I hate the silent treatment.

Dh and I are in a fight. I've been upset for a few days and last night while we were sitting down away from the kids I told him why I was upset. He just sat there with a mad look on his face and said nothing. After a few minutes of realizing he wasn't going to talk back to me I went inside. He hasn't spoken a word to me since. He's been sitting on the couch in his pajamas all day. I have asked him a few questions. Told him breakfast was ready (which he didn't ear until I took am shower). And I've gotten maybe one word answers or none at all.

I'm just trying going to go about my day as normal but I feel myself just getting more pissed as the day goes on.

I can understand taking a break from a topic if it has become heated or something. Walking away to calm down and consider is a good thing to be able to do. Then you come back to it when you can discuss things calmly.

That's how Dh reacts. Then I never know why the hell he was mad. I still ...

Posted
11/26/2016

That's how Dh reacts. Then I never know why the hell he was mad. I still remember the weekend a few years ago. He completely ignored me. I never found out why, which pisses me off.

I couldn't handle that. I have to talk about what's bothering me and I need resolve.
Dh will occasionally ignore me when he's extremely frustrated but it's not for long periods. Usually 10-20 minutes and it's so that he can control his anger or emotions.

I guess it would depend why he's upset. DH needs space when he's upset but it's usually over huge issues, like money.

Ugh. Money.

A few times while we were dating I thought for sure he was breaking up with me. Then I figured out the pattern and was ok, I know how to handle this. Once I was able to point it out to him, he was better able to handle the issue.

Not really. We don't fight often. I'm upset by his drinking and how often he hangs out with his friends. He was also complaining about how he hates my work schedule to a mutual friend who then mentioned it to me. I work nights and he works days. I work on average 3 days a week but also work a lot of weekends. On Thanksgiving he sat out in the garage and drank all day/evening. Only coming in to eat. His brother and parents were there along with my whole family. I asked a few times if he planned to come in and he said no. There were a steasy stream of people in and out but he like never came in. Then he went to lunch with his buddies yesterday and then brought them home to the garage to watch the football game. When it was time for me to leave he was passed out on the couch and do I couldn't wake him.

Also there is a big parade this evening that our fire dept takes trucks in. I asked if he planned to take our son and he said no. That made me mad because he can find time take so do stuff with friends every weekend but can't take our kids who loves firetruck on a damn ride in the parade. I have to work. The reason he hates my schedule is because then he's home with the kids all weekend.

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