I am size 16/18 and at my biggest I was a size 24. I have also had 3 children. The constant weight gain and loss has left me with excess skin particularly in the tummy area. I feel I have curves in the 'right's places but this extra apron of skin hanging over my intimate area effects my confidence greatly! My OH says it's not that bad but it's all I see. No amount of excercise will tone it up either, I have tried! I want to try clubs but I am worried that I will disgust people with my 'gunt' 🙈 I think I am relatively ok looks wise but fear this will not provide enough distraction. Btw my profile pic is very flattering I don't really look like that, not stood up anyway!

Hi. On this subject, me and hubby are going to our first club soon, but I’m not comfortable performing oral on a male without a condom... from a germ point of view...I’ve seen most people don’t bother for oral (from what I can gather online). Is this preference going to be a problem for us while we’re there do you think??

Hi. On this subject, me and hubby are going to our first club soon, but I’m not comfortable performing oral on a male without a condom... from a germ point of view...I’ve seen most people don’t bother for oral (from what I can gather online). Is this preference going to be a problem for us while we’re there do you think??

If you discuss your boundries with the people you meet it shouldn't be a problem.

Some guys will allow you to wear a condom, some will say you don't need to give oral on them.

For me, it depends who the person is, sometimes I don't bother with condoms, but I go and get regularly checked at the GUM clinic and make sure I have the throat swabs every 6-8 weeks.

Morethanamummy, like you, I don't do unprotected oral. No one's complained ;) although some questioned it - not in a pushy way, just out of curiosity. For me I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy it if it were unprotected sex of any kind so that's what I say. It's fine. Everyone's got their own boundaries and as long as you are clear and upfront about it you'll be fine.