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Girls and their attention spans....

Can you guys suggest any way that we can a keep a girls attention span fixed for same amount of time as your own?

I will explain an example: If i want to go and see a screening of The Godfather at one of those cinemas that re-screens old classic movies, how i can make the girl i am with sit through the film because Godfather is long movie? How i can make her concentrate and understand the movie so i don't have to keep explaining to her what is happening and what means. last time i had to constantly explain to this girl what was happening throughout a long movie; which i hate the most because i lose my own concentration . Who knows some suggestions?

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

So, i went with this same girl to see some crappy generic hollywood movies which i didn't like but still i agreed to go with her anyway even though i knew i didn't like film.

So now if i want to go watch Godfather or a Kurosawa movie, this girl should still come with me to see that anyway even if she finds that boring. That is fair.

blueangel, this girl has normal attention span for me in other areas of life, but my complaint is her not making effort to understand the movie and constantly asking me to storyboard for her.

Why SHOULD she??? You AGREED to go with her. That doesn't make her HAVE to go to this movie just because you agreed to see the other one. And if she doesn't understand the movie she doesn't understand. I don't understand every movie I watch? Just don't take her to see a movie you already assume she won't understand. And I'm judging that you already have seen it. So why not go see some movie both of you haven't seen and both have interest in?

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

Originally Posted by blueangel06661

Why SHOULD she??? You AGREED to go with her. That doesn't make her HAVE to go to this movie just because you agreed to see the other one. And if she doesn't understand the movie she doesn't understand. I don't understand every movie I watch? Just don't take her to see a movie you already assume she won't understand. And I'm judging that you already have seen it. So why not go see some movie both of you haven't seen and both have interest in?

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

I don't understand why if she doesn't have interest in that movie, why when i ask her to see that movie she agrees instantly then? I ask quite a few times "are you sure? we can see something else" - and all that time she says no my choice of film is fine.

But then her constant monotony puts me off my own viewing experience!

Why i want to see The Godfather again? Well, because i never get to experience that on the big screen because i wasn't even being born when that was released.

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

Never do a favor, expecting a favor out of it. As I've said before girls are nutty, and what's good for the goose ain't usually good for the gander. First, you presume that your girl appreciates classic art such as The Godfather...obviously it's a movie beyond her comprehension. Don't take her to see it, and don't go bitching about it when you do, knowing full well how she is. I know you want to broaden her horizons in good movies, but it isn't working...so stick to the cheesey cinemas when with her, and take guy buddy to see the good ones.

Plus, she probably agrees to go with because in reality she doesn't care about the movie...she may just want to spend time with you.

Last edited by solidarmor; 11-04-2011 at 01:43 PM.
Reason: cause I said so..

sorry

I wish i could give you some advice, but you might have to ask my girlfriend. She's usually the one trying to keep my attention. What she usually does is flash me then all m attention suddenly rests on her.
So take the advice from Pickles "the drummer. Doodily doo, ding bap! Doodily, doodily do..." and in the words of this wise man, " dude, just whip it out!" Haha.
Keeping the attention of women is next to impossible. Try talking to her about the styles of the period the movie takes place in?

You must take advantage of the situation and use her inability to foc,us to your advantage! Skillfully you must redirect her ever-changing point of interest to land on the things you want it to!

You must take advantage of the situation and use her inability to foc,us to your advantage! Skillfully you must redirect her ever-changing point of interest to land on the things you want it to!

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

Don't take her to see it? If she doesn't want to see it she doesn't want to see it. How would you like it if a girl took you to see twilight and made you concentrate.

A) Don't take her to see it
B) Take a girl that knowingly says "Hey do you want to see Godfather?"

I wouldn't go with you if you thought I wasn't going to pay attention that much. Are you just that boring? Usually when a girl doesn't have a long attention span around guys they...

A) Do not like them
B) Do not like them but using them for.. free food or free something....

There's a C) Girl likes them but guy takes them to places they don't like. Hence why they're bored and don't pay attention. Do something you both like. Like jumping off bridges. Who doesn't like jumping off bridges?

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

Originally Posted by GameGeeks

There's a C) Girl likes them but guy takes them to places they don't like. Hence why they're bored and don't pay attention. Do something you both like. Like jumping off bridges. Who doesn't like jumping off bridges?

Wow...isn't that what I just said? Minus the whole pact suicide thing.

DerGerman...your advice card has been revoked. You'll get it back when you're more responsible. But, uhm...does your girl have a sister?

Re: Girls and their attention spans....

Originally Posted by mt774

I don't understand why if she doesn't have interest in that movie, why when i ask her to see that movie she agrees instantly then? I ask quite a few times "are you sure? we can see something else" - and all that time she says no my choice of film is fine.

Well, as solidarmor said, she probably only wants to go to those movies because you are going and she wants to be with you. I mean, you already invited her; for her, it would be rather awkward for her to not only change your plans, but to change them to something of her choosing (girls can be weird like that).

Listen, there is jack squat that you can do about increasing her attention span (except spiking her drink with Ritalin or something); if she can't keep up with movies like The Godfather, well...there isn't much that you can do about it. I like The Godfather, but some of my female friends don't. When they visit, I don't show the movie, simply because I know they are not going to like it (despite the fact that they just want to be at my house); by that same token, when they come over, they don't pop in Twilight, knowing that I hate the movie with a passion. So we compromise.

You need to compromise too. Find something ELSE you two can enjoy together, because forcing yourselves to enjoy each other's preferences in movies isn't going to work. Even as a female, I can't imagine having to explain to someone else, male or female, every single scene of The Godfather (or ANY movie, for that matter). That would be silly. Plus, typically, when I go on dates with guys to the movies, my attention is...er, elsewhere (let's put it this way: my mind isn't on the movie, so don't bother asking me what's going on...and let's leave it at that [although I think I might have confirmed an issue dealing with the attention span of females...although for an entirely different reason]).

....Or you can just tell the girl to stop bothering you while you are watching movies. I mean, if you are going to ask something like how to increase a woman's attention span (really?), you might as well confront her about the issue.