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Valentine’s Day has come. A day when a couple is supposed to go that extra mile to show their partner how much you love them. What way would show you that your partner loves you and cares for you more then anything else, then to have him propose marriage on Valentine’s Day. It’s true some people might find it a proposal cliche, but if a woman has been waiting years for a proposal this could be the ultimate show of love.

What happens when another Valentine’s Day comes around and the woman receives another bouquet of roses, some cheap chocolates and a hallmark card. She might become a little frustrated, bitter, resentful or angry. Maybe she might become a bit of all. Who can blame her, after being so patient and perhaps putting in so much more thought into her Valentine’s gift then he did. To go another year without a proposal can drive a woman mad.

Before you go mad and start yelling at him, first consider this:

You Can Not Blame Him For Your Feelings

All your feelings come from you. He can not make you upset, you make yourself upset. You become upset because he didn’t do what you wanted him to do. Just because you may have wanted him to propose on Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean he will. To become angry about that is like becoming angry that the world does not spin in the direction you want.

If you start yelling and screaming at him because he didn’t propose not only will you ruin your Valentine’s Day, you are going to scare him off from ever wanting to propose to you. Men don’t see that you are upset about not being proposed too, they see that the subject of marriage gets you upset. What do they do in the future, just avoid any subject or idea of marriage because it will just get you upset.

What Kind Of Gift Did You Give Him

Men want and need romance just like women do. If you want your man to know you love him and you want to get married, then you have to show him. Many of Valentine’s Day have men creating elaborate dates, but receiving nothing in return. Men get two messages from that:

1) His entire relationship is probably going to be him putting in effort and receiving nothing back. What man wants to be with a selfish woman?

2) She probably doesn’t care that much. Why would a man propose to a woman that doesn’t care?

Other Valentine’s see a man receiving flowers, chocolates and mixed tapes with different love songs. Men are not women, we need to be romanced in different ways. Giving your boyfriend, flowers and love songs for Valentine’s just shows him that you don’t really know him. Again a man will not propose to a woman that doesn’t know him.

If Your Boyfriend Gives You Nothing

Before you get upset, take some time to calm down. Then sit down with him and in a very calm manner explain to him why you like to celebrate Valentine’s Day and why it upset you that he did not think of you on such a special day. Explain to him your feelings, don’t blame him for them.

When a man receives the type of love and affection that he craves and needs in a relationship that is what will help to speed up his decision to propose. This may not cause him to propose on Valentine’s Day, but it will get his mind focused on that goal. If you want to learn how to convince your boyfriend to propose go here ===>How To Get Him To Propose

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

paulwrigth@decodingmen.com

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We have all seen it, very few men are eager to walk down the aisle. I’m sure you have thought to yourself or talked to many of your girlfriends about it. Why is it that men are so hesitant to commit to marriage? Why do men always seem like they want to wait when it comes to marriage?

There are a couple of reasons why most men are not overly eager to jump on the marriage train.

1) Everybody Man Or Women Wants To Marry The Best Person They Can

It is human nature to find the best (genetically strongest) partner you can. Women do this and men are no different. Men want to marry the best woman they can. They never know when they might run into her. In fact that super model, who makes lots of money, loves to cook and take care of her man and just so happens to love short funny looking men, might coming walking around that corner any minute. If the man is married, he will miss that chance.

It may seem silly to you, but in the back of every man’s mind is the possibility that something better could be just around the corner.

2) A Man’s Stock Goes Up As He Gets Older

There are a few things that most women value in men and that is stability, security, maturity and confidence. Young men do not have any of these qualities. For the most part when it comes to attracting women many younger men are ignored. All young men know, that their value to women will increase as they get older. As they get a more stable job, start making more money, have a place to live and establish themselves more in life.

If these theories hold true from the man’s point of view, then he is better off waiting. There is no need for a man to rush into marriage. If he waits until he is more stable and secure in his life, he will be able to attract a better partner. Committing too soon to marriage will only limit his potential for finding the perfect partner. Time is on the man’s side when it comes to marriage.

The only time a man will rush into marriage, is if he believes he has found the greatest woman in the entire world and he doesn’t want her to get away. The great part is any woman can do this. All she needs to do is show him, that perfect woman he has been waiting for is actually standing right in front of him. There are specific cues, and ways of talking that will signal to him that the wait is over. Now he just needs to get her down the aisle before anybody else.