Left on my own

Im currently 34+2 days pregnant and my partner has just broken up with me. He says it's because he feels nothing for me and doesn't see the point in staying in a relationship for that reason.

Does anyone have any advice I'm pregnant for the first time and I'm terrified of doing this on my own especially being so far on. I feel absolutely broken and completely heartbroken that he would do this to me.

Comments (7)

I'm really sorry to hear about this, we women can do this... we never know how STRONG we are until we are placed in them situations... stay strong and keep thinking positive about your beautiful baby... he/she will be the most amazing reward that you will ever have.... maybe seek more family and friends support if you can. Let's keep in contact and let me know how you get on.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Does he still want to be involved with baby? I suggest going to your gp who can refer you to a counsellor. I went when I first found out I was pregnant (my situation is super messy) I wasn't so keen on the idea at first but it really helped me xx

Hi Lauren!
I am so sorry he's done this to you later in your pregnancy and I know the feeling of being scared.
I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby and my boyfriend wants to know where he stands as he has said to me if I keep the baby then I will be a single mum, and he wants me to abort and thinks out relationship will return as normal, obviously my head has been all over the place and I've been very upset over it and I only found out 2 weeks ago, I personally don't think no matter how soon or late in pregnancy you are it still hurts to hear that your partner no longer wants to continue the relationship.
Do you think your partner has just got scared? And maybe some time apart will make him realise what he really wants. (I'm hoping this is the case for me as I know I am 100% keeping my baby and will be telling my partner this afternoon and I know it will be the end of our relationship)
Men think differently to us and they freak out! I'm wondering if he's got the gitters about becoming a dad... will this be his first child? Maybe now because it's becoming more real he's been over thinking and this is his way of resolving it? (Just like my partner to kind of block what's happening).

Sending you my love I understand how you feel.. it's heart breaking yet disappointing, and of course scary as you want your partner to be there for you no matter what... but just concentrate on you and your baby and the support you have off everyone else around you, he will soon see how amazing you are and how strong you are. Xxxx

We weren't living together yet but we had been applying to rent a home and were then eventually planning on buying our own home in a few years. I don't know if I would call it sore feet, generally I have bought everything myself such as the nursery furniture and all the baby stuff like car seat etc and all of the stuff for our home from toaster and kettle to bed. He has contributed and now I'm beginning to think this was always his plan. He says he wants to be there and be a dad but I'm struggling to believe that whenever he hasn't provided anything for our son yet. Im so scared about doing this on my own and I'm terrified of not being able to cope. I have a good supportive family and amazing friends who I know will be there for me but it scares me knowing it's going to be me and this baby by ourselves. I just feel like the dad enjoys going out and getting drunk every weekend and doesn't want to accept any responsibility. I just feel so cheated on as we were gonna be a family and now all of a sudden everything is up in the air and I'm having to change my plans, try and find a different home for myself when I'm due in just over 5 weeks

We weren't living together yet but we had been applying to rent a home an...

Posted
30/08/2017

We weren't living together yet but we had been applying to rent a home and were then eventually planning on buying our own home in a few years. I don't know if I would call it sore feet, generally I have bought everything myself such as the nursery furniture and all the baby stuff like car seat etc and all of the stuff for our home from toaster and kettle to bed. He has contributed and now I'm beginning to think this was always his plan. He says he wants to be there and be a dad but I'm struggling to believe that whenever he hasn't provided anything for our son yet. Im so scared about doing this on my own and I'm terrified of not being able to cope. I have a good supportive family and amazing friends who I know will be there for me but it scares me knowing it's going to be me and this baby by ourselves. I just feel like the dad enjoys going out and getting drunk every weekend and doesn't want to accept any responsibility. I just feel so cheated on as we were gonna be a family and now all of a sudden everything is up in the air and I'm having to change my plans, try and find a different home for myself when I'm due in just over 5 weeks

My bestie has something similar to this... hand her second child and 3 months in he left she had done things alone every since and both grips are doing great now ages 8 and 5 the thing that hurt her the most is they had been together since they were 18! And planed to have the 1st child! He quickly ended up in another relationship and she is still single and sometimes try a to understand WHY her? While she is struggling to raise 2 beautiful girls his not interested and is having fun with his new GF!
So maybe it's better in a weird way that it was sooner rather then later that he showed his true colours and you can rethink things before the birth rather then having to tell your child why the father has gone if that makes sense...

It's also the unknown that scares us but I'm sure you will find the strength and stay positive...

Hi Lauren!
I am so sorry he's done this to you later in your pregnancy an...

Posted
30/08/2017

Hi Lauren!
I am so sorry he's done this to you later in your pregnancy and I know the feeling of being scared.
I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby and my boyfriend wants to know where he stands as he has said to me if I keep the baby then I will be a single mum, and he wants me to abort and thinks out relationship will return as normal, obviously my head has been all over the place and I've been very upset over it and I only found out 2 weeks ago, I personally don't think no matter how soon or late in pregnancy you are it still hurts to hear that your partner no longer wants to continue the relationship.
Do you think your partner has just got scared? And maybe some time apart will make him realise what he really wants. (I'm hoping this is the case for me as I know I am 100% keeping my baby and will be telling my partner this afternoon and I know it will be the end of our relationship)
Men think differently to us and they freak out! I'm wondering if he's got the gitters about becoming a dad... will this be his first child? Maybe now because it's becoming more real he's been over thinking and this is his way of resolving it? (Just like my partner to kind of block what's happening).
Sending you my love I understand how you feel.. it's heart breaking yet disappointing, and of course scary as you want your partner to be there for you no matter what... but just concentrate on you and your baby and the support you have off everyone else around you, he will soon see how amazing you are and how strong you are. Xxxx

Hi, I just read your posts and this is exactly what happened to me in January so wanted it say hello and let you know you are not in your own, this kind of thing is a lot more common than I thought when I first found out u was pregnant xx.. . My x boyfriend said he would pay for a private abortion and everything and if I kept baby I would be on my own. So I kept it and he left and was very angry towards me for a few months and has barely spoke to me about my little boy since said he wants nothing to do with me and I should never contact him again (little boy due beginning of October )..
I was terrified at the beginning about doing this alone, I have very little money and was living in a house share in London at the time. I want you to know that as my baby has grown, my confidence has grown. I have my own little flat and couldn't be happier!! I am now just so excited to meet my little boy and have been so busy nesting and getting myself and flat sorted that nothing else matters... I have forgotten all about my x and realised that I can do this on my own. Then at 30 weeks pregnant i received a txt from him saying he wanted to see a picture of the scan and would like to be kept informed about baby. So although we will remain apart I think he may come around to being a part of my boys life and after this time apart we are at least able it be civil about it. xx

So you never know what will happen with your x. Men do get very scared if it is unplanned! But that's why we as women are trusted with the magic of childbirth I guess! 😂 We don't need a man to do this well!!! .... Its just a bonus for the child (and sometimes for you) if they are there.. Not saying all men are useless by any means , I know some single dads who are amazing and do everything as well as the mothers and some of my friends have amazing partners ... But it's the bond you build and love you have for your baby that really matters. good luck I hope it all works out for you... My friend had a baby on her own and then met someone and had another child with a partner there. She said the first pregnancy was the easiest as she only had to worry about her and the baby.... Didn't have to worry about anyone else. This could be a blessing for you in disquise allowing you to have 100% undisturbed binding time x

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