About two decades ago, Social psychologist Arthur Aron came up with 36 questions so deep that he believed they would lead people to falling in love.

Catron writes the basic rules and regulations of the study:

A heterosexual man and woman enter the lab through separate doors. They sit face to face and answer a series of increasingly personal questions. Then they stare silently into each other's eyes for four minutes. The most tantalizing detail: Six months later, two participants were married. They invited the entire lab to the ceremony.

She decided to try out the experiment herself with a male university acquaintance. They went to a bar and asked each other the questions one by one until they ventured outside to look into each other's eyes for four minutes, like the research says.

According to her, it worked.

"You're probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did," she wrote. "Although it's hard to credit the study entirely (it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become."

Catron goes on to say that love is a choice, not so much something that happens to us like we're all led to believe. Art Markman, Ph.D, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, told Yahoo how this could be possible.

"With this research, it's almost like hypnosis in a way," says Markman. "If you think about falling in love, it's really a willingness to lower barriers that normally inhibit us from getting to know each other."

Whether or not the experiment itself led to the author and her partner falling in love or just led her in the right direction, her outlook on connecting to another person is something we can take away no matter how we fall in love:

I've begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Aron's study taught me that it's possible — simple, even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive.