Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.

5 out of 5 stars

great book, very helpful!

By
Jamie
on
04-21-16

Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder

The Six Stages of Healing

By:
Dennis C. Ortman PhD

Narrated by:
Paul Brion

Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
92

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
81

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
80

The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling.

3 out of 5 stars

Probably better in print

By
Logan S.
on
03-17-19

Not 'Just Friends'

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

By:
Shirley P. Glass Ph.D.,
Jean Coppock Staeheli

Narrated by:
Laural Merlington

Length: 15 hrs and 10 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
372

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
316

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
314

Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together,
Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.

5 out of 5 stars

AudioBook needs PDF file

By
Mariama S Jalloh-Heyward
on
02-26-19

The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

By:
Esther Perel

Narrated by:
Esther Perel

Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins

Unabridged

Overall

5 out of 5 stars
2,811

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
2,509

Story

5 out of 5 stars
2,489

An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of
Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.

5 out of 5 stars

A compassionate approach

By
Anonymous User
on
10-16-17

After a Good Man Cheats

How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy with Your Wife

By:
Caroline Madden PhD

Narrated by:
Cathi Colas

Length: 2 hrs and 55 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
31

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
26

Story

5 out of 5 stars
24

This audiobook is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity. Learn the tools to fix your marriage. Avoid the (sometimes fatal) mistakes I've seen so many men make.

5 out of 5 stars

Every man should read this book

By
Amazon Customer
on
05-30-20

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful

By:
Linda J. MacDonald

Narrated by:
Tamara Marston

Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
638

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
526

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
520

Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.

5 out of 5 stars

great book, very helpful!

By
Jamie
on
04-21-16

Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder

The Six Stages of Healing

By:
Dennis C. Ortman PhD

Narrated by:
Paul Brion

Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
92

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
81

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
80

The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling.

3 out of 5 stars

Probably better in print

By
Logan S.
on
03-17-19

Not 'Just Friends'

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

By:
Shirley P. Glass Ph.D.,
Jean Coppock Staeheli

Narrated by:
Laural Merlington

Length: 15 hrs and 10 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
372

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
316

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
314

Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together,
Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward.

5 out of 5 stars

AudioBook needs PDF file

By
Mariama S Jalloh-Heyward
on
02-26-19

The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

By:
Esther Perel

Narrated by:
Esther Perel

Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins

Unabridged

Overall

5 out of 5 stars
2,811

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
2,509

Story

5 out of 5 stars
2,489

An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of
Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.

5 out of 5 stars

A compassionate approach

By
Anonymous User
on
10-16-17

After a Good Man Cheats

How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy with Your Wife

By:
Caroline Madden PhD

Narrated by:
Cathi Colas

Length: 2 hrs and 55 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
31

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
26

Story

5 out of 5 stars
24

This audiobook is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity. Learn the tools to fix your marriage. Avoid the (sometimes fatal) mistakes I've seen so many men make.

5 out of 5 stars

Every man should read this book

By
Amazon Customer
on
05-30-20

How Can I Forgive You?

The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To

By:
Janis A. Spring,
Michael Spring

Narrated by:
Coleen Marlo

Length: 7 hrs and 33 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
58

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
49

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
49

Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of
After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives - without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness - one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.

3 out of 5 stars

I'm a Christian

By
jelady
on
06-14-19

Blindsided by His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity

Surviving Infidelity, Advice from a Marriage Therapist, Book 1

By:
Caroline Madden PhD

Narrated by:
Cathi Colas

Length: 2 hrs and 7 mins

Unabridged

Overall

5 out of 5 stars
47

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
31

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
31

Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and marriage therapist, guides you as you deal with explosive emotions when you discover your husband's infidelity. This book will help you understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.

5 out of 5 stars

Aligns with all emotions

By
Santa's Helper
on
08-09-19

After the Affair

Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

By:
Janis Abrahms Spring Ph.D.,
Michael Spring

Narrated by:
Janis Abrahams Spring Ph.D.

Length: 2 hrs and 57 mins

Abridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
447

Performance

4 out of 5 stars
364

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
359

Many times infidelity is the death of a relationship - but an affair doesn't have to mean the end. Realistic ways of coping with pain, restoring self-esteem, and rebuilding trust and intimacy are available for the first time on audio in this guide by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring. Dr. Spring is one of the few clinical psychologists in the US who specializes in infidelity. She offers original and proven strategies to those seeking guidance, sympathy, and solutions, laying to rest blame and recrimination and focusing instead on recovery.

5 out of 5 stars

Very helpful book.

By
Pat Kaufman
on
05-04-15

Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken

Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

By:
Cindy Beall

Narrated by:
Laura Jennings

Length: 5 hrs and 45 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
288

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
238

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
234

A few days after an ordinary Valentine's Day, Cindy Beall's life changed forever. She listened with disbelief as her husband, Chris, a respected pastor, confessed to pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the startling news that a woman was pregnant with his child.

5 out of 5 stars

my story too!!

By
Anonymous User
on
01-25-19

When Good People Have Affairs

Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships

By:
Mira Kirshenbaum

Narrated by:
Callie Beaulieu

Length: 6 hrs and 28 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
120

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
97

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
95

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads listeners through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies 17 types of affairs, helping listeners figure out which type they're in and what it means.

5 out of 5 stars

Digs Deep

By
Austin @ MSU
on
09-29-18

Getting Over an Affair

How to Get Over Being Cheated On, Forgive Your Partner, and Have a Happy & Healthy Relationship Again

By:
Barbara Giovanini

Narrated by:
Jim D. Johnston

Length: 29 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4 out of 5 stars
64

Performance

4 out of 5 stars
52

Story

4 out of 5 stars
52

This audiobook is designed to be your support and guide through this devastating, challenging, and emotional situation. Despite the norm of today's society, it isn't always prudent to throw something away just because it's broken. With a little effort, your relationship can be mended and also strengthened to a point unimaginable even before the affair.

4 out of 5 stars

It really helped.

By
lucas smith
on
10-24-18

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

By:
Tracy Schorn

Narrated by:
Laura Copland

Length: 6 hrs and 36 mins

Unabridged

Overall

5 out of 5 stars
295

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
267

Story

5 out of 5 stars
263

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs.

5 out of 5 stars

Marvelous

By
Madeline Hutton
on
04-28-18

I Love You but I Don’t Trust You

The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

By:
Mira Kirshenbaum

Narrated by:
Emily Durante

Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
403

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
347

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
348

Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.

5 out of 5 stars

Amazing advice

By
mizzaga
on
01-13-17

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

A Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage

By:
Suellen McDolly

Narrated by:
Judy Kriz

Length: 3 hrs and 39 mins

Unabridged

Overall

5 out of 5 stars
79

Performance

5 out of 5 stars
79

Story

5 out of 5 stars
79

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair is the book that can help you, step by step, to recover from betrayal, rebuild trust, and repair your relationship after a betrayal through forgiveness and expert advice from consultant Suellen McDolly. Healing a relationship that has recently been tested and broken by an affair is a difficult journey, but not one that is impossible. Many spouses or partners seek to rebuild a relationship or marriage after an affair has come to light, but often do not know what to do or how to talk to their spouse to help begin the healing process.

5 out of 5 stars

Quick, easy guide for handling muddy waters

By
Alan
on
04-21-20

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, Revised and Updated

By:
John M. Gottman PhD,
Nan Silver

Narrated by:
Eric Michael Summerer

Length: 10 hrs and 17 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
136

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
103

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
100

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.

5 out of 5 stars

The Bible of Relationship books

By
Christi Thorn
on
02-19-20

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

By:
Mira Kirshenbaum

Narrated by:
Adriane McNeely

Length: 8 hrs and 33 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
844

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
673

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
655

To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

5 out of 5 stars

Amazing

By
Danielle
on
09-26-11

Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away

By:
Gary Chapman

Narrated by:
Chris Fabry

Length: 6 hrs and 47 mins

Unabridged

Overall

4.5 out of 5 stars
538

Performance

4.5 out of 5 stars
440

Story

4.5 out of 5 stars
436

When you said, “I do”, you entered marriage with high hopes, dreaming it would be supremely happy. You never intended for it to be miserable. Millions of couples are struggling in desperate marriages. But the story doesn’t have to end there. Dr. Gary Chapman writes, “I believe that in every troubled marriage, one or both partners can take positive steps that have the potential for changing the emotional climate in their marriage.”

5 out of 5 stars

Great book

By
Jonesboy9191
on
07-10-18

Publisher's Summary

A staggering number of couples in America - about 70 percent - have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriages - and for clinicians, psychology academics, and listeners fascinated by popular psychology - this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential listening.

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Really helped deal during first 30days

This book really helped me through the first 30 days of finding out my wife had an affair with her boss for 10 months beginning a year ago and also had a Nother affair 30 days ago which I confronted her and found out about everything. During this absolutely crazy emotional mess that followed the admittance and then more remittance the ups and downs at first and even today my head is full of crazy emotions but this book help me realize that there are tools out there and with the right intent and willingness, there can be hope that the marriage will actually be stronger after the affair. Only time will tell how my story ends up but I highly recommend this book to be one of the staples of your collection as we learn. Sorry if that text, talk to type for driving safety.

Pro cheater

This book negates the reality of the wrong done. It gives excuses for the cheater. It does not deal with the long term damage to the victims of cheaters or the trauma they experience and carry with them.

DON’T listen to if you’re the betrayed spouse

Really wasn’t a fan. It honestly made me feel like I was somehow to blame for my husbands affairs. It did not help me at all, and I couldn’t even listen to the whole thing. I removed it from my library so it wouldn’t be yet another trigger for me.

Helped

After discovering my wife had two, several month affairs back to back, I was devastated. I was angry, confused, perplexed, hurt, and completely heartbroken. How, why, all the questions running through my mind. This book really was spot on in many ways to what happened, how we both felt, things we were talking about, actions that were taken and others that needed to be. It was really a roadmap that accelerated the healing and recovery. We are working things out and we will see how things progress, but the understanding, information, tools, and cases this book discussed has been the honey to the medication.

Restored my hope and helped me to understand

My husband has been in an affair for a year now. This book gave me hope and guidance on how to cope and understand the science and psychology on how our marriage got to where it is and potentially how to heal it. Amazingly my husband called me as I finished this book after no contact for 30 days and being very unsure about coming home all year. He told me this morning he wanted to end it with his affair partner and come home and start rebuilding our marriage. I know we'll be rereading this together to rebuild our second marriage together.

Best book on this topic

I have read a number of books on this topic. After the Affair does a great job of creating a foundation for understanding for both partners. The work has to be done by the couple but this book gives them a great place to start.I recommend it highly.

Ick intro on responsibility

The INTRO says the BETRAYED must take responsibility for their contribution to the state of the relationship that inspired to the affair. Nope. Discuss that contribution as A SEPARATE TOPIC from the victimization. Trauma triggers galore.