It seems every day with twins is a mix of trials and triumphs. Certainly the triumphs...the joy, the smiles, and the laughter...far outweigh the trials. And another thing that's for certain is that it's ALWAYS interesting.

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March 14, 2012

One Last Stronghold

As I have documented over the past six or so weeks, we have taken down the baby gate that used to separate the girls’ playroom (our den) from our open-floor-plan house.

[Perhaps I have documented this in such excruciating detail as it is pretty momentous in my little world!]

Mostly, things have gone very well. It’s SO nice to feel we’re all part of the same house…definitely a huge step in that warm-and-fuzzy “family” feeling.

In the spirit of full disclosure, though, I must confess that I am hanging on to one last stronghold…highchairs.

Yes, the girls are three years and two months old. Don’t judge.

The girls are fully capable of sitting in regular chairs; they’ve been doing so in restaurants for close to 9 months now.

But I’m just not ready to go there at home.

Our girls are very good eaters, and I definitely credit part of that to them being focused on the task of eating. I don’t force our girls to eat – there is no “clean plate policy” here – but I do require the girls to sit in their chairs during mealtime. Taking away the lure of playing allows us all to have a [relatively] relaxed meal together, and – I think – may encourage the girls to appreciate their mama’s cooking a little more fully.

And in the spirit of even fuller disclosure, I do sometimes take advantage of having them contained, even for a couple of minutes. As they’re finishing their snack, I might slip upstairs to put in my contacts in blessed peace. I also have the girls sit in their highchairs for messier crafts – namely glue and finger paint.

Still, I know our girls can’t sit in highchairs forever. I bought some booster seats last week – ones that don't even have a belt!

I’m still working up to take them out of the package.

My plan is to continue to use highchairs for breakfast and lunch, but allow the girls to sit in the booster seats when the four of us are at home together, usually for supper. And I anticipate being pretty strict, especially the first week or so. We’ll obviously have the highchairs available. If you play, you go back in your highchair.

Baby steps here. But I feel really confident that we’ll have them transitioned by Kindergarten.

11 comments:

I think if they are content to sit in their high chairs for a meal you probably don't need to force them out, unless they outgrow them physically. They are obviously capable of eating in regular chairs, and will do fine at kindergarten, so enjoy being able to walk away as long as you can.

I happily contain them for eating, for cooking (when they have lunch on the weekends, I cook) and for organising when I need to. This past weekend (the blue paint saga) my diningroom was a right mess so I organised the 4 drawers of my sideboard during one meal. I want to tackle the bottom section either on Friday or Saturday.

At daycare, they have transitioned to the little tables and chairs for snacks and lunch. I know my two can do it since I've seen them eat without running around. However, it's definitely one of those things they do at school but not for me. At home, it's up, down, up, down. I definitely use the high chairs and probably will until the trays just won't snap in place...hahaha!

You've made an important step just getting booster seats, and it sounds like you have a plan for transitioning them. I look forward to be inspired. Perhaps you'll convince me that a highchair-less dinner will one day be possible :-)

You know, I never had highchairs! We have the ones that attach to the dining room chairs and they are pretty amazing. They travel, come with trays, have separate food tray with lid (that I never used), and clean up ease. I didn't think we would still be using them but then I realized I bought a pub height dining set. So when my kids are 7 and still using their seats I'll think of you fondly!

Our high chairs go up to 50 pounds, so our girls just might be entering Kindergarten sitting in those suckers. Ha!

You know, I always tell myself, and other mamas this, "All our kids are going to go to Kindergarten potty trained, with no pacifiers, and they'll probably know how to tie their shoes----when and how that all happens is just details" :)

I only gave up the highchairs because my best friend and cousin both had babies at the same time... when the girls were two and a half. Until then, they regularly used them - especially pushed up to the bar in the kitchen. They were the perfect height.

They easily transitioned to boosters at the table - they don't try to escape, love feeling like part of the action, and always ask to be excused before leaving the table. I bet your little ladies will do great... whenever you decide to transition them. :)

After enjoying my SAHM status from the time my twin girls were born until they started kindergarten, I'm now back on the career path...and trying to keep perspective...I love spending time with my baby girls!!! :) :)