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Is an apology enough?

My husband pisses me off a lot. We get into so many fights! He doesn't do anything too drastic or mean, but we've been fighting so much recently, and it gets annoying. He apologizes when he's wrong, which is almost all of the time, but is that enough? He just keeps repeating stupid mistakes and its become routine, to fight n make up all the time.

I AM GOING THROUGH A VERY SIMILAR SITUTATION WITH MY HUBBY, I TOLD HIM JUST TODAY INFACT THAT ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, IT IS SCARY HOW CLOSE THE SITUTATIONS ARE.. WHEN I TOLD HIM THIS OF COURSE HE SAID SORRY YET AGAIN BUT I GUESS WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS VOICE HOW THINGS ARE BOTHERING THE RELATIONSHIP AND WAIT FOR THEM TO GET A CLUE, WHAT I AM GOING TO DO IS HELP POINT OUT THE THINGS THAT HE DOES THAT GET UNDER MY SKIN AND BEFORE IT GETS TO THE FIGHTING LEVEL TRY TO TALK AND FIX IT AS BEST AS WE CAN.. GOOD LUCK AND LET ME KNOW HOW IT ALL TURNS OUT FOR YOU MAYBE WE CAN COMPARE NOTES OR SOMETHING LATER

If you practice the music the same way you always have, it will always sound the same as it always has.

Let him know, nicely, that if he keeps doing the same things over & over & doesn't make a conscious effort to change them, he will always get the same result. It takes a lot of re-parenting yourself & this will sound cheesy, but talk to yourself about the situation every day. Strive to make a difference. Make every attempt to avoid the compulsive action he's been taking, or change the reactions he's been giving.

I'm sure you already do, but be really conscious of the arguements, make sure you are well-informed, & pick your battles, babe. Not everything is worth getting upset at. I've realized that sometimes when I let something go that normally would bother me, he notices the fact that I don't retaliate, & makes the effort to learn from it. That's just because immediate arguement shut his ears... selective hearing.

IF HE IS SAYING WHAT HE THINKS U EXPECT TO HEAR TO MAKE UP AT THAT MOMENT. WHAT IS THE POINT, IF HE DOESNT CHANGE HIS APPROACH AND CONTINUES TO DO WHAT HE SAID HE WOULD NOT. I THINK U WILL PROBABLY NEE
D COUNSELING IF U WANT TO C A DIFFERENCE.
U BOTH NEED TO LEARN TO RELATE TO EACH IN A MORE EFFECTIVE WAY
FIRST POST HAS A GOOD POINT. GL

My husband will do this... be mean and then try to say i'm sorry and act like everything is okay....

best thing i can tell you is if you too start fighting... don't yell at each other, try to talk it out like adults... easier said then done i know... but i learned a trick... if my husband and i get into it and we start raising our voices, i will tell him " i will talk to you when you can talk like a normal person and not yell" then i just walk away....

you guys are married and should be able to discuss problems between you... hope everything works out

an apology without actions is worthless. Actions are stronger then words. He needs to back up his apolgy. . of course that doesn't mean he won't mess up again down the road he's human. . . it sounds like he's not even trying to change.