Basically it means withdrawing your attention (ignoring) when the person isn't doing what/acting how you want.

The classical application is when you're in bed making out and the chick "doesn't know" if she wants to fuck you or not. If you freeze her out (like rollover and read a book or something) she'll think "omg, he withdrew his attention, this sucks!" and she will probably re-initiate and be willing to fuck you to keep your attention (cuz girls like validation).

Basically it means withdrawing your attention (ignoring) when the person isn't doing what/acting how you want.

The classical application is when you're in bed making out and the chick "doesn't know" if she wants to fuck you or not. If you freeze her out (like rollover and read a book or something) she'll think "omg, he withdrew his attention, this sucks!" and she will probably re-initiate and be willing to fuck you to keep your attention (cuz girls like validation).

I think that's how it works. Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

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depends on the girl / the guy / and the dynamic of their relationship IMO

freezeouts cant ALWAYS be bad since there is pretty much exceptions to every rule

i can see its place in the beginning of a relationship for certain situations, but once you are in a committed relationship, it seems like you should be talking to your SO about whats going on instead of being a child and ignoring the problem hoping it fixes itself

i can see its place in the beginning of a relationship for certain situations, but once you are in a committed relationship, it seems like you should be talking to your SO about whats going on instead of being a child and ignoring the problem hoping it fixes itself

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it depends on the parties involved and what the problem is IMO but if both parties are mature and of sound logical and emotional reasoning then most of the time it can be discussed...

What about the "I need time to gather my thoughts" excuse for the freeze out?

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That is sooooo different than what you're describing. A 'freeze out' according to how you defined it, is withdrawing attention to specifically gain something.

"Cooling off" is a legit thing at times when someone needs to collect their thoughts, or cool off enough to have a rational & calm conversation as opposed to a blowout. They are very distinct in terms of their end goals, and thus very different.

And, to the original topic, my answer is "no." I had an ex that did that, we dated for 3 1/2 years, and now there is practically nothing I hate more. It was sooooooooo counterproductive/detrimental to our relationship. Maybe in the short-term, or when we had only been dating within the first year, it worked... more because it was a mindfuck for me. He took it to the extreme though, I'm imaging much like xapium was describing. Example: I bumped his car door shut with my hip because my hands were full, obviously gave it too much force on accident, slammed REALLY hard, he thought I "did it on purpose" or some stupid shit like that, and wouldn't talk to me for two days

But, in the long-run it led me to not even giving a shit anymore. It would just be like, "Oh, here we go again you little fucking child " and was not only a turn-off, but ultimately one of the main reasons we broke up. It went from the first few times he did it me being like "omg noooo " and feeling all crazy, to literally... it didn't even affect me at all. Well, it affected me in making me think he was a emotionally stunted freaking child

In retrospect, I can't even believe I put up with that shit But hey, I was young and stupid lol. Glad I got that relationship out of the way, I learned a LOT. Much of which what I WON'T put up with in relationships, which in my opinion is equally if not more important than what you need/want in one.

Seriously, if someone did that to me now, I would recognize it instantly, and absolutely NOT put up with it. If it was someone I was newly dating, I'd very likely be 100% done with them right then and there.

I'm not a dog that needs to be trained or manipulated with conditioning, nor will I be treated like a child.