(Closed) Tribute to grandparents who have passed?

I have been reading about some of your tributes to loved ones who have passed on and it has got me thinking- I was especially close to my father’s parents as well as my mother’s father who have died….should there be a table set up with pictures of the three of them and a little framed note, saying how I know they are with us on this special day in spirit, etc? Maybe in the cocktail hour room?

I could also include one of FI’s grandfather who has also passed.

What do you all think? Is it excessive to do this for grandparents rather than parents?

I think it is a great idea to remember grandparents! I would like to remember my grandfather, as he was my best friend growing up. I think all that matters with the memorials is that they are someone who was important to you–regardless of relationship. Hope this helps!

@Evie19: I like the idea that they may be gone, but definitely not forgotten! I also agree that your parents would appreciate it as well. I know my family would/will be touched. Have you thought of how you will set it up?

Yes- I was thinking in the cocktail hour room, on a skinny tall table in the corner there could be a 4 window frame (each window for different grandparent) and then a framed note next to it with a sentimental statement.

I do not want it in the church (will be too crowded with people- people in Greek churches swarm, they do not sit in their seats like in America)- and I wouldnt want it in the reception hall.

I like that idea. I can understand the church being too hectic to have it in the church, and I could understand not having it at the reception site. I like the four window frame with the sentimental statement. Could you place an item of importance for each person on the table as well? For example, maybe a pocket watch or something else small that was important to that person? Though it is just a symbol for them, it would be something they cherished and meant a lot to them. That is something I was thinking of doing.

We are framing pictures of my paternal grandparents, my maternal grandfather, my cousin who passe when he was 9 of a tumor on his brain stem, FI’s grandfathers and his uncle, and a friend of mine who passed 3 years ago this summer. Our venue has two fireplaces with mantels so we’re putting the pictures on the mantels with no labels, since our families will know who they are.

I’m also wearing a locket with pictures of my grandparents, who were married 60 and 65 years. I think it’ really really important to show that you still hold those people close even though they are gone.

I personally think its excessive unless they were an intigral part in raising you. I don’t want to sound insensitive but I don’t think its uncommon for grandparents to pass before their grandchildren are married. It bothers me when people are making tributes to their grandpa who they never met, their great aunt, and their childhood dog. I think it really takes away from when someone like my fiance for example, loses a parent at a young age (kingy’s dad died when he was 12). Thats all my opinion though. We’re putting a rose on a seat in the first row at the ceremony. Anything more than that and I think Mother-In-Law would get upset.

We are putting two special pages in our program to honor our loved ones that have passed. One for my mom, and one for everyone else. Here they are:

Dedicated in Loving Memory to the Bride’s Mom

If roses grow in Heaven,

Lord please pick a bunch for me,

Place them in my mother’s arms

And tell her they are from me.

Tell her I love her and I miss her,

And when she turns to smile,

Place a kiss upon her cheek.

And hold her for awhile.

Because remembering her is easy,

I do it every day.

But there’s an ache in my heart

That will never go away

This page is dedicated to those who are here in spirit and will forever be in our hearts.

Though your smile is gone forever, and your hands we cannot touch, still we have so many memories, of the ones we loved so much. Your memory is our keepsake, with which we will never part. God has you in his keeping; we have you in our hearts.

Although we cannot see you, we know that you are here smiling down, watching over us as we say “I DO” forever in our hearts; forever in our lives, and so we say our vows;