We all have belief systems that are based on an often inherited lineage of beliefs that run in our family and comes down to us through our DNA. Uncovering these belief systems without needing to fix, eradicate, deny, or judge them even, allows us to bring them to consciousness. It is the act of shining the relentless light of consciousness on these belief systems that refines us. Below is a description of my own belief system, parts of which, I dare say, you may well recognize and relate to … but that’s just my guess … 😉

“I Am Bad”: A Sample Belief System

I found the “I am bad seed” within me today. It was buried beneath layers of smurky darkness, gathered into a single knot. I pinpointed it at its’ very start – there where it dominates over my heart.

It said: “I committed some unforgivable wrong, which completely taints and covers my creative song. I am punished, and deserve to be. With nowhere to belong and no place to hide, I stand rejected, and left behind. I am deserted, but nothing more do I deserve. Thoughts of forgiveness are absurd, because I am to blame. It is my fault and I will not receive anything good or right. I can never have what I want, because I blew it before I was even born. I don’t remember what I did, or why, that part remains unclear … but this I fear, and surely know; I have done the thing that cannot be forgiven, and deserve to die. It’s truly only Universal Compassion that allows me to abide.”

“I’m bad” along with all the thought bubbles that go with it, swirl round in my head, saying things like, “I”m ruined, and in deep despair … I’m forever damaged and unforgivable, but how can I say it’s unfair? It is after all my fault, There is no hope for me, and though I may deserve to die I am not ready! I will to LIVE! Woe on me for failing to accept my just punishment for the failure I am. But I cannot help it, nor put aside my desire to live, to love, to find respite – and to me, believing thusly, this line of thinking further proves my inferiority – more evidence I must hide. What will it take for me to swallow my pride – to confess my wrong, and pay the price?” It is too much for me … I cannot do it … I refuse. See how rebellious, how I insist on my wrong doing. I am bad to the bone.”

“So then … never mind how unlovable I am, how unforgiven; never mind how rejected, or undeserving, in spite of being forever unforgivable and deserving of suffering., I will do what I must to survive – even it if means I must be as bad as ‘they’ say (who they are I cannot name, only a lasting impression that I stand condemned …), so I will rudely push them away – I am hell-bent to keep the world at bay. They don’t want to be with me anyway. I’ll give them one chance to love me anyway … to debunk my thesis … I will put them to the test. Will they split or will they last? Their reaction will tell me all that I need to know”; but in the end it only reinforces everything I have come to believe … about the bad, sinful me.”

The only thing it really shows is how I set you up to help me to verify the lie I unwittingly believe. It’s an unhappy lie I committed my life to believing a long time back, before I knew the truth, before I had the facts. It’s the way I have perhaps always believed. I’ve never challenged it, I’ve never asked “why?” It’s been my number one priority – my single pointed, mind-made Reality, and that which I have firmly believed … a pack of lies from which I have never strayed.

What I describe here is a belief system, and nothing more. Though it rules our whole life by way of the mind – it’s not a bad thing, it’s not a crime. Every single person has one … and that’s by design. These belief systems are what we’ve come to Planet Earth to live out. We play them out in form, and then blame others, even to all of mankind, for the storm we create and live amidst. We persist in believing that it’s happening outside of us, when, in Reality, it’s clear to all who can see, that it’s a web of lies we’ve committed to believing into physicality. We remain committed to the crazy past, and replay it yet again, as if we don’t understand …. as if we are victims who played no part … when we both know, that it was what we expected and believed right from the vert start.

This production to which we are so deeply rooted consists of an unconsciously chosen cast, each hand-picked to play their part. We hand them their role; we ask them to memorize every line, and to say it right on cue, every time. And because they love us, they do … even though the lines we give them often cut to our very core and prompt us to turn away. We justify our innocence and turn on them instead, and blame them for the roles we unwittingly asked them to play. After all, they were simply playing their part. Why now then do we accuse them of having no heart?

Whatever your “Bad Seed” drama is about, from the evidence you gather you will prove beyond a doubt, that you are as wrong, as lacking, as unlovable as you fear. Once again your evidence will point the finger to say, “It’s because you are wrong, less than, or just plain bad beyond repair; you therefore do not deserve to be loved …” What will you decide to do then? Will you drive people away, and then blame them for leaving, thinking this is the only way to be safe, without having to compromise your investment in the the lie you committed to so long ago – the lie from which you have refused to stray, no matter how many others you have betrayed, no matter how bad it hurts to go on believing,

It’s as if we marry and remain forever loyal to an exceedingly unhappy way of seeing ourselves, and I think we must do so until such a time when we aim, from a happier place, to tap into an inner space from where sings a happier tune. Although perhaps barely audible, the healing tune hums unabated with a quiet certainty within the heart and mind, beneath the ruthless, much louder chatter … But we must listen … shhhh…. listen NOW for that deeper, more true, inner song … let it replace the other – let the lies be the wrong you surrender to a greater cause …. Let the seed of light that flickers within burst through the dark rich soil and reach for daylight; it’s a new song about a new beginning! Tend this new song well … feed it with care … water it with gratitude and watch it send its shoots to the sky.

The Reality Formula™

The Real­ity For­mula™ is a for­mula that describes what all human minds do. Believing the thoughts we think is what human do. We think a thought and automatically presume that it is true, and then we ‘take the ride’ that believing a stressful thought takes us on.

This is the design of life on our planet, and not a problem at all (except that we make it one) – WHEN we remember that we are made to believe, feel and act what we think into reality. It’s called the process of manifestation.

I’ve been teaching the precepts behind the Reality Formula™ for many years, and have seen, and realized in my own life, the astounding ways it works to birth in us a new consciousness – what, Paul, in the Bible, called the “new man.”

We literally change the way we see the world and everything changes! Neuroscience uses a more scientific term to describe the new consciousness that we build by aligning with the Reality Formula™. They refer to it as building a new neural pathway that overrides our old default neural pathway – those old habitual ways of thinking, feeling, and acting that have held us captive in our own victim thinking for so long.

To know and use the Real­ity For­mula™ in consciousness brings on a process of awak­en­ing. We begin to realize that we do not have to blindly believe the unhappy thoughts we think. The moment we step back and begin to observe, rather than to react to, our life situations, we begin to climb out of the dark hole of vic­tim con­scious­ness and into the light of the witnessing Self. Latest research in quantum physics establishes that nothing exists until it is observed. This realization helps us to remember the immense importance of developing our own Inner Observer.

As soon as we witness, rather than judge negatively, we move into Observer consciousness, the built-in ability that humans have to witness our own thought life, and make different choices as a result. The ability to change based on what we observe is a skill that might be easier to understand when we listen to what research in Neuroscience has demonstrated about how the brain functions.

The Reality Formula™ As It Applies To The Physiology Of The Brain

The latest findings in brain function help us understand the Reality Formula as it takes place physically in the brain. Here’s what happens in the brain when the reality formula is in play:

It all starts in the Neocortex which is the front brain; it is the place where our thinking takes place. We think things through here, we analyze, inquire, rationalize, etc; it’s where we think our thoughts about ourselves and the world around us.

The electrical impulses of the thoughts we believe move from the Neocortex to the mid-brain where the Limbic Brain is located. Here the brain translates those beliefs into a feeling. The belief has now become an e-motion, i.e. energy-in-motion. This helps us to better understand how it is that feelings come primarily from the thoughts we think and believe, and not, as we so often think, from the people and situations outside us.

A thought must have a feeling associated with it that is strong enough to inspire us to act before action will be taken. As soon as we believe a particular thought that calls for action, we are moved to act. The Limbic is the place from where our behavior originates. From here neurotransmitters are sent out to the various systems (and glands) in the body that stimulate and determine the kind of action taken. Our action or behavior, of course, will be an extension of the thoughts we believe. So if we are thinking and believing fear-based thoughts, the neuropeptides created from our emotional response to those beliefs will stimulate the adrenals, causing us to have heightened feelings of fear, paranoia, and resentment, and creates within us a fight or flight state of being.

The Reality Formula™ reminds us that what we think and believe determines our body’s response to life: “When we think a thought (Neocortex) and believe it, we feel and act as if it’s true (Limbic Brain).” When we go through that process enough times, it becomes a habitual mental pattern that we automatically default to over and again.

There’s one more important player in this diagram of the brain as it relates to the Reality Formula™; it’s the Cerebrum where the imprints, thought loops, defense mechanisms, as well as memories of all kinds are stored in actual physical pathways in the brain. These neural pathways are constantly being weakened or strengthened by the amount of usage they get as determined by how often we go into that same old mental loop described above.

This becomes an endless non-productive, life-limiting, addictive rut that most of us have either accepted as hopeless or are fighting constantly to overcome. There is an easier way to peace.

Are you tired of thinking the same old painful thoughts that generate the same old bad feelings and leave us feeling the same old emotions of inadequacy, anxiety, and/or driven by fear of rejection, abandonment, or failure?

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Are you ready to step out of the old rut of negativity that sucks you down into the swamps of depression onto new roads to higher places? Are you ready to give up your old neural loops with a new mental default for peace?

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It’s our neocortex, the front brain, where our thoughts are thought. From there they send electrical impulses to the Limbic or mid-brain, where they are translated into feelings that motivate our behavior and reactions. In other words our feelings and reactions come from the thoughts we attach to (believe). Just like the Reality Formula, based on ancient laws of Reality, has been telling us all along!

Reality Formula: When we believe a thought, we automatically feel and act as if what we believe is true … and when we react to others as if we believe what we think, we will act in ways that invite them to give us the very evidence we unconsciously seek that proves us right.”

It’s the hypothalamus that monitors the glandular secretions towards maintaining balance in the body hormonal system. It sends neuropeptides to the various glands in the body (depending on the state of consciousness that the quality of our thoughts is creating within us), signaling them to release the hormones that are needed to balance out the physical system.

For instance, if we are stuck in an old thought pattern of scarcity and fear for our survival, the hypothalamus sends a signal to our adrenals to release cortisol and other hormones, which immediately sets up an inner state of fight or flight.

But here’s where it gets REALLY interesting … we actually get ADDICTED to the state of being brought on by the hormonal release, or we could say, we get addicted to the glandular SUBSTANCES being released. So if we start “coming down” from our hormonal high, the body goes into cortisol withdrawal and we automatically pick up the old thinking that triggers the fight or flight hormones we need to reach the levels we are habituated to living with. In the same way we need our morning java to kick-start our day, we “jones for” the fight or flight hormones to get us through.

From thinking (neocortex) to feeling to acting (limbic) to releasing stress hormones(hypothalamus) in an effort to treat, balance, or control our inner state of being, our thought loop becomes a patterned response, or neural pathway in the brain. Simply defined, a neural pathway is created when we repetitively think the same old thoughts that cause us to feel the same old feelings, and act in the same old ways – over and over again.

Although we can’t get rid of these chronic neural loops, we CAN cultivate new neural pathways to override the old. We do this by cultivating our Observer Consciousness, described in the Reality Formula, as the ability to witness our thoughts without judgment for the purpose of refining and reframing old thoughts into higher ways of seeing our life situations.

If you want to learn more about building new neural pathways to peace, check out the NeuroCue phone app. that offers my own Reality Formula as a software program!

It does my heart good when people come into the office toting their dog-eared copy of my book. I love seeing these intensely used copies that are full of underlined passages, and high-lighted copy, with copious notes written in the margins; nothing could bring a greater sense of satisfaction to an author, perhaps, (or at least to THIS author) than to see people take something one has written and comb through it for the nuggets it may contain – especially when it’s for the purpose of changing lives for the better!

So, to all of my dedicated students, THANK YOU!

To show my appreciation for your concentrated study of the principles I write about that govern Reality, it occurred to me that I might offer something special. In exchange for a photo of your own dog-eared copy of my book, (said with a twinkle in my eye), I will answer any ONE question you want to ask me about Victim Consciousness or how to get out of it and off of the Victim Triangle. This offer gives you a chance to reach me (for a limited time anyway) and ask me that question you’ve been wanting to ask – and all you have to do is snap a photo of your well-used copy of my book and email it to me!

I will post your question, along with your photo of my book, here on my blog, along with my comment in response to your chosen question! We can use the blog to comment on the question you present … inviting all of my blog readers to join in the discussion towards achieving a better understanding of the concepts presented in my book, “Guiding Principles For Life Beyond Victim Consciousness.”

And for those who don’t have my book yet, find it at Amazon.com. I look forward to some real discussions AND can’t wait to see your well-loved copy of Beyond Victim Consciousness!

Just take a digital photo of your book, why not open it to the most read page? 😉 and then email a it to me at private@lynneforrest.com. DO IT NOW! 🙂

Blessings,

Here’s a couple of photo’s … See the questions these readers ask and my response to them in comments below.

All of us get caught up in our limited story on occasion, it’s not a problem … it’s just what human’s do! We are designed to be dysfunctional! (perhaps you’ve noticed! ;))

Humans simply believe the thoughts we think without questioning them at all. We simply, and naturally, think what we think is true. We mistake our thoughts about Reality for being Reality! They are NOT the same thing at all!

One way to tell the difference between Reality and our story about Reality is to ask ourselves if what we believe can be argued – Reality/truth is inarguable – so when we attempt to argue a point of view as being “right” we can know immediately that we are pushing our story about Reality, which might, or might not have anything to do with Reality at all.

But none of this is a problem.

Actually, I believe it’s not only not a problem to get hooked by our story, but that it is, indeed, a necessary part of the refinement process we must go through to mature as individuals. We have to get caught up (hooked) in our unhappy stories, for how else are we going to see the repercussions of what we believe, much less be able to forgive ourselves for who we become when we believe the fear and resentment-based stories we think except to play them out in visible fashion?

From playing out our stories about life, we come to understand that all humans do what we do because we believe what we think. Knowing that allows us to begin to stand back, rather than to automatically react in ways that only perpetuate the unhappy story we are believing.

Seeing times of stuckness and getting hooked as something necessary to our evolutions allows us to value highly the comeuppances and sticky places in our life circumstances, for they show us the obstacles that are currently standing between us and peace.

It is the situations and people we know that cause us to ruffle our feathers in distaste and dissent the most that are our biggest gift-bringers; they bring us the gift of freedom by helping us to recognize where we still hold ourselves hostage to unhappy beliefs and limited story. We may not like these people, OR the lessons they bring, but they are essential players in our spiritual, emotional, and mental maturation process, nonetheless.

This process of maturation, of growing-up, that we, as humans, are invited to engage in is one I have spent a great deal of time learning and sharing about. From that study and years of experimenting with the principles that underlie the work I do with others, has come the Reality Formula™, a method that is based on founding principles in the work of self- refinement that teaches, for instance that: When we believe what we think, we automatically feel and act as if our thoughts are true, and when we act as if what we think is true, we begin to act in ways that will invite others to give us the evidence we need to prove our thoughts true.

Good or bad, this simple principle applies. When we believe unhappy thoughts we create an unhappy personal world … that becomes our personal reality. When we believe happy thoughts, we create a much happier world of peace, love, and abundance. Sounds simple … and it is … but not necessarily easy – at all!

Sometimes the awakening to consciousness process is a really painful one. Sometimes we must be shown in loud noise, and chaos how it is we stand in the way of peace and Reality. Sometimes we must become broken, like shattered glass, so that Reality can be glimmered through the broken shards of the iron-clad mind-set of our totally made-up story about it.

We go through tough times often on our way to learning that it is not what we experience that dictates what we believe, but what we believe that determines what we see. This is true only every time! And once we get it … we can begin to cooperate with the process that is unfolding in us, rather than to fight it tooth and nail.

The Reality Formula™ is a consciousness refining process that is designed to inspire an evolving maturity where the observer or higher consciousness rules our choices, instead of the victim-ego that prefers to slide into an unconscious perception of ourselves as victims at the mercy of life. Instead we come to see that everything we encounter serves to enlighten us further.

The turn around happens when we stop seeing the world as being “against,” “at,” or “done to” us, and come to see the incredible way it mirrors for us the state of our relationship with ourselves.