There is no growth without changes, there are no changes without choices…

Abraham Lincoln

We all need a sparring partner. Someone we can check our ideas with, someone who can give us friendly advice without judging and making fun of us, don’t we?

If we are lucky we have such a person around us, but very often this person has not sufficient experience and skills to deliver all the answers we need.

Normally in our life we would need to have multiple friends with different experiences and knowledge to be around us wherever and whenever we need them… But this is not very easy to achieve.

Therefore I developed my own “special friends super force” team.

I will show you how to become a friend with Winston Churchill and how to convince Abraham Lincoln to become your sparring partner! Isn’t that something! I hope you are excited about this perspective.

Internet is a very powerful tool. One thing I love about Internet is the ability to search through it for whatever I need.

Someone wise once said that if you will search you will find… This is how I discovered a way to talk with people I need, wherever and whenever I need them. I also found out that after a while we become special friends.

How does it work? Very simple.

Let’s say that I am wondering why something does not work for me. I am going to my friends and ask them the following question:

Guys, I am trying to get this thing working for me and all I get is frustration instead of the expected results. Do you know what am I doing wrong?

Jim Rohn begins with: “You can cut a tree with a hammer but it will take 30 days…”

Jim, do you mean that I might have the wrong skills or wrong tools?

Abraham Lincoln is saying to me: “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”

You mean Abraham that I may not be correctly prepared? I got you!

Winston Churchill adds: “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference…”

Easy to say Winston, you should try to have a good attitude, after five attempts and no results. I am working so hard on it!

Jim Rohn interrupts: “Don’t mistake movement for achievement. It’s easy to get faked out by being busy. The question is: Busy doing what?”

Right Gents! So I need to check if my skills and tools are right, get better prepared, straighten my attitude and make a better plan for my actions! Thank you for this great advice!

Another example. I come broken down from a business meeting. I feel rotten as some people were trying to pull me down. You know, if it takes long enough you start to believe them…

So I go to my friends and ask: can I really do it? Am I the right person for this job?

Zig Ziglar interrupts with his specific accent and smile: you know that “far too many people have no idea of what they can do because all they have been told is what they can’t do.”

Goethe looks at me and says: ”Everything is hard, before it is easy”…

“Yes, yes, yes”, says Henry Ford, “when everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it”…

Then Les Brown ends with: “You have something special, you have greatness within you!”

Thanks to my friends and their wisdom my attitude rises up and I am ready to face another day.

These are just some examples that are helping me with my questions and doubts. I am sure you got the idea.

What is beautiful about this method is that you can use it completely for free! All you need to have is your question ready, some free time and Internet. When you will use it regularly you will find the positive impact it has on your life… And after a while you will select a group of your own special friends who can help you whenever and wherever you need it.

Do you have a dream? I am sure you do and if you don’t… Well, you should allocate some time to think about it.

But first let’s define a dream. What is a dream actually?

For me a dream is an idea, a vision that is created in our imagination about the future state of reality. A dream is about who we want to be, with whom we want to be, how we want to live, what we want to do, what we want to have, what we want to achieve etc. etc. etc.

What I like about the human mind is that our mind can create a vision that is almost real.

I am sure you had a dream which was so realistic that you couldn’t tell if it had actually happened?

I read somewhere that our brain does not really make a distinction between realities and dreams. The picture we can see in our dreams, the voices we can hear, the scents we can smell are for the brain as real as pictures we see on the street, voices we hear in the office or scents we can pick up in a flower garden. I do not know if this is true, but it seems like that to me.

Abraham Lincoln once said that the best way to predict the future is to create it. What I know is that the only way to create a future is to see it in our dreams first.

Anything created by man was first conceived in his mind. Someone had a dream of “it” before “it” could become reality. So a dream is not reality, but it is very close to it. A dream is not tangible but there is a very thin border between a dream and its outcome.

Please understand me right. I do not promise anybody that every dream will come true, but what I can promise you is that if you do not have a dream it will not become reality!

I have this dream of living a good life. For me a good life is quite well define. I can see me being with my wife as friends and life partners. We are traveling a lot, visiting our children, grandchildren and friends. Walking around in the nature and places of culture. I can feel the wind on my face while climbing with my wife a hill in the forest and I can feel the hot sun on my head while sitting on a city square in Italy sipping nice wine and looking at the amazing architecture around us. I can see me working hard on becoming a man of value. A man that has something to share. I am surrounded with people I respect. We are talking about new ideas, new possibilities. I do not have financial stress. I am smiling and I can feel that what I do has a positive impact on others.

I could go on and on and on… as my dream is very clear to me, and what is more important it is so appealing that it is one of the most powerful inspirational forces for me. From this force I am consciously setting myself goals. Personal development goals, financial goals, business goals. My dream has this incredible pulling power. It makes me stand up early, work hard and go to bed late.

It not only inspires me but also motivates me through my daily activities.

Les Brown once said: “If you take responsibility for yourself you will develop a hunger to accomplish your dreams.”

Therefore I would like to invite you to become a master dreamer, to take responsibility for yourself and develop a hunger to live it. If you will I am sure your dreams will come true!