“In an intense and stressful moment, I allowed my emotions to get the best of me and said some insulting and regrettable things. As frustrated as I was, I should always choose to be respectful and take the high road. I am so sorry for my actions and will learn from this mistake.”–Britt McHenry

When is an apology not an apology? When it is not directed at the person you wronged. Britt McHenry’s epic, insulting rant was directed at a towing company employee. Her car was towed and she was mad, but she was not ranting about the tow she was insulting the worker. So instead of issuing an apology via Twitter she needs to be apologizing to the worker the recipient of the rant.

I received this Hillary Clinton coloring book a few months ago. Now that she has made it official I wanted to share it with you. The coloring book chronicles the highlights of her very interesting life. For more information contact KourtneyJoy@UlyssesPress.com

She is a candidate for president. She is ready to lead, but are we ready to follow? I am not sure if I am ready to take a seat on the Hillary bandwagon. She says she wants to talk to everyday Americans. I am going to wait and hear what she has to say and what she plans to do. Less platitudes and more plans. Hopefully, the GOP will actually reach beyond their comfort zone and truly talk to all groups. At this point there is more acceptance of Hillary and little enthusiasm, and that’s a problem.

Fox Chris Wallace recently took a potshot at Kelly Clarkson. Clarkson recently had a baby and she has not shed the baby weight, but that’s really her business. The rest of the world feels they have a right to criticize her weight and Wallace is the latest talking head to take a shot at the pop star. Clarkson is not the first nor will she be the last woman to be criticized for her weight, her age or simply her looks. Sarah Wallace, former WABC (NY) was recently fired. This award=winning newswoman is 59 years old, and that is old for a woman, but it is seasoned for a man. Woman in their 50s are consider old and men in their 50s are not painted with that same brush. Hillary Clinton will soon announce she is running for the highest office in the land, but we know that there will be considerable talk about her hair, her makeup and her clothes. The male candidates will not receive the kind of scrutiny that Clinton has and will receive. Fat shaming, hair shaming, look shaming all are a part of the life of a woman. Share your thoughts.

We live in the era of acceptance. We accept everything. People can say or write anything without fear of reprisal. If they write or say anything you view as untrue the burden is on you to prove it to be untrue. People are free to say anything today and apologize tomorrow. The apology will go like this “if I offended anyone I am sorry.” Not I am sorry because I hurt your feelings. Yesterday Wendy Williams referred to a woman as a THOT. My daughter defined the acronym for me a few weeks ago (That Hoe Over There). Yes, this is a term that one woman used to describe another. Her words were greeted with laughter by an audience that is almost exclusively women. If you have ever been on Twitter you will see that people call people all manner of vile things all within the space of 140 characters. One would think people would be offended, but no they become a Twitter army when someone sparks a flame. Ask Jamie Foxx and Trevor Noah, they were recently scorched by the army. When they decide to take someone to task they don’t stop until you release the obligatory apology (see above for verbiage) via Twitter. So everything is not viewed as acceptable, but who decides what is not acceptable? Share your thoughts.

Disney is making a movie about Mo’Ne Davis the baseball sensation when Bloomsberg University player Joey Casselberry heard it he took to Twitter and called Davis a “slut”. He was dropped from the team and Davis asked the University to give him another chance. The University stands by its decision but the bigger question for me is why would a college student refer to a child as a slut. The word is ugly, but I wonder if he meant it in its truest sense of is this just the coursening of our language? Did he actually think the tweet was acceptable or is this just a 140 character fail?

Last year when Mary Jane premiered on BET the character seemed to have a great career, a great home, problematic family and a challenged personal life, but she was likeable. Sure she made some ill advised decisions, and in some cases they were simply dumb, but you still rooted for her. You wanted her to find that true love that simply alluded her, but this season is an entirely new ballgame. There is a thin line between the strong, black woman and the bitter black woman. The strong woman has obstacles in her life but she is a survivor. She is going to get it done, and she is simply not going to take no for an answer, but she knows things will get better because she is going to make it happen. There is a slippery slope from strong to bitter and this season Mary Jane has taken that slippery side and she is simply bitter. She is a woman in the midst of a self imposed war. Her adversaries are everyone in her life. She is at war with her on and off again love David, her family and her job. She has no allies and those who might want to be she has shut the door to their advances. The show is no longer fun. It is angst ridden and anxiety producing. Last night was simply sad. Some might call it a slice of life and if it is you can keep my slice.