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What I have a problem with is, when ‘the man is the head of the family’ springs up, it is usually said to tell the wife to condone whatever she is getting from the husband especially when she isn’t comfortable with it. The phrase becomes a justification for abuse. A man can cheat, dope, steal your money, be irresponsible as a husband and as a father, he is still the head of the family…

When you are in love you never! You never dare to ask important questions. He gave me directives on how to get to his mansion. He treated me like gold. I couldn’t help but helplessly fall in love with him.

What drained me the most were the numerous things I had to do as “senior single ladies” (27yrs -37yrs according to some mothers in Nigeria) in church. The prophetic bridal dances or prophetic objects we had to carry/touch and relate to real world.

This mindset of “my husband will take care of me” is what has held some women back from being all that they can. They do not strive for top jobs or try to make smart investments because they are waiting for a man to take care of them.

When a wife posts a video of her husband’s dirty habits online, questions come up, not just of the man’s horrible hygiene, but also of the woman’s discretion in publishing his worst flaws online? What does this mean for their marriage? Is she right to post the video? And what are the deal-breakers in marriages that do not fall under the “for better for worse” vow?

We pamper our men in every way. We sort out their clothes in the morning, all laid out before they wake up. All they have to do is stand up, have their bath and get dressed. Please note that the wife is also a working mother, who needs to get the kids ready before the nanny comes, pack their lunchbox, and get herself ready for work to ensure she clocks in before 8am.

Between age 25 and 30, society decides women are no longer to be sheltered and should immediately find men and marry them. To miss this time window is to be ready for a life of singleness. But is there any truth to this?

What is it about revenge that feels so good? What goes on in a woman’s mind when she’s rejected or mistreated by a man that she loves dearly? What kinds of things can a scorned woman do to the guy in question? When does love turn to hate?

Nigerians have stock reactions and responses to people based on how they are perceived. “Oga dey give you money na” is one of such reactions to women when they are buying goods and services. This is about such comments and other repulsive ones Nigerian need to put an end to.

They don’t make them like they used to. This can be said of every product, and is often said of marriages too. The older generation have their reasons for this change. But who do we really blame for the failure of marriages?

There’s something about a man on one knee, ring in hand, and a woman in shock, beaming with smiles, blushing from the surprise of being proposed to that intrigues people. Perhaps because it is a defining moment in a person’s life, and because people love happy endings, everyone expects the girl to say yes (even…

Temi sighed as she looked up from the pages she was reading, then left a bookmark inbetween to preserve the place, swearing under her breath. Twenty minutes of cramming and revising was hardly enough to absorb any knowledge, and all she wanted was to bury herself in her pile of assignments. Was that too much…

PART 3: UNCLE DELE I grew up in Maryland. Then, our estate was relatively safe. As a child, after school I would eat my lunch, do my homework and practically fly to our neighborhood park. Once there, I would play hide and seek and ‘tenten’ with the neighborhood kids. We would ride our bikes, climb…