Tag: mindset

My desire is to inspire you to ‘do what you need to do’, in order to ‘be who you want to be’. If you ever need to stretch yourself, I highly recommend trying something brand new and out of your comfort zone!

You could pick something like running a half marathon. This will help to move you forward and bring up all the beliefs you have hiding about yourself. Some of those beliefs might be, “It’s hard, I don’t like running, I don’t know if I can do this.”

When these beliefs surface realize it’s just a part of you that can never do or be enough that’s getting triggered. When those beliefs get triggered go back to focusing on what matters the most to you. How you do that is by asking yourself a few questions…What do I want? Be crystal clear about what you want?

Why do I want it? Get really clear about why you want it?

What strategy will I use? Am I clear about the strategy to get my desire?

Am I creating from the future version? As if it is already done. If not, imagine what it will be like having it, being it or doing it.

Do you have the courage to do what needs to be done to create your desire?

Answer those questions and see what comes up for you. When you can answer the questions above you will quickly get back on the right track. Are you stuck? If you can’t answer those questions, ask for help. If you need help, I’m a phone call away. You can schedule a complimentary breakthrough session with me by emailing me at Jolen@lighterWithin.com.

As we go through life we endure all kinds of hurt, pains and hardships. This creates energetic baggage through the way we think and feel about ourselves and life. This energetic baggage gets stored within our subconscious mind and our bodies cells. These stored thoughts and feelings then create our actions.Do you want to lose some energetic weight to become lighter? Here is a way to release some of the old emotional baggage that you carry around with you.

In these 5 steps learn how to let go of your emotional baggage to become lighter within.

First, Lay A New Foundation

The old one just isn’t working anymore, because you have out grown it or it is an old habit that no longer serves you. Creating a new foundation is about clearing the old way of thinking, self talk and how you relate to yourself. The quality of your relationship with others is a reflection of how you think and feel about yourself. Become an energetically lighter person by shifting your thinking and actions.

Action Step:

Decide first what area you want to change. Is it the way to talk to yourself? Do you criticize or put yourself down all the time? Or is it the way you think about yourself? This tears down your self-confidences. Choose one, how you talk to self or think about self.

Second, Create A New Pattern

You create a new pattern by shifting the way you are talking or thinking about yourself. Understand that your old way of talking and thinking got you to where you are, but today is a new day. You can change it. It is time to create a way to talk back to those old habits.

Action Step:

Observe yourself. What do you say to yourself out loud? Is it supporting you or tearing you down? What are you saying to yourself in your head? Did you know there are only a handful of saying that get repeated all day long. Pay attention to what you continually repeat. Here are a few examples, “I can’t, it’s too hard, I’ll try, there isn’t enough blah, blah, blah, I’m stupid and the list goes on, but you get the idea.

Third, Create New Actions

You may not understand why there were the difficult times in your life, but you can educate yourself and learn new tools to help yourself move away from those hurtful times. One way to move away from the old habit of speaking or thinking a certain way is to reframe it.

Action Step:

Reframe what you think or say to yourself. If you observed that your favorite phase is, “It’s too hard” then just reframe it. Here is an example of a reframe for “It’s too hard.”

Reframe: “It is getting easier and easier every day.” Or “I’m getting better and better every day.” What is your favorite phase and what will your new reframe be?

Forth, Keep Practicing

Keep practicing and being consistent. The key is consistence. Just like a seed you plant in the ground. It grows little by little. If you look at it each and every day you don’t notice the growth, but if you were gone for a week and came back you would notice the growth. The same is true when you are retraining yourself to talk, think and act differently.

Action Step:

After you have observed yourself and found your favorite old habit. Practice daily catching yourself saying or thinking the old phase. Make a game out of it. Count how many times you catch yourself. Use tally marks, because it is easier to count. Once you catch the old phase remember to reframe it. Then notice in a few days how the number goes down. Be sure to tell yourself, “Wow, I did better today than yesterday!” Pretty soon the old habit will be out of your life for good.

Fifth, Have Fun

The idea is to have fun while you are learning the new way. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get it right in a day. Remember you didn’t create this habit in one day.It took months or even years in some cases. Give yourself the gift of releasing the judgment or criticism and just be okay with learning something new.

Action Step:

Laugh at yourself. Say, “Gosh, I did it again” instead of beating yourself up. Then remember to reframe it. One learns faster with laughter than with criticism.

Practice these 5 steps to become energetically lighter within. As you let go of the old ways you will find that lost joy and happiness that you buried long ago will resurface. The twinkle will be back into your eyes, a smile on your face and laughter in your heart.

There are three keys of success that you can use in anywhere in your life or your business. The are very special keys that if used wisely will improve your life and business.

Love is the first key to success. It is not in the sense of love in a relationship, but it is how you feel when you are in love. When you are in love your vibrational rate is at its highest level, which draws people to you. When you vibrate at a higher rate other people are drawn to you and want what you have. They see your joy. They feel good being in your presence. When you love what you are doing you are passionate about what you do and that excitement radiates from you. Your eyes sparkle and there is a smile on your face.

Service is the second key of success. Service is not about waiting on someone. It is about giving. It’s a shift within your mindset. This shift is one that is coming from being of service. When you make this shift, you find it easy to come from service and give first. Your main thought is, “How can I help the person standing in front of me, not what can I get from them?” Most people think about themselves and their needs. When you come from “What can I get” you might come across needy and trying too hard. The other person feels it. When you shift your mindset to “What do they need? How can I help them?” Then your energy is different. Now once where they we repelled from you, now they are drawn to you.

The last step is gratitude. Be grateful to the person, even if they don’t buy anything from you, because they were in your experience. The experience you share together had a connection. You got to experience the other person. You got see who they are and where they are at in their growth pattern. How they are showing up, which reflects back to you how you are showing up. If you look at life, as a mirror reflecting back to you. They showed you what you are sending out.

Just for today practice Love, Service and Gratitude and see how your day was different. I would love to hear your comment.

The other day I was in a business training, when I heard, “You have to expand out of your comfort zone in order to grow and stretch.” I know we have all heard this before. It is nothing new, but today it took on a new meaning. It’s this new perspective that I want to share with you today.

In life, as we travel down the yellow brick road towards the Emerald City. We may run into a few challenges, obstacles or mountains that slow us down or get in our way. These bumps on the journey help us to grow, stretch and get out of our comfort zone.

Where in your life have you run up against a challenge? Look at your life, just for this moment. Where are you not moving? Where are you stuck?

My aha moment! I really don’t like exercise. I asked myself, “What don’t I like about exercise?” I really don’t like sweating and the pain I feel. Then, I asked myself, “If I broke through the pain and got used to sweating, how would I feel?” Great, was the reply! Here’s where the light bulb came on. If I pushed through being uncomfortable I would get used to it and then I would reach a peak of feeling stronger, and healthier.

In business, if you pushed a little harder through the uncertainty, or made more of an effort to finish that unfinished project you would breakthrough that uncomfortable feeling.

In conclusion exercise helps you to breakthrough being uncomfortable. Exercise teaches you how to be in the feeling of stretching and growing. Just for today go for a walk. As you reach the pain point or start to sweat, tell yourself that you are stretching and growing. Then let me know how it goes by leaving a comment.

The other day I had to file a huge stack of papers in alphabetical order. What a boring job, if you have ever done it, you know what I mean. But then, the strangest thing happened to me. As I was holding a piece of paper looking for the letter “A” to file it under when my mind asked me, “What are you thinking about?”

I sat there a moment shocked at what I asked myself. What was I just thinking? I had no idea. My mind was wondering. Was I even present to where and what I was doing? I don’t think so.

How many times during the day are you just going through the motion, not aware of what you are doing? What are you thinking? Are you present with yourself? For the rest of the filing I worked on staying present with myself. It is not an easy task, as my mind wonders a lot. If you would like to see how present you are or how your mind wonders. Do a simple task like washing the dishes and pay attention to what you are thinking about. I found if I picked a mantra that I could repeat over and over again I did a lot better at staying focused in the moment.

Wishing you success at being present,

Jolen Philbrook

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Have you made the decision to do it? Can you make the commitment? This commitment is to yourself, not to me or anyone else, but you. By making the decision to make the commitment you are now deciding to drop all your excuses, which by the way are keeping you stuck in the game of life.

By making a commitment you are setting the foundation to your success. If you don’t commit, then nothing is going to change. There will be no progress, because it doesn’t matter what you do, you’re not committed. You’ll start and stop again and again. You’ll keep floundering and never get anywhere.

The question is, “If you do nothing, where will you be in a year from now?” If you don’t make the commitment to yourself now, when will you?

If you tell yourself that you are going to do something and then you don’t do it, you are actually lying to yourself. By lying to yourself, you confuse your mind, which creates lack of trust within yourself.

If your mind doesn’t have a direction it, will flip, flop like a fish floundering in the water not going anywhere and nothing will ever change or happen.

Now is the time to make the agreement to yourself, make the commitment. You are the only one who can make it happen. As Nike says… ‘Just Do It!’ Decide that you’re dropping any and all excuses. But, you may ask “How do you make this commitment?”

What I do is take a 3×5 cards, so I can post them above the kitchen sink and on my bathroom mirror. I use colored pencils to draw a little picture, so my eye will keep being drawn to it. Then is the center of the card I post a statement of what I want.

This is really the first step in creating a new mindset. If you’re committed to yourself there are no longer any excuses. I found when I made the decision to do it. I was committed and it was easier to stick to it.

If you don’t make a decision, then it really doesn’t matter what else you do, you will not follow through. Boy, isn’t that the truth. Sometimes the decision is the hardest part, but when you do make the decision, you feel good about yourself and you’re motivated to go after it.

I ask you again, “Are you committed?” If you don’t make the commitment to yourself now, when will you?

Jolen Philbrook

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Jolen Philbrook is a speaker and author who creates programs designed to teach you how to release your pain and hurts in your heart. Her warm and reassuring style helps you feel secure as she guides you to achieve freedom, strength, and success in your life. Her weekly Insightful Tips go out to subscribers across the country. If you are ready to create the life you want, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://lighterwithin.com