighbors and colleagues — and talking about those things around us that give our lives quality allow us to help those who are struggling, especially during the holidays and stark winter months.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline toll-free number, 800-273-TALK (8255), which is available 24/7, can be used anywhere in the United States and connects the caller to a certified crisis center near where the call is placed. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

Locally, for help call Washington County Mental Health Services at 229-0591 or, in Orange County, the Clara Martin Suicide Hotline at (800) 639-6360.