ONE teenager has been left feeling uncomfortable after her boyfriend confessed to being attracted to a girl she knows.

We were being honest with one another. Boy, was that a big mistake! I said no one but he does fancy someone else and even said her name.

The worst thing is, she’s a friend of a friend. He assured me it’s just a physical attraction and that he’s with me so I don’t need to worry, but now I feel really uncomfortable.

I’m certainly not going to be able spend time with this girl if he’s around. I’m starting to think that honesty is not always a good thing. Perhaps it would have been better to stay ignorant of his feelings.

Shirley, 13

OF course, you don’t want a lad who’s dishonest, but there’s a big difference between lying and being too truthful.

We all have private thoughts that aren’t always for sharing and when you start a relationship it doesn’t automatically switch off your attraction to others.

The key isn’t literal honesty, but that your promises matter. If he says he finds another girl attractive, does that really count so long as he likes you more and lives up to the commitment he’s made to you?

Can you tell me that since you met him you haven’t checked out any other lads at all?

The time to start worrying is if you find evidence that he’s crossed a line and cheated on you (or even just tried to). Until then, I’m afraid you can’t change what’s basic human nature.