We seem to be on a streak of guys that can't get hard or stay hard with a condom on?

I don't say anything in the moment, but it is very frustrating and once it happens once it's normally a bust completely for the whole experience.. meaning once the problem happens the guy normally can't recover well and if he does it's short lived.... Mean while my husband is over there with the other girl having tons of fun with equipment that I know works fine. It makes me want to scream!

Nothing is more aggrevating than a guy who can't keep it up with a condom! I had one guy at a party who kept trying to rub it against me and stick it in me without a condom! He also kept trying to feed me shots as if I would change my mind if I was drunk! Ugh! I say your best bet is to do some recon before going into the mission! Like are you a safe couple? Or my favorite, "What is your favorite condom to use in this lifestyle?" If they can't give you one then most likely they don't use one on a regualr basis. Find a way to bring condoms into the conversation. And sometimes it is the size of the condom. Even though my guy is not 12 inches he prefers magnums. He likes the feel of them and I have had guys who have diffficulties with regular size condoms because they pinch or hurt. So, if the other couple give you a specific type then try to use what they are familiar with. Although if you have a latex allergy it might be more difficult. Or if your like me and don't mind the challenge suck him till he is about to cum and practice slipping a cock ring and a condom on with your mouth. It works for me most of the time. But I will only do that with older guys. For some reason with the younger guys who can't keep it hard my mind always goes back to the sex education class talking about guys with STDs causing them to not be hard. Then I'm totally turned off!

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We agree with the couples below that condoms take some getting used to if they haven't been part of your normal routine (including masturbation - it helps). What worked for us was trying several different brands and styles until we found what works for us. We found out pretty quickly that Mrs. TD has a bad reaction to the spermicide used in most of the ones sold at the local pharmacy. I have ordered from Condom Depot with good success. they have a great selection, good prices and lots of reviews to help with your selection.Lets face it, condoms are a necessary part of this business, like seat belts in your car or safety glasses at work, the sooner we all get used to it the sooner we can all ..... Respectfully submitted, the TD's

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I have that problem. I'm going to give Cialis a try.

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Another tip I sometimes use is to ask to help put it on the guy, b/c, at least for me, it's a turn on sometimes. That way he feels more comfortable about them too. I hate when they're fumbling for a condom, turn their back to put it on, etc. I'd rather it be a part of the play.

Mr.Sexus must've been a boy scout in another life, b/c he's always prepared. He was about to enjoy a 3-some or more-some with a lovely lady, and she whispered to the two guys, do you have a condom? And the other guy had to interrupt, excuse himself and go get one, and Mr.Sexus had one in his hand already "just in case." Guess who got to fuck the lovely lady? Yep.

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Exactly, lost...I was 16 years between a divorce and a remarriage. And in between, most of those years weren't in a relationship. In those days, I used a condom all the time. The idea of an unwanted pregnancy terrified me. Now, after being involved/married for three years, using a condom wasn't the first thing on my mind (Mrs. T is on the pill). But after playing as a couple, and seeing how much action we're getting (or mainly her, at houseparties...lol), we decided that it's best to insist on them, if only for safety's sake. So the "re-training" begins...lol.

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heehee yeah, I do not think there is a soul alive that really likes those damn things LOL. Today though, they really do great in making them as thin as possible while maintaining safety.

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We'll take that advice, lost_jl. I (hubby) wasn't used to condoms for a long time before Mrs. Tempe and I began swinging, and while I accept the necessity of their use, I don't like them. They don't seem to greatly affect performance in my case, but there's a definite difference, as well as in sensation. So we've decided to use them at home for a while to get Mr. Happy adjusted to them. I'll issue a progress report! :)) Thanks.

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We had this issue when we started because for 15 years Jay did not wear a condom. And cocks do not like condoms LOL. I don't either, they pinch...but of course are a necessary evil. What we did was we trained his cock to adjust. For about a month or so he wore them, even when we fucked at home. It just takes adjusting to them.

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Viagra takes 30 to 60 minutes to work. If there is food or alcohol in the stomach, the effectiveness of it diminishes by 30%. It the food is of a more fatty nature it can diminish it even more.

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Wow! I agree with the previous posters. What medical training does she have to give her the legal right to dispense medications to a stranger.