The Sexiest Thing My Wife Does

Real-life guys reveal what makes them unbelievably happy in bed.

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Ask the average red-hot-blooded husband which sex move he doesn't like and you just may grow cobwebs while he racks his brain. Uh-huh: Guys love sex. And probably -- on second thought, let's make that definitely -- what you're already doing to your man is making him very happy, not to mention very horny. Still, every guy still has one special thing that tops his list of all-time-favorite lusty treats. It may be a specific move, a position, something you whisper in his ear.... Whatever his deepest desire is, you want to discover it so you can treat your man to rafter-shaking sex and elevate your good love life to cloud-nine divine.

We're here to help. We figured the best way to learn the specific bedroom tricks that make men melt was to get them straight from the source. So we persuaded a slew of guys to confess their most secret sexual cravings. Here, 35 intriguing admissions.... Feel free to borrow liberally from the list and crank up the heat between your sheets.

Say anything
"I don't think women realize how unbelievably hot it is when they talk during sex. It's the difference between plain vanilla ice cream and a hot fudge sundae -- nuts, whipped cream and a cherry on top. And the thing is, it really doesn't matter what you say; say anything. When my wife just whispers my name, says it feels good, it just kills me. It's hearing her voice and knowing she's with me, her heart racing too: That's what makes sex so sexy!"
--Clive, 32

Getting an early start
"What I love? How my fiancée sometimes gets me going even before we're in the bedroom. She'll start the foreplay while I'm still at work. She'll call me in the afternoon and say, 'I'm picturing you naked, and you're doing very naughty things to me.' Then she'll leave me another sexy message as the day's winding down. On my commute she'll ring my cell phone, practically begging me to come home. By the time I get there, I feel like I've been seduced for five hours."
--Marcus, 30

Say it with smooches
"I love a major kissing session. Once you're married and so comfortable in bed together, kissing is the first thing to go out the window. When my wife and I make out, I get that goose-bumpy feeling: I think, Yeah, we've still got it. And it gets us that much hornier for what comes next."
--Manny, 41

Figure-eight fantasy
"There's a certain way my wife swivels her hips during sex that feels soooo good. It's a figure-eight shape. She's on top, and instead of moving up and down, she does the swivel, and it's like she's sending rays of pleasure through every single part of my penis."
--Owen, 34

Map it out
"When my wife traces the outline of my muscles, it makes me shiver with anticipation. Her fingernails travel lightly around my pecs, my abs, down my thighs.... It's like she's drawing the map of a trip she's about to embark on."
--Rick, 31

Man, that's some martini
"My wife has a trick that's out of this world. She chills a bottle of vodka and makes herself a really cold martini. Then, as she takes sips, she kisses me all over. She'll lick me, then lightly blow on the area to give it a frosty kick. It's phenomenal because it's not freezing, the way ice would be, but it creates this invigorating sensation that's so sexy."
--Mark, 35

For his eyes only
"I go nuts when my wife touches herself in bed. It's so intimate and sexy when she's confident enough and enjoying herself so much that she'll let me watch. Plus, I always learn a little bit about what feels good to her."
--John, 34

Up close and personal
"I love getting as much of my body and my wife's body touching as possible. That's the ultimate mind-body thing for me. One of our favorite ways: She'll lie down with a pillow under her, with one leg straight and the other lifted over my shoulder. With our bodies all entwined like this, I feel like we're so close, we practically become one."
--Bill, 29

The lustiest line
"You know that crease where your inner thigh meets your groin -- it's sort of the border between public territory and the very private VIP area? Well, when my fiancée kisses me slowly along that crevice, teasing me by occasionally crossing the line, it's like some switch goes off in me: I become just about insane with pleasure!"
--Eddie, 34

Playing footsie
"I know men are supposed to be obsessed with women's feet, but when my wife runs her fingers between my toes, it makes me instantly horny. She sort of kneads my big toe, then moves on to rub the tips of my other toes. Then she slides her fingers between them and kind of just gently pulls them back, like she's stretching all five together. Maybe there's really something to that reflexology thing after all."
--Stuart, 33

That hair-tousling trick "I melt when my girlfriend runs her hands through my hair. Whether we're kissing, in the throes of passion or even just watching TV and she's in the mood, all she has to do is slide her fingers behind my ears and around the back of my head, then run them through the hair at the top: Every nerve ending in my body comes alive. Whew!"
--Phillip, 39

Tub treat
"I'm totally into hot baths with my wife. I love getting in the tub together and dissolving in steamy water until we can hardly stand it anymore. Then when we're both totally relaxed and floppy and have barely enough energy to climb out of the tub, we have incredibly calm, Zenlike, intense sex."
--Jay, 28

Eyes wide open
"When my wife looks me straight in the eye during sex -- not a stare-down, but with that sort of soft focus -- I feel like we're 100 percent in sync. It's the sexiest, most honest and intimate moment I can think of."
--Jamie, 32

Taking the slow road
"I love it when my wife and I are having hot, full-throttle sex and she'll slow down the action. Instead of letting me keep thrusting, she grabs my hips and sort of grinds against me. The sensation is incredible and makes me feel like she's so turned on, she's just got to take over the action."
--Chad, 29

Wanna be startin' something?
"What all men really love is when women grab us out of the blue, tell us how badly they want us, then just start some action. I've never met a man who didn't dream of this: The odds of us saying no are zilch. I even like it when my wife does it as I'm on my way to play basketball. When I get there and say, 'Sorry I'm late,' I bet the guys can see by the very satisfied look on my face what I was up to!"
--Armand, 34

The ultimate eyeful
"Everyone knows guys are real visual when it comes to sex. I'm no exception. I get off on doing it in a position that gives me an unobstructed view of the action. My absolute favorite way: I sit on the bed, and my wife straddles my lap, then leans back on my thighs. I hold her hips to keep her comfortable, and, man, oh man, I get to take in the entire red-hot scene."
--Paul,

The right wrist trick
"There's one little move my wife does that honestly makes me dizzy: She holds my wrists down against the mattress when she's on top. I'd feel embarrassed to actually be tied up, but this shows she's still in control.... It makes me feel utterly at her mercy without all the props, and it's making my knees feel weak just talking about it."
--Chris, 28

Hold it!
"Well, it's a little clichéd, but when my wife reaches back and grabs onto the headboard, it just rocks my world. It's like she's so overwhelmed with passion and sensations, she's got to hang on! What man wouldn't go wild for that?"
--Joe, 25

Opposites attract
"The sexiest thing my wife does is wear her really good lingerie under regular clothes. She'll give me a little peek as she gets dressed in the morning, and it gets me so horny knowing that while she's gardening in cutoffs, she's got a black mesh thong underneath. Or that under her jeans and tee is a pink lace number I'll get to fully appreciate later that night. She loves the feel of wearing special lingerie; she knows how much it turns me on. It's a treat I'll never get enough of."
--Phil, 38

About face
"One of the sexiest things a woman can do is let a man see her pleasure in her expression. When my wife's face reflects her ecstasy, I know I'm doing something right, and it bonds us even more deeply. So go ahead and gasp for air, grimace: We love to see it."
--Jean-Claude, 38

The new way to neck
"After we've been kissing for a while, my wife uses her tongue to create a million different sensations. She licks me softly on the neck, then kind of flutters her tongue around my ear and sucks on my earlobe. Then she uses just the tip, making it very firm, and runs it down to my nipples. That makes -- how should I say this? -- every other part of my body come alive. I highly recommend it."
--Jared, 33

"Coffee, tea or me?"
"Sometimes my wife will start talking to me at bedtime as if she's a stewardess, which she's not, or a cop, a nurse or some other typical male sex fantasy. I instantly get turned on and participate in the game. It completely changes the way we have sex. I mean, a hot stewardess does it differently than a wife and mother of two, right?"
--Lance, 37

Hot stuff
"I've always loved having my nipples licked. My wife follows that up by blowing warm little breaths on them so it tingles.... Then things get very serious very quickly!"
--Wolf, 26

Takeoff time
"I go from zero to 60 in about three seconds flat when my wife does her little 'Can you help me...?' routine. It'll be almost 11pm, and I'll think we're going straight to sleep, and she'll come over and say, 'Can you help me? I can't seem to get my shirt --' (or bra, or whatever) '-- undone.' Then she'll ask me to help her take her jeans off. Being invited to do something that intimate, hearing her teasing tone of voice as she asks and touching her like that lights my fire like nobody's business."
--Henry, 36

Setting the scene
"When my wife is really in the mood, she goes all out. She'll get some big pillows and a soft throw and lay them on the living room rug. Then she'll open some wine and play some sexy Miles Davis CD. She'll have flickering candles all around the room. Seeing that scene gets my blood pumping because, for one, I know she's about to rock my world, and two, she's obviously been thinking about sex -- and me -- all day long."
--Gil, 36

Put it into words
"Honestly, what every guy craves in bed? Hearing that he's good. We've got egos -- big ones. When I know I'm making my woman feel good, it pushes me right over the edge. So just say it, say whatever comes into your head. It doesn't have to be fancy: 'God, that feels good,' 'Don't stop,' or whatever. It's like fuel for the engine."
--Brad, 33

One heckuva wake-up call
"Maybe I've been dreaming about sex, or maybe it's the erections we guys always wake up with, but the a.m. is a very horny time for me. So when my wife once actually woke me up by starting to stroke me and lick my nipples, I thought I was still dreaming. It was definitely the best sex I'd ever had."
--Harry, 29

Who's that girl?
"I love it when my wife is totally unpredictable once she gets between the sheets and shows the different sides of her personality in bed. For instance, she's usually assertive, so when she becomes all demure during sex and makes me work for it, it's unexpected and completely sexy. After all, we guys love variety."
--Jeremy, 35

Just follow the directions...
"When my girlfriend tells me what to do to her, I just lose my mind. She tells me exactly what she's craving, and she spells it out for me: 'Kiss my lower back softly, then slowly run your tongue down my thigh. Now flip me over....' Putting those slightly forbidden words out there gets me so worked up, I can hardly follow her directions!"
--Russell, 36

Watch those curves!
"There is this position that I can never get enough of: My wife is on top, but she turns around so her back is to me. She leans forward a little bit, which feels amazing; and the icing on the cake is the view I get of the beautiful curves of her back, waist and hips."
--Sean, 32

In praise of PDAs
"My wife isn't the least bit self-conscious about showing her attraction to me in public. We can be walking down the street, in a restaurant, at a party, anywhere, and she'll spontaneously kiss my neck or put her hand a little too high on my thigh. I love it. There's nothing more exciting than feeling desired, and better, feeling like you're so desired that she's got to have a taste of you now."
--Bruce, 36

Little bag of tricks
"Once, my fiancée and I were getting hot and heavy when she suddenly pulled this silk pouch out of the drawer of her bedside table. In it was an assortment of sexy accessories -- scented body oil, a blindfold and a soft loofah. She blindfolded me and drizzled the oil all over my body. Then she massaged me with the loofah. It felt amazing: The slick oil mixed with the sponge's slight roughness. Not being able to see really made me focus on how I felt: every single knead, tickle, stroke. Plus, not knowing where she was headed next -- well, the anticipation nearly killed me. I can't wait until she does it again."
--Ben, 34

Read my lips
"My wife has a little sign that tells me she wants to have sex pronto. She'll look at me coyly, then run the tip of her tongue along the center of her top lip, where it dips. Not a flick, but a slow, sexy taste. She'll do it when we're out to dinner, watching TV, anytime the mood strikes. Just getting the signal equals, like, 20 minutes of foreplay for me."
--Jackson, 39

Picture this
"One Saturday my wife did this thing that drove me insane. She planted pictures of herself -- in skimpy lingerie, totally naked, in sexy poses -- around the house in odd little places, like in my shaving kit. As I hunted for them all, I got hotter and hotter. The last one was pinned above the bed as a sort of promise of what was to come that night...except I couldn't wait till that night!"
--Nigel, 40

Fun factor
"I hate too-serious sex. There is nothing better in bed than when my wife plays around a bit, tickles me, wrestles me, laughs with me when we admit that a new position just ain't working. It's in those moments that I realize we're true partners, in bed and out."
--Scott, 34

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