When your kid misbehaves, do you give him a swat on the butt? Maybe a quick smack on the cheek? No big deal, right? Kids get out of hand and need to be put back in their place now and then — or so the conventional wisdom has long said.

Personally, I never understood the parenting theory that essentially teaches kids, “If you are bigger than someone else, you may hit them so they behave the way you want them to.”

At school, the attitude prevails. In 19 states, corporal punishment is still legal in schools, which means that if you don’t want your child paddled at school, reports Reuters, “It’s a good idea to send a letter to the school prior to the start of the school year telling them that you don’t want them using corporal punishment on your child.”

But if you live in Florida, tough noogies, because schools there can paddle children despite the parents’ objections.

Lisa Belkin of The Huffington Post believes there shouldn’t be a debate about spanking because “by definition, that would require two sides. I see only one.” She asks, “Is it okay to do something to your child that would land you in jail if you did it to a stranger on the street?”

And yet, half of us are reportedly spanking our kids. Some of them commented over at CBS News:

“There isn’t anything wrong with disciplining kids with a spanking or a slap. It’s kids that are given the wussy timeouts and treated like a parent’s equal that grow up with mental problems.”

“In moderation…corporal punishment is one of the best things that can happen to a kid.”

“I spank just enough for the child to begin crying real tears (I can tell the difference): no more, no less.”

So, you have to put kids in their place, right? You know, like men used to say about women.

One response to “Admit it: You Smack Your Kids”

Being spanked as a child was a humiliating experience for me, one I was not going to pass along to my children. I have spanked them once or twice out of anger and loss of control MYSELF. It is up to the parent to be mature enough not to lose it. You do what you have to do – go to the bedroom and close the door, punch a few pillows, go for a run, pull up weeds in the garden…whatever it takes to calm yourself. It’s the best thing you can do for your kids.