Tag: nurture

For ANYONE who has read a few of my posts know that besides the other RANTS that I may do from time to time – talking about being a parent – talking about politics – talking about relationships – talking about ministry – I SURELY do a great deal of blogs about who I affectionately call ym “Mommy Cakes” ……… She indeed is utterly amazing!

Blessed are the Mothers who love God, for their children shall not be ignorant of their Creator and His plans about them. Blessed are the Mothers who love the word of God, for their children shall know of the way, the truth and the life.

Blessed are the Mothers who love the house of God, for their children shall enter there and sit with them in the presence of God. Blessed are the Mothers who love to pray, for their children shall feel the power of prayer and many shall find salvation. Blessed are the Mothers who love to give to the cause of Christ, for their children shall become supporters of the Kingdom of God.

Blessed are the Mothers who love the family altar, for they shall have their reward in this world and in the world to come. Blessed are the Mothers who love to speak kind words to their neighbor’s children, for thereby they shall win other boys and girls besides their own to Jesus Christ. Blessed are the Mothers who love to be companions to their children, for they shall be called understanding Mothers.

Blessed are the Mothers who love to fight life’s battles bravely with a strong and steadfast faith in God, for their children shall know where to find strength in time of need. Blessed are the Mothers who, when they are old and gray, can look back upon memory’s wall with no regret and can say, “I brought my children up in the fear of the Lord.” Theirs are the mansions in glory.

I LOVE spending time with MY young two boyfriends…. They make me laugh…. make me cry… make me OVER SPEND….they are always hungry…..always want something…..think they need everything…..like to touch me and hug me until I can’t breath….. and you know what????

I SIMPLY LOVE IT – I am NOT a cougar ……..I do not like or have ” a thing ” for younger men but the 2 that are in MY LIFE has basically CHANGED MY LIFE….. You cannot help who you love right??? Well I LOVE THEM to pieces! LOL

My two YOUNG BOYFRIENDS are my two sons!! LOL The oldest is 20 and the baby is 11 and they are BOTH can be a spoiled, irritating mess! They are my loves and would NOT trade them for anything in the world…. even when they drive me CRAZY.

The relationship between mothers and sons is unique in many ways……Sons indeed are special.

Constantly nurtured in love, frequently this relationship defines young sons that will become and serves as a reservoir from which he later may draw memories and affection that will guide him as a husband and father. Okay did that make sense or too overboard?? Sigmund Freud type stuff? LOL

From the warmth and security a boy experiences with his mother, he gains confidence and learns about loving and accepting others, listening and expressing his own ideas and feelings, and exploring the world in which he lives.

The things he learns from his mother will highly influence the kind of relationships he will have someday with his own wife and children. Indeed, this rich relationship will define him in many ways throughout his life.

I said all of that to say…… Spending time with your kids….. is very important…… I love on MY YOUNG BOYFRIENDS so that they know that I will always be there for them and God shall continue to form our bonds in the loving – caring – God centered way.

A mother and son relationship is a very unique one. Boys generally look up to their fathers or a father-figure for how to interact with others, show affection towards others, and respond to different situations. Hopefully, that father or father-figure is a good example to his son of God‘s love. But the mother, on the other hand, has a chance to show her son how a girl wants to be treated and how he should expect to be treated by the opposite sex. This will help him see what he can do to have better relationships in the future.

Communication is key. Listen to your child and give him your full attention when he is talking to you. Let him know that he is important and what he is thinking and feeling is of concern to you. Look him in the eye and be ready to answer any questions he may have for you. Even if the question seems silly to you, remember that he is younger and learning things for the first time. Don’t make him feel trivial.

Be a supporter. If you want your son to keep coming back to you for advice and to tell you things in confidence, you need to show him that you can be trusted. It is so easy to tell your friends about something “cute” your son told you last night, but if your son…..MY SON knew you were telling others, he would probably lose the desire to come to you as a confidant.

Be tender. Your advantage as a mother is that your son knows you have a more tender heart than a father or father-figure. In time, and with your trust, he knows he will be able to share things with you and get your expert advice from a woman’s perspective. Men sometimes brush things off a bit more easily and don’t see a boy’s feelings, and these are the times that your son will want your perspective.

Be an example. Part of developing a healthy relationship with a son is making sure that you are a good example to him. Actions really do speak louder than words. You cannot expect your son to know how to treat others with respect, if you are always fussing with your family members, friends, husband or mate, or say you will do something and never follow through. Think about the things you are doing and take an inventory on some areas of your life that you need to clean up. Do you watch objectionable TV shows that you don’t want your son to see? Maybe you should choose something different to watch.

Are you telling your son to eat his vegetables, while you are cramming down a hot fudge sundae? It has never said having a healthy relationship with your son was easy. It does take work and maybe a change in yourself, as well.

Be Flexible and Fun. REMEMBER – that you have a son and not a daughter for starters!! THEY want you to be cool, silly, supportive AND FUN! Regardless if it is making silly faces, playing video games with them, crack jokes, make loud noises, reading comic books togtether and playing ball etc. It may take you out of your comfort zone if you prefer to get ” all dolled up ” all the time…but you have to learn to be flexible for you son’s sake!

TRUST ME …… Your son adores you as his mother and wants the best for you…HOWEVER – he is also watching EVERYTHING that you do as well!

Accept your present condition. Adversity is a part of life and beyond your control. Manage your response to the situation. Handle negative emotions by focusing on the positive.

Move forward by making a decision to trying another option. Bad situations make it easy to give up and accept our present circumstances. Be persistent and face the problem head on in order to grow and progress past it.

Stay optimistic. Negative emotions, worrying and being angry makes the bad situation appear grim. To find a solution to the problem look for the humor in it and reflect on how it could have been worse.

Learn from the experience. Triumphing through adversity can make you more successful and resilient in the future. Write down your thoughts and insights into your feelings. Make notes of lessons learned about yourself and your inner strength.