Every place has its drawbacks but bigger and growing places have lots more dating opportunities than smaller, declining places. It's not because the grass is greener elsewhere. A diverse big metro area offers tons of ways for you to live your life in different social circles, different lifestyles from urban to semi-rural. There are tons of ways you could meet other people that share your interests. A big metro area is also more likely to offer good career opportunities, but this depends on what your line of work is. Of course a support network will be lacking initially after you relocate, so you'll do better if you're naturally good at making new friends and adjusting to new ways of doing things.

I lived in central Illinois during my college years and wasn't exposed much to a big city like Chicago. When I moved to San Francisco Bay Area for grad school it was quite a cultural shock and I had a hard time adjusting socially; I could say that I was too boring for the average people here so they were too busy for me. After living here for nearly 2 decades I wouldn't dream of living anywhere else, its diversity, opportunities, and quality of life is top-notch in the whole world.

Ditto. I have a bunch of friends who have criss-crossed the country dating the "perfect men" they have met online. They always turn out to be just like everyone else. I don't know if it's misrepresentation or projection -- probably both.

Lord, thank you, for all the travelling I've done and for finding out that there is grass no matter where I live, and if I look for just the right spot, it is just as green.Thanks, too, for making me a sucker for foreign accents and providing me with 'itchy feet'.

Living in a big city in London is great because you can meet lots of amazing men in all sort of different, er, 'scenarios'. The only problem being that a lot of them think something better is just round the corner.

And with the internet, I've found that a lot of guys are just window shopping and never have any intention of meeting up with you.

The last time I dated and sleep with a Western guys is 18 years ago. All the bf I have after that are fellow asian. Lately I have some curiosity about it. It must be nice to dated or even sleep with this white/black men like I use to do when I was in college. I'll be going to Australia next month. Who know who I be meeting or what kinda adventure waiting me there.

With respect to RealJock, the guys on here have already self-selected themselves to be at least attractive to one another because of common interest. In addition, our common interest, physical fitness, usually leads to bodies/guys who are attractive. So it's easy to find "friends" here.

I agree that it's not logical that any one area has a disproportionate number of great guys. They are all over (but most are taken, sigh!!! :-) ).

I am sure that right in my backyard there are guys like the guys I have struck up friendships here on RJ scattered across the country. However, there's no venue to meet them so easily...as is the case with this website.

NYC has nutballs, but still a great city and fairly easy to meet men. I think common interest groups work better than bars,clubs and the internet. I heard a funny stement- "even satan can be good on the first few dates." It is important no matter where you live to try and quickly week out the liars, losers, fakes, wanna b's, trolls and the rest of the undesirables. In my opinion, there are so many people here there is someone for everyone! How you act has a direct effect on who you attract! Good Luck>

Grass is especially green when you look at it online, probably photoshopped!

Online quality can be faked, we're talking about real guys you meet face to face. There are no doubt more quality guys in bigger metro areas. There are also more nutballs, and more people who don't want to commit because of all the temptations. The question is whether you have the awareness that gets pass all the nutballs, the shoppers, the voyeurs, ... etc. and do what it takes to be around quality guys. You do need to not limit yourself to the immediate neighborhood in the big metro area you move to, sometimes whole neighborhoods are populated exclusively by certain personalities. You may have to take the metro or drive for 20-30 miles to meet up with someone. But as GOJock and Mikemikemike said, there's plenty to go around.

I had a GREAT time in NYC. Lots of men to choose from and 75% were extremely hot. Now I could be exaggerating because it was my first time being out in gay clubs with my gay friends that lived up there so I was pretty damn mesmerized by all the pretty boys... I bet if I lived up there it would get old eventually, but I had the time of my life, I had some hot guys flirt with me, buy me drinks, and I even went home with this HOT bartender... ahhhhhh, NYC. How I miss thee. And it's only a 7.5 hour drive from where I'm at now in NC! :-)