Heads and Hearts: Episode 259

Helping thinkers and feelers understand one another, plus Lysa TerKeurst on handling difficult emotions, and a question about responding to a girl’s rejection. Featured musical artist: Hearts of Saints

EPISODE SEGMENTS

Thinkers and Feelers

How do you first take in and judge information — through your head or heart? And do you think those who do it the other way are difficult to understand? One of the keys to relational success is embracing the very different but legitimate ways our minds and temperaments work. This panel of both types gets down to the basics of what it means for all of us to be heard, understood and valued in the ways we're wired.

Constructive Conflict

You've had that feeling before: the feeling that the last straw has been placed on the camel's back, something's gotta give, and it probably won't be pretty. Usually this shows up in conflict with another person, and according to Lysa TerKeurst, author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, most people either "stuff" or "explode." In her book Unglued, she argues that our emotions should be indicators, not dictators, and in our interview, she walks through a healthy process for making that happen.

She Said 'No'

A guy can do all he can do to step up and ask a girl out. But what if she says, "No, thanks"? Focus counselor Geremy Keeton offers practical advice for guys in responding outwardly and processing inwardly such a refusal, and weighs in on whether "no" means "no, forever" or "not right now."