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Cavell saw these movies as heralds of new models of marriage, in which partners would be equal and bound by their (continually reaffirmed) consent, instead of simply by the official sanction of church or society."grew up together," Josh and Jessica are supposed to have dated in college, when Josh was one of Jessica's older brother's friends.

Same-sex romance, a controversial topic in movies millions now alive can still remember, is a lifestyle choice in "Kissing Jessica Stein." Yes, a "choice"--although that word is non-PC in gay circles--because one of the two women in the movie is nominally straight, and the other so bisexual, she pops into her art gallery office during an opening for a quickie with her boy toy.

Helen (Heather Juergensen), the gallery manager, is a lesbian in about the same way she would be a vegetarian who has steak once in a while.

In a funny montage, she goes through a series of disastrous dates, including one with a man whose word choices would make him a copy editor's nightmare (he uses the phrase "self-defecating"). She seeks not perfection in a partner, but the mysteries of an intriguing personality.

She finds it challenging that Jessica has never had a lesbian experience, and indeed approaches sex with the enthusiasm of a homeowner considering the intricacies of a grease trap.

Which is why I was reluctant to see a film that appeared to encourage this kind of thinking.

chronicles the relationship between two women, one “straight” and one bi.

In one scene, Josh gives Jessica a close version of the lectures Tracy gets from Dexter and her father.

Tracy's father says she has everything it takes to make a lovely woman except "an understanding heart." Dexter tells her: "You'll never be a first-class human being or a first-class woman until you've learned to have some regard for human frailty." Josh says Jessica will never meet anyone until she stops being so harsh: "I don't think the problem's with these poor men. I think the problem's with you." Tracy's and Jessica's original relationships with Dexter and Josh were practically arranged marriages; each couple grew up together and were perfectly matched by religion, social class, and parental approval.

Finally, chastened by but also better off for her experience, she returns to discover that she and the boy have learned to make things work.

Harvard philosopher Stanley Cavell wrote a book about this plot's use in movies from the '30s, called A comedy of remarriage was defined by a couple (half of which was often Katharine Hepburn) divorcing or separating, and subsequently remarrying after each person has gained some self-knowledge and humility.

Jessica is the kind of woman few heterosexual people want to know about – the woman who is basically straight but has had the occasional dalliance with another woman.