So sorry to hear. There is not much to say (hence the inane religious comments from people.)

Just know that it is fine and definitely not crazy to feel whatever way you will feel. Be angry, be sad, get some alone time and let it all hang out. Don't let anyone tell you how you are supposed to feel. You'll be ok!

Science is the process we've designed to be responsible for generating our best guess as to what the fuck is going on. Girly Man

My wife and I went through this in October 2013; we lost twins. What we found hardest about the whole process was that we had to force ourselves to be more emotionally guarded around pregnancy after that. She's pregnant again, due in May, and while it's never GUARANTEED, strictly speaking, we're at the point that our son Ben knows he has a brother coming, we've picked a name, etc. But we were robbed of the JOY and celebration we would've otherwise had about the conception and pregnancy. Instead it was replaced by being guarded, doubtful, and telling ourselves not to "get our hopes up," too early. For a LONG time after the loss, we found it VERY hard to get excited about anything.

We have a smattering of theists of various kinds in our family, and thankfully none of them gave us any of that "angel in heaven," talk. That would've been tough to handle.

One thing that surprised me was that as we were going through the grief process, lots of women we'd known for years all of a sudden came out of the woodwork to tell us it had happened to them too. It's one of those dark and secret things in society that nobody likes to talk about (especially around pregnant women) but it's touched a lot more people than we think.

Anyway sorry to hear about your loss. There's no real "advice" to give on something like this, just know that you're not alone, that there's nothing you did or didn't do that caused this to happen. It's not your fault.