「愛しています 。or 愛してる ( = Aishiteru or Aishiteru) 」( = Aishite imasu.) is a very heavy and special phrase.

We use 好き です ( = Suki desu) much more often than 愛しています( = Aishiteimasu) or 愛してる(=Aishiteru).好き(=suki) means “to like“. And of course, 愛している ( = Aishitteiru) has a much deeper meaning but if you say 好きです ( = Suki desu.) sincerely, you will be able to accurately express your love in a way that is equal to the meaning of 愛しています。( = Aishite imasu.)

*あなたのことが好きです。

= Anata no koto ga suki desu.

あなたのことが好き！

= Anata no koto ga suki!

This sounds a bit girlie.

*あなたが好きです。( = Anata ga suki desu.)

あなたが好き！( =”Anata ga suki!”)

This sounds a bit girlie

Note : They both mean “I like you. /I am fond of you.”→“I love you.” It is very common to add ~のこと ( =~no koto) after a pronoun to refer that person.のこと ( = no koto) means “things about〜” and it implies the (whole) existence of that person. It can emphasize that person. At the same time it sometimes works to temper or lessen the feeling or power of that sentence — and yes this seems very contradictory, but I’m sure all languages have these subtle nuances. We use “こと” ( = koto) to make the sentence softer while

あなたが好きです。 ( = Anata ga sukidesu.) sound very straight.

Ex. 君が好き ( = Kimi ga suki)

君のことが好き

( = Kimi no koto ga suki.)

I like/love you. (male talk.)

Ex. あなたが信用できない。

( = Anata ga shinyou dekinai.)

あなたのことが信用できない。

= Anata no koto ga shinyou dekinai.

= I can’t trust you.

Ex. 彼、あの子が好きなんだって。

= Kare anoko ga sukinan datte.

彼、あの子のことが好きなんだって。

= Kare anoko no koto ga sukinan datte.

= They said he liked her. / I heard he liked her.

OK, now, if you like that person a lot, you can say ”大好き” ( = daisuki) or “めちゃめちゃ好き” ( = mechamecha suki)

*あなたが大好きです。( = Anata ga daisuki desu.)

あなたが大好き！( = Anata ga daisuki) sounds a bit girlie

*あなたのことがめちゃめちゃ好きです。( = Anata no koto ga mechamecha desu.)

あなたのことめちゃめちゃ好き！( = Anata no koto daisuki!) sounds a bit girlie.

Both mean “I like you a lot. /I am very fond of you.”→“I love you.”
As in English, this is not just for romantic relationship. Kids and parents also say this to each other “I love you”, using 好き ( = suki). They almost never use 愛してる ( = aishiteru) face to face.

*「ママのこと大好き！」

= Mama no koto daisuki!

= I love you, Mom! / I love my mom!

*「お父さん、私のこと好き？」

= Otousan, watashi no koto suki?

= Dad, do you like/love me?

I know it all depends on the couple but compared to westerners, we don’t say 「愛しています 。(or 愛してる)」( = Aishite imasu / Aishiteru)) , “I love you!” face to face in daily life so much.
But don’t misunderstand. There is love in Japan! We are just more shy and just not good very at expressing it verbally. Or we prefer expressing our love in more subtle ways. Some people think

言葉にすると軽くなる or 安っぽくなる

= Kotoba ni suru to karuku naru / yasuppoku naru.

= If you say something (so often/casually) it will become cheesy.

!yellowflower! So when do we say “I love you!”?

★We say it when we tell someone “I love you!” for the first time, confessing our love.

*告白する ( = kokuhaku suru)to confess (one’s love)

*告白される ( = kokuhaku sareru) to be confessed.(Someone confesses their love to you.)

(Note : 告白する ( = kokuhaku suru) generally means to confess but it means to tell someone “I love you!” or how much you love that person for the first time because it is a big deal for us.)

Slang:
*コクる ( = kokuru) to confess

*コクられる ( = kokurareru) to be confessed to(Someone confesses their love to you)

Ex. 彼に告白した。

( =Kare ni kokuhaku shita.)

I confessed (my love) to him.

Ex. 彼にコクられた。

( = Kare ni kokurareta)

I was confessed by him. →He confessed me. Slang

more shallow

口説く ( =kudoku) to come on to someone/ to hit on /make a pass at someone

*彼に口説かれた。

= Kare ni kudokareta

= He hit on me.

*彼女を口説いた。

= Kanojo wo kudoita.

= I made a pass at her.

*口説き文句

= kudoki monku

= a pick-up line / loving words

★Younger couples are not so shy about expressing their love.

*「好きだよ。」

= Sukidayo.

= I like/love you!

*「大好き！」

= Daisuki!

= I really like/love you!

*「愛してる！」

= Aishiteru!

= I love you!

They say it or text it to their sweethearts more casually.

★Also when we see our own feeling of love objectively and refer to it, we use the “L” word.

orくさい( or クサイ）セリフ（ or 台詞）！( = kusai serifu) The original meaning of くさい = 臭い (= kusai) is stinky or smelly.

But we also use it when we hear something overly clichéd or corny. (セリフ/ 台詞 ( = serifu) : line)

But I personally love to hear them.♥

＜恋＞( = koi) love, romantic love, fancy, romance

While 愛 ( = ai) is deeper and more general in that it includes love for people, animals, earth, and countries, etc. 恋 ( = koi) is just for romantic love. In my definition, 愛 ( = ai) is something unconditional but 恋 ( = koi) could be infatuation or ドキドキする ( = dokidoki suru.) something that makes your heart beat. There is 永遠の愛 ( = eien no ai) eternal love but there isn’t a word 永遠の恋 ( = eien no koi)

*恋に落ちる ( = koi ni ochiru) to fall in love

Note: We never say愛に落ちる ( = ai ni ochiru.)

*恋する ( = koisuru) adj. (to be)in love

*恋する二人 ( = koisuru futari) two people in love

*恋している ( = koishiteiru)／恋をしている ( = koi wo shiteiru.) to be in love

→「私（は）、~に恋(を)していま す。」

= Watashi (wa) ~ ni koi (wo) shiteimasu.)

= I am in love with (someone).

Ex. マギーは潤に恋している。

= Maggie wa Jun ni koishite iru.

= Maggie is in love with Jun.

Note: When we use 愛する ( = aisuru) here, we say,

Ex.マギーは潤を愛している。

= Maggie wa Jun wo aishite iru.

= Maggie loves Jun.

*恋人 ( = koibito) loved one, boyfriend, girlfriend

Note: Careful not to say愛人 ( = aijin). 愛人 ( = aijin) is someone — male or female — you are having an affair with, like a mistress, etc.

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I have one more question regarding this subject: Well, the girl I love wrote me “aishiteru” on a photo of the two of us. (Also, she only used my first name without “San” or anything like it.) Now of course you can’t read her mind, but as far as I know, this is something serious, isn’t it? So she probably wouldn’t say something that strong if she doesn’t mean it, right? (She’s an all-Japanese girl, with me being her only Western contact.)

Thank you for visiting my site. I am glad to hear you like reading my site.
I am afraid to say you don’t use the terms of endearment such as “my love” / “babe/baby”/”sweetie” /”honey” in Japanese.
People might refer to one’s partner ハニー ( = honey) and ダーリン (darling) but they don’t say 私の愛・恋 ( = watasi no ai / koi).
You might see 私の愛しい人 (= watashi no itoshii hito) for my loved one in the literature but I doubt people use it verbally.

So if you want to express your love, I guess you say
ありがとう！ or どういたしまして and add (name/ nickname)+ 大好き! / 好きだよ💕

How sad it sounds, but Maggie’s right.
I don’t know, if you know, that あなた might also be translated as “dear”.
According kotobank.jp =>２ 妻が夫に対して、軽い敬意や親しみをこめていう。
However, I doubt that noways it’s commonly used among young people. Maybe in dramas, literature, etc…

Actually I want to ask the difference of grammar, but it’s about love expression so I hope it’s not really out of context.

Usually I found either 君が好き or 君を好きになった, but recently I found this sentence 超美少女が好きになったのは、超能力者。 I take it’s 超能力者 who fell in love with 超美少女 rather than the other but it might be because of the comma that I’m not really sure.

And when I searched for other examples, looks like (object) が好きになる is used but not as frequently as (object )が好き or (object)を好きになる, did I guess it right? But aren’t their meanings all the same ?

Good question.
Aが好きになったのは、B
The one who A fell in love with is B.
Aが好きになったのはB
The one who fell in love with A is B.

As you said, comma is a key to tell which one is which.

**
First ~が好き and ~が好きになる are different.
~が好き I like/love ~
~が好きになる I come to like ~

As for these two
~が好きになる
~を好きになる
I can’t tell which one we use more but が is a topic marker and を is an object marker. Therefore, while が emphasizes who you like and を is used when you state the fact you like someone.

I’m sorry for commenting on this rather old article, but there is something I would like to learn from you.

There is this Japanese girl I have deep feelings for. Ich know that she also likes me a lot, but I can’t figure out how much exactly. However, I am confident, so I want to propose my love to her. Should I say “(name) wo aishiteru yo”, or is it too heavy? If so, were I to use “(Name) ga daisuki da yo” instead? Doesn’t it make a difference if I left out the “ga” before her name (I’ve also read that several times)?

If “koibito”, by the way, is definitely related to a mutual feeling, this makes me even more confident – I’ve called her “watashi no koibito” several times, and she didn’t object that. However, maybe it’s only because I’m a gaijin …

Sensei, thank you for the explanation. I have a question. In your post, koibito= loved one, boyfriend or girlfriend. so, if a woman say, “aitsu wa watashi no koibito” what does exactly she mean? Is she refer to “he is my boyfriend” or “he is my beloved”? The situation is, she doesn’t know exactly whether the guy loves her or not. But, sure she knows her own feeling, how deeply in love she is with him. And, they never officially going out. I am so confused. Please help me, sensei

And Maggie-sensei, sorry for the bad grammar. English isn’t my first language. So you might be confused to understand what i meant. What i really wanted to ask is, can we use 恋人 to describe someone relationship other than lovers/boyfriend?

Because in a light novel i have been read, the main lead guy is called as the second lead female’s ‘yuujin and koibito’ by the narrator. But from the story, we can exactly tell that the main lead guy is in love with another woman.

Of course this second lead female is deeply in love with the main lead guy. So, can we interpret the ‘koibito’ that’s used by narrator as a beloved?

Yes, in fact it really sounds strange that “suki” can be stronger than “daisuki” … Is there any explanation for that? Is it because of that “koto” expression … On the other hand, that could be used with “daisuki” as well, couldn’t it. So I really have no clue …

I guess it’s because ” 好き ( = suki)” already have a meaning of “I love you” besides “I like something”, you don’t need to add “dai”. Also we say “daisuki” too casually when you talk about food, games, things or some preferences, etc.

Of course, 大好き ( = daisuki) can sounds much stronger than 好き ( = suki) depends on how you deliver the speech.

Hi, Maggie-sensei, you’ve got quite detailed lessons here, thank you very much. I came across phrase “スキあい” in manga I’m reading now and I suspect that it has nothing to be with love (it has been used in child’s play). Am I right or not? What does it mean?

Sorry, that’s it – the whole sentence Maybe the story can help? The highschool boy and girl are standing really close to each other face to face, the boy is going to say something but that girl’s little brother suddenly jumps on him shouting スキあい.

I see.
Can you check if it is スキあり not スキあい.
If it is スキあり(隙あり） it totally makes sense.
It means “chink in one’s armor (armour)” which we say when we attack someone when you find their weak spot that shows and opening for attack.

So happy to see your website! You see, I was writing an anime fanfiction, and I’m trying to learn more japanese. What does this phrase mean in japanese: “Complete my heart/Complete this heart of mine” ?

I’m so glad to have found your site! It’s very informative and I have learned a lot from you.

So say that someone you met online (but haven’t met in person) tells you “あなたのことが気になるよ”. To my understanding “気になる” could also mean “I like you” or “I’m curious/interested about/in you”. Is that right?

Then I want to ask this person, “Why are you interested in me?” Previously you went over the phrase “どうして私のことが好きなの？” but what are some other ways to ask this question without using the word “好き”? I think “好き” is too strong a word to use in this case.

Would any of these phrases work?

何故私のことが気になるの？

私のどかが気になるの？

私のことをどう思う？

What would sound more natural? I also don’t want to sound too direct or rude.

Hi Sofia,
I am glad that you found my site as well.
As you said the feeling of 好き is stronger than 気になる
So when someone says あなたのことが気になります and if you say “どうして私のことが好きなの？”, the person might feel pressured so you should avoid using the word 好き

And if you want to know the reason,
何故私のことが気になるの？ →OK or どうして私のことが気になるの？

私のどかが気になるの？ →私のどこが気になるの？

私のことをどう思う？→A bit straight forward but OK

Or if you feel happy, just tell him 私のことが気になると聞いて嬉しいです。without asking a question.

Thank you for teaching us so many useful phrases. I’m a French woman and currently learning Japanese. I often pick up sentences and/or explanations on your blog.
I was looking for some sentences to express how glad I am to have met a Japanese man who became my close friend. It’s not about a love relationship so the vocabulary of this lesson doesn’t fit.
We’re both a little over 40 and never met physically, we exchange e-mails to improve our language skills. I’m looking for sentences such as:I’m glad we got to know each other. I’m happy we can talk freely and understand each other, your friendship and trust are important to me….
I want to send him an handmade card to thank him because he always helps me with Japanese and he also comforted me at a difficult time in my life.
Could you eventually help? Maybe a topic with phrases about friendship would be a good idea

Bonjour Carine! Thank you for visiting our site.
It seems like you found a nice Japanese friend.
First if you want to thank him for supporting you through difficult time and appreciate your friendship you can say something like

Like Corine, I am in my 40s and have a Japanese male friend of the same age with whom a correspond from time to time. In my case, we have met in person a few times in Japan and are close enough for public hugging, but it is not a romantic relationship.

He does not speak much English and I am only a beginner at Japanese so we do not write long notes and I always have to use a dictionary, but it is extremely helpful for me to practice reading Japanese characters and understand colloquial phrases (our correspondence is not formal). Sometimes a friend translates, but I would like to be able to express some forms of friendly affection on my own, as that seems more personal.

For instance, it would be nice to express that I miss his company (I am never sure if words such as “aitai” are suited to friendship) or how much I appreciate him as a person/apprecite his correspondence. Also he has some health issues, and I am often at a loss how to express concern and caring in a personal way without being formal. It would be super if you could do a lesson on expressing affection/caring on a friendship level one day!

Hello Em!
Thank you for visiting this site.
I think I got the similar request in past. Was it you? Well, everybody has different type of friendship so it would be hard to make a general friendship lesson but will keep it in mind.
Meanwhile,

it would be nice to express that I miss his company (I am never sure if words such as “aitai” are suited to friendship)

So you want to know some casual expression to tell him you miss him. 会いたい could be too direct. How about
また会えたらうれしいな。 = I will be happy if I get to see you again.(but it has a very light tone)

or how much I appreciate him as a person/apprecite his correspondence.

Your correspondence is by email or letters?
こうやってemail (or 手紙=letter)を書き合えることに感謝しています。

Also he has some health issues, and I am often at a loss how to express concern and caring in a personal way without being formal.

I just found your blog, and I am making a a gift for my dad, (he speaks japanese and thats why i want to write him in this language) so i would like to know, how do you write “I love you, dad!” in japanese? I saw “i love you, mom”, but i would like to know the dad version:)

hey maggie, i know its kinda late but thank you for taking the time to make this blog.
I’ve recently gotten my heart broken by an ex who was japanese.. and i’d like to know how to tell him that i miss him dearly and im thinking about him, but want to make it really short, sweet but powerful. how would i go on about saying this?

The relationship barely started and tough circumstances ended it.. but we both knew we had strong feelings for eachother, to the point of considering marriage.. but im not so sure anymore about his feeling now..and so i want to ask him if he still does feel the same way, but im not sure how to put it. if you could help me id greatly appreciate it! thanks ~

僕、お母さんのこと…
= Boku okaasan no koto..
We often leave the sentence unfinished on purpose in Japanese.
So you have to read between the lines.
Usually when you leave the sentence like that it means “I like you.”
僕、お母さんのこと（が好きだ）…
= Boku okaasan no koto (ga sukida)
I love you, Mom.

I’m a male and I’ve taken a liking to someone (a girl xD) and I want to tell her I like her.
I do not want it to be too direct because I don’t want to be too “sudden”. Another way to put it is, I’m trying to be subtle, but I also want to know if that is a bad thing? I’m thinking like this because I do not know how she feels about me. Hehe. >A<

I enjoy talking to her and I want to know more about her. I hope you can help me.

Hi Haru,
So you want to know how to telling someone verbally in a subtle way.
As I wrote in this lesson, telling someone 好きです is very straight forward.
If you keep asking her out, she will get a hint.
Or if you always go out with her in a group, you can tell her
Ex. 今度、二人きりで会えないかなあ。
= Kondo futari kiri de aenai kanaa.
= Is it possible to go out just you and me?

You can give her compliments.
Ex. Aちゃんは本当にかわいいね。
= A chan wa hontou ni kawaiine.
= You are so cute, A-chan.

If you want to tell her your feelings in a subtle way,
Ex.最近、Aちゃんのことが気になってきたんだけど。
= Saikin A chan no koto ga kini natte kitanndakedo…
= I kind of think of you often lately.

If you want to express you feelings a little more strong,
Ex.Aちゃんのことが好きになっちゃったかもしれない。
= A chan no koto ga suki ni nacchatta kamo shirenai.
= I kind of like you. (The direct translation is..I might be in love with you… )

Uwaa, thank you for the very quick reply. I hope I wasn’t much of a bother! XD

I’m doing my best in regards to the complimenting but there’s still the fear of feelings not going to be reciprocated but I’ll work hard!

Hmm, I forgot to include it in first post but if it’s someone you meet online or through SMS, will the approach be very different? I really am falling for her but I don’t know what to do aside from telling her my feelings.

So you just know her on line?
Then, you can add a sentence like
LineでしかAちゃんのことを知らないけれどももうずっと知っている様な気がします。
= Line de shika A-chan no koto wo shiranai keredomo mou zutto shitte iru you na ki ga shimasu.
= I only know you on LINE but I feel like I have known you for a long time.

But if you haven’t seen her yet, then you should see her in person first and then tell her how you feel.

一度会ってもらえますか？
= Ichido atte moraemasu ka?
= Is it possible to see me in person once?
Good luck!

Can “Aishiteru” use with Family member? Ex. If I want to Post in my mother’s facebook on haha no hi that…Okaasan, itsumademo aishiteru yo., is this phrase can be use to tell mom that I love her?

Or it’s suitable to say “Daisuki” with Family member b’coz I’ve searched in the internet that Aishiteru like a affair word, can’t use with mom or dad or any family members but some websites said that it’s ok to use with family member.

Could you please help to explain the different between “Aishiteru and Daisuki” when using with family member (Dad and Mom)

Hello YuyYou
Daisuki is more common and sound lighter but I am sure your mother will be very happy to see your heartwarming message either way.
Japanese people are not good at expressing our love even towards our family or even our sweethearts.
But I am sure she knows you can express your love openly so that’s perfectly all right.
I think it is very lovely.

In Japan (of course it depends on the family but) grownups don’t express their love towards their parents, children saying “daisuki / Aishiteimasu” verbally in daily life.
But there is love equally in your country. Maybe we express our appreciation here and there, saying ありがとう/感謝しています

Wow, sounds complex. So it’s not just 他に好きして or something like that? :O

Oh, sensei, I remember reading a blog post somewhere saying that the word for “love” doesn’t exist in ancient times in Japan? Is that true? I thought 愛 is an old word because it’s the same as Chinese. Or maybe it’s not used in ancient Japanese era?

Kimi no koto ga suki, is used as love/like
can you use this like in english after seeing a girl a couple of times to let a girl know you are interested in seeing her romantically?
or would it come off a little strong

Actually telling someone 好きです(=sukidesu) is very powerful. And if you say 〜のことが好きです。it is considered to be 告白 (confession of your love.)
So in that sense it is strong. But it depends on your relationship. If you want to tell her you really like her, you can say that.
If you are not that ready yet, you can deliver your feelings in a subtle way like.

Ex. ~ といると本当に楽しい。
Or all sorts of compliments will tell her you are interested in her.

Then when you are ready, you can tell her 好きです.

Just for your information, you may think 大好き is “to like/love someone so much” and it is strong but we (especially girls) often say that casually
Ex. あっ、マギーレッスン作ってくれたの？大好き！
= You made a lesson, Maggie? Love you！

what i mean is that i want to know how to say “hurry up and fall in with me” in both genders in a joke and serious way to say. and actually i cant understand your reply because its in kanji so can you reply me in romanji. thanks a lot again maggi sensei

What kind of grammar would you use to say “I wish (something) was the case (though it’s not)”
I have only learned “I hope” and “(something) was supposed to be the case” so I don’t know how to express my wish for something that is impossible, or unlikely to happen.
(I hope that makes sense u.u)

Heya Maggie-sensei, I have a question and I’m sure I’m right about this, but I wanted to run this by you, because I am not 100% sure I am. >.< and I studied myself for years off sites like yours and a couple other genuine sensei's and barely now I am taking free online course at YesJapan and another one via mobile call Human Japanese. But I am still very unsure of my knowledge.

I want to write 'I'm not in love'. I've heard the line said in my favorite BL anime,Sekai-ichi Hatsukoi. But it's different then what I want. There's is more of the freaking out I'm not in love – this is not love, kinda thing.

I get 私は恋をしてないです (I'm not in love) / 'Watashi wa koi o shi tenaidesu'

Watashi as in 'I, myself'
は (Wa) as in the particle that expresses the Listener knows who the speaker is referring to as well as stating you do not like or in this case the speaker is saying he isn't in love.

を (wo) would normally changed to Wa if you wanted to emphasize the fact. But he isn't trying to, because the truth he knows he's in love. Kind of like he's ashamed to admit but ashamed that he can't go out and just say he is, I guess. That's why you put をし meaning to be regrettable or disappointing in the fact.

てな it's used after a phrase right? To modify a noun and い used to express the thoughts and feelings??

I really hope I didn't do to bad and I really hope you can help. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hello, I love your page. It took me insanley long to find something on “love”. When I reseached, the results were all confusing and didnt seem right (my instincs kicked in haha) I found a video which helped a little, but your page really broke it down!

I’m actually doing something for a friend and I wanted to know how do you say “I missed you and I love you” But I love you as a confession. In one sentence? Thanx =)

Hi, Twix! I am very happy that you found our site following your instinct!
“I missed you and I love you.”
You can’t say that in one sentence. It will be two sentences but….
The most standard way to say is
あなた(name)が恋しいです。愛しています。

Hi Tacti!
俺の人生の愛 sounds a bit strange to address someone because it also means “love in my life” but it is possible to use as “love of my life”.
Check it again if you still have the manga to see if it says 俺の人生の愛 and let me know.

How does one say “a premonition of lovers” as in “a premonition that belongs to the lovers”? Do I simply invert the order to “Yokan no koibitotachi”?

3) 恋のから騒ぎ

“Carried out for love”

a) Does this mean “that one loses one’s cool because of love” or that “for the sake of love one lose’s one’s cool”?

b) Could sensei give me another couple of examples that use this no + kara combination?

4) 惚れてしまうやろ〜！」

“(If you are so sweet to me) I will fall in love with you!/I can’t help falling in love with you.”

Sensei I looked up the word “yaro” and found it means “it seems”. Does this mean that the above sentence could be also translated to: “(If you are so sweet to me) it seems I can’t help falling in love with you.”?

5) Sensei some time ago I came across the expression “suki de iru”.

a) Does this expression mean “being in love”?

b) Is it possible to use this (i)stem + de pattern in other sentences like for example: “onaka ga suki de iru”?

6) 暇な時に連絡くれる？

“Can you contact me when you are free?”

How do I say: “Can I contact you some day you may be free?”, “Himana toki ni renraku ageru?”

7) Sensei, for a man, how quick does sensei think we should drop polite speech with a girl when we are getting to know her for:

a) friendship

b) trying to getting things closer to a possible relationship

8) 私（僕）と付き合って下さい。

“Go out with me, please.”

Just to make sure sensei, when we talk about going out in this context we are talking about getting to the beginning of a relationship of some kind, like something before being a couple. In other words, that there would be a mutual understanding that both parties are interested in each other. It doesn’t involve the literal meaning of going out somewhere, like to watch a movie or something, right?

9) 今回はあまり長くないから特別ね！

Now I am even studying the comment section sensei! XD And I used to think some of the lessons from Maggiesensei were long… XD It is all good study though so I am not complaining.
Does the above sentence mean “This time it isn’t that long so it is an exemption.”?

これどうやって使うの？

“How do you use this?”

Sensei I don’t recall seeing this “yatte tsukau” pattern before. I guess “yatte” is the -te form of “yaru”. Does this “yatte tsukau” pairing imply something we could translate to “make use” in English.

This has become a long comment. Sorry sensei for so many questions. :/

Good, now you have been studying about “Love” !heart!
OK, let me answer your questions one by one.

1) 愛する人

→It works for both ways but you should clarify who loves who.

私の愛する人= A person who I love
NMMの愛する人 = A person who NMM loves

私を愛する人 = A person who loves me
NMMを愛する人 = A person who loves NMM
2) Actually 恋人たちの予感 can be translated “Expected to be lovers” or “Premonition of lovers.”

And usually the later translation is more common. Since this movie is about two people who we expect them to be a couple, I guess they put that title. 恋人たち(=同士)になる予感 is more accurate title.
3) 恋のから騒ぎ

“Carried awat for love”

a) Does this mean “that one loses one’s cool because of love” or that “for the sake of love one lose’s one’s cool”?

→Could be both.
b) Could sensei give me another couple of examples that use this no + kara combination?

This から is not a particle. It is from a word 空 = から= empty
空騒ぎ ＝から騒ぎ= to make a fuss about nothing
4) This Osaka dialect やろ is equivalent of でしょう／でしょ／ではありませんか and used when you make your point.

Something something, isn’t it?
↓
惚れてしまうでしょ！（惚れてしまうではありませんか。）

5)

a) have/has been loving someone

b) “onaka ga suki de iru” doesn’t work.

好き is actually na-adjective / an adverb

So it works as follows :
na-adjective plain form
元気な
delete な→元気
add で→元気で
add いる→元気でいる

6) あげる is used when you do some action for someone’s sake so you can only say

連絡”をして”あげる= himana toki ni renraku wo shite ageru
when you are talking to your big fan or someone who is crazy about you.

so 連絡してもいい？ is better.

7)You can always observe how the person addresses you and how she changes the way she talks to you. If you feel it is getting closer, you can adjust to it. If you are talking to the same age people, being overly polite will put some distance between you two. On the contrary, if she is talking to you politely and you keep talking to her too casually, she might think you are shallow.

8) Yes that is right.

But some people say this phrase without knowing that person so well even if they have never dated before.

9) 今回はあまり長くないから特別ね！

Hahaha, you are an ideal student!
Yes, it means
Since it (the translation you asked me) is not that long this time, I will make an exception for you.

これどうやって使うの？

“How do you use this?”

Sensei I don’t recall seeing this “yatte tsukau” pattern before. I guess “yatte” is the -te form of “yaru”. Does this “yatte tsukau” pairing imply something we could translate to “make use” in English.

どうやって means “how”

どうやって払うの？= How do we pay?
どうやって勉強したらいいですか？= How should I study?
どうやって駅に行ったらいいかわからない。= I don’t know how to get to the station.

This has become a long comment. Sorry sensei for so many questions. :/

Oh yeah sensei, I am studying about love everyday, especially when I am studying with the big love sensei gives to her students. XD

1) 愛する人

Sensei I think I got it. But outside of the verb “suru”, when it comes to other verbs, would there be a more marked difference when one uses intransitive and transitive verbs to describe the action of a person?

Like for example, pardon me sensei if this doesn’t make sense, ok?

A) TRAN: watashi wo mitsukeru hito (the person that finds me)

B) INTRAN: mitsukaru hito (the person that is found)

I bet those sentence don’t make any sense but maybe sensei will understand.

2) Sensei, 恋人たち(同士)になる予感 is easier for me to understand. :D But I wanted to know how would I be able to say:

“Lover’s premonition”

3) 恋のから騒ぎ

Oh, I completely forgot about that “kara” meaning. ^^’ So the sentence could actually mean: “Love and it’s getting crazy for nothing”, right sensei?

4) 元気でいる

So this would mean: “have been fine/have been ok”?

5) Polite vs casual

A) So, is it expected for men to be the ones to drop polite first?

B) If I get this right, once I drop polite she would also drop polite and if she doesn’t it means I am being considered shallow.

C) Are there women that never drop polite in Japan?

6) Dou yatte tsukau: It didn’t occur to me to look for “dou yatte” together, now I found there is a definition for both words put together. ^^’

Thank you sensei, the other questions are clearer than a cleaned piece of glass.

Please please please please please help me!
Maggie…I have this guy friend that told me to figure out what this phrase thingy means! I have searched and searched!
What does “anata niwa unzari shiteiru” mean in English?
Is it even real??? D”’X>

OK, then “僕が一番好きなのは君の笑顔です。(Boku ga suki nano wa kimi no egao desu.) 君の子供っぽさも好きだ。(Kimi no kodomopposamo suki da) 君のすべてを愛しています。(Kimi no subete wo aishite imasu.)”
You can change 君 to あなた. But it is more common to use the person’s name.
Also the translation changes depending on how close you are to the person.

@Moonn
Are you a girl? If so,
“Thank you! Your feelings make me very happy! Ah, what is it that you love about me?I’m just so curious
ありがとう。あなたの（or the person’s name) 気持ち、とてもうれしいです。ねえ、私のどこが好き？ すごく知りたいです。
= Arigatou. Anata no kimochi totemo ureshii desu. Nee watashi doko ga suki? Sugoku shiritai desu.

I don’t get why you wrote “I’m sorry” in the end. I don’t think you need to apologize… Anyway, I hope this helps.
If you are a boy, just change 私 to 僕

How can you translate: ” I wish you could show me some love! I’ve got everything I need except a man. And I’m not one of those women who thinks a man is the answer to everything, but I’m tired of being alone.”

@Jill
Hi Jill!
“Don’t fall in love with me!” in a joking manner? The most common joking phrase is 惚れるなよ！= Horerunayo (a male speech)

If you are a man this （俺に）惚れるなよ。(= (Ore ni) Horeru na yo. ) or you can also say 俺を好きになるな。(sounds tough) 僕を好きにならないで(=Boku wo suki ni naranai de)
If you are a woman, 私を好きにならないでね。(=Watashi wo suki ninaranai dene) or if you want to make it sound cuter, 私を好きになっちゃだめよ。(= Watashi wo suki ni naccha dame yo)

Hum..I wonder which の you are talking about.
の ending is very common among men as well.
今夜どこに行くの？= Where are you going tonight?
何を食べるの？= What are you going to eat?
これどうやって使うの？= How do you use this?

All of these can be said without の.
Adding の makes the sentence sound a bit stronger.
Just be careful a lot of people make this type of mistakes when they add の
おいしいなの？(wrong) →おいしいの？
かわいいなの？(wrong) →かわいいの？

Actually, that sounds like the の I was talking about. For some reason, I read somewhere that sometimes it’s considered feminine speech when you end certain kinds of questions with の. I must be mistaken.

But anyway, thanks for clearing that up for me. I love the Japanese language and hope that someday I can become fluent. Love your lessons and look forward to the next one!

@Intan
Thank you for visiting this site!
“but i dont love you” – If you are a man, use 僕 (=boku) or 俺(=ore). 俺 is more rough. If you are a girl, use 私(=watashi)
* でも私は (or 僕は）（あなたを／君を）愛していない。
* でも (or 僕は）あなた(or 君）のことなんて好きじゃない。

Great lesson! And now i finally get the difference between 好き and 愛す and 恋する, because i was always wondering… In my language, we also have differents verbs for loving smb deeply (and we rarely use that) like 愛す and loving like 好き, and be in love like 恋する.
Thank you, i feel very enlightened now! ^0^

Yes, and it’s used rarely, usually between people in long-lasting relationships and parents-children, and it seems similar to 愛す from your explanation. Btw, this site is great and i recommend it to all friends who also study Japanese! ^^

@Tiffany
Thank you for your comment!
マギーのことすごくすきだよ！Can I say that to a dog…?→Sure you can! It is perfect and I am very happy to hear that!
(Note ; わたしもいぬをかう。→わたしもいぬをかっています。(私も犬を飼っています。）
わたしはよいの所有者じゃない。。→わたしはよい飼い主（かいぬし）じゃない。)

I would looove to see your doggie! Send me a picture if you can! (action@k3.dion.ne.jp) Sometimes I make a guest teacher lesson using my other friends!

Good question but I am afraid to say we don’t have many terms of endearment. Instead, for example you call a girl with “chan”, ex. マギーちゃん when you get closer to the girl or when you text, you use ♥ marks more. Some women call their husband with あなた（=anata) with certain intonation.
I guess everything is so subtle in Japan.

should be understood better as: “You can not (do) trust”. Someone who can not be confident or faithful or handle trust is someone who cannot be trusted. But in English this is best rendered “I cannot trust you”. So, “anata/you” is the subject in Japanese, but “I” in English.