Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

Rebound? Would Appreciate Input!

I have been married to an abusive husband for 16 years. I have put up with him hitting me and tried to leave several times. I haven't had family or support to actually succeed in leaving him. He has cheated on me several times.

I was very young at the time. Now we have both grown up some. He has not physically abused me in over 7 years. Yet he still emotionally, verbally, and mentally abuses me. He seems to be trying but I feel like since he is no longer physical, he thinks that is somehow "good enough".

I still have always feared him. Whenever we argue I can't be honest because I fear he will start hitting me again.

He is not emotionally available, and I would prefer to be open & honest and talk through dilemma's as a "team", yet he is so controlling he doesn't want to hear my emotions or share his - just give orders & expect obedience.

We have two girls in their teens and I have an older son that my husband no longer allows near our home.

Now just recently I have found a male friend that allows me to vent & discuss my emotions openly and honestly. I feel comfortable & safe with him. There is nothing physical whatsoever.
I want to leave my husband now, I don't want to live my life in fear & obedience.
What do you all think Male & Female alike??????????????

I think if your husband is severely controlling(and it sounds like he is) it won't be easy to get out...and if he is anything like my ex, your new friend may be in danger too...
although I wonder if the men that hit women are not so violent with other men....? don't know.
either way, be very careful....have a plan. talk to a lawyer. if you decide to leave you may want to involve the police. when I left it was the show of force on my side that kept things from getting out of hand...I moved out right in front of him. (but I had many people standing right with me, and was out in a few hours-I was NEVER left alone with him, though he tried several times to corner me to 'talk')

Since the name of your thread was &quot;Rebound&quot;, can we assume that you have feelings for this new man? In my opinion, you should allow yourself to heal from the last 16 years of physical and emotional abuse. Getting right back into a relationship without coming to terms with your issues is not a good thing. Get to know yourself, what you like and don't like (you probably don't even know at this point). I had to learn to enjoy being alone with myself before I could enjoy being in a healthy relationship. You have to learn to be comfortable and safe with yourself.
But you do NOT have to live your life in fear and obedience of ANYONE.

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