I kind of need your help, gals/guys- especially to those of you who get a lot of comments, faves, notes, etc.

I've had various creepers/stalkers sending me messages, and I can handle that simply by ignoring or blocking. However, I occasionally get people who become really, REALLY obsessive (not in the perverted way) and they won't stop sending me messages. Some, absolutely massive messages which I just don't have the time to reply to!The messages are now starting to get out of control now that I'm not as active on DeviantArt as I used to be, and they start flaring up whenever I don't reply. It's really scaring me and I have no idea how to handle it. I try to be polite, and at first I even tried to be friends, but things get weirder and weirder by the day until I really feel like I just can't take it rationally anymore.

Some of these people sound like they have some mental issues (and I mean that in the most respectful possible way, not "OMG THEY'RE CRAZY")- some have even admitted their problems to me. But I am just one girl, a stranger on the internet who submits cutesy artwork for people to look at. I am not a miracle worker, nor someone who has the magical ability to be friends with everybody.

I could just block them, but that would be so cold!! They're nice people, really I'm sure they are, but I just can't handle it.What can I do?

I deeply apologise if this journal sounds disrespectful or like a drama-magnet; that is not my intention.

if its okay with you, mabe if a big one comes up again can you send me a message showing me what it says? And send me a link to their page please. And do not worry about their feelings if you block them please! because if it's scareing you just block them!! i have done it heaps on other websites when i was about 10 and i just thought:

" they deserve it because they were scary "

plus in school at that time ( in year 5 ) my teacher said " if anyone is scareing you, tell an adult, your parent are the best." so take my advice, Peachie and stay safe online.... Hope i helped you!

I'm very sorry to hear that. I doubt this, but, if I am one of them, I can lay off.

You might not even have time to reaspond, or even read this. But, you can have one nice little chat with them and casually explain that that was all your time you had for chit-chatting. Tell them you have more watchers than themselves and you can't even respond to all of them. If they keep blabbing on even after that. i;m afraid you'll have to block them. Good luck!

LOL lord no not at all!! xD;; Gee I hope I didn't make anyone paranoid. No these people were mainly problems through Notes/Private Messages. Thank you so much for your help, also.

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

I am very sorry to hear that dear !! last year I had someone like that and I kept blocking her she was really crazy and obsessed even though my art is all crap but we had alot in common that was really scary and made her come after me and look for me in every site she joins !! Tell the people that are over the top that you are not comfortable with this and I am sure they will understand ^^ I hope everything will be ok :3 !!

Wow. That is absolutely terrifying! O__O I can't imagine what it would be like to have someone chase you around the web like that. :huggles: (and shush don't say things like that about your art!) Is everything okay now?

In my case- unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

It was very scary and annoying I am glad it's over now :3 !! hehehehe thank youuu thank youuu heheheh ^^ I wont say that again !! Block is a good idea I hope you wont get bothered again it's ok about the copy and paste !! ^^ keep up your great work ^^ !!

Hm.... I think you should just relax... and like someone else said " If you are on their watch-list they will be reading this" Hopefully they are not maniacs who won't understand... jk. It will all be okay ^^

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

I'm not sure if it's really just an obsession with talking to me. xD And yes this did see my journal, I guess that was my intention- seeing as I have had more than one person being like this with me.

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

I'd block 'em if your getting uncomfortable. They'll get over it, I'm sure, and even if they don't it's not YOUR responsibility, you t'aint their shrink! You seem to have tried everything, you've been polite and tried to tell them you can't always reply. You gotta think-this is YOUR DA, don't let them ruin the fun and mian purpose of the site by sending you all these messages. LOVE YOU xxx

You could, to all these people, just copy and paste a message to them all (your own) , explaining that you are busy, and don't have time to answer fully, That is what one of the people I know does.Hope this helps.

Thank you hun. I will definately do that in the future if the same thing happens again with somebody else.

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste myself, hahaha!!)

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

Yeah I recently just had a stalker troll I had to take care of. I was trying to be polite but she just kept yelling and making up reasons to flame me. Your situation is different, though. I agree with . Just explain that you aren't as active and you cant always reply. You're a very popular person and they should understant that your inbox is probably overflown every day, so they cant always expect replies

I'm really sorry to hear about the stalker troll. I will never get why people get a kick out of trolling- anlthough, the worst ones are the people who don't even realize they're trolling, and just have really bad internet etiquette. :/ Thank you for your help hun

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy-paste)

The thing is I don't think they were trolling. :/ I think they were just being genuine. Also I had no idea what age they were, they could have been under DA's age limit of 13 for all I know. But yeah the best thing was to block- thank you!

i see you still didn't manage to become a bit more egoistic in some places where it might be needed really, a "friendship" based on someone thinking (even if it only happens subconsciously) of you only as some sort of therapist is not gonna work out. sorry if this sounds kinda extreme..

just let them know what you think, as others said before, honesty should be the key to solving this problem <3

Hahaha!!! No... no you're right. xD Painfully right. Thank you honey, you made me chuckle a bit. (And I shouldn't be chuckling o_o)

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-^ (sorry for copy paste)

Can't go wrong with honesty. I don't think something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I can't continue corresponding with you." is out of line. You could give a reason, but Miss Manners says you don't have to, and it's better not to.. just be firm.

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-