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Robert is at an office party. He’s been working hard and wants to win over his colleagues and make a good impression. He’s wondering if there is anything he can do right now to win people over. Actually, there is, especially […]

Rachel: “He’s so controlling! I can’t even go out with friends or he gets mad. Should I be concerned about this or does this mean that he really loves me?” Barb: “You should be concerned! Someone who gets upset when […]

Rick was feeling discouraged. He tried to make a significant change in his life, but was struggling. As a friend, Jerry wondered how he could help. There are times in our lives when we want to be that supportive person […]

I was in the grocery store and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Secrets are a problem. They don’t usually end well. I am often asked if it is a good idea to […]

Technology is a good thing, but sometimes it can stress you out. For example, your phone is vibrating. Should you look at it, stay in the conversation and ignore it? Do you feel a compulsion to check? Ping! Buzz, Vibrate. I […]

It’s a term we casually throw around, “I’m so OCD.” But for those who suffer, it’s no causal matter. It was 9:00p.m. Eric was rechecking every door in the house to make sure it was locked. He didn’t do this once, or […]

Have you ever been falsely accused and felt you had no power to deal with the situation because the accusers did not want to hear the truth? How do you respond when this happens? The natural thing is to get angry […]

If you are at the movies and someone is crying behind you, it might be me. When it comes to movies, I am a highly sensitive person. I cried during the capture of the horse in Warhorse, Lone Survivor deeply […]

Richard was feeling anxious. If you asked him, this feeling wasn’t helpful. He was asked to give a speech in front of his company and present his findings to the entire staff. All he felt was dread at the idea of […]

#AngryInNYC Another stupid person runs in to me. Sorry doesn’t cut it. Look up from your phone you idiot. This is just one example of Sara’s tweets that regular fill her Twitter account. It doesn’t take much to anger Sara. […]

Anger is triggered by expectations, perceptions, and things people say and do. These hot buttons are triggers that cause the feeling to rise. Knowing your hot buttons can prepare you for future conflicts. To deal with hot buttons, think about how […]

We all have that person in our lives that drives us crazy and personalizes conflict, making it difficult to handle. Here are five points to keep in mind when dealing with a high conflict person. Choose your battles. Since most […]

A grudge involves holding resentment because of some real or imagined wrong. A grudge develops when you don’t like the way a conflict ended. Nursing a grudge can lead to revenge. Consider the story of John the Baptist in Mark […]

Anger is a powerful emotion that needs to be controlled. If you struggle with anger, consider these steps to regain control. Admit that you are out of control. While anger is a normal emotion and not a sin, anger expression […]

The pain of a broken relationship is often difficult to heal. Years of hurt and resentment can feel too big to tackle. And the idea of embracing emotional pain without being able to control the other person means an uncertain […]

Revenge is an angry response to being treated in wrong ways, but it is not a godly response. Scripture tells us that revenge is the Lord’s and we need to leave it to him. Revenge doesn’t solve anything anyway. It […]

One of the keys to resolving conflict is to keep anger in control, to stay calm and not allow anger to overtake you. Here are 10 tips to help that process: Use humor to break the tension. Nothing lightens the […]

Fear is a warning system built into our bodies as a natural reaction to danger. It is healthy to feel fear in the face of danger. It acts like an alarm and prompts us to action. But when fear takes […]

In the same way a drug addict uses cocaine or an alcoholic downs booze, work can have an anesthetizing effect on negative emotions. People use work to escape and avoid unpleasant emotional states. But because hard work is so sanctioned […]

You’ve heard the saying, trust is easy to break, hard to repair. How do you go about building trust with someone you’ve hurt! The key is to know the other person’s world and reliably respond to it. Do what you […]

I was in the grocery store yesterday, and the tabloids were headlining the secret love child of yet another celebrity couple. Even though we tend to expect this sort of thing from celebrity relationships, secrets are a problem. They don’t […]

We all develop an insecure or secure bond with our original families. That bond is referred to as an attachment style. The more secure the bond, the better you will deal with conflict. Two bonding styles make conflict difficult–anxious and […]

Families are busy and when there is a little down time, kids usually grab their screens and engage in solo play. If they are on social media, they may have a number of “friends” but these are not deep friendships […]

WE NEED TO TALK! When you hear that phrase, what goes through your mind? Take the short quiz here and see how you deal with conflict. Now that you know your primary style, let me ask you a few more […]

Perhaps you’ve seen the movie Mean Girls. If so, you remember the popular clique of girls who ruled the social scene by backstabbing and being verbally mean to anyone they didn’t like. The movie reminds most of us of those one or […]

I was driving down the road the other day when a song played on my phone. It touched me and it will touch you. I encourage anyone who will be missing a special someone this holiday season to click on […]

It’s the most wonderful time of the year….well, not for everyone. Holidays can be difficult if you struggle with your mood and family issues. However, there are proactive ways to keep your spirit bright. 1) Don’t overspend. Avoid being caught […]

We’ve all experienced it at one time or another–a friend breaks trust, a husband cheats, a boss promotes someone else, etc. The challenge is to respond to betrayal in a way that honors God. What better example to learn from […]

It happens to all of us. Someone sends an email that upsets us and we react by firing off an angry response. This impulse to react usually leads to regret and ends up damaging our relationships. So how do we respond to hurt, […]

When our first dog died, we thought we wanted another. We did, but when we got the dog and our schedules all demanded more time, the dog became more of an imposition. Don’t get me wrong, we love her to […]

Happiness is a good thing, right? Yes and no. There is actually a down side to too much happiness. 1) Happy people tend to be less persuasive. When happy, you can overlook details. Unhappy people can focus more on the […]

If you missed it, actress Emma Watson, gave a moving speech to the UN last month. Her topic was on gender equality and her #heforshe campaign–a movement trying to raise the issues involved with gender equality. If you are not one […]

I can remember so many times when my kids would say to me, “I’m bored!” And they didn’t like my response, “That’s a good thing. Maybe you can listen to your thoughts or think creatively.” Truth is, most of us […]

One good thing that came out of Robin William’s death is that we are once again talking about depression. Depression can be a silent killer and still has a stigma despite the numbers of people who struggle with it in […]

I’ll never forget the day my five-year-old came home and said, “No one will play with ‘Sandy’ because she doesn’t do what they say!” I was upset and thankfully, my daughter thought it was mean. But the other girls excluded little […]

Turn off your TV and stop watching all the shows about betrayal, revenge and hurting people. And stop listening to all the cultural voices telling you that you aren’t good enough and need to improve. I’ve got a simple way you […]

With the rise of hookah bars, teens tend to think that this trend is a safer alternative to smoking cigarettes. This simply isn’t true. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention is warning us that smoking anything increases our risk […]

It is afternoon. You have a talk to give. When you enter the room and begin to set up, you notice people looking rather sleepy. In fact, as you scan the audience, some people are already nodding off. You think, “This […]

Do you have a secret? If so, you join more than 95% of people who do. Most of us keep one fact or piece of information about ourselves from others. One reason for this is that secrets often involve shame. […]

What happens if you tell yourself that nobody like me…When you have that negative thought that somehow you don’t matter? Nothing good! You experience loneliness, not to be confused with depression or aloneness. Being alone is not a bad thing. But […]

We know that when we feel negative towards someone, the relationship suffers and is difficult to turn around. So try these few ideas to think more positively. Some one I know does loving kindness meditations. She thinks about the good […]

You log on to Facebook, check the status of your 500 plus “friends” and post a few comments. You notice that several of your friends are feeling down this post holiday season and are talking about feeling lonely and depressed. […]

I don’t like to lose, but when you are a Chicago Bears fan like I am, losing is a regular thing. Oh, and let’s not forget the Cubs too! Everyone likes to win. But last night, during the football playoffs, […]

Millions of people feel depressed when they hear the words to that popular Christmas song: “It’s the most wonderful time of the year”. For many, the holidays are times of loss and loneliness. If you are lonely, it’s important to […]

Jackie and Mike felt like they were constantly battling over small things. Like them, most of us need a little help when it comes to dealing with conflict in our relationships. Here are 10 things NOT to do. They only […]

You walk in to a room full of co-workers and trip. Everyone stops what they are doing and stares at you for what seems like hours. You are embarrassed. Really, you just tripped through the door in front of your […]

Relationships are such an important part of our lives. How do you measure up in your partner relationship? Check your emotional intelligence here: Answer YES OR NO to each question. 1) When your partner does something that bothers you, do […]

This morning, I am on my way to the beautiful Mackinac Island to speak at a women’s conference all week. The air is brisk with smells of Fall. The leaves are turning stunning colors and the heat of summer seems […]

This month is anti-bully month and according to a new study, all this awareness of bullying may actually be making things worse! That’s right, schools with no programs have less bullying than those with the programs. Put up a poster […]

After clicking through a number of cable channels, I was stunned by the amount of profanity I heard during the family hours. We have this ongoing debate in our household. Do people really use the amount of profanity we hear […]

When Kim Kardashian decided to dye her hair blonde after the birth of her first child, my eye caught a survey about the differences between blondes and brunettes. All blonde jokes aside, Rose-Marie Jarvis of Goody hair conducted a survey […]

With all the bad news about hate speech, hurting people, murder and mayhem, use this 4 minutes to stop, reflect and care about those you encounter every day. Instead of selfishness, hate, anger and uncaring, let’s build love, support and […]

You are sick with the flu so you stay home so as not to infect anyone. But did you ever think your mental health could be contagious? Researchers at Nortre Dame discovered that thinking styles can be contagious. Your negative […]

Memorial Day usually means a day off, time to relax, barbecue, the beach and time with friends. But I hope on this Memorial Day you also take time to remember the significance of the day –honoring the people who have […]

The good news is that stress levels are down for most Americans. We must be doing something right when it comes to handling the opportunities to let stress get the best of us. But one group is not doing so […]

So you are at that dinner party and you feel like you are carrying the conversation. As a woman, it’s the most natural thing to be entertaining others through verbal sparring and lively conversation. Your husband comments on how much […]

The story of Notre Dame’s football player, Manti Te’o, is just bizarre. It’s like trying to figure out who dunnit in CLUE. If you haven’t heard, the short story is that Manti Te’o’s girlfriend was in a car accident and […]

Sportscaster, Brean Musburger, apologized for his comments about a football player’s girlfriend. During the Alabama/Notre Dame BCS National Championship Game, the camera found Miss Alabama, Katherine Webb, the girlfriend of the Alabama quarterback. Upon seeing her on camera, Musburger commented, ” […]

“Sure I’ll cook for the spaghetti dinner.” “Yes I can baby-sit your children for the day.” “Yes, I can chair another committee.” “Since no one else will volunteer, I guess I’ll do it.” Do you ever find yourself saying […]

Tonight is my high school reunion! I’m not going, but I wish I could. I live in another state that is not within driving distance. I just visited my family on Father’s Day and can’t afford the time to go […]

I’m giving it up to gospel singer, Yolanda Adams on the BET awards this past week. After being assaulted by foul mouthed talk and rap, Adams gracefully accepts her award and says, “We need all of y’all. I’m saying the […]

Ahhh,,, beautiful Carmel-by-the-Sea in California. Home of the well know Pebbles Beach Golf Club. City that boasts Clint Eastwood as its former mayor. Vistas that take your breath away and something else…. “Put on your high heels baby, cause we […]

Big news last week in Hollywood. Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes split after 5 years of marriage. Was I surprised? No, but it is still sad when a family breaks up and a child is caught in the middle. For […]

Jerry Sandusky was convicted of multiple counts of child abuse. But what about the victims who had to be so brave as to tell the story of their humiliation and victimization? Each one had to revisit the memory which could […]

John Edward’s girlfriend announced today on an interview with ABC’s George Stephanopoulis (Good Morning America) that she and Edwards split, they are no longer a couple. Interestingly, this announcement comes on the heels of her new book release. When George […]

It’s the end of June and I am already tired of political ads (Can we really endure five more months of these?). We need a distraction. Hollywood never lets me down when it comes to something meaningless to read. So […]

I love this story. I read it in the Wall Street Journal a few years ago. A reporter recalled a story that touched my heart. It went something like this. A mom was waiting for her daughter to return from […]

With the Jerry Sandusky case in the news, I heard a well-known radio commentator ask, “If these accusations are true, how could his wife not know what he was doing?” It’ a good question that people may wonder. If someone […]

It’s the beginning of summer, the last one until that teen heads for college in the fall. How can you use this time to prepare your son or daughter for what is coming? Begin now to talk about anticipated changes. […]

I’m often asked to give a few tips on how to make your relationship better. Here are five quick tips: 1) Turn off media and engage with your partner. Looking at the person instead of a screen sends a message–you […]

What if you went to your doctor’s appointment for your regular diabetes check up and did more than have your labs taken? Instead… A counselor talked to you about your support system at home and asked about other aspects of […]

I recently spent six days along the coast of San Diego, California hiking state parks, dining at cafes and shopping at boutiques and malls. What I noticed was that I didn’t have to move through a haze of cigarette smoke […]

Steven Tyler gets bleeped repeatedly on American Idol. Howard Stern, known for his use of profanity, is a judge on America’s Got Talent. I could make lists of people who are constantly bleeped on television due to their language. I […]

You are at dinner in a nice restaurant with your wife and you find yourself checking your email before the salad arrives. Or your family sits down to eat and people are looking at screens rather than each other.Or maybe […]

Happiness is a good thing, right? Sometimes, not so much! A Yale researcher compares too much happiness to too much food. When you overdo it, problems erupt! Too much happiness makes you a high risk taker. And with high risk […]

Could it be that depression is an obvious symptom of deeper problems within the physical body? Researchers are asking this question as they look at stress and depression in new ways. Long-term depression, it appears, changes chromosomes the same way […]

I write for a parenting magazine and this is a question I frequently get asked, “Is it normal for children to lie?” While the answer is YES, that doesn’t mean it’s OK to lie. It is not, and parents have […]

Alex’s mom is tired of Alex being bullied on the playground. One way to help Alex is to understand the profiles associated with bullies and victims. In 2010, the *APA published a study where researchers reviewed 153 studies on bullying […]

Since I finally had a chance to watch the panel meeting with Lady Gaga at Harvard University where she launched her foundation, Born This Way. Lady Gaga was very engaging, passionate about helping create better communities that embrace kindness, love […]

Mary’s son is autistic. She desperately wants to believe that the vaccinations her child received as a toddler triggered the disorder. Toddlers receive the MMR vaccine around the same time as autistic symptoms begin to be noticed by parents. Because of […]

Facebook has massive appeal. It allows us to stay in touch with friends, re-connect with people with whom we’ve lost contact, communicate with relatives, be aware of the needs of others and so much more that is good and healthy. […]

It’s hard to imagine what the family of nine-year-old Ryan Kennedy is going through these days. Ryan has a rare form of brain cancer that has required multiple surgeries, rounds of chemotherapy and radiation. Despite all the medical efforts, the […]

Awhile back, I sat down with Joyce Meyer on her TV show, Enjoying Everyday Life, to talk about how to embrace your body and make peace with it. Here is the You Tube interview, “You Are Beautiful Inside & Out, […]

In the past few weeks, I’ve been commenting on the way television shows handle temptation. Typically, what we see is the power of the temptation and no power to resist. So, from a Christian perspective, what works to overcome temptation? […]

My last blog on Grey’s Anatomy ended with the hope that the writer’s would work us through April’s sexual encounter with Jackson. I was particularly hopeful that she would move from feeling as if Jesus hated her for giving in […]

Last night, I was channel surfing on the television. I landed on a show that chronicled the last 24 hours of a death row inmate about to be executed. I couldn’t watch it to the end. The last hour was […]

Autism is a developmental brain disorder that cannot be medically diagnosed and treatment can be difficult. According to a 2008 CDC study, autism affects 1 in 88 children, a number that is up 78% since 2002. One of the many […]

In our sexually hyped culture, how does a man stay true to his family? The answers involves a little help from his biology! Testosterone is a major sex hormone and is responsible for sex drive and reproductive growth. It is […]

Yesterday I posted a blog about the growing trend of not going to church. Here are a few of the reasons I think people stay home: 1) Church people require us to practice what we believe. It is easier to […]

I was surprised to learn that just 21% of people who call themselves Christians are committed to a community of faith (Faith by George Barna). Even though the Apostles’ Creed affirms that we believe in the communion of saints, many […]

Spend a day watching TV, going to a movie, perusing the news and talking to your co-workers. How often does your faith become a part of the experience? If you are like me, not often. TV shows rarely, if ever, […]

Mandy is a typical teen, but has decided abstinence is the way to go. Why? Because she believes that having sex before marriage is morally wrong. She learned that in her youth group at church. Religion made a difference in […]

It isn’t always easy to figure out whether a teen is simply in the throws of adolescent moodiness or is depressed. We have to rely on observing changes in behavior and looking for symptoms that fit depression. Picking up on […]

It’s all over YouTube and it is scary. Kids playing a dangerous and sometimes deadly game called The Choking Game. Kids know the game by other names–the Scarf Game, Cloud Nine, Purple Dragon, Space Monkey, Fainting Game and more. If […]

Why is it that so many people are obsessed with weight and looking perfect? One reason has to do with the distraction beauty and weight loss serve in our lives. For example, it’s easier to obsess over an outfit than […]

I’ve treated a number of people caught up in pornography addiction. So when my friend and founder of the ministry, Music for the Soul, Steve Siler did a CD and DVD on this topic, I had to pass it on. […]

When a gunman opened fire and killed seven people and wounded three at a Christian college a week ago, the question was, “Why?” Why would anyone walk into a classroom and shoot people at point blank range? While we may […]

My friend, Steve Siler, founder of Music for the Soul, uses music and video to encourage, heal, and move people towards recovery and hope. Recently, a song from his CD Tell Me What You See was made into a DVD […]

As we approach this Easter season, Christians celebrate the events referenced in the Apostles Creed. This Good Friday, Jesus, the One conceived by the Holy Spirit, was crucified, but arose from the dead on that glorious Easter morning. This weekend […]

Ever feel like giving up? Discouragement comes easy sometimes. Our natural tendency is to feel defeated when things are tough. But Philippians 2:13-14 tells us that God works in us for His good pleasure, and that we are to do […]

Have you struggled with feeling down for a few years, maybe even since childhood? Something just isn’t quite right. You feel irritable, hopeless, lethargic and low in self-esteem. This was true of Robin. He didn’t realize he was depressed and […]

One of the biggest problems in our relationships is that so many of us believe we can change another person. Truth is, we can’t. But we can change our reaction to that person and then the relationship changes.This lie, […]

Self-sufficiency was considered a virtue in Greek culture. The Greek word for content, autarkes, means to be self-sufficient or independent. However, the Bible offers a different view of this concept than the Stoic philosophers of biblical days. The Stoics believed […]

I sat down with CBN news to discuss this latest trend –young girls looking on-line for self-esteem. In this 4 minute interview, I give tips on how parents can help given the damage this type of social media exposure can […]

My devotional reading this morning was quite challenging. It talked about responding to someone who accuses you. When a false accusation comes your way, the natural response is to lash out, come back with a real zinger, and put that […]

No one but you puts food in your mouth, so the idea that someone else can make you fat is a bit far fetched. But co-workers can tempt you and influence your eating. When treats abound at the workplace and […]

It’s a dangerous trend. Young girls post videos of themselves on You Tube or other social media and then ask people to rate them on this question– Am I pretty or not? I went to one You Tube and almost […]

Most of you know I am not a fan of children, teens and young adults spending long hours a day playing video games –especially the violent and sexually exploitative ones. We know from studies that playing violent video games changes […]

This week I have had the opportunity to practice what I consider one of the most difficult passages in the Bible. It is found in Matthew 5: 43-48 (NIV). Jesus tells us how to treat those who curse us –something […]

I was very challenged today by my devotional reading in Jesus Calling. The entry focused on how we approach problems when they arise. Our human tendency is to get upset. panic or worry, and become distrusting of God. We question […]

Now that we are well into the school year, kids everywhere are faced with the challenge of how to deal with bullies. Here’s a typical encounter: Your 5th grade son is playing soccer on the playground at recess. A 6th […]

Back in the 80s, marital therapists used to give angry couples nerf-like bats and tell them to go at each other. We also used to advise angry teens to hit their pillows or even purchase a punching bag and wail […]

Are you going through a difficult time, what we might call a storm in your life? It could be a health diagnosis, a failing relationship, difficulty at work, parenting problems, etc. We all have problems and issues that pop up […]

Parenting concerns about the role of social media in the lives of teens are real. We are all too familiar with the dark side of 0n-line problems –cyberbullying, stalking, invasion of privacy, child predators, etc. But are there any positive […]

Are you emotionally expressive but attracted to someone who seems to be very reluctant to share his emotional feelings? It may be the intrigue that has captured your attention. Or perhaps it is the challenge of opening up someone who […]

One of the things we know about attraction is that proximity can bring it on. So working day in and day out with a person often leads to feelings of attraction. You talk regularly, share problems, laugh and spend hours […]

This past week we lost an immense talent in the music business. Our prayers are with Whitney Houston’s family during this difficult time. Her death has caused me to think about the larger role the church plays in […]

You are worried. Is this addiction going to come between the two of you? Should you be looking for an accountability group? Why can’t she stop doing this? Please put down that IPAD and look at me! Sounds like someone […]

Do you have relationship, health, job or money worries? The women on Full Circle TV invited me to share thoughts from my book Letting Go of Worry. Watch the interview. It’s a bit longer than usual–about 14 minutes. Enjoy!

I finally made it back to the gym a few week’s ago and noticed how crowded it was getting to my machines. I also know that by February, most of those eager faces will never brighten the YMCA again. Yes, […]

As I hear people talk about how stressed they feel, I am concerned that we don’t over do it and collapse into a state of mess after all the celebration is over. Our reasons for stress are legitimate. There are […]

Yesterday I was asked to do a TV interview on Tim Tebow. This time the focus was positive. Tebow is very polarizing. People either love or hate him (see my blog on 10 reasons for Tim Tebow Hate). One of […]

Alec Baldwin embodies the entitlement mentality we see so prominently displayed among celebrities and others these days. His latest incident of being escorted off an American Airline flight for refusing to turn off his cell phone when asked, is another […]

Frat parties, binge drinking, one-night hook ups and lots of next day regret? Not for some young women. They’ve taken a stand against the party hardy norm and do not want to be the next hook up on their college […]

Personally, I have had to deal with a situation where someone was treated unfairly. There was no apology and no indication that the offense would ever be acknowledged. And confronting the offense was not a safe thing to do. So […]

Are you feeling stressed? Signs include craving food, irritability and even a racing heart. But reducing stress is easier than you think once you are intentional. Try these three easy tips: 1) Phone a friend. It not only works on […]

According to an August 2011 MTV poll, young people seem to have no problem using racist and sexist language on-line. Name-calling that would make parents cringe seems to be acceptable to teens and twenty-somethings when it takes place while texting […]

Today, I am at the E-Women conference in Lynchburg, Virginia. The event is sold out and Sarah Palin is headlining the conference. The women are here, ready to be inspired. As a marriage and family therapist, I love to talk […]

Before my 84-year-old mom died last year, she received a letter from the church she had been a member of for more than 60 years. The letter informed her that she no longer had voting privileges because of her lack of attendance […]

Another U.S. Open Grand Slam tennis tournament is over. What stands out in this year’s competition? Unfortunately, it’s not the incredible play of the Americans. It’s our leading lady, Serena Williams. Serena is an amazing athlete, I love to watch […]

I was deeply moved yesterday listening to the names of the victims from 911. I watched a number of anniversary specials and saw both resilience and heart break in families. My heart went out to those who are still stuck […]

I finally watched an episode of the Jersey Shore. Figured it was time I knew who Snooki and the Situation were since I have seen them all over the television screen handing out awards, dancing with stars and being interviewed. […]

The other day I was sitting in a medical office waiting for my routine mammogram. There was a small table next to me with reading materials on it. The first thing I noticed was that the office placed a Bible […]

During my usual channel surfing while on the elliptical at the Y, I happened across a segment on The View today. Whoopi Goldberg was talking about a passenger who was kicked off a flight for cursing. Apparently a Brooklyn man […]

There is a huge pile of college gear sitting on my living room floor. In two weeks, my daughter begins her freshman year. College is definitely on my mind which is why my eye caught an article in the Wall […]

Last night I had interesting conversation with friends at dinner. We were talking about a comment my pastor made on Sunday. He mentioned that Bible stories were not just in the Bible to record nice stories, but they were there […]

Sometimes, people do the right thing for the right reasons. Today was one of those days. My dryer has been acting up again. Because of the multiple repairs, I have an extended warranty. At least I thought I did. For […]

We all know how important it is to exercise. I get that and have written books (Lose It For Life) on the multiple benefits of exercise. But when the Y (it is no longer called the YMCA) completely revamped its […]

Grab a cup of coffee. Get comfortable and let’s do life together. We will tackle everyday issues that lead to good mental health. I bring years of clinical training and experience to our virtual table and will serve up tips […]

5 Nonverbal Behaviors to Influence OthersRobert is at an office party. He's been working hard and wants to win over his colleagues and make a good impression. He's wondering if there is anything he can do right now to win people over. Actually, there is, especially when it comes to ...

4 Strategies to Minimize Relationship ConflictFive years ago, there was no conflict. Renee and Jerry decided to have children. At the time, both felt it was best for Renee to stay home with the children while Jerry worked outside the home.
Recently, Renee was having a tough day, ...

Can You Think Away Chronic Pain?Susan's leg injury was healed more than two months ago, so why is she still having chronic pain? Her family thinks it is all in her head, but is it? Her doctor can't find a reason for the pain and questioned her about stress in her life. Susan ...

Abortive Body Parts Only About Politics?Like most of you, I was horrified to see the video of the Planned Parenthood women having wine and food while discussing abortive body parts for sale. The lack of a moral compass should outrage all of us, but yesterday, as I listened to ...

What Ben Carson's Single Mom Did RightDr. Ben Carson, renowned pediatric neurosurgeon and now presidential candidate, was raised in poverty to a single mom who lived in a tough neighborhood. Ben's mom worked two to three jobs in order to put food on the table. She didn't want to ...