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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life. It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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I don’t think social media, dating sites and apps like tinder have done us any good when it comes to dating and finding love. In fact, I’d argue that it has hurt us as society, a society comprised of human beings who long for connection and community. It has turned people into items found in a catalog with their own skew numbers, descriptions, ratings and reviews and return policies. It has turned others into catalog shoppers who get sucked into shiny ads and false promises on what they can expect if they click the “buy” button. It has turned relationships into disposable commodities just like your new iPhone that will be obsolete in six months. It makes commitment less desirable when you know that there will always be another new shinny object coming your way that promises to be better.

With a culture based on greed, consumption, and insatiable need for instant and constant gratification, our electronic gadgets provide the perfect dispensary for our new addictions and unrealistic expectations. What happened to the days when you met people in your everyday life and cultivated a relationship over time as you got to know one another? What happened to the days when attraction was based on something more than a picture and a headline? What happened to us?

I know I sound quite cynical but as I look around me and see the demise of ethical values and a commitment to building real relationships that mean something, I worry. I want my daughters to grow up in a world that values people for the special beings that we are. I want them to know that their value extends beyond that of a “hook-up” or “booty-call” or filling in a night of boredom for some random person on-line. I want this generation to understand that porn is not an accurate portrayal of sexual intimacy between two people and that there is value in spending time getting to know someone before hoping into bed.

I worry about women who feel like they have to compete with air brushed images on our electronic devices and I worry about men who feel that have to limit their sense of self to the stereotypes that prevail. People who are seeking loving committed intimate relationships should not have to advertise. Human beings are lovable no matter what. It is time to turn off your devices and opt-out of succumbing to the pressures of creating an entire marketing and sales campaign in order to feel accepted, wanted and loved.

Please, let’s stop the insanity!

Be well,

Julie

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