Awww

Last night was SO’s sister’s wedding. I was MOH. SO MUCH WORK. Her wedding turned out really nice, but my feet are still aching. It helped to solidify my decision to do a small civil wedding and a dinner with family.

SO was so helpful. He was sweeping and dealing with garbage and directing people in the kitchen of the reception venue. I think some people thought we worked there by the end of the night. He made lots of last minute stops before the ceremony, and we were also both designated drivers. He even got the A/C going in the car before we left home so my curls and makeup wouldn’t melt away. : )

Inevitably, our lack of marriage was discussed by about a dozen family members throughout the evening. We had semi-strangers coming up to us and saying, “So we hear you two are getting married next!”

We had a few of the groom’s family come up to us to ask us who we were inrelation to the family. When I was on my own, I told a few people I was the bride’s brother’s girlfriend and was, of course, immediately dismissed – including by one of the bridesmaids wondering why I was MOH.

SO, on the other hand, told people I was his future wife and that we were currently working on getting married. First time I have heard him introduce me as anything more than “girlfriend” or “better half” or “main squeeze.” !!!!!!! <3

We picked out my e-ring ring about a month ago, so hopefully I get a proposal soon.

Wow! I can’t believe people dismissed you because you were the “girlfiend”. I mean, every fiance is first a girlfriend lol I can’t see how you can dismiss a girlfriend without even knowing how long the couple has been together, especially if the girl is MOH!! That means a lot! Some people are strange!

Anyway, you seemed to have handled it superbly, and you and your SO certainely made his sister’s wedding memorable for her 🙂 Sounds like you put in a lot of work, so things could go smoothly for her. That impresses me more than a girl who would have worn an expensive ring and would have done nothing more than revels in her glory to be MOH, as those rude people seem to think a MOH should have done lol.

I went to a BBQ at his parent’s house today. He had to work. We have not discussed any of our ring shopping or recent chats with them. We are planning our first real vacation together in October. He told me to start planning it the same week he asked me for my ring size and took me to go look at rings. We’ve done weekend trips in-state before, but not anything like a week out of state.

She told me today that he asked her for any odd jobs his dad might have for him, because he’s trying to save money so we can go on a trip. His parents have their own business, and they frequently have more work than they can handle.

I know SO wouldn’t have told her any plans of his as far as engagement because both of our families have big mouths. She says to me, ” I think he’s planning something important.”

I’m thinking to myself, ” Yeah, he’s proposing at some point this year.”

She says, “I think he might be planning an ELOPEMENT. “

I told her that he should let me in on it if that’s his plan and laughed it off!!!

The girlfriend dismissal thing might have been a little bit in my head or potentially an issue of confusion since SO’s sister sometimes tells people I’m her sister-in-law. I can guarantee that at least 2 people immediately walked away without a word when I said “girlfriend” and didn’t speak to me again.

The bridesmaid ( the only one I had never met ) said, ” Oh, you’re the MOH? Oh, bride’s brother’s girlfriend? So like uncle’s cousin’s friend’s daughter, right? har har har. ” Bad joke or a jab, you decide.

@MsW-to-MrsM: I’d say bad joke. It IS funny that you can go from: bride’s brother’s girlfriend to a one word: sister-in-law.

I would also suggest that those who dismissed you as “girlfriend” didn’t realise you were MOH (even after the ceremony some clearly clueless people can’t figure those things out).

Unfortunately ‘girlfriend’ just doesn’t hold a lot of water these days, people say girlfriend of the girl they’ve been seeing for two weeks. For a lot of people it’s a word that is dismissible. When you ARE a girlfriend it hurts and seems ridiculous but I think a lot of us will be guilty of this in 15+ years.

I think it’s ridiculous that at a wedding anyone would dismiss you. I think that when they ask “oh, how do you know the bride and groom?” and you say “I’m the Maid Of Honor” usually you don’t need any other explanation! You’re important enough to the bride to be MOH and that’s all that matters!