Q&A – Help! My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me

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Q: I cheated on my boyfriend of eight years, and our relationship has been damaged. Now he wants to control everything I do. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I understand where he’s coming from, but this isn’t fair to me. How can I regain his trust?

-Michelle W.

A: Hi Michelle,

I always say that the only thing worse than making a mistake is making a mistake and not learning anything from it. With that said, I truly hope that you’ve learned from this experience and will never repeat the offense again. However, the reality is that there are few things that cut a relationship deeper or break a heart quicker than when your partner is unfaithful. The truth is that you have given your boyfriend cause to both doubt and mistrust you. Even though the trust between you isn’t impossible to reconstruct, it’s definitely a tough bond to recapture. So how can you regain his trust?

The short answer is that you must prove to him once again that you’re trustworthy. His new desire to “control” you is born out of his newly-found distrust of you. Regaining his trust will take time, patience and constant reassurance on your part. The bottom line is this: If you want to remain in your current relationship and make amends with your boyfriend, you’re going to have to get used to living under a microscope for a while.

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