maybe no TTC now :(

So now I'm not sure if we will TTC this summer :( My husband isn't sure anymore if he's ready. There's some job issues that hopefully we'll have figured out in the next month or so and I think he's partly just very nervous because he's an only child and has never been around babies, so the idea of a newborn is kind of intimidating for him I think. I'm trying to be sensitive and understanding to that, but it's just hard for me to comprehend because my brother was born when I was in middle school and my mom had a daycare in our house so there were always babies around. Not that I feel that I know everything about raising a baby, but I guess I just feel more comfortable with being around babies. I know that we both need to be ready, but I was just getting SOOO excited. I'm hoping things will fall into place soon so that he has what he feels he needs to be ready to TTC, but I'm also trying to convince myself I can handle waiting another year (but that's not going so well yet) in case things don't work out.

So now I'm not sure if we will TTC this summer :( My husband isn't sure anymore if he's ready. There's some job issues that hopefully we'll have figured out in the next month or so and I think he's partly just very nervous because he's an only child and has never been around babies, so the idea of a newborn is kind of intimidating for him I think. I'm trying to be sensitive and understanding to that, but it's just hard for me to comprehend because my brother was born when I was in middle school and my mom had a daycare in our house so there were always babies around. Not that I feel that I know everything about raising a baby, but I guess I just feel more comfortable with being around babies. I know that we both need to be ready, but I was just getting SOOO excited. I'm hoping things will fall into place soon so that he has what he feels he needs to be ready to TTC, but I'm also trying to convince myself I can handle waiting another year (but that's not going so well yet) in case things don't work out.

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. My DH was all on board to TTC this Summer/Early Fall and now he's thinking that he's not ready. After I got so excited about TTC now this. I'm trying to convince him again but it's not going so well. He's pretty sure that he doesn't want any more children at all. It just makes me sad because I always saw myself having 4-5 kids. Don't get me wrong I love the two that I have more than anything in the world but I just don't feel like my family is complete yet, like I have other children waiting to be born. We have talked about this and talked about this and we just can't agree. So now I don't know what to do. If you ever want to chat about it I'm here.

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. My DH was all on board to TTC this Summer/Early Fall and now he's thinking that he's not ready. After I got so excited about TTC now this. I'm trying to convince him again but it's not going so well. He's pretty sure that he doesn't want any more children at all. It just makes me sad because I always saw myself having 4-5 kids. Don't get me wrong I love the two that I have more than anything in the world but I just don't feel like my family is complete yet, like I have other children waiting to be born. We have talked about this and talked about this and we just can't agree. So now I don't know what to do. If you ever want to chat about it I'm here.

Sorry to year you're going through the same thing! My husband may be getting on board again. After a couple of weeks of not being sure, now he says he thinks he may be ready to try this summer. But he's just not excited about it like I am. Thinking of having a baby makes me so excited and he just doesn't show any excitement about it...but I guess that's how he is with everything though too. So he may be coming around, but I'm trying to not get too excited yet because that's what he said awhile back and then changed his mind. It's just hard because I want a baby so bad but I'm not sure if he does. I don't want to pressure him into it or anything, but yet I can't stop thinking about it!

Sorry to year you're going through the same thing! My husband may be getting on board again. After a couple of weeks of not being sure, now he says he thinks he may be ready to try this summer. But he's just not excited about it like I am. Thinking of having a baby makes me so excited and he just doesn't show any excitement about it...but I guess that's how he is with everything though too. So he may be coming around, but I'm trying to not get too excited yet because that's what he said awhile back and then changed his mind. It's just hard because I want a baby so bad but I'm not sure if he does. I don't want to pressure him into it or anything, but yet I can't stop thinking about it!

I know. And I'm really not trying to pressure him into it or anything. It is a big decision and committment and a baby deserves to have 2 parents ready for that. He's just trying to figure out why he's hesitant now when he wasn't a few months ago. I had gone for a preconception appointment in March and began taking prenatal vitamins to prepare and everything since we had decided we were going to start TTC. I guess I'll just give him time to sort things out.

I know. And I'm really not trying to pressure him into it or anything. It is a big decision and committment and a baby deserves to have 2 parents ready for that. He's just trying to figure out why he's hesitant now when he wasn't a few months ago. I had gone for a preconception appointment in March and began taking prenatal vitamins to prepare and everything since we had decided we were going to start TTC. I guess I'll just give him time to sort things out.

He does need ot sort things out, but at the same time... if you guys came to an agreement, it's not really fair to you for him to keep going back and forth. Good luck! I'm sure you will figure it all out.

He does need ot sort things out, but at the same time... if you guys came to an agreement, it's not really fair to you for him to keep going back and forth. Good luck! I'm sure you will figure it all out.

I am a teacher also and am going to start ttc again this summer as well!! I just had a mc on Easter Sunday, and I can tell you how if was for my DH and I. We had decided to wait another year before we would ttc, and then by accident I got pregnant. I didn't know how he was going to take it when I found out so I was VERY nervous!! When he came home from work I told him the news and he was EXSTATIC!! He completely surprised me with his reaction. After we lost the baby he confessed to me that he was really nervous when I told him I was pregnant, and wasn't as sure at first. Then he told me he was really getting excited about the thought of our lil baby, and getting used to the idea. That's why we're going to try again as soon as my body recovers. I'm not saying that my dh had the same reaction as your dh will have, but me actually getting pregnant did change his toughts on the whole idea.

Good luck, and if you ever need to chat I'm here!!

Laura

I am a teacher also and am going to start ttc again this summer as well!! I just had a mc on Easter Sunday, and I can tell you how if was for my DH and I. We had decided to wait another year before we would ttc, and then by accident I got pregnant. I didn't know how he was going to take it when I found out so I was VERY nervous!! When he came home from work I told him the news and he was EXSTATIC!! He completely surprised me with his reaction. After we lost the baby he confessed to me that he was really nervous when I told him I was pregnant, and wasn't as sure at first. Then he told me he was really getting excited about the thought of our lil baby, and getting used to the idea. That's why we're going to try again as soon as my body recovers. I'm not saying that my dh had the same reaction as your dh will have, but me actually getting pregnant did change his toughts on the whole idea.

I went thru the EXACT same thing! Last August we had decided to start TTC and I was out of BC anyway, so I went for a preconception visit and did NOT get any more BC from my obgyn. Well, when it got to be crunch time, dh got seriously cold feet and asked me to go back on bc!!! I was devastated and called Dr. She gave me a 3 month supply and said not to worry - she sees it a lot. She was right. The next month he said he just got scared about the thought of caring for another life - it is a HUGE responsiblilty, I'd say even more so for the Father (being the head of the family and ultimately financially responsible so Mom can care for baby). So he was back on board and I appreciated his feelings about it. I got pg 2 months later! (unfortunately only to m/c in Feb). So maybe give your man a month or so - see if he'll let you know why he changed his mind. I'm sure he'll come back around. I'm ready to start ttc again in may/june, but now that my parents know - they are super concerned about the risk of swine flu on pregnancy - weakened immune system??? There is always something! I don't know how I feel about the idea - I just know that my heart is full of love to give a baby (even more so now that I lost one) and I don't know how much can truly sway that feeling. Any thoughts??? Sorry for the long post - hang in there! I understand the longing for a baby! (Sorry if my ticker is still up - I've deleted it SEVERAL times and it won't go away....)

I went thru the EXACT same thing! Last August we had decided to start TTC and I was out of BC anyway, so I went for a preconception visit and did NOT get any more BC from my obgyn. Well, when it got to be crunch time, dh got seriously cold feet and asked me to go back on bc!!! I was devastated and called Dr. She gave me a 3 month supply and said not to worry - she sees it a lot. She was right. The next month he said he just got scared about the thought of caring for another life - it is a HUGE responsiblilty, I'd say even more so for the Father (being the head of the family and ultimately financially responsible so Mom can care for baby). So he was back on board and I appreciated his feelings about it. I got pg 2 months later! (unfortunately only to m/c in Feb). So maybe give your man a month or so - see if he'll let you know why he changed his mind. I'm sure he'll come back around. I'm ready to start ttc again in may/june, but now that my parents know - they are super concerned about the risk of swine flu on pregnancy - weakened immune system??? There is always something! I don't know how I feel about the idea - I just know that my heart is full of love to give a baby (even more so now that I lost one) and I don't know how much can truly sway that feeling. Any thoughts??? Sorry for the long post - hang in there! I understand the longing for a baby! (Sorry if my ticker is still up - I've deleted it SEVERAL times and it won't go away....)

I know how you feel as well except that DH and I just got married last month and before that it was DH that wanted to TTC and I was the one who wanted to wait. After we got married I was hit with baby fever and when I talked to DC about I was very excited because I was sure he would be on board. He wasnt though because of job issues and now wants to wait till the issues are resolved. I understand his reasoning but this understanding does not make it any easier to wait. So I am taking the opportunity to prepare as much as i can and trying not to think about it too much (wish me luck haha). I am hopeful though because he told me he still wants to TTC but would feel better if we waited. We have been using the pullout method for a year now with no other BC form so I also have a little hope that it will happen naturally but not betting on it. If any of you have suggestions on staying sane while waiting to TTC please let me now.

I know how you feel as well except that DH and I just got married last month and before that it was DH that wanted to TTC and I was the one who wanted to wait. After we got married I was hit with baby fever and when I talked to DC about I was very excited because I was sure he would be on board. He wasnt though because of job issues and now wants to wait till the issues are resolved. I understand his reasoning but this understanding does not make it any easier to wait. So I am taking the opportunity to prepare as much as i can and trying not to think about it too much (wish me luck haha). I am hopeful though because he told me he still wants to TTC but would feel better if we waited. We have been using the pullout method for a year now with no other BC form so I also have a little hope that it will happen naturally but not betting on it. If any of you have suggestions on staying sane while waiting to TTC please let me now.

I know exactly how you feel. My husband keeps going back & forth. I am trying to not push him too much, but its so hard. He knows how important it is to me. Our original plan was 2010, but I cant wait. I mean I can, but I dont want to. I talked him into September of this year, but I dont know if he'll stick to it this time. I am just trying to focus on other things. I told him I wouldnt talk about it until September.

Just try to focus on other things or pick up a new hobby to keep your mind from wondering. Its hard, but you can do it. When the time comes; it'll be worth the wait.

I know exactly how you feel. My husband keeps going back & forth. I am trying to not push him too much, but its so hard. He knows how important it is to me. Our original plan was 2010, but I cant wait. I mean I can, but I dont want to. I talked him into September of this year, but I dont know if he'll stick to it this time. I am just trying to focus on other things. I told him I wouldnt talk about it until September.

Just try to focus on other things or pick up a new hobby to keep your mind from wondering. Its hard, but you can do it. When the time comes; it'll be worth the wait.

Yeah I actually need to focus more on school because I am in my last quarter and getting behind in my homework mostly because I am burnt out but also because i cant focus with babies crawling around in my brain. I feel that I am not as crazy now but still cant get over the feeling that I cant wait. Even though I am not trying I am following my cycle and have been excited that I am close to the big O which is a little crazy since we wont be having any little soldiers in the area the to catch the egg. Its like my body has a mind of its own and I cant convince it to calm down. I am hoping that as more time passes it will become easier but after reading some of the other posts I dont think that is going to happen. I find that talking to other women who have to wait or are having a hard time concieving helps a little as well. You are right though I do need to focus on other things because obsessing over it will only make me miserable.

Yeah I actually need to focus more on school because I am in my last quarter and getting behind in my homework mostly because I am burnt out but also because i cant focus with babies crawling around in my brain. I feel that I am not as crazy now but still cant get over the feeling that I cant wait. Even though I am not trying I am following my cycle and have been excited that I am close to the big O which is a little crazy since we wont be having any little soldiers in the area the to catch the egg. Its like my body has a mind of its own and I cant convince it to calm down. I am hoping that as more time passes it will become easier but after reading some of the other posts I dont think that is going to happen. I find that talking to other women who have to wait or are having a hard time concieving helps a little as well. You are right though I do need to focus on other things because obsessing over it will only make me miserable.

I feel the same as you do. It is so hard not to think about it. I think about it EVERYDAY. But the time will come. I have just put in in God's hands. One of my best friends is pregnant too and it makes it harder for me with the baby fever. I am very happy for her, so I am trying to focus on being there for her. If you need someone to talk to or vent to... feel free to message me!

I feel the same as you do. It is so hard not to think about it. I think about it EVERYDAY. But the time will come. I have just put in in God's hands. One of my best friends is pregnant too and it makes it harder for me with the baby fever. I am very happy for her, so I am trying to focus on being there for her. If you need someone to talk to or vent to... feel free to message me!

I can appreciate how you all feel. I too, am going through something similar. We had decided to start TTC this month and now my hubby is being fickle. I went of BCP's in March. It's not that he's afraid of being a father or that he doesn't want kids- it's solely a money issue. I love the fact that he is so concerned about us being able to provide for our future children, but I don't feel like we're going to be financially sound for a good many years, if ever! We know babies aren't cheap- we've saved and budgeted for a baby, and right now we have the best health insurance we'll probably ever have. I wish I could get him to understand what it does to me emotionally when he changes his mind on our timetable from day to day...not to mention that being off the BCP's are wreaking havock on my skin! I know in my heart that it's time for us to start trying, and in the meantime, I'll keep praying that he'll feel confident enough to start trying, too.

I can appreciate how you all feel. I too, am going through something similar. We had decided to start TTC this month and now my hubby is being fickle. I went of BCP's in March. It's not that he's afraid of being a father or that he doesn't want kids- it's solely a money issue. I love the fact that he is so concerned about us being able to provide for our future children, but I don't feel like we're going to be financially sound for a good many years, if ever! We know babies aren't cheap- we've saved and budgeted for a baby, and right now we have the best health insurance we'll probably ever have. I wish I could get him to understand what it does to me emotionally when he changes his mind on our timetable from day to day...not to mention that being off the BCP's are wreaking havock on my skin! I know in my heart that it's time for us to start trying, and in the meantime, I'll keep praying that he'll feel confident enough to start trying, too.

It feels good to know other people are having the same feelings as me I felt like I was crazy or something. I hate waiting because I dont know how easy it will be me too concieve I am not old but I am turning 27 in July and I have never had any children or even been pregnant. So on top of having baby fever I am worried that I wont be able to concieve or it will take a long time. My sister and mother never had any problems so i shouldnt have any problems. Actually my sister is so fertile that two of her three kids werent even planned which makes me jealous now. Oh and my mom had twins boys after having my sister and me. I feel like every time i find a way to distract myself from babies I will see a baby or pregnant women or see an advertisement on TV about babies. It sucks and I might have to go through a year of this which makes me feel even crazier about it. I have even bought the what to expect book and have started to read it. My DH knows I have the book and I think he realizes how much I want one but he still wants to wait. I am going to have to wait and see if i can talk to him again in a couple months and see if I can change his mind. Well I ranted more then I planned its just that this site is the only place I can rant about it.

It feels good to know other people are having the same feelings as me I felt like I was crazy or something. I hate waiting because I dont know how easy it will be me too concieve I am not old but I am turning 27 in July and I have never had any children or even been pregnant. So on top of having baby fever I am worried that I wont be able to concieve or it will take a long time. My sister and mother never had any problems so i shouldnt have any problems. Actually my sister is so fertile that two of her three kids werent even planned which makes me jealous now. Oh and my mom had twins boys after having my sister and me. I feel like every time i find a way to distract myself from babies I will see a baby or pregnant women or see an advertisement on TV about babies. It sucks and I might have to go through a year of this which makes me feel even crazier about it. I have even bought the what to expect book and have started to read it. My DH knows I have the book and I think he realizes how much I want one but he still wants to wait. I am going to have to wait and see if i can talk to him again in a couple months and see if I can change his mind. Well I ranted more then I planned its just that this site is the only place I can rant about it.

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