Fear of gaining too much weight

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maddi9990 wrote:

I know it's inevitable to gain weight while being pregnant, which is fine. But it's my first pregnancy, and the thought of me gaining so much weight scares me, I know it sounds selfish. I need to gain the proper amount of weight, I just really don't want to be fat. I'm only 11 weeks 3 days and I feel like I've already gained too much weight. For those who have had children before did you exercise and eat healthy the whole time or did you pretty much just embrace it and eat/do what you wanted and how did it effect your weight after the baby? I feel terrible for even worrying about this but it's a genuine concern of mine. :( Even though he makes me feel beautiful, i don't want my significant other to eventually find me unattractive.

It is a common worry for a lot of ladies and you shouldnt feel bad about it. I am diabetic so I am on a specific diet and I walk three times a day. I don't gain very much weight with my pregnancies. My last pregnancy I gained 15lbs total. I am 13 weeks today and havent gained anything...yet.

This is my second. Before my first, I was in really good shape..worked out 5-6 days a week. I ate fairly healthy but can't say I ever really watched what I ate too carefully. Anyway, I continued working out, not as intensely, and cut back to 4-5 days a week. My eating habits didn't change much. I Gained close to 55 pounds. I was pretty mortified every time I stepped on the scale. I'm not trying to make excuses, but the majority of it was from fluid retention that quickly went away after I gave birth. The good news is I was able to lose it and actually ended up possibly in better shape than I was before my first. I am now 13 weeks and have gained 4 lbs but feel like crap, as this first trimester as whipped my butt and I haven't worked out nearly as frequently. Hoping I can find the energy to get back into a workout routine again soon! So my point is, whatever effort u put into staying healthy and working out during regnancy will benefit you..maybe not during pregnancy, such as in my case, but it will make it easier to get back in shape after. And by the way, I think it's totally normal to be horrified by the thought of it. Good luck!

With my son I worked out 4-5 days a week, mostly watched what I ate but did indulge in ice cream every now and then. I was running monthly 5ks until 8 months (running was giving me contractions. I still gained 55 lbs and I was super swollen by the end. I could barely fit in my flip flops. I lost all of the weight before my son was 1 year old. I'm 12 weeks with this one, still working out and eating healthy and I've still gained about 5 lbs. it is was it is and I try not to stress too much about it.

I was slightly worried about it with my first child, but I wound up being so sick that I actually lost weight in my first trimester and then they were telling me I needed to gain more to catch up. I wasn't very active that pregnancy because I had every symptom in the book and was miserable. I also ate whatever sounded good. I wound up gaining 25 lbs, and I lost it all within a month of giving birth (lost 15 lbs by the time I left the hospital). With my other pregnancies, I was more active, and I gained around the same. I didn't worry about it at all with them.

Thank you! This made me feel better, I work out regularly and typical eat pretty healthy I just can't believe how much weight I've gained already! I appreciate the input and I hope you start feeling better and get some energy back(:

I feel the exact same way. This is my first pregnancy I'm 14 weeks 5 days and before I fell pregnant I did high intensity training 6 days a week and I counted calories etc . I stopped training at 7 weeks cause they found a bleed in my uterus and from then I seemed to have lost myself. I started to eat what I wanted didn't exercise cause I got the flu and started to be so miserable. The past 2 weeks I've got my

Food back on track but my exercising has been hit and miss. I've gained 4 kilos already and I've been showing since like 7 weeks. To go from having abs to having a belly and having gained a lot of weight already I have definitely struggled mentally.

I am 110% greatfull I'm pregnant And feel so blessed considering I got told I probley couldn't fall easily. But I'd be lying if gaining weight and the fear of not being able to get it off didn't weigh on my mind.

I gained a crap load of weight during my first pregnancy. Over 50lbs! I was only 120lbs when I got pregnant. I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight and clothes by 4 months postpartum. I didn't work out at all or even diet to lose the weight. It just melted off. Everyone's body is different. Every pregnancy is different. I hope I'm as lucky this time.

I sometimes feel like this as well. I'm 11 weeks pregnant. This is also my first pregnancy and I feel like I've gained some weight but not much yet. I want to gain weight to have a healthy baby but it scares me that maybe I won't be able to get back in shape afterwards. I have tried to workout but I'm soooo tired all the time so just don't do it enough. I'm not trying to lose weight! Of course not, I just want to stay in shape. I think we all have this fear to some extent and we just have to realize that some people gain more than others and that it's part of pregnancy. We can try to prevent too much weight gain to some extent but we just have to know we might gain a lot of weight or we might not. Eating right and trying to do some exercise will help. We'll just have to hit the gym hard later to lose the weight! For now, I try to tell myself that my baby's health is more important than my appearance. We all have fears. You're not alone!

I'm so much more conscious this time around. With my first, I really didn't care. I ended up gaining way too much. I started out 125 and finished at 176. This time i started at 125 and am aiming for 150. I am making healthier choices and working out as much as I can. And I do a lot of walking at work now that helps. Don't feel bad about not wanting to gain too much. I feel the same way. I think I'm up about two pounds by now and I feel like I look like I gained a lot more lol.

I personally dont think it's selfish or ridiculous at all. You have all the right in the world to want to maintain your body as much as possible as long as you're doing it in a safe way. I gained a total of 13lbs with my son. I ate a waffle pretty much every morning (a Belgian good one, I work at a restaurant not an eggo) and was in LOVE with those stupid soft cream filled oat me cookies. I just didn't over eat, or eat a ton of crap just because I was pregnant. My son was 9lb2oz when he was born and perfectly healthy. You just need to make sure you're eating the appropriate amount of calories a day and are getting proper nutrients. If you're doing that then the weight you gain will be healthy baby weight and should come right off but just don't expect or worry about the actual number because all women gain differently

Don't stress momma! I was a early diagnosed GD pregnancy my last go around. I really had to watch what I ate. I actually only 16lbs because I kept to a healthy diet. Baby was 8lb 6oz and 21 inches long.. he was a big boy! Just make good food choices and moderate exercise (nothing crazy that your body is not used too) you can have a healthy pregnancy and not gain a lot! It really depends on how you start too! I started over weight, so my healthy eating was very beneficial to me and I was blessed to only gain in my belly. Make sure you drink a lot of water too!!! If this is something that truly bothers you, I strongly recommend you reach out to your OB and express your concerns and maybe rescue to see a dietician to come up wild a healthy eating plan. Seeing portions and what foods to stay away from really helped me!

Just watch your weight and what you eat. You can be very conscious of it without being unhealthy. With my first i gained about 20-25lbs. I didn't gain any during the first trimester and then gained about a lb a week after that. I never stopped myself from eating i just made very healthy choices. For instance i always had fruit around and allowed myself all the fresh fruit and veggies i wanted. If i wanted carbs i would pop up some popcorn made with olive oil and regular salt. You will be hungry all the time especially once the second trimester hits. Dont get mad at yourself for wanting to eat all the time, just eat healthy stuff. Your baby needs that stuff anyway.

It's normal to worry about weight gain and even psmart to think about it in advance. I second the previous poster's recommendation to see a dietician if you can. Im a ftm and found it very helpful--I'm keeping a food journal that I review with them every so often. I also asked my midwife about her expectations for my weight gain, diet and exercise. As long as I gain enough weight, I'm going to avoid eating a lot sweets and carbs that I wouldn't normally eat anyway. Hang in there!

This is a common concern. I'm only 5'2" so when I gain even 5 lbs, it's really noticeable. With my first child, I gained 45 lbs. I ate normally, I walked everyday... But it still happened. It's normal. I dropped 20 lbs within the first 2 weeks of delivery and the rest within the first 6 months. It took time for my body to seem "normal" but all of these are very natural changes. The weight gain doesn't have to be permanent. I often googled the break down of how much weight carrying a baby is to help wrap my brain around it all - the amount of blood, fluid, and baby adds up quickly. Try not to get too caught up in the scale. :)

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