So Very Irritated, Need to Vent

So, after getting nowhere for pain management with my OB, I decided to go to the ER. I cannot even pick up my own kids right now. I am having friends and family come over during the day to help me change diapers and feed my kids. What a bust. They told me there is NOTHING that can be done. I have physical therapy in the morning, if I cannot get anywhere, I am calling my mother to take my kids until the end of the pregnancy. I cannot take care of them. It kills me to think that someone else will have to have them, but I don't know what else to do. We are on Medicaid, and they will not pay for someone to come in and help. I also cannot afford it on my own. I am in so much pain, and its only getting worst.​

Oh Amanda.. so sorry to hear this.. sounds like you are trying all your means. If your parents do have to take them for a bit.. just remember, it won't last forever and YOUR health is so vital for that growing baby still.. stay strong!

Thanks ladies, for the words of encouragement. I am so very frustrated. I know the extra stress is not good for me or the baby, and my husband is very little help. I understand he works long hours, but I wish when he got home, he could take a load of laundry downstairs or clean up or SOMETHING. I went to get Grahm dressed this morning, only to find the only pants he has are too big. I had to put them on him, because I have things to do today.

That's ridiculous. I'm sorry.. But there has to be something that can be done for your pain level. I know, I know.. The pain meds.. But you in distress is far worse than anything.. I'm not sure how a pain medication would affect your babies heart condition? So, I can't totally be all PRO pain meds..

But when I was pregnant with my second.. I had all sorts of issues.. and mainly was a nerve she was on and my back. It was AWFUL!!! I had a toddler and like you, was unable to pick him up or play or really be nice at all.. I don't think people understand if they're not in pain like that, what it means to BE in pain like this.. .it's really easy to say, "Oh.. lay down, breathing technique, etc.." Bull crap.. When you're in real pain, everything is wrong and awful.. it's life ruining..

My OB gave me vicodin.. He said that the risks with it were low and that ME being in pain was worse stress than anything else.. It was life changing.. I took one 3x a day and I was still in pain, but was able to manage.. and I had little to no help at all.. no family, etc... Husband travelled.. etc...

I googled the heck out of it all.. and worried of course.. But with some pain help, I was a better mother, person, everything.

I'm not advocating you run out and find some pain meds.. but, I DO know a LOT of women here, with pregnancies that also had to take something stronger.. this "nothing we can do" is bullshit.. what is WRONG with these Doctors? of course there's something they can do.. that's what they are supposed to find out..

I would google and ask around about the effects of a pain med and then see another Doctor or specialist if you can. I know medicaid limits you (i was on it too) and I understand that, but this isn't good for your baby either AND your family that is present... I say push harder, grab the tears and ask exaclty WHY you can't have something.. I know it's the tylenol in some things... fine.. they can eliminate that and yes, some of the medicine will get to your baby.. but so little if you take it minimally...But your babies heart? I'm certain that's why... but is the damage done already or is it progressive? Is the survival rate high? I'm sorry to pry. I just get so mad at the health care system.. A mother is in real pain.. There has to be something.. whether it's a pain med or a shot of cortisone.. I dunno...

My baby girl though I was worried from the pain meds, turned out fat and pink and happy and all is well.. Take care of YOU first or you're not good to that baby anyway...

The baby's heart is set. There is nothing that will change. I actually have taken Flexeril, Tylenol 3, Ultram, and Vicoden with past pregnancies. I googled it, and I have a friend who offered me a small amount to help get through, since my doctor won't prescribe it. I do not usually take other people's meds, but I had to do something. Also, the physical therapy seems to be helping, so hopefully within 2-3 weeks I will be at the minimal pain levels.

I was on Tylenol 3 with ALL of my previous pregnancies. I did find some relief today though. I went for my first physical therapy appointment today. I have not felt this good in a LONG time. She did some electrode thingie on my now TWO out of place ribs. It felt amazing. I have been up and about all day and very minimal pain. I cannot wait for my next appointment. I would go in everyday if they would let me.

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