Feb 22 You don’t know Victoria….

One of my favorite lines from Sleepless in Seattle. Tom Hanks’ character is inquisitive and while dealing with an enormous trauma, still finds the good in people.

She tosses her hair a lot, why does she do this?

Often in our contexts and situations – I would say even daily – we see someone do something and wonder why? Why are they doing this? Why did PM Netanyahu go to Paris? Why DIDN’T President Obama?

Is it a twitch, does she need a haircut, does she need a barrette to keep her hair out of her eyes?

And then we start to find our own reasons why a person may do this thing…WE reason. WE wonder. But we don’t ask. He believes in unity. He doesn’t believe in freedom. He’s a socialist. He’s looking for publicity.

These are things I’m willing to get to the bottom of

We don’t often take the time or the energy to ask. TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF something takes an interest, and an investment of our lives into the lives of others. And it may not be easy and it may be messy.

And so that’s why I’m DATING her. I’m not MARRYING her, can you understand the difference?

And here comes the clincher. I’m investigating. It doesn’t mean I agree or disagree. But I’m giving the person I’m wondering about a voice. I’m asking them. I’m waiting for the answer. That doesn’t mean I’m one of them. It doesn’t mean I’ve joined them.

But so often, people make assumptions. We make assumptions about divorces in the news. We make assumptions as to why that man there is fat. We make assumptions about a reporter and why they’re asking questions. We make assumptions too often.