Usher Catches A Drink With Grace Miguel [+ Shares His Thoughts On Tameka Still Carrying His Last Name]

Ursh and his girlfriend Grace Miguel are still going strong! The couple, who have been dating for two years, were spotted kicking back and enjoying the weather this week while catching a drink in New York City.

Meanwhile, Usher’s ex-wife Tameka Foster Raymond has been making waves on her new VH1 show Atlanta Exes. And of course, everyone wants to know what Usher thinks about his ex sharing their business on a reality show. In a recent interview with Dish Nation, Usher discussed his thoughts on the new show, as well as how he feels about Tameka still carrying his last name “Raymond.”

When asked about the show, he revealed:

I have no feelings about it whatsoever. Actually I haven’t even seen it. I mean I’ve been kind of busy. Raising kids, making records and videos.

And when asked if he was okay with the fact that Tameka still has his last name, he shared:

Uumm… She married me. I’ll marry again. And when I do, you know, I don’t wanna have a harem. I just hope that when I do it will be a departure.”

If Usher married Grace, would Tameka really change her name back?

Many divorced mothers keep their married names because it’s sometimes difficult to explain to young children why mommy has a different last name than they do. Shaunie O’Neal revealed this in an interview with us a few years back. She explained:

I have small children and it was hard enough explaining to them why Daddy doesn’t live here anymore, so I can’t imagine how I’d explain to them why Mommy doesn’t have the same last name as them. Plus I think I earned this name…

I’m sorry my parents got divorced when I was 4 and the least of my worries was my mother’s last name, spare me. And Shaunie you “earned” a last name, how about earning some self respect and independence, how about not using your ex husbands accomplishments to further your career, how about standing on your own two feet and showing your ex husband that you taking his last name in the first place was something HE earnedand lost once you got divorced. Girl bye.

I’m down with keeping your husband’s last name for the sake of the children.

My husband’s mother kept her married name for the sake of her kids, and her ex was a lazy, shirtless good-for-nothing. No lie. He didn’t work and never, ever paid child support, despite being able-bodied. I can only imagine she married him in a fit of desperation.

Anyhow, she didn’t want people thinking she was just some baby mama and had her kids out of wedlock, so she kept her married name but got rid of the husband.

Sharing the last name gives a semblance of family.

+8NikkityNak Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:21 pm

I’m guessing the downvotes are from baby mamas who couldn’t manage to wait til marriage.

Sorry, but most people don’t aspire to be confused with your type.

+10MzBeans Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:31 pm

Yas !!!! to everything you wrote

+19lol Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:48 pm

Because apparently women don’t get divorced all the time and revert back to their maiden names. I guess that was just too hard to explain, but explaining why the man who’s last name you still carry is a deadbeat loser who isn’t even around anymore is a lot easier.

+28girl please Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:53 pm

or maybe the thumbs down are from divorced women who know better

+13aly Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 5:06 pm

THANK YOU…you said exactly what I though. I “earned it” . Girl bye!

+23NikkityNak Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 5:10 pm

@lol, why would anyone ever need to explain why they got divorced? People assume you are still married if you continue to carry your ex-husband’s last name.

People assume you never married if you and your kids have different last names. It is all about appearances.

Some people just don’t want the stigma of being a baby mama. For the people who return to their maiden name, good for you, but you can’t pretend that people don’t assume, especially if you are a Black woman, that you had your kids out of wedlock.

+9Atown7475 Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 6:10 pm

Lol how many kids in the house with mommy and their 6 brothers and sisters and all of them got different last names

+11MJ9 Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 6:24 pm

well my parents divorced when i was two but when i was six my mother actually came to me said she was going to change her name back to her maiden and at six years old i got upset, cried and said then i want my name changed also. Don’t think kids don’t know or feel some kinda way. I’m turning 30 in two weeks and me and my mom still have the same last name.do it for the kids sake.

+22lala Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 6:57 pm

also, its different in tameka position since she was already married before usher and has kids with another last name so the “having kids with same last name” excuse isnt really applicable for her, she can change it if she wanted to but she dont
but usher…she dont have to anything

+8Like a good neighbor, stay over there! Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 7:09 pm

@Yoda girrrrllllllll you took the words right out
of my mouth. You “earned” his last name? That shit gave me the bitter beer face.

+11Q.U.E.E.N Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 7:26 pm

My parents divorced when I was younger and my mom kept her last name. My dad remarried and my mom still kept her last name. I never really asked why but I think it’s because that’s what people knew her by (but they were married almost 20 years) and it’s really hard to correct EVERYONE that knew you while you were married and have them remember a different name

-6attyforpxcb Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 9:43 pm

If you are single, Singles find your soul mate on

+++++♥+ M i x e d Matching . c_o_ m +♥++++ = A
serious online interracial dating Services and black and white dating site offering real and successful opportunities to meet your right person. Join date black women, white men, blackmen and white women. Here have a large database of personal ads from black singles seeking white singles for dating, love, marriage or friendship. If you are single, perhaps you can have a try.
zxbxzbzxb

Cookie Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 7:27 am

PREACHHHH!!! I felt like I high fived the ceiling! LOL

-4Tammy Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 8:24 am

Y’all sound mad that it was not you who was the wife! GIRL BYE 2 you and all of the people who thumbed you up!

+7Deann Dmere Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 10:20 am

Say that! These “Opportunist” blow me!
Fucc that last name!
My son is 7 and I don’t have his father’s last name!
He did ask me why tho and I simply told him!
Stop lying to the kids and building false hope and even under-estimating
them thinking they wont understand. Children are smart!
This didn’t change a thing between My son, his father and I

+3Shady Mcgrady Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 10:26 am

She did EARN it sis. He put a ring on it and he broke the vows by cheating while she all fiftyleven of his kids the divorce wasn’t her fault

+1Lizabeth Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 1:28 pm

@Deann Dmere, were you married to him or nah?

+1WaterBaby Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 4:08 pm

Meant to vote you up especially when you said:
“how about standing on your own two feet and showing your ex husband that you taking his last name in the first place was something HE earned and lost once you got divorced. Girl bye.”
Yaaaassss hunty!

Its no excuse some women have a reason to keep their ex last name. Your happen is important just like the kids and its not hard hell just explain it to the kids.

+57isitjustme Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 3:14 pm

Lol I caught that shade. I’m wondering what’s really going on with Tampa and why the court saw fit to grant custody of her kids to their fathers. Wasn’t Kyle under custody of his dad? Idk I could be wrong about that. But her keeping his name is so that she can be associated with his likeness not the kids. She wasn’t worried about kyle having a different last name.

I love Usher. He seems so chill and positive. This may sound weird but the fact that he has always been with women who are older (and that he hasn’t has that many public relationships that I know of) is very attractive. I like the fact that he knows what he wants. I wish him the best of luck!

Tameka. Sigh. I wanted to like her so bad. She seems like a pretty smart woman, but she doesn’t know how to talk to people. She seems very rude and insensitive at times.

SN: Tameka reminds me so much of Whitney Houston (physically and the way she speaks). Not so much with the attitude.

That shade hunny!! lol Yes that was very foul to sleep with a bridesmaid. When I heard that story i was like o_O!! And this bish in the wedding pics with Tameka cheesing all the while knowing she slept/wanted to sleep with this man! I despise females like that. I have ALWAYS learned from the older ladies in my family, and young girls on the blog please take note, NEVER leave your single friends around your man and NEVER brag about your intimacy. Same goes for the fellas! There is ALWAYS someone who is yearning for what you have and they will try their damndest to get it. Trust

+1Kimi Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 11:20 pm

@Libby: I honestly didn’t hear much about that situation, nor did I know it had been confirmed that he slept with her bridesmaid.

Everyone on this site is entitled to their opinion, I suppose.

Have a wonderful day.

+8kimmycakes Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:23 pm

omg yes, she reminds me of whitney too , i thought i was the only one who saw that !!! the way she speaks her tone etc and her facial features especially from the side …

Usher slept with his wires bridesmaid, he’s a total slime and he’s never with his kids. How could he be? He’s coming to Chicago on his tour Im sure and Im going bhawahaha .. Usher is not a standup guy but I like his old music.

Im confused on something, aren’t children supposed to get/go by whatever their mother’s last name is? (Since were on the subject) I maybe wrong. My kids have my last name because their dad has his older siblings’ father last name (confusing).

Kids don’t have to have their mothers last name. If you are unmarried, you can give them anybody’s last name. My son has his dad’s last name because I prefer kids to go with the dad’s name. I think back in the day if you were not married the kid had to get your last name.

i can see her not changing her last name due to her kids, or just because she wants to keep it its her call. children do care that their parents name is different from their name. it comes up in the weirdest places, school meetings, doctors office kid parties. you would be surprised. I married and divorced and kept my sir name, however my kid showed her discomfort by using and introducing herself at school etc. using my last name not her fathers. when her teacher corrected her on her last name, she stated “you can’t tell me what my name is” years later she still on occasions choose to use my last name instead of her dads. Should I have used his name “heck to the no” but I should have changed her last name to mine. Its a matter of choice. and if Tameka chooses to keep his name, its her choice.

who the hell is thumbs-ing y’all down? Y’all had completely opposite sentiments!! LMAO

+1Anon-E-Mous Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:16 pm

Tameka is actually attractive in person. Web photos make her look like she has a stronger face than she actually has. The same goes for First Lady. They both have stronger faces through photos, than in person.

Grace is not cute so stop playing. It’s not fair to feel like a woman has to be the one to give up everything after a married is over. My father passed and my mom kept her last name all these years. She recently got married and my adult siblings and I all felt some type of way about her finally changing her last name and we are all grown with children of our own. We are family and when something drastic happens it shakes up the foundation. Don’t always be so quick to judge someone’s motive if you don’t know the entire story. Just a word of advice. GN!

I think Tameka is holding on to her last name because she can’t get over Usher. Seems like Usher and Grace are doing well, sounds like he plans on marrying her. I like Tameka at times but its clear she had/has issues, even before the death of Kyle (RIP). She has way too much mouth, I can only imagine what Usher went through, not saying he is perfect.

Tameka’s excuse about explaining to the kids about her last name is so lame. Little kids, do not refer to their parents by their full name. They are only mommy and daddy. For older kids a name change may be an issue, but for very young children it is not. If she had done it right after they divorced, they wouldn’t even have noticed. I feel really sad for Tameka and all she has been through. Watching her on the show you can see that she is really hurt, but she needs to bring some joy into her life and try to start over. Holding on to Usher, is just holding on to pain.

You’d be surprised at what little kids care about. When my son was born. His older brother (my husband had a child before we were married) wanted to know my son’s last name. It was literally the first thing out of his mouth when he met him. I could see the hurt in his face. Next thing he wanted to know if his mom would change his name to his dads.

I really wish her well, and healing. She feels humiliated. She needs to let that go, get on with her life. Usher clearly has.

+13Anon-E-Mous Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 4:00 pm

I won’t lie, Tameka seems like a handful and I don’t know her but her attitude is as legendary, around certain Atlanta circles, as Usher’s stroke game. And i’m speaking of her attitude pre the passing of her son. I will say though, that I have known women to keep the name of their ex-husband due to the fact that they have minor children as well as it being such a hassle to go thru all the changes of changing ur name back to your maiden name. I’m not naive so yes, im sure, she loves the savoir faire that comes with having Raymond as her last name but all the things I stated could play a factor too. *shrugs* IDK lol

I also meant to say that Mama Jo seemed like a handful too. I’ve said on here before that, while i’m sure Tameeka had her issues, Im certain Mama Jonetta had her nose all up and thru. The writings were on the wall plenty of times, especially seeing how much of a mamas boy Usher is. She has stated she didn’t like Tameeka and i’m sure she had no problem making it known.

Tameka has every right in the world to keep her last name. Where did this new Bull come from? Bottom line is, she married him, she had his children, and there is nothing ulterior about her using her legitimate last name period. Damn those who have a problem with it.

I really like Atlanta Exes, Christina is my favorite she is so gorgeous! I can’t wait to see how her and Willie got back together. Monyetta seems very dingy at times, but I like her she is beautiful as well.

Are you serious, its on been like 2-3 episodes and they all ready getting into. Also kevin’s ex brought kids into it , there is nothing positive about that.

+21Kimi Reply:September 4th, 2014 at 3:25 pm

I too think Christina is beautiful. Her face is gorgeous and her body is to die for. Seriously! Monyetta is a beautiful woman. The photos I’ve seen of her in the past didn’t do her justice at all. She seems like such a sweet woman.

I think she’s always been a pretty girl but when the money comes up so does the quality of make-up, weaves, diets and attire. She’s not getting bundles of yaki for 32 dollars anymore and she went from Wet’ N’ Wild to Bobbi Brown so…LOL No shade here.

Christina and Monyetta are my faves. They seem so postive. Tameka and Torrei are both messy. Sheree is just odd. I hope Christina never goes back to that toad Ceelo. Like Yuck, she is all that and he is so unappealing in every way.

They are messy but I think all of the ladies bring something special. I like Torrei bcus I do believe she wants to branch out from Kevins shadow. She should focus on her own comedy, her webisodes are hilarious. Her and Meeka were giving me 7th grade tea with that argument and the insults though. Ramen noodle head? I mean really Tameeka girl?? Kill yoself?? Really Torrei? Anyway I agreed with Tameka about Sherae partying with her daughter. IMO that’s just too much. Tameeka makes some handsome young men though, her son on the show was handsome. I think another reason she comes over very strong, too, is bcus she has all those boys. Christina and Monyetta seem very cool. I could sit with them.

I hate when women use the excuse of the children as of why they keep the name, spare us shaunie I’m sure if you can explain a divorce you can explain what changing your name BACK means! If you want to keep the sh.. Then keep it! These bogus excuses are annoying . It costs to change your name & it could be that or maybe a woman might simply like the ring to it. But the kids thing is such a cop out .

honesTY'S THE BEST POLICY Reply:September 5th, 2014 at 5:55 pm

YAS to Christina and i actually like Tameka. Monyetta doesn’t seem dingy as much as she does “unbothered” by it all.

My moms still has my dad last name they been separated for ever. He got re married a couple of years ago my mom still will be known as his last name. I ask my moms why she said I been using this name for 50 something years why change it now. I think its many reason a woman keeps the last name.

50 years is wayyyy different than 2 years! hell she was married to Ryan Glover longer than Usher…….why not keep his name, cuz his name DON’T hold weight like Ushers does!!! I can understand your mother keeping her name as well as Torrei Hart because they have had that name for decades, so probably all of their paperwork, legal documents, and business ventures as well as connections (meaning most people know them from their married name instead of maiden name) are in that name and it would be
TOO much of a hassle plus they have become accustom to the name for them to change it…….NOT true for Tameka, she is name for notoriety #LetsCallASpadeASpade

P.S. I’m sure you mother has help make that name what it is, as well as people like Torrei Hart, Usher build his name on his frigging OWN, she wasn’t there when he first started out and was about to get dropped from his record label, she wasn’t there when he was on the chitlin’ circuit traveling by van city to city and state to state to perform in adult clubs and such!!! what make her think that she has the right to reap all the benefits of a name when she didn’t put the work in and is no longer associated with the person to whom which the name belongs…….especially if she didn’t help build that name???? sorry, but Usher is too sweet because I would be taking legal actions!!!!

P.S.S. if he was that bad of a hu8sband, he cheated on her (with her girlfriend non-the-less)

50 years is wayyyy different than 2 years! hell she was married to Ryan Glover longer than Usher…….why not keep his name, cuz his name DON’T hold weight like Ushers does!!! I can understand your mother keeping her name as well as Torrei Hart because they have had that name for decades, so probably all of their paperwork, legal documents, and business ventures as well as connections (meaning most people know them from their married name instead of maiden name) are in that name and it would be TOO much of a hassle plus they have become TOO accustomed to the name for them to change it…….NOT true for Tameka, she wants the name for notoriety! #LetsCallASpadeASpade

P.S. I’m sure your mother has help make that name what it is, as well as people like Torrei Hart! Usher build his name on his frigging OWN, she wasn’t there when he first started out and was about to get dropped from his record label, she wasn’t there when he was on the chitlin’ circuit traveling by van city to city and state to state to perform in adult clubs and such!!! what makes her think that she has the right to reap all the benefits of a name when she didn’t put the work in and is no longer associated with the person to whom which the name belongs…….especially if she didn’t help build that name???? sorry, but Usher is too sweet because I would be taking legal actions!!!!

P.S.S. if he was that bad of a husband, he cheated on her (with her girlfriend none-the-less), he was a control freak, he was always gone etc etc……WHY THE F@#K WOULD YOU WANT THAT NAME ANYWAYS??? If someone hurt me like she “claims” Usher hurt her, I’m sorry IDGAD if that name was a Kings, I’m changing my name back to what it was cuz I don’t want NO association with a person that has hurt me!!! I would want to let it go and be FREE!!! IJS

Half of yall agree with USHER trifling @$$ because y’all don’t like Tameka!
She is not the 1st and won’t be the last woman to keep her ex-husbands name! Grace old grungy looking tail would more than likely do the same when he marries her and cheat with one of her bridesmaids!

Im very unsure if keeping your ex husbands name is the norm. those famous exes all say its for the children , I say its for the brand .the fact that they have a different name than their children cannot affect them more than not living together (Under the same roof). I kind of see what they’re saying but children dont see that far . ( as far as I know) If anything , they do it because they dont wanna be looked upon as baby mothers ( as Necole and others said in another post)

Off topic:” taze or smash ” or wtv the name game is beyond wack.I hate when men feel they have the right to say things like this ..

Since when was it your place as a ‘fan’ to dictate who he should date? It ain’t about YOU! Some people are so caught up with image that you fail to realise that’s it’s what inside that counts and peace of mind. It’s so creepy and somewhat sad to see women ‘ship’ celebs they don’t know personally.

I agree with you @Coolness!!! Tameeka dealt with a lot of that “looks” foolishness during her time with him too. I like how he never seemed to stick to the “script” with his women, if you know what I mean. I think he loves older women bcus he looks for a nurturer and a woman who he thinks is secure within herself. Not saying that EVERY older woman is like that but it’s more likely than not. Once you reach a certain age there are ducks that are or should be in a row that you didn’t have in a row in your 20’s! A lot of men are attracted to that. I also think Usher looks at the inside. He comes over very arrogant but that’s his persona, his image. But It’s obvious what he actually looks at first in a woman. For the most part.

I’m not a fan it’s my opinion I’m tired of these mediocre older women bagging these fine younger guys sorry again it’s my opinion…. but if your gonna go older she better be bad chick giving us late 20year olds a run for our money! Google this lady this is the best she has every looked publicly! She’s probably a dope chick but damn your with usher step ya game she stay looking like a raggedy old lady! Now for the third time it’s my opinion

You mention Nia Long and yes Nia is gorge but when she’s not “ON” she’s out and about looking relaxed just like Grace is here. Your gripe seems like it’s more towards her fashions then her actual “looks”, i’m assuming. I think Usher likes a woman who doesn’t feel like she has to be “on” every time they step out in random situations. Not that there is a problem with always being “on” when you step out but Grace does not come over as wanting to be “Hollywood” and considering she’s not a celeb or thristing to be one, he seems to respect that. I don’t know either one of them but thats just what I gather. JMO LOL

Nia is bad wether she’s on or off and that’s just the truth! Grace is just basic to me all around looks, dress whatever! It’s a beautiful thing to be comfortable in your own skin but geez your with usher step it up every now and then! I don’t know maybe its just me and the women I was raised by who took extreme pride in thier appearance my daddy still looks at my mother till this day like got damn!

I didn’t know Usher was dating someone. I want him to get back with Chili. Now is a good time. He’s unmarried, she’s single and wants another baby… I loved them together. I never understood Usher and Tameka and when I look at her today I still don’t understand it but it least he got his sons from the equation.

Usher has been throwing hints that he’s still in to Chili lately. For example, to promote the VMA’s and posted a clip of his legendary 2004 VMA performance and of ALL the clips to post he posted the when he sang about still loving Chili. Also in this Dish interview when asked who would he smash or taze out if Nicki Minaj, Rihanna, and Chili he said he wouldn’t taze any of them and with the biggest smile on his face he said “Of course I’d smash Chili, I already did’. He didn’t even acknowledge bye other two.

Chili also posted a never before seen photo of them for tbt a few weeks ago. I’m telling y’all Usher is not finna marry that lady Grace. I think he and Chili will get back together. He just has to get his s**t together first so he can do right by her. I think he only married Tameka because she was pregnant but I believe he did truly love her, but not like he loved Chili.

I don’t know if it’s lack of sense or just the way times are changing that make some of you commenters think it is not ok for someone to keep their spouses last name after divorce.

To be honest, It was always rare for me to see people change their last names BACK. (Rare means some people did it but not a lot, I don’t want you to think I’m speaking for all divorced women) All of the people that I’ve known (all middle aged) who gotten divorced kept their partners last name forever or changed it years and years later.

I always figured its because it is a process to get your name changed to your spouses name. All your documentation has to be changed. It’s not just that you get married and POOF you have his name. So it would be a bit of a hassle to change it right back after divorce.

SO WHAT if Tameka is still in live with Usher. That’s just the way she feels and it is what it is. And he must not have really been into Chili as much as she thought he was. He obviously does like Rick James said LOOOOOOOVES THEM AND LEAVES THEM.

I’m not here for her saying the kids would be asking questions or being confused…she was married before with children…were the kids asking why she didn’t take on Glover or keep it strictly Raymond?
It took me 2 years to change my name when I got married……….It was such a hassle, I know (God Forbid) if I got divorced, it would take even longer to change it back. Plus professionally, I can’t have all these degrees in different names, it just confuses people.

Than you @sassy. It is a royal pain in. The but personally (voter registration, DMV, etc) and Especially professionally. Once you have built a career for yourself no one wants to have to explain to everyone you are linked with professionally why you name is different. Except of course if you are remarrying.(which is what append in my case).

I never believed that ” keeping it for the kids” bs. My brother and sister could care less that my mom changed her name back. She keeping it to stay relevant!! shaunie really said she earned shaqs last name? No sweetie he earned the right to give it to you “he who finds a wife finds a good thing” he lost you so lose the name your kids don’t care about that I’m sure all they cared about was daddy moving out that’s it. Let it go ladies. I’m sure it’s a lot of paperwork but it should be done. If he get married again then what??

Gag me with a spoon and spare me the bullshit. These women kept their last names because those names belong to famous men and they will ALWAYS be somewhat relevant if they keep that name. Point blank period. Keeping your ex’s last name because of the kids is BULLSHIT. Most kids nowadays don’t care squat about that, nor even question it. I know I didn’t. Plus it’s a pain to change your name back, too…so it’s laziness thrown in there somewhere also.

Shade Yess Usher throughs the most the shade ever…I forget that he involved with her sometimes cause out here in GA he act like single.and I doubt if Usher will marry Grace.. Usher said in a interview prior that he wants settle down and have more kids..Grace to old..

Not only did Usher sleep with a bridesmaid of Tameka’s but I guess we all forgot that Grace Miguel was his then FRIENDS WIFE when they got together. But yall hate Tameka enough that it doesn’t even matter. That ninja ain’t a saint either.

I agree that why I know he won’t marry Grace why but the cow he been getting the milk,cookies and everything else for free for about 3 yrs now.. i actually believe based off some of his new music he about to dump her…

Let’s keep things in perspective..what does that have to do with her keeping a man’s name who she is no longer married to? The fact that he slept w/ her bridesmaid would be even more reason to drop his last name.

I took my now ex husbands last name. Unfortunately, things didn’t work out. Five years later…I still have his last name. And so what?!? We WERE married…I liked his last name better. Different strokes for different folks. We had no children together. He’s getting remarried. Guess what?!? I’m still keeping MY name. Who’s going to check me boo? LOL

I agree! Tameka has every right in the world to keep her last name. Where did this new Bull come from? Bottom line is, she married him, she had his children, and there is nothing ulterior about her using her legitimate last name period. Damn those who have a problem with it.

She is so full of it. What kid under the age of 10 is going to comprehend that you changed your name because you and their father are no longer together? NEXT, the ONLY woman I have ever heard of who ‘earned her name’ is the honorable TINA TURNER. She makes me sick.

Once I was divorced I decided to keep my married name. I wanted my daughter to have the smoothest transition possible. I guess each person is different and there is no right or wrong. I think my name worked out great because I was named after my grandmother anyway and once I married I ended up with the same last name as her too

Keeping your exes last name, in my opinion, depends on how long you’ve been married and how many children you have. My grandmother was married to her hubby for 15 years, they divorced in 82, and 32 years later, she still has his last name. I also have girlfriends that married young and divorced their exes after 4-5 years, and they never kept the last name. It just depends….I would hope, should Usher get remarried, Tameka would let go of the last name.

If I divorce a man, I’m going back to my last name…just as simple as that. I’m not falling for the I want my kid to have the same last name or I earned the last name (I can’t think of only one woman who did that and it was her stage name). I believe for a lot of women like Tameka who marry men of higher status they keep the name because it provides more oppurtunities and they are better known off their exes ‘ name. For others they just want some way to stay attached to the man. Woman play games like that.

Leave A Comment:

Necole Bitchie encourages the use of Gravatars in the comments section. Click Here to create your very own personalized Bitchie Chick and then upload it to your profile in our Members Section or to your Gravatar.com account.