In this week’s podcast, Andrea and Tara discuss how some of us struggle with always doing things that make us unhappy, even though we don’t actually need to be doing them in the first place! They get to the bottom of WHY and HOW TO CHANGE IT!

How do you feel? Sometimes, the answer isn’t clear. This is not good, because if we don’t know how we feel, we can’t be happy and healthy. There’s so much cultural phooie-ness that takes up residence in our minds and it totes blocks the truthful answer to this question from coming out. I say, let’s put an end to that right now! Head’s up: we need to be ready to have a different mindset than what our culture has led us to believe is “right.” This is a good thing, because change only happens with new mindsets! 1) You have a right to be treated like the princess you are. I cannot tell you how unhappy it makes me to hear the phrase “First World Problems.” What the heck is that supposed to mean anyway?! Why do we judge our circumstances by comparing our lives to societies with the worst living situations? That’s just silliness. Let’s judge our circumstances by comparing our lives to a world where there is no brokenness and people are treated …

Putting ourselves first as gotten such a bad wrap. We’re all constantly expected to put the needs and feelings of others before our own. This, incorrectly, has been taught to us as the “nice”, “correct”, and “godly” way to live. I call “phooey.” There is nothing good about living a life that doesn’t address our own needs. If my own needs are not taken care, I’m not half as good of a friend, spouse, or daughter to anyone else. I’m constantly driving myself crazy thinking about people in my life not accepting that it doesn’t work for me to attend their events. I say, let’s put anything that drives us crazy out of our lives, for good. Who’s with me? There are only 2 steps to living a significantly more balanced, more fruitful, and more relaxing life: 1) Learn this mucho crucial phrase: “That doesn’t work for me.” It’s that simple. No guilt, no excuses, and most importantly, NO EXPLANATIONS needed. If an invitation to a party, a holiday celebration, a wedding, a trip, etc. …