Interesting topic; this came up in a conversation with a friend recently. Kindness mistaken for flirtating happens way too often to me. I tend to give and have no expectation of getting anything in return (which is nice when I get do get something in return, although rare).

In high school, I often hung after school with this girl. We were good friends and I'm pretty sure I kept her a friendly distance. Once, I did hug her (out of surprise since I don't hug) as a thank you when she plastered my locker with pictures of a favorite character of mine. I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back because she ended up confessing to me a couple days later. I had to reject her. We remained as good (although now distanced) friends.

The most awkward case was with a guy in my Mathematics class. Our first conversation was over homework results. Over rest of the quarter, we talked about random things like our weekends or different type of ties. I believe it was when he had gotten a hair cut and I had commented that I though it was "nice looking", did he mistaken my friendliness. He ended up asking for my number saying awkwardly that it was because I was "kinda cool". We had an awkward conversation via text after the quarter was over and that was that.

The 'hug' thing happened to me too. My team and I did awesome on our thesis defense and got the highest title, so out of happiness I hugged all of my team members, including the only guy in the group. Since I never hug people, he and his guy friends misinterpreted it and began teasing me about it. It felt awkward because I happen to be really good friends with his girlfriend. At least she was cool about the whole issue. Now I'm a bit shy around him sadly, and he seems to act more uptight around me, considering I was the lead author.

I also met a guy (who happens to be a cool cosplayer) who misinterpreted my kindness for flirting so he tried to ask me out. I had to decline because of my totally busy lifestyle. I felt really bad since maybe he thought I was leading him on. He was pretty cool about it after though and thankfully we are still good friends.

I swear to God I can't be nice to a female without any guys who know me making some sort of remark as to how it seems like I'm flirting with them. For starters I wouldn't have the balls, and I also feel like a twat doing it. But we all know how some people can look for the most extreme outcome from the smallest of actions.

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.

True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why

And be happy you can't. The moment you understand is the moment you become them. And that is a time to be feared. I'm glad that you are a reasonable person and cannot.

Oh right.. I would never want to become them.. Ugh such a horrible thought >>; Your right I am happy that I can't see why!

*thumbs up*

yay for random conversations!

Well, it was kind of on topic...But to keep up with the randomness for a moment. *random head spins* Ah, I miss random forum conversations.

Interesting topic; this came up in a conversation with a friend recently. Kindness mistaken for flirtating happens way too often to me. I tend to give and have no expectation of getting anything in return (which is nice when I get do get something in return, although rare).

In high school, I often hung after school with this girl. We were good friends and I'm pretty sure I kept her a friendly distance. Once, I did hug her (out of surprise since I don't hug) as a thank you when she plastered my locker with pictures of a favorite character of mine. I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back because she ended up confessing to me a couple days later. I had to reject her. We remained as good (although now distanced) friends.

The most awkward case was with a guy in my Mathematics class. Our first conversation was over homework results. Over rest of the quarter, we talked about random things like our weekends or different type of ties. I believe it was when he had gotten a hair cut and I had commented that I though it was "nice looking", did he mistaken my friendliness. He ended up asking for my number saying awkwardly that it was because I was "kinda cool". We had an awkward conversation via text after the quarter was over and that was that.

The 'hug' thing happened to me too. My team and I did awesome on our thesis defense and got the highest title, so out of happiness I hugged all of my team members, including the only guy in the group. Since I never hug people, he and his guy friends misinterpreted it and began teasing me about it. It felt awkward because I happen to be really good friends with his girlfriend. At least she was cool about the whole issue. Now I'm a bit shy around him sadly, and he seems to act more uptight around me, considering I was the lead author.

I also met a guy (who happens to be a cool cosplayer) who misinterpreted my kindness for flirting so he tried to ask me out. I had to decline because of my totally busy lifestyle. I felt really bad since maybe he thought I was leading him on. He was pretty cool about it after though and thankfully we are still good friends.

Speaking of cosplaying guys, I was one of the dudes from Psycho Pass and at a con in Shanghai, I had about 43 girls take pictures with me and half of them trying to give me their numbers. Now, I wasn't sure if it was because of my cosplay and they were being friendly, or the lead protagonist of Psycho Pass being a real thing is massive sex appeal.

Interesting topic; this came up in a conversation with a friend recently. Kindness mistaken for flirtating happens way too often to me. I tend to give and have no expectation of getting anything in return (which is nice when I get do get something in return, although rare).

In high school, I often hung after school with this girl. We were good friends and I'm pretty sure I kept her a friendly distance. Once, I did hug her (out of surprise since I don't hug) as a thank you when she plastered my locker with pictures of a favorite character of mine. I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back because she ended up confessing to me a couple days later. I had to reject her. We remained as good (although now distanced) friends.

The most awkward case was with a guy in my Mathematics class. Our first conversation was over homework results. Over rest of the quarter, we talked about random things like our weekends or different type of ties. I believe it was when he had gotten a hair cut and I had commented that I though it was "nice looking", did he mistaken my friendliness. He ended up asking for my number saying awkwardly that it was because I was "kinda cool". We had an awkward conversation via text after the quarter was over and that was that.

The 'hug' thing happened to me too. My team and I did awesome on our thesis defense and got the highest title, so out of happiness I hugged all of my team members, including the only guy in the group. Since I never hug people, he and his guy friends misinterpreted it and began teasing me about it. It felt awkward because I happen to be really good friends with his girlfriend. At least she was cool about the whole issue. Now I'm a bit shy around him sadly, and he seems to act more uptight around me, considering I was the lead author.

I also met a guy (who happens to be a cool cosplayer) who misinterpreted my kindness for flirting so he tried to ask me out. I had to decline because of my totally busy lifestyle. I felt really bad since maybe he thought I was leading him on. He was pretty cool about it after though and thankfully we are still good friends.

Speaking of cosplaying guys, I was one of the dudes from Psycho Pass and at a con in Shanghai, I had about 43 girls take pictures with me and half of them trying to give me their numbers. Now, I wasn't sure if it was because of my cosplay and they were being friendly, or the lead protagonist of Psycho Pass being a real thing is massive sex appeal.

The woes of never understanding what's what.

I think it's because you're quite attractive. One of my best friends does cosplay too, except she usually cosplays men, and she gets attention like that too. Then when some people find out she's a girl (she cosplayed Shinya once too) they still adore her anyway. I swear if I put up a fanpage for her, she would have an army of fangirls and fanboys alike :))

Lol simple solution, keep taken friends then it be fine or just have many friends and interact not too much with each one, never can know you fully then never fall for you properly and wallah we done ^^

I get told I flirt all the time and I am a natural flirt but I never do anything, I might smile but often because am daydreaming but never smiling at them lol. I know there must be something but I don't know what, I am too lazy to care because I am devoted to my girlfriend and I can't be asked to read these situations lol

I don't look like a nice guy..don't judge outer appearance. I'm tall, serious looking, whatever. But I have always been nice and courteous. But I have cut it down a lot because of people's attitudes. I used to open the door for people just out of courtesy, but time after time I get the ugly faces so I've stopped that. Being nice people think that your weak or they try to take advantage of you. It's sad. When I'm nice to a female I get the impression that they think I'm coming on to them. I guess girls get hit on a lot, so they automatically think you are flirting with them. I'm still nice sometimes, but I pick and choose now. But If I really see someone in need I'll be there to help.

Sometimes my kindness gets mistaken as flirting but it's whatever. It's also helped me get jobs and connections into my field because some person or other liked my character. To me, it's worth it for situations like that and ones where I get to make new friends and do something new. Plus, there's the concept of karma if you believe in that kind of thing. I know I'd appreciate someone helping me out when I need it.

I'm nice with people in general but I'm super nice with 2 co-workers because they are the most educated and nicest guys I have ever had the pleasure to meet and my friends are always pestering me because they think we like each other I treat people the same way they treat me and these guys are very courteous and humble so I treat them the same way. The reason why I'm not that way with the other guys is because they are not that way with me.

This is actually a reverse roll in my situation. I do a kind thing, and the girl misinterprets my intentions. This happens all the time. I think it's because nobody has truly learned how to read me. It's somewhat frustrating.