(Closed) I'm so annoyed with the "when is the baby coming" comments

I have been married for one month. Thats is all and I have been asked the baby question I dont know how many times. It’s rather annoying. I’m 31 and husband is 30 so we are a bit older but we really dont have kids on our mind right now. We also just bought a house and want to focus on that before anything else. The most irritating thing was a family member of his said to us in the receiving line after our wedding “now you better have lots of babies” Like WTH we were only married for like 10 minutes when she said this!!! What do you say to those who ask these questions? Does this drive others nuts too? If I hear this one more time I’m going to scream so I better get my lungs prepared since I know this will be the questions we are going to be asked non stop..ughh

@sweetchiquita12: OMG, me too! I can’t stand it. We had people talking about it AT OUR RECEPTION. Like, seriously? One step at a time, people. I’ve just started smiling and making a vague comment like “We’ll see, we want to enjoy each other and our marriage first.” I mean I know my family and my IL’s are anxious for GK’s, but it’s still pretty rude. We’re planning on TTC within the next year, but even then, it’s no one’s business.

I think the older you get, the more anxious people get for you to have kids. Right now, my husband and I are 23, we’ve been wed for 6 months. No one is really concerned about us having kids right now; in fact everyone but my FIL says that they’re too young to be grandparents! (FIL wanted nietos yesterday hahaha). On the flipside, my cousin who just married in April, is 30, and his wife is 29. They’re being constantly asked about when are they going to conceive.

@sweetchiquita12: Yeah it annoys me too. I’m glad my mom isn’t like this. SO’s mom asked a couple Qs but didn’t pressure much last time we were visiting (they live in England). We’re not even married yet! It could be a lot worse, but yeah, I am totally taken offguard when people ask. It’s not my life dream to be a mother, you know? I want it as part of my life… when the time is right… which is not now! Lol.

We handed out fun guest book pages for people to fill out at our wedding a month ago and one of the questions was “Predict the name/date of first baby”. A TON of people said 9 months from the wedding day. And I’ve had a few friends ask/demand that we have a baby soon so they can babysit. We’re pretty young and I’m just starting grad school in the Fall, so it kind of irritated me, even though we both want children. Give us some time!

Thankfully I don’t have this problem. It’s the opposite- you don’t need kids, you’re still young! Which I agree with, so I’m cool with it, ha.

One bride I know though… Ugh. I seriously want to punch some people. Her younger sister is pregnant, and all anyone ever seems to talk about it how the bride will want to have kids right away. The younger sister is probably the worst offender about it too. But what does the bride want? To wait a few years, so she and her husband can settle down and start careers. And everytime someone suggests that she should try to get pregnant ASAP, I can see that she dies a little inside, like they’re invalidating their choice. If someone says that to her at the wedding, I don’t care who it is or how much I’ll rip my dress- that &*^@! is going down!

Not really, I’m a lover, not a fighter. But I would probably “trip” and spill punch on them.

That sounds super annoying. But if I was 31 my whole family would be asking when we’re having babies too. I’d get the “you’re not getting any younger talk” from all of the older tactless people. I would just ignore it.

@sweetchiquita12: Try telling them you aren’t having a baby – EVER! That’ll shut them up. For me it’s true but seriously, word will spread that *GASP* you aren’t having kids and then only the nosiest will prod. Everyone else will just talk behind your back. 🙂