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Monthly Archives: January 2017

I will admit that I had to literally repeat day 2. Although I didn’t feel that I said anything that was harsh I still managed to say something critical and that, is negative. So, today I started fresh and I did something nice for my husband. He responded very well to a special request as a result of these efforts and much prayer I am sure. Praise the Father for changes.

Day 3: Love is not selfish

Today’s Dare

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today”.

You never truly understand how important it is to watch your mouth until you’re forced to do it. This challenge is so hard but it will be so worth it in the end. Saying nothing negative to a spouse is quite difficult if you disagree on something (or you just haven’t been getting along) and both parties have strong personalities. However, in holding my tongue I have found that my home is quite peaceful and my husband has been a lot more cooperative these days.

Day 2: Love is Kind

Today’s Dare In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

*Two days in a row of nothing negative and an unexpected act of kindness…Onward and upward let us pray.

As a newlywed, I must say that my first year of marriage was a hard one. My husband and I courted and did not date. So, moving in together and adjusting to living with someone else when you are accustomed to being alone was difficult to say the least. I was told that marriage is hard and would take hard work but I just was not prepared for the bickering and adjustments that had to be made both ways. I learned so much in such a short amount of time and I am so glad that I can always depend on God to see me through. If you’re a married woman who is having a rough time in your marriage or even if your marriage is fantastic, I strongly suggest that you not only watch Fireproof but The War Room as well. Fireproof was such a great movie that I was inspired to go to my local library and check out the book The Love Dare. It is a 40 day challenge that couples or (one person in the couple) can do to improve the quality of their marriage. Things have improved between my husband and I but there is always room to add on to your happiness.

Day 1: Love is Patient

Today’s Dare

The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose to not say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.