Your Child and Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is two weeks away and it’s likely the buzz has started at your child’s school. While this day traditionally involves love, romance, and Cupid’s arrow, for most children in school it is less about romance and more about doing something special for their peers, such as sharing cards or candy. So, what’s appropriate for your child to give other children at school? That depends on the age and school level of your child.

For grade-school children, classes usually throw a little party where it is completely appropriate for children to give home-made or store-bought cards or candy to their classmates. However, it is important to remember that if your child is participating in this activity, they need to get a card or candy for everyone in the class, so no one is left out.

Middle school and high school can be a little trickier as friendship boundaries begin to blur. Cards and candy may still be appropriate. Often times, these schools will offer Valentine-grams that can be secretly sent to other students. This is a great way for the school to raise money. On the other hand, gifts and flowers are not appropriate and should be given outside of school. For the most part, Valentine’s Day is a quick holiday and is over once the cards are handed out and candy is eaten. It is important to keep in mind the age of your child when it comes to helping them with ideas for their classmates. If you are unsure whether something your child wants to do is appropriate, it probably isn’t. Contact your child’s teacher or school if you have any questions.

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