OK. I was doing yard work and went into our building and as I stood and looked around for the hose for some reason...( still don‘t know why).. I decided to look thru all his ****. Never done it before, not in his building. And there it was. 2 polaroids of a nasty whore. one naked alone and one with her kissing another girl.both were naked. and a NASTY pair of tattered thongs. The gutter slut even signed them. I feel sick!!

I havent said anything. That was a few days ago. I don‘t know what to do. I have no $, kids, a dog, and damn..almost 15 years with him. and i love him. (pathetic)

i am going to make copies and distribute them all over town and surrounding towns. interent sites, porn mags.

Who cares if you were snooping? You have 15 years with this man...there should be no secrets, especially not secrets that involve naked women! Don‘t you dare be ashamed of your actions...if you confront him, he will try to turn it on you--please, please, please don‘t let him! I don‘t think this urge to "snoop" came out of nowhere...my guess is that your intuition was noticing that something was amiss. You need to pay attention to your inner voice, and follow it. It is rarely wrong.

Don‘t bother posting the pictures around. You may get into legal trouble, and honestly, it‘s just a misplacement of your anger. I sense that you are hesitant to put the blame where it belongs--on this low life man. You are blaming yourself for "snooping", the women in the pictures...neither should be the focus of your anger. These women may not even know this guy is taken. Cheating=lying, often not only to the wife/girlfriend, but to the woman he is cheating with.

I am really impressed that you haven‘t shown him what you found...I don‘t have that kind of self-control. Keep "snooping"...you certainly have my blessing and that of the majority of women on here...and when you think the time is right, confront him. keep reading on here and resist the urge to believe everything he tells you just because it seems easier. in the long run, living with someone who does not respect you, and lies and cheats on you is the hardest thing you will ever do.

If I had had a clue like that, you better believe my H would have been caught a long time before he did. When you trust someone, they can get away with pretty much anything because you can talk yourself out of even the biggest signs. Keep checking up on things. Hopefully, you‘ll catch him being honest instead of cheating, but at least you‘ll know, and you can make decisions for your life from there.

polaroids are usually older, everthing is so digital now. like someone else said it‘s time to get your ducks in a row. whatever you do don‘t post those pictures...be stealthy. start checking cell phone bills, internet websites he‘s been on and and his email. there is plenty of technology out there these days.

you know when they talk about how more often women forgive...it‘s because we‘re usually not in a position to leave. like you said kids and no money make it hard to leave so we often just endure the ****. that‘s the real reason... we look like we forgive but inside we never do.

Do not feel bbad about snooping I did it to and that is how I found out what he was up to. Now that we are no longer together he is snooping on me trying to find out what I am up to etc. the shoe is now on the other foot. I am not seeing anyone and he knows it. He constantly is asking me about what I have been up to and I tell him it is none of your business as we are no longer together. Don‘t feel ashamed of what you are doing ever because if you do they will catch it and try to make you feel gulity

Post the pictures up around town! Homewrecking sluts deserve to be named and shamed! If it were me I‘d turn the photos into large banners and hang them from bridges!!! Let the world know that they‘re whores!!!

To love someone even if they do something like this isn‘t pathetic, It‘s sad. It means you‘ve depended too much on him and forgot to get out out of bad situations if it means losing him. Before becoming so attached I bet you wouldn‘t have put up with this abuse. Because that‘s what this is. What are you really losing? A man willing to lose you, and expose you to STD‘s??

He now has a track record. Screw me once shame on you, screw me twice shame on me.

Sounds like it‘s time to get your stuff together (money, kids, dog) and get the heck out of there. By forgiving him the first time he took that as permission and he won‘t stop. It‘s time to go. Some guys learn while most don‘t... You are no one‘s door mat. Revenge isn‘t your answer...You can really get yourself into trouble. Maybe even legal trouble. Why risk it for him?? He‘s caused you enough problems.

Sounds like you need to get your own act togethor! If you are a strong co-dependant woman- not dependant on him - then you will be free to walk if thats your choice or free to take back control of your relationship if you also chose that.

I think those pics would be sitting by the coffee maker in the morning. not a word. watch his reaction and hear his explanation. out in the open. if he has a fit that you snooped, don‘t fight, don‘t explain or deny or be defensive. you do not have secrets that are hidden away and never dreamed he would either. you found them. end of store. you were looking for something and you found THIS. put it all on him. what if your kids had been the ones to find ‘this‘?

Hello Busted_n_disgusted, I have not been on this site very long My post are under b4angels I just found out my husband has been calling a women for about eight years behind my back he was calling her home knowing she was married, her cell and her work, there was also e-mails but nothing 100% I confronted them and first got we don‘t know each other then I confronted again and said there was just to much for him not to know her then I got yes but they are only friends. I agree with the others if you confront him before your ready to take action he will only lie and cover his tracks. I like you several years ago my husband would go on motorcycle trips with his buddied who are also married and on one of them it was to one of the realy bad bike rallies and my husband took up close pictures of other women with their tops off and some with tops and bottoms off he even took pictures of signs for BJ for such and such a price. I was not snooping I was putting socks away and found a pack of photos with XXX on the front I opened them thinking it was just pictures of his trip and and I confronted him then and he turned it around how I was his ball and chain and he was not going to live with me looking over his shoulder so forth I stood my ground and did some bluffing and said fine lets go sign the papers and don‘t let the door hit you on the way out I still had kids at home now just one still at home but no money no family no job. one thing you can do is go talk to a lawyer to see what your rights are. and get things ready set money aside if you can. I would not feel bad about snooping I would look at everything you can like e-mails check his cell when he is in bed if he leaves it out or check the bill. maybe take him a meal at work or drop in for lunch with him and be on the look out for who is around him. When you married there are just some things you just don;t do and it is like I told my husband you can look at my cell phone or the bill, my e-mails, computer, anything I have nothing to hide. I know it is hard not to say anything I would get so upset I would just shake and cry. Just beleive in yourself and know you will get through this and you do not deserve to be treated like this.