“Man can be destroyed – But not defeated” These were the words of taiye bada, a Nigeria author, a journalist and most of all a man who lost hope, when his fiancée Agnes changed her mind at the last moment and married another man. He resorted to Alcohol in order to deal with this greatest disappointment of his life.

Disappointments are common to all of us and each one of us has our own coping mechanisms. It should be noted however that the grace of God is the greatest coping mechanism of all and how we respond to our disappointments determine whether or not will experience His grace. Today I am going to share three Christ like responses all of us can follow at times of disappointments so that we can receive His grace.

Deal with your emotions

(A) Disappointments cause many undesirable emotions. They become harmful to you and people around unless handled properly.

(B) Examples of such emotions: anger, un-forgiveness, frustration, hopelessness, and long lasting sorrow. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you to deal with these.

(A) Blame is a very common method people use to cope with the pain of disappointments. This is a fruit of our sinful nature.

(B) Some blame God for disappointments. In the Bible though, people who overcame their disappointments actually never blamed God, (Job 1:22)

(C) Some blame others. It works sometimes, (Acts 6:1-5). But worsens the situation most of the time, (2 Kings 6:30-31). Don’t allow room to the spirit of blame in your life.

Be realistic

(A) Someone said great expectations lead to great disappointments. Sometimes we get disappointed because our expectations were wrong, (Ruth 1:1-5; 20-21)

(B) God has given each one of us a certain measure of faith. Don’t think too highly of yourself, (Romans 12:3)

(C) Don’t expect God or even your spouse to behave the way you want. It’s simply unrealistic. It will never happen.

Application

Taiye refused to move on in life. One day he finally put a gun in his mouth and ended his life at the age of 61. God wants us to move on in life. In conclusion let me tell you three things we all should do so that we can keep moving despite disappointments.

(A) Taiye had a bright future and a life ahead of him but he allowed his emotions to drive his actions. I want to encourage you today, to deal with your emotions leave your disappointments at the cross so that you shall not miss the glorious future God has for you.

(B) Many people believe they can hurt others if they hurt themselves. Taiye probably thought the same. Unlike taiye, let’s forgive those who disappoint us, so that God can restore us.

(C) Let us not live in our own worlds like taiye but face the reality. God is sovereign and sometimes when we pray He will change us instead of our situations. If you are married, patiently learn to enjoy each other’s differences instead of trying to change them.

Conclusion

From now on, apply these three truths every time you are disappointed and God will give you strength and grace to move on.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

So many a time have been asked are you born again, are you a pastor or priest, are you single and so many question that sound judgmental. So for those of you who doesn’t know who Debola is, please read through.In simple and direct word, am just me, simple,domestic, naughty,gentle like a dove, comical, still a xtian, priest,iam not normal but above normal i.e super human,domestic meaning i like house chores alot. i play a lot but also i can say am discipline. am not a religious person cause xtianity is not a religion. last time i checked i can say for now am single n married and and not searching and much more that will drive you nuts if you want to get close. like i tell those who cares to listen, go and read eccl 7 from the beginning to the end and you see that there is fun,romance,life in the things of God. Am a man passionate about young ones because i still believe they are the future of tomorrow. So for further info on who Debola is,read the following onTHE IMAGEMAKERS WORLD.
To live as gently as I can;To be, no matter where, a man; To take what comes of good or ill, And cling to faith and honor still; To do my best, and let that stand The record of my brain and hand; And then, should failure come to me, Still work and hope for victory.To have no secret place wherein
I stoop unseen to shame or sin; To be the same when I’m alone As when my every deed is known; To live undaunted, unafraid Of any step that I have made; To be without pretense or sham Exactly what men think I am.
To leave some simple work behind To keep my having lived in mind; If enmity to aught I show, To be an honest, generous foe; To play my little part, nor whine That greater honors are not mine. This I believe is all I need
I do not choose to be a common man. It is my right to be uncommon. I seek to develop whatever talents God gave me—not security. I do not wish to be a kept citizen, humbled and dulled by having the state look after me. I want to take the calculated risk; to dream and to build, to fail and to succeed. I refuse to barter incentive for a dole. I prefer the challenges of life to the guaranteed existence; the thrill of fulfillment to the stale calm of utopia. I will not trade freedom for beneficence nor my dignity for a handout. I will never cower before any earthly master nor bend to any threat. It is my heritage to stand erect, proud and unafraid; to think and act myself, enjoy the benefit of my creations and to face the world boldly and say– ‘This, with God’s help, I have done.’ All this is what it means to be a Nigeria and also a christian. a life coach, motivational speaker, prophet and a teacher by calling.
EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND
Business Administration,Educational psychology,Theater art,Music (Keyboard),systematic theology
HOBBIES
Talking,singing,meeting with friends,watching cartoons,loves watching film(specially Foreign films in Adventures,a bit of magic n sword play,etc)

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