Should You Write A Letter To Your Ex Boyfriend?

It always cracks me right up to see the way that relationships are shown in movies or in TV shows and just how unrealistic their view of the world of love and romance is. When you saw Ross and Rachel arguing on “Friends” it was always in such a way that everyone got to say what they wanted to and then both people calmly walked away, looking sad as they went.

Now for any of you reading this who’s ever been in a real life argument with a partner you know that there are things said during this type of argument that you’d never see on television – it would never get past the TV censors!

All relationships are very emotionally charged situations even when they’re going well because you’ve invested a lot of personal time, money and emotions in this particular person. Now when the relationship is under threat and you feel under pressure the things you need to say are the ones that you never do and they’re usually the same things you wish your former partner could hear you say right now.

So now that everything has calmed down you still feel that there are some things you need to say to your ex boyfriend for any number of reasons, but you still want to write him a letter regardless.

Letter To Ex Boyfriend To Get Him Back

Maybe you said some things that you now regret and you want to apologize for them and see if there’s any way to resurrect your relationship? In this case writing a letter to an ex boyfriend to get him back can help but you’ll need to be as sincere as possible and lay all your cards out on the table, you have nothing to lose here at this point.

Goodbye Letter To Ex Boyfriend

In this situation maybe you’re “happy” that the relationship is now over but you wanted to make some points clear to your ex. Writing him a letter in this situation can just lead to further arguments by phone, e-mail or text, so you’re usually best to just wish the other person well and get on with your own life. Nobody likes to get a list of things they did wrong and reminding somebody how wrong they were can be enough to make them avoid you for the rest of their lives.

Why not just send a text message instead? Well you can send a text message if you like but you’re limited in what you can say in them and you might have to send 20 or 30 text messages to get the whole message across. In some cases writing a letter or an e-mail just makes a lot more sense but remember that a handwritten letter is going to make a much bigger impact than any text message or email ever could.

One of the main reasons for sending an ex boyfriend a letter like this is to help you heal at an emotional level too – there’s as much benefit in this for you as part of the healing process as anything else. That’s why it’s so important that this letter is not vindictive or violent in nature because that’s the last thing you want him to be able to show to his friends right? If you have harsh things to write down then make that a private letter than you write but never send – again just another part of the healing process for you.

If you want more help in dealing with breakups or makeups then I’d suggest you give “The Magic of Making Up” by T.W Jackson a read – it’s one of the best relationship self-help guides out there.