We never like to see a "tip cup" on the bar at a hosted event like a New Jersey wedding, but this might be an exception that warms everyone's hearts and does some good in the world.Advise your bartenders that soliciting tips is not what you had in mind,and take care of them ahead of time. Then station a big brandy snifter (or dog bowl!) at the bar, and a photo or two from either Puppies Behind Bars, a wonderful charity that places puppies with prisoners who train them to be service dogs, Unicef, or any other cause that is dear to you. At the end of the celebration, you'll have a great donation,and you can bask in that warm glow that comes when you give to others.