In my last post, I mentioned that the Universe/God/Goddess/Divinity blessed me with a father-figure after releasing my biological father from my life. One of the things I love most about my “new dad” is that we always talk about spiritual mysteries and he always teaches me new spiritual wisdom and insights.

During a conversation this weekend, we talked about this new energy that has been flooding the planet this year. We talked about our experiences with it and how it’s a wee bit slippery. As my “dad” put it, “It can’t be activated.”

What he meant is that the old energy supported a more masculine way of living…doing…action…chasing…forcing…activating…triggering. We both commented that we were very familiar with this energy and knew how to use it effectively to manifest what we wanted or needed. And yet, this new energy doesn’t support those old patterns and ways of doing things.

For example, in the old energy I never had a doubt that I could accomplish what I intended to accomplish…I simply had to keep at it until I achieved the goal. The old energy supported and rewarded persistence and perseverance. It also supported a strong will. If I exerted my will towards something, I always attracted that to me. It was easy…get clarity on what I wanted and then exerted focused energy on it until I got what I wanted.

Not so any more. We both laughed at our frustrations now because we’re experiencing similar things. Whenever we exert any effort toward our desires, everything shuts down. It’s as though someone has pulled the power cord out of the socket and the engines halt suddenly…like the regenerative brakes on a Prius…it’s sudden and abrupt. The more we push our agendas and force things to happen, the more blocks we create for ourselves.

As my “dad” says, it’s a subtle energy that is powered from some mysterious force yet unknown. It comes through each person to guide us in our flow but this flow all depends on our complete surrender to it. And this is where things get a little tricky, for I like to still pretend I’m in control…or that I should DO something, or pursue something, or make something happen, or force the issue. When I give up completely and surrender to this unknown force, suddenly everything starts moving in the ways I want it to go…almost magically, and with delightful surprises.

But there’s another piece to this energy…a piece that we both are still trying to figure out. That this energy is cumulative. It’s slow and gentle to start with…almost imperceptible. But then, the more you surrender to it, the faster it grows in speed and intensity until it can be quite overwhelming. So then we shut it down in order to catch our breath…waiting until we’re ready for the next manifestation, and then the cycle begins again…blocks, halting beginnings, massive speeding, then abruptly shutting down.

So, if you too are learning to flow in this new way of life, trust that you are not alone…even the experts are having to learn how to do things all over again with new tools and new rules. I’m still not certain where that point of balance is, but I suspect that it has to do with our self-awareness in each moment, actively participating in creating our existence, and taking responsibility for each tweak along the way…like an aperture in a camera or an embouchure adjustment for volume and pitch.

We’ll all figure it out eventually…just keep trusting in your flow…surrendering and tweaking as needed. Oh…and have fun! 🙂

Yesterday’s solar eclipse was one of three eclipses. The series began with a lunar eclipse on April 25, continued with a solar eclipse yesterday, and will complete with another lunar eclipse on May 24th. This is the complement to the 2011 series that began on June 1st with a solar eclipse, continued with a lunar eclipse on June 15th, and completed with a solar eclipse on July 1st.

These series of releases and recalibration provide activations of lessons that have been completed. As these lessons are activated, our perceptions of life and our place in it changes dramatically. Suddenly, things that we once tolerated are no longer tolerable. Things that were mildly irritating are now deal breakers. And, most importantly of all, people are willing to risk more in order to take care of themselves.

But what is the purpose for all of this? Where are we heading, and why?

Of course there are many layers of answers to these questions, and I could never assume to know what they all are. All I can do is describe what I see and how my answers play out in some situations.

What I see is that co-dependency is crumbling. There are many definitions of co-dependency. Some people use a narrow definition of being physically dependent on a substance with the other person in the relationship being psychologically dependent on the resultant behavior. Other definitions include being fixated on another person for approval, sustenance, having needs met by that person or being needed by that person. Still others define it as placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others. In all definitions, the words “control” and “manipulation” are present.

In the past, there was a need for this pattern of interaction between people. Participating in this pattern ensured survival of life not only of self, but of the tribe, lineage, and power. Anyone who aligned him/herself to the most powerful person benefitted from the connection and often received special attention and recognition and protection. Therefore, the idea of thinking for one’s self or disagreeing with the leader or consensus was akin to suicide.

Energetically, what happened in these situations is that all the power and responsibility got mixed up. The only way a leader could be a leader is if the subjects agreed to give him/her access to their power sockets. The leader then energetically plugged into each of his/her subjects’ power sockets and took their power in order to feed his own power. The same happened with responsibility…the leader put some people in charge of other people and made the some people responsible for the other people, and he took on the responsibility for the some people. Pretty soon, no one was responsible or in control of themselves…it had all been given away to someone else.

Now imagine the conundrum of the situation. One person is now in charge of several people and is also responsible for controlling those people. This one person has to find a way to get the several people to do what he/she wants them to do because it’s the way of things. But, getting the several people to do what the one person wants is a tricky thing, because people have desires and wants and feelings and thoughts and wills and personalities, and all these things get in the way of them doing what the one person wants them to do. So, manipulation gets involved and one of the biggest tools in manipulation is convincing the several people that their needs are not as important or valuable as the one person’s. This is because the one person is actually “helping” the several people achieve their goals, so by setting aside their needs, the several people are actually benefitting and should be grateful for these benefits.

This all works well until someone doesn’t value the benefits received from the one person’s “helping.” Dissension arises, but because the one person is responsible for all the several people, the one person is pressured to bring everyone in line. So another form of manipulation is created…force, extortion, demands, threats, separation, torture, lies, distortion of reality, twisted logic, intimidation, or any of the many other ways that people have created in order to keep differing thoughts quiet and status quo achieved.

The only difficulty in this tactic is that when one person speaks up and defends him/herself, it causes others to consider the validity of that voice. Over time, a larger and larger contingency becomes dissatisfied with the “benefits” of the “helping” and begin to walk away, until the ruler has no one left to rule. And this is what is happening. Solar flares illuminate the areas where people are being controlled and manipulated, the lunar eclipses bring up emotions to release and heal and the solar eclipses release, heal and recalibrate…and then the cycle repeats.

So, as you move about the day today, you might feel as though parts of you are different…reactions are different…guilt isn’t where it once was…shame isn’t where it once was…your needs may not be what they once were. If you wish deeper support in this inevitable shift, I invite you to participate in this protocol:

We invite you to take a few deep breaths into your belly. We invite you to gather all of your energy and awareness out of the future with your inhale, and out of the past with your exhale into this present breath of now.

We invite the Sacred Masculine to create a safe and sacred healing space using the appropriate sacred geometric healing holograms, mandalas, sounds, and words that have the capacity to support you from a place of clarity, discernment, balance, empowerment, non-reactivity, personal responsibility, inner trust, inner control, the consciousness of abundance, protection, gentleness, grace, and ease. We invite the Sacred Feminine to fill the safe and sacred healing space with unconditional love, clarity, discernment, balance, empowerment, non-reactivity, personal responsibility, inner trust, inner control, the consciousness of abundance, protection, gentleness, grace, and ease.

We invite the Ascended Masters, your guides, Gaia, you from the future as an Ascended Master, and any other beings of love and light who wish to participate to gather now in this safe and sacred space around you.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields and the Guides to energetically locate all cords of control and responsibility that are on you but that don’t belong to you…a chief, a boss, a guide, a guru, a government, a church, a rabbi, imam, a pet, a spouse, children, parents…in all dimensions, incarnations, and lifetimes. We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to gently unplug all these cords from your plugs of power and responsibility and send them back to their right and perfect places along with all relevant and appropriate information. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields and the Guides to energetically locate all cords of control and responsibility that you have given to another…to a chief, to a boss, to a guide, to a guru, to a government, to a church, to a rabbi, to imam, to a pet, to a spouse, to children, to parents…in all dimensions, incarnations, and lifetimes. We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to gently unplug all these cords from outside of yourself, and bring them back to you, at the level of your Higher Self, cleansed, cleaned, and recalibrated for this present breath of now. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite your Guides, Gaia, and Ascended Masters to model to you, your body deva, and your team how to hold appropriate boundaries for yourself in order to protect your power and personal responsibility. As long as you hold your own control on you in your own plugs, no one else can plug in. As long as you are responsible for all aspects of your thoughts, words, and behaviors, no one else can plug in to control you.

We also invite your Guides, Gaia, and Ascended Masters to model to you, your body deva, and your team how to be in co-creative relationships with other people…with your boss, your romantic partner, your friends, your children, your pets, your parents, governments, businesses, churches, institutions…in all dimensions, incarnations, and lifetimes. We invite the highest frequency potential of you, from the future, to come into the past (the breath of now) and relay to you the information you need in order to move forward into the highest frequency potential of this lifetime. We invite your Higher Self to integrate and calibrate the information into your energy grids and blueprints and template for your life. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We ask that all reference points, all energy grids, personality grids, all ways of perceiving and being perceived in the world are updated. We ask that you are wrapped in sheets of rainbow light, gently sealing these vibrations in to whatever degree is appropriate to your spiritual evolutionary state. We are in deep gratitude for serving and assisting you in this healing meditation. We are in deep gratitude to Divinity and the angelic realm for serving and assisting in every breath and in every way. We are in deep gratitude to you for all that you do…consciously and unconsciously, seen and unseen…and for the courage you carry in your heart, for as you shift and evolve, you shift the Universe.

Living a life of awareness and compassion on this planet doesn’t mean that one is protected from pain or challenges. All it means is that one has tools with which to practice when such moments arise…for they will…because everyone is free to choose.

For much of humanity’s history on Earth, the response to a tragedy has been to create more tragedy…an eye for an eye. For those who actually experienced the tragedy this response is understandable…if a father lost a child he wants the killer to be killed. But what about those who didn’t actually experience the tragedy…they only heard about it or knew someone who had been involved? These people felt the pain of the situation and assumed that because they felt the pain, it was their responsibility to carry it. In time, people learned that by sharing pain, everyone’s burdens are lighter. At the time, this was appropriate and seemed to be the kind thing to do…the compassionate thing to do…the humane thing to do. And, this is still the present sentiment by many in society today…I feel your pain, therefore it must be mine to carry.

But are these the best responses to tragedy?

In Wilderness First Aid training, I was taught something vitally important: Never add to the tragedy by putting yourself, the responder, in danger; the emergency is not yours. This was a harsh pill to swallow at first because my instinct is always to help regardless of the consequences. I realized, however, that my instinctual response is one that doesn’t honor me at all. Rather it is a response that sacrifices me…but without the choice of sacrifice. This type of response is not honorable…it is foolish.

Similarly, when an emergency happens at a grand scale, it is natural for humanity to feel the pain of those who experienced it. This is called empathic sensitivity, and it is a gift. However, the previous coping pattern of carrying the emotional pain even if one didn’t experience the tragedy creates a society and consciousness that is all emotionally crippled and burdened…not just the ones who have experienced the tragedy. With the responders also damaged, very little help can be offered to anyone. This emotional pattern, while historically beneficial for survival is no longer honorable…it is foolish, and co-dependent.

I experienced this so startlingly when my father had a stroke. He was in a different country from me, and I had no way of communicating with anyone in his country to find out what was happening with him. When his siblings and cousins finally were able to make contact and learn more, I went into grieving mode. I imagined what it must be like to not be able to speak, or use my arms to type or write, or be able to walk or move on my own. Just the thought of it made me teary, so I was teary quite often. When a wise woman asked me the source of my tears, I told her. Her response shocked me: “Why are you grieving something you haven’t lost? You can still use your arms. You can still speak. You can still walk. This didn’t happen to you; this happened to him. Let him deal with the consequences…they aren’t yours.”

I was shocked. She was right. It didn’t happen to me. I could feel guilty about it, but it didn’t change the fact that it happened to him and not to me…the consequences were his journey…the lessons were his to learn…not mine. Nothing about the situation belonged to me. And yet, I could still feel the pain and the loss in the situation. I didn’t know what to do with those empathic sensations…they were so strong sometimes. How does one cope with these emotions in a co-creative way?

By holding space.

In holding space you aren’t invalidating another’s pain…neither are you being insensitive to your empathic sensations. By holding space, the emotions stay with whoever owns them, allowing that person to fully learn and experience all this situation offers. This experience belongs to the owner of the emotions…not to you. If you step in and take some of those emotions, you are robbing the other person of the opportunity to learn and grow, ultimately injuring and confusing you both. Learning and healing stops. By holding space, you are witnessing another’s journey and supporting him/her through the tangled web of emotions without carrying them on yourself. Holding space for another is the most honorable thing one person can do for another. It says, “I see you. I honor you. I know you can do this because you are powerful. I value you too much to interfere, but I admire you too much not to watch your magnificence.”

So how do you hold space?

First, and most importantly, shield yourself. It is much harder to assist another if your own emotions are clouded by those of others. Clean and clear and protect your own energetic space first, inviting your body deva and team to do the same.

Then ask the other person if he/she will allow you to hold space. If you don’t know the person or you have no way to physically contact him/her, ask his/her Higher Self for permission.

Next, invite Archangels Michael and Raphael, your team, and Guides to surround that person, that person’s team, and Guides with a safe and protected space so that he/she only has to contend with his/her experience.

Fourthly, infuse the safe and sacred space with unconditional love, support, acceptance, courage, tenderness, and compassion. Quan Yin, Mother Mary, and the Sacred Feminine embody these qualities and will always be willing to participate if you ask.

And finally, watch. Without judgement. Watch as this person faces and struggles through the challenge in front of him/her. It is awesome and breathtaking. Never interfere…simply keep the space safe and infused with supportive energies. Be present and aware of all this person experiences and notice the humility that comes when you witness some of the deepest and most intimately primal parts of this human in front of you. Honor this vulnerability. Honor the trust placed in you to witness this process. Honor the connection that occurs when the energy between you is clean and appropriate. But most of all, honor the love that brought you together for this very moment…so that your empathy could be used to truly help and heal and support, from a place of integrity and co-creation.

Yesterday, I left the house because I absolutely couldn’t stay inside and hide from the world any longer…I had to go to the bank. I knew that walking to the bank and back again would take all the energy and breath I had for the entire day, but the sun was out and the sky was blue, and I needed to soak up energy from somewhere, so I walked.

As I walked, I knew I was floating…surrealy disconnected from everyone and everything around me. I almost felt like a ghost myself, my rhythm being so slow compared to everyone else. Even others’ words were muffled…as though I was hearing them from underneath feet of water.

When I got to the bank, I walked straight up to the teller window, the teller being my favorite at the bank. She took one look at me and knew something had changed in my life and sincerely asked me what had happened. I was barely able to whisper a response to which she squeezed my hand and told me that her dog had transitioned three weeks before. I looked up at her for the first time, tears streaming down my face and, oddly enough, we both smiled.

“The first week is the hardest,” she said. “It doesn’t consume you forever, you know…it just feels like it will. Just breathe through it.”

I filled out the deposit slip and handed it to her. She looked down at it and then back at me. She pointed to the date I had written on the slip and asked, “Is this the day he died?” I suddenly realized that the moment Macavity’s heart had stopped, time stood still for me. Everything that has happened since then has been in a place of suspension…a time out of time…almost a parallel existence. I nodded and pulled the paper back to me to correct the date. As I did, I noticed that my internal clock slowly started to move…although it was moving according to a different time than before.

When all my business was complete, I walked home. As I walked under a tree, I stepped on its roots. I was shocked to feel a surge of energy shoot up through my feet and out through the top of my head. I turned to look at the tree and for a split second, I saw its soul. I said thank you and continued walking. As I walked, I looked at another tree, and again, for a split second, I saw its soul. Then suddenly, everything around me revealed their souls to me…all the trees, the plants, the flowers, the bushes, the cars, the buildings, the park benches…everything. In that moment, I became profoundly aware of the depth of life that exists on this planet…the vitality and movement and love that is constantly surrounding me. I became aware in a deeper way that I truly am never alone.

As I walked home, simultaneously experiencing a blissful state receiving life and love as well as a crushing heart of grief, I felt the pulse of the planet…Gaia’s heartbeat. A deep and primal throb…a different drummer than one I’ve ever previously experienced…the source of life itself. This was the time that was now surging through my body…the pulse that my internal clock was now calibrated to. This was the point of all existence…the point at which all creation and destruction, transformation and healing occurs…that edge on which we die only to be resurrected in a new form with new eyes and deeper perceptions.

This is the place I invite you to visit…this place of all that is. It requires a complete disconnect from all that you know, think, and organize your life with. It requires a deep and centered grounding within yourself…a mind that is shut off, and a heart that is raw and open and vulnerable. It requires honesty so pure and true that the brutality takes your breath away. It requires a complete surrender of self…of ego…of all that you know, love, and dream. In this place of complete nakedness, resting in the flow of life itself, you will feel this throb…this pulse…the source of life…the source of healing…the source of love. Calibrate your inner clock to this source. This is how to live in Divine Timing…that existence where your heart becomes one with Divinity…that dynamic where your desires meld with that of Source…that place where miracles happen as you move together in a unified cosmic dance with all of life…this is the life of co-creation.

Now that the heart has burst open, and you are filled with love from the inside out, the first thing you will probably want to do is give that love away. Because you are in such a blissful state, you probably won’t even care to whom you give that love…there’s so much of it that you just give it to the next person you meet.

This is great and it affects and benefits a lot of people in your path. It also is great because it will attract all kinds of people to you…from all walks of life, and all paths and points in spiritual development. No one is immune to the power of a full and abundant heart. But what happens when people start coming to you demanding more of that happy juice…people who have no idea how to do this for themselves, and may not be interested in learning. What happens when eventually there are more people asking for your love than you can supply? If you feel obligated or responsible for providing this love to them, you become depleted, and BAM! the heart shuts down again. After a time, you may be willing to repeat the process, and you do. Then you get to this point of bliss and it all cycles all over again.

Remember your shield? Put it up. And keep it up.

Remember how you filled your energy fields with just you? Keep doing that. Don’t allow any one else’s energy into your sacred space.

Now, look at all the love that you have fed yourself…to the point of bursting open and flowing over and out. How much extra do you really have? Honestly? None. That overflowing love is for you! You did the work…you cultivated the space and nurtured yourself. Why does that then mean that others can take it or even should have any of what you’ve created for you? Are you so strong and powerful that only you can support and provide this love for others? Are others so weak and incapable that they cannot do the same for themselves? Of course not!

So, move yourself back into energetic integrity by pulling all your energy off others and back to your Divine Line…including your love energy and other good juju juice. Return all pieces and responsibilities back to their right and perfect place, where they have the capacity to be received, along with all relevant and appropriate information. Update all reference points, personality grids, all ways of being, perceiving, and being perceived.

Now, go into your Divine Line. Find that source spring of love within the Divine Line. Let it fill you up fully and completely until you are buzzing from head to toe with love. Yes, there is more there, but it’s for you. Don’t give it away.

Reflect it.

You could imagine turning your Divine Line into a mirror, or turning your love into an oscillating beam of love light similar to a lighthouse. Whatever it is you need to do to imagine a reflection radiating out from your Divine Line, do it. Once you figure out this mechanism, always keeping the actual love and the source of the love safe within your sacred space, start reflecting it out on to the world. You can reflect it onto money to heal any challenging relationships you may have with money, you can reflect it on your car or other machinery or electronics to start their energy fields to also hold more love, you can reflect it on to your relationships so that they start receiving, giving, modeling more co-creative love…the possibilities are endless.

When others come to you, wanting this yummy love stuff that you seem to have so much of, reflect it to them. By doing this, you stay in energetic integrity AND you are showing others how to do this for themselves. By showing others how to do it for themselves, you stay out of spiritual arrogance (only I can do this for you), and you empower others to do for themselves, which is really what they want…they’re just trying to get information from you on how to do this. In this energetic stance, you have just created a win-win for everyone, which is what co-creation is all about.

Keep in mind that many people will have no idea that they are seeking information from you…that they really do want to be empowered at a soul level. Most people are so comfortable with others doing things to them and for them that they will actually be unhappy with you for not continuing that pattern with them. Some might actually spew some rather nasty and hurtful words. If they do, just keep loving yourself…showing this person how to do it for him/herself…and then move on. You’ve just given that person some information by modeling right energy to him/her, and you’ve kept your own sacred space in tact.

Now you’re ready to be incognito…living a 5th dimensional reality within the 3rd dimension. What this means is that as you move through your daily life, every breath is an opportunity to model right energy…to the planet, to people, to the animal kingdom, to the plant kingdom, to whomever needs the information. You don’t have to say a word…in fact, for a while it’s probably best if you don’t say anything to anyone for they won’t understand a word you say. But they’ll feel you, and feel that you are different…simply in how you walk past someone on the sidewalk, or drive past someone on the freeway. Use these moments as opportunities to teach…to model self-love and energetic integrity and personal responsibility. In this way, your shifts heal the world…and the Universe.

The sixth step in opening the heart is to fully and completely attach to your self and your Divine Line.

Think back on all those beliefs and habits that came up around love…who is responsible for loving you, who you are responsible for loving, what love is, what someone will do for you if he/she loves you, what you will do for someone if you love him/her…etc. Feel into the attachment that accompanies those beliefs…that connection that exists because you put your energy outside of yourself and on to another person. Then feel the want that is present because you are seeking to fulfill a need outside of yourself through another person…the want for that person to do what you want him/her to do.

Now…lift all of that attachment and energy up and off of that person or that situation or that responsibility, and bring its intensity into your Divine Line…for you. Whatever responsibility you felt to love a parent who continually mistreated you, feel that same depth of responsibility for loving yourself. Whatever responsibility you felt for loving a partner because of a vow and a piece of paper, feel that same depth of responsibility for loving yourself. Whatever responsibility you feel another should do to demonstrate his/her love for you, feel that same depth of responsibility for demonstrating that love to yourself.

And now you’re tapping into one of the deepest mysteries of all…that of meeting your own needs from within. Everyone has needs…they demonstrate the existence of an emotional nature. If I’m afraid to go meet new people, that demonstrates a need for safety. If I can go within and find that place of pure safety in my Divine Line, and reference my needs for safety to be met there rather than externally, now I can meet anyone and not be afraid.

When it comes to the heart space, what are your needs? When you feel loved, what needs are met for you? When you don’t feel loved, what needs are not being met for you and where are you expecting them to be met? A good beginning list for these needs can be found here. Rather than looking for your needs to be met outside of your Divine Line, locate the solution IN your Divine Line. Feel it there…fully and completely. And then watch as your need is met in a short period of time, allowing you the energy and freedom to go and do as you wish.

And then remember that you are not your body. Your body has a separate consciousness from your spirit. Therefore, when you love your self, you are loving only your Divine Line and the light essence that exists in that tube of light. That’s it. You are not responsible for loving your body. That’s your body’s responsibility, and only your body’s responsibility. It is not your lover’s or spouse’s or boyfriend or girlfriend’s responsibility to love your body…only your body’s. The more you love your light in your Divine Line, the more you model to your body how to love his/herself.

After a few months of loving your self and committing and attaching to your Divine Line, you will notice an interesting shift…you are beginning to realize that you don’t need to look outside of yourself for anything. Your desire for drama and co-dependent relationships are waning drastically, and holding your boundaries from a place of love is becoming easier and easier…because you are first loving your essence and your light. It feels so good to be in that space of peace and joy and love, that you don’t want to allow anyone or anything into that space to mess it up…even if others try to force themselves into this beautiful, protected space.

Others may react strongly to this change in you…this not letting others into your sacred inner space of peace and love, and this is just fine. You may need to walk away from relationships with those people, but remember that by modeling self-love, you are now giving those people permission to also love themselves. They may not have enough pieces to make any kind of change for quite a while (many lifetimes), but that doesn’t matter. Stay on your path, love yourself, and attach to yourself…to the degree and stronger that you were doing for others and on others.

Then, you will soon find yourself surrounded by others who also love themselves and are attached to their journeys. Because you don’t need anything from each other, you are free to engage with each other in collaborative and appreciating ways…in other words, co-creation. Your relationships will be deeper and richer, more full of love and acceptance and fun and freedom because rather than being built on an energy of grasping and clinging and needing and wanting, they are built on a foundation of fullness from within.

And when the heart is full, it bursts open, alive with a magnificent beauty that is unique to only you.

When the heart is full, it leaks. It doesn’t just ooze out, it flows out, flooding the world around you with your abundance of love and joy and peace and radiance.

When the heart is full, it is a magnet…drawing people to you in the most magical and synchronistic of ways.

When the heart is full, miracles happen…mountains move…your dreams manifest.

The fifth step in opening the heart space is learning to discern between want and love.

This isn’t as easy as it sounds. On one hand, some of us have learned the important financial consumer lessons of separating needs from wants…the requirements for life vs. the desires in life. But this isn’t an easy lesson to learn, nor are these two categories mutually exclusive. What is a need for one person is a want for another. Regular evaluation and connection within is necessary to keep this lesson in constant action.

The same is true for discerning between want and love. Most of history and society touts love and epic romance as the heightening tension between a man and a woman which ultimately dissolves when they come together in some way…a passionate kiss, a memorable night, a grand gesture of some kind. This is not love…it’s want. At its basest level, it’s lust and perversion. And yet, this is what we are taught that love is…the distracted, obsessive wanting of another at the expense of everything else.

What comes along with this wanting is attachment…because want, at its very core, carries the energy of imposition or control or domination. I want it my way when I want it and how I want it. I want this so much that I will do everything I can to make this thing happen…cajoling, charming, insincerity, lying, manipulating, passive aggression, brutality, war. Or, I want this person so much that I will do everything I can to make this person want me back. Many people experience this to the extreme that if he/she doesn’t want me back, I don’t want to live. Or worse yet, I don’t want them to live if they want someone else. With wanting and attachment, there is never a consideration for the other person or his/her wants or needs or hopes or dreams or life…only yours. This is not love. Not even if the mutual wanting results in you both being happy.

True love is freedom…free because one is first complete within before engaging with other…on any level. The natural result of this is that the other person is then free to be who he/she is because there is no attachment or need stemming from you to him/her. True love is not reliant on another person, a circumstance, a place, or a thing…only self. True love is being so filled up with joy and wonder at the beauty of your soul and the life you live that it spills out onto those around you…attracting them to you like bears to honey.

From this place, there is no need or desire to attach to another or control or dominate another. There is simply space for everyone to co-exist in his/her own joy and wonderment with life…as partners…as co-creators. From this space of true love, you can truly see the other person for who he/she is…flaws and all…without judgement…with only love and appreciation. There is no desire to change the person…rather, there is simply an understanding that either we are compatible or we are not. Either way, true love is still there giving room for all to exist together.

These next three days are the waning days of the moon’s cycle, and the last new moon of the astrological cycle…in astrological terms, it’s similar to New Year’s Eve. The energy of this weekend will really support you in any introspective work you chose to do and any intentions you set for moving forward in new and higher ways after Mercury Retrograde. So, I invite you this weekend to set the intention to notice areas where you have confused want with love…to listen to the stories you tell about love and being loved and loving others. In particular, I invite you to examine the belief around the responsibility that another has to love you…or that you have a responsibility to love another. In truth, the only responsibility we have is to love ourselves. Loving another is an icing-on-the-cake experience as a result of inner overflow, but it’s never a responsibility. I also invite you to really examine your beliefs around love, what you think it is, what you think it should be, and what you think you know it to be, and select those beliefs which you wish to carry with you into the future.

Wishing you a supportive, safe, and courageous weekend, and sending you gratitude for all that you do in the world…seen and unseen. For as you shift, you shift the Universe.

Just like when others leave pieces with you, you leave pieces with others…every time you have an emotional encounter with someone. Remember, emotions are tricky things, and you may not even be aware that it was an emotional encounter…particularly if your heart space is frozen and shut down. Every time you are angry or frustrated or feel safe or have sex with someone, you experience an emotion that is tied to that person. Interestingly, these pieces don’t even have to be limited to the person directly involved in the encounter…it can also involve any witnesses to the encounter. They too have pieces of you.

Even if you clear out your energetic heart space of everyone and everything that doesn’t belong to you or no longer participating in your greatest happiness, keeping your pieces on others can still cause significant amounts of pain. By keeping your pieces on another, you are allowing yourself to feel what that person is feeling, and experiencing what that person is experiencing. However, there are a few challenges with this:

You can’t change how another person is feeling just so that you can feel better. So as long as your pieces are with another person, and that person is unhappy or filled with drama, you will feel all of it and are powerless to change it.

How another person feels or what that person experiences is his/her journey…not yours. By putting your pieces on another person you are essentially reading his/her diary or emails without his/her permission. What that person needs to experience is only for that person in order for that person to learn those lessons. You have your own experiences to experience and lessons to learn.

As long as you feel what belongs to another, you will always be confused as to what belongs to you and how you feel. This will lead to attempting to find solutions outside of yourself rather than internally where the best solutions for you exist.

Even though it might feel safe and wonderful and familiar, keeping your pieces on others in order to feel energetically connected to those people is a pattern that supports co-dependence. In order for win-win situations to occur, everyone must be in an energetic space that is clearly just theirs, which supports personal power and personal responsibility. Only with this pattern can co-creation occur.

We invite you to take a few deep breaths into your belly. We invite you to gather all of your energy and awareness out of the future, and out of the past into this present breath of now. We call forth the Ascended Masters, your guides, you from the future as an Ascended Master to gather now in this safe and sacred space around you. We invite your Higher Self, your body deva’s Higher Self to actively connect and engage with your own healing source, your own spiritual power, to connect with all aspects of your being. We call forth the appropriate sacred geometric healing holograms and mandalas that have the capacity to support you from a place of compassion, tenderness, gentleness, clarity, discernment, balance, empowerment, non-reactivity, personal responsibility, inner trust, inner control, self-love, the consciousness of abundance, protection, grace, ease and integrity. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields, the guides, and Gaia to energetically locate all pieces from your heart that you have left with others, with relationships, with children, with parents, with institutions, with places, with religions, with events, in all dimensions and all lifetimes. We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to hold a space of compassion, tenderness, and gentleness for the tender and painful places of the heart. We invite your Higher Self to nurture you in those moments in the highest and best way for your deepest healing and greatest happiness. We invite your heart space to be gently cleansed and repaired, removing anything that will prevent your pieces from returning to you. We invite you at the level of your Higher Self to gently lift all those pieces up and off all people, places, events, and institutions in all lifetimes and all dimensions, bringing them back to your Divine Line at the level of your Higher Self…cleansed, cleaned and recalibrated for this present breath of now. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields, the guides, and Gaia to bring in the appropriate templates, maps, and thought-forms for integrating these pieces. We invite these templates, maps, and thought-forms to be infused with your greatest potential, your greatest happiness, and your life’s purpose, inviting the returned and remaining pieces to reconfigure and align to these highest intentions. We invite you body deva and your team to do the same.

We ask that all reference points, all energy grids, personality grids, all ways of perceiving and being perceived in the world are updated. We ask that you are wrapped in sheets of rainbow light, gently sealing these vibrations in to whatever degree is appropriate to your spiritual evolutionary state. We are in deep gratitude to the angelic realm for serving and assisting in every breath and in every way. We are in deep gratitude to you for all that you do in all realms and all dimensions, seen and unseen, and for the courage you carry in your heart…for as you shift, heal, and evolve, you shift the Universe.

When something has ended or completed, that something may have been such a large part of your life that it’s hard to comprehend all the ways you are enmeshed with it. If, for example, you break up with a long-time intimate partner, you may know you don’t want to get back together, but you have trouble accepting the new person in his/her life. Or, a family member transitions out of this dimension, and even after many years have passed, something will trigger a memory of that person and a flood of tears and a fresh feeling of pain will wash over you.

These experiences often happen because there still remains a tie between you and the other person or situation. Often, as painful as it is to keep that connection, the thought of releasing connection is more painful, so we hold on to whatever remnant piece we can cling to.

When we do this, we hold everyone back…the other person or persons, or a particular situation…as well as ourselves. We fill our energetic hands with so many dead connections…connections that have completed and no longer will bring us life and abundance…that life cannot come to us, for we do not have the capacity to receive it. By releasing the connections in this dimension, we make room for new ones, full of life, love, joy, abundance, and our greatest happiness. This is not to say that these people or situations didn’t bring us happiness…for they did, otherwise we wouldn’t cling to them so ferociously. At one point in time, they were exactly what our souls desired…and the Universe responded by bringing it to us.

Now, it is time to release those things in order to receive the next set of blessings our souls have requested. This doesn’t mean we won’t feel or experience those people or situations again…simply that an obligatory and tying connection will no longer exist.

We invite you to take a few deep breaths into your belly. We invite you to gather all of your energy and awareness out of the future, and out of the past into this present breath of now, pulling yourself deep into your Divine Line. We call forth the Ascended Masters, your guides, Archangels Michael and Raphael, Ganesh, you from the future as an Ascended Master to gather now in this safe and sacred space around you. We invite your Higher Self, your body deva’s Higher Self, to actively connect and engage with your own healing source, your own spiritual power, to connect with all aspects of your being. We call forth the appropriate sacred geometric healing holograms and mandalas that have the capacity to support you from a place of clarity, discernment, balance, empowerment, non-reactivity, personal responsibility, inner trust, inner control, self-love, the consciousness of abundance, protection, gentleness, grace, and integrity. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields, Archangels Michael and Raphael, Ganesh, and the guides to energetically locate all vows, promises, contracts, responsibilities, and obligations that you have made with another person, system, institution, situation, project, animal, plant, and planet in all dimensions and all lifetimes. We invite you to express gratitude for all the blessings, wisdom, lessons, opportunities, and love that these connections brought to you. We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with Archangels Michael and Raphael to gently dissolve all vows, promises, contracts, responsibilities, and obligations that no longer serve you from a place of love, abundance, joy, and your greatest happiness…activating the seed of wisdom residing within the connection that has now completed, and returning it to you at the level of your Higher Self, cleansed, cleaned, and recalibrated for this present breath of now. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the energetic fields, the Archangels Michael and Raphael, Ganesh, and the guides to energetically locate all all vows, promises, contracts, responsibilities, and obligations that another person, system, institution, situation, project, animal, plant, and planet has made with you in all dimensions and all lifetimes. We invite you to to express gratitude for all the blessings, wisdom, lessons, opportunities, and love that you offered to these connections, and the service you so willingly gave. We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with Archangels Michael and Raphael to gently dissolve all vows, promises, contracts, responsibilities, and obligations that no longer serve you from a place of love, abundance, joy, and your greatest happiness that another has made with you, sending the seed of wisdom residing within the connection back to its right and perfect place, where it has the capacity to be received, along with all relevant and appropriate information. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We invite you, at the level of your Higher Self, to work with the Archangels, Ganesh, the energetic fields, and the guides to bring in new templates of support for connection from a place of freedom co-creation, collaboration, acceptance, unconditional love, equality, personal responsibility, abundance, joy, and energetic integrity. We invite these templates to align to your soul’s sound, wisdom, mastery, and purpose, receiving the appropriate information for this new path that is being created for you in your greatest happiness. We invite you to hold all of the energy of the vows, promises, contracts, responsibilities, and obligations that you have made with another person, system, institution, situation, project, animal, plant, and planet from all dimensions and all lifetimes in these new templates…using that energy on you and for you…vowing and committing to you and your sacred evolution. We invite your body deva and your team to do the same.

We ask that all reference points, all energy grids, personality grids, all ways of perceiving and being perceived in the world are updated. We ask that you are wrapped in sheets of rainbow light, gently sealing these vibrations in to whatever degree is appropriate to your spiritual evolutionary state. We are in deep gratitude to the angelic realm for serving and assisting in every breath and in every way. We are in deep gratitude to you for all that you do…seen and unseen…and for the courage you carry in your heart…for as you shift and evolve, you shift the Universe.

As the frequency and amount of light continues to pour onto the planet, people will begin to see quite clearly all the areas in their lives that are out of integrity…ways they are hiding, or lying, or denying, or ignoring themselves and blaming it on others. As these patterns come to light some people may feel overwhelmed and stuck…uncertain what to do, what to say, or how to even think.

Many people will feel these energies to such a degree that they will become desperate for answers and solutions…so much so that they will allow anyone with any hint of confidence to take their power and tell them what to do. To be fair, this is a pattern that has existed for hundreds of generations. It is a pattern that has allowed a certain kind of order and structure in the world and societies. In many ways, it is this pattern that has kept humanity alive in some very difficult times. So, it is completely understandable that this pattern is the default for most people…to ask people to suddenly take full responsibility for their lives and shift to a co-creative way of thinking, living, and behaving is a rather unrealistic expectation. And yet, that is what the energy is asking humanity to do…hence the struggle, confusion, disorientation, and desperation.

As a step, I would like to invite you to become aware of this pattern in your life…the pattern of co-dependence. Where do you look to another to solve your problems? When do you expect others to do things for you or provide things for you or treat you a particular way? How do you go about finding answers to the questions that resound in your soul…do you seek the answers in others or within yourself? I ask these questions, not to criticize, for that energy is not helpful. I ask these questions simply to bring awareness to patterns within your life…that is all. Once awareness has been achieved, even if it’s five days after an event, you can begin to start shifting this pattern.

We call upon the Sacred Masculine and Sacred Feminine, Ascended Masters, Archangels, Guides, High Frequency Elementals, High Frequency Fairies, the Animal Kingdom, the Plant Kingdom, Gaia, your soul family, your team, you from the future as an Ascended Master to gather now in this safe and sacred space. We invite you to connect to your Higher Self, your own spiritual wisdom, mastery, tools, and power. We invite your body deva and team to do the same.

We invite your body deva and team, at the level of their Higher Selves, to bubble up the essence of their soul…that specific frequency pattern, that unique exquisite light. We ask that they hold this essence in integrity…remembering who they are and where they come from. We invite the Ascended Masters and Archangels to help them remember if they have forgotten.

We invite you to consciously pull yourself into you Divine Line…that tube of light that sits on the front of your spine. Pull all your energy off of everyone and everything, in all dimensions and lifetimes and time-space continuums. We invite you to pull your energy up out of the lower frequency existences, releasing all responsibility for shifting those planes. We invite you to at the level of your Higher Self to work with the energetic fields and the guides to energetically locate all of your power, wisdom, mastery, tools, and responsibilities that you have given to others…in all dimensions and all lifetimes. We invite those to be gently brought back to you at the level of your Higher Self, cleansed, cleared, and recalibrated. We invite the body deva and team to do the same.

We invite the body deva and team to model to you, in your Divine Line, how to locate your essence…to remember who you are and where you come from…to repair and reconnect to your spiritual power, wisdom, mastery, tools, support, and lessons that you have acquired. We invite you to feel into this space for solutions for whatever issue is facing you at the present moment. Feel the solution by imagining what it would feel like to have the issue resolved. Express gratitude for the resolution that already exists. Then amplify that energy’s frequency…reflecting this solution out onto your energetic grids and to your body deva. We invite your body deva to do the same…reflecting the solutions to its energetic grids and to your soul at the level of your Higher Self.

We then invite your team to create a reminder with you and your body deva…something that will trigger the memory of this moment of empowerment for those times when you feel overwhelmed and confused. Invite your team to be very clear in communicating this trigger to you so that you will know exactly what it is when it happens. When it does, remember to express gratitude…not only for remembering the trigger, but for the solution that already exists and is being manifested in this dimension. then invite the Universe to send you confirmation and encouragement that you’re on the right path.

We invite you to update all reference points, all personality grids, all ways of being, perceiving and being perceived in the world. We wrap you in sheets of rainbow fairy dust and light, gently sealing in these vibrations to whatever degree is appropriate to your spiritual evolutionary state. We are in deep gratitude to the angelic, elemental, earth realms for serving and assisting in every breath and every way. We are in deep gratitude to you for the courage you carry in your heart and for all that you do…seen and unseen…for as you shift, you shift humanity.