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yes change can be good

I'm in the midst of change. Everyone tells me it will get better...just coming out of a 19 year marriage. Some of the changes have been good. I've listened to all the advice....have lost 18 pounds and I'm thin again....began working out , first to relive the stress, now because I like it. My advice is find something to make you happy...even if it is just looking up at the clouds. I know I'll come out of this stronger and clear. I hope all of you do to.

dolly, try to find something to be happy about, like this post says, even if it's just reminding yourself that you like the clouds in the sky. Then be sad. Don't deny yourself...my pastor says we have to "sit with the feeling" if we want to get through it. Want to get through it, because the other side is worth it. I'm sorry this has happened to you and your life. This website will be helpful for you...something, eventually, will be good about this change, but now it feels awful and it sucks. Let it. Stick with your children and try to laugh once a day, even if it's forced. Keep on keeping on. You can do it and know that there are prayers in the world for you. Many prayers for your strength and for your hope to remain in your heart.

I am trying to understand why my husband of 32 years left me. I am so broken hearted and cannot even imagine how to move on. We were just getting to the good part of life with grown children and grandchildren. Trips to Disney with them were being talked about and then he told me he was cheating on my for several years. I just am not financially able to support myself and am at a total loss of where to turn next. I have been going for therapy but some days I cannot stop crying. I live alone now and my children both live 1 1/2 hours away. I have a full time job to keep me busy but still I come home to an empty house and it really hurts. How do I carry on? How do I stop hurting so much?

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