Woman's 'petty' reason for letting friendship drift

A woman has taken to Reddit asking for advice after admitting she purposely let her friendship fizzle out after her friend decided to not be her bridesmaid.

Posting under an anonymous screen name, the woman explains that she knew her former friend since high school, and although they were very different people, they always got along. She even was the woman's bridesmaid.

But the tables turned when it was her turn to get married.

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"I did everything for her - shopped with her, made her invitations, helped run the day smoothly, drove her home at the end of the night when everyone else abandoned them," the woman writes.

"When it came to my wedding, she was pregnant at the time and really didn't want to be a bridesmaid."

Although the bride understood that being pregnant while acting as a bridesmaid might be uncomfortable, it was the nail in the coffin with the move leading to the bride to completely reconsider the friendship.

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"I started thinking of all the times when I had gone above and beyond for her, but I never really felt like she did the same for me, and that she only contacted me when she needed me for something," the woman says, confessing that she purposely let the friendship drift apart by not attending her child's birthday.

"We still see each other at mutual friends' events, but don't keep in contact much anymore.

"Was this a petty thing to let a friendship drift apart for?"

The forum was mostly in agreeance that the split confirmed the one-way friendship, in that it takes two for a friendship to drift apart.

"As people grow older and change themselves, they outgrow and drift apart from people they used to be close with. It happens," wrote one Redditor.

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"Unfortunately, this stuff happens. It kinda sucks she wasn't a bridesmaid for you anyway, just with a bit less involvement since she was pregnant. But letting the friendship drift? That's not just on you, that's on her too. You both let it drift and it's a natural thing, even though it's a bummer," added another.

"If not for social media I wouldn't keep in touch with or even know the whereabouts of most people! I know you probably don't go above and beyond with your friends with the expectation of reciprocation as a motivation but it's there somewhere in your mind," added a third.