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Friday, December 29, 2017

While enjoying some ice cream after a light sushi dinner, Tobie and I had one of those quirky moments of thinking of the same thing at the same time. Just as I was going to mention it, he was already expressing the same thought it in his own words and that just got me laughing.

We've always had these moments since we started chatting with one another online and the fact that this still happens just reassures me that we're still perfectly right for one another.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

I've come to accept meals to be a very social activity even though Tobie and I tend to eat in silence when we're together. But I feel at peace when we're at the same table whether we're at home at the Sietch or at a nice restaurant. But of course we can't be together for every meal and work requirements can have us in different places.

Going home I thought it might be fun to eat out since it was just me - a way to make it more amusing or something. I initially thought of getting food at Mercato since it's not too far off my route home and then I considered going to Jollibee since I have free meals to claim thanks to my credit card. But the thought of eating out alone without Tobie just bogged me down and so I went home and reheated leftovers together with some Quorn nuggets to change things up a bit. When stuff like this happens I typically eat something light to stave my usual dinner hunger and then eat again later on once Tobie gets home. I don't have that option today since I need to get some sleep so just made the most of things for now.

This is just one of the many things that define our daily lives as a couple. It's just one of the little reminders that our lives are so deeply intertwined with one another's the slightest change in routine makes everything feel somehow wrong and out of sorts. But even the momentary bits of absence are more than balanced out by the elation you feel once you're back in the same space again.

Saturday, August 26, 2017

With my birthday just around the corner, I remain thankful for the best "gift" to enter my life 8 years ago. No amount of Transformers, books or LEGO Dimensions figures comes anywhere close to all that Tobie has given to me in terms of love, support, and sheer time each and every day of our lives together.

So more than thinking about turning another year older, I'd like to take a moment to be thankful that Tobie is the man I may likely be in love with for the rest of my life.

Saturday, July 15, 2017

Social media celebrates a lot of things including friendship anniversaries, birthdays, and old posts. And so randomly throughout the week Google or Facebook take turns digging up old photos of Yoshi.

Bittersweet is the perfect description for such moments. They still make us feel a little sad to see him since that reminds us that he's gone and that we miss him so much. But then it also gets us into retelling old stories of his quirks and the little things that made him such a lovable, adorable dog.

There will always be a gap in our hearts where Yoshi lives on and we will forever treasure that.

Saturday, July 8, 2017

"What are you wearing?" is a common question we ask while at the Sietch although neither of us has any real interest in the more superfluous aspects of what most consider to be fashion. We don't ask out of a genuine interest in how we look but more to check what shirt the other person plans to wear.

One of our first matching shirts were a gift.

Over the years of being together with Tobie, we've somehow become the sort of couple wear matching shirts a lot. While it's not like our entire wardrobe consists of matching outfits or anything crazy like that. But we do have a dedicated drawer of shirts that we can wear in order to match.

Sunday, April 9, 2017

So I wrote a thing on my personal blog about the ups and downs of living together. The post had long been meant for this blog, but then I could never find the time to write it as separate update on top of keeping pace with my need for daily updates over there.

So it's a cross-posted blog post for now! Here's an excerpt:

It's easy to dismiss this as something about the obvious economic benefits of living together such as being able to pool resources or having an extra pair of hands to help with chores. But there are also challenges like really learning about all the little habits and quirks of your partner or needing to redefine your concept of privacy to factor in someone else in your daily life. The benefits definitely outweigh the risks as long as you're in a good relationship and I know I'm terribly lucky with Tobie.

Sunday, February 26, 2017

I'm hardly perfect. We can argue that no one is as it's a human thing, but that's not the point. We all make mistakes and sometimes we regret them and sometimes we don't. Sometimes we understand why things ended up the way they did and other times you're at a loss to provide a logical explanation for your actions.

In all the times I've stumbled in our relationship, I count myself extremely lucky that Tobie sticks it out with me. Yes, I regret the mistakes I've made and I do what I can to make amends. I'm not proud of my failings and my shortcomings and I hate myself when I fall into such pitfalls and traps of my own making.

But Tobie and I have always managed to work things out thus are and I count myself terribly lucky for that. We find our path forward and we remind ourselves of our commitment to one another and why we love one another and thus continue forward.

We've been together for over 7 years now and I considered myself quite blessed for every moment we've shared. And like any other relationship, it needs a lot of work to keep things going and Tobie and I both do our best to make things work. There's always the love, the fun, and the romance. But there's also the work.

I love Tobie so much. I can't imagine being with anyone else for the rest of my life.