It's really sad and downright awful, when someone can ruin an experience like getting back into the "dating-realm" for you with thier childlike pscycho behavior. When you make a decision to end a dating relationship because the guy begins acting a little bizarre. I ended a solely dating relationship. Now, I get angry e-mails, I've had to block his IM's, there's phone calls at all hours of the night and morning with nothing but dead air-space and breathing on the other end! It's insane, all because I said friends only and I have no time for the nonsense.

when a person ends a relationship if it is not a mutual parting i have found that if the person ending it doesnt explain why it often gets messy. It leaves the other person angry because they have this need to know before they can move on. There are also the ones who dont want to move on and cause merry hell even if you explain why as they maybe insecure and they see it as a rejection. How often do men end a relationship suddenly and not say why and just blatantly shut the person out as if they never existed? They then wonder why the woman gets angry with them and no matter how much she contacts the man looking for answers he just ignores her. Men hate it when a woman does it to them and they tend to react the worst because they are used to being in control.

I have been single for 4 yrs by choice until recently as i now want to venture into a relationship but I was shocked at how many men are so rude to women on the net. If I say no i get a barage of abuse, if i say yes they end up messing me around and when i see how men treat other women its actually putting me off.

when they send you every wink mm makes,
some how they figure out how to IM mesg. send to you
and then another member tells them where you work or live and they show up...
Now that is what I call extreme...
lol...
and has happened to me...
in not any certain order...
and yes,
bingo,
they were not what I was looking for...

Wow i am a common sociopath, I have a unlaborated concience my concience does not have holes in it, I am not ashamed of the things I do, I'm not sure what you do, so I can't compare myself to your behaivor, but I know I am never ashamed of my behaivor, I am the type of person who believes life should be lived to the fullest, I find delight, magic, pleasure, and yes I would prefer to be gratified, but I am always grateful for everything small and large. I suppose I don't follow all the rules, but everyone has a whole list of them it's hard to know all of them, and they change so frequently. And yes I do have a happy life, I have a completely unburdend or negative image or selfworth. I have not had a job, job in over 14 years, to add to the corporate machine, I simply have a not for profit, which I fund soley, doing interactive motivational workshops with at risk kids, where they get to decide what kind of person they want to be, so no matter what job they end up in janitor,mother, Ceo, or teacher, they will be the best because they have a undburdened, positive sense of self value and selfworth, am I contributing to a mass generation of common sociopaths?

Wow i am a common sociopath, I have a unlaborated concience my concience does not have holes in it, I am not ashamed of the things I do, I'm not sure what you do, so I can't compare myself to your behaivor, but I know I am never ashamed of my behaivor, I am the type of person who believes life should be lived to the fullest, I find delight, magic, pleasure, and yes I would prefer to be gratified, but I am always grateful for everything small and large. I suppose I don't follow all the rules, but everyone has a whole list of them it's hard to know all of them, and they change so frequently. And yes I do have a happy life, I have a completely unburdend or negative image or selfworth. I have not had a job, job in over 14 years, to add to the corporate machine, I simply have a not for profit, which I fund soley, doing interactive motivational workshops with at risk kids, where they get to decide what kind of person they want to be, so no matter what job they end up in janitor,mother, Ceo, or teacher, they will be the best because they have a undburdened, positive sense of self value and selfworth, am I contributing to a mass generation of common sociopaths?

Angelsedge write: first sign of psycho behavior, overly controlling behavior.... second sign... pouting or anger when things don't go perfectly.... just remember... be careful and if it isn't smooth sailing even with a ripple, drop the boat and find a boogie-board

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There are 4 types of sociopath: common, alienated, aggressive, and dyssocial.

Aggressive sociopaths seek out positions of authority, such as parent, teacher, bureaucrat, supervisor, or police officer. They are usually effective at getting their way and are especially vindictive if resisted or crossed, going way beyond what a normal retribution would be.

Aggressive sociopaths like to hurt, scare, and bully others for a sense of power and control. However, they often disguise their domineering tactics, such as by systematically sabotaging the ideas of others to get their ideas in place.

Dyssocial sociopaths are capable of intense loyalty and even feeling guilt and shame, within the group identity of gangs or other predatory subcultures. They follow rules, but only those of their antisocial group.

Alienated sociopaths might live out their emotional life by watching soap operas, identifying with the characters. They won't get along with the neighbors. They live in a shell.

They (alienated type) are often chronic complainers, believe they've been wronged by society, and would like nothing better than to see all of it destroyed.

Alienated sociopaths have never developed the ability to love, empathize, or affiliate in real life with another person.

Common sociopaths are usually of average intelligence, but don't do well in school and never seem to break out of low-paying dead-end jobs.

Common sociopaths are the largest subtype and simply have a weak or unelaborated conscience, no big holes in it. They are not ashamed by the same things as you or I would be ashamed of. They are like feral children grown up, taking pleasures and gratifying impulses at every opportunity or temptation. They especially enjoy and take pride in bending or breaking the rules.

They (common type) seem genuinely happy with their lives, unburdened by any sense of negative self-worth or the fact that they have not been a functional, contributing member of society.

Hi,
I would like to add that I guess I have been very lucky because until now, I haven't had an experience with a "wacko". Until now. I just had a horrible experience with an obviously disturbed woman. She has more than a touch of narcisistic personality disorder. I would like to warn the other guys on this site about her but I am hestitant to name her because she is so irrational that I fear reprisals from her. I can add that I made a big mistake in giving her my e-mail and home phone #. I have learned my lesson and won't do that again. Guys, women: be careful out there!

Guys wanting constant attention, calling you to see what your doing and where youve been. Wanting to get married after dating a couple of weeks...yep that will get me to get my running shoes on in a hurry.
As far as stalking, I had a guy (no clue who he was, that would call me as soon as I turned the light on and tell me he knew where I lived and that he loved me. This went on for a month, then I got flowers at work..So when I got home I put them on my deck to die LOL. Then he showed up at my door and rang me..when I asked through the intercom who it was he said the same thing as on the phone. Needless to say I called the police and they insisted on putting a tap on my phone..No more calls from him and they didnt catch him..Now I do not have a land line...

She was the worst after she had been out drinking and partying. I never knew what she was going to do next, or when she would show up (2am,3am,etc.). She even called a few times after she moved to California. Its scary.

robtest write: You broke one of the PRIMAL LAWS of Internet Dating. Always meet in a highly populated well lit place, come and leave in seperate vehicles...

You now know why this is one of the Primal Laws !!! But thanks for sharing your story, and I feel for you as I know that is a scary thing. By sharing your story, maybe you can help other new people from breaking the LAW... :o)

Well, I know all about that one and why it exists, but it's easier said than done when one of us--namely me--doesn't even HAVE a vehicle in the first place. I have resolved, however, if I ever agree to meet anybody from the Net again, to do so in front of a convenience store that's in walking distance of my apartment complex. I'd still have to get in the car with the guy to go anywhere, but at least he won't know where I live if the first meeting turns out to be--at least if I have my way--the last.

Call a TAXI !!!! Might cost a little more, but how much is your safety worth? Of course, an odd one might still follow you home, but that is what MACE is for...

AmbitiousJ write: look up the definition of sociopath and psychopath and you'll find it very interesting how many people fit the category. Typically, they are very smooth, then slowly start showing signs of insecurity and control (check laser5).

They can be so smooth that you end up marrying them and even believe everything they have to say. It is scary that the smartest of women and men can get fooled by psychotic people. In fact, most good ones even fool their own therapists.

All I can say is that if you think something isn't ''quite right"".... then you're probably right.

Yes, you are right. I have read a lot on the subject, and I'm convinced that if a person seems totally into you before he/she even knows you, thats a major warning sign. Once YOU become interested in this person, they will start insulting you over every little thing you do, until your self-esteem plummets. Then they will be nice to everyone else, and tell your friends, family, etc. that you are crazy. YOU will start to believe that just maybe, you ARE the crazy one.

This is what happened to me twice with a certain person on this site, who I have talked about before. He looks great in his pictures, he says all the things a woman wants to hear, "I'm emotionally available" is his latest.

So, my final answer is: If they seem perfect right away....RUN! Please learn from my mistakes.....

robtest write: You broke one of the PRIMAL LAWS of Internet Dating. Always meet in a highly populated well lit place, come and leave in seperate vehicles...

You now know why this is one of the Primal Laws !!! But thanks for sharing your story, and I feel for you as I know that is a scary thing. By sharing your story, maybe you can help other new people from breaking the LAW... :o)

Well, I know all about that one and why it exists, but it's easier said than done when one of us--namely me--doesn't even HAVE a vehicle in the first place. I have resolved, however, if I ever agree to meet anybody from the Net again, to do so in front of a convenience store that's in walking distance of my apartment complex. I'd still have to get in the car with the guy to go anywhere, but at least he won't know where I live if the first meeting turns out to be--at least if I have my way--the last.

SpiritedHellion write: 1) They give you constant attention...it seems okay at first..but it is actually obsessive and clingy later.

If anyone's giving me constant attention from the get-go, that's completely inappropriate coming from a virtual stranger and would probably creep me out. There was one guy who lived in South Carolina, but would be staying in Little Rock (approximately 35 miles from the city I live in) for about five days due to something related to his military duty. He lived too far away and wasn't nearly cute enough that I would ever "date" him, but figured if he was passing through my area anyway, it couldn't hurt to just agree to meet him, right? Wrong. ALL I agreed to was to meet him over dinner, and then I had him drop me off, didn't invite him in, didn't say, "Let's do this again before you leave," gave him absolutely zero encouragement that there would be a return engagement. In the meantime, he's telling me, "If it rains tomorrow, and you need a ride to work, CALL ME!" Uh, I live like a mile and a half from where I work. He's staying over 30 miles away from me. I think I handle my own way to work, even if I DON'T have a car. The next day, the guy showed up at my workplace, and then later that night, showed up at my apartment unannounced and uninvited. I just ignored him and pretended he wasn't there, and finally he went away.

You broke one of the PRIMAL LAWS of Internet Dating. Always meet in a highly populated well lit place, come and leave in seperate vehicles...

You now know why this is one of the Primal Laws !!! But thanks for sharing your story, and I feel for you as I know that is a scary thing. By sharing your story, maybe you can help other new people from breaking the LAW... :o)