Peace, joy and new adventures to you for this holiday season and into the new year.

TH-E (aka: FJC, Insideout510)

Factory Axis

The Vespa swayed and popped as I gripped the seat under me. My hands were
wet from rain and mud splashing back up. I didn’t articulate the question in my
mind, but it was there: what the hell was I doing on a motorized scooter on
Christmas Eve on country “roads” in Taiwan? As my wet hands slipped one too
many times, I realized I’d have to hold on to the driver. I reached around Tom
and gripped the edges of the pockets on his leather jacket. The beds under my
nails stung white hot from pinching tight in such damp cold.

I didn’t know much about Tom. He was of Irish heritage and called Chicago
home. I’m not even certain how we met, beyond realizing that two Americans, and
Midwestern Americans at that, in the northern part of the island known as the
Republic of China, Taiwan, we were bound to meet eventually. Nor could I
conjure up much of a story as to why he invited me on this Christmas Eve junket,
or why I accepted the invitation without thought. I’m sure we were both just
trying to make the best of it. As two people thousands of miles from home on
our own by choice, I think we were both inclined more towards yes than
towards no by nature.

As we bounced through the rough roads and puddles of unidentified liquid, I
planned how I would not like it when we got there. It could not possibly be
good. With each jerk of my neck, I staged my disgruntled judgment of our
destination. I said yes, but it still felt somewhat under duress. It’s a
church, after all, and I haven’t been very churchy since I exited my
family-mandated 12 years of Catholic school years back. And while I’d gotten to
know the Taiwanese during my year and a half as a teacher there, the language
and culture to some extent - this would be a Filipino church we were headed
towards, per Tom’s invitation. The entire mass would be in Tagalog. I knew I
would not understand a thing. I anticipated thinking of my family, of the 7,383
miles I was away from the only kind of Christmas I knew. It was, at least, a
Christian church and would be closest to the Christmas Eve masses I’d observed
at home - a far stretch from the strange pageantry of Christmas celebrations
happening among the Taiwanese, who for the most part do not concern themselves
with acknowledging the origin of the holiday as the foundation of
Christianity.

In my mind, I was not home and so it could not really be
Christmas.

We arrived at the modest chapel in the middle of bleak fields and marshes
barely made out in the darkness. Tom parked the Vespa next to a short row of
others, not a single car to be found. Because of this sparse array of
transport, I anticipated a drearily scant congregation. Tom noted the
skepticism on my face and informed me they do not have cars and only the very
wealthy have scooters. Most would have walked from their “homes,” tonight,
through those fields and marshes he pointed to. I felt the word “homes” in
quotations in the way he said it, but we talked little, so I did not
question.

He pulled the door open to a din and a light that have not been matched for
me in the 20 years since. The ornate pews were packed. The aqua colored paint on
the walls cracked, but the alter and carved stations of the cross were
pristine. No single body filling the pews was still for more than a moment. The
band at the front warmed up, but it seemed movement was choreographed to their
haphazard sounds even still. Everywhere smiles, handshakes, pats on the back,
hands held, hugs prolonged – a joining of person to person, person to next
person so graceful and constant. The level of genuine affection lead me to
guess it might be one large extended family. Except that there was not a single
child in the church. The entire congregation was made up of adults ranging in
age from 25 to about 55.

As Tom and I found our spot, the band opened the ceremony with nothing I’d
ever heard in all the Christmas Eves I’ve celebrated. It appeared to be a sort
of folk/rock/bluegrass approach to the traditional Christmas carols I knew, but
in a language I’d never heard. The musicians were so earnest and so enveloped
by their craft, that for brief moments, right at this opening song, I’d
forgotten about my quest to disapprove of this experience.

The spoken rites of mass ensued and in its subdued progression, I was
released to mourn what I missed. I missed my family, my own church from
childhood – if not from faith, then from a cultural adherence. I missed my
family and the thought of the sugary buffet of sweets that certain members of
the family would be laying out as the rest of us were at mass. I missed the
firm tweed shoulder of my dad’s suit jacket against my cheek as I leaned,
inhaling the incense from our pew as I dreamed of the chaotic cadence of a
holiday at home with my mom, my dad and my 9 brothers and sisters.

Tom’s pinky showed up in my view as his hand waved hesitantly in my range of
vision. I was weeping and I did not know it. Tom and I did not know each other
well and perhaps we would be friends one day, but we weren’t yet. What was he to
do with this sobbing girl that he’d brought into this community that he
understood, but that she did not? He waved to inform me that he was my host, my
connection between where we were and me, and that I was audibly crying, and that
that was not very cool.

The band began again. In an effort to rally, I leaned a little closer to Tom
and whisper-asked about his family. I came to find it was also large. I
thought about how much my sisters would enjoy the music, my big sisters who
formed all of my tastes in music, literature, people… in everything. If only
they could be here. I know they would support a love for it.

At some point in this mass that was surprisingly predictable in its order,
unpredictable in its spirit, I stopped thinking about the Christmases that
were, and thought about the Christmas that is.

As the observance ended and we milled out, Tom introduced me to a few that he
knew. We were of note from the start as the only non-Filipino participants,
though it seemed to make little difference. As Tom’s Mandarin was better than
mine, the common language between us and our hosts, he made arrangements I knew
nothing about.

We got back on the Vespa and continued on through the marshy dark, following
others with scooters, leaving many to walk the same roads behind us. The only
explanation I got from Tom, which I apparently accepted was “We are
invited.”

Eventually we arrived at an industrial building. We entered among the
smaller group who rode with us through a back door. We walked up two flights of
stairs past unwieldy machinery that confirmed my suspicion that the building was
a factory. Up on the 3rd floor there was a subsection built off with
walls and a ceiling, like a little loft in a huge open warehouse, a hive in a
tree. One of the young men, about as tall as I am, turned to me as he opened
the door and said in English, “Home.”

Burners were warmed up, chairs were unfolded, gifts were procured, stories
were told. The walkers arrived and left their muddy shoes at the door. In a
stilted, broken progression between what Tom already knew and the stories our
hosts now told us, I came to understand certain things.

The group of 20 or more that lived/worked in this factory all had families at
home in the Philippines. Many were highly certified and educated, but could not
make a decent living in their home country. They left their families there and
came to Taiwan to work and live in the factories to send money home. Some were
the fathers, some the mothers, but all had people that they loved and supported
700 miles away. They lived on cots and electric burners here, fueled by 10 hour
factory work days and envelopes home filled with more money than they could make
if they lived with the beloveds they made this sacrafice for. A few talked
about how they came to the decision on who would leave to work here, mom or
dad.

And yet they smiled and celebrated and welcomed us. The honor of guests was
palpable as guitars were unveiled, music played, gifts appeared, food offered.
I sat on the edge of a cot as a woman so proudly showed me the photos of her
small children on the wall behind us, told me in her best English that she
have enough go home 1 year and go back be pediatrician and mom.

The message came across strongly that they believed they had something in
common with Tom and I as English teachers from America on a visa, away from our
homes. But the truth was that I got paid 3 times as much as they did for half
as many hours and I did not have a family to support. I lived in my own room
in the nice house of a Taiwanese family. I was young and foolish and was there
by choice, not obligation. They knew this. I knew this.

But they didn’t put it between us, they chose to connect based on the few
things we did share. I’ve never been given a gift as generous, as meaningful,
as useful.

We stayed late. We drank whisky. I laughed out of contagion, for the
gratefulness and celebration in that factory/makeshift home was not less than,
not equal to, but greater than what I understood Christmas Eve to mean.

I don’t know what happened to Tom. I know he was a friend for as long as I
was there. I still have some cassette tapes he made for me. My kids will never
meet him or my gracious hosts from Christmas Eve in 1991. But a crucial part of
who I am as a parent, who I am as a hopeful parent who was, at one time, certain
she would not be game for this disability parenting ride, comes from that swampy
factory Christmas Eve.

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