Work Your Dream

Kindness is one of the things that we can freely give just as love is. And yet, so many today are withholding kindness, resorting to name calling, hatred, denigration etc. And many of them are the ones that will site that they did a random act of kindness by buying someone a cup of coffee.

When was the last time people served in a soup kitchen? I did before my health got so bad and I served on forearm crutches. I loved it. I met some really special people. When was the last time people noticed someone really hurting and reached out to them even if just to say “can I help you?”

When was the last time people took dinner to a shut-in or just visited. Being shut in can be very lonely and company is so wonderful to have. When was the last time someone you knew just lost a loved one and was having to head to the funeral home to make arrangements and you offered to go with them?

Kindness should not be random. It should be all the time. A smile is kindness, a greeting can be kindness and just showing you care can be kindness. A card sent to someone sick is kindness. We live in a crazy, crazy world where everyone is rush, rush, rush. And I want to say what are you rushing for? Slow down and really take a look around you. I see people who are ignoring their children because they would rather be on social media. Or children ignoring their elderly parents or sick parents because they just don’t want to be bothered.

We only have so long on this world and no one is guaranteed a tomorrow. So, we should make the best of every day and spread kindness and love. There is a quote I love for it says it all. I try to live this way. I hope it touches your heart like it touched mine.

“I shall pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”

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This is a topic that lies dear to my heart because it involves children. There are a lot of vloggers on You-tube and I enjoy watching some of them but what bothers me is that You-tube has an age limit of 13 to be able to be on You-tube and yet you will find kids as young as 7 years old commenting on these vlogs. And while some are just hooked on watching the vloggers, other young tweens (7-12) and young teens are on just to bully and harass and I think the parents would be shocked to see what they are doing.

I often wonder if parents even know what their kids are doing on those smart phones that they give them. I wonder do they realize that these kids are able to watch very inappropriate vlogs that have very vulgar and even sexually oriented content.

I believe this is one of the causes of kids dropping out of school for I see so many posting how they can not wait to get pregnant and quit school and make money on You-tube and they do. I have seen channels started by pregnant 13 and up kids who are not really ready to be a parent and have no education.

Although there are some family oriented vloggers, I personally would not want my child to pretend to be sick so they could stay home from school and watch their favorite vloggers, or to take their smart phones to the bathroom at school so they could watch or to become pregnant because they saw it on You-tube vlogs. There was a situation recently where a vlogger was walking in a store with another vlogger and a young girl saw her and ran up and hugged her. Her mother was like “Stop! Stop! Who are you?” to the vlogger. And that told me right there that parents do not pay attention to what their children are watching on the internet.

I personally think that You-tube should enforce their age limits and should also make the age limit higher to have a channel on You-tube. I read some of the comments written by these young kids and they are just hooked on watching these vloggers. They even send gifts, etc to these vloggers. And I think parents should start being diligent on this because this is another way that predators find our children.

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I am deeply concerned and saddened because every day I see on a page on FB that I follow called “Find the Missing”, children, mostly young girls between 11 and 17 who are missing. Some have run away thinking that they are smart enough to handle what may come and some abducted.

We all know there are pedophile rings out there and I have begun to believe they are working overtime to get these children. I recently watched on Dr. Phil his show on children being abducted by the sex trade. What this young girl told happened to her made me literally sick to my stomach. She was terrified Dr. Phil would send her back which of course he had no intentions of doing.

I believe that parents have got to teach their children the dangers out there in the world. Social media and fancy cell phones have made it easier and easier for children to be abducted. We as parents need to be moderating these phones, putting trackers on these phones and checking behind our kids. The world is no longer safe for people and especially for our children who are not old enough to see the danger in what they do.

We are not their “best friend” or their “buddy”. We are their parent and with that comes the responsibility to make sure our kids are safe, are taught well and have the tools to avoid some of these situations.

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I have seen so much hatred, so much desire to want to destroy our government and our country and so much ugliness and it makes me very sad.

IF and I say IF our country gets destroyed, it will not be by Republican or Democrats. It will be from hate. Hate is such a destructive emotion and damages not only those around someone who is filled with hate but also destroys the very heart of the person hating.

People who are consumed with hate lose perspective. They lose the ability to reason rationally and do things that jeopardize not only themselves but their jobs. They say and do things because they want to get even with whomever they are hating.

Those hating are trying to stop people from having their own opinions. If you do not agree, you get called names like racist, etc. Those hating lose sight of the fact that our country is based on freedom and I totally support peaceful protests, peaceful marches, and other ways of peacefully getting their opinion across. But I do not condone those who destroy businesses, homes, cars, injure other people and spew hatred at them.

I believe we start where we are at trying to bring peace and reason to our little corner of the world. I do not have to agree with you for us to be friends. I just have to treat you with kindness. Someone who has a different opinion than me does not destroy my opinion. It does not threaten it. So, why would I need to react with such hatred?

I know there are many out there who feel like I do and do not want hatred to destroy our country or even the world. People just have to recognize what hatred is doing.

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Due to some drastic health changes, my blog is going to change. I have spinal cord problems along with all my other health issues and being told surgery would make me paralyzed from the waist down and not having it, I will end up that way anyway, I decided to not have the surgery. But, it has drastically affected my life. I can not sit long, lay long, stand long without extreme pain. There are some other issues but I am not going to go into them. Just letting you know why the change.

I am going to be doing small posts called Simply danLrene’s Opinion. It may be a paragraph on something in the news, something that strikes my opinion, something I see or hear. Just whatever. If anyone has any ideas you can send them to me. If you are wanting to troll and write hate comments or argue, remember this is just my opinion. Everyone does not think the same and everyone has the right to their opinion. If you decide to attack, hate, etc, your comment will never reach my blog as I filter all of them. I ask people to just be kind.

About danLrene

And now I can add author to that list for my first book has been published and is on Amazon for sale now. Here is the link: My First Book Published

If you want it real….read my blog. If you want all fou fou and fluffy sweet..it is not here. 🙂

danLrene is a quirky, funny, eclectic, happy, compassionate, caring, hippy, country girl and most of all a God-loving person who just also happens to be a writer, a poet, a photographer, an artist, the queen of bed dancing, hairbrush singer extraordinaire, once a cook..now the taste tester, once a gardener and now a gardening adviser and the keeper of danLrene older than dirt wisdom.

My goal is to have people see me and think “I want what she has that makes her so happy”. Happiness is a choice..a daily choice. We are either survivors or we are victims. I am a survivor. Survivors focus on the solutions and ways to have a better life while victims are still talking about all the problems.

I will not lie and tell you life is all roses because it is not. Some days I can not move and lay on this bed in agony and some days I am able to sit in my power chair for a little while. But no matter what kind of day, I look for something good to focus on whether it is my dreams, my daisy, my son who is so good at taking care of me, my other son and DIL and my Sweetpea, my family, my friends on line…no matter what..there is always something good to find in life if you look hard enough. Just remember it is how you think that determines what life is like.

“If you think you can or you think you can not, you will be right.”

I will be 67 this May of 2016. Life has been a journey of health issues since before I was 31 . I have a warrior attitude. Being a warrior does not mean you always win. It means you never quit trying. Life is what you make it and I choose to make mine as happy as possible no matter where I am in life.

I am blessed in that my oldest son is my caretaker and a great one at that. He has given up much to take care of me. He is an awesome caretaker and is always looking for ways to make life easier for me. I truly am thankful for his care. He is writing a book talking about “My Mother’s Keeper”..and I think it is going to be wonderful for so many are having to take care of their parents today.

My name is not chronic illness or disability. Can you really see me or do you see my health? I hope you see me and my spirit.

Our baby Daisy. Daisy came to us from a dear friend after our Jack, as so many of you called “Wonder Dog” because of his blue cape, walked on to the next world. And Daisy is such a joy and makes us smile and laugh.

Son and Daisy

My one room world from my hospital bed-it is filled with warmth and love from so many. Son designed my “Command Central” as he calls it. It is a long narrow table by my bed with a little flip down desk where I can sit on the edge of the bed and eat or I can sit up and type if I want to but I am “tummy typer supreme” as son calls it and many wonder how I type laying down like I do. Necessity is the mother of invention. My room looks into the kitchen where I can see son puttering around cooking as he is master of the kitchen now. 🙂

I still dream of going back to Italy, of us having one of those shuttle buses with a lift for my chair that son can convert into a motor home for us to make it easier when I have to go to Denver for surgeries and stuff. I still dream of learning how to tap dance…yes even on these crutches or laying on my hospital bed, just so I can say I did. All I need are a pair of size 11 tap shoes and a board at the foot of my bed. I dream of many things.

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Ever since I was a little girl, I was told I was a dreamer. I can remember report cards with “day dreams” written on it. I think dreams are what keep us going. Without dreams…we have no hope. I dream of many things and I dream for many of you.

Follow Your Dreams, The Siren Called Out To Me

As I closed my eyes and fell deep into lovely sleep. The dream siren called me with a promise to keep

I closed my eyes and looked deep in my soul I could feel the wind blowing…it was so very cold

My dreams I had carried through year after year They will never come true was my biggest fear

Wandering up one lane and down another Remembering my dream since I became a mother

Land, open land and a place to be free A small house to live in with a big evergreen tree

We mounted the buckboard with all we owned inside And started over the mountain on this crazy dream ride

We felt like pioneers racing to the finish line for land And the whole time we knew -The Lord had our hand

So do not be afraid to dream your dreams and try Life is too short…open your wings up and fly

Dream I say and work the dream hard as you can For it will be the best race that you ever ran.

We all have dreams of what we want out of life. I remember Laverne on Laverne and Shirley saying her dream was to have a purple cashmere sweater. Well, our dream is to own land in the country and have a simple life style unencumbered by so much of what is in the world today. We have accomplished that dream in that we live on the outskirts of small town America in a much smaller and compact house but it has all we need: a cottage that visitors say they love because it is so serene here.

I love to write and have written for years. And hopefully will continue to write for many more years. This blog is about our journey getting here, our life after we reached the promised land and different middle of the night ramblings, posts to inspire others to keep fighting and keep living. Dreams are like cooking…we might get our grandparents old recipes, but we tend to alter them to suit ourselves. But, dream we must…for as long as we have hope in life…we have dreams. And even plain ole everyday people get dreams that come true. 🙂

I hope you enjoy and will subscribe and share my journey. Come join us at the foothills of the mountains where we have found a life of simplicity and serenity, in spite of all the health trials of one disabled woman and the courage of a son that chose to take care of her.