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​reach me at (505) 218-4310or​EMAIL mehankestrada505@gmail.com

﻿To My Survivor Brothers...﻿

If your going to heal from your abuse wounds, your going to have to tell someone what happened to you. By telling who assaulted you, you can begin to give up feeling responsible for it and release yourself from living in unnecessary silent shame. Healing begins when you also accept the fact that what happened to you, was not your fault. You were the victim of a sexual predator and you did whatever your perpetrator expected and directed you to do in order to survive. I need you to pay attention to what your "gut" says when you encounter unprofessional or inappropriate behavior from a therapist or anyone claiming to work with male survivors - if the person makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to end the connection and try another resource. I am encouraged by the number of men and women who have contacted me with words of appreciation and support for sharing my life’s healing journey. I never expected that my humiliating disclosure of being victimized, would help so many others commit to heal and live healthier lives. Their words are my greatest source of strength and courage to continue moving forward.

﻿I Have A Grateful Heart For Life With My Partner﻿

Since 1983!

I am fortunate to have unexpectedly found a supportive, respectful, and loving life partner relationship. We continue to enjoy our lives, laugh often and celebrate the everyday moments we have together without drama. If your a heterosexual man, you were NOT "turned" gay because of the assault you experienced. You know who you're naturally & emotionally attracted to, and its NOT men! Each of us, has to find our own natural state of sexual orientation and hope for a supportive, respectful and loving partner to share our life with. I wish a healthy, loving relationship experience for every survivor, man & woman,regardless of your sexual orientation.

About Hank

Born and raised in Southern California. Graduated from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles with a degree in Communications. In 1983, while working for the same company, Hank met his life partner, Antonio. They moved to the Land of Enchantment in 1986, where they continue to enjoy and appreciate life in New Mexico. Hank spent over 30 years as an internationally recognized authority and spokesman on men healing from sexual assault, abuse and trauma. At conferences, he is often introduced as a pioneer survivor spokesman for which he is proud to accept. Hank is the author of UnHoly Communion-Lessons Learned from Life among Pedophiles, Predators and Priests which is a memoir of exposing a sexual predators and what happened to him as a result of speaking out. Today, he is a man of many creative talents that can be seen throughout this website and appreciates receiving communications from visitors who are inspired or moved to contact him.