Please, What Should She Do? - Family (1) - Nairaland

Do you know that statement that says, do not spread your dirty linen outside? Yes that's what you just did.

Yiu ended up ruining two households, yours and theirs. Besides your husband might send you packing because you are capable of murder. For you to play this kind of game means you can strangle him in bed and cry to high heavens tomorrow.

From.yiur statement, i deduced your husband has not cheated on you before, have he? If he hasn't you should have given him a benefit of doubt to hear him it. As crazy as this seems, it could have been a set up, it could have been an unfortunate coincidence. All factors should have been weighed in before going for that options. So you were happy that your husband's head was broken and his car smashed? Did it make you feel better ?

You made your bed, then lie on it. Good communication should be the bedrock of every family

abescom:So you snatch someone else's wife's panties and keep it in your pocket?

And what's wrong in what the woman has done? Imagine the reverse was the case? He finds his best friend's boxer in his wife's car. Let's stop the hypocrisy jare.

He shagged that woman and even if he didn't, putting the pant in his pocket has already implicated him. He should know this and not try to be a bully.

You unfortunately find yourself in scene where robbery has just taken place, police came who is prime suspect number one?

Putting it in a plate and serving it to him also makes sense. However, people react differently to issues. If he was not a bully he would have moved out to think properly. Not ask the woman to leave the house simply because he has the power.

That man is a useless un-remorseful bully. End off.

Did you read my post at all? Does the woman's panties in his pocket mean that he's sleeping with the woman? The post herself said she's seen the panties spread on the line OUTSIDE several times. Have you given it a thought that the man could have picked it up without the woman's knowledge?

Did you read my post at all? Does the woman's panties in his pocket mean that he's sleeping with the woman? The post herself said she's seen the panties spread on the line OUTSIDE several times. Have you given it a thought that the man could have picked it up without the woman's knowledge?

When police, the world over get to a crime scene and found someone dead and another person with a blood soaked knife, they pick the person with the knife as a suspect.

The onus then lies with the suspect to proof his innocence. If anything the supposed husband ought to proof his innocence and not bully his wife.

An issue that implicated you happened then rather than going the extra mile to vindicate yourself you act as a bully. Pathetic. It is even sickening people are holding grief for him.

The pant was found in his POCKET for f*ck's sake. Anywhere else would have even been better but his pocket. Fool me not abeg.

9japrof:Do you know that statement that says, do not spread your dirty linen outside? Yes that's what you just did.

Yiu ended up ruining two households, yours and theirs. Besides your husband might send you packing because you are capable of murder. For you to play this kind of game means you can strangle him in bed and cry to high heavens tomorrow.

From.yiur statement, i deduced your husband has not cheated on you before, have he? If he hasn't you should have given him a benefit of doubt to hear him it. As crazy as this seems, it could have been a set up, it could have been an unfortunate coincidence. All factors should have been weighed in before going for that options. So you were happy that your husband's head was broken and his car smashed? Did it make you feel better ?

You made your bed, then lie on it. Good communication should be the bedrock of every family

Hehehehehe @ washing of dirty linen in public.

Hahahahahaha@ Good communication.

I guess if had been the man that saw his wife's panties in another man's jacket..., you will still come here and preach about this your good communication.

Hypocrisy of the highest order..! !

As for the woman her panties was found..., let her explain that to her husband. If she is innocent.., let her prove it to her husband.., if she is guilty.., let her also explain to her husband.

All that happened here.. , was just returning of panties to the rightful owner.

abescom:This is silly honestly. You guys are just being plain insincere an hypocritical. The pant wa found in his f*cking pocket. Another man's wife's pant.

Say the truth no one will kill you. Ask 10 people around you seek their opinion, 9 out of 10 will tell you that man is shagging his neighbour's wife.

The hypocrisy on this thread is disgusting. Let's call a spade what it is.

Try and shift you perspective a little bit and you'll understand what I'm saying.

First, whatever the man is doing with another lady's panties, he's definitely guilty of something immoral.

Second, even though he is guilty and shouldn't have treated his wife in such manner, it still doesn't mean that the neighbor's wife who's panties he has is guilty of anything other than spreading her clothes on the line outside.

Now, If you don't get this, then I really can't help you.

Oh, you may also want to check, all my response to you was actually defending the female neighbor and not the man. Like I said, shift your perspective...

Try and shift you perspective a little bit and you'll understand what I'm saying.

First, whatever the man is doing with another lady's panties, he's definitely guilty of something immoral.

Second, even though he is guilty and shouldn't have treated his wife in such manner, it still doesn't mean that the neighbor's wife who's panties he has is guilty of anything other than spreading her clothes on the line outside.

Now, If you don't get this, then I really can't help you.

Oh, you may also want to check, all my response to you was actually defending the female neighbor and not the man. Like I said, shift your perspective...

Well I understand you point now. The woman may be innocent I never disputed that. My main annoyance is the man bullying the woman asking her to leave.

abescom:This is silly honestly. You guys are just being plain insincere an hypocritical. The pant wa found in his f*cking pocket. Another man's wife's pant.

Say the truth no one will kill you. Ask 10 people around you seek their opinion, 9 out of 10 will tell you that man is shagging his neighbour's wife.

The hypocrisy on this thread is disgusting. Let's call a spade what it is.

Even if the guy was caught on top of the neighbour's wife, they will still say it is not logical for the wife to believe that he slept with her . He probably slipped on a banana peel and fell on her and incidentally her legs were open and he fell into her. Smh

Well, i guess after the beating he got from the lady's husband.., that fetish will stop by force.

Then the woman will be out of her husband's house. Who loses? Men will always cheat, but a man who respects you will hide it from you. Out of respect. If the woman had common sense, she will find out while her man is with another ladies panties. If it's fetish , buy 2dozens of lace pant and hand him one each time he is going out. Reverse psychology. The man will coordinate himself by false. If you know your husband is cheating and you are lucky to find out, invite her for dinner and make her sit in an ackwardly close position with your husband and also invite your pastor. After dinner, suggest she can share the bedroom for a 3 sum since she has been sharing your husband anyway. Do this in the most polite way without a fight. That will be the end of that relationship. Do the math and see if it works.

[color=#770077][/color]mg dear u went too far, the mere fact that u saw ur neighbour's undies in ur hubbys pocket doesn't justify he z cheating with her. In ur word and i quote "our rope z just by d backyard where we spread our clothes".....didn't it occurred to u dat he must v saw d undies, felt embarrassed and decided to take it up thinking it was urs since it's ur rope without knowing it was ur neighbours wife that washed and spread it hoping to wear it again since it was her favourite......U just end up embarrassing ur husband and breaking another woman's home. Well if he told u to pack out, just pack out and think before u act nxt time

The way I see it, the woman's husband is guilty of something. It may or may not be adultery. And chances are, it would be adultery.

The man can't eat his cake and have it and the woman, in my opinion, handled the case according to what she thought was best. Instead of shouting on her husband, she reported him to a fellow man whose wife might be a culprit in this too.

So, she left the decision of what should happen to the woman's husband and he too did what he thought was best. The woman is actually smart, and her husband would probably be afraid of how she would deal with future cases of infidelity from him. And we also don't know if this is the first case of infidelity on the part of her husband. So no one can say if she acted based on that too.

If I were the woman, I would kuku carry myself to the man's family and report myself to them. I would ask them to then plead to my husband on my behalf. If the man's family is responsible, he would then have to explain to them what a married woman's panties were doing in his pockets; then he would have to apologise to his wife about his philandering ways.

In the end, he begs the woman and knows she ain't a fool that can be played around like a football.

I live upstairs and she stays downstairs, our rope is just by the backyard where we spread our clothes. So i know her under wear, that particular pink one is her favorite. I see her wash and spread it most times. I am talking about my neighbor. Yesterday evening i was gathering my husband's clothes to the dry cleaners when something fell from his jacket.

I picked it up and it was a lady's panties, i knew it was not mine, so i looked at it again and recognized it at the spot. It was my neighbors, i can swear on my life.

I did not say a word to my husband because he will deny. Now this my neighbor is married too. So i went straight to her flat, knocked on her door, she opened and i asked to see her husband that my husband sent a message. She called him out, i greeted him, and told him politely that i came to return his wife's property that i saw in my husband's jacket. Then i gave him the panties, the man also recognized it and told me thank you.

I left in peace to my flat. I did not hear any noise as per beating or slap. Later my husband was about driving out to buy gas when this my neighbor's husband pounced on him and gave him the beating of his life and even broke his head and side mirrors.

I rushed him to the hospital after the compound had gathered. Now he is saying i should pack my load and leave his house. What should i do?

hahahaha...dont worry. You can pack in to my house temporarily till you sort out your husbands issue. I have 2 big rooms that no one is occupying.

I understand that what you saw suggests that there may have been some level of intimacy between them, that's the first thing most people would think to be honest. However, it wasn't actually confirmed so I think you acted in haste. For all you know your husband may have taken it without her knowing, but I understand how it would've come across to you the way it did

Even if the guy was caught on top of the neighbour's wife, they will still say it is not logical for the wife to believe that he slept with her . He probably slipped on a banana peel and fell on her and incidentally her legs were open and he fell into her. Smh

There are men who has a fetish of smelling women panties. It might just be his fetish. He will just smell it and maybe masturbate with it and then return it back to the collection point

You should ve talked to him first before reacting.

Honestly she went too far.

Haba! And she was even expecting her neighbor husband to beat his wife. She was waiting to hear screams and wailing coming out from her neighbor's flat. Then possibly watch her neighbor disgrace his wife and throw his wife out.

But as God would have it, married women like her who goes straight to fight her husband's mistress instead of confronting her own husband and ask him, how come this panty is in your possession?

She foolishly went to the lions den

Possibly the woman who owns the pant must have said to her husband, she does not even know how their neighbor got hold. Of her pant. And it's possibly he took it where she hanged it outside and she doesn't feel safe again. Cause her neighbor might end of raping her if he's not around. As he's now in possession with her pant.

This story must have enraged the husband of the woman who owns the pant and with blind rage, attacked the op husband and gave him the beating of his life . To steer clear from his wife

The neighbor home is not destroyed. Only the op use her irrational premeditated reasoning to destroy her own home.

This is my line of thinking, you do not take your marital problems to another man's house. You acted very very poorly. At that alter, you took marital vows with just you and your husband. You should never ever under any auspices involve another man in your marriage. Your inference could be wrong. Men have a lot of fantasies. Maybe he has been fantasising about having that woman that when he saw her panties, he stole it and put in his pocket. I did the same thing to a girl in my university days. I believe my wife is my number one, my go-to person, my most trusted ally. No matter how bad it is, she must hear my side of the story. Things are not always what we think them to be. My submission is, whenever you have a problem with your husband, deal with it with your husband.

In my country called Nigeria,if a husband is caught cheating,d woman is at risk of leaving,cos she can't ask d man to go,if d woman is d culprit,she also risked leaving except he has a God or a coward as a hubby.it's a man's world.