If your partner wanted to go to Vegas with his friends for the weekend, would you be okay with it? This is not something that has happened to me, but I did read the bachelorette trip thread. The OP mentioned wanting to be away so she wouldn’t be stressing over what her partner was doing on his trip – that wouldn’t work for me.

@MrsPanda99: I would be fine with him going on a fishing trip or something I guess, but I would be super annoyed with the prospect of him spending $2,000+ just for a “bachelor party.” I’d much rather him plan a trip with his friends just because… or have us plan a couples trip so at least I’d get to enjoy it too.

@QueenOfSerendip: I don’t like the idea of vacationing separately. I’d be annoyed about the money element but I’d also be annoyed by the stripper element. I am very lucky that he has no interest in doing any of the things I read about on the bee.

My husband and his friends went to Vegas for his bachelor party the same weekend I went to San Diego with my girlfriends. I was glad we planned our trips the same weekend so I was obviously busy and not missing him or wanting to bug him on his trip. We saved up money for our respective trips.

I don’t see any problem with it at all. He’s an adult, and if I didn’t trust him, I wouldn’t have been marrying him.

I also feel like being from southern California, Vegas isn’t a huge deal anyway.

@MrsPanda99: Eh, whatever. I missed the bachlorette party post (got to be too deep with other posters for me to get in on it), but I don’t care what it cost if that’s what he wants to participate in whatever. Both men and women should be able to have their time to go crazy before the wedding and if they have that much extra laying around then go for it!

For me, it’s not like I ‘need’ a trip to not worry about what my SO would be doing-if I had to worry, I wouldn’t want to marry him!!

@MrsPanda99: Oh – I didn’t even think about the strippers. Yeah, that’d be a no-go. I don’t know… it’s hard to conceptualize because Darling Husband is a total introvert – he would never desire to go on one of these trips, and he’s skipped bachelor parties when they’ve involved strippers because he’s skeeved out by them. I would be shocked at the 180 degree personality change if he wanted to go on a trip like this.

Plus, he’s way cheaper than I am, and no WAY he would drop a couple thousand on a lame Vegas trip. We save up to go on more relaxing, enjoyable vacations together.

I’m not engaged yet….but is it odd that I have thought about inviting both of our parents/families along (most of whom will be in our wedding parties anyway haha!)? I figure that I would love to have my mom there, and I get along well with his mom so she can come along too and we can do girls things…then if my dad and brother want to hang out with the men and go to a strip club or whatever, I wouldn’t mind!

I would be super concerned since it would be so out of character for Fiance. I think the same thing about bacherlor and bachelorette trips though: they are ridiculous and excessive. In my head it’s like ‘hey, we’re throwing the most expensive party of our lives and immeadiately taking an expensive vacation right after! You know what would make that even better?! Taking two separate expensive vacations right before!’ Yeah…what’s wrong with limiting the party to one night and going to your favorite local activities?

@QueenOfSerendip: I associate Vegas with strippers and bad boy behaviour. Maybe I have seen the hangover series one too many times.

@jackieee:@veryberry13: I trust my man too, I guess I just don’t want to put either of us in a situation where there is stuff going on that neither of us would be comfortable with. I know he wouldn’t go in a strip club, but then he’d be alone in Vegas while his friends did. It is just easier not to tempt fate so to speak. Just my opinion though.

@MrsPanda99: If I am being absolutely honest, I would not like the whole Vegas thing. Why? Because I freaking love Vegas and would be jealous of him going without me. Not because I don’t trust him. Vegas and huge trips like that would be better spent as a couple lol.

I think bachelor parties should be something that caters to “guy things” that they normally don’t get to do with there SO, and no I don’t mean strip clubs. More like camping, snowbarding, fishing, etc. No big fuss, but gives him celebratory guy time. Luckily he thinks the way I do and I’m glad he enjoyed himself at the casino and camping.

@MrsPanda99: It is hard for me to come up with an asnwer because I truly doubt we will ever find ourselves in this situation (or a similar one). I just really do not imagine my husband wanting to go to someone else’s bachelor party out of town (not even for his brother’s wedding, and he is the best man). If he really wanted to go, though, I think I would let him go because he is an adult and cannot keep him from doing whatever he wants to do. I would be slightly annoyed, but it would not be a huge fight or anything like that. But, again, I don’t think this will ever be an issue, as he will most likely never want to go to such bachelor party.

If my Darling Husband and his friends really wanted to go, I would have no problem with it. I have no problem with strip clubs because I trust my Darling Husband. He would have to be in touch with me so I knew he got there and before he left.