ive got a two year old that DOES NOT listen to a word i say but he will listen to my husband and minds him immediately... what do i do!!! :O

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For my 4 year old and 2 year old I put them in time out and set a timer. They are not allowed to move away from the corner until the timer goes off. If they do they have to start all over. Its usually 2-3 minutes. When its time to come out we talk about why they went in there and give hugs and kisses.

I have the same problem with my son. When I try to be firm he laughs at me... I know he is just testing his limits but it is really hard because I am a single mom. I can get his dad on the phone and he will instantly listen and correct his behavior. Drives me nuts! I have tried all of the things mentioned above and I'm still not having any luck. Now if he starts acting up I try to just ignore him, but at the same time I don't want him to think he has "won the battle."

I have had a similar problem with my toddler and actually try to take some cues from my husband. What is it that you and your husband do differently? For me I find that my husband is much more patient with him in certain situations than I am and my son responds so much better to him. So maybe you can just try to observe what kind of parenting style your child requires from you.

I have had a similar problem with my toddler and actually try to take some cues from my husband. What is it that you and your husband do differently? For me I find that my husband is much more patient with him in certain situations than I am and my son responds so much better to him. So maybe you can just try to observe what kind of parenting style your child requires from you.

My 2 year old son has recently started to behave this way! I continue to discipline him and using time out. When he does get reprimanded he cries and whines for Daddy. I finally asked him why he has been behaving badly--and he told me its because he misses Daddy. So now we make sure that we call Daddy during the afternoon. This seems to help!

yea ive used the lower voice and it only works sometimes, its like he knows when im bluffing and when im not lol he chooses when he wants to mind and when he doesnt, sort of like selective hearing lol i guess im just gunna have to wait it out and hope he doesnt ever get hurt or do anything too embarrassing in public! :p

thanks for all the suggestions so far! counting worked for a while but hes not afraid to be spanked anymore and time out is usually pretty intimidating to him but i spend the whole time standing there trying to keep him from getting up! i understand that this is normal bc hes two yrs old but its the fact that he refuses to learn manners and acts up the worst when were in public or when hes in sunday school and i cant have either... im just so worn out and ready for him to behave so im not running around screaming when my second comes in april...:/

I have the same problem! I have found lately that counting really works for me. I count to three and if she doesn't do what she is supposed to by 3, she gets punished (not really sure how since I haven't had to count all the way to 3 yet). For some reason, it works for me and she will listen. I don't have to yell or anything.

I've found the best thing to do is make sure you are both discipling your child in the same manner. I know that's a lot easier said then done, but consistency is key. My husband has a hard time with this, because he gets frustrated when our son repeatedly does something he's told not to do, and then he loses his temper and yells at him to stop. He thinks this works, but in actuality it just makes our sweet little guy unhappy a lot and then it is hard to get him to listen without yelling. So I keep after him not to do that (he's getting much better), and 90% of the time now if you tell our son Logan not to do something, he'll immediately walk away from it or stop playing with it.

Welcome to my world. I consider myself a pretty strong woman but this child brings me to my knees. Did you happen to see Desperate Housewives on Sunday. Gabby had this problem. It was funny.

We made a decision not to hit our daughter and there are times when I feel like spanking her. She really doesn't listen to me. You give them an inch and they take a mile. I have been cracking down a lot. Trying to be more consistent when I punish her, praising her when she is good, spending more time giving her positive attention, making her ask for items she wants instead of taking them, not responding to her "demands" until she asks me nicely, and I've stopped rocking her to sleep at night and stopped carrying her around so much. My hubby said he notices when he sets the expectation before we go in somewhere in public she does better. These things are helping some but not as fast as I would like. HTH!