Dear Baba Rumcake,
I was admonished by a man in the tennis courts because my wonderful and very old dog Ruff peed on the net. I apologized for my dog’s mishap but he kept shouting at me. He even suggested I should come back with a towel to clean under the net. I was very upset with the encounter. I felt harassed and worried for my safety. I quickly exited the chain link fence and headed out.
How should I have dealt with this? How should I deal with it next time?
Concerned in Oahu

Dear Concerned,
I’m even calling you dear much to my consternation and dismay.

You walked your dog, old as it may be, in a fenced tennis court. You let bowzer piss on the net? Naturally it dripped to the ground making a puddle.

Now you want to know what do next time?

How about being less of a cretin and not taking your dog into the fenced-in tennis courts where he pisses all over the place. Balls will roll into the acrid urine getting disgusting and nasty for others to handle.

Mishap? Mishap indeed but it is not the dog’s mishap. It is your own lack of discipline. You are the owner, the human, the accountable one. You are the one who put yourself in that unseemly position. Get a life! The world is not your toilet and not your dog’s either.

A poor excuse of a dog caretaker. A perfect example of irresponsibility. It is your own poor judgment and lack of social skills that placed you in that unseemly position.

Your fear of the man who confronted you comes from your inability to take responsibility for your behavior. If you want to know what to do next time, do not allow your dog in the courts. Not so hard. Not so difficult.

That should take care of your problem. If you had half a brain. Assuming you were not raised in a barn.

I was in the library with my son who is mentally challenged. We were doing homework and the woman in the next table kept giving me dirty looks. To top it off, the guard came and told me to keep it down since other people were working.

I felt offended. Do you think they should be allowed to shush me? My son has a right to do his homework. What do you think?

Irate

Dear Irate….ummmm Looking for Sympathy
What the hell is wrong with you! Are you stupid or is this just a joke? If your son can do homework, it is very probable he can follow directions. In which case you can tell him to be quiet since you are in the library.

If a guard had to tell you to be quiet, you were unreasonably loud which is rude. Having a child is not an excuse for lack of concern and caring for others. Instead of complaining, maybe you should look into adjusting some of your own behaviors.

If you want to chat with your son or do homework, aloud, you should go to your local coffee shop and screech all you want. Your taking offense has nothing to do with your son and everything to do with your lack of discipline.

Just like all of us, you need to follow the rules. Libraries are a haven for quiet not for you to show off that you have a burden on our hands. Why do I say that? Because your note shows a lack of respect for everyone around you and you use your son as cover.

Poor me! Poor me, I have a mentally challenged son and I have to follow the rules.
Grow up!

Don’t you love it when people give you dirty looks because, you are, there?

My husband, who is very sweet and very kind, to everyone I might add, happened to be standing, waiting to take his seat. This woman, stood before his chair, not paying attention to him at all and she was upset, when she noticed. He did not hassle her. Nor ask her to move, nothing. She walked out after snatching her coffee giving him looks that would kill.
What gives?
Annoyed

Dear Annoyed,

Egocentricity, that is the quintessential problem that permeates the whole country. You ran into a woman who thinks too much of herself. She believes, most probably, that the space around her, belongs to her. As if we could buy, gather or own a piece of space besides where we absolutely are.

Those are the people, who imply, by their behavior and interaction, with everyone else, that they are more valuable. The same people who think gratitude is a form of groveling, and kindness a form of weakness.

What the hell is that about? He. Was. In. Her. Way. He did not notice, her presence. So, she was annoyed that he was there at all. Either you give these cretins a wide birth where they can ignore you; or you step on their toes and get dirty looks. Pick your poison.

How dare he encroach on her space. How dare he exist! Someone, who, dared exist, in her, immediate domain.

Those are the low lives that can never be happy, with anything, either given to them, or obtained, by unholy methods.They will take for the rest of their lives from whoever is dumb is enough to fall for their snare.

Take it easy, you want to say! Live a little. Give it a rest and let others be. No harm will come to you, if someone is close by. Let others exist and live their own lives, even if it inconveniences you some.

If your bf/gf liked to eat lots of fatty foods and was already a little overweight, would you feed them more of it?

Wondering Partner

Dear Wondering Partner,

Why don’t you leave the eating habits of your partner to them. There is no need for this push to make things for your partner if they like to eat crap. If they do, let them make it themselves. What is the need for pushing? We say for people to avoid pushing drugs now you want to push bad food?
Stay the hell out of it. Let them be responsible for their own fattening. You do not need to encourage or comment or even suggest. Take a hike and let it be.

I know a friend who is newly married and turning into a pretentious asswipe who is losing contact with all his friends. I want to say that when stuff like this happens, the relationship is the one that will usually end–and likely badly. But for now he is I guess going strong with her–spending all his time with her or just home. I really cant believe the person he’s become.What do you think?

Missing my Buddy

Dear Missing,

He is a married man. It is natural for your friend to be involved in his new marriage. Happens with all newlyweds. In time he might come back. Or not. Get yourself ready for the reality that your friend found his soulmate and has moved on.On the other hand, what the hell do you want with a married man? There is no way that he will spend the time he spent with you before. This is not some movie about growing up, this is growing up for real. Back off and leave him alone.You do not need to be the one who gets in the way and cause a rift between them. Time for adult time. Go play Nintendo and PSP by yourself since I am sure that is what you miss with your friend.