Terms Dictionary

A

Abrasion - (See also: Cutting ,
Knife
Play ) Dictionary term meaning a wearing, grinding, or rubbing away
by friction. In BDSM play this would See also stimulating the surface
of the body with abrasive materials such as rough silk, leather,
sandpaper, brushes, etc.

Age Play - Acting as
if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are.

Anal Beads - A set
of strung beads used to insert into the anus to stimulate the anal
nerves as foreplay or to cause orgasm.

Anal Play - This is
generally play where the anus may be penetrated with either beads, ice,
dildos, anal plugs, penis, or fist. Rimming the anus with a finger or
toys stimulates the nerves which can create a more intense orgasm.
Inserting and playing with one's prostrate gland (males) will cause
increased orgasm.

Anal Plug - (See
also: Dildo
, Vibrator
) A specially designed dildo for use in the anus that is shaped
in a way so that it will not "fall out". Most commonly inserted and left
in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for "ass training" to
stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in
their ass.

Animal Role
Playing - Games in which one or more partners, usually the bottom,
takes on the role of an animal. Most common is probably a dog, or puppy
boy / girl though horses are also popular. The 'animal' may imitate
animal behavior, wear items such as collars, leads, bridles and so on,
or carry out tasks associated with animal behavior.

Arm / Leg Sleeves
- Play which involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive in an
attempt to restrict mobility.

Aromas - (See also: Hot Oils )
Play which involves the use of certain aroma therapy to induce
relaxation. Also referred to as "poppers". In some instances these can
be volatile compounds whose vapors cause temporarily increased heart
and breathing rates, muscle relaxation, and a "rushing" feeling in the
head. These types of play are popular in the gay and rave scenes, and
often used in an S/m context. There are some dangers associated
with their use.

Asphyxiation - (See also Breath
Control , Choking )
Commonly referred to as "breath control". Refers to play involving
control of or restriction of air and / or oxygen to the brain. Any form
of stopping breathing freely including choking, smothering and hoods
with tubes, sacks, plastics, etc, is asphyxia. Sometimes used to cause a
more intense orgasm. Other examples would be strangling which is
compression of the neck or throat area to prevent oxygen to the brain;
suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to breathe;
hanging where the body is suspended by the neck (remember, all these
games are extremely dangerous , either alone or with a partner,
and may cause DEATH ).

Auctioned for
Charity - (See also: Competitions)
Involves play where the partner (usually the submissive) is
auctioned off to others for charitable purposes and or services to
another. This is illegal in many areas.

B

Ball Stretching -
Play which involves a type of penile constraint attached to weights in
order to provide a variety of sensations including discomfort and pain,
while stretching the testicles and scrotum.

Bathroom Use Control
- (See also: Catheterization
, Enemas
) Scenes where the Dominant restricts or takes control over the
submissive's bodily functions through the use of techniques such as
catheterization, enemas, diapers, rubber pants, and possibly golden
showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden
shower play.

Bestiality - Play which
incorporates the use of animals for sexual pleasure. Not to be confused
with animal role playing. This form of play can be very dangerous.

Beating - (See also: Spanking ,
Caning )
Striking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically
administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments.
For example, the Dominant may administer a "beating" to an unruly
submissive.

Being Serviced (sexually)
- Play which involves just that. The Dominant instructing the
submissive to do exactly how He / She wants the submissive to perform
sexually.

Biting - Scenes involving the
biting of the skin to induce pain. Safety Note: Although certain types
of nibbling/biting are quite safe, extreme biting causing
breaking/bleeding of the skin is not recommended and can be dangerous
if not carefully done.

Blindfolds - (See also: Full-Head
Hoods ) Play which involves temporarily blocking the submissive's
sense of sight. This type of play is essential when everyday objects
are used to give unexpected sensations. Blindfolds come in many forms
from the more expensive leather (full-head type) to the more inexpensive
handkerchiefs, scarves, bandages. Safety Note: Do not make the
blindfold too tight as to put pressure on the eyeballs. Although some
people take blindfolding in stride, it can have unpredictable
psychological effects and be extremely frightening for some people.

Breath Control - (See
also: Asphyxiation
, Choking
) Refers to play involving control of or restriction of air and /
or oxygen to the brain. Other examples would be strangling, which is
compression of the neck/throat area to prevent the flow of oxygen to the
brain. Suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to
breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck (remember, all
these games are dangerous to play, either alone or with a
partner).

Branding - (See also: Cutting ,
Knife
Play , Tattoo )
Making a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by burning it with
a hot metal object, as practiced on livestock. Seen by some as "body
art", this technique can be carried out safely; however, it is still
likely to be intensely painful. Can also use temporary tattoos or
markers. Used by Dominants to mark Their property. Not for the novice.

Boot Worship - (See
also: Foot
Worship , Homage ,
High Heels) The practice of play involving a fetish for boots /
shoes. Commonly used for Domination and humiliation practices (i.e.,
licking or cleaning of the Dominant's boots, shoes or bare feet).

Breast Whipping -
Whipping of the woman's / submissive's chest area using a variety of
items which include: floggers, whips, cat tails, paddles, for erotic
purposes.

Brown Showers (Scat) -
The practice of play involving a fetish for including human (or
animal) feces. Although this type of play can be safe if done
correctly, it is not recommended for those faint of heart!

Bruising - A condition which
may occur as a result of pinching or striking. Care should be taken to
avoid bruising.

C

Cages - Most common is the use
of a large animal cage. Construction of a cage can be of wood, steel,
fencing material. Used to confine the submissive, for play or
punishment.

Caning - (See also: Beating ,
Whipping
) Caning - Mostly made of bamboo, this whip is by far the most
painful. Care should be used, as the welts from caning are slow to rise,
and blood can be accidentally drawn if not in constant monitoring.
Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, and nowhere
else on the body. This can be very dangerous , and is not for the
novice.

Castration Fantasy -
(See also: Cutting ,
Knife
Play ) There has been much confusion as to the actual meaning of
this term. This refers to removal of the testicles; however, some
people use it for the removal of any/all sexual organs of either sex.
The removal of the testicles is sometimes referred to as Emasculation
and a man who has had his testicles removed is referred to as a eunuch.
This procedure causes permanent and significant changes to the body.
Castration fantasies are actually quite common among the heavy S/m
players and are played out in scenes involving cock and ball torture
(CBT), permanent and play piercing, and even genital shaving. However,
few people actually choose to make this fantasy a reality. It should
be noted here that this is a serious surgical procedure and not
something someone can teach themselves to do safely. This form of play
is very dangerous.

Catheterization - (See
also: Bathroom
Use Control , Enemas , Urethral
Play ) A flexible tube used in medical procedures generally
inserted into the area controlled by the bladder. This procedure is
most often used for "control" scenes.

Cattle Prod - An
electrical prodding device used to herd animals, more frequently for
cattle. Sometimes used in S/m play for "branding" or serious hardcore
pain play, and is considered dangerous play.

Cells or Closets -
Play which involves locking the submissive in a cell-type device and /
or closet. Usually as a form of punishment. Not recommended for
claustrophobics.

Chains - A strong metal type of
bondage material used in bondage scenes. Chains are less flexible and
potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material.
Note: Always make sure you observe metal bondage rules and choose a
chain and equipment that will withstand heavier strain.

Chamber-Pot Use -
Scenes involving the use of the toilet for humiliation and / or control.
Generally used for medical scenes.

Chastity Belt - (See
also: Enforced
Chastity ) In S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically
preventing one (male or female) from achieving orgasm or any form of
genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A
device (lockable ) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of
genital stimulation.

Chauffeuring - Requiring
one's submissive to "chauffeur" them around physically in vehicles or
other types of transportation.

Choking - (See also: Asphyxiation
, Breath
Control ) Compression of the carotid arteries in order to restrict
air or blood flow to the brain. This form of play is dangerous.

Chores (Domestic
Service) - (See also: Housework)
Scenes where the Dominant requires the submissive to perform chores and
/ or domestic service in either sexually pleasing clothing (i.e., maid
outfits) or naked.

Clothespins - (See also Nipple
Clamps) Small pinning devices used for hanging clothes. Generally
used in BDSM play as quite effective nipple clamps, testicle clamps,
etc. Great for the bargain BDSM player! Be sure the wood doesn't
become stuck to the skin while removing, as it will remove skin from
body.

Cock & Ball
Torture - any form of restraint or orgasm control to a male's
genitals. Can be used for play or punishment. Not for the novice, as
this can be dangerous.

Cock Ring - Rubber, metal,
or leather type ring used to strap around the base of the cock and balls
when soft. Increases blood flow to the genital area during self
stimulation and sex. When released, causes minor pain during recurring
blood flow.

Cock Worship - (See also:
Homage ,
Licking )
Play which involves the fantasy of worshiping the cock. Performed
mostly by the submissive to the Dominant. Scenes might include licking
and / or fellatio. Even some female Dominants may use strap-ons that
are worshiped by the submissive male or female.

Collar - A collar worn around
the neck to indicate one's submissiveness. These can be made of
leather, steel, rubber, rope. Used in scenes for humiliation and / or
examples such as dog / puppy or even boy / girl play.

Competitions (With Other
Subs) - (See also: Auctioned
for Charity ) Scenes involving competitive-type sports or play with
other submissives.

Corsets - A lingerie / binding
type device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller.
Worn by early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make
one's self more appealing to the opposite sex.

Cuffs - A leather or metal
bondage device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the
limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position.

Cutting - (See also: Abrasion ,
Branding
, Castration
Fantasy , Knife
Play ) Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally
a knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. To also create
decorative scars. The same basic precautions apply as with other
types of blood play. Remember to stay away from vital organ areas and
genital cutting. See also Abrasion, Branding, or Castration Fantasy.

D

Diapers - Waterproof panties
or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child-playing scenes. Also
used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions.

Dilation - The term used when
a woman's cervix is dilated (opened) to aid in childbirth. In BDSM play
dilation occurs when a speculum (pelvic exam device) is used to open
the cervix for medical scening. Safety Note: Care should be exercised
and previous study should be done, before attempting this play. This
form of play is dangerous

Dildo - (See also: Anal
Plug , Vibrator )
From the French term meaning "I please myself). A phallic-shaped
device designed for insertion into the body. Early versions were made of
stuffed animal gut, leather, or ceramics; however, today they are most
commonly crafted of molded latex. They may be hand-held, strapped on
with harnesses to allow women to wear, or permanently placed on other
devices to ensure stability during use. Hygiene demands that dildos not
be shared with others, or condoms be placed on dildos to prevent the
spread of STD's.

Dominant - The one in charge,
or the top who oversees and controls. A Dominant should be well versed
in many areas of sexual play for safety. The responsible One.

Double Penetration -
Play involving the penetration of two or more bodily orifices with
various types of devices and / or genitalia, (i.e., penetration of the
mouth / rectum / vagina, etc.)

E

Electricity - (See also: TENS
Unit , Violet
Wand ) Using electricity in BDSM play seems a scary notion to most
people, but it can easily be made safe provided two simple rules are
followed: a) only use devices powered by low-voltage batteries, and
certainly no main-powered appliances; and b) avoid placing any contacts
above the waist (including hands or arms), as even small currents to
the heart or brain can disrupt those organs' delicate electrical
activity with serious consequences. Popular devices include "TENS" units
designed for the relief of muscle and back pain; and "Violet Wands"
which use a radio frequency discharge, and can be used above the waist
provided the face is avoided. Any form of this play can be dangerous
.

Enemas - (See also: Bathroom
Use Control , Catheterization
) A thorough anal cleaning involving a water bottle and tube. Most
frequently used in medical scening although might also be used for
control scenes as well.

Enforced Chastity -
(See also: Chastity
Belt ) In BDSM / S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically
preventing one from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation.
A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable )
panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation. See
also "Chastity belt”

Examinations - Scenes
involving some type of physical examination (i.e. medical exams) where
the use of various types of equipment are used. Safety note: Genital
examinations should be done carefully, as serious consequences could
result if not performed carefully. This form of play can be dangerous.

Exercise - Play which
involves forcing one's submissive to exert physical exercise as a form
of control / humiliation (may include lifting, running, weight-lifting,
etc.).

Exhibitionism - Common
dictionary term meaning a perversion marked by a tendency to indecent
exposure; an act of such exposure; the act of practicing or behaving in
such a manner as to attract attention to oneself. Scening involving the
display of public / private exhibitionism in order to exert control and /
or humiliation. NOTE: In many countries, this form of play, is illegal
and will get you arrested if caught by law enforcement.

Eye Contact
Restrictions - Restricting one's submissive from any eye contact
with the Dominant (i.e., forcing submissive to look away / look down).
Similar to military boot camps. Control is enforced by the Dominant
by refusing eye contact.

F

Face Slapping - Involves
play where a moderate amount of slapping of the face is used for
humiliation / control. This play can be dangerous if an eye is
struck, etc.

Fantasy Abandonment
- Play which involves the fantasy of abandonment. Possibly leaving the
submissive in a deserted area or public area for a short period of time
to exert control and punishment.

Fantasy Rape - (See also:
Fantasy
Rape (Gang) ) Scenes where the Dominant fulfills a submissive's
fantasy of rape. Note: This type of play can become quite emotional for
the submissive, so use extreme care when performing this type of play.
After care is extremely important

Fantasy Rape (Gang)
- (See also: Fantasy
Rape ) Involves the same type of play with the exception of scene
being performed by a group.

Fear - Incorporating fear into
scenes by using the submissive's own fears as an outline for play. Note:
This type of play can become quite emotional for the submissive, so
take extreme care when performing this type of play, and aftercare is
important again

Fellatio - (See also: Head )
Performing oral sex on a man's penis.

Fisting (Anal / Vaginal) -
Play which involves placing or attempting to place the entire hand (or
even both hands) in the rectum / vagina. The hand is only formed into a
fist, and once fully inserted, requires an extreme gentleness, care, and
patience. Involves moving of the fist in and out of the orifice and can
be a dangerous technique if not performed correctly. Proper study
should be done, before attempting such, and after care is extremely
important. This form of play is dangerous.

Flame Play - Play which
involves the use of fire in scening. It should be noted here that using
any type of fire / flame during scening is quite dangerous and could
result in permanent scarring / burning of the body. Use extreme care
when using fire in scenes, as this is extremely dangerous and
not to be done by a novice.

Flogger - (See also: Strapping ,
Whipping
) A whip device usually with many "tails". Used on buttocks or
back, generally to make nerve sensations greater. Floggers can be used
on the genital areas. Can be used for play or punishment. This form of
play is not for the novice, and can be dangerous.

Flogging horse - A
device used to secure one on this bench-like, padded, sawhorse. Usually
made waist height, with the use of tethers attached to wall or floor to
secure the submissive. A well designed horse will allow open spread
usage of the submissive when mounted properly upon.

Food Play - Where the
Dominant controls amount and type of food allowed to be consumed by the
submissive. This includes liquid intake as well.

Force-Feeding - A
technique by which the Dominant controls the submissive's eating habits.
Used to "fatten up" submissives or in age play games.

Forced Homosexuality
- Scenes where the submissive is forced into having sexual relations
with someone of the same sex.

Forced
Heterosexuality - Play involving the submissive performing forced
sex with someone of the opposite sex.

Forced Masturbation
- Scenes where the submissive is forced to perform masturbation in
front of/for the Dominant or others as a form of erotic / sensual play
or humiliation.

Forced Nudity - A scene
which involves forcing one's submissive to remain nude either privately
or publicly. Generally as a form of control / humiliation. Note: In some
areas, this is illegal in public.

Forced Servitude - A
form of play involving the submissive acting as a servant / maid to the
Dominant. May be played out in public or in private as a form of
humiliation.

Forced Smoking -
Forcing the submissive to smoke (usually cigarettes); however, other
various types of smoking are used in heavy S/m play.

Full-Head Hoods - (See
also: Blindfolds
) A flexible covering for the head and sometimes neck. These come
in a variety of shapes, sizes, and textures. Worn to prevent the sense
of sight for erotic purposes.

G

Gags - To restrict the use of the
mouth by inserting a gag, in various textures (i.e., cloth, leather,
ball gag, etc.). When using gags, it is important to remember that these
only be worn for short periods of time. This form of play can be dangerous.

Gas Mask - A mask worn on the
face connected to a chemical air filter and used to protect the face
and lungs from toxic gases. Used mostly in heavy S/m scening.

Gates of Hell - A type
of cock ring worn around the base of the testicles and penis to restrict
blood flow to the penis during erotic scening. Specially designed, this
type of cock ring is usually made of metal and has several rings
attached together, ranging from the largest at the base and going
smaller toward the tip.

Genital Sex - To cause an
orgasm through the genital area, done strictly to the genital area with
any body part or through the use of toys.

Given Away - Where a
Dominant releases a sub to another Dominant, without exchange of favors.

Golden Shower - Play
which involves urinating on one's submissive or vice versa.

Gun Play - Scenes involving
the use of firearms. It should be noted here: Gun Play is a dangerous
form of play and should not be entered into lightly. Serious
consequences could occur from such play and it is not recommended, It is
also considered illegal.

H

Hairbrush Spanking -
Play which involves the use of a hairbrush to inflict pain on the
buttocks. Commonly used in "naughty boy / girl" scenes for punishment.

Hair Pulling - Pulling of
one's hair for the purpose of pain / humiliation. Used often in heavy
scening.

Hand Jobs - Using the hands
to perform sexual gratification on a man's penis. Stroking of the penis
to facilitate orgasm.

Harem - To have more than one
submissive in a scene or in daily life (i.e., the Dominant has a "harem"
of women / men). A common occurrence in the Mormon religion, and in
polyamorous relationships.

Harness - Bondage apparatus
consisting of a network of straps designed to form a web over a large
area of the body or head. Well-known leather body harness for wearing
around the upper torso. Harnesses can be constructed from a variety of
materials. Some harnesses built properly are used in suspension.

Head - (See also: Fellatio )
To perform oral sex on the man's penis for erotic pleasure to
facilitate orgasm.

High Heels - (See also: Boot
Worship , Foot
Worship ) Along with boots, these are the most fetished items
around. They combine the discomfort and pain of wearing them with the
damage they can inflict when used as weapons. Some scenes may involve
wearing, licking, cleaning, etc. See also "Boot worship”

Homage - (See also: Boot
Worship , Foot
Worship, Cock
Worship ) Term meaning to pay respects to; homage; honor. A ceremony
involving the submissive "honoring" the Dominant in some way - public
or private. Could also mean paying "homage" to the penis / vagina, feet,
breasts, etc., by worship.

Hot Oils - (See also: Aromas , Hot Wax )
The use of warmed oils for massaging or various other uses for erotic
type play. Be careful of oil temperature before applying to another's
skin, test on Your own forearm first. This form of play can be dangerous.

Hot Wax - (See also: Hot Oils ,
Waxing )
The process of using hot wax in scening. The wax most commonly used are
candles and can be used on various parts of the body for erotic
stimulation. Note: Some types of wax, beeswax for instance, have a
tendency to become extremely hot during burning and should always be
used carefully to prevent permanent burning / scarring of the skin.
Note: not for the novice, as this form of play is extremely dangerous.

Housework - (See also: Chores
(Domestic Service) ) Play involving the Dominant instructing the
submissive to perform domestic duties as a form of punishment / control.
Can sometimes also be used as erotic play (i.e., cleaning in the nude).

Humiliation - To humiliate
the submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would
not do, most commonly in public (i.e., wearing revealing clothing;
having sex in public; playing out puppy, boy / girl scenes, etc.).

Hypnotism - To place someone
in a trance-type state, and offer suggestions into certain types of
behavior. Safety note: This form of play is not for the novice.

I

Ice Play - ice used on
nipples or genital areas for desensitization of senses or nerves.

Immobilization - (See
also: Bondage
, Intricate
Japanese Rope Bondage , Mummification
, Shibari
) Any form of bondage technically immobilizes someone; however,
this term is usually used for extreme forms of bondage where the
submissive literally cannot move a muscle. Not recommended for long
periods of time, and can be dangerous.

Infantilism - Scening
where the submissive assumes the role of a child / infant and is treated
as such (i.e., diaper wearing, spankings, standing in corner, etc.).

Initiation Rites - A
*Term* meaning the rites, ceremonies, and / or ordeals by which an
individual is made a member of a house or society. Example: College
initiations ("hell week"). More commonly known as "beat-in" or "earning
letters", such as pain slut.

Injections - Term meaning
to "inject" the body with a substance (i.e., saline solution, insulin,
flu shots, drugs, etc.). Usually performed with a hypodermic needle.
Note: This is a very risky type of play and is NOT recommended. The
sharing of needles should never be done! Injections should be left to
those that have been properly trained or to health care professionals.
This form of play is dangerous , and is illegal in most
countries.

Intricate (Japanese)
Rope Bondage - (See also: Bondage ,
Immobilization
, Shibari
) A very complex form of bondage that is also quite beautiful to
not only see but witness being performed. The submissive is also bonded
in such a way as to allow easy access / removal of the device at any
time.

Interrogations - Term
meaning question, systematically and formally. Commonly performed in
"police interrogations"; police-type scening. Commonly used for
humiliation.

K

Kidnapping - Term meaning
to seize, detain, or carry away by unlawful force. Some players in the
BDSM scene have fantasies regarding kidnapping and may ask for a scene
involving some sort of "play kidnapping". This form of play requires
after care and is classified as illegal in many areas.

Kneeling - To be used as a
form of "respect" toward the Dominant. Making the submissive kneel when
the Dominant enters the room, during scening, in public, etc. A
punishment form of kneeling is where the submissive is kneeling in a
different position then for *offering* herself.

Knife Play - (See also: Abrasion ,
Branding
, Castration
Fantasy , Cutting )
Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally a
knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. To also create decorative
scars. The same basic precautions apply as with other types of blood
play. Remember to stay away from vital organ areas and genital cutting.

L

Leather - Material made from
the cured skin of animals. Wearing leather is a popular sexual fetish.
Leather, especially the wearing of black leather gives the wearer a
certain sense of power and is commonly worn in the BDSM scene by the
Dominant. Used for making floggers. whips, etc

M

Manacles / Irons -
(See also: Bondage )
Metal rings joined by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles.

Massage - Using the hands
(generally) to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to
"warm up" or "foreplay” before play.

Medical Scenes - Done
in a room equipped and fitted as a physicians or surgeons office.
This is a form of role play, where cavity exams, piercing, the use of
needles, scalpels,
equipment sounds are generally found. Not for the novice. Some forms
of this play is illegal, and can be dangerous.

Mentor - One who assists
another in study. Usually a well-versed Dominant helping a submissive
understand the lifestyle and their role in it. A Mentor guides another
to achieve knowledge, not a teacher.

Modeling - Usually used for
pictures, where one is placed in positions for best appearance.

Mouth Bits - A type of
mouthpiece, generally used on horses and ponies, that is inserted into
the mouth and is used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl /
boy play scenes.

Mummification - (See
also: Bondage
, Immobilization
, Sleep
Sack ) A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body,
including the head, if a breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly to
prevent any type of mobilization. Common types of materials are saran
wrap, gaffa tape, or cloth or latex bandages. Holes are then sometimes
made to allow access to the genital area. This form of play is dangerous
, and should always have extra help around in case of an emergency.

N

Nipple Clamps - (See
also: Clothespins
) Clamp-type devices placed on the nipples during play to stimulate
and stop blood flow to the nipple. One of the general household
items to be used are clothespins. Care should be exercised to be sure
the material used in clamp, does not stick to the skin, as tearing can
occur.

Nipple Rings - A ring
that is worn through the nipple. Piercing of the nipple and inserting a
ring, similar to nose piercing. This type of piercing stimulates the
nipple. Should be done by a professional.

O

Orgasm - Intense excitement
resulting in an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the
height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation
of semen by the male and by vaginal contractions in the woman.

Orgasm Control - When
one is forced to release or hold their body's desires to orgasm. Can be
used in play or punishment.

Outdoor Scenes - Scenes
involving the great outdoors! Any scene where the couple is outside
during scening. Some activities are illegal.

P

Pain - In broad terms, pain is
the body's warning that something is wrong; however, our pain responses
are very complex and it is very easy to produce the effect of pain
without doing any real harm to the body. The "pain threshold" at
which a stimulus crosses the boundary between intense sensation and pain
is a gray area in terms of our perception. BDSM is associated in most
people's minds with potentially painful activities, sometimes referred
to as "pain games". It is true; however, that some people actually enjoy
or at least get some satisfaction out of the intense physical
sensation. Some of the satisfaction may be attributed to the release of
body chemicals also known as "endorphins". Most player's interests are a
mixture of physical aspects and the psychological dynamics of
Domination and submission, and some play with hardly any physical pain
at all. Those for whom the interest in pain is predominant are sometimes
referred to sadists and masochists rather than Dominants and
submissives. After care is needed, and monitoring the one receiving
pain, is mandatory. Not for the novice for play.

Parachute - Round leather
device which is fitted between the scrotum and the base of the
penis with chains for weights to be added. This is a form of play, or
punishment.

Phone Sex - Play which
involves having simulated "sex" over the telephone. Some phone companies
deem this illegal.

Piercing - Piercing of the
body with a thin sharp object such as a needle. There are two types of
play, permanent and temporary. Permanent piercing is done with a
thicker needle which enables jewelry to be easily inserted. Temporary
piercing is done with a smaller, thinner needle which can be removed
without permanent scarring after the session is completed. (i.e., nipple
piercing, ear piercing, genital piercing). Mostly done to enhance the
sensual areas of the skin. Piercing should be done be a professional.

Pony - A device used directly on
genitals for punishment. The person's body weight, plus additional
weight is placed directly on the pony which distributes pain to a very
area. This is extremely dangerous as permanent damage may result. Not
for the novice.

Pony gear - This type of
gear includes hoods, bits for mouth, bridles, straps, harnesses, saddles
and anal plug tails. Some use hoof shoes as well. These are used to
"train” a submissive to be used for work, as a pony. This can be very
dangerous as joints, limbs or back maybe damaged. Not for the novice.

Pony Slave - Scenes
involving the submissive being dressed or made up as to portray a
"pony". Scenes might include mouth bits, harnesses, saddles, riding
crops, etc. Note: Riding your pony can cause serious damage to their
backs, hips, joints.

Prison Scening - Acting
out a scene involving some type of prison scene. The use of a *cell* is
for punishment and humiliation.

Prostitution - The
selling of one's body for sexual purposes (i.e., selling sex or sexual
favors). This form of play is illegal in many areas.

Public Exposure - Play
which involves exposing oneself in public (i.e., flashing). Used for
control / humiliation purposes.

Punishment - Scenes where
the Dominant "punishes" the submissive for "bad or unruly" behavior.
Often performed in little boy / girl scenes which may involve spankings,
time-outs, etc.

R

Rack - A table-like device which
is fitted with pulling or stretching capabilities. Some racks
incorporate pulleys, winches or wheels for pulling one in opposing
directions. Paddles or whips are generally used on the person on a rack.

Religious Scene - A
form of play where the submissive is usually dressed in nun's or
clerical attire.

Riding Crop - A short
whip-type instrument made of leather with a "loop" at the end which is
intended for use on horses. May be used in scenes involving pony boy /
girl type play. Riding crops are used to administer punishment, as well.

Rimming - (See also: Anal
Play ) Mouth contact with the rectal area, which includes insertion
of the tongue. Note : Hygiene precautions should be observed with
this type of play. This play can spread disease.

Rope bondage - There are
many styles of rope work from simple to very intricate. study of knots
is important to anyone wishing to attempt this play. This form of play
can be very dangerous if blood flow is disrupted. Not for the novice.

Rubber / Latex Clothing - (See
also: Spandex
) Besides leather, this type of clothing is the next best thing.
One example may be a rubber hood. Some bondage items are made out of
latex sheeting, and as with leather, black seems to be the most popular
color by far.

S

Saint Andrews Cross -
This is a cross made in an X formation. It is generally angled and
self-supporting. Some are suspended from ceilings, or mounted directly
to a wall. The cross has leather restraints for arms, legs and body,
Some have hooks along the edges for a person to be "laced” to the cross.
Used for sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached
to the cross.

Saran Wrap - (See also: Mummification
) Plastic wrapping used most commonly to wrap leftover food. In
BDSM play, used most likely in "bondage" scenes. This form of play can
be dangerous.

Scratching - Scratching the
body with the fingernails or another instrument for mild pain. Note:
Safety precautions should be observed as deep scratching may lead
to bleeding of the skin. Care should be exercised in preventing
infection.

Sensory Deprivation
- Play which involves "depriving" the submissive of certain sensory
perceptions. May include blindfolds, bondage, gags, etc.

Shaving - Using a razor or
straight blade to shave hair from the body. Note: Shaving of the
genital area should be done with extreme care.

Slave - A totally subordinate
person who needs total direction in all aspects of their life. To be
owned, to serve, without question, and who questions nothing they are
told.

Sleep Sack - (See also: Mummification
) Refers to a bag in which the body is wrapped in a sleeping bag
type contraption with ropes or straps. An intense form of "bondage".
This form of play can be dangerous .

Slings - Slings are made in many
designs and shapes, but their use is to open access to the genitalia
for play or punishment. This form of suspension causes fatigue rather
quickly, so after-care should be taken as well as care during such use.
Not for the novice.

Spandex - (See also: Rubber /
Latex Clothing ) A form-fitting, stretchy type material that clings
to the body (i.e., most women's pantyhose are made of spandex). When
worn can be quite comfortable and look extremely sexy when worn on
"tight bodies".

Spanking - (See also: Beating )
involves striking someone with the palm of the hand or other object
(i.e., paddle, hairbrush, pig slapper, riding crop, etc.) on the
buttocks as a form of punishment / humiliation. Mild spanking can be
very erotic and when done correctly can push the submissive into
"subspace" releasing endorphins which in turn creates a sense of
euphoria.

Speculum - A medical
instrument intended for the use of medical examination of the vagina or
rectum, made of steel or plastic in the shape of a duckbill. The
speculum is lubricated and inserted. After insertion, the "bill" is
spread apart to open the cervix in the vagina. In BDSM play, commonly
used in medical scening. This form of play can be dangerous . Not
for the novice.

Stocks - A type of bondage
"furniture" based on the medieval form of stocks used for punishment.
Stocks usually consist of two hinged pieces of wood with semi-circular
holes which when locked together form a ring large enough for the head /
neck and wrists to be placed inside.

Straight Jacket - (See
also: Bondage
) A jacket type of garment meant to be worn "backwards", consisting
of close-ended sleeves that are strapped crisscrossed around the back
and tied or locked in place (i.e., Houdini used this garment to escape
from frequently).

Strap-On - A fastening type
strap most commonly used to hold a dildo in place. Commonly used in
lesbian scening.

Strapping - (See also: Flogger ,
Whipping
) A length of material, most commonly leather, used for striking
the body.

Stretchers - Generally made
of wooden dowel rods or metal tubing, having eyelets to secure a
submissive's arms, legs apart for play. These are very portable, to use
anywhere. Stretchers come in various lengths, usually 24 inches to 48
inches.

Subspace - A mental altered
state in which a person can be taken to. Space is a form of hypnotism
that can be self attained, or a Dominant can aid to obtain. Subspace is
used for sexual pleasure, and can be utilized to convert pain to
pleasure. After care is mandatory, as is constant monitoring. Not for
the novice.

Submissive - One who gives
freely of themselves for the pleasures of another. A subordinate with
negotiated limits.

Suspension - An advanced form of
bondage in which the whole body is "suspended" off the ground and
hanging "free in space". Note: not for the novice, use of
properly designed equipment is advised.

Switch - One who "switches"
between Dominant / submissive roles, i.e. from scene-to-scene or within a
scene. Some switches may submit to one Dominant, and dominate others,
etc.

T

Table Play - A padded
table, where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many
securing points to offer different positions for play or examination.
Tables can be used as racks if outfitted accordingly.

Tampon Training -
Tampons inserted into the rectum, used as an anal plug, for play or
punishment.

Tattoo - (See also: Branding )
A permanent form of scarring to the body in the form of various types
of pictures or drawings or names, etc. A permanent form of "marking the
submissive" as property.

Teasing - The act of "teasing"
to enhance erotic play or pleasure. Teasing the partner in such a way
as to stimulate sexual pleasure.

TENS Unit - (See also: Electricity
, Violet
Wand ) Term meaning Transcutaneous Electrical Neural Stimulation
unit. A machine designed to apply electrical impulses to the body at
safe levels. Note: As with any type of electrical play ,
safety precautions should be observed.

Thigh Cuffs - (See also: Cuffs ) A
simple belt around the waist with connectors around it to restrict the
submissive's movement of arms and legs.

Ticklers - These are 16 to 18
inch rods with a tiny *flogger* attached on the end. Great for small
areas where precision impacts are desired. Other ticklers include
feathers, sandpaper, etc.

Tickling - Tickling the body
to induce laughter. Often used in age play scenes.

Trainer - A Dominant who helps
submissives understand the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. Study and
play sessions are the normal negotiations.

Triple Penetration -
Penetration of the body in three bodily orifices. Example: Insertion of
the penis, dildo, butt plug in a female submissive all at once to
enhance sexual stimulation.

U

Uniform - Play which involves
the submissive wearing a uniform. Such uniforms could include
cheerleader uniform, maid uniform, etc. Commonly used in role-playing
scenes.

Urethral Play - (See
also: Catheterization
) Play involving the urethra, the tube that runs between the
bladder and the outside of the body. In men, it emerges at the end of
the penis, and in women, just inside the vagina. With the exception
of the very end, this tube is sterile, and anything inserted deeper than
a few millimeters should be sterile as well. Note: Serious
damage can occur by inserting inappropriate devices, using excessive
force, or by bad technique. This form of play can be dangerous .
Not for the novice.

V

Vibrator - (See also: Anal
plug , Dildo
) A dildo type device made in varying shapes and sizes and powered
by either battery or plug-in electrical type. Used as a form of genital
stimulation most commonly for women to promote orgasm.

Violet Wand - (See also: Electricity
, TENS
Unit ) A device used commonly in electrical type play which
discharges radio energy when, which touched to the body produces
electrical sparks. The sensation is similar to "static electricity" charges. Violet wands are similar to the "plasma globes" sold as novelty lighting, but impart more sensation.

Videos - Pre-recorded movies of
a sexual nature. Can be watching others or being recorded.

Voyeurism - Term meaning the
act of watching, peeping. In BDSM play, means to watch someone engage
in sex or other forms of sensual / erotic play.

W

Water Torture - A form
of "torture" involving water. After care is extremely important.
Example: Laying the submissive face up while dripping water on the
forehead for extended periods of time. Derived from the Chinese (i.e.,
Chinese Water Torture).

Waxing - (See also: Hot Wax )
Using warmed wax as a form of erotic sensation. Common areas of waxing
are the buttocks, breast area, back, etc. The process of using hot wax
in scening. The wax most commonly used are candles. Note: Some
types of wax, beeswax for instance, have a tendency to become extremely
hot during burning and should always be done carefully to prevent
permanent burning/scarring of the skin.

Weights - Used to extend or
pull, by pressure. Vaginal weights used on labia, for example, pull the
labia to stretch, for play or punishment depending on the amount of
weight used.

Whipping - (See also: Caning , Flogger ,
Strapping
) A device consisting of a long, flexible striking surface.
Whipping the body with a whip type device as a form of punishment.

Whipping Post - Designs
vary according to builder, but the principle is to have a tall post with
tethers that hang down, to attach a person from their wrists. Used for
positioning a submissive for ease of whipping. Some Dominants use the
"whipping post” for punishment only, and never for play.