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How to get started with adoption?

I want to find a infant girl (Domestic, prefer caucasian but would not regect the Idea of another race). How do we get started. I would prefer an adoption like mine was where I get the child just days after it being born.

You may have a longer wait if you specifically want one sex or the other. Your wait will be shorter if you are open to other races (as you said) or health issues. We adopted both of our children as infants with the help of Catholic Charities. Our DD came home from the hospital with us, and DS came home to us at 4 weeks old (because he had been taken from the hospital by CPS and placed in a foster home at first). Both kids were significantly drug-exposed, and both are healthy. DD has had some behavioral issues and DS has some developmental issues, mainly in speech.

You should learn all you can about the various routes to adopting domestically - foster-adopt, private with an agency, private with an adoption attorney, etc. Be prepared for lots of intrusive questions and a mountain of paperwork. It's all worth it in the end, though. Best of luck to you!

An adoption attorney is a good start. That's the method we used for both of our domestic infant adoptions. They'll be able to refer you to a social worker to do your home study. Or you could start with a social worker that can refer you to local adoption attorneys.