How to shirk the marriage issue

A marriage is a union of two people in love who commit to spend the rest of their lives together in holy matrimony. Who will be with each other in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, till death to them part. If the above lines have sent shivers up your spine it is time to pause and rethink. Do you really want to get married?

She’s made up her mind that she wants to get married, have kids, she might be under pressure from her family, she might be afraid of being alone, but those are all her reason and not yours. You’ve got the guts of a gladiator if you think you can tell a girl you’re dating that you don’t want to marry her. Really, whoever said marriages were made in heaven was watching a chick-flick at that point (she might have been inspired by one)

"I haven't felt like this about any other girl before and I care about you, but I want us to get to know each other well-enough first and wait at least another year and then we can talk about taking the next step." This will let her know you still care, that you’re considering it and you’ve given her a time frame. She now has her own made up calendar but at least she will be off your back for a while.

Use the career excuse. Tell her who have set goals you want to meet, that you haven’t achieved all that you wanted, that you would like to be earning enough and then marry a girl for whom who you would like to provide and meet all her whims and fancies, pamper and love her. Women want to be assured that they’re marrying a man who is independent and financially stable. No, she’s not a gold digger but ideally she wants to be with a man who has his career path set. It gives her stability.

Mock the friend who is going to get married. Use this opportunity to make jokes about the poor fellow. You don’t need to be brash and call it slave drive, but tell her that you’re so happy with her that you don’t need a pomp, and show of a marriage to proclaim to the world that you love her. She will get the hint that you don’t want to get married but the assurance that you really love her. Be careful with this one, shelf-life is very low.

If she can't handle all of this please, just move on - and don't get married.