Welcome to the bigger end of things.
If you've got short legs, then your height is going to be in your upper body. So why have you got such an overly upright cockpit? Have you got a stiff back?
I'm just asking because you are losing so much control with the bars where they are and denying yourself some control because of it.

Hey, thanks for the input, well the way it feels is, because my back is so long, my shoulders end up way above the top tube, and I just can't stretch out, even if I could (seat further back) I'd be way over the handlebars and front tire. Also, I'm 56! so not as flexible as I once was, maybe with some more core strength and riding, I'll bring it down some.

Go wider on the bars. That helps get you a little lower and might help with your positioning. You need your weight to be more evenly distributed fore and aft than that setup is giving you - more weight over the front for traction, control and the ability to climb. Drop that stem a notch and see how it goes. Work on your core for flexibility and strength and it will all come together.

Have you ever tried a 23 TT(23+ ETT)with a longer stem say 100 or 120/130 and flatter stem/ Would give you ergonomic advantage IMO.

Do you feel riding "on top" of the frame/bike. Do you feel riding "in the bike"??
(I am 42 going 43. Knees shot, lots of reckless higher gearing riding when knees were young.
Used to ride 1X7/ or X9 while Growing up BMXing in the US.

Thanks, this is a big bike, TT is 25.4 ST 22 WB 45.1

My inseam is 34, if my legs were in proportion to my back I'd be 7ft, so when I'm sitting in a car, chair, bike, it's the same as a 7 footer.

I'll play around with it to dial it in, it's all new to me at this point.