10 Steps to Catch a Cheating Partner

If you are suspicious your partner may be cheating, your gut instinct may be correct but it is best not to confront them until you have enough proof to get a confession. One practical tip to catch a cheater is to imagine how she or he will respond to your accusations before you blurt out something you may regret. Will they be in denial or claim that it was just a harmless flirtation or will they blame you for over reacting? Knowing your partner’s reactions in advance will help you to catch them and make them accountable for their actions.

1. Look at their cell phone for personal texts and numbers you don’t recognize. Then write down the numbers so that you can check them a week later to see if they continue to show up. This is hard evidence of a connection but not necessarily of having sex. However, if you see sexting with explicit descriptions of how they hadsex together, it’s a pretty good indication they were doing more than just fantasizing.

2. Keep a Cheating Journal of your partner’s activities that include all the excuses he or she used to be home late or attend events that you were not invited to. A cheateroften trips up when they change their story and forget what they lied about, sokeeping an organized journal with dates, places and times can be key to catching a cheater.

3. Surprising a cheating partner is one of the scariest notions for them, so showing up unexpectedly at his or her work, coming home early or coincidentally going to the same restaurant for lunch can trap a cheater red handed.

4. A paper trail is always good evidence, so check out your partner’s credit card statements, phone bill, mileage receipts and bank withdrawals to see if he or she is straying.

5. You can hide a voice activated recorder in your partner’s car to listen to conversations he or she has with their passengers.

6. If your partner spends more time on the computer than with you, you may want to invest in some computer monitoring software that will enable you to see everything he or she does online.

7. You can track your partner’s exact location 24 hours a day by putting a GPS tracking device in his or her vehicle.

8. Planting a hidden camera in your partner’s bedroom while you are out of town can reveal everything you were afraid to ask and more than you really wanted to know.

9. Doing some background checking by talking to your partner’s friends and exes to find out if he or she has cheated before can save you a lot of time, effort, money and heartache.

10. If all else fails and you are desperate to find out if your partner is cheating, you can hire a professional private investigator that will follow him or her and bring you back the evidence you need to give you peace of mind or confront your cheating partner.

This is an excerpt from The Loveologist Guide to Cheating by De. Ava Cadell. Visit The Loveology University Bookstore to find a wealth of resources, including e-books and audiobooks, to help you have a richer and more fulfilling sex life. For more information on cheating, see this page.