working from home today

because I'm a nervous wreck about my fiance going to work depressed...we have an appt w/ psych on tuesday evening, but it seems like an eternity before then...i keep telling him he can do it and he'll make it, but i'm a total wreck.

Thanks. He just started this job, so he doesn't have the sick time available yet to take...I'm just on standby, trying to be supportive. It could be worse, he could be paranoid. The depression is horrendous, though :(

*hugs* I'm sure he'll be ok. Sometimes going to work even helps so maybe once he got there and got in the swing of things he started to feel better, who knows? *really trying to be optimistic* Anyway does he call at all when he gets a chance on breaks or whatever? I'm sure talking to him would make you feel better. If he can't call just try to stay positive and hope for the best. I know how it feels to have to wait for an appt...that's all I seem to do lately, but it will be here before you know it. Hopefully after this psych appt he'll be on the road to better days.

I'll see him at lunch (he works down the street from our place). I am trying to remember that the man i fell in love with is underneath all of this right now and it won't be too long before he re-emerges.

That sounds positive. Closure is right. It's good for him to get out of the house and have responsibility. It may be hard for him, but leaving the house and accomplishing tasks that feel impossible are good for rebuilding the confidence that get lost with major depression and hopefully these activities will help him feel at least a tiny bit better. Hang in there, the psych appointment is coming up and hopefully he'll feel better soon.

I was just going to say that getting out of the house is definitely a good thing and might help get his mind off the depression, espessially if he's starting a new job. Personally, when I had my most depressed time ever (April) I felt better while I was at work and worse on the weekends. Just hang in there and be strong. Let us know how he's doing when he comes home for lunch.

Update: the psych called last night and talked to both me and my fiance. To get him out of his depressive cycle, he called in a script for prozac and we're meeting with him this evening to discuss other med options. So, hope is on the horizon.

I'm glad you have some hope. You guys are lucky...where I go for treatment I'm basically just a number. After hours they want nothing to do with you. You get a message saying either go to the ER or call crisis services. There's no way to talk to them let alone have one of them call you! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you guys!