Spanking - discipline

Masochism that fulfils itself seeks
to live out a fantasised programme. The role of the Dominatrix is to control
the enactment of that dream, seriously and tragicomically. The art is
to take the subject out of his depth, so that for a moment he no longer
knows whether what he sees is his own decision, or whether his Mistress
is really this intractable, mad and dangerous woman from his dreams.

Being a Dominatrix means
taking someone to the edge and showing him the void below, without
letting him fall. It's an exercise in virtuosity.
He has to be left panting on the razor's edge. Cultivate expectation
and suspense! Violent looks ! Silence !

With spanking, the ceremonial itself
is expectation. The masochist drive is rooted in fantasy. But in the fantasy
of the most ordinary everyday images. Nothing that can be seen all the
way, like the act of penetration, excites the masochist (hence the pointlessness
of banning pornographic films to wipe out masochism). The aware, playful
masochist is triggered by the subtlety of an image that leaves room for
imagination.

So everyday images form the basis,
such as a strict glance from a woman in the street or, in the case of
spanking: real spanks (the strict aunt, the primary schoolteacher from
childhood; sometimes the mere threat is enough to trigger the masochistic
dream). A cinema image of spanking, or the spankings in La Comtesse
de Ségur. The game involves reproducing the ceremonial in the
film or book. All the images, seen on the screen or elsewhere, have
to be minutely repeated and enacted. For a man, it's a particular way
of lowering his trousers - public school, Comtesse de Ségur,
a proper little devil ? Or the way of holding him in your lap...For
a woman, her skirts have to be raised, her panties rolled down, her
buttocks felt, all very slowly. Passive spanking fans are must often
turned on by a classic spanking position, i.e. on their Master or Mistress's
lap, with firm movements, the arm firmly around the waist, so that your
subject feels dependent on you, submissive: "stinging slaps".
You can start the spanking with harsh slaps, as long as you calm the
wounded buttock right away. Feel and caress it sensually. Your partner's
buttocks will blush in no time. When they are warm, you can regularly
increase the pace, giving bursts of slaps, being careful to stop, announce,
caress and start again. If you are a dominant woman, try spanking topless,
and if like me you have large, heavy, maternal breasts, run them over
your partner's painful bottom.Have a good spank.